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Author Susan Orlean joins to talk about her upbringing in Shaker Heights, Ohio. She describes the life skills her mom failed to teach and the Hungarian food that reminded her parents of the home they could never return to. Plus we learn about her mother's cocktail party treat, cheese balls. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Register here for the live online event to learn about ‘Cleveland's Amazing Cash Flow Opportunities on Thursday, 3/20. Keith discusses the current state of the real estate market, highlighting that single-family rents have risen 41% since pre-pandemic times, while multi-family rents have increased by 26%. Single-family rents have been rising faster than prices for nine months, benefiting investors.  Austin, Texas, is an example of how increased supply can lower rents, as seen in their drop in rents after the city relaxed building regulations.  Real estate strategy expert, Phil, joins us and explains how this niche method can offer high leverage and cash flow. Show Notes: GetRichEducation.com/544 For access to properties or free help with a GRE Investment Coach, start here: GREmarketplace.com GRE Free Investment Coaching:GREmarketplace.com/Coach Get mortgage loans for investment property: RidgeLendingGroup.com or call 855-74-RIDGE  or e-mail: info@RidgeLendingGroup.com Invest with Freedom Family Investments.  You get paid first: Text FAMILY to 66866 Will you please leave a review for the show? I'd be grateful. Search “how to leave an Apple Podcasts review”  For advertising inquiries, visit: GetRichEducation.com/ad Best Financial Education: GetRichEducation.com Get our wealth-building newsletter free— text ‘GRE' to 66866 Our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/c/GetRichEducation Follow us on Instagram: @getricheducation Complete episode transcript:   Automatically Transcribed With Otter.ai    Keith Weinhold  0:01   Welcome to GRE I'm your host. Keith Weinhold, build it and rents will fall. I discuss the direction of rents and prices. Then a real estate strategy for all time that can generate 8x leverage with investor cash flow and the exact city that could be the most advantageous for it today on get rich education.    since 2014 the powerful get rich education podcast has created more passive income for people than nearly any other show in the world. This show teaches you how to earn strong returns from passive real estate investing in the best markets without losing your time being a flipper or landlord. Show Host Keith Weinhold writes for both Forbes and Rich Dad advisors and delivers a new show every week since 2014 there's been millions of listener downloads of 188 world nations. He has a list show, guess who? Top Selling personal finance author Robert Kiyosaki, get rich education can be heard on every podcast platform, plus it has its own dedicated Apple and Android listener phone apps build wealth on the go with the get rich education podcast. Sign up now for the get rich education podcast, or visit get rich education.com   Corey Coates  1:13   You're listening to the show that has created more financial freedom than nearly any show in the world. This is get rich education.   Keith Weinhold  1:29   Welcome to GRE from elizabeth new jersey to Elizabeth, Colorado and across 188 nations worldwide. I'm Keith Weinhold, get rich education, founder, Forbes real estate council member, Best Selling Author and long time real estate investor, you are inside, get rich education. What's that all really mean? Ah, I'm just another slack jod and snaggletooth podcaster.nationally, rents for single family homes are growing faster than for multi family apartments. Okay, that you might have already known, because for a few years, we've been in this era where available single family rentals are scarce and apartments are closer to being adequately supplied across the nation. We're now at the point where median single family home rents are up 41% since those blissful and Halcyon pre pandemic days, and yet, multifam rents are up just 26% since that time. So it's 41 versus 26 and that's all according to a new report from Zillow. Now you probably listen to this show every week, so although that might be a helpful update, you probably don't find those facts surprising at all. But here's a more nascent trend that could surprise you. Every single month for the past nine months now, single family rents have risen faster than single family prices. Yeah, the John Burns home value index is up 3.3% annually, and the rent index shows that those rents are up 3.6% so 3.6 versus 3.3 really not a big gap there, but single family rents rising faster than prices for nine months. You know that's exactly what swings things into your favor as a real estate investor, it increases your ratio of rent income to purchase price. This has been happening because for someone that needs housing out there, paying rent has looked more affordable than buying a home. So then those things have to soon come back into balance. Now you remember that five months ago, I visited Austin, Texas, walked the streets and with all of the new building of apartment towers there, I called it America's oversupply, ground zero for apartments. Well, I'm not sure if you've noticed, but here, a few months later, major media sources are now reporting on the same thing that I was telling you about on the ground five months ago, and this is really insightful for real estate investors in a real world case study that will be on every intro to economics syllabus this fall, rents in Austin, Texas plunged. They fell 22% from their peak a couple years ago after the city accelerated permitting processes and scaled back the rules on building height, and this is exactly what created Austin's apartment supply surplus and therefore lower prices for renters. Bloomberg was the one recently reporting on this. So Austin's, if you build it, rents will fall mantra that created about 50,000 new units over just the past two years, a 14% increase. I mean, that is the biggest spike in supply of any US city. Over that time, just tons of cranes in the air. And by the way, the median asking rent in Austin, Texas is now $1,400 remarkably, though, that is down a full 400 bucks from the height of the pandemic. I mean, that is such an aberration That is so weird and rare. Yeah, Austin rents dropped from $1,800 down to $1,400 in in fact, that is so weird, and they've fallen so much that notoriously pricey Austin is no longer the most expensive city in Texas. It's now DFW. And you know, this is astounding on a few levels, because typically rents are even more stable than home prices. Gosh, but now to take off our investor hat for just a minute. Don't worry, we'll put it right back on. This is what society needs. I mean, how in the world are we the nation that put a man on the moon in 1969 yet we can't house our own people today. It's what I've discussed before. We need to build more. If you build it, rents will fall. If you build it, home, prices will become affordable. Again, we're not doing enough of that. Not enough places are following Austin's model. Up zoning, as I've told you before, up zoning. That's the name for allowing taller building heights. And you know what? That's something that both developers and environmentalists often like. Both types developers get what they want, and environmentalists know that housing and the economics of that are more efficient. There's less energy use in everything when we build up and we build apartments rather than single family homes, Austin relaxed regulations and they got it done. So congrats to them. I mean, that is a model for what we can do to address not only housing affordability, but the swelling homelessness problem like I enjoy talking about as well. So yeah, congrats, Austin, though you might have gotten too far ahead of your growth for the short term. America really needs the housing so thank you.    Now here's some ominous news for society and the economy. I wouldn't make too much of it yet, but the Atlanta Fed tracker has plunged. They're now forecasting a shrinking economy this quarter, minus one and a half percent. GDP is a projection which that gets us going down into recession territory, and part of the reason for that is this recent drag in consumption. But news like that can come and go, and we all know how frightfully just laughably bad recession predictions have been for years. We haven't had one in five years. So I want you to get the longer term lesson here, because things pop up like this over time. What usually happens to real estate in a recession? Because we know that there's going to be one. No one knows when. What happens is that unemployment rises. That is bad, home prices go up. Yes, home prices typically rise modestly in a recession. Just remember, since World War Two, home prices only fell significantly in one period, and it was a bad one in those years around 2008 what happens to interest rates? Interest rates of all kinds. In a recession, they fall. Interest rates fall. The Fed make sure that happens, and the reason for that is rates fall because the economy needs the help to review what you've learned so far today, single family rents are rising faster than apartment rents. Single Family rents are rising faster than single family home prices, although not by much. And Austin is proof that if you build it, prices will fall. And during recessions, residential real estate is a good place to be. Then let's say it's a widespread job loss recession as we pivot into the core content of today's show, you're probably quite familiar with the turnkey real estate investing model, where ideally on day one of your property ownership, your income property is either new or renovated. There's a tenant in it. It's under management, and you might even get a little trickle of tenant rent at the closing table. All right, but instead, what if you had six months of patience you own the property for those months through the renovation, and what's your reward for doing that? It is both high leverage and high cash. Flow, potentially, and usually those notions are antagonistic. High leverage means low cash flow and vice versa, but not with what we're talking about today, my expert guest and I discuss how you can have both the cash flow, which is like your spending money, and the leverage that constitutes your long term wealth growth, and he has bought, renovated and sold more than 2000 properties. And my guest and I go back more than 10 years before I go to break where you hear who sponsored the show this week, I have a trivia question for you, and you'll see what this has to do with our episode soon enough, Ohio has six cities with a population of 100,000 or more. Name them. Name those six Ohio cities. I'll give you your answer later. I'm Keith Weinhold. You're listening to get rich education.   You know what's crazy, your bank is getting rich off of you. The average savings account pays less than 1% it's like laughable. Meanwhile, if your money isn't making at least 4% you're losing to inflation. 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Text family to 66866,    hey, you can get your mortgage loans at the same place where I get mine, at Ridge lending group NMLS, 42056, they provided our listeners with more loans than any provider in the entire nation, because they specialize in income properties, they help you build a long term plan for growing your real estate empire with leverage. You can start your pre qualification and chat with President Caeli Ridge personally. Start Now while it's on your mind at Ridge lendinggroup.com, that's Ridge lendinggroup.com.    Richard Duncan  12:46   This is Richard Duncan, publisher and macro watch, listen to get rich education with Keith Weinhold, and don't quit your Daydream.   Keith Weinhold  13:02   We were last graced with the presence of this week's guest about two and a half years ago. Since then, we had dinner together in Boston. He is a long time experience expert in the real estate BRRRR strategy will explain, and he knows just the exact few markets where the strategy really works and where it doesn't, and he explains how this can deeply accelerate your ROI and your portfolio growth and get this he's been a real estate investor since he bought his first rental property in 1978 he's been working the burst strategy and mentoring others on it since before there even was a burr acronym, brrr, he has mentored and coached more than 5000 investors. Oh, it's great, Phil, welcome back onto the show.   Phil Alexander  13:54   Keith. Thanks so much. It's such a pleasure to be here. It's always great to see you, and the time really flew from when we were able to break bread together in Boston, which is my hometown. And as I recall, we went to America's oldest restaurant, the union Oyster House, which was a fun experience   Keith Weinhold  14:14   right, where there are lobsters crawling all over the place. Yeah, that was a cool distinction to meet with you in America's oldest restaurant there in Boston. Pretty unforgettable. Phil, though you're from Boston, well, that's not really where the cash flowing numbers work so much you're an expert in the art of the BRRRR  the real estate, buy, rehab, rent, refinance and repeat strategy, and then we'll discuss the market that you say is number one in the USA for this so really high level, big picture. For those that don't know, what is the burr strategy? What makes it so compelling?   Phil Alexander  14:55   There are a lot of different ways Keith to discuss the burr. Strategy. It really is nothing more than a turnkey property. However, in the old days, I'll say, you know, I've been in the business for over two decades, we would sell turnkey properties, and a buyer or investor would come to us, and we'd show them a number of properties that were available. They'd pick one, we'd renovate it, and then they would have it inspected, and then we would correct against that ugly inspection report, and then they probably would be using leverage, so there'd be an appraisal, and then we'd put a qualified tenant in place. And after all that had happened, we would close on the property, and they'd be cash flowing from day one. There's nothing wrong with that approach and strategy. It's very conservative, but relative to the burst strategy, Keith The one big element that's missing in the classic turnkey model, there's no built in equity. And what the burst strategy does is it allows the investor to create value through that renovation, and it's nothing more really than a developer himself or herself does when they renovate the property to create value, and in doing so, you then wait a prescribed period of time, often called a seasoning period, and then you do a cash out refi to pull out that built in equity that you created yourself. And the idea then is to recycle that cash and buy into your next property.   Keith Weinhold  16:35   Why don't you give us a real example with some numbers?    Phil Alexander  16:40   Let's say you could find a place. Now, anybody in California is going to listen to this say this doesn't happen because you can't buy houses for this. But trust me, you can't. You buy a house for $60,000 you renovate it for $40,000 that means you have $100,000 invested in that property. However, you bought that house because you knew, once renovated, it was likely to be worth, let's say, conservatively, 120,000 and yet, when you go and do the cash out refi often at six months from the time you acquired the property in the first place, you're going to be able to pull out up to 75% of that appraised value. I'll do the math for you quickly. 75% of that $120,000 is $90,000 you only put 100,000 into the property in the first place. So at a glance, that suggests that you've gotten this property for $10,000 Well, to be fair, you do have closing costs. So let's say the closing costs and the finance fees on that cash out refi loan are about $5,000 so in essence, for $15,000 you now own a property worth 120,000 now an illustration of the value of this BRRRR strategy is if you were to go and buy that very same house, 420,000 renovated, tenanted, cash flowing, it would cost you 20% down, which would be $24,000 plus finance fees and closing costs would push it to or over $30,000 here's the bottom line. Would you rather get it so it's cash flowing from day one after closing, no built in equity and 30 or $32,000 out of pocket? Or would you rather get it where you only have 15,000 out of pocket? And I can do the math on that and tell you that you're more than doubling your cash on cash return with the BRRRR strategy   Keith Weinhold  19:07    yes, and you've also increased your leverage ratio in the example that you gave after waiting six months, much of which includes waiting for that rehab to take place, you have A 120k property. Like you said, you only have 10k into it. Maybe add five more K to that for closing costs and such. So you've got 15k into a 120k property. That is an eight to one leverage ratio,   Phil Alexander  19:33   exactly. And there are numerous other examples, typically speaking, Keith in good investor advantaged markets with the burst strategy. You can expect after leverage, after that, cash out refinance loan to be netted in the range of 200 to $250 per month cash flow. That's the rental property the. Less all of the direct expenses, less your monthly payment on the loan. Your net positive cash flow every month is between 202 150 in most good markets,   Keith Weinhold  20:13   that is really good on a single family home, because typically when you have a higher leverage ratio, when you're borrowing more, that really crunches your cash flow. But in this terrific example that you gave, it does not So Phil to help distinguish the burr strategy from an investor buying a turnkey property. To make that distinction, I think of the turnkey provider is really already doing the first three letters of the BRRRR acronym for you, because the turnkey company, they buy it, they rehab it, and they rent it before selling it to you. They're doing the first three for you here, when you hang around for all five letters of the acronym, you can be the beneficiary of what you just described.    Phil Alexander  20:58   Spot on, Keith, that's exactly right. The bottom line is, I think a game changer for our company of late is that we have found a market where you could earn two to three times the net positive cash flow on a monthly basis with the BRRRR strategy.    Keith Weinhold  21:19   Yes, we're going to get into just where that market is, the number one market in the USA for the burr strategy, in Phil's opinion. But Phil, I think before some people wrap their head around the BRRRR strategy, sometimes they consider the investor doing this themselves. What's intimidating about doing BRRRR by yourself is that first R in the burr strategy, the rehab, it seems like a nightmare, especially across state lines for an investor to find and retain and to manage contractors, but you have a system where this is all integrated.   Phil Alexander  21:57   exactly, you Know, Keith, I consider the two biggest pain points for an early investor is actually that first letter the B. You can buy properties anywhere, but the trick and the key is to buy a property that you know, with proper renovation of a rental standard, in fact, will be worth, generally, 20 to 30% more than your out of pocket cost. The second pain point is the construction component, finding a contractor, managing a contractor, keeping the contractor on the job and productive and not running away with your money.   Keith Weinhold  22:44   We make you lose faith in humanity. Yeah,   Phil Alexander  22:48   yeah. We don't really even need to go into detail more on that, but you're absolutely right, and what we do, which I think has made a significant difference, we have our own crews. We're able to have the projects managed. We have detailed scopes of work, for example, that detail line by line, item by item, the scope of work and the draw schedule to renovate a property and deliver it on time, on budget, without exception,   Keith Weinhold  23:21   tell us about the track record of the team in the contractors. I think most people's bad experience starts with day one, when the contractor shows up 45 minutes late with beer on their breath.   Phil Alexander  23:35   It could be, it could be, I am blessed. Currently, I'm active in three markets, although during my career, I've worked in 19 different markets around the country, not become fickle, but because markets do come and go. But I'm in Baltimore and Philadelphia and Cleveland right now, and the bottom line is that I have cruise boots on the ground in every market, and my one general contractor that oversees all three markets, he's been with me for over 15 years. As you mentioned earlier, I've been in the business for over two decades. We've just been doing this, like you said, since before there was an acronym to what we were doing. It's just a sensible thing to do. We know each other well. We get the scope of work done accordingly. That's something that we, with pride, say is a guaranteed number, which you don't often find in this business. Meaning if we have not gotten it right, if we have screwed it up, if we find something that we missed when we were, you know, reviewing the house and drawing together the scope of work, that's not the client's problem. That's our problem. If we say the rehab is 50,000 the rehab is 50,000 period there is no cost overrun.   Keith Weinhold  24:58   We don't want. Contractors smelling like Michelob Ultra we want contractors smelling like sawdust and WD 40. But Phil, you talked about the specific markets that you work in because they're burr advantage markets, Cleveland, Philadelphia and Baltimore. Tell us about the one that is number one in the nation right now, and why   Phil Alexander  25:21   Cleveland, Ohio. And it's not because my dad was from Cleveland. When we were kids, we all played I haven't met one person who hasn't on a seesaw, if you recall, you know, and now in your mind's eye, imagine the seesaw. One end is home prices and the other end is annual return. When the home prices are high, the returns are low. When the home prices are lower, the returns are higher. That's why, sadly, for virtually everybody on the West Coast, my hometown of Boston, New York, Washington, DC, South Florida. These are amongst, to put it bluntly, the worst markets in the country to try and cash flow positive. What makes Cleveland, however, especially unique. I'm oversimplifying, perhaps, but it is blessed to have both lower home prices than most markets, but very healthy real world rents, and that's a juxtaposition that causes extreme cash flows. I think at the current moment, I might have one property that doesn't cash flow 500 or more dollars per month, net positive cash flow, as we were discussing, 200 to 250 is normal for a good market, even in my other markets of Baltimore and Philadelphia. But you come to a market like Cleveland, and it's absolutely extraordinary. This is a perfect segue, if you'll allow me to the thing that makes us and me different. There's a billionaire car dealer by the name of herb chambers in Boston. In fact, he just sold, I understand his business for $1.58 billion massive car dealer. That's not important. What is important is his whole marketing mantra, Keith, is I don't sell you cars. I help you acquire your next vehicle. I don't just sell investors houses, Keith, I have taken an approach, and I've been doing this for a number of years, where I help investors achieve their goals. I have a very specific process, and I'd be happy to share, if you'll allow me, yeah, I first ask people about their war chest. To me, that's the amount of liquid capital they have to invest when they're ready to pull the trigger. It's not just cash in the bank. It can be equity in a home that they can pull out with a home equity line of credit, a HELOC, maybe they have a retirement account that they're able to borrow against. It's their money, after all, but that amount of cash is your war chest, and frankly, I'm not one of those people who says, You can buy real estate with no money, if you have maybe $30,000 or more, I can get you in the game. The second question I ask is, what's your goal? Because every one of us in this business has a goal. Every one of us, I don't need to know the specific goal. But whether it's to have your partner give up the nine to five job, or you want to give up the 90 to five job yourself, every goal has a cost. So what I seek to find out or learn is, what is your number in terms of a goal, how many 1000s of dollars of passive income every month are you looking to achieve? And then the last question is, time frame? Are you looking to achieve that goal in? What three years, five years, 10 years. And then, simply put, whatever the answers are, I show you how it's going to happen.   Keith Weinhold  29:18    See, these are the types of questions that your everyday realtor just doesn't ask you. I mean, Phil doesn't just sell you houses. He helps you achieve your stated goals for passive income. There's nothing wrong with an everyday realtor, but that's just not the lane that 98% of them are in. And what makes this burr strategy so compelling? I'm just doing calculations, not even on the back of a napkin, but in my head here, if you've got eight to one leverage, like we do in the example here, even if you have 3% annual appreciation on a property, that's a 24% return on the 15k of skin in the game that you have here. And then additionally, if you achieve $500 Dollars of monthly cash flow once your burr property is done, that's $6,000 a year divided by only 15k of skin in the game. That's a 40 or 40% cash on cash return in addition to the leverage depreciation that stepped up. And these are two of only five ways you're paid. This is why people love the burr strategy, if you've got the patience to wait six months,   Phil Alexander  30:25   here's the other thing too. A lot of people say, Is it possible to cash out earlier? And the answer actually is yes, but you have to be prepared to decide what's that worth to you. Meaning, if you wait six months, you can expect 75% of the appraised value. However, I have some lenders that I can introduce that will do a DSCR loan, debt service coverage ratio loan, which is against the cash flow capability of the house rather than the credit worthiness of the borrower, and they'll do it at three months, and yet it'll be at 65% perhaps of the appraised value, a lower loan to value or LTV. But still, it's a cool way to roll plain and simple.    Keith Weinhold  31:18   Yes, so Phil, here, he offers you total solutions. It's not just helping you with the Property selection, it's renovation by his license, then insured crews, introductions to the financing needs that you might have hash out, refinance introductions and that all important professional property management, unless you choose to manage the property yourself. And Phil, I want to ask you more about Cleveland and just the neighborhoods that you're selecting in a moment, but I've got great news here. You get to join Phil live. He and a GRE investment coach are co hosting Cleveland's amazing cash flow opportunity with the burr strategy, and you can join from the comfort of your own home. It is just 10 days from today, Thursday, March 20, at 8pm Eastern. Registration is open now at GRE webinars.com I suggest you register. We had hundreds of registrants for our last BRRRR event, which was last year. But Phil, tell us more about what you'll let us know on that webinar when it comes to Cleveland areas and neighborhoods.   Phil Alexander  32:26   Sure thing Keith, Cleveland's a pretty dynamic and interesting town. Of course, most people know it's the home of the rock and roll, Hall of Cleveland rocks and Exactly. And there are so many things about Cleveland that I think are really kind of cool to get to know. First of all, we talk or you mentioned appreciation, home price appreciation in Cleveland last year, 7% Yeah, crazy, absolutely crazy. The cost of living is well below the national average, it's at 6% below. Now here's the interesting thing, too, the rent to own ratio of people who rent versus own, very strong 59% rent. And of course, if you're a landlord, what does that mean? It means a greater opportunity to have qualified tenants in place with very low vacancy periods regardless. Now the average rent is $1,433 a month, which, again, when you're talking about properties, the average price of which, even with the renovation, is between 100 and 130,000 let's say 14 133 is even ahead of that cool little metric that we sometimes call the 1% rule, where the rent is at or above 1% of the value of The property. It's a small city only about 360,000 people the metro area, of course, a bit larger, at 1.7 million. And there are a number of top employers, and you know, the Cleveland Clinic, obviously well known Progressive Insurance. Love their ads. Sherwin Williams, you think about that the next time you want to go paint, but it's as to where we're investing principally we target Keith. What often are called C and C plus neighborhoods this week, yeah, often on the eastern, southeastern side of the downtown. Of course, to the north, you've got Lake Erie, so you don't want to get wet, so that you stay east, west or south. And yet, there are a number of places, maybe areas, if you're familiar with Cleveland, like Shaker Heights, Maple Heights, Brooklyn Heights, Cleveland. Heights, University Heights, all of these areas are considered suburbs with high taxes, uniquely so we tend to stay away from those, but in close proximity, we're all around them, and we benefit in terms of appreciation by being all around them, but not being in them, because you don't achieve any higher rent in those suburbs, but you do have the higher taxes, and in that respect, we're able to enjoy these outsized returns.    Keith Weinhold  35:37   This is a rare opportunity for you to meet Phil, someone with this wealth of experience. And of course, the benefit of showing up live, if you so choose, is you can ask a question yourself and have it answered. Phil, do you have any last thoughts overall with anything, whether that's the burr strategy or Cleveland itself, or anything else?   Phil Alexander  36:00    First of all, a lot of people ask me, Keith, you know, with rates mortgages and this and that, what do you think I heard? Maybe they're going to go down in the spring or the summer? Should I wait? The answer is no, the best time to invest is yesterday, and you will always be able, in a market like Cleveland, for example, to enjoy strong, positive cash flow. And you know something, as I said before, I've worked in 19 different markets. As soon as Cleveland stops being such a cash cow, I guess I'll have to move on and find the next great thing. But until then, I'm in Cleveland.    Keith Weinhold  36:40   It is supply demand. Our listeners know, as I've shared with them, that the Northeast in the Midwest are under built markets. So you have the opportunity to own an asset that everyone is going to want in the future. It ought to be great. Phil, it should be terrific 10 days from now. Thanks so much for coming on to the show.   Phil Alexander  37:01    It's my extreme pleasure, Keith, I have to say, in all the years that I've known you and known your listeners, they are easily amongst the best educated and most serious investors I have the pleasure to deal with. So it's always a pleasure to come back and thank you for having me.    Keith Weinhold  37:19   That's really kind. Thanks for saying that.   Yeah, excellent. BRRRR. Breakdown from Phil the consummate expert. In fact, when we had dinner at America's oldest restaurant, we sat just across from JFK, his favorite booth. He used to dine there. He was also a Bostonian. Of course, which six Ohio cities have a population of more than 100,000 people? They are Akron, Cincinnati, then, of course, the subject of today's show and our upcoming live event, Cleveland. Also Columbus, Dayton and Toledo of all 50 states, Ohio has tons of industry diversity. They had the nation's seventh largest population, and Ohio's population is slowly growing. A number of GRE buyers, just like you, have already connected with our investment coaching, so therefore you got the introduction to Phil and have already bought BRRRR through Phil, including in Cleveland, but he is sourcing more of them for this event. Phil and I looked at some Cleveland single family rental pro formas together that utilized the burr strategy that cash flow over $600 even two properties that cash flow over $700 but I would say those results are not typical. The ARVs after repair values have been pretty good. What Phil does is he runs comps of properties within a quarter mile before the appraisal. And you know, to give you a little behind the scenes. He bought the same software that lenders use to run valuation reports. So he has it himself. Phil has shown me proformas where you get cash back at closing, and therefore what that means are infinite returns. Though that's not an expectation that you should have, though it's nice when it happens, people are often buying two or three properties at a time. And to give you a little more, behind the scenes, Phil has his own in house wholesale unit for helping source these properties. And for every 100 properties, he buys two to five of them, Cleveland rocks. But even if you're more into rep, it's completely free to sign up for our webinar. You'll learn the nuances of what makes the burr strategy so lucrative, what makes Cleveland advantageous, and have any of your questions answered. It's coming up next week, already, March 20, at 8pm Eastern. I mean, this is the kind of event that can alter the trajectory of your entire investor life. Sign up is open. Save your spot now at GRE webinars.com that's GRE webinars.com until next week. I'm your host. Keith Weinhold, don't quit your Daydream.   Speaker 1  40:20   Nothing on this show should be considered specific, personal or professional advice. Please consult an appropriate tax, legal, real estate, financial or business professional for individualized advice. Opinions of guests are their own. Information is not guaranteed. All investment strategies have the potential for profit or loss. The host is operating on behalf of get rich Education LLC, exclusively. You   Keith Weinhold  40:48   The preceding program was brought to you by your home for wealth, building, getricheducation.com  

Brittany in Shaker Heights received an Amazon Package that she's sure was intended for her ex-boyfriend.

*Trigger Warning: This episodes mentions suicide. If you or anyone you know are struggling with thoughts of suicide please reach out to the Suicide Crisis Helpline at 9-8-8 (available anywhere in Canada).* Stacy Blemaster grew up in Shaker Heights, Ohio. She received a BA from Brown University in theater and then went on to be licensed in counseling and human services, earning a MA from John Carroll University. She has two autistic sons, and a daughter- all now adults. She resides in Placida, Florida, with her husband Robert and two Golden Retrievers, Libby and Lacey. Instagram: StacyBlemasterauthor Website: https://stacyblemaster.com/ Her new book: To Be or Not To Be: Shedding an As-If Personality Email: stacyblemaster@gmail.com

Jasmine in Shaker Heights received an unexpected Christmas gift from a friend. Does she have to reciprocate?

On today's show: Has Bill found a trick to getting better sleep? Alyssa's husband Bryce was out shoveling snow wearing only a t-shirt. Alyssa is having trouble filling her windshield wiper fluid. Am I The Bleephole? Jasmine in Shaker Heights received an unexpected Christmas gift from a friend. Alyssa's College of Knowledge rounds 1 and 2! Alyssa needs a hookup and is searching for a plug. Plus, do you carry around an extra pair of underwear with you wherever you go?

As the final installment to this topic, the crew hit the road to Shaker Heights.  You will appreciate the open discussion.

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Stacy Blemaster defied odds when she was told that she would never live a normal life outside of a mental health facility. After a number of incorrect diagnoses, Stacy finally found a doctor who listened to her and allowed her to open up and feel validated. Detailing her childhood, college life and mental health challenges in To Be Or Not To Be: Shedding An As-If Personality, Stacy details what it's like to have manic episodes, be in and out of treatment, deal with toxic family members who fear the stigma of mental illness and to the other side of finally healing and living a life of fulfillment and happiness as her true authentic self. Stacy is sharing her story to help others find happiness, create true relationships with others, shed as-if images and to feel their feelings. In this episode, we discuss: Defying Limits - How Stacy Overcame the Challenge of Being Told She'd Never Live Outside of a Mental Health Facility & The Stigma of Mental Illness Stop Acting - Finding Your Authentic Self on the Stage of Real Life The Power of One: Finding Acceptance from Just One Person Can Save You Stacy grew up in Shaker Heights, Ohio. She received a BA from Brown University, where she majored in theater, and then went on to be licensed in counseling and human services, earning an MA from John Carroll University. She has two autistic sons and a daughter -- all now adults. She resides in Placida, Florida, with her husband, Robert and their two Golden Retrievers, Libby and Lacey. Learn more: https://stacyblemaster.com/ https://instagram.com/stacyblemasterauthor --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/maria-leonard-olsen/support

In Episode 44 of DineDrinkCLE: The Podcast, hosts Alex Darus and Josh Duke chat with Marc Bona about Kiln, a new American bistro by chef Doug Katz opening in Shaker Heights. Peter Cherian joins to discuss some Classic CLE Eats, including some very sweet treats. Alex and Josh also unpack Flight Social and La Pecora, two new Cleveland restaurants, and announce that they will be hosting Grog Shop's back-off competition.

David Wain is the director and co-writer of six feature films, including Wet Hot American Summer, Role Models, Wanderlust, They Came Together and A Futile and Stupid Gesture.  On television, Wain co-created, directed and co-starred in The State, Childrens Hospital, Stella, Medical Police, and two Wet Hot American Summer mini-series for Netflix. Currently he is the director and executive producer of Mr. Throwback, starring Steph Curry and Adam Pally.  He's acted in dozens of movies & TV shows including Broad City, Another Period, Drunk History, Portlandia, Bob's Burgers, Murderville and his own web series Wainy Days.  And over the past few years, he's been jamming, touring, and making videos as the drummer in the Middle Aged Dad Jam Band. He grew up in Shaker Heights, Ohio, then did 26 years in Manhattan before moving to Los Angeles where he now lives with his two teenage sons. Lots more at davidwain.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In Episode 41 of DineDrinkCLE: The Podcast, hosts Josh Duke and Alex Darus are joined by Paris Wolfe to explore the region's best farm markets. They discuss the rebrand of Paloma in Shaker Heights and introduce Cleveland's new French brasserie, La Ville Lumière. Later, the hosts recap the Little Italy Meatball Crawl, and Peter Chakerian stops by to talk Franklin Castle Pumpkin Spice Ale and whether the pumpkin spice craze is over.

How do you deal with intense emotions in your teens. It's challenging right? You are going to love this episode. Today we are going to dive into a teenager's emotional life. I think what makes parenting teens so challenging is dealing with their intense emotions. Sometimes you're the target of their emotional storms and sometimes they turn their emotions inward. You worry about them being depressed or anxious. How many times have we brought up a simple request to our teen, but it turns out to be not so simple because it triggers a huge emotional response? Moms can find themselves avoiding talking about important topics because they don't know how to handle their emotions. I invited Dr. Lisa Damour, the author of The Emotional Lives of Teenagers, to talk about this nuanced subject of teenage emotions. In this episode we focus on her chapter called Managing Emotions, Part One: Helping Teens Express Their Emotions and the following chapter called Managing Emotions, Part Two: Helping Teens Regain Emotional Control Recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association, Lisa Damour, Ph.D., co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, writes about adolescents for the The New York Times, appears as a regular contributor to CBS News, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and maintains a clinical practice. She is the author of three New York Times bestsellers, The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents, Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood and Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls. She and her husband have two daughters and live in Shaker Heights, Ohio. To find out more about the Emotional Lives of Teenagers go to https://drlisadamour.com/  Follow Lisa on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lisa.damour/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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 Matthew Campbell of My Wedding Songs and singer/songwriter E. Walter Smith chat about his new song "Little Girl The Remix" and his career. Purchase "Little Girl - The Remix"E. Walter Smith's “Wedding Day!” is the perfect soundtrack to the most important day of a couple's life…Wedding Day! The honey baritone, Pop/R&B/Dance singer/songwriter's career started in Shaker Heights, Ohio, and then blossomed when he moved to Atlanta, Georgia, and recorded his New York Times About.com Top 5 R&B Wedding Song, “Little Girl.”E.'s contemporary brand of love & romance offers a fresh vision for a timeless covenant, and breathes new life into hope and “happily ever after.”Connect with E. Walter SmithWebsite: https://ewaltersmith.comIG: @ewaltersmithFB: @ewalter.smithShow Notes:-Writing and Performing Song for Brother-Promotion in St. Thomas-Vow Renewal at Festival-Song for Bride's Processional-Performance Preparation-Your Style of Music-Music Influencers-Performing as Nat King Cole-Inspiration from Talent Show-Favorite Personal Songs-The Story of Little Girl - the Remix -Little Girl - The Remix Details-Custom Wedding Songs-Upcoming Projects-Wedding Day ProjectA Word About My Wedding SongsMy Wedding Songs is a resource of wedding song suggestions. Shop our books and planning guides including Wedding Pros - "The Wedding Songs Planner" and for Engaged Couples - "The Wedding Music Toolkit". Join 8k+ engaged couples/DJs/wedding pros on the weekly Wedding MusicLetter.

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Caregiving for aging and dying parents can be tough for anyone, but it's even tougher when it forces you to confront longtime family dynamics of abuse. Sociologist Deborah Cohan blurs the lines between academic research on family caregiving and violence, and her own personal story about a father she calls both adoring and abusive.  Her memoir is called Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption. Transcript DEBORAH COHAN: Time is really strange in a nursing home. People are motivated by the mealtimes. Newspaper delivery is listed as an activity. They're just mundane activities in my life or your life, but they become these big events at these nursing homes. When you're there, and you're well, and you're witnessing that, it's really hard to watch and to do time the way they're doing time. BLAIR HODGES: Deborah Cohan knows there's nothing easy about caregiving for a dying parent. She watched over her father as he spent the last few years of his life in a nursing home. Witnessing a parent's decline into dementia is hard enough, but Deborah's situation was especially complicated because it happened after she endured years of emotional and verbal abuse from her father. What's it like to want abuse to stop, but a relationship to continue? Is it possible to forgive someone who can't even remember what they did? Deborah's answers to these questions might surprise you. She draws on her expertise as a sociologist and a domestic abuse counselor to make sense of her own life after her father's death. Her book is called Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption. Deborah joins us to talk about it right now. There's no one right way to be a family and every kind of family has something we can learn from. I'm Blair Hodges, and this is Family Proclamations. A UNIQUE BOOK ON ELDERCARE (1:50) BLAIR HODGES: Deborah J. Cohan, welcome to Family Proclamations. DEBORAH COHAN: Thank you so much for having me, Blair. It's great to be here. BLAIR HODGES: It's great to have you. Deborah, there are a lot of books out there about caregiving for aging parents. There are also a lot of books out there about what it's like to witness and experience abuse in families. But there aren't a whole lot of books that are about both of those things in the same book. You've written a book here about what it means to care for an ageing and ill parent who also happens to have been an abuser. That's how you introduce it. Talk about the decision to write a book like that. It's a unique book. DEBORAH COHAN: Thanks for noticing that. I guess sometimes we write the books we wish existed so we could have them as our own guide, and as an expert in domestic violence, and also as someone who's studied the sociology of families, it made perfect sense for me to create what I call a "braided memoir." These two stories are very much interlocking in the book, and in many people's lives. Even if there's not actual abuse in someone's family, there's so much relatable stuff in the book because of the different complicated dynamics we all find ourselves in just by living in our families. Most families have some complicated dynamics of some sort. I was really trying to help others to think about that, and to think about how these two things that are happening in the culture are really often happening at the same time, which is the complicated family piece, and also the fact that more and more people are involved in some amount of caregiving. And it tends to be gendered, where women tend to be doing it more. BLAIR HODGES: You're a specialist who's studied family violence as well. You say “family violence is a dynamic process. It's not an event or an isolated set of events.” It's an environment and you say it unfolds and takes different shapes, often over years of time. Now in your own personal experience, you've come to see how it can be lodged in caregiving. Talk a little bit about that. DEBORAH COHAN: A lot of times when domestic violence is talked about, especially in the media, we hear about it as an episode, or we hear about it as an incident—sort of an isolated event. What I learned through working with violent men for so many years at the oldest battering intervention program in the country—which is Emerge in Boston—and also working with survivors, is that these things that are referred to as “incidents” or “events” or “episodes,” they are connected experiences. It usually escalates over time. If practitioners and advocates and others in the field, and even just people's friends, can help people to see the connection and help them connect the dots between this episode and then this one—because I talk about how there's connective tissue, if you will. For example, most abusers don't start being abusive by punching someone or strangling them or any of those sorts of things. These things start out in lots of other ways. They get accelerated through time. I think it's important to see this stuff isn't a one-time thing. These things build on each other. SHADOWS IN SHAKER HEIGHTS (3:46) BLAIR HODGES: Maybe take a minute or two really quickly here to give us the broad strokes of your family. Who is this book about? Where are you from? DEBORAH COHAN: Currently I live in South Carolina. But I was born and raised in Cleveland in a pretty storied suburb, actually— BLAIR HODGES: This is Shaker Heights. DEBORAH COHAN: —Yes. Lots of books, and magazines, and articles, and all sorts of stuff on it. It's an interesting and complex place. I think people who don't live there think of it as this sort of gilded community, upper middle class, et cetera. Lots of other things are happening there, as they are everywhere. The one interesting thing is when you grow up in a community where there is an amount of privilege, and there are resources and things, things like family violence do become even more secretive. It's not until I published the book that I found even high school friends and acquaintances coming out, reaching out, telling me, "Oh my gosh, I experienced the same thing," or, "I had no idea you were going through that in high school. So was I." People are left feeling even more alone in a situation like that. So as I said, I was born in Cleveland and I was raised as an only child, which is a very big piece of this book because of the ways that kind of complicates things. Especially because my parents had also divorced very soon before my dad got sick. Then I wound up as his main person, his caregiver. My dad was someone who was really adoring. He was an amazing dad in many ways, actually. You know, I still, I miss and love him every day. He died eleven years ago this month, actually. But he was also abusive. That's something we can talk about later on, but that's a really big issue to me, is for people to understand the multidimensionality of the abuser, and the fact that, by all accounts, I guess people would say I grew up in a loving home. I grew up getting to do a lot of cool things with my parents. My parents were very successful. All this kind of stuff. But there was also this other side behind closed doors—or not always behind closed doors because my dad also was an expert at public humiliation and stuff. It was a lot to manage. My parents also—and I think this is really interesting, some of the demographic issues and stuff—is my dad had me when he was forty-two years old, and my mom was about to be thirty-five. In 1969 those were really older parents. Most of my friends, their parents were much, much younger. So that meant when all this started with my dad being sick, I was catapulted into caregiving at a time where my friends' parents were playing tennis and golf and retiring and doing other cool things like traveling and stuff. There again, I was sort of alone in this process. They married late because it was a second marriage. They had me later. They got divorced very late in life. They were almost sixty-five and seventy-two. All of these dynamics, all of these demographic trends, if you will—It's actually funny how the book stands at the intersection of all of these trends. And we're seeing them more and more. We're seeing people having kids later. We're seeing people divorcing later. We're seeing people living longer. BLAIR HODGES: Right, and adult kids caregiving for their parents or parent. DEBORAH COHAN: Often while caring for their own children. Then the other thing I talk about is the living apart together, where I'm partnered with someone where we don't live together. My husband lives two hours away. When I wrote the book, I didn't think about all the ways in which my life is sitting at these intersections of demographic shifts and trends and stuff. But it is, and I think some of those are really important to the way the book unfolds and to the way I think about all this stuff. BLAIR HODGES: You do sit at intersections of a lot of things. Just to flesh it out a little bit more, too, I'll mention that, as you said, your family was upper middle class in Shaker Heights. You say you were Jewish-identified but your family wasn't affiliated or practicing. Your parents were politically progressive. Your mom was artistic, an abstract artist. Your father worked in advertising. He wrote the Hawaiian Punch song. Is this true? DEBORAH COHAN: The line, yes. "How would you like a nice Hawaiian Punch?" BLAIR HODGES: Yeah! DEBORAH COHAN: Isn't that wild? BLAIR HODGES: That really caught me off guard. [laughter] Your parents were also married and divorced before they got married. Your father had two children you never got to know, just from this different phase of his life. That also fills out this background. If you have a copy of the book there, I thought it would be nice to hear you read from the Introduction. The first page gives us a good picture of what's to come. Can you read that for us? DEBORAH COHAN: "When I first set out to write about my dad, I thought my book would only be filled with stories of his abuse, his rage, my own resulting rage and grief, and maybe even his grief as well. However, the writing process revealed other emotions. Things that surprised me, disgusted me, delighted me, and saddened me. At moments, I was glad to be reminded of all the love I still feel for my father and reassured of his love for me. “I've anguished over whether in my promise to tell about my father's abuse with integrity and honesty, the story would somehow be diminished by this other story of the great love we shared. It's only now that I see that the one seemingly pure story of his abuse is not even a pure story. And interestingly, I don't think the abuse is even the grittiest or rawest part of the story. “As it turns out, the story would be easier to tell if all I needed to do was report about all the times that my dad behaved badly. You might get angry with him. And you might even feel sorry for me. But that's not what I wanted out of this book. You need to also know and feel the love we shared, the way I felt it. And I still do. “The much harder story to tell is the one that unfolds in these pages. It's the story of ambivalence, of what it means to stand on the precipice of both love and fear, and what it means to navigate between forgiveness and blame, care and disregard, resilience and despair." HIMPATHY (11:37) BLAIR HODGES: Thank you. A couple of things come to mind as I'm reading that. First of all, I wondered if you were presenting yourself as an exemplary type of person who'd experienced abuse. As it turns out, throughout the book, you don't. You don't set yourself forward as "everyone should process abuse the way I did." You don't expect people who have been abused to be forgiving, or to seek all of that. I want to let people know that right off the top. I did want to talk about Kate Manne's idea of "himpathy," because that's what came to mind here at the opening of your book before I knew what was coming. Himpathy as I understand it is this idea of extending sympathy to men who are doing crappy stuff, basically. The guy's the problem, but we tend to side with the guy or try to get inside his heart or his head and extend sympathy to someone who's done terrible things. You have a background of working with these domestic violence survivors and perpetrators. So I just wondered about your thoughts on that idea of himpathy, and how you negotiate with that as you think about your own relationship with your dad and as you were writing this book. DEBORAH COHAN: I have to admit I have not heard of that word or that theory. That would be interesting to read more about. I certainly did worry about that a bit. Here I am, trained in feminist sociology, and have done all this work, and it's almost like I didn't want to let people down or something, or didn't want to seem like I was giving him a pass, so to speak. BLAIR HODGES: Right. DEBORAH COHAN: I also had to write it in that authentic way I feel I did, and just realize the much more nuanced approach is actually the approach I took—which is that no one is purely one thing or another. Neither am I. I come out as pretty flawed in the book too, which I'm glad about because it's the “no one's perfect” thing. I think there are certainly people who might read the book who might say, "Oh, my gosh, I would never still love my dad," or, "I would have stopped talking to him," or "F– you" kind of stuff. I don't know. To me that would be too easy. I think the harder piece is to deal with that ambivalence. And as you say, it's not right for everyone and it's totally dependent on different people's situations. I also think, for some people, it's like some readers have told me, it's very valuable to have gotten to juggle both, so they can see how to juggle both themselves. It's not really that rare that someone who's been hurt by someone still wants a relationship with them. I guess the real essence of dealing with an abusive relationship is you want the abuse to stop but you want the relationship to continue. BLAIR HODGES: You “love” the person. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah. We see that with sexual abuse survivors a lot. There's a lot of research on that. It's complicated. It makes me want to read about this "himpathy" piece. BLAIR HODGES: Look up himpathy. It's this sympathy for men, basically. DEBORAH COHAN: She's critical of it. Obviously. BLAIR HODGES: She's critical, but it's very thoughtful. It resonates well with what you present in your book, which is, you're not giving your dad a pass or excusing his behavior, you're just also recognizing the ways you loved him and why. That's different than saying, "You know what, actually the abuse was okay," or even, "The abuse was maybe beneficial or maybe deserved." Or that all your attention would be focused on protecting your father's reputation, rather than talking about what the relationship really was and processing your feelings for other people to kind of witness and maybe go alongside with you. I think it's helpful. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah. If I grew up in the home my dad grew up in maybe I wouldn't have done anything different either. So it's really hard truths to reconcile, but I think they're really important. WHAT HE DID (15:31) BLAIR HODGES: It's important to think about individual responsibility, but also context. Sometimes it's easier to offload our anxiety that stuff like this happens by just demonizing an individual person. I want to be a strong proponent of justice and of attending to the person who has been abused first and foremost. I think their experience really needs to be attended to. I think if we just demonize an individual person, it excuses the ways we participate in a society that can facilitate stuff like that, basically. DEBORAH COHAN: Exactly. BLAIR HODGES: They're really bad. I can kind of overlook the crappy ways I treat people because here are these evil enemies over here I can identify as the bad people and not think about the ways I might be implicated. It's complicated, though. It's complicated. DEBORAH COHAN: Right. BLAIR HODGES: Let's talk about some abuse examples from your father. You say he was financially generous, but he was also financially controlling. You've seen this dynamic in other families. There comes this moment early on where he makes this comment to you. He says, "You'd make my life a lot easier if you'd just commit suicide." It seems like he wasn't saying that as a joke. It comes across as though he just said this to you as a matter of fact. DEBORAH COHAN: Yes, that was in the context of something that was financially abusive and controlling. It's so interesting to hear that comment restated to me, and I've heard it so many times since the book came out. It was even really startling the first time I saw it on the jacket of the book, and then it's on Amazon. It's like people glom on to it because it's so over the top for a parent to say that to a kid, or in this case a young adult woman, because I was in my twenties. I think that's the comment that makes people say, "Oh, I could never have cared for him. I could have never had a relationship with him." There is something odd about hearing it back and realizing that in a way, at the time, it was really upsetting but it almost—I guess like so many other acts of abuse, things get minimized or forgotten or denied. It's interesting to think of probably how soon after I still was able to talk to him or willing to engage with him, that sort of thing. And at the same time, I wouldn't really tolerate that. It's just one of those things where it's very hard to describe how I know that comment is so searing to readers and anybody hearing it. It's just so disturbing. At the same time, it's such a good example, though, of how his feelings were the priority, as is true in abusive relationships. Where it's like the abuser is so focused on their feelings and the other person's actions. It was such a prime example of where he completely distorted what I was saying and where I was trying to do something that could be helpful—to find out something about insurance and his financial contribution with stuff, and he just jumped into me verbally with this accusation and assuming the worst of me. In a sense, what I would want people hearing this to understand is not just the intensity of what he said, but how it encapsulates so many different pieces related to abuse. Like the threats, the focus on his feelings and my behavior. All of this. The assuming the worst of me is really the key piece of this. BLAIR HODGES: This is the kind of abuse you experienced, this verbal assault. You even say your father never actually hit you, physical abuse, but you did always have the perception he could. There was always a sense that he might, and you say that was its own sort of terror that can give a person trauma. DEBORAH COHAN: Oh, for sure. Because somebody who says something that vicious and cruel and brutal: "My life would be easier if you commit suicide." It is a slap in the face. It is a punch in the gut. It is all of those things, kind of metaphorically. I mean, this is why I think it's so crucial and I always try to encourage my students, and I talked about this with violent offenders, is to not create a hierarchy of what sort of abuse is worse than another. Because right, it's true. He did not pull my hair or spit on me or punch me or throw me against a wall or strangle me or any of these awful things that happen. But the threat of violence, the constant berating, the criticizing, the defining of reality—when someone says something like that to you, what are you supposed to say? I mean, there's no way to respond. It was his ability to try to exert that level of power and control, and that level of silencing me, and putting me in my place in this way. Those are some of the core defining features of abuse. BLAIR HODGES: I learned a lot more about abuse and seeing these patterns of abuse—for example, you talked about how maybe you would be together during a trip and he would freak out. He would scream and swear at you publicly. So not only did it hurt you because your dad's treating you that way, but also, it's embarrassing and other people are witnessing this, which compounds the hurt. This would happen during a trip where he was visiting. Then at the end of the trip you say he had this tactic of minimizing and mutualizing. Talk about the tactic, what that looks like to minimize and mutualize after an assault like that. DEBORAH COHAN: It's comments like, "It's not so bad," or, "Didn't we have a fun time?" Or glomming onto the parts that were fun. “Wasn't that wonderful when we saw the Lion King?” Or, “Wasn't that amazing when we ate at this restaurant?” By highlighting the goodies it forced me—again, it's part of his defining reality, but then it made me have to think, “Oh, that stuff was really nice. That was good. So maybe that's not so bad, the other stuff.” BLAIR HODGES: It doesn't feel like he was really asking, either. It seems like what's happened here is control. He needs to control the story. He's not really looking for your input about how you felt about everything, but really telling you, “By the way, this trip was awesome, you better think it was and if you don't, there's a problem with you.” DEBORAH COHAN: Not just that there's a problem with you, but also that you're insatiable and that you— BLAIR HODGES: That you deserve my yelling and stuff? DEBORAH COHAN: Or nothing I do for you is ever good enough. Then it turns into I'm not grateful enough, which was a huge part of the narrative. **WHEN REDEMPTION ISN'T FORGIVENESS (22:16) BLAIR HODGES: As we said before, this isn't a book of forgiveness for your father. You do repeatedly express your love for him and describe to the reader where that love comes from or what it looks like. But you're saying there's a sense in which you want some redemption for that relationship, but not necessarily forgiveness. That was an interesting distinction I'd never thought about before. Talk about how you see those two things of seeking some kind of redemption versus just forgiveness. DEBORAH COHAN: I love that question because so often people still conclude I've totally forgiven him and then decide, "Oh, I'm not sure I could forgive him." Like I talk about in the book, forgiveness is a bit overrated. As someone who does not identify religiously, forgiveness feels far too rooted in notions of religion. I'm not totally comfortable with that. I mean, I think the redemption is more that now I'm fifty-three years old, I understand people like my parents did the best they could with what they had at the time they did it. So I have more sort of acceptance of the multidimensionality of my parents in a way, and I think their deaths—because my mom has died also—their deaths helped to do that, even though that was something I dreaded for so long. But then it turns out there's something about it now, that I can see the full humanity of both of them in a way that maybe it was harder to see when they were alive. The other piece of the forgiveness thing is that in working with abusers, I remember working with a counselor. We were co-facilitating a group one evening and he was pushing this abuser, really holding him accountable. He kept saying to him, "What are you sorry for, who are you sorry for?" It was like, "Who are the tears for?" Really trying to get this guy to see he still didn't really seem like he was apologetic, really truly remorseful. That it was more about his own saving face. So I guess the reason full forgiveness still feels hard for me is my dad and I never had that full, totally open, me totally exposing all of my thoughts on this, kind if conversation, maybe over a period of months and years, where I could come to that, or where he asked for it in a way that I could give that to him. So I feel the most we can do here is redemption. BLAIR HODGES: How do you define that then? What is that redemption? DEBORAH COHAN: I feel like it's maybe that acceptance of all that imperfection and all the flaw and all the limitations and things, and that there are still these redeeming aspects of him as a man in the world, of him as a father, of him in my life. I mean, I guess I couldn't have the level of loving and missing him every day without that level of some redemption. And then some people have asked me, "Well, it does sound like you forgive him, though." It's almost like people just want to use that word so much— BLAIR HODGES: I feel tempted to that question, too. I wanted to say it's sort of a “brand” or a “genre” of forgiveness or something. [laughs] DEBORAH COHAN: Exactly. It's so interesting, though. I was friends with a couple. The woman has died and the man is much, much older. He's probably in his nineties now. Their daughter was murdered by their son-in-law. I had them speak at my classes and they were often asked, "Do you forgive the son-in-law?" Shirley, the mother, would always say, "No, and he never did anything to ask for it. He really never apologized. There was no authentic anything that would have warranted it and he never really accepted enough responsibility for forgiveness to be possible." I guess I'm still kind of at that piece. BLAIR HODGES: That's a forgiveness that seems like it has to be mutual, like the other person who hurt you needs to get inside your story, show they understand it, and make some kind of reparation or connection there. And for that kind of forgiveness to happen, yeah, you have to have the other— I think what people might be thinking when they suggest you have forgiven is the sense that you still find good in your dad. You love him. But there's also, as you say, there's always that disconnect that's a result of the years of abuse, you can't fully reconcile because reconciliation requires both people to be involved with it. And so it's just not possible. That kind of forgiveness has to be mutual. The other person has to be involved for that forgiveness to even work, I guess. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah, that it's more of a process. It, like the abuse, is not just an episode or an instance or a moment. It's much larger. One of the things that's difficult is my dad seemed to have in certain ways, he softened and almost showed me the possibilities of redemption once he was quite ill. Once he was very needy and dependent. He was in a nursing home, and that's when towards the end of the book he's telling me about his experience growing up and his father being abusive to his mother and witnessing it and thinking it was an outrageous thing. And his empathy went to his mother as a child. Yet he still reproduced this as an adult. But here was a man with dementia and he was totally immobile, and by then incontinent and all these other things. It was just—That wasn't the time to start digging into our relationship. But had he told me all that and had we been able to have that conversation when he was well, I don't even know if that would have been possible. Had that happened, had he been able to show me more, really that actions speak louder than words, really show me in a consistent, meaningful, trustworthy way, "Deb, I can't believe I did that to you." Really showing me through living out life with me that he would never do it again. But we never got there. FAMILY DYNAMICS WITH MOM (28:50) BLAIR HODGES: It was thirteen years before he died—eight of those years, he was very sick in these care facilities. You say you were lodged in an uncomfortably intimate relationship with him, as you mentioned, because you were an adult child of divorce. The family dynamic you grew up with was one where you trended toward being closer to your dad. I think there was probably a protective element to that. Your mom felt sort of sidelined. You really paint a compelling picture of why the divorce happened later on, the way your mom was sidelined, the way your family was this triangle that you felt pressured to make feel whole, which is something no child should have to reckon with. But then later on when they get this divorce, here's a quote from you, "During the years I cared for my dad, my mom's absence felt like a death." I realized, Deborah, how hard that must have been to basically be the only one who could really care for your dad during those eight years because your mom was gone. You're an only child of these divorced parents. DEBORAH COHAN: She kind of would accuse me of being angry at her for leaving. She would say that somehow I thought it was her responsibility to stay. She could tell it was really hard for me. In a certain way, though, she was very compassionate at times about what I was dealt with in those moments. Then there were other times in which she, as I say, almost accused me of being angry about it. Which is a whole other piece. BLAIR HODGES: Was that like a “They protest too much” kind of thing? It seems you were in some senses abandoned to care for him. I'm not suggesting that your mom shouldn't have gotten a divorce or anything. But their child is involved. You were stuck with handling that. It seems like a lot for a child in a family, even though you were a grown up at this point, to manage by yourself. I wonder if she worried if you resented it. It seems like— DEBORAH COHAN: Absolutely. She didn't just worry about it, she accused me of it! [laughs]. And then it was a little confusing. BLAIR HODGES: But did you feel that resentment? Was her charge valid? DEBORAH COHAN: That's a really good question, because I teach this book now in my class, and it's very interesting how I ask my students if they find my mom to be a sympathetic character. The reality is, I guess she is and she isn't. There are a lot of people who come to the conclusion, a little bit what you were just alluding to, of I should not have been left like that. It's kind of like my mom did something wrong, that I got stuck with all of this. What's interesting is, the book came out in 2020. My mom died a few months later. Here I am teaching the book. I can't have this conversation with my mother, which I would really like to have, which is, "Oh my gosh, if only you could hear all the ways in which I stand up for you." You know what I mean? I constantly am saying to students, "No, I don't blame my mom for leaving." In some ways I just wish she had left sooner, so they could have each had their new lease on life. To me it feels very sad that she did this at close to sixty-five and he was seventy-two. I'm not sure what else could have been done, though. I wouldn't expect people to stay in a marriage that isn't good or healthy for them. I can't fault my mom for leaving. It's more, I wish she had been able to do it earlier and I know I was probably part of the reason she didn't, which is a hard thing to deal with at the same time. BLAIR HODGES: Would you resist it if I said something like, “I wish your mom had tried and pitched in a little bit to take some of the pressure off?” DEBORAH COHAN: No, I think that's true. She did in certain ways, but she couldn't in other ways. From a legal standpoint, all this financial stuff, everything. She was certainly financially generous in her own way later and about other stuff. It might have been helpful had she just said, "Gosh, I see you're going to Cleveland again." I wasn't taking trips and doing really great stuff. I was going to Cleveland many times from Boston as I was in graduate school, as I was adjuncting, and teaching in different places, and commuting to Connecticut. I wish in those moments instead of just taking me out to dinner or—because she was living on Cape Cod by then so we were living much closer together. It might have been nice if she had just said, "I'll buy the airline ticket," or, "Let me make the reservation for you at the hotel," or whatever it was. That might have lessened the burden. Although, she did in other ways because then she might have helped fund something else I did need. It was just a very difficult time. AT THE NURSING HOME (33:54) BLAIR HODGES: That is helpful. I didn't have hard feelings toward your mom, I just wondered a little bit about— As you said, your mom was still alive when you were finishing this. It makes sense that some of that stuff couldn't have been processed yet. So that's helpful. I think people that pick up a copy of the book and check it out, that's a really great supplement to it. I'm glad to hear you can talk to people about that as you teach the book, too. The book we're talking about, by the way, again, is called Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption. It's written by Deborah J. Cohan, who is professor of sociology at the University of South Carolina Beaufort. You mentioned this a minute ago—finances. You basically witnessed your father's finances completely collapse. This is something a lot of people are experiencing and will probably be experiencing more and more because the social safety net in the United States is not great, but he went from a sharp dressing, fancy food enjoying ad executive to this man in filthy sweatpants sitting in this dilapidated care facility, living on Medicaid. And he ended up dying with about fifty dollars to his name. So you witness over the time he was there, his complete impoverishment. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah and also I think that's some of the redemption for him too, is just knowing if he was aware of what was left at the end, and what happened—I mean, his dream would have been to leave me with more to pay off my student loan debt, you know, all that kind of stuff. He would have been ashamed and humiliated in many of the ways that breadwinning and masculinity are so entangled with each other. BLAIR HODGES: Ah, that reminds me, there's an excerpt I thought you might read on page twenty-seven. You actually take us to the nursing home with some stories about what it was like when you visited him. It's that middle paragraph there. If you could read that excerpt—it's a list but wow, it certainly evokes experiences I've had. DEBORAH COHAN: "The nursing home: paved driveway. Automatic doors. Cigarette butts. Patients waiting for the next distribution of cigarettes. Orange sherbet and ginger ale and Saulsbury steak. Sticky floors. Dusty roads. Vinyl recliners. Bed pans. Bingo and sing-alongs. Stashes of adult diapers in the closets and drawers. Motorized wheelchairs. Schedules. Forms. Nursing aides and personal attendants. Styrofoam cups. Stale urine. Plastic water pitchers and bendable straws. Hospital beds. Dark, dingy rooms. A small rod for hanging clothes. Non-skid socks. No privacy. Open, unlocked rooms filled with demented wanderers. Whiteboards with washable markers stating the day of the week and the nurse on duty. Dead plants. Almost-dead people. Harsh overhead lighting and overheated rooms. Not enough real light. Tables that roll across beds for getting fed. Call bells and strings to pull in the bathroom. Air that doesn't move." BLAIR HODGES: The stories you tell there, Deborah, visiting there seemed really hard for you, let alone what it must have been like to live there. You felt such ambivalence about it. Because you say you almost couldn't stand being there at the moment, but you also would get really distraught about leaving there. DEBORAH COHAN: Absolutely, yes. And thanks for having me read that piece, by the way, because it's been so long since I've actually read it. It takes me back to the room also. The ambivalence showed up in so many different ways. I think that's so true of people who are visiting people who are frail and dying, or very ill. This sense of, you want to go, like I would be in Boston, I would want to go so badly. I would want to see him. I would want to give him a big hug. I would want to finally bring him food he craved or food that was a special treat instead of some of the things I listed in that piece. Then I would get there. It was like, “Oh, gosh.” I just wanted to flee. I walked in and it was just the chaos and the bureaucracy and just the antiseptic but actually filthy quality of these places that I illuminate in that piece. Then the guilt that totally seeped in in that moment, because then it was like, "Wait, I got here. I'm here. I'm supposed to want to be with him. I'm supposed to want to stay,” and now I'm counting down the time. It's sort of like, "Oh my gosh, I've been here twenty minutes. It feels like four hours." Then when I'd leave it was almost like that, "Oh, but I spent three hours," almost like I did good time or something. BLAIR HODGES: A Herculean effort just to get through the three hours. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah, and time is strange in a nursing home also, as it is in a hospital. People are motivated by the mealtimes. The newspaper delivery is listed as an activity at the place. These things that are just mundane activities in my life or your life, they become these big events at these nursing homes in ways that, when you're there and you're witnessing that, and you're well, it's really hard to watch and to do time the way that they're doing time. BLAIR HODGES: On a bigger scale, too, the cycle that would happen. So you talk about how there would be a medical crisis, things would seem really bad, but then he would kind of rally, show some resilience, kind of recover for a bit, you'd get a little bit of hope, and then it would crash again. And this cycle kept happening. It reminds me of this paragraph I highlighted here. You say, "Perhaps many adult children caring for dying parents deal with this dilemma. How much to let the parent in. How much to keep the parent at bay. It's hard to get that close to almost-death, to anticipatory grief, and when an abusive history is part of it, that push/pull with how to have healthy emotional closeness and distance becomes that much more intensified." You're talking about the already complicated dynamics and then you add the layer of abuse into it, which makes it all the more complicated. DEBORAH COHAN: I appreciate you did such a close good reading of it, because I don't know that everybody picks up some of the pieces and the nuances and especially the contradictory realities that are present. I really appreciate that and what you've read and shared and asked and are revealing to the audience. That's just the hardest part of all, is reconciling those pieces. Okay, I spent most of my childhood really worried my parents would die or my parents would get divorced. As an only child, those two things felt incredibly scary, that I would lose one or both of them, or that they would get divorced. It kind of haunted me up until they died, really. And my dad, like any one of the things he suffered from people die from pretty easily. You know, he had an aneurysm. He had a heart attack. He had diabetes. He had so many different things— BLAIR HODGES:  —He had dementia, yeah. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah. And then at the same time, though, he kept—like you're saying—bouncing back. It was like the Energizer Bunny. It was like nothing's going to get this guy. In a way that's an interesting parallel with the abuse. It was almost like, unstoppable. It was the sense of like, he could be abusive and then quick fix, make it up. Apologize, be really sweet and kind, and then do it again. But it's like… BLAIR HODGES: Another kind of cycle. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah, another cycle. And also the cycle of vulnerability coupled with this omnipotence. That was present when he was ill. Like he was totally vulnerable. There was a time in 2006, I think it was, where I really thought he was going to die. There was no doubt. It just felt like this is imminent now. He was hallucinating and all these other things. He didn't die for six more years! And between those six years he moved to different nursing homes, basically, because of bad behavior. But it reminds me of those inflatable dolls, or those inflatable things on lawns. BLAIR HODGES: Like outside the car dealership thing? DEBORAH COHAN: Like you hit it and it keeps coming back. BLAIR HODGES: Oh, yeah. It falls and then pops back up. DEBORAH COHAN: And it'll keep standing, exactly. And that was my dad in everything. BUTTERFLY EFFECT FIXATION (42:54) BLAIR HODGES: You say nothing could really prepare you for that. There was this moment when he falls at the Cleveland airport, you kind of pinpoint this as a turning point for him, where he seems to be in relatively good health, but he fell and broke his hip. You were involved in that trip too. You carried these feelings about that. DEBORAH COHAN: Absolutely. BLAIR HODGES: You were worried he was about to die then, and you weren't ready. Then again, you were less prepared for what ended up happening, which was years of this cycle of health crises and then recoveries. Nothing could have prepared you for that. DEBORAH COHAN: And the reality is you're never ready. It's almost like you can know what's happening. He was never going to get better. But I also didn't think he was going to die three days before I started my new job in South Carolina, three weeks after I moved here, after just being divorced myself. I didn't really, it was like, “That was interesting timing, Dad.” [laughs] But you just said something that was really interesting and reminds me of the passage I just read from being in the nursing home, and it relates to the moment he fell. So when my dad fell at the airport, he was going there in a limo, being dropped off, got out of the car and fell on ice in Cleveland at the airport. My friend, who's now, I mean he's ex-husband, Mark, he and I were heading to Cleveland to meet my dad to then go to Florida. BLAIR HODGES: With him. DEBORAH COHAN: With him. It was supposed to be this vacation. My dad had packed his red suitcase, and it turns out that red suitcase, which is also featured in the book, that thing was screaming at me every time I would go and visit him in a nursing home. I don't know why I didn't think to trash it. Maybe because I kept hoping we would get to pack it and he could go home. But like, honestly, that suitcase was just—it was like a bully, you know?  It was this sense of like—it was taunting because I felt, and I still kind of do, if my dad wasn't taking us to Florida, he wouldn't have fallen on ice at the airport and he wouldn't have broken his hip, and then he wouldn't have—then his whole life wouldn't have come tumbling down with it. BLAIR HODGES: Butterfly effect moment, right? DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah. But at the same time, that's sort of abuse survivor logic. BLAIR HODGES: Oh, you're putting it on you. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah, like if I hadn't have done this, he wouldn't have done that to me. Or if I had done this, he definitely would have behaved differently and then I wouldn't have been told “I wish you'd commit suicide” or something. It's interesting how even in a moment like that, that has really nothing to do with abuse, the psyche that's been dealing with abuse and those dynamics, is still contaminated by that. There was still that sense of, “God, if only we hadn't gone to Florida! If only we hadn't made that trip!” And the reality is, I was actually very tentative about wanting to go on that trip. My dad really wanted this for us. He really wanted the three of us to go and have this wonderful time and be at this resort. And I was haunted by some of my memories of my dad on trips. I didn't want to deal with that with my husband at the time. BLAIR HODGES: Right. DEBORAH COHAN: And then I also dealt with the guilt and the shame around not really wanting the trip. And then he actually—his whole life tumbled down as a result of a trip he really wanted that I didn't want because I wasn't grateful enough. So it did this whole thing. I mean, I can still feel it. BLAIR HODGES: It recurs. You bring it up throughout the book. This Cleveland airport is a recurring moment you keep going back to. DEBORAH COHAN: Yes. And then isn't it wild that I got the news of his death at a different airport— BLAIR HODGES: Right! DEBORAH COHAN: —as I was about to board a plane to go and see him for the last time, which at that time really I knew was the last time because they called me to pretty much tell me that earlier in the day. So I arranged to leave that evening, and then missed it. Again, at the time it was like, “Oh my gosh, you're such a screw up! You can't even get to see him when…” It was just this… BLAIR HODGES: The reflex of self-blame. DEBORAH COHAN: Criticism, yes. I had internalized that so much, and so it was a process to try to realize like, no. My dad could have fallen anywhere. Something else could have happened. Because of course something else would have happened. But it was so hard to see in that moment. ONE LITTLE EXTRA SOMETHING (47:49) BLAIR HODGES: This reminds me the ways you're very confessional and vulnerable yourself in the book. This isn't a book about Deborah Cohan the hero who cared for her dying father. This is a book of Deborah Cohan who's wrestling with the ambiguity of being someone who experienced abuse, who has really hard feelings about that, and who also has feelings of love. But there was, I think one of the most arresting— Well I probably shouldn't try to qualify it. To me, the most arresting moment in the book is when you're listing all the medications he's taking on any given day when he's in a care facility. There's Ambien, Glucotrol, amoxicillin, mycelium, and even more. You see this one-month pharmacy bill that added up to twelve hundred dollars. Then you add this startling line. You say, "One extra little something slipped into this whole mess would be untraceable." This is one of the darkest thoughts a caregiver might experience, but you're not the only caregiver who I've heard talk about this. So I wanted to spend a little bit of time there about what it was like confessing that, talking about that in your book. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah, I certainly—I hope it's understood in the book that it wasn't about revenge. BLAIR HODGES: Right. DEBORAH COHAN: It wasn't like because of that moment when my dad thought his life would be easier if I committed suicide that I want to somehow poison him or kill him. It was this very deep in my bones feeling of, “No one should have to live this way.” BLAIR HODGES: It was, you were witnessing suffering. And your brain was like what can we do for this? DEBORAH COHAN: To stop it, yes. My parents, as I said, and you identified it as well, they were very progressive. And I still remember conversations when I was growing up where my dad would say, "If that ends up happening to me—” like, you know, he would talk about people who— BLAIR HODGES: Right. “I don't want to live like that." DEBORAH COHAN: “I don't wanna live like that. Just kill me. Do something.” So I think even he would have been compassionate and understanding to the thought I had. But what's also interesting that you didn't reveal in your question though is, when I revealed it to myself, I was also telling it to my husband at the time, who thought I was just totally crazy for thinking it, for saying it. It was almost like I should be ashamed of myself. And then there I go, retelling the whole thing in the book. So I wasn't, I really never wound up being so ashamed of it. It was more the sense of the absolute desperation a caregiver feels. The absolute helplessness to stop the suffering and to also stop witnessing it, too! It was like, how much longer can we all go on like this? It was sort of like this is an untenable situation. BLAIR HODGES: Yeah, this wasn't a revenge plot. DEBORAH COHAN: Absolutely not. BLAIR HODGES: This was a desperate moment of trying to figure out how to make the suffering end. I mean, you talk about how caregiving amplified your childhood instincts, your hyper-responsibility and hyper-vigilance, and what toll that could take on you over a number of years. What was it like being hyper-vigilant, hyper-responsible about your father? DEBORAH COHAN: Well you almost alluded to it in the list of the medications. I was carrying around like, a file box in my car with all sorts of information about his health, with all sorts of papers, with duplicate copies of things, because I don't want to be caught off guard, not prepared. If someone calls me, I want to have it all ready. I always had pen and paper with me. Yeah, it's true that there's a hyper-vigilance that happens when someone's experiencing an abusive relationship or witnessing abuse. That sense of being on guard, of trying to have every base covered. That sort of thing. BLAIR HODGES: Be blameless, really. DEBORAH COHAN: Yeah, you know I did that, I extended that into caregiving. I made a list of—I mean, it was sort of crazy, but I did—I sent a copy to my mother, I sent a copy to the nursing home, I sent a copy everywhere. And actually it was when he lived at home, before that, where I had something on the refrigerator that had his social security number, all of his information—like the drugs he takes, his health history, the dates of surgeries—so that any of the nurses caring for him in his home could see that, could know what was going on, could assist. BLAIR HODGES: You were also on call all the time, expecting any phone call. It seemed like you were just tied to your phone in case there was a phone call that would come in. DEBORAH COHAN: Right. And when he died, I talk about how that night after talking with my friend for hours on my couch, afterwards then I just go and I turn off the phone. And I've done that every single night since. I never leave my phone on. BLAIR HODGES: Right! From that point on. DEBORAH COHAN: It's like he'll call me at three or four in the morning. If I'm up, I'll answer, if I'm not— I could be called at any moment about anything and there was just no boundaries on it. Because again, it's the sense of they have to for different liability reasons, but I was being called about anything and everything. DOES THE CHILD BECOME THE PARENT (53:22) BLAIR HODGES: It took up mental and emotional space twenty-four hours a day. And as you watched all these losses pile up—he stopped being able to drive, he stopped being able to walk, he stopped being able to write, then read, then feed himself, then he lost control of his bladder, he couldn't think straight, he couldn't remember. The dementia took over. And you tell us about a friend of yours called Julie. She's a geriatric care specialist. You said she's actually not comfortable when she hears people talking about a role reversal in this situation. It's common for people to say the child becomes the parent and the parent becomes like the child. You're doing a lot of the same things. They're helping feed them, they probably wear diapers, there's all these things going on. You say Julie is not comfortable with that comparison. But you kind of disagree with her. I wanted to hear your thoughts about where Julie's coming from and how you see it. DEBORAH COHAN: Well I mean, she was so compassionate to me about my dad and about all that has happened. In fact, I remember saying to her, I'm going to be using your name, if you don't want me to use it, I can give you a pseudonym. BLAIR HODGES: It's the risk of being friends with a writer. [laughter] DEBORAH COHAN: Exactly! But I mean, nobody's really talked about in a singularly bad way in the book. Not even my dad. So with Julie I think that's a common thing in gerontology, in her field, is the sense of empowering the person who is being cared for. BLAIR HODGES: Conferring dignity. If you say they're like children that's undignified or that's demeaning. DEBORAH COHAN: Exactly. And that's why these nursing homes will ask families to post pictures of when the person was younger and more robust and vibrant on the door or in the entrance to the room, so when people are going in to see the patient they're also reminded, “Oh, this is really who I'm seeing. I'm not just seeing this person who's only weak and sick and vulnerable.” But you know what's interesting to me about that is I felt that a lot with my father. I felt like I wanted to just scream to [laughs] anybody who would listen or any of the nurses or anyone, this isn't really my dad! This is my dad! Kind of asserting the strengths and the brilliance he did have. At the same time, though, it was very hard for me to give that credit to other people, you know? [laughs] So when I would see other residents who were really bad off, I had a hard time thinking about them in their prior phases of their life. I think that's just something caregivers struggle with. I certainly wasn't unique in that. BLAIR HODGES: Sure, and I'm sympathetic to Julie in the sense of conferring dignity and being mindful of this person as a person worthy of concern and care and not infantilizing people. But you also say, when you're feeding your dad and he's spitting up down his shirt and all these things, you can't help but feel like that role has been reversed. I'd like to find a way to both dignify and honor the parent, and also validate and recognize the experience of the child who is now being a caregiver. I think both things are possible. DEBORAH COHAN: That's why when I talk about feeding my dad birthday cake, there's this point where I talk about it as like a terrible beauty in feeding a parent. That gets at that to me. Again, the ambivalence, the contradictory reality, the sense that we should be there in a certain way. They did this for us. We should do this for them with no sense of negativity. At the same time, this is not really how it was supposed to go. BLAIR HODGES: There was no rehearsal for it, too, for you. You were just there. The cupcake was there. And here you are, you're feeding your dad. DEBORAH COHAN: And he wouldn't have wanted that. The last thing he would have wanted was to have me feed him, I mean oh my gosh. LETTER TO DADDY (57:34) BLAIR HODGES: There's one more excerpt I'd like to hear you read here. You wrote some of this book in your dad's presence there at the nursing home when he would be asleep, and you were at his side. This is on page one 142. You wrote to him in that moment in 2009. If you can read it. DEBORAH COHAN: Sure. It's just funny. I'm laughing only because I feel like I have that page memorized. I have actually read this piece quite a bit when I've spoken about the book. It does feel like a really evocative passage, and not because it talks about his abuse at all, but also because of the writerly technique that I used in it of taking almost like field notes that I wound up using. It's exactly the same, I didn't change anything. But I didn't know I was writing a book at that moment either. "I watch you as you sleep, not unlike you probably watched me as I slept as a newborn baby and as a young girl, and wonder, in awe, in calm, and in worry. A parent watches a child sleep with anticipation of a future. An adult child watches a sick parent sleep with a sense of the past. You are finally still and quiet. You, a man who I know is chaotic and loud. We rest in this calm as you fall in and out of slumber and I grade papers. I need to study your face, memorize it, because I know I'll need it one day. Yet the you now is not the you I want to remember. “In a few days, I'll be back with over a hundred students, giving lectures, attending meetings, going to a concert, a lunch with a friend, a performance of The Vagina Monologues. And in my week ahead, I worry about being too busy, about running from one activity to the next, breathless. “Yet one day, Daddy, you did this too, right? How would you restructure those days now? What did you hope for? What do you look for now? You look tired, though I can't tell if you're tired of this life. Yesterday I brought you coffee from Caribou with one of their napkins that made a jab at Starbucks that said, 'Our coffee is smooth and fresh because burnt and bitter were already taken.' Whenever I see great lines and logos I think of you. Your creativity still shines through as we leaf through metropolitan home and marvel at minimalist spaces. Your stained sweatpants are pulled up halfway toward your chest and your stomach looks distended. “Earlier today I saw as you put imaginary pills to your mouth with your fingers, something I assume to be a self-soothing ritual you performed after the nurse told you it was not yet time for more medication. Being in Cleveland, I'm surrounded by childhood friends hanging out with their dads, younger men than you in their sixties and early seventies. Robust, athletic, energetic men vigorously playing tennis and golf, working, traveling and chasing after their dreams, not figments of their imaginations in thin air. “Oh, Daddy. Your eyes open suddenly, and you ask, ‘What are you writing?' I quickly respond, ‘Oh, nothing really, it's just for school.'" LATE-STAGE CONFRONTATIONS (1:01:06) BLAIR HODGES: That's Deborah Cohan, professor of sociology at the University of South Carolina Beaufort. She earned her PhD in Sociology and a Joint Master of Arts in Women's Studies and Sociology at Brandeis University. That excerpt is from her book, Welcome to Wherever We Are: A Memoir of Family, Caregiving, and Redemption. You mentioned a little bit about this already, Deborah, but maybe just take one moment and talk about the ways your father maybe tried to reckon with the abusive dynamics of your relationship later in life. If there was any indication that he came to regret how he treated you. You talk about, for example, when he tried to volunteer at a domestic violence clinic. Even in that context, it didn't really come up. It doesn't sound like you had many opportunities, or that you felt safe enough or whatever, to straightforwardly confront him and say this was an abusive situation. DEBORAH COHAN: I certainly tried. There was a time when I was doing the abuse intervention work and I was working late into the night and our groups ran from 8pm to 10pm, after men had worked their jobs and then came to this program, and then I was leaving Cambridge—This was when I was in Boston, and leaving late at night, 10:30, 11 o'clock, and walking into a parking lot by myself and driving home. And I remember this one day my dad and I were on the phone, he was so concerned for my safety. It really upset him that I was doing this, and doing it late. And I did in that moment really try to question his fear and to try to help him understand, though it didn't really work, but to really try to say, ‘Dad, the things that these guys do are no different than things you've done. I'm not afraid of them. That was not an issue for me.' I guess he didn't want to also see me driving around late at night. But the reality is had I been afraid I wouldn't have been an effective counselor for these guys either. I had to try to help my dad understand that I was working with them in as fearless and compassionate a way as possible, but I guess in that moment I also felt fearless and compassionate in the conversation with him, of trying to say, ‘Dad, you're labeling these guys as monsters, as demons. And actually, your behavior is on a continuum with theirs.' And that's disturbing to hear from your daughter, obviously. But it was important for me to say. So I'm really glad I had a moment to tell him that. It didn't lead to a very productive conversation because he, like many men in the program, still wanted to minimize aspects of their behavior or rationalize it, or it was like this—"But Deb, I never hit you. Deb, I never did this. I never did that. Like that would be horrifying. But what I did wasn't as bad." I didn't really let him get away with that, and that's another reason why, for me, writing this book was critical. Because there really is not enough out there to highlight the damage of verbal and emotional and psychological abuse and threats. There's so much out there around physical abuse, and also sexual abuse. Movies and books and things like that. And those are really important cultural documents we have in the world. But the thing that also has happened is, people don't understand enough about the damage of the emotional abuse and the verbal abuse. And as a result, with so much less written about it, I really felt this tremendous ethical responsibility to write the book. SEE YOU AROUND (1:05:06) BLAIR HODGES: You talk about how much your dad is still with you. You close the book by saying you see him in so much of life. I wondered what's an example of that? And whether you think that fades over time at all? DEBORAH COHAN: No, I don't think any of this fades. I definitely don't think time heals everything or any of that stuff that people say. No, I do—I see him in so much, I guess in the past six years or so I have gotten much more involved as a public sociologist, translating ideas and concepts and theories and things for the larger public. So getting quoted in major news outlets and doing a lot of writing and things like that. That's probably the part where I so miss my father, because he would get such a tremendous kick out of the fact that I wrote for Teen Vogue, or that I, you know, was quoted in Time magazine, or I wrote a piece for Newsweek recently. I mean he just, that was his bread and butter. That's what he loved. I mean, he would have loved that I was on this podcast. He would probably be really angry and humiliated about some of what I'd be talking about. But he definitely had this overwhelming pride and interest in my accomplishments. And that has been a really hard thing to deal with because my career really took off since I've lived here, and that's when he died. And he always dreamed of living in the Carolinas, or in New Mexico, or Arizona. So sometimes I feel like I'm sort of living out something he really wanted that he didn't actualize. I think he would be pretty over the moon about the fact that I moved to South Carolina and have made a good life for myself here. I'm a lot happier as a person than I ever was before. Some of that is probably healing from abuse. It's being in a new relationship. It's so many different things. Like, I wish he could know me now. I wish I could talk to him and know him now. It's just such a strange thing, you know? But I do feel like, hopefully somehow, he knows. I had him for a long time. I'm partnered with a man whose dad died when he was ten years old. I'm often thinking to myself, "Man, I wish he knew Mike." I mean, he really missed out. He really missed out, and Mike missed out knowing his father. And I didn't have that. But instead, I had this very torturous, very complicated relationship. It's really tricky. But it's interesting because the conversations I grew up having with my dad that were really fun and provocative and helpful to me were often conversations around advertising and marketing and all that kind of stuff. Funny enough, my partner, Mike, that's his thing! He's a Director of Media Relations. So here I am still having those conversations at dinner. It's a little bit bizarre. **REGRETS, CHALLENGES, & SURPRISES (1:08:19) BLAIR HODGES: In some ways, that circle continues to close. DEBORAH COHAN: Exactly. BLAIR HODGES: Well, Deborah, let's conclude with the segment Regrets, Challenges, & Surprises. This is when you can talk about anything you regret about the book now that it's out, what the most challenging thing about writing it was, or what kind of surprises you encountered as you created this book. You can speak to one, two, or all three of those things. Regrets, challenges, and surprises. DEBORAH COHAN: I would say I don't have any regrets, which I'm so pleased about because of the nature of the topic. And the fact that surviving abuse and dealing with caregiving are riddled with regrets, the fact that I could write a book and not have regrets about it is pretty remarkable to me. BLAIR HODGES: You didn't even find any typos or anything like that? [laughs] DEBORAH COHAN: There might be I don't know— BLAIR HODGES: I didn't notice any. [laughter] DEBORAH COHAN: There might be, I don't know, but I'm kind of crazy about that kind of stuff though. My dad was too. Oh my gosh, I inherited my spelling and all that craziness from him. BLAIR HODGES: Funny. I didn't notice any. So no regrets. Alright, well, challenges and surprises? DEBORAH COHAN: I mean I don't have any regrets! I don't feel like there's anything I revealed in the book that I wish I hadn't revealed. There's nothing I wish I had included that I didn't include, that kind of thing, which feels really good to me. Yeah, I mean I actually have been thinking about this a lot as I've been writing this new book I'm working on, because it's that sense of, you just really don't want to forget something. You want to make sure that whatever you wanted to say is in it. BLAIR HODGES: Once it's out, it's out, so. DEBORAH COHAN: Right. And at the same time, though, I've started to grow more comfortable with the fact that writing itself is a process and that I will come to think about things and know things in new and different ways. And I guess, when you ask what's surprising, I will say it has surprised me that the thing I was most afraid of—which was the death of a parent or both parents—has been also freeing. It's been a pretty startling revelation I guess you could say. BLAIR HODGES: Is it hard to talk about that? Some people might say,

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Wednesday, December 13, 2023: A Taylor Swift birthday celebration has taken over Brewnuts in Gordon Square with a huge line for themed treats and merchandise. Plus, we're following the case of what will happen to Igor the Shaker Heights police department K-9 as his former partner fights to adopt him out of a kennel. We also share the latest on suspects arrested tied to the carjacking of an Ohio State University coach recruiting in Cleveland, the charges against the man police say killed a doctor while driving the wrong way on I-90, and more on 3News Daily with Stephanie Haney. Watch Stephanie Haney's Legally Speaking specials and segments here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_SLtTChKczKEzKhgSopjxcmFQniu28GN Connect with Stephanie Haney here: http://youtube.com/@_StephanieHaney http://twitter.com/_StephanieHaney http://instagram.com/_StephanieHaney http://facebook.com/thestephaniehaney Read more here: Shaker Heights police dog remains in kennel as City Council mulls situation https://www.wkyc.com/article/news/local/cuyahoga-county/shaker-heights-police-kennel-city-council/95-c2ecd22f-1d0c-48f7-9b56-934b8754d900 Ohio State assistant football coach victim of carjacking in Cleveland; 4 suspects arrested https://www.wkyc.com/article/news/crime/ohio-state-assistant-football-coach-carjacking-cleveland-suspects-arrested/95-4f22f96e-62b1-4c87-af36-556d01a2de1f

Monday, December 11, 2023: The Cleveland Browns' playoff chances have improved with Sunday's crucial win over the Jacksonville Jaguars led by quarterback Joe Flacco. We look at head coach Kevin Stefanski's comments about him only being signed to the practice squad, and more. Plus, we have an update on fake bomb threats sent to dozens of Ohio schools districts this weekend. We also share what a Shaker Heights police officer is saying about being denied the opportunity to buy his K-9 partner as he moves to another police force, which former officers are in court this week, and where police are looking to bring in new recruits, and fast. In the entertainment world, we show you the Lakewood guy who will be competing in WWE's Monday Night Raw at Rocket Mortgage FieldHouse tonight, and more on 3News Daily with Stephanie Haney. Watch Stephanie Haney's Legally Speaking specials and segments here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_SLtTChKczKEzKhgSopjxcmFQniu28GN Connect with Stephanie Haney here: http://youtube.com/@_StephanieHaney http://twitter.com/_StephanieHaney http://instagram.com/_StephanieHaney http://facebook.com/thestephaniehaney Read more here: JIMMY'S TAKE: Jim Donovan says Cleveland Browns were 'more comfortable defensively' in win over Jacksonville Jaguars https://www.wkyc.com/article/sports/local-sports/jimmys-take/jimmys-take-jim-donovan-cleveland-browns-win-jacksonville-jaguars/95-f8368a52-3b50-4f81-b62d-65551fd40cf6 Former Shaker Heights police officer forced to surrender beloved police dog https://www.wkyc.com/article/news/local/cuyahoga-county/former-shaker-heights-police-officer-surrender-k-9/95-589a73ec-499e-431f-afd8-ca932881eee7

Darryl Swann was born and raised in the Cleveland, Ohio suburb of Shaker Heights. Darryl's fascination with music production began at age 9 upon reading the book Modern Recording Techniques. He played lead guitar in the garage band "The Lab Rats" and mixed live sound for many Cleveland area bands throughout his teenage years. After graduating from Shaker Heights High School in 1983, Swann acquired his Liberal Arts degree from UCLA in Westwood, Los Angeles, California. In 1984, Darryl and his new rock band "Haven" relocated to Los Angeles and played with Poison and Warrant at The Troubadour." -Wikipedia Co-Managing Member Darryl Swann is a multi-platinum, Grammy-winning music Producer with over thirty-five years of experience in the music business. As a record producer and audio engineer, he has worked with such artists as Macy Gray, producer Rick Rubin, Mos-Def, John Frichante of Red Hot Chili Peppers, Erykah Badu, and the Black Eyed Peas. Darryl has also done substantial work for Atlantic Records, Sony Records, and Universal Records. Darryl also recorded, produced, and mixed the first Linkin Park record that got them signed to Warner Brothers Records. As a music publisher with Sony Music Publishing and Universal Music. Darryl is also an Audio, Music Production, Mixing, and Mastering Instructor at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA). He is a music consultant and recurring lecturer of Music-Technology at NYU, the Grammy Museum in Los Angeles, and a voting member of the Reco. Darryl Swann, founder of Moshpit, introduces a groundbreaking platform for musicians and concertgoers. Using VR, Smartphones, or any cloud-connecting device you can create on Moshpit. It allows artists to create custom concerts in various popular venues. The user-friendly interface lets creators fully design immersive with pyrotechnics, and lighting, all making you the director for your dream concert experiences. Patrons enjoy concerts at home, supporting artists through tips, subscriptions, and virtual merchandise. Moshpit accommodates up to 50 viewers per concert so invite your best concert buds to join you. Just like a real video game, they can fully enjoy the experience just like a real concert with a few extras to give your audience a unique experience. Swann discusses how he built his team to create Moshpit and offers tips for audience engagement. Moshpit emerges as an exciting platform for creators to connect with fans and generate income. Moshpit doesn't go live until 2024, I am thrilled to be the first to share about Moshpit.Live! Learn More about MOSHPIT.LIVE Coming Soon Eminem on Fortnite: The Big Bang Event! Travis Scott virtual concert on Fortnite Ariana Grande on Fortnite "Camille Kauer is a dynamic powerhouse! She hosts, produces, and directs her own show/podcast, "The E-Spot with Camille”. She focuses on connecting beauty, entertainment, and the interior design industry. Camille has a unique perspective and a way of personalizing her guests' individual stories which touch her audiences. " Learn more about The E-Spot and host, Camille Kauer --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/camillekauer/message

A conversation with Warren Commission Assistant Counsel Burt W. Griffin, Case Closed author and Lee Harvey Oswald scholar Gerald Posner, and JFK conspiracy theory debunker Michel Gagné. Shermer, Griffin, Posner, and Gagné discuss: the nostalgic myth of “Camelot” • Lee Harvey Oswald and why he killed Kennedy • Cuba, Castro, the Bay of Pigs debacle • the CIA and why it is rational to be skeptical of their activities • the “magic bullet,” pristine or predictably damaged? • James Hosty and the FBI's files on Oswald before he killed JFK • CIA and FBI coverups • General Edwin Walker • Jack Ruby • Bernard Weissman, • common themes in conspiracy theories • witness intimidation • planted evidence • evidence tampering. Burt W. Griffin, Warren Commission Assistant Counsel was the assistant counsel to the president's commission on the assassination of President Kennedy (popularly known as the Warren Commission) and had primary responsibility for investigating and writing the section of the commission's report (1964) on whether Jack Ruby was engaged in a conspiracy to assassinate either JFK, Lee Oswald, or both. He lives in Shaker Heights, Ohio. Gerald Posner is an award-winning journalist who has written twelve books, including the Pulitzer Prize finalist Case Closed: Lee Harvey Oswald and the Assassination of JFK. His 2015 book, God's Bankers, a two-hundred-year history of the finances of the Vatican, was an acclaimed New York Times bestseller. Posner has written for many national magazines and papers, including the New York Times, The New Yorker, Newsweek, and Time, and he has been a regular contributor to NBC, the History Channel, CNN, CBS, MSNBC, and FOX News. His other books include Killing the Dream: James Earl Ray and the Assassination of Martin Luther King, Jr.; Secrets of the Kingdom: The Inside Story of the Saudi-U.S. Connection; Mengele: The Complete Story; Hitler's Children: Sons and Daughters of Third Reich Leaders; Warlords of Crime: Chinese Secret Societies — the New Mafia; and Why America Slept: The Failure to Prevent 9/11. He lives in Miami Beach with his wife, author Trisha Posner. Michel Jacques Gagné teaches courses in critical thinking, political philosophy, philosophy of religion, and ethics in the Humanities Department of Champlain College Saint-Lambert, a junior college (CÉGEP) located near Montreal, Canada. He has an M.A. in History (Concordia University, Canada, 2005), with a thesis on civil rights protests in Northern Ireland during the 1960s, and undergraduate degrees in Education (McGill University, Canada, 1999) and History and Political Science (with joint-honors, McGill University, Canada, 1995). He has published articles in Skeptic, the National Post, the Encyclopedia of Religion and Violence, and is the author of Thinking Critically About the Kennedy Assassination: Debunking the Myths and Conspiracy. He is also the creator and host of the Paranoid Planet podcast, which discusses conspiracy theories and related phenomena. He resides with his wife and two children in Montreal, Canada.

This one was personal. The new book Dream Town, Shaker Heights and the Quest for Racial Equity is taking Cleveland by storm.  As a  Shaker alumna, former teacher and parent, Shana spoke with Laura Meckler, the author of Dream Town to unpack the history, successes and personal experiences while trying to live life by the ‘Shaker way.' Get the book: Dream Town: Shaker Heights and the Quest for Racial Equity https://amzn.to/3QUZwvQ About our guest: Laura Meckler is a national education writer for the Washington Post, where she covers the news, politics and people shaping American schools. She previously reported on the White House, presidential politics, immigration, and health care for the Wall Street Journal, as well as on health and social policy for the Associated Press. Her honors include a Nieman Fellowship and a Livingston Award for National Reporting for her coverage of organ transplantation, and she was part of a team that won the George Polk Award for Justice Reporting for a series on the life of George Floyd. She is the author of DREAM TOWN: Shaker Heights and the Quest for Racial Equity, about her hometown. She now lives in Washington,D.C., with her husband and two sons. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackgirlirl/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackgirlirl/support

Washington Post education writer Laura Meckler joins the show to discuss her new book, “Dream Town,” the impact of racial integration in Shaker Heights, Ohio schools, and the challenges facing the education system nationwide. Colin and lead producer Erin also talk about MAGA Speaker Mike Johnson (R-LA) and the mass shootings in Lewiston, Maine.

Thursday, October 19, 2023: Chaos continues in Congress as Rep. Jim Jordan temporarily pauses seeking the Speaker of the House role. Plus, a Middle East expert from Northeast Ohio shares his take on why Hamas attacked Israel and how it's playing into their larger plan. We also tell you the latest on Cleveland Browns quarterback Deshaun Watson's injury. In other news, Tower City Center will have a special holiday feature in an homage to the movie, “A Christmas Story.” Meanwhile, Shaker Heights police are doing something creative to build trust in their community, while the high school students will be featured on national television, and more on 3News Daily with Stephanie Haney. Watch Stephanie Haney's In The News Now special on Rep. Kevin McCarthy being ousted as Speaker of the House here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11lydcwuinA Watch Stephanie Haney's Legally Speaking specials and segments here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_SLtTChKczKEzKhgSopjxcmFQniu28GN Connect with Stephanie Haney here: http://youtube.com/@_StephanieHaney http://twitter.com/_StephanieHaney http://instagram.com/_StephanieHaney http://facebook.com/thestephaniehaney Read more here: Browns QB Deshaun Watson practicing after missing 2 games with a shoulder injury; could face Colts https://www.wkyc.com/article/sports/nfl/browns/browns-qb-deshaun-watson-practicing-after-missing-2-games/95-0463626d-1d1e-46fb-9940-2713f21b8c15 Akron police investigate 2 separate shootings: Here's a timeline of the incidents https://www.wkyc.com/article/news/local/akron/akron-shootings-diagonal-road-north-main-street/95-81da9694-0568-4b86-8f57-d6406db8d2dc

In 1955, the integration of a lily white Cleveland suburb began with one Black family and an unexpected response from that family's new neighbors. While some had responded with the racism and bigotry common to that era, the neighbors welcomed them and stood with them. Eventually, together they created an intentionally integrated community in Ludlow, on the west side of Shaker Heights.rnrnThese events set a course for the community and the Shaker Heights school district became a beacon for racial school integration and academic excellence. But not without its challenges. In Dream Town: Shaker Heights and the Quest for Racial Equity, author Laura Meckler explores Shake Heights school's history as a case study of what's possible and how hard the work can be.rnrnUsing her years of experience as a journalist, Meckler turns her investigative eye toward the city that formed her, delving into difficult questions about this complicated part of Shaker Heights' history-and its effects on the country's racial academic achievement gap. Publishers Weekly called the book "a nuanced and impressively detailed study of the barriers to racial equality."rnrnMeckler is a national education reporter for The Washington Post. She previously worked at The Wall Street Journal and The Associated Press. She was part of the team that won the George Polk Award for Justice Reporting for a 2020 series on the life of George Floyd. Before coming to Washington, Laura covered state government in Columbus. She got her start at The Repository in Canton.

Elizabeth Woodson is joined by Te'Sheba Oliver and Leah Ross to have a conversation about how Jesus shows us what it looks like to make disciples and how to apply his words to our everyday, ordinary lives.Questions Covered in This Episode:What do we learn about disciple-making from Jesus' teachings and actions in The Gospels?What are some components of his process that we should strive to emulate?Why do you think Christians find it hard to participate in discipleship?What does it look like for you all to incorporate disciple-making into your everyday life?How do The Gospels and the practice of disciple-making point us to the gospel?Guest Bio:Te'Sheba Oliver and Leah Ross are the co-hosts of The Urban Christian Woman podcast, part of a ministry that seeks to restore urban women with God's truth for everyday life. The Urban Christian woman provides resources to equip them for teaching, discipleship, and bible study in their local churches. Te'Sheba is the founder and visionary of the Urban Christian Woman. As a part of her role she helps churches develop comprehensive discipleship plans for women in their contexts. She is a wife and a mom of 5 kids. She and her family live in Shaker Heights and attend City Church. Along with podcasting, Leah is the executive director of New City Cleveland, a Christian community organization empowering neighbors on Cleveland's east side. She and her husband live in the city with their 4 kids.Reflection Question:Whether it's with your kids, friends, coworkers, or a small group at church, what is one thing you can do to help one person grow as a disciple of Jesus?Continue Learning:Matthew 5-7, Matthew 28:19-20, Genesis 1:26-28, Mark 10:35-45, John 13:44Growing Together by Melissa KrugerMentor for Life by Natasha Sistrunk RobinsonReal Life Discipleship by Jim PutmanThe Urban Christian WomanAmazon affiliate links are used where appropriate. As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases, thank you for supporting Training the Church.Sponsors:To learn more about our sponsors please visit our website.Follow Us:Twitter | Instagram | TikTokOur Sister Podcasts:Knowing Faith | The Family Discipleship Podcast | Confronting Christianity  | Tiny TheologiansStarting Place with Elizabeth Woodson is a podcast of Training the Church. For ad-free episodes and more content check out our Patreon. Sponsors:To learn more about our sponsors please visit our website.Follow Us:Twitter | Instagram | TikTokOur Sister Podcasts:Knowing Faith | The Family Discipleship Podcast | Confronting Christianity | Tiny TheologiansStarting Place with Elizabeth Woodson is a podcast of Training the Church. For ad-free episodes and more content check out our Patreon.

Get ready for an electrifying journey on this episode of THE SETH WILLIAMS SHOW! Join Seth and Chris as they unravel the intriguing world of the Auto Workers' Union with "UAW Mike." Uncover the reasons behind their demands!

Friday, September 15, 2023: The manslaughter trial has started for two brothers over the death of Akron teen Ethan Liming who was killed outside of the I Promise School in Akron. Plus, 3 United Auto Workers plants including 1 in Toledo are now on strike against the big 3 automakers. We tell you why 7 Northeast Ohio mail workers have been arrested, and why catastrophic layoffs could happen in Newburgh Heights. We also share what we know about a threat at a Shaker Heights football game, along with a piece of art seized from Oberlin College's museum that is believed to have been stolen during the Holocaust, and more on 3News Daily with Stephanie Haney. Watch our special on the earthquake in Morocco here: https://youtu.be/09Y4hKpaImY Watch Stephanie Haney's Legally Speaking specials and segments here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_SLtTChKczKEzKhgSopjxcmFQniu28GN Connect with Stephanie Haney here: http://youtube.com/@_StephanieHaney http://twitter.com/_StephanieHaney http://instagram.com/_StephanieHaney http://facebook.com/thestephaniehaney Read more here: WATCH LIVE: Trial starts for 2 brothers charged with killing Akron teen Ethan Liming https://www.wkyc.com/article/news/crime/trial-starts-friday-2-brothers-charged-killing-akron-teen-ethan-liming/95-f914637a-34ee-4c5a-9ccf-ee2b66562613 7 Northeast Ohio men arrested for alleged mail theft, mail fraud and conspiracy https://www.wkyc.com/article/news/local/cleveland/7-northeast-ohio-men-arrested-alleged-mail-theft-mail-fraud-conspiracy/95-473a6436-680b-451b-9209-14076a2d3186

News you Need for Friday, September 15, 2023. Auto workers launched a strike, Hunter Biden was indicted, Shaker Heights vs Maple Heights High School football game was played without fans, *NSYNC getting together for a song for the movie "Trolls Band Together", we have movement in the Writer's Guild strike, Chrissy Teigen and John Legend set to renew vows with destination wedding in Italy.

News you Need for Friday, September 15, 2023. Auto workers launched a strike, Hunter Biden was indicted, Shaker Heights vs Maple Heights High School football game was played without fans, *NSYNC getting together for a song for the movie "Trolls Band Together", we have movement in the Writer's Guild strike, Chrissy Teigen and John Legend set to renew vows with destination wedding in Italy.

On the latest episode of The Report Card, Nat Malkus speaks with Laura Meckler about her new book, Dream Town: Shaker Heights and the Quest for Racial Equity. Nat and Laura discuss integration, busing, and de-tracking; the Van Sweringen brothers; the limitations of good intentions; the internet’s effect on journalism; the racial achievement gap; belonging; […]

In the 1950s, Shaker Heights, Ohio, became a national model for housing integration. In the 1970s, it was known as a crown jewel in the national move to racially integrate schools. So why is its school system now struggling to close a yawning racial achievement gap? Guest: Laura Meckler Book: “Dream Town: Shaker Heights and the Quest for Racial Equity” Host: Caleb Bissinger • Download the Next Big Idea app: nextbigideaclub.com/app

Hello from three far-flung cities! This week, we're joined by our pal Vinson Cunningham, staff writer and theatre critic for The New Yorker. After briefly interrogating Jay's recent pivot to dad-hiker fashion (pic for subscribers only), we hear Vinson's take on the Trump mugshot. [4:05] The image gets us talking about aesthetic self-perception, the celebrity accused in popular culture, and the lack of a good analysis of Trump's true appeal. [41:45] Next, we discuss last week's G.O.P. primary debate, which causes Jay to confront what fascinates him about Vivek Ramaswamy, Tammy to question her EMILYs List impulses, and Vinson to call b******t on right-wing claims of populism. In this episode, we ask: How does the Trump mugshot, a visual anomaly in the history of presidential imagery, reflect on our political system? What's the value of similar pix in countries where former leaders are regularly imprisoned? Is there any ceiling on this Trump thing? Why didn't the G.O.P. primary debate feature more culture-war talk? For more, see: * Vinson's recent piece about the Trump mugshot, plus older ruminations on presidential imagery: * From 2017: Pete Souza and the Politics of Looking at Barack Obama* From 2018: The Politics of Race and the Photo That Might Have Derailed Obama* Jay's recent articles about integration in Shaker Heights, Ohio and Vivek Ramaswamy's debate performance * A Q&A by Isaac Chotiner (apols for the New Yorker plugs) about the constitutional case for barring Trump from the presidency* Previous TTSG episodes featuring Vinson: * “Tár,” a film for the chattering class (February 2023) * "Mare of Easttown" special impromptu episode! (May 2021)  * Vinson Cunningham on the NBA, Yang, and IRL theatre (May 2021) And pre-order Vinson's forthcoming novel! * Out of respect for our many repeat guests, we note that this episode marks Vinson's fourth TTSG appearance, which ties him with Hua Hsu and Jenny Wang Medina. Subscribe on Patreon or Substack to join our Discord community (and see photo evidence of Jay's newfound style). You can also follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter, and email us at timetosaygoodbyepod@gmail.com.  This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit goodbye.substack.com/subscribe

Shaker Heights, the affluent Cleveland suburb, voluntarily desegregated neighborhoods and then schools. In the process, it became a national model for integration. And yet, decades into it, the academic gap between Blacks and whites has grown.

Tim Pilleri & Lance Reenstierna speak with author James Renner about his new book Little, Crazy Children, about the unsolved murder of Lisa Pruett from Shaker Heights, Ohio in 1990. Check out our Subscription Service where we have a bundled our bonus material from Missing, Crawlspace and Dark Valley shows! Ad-free episodes and more at https://missing.supportingcast.fm/ Follow James: https://twitter.com/JamesRenner Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/james.renner.14/ James's site: https://jamesrenner.com/new-true-crime-thriller-little-crazy-children/ Get Little, Crazy Children on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Little-Crazy-Children-James-Renner/dp/0806542551 We love our Air Doctors! And if you want your air to be easier to breathe, head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code CRAWLSPACE and, depending on the model, you'll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive 20% OFF any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use code “CRAWLSPACE”! We love our AquaTru water purifiers! Receive 20% off any AquaTru water purifier when you go to AquaTru.com and use code "CRAWLSPACE" Follow us: IG: https://www.instagram.com/crawlspacepodcast/ TT: https://www.tiktok.com/@crawlspacepodcast YT: https://www.youtube.com/crawlspace Twitter: https://twitter.com/CrawlspacePod FB: https://www.facebook.com/Crawlspacepodcast/ Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crawlspace-true-crime-mysteries/id1187326340 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/58cll3enTW2SNmbJUuLsrt The music for Crawlspace was produced by David Flajnik. Listen to his music here: https://www.pond5.com/artist/bigdsound Check out the entire Crawlspace Media Network at http://crawlspace-media.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Washington Post reporter Laura Meckler tells the story of Shaker Heights, Ohio, a town with high-performing, diverse schools — and also a pronounced achievement gap between white and Black students. Meckler's book is Dream Town.John Powers reviews Naomi Hirahara's mystery novel Evergreen.

Back in September 1990, Lisa Pruett, a sixteen year old resident of Shaker Heights, Ohio, slipped out of her house for a late night rendezvous with her boyfriend. She never made it home. They found her body the next morning; she had been stabbed to death just about 30 feet from her boyfriend's house. A man named Kevin Young ended up being charged with the crime.But he was acquitted. Yet that didn't remove the clouds of doubt around him; law enforcement investigators and others believe Kevin got away with murder. Others maintain it was a travesty that he was even charged with the crime in the first place. Now James Renner steps into the fray with LITTLE CRAZY CHILDREN, a meticulously reported new book on the subject. Renner- a reporter with a long track record of investigating and writing about true crime- came to this story convinced that Kevin was wrongfully charged and that another man was in fact responsible for the crime. You can find James' book on Amazon.https://www.amazon.com/Little-Crazy-Children-James-Renner/dp/0806542551/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?crid=2YYMPUPNTRZV7&keywords=little+crazy+children+james+renner&qid=1689872428&sprefix=james+renn%252Caps%252C110&sr=8-2-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&psc=1&_encoding=UTF8&tag=murdersheet-20&linkCode=ur2&linkId=15b3e6211f3eb347fd8a7b0db47d0330&camp=1789&creative=9325The Murder Sheet participates in the Amazon Associate program and earns money from qualifying purchases. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Love mysteries? You need to check out June's Journey, the awesome, free-to-download mobile game where you get to play as June, a globe-trotting flapper slash amateur sleuth who lives to solve mysteries. You'll get to visit all sorts of fascinating locales, from Paris to Cuba. You beat levels by identifying hidden objects in the scene. We've found that the more we play, the sharper our observational skills get.The game is delightful, and a wonderful way to relax. We'll often pull our phones out and play it when we've got a free moment, like we're on hold with an archive or we're waiting for a courthouse to open up. We know that our audience is filled with folks who love a good mystery! Now is your chance to try your hand at being a sleuth yourself. Try out June's Journey now! You'll get to have a blast traveling the world, exposing injustices, and tangling with all sorts of intriguing characters. Discover your inner detective when you download June's Journey for free today on iOS and Android.Wooga: https://www.wooga.com/games/junes-journeyApple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/junes-journey-hidden-objects/id1200391796Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=net.wooga.junes_journey_hidden_object_mystery_game&hl=en&gl=US&pli=1Send tips to murdersheet@gmail.com.The Murder Sheet is a production of Mystery Sheet LLC.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In September of 1990, in the Cleveland suburb of Shaker Heights, sixteen-year-old Lisa Pruett, a poetry lover and member of a church youth group, was on her way to a midnight tryst with her boyfriend, when she was viciously stabbed to death only thirty feet from the boy's home.The murder cast a palpable gloom over the upscale community and sparked accusations, theories, and rumors among Lisa's friends and peers. Together they wove a damning narrative that circled back to a likely suspect: “weird” high school outcast Kevin Young. Without a shred of evidence the teen was arrested, charged, and tried for the crime. His eventual acquittal didn't squelch the anger and outrage among those who believed that Kevin got away with murder.With a fresh perspective and painstaking research culled from police files, court records, transcripts, uncollected evidence, and new interviews, James Renner reconstructs the events leading up to and following that heartbreaking night. What emerges is a portrait of a community seething with dark undercurrents—its single-minded authorities, protective status-conscious parents, and the deeply peer-pressured teens within Lisa's circle.Who had the capacity for such unchecked violence? What monsters still lurk in the dark? After more than thirty years, questions like these continue to fester among the community of Shaker Heights, Ohio, still deeply scarred by wounds that remain hidden, unspoken, and unhealed. LITTLE, CRAZY CHILDREN: A True Crime Tragedy of Lost Innocence-James RennerRitual.com/MurderThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/3269715/advertisement

You are going to love this episode. Today we are going to dive into a teenager's emotional life. I think what makes parenting teens so challenging is dealing with their intense emotions. Sometimes you're the target of their emotional storms and sometimes they turn their emotions inward. You worry about them being depressed or anxious. How many times have we brought up a simple request to our teen, but it turns out to be not so simple because it triggers a huge emotional response? Moms can find themselves avoiding talking about important topics because they don't know how to handle their emotions. I invited Dr. Lisa Damour, the author of The Emotional Lives of Teenagers, to talk about this nuanced subject of teenage emotions. In this episode we focus on her chapter called Managing Emotions, Part One: Helping Teens Express Their Emotions and the following chapter called Managing Emotions, Part Two: Helping Teens Regain Emotional Control Recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association, Lisa Damour, Ph.D., co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, writes about adolescents for the The New York Times, appears as a regular contributor to CBS News, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and maintains a clinical practice. She is the author of three New York Times bestsellers, The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents, Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood and Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls. She and her husband have two daughters and live in Shaker Heights, Ohio. To find out more about the Emotional Lives of Teenagers go to https://drlisadamour.com/  And while you are there go to the tab that says How Can I Help to get your downloadable bookmarks. Follow Lisa on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/lisa.damour/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Katie Paris is a 20-year veteran of national politics and an Ohio suburban mom. She moved to Ohio from Washington, DC, almost ten years ago, but it wasn't until the 2018 election that she quit her job in national politics to focus closer to home. Once she started meeting with other suburban women across the state, she started Red Wine & Blue to create suburban mom infrastructure that could fight disinformation and win campaigns. She now has a staff of 15 organizers and content creators and a national network of over 300,000 women who believe in inclusivity, vulnerability, and courage (best explained by the NYT episode of “The Daily”: The Field: Why Suburban Women Changed Their Minds and the Washington Post article: "‘Blue' suburban moms are mobilizing to counter conservatives"). Red Wine & Blue's latest campaign is focused on fighting back against book banning and attacks on public education. Previously, she was CEO of Shareblue Media (now American Independent), Executive Vice President of Media Matters (which she helped launch as its first research director in 2004), and Program and Communications Director at Faith in Public Life (which she also helped found). Prior to building national organizations, Katie worked on gubernatorial, senate, and presidential campaigns. She lives in Shaker Heights, OH with her husband and two young sons. @redwineblueusahttps://redwine.blue/www.citizensofsound.comwww.howcanihelppod.com www.mysaintmyhero.com DISCOUNT CODE: HOWIHELP

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My real friends. The Dogs are 4-0. We hear some of Joey Zanaboni's call from both the the Dogs and Ambush games. Discussion about Missouri and the tournament as a whole. Eric Musselman's topless celebration. Which coach would you most want to see topless? World Baseball Classic. PlowTake on Libertore. Deidre about infidelity. Tops/bottoms. Plowsy claims Shaker Heights, Ohio is the capital of swinging. Biff joins in with expertise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Celeste Ng is an American writer and author of three novels. Her second novel, Little Fires Everywhere, was published in 2017 and became a #1 New York Times bestseller. A television adaptation of the novel, starring Reese Witherspoon and Kerry Washington, premiered in 2020. Little Fires Everywhere is set in Shaker Heights, Ohio, and centers around two families—the mothers of these families especially. One family is upper-middle class with a “typical” suburban structure: a mom, a dad, and four kids; the other is a single mom, Mia, and her daughter, who are newcomers to the town. In her conversation with Susan, Celeste discusses a flashback to how a young Mia first became interested in photography as a medium. For more, visit bookexploder.com/episodes/celeste-ng.