Podcasts about what you really want

Summary In this episode, Andy sits down with Attia Qureshi, a coach and negotiation expert who is co-author, with John Richardson, of Never Settle. There's no shortage of great negotiation advice out there, yet in real conversations with real stakes and real emotions, that advice often fails to turn into action. This book tackles that gap between insight and habit. Attia shares why emotions are not a distraction from negotiation but central to it, why getting clear about what you actually want is harder than it sounds, and how we leave value on the table without realizing it. You'll hear practical stories, from resetting a difficult relationship with a glass of lemonade to expanding the pie in a salary negotiation, plus small daily exercises for building resilience to rejection and learning to say no in a way that strengthens relationships rather than damaging them. If you're looking for practical, doable ways to become a more confident negotiator and influencer, this episode is for you! Sound Bites "You can get more by caring about what the other person needs and building a strong relational foundation." "People are not born amazing negotiators. They develop that skill over time, just like people are not born confident." "You have to practice that small step out in the real world where the stakes are low and build that skill day after day, month after month." "You and I have probably already negotiated half a dozen times today." "When someone gives us something, we want to return the favor." "New studies now show that 90 to 95% of decision-making comes from unconscious emotional processing." "So many of us quit before we even start." "But if we do have a goal and we do prepare for the conversation, our likelihood of success is double." "A good negotiation doesn't always mean getting 'yes' at the end of it." "I always tell my students, people can almost always help you. It depends on if they want to or not." Chapters 00:00 Introduction 02:06 Start of Interview 02:17 Growing Up: Early Lessons in Conflict 07:10 Negotiation and Confidence Are Skills, Not Personality 08:04 Life Is Full of Everyday Negotiations 10:30 Why Negotiation Training Often Fails 12:30 Resetting a Difficult Relationship 17:20 Influence vs. Manipulation 22:33 Emotions, Fear, and Building Resilience 28:00 Using the Emotion Wheel 29:36 Getting Clear on What You Really Want 33:39 Expanding the Pie: Creating Value 40:50 The Power of Saying No 47:27 Teaching Kids to Negotiate 51:23 End of Interview 51:55 Andy Comments After the Interview 55:22 Outtakes Learn More You can learn more about Attia and her work at AttiaQureshi.com. For more learning on this topic, check out: Episode 157 with Dr. Robert Cialdini. Known as the godfather of influence, his name came up several times during today's discussion, making this a great follow-up. Episode 412 with Scott Walker. A former Scotland Yard hostage negotiator who shares a lot of practical lessons about influence. Episode 385 with Vanessa Patrick. She wrote one of the best books on how to say no, a fitting companion to today's conversation. Chat with PMeLa You can chat directly with PMeLa—the podcast's AI persona—to get episode recommendations and answers to your project management and leadership questions. Visit PeopleAndProjectsPodcast.com/PMeLa to chat with her. Join Us for LEAD52 I know you want to be a more confident leader–that's why you listen to this podcast. LEAD52 is a global community of people like you who are committed to transforming their ability to lead and deliver. It's 52 weeks of leadership learning, delivered right to your inbox, taking less than 5 minutes a week. And it's all for free. Learn more and sign up at GetLEAD52.com. Thanks! Thank you for joining me for this episode of The People and Projects Podcast! Talent Triangle: Power Skills Topics: Negotiation, Influence, Leadership, Project Management, Reciprocity, Emotional Intelligence, Resilience, Saying No, Stakeholder Management, Relationship Building, Value Creation, Confidence The following music was used for this episode: Music: Quantum Sparks (Full Version) by MusicLFiles License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license Music: Tropical Vibe by WinnieTheMoog License (CC BY 4.0): https://filmmusic.io/standard-license

What if the questions you're asking right now are actually working against you? Six years into this podcast, I thought I had a pretty good handle on the power of curiosity. And then Larry Robertson showed up in my inbox — through our mutual friend Lynn Borton of the Choose to Be Curious podcast — and I realized I'd only scratched the surface. Larry is an innovation advisor, Fulbright Scholar, and author of four award-winning books. His latest, Great Question: The Art of the Ask and Getting More of What You Really Want, is the result of years of research and interviews with some of the world's most original thinkers. His central argument: asking great questions might be the most underrated human skill we have. And most of us stopped practicing it a long time ago. In this conversation we talk about why jumping straight to "why" can actually shut down your thinking, what intellectual humility really is and why it matters more than we think, the specific trap that midlife sets for our curiosity, the difference between reinvention, rewiring, and renewal, and the one question Larry returns to every time he's navigating uncertainty. I also made an on air confession….  After six years of hosting a podcast about aging playfully, I still catch myself having ageist thoughts. Turns out that's not something to be ashamed of. It's just proof that the question never really ends. Larry Robertson's book is available now. Find him at lrspeaks.com.

If you feel stuck in your healing business and don't know what to focus on, this episode walks you through a step-by-step clarity process to help you realign your strategy and start attracting clients. You'll define what you truly want, who you're meant to serve, how to position yourself, which business model fits you, and how to calculate your “magic number” so your income goals actually make sense. Plus, you'll get a custom GPT and workbook to help you implement everything and build a profitable, aligned business you actually enjoy.   If you're serious about growing your healing business, here's your next step:   ► Healing Business Accelerator™: https://www.healingmillions.com/healing-business-accelerator   ► Healer Clarity Blueprint™ (Free Workbook + custom GPT): ninamaglic.com/clarity-workbook   ► Get Booked & Paid Well™ Skool community: https://www.skool.com/healing-millions-mastermind/about    © 2026 Nina Maglic & Healing Millions. All rights reserved.  

Globally, 86% of small business owners pay themselves less than $100K a year. Only 20% of solopreneurs reach the $100K–$300K bracket. And just 3.6% ever hit the million mark. So why do so many stay stuck — and how can you break through? In this episode of Your Truth Shared, I unpack what really keeps small businesses from crossing that €100K line — and why it's not about working harder, but working more consciously. We'll explore: The Busyness Trap that keeps entrepreneurs on the hamster wheel The missing sales engine that moves businesses from €15K to €100K and beyond Why whole-business thinking matters just as much for solopreneurs as larger companies My five-question Consciousness Framework that turns random actions into aligned growth Why boring, consistent follow-through beats shiny tactics every time My own declaration to build a million-euro business — and why the odds don't scare me If you've ever wondered how to take your business from busy to viable, from fragmented to aligned, and from stuck to sustainable — this one's for you. ⏱️ Episode Chapters 00:00 – The Reality Check: Why Most Small Businesses Don't Cross €100K 04:30 – Sales vs. Salary: Getting Clear on What You Really Want 08:15 – The Fear of Wanting: Why Entrepreneurs Hide Their Goals 12:40 – The Busyness Trap: When Consistency Becomes Pointless Activity 18:05 – The Missing Engine: Why Visibility Without Conversion Doesn't Work 24:50 – Sales as a Relationship: The Power of Small Yeses 28:30 – Whole-Business Thinking: Culture, Alignment, and Follow-Through 33:00 – The Consciousness Framework: Five Questions That Change Everything 39:15 – Finishing What You Start: Why One Campaign Done Well Beats Two Half-Finished 43:20 – Reframe & Empower: Hitting €100K and Beyond Without Burnout 48:00 – My Million-Euro Declaration: Consciousness Over Hustle 52:15 – The Closing Challenge: Build a Business That Sustains You Resources & Links Connect with me: Website → finolahoward.com Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thisisfinolahoward/ LinkedIn → linkedin.com/in/finolahoward Join the SOAR Waitlist:

Whether we're talking sigils, somatics, or the neuroscience of orgasm, this episode drives home one truth: your body holds wisdom, your desires matter, and your sexual energy is a force that can heal, transform, and manifest the life you want. In this intimate and eye-opening episode of the HEAL with Kelly podcast, I sit down with world-renowned sex, love, and relationship therapist Dr. Laura Berman to explore the transformative principles behind her latest book, Sex Magic — a guide to harnessing your sexual energy to consciously create the life you crave. With over 30 years of experience, a PhD from NYU, multiple New York Times bestsellers, and regular appearances on The Oprah Winfrey Show, OWN, and Showtime, Dr. Berman brings unmatched wisdom, heart, and depth to this liberating conversation. Together, we unpack how women can reclaim desire beyond societal conditioning, move from performative intimacy to sacred connection, and why emotional safety — not just physical stimulation — is the true foundation of erotic fulfillment. Dr. Berman shares practical tools for cultivating quantum intimacy in long-term relationships and explains why chasing dopamine highs often leaves us empty —and what to do instead. But this episode doesn't stop at sex—it dives into the soul. Dr. Berman vulnerably shares the heartbreaking loss of her son, the metaphysical experience that followed, and how that grief cracked her open to a new level of embodiment, frequency healing, and spiritual awakening. Her journey through somatic release, emotional alchemy, and full-body “yes” living is as inspiring as it is instructive. If you're ready to rewire your relationship with pleasure, power, and presence — this one's for you. Key Moments You'll Love: [00:00] Intro [02:55] The Pandemic Porn Problem [08:11] What You Really Want [18:03] Sigil Creation Process [28:38] The Communication Revolution [34:46] Divine Masculine & Feminine [37:47] The Situationship Lesson [54:31] Feeling vs. Numbing [57:43] The Full Body Yes LINKS Dr. Laura Berman Website: https://drlauraberman.com/ Dr. Laura Berman on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlauraberman/ Sex Magic on Amazon: https://amzn.to/45oDmd5 --------------------- ABOUT THE HEAL WITH KELLY PODCAST: The HEAL with Kelly Podcast (formerly The HEAL Podcast) is a continuation of the HEAL documentary and HEAL book. Kelly Noonan Gores, a passionate seeker on a mission to find out the true extent of human potential and healing, continues the conversation by interviewing leading doctors, scientists, spiritual teachers, and healers around the globe. She also interviews real people with remarkable healing stories who have turned around supposedly incurable diseases. So much more is possible when it comes to healing than we are often told by mainstream, conventional medicine. The HEAL with Kelly Podcast will inspire you with hope and empower you with knowledge, tools, awareness, and a strong belief that almost anything is possible when it comes to healing. A most powerful and intelligent healer resides within us all and The HEAL with Kelly Podcast will teach us how to activate this innate healer within. Listen to all episodes of the HEAL with Kelly Podcast now on Spotify and Apple Podcasts Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/healpodcast-spotify Apple: https://tinyurl.com/healpodcast-apple See where you can watch HEAL Documentary now by going to: https://healwithkelly.co/documentary.html Read The HEAL Book with double the content of the movie: https://healwithkelly.co/book.html As an Amazon Associate, HEAL with Kelly earns from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.   Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your physician or qualified healthcare provider before making any changes to your diet, supplement routine, or health practices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After taking two months off following the heartbreaking loss of our daughter at 20 weeks, I'm returning to the 30 Days to Happiness podcast with a renewed heart, deeper faith, and a powerful message to share.This is the most honest episode I've ever recorded.In this raw and real conversation, I walk you through my personal healing journey, how grief has shifted my perspective, and why so many of us continue to delay the life we truly want.You'll learn:✨ How to identify and remove the “BUTS” holding you back✨ How to reconnect with your true “WANT” list — the life your soul is craving✨ The sneaky distractions and limiting beliefs sabotaging your growth✨ Why high performers often feel unfulfilled — and how to shift it✨ How to realign your focus and rebuild your dream life one step at a timeWhether you're feeling stuck, grieving, burnt out or simply off-track… this episode will remind you: your purpose still matters.P.S. DM me the word 'Retreat' on Instagram or Linkedin to be the first to know when the High Performance Retreat Launches! Only 10 Spots available. 

Becoming a parent shifts your perspective on every decision. In today's episode, Jordan Harbinger and Ryan Holiday discuss how fatherhood has changed them, the sacrifices they've made for their families, and how each generation has a different view on parenting.

How can practicing Stoicism help us balance career success with personal fulfillment? Tune in to hear Ryan Holiday on The Jordan Harbinger Show as he shares his insights on balancing professional ambition with parenting responsibilities, the illusion of success, and how to apply Stoicism in everyday decision-making.

The Jen Marples Show episode 192 is here!Happy New Year, my beautiful friends! As we dive into 2025, I'm sharing five key reflections and pieces of advice to help you kick off the year with confidence, clarity, and the courage to go after your dreams - no matter your age.From Demi Moore's inspiring Golden Globes speech to the importance of rejecting societal expectations and embracing a mindset of continuous growth, I'm giving you the motivation and practical tips you need to overcome self-doubt and step into the fullness of your potential. Whether you're a longtime listener or new to the show, this episode is a must-listen as you embark on your journey of personal and professional development in the year ahead. Get ready to be uplifted, empowered, and inspired to make 2025 your best year yet. Let's do this!In this episode, I share 5 key bits of advice to kick start 2025:You'll never be enough in society's eyes so you might as well be YOU and go for your dreams.Start your new projects and goals when YOU feel ready – not because the world is demanding you to.You can begin again and again and again. Get clear on what YOU want (thank you @BonnieWan) YNTFO – you're not too old – it's not too late – you're fabulous – and you get to do whatever you want!You're Not Too F***ing Old! To make 2025 your year!Learn more about Jen Marples at https://www.jenmarples.comWant to work with Jen? Book a complimentary 20-minute call HERE. Follow Jen @jenmarples on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok and YouTubeSubscribe to Jen's NewsletterUnedited AI Transcript HereEp 130 | Getting Clear on What You Really Want in Midlife with Bonnie Wan, author of The Life Brief

Have there been times in your life when you've seen specific prayers answered? Good morning and blessings to you on this wonderful day! In today's episode, titled "What You Really Want," Gaby explores the story of blind Bartimaeus from Mark 10. She encourages us to approach God with faith, believing that He desires to bless us and fulfill our heart's desires. Let's start the day with renewed faith and hope!Have thoughts to share about this devotional? Tap HERE to send us a text! NEW TO MY MORNING DEVOTIONAL? We're so glad you're here! We're the Alessis, a ministry family working together in a church in Miami, FL, and we're so blessed to partner with the My Morning Devotional community and continue the great work done by the show's creator and our friend, Alison Delamota. Here's how to join our community! Subscribe to the show on this app Share this with a friend Follow Us on ⁠Instagram⁠ and ⁠Facebook⁠ Subscribe to Our ⁠YouTube Channel⁠ ⁠Leave a review KEEP UP WITH ALISON: https://alisondelamota.com⁠⁠⁠⁠IG: https://instagram.com/alisondelamotahttps://instagram.com/delamarried

Having interviewed over 1,000 people, how does Jordan Harbinger decide who he brings on his wildly successful podcast, The Jordan Harbinger Show? What guests, topics, or advertisers has he turned down despite how click-worthy or lucrative they are? Listen in to today's conversation with Jordan Harbinger and Ryan Holiday to hear them talk about why integrity is incredibly expensive, but worth it every time.

At the time of this recording, Jordan Harbinger had just published over 1,000 episodes of his podcast, The Jordan Harbinger Show. Throughout the years, Jordan has interviewed icons like Kobe, Malcolm Gladwell, Danny Trejo, Mark Cuban and more. Ryan has also had the pleasure of being a guest on the show multiple times since he met Jordan over a decade ago, when his first book Trust Me, I'm Lying came out. In this conversation, Jordan and Ryan talk about what they have learned from interviewing and meeting some of the most successful people across all industries. Whether it's lessons learned from their remarkable achievements or huge mistakes, there's a lot to takeaway from years of conversations with the world's most accomplished and widely known names.Listen to Ryan's previous interviews on The Jordan Harbinger Show: 45: Ryan Holiday | Solving for What You Really Want from Life271: Ryan Holiday | Stillness Is the Key740: Ryan Holiday | Discipline is Destiny (Live from Los Angeles)Connect with Jordan on Instagram, X, YouTube, TikTok: @JordanHarbinger

One of the keys to setting and achieving your goals is understanding who you are becoming in order to achieve those goals. I want to introduce you to one of my favorite visualization exercises that invites you to step into the future version of yourself that has fully committed to all of your dreams and goals. Be sure to save this episode so you can come back to it again and again. If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love the rest of our goal setting series: 139 | Setting Goals for What You Really Want 140 | The 1 Word that Keeps us from our Goals 141 | A better way to set goals (and achieve them) 142 | How to Dream Audaciously! Find the full show notes at www.wholehearted-coaching.com/podcast/future-self-visualization Here are some very important announcements for you:

Are you ready for a year that is beyond all you could ever imagine? Is this the year you will look back on and feel surprised, amazed, and stunned by all that you accomplished? I believe so much in the power of dreaming and let me tell you, it is our wildest dreams that have the power to truly change our lives and the world around us. In this episode, I want to help you get back to dreaming your biggest, wildest dreams that speak to your true desires with a super simple exercise that will help bring you back to dreaming audaciously. Find the full show notes at www.wholehearted-coaching.com/podcast/how-to-dream-audaciously If you enjoyed this episode, you'll love the rest of our goal setting series: 139 | Setting Goals for What You Really Want 140 | The 1 Word that Keeps us from our Goals 141 | A better way to set goals (and achieve them) 143 | Your Future Self (My Favorite Visualization) Here are some very important announcements for you:

A lot of people feel dissatisfied about how they spend their time. They often feel busy, but that busyness doesn't add up to anything — not to fun, not to fulfillment, not to memories.My guest, Laura Vanderkam, has spent a lot of time thinking about and studying time, and last year she decided to run an experiment to see if the insights she had gained from that study could help average people get a better handle on their time. She had 150 people try out nine different time-management rules, which were sorted into three categories: Calm the Chaos, Make Good Things Happen, and Waste Less Time. She shares these field-tested strategies from what she called the Tranquility by Tuesday project in her new book by the same name.Today on the show, we talk about my seven favorite rules from Tranquility by Tuesday. Laura explains why you need to give yourself a bedtime, plan your week on Friday, make a “punch list” for tackling small tasks, and more. We also discuss the principle that can allow you to read a hundred books in a year.Resources Related to the EpisodeLaura's previous appearance on the podcast: Episode #495: Wish You Had More Time? What You Really Want is More MemoriesAoM article and video on how to plan your weekAoM Podcast #743: How to Get Time, Priorities, and Energy Working in Your FavorAoM Podcast #450: How to Make Time for What Really Matters Every DayAoM article and podcast on microadventuresAoM Article: Possibilities in Spare MomentsJeremy Anderberg's newsletter, where he shares about the many books he readsConnect With Laura VanderkamLaura's Website

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Finally a podcast for the young divorcee, welcome to Single or Divorced. I am your host, The Vosse Lady! Join Theadora Vosse and Kristine Grant as they talk about the status over love. Show Resources: Singleordivorced.org - Get your free coaching discovery call with Theadora today! Share your story by visiting SingleOrDivorced.org About Guest: Kristine Grant Kristine is an experienced Marriage & Family Therapist and Relationship Expert. She is a retired school psychologist and has previously taught various college courses such as Human Development, Law & Ethics, and Social Concerns as an adjunct faculty professor at National University in San Diego. Kristine received her masters degree in counseling at the University of San Diego 1990— She received post graduate credentials in school counseling and psychology at Chapman University, San Diego in 1999. She also has an in-depth background in various subtle energy healing modalities. Kristine currently helps others in a much broader capacity within the scope of Relationship Coaching. Kristine is the published author of Be Friendship Focused, (an anti-bullying, self-empowerment program for children ages 8-12), as well as the A-Z Power Cards, a fun, conversational, character-building card deck which she created, along with her then, 12 year old daughter, Alana. Both are available on Amazon and published by Youthlight Inc. Her new book is soon to be released on Amazon: RELATIONSHIFT: How to Write the Words for What You Really Want to Say Kristine has a novel approach for helping anyone who might be struggling with any sort of relationship challenge. She has created the Relationshift Process as well as Inspired Heart Letters. Over the last 15 years, Kristine has composed intuitive, healing letters for clients. Yes, as a coaching tool, Kristine has ghost-written hundreds of letters for people throughout the US and Canada. Through her Inspired Heart Letters, she is able to open the window, heal the pain, and/or influence her clients to manifest more love and compassion than they could have imagined. Kristine considers her amazing letter-writing service to be based upon a combination of her understanding of psychology or human nature and intuition. She has received endorsements from such luminaries as John Gray, Dr. Christian Northrup, Arielle Ford, and Katherine Woodward Thomas. Readers will glean a deeper understanding and gain a new perspective on common challenges related to single people looking for love; creating a deeper love and emotional intimacy in committed partnerships; ending unhealthy or draining relationships with Grace; dealing with divorce and especially co-parenting issues; blended family situations; issues with friendships; family estrangement; and coping with grief or unfinished emotional business through the death of a significant other. Along with her gift for redeeming the fine art of effect letter writing, you can also learn to vastly improve your own communication skills for matters of the heart. Kristine is a National Speaker at conferences throughout the US. She has numerous radio and television appearances including ABC, CBS, Fox, and the CW Network. SINGER/SONG-WRITER: Kristine's gift with words also includes her first album released in 2021 entitled: LOVE LETTERS by Tina Rose ( her performer's name) — with flavors of R & B, Jazz, and Country —- you can download her 10-song album from most platforms including Apple Music, Pandora, Spotify, etc. www.inspiredheartletters.com (or) www.kristinegrant.com Youtube: relationshiftmedia@gmail.com Instagram: kristinegrantmft Note: any of your listeners can download a free ebook on the Magic of Words with tips for composing their own Inspired Heart letters and/or book a complimentary solution-focused 20 min coaching call with Kristine

In a bonus episode of the GRID, Jennifer brings in her friend, best-selling author Seth Stephens-Davidowitz to talk about his new book, “Don't Trust Your Gut: Using Data To get What You Really Want in Life.”. Seth is also the author of “Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us... The post The Grid 067.5 Bonus Episode ft. Seth Stephens-Davidowitz appeared first on The Poker Grid.

Kumiko of The Budget Mom talks about the true cost of waiting for what you really want. Episode 1743: The True Cost of Waiting for What You Really Want by Kumiko of The Budget Mom on Living In The Moment Kumiko went from having a pile of credit card debt to becoming a successful budgeter and Accredited Financial Counselor. The Budget Mom exists to empower women to build a life they love on a budget they understand and can afford. The original post is located here: https://www.thebudgetmom.com/the-true-cost-of-waiting-for-what-you-really-want/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kumiko of The Budget Mom talks about the true cost of waiting for what you really want. Episode 1743: The True Cost of Waiting for What You Really Want by Kumiko of The Budget Mom on Living In The Moment Kumiko went from having a pile of credit card debt to becoming a successful budgeter and Accredited Financial Counselor. The Budget Mom exists to empower women to build a life they love on a budget they understand and can afford. The original post is located here: https://www.thebudgetmom.com/the-true-cost-of-waiting-for-what-you-really-want/ Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com  Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalHealthDailyDietNutritionFitness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Caleb dives in on the realities of starting a studio production and his #1 advice for aspiring producers is “Make Sure It's What You Really Want”! Follow them on social media @studiosuggs to stay up to date! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jeffery-johnson7/support

In this Episode, I will be reviewing the audible book, "Self-Discipline; Mental Toughness Mindset; Increase Your Grit and Focus to Become A Highly Productive (And Peaceful) Person" By Ian Tuhovsky. This audible book will teach you how to live up to your potential and achieve all the goals you have ever made, by learning positive psychology and self-development. It is not about luck. What elevates people to super status is laser sharp focus, perseverance, and the ability to keep on going, when everyone else would have quit. It isn't the most motivated that always win in life, it is the most disciplined. Lessons On Self-Discipline: Lesson 1: Success Is A Process Not A Moment Of Glory Lesson 2: The Truth About Motivation Lesson 3: You always have a choice Lesson 4: Your Life's True Purpose Lesson 5: What You Really Want and How To Get It Lesson 6: The Surprising Truth About Happiness Lesson 7: The Power and The Traps Of Positive Thinking Closing Thoughts: On scale of 1 to 5, I would give this audible book, a super duper 5, for providing multiple lessons on how to become self-disciplined and mentally tough. *To find out more about this audible book, Go To: www.audible.com and download this audible book, or google “Ian Tuhovsky” to find out more information, and other books written by the Author. *Remember To Subscribe to this Podcast on Your favorite Podcast Platform, so You do not miss an Episode, and also remember to please share this Episode via text or email with Friends and Family and other People that You care about. Follow me on twitter @kellypodcast or Instagram @patrickkelly_podcast* *For More Episodes of The Patrick Kelly Podcast for Self-Development go to: www.thepatrickkellypodcast.com. *If You would like to donate a dollar or more to the support of this Podcast, click the donate button at www.thepatrickkellypodcast.com or go to $patrickkellypodcast on cash app and I will be sure to thank You on the next Episode. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/patrickkellypodcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/patrickkellypodcast/support

How to Get Clear on What You REALLY Want in Your Career.  Here we are – coming to the end of 2021.  Some may be thinking ‘thank goodness!', others may be in a more reflective mood.  It's been a really interesting year for us all hasn't it – I wonder if you have made some big life or career changes?  Or has it been more of the same?  The lockdowns would have thrown many off and it really would have been a tough time.One of my clients told me that she just wants to go ‘home'.  She's in Melbourne and her family are in the UK.  She hasn't seen them for almost 2 years.  That's a really long time to be away from your loved ones.  I haven't seen my brother, sister in law and niece and nephew for about the same amount of time and I'm aching to see them again.  It's experiences like this that really make you miss the very special people in your life.  We tend to take things for granted and tell ourselves, “When I have time … when I've finished this … When I've done that … THEN I'll do ….whatever it is that, actually, is really important if you gave yourself the time to really THINK.”Remember there was a popular book that came out in 1997 called Don't Sweat The Small Stuff?  Well, you know what?  I reckon it's the small stuff that's really the BIG stuff!  Things like my top TEN:1.     Family time2.     Time with friends who really matter to us3.     Time for our Selves4.     Being nice to others5.     Caring about others6.     Doing meaningful work7.     Doing meaningful activities outside of work8.     Taking a walk in the park9.     Taking time to breathe10.  Being mindful and grateful that we are living and who we are matters … I'd really love to know how things are going where you are and how YOU are doing.  Send me a message on LinkedIn – you'll find me if you just pop my name and career coach in the search field.  Let's connect there too.To get the 50% discount on my CAREER CLARITY PACK, click here: https://bit.ly/CLARITYPACK and APPLY this coupon code:  VIP45Follow me here:https://www.linkedin.com/in/janejacksonhttps://www.thecareersacademy.online https://www.janejacksoncoach.comhttps://www.instagram.com/janecareercoach

As women, we're conditioned to take care of everyone else before we even think about taking care of ourselves. But what if prioritizing yourself isn't something to be ashamed of? What if learning the art of divine selfishness is the only way to make the contribution to the world you were born to make? Brigitte van Tuijl is a master coach for women entrepreneurs on a mission to help us get clear on our true dream and make it real. Brigitte's clients have launched global brands, published their first books and doubled their incomes, realizing their most important goals and desires. She is also the author of five books, including The Art of Divine Selfishness: Transform Your Life, Your Business & the World by Putting YOU First. On this episode of Wickedly Smart Women, Brigitte joins Anjel to discuss the challenges she faced in practicing the art of divine selfishness and explain how she shed the shaming of ‘not being social enough.' She shares the rocky start to her own entrepreneurial journey, describing how becoming more of who you are is the key to business growth. Listen in for Brigitte's insight on what it costs when you're not true to yourself and learn how ALL of life benefits when you honor your soul and put yourself first. What You Will Learn  The challenges Brigitte faced in adopting divine selfishness in her personal and professional life How Brigitte tapped into her inner strength to shed the shaming she got for not being social enough Brigitte's insight on how we're all conditioned to believe that who we are isn't good enough How the desire to help others find their soul purpose initiated Brigitte's entrepreneurial journey Why Brigitte believes that becoming even more of who you are is the key to business growth How ALL of life benefits when you're willing to honor your soul and put yourself first What it costs us when we're not true to ourselves and how learning to say no leads to liberation Connect with Brigitte van Tuijl  Your Way or No Way Resources  Unmute Your Life: Break Free from Fear & Go for What You Really Want by Brigitte van Tuijl  The Art of Divine Selfishness: Transform Your Life, Your Business & the World by Putting YOU First by Brigitte van Tuijl Connect with Anjel B. Hartwell Wickedly Smart Women Wickedly Smart Women Facebook Community Wickedly Smart Women on TeePublic Wickedly Smart Women on Clubhouse The Wealthy Life Mentor The Wealthy Life Mentor on Facebook Anjel on Twitter Anjel on Instagram Email listeners@wickedlysmartwomen.com  Leave Us A Message On Our listener line:   540-402-0043 x4343

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On today's daily episode Kristin talks about taking time to reflect on our lives, what our work-life ratio looks like and if we are focusing on what truly matters to us and making those things or people a priority.  Do you work when you should be spending time with your kids or spouse?  Do you constantly check your phone or email?  The day before the anniversary of 9/11 is a perfect time to take a break and reflect on what matters to us, and ask ourself questions about if we are focused on the right things and taking action now to change course if not. What is holding you back from going after your dreams, defining life on your terms and from finding meaningful work you love? What is holding you back from going after your dreams to start your business or to write a book or launch a podcast, to sell your art or clothing, or to start an online business?   What is holding you back from finding real joy and meaning in your life? Each week on the show we are going to help you figure out how to go after your dreams and find work you love.  And how to find a healthy work-life balance and how do you fit in the things that are meaningful to you and have flexibility of time and income.  We will also talk about mindset and self-development to be your best possible self in your work life and personal life.  We will take the idea of meaningful work you want to do and how you create and start a business and monetize it.  Let's be happier, healthier and find ways to create meaningful lives that bring us more joy and connection to our every day. Let's start taking action to create and monetize our creative ideas and passions and turn them into thriving businesses- let's go after our dream work, make more money and spend more time with people we love living our best lives.  And learn how Curiosity, Creativity, Mindset, Communication, Play, and Faith play a role in improving our lives. Join podcast host, Kristin Fitch to be encouraged throughout your week and to be reminded you are needed, you matter and now is the time to step into your future and all the possibilities waiting for you- it's time to step into what you've been called to share with the world.  To learn more or connect with Kristin go to KristinFitch.com. And we'd love for you to join our private Facebook group Building a Life You Love where Kristin and friends share encouragement, ideas and extra resources to help you go after your passion and define life on your terms. Focus: Coaching- Starting a Business- Self Development - Personal Development, Christian Entrepreneurs, Christian Living, Find Your Purpose, Do Work You Love, Escape the 9 to 5, Quit Your Job, Overcoming Adversity, Live on Purpose, Asking Yourself What Truly Matters in Your Life, What Is Most Important in Your Life, Reflect on What You Really Want in Life, Work-Life Balance, People First, Family First, 9-11-01 Reflection, Prayer and Hope for 9/11 Anniversary, Christian Prayer

On today's daily episode Kristin talks about taking time to reflect on our lives, what our work-life ratio looks like and if we are focusing on what truly matters to us and making those things or people a priority.  Do you work when you should be spending time with your kids or spouse?  Do you constantly check your phone or email?  The day before the anniversary of 9/11 is a perfect time to take a break and reflect on what matters to us, and ask ourself questions about if we are focused on the right things and taking action now to change course if not. What is holding you back from going after your dreams, defining life on your terms and from finding meaningful work you love? What is holding you back from going after your dreams to start your business or to write a book or launch a podcast, to sell your art or clothing, or to start an online business?   What is holding you back from finding real joy and meaning in your life? Each week on the show we are going to help you figure out how to go after your dreams and find work you love.  And how to find a healthy work-life balance and how do you fit in the things that are meaningful to you and have flexibility of time and income.  We will also talk about mindset and self-development to be your best possible self in your work life and personal life.  We will take the idea of meaningful work you want to do and how you create and start a business and monetize it.  Let's be happier, healthier and find ways to create meaningful lives that bring us more joy and connection to our every day. Let's start taking action to create and monetize our creative ideas and passions and turn them into thriving businesses- let's go after our dream work, make more money and spend more time with people we love living our best lives.  And learn how Curiosity, Creativity, Mindset, Communication, Play, and Faith play a role in improving our lives. Join podcast host, Kristin Fitch to be encouraged throughout your week and to be reminded you are needed, you matter and now is the time to step into your future and all the possibilities waiting for you- it's time to step into what you've been called to share with the world.  To learn more or connect with Kristin go to KristinFitch.com. And we'd love for you to join our private Facebook group Building a Life You Love where Kristin and friends share encouragement, ideas and extra resources to help you go after your passion and define life on your terms. Focus: Coaching- Starting a Business- Self Development - Personal Development, Christian Entrepreneurs, Christian Living, Find Your Purpose, Do Work You Love, Escape the 9 to 5, Quit Your Job, Overcoming Adversity, Live on Purpose, Asking Yourself What Truly Matters in Your Life, What Is Most Important in Your Life, Reflect on What You Really Want in Life, Work-Life Balance, People First, Family First  

Surprise! It's Monday, and I felt super inspired to talk about this topic today, so here we are. Yay! In this episode I share with you some questions I asked myself, when I was trying to figure out who TF I am, and what I want from this life. We get so much feedback on how we should be, do, and act our entire lives, so how can you know who YOU REALLY ARE or WHAT YOU REALLY WANT if you don't do a little digging first? If you've felt like you're always changing to keep the peace, make people comfortable, or really because you think you don't have an opinion either way (but I bet you do...), you gotta listen to this one. I hope you enjoy this episode! Thank you for listening and subscribing! I appreciate you! See you Friday! :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chaseyourstars/message

Recently, the tables were turned and I was honored to be a guest on The Donald Thompson Podcast. Shared here is that very episode and it was such a great experience. Donald is a fabulous speaker and fellow business coach as well as a great podcast host. In this special episode, Donald and I discuss a topic that is very dear to my heart: Managing your career. In addition to our discussion on challenging yourself and ensuring that you are doing your current job well, the key message from this episode is to take control and ownership of the work you are doing and the direction you are headed in. Thank you, Donald, for giving me an opportunity to speak with you on your podcast! Everyone, take a listen to learn more about how to proactively manage your own career and optimize your potential. What We Talked About in This Episode: John's Background in the Corporate World Coaching Others and Putting Teams Together Slowing Down to Reflect on What You Really Want in a Career Proactively Managing Your Own Career Your Desired Roles and Work Environments Determining the Gap Between Where You Are and Where You Want to Be Time Blocking and Why It is Crucial to Meeting Goals The Value of a Coach Investing Yourself in Relationships Being a Leader That is Worth Following About Donald Thompson: With two decades of experience growing and leading firms, Donald Thompson is a thought leader on goal achievement, influencing company culture and driving exponential growth. As an entrepreneur, Donald has led companies which have attained successful exits with strong returns for shareholders and employees. As a Certified Diversity Executive, Donald is a champion of diversity, equity and inclusion initiatives and actively raises awareness and commitment. Donald is currently CEO of Walk West, a digital marketing firm recognized by Inc. as one of the fastest-growing private companies in the US in 2018, 2019, and 2020 and the founder of The Diversity Movement, which works to embed diversity, equity, and inclusion into the core of doing business. To reach Donald, go to his website: https://donaldthompson.com/ Connect with Donald Thompsom: The Donald Thompson Podcast Donald Thompson Coaching The Diversity Movement Home Page The Diversity Movement on Instagram Connect with John Murphy: Youtube Facebook LinkedIn Twitter Website If you liked this episode, please don't forget to subscribe, tune in, and share this podcast. Thanks!

Do you have negative thoughts that keep you from getting WHAT YOU REALLY WANT? And do those thoughts

Kumiko of The Budget Mom talks about the true cost of waiting for what you really want. Episode 1352: The True Cost of Waiting for What You Really Want by Kumiko of The Budget Mom on Living In The Moment Kumiko went from having a pile of credit card debt to becoming a successful budgeter and Accredited Financial Counselor. The Budget Mom exists to empower women to build a life they love on a budget they understand and can afford. The original post is located here: https://www.thebudgetmom.com/the-true-cost-of-waiting-for-what-you-really-want/ Please Rate & Review the Show! Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in  The O.L.D. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts!   Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalFinanceDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kumiko of The Budget Mom talks about the true cost of waiting for what you really want. Episode 1352: The True Cost of Waiting for What You Really Want by Kumiko of The Budget Mom on Living In The Moment Kumiko went from having a pile of credit card debt to becoming a successful budgeter and Accredited Financial Counselor. The Budget Mom exists to empower women to build a life they love on a budget they understand and can afford. The original post is located here: https://www.thebudgetmom.com/the-true-cost-of-waiting-for-what-you-really-want/ Please Rate & Review the Show! Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in  The O.L.D. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts!   Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalFinanceDaily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kumiko of The Budget Mom talks about the true cost of waiting for what you really want. Episode 1352: The True Cost of Waiting for What You Really Want by Kumiko of The Budget Mom on Living In The Moment Kumiko went from having a pile of credit card debt to becoming a successful budgeter and Accredited Financial Counselor. The Budget Mom exists to empower women to build a life they love on a budget they understand and can afford. The original post is located here: https://www.thebudgetmom.com/the-true-cost-of-waiting-for-what-you-really-want/ Please Rate & Review the Show! Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in  The O.L.D. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts!   Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalFinanceDaily

Kumiko of The Budget Mom talks about the true cost of waiting for what you really want. Episode 1352: The True Cost of Waiting for What You Really Want by Kumiko of The Budget Mom on Living In The Moment Kumiko went from having a pile of credit card debt to becoming a successful budgeter and Accredited Financial Counselor. The Budget Mom exists to empower women to build a life they love on a budget they understand and can afford. The original post is located here: https://www.thebudgetmom.com/the-true-cost-of-waiting-for-what-you-really-want/ Please Rate & Review the Show! Visit Me Online at OLDPodcast.com and in The O.L.D. Facebook Group and Join the Ol' Family to get your Free Gifts! Interested in advertising on the show? Visit https://www.advertisecast.com/OptimalFinanceDaily --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/optimal-finance-daily/support

The Coffee Run Ep482 - Imposter Syndrome? What do I really want?? If you have these things happening, being VISIBLE is very freaking hard…. Let's face it. Being in business can be brutal. Putting yourself out there can feel like you're standing naked in the middle of a stadium with no protection...B U T this is also where some of the gold is. Because everyone else is super scared of doing it... so you have an opportunity. BUT. What about Imposter Syndrome? We've all felt it. We've all had it. In fact, I can tell you that every client I've worked with has experienced this at some point or another - and it's usually at the time when they're about to uplevel their business in one way shape or form. The other thing with this though, is that this is an issue that's really tough to combat if you're not sure WHAT YOU REALLY WANT... or if you're not sure where you're going. Or if you're not really sure that this is the path that you want to take. If you don't know where you're going, it can be hard to get past the Imposter Syndrome and Comparisonitis stuff. Which then makes it near impossible for you to show up online. To be VISIBLE and to Step Into The Spotlight. So what to do? Well. I talked about that today! Enjoy the replay. Have you heard about VISIBLE | LIVE yet? What?!?!?! Well, of course I have to tell you about VISIBLE LIVE again!!! It's all about taking you from feeling (and probably being) INVISIBLE online… to stepping up into the best damn rockstar version of you that you can be - and using that to position yourself online as an EXPERT FOR YOUR AUDIENCE. Find out more: www.nicolamoras.com.au/rockstar

What You Really Want

You have a scout youth that is turning 18 soon. Scout leaders should have a plan worked out for the scout's parents leaving. Most Scouters and parents leave the program with their kids. The young adult can stay involved with your troop as an Assistant Scoutmaster. Many join Venture Crews. Eventually, young adults move on to college or start their careers. This will limit the free time available to donate to scouting. Scoutmasters, mentors should make time to talk about plans for the future. As an Eagle Scout, we have a commitment to our community, ourselves, and scouting. Scout leaders & mentors should talk with young adults about their future, but listen carefully and understand before giving advice. Leaders, it’s okay to say “I don’t know”. If you give it some time you can find someone who knows. Most of the time, its time to leave the nest and get established on your own. Of course, supporting and volunteering should continue threw out your life. Later on, when your kids are ready for the scouting experience you will “be prepared”. Tell them; Don’t feel rushed into making plans for goals you're not clear on. Not every career requires a degree, but every one of your choices will require experience. Remember to use your resources and thank hard about WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. No matter your path that you can choose you can always change your mind. You're not alone now or in the future. Others are there to help you on the journey. Cub Scout Leaders... Hard to believe it but that Webelos scout in your den could someday be a doctor that saves your life. Always listen carefully and seek to understand what scouts are telling you. We troop leaders need to listen and understand our scouts. There the future we are helping to mold today, into tomorrow's leaders.

Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. is a psychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist that now primarily helps professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. He is the author of “Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen” Favorite Success Quote “He who has a why can bear almost any how” ~Fredrich Nietzche Key Points 1. You Must Have a Strong Why  If you want to succeed in any area of life, you need to have a powerful why to back up your goals. With a strong enough why, you can push through any challenge, overcome any obstacle, and succeed at any endeavor you set your mind to. However, if you do not have a strong reason for achieving your goals, your hopes and dreams will be relegated to “someday” and never achieved. 2. You Have to Know Yourself  One of the most important aspects of success is self-knowledge. If you do not understand what makes you tick and how you can operate at optimal levels, you will constantly be in an internal battle with yourself. You need to have a deep understanding of your personality and your character so that you can design a lifestyle around yourself and how you work best instead of living a lifestyle designed someone else. 3. You Need to Know What You Value Once you understand who you are in terms of your personality tendencies, the next step is to understand your values. You can be highly invested in a career that is perfect for your personality but completely incongruent with your values and you will be miserable. Take some time and figure out what is truly important to you. Do you value family, freedom, financial success, happiness, or your social life? Once you know what you value, your decision making will become automatic and you can easily understand what you need to do to live the most fulfilling life possible. 4. Your Personality is Not Set in Stone Just because you have a certain personality type does not mean that you cannot make changes to live a life more congruent with your goals. Your personality is roughly 50% genetic and 50% experiential. This means that if you expose yourself to the right situations you can change your psychology to work for you instead of against you. An introvert can become an extrovert, an undisciplined person can become disciplined, someone who does not handle stress well can learn to become calm in intense situations. You have to approach your personality intentionally and understand that you can make any change you want with enough time and effort. 5. You Need to Expose Yourself to Stress to Succeed  Life can be hard. Whether you are relentlessly pursuing your goals or sitting back and watching your life fly by, you will still be exposed to stress and challenges. However, this is a good thing! The more difficult the life you live, the stronger you will become and the more you will be able to accomplish. But you have to put yourself in situations that will stretch you and force you to adapt. Get out of your comfort zone and be willing to face challenges you aren’t sure you can overcome.

Episode 29 is about knowing what you want. Or not! We all don't know what we really want. When we do we can really take off in life. My goal in this episode is to lead you to What You Really Want!

This Episode is sponsored by Kelly Stark Today I will be talking about AFFIRMATIONS and how they can be used to change your life. Before I go on to that though, I hope that you have found the time to listen to the last show, episode 47 - BULLIES AND THE SILENT MAJORITY which ended up being my longest show yet at nearly 50 minutes. Like the LAW OF SUCCESS series, however, once I’d gotten into that topic, I just couldn’t bring myself to split it over 2 or to shorten it much more than it already was. Bullies are sometimes hard to spot but once they have been identified, they can be stopped by simple direct actions that allow YOU to take control and set them straight. You can also stand up and defend others when you see bullies raise their ugly heads. An affirmation is almost like a mantra. It does not really matter if what you are affirming is not totally true as yet. By repeating an affirmation over and over again, it becomes embedded in the subconscious mind, and eventually, it becomes your reality. Stuart Wilde UNQUOTE Today I’m talking about AFFIRMATIONS and it’s part of a subject that came up many times in my LAWS OF SUCCESS series in the form of AUTO SUGGESTION. Napoleon Hill was a real believer in this and used it to achieve the success of which he speaks. As a reminder AUTO SUGGESTION is the hypnotic or subconscious adoption of an idea which one has originated oneself. It is like REPROGRAMMING YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND to believe what you want it to believe and Hill used it very often to replace old beliefs with new ones that will serve us better. Before I ever knew what affirmations were or how they worked I was using them. I haven’t talked about it too much lately so for those of you that are new listeners, but following my first feature film, I had what used to be known as a nervous breakdown. Looking back now, I would more accurately call it a stress-related dissociative breakdown or episode, followed by PTSD. It was not a fun time, in fact it was extremely destructive, but without it you wouldn’t have FILM PRO PRODUCTIVITY - I honestly don’t know where I’d be or what I’d be doing now if I hadn’t had that negative experience in my life and the positive that has come of it, in the form of this show and a healthier outlook and work/ life ethic I don’t think would ever have come to pass. Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down. Oprah Winfrey UNQUOTE When I had my breakdown, I was lost and uncertain of what was going on, and despite what you may think, there wasn’t any immediate help for me. Well that’s not entirely true, my family and some friends were there, but it is sadly notable that many of those whom I thought to be my friends melted into the background and disappeared. That is the stigma of mental health. It was a small price to pay perhaps though, for learning who were my real friends and who were not. My experience with the NHS was really pretty atrocious. When I went to the doctor, I saw a locum GP for 5 minutes who sent me out the door with a leaflet and a prescription for Prozac. That was his solution to the complex problem of a mental health matter. I gave up on the Prozac after 2 weeks, as the last thing I needed was to be drugged into distancing myself further from my problem. It took the NHS three months to get me an appointment to meet a psychiatrist who was absolutely frickin’ useless – if anything he annoyed me – but thanks though to my friend Loraine, who is a psychiatric nurse and a very influential doctor whom she knew from down south and in chief too by financial aid from British Actors Equity’s medical partner BAPAM, I was eventually able to attend therapy sessions with an awesome therapist who helped me get back on track. As an aside here, talking therapy, even expert therapy doesn’t cost as much as you might think it does. It’s a good thing, and I think that a lot of folk might make use of the services that are available. Before all that kicked in though I had nothing but that leaflet, the GP gave me to help me out. It was for a service called STEPS, an organisation that ran classes on stress and on depression. With no other options, I signed up for both. They’ve killed that organisation now, or renamed it and reorganised it to save money but at the time it ran classes every 6 weeks for an intake of 130 people who were suffering from stress. I’ll go into some of what I learned in a future episode as I plan to do a show on STRESS AND ANXIETY quite soon.   “What mental health needs is more sunlight, more candour, and more unashamed conversation.” – Glenn Close UNQUOTE What I learned from the other class, the depression one is that I didn’t have depression, but it was very interesting nonetheless. More of a small talking therapy group with a lot of people that had had a hard time. It was there that I learned that Perfectionism, which I did an episode on in season 1 was likely the chief cause of stress in my life. For that realisation alone the 6 weeks were worth it. I took these classes very seriously and studied for them and that’s what led me, unknowingly, into the world of affirmations. I, like many others on social networking, post a productivity or positivity quote every day, and I have occasionally been given some grief for doing so. That’s the internet for you. Many think it lazy of me as it’s a popularity tool that some use to make themselves seem intelligent or whatever. I post them for 2 good reasons. 1/ This is a productivity show and these quotes are an awesome gift for promotion of this podcast. and 2/ because I used quotes like this TO CREATE AFFIRMATIONS which saved me from a life confused by PTSD and stress and put me back on track. I didn’t call this FIND YOUR WAY with affirmations just to make a snazzy title. I wanted you to know that, if you are lost, or uncertain in your life in some way, that you can use affirmations as I did, to get yourself on a new and better track, to create a positive lifestyle and live a better, happier and more prosperous life. In effect, although I certainly didn’t think in these terms at the time, it also reasserts your values and that in turn strengthens your ability to make decisions. When I was on my knees, post breakdown, I found myself naturally building this list of 50 affirmations, many of them built or shortened from quotes I had found online and I used it for at least a year, probably two, whenever I was uncertain or frightened, nervous or demoralised - to help me move forward. For the record, this was my list. Be Content. Master what you do most often. Give your mum a call. Practice Stoicism - Stoicism is centred around being unaffected by misfortune. Recognize that mishaps will inevitably occur so be constantly ready and open to experiencing them. Get up early. Perfection is not when there is nothing to add, but when there is nothing more to take away. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. Justify less. Go for a walk in the park. If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special. Pay off your debts and don't go in debt. Send your loved one's flowers. Think of a reason later. Eat a piece of fruit. Drink your water. Whistle. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out. Keep your friends' secrets. Listen more than you talk. Be frugal. Take classes. Focus on getting better, rather than being good. Stop worrying so much. Start accepting things when they are less than perfect. If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging. Take naps. If you are not saving at least 10% of your salary, you are not saving enough. Yield to peace. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Your family and true friends love you, no matter what. Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance. You should not confuse your career/job with your life. Eat Healthily. Take the opportunity to watch the sunrise and sunset. Notice the beauty of small moments. Listen to Music. Smile. Get a life mantra - change it when you think you need another… e.g. Life is short - get on with it. Stop endlessly checking emails and surfing the web, look for something good to do. Do not work harder when the solution is working smarter. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind. Invest in Relationships. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good. When upset, remember: "This too shall pass" Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. Mind Your Own Business. Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment. Never confuse the complex with the difficult. Nothing is permanent. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. Heraclitus The best is yet to come. Never confuse perception with reality. These were my 50 affirmations. If you were to do this for yourself I’m certain that some or all would be different. I used it until I could get back on top and trust my instincts again. As I said before – I really used it to re-train my inner self and re-learn my values. Trust me, when you are lost and uncertain, you need all the help you can get. And when I say I used them, I didn’t speak them out as affirmations are more commonly used, I just read and re-read them very often, and I tried to understand them deeply and believe in them… and this wasn’t a chore either btw, because I really needed them. I still feel a bit pathetic that I picked up PTSD not from a warzone, but from a breakdown and it’s repercussions on my life and work following a feature film that was made in good spirit and with a lot of hope, but it’s a sad truth here. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing events, and that anxiety or fear is constantly with you. It blocks your ability to think straight and make decisions. MY USE of affirmations, as I mentioned earlier was done UNKNOWINGLY of what they actually were, but out of a necessity for focus and order. The affirmations kept me on track. They saved me, and they could save you too. Lesson AFFIRMATIONS are simply sentences aimed to affect the conscious and the subconscious mind, so that in turn, they affect our behaviour, thinking patterns, habits and environment. The words automatically and involuntarily, bring up related mental images which inspire, energize and motivate us. The affirmations and the resultant mental images get engraved on the subconscious mind, which in turn, changes your behaviour, habits, actions and reactions. They motivate. They keep the mind focused on the goal. They influence the subconscious mind and activate its powers. They change the way you think and behave, and this can bring you into contact with new people, who can help you with your goals. The positive statements make you feel positive, energetic and active, and therefore, put you in a better position to transform your inner and external worlds. Stephen Covey says that: A good affirmation has five basic ingredients: it's personal, it's positive, it's present tense, it's visual, and it's emotional. UNQUOTE The affirmations will affect your subconscious mind, and trigger it to act on your behalf. It is important that you don’t just repeat positive affirmations as lip service. You need to believe in them and want them to come true. They change your mindset and do not allow room for negative thoughts in our mind. This leads to positivity, optimism, and recognizing opportunities. In turn, your positive and encouraging words enhance our energy and your skill to take advantage of opportunities. I totally realise that all this might be a little difficult to get your head around, as there will be some inner resistance and disbelief, especially if you have been thinking negative thoughts all your life. As you continue though, the resistance will fade away, and your life will begin to change and improve in accordance with the words you are repeating. Swami Kriyananda wrote, “The greatest mistake people make, is to belittle their own power to change themselves.” It is natural for the mind to bring up doubts and negative thoughts, especially if your current environment and situation are very different from what you want to achieve. Persevere, and don’t let your negative thoughts and doubts conquer you. Successconciousness.com says that AFFIRMATIONS ARE DYNAMIC AND PRACTICAL — not wishful thinking. One reason they work is because they are based on higher truths, which, perhaps, we have yet to realize on a conscious level. The thoughts you often think and the words you often repeat, have a great effect on your life, your behaviour, and on how people treat you. These thoughts and words, in time, become reality. This article also warns that you have to be careful with the words you repeat, and stay away from words and thoughts, which you do not want to become reality in your life. You must stay away from negative thinking, dwelling on the past and thinking about problems and fears. Instead - program your mind to think on WHAT YOU REALLY WANT, not on what you don’t. When I created my list, I read it every day, several times, and at night just before I went to sleep. As I researched this show though, many articles suggest that you devote some special times during the day for repeating them. Others say that you should repeat them wherever you are, and whenever you want and have the time. There’s a mixed message if ever I heard one. In short, do what works for you. This is just a tool, but another very powerful one that comes to you entirely free. Be the master of your own destiny. Take AFFIRMATIONS seriously and you will benefit from them. Call To Action As You Think, So Shall You Be. Your call to action today is to create your own list. Look around the internet and build an affirmations map which will help you to find your way. If you are lost then you will likely know that you are. This is a tool and a crutch which will give you strength and focus. Take it seriously and it will be immensely useful to you. “Don’t let your struggle become your identity.” Find the affirmations you need to move you forward and take back control. REPLACE your NEGATIVE THOUGHTS with POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS, over and again, until this becomes a habit. Ending Thanks for taking the time to listen to my musings on the subject of affirmations. Autosuggestion is a powerful tool and if you have the courage to believe in it then you will benefit from this. Next week I’m going to be talking about a blight on the modern world which comes in the form of Outrage Porn. It’s possibly not what you are thinking of but it’s another fascinating subject and one you won't want to miss. For now, though let me end with my 48th Affirmation which was based on the words of  Heraclitus Nothing is permanent. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. Now, take control of your own destiny, keep on shootin’ and join me next time on FILM PRO PRODUCTIVITY! 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When her husband returned from a retreat with his coach, she discovered surreptitiously that he planned to leave the marriage. Having been the optimistic one for years, she suddenly had the wind knocked out of her as she faced years as a single mother. Through work with Jack Canfield and Mary Morrissey, Joyce rediscovered her voice and reinvented her life. She conquered her life-changing transition by empowering herself to become the host of the Second Wind podcast which has grown to support over 1 million women. Watch this episode for a discussion about rewriting the story of your life after a big transition, and finding your voice in narcissistic relationships. LISTEN: Second Wind Podcast https://bit.ly/31pBXOK FREE GIFT: Happiness in 5 Steps http://joycebufordempowers.com/ More about Joyce Buford As a woman who has had to reinvent herself in her own life more than a dozen times, her private and group coaching programs focus on helping women who have experienced their own transitions, such as divorce or death of a loved one find what would make them feel like they are living on purpose. She was personally mentored and assisted in training programs with Mary Morrissey & Jack Canfield, author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” book series. Through the Life Without Limits System, women receive support during their transition and are able to reclaim their true purpose and strengths. They receive the tools they need to map out their new lives. You can find out more about her coaching programs here. Her weekly podcast, SecondWind with Joyce Buford, facilitates her listeners to find support in the growing community of over 1 million women, who have conquered some life-changing transitions. To find out more about the podcast click here. Professional and Social Organizations as well as Corporations request Joyce to provide motivation, inspiration and encouragement to their audiences around the world through live trainings, telesminars and events. To learn more about booking Joyce for your next event click here. She is the bestselling author of the book, Effortless Happiness: How to Find Your Voice and Finally Ask for What You Really Want. Joyce is a proud mother of Lauren and Christopher. She is a proud dog mama to Moo. Music, travel and learning make her happy and feel fulfilled. Connect with Joyce: Web: http://joycebufordempowers.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joycebufordempowerscoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joyce.buford LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joycebufordempowers/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/YourSecondWind Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joyce.buford/   YOUR GUIDE TO SOUL NECTAR – KERRI HUMMINGBIRD SAMI I love mentoring women to rewrite the story of their lives through inner transformation, connection to essence, remembrance of purpose, and realignment to authenticity and truth. If you don't want to settle for anything less than a life of passion and purpose, book a Discovery Call and let's talk! Schedule today! http://bit.ly/2CpFHFZ FREE GIFT: The Love Mastery Game, an oracle for revealing your soul's curriculum in every day challenges. http://www.kerrihummingbird.com/play Do you lack the confidence to trust yourself and go for what you want? When you take actions towards your dreams, does self-doubt infect your certainty? Do you find yourself distracting and numbing while also feeling something is missing inside? Do you feel disrespected and like your wisdom is being dismissed? Do you have a hard time asking for what you need? You may benefit from healing the Mother Wound and reconnecting with the Divine Mother for love. Find out more at www.motherwoundbook.com You may be a member of The Second Wave, here to uplift human consciousness from the inside out by healing patterns of suffering that run through your ancestry. Find out about “The Second Wave: Transcending the Human Drama” and receive a guided me...

How do you leverage your uniqueness and your natural motivators to fully Thrive? Today, Candice dives deeper to help you understand how you can align your Personal Genius to your Life and Business to achieve greater Success and get more of what you really want (see episode 23 about Getting More of What You Really Want). . . . . . . . . . .  Are you ready to make this your best year yet? Get more of what you really want in your life and your work by tuning into the power of your Personal Genius and leveraging it to be more Success-Full and more fully Thrive! Get started today by clicking on the YES I'm ready to Thrive! button on the homepage at Thriverz.com and get a copy of your FREE Personal Genius Starter Report . . . . . . . . . . "If you constantly put yourself in environments that don't play to your natural wiring and your natural equipping; if they go against the “what” of how you're really wired and “how” you're really equipped, then, the development you try to do on yourself or with your company is not going to succeed at the level that it can when your natural equipping is aligned and evident and maximized in everything that you do." ~ Candice Czaplak, NLP Master. . . . . . . . . . . Get Show Notes and Links at https://Thriverz.com/24 Get Your FREE Personal Genius Starter Report at the homepage https://Thriverz.com

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Podcast 304 HOW TO BE OKAY WITH THE RISK OF PEOPLE NOT LIKING YOU In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're chatting about: How to be okay with the risk of people not liking you Some ways to dive into taking the risk of being yourself The most freeing question to ask yourself SPONSORSHIP: This episode is brought to you today by my FREE micro-course, the Quick Confidence Boost. That little voice inside that's telling you-you're not enough? It's lying. It's mean. It's a bully. And it's keeping you from the life God created you to live. 

In this episode, Devi chats with Kristine Grant about “Resolving Conflict and Creating Positive Relationships”. Kristine is a Marriage Family Therapist, and Relationship Expert and author of the forthcoming book “Relationshift: The Right Words for What You Really Want to Say.” She is the creator of the Relationshift Process, that helps people resolve conflicts and learn Conscious Communication skills in order to Create Positive Connections in ALL their relationships including romance, work, family etc. She is also the creator of Inspired Heart Letters and has helped clients write letters to heal their relationships. She has appeared on numerous Television and Radio Shows including CBS, ABC, Fox, The CW Channel and is a popular speaker nationally.  Devi and Kristine discuss: Kristine’s empowering life and business journey Turning negative things into positive outcomes Going on autopilot: “fight or flight” mode How to communicate when you’re in “fight or flight” mode Becoming more vulnerable and open Not being fearful of being transparent Upgrading your writing skills Being open to “problem solve” Letting go of pain, anguish, and hostility Raising the frequency without negative body language towards confrontation Strategies for overcoming “fight or flight” mode Practices for making the shift from “fight or flight” mode Maintaining a state of gratitude Standing up to and moving fast amidst crisis Honoring yourself Resolving conflicts and creating positive relationships Opening up a "window" in your life Achieving a point of trust How to have healthy boundaries Discernment A smile or a gesture of kindness can change the vibration around you Paying attention to your environment  and more… Connect with Kristine @ www.inspiredheartletters.com

This is episode 2 of a 2 part series with Dr. Chris Friesen. It is not necessary to listen to episode 70 first (previous episode), but I highly recommend it, it is excellent stuff!In this episode we cover Biohacking from Dr. Friesen's point of view, with various tips regarding modern supplements to circadian rhythm hacks. As a bonus, I recorded the discussion I had with Dr. Friesen before we started the interview... and it's fascinating stuff! Listen to the end to get this inside scoop into the mind of one of the worlds best Neuro Psychologists.Dr. Friesen is a sport & performance neuropsychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist who works with those with psychological and brain-based disorders in addition to helping professional, national, Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes and high-achieving professionals and entrepreneurs to improve their performance.His work leverages the latest research from sport and performance psychology, executive coaching, and applied neuroscience. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and Niagara Neuropsychology and is a contributor to Success.com.He is also the author of the bestselling self-help book: Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen. See the show notes, links and resources at https://dirobi.com

Remember those old "self help" books... back when we had book stores? Well, much of the information in those books was nice, but not necessarily accurate, and didn't work for everybody. Get the latest proven techniques for increased performance and success from one of the worlds leading experts on the topic, Dr. Chris Friesen.Dr. Friesen is a sport & performance neuropsychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist who works with those with psychological and brain-based disorders in addition to helping professional, national, Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes and high-achieving professionals and entrepreneurs to improve their performance.His work leverages the latest research from sport and performance psychology, executive coaching, and applied neuroscience. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and Niagara Neuropsychology and is a contributor to Success.com.He is also the author of the bestselling self-help book: Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen. See the show notes, links and resources at https://dirobi.com

In the first half is Kristine Grant, MFT, as a psychotherapist, has provided counseling support for individuals, couples and families for over twenty years. Kristine is the creator of the Relationshift® Process and Inspired Heart® Letters, a unique and powerful approach that positively transforms any matter of the heart. Currently, as a Relationship Coach, people can call upon Kristine's help from anywhere in the US and beyond. She will discuss her new book, RELATIONSHIFT: The Right Words for What You Really Want to Say. In the second half is Regina Bell, Senior Lecturer and Academic Advisor at the University of Rhode Island. With 15 years of industry experience, she creates real world learning opportunity for students. Regina also has the gift of capturing the essence of your loved one's life by writing his or her eulogy. An accomplished public speaker and captivating storyteller, she will explain her service of writing and or delivering the eulogy of your loved one

In the first half is Kristine Grant, MFT, as a psychotherapist, has provided counseling support for individuals, couples and families for over twenty years. Kristine is the creator of the Relationshift® Process and Inspired Heart® Letters, a unique and powerful approach that positively transforms any matter of the heart. Currently, as a Relationship Coach, people can call upon Kristine's help from anywhere in the US and beyond. She will discuss her new book, RELATIONSHIFT: The Right Words for What You Really Want to Say. In the second half is Regina Bell, Senior Lecturer and Academic Advisor at the University of Rhode Island. With 15 years of industry experience, she creates real world learning opportunity for students. Regina also has the gift of capturing the essence of your loved one's life by writing his or her eulogy. An accomplished public speaker and captivating storyteller, she will explain her service of writing and or delivering the eulogy of your loved one

In the first half is Kristine Grant, MFT, as a psychotherapist, has provided counseling support for individuals, couples and families for over twenty years. Kristine is the creator of the Relationshift® Process and Inspired Heart® Letters, a unique and powerful approach that positively transforms any matter of the heart. Currently, as a Relationship Coach, people can call upon Kristine's help from anywhere in the US and beyond. She will discuss her new book, RELATIONSHIFT: The Right Words for What You Really Want to Say. In the second half is Regina Bell, Senior Lecturer and Academic Advisor at the University of Rhode Island. With 15 years of industry experience, she creates real world learning opportunity for students. Regina also has the gift of capturing the essence of your loved one's life by writing his or her eulogy. An accomplished public speaker and captivating storyteller, she will explain her service of writing and or delivering the eulogy of your loved one

In the first half is Kristine Grant, MFT, as a psychotherapist, has provided counseling support for individuals, couples and families for over twenty years. Kristine is the creator of the Relationshift® Process and Inspired Heart® Letters, a unique and powerful approach that positively transforms any matter of the heart. Currently, as a Relationship Coach, people can call upon Kristine's help from anywhere in the US and beyond. She will discuss her new book, RELATIONSHIFT: The Right Words for What You Really Want to Say. In the second half is Regina Bell, Senior Lecturer and Academic Advisor at the University of Rhode Island. With 15 years of industry experience, she creates real world learning opportunity for students. Regina also has the gift of capturing the essence of your loved one's life by writing his or her eulogy. An accomplished public speaker and captivating storyteller, she will explain her service of writing and or delivering the eulogy of your loved one

Dr. Chris Friesen is a licensed neuropsychologist in Ontario, Canada, who specializes in helping athletes as well as high achievers, including executives, entrepreneurs, academics, and writers, improve their performance and productivity. He’s the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen, which, I promise you, has something in it for everyone, even if you don't consider yourself a high performance individual. In our conversation, Chris offers tips on how to train your brain to get comfortable with the uncomfortable, making it easier to get in that workout without feeling like it’s a chore or something you dread. For more, check out Chris’s website at http://friesenperformance.com/.

Dr. Chris Friesen is a psychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist but now primarily helps professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and a contributor to Success.com. He is also the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen. To follow him or to find out more, visit FriesenPerformance.comHere is the back cover description of my book ACHIEVE. The book is on Amazon.com if you want to take a look:http://www.amazon.com/ACHIEVE-Really-Happen-Achievement-Handbook-ebook/dp/B01EK2LPYS

Dr. Chris Friesen is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He helps elite athletes, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology, a contributor to Success.com and the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen.

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Are you struggling to achieve success? In today’s interview our guest, performance psychologist, Dr. Chris Friesen will be sharing the evidence-based side of personal development and the mindset behind high performance. We’ll also discuss how to conquer anxiety and how to be mentally prepared to achieve your goals. Listen now for more!   Brief Bio: Today’s guest Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. is a psychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist but now primarily helps professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology, a contributor for Success Magazine, and author of ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen.   In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you need to get Dr. Friesen’s book (06:44) The science behind motivation (16:33) The 3 things successful people do differently (18:22) Dr. Friesen’s top lifestyle and environment hacks (31:05) Understanding brain waves (28:15) The relationship between food and mood (38:50) 5 Reasons why willpower fails you, and what to do about it (42:30) Understanding panic attacks (49:34) 5 Ways to deal with anxiety (48:11) Signs your body needs rest (55:44) The chemistry of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) (63:51)   Ted’s Takeaways Let your results be your guide– If you are following recommendations from persons that are into personal development and you are not having measurable success in your life, then consider following an expert like Chris Friesen. Feeling good is important but being excited about working out is not the same as actually working out. Feeling good doesn’t change your bank account, your relationship, or whatever it is you are trying to improve in your life. Be careful with biohacking information– Be cautious of where and who you are getting your information from. Don’t be fooled by good marketing and inaccurate information.   Recommendations   Resources   Connect with Chris   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for joining us again this week. If you have any questions (or would like answers to hear previously submitted voicemail questions!), head on over to . Check out my brand new video , where I’ll , you can learn the 7 fat loss strategies that will help you finally create that energetic, lean body you’ve always wanted.   Until next time! Ted

In this episode, Brian speaks with one of the leading professionals in all of peak performance and sport psychology as well as #1 Best-Selling Author, Dr. Chris Friesen. He is the author of The High Achievement Handbook Series and gives you great insight into the mind and how to control it. Follow Dr. Friesen on Twitter @FriesenPerform Check out his website FriesenPerformance.com You will learn about... Dr. Friesen's unique, guided, brain training and meditation technique Dr. Friesen's advanced knowledge on sports psychology and how to maximize your mental potential "The Funeral Exercise" to help you establish core values The incredible story of boxer Danny Williams overcoming a dislocated shoulder mid-fight Dr. Friesen even explains why having some self-doubt is actually a good thing   PODCAST TRANSCRIPTION Friesen: Most of us mere mortals like you and I and most people would say “look at this pain, how am I going to win a boxing match with one arm?” It's impossible. It's basically impossible. And he just kept pushing forward and pushing forward. Like I said in the book Stallone couldn't have written a better ending. Danny Williams basically wins. Cain: Hey this is Brian Cain with the Peak Performance Podcast. Today our guest is one of the leading professionals in all of Peak Performance and sports psychology and he is a number one bestselling author. Dr. Chris Friesen is a licensed psychologist in Ontario, Canada, practicing in the areas of clinical psychology, clinical neuropsychology, forensic correctional psychology, and high achievement sports psychology and performance psychology. Dr. Friesen has training and experience that crosses a broad spectrum of psychological difficulties including working with individuals who have anxiety or performance anxiety, depression, personality disorders, brain injuries often occurring from sports concussion, to severe traumatic brain injuries happening in military or in combat scenarios, and those involved with the criminal justice system - offenders of all types. Primarily though Dr. Friesen and the reason why I'm so intrigued and honored to have him as a guest on the show this week is that he focuses on helping athletes and other individuals who are performing at the highest levels continuously improve and achieve and smash their goals. As we said earlier he is the number one bestselling author of The High Achievement Handbook series and in this podcast we're going to focus on book one of the series. It's called ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen. Dr. Chris Friesen, thanks for being on the Peak Performance Podcast. Friesen: Brian thanks for having me. I'm super pumped to be here. Cain: Your background I think is tremendous in that is has a lot of the hardcore psychological science but you also have the application and are doing it in the real world. I think often what you find is you get people who are doing it that are unlicensed and don't have a background in training or they have all the clinical background and psychological training but they just can't seem to make the human connection with the high achiever because they haven't been as I would refer to you as is a “blue collar psychologist.” You mentioned that term earlier when we were off the air and I thought that was fantastic. Could you talk a little bit about kind of your unique background and experience both from the training and the academic side but then also with how you go about applying it and what the - sometimes I think there is that gap between the science and the application. Could you talk a little bit about your experience in both and kind of closing that gap? Friesen: Definitely. Like you said I'm a licensed psychologist with various areas of expertise. I've always been really fascinated by high achievement and success since I was a teenager and I played hockey as a goalie actually. I went into my training and psychology in Canada. In the clinical psychology graduate programs there is no specific sports psychology training so all that training was sort of done after the fact. One of the issues I've always had was there is some really amazing research coming out from cognitive neuroscience, sports psychology, just general personality psychology, that often doesn't get percolated down to the everyday person or even high achieving athletes or other high achievers. I've always been the type of guy that applies all the stuff I learned to myself. I'm a big self experimenter. I can tell you lots of things. I've tried various supplements. I've tried various meditation techniques. Almost everything I talk about - like in the book for example - I've done it on myself and I've used it with athletes and other high achievers. So I really felt that one of the things I noticed with a lot of self help books is either they are written by academics, PhD like myself (although I am not a researcher per se anymore), and it's full of studies with very little application or like you said it's written by someone like a Peak Performance sort of self help book with someone who has zero experience or credentials in that area. So I realized that maybe this is useful to a lot of people so I really wrote the book in a way that is ultra user friendly. It takes sort of complicated scientific ideas or research findings and puts them into very easy to learn and apply strategies. So that is sort of where I see myself is the type of psychologist that really tries to bring this information to people to help them really achieve the goals that are really important to them. Cain: I love how you mentioned taking everything you had used with an athlete or with someone who you're working with and doing it on yourself - something that I also try. Any technique or any strategy that I'm going to share with the team or with an athlete why wouldn't I use that myself if it's something that I think is going to help them to achieve at a higher level? So I really think that that is a lot of the missing link. It's like going to a fat doctor or to a poor financial planner. It just often doesn't add up. You've got to be doing that stuff yourself. You sound kind of like Tim Ferriss, the author of The 4-Hour Workweek and The 4-Hour Body who is kind of that human science experiment. One of the things that you mentioned that I want to kind of dovetail off into was meditation techniques. It's something that I talk often with athletes about and I think that athletes and coaches have the stigma that you have to shave your head, put on an orange robe, burn some incense, cross your legs, and hike to the top of the Himalayas if you're going to do meditation. What is your experience with mediation and what is the best practice that you've found? Friesen: That is a great question. The way I describe meditation is it's just a form of brain training. Especially with my neuroscience and neuropsychology background I often try and use connect the two. I look at the research in those areas. So for example the way I describe it to people - and this is how I describe it to myself when I use it on myself, this is the strategy I use. For example what you're doing is you're brain training. You're training the ability to stay focused. You're training your brain's ability to not get caught up or hooked by negative thoughts. The way I say it is there's three reps, basically you sit down and you focus on your breathing. You don't control your breathing. The first step is just to focus on your breathing. The next rep is basically to be aware of or notice when your mind is no longer focused on your breathing which is inevitable. It happens to everyone. The goal is not to have a perfectly Zen mind where your thoughts never stray. It's basically never going to happen. It's an impossible goal. The idea is you notice when your thoughts wander away from your breathing. Acknowledge what your thoughts are doing. So you say for example “I'm having the thought that this is boring” or “I'm having the feeling of anxiety because I have to go buy milk” or something like that and you basically describe what's happening, what your mind is doing. What that does is it trains you to defuse or not get hooked by your thoughts. We are not our thoughts - especially our negative thoughts. We want to be able to pick and choose which thoughts we allow to take hold of us. So you basically acknowledge what is going on because if you don't acknowledge it, if you just try to squash it, research shows - and I tie this back to obsessive compulsive order and PTSD or post traumatic stress disorder. One of the hallmarks of those disorders is you have thoughts or flashbacks that are very disturbing that you don't want to have and the natural reaction is to squash those thoughts or pretend you're not having them and do everything in your power to avoid having them. But the problem is we know the way the brain works. As soon as you try to squash a thought it continually comes back. It will continually pop back into your mind. So you want to acknowledge it, allow the thoughts to be there, then the next rep is to turn your attention back to your breathing. Basically it is hardcore brain training. It is not a relaxation technique. I tell people relaxation may be a side effect but that's not the point. We're training our brains to be able to basically increase our ability to stay focused and also to not get hooked by negative thoughts. It does a whole bunch of other things, it improves executive functioning and that kind of things, but that's really the way I describe it to people. It's again not relaxation, it's not religious, it's basically a form of brain training that takes zero dollars and zero equipment. So that is my take on it. Cain: Would it be possible time wise for you to take us through a very short version of mediation so that our listeners would know exactly “hey this is an example of a meditation that I learned from Dr. Chris Friesen that I want to share with my team.” Maybe like a 2-3 minute exercise they might be able to take and use? Friesen: Yeah I can sort of give you a quick walk through. Cain: Perfect. Friesen: You want me to do it right now? Cain: That would be fantastic. If anyone is listening to this podcast while they are driving skip this section or pull yourself over so that you make sure you're doing it safely. Friesen: The way I do it is I'm actually usually generally against using any tapes for mediation because it's like a cheat in a way. It's helping you focus. The idea is when you are basically in a quiet environment - just imagine when you lie down and go to sleep and you're not tired and you realize how much your mind is racing and thinking of random thoughts. That's actually where you want to be. You don't want to fall asleep so you don't want to lie down. You don't want a tape telling you to do something, but of course the first time to learn the strategy you do, or you want to hear me talking now. So what you do is you sit down. You don't slouch back, you don't slouch forward. You sit in an erect position not so much that it's painful but enough that it's not going to make you fall asleep. Remember this is not a relaxation exercise - it's a brain training exercise. The first thing you do now is you basically focus your attention on your breathing. Notice for example how the air is a bit cooler when it goes in through your nose and warmer when it comes out. You're not controlling your breathing, you are simply focusing on your breathing. Inevitably your mind is going to wander. You're going to have a thought about something. You're going to judge yourself. You're going to think of something in the future. You may worry about something. Even if you have a positive thought, in this exercise you want to what we call “diffuse” from those thoughts. What that really means is notice when your thoughts have wandered and describe what is happening. Say “I'm having the thought that X or Y” or “having the feeling that X or Y.” That is going to put some space between you and your thoughts and you want to train this because you do not want to be your thoughts, especially your negative thoughts. So once your thoughts wander describe what is happening really briefly. Allow them to be there. Don't get upset. Having thoughts is what your brain does. It's programmed to generate thoughts when there is nothing going on. You're going to notice them, acknowledge them, and very gently return your attention back to your breathing. You're just going to do this again and again. You're not going to go very long before your thoughts wander and that is actually good. The trick is to notice when your thoughts wander, acknowledge them, and return your attention back. That is all you're trying to do. That is the only goal. A lot of people come to me and say “look it was so bad, the meditation, my thoughts we all over the place.” I say “listen that's actually good.” It's like working out with a weight pack. The more your thoughts are wandering the better. You're getting a better brain workout. That is basically it in a nutshell. It's really a series of steps and just knowing what you're doing. You may feel relaxed at the end. You may not. That's not the goal. There are a lot of other ways you could relax. Take a hot bath. This is not training to relax. The side effect though from this type of training is that you are going to be more relaxed generally. Not because of a physiological response or training but because you're no longer getting hooked by negative thoughts or feelings and you're basically able to stay focused in the present moment which is the key to the zone when it comes to playing sports (for example). So this is the other thing I tell everyone. By doing this you are training your ability to stay in the present moment which is where you want to be to perform at your peak. When you are in the present moment that is when you are in the zone and it's going to make it more likely you're going to get in the zone and you can control now whether you go into the zone better than you did before. Cain: That is one of the most simple and clear definitions I think I've ever heard someone say about meditation is that step one is you're focusing on your breathing - in through your nose, out through your nose. Step two, acknowledge when your mind drifts to anything other than your breath. Step three, bring it back to your breathing. It's not a relaxation exercise. I've never heard it said this way. It's not a relaxation exercise, it's an exercise in developing a present moment focus and the result of that will be a feeling of relaxation which is much more close to that flow state or to the zone where you're in the present moment and you're where your feet are and that is when you perform your best. That was fantastic. Chris, if we can jump into your book here. One of the things with your subtitle is it says Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen. Let's get right into it. What are some strategies that you use? I love how you talk about strategy because I think you often get two types of people who come from two types of the spectrum in the world of Peak Performance. You get those who talk about principle and just concept like “be positive,” well no shit. Okay well how do you do that? Focus on what you can control. No shit. The sun rises. Great. Well how do I actually get back to that when the bullets start flying? I think it's important that people know themselves but I love that you're going to share with us some strategies that people can use about how to better get to know themselves. What are some of the ways that - if you would, first, why is it important that people know themselves? Secondly, how is it that people listening to this podcast can better get to know themselves? What is something they can go and do? Friesen: Great question. Throughout my career I've seen a lot of people who have gone very far - including in athletics and just in their lives. Basically barking up the wrong tree is maybe not the right word but you're basically focusing on the wrong things for them. This often leads to a lot of psychological problems - some subtle, some clinical level, a lot of anxiety, depression, and dissatisfaction in today's society. I think a lot of the over-prescription of antidepressants is partially due to the fact that people are not living a life congruent with who they are and what is really important to them. What I mean by that is at the most basic level we all differ on five general personality dimensions. I call them “the basic personality tendencies.” This has been replicated in scientific research across it's probably been 70 years now. It hasn't really percolated well into the general public's awareness. I can go over them but they're basically five global dimensions. We all differ. It's our personality so we all differ on these. They are partially genetic, about 50%. So 50% percent is due to genes. We have twin studies where twins have been separated at birth and reared in different countries and different parts of countries and that sort of thing and this is how we figured these stats out. The other half of our personality is determined by our experiences, particularly experiences earlier on in life. I don't mean in the first two years of life I mean in the first 20 years of life because our brains are much more malleable - something called neuroplasticity is big - and our brains are still forming and molding. When we get older it's much more difficult to change that. So long story short the first dimension, I call it in my book “the susceptibility to negative emotions and stress.” It's simply like it sounds. Basically some of us are very easily stressed, easily get nervous, they have a lot of pessimistic thoughts. Some of us are more in the middle, and some of us are more the opposite where we don't experience a lot of stress. This is very important to know about yourself because especially the people trying to achieve big goals if you're average to high on this (in other words you do experience a lot of negative mentions and thoughts) you are at risk for failure unless you train yourself and do a number of strategies to make sure you can keep that in check. Also all these things are strengths as well. People who are artists, people who are high performers, sports as well, are often high on this but they capitalize on this. I'm sure you've talked a lot about this. One simple example is reinterpreting your physiological response to let's say right before a big event like anxiety as “I'm pumped, I'm amped, I'm ready, let's rock” as opposed to “oh shit I'm scared, my legs are feeling wobbly, this means I'm going to totally choke.” So that is just a quick example. The next one is extroversion versus introversion. We all know about that. People who are extroverted obviously like to be around people. This has more to do though with our brain's ability to handle external stimulation. Extroverts - a very simplified way of looking at this (and there are some EEG studies that confirm this) is basically their brains are revving a little bit too low so they need to get a lot of external stimulation whether it's social, whether it's being in a high paced, fast and exciting environment, to feel normal. Versus people who are introverted their brains are kind of revving too fast and too much external stimulation puts them into overload and they start to feel overwhelmed and they can burn out easily. This is extremely important in terms of knowing what you can handle in your sports career or in your career in general. You have to match your job to your personality or you have to work around it. Another one is called agreeableness. This is really our attitudes towards others. People who are really agreeable tend to be really honest, straightforward, very trusting, not very interpersonally competitive. People who are low on this (what we call slightly disagreeable) they're more skeptical, they're less open with others, they are more interpersonally competitive. It's extremely important to know this about yourself. The fourth one is openness to experience. This is big when you're working with athletes to know where they stand on this. People who are really open to experiences are just open to different ways of looking at things. They're interested in and open to people from different cultures, different values, different ideas. People who are low on this are obviously the opposite. They're really closed to those things. If you're working with someone who - let's say you Brian. You're working with someone who is an athlete and you have a new technique (let's say it's a new meditation technique) and the person is really closed to the experience you probably want to emphasize it being more as a traditional thing - they've been using this for years and years and all the big guys are using this. Whereas someone who is really open to experiences will be open to trying almost anything (they'll use magnets) because they're so open to different things and that sort of thing. That is really important to know. The last one, literature calls it “conscientiousness,” I call it “motivation and self control” because I think that describes it better. It's exactly how it sounds. People who are high on this are highly motivated, highly organized, highly achievement oriented. People who are low on this are the opposite. People who are high on this have a gigantic advantage when it comes to success. People who are low have a big disadvantage in multiple areas of life (and research supports this) whether it's income, whether it's health outcomes, whatever it may be. So long story short the very first step in knowing yourself is knowing your core basic personality. These have neurological correlates in our brains so these are very difficult to change. For the most part people need to accept their personality and work with what they've got. Of course next we need to know what is important to us. I call it “knowing your values.” Living a life incongruent with your values and also your personality is a recipe for disaster. You need to know what is really important to you. In the book I go through different exercises to help you really get in touch with your values because like I said you have to live a life congruent with your values, with what is important to you, or you're going to be basically constantly going against your own grain. Knowing your strengths, knowing your interests, knowing your passions is extremely important. Only if you get all this information then can you really figure out what your mission - I say “missions” because I don't think everyone has one single mission but you have multiple purposes or missions in life and only by knowing yourself really well can you get to know that part. In the last two sections of the book is really about now you're ready to set goals. It's all these earlier steps to know yourself before you should be really setting goals. Most people and a lot of books go right into goal setting but without the ground work - because what will happen is you may be focusing on goals for years (for example) that aren't really right for you. That is a huge mistake. Cain: That is fantastic in terms of talking about knowing your basic personality tendencies, knowing your core values, knowing your strengths, and then kind of getting clear on your why. Let's talk about that concept of identifying your values. For the person that is listening to this - which I believe most of our listeners are going to be listening to this as they're driving in their car - is there a way that you can ask them the certain couple questions or an exercise that they can do to kind of come up with what their core values are or is it ultimately just them kind of sitting down? I think often people think that they need to go get away from life for three weeks and climb a mountain, go to a lakeside retreat, and all of a sudden what their core values are and their mission in life is going to hit them. Whereas I'm much more of the school of thought in like you decide on what your core values are, you decide on what your mission is. Or your missions. I love the way you said that is that people have more than one mission in life. I think that's genius. You decide on what they [your core values] are and then kind of evolve over time. What is your take on how you go about creating a set of core values and identifying with what your mission is? Friesen: That is great. One of the differences between personality and values is that personality you don't choose your personality but you choose your values. Often we're not even aware of where our values came from. What I usually do (one of the best exercises is really existential) is do what I call a “funeral exercise.” I didn't invent this. The one I put in the book is more specific to what I think are the best strategies within that exercise. It's simply this: you imagine your funeral. You imagine (for example) it's five years from today (or whatever time frame you really want) and you imagine your funeral and you imagine the different people that are really important to you in your life getting up there and talking about you. You want to think of what you want them to say about you, not necessarily what you think they would say about you. Hopefully that makes sense. Ideally what would you like people to say about you? Would they say “this guy was a total jerk he was just focused on himself,” that kind of thing? No. You're going to have thoughts of “this guy really went out of his way to help people and his family was super important, he was also about excellence, he was always trying to be as best as he could be so he could help others be their best.” You want to think ideally what do you want people to say about you. Of course when you do this you want to start the exercise really using all your sense for imagery to imagine yourself being at the funeral, looking at the people, looking at the people crying. It can be an emotional situation. You want to really put yourself in that position in your mind. You want to really pretend it's happening. You should write this out or at least say it out loud or say it in your head. What do you want an important coach or an important teammate or your wife or your children, what do you want them to say about you? What do you want them to say? That will tell you what your values are. Are they going to say “this guy worked so hard he got sick, he spent so much time at the office, he didn't give a shit about the family.” Is that what you want people to think? Is that what you really want? You'll get in touch with what is really important to you. Also there is another exercise to where in the book it's simply a list of values. Readers can download that as well. It just goes through a bunch of values and you basically read through them and you kind of rank order the top 5-10 that are really important to you. You've got to make sure that - and this is the biggest key to success in my opinion. The most successful people don't may their day-to-day minute-to-minute decisions about what to do with their time or what to buy, who to spend time with, they don't make it based on their immediate moods, their urges, their energy levels, that sort of thing. They make these decisions based on their values and what is really important to them. If you just take one thing away from this podcast it's that you want to make your day-to-day decisions based on what is important to you. A simple example is personally I wake up at 6:00 AM to get up and workout before my four year old is up. When that alarm goes off my immediate moods, energy levels, and everything is telling me “press snooze and just sleep in” but my values - one of my values is to be really healthy and also to have longevity. I want to be there when my daughter gets married. I want to be there when she has kids. And being healthy makes me feel good. It builds my self efficacy, my self esteem, it maintains it. So regardless of how I feel I make the decision based on my values and my bigger goals, not based on how I feel in the moment. That is just a quick example. Cain: I love that exercise. I remember that is one of the first things when I went to graduate school at Cal State Fullerton Dr. Ken Ravizza had us do. It comes right out of his book Heads-Up Baseball where he talks about imagine you're in a banquet, you're retiring from your career as a coach, what do you want all the people who are at that banquet to say about you. That kind of helps to formulate your vision statement or your core values in terms of who you are. One of the things that you said that I love is that the most successful people don't make minute-to-minute decisions based on moods. They make them based on their values. I know you're a big MMA fan (as am I). One of my friends, Vitor Belfort, who is a former UFC World Champion says that the difference between a man and a boy is that a man lives a life based off of principle and a boy lives a life based off of preference. I thought that was very similar to what you are saying. Friesen: Yes. Cain: The person who makes minute-to-minute decisions based off of preference, of what feels good in the moment, “what do I want right now,” instead of the person who makes the principle based decision that says “okay what do I do right now that aligns with my values and the best vision of who I want to be?” I think that's what makes a champion and that's what makes a man. I love how you said that. Friesen: Yes. He said it very eloquently. That is exactly right. This is what champions know. This is what successful people [know]. It doesn't mean how much money you make. People who are living the right life for them, they're satisfied with their life, this is what they know. Also this is another things that comes up (especially in today's day and age) is that people think that they want to take the easy route. They want to be happy all the time because media feeds this idea that ideally you're going through life always being happy and doing everything that is pleasurable. The reality is anything that is important or anything that's big, any goals, it's going to take pain. I think it's the Buddha or the Dalai Lama that said this: “there is a difference between pain and suffering, pain is inevitable.” We go through pain. When you're trying to do things that are important you're going to feel pain but whether you suffer really depends on whether you're going through pain to achieve something that is really important to you and that is part of your mission, part of your values, or whether you're going against that. To achieve anything big there is a lot of pain. Speaking of UFC, you see these training videos and it's not like they're just sitting around getting massages and drinking beers. You see these guys sweating their butts off going through ten times more intense training than they actually go through in the octagon. They go through hell on earth. They fight like 20 fresh guys in a row as opposed to one guy for 15-25 minutes. It's because you've got to go through this pain and you're not going to be a champion unless you go through this pain and you accept the pain and you say “look this pain is actually good because it's bringing me closer to something that is really important to me, it's part of my values, it's part of my goal.” It's no longer really suffering. It is painful but it's not suffering. I think that's huge. Cain: Let's talk about riding the pain train for a minute here. One of your first stories in chapter one about taking stock of who you are you shared a story I had never heard before about Britain's Danny Williams, one of their boxers of all time. As I read that story - I mean I've underlined it. I've shared that story multiple times since reading that. I thought it was one of the best stories I have ever come across. Could you talk a little bit about that story of Danny Williams and the toughness that he had to have with that but understanding how the pain is inevitable and if he was going after what he really wanted he would be able to deal with the suffering. Friesen: That's right. Danny Williams is an amazing story. He was boxing a guy named Mark Potter. Mark Potter is actually in MMA now I believe and he is a monster. So Danny Williams is in a boxing match with Mark Potter and Danny Williams' arm (I believe it's his right shoulder) basically pops out of the socket. It gets dislocated. Essentially everyone watching (the announcers, everyone) is saying “this is over, why isn't the ref stopping the fight, this is ridiculous.” It keeps popping in and out. But Danny Williams basically had an overarching goal. Most of us mere mortals like you and I and most people would say “look at this pain, how am I going to win a boxing match with one arm?” It's impossible. It's basically impossible. A lot of times when you're drilling you don't really feel the pain but of course between rounds - and it wasn't just like a two minute thing. It was going on for a long time within the match. This guy obviously had pain and he just kept pushing forward and kept pushing forward. Like I said in the book Stallone couldn't have written a better ending. Danny Williams basically wins. He ends up knocking Mark Potter down repeatedly just because he wouldn't give up. Even Mark Potter is punching his shoulder - listeners, you've got to YouTube this. It's real. You can watch it. It's totally real. It's about heart. It's about knowing what is important. They say “is Danny Williams crazy, who would do this?” He is not crazy. He is a guy who had an overarching mission, a purpose, a goal, and he had certain values and he was going to push through no matter what. In the circumstance it paid off. It's really inspiring. You see guys like that and you're thinking “I want to give up because of X Y or Z” and look at this guy. He was boxing at the top level and his arm was out of the socket (his shoulder came out of the socket) and he still won. It's unreal. Cain: I've used that story multiple times with college football teams already this season just talking about that it's not what you're going through it's what you're going to. You're going to quit if what you're going to isn't big enough for you to withstand anything that you're going to have to go through to get there. I think that video of Danny Williams - you see it where Potter is just attacking. He's not even trying to hit him in the head he's just attacking his right shoulder. Eventually in the last round it looks like something right out of Rocky. The guy can barely move his arm and he ends up knocking out this guy who had been wearing him out for the entire fight. It was unbelievable watching that video. I had no idea that that story even existed. I remembered him beating Mike Tyson at one point in his career but never knew about that fight with Potter that I think is probably one of the most impressive things I've ever seen when it comes down to just toughness and sheer will and not being somebody who is going to quit. I was doing my homework earlier on the treadmill this morning on a boat somewhere out here in the middle of the Caribbean listening to one of your podcasts. You talked about something that I hear a lot of people in the field of sports psychology or Peak Performance or positive psychology or whatever the hell you want to call it. They will say that “you've got to have great belief before you go into a competition.” In your podcast (the episode I listened to earlier) you talked about how that is not necessarily true. I've worked with a lot of high level MMA fighters - Georges St. Pierre from Canada - and one of the things that GSP used to say a lot about was that he didn't even really talk about belief. For him it was about preparation and when he stepped into the octagon it was 50/50. There was one guy and him and one was going to win and one was going to lose and if he had done what he needed to do to prepare then he should be able to go out there and execute and win the fight. But we never even really talked about confidence or belief. It was about how are you going to act and how are you going to handle the adversity that is going to come your way. Never before the fight do you believe because frankly I'm not sure that really even matters. What is your take on all that, coach? Friesen: That is a great point. A lot of athletes come to me and say “look I see this athlete or this person, they don't look like they're nervous, it looks like they have unwavering belief in themselves, I want to be like that.” They say “I want no anxiety, I want pure confidence.” I say “first of all that is impossible.” That is basically impossible because our human brains are wired to feel anxious and to not feel confident all the time and that is a good thing. I say “listen think of it this way, imagine you had unlimited confidence. The Olympic Games are coming up and it's four months out and you're convinced you're the absolute best and you're going to basically slaughter the competition.” I worked with one of the wrestlers so let's say it's wrestling. “What do you think that is going to do for your training? Do you think you're going to get up at 6:00 AM or 5:00 AM and push yourself that extra mile or do you think you're going to kind of take it back a notch because you've already got this?” Obviously we know the answer. The answer is if you're overly confident you are likely going to under-prepare. That is just the preparation. What happens when you actually get to the competition and you're convinced that you're the best and you're going to destroy this person? What is going to happen? Your arousal level may actually come down too low because we know the Yerkes-Dodson Law where you have to have a moderate level of arousal, activation, or anxiety to perform at your best. It can't be too high, it can't be too low. So if you go into a competition convinced that you're just going to basically walk over this person, you're going to kick ass, you're going to probably get your ass kicked because you are underestimating your opponent because your opponent is coming in there to basically (let's say it's MMA or wrestling) destroy you. You need to have that self doubt because it's going to prevent you from making mistakes. Of course you can't go the opposite where you're all self doubt, you don't think you can do it, “I don't deserve to be there.” Those are pretty normal thoughts. We have them all the time. But you don't want them to be dominating. You want what I call a realistic but slightly positive mindset. Realistic in a sense that “I can beat this guy.” It's positive in a sense that you think you can beat them if you do the right things, “if I maintain my game plan.” Like GSP is saying “if I focus on what I can control” - which is when he goes for a takedown this is what I'm going to do and as soon as I see an opening I'm going to take him down etc. - really focused on the present moment and focusing on what he has to do as opposed to trying to focus on “I'm just going to shit kick and walk through these people.” You need self doubt. You need anxiety. Thinking that these are bad is the problem, not the anxiety and the self doubt. You need them to improve. You need them to not underestimate your opponents. This is big. This is big. It's uncomfortable but again remember like I said to achieve anything big you've got to feel discomfort. You've got to feel discomfort in training. You've got to feel discomfort when you're going to go to the Olympics. It's totally normal to feel anxious. It's totally normal to have thoughts that “maybe I don't deserve to be here” but when you do that meditation that we talked about earlier you are training your brain to be able to diffuse or not get hooked by negative thoughts. You say “hey there goes my brain, it does what it does, it's telling me that I don't deserve to be here.” So let's motivate. I'm going to use that to motivate myself to “I'm going to watch a bit more tape of this next opponent” or “I'm going to train a bit harder” or I'm going to whatever. That's my take on it. Cain: I thought that was awesome. Very well said. Georges used to talk about it being a humble confidence. It's the humility knowing that every day when the alarm goes off (like you say) at 5:00 in the morning that someone is coming to take what is mine and someone is coming to rip my head off, but it's the confidence that when you walk and you step inside of the cage it's the confidence knowing there is nothing else I could have done to prepare and I am ready to compete at a high level. Not “I'm ready to go in there and destroy this guy” because he would never say that. It's always “I'm ready to go in there and compete at a high level and do what I've done in training and I believe what I've done in training has prepared me for victory.” Friesen: Yes. You see guys like - this comes up a lot with the Yerkes-Dodson Law. Diego Sanchez, you see him getting pumped up before the fight. I think he is saying “yes” or something like that. He's got this scowl on his face. It kind of depends on where you fall in that first personality dimension of negative emotions. GSP - I don't know GSP but he could be a bit on the higher side and he knows that about himself (I would assume) and so he knows what he needs to do to keep that in check. But there are other people that are really low on the negative emotions. They don't really get nervous in these big competitions. They get very little anxiety. But we know with the Yerkes-Dodson Law you need a moderate level of anxiety. Someone like Diego Sanchez may need to get slapped in the face a few times right before he goes into the octagon to get himself - hopefully Diego is not listening to this but I feel like with Diego what is happening is that he's so pumped, he is so pumping himself up that is activation or anxiety level or arousal level is going too high and you see it the first round usually he looks like he is very stiff. He looks very stiff because as you now when you're overly activated your muscles contract and when your muscles contract you can't move fluidly. You become stiff. Joe Rogan talks about that all the time, “this guy looks like it's his first UFC fight, I can see he's got a lot of nerves, he seems very stiff, his muscles are stiff.” It kind of depends where you land or at least how you react under big stressful situations. It could be that you need a coach to basically start screaming in your face because your arousal level is so low. But that is actually pretty rare. I think most of the time it's the opposite. You don't need a coach screaming in your face especially if your arousal is already high because then you are going to go over the edge and you're going to be even more nervous. Your activation will be too high. It's knowing that sweet spot and knowing what to do. I see this a lot with high levels like the Olympic coaches and things like that. They treat all the athletes the same sometimes and they'll start screaming and trying to get them pumped up. If the person is already anxious you're actually doing them a disservice. They are going to underperform now. They need to be calmed down. But there may be some athletes you work with who are basically not activated enough and they need that slap in the face. They need that screaming in the face to get themselves to the moderate level of arousal/activation/anxiety to perform at their peak. Cain: I think that is really what the fundamental purpose of a routine is too is the athlete comes back to - so in your first part we talked about knowing yourself and having a routine to help you get into that performance state of I don't need to be dialed up, I don't need to be calmed down because my routine gets me right where I need to be and I have the awareness and I have the strategy that if I need to pick myself up I might do some tuck-jumps or some more of like breath like I would do if I was getting ready to rip a power clean or slap myself around a little bit or even go to the mirror and talk to myself in a certain way to get me a little bit more dialed in or I used the right music where if I need to calm myself down I might slide more into a meditation technique. I think it all comes down to the athlete being able to recognize where they're at and then have the right strategy to either dial themselves up or dial themselves down to be in that optimal performance state. Is that accurate? Friesen: That is exactly accurate. That is totally it. We're all a little bit different. We all have brains and the same lobes in our brains but our personalities are different. Obviously our physiques are different. We have differences. Knowing this about yourself is the key to success in athletics and in life in general. Cain: Love that. In the end of your book you talk about the story of Viktor Frankl which I think is maybe the story that can summarize what really mental toughness is. It's the inability to give away that response to no matter what comes your way. Would you talk a little bit about Viktor Frankl and that story that is in the back of your book that I think is so powerful. Friesen: So Viktor Frankl is a neurologist and psychiatrist by trade. He is passed away now. He was an older individual. His story is unbelievable. He is Jewish and was living in I believe Germany or Austria (I forget) when the Nazis took power. He is actually a big - well a lot of his work is - he is a big fan of existential psychotherapy. His is called “logotherapy” which means “meaning therapy” which is very similar to what I am talking about is knowing your why. That is really important. So he basically had to make a choice. He had an option to leave Austria or Germany to go to (I believe) England to flee the Nazis because he started to see what was happening with people that were Jewish, people who had disabilities, and people who had various illnesses, that they were obviously exterminating these people. He basically decided - I'm sure emotionally he was scared and he wanted to leave but he wanted to live a principled life and he wanted his life to have some meaning so he actually stayed. Of course he went to the concentration camps. He did a number of things before he left. Because he was working as a physician he falsified some documents (I believe) to allow certain individuals to basically skip the gas chambers who were disabled (for example, I believe). So he had risked his life for this. Of course he goes to the concentration camps. I forget the exact number. I know his wife was killed in the concentration camps. Pretty much his whole family were gassed and killed. He noticed when he was in the concentration camps that people who were there who had an overall “why” to live or to survive tended to do better despite being in the same circumstances of being starving, having various disease, and basically your life being in danger. He had experiments done to him that were just disgusting. One of his books is called Man's Search For Meaning. It describes some of this. It's not an easy read in this sense. It's an emotional read. But it's an important read. So long story short he really found that he discovered that people who had this meaning or reason to go through the suffering tended to survive. That seemed to predict survival better than other variables. So when he got out obviously he wanted to see his family and things like that. Of course they had died and that put him through obviously depression when he first got out. But his mission and goal was to write about this and write about the importance of having meaning, having a purpose, having a “why” in terms of living a good life and living a life worth living. So he wrote a number of books and became very famous. I'm not saying it as elegantly as I wrote it in the book but he is very inspirational. He is a very inspirational person. He really helped us to see the importance of knowing your “why.” Again just reading the story it helps put things into perspective. We think we have problems, just think about what this guy went through and how he turned out and how he still - I'm sure he felt pain throughout his life from the memories of what happened to is family but he pushed forward and had a bigger mission to complete. His work has been applied. He has done a lot of work (he did a lot of work) with people who were suicidal. People who want to kill themselves. Basically people who end up killing themselves often do not have a purpose, do not have a mission, life seems meaningless, and it's those - if you can help them develop a sense of meaning, a sense of purpose, this usually will reverse any tendencies to want to kill yourself. He is a really important person in the history of Peak Performance (I believe) and just life in general. Cain: Hands down one of my favorite books of all time, Man's Search For Meaning, and it was one of the first books that Dr. Ken Ravizza had us read in our grad program at Cal State Fullerton. If you ever get a chance - I don't know if you've been down to Washington DC and gone to the Holocaust Museum but t go through that and having read Man's Search For Meaning it is an emotional experience when you go through there just to see the hell on earth that those people went through. And the fact that he was able to go then write about that and kind of share his story that is impacting so many people in such a positive way goes to show that even out of the deepest and darkest most hellacious times in the history of man there is still some good that comes out of that even with his book and the power of choosing your response in every situation. It's amazing what that whole experience was. Unbelievable. Friesen: Yes. Cain: Chris, talking about you said identifying your mission statement. We now Frankl had a mission and Danny Williams had a mission. I'd like to know what is your mission? As someone who is leading the field of performance psychology and has the clinical background and the academic background and is now getting after it with the in the trenches, the blue collar psychologist (I love that term), what is your reason why or what is your mission? Friesen: Missions I think take development. I've always been trying to figure out my mission. I do know my mission now but my mission really is I really want to help as many people as I can. I really want to - like we said earlier I want to be able to first of all because of my background read the research and really figure out what here is useful for people to use to basically live a better life, to perform at their peak in sports - and whether they're entrepreneurs or executives because I work with a lot of those individuals as well - and really take that research and apply it to myself to make sure I can buy into it. I can read research but until I try things myself - I have to experience it to really buy into it. Just really translate that to help other people. I really think that people are living below their potential. I knew it sounds almost cliché but we are. I'm a perfect example. When I was a teenager when I was in school I was probably one of the bottom 1%-2% of the students in terms of my academic performance. I was more interested in sports of course, that was part of the issue. My self esteem or my self efficacy or my belief in my academic abilities was really low. It's kind of a running joke within my family that I went so far, I got my PhD and I did all these things. I worked for the highest graduating average, how I turned that around and how it seems almost impossible. Even sometimes I think of it myself I'm like “that does seem impossible” when I look back. I remember what I thought about my capabilities academically but it was only until I really figured out what was important to me. I thought I really love the idea - I love human psychology. I love the idea of you can take information from people who do research or who are wiser than me and that can better my life. I did that. Actually when I was 15 or 16 I read Tony Robbins' Awaken The Giant Within and Unlimited Power and also The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey. That was the biggest eye opener for me. I' was using that and I read some autobiographies and that really changed things around for me. I discovered a reason. I didn't realize it. I just thought it was stupid. The reality is I now had a reason to do well in school - because I wanted to learn this stuff. It's so fascinating. Anyone who is willing to listen or is willing to accept my help that is just the best thing ever for me and I can give that to people. I've sort of learned that about myself and that is my mission is really to translate really useful information about Peak Performance, about high achievement, and just about how to live a happy life and really give it to people in any way I can. That is where the motivation came from to write this book and this series of books is because I can only affect so many people one-on-one or in small groups. I really feel like I want to get this information out to the masses. Cain: Well you're doing it my friend. I hope that this podcast is able to expose you more to the people that have been following us here. For the people that are listening to this please go get more of Dr. Chris Friesen at www.FriesenPerformance.com and on Twitter at @FriesenPerform. Chris, is there any way that our listeners can connect with you via maybe an email? Do you have maybe a newsletter on your website or something where they can hear from you on a consistent basis? What you're putting out is not only very applicable it's also all backed with hardcore science and to find that combination my friend is very rare and very valuable so thank you for making time for our listeners on the Peak Performance Podcast. Friesen: Thank you. Thanks for having me. On www.FriesenPerformance.com there is a sign up newsletter. Every couple of weeks I'll send articles that I've written. I've written a couple for success magazine, www.Success.com. I've been interviewed for a couple of things like the Washington Post, Exercise In Personality, that kind of thing, and the various podcasts I've been on and some of the blogs I've written. What I do is every couple of weeks I send an email that basically talks about - one of them is about this exact thing (confidence) that we talked about today. One of the www.Success.com articles is about how to write your personal missions statement. So that is the best way is to get on that mailing list and you'll get access. You also get news in terms of when the second book - it's not completed yet, the second book in The High Achievement Handbook - when that is going to come out and that sort of thing. So definitely sign up for the newsletter. You can follow me on Twitter and Facebook for example but that I mostly repost what I think are really interesting articles about Peak Performance and neuroscience (that kind of thing) but to really get the more personal stuff, the stuff that I'm talking about, is really my newsletter that you get on my website. That is the best way. Cain: And to pick up a copy of book one in The High Achievement Handbook series, ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, How To Make It Happen, is the best place for them to go to Amazon and search your name or go to your website? Friesen: You can go either place. It's all sold through Amazon so on Amazon there is the paperback, there is the Kindle version, and I relatively recently got the Audible version. I have a really good narrator named Chris A. Bell. I had about 70 people apply to be the narrator (to audition for it) and it was a really cool process. I love Chris A. Bell's voice and style. You can listen to a quick clip. So it's in every format now. You can get it on iTunes as well of course and www.Audible.com of course and Amazon. On my website I have links to those as well. So that is the place. Just search “achieve” and “Friesen” and it should be the first one that pops up on Amazon. Cain: Awesome. Chris, thanks for making the time to sit down and join us on the Peak Performance Podcast. One of my favorite episodes that we've done. It was truly an honor to have you and I can't wait for book two to come out. Hopefully we can get a copy and go through and get another episode. Friesen: Definitely. I really appreciate you having me on the show. You have an awesome show and like I was saying earlier you are definitely kicking a lot of ass. I'm proud of you man. This is awesome. You are doing an excellent job. You are really making a difference. Keep it up.

About Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. I've always been fascinated by biographies of successful people and those who have overcome adversity. I can still remember how enthralled I was as a teenager when I read the autobiographies of Arthur Ashe and Christopher Reeve. Their stories and the inspirational books of Anthony Robbins (Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power) and Stephen Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and First Things First) captured my attention about our potential as humans and our ability to improve ourselves. This was personalized for me when I began to play competitive hockey. As a goaltender, I quickly realized the importance of mental training in addition to physical training. I was able to see steady improvements in all aspects of my performance when I consistently incorporated strategies I gleaned from my interest in self-help literature, fitness techniques, and nutrition. It was with these experiences that I began to form my interest in psychology. Upon realizing that a professional sports career was not in my future, I turned my attention to earning my first degree in Health Studies before pursuing a second degree in Psychology. After 5 years of full time study to obtain both of my undergraduate degrees, I still hadn't satisfied my appetite for learning about the mind and brain. So I applied and was accepted to study clinical psychology in graduate school. I decided to study clinical psychology over psychiatry in my post-graduate work because of psychology's stronger focus on understanding the full spectrum of human nature as opposed to psychiatry's primary emphasis on psychopathology. Now as a licensed psychologist in Ontario, Canada, my official areas of practice include clinical psychology, clinical neuropsychology, and forensic/correctional psychology. My training and experience crosses a broad spectrum of psychological difficulties including working with individuals with anxiety, depression, personality disorders, dementias (e.g., Alzheimer's disease), brain injuries (from sports concussion to severe traumatic brain injuries), and those involved in the criminal justice system (i.e., offenders of all types). I have worked clinically in a university psychology clinic, psychiatric hospital, rehabilitation hospital for those with brain injuries, geriatric hospital, prison and in private practices. I believed that to truly understand success and potential, I needed to thoroughly understand and work with people of all types including those who were at their lowest points and those who were not living up to their potential. I now primarily focus on professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. I am currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and a contributor to Success.com. I'm also the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen (Book 1 of the High Achievement Handbook Series). Purchase Achieve on Amazon! Connect with Dr. Chris Friesen! FriesenPerformance.com Facebook Twitter Linkedin Episode 269

About Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. I've always been fascinated by biographies of successful people and those who have overcome adversity. I can still remember how enthralled I was as a teenager when I read the autobiographies of Arthur Ashe and Christopher Reeve. Their stories and the inspirational books of Anthony Robbins (Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power) and Stephen Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and First Things First) captured my attention about our potential as humans and our ability to improve ourselves. This was personalized for me when I began to play competitive hockey. As a goaltender, I quickly realized the importance of mental training in addition to physical training. I was able to see steady improvements in all aspects of my performance when I consistently incorporated strategies I gleaned from my interest in self-help literature, fitness techniques, and nutrition. It was with these experiences that I began to form my interest in psychology. Upon realizing that a professional sports career was not in my future, I turned my attention to earning my first degree in Health Studies before pursuing a second degree in Psychology. After 5 years of full time study to obtain both of my undergraduate degrees, I still hadn't satisfied my appetite for learning about the mind and brain. So I applied and was accepted to study clinical psychology in graduate school. I decided to study clinical psychology over psychiatry in my post-graduate work because of psychology's stronger focus on understanding the full spectrum of human nature as opposed to psychiatry's primary emphasis on psychopathology. Now as a licensed psychologist in Ontario, Canada, my official areas of practice include clinical psychology, clinical neuropsychology, and forensic/correctional psychology. My training and experience crosses a broad spectrum of psychological difficulties including working with individuals with anxiety, depression, personality disorders, dementias (e.g., Alzheimer's disease), brain injuries (from sports concussion to severe traumatic brain injuries), and those involved in the criminal justice system (i.e., offenders of all types). I have worked clinically in a university psychology clinic, psychiatric hospital, rehabilitation hospital for those with brain injuries, geriatric hospital, prison and in private practices. I believed that to truly understand success and potential, I needed to thoroughly understand and work with people of all types including those who were at their lowest points and those who were not living up to their potential. I now primarily focus on professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. I am currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and a contributor to Success.com. I'm also the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen (Book 1 of the High Achievement Handbook Series). Purchase Achieve on Amazon! Connect with Dr. Chris Friesen! FriesenPerformance.com Facebook Twitter Linkedin Episode 269

About Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. I've always been fascinated by biographies of successful people and those who have overcome adversity. I can still remember how enthralled I was as a teenager when I read the autobiographies of Arthur Ashe and Christopher Reeve. Their stories and the inspirational books of Anthony Robbins (Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power) and Stephen Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and First Things First) captured my attention about our potential as humans and our ability to improve ourselves. This was personalized for me when I began to play competitive hockey. As a goaltender, I quickly realized the importance of mental training in addition to physical training. I was able to see steady improvements in all aspects of my performance when I consistently incorporated strategies I gleaned from my interest in self-help literature, fitness techniques, and nutrition. It was with these experiences that I began to form my interest in psychology. Upon realizing that a professional sports career was not in my future, I turned my attention to earning my first degree in Health Studies before pursuing a second degree in Psychology. After 5 years of full time study to obtain both of my undergraduate degrees, I still hadn't satisfied my appetite for learning about the mind and brain. So I applied and was accepted to study clinical psychology in graduate school. I decided to study clinical psychology over psychiatry in my post-graduate work because of psychology's stronger focus on understanding the full spectrum of human nature as opposed to psychiatry's primary emphasis on psychopathology. Now as a licensed psychologist in Ontario, Canada, my official areas of practice include clinical psychology, clinical neuropsychology, and forensic/correctional psychology. My training and experience crosses a broad spectrum of psychological difficulties including working with individuals with anxiety, depression, personality disorders, dementias (e.g., Alzheimer's disease), brain injuries (from sports concussion to severe traumatic brain injuries), and those involved in the criminal justice system (i.e., offenders of all types). I have worked clinically in a university psychology clinic, psychiatric hospital, rehabilitation hospital for those with brain injuries, geriatric hospital, prison and in private practices. I believed that to truly understand success and potential, I needed to thoroughly understand and work with people of all types including those who were at their lowest points and those who were not living up to their potential. I now primarily focus on professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. I am currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and a contributor to Success.com. I'm also the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen (Book 1 of the High Achievement Handbook Series). Purchase Achieve on Amazon! Connect with Dr. Chris Friesen! FriesenPerformance.com Facebook Twitter Linkedin Episode 269

About Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. I've always been fascinated by biographies of successful people and those who have overcome adversity. I can still remember how enthralled I was as a teenager when I read the autobiographies of Arthur Ashe and Christopher Reeve. Their stories and the inspirational books of Anthony Robbins (Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power) and Stephen Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and First Things First) captured my attention about our potential as humans and our ability to improve ourselves. This was personalized for me when I began to play competitive hockey. As a goaltender, I quickly realized the importance of mental training in addition to physical training. I was able to see steady improvements in all aspects of my performance when I consistently incorporated strategies I gleaned from my interest in self-help literature, fitness techniques, and nutrition. It was with these experiences that I began to form my interest in psychology. Upon realizing that a professional sports career was not in my future, I turned my attention to earning my first degree in Health Studies before pursuing a second degree in Psychology. After 5 years of full time study to obtain both of my undergraduate degrees, I still hadn't satisfied my appetite for learning about the mind and brain. So I applied and was accepted to study clinical psychology in graduate school. I decided to study clinical psychology over psychiatry in my post-graduate work because of psychology's stronger focus on understanding the full spectrum of human nature as opposed to psychiatry's primary emphasis on psychopathology. Now as a licensed psychologist in Ontario, Canada, my official areas of practice include clinical psychology, clinical neuropsychology, and forensic/correctional psychology. My training and experience crosses a broad spectrum of psychological difficulties including working with individuals with anxiety, depression, personality disorders, dementias (e.g., Alzheimer's disease), brain injuries (from sports concussion to severe traumatic brain injuries), and those involved in the criminal justice system (i.e., offenders of all types). I have worked clinically in a university psychology clinic, psychiatric hospital, rehabilitation hospital for those with brain injuries, geriatric hospital, prison and in private practices. I believed that to truly understand success and potential, I needed to thoroughly understand and work with people of all types including those who were at their lowest points and those who were not living up to their potential. I now primarily focus on professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. I am currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and a contributor to Success.com. I'm also the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen (Book 1 of the High Achievement Handbook Series). Purchase Achieve on Amazon! Connect with Dr. Chris Friesen! FriesenPerformance.com Facebook Twitter Linkedin Episode 269

Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D from Friesen Performance, and author of the book, ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen, tells us how to find our life's purpose with small changes and a number of easy techniques. He talks about the 5 minute rule to instantly overcome procrastination, the 10 minute rule to stop bad habits, the structure of your environment (great for finishing that "big" task you've been avoiding) and why it's so important to have your "why" (values, purpose, and mission). Display TranscriptRobert Plank: I have a quick question for you. Are you unsure of your life's purpose? Are you afraid you're living below your true potential. Do you have trouble staying motivated and focused on your goals? If any of those sound like you or they could sound like you or they do sound like you at times, we have Dr. Chris Frieson. He's the author of the book Achieve: Find out who you are, what you really want, and how to make it happen. He's going to be talking to us about all kinds of cool and fun mindset stuff. How are things, today Dr. Chris? Chris Friesen: They're very good. Thanks for having me on your show. Robert Plank: Cool. I'm glad to have you here. Tell me about yourself and tell me about this book and what you do and about all the cool things you can do to help people here. Chris Friesen: Sure, sure. I'm a psychologist. I'm trained as a clinical, forensic, and neuropsychological. These are fancy ways of saying trained to diagnose and assess people with emotional problems, criminal problems (of course that's forensic), and neuropsychological is brain problems like Azheimers, brain injury, stroke. That kind of thing. A lot of my work these days is really focused on what I call high achievers. These are just people a lot of them are athletes, professional. Some Olympic, but also entrepreneurs, writers, academics. People who just want to take their game, their life, to the next level. I do work with people and long story short I wrote this book you just described which is the first part of the High Achievement handbook. There's going to be three actual books in the series. This one is really about exactly what you said, finding out who you are, what's really important to you, what you really want, and to make sure that what you do with your life on the day to day basis is actually the right thing for you. Then, how to make it happen on a day to day basis in terms of being productive, efficient, that kind of thing. Robert Plank: That's cool. I think the people that we're making this show for are online entrepreneurs and I keep thinking back to when I had the day job mindset and now I have the entrepreneur mindset and it seems like, let me know your thoughts on this, but it feels like to me there's a lot of people who haven't quite woken up, yet. A lot of people are at their day job doing the nine to five kind of stuff and it seems like a lot of us have so many things holding us back, but we're not yet really awake. I think that a few years ago when I made the jump from the day job lifestyle to the entrepreneur lifestyle I had to almost relearn everything and the big thing that all these things that have previously been holding me back, they were still there, but I didn't realize they were there and it seems almost like making the jump and quitting the day job and starting a business and taking bigger risks brought all these little things in hiding to light. Does that makes sense? Chris Friesen: Yeah. For sure. When we have day jobs, and I'm actually just like you in a lot of ways. I worked in a hospital settings. I worked in a prison. That kind of thing. When I broke off and have been working on my own for about six years, now just completely on my own as a consultant I guess you would call it. It's just like an entrepreneur in the professional psychology coaching or sports psychology realm. When we're working for companies, their very structured.

Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D from Friesen Performance, and author of the book, ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen, tells us how to find our life's purpose with small changes and a number of easy techniques. He talks about the 5 minute rule to instantly overcome […]

Who doesn't want to achieve great things in their life? Isn't that why you listen to Creative Warriors— to get ideas, be inspired and learn how you can achieve your goals? Our guest today is an expert not only in goal setting and achieving what you want, but will also know's the importance of working from the inside-out, understanding yourself first to achieve your goals. Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. is a psychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist and, now primarily helps Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. Chris is currently Director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology, a contributor for Success.com, and author of ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen. We dig into Chris's work and get down to some excellent specifics to help you on the road to achieving success! Highlights - Five personality tendencies Using imagery to achieve your goals 4-simple tips for goal setting 5-minute rule If-then planning   Resources - Zoho Expense Are you wasting 5 days a month doing expense reports on paper or maybe not even doing them at all? Zoho Expense automatically captures information from receipts for you. You can connect your debit or credit cards and import all your bank statements and convert them into expenses in a CLICK. Zoho Expense is available on all major mobile operating systems like iOS, Android, and Windows. Sign up for Zoho Expense using and get 3 months for free on the Standard plan. Acuity Scheduling Client scheduling a crazy hot mess? Don't hate. Integrate! Acuity automates your appointments, cancellations, reminders & even payments with one(non-frustrating) click. No more back and fourth, missed meetings, no shows or multiple calendars to manage! Get your special 45-days free trial(typically 14 days)!  Grammarly Getting your point across in business can be tricky. Grammarly uses a browser extension to check your text for spelling and grammatical errors anytime you write something online to help you avoid mistakes in comments, tweets, and status updates. Get access to your own personal editor 24/7!  Free Webinar: I'll be sharing how to leverage your creative side and use it as an advantage in business. Join me for my free webinar, How To Succeed In Business Marketing Yourself and Your Talent. Register here cwwebinar.com or text warrior to number 33444 to unleash your creative thinking to propel your business forward. Guest Contact - Website  Twitter Facebook  LinkedIn  Books: Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen    Mentions - 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Stephen Covey “He Who Has a Why Can Bare Almost Any How.” Fredrick Niche Gift: “Inspiration is for amateurs, the rest of us just get to work.” Steven Pressfield WOOP app    Gift: Chris has generously offered us a collection of gifts including a personality rating sheet and values survey.  

Dr. Chris Friesen is a psychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist but now primarily helps professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and is the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen. To follow him or to find out more, visit FriesenPerformance.com

In his book Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How to Make it Happen, Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. talks about what it takes to be successful in your life. Accepting yourself for who you are. Discovering what your strengths are and working with what you are given.  He works with you to figure out and get the most out of your personality, values, strengths, weaknesses, and passions. Living your life and setting goals congruent with your personality, values, strengths, passions, mission, and purpose. This means not making decisions based on immediate urges, moods, or circumstances. Realizing that you have much more control over the trajectory of your life than you or others realize. Accepting that you will repeatedly go through tough times.  Tough times are par for the course for those who do big things.  You know that's how the world works, and so there is no point fighting or complaining about it.  Without difficult times and failures, there is no learning. This is a great podcast about how to achieve your goals whether they are personal, professional, or health related.   Find out more about the book by clicking here.

Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. is a psychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist but now primarily helps professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology, a contributor for Success.com, and author of ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How to Make It Happen. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and is the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How to Make It Happen. Learn more about Dr. Chris Friesen at www. friesenperformance.com Check out his amazing new book - Achieve! Click here to visit the show notes page!   Like this episode? Please leave an honest rating on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated! They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. P.S: Just takes a minute! :) SUBSCRIBE ON ITUNES  Click here to leave us a rating & review on iTunes Follow us on social media:  | Facebook | Twitter | Join our Facebook Tribe

Ceddy J welcomes Dr. Chris Friesen, Ph.D. to Life After Dusk Live to discuss his bestselling book, "ACHIEVE: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, And How To Make It Happen". Dr. Chris Friesen is a psychologist who has always been fascinated by what makes people successful. He is a licensed clinical, forensic, and neuropsychologist but now primarily helps professional, national/Olympic, and up-and-coming elite athletes, as well as other high achievers such as professionals, entrepreneurs, executives, academics, and writers, achieve their personal and professional potential. He is currently director of Friesen Sport & Performance Psychology and is the author of Achieve: Find Out Who You Are, What You Really Want, and How To Make It Happen. To follow him or to find out more, visit FriesenPerformance.com

1. What You Really Want (short version with early vocals).2. Perp Walk3. Dig Deep (aka Free Sex for Those Who Dig)4. Love is a Cancer

1. What You Really Want (short version with early vocals).2. Perp Walk3. Dig Deep (aka Free Sex for Those Who Dig)4. Love is a Cancer