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Have you ever felt completely disconnected from your body, lost hours of time, or wondered why you feel numb when overwhelmed? In this episode, licensed therapist Kati Morton explores dissociation and the full spectrum of dissociative disorders, including depersonalization-derealization (DPDR), dissociative amnesia, and dissociative identity disorder (DID). You'll learn the neuroscience behind why your brain pulls the ripcord to protect you, how to distinguish normal spacing out from trauma responses, and somatic grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system. To see if specialized trauma therapy with Rebound could be the right next step for you, head to https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything where you can check your insurance, book a free call with one of their care specialists, and find out more. Timestamps 00:00 What Is Dissociation? 00:55 Spacing Out vs. Dissociating 02:03 How the DSM Defines Dissociative Disorders 03:11 Dissociative Episodes vs. Diagnosable Disorders 06:03 Why Your Brain Pulls the Ripcord (Nervous System Protection) 10:05 Hypoarousal, the Freeze State & Emotional Dampening 12:28 Depersonalization-Derealization Disorder (DPDR) Criteria 14:53 Reality Testing: DPDR vs. Psychosis 21:02 How Common Is Dissociation? Statistics & Comorbidities 25:25 Dissociative Amnesia vs. Normal Everyday Forgetting 30:42 What Is a Dissociative Fugue? 35:07 Localized, Selective & Generalized Amnesia 36:15 Brain Networks & Memory Suppression Mechanisms 40:02 Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) Explained 40:40 Parts Work vs. Alters in DID 46:00 Cultural Context & What DID Is Not (DID vs. Schizophrenia) 47:18 The Dissociation Spectrum: Maladaptive Daydreaming to DID 50:07 Childhood Trauma & The Role of Protector Alters 54:37 How to Tell If You're Dissociating or Just Zoning Out 56:00 Somatic Grounding Techniques for Dissociation 58:45 Nervous System Regulation, Qigong & Calming the Amygdala 60:34 Therapy Approaches for DID: System Cooperation vs. Integration SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/katimorton?sub_confirmation=1 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? https://geni.us/XoyLSQ Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j Are u ok? https://geni.us/sva4iUY ONLINE THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati (enjoy 10% off your first month) This is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Alicia and Byron have a conversation on the back porch at Alicia's Mom's house. Please don't listen to this if the thought of impending death is a trigger. Thank you to everyone for your support during this hard time.
Welcome to Printing Money Episode 36! For this episode Danny is joined by a new guest, John Barnes (Founder and President, The Barnes Global Advisors, Founder and CEO, Metal Powder Works (MPW.ASX). From career foundations in industrial development John has built both an AM consultancy and a metal AM powders company. We are thankful to have his perspective here. This episode starts with a look at John's background and what's brought him to this point. Then, Danny and John review the MILAM 2026 event which occurred earlier this month in Tampa Bay. From Tampa the conversation heads to Australia as a nexus for the global metal AM powder market. John and Danny dive into dynamics driving that. After the low-down down under, the conversation turns to Printing Money's why and wherefore — 3DP/AM deal analysis around the globe from VulcanForms and Hadrian in the USA, to SWISSTO12 and Additive Drives in Europe, to Snapmaker in China, and more. The best quote of the episode is actually a paraphrase from Seinfeld, as John drops “The whale is the largest mammal in the world, but it doesn't have to be!” seamlessly amidst incisive deal analysis. Danny and John will continue the discussion in person at AMS 2026 this week in New York City. Meanwhile, please enjoy Episode 36 and check out our previous episodes too. This episode was recorded February 17, 2026. Timestamps: 00:12 – Welcome to Episode 36 and welcome to John Barnes (TBGA & MPW) 01:14 – John Barnes' career, in his own words: Sandia, Lockheed/Skunkworks, CSIRO, RTI 06:25 – TBGA founded in 2017, MPW founded shortly thereafter 07:44 – Can 3DP/AM materials companies be parts producers? 09:45 – MILAM 2026 review: A displacement between capabilities and use? 13:35 – Dissociating sustainment from new builds 15:00 – An impressive sense of urgency (at MILAM 2026) 17:12 – DoW inefficiencies stymie return on investment 21:21 – The global metal AM powder market 24:59 – The ASX (Australian stock market) applicability for metal AM powder companies (MPW, 6KA, 3DA, TTT, etc) 25:22 – Scaling, and the value proposition for metal AM powders 30:00 – 6K Additive IPOs in Australia 30:33 – Metal Powder Works' path to public markets in Australia 35:55 – List in Australia, scale operations in the United States 37:10 – MPW.ASX raises AUD 15M in follow-on offering 38:21 – Hadrian receives investment for advanced manufacturing facility 38:39 – VulcanForms raises $220M from Eclipse, 1789 Capital and more 43:08 – Machina Labs raises $124M from Lockheed Martin, NVIDIA, and more 45:44 – Additive Drives $20M+ round 48:09 – Uptool raises $6M from Khosla, Bessemer, Kleiner Perkins, et al. 50:47 – Kickstart this: Snapmaker raises a more classical Series B 52:38 – SWISSTO12 raises EUR 73M (not all equity) 54:48 – Perseus Materials receives strategic investment from Lockheed Martin 57:53 – Vulcan and Burgmaster merge to form MASTREX for very low cost metal LPBF 1:03:27 – Thingiverse to be acquired by MyMiniFactory 1:03:53 – Reasons for optimism for the metal AM market 1:04:52 – Thanks again to John, thanks for listening, and see you at AMS this week! 1:05:19 – Disclaimer Disclaimer: This content is for informational purposes only, you should not construe any such information or other material as legal, tax, investment, financial, or other advice. Nothing stated on this podcast constitutes a solicitation, recommendation, endorsement, or offer by the hosts, the organizer or any third-party service provider to buy or sell any securities or other financial instruments in this or in any other jurisdiction in which such solicitation or offer would be unlawful under the securities laws of such jurisdiction. The information on this podcast is of a general nature that does not address the circumstances and risk profile of any individual or entity and should not constitute professional and/or financial advice. Referenced transactions are sourced from publicly available information. Danny Piper is a registered representative of Finalis Securities LLC, member FINRA/SIPC. This material has been prepared for information and educational purposes only, and it is not intended to provide, nor should it be relied on for tax, legal, or investment advice. Investors should consult with their own tax, legal, and financial professionals before investing. Real estate investments are generally highly risky. They can be volatile, unpredictable, illiquid, and are subject to ebbs and flows and market shifts. Investors also risk the loss of all principal investments.
Can AI ever be conscious?Philosopher and cognitive scientist Professor Susan Schneider joins Tevin to explore one of the most urgent questions in philosophy of mind, AI ethics, neuroscience, and the future of intelligence.Schneider is the former NASA Chair of Astrobiology & AI, author of Artificial You, and creator of multiple proposed tests for machine consciousness - including ACT (the AI Consciousness Test), Spectral Phi, and The Chip Test.This conversation dives into:• What consciousness is• Whether large language models could ever have inner experience• Why simulated emotions may be misleading• Quantum Darwinism & the “decoherence dance”• Moral status for artificial minds• The future of AI ethics, agency & existential risk• Why consciousness might be a “dual-use technology”A must-watch episode for anyone interested in consciousness, AI safety, philosophy, neuroscience, or quantum theories of mind.TIMESTAMPS:(0:00) – Intro & opening(0:06) – Defining consciousness: felt quality of experience (1:47) – Science of consciousness: neuroscience, information processing, meditation (2:57) – AI consciousness: global workspace & early systems (3:10) – Could AI have “something it's like to be”? (28:52) – Early machine phenomenology & simulated emotion (29:41) – Language as a non-biological intelligence substrate (31:01) – Dissociating self, consciousness, agency (39:25) – Organoid consciousness & macro-conscious systems (40:29) – Introducing ACT: The AI Consciousness Test (42:31) – Philosophical probing: Mary, Freaky Friday, altered states (45:39) – Can ACT work on biological intelligence or hybrid systems? (46:47) – The Chip Test: repairing consciousness with implants (49:00) – Spectral Phi explained: coherence, information flow, consciousness (50:06) – Penrose, retrocausality & quantum metaphysics (57:09) – Quantum Darwinism & the decoherence dance (59:07) – Why GPT is not conscious (quantum argument) (1:00:09) – Does the universe have purpose? Panpsychism vs physics (1:07:17) – Moral status for conscious machines? (1:27:26) – Consciousness as dual-use technology: existential risksEPISODE LINKS:- Susan's Website: https://schneiderwebsite.com/- Susan's Publications: https://philpeople.org/profiles/susan-schneider- Susan's X: https://twitter.com/DrSueSchneider- Susan's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-schneider-29b972ab/- Center For The Future of AI, Mind & Society (AIMS): https://www.fau.edu/future-mind/CONNECT:- Website: https://mindbodysolution.org - YouTube: https://youtube.com/@MindBodySolution- Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/mindbodysolution- Twitter: https://twitter.com/drtevinnaidu- Facebook: https://facebook.com/drtevinnaidu - Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtevinnaidu- LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drtevinnaidu- Website: https://tevinnaidu.com=============================Disclaimer: The information provided on this channel is for educational purposes only. The content is shared in the spirit of open discourse and does not constitute, nor does it substitute, professional or medical advice. We do not accept any liability for any loss or damage incurred from you acting or not acting as a result of listening/watching any of our contents. You acknowledge that you use the information provided at your own risk. Listeners/viewers are advised to conduct their own research and consult with their own experts in the respective fields.
“We need to normalize dissociation”, “It's okay to dissociate”, “We all dissociate sometimes.”You've probably heard some version of this lately.But here's the honest truth no one is saying: Most people aren't dissociating. They're shutting down.In today's episode, I'm walking you through the real reason people think they're dissociating and how the phrase has been so watered down that it no longer matches what's actually happening.I share:the survival strategy I used to live bywhy avoiding emotions felt safer than feeling themwhat I had to unlearn in order to stop numbing outIf you've ever felt overwhelmed, checked out, numb, or like you're “not here,” this episode will help you understand yourself in a way that brings relief instead of shame. Connect with Kim: EFT Tapping Booster Session - https://courses.kimkeane.com/courses/tapping-booster-sessionFree Emotional Detox Workbook - https://courses.kimkeane.com/f/emotional-detox-workbookFree Everyday Spirituality Handbook - https://courses.kimkeane.com/f/everyday-spirituality-handbookInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/kimvkeane/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/kimvkeaneYouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@kimvkeaneEmail - kim@kimkeane.comIf you found this episode helpful, please take a moment to leave a review and tell your friends about it. If you have a question or need help, please don't hesitate to reach out!
Most entrepreneurs want big results. Very few build the habits that actually create them.In this episode I am on my terrace in Mexico as the sun rises.And I am walking you through five simple habits that helped me build an 8-figure coaching business.These are not hacks.They are not trends.They are repeatable habits you can use to change how you show up every day.Here is what we dive into:
It’s likely that you’d recognise Melissa Leong’s face, she was the first female judge ever on Masterchef Australia; but today’s conversation goes into some very personal places that extend far beyond what you might see on prime time TV. She burst onto our screens in 2020 and made us fall in love with food and cooking. Her new memoir ‘Guts’ is a raw, funny and beautifully written look at her upbringing in a Singaporean - Chinese family, the behind the scenes of the food and entertainment world and some personal stories that she hadn’t shared publicly before. Growing up with strict, authoritarian immigrant parents and ending up in a creative profession Being no contact with her dad The path that led Melissa to not having kids Being single and getting so much connection from other areas of life “How to” divorce if you’re in the public eye and the advice she was given of when and how to announce it When the opportunity to host masterchef came knocking and Melissa didn’t jump at it Dissociating after SA and having memory loss from the time Realising that it is not her shame to bear Happiness being ‘far too fleeting a concept to hang your hat on’ and finding purpose in being content instead Being involved in the UFC - how, why and naked choke holds What’s next for Melissa You can get yourself a copy of “Guts” through this link You can follow Melissa on Instagram And check out her website You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Send us a textIn this episode of Evolve Ventures, we want to speak to you with honesty and care. Most people don't realize how much of their life is being quietly taken by mindless entertainment, numbing habits, and digital noise. We break down the real numbers, the real impact, and the real reason so many of us feel stuck, disconnected, or behind. But this isn't a lecture. It's an invitation.You can take your time back. You can shape your environment. You can become someone you're proud to live with. And you don't have to do it alone.If you're ready to feel awake again, not just distracted, this episode will give you that first spark.Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today's conversation:#413 | How Movie Club Changes Lives - https://apple.co/4pCa1mr #436 | How to Heal When You Don't Have Support - https://apple.co/4r0TTw1Evolve Together Experiences:
Send us a textWhat if feeling ugly isn't actually about your looks? In today's honest and powerful episode, we open up about our struggles with appearance and the deep-rooted beliefs that shaped how we saw ourselves. We talk about the rising fear of being unattractive, the emotional weight of beauty standards, and why external fixes, like surgery or filters, rarely heal the real wounds. If you've ever questioned your appearance or felt pressure to be “pretty enough,” this conversation is for you. You'll walk away with clarity, compassion, and a fresh understanding of what truly builds lasting confidence.Here are the related episodes, each one builds on today's conversation:#373 | How to Tell if You're Dissociating - https://apple.co/3H5JNaH #397 | Every People-Pleaser Needs to Know This - https://apple.co/4dEZnWYOut of the Mud (OOTM): “The Right Way to Have Hard Conversations” - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/IykObX8eR7ixJaQ-qqZogw#/registrationLearn more about:
Send us a textIn this episode of Evolve Ventures, we challenge the belief that you need to “feel ready” before taking action. Through honest personal stories and powerful psychological insights, we explore what truly drives change and why waiting for motivation might be what's holding you back. You'll learn how momentum begins, how your brain miscalculates risk, and a simple framework to help you take action, even when it's hard.Here's the episode related to today's discussion and why we highly recommend listening to it as well:#373 | How to Tell if You're Dissociating - https://apple.co/3H5JNaH #331 | Are You Emotionally Immature? - https://apple.co/42Zshw3Out of the Mud (OOTM): "The Skills for Being a Great Partner" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/-tSEztgpRHaPogd-Z2Xbbg#/registrationLearn more about the On-Demand Therapy - #YouDoYou Program: https://evolveventurestech.com/therapy/_________________Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemiliaBianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/Bianca's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia & Bianca from Evolve Ventures for FREE:https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free-evp-communityconnect?month=2025-04Show notes:(1:42) Bianca's story: The wake-up moment(4:41) The real reason we stay stuck(6:39) Motivation follows action, not feelings(9:06) The dopamine myth explained(11:52) The four keys to real change(14:19) Post-traumatic growth and self-belief(19:52) How your brain miscalculates risk(23:08) Neurodivergence and motivation(27:34) A simple framework to build momentum(30:01) How to get support and take action(32:56) Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt as though the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Thursday's episode!)
Randall Balestriero joins the show to discuss some counterintuitive findings in AI. He shares research showing that huge language models, even when started from scratch (randomly initialized) without massive pre-training, can learn specific tasks like sentiment analysis surprisingly well, train stably, and avoid severe overfitting, sometimes matching the performance of costly pre-trained models. This raises questions about when giant pre-training efforts are truly worth it.He also talks about how self-supervised learning (where models learn from data structure itself) and traditional supervised learning (using labeled data) are fundamentally similar, allowing researchers to apply decades of supervised learning theory to improve newer self-supervised methods.Finally, Randall touches on fairness in AI models used for Earth data (like climate prediction), revealing that these models can be biased, performing poorly in specific locations like islands or coastlines even if they seem accurate overall, which has important implications for policy decisions based on this data.SPONSOR MESSAGES:***Tufa AI Labs is a brand new research lab in Zurich started by Benjamin Crouzier focussed on o-series style reasoning and AGI. They are hiring a Chief Engineer and ML engineers. Events in Zurich. Goto https://tufalabs.ai/***TRANSCRIPT + SHOWNOTES:https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fi/n7yev71nsjso71jyjz1fy/RANDALLNEURIPS.pdf?rlkey=0dn4injp1sc4ts8njwf3wfmxv&dl=0TOC:1. Model Training Efficiency and Scale [00:00:00] 1.1 Training Stability of Large Models on Small Datasets [00:04:09] 1.2 Pre-training vs Random Initialization Performance Comparison [00:07:58] 1.3 Task-Specific Models vs General LLMs Efficiency2. Learning Paradigms and Data Distribution [00:10:35] 2.1 Fair Language Model Paradox and Token Frequency Issues [00:12:02] 2.2 Pre-training vs Single-task Learning Spectrum [00:16:04] 2.3 Theoretical Equivalence of Supervised and Self-supervised Learning [00:19:40] 2.4 Self-Supervised Learning and Supervised Learning Relationships [00:21:25] 2.5 SSL Objectives and Heavy-tailed Data Distribution Challenges3. Geographic Representation in ML Systems [00:25:20] 3.1 Geographic Bias in Earth Data Models and Neural Representations [00:28:10] 3.2 Mathematical Limitations and Model Improvements [00:30:24] 3.3 Data Quality and Geographic Bias in ML DatasetsREFS:[00:01:40] Research on training large language models from scratch on small datasets, Randall Balestriero et al.https://openreview.net/forum?id=wYGBWOjq1Q[00:10:35] The Fair Language Model Paradox (2024), Andrea Pinto, Tomer Galanti, Randall Balestrierohttps://arxiv.org/abs/2410.11985[00:12:20] Muppet: Massive Multi-task Representations with Pre-Finetuning (2021), Armen Aghajanyan et al.https://arxiv.org/abs/2101.11038[00:14:30] Dissociating language and thought in large language models (2023), Kyle Mahowald et al.https://arxiv.org/abs/2301.06627[00:16:05] The Birth of Self-Supervised Learning: A Supervised Theory, Randall Balestriero et al.https://openreview.net/forum?id=NhYAjAAdQT[00:21:25] VICReg: Variance-Invariance-Covariance Regularization for Self-Supervised Learning, Adrien Bardes, Jean Ponce, Yann LeCunhttps://arxiv.org/abs/2105.04906[00:25:20] No Location Left Behind: Measuring and Improving the Fairness of Implicit Representations for Earth Data (2025), Daniel Cai, Randall Balestriero, et al.https://arxiv.org/abs/2502.06831[00:33:45] Mark Ibrahim et al.'s work on geographic bias in computer vision datasets, Mark Ibrahimhttps://arxiv.org/pdf/2304.12210
Send us a textIn today's episode of Evolve Ventures, we explore dissociation, its causes, and how to recognize it in one's life. We use real-life examples—such as a client's struggle with daydreaming to escape painful emotions—to show how dissociation often develops as a coping mechanism in response to overwhelming feelings or trauma. We also share simple grounding techniques and practical ways to reconnect with oneself to regain control and be more present in one's life.Here's the list of episodes related to today's discussion and why we highly recommend listening to them as well:#296 | How to Be More In Control of Your Feelings - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/296-how-to-be-more-in-control-of-your-feelings/id1511831621?i=1000655765112 #366 | What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up - https://apple.co/4gwQrD8Evolve Article: https://bit.ly/3EuZ181Out of the Mud (OOTM): How to Be a High-Value Person: https://bit.ly/4hgqNUfLearn more about the On-Demand Therapy - #YouDoYou Program: https://evolveventurestech.com/therapy/_________________Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/Emilia's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithemiliaBianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/Bianca's Tiktok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbianca?_t=8gq3wqu4fAx&_r=1 Connect with Emilia & Bianca from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://bit.ly/3THiEN4Show notes:(2:29) Dissociation and daydreaming(6:42) Forms of dissociation in everyday life(8:53) Why dissociation happens – an attempt to escape emotions(11:42) Busyness and forgetfulness(15:59) Tools to recognize and manage dissociation(19:37) Grounding techniques to stay present(23:30) Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt as though the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)
In this episode Nicnac attempts to explain their podfade while trying to tackle Season 17 with as much vigor as they can muster. If you would like to support their work please rate the podcast in your favorite podcatcher, lave a review or check out their Patreon
This Week Grace and Mamrie discuss Google Alerts, social media commentary culture, drones in New Jersey, ChatGPT zodiac charts and fart walks. Go to http://bombas.com/tmgw and use code tmgw to get 20% off your first purchase. Go to http://rocketmoney.com/tmgw to cancel your unwanted subscriptions with Rocket Money. Go to http://zocdoc.com/weird to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Go to http://auraframes.com and use code TMGW to get $35-off Aura's best-selling Carver Mat frames. Go to http://masterclass.com/weird to get up to 50% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Introducing a Future Commerce Radio Theater production: Dissociating at Costco, an original story by Brian Lange. Performed for radio by Joseph Discher. Voice production by Whole Story Studio.Dissociating at Costco can be found in the Archetypes journal, available for purchase at shop.futurecommerce.com. Stay tuned for our upcoming radio theater readings: A Day in the Life of Nana Alexa by Erin DaCruz, and The Hardest Part by Brian Lange.Timecodes:[00:00:20] Chapter 1[00:08:19] Chapter 2[00:17:45] Chapter 3[00:26:43] EpilogueAssociated Links:Enjoy Dissociating at Costco in print: Order the Archetypes journalGet your copy of the Muses journalCheck out Future Commerce on YouTubeCheck out Future Commerce+ for exclusive content and save on merch and printSubscribe to Insiders and The Senses to read more about what we are witnessing in the commerce worldListen to our other episodes of Future CommerceHave any questions or comments about the show? Let us know on futurecommerce.com, or reach out to us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn. We love hearing from our listeners!
Send us a textHello beautiful people! This year for me has come with a lot of good things but at the same time also a few negative things, and I find myself dissociating at times in order to deal with certain tough experiences. I wanted to talk about anxiety and dissociating because its one of the biggest things I struggle with on a daily basis. Anxiety has been the most challenging overall, and even though its gotten much better to manage than before, it does still come with a lot of difficulty to navigate. So I wanted to talk about my experience, how I deal with it, and that's what's on the agenda. i hope you enjoy. i love you. have an amazing day. follow your dreams. etc etc ✩ CHECK OUT (my book) BRIGHT DAYS AHEAD ✩ Available on Amazon. ✭ my book:https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B8VQX3TJ✩ MY SOCIAL MEDIA ✩✭ instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_kellyannward_✭ tik tok: @kellyannward_✭youtube: www.youtube.com/@kellyannward✭ instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theward.methodI LOVE YOU :)-Kelly Ann Ward
Anna Ivanova | Assistant Professor, School of Psychology | Georgia Tech College of Sciences "Dissociating Language and Thought in Humans and in Machines" “What is the relationship between language and thought? This question has long intrigued researchers across scientific fields. In this talk, I will propose a framework for clarifying the language-thought relationship. I will introduce a distinction between formal competence—knowledge of linguistic rules and patterns—and functional competence—understanding and using language in the world. This distinction is grounded in human neuroscience, where a wealth of evidence indicates that formal competence relies on a set of specialized brain regions (“the language network”), whereas functional competence requires the use of multiple non-language-specific neural systems. I will then present a series of case studies illustrating how the formal/functional competence distinction can help (a) delineate the functional architecture of the human brain, providing a framework for studying complex cognitive behaviors, such as computer coding and legal reasoning; (b) understand the capabilities and limitations of today's large language models, particularly in the realm of general world knowledge.” If you would like to become an AFFILIATE of the Center, please let us know.Follow along with us on Instagram | Threads | Facebook
In this episode, we dive into the complex world of relationships, focusing on how trauma can shape and challenge our connections with others and discuss everything from disorganised attachment to dissociation during conflict. For those of us who've experienced childhood trauma, these early disruptions — like attachment wounds, abandonment, rejection, emotional neglect, and abuse — can make navigating relationships particularly tough. By the end of this episode, I hope you come away with some clarity and insights on how to form and maintain healthier relationships. Themes explored Disorganised attachment & other insecure attachment styles How trauma impacts relationships i.e. fear of intimacy, vulnerability and connection Reenacting dysfunctional cycles i.e. choosing relationships/partners that mirror our early childhood trauma dynamics, self-sabotaging healthy relationships Navigating triggers, conflict, shutting down and dissociation within relational conflict and intimacy How somatic therapy can support you in healing attachment and relational wounds Need to work with a trauma informed therapist? BOOK IN YOUR 1:1 SESSIONS WITH ME BOOK A FREE 15 MIN CHEMISTRY CALL RESOURCES TO SUPPORT YOUR RECOVERY Trigger Toolkit Free Download Nervous System Workbooks EMBODY The Workshop
Chapter 90 is Dissociating! In the Sewer. Join Sophie, Sam, and Hannah as they discuss what language rats speak, how to do sea anemone enrichment, and Seventies Sex Cabin carpeting (tm).
Shailynn Taylor's journey with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA), a degenerative genetic disorder, is one of incredible resilience and hope. Diagnosed at 18 months old, she was told that her life expectancy was only twelve years. At the age of 22, she started experiencing rapid deterioration in her health and even planned her funeral. But just in time, a treatment for SMA was approved in the US, and Shailynn began advocating for access to this life-saving medication. Shailynn's mental health journey, which includes battling depression and anxiety, has been just as challenging as her physical health. She emphasizes the importance of counseling, learning coping mechanisms, and finding a balance to navigate both SMA and mental health complexities. Through her advocacy work, Shailynn shines a light on the need for change in various areas, such as accessible housing and air travel. Despite everything, Shailynn refuses to let SMA define her, instead focusing on living a life full of joy, positivity, and possibility. .......................................................................... You can find Shailynn on Instagram @shailynntaylor .......................................................................... Rising Strong Links: Instagram: @Risingstrong FREE ME TIME download mentioned in this episode: bit.ly/freemetime ............................................................................ TRANSCRIPT: Host/Lisa: Welcome back to another episode of rising strong mental health and resilience. I'm your host, Lisa Bain, and today I have an inspiring guest who shares her story of resilience in the face of a debilitating genetic disorder. She literally went from planning her funeral to planning her future. Now, let's get started. Host/Lisa: Today I'm speaking with Shailen Taylor, who's a disability advocate and motivational speaker. She has shaped her perspective to value connection and authenticity above all. Welcome to the show, Shailen. Shailynn: Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to be here with you today. Host/Lisa: At age 18 months, you were diagnosed with SMA, a rare degenerative genetic disorder similar to ALS. Can you tell us more about this and how it shaped your future? Shailynn: For sure? So at about a year old, my parents started to notice that I was having a bit of trouble. When I would walk, my ankles would curve in a little bit. But other than that, I was happy and healthy and meeting most of my milestones. My mom went to lots of different doctors, and they all said that it was fine, I would grow out of the way I was walking, and it would be fine. But after many opinions, at 18 months old, my parents got the diagnosis of spinal muscular atrophy, type two. They unknowingly were both carriers of the genetic disease. And by both being carriers, they had a one in four chance of having a child with SMA. And so my brother and I are 17 months apart. So before they had my diagnosis, my brother was born. And he was born with a heart defect that required open heart surgery and months and months in the ICU. And so he thankfully, is not affected by SMA, but also has his own medical battles. And so SMA is a genetic disease. It starts at birth, impacting the muscles, slowly deteriorating from the spine out. It leads to other complications with health, but ultimately takes away the ability to walk, to speak, breathe, eat, until it has deteriorated all the muscles in the body. So when I was diagnosed, they told my parents that my life expectancy was twelve years old, that there was no treatment, no cure, just to take me home and love me. But there was nothing that medicine could do to prolong my life in any way. And so I hit twelve and then hit 18. And it wasn't until I hit 22 that I finally started having health practitioners saying to me, your health is deteriorating at a rapid rate, and you need to be aware of what that looks like. Making end of life plans, I completely planned my funeral with my best friend at 20 years old, and then suddenly, there was a treatment approved in the US for my disease when there had never been something on the market. And so I began advocating for those treatments, and it would be a long fight of many years. But I eventually, in 2018, accessed treatment because of the help of my community, who fundraised hundreds of thousands of dollars in order for me to not only pay for four doses of treatment, but knowing that that would qualify me for a medical study in New York, for a clinical trial of a new treatment for my disease that was still at phase one study. Host/Lisa: And you are currently enrolled in that study and taking part in treatment? Correct. Shailynn: So I have completed that study since. After five years, I hit the end of the study. Unfortunately, about the last two years into treatment with that drug, I began seeing a decline in my strength and my energy again, and knew that likely the dose just wasn't high enough for adults as I was receiving the same dose as small children were getting. And it was an oral drug, and the drug that I had purchased was spinal injections of a drug called spinraza. It was the first drug ever to come out for SMA and has been around for almost 14 years now in the SMA community. But this is the first year that they're starting to study a new dose for adults and are really investing in the research and collecting the data of what this drug can do for adults and what possibly increasing the dose could do to benefit adults with SMA as well. Host/Lisa: So how old were you when you started these treatments at an adult, and how old are you? Shailynn: I started my first clinical trial was a two month study out of Alberta children's hospital, and it was an oral drug. They had never made it very far, but that was my first taste of wanting to see what research was like for my disease. And that was in 2016. I was 19 years old then. And so, yeah, I am now 28 years old and have been on treatment consistently since I was 23. And yeah, it's incredible to be 28 and as healthy as I am and able to still keep planning a future when for a long time in my life, that wasn't something I ever allowed myself to do. Right. Host/Lisa: So you've gone from planning your funeral to planning your future. That's a huge turnaround. Can you tell us how all of this has affected your mental health? Shailynn: Definitely. My mental health has been something I've battled with since I was in grade eight, is when I first started struggling with depression and anxiety. And it wasn't until I was 18 that I first was diagnosed with seasonal depression and anxiety. At the time and started my journey of mental health, medications and the battle of trying to be independent as a kid and wanting to push your limits and become your own person was definitely what first made me realize how different I was and how different my future would look. And that grief and jealousy for a long time was just too much, and I didn't have the tools to understand it or to cope with it. My mental health has been something that's come and gone repeatedly. I've recently been being looked at for bipolar, bipolar depression. And so just like medically, my mental health is complex, and then my life is complex on top of it. And so the combination has been much harder of a battle for me than living with SMA has been the battle with my mental health and trying. Host/Lisa: To. Shailynn: Find a balance and find the right medications, the right counseling, the right tools to be able to cope with my life and move forward in my life. Host/Lisa: So that just segues perfectly into my next question, which is, what does coping look like for you? What are your tools? What are your skills? What have you learned over the years? What works for you? Shailynn: So coping for me has definitely expanded a lot. For a long time, I coped by dissociating and learning to stay in my body and cope with the pain. I have a lot of chronic pain, so staying in my body, being able to cope with the pain I'm in, and there's the never ending medical battles. Learning to stop dissociate. Dissociating was huge for me. That was a lot of counseling. I have been going to a counselor for over 15 years now, and that's not like consistently every month, but through the hard times in my mental health journey, I lean back into counseling and being reminded of the tools that are there to cope. My medication, my sleep, being able to prioritize little things like that and realize that they also can have a big impact on my mental health, really has helped me feel a bit more in control of it. And just the more I learn about my mental health and the way I think and my patterns, the more I'm able to correct them and learn from them and be aware when I'm starting to fall back into patterns and be able to implement the different tools that are available at the time. Host/Lisa: Would you say that your counselor has helped you discover different tools, or has that been something that's just been part of your life experience, just your own learning as you go along? Shailynn: My counselors have definitely helped me discover new tools, but I think what I find most helpful with counseling is having someone who can challenge my thoughts and make me aware of the unhealthy patterns in my thoughts. And I think that those reminders I still need sometimes to be able to get out of the loops I'll get into. But I've been to over 20 counselors and I think that each one kind of leaves something different with me. And I've been able to come to terms with different things with each one. And I don't think that a person has ever done counseling. In a way, I think there will forever be ways we can learn to cope and to show up differently in the world. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. And I think an important thing that you just brought up and I can definitely relate to, is we're in our own heads. Twenty four seven. And so even though when we say things out loud to our counselor and they call us out on our bs, right, but in our own heads, it's a dialogue that goes on all the time, so it becomes our normal. And I think you're absolutely right. Having somebody be able to call us out on that or just even question, maybe not call us out so blatantly, but even just take us down through some questions and have us examine our own thoughts by exploring different things so that we can realize the self chatter in our own heads that may not even be true. Shailynn: Right, exactly. Host/Lisa: So you do a lot of advocacy work, which I absolutely love. Can you tell us a bit more about what you're involved in? Shailynn: Yeah. So my advocacy work was not something that I went into planning to do. It evolved from me advocating for treatment and realizing that really I was the only person advocating that every adult with SMA's life mattered and could be made better by a treatment that was sitting on a shelf. And the more I got into that world, the more I saw just how many areas need light shone on them and need consistent pressure and awareness in order for change to happen. So I work with advocacy for accessible housing, for accessible air travel, and then I work with newly diagnosed SMA families and helping them through their journey. I've worked with the Canadian Organization for Rare diseases, doing a lot of political advocacy with them and being right in Ottawa meeting with the people making the decisions for rare. Yeah, it has. It's ebbed and flowed and it's something that I have to be very aware while I'm doing because I burn myself out very easily. And so I have to remember that there will always be time for advocacy, and I can only do so much. But it's definitely once you have something that you're so passionate about and so passionate about changing, it just kind of becomes a part of your life, whether you want it or not. And just seeing the changes that have come from different projects I've advocated with is really like fuel to keep advocating, because changes do happen. When multiple voices and people come together, there's room for change. And believing that change is possible is key for me and my mental health to not just get down with the way things. Host/Lisa: Are. You feeling overwhelmed? Constantly juggling your responsibilities with little time for yourself? I'm excited to share a free resource with you. This eguide offers practical tips to reclaim your time and prioritize self care. Discover simple strategies to carve out moments for the things you love and recharge your batteries. Download your free copy now at bitly Freemeetime. That's bit ly freemetime. Now let's get back to the show, and you talk a lot about hope. What gives you hope? Shailynn: I think a lot of hope for me has come since treatment. But more than treatment giving me hope, it's seeing little kids and how incredible they're doing on treatment and being able to say, like, wow, if they're able to do that on treatment right from birth, this treatment can do something for me. And believing that I don't need to change anything about the way I am, but hoping that my quality of life can improve. Those little bits of hope are what I cling to. And then, just like family and friends who have always believed so much is possible for me and the community who has come alongside me over the yeah, it's everyone, it's the people who believe in me that give me hope. And then the hope I have for the future of SMA. And SMA not being something that is terminal one day, well, and by being. Host/Lisa: Part of clinical trials, you are creating that change. It may not happen today or tomorrow or next year, but you are a part of that journey of creating that change. Should be very proud of that. You have been quoted as saying that you will not let SMA define you. Can you speak a little bit more to that? Shailynn: Yeah. I think as a teenager I was really scared that my life would only be about SMA and trying to stay healthy. And it is a full time job. SMA is like a huge part of my life. And the research, the conferences, the advocacy, all of it is SMA. But I refuse to let my life just be SMA. I never wanted all my hours to be spent trying to stay alive, because then what was I staying alive for? And so I've always wanted all these experiences. But never really thought I could wait for them in the future. And so instead, it just brought me to live really fast and do all the things I'd ever dreamed while my body was healthy enough. And in doing all of those things, I was able to find myself and realize that I am so much more than SMA. But because of SMA, there's some very special work that I get to do and some amazing people in my life that I would not know if it weren't for the disease. And so I have finally, as an adult, now come to realize that SMA does not define me. It's a huge part of my life. It's a huge part of who I am. But I am my own person with my own goals and just my own experiences I want to have and vision for my life. Host/Lisa: It's interesting because I say the same words about my grief journey. Grief is embedded into every cell of my being. It will never be removed from me. I will carry it until the day I die. But I refuse to let it define me. Shailynn: Definitely, no. Host/Lisa: We are so much more than the challenges that we face. We can let them define us, definitely. We both know probably lots of people that allow that to happen. But when we make that decision not to let that happen, that's where the magic happens. Shailynn: I think it really is. And still being able to give space for that grief and for how it shaped you, but then still choosing to live and to make the most out of life, it's such a duality. But I think it's something that by the end of our lives, almost every human will have experienced both sides of life. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I think the longer we're on this planet, the longer we're alive, the more adversity we face. Now, you may never experience another adversity such as sma. You might experience other, smaller adversities. I may experience nothing like losing my daughter ever again. Dear God, I hope not. But life is constantly throwing curveballs at us. It's unfortunately part of our learning process as human beings is what I've come to accept, I guess, on some level. But I think we do get stronger. I mean, I hated hearing that term, and I don't know how you feel about, you're so strong, right? You just kind of want to throat punch people sometimes. Nobody gave us a choice. Nobody gave you a choice or me a choice. But here we are. And it used to make me angry, but now I think, yeah, I am strong. And you, my dear, are definitely strong. And I think we get stronger by learning to carry our stuff longer and longer and longer. Right. And facing these other curveballs completely. Shailynn: Yes. And we learn to carry it with the memory of the people who are not with us. And that makes it less of a lonely battle. Always when you can just step back and remember that, yeah, there are people right next to you that other people may not see, but they're there. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I couldn't agree more. Now, I've met you a handful of times and you're always chipper and happy and you're just like oozing with positivity. What's your secret? Shailynn: I think my secret is that I know depression, I know sadness, I know grief, and I don't want other people to be feeling those ways. And so I choose to show up joyfully. I choose to be positive and find the positives. But there is no magic trick. It's being around other people who are positive, who choose to show up with joy also, because it's a choice. It's completely a choice to show up angry, bitter, miserable, or to show up with a smile on your face. And I think it's the simplest choice we can make, is to spread kindness to the people we encounter in our day, because we all have no clue what anyone's going through that we pass. And yeah, it's taking space for myself. It's coming to a place where I've learned what I need, what breaks I need to take in order to show up that way. And for me, recently, this last year has been super hard with. I ended up getting c diffs for months and then I was declining on treatment and I had to move home. I was living in Calgary on my own and I had to move back in with my parents at 28. And there was just like a lot of grief that I was experiencing and frustration. And I chose to step away from social media for almost a year. And it wasn't because I didn't feel comfortable sharing the space I was in. It was because I didn't feel I had any positive in me to also bring to people. And I feel that it's important that we talk about the heavy and the grief and those things, but that we also are able to show up with joy while talking about those heavy things. And yeah, it was a long time for me to be able to come to terms with the quick shift my life took and building back what I was dreaming about before it kind of tumbled down. Host/Lisa: So do you think that we can fake it till we make it? Sometimes? Like, even if we're not feeling up to putting that smile on our face or being that person that brings joy. Do you think sometimes we just have to make ourselves do it to get to that point? Or do you think that's doing ourselves a disservice? Shailynn: I think that at some point, we do have to make those tiny changes, because you can stay in that heavy, but nobody is going to bring you out of the heavy except yourself. And so it really is something that you have to force a bit at first, and then it becomes natural. It becomes natural to want to make people smile and to say something kind to them and to make people feel seen. But if you're not feeling seen, the forcing will just drain you. Host/Lisa: Yeah, I think you're absolutely right. I think that there's two sides to that coin. And I agree with everything you said. I mean, there are days that I didn't feel like putting the happy face on, but I did it, and then it got easier. But I also got myself into a heap of mental health trouble by putting that mask on too much and not being honest with myself, even about what was going on inside. So I think it is a little bit of a balancing act, definitely. And there's no easy step by step process on how to work with that. I think we've all got to figure out what works for us. But on that topic, do you have any physical or mental rituals that you do for your physical and mental well being? Shailynn: Yeah, when I'm at my healthiest, I'm going to the gym, I'm stretching. I'm leaving the house at least a few times a week. But it's a bit of a balance, as everything is for me, because I also can only do those rituals when my health has the capacity for them. So they've become things that I know are good for me and that I'm my happiest when I'm doing them. But I also have to be able to pause and know that I'll be able to get back to those rituals and those activities. But sometimes I need a break. So finding that balance is tricky for me. My one ritual that I started in high school, and I'm very privileged to be able to do this, but every winter I go somewhere hot for at least a week, because being in Saskatchewan, where it's freezing and so much snow, I'm pretty much trapped in my house so much. And I need to have that freedom back, to be able to drive my wheelchair down a sidewalk, to be able to go where I want on my own time, and also to have a break from the muscle pain that I get all winter from being so tense. And so that is my one ritual that I try my best to save for and stick to is to have that week of recharge in the season that I know is most challenging for me. And it really does help me to make it through the rest of the winter when I've had a bit of a break from feeling so isolated. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I think there's something powerful, too, in having something to look forward to. Right. Even though things are really awful, like, it could be 400 below or so, it seems, you know, that that trip is coming so good for you for making that a priority. Shailynn: Yeah, it's been very good for me. And then just like I love to swim, I can move freely in the water. So just things like that in that week, I can really take care of myself and move my body. And, yeah, it's very healing. And something that I very much recommend when it's possible is just any kind of little break from everyday life to really recharge. Host/Lisa: Absolutely. I agree. I know that our listeners are going to want to go online and check you out and maybe book you as a speaker. So where's the best place for them to go and do that? Shailynn: The best place for them to reach me is on Instagram. I'll have the link to you for the episode. And, yeah, send me a message. I love being able to be out in the community. I work with everything from schools and kids to women's events, and it really does give me such a purpose to be able to go and spend time connecting with people in the community and being able to normalize disability a bit more. Host/Lisa: And thank you for being so raw and vulnerable. And you've made me comfortable asking you some really hard questions. And I feel like I have learned a little bit more about what SMA is all about and the challenges that people like yourself face. So thank you so much for being my guest today on rising strong. Shailynn: Thank you for giving me a space to share my story. I appreciate it very much so. Host/Lisa: And to the listeners, stay well and be resilient and remember that you were made for more. Catch you next time.
As humans, our health is intricately connected to our relationship with ourselves, others, and our body. This delicate balance can easily be disrupted by negative behaviors, emotional self-sabotage, and toxic internal dialogue. It's essential to recognize the importance of nurturing a positive relationship with our body and mind in order to achieve overall well-being and happiness. In this episode, Sherry and Nicholas Gross discuss the importance of being healthy first before focusing on weight loss. They emphasize the significance of nurturing a positive relationship with our body and the impact it has on our overall well-being. By separating ourselves from the negative internal dialogue and focusing on positive aspects, we can transform our health journey. Tune in to discover how to make peace with food and create a healthier mindset. Nicholas Gross is a prominent figure in the health and wellness community who has had a transformative journey through various ups and downs, leading him to his current pathway of teaching and sharing knowledge globally, especially through retreats. With a deep passion for health and wellness stemming from his early teen years, Nicholas has traveled extensively, delivering impactful lessons on self-care, health, and personal development. He's recognized for his collaboration with others in the field to multiply the positive impact on people's lives, focusing on psychological and physical well-being. Let's explore how to overcome unwanted behaviors, transform negative self-talk, and cultivate self-love for a healthier and happier life! "Health isn't just physical, it's psychological as well. It's all one big package." – Nicholas Gross Topics Covered: 00:02 - Introduction and discussion about upcoming retreat 07:10 - Being healthy first before releasing weight 08:53 - Mimicking habits and routines of healthy individuals 10:22 - Redefining health and focusing on how we feel 11:38 - Health is a balance between body, others, and self. 12:17 - Toxic relationships can impact health and trigger fight or flight. 13:36 - Stressful relationships can lead to emotional eating and affect health. 15:00 - Health is not just physical, it includes psychological well-being. 15:27 - Nervous system plays a role in self-sabotage and integrity. 22:36 - Thoughts are not who we are, they are separate from our true identity. 23:55 - Separating the internal dialogue from oneself 24:25 - Having a conversation with the internal dialogue 25:06 - Relationship with oneself vs. relationship with the body 25:48 - The subconscious mind and its role 26:35 - Programming the subconscious mind through repetition 27:08 - Focusing on negative vs. positive thoughts 27:57 - Holding onto negative comments and self-concepts 29:16 - Dissociating from the voice in the head 30:22 - Noticing and changing the focus of the internal dialogue 31:48 - Shifting focus towards internal transformation and healing 32:31 - The limitless potential for growth and achievement Key Takeaways: Importance of self-care and listening to inner wisdom Importance of a relationship with one's own body and treating it with kindness. Differences between a relationship with body and the relationship with self Connect with Nicholas Gross: Retreat Website Make Peace With Food Website Connect with Sherry Shaban: Website Facebook Instagram TikTok LinkedIn YouTube If you're struggling with self-sabotaging behavior and other non-serving habits that have been keeping you from hitting your health goals, I'd like to invite you to join me in Transformation in Paradise: Metamorphosis Greece this October 12–19, 2024, in Lefkada. Visit www.sherryshaban.com/retreats for more details. If this sounds like something you'd like to learn more about, email me at sherry@sherryshaban.com and let's get in touch to go over all the details and answer your questions to determine if this retreat is the right fit for you. Keep it up, Athletes! Sherry
2 LIVES - STORIES OF TRANSFORMATION Valerie Milburn was getting help for her mental illness but it wasn't until her husband told her she couldn't come home until she found stability that she turned her life around. It was then she began to fight for her recovery and to find the right treatment for her bipolar disorder and PTSD. Today she's been married 40 years and she's close with her children and grandchildren. On top of all that she's helped many people with her story. 2 Lives “The second begins the moment we realize we have only one.” 2 Lives is created by Laurel Morales. Valerie Shively is the assistant producer. Christian Arnder is our illustrator and website designer. Music from Blue Dot Sessions. Become a 2 Lives patron at https://www.patreon.com/2lives Drop us a note on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter. You can learn how to support the show here. Or order merch here. Episode transcripts are posted on our website. Find out more about Valerie Milburn on our website.
“Impaired integration is such a hallmark of the traumatized brain. It disrupts our ability to balance our nervous system. Neurobiologist Dan Siegel says that at its very essence, the purpose of trauma therapy is to restore brain integration.” On today's episode, co-hosts Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristoff of Brain-Based Wellness discuss the neurological impacts of trauma, specifically how disassociation and fragmentation affect our brain integration. They're joined by Matt Bush of Next Level Neuro and co-founder of the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching Certification Program. Expect to understand more about how early childhood trauma results in brain dysfunction, shapes our basic functioning and filtration systems, and can overpower the cognitive mind. You'll also learn what reintegrating memories actually means, and why integration is the key to healing. Trauma Rewired has mentioned many times that without integration, long-lasting change is difficult, but without the survival brain and emotional brain working together, integration, specifically vertical integration, is impossible. This may sound overwhelming, but the good news change IS possible because of neuroplasticity. If you want a deep understanding of vertical integration and how trauma affects the developing brain, tune in to learn more! Tune in to hear how neurosomatic intelligence can help get you to integrate and regulate your nervous system! Topics discussed in this episode: Defining complex trauma from a neurosomatic perspective Effects of trauma on brain development Dissociation and fragmentation of self Memory integration and why people feel “stuck” Real examples of trauma responses overpowering their cognitive brain Dissociating from the different parts of your self What is vertical integration? How developmental trauma affects vertical integration Dysregulation between the brains left and right hemispheres The SAID Principle in realtion to nervous system imbalance Benefits of learning more about trauma and the brain The Spring Cohort is enrolling now! Learn more about Neurosomatic Intelligence and sign up for the upcoming workshop: https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site: https://www.rewiretrial.com Join the Trauma Rewired Facebook Group! Instagram FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: www.athleticgreens.com/rewired This episode was produced by Podcast Boutique http://podcastboutique.com
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Imagine stepping into the shoes of someone who has faced life's darkest corners, battled addiction, confronted trauma and emerged on the other side, not just surviving, but shining with spiritual wisdom. Welcome to our space, and today, we have the privilege of having Gabby Bernstein (to speak about her book Happy Days), a spiritual teacher and author who embodies resilience and transformation, sharing her life's journey with us. She unveils her battle with addiction, her path to sobriety, and a traumatic childhood event that laid concealed for years, providing insight into how extreme behaviors, good or bad, can serve as shields protecting us from our internal struggles. Have you ever pondered how our past traumas, feelings of shame and relationship styles can affect our physical health? Together with Gabby, we delve into this fascinating territory, examining how these elements can manifest into physical issues, from digestive problems to brain fog. Gabby's insights reveal that our biologically designed shame responses, which are meant to tether us to safety, can lead to debilitating issues when suppressed. Moreover, we shed light on the enduring physical impact of trauma and stress the importance of embarking on the healing journey in a safe and timely manner.For Mari's Instagram click here!For Pursuit of Wellness Podcast's Instagram click here!For Gabby's Instagram click here!For Gabby's Podcast click here!For Gabby's Coaching Membership click here!Gabrielle's Books (to name a few):Happy DaysThe Universe Has Your Back: Transform Fear to FaithSuper Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest DreamsMay Cause Miracles: A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited HappinessProducts Mentioned:Peter Lavine - Trauma ExpertThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Get 25% off your first order when you use our exclusive link jennikayne.com/POW! Use code POW15 at checkout for 15% off your entire order at www.vionicshoes.comControl Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeoderant and get $5 off your Starter Pack (that's over 40% off) with promo code POW at lumepodcast.com #lumepodHead to OSEAMalibu.com and use code pow for 10% offDownload the Ibotta app now and use code pow to get 100% cash back on your Thanksgiving dinner starting November 1stProduced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
I wouldn't wish borderline personality disorder on anyone – it's a truly difficult and chaotic way to live life. Yet it's just as difficult to be in relationship with someone who lives their life on an emotional roller coaster. Today we're going to focus on how you can set boundaries with folks who have borderline traits (I'll also go over the traits themselves). We'll focus specifically on having a parent with borderline PD – but these suggestions could also help if your friend or cousin or sibling suffers from the disorder. I'm pulling from some extremely well-written articles as well as my own experience with patients – and those links you'll be able to find in the show notes.. The listener voicemail is tough to listen to and involves murder – so please realize this may be a trigger for you. It's from a woman who's deeply grieving her daughter's actions as well as the deaths of grandchildren - and blames herself – or feels guilt – for not knowing how to help. 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Hello and welcome or welcome back to SelfWork. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist and I started SelfWork almost seven years ago in order to extend the walls of my practice to those of you who might already be very interested in psychological and emotional issues, maybe you're even in therapy, would would appreciate the comments from another therapist or thoughts or to those of you who might be looking for answers. Maybe you've just been diagnosed with a mental illness or you have a loved one that you're concerned about. But also to those of you who are bit skeptical about the whole mental health thing, this is for you and I so appreciate every one of you being here. You know, I wouldn't wish borderline personality disorder on anyone. It's a truly difficult and chaotic way to live life, but it's just as difficult to be in relationship with someone who lives their life on this kind of emotional rollercoaster. Today we're gonna focus on how you can set boundaries with people who have borderline traits. And I'll also go over the traits themselves. We'll focus specifically on having a parent with borderline personality, but these suggestions would also help if your loved one is a friend or a cousin or a sibling that suffers from the disorder. I'm pulling from some extremely well written articles as well as my own experience with patients and those links you'll be able to find in the show notes. I discovered a wonderful article on the Mighty written by someone with borderline who offered what I thought were creative and very helpful tips on how the individual themselves can set boundaries with themselves that allow them to slow down, be less reactive, and thus create less chaos. The listener voicemail is tough to listen to and involves murder. So please realize this may be a trigger for you. 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So let's answer the most obvious question first, what are borderline traits? Here's the Mayo Clinic's list of signs and symptoms, and I'm adding my own comments about what that might look like in real life. So here's number one, an intense fear of abandonment, even going to extreme measures to avoid real or imagined separation or rejection. Now when they say extreme, it can be very extreme. I once worked with a man, happened to be a doctor who'd been so emotionally abused by a wife with borderline that he was divorcing her. He drove from another city to see me because she'd follow him, threaten him with bizarre threats and leave frightening troubled notes or dead animals to try to prevent the divorce from happening. This was very serious. Now obviously she had severe borderline and borderline is on a spectrum just like everything else in mental health, but this fear of abandonment is really, really strong. Number two is a pattern of unstable, intense relationships, such as idealizing someone one moment and then suddenly believing the person doesn't care or is cruel. So you can go from the best friend ever, the best child ever, if it's your parent, the best therapist ever to the worst, just imagine what it might be like to truly feel that way, the way the borderline feels. And of course when you're on the receiving end, and if you are a child, it's highly confusing and can feel very manipulative. Number three is rapid changes in self-identity and self-image. That includes shifting goals and values and seeing yourself as bad or as you don't exist at all. What I've found is that questions will be asked like, do I matter at all? For example, years ago I had a client who'd leave this message on my voicemail, "Call me back if you want to." So if I called back, I obviously wanted to reflecting that it was soothing to her that it wasn't my job to call her back, but cause I cared about her. And of course the opposite of that would be if I didn't call her back, at least not immediately, it would mean to her I didn't care and the client could even feel that she didn't exist for me. And so they can set themselves up by this need for reassurance. And also when they don't get it in the way they want it, they can feel as if they don't exist. They're not important, they're bad, whatever. Number four is periods of stress-related paranoia and loss of contact with reality lasting from a few minutes to a few hours. Now this is the case for truly severe cases of borderline. I'd say what happens more often is that the person with borderline personality disorder frequently disassociate likely due to previous abuse.And so it's become a way for them to de-stress. Dissociating means that your minds sort of goes someplace else and you feel like you're not really in your body. Daydreaming is a mild form of dissociating. But people with a lot of abuse in their histories, their minds have dissociated from the abuse when the abuse was happening as a way to protect themselves. Here's the next one, impulsive and risky behavior such as gambling, reckless driving, unsafe sex spending, sprees, binge eating or drug abuse or sabotaging success by suddenly quitting a good job or ending a positive relationship. Now this trait can be confused with bipolar disorder and does have quite a few similarities, but when the mania is over, someone with bipolar disorder will see the damage as damage. Someone with borderline personality disorder may not. Most of this is due of course, to the fact that they are governed by their emotions. So if they wanna do it, if they feel like it's an impulse at the time that they wanna do or they'll spend the money or they'll drive recklessly it's sex they wanna have, then they'll do it no matter what the impact on them is or other people. Actually. The next one is suicidal threats or behavior or self-injury, often in response to fear of separation or rejection. This is very, very common. Cutting is often a part of this or burning yourself. Another is hitting their heads against something repeatedly. And of course what someone with borderline personality disorder might tell you is that when they cut, they're actually trying to distract themselves from their deep emotional pain. It relieves the depth of their emotional pain by feeling physical pain. Other borderlines have told me that they don't feel anything when they cut. So it is truly a dissociative, like we were talking before, it's a dissociative behavior. Here's the next. Wide mood swings lasting from a few hours to a few days, which can include intense happiness, irritability, shame, or anxiety. Again, this really mimics bipolar disorder. Here's a very important one, ongoing feelings of emptiness. I had the same, "call me if you want to" client tell me her soul felt like it was a black hole. In my work with borderline personality, I often used the image of creating a safe sponge in your soul. So when something positive comes your way, you can absorb it instead of being lost in that black hole and you lose the existence of whatever positivity there was. But of course, someone with borderline may also or more often absorbed the negative. That's why the sponge idea has to be linked with positive feedback. And then the last is inappropriate intense anger such as frequently losing your temper, being sarcastic or bitter or having physical fights. So those are the major signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder. Now your next question could easily be how does someone develop B P D? The only answer is that its cause seems to have multiple levels, multiple facets because we don't know. It may be from early trauma, very poor attachment, never feeling safe. There are many in fact who feel that dissociative identity disorder or what used to be called multiple personality disorder is really a severe borderline disorder where in your past your safety was so compromised that you literally had to break into another sense of self or another persona to handle the stress of no safety. Think of it as something getting heavier and heavier to hold. So you have to use both hands. As the stress increases with the horror in this case, increases, your mind creates another self to help with the weight of that horror. And so doing your mind stays more stable, although you are now "broken" into two personas. Much less severe is the person who may feel as if they morph into different aspects of themselves. Not two different names or identities, but again, those symptoms we discussed of changing values or identities is tied into dissociation so early trauma can cause it. Then there's genetic inheritance, although genetic factors are being ruled out in other areas. So I'm not sure on this one. Now these behaviors can also be learned if you had a parent with borderline, you can absorb and mimic those beliefs and behaviors. But what I really wanna say is that it's a miserable way to live. And obviously if you are a child of someone with borderline, it's very confusing and very complicated. But let's move on to trying to love and relate to someone with borderline personality disorder. We'll talk about that right after we hear from AG1. Our next partner is AG1, the daily foundational nutrition supplement that supports whole body health. I drink it literally every day. I gave a G one a try because I wanted a single solution that supports my entire body and covers my nutritional bases every day. I wanted better gut health, a boost in energy immune system support. 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If you've listened to SelfWork a lot, I did an episode a while back on the different categories of narcissism. So this is similar we should say here, and in fact I probably should have said it in the beginning. There do seem to be more females with borderline than males. The reason for that is unknown. So let's talk about those types or categories of borderline. Christine Lawson, author of Understanding the Borderline Mother has a taxonomy of the troubled parent. There are four of them, the waif, the hermit, the queen and the witch. In a Psychology Today article, a man named Matthew Hudson writes, "The queen is controlling, the witch is sadistic, the hermit is fearful and the wave is helpless." Why is this important? Because the way they may have of interacting with you is going to look and feel different from one another. And so each requires a different approach. Again, I'm still quoting Matthew Hudson. "Don't let the queen get the upper hand. Be wary even of accepting gifts because it engenders expectations. Don't internalize the hermit spheres or you'll become limited by them. Don't allow yourself to be alone with a witch. Maintain distance for your own emotional and physical safety. The witch is probably the most sadistic and even sociologically pathological kind of personality, and the wife don't get pulled into her crises and sense of victimization". Lawson says, "Pay attention to your own tendencies to want to rescue her, which just feeds the dynamic." But all that said, what does loving someone with borderline personality feel like and what can you do? Often the chief of motion you have to deal with and learn how to confront is guilt. Let's say your phone rings, you look down and her name appears on your screen. Sadly, you dread clicking over and then comes the guilt you history with her rushes into your mind as you wait for one more ring, you're reminded of all the times that you've rushed her aside, comforted her and told her you'd be there for her while realizing over time that your caring would never be enough to shore up her fragile self-worth. Or you think of how you've watched as she's made one impulsive choice after another, while blaming others, including you. For the chaos of her life, you've had to set boundaries against which she constantly pushes, ultimately accusing you of not caring when she senses your fatigue. Perhaps you've heard thinly veiled hints of self-harm followed by admonitions that she doesn't know how long she could continue like this. Maybe there are sudden unexplainable times when you felt that your love for her was reciprocated in an intense, almost intoxicating way, yet almost as quickly as it arrives, that warm glow that you feel disappears in a cloud of sudden anger or irrational disappointment that's coming at you. Even more confusing is that others who know her in the community may adore her. They have a clue about how draining this relationship can be for you and would find your reality nearly unbelievable as she can often be quite popular and well loved by coworkers, neighbors, and even strangers. You see, structure offers her a scaffolding, a role to play, and if she's the teacher or the supervisor, she can shine, but she lacks the empathy needed for closer, more intimate relationships. What this means, again, is that with structure, someone with borderline personality disorder, when that structure is provided for her, when she knows what her role is, what her duties are, what her responsibilities are, she can follow those rules exactly and be beloved, be kind, be enthusiastic. But when she leaves that structure and has to build her own, that's where she can fall apart. And so she's not a good mother or she's not a good friend. In fact, she could be an awful friend or an awful mother no matter who she is, whether she's your mom, your sister, your partner, your friend, you can become exhausted and your own guilt can be unrelenting. And guess what? She'll encourage that. So what does guilt sound like inside your head? "She's my mother. She raised me the best way she could. I owe her and she's getting older and isn't able to care for herself." Or, "She's my daughter. I'll never forget the day I saw her for the first time. So tiny, so trusting, she deserves the same kind of relationship I have with the other kids", but she's not like your other kids. "Even though she's my ex, I don't know how she'd treat the kids if she felt like I wasn't there for her.She flipped out when we got divorced. I can't totally abandon her ever. It's wreaking havoc between me and my now wife who of course she detests" And one more. "She was my best friend when no one else would talk to me in the eighth grade. She was there always. So why do I shudder at the thought of simply talking with her?" Now you can hear it. Guilt. Guilt and more guilt, In I hate you. Don't leave me the classic book on borderline personality disorder. The author state, "The borderline shifts her personality like a rotating kaleidoscope, rearranging the fragmented glass of her being into different formations". That's what we were talking about before, right? Like a chameleon, she transforms herself into any shape that she imagines will please the viewer. That's why you can think you know her, but then when you try to develop an intimate or emotionally intimate relationship with her, all of these other traits that we talked about begin to come out. In fact, it could actually be uncanny how well someone with borderline traits can assess your own internal struggles and use those very issues to manipulate you. For example, if you're someone who takes responsibility for your actions very seriously, she may subtly or not so subtly insinuate you're falling down on the job or question whether you know what you're doing. A lot of times if I had a borderline client, maybe I hadn't slept the night before and I was a little fatigued, and she would look at me and she'd say, "Oh, you know what? We don't have to meet today. You look kind of tired." You could hear that she's zoned in on my fatigue already and she's trying to see if I'm going to tell her, "You're right, you're not important to me. Let's call off this session". Or "Of course you're important to me even though my fatigue is showing." It's a setup, but they don't realize it's a setup. That's what's important to know. As someone who's lived and tried to love someone with this struggle, you can only be responsible for that which you can control. I wanna say that sentence again. You may be someone who's lived and tried to love someone with this borderline struggle, but you must remember you can only be responsible for that which you can control. You've probably tried multiple times to get your loved one help. And what does she do? She stops taking her meds, she gets involved with another bad relationship, or she doesn't return your text after she's threatened suicide one more time. Perhaps she even denies that she has a problem at all pointing the finger at you and stating you're not, not trying hard enough at the relationship. So here are some steps to minimize that guilt and establish those boundaries we talked about in the title of this episode. What you need to do is one, face the fear of your own helplessness in this relationship by predicting the most feared outcome, most likely suicide or some kind of highly dramatic action and decide how you would handle it. This sort of anticipatory grief or anticipation of the worst helps you develop some kind of armor to it. I know what's probably going to happen and I won't be as hurt by it. Number two, assess whether or not she's capable of physically hurting you. Is that a rational fear on your part? If it is, seek advice from a lawyer or in an emergency, the mental health emergency services in your area if you have any. Number three, try to objectively see the damage caused to you and to other family members because someone with borderline is not going to understand the impact of her actions. You need to journal about it and see how your acknowledgement of that may influence your future actions. But you have to claim, yes, I've been hurt, my children have been hurt, whatever it is. Here's number four. Give her back the responsibility for her own life. For example, when she calls with another crisis, say, I know you'll find a way to cope with this and get off the phone. Again, that's giving her back the responsibility for her own life and likely she'll do okay. Now, she may call you back in 20 seconds or 20 minutes, but you just have to keep reassuring her, you know you've got what it takes to handle this. Knowing that she may respond by doing some dramatic action. That's what we talked about at the very beginning. Number five is you wanna provide empathy but not sympathy. You wanna set up strict boundaries for communication, especially around hot topic issues, and then be available. If she does indeed, follow those guidelines. Give her feedback about the positives in the relationship and what you appreciate about her. You want to know and to remember that she's probably in many ways not realizing her impact again, but you don't wanna feel sorry for her, but you can have empathy for what that must feel like. Number six, you wanna grieve the relationship that could have been acknowledge and feel the pain of that loss. Again, journaling can be very helpful here. Number seven, realize she may never have the capacity of understanding the impact she's having on you. She's not withholding something from you, she's likely not capable of giving it. So if you stop expecting that from her, perhaps she won't get hurt. Number eight is get support from others who understand or have walked the same walk. Again, books like Understanding the borderline mother, stop walking on eggshells and I hate you Don't leave me provide great strategies. And number nine, and perhaps the most important, have compassion for yourself. But now quickly, I want to add in some advice from an author who has borderline personality disorder herself and offer some steps for the borderline to set their own boundaries. It's a woman named Megan Glosson, and I found this on The Mighty. So this is boundary setting for the borderline herself. You wanna maintain a two-sided conversation where you listen as well as talk. So focus on listening. You want to ask people if they have the emotional bandwidth to talk to you before you start divulging something serious or telling them how dysregulated you're coming, how upset you are. Don't answer phone calls and don't text messages during your work or sleep hours. You want to pause before you respond in conversations. When you feel yourself growing what she calls dysregulated again, upset, unstable, angry, whatever it is, you wanna take certain situations to your therapist for coaching before you simply react emotionally. You get to practice with your therapist. I loved this idea. You wanna create a list with your family members of off limit topics or friends who don't agree with your perspective and you know you're just gonna argue about it. So there's a list of topics that you agree not to talk about. You can say no to requests that feel uncomfortable or may lead to poor decisions on your part. And then this last one I really liked. You could ask people to not use your diagnosis of borderline as a weapon or an excuse to treat you poorly. And that's exactly right. Now again, some of that may be things you're perceiving erroneously, but that's not fair for someone to say, you know, you've got borderline personality disorder, you're crazy. That's gonna go nowhere. So I thought this was wonderful advice. And from someone who knows how hard it is to live with borderline personality disorder, you can hear the pragmatism in her suggestions. Stop, wait, think, then act. I'll end with this. When I have someone as a client with borderline personality, I'll suggest they ask themselves the question, will this likely create chaos? Now, the definition of chaos might need a little work, but overall, you want to help someone stop and wait and think through things, and that's vital to healing. And if you're trying to love someone with borderline personality disorder and if they have any sense of how their behavior is impacting you and their relationships, perhaps this is a list you want to share with them. And then perhaps you could apply the stop, wait, think, and then act to yourself. Speak pipe message from dr margaret rutherford.com. Let's hear from the listener voicemail for today. Again, a warning is about a murder of two children. Please don't listen if that will act as a trigger for you. Good morning. I woke up feeling guilty this morning because I wasn't able to or didn't know how to help my daughter. At her darkest moments. She wanted to kill herself and I didn't know how to help. She ended up killing her two kids and she attempted to kill herself as well. Her relationship with the kids' father was terrible. She never asked for help. She really put up a front that everything was really good. I live in California, she lived in Las Vegas, but she never said anything and I feel really, really guilty about that. I'm very sad. So the past two years I had my two grandkids pass away, and this year my mother passed away. I've worked with parents and even grandparents who've lost children to murder, but for the mom to kill these children, that's obviously a deep, deep illness or pathology. I could guess that maybe she was hearing voices that told her to kill. That's called psychosis and the proper term is auditory hallucinations. But there's another term for killing your children. It's called philide. The most common factors are depression, including postpartum depression, psychosis, prior mental health treatment, and suicidal thoughts. Sometimes it can happen because a mother believes death is in the child's best interest or she can have delusions. And again, she may be hearing these command hallucinations that tell her to kill. This can occur as a result of cumulative child abuse, neglect, or what's called Munchhausen syndrome by proxy. We won't go into that today. It's too long . Maybe I'll do an episode on it. And actually sometimes it's a very selfish mother who believes her kid as a hindrance. We've recently heard about a woman who killed children because they weren't following her particular religious views where she saw them as filled with the devil. And this is the rarest, a mother who kills as an act of revenge against the child's father. But whatever the reason or the pathology behind it, it's horrific for those who've loved all of them. And this mama also tried to kill herself or it looked like she did this kind of grief that's also accompanied by absolute horror. To use that word again, is so very complicated. I'm certainly going to recommend that this listener gets someone to talk to about the guilt she carries since her daughter didn't look sick. Then it's likely that she kept secret whatever was really going on with her. It could have been postpartum depression or some kind of depression that she hid. Perhaps more will be discovered. But until then, the guilt that you didn't see, this is something that I've seen as a part of many types of grief that occur from sudden loss. The fact is, your daughter didn't want you to see it. She didn't want anyone, it sounds like to see it or to see her. I'm so sorry for your loss and sad for all involved, but please turn to a therapist who knows how to work through this kind of trauma with you. Thank you all for being here today. I know there are many ways you can spend your time and having you here at self-work means so very much. Don't forget my Facebook group at facebook.com/groups/ selfwork, and please leave me a rating, a review wherever you listen. I cannot tell you how important that is and how absolutely grateful I feel when I see a new review. Thank you again for being here. Please take very good care of yourself, your family, and your community. I'm Dr. Margaret and this has been SelfWork.
Welcome back to Analyze Scripts, where a psychiatrist and a therapist analyze what Hollywood gets right and wrong about mental health. Today, we are joined by Dr. Jessi Gold to analyze season two of "Yellowjackets." In this episode we discuss cults, schizophrenia, catatonia and the ghastly depiction of ECT. We see many different depictions of trauma responses in this season, some from psychological stressors and others from their worsening physical state. Were you as shocked as we were to learn the mouse is actually dead? Was that a hallucination due to starvation or psychological trauma, the answer is probably both. "Yellowjackets" keeps us guessing and cringing through all nine episodes this season, but we are ready for a break and hope the actors are practicing some self care! We hope you enjoy! Instagram Tik Tok Website [00:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Hi, I'm Dr. Katrina Fury, a psychiatrist. [00:12] Portia Pendleton: And I'm Portia Pendleton, a licensed clinical social worker. [00:16] Dr. Katrina Furey: And this is Analyze Scripts, a podcast where two shrinks analyze the depiction of mental health in movies and TV shows. [00:23] Portia Pendleton: Our hope is that you learn some legit info about mental health while feeling like you're chatting with your girlfriends. [00:28] Dr. Katrina Furey: There is so much misinformation out there, and it drives us nuts. [00:31] Portia Pendleton: And if someday we pay off our student loans or land a sponsorship, like. [00:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: With a lay flat airline or a major beauty brand, even better. [00:39] Portia Pendleton: So sit back, relax, grab some popcorn. [00:42] Dr. Katrina Furey: And your DSM Five and enjoy. Back to another episode of Analyze scripts. We are so excited to once again be joined by Dr. Jesse Gold today to talk about the second season of Showtime's hit show Yellow Jackets. Thanks so much for coming back, Jesse. [01:12] Dr. Jessi Gold: Thanks for having me. [01:13] Dr. Katrina Furey: I do have to say, this show is really messed up. I feel like season one was a lot, and then we sort of watched it really quick to record our first episode and then watch season two really quick. And I was like, I had to take some breaks, I'll be honest, along the way, because it got really intense really fast. [01:34] Portia Pendleton: Yeah. [01:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: Maybe like a two out of ten on a scale of one to ten. So not like fully this season. [01:43] Dr. Jessi Gold: I think it was like last season, they were like, this is a show about cannibals, but you never saw it. [01:50] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right? [01:50] Dr. Jessi Gold: This season was like, remember when you're walking? [01:54] Dr. Katrina Furey: Here it is. Yeah, here it is. [01:58] Dr. Jessi Gold: They danced around it in a way that was like, fine last season. And this season they were like, all. [02:04] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right, here you go. [02:06] Dr. Jessi Gold: And there are definitely parts where you're like, yeah, I can't watch it. [02:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes, I know. I told Portia when we were watching it, I stopped right around when Shauna was about to deliver the baby because I was so scared they were going to eat the baby. I was like, I can't watch that. And I think you actually had to tell me. They don't I looked up the spoiler. [02:28] Portia Pendleton: Yeah, they post on their TikTok, right? Like, the cast being like, we do not eat the baby. You can watch it, I guess, trigger non warning. And I was like, we do a. [02:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: Lot of things, but that's where we draw the line. Gosh. So, I mean, I think we have to get started since this was really early in the first episode, ECT and the depiction of ECT. Right. Like, you probably felt as good about that as I did, which is not very good. [02:57] Dr. Jessi Gold: It is the first time I was disappointed. [03:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, right. [03:02] Dr. Jessi Gold: Last season, I was really excited about all of their mental health portrayals, and I thought they were really thoughtful, and their trauma portrayals were really thoughtful. So I was super excited for this season, despite yes, I'm not, like, a creepy show person, so it's not like surprising that that wouldn't be my genre of choice, but I really liked it for a lot of the reasons I was talking about health wise. And so watching that and seeing that so early on, I was like, oh no, taking such a wrong, unnecessary turn. And yeah, I think inherently if you came back from something catatonic possible, you got ECT, right? [03:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [03:44] Dr. Jessi Gold: The actual treatment of choice for being like catatonic, I think who has schizophrenia or some version of a psychotic right, comes back catatonic. It seems we have like a tiny, tiny, tiny glimpse in that. [03:57] Dr. Katrina Furey: I was going to ask you. I thought it was catatonia as well. Porsche, are you familiar with catatonia as much? How would you describe catatonia, Jesse, to someone who doesn't know what that word means, they're different forms. [04:09] Dr. Jessi Gold: Some people have hyperactive, completely not moving. [04:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Speaking kind of like Lottie, like Lottie. [04:17] Dr. Jessi Gold: Looks like she had it can be a reaction to a lot of things, like medication, like psychosis, like some medical issues inside, internally, like a medical issue. I haven't seen it a ton of times, but I have seen it sometimes it amazingly responds to just like an act. [04:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: Have you ever seen that? Because that is amazing. So portia. Sometimes when you're catatonic, these people are usually brought to the Er and people are either like they're not moving or eating or they're going to the bathroom on themselves. They literally can't move from here to five inches away, or they're like they're being really bizarre and bouncing off the walls and making weird noises and just such a drastic change in behavior really acutely quickly, like for an unknown reason. And then eventually catatonia gets on the differential and you think, let's give them a little Addivan. And so you'll give them like a push of ivy. Addivan, wait a couple only like 2 hours and a lot of times they start to wake up. Then you give them another one if it's working. And that's one of the coolest things in psychiatry is you can see it work so fast. I feel like in mental health that's so rare. Maybe like Add and Stimulants, you see work really quick. But this is so drastic. Like, I remember one woman in the ICU, wasn't eating for days, couldn't move, had something called waxy flexibility where if you put their arm up, it stays. They never bring it down. Or you can position them in an odd position, they stay there. That's part of catatonia. That's one of the telltale diagnostic signs. We give her the Adavan, a couple of hours later she's eating. It's wild. Anyway, so I do think lottie was catatonic. I think that's what they were going for. And even if they weren't, they did. [06:02] Dr. Jessi Gold: A good job in an offshoot. But I do think that as far as things you see in psychiatry, it's interesting, but I have heard from the perspective of a patient who was catatonic, that they understood everything that was going on but couldn't speak or function. And wow, sometimes when people were learning from them because they had certain symptoms, like there's this thing called echolalia where they eat everything that you're saying that they knew. They saw that and didn't like that but couldn't say anything. So after that, I've been hesitant sometimes to actually teach some of it, even though it's rare and interesting. And again, one of the few things you see really get better, which is really nice. But I would assume, who knows how long she wasn't speaking and functioning in the wilderness. [06:56] Dr. Katrina Furey: I know now she's trapped like that. Can you imagine? [06:59] Dr. Jessi Gold: And I would assume her parents were already thought she was dead, but on top of it, we're like, oh, gosh, she's been off meds for like two years. No, I think ECP is a treatment of choice for catatonia. ECT is a very successful medication or. [07:18] Dr. Katrina Furey: Like, treatment super successful, which is unfortunate. [07:21] Dr. Jessi Gold: Psychiatry because everyone flew over the cuz nest, really. And I think that book and that movie and that portrayal have really continued so much that even, like, generationally people who have absolutely never read the book. [07:38] Dr. Katrina Furey: Or true know about it. [07:41] Portia Pendleton: Yeah. [07:41] Dr. Jessi Gold: In that movie, I don't know if parents told them or what, because, you know, they didn't see some old school Jack Nickson movie. [07:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [07:49] Dr. Jessi Gold: There's something where you mentioned ECT to people and their faces so concerned and they think it's the worst thing you can possibly tell them, but it's by far one of our most successful treatments, especially in situations like this. But in acute suspitality in pregnancy. [08:06] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [08:06] Dr. Jessi Gold: Postpartum psychosis wouldn't imagine it's as good as it is. And that stigma that exists for a very long time, very much created by the media, to be honest, really has made it hard for us to sell it as a treatment, despite how successful it is. And so for this show, which is new, to bring it back into the fold. And bring it back into the fold. So almost like quickly flashes, but the flashes you get look really and it's not the ECP. Even in the what would that have been like the 90s, right? [08:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: Exactly. It wouldn't have been like that. [08:47] Dr. Jessi Gold: Some of the things from what blew over the cuckoo sense is like, the technology was older, anesthesia wasn't as good. There's things where you can tell that things have evolved for sure since then. But even in the 90s, it didn't look like what they're showing. What they're showing looks like probably the equivalent of the fact that they still go clear with paddles in medical shows. Like these little pads that are stick. [09:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: On and so dramatic and heavy going to hurt you. [09:17] Dr. Jessi Gold: I know that Er doctors think that's ridiculous because they have most of them never even saw it ever done like that. I feel like what they show for ECT is like that version the OG when ECT was discovered version. [09:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: Also when they say seize, that's not what actually happens. [09:40] Dr. Jessi Gold: The purpose is to induce a seizure in your brain. But it's like so minor and the only way you really even know there's. [09:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: A seizure is like your toe brain. [09:50] Dr. Jessi Gold: Activity or your tone. You would never see someone actually seize. If you did. [09:56] Dr. Katrina Furey: We probably messed up, right. [09:59] Dr. Jessi Gold: Only they test where to go based on just if your finger moves when they get there, they know where different parts of your brain are and they're. [10:07] Dr. Katrina Furey: Targeting a specific part. Right. You're never like lashing or thrashing around, rolling over like Lottie did. And it's also very rare these days to do bilateral ECT on both sides of the head. Usually you start with unilateral and it's been so long since I did or saw ECT, I can't even remember which side you usually start with. But that's also not super common to do bilateral. Sometimes you have to right. [10:34] Dr. Jessi Gold: Then when one's not working as well, you add the other or you try the other and then you do bilateral. [10:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. Oh, really? Like Barbaric bike guard, right? [10:43] Dr. Jessi Gold: Like a bike guard. She has an aggressive actual seizure. As a viewer, you actually don't know what is going on because they don't say the name. They don't going on anyway. So all you see is like this barbaric looking psychiatric treatment. And don't get me wrong, we have screwed up over and over. We were doing treatment wise. But again, so did a lot of medicine that felt like bloodletting was a way to free spirits of stuff. Right. So we're not the only specialty who tried very dangerous things on people. [11:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [11:15] Dr. Jessi Gold: We have a reputation for that and I think that has continued. NPT has basically been this, I don't know, representation of that in modern psychiatry. [11:26] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [11:26] Dr. Jessi Gold: Though it is so effective and I don't know, I wish there was more context to that. Even though I know it was sort of like intentionally vague. But I wish there was more context to it. I wish it was more thoughtful. [11:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: I wish it was more updated and more accurate. [11:42] Dr. Jessi Gold: It was more accurate. And with Lottie they have a lot of potential to talk about humane treatment. [11:50] Dr. Katrina Furey: I know. And we see such bad mental health treatment with Lottie this whole season and that's like the only mental health treatment we see. [12:00] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah, I mean, I think I worry not to get too far ahead that next season too, that she's going to. [12:07] Dr. Katrina Furey: Be inpatient, it's going to be awful. Let's show some good treatment that's struggling. [12:12] Dr. Jessi Gold: Like this, you can go back to. [12:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: Functioning and doing your work and your. [12:16] Dr. Jessi Gold: Life, but this is maybe what you need. Sometimes this is impatient can look like and they have the opportunity to demystify destigmatize. [12:26] Dr. Katrina Furey: It's just so far from what I saw in my training in what actual ECT is, which can be so quite literally life saving for so many patients. And it's just such a shame to have such yet another negative depiction of such a life saving treatment and of schizophrenia. [12:47] Portia Pendleton: I mean, she's going to go inpatient one of the most interesting things in my graduate program was we had this I don't know, because you guys both interfaced with Yale. She was a lawyer, like down in New Haven, and she's an author and she has schizophrenia. [13:02] Dr. Jessi Gold: It's called the center cannot hold with Elon Sack. [13:05] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. [13:05] Portia Pendleton: So she does a lot of talks about her experience with hallucinating, being on medication, not being on medication, how powerful medication is, and how you can really lead a wildly productive I mean, she went to law school. She's a very well known fighter and person lawyer. And that was just, I think, really helping too. I mean, the whole point is to destigmatize schizophrenia. So then we see Lottie here not doing a good job of that. And then we were just talking about future season predictions with maybe her being on inpatient unit and probably not looking so good. [13:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. I do think as much as I was disappointed with the depiction of ECT, I do think this season had some good moments that I thought very, I guess, helpfully displayed the difference between hallucinations dissociation and like a dissociative fugue state. Right. I feel like those things are challenging to wrap your head around, challenging to educate people about, and then I would imagine even more challenging depicting in an accurate way. So when we say hallucination, what we mean by that is when someone is seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting, or smelling something that isn't actually there in reality, so what other people around them aren't experiencing. The most common hallucinations are auditory and visual. So things that you see or hear, although other senses can be affected too. When we say dissociation, what we mean by that is it's psychologically when there's a separation of some aspects of cognitive mental functioning from your conscious awareness. So it's often a response to trauma. And it's like your mind's way of trying to protect yourself and disconnect from an extreme psychological distress. And then kind of even further than that is what we call a dissociative fugue state, which is another rare occurrence. I did see a couple of these in the Er in my training, and that's a temporary state where a person has amnesia for their personal autobiographical information and then travels to an unexpected place, kind of out of nowhere. So these people kind of show up in your Er, don't know who they are, don't know where they are, don't know why they're there. And it takes a while to figure out what exactly is going on. And you don't often jump to like, oh, it's a fugue state. You might think like, oh my God, is there something medical going on? And things like that. But sometimes these patients do end up creating a whole new identity so I thought this show did demonstrate these different aspects of psychological functioning in response to trauma in a really amazing way. I was thinking of Shauna and Jackie, like those hallucinations early on, lottie and her psychiatrist, which we'll get into, I'm sure, in a minute. With the Dissociating, we see that a lot. With Ty, we see that with Shauna kind of forgetting or dissociating about her baby being stillborn. And then the fugue we see with Ty sleepwalking all the way to Ohio and hitchhiking to see Van. So I don't know, what did you guys think about those different depictions? [16:20] Portia Pendleton: I mean, the Dissociation one where Shauna is seeing Jackie, I feel like feels really to me like the most common potentially experience someone might have with, like, a loss, even. [16:32] Dr. Katrina Furey: You mean dissociating or hallucinating? [16:34] Portia Pendleton: Dissociating. [16:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: So this is a great example of how confusing these different conditions can be. Right. Because so Jackie was dead by that point, but she's talking to her. She's seeing her Jackie's moving around. So I would call that, I guess, maybe a little both. [16:48] Portia Pendleton: Okay. [16:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: But definitely visual auditory hallucinations that aren't actually happening. [16:53] Portia Pendleton: I mean, I'm just thinking of like I guess no one's really typical, but like a typical trauma patient who has dissociative features, usually I think, then just seeing them. Right. Like, you say you're like, outside your body or maybe you're in another place, but you're not seeing another person who then you would say isn't there. [17:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. So I think of dissociation as like, having gaps in your memory for the traumatic event, forgetting certain things about it. Sometimes they do describe sort of like hovering above and sort of witnessing it rather than experiencing it. I think what you might be describing is, like, maybe someone who's even something not as severe as trauma, like grief, and you're walking around and you think you see the person, and then you realize, oh, no, that's not really them. [17:39] Dr. Jessi Gold: These are so specific and very hard to know the difference. And they're all sort of in this spectrum of psychological responses that can feel like psychosis, but also are trauma. [17:51] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, exactly. There's a big overlap. [17:53] Dr. Jessi Gold: All of them were interestingly done. I think it's different people's responses to extreme stress, if you want to call it that, on sort of like the Wispy scale. Just a ton of trauma. I don't know how most people would react. And on top of it, also, they're starving. [18:11] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes. [18:12] Portia Pendleton: Right. I was interested in the medical. [18:14] Dr. Jessi Gold: That part is also complicated. If they're, like, are they hallucinating? Are they struggling because they act Harding. [18:21] Dr. Katrina Furey: And their brain is not functioning well? [18:23] Portia Pendleton: Yes. The mouse, it's like you can convince. [18:26] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yourself that that's real because you can't tell the difference. Or the coach very actively hallucinating, but they're sort of like vivid dreams that happen to be while he's awake because he's not really fully functioning, because he's not eating right. I think there's a lot of blurring. And I also think that they use that to the advantage of the show writing, to put in the mysticism. They don't know. They're all sort of broken from reality in some capacity, some more than others for other reasons. But what is real and what is not is confusing. And I think that's also confusing for viewers and purpose. [19:05] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, right. And I wonder, like you're saying, if that how much of that was purposeful. Because as we're seeing them all cope with and respond to trauma and try to survive, they're also telling the story through a lot of flashbacks and flash forwards. And so you kind of are also off kilter, which might just kind of be like in parallel to what you could imagine the characters are experiencing. [19:27] Portia Pendleton: I was thinking about just like I work with a lot of eating disorder patients, right? How important eating and nourishment is glucose, obviously, this is a pretty extreme example, but our brains need nutrition so badly. [19:44] Dr. Katrina Furey: To perform well, to function. [19:46] Portia Pendleton: And even, you know, if you're not starving in the wilderness with no food for weeks, living on soup made with mushrooms, I mean, you can tell. And that's where body disturbance comes in. People have a really hard time judging their body and comparing it and really do believe that they're in a larger body or a smaller body, et cetera. But I just thought what? Just like a little fun fact of how much we need food and how it can really change our experience with reality. [20:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, 100%. And also how some of the dissociation can be protective. Right. When you're trying to survive in the winter in the woods with no idea if anyone's going to find you, it's probably protective to survival, to be disconnected to some degree. Right. Otherwise, like, God, what do you do? [20:33] Portia Pendleton: Right? The mouse seemed really important to her and just like a little creature. Who she's talking to? I mean, I was really shocked when it was dead. [20:41] Dr. Katrina Furey: Me too. [20:42] Dr. Jessi Gold: I'm not going to lie. [20:43] Portia Pendleton: Of course it's alive. [20:45] Dr. Katrina Furey: But then creature, did you wonder if she's going to eat it? [20:48] Portia Pendleton: I think she did. [20:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: Did she eat it? [20:50] Dr. Jessi Gold: Maybe I'm thinking about the ear and was like, no. [20:56] Portia Pendleton: Yeah, I'm thinking of the ear. [20:58] Dr. Jessi Gold: I think it was hard enough to even see the mouse situation change, but I think it's I don't know. It's a cool storytelling technique to use to be like, what's real, what's not? How do you know? And I think they use the same technique. I mean, with the baby situation, guys and the fans all were worried they ate the baby. Yeah, they have her basically hallucinate that people eat the baby and you believe it for a while, thought it could be a possible outcome. The writers knew it could be what people think is a possible outcome. And so they sort of play on that. I don't know, break from every like no one knows what's real and what's not. And I think as a viewer, it allows you to sort of maybe get more in the headspace of what it would be like to be doing that. And then I also think it makes things hard to follow. And you don't always trust the narrator. So interesting from a storytelling perspective. And I also think the food thing, it's like dissociation, if you want to use that term, being connected to your body that is not functioning and hungry and not eating. I understand all of that's. Protective, consciously dissociate. I mean, people who have had trauma sometimes can consciously dissociate as they get older because they learned it as a big skill, but they might not even realize they're doing it conscious, but they still don't even realize they're doing it. And so it's like an evolved coping skill to basically say, my body is not safe where my body is. Let's take a vacation from that, right? It's hard to picture, but it's a logical and important way. [22:49] Portia Pendleton: Yeah. [22:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: And I think, too, this show is doing a nice job demonstrating how like you were saying, Jesse, a lot of times when you're faced with trauma, let alone a chronic trauma, that's not letting up, especially in your early years. Like when you're a teenager or even younger, you develop these coping strategies like dissociation. Not consciously or intentionally, but then how that can persist into adulthood. And we see that with Ty, I think especially how when she's under the stress in season one of Running for Office, she's unconsciously reverting back to some of these coping strategies, like eating the dirt or setting up the altar and things like that. And how we see in season two as the stress keeps escalating, now she's maybe losing her family hallucinated. Sammy, it seems like before she got into that awful car accident where Simone got hurt. Then we see the dissociative few coming. And I think, again, that's a pretty intense depiction, but also really accurate. Like, I treat a lot of patients in adulthood who have a trauma history who find themselves dissociating or and that can be as simple as when faced with some reminder of what you went through, you all kind of feel like you're losing touch with your body. Sometimes I have patients describe it as like a zoom out or something. It can be as, quote unquote mild as something like that all the way to something as severe as, like, a fuke state. And you're right, I think, with the way they're telling the story and how smart is this? You do start to doubt. Like, I found myself wondering, was Misty's friend Crystal real until she died? And so thinking about lottie in the woods, but then also as an adult with her psychiatrist, I'm curious, Jesse, what your thoughts are about that whole depiction. [24:42] Dr. Jessi Gold: Isn'T real. Yeah, again, that sort of was like, whoa. It was interesting to me because I was like, why don't you keep saying her psychiatrist is on vacation? I thought that was the weirdest addition to the conversation because it was irrelevant. I don't know. It's interesting because in a way, it's like she thinks she's asking for help and she wants to ask for help, but she's asking for help in her world, not real world, but then her help asking in the real world is like this very dangerous mysticism. [25:15] Dr. Katrina Furey: And I thought it was so, like, before I realized the psychiatrist wasn't real at first, was like, I like the psychiatrist's office. Overall, I liked it. But then the psychiatrist said something like, when Lottie is coming and basically asking for medication or to go up on her medications because the hallucinations are coming back. And again, patients with that awareness of their psychotic disorder or their bipolar disorder with psychotic features or what have you can realize that and will come and seek help. And I think that's amazing when that happens. I was so disappointed when the fake psychiatrist said something to her, like, well, maybe you should listen to your hallucinations. I was like, no. And then when we realized she wasn't real, I was like, oh, Portia, I don't know. When did you catch on? [26:00] Portia Pendleton: I didn't until now. And not that she wasn't real. The last time we see the psychiatrist, she like, disappears, right, from Lottie's home, our office, whatever it was. And so I was like, oh, that was a hallucination. But I thought that that was the. [26:17] Dr. Katrina Furey: Only time she hallucinated her. But like, the other time she went, she actually went? Yes. [26:21] Portia Pendleton: And she was just getting, like, unhelpful, unhelpful help. [26:25] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, maybe. You know, oftentimes with psychosis, at least I learned in my training. And I think this tracks if I sort of, like, reflect back, it's the auditory hallucinations that are the most common. And then I remember, like, visual hallucinations are more common with, like you said, like a medical issue or like alcohol withdrawal, UTI, stuff like that. And it is more often like whispers or hearing a voice, but it might not even be that the voice is saying something that's really clear to understand, but it sounds threatening or scary or could be a command hallucination telling them to harm themselves in some way. But, yeah, the idea of a friend or this whole external person, I haven't seen as much in real life. [27:15] Portia Pendleton: Well, I wanted to bring up just your article for the Slate. So just thinking about trauma, and we mentioned this like a couple of minutes ago. I think it's so important for people to know that if you're doing something like an EMDR or an art trauma treatment, you are opening the bag up, you are recalling really specific memories. And I like how you said you have to be prepared for that. And sometimes things get worse before they get better. And thinking about the characters on the show, it's like their trauma was so chronic and pervasive. And then continues at Post Wilderness that for treatment for them even thinking of Lottie, they need to be in really. [28:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: Safe, really good care, really safe. [28:02] Portia Pendleton: And environment providers really know what they're doing, who can hold them. And just thinking of all their dissociations as really, really coping, I mean, I don't know if it's safe for them to open the trauma jar altogether. [28:18] Dr. Katrina Furey: Especially, I think we see what happens, right, how the hunt happens again near the end of the season. [28:24] Portia Pendleton: And you can see Shauna and Misty being so shocked that Ty and Van did not end up or they called off lottie getting taken at that point. And they really started in the fear that Wright comes up for Shauna and Misty again with, like, Van and Ty allowing the hunt to happen. I don't know. I mean, I think just trauma, oh, there's great trauma treatments now and everyone should work on their trauma. [28:47] Dr. Katrina Furey: Sure. [28:47] Portia Pendleton: But you have to be safe to do it. [28:50] Dr. Katrina Furey: And you do need to be with a very skilled provider who knows what they're doing and knows how to handle when dissociative features might come up or when a panic attack might come up, and help you sort of stay present and feel safe is like the most important thing. [29:05] Dr. Jessi Gold: I think it's important for people to know that if you seek out trauma therapy, you're not going to dive immediately into it too, and you don't like this fear that you're going to say, Hi, nice to meet you. Tell me about that time in the wilderness when you're like, we don't do that. [29:20] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right? [29:20] Dr. Jessi Gold: Like, if you're trained in it, if you see the right kind of people, you get used into it. You will have those conversations. That's why you chose to have that therapy. But the purpose is not just to expose you and make you feel miserable. And so knowing that, I think, is important. [29:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: Some forms of trauma therapy now, like CPT, cognitive processing therapy without the trauma narrative, where you don't have to recall and detail the whole trauma narrative to do the therapy, how that's also been shown to be equally as effective as the version with the narrative. And I think that's really helpful for patients to hear because I think that is a big barrier to seeking it out is this fear that you're going to have to retell it and relive it over and over and over and over and that isn't always the case. [30:05] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah, there's a lot of fear in them telling their story, which you can tell even probably one of the better scenes is all of them as adults, kind of like talking about how messed up their lives actually are, listening to music and dancing and drinking yeah. Around the fire and it's kind of fun, but you're also like they're just like, telling each other how bad their lives are, but they don't tell anybody. Else. They don't trust anybody else. It's like a weird, sort of, like, peer support system that protected them for a long time. It has made them all really safe. [30:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. And the only time they could connect in that way again is when they're, like, out in the wilderness around a fire, which is so similar to the time they were stuck. [30:50] Portia Pendleton: It just feels re traumatizing. [30:55] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. [30:55] Portia Pendleton: And I didn't like watching it the whole last episode. I felt nervous when they started doing. [31:03] Dr. Katrina Furey: The stuff with the cards and then lottie's like, the Russian roulette with the poison, and I was just like, oh, no. But I did think it was amazing storytelling to have that going on in parallel to when they started doing that in the wilderness and how you could see again. You think of the coping skills you develop to survive in such a traumatic situation like that, and how they're sort of bubbling up again now in adulthood. [31:27] Portia Pendleton: And Natalie, is substance use certainly a coping skill? A way for her to kind of detach and then just her arc? I was sad to see spoiler alert. I had to see her go. [31:40] Dr. Jessi Gold: I'm really excited about hoping that they tell the future, too. Is this, like, sort of passing on of trauma to the next generation? [31:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yes, with Callie, because there's, like, something. [31:52] Dr. Jessi Gold: Where she's known her mom is not okay for a very long time, but her mom won't talk to her about it. And you see in her mom's interview with the cops and stuff that she didn't really think she should be a mom. Not really worthy of it, not really able to do it correctly. You grow up and you know there's something there when you get older and you're able to have more of a sense of things. And they don't talk about it. The parents aren't talking about it. They disagree a lot, or they're not getting along. Well, you see that, too. And then she just wanted to be let in. She's been waiting to be let into the story her whole life. And I feel like she's been defensive and protective of her mom in ways that she wouldn't have been otherwise. But she's clearly been traumatized from the whole thing, too. I know. Even the stuff she thinks of doing for the cop and all that stuff, manipulative and whatever, but it's like, I. [32:48] Dr. Katrina Furey: Guess this is what we do, right? Yeah. Gosh. And I think a lot of people can probably relate to that, hopefully in a different way. But when you yourself have grown up with some sort of trauma or something, how and when do you share that with your kids in a way that keeps them feeling safe, but also promotes connection rather than this vibe that we don't talk about hard things? I have no idea. But this show, I think, depicts that like you're saying in a really intense way. Jesse, again, getting back to your article. What did you think about the depiction of Lottie's, what seems like a cult, and yet it didn't seem like Lottie had, like, a nefarious intent. Right. That I feel like a lot of cult leaders, there's usually a nefarious, selfish intent there. [33:36] Dr. Jessi Gold: I mean, it's a cold article for Slate on that, and part of it was because I was very curious about what the draw for people with mental illness and trauma is of colts. Yes, there's a lot of draw. The support and the understanding and that somebody listening to you. The acceptance attempt at finding a solution, which I think happens for a lot of our patients. And they turn to supplements and they turn to things that maybe feel quicker because somebody maybe gave them an answer, CBD something. And there's not a lot of great treatment or fast treatment for some of this. And it's nice to think there could be. I think there's some version of Lottie who is like her purpose in her mind is to help the wounded souls of the world without realizing that there's negative to what she's doing. And that's a lack of insight. Some of I don't know how much is purposefully hurtful as much as it is what she believes is right, but what she believes is right is unfortunately not really right. So you kind of have to say maybe her insight into right and wrong is not 100% there. [34:58] Dr. Katrina Furey: And again, why would it be, given what she went through? Right. [35:00] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah. I mean, given, like, that she wants to kill someone for the wilderness or give it blood. [35:07] Portia Pendleton: Right. And if she were to die, who then takes care of her? Right. Who then leads her people followers? [35:16] Dr. Katrina Furey: If she drinks the cyanide, what happens? Maybe it's Lisa. That girl. I don't know. [35:22] Portia Pendleton: I think it's definitely the lack of insight and just not I think she's ultimately that demonstrates to me selfishness because you're not thinking about all these people who you have living in this commune, taught to be here, where they're kind of surrounding you and your ideas. It's like, well, if I'm gone, you're not thinking about them. [35:41] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah. No, that's a good point. I think I was comparing her this time to Keith Ranieri of the nexium cult. I don't know if you watch The Vow, but how they're again, clearly it's a cult. Right. They're not communicating with the outside world, even though they could. They all just choose not to. Right. They're all wearing purple. They're all doing sort of these woo woo things she holds onto the files. Yeah. And, like, the info. Right. So maybe there was more to it than we saw about what's she getting. [36:12] Dr. Jessi Gold: Out of it, being each other's family. [36:14] Dr. Katrina Furey: This is what works, and maybe that's enough for her. Maybe that's what she gets out of it, that community and belonging and sense of importance. [36:22] Portia Pendleton: And then it's for her, right? [36:24] Dr. Katrina Furey: For her rather than for everyone else. I did think it was interesting as we start wrapping up the way that the show and it seems like the characters maybe led by Lottie, but then they all kind of accept it to some degree, keep talking about the darkness within each of them and then the role of the wilderness or that mysticism role. And it made me think of is this how they're trying to externalize in some way these dark parts of themselves that they ended up using or relying on to survive? And I think we just sort of see that unfold as they grow into adulthood and as they all get back together and kind of redo another hunt at Lottie's psychotic urging. Quite frankly, at that point, I think she's like, fully psychotic. [37:21] Portia Pendleton: And I think it's just interesting. They all name it, though, right? [37:25] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, they all have the same name. [37:27] Portia Pendleton: Misty and Shauna all decide prehunt that they are going to go along with Lottie and her really psychotic ideas about. [37:36] Dr. Katrina Furey: One very dangerous yeah, very dangerous. [37:38] Portia Pendleton: And then I think it's so, like, why Ty and Van? [37:43] Dr. Katrina Furey: I was shocked. [37:44] Portia Pendleton: Van seems terminal. [37:46] Dr. Katrina Furey: She's a terminal illness. [37:48] Portia Pendleton: So is that her way you said before, of trying to be saved by Lottie? [37:52] Dr. Katrina Furey: Because it seems like Lottie has, like, quote unquote, saved Van in the past, or the wilderness has saved Van from all the time she should have died in the woods but didn't. And so I was stumped as to why they would call off the emergency medical personnel to take Lottie into treatment or traditional psychiatric treatment. And that was the only thing I could really come up with, was like, did Van think in some way Lottie could once again save her? I don't know. What do you think, Jesse, about all that? [38:22] Dr. Jessi Gold: I don't know. Or I feel like Van thought she would be chosen to sacrifice herself for people. I don't know. It's too obvious, too just like she would be the one to go and. [38:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: She was like, okay with it because she had a terminal illness or something. [38:38] Dr. Jessi Gold: It felt like a chicken thing that they all failed at stopping. Okay, someone's going to stop this, right? And maybe they thought Lottie would, because it's hard to see, like, in what we know about the past, we don't know how much Lottie is involved in the like, they start that game, like that game. I know people with card game. It's hard to know how much of that takes a life of its own, and it's not actually Lottie's life. And so maybe they were like, this isn't really what Lottie like, Lottie is going to be like, this is a bad idea. I don't know. And so it felt like to me, either Van was ready to self sacrifice or that they were all playing a game of chicken, that they were hoping someone would stop, and nobody did. And it felt like that as kids, a little bit too right. Someone's not going to kill Natalie. Right? And then they were like, oh, he fell in. [39:42] Dr. Katrina Furey: Oh, my God. Right. [39:43] Dr. Jessi Gold: Super traumatic and very parallel to that. [39:46] Dr. Katrina Furey: Moose, the white moose. [39:49] Portia Pendleton: Yes. [39:49] Dr. Katrina Furey: I also wondered if that was real, that white moose or hallucination. [39:54] Dr. Jessi Gold: It's hard to know that if they thought it would actually go through. It's pretty clear. Shauna didn't. [40:00] Dr. Katrina Furey: She's like, oh. [40:01] Dr. Jessi Gold: She was like, what the serious? [40:03] Dr. Katrina Furey: Are you really seriously, guys? [40:05] Dr. Jessi Gold: Yeah, this is what's going on. And turn around and I don't know. [40:12] Portia Pendleton: And Ben's refusal. We talked about him really briefly before with his hallucinations. [40:19] Dr. Katrina Furey: At first I thought that was a. [40:20] Portia Pendleton: Flash forward and he made it home. [40:22] Dr. Katrina Furey: And he was with his boyfriend and it was all beautiful. And then I was like, oh, no. The season ends with Natalie's death at Misty's hand. We didn't get into Misty and Elijah Wood, but I just loved that pairing and their little caligula dance when she was in the sensory deprivation tank. So just shout out to that. But then we also see Ben burn down the house and it's still winter. Right? Aren't you terrified for like, oh, no, what are they going to do now? You know? It's got to be worse than what we've already seen because they survive. So, yeah. I'm just very nervous about this show. [41:01] Portia Pendleton: And time wise, I feel like someone has definitely figured it out on TikTok. I want to know when season two ends. How far are they into the 19 months? [41:12] Dr. Katrina Furey: Are we only like a third of the way in? [41:14] Portia Pendleton: Is this soon? [41:15] Dr. Jessi Gold: There are things that in this very meta, writers shout out to writers on. [41:21] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [41:21] Dr. Jessi Gold: But in this very meta, very awesome way of writing, the reason we don't know what's real or not is because they don't want us to, because the people don't. And the reason they have not given us any time clues except for seasons changing, is that's all they know, too? [41:38] Portia Pendleton: Yeah, that's a great point, and I. [41:41] Dr. Katrina Furey: Appreciate that about this show. The way they're telling the story and how the way they tell the story is so mirroring, I think their own traumatic experiences, like we're talking about with the hallucinations, the dissociating, the difficulty figuring out what's reality, what's not, I think that is exactly where they all are. But I'm, like, so scared of how are they going to survive without shelter now? [42:05] Portia Pendleton: And the season we had mentioned even last time is going to be delayed. [42:10] Dr. Katrina Furey: Right. [42:11] Portia Pendleton: Season three, because of the writer strike. And I think prior we said that last time. I don't know how we knew that if the writer strike was happening, but it's going to be a while, I think, until I feel like I need. [42:23] Dr. Katrina Furey: A pause because it's so intense. [42:26] Dr. Jessi Gold: Bonus episode again, I stay off the fan theories, but the showrunner confirmed it, so they have some bonus episode for the season that like Jason Ritterson that they will give release at some point, given that their showrunners very into the strike. I think she rightfully so. [42:45] Dr. Katrina Furey: Rightfully so. [42:49] Dr. Jessi Gold: Out of respect. I also think they only got, like, one writer's room for season three or something before this strike. So, yeah, I will get a break. [42:57] Dr. Katrina Furey: But yeah, these shows and the writing is just so astounding the way that they get it, right. [43:01] Portia Pendleton: Like, so much content to talk about. I mean, we feel what they feel, right? We feel anxious, we feel joy. And I think that's just like that's because there's these amazing, talented people working on all these shows, and that's why we're talking about them. [43:13] Dr. Jessi Gold: Right. I really hope that young Shauna gets some awards. Yeah, that's one thing I've been thinking about. Another thing I've been thinking about is how hard it must be to do that role. [43:29] Dr. Katrina Furey: We talk a lot about how I hope there's a therapist on set for the actors, for everyone who is part of this. Because even acting or pretending or assuming the role has got to be traumatic in its own way, right. [43:44] Dr. Jessi Gold: I mean, it has, right? To be basically like you're living wherever he gets filmed in Canada. I think you're taking the content in and embodying it. And some of that content is like I mean, all of that content is horrible. Right. They're all disturbing traumatized and starving or whatever. But, like, the people who have these really horrific storylines and need, like, extreme emotions, like, Shauna goes through, like, she beats the **** out of audience. Her emotions are very regulated in a way that somebody's actively experiencing trauma and years later experiencing trauma, we experience and embodying that in such a visceral way as, like, I don't know, she's in her 20s. Right, right. [44:34] Dr. Katrina Furey: Where can they pull that from? [44:35] Dr. Jessi Gold: Sitting apart, because you have your own story, your family has their own story. Whatever. You could have never gotten help for it before, and you're just doing the role and you need help later, but you just see that stuff and you're like, this is hard enough to watch. [44:51] Dr. Katrina Furey: Yeah, definitely. [44:53] Dr. Jessi Gold: How many takes do they have to do? I don't know. I think that's just really hard. I do hope that they realize that that's okay. Right. [45:04] Dr. Katrina Furey: Well, Jesse, thank you so much for joining us once again as our Yellow Jackets correspondent in the field. We really appreciate it. Can you tell everyone where they can find you? [45:16] Dr. Jessi Gold: Sure. At Dr. Jessebold on TikTok, Twitter, Instagram, or Dr. Jessebold.com works too. [45:24] Dr. Katrina Furey: Awesome. And you can find us at Analyze Scripts on Instagram and Analyze Scripts podcasts on TikTok. And we will see you next Monday. Yeah, thank you. Bye. [45:39] Dr. Katrina Furey: This podcast and its contents are a copyright of Analyzed Scripts, all rights reserved. Any redistribution or reproduction of part or all of the contents in any form is prohibited. Unless you want to share it with. [45:52] Dr. Katrina Furey: Your friends and rate review and subscribe, that's fine. [45:55] Dr. Katrina Furey: All stories and characters discussed are fictional in nature. No identification with actual persons, living or deceased places, buildings or products is intended or should be inferred. This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. The podcast and its contents do not constitute professional mental health or medical advice. Listeners might consider consulting a mental health provider if they need assistance with any mental health problems or concerns. As always, please call 911 or go directly to your nearest emergency room for any psychiatric emergencies. Thanks for listening and see you next time. [46:39] Dr. Jessi Gold: Our channel.
One of the conversations that is coming up more frequently - which is so great to hear! - is the topic of mental health and how this plays a role in our day-to-day life. It affects us personally and professionally and without getting a hold on it, can lead us into places we don't want to be. I am so glad that Jennifer Bussey offered to come on the podcast and talk about this from the perspective of someone who has been through it. On this episode, we talk about: - How insecurities can sneak up and how to confront these before they become bigger detriments in your life. - How to identify if you're struggling from any depressive or anxious tendencies and what to do when you do face these. - Dissociating what happens in your business from you as an individual - What to do when you are feeling lonely and why you need to have a WHY at the pillar of your business. - - - - **This podcast is NOT a substitute for seeking professional help when needed and is simply a commentary on the subject. Need resources? National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): https://www.nami.org/ Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): https://www.samhsa.gov/ American Psychological Association (APA): https://www.apa.org/ National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): https://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml Mental Health America (MHA): https://www.mhanational.org/ Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/ Suicide Prevention Lifeline: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ - - - - - Senior Photography Education Instagram: https://instagram.com/seniorphotoeducation Senior Photography Education Website: http://seniorphotographyeducation.com/ - - - - - If I were to tell you that working harder in your business won't get you to where you want to be, would you believe me? In fact, after coaching hundreds of photographers in every market across the country, the number one trait that they all shared when they were struggling was working harder than ever in hopes that things would finally come together. It wasn't until they figured out how to implement the proper frameworks and strategies that their business took off. That's why I've created the free on-demand video training series, Intro to Senior Photography Crash Course, to help photographers who want to start or grow their business without spending years struggling and trying to figure it out on their own. In this free training, I will teach you the steps you need to take that people like myself along with hundreds of other photographers have used to build their thriving business and be able to live the life they want to live. All you have to do is click the link in the show notes to unlock how to make that happen for you business and say yes to being the success senior photographer you've always dreamed of being. https://mailchi.mp/f440769d0946/senior-photography-crash-course - - - - - Want to be a part of the incredible group of photographers who are elevating their business, booking more clients, simplifying and streamlining their business to become more efficient and actually having a business that works for them? Be the first to know when doors open to the Mastermind by clicking the link right here: https://mastermind.seanbrownproductions.com/ - - - - - Are you following the Shoot for Success Podcast over on Instagram yet? If not, head over there to check us out and make sure to leave a DM so we can say hello! https://www.instagram.com/seniorphotoeducation/ - - - - - I want to know what you enjoy most about this podcast! Screenshot this episode and make sure to tag me @SeniorPhotoEducation when you share to your story about the one big takeaway you had from this episode! I want these to be as impactful as possible and this is just one way that you can help me make that happen!
Today we are so excited to hang out again with our brother in Christ, Paul Granger. And we have a big question to address: Why are a vast number of young adults who've grown up in the church now walking away from the faith? What happened? How did we get here? Suffering, especially what seems like senseless suffering, unanswered prayers, other doctrines claiming truth, and misuse or miscomprehension of Scripture are serious obstacles that can leave us feeling tremendous pain and/or great confusion. Dissociating the pain from Jesus, Paul says, is a process. It takes time for truth to be unpacked, wounds to heal, trust to be rebuilt, and fears to die. The invitation back to trusting in Jesus rests securely in front of any uncertain heart. Should I trust Jesus again? Should I keep trusting Jesus? Don't wrestle with these questions alone, we encourage you to listen in. Please SUPPORT His Heartbeat through Crown of Beauty InternationalDonation Page// Cru-Crown of Beauty InternationalCONNECT with His Heartbeat and Crown of Beauty InternationalWebsite// Facebook//InstagramConnect with Sue Corl's Instagram//WebsiteSUBMIT your own scenarios or questionsEmail: crownofbeautyinternational@gmail.comVerses Mentioned in the Show:Acts 9:4John 16:33Luke 23:34Luke 15:11-32Matthew 7:7-8Genesis 50:20Jeremiah 29:11Resources Mentioned in the Show:Paul's Podcast: Where did you see God?The ChosenCrown of Beauty InternationalHis Heartbeat, Episode 69 with Paul - "God is God and God is Good"
Join the Strong Within Community at www.strongwithin.com/community Are you longing for a community of like-minded individuals who are committed to transforming their lives and becoming the strongest version of themselves? Look no further than the Strong Within Community! Our community is a place where you can connect with others who are on a similar journey towards growth and self-improvement. Whether you're looking to reframe your mindset, overcome limiting beliefs, or simply connect with others in a positive, uplifting space, our community has something for everyone. As a member of our community, you can expect to receive exclusive access to our Strong Within Manifesting Course, as well as weekly inspiration and encouragement from our founder, who has years of experience helping others achieve their goals and live their best lives. But that's not all - our community is also a place where you can come to ask questions, offer support, and find motivation when you need it most. Whether you're struggling with a difficult situation or simply need a boost of positivity, our community has your back. Best of all, our community is completely free - so what are you waiting for? Join the Strong Within Community today and start your journey towards living your strongest, most fulfilling life. We can't wait to welcome you! In this episode there were MANY take aways but I am focusing on 3 topics and the lessons you can get from this podcast: Understanding Trauma and Healing - Trauma and protection can lead to being tight and unable to fully release and heal - Similar to muscles that get injured and remain in an isometric state to protect themselves - Like myofascial release techniques like foam rolling and massage can help activate the golgi tendon organ to relax the muscle and release knots...we can do the same with our emotions and mental states Reframing and Shifting Vibrational Frequency - Focusing on trauma can create a cycle of overprotection and hinder the healing process.- Reframing emotions can help in processing them more efficiently and moving on - Being the observer and not getting stuck in victimhood or trauma can prevent staying stuck in it for a long time - Changing the vibrational frequency can be important Dissociating from Problems and Focusing on Solutions- People often get stuck in the box and can't see outside of it when they focus too hard on the problem. - Focusing too much on the problem trains the subconscious to only focus on the problem and not the solution. - We should train the subconscious to become observers of the problem instead of getting sucked into it. - By doing so, we disassociate ourselves from the problem and can find solutions more easily. _____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there) Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let's connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn www.instagram.com/thechrisohearn Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Czan [SO/SP 9w1 953] is a software engineer for a gaming company and currently lives in the US. He's an original Enneagram thinker, and "Attachment to Disconnect" is his profound insight into how Attachment types create situations to continue reaching for connection, rather than stably connecting. Czan has experience with various inner work modalities and has excellent insights about being an Enneagram 9. I'll add that I experienced his 5 fix vividly in this conversation, which you'll see in the way Czan maintains intellectual separateness. --- Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:32 Enneagram Origin Story 5:14 Twice an immigrant; adapting to new cultures; 5 fix figuring it out by myself; trauma from this pattern -- no one here like me; "The resolution needs to come in community"; Immigrant as metaphor for attachment 11:34 What grabbed you about the Enneagram? Mistyping as 5; Wanting to talk about the Enneagram without talking about the Enneagram 14:51 NOT an Ennea-vangelist; refuting Josh's suggestion that finding universal language is an attachment dynamic 17:10 Attachment vs Social & desire for belonging? Czan's idea: "The Existential Object" for 4, 5, & 9 20:30 Czan's loud 5-fix, not absorbing others' orientation; couldn't be an academic bc need to converse with other scholars 23:56 So why are you a 9, not a 5?; Czan's theory, 9's seeking "existence" in the world, 5's not 28:10 Toggling on and off; "when I'm observing, nothing's going on inside" 30:18 Dissociating -- when things "start to get muffled"; "Existing" or not existing in relationship 36:03 Merging with others, taking on their discomfort; Best thing I could do for my parents as a kid was "be okay" and not need a lot 37:54 Taking on mom's (& others') emotional burden; I'm helping them carry their heavy luggage, not realizing I have a limit to my emotional capacity 39:14 Internal Family Systems (IFS) & Psychedelics 42:01 The metaconversation (!); paradox 9 relational merging & 5 intellectual independence; Czan's 5 fix "vs" Josh's 6 fix 49:24 Josh's object relations theory & the body center 55:44 Ayahuasca and Owl Medicine; not opening to overwhelm or closing myself off, but preening and holding myself as I move through the world 1:00:26 Reflections; 9's virtue of engagement; taking responsibility for washing myself, so I can stay open to be affected by things, to live 1:03:42 Not wasting anger, taking care of "the mud in me," and "using it to grow lotus flowers"; creativity, passion 1:10:16 Attachment to Disconnect 1:13:57 Fitness, getting into my body, trying to "live" the Enneagram and not just cerebralize it --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram9 #enneagramtype9 #enneagraminterview #9w1
Czan [SO/SP 9w1 953] is a software engineer for a gaming company and currently lives in the US. He's an original Enneagram thinker, and "Attachment to Disconnect" is his profound insight into how Attachment types create situations to continue reaching for connection, rather than stably connecting. Czan has experience with various inner work modalities and has excellent insights about being an Enneagram 9. I'll add that I experienced his 5 fix vividly in this conversation, which you'll see in the way Czan maintains intellectual separateness. --- Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:32 Enneagram Origin Story 5:14 Twice an immigrant; adapting to new cultures; 5 fix figuring it out by myself; trauma from this pattern -- no one here like me; "The resolution needs to come in community"; Immigrant as metaphor for attachment 11:34 What grabbed you about the Enneagram? Mistyping as 5; Wanting to talk about the Enneagram without talking about the Enneagram 14:51 NOT an Ennea-vangelist; refuting Josh's suggestion that finding universal language is an attachment dynamic 17:10 Attachment vs Social & desire for belonging? Czan's idea: "The Existential Object" for 4, 5, & 9 20:30 Czan's loud 5-fix, not absorbing others' orientation; couldn't be an academic bc need to converse with other scholars 23:56 So why are you a 9, not a 5?; Czan's theory, 9's seeking "existence" in the world, 5's not 28:10 Toggling on and off; "when I'm observing, nothing's going on inside" 30:18 Dissociating -- when things "start to get muffled"; "Existing" or not existing in relationship 36:03 Merging with others, taking on their discomfort; Best thing I could do for my parents as a kid was "be okay" and not need a lot 37:54 Taking on mom's (& others') emotional burden; I'm helping them carry their heavy luggage, not realizing I have a limit to my emotional capacity 39:14 Internal Family Systems (IFS) & Psychedelics 42:01 The metaconversation (!); paradox 9 relational merging & 5 intellectual independence; Czan's 5 fix "vs" Josh's 6 fix 49:24 Josh's object relations theory & the body center 55:44 Ayahuasca and Owl Medicine; not opening to overwhelm or closing myself off, but preening and holding myself as I move through the world 1:00:26 Reflections; 9's virtue of engagement; taking responsibility for washing myself, so I can stay open to be affected by things, to live 1:03:42 Not wasting anger, taking care of "the mud in me," and "using it to grow lotus flowers"; creativity, passion 1:10:16 Attachment to Disconnect 1:13:57 Fitness, getting into my body, trying to "live" the Enneagram and not just cerebralize it --- Music by Coma-Media from Pixabay Coma-Media: https://pixabay.com/users/coma-media-24399569/ Pixabay: https://pixabay.com/ --- #enneagram #enneagramtypes #enneagram9 #enneagramtype9 #enneagraminterview #9w1
Is this a tech podcast now? Ben and Noah relive the glory days of the iPod and the Nintendo Wii. Plus, the follow-up to our hotly contested political debate from last week. Games this week: "Idiomsyncracy"
[video] today i wanted to talk about something super fun, super lighthearted, super hashtag good vibes. that's just the mood I'm in today. so today i wanted to talk about my anxiety. yayyyyyyy. i wanted to talk about it because it's one of the most challenging things i deal with on a daily basis. i've struggled with a lot of different mental health struggles. anxiety is definitely not the only one. but i would say anxiety has been the most challenging overall, and it just never really seems to go away for me. it's something that i'm constantly battling, and so i just wanted to talk about my experience and how i deal with it. and that's what's on the agenda. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
This Week in Machine Learning & Artificial Intelligence (AI) Podcast
Today we're joined by Anna Ivanova, a postdoctoral researcher at MIT Quest for Intelligence. In our conversation with Anna, we discuss her recent paper Dissociating language and thought in large language models: a cognitive perspective. In the paper, Anna reviews the capabilities of LLMs by considering their performance on two different aspects of language use: 'formal linguistic competence', which includes knowledge of rules and patterns of a given language, and 'functional linguistic competence', a host of cognitive abilities required for language understanding and use in the real world. We explore parallels between linguistic competence and AGI, the need to identify new benchmarks for these models, whether an end-to-end trained LLM can address various aspects of functional competence, and much more! The complete show notes for this episode can be found at twimlai.com/go/620.
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Welcome to The Nonlinear Library, where we use Text-to-Speech software to convert the best writing from the Rationalist and EA communities into audio. This is: Critique of some recent philosophy of LLMs' minds, published by Roman Leventov on January 20, 2023 on The AI Alignment Forum. I structure this post as a critique of some recent papers on the philosophy of mind in application to LLMs, concretely, on whether we can say that LLMs think, reason, understand language, refer to the real world when producing language, have goals and intents, etc. I also use this discussion as a springboard to express some of my views about the ontology of intelligence, agency, and alignment. Mahowald, Ivanova, et al., “Dissociating language and thought in large language models: a cognitive perspective” (Jan 2023). Note that this is a broad review paper, synthesising findings from computational linguistics, cognitive science, and neuroscience, as well as offering an engineering vision (perspective) of building an AGI (primarily, in section 5). I don't argue with these aspects of the paper's content (although I disagree with something about their engineering perspective, I think that engaging in this disagreement would be infohazarous). I argue with the philosophical content of the paper, which is revealed in the language that the authors use and the conclusions that they make, as well as the ontology of linguistic competencies that the authors propose. Shanahan, “Talking About Large Language Models” (Dec 2022). Dissociating language and thought in large language models: a cognitive perspective In this section, I shortly expose the gist of the paper by Mahowald, Ivanova, et al., for the convenience of the reader. Abstract: Today's large language models (LLMs) routinely generate coherent, grammatical and seemingly meaningful paragraphs of text. This achievement has led to speculation that these networks are—or will soon become—“thinking machines”, capable of performing tasks that require abstract knowledge and reasoning. Here, we review the capabilities of LLMs by considering their performance on two different aspects of language use: ‘formal linguistic competence', which includes knowledge of rules and patterns of a given language, and 'functional linguistic competence', a host of cognitive abilities required for language understanding and use in the real world. Drawing on evidence from cognitive neuroscience, we show that formal competence in humans relies on specialized language processing mechanisms, whereas functional competence recruits multiple extralinguistic capacities that comprise human thought, such as formal reasoning, world knowledge, situation modeling, and social cognition. In line with this distinction, LLMs show impressive (although imperfect) performance on tasks requiring formal linguistic competence, but fail on many tests requiring functional competence. Based on this evidence, we argue that (1) contemporary LLMs should be taken seriously as models of formal linguistic skills; (2) models that master real-life language use would need to incorporate or develop not only a core language module, but also multiple non-language-specific cognitive capacities required for modeling thought. Overall, a distinction between formal and functional linguistic competence helps clarify the discourse surrounding LLMs' potential and provides a path toward building models that understand and use language in human-like ways. Two more characteristic quotes from the paper: In addition to being competent in the rules and statistical regularities of language, a competent language user must be able to use language to do things in the world: to talk about things that can be seen or felt or heard, to reason about diverse topics, to make requests, to perform speech acts, to cajole, prevaricate, and flatter. In other words, we use language to send and receive information from other perceptual and cognitive systems, such as our senses and our memory, and...
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Most of the resources related to parenting and neurodiversity are geared toward helping neurodivergent children, not neurodivergent parents, so this episode aims to help close that gap. Whether you (or your partner, if you have one) have a diagnosis or you see yourself (or them) struggling but can't quite figure out why, this episode may help. Autism and ADHD are diagnosed at wildly differing rates in girls and boys (in large part because boys' symptoms often turn outward while girls' symptoms turn inward), which means that girls are very often undiagnosed and unsupported well into adulthood. Dr. A. may help you to identify neurodivergence in yourself or your partner, and then connect you to resources to support you on your journey. Find more about Dr. A's practice at SpectrumServicesNYC.com I also very much appreciated Dr. A's memoir The Rose Hotel (affiliate link) about her experiences in Iran during the revolution, and later in the U.K. and the U.S. Jump to highlights (00:03) Introduction to this episode. (03:07) What kind of patterns do you see in couples where one partner is known to be neurodivergent? (07:28) It's often the female-identifying partner who is the one who identifies the issue. (11:46) What are some of the red flags for neurodivergent partners? (16:05) Men tend to flood four times as fast as their female partners when they are in an argument. (21:43) How do I support my partner in being a successful parent and also find more balance in terms of what they bring to the family? (25:38) What do we do with this knowledge that we have? (30:31) Dealing with conflict between the couple. (32:46) What do you think of the idea of trauma as a factor in ADHD? (36:12) Diagnosis of ADHD is multi-directional –. (41:56) Mental health is still stigmatized and getting a diagnosis could backfire on you. (42:31) What is a diagnosis and how does it help? (47:44) The different types of ADHD. (53:03) Social calendaring and extracurricular activities. (54:46) Time blocking is a better approach for ADHD. (01:01:45) Strengths of people with ADHD. References Blair, R.J.R. (2005). Responding to the emotions of others: Dissociating forms of empathy through the study of typical and psychiatric populations. Consciousness and Cognition 14(4), 698-718. Bostock-Ling, J.S. (2017, December). Life satisfaction of neurotypical women in intimate relationships with a partner who has Asperger's Syndrome: An exploratory study. Unpublished Master's thesis: The University of Sydney. Chronis-Tuscano, A., & Stein, M.A. (2012). Pharmapsychotherapy for parents with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD): Impact on maternal ADHD and parenting. CNS Drugs 26(9), 725-732. Chronis-Tuscano, A., O'Brien, K.A., Johnston, C., Jones, H.A., Clarke, T.L., Raggi, V.L., Rooney, M.E., Diaz, Y., Pian, J., & Seymour, K.E. (2011). The relation between...
In this episode, we look at a client who feels stuck as the future she wants is no longer possible. To get unstuck we have 2 choices - either change the picture of how the future could look, or leverage more control. The names and details have been changed to protect client confidentiality...the rest of the story… is true. More Information: https://www.selfbeliefchief.com/ Schedule Zoom Call: https://go.oncehub.com/DavidHulman1/ #confidence #selfbelief #belief #selfconfidence #career #business #relationships #love #heartbreak #growth #faith #mental health #selfimprovement #health
Is it really possible to make more by working less? What does “working less” mean exactly?Welcome to the 36th episode of The Growth Booth Podcast, a show focused on supporting budding entrepreneurs and established business owners alike, towards achieving lifestyle freedom through building successful online businesses.In this episode, Aidan is joined by James Schramko, bestselling author of Work Less, Make More. Listen in as we talk about freeing up time from work while still earning the same – or maybe make even more! Discover how you can use this concept to streamline your business operations, and learn what your most valuable resource is.Whether you're looking for step-by-step strategies to start building an online business, simple game plans to grow your business, or proven lifestyle freedom frameworks, you're in the right place.Stay tuned and be sure to join the thousands of listeners already in growth mode!Timestamps:00:00 Intro02:29 Working Less and Making More05:40 The 64/4 Rule11:11 Running Teams14:45 Episode Sponsor15:18 Who To Hire First19:57 Dissociating from Time = Money25:28 OutroLinks and Resources Mentioned:BluePrint Academy - https://thegrowthbooth.com/academy Work Less, Make More, James Schramko - https://amzn.to/3e6IUQE About Our Host:Aidan Booth is passionate about lifestyle freedom and has focused on building online businesses to achieve this since 2005. From affiliate marketing to eCommerce, small business marketing to SAAS (software as a service), online education to speaking at seminars, the journey has been a rollercoaster ride with plenty of thrills along the way. Aidan is proud to have helped thousands of entrepreneurs earn their first dollar online, and coached many people to build million-dollar businesses. Aidan and his business partner (Steven Clayton) are the #1 ranked vendors on Clickbank.com, and sell their products in over 100 countries globally, as well as in 20,000+ stores across the USA, to generate 8-figures annually.Away from the online world, Aidan is a proud Dad of two young kids, an avid investor, a swimming enthusiast, and a nomadic traveler. Let's Connect!● Visit the website: https://thegrowthbooth.com/ ● Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/aidanboothonline ● Let's connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aidanboothonline/ ● Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/TheGrowthBooth Thanks for tuning in! Please don't forget to like, share, and subscribe!
Tom and Molly compare terrible weather. Then Tom calls out the latest form of creator as a thing and Molly hacks ramen. After that Tom pines for the latest meme thing, while Molly finds a new beauty thing. Get the transcript here.LINKS: Ramen HacksVTubersThe Best ChrisDIY Beauty Our GDPR privacy policy was updated on August 8, 2022. Visit acast.com/privacy for more information.
C-PTSD, PTSD and other experiences can cause dissociation. What is Dissociation? Why Does Dissociation Happen? You may wonder, "Am I Dissociating?" Mental Health for Christian Women involves knowing how to manage dissociation so that trauma can be processed, as it can't be processed if the client is flooded or overwhelmed. To learn more about dissociation, derealization, and depersonalization, listen in to Mental Health for Christian Women.
Ilona found Lisa through the Omega Institute and was so inspired by her journey that she joined the Out of the Cave team after going through group coaching! Today she shares her experience of growing up feeling completely disconnected and dissociated from her body as a result of trauma. Ilona and Lisa discuss when weight loss feels unsafe, the impact of trauma in our relationships with food and our bodies, and allowing yourself to speak your truth. Topics include: [5:40] Food as comfort from a very young age. Going with her mom to Weight Watchers around 7 or 8, personal perceptions of weight versus looking back at pictures with a more realistic mindset. Growing into a hyperawareness of body image during the normal changes that come with puberty and adolescence. “Fat is safe” as a response to trauma. [13:29] “This is my body and we're not friends.” Weight loss felt unsafe when it did occur, such as experiencing unwanted attention from a male coworker. Living in your head instead of living in your body - that sense of disconnect and dissociation from your physical self. [22:40] The impact of trauma on our relationships with our selves and our bodies. Dissociating as a form of self protection. [27:46] Discovering John Gabriel and the Gabriel Method, eventually leading her to connect with Lisa. Coming home fired up and ready to make the changes and the risk of immediate burnout from making too many changes at once. [38:22] Joining group coaching, finding connection and support through shared trauma in food. The nerves and anxiety of wanting to share but holding back, concerned about how your authentic self and truth might be received by others. Moving into a space where she could allow herself to dress her body in bright colors and styles she wouldn't have worn before. [48:12] Embodiment and connection with others in our journey toward safety. Accepting your current body the way it is. The exhaustion of experiencing emotions and allowing yourself to seek refuge in friendship. [57:51] Validating your own frustration about a lot of the unhelpful advice about dieting and losing weight from people who don't understand that it's not about food. Understanding that it's about emotional progress, not about the number on the scale or the measurements of your body. The 21 Day Journal Challenge is starting today, Monday July 25th! Take this opportunity to set a daily journaling practice with the support of a an energetic and understanding community. Learn more at https://outofthecave.health/journal-challenge Early Bird pricing for September group coaching program is available now! Get $500 off your registration until July 31st. Apply now at https://www.outofthecave.health/work-with-me Join the first ever Out of the Cave and Into Your Power retreat in gorgeous San Diego! Get your ticket now at https://www.outofthecave.health/retreat
Back for the first time in 7 years is my good friend Valerie Chaney. Val is a meditation and mindfulness educator, writer and the co-host of the We Made It Weird podcast with her husband, comedian Pete Holmes. Val is hilarious, gentle, wise, incredibly smart and one of my favorite people. It was no surprise when we talked for over three hours, so I'm splitting up this episode into two parts.Val trained with Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield, who both have informed her work within healing trauma, mindfulness, meditation, and embodiment, which we speak about at length in this first part. We begin part one by discussing anger—and our problem with expressing it. We cover Internal Family Systems, learning to inhabit your body, embodiment vs. dissociating, attachment styles, fear of being alone, and how to approach all these insights with gentleness. In addition to her mindfulness work, Val is one of the most talented and creative people I know: she teaches dance, sings in a choir and, most recently, wrote a screenplay, which she discusses at the end of part one. Believe it or not, there's a part two (next week)! It's a bit sillier and we cover more about therapy, what we were like as teens, mean girls, finding your hobbies and creative process, as well as the rom coms and style trends we love from the early 2000s. Show notes:- Follow Val on Instagram- Listen to the We Made It Weird podcast with Val and Pete on Apple Podcasts | Spotify- There is one spot open in my creative clinic -- if you'd like to book a free session, book here!- Subscribe to our newsletter to get show notes + essays, etc. sent to your inbox- Follow @letitouttt on Instagram. I'm @katiedalebout Sponsors:- Wondery: Call Me Curious - listen early and ad-free by subscribing to Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts or the Wondery app!- Find the best prices on prescriptions now by joining GoodRx. Go to goodrx.com/letitout to see how much you might be overpaying!- Start smelling amazing with Native's lineup of natural deodorants, soaps, body wash, and more! Get 20% off your first order at nativedeo.com/letitout and enter code letitout at checkout!
One of the ways that the new-age industry participates in the hate economy is through the politics of dissociated spirituality. Dissociated spirituality is strategic for the hate economy to hold power over us. Simply put, it's a “divide and conquer” approach aimed to fragment & hijack our consciousness. The more dissociated we are, the more disempowered we are towards anyone and anything that tries to sell us s**t. Hence why the spiritual materialism sector of new-age is booming.A big part of sacred activism is reclaiming the parts of our consciousness that have been severed off and used against us without our conscious awareness or consent. To use without consent constitutes abuse. Spiritual abuse is rampant in new-age because the industry thrives within a systematic structure of domination, coercion, and control. By dissociating, we conform to the needs of this structure. How do we deepen our relationship with spirituality, especially those teachings that tend to be misunderstood and manipulated by new-age, without dissociating? We explore this central question in this foundational episode on the psycho-spiritual mechanisms of dissociation, how it relates to trauma, specific strategies the new-age industry uses to capitalize on our vulnerabilities/trauma, and some self-inquiry questions to guide your wholesome spiritual practice.Enjoy! Comments? Email me at seekingwithsattva@gmail.com.Further reading: Coping with Trauma-Related Dissociation: Skills Training for Patients and Therapists by Kathy Steele, Onno van der Hart, and Suzette Boon. Dissociation work should be done with a licensed trauma-informed therapist. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit seekingwithsattva.substack.com
Today I'm talking with Calion Smith about cultivating joy, peace, and prosperity after abuse. He's founder of Uncover Your Joy, a peer support network founded by and for abuse survivors. The survivor of sex trafficking and abuse, Calion has lived with PTSD, Dissociative Identity Disorder, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and a few other disorders. Today he's telling his story of survival, finding joy in the pain, merging his alters into a single identity, and how he has taken his experiences and used what he's learned to help others who have survived traumatic life events. What to Listen For: Surviving sex trafficking and abuse from a young age Having the sense of wanting more than the typical ways to heal and cope with PTSD How a little pink flower led to a turning point How being groomed for sex trafficking resulted in his identity forming in a different way "My brain had to separate that into compartments because one whole brain that remembered all of the trauma I was going through was just too much to handle. So my brain created these sort of units in a way. And each of those developed just like a normal child would have their own personality." Reconciling all of his identities to form a brand new person that didn't exist before 2020 The critical role remembering played in this reconciliation The power of inner dialogue in dealing with our emotions Getting help starting with his PTSD about six months after escaping his victimizer "I know that I went through trauma, and I obviously needed support for that. So I started getting help for PTSD." A bunch of factors stacking up to create a lot of exhaustion and trauma Dissociating, losing track of time, not remembering tasks like cleaning or eating Noticing different handwriting in his journal Exploring dissociative disorders with his therapist Getting an official diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder when an alternate personality showed up to therapy Reorienting in small instances "We'd go through periods of trauma memories and reorienting to those and gathering more information, but it was really only when the full narrative became clear that reorientation really happened because, you know, DID was something that I had lived with since I knew myself as a person." Learning new lessons in pain through the process Building to a moment where he knew he was ready to go through final fusion "It was very sudden, actually. There were four adult alters—those of us that felt like we were adults—and there was one child alter, which is a very common experience. He was five years old, is how he identified. So the four adults in the system, which is what a group of alters is called, the four adults of us, we basically just had this moment of like, I feel like final fusion is right. It just hit one night where it was just like, that suddenly feels right. And it never had before. So, reorienting to that in like coming to terms with that and accepting, it was a very emotional process and very grief-focused, because it also meant letting go of who we all individually were." The emotions and grief processing that came with this moment What the process taught him about trauma reorientation and reorienting to life events The sense of being all the people he was before, but also totally new as well The key roles that radical acceptance and validation play in recovery The uncertainty that followed his fusion The challenge of presenting himself to the world in one body with five alters "It was very difficult before thinking if I go to this cafe looking this way, then I show up to that same cafe looking this way are they going to be really confused or are they going to be questioning? Are they going to be looking at me weird and things like that? It was this constant dividing up of life. And that's a huge thing that I've been able to just let go of is like, I can go where I want. However,
Turning Season: News & Conversations on Our Adventure Toward a Life-Sustaining Society
Do you believe that your dreams serve a purpose, even when you don't remember them? Do dreams help you, even if you don't "work" with them? Katherine Bell believes so, and she's read research studies to back that up. A scientist herself, Katherine blends her curiosity about the data around dreams with her deep respect for the experience of dreaming. You'll hear her talk about how dreamwork helped her shift from habitually dissociating from her feelings (even physical pain), to being able to feel. Dissociating from her emotions was especially present on her mind when we had this conversation, having just returned from evacuating from her home for 2.5 weeks due to local wildfires, and still sitting under a smokey sky. She shares one of her recent dreams that relates to these themes. Katherine affirms that our dreams are working for us behind the scenes, and we don't have to ever "understand" the dreams in order to benefit from them. In fact, trying to understand them with the prefrontal cortex of our brains might get in the way. She encourages dreamers to hang out in the emotional, embodied space of the dream itself, allowing it to do more of its work: bringing forth what we're not conscious of while we're awake. Before the end of this episode, we talk about other dreams related to the local fires, as well as the Fire element within Chinese Medicine. Show notes: www.thedreamersden.org/13
Turning Season: News & Conversations on Our Adventure Toward a Life-Sustaining Society
Do you believe that your dreams serve a purpose, even when you don't remember them? Do dreams help you, even if you don't "work" with them? Katherine Bell believes so, and she's read research studies to back that up. A scientist herself, Katherine blends her curiosity about the data around dreams with her deep respect for the experience of dreaming. You'll hear her talk about how dreamwork helped her shift from habitually dissociating from her feelings (even physical pain), to being able to feel. Dissociating from her emotions was especially present on her mind when we had this conversation, having just returned from evacuating from her home for 2.5 weeks due to local wildfires, and still sitting under a smokey sky. She shares one of her recent dreams that relates to these themes. Katherine affirms that our dreams are working for us behind the scenes, and we don't have to ever "understand" the dreams in order to benefit from them. In fact, trying to understand them with the prefrontal cortex of our brains might get in the way. She encourages dreamers to hang out in the emotional, embodied space of the dream itself, allowing it to do more of its work: bringing forth what we're not conscious of while we're awake. Before the end of this episode, we talk about other dreams related to the local fires, as well as the Fire element within Chinese Medicine. Show notes: www.thedreamersden.org/13
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