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Summary In this episode, Andy interviews Juliana Tafur, the inaugural director of the Bridging Differences Program at UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center. The conversation explores practical strategies for bridging divides in a polarized world, both in personal and professional contexts. Juliana shares insights from her experiences growing up in a divided Colombia, her work in the U.S. post-9/11, and research on bridging differences. The episode also covers the psychological roots of 'othering' and offers practical advice for fostering connections despite differences. Additionally, resources like the seven-day Campaign for Connection Challenge and the Bridging Differences Playbook are highlighted to help you apply these concepts in your daily life. What if you could get better at bridging divides in these polarized times? This episode will help you do that! Sound Bites "Disconnection is one of the evils of our time." "Our brains will always go to labeling. That is just how our brains function." "No one is a single label… we are so multi-dimensional." "Listening is truly like a hidden superpower." "Just by us listening, we are perceived as more trustworthy." "You can affirm their feelings while still disagreeing." "The value of humility, openness, curiosity, empathy—are not really front and center in our society." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:11 Start of Interview 02:24 Juliana's Background and Influences 04:29 Understanding 'Othering' and Tribalism 08:42 The Power of Listening with Compassion 10:33 Practical Steps for Deep Listening 16:40 Real-Life Examples of Bridging Divides 24:54 The Problem with Labels 27:10 The Seven Day Campaign for Connection Challenge 29:54 Resources for Bridging Differences 31:47 Teaching Kids to Bridge Differences 35:29 End of Interview 35:55 Andy's Comments After the Interview 39:23 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Juliana and her Bridging Differences program at GGSC.Berkeley.edu/What_we_do/Major_Initiatives/Bridging_Differences. You can download the Bridging Differences Playbook and access the Bridging Differences Videos from that page. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 380 with Monica Guzman about her book on a similar topic. Episode 371 with Amanda Ripley about her book High Conflict. Episode 276 with Buster Benson about his book Episode 284 with Peter Boghossian about having what seem like impossible conversations. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Listening, Empathy, Connection, Polarization, Leadership, Communication, Conflict, Project Management The following music was used for this episode: Music: Ignotus by Agnese Valmaggia License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Tropical Vibe by WinnieTheMoog License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

Jonny Miller uploaded his entire life to ChatGPT to use it as the ultimate AI coach. He created what he calls a Codex Vitae—with core personality traits, values, goals, burnout signals and more to load into ChatGPT. It hyper-customizes his responses, to help him access deep meditation states, create custom supplementation plans, and do deep research on areas of brain and body that he finds interesting.  Jonny runs a course on nervous system mastery, hosts a podcast, coaches founders and CEOs, and is building a wellness app—all using AI. As a long-time friend and writer for @every, I was psyched to have Jonny on AI & I to talk about how LLMs are expanding the breadth and depth of what he can do. We get into: Energy as your greatest asset: Jonny's philosophy around pursuing a non-traditional path—like us at Every—by fiercely protecting his energy and optimizing for “aliveness” instead of higher revenue figures.ChatGPT projects for everything: His use of projects in @ChatGPTapp to organize different areas of his life; for example, he uploads his meditation journal to a Jhana project and asks it for advice when he's struggling with the practice on a particular day.Deep research in action: How he uses @OpenAI's deep research to tackle practical questions about moving his family to Costa Rica, hilariously esoteric ones about whether there's a connection between Pokémon and shamanism, and everything that lies in between.The rise of “centaur” teams: Jonny's belief that @kevin2kelly's prediction around “centaurs”—human + AI teams outperforming either human or AI working alone—is becoming our reality.This is a must watch for anyone interested in using AI for personal development, coaching, or to build systems that can understand you. If you found this episode interesting, please like, subscribe, comment, and share! Want even more?Sign up for Every to unlock our ultimate guide to prompting ChatGPT here: https://every.ck.page/ultimate-guide-to-prompting-chatgpt. It's usually only for paying subscribers, but you can get it here for free.To hear more from Dan Shipper:Subscribe to Every: https://every.to/subscribe Follow him on X: https://twitter.com/danshipper Timestamps:Introduction: 00:01:31Dan and Jonny's approach to running non-traditional businesses: 00:02:18How Jonny uses ChatGPT to deepen his meditation practice: 00:12:04Jonny uses AI to research a theory of how trauma is stored in our bodies: 00:25:44Dan's theory around how AI is changing science: 00:31:28Jonny's method to build personalized AI coaches: 00:32:35How Jonny used OpenAI's deep research to plan a move to Costa Rica: 00:47:07Dan is developing an app that can predict his OCD symptoms: 00:52:50AI makes the idea of a “quantified self” useful: 00:55:42The future of human-AI coaching teams: 00:58:28Links to resources mentioned in the episode:Jonny Miller: @jonnym1llerThe nervous system mastery bootcamp: https://www.nsmastery.com/ His podcast: Curious Humans with Jonny Miller The nervous system regulation mobile app: Stateshift Jonny's method to build your AI coach: http://BuildyourAIcoach.com More about Jhana: https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/09/20/meditative-states-as-mental-feedback-loops/ Buster Benson's Codex Vitate: https://2019.busterbenson.com/beliefs/The pieces Jonny has written for Every: “The Operating Manual for Your Nervous System,” “The Best Decision-Making Is Emotional,” “How to Pay Off Your Emotional Debt,” “The Art and Science of Interoception”     

EPISODE 126 | Cognitive Biases and the Brain: Thanks, Evolution! (Because Reasons 11) The first of two episodes looking at cognitive biases - this one at how memory works and how we prevent input overload by filtering out information. Hopefully, this will give us some insight into why people think they way they do.  The primary source material for this is the Cognitive Biases Codex, created by Buster Benson and John Manoogian III, as used by the EU's Marie Curie CogNovo program for Conspiracy-Theories.EU. Like what we do? Then buy us a beer or three via our page on Buy Me a Coffee. You can also SUBSCRIBE to this podcast. Review us here or on IMDb!  SECTIONS Memories Can't Wait - Misinformation effect, testing effect, processing effect, spacing effect, Google effect, two types of absentmindedness, next-in-line effect, list length effect, serial position effect, suffix effect, part-list cueing effect, peak-end rule, duration neglect Fading affect bias, negativity bias, leveling and sharpening, Maude sees a Black man, suggestibility; false memory (UFO abductions, Satanic Panic), misattribution of memory, cryptoamnesia, source confusion (eyewitness testimony) Too Much Information - The availability heuristic, repetition makes it true - the illusory truth effect and the mere exposure effect, attentional bias, context effect, mood-congruent memory bias, cue-dependent forgetting, the frequency illusion and Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon, the base rate fallacy, the empathy gap (cold-to-hot and hot-to-cold), omission bias The bizarreness effect, humor effect, isolation effect (Von Resteroff effect), and picture superiority effect; bias blind spot, the introspection illusion, naïve cynicism, confirmation bias, congruence bias, choice-supportive bias (post-purchase bias), selective perception and the ostrich effect, observer-expectancy effect (also experimenter effect), subjective validation (the personal validation effect) helps conspiracy theory formation, the Semmelweis reflex, the continued influence effect (people don't unlearn mis- or disinformation easily once it's been integrated) Anchoring, conservatism, distinction bias, contrast bias, the focusing effect, the framing effect, the money illusion or price illusion and the price of milk; perceiving change - Weber and Fechner, the discrimination threshold, Numerical Cognition Music by Fanette Ronjat More Info Cognitive biases codex Cognitive Biases on Conspiracy-Theories.EU Conspiracy-Theories.EU website About CogNovo Marie Skłodowska-Curie Actions website What Is Cognitive Bias? 7 Examples & Resources (Incl. Codex) on Positive Psychology List of Cognitive Biases and Heuristics on The Decision Lab How Our Brains Make Memories in Smithsonian Psychology study uncovers new details about the cognitive underpinnings of belief in conspiracy theories on PsyPost Conspiracy theories in New Scientist 24 cognitive biases that are warping your perception of reality on the World Economic Forum Conspiracy theory and cognitive style: a worldview Beliefs in conspiracy theories and the need for cognitive closure Social Media, Cognitive Reflection, and Conspiracy Beliefs Cognitive Bias articles on ScienceDirect Cognitive Biases and Brain Biology Help Explain Why Facts Don't Change Minds at the University of Connecticut Cognitive Bias 101: What It Is and How To Overcome It at the Cleveland Clinic 4 widespread cognitive biases and how doctors can overcome them at the American medical Association How Cognitive Biases Influence the Way You Think and Act on VeryWellMind 24 cognitive biases stuffing up your thinking plus cards at yourbias.is Identify Cognitive Biases in Business Decision‑Making at Mailchimp   Follow us on social: Facebook Twitter Other Podcasts by Derek DeWitt DIGITAL SIGNAGE DONE RIGHT - Winner of a 2022 Gold Quill Award, 2022 Gold MarCom Award, 2021 AVA Digital Award Gold, 2021 Silver Davey Award, 2020 Communicator Award of Excellence, and on numerous top 10 podcast lists.  PRAGUE TIMES - A city is more than just a location - it's a kaleidoscope of history, places, people and trends. This podcast looks at Prague, in the center of Europe, from a number of perspectives, including what it is now, what is has been and where it's going. It's Prague THEN, Prague NOW, Prague LATER 

Buster Benson's Why Are We Yelling?

Welcome to the last Startup Dad episode of 2023! It has been one hell of a year. Starting in June I released a show a week for the entire rest of the year; 27 episodes in total. Talking parenthood with dozens of startup dads and a few startup moms blew away all of my expectations. For this episode I pulled together the best of over two dozen conversations covering everything from mistakes made to frameworks for parenting success. At the end I asked many of my guests what they're most looking forward to in 2024.This episode includes excerpts from nearly every one of my conversations from this past year.Guests include: Nick Soman, Buster Benson, George Arison, Guy Yalif, Jake Wood, Gaurav Vohra, Tobi Emonts-Holley, Ben Williams, Lloyed Lobo, Ryan Johnson, Mike Duboe, Sara and Eric Mauskopf, Trae and Michelle Stephens, Aaron Huey, Will Rocklin, Tom Willerer, Darius Contractor, Adam Grenier, Alex Cohen, Brian Balfour, Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg, Casey Woo, Fareed Mosavat, and Matt Greenberg.In this episode we discuss:* Mistakes made as a Dad* The successes and high points of parenting* Frustrations and challenges with parenting* Frameworks for success* Advocacy and raising children with special needs* Coping with loss* Startup Dads' optimism for 2024Listen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.Where to find Adam Fishman- Newsletter: FishmanAFNewsletter.com- Newsletter: startupdadpod.substack.com- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/—In this episode, we cover:[0:00] Hello & intro from Adam[01:15] Mistakes made as a parent[01:22] Ryan Johnson (CPO, CallRail) - thinking your kids are older than they are[02:41] Tobi Emonts-Holley (CEO, Tiphereth) - losing your temper, recovering and learning to let go[04:20] Nick Soman (CEO/founder, Decent) - when I felt like I was drowning[05:45] Mike Duboe (General Partner, Greylock) - being too hard on yourself[07:12] Lloyed Lobo (Co-founder, Boast.ai) - yelling at your kids[07:54] Jake Wood (Founder, Groundswell and Team Rubicon) - avoiding mistakes of the heart[08:42] Guy Yalif (Co-founder/CEO, Intellimize) - quality minutes with your kids vs. quantity of hours[09:29] Gaurav Vohra (Founding team, Superhuman) - taking advice from other parents; not getting a crib[11:50] Buster Benson (Product leader, Medium) - thinking your kids are more mature than they are[14:27] George Arison (CEO, Grindr) - not explaining why to kids[14:46] Ben Williams (PLG Advisor, PLGeek) - thinking it would be easy[15:15] Parenting successes[15:24] Will Rocklin (Product Advisor) - marriage and parenthood unlocking your best self[17:25] Tom Willerer (COO, Reforge) - watching your kids be successful[21:51] Trae and Michelle Stephens (Partner, Founders Fund, Co-founder Anduril, Co-founder Oathcare) - watching kids learning new things and experiencing the world[22:53] Eric and Sara Mauskopf  (Product leader, Winnie; CEO/co-founder, Winnie) - rejoining the workforce and working with your spouse[027:20] Guy Yalif - seeing your kids navigate transitions; college and high school[28:06] Darius Contractor (CGO, Otter.ai) - helping your kids be centered and defining success with them[28:59] George Arison - watching your kids learning[29:28] Aaron Huey (Founder, National Geographic Photographer, 3rd Coolest Dad in America) - being named the 3rd coolest Dad in America[31:07] Parenting frustrations and challenges[31:19] Will Rocklin - conception struggles and a positive experience with IVF[33:23] Alex Cohen (Product leader, Carbon Health) - not having family or a support network nearby[34:25] Nick Soman - starting a company and becoming a husband and father at the same time[35:13] Eric and Sara Mauskopf - navigating cancer; a dismembering experience; family planning with cancer[42:28] Adam Grenier (VP Growth, Eventbrite) - having a child with special needs[44:17] Buster Benson - navigating separation and divorce; talking to your kids about it; advice for others[53:03] Tobi Emonts-Holley - getting intense feedback online and saying the wrong thing[01:00:20] Best parenting frameworks[01:00:30] Nick Soman - irrevocable guidelines[01:00:59] Tobi Emonts-Holley - personal discipline equals freedom[01:02:57] Mike Duboe - making time for date night[01:04:04] Lloyed Lobo - positive discipline, rewarding the effort and trusting the process[01:07:51] Jake Wood - making sure your kids know they're loved[01:08:30] Guy Yalif - making sure your kids know they're loved and you only control how you show up[01:09:29] Adam Grenier - tools from Brene Brown and understanding your couple capacity[01:10:37] Gaurav Vohra - Delete, automate, delegate[01:13:14] Casey Woo - the importance of routine[01:13:50] Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg (Product advisor, best-selling author) - prioritization and tradeoffs using mission and vision[01:19:04] Buster Benson - creating a safe space and not trying to diagnose your kids[01:21:37] Adam Grenier - special time with each kid[01:22:50] Gaurav Vohra - full vertical responsibility management[01:28:41] Brian Balfour (CEO/founder, Reforge) - defining your parenting values[01:30:15] Ben Williams - making 1-on-1 time[01:31:37] Alex Cohen - giving zero fucks and going with the flow[01:32:15] Fareed Mosavat (Advisor) - remembering that you're the adult[01:33:06] Advocating for your kids[01:33:17] Ryan Johnson - getting difficult medical diagnoses and navigating that process[01:36:07] Matt Greenberg (CTO, Handshake) - the process of diagnosing and advocating for your autistic child in the school system[01:41:29] Adam Grenier - the tools for helping and advocating for your autistic child with caregivers[1:46:01] Ben Williams - helping your child understand racism[1:47:14] George Arison - navigating the surrogacy process as a gay man[1:54:41] Matt Greenberg - more about advocating for your autistic child[1:59:51] Startup dads & moms discuss loss[2:00:02] Trae & Michelle Stephens - navigating miscarriage and advice for others [2:02:24] Brian Balfour - coping with the loss of a child at birth[2:08:06] Lloyd Lobo - navigating the loss of a twin[2:13:21] What are Startup Dads looking forward to in 2024?[2:13:29] Matt Greenberg - looking forward to his four year old turning five[2:13:47] Lloyd Lobo - my wife's 40th birthday[2:14:13] Alex Cohen - side projects turning into real things[2:14:48] George Arison - excited about building culture together and the transition to kindergarten[2:15:58] Gaurav Vohra - traveling to exciting places as a family[2:17:06] Ben Williams - taking a family holiday... somewhere warm[2:18:05] Trae & Michelle Stephens - having an escape from the city, celebrating milestone birthdays, and rest[2:19:13] Tobi Emonts-Holley - watching his kids pursue their sports and passions; connecting with more dads[2:20:19] Ryan Johnson - the technology landscape settling and what will happen with AI[2:21:36] Will Rocklin - a baby who sleeps[2:22:39] Thank you—Show references:IVF - https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/in-vitro-fertilization/about/pac-20384716RMA - https://rmanetwork.com/Harville Hendrix - https://harvilleandhelen.com/Fatherly - https://www.fatherly.com/entertainment/100-coolest-dads-in-america-2018National Geographic - https://www.nationalgeographic.com/UCSF Fertility Clinic - https://crh.ucsf.edu/Jocko Willink - https://jocko.com/The Score Takes Care of Itself: My Philosophy of Leadership by Bill Walsh, Steve Jamison & Craig Walsh - https://www.amazon.com/Score-Takes-Care-Itself-Philosophy/dp/1591843472Brene Brown - https://brenebrown.com/Fair Play by Eve Rodsky - https://www.amazon.com/Fair-Play-Game-Changing-Solution-When/dp/0525541934The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman PHD - https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718Brickies - https://brickies.club/CCRM Fertility - https://www.ccrmivf.com/HAND of Bay Area - https://handsupport.org/—Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit startupdadpod.substack.com

Welcome to the last Startup Dad episode of 2023! It has been one hell of a year. Starting in June I released a show a week for the entire rest of the year; 27 episodes in total. Talking parenthood with dozens of startup dads and a few startup moms blew away all of my expectations. For this episode I pulled together the best of over two dozen conversations covering everything from mistakes made to frameworks for parenting success. At the end I asked many of my guests what they're most looking forward to in 2024. This episode includes excerpts from nearly every one of my conversations. Guests include: Nick Soman, Buster Benson, George Arison, Guy Yalif, Jake Wood, Gaurav Vohra, Tobi Emonts-Holley, Ben Williams, Lloyed Lobo, Ryan Johnson, Mike Duboe, Sara and Eric Mauskopf, Trae and Michelle Stephens, Aaron Huey, Will Rocklin, Tom Willerer, Darius Contractor, Adam Grenier, Alex Cohen, Brian Balfour, Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg, Casey Woo, Fareed Mosavat, and Matt Greenberg. In this episode we discuss: Mistakes made as a Dad The successes and high points of parenting Frustrations and challenges with parenting Frameworks for success Advocacy and raising children with special needs Coping with loss Startup Dads' optimism for 2024 Where to find Adam Fishman - Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com - Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/ - Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/ — In this episode, we cover: [0:00] Hello & intro from Adam [01:15] Mistakes made as a parent [01:22] Ryan Johnson (CPO, CallRail) - thinking your kids are older than they are [02:41] Tobi Emonts-Holley (CEO, Tiphereth) - losing your temper, recovering and learning to let go [04:20] Nick Soman (CEO/founder, Decent) - when I felt like I was drowning [05:45] Mike Duboe (General Partner, Greylock) - being too hard on yourself [07:12] Lloyed Lobo (Co-founder, Boast.ai) - yelling at your kids [07:54] Jake Wood (Founder, Groundswell and Team Rubicon) - avoiding mistakes of the heart [08:42] Guy Yalif (Co-founder/CEO, Intellimize) - quality minutes with your kids vs. quantity of hours [09:29] Gaurav Vohra (Founding team, Superhuman) - taking advice from other parents; not getting a crib [11:50] Buster Benson (Product leader, Medium) - thinking your kids are more mature than they are [14:27] George Arison (CEO, Grindr) - not explaining why to kids [14:46] Ben Williams (PLG Advisor, PLGeek) - thinking it would be easy [15:15] Parenting successes [15:24] Will Rocklin (Product Advisor) - marriage and parenthood unlocking your best self [17:25] Tom Willerer (COO, Reforge) - watching your kids be successful [21:51] Trae and Michelle Stephens (Partner, Founders Fund, Co-founder Anduril, Co-founder Oathcare) - watching kids learning new things and experiencing the world [22:53] Eric and Sara Mauskopf  (Product leader, Winnie; CEO/co-founder, Winnie) - rejoining the workforce and working with your spouse [027:20] Guy Yalif - seeing your kids navigate transitions; college and high school [28:06] Darius Contractor (CGO, Otter.ai) - helping your kids be centered and defining success with them [28:59] George Arison - watching your kids learning [29:28] Aaron Huey (Founder, National Geographic Photographer, 3rd Coolest Dad in America) - being named the 3rd coolest Dad in America [31:07] Parenting frustrations and challenges [31:19] Will Rocklin - conception struggles and a positive experience with IVF [33:23] Alex Cohen (Product leader, Carbon Health) - not having family or a support network nearby [34:25] Nick Soman - starting a company and becoming a husband and father at the same time [35:13] Eric and Sara Mauskopf - navigating cancer; a dismembering experience; family planning with cancer [42:28] Adam Grenier (VP Growth, Eventbrite) - having a child with special needs [44:17] Buster Benson - navigating separation and divorce; talking to your kids about it; advice for others [53:03] Tobi Emonts-Holley - getting intense feedback online and saying the wrong thing [01:00:20] Best parenting frameworks [01:00:30] Nick Soman - irrevocable guidelines [01:00:59] Tobi Emonts-Holley - personal discipline equals freedom [01:02:57] Mike Duboe - making time for date night [01:04:04] Lloyed Lobo - positive discipline, rewarding the effort and trusting the process [01:07:51] Jake Wood - making sure your kids know they're loved [01:08:30] Guy Yalif - making sure your kids know they're loved and you only control how you show up [01:09:29] Adam Grenier - tools from Brene Brown and understanding your couple capacity [01:10:37] Gaurav Vohra - Delete, automate, delegate [01:13:14] Casey Woo - the importance of routine [01:13:50] Josh Herzig-Marx and Carla Naumburg (Product advisor, best-selling author) - prioritization and tradeoffs using mission and vision [01:19:04] Buster Benson - creating a safe space and not trying to diagnose your kids [01:21:37] Adam Grenier - special time with each kid [01:22:50] Gaurav Vohra - full vertical responsibility management [01:28:41] Brian Balfour (CEO/founder, Reforge) - defining your parenting values [01:30:15] Ben Williams - making 1-on-1 time [01:31:37] Alex Cohen - giving zero fucks and going with the flow [01:32:15] Fareed Mosavat (Advisor) - remembering that you're the adult [01:33:06] Advocating for your kids [01:33:17] Ryan Johnson - getting difficult medical diagnoses and navigating that process [01:36:07] Matt Greenberg (CTO, Handshake) - the process of diagnosing and advocating for your autistic child in the school system [01:41:29] Adam Grenier - the tools for helping and advocating for your autistic child with caregivers [1:46:01] Ben Williams - helping your child understand racism [1:47:14] George Arison - navigating the surrogacy process as a gay man [1:54:41] Matt Greenberg - more about advocating for your autistic child [1:59:51] Startup dads & moms discuss loss [2:00:02] Trae & Michelle Stephens - navigating miscarriage and advice for others  [2:02:24] Brian Balfour - coping with the loss of a child at birth [2:08:06] Lloyd Lobo - navigating the loss of a twin [2:13:21] What are Startup Dads looking forward to in 2024? [2:13:29] Matt Greenberg - looking forward to his four year old turning five [2:13:47] Lloyd Lobo - my wife's 40th birthday [2:14:13] Alex Cohen - side projects turning into real things [2:14:48] George Arison - excited about building culture together and the transition to kindergarten [2:15:58] Gaurav Vohra - traveling to exciting places as a family [2:17:06] Ben Williams - taking a family holiday... somewhere warm [2:18:05] Trae & Michelle Stephens - having an escape from the city, celebrating milestone birthdays, and rest [2:19:13] Tobi Emonts-Holley - watching his kids pursue their sports and passions; connecting with more dads [2:20:19] Ryan Johnson - the technology landscape settling and what will happen with AI [2:21:36] Will Rocklin - a baby who sleeps [2:22:39] Thank you — Show references: IVF - https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/in-vitro-fertilization/about/pac-20384716 RMA - https://rmanetwork.com/ Harville Hendrix - https://harvilleandhelen.com/ Fatherly - https://www.fatherly.com/ National Geographic - https://www.nationalgeographic.com/ UCSF Fertility Clinic - https://crh.ucsf.edu/ Jocko Willink - https://jocko.com/ The Score Takes Care of Itself: My Philosophy of Leadership by Bill Walsh, Steve Jamison & Craig Walsh - https://www.amazon.com/Score-Takes-Care-Itself-Philosophy/dp/1591843472 Brene Brown - https://brenebrown.com/ Fair Play by Eve Rodsky - https://www.amazon.com/Fair-Play-Game-Changing-Solution-When/dp/0525541934 The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman PHD - https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0553447718 Brickies - https://brickies.club/ CCRM Fertility - https://www.ccrmivf.com/ HAND of Bay Area - https://handsupport.org/ — Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/ Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/  

Welcome to a special Holiday Edition of Startup Dad! As parents we all need to go easy on ourselves at this time of the year. To bring a little holiday cheer to your lives I went back through 2023's roster of guests and highlighted their best and worst parenting purchases. You'll also hear a series of never-before-shared thoughts on the best and worst holiday presents they've ever given their spouse and the best and worst gifts they've ever received.You'll hear from past guests: Adam Grenier, Alex Cohen, Casey Woo, Brian Balfour, Buster Benson, Gaurav Vohra, Aaron Huey, Darius Contractor, Eric and Sara Mauskopf, Mike Duboe, Nick Soman, Ryan Johnson, Trae and Michelle Stephens, Tom Willerer, Fareed Mosavat, Will Rocklin, Matt Greenberg, Ben Williams, Jake Wood, and Tobi Emonts-Holley.In this episode we discuss:* The best parenting product they've ever purchased* The worst parenting product they've ever purchased* The best or worst holiday gift they've ever given their spouse* The best or worst holiday gift they've ever receivedListen, watch and subscribe: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Overcast.—Where to find Adam Fishman- Newsletter: www.fishmanafnewsletter.com- Newsletter: www.startupdadpod.substack.com- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/- Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/—In this episode, we cover:[0:00] Intro and welcome[1:32] Best parenting product ever purchased[4:01] Worst parenting product ever purchased[7:49] Best or worst gift they've ever given their spouse[12:26] Best or worst gift they've ever received—Show references for Best Parenting Purchases:Butt Cream - https://www.babylist.com/hello-baby/best-diaper-rash-creamsBlackout Tent - https://www.amazon.com/SlumberPod-3-0-Portable-Blackout-Sleeping/dp/B0B7PBRZX5?th=1Umbrella Stroller - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-umbrella-strollers/Night Nanny - https://www.care.com/c/what-is-a-night-nanny/White Noise Machine - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-white-noise-machine/Kids Tower / Step Stool - https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/childrens-products/g37342617/best-learning-towers/Doona Stroller - https://www.doona.com/en-us/car-seat-stroller/discover-doonaBaby Gate - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-baby-gate/Travel Stroller - https://www.verywellfamily.com/best-travel-strollers-4177015Nose Frida - https://frida.com/products/nosefridaSleep Expert - https://wellrestedmamas.com/sleep-training-consultant-coach/Fellow Tea Kettle - https://fellowproducts.com/products/stagg-ekg-electric-pour-over-kettleOnesies with Zippers - https://www.target.com/s/zipper+onesie+newborn—Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit startupdadpod.substack.com

Welcome to a special Holiday Edition of Startup Dad! As parents we all need to go easy on ourselves at this time of the year. To bring a little holiday cheer to your lives I went back through 2023's roster of guests and highlighted their best and worst parenting purchases. You'll also hear a series of never-before-shared thoughts on the best and worst holiday presents they've ever given their spouse and the best and worst gifts they've ever received. You'll hear from past guests Adam Grenier, Alex Cohen, Casey Woo, Brian Balfour, Buster Benson, Gaurav Vohra, Aaron Huey, Darius Contractor, Eric and Sara Mauskopf, Mike Duboe, Nick Soman, Ryan Johnson, Trae and Michelle Stephens, Tom Willerer, Fareed Mosavat, Will Rocklin, Matt Greenberg, Ben Williams, Jake Wood, and Tobi Emonts-Holley.   In this episode we discuss: The best parenting product they've ever purchased The worst parenting product they've ever purchased The best or worst holiday gift they've ever given their spouse The best or worst holiday gift they've ever received — Where to find Adam Fishman - Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com - Newsletter: http://startupdadpod.substack.com - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/ - Twitter / X: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/startupdadpod/ — In this episode, we cover: [0:00] Intro and welcome [1:32] Best parenting product ever purchased [4:01] Worst parenting product ever purchased [7:49] Best or worst gift they've ever given their spouse [12:26] Best or worst gift they've ever received — Show references for Best Parenting Purchases: Butt Cream - https://www.babylist.com/hello-baby/best-diaper-rash-creams Blackout Tent - https://www.amazon.com/SlumberPod-3-0-Portable-Blackout-Sleeping/dp/B0B7PBRZX5?th=1 Umbrella Stroller - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-umbrella-strollers/ Night Nanny - https://www.care.com/c/what-is-a-night-nanny/ White Noise Machine - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-white-noise-machine/ Kids Tower / Step Stool - https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/childrens-products/g37342617/best-learning-towers/ Doona Stroller - https://www.doona.com/en-us/car-seat-stroller/discover-doona Baby Gate - https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-baby-gate/ Travel Stroller - https://www.verywellfamily.com/best-travel-strollers-4177015 Nose Frida - https://frida.com/products/nosefrida Sleep Expert - https://wellrestedmamas.com/sleep-training-consultant-coach/ Fellow Tea Kettle - https://fellowproducts.com/products/stagg-ekg-electric-pour-over-kettle Onesies with Zippers - https://www.target.com/s/zipper+onesie+newborn   — Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/ Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/  

Buster Benson is Principle Product Manager at Medium, the platform creating a new model for digital publishing. He a published author of the book Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreements, the founder of 750Words, and most importantly the father of two boys. In this episode we discuss: Joining and leaving companies in pursuit of being a better father Starting a family while being broke with no insurance Home birthing Having a kid who doesn't sleep for more than 30 minutes at a time Separation and divorce How to talk to your kids about divorce Maintaining an amicable relationship with your ex and connection to your kids — Where to find Buster Benson: - Twitter: https://twitter.com/buster - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/busterbenson/ - 750 Words: https://750words.com/ - Amazon: Why Are We Yelling?   Where to find Adam Fishman: - Newsletter: https://www.fishmanafnewsletter.com - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/ - Twitter: https://twitter.com/fishmanaf — In this episode, we cover: [1:26] Introduction [2:30] Background [6:22] Decision to start a family [7:49] Homebirth [9:28] Homebirth community [11:06] About Buster's kids [12:47] Why parenting is hard [14:40] Buster's earliest fatherhood memories [17:53] Surprising fatherhood things [19:45] External pressure [21:45] Frameworks for parenting [24:14] ADHD/Diagnosis [25:13] The story of his separation and divorce [28:43] Telling the kids about their separation [31:04] Advice for separation [34:46] Agreements in parenting [36:42] Managing complex demands [39:46] Mistakes in fatherhood [43:33] Rapid fire round — Production support for Startup Dad is provided by Tommy Harron at http://www.armaziproductions.com/ Episode art designed by Matt Sutherland at https://www.mspnw.com/  

What are 4 Problems That Bias Helps Us Address? Too much information Not enough meaning Need to act fast What should we remember? This 2016 article published by Buster Benson covers over 175 biases and how we use them in a constructive way. I do not think I have geeked out this hard in a VERY long time. https://betterhumans.pub/cognitive-bias-cheat-sheet-55a472476b18

Help for Getting Out of High Conflict When you think of the word conflict, what comes to mind? I ask because I've had the opportunity to pose that question to groups around the world. How would you respond? What I hear most often is words like Stress. Arguments. Tension. Avoid! Rarely do I hear Opportunity. Or disagreement. I'm excited to welcome Amanda Ripley to the podcast. Amanda is the author of one of my favorite books from this last year. It's entitled High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out. It's not just a book about the brain. It's a book that introduces you to your brain. For those of us responsible for leading teams and projects, learning how to avoid the traps of high conflict--and how to get out of them if we're there--is critical to our success. And in a world of increased political and social polarization, we have a real opportunity to be a force for good instead of just adding fuel to the fire. I consider this book a must-read and I look forward to your feedback after you listen to the episode! Learn more about Amanda and her book at AmandaRipley.com/. For more insights related to this episode, check out: Episode 284 for my conversation with Peter Boghossian about his book How Have Impossible Conversations Episode 276 for my conversation with Buster Benson about his book Why Are We Yelling? Do You Have a High School or College Age Student in Your Family? If so, check out our e-learning program entitled Getting Stuff Done: Project Management for Students. It provides practical skills to reduce the stress of their school work and help jumpstart their career. Learn more and get access at https://i-leadonline.com/GettingStuffDone. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills   The following music was used for this episode: Music: The Inner Conflict by The New Geometry YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zoeccLie1DU License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: RetroFuture Clean by Kevin MacLeod YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iWjCZ60gxfI License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Everybody Loves Raymond Uses Active Listening - from Parent Effectiveness Training available on YouTube at YouTube.com/watch?v=4VOubVB4CTU

Get ready for those 'fun' holiday dinner conversations with friends and family. You know the ones... In the spirit of the holidays, I thought we'd revisit Season 1, Episode 2. This is an episode about the battle for truth. As disinformation, misinformation, malinformation, and conspiracy theories seem to be hitting epidemic levels, how can we help each other determine what is real and what is fake? How can we help people who are falling down conspiracy rabbit holes? And what roles do technology companies, governments, and ordinary citizens play? Perry Carpenter speaks with acclaimed cybersecurity expert, Bruce Schneier, disinformation experts, Samantha North and Allie Wong, and conspiracy theory researcher, Mick West. In this episode, we also hear from Peter Leyden from Reinvent and Eli Periser, author of The Filter Bubble. Learn more about our guests here: Bruce Schneier - Internationally renowned security technologist, author, and speaker. You can find Bruce's website here. Allie Wong - VP of Mis/dis/mal-information, Response and Resiliency, Limbik; Consultant, United Nations Institute for Disarmament Research. (LinkedIn) Samantha North - Disinformation researcher and consultant. (LinkedIn) Co-Founder: North Cyber Research (website) Mick West - Skeptical investigator and retired video game programmer. Creator of the websites Contrail Science (website) and Metabunk (website). Author of Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect (link). Personal website (link). Special thanks to Reinvent for allowing use of audio. References: http://reinvent.net/events/event/how-we-can-pop-the-filter-bubble-with-eli-pariser/ https://reboot-foundation.org/study-social-media-poor-judgment/ https://reboot-foundation.org/is-there-a-fake-news-generation/ Recommended Books: Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect by Mick West. Click Here to Kill Everybody: Security and Survival in a Hyper-connected World by Bruce Schneier. The Filter Bubble: How the New Personalized Web Is Changing What We Read and How We Think by Eli Pariser. Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman. Why Are We Yelling?: The Art of Productive Disagreement by Buster Benson. The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt. Perry's Books Transformational Security Awareness: What Neuroscientists, Storytellers, and Marketers Can Teach Us About Driving Secure Behaviors, by Perry Carpenter The Security Culture Playbook: An Executive Guide To Reducing Risk and Developing Your Human Defense Layer by Perry Carpenter & Kai Roer Production Credits: Music and Sound Effects by Blue Dot Sessions, Envato Elements, & Storyblocks. Artwork by Chris Machowski @ https://www.RansomWear.net/ and Mia Rune @ https://www.MiaRune.com. 8th Layer Insights theme music composed and performed by Marcos Moscat @ https://www.GameMusicTown.com/ Want to get in touch with Perry? Here's how: LinkedIn Twitter Instagram Email: perry [at] 8thLayerMedia [dot] com

We've been writing 3 pages every morning for the past week and we want to check in! For one thing, writing has been tough and surprising. Especially when you get a couple pages in, ie. the sweet spot. On this episode we were lucky enough to discuss that with an expert. Buster Benson is a writer and founder of 750words.com, which is a service that has helped half a million people develop a private journaling practice. A morning pages master himself, Buster has been journaling for over a decade. Mary and Mallika talked to Buster about how to get the most out of your writing and have him sign off on the only acceptable situation in which you can talk about yourself in the third person.

Last week, we discussed how techniques such as affect labeling and physiological sigh can help us to stay calm when triggered and get into a better state of mind. But how do we go about the messy business of actually engaging with people who think differently from us?British philosopher Bertrand Russell once wrote,Find more pleasure in intelligent dissent than in passive agreement, for, if you value intelligence as you should, the former implies a deeper agreement than the latter.Sometimes, getting through to people feels impossible with both sides bolstered by a profligate confidence in their firepower. What should we do if we want to avoid living in an echo chamber but also prefer to avoid confrontation? How can we communicate our viewpoints both effectively and gently?A Case of Cognitive DissonanceImagine two Americans named Marsha and Alexandria. Marsha supports the right to bear arms and believes abortion is equivalent to murder. Alex supports gun regulation and a woman's right to choose. Which person is more likely to support capital punishment?Based on the normal distribution of political opinions, most of us would say Marsha is more likely to support capital punishment because of her conservative views. But how do certain political ideologies get grouped together? Why would Marsha support the death penalty if she is pro-life? And why would Alex support individual freedom when it comes to abortion but not gun ownership? How do we explain the cognitive dissonance?The answer may lie in the factors that govern our decision-making process. We may be more primed to accept certain policy positions depending on our genetics, gender, ethnic background, upbringing, personality, and socioeconomic status. In a 2003 paper, Jost and colleagues from Stanford University argued that personality traits can predict whether someone is more likely to identify as liberal or conservative.In their meta-analysis, the researchers found that conservatives tend to have a higher need for order, structure, and closure compared to liberals and also rank lower on measures of tolerance for ambiguity, complexity, and openness to experience. In addition, conservatives were more likely to fear threats to social stability and score higher on measures of death anxiety.Finding Common GroundMoral Foundations Theory, put forth by social psychologist Jonathan Haidt, argues that humans across cultures share a common core of ethical beliefs upon which we build different narratives and identities. How those values are expressed and the relative importance we assign to them can differ, however.Some people may value adherence to authority above freedom of expression and thereby condemn flag burning as morally reprehensible. Others may place freedom of speech at the top of the moral hierarchy and therefore condone actions that reject patriotism in favor of equality. The five universal moral foundations are:Harm/care — leads to disapproval of individuals that inflict pain and suffering on othersFairness/reciprocity — involves issues of equality and justiceIngroup/loyalty — based on our attachment to groups (such as our family, church, or country) and underlies virtues of patriotismAuthority/respect — tendency to create hierarchical structures of dominance and subordination and appeals to values of leadership, obedience, and traditionPurity/sanctity — evokes emotions of disgust in response to biological contaminants, such as spoiled food or chewing tobacco, and social contaminants, such as spiritual corruption or hedonism, underlies the notion that the body is a templeSeveral studies have shown that liberals and conservatives differ in the relative value they assign to various foundations. Liberals are more likely to prioritize considerations of harm and fairness while conservatives tend to place a higher value on the foundations of ingroup, authority, and purity.Liberals are likely to deem actions immoral if they cause harm, which likely explains their negative attitudes towards capital punishment and the use of torture on terrorist suspects. The stronger value that conservatives place on ingroup/loyalty is reflected in their attitudes toward illegal immigration.Returning to the example of Marsha and Alex, how can we find a way to resolve the seemingly contradictory views? If Alex's opposition to abortion is a function of her commitment to fairness and her position on gun control stems from a hatred of harm, then simultaneously being pro-choice on abortion and anti-choice on gun ownership is not morally inconsistent.Similarly, Marsha's sincere belief in the sanctity of life underlies her opposition to abortion, and her position on gun control stems from her belief that each member of a group should be able to defend against outside threats. Understanding the basic moral pillars that underlie our beliefs is a great first step toward communicating more effectively.If we are to heal the pain and suffering caused by decades of divisive dialogue, we must first acknowledge the common humanity of all parties involved and then begin respectful conversations aimed at understanding. In his TED talk on how not to take things personally, former referee and communications expert Frederik Imbo explains, “If I try to see the intention of the other, I make space for understanding instead of irritation.”Don't Take It PersonallyHow do we stay calm when our personal beliefs are under attack? Looking to missionaries might provide an answer. Missionaries experience a lot of rejection when attempting to spread their message to a wider audience. How do they manage to maintain their composure while being repeatedly rebuffed?The secret may lie in their attitude towards their beliefs. Missionaries don't wield their beliefs as weapons but instead happily offer them as gifts. Sharing a gift is an act of joy, even if everyone doesn't accept it.How can we use this attitude to have more productive conversations with people who disagree with us? One strategy is loosening our attachment to our beliefs. According to philosophy professor Dale Lugenbehl, personal attachment to beliefs encourages personal competition at the expense of collaborative efforts to find the truth.The late Buddhist master Thích Nhất Hạnh recommended that we all make the following promise to ourselves: “I will cultivate openness, non-discrimination, and non-attachment to views in order to transform violence, fanaticism, and dogmatism in myself and in the world.”In his talk, Imbo offers yet another approach to help cultivate a sense of non-attachment to our beliefs. He uses the poignant analogy of a crumpled, chewed up, regurgitated 20 Euro note to explain that our value remains the same regardless of how other people treat us. Your value does not depend on external validation. Your worth is inherent irrespective of whether someone else recognizes it.Do I Make Myself Clear?Another strategy we can implement is to develop a strong sense of self-awareness. In her book, No One Understands You and What To Do About It, social psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson says that the gap between how we think we come across and how other people actually perceive us can be substantial.Most of us suffer from the illusion of transparency, the belief that what we feel, desire, and intend is perfectly clear to others even when we have done very little to effectively communicate our thoughts. Meanwhile, people perceiving us are susceptible to the primacy effect, which means that the information exchanged during early encounters will forever shape our view of a person.In his book Thinking Fast and Slow, economist Daniel Kahneman describes the two systems we use to process information, which he calls System 1 and System 2. System 1 processes information intuitively and automatically and tends to use shortcuts, or heuristics, to draw conclusions without much effort. The primacy effect comes about as the result of the lazy thinking of System 1.Halvorson points to research showing that children who perform better on the first half of a math test are judged to be smarter than children who perform better on the second half of the test despite identical objective scores. System 2, which is more thoughtful and deliberative, can correct for the shortcomings of System 1 by evaluating whether the initial impressions registered are accurate.But engaging System 2 in everyday decision-making is an uncommon occurrence. Weighing every potential motivation that a person could possibly have is mentally taxing, so we need to recruit other solutions to solve the problem of perception. Overcommunicating instead of relying on other people's systems to fill in the blanks would lead to fewer misunderstandings.If At First You Don't Succeed…In his book, Why Are We Yelling?, Buster Benson argues that the art of disagreement is something that can be honed with practice in the same way that a consistent workout routine or mindfulness regimen can make us better. According to Benson, practicing deliberately and allowing for forgiveness when we fail is the path forward. We should try to push ourselves a little past our comfort zones with every successive conversation.To recap, the following tips can help us engage in more productive disagreements:Find common ground by figuring out which moral value underlies a person's position.Don't take it personally. Loosen your attachment to your beliefs, and listen with the intent to understand.Counteract the human tendency to jump to conclusions by communicating more clearly. When in doubt, spell it out. Be as obvious as possible.Practice makes perfect, so keep trying. Even if you initially find yourself discouraged by the difficulty of disagreements, persistence will allow you to eventually reap the benefits!Disclaimer: Some of the links in this post are affiliate, which means I may receive a small commission from any qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nitajain.substack.com

Mónica's Link Tree with links to preorder her upcoming book ‘I Never Thought Of It That Way', her website, and more: https://linktr.ee/moniguzman Follow Mónica on Twitter: https://twitter.com/moniguzman Braver Angels website: https://braverangels.org/ References John R. Wood Jr's previous appearances on Two for Tea: https://soundcloud.com/twoforteapodcast/19-john-wood https://soundcloud.com/twoforteapodcast/58-john-r-wood-jr-and-roderick-graham-black-lives-and-the-george-floyd-protests Buster Benson's appearance on Two for Tea: https://soundcloud.com/twoforteapodcast/57-buster-benson Timestamps 3:05 Iona reads from Mónica's upcoming book ‘I Never Thought Of It That Way', leading to a discussion of the complexities of identity and expressing oneself and the temptation to use membership of certain groups as a shield in arguments. 12:53 Our interpersonal “internal assumption assistant”: positives and negatives. 14:38 Mónica's lens when writing her book. What angle on polarisation and having better conversations does Mónica's book have that other such books lack? The problem of “chaining.” “It's all people.” 20:24 How our attitudes and beliefs arise from our particular experiences across time rather than rational cogitation. Why we must learn to ask where other people are coming from instead of arguing with people's conclusions directly. 24:41 The process of changing minds: again, experiences and relationships matter most. 30:28 The benefits of listening to and learning from and being interested in other people. Mónica's idea of “respect.” The importance of being curious and open. Mónica - reframing the way we interact with others. 36:55 The dangers of making assumptions about other people's views when we interact with them. The dehumanising and destabilising effects of social media on our discourse: do we spend too much time in virtual reality? 42:41 The benefits of being surprised. 44:13 Mónica's experience as a journalist and how this has informed her worldview. Her love of conversation. 48:48 The kinds of questions that are good to ask people, that they respond well to. The difference between questions that inspire openness vs. clamming up - specifics or the way in which we ask the question/who is asking us? 54:13 Iona's main problem with Twitter: you don't just talk to people, you can see, at the same time, what they're saying *about* you to others. “Chaining” and the failure to be curious. How to be more open: small steps. 59:54 Our attachments to our beliefs and the ‘zealotry of converts' paradox. The pain of changing our beliefs on big issues. Opinions as “snapshots.” How to loosen those attachments in conversation - and why we should do this. Listening to other people doesn't mean you endorse their views. 1:05:40 Do our conversational difficulties come from a deep fear of being wrong? [‘Editorial' note: the gif Iona mentions is from the British comedy Peep Show, not Inglourious Basterds!] How do we overcome this fear? The long, slow process of changing one's mind - the distant and often unintended consequences of arguments. 1:11:52 Twitter question: are there any guests Mónica would refuse to have on the Braver Angels podcast and if so, on what criteria? 1:22:29 Twitter question: What had to be trimmed from Mónica's book that she would have liked to have kept in? Is she planning a second book? 1:27:14 Is there anything Mónica wishes Iona had asked her or that Iona didn't give her a chance to talk about?

Was sind Cognitive Biases, so genannte "strukturelle Denkfehler"? Wie kann man die Auswirkungen dieser strukturellen Verzerrungen auf die Arbeit so gering wie möglich halten? Was fangen wir mit diesem Wissen eigentlich im Arbeitsalltag an? Jungwirth & Knecht schauen in Klassiker und/oder Bestseller der "Behavioral Science" wie "Thinking Fast and Slow" (Tversky, Kahneman), "Die Kunst des klaren Denkens" (Dobelli) und "Denken hilft zwar, nützt aber nichts" (Ariely, Zybak) und suchen in einer knappen halben kne:buster-Stunde nach Erkenntnissen und praktischer Anwendbarkeit.   SHOW NOTES Sendung 76 Ariely, Dan, and Maria Zybak. 2008. Denken hilft zwar, nützt aber nichts: warum wir immer wieder unvernünftige Entscheidungen treffen. München: Droemer. Dobelli, Rolf. 2014. Die Kunst Des Klaren Denkens. dtv. Dörner, Dietrich. 2002. Die Logik des Mißlingens: strategisches Denken in komplexen Situationen. 15. Aufl. rororo rororo-Sachbuch rororo science 19314. Reinbek bei Hamburg: Rowohlt. Gigerenzer, Gerd. 1991. ‘How to Make Cognitive Illusions Disappear: Beyond “Heuristics and Biases”'. European Review of Social Psychology 2 (1): 83–115. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792779143000033. Halo Effect und zur Anzahl Bomben, die Obama verantwortet: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/jan/09/america-dropped-26171-bombs-2016-obama-legacy https://www.thebureauinvestigates.com/stories/2016-07-01/obama-drone-casualty-numbers-a-fraction-of-those-recorded-by-the-bureau https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Civilian_casualties_from_U.S._drone_strikes Kahneman, Daniel. 2019. Schnelles Denken, langsames Denken. Translated by Thorsten Schmidt. 25. Auflage. München: Siedler. Klein, Gary A. 2009. Streetlights and Shadows: Searching for the Keys to Adaptive Decision Making. Cambridge, MA: MIT Press. Manoogian, John III, Buster Benson, and TilmannR. 2016. ‘Cognitive Biases Dendigramm'. https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Cognitive_bias_codex_en.svg. Miller, George A. 1956. ‘The Magical Number Seven, plus or Minus Two: Some Limits on Our Capacity for Processing Information.' Psychological Review 63 (2): 81–97. https://doi.org/10.1037/h0043158. Scullen, S. E., M. K. Mount, and M. Goff. 2000. ‘Understanding the Latent Structure of Job Performance Ratings'. The Journal of Applied Psychology 85 (6): 956–70. Tversky, Amos, and Daniel Kahneman. 1981. ‘The Framing of Decisions and the Psychology of Choice'. Science 211 (4481): 453–58. https://doi.org/10.1126/science.7455683. Wikipedia: https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liste_kognitiver_Verzerrungen   Kne:buster Blog https://digitalien.org/knebuster-wunderkammern-und-missverstaendnisse/  Stefan Knecht bei LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/knecht/ Stefan Knecht Website https://digitalien.org Alex Jungwirth bei LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexander-jungwirth-305908155/    kne:buster - ein Podcast-Satelliten-Snackified Content-Experiment mit Stefan Knecht und Alex Jungwirth Expedition Arbeit, das heißt auch: Immer wieder Experimente, mal fast unmerkliche Veränderungen in der Community, mal gewagte Neuheiten, manchmal einfach das kreative Stochern im Nebel oder das lustvolle Ausprobieren dessen, was Spaß und Spannung verspricht.  Stochern, Spaß und Spannung, das wird es bis auf Weiteres donnerstags geben, im Kurz-Podcast-Gesprächs-Format  “kne:buster”. Der Titel enthält den Namen des Gastgebers, Stefan Knecht und die Funktion des “busting”, was irgendetwas zwischen “auf den Arm nehmen”, “Pleite gehen” und “sprengen” bedeutet. Im Kern geht es um die Aufdeckung von Mythen, einem Hobby, dem Stefan Knecht schon seit geraumer Zeit krawallfrei aber messerscharf und wissenschaftlich fundiert auf seiner Seite digitalien.org betreibt. Seit nun schon langer Zeit regelmäßig dabei ist ein weiterer “pragmatischer Skeptiker” namens Alexander Jungwirth. Alex ist den Hörerinnen und Hörern des Mitglieder Radios aus seiner Audio-Kolumne “Linzer Worte” bestens bekannt und fungiert im Duo Jungwirth & Knecht tendenziell als der Fragesteller an den Viel- und Intensiv-Leser Knecht.  Wer beim lustvollen Dekonstruieren lauschen will, ist herzlich eingeladen. 

It's not about the content - a fresh leadership perspective on disagreement  Author of Why Are We Yelling? Buster Benson flips the perspective of difficult conversations and conflict, turning them from something to be feared into a super power. By asking thoughtful questions, disagreements become leadership learning opportunities, goodwill generators and windows into a bigger world. Buster explains why ‘What am I missing?' could be the most important question you'll ask today and shares what it is like to go from entrenchment to exploration. Why you should listen: leadership principles for caring conflict How to recalibrate team development dynamics  Navigating corporate culture clashes The leadership questions you need to be asking We explore a leadership mindset shift from war to campfire Holding up the mirror to leadership beliefs A leadership perspective that's open to change Agreeing to disagree is not a leadership strategy

After leadership roles at Twitter, Slack, and Patreon, Buster Benson wrote Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement. In this interview, he shares his strategies for having difficult, truth-seeking conversations within both families and companies, and predicts how society might evolve past unproductive contentiousness. Toward the end, we venture into the bittersweet rewards of contemplating death. We really enjoyed this conversation, and thank Buster for going deep with us.In this episode:(00:00) — Episode starts(00:36) — Buster's background(01:50) — A Buster Benson bootcamp(05:20) — "Disagreement is rarely about facts"(07:16) — "Being uncomfortable is a good identity to have"(10:08) — "What's the moose in the room?"(13:01) — "Truth-seeking is pain-seeking"(20:17) — How to have hard conversations about the COVID vaccine(28:09) — Disagreement is not about persuasion(34:00) — "Fiction has to change"(50:08) — "Social media is ruining us"(56:29) — The problem of community(1:02:06) — The captive narrative of capitalism(1:13:09) — "University is going away"(1:30:24) — The pros and cons of social media(1:35:53) — Meditations on deathEPISODE LINKS:Buster on TwitterBuster's website750wordsIDEAMARKET LINKS:IdeamarketTwitterApple PodcastsSpotifyDiscord—The Ideamarket Podcast is where venture philosophers share the ideas, trends, and concepts they're most bullish on.—About Ideamarket:Ideamarket is the credibility layer of the internet. Ideamarket allows the public to mainstream the world's best information using market signals.Get started now.

Visit our website BeautifulIllusions.org for a complete set of show notes and links to almost everything discussed in this episodeSelected References:2:12 - Listen to Beautiful Illusions Episode 17 - BI Book Club 1: The Reality Bubble from July 2021, where we discuss Ziya Tong's 2019 book The Reality Bubble4:07 - Published in 1739, book 3 of philosopher David Hume's Treatise of Human Nature, “Of Morals”, articulates what has come to be known as the “is-ought problem” which arises when someone makes claims about what ought to be that are based solely on statements about what is. Hume found that there seems to be a significant difference between positive statements (about what is) and prescriptive normative statements (about what ought to be), and that it is not obvious how one can coherently move from descriptive statements to prescriptive ones. While Hume was dealing with moral philosophy, a related epistemological concept derived from Hume's thought is the fact-value distinction, in which statements of fact based upon reason and physical observation, and which are examined via the empirical method, are separate from statements of value, which encompass ethics and aesthetics. This barrier between 'fact' and 'value' implies it is impossible to derive ethical claims from factual arguments, or to defend the former using the latter. 5:44 - James Madison lays out his views on a large diverse republic in Federalist No. 10, see the Wikipedia entry as well10:33 - See the great “Cognitive bias cheat sheet” and “What Can We Do About Our Bias?” by Buster Benson writing for Better Humans12:49 - Listen to Season 2, Episode 18 of Conversations With Coleman: The Myth of Climate Apocalypse with Michael Shellenberger (YouTube), more on Coleman Hughes and Michael Shellenberger13:27 - From the Season 2, Episode 22 show notes of Conversations With Coleman (YouTube): "My second announcement today is about my interview with Michael Shellenberger from a few weeks back. It seems that Michael made some very misleading or outright false claims about the connection between climate change and extreme weather events. Specifically, he said that climate change did not contribute to the intensity of wildfires in California and Australia. It was a surprising claim to me at the time, but I didn't push back in the moment. Although in retrospect, I should have because it turns out this is not the consensus of the climate science community. Some of his other claims, including that we're not in a sixth mass extinction are at the very least far more controversial than he indicated. So to rectify this, I'm going to get a mainstream climate scientist on the show very soon, and cover all of these topics in detail."13:34 - Factfulness by Hans Rosling22:04 - In his 2018 book Stubborn Attachments economist Tyler Cowen argues that “[t]he lives of humans born decades from now might be difficult for us to imagine, or to treat as of equal worth to our own. But our own lives were once similarly distant from those taking their turn on Earth; the future, when it comes, will feel as real to those living in it as the present does to us. Economists should treat threats to future lives as just as morally reprehensible as present threats to our own.”23:11 - See “The Brain Isn't Supposed to Change This Much” (The Atlantic, 2021)25:25 - Watch “Louis CK Everything Is Amazing And Nobody Is Happy” (YouTube)27:53 - See “How much plastic actually gets recycled?” (Live Science, 2020), “Your Recycling Gets Recycled, Right? Maybe, or Maybe Not” (New York Times, 2018),and “Is This The End of Recycling?” (The Atlantic, 2019)28:12 - See “Biden's fake burger ban and the rising culture war over meat” (Vox, 2021), and “Eating meat has ‘dire' consequences for the planet, says report” (National Geographic, 2019)29:24 - In Factfulness, author Hans Rosling lays out 10 “dramatic instincts” that often lead us astray, the first three of which he refers to as “mega misconceptions.” The first of these is what he calls “The Gap Instinct” or the mega misconception that the world is divided into two, to paraphrase Rosling he says we have a tendency to “divide all kinds of things into two distinct and often conflicting groups with an imagined gap...in between...the gap instinct makes us imagine a division where there is just a smooth range, difference where there is convergence, and conflict where there is agreement...in most cases there is no clear separation of two groups...the majority is to be found in the middle, and it tells a very different story.” To combat this instinct Rosling suggests recognizing when a story is about a gap and realizing that reality is often not polarized at all, and furthermore to beware of extremes, that although the difference between extremes is dramatic, the majority is usually in the middle where the gap is supposed to be.” For more useful information on the gap instinct and the other 9 dramatic instincts, see Factfulness at Gapminder31:50 - Listen to Beautiful Illusions Episode 06 - What We Talk About When We Talk About Politics from November 2020, and see Difficult Conversations by by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen34:18 - See Super Duper Food Trucks Catering, the spin off of Super Duper Weenie42:28 - The Road by Cormac McCarthy44:38 - As well meaning as we might be, it goes without saying that Jeff and I are hardly the first humans to engage in this kind of exercise, in fact, the Universal Declaration of Human Rights was proclaimed by the United Nations General Assembly in December 1948, as a common standard of achievements for all peoples and all nations. It was drafted by representatives with different legal and cultural backgrounds from all regions of the world, and was it set out, for the first time, fundamental human rights to be universally protected, and is widely recognized as having inspired, and paved the way for, the adoption of more than seventy human rights treaties applied today on a permanent basis at global and regional levels. The Declaration comprises 30 individual articles, the first of which states “All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.” and the 25th of which states “Everyone has the right to a standard of living adequate for the health and well-being of himself and of his family, including food, clothing, housing and medical care and necessary social services, and the right to security in the event of unemployment, sickness, disability, widowhood, old age or other lack of livelihood in circumstances beyond his control.” For the other 28 Articles see the Universal Declaration on Human Rights (United Nations)46:31 - Watch the benefit song “U.S.A. For Africa - We Are the World (Official Video)” (YouTube) and read the Wikipedia entry, Bob Dylan appears at 3:4646:38 - See “We Already Grow Enough Food For 10 Billion People -- and Still Can't End Hunger” (Journal of Sustainable Agriculture, 2012) and “Can we feed the world and ensure no one goes hungry?” (United Nations, 2019)50:28 - See “Building New Renewables Is Cheaper Than Burning Fossil Fuels” (Bloomberg Green, 2021), “Majority of New Renewables Undercut Cheapest Fossil Fuel on Cost” (International Renewable Energy Agency, 2021), and “Solar power got cheap. So why aren't we using it more?” (Popular Science, 2021)52:14 - See Merchants of Doubt by Naomi Oreskes and Erik Conway, “Exxon Knew about Climate Change almost 40 years ago” (Scientific American, 2015) and “How the oil industry made us doubt climate change” (BBC, 2020) 53:30 - Former Vice President Al Gore released his climate change documentary An Inconvenient Truth in 200655:22 - See “Why you think you're right, even when you're wrong” (TED Ideas, 2017)58:18 - The Progress Network1:00:24 - In his 1971 book Theory of Justice, philosopher John Rawls presents the thought experiment of the Veil of Ignorance, which allows us to test ideas for fairness when thinking about setting up a just society. For more see “The Fairness Principle: How the Veil of Ignorance Helps Test Fairness” (Farnam Street Blog) 1:00:43 - See “The Ship Breakers” (The Atlantic, 2014), “Inside the Shady, Dangerous Business of Shipbreaking” (Atlas Obscura, 2016), watch “Where Ships Go to Die, Workers Risk Everything” (National Geographic YouTube Channel), and see the Wikipedia entry on ship breaking1:02:35 - Listen to Beautiful Illusions Episode 12 - A New Enlightenment: The Age of Cognitivism from March 2021This episode was recorded in August 2021The “Beautiful Illusions Theme” was performed by Darron Vigliotti (guitar) and Joseph Vigliotti (drums), and was written and recorded by Darron Vigliotti

A leadership responsibility is to keep learning. How? Reading. Book recommendations! We've got three leadership books to decode conflict, one to make you more calm and wise, one that inspires, plus a fun one and Netflix suggestions too. Why you should listen: we can all get better at the critical leadership skill of managing conflict Some conflict arises due to embedded social constructs based on invisible cultural norms; this book reveals eight scales to help make sense of these differences Some arguments seem impossible to fix: this book by Buster Benson gives us a leadership framework to work with so we can turn disagreements into productive growth conversations. Work from home versus being told to go back to the office? This book on polarities will definitely help. We explore uplifting leadership journeys Joyful Wisdom by Yongey Mingyar is a gentle introduction to Buddhism and better awareness that brings peace and joy The All Blacks leadership journey is a delight in this beautiful book by James Kerr Andy Weir's latest novel, Project Hail Mary is a fun romp Netflix shows of American Crime Story: the stories of O.J. Simpson, Gianni Versace, and Jeffrey Epstein

This is an episode about the battle for truth. As disinformation, misinformation, malinformation, and conspiracy theories seem to be hitting epidemic levels, how can we help each other determine what is real and what is fake? How can we help people who are falling down conspiracy rabbit holes? And what roles do technology companies, governments, and ordinary citizens play? Perry Carpenter speaks with acclaimed cybersecurity expert, Bruce Schneier, disinformation experts, Samantha North and Allie Wong, and conspiracy theory researcher, Mick West. In this episode, we also hear from Peter Leyden from Reinvent and Eli Periser, author of The Filter Bubble. Learn more about our guests here: Bruce Schneier - Internationally renowned security technologist, author, and speaker. You can find Bruce's website here. Allie Wong - VP of Mis/dis/mal-information, Response and Resiliency, Limbik; Consultant, United Nations Institute for Disarmament Research. (LinkedIn) Samantha North - Disinformation researcher and consultant. (LinkedIn) Co-Founder: North Cyber Research (website) Mick West - Skeptical investigator and retired video game programmer. Creator of the websites Contrail Science (website) and Metabunk (website). Author of Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect (link). Personal website (link). Special thanks to Reinvent for allowing use of audio. References: http://reinvent.net/events/event/how-we-can-pop-the-filter-bubble-with-eli-pariser/ https://reboot-foundation.org/study-social-media-poor-judgment/ https://reboot-foundation.org/is-there-a-fake-news-generation/ Recommended Books (Amazon affiliate links): Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect by Mick West. Click Here to Kill Everybody: Security and Survival in a Hyper-connected World by Bruce Schneier. The Filter Bubble: How the New Personalized Web Is Changing What We Read and How We Think by Eli Pariser. Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman. Why Are We Yelling?: The Art of Productive Disagreement by Buster Benson. The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt. Transformational Security Awareness: What Neuroscientists, Storytellers, and Marketers Can Teach Us About Driving Secure Behaviors by Perry Carpenter. Music and Sound Effects by Blue Dot Sessions & Storyblocks. Artwork by Chris Machowski.

Visit our website BeautifulIllusions.org for a complete set of show notes and links to almost everything discussed in this episodeSelected References:2:00 - Listen to Beautiful Illusions Episode 12 - “A New Enlightenment: The Age of Cognitivism” from March 20212:09 - See Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett and Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aaronson2:30 - See the “Literary Theory and Schools of Criticism” subsection of the Purdue Online Writing Lab website3:28 - F. Scott Fitzgerald, author of The Great Gatsby3:48 - See the entry on “allostasis” from the extended endnotes of How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett and/or the “Allostasis” Wikipedia entry3:50 - See “Confirmation bias”, and the “Cognitive bias cheat sheet” and “What Can We Do About Our Bias?” by Buster Benson writing for Better Humans14:39 - Frankenstein by Mary Shelley, which Jeff and I discussed at length in Beautiful Illusions Episode 05 - “It's Alive!” from October 202014:41 - Jacques Lacan was an influential French psychoanalyst15:16 - Watch Carol Tavris and Elliot Aaronson describe “The Pyramid of Choice” and how it leads to justification of actions and leads to further action and self justification22:50 - See “How Robert Zimmerman Became Bob Dylan” - Born in Minnesota as Robert Allen Zimmerman in 1941, he settled officially on the name Bob Dylan in 1961, having already gone by Elston Gunn, and Robert Allen. In a 2004 interview Dylan said "You call yourself what you want to call yourself. This is the land of the free." and perhaps most tellingly, in the 2019 Martin Scorscese documentary “Rolling Thunder Revue: A Bob Dylan Story” he says “Life isn't about finding yourself—or about finding anything, Life is about creating yourself.”23:20 - Released in 2007, I'm Not There explores different aspects of Dylan's life and career through 6 vignettes where the “Dylan” character is played by different actors26:40 - The quote “We are what we pretend to be, so we must be careful about what we pretend to be.” comes from Kurt Vonnegut's 1961 novel Mother Night40:05 - For more on System 1 and System 2 thinking see “Of 2 Minds: How Fast and Slow Thinking Shape Perception and Choice” from Scientifc American, excerpted from Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman41:14 - Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert, listen to episode 40 of the It's Not What It Seems podcast where Darron discusses Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert with his brother Doug44:05 - See the entry on “Tuning and pruning” from the extended endnotes of Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett53:06 - The Secret of Our Success by Joseph Henrich53:39 - See “Secret Fears of the Super-Rich” (The Atlantic, 2011)55:25 - According to American Heritage “Stoddard's The Rising Tide of Color is apparently the book that Tom Buchanan of The Great Gatsby has in mind when he praises “‘The Rise of the Coloured Empires' by this man Goddard.” Although he had the title and author wrong, he wasn't all that far off. Henry Goddard was, in fact, the author of the famous eugenical study of The Kallikak Family.57:10 - See “Ten Years Later: Timeline of Tiger's Scandal” (Golf Channel, 2019)1:06:55 - For more on the predictive nature of the brain see the entry on “allostasis” from the extended endnotes of How Emotions Are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett and/or the “Allostasis” Wikipedia entry1:08:29 - The quote “‘Who controls the past,' ran the Party slogan, ‘controls the future: who controls the present controls the past.'” comes from George Orwell's 1949 classic Nineteen Eighty-Four: A Novel1:11:20 - Slaughterhouse Five  by Kurt VonnegutThis episode was recorded remotely via Zoom in May 2021The “Beautiful Illusions Theme” was performed by Darron Vigliotti (guitar) and Joseph Vigliotti (drums), and was written and recorded by Darron Vigliotti

Buster Benson shares a new framework that frees you from the trap of unproductive conflict so you can foster healthier, more productive relationships. He argues that when properly channeled, conflict can be the most valuable tool we have at our disposal for deepening relationships, solving problems, and coming up with new ideas.

Keven shares Buster Benson's book “Why are we yelling?”. Looking at another perspective in terms of “disagreement” and “arguments”. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/the-rdr-show/support

Buster Benson (@buster) is the founder of 750 Words, a $5/mo journaling tool. He kept it alive for more than a decade while working at Twitter, Slack, Patreon and running and shutting down Health Month, a startup leveraging social gamification to get its users healthy. Learn about his impressive entrepreneurial journey, how he went from liberal arts to tech, and the downsides of raising VC on this episode of the Failory Podcast.

Buster Benson (@buster) joins Erik Torenberg (@eriktorenberg) to discuss the idea of productive disagreements, Buster's thoughts on nonviolent communication, and conflict theory.

Can you recall the last time you tried to talk to someone about a personal, political or work issue and quickly discovered their view of the situation was entirely different than yours? How'd that work out for you? If words like “strained,” “painful,” “awful” or “never again,” come to mind – you have company. Acknowledging […] The post Buster Benson: Mastering The Art Of Productive Disagreement appeared first on Mark C. Crowley.

Celebrate with me - The Extraordinary Business Book Club is 200 episodes young! So along with the Best Bits of the last few (absolutely brilliant) conversations, there's some reflection on what that means, and why it matters. The bicentennial best bits are all about curiosity, experimentation, getting feedback, failing and trying again, and feature:  Buster Benson on curiosity as a guide to writing a book; Jono Bacon on the open-source philosophy as a rulebook for writing; Helen Winter with the best feedback/user-testing story EVER;  Richard Hall and Rachel Bell on collaboration as a feedback and accountability tool;  Ginny Carter on the importance of tolerating mess;  Karen Williams on strategic experimentation.  This show is extraordinary because of the hundreds of extraordinary people like these who've talked so openly and thoughtfully about their business and their book over the last three years. I can't wait to start the next chapter...  

If you've ever struggled with arguments or disagreements, then do we have the why are we yelling show for you. Today I'll be talking with Buster Benson, entrepreneur, former product leader at Amazon, Twitter, Slack, and Patreon, the CEO of 750Words.com, and the author of a fun and fantastic look at disagreements, “Why Are We Yelling?” And that's just what I want to talk with him about today, about why in the world are we yelling?, and the art of productive disagreement.  Key Points Discussed:  Why did you go from Silicon Valley to the art of disagreements? (02:49) The art of productive disagreement: Buster's new superpower (03:44) What is a productive disagreement? (05:18) Ruinous empathy and how it can create disastrous situations (07:20) What's the backfire effect and what's going on with kitty cat? (09:56) What's the importance of asking, “Is this about what's true, what's meaningful, or what's useful?” (11:10) Should we be trying to win arguments? (15:15) What does it mean to acknowledge the shadow or projections? (15:58) The first step in the art of disagreement (18:47) Sliced bagels and what they have to with anxiety (19:34) The pink train named Rosy, our internal voices and the importance of self-talk (23:55) Developing an honest bias and getting a front seat to the interesting person that is Jeff Bezos (26:53) Challenging our beliefs and realizing how we are missing something today so we can be smarter tomorrow (32:15) Having productive conversations by asking questions that invite surprising answers (35:40) What is nut picking and why are we wired that we need to win? (40:31) What can you tell us about monkey paws and guns? (44:48) Cultivating neutral spaces to be mindful of the environments we're in (46:11) Excepting reality and then participating in it (49:39) What have you been teaching your kids about productive disagreements? (51:55) How disagreeing on one thing a day can make a relationship stronger (54:33) Additional Resources: www.BusterBenson.com Buster on Twitter Why Are We Yelling By Buster Benson Radical Candor By Kim Scott Willful Blindness By Margaret Heffernan ……. For free meditations, weekly tips, stories, and similar shows visit: www.InspireNationShow.com To support the show and get even more great tools, tips, and behind-the-scenes access, visit: www.Patreon.com/InspireNation And to follow Inspire Nation (and the lives of Michael and Jessica) on Instagram, go to www.instagram.com/inspirenationlive

Buster Benson, author of Why Are We Yelling? // Hanna Scott on crime around the King County Courthouse // Dose of Kindness -- an anonymous scarf donor // Sports Insider Stacy Rost on the Seahawks' MNF victory/ Chris Peterson's resignation // Chris Sullivan's Chokepoint -- a grab-bag of listener questions // David Fahrenthold live on the impeachment inquiry/ the illustrated Mueller Report // Rachel Belle and Colleen O'Brien give you permission to enjoy holiday carbs

Buster Benson discusses how to conquer your fear of conflict and start disagreeing wellYou'll Learn:1) The surprising cost of avoiding conflict2) Eight crucial steps for productive disagreement3) What to do when you disagree with your bossAbout Buster:Buster Benson is an entrepreneur and a former product leader at Amazon, Twitter, Slack, and Patreon. He's now editor of and writer for the Better Humans publication on Medium, creator of 750Words.com which brings private journaling to a safe place on the web, and developer of Fruitful Zone, an online platform facilitating healthy discourse. He is also author of the Cognitive Bias cheat sheet with over one million reads.Buster's book: “Why Are We Yelling: The Art of Productive Disagreement”Tool: “The Cognitive Bias Codex”Buster's Twitter: @busterBuster's website: BusterBenson.comResources mentioned in the show:Study: “Normalizing trust: Participants' immediately post‐hoc explanations of behaviour in Milgram's ‘obedience'” experiments by Matthew M. Hollander and Jason TurowetzBook: How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny OdellBook: The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia CameronThank you Sponsors!Pitney Bowes. Simplify your shipping while saving money. Get a free 30-day trial and 10-lb shipping scale at pb.com/AWESOMEPolicygenius helps you shop for life insurance in under two minutes. Check them out at Policygenius.com.View transcript, show notes, and links at http://AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep519 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I've been following Buster Benson for years. His journaling platform, 750words.com, has been a part of my writing process since the inception of the Meaning Movement. Something that's always spoken to me about Buster's work is first, how he works to create tools to help people improve, and second, how he's always working on projects. He's not one to sit around, and I really resonate with that. His most recent work is a book about the importance of disagreements and how to make them productive. In our interview we dig into Buster's work, his many projects, and do a deep dive into how we can make disagreements something more than arguments. I loved connecting with Buster. He's an inspiration and doing such important work. In this episode you'll learn: What does Buster do? What is the question he uses to start his projects? What is the “Art of Productive Disagreement”? How Buster ended up to his current career When is it time to make a move or career change? His message to those planning to leap to another job or career Why do we get to the point that we feel stuck? What is a Cognitive biases? Examples of Confirmation biases What is Naive Realism? The benefit of learning Cognitive biases Some highlights from Buster's book Benefits of practicing disagreement What's the fruit of disagreement? Four categories of Internal Voices: the voice of power, the voice of reason, the voice of avoidance, and the voice of possibility. What are the different approaches to disagreement? What impact does he hope for his book?  Show notes at: https://themeaningmovement.com/buster

My guest today is Buster Benson.  In addition to having a fancy alliterative name, he has written an extraordinary book, called "Why are We Yelling?  The Art of Productive Disagreement. You can find it on his website. How good is this book? Here's what former guest Seth Godin has to say about it: "This is a life-changing book. Read it three times and then give a copy to anyone you care about. It will make things better." Regular listeners know the weight that endorsement carries. In our conversation Buster shares questions you can use today to improve the quality of your disagreements while reducing the stress that comes with arguments.  We discuss the difference between being polite showing someone that you care about them while disagreeing, and much more.  Before I go, two announcements: 1. I have a new, grown up email address. Try it out: Email me at my new address! (Joe at onepercentbetterproject dot com) 2. I have been lucky to associate with great people. When I began this project, I had no idea where it would lead.  One place I am ecstatic that it led is here: YouthBaseballSchool A one-stop shop for baseball instruction.  I accepted an invitation to be a contributor, and I couldn't be more excited.  Please share that affiliate link with the baseball fan in your life.   I cannot thank you enough for all the support! As always, thanks for listening! --JF         

My guest today is Buster Benson, an entrepreneur and a former product leader at Amazon, Twitter, Slack, and Patreon. He's now CEO of 750words.com and writes for Medium. The topic is his book Why Are We Yelling? In this episode of Trend Following Radio we discuss: Buster reveals the psychological underpinnings of awkward, unproductive conflict and the critical habits anyone can learn to avoid it. Jump in! --- I'm MICHAEL COVEL, the host of TREND FOLLOWING RADIO, and I'm proud to have delivered 10+ million podcast listens since 2012. Investments, economics, psychology, politics, decision-making, human behavior, entrepreneurship and trend following are all passionately explored and debated on my show. To start? I'd like to give you a great piece of advice you can use in your life and trading journey… cut your losses! You will find much more about that philosophy here: https://www.trendfollowing.com/trend/ You can watch a free video here: https://www.trendfollowing.com/video/ Can't get enough of this episode? You can choose from my thousand plus episodes here: https://www.trendfollowing.com/podcast My social media platforms: Twitter: @covel Facebook: @trendfollowing LinkedIn: @covel Instagram: @mikecovel Hope you enjoy my never-ending podcast conversation!

"Half of the reason I decided to do this book was to learn... what does it take to write a book? Not only the process that you go through but what is the personal journey I am going to have to go through to become the person that can write this book? And it turned out to be as expected very difficult, lots of ups and downs..." Buster Benson is incurably curious, and luckily for the rest of the world, he's also generous and creative in sharing his journey. In this conversation we talk about the power of writing as a daily practice, how he had to learn to draw after deciding he wanted an illustrated book, and of course why learning to disagree well expands and improves your world, the topic of his book Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement. 

Have you ever had one of those arguments — whether with a friend or a colleague, a loved one or a perfect stranger — that you both vehemently disagree, and it boils your blood? Too often these days, arguments with people we disagree with feel impossible. We never solve anything but seem to succeed in hurting someone's feelings. But what if it didn't have to be that way? In his forthcoming book, “Why Are We Yelling?: The Art of Productive Disagreement” (Nov. 19), Buster Benson, who has worked for some of the world's most successful companies, to help you have hard conversations in your relationships, engage people with different political viewpoints, and disagree with dignity.

Have you ever had one of those arguments — whether with a friend or a colleague, a loved one or a perfect stranger — that you both vehemently disagree, and it boils your blood? Too often these days, arguments with people we disagree with feel impossible. We never solve anything but seem to succeed in hurting someone's feelings. But what if it didn't have to be that way? In his forthcoming book, “Why Are We Yelling?: The Art of Productive Disagreement” (Nov. 19), Buster Benson, who has worked for some of the world's most successful companies, to help you have hard conversations in your relationships, engage people with different political viewpoints, and disagree with dignity.Join the conversation at NextBigIdeaClub.comand get an additional 10% off with promo code PODCAST.Support us by supporting our sponsors!Away — Visit awaytravel.com/bigidea and use the promo code BIGIDEA for $20 offZip Recruiter — Try it for free at ziprecruiter.com/bigideaSkillshare — Get two months for free by going to skillshare.com/bigideaNext Big Idea Club — The best books of the year delivered to your door. Visit nextbigideaclub.com/podcastSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We discuss how you can beat cognitive bias. Learn common biases and strategies for identifying and overcoming them. Show Notes 4:52— What exactly is cognitive bias, what research led to the discovery of it, and why should we pay attention to it. 7:50— The different types of cognitive bias and how they affect our decisions in everyday life. 9:18— The parallels between how we establish unconscious biases and how we form habits. 11:25— Is it even possible to remove all cognitive bias and if we could would we even want to? 12:40— The summary of different biases as categorized by Buster Benson. 19:05— The problems caused by cognitive bias, including missed details, and incorrect conclusions. 20:18— Why humans are predisposed to see faces in inanimate objects. 22:27— March quizzes Ian and Darren about some common cognitive biases. 34:14— The Ben Franklin effect and how you can use it to strengthen your relationships. 36:28— The IKEA effect and how it affects many of the products you buy. 38:30— The Google effect and what it has to do with Darren's ability to accurately spell words. 45:33— What cognitive bias has to do with one's base level of happiness. 47:55— Tips for making better decisions to counteract cognitive bias. 50:20— Using decision making frameworks to counteract cognitive bias. 54:40— The value of making decisions slowly. 56:00— Ian, Darren, and March each pick one of the methods discussed in the show improve their individual decision making. Mentions

David speaks with Buster Benson, CEO of 750words.com, author of "Why Are We Yelling? The Art of Productive Disagreement".Buster's had a well storied career across Silicon valley, having worked at Amazon Twitter, Slack and Patreon. But he's also an entrepreneur. He's built and co-founded several incredible businesses like 43things.com, Healthmonth.com, and currently is the CEO of 750words.com.Connect with Buster:Twitter: @busterBook: Why Are We YellingWebsite: 750words.comShow notes:Buster as an introvert [4:19]Why he's willing to be authentic on the internet [5:38]Buster's early experiences on the internet [6:30]Being able to write online and having that creative streak [9:11]What was it like coming into Amazon [13:13]His text ad service for blogs [16:28]What was the motivation? [21:29]The infinite possibility of the internet [27:26]What inspired Buster to write why are we yelling? [30:27]Productive Arguing is a Secret Skill [36:33]How to learn from people you disagree with [40:02]Important considerations for the Metaverse [44:27]The origin of 750 words, and why Buster built it [55:06]Mentioned in the show:NaNoWriMo43things.comWhy Are We Yelling?Thinking is hardCognitive bias cheat sheetThe Artist's WayFull transcript:https://theknowledge.io/busterAbout David Elikwu:David Elikwu FRSA is a serial entrepreneur, strategist and writer. David is the founder of The Knowledge, a platform helping people learn more and live better.Twitter: @Delikwu / @itstheknowledgeNewsletter: https://theknowledge.ioWebsite: https://www.davidelikwu.com,Podcast: http://plnk.to/theknowledgeThe Knowledge:As a writer and serial entrepreneur, David Elikwu speaks with elite performers from a variety of backgrounds, unpacking everything there is to know about navigating the world around us.This podcast is a catalogue of excellent data points. Join us each week for actionable insights to make sense of what matters most.The Knowledge is an online publication designed to save you from information overload. It's where you go to figure things out. A curated digest of the world's best ideas, drawing on insights from psychology, philosophy, business and culture. We explore tools, frameworks and stories that will help you navigate with clarity and cut through the noise.Website: theknowledge.ioPodcast: plnk.to/theknowledgeSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-knowledge-with-david-elikwu/donations