Podcast appearances and mentions of heidi grant halvorson

Does it feel like your New Year's goals are already slipping through your fingers? You're not alone, and it's not your fault. Most goals fail because we're missing three key pieces that make all the difference. In this episode, we'll dive into why traditional goal-setting doesn't work. I'll share those three missing pieces, and I'll explain what you need to focus on instead to create sustainable success.  I'll share insights from experts like Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson, Simon Sinek, and James Clear, plus lessons I've learned from my own journey and coaching experience. If you're ready to stop spinning your wheels and build a system that actually works, this episode is for you.

IntroductionHello Wonderful Readers,One year ago, I became an author. As I tucked into a giant half-baked cookie pan and vanilla ice cream to celebrate (thank you to the charming man who ordered it for me), I reflected on my failures and learnings this last year. Today, I want to share those with you.This year, my attitude towards living a creative life has changed completely. Since I started believing that self-improvement is a farce, I quickly put aside all my excuses to “merely do the work” (Seth Godin), and I found myself with a complete first draft of my second novel. This perspective will take a little longer to explain than a 2,200-character Instagram caption, but I believe that you deserve something comprehensive on this topic. So, I hope that what I have learned is helpful for you, for brand-new baby creatives and aspiring authors alike.Here goes nothing.* You must keep going. After I held my first book baby in my hands, I expected to feel happy. Instead, I felt depressed for a long time afterward. I had spent 14 years, about half my life, as “an aspiring author.” Now that I was simply “an author,” that identity shift completely overwhelmed me. I felt like I was facing the death of all my former selves who had made my book happen. In fact, years ago, I had accepted the very real possibility that I might never publish my book at all. Now, I was bewildered. Did I have it in me to sit down at my desk again? What else did I possibly have to say?After you accomplish anything major in life or go through any major change, things will take time to reorient themselves to a new normal. You will have to become a new person with new goals. How do you do that? My writing teacher, Ann Randolph, shared a story from Steven Pressfield, which I'll paraphrase poorly:Steven Pressfield spent ages working on a draft of a book. When he submitted it to his editor, he expected to sit on his hands. But as soon as the editor received it, they said to him, “Great. Now go start the next one.”Put simply, you must keep going. Sometimes, it's the only thing you can do. Once you're past the craziness of the launch, the screening, or the wedding, the next steps of life remain. Starting another project might feel cruel at first, but please don't sit around.After I floated for a couple of months, slowly, I got my butt in the chair, and I started writing again.* Be very attuned to which projects you want to do. “You have this natural want. That want is the thing that moves evolution. Like a plant, it's like, "Oh, there's sun. I want to move in that direction." It's the thing that allows us to know that's our evolutionary path…And they kind of show where the growth is occurring or wants to occur." – Joe Hudson on Lenny's Podcast.I had an idea for a second novel about three years ago. I wrote a small bit of it in 2022, but then I stopped. I was worried. Do people even read novels anymore? I should be writing SEO-optimized articles, I thought to myself, if I really wanted to be a successful writer. This preoccupation with what I “should” be doing left me stagnated, flailing, and ultimately stuck.Then, at some point a couple of months ago, I basically decided: f**k it. I didn't care whether or not anyone would read my second book. I wanted to write that story for myself! And write that book, I would. Once I made that decision, everything changed. Suddenly, I felt inspired by the world around me again. As I wrote my second book, new ideas for other projects and pieces came to me constantly. Energetically and creatively, it was like night and day.I can't overstate the importance of this: as much as you can, when you have an idea for a project that you really want to do, do it. Run towards it and embrace it. Get started. Somewhere. Anywhere. The energy that you get from doing the one project you really want to do will solve everything.If you find yourself thinking, "I should do XYZ project or activity," stop for a second. Notice how it feels in your body. Do you feel heavy? Do you feel guilty? Do you feel stuck? Now, imagine doing something you want to do. Do you feel lighter? Do you feel curious? Do you feel excited? Try to do things you want to do more often.* Make up a deadline. Create a friendly routine.“Discipline and freedom seem like opposites. In reality, they are partners. Discipline is not a lack of freedom, it is a harmonious relationship with time.” – Rick Rubin, “The Creative Act: A Way of Being.”I had a very unproductive summer. But then, in September, I went to a writing workshop with the London Writers' Salon to mark the start of the “100-Days Challenge.” This workshop was an initiation. There were 100 days left in the year. F**k! I thought to myself. 2024 was almost over, and I had little to nothing to show for it. It felt like it was now or never.I sat down and started writing 3,000 words per day on my second novel. Surprisingly, I could hit my word count in 2-3 hours. Once I was in flow, I noticed that I felt energized; I found joy in writing the scenes and figuring out the plot points. Perhaps, like the birth of a second child, the book just slid right out of me. I finished the first draft just last week, about a month into the 100-Days Challenge.My original deadline for the first draft of the novel had been September 1st. That came and went. Then, I started working towards the 100-Days Challenge, and I blew it out of the water. In general, I hate being told what to do. But once I found a simple structure that I could stick to every day and tick off once I'd completed it, it was ironically freeing.So, to get your project done, set yourself a deadline. Yes, it will be totally arbitrary. If you pass that deadline for whatever reason, that's okay, just set another one. Once you've chosen that goal, try to work backward and set up a daily practice, so you make a bit of progress each day. As Rick Rubin says,“Find the sustainable rituals that best support your work. If you set a routine that is oppressive, you'll likely find excuses to not show up. It's in the interest of your art to create an easily achievable schedule to start with. If you commit to working for half a day, something good can happen that generates momentum."* Compete with yourself.“…the only person you're ever competing against is yourself. The rest is out of your control.” – Rick Rubin, quoting John Wooden in “The Creative Act: A Way of Being”To write my second book, I set myself a target of 3,000 words per day. Why 3,000 words per day? Because on my semi-productive days over the summer, I could comfortably write about 2,200 words per day. So, 3,000 was a tiny bit of a stretch for me. Could I write that much? The challenge seemed exciting but achievable. Plus, I had a funny feeling that once I sat down to tackle a scene, reaching a 3,000-word goal would be easy. I was right. Within a couple of weeks, I finished the first draft of my second book, about a year after I published my first.Once you start competing with yourself, you will enter a completely different league. That momentum will be insatiable. The psychologist Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson encourages us to ask ourselves: "Am I performing better than I did in the past? Am I learning? Am I getting better?" "Am I smarter than I was a week ago, a month ago, a year ago because I've been taking the time to learn?"So, if you challenge yourself to a duel, you'll soon be surprised at just how far you have come.* ⁠Enjoyment is everything.I love my mother, but she has a particularly draconian perspective on life. When she was working on her PhD thesis, I encouraged her to celebrate after she finished each chapter. Instead, she insisted that she could only celebrate once the whole thing was finished. Did she celebrate when she finally defended the thing? Nope. Not hardly at all.I believe that hard work matters, but I also believe that enjoying what you do and celebrating wins along the way are equally important. Enjoying your work is a good thing because it increases your chances of success. When you're happy, you're more likely to stay motivated, and you'll actually get better work done.In the few years that I've been building my writing career, I have wanted to fire myself as my marketer many times. But half of being bad at marketing means that I've also had to accept where I am on my journey. Accepting myself and finding ways to enjoy marketing my content has given me more stamina. If I'm too mean to myself, my self-criticism just weighs me down and stops me in my tracks. But when I can find a way to enjoy editing TikToks using iMovie on my computer because it's fun, then I get more TikToks edited and published out there in the world.In fact, Joe Hudson shares on Lenny's Podcast that enjoyment is about internal work, not external work. He suggests that we should ask ourselves:“How can I enjoy this 10% more right now? So, it's not about changing anything in the external world…Trying is not what creates more enjoyment. It's usually letting go of trying that creates more enjoyment.”So, pick any task that you hate doing, any meeting with your team that you find completely pointless, or any assignment you've been dreading and ask yourself: How can I enjoy this 10% more?* You will have to learn the simplest things last.“I have had to learn the simplest things / last. Which made for difficulties” – “Maximus, to himself" by Charles OlsenI did not reach my goal of selling 10,000 copies of my book in the first year. I tried Amazon ads and did not waste that much money, but I also got no sales. I am currently running the A/B test on potential book covers that I should have run almost a year ago. Thank God for print-on-demand! Lol. Hopefully, by the time you're reading this, I'll have a better cover for my book that fits my genre.The reality of building a creative career is that even more than 2 years in, I still have so much to learn and so much I am yet to master. I perpetually exist in this liminal state of half-baked imperfections. But then I remember the wisdom from the poem, “Maximus, to himself,”“We are all late / in a slow time.”“We grow up many / And the single / is not easily / known.”Growth doesn't happen overnight. You may feel like the same person you were when you woke up yesterday. But when you look back in a year or two, you will be amazed by how much you have changed! So please, don't kick yourself because you spent a year learning something that now takes you only an hour to complete. You are doing something right. It is better to learn late than never to have learned at all.* You must decide to go pro.“All you have to do [to turn pro] is change your mind.” – Steven Pressfield, “Turning Pro”A couple of months ago, I was somewhere between posting on TikTok, writing, and balancing client work when a sobering idea crept into my mind:If I want to be a professional writer, I need to write a lot more than I am currently writing.Anyone can write 50,000 words, 100,000 words, or even one book. But two books? Or even three books? If I wanted to accomplish that, I would need to reach a whole other level of dedication. It was a switch, a simple decision.Luckily, this realization coincided with the 100-Days Challenge. It was the same familiar world of writing characters, scenes, and plots, but it still felt like the land of the unknown. In my mind, the publication of my first book had been a lofty fluke. Yes, I now know how to self-publish a book. But here I was, crossing the chasm into second-book territory.In “Turning Pro,” Steven Pressfield describes this inflection point. He says,“The difference between an amateur and a professional is in their habits…A professional has professional habits…We plan our activities in order to accomplish an aim…This changes our days completely. It changes what time we get up and it changes what time we go to bed …When we were amateurs, our life was about drama, about denial, and about distraction…But we are not amateurs anymore. We are different, and everyone in our lives sees it.”Deciding to turn pro is second book energy, second film energy, and second creative costume project energy. One day, you're going to have to sit down and cross that chasm. And it's not something you just do once. As Pressfield says, turning pro is like “kicking a drug habit or stopping drinking. It's a decision, a decision to which we must re-commit every day.”* Combat your excuses one by one.“Friends sometimes ask, “Do you get lonely sitting by yourself all day?” At first, it seemed off to hear myself answer No. Then I realized I was not alone; I was in the book; I was with the characters. I was with my Self.” – Steven Pressfield, “The War of Art”This year, I spent many months flailing between projects and fluffing around. My narrative for my life went like this,I live alone. I write alone. I work alone. I'm single. It's too much alone time. I can't write unless I get a roommate or a cat.Right? Wrong! I was parroting a couple of the classic excuses that Rick Rubin mentions,“Thoughts and habits that are not conducive to work:”* “Thinking you can only do your best work in certain conditions.”* “Believing a certain mood or state is necessary to do your best work.”* Thinking anything that's out of your control is in your way.”But when I sat down to write for the 100-Days Challenge, something magical happened. I was so focused on the words and the story that I didn't feel alone anymore. I realized that while I'm writing, my mind is super stimulated. I'm so in flow that my need for other people doesn't seem as intense. I soon combined this with a daily gratitude practice recommended by Joe Hudson. For 7.5 minutes a day, I talk to myself out loud about all the things I'm grateful for, and I feel the gratitude in my body. I started to say out loud to myself:I am so lucky to have a small, beautiful, one-bedroom apartment that I love, where I can sit in my house all day and write if I want to.So, it's up to you to embrace your current living configuration. You can get a lot done the way your life is set out right now, trust me. Things could always be worse. You could have less help. You could be older and less capable for all kinds of reasons. So, focus more on what you do have. Define yourself as someone who has rather than someone who has not. And you'll be amazed at all the reasons you can come up with to create rather than all the excuses as to why you can't.Conclusion: Focus on the next step of your natural evolution.  “Start close in, don't take the second step or the third, start with the first thing close in” – David Whyte, “Start Close In”Writing my second book has taught me many things. But the most important thing I have learned is that believing we have to improve ourselves is heavy and draws us into a scarcity mindset. When I beat myself up for not doing what I "should" be doing, like posting on social media to share my work more, it reinforces the idea that I am lacking in my current state and that I have to gain or achieve something external in order to be acceptable, lovable and worthy. This way of seeing ourselves in the world is painful and fundamentally wrong. Instead, when we focus on what we want to do and move towards that, we move into the abundance of our existing energy, our skills, and the way we want to flow in the world. In the episode of Lenny's podcast, Joe Hudson shared the analogy of an oak tree. He says,“At what time in the journey of an oak tree is it perfect? When it's an acorn? When it's a sprout? When it's 20 years old, 40 years old, 150 years old? Two hundred years old, depending on the oak tree? Like, “Now, I'm perfect.” The idea is ridiculous. So it's a similar thing for us. So, the idea that I need to improve myself really disturbs the natural process that's at hand, which is that we evolve. We, as human beings, evolve.And if it's like, oh, I'm evolving, and I can enjoy it. And I'm acting from my authenticity. Then that has a lot of alacrity. That moves quick. If it's I need to improve, there's something wrong with me. I need to improve; I should do it. That all goes really f*****g slow. Right. Because there's a lot of emotional stagnation in that."So, I hope that you can take the next step, identify the next project you want to work on, and go for it. Not because getting that thing will make you richer or more successful and, therefore, more lovable. But because moving towards what you want is the natural next step in your evolution.Good luck! That's about it for now! I hope this resonated with you. I'll be back with more exciting updates soon, as I am working on a third book! Lol.Love,Tash

Chapter 1:Summary of Succeed BookIn "Succeed," Heidi Grant Halvorson explores the science of motivation and goal achievement, offering practical strategies for overcoming obstacles and reaching our full potential. Drawing on psychological research, she explains that our mindsets can greatly impact our success, with individuals possessing either a fixed mindset (believing that intelligence and abilities are static) or a growth mindset (believing that skills can be developed through effort and practice). Halvorson discusses the importance of setting specific, challenging goals and breaking them down into achievable steps, as well as the benefits of focusing on progress rather than perfection. She also emphasizes the power of positive thinking and self-belief in boosting motivation and resilience in the face of setbacks. Additionally, the author provides insights on effective self-regulation techniques, such as making concrete plans, managing distractions, and seeking social support. Halvorson also delves into the role of feedback in improving performance and the importance of cultivating a growth-oriented mindset in order to continually learn and adapt.Overall, "Succeed" offers readers practical advice and evidence-based strategies for enhancing motivation, productivity, and success in both personal and professional endeavors.Chapter 2:the theme of Succeed BookKey plot points in Succeed by Heidi Grant Halvorson include the exploration of different mindsets and strategies for achieving success. The book discusses research on the impact of beliefs about intelligence, the importance of setting specific goals, and the role of self-control and willpower in achieving one's goals.Character development is not a central focus in a non-fiction book like Succeed, but the author does present research on how individuals' beliefs, attitudes, and behaviors can impact their ability to succeed. The book encourages readers to reflect on their own mindsets and habits and provides practical advice for changing these to support greater success.Thematic ideas in Succeed include the power of mindset in shaping outcomes, the importance of setting clear and specific goals, and the role of self-regulation in achieving success. The book also explores the impact of social factors, such as the influence of others on our beliefs and behaviors, and the ways in which we can harness these influences to support our own success. Overall, Succeed offers a comprehensive overview of the psychological factors that contribute to success and provides practical strategies for applying this knowledge to one's own goals and aspirations.Chapter 3:Meet the Writer of Succeed BookHeidi Grant Halvorson is a skilled writer who effectively utilizes writing skills and language style to convey the emotions and meanings of her book "Succeed." In her book, Halvorson uses a clear and concise writing style that is easy to understand, allowing readers to easily grasp the concepts she presents. Her language is accessible and engaging, which helps to keep readers interested and engaged throughout the book.Halvorson effectively uses storytelling and examples to illustrate her points, making the concepts she discusses more relatable and memorable for readers. By incorporating real-life scenarios and case studies, she is able to bring her ideas to life and show how they can be applied in practical situations.Additionally, Halvorson's writing is empowering and motivational, as she encourages readers to embrace a growth mindset and believe in their ability to succeed. She uses positive language and affirmations to inspire readers to take action...

Many people set New Year's resolutions, but how many people actually achieve them?  In today's episode of Retire in Texas, Darryl Lyons takes a unique approach to goal setting, offering valuable insights and personal anecdotes that have guided his journey to success.  Show highlights include:  *The power of establishing attainable objectives and understanding the importance of having a well-structured strategy to reach them. *An in-depth explanation of the nine different areas for goal setting. *A breakdown of an experiment from Heidi Grant-Halvorson's book, "Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals”. *Darryl's experience with goal setting from a young age, and how it set the groundwork for his personal and professional success later in life. If you enjoyed today's episode, be sure to share it with your friends and family!   Disclaimer: Clicking the Like button does not constitute a testimonial for, recommendation or endorsement of our advisory firm, any associated person, or our services. Clicking the Like button is merely a mechanism to circulate our social media page. “Like” is not meant in the traditional sense. In addition, postings must refrain from recommending us or providing testimonials for our firm.

On this episode Bryan talks through Harvard Business Review's most viewed blog entitled: 9 Things Successful People Do Differently by Heidi Grant Halvorson.Here's how Heidi summarizes it: "Successful people set very specific goals and seize opportunities to act on them (using strategies like if-then planning). They always know how far they have to go and stay focused on what still needs to be done. They believe they will succeed, but embrace the fact that success will not come easily. They remember that it's about making progress, rather than doing everything perfectly right out the gate. They believe that they can develop their abilities through effort, which makes them gritty in the face of setbacks and challenges. They build their willpower through frequent exercise, make plans for how to cope when willpower is low, and try not to put themselves in situations where temptations abound. They focus on what they will do, rather than what they won't do."Link to blog:https://hbr.org/2011/02/nine-things-successful-peopleEmail us at:  bryan.jessie@3x5life.com and we'll be happy to discuss how we might make a positive impact with your company teams through our 3x5 Life Workplace Wellness System. Enjoy this episode!With Gratitude,❤ Bryan & Jessiewww.3x5life.combryan.jessie@3x5life.comNot sure the best way to get started or how to connect with us and the 3x5 Life Community?  Follow these simple steps to hit the ground running!STEP #1 - Join Our Private Facebook Group "The 3x5 Life Community":  https://www.facebook.com/groups/3x5life.privateSTEP #2 - Connect with Us and The 3x5 Life Community on All Our Social Media Pages:Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/3x5life/Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/3x5_life/Pinterest:  https://www.pinterest.ca/3x5life/_shop/STEP #3 - Take a Picture of You Using Your Product, Tag Us on Social Media and We'll Send You a Free Coupon Code to Use Towards Your Next Order!STEP #4 - Share and Refer Your Friends, Family & Co-Workers!Intro Music Credits:“Looking For Adventure”: Composed by Tim McMorrisProduced by King's Crown Productions

Today's message comes out of the Motivation Science Center at Columbia University and is inspired by Heidi Grant Halvorson and her research on Motivation. This is all about 8 motivational challenges that will help shift your mindset and focus to improve effectiveness. 

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What do leaders get wrong about human performance and motivation? How can leaders help their people to better navigate uncertainty? Social Psychologist Dr. Heidi Grant-Halvorson regularly explores these kinds of questions, and in this conversation with team member Jason Jaggard, she shares insights from her work in the science of leadership, and also some personal “hacks” for working through the process of writing books.  Whether you're an aspiring author, or a leader seeking to more effectively motivate your team, this is a must-listen episode!

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Heidi Grant Halvorson, social psychologist and bestselling author, explains why we're often misunderstood and how we can fix it. Most of us assume that other people see us as we see ourselves, and that they see us as we truly are. But neither is true. Our everyday interactions are colored by subtle biases that distort how others see us—and also shape our perceptions of them. But we can learn to clarify the message we're sending once we understand the three lenses that shape perception: trust, power, and ego.. Based on decades of research in psychology and social science, Halvorson explains how these lenses affect our interactions—and how to manage them. This book is not about making a good impression, although it will certainly help you do that. It's about coming across as you intend. It's about the authenticity we all strive for. Originally published in July of 2016. Visit http://g.co/TalksAtGoogle/NoOneUnderstands to watch the video.

Last week, we discussed how techniques such as affect labeling and physiological sigh can help us to stay calm when triggered and get into a better state of mind. But how do we go about the messy business of actually engaging with people who think differently from us?British philosopher Bertrand Russell once wrote,Find more pleasure in intelligent dissent than in passive agreement, for, if you value intelligence as you should, the former implies a deeper agreement than the latter.Sometimes, getting through to people feels impossible with both sides bolstered by a profligate confidence in their firepower. What should we do if we want to avoid living in an echo chamber but also prefer to avoid confrontation? How can we communicate our viewpoints both effectively and gently?A Case of Cognitive DissonanceImagine two Americans named Marsha and Alexandria. Marsha supports the right to bear arms and believes abortion is equivalent to murder. Alex supports gun regulation and a woman's right to choose. Which person is more likely to support capital punishment?Based on the normal distribution of political opinions, most of us would say Marsha is more likely to support capital punishment because of her conservative views. But how do certain political ideologies get grouped together? Why would Marsha support the death penalty if she is pro-life? And why would Alex support individual freedom when it comes to abortion but not gun ownership? How do we explain the cognitive dissonance?The answer may lie in the factors that govern our decision-making process. We may be more primed to accept certain policy positions depending on our genetics, gender, ethnic background, upbringing, personality, and socioeconomic status. In a 2003 paper, Jost and colleagues from Stanford University argued that personality traits can predict whether someone is more likely to identify as liberal or conservative.In their meta-analysis, the researchers found that conservatives tend to have a higher need for order, structure, and closure compared to liberals and also rank lower on measures of tolerance for ambiguity, complexity, and openness to experience. In addition, conservatives were more likely to fear threats to social stability and score higher on measures of death anxiety.Finding Common GroundMoral Foundations Theory, put forth by social psychologist Jonathan Haidt, argues that humans across cultures share a common core of ethical beliefs upon which we build different narratives and identities. How those values are expressed and the relative importance we assign to them can differ, however.Some people may value adherence to authority above freedom of expression and thereby condemn flag burning as morally reprehensible. Others may place freedom of speech at the top of the moral hierarchy and therefore condone actions that reject patriotism in favor of equality. The five universal moral foundations are:Harm/care — leads to disapproval of individuals that inflict pain and suffering on othersFairness/reciprocity — involves issues of equality and justiceIngroup/loyalty — based on our attachment to groups (such as our family, church, or country) and underlies virtues of patriotismAuthority/respect — tendency to create hierarchical structures of dominance and subordination and appeals to values of leadership, obedience, and traditionPurity/sanctity — evokes emotions of disgust in response to biological contaminants, such as spoiled food or chewing tobacco, and social contaminants, such as spiritual corruption or hedonism, underlies the notion that the body is a templeSeveral studies have shown that liberals and conservatives differ in the relative value they assign to various foundations. Liberals are more likely to prioritize considerations of harm and fairness while conservatives tend to place a higher value on the foundations of ingroup, authority, and purity.Liberals are likely to deem actions immoral if they cause harm, which likely explains their negative attitudes towards capital punishment and the use of torture on terrorist suspects. The stronger value that conservatives place on ingroup/loyalty is reflected in their attitudes toward illegal immigration.Returning to the example of Marsha and Alex, how can we find a way to resolve the seemingly contradictory views? If Alex's opposition to abortion is a function of her commitment to fairness and her position on gun control stems from a hatred of harm, then simultaneously being pro-choice on abortion and anti-choice on gun ownership is not morally inconsistent.Similarly, Marsha's sincere belief in the sanctity of life underlies her opposition to abortion, and her position on gun control stems from her belief that each member of a group should be able to defend against outside threats. Understanding the basic moral pillars that underlie our beliefs is a great first step toward communicating more effectively.If we are to heal the pain and suffering caused by decades of divisive dialogue, we must first acknowledge the common humanity of all parties involved and then begin respectful conversations aimed at understanding. In his TED talk on how not to take things personally, former referee and communications expert Frederik Imbo explains, “If I try to see the intention of the other, I make space for understanding instead of irritation.”Don't Take It PersonallyHow do we stay calm when our personal beliefs are under attack? Looking to missionaries might provide an answer. Missionaries experience a lot of rejection when attempting to spread their message to a wider audience. How do they manage to maintain their composure while being repeatedly rebuffed?The secret may lie in their attitude towards their beliefs. Missionaries don't wield their beliefs as weapons but instead happily offer them as gifts. Sharing a gift is an act of joy, even if everyone doesn't accept it.How can we use this attitude to have more productive conversations with people who disagree with us? One strategy is loosening our attachment to our beliefs. According to philosophy professor Dale Lugenbehl, personal attachment to beliefs encourages personal competition at the expense of collaborative efforts to find the truth.The late Buddhist master Thích Nhất Hạnh recommended that we all make the following promise to ourselves: “I will cultivate openness, non-discrimination, and non-attachment to views in order to transform violence, fanaticism, and dogmatism in myself and in the world.”In his talk, Imbo offers yet another approach to help cultivate a sense of non-attachment to our beliefs. He uses the poignant analogy of a crumpled, chewed up, regurgitated 20 Euro note to explain that our value remains the same regardless of how other people treat us. Your value does not depend on external validation. Your worth is inherent irrespective of whether someone else recognizes it.Do I Make Myself Clear?Another strategy we can implement is to develop a strong sense of self-awareness. In her book, No One Understands You and What To Do About It, social psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson says that the gap between how we think we come across and how other people actually perceive us can be substantial.Most of us suffer from the illusion of transparency, the belief that what we feel, desire, and intend is perfectly clear to others even when we have done very little to effectively communicate our thoughts. Meanwhile, people perceiving us are susceptible to the primacy effect, which means that the information exchanged during early encounters will forever shape our view of a person.In his book Thinking Fast and Slow, economist Daniel Kahneman describes the two systems we use to process information, which he calls System 1 and System 2. System 1 processes information intuitively and automatically and tends to use shortcuts, or heuristics, to draw conclusions without much effort. The primacy effect comes about as the result of the lazy thinking of System 1.Halvorson points to research showing that children who perform better on the first half of a math test are judged to be smarter than children who perform better on the second half of the test despite identical objective scores. System 2, which is more thoughtful and deliberative, can correct for the shortcomings of System 1 by evaluating whether the initial impressions registered are accurate.But engaging System 2 in everyday decision-making is an uncommon occurrence. Weighing every potential motivation that a person could possibly have is mentally taxing, so we need to recruit other solutions to solve the problem of perception. Overcommunicating instead of relying on other people's systems to fill in the blanks would lead to fewer misunderstandings.If At First You Don't Succeed…In his book, Why Are We Yelling?, Buster Benson argues that the art of disagreement is something that can be honed with practice in the same way that a consistent workout routine or mindfulness regimen can make us better. According to Benson, practicing deliberately and allowing for forgiveness when we fail is the path forward. We should try to push ourselves a little past our comfort zones with every successive conversation.To recap, the following tips can help us engage in more productive disagreements:Find common ground by figuring out which moral value underlies a person's position.Don't take it personally. Loosen your attachment to your beliefs, and listen with the intent to understand.Counteract the human tendency to jump to conclusions by communicating more clearly. When in doubt, spell it out. Be as obvious as possible.Practice makes perfect, so keep trying. Even if you initially find yourself discouraged by the difficulty of disagreements, persistence will allow you to eventually reap the benefits!Disclaimer: Some of the links in this post are affiliate, which means I may receive a small commission from any qualifying purchases at no extra cost to you. Thanks for your support! This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nitajain.substack.com

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In some of my leadership keynotes and workshops, I point out how one way to foster a sense of cohesion and community among your employees is to make time to celebrate milestones. What's important here is not to just have a party where people can feel a sense of completion, but that we also use this moment to highlight the journey we've been on and what we've accomplished on this journey. It's in that spirit that I wanted to do something special to celebrate the release of the 100th episode of my podcast “Leadership Biz Cafe”. And in keeping with what I share with leaders on how to best utilize the attainment of key milestones, I wanted to use this episode as an opportunity to look back at the past 99 episodes and first select my 10 favourite guests I've spoken with (to date). And then the trickier part - picking one key insight that's not only worth a second listen, but which is both powerful and timely for helping leaders address the challenges they face today. Now I have to be honest that I had to omit two guests who'd otherwise make my shortlist as I just featured them in the recent episode “My Favourite Guest Moments and Insights From 2021” and as such, I thought it'd be better to feature other guests in their place. Over the course of this 100th episode retrospective, you'll hear: Guy Kawasaki on why leaders should focus on enchanting employees instead of influencing them.Doug Conant on why leaders need to foster a sense of community and purpose.Liz Wiseman on why some leaders bring out the best in others while other leaders drain the motivation out from their team.Matthew E. May on why “intelligent” constraints are needed to fuel creativity.Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson on how leaders can make sure employees really understand what they want from them.Whitney Johnson on why constraints are beneficial when facing disruption.Tim Sanders on why our attention is getting narrower and what leaders need to do to overcome it to rally their employees around a common vision or goal.Dr. Timothy Clark on why many organizations struggle with creating inclusive workplaces and how to overcome it.Sally Helgesen on what needs to be done to get more women into leadership development pipelines.Stephen MR Covey on why addressing intent is critical to fostering trust in your leadership. Not to mention getting to hear the story behind why I started my popular leadership podcast ... and the key role Guy Kawasaki played in bringing this show to life. Going back to listen to the past conversations was such a delight and so informative about what leaders need to do to succeed. And without question, this retrospective episode provides powerful and timely insights that will help you succeed in your leadership by empowering your employees to do their best work. This is definitely one episode you're going to want to make time to listen to - and be prepared to take some notes as these guests really provide a lot of food for thought. My thanks to them and to all my guests I've had on my show over the past 99 episodes. Here's looking ahead to the future and that next big milestone of reaching 200 episodes. https://open.spotify.com/episode/3VmC7Zwp1po89nl12q8l0m Noteworthy links: Here are links to listen to the full episodes of the guests I featured in this retrospective episode: How The Power Of Enchantment Can Help Us Succeed | Guy KawasakiHow Successful Leaders Maintain Focus In A Distracted World | Doug ConantHow Leaders Grow Employee Intelligence To Drive Success | Liz WisemanHow Leaders Can Encourage Creativity And Innovation | Matthew E. MayWhy Your Employees Don't Understand You | Heidi Grant HalvorsonUsing Disruptive Innovation To Drive Growth | Whitney JohnsonWhy Bizlove Is Critical For Today's Leadership | Tim SandersHow Psychological Safety Fuels Growth & Innovation | Dr Timothy ClarkHow Women Hold Back Their Leadership Success | Sally HelgesenThe Power of Trust in Leadership | Stephen M.R. Covey

In some of my leadership keynotes and workshops, I point out how one way to foster a sense of cohesion and community among your employees is to make time to celebrate milestones. What's important here is not to just have a party where people can feel a sense of completion, but that we also use this moment to highlight the journey we've been on and what we've accomplished on this journey. It's in that spirit that I wanted to do something special to celebrate the release of the 100th episode of my podcast “Leadership Biz Cafe”. And in keeping with what I share with leaders on how to best utilize the attainment of key milestones, I wanted to use this episode as an opportunity to look back at the past 99 episodes and first select my 10 favourite guests I've spoken with (to date). And then the trickier part - picking one key insight that's not only worth a second listen, but which is both powerful and timely for helping leaders address the challenges they face today. Now I have to be honest that I had to omit two guests who'd otherwise make my shortlist as I just featured them in the recent episode “My Favourite Guest Moments and Insights From 2021” and as such, I thought it'd be better to feature other guests in their place. Over the course of this 100th episode retrospective, you'll hear: Guy Kawasaki on why leaders should focus on enchanting employees instead of influencing them.Doug Conant on why leaders need to foster a sense of community and purpose.Liz Wiseman on why some leaders bring out the best in others while other leaders drain the motivation out from their team.Matthew E. May on why “intelligent” constraints are needed to fuel creativity.Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson on how leaders can make sure employees really understand what they want from them.Whitney Johnson on why constraints are beneficial when facing disruption.Tim Sanders on why our attention is getting narrower and what leaders need to do to overcome it to rally their employees around a common vision or goal.Dr. Timothy Clark on why many organizations struggle with creating inclusive workplaces and how to overcome it.Sally Helgesen on what needs to be done to get more women into leadership development pipelines.Stephen MR Covey on why addressing intent is critical to fostering trust in your leadership. Not to mention getting to hear the story behind why I started my popular leadership podcast ... and the key role Guy Kawasaki played in bringing this show to life. Going back to listen to the past conversations was such a delight and so informative about what leaders need to do to succeed. And without question, this retrospective episode provides powerful and timely insights that will help you succeed in your leadership by empowering your employees to do their best work. This is definitely one episode you're going to want to make time to listen to - and be prepared to take some notes as these guests really provide a lot of food for thought. My thanks to them and to all my guests I've had on my show over the past 99 episodes. Here's looking ahead to the future and that next big milestone of reaching 200 episodes. Noteworthy links: Here are links to listen to the full episodes of the guests I featured in this retrospective episode: How The Power Of Enchantment Can Help Us Succeed | Guy KawasakiHow Successful Leaders Maintain Focus In A Distracted World | Doug ConantHow Leaders Grow Employee Intelligence To Drive Success | Liz WisemanHow Leaders Can Encourage Creativity And Innovation | Matthew E. MayWhy Your Employees Don't Understand You | Heidi Grant HalvorsonUsing Disruptive Innovation To Drive Growth | Whitney JohnsonWhy Bizlove Is Critical For Today's Leadership | Tim SandersHow Psychological Safety Fuels Growth & Innovation | Dr Timothy ClarkHow Women Hold Back Their Leadership Success | Sally HelgesenThe Power of Trust in Leadership | Stephen M.R. Covey

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Published on 16 Apr 2015. Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of "No One Understands You and What to Do About It," explains the science of perception.

Key Talking Points of the Episode:How Anna got into salesWhat does Anna enjoy most about being in sales?Showing up authenticallyKey qualities of top performersHow does Anna know when she is at a harmonious balance for herself?What does Anna look at it terms of performance and success for herself?What drove Anna to work with a coach, and how has that been helpful?How Anna always sets herself to perform wellHow does Anna bounce back?The definition of success to AnnaDoes Anna love winning or hate losing?Qualities of the best leaders according to Anna Key Milestones of the Episode:[01:04] Introducing our episode’s guest[02:01] How Anna got into sales[03:38] What does Anna enjoy most about being in sales?[05:54] How does Anna show up authentically?[10:47] Key qualities of top performers[14:07] How does Anna know when she is at a harmonious balance for herself?[18:02] What does Anna look at it terms of performance and success for herself?[20:15] What drove Anna to work with a coach, and how has that been helpful?[29:01] What does Anna do always set herself to perform well?[31:20] How does Anna bounce back?[32:45] What does success mean to Anna?[35:04] Does Anna love winning to hate losing?[35:38] What qualities define the best leaders? Magical Quotes from the Episode:“The more I can learn about someone during the conversation allows me to relax and be a little bit more authentic during that conversation so that we can get down to what’s most important.”“Some people measure success by being at the top. And all they want to do is just be ahead of number two. Some people measure success and performance relative to themselves. The second one is an internal benchmark, and then the first one is an external benchmark. ““People need to be challenged throughout their lives and their professional career. It is a great way to have new opportunities, new challenges, and learn how to tackle them.”“I give myself that feedback constructively rather than harshly. I don’t look at a situation and ever think that it’s reflective of me and my abilities.” Resources Mentioned in the Episode: Anna on LinkedinHow to Succeed and Reach your Goals –Dr. Heidi Grant- Halvorson 

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Today we discuss how much fun we had at Outsidelands, we ranked the performances, foods, and the different 'lands'. We also continue to dive into the 2nd and 3rd chapter of '9 things successful people do differently' by Heidi Grant Halvorson. Follow us on Instagram at AlwaysLoveYourzPodcast !

We discuss what constitute a "perfect" album and what our perfect albums are, how we're staying organized, and we dive into the first chapter of the book "9 Things Succesful People Do Differently" by Heidi Grant Halvorson.  In this episode we discuss how to get specific with our goals.

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. is a social psychologist, speaker, best selling author of Succeed, and the co-author of Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World to Power Success and Influence. Heidi joined me in 2013 to help us understand how people focus. The two main types of focus in her research are promotion and prevention. When you understand the different types of focus, you can motivate yourself and everyone around you by using language that resonates. Get full show notes and more information here: [https://howshereallydoesit.com/podcast/heidi-grant-halvorson-ww/]

Discussion with Hope PerlmanChallenging Failure with Hope PerlmanAbout HopeOn this Episode of My Perfect Failure “Challenging Failure” Paul Is joined by Hope Perlman Lecturer, Writer, Blogger (Unmapped Country) and regular Contributor to Publications such as The Huffington Post, Psychology Today and The New York Times.In this episode Hope discusses her own experiences and introduces us to techniques we can all use to combat Failure. Some of the areas we cover. · Gauging Success· Why we draw a distinction between Success and Failure· We discuss Mental Contrasting· Hope introduces us to “Putting Down the Burden” Hope’s Book recommendations· Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, by Carol Dweck· Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals, by Heidi Grant Halvorson.· Grit, by Angela Duckworth· Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi Articles by Hope: Surviving- Spectacular Failure· https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unmapped-country/201307/surviving-spectacular-failure Subscribe to Hope’s Blog Unmapped County· https://www.unmappedcountry.com/ Please leave a reviewPlease if you can leave a review at https://www.podchaser.com/MyPerfectFailure or the platform of your choice that would be greatMy Perfect Failure contact me Work with me: paul@myperfectfailure.comMPF Website: http://www.myperfectfailure.com/ Insta: follow: https://www.instagram.com/padsmpf/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/failure_perfect Facebook MPF Private Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/377418129517757/

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"By necessity, we late bloomers are on a different, more challenging trajectory. As we travel through life, we encounter obstacles like the push for conformity, the oppression of groupthink, and the pains of self-doubt. But . . . in all these challenges, we find our hidden treasure. We unearth our individuality. We see that a path to excellence, to reaching our true potential, is available to all of us. Within these challenges lies our true power, our covert talents and secret advantages as late bloomers." —Rich Karlgaard, author of Late Bloomers: The Power of Patience in a World Obsesses with Early Achievement. Unsurprisingly, the new book by Rich Karlgaard spoke to me and offered an abundance of reassurance and exhilaration. If the comments on IG a few weeks ago when I posted an excerpt from the book are any indication, you are or will be as well. Especially as Americans we greatly celebrate, strive for, and thus put pressure upon ourselves, and either unconsciously or consciously, to figure out our path early, to achieve success quickly and when we don't we make faulty assumptions about what we can contribute which can erode our self-confidence and potentially prevent the gem that resides within us all to be discovered and then shared with the world enabling us to find deep, lasting inner contentment. Karlgaard's new book is worth reading in-depth, from cover to cover as he delineates the obstacles that our culture currently needs to address with historical details, new studies, multiple anecdotal examples of how indeed the "late bloomer" simply needs time, patience and awareness to blossom at their own time, as well as the most difficult support to refute findings - neurology. So while I will encourage you to read the entire book, in today's episode/post, I wanted to share with you the characteristics that you might find yourself identifying with when it comes to being a Late Bloomer and not realizing the gift of opportunity you have given yourself to enjoy the rest of your life. 15 Characteristics of a Late Bloomer 1.Curiosity is the late bloomer's fuel "By its very nature, curiosity demonstrates an independence of mind." To keep on blooming throughout the entirity of our lives, forever remain curious. 2. We are predisposed to be compassionate "In facing the ups and downs of life, many late bloomers gain a greater sense of compassion. They show greater reflective thinking, diminished ego-centeredness, and a deeper appreciation of others' challenges." Because late bloomers have faced struggles along the way, have refrained from conforming at the expense of our social connections and acceptance into "the group", we can more easily put ourselves into the shoes of others, we are more empathetic. 3.Better leadership skills are developed Due to elevated compassion, workers view leaders more favorably, and combined with "authenticity and integrity", this trifecta of skills "improves retention and employee performance". 4. Resilience is developed and strengthened "When it comes to developing resilience, the regulation of emotions gives mature people an advantange over the young: 'There is a naturally learnable set of behaviors that contribute to resilience. Those are the behaviors that we gravitate to more and more as we age'." 5. Emotion regulation is easier which cultivates a calmer demeanor which leads to more effectiveness and better relationships "Our brains are driven to seek calmness as we age. Columnbia University social psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson claims that calmness is central to happiness . . . research has long established that calm leaders are more effective". Late bloomers naturally develop the skills necessary to find calmness if we choose to keep exploring, learning, listening and observing what works and what does not. This is where our curiosity helps tremendously leading us to the blooming stage of our lives that is authentic and unique to each of us. 6. Extensive insight "Our insights are the result of us drawing on our full mental library of experience, patterns, and context, yielding an idea of extraordinary value." Karlgaard explains that "the right hemisphere [of the brain] matures in childhood; the development of the left is consistent with the development of the prefrontal cortex, which is not fully mature until the mid-twenties". Due to the left-side's difference in development compared to the right, it takes time for us to see the connection of the awesome or unique events, sights and experiences of our lives and make sense of how we can utilize them in our unique way. 7. Navigation of life's ambiguity becomes easier "Perhaps this is the perfection defintion of wisdom: reasoning and cognition based on knowledge and experience". In other words, we are not born wise, but so long as we choose to be curious, continue to be life-long learners, we begin to build it. "Wisdom is the ability to see the layers of light that were harder to see when one was younger". And consequently, we have the opportunity to hone our intuition as to how to best navigate our journey even with the unknowns that are presented. 8. More easily determine what's important versus what's trivial To piggy-back onto #7, because we have acquired knowledge about the world over time and have made the conscious choice to continue to learn, we are then better at discern patterns faster and jump to logical solutions more quickly. 9. A desire to cut the apron strings with your parents "To fully bloom, we must declare our independence from our family. That doesn't mean we must reject their love . . . it means only that we must reach our own conclusions about what does and doesn't support our blooming." Creating a healthy culture in which to bloom is analogous to the proper soil and conditions for a plant to flourish. Each plant will need different types of soil, different amounts of sunshine and shade, varying temperatures - some extreme, some moderate, and it all depends on the plant. Unlike the saying, "bloom where you are planted", we should instead get out of the soil we have been planted in and explore to discover where we truly thrive. 10. Adult peer pressure is real, and if you've felt it and tried successfully or not to not succumb, you may be a late bloomer "Some of this [peer group] influence can be healthy and positive, as when we join a hiking club or sign up for a program to quit smoking. But not every peer push leads us to a better version of ourselves; not all communities support growth and positive change." To break free from our peer group, even when we don't know why it feels uncomfortable or wrong (but we know it does), is not easy and it takes great inner strength to do so. However, it does become easier because we eventually begin to feel more in tune with our true selves, we feel a burden lift, we feel our energy surge because we are no longer trying to be or do something that isn't truly in line with what we can offer the world. 11. Societal pressure to conform is limiting to our true potential "[Today's media] also promote cultural, racial or gender biases, either through stereotyping roles and behaviors, or under- or overrepresentation of minorities. And repeated exposure to media content can lead viewers to begin to accept media portrayals as representations of reality." From the media's portrayal of how to socially engage, what dating should look like, what children should be doing at certain ages based on their gender, the values are repeatedly shared and included in endless amounts of media such as video games, movies, television, newspapers, magazines, books and radio, and since it is a passive medium, unless we are critical thinkers questioning everything we receive, it is easy to accept what is applauded as normal and what we should adhere to regarding our life's journey. 12. Letting go of comparisons "Mass media ask us to compare our body shape, sex life, marriage, house, car, family and community to unattainable television versions of perfection. Social media ask us to compare our own commonplace or even boring reality against the curated accounts of how absoutely wonderful someone else's life is — people we know!" When we stop comparing and start celebrating, we liberate ourselves and enable the opportunity to observe our own awesomeness without the outside world's close-minded criticism or limited acceptance. The author shared something that I think is worth sharing here as a reminder that there are many paths to success, to reaching a goal, to attaining contentment. He writes, "There are always many ways to achieve a goal, gain expertise, or find success. In sports or music, they are easy to see . . . But it's not as easy to see multiple paths for success in most endeavors . . . [which leads to confusion. As a result,] we default to following norms and take the road everyone else is taking". And these paths to success have as much to do with professional "success" as well as personal "success". Your definition of a life of contentment, as I have said many times before on the blog and in my books, will most likely be very different than mine, but that doesn't mean we both cannot feel the contentment that is spoken about and written about that provides deep satisfaction and peace. It is important that we all recognize that each of us will bloom at a different time. "Each of us deserves the opportunity to bloom in our own way." When we do this there are many invaluable benefits: 1.We protect ourselves, and others we encourage to bloom, in our own time from the consequences of disappoitnment or failure. (this doesn't mean there won't be bumps along the way, but it reminds us that it takes time to understand where we are headed and why) 2.We learn how to work with self-doubt and let it be our superpower. "To bloom, we all must learn not to fear self-doubt but to embrace it as a normally occurring opportunity for growth and improved performance . . . The key to harnessesing self-doubt starts at the very core of our individual beliefs about ourselves . . . self-efficacy". 3. We strengthen our self-efficacy Self-efficacy is an individual's confidence in their ability to accomplish what they set out to do. 4. Obstacles begin to be seen as opportunities to grow rather than road-blocks "While you may feel a general sense of self-doubt . . . [you] proceed anyway". 5. Improved positive self-talk "Positive self-talk can improve our performance by helping us regulate our emotions, thoughts and energy". When we begin to see skill-sets that render positive results, we are more likely to invest in them. For example, positive self talk leads to more confidence, a strengthening our self-efficacy and thus improved performance with whatever task is in front of us. And so we continue to practice positive self-talk and it becomes stronger with this skill rendering more positive outcomes. 6. Stronger, healthier relationships When you bloom, gravitate toward those who celebrate your blooming, and for those who initially are not, give them a moment to understand why your blooming makes them uncomfortable. Depending upon the person, they may not realize that their discomfort with your growth is a reflection of their disappointment in what they feel they could have achieved but didn't. This is all about them. Some will grow from this and remain in your life, others will not, and you will need to move on. But all of the skills you have acquired and applied will help lead you toward building not only healthier relationships with others, but a healthier, less critical relationship with yourself. 7. Excellence will arrive when you let your curiosity take over "When [curiosity takes over], a sense of exploration also takes over. I get in the zone, and I go for it. I feel pulled, not pushed — pulled by a beautiful power I cannot explain." 8. The courage to repot when necessary "When it comes to repotting, late bloomers have a distinct advatnage over early bloomers. We're naturally curious and resilient. We're not afraid to follow a different path or break free of convention. We genuinely want to see what's around the corner or over the hill. These late bloomer strengths enable —even propel— the change we need to find the right people and the right place to help us thrive." Once you have a clearer understanding of who you are and what cultures and communities are best suited for you to bloom, you will have strengthened, as was mentioned above in the first list, an awesome skill set. This skill set will be your bedrock for being able to repot when and if it is necessary. "We need to give ourselves a break. We need to recognize and celebrate the fact that we're all different, with different skill sets, developmental profiles and backgrounds and that each of us will forge a different path toward blooming." Being a late bloomer is most certainly something to celebrate, and when we "change our story, we can change our behavior and even our life". Let me leave you with this lasting thought from the book that resonately powerfully with me: "If we're not forced to conform to standard timetables for success, we can —and will—bloom on our own schedules. And we can do it with a deeper sense of mission and a greater feeling of contentment. What we accomplish in the marathon of life depends on our persistence, our patience, and an ability to see ourselves as we really are. Our cultural obsession with youthful talent, with early achievement, distracts us from this simple truth. . . . our late bloomer power is different. It is the power to renounce what's supposed to happen in life and intead embrace what actually happens in life, with its ups and downs, twists and turns. It's the power to explore and experience, to be an individual. It's the power that comes with knowing and valuing ourselves." Petit Plaisir ~The Gown: A Novel of the Royal Wedding by Jennifer Robson ~read my review and reason for recommendation here. TSLL BRITISH WEEK 2019 Posts: Sunday May 19th A Giveaway for Anglophiles: A Year’s Subscription to The English Home magazine and more! TSLL’s First Annual British Week Begins! ~Do you enjoy reading TSLL blog and visit regularly, but would prefer to read the blog without ads? I have some good news for you. 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Originally aired 6-14-11: If you have ever read the Harvard Business Review blog you may have seen a post from February 2011 entitled Nine Things Successful People Do Differently written by Dr. Heidi Grant.  From #1 ranked post in the history of the Harvard Business Review blog to best selling book (Nine Things Successful People Do Differently) Dr. Grant has written for Fast Company, The Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, as well as the BBC World Service's Business Daily, the Harvard Business Review, and SmartBrief's SmartBlog on Leadership. She has also written No One Understands You and What to Do About It and her newest book Reinforcements: How to Get People to Help You

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Are you trying to get a jump-start on your tech career while you're still in school? Have you found that perfect internship - or job - but you're not sure how to approach it? If so, this is the resource for you. Michael discusses how to craft your résumé, how to prepare for interviews, and much more. Written by Michael Deng: https://twitter.com/themichaeldeng Read by Abbey Rennemeyer: https://twitter.com/abbeyrenn Original article: https://fcc.im/2BCESfo Learn to code for free at: https://www.freecodecamp.org Intro music by Vangough: https://fcc.im/2APOG02 Transcript: Seven semesters ago, I started college with no programming background. The only thing I had was lofty aspirations of working in tech. When recruiting season first rolled around, I applied to a bunch of companies. I got a few callbacks, but that’s it. No follow-ups. No onsite interviews. Nothing. I kept trying. I applied to over 150 companies. I faced dozens of interviews. I failed way more than I succeeded. But that’s all right. Because those failures made my moments of triumph all the more memorable. Along the way, I met helpful mentors and guided ambitious mentees. These people are now working at places like Airbnb, Facebook, Google, SpaceX, and Snap. As for me, I landed an internship at Uber last summer. And I’m on track to accept a full-time job at one of my favorite companies when I graduate. Now that I’m in my final year of school, I want to share everything I’ve learned over the years. This isn’t meant to be the ultimate handbook. It’s only a modest guide born out of my love of helping others reach their goals (and my love of Legos). By the end of this article, you’ll know everything I wish I had known when I first started sending in applications. A few words before we begin… Don’t let your struggle for the perfect job take over your life. School is a time of self-discovery and all-around personal growth. So go out there and meet people who are doing different things. Join diverse student organizations and take part in activities outside your comfort zone. It’s all too easy to associate your self-worth with how prestigious of a job you can get. But remember: there are so many more important things in life than work. My best memories of college aren’t spending weeks on end prepping for interviews or even getting offer phone calls. They’re exploring San Francisco for the first time with my closest friends. They’re playing volleyball with my hilarious teammates. I value these unique experiences I shared with people I love much more than any job. To paraphrase my favorite quote by Twitter and Medium founder Ev Williams: “Failure of your [work] is not failure in life. Failure in your relationships is.” Don’t lose sight of what’s important. It’s also no coincidence that everyone I know with a strong support system eventually found success. When you fall into a slump — and all of us do — you need your friends to be there for you. I would never have made it through my first year without amazing friends who kept me afloat. Now, let’s get started. You pumped? I’m pumped! Building fundamentals Before we get to the good stuff, you need to build solid fundamentals. Seems obvious? Absolutely. But this is the hardest step of this guide, so listen up. Now, this guide is designed for college students, so if you’re in high school, scram! Just kidding. In fact, I admire your initiative. When I was in high school, I didn’t have the faintest idea what I wanted to do. Leading up to college, your top priority should be solidifying your math skills. Computer science relies heavily on mathematic concepts like probability, logic, and number theory. Without math, you’re not going to get far in hard weeder classes and technical interviews. If you’re already proficient in math, keep reading. Most of this guide is just as applicable to you as it is to college students. Skip to the online classes section below and progress through the rest of this guide. Landing an internship as a high schooler is challenging, but certainly not impossible. OK. Back to college students. Building fundamentals starts with your intro programming classes. Pay attention and master the basics. A popular but misguided notion is “GPA doesn’t matter.” Although it’s true that most companies won’t scrutinize your GPA, any gaps in your fundamental knowledge will come back to bite you later. By getting a decent GPA, you’re also most likely getting a grasp of the basics. Your classes will cover a lot of basic knowledge, but they’ll barely scratch the surface of modern technology. Go explore interesting topics around the core concepts taught in class. This is how you gain a breadth of knowledge and come up with future project ideas. If you’re not studying computer science, don’t worry. I have friends who changed their minds and started CS their Junior year. They still graduated on time with great job offers, so you’re not too late at all. This said, you will need to make sacrifices and take extra classes every semester. If you’re not able to take CS classes in college, there are plenty of awesome online resources to help you out. Two of the best online intro courses are Harvard CS50x on edX and CS101 on Udacity. After this intro, you need to master data structures and algorithms. I recommend Princeton Algorithms Part 1 and Part 2 on Coursera, or CS61B by UC Berkeley. To make sure you’re on track, reference Google’s Technical Development Guide. Don’t worry if you struggle at first. A few weeks into my first semester, I was completely overwhelmed. I spent days studying concepts that took other students hours to grasp. I thought about giving up every week. “How am I ever going to catch up to those prodigies?” But if you ask me or any of my friends who made it through, we’ll all tell you the same thing: Learning to program isn’t about how talented you are or how early you started coding. It’s about perseverance. Building up your programming intuition takes a long time — much like learning a human language. You won’t see the light at the end of the tunnel for a long time. But trust me. If you take one step at a time, you will eventually get there. Staying motivated is difficult, but there’s a secret. Focus on mastery instead of results. Make it your goal to get better at a skill rather than achieve a certain result. Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson did a study where she asked two groups of people to solve various problems. The first group was told to score as high as they could. The second group was told to treat the problems as a learning opportunity. The results were surprising. The first group got frustrated, whereas the second group persisted and solved more problems.​ By focusing on mastery, you view obstacles and time pressure as things that will help you grow. In contrast, a result-oriented mindset frames problems as irritating roadblocks impeding your way. What’s more, you’ll see continual progress if you concentrate on mastery. Every time you read a new paragraph or solve a new question, you’re improving your skills. This kind of continuous gratification is incredibly satisfying. So next time you’re studying for class or practicing for interviews, focus on getting better instead of acing the exam or landing the offer. You can read more about this tactic in Edmond Lau’s Quora post. Beyond basic coding skills, you need to know what’s happening in the tech industry. This goes beyond sounding smart during recruiting. By paying attention to the industry, you’ll be the first to discover new opportunities to propel your career forward.​ For online reading, check out TechCrunch, Techmeme, Product Hunt, and Hacker News. If you’re a frequent Twitter user, follow tech news sources. On Medium and Quora, personalize your feeds to get insightful takes on the industry. If you’re into email newsletters, look into Axios Pro Rata, CB Insights, and Mattermark Daily. To do a deep dive on a particular company, use Crunchbase and the company’s blog. You can also learn about the company’s culture from Glassdoor. Finally, don’t forget to actually talk to people. I learned so much about the tech world from casual conversations with friends and classmates. Over time, you’ll read about a lot of interesting companies. Begin compiling a spreadsheet of companies you’re interested in from day 1. When you apply to these companies in the future, use this spreadsheet to track your progress. Once you have the fundamentals down, it’s time to apply your skills. One of the best ways to do that is by… Building projects If you’re like me, you don’t have much experience to begin with, and that’s OK! The first step is populating that empty resume with projects. When I first decided to work on a project, I had decision paralysis for days. “What should I make? What if it’s not original? What if people don’t like it?” Later, I realized it doesn’t really matter what the project is. Learning something and finishing what you start is much more important. But this doesn’t mean you can make whatever you want. If your project is too trivial, you won’t impress any recruiters. If yourq project is too complex, you’ll lose momentum before completing it. Aim to do a project you think you can complete in one to two months. The project should involve data structures, algorithms, and design decisions. And do something you’re interested in so you’ll actually take it all the way to completion. Here’s a compilation of project ideas on Reddit for inspiration. After coming up with an idea, take some time to plan, but don’t take too long. You want to start as soon as possible. Now, you might be wondering “Isn’t it irresponsible to jump in prematurely?” Generally, yes. But personal projects are different from company projects. Personal projects should teach you something new and strengthen your background during recruiting. Unlike company projects, you don’t need to obsess over design and code quality. If you’re feeling stuck at the beginning, write down some code — any code. Building a personal project is like writing, you just start. Don’t worry if it doesn’t make sense. Seeing code in an editor will get your juices flowing. Track your project with version control. If you don’t know what that is, make a Github account and learn how to use Git. You need Github as it’s the primary way you save and display your projects. If you can, make your project live so recruiters can play with it. Most recruiters won’t inspect your code, so a live demo is the best way to show off your project. Aim to complete three to five projects by the time you start applying. A terrific first project is a personal website. You learn the basics of web development and get your own space on the internet to display your work. Codecademy has two excellent tutorials on building websites: Make a Website teaches you the basics of HTML, CSS, and Bootstrap. Deploy a Website teaches you how to put your website on the internet. Step 3 of this tutorial isn’t necessary, just use the free .github.io domain. Too easy? Convert your personal website into a dynamic blog. To do this, you need to learn a web development framework like Rails or Django. Check out the Ruby on Rails Tutorial or The Django Girls Guide. The Muse and Awwwards have examples of personal websites if you need design inspiration. Also, you have to check out this wicked personal website. Hackathons are great for motivating yourself to do projects. Schools and organizations around the world host hackathons, which are project-building competitions lasting several days. In this short span of time, you’ll learn a lot, come up with unique ideas, and meet interesting people. Many hackathons reimburse travel, so there’s no excuse not to go. Use Hackalist or Hackevents to discover upcoming ones. Some of the top North American hackathons I know of are PennApps, HackMIT, HackNY, MHacks, HackTech, HackIllinois, CalHacks, TreeHacks, Hack the North, YC Hacks, and Greylock Techfair. You can also contribute to open source projects. Working on open source is an awesome way to add value to meaningful projects. Plus, you learn a lot from seeing code written by more experienced engineers. Jumping into open source for the first time can be intimidating. Two good entry points are Google Summer of Code and Sayan Chowdhury’s article on open source for beginners. Github also just released their very own open source guide. Find a cool project and dive in. You’ll get the hang of it soon enough. Research is an alternative to projects. If your school has a student research program, great! Apply asap. If it doesn’t have one, look up what research your professors are doing. If their work seems interesting, email them and ask if you can contribute. You’d be surprised at how receptive they are to eager undergrads. In the future, you can even ask your team to refer you to cutting-edge companies. Keep in mind research belongs under Experience rather than Projects on your resume. It can be tough balancing projects and school. One complaint I hear frequently is “I don’t have time to do side projects while taking classes.” I’m personally guilty of saying that from time to time. It’s tough to set aside time for projects because, unlike school, you’re not held accountable by deadlines and exams. After a day of studying, it’s tempting to choose social media or video games over your project. But if you keep putting it off, the semester will be over before you know it. To combat procrastination, force yourself to work on your project a little bit every day. Even if it’s just 15 minutes, you’ll form a habit of making continual progress. This is also why hackathons and research projects are so great. They impose external deadlines and expectations so you can’t drag your heels. Now that you have some experience, you need to put it somewhere. Creating a resume Writing a resume might seem pretty straightforward, but there are lots of nuances. After all, it’s the first thing recruiters will read about you. It’s crucial to make a good first impression. …And you need to make that impression fast. Recruiters spend an average of six seconds reviewing a resume. You heard that right. Six seconds. Almost all that time is spent on your name, companies, job titles, start/end dates, school, major, and project titles. Everything on your resume should be tailored towards helping recruiters find these key pieces of info as fast as possible. Here are some important guidelines. Easy to scan. Stick to one page. Keep it black and white if you’re not skilled at design. Colors are noisy. Stick to a standard format (chronological, no weird fonts, 10.5 to 12 pt font size, 0.5 to 1 inch margins). Standard formats are more readable by resume-parsing programs and easier to skim by recruiters. Keep it concise. Text walls discourage readers. Highlight the key points Make your name big. Highlight company names, job titles, start/end dates, school name, major, and project titles. Important content should be higher up. For a student, the order of importance is usually Education > Experience > Projects > Skills. Cut the fat. Objective and Summary are unnecessary. Descriptions should say something tangible. “Exceptional team player” doesn’t work. “Increased user conversion rates by 20%” does. People without technical background will be reading your resume, so get rid of convoluted details. Don’t neglect the details: Include the higher of your cumulative GPA and your major GPA. If they’re both less than 3.0, leave it off. Include links to a live demo or Github repo for each project. Don’t include anything you wouldn’t be comfortable answering questions about. Most people make this mistake when listing their skills. After finishing your resume, have your peers review it. Ask them to be honest and harsh. My first draft was awful compared to my tenth draft. Use online resume builders if you’re short on time. Standard Resume and CakeResume are two outstanding tools that make it a breeze to generate a handsome resume. If you don’t have a LinkedIn profile, create one. LinkedIn enables recruiters to find you and helps you maintain your professional network. Plus, you need it for the cold-emailing recruiters later. With a few projects under your belt and resume in hand, you’re ready to begin preparing for interviews. Getting battle-ready for interviews Interview problems can be separated into two buckets, behavioral questions and technical questions. You need to start practicing both at least two months before applying. Since recruiting season kicks off in August/September, summer break is a good time to begin. Behavioral questions The purpose of behavioral questions are to find out more about your background and if you actually did what you said on your resume. Don’t take the behavioral interview lightly. A poor performance can sink your chances of getting the offer. To ace behavioral questions, you need a strong answer to “Tell me about yourself” and three stories to handle all other questions. “Tell me about yourself” is the most common behavioral question you’ll get and you need to crush it. Don’t make the cardinal mistake of regurgitating your resume. Instead, tell a story. Capture the attention of the interviewer with a strong introduction. Then, transition into a commentary about your key projects and experiences. Don’t prattle on about the details — keep it simple and emphasize the outcomes. Finally, explain why you’re interested in the position. It’s tempting to talk about every single thing you did, but you’ll lose your interviewer. Keep it concise. Your answer should be one to two minutes long. Prepare three stories you can tell in response to all other behavioral questions. Typically, you’ll be asked to give examples of leadership, overcoming a challenge, or failure. Each of your three stories should show at least one of these themes. A story needs an initial summary, a problem, three to five action steps, and a final outcome. Here’s an example. Summary: Lead an unmotivated team to complete CS project Problem: Two team members didn’t do their work and wanted to drop CS Action 1: Talked to them one-on-one to understand why they’re studying CS Action 2: Told them although it’s tough now, they can succeed if they work hard Action 3: Emphasized that they’re invaluable to the rest of the team Action 4: Used google calendar to plan meetings and Trello to track progress Action 5: Held social events to bring the team closer Outcome: Finished the project and all got at least A- This story can be used to answer any question about leadership or overcoming a challenge. Now go think of your own! Not all your stories have to be about tech. For example, I always talk about how I helped my volleyball team overcome defeat. With this, you should be able to pass any behavioral interview. To learn more, read the Behavioral Questions section in Cracking the Coding Interview. Technical questions Technical questions are the essence of the tech interviewing process. Here’s a list of topics you need to know to pass technical interviews. To master these topics, use the following four resources: Cracking the Coding Interview (~2 months before applying) LeetCode (~1 month before applying) Mock interviews (~2 weeks before applying) Glassdoor (~2 days before interviewing) Cracking the Coding Interview is one of the best resources out there. Gayle Laakmann McDowell’s Cracking the Coding Interview is the quintessential tech recruiting manual. First, read the Technical Questions section. Take notes to help you remember the main ideas. As for practice questions, concentrate on the Arrays and Strings, Linked Lists, Stacks and Queues, Trees and Graphs, Objected-Oriented Design, Recursion, and Sorting sections. Also, familiarize yourself with the Bit Manipulation, Scalability, Databases, and Threads and Locks sections. If you’re having trouble with any of the topics, study the first couple pages of that section. They contain a short and sweet explanation of the topic. Attempt each question for at least 30 minutes before looking at the solution. After reading the solution, you should still implement it and test it on your own. Otherwise, you won’t fully understand the logic. Finishing CtCI should take three to four weeks of dedicated effort. LeetCode is the second resource you should tackle. It has a huge list of problems ranked by difficulty. Each problem has its own tests, time complexity requirements, and solutions. Aim to complete 30 to 50 questions and be comfortable with medium level questions before you start applying. If you do just three a day, you can finish 42 in two weeks. It’s easy to get frustrated by Leetcode at first. In the beginning, I couldn’t solve a single easy problem. I improved over time, but I still get stuck frequently on medium and hard level problems. The good thing is interviews are different from Leetcode. In an interview, you get hints if you’re stuck. Plus, deducing the correct logic is more important than writing runnable code. Although Leetcode isn’t the best simulation of real interviews, it’s phenomenal for building problem solving intuition. Mock interviews are highly effective if you do them right. The trick is emulating a real interview as closely as possible. If you’re the interviewee, be professional, ask questions, and talk out loud. If you’re the interviewer, time the interview, engage in the conversation, and write down feedback. I suggest booking a private room on campus and grinding through back-to-back interviews. Make sure the room has a big whiteboard to draw on. Take turns interviewing and being interviewed by a friend who’s also recruiting. Being able to understand the interviewer’s perspective will improve your own interviewing skills. Glassdoor is an invaluable resource for company-specific info. In most cases, you don’t need Glassdoor until a few days before your interview. Unless the company is very large, Glassdoor won’t have many specific interview questions. Glassdoor is better for learning about the company’s general interview process. Navigate to the Interviews section and filter by the position you’re applying for. Sometimes there are different labels for the same job, so look through all of them. Read candidates’ experiences and think through the interview questions they posted. You likely won’t get the same questions, but working through them will give you an idea of what to expect. Making your application stand out It’s finally time to send out applications and start seeing your hard work pay off! Recruiting season begins in August/September, but you can reach out a month or two earlier. For off-season jobs, apply at least 6 months before. First, you need a list of companies to apply to. If you’ve been following the tech industry, you should already have some companies in mind. To add to your list, check out The Breakout List, Wealthfront’s Career-Launching Companies List, and the CrunchBase Unicorn Leaderboard. For more ideas, here’s a list of 163 companies I looked at when I was recruiting. Don’t be picky about which companies to apply to. If you think the product is interesting or you’ve heard good things about the company, then apply. Worry about choosing after you get a few offers. The application process I recommend first applying and interviewing for companies you’re less interested in. This is a good way to train for future interviews of companies you want more. But don’t do too many — you don’t want to burn out. When I recruit, I try to keep the process under 3 months and not do more than 10 onsite interviews. Anything more than that, I run out of steam and my performance suffers. When you’re scheduling your interviews, spread them out. Interviews are mentally draining, so you need time to rest in between. Companies won’t mind if you ask for a week or two before starting their process. Once you’re ready to apply, use a 5-pronged approach: Referrals Emailing recruiters Career fairs Online applications This list is ordered by success rate and time commitment. For example, referrals have the highest success rate but require the most time. Referrals are the single best way to land interviews. When an employee refers someone, that’s the golden endorsement. Referrals make up for less than 10% of applications, but 20-50% of eventual hires. Ask your friends or older students to refer you. You can also ask employees for a phone chat or coffee to learn more about the company and request a referral at the end. Don’t be shy about this. If you get hired, the employee who referred you gets a bonus — it’s win-win for both of you. Cold-emailing recruiters is the next best thing to referrals. For smaller companies without a formal recruiting pipeline, reach out to an Engineering Manager instead. For even smaller companies, just email the CEO or CTO. The easiest way to get email addresses is asking your network for recruiter contacts. You need a LinkedIn account to find email addresses. Look up the companies you want to apply to on LinkedIn and filter their employees by recruiters. Next, install Hunter or Slik, which lets you get the email address from a LinkedIn profile. Hunter doesn’t like it if you try to sign up using a personal email, so use your school email. Your emails should be concise. State your interest in a position and include a summary of your background. Remember to attach your resume. To save time, make a template. You just have to change the name of the recruiter, the name of the company, and your statement of interest. If you don’t get a reply in a week, follow up. If you don’t get a reply in another week, follow up again. Career fairs get you face time with recruiters and engineers. For career fairs, check which companies are attending beforehand. Jot down the ones you’re most interested in because you might not have time to talk to all of them. Print out 10 to 20 copies of your resume to pass to recruiters. Be ready to answer questions about your experiences and projects. I recommend going early — miss class if you have to. You’ll avoid the lines and catch recruiters before they’re exhausted from chatting nonstop. Don’t feel pressured to ask recruiters questions if you don’t have any. You won’t offend anyone if you get straight to the point and ask if they have openings. After your conversation, make sure to get their emails so you can follow up later. Oh yeah, and actually follow up! Don’t let those business cards gather dust with the free t-shirts and drawstring bags. For hackathons, you’ll be targeting one company you really like instead of 10 to 20. Company sponsors will set up shop at the venue. This is your in. Before the hackathon, find the sponsoring company you want to target. When you arrive, introduce yourself to its engineers and recruiters. Use their API in your project and interact with them throughout the hackathon. On the last day, go show them your project. Then, ask about job/internship opportunities. At this point, they’ve already seen your work ethic, creativity, and interest in their company. You’re pretty much guaranteed an interview. Hackathons can function as indirect career fairs also. I know people who’ve landed interviews through talking to engineers and recruiters from sponsoring companies at hackathons. For more advice on this strategy, read Ryan Norton’s article. Online applications are the easiest way to apply. Use a shotgun approach. Most applications only ask for your resume, so it’s easy to apply to a lot of companies in one go. Intern Supply, the Easy Application List, and your school’s career website are essential for finding open positions. Most of the time, you don’t need a cover letter. But if the company makes the cover letter mandatory or asks for a short answer response, be careful. In this case, the company really cares about fit, so craft a meticulous response. I’ve been burned many times by disregarding mandatory cover letters and short answers. Take your time when writing — a hurried response will show. For applying online, I also recommend TripleByte. You first complete a coding quiz. Then, TripleByte matches you with top companies and fast-tracks you through their hiring processes. Bear in mind this resource only works for finding full-time jobs. Conquering the interview For many people, this is the most nerve-wracking part of the process, but there’s no need to be anxious. The interviewer is on your side (even if it doesn’t seem like it). Before we go any further, there’s one thing you have to keep in mind. Show enthusiasm! Enthusiasm plays a huge role in whether you get an offer. Companies these days love to talk about how much they value culture fit. What they basically mean is they want someone who’s enthusiastic about their mission and product. The truth is most candidates aren’t good at being enthusiastic. The best way to ensure you do it is preparing a list of things you like about the company in advance. When answering behavioral questions or asking questions, bring up the items on your list. Use the company’s blog and its Crunchbase profile to find things you can talk about. Now, let’s go over some best practices for technical interviews. When you first hear the problem, write it down. Then, clarify with your interviewer what you think the question is asking. Don’t assume you understood the question the first time you heard it. Next, write down a few example inputs and outputs and verify they’re correct. This gives you time to think of a solution and provides tests you can run later. If you need more time to think, don’t be afraid ask for a minute to brainstorm. It shouldn’t be too hard to devise a brute-force solution. Talk through it with your interviewer while thinking of ways you can improve it. Continue bouncing ideas off your interviewer until you come up with a better solution. Explain it to your interviewer and only start coding after they’re satisfied. While you’re working through the problem, continuously communicate your thought process. How you think is more important than the actual answer. Be outspoken, but don’t blab on endlessly. Take pauses to think and let the interviewer make suggestions. Don’t space out or look distant. You should direct your full attention towards the interviewer to engage them. If they’re engaged, they’ll give you positive signals if you’re on track and hints if you’re not. What’s more, they’ll be emotionally invested in you and want you to succeed. At the end of the interview, you’ll get time to ask questions. Remember an interview is two-way. Don’t just ask questions you think the interviewer will like to hear. Ask questions you actually want to know the answers to. I suggest asking about personal experiences to get more authentic answers. Remember these tips and you’ll be ready to ace technical interviews. The average interview process looks like this: Coding challenge > Recruiter chat > Phone interview > Onsite interview The process varies by company. Sometimes the recruiter chat will be first. Sometimes you won’t have a coding challenge. But the general structure is similar. The coding challenge is a straightforward test. It’s usually hosted on Hackerrank. I suggest doing a couple of questions on it ahead of time to get familiar with the format. There’s no trick to the coding challenge. Pass as many tests as you can. With enough practice on Leetcode, this should be a walk in the park. The recruiter chat is an informal conversation. It’s usually for setting up the phone interview and answering any questions you have. You might get one or two behavioral questions. Once in a while, you might get trivia-esque technical questions like “Explain how a hashmap works.” Candidates rarely get rejected at this stage (although I’ve managed to do just that a few times). Treat this as a chance to learn more about the company. Ask high-level questions — recruiters generally don’t know technical details. Make sure to ask about the format of the rest of the interview process so you aren’t caught off guard by anything. The phone interview stage is one to two rounds of technical interviews. Sometimes you’ll do a video chat instead of a phone call. You’ll typically code out the answer in a shared editor like Collabedit. If the connection is bad or you’re having trouble understanding the interviewer, speak up. You’re not going to get docked points, so don’t try to tough it through. The onsite interview is three to six rounds of interviews with a lunch in between. A day of back-to-back interviews is exhausting — get enough sleep beforehand! Onsite interviews are mostly technical, but some companies mix in behavioral and design rounds. The lunch is for you to learn more about the company, so relax a little. During the interview, use the whiteboard to your advantage. Leave plenty of space on the right side and between the lines so you have room to make edits. After the interview, don’t dwell on it. Thinking about it isn’t going to change the final result. Treat it as if you were rejected and continue applying and practicing. Evaluating the offer Congratulations! You got an offer! Give yourself a big pat on the back — you earned it. But your work isn’t done yet. First, thank your recruiter and re-express your enthusiasm for the company. Then, ask for your offer in writing. It’s time to negotiate. A job offer isn’t an act of generosity — it’s a proposal to strike a deal. Naturally, a deal involves negotiation. I’m not going to elaborate too much on negotiation tactics. Just read Haseeb Qureshi’s killer guide on negotiation. Bear in mind some offers are non-negotiable, but it never hurts to try. Avoid unpaid jobs. In 90% of cases, it’s not worth it. I’m all for prioritizing learning over pay, but at least work for a company that values you enough to pay you. If you have more than one offer, congrats! You’re awesome. But now you have to make a decision. Choosing which offer to accept is a nice problem to have. The best offer depends on the specific candidate, but here’s one universal suggestion I hope serves you well. Make a list of 10 professional and personal goals you want to achieve in the next 10 years. It could be anything, like paying off student loans, founding a startup, or mastering a new hobby. Choose the job that brings you closest to these goals. Here are a couple more tips to remember: Your future manager is vital to your career growth. Find a great mentor who will double as your champion. Do internships at different companies to gain broader experiences. You’ll learn more and expand professional network. Optimize for learning and growth over pay, unless the pay is really bad. Work at one brand name company. It’ll make recruiting in the future easier, but know that it’s not the end of the world if you don’t have one. Choice of programming language doesn’t matter. What matters is learning good engineering practices and how to work in a team. Choose an engineering-first company with a software/hardware product. Don’t forget about passion. It’s an amazing feeling building a product you believe in. Conclusion This brings us to the end of this guide. I hope that with this, you’ll be much better prepared than I was when starting a career in tech. In the beginning, getting an offer might seem impossible, but the key is treating it as a series of milestones rather than one enormous task. If you make a little bit of progress every day, you’ll be there before you know it! When you do get that dream job, don’t forget to give back. Share your experiences and extend referrals. Pass on the love, and we’ll all fly higher.

Accomplished people reach their goals because of what they do, not just because of who they are. In this two part series, we examine the research of Columbia University researcher, Heidi Grant Halvorson, through her book "9 Things Successful People Do Differently."

Accomplished people reach their goals because of what they do, not just who they are. In this two part series, we examine the research of Columbia University researcher, Heidi Grant Halvorson

Today we have Rajvir Bath of Above The Hype Clothing. We discuss coming to the U.S. 10 years ago and the struggle to make it in a new country. We also discuss his collaborations with local and mainstream Bay Area rap artist Lil Blood, Laroo, J Stalin, and Mozzy just to name a few. He can be found on https://www.instagram.com/athxraj/ Also the book of the day is 9 Things Successful People Do Differently by Heidi Grant Halvorson https://www.amazon.com/Nine-Things-Successful-People-Differently/dp/1422193403/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1515486249&sr=8-1&keywords=9+things+successful+people+do+differently Also pick up a copy of 100k by yours truly https://www.amazon.com/100K-Andre-Ray/dp/1532945507/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1515486385&sr=8-2&keywords=100k+andre  

In this episode, Elisabeth Embry talks about the importance of clarity of goal, and telling you the 3 important things about selecting the right coach or mentor. Afterward, Jason Hartman talks with research scientist Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of 9 Things Successful People Do Differently. The two discuss the common beliefs that people who succeed or fail have. Heidi explains the psychological factors behind how people react to challenges, the beliefs and mindsets that people have as they try to reach a goal. Defining success is personal, dependent on an individual’s sense of well-being, lasting happiness and autonomy. She says it’s important to be specific about goals, to break them down into manageable, specific pieces that are planned out with when and where, and taking the time to define success for ourselves. Website: www.HeidiGrantPhD.com

Geoff McDonald Project Passion: Inner Goals Over Outer Goals GeoffMcDonald.com Inner Goals One of the reasons that we fail to complete our projects is that we focus on inner goals and not outer goals. Have you ever considered that you might be working on the wrong goal? And, I don’t mean writing a book versus getting a new job. Heidi Grant Halvorson is a social psychologist…

DeanBokhari.com • 4 Major Keys to Achieving Your Goals (Backed by Science)  Connect with me on Facebook.com/Dean.Bokhari Wanna get your self-improvement questions answered on the podcast? Submit them here: MeaningfulHQ.com/contact.html or email them to me here: questions@deanbokhari.com ABOUT THIS EPISODE  In this episode we’ll look at four major keys to achieving your goals; inspired by the great book, Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals by Heidi Grant Halvorson (get book summary here: getflashnotes.com/succeed).  Get the show notes:  http://www.meaningfulhq.com/achieving-your-goals.html SELECTED LINKS + RESOURCES  Book(s) Mentioned: "Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals" by Heidi Grant Halvorson, P.h.D Get Book: http://amzn.to/29uTaBb Get Book Summary: http://getflashnotes.com/succeed Topics Covered: Goals Achieving your goals The science of goal-setting PARTNERS: (Flash)Books Too Busy To Read? Get top Business + Self-help Book Summaries you can read or listen to in under 20 minutes. Hundreds of titles to choose from for your iPhone, Android, Kindle or mp3 player. Get started for just $1 today at https://www.getflashnotes.com Audible Get a FREE audiobook download and 30 day free trial at Audible when you use this link: audibletrial.com/dean. Over 150,000 titles to choose from for your iPhone, Android, Kindle or mp3 player. Learn more and get started at audibletrial.com/dean CONNECT WITH DEAN: Home of Dean Bokhari's Meaningful Show: http://MeaningfulHQ.com iTunes Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/dean-bokharis-meaningful-show/id904829767?mt=2   Twitter: http://Twitter.com/DeanBokhari   Facebook: http://Facebook.com/deanbokhari    LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/deanbokhari   Google Plus: https://plus.google.com/+DeanBokhariTV   Quora: http://deanbokhari.quora.com   Book Summaries by (Flash)Books: http://getflashnotes.com ************************** ABOUT DEAN BOKHARI'S MEANINGFUL SHOW: Meaningful Show is the premier self-improvement and motivation podcast publication. Get on-demand — and research-driven — self-help advice every single week, whenever and wherever you want it.   For More Meaningful Show Episodes, Visit www.MeaningfulHQ.com and Remember to SUBSCRIBE.   MORE ABOUT THE PODCAST: Every week, we bring you inspiring interviews with authors, entrepreneurs, change-makers, and thought-leaders making an impact and income doing meaningful work that matters and makes a difference. aside from interviews, we also cover: personal development tips, career & business advice and the occasional book summary. Checkout the self-improvement and motivation podcast archives at: http://www.meaningfulhq.com/show.html This podcast is brought to you by GetFlashNotes.com, Self-Help and Business Book Summaries for Busy Professionals that Need Knowledge NOW. Visit us at http://getflashnotes.com to subscribe for just $1.00 today: https://www.getflashnotes.com Visit Dean's blog at http://www.deanbokhari.com for more science-backed articles, videos, and book summaries on: Personal Growth, Business, Scientific Self-Help, Lifehacks, Productivity, Motivation, and Meaningful Work. http://www.deanbokhari.com For More Meaningful Show Episodes and to Subscribe for Free Weekly Updates, Visit: http://www.MeaningfulHQ.com

Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson is a motivational psychologist, speaker, author of SUCCEED: How We Can Reach Our Goals, blogger for Huff Post, Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, SmartBrief, and Psychology Today.  TOPICS: How to work with your expectations of what parenting should be like and how your kids should behave + Setting goals for pregnancy, birth and early parenting + How to give feedback and motivate your children + What *not* to say to your kids if you want them to grow confidently + How to build your child’s self-esteem.

Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of "No One Understands You and What to Do About It" and "9 Things Successful People Do Differently," explains how to actually stick to your resolutions this year.'

LISTEN HERE Transcript: WHO AM I? Hello + Welcome. This is Koren Motekaitis, and I am a certified life + weight loss coach along with being a Daring Way facilitator, and the reason why I host this show is because, I believe there are many ways to live life. I believe there are many journeys for us to take. We can learn from others to see what is possible for ourselves. I believe there are possibilities for all of us. It s not limited to only those who have acquired great success, but including those of us who have stumbled, lost our way, or only saw closed doors. In this podcast you will find out that this is the true pathway to success. Instead of accepting your life as good as it gets you can find out how others have created great lives so you can too. About the show When ordinary people share the authentic backstage truth behind their success, the doors of possibility open for all of us! I have weekly conversations with guests who represent their own unique version of success. They too have had their own struggles and uncertainty yet they have found their way. My guests + I are an example of what is possible when you show up in your life, when you go all in, fall down, and get back up and continue to practice. Since 2006 and over 440 shows, I have interviewed thought leaders and researchers like Brené Brown, Daniel Pink, Martha Beck, Danielle Laporte, Simon Sinek, Carol Dweck, Harriet Lerner, Byron Katie, Geneen Roth, Gretchen Rubin, Todd Kashdon, Kristin Neff and Heidi Grant Halvorson as well as ordinary people doing extraordinary things. In hearing their stories, I invite you to ask yourself, if that is possible for them, what is possible for me? Really, ask yourself that… In between each week s shows I take all this talk + research, and help my clients integrate it into their actual life. My lovely clients are high functioning, over-achievers who come to me feeling like a fraud. They believed their next achievement would finally make them good enough. Instead they are stressed and frustrated that all their achievements did not create this Great Life and self-confidence they desired. Exhausted and settling in their life created a hunger so deep inside of them for something more. While they tried to convince themselves daily that this is as good as it gets + that s okay, they decided to change things. They work with me so they can stop feeling like a fraud, being stressed, angry/frustrated and live a GREAT, meaningful real life. When I am not on the airwaves or coaching clients you can find me near water (my life necessity) coaching the local youth swim team, the AquaMonsters, playing games with family + friends, or enjoying delicious coffee with a good friend. So there you go. Now you know who I am, Koren. And now we can get started on helping you create a GREAT meaningful life + career! WHAT’S IN IT FOR YOU? And if you re listening to this, clearly you are interested in personal development. Maybe you have read a lot of books, gone to conferences and you re looking to take your life to the next level. Maybe you re too busy to read and love podcasts as a portable medium you can take everywhere, to help you create a great life. Either way, I promise you this podcast is going to be for you. You will realize you are not alone. You will receive nuggets of insight in each show. You will learn cutting edge research as I am a bit of a nut over other people s research. You will hear insightful, real + authentic conversations to help you move through the as good as it gets life to a great one! JOIN OUR COMMUNITY Click HERE to register for free!   smiling, The post New Here? Meet Koren appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

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Jason Hartman interviews research scientist, Heidi Grant Halvorson regarding the science behind human motivation and success. There are many successful people in the world who are highly motivated and have concise goals, but how many actually understand why they're successful or why they fail? The common belief is that certain people are just genetically wired to succeed or fail. Heidi states this is not entirely the case and shares the findings of scientific research on achievement. She talks about strategies that people use, principles that people can count on and apply to their own life, and states that our own intuition about what helps us succeed or causes us to fail can often be incorrect. It's not about ability or IQ. Heidi explains the psychological factors behind how people react to challenges, the beliefs and mindsets that people have as they try to reach a goal. Defining success is personal, dependent on an individual's sense of well-being, lasting happiness and autonomy. She says it's important to be specific about goals, to break them down into manageable, specific pieces that are planned out with when and where, and taking the time to define success for ourselves. Jason and Heidi also discuss the relationship between money and happiness, expressing that there is a money point where it does make it easier to make choices and pursue the things individuals find interesting in life, plus containing a sense of accomplishment and opening the door to help others. Unhappiness comes about when a person makes and uses their money for the wrong reasons, lacking sensibility, leading to dissatisfaction. Heidi emphasizes motivation and realistic goals are important. Jason shares his own opinion on wealth, noting that, on the one hand, having more “things” can actually become a burden, but it does allow a person to help others and create experiences and memories. Heidi states that what people do with their wealth is the important factor for fulfillment and happiness. Heidi Grant Halvorson is a rising star in the field of motivational science. She is a an Expert Blogger for Fast Company, The Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, as well as a regular contributor to the BBC World Service'sBusiness Daily, the Harvard Business Review, and SmartBrief's SmartBlog on Leadership.  Her writing has also been featured on CNN Living and Mamapedia. Heidi is also Associate Director of the Motivation Science Center at the Columbia University Business School. In addition to her work as author and co-editor of the highly-regarded academic book The Psychology of Goals (Guilford, 2009), she has authored papers in her field's most prestigious journals, including the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin,European Journal of Social Psychology, and Judgment and Decision Making.   She has received numerous grants from the National Science Foundation for her research on goals and achievement.  Her work has been praised by Carol Dweck and Matthew Kelly, among many others. Dr. Grant Halvorson is a member of the American Psychological Association, the Association for Psychological Science, and the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, and was recently elected to the highly selective Society for Experimental Social Psychology.  She gives frequent invited addresses and speaks regularly at national conferences, and is available for speaking and consulting engagements, primarily in education, marketing, and management. She received her PhD in social psychology from Columbia University.

Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson is a motivational psychologist, speaker, author of SUCCEED: How We Can Reach Our Goals, blogger for Huff Post, Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, SmartBrief, and Psychology Today.

Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson is a motivational psychologist, speaker, author of SUCCEED: How We Can Reach Our Goals, blogger for Huff Post, Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, SmartBrief, and Psychology Today.

How’d you like the scientific low-down on how to effectively set goals and succeed? Well, Heidi Grant Halvorson, the young Positive Psychology superstar, gives you the goods in this awesome book. You might be surprised by what you learn. It’s not all about vision boards and visualization (obviously). In the Note, we’ll explore all kinds of Big Ideas, including the fact that we need to have a specific, difficult (but attainable) goal we believe we can achieve AND awareness of all the challenges that stand in our way. Powerful stuff.

How’d you like the scientific low-down on how to effectively set goals and succeed? Well, Heidi Grant Halvorson, the young Positive Psychology superstar, gives you the goods in this awesome book. You might be surprised by what you learn. It’s not all about vision boards and visualization (obviously). In the Note, we’ll explore all kinds of Big Ideas, including the fact that we need to have a specific, difficult (but attainable) goal we believe we can achieve AND awareness of all the challenges that stand in our way. Powerful stuff.

Heidi Grant Halvorson is a social psychologist and Associate Director of the Motivation Science Center at Columbia Business School. She is the author of four bestselling books, including "Nine Things Successful People Do Differently" and her new book No One Understands You and What To Do About It." In this interview, we discuss the cognitive biases that make authentic interactions so difficult...and what to do about it.

Best selling author and social psychologist Heidi Grant Halvorson discusses motivational styles and how we can ensure people understand who we truly are. It’s a particularly actionable episode, where the listener can learn strategies aimed at effective communication, habit formation and making better motivational decisions.

Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of "No One Understands You and What to Do About It," explains the science of perception.

“How do we create the perception of trust?” That is the million dollar questions for individuals and brands alike. And it’s a central question addressed in Heidi Grant Halvorson’s new book No One Understands You and What to Do About It. I couldn’t wait to talk to this successful social psychologist speaker and author about trust, perception, first impressions, and everything in between on this week’s episode of the podcast. About Heidi Grant Halvorson Heidi Grant Halvorson is a social psychologist who researches, writes, and speaks about the science of motivation. She is the author of the new book No One Understands You and What To Do About It, as well the national best-seller Nine Things Successful People Do Differently. She is also Associate Director of Columbia Business School’s Motivation Science Center, and a frequent contributor to Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, and Business Insider. Heidi is a member of the American Psychological Association, the Association for Psychological Science, and the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, and was recently elected to the highly selective Society for Experimental Social Psychology. She received her PhD in social psychology from Columbia University. As We Wrap … Recently Andrea D. Smith tweeted after listening to last week’s interview with Siegel+Gale’s David Srere saying that she “loved it.” Thanks Andrea! We love hearing that. Did you hear something you liked on this episode or another? Do you have a question you’d like our guests to answer? Let me know on Twitter using the hashtag #OnBrandPodcast and you may just hear your thoughts here on the show. Last but not least … Subscribe to the podcast – You can subscribe to the show via iTunes, Stitcher, and RSS. Rate and review the show – If you like what you’re hearing, head over to iTunes and click that 5-star button to rate the show. And if you have a few extra seconds, write a couple of sentences and submit a review. This helps others find the podcast. OK. How do you rate and review a podcast? Need a quick tutorial on leaving a rating/review in iTunes? Check this out. And don’t forget that this podcast is brought to you by our Brand Driven Digital events series, learn more about Digital Strategy Boot Camp and the industry leading Social Brand Forum now. Until next week, I’ll see you on the Internet!

On this week’s Social Sound Bite – recorded live at the KXIC studios in Iowa City – Jay and I discussed a new retweet feature from Twitter plus speculation on the social network’s acquisition. As Twitter’s stock price crept up Tuesday, so did rumors of a potential takeover from not one but two different suitors including Google! Listen for the full sound bite and enjoy these useful links to the news, trends, and tips included in this week’s show.   Beyond the Sound Bite Twitter officially lets you retweet with comments now (Mashable) Twitter’s stock price rises after Google buyout rumours – not for the first time (The Guardian) Google buying Twitter would be like Microsoft buying Yahoo (Business Insider) Remember, the Social Sound Bite is just the appetizer! On Monday morning we’ll serve up a fresh new episode of the On Brand Podcast. This week we have psychologist, speaker, and author Heidi Grant Halvorson. Last but not least … Subscribe to the podcast – You can subscribe to the show via iTunes, Stitcher, and RSS. Rate and review the show – If you like what you’re hearing, head over to iTunes and click that 5-star button to rate the show. And if you have a few extra seconds, write a couple of sentences and submit a review. This helps others find the podcast. OK. How do you rate and review a podcast? Need a quick tutorial on leaving a rating/review in iTunes? Check this out. Until next week, see you on the Internet!

In this episode (#30! I can't believe it!) I'm in the lab with Dan Tyre, Director at HubSpot. Dan is Hubspot's employee #6. He's been there almost from the beginning and has been a key part of their growth. Dan also developed the concept of smarketing at HubSpot. 1. Can you tell us a little bit about your journey? What led you to HubSpot? I graduated from college in upstate New York, at Colgate University. While I was at school, and afterwards, I was a bass player in a heavy metal rock band. Which was a lot of fun, super exciting, but didn't pay a whole lot. My bass playing days were very fundamental in understanding how to deal with different types of people. I sold dictionaries, working my way through college, door to door in Washington and Oregon. I knew I had a skill there, so I started selling computers in Boston. Then my boss moved to a company by the name of Businessland, a company that IPO-ed in 1983. I had an eight-year run with Businessland, where I worked as a salesperson, sales manager, and general manager. We went through fantastic growth, and I got addicted to fast-growing companies. 2. How do you maintain work/life balance and productivity? There is no such thing as work/life balance. I've got a beautiful wife Amy, who I've been married to for 25 years. We try to set the right boundaries. She knew when we got married that I was pretty hardcore. She's been incredibly accepting of that lifestyle for most of our marriage. If it gets too bad and the travel doesn't work, she's very upfront and will tell me. My family is great and very supportive of all the times I jump on planes. It's not always easy, but they've been a solid support. The only things I do are work and my family. I only have a couple of other outside interests. But work for me isn't work. Work for me is getting on the phone and talking to people like you, doing the Startup Grind, or talking with customers. And that's a ball of fun. I laugh all day. My dog, when I work from home, thinks I'm insane. 3. You've been a driving force in the growth and scale-up of several businesses, and even your own. Are there any keys to to success or tips you can share for an entrepreneur trying to grow their business? 1. Focus: If you're trying to do too many things, you can't concentrate. Any time I come to a guy who's running three or four businesses, I'm always a little skeptical. Running HubSpot is like five full-time jobs. 2. Stay Positive: You're never as good as you think you are, you're never as bad as you think you are. 3. Be Resilient: Being an entrepreneur, by definition, means you're going to get whacked around a little bit. That's the fun of it. If it was easy, everybody would do it. 4. Learn to Sell: Selling is a hugely valuable skill. Everybody is selling every hour of every day. Even on this podcast, you're either buying what I'm saying, or you're not. It's helpful to understand which side of the equation you're on. There's some great books to help with that: New Sales Simplified by Mike Weinberg and SNAP Selling by Jill Konrath. 5. Goals: Figure out your business goals and work towards them. 6. Don't Stop: You can't beat somebody who refuses to stop. Even if you're miserable, even if it's really hard, just put one foot in front of the other. 4. Are there any common challenges you see entrepreneurs struggle with the most? You have to pick your first few employees very selectively. When you're first starting a company, you're going to be hanging with these people a lot. You're going to have to bust tail. We're talking 60 or 80-hour weeks for months and years. Then it becomes a little easier when you have 100 people. But up to that time, everybody's wearing 14 hats. Picking the right people, that you're going to spend all that time with, making sure they have a good attitude, and making sure you have a good business model. 5. Did you have a mentor that helped shape your career and the type of business person you are today? Steve Levy, who was CEO of BBN, a federal contractor for the US government. They actually built the ARPANET, the precursor to the internet. I knew his son, and he said, "If you ever start a company, let me know." He assembled a board of directors for me that was unparalleled. I had this little, less than a million-dollar company. We pulled all the guys on the board together. Four times a year, they would come in and tell me what I needed to do to run my business strategically. They essentially invested my company and helped me grow to do that. All I had to do was buy them dinner four times a year. They weren't big drinkers, so it was a cheap date. They were the smartest guys, and it was such an education to understand board governance and scaling. The only thing Steve asked me to do was, when I got successful, if I could help encourage other entrepreneurs to do the same thing. 6. At Startup Grind, you talked about your approach to managing a team. Can you talk more about it? Motivating people and motivating a team is an incredibly important component to being an entrepreneur. In any relationship, whether it's your significant other, your parental relationship, a business relationship, you have nothing unless you have trust. Trust is critically important. When I take over a team for the first time, or when I recruit somebody, I tell them, "For the next 30 days, all we're going to do is build trust." I also want to make sure I understand their goals. There's a great book by Heidi Grant Halvorson called Success: How We Can Reach Our Goals. The people who set goals, time frames for goals, and tangible goals are going to accomplish more, live longer, be healthier, have stronger relationships, and make more money. I give this book to all my subordinates, tell them to read it, and then ask them to do their goals. 7. Do you have a favorite productivity tool or best practice you can share with entrepreneurs? I'm obsessive about preparation. The reason I wanted these questions in advance is because I think pretty quickly on my feet, but I want to have a logical process. I'm a prep monster. I teach all my folks that until you're really good, and it's like second nature, you always prep. That's my best practice. 8. How can folks connect with you? LinkedIn, Twitter, dtyre@hubspot.com, and dantyre@gmail.com.   Biz Hack This week's biz hack is about how to hack your marketing and overall business recipe by first learning the recipe for creating a pancake. This one actually comes from Christopher S. Penn. If you don't follow him, check out his blog here. In a nutshell, he relates marketing to a simple pancake recipe. Here's the essential elements of a pancake (or any recipe, for that matter): Flour: provides stability Milk: the liquid protein provides the gluten to further support the dough's matrix Baking powder: further supports the dough's matrix (or leavening) and gives the pancake its fluffy characteristic Then of course there's the salt, sugar, and oil to enhance the flavor and keep the pancake from sticking to the pan. So where is all this headed? Well, the folks who know the foundation for a good pancake, and what each of the components does and why it is used, can then make any variety of pancake: paleo, vegan, gluten-free, chocolate chip, pumpkin, banana, blueberry, buttermilk… the list goes on. In these cases, you can swap out certain ingredients for others (cow's milk for almond milk) or increase the amount of others to compensate for eliminating a particular ingredient. Marketing, and even building your business, can also be thought of as a recipe in which the recipe is the tactic. Christopher puts it best: "If you just blindly follow marketing recipes without understanding what they do or what the outcome is supposed to look like, then you'll forever be locked into the same way of doing things, rather than adapting to change." First, you have to know what your end goal is (what is the outcome supposed to look like) and the essential ingredients (the components that can't be changed). Say, for example, you find a recipe that suggests you create a media kit and pitch, and you send it to the 25 top national media outlets. Taking a step back, what is this outcome of this? Establishing your brand's messaging or story (a media kit and pitch force you to document this)? Building brand awareness and credibility (positive media coverage can do this)? But media outreach is not the only route to achieving this outcome. You just have to know what those ingredients do. Then, you can determine what to change. For brand awareness, if reaching out to media is not your gig, you can create an online advertising campaign, speak at notable conferences, or seek out awards for your company. The list goes on. One last thing to keep in mind: while the recipe is the tactic (and a cookbook is your book of tactics), the strategy is the menu. It's more of a high-level look at how each of the recipes fit together. For instance, when a chef is planning a tasting menu, they won't start with a steak and red wine, then dish up a salad paired with a white wine to follow. For winter menus, they also tend to stick to more soul-warming foods, not light, cooling recipes. The season, your audience, your budget, and your goals will all impact your marketing menu (strategy) and the recipes (tactics) you use to achieve that outcome. Action Item Spend some time determining the underlying structure of your marketing or business goals. What is the menu? And what recipes or tactics can be used to make that menu successful? Most importantly, what do each of those recipes do, and how will they help you achieve your end goal? Quote of the Week "There is no failure except no longer trying." — Elbert Hubbard   Join me next week, when I'll be testing out a slightly different format. You'll still get the podcast, but I'll also be posting a video interview to go along with it. This was a suggestion from our next guest, Chris Stark. He is the founder of Digital MGMT and is an incredibly brilliant entrepreneur and digital marketer. It came as no surprise that he suggested I step up my game with video. We talk all about online marketing—a big question mark for a lot of folks. Be sure to tune in! For past Biz Hacks, Action Items and Quotes of the Week, visit, SuccessLabr.com. Until then, have prosperous week!

The old way of setting goals is to sit down every January and set your goals for the next 12 months. But that doesn't work anymore because the world is changing so fast. This means goals quickly become irrelevant and it's too easy to get sidetracked by other priorities. So, instead of setting 12-month goals, do 3-month or 90-day goals. This episode is based on a little book by Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson about how to set and achieve goals. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Heidi Grant Halvorson is Associate Director of the Motivation Science Center at the Columbia Business School. She is co-author (with E. Tory Higgins) of Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World for Success and Influence. In this interview, we talk about the two different motivational focuses people can have on the world, how it affects their behavior, and how mastering these two perspectives can make you a better teammate, leader and even spouse.

Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson, is a social psychologist who researches, writes and speaks about the science of motivation. She is the Associate Director of the Motivation Center at the Columbia Business School and author of the best-selling books: Succeed and the co-author of her latest book, Focus, Use Different Ways of Seeing the World to Power Success and Influence. Last time Heidi and I discussed motivation and influence in ourselves and our careers. Today Heidi has returned to talk specifically about applying her research for parenting – motivating and influencing our children. “How can I end up better off if I do _________?” ~Heidi Grant Halvorson, on How She Really Does It LISTEN HERE In this interview we discuss: Promotion Focus – how are children this way Prevention Focus – how are parents this way How do we communicate with our kids if we have different focus? How do we end up promotion or prevention focused? Influence vs. Control The difference between motivation and influence Two takeaways – key question to ask and what to do as a parent. “What is he missing in his life right now that working hard right now could give him?” ~Heidi Grant Halvorson, on How She Really Does It Mentioned in this Podcast Interview with Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson – Motivating Others Books: Succeed, Focus The Atlantic Article: How Happiness Changes with Age Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson’s website. Focus Workbook (sign into your google account) FREE smiling, The post Heidi Grant Halvorson: Motivating & Influencing Our Children appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

Breast cancer transformed Terri Fedonczak s life by creating clarity that helped her release her pursuit of money and status to focus on cultivating deep relationships with her four girls and her patient husband. On a trip to South Africa, Terri witnessed the power of lionesses as they supported each other within the Pride; it was a lightning bolt of realization, leading her on a mission to bring the Power of the Pride to girls and their parents. Terri s book Field Guide to Plugged-In Parenting, Even If You Were Raised by Wolves pulls together her 22 year experience of raising children, and she shows the reader how you can be raised by wolves and still change your families trajectory by learning new skills and getting clear on your values. Today Terri and I discuss how you can repair your relationship with your teenager. It s never to late. “Parenting is not a spectator sport.” ~ Terri Fedonczak, on How She Really Does It LISTEN HERE In this interview we discuss: Parenting Mistakes How a cancer diagnosis changed her outlook on life. Why a parenting book? Shame in parenting especially for wolf babies. All or nothing – believing you have messed up as a parent and now what? Perfectionism in parenting. Becoming a plugged in parent + creating a happy home Two takeaways – for parents trying to re-build a relationship with their teenager “Plug in to your kids where they are not where you think they should be.” ~ Terri Fedonczak, on How She Really Does It Mentioned in this Podcast Terri’s book Field Guide to Plugged-In Parenting. Terri’s website facebook pinterest Brené Brown interview Heidi Grant Halvorson interview smiling, The post Terri Fedonczak: Repairing Your Relationship with Your Teen appeared first on howshereallydoesit.com.

33voices interviews Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals.

Heidi Grant Halvorson and E. Tory Higgins, authors of "Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World to Power Success and Influence."

Total Duration 42:54 Download episode 94 What Does It Take To Motivate Your Team? One of the common concerns I hear from those who lead projects and teams has to do with motivation. What does it take? An inspirational speech (see the video below!)? Money? Time? All the above, depending on the person? Motivating Project Teams In this episode I talk with Heidi Grant Halvorson and E. Tory Higgins.. They are the authors of a book just released this week entitled Focus: Use Different Ways of Seeing the World for Success and Influence. The underlying research behind the book finds we each tend to have a primary motivational focus or mindset: either promotion or prevention. You'll learn more about what these mean in this episode. I invite you to visit Heidi's website at at http://www.heidigranthalvorson.com/. You can take an assessment to learn your motivational style by visiting http://www.yourfocusdiagnostic.com. Need Some Motivation Hey, you promotion-minded listener! Need a little pick-me-up that will speak right to your promotion-minded heart? Check it out! {youtube}d6wRkzCW5qI{/youtube} BIG BAND from April 1992, from The Music Bakery MILITARY PROCESSION from April 1992, from The Music Bakery GRATITUDE from the album PEACE & QUIET, from The Brain Store.

This on demand audio series is a part of the Executive Girlfriends Group Vignette Series. Chicke Fitzgerald interviews Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson. The original live interview was 7/6/12. Most of us have no idea why we fail to reach our goals. Now Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson, a rising star in the field of social psychology shows us how to overcome the hurdles that have defeated us before. Dr. Halvorson applies real science to the real goals and struggles we all face: losing weight, building better relationships, getting a raise, strengthening willpower, and even just getting up from the couch on those days we feel stuck. Whether one wants to get out of a lousy rut in life or go further faster, "Succeed" presents a comprehensive, step-by-step, scientifically-sound "toolkit" for success. Heidi Grant Halvorson is an Expert Blogger for Fast Company, The Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, as well as a regular contributor to the BBC World Service's Business Daily, the Harvard Business Review, and SmartBrief's SmartBlog on Leadership.  Her writing has also been featured on CNN Living and Mamapedia. Dr. Halvorson's website is http://www.heidigranthalvorson.com/ To order SUCCEED click HERE For more information about the Executive Girlfriends' Group see: http://www.executivegirlfriendsgroup.com

Jason Hartman interviews research scientist, Heidi Grant Halvorson regarding the science behind human motivation and success. There are many successful people in the world who are highly motivated and have concise goals, but how many actually understand why they're successful or why they fail? The common belief is that certain people are just genetically wired to succeed or fail. Heidi states this is not entirely the case and shares the findings of scientific research on achievement. She talks about strategies that people use, principles that people can count on and apply to their own life, and states that our own intuition about what helps us succeed or causes us to fail can often be incorrect. It's not about ability or IQ. Heidi explains the psychological factors behind how people react to challenges, the beliefs and mindsets that people have as they try to reach a goal. Defining success is personal, dependent on an individual's sense of well-being, lasting happiness and autonomy. She says it's important to be specific about goals, to break them down into manageable, specific pieces that are planned out with when and where, and taking the time to define success for ourselves.Jason and Heidi also discuss the relationship between money and happiness, expressing that there is a money point where it does make it easier to make choices and pursue the things individuals find interesting in life, plus containing a sense of accomplishment and opening the door to help others. Unhappiness comes about when a person makes and uses their money for the wrong reasons, lacking sensibility, leading to dissatisfaction. Heidi emphasizes motivation and realistic goals are important. Jason shares his own opinion on wealth, noting that, on the one hand, having more “things” can actually become a burden, but it does allow a person to help others and create experiences and memories. Heidi states that what people do with their wealth is the important factor for fulfillment and happiness.

Total Duration 24:39 Download episode 69 In this episode I continue my interview with Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson, author of Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals and Nine Things Successful People Do Differently. If you happened to miss the first part of the interview, I definitely invite you to check that out as well. In this episode Heidi shares insights on the difference between Be Good and Get Better Goals. Also, she addresses some myths regarding willpower, visualization, and positive thinking: topics that are often miserably mishandled in popular self-help books. I can't tell you how much I appreciate the evidence-based insights that Heidi brings to these topics. I highly recommend your next steps include getting a copy of her Harvard Business Review e-book single entitled Nine Things Successful People Do Differently. It's a very quick read and enormously practical. It's under $4 on Amazon in a Kindle format (and if you don't have a Kindle, you can download one on your computer or other device to read it). For my premium subscribers, make sure to listen to your premium episode which includes free access to a planning worksheet to help you reach your goals this year. If you're not currently a Premium Subscriber, visit http://bit.ly/PremiumSubscribe to learn how to become one. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Have a great week!

Total Duration 25:04 Download episode 68   Additional Episode My interview with Heidi is split between two episodes. Make sure to listen to the second portion where we cover additional practical insights to help us reach our goals this year. For my premium subscribers, you're extra coaching episode will be published along with the second half of the interview. Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Have a great week!

Total Duration 37:45 Download episode 67 The Gift That Keeps on Giving This is a season when giving gifts takes center stage for most of us. Many of us have the gift of some time off before a new year begins. And when that new year gets into full swing, what is one of the biggest gifts you can give those you lead? I'll give you a hint: it doesn't require shiny wrapping or a pretty bow. One of the best gifts to those we lead is the gift of Respect. Encouragement. Clear goals. Autonomy. The resources they need. Creating environments where people love to work is a gift that keeps on giving. And my gift to you this Christmas is an interview with the co-author of one of the most respected business books of 2011. The book is entitled The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work, and the author is Steven Kramer. I actually gave a copy of The Progress Principle as a Christmas gift to a close friend, and I recommend you get yourself a copy as well. Learn more about the book at their website http://www.progressprinciple.com. You may also enjoy reading the article that Steve mentions in the interview regarding managers as heroes. You can find that on HBR's website at http://blogs.hbr.org/hbsfaculty/2011/07/in-a-comment-on-our.html. Well, thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Make sure to check out our upcoming New Year's episode with author and goal expert Heidi Grant Halvorson. For all my listeners who are celebrating Christmas and Hannakuh, have a very relaxing and joy-filled holiday! P.S. Here's a video of co-author Teresa Amabile talking about The Progress Principle at TEDx. {youtube}XD6N8bsjOEE{/youtube}

Welcome to the fifteenth episode of Coaching Skills for Leaders. This week's topic: Get Specific With Goals This week I was listening to the HBR IdeaCast and a recent interview with Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson about her book: 9 Things Successful People Do Differently I've also been reading Get Rid of the Performance Review! by Samuel Colbert To reach me with questions, comments, feedback: CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback Examples of actual ineffective goals: "Communicate more effectively" "Develop leadership skills" "Communication skills to be improved (writing) and get your point across more clearing and concisely" "Improve quality and completion of assigned duties" "Begin working outside of their comfort zone towards new opportunities and/or subject areas" SMART Framework S - Specific M - Measurable A - Attainable R - Relevent T - Time-phased Examples of more effective goals, utilizing the SMART framework: Establish procedures with vendors to reduce year-over-year error rates by 20% before June 30th Become a subject matter expert on departmental software use by achieving Microsoft Office Specialist Certification by the end of the year Develop skill in departmental training activities by facilitating one training class in Q1 of 2012 and receive participant satisfaction scores that are 80% or higher Stay connected with this show on iTunes or on Facebook I'd love your feedback on this show as well as any questions or topics you'd like me to address in future shows: Visit CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback to submit comments, questions, or feedback See you in a week for the next episode!

Welcome to the fifteenth episode of Coaching Skills for Leaders. This week's topic: Get Specific With Goals This week I was listening to the HBR IdeaCast and a recent interview with Dr. Heidi Grant Halvorson about her book: 9 Things Successful People Do Differently I've also been reading Get Rid of the Performance Review! by Samuel Colbert To reach me with questions, comments, feedback: CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback Examples of actual ineffective goals: "Communicate more effectively" "Develop leadership skills" "Communication skills to be improved (writing) and get your point across more clearing and concisely" "Improve quality and completion of assigned duties" "Begin working outside of their comfort zone towards new opportunities and/or subject areas" SMART Framework S - Specific M - Measurable A - Attainable R - Relevent T - Time-phased Examples of more effective goals, utilizing the SMART framework: Establish procedures with vendors to reduce year-over-year error rates by 20% before June 30th Become a subject matter expert on departmental software use by achieving Microsoft Office Specialist Certification by the end of the year Develop skill in departmental training activities by facilitating one training class in Q1 of 2012 and receive participant satisfaction scores that are 80% or higher Stay connected with this show on iTunes or on Facebook I'd love your feedback on this show as well as any questions or topics you'd like me to address in future shows: Visit CoachingforLeaders.com/feedback to submit comments, questions, or feedback See you in a week for the next episode!

Heidi Grant Halvorson, motivational psychologist and author of "Nine Things Successful People Do Differently."

Tahl Raz interviewed Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. a motivational psychologist, and author of Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals. The focus of the interview was Halvorson's explosive article, "Nine Things Successful People Do Differently," that has become the most popular and commented on Harvard Business Review blog post in 2011.