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Evolve Ventures
#403 | The Truth About Motivation Nobody Likes to Talk About

Evolve Ventures

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2025 35:05


Send us a textIn this episode of Evolve Ventures, we challenge the belief that you need to “feel ready” before taking action. Through honest personal stories and powerful psychological insights, we explore what truly drives change and why waiting for motivation might be what's holding you back. You'll learn how momentum begins, how your brain miscalculates risk, and a simple framework to help you take action, even when it's hard.Here's the episode related to today's discussion and why we highly recommend listening to it as well:#373 | How to Tell if You're Dissociating - https://apple.co/3H5JNaH #331 | Are You Emotionally Immature? - https://apple.co/42Zshw3Out of the Mud (OOTM): "The Skills for Being a Great Partner" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/-tSEztgpRHaPogd-Z2Xbbg#/registrationLearn more about the On-Demand Therapy - #YouDoYou Program: https://evolveventurestech.com/therapy/_________________Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech  (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemiliaBianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/Bianca's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1   Connect with Emilia & Bianca from Evolve Ventures for FREE:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect?month=2025-04Show notes:(1:42) Bianca's story: The wake-up moment(4:41) The real reason we stay stuck(6:39) Motivation follows action, not feelings(9:06) The dopamine myth explained(11:52) The four keys to real change(14:19) Post-traumatic growth and self-belief(19:52) How your brain miscalculates risk(23:08) Neurodivergence and motivation(27:34) A simple framework to build momentum(30:01) How to get support and take action(32:56) Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt as though the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)

Machine Learning Street Talk
Prof. Randall Balestriero - LLMs without pretraining and SSL

Machine Learning Street Talk

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 34:30


Randall Balestriero joins the show to discuss some counterintuitive findings in AI. He shares research showing that huge language models, even when started from scratch (randomly initialized) without massive pre-training, can learn specific tasks like sentiment analysis surprisingly well, train stably, and avoid severe overfitting, sometimes matching the performance of costly pre-trained models. This raises questions about when giant pre-training efforts are truly worth it.He also talks about how self-supervised learning (where models learn from data structure itself) and traditional supervised learning (using labeled data) are fundamentally similar, allowing researchers to apply decades of supervised learning theory to improve newer self-supervised methods.Finally, Randall touches on fairness in AI models used for Earth data (like climate prediction), revealing that these models can be biased, performing poorly in specific locations like islands or coastlines even if they seem accurate overall, which has important implications for policy decisions based on this data.SPONSOR MESSAGES:***Tufa AI Labs is a brand new research lab in Zurich started by Benjamin Crouzier focussed on o-series style reasoning and AGI. They are hiring a Chief Engineer and ML engineers. Events in Zurich. Goto https://tufalabs.ai/***TRANSCRIPT + SHOWNOTES:https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/n7yev71nsjso71jyjz1fy/RANDALLNEURIPS.pdf?rlkey=0dn4injp1sc4ts8njwf3wfmxv&dl=0TOC:1. Model Training Efficiency and Scale [00:00:00] 1.1 Training Stability of Large Models on Small Datasets [00:04:09] 1.2 Pre-training vs Random Initialization Performance Comparison [00:07:58] 1.3 Task-Specific Models vs General LLMs Efficiency2. Learning Paradigms and Data Distribution [00:10:35] 2.1 Fair Language Model Paradox and Token Frequency Issues [00:12:02] 2.2 Pre-training vs Single-task Learning Spectrum [00:16:04] 2.3 Theoretical Equivalence of Supervised and Self-supervised Learning [00:19:40] 2.4 Self-Supervised Learning and Supervised Learning Relationships [00:21:25] 2.5 SSL Objectives and Heavy-tailed Data Distribution Challenges3. Geographic Representation in ML Systems [00:25:20] 3.1 Geographic Bias in Earth Data Models and Neural Representations [00:28:10] 3.2 Mathematical Limitations and Model Improvements [00:30:24] 3.3 Data Quality and Geographic Bias in ML DatasetsREFS:[00:01:40] Research on training large language models from scratch on small datasets, Randall Balestriero et al.https://openreview.net/forum?id=wYGBWOjq1Q[00:10:35] The Fair Language Model Paradox (2024), Andrea Pinto, Tomer Galanti, Randall Balestrierohttps://arxiv.org/abs/2410.11985[00:12:20] Muppet: Massive Multi-task Representations with Pre-Finetuning (2021), Armen Aghajanyan et al.https://arxiv.org/abs/2101.11038[00:14:30] Dissociating language and thought in large language models (2023), Kyle Mahowald et al.https://arxiv.org/abs/2301.06627[00:16:05] The Birth of Self-Supervised Learning: A Supervised Theory, Randall Balestriero et al.https://openreview.net/forum?id=NhYAjAAdQT[00:21:25] VICReg: Variance-Invariance-Covariance Regularization for Self-Supervised Learning, Adrien Bardes, Jean Ponce, Yann LeCunhttps://arxiv.org/abs/2105.04906[00:25:20] No Location Left Behind: Measuring and Improving the Fairness of Implicit Representations for Earth Data (2025), Daniel Cai, Randall Balestriero, et al.https://arxiv.org/abs/2502.06831[00:33:45] Mark Ibrahim et al.'s work on geographic bias in computer vision datasets, Mark Ibrahimhttps://arxiv.org/pdf/2304.12210

Evolve Ventures
#373 | How to Tell if You're Dissociating

Evolve Ventures

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2025 26:02


Send us a textIn today's episode of Evolve Ventures, we explore dissociation, its causes, and how to recognize it in one's life. We use real-life examples—such as a client's struggle with daydreaming to escape painful emotions—to show how dissociation often develops as a coping mechanism in response to overwhelming feelings or trauma. We also share simple grounding techniques and practical ways to reconnect with oneself to regain control and be more present in one's life.Here's the list of episodes related to today's discussion and why we highly recommend listening to them as well:#296 | How to Be More In Control of Your Feelings - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/296-how-to-be-more-in-control-of-your-feelings/id1511831621?i=1000655765112 #366 | What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up - https://apple.co/4gwQrD8Evolve Article: https://bit.ly/3EuZ181Out of the Mud (OOTM): How to Be a High-Value Person: https://bit.ly/4hgqNUfLearn more about the On-Demand Therapy - #YouDoYou Program: https://evolveventurestech.com/therapy/_________________Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech  (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemiliaBianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/Bianca's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1   Connect with Emilia & Bianca from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://bit.ly/3THiEN4Show notes:(2:29) Dissociation and daydreaming(6:42) Forms of dissociation in everyday life(8:53) Why dissociation happens – an attempt to escape emotions(11:42) Busyness and forgetfulness(15:59) Tools to recognize and manage dissociation(19:37) Grounding techniques to stay present(23:30) Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt as though the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)

The Nicnacjak Podcast & FSRideAlong Series
Nicnac Podcast SEason 17 Ep 1 Dissociating My Life Away

The Nicnacjak Podcast & FSRideAlong Series

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2024 24:54


In this episode Nicnac attempts to explain their podfade while trying to tackle Season 17 with as much vigor as they can muster. If you would like to support their work please rate the podcast in your favorite podcatcher, lave a review or check out their Patreon 

This Might Get Weird
TMGW #314: Grace and Mamrie Go Dissociating

This Might Get Weird

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2024 59:08


This Week Grace and Mamrie discuss Google Alerts, social media commentary culture, drones in New Jersey, ChatGPT zodiac charts and fart walks. Go to http://bombas.com/tmgw and use code tmgw to get 20% off your first purchase. Go to http://rocketmoney.com/tmgw to cancel your unwanted subscriptions with Rocket Money. Go to http://zocdoc.com/weird to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Go to http://auraframes.com and use code TMGW to get $35-off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames. Go to http://masterclass.com/weird to get up to 50% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Future Commerce  - A Retail Strategy Podcast
FC Radio Theater: Dissociating at Costco

Future Commerce - A Retail Strategy Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 18, 2024 29:04


Introducing a Future Commerce Radio Theater production: Dissociating at Costco, an original story by Brian Lange. Performed for radio by Joseph Discher. Voice production by Whole Story Studio.Dissociating at Costco can be found in the Archetypes journal, available for purchase at shop.futurecommerce.com. Stay tuned for our upcoming radio theater readings: A Day in the Life of Nana Alexa by Erin DaCruz, and The Hardest Part by Brian Lange.Timecodes:[00:00:20] Chapter 1[00:08:19] Chapter 2[00:17:45] Chapter 3[00:26:43] EpilogueAssociated Links:Enjoy Dissociating at Costco in print: Order the Archetypes journalGet your copy of the Muses journalCheck out Future Commerce on YouTubeCheck out Future Commerce+ for exclusive content and save on merch and printSubscribe to Insiders and The Senses to read more about what we are witnessing in the commerce worldListen to our other episodes of Future CommerceHave any questions or comments about the show? Let us know on futurecommerce.com, or reach out to us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn. We love hearing from our listeners!

The CHILL Podcast by Kelly Ward
how i deal with dissociating and anxiety

The CHILL Podcast by Kelly Ward

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 19, 2024 13:31


Send us a textHello beautiful people! This year for me has come with a lot of good things but at the same time also a few negative things, and I find myself dissociating at times in order to deal with certain tough experiences. I wanted to talk about anxiety and dissociating because its one of the biggest things I struggle with on a daily basis. Anxiety has been the most challenging overall, and even though its gotten much better to manage than before, it does still come with a lot of difficulty to navigate. So I wanted to talk about my experience, how I deal with it, and that's what's on the agenda. i hope you enjoy. i love you. have an amazing day. follow your dreams. etc etc ✩ CHECK OUT (my book) BRIGHT DAYS AHEAD ✩ Available on Amazon. ✭ my book:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B8VQX3TJ✩ MY SOCIAL MEDIA ✩✭ instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_kellyannward_✭ tik tok: @kellyannward_✭youtube: www.youtube.com/@kellyannward✭ instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theward.methodI LOVE YOU :)-Kelly Ann Ward  

Center for Mind, Brain, and Culture
Lecture | Anna Ivanova "Dissociating Language and Thought in Humans and in Machines"

Center for Mind, Brain, and Culture

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 18, 2024 60:06


Anna Ivanova | Assistant Professor, School of Psychology | Georgia Tech College of Sciences "Dissociating Language and Thought in Humans and in Machines" “What is the relationship between language and thought? This question has long intrigued researchers across scientific fields. In this talk, I will propose a framework for clarifying the language-thought relationship. I will introduce a distinction between formal competence—knowledge of linguistic rules and patterns—and functional competence—understanding and using language in the world. This distinction is grounded in human neuroscience, where a wealth of evidence indicates that formal competence relies on a set of specialized brain regions (“the language network”), whereas functional competence requires the use of multiple non-language-specific neural systems. I will then present a series of case studies illustrating how the formal/functional competence distinction can help (a) delineate the functional architecture of the human brain, providing a framework for studying complex cognitive behaviors, such as computer coding and legal reasoning; (b) understand the capabilities and limitations of today's large language models, particularly in the realm of general world knowledge.” If you would like to become an AFFILIATE of the Center, please let us know.Follow along with us on Instagram | Threads | Facebook

Healing CPTSD
17. Relationships: From Disorganised Attachment to Dissociating in Conflict

Healing CPTSD

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2024 17:15


In this episode, we dive into the complex world of relationships, focusing on how trauma can shape and challenge our connections with others and discuss everything from disorganised attachment to dissociation during conflict. For those of us who've experienced childhood trauma, these early disruptions — like attachment wounds, abandonment, rejection, emotional neglect, and abuse — can make navigating relationships particularly tough. By the end of this episode, I hope you come away with some clarity and insights on how to form and maintain healthier relationships. Themes explored Disorganised attachment & other insecure attachment styles  How trauma impacts relationships i.e. fear of intimacy, vulnerability and connection  Reenacting dysfunctional cycles i.e. choosing relationships/partners that mirror our early childhood trauma dynamics, self-sabotaging healthy relationships Navigating triggers, conflict, shutting down and dissociation within relational conflict and intimacy  How somatic therapy can support you in healing attachment and relational wounds Need to work with a trauma informed therapist?  BOOK IN YOUR 1:1 SESSIONS WITH ME ⁠BOOK A FREE 15 MIN CHEMISTRY CALL⁠ RESOURCES TO SUPPORT YOUR RECOVERY Trigger Toolkit Free Download Nervous System Workbooks EMBODY The Workshop

Midlight Crisis
Chapter 90: Who's Your Daddy, Who's Your Momma? Part 4

Midlight Crisis

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2024 59:34


Chapter 90 is Dissociating! In the Sewer. Join Sophie, Sam, and Hannah as they discuss what language rats speak, how to do sea anemone enrichment, and Seventies Sex Cabin carpeting (tm).

Rising Strong: Mental Health & Resilience
Shailynn Taylor - From Funeral Planning to Future Planning

Rising Strong: Mental Health & Resilience

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2024 33:34


Shailynn Taylor's journey with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA), a degenerative genetic disorder, is one of incredible resilience and hope. Diagnosed at 18 months old, she was told that her life expectancy was only twelve years. At the age of 22, she started experiencing rapid deterioration in her health and even planned her funeral. But just in time, a treatment for SMA was approved in the US, and Shailynn began advocating for access to this life-saving medication. Shailynn's mental health journey, which includes battling depression and anxiety, has been just as challenging as her physical health. She emphasizes the importance of counseling, learning coping mechanisms, and finding a balance to navigate both SMA and mental health complexities. Through her advocacy work, Shailynn shines a light on the need for change in various areas, such as accessible housing and air travel. Despite everything, Shailynn refuses to let SMA define her, instead focusing on living a life full of joy, positivity, and possibility. .......................................................................... You can find Shailynn on Instagram @shailynntaylor .......................................................................... Rising Strong Links: Instagram: @Risingstrong FREE ME TIME download mentioned in this episode: bit.ly/freemetime ............................................................................ TRANSCRIPT: Host/Lisa: Welcome back to another episode of rising strong mental health and resilience. I'm your host, Lisa Bain, and today I have an inspiring guest who shares her story of resilience in the face of a debilitating genetic disorder. She literally went from planning her funeral to planning her future. Now, let's get started. Host/Lisa: Today I'm speaking with Shailen Taylor, who's a disability advocate and motivational speaker. She has shaped her perspective to value connection and authenticity above all. Welcome to the show, Shailen. Shailynn: Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here with you today. Host/Lisa: At age 18 months, you were diagnosed with SMA, a rare degenerative genetic disorder similar to ALS. Can you tell us more about this and how it shaped your future? Shailynn: For sure? So at about a year old, my parents started to notice that I was having a bit of trouble. When I would walk, my ankles would curve in a little bit. But other than that, I was happy and healthy and meeting most of my milestones. My mom went to lots of different doctors, and they all said that it was fine, I would grow out of the way I was walking, and it would be fine. But after many opinions, at 18 months old, my parents got the diagnosis of spinal muscular atrophy, type two. They unknowingly were both carriers of the genetic disease. And by both being carriers, they had a one in four chance of having a child with SMA. And so my brother and I are 17 months apart. So before they had my diagnosis, my brother was born. And he was born with a heart defect that required open heart surgery and months and months in the ICU. And so he thankfully, is not affected by SMA, but also has his own medical battles. And so SMA is a genetic disease. It starts at birth, impacting the muscles, slowly deteriorating from the spine out. It leads to other complications with health, but ultimately takes away the ability to walk, to speak, breathe, eat, until it has deteriorated all the muscles in the body. So when I was diagnosed, they told my parents that my life expectancy was twelve years old, that there was no treatment, no cure, just to take me home and love me. But there was nothing that medicine could do to prolong my life in any way. And so I hit twelve and then hit 18. And it wasn't until I hit 22 that I finally started having health practitioners saying to me, your health is deteriorating at a rapid rate, and you need to be aware of what that looks like. Making end of life plans, I completely planned my funeral with my best friend at 20 years old, and then suddenly, there was a treatment approved in the US for my disease when there had never been something on the market. And so I began advocating for those treatments, and it would be a long fight of many years. But I eventually, in 2018, accessed treatment because of the help of my community, who fundraised hundreds of thousands of dollars in order for me to not only pay for four doses of treatment, but knowing that that would qualify me for a medical study in New York, for a clinical trial of a new treatment for my disease that was still at phase one study. Host/Lisa: And you are currently enrolled in that study and taking part in treatment? Correct. Shailynn: So I have completed that study since. After five years, I hit the end of the study. Unfortunately, about the last two years into treatment with that drug, I began seeing a decline in my strength and my energy again, and knew that likely the dose just wasn't high enough for adults as I was receiving the same dose as small children were getting. And it was an oral drug, and the drug that I had purchased was spinal injections of a drug called spinraza. It was the first drug ever to come out for SMA and has been around for almost 14 years now in the SMA community. But this is the first year that they're starting to study a new dose for adults and are really investing in the research and collecting the data of what this drug can do for adults and what possibly increasing the dose could do to benefit adults with SMA as well. Host/Lisa: So how old were you when you started these treatments at an adult, and how old are you? Shailynn: I started my first clinical trial was a two month study out of Alberta children's hospital, and it was an oral drug. They had never made it very far, but that was my first taste of wanting to see what research was like for my disease. And that was in 2016. I was 19 years old then. And so, yeah, I am now 28 years old and have been on treatment consistently since I was 23. And yeah, it's incredible to be 28 and as healthy as I am and able to still keep planning a future when for a long time in my life, that wasn't something I ever allowed myself to do. Right. Host/Lisa: So you've gone from planning your funeral to planning your future. That's a huge turnaround. Can you tell us how all of this has affected your mental health? Shailynn: Definitely. My mental health has been something I've battled with since I was in grade eight, is when I first started struggling with depression and anxiety. And it wasn't until I was 18 that I first was diagnosed with seasonal depression and anxiety. At the time and started my journey of mental health, medications and the battle of trying to be independent as a kid and wanting to push your limits and become your own person was definitely what first made me realize how different I was and how different my future would look. And that grief and jealousy for a long time was just too much, and I didn't have the tools to understand it or to cope with it. My mental health has been something that's come and gone repeatedly. I've recently been being looked at for bipolar, bipolar depression. And so just like medically, my mental health is complex, and then my life is complex on top of it. And so the combination has been much harder of a battle for me than living with SMA has been the battle with my mental health and trying. Host/Lisa: To. Shailynn: Find a balance and find the right medications, the right counseling, the right tools to be able to cope with my life and move forward in my life. Host/Lisa: So that just segues perfectly into my next question, which is, what does coping look like for you? What are your tools? What are your skills? What have you learned over the years? What works for you? Shailynn: So coping for me has definitely expanded a lot. For a long time, I coped by dissociating and learning to stay in my body and cope with the pain. I have a lot of chronic pain, so staying in my body, being able to cope with the pain I'm in, and there's the never ending medical battles. Learning to stop dissociate. Dissociating was huge for me. That was a lot of counseling. I have been going to a counselor for over 15 years now, and that's not like consistently every month, but through the hard times in my mental health journey, I lean back into counseling and being reminded of the tools that are there to cope. My medication, my sleep, being able to prioritize little things like that and realize that they also can have a big impact on my mental health, really has helped me feel a bit more in control of it. And just the more I learn about my mental health and the way I think and my patterns, the more I'm able to correct them and learn from them and be aware when I'm starting to fall back into patterns and be able to implement the different tools that are available at the time. Host/Lisa: Would you say that your counselor has helped you discover different tools, or has that been something that's just been part of your life experience, just your own learning as you go along? Shailynn: My counselors have definitely helped me discover new tools, but I think what I find most helpful with counseling is having someone who can challenge my thoughts and make me aware of the unhealthy patterns in my thoughts. And I think that those reminders I still need sometimes to be able to get out of the loops I'll get into. But I've been to over 20 counselors and I think that each one kind of leaves something different with me. And I've been able to come to terms with different things with each one. And I don't think that a person has ever done counseling. In a way, I think there will forever be ways we can learn to cope and to show up differently in the world. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. And I think an important thing that you just brought up and I can definitely relate to, is we're in our own heads. Twenty four seven. And so even though when we say things out loud to our counselor and they call us out on our bs, right, but in our own heads, it's a dialogue that goes on all the time, so it becomes our normal. And I think you're absolutely right. Having somebody be able to call us out on that or just even question, maybe not call us out so blatantly, but even just take us down through some questions and have us examine our own thoughts by exploring different things so that we can realize the self chatter in our own heads that may not even be true. Shailynn: Right, exactly. Host/Lisa: So you do a lot of advocacy work, which I absolutely love. Can you tell us a bit more about what you're involved in? Shailynn: Yeah. So my advocacy work was not something that I went into planning to do. It evolved from me advocating for treatment and realizing that really I was the only person advocating that every adult with SMA's life mattered and could be made better by a treatment that was sitting on a shelf. And the more I got into that world, the more I saw just how many areas need light shone on them and need consistent pressure and awareness in order for change to happen. So I work with advocacy for accessible housing, for accessible air travel, and then I work with newly diagnosed SMA families and helping them through their journey. I've worked with the Canadian Organization for Rare diseases, doing a lot of political advocacy with them and being right in Ottawa meeting with the people making the decisions for rare. Yeah, it has. It's ebbed and flowed and it's something that I have to be very aware while I'm doing because I burn myself out very easily. And so I have to remember that there will always be time for advocacy, and I can only do so much. But it's definitely once you have something that you're so passionate about and so passionate about changing, it just kind of becomes a part of your life, whether you want it or not. And just seeing the changes that have come from different projects I've advocated with is really like fuel to keep advocating, because changes do happen. When multiple voices and people come together, there's room for change. And believing that change is possible is key for me and my mental health to not just get down with the way things. Host/Lisa: Are. You feeling overwhelmed? Constantly juggling your responsibilities with little time for yourself? I'm excited to share a free resource with you. This eguide offers practical tips to reclaim your time and prioritize self care. Discover simple strategies to carve out moments for the things you love and recharge your batteries. Download your free copy now at bitly Freemeetime. That's bit ly freemetime. Now let's get back to the show, and you talk a lot about hope. What gives you hope? Shailynn: I think a lot of hope for me has come since treatment. But more than treatment giving me hope, it's seeing little kids and how incredible they're doing on treatment and being able to say, like, wow, if they're able to do that on treatment right from birth, this treatment can do something for me. And believing that I don't need to change anything about the way I am, but hoping that my quality of life can improve. Those little bits of hope are what I cling to. And then, just like family and friends who have always believed so much is possible for me and the community who has come alongside me over the yeah, it's everyone, it's the people who believe in me that give me hope. And then the hope I have for the future of SMA. And SMA not being something that is terminal one day, well, and by being. Host/Lisa: Part of clinical trials, you are creating that change. It may not happen today or tomorrow or next year, but you are a part of that journey of creating that change. Should be very proud of that. You have been quoted as saying that you will not let SMA define you. Can you speak a little bit more to that? Shailynn: Yeah. I think as a teenager I was really scared that my life would only be about SMA and trying to stay healthy. And it is a full time job. SMA is like a huge part of my life. And the research, the conferences, the advocacy, all of it is SMA. But I refuse to let my life just be SMA. I never wanted all my hours to be spent trying to stay alive, because then what was I staying alive for? And so I've always wanted all these experiences. But never really thought I could wait for them in the future. And so instead, it just brought me to live really fast and do all the things I'd ever dreamed while my body was healthy enough. And in doing all of those things, I was able to find myself and realize that I am so much more than SMA. But because of SMA, there's some very special work that I get to do and some amazing people in my life that I would not know if it weren't for the disease. And so I have finally, as an adult, now come to realize that SMA does not define me. It's a huge part of my life. It's a huge part of who I am. But I am my own person with my own goals and just my own experiences I want to have and vision for my life. Host/Lisa: It's interesting because I say the same words about my grief journey. Grief is embedded into every cell of my being. It will never be removed from me. I will carry it until the day I die. But I refuse to let it define me. Shailynn: Definitely, no. Host/Lisa: We are so much more than the challenges that we face. We can let them define us, definitely. We both know probably lots of people that allow that to happen. But when we make that decision not to let that happen, that's where the magic happens. Shailynn: I think it really is. And still being able to give space for that grief and for how it shaped you, but then still choosing to live and to make the most out of life, it's such a duality. But I think it's something that by the end of our lives, almost every human will have experienced both sides of life. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I think the longer we're on this planet, the longer we're alive, the more adversity we face. Now, you may never experience another adversity such as sma. You might experience other, smaller adversities. I may experience nothing like losing my daughter ever again. Dear God, I hope not. But life is constantly throwing curveballs at us. It's unfortunately part of our learning process as human beings is what I've come to accept, I guess, on some level. But I think we do get stronger. I mean, I hated hearing that term, and I don't know how you feel about, you're so strong, right? You just kind of want to throat punch people sometimes. Nobody gave us a choice. Nobody gave you a choice or me a choice. But here we are. And it used to make me angry, but now I think, yeah, I am strong. And you, my dear, are definitely strong. And I think we get stronger by learning to carry our stuff longer and longer and longer. Right. And facing these other curveballs completely. Shailynn: Yes. And we learn to carry it with the memory of the people who are not with us. And that makes it less of a lonely battle. Always when you can just step back and remember that, yeah, there are people right next to you that other people may not see, but they're there. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I couldn't agree more. Now, I've met you a handful of times and you're always chipper and happy and you're just like oozing with positivity. What's your secret? Shailynn: I think my secret is that I know depression, I know sadness, I know grief, and I don't want other people to be feeling those ways. And so I choose to show up joyfully. I choose to be positive and find the positives. But there is no magic trick. It's being around other people who are positive, who choose to show up with joy also, because it's a choice. It's completely a choice to show up angry, bitter, miserable, or to show up with a smile on your face. And I think it's the simplest choice we can make, is to spread kindness to the people we encounter in our day, because we all have no clue what anyone's going through that we pass. And yeah, it's taking space for myself. It's coming to a place where I've learned what I need, what breaks I need to take in order to show up that way. And for me, recently, this last year has been super hard with. I ended up getting c diffs for months and then I was declining on treatment and I had to move home. I was living in Calgary on my own and I had to move back in with my parents at 28. And there was just like a lot of grief that I was experiencing and frustration. And I chose to step away from social media for almost a year. And it wasn't because I didn't feel comfortable sharing the space I was in. It was because I didn't feel I had any positive in me to also bring to people. And I feel that it's important that we talk about the heavy and the grief and those things, but that we also are able to show up with joy while talking about those heavy things. And yeah, it was a long time for me to be able to come to terms with the quick shift my life took and building back what I was dreaming about before it kind of tumbled down. Host/Lisa: So do you think that we can fake it till we make it? Sometimes? Like, even if we're not feeling up to putting that smile on our face or being that person that brings joy. Do you think sometimes we just have to make ourselves do it to get to that point? Or do you think that's doing ourselves a disservice? Shailynn: I think that at some point, we do have to make those tiny changes, because you can stay in that heavy, but nobody is going to bring you out of the heavy except yourself. And so it really is something that you have to force a bit at first, and then it becomes natural. It becomes natural to want to make people smile and to say something kind to them and to make people feel seen. But if you're not feeling seen, the forcing will just drain you. Host/Lisa: Yeah, I think you're absolutely right. I think that there's two sides to that coin. And I agree with everything you said. I mean, there are days that I didn't feel like putting the happy face on, but I did it, and then it got easier. But I also got myself into a heap of mental health trouble by putting that mask on too much and not being honest with myself, even about what was going on inside. So I think it is a little bit of a balancing act, definitely. And there's no easy step by step process on how to work with that. I think we've all got to figure out what works for us. But on that topic, do you have any physical or mental rituals that you do for your physical and mental well being? Shailynn: Yeah, when I'm at my healthiest, I'm going to the gym, I'm stretching. I'm leaving the house at least a few times a week. But it's a bit of a balance, as everything is for me, because I also can only do those rituals when my health has the capacity for them. So they've become things that I know are good for me and that I'm my happiest when I'm doing them. But I also have to be able to pause and know that I'll be able to get back to those rituals and those activities. But sometimes I need a break. So finding that balance is tricky for me. My one ritual that I started in high school, and I'm very privileged to be able to do this, but every winter I go somewhere hot for at least a week, because being in Saskatchewan, where it's freezing and so much snow, I'm pretty much trapped in my house so much. And I need to have that freedom back, to be able to drive my wheelchair down a sidewalk, to be able to go where I want on my own time, and also to have a break from the muscle pain that I get all winter from being so tense. And so that is my one ritual that I try my best to save for and stick to is to have that week of recharge in the season that I know is most challenging for me. And it really does help me to make it through the rest of the winter when I've had a bit of a break from feeling so isolated. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I think there's something powerful, too, in having something to look forward to. Right. Even though things are really awful, like, it could be 400 below or so, it seems, you know, that that trip is coming so good for you for making that a priority. Shailynn: Yeah, it's been very good for me. And then just like I love to swim, I can move freely in the water. So just things like that in that week, I can really take care of myself and move my body. And, yeah, it's very healing. And something that I very much recommend when it's possible is just any kind of little break from everyday life to really recharge. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I agree. I know that our listeners are going to want to go online and check you out and maybe book you as a speaker. So where's the best place for them to go and do that? Shailynn: The best place for them to reach me is on Instagram. I'll have the link to you for the episode. And, yeah, send me a message. I love being able to be out in the community. I work with everything from schools and kids to women's events, and it really does give me such a purpose to be able to go and spend time connecting with people in the community and being able to normalize disability a bit more. Host/Lisa: And thank you for being so raw and vulnerable. And you've made me comfortable asking you some really hard questions. And I feel like I have learned a little bit more about what SMA is all about and the challenges that people like yourself face. So thank you so much for being my guest today on rising strong. Shailynn: Thank you for giving me a space to share my story. I appreciate it very much so. Host/Lisa: And to the listeners, stay well and be resilient and remember that you were made for more. Catch you next time.

Fall in Love with Fitness
From Self-Sabotage to Self-Love: How to Overcome Unwanted Behaviors with Nicholas Gross

Fall in Love with Fitness

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 19, 2024 34:30


As humans, our health is intricately connected to our relationship with ourselves, others, and our body. This delicate balance can easily be disrupted by negative behaviors, emotional self-sabotage, and toxic internal dialogue. It's essential to recognize the importance of nurturing a positive relationship with our body and mind in order to achieve overall well-being and happiness.   In this episode, Sherry and Nicholas Gross discuss the importance of being healthy first before focusing on weight loss. They emphasize the significance of nurturing a positive relationship with our body and the impact it has on our overall well-being. By separating ourselves from the negative internal dialogue and focusing on positive aspects, we can transform our health journey. Tune in to discover how to make peace with food and create a healthier mindset. Nicholas Gross is a prominent figure in the health and wellness community who has had a transformative journey through various ups and downs, leading him to his current pathway of teaching and sharing knowledge globally, especially through retreats. With a deep passion for health and wellness stemming from his early teen years, Nicholas has traveled extensively, delivering impactful lessons on self-care, health, and personal development. He's recognized for his collaboration with others in the field to multiply the positive impact on people's lives, focusing on psychological and physical well-being. Let's explore how to overcome unwanted behaviors, transform negative self-talk, and cultivate self-love for a healthier and happier life!  "Health isn't just physical, it's psychological as well. It's all one big package." – Nicholas Gross Topics Covered: 00:02 - Introduction and discussion about upcoming retreat 07:10 - Being healthy first before releasing weight 08:53 - Mimicking habits and routines of healthy individuals 10:22 - Redefining health and focusing on how we feel 11:38 - Health is a balance between body, others, and self. 12:17 - Toxic relationships can impact health and trigger fight or flight. 13:36 - Stressful relationships can lead to emotional eating and affect health. 15:00 - Health is not just physical, it includes psychological well-being. 15:27 - Nervous system plays a role in self-sabotage and integrity. 22:36 - Thoughts are not who we are, they are separate from our true identity. 23:55 - Separating the internal dialogue from oneself 24:25 - Having a conversation with the internal dialogue 25:06 - Relationship with oneself vs. relationship with the body 25:48 - The subconscious mind and its role 26:35 - Programming the subconscious mind through repetition 27:08 - Focusing on negative vs. positive thoughts 27:57 - Holding onto negative comments and self-concepts 29:16 - Dissociating from the voice in the head 30:22 - Noticing and changing the focus of the internal dialogue 31:48 - Shifting focus towards internal transformation and healing 32:31 - The limitless potential for growth and achievement Key Takeaways: Importance of self-care and listening to inner wisdom Importance of a relationship with one's own body and treating it with kindness. Differences between a relationship with body and the relationship with self Connect with Nicholas Gross: Retreat Website Make Peace With Food Website Connect with Sherry Shaban: ⁠Website⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ ⁠LinkedIn⁠ YouTube If you're struggling with self-sabotaging behavior and other non-serving habits that have been keeping you from hitting your health goals, I'd like to invite you to join me in Transformation in Paradise: Metamorphosis Greece this October 12–19, 2024, in Lefkada. Visit www.sherryshaban.com/retreats for more details. If this sounds like something you'd like to learn more about, email me at sherry@sherryshaban.com and let's get in touch to go over all the details and answer your questions to determine if this retreat is the right fit for you. Keep it up, Athletes! Sherry

2 Lives
How One Woman Stopped Drinking, Stopped Dissociating, And Started Finding Her Way Back To Herself

2 Lives

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2024 26:41


2 LIVES - STORIES OF TRANSFORMATION Valerie Milburn was getting help for her mental illness but it wasn't until her husband told her she couldn't come home until she found stability that she turned her life around. It was then she began to fight for her recovery and to find the right treatment for her bipolar disorder and PTSD. Today she's been married 40 years and she's close with her children and grandchildren. On top of all that she's helped many people with her story. 2 Lives “The second begins the moment we realize we have only one.” 2 Lives is created by Laurel Morales. Valerie Shively is the assistant producer. Christian Arnder is our illustrator and website designer. Music from Blue Dot Sessions. Become a 2 Lives patron at https://www.patreon.com/2lives Drop us a note on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter. You can learn how to support the show here. Or order merch here. Episode transcripts are posted on our  website. Find out more about Valerie Milburn on our website.  

Illuminated with Jennifer Wallace
Complex Trauma Impacts Brain Development

Illuminated with Jennifer Wallace

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 2024 58:09


“Impaired integration is such a hallmark of the traumatized brain. It disrupts our ability to balance our nervous system. Neurobiologist Dan Siegel says that at its very essence, the purpose of trauma therapy is to restore brain integration.”   On today's episode, co-hosts Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristoff of Brain-Based Wellness discuss the neurological impacts of trauma, specifically how disassociation and fragmentation affect our brain integration. They're joined by Matt Bush of Next Level Neuro and co-founder of the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching Certification Program.   Expect to understand more about how early childhood trauma results in brain dysfunction, shapes our basic functioning and filtration systems, and can overpower the cognitive mind. You'll also learn what reintegrating memories actually means, and why integration is the key to healing.   Trauma Rewired has mentioned many times that without integration, long-lasting change is difficult, but without the survival brain and emotional brain working together, integration, specifically vertical integration, is impossible. This may sound overwhelming, but the good news change IS possible because of neuroplasticity.   If you want a deep understanding of vertical integration and how trauma affects the developing brain, tune in to learn more!   Tune in to hear how neurosomatic intelligence can help get you to integrate and regulate your nervous system!   Topics discussed in this episode:   Defining complex trauma from a neurosomatic perspective Effects of trauma on brain development Dissociation and fragmentation of self Memory integration and why people feel “stuck” Real examples of trauma responses overpowering their cognitive brain Dissociating from the different parts of your self What is vertical integration? How developmental trauma affects vertical integration Dysregulation between the brains left and right hemispheres   The SAID Principle in realtion to nervous system imbalance  Benefits of learning more about trauma and the brain    The Spring Cohort is enrolling now! Learn more about Neurosomatic Intelligence and sign up for the upcoming workshop: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com   Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site: https://www.rewiretrial.com   Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group!    Instagram   FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: www.athleticgreens.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique http://podcastboutique.com  

GEILER COACHEN
#31 Superkraft Dankbarkeit und ein Update zur Demenzerkrankung meiner Mutter

GEILER COACHEN

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 5, 2023 35:27


Welche positiven Effekte hat Dankbarkeit für die Seele und den Körper? Was versteht man unter „Dankesschuld“? Wie erziehe ich mein Kind zur Dankbarkeit ? Mit welchen Übungen kann ich die Superkraft Dankbarkeit für mich und meine Klient*innen nutzbar machen? In dieser Folge gebe ich dir Antworten auf diese Frage und stelle ich dir ein paar erstaunliche Studienergebnisse vor. Darüber hinaus zeige dir an meinem Beispiel, wie ich Dankbarkeit praktiziere und was dieses Thema mit der aktuellen Situation meiner Mutter (siehe Folge #5 Neuronale Resilienz) zu tun hat.  Shownotes: Das ⁠6-Minuten-Dankbarkeitstagebuch⁠ Buch ⁠„Glückliche Kängurus springen höher“⁠ von Melanie Hausner Buch „Gabe versus Tausch“ von Günther Ortmann Buch:⁠ „The Blessings of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children“⁠ von Wendy Mogel Studie zur Blutdrucksenkung durch das Dankbarkeitstagebuch: "The effects of emotions on short-term power spectrum analysis of heart rate variability" Quelle zur Dankesschuld: Watkins, P. C., Scheer, J., Ovnicek, M., & Kolts, R. (2006). The debt of gratitude: Dissociating gratitude and indebtedness. Cognition and Emotion, 20, 217-241, doi:10.1080/02699930500172291. Studie zu Dankesschuld: Tsang, J. A. (2006) Studie zum Dankbarkeitsbesuch & Tagebuch: Seligman et al., 2005 Quelle zur 70% Umsatzerhöhung: Carey, J. R., Clicque, S. H., Leighton, B. A., & Milton, F. (1976). A test of positive reinforcement of customers. Journal of Marketing, 40, 98-100 Quellen zum Wohlbefinden durch Dankbarkeit: McCullough, M. E., Emmons, R. A., & Tsang, J. (2002). "The grateful disposition: A conceptual and empirical topography“. Weitere Quellen findest du ganz unten unter „Einzelnachweise" Wikipedialink⁠⁠ zur Dankbarkeit Ausbildung zum ⁠⁠Neuro-Coach®⁠ Weiterbildung zum ⁠EMDR-basierten Neuro-Coaching⁠ Mehr Informationen zur ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Akademie für Neuro-Coaching®⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ oder zu meiner EMDR-Arbeit als ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Coach⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Links zu meinen Büchern*: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠„Erfolg durch Positionierung“⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠„Coach, your Marketing“⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ und ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠„Mama meditiert“⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ und dem eBooK ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠„Let´s talk about Sex - Workbook für Coaches und Therapeut*innen“⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  Folge mir gerne auf ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ oder ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Werde Teil meiner ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Neuro-Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Link zur ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠„Coach dein Glück-Box®“⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Link zu ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tanjas Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Vereinbare gerne ein kostenloses Weiterbildungsgespräch mit mir: 0170/76 000 345.  Link zum ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Impressum⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ von Tanja Klein Ich nehme am Partnerprogramm von Amazon teil. Solltest Du eines der verlinkten Bücher darüber kaufen, bekomme ich eine kleine Provision. Diese wird zu 100% für meine ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pro-Bono-Coachings ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠verwendet. 

The M. Kain Coaching Podcast
"Your Body Does Not Equal Your Worth" with Eric Pothen

The M. Kain Coaching Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2023 57:45


We caught up to have a nice chat about What I eat in a day videos and found ourselves discussing...- Identifying the Eating Disorder Voice- Can straight sized people give good advice when it comes to body acceptance?- The shifting goal posts of weight loss- The overvaluation of body shape in the LGBTQ+ community- Distracting vs Dissociating...so buckle up! Last week to pick up IDENTIFY  YOUR BINGE TRIGGERS AND TAKE PREEMPTIVE ACTION Mini Course - Doors Close November 30th! Tap/Click HERE to check it out.To find Eric Pothen:For the Embracing You Podcast - Tap/Click HERETo reach out to Eric on Instagram - Tap/Click HERE

Fake TV Critic
Experts at Dissociating

Fake TV Critic

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 20, 2023 50:54


I'm trying something different and talking about the lack of empathy and emotion in reality TV as of late, particularly on Catfish and The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and how that's a symptom of our decaying society. Happy Thanksgiving! X (Twitter): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@FakeTVCritic⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@faketvcritic⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Outro Music by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Box Lunch Beats⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (IG: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@a_maddox_art⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠)

Pursuit of Wellness
Gabby Bernstein: “All Of Us Are Traumatized,” Finding Inner Peace & Spirituality, Struggling w/ Extreme Addiction, Shame, Codependency, Dissociating & How To Heal.

Pursuit of Wellness

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 13, 2023 58:50


Imagine stepping into the shoes of someone who has faced life's darkest corners, battled addiction, confronted trauma and emerged on the other side, not just surviving, but shining with spiritual wisdom. Welcome to our space, and today, we have the privilege of having Gabby Bernstein (to speak about her book Happy Days), a spiritual teacher and author who embodies resilience and transformation, sharing her life's journey with us. She unveils her battle with addiction, her path to sobriety, and a traumatic childhood event that laid concealed for years, providing insight into how extreme behaviors, good or bad, can serve as shields protecting us from our internal struggles. Have you ever pondered how our past traumas, feelings of shame and relationship styles can affect our physical health? Together with Gabby, we delve into this fascinating territory, examining how these elements can manifest into physical issues, from digestive problems to brain fog. Gabby's insights reveal that our biologically designed shame responses, which are meant to tether us to safety, can lead to debilitating issues when suppressed. Moreover, we shed light on the enduring physical impact of trauma and stress the importance of embarking on the healing journey in a safe and timely manner.For Mari's Instagram click here!For Pursuit of Wellness Podcast's Instagram click here!For Gabby's Instagram click here!For Gabby's Podcast click here!For Gabby's Coaching Membership click here!Gabrielle's Books (to name a few):Happy DaysThe Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to FaithSuper Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest DreamsMay Cause Miracles: A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited HappinessProducts Mentioned:Peter Lavine - Trauma ExpertThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Get 25% off your first order when you use our exclusive link jennikayne.com/POW! Use code POW15 at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.comControl Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeoderant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that's over 40% off) with promo code POW at lumepodcast.com #lumepodHead to OSEAMalibu.com and use code pow for 10% offDownload the Ibotta app now and use code pow to get 100% cash back on your Thanksgiving dinner starting November 1stProduced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Spiritual Talk With Unapologetically BCP

Dissociating is scary or the art of #detachment?! Does it help you on your #healing journey. In this episode I explain how I have experience #dissociating #dissociation #burnout #beyourself #mentalhealth #oldsoul #isolation #trauma #metamorphsis wisdom --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/sereneblu7/support

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience
Atypical Biological Motion Perception in Children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: Dissociating the Roles of Local Motion and Global Configuration Processing

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 28, 2023


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2023.07.25.550597v1?rss=1 Authors: Tian, J., Yang, F., Wang, Y., Wang, L., Wang, N., Jiang, Y., Yang, L. Abstract: The ability to perceive biological motion (BM) is crucial for human survival and social interaction. Plentiful studies have found impaired BM perception in autism spectrum disorder characterized by deficits in social interaction. Children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) often exhibit similar deficits in social interaction, but few studies have investigated BM perception in ADHD. Here, we compared the differences in abilities to process local kinematic and global configurational cues, two fundamental abilities of BM perception, between typically developing (TD) and ADHD children. Then, we further investigated the relationship between BM perception and social interaction skills measured by the Social Responsiveness Scale (SRS) and examined the contributions of potential factors (e.g., gender, age, attention and intelligence) to BM perception. Results revealed that children with ADHD exhibited atypical BM perception with a clear dissociation between local and global BM information processing. Local BM processing ability was largely related to social interaction skills, whereas global BM processing ability would significantly improve with age. Critically, general BM perception (i.e., both local and global BM cues) was affected by sustained attention ability in ADHD. This relationship was mainly mediated by Reasoning Intelligence. These findings elucidate the atypical biological motion perception in ADHD and the potential factors related to BM perception. Moreover, this study provides new evidence for local BM perception as a hallmark of social cognition, and advances the comprehensive understanding of the distinct roles of local and global processing in BM perception and social cognitive disorders. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info Podcast created by Paper Player, LLC

The SelfWork Podcast
346 SelfWork: Borderline Personality Disorder, Guilt, and Building Boundaries

The SelfWork Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2023 30:45


I wouldn't wish borderline personality disorder on anyone – it's a truly difficult and chaotic way to live life. Yet it's just as difficult to be in relationship with someone who lives their life on an emotional roller coaster. Today we're going to focus on how you can set boundaries with folks who have borderline traits (I'll also go over the traits themselves). We'll focus specifically on having a parent with borderline PD – but these suggestions could also help if your friend or cousin or sibling suffers from the disorder. I'm pulling from some extremely well-written articles as well as my own experience with patients – and those links you'll be able to find in the show notes.. The listener voicemail is tough to listen to and involves murder – so please realize this may be a trigger for you. It's from a woman who's deeply grieving her daughter's actions as well as the deaths of grandchildren - and blames herself – or feels guilt – for not knowing how to help. I'll do my best to answer… Vital Links: Click Here for the fabulous offer from Athletic Greens - now AG1 - with bonus product with your subscription! Have you been putting off getting help in 2023? BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now! Mayo Clinic's list of signs and symptoms Psychology Today article, Matthew Hutson Article by Megan Glosson from The Mighty Books on Borderline Personality Disorder: Understanding the Borderline Mother, Stop Walking on Eggshells, and I Hate You Don't Leave Me.  You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you'd like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome! My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it's available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook! And there's another way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You'll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you're giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I'll look forward to hearing from you! Episode Transcript This is SelfWork. And I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. At SelfWork. We'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. I'm Dr. Margaret and SelfWork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own selfwork. Hello and welcome or welcome back to SelfWork. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist and I started SelfWork almost seven years ago in order to extend the walls of my practice to those of you who might already be very interested in psychological and emotional issues, maybe you're even in therapy, would would appreciate the comments from another therapist or thoughts or to those of you who might be looking for answers. Maybe you've just been diagnosed with a mental illness or you have a loved one that you're concerned about. But also to those of you who are bit skeptical about the whole mental health thing, this is for you and I so appreciate every one of you being here. You know, I wouldn't wish borderline personality disorder on anyone. It's a truly difficult and chaotic way to live life, but it's just as difficult to be in relationship with someone who lives their life on this kind of emotional rollercoaster. Today we're gonna focus on how you can set boundaries with people who have borderline traits. And I'll also go over the traits themselves. We'll focus specifically on having a parent with borderline personality, but these suggestions would also help if your loved one is a friend or a cousin or a sibling that suffers from the disorder. I'm pulling from some extremely well written articles as well as my own experience with patients and those links you'll be able to find in the show notes. I discovered a wonderful article on the Mighty written by someone with borderline who offered what I thought were creative and very helpful tips on how the individual themselves can set boundaries with themselves that allow them to slow down, be less reactive, and thus create less chaos. The listener voicemail is tough to listen to and involves murder. So please realize this may be a trigger for you. It's from a woman who's deeply grieving her daughter's actions as well as the deaths of grandchildren and blames herself or feels guilt for not knowing how to help. I'll do my best to answer. I wanna announce that for a few weeks now, self self-work has offered transcripts for episodes which we hope will offer the hearing impaired or anyone who might wanna read the actual transcript. What I hope is that those folks who wanna do their selfwork will now be able to read it. Before we get started, let's hear from the top online therapy provider. Better Help. Research continues to show by the way that online therapy is as effective as in-person and is far more convenient and doable for many. I recently heard a fascinating reframe for the idea of asking for help. Maybe you view asking for help as something someone does who's falling apart or who isn't strong. So consider this. 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So let's answer the most obvious question first, what are borderline traits? Here's the Mayo Clinic's list of signs and symptoms, and I'm adding my own comments about what that might look like in real life. So here's number one, an intense fear of abandonment, even going to extreme measures to avoid real or imagined separation or rejection. Now when they say extreme, it can be very extreme. I once worked with a man, happened to be a doctor who'd been so emotionally abused by a wife with borderline that he was divorcing her. He drove from another city to see me because she'd follow him, threaten him with bizarre threats and leave frightening troubled notes or dead animals to try to prevent the divorce from happening. This was very serious. Now obviously she had severe borderline and borderline is on a spectrum just like everything else in mental health, but this fear of abandonment is really, really strong. Number two is a pattern of unstable, intense relationships, such as idealizing someone one moment and then suddenly believing the person doesn't care or is cruel. So you can go from the best friend ever, the best child ever, if it's your parent, the best therapist ever to the worst, just imagine what it might be like to truly feel that way, the way the borderline feels. And of course when you're on the receiving end, and if you are a child, it's highly confusing and can feel very manipulative. Number three is rapid changes in self-identity and self-image. That includes shifting goals and values and seeing yourself as bad or as you don't exist at all. What I've found is that questions will be asked like, do I matter at all? For example, years ago I had a client who'd leave this message on my voicemail, "Call me back if you want to." So if I called back, I obviously wanted to reflecting that it was soothing to her that it wasn't my job to call her back, but cause I cared about her. And of course the opposite of that would be if I didn't call her back, at least not immediately, it would mean to her I didn't care and the client could even feel that she didn't exist for me. And so they can set themselves up by this need for reassurance. And also when they don't get it in the way they want it, they can feel as if they don't exist. They're not important, they're bad, whatever. Number four is periods of stress-related paranoia and loss of contact with reality lasting from a few minutes to a few hours. Now this is the case for truly severe cases of borderline. I'd say what happens more often is that the person with borderline personality disorder frequently disassociate likely due to previous abuse.And so it's become a way for them to de-stress. Dissociating means that your minds sort of goes someplace else and you feel like you're not really in your body. Daydreaming is a mild form of dissociating. But people with a lot of abuse in their histories, their minds have dissociated from the abuse when the abuse was happening as a way to protect themselves. Here's the next one, impulsive and risky behavior such as gambling, reckless driving, unsafe sex spending, sprees, binge eating or drug abuse or sabotaging success by suddenly quitting a good job or ending a positive relationship. Now this trait can be confused with bipolar disorder and does have quite a few similarities, but when the mania is over, someone with bipolar disorder will see the damage as damage. Someone with borderline personality disorder may not. Most of this is due of course, to the fact that they are governed by their emotions. So if they wanna do it, if they feel like it's an impulse at the time that they wanna do or they'll spend the money or they'll drive recklessly it's sex they wanna have, then they'll do it no matter what the impact on them is or other people. Actually. The next one is suicidal threats or behavior or self-injury, often in response to fear of separation or rejection. This is very, very common. Cutting is often a part of this or burning yourself. Another is hitting their heads against something repeatedly. And of course what someone with borderline personality disorder might tell you is that when they cut, they're actually trying to distract themselves from their deep emotional pain. It relieves the depth of their emotional pain by feeling physical pain. Other borderlines have told me that they don't feel anything when they cut. So it is truly a dissociative, like we were talking before, it's a dissociative behavior. Here's the next. Wide mood swings lasting from a few hours to a few days, which can include intense happiness, irritability, shame, or anxiety. Again, this really mimics bipolar disorder. Here's a very important one, ongoing feelings of emptiness. I had the same, "call me if you want to" client tell me her soul felt like it was a black hole. In my work with borderline personality, I often used the image of creating a safe sponge in your soul. So when something positive comes your way, you can absorb it instead of being lost in that black hole and you lose the existence of whatever positivity there was. But of course, someone with borderline may also or more often absorbed the negative. That's why the sponge idea has to be linked with positive feedback. And then the last is inappropriate intense anger such as frequently losing your temper, being sarcastic or bitter or having physical fights. So those are the major signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder. Now your next question could easily be how does someone develop B P D? The only answer is that its cause seems to have multiple levels, multiple facets because we don't know. It may be from early trauma, very poor attachment, never feeling safe. There are many in fact who feel that dissociative identity disorder or what used to be called multiple personality disorder is really a severe borderline disorder where in your past your safety was so compromised that you literally had to break into another sense of self or another persona to handle the stress of no safety. Think of it as something getting heavier and heavier to hold. So you have to use both hands. As the stress increases with the horror in this case, increases, your mind creates another self to help with the weight of that horror. And so doing your mind stays more stable, although you are now "broken" into two personas. Much less severe is the person who may feel as if they morph into different aspects of themselves. Not two different names or identities, but again, those symptoms we discussed of changing values or identities is tied into dissociation so early trauma can cause it. Then there's genetic inheritance, although genetic factors are being ruled out in other areas. So I'm not sure on this one. Now these behaviors can also be learned if you had a parent with borderline, you can absorb and mimic those beliefs and behaviors. But what I really wanna say is that it's a miserable way to live. And obviously if you are a child of someone with borderline, it's very confusing and very complicated. But let's move on to trying to love and relate to someone with borderline personality disorder. We'll talk about that right after we hear from AG1. Our next partner is AG1, the daily foundational nutrition supplement that supports whole body health. I drink it literally every day. I gave a G one a try because I wanted a single solution that supports my entire body and covers my nutritional bases every day. I wanted better gut health, a boost in energy immune system support. 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If you've listened to SelfWork a lot, I did an episode a while back on the different categories of narcissism. So this is similar we should say here, and in fact I probably should have said it in the beginning. There do seem to be more females with borderline than males. The reason for that is unknown. So let's talk about those types or categories of borderline. Christine Lawson, author of Understanding the Borderline Mother has a taxonomy of the troubled parent. There are four of them, the waif, the hermit, the queen and the witch. In a Psychology Today article, a man named Matthew Hudson writes, "The queen is controlling, the witch is sadistic, the hermit is fearful and the wave is helpless." Why is this important? Because the way they may have of interacting with you is going to look and feel different from one another. And so each requires a different approach. Again, I'm still quoting Matthew Hudson. "Don't let the queen get the upper hand. Be wary even of accepting gifts because it engenders expectations. Don't internalize the hermit spheres or you'll become limited by them. Don't allow yourself to be alone with a witch. Maintain distance for your own emotional and physical safety. The witch is probably the most sadistic and even sociologically pathological kind of personality, and the wife don't get pulled into her crises and sense of victimization". Lawson says, "Pay attention to your own tendencies to want to rescue her, which just feeds the dynamic." But all that said, what does loving someone with borderline personality feel like and what can you do? Often the chief of motion you have to deal with and learn how to confront is guilt. Let's say your phone rings, you look down and her name appears on your screen. Sadly, you dread clicking over and then comes the guilt you history with her rushes into your mind as you wait for one more ring, you're reminded of all the times that you've rushed her aside, comforted her and told her you'd be there for her while realizing over time that your caring would never be enough to shore up her fragile self-worth. Or you think of how you've watched as she's made one impulsive choice after another, while blaming others, including you. For the chaos of her life, you've had to set boundaries against which she constantly pushes, ultimately accusing you of not caring when she senses your fatigue. Perhaps you've heard thinly veiled hints of self-harm followed by admonitions that she doesn't know how long she could continue like this. Maybe there are sudden unexplainable times when you felt that your love for her was reciprocated in an intense, almost intoxicating way, yet almost as quickly as it arrives, that warm glow that you feel disappears in a cloud of sudden anger or irrational disappointment that's coming at you. Even more confusing is that others who know her in the community may adore her. They have a clue about how draining this relationship can be for you and would find your reality nearly unbelievable as she can often be quite popular and well loved by coworkers, neighbors, and even strangers. You see, structure offers her a scaffolding, a role to play, and if she's the teacher or the supervisor, she can shine, but she lacks the empathy needed for closer, more intimate relationships. What this means, again, is that with structure, someone with borderline personality disorder, when that structure is provided for her, when she knows what her role is, what her duties are, what her responsibilities are, she can follow those rules exactly and be beloved, be kind, be enthusiastic. But when she leaves that structure and has to build her own, that's where she can fall apart. And so she's not a good mother or she's not a good friend. In fact, she could be an awful friend or an awful mother no matter who she is, whether she's your mom, your sister, your partner, your friend, you can become exhausted and your own guilt can be unrelenting. And guess what? She'll encourage that. So what does guilt sound like inside your head? "She's my mother. She raised me the best way she could. I owe her and she's getting older and isn't able to care for herself." Or, "She's my daughter. I'll never forget the day I saw her for the first time. So tiny, so trusting, she deserves the same kind of relationship I have with the other kids", but she's not like your other kids. "Even though she's my ex, I don't know how she'd treat the kids if she felt like I wasn't there for her.She flipped out when we got divorced. I can't totally abandon her ever. It's wreaking havoc between me and my now wife who of course she detests" And one more. "She was my best friend when no one else would talk to me in the eighth grade. She was there always. So why do I shudder at the thought of simply talking with her?" Now you can hear it. Guilt. Guilt and more guilt, In I hate you. Don't leave me the classic book on borderline personality disorder. The author state, "The borderline shifts her personality like a rotating kaleidoscope, rearranging the fragmented glass of her being into different formations". That's what we were talking about before, right? Like a chameleon, she transforms herself into any shape that she imagines will please the viewer. That's why you can think you know her, but then when you try to develop an intimate or emotionally intimate relationship with her, all of these other traits that we talked about begin to come out. In fact, it could actually be uncanny how well someone with borderline traits can assess your own internal struggles and use those very issues to manipulate you. For example, if you're someone who takes responsibility for your actions very seriously, she may subtly or not so subtly insinuate you're falling down on the job or question whether you know what you're doing. A lot of times if I had a borderline client, maybe I hadn't slept the night before and I was a little fatigued, and she would look at me and she'd say, "Oh, you know what? We don't have to meet today. You look kind of tired." You could hear that she's zoned in on my fatigue already and she's trying to see if I'm going to tell her, "You're right, you're not important to me. Let's call off this session". Or "Of course you're important to me even though my fatigue is showing." It's a setup, but they don't realize it's a setup. That's what's important to know. As someone who's lived and tried to love someone with this struggle, you can only be responsible for that which you can control. I wanna say that sentence again. You may be someone who's lived and tried to love someone with this borderline struggle, but you must remember you can only be responsible for that which you can control. You've probably tried multiple times to get your loved one help. And what does she do? She stops taking her meds, she gets involved with another bad relationship, or she doesn't return your text after she's threatened suicide one more time. Perhaps she even denies that she has a problem at all pointing the finger at you and stating you're not, not trying hard enough at the relationship. So here are some steps to minimize that guilt and establish those boundaries we talked about in the title of this episode. What you need to do is one, face the fear of your own helplessness in this relationship by predicting the most feared outcome, most likely suicide or some kind of highly dramatic action and decide how you would handle it. This sort of anticipatory grief or anticipation of the worst helps you develop some kind of armor to it. I know what's probably going to happen and I won't be as hurt by it. Number two, assess whether or not she's capable of physically hurting you. Is that a rational fear on your part? If it is, seek advice from a lawyer or in an emergency, the mental health emergency services in your area if you have any. Number three, try to objectively see the damage caused to you and to other family members because someone with borderline is not going to understand the impact of her actions. You need to journal about it and see how your acknowledgement of that may influence your future actions. But you have to claim, yes, I've been hurt, my children have been hurt, whatever it is. Here's number four. Give her back the responsibility for her own life. For example, when she calls with another crisis, say, I know you'll find a way to cope with this and get off the phone. Again, that's giving her back the responsibility for her own life and likely she'll do okay. Now, she may call you back in 20 seconds or 20 minutes, but you just have to keep reassuring her, you know you've got what it takes to handle this. Knowing that she may respond by doing some dramatic action. That's what we talked about at the very beginning. Number five is you wanna provide empathy but not sympathy. You wanna set up strict boundaries for communication, especially around hot topic issues, and then be available. If she does indeed, follow those guidelines. Give her feedback about the positives in the relationship and what you appreciate about her. You want to know and to remember that she's probably in many ways not realizing her impact again, but you don't wanna feel sorry for her, but you can have empathy for what that must feel like. Number six, you wanna grieve the relationship that could have been acknowledge and feel the pain of that loss. Again, journaling can be very helpful here. Number seven, realize she may never have the capacity of understanding the impact she's having on you. She's not withholding something from you, she's likely not capable of giving it. So if you stop expecting that from her, perhaps she won't get hurt. Number eight is get support from others who understand or have walked the same walk. Again, books like Understanding the borderline mother, stop walking on eggshells and I hate you Don't leave me provide great strategies. And number nine, and perhaps the most important, have compassion for yourself. But now quickly, I want to add in some advice from an author who has borderline personality disorder herself and offer some steps for the borderline to set their own boundaries. It's a woman named Megan Glosson, and I found this on The Mighty. So this is boundary setting for the borderline herself. You wanna maintain a two-sided conversation where you listen as well as talk. So focus on listening. You want to ask people if they have the emotional bandwidth to talk to you before you start divulging something serious or telling them how dysregulated you're coming, how upset you are. Don't answer phone calls and don't text messages during your work or sleep hours. You want to pause before you respond in conversations. When you feel yourself growing what she calls dysregulated again, upset, unstable, angry, whatever it is, you wanna take certain situations to your therapist for coaching before you simply react emotionally. You get to practice with your therapist. I loved this idea. You wanna create a list with your family members of off limit topics or friends who don't agree with your perspective and you know you're just gonna argue about it. So there's a list of topics that you agree not to talk about. You can say no to requests that feel uncomfortable or may lead to poor decisions on your part. And then this last one I really liked. You could ask people to not use your diagnosis of borderline as a weapon or an excuse to treat you poorly. And that's exactly right. Now again, some of that may be things you're perceiving erroneously, but that's not fair for someone to say, you know, you've got borderline personality disorder, you're crazy. That's gonna go nowhere. So I thought this was wonderful advice. And from someone who knows how hard it is to live with borderline personality disorder, you can hear the pragmatism in her suggestions. Stop, wait, think, then act. I'll end with this. When I have someone as a client with borderline personality, I'll suggest they ask themselves the question, will this likely create chaos? Now, the definition of chaos might need a little work, but overall, you want to help someone stop and wait and think through things, and that's vital to healing. And if you're trying to love someone with borderline personality disorder and if they have any sense of how their behavior is impacting you and their relationships, perhaps this is a list you want to share with them. And then perhaps you could apply the stop, wait, think, and then act to yourself. Speak pipe message from dr margaret rutherford.com. Let's hear from the listener voicemail for today. Again, a warning is about a murder of two children. Please don't listen if that will act as a trigger for you. Good morning. I woke up feeling guilty this morning because I wasn't able to or didn't know how to help my daughter. At her darkest moments. She wanted to kill herself and I didn't know how to help. She ended up killing her two kids and she attempted to kill herself as well. Her relationship with the kids' father was terrible. She never asked for help. She really put up a front that everything was really good. I live in California, she lived in Las Vegas, but she never said anything and I feel really, really guilty about that. I'm very sad. So the past two years I had my two grandkids pass away, and this year my mother passed away. I've worked with parents and even grandparents who've lost children to murder, but for the mom to kill these children, that's obviously a deep, deep illness or pathology. I could guess that maybe she was hearing voices that told her to kill. That's called psychosis and the proper term is auditory hallucinations. But there's another term for killing your children. It's called philide. The most common factors are depression, including postpartum depression, psychosis, prior mental health treatment, and suicidal thoughts. Sometimes it can happen because a mother believes death is in the child's best interest or she can have delusions. And again, she may be hearing these command hallucinations that tell her to kill. This can occur as a result of cumulative child abuse, neglect, or what's called Munchhausen syndrome by proxy. We won't go into that today. It's too long . Maybe I'll do an episode on it. And actually sometimes it's a very selfish mother who believes her kid as a hindrance. We've recently heard about a woman who killed children because they weren't following her particular religious views where she saw them as filled with the devil. And this is the rarest, a mother who kills as an act of revenge against the child's father. But whatever the reason or the pathology behind it, it's horrific for those who've loved all of them. And this mama also tried to kill herself or it looked like she did this kind of grief that's also accompanied by absolute horror. To use that word again, is so very complicated. I'm certainly going to recommend that this listener gets someone to talk to about the guilt she carries since her daughter didn't look sick. Then it's likely that she kept secret whatever was really going on with her. It could have been postpartum depression or some kind of depression that she hid. Perhaps more will be discovered. But until then, the guilt that you didn't see, this is something that I've seen as a part of many types of grief that occur from sudden loss. The fact is, your daughter didn't want you to see it. She didn't want anyone, it sounds like to see it or to see her. I'm so sorry for your loss and sad for all involved, but please turn to a therapist who knows how to work through this kind of trauma with you. Thank you all for being here today. I know there are many ways you can spend your time and having you here at self-work means so very much. Don't forget my Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/ selfwork, and please leave me a rating, a review wherever you listen. I cannot tell you how important that is and how absolutely grateful I feel when I see a new review. Thank you again for being here. Please take very good care of yourself, your family, and your community. I'm Dr. Margaret and this has been SelfWork.      

Analyze Scripts
"Yellowjackets" Season 2 with Dr. Jessi Gold

Analyze Scripts

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 26, 2023 46:46


Welcome back to Analyze Scripts, where a psychiatrist and a therapist analyze what Hollywood gets right and wrong about mental health. Today, we are joined by Dr. Jessi Gold to analyze season two of "Yellowjackets." In this episode we discuss cults, schizophrenia, catatonia and the ghastly depiction of ECT. We see many different depictions of trauma responses in this season, some from psychological stressors and others from their worsening physical state. Were you as shocked as we were to learn the mouse is actually dead? Was that a hallucination due to starvation or psychological trauma, the answer is probably both. "Yellowjackets" keeps us guessing and cringing through all nine episodes this season, but we are ready for a break and hope the actors are practicing some self care! We hope you enjoy! Instagram Tik Tok Website [00:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Hi, I'm Dr. Katrina Fury, a psychiatrist. [00:12] Portia Pendleton: And I'm Portia Pendleton, a licensed clinical social worker. [00:16] Dr. Katrina Furey: And this is Analyze Scripts, a podcast where two shrinks analyze the depiction of mental health in movies and TV shows. [00:23] Portia Pendleton: Our hope is that you learn some legit info about mental health while feeling like you're chatting with your girlfriends. [00:28] Dr. Katrina Furey: There is so much misinformation out there, and it drives us nuts. [00:31] Portia Pendleton: And if someday we pay off our student loans or land a sponsorship, like. [00:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: With a lay flat airline or a major beauty brand, even better. [00:39] Portia Pendleton: So sit back, relax, grab some popcorn. [00:42] Dr. Katrina Furey: And your DSM Five and enjoy. Back to another episode of Analyze scripts. We are so excited to once again be joined by Dr. Jesse Gold today to talk about the second season of Showtime's hit show Yellow Jackets. Thanks so much for coming back, Jesse. [01:12] Dr. Jessi Gold: Thanks for having me. [01:13] Dr. Katrina Furey: I do have to say, this show is really messed up. I feel like season one was a lot, and then we sort of watched it really quick to record our first episode and then watch season two really quick. And I was like, I had to take some breaks, I'll be honest, along the way, because it got really intense really fast. [01:34] Portia Pendleton: Yeah. [01:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: Maybe like a two out of ten on a scale of one to ten. So not like fully this season. [01:43] Dr. Jessi Gold: I think it was like last season, they were like, this is a show about cannibals, but you never saw it. [01:50] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right? [01:50] Dr. Jessi Gold: This season was like, remember when you're walking? [01:54] Dr. Katrina Furey: Here it is. Yeah, here it is. [01:58] Dr. Jessi Gold: They danced around it in a way that was like, fine last season. And this season they were like, all. [02:04] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right, here you go. [02:06] Dr. Jessi Gold: And there are definitely parts where you're like, yeah, I can't watch it. [02:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes, I know. I told Portia when we were watching it, I stopped right around when Shauna was about to deliver the baby because I was so scared they were going to eat the baby. I was like, I can't watch that. And I think you actually had to tell me. They don't I looked up the spoiler. [02:28] Portia Pendleton: Yeah, they post on their TikTok, right? Like, the cast being like, we do not eat the baby. You can watch it, I guess, trigger non warning. And I was like, we do a. [02:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: Lot of things, but that's where we draw the line. Gosh. So, I mean, I think we have to get started since this was really early in the first episode, ECT and the depiction of ECT. Right. Like, you probably felt as good about that as I did, which is not very good. [02:57] Dr. Jessi Gold: It is the first time I was disappointed. [03:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, right. [03:02] Dr. Jessi Gold: Last season, I was really excited about all of their mental health portrayals, and I thought they were really thoughtful, and their trauma portrayals were really thoughtful. So I was super excited for this season, despite yes, I'm not, like, a creepy show person, so it's not like surprising that that wouldn't be my genre of choice, but I really liked it for a lot of the reasons I was talking about health wise. And so watching that and seeing that so early on, I was like, oh no, taking such a wrong, unnecessary turn. And yeah, I think inherently if you came back from something catatonic possible, you got ECT, right? [03:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [03:44] Dr. Jessi Gold: The actual treatment of choice for being like catatonic, I think who has schizophrenia or some version of a psychotic right, comes back catatonic. It seems we have like a tiny, tiny, tiny glimpse in that. [03:57] Dr. Katrina Furey: I was going to ask you. I thought it was catatonia as well. Porsche, are you familiar with catatonia as much? How would you describe catatonia, Jesse, to someone who doesn't know what that word means, they're different forms. [04:09] Dr. Jessi Gold: Some people have hyperactive, completely not moving. [04:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Speaking kind of like Lottie, like Lottie. [04:17] Dr. Jessi Gold: Looks like she had it can be a reaction to a lot of things, like medication, like psychosis, like some medical issues inside, internally, like a medical issue. I haven't seen it a ton of times, but I have seen it sometimes it amazingly responds to just like an act. [04:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: Have you ever seen that? Because that is amazing. So portia. Sometimes when you're catatonic, these people are usually brought to the Er and people are either like they're not moving or eating or they're going to the bathroom on themselves. They literally can't move from here to five inches away, or they're like they're being really bizarre and bouncing off the walls and making weird noises and just such a drastic change in behavior really acutely quickly, like for an unknown reason. And then eventually catatonia gets on the differential and you think, let's give them a little Addivan. And so you'll give them like a push of ivy. Addivan, wait a couple only like 2 hours and a lot of times they start to wake up. Then you give them another one if it's working. And that's one of the coolest things in psychiatry is you can see it work so fast. I feel like in mental health that's so rare. Maybe like Add and Stimulants, you see work really quick. But this is so drastic. Like, I remember one woman in the ICU, wasn't eating for days, couldn't move, had something called waxy flexibility where if you put their arm up, it stays. They never bring it down. Or you can position them in an odd position, they stay there. That's part of catatonia. That's one of the telltale diagnostic signs. We give her the Adavan, a couple of hours later she's eating. It's wild. Anyway, so I do think lottie was catatonic. I think that's what they were going for. And even if they weren't, they did. [06:02] Dr. Jessi Gold: A good job in an offshoot. But I do think that as far as things you see in psychiatry, it's interesting, but I have heard from the perspective of a patient who was catatonic, that they understood everything that was going on but couldn't speak or function. And wow, sometimes when people were learning from them because they had certain symptoms, like there's this thing called echolalia where they eat everything that you're saying that they knew. They saw that and didn't like that but couldn't say anything. So after that, I've been hesitant sometimes to actually teach some of it, even though it's rare and interesting. And again, one of the few things you see really get better, which is really nice. But I would assume, who knows how long she wasn't speaking and functioning in the wilderness. [06:56] Dr. Katrina Furey: I know now she's trapped like that. Can you imagine? [06:59] Dr. Jessi Gold: And I would assume her parents were already thought she was dead, but on top of it, we're like, oh, gosh, she's been off meds for like two years. No, I think ECP is a treatment of choice for catatonia. ECT is a very successful medication or. [07:18] Dr. Katrina Furey: Like, treatment super successful, which is unfortunate. [07:21] Dr. Jessi Gold: Psychiatry because everyone flew over the cuz nest, really. And I think that book and that movie and that portrayal have really continued so much that even, like, generationally people who have absolutely never read the book. [07:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: Or true know about it. [07:41] Portia Pendleton: Yeah. [07:41] Dr. Jessi Gold: In that movie, I don't know if parents told them or what, because, you know, they didn't see some old school Jack Nickson movie. [07:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [07:49] Dr. Jessi Gold: There's something where you mentioned ECT to people and their faces so concerned and they think it's the worst thing you can possibly tell them, but it's by far one of our most successful treatments, especially in situations like this. But in acute suspitality in pregnancy. [08:06] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [08:06] Dr. Jessi Gold: Postpartum psychosis wouldn't imagine it's as good as it is. And that stigma that exists for a very long time, very much created by the media, to be honest, really has made it hard for us to sell it as a treatment, despite how successful it is. And so for this show, which is new, to bring it back into the fold. And bring it back into the fold. So almost like quickly flashes, but the flashes you get look really and it's not the ECP. Even in the what would that have been like the 90s, right? [08:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: Exactly. It wouldn't have been like that. [08:47] Dr. Jessi Gold: Some of the things from what blew over the cuckoo sense is like, the technology was older, anesthesia wasn't as good. There's things where you can tell that things have evolved for sure since then. But even in the 90s, it didn't look like what they're showing. What they're showing looks like probably the equivalent of the fact that they still go clear with paddles in medical shows. Like these little pads that are stick. [09:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: On and so dramatic and heavy going to hurt you. [09:17] Dr. Jessi Gold: I know that Er doctors think that's ridiculous because they have most of them never even saw it ever done like that. I feel like what they show for ECT is like that version the OG when ECT was discovered version. [09:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: Also when they say seize, that's not what actually happens. [09:40] Dr. Jessi Gold: The purpose is to induce a seizure in your brain. But it's like so minor and the only way you really even know there's. [09:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: A seizure is like your toe brain. [09:50] Dr. Jessi Gold: Activity or your tone. You would never see someone actually seize. If you did. [09:56] Dr. Katrina Furey: We probably messed up, right. [09:59] Dr. Jessi Gold: Only they test where to go based on just if your finger moves when they get there, they know where different parts of your brain are and they're. [10:07] Dr. Katrina Furey: Targeting a specific part. Right. You're never like lashing or thrashing around, rolling over like Lottie did. And it's also very rare these days to do bilateral ECT on both sides of the head. Usually you start with unilateral and it's been so long since I did or saw ECT, I can't even remember which side you usually start with. But that's also not super common to do bilateral. Sometimes you have to right. [10:34] Dr. Jessi Gold: Then when one's not working as well, you add the other or you try the other and then you do bilateral. [10:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. Oh, really? Like Barbaric bike guard, right? [10:43] Dr. Jessi Gold: Like a bike guard. She has an aggressive actual seizure. As a viewer, you actually don't know what is going on because they don't say the name. They don't going on anyway. So all you see is like this barbaric looking psychiatric treatment. And don't get me wrong, we have screwed up over and over. We were doing treatment wise. But again, so did a lot of medicine that felt like bloodletting was a way to free spirits of stuff. Right. So we're not the only specialty who tried very dangerous things on people. [11:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [11:15] Dr. Jessi Gold: We have a reputation for that and I think that has continued. NPT has basically been this, I don't know, representation of that in modern psychiatry. [11:26] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [11:26] Dr. Jessi Gold: Though it is so effective and I don't know, I wish there was more context to that. Even though I know it was sort of like intentionally vague. But I wish there was more context to it. I wish it was more thoughtful. [11:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: I wish it was more updated and more accurate. [11:42] Dr. Jessi Gold: It was more accurate. And with Lottie they have a lot of potential to talk about humane treatment. [11:50] Dr. Katrina Furey: I know. And we see such bad mental health treatment with Lottie this whole season and that's like the only mental health treatment we see. [12:00] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah, I mean, I think I worry not to get too far ahead that next season too, that she's going to. [12:07] Dr. Katrina Furey: Be inpatient, it's going to be awful. Let's show some good treatment that's struggling. [12:12] Dr. Jessi Gold: Like this, you can go back to. [12:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Functioning and doing your work and your. [12:16] Dr. Jessi Gold: Life, but this is maybe what you need. Sometimes this is impatient can look like and they have the opportunity to demystify destigmatize. [12:26] Dr. Katrina Furey: It's just so far from what I saw in my training in what actual ECT is, which can be so quite literally life saving for so many patients. And it's just such a shame to have such yet another negative depiction of such a life saving treatment and of schizophrenia. [12:47] Portia Pendleton: I mean, she's going to go inpatient one of the most interesting things in my graduate program was we had this I don't know, because you guys both interfaced with Yale. She was a lawyer, like down in New Haven, and she's an author and she has schizophrenia. [13:02] Dr. Jessi Gold: It's called the center cannot hold with Elon Sack. [13:05] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. [13:05] Portia Pendleton: So she does a lot of talks about her experience with hallucinating, being on medication, not being on medication, how powerful medication is, and how you can really lead a wildly productive I mean, she went to law school. She's a very well known fighter and person lawyer. And that was just, I think, really helping too. I mean, the whole point is to destigmatize schizophrenia. So then we see Lottie here not doing a good job of that. And then we were just talking about future season predictions with maybe her being on inpatient unit and probably not looking so good. [13:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. I do think as much as I was disappointed with the depiction of ECT, I do think this season had some good moments that I thought very, I guess, helpfully displayed the difference between hallucinations dissociation and like a dissociative fugue state. Right. I feel like those things are challenging to wrap your head around, challenging to educate people about, and then I would imagine even more challenging depicting in an accurate way. So when we say hallucination, what we mean by that is when someone is seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting, or smelling something that isn't actually there in reality, so what other people around them aren't experiencing. The most common hallucinations are auditory and visual. So things that you see or hear, although other senses can be affected too. When we say dissociation, what we mean by that is it's psychologically when there's a separation of some aspects of cognitive mental functioning from your conscious awareness. So it's often a response to trauma. And it's like your mind's way of trying to protect yourself and disconnect from an extreme psychological distress. And then kind of even further than that is what we call a dissociative fugue state, which is another rare occurrence. I did see a couple of these in the Er in my training, and that's a temporary state where a person has amnesia for their personal autobiographical information and then travels to an unexpected place, kind of out of nowhere. So these people kind of show up in your Er, don't know who they are, don't know where they are, don't know why they're there. And it takes a while to figure out what exactly is going on. And you don't often jump to like, oh, it's a fugue state. You might think like, oh my God, is there something medical going on? And things like that. But sometimes these patients do end up creating a whole new identity so I thought this show did demonstrate these different aspects of psychological functioning in response to trauma in a really amazing way. I was thinking of Shauna and Jackie, like those hallucinations early on, lottie and her psychiatrist, which we'll get into, I'm sure, in a minute. With the Dissociating, we see that a lot. With Ty, we see that with Shauna kind of forgetting or dissociating about her baby being stillborn. And then the fugue we see with Ty sleepwalking all the way to Ohio and hitchhiking to see Van. So I don't know, what did you guys think about those different depictions? [16:20] Portia Pendleton: I mean, the Dissociation one where Shauna is seeing Jackie, I feel like feels really to me like the most common potentially experience someone might have with, like, a loss, even. [16:32] Dr. Katrina Furey: You mean dissociating or hallucinating? [16:34] Portia Pendleton: Dissociating. [16:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: So this is a great example of how confusing these different conditions can be. Right. Because so Jackie was dead by that point, but she's talking to her. She's seeing her Jackie's moving around. So I would call that, I guess, maybe a little both. [16:48] Portia Pendleton: Okay. [16:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: But definitely visual auditory hallucinations that aren't actually happening. [16:53] Portia Pendleton: I mean, I'm just thinking of like I guess no one's really typical, but like a typical trauma patient who has dissociative features, usually I think, then just seeing them. Right. Like, you say you're like, outside your body or maybe you're in another place, but you're not seeing another person who then you would say isn't there. [17:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. So I think of dissociation as like, having gaps in your memory for the traumatic event, forgetting certain things about it. Sometimes they do describe sort of like hovering above and sort of witnessing it rather than experiencing it. I think what you might be describing is, like, maybe someone who's even something not as severe as trauma, like grief, and you're walking around and you think you see the person, and then you realize, oh, no, that's not really them. [17:39] Dr. Jessi Gold: These are so specific and very hard to know the difference. And they're all sort of in this spectrum of psychological responses that can feel like psychosis, but also are trauma. [17:51] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, exactly. There's a big overlap. [17:53] Dr. Jessi Gold: All of them were interestingly done. I think it's different people's responses to extreme stress, if you want to call it that, on sort of like the Wispy scale. Just a ton of trauma. I don't know how most people would react. And on top of it, also, they're starving. [18:11] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. [18:12] Portia Pendleton: Right. I was interested in the medical. [18:14] Dr. Jessi Gold: That part is also complicated. If they're, like, are they hallucinating? Are they struggling because they act Harding. [18:21] Dr. Katrina Furey: And their brain is not functioning well? [18:23] Portia Pendleton: Yes. The mouse, it's like you can convince. [18:26] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yourself that that's real because you can't tell the difference. Or the coach very actively hallucinating, but they're sort of like vivid dreams that happen to be while he's awake because he's not really fully functioning, because he's not eating right. I think there's a lot of blurring. And I also think that they use that to the advantage of the show writing, to put in the mysticism. They don't know. They're all sort of broken from reality in some capacity, some more than others for other reasons. But what is real and what is not is confusing. And I think that's also confusing for viewers and purpose. [19:05] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, right. And I wonder, like you're saying, if that how much of that was purposeful. Because as we're seeing them all cope with and respond to trauma and try to survive, they're also telling the story through a lot of flashbacks and flash forwards. And so you kind of are also off kilter, which might just kind of be like in parallel to what you could imagine the characters are experiencing. [19:27] Portia Pendleton: I was thinking about just like I work with a lot of eating disorder patients, right? How important eating and nourishment is glucose, obviously, this is a pretty extreme example, but our brains need nutrition so badly. [19:44] Dr. Katrina Furey: To perform well, to function. [19:46] Portia Pendleton: And even, you know, if you're not starving in the wilderness with no food for weeks, living on soup made with mushrooms, I mean, you can tell. And that's where body disturbance comes in. People have a really hard time judging their body and comparing it and really do believe that they're in a larger body or a smaller body, et cetera. But I just thought what? Just like a little fun fact of how much we need food and how it can really change our experience with reality. [20:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, 100%. And also how some of the dissociation can be protective. Right. When you're trying to survive in the winter in the woods with no idea if anyone's going to find you, it's probably protective to survival, to be disconnected to some degree. Right. Otherwise, like, God, what do you do? [20:33] Portia Pendleton: Right? The mouse seemed really important to her and just like a little creature. Who she's talking to? I mean, I was really shocked when it was dead. [20:41] Dr. Katrina Furey: Me too. [20:42] Dr. Jessi Gold: I'm not going to lie. [20:43] Portia Pendleton: Of course it's alive. [20:45] Dr. Katrina Furey: But then creature, did you wonder if she's going to eat it? [20:48] Portia Pendleton: I think she did. [20:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: Did she eat it? [20:50] Dr. Jessi Gold: Maybe I'm thinking about the ear and was like, no. [20:56] Portia Pendleton: Yeah, I'm thinking of the ear. [20:58] Dr. Jessi Gold: I think it was hard enough to even see the mouse situation change, but I think it's I don't know. It's a cool storytelling technique to use to be like, what's real, what's not? How do you know? And I think they use the same technique. I mean, with the baby situation, guys and the fans all were worried they ate the baby. Yeah, they have her basically hallucinate that people eat the baby and you believe it for a while, thought it could be a possible outcome. The writers knew it could be what people think is a possible outcome. And so they sort of play on that. I don't know, break from every like no one knows what's real and what's not. And I think as a viewer, it allows you to sort of maybe get more in the headspace of what it would be like to be doing that. And then I also think it makes things hard to follow. And you don't always trust the narrator. So interesting from a storytelling perspective. And I also think the food thing, it's like dissociation, if you want to use that term, being connected to your body that is not functioning and hungry and not eating. I understand all of that's. Protective, consciously dissociate. I mean, people who have had trauma sometimes can consciously dissociate as they get older because they learned it as a big skill, but they might not even realize they're doing it conscious, but they still don't even realize they're doing it. And so it's like an evolved coping skill to basically say, my body is not safe where my body is. Let's take a vacation from that, right? It's hard to picture, but it's a logical and important way. [22:49] Portia Pendleton: Yeah. [22:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: And I think, too, this show is doing a nice job demonstrating how like you were saying, Jesse, a lot of times when you're faced with trauma, let alone a chronic trauma, that's not letting up, especially in your early years. Like when you're a teenager or even younger, you develop these coping strategies like dissociation. Not consciously or intentionally, but then how that can persist into adulthood. And we see that with Ty, I think especially how when she's under the stress in season one of Running for Office, she's unconsciously reverting back to some of these coping strategies, like eating the dirt or setting up the altar and things like that. And how we see in season two as the stress keeps escalating, now she's maybe losing her family hallucinated. Sammy, it seems like before she got into that awful car accident where Simone got hurt. Then we see the dissociative few coming. And I think, again, that's a pretty intense depiction, but also really accurate. Like, I treat a lot of patients in adulthood who have a trauma history who find themselves dissociating or and that can be as simple as when faced with some reminder of what you went through, you all kind of feel like you're losing touch with your body. Sometimes I have patients describe it as like a zoom out or something. It can be as, quote unquote mild as something like that all the way to something as severe as, like, a fuke state. And you're right, I think, with the way they're telling the story and how smart is this? You do start to doubt. Like, I found myself wondering, was Misty's friend Crystal real until she died? And so thinking about lottie in the woods, but then also as an adult with her psychiatrist, I'm curious, Jesse, what your thoughts are about that whole depiction. [24:42] Dr. Jessi Gold: Isn'T real. Yeah, again, that sort of was like, whoa. It was interesting to me because I was like, why don't you keep saying her psychiatrist is on vacation? I thought that was the weirdest addition to the conversation because it was irrelevant. I don't know. It's interesting because in a way, it's like she thinks she's asking for help and she wants to ask for help, but she's asking for help in her world, not real world, but then her help asking in the real world is like this very dangerous mysticism. [25:15] Dr. Katrina Furey: And I thought it was so, like, before I realized the psychiatrist wasn't real at first, was like, I like the psychiatrist's office. Overall, I liked it. But then the psychiatrist said something like, when Lottie is coming and basically asking for medication or to go up on her medications because the hallucinations are coming back. And again, patients with that awareness of their psychotic disorder or their bipolar disorder with psychotic features or what have you can realize that and will come and seek help. And I think that's amazing when that happens. I was so disappointed when the fake psychiatrist said something to her, like, well, maybe you should listen to your hallucinations. I was like, no. And then when we realized she wasn't real, I was like, oh, Portia, I don't know. When did you catch on? [26:00] Portia Pendleton: I didn't until now. And not that she wasn't real. The last time we see the psychiatrist, she like, disappears, right, from Lottie's home, our office, whatever it was. And so I was like, oh, that was a hallucination. But I thought that that was the. [26:17] Dr. Katrina Furey: Only time she hallucinated her. But like, the other time she went, she actually went? Yes. [26:21] Portia Pendleton: And she was just getting, like, unhelpful, unhelpful help. [26:25] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, maybe. You know, oftentimes with psychosis, at least I learned in my training. And I think this tracks if I sort of, like, reflect back, it's the auditory hallucinations that are the most common. And then I remember, like, visual hallucinations are more common with, like you said, like a medical issue or like alcohol withdrawal, UTI, stuff like that. And it is more often like whispers or hearing a voice, but it might not even be that the voice is saying something that's really clear to understand, but it sounds threatening or scary or could be a command hallucination telling them to harm themselves in some way. But, yeah, the idea of a friend or this whole external person, I haven't seen as much in real life. [27:15] Portia Pendleton: Well, I wanted to bring up just your article for the Slate. So just thinking about trauma, and we mentioned this like a couple of minutes ago. I think it's so important for people to know that if you're doing something like an EMDR or an art trauma treatment, you are opening the bag up, you are recalling really specific memories. And I like how you said you have to be prepared for that. And sometimes things get worse before they get better. And thinking about the characters on the show, it's like their trauma was so chronic and pervasive. And then continues at Post Wilderness that for treatment for them even thinking of Lottie, they need to be in really. [28:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: Safe, really good care, really safe. [28:02] Portia Pendleton: And environment providers really know what they're doing, who can hold them. And just thinking of all their dissociations as really, really coping, I mean, I don't know if it's safe for them to open the trauma jar altogether. [28:18] Dr. Katrina Furey: Especially, I think we see what happens, right, how the hunt happens again near the end of the season. [28:24] Portia Pendleton: And you can see Shauna and Misty being so shocked that Ty and Van did not end up or they called off lottie getting taken at that point. And they really started in the fear that Wright comes up for Shauna and Misty again with, like, Van and Ty allowing the hunt to happen. I don't know. I mean, I think just trauma, oh, there's great trauma treatments now and everyone should work on their trauma. [28:47] Dr. Katrina Furey: Sure. [28:47] Portia Pendleton: But you have to be safe to do it. [28:50] Dr. Katrina Furey: And you do need to be with a very skilled provider who knows what they're doing and knows how to handle when dissociative features might come up or when a panic attack might come up, and help you sort of stay present and feel safe is like the most important thing. [29:05] Dr. Jessi Gold: I think it's important for people to know that if you seek out trauma therapy, you're not going to dive immediately into it too, and you don't like this fear that you're going to say, Hi, nice to meet you. Tell me about that time in the wilderness when you're like, we don't do that. [29:20] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right? [29:20] Dr. Jessi Gold: Like, if you're trained in it, if you see the right kind of people, you get used into it. You will have those conversations. That's why you chose to have that therapy. But the purpose is not just to expose you and make you feel miserable. And so knowing that, I think, is important. [29:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: Some forms of trauma therapy now, like CPT, cognitive processing therapy without the trauma narrative, where you don't have to recall and detail the whole trauma narrative to do the therapy, how that's also been shown to be equally as effective as the version with the narrative. And I think that's really helpful for patients to hear because I think that is a big barrier to seeking it out is this fear that you're going to have to retell it and relive it over and over and over and over and that isn't always the case. [30:05] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah, there's a lot of fear in them telling their story, which you can tell even probably one of the better scenes is all of them as adults, kind of like talking about how messed up their lives actually are, listening to music and dancing and drinking yeah. Around the fire and it's kind of fun, but you're also like they're just like, telling each other how bad their lives are, but they don't tell anybody. Else. They don't trust anybody else. It's like a weird, sort of, like, peer support system that protected them for a long time. It has made them all really safe. [30:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. And the only time they could connect in that way again is when they're, like, out in the wilderness around a fire, which is so similar to the time they were stuck. [30:50] Portia Pendleton: It just feels re traumatizing. [30:55] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. [30:55] Portia Pendleton: And I didn't like watching it the whole last episode. I felt nervous when they started doing. [31:03] Dr. Katrina Furey: The stuff with the cards and then lottie's like, the Russian roulette with the poison, and I was just like, oh, no. But I did think it was amazing storytelling to have that going on in parallel to when they started doing that in the wilderness and how you could see again. You think of the coping skills you develop to survive in such a traumatic situation like that, and how they're sort of bubbling up again now in adulthood. [31:27] Portia Pendleton: And Natalie, is substance use certainly a coping skill? A way for her to kind of detach and then just her arc? I was sad to see spoiler alert. I had to see her go. [31:40] Dr. Jessi Gold: I'm really excited about hoping that they tell the future, too. Is this, like, sort of passing on of trauma to the next generation? [31:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes, with Callie, because there's, like, something. [31:52] Dr. Jessi Gold: Where she's known her mom is not okay for a very long time, but her mom won't talk to her about it. And you see in her mom's interview with the cops and stuff that she didn't really think she should be a mom. Not really worthy of it, not really able to do it correctly. You grow up and you know there's something there when you get older and you're able to have more of a sense of things. And they don't talk about it. The parents aren't talking about it. They disagree a lot, or they're not getting along. Well, you see that, too. And then she just wanted to be let in. She's been waiting to be let into the story her whole life. And I feel like she's been defensive and protective of her mom in ways that she wouldn't have been otherwise. But she's clearly been traumatized from the whole thing, too. I know. Even the stuff she thinks of doing for the cop and all that stuff, manipulative and whatever, but it's like, I. [32:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: Guess this is what we do, right? Yeah. Gosh. And I think a lot of people can probably relate to that, hopefully in a different way. But when you yourself have grown up with some sort of trauma or something, how and when do you share that with your kids in a way that keeps them feeling safe, but also promotes connection rather than this vibe that we don't talk about hard things? I have no idea. But this show, I think, depicts that like you're saying in a really intense way. Jesse, again, getting back to your article. What did you think about the depiction of Lottie's, what seems like a cult, and yet it didn't seem like Lottie had, like, a nefarious intent. Right. That I feel like a lot of cult leaders, there's usually a nefarious, selfish intent there. [33:36] Dr. Jessi Gold: I mean, it's a cold article for Slate on that, and part of it was because I was very curious about what the draw for people with mental illness and trauma is of colts. Yes, there's a lot of draw. The support and the understanding and that somebody listening to you. The acceptance attempt at finding a solution, which I think happens for a lot of our patients. And they turn to supplements and they turn to things that maybe feel quicker because somebody maybe gave them an answer, CBD something. And there's not a lot of great treatment or fast treatment for some of this. And it's nice to think there could be. I think there's some version of Lottie who is like her purpose in her mind is to help the wounded souls of the world without realizing that there's negative to what she's doing. And that's a lack of insight. Some of I don't know how much is purposefully hurtful as much as it is what she believes is right, but what she believes is right is unfortunately not really right. So you kind of have to say maybe her insight into right and wrong is not 100% there. [34:58] Dr. Katrina Furey: And again, why would it be, given what she went through? Right. [35:00] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah. I mean, given, like, that she wants to kill someone for the wilderness or give it blood. [35:07] Portia Pendleton: Right. And if she were to die, who then takes care of her? Right. Who then leads her people followers? [35:16] Dr. Katrina Furey: If she drinks the cyanide, what happens? Maybe it's Lisa. That girl. I don't know. [35:22] Portia Pendleton: I think it's definitely the lack of insight and just not I think she's ultimately that demonstrates to me selfishness because you're not thinking about all these people who you have living in this commune, taught to be here, where they're kind of surrounding you and your ideas. It's like, well, if I'm gone, you're not thinking about them. [35:41] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. No, that's a good point. I think I was comparing her this time to Keith Ranieri of the nexium cult. I don't know if you watch The Vow, but how they're again, clearly it's a cult. Right. They're not communicating with the outside world, even though they could. They all just choose not to. Right. They're all wearing purple. They're all doing sort of these woo woo things she holds onto the files. Yeah. And, like, the info. Right. So maybe there was more to it than we saw about what's she getting. [36:12] Dr. Jessi Gold: Out of it, being each other's family. [36:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: This is what works, and maybe that's enough for her. Maybe that's what she gets out of it, that community and belonging and sense of importance. [36:22] Portia Pendleton: And then it's for her, right? [36:24] Dr. Katrina Furey: For her rather than for everyone else. I did think it was interesting as we start wrapping up the way that the show and it seems like the characters maybe led by Lottie, but then they all kind of accept it to some degree, keep talking about the darkness within each of them and then the role of the wilderness or that mysticism role. And it made me think of is this how they're trying to externalize in some way these dark parts of themselves that they ended up using or relying on to survive? And I think we just sort of see that unfold as they grow into adulthood and as they all get back together and kind of redo another hunt at Lottie's psychotic urging. Quite frankly, at that point, I think she's like, fully psychotic. [37:21] Portia Pendleton: And I think it's just interesting. They all name it, though, right? [37:25] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, they all have the same name. [37:27] Portia Pendleton: Misty and Shauna all decide prehunt that they are going to go along with Lottie and her really psychotic ideas about. [37:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: One very dangerous yeah, very dangerous. [37:38] Portia Pendleton: And then I think it's so, like, why Ty and Van? [37:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: I was shocked. [37:44] Portia Pendleton: Van seems terminal. [37:46] Dr. Katrina Furey: She's a terminal illness. [37:48] Portia Pendleton: So is that her way you said before, of trying to be saved by Lottie? [37:52] Dr. Katrina Furey: Because it seems like Lottie has, like, quote unquote, saved Van in the past, or the wilderness has saved Van from all the time she should have died in the woods but didn't. And so I was stumped as to why they would call off the emergency medical personnel to take Lottie into treatment or traditional psychiatric treatment. And that was the only thing I could really come up with, was like, did Van think in some way Lottie could once again save her? I don't know. What do you think, Jesse, about all that? [38:22] Dr. Jessi Gold: I don't know. Or I feel like Van thought she would be chosen to sacrifice herself for people. I don't know. It's too obvious, too just like she would be the one to go and. [38:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: She was like, okay with it because she had a terminal illness or something. [38:38] Dr. Jessi Gold: It felt like a chicken thing that they all failed at stopping. Okay, someone's going to stop this, right? And maybe they thought Lottie would, because it's hard to see, like, in what we know about the past, we don't know how much Lottie is involved in the like, they start that game, like that game. I know people with card game. It's hard to know how much of that takes a life of its own, and it's not actually Lottie's life. And so maybe they were like, this isn't really what Lottie like, Lottie is going to be like, this is a bad idea. I don't know. And so it felt like to me, either Van was ready to self sacrifice or that they were all playing a game of chicken, that they were hoping someone would stop, and nobody did. And it felt like that as kids, a little bit too right. Someone's not going to kill Natalie. Right? And then they were like, oh, he fell in. [39:42] Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, my God. Right. [39:43] Dr. Jessi Gold: Super traumatic and very parallel to that. [39:46] Dr. Katrina Furey: Moose, the white moose. [39:49] Portia Pendleton: Yes. [39:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: I also wondered if that was real, that white moose or hallucination. [39:54] Dr. Jessi Gold: It's hard to know that if they thought it would actually go through. It's pretty clear. Shauna didn't. [40:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: She's like, oh. [40:01] Dr. Jessi Gold: She was like, what the serious? [40:03] Dr. Katrina Furey: Are you really seriously, guys? [40:05] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah, this is what's going on. And turn around and I don't know. [40:12] Portia Pendleton: And Ben's refusal. We talked about him really briefly before with his hallucinations. [40:19] Dr. Katrina Furey: At first I thought that was a. [40:20] Portia Pendleton: Flash forward and he made it home. [40:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: And he was with his boyfriend and it was all beautiful. And then I was like, oh, no. The season ends with Natalie's death at Misty's hand. We didn't get into Misty and Elijah Wood, but I just loved that pairing and their little caligula dance when she was in the sensory deprivation tank. So just shout out to that. But then we also see Ben burn down the house and it's still winter. Right? Aren't you terrified for like, oh, no, what are they going to do now? You know? It's got to be worse than what we've already seen because they survive. So, yeah. I'm just very nervous about this show. [41:01] Portia Pendleton: And time wise, I feel like someone has definitely figured it out on TikTok. I want to know when season two ends. How far are they into the 19 months? [41:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: Are we only like a third of the way in? [41:14] Portia Pendleton: Is this soon? [41:15] Dr. Jessi Gold: There are things that in this very meta, writers shout out to writers on. [41:21] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [41:21] Dr. Jessi Gold: But in this very meta, very awesome way of writing, the reason we don't know what's real or not is because they don't want us to, because the people don't. And the reason they have not given us any time clues except for seasons changing, is that's all they know, too? [41:38] Portia Pendleton: Yeah, that's a great point, and I. [41:41] Dr. Katrina Furey: Appreciate that about this show. The way they're telling the story and how the way they tell the story is so mirroring, I think their own traumatic experiences, like we're talking about with the hallucinations, the dissociating, the difficulty figuring out what's reality, what's not, I think that is exactly where they all are. But I'm, like, so scared of how are they going to survive without shelter now? [42:05] Portia Pendleton: And the season we had mentioned even last time is going to be delayed. [42:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [42:11] Portia Pendleton: Season three, because of the writer strike. And I think prior we said that last time. I don't know how we knew that if the writer strike was happening, but it's going to be a while, I think, until I feel like I need. [42:23] Dr. Katrina Furey: A pause because it's so intense. [42:26] Dr. Jessi Gold: Bonus episode again, I stay off the fan theories, but the showrunner confirmed it, so they have some bonus episode for the season that like Jason Ritterson that they will give release at some point, given that their showrunners very into the strike. I think she rightfully so. [42:45] Dr. Katrina Furey: Rightfully so. [42:49] Dr. Jessi Gold: Out of respect. I also think they only got, like, one writer's room for season three or something before this strike. So, yeah, I will get a break. [42:57] Dr. Katrina Furey: But yeah, these shows and the writing is just so astounding the way that they get it, right. [43:01] Portia Pendleton: Like, so much content to talk about. I mean, we feel what they feel, right? We feel anxious, we feel joy. And I think that's just like that's because there's these amazing, talented people working on all these shows, and that's why we're talking about them. [43:13] Dr. Jessi Gold: Right. I really hope that young Shauna gets some awards. Yeah, that's one thing I've been thinking about. Another thing I've been thinking about is how hard it must be to do that role. [43:29] Dr. Katrina Furey: We talk a lot about how I hope there's a therapist on set for the actors, for everyone who is part of this. Because even acting or pretending or assuming the role has got to be traumatic in its own way, right. [43:44] Dr. Jessi Gold: I mean, it has, right? To be basically like you're living wherever he gets filmed in Canada. I think you're taking the content in and embodying it. And some of that content is like I mean, all of that content is horrible. Right. They're all disturbing traumatized and starving or whatever. But, like, the people who have these really horrific storylines and need, like, extreme emotions, like, Shauna goes through, like, she beats the **** out of audience. Her emotions are very regulated in a way that somebody's actively experiencing trauma and years later experiencing trauma, we experience and embodying that in such a visceral way as, like, I don't know, she's in her 20s. Right, right. [44:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: Where can they pull that from? [44:35] Dr. Jessi Gold: Sitting apart, because you have your own story, your family has their own story. Whatever. You could have never gotten help for it before, and you're just doing the role and you need help later, but you just see that stuff and you're like, this is hard enough to watch. [44:51] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, definitely. [44:53] Dr. Jessi Gold: How many takes do they have to do? I don't know. I think that's just really hard. I do hope that they realize that that's okay. Right. [45:04] Dr. Katrina Furey: Well, Jesse, thank you so much for joining us once again as our Yellow Jackets correspondent in the field. We really appreciate it. Can you tell everyone where they can find you? [45:16] Dr. Jessi Gold: Sure. At Dr. Jessebold on TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, or Dr. Jessebold.com works too. [45:24] Dr. Katrina Furey: Awesome. And you can find us at Analyze Scripts on Instagram and Analyze Scripts podcasts on TikTok. And we will see you next Monday. Yeah, thank you. Bye. [45:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: This podcast and its contents are a copyright of Analyzed Scripts, all rights reserved. Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents in any form is prohibited. Unless you want to share it with. [45:52] Dr. Katrina Furey: Your friends and rate review and subscribe, that's fine. [45:55] Dr. Katrina Furey: All stories and characters discussed are fictional in nature. No identification with actual persons, living or deceased places, buildings or products is intended or should be inferred. This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. The podcast and its contents do not constitute professional mental health or medical advice. Listeners might consider consulting a mental health provider if they need assistance with any mental health problems or concerns. As always, please call 911 or go directly to your nearest emergency room for any psychiatric emergencies. Thanks for listening and see you next time. [46:39] Dr. Jessi Gold: Our channel.

Shoot for Success Photography Podcast with Sean Brown
#81 Approaching Mental Health as a Self-Employed Creative with Jennifer Bussey

Shoot for Success Photography Podcast with Sean Brown

Play Episode Listen Later May 8, 2023 55:01


One of the conversations that is coming up more frequently - which is so great to hear! - is the topic of mental health and how this plays a role in our day-to-day life. It affects us personally and professionally and without getting a hold on it, can lead us into places we don't want to be. I am so glad that Jennifer Bussey offered to come on the podcast and talk about this from the perspective of someone who has been through it. On this episode, we talk about: - How insecurities can sneak up and how to confront these before they become bigger detriments in your life. - How to identify if you're struggling from any depressive or anxious tendencies and what to do when you do face these. - Dissociating what happens in your business from you as an individual - What to do when you are feeling lonely and why you need to have a WHY at the pillar of your business. - - - - **This podcast is NOT a substitute for seeking professional help when needed and is simply a commentary on the subject. Need resources? National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org/ Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): https://www.samhsa.gov/ American Psychological Association (APA): https://www.apa.org/ National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): https://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml Mental Health America (MHA): https://www.mhanational.org/ Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/ Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ - - - - - Senior Photography Education Instagram: https://instagram.com/seniorphotoeducation Senior Photography Education Website: http://seniorphotographyeducation.com/ - - - - - If I were to tell you that working harder in your business won't get you to where you want to be, would you believe me? In fact, after coaching hundreds of photographers in every market across the country, the number one trait that they all shared when they were struggling was working harder than ever in hopes that things would finally come together. It wasn't until they figured out how to implement the proper frameworks and strategies that their business took off. That's why I've created the free on-demand video training series, Intro to Senior Photography Crash Course, to help photographers who want to start or grow their business without spending years struggling and trying to figure it out on their own. In this free training, I will teach you the steps you need to take that people like myself along with hundreds of other photographers have used to build their thriving business and be able to live the life they want to live. All you have to do is click the link in the show notes to unlock how to make that happen for you business and say yes to being the success senior photographer you've always dreamed of being. https://mailchi.mp/f440769d0946/senior-photography-crash-course - - - - - Want to be a part of the incredible group of photographers who are elevating their business, booking more clients, simplifying and streamlining their business to become more efficient and actually having a business that works for them? Be the first to know when doors open to the Mastermind by clicking the link right here: https://mastermind.seanbrownproductions.com/ - - - - - Are you following the Shoot for Success Podcast over on Instagram yet? If not, head over there to check us out and make sure to leave a DM so we can say hello! https://www.instagram.com/seniorphotoeducation/ - - - - - I want to know what you enjoy most about this podcast! Screenshot this episode and make sure to tag me @SeniorPhotoEducation when you share to your story about the one big takeaway you had from this episode! I want these to be as impactful as possible and this is just one way that you can help me make that happen!

His Heartbeat with Sue Corl
Should I Trust Jesus Again?

His Heartbeat with Sue Corl

Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2023 52:59


Today we are so excited to hang out again with our brother in Christ, Paul Granger. And we have a big question to address: Why are a vast number of young adults who've grown up in the church now walking away from the faith? What happened? How did we get here? Suffering, especially what seems like senseless suffering, unanswered prayers, other doctrines claiming truth, and misuse or miscomprehension of Scripture are serious obstacles that can leave us feeling tremendous pain and/or great confusion. Dissociating the pain from Jesus, Paul says, is a process. It takes time for truth to be unpacked, wounds to heal, trust to be rebuilt, and fears to die. The invitation back to trusting in Jesus rests securely in front of any uncertain heart. Should I trust Jesus again? Should I keep trusting Jesus? Don't wrestle with these questions alone, we encourage you to listen in. Please SUPPORT His Heartbeat through Crown of Beauty InternationalDonation Page// Cru-Crown of Beauty InternationalCONNECT with His Heartbeat and Crown of Beauty InternationalWebsite// Facebook//InstagramConnect with Sue Corl's Instagram//WebsiteSUBMIT your own scenarios or questionsEmail: crownofbeautyinternational@gmail.comVerses Mentioned in the Show:Acts 9:4John 16:33Luke 23:34Luke 15:11-32Matthew 7:7-8Genesis 50:20Jeremiah 29:11Resources Mentioned in the Show:Paul's Podcast: Where did you see God?The ChosenCrown of Beauty InternationalHis Heartbeat, Episode 69 with Paul - "God is God and God is Good"

The Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast
713 A Changed Life Begins With A Changed Thought - April 2023 Strong Within Affirmation Podcast

The Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later May 1, 2023 49:15


Join the Strong Within Community at www.strongwithin.com/community  Are you longing for a community of like-minded individuals who are committed to transforming their lives and becoming the strongest version of themselves? Look no further than the Strong Within Community! Our community is a place where you can connect with others who are on a similar journey towards growth and self-improvement. Whether you're looking to reframe your mindset, overcome limiting beliefs, or simply connect with others in a positive, uplifting space, our community has something for everyone. As a member of our community, you can expect to receive exclusive access to our Strong Within Manifesting Course, as well as weekly inspiration and encouragement from our founder, who has years of experience helping others achieve their goals and live their best lives. But that's not all - our community is also a place where you can come to ask questions, offer support, and find motivation when you need it most. Whether you're struggling with a difficult situation or simply need a boost of positivity, our community has your back. Best of all, our community is completely free - so what are you waiting for? Join the Strong Within Community today and start your journey towards living your strongest, most fulfilling life. We can't wait to welcome you! In this episode there were MANY take aways but I am focusing on 3 topics and the lessons you can get from this podcast: Understanding Trauma and Healing - Trauma and protection can lead to being tight and unable to fully release and heal - Similar to muscles that get injured and remain in an isometric state to protect themselves - Like myofascial release techniques like foam rolling and massage can help activate the golgi tendon organ to relax the muscle and release knots...we can do the same with our emotions and mental states Reframing and Shifting Vibrational Frequency - Focusing on trauma can create a cycle of overprotection and hinder the healing process.- Reframing emotions can help in processing them more efficiently and moving on - Being the observer and not getting stuck in victimhood or trauma can prevent staying stuck in it for a long time - Changing the vibrational frequency can be important Dissociating from Problems and Focusing on Solutions- People often get stuck in the box and can't see outside of it when they focus too hard on the problem. - Focusing too much on the problem trains the subconscious to only focus on the problem and not the solution. - We should train the subconscious to become observers of the problem instead of getting sucked into it. - By doing so, we disassociate ourselves from the problem and can find solutions more easily. _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there) Thanks for listening.  I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin  Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com  phone:865-219-3247 Let's connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn  www.instagram.com/thechrisohearn  Music by:  - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide  

Honey Are You Happy
Beating Bulimia and Binge Eating with therapist Scarlett

Honey Are You Happy

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2023 59:36


In this episode I am joined by Scarlett O'Connor; recovered bulimic turned eating disorder therapist. Scarlett shares her own journey through eating disorder recovery including: Impact on family life Her husband as an enabler Managing anxiety in recovery Dissociating from the illness How she helps people through her therapeutic approach. You can find more about Scarlett's coaching on her: Website Linked In Facebook Connect with me Instagram Blog FREE Journaling Guide FREE Intuitive Eating Guide

What It's Like To Be You
#19: Czan, Type 9 – Twice an Immigrant, Toggling "Existing" On/Off, & Owl Medicine [SO/SP 9w1 953]

What It's Like To Be You

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2023 75:42


Czan [SO/SP 9w1 953] is a software engineer for a gaming company and currently lives in the US. He's an original Enneagram thinker, and "Attachment to Disconnect" is his profound insight into how Attachment types create situations to continue reaching for connection, rather than stably connecting. Czan has experience with various inner work modalities and has excellent insights about being an Enneagram 9. I'll add that I experienced his 5 fix vividly in this conversation, which you'll see in the way Czan maintains intellectual separateness. --- Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:32 Enneagram Origin Story 5:14 Twice an immigrant; adapting to new cultures; 5 fix figuring it out by myself; trauma from this pattern -- no one here like me; "The resolution needs to come in community"; Immigrant as metaphor for attachment 11:34 What grabbed you about the Enneagram? Mistyping as 5; Wanting to talk about the Enneagram without talking about the Enneagram 14:51 NOT an Ennea-vangelist; refuting Josh's suggestion that finding universal language is an attachment dynamic 17:10 Attachment vs Social & desire for belonging? Czan's idea: "The Existential Object" for 4, 5, & 9 20:30 Czan's loud 5-fix, not absorbing others' orientation; couldn't be an academic bc need to converse with other scholars 23:56 So why are you a 9, not a 5?; Czan's theory, 9's seeking "existence" in the world, 5's not 28:10 Toggling on and off; "when I'm observing, nothing's going on inside" 30:18 Dissociating -- when things "start to get muffled"; "Existing" or not existing in relationship 36:03 Merging with others, taking on their discomfort; Best thing I could do for my parents as a kid was "be okay" and not need a lot 37:54 Taking on mom's (& others') emotional burden; I'm helping them carry their heavy luggage, not realizing I have a limit to my emotional capacity 39:14 Internal Family Systems (IFS) & Psychedelics 42:01 The metaconversation (!); paradox 9 relational merging & 5 intellectual independence; Czan's 5 fix "vs" Josh's 6 fix 49:24 Josh's object relations theory & the body center 55:44 Ayahuasca and Owl Medicine; not opening to overwhelm or closing myself off, but preening and holding myself as I move through the world 1:00:26 Reflections; 9's virtue of engagement; taking responsibility for washing myself, so I can stay open to be affected by things, to live 1:03:42 Not wasting anger, taking care of "the mud in me," and "using it to grow lotus flowers"; creativity, passion 1:10:16 Attachment to Disconnect 1:13:57 Fitness, getting into my body, trying to "live" the Enneagram and not just cerebralize it --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram9 #enneagramtype9 #enneagraminterview #9w1

What It's Like To Be You
#19: Czan, Type 9 -- Twice an Immigrant, Toggling "Existing" On/Off, & Owl Medicine [SO/SP 9w1 953]

What It's Like To Be You

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 28, 2023 75:42


Czan [SO/SP 9w1 953] is a software engineer for a gaming company and currently lives in the US. He's an original Enneagram thinker, and "Attachment to Disconnect" is his profound insight into how Attachment types create situations to continue reaching for connection, rather than stably connecting. Czan has experience with various inner work modalities and has excellent insights about being an Enneagram 9. I'll add that I experienced his 5 fix vividly in this conversation, which you'll see in the way Czan maintains intellectual separateness. --- Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:32 Enneagram Origin Story 5:14 Twice an immigrant; adapting to new cultures; 5 fix figuring it out by myself; trauma from this pattern -- no one here like me; "The resolution needs to come in community"; Immigrant as metaphor for attachment 11:34 What grabbed you about the Enneagram? Mistyping as 5; Wanting to talk about the Enneagram without talking about the Enneagram 14:51 NOT an Ennea-vangelist; refuting Josh's suggestion that finding universal language is an attachment dynamic 17:10 Attachment vs Social & desire for belonging? Czan's idea: "The Existential Object" for 4, 5, & 9 20:30 Czan's loud 5-fix, not absorbing others' orientation; couldn't be an academic bc need to converse with other scholars 23:56 So why are you a 9, not a 5?; Czan's theory, 9's seeking "existence" in the world, 5's not 28:10 Toggling on and off; "when I'm observing, nothing's going on inside" 30:18 Dissociating -- when things "start to get muffled"; "Existing" or not existing in relationship 36:03 Merging with others, taking on their discomfort; Best thing I could do for my parents as a kid was "be okay" and not need a lot 37:54 Taking on mom's (& others') emotional burden; I'm helping them carry their heavy luggage, not realizing I have a limit to my emotional capacity 39:14 Internal Family Systems (IFS) & Psychedelics 42:01 The metaconversation (!); paradox 9 relational merging & 5 intellectual independence; Czan's 5 fix "vs" Josh's 6 fix 49:24 Josh's object relations theory & the body center 55:44 Ayahuasca and Owl Medicine; not opening to overwhelm or closing myself off, but preening and holding myself as I move through the world 1:00:26 Reflections; 9's virtue of engagement; taking responsibility for washing myself, so I can stay open to be affected by things, to live 1:03:42 Not wasting anger, taking care of "the mud in me," and "using it to grow lotus flowers"; creativity, passion 1:10:16 Attachment to Disconnect 1:13:57 Fitness, getting into my body, trying to "live" the Enneagram and not just cerebralize it --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram9 #enneagramtype9 #enneagraminterview #9w1

Noodles at Noon
Episode 96: "Dissociating Whale Imagery"

Noodles at Noon

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2023 53:24


Is this a tech podcast now? Ben and Noah relive the glory days of the iPod and the Nintendo Wii. Plus, the follow-up to our hotly contested political debate from last week. Games this week: "Idiomsyncracy"

anything goes with emma chamberlain
how i deal with dissociating and anxiety [video]

anything goes with emma chamberlain

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2023 42:27


[video] today i wanted to talk about something super fun, super lighthearted, super hashtag good vibes. that's just the mood I'm in today. so today i wanted to talk about my anxiety. yayyyyyyy. i wanted to talk about it because it's one of the most challenging things i deal with on a daily basis. i've struggled with a lot of different mental health struggles. anxiety is definitely not the only one. but i would say anxiety has been the most challenging overall, and it just never really seems to go away for me. it's something that i'm constantly battling, and so i just wanted to talk about my experience and how i deal with it. and that's what's on the agenda. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This Week in Machine Learning & Artificial Intelligence (AI) Podcast
Does ChatGPT “Think”? A Cognitive Neuroscience Perspective with Anna Ivanova - #620

This Week in Machine Learning & Artificial Intelligence (AI) Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 13, 2023 45:05


Today we're joined by Anna Ivanova, a postdoctoral researcher at MIT Quest for Intelligence. In our conversation with Anna, we discuss her recent paper Dissociating language and thought in large language models: a cognitive perspective. In the paper, Anna reviews the capabilities of LLMs by considering their performance on two different aspects of language use: 'formal linguistic competence', which includes knowledge of rules and patterns of a given language, and 'functional linguistic competence', a host of cognitive abilities required for language understanding and use in the real world. We explore parallels between linguistic competence and AGI, the need to identify new benchmarks for these models, whether an end-to-end trained LLM can address various aspects of functional competence, and much more!  The complete show notes for this episode can be found at twimlai.com/go/620.

Delusions of Grandeur: The Podcast
Episode 24: Anxiety

Delusions of Grandeur: The Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2023 33:46


Janet's strategies for overcoming anxiety. Everyone has a big thing. Ignoring your instincts. Zooming out into the solar system. Larry David's limp shoulders. Gaslighting yourself. Being drunk and anxious. Questioning your brain. Shutting it down. Becoming an Übermensch. Public speaking. Feed the right wolf. The bedtime anxiety monster. The hormone roller coaster. Dissociating on stage. 30, 60 or 90 percent of people don't have Bob Fosse as their internal monologue. (Recorded on February 5, 2023)

Inner Monologue with Olivia Neill
mini monologue: i realise i'm very good at dissociating

Inner Monologue with Olivia Neill

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 10, 2023 19:10


i'm baaack with my take on the unhealthyTikTok cosmetic tweakment trends i've been seeing (be careful out there guys, and do your research before you get anythingggg done!), the exercise I love atm (but not going to same gym as my ex right now lol) and how I space out when I'm running lol. love u bye xx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Nonlinear Library
AF - Critique of some recent philosophy of LLMs' minds by Roman Leventov

The Nonlinear Library

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2023 37:35


Welcome to The Nonlinear Library, where we use Text-to-Speech software to convert the best writing from the Rationalist and EA communities into audio. This is: Critique of some recent philosophy of LLMs' minds, published by Roman Leventov on January 20, 2023 on The AI Alignment Forum. I structure this post as a critique of some recent papers on the philosophy of mind in application to LLMs, concretely, on whether we can say that LLMs think, reason, understand language, refer to the real world when producing language, have goals and intents, etc. I also use this discussion as a springboard to express some of my views about the ontology of intelligence, agency, and alignment. Mahowald, Ivanova, et al., “Dissociating language and thought in large language models: a cognitive perspective” (Jan 2023). Note that this is a broad review paper, synthesising findings from computational linguistics, cognitive science, and neuroscience, as well as offering an engineering vision (perspective) of building an AGI (primarily, in section 5). I don't argue with these aspects of the paper's content (although I disagree with something about their engineering perspective, I think that engaging in this disagreement would be infohazarous). I argue with the philosophical content of the paper, which is revealed in the language that the authors use and the conclusions that they make, as well as the ontology of linguistic competencies that the authors propose. Shanahan, “Talking About Large Language Models” (Dec 2022). Dissociating language and thought in large language models: a cognitive perspective In this section, I shortly expose the gist of the paper by Mahowald, Ivanova, et al., for the convenience of the reader. Abstract: Today's large language models (LLMs) routinely generate coherent, grammatical and seemingly meaningful paragraphs of text. This achievement has led to speculation that these networks are—or will soon become—“thinking machines”, capable of performing tasks that require abstract knowledge and reasoning. Here, we review the capabilities of LLMs by considering their performance on two different aspects of language use: ‘formal linguistic competence', which includes knowledge of rules and patterns of a given language, and 'functional linguistic competence', a host of cognitive abilities required for language understanding and use in the real world. Drawing on evidence from cognitive neuroscience, we show that formal competence in humans relies on specialized language processing mechanisms, whereas functional competence recruits multiple extralinguistic capacities that comprise human thought, such as formal reasoning, world knowledge, situation modeling, and social cognition. In line with this distinction, LLMs show impressive (although imperfect) performance on tasks requiring formal linguistic competence, but fail on many tests requiring functional competence. Based on this evidence, we argue that (1) contemporary LLMs should be taken seriously as models of formal linguistic skills; (2) models that master real-life language use would need to incorporate or develop not only a core language module, but also multiple non-language-specific cognitive capacities required for modeling thought. Overall, a distinction between formal and functional linguistic competence helps clarify the discourse surrounding LLMs' potential and provides a path toward building models that understand and use language in human-like ways. Two more characteristic quotes from the paper: In addition to being competent in the rules and statistical regularities of language, a competent language user must be able to use language to do things in the world: to talk about things that can be seen or felt or heard, to reason about diverse topics, to make requests, to perform speech acts, to cajole, prevaricate, and flatter. In other words, we use language to send and receive information from other perceptual and cognitive systems, such as our senses and our memory, and...

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience
Grasping with a twist: Dissociating action goals from motor actions in human frontoparietal circuits

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2023


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2023.01.02.522486v1?rss=1 Authors: Rens, G., Figley, T. D., Gallivan, J. P., Liu, Y., Culham, J. Abstract: In daily life, prehension is typically not the end goal of hand-object interactions but a precursor for manipulation. Nevertheless, functional MRI (fMRI) studies investigating manual manipulation have primarily relied on prehension as the end goal of an action. Here, we used slow event-related fMRI to investigate differences in neural activation patterns between prehension in isolation and prehension for object manipulation. Eighteen participants were instructed either to simply grasp the handle of a rotatable dial (isolated prehension) or to grasp and turn it (prehension for object manipulation). We used representational similarity analysis to investigate whether the experimental conditions could be discriminated from each other based on differences in task-related brain activation patterns. We also used temporal multivoxel pattern analysis to examine the evolution of regional activation patterns over time. Importantly, we were able to differentiate isolated prehension and prehension for manipulation from activation patterns in the early visual cortex, the caudal intraparietal sulcus, and the superior parietal lobule. Our findings indicate that object manipulation extends beyond the putative cortical grasping network (anterior intraparietal sulcus, premotor and motor cortices) to include the superior parietal lobule and early visual cortex. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info Podcast created by Paper Player, LLC

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ATG9A facilitates the biogenesis of influenza A virus liquid condensates near the ER by dissociating recycling vesicles from microtubules

PaperPlayer biorxiv cell biology

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 22, 2022


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2022.12.21.521536v1?rss=1 Authors: Vale-Costa, S., Etibor, T. A., Bras, D., Sousa, A. L., Amorim, M. J. Abstract: Many viruses that threaten public health establish condensates via phase transitions to complete their lifecycles, and knowledge on such processes is key for the design of new antivirals. In the case of influenza A virus, liquid condensates known as viral inclusions are sites dedicated to the assembly of its 8-partite RNA genome. Liquid viral inclusions emerge near the endoplasmic reticulum (ER) exit sites, but we lack the molecular understanding on how the ER contributes to their biogenesis. We show here that viral inclusions develop at remodeled ER sites and display dynamic interactions using the ER, including fusion and fission events and sliding movements. We also uncover a novel role for the host factor, ATG9A, in mediating the exchange of viral inclusions between the ER and microtubules. Depletion of ATG9A arrests viral inclusions at microtubules and prevents their accumulation at the ER, leading to a significantly reduced production of viral genome complexes and infectious virions. In light of our recent findings, we propose that a remodeled ER supports the dynamics of liquid IAV inclusions, with ATG9A acting locally to facilitate their formation. This work advances our current knowledge regarding influenza genome assembly, but also reveals new roles for ATG9A beyond its classical involvement in autophagy. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info Podcast created by Paper Player, LLC

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Dissociating Attentional Capture from Action Cancellation in the Stop Signal Task

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2022


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2022.12.20.521300v1?rss=1 Authors: Weber, S., Salomoni, S., Kilpatrick, C., Hinder, M. Abstract: Inhibiting ongoing responses when environmental demands change is a critical component of human motor control. Experimentally, the stop signal task (SST) represents the gold standard response inhibition paradigm. However, an emerging body of evidence suggests that the SST conflates two dissociable sources of inhibition, namely an involuntarily pause associated with attentional capture and the (subsequent) voluntary cancellation of action. The extent to which these processes also occur in other response tasks is unknown. 24 younger (20-35 years) and 23 older (60-85 years) adults completed a series of tasks involving rapid unimanual or bimanual responses to a visual stimulus. A subset of trials required cancellation of one component of an initial bimanual response (i.e., selective stop task; stop left response, continue with right response) or enacting an additional response (e.g., press left button as well as right button). Critically, both tasks involved some infrequent stimuli which bore no behavioural imperative (i.e., they had to be ignored). EMG recordings of voluntary responses during the stopping tasks revealed bimanual covert responses (i.e., muscle activation which was suppressed before a button press ensued), consistent with a pause process, following both stop and ignore stimuli, before the required response was subsequently enacted. Critically, we also observed the behavioural consequences of a similar involuntary pause in trials where action cancellation was not part of the response set (i.e., when the additional stimulus required additional action or ignoring, but not inhibition). The findings shed new light on the mechanisms of inhibition and their generalisability to other task contexts. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info Podcast created by Paper Player, LLC

Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive
174 Support for Neurodivergent Parents with Dr. Rahimeh Andalibian & Sara Goodrich

Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2022 67:01 Transcription Available


Most of the resources related to parenting and neurodiversity are geared toward helping neurodivergent children, not neurodivergent parents, so this episode aims to help close that gap. Whether you (or your partner, if you have one) have a diagnosis or you see yourself (or them) struggling but can't quite figure out why, this episode may help. Autism and ADHD are diagnosed at wildly differing rates in girls and boys (in large part because boys' symptoms often turn outward while girls' symptoms turn inward), which means that girls are very often undiagnosed and unsupported well into adulthood. Dr. A. may help you to identify neurodivergence in yourself or your partner, and then connect you to resources to support you on your journey. Find more about Dr. A's practice at SpectrumServicesNYC.com I also very much appreciated Dr. A's memoir The Rose Hotel (affiliate link) about her experiences in Iran during the revolution, and later in the U.K. and the U.S. Jump to highlights (00:03) Introduction to this episode. (03:07) What kind of patterns do you see in couples where one partner is known to be neurodivergent? (07:28) It's often the female-identifying partner who is the one who identifies the issue. (11:46) What are some of the red flags for neurodivergent partners? (16:05) Men tend to flood four times as fast as their female partners when they are in an argument. (21:43) How do I support my partner in being a successful parent and also find more balance in terms of what they bring to the family? (25:38) What do we do with this knowledge that we have? (30:31) Dealing with conflict between the couple. (32:46) What do you think of the idea of trauma as a factor in ADHD? (36:12) Diagnosis of ADHD is multi-directional –. (41:56) Mental health is still stigmatized and getting a diagnosis could backfire on you. (42:31) What is a diagnosis and how does it help? (47:44) The different types of ADHD. (53:03) Social calendaring and extracurricular activities. (54:46) Time blocking is a better approach for ADHD. (01:01:45) Strengths of people with ADHD. References Blair, R.J.R. (2005). Responding to the emotions of others: Dissociating forms of empathy through the study of typical and psychiatric populations. Consciousness and Cognition 14(4), 698-718. Bostock-Ling, J.S. (2017, December). Life satisfaction of neurotypical women in intimate relationships with a partner who has Asperger's Syndrome: An exploratory study. Unpublished Master's thesis: The University of Sydney. Chronis-Tuscano, A., & Stein, M.A. (2012). Pharmapsychotherapy for parents with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD): Impact on maternal ADHD and parenting. CNS Drugs 26(9), 725-732. Chronis-Tuscano, A., O'Brien, K.A., Johnston, C., Jones, H.A., Clarke, T.L., Raggi, V.L., Rooney, M.E., Diaz, Y., Pian, J., & Seymour, K.E. (2011). The relation between...

Self-Belief Chief
Ep 196: Sarah Dissociating From Pain

Self-Belief Chief

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 2, 2022 7:39


In this episode, we look at a client who feels stuck as the future she wants is no longer possible. To get unstuck we have 2 choices - either change the picture of how the future could look, or leverage more control. The names and details have been changed to protect client confidentiality...the rest of the story… is true. More Information: https://www.selfbeliefchief.com/ Schedule Zoom Call: https://go.oncehub.com/DavidHulman1/ #confidence #selfbelief #belief #selfconfidence #career #business #relationships #love #heartbreak #growth #faith #mental health #selfimprovement #health

No Flowers In This Attic
Dissociating with Parasocial Relationships When You Got Trauma and Autism

No Flowers In This Attic

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 23, 2022 72:01


If you saw this ep yesterday, yes I redid it.

Good Talks
Tori Holmes, wellness leader and best-selling author speaks to the importance of exercising your self space, dissociating in today's world, and catches us up on her past and present adventures

Good Talks

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2022 94:11


#10: Wellness Leader and best-selling author Tori Holmes joins your host Cam Good outside their usual weekly workshop to express the importance of breathwork, exercising your self space, uncovering your lifequake, building resilience, and how you can break through to live the life you want to feel. On top of breaking down these life barriers, Tori speaks about her incredible journey rowing across the Atlantic Ocean to living life in Bali and her latest adventure discovering Egypt.

The Growth Booth
How to Work Less and Make More, with James Schramko | The Growth Booth #36

The Growth Booth

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 13, 2022 26:54 Transcription Available


Is it really possible to make more by working less? What does “working less” mean exactly?Welcome to the 36th episode of The Growth Booth Podcast, a show focused on supporting budding entrepreneurs and established business owners alike, towards achieving lifestyle freedom through building successful online businesses.In this episode, Aidan is joined by James Schramko, bestselling author of Work Less, Make More. Listen in as we talk about freeing up time from work while still earning the same – or maybe make even more! Discover how you can use this concept to streamline your business operations, and learn what your most valuable resource is.Whether you're looking for step-by-step strategies to start building an online business, simple game plans to grow your business, or proven lifestyle freedom frameworks, you're in the right place.Stay tuned and be sure to join the thousands of listeners already in growth mode!Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:29 Working Less and Making More05:40 The 64/4 Rule11:11 Running Teams14:45 Episode Sponsor15:18 Who To Hire First19:57 Dissociating from Time = Money25:28 OutroLinks and Resources Mentioned:BluePrint Academy - https://thegrowthbooth.com/academy   Work Less, Make More, James Schramko - https://amzn.to/3e6IUQE About Our Host:Aidan Booth is passionate about lifestyle freedom and has focused on building online businesses to achieve this since 2005. From affiliate marketing to eCommerce, small business marketing to SAAS (software as a service), online education to speaking at seminars, the journey has been a rollercoaster ride with plenty of thrills along the way. Aidan is proud to have helped thousands of entrepreneurs earn their first dollar online, and coached many people to build million-dollar businesses. Aidan and his business partner (Steven Clayton) are the #1 ranked vendors on Clickbank.com, and sell their products in over 100 countries globally, as well as in 20,000+ stores across the USA, to generate 8-figures annually.Away from the online world, Aidan is a proud Dad of two young kids, an avid investor, a swimming enthusiast, and a nomadic traveler. Let's Connect!●  Visit the website: https://thegrowthbooth.com/ ●  Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aidanboothonline ●  Let's connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aidanboothonline/ ●  Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheGrowthBooth Thanks for tuning in! Please don't forget to like, share, and subscribe!

It's A Thing
Dissociating Ramen, Beautiful VTube - It's a Thing 230

It's A Thing

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 11, 2022 36:48


Tom and Molly compare terrible weather. Then Tom calls out the latest form of creator as a thing and Molly hacks ramen. After that Tom pines for the latest meme thing, while Molly finds a new beauty thing. Get the transcript here.LINKS: Ramen HacksVTubersThe Best ChrisDIY Beauty Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience
The Role of the Posterior Medial Network in Language Comprehension: Dissociating Construction of Episodic versus Semantic Representations

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 4, 2022


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2022.09.03.506471v1?rss=1 Authors: Branzi, F. M., Lambon Ralph, M. Abstract: Language comprehension involves the construction of complex mental representations, i.e., event representations, reflecting current events or situation models. The construction of these representations requires manipulation of both semantic and episodic content and has been widely associated with the functioning of the posterior medial network, a subsystem of the default network. However, it is still unknown the extent to which activity in posterior medial network reflects construction of the variable episodic versus semantic content of event representations. In this fMRI study, we establish the unique neural correlates of (1) episodic richness and (2) semantic coherence measured during a narrative reading task. Interestingly, we observed a functional fractionation within the posterior medial network in terms of brain regions whose activity was modulated by semantic or episodic content. Specifically, the number of episodic details in the narratives modulated the activity in the left angular gyrus and the retrosplenial cortex/ventral posterior cingulate cortex. Semantic coherence, in contrast, modulated neural responses in the right anterior temporal lobe/middle temporal gyrus, but also in brain regions within the posterior medial network, such as the dorsal posterior cingulate cortex. These results provide the first demonstration of functional dissociations within the posterior medial network in terms of brain regions involved in the construction of semantic versus episodic representational content during a language comprehension task. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info Podcast created by PaperPlayer

Mental Health for Christian Women
Am I Dissociating? What is Dissociation? Why Do I Dissociate?

Mental Health for Christian Women

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 25, 2022 11:10


C-PTSD, PTSD and other experiences can cause dissociation.  What is Dissociation?  Why Does Dissociation Happen?  You may wonder, "Am I Dissociating?"   Mental Health for Christian Women involves knowing how to manage dissociation so that trauma can be processed, as it can't be processed if the client is flooded or overwhelmed.   To learn more about dissociation, derealization, and  depersonalization, listen in to Mental Health for Christian Women.  

Poetry Says
Ep 188. Ursula Robinson-Shaw: Beast Mode

Poetry Says

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 15, 2022 66:54


Contains adult themes. Show notes Ursula Robinson-Shaw's chapbooks Noonday and YEARN MALLEY sick leave Dissociating the Novel (review of New Animal by Ella Baxter) Where Do We Go From Nowhere? (review of Nostalgia Has Ruined My Life by Zarah Butcher-McGunnigle) Fleabag Nanette Maggie Nelson's The Argonauts On Heteropessimism by Asa Seresin Mike Crumplar The Garret … Continue reading "Ep 188. Ursula Robinson-Shaw: Beast Mode"

The Out of the Cave Podcast
Your Body Is Your Friend with Ilona

The Out of the Cave Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2022 70:42


Ilona found Lisa through the Omega Institute and was so inspired by her journey that she joined the Out of the Cave team after going through group coaching! Today she shares her experience of growing up feeling completely disconnected and dissociated from her body as a result of trauma. Ilona and Lisa discuss when weight loss feels unsafe, the impact of trauma in our relationships with food and our bodies, and allowing yourself to speak your truth. Topics include: [5:40] Food as comfort from a very young age. Going with her mom to Weight Watchers around 7 or 8, personal perceptions of weight versus looking back at pictures with a more realistic mindset. Growing into a hyperawareness of body image during the normal changes that come with puberty and adolescence. “Fat is safe” as a response to trauma. [13:29] “This is my body and we're not friends.” Weight loss felt unsafe when it did occur, such as experiencing unwanted attention from a male coworker. Living in your head instead of living in your body - that sense of disconnect and dissociation from your physical self. [22:40] The impact of trauma on our relationships with our selves and our bodies. Dissociating as a form of self protection. [27:46] Discovering John Gabriel and the Gabriel Method, eventually leading her to connect with Lisa. Coming home fired up and ready to make the changes and the risk of immediate burnout from making too many changes at once. [38:22] Joining group coaching, finding connection and support through shared trauma in food. The nerves and anxiety of wanting to share but holding back, concerned about how your authentic self and truth might be received by others. Moving into a space where she could allow herself to dress her body in bright colors and styles she wouldn't have worn before. [48:12] Embodiment and connection with others in our journey toward safety. Accepting your current body the way it is. The exhaustion of experiencing emotions and allowing yourself to seek refuge in friendship. [57:51] Validating your own frustration about a lot of the unhelpful advice about dieting and losing weight from people who don't understand that it's not about food. Understanding that it's about emotional progress, not about the number on the scale or the measurements of your body. The 21 Day Journal Challenge is starting today, Monday July 25th! Take this opportunity to set a daily journaling practice with the support of a an energetic and understanding community. Learn more at https://outofthecave.health/journal-challenge Early Bird pricing for September group coaching program is available now! Get $500 off your registration until July 31st. Apply now at https://www.outofthecave.health/work-with-me Join the first ever Out of the Cave and Into Your Power retreat in gorgeous San Diego! Get your ticket now at https://www.outofthecave.health/retreat

YUTORAH: R' Shaya Katz -- Recent Shiurim
Peshischa On The Parsha: Elevating -Not Dissociating- From Materialism; Seeing The Whole Person/People; Preempting Our Inclinations

YUTORAH: R' Shaya Katz -- Recent Shiurim

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 14, 2022 25:43


Marilyn Denis & Jamar
Best Season/Dissociating/What NOT to do on a dating profile

Marilyn Denis & Jamar

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2022 47:44


Catch Marilyn Denis & Jamar weekday mornings 5a-9a on CHUM 104.5!

LET IT OUT
Anger Problems: Valerie Chaney Returns

LET IT OUT

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2022 122:38


Back for the first time in 7 years is my good friend Valerie Chaney. Val is a meditation and mindfulness educator, writer and the co-host of the We Made It Weird podcast with her husband, comedian Pete Holmes. Val is hilarious, gentle, wise, incredibly smart and one of my favorite people. It was no surprise when we talked for over three hours, so I'm splitting up this episode into two parts.Val trained with Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield, who both have informed her work within healing trauma, mindfulness, meditation, and embodiment, which we speak about at length in this first part. We begin part one by discussing anger—and our problem with expressing it. We cover Internal Family Systems, learning to inhabit your body, embodiment vs. dissociating, attachment styles, fear of being alone, and how to approach all these insights with gentleness. In addition to her mindfulness work, Val is one of the most talented and creative people I know: she teaches dance, sings in a choir and, most recently, wrote a screenplay, which she discusses at the end of part one. Believe it or not, there's a part two (next week)! It's a bit sillier and we cover more about therapy, what we were like as teens, mean girls, finding your hobbies and creative process, as well as the rom coms and style trends we love from the early 2000s. Show notes:- Follow Val on Instagram- Listen to the We Made It Weird podcast with Val and Pete on Apple Podcasts | Spotify- There is one spot open in my creative clinic -- if you'd like to book a free session, book here!- Subscribe to our newsletter to get show notes + essays, etc. sent to your inbox- Follow @letitouttt on Instagram. I'm @katiedalebout Sponsors:- Wondery: Call Me Curious - listen early and ad-free by subscribing to Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts or the Wondery app!- Find the best prices on prescriptions now by joining GoodRx. Go to goodrx.com/letitout to see how much you might be overpaying!- Start smelling amazing with Native's lineup of natural deodorants, soaps, body wash, and more! Get 20% off your first order at nativedeo.com/letitout and enter code letitout at checkout!

Ask Kati Anything!
What are Body Memories? AKA podcast ep.100

Ask Kati Anything!

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2022 71:11


Ask Kati Anything! Your mental health podcast with Kati Morton, LMFT episode 1001. What exactly are body memories? How do I know I have them, what do they feel like and what options are there to treat them? In your last podcast you were talking a lot about body memories and wondered whether you would share some more information about them. 2. I find I tend to wallow in negative thoughts when I am in bed, before I fall asleep. I go over old arguments, think about past events that upset me, and despair over things I dislike about myself. It can spiral into thoughts of suicide or self-harm fantasies. While I'm improving in many areas...3. Sometimes it seems like you answer the same kind of questions each week so here is a different question. Do you have any ideas why I feel the need to masturbate whenever I feel stressed or sad? I have noticed that I do this often but I never thought much of it until watching...4. Why do we invalidate ourselves? When talking with my therapist at my last appt she had made the comment when dealing with past trauma and I found my mind instantly putting up a block and wanting to say I don't have trauma even though I know that's what it is (CSA). Even with c-ptsd I...5. Can you talk about ‘Splitting' in Borderline Personality Disorder vs Trauma Bonds? Is it harder for people with BPD to tell they're in a trauma bond because they think it's just their borderline acting up and making them view their partner badly? (Splitting). Are people with BPD...6. I am curious if having s*x that you don't want but said yes to can be traumatizing. I have social phobia and was at that point not able to say “no” cause I was so scared. I think I dissociated a little while it happened. I couldn't move, talk or feel my body while at the same time being in quite bad pain....7.  My question is related to trauma. Is it possible that my therapist is not having me process being raped because I am in the middle of an ongoing trauma with my daughter? Is it a bad idea to process things while they are still happening?  8. I'm in my late 20's and I am just about to start studying in a course on mental health. I'm excited because I love learning and I am passionate about all things involving mental health, but I'm also terrified at the same time and I'm wondering if this is the right fit for me...9. In what way do you think mental illness affects a marriage most? More specifically, what is the best way to manage depression in a healthy marriage?BooksTraumatized   https://geni.us/Bfak0j  -  0rder Yours TodayAre u ok?    http://bit.ly/2s0mULy  - In Stores NowAmazon Suggestions https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonOnline TherapyI do not currently offer online therapy.  My sponsor BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit https://betterhelp.com/katiPatreonDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (my afterhours podcast)https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/Business Contact  Linnea Toney  linnea@underscoretalent.com Mail1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110B Box #353 Austin, TX 78728If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency roomSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton)

The Authentic Life Podcast
How to stay embodied in your spiritual practice without dissociating

The Authentic Life Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 7, 2022 44:14


One of the ways that the new-age industry participates in the hate economy is through the politics of dissociated spirituality. Dissociated spirituality is strategic for the hate economy to hold power over us. Simply put, it's a “divide and conquer” approach aimed to fragment & hijack our consciousness. The more dissociated we are, the more disempowered we are towards anyone and anything that tries to sell us s**t. Hence why the spiritual materialism sector of new-age is booming.A big part of sacred activism is reclaiming the parts of our consciousness that have been severed off and used against us without our conscious awareness or consent. To use without consent constitutes abuse. Spiritual abuse is rampant in new-age because the industry thrives within a systematic structure of domination, coercion, and control. By dissociating, we conform to the needs of this structure. How do we deepen our relationship with spirituality, especially those teachings that tend to be misunderstood and manipulated by new-age, without dissociating? We explore this central question in  this foundational episode on the psycho-spiritual mechanisms of dissociation, how it relates to trauma, specific strategies the new-age industry uses to capitalize on our vulnerabilities/trauma, and some self-inquiry questions to guide your wholesome spiritual practice.Enjoy! Comments? Email me at seekingwithsattva@gmail.com.Further reading: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists by Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, and Suzette Boon. Dissociation work should be done with a licensed trauma-informed therapist.  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seekingwithsattva.substack.com

Naruhodo
Naruhodo #306 - Sentir gratidão faz bem pra saúde?

Naruhodo

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 18, 2021 58:45


Quem nunca se sentiu grato por outra pessoa de forma genuína?Ou mesmo por um acontecimento específico?Qual o poder que esse sentimento tem sobre as relações humanas?E o que é balela, segundo a ciência?Confira no papo entre o leigo curioso, Ken Fujioka, e o cientista PhD, Altay de Souza.> OUÇA (58min 45s)*Naruhodo! é o podcast pra quem tem fome de aprender. Ciência, senso comum, curiosidades, desafios e muito mais. Com o leigo curioso, Ken Fujioka, e o cientista PhD, Altay de Souza.Edição: Reginaldo Cursino.http://naruhodo.b9.com.br*PARCERIA: ALURAA Alura tem mais de 1.000 cursos de diversas áreas e é a maior plataforma de cursos online do Brasil -- e você tem acesso a todos com uma única assinatura.Aproveite o desconto de R$100 para ouvintes Naruhodo no link:https://www.alura.com.br/promocao/naruhodo *PARCERIA: PUC MINASSabe o que significa quando uma das melhores instituições de ensino do Brasil se alia às mais modernas ferramentas de Educação? Significa que chegou a hora certa de você investir no seu próximo passo profissional.A PUC Minas desenvolveu um jeito único de combinar a flexibilidade das aulas à distância à dinâmica insubstituível dos encontros presenciais. Na PUC Minas, toda a estrutura e corpo docente formado por mestres e doutores de destaque, estão à sua disposição. Seja no campus, ou na sala da sua casa. Se o que faltava pra você voltar a estudar, era a união entre qualidade e comodidade… Agora não falta mais. Inscreva-se agora e faça parte dessa universidade, que foi classificada entre as 10 mais respeitadas por empregadores do Brasil, e que foi eleita uma das melhores do mundo pela Times Higher Education.Não perca o vestibular 2022. Inscrições para seleção por prova até 27 de outubro. E pelo ENEM, até 18 de novembro. Acesse pucminas.brPUC Minas. Onde você quer estar.*REFERÊNCIASAn Antidote to DIssatisfaction https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WPPPFqsECz0&ab_channel=Kurzgesagt%E2%80%93InaNutshellGratitude and Well Beinghttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3010965/A preliminary study of the origins of early adolescents' gratitude differenceshttps://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886917302702?casa_token=Rq19XuOKysYAAAAA:1xN394WGiq9ckczHyFktz05HZEQW4taxSuNnjDb-tGkBnRlcUMq1KldQv9K2nOa8TcXIyej0vAGratitude as a Human Strength: Appraising the Evidencehttps://sci-hub.se/https://guilfordjournals.com/doi/pdf/10.1521/jscp.2000.19.1.56Counting Blessings Versus Burdens: An Experimental Investigation ofGratitude and Subjective Well-Being in Daily Lifehttp://local.psy.miami.edu/faculty/mmccullough/gratitude/Emmons_McCullough_2003_JPSP.pdfThe debt of gratitude: Dissociating gratitude and indebtednesshttps://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02699930500172291A Test of Positive Reinforcement of Customershttps://journals.sagepub.com.sci-hub.st/doi/10.1177/002224297604000413The Grateful Disposition: A Conceptual and Empirical Topographyhttps://doi.apa.org.sci-hub.st/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2F0022-3514.82.1.112Appreciation: Individual Differences in Finding Value and Meaning as a Unique Predictor of Subjective Well-Beinghttps://sci-hub.se/https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/epdf/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2004.00305.xGratitude facilitates healthy eating behavior in adolescents and young adultshttps://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103117308569?via%3DihubState, but not trait gratitude is associated with cardiovascular responses toacute psychological stresshttps://www.sciencedirect.com.sci-hub.se/science/article/abs/pii/S0031938420302134?via%3DihubGratitude in collectivist and individualist cultureshttps://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/17439760.2020.1789699?casa_token=qzJOUygYmZgAAAAA%3ANe1cYY4SRO47iLp5cB-YaJaTsVUZJdUrMSwZQsUiaEDEx1_FgTeQf8FPbYmT1oZ19nMkxE9KyD5sGratitude Resentment and Appreciation Scale (GRAT)https://ggsc.berkeley.edu/images/uploads/Gratitude_Resentment_and_Appreciation_Scale.pdfBenefits of Expressing Gratitude: Expressing Gratitude to a Partner Changes One's View of the Relationshiphttps://www.jstor.org/stable/41062251?seq=1#page_scan_tab_contentsBeyond Reciprocity: Gratitude and Relationships in Everyday Lifehttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2692821/A Little Thanks Goes a Long Way: Explaining Why Gratitude Expressions Motivate Prosocial Behaviorhttps://www.umkc.edu/facultyombuds/documents/grant_gino_jpsp_2010.pdf“Whatever Small Thing I Have, I Should Be Grateful for”: Gratitude as Understood and Experienced by African Adolescentshttps://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-030-15367-0_21Mother Nature and the Mother of All Virtues On the Rationality of Feeling Gratitude toward Naturehttps://www.pdcnet.org/enviroethics/content/enviroethics_2013_0035_0001_0027_0040The Moral Psychology of Gratitudehttps://philarchive.org/archive/TELTETPodcasts das #Minas: SONORA#MulheresPodcastershttp://anchor.fm/sonora*APOIE O NARUHODO!Você sabia que pode ajudar a manter o Naruhodo no ar?Ao contribuir, você pode ter acesso ao grupo fechado no Telegram, receber conteúdos exclusivos e ter vantagens especiais.Assine o apoio mensal pelo PicPay: https://picpay.me/naruhodopodcast

The Positive Pants Podcast
How Do You Handle Pressure?

The Positive Pants Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 11, 2021 10:07


Show note links: Freebies: Grab your FREE ‘Stressed To Success' meditation: https://bit.ly/stressedtosuccess  Book in a discovery call to see how I can help you: https://calendly.com/franexcell/20min Ways to work with me: 1:1 https://www.franexcell.com/private-coaching/ SOS! (Success Over Stress) Group Programme (Coming back in Q4!) Positive Pants Toolkit Subscription (Join the waitlist https://bit.ly/PPToolkitwaitlist ) Products: Grab Your 365 day Gratitude Journal on Amazon:https://bit.ly/365daygratitude  Grab Your Positive Pants Firmly On Notebook:https://bit.ly/positivepantsonbook  Shop printables and meditations: https://www.franexcell.com/shop/  To sign up for The Positive Pants Planner Waitlist: https://bit.ly/pppimwaiting  Contact: Make sure you're following me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/imfranexcell/ and tag me into your key takeaways! Email me at hello@franexcell.com with any questions or take aways! For more, head over to: www.franexcell.com/   How Do You Handle Pressure?   How do you handle pressure?  This is actually a big question because most of us don't really know and there can be some big clues in there around how we self sabotage and why.   There's a couple of ways to look at this.     What behaviours do you exhibit when you're under pressure?     And how much of that pressure is self imposed and why?   So let's start with the behaviour piece of the puzzle because that's what started me wanting to do this episode.   You know I love calling out certain behaviours and trying to reframe it for the people on the receiving end but also make the people doing it maybe think twice next time!   I put a lot of the unkind, underhand, douchey behaviour that you unfortunately see some people do, whether this is in business or at work, as a direct reaction to pressure.     An ego response. Think of it as an I will harm to avoid being harmed vibe.   I will lash out to protect myself first.   I will make someone else look bad to make myself feel better. Notice the distinction between look and feel there...it certainly never makes anyone LOOK better!   As an example, you're feeling the pressure on a launch, or to hit a certain level of revenue, so you might go steal someone's clients, or badmouth them to others.  I call it trying to stand on someone else's head to make yourself taller.   Unfortunately it happens a lot.  Which makes me super sad.     Thankfully I haven't heard of it happening to me yet (that's not an invitation thank you...plus you know i'd just call it out as your drama not mine ha!) but I see it happen to my friends all the time and I've also been on the receiving end of people bad mouthing others too.  Does nothing for the vibe and you're just left thinking….geeez if they're saying that about them what might they say about me!   There's lots of ways and different strategies that we use to handle pressure but we need to look at them for what they really are, which is internal protection mechanisms.  Adaptive responses from childhood or our early experiences.    This is one of the reasons I often liken the online business world to school.  It really is wounded inner child stuff being played out on the internet everywhere you look!  It's behaviour we might have used at school and sometimes it's as if we haven't learned.    For some people the adaptive response might be to hide and avoid or numb out, some it might be to stand on someone else's head to make themselves taller, it might be to pile on MORE work thus reinforcing the idea that perhaps you're not good enough by creating yourself a near impossible situation where you're juggling too many plates.   I can be very guilty of that one because I've learned I can handle a LOT so I'll keep taking more on and I need to be aware of it and catch myself in it.     Hence why I have 8 qualifications, a full rebrand and website build, app build and launch, 6 month mentorship programme launch with 2 other people...i'll tell you more about that soon, 3 new presentations to create and trying to get the positive pants planner sorted...all happening at the same time.  Because I know I can handle it.  Doesn't mean I should.  But it DOES mean I have to balance that with some serious rest and relaxation. I can do that because i'm aware.  I have choice and agency. That makes a very big difference.   So what are your strategies.  No judgement.  Just curiosity. How do you handle pressure?   It's worth noting that It can also sometimes feel as if the lack of pressure itself,  causes pressure.    Which leads me onto the next point.  Pressure itself as a self sabotage strategy.    We can be addicted to chaos.     We also may have been rewarded by putting pressure on ourselves when we were younger, think back to exams and revision.  Did you cram at the last minute and work your butt off and get good grades and therefore praise from your caregivers?  Did you make a connection that the way to get results was to work that way?   We might have piled the pressure on and it all worked out great, thus reinforcing that as something to be repeated into adulthood.   It may be that there's an unconscious belief that if we're NOT busy and under pressure then it means we aren't successful, or people might THINK we're not successful, and therefore not good enough, and therefore unworthy of love.   Phewf!    We do like to go to some deep places in our unconscious programmes don't we.   If we don't cach ourselves in these patterns of behaviour...ooooh we can get ourselves in a pickle.   We can reach burnout.   It might backfire and then the very thing we feared (not being liked) becomes reality because we've been caught out in bad behaviour.     Pressure may show up as perfectionism.  Comparison. Overworking. Avoiding. Dissociating from our feelings.    What do you notice?   How do you recognise pressure in your body?   Alternatively it's worth noticing how you feel when you're NOT under pressure.  What does that look like for you?  Are you able to relax?  Or does it make you feel twitchy and anxious?   The important thing is to create the initial awareness. You can't do anything about a pattern you aren't aware of.    Start to notice what you do when you're under pressure.  Do you create the pressure yourself?  Is someone else creating it?   When do you remember first feeling pressure?  Can you think of a time in your life when you didn't?   What might the pressure itself, or the behaviour be allowing you to avoid?   What does it make you want to do?   What DO you do?   Think to yourself, what am I protecting myself from right now?   It may not seem like it's that important but the ramifications for not figuring this stuff out can be BIG.  Personally and professionally.    Having curiosity and awareness means you can do something about it and create a different outcome.    Fx  

Living Full Out Show
Discover How You Can Live Full Out By Embracing Who You Are

Living Full Out Show

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2021 52:52


Episode: 2021.7.37The Living Full Out Show with Nancy Solari encourages you to embrace who you are. Maybe you have a unique quality that you are self conscious about. Perhaps you want to find new friends or begin a relationship. By becoming proud of the traits that make you stand out, you will be able to accomplish your goals and be more confident in doing so.Our first caller, Anna, needs advice on how to best balance her work and school life with her social life. She feels as if there is always so much going on and it can sometimes be hard to manage all of the moving parts. Nancy encourages her to take some time out of her day to do the things she loves. This will help to ground her and increase her focus on the tasks that she needs to complete. Along with this, Nancy also suggests that Anna should create different playlists for her various emotions. This will assist her with purging stressful energies so she can maintain an emotional balance. Tune in to hear how you can best focus on your goals and aspirations without getting bogged down. Our inspirational guest, Ayanna Davis, has always had trouble interacting with others. She knew that she was different from her peers because it was a bit harder for her to communicate and make connections. For a very long time, while she knew that she was special, she didn't know what was making her stand out. In her 30's, Ayanna was finally diagnosed with autism among a few other disorders such as disassociation and seizures. From the support of her family and loved ones, Ayanna has embraced her quirks that make her who she is. Through this, Ayanna has learned how to be the best version of herself. Listen in to hear how Ayanna found the strength to love herself unconditionally.Our final caller, Michelle, is looking for advice on how to become more organized in her life. She mentions that she has always had a cluttered personality and she would like to learn how to be more put together. Nancy advises her to take an hour out of her day online to look up tips for how to best organize in all of the areas of her life. Nancy also instructs Michelle to write down her favorites, try out the ideas, and figure out what works best for her. Tune in to hear more about how accepting what makes you different is key to becoming your best self.Maybe you've always felt a little bit unique from others. Perhaps you would like to branch out and make new connections but you're unsure of who you authentically are. We all have traits and aspects of ourselves that make us and it is important to embrace these distinctions in our own lives. By trusting who you are and becoming the most genuine version of yourself, you will be limitless in your future and you will truly be able to live full out.Call us 800-333-0001

Gal Pals
Reading Between The Lines

Gal Pals

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2021 69:07


Purpose of Today's Episode: To discuss the nuances of different non-direct communication styles and the potential driving forces behind them. The gals discuss the fawn trauma/stress response. They discuss helpful tools that have proven to be beneficial when it comes to clear, direct (and kind) communication. And they unpack the nuances of navigating potential conflict when there has been a misunderstanding.  _______ Inspiration for this Episode: The Fawn Trauma Response (@theholisticpsychologist) People pleasing Going along with another person's perspective, beliefs, or values without connecting to your own Dissociating (leaving the body) “spacing out” Lets other people make decisions Avoids any situation that could lead to conflict Fears saying “no” Overly polite + agreeable Hyper aware of other people's emotions + needs while betraying their own _______ IN THIS EPISODE: Different Non-Direct Communication Styles What are some helpful tools you've learned to be more clear (and kind) with your communication with others? How do you navigate communication with someone who is asking you to “read between the lines”?  Potential conflict can feel uncomfortable - how did you navigate these situations in the past? How do you navigate them now?  How do you stay true to YOUR own beliefs/feelings without being influenced (guilt tripped) into how someone else wants you to act/feel/believe? _______ ADDITIONAL EPISODES YOU MIGHT ALSO ENJOY: Apologizing Receiving Feedback Giving Feedback Nuances of Friendships, Not Taking It Personally, & Overthinking  _______ CONNECT WITH US Instagram Join: Gal Pal Corral   ENGRID Instagram: @livengproof Email: engrid@livengproof.com  Liveng Proof Podcast Website   GEORGIE Instagram: @georgiemorley The Chasing Joy Podcast Website

The Inner Child Podcast
#19: Are you Daydreaming or Dissociating?

The Inner Child Podcast

Play Episode Play 58 sec Highlight Listen Later Jul 13, 2021 13:01


Daydreaming is TOTALLY normal of course! But what if you have a pattern of zoning out when big, uncomfortable, or unsafe feelings arise, to the point where you find it hard to stay in your body?  What does it mean?!! In today's episode, I'll talk about why we dissociate and my Inner Child approach of how to deal with it.Episode Highlights:A lot of kids who have experienced trauma while growing up escape into fantasy or daydreaming, as a way to cope with their unsafe or uncomfortable realities.Dissociation can happen to people who grew up in abusive, chaotic or passive-aggressive households.Dissociation is a symptom of the wounds that you endured growing up such as neglect, abandonment or gaslighting. Remember that "we cannot deal with symptoms in the same way that they were created." This means that we cannot gaslight, criticize or abandon ourselves even more as an attempt to try to get rid of it.Want even More?Get on the waitlist for my 12-week program Heal Your Inner Child Academy !Get Gloria's FREE Guide to Inner Child Healing!Follow Gloria on Instagram for helpful tips: @bygloriazhang

Ask Kati Anything!
#69 Can Therapy Make Dissociation Worse?

Ask Kati Anything!

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 8, 2021 68:34


Ask Kati Anything episode 69***  Kati's new book TRAUMATIZED is available for Preorder today!  https://geni.us/Bfak0jAudience questions:1. If you're comfortable talking about it, have you ever suffered from mental illness? I know therapists often say they know better but don't necessarily always do better...2. Is fear of crying during a session something that should be talked about? Every time I go to therapy I purposely don't talk too much about things that get me teary or...3. How do you know what is the most important thing to bring up in therapy? I have so much to talk about, so much that happens in between sessions and...4. Can therapy make dissociation or any other symptoms worse? Is this just a part of "it gets worse before it gets better"? Ever since I've been working with my therapist on feeling more, I've started dissociating more intensely...5. What's your opinion on personality tests like the enneagram or the Meyers Briggs? I‘m an INFJ and an Enneagram 4 wing 6. Also my love language is mainly gift giving... 6. Why don't I want life to go back to normal? During 2020 I was struggling again, but I was able to get some help this time. But now that things are slowly going back to normal in England, and everyone is very...7. I have a question faced by many people how can someone  overcome the fear of left alone and also overcome the void of loneliness (COMMENT: this matches to my bpd symptoms and also to...8. I have been in counseling for about a year and half already and I can't get myself to allow myself to feel emotions during session. Before and after session I could feel really anxious and like crap...9. I don't think my question will ever get enough likes so hoping it will be picked at random. Can you explain more about the differences between RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) and BPD?10. Thank you for your work! I hope you're having a good day :) My therapist recently diagnosed me with CPTSD. But all I read about it online said that the traumas that lead to...Ordering Kati's booksTRAUMATIZED Available for preorder in print, ebook & audiobookhttps://geni.us/Bfak0jAre u ok?In stores now: http://bit.ly/2s0mULyVideo version of episodeshttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwKati's Amazon Suggestions: https://www.amazon.com/shop/katimortonONLINE THERAPYI do not currently offer online therapy.  BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online counselor, please visit: https://tryonlinetherapy.com/katimortonI receive commissions on referrals to BetterHelp.PATREONDo you want to help me support the creation of mental health videos? https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/Opinions That Don't Matter! (2nd podcast)video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs58xfxPpjVARRuwjH8usfwaudio: https://opionstdm.buzzsprout.com/BUSINESS EMAILlinnea@toneymedia.comMAIL1779 Wells Branch Pkwy #110BBox #353  Austin, TX 78728PLEASE READIf you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/katimorton)

The Therapeutic Parenting Podcast
Understanding Why Your Child is Dissociating

The Therapeutic Parenting Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 5, 2021 16:21


A child in a state of dissociation can be a strange and disturbing thing to witness. In this week's edition, Jessica Jackson - whose own small son has a tendency to dissociate - talks us through why this happens and above all, what to do when it does. Dissociating can best be described as mentally leaving the room. If you are parenting a traumatized child you may be aware that they seem to go into a trance and be completely unaware of what is happening around them. This could well be a repeat of the survival mechanism that served them well during times of extreme stress before they joined your family.We don't always know what triggers them into displaying dissociation in what are now safe and happy homes - but they can hurt themselves during such episodes and Jessica gives us some excellent coping strategies. Concerned parents who are also members of the NATP (part of COECT's umbrella group) are welcome to contact us for one to one help.You can find out more about COECT and the NATP's training, listening circles and support here https://www.naotp.com/                                                                                                    *** The Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma is an umbrella organisation combining resources, research and knowledge from cutting edge experts in the sector – Inspire Training Group, National Association of Therapeutic Parents, Sarah Naish – Keynote Speaker and Author, The Haven – Parenting and Wellbeing Centre and Safer Fostering. Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/CoEChildTraumaTelephone – 01453 519000 Email – info@coect.co.uk Website - www.coect.co.uk

Running Wild with Christine
Ep 119: Dissociating & Associating, with Ariel

Running Wild with Christine

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2021 71:55


Hi friends, lovers and strangers, meet Ariel. Ariel comes to us this week thanks to Mark, to tell her story of addiction and recovery. Trigger warnings for eating disorders, addiction, mental health and sexual trauma. Please listen at your own discretion. Ariel candidly recounts her childhood and adolescence, with the hindsight that recovery allows. We follow her along her journey from teen rebellion, through adventures and homelessness, into treatment facilities and life on the other side. If you've ever wondered how or why people are nice, you might wanna listen in to Ariel's revelation about pro-social behaviour and what happiness is. Topics: bulimia, alcohol and drug addiction, trauma, rock bottoms and amends, homelessness, escapism, negative self-talk, the inefficacy of social safety nets and programs, emotions, NA & AA, sober dating & sex, healing, abortion, polyamory, and so much more! Shout out to charlfordhouse.ca. Thanks so much for listening to yet another story. We tell these with empathy and love in mind. If you know anyone who would benefit from hearing it, please do share. To get in touch with Ariel, you can find her @thattallgirlariel. With lots of love, your C. xo --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/runningwildwithchristine/support

Tales from the Journey
Cultivating Joy, Peace, and Prosperity After Abuse with Calion Smith

Tales from the Journey

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 2, 2021 48:53


Today I'm talking with Calion Smith about cultivating joy, peace, and prosperity after abuse. He's founder of Uncover Your Joy, a peer support network founded by and for abuse survivors. The survivor of sex trafficking and abuse, Calion has lived with PTSD, Dissociative Identity Disorder, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and a few other disorders. Today he's telling his story of survival, finding joy in the pain, merging his alters into a single identity, and how he has taken his experiences and used what he's learned to help others who have survived traumatic life events. What to Listen For:  Surviving sex trafficking and abuse from a young age Having the sense of wanting more than the typical ways to heal and cope with PTSD How a little pink flower led to a turning point How being groomed for sex trafficking resulted in his identity forming in a different way "My brain had to separate that into compartments because one whole brain that remembered all of the trauma I was going through was just too much to handle. So my brain created these sort of units in a way. And each of those developed just like a normal child would have their own personality." Reconciling all of his identities to form a brand new person that didn't exist before 2020 The critical role remembering played in this reconciliation The power of inner dialogue in dealing with our emotions Getting help starting with his PTSD about six months after escaping his victimizer "I know that I went through trauma, and I obviously needed support for that. So I started getting help for PTSD." A bunch of factors stacking up to create a lot of exhaustion and trauma Dissociating, losing track of time, not remembering tasks like cleaning or eating Noticing different handwriting in his journal Exploring dissociative disorders with his therapist Getting an official diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder when an alternate personality showed up to therapy Reorienting in small instances "We'd go through periods of trauma memories and reorienting to those and gathering more information, but it was really only when the full narrative became clear that reorientation really happened because, you know, DID was something that I had lived with since I knew myself as a person." Learning new lessons in pain through the process Building to a moment where he knew he was ready to go through final fusion "It was very sudden, actually. There were four adult alters—those of us that felt like we were adults—and there was one child alter, which is a very common experience. He was five years old, is how he identified. So the four adults in the system, which is what a group of alters is called, the four adults of us, we basically just had this moment of like, I feel like final fusion is right. It just hit one night where it was just like, that suddenly feels right. And it never had before. So, reorienting to that in like coming to terms with that and accepting, it was a very emotional process and very grief-focused, because it also meant letting go of who we all individually were." The emotions and grief processing that came with this moment What the process taught him about trauma reorientation and reorienting to life events The sense of being all the people he was before, but also totally new as well The key roles that radical acceptance and validation play in recovery The uncertainty that followed his fusion The challenge of presenting himself to the world in one body with five alters "It was very difficult before thinking if I go to this cafe looking this way, then I show up to that same cafe looking this way are they going to be really confused or are they going to be questioning? Are they going to be looking at me weird and things like that?  It was this constant dividing up of life. And that's a huge thing that I've been able to just let go of is like, I can go where I want. However,

I'll Go First® with Jessica Minhas
Dissociating & Healing the Child Within with Actress & Advocate AnnaLynne McCord

I'll Go First® with Jessica Minhas

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2020 53:15


In this episode, AnnaLynne McCord joins us. She is an actress, humanitarian, writer, director, and producer. You may recognize her from 90210, Nip/Tuck, and Power. Oh, and she happens to be my BFF. Our goal on this podcast is to normalize the conversation around topics often stigmatized and silenced in shame and help you take those little steps towards healing. Coping with abuse and PTSD looks different for everyone. For some of us, dissociation helps keep us sane under the worst conditions.In this conversation, Annalynne speaks bravely with courage and determination about her dissociation and splitting experience, how she's endured and is healing from childhood abuse and sexual assaults, and how she's using her story to help others out of their pain.Goodies from this Episode:  Join The Love Storm: https://thelovestorm.com/index.html Follow AnnaLynne's adventures at https://instagram.com/theannalynnemccord Looking for mental health resources and support? Check out our Help page at https://www.illgofirst.com/find-help  Listen to more episodes at https://www.illgofirst.com/stories. In crisis? Text "GO FIRST" to 741-741 to speak with a trained crisis counselor 24/7 for free.  Have a suggestion? Don't be shy! We'd love to hear from you! Say "Hi" at hello@illgofirst.com★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

LoudMouth
Pinch Me, I Must be Dissociating

LoudMouth

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 9, 2020 27:21


Have you ever blanked-out when you drove? Or felt like you were dreaming? These experiences can relate to dissociation, which is what we talk about today. Remember, I am NOT AN EXPERT, so please seek help if you need it! I go through what dissociation is, why it happens, different disorders, and some things that help me! Resources: https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/about-mental-illness/learn-more-about-conditions/dissociation-and-dissociative-identity-disorder-did/ https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/dissociative-disorders/symptoms-causes/syc-20355215 Contact me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loudmouthpod/ Gmail: loudmouthpod1@gmail.com Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/loudmouthpod --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/loudmouthpod/support

Turning Season: News & Conversations on Our Adventure Toward a Life-Sustaining Society
Dreamers' Den Series Ep 13: Fire Dreams Helping from Behind the Scenes (with Katherine Bell)

Turning Season: News & Conversations on Our Adventure Toward a Life-Sustaining Society

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2020 52:51


Do you believe that your dreams serve a purpose, even when you don't remember them? Do dreams help you, even if you don't "work" with them? Katherine Bell believes so, and she's read research studies to back that up. A scientist herself, Katherine blends her curiosity about the data around dreams with her deep respect for the experience of dreaming. You'll hear her talk about how dreamwork helped her shift from habitually dissociating from her feelings (even physical pain), to being able to feel. Dissociating from her emotions was especially present on her mind when we had this conversation, having just returned from evacuating from her home for 2.5 weeks due to local wildfires, and still sitting under a smokey sky. She shares one of her recent dreams that relates to these themes. Katherine affirms that our dreams are working for us behind the scenes, and we don't have to ever "understand" the dreams in order to benefit from them. In fact, trying to understand them with the prefrontal cortex of our brains might get in the way. She encourages dreamers to hang out in the emotional, embodied space of the dream itself, allowing it to do more of its work: bringing forth what we're not conscious of while we're awake. Before the end of this episode, we talk about other dreams related to the local fires, as well as the Fire element within Chinese Medicine. Show notes: www.thedreamersden.org/13

Think Act Be: Aligning thought, action, and presence
Ep. 104: Dr. Joseph Luciani — How to Unlearn Anxiety, Depression, and Worry

Think Act Be: Aligning thought, action, and presence

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 9, 2020 49:06


My guest this week is Dr. Joseph Luciani, author of a book called Unlearning Anxiety & Depression: The 4-Step Self-Coaching Program to Reclaim Your Life. Joe and I explored some of his background in more depth-oriented psychology, especially a Jungian approach where we explore symbols and dreams and archetypes, and his transition to a more action-oriented style. We got into some pretty interesting territory, especially about the spiritual implications of psychotherapy. As Joe said, if we truly learn that we can handle whatever life throws at us, everything changes. That’s good news, of course, because you can handle any challenge, just like you have already to make it this far. Other topics we covered included: What self-coaching is, and its relation to motivation How traditional talk-therapy may be too passive at times, and not the most empowering approach The difficulty in giving up therapy after investing a lot in it The view that anxiety and depression are learned, and can be unlearned Worry as the quintessential defensive strategy Dissociating from the reflexiveness of worry The fantasy of what-ifs Our innate superstition The distinction between problem solving and worrying Humans as survival machines Trusting that we will find what we need when we’re on the path Managing anxiety and depression as a spiritual practice Liberation as the overarching goal of psychotherapy My guest’s spiritual impressions The faith and trust needed to let go of certainty The neurosurgeries of Wilder Penfield The distinction between coping and healing Coping strategies as ways of controlling fate Anxiety and depression as possible coping mechanisms Dealing with the stress and anxiety of the ongoing pandemic Separating emotional fictions from facts The power of trusting that we can handle what life throws at us Joseph Luciani, PhD, has been a practicing clinical psychologist for more than 40 years. He’s the international bestselling author of the Self-Coaching series of books, published in ten languages. Joe's articles have been featured in many national magazines and newspapers, including Redbook, Cosmopolitan, O The Oprah Magazine, USA Today, Health, Shape, and others. He appears regularly on national TV, radio, and online. Find Joe online at his website and on Twitter, YouTube, and Facebook. Amazon links on this page are affiliate links.

PaperPlayer biorxiv animal behavior and cognition
Dissociating the effects of distraction and proactive interference on object memory through tests of novelty preference

PaperPlayer biorxiv animal behavior and cognition

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 17, 2020


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2020.08.16.253179v1?rss=1 Authors: Landreth, K., Simanavicuite, U., Fletcher, J., Grayson, B., Grant, R., Harte, M., Gigg, J. Abstract: Encoding information into memory is sensitive to distraction whilst retrieving that memory may be compromised by proactive interference from pre-existing memories. These two debilitating effects are common in neuropsychiatric conditions but modelling them preclinically to date is slow as it requires prolonged operant training. A step change would be the validation of functionally equivalent but fast, simple, high-throughput tasks based on spontaneous behaviour. Here, we show that spontaneous object preference testing meets these requirements in the subchronic phencyclidine (scPCP) rat model for cognitive impairments associated with schizophrenia. scPCP rats show clear memory sensitivity to distraction in the standard novel object recognition task (stNOR). However, due to this, stNOR cannot assess proactive interference. Therefore, we compared scPCP performance in stNOR to that using the continuous NOR task (conNOR), which offers minimal distraction, allowing disease-relevant memory deficits to be assessed directly. We first determined that scPCP treatment did not affect whisker movements during object exploration. scPCP rats exhibited the expected distraction stNOR effect but had intact performance on the first conNOR trial, effectively dissociating distraction by using two NOR task variants. In remaining conNOR trials, scPCP rats performed above chance throughout but, importantly, their detection of object novelty was increasingly impaired relative to controls. We attribute this effect to the accumulation of proactive interference. This is the first demonstration that increased sensitivity to distraction and proactive interference, both key cognitive impairments in schizophrenia, can be dissociated in the scPCP rat using two variants of the same fast, simple, spontaneous object memory paradigm. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience
Dissociating harmonic and non-harmonic phase-amplitude coupling in the human brain

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2020


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2020.08.11.246298v1?rss=1 Authors: Giehl, J., Noury, N., Siegel, M. Abstract: Phase-amplitude coupling (PAC) has been hypothesized to coordinate cross-frequency interactions of neuronal activity in the brain. However, little is known about the distribution of PAC across the human brain and the frequencies involved. Furthermore, it remains unclear to what extend PAC may reflect spurious cross-frequency coupling induced by physiological artifacts or rhythmic non-sinusoidal signals with higher harmonics. Here, we combined MEG, source-reconstruction and different measures of cross-frequency coupling to systematically characterize PAC across the resting human brain. We show that cross-frequency measures of phase-amplitude, phase-phase, and amplitude-amplitude coupling are all sensitive to signals with higher harmonics. In conjunction, these measures allow to distinguish harmonic and non- harmonic PAC. Based on these insights, we found no evidence for non-harmonic PAC in resting-state MEG. Instead, we found cortically and spectrally wide-spread PAC driven by harmonic signals. Furthermore, we show how physiological artifacts and spectral leakage cause spurious PAC across wide frequency ranges. Our result clarify how different measures of cross-frequency interactions can be combined to characterize PAC and cast doubt on the presence of prominent non-harmonic phase-amplitude coupling in human resting-state MEG. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience
Dissociating breathlessness symptoms from mood in asthma

PaperPlayer biorxiv neuroscience

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 16, 2020


Link to bioRxiv paper: http://biorxiv.org/cgi/content/short/2020.07.15.204289v1?rss=1 Authors: Harrison, O. K., Marlow, L., Finnegan, S. L., Ainsworth, B., Pattinson, K. T. S. Abstract: Asthma is one of many chronic diseases in which discordance between objectively measured pathophysiology and symptom burden is well recognised. Understanding the influences on symptom burden beyond pathophysiology could improve our ability to treat symptoms. While co-morbidities such as anxiety and depression may play a role, the impact of this relationship with symptoms on our ability to perceive bodily sensations (termed interoception), or even our general and symptom-specific attention is not yet understood. Here we studied 63 individuals with asthma and 30 healthy controls. Alongside physiological tests including spirometry, bronchodilator responsiveness, expired nitric oxide and blood eosinophils, we collected self-reported questionnaires covering affective factors such as anxiety and depression, as well as asthma symptoms and asthma-related quality of life (individuals with asthma only). Participants additionally completed a breathing-related interoception task and two attention tasks designed to measure responsiveness to general temporal/spatial cues and specific asthma-related threatening words. We conducted an exploratory factor analysis across the questionnaires which gave rise to key components of Mood and Symptoms, and compared these to physiological, interoceptive and attention measures. While no relationships were found between symptoms and physiological measures in asthma alone, negative mood was related to both decreased interoceptive metacognitive sensitivity (insight into interoceptive performance) and metacognitive bias (confidence in interoceptive decisions), as well as increased effects of spatial orienting cues in both asthma and controls. Furthermore, the relationship between the extent of symptoms and negative mood revealed potential sub-groups within asthma, with those who displayed the most severe symptoms without concurrent negative mood also demonstrating altered physiological, interoceptive and attention measures. Our findings are a step towards understanding how both symptoms and mood are related to our ability to interpret bodily symptoms, and to explore how the balance between mood and symptoms may help us understand the heterogeneity in conditions such as asthma. Copy rights belong to original authors. Visit the link for more info

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health
299 - Are You Dissociating? Here's What to Do

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 18, 2020 11:34


Do you dissociate? Probably. Is that a problem? It depends. Here’s how to tell, and three tips to help you stay rooted in the here and now. Read the transcript. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the newsletter for regular updates. Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/are-you-dissociating https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/savvypsychologist https://twitter.com/qdtsavvypsych

The Tea Time Podcast
31. Meeting My Body. Episode 2: Dissociating From My Body

The Tea Time Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 4, 2020 24:39


This is the second episode in the "Meeting My Body" series. On this episode I talk about what it means to meet my body and what it means to disassociate.

Bare Minimum
Dissociating with Conor Behan

Bare Minimum

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2020 46:22


I chat with the iconic Conor Behan (@platinumjones) about podcasting, Housewives and Grindr terminology. Guys I’m so bad at this pls rate me five stars x

Cannabis Investing Network
#27 - Overcoming Bias & Making Good Investment Decisions

Cannabis Investing Network

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2020 40:22


In this episode we discuss several types of bias we see in ourselves and other cannabis investors. The ultimate goal is to understand patterns of thought and adjusting to make better investing decisions. - Understanding your own bias from your investing background - Dissociating your political opinions from business reality - Avoiding group think and online echo chambers - Be careful of confirmation bias and avoiding negative information

Find Your Voice
Overcoming Your Childhood Trauma #67

Find Your Voice

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 23, 2019 36:27


"I'm Still Here" by Mike McBride #67Mike is an infectious human being who shares his vulnerabilities and story to the world, to not only escape his own thoughts and release but to help other people. Mike has recognised through him sharing his story and finding his voice, post surviving child abuse. A sincere man, with a purpose to let people know they aren't alone and that there are ways of overcoming trauma as a child, or any abuse we may suffer.He also discusses some incredible points around, intentional living and how this would enhance the happiness and fulfilment for all of us. Amongst this, we discuss the need to do the work on ourselves with specialists when trauma is the problem. The healing, the overcoming of shame and coming out the other side is necessary but it requires work. Real, hard work that sometimes we may want to avoid or shy away from. But only until we feel the wound can we heal the wound, as the great Robin Sharma quotes.An absolute pleasure to have Mike on the show and I thank him for his transparency and words.Key timestamps:[05:00] Mike sharing his child abuse story through blogging[08:25] Child abuse is NOT your fault.[09:40] Why me?[16:28] Living Intentionally[22:22] Dissociating yourself from abuse[28:45] Fun part of the show[33:55] The Story of Dunkirk - "All we did was survive"Key Quotes by Mike:"We do the things we want to do, and don't do the things we don't want to do" [Intentional Living]"It's not your fault' [On being abused]'These people were going to hurt someone. They were broken, they were damaged and they were looking for someone to hurt...And I just happened to be in the space when it happened" [On being abused]I urge you all to please follow Mike and support his amazing journey.Free Audible book sign up: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21 Carol Dweck Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceBook mentioned:Healing the Shame that binds you: https://amzn.to/2sU8mkILinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.comYouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to Mike:All links to Mikes work: https://linktr.ee/childabusesurvivornet See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Trust Your Body Project
#34: Reconnecting after Addiction & ED with Erin Geraghty

Trust Your Body Project

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 10, 2019 61:48


Dissociating with emotions stems from many different sources throughout a person’s life, and it shows itself in many different ways, such as addiction and eating disorders. Whitney’s guest today, Erin Geraghty, has dealt with disconnection and numbing out from life, turning to drugs and excessive dieting at a young age. Now, Erin is a yoga therapist, recovery coach, and yoga studio owner. She’s the author of the book, “Thriving After Addiction” and the host of a podcast by the same name. Her goal is to help people reconnect with themselves after addiction and eating disorders, just like she helped herself!   Whitney shares: Erin’s life now and how she got to where she is Growing up in a household that is focused around dieting and over-working Why addictions, EDs, and burnout all tend to go together Learning how to slow down and be with yourself when eating and drinking Teaching people how to process emotions beyond telling your story Comprehending different aspects of life when it is fear-driven Practical steps people can take to slow down and reconnect with themselves Reasons that it is so hard for people to let go of their coping mechanisms Navigating relationships with family or friends that are struggling with addiction     Links to Resources: Learn more about thriving after addiction: ThrivingAfterAddiction.com Check out Erin’s yoga services: ThriveYogaFit.com Follow Erin on Instagram! InsightTimer Join Club TYB today at www.whitneycatalano.com/club-tyb Go to Whitney’s Instagram to sign up for her group coaching program! For the free binge meditation, go to www.whitneycatalano.com/binge New clients can book coaching services at www.whitneycatalano.com/book 5 Pillars of Food Freedom: WhitneyCatalano.com/pillars   If you are ready to heal your relationship with food, break free from binge eating, and step into your authentic power, learn more about coaching with me at: www.whitneycatalano.com/food-freedom   For a chance to have your listener question answered on the podcast, or if I said something that needs correcting, you can email me at podcast@whitneycatalano.com   Follow me! ! Instagram / Twitter / Facebook / Youtube   The links above may contain affiliate links. Using affiliate links helps me earn a percentage of any purchase you may make on that website, and those earnings will be used to improve my production.

The Sonya Looney Show
Living and Striving from a Happier Place with Coach David Roche

The Sonya Looney Show

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 7, 2019 56:03


I'm really excited about today's guest, David Roche. I feel like he is a kindred spirit, especially after reading his awesome book, the Happy Runner that he co-authored with his wife (who is also an incredible human), Megan Roche.  Author is just one of the hats that David wears.  He started his own coaching company in 2013 called SWAP - Some Work, All Play where he and Megan coach some of the top trail runners and obstacle course athletes in the world.  Their coaching speaks for itself with over 17 US National Championships won, athlete appearances on Team USA 14 Times, Spartan World Champions, and more.   David is also well accomplished as a runner as a two-time national champion, a three-time member of Team USA, and was Sub-Ultra Trail Runner of the Year in 2014.  He also is a writer for Trail Runner Magazine.  If that's not enough, he is also a former lawyer.  David and Megan's book really resonated with me because it's about being a happy athlete. We talked about important topics like sport as a celebration instead of a measuring stick of how good of a person you are, we talked about having a healthy relationship with results, we talked about how to have more self-acceptance, and even contemplating mortality.  I think you'll get a lot out of this podcast feel like you're walking, running, or riding away with your cup and your heart more full.   Topics Discussed in the Podcast  removing pressure with authenticity (as a writer and an athlete) getting away from looking at achievement as a benchmark for success Imposter syndrome how to cultivate more self-acceptance Dissociating with results how to view competition in a healthy way positive affirmations and mantras to help you enjoy the process more viewing the human as a whole when it comes to coaching why training more hours won't necessarily make you faster fun stories about some of the athletes he coaches Listen Now     Resources SWAP Running Website Follow David on Twitter Follow David and ADDIEDOG on Instagram Get the book: The Happy Runner ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------   Support the Show If you would like to support the growth of my show, I'd love your contribution on.  Patreon.  The current production of this free show is primarily supported out of my own pocket and a small portion is covered through the donations on Patreon. With my Patreon page, you can donate directly to the show which will help me cover the costs and help it grow! Even 4 bucks a month- the cost of one coffee per month helps a LOT! Thanks, I really appreciate your support!         ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Don't Miss an Episode: Subscribe!                                                                   

Anatomy of Marriage
285 Q&A Day 68: Cross-Cultural Marriage, my husband is texting another woman, I am dissociating and AOM update.

Anatomy of Marriage

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2019 56:29


Today we answer your questions about how to handle differences in a Cross-Cultural Marriage, what to do if you find out that your spouse is texting someone else, how to manage dissociative patterns, and Seth and I give an update of what has been going on in our lives.     Today’s show is brought to you by Audible, get your FREE Audiobook when you visit http://audibletrial.com/anatomyofmarriage 

Order of Man
How to Stand Out as a Man Among Men | BERT SORIN

Order of Man

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 23, 2019 88:26


It comes as no surprise that most men have a desire to stand out from the pack as a man of credibility and authority. I call it influence and, the more of it you have with others, the more effective and successful you will be in your life. Today, I am joined by my friend, Bert Sorin, to talk about how to stand out as the man. He’s a man I’ve respected immensely since I met him a little over a year ago and someone who stands out as the type of man I’m referring. We get into the “x-factor,” adding value in all of your interactions, matching your actions with your words, and how to stand out as a man among men. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS Defining the X-Factor Finding relevance Adding value to your tribe Developing social skills Having the right motives Protecting your “magic”  Letting go of expectations  Watching the tide come in Scaling forward  Your value proposition  Dissociating from your activities  Building your fortress Playing to win  BERT SORIN Gents, today I am joined by repeat guest and friend, Bert Sorin.Bert is the President and CEO of Sorinex. I know you’ve been hearing me talk about them for some time now since I was introduced to him and Sorinex about this time last year.Bert is a former Division 1 Track and Field All-American and an Olympics Trial athlete. And, what he learned in sports, he has now translated to running this incredible leader in strength and exercise equipment.And, it’s not only about their equipment. I had the privilege of attending their annual event, SummerStrong, and I can tell you that the culture they’ve created within the organization and movement is a sight to behold. And, because of that, I thought Bert and I needed to sit down for round 2 to talk about standing out. Enjoy. MAINE EVENT One of the most frequently asked questions I receive is something along the lines of “How do I get my life back on track?” I wish there was an easy answer. There isn’t. But, there is a simple one. It’s called the Battle Plan and it’s a system I’ve been developing over 10 years to take control of my health, relationships, bank account, this movement, and my life in general. If you’ve been listening to the podcast over the past month, you’ve heard me talk about the Order of Man Maine event (held August 10th-11th). Among the like-minded men you’ll meet, the challenges we’ll participate in, and the activities we have planned, you’ll be working on your own Battle Plan to accomplish more in the next 90 days than you potentially have all year. If you know you’re meant for more but haven’t found the systems and tools to maximize your potential, join us August 10th-11th in Maine for an event designed to give you the network and framework to take complete sovereignty over your life. Head to www.orderofman.com/maineevent to lock in your seat. Support Order of Man by picking up some new merchandise in our store. Show notes https://www.orderofman.com/227

Empath's Alchemy
Sort It Out

Empath's Alchemy

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 11, 2019 35:32


I'm just pourin it on reeeeal thick today. Let's get a lil further into grounding, centering, all that, and deciphering what is ours and what we're feelin' from others. Ya know...the usual. Patreon page up! (Again...I'm doin' it. I'm doin' it this time.) Visit rebeccagarifo.com to submit your topics and support the show! Thank you thank you and thank you! -Rebecca

Birth Trauma Training for Birth Workers
Episode 6 How to Help Someone who is Dissociating

Birth Trauma Training for Birth Workers

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 20, 2019 24:31


What is dissociation? Is it helpful or harmful and how might you help someone through it

Mandyland
Vision and the Brain (S2E23)

Mandyland

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2019 67:00


Summary:Humans experience and observe some of the most extravagant wonders and marvelous sights the world has to offer using the sense many of us sometimes take for granted ; Vision! How do eyes work? What role does the brain play in all of it ? Can we trust what we see ? Find out in this week’s episode of the neuroscience podcast. Quite literally, there is more than meets the eye!References:Bokkon, I. (2009). Visual perception and imagery: A new molecular hypothesis. Biosystems, 96(2), 178-184. doi: https://doi.org/10.1016/j.biosystems.2009.01.005Collerton D., Dudley R., Mosimann U.P. (2012) Visual Hallucinations. In: Blom J., Sommer I. (eds) Hallucinations. Springer, New York, NY. Retrieved from https://link-springer com.subzero.lib.uoguelph.ca/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4614-0959-5_6#citeasDubuc, B. (n.d.). The Brain from Top to Bottom: The Retina. Retrieved from http://thebrain.mcgill.ca/flash/i/i_02/i_02_cl/i_02_cl_vis/i_02_cl_vis.htmlEagleman, D. M. (2001). Visual illusions and neurobiology. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 2(12), 920-926. doi:10.1038/35104092 http://tinyurl.com/yarpmdfhGrossberg, S. (2014). How visual illusions illuminate complementary brain processes: Illusory depth from brightness and apparent motion of illusory contours. Frontiers in Human Neuroscience, 8, 854 http://tinyurl.com/y82ct4awKloosterman, N. A., Meindertsma, T., van Loon, A. M., Lamme, V. A. F., Bonneh, Y. S., & Donner, T. H. (2015). Pupil size tracks perceptual content and surprise in a visual illusion. European Journal of Neuroscience, 41, 1068-1078. http://tinyurl.com/y7xbzubkKo, H., Cossell, L., Baragli, C., Antolik, J., Clopath, C., Hofer, S. B., & Mrsic-Flogel, T. D. (2013). The emergence of functional microcircuits in visual cortex. Nature, 496(7443), 96-100. doi:10.1038/nature12015 http://tinyurl.com/yb4dmw78Manford, M., & Andermann, F. (1998). Complex visual hallucinations. Clinical and neurobiological insights. BRAIN, 121(10), 1819-1840. doi:https://doi.org/10.1093/brain/121.10.1819Moffit, M., Brown, G., Salt, R., Simmons, M., & Ghebrehiwot, S. (Directors). (2017, May 4). Your Brain on LSD and Acid [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wG5JyorwYPoPfeffer, C. K., Xue, M., He, M., Huang, Z. J., & Scanziani, M. (2013). Inhibition of inhibition in visual cortex: The logic of connections between molecularly distinct interneurons. Nature Neuroscience, 16(8), 1068-1076. doi:10.1038/nn.3446Roseman, L., Sereno, M. I., Leech, R., Kaelen, M., Orban, C., McGonigle, J., . . . Carhart-Harris, R. L. (2016). LSD alters eyes‐closed functional connectivity within the early visual cortex in a retinotopic fashion. Human Brain Mapping, 37(8), 3031-3040. doi:https://doi.org/10.1002/hbm.23224Saleem, A. B., Ayaz, A., Jeffery, K. J., Harris, K. D., & Carandini, M. (2013). Integration of visual motion and locomotion in mouse visual cortex. Nature Neuroscience, 16(12), 1864-1869. doi:10.1038/nn.3567 http://tinyurl.com/ycl2wa6eSchmidt, F., Weber, A., & Haberkamp, A. (2016). Dissociating early and late visual processing via the ebbinghaus illusion. Visual Neuroscience, 33, E016. doi:10.1017/S0952523816000134 http://tinyurl.com/ycrsxyzbSerences, J. T., Ester, E. F., Vogel, E. K., & Awh, E. (2009). Stimulus-specific delay activity in human primary visual cortex. Psychological Science, 20(2), 207-214. doi:10.1111/j.1467-9280.2009.02276.x http://tinyurl.com/y7fw92vyVollenweider F. X. (2001). Brain mechanisms of hallucinogens and entactogens. Dialogues in clinical neuroscience, 3(4), 265-79. Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3181663/Other Resources:National Eye Institute (NIH) (Director). (2016, February 3). The Visual System: How Your Eyes Work [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i3_n3Ibfn1cHasudungan, A. (Director). (2016, May 24). Visual Pathway and Lesions [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cG5ZuK0_qtcNIH: National Eye Institute. (2015, December). Facts About Retinitis Pigmentosa. Retrieve from https://nei.nih.gov/health/pigmentosa/pigmentosa_factsAlliance for Aging Research (Director). (2016, September 9). Taking a Closer Look at Age Related Macular Degeneration (AMD) [Video file]. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PUnLaG-XlDE

Feelin Weird
74. Lyme Disease + Bipolar

Feelin Weird

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 20, 2019 91:44


Raul Odo has been living with chronic pain since they were 6 and were bitten by a lyme-carrying tick.  It was caught immediately, and Raul was informed that they would never have to worry about it...but somehow the antibiotics didn't kill the bacteria.  This is their story! We also discuss:  being young and disabled,  dissociating,  being homeless and sick,  inability to work a 9-5 job,  CPTSD,  kratum,  medication,  introversion vs. extroversion,  doctors who don't listen,  social media as a support community + outlet,  coming out trans/queer at a young age,  aaaaaaand MORE. (TW) they do depict a violent event that some people might find disturbing. ​​Support on PATREON: patreon.com/feelinweird Buy M E R C H: kyeplant.bandcamp.com Donate via PAYPAL: feelinweird.com Instagram: @feelinweirdpod Email: feelinweird@gmail.com  Access EVERY regular + bonus Feelin Weird episode on the Feelin Weird patreon: patreon.com/feelinweird

Mindsprings Podcast with Alistair Appleton
Greying Out The World -3: You think you're meditating, but you're just dissociating

Mindsprings Podcast with Alistair Appleton

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2018 15:09


In the final part of Alistair's 2018 talk from Scarborough, he turns his attention to the way that Buddhism might understand dissociation. He probes the ways in which meditation can mimic this defence and finds ways to free ourselves from it...

Feelin Weird
36. PTSD, Abusive Parents + Sexual Assault

Feelin Weird

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2017 60:41


Krystal P talks about her experience living with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD); her traumatic upbringing (alcoholic, abusive parents), healing trauma, dissociation; toxic people; & grounding techniques. CW: sexual assault, abuse. We also talk: the body's response to trauma, putting up a tough front as a protective strategy, social anxiety, stepping outside of her comfort zone as therapy, travelling as therapy, kindness from strangers, empathy, coping strategies (lavender), triggers, (CW) being raped, grounding techniques and SO much more. SUPPORT via PATREON*: patreon.com/feelinweird/ Buy MERCH: kyeplant.bandcamp.com/ DONATE via Paypal Review, Rate & Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Instagram: @feelinweirdpod Website: www.feelinweird.com Contact: feelinweird@gmail.com Here's a list of EVERY regular & bonus Feelin Weird episode :) *Please consider contributing $5-50/month to support the show (and receive ~100 bonus episodes)

Romos Music
Dissociating.

Romos Music

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2017 3:06


Dissociating. by Romos

Feelin Weird
24. BPD + Friendship

Feelin Weird

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 11, 2016 71:59


Anya Dedyna and I talk about all things mental health!  We discuss: Borderline Personality Disorder; dissociating;   knowing your limits;   fear;   naming your scary thoughts and feelings;   (TW!) cutting;   being an angsty teen;   'the dark uglies';   anxiety;   ADHD;   dissociating and shutting down;   bailing on plans;   FRIENDSHIP;   (TW!) suicidal ideations (how to deal with them and cope);   STAR TREK;   Believing you're a bad person;   being vulnerable;   fear of being "too much" or not enough for others;   and SO MUCH MORE! PLUS, Anya sings a song for us :)   ​​Support on PATREON: patreon.com/feelinweird Buy M E R C H: kyeplant.bandcamp.com Donate via PAYPAL: feelinweird.com Instagram: @feelinweirdpod Email: feelinweird@gmail.com  Access EVERY regular + bonus Feelin Weird episode on the Feelin Weird patreon: patreon.com/feelinweird

The One You Feed
129: Russell Simmons

The One You Feed

Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2016 27:36


    This week we talk to Russell Simmons about being a giver   Russell Simmons is an American entrepreneur and author. He began his entrepreneurial career in his youth, but on the wrong side of the law, selling marijuana to make money while an active member of a local gang. He then partnered with Rick Rubin to create Def Jam Records, and signed artists like the Beastie Boys, LL Cool J, Public Enemy and Run-D.M.C. He is also The Chairman and CEO of Rush Communications, he cofounded the hip-hop music label Def Jam Recordings and created the clothing fashion lines Phat Farm, Argyleculture, and Tantris. He is also a vocal proponent of meditation and veganism. His latest book is called The Happy Vegan: A Guide to Living a Long, Healthy, and Successful Life In This Interview, Russell Simmons and I Discuss: The One You Feed parable How good givers are great getters Giving before you get Dissociating ourselves from the results of our labors How success and fame don't necessarily make us happy Improving our health through veganism Improving the health of the planet through veganism Corporate greed The horrors of factory farming His experience with Occupy Wall Street The corruption in politics His daily yoga practice Combining yoga, meditation, and veganism Remaining useful and active as we age For more show notes visit our website    

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health
096 SP Are You Dissociating? Here's What to Do

The Savvy Psychologist's Quick and Dirty Tips for Better Mental Health

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 8, 2016 7:54


Do you dissociate? Probably. Is that a problem? It depends Here’s how to tell. Read the full transcript here: http://bit.ly/1KDSBvh

Biologie - Open Access LMU - Teil 02/02
Dissociating effect of chromophore modifications on C-phycocyanin heterohexamers

Biologie - Open Access LMU - Teil 02/02

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1992


The bilin chromophores of the α or β subunit of C-phycocyanin (PC) from Mastigocladus laminosus were modified, and subsequently recombined with the respective complementary unmodified chromophores. The modifications consisted of photobleaching (350 nm) or reversible reduction of the verdin- to rubin-type chromophore(s). Recombination led to heterodimers (αβ)1, but the heterohexameric aggregation state (αβ)3 could not be obtained with the modified chromophores. Autoxidation of the reduced α-84 chromophore in such a hybrid, which occurred on standing under aerobic conditions, induced reaggregation to heterohexamers. Chemical re-oxidation of the reduced chromophores did not produce reaggregation, and it was not promoted by a 22 kDa linker peptide fragment (Gottschalk et al., Photochem. Photobiol., 54 (1991) 283), which in unmodified samples stabilized heterohexameric aggregates. Binding of the mercurial p-chloromercury-benzenesulphonate to the single free cysteine of PC near (approximately 0.4 nm) the β-84 chromophore had only a moderately destabilizing effect on the heterohexamer (αβ)3. It was concluded that the intact chromophore structure is an important factor determining the quaternary structure of biliproteins. The tendency of heterohexamer destabilization is related to the situation in phycoerythrocyanin, where photoisomerization of the violobilin chromophore of the α subunit near the heterodimer—heterodimer contact region is also responsible for aggregate destabilization (Siebzehnrübl et al., Photochem. Photobiol., 46 (1989) 753).

Biologie - Open Access LMU - Teil 01/02
Dissociating Hydra Tissue into Single Cells ba the Maceration Technique

Biologie - Open Access LMU - Teil 01/02

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 1, 1983


Sat, 1 Jan 1983 12:00:00 +0100 http://epub.ub.uni-muenchen.de/3394/ http://epub.ub.uni-muenchen.de/3394/1/3394.pdf David, Charles N. David, Charles N. (1983): Dissociating Hydra Tissue into Single Cells ba the Maceration Technique. In: Lenhoff, Howard M. (Hrsg.), Hydra, Research Methods. Plenum Press: New York [u.a.], pp. 153-156. Biologie