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This week, I'm answering a question I get all the time—what do you do with a so-called “bad placement” in astrology?You might have a difficult planetary placement like a debilitation or a tough transit coming up like sade sati and you've heard about things like chanting mantras, wearing gemstones, doing rituals, fasting, wearing certain colors, and so on… but what actually works?In this episode, I share what I've found to be the most effective Vedic astrology remedies—based not just on the texts and tradition, but on real-world experience doing 1-1 readings and my own personal practice. I'll walk you through when to use a remedy, how to choose one, and the real reason why some remedies work for one person but not another.Here's the thing: remedies aren't about magically fixing your chart. They're about creating the conditions for the positive expression of a planetary energy to emerge—through intentionality, practice, and personal alignment.You'll also learn:— Why I don't recommend gemstone prescriptions unless they feel intuitively aligned— How to choose which graha (planet) to work with— Why behavior and daily action are the most powerful remedies of all— How to use mantras, mudras, yantras, and even your clothes or decor for planetary support— Which remedies are best for mental health, clarity, grounding, and emotional healing— How yoga is one of the most accessible and empowering remedy systems there is— A simple approach to trying remedies out: give it a week, see what shifts, and go from thereI also share some of my own personal stories about things I've tried that didn't work, what I've found most grounding, and why intuition is the key ingredient in every remedy—because what works for you might be totally different than what works for someone else.And if you want to learn the exact yoga practices I use for each graha, I made a free downloadable PDF that goes with this episode—The Quietmind Astrology Guide to Remedies. You can grab it below.At the end of the episode, I also invite you to my free live workshop: Become Your Own Yoga Teacher. This is the perfect way to work with remedies through your body. It's totally free to join. Details below

TranscriptHey thereSo I am walking the backside of this little meadow, forested area where my mom livesIt's on the edges of old farmland and I'm about to hop over a split rail fence, which is a little awkward, it's a little tallThere's some, a lot of native plants around here, and also some volunteers from elsewhereOregon ash and cottonwood, willow, aspenThere's a grove of hawthorn in full flowerThis is a place where deer hang outFloods in the winterIt's marshy where I am right nowI could probably set up a tent back hereIt's quietI've just come back from the far east side of the stateI was off grid, down in a canyon for four days, in some pretty crazy country, working on a project and just existing reallyI think it was probably the least I've interacted with screens and media in maybe a decadeI didn't really have cell phone signal for about a week and a half, pretty intentionallyI basically just didn't turn my phone on unless I needed navigationAnd then there were three nights and four days when I was down in the bottom of this canyon where I really didn't do anything at allI just kind of existed down thereAte food and had a little fire now and thenWatched the light changeAnd it was beautiful and hard, easy, lonely, quiet, all the thingsAnd I've been thinking a lot about why I do what I do, my work as an artist and personI don't want to think about it too much, but doing something like that made me really consider a lot about why I make things, share things, live the way I doThere's just a lot thereThere's a lot of assumptions, a lot of reasons I've been doing stuff for yearsA lot of time passed, a lot of habits, that kind of thingNow I'm in the Grove of CottonwoodsIt's kind of a flood groveSome reeds back in hereMaybe there's sedgesSo I don't have a lot of answers about why, but I think I discovered a new language of some kind down in that canyonDefinitely a new relationship with myselfThere wasn't much to hide down thereTurns out being alone for long periods of time is pretty toughI mean, I've done it before, but this was different somehowIt's really good to do, but it's not easy sometimesParts of it aren't easyParts of it are really incredibleIt's always funny to be alone in a place like that and run into a person once in a while and realize that pretty much everybody else is out there with other peopleIt really got me thinking about the reasons why people do things and why I do thingsFor me, a lot of it is to get away from loneliness, actuallyFrom being alone with my own thoughtsPartially because they can be boringPartially because it's really not maybe the healthiest long term to always just be alone with one's own thoughtsBut I think that there's something really deep thereAnd I don't consume much mediaI mean, maybe a podcast every two or three daysSometimes I don't listen to one for a week or soBut something I thought was really strange down there is I had songs that I hadn't listened to for many days just repeatedly looping in my headAnd it was almost like my mind was just spinning in neutral, trying to find something stimulating to remember or to latch on toOr maybe it was just digesting everythingMy friend Martin said metabolizing, which I really likeActually metabolizing the experiences that I've hadAnd I think it takes a really silent, open, empty space without any direction, honestlyNo structureNo one else aroundNo informationJust the sun rising and settingAnd sitting in places like that really makes me reconsider kind of my whole life.Why do I do what I do? Why do I want to share writing and recordings with people? What's really at the base of all that? What need of mine is being met? Am I doing it as a means to an end? Or am I doing it as an end in and of itself? And I've decided pretty conclusively that I want to do things in my life that are an end in and of themselvesI don't want to be chasing different activities for a lot of my life because they're giving me something that's not inside of the activity itselfAnd I think I do want to share what I make, but it's difficult to know whether that's worthwhile or not for othersAnd so I decided that I'll do it for my own joy and my own insightsAnd if others want to come along for the ride and see what's thereI mean, I've been doing it this way all along, but I think that there's always these shadow sides, like hidden unconscious sides of any activity or anything a person does that aren't fully available to them unless they sit and really delve into the whyAnd an activity I've been doing recently is asking myself why seven or eight times about something really gets down to the root of what's going onIt's hardI feel like my mind wants to squirm away from those kinds of inquiriesBut I think it's pretty necessary and helpful in the long runI'm leaning on a tree and there's moss on itIt's youngWhat happened is it fell overProbably got blown overThat happened a while agoThe original shoot has since been pruned off by the tree itselfIt's broken off and healed offAnd right above it, the tree is totally horizontal from where it fellAnd right above that crook, there's another strong, young stem coming out at a 90 degree angleAnd there is one back further, too, before this one was the main apical meristem, I think is what it's called, which I learned about in my pruning work over the last couple of monthsAnd that one's now 20 feet tall and the roots are still somehow connectedAnd in fact, the trees put down more roots to stabilize and this tree is probably going to be here a long time nowIt's nice to see that when things get knocked over, they can get up againThat's kind of how I felt this last yearLots of knocking over, getting up againI think I can hear seven different birds singing right nowThanks for listening. 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Have you ever been diagnosed with Lyme disease, or THOUGHT you might have Lyme Disease?Do you have unexplained symptoms, that NO one can explain?Has nothing that you've tried to heal worked, or have you done a Lyme protocol, but didn't get better?If you said yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you!In our FINAL week of our 7 pathogen series, today I'm going over:What Lyme Disease isCommon Lyme Disease symptomsWhy doctors overlook Lyme DiseaseHow long Lyme Disease can lastThe best chronic Lyme Disease Test to doAnd how to identify a good - and bad! - Lyme disease protocolMy personal opinion on the BEST Lyme Disease Treatment out thereI'm going to debunk every single myth I can think of, because the #1 reason that clients who work with me AREN'T feeling after ALL the work they've done on their healt is because of ALL the little things that can go wrong - but don't HAVE to go wrong. In part 7 of this series, I'm going to point you to the FASTEST way to heal - not only from Lyme, but from EVERY other toxin and pathogen that can be holding you back from healing. Because NO pathogen needs to be ruling your life. It's time to feel your best, have energy, and get back to your life.It's time to find, and kill, some Lyme disease.EPISODES MENTIONED:220// 100 Symptoms Of Mold Exposure + Toxic Mold: How Many Do You Have?226// The Mold-Lyme Connection: How to Treat Mold Toxicity and Lyme DiseaseHEAL FROM LYME - FOR GOOD!Option #1)

Have you ever been diagnosed with Lyme disease, or THOUGHT you might have Lyme Disease?Do you have unexplained symptoms, that NO one can explain?Has nothing that you've tried to heal worked, or have you done a Lyme protocol, but didn't get better?If you said yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you!In our FINAL week of our 7 pathogen series, today I'm going over:What Lyme Disease isCommon Lyme Disease symptomsWhy doctors overlook Lyme DiseaseHow long Lyme Disease can lastThe best chronic Lyme Disease Test to doAnd how to identify a good - and bad! - Lyme disease protocolMy personal opinion on the BEST Lyme Disease Treatment out thereI'm going to debunk every single myth I can think of, because the #1 reason that clients who work with me AREN'T feeling after ALL the work they've done on their healt is because of ALL the little things that can go wrong - but don't HAVE to go wrong. In part 7 of this series, I'm going to point you to the FASTEST way to heal - not only from Lyme, but from EVERY other toxin and pathogen that can be holding you back from healing. Because NO pathogen needs to be ruling your life. It's time to feel your best, have energy, and get back to your life.It's time to find, and kill, some Lyme disease.EPISODES MENTIONED:220// 100 Symptoms Of Mold Exposure + Toxic Mold: How Many Do You Have?226// The Mold-Lyme Connection: How to Treat Mold Toxicity and Lyme DiseaseHEAL FROM LYME - FOR GOOD!Option #1)

AV Superfriends: On TopicThanksgiving Special - AV Side DishesRecorded October 30, 2024(I'm still letting AI write this, but I have to edit it more and more recently - cjd)It's time for a Thanksgiving special with the AV SuperFriends! We're discussing our favorite AV "side dishes"—those unsung heroes in AV systems that make everything work smoothly.As they gather for a virtual Thanksgiving dinner, the AV SuperFriends explore the role of HDMI extenders, button panels with built-in processors, and ever-useful IP-controlled power distribution. They also dive into the intricacies of network video decoders and the importance of networking with other institutions to share knowledge and ideas. Plus, they tackle the age-old debate of stuffing versus dressing and the best way to enjoy a Frosty with fries.But it wouldn't be an AV SuperFriends episode without a bit of mayhem. With overproof rum, cigars, and a homemade crème brûlée flambe on the menu, things get a little heated—literally. Will Lisle's kitchen survive the festivities? Tune in to find out!Connect with Lisle Waldron: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lislew/Alternate show titles:AV Side DishesProprietary bootleg weird versionsI tend to not use the weird onesHere you go; good luckOff the top of my brainShout out to you button panels out thereIf you want to redraw and copy my sh*tChicken NoodleySoup in an IV bagLet's go pick your meatGranola bar soupThat one is more Chinese than mostEvents that have a definite beginning and endThere's no law thereI am the lawA brick of butterSanity boxesThe cornerstone of every nutritious breakfastShove it up the butt of a birdStuffing goes in the bird, dressing goes on the sideFrosty was the first ice creamThe T fell off because he was too drunk We stream live every Friday, and you can listen to everything we record over at AVSuperFriends.com.▀▄▀▄▀ CONTACT LINKS ▀▄▀▄▀►Website: https://www.avsuperfriends.com► Twitter: https://twitter.com/avsuperfriends► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/avsuperfriends► YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@avsuperfriends► Email: mailbag@avsuperfriends.com► RSS: https://avsuperfriends.libsyn.com/rssIndividual Twitter links:► Chris Dechter: @cdechter► Jamie Rinehart: @avsfjamie► Marc Cholewczynski: @avdiplomat► Rachel Bradshaw: @tempurity► Larry Darling: @lsdarling1► Justin Rexing: @justinrexingDonate to AVSF: https://www.avsuperfriends.com/support

Who has ever said, “I'd LOVE to do that – but I have no time!”We've ALL said it, felt it, and truly meant it. Time is fleeting in today's world - we're constantly running from point A to point B, being a slave to our to-do list of ‘highly important' tasks. We're “time famished” – constantly looking to squeeze a few more minutes out of our day.What if I told you that instead of feeling time famished, you could find more spaciousness in your life by using your ‘time-confetti' in a way that allows you to find those extra moments in the day? And in turn, having the time to do those things that once seemed impossible to fit in!Join me in this episode of “The Shinah Show” as I discuss:What “time confetti” is and why it will blow your mindWhy our priorities are totally out of whack, and how we actually end up using our time (*spoiler alert* not in the most productive of ways!)How finding the right creative outlet for you can CREATE more time and spaciousness in your life, so you aren't trying to scrounge up a few minutes here and thereI'm excited to show you how you can take control of your time, and finally be able to find activities that light you up. You'll find yourself eager to get back to them that you'll magically find more free time throughout your day. HEY YOU!!! We're HALFWAY through 2024 (I know, I can't even believe it!). Did you know that if you started RIGHT NOW working towards building a successful creative business and being your own boss, you could achieve it – all before we ring in 2025? Interested in learning how? Click here to attend my FREE workshop where I show you how to go from an absolute beginner, to having your own business in just 6 months! FOLLOW SHINAH: Join our community of creativity-seeking souls over on Instagram:  @crookedcalligraphySUBSCRIBE:Love podcasts? Listen to The Shinah Show wherever you get your podcasts, and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!

This week we had the pleasure of interviewing Rory Rackham, Lead Game Designer for GGG! He's had an impact on so many (maybe all?) aspects of Path of Exile and has been a major voice in the development of the game since PoE itself was in diapers; a true cornerstone of the company. In episode 237 we talked about the life of Rory, what led him to GGG, how the ride has been, where it's going, and snack bars! We had such a good time getting to know him, that we were surprised when the questions came to an end! Thanks, Rory for giving us your time! We had an awesome time getting to know you. And, of course, thanks to everyone who joined us this week. We can't thank you enough for your support and we know you'll love getting to know Rory more!Check this out after you've listened to the episode. It's Rory rap we referred to:"...Now this is a story all about howES got nerfed right into the groundAnd I'd like to take a minuteJust sit right thereI'll tell you how I made our Int defences totally fairAt the top of the tree, it was nerfed and raisedOn niche builds was where it spent most of its daysNot for min-maxin', just trying to be coolIf you didn't like life, CI was your tool'Til Vaal Pact and GR let it put life to shameStarted making trouble in the metagameIt cakewalked the fights and the team got scaredWe said, "You're getting a big rework 'til the meta's repaired."I ground down the values on all of the gearHad to buff some base types to keep it all fairAll to nerf what you could get from the best rareThen I whipped up new life modsThat all armour could shareWe dialed down some keystones, giving them all a flawWe tweaked crafted mods and we added some moreSo that's all the changesBut don't you be a haterYou'll try it all out and we'll tweak it in Beta"Rory's Info:Twitter: @RoryRackhamIG for his new game: intangiblegamesForever Exiled Info:www.foreverexiled.comPatreonTwitter @ForeverExiled82Path of Exile WebsiteWrecker of Days Builds ListDiscord...FE Merch StoreFE Nexus Store

Bu bölümde "right" kelimesinin kattığı birkaç nüansa değiniyoruz.You're right!He's right here with me. / right thereI fell asleep right in the middle of her speech.Right away!I'll call you right after/before the meeting.Right, so ....You have every right to be angry.right-handed / left-handed

Autobiography in Five Chapters (Tibetan Book of Living and Dying)Chapter 1"I walk down the streetThere is a deep hole in the sidewalkI fall inI am lost...I am hopelessIt isn't my faultIt takes forever to find a way out.Chapter 2I walk down the same streetThere is a deep hole in the sidewalkI pretend I don't see itI fall in againI can't believe I'm in the same placeBut it isn't my faultIt still takes a long time to get out.Chapter 3I walk down the same streetThere is a deep hole in the sidewalkI see it is thereI still fall in...it's a habitMy eyes are openI know where I amIt is my faultI get out immediately.Chapter 4I walk down the same streetThere is a deep hole in the sidewalkI walk around it.Chapter 5I walk down another street.Please follow the link below to share appreciation for our podcasts.Support the show

Concert FridayMUSICJWLKRS Worship – “Silence” As I walk through the fireLet it purify meI know you're with me thereThough fear and doubt may find meGod you hold the victoryAnd I know you're with me thereI'll walk proudly through the valley of the shadow of deathAnd I will fear no evilCause this is what you saidEven in the silenceJesus you're workingAnd I believe it stillI believe it stillSo let your promise be fulfilledI put it all back in your handsAnd find my confidenceIn you and you aloneSo who am I to fearWhen you are for meI will trust in you aloneI'll walk proudly through the valley of the shadow of deathAnd I will fear no evilCause this is what you saidEven in the silenceJesus you're workingAnd I believe it stillI believe it stillSo let your promise be fulfilledEven in the darknessYou said you're hereAnd I believe it stillI believe it stillSo let your promise be fulfilledYou will never changeYour promise stays the sameI know my help is on the wayI believe it I believe itYou will never changeYour promise stays the sameI know my help is on the wayI believe it I believe itYou will never changeYour promise stays the sameI know my help is on the wayI believe itI believe that you will never changeYour promise stays the sameI know my help is on the wayI believe it I believe itEven in the silenceJesus you're workingAnd I believe it stillI believe it stillSo let your promise be fulfilledEven in the darknessYou said you're hereAnd I believe it stillI believe it stillSo let your promise be fulfilledEven in the silenceJesus you're workingAnd I believe it stillI believe it stillSo let your promise be fulfilled 

The blessing of God's presence will be fully enjoyed by those who love him and yearn for his guidance, provision, and salvation. That's the promise of God recorded in Revelation 21:1-3 Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away, and the sea was no more. And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. God's presence is a blessing for which his people long. It's better even than a visit from the grandparents! Don't Make Me Have to Come Down There Dolly Parton Last night I had a dream about God He was standing on a mountain top Looking down, around in such dismay And in my dream I heard him sayDon't make me have to come down there My children, you had best beware If you don't pay attention, consequences will be dire Don't make me have to come down thereI've told you time and time again You can't disobey and hope to win I am still the boss here in case there's any doubt You know I put you in this world and I can take you outDon't make me have to come down there You've always been my cross to bear I've let you try my patience as all good Fathers do You're on my last nerve, I have had it up to here with youI gave you a book, you didn't read it I gave you my word, you didn't heed it Gave you a map, you said you didn't need it And now you've lost direction and you're wandering aimlesslyDon't make me have to come down there This is not a game of truth or dare Now I don't want to punish you, but if it has to be This is gonna hurt you more than it hurts meDon't make me have to come down there Bridge this great divide and make repairs Go to your room and pray 'til you can learn to play fair Don't make me have to come down therePolitics, earthquakes, erratic weather Pandemics, war, and hate Turn a deaf ear, a blind eye; I am wondering whether I should take my Bible belt and whip you into shapeDon't make me have to come down there My children you had best beware Clean up this mess and put on something decent to wear Don't make me have to come down thereDon't make me have to come down there My children you had best beware Why can't you learn to listen, and learn to love and share Don't make me have to come down thereDon't make me have to come down there Don't make me come down there... Source: Musixmatch Songwriters: Dolly Parton

GROW Greatness Reached over Oppression through Wisdom I'll never forget it as long as I Live: “You're almost there”Keep GROWingI just don't know how he always happens to be there to see me!       God.The King said, ‘You're almost there'It is true, I amI am embracing the Struggle of my Goal:  GROWI came in the World with GodI don't even need Coffee ☕️        GROW, you're almost thereYes, I am almost thereI strive everyday for Greatness,  breaking ChainsFreeing Minds, mines too,  in order that I be Free of the Chains that bind meNo more, not meIn this World but not Of this World Transformed by a Renewing of the MindEverything, it's all in your mind and how you perceive it✨

And a very good morning to you! It is Friday morning, 18th of February, the year 2022. And this is your friend, Angus Buchan, with a thought for today."Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom,And to depart from evil is understanding."Job 28:28We must not waste valuable opportunities. Especially spending time with people who have lots of wisdom they want to give us for free. "When an old man dies, a library burns to the ground." - African Proverb.We must never waste the opportunity to learn from people who have walked the road. But then again, it is not so much about age, is it? No, it is more about a person who knows God.“Now so it was that after three days they found Him in the temple, (that was Jesus) sitting in the midst of the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions. (By the way, Jesus was a mere 12 years old) And all who heard Him (the teachers) were astonished at His understanding and answers”.Luke 2:46We must spend time learning. Don't keep having to go round that mountain, we don't have that kind of time left. There are a lot of people, full of wisdom, that would love to share it with you but you just don't seem to have time to talk to them.I remember an old man, a farmer, who used to drive up and down the country roads in his landrover. He was a most delightful old gentleman. He was an absolute encyclopedia on beef cattle. He was a former Farmer Of The Year in Kenya and yet he looked so lonely to me. He never seemed to have anything to do. But where were the young farmers? Why weren't we asking him questions? Well, he is not here anymore, he has gone home to be with Jesus in Heaven. I looked up a special book I have got with lots of old memories in it and I pulled out a poem. Now, there was an old lady who used to live on this farm, she was an intercessor. She was one of the dearest friends I have ever had. Her name was Aunty Peggy and she used to write poems and give them to me. She used to call me “Buchan Hare”, you know a hare - that rabbit that runs all over the place. And she called herself “Peggy Tortoise”. I just want to read the last verse of a little poem that she wrote me. I might even get a bit emotional towards the end, please forgive me. It goes like this:Clouds are gathering, dark over our landMany are the heart transplants to be performedBy The Surgeon of surgeons with sharpened scalpel in handThe hardened hearts taken out,Replaced by those that are soft and pulsating with God's loveJoy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (the fruits of the Spirit)A new world to prepare that the old be forsaken.Come Buchan Hare, come to the fore and lead again the team as before.But remember, as weak as I am, I will not hold backAnd though I will not always be thereI will be with you in spirit and prayer.God bless, Go strong.Have a wonderful day and God bless youGoodbye.

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In this solo episode I take a deep, therapeutic dive into the fears we have as strategists. I discuss things like the imposter syndrome, niching, T-shaped profiles, and how to cross the valley of despair.  Here are the 7 fears:I'm not good enoughIn over my headImposter syndromeJust be a designerCounter: CLients are happy - Creative recognitionI don't really understandThere are other strategists out there, the big boys, that really do itEvery day new knowledge, frameworks, rebatesTotaly different opinionsBranding and marketing folkI have an inquisitive nature, so I want to get the full thingCounter: Crossing the Mount stupid - Valley of despair - Slope of enlightened - Dunning kruger effectI'm in the wrong marketI work with small brandsThe big brands aren't really my cup of teaFMCG space - vs B2B space?Counter: Seeing what works across markets is really interesting, ads breadthI'm a jack of all tradesCan you really be a strategist and designerCan you really understand the full scope of marketing branding?Counter: T-shapedIt doesn't really matterIn execution, things happen the way they happenLot's of research just floating around in space, no trajectoryIt's the excessive stuff that gets you thereI'm doing this for meI want to sound smart, ego talkingJust get down to workTaking the time to take a step back has valueI'm learning from the wrong peopleMaybe my heroes are wrong? This episode is sponsored by Latana, the AI-powered brand tracking tool.If you are interested in the brand strategy research course mentioned in the show, go check out the course here and get a free chapter.  Subscribe to the newsletter here to stay updated on new courses and products.

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Have you ever seen on TV or in person a so-called "hypnotist" who hypnotized someone and made them make chicken sounds? Well we found a hypnotist who claims that anxiety can be cured by hypnotism. Douglas Sands is his name and he came on the show to tell us exactly how hypnotism works and we dive right into the possibilities of how it might cure you. Join us and make up your own decision at the same time.Douglas Sands bio: Doug Sands is a consulting hypnotist who helps adventurous people all over the world overcome mental struggles using hypnosis. Doug is also the host of the Making Meaning podcast, a show that interviews top adventurers to learn how they've built their ideal life to inspire listeners to start building their own.Check him out at:Website: www.AnywhereHypnosis.com/testdriveHypnotic Test-Drive:  www.AnywhereHypnosis.com/testdriveInstagram: www.Instagram.com/makingyourmeaningPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/making-meaning-podcast/id1529175643If you want to discover more about Is Hypnotism A Cure For Anxiety visit:

Why do some private practitioners seem to get clients effortlessly while others struggle?It’s simple. If people don’t know about you, they can’t hire you.In today’s episode, I am talking all about marketing and why marketing is hard for most SLPs, but most importantly, what you can do about it.If you spend a little bit of money, you have potential to actually make a whole lot more, so I am providing you with some strategies and helping you with your marketing confidence in this episode.In Today's Episode, We Discuss:You don’t have to be pushy to put yourself out thereA background in marketing isn’t necessary to be successfulMarketing is simpler than most people thinkMarketing is an expense, but it is also an investmentA simple equation to figure out your ROIWhy it's better to pay in timeYou can't start to build word of mouth marketing if you don't put yourself out thereI hope this episode motivates you to start marketing your private practice!Don’t forget to grab my amazing marketing resources for 65% off! Head over to privatepracticemarketingbundle.com to learn cost-effective marketing strategies that work.If you want help starting your speech therapy private practice, head on over to www.startyourprivatepractice.com/waitlist , or if you want to hear all about the ins and outs of private practice as well as some big mistakes that you should avoid, watch my free training at www.startyourprivatepractice.com/webinar.Resources Mentioned: The Private Practice Marketing Bundle Start Your Private Practice Waitlist Free Training: How to Start Your Private Practice: Full Time or on the Side Where We Can Connect: Subscribe to the PodcastFollow Me on InstagramFollow Me on Facebook See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Good morning, RVA! It’s 35 °F, and today looks gross. Expect cold weather, rain, and then 1–4 inches of snow overnight. Plus some ice on top of that? NBC12’s Andrew Freiden says “freezing drizzle” could continue into tomorrow morning, and the National Weather Service at Wakefield say a second round of storms on Friday night “will bring the potential for significant icing.” Winter weather approaches! Stay dry, stay warm, and stay inside if you can.Water coolerEarly yesterday morning, Richmond Police officers responded to a report of a shooting at the 2100 block of Harwood Street. They arrived and found Sylvester Washington, a man in his 40s, shot to death.As of this morning, the Virginia Department of Health reports 3,203 new positive cases of the coronavirus in the Commonwealthand 34 new deaths as a result of the virus. VDH reports 426 new cases in and around Richmond (Chesterfield: 255, Henrico: 102, and Richmond: 69). Since this pandemic began, 717 people have died in the Richmond region.We’re up, we’re down, we’re up, we’re down—it’s hard to tell what’s going on from the daily VDH data dump. We’ll look at the stacked graphs tomorrow, but the local numbers, driven in part by an increase in cases in Chesterfield, aren’t tracking with statewide counts. If you want to get deeper into the local data—way, way down—check out this Weekly Case Report from the Richmond and Henrico Health District(PDF). There is a lot of really interesting information in this PDF. To just pick one: Case rate per 100,000 people in Richmond and Henrico compared to Virginia (5,843; 5,931; 6,219). Some of this data is available on the VDH dashboard, some of it’s not, all of it’s worth scrolling through. Sabrina Moreno at the Richmond Times-Dispatch says, “Richmond, Henrico among first in Va. to release equity data for recent cases, vaccinations.”Of course, and unfortunately, the data say a predictable thing: Black and Brown communities who are more impacted by this disease are not receiving more of the vaccine (page 17 of the data report). Moreno goes into some of the reasons why, how—due to racism—these communities lack access to healthcare, transportation, and sick leave. Important context for this conversation is that 42.1% of folks vaccinated in Richmond and Henrico since the week of December 15th have not reported their race. If we had better data would it show an increased or decreased disparity? I have no idea, but it sounds like we should have more complete data in the coming weeks: “Richmond and Henrico have shifted to having a volunteer base dedicated solely to data entry at events, emphasizing its importance to providers and learning how to quickly pull in the data that’s coming from separate sources.”The Virginia Mercury’s Kate Masters has a great piece about how technology platforms are thwarting local efforts to quickly and efficiently administer vaccine. To date, local health districts have not been given a tool to create vaccination clinics open to a certain set of people. Want to open up vaccination to folks over the age of 75 living on Richmond’s Southside? Prepare for a lot of manual labor to make that happen—as one health district employee said “It’s been a Herculean effort, but Herculean is not scalable.” I think Masters’s article pairs really well with this Twitter thread from Dan Hon about why the NYT’s recent “this guy built a vaccine website for $50!” article is harmful and irresponsible. Read them both, and then sit quietly with your anger!One final vaccine thing: Governor Northam, along with his pals Governor Hogan and Mayor Bowser, requested “increased federal support in administering the COVID-19 vaccines to essential federal employees.” Specifically, they want “a dedicated allocation of vaccine and associated supplies to support the vaccination of essential federal workers, contractors, and Washington Metropolitan Area Transit Authority (WMATA) employees within the National Capital Region.” Part of this, I’m sure, is to get the feds to cough up additional vaccine, but part of it is an implicit acknowledgement that transit workers are super important to the functioning of a city. I’m excited about what this could mean locally! Currently, transit workers are prioritized for vaccination in Phase 1b Group 7 (below folks like veterinarians or people that work manufacturing jobs). I think that current prioritization points to a rural/suburban bias, and having the Governor escalate D.C.’s transit workers to a top priority maybe creates some wiggle room to do so in Virginia’s cities.Mel Leonor at the RTD has an exhaustive recap of where we are with legalization of marijuana. There are a lot of moving pieces, and it seems like folks from the Senate and the House still have a ways to go before they get on the same page. And remember! Bills die in frequent and interesting ways! You shouldn’t get too attached to any specific path forward for this legislation.If you’re not following along live, you should really read impeachment.fyi' s coverage of yesterday’s impeachment trial. One of the quotes that sticks with me is from Rep. Castro: “On January 6, President Trump left everyone in this capitol for dead.” CSPAN has seven hours of video, if you really want to commit.This morning’s longreadHow the empty bags and wrappers got thereI loved this pandemic piece from local writer Kelly Gerow.This is not new for me. The idea of alone time — true alone time, not just “everyone is asleep but me” time, that a lot of overworked parents stretch into the too-late hours — is so decadent and rare that I naturally associate it with indulging in unhealthy foods. My first night alone since having children happened only the year before, and I started the day with a giant buttermilk biscuit with bacon, egg and cheese, had expensive chicken salad and crackers for lunch, and ate out of a quart of ice cream for the rest of the day. The next day I ordered Pad Thai with an appetizer of fried tofu for dinner and a giant slice of peanut butter and chocolate pie from an amazing bakery that we save for special occasions. Half of the pie was left on the morning my husband came back, and before he arrived, I ate it for breakfast to ensure I wouldn’t have to share it. That was a great weekend.If you’d like your longread to show up here, go chip in a couple bucks on the ol’ Patreon.Picture of the DayBolt scooters out front of 1301 Roseneath Road.

Something doesn't fell rightI can't sleepI keep tossing and turningAnd I'm dying in my dreamsI know it's thereI feel it like a splinter in my mindIt's almost like a nightmareBut I'm not waking up this time

Facts of Opinion: A True Story - The Cat Outta the HatDr J. Johnathan John’s, online Major in common sense, common operations and technical issues and other factors,  Roman historian, and ordained minister.Degree from Cuyahoga university of new technology and hotel management.14 scholar articles posted on Facebook, and Instagram Over 30 LinkedIn friends. A leader in his field.Tortino’s pizza rolls: load up a plate and sync up the frozen inside rolls with the melt your face outside rolls. You have to pick oneYou can give a million dollars to 3 people in your life and they can not share or affect your life in any way with itOryou can take 1.5 million dollars yourself and share as you see fit.No taxesSalvation Army red kettle bell ringers now take Apple iPay with no person thereI usually only gave money to those kettles based on the caliber of the bell ringer. If someone was making it happen I would let go of some bills.If not I gave the “no cash” look or the Ahhh, who carries money these days.I guess they listened. Kind aback fired on me. I keep seeing Elf being out in the Christmas classic money category. I think that’s a bit of a stretch. Elf came out in 2003 but I don’t think it’s a classic. It’s a sidecar to real classics like Christmas vacation or a Christmas Story...or Debbie does Santa’s elves.  How many Americans are out in the world making life livable as fuck and yet they don't have a clue as to what social media is. - this is “if a tree falls in the Forest” paradigm. If a good time is had and nobody posts it does the good time exist?Breatharians believe they don’t have to eat or drink and get their power from the sun.Dinosaurs make the best fuel.Allen park post office is at it again.  

I'm better now'Cause I know the feelingTo lose someoneYou can't forgetI am better now'Cause I know the feelingTo lose someoneYou can't forget'Cause I don't wanna leave you standing thereI don't wanna close my eyesI just wanna hold your handSee how far we've comeAre we letting this go to an end or is thisA chance to love again

My daughter is reading a book about the Chicago World’s Fair with the different exhibits, preparation, and problems. The Ferris wheel came out of that. With the elevation achieved (over 250 feet in the air) you could see the whole fair. It is in relation to other things that gives beauty and power to the elevation.Tammy spoke of elevating by levitating above the purely physical and the importance to give ourselves the opportunity to connect with our spirits and higher power to give us the higher perspective.See from God’s view that everything is for our greatest good. Support your vision by faith in action before the evidence appears.Today I give myself permission to elevate myself in gratitudeI am connected with my spirit and GodI see from God’s viewI see each situation from a spiritual God’s spaceI am so grateful now for the perfect situations to help me growThis is the best, perfect thingI am worthy. I know I am worthy. I feel I am worthyI am on the other side of darkness, fear and frustration, in bliss, enlightenment, and gratitudeI have already been thereI have everything I needI look and change withinI have access to all possibilitiesClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook Group. Check out the NEW! Daily GPS Planner. It’s a Gratitude Journal and Planner in one! There is space to write your Inspired Shortcuts, record all your thoughts and impressions from The Daily Gratitude Call and even pages to help you stay focused on your Path of Purpose!To have a 15 minute conversation with Wylene Benson and gain new perspective on an area you desire to change, schedule a time on her calendar by going to this link: askwylene.comTo work more closely with Wylene, email her and click here to learn more about her new book The Seven Gateways – Your Map to Integrity in Life and Business that so many have discovered to be the key to living a life of purpose, fulfillment and happiness!Support the show (https://wylenebenson.com)

I would venture to guess that you don't spend a lot of time thinking about your goals in depth. You may think about it a little bit, but you don't give it a bunch of air time. We almost think that if we spend too much time thinking about it, somehow we'll jinx it. I know that this may be your reality, but something is holding you back!In this week's episode, we are talking about:What it means to truly anticipate your goals and successWhat's holding you back from your successThe steps to talk to put your dreams out thereI'd love for you to take a minute and head over to apple podcasts and leave me a rating and review! It helps other amazing women who are building their business, just like you, find this podcast.Resources:My new 1:1 opportunity to work with me: https://workwithrachel.as.me/schedule.phpThe Dream Builder Society Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dreambuildersociety Follow me on IG: www.instagram.com/rachel_olstad Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is focused on helping college seniors move into their first job. Thomas Goonan shares how to use a career center, professors and job boards. He discusses how to make networking less of a dreadful activity, practicing for your telephone and in-person interview and using the S (situation), T (task), A (action) and R (results) in developing your story tool box to answer answer questions. Thomas shares that these are not normal times and that people are going to be stressed out during their job search - to recognize that this is normal. But, he stresses, you have skills, character and a lot to offer so stay focused on your search activities.He leaves us with these key reminders:be confident - you are a young professional that employers are looking forbuild honest connections - be real and genuine and you will find your networkok to be stressed - your strengths will help guide you to the opportunities that are out thereI hope you enjoy this episode - please share it with new or soon to be graduates.

Listen to Not Without My Sister, my OTHER podcast, wherever you're listening to this – or on Spotify at https://open.spotify.com/show/3YoMClQm0lLsjBULXgTjTB?si=WjcLvI5sRwWoP_TFrDsH0A You can follow Chuy "JR" Harris on Instagram or on Twitter @cochinochuyThe episode of How to be Sound that brought us together is the episode where I interviewed Session Moth Martina about indie wrestling – listen to it here: https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/ep-18-fighting-words-irish-wrestling-star-session-moth/id1336039859?i=1000429242397If you, like me, didn't know anything about what it means to be demi-male, you might like this piece on The Body is Not an Apology: https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/coming-into-my-gender-identifying-as-a-demi-guy/Chuy found out his Dad was gay in his freshman year of high school, when he was in ninth grade (age 13) – here's a piece from Gays With Kids about how to come out to your kids, from Dads who've been there: https://www.gayswithkids.com/the-being-blog/advice-on-coming-out-to-your-kids-from-gay-dads-whove-been-thereI mention Greenleaf, a show you'll find on Netflix that I really, really like, about a Memphis megachurch. Thrilling stuff.Glitter Cat Barista offers free programs for marginalized coffee professionals, with a view to increasing the diversity in coffee competition! Check it out: https://www.glittercatbarista.com/***If you'd like to support the work I do – help keep 'How to be Sound' going AND read a plethora of essays on life, love, sex, dating, feminism and more, sign up to my Patreon from just $4 per month. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

RESOURCES1 Timothy 4:12W. Timothy Gallwey (quote about being a rose)Stephen Witt, All Around MeDr. Caroline LeafDanny Silk, Keep Your Love OnConnected Families, Framework for parentingThe Mom Podcast, Ep 27 Katie Skurja: Drama RescuingThe Mom Podcast, Ep 30 Cindy Mattson: "Know Yourself to Lead Yourself"The Mom Podcast, Ep 24 Baxter Kruger: “I am Caroline”The Mom Podcast, Ep 06 Becoming an Emotionally Safe ParentSHOW NOTESTEN LIES WE BELIEVEI have to be perfect to be good.I am not good.I will be enough when I get thereI am not enough because of my gender, race, age, or family history.I'll be lazy if I believe I'm enough.I am selfish if I take care of my own needs.I am “less than.”My pain disqualifies me and it’s my fault.Because I have done______one too many times, I’m damaged goods.Expectations we have that hurt us“We’re always asking the question, ‘Am I enough?’ Especially in the mom world we struggle to answer the question, ‘Am I enough?’ And when we define it based off of our competencies or unhealthy expectations of ourselves that we can’t live up to, we can feel like what we’re doing is never enough. Who we are is never good enough and that really gets in the way of loving and living fully loved and fully free...It comes back to our identity and our intrinsic value. Because we are humans created in the image of God, we are good.” -Christy“If something is made in God’s image, it's not trash.” -Christy“Our imago dei, that is the image of God in us; that is who we are at the core, that is our enoughness.” -Kaylin“Yes, we are fallen now. Yes, we’re all wounded, we’re all broken, so none of us can escape that. But the image of God is still in us, and the fact that Jesus came to die for us is not what re-creates goodness in us, it's what shows that there was something already intrinsically in us worth dying for and that is our value. Yes we are broken, yes we are wounded. Yes, we needed Jesus to come to re-connect us with the Father, Son, and Spirit. But our intrinsic value is already at infinity and can’t be changed by our woundedness, brought lower by it, or brought higher by our performance.” -Christy“The rose is a rose from the time it is a seed to the time it dies. Within it, at all times, it contains its whole potential. It seems to be constantly in the process of change; yet at each state, at each moment, it is perfectly all right as it is.” -W. Timothy Gallwey“Our enoughness is not performance based; it’s’ intrinsic.” -Kaylin“And don’t be intimidated by those who are older than you; simply be the example they need to see by being faithful and true in all that you do. Speak the truth[a] and live a life of purity and authentic love as you remain strong in your faith.” (1 timothy 4:12, TPT)“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” -Dr. Caroline Leaf“We model to others how we expect to be treated.” -Christy“Remember that you’re somebody else’s ‘other.’” -Kaylin“Hurt people hurt others, so when we have insecurities we kind of leech that onto other people as well. But when we hold high value of ourselves we'll start walking around and seeing the high value of everyone else around us.” -Kaylin“When we live with that sense of enoughness, that belief that I am enough in terms of my intrinsic value, then we can leave room for growth. We can accept ourselves in the stage, in the process that we’re in and not expect perfection or think we’ll only be enough when we get to some...destination.” -Christy“Shame hides our intrinsic value from us.” -Kaylin“You are valuable; you’re worth fighting for.” -Kaylin“Our expectations can feed us lies.” -Kaylin“We can have expectations on ourself, and then we can feel the expectations of others on us, which can make us feel like we are not enough.” -Kaylin

In my last solo cleaning business update, I shared how sharing my knowledge directly lead to my local pharmacy boosting a video I made leading to over 4,500 views! Collaboration is so vital. It's what networking done right really is. Like-minded local business owners sharing with each other for the greater good of the community. Life also gets in the way. I've shared how losing my Nana caused me to slow down work to attend to family matters. The last few weeks have been difficult as I'm the family point of contact for my autistic uncle. I had at least 2 full days of phone calls, emails, and updates to my family members and his team to take care of. I only share this to be real. I had less time and had to prioritize this week and I prioritized collaboration! Here are some examples of actions I took this week:Collaboration set up with IV Chamber, Jackie Silveri of EDS on how we complement each other as partners / collaborators in our MCBA networking group. Did 2 interviews with Shelby Miller and Trisha Lutteroty from Keller Williams with good questions and commentsTaught my chamber how to protect against corona and disinfect properly with 30 attendees. I will email each back personally with a video message. One of the attendees is Tom Merrick, owner of Tom's Help Desk and President of the Skippack Business Owner's Association. He wants me to come speak for their group in June in the same format as today's talk, only shorter in content. You just put yourself out thereI went back and forth with my veterinary hospital client to get the map correct (the one I made in Boost My Post). The doctors are talking and collaborating with me to design the best strategy for them. Their goal is to have their staff clean & disinfect daily, have my company work in tandom with one of their employees to deep clean, disinfect, and presentation clean their hospital. They LOVED the map and were so thankful to have a plan forming up. I was given the green light to increase my monthly service and wrapped up the week with a beautiful powerpoint with 5 options to expand my cleaning service.Brad Imming of SEP Pathfinders helped me set up Google Tag Manager and Google Analytics so I can start tracking visitors to my website. I just need to determine my goal for the site, so Brad can help me design and optimize the funnel to capture more newsletter subscribers, YouTube subscribers, clients. Got my first call from the Berkshire Hathaway Home Services Concierge that Mary Ann Alig added me to. It got us a 1-time move out clean.This was a nice $250 1-time job. I took before & after pics and had the client pay online.Went through my CC emails and collected all prospects and new friends and added them to my newsletterCreated the 9 videos under 2 min each, uploaded them to YouTube, and scheduled them into MailChimp to go out twice per week throughout May. I'll be updating Google My Business with each release.Read the rest of this article at the Solo Cleaning School website

Rob Lim, better known as Dirty Sanchez, discusses his love for photography, Hip Hop, and dance. Follow @Instagram: noiseofthebrokeboysTwitter: BrokeBoysNoise Listen to the Audio on all Podcast platforms. All The Links Here: https://linktr.ee/NoiseOfTheBrokeBoys A broke degenerate hooligan documents conversations about being a Bboy, Breakin', Hip Hop, Dance, Art, Music, Creativity, Innovation, and the slow subtle crumble of society in audio form.----more----this episode of noise of the broke boysis brought to you by Karen's potatosalad do you yearn for the taste ofdelicious creamy buttery potatoes and aperfectly seasoned potato salad dish doyou ever fall asleep at night dreamingof the rich starchy texture of AuntRhonda's perfectly proportioned potatosalad do you suddenly have an urge tocall my manager to cancel me because youassume the race of my imaginary auntRhondadespite her racially ambiguous name andare now jealous of her potato saladrecipe well I'm here to tell you you canbreathe easy go ahead and hang up yourphone give the police a day off fromhandling this important complaint headover to your nearest grocery store andpurchase some of aunt Rhonda's secretflavoring sodium chloride use thissecret flavor enhancer in all yourfuture potato salad recipes and enjoyyour salty meal Karen just be carefulnot to be too salty and now onto theshow[Music]in this episode I talk on a video callwith one of my closest homies he is anup rocker and a photographer and low-keyone of the funniest people I know thesong welcome to the jungle by Guns andRoses always reminds me of this guy'scrazy shenanigans please enjoy theepisode with my good buddydirty sanchez do you know what you areyou're in a jungle baby you're gonna die[Music]what's up everybody welcome to the showtoday I've got the dirtiest guest ofthem all he's a good friend of mineprobably one of my best friends and I'mproud to have him on this show we'regonna be talking about some interestingstuff so I hope you guys are ready forthe dirty sanchez himself Robert Limwhat's up man how you doing I'm doingwellI noticed those kovat beards just a so Ihad to catch up yeah we got them kovatbeards going on dude yo so what's up man- I wanted to bring you on today becauselike photography I mean you've been aphotographer for a long time you've beena part of the dance scene as aphotographer as well as a dancer youknow almost as long as I've known youand so you've seen a lot of stuff in thescenedefinitely have like captured a lot ofreally amazing moments as a photographerso I wanted to like bring you onto theshow to talk about you know a little bitabout your photography history with itbecause I feel like photography is isnot necessarily an element of hip-hopper se but it's an element that ispreserving the other elements you knowwhat I'm saying and so I feel like it'sa very important and underlooked thingin the scene that you know we all kindof experience but we don't give creditto it or credence to it and so that'sthat's kind of why I wanted to bring youon hereand so with that being said I want toknow what really got you intophotography I think it's my older sistershe was into photography and I learnedthe film nothing as far as developingthe film setting up a camera manuallyfor the shutter the habit sure and itfeels like you're a sharpshooter whenit's sniper even went back to just kindof like heroes or people that inspire meMartha Cooper she was like the firstphotographer to take pictures of b-boysand emcees and just hip-hop partyI think her first picture she has isthat like I'm some b-boys got arrestedand she couldn't take the picture ofdumb legally hmm but it was able to takea picture not looking at them andpressing it down so she was able tocircumvent it in a way so it's like Iknow it was like the most like hip hopgangster thing to do about like beinginside a police station doing somethingthat you're not supposed to do butrecognizing it's an important momentyeah yeah that's interesting it's thatway is that when they they're like copscame in like shut down what was itpeople summit like 90-something 96-97during like the 70s and 80s oh is itokay no wow saw books are going to beblack and white you're going to see ayoung kid and like the short runningshorts on you know the side like the b2shorts super beat Street even a littlebit before that the racism in the copbut you can just see like these kidsthey're dancing on the street and up tono goodoh yeah and they're all like 10 yearsold and yeah yeah boy beat boy age yeahthe real b-boy age yeah now that yeahnow the 10 year olds are taken overagain so it's a circle of lifeyeah just raise them upyeah yeah so that's tight um yeah I meanthat that's a very powerful moment and Ithink in hip-hop history and and youknow if it weren't for someone to likethink of you know grabbing a camerataking a picture and preserving thatmoment I don't think we'd even be ableto remember that moment and I mean Icould think of a lot of other moments inhip-hop history that you know we'reimportant you know and so I guess youknow in that in that moment ofrealization like hey I better pull mycamera out and take this picture thislooks like a great moment to capturewhat what goes on in your mind to likeyou know be able to define that momentand and how do you really frame that youknow I think it goes like as easy aswhen you see family portraits honestlyeveryone takes family portraits and whenyou see the pictures there's sometimesyou could definitely see the love andthe relationship between everyonesometimes people are just kind ofputting up with it what I noticenaturally even from like like MarthaCooper's photos and just other b-boyphotos everyone who's not evenphotogenic and photogenic doesn't meanlike beauty but there's a level ofvanity where people are like you knowwhat this is a woman that lasts foreverI always look cool guess what we'retaking a cold picture right now eventhough some people they tried the hardas you could see but everyone's ready togo as if like this is gonna be the lastpicture they ever see before I getlocked up or our dead yeah so and likeeveryone inherently does that in thescene I notice I'm always trying to makesure now to take pictures of people like1/3 and Cruz or even if they're reallygood friends yeah or something you'renot even good friends or it as apractice spot they mainly just cometogether like we are so cool you bettertake their picture right now it you knowit's kind of baked in the culture to dothat I mean I feel like just the idea offreezes in breaking is like hit a coolpose look cool as if someone was gonnatake a picture of you I mean I feel likethat's theyou know overarching like idea behindfreezing and so it's kind of baked intowhat we do already so I can see how thatwould be so that that's tightdid you start photography before youdanced or was it did it come after Imean like I remember when I met you dingthat was like early 2000s but I knew youwere already dancing you were up rockinand stuff but I'm pretty sure you werealready taking pictures - so which KCarson and did those bleed into eachother at all I mean like people as likea you know as a artistic kind of thingyeah I like in high school I starteddoing photography that was like beforewe met over in junior college yeah yeahyeah it's really tough because it wasconsidered sports photography for me andit's how I had to approach it sosometimes I would just go through somany rolls of film and also findingpeople that were also decent and knewwhat they're talking about if while Iwas asking them to do certain moves orfreezes or experimenting what lookedcool so that was kind of a rough blendbut then when I starting against as adance understood how certain bodymechanics works like what visually looksgood versus what looks good in oneinstance because yeah plenty of pictureswhere people have crashed or that movewas just incredibly bad on video butthat the moment was the way the personlooked the adrenaline rushing throughall it just looked amazingmaybe the crowd was like oh this isgonna be greatyou didn't capture disappointment yourscroll through your photos in one ofthose instances and you're like dudethis crowd is so hyped and then you likeyou know you took action shots sothere's like 20 photos and then like atthe instant that they realize that hecrashed you see you know theirexpression go from happy and excited tolike oh damnwhy am i cheering that must have hurt Ican say when I was also managing thedance crew yeah when someone was they'regonna flip and I did too a picture a preand then like a post when they floppedbut enjoyable performance even though wewere not like the most like sought-afterentertainment that yeah a crowd you canimagine this and people but let's justsay these people have gone well beyondand then 20 of music videos I'm veryproud yeah that's tight so like I guessyou're going back to what you're sayingwith the like you know seeing coolfreezes catching like a certain momentlike what is it that you look for and interms of like lighting and the way thatthey're facing you or like I mean cuzwhen I look at your photos I see thatthere's like I don't know it seems likeyou just caught this really weirdposition that people end up in and Iknow that's part of the dance too butit's like I feel like if I took thatpicture it look like shit and you knowmaybe it comes with a good camera toowhich I don't have but you know likewhat what is that that magic moment thatyou're looking for or is there even amagic moment that you're really lookingfor you know do you just see it in theireyes when they're dancing like oh dudeI'm about to hit this move and you'relistening to the song and it's like dudehe's gonna hit this beat I can tell youknow what I mean is that is that doesthat go through your mind so when I wasstarting a lot of it was guesswork youunderstand this kind of the technicalaspect about understanding lightingmm-hmm I noticed that was always thehugest issues because events were notconducive to their own or activity yescrazy dark so sometimes I experimentedwith flash before but the one thing isis that like that's also going to botherthe dancer yeah so I've been cognizantof like if I do flash moment where liketheir move will enter into like it's notgoing to disrupt what they're gonna bedoing and oh another thing - it took usfears about knowing certain dancers andwhat they're getting into as far as likeoh they have so much momentum going herethey're not gonna stop there this willburn down man it will make them thiswill distract them so a lot of alsogoing with the camera equipment a lot ofthat also had to go with bettertechnology as well as people startseeing that I was offered more goodwilland kind of meh preserving a legacy butdocumenting the times they were morereceptive to taking pictures and thatallowed me to pose them and prop them incertain locations yeah I see what you'resaying so okay yeah so I could see howthat the the lighting would be a realbig issue in a jam I mean there's onlyso much you can do really with a camerato make that to make that good but yeahI know like you as a dancer I bet thathelps a lot to like be able to see Iguess predict like what's about tohappen I mean and you're also veryknowledgeable about like that thatparticular dancer usually you've seenthem before you know what they'recapable of so you can kind of predictwhat's going on so I imagine that helpsa lotwith it you know and I think that is youknow what makes some of your photos sogood is that you can like predict thatin a way and be able to capture thesemoments so I'm curious what is the whatis your favorite moment you've capturedon camerathe two that are like two categories Ilike to separate or like ones where Ican oppose the individual mm-hmm that'swhere like we have a setting and I'mcounting one two three we're kind ofdocumenting and another one it's justlike when is that a jam and it just itwas so hype it was so dope and thenlike everyone goes crazy over it youknow and people always hit me up I couldsay like at least like Jan an eventdefinitely a freestyle session I'mtrying to think of like what a more likethere's so many for face off session butone that I really like that like I'vejust seen that on certain flyers but itdoesn't matter to me there's one whereit's Tata he entered with Maschine andMorris and then like like an air chairbut he looked it up and also he pointedout his opponent and then like it wasable to hold it but he also had to lookand the Bears that's like I'm callingyou out yeah yeah and then and then likethe importance whether when thepromoters say this is why you come tojams yeah you feel literally likethere's a point where that's a coupleseconds where you're completely deaf andeveryone else is deaf cuts are screamingwith excitementyeah somehow they will always energy andI'm trying to take the picture where I'mtrying not to get way too excited as afan yeah yeah that was like one of thosemoments where I'm just like that wasgreat I can say also just from my godcontemporaries or people that are like Isee as crazy better to me there's alsoanother one with Todd's huh and Zach youwhere they did it was a crew battle 20thfreestyle and he did the swing routineand I want to say Ken Quan caught thatand like when I look at that picture Ifelt the same way tooso it's amazing yeah that was just likeI'm wow it's like a mom it's like amoment where like the crowd got punchedin the face like with the hype nacellenot a circuit ride weather setup are oneof our friends they we went to had anevent called art Street where there wasawarehouse that within three months timewas gonna get up bulldoze over oh yeahcome on oh I think I remember that placeyeahso the warehouse allowed artists to setup little art spaces and awesome givelinks to these pictures to that way youkind of know what I'm talking aboutbut there's a picture his name was Quanand he did this freeze and there was acheckerboard floor lighting in thebackground and even if I took themwithout it like it looked like thisabstract mural and it was incredibleyeah if I had remember that photo yeahand then yeah and there was like thispurple lighting and it was just likelike I look at it I'm like did I takethis picture did I do too much I wasjust like I I I personally love it somepeople like Gemma be like there's a lotof stuff going on this way again it'slike one of my personal please wait Imean it's that's the artists uniongrowing like dude this is something thatI'm really proud of her like you knowthat I really I think I really nailed itwith it which you know and everybody hastheir own opinions about art so you knowbut I would say if you like it thenthat's what matters really yeah but yeahI think I'm pretty sure I remember thatphoto I might have even been thereduring that thing but anyways I'd sayI'm just real quick like also anotherperson who's in the scene always comeright little Xiao I need the muster upenough money to because I there's oneprint that I definitely want to get soit's wing zero and then II say and Iforgot who else better so not of theircrew but I think it was in Times Squareand then like wings are oh it's likebending on his toes and then the othertwo or just check suppose in a way itjust looked incredibleso I'm like like I need to make sure Ihave enough money I'm like I definitelywanna get a Prince of themit's like artist or together artist butyeah that was a really dope photo thatI'm like wow do you sell your printsI've tried to in the past and somepeople like if they have anniversaryjams are people that like I feel like aconnection to I say oh let me give thisto you it's like I know I I have one ofa Vince your brother where he's in aheadstand and then the tide came in andthe water washes off you took the photothat's a hell funny photo yeah it's funyeah he has like a main YouTube accountat thereI know he's got it on something but yeahthat's funny yeah I'm curious actuallyabout you know the photography worldbecause it's you know in terms of likeselling stuffI feel like photographers do a bigservice to the scene and I don't knowhow much the scene like actually likepays photographers or whatever I know Ididn't see in photographers get theirphotos like taking all of it you knowthey're they're being like put on flyersthey're putting all over Instagram andother social media and stuff I guess howdo you feel about it when like you seesomeone like basically take your photoand just hit crop out your you know yourum your watermark and and use it astheir own like that I feel like that'skind of a dirty dirty dirty trick but Isee a lot of people do it I'm sorrylike resentful from it I'm especiallybecause I was just trying to get betterand then just like oh let me getcredited and sometimes you know youdon't get credit especially for like youbelieve like they should be doing thesame thing or they feel like well yougot a picture of me so that's goodenough yeah but I I look at how I waskind of like how DJ's are because likethere's a certain point where likethey're mixtapes were getting played andthey they did all the work for theproduction yeah not like not like theysampled this and that and you create aloop and that was the end of that ormaybe they did or they did crazy drumsamples and another DJ's playing itbecause they don't want their videostaken down formusic copyright strikes but I noticedwith thumb and I like even thoughthey're like let's just say like othermusical performers they accept it oflike what the culture and technology ismm-hmmthey're draws more like if you want moveto come live to your event hire me yeahlet everyone photos they will leaveenough room for them if they want tocrop out we don't care well put but youguys hire us like hold some accountablefor thatyeah and sometime you to sometimes it'sjust a good opportunity I remember let'ssay for example are your crew from Japanthey came to the yeah come on you cameto like three different cities and knowfour or five I don't I didn't Californiaand they went to yeah that freestylesession that was like last year orsomething right yeah yeah and also theywhat's at the jam when you guys enter inPomona and also did Emma with the bestspot the next day and they also came upto Sacramento for one of our eventsmm-hmm for me not to take a chance toget to know him offered to do like somephotos and everything because this is achance for like a crew who I don't knowwhat their circumstances are but they'relike we're about this life yeahwe're not getting paid to do this but wecame to represent this is just adifferent City this is a differentcountry he came to do anything so I alsohave to look at it like that becauseit's very I don't know what's the wordit's I mean yeah it's you're looking atit as like these guys are about thatlife and as a photographer it's worth itto you to capture that you know and torepresent that too because that's likewhoa everyone's all about you know yeahyeah my return it's like if I when I getthe chance I'm like you guys took thetime and saved up enough money to traveland sometimes when I look at our cityand I'm not to downplay the quality ofour jams but sometimes I'm just likeI've seen you guys 110dollars like three months ago and theprice here is like two hundred dollarsbut you know you drove two hours fromthe Bay Area to just I'm about this lifeso they goes to like someone'sconviction and like also the vanity andthe ego like what's this really aboutyeah so sometimes I'm like yeah we getto love I do see if I can get some typeof compensation but then I also want tobe able to say they're all for the last15 years aim it's like I've been a partof these events that people considerit's like a moment in their life and I'mthere for ya know I would think beingthere for that moment is like a realimportant thing as a photographer beingbecause again yeah you guys are likecapturing that and preserving it I meanI guess put it like thisbefore there was like a crap ton ofphotographers in the scene you knowthere was still jams going on but whocan remember like everything thathappened in those jams especially theones that weren't videotaped it's hardto remember any of that stuff because itwasn't ever you know captured but then Iknow when I see photos from like jamsthat I did you know 10 15 even maybeeven 20 years ago it's like you see thatpicture and you're like oh dang Iremember that you know what I meanyou know I remember that bad all Iremember like being in that situation Iremember training for that or whatever Iremember seeing that dude train for itor whatever you know so it kind ofreally takes you back and it sucks thatthere's not so much stuff that'savailable from you know back in the daybut now I feel like there's so much andand so it's it's gonna be like a verygood preservation of you know theculture moving forward maybe too good ofone you know I guess we don't need toremember all them crashes yeah yeah yeahjust the whole social media aspect youwould think there's a saturation ofpeople with videos and also withtwo people have to adapt it used to bein the culture when I remember I meanSacramento when there was a Rocksteadychapter it was called flora SKLZ um thatyeah it was like if you took dirt likeUV bit someone's move you got sucked inthe face the jam just stopped and likeyou got beat up like whoever crew wasstarting to beat you upthen matter what happened I've been inthat where like no you you're supposedto be dancing to get out of gang warfarebut no you just join a dance gang yeahyeah it was a lot more confrontational Iguess back in the day definitely moreyeah it was chaos I mean really like youhad people coming in that just yeahdidn't care I mean it well and alsothere wasn't money in it and therewasn't like anything so it was just Ifeel like people did it more for the thelove of it and stuff so it was like whensomeone was basically stomping on youand saying hey I'm gonna bite your moveor whatever you take it real personallylike nowadays I feel like that kind ofgets brushed off a little bit becausethey there's I don't know this kind oflike social media veil to it or whateveryou know there's some kind of like youknow social veil over everything and Idon't know I mean not to say that peoplearen't as passionate about it now asthey were before but I feel like youknow they'll there's more incentive tobe like okay I don't I don't need afight over this because there's I gotall these other things that are comingalong with it but back in the day itwasn't like that it's like you know allyou really had was that your moves andyour crew and stuff and so if peoplewere over there like stomping on it andyou know giving it a bad name and stuffor just you know dissing it it's youtake that real personally so I could seewhy there was way more fights back inthe day and I'm glad that that's overbut it I feel like back then there was alittle more I don't know excitement tocompetitions just because of stuff likethat not to say that fighting is a goodthing but you know the drama the dramamakes it interesting for sure you knowI'll say this we're just two recentexamples from at least like myperspective we went to Mass a monkey'sday and I was front row and like thefinals and then like I believe they justfinished with like top eight thesis isjust walking around and then you see aTN because you're yelling at each otherand like I don't know where thesis isalso just pissed off like crazyand he's called and then like a couplerounds later like all of battleborn camein and supposedly they just not yet Iremember that yeah yeah yeah I wasn't atthe gym but ya know it was like yeah thetwo crews had like beef or somethingfrom back in the day or whateverwhatever whatever happened but yeah thecrew they basically snuck in the gymjust to battle them yeah I mean it's nogood that they're sneaking in and stuffand like doing that but but know thatthat's actually a great moment that wascaptured on film because it's like ifyou got beef with another crew like Ifeel like that's how you handle it youcome and just say hey we're gonna battlewe're not gonna go online and talk crapwe're not gonna you know fight we're notgonna do this we're not gonna do thatwe're just gonna come in and battle youand guess what it's at your own jam soyou better come correct because we'vebeen you know training for this we'regonna come for you you know so I feel Ifeel like that was that that's dopethat's dope Oh hopefully there wasn'tany other drama beyond that I meanhopefully that's where it got squashedor whatever you know I feel hate stillgoing day eight in both the rides you'relike what are you doing herelike you like you snuck in where's my$10 if you're gonna bat him he got a payhim anyway yeah and one where like alsojust coming back to that Pomona JamJesse you've been seeing a Williams hisname is his real name's William smilesmm-hmm he's from Australia he entered inwith Lancer yeah yeah yeah Austria yeahI forget his name yet Australian dude noyeah I know your name is William smilesbut just like it was good talking himbut he also have fierceness in his eyesbut I've never seen the same thing Iknow nuts stirring the pot or anythingbut it was the same thing when you sawPak Pak and also Lucy sky and then I'mlike what I saw the moves I'm like yeahyou definitely just at first you havethat so important to you the way you hitit the way you get into it but I meanI'm not part of that I was just like I'mlike oh I see but also for someone tojust like also protect you like well I'mdefinitely gonna fly up here and I hopeto see those guys just yeah just to justshow up just to confront in in battleyeah that's that's some b-boy shit forsureI mean yeah I've done that in the pastlike I've gone to gyms just a battle acrew with I didn't enter the gymI didn't do anything else except justbattle them you know usually I stuckaround and like watch the rest of thejam or whatever or you know whatever butit was I came I came through to justbattle people though so after thosebattles had a bed like I still hate youokay I know but trust me you you knowwhat'sMerson you know what's funny is likeactually I was hanging out with one ofthe guys that I used to do I'd like goto the gym just to battle him and hiscrew and you know this was back likefrickin ten years at least and then Iwas like training with him probably likea year ago or maybe two years ago orwhatever and like we're all nice to eachother and stuff and I was like dude Iknow me and you used to battle all thefreaking time and I don't even rememberwhy like that's what's funny about itbut I knew that I hated your guts at onepoint and I knew you were good and Iknew you knew I was good and we wouldbattle all the damn time but like to behonest I don't remember what it was thatset it off and you know and now we'refriends and stuff and you know we'lltrain and we give each other tips andshit so I don't know I honestly I thinkit was just like - hungry - hungryb-boys that just you know they want tomake their mark and shit so I feel likethat's probably what it was that causedsome weird beef you know probably likeyou know one of us lost to each other ata jam or whatever and then we took itsuper personally and just created avendetta or whatever you know I don'tknow any montage you listen just on arocky soundtrack oh gosh yeah I'm likerunning up the steps like you're likewell just engage damnoh ma I got a sweaty hoodie on with nosleeves on yeah you're running in likethese like horrible converse but I'mlike gosh I was like watching an oldschool basketball game like fuckingpeople playing like adidas superstarsand now we dancing themyeah yeah okay so um that's yourbackground as a photographer so I'mcurious like what got you into hip-hopoh so uh all right if you could kind ofsee this canvas here it's pretty bigit's a bye to my friend they're also ina 3d crew and I kind of grew up withthem in middle school and high schoolbut kind of like how like a lot of dancecrews I'll just a dude that hangingaround I thought it was cool so I nevergot into it as like deep as everyoneelse did but that's where I was justlike I was like it was a certain pointin the nineties where you you could heargood radio hip-hop music and then therewas a layer of underground does reallyrain laughing and then like you'relistening to rap where people who aretalking about like depression or likehow do you want to like viciously murdersomeone but to say so creatively or likehow much they hate this person and itwas just like oh my glue what are yousaying you got a reminded bag it wasjust like like this era of just likelike you have to really really dig orknow about it was like whispers it checkthis out dude it's the era of whenyou're walking down the street in likethe city and the dude walks up with likea Walkman and he's like hey yo you wantto listen to this hey you got to listento this thoughHey and then you're like nah bro I gotsomewhere to bebut you don't got anywhere to be you'rejust walking which is I ain't trying tolisten to that shit I'm trying to hearthat cash money millionaire yeah this iswhat the time when like you can actuallytrust people not necessary trust whensomeone got like a Hutton it's tape outof your trunk that's how to shortstarted in Oakland but nice shortwhiskey so there yeahyou were selling those I was like yo mancheck out like this is the dopest shityou listen to that a lot of Bay Areahip-hop and like some Sacramento havethought they just like just about italmost everywhere like one you have tohave a really good producer or DJ justset it up to for you to even like makethis stuff and hope to sell out yourstuff because it wasn't drugged itwasn't likelet me get some of that because Ialready knew what it was you took it andguess yeah and you have to realize thepeople be like this is what's up mmm andsometimes I mean like that's how it likesure not musicians are able to skirtlike having to have it distribute to therecord company I have like their teamjust they saw this as the mixtape willchange the production it's still my namebut it's like I get a hundred percent ofmy proceeds up instead of like like aquarter on every album myself thanks forinterviewing me I must be sweating up astorm and being well chopped be withyeah well hopefully the video is betteryou know once I edit this hopefully itturns out a lot better well yeah it wasgreat having you dudeI really hope this pandemic is over soonso we can actually do this in personbecause I'd much prefer that I don'tlike doing these video calls but yeahand yeah I just feeling the vibe too andthen also just like you know like I likeit when it's a little bit looser andthen we just like rift for a little bittooyeah yeah yeah yeah well so before weclose out do you have any last words orany shoutouts or any plugs I don't knowcheck out my Instagram pagethat's where you post all your photosand stuff yeah and one thing I want totell people it's like if you see manageam not doing anything gonna hit me upand just say hey can you take a pictureof us because that's the one thing Inoticed everyone always get a bunch ofthe cool shots but sometimes you alsowant memories too that you're like heyyou know whatthis was my first jam that I went withyou know my older crew mate that'straining me so you know those memoriesI mean sometimes it could be betterpreserved as opposed to having juststraight off your phone that you neverprint out anything yeahand he's talking mostly to thoseInstagram thoughts out there soalright man it was great having you onlet's get one moreowl to leave this show 1 2 3[Music][Music]you[Music] 

Darren Wong, a member of the famous dance group the Kinjas, discusses his beginnings in dance and business, and goofs around with some dude.Follow @Instagram: noiseofthebrokeboysTwitter: BrokeBoysNoiseListen to the Audio on all Podcast platforms. All The Links Here: https://linktr.ee/NoiseOfTheBrokeBoysA broke degenerate hooligan documents conversations about being a Bboy, Breakin', Hip Hop, Dance, Art, Music, Creativity, Innovation, and the slow subtle crumble of society in audio form.----more----[Music]this episode of noise of the broke boysis brought to you by cardboard yesthat's right I'm talking about the samecardboard that is used to protect youryear's supply of preparation-h as it isshipped from the warehouse to yourresidence same cardboard that used tospin on your back because you were toobroke and lazy to walk to that freepractice session that your local hip-hopscene provides and yes that samecardboard that was used to make theposter of Justin Bieber that you hide inyour closet don't worry as a truebeliever myself I will not let yoursecret out have you ever wondered whatthat be and cardi B's name stands forwell its board this is car D boardsupplying your local strip club with thefreshest tunes cardboard is smoothstrong and stylish it's the perfectreplacement for all your card stockneeds head down to your local dumpsterand dive right in to pick up the latestshipment of cardboard and have yourselfa cardi board e time and now onto theshow[Music]in this episode I bring in a good dancebuddy I've had since high school webasically came up together as b-boys inthe early 2000s and grew to love hip hopculture together he is a member of theworld famous dance group the kynges andcurrently lives in the SouthernCalifornia area teaching and managingthe various dance schools that thekynges have built from the ground upplease enjoy this episode with my goodfriend Darren Wong hello everybodywelcome to the diarrhea doodoo show thisis noise of the broke boys I am yourhost Kurt rocks key and today I have oneof my oldest dance friends he is amember of the kynges or if you don'tknow they are ninja cosplayers that alsodo dance they do not root Oh cosplay andthen they're also good dancers as wellright I've known this guy for quite awhile I went to high school with him Ihad a crush on his mother yeah she wasmy math teacher and yeah what's up manthis is d-money mr. Darren Wong what'sup yeah so dude I haven't talked to youin a minute when did I last see youprobably my wedding huh yeah becauseyou've been living out in LA for aminute huhyeah probably since 2007yeah and we went to school like irvineright you went to UC irvine you movedout here and have been out here sincethen Yeah right cool um cool so likewhen I first met you um you were alreadylike you already knew what's up withdance I mean you were already kind ofdancing and this was you were a freshmanin high school and I wasJr probably yeah thank Junior so I don'tknow what I was doing hanging out withjuniors I mean hanging out with freshmenwhen I was a junior oh yeah I guess soyeah yeah you were cool and I was uncoolso we like met in the middle a littlebit yes we were about both sophomoresyeah I guess soso when I met you yeah you were alreadyinto dance so like what got you intodance I think like most guys who want todance a girl of course I wanted toimpress a particular girl maybe wiseI think particular girl in like middleschool so I wanted to do breaking cuz Ithought that was like the closest thingI could do since I did martial arts umso then I basically just tried to findany video I could through like illegalway times before YouTube and just learnfrom that just practice in a garage withmy homieand then yeah so did you get the girlnow got different go there oh it allworked outsweet yeah no uh back then that was like2001 Pro yeahdude did the internet yet exist yeahyeah I just remember like going to whatwas it b-boy calm or org or somethingyeah yeah yeah yeah and they had thoselike they had gifts but they're not likethe gifts you see now they were likeyeah it'd be a 10-second thing butthere's only five frames in it so you'relike oh what is he a bad call yeahbecause I remember letti trying to getthat stupid page to load that taught youhow to doturtles yeah and it was a it was a gifof I think Cujo doing him and like I youknow you wait ten minutes for it to loadyeah and then it finally loads and it'sjust like dude and I was like how thehell did he do that like the wholereason I waited so long for this to loadwas to see how to do that in slow motionbut no it skipped like 15 frames so Imissed it allyes yeah stupid b-boy org I hope youdon't exist anymore no actually I hopeyou do but I hope you're listening tothis instead I'm sorry I love your giftsice yeah I downloaded them that's that'sall bad when you're like downloadinggifts you downloaded gifts to like learnhow to break yeah it's the animatedpicture it's yeah that's terriblebut anyways somehow we got to wearanimated gifts to a finalist on world ofdance Thank You b-boy da or you are andyou are the people the People's Choiceforgives so do you still rep PandaExpress so we back when we went to highschool together we went to El Caminohigh school we made this crew togetheras like kind of a joke and we called itPanda Express cute cuz all of us werejust the only Asian kids there and yeahall of us just decided to break is thatAsian Club or is that like breaking ClubI don't know it could be both breakingClub and Asian Club had the same membersso anyways yeah we made it and we calledit Panda Express crew cuz I'm tired youknow we actually yeah we didthat's even funnier that wewe battled people as panda that's thebest part but anyways so since highschool you've like you've had a prettydecorated list of like groups you'vebeen a part ofof course like legendary steps flexibleFlav you were in Cabo modern right youwere leading that crew right yeah yesyears table modern the what would youcall them the hip hop dance choreo danceyeah I feel like there's like multipleteams that you see I cop modern isprobably like one of them one of the topwomen's tops and then the other onewould be CADC which is where mm-hmm Mikeand Anthony the two creators of Kim justcame from actually okay yeah so thenyeah obviously kynges and now you're inunderground flow it is also a Sacramentooh yeah uh so how did you get involvedwith kynges I mean I guess he kind ofalluded to it but yeah so when I was afreshman in college there's this thingcalled Casa dance-off which is like aKorean club basically it's like thisKorean club they put together it's onlyfreshmen so if you're a freshman you'reallowed to compete in like thischoreography showcase basically sobasically every school has their ownteam in their own choreographers sothat's kind of where I met Mike andAnthony at the same time and then at thesame time Victor Kim who used to likemmm yep I know you're trying to elude mebut him yo Victor was telling me like ohyou should go for like either one ofthese cuz he's like you know the topcrews so that I never go in with tabajust cuz they did more breaking piecesand I didn't know like choreo choreo soI went with that and then that's likekind of how I met both of them thoughthrough Casa dance-off cos mm-hmm werethere choreographing mmm and so then youguys they formed they they formed thecrew or conceptualized it or whateverand then they reached out to youyeah so basically the way King justformed was Anthony was going away towork somewhere else so they wanted to doone last showcase together and bringingall the homies that they've alwayswanted to dance with so they just likehand-picked like pretty much the toppeople from each crew that they don'tknew and like we're still friends withand then they don't know case and thenall of a sudden people really liked itand they're like oh shoot this is likesomething we might be able to do it'slike some seven cent money yeah that'sthat's a that's a very normal or like amuch toned down version that I wasthinking it was I thought you guys maybelike went to like a comic-con you're alllike dressed as ninjas and then justlike and then just all of a suddenstarted like dancing and then you'relike oh he's a dancing ninjaoh you're dancing ninja and you're alljust like oh we should join a PowerRangers ninja force oh no wait nevermindlet's uh let's just join it let's make acrew together yeah that would have beenthe cooler origins I guess that that onewas too normal for me so that's what I'mgonna I'm gonna cut out what you justsaid and just say that's whatbut yeah so then okay so then you jointogether and then the underground flowtwins Steven and Michael they joined -they got reached out to and who else doyou have in that crew good it's got alot of yeah you boys I mean it's Victorused to do it in the very beginning okaywhen they were on boob black ops yet sowhat is it ANBU black opsthat's literally from the ANBU black opsyeah so then that was Lin like for surewe were doing a lot of it never you tostuff what the hell and we changed it tojust be you know dancing I don't knowNaruto but that sounds like a reallyterrible BG show ANBU black hot we'relike I don't know some care right wechanged it yeah okay was it roll out thetalkiesno not at all oh yeah you guys wouldhave definitely lost forever we got suedto you you got sued and lost ANBU blackops is off the show okay so that'sthat's dope um so you guys wrapped asthat name eventually came up with kyngeswhat like what is what does kynges meanI guess like I just assumed as ninjasthat are Korean or not a lot of peoplealways guess that it's not the only onekin means family mm-hmm and then I gotdances ninjas so keeping up with thekynges that's what's upso um if people don't know this kyngeseventually went to world of dance whichwas like a TV dance competition showthat had tons of different dancers onthere and like a million-dollar prizeright and so you guys were competing init and you guys were the finalists of itand you lost to got out too late twinsbut should have been these dudes no I'mkidding they're good yeah actually wegot to the finalists for our group soit's like finalists for like soloistsand duo's and then there's finalists forgroups and then there's finalists for itwas like called kids or whatever thatwas yeah so we lost - JLo salsa team JLosalsa team yeahoh they're dope they're dope they'relike definitely high energy I feel okaymaybe I missed I didn't watch the wholeseason I watched like the ending ya knowwhat's confusing different groups it waslike yeah there was a lot and there wasso many different stylesthe other thing well anyway so that'slike that got you guys a lot of Fame andstuff so you guys now are like you knowteaching and then doing shows and stuffso like I guess what what where has thatgotten you now and like what are whatare you guys planning to do in thefuture so actually today we're opening anew studio in downtown LA it's calledthe complex so we have that we have wedid like a Kickstarter IndieGoGo typething for our first studio in MontereyParkmmm called kynges dojo we currently havethree studios I believe in China overall over these Chinamen China a lot nowcuz you got you just got back from Chinalike a couple weeks ago dang so youworried that what's I figured you werethere doing like shows or something yeahyeah so we have a lot of work in Chinanow too so all over the place other thanthat just teaching with around the worldworkshops normal stuff some of the guyschoreographed for like kpop stuff wellthat's that yeah so pretty much anythingto do it dance and music we're trying tobe have our little hands in I guess andthen yeah your your little hands youhave like your little swords yeah how doyou guys actually dance with foot I justknow you walked around like one day someweapons throwing some like yeah you knowuh so okay so in China I wouldn'timagine hip-hop dance is popular inChina but apparently it is now it is itis they started making it mean well youknow how like China's government is theylike time control what people see so nowthey're living like dance be a big thingoh that's so that's why I think it'skind of blowing up a lot more nowthere's a political reason for thatwhy would I don't know money has lessmoney yeah they don't I don't know Idon't know how a China works actuallycuz they're communist country yeah Idon't know how their money works so Igot a lot of it got a lot of it andthey're giving it all to you guys teachthem dance and do shows for that so coolyou're like a that's the most Americanthing you can do dude you're a patriotlet's dump so so like what is the dancescene like in China like I've been toChina because I used to do shows withNBA dance shows and so I went to inChina probably like two or three yearsago and so there was like a huge youknow huge NBA crowd there the and they'dfreaking love basketball and but we werethere and it seemed like they reallyenjoyed what we were doing too but theymaybe weren't too familiar with it Iguessbut it seemed like a cool place to likefor it to blow up someday and I knowthat the breaking song is starting togrow a little bit sorry my dog isbarking H so I so another breaking sceneis starting to blow up a little bit moreand you're seeing more cruising stuffcome from there I don't know if otherhip-hop styles are like you know there'screws in those Styles coming from Chinabut seems like it's a growing place yeahfor sureI think the dancers over there likethey're hungry to like learn so likethey're leveling up pretty quickly sothey're coming coming from the lead foreverybody are they dressed as ninjasno they got them like Crouching TigerHidden Dragon outfit you know what I'mtalking aboutthe kung-fu outfit they dress likenormal hip-hop what if they made a movielike Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon butit was just dancing maybe and they juststart flying yeah it would like fly ohyeah it's heavy dope we could just makeit I would watch it but I'm not Chineseit needs to be in Chinese and then likehave subtitles or whatever like dub overit I guess you could do that just justsay something else and then your mouthis moving differently oh man yeah that'sa I think it's ideas are yeah yeah thatsounds like a quick way to get introuble so um yeah so that's that'stight that you guys are in China doinglike a lot of them cool things umso aside from teaching and stuff arethere any big shows that you guys areworking on like I'm comparing you tolike maybe Jabbawockeez who lives whohave a show out in Vegas that theyperform and then they also had starteddoing some traveling thing or whateverbut yeah they do they're doing showslike all over the place is that like inthe cards for you guys to I think we'vealways talked about doing like our owntheater show I think there's just somuch going on right now that there'salways something in the background thatis happening as far as I know I thinkwe're just more focused right now onjust one this complex opening and thenyeah from there we'll see where thatleads I guess mm-hmmbut I'm pretty sure in the future wewould love to do it like a theater showyeah you know it's just funya know I think that that's that's acool way to like let to like let yourstuff shine and you get full control oflike what yeah well assuming you getfull control I mean probably you got towork with a lot of the other theaterpeople to make sure that they're gettingwhat they need out of it but but yeahyou got a lot more control of like whatyou can do you could say I want thisexact music I want to extend this partso long you know compared I'm comparingit to like something like what you didon world of danceyou would do a set that's like a minutelong or whatever um have to getcopyrights versus music yeah oh yeahthere's a lot of stuff you got to do thered tape there's a lot of red tape yeahthat and so many hoops to jump throughand then there's a lot of productionstaff that are like giving you ordersdifferent so I imagine that that kind oflike I don't know it lets you notcontrol it as much as you probably wantyou know like because I imagine when Ido stuff I go oh I have this vision forand then someone goes oh well that songdoesn't work yeah oh well actuallysuccessful what the heck was I gonna sayI was gonna ask you something I forgotoh so at your studio at your dancestudio like you have now you have threeyou said three Studios in China and youhave two in LA and are you planning togo anywhere else like he's always likean option I mean people always ask us toopen studios you know near them so EastCoast yeah maybeokay like pretty much anywhere is anoption I think I guess it probablydepends on where you're people areplanning to go cuz you obviously need tohave some of your people there mhm allof them are here right yeah I would saymost of us are here and then we havepartners called sino stage those are ourpartners in China okay I run that overtherenow do the students that go there dothey have to wear ninja outfits no Imean if you want you can what if Idislike you know we go to Disneylandit's like okay to dress up I feel likeif you're walking it's like mashed upyou're like cool you're like no one'sgonna look at you what would I have towear it for them to like kick me outit's like what's the limit here what ifI was with a ninja next question alrightthat's that's the end of that so I withwith all your successI imagine you've you've seen a lot oflike cool things in your life so can youtell me maybe about like the coolestthing you've seen like that dance hasbrought you to or like the mostinspirational or even the funniest orall three as a good question I guess thecoolest would have to be world of dancethat was like just being surrounded bypretty much everybody's like a master intheir craft you're basically like in aroom with like a bunch of masters andthey're just like vibing out togethereveryone's like friendly so there waslike no hate or beef so that was coolfor sure I think that was like thenumber one memory traveling wise I wouldsay maybe going to like the Philippineslike seeing like there's like a dota 2championship or something like that ohthe video game yeah so is like a Oh achampionship and then like the GreenRanger was there and the Green Rangerwas he actually dressed up as the greenI don't know does he wear like regularclothes cuz that's what they wouldalways do right I don't know if I wasthe green I would do that all except Iwouldn't want to be the Green Ranger I'dprobably be the what I hate the blackRanger well you know because cuz Zakfrom the original one would be likelet's go he'd like strike he'd be he'ddo a body roll into a fighting stanceand it was like the dough fish at leastwhen I was ten years old or wheneverwhatever I was when I watched that I waslike that's how you fight then I gotbeat up your sets man bring it backno I just want to getstreet fights like that just like a whatdid you say to me let's goit's morphin time then like as I'm doingthat they're like beating me up I knowyeah my yeah that sounds like a bad ideadon't do that but it was cool to watchyeah cuz he was just they were justfighting do you know the little likepudding whatever I never understood thatactually I don't understand cuz it justwas like clay and then they all of asudden we're like things and you justkicked them once again dead and I'm likeman you guys screwed up a little bitlike if you put all your faith in liketaking over the world with those littlethings like dude you guys or why didn'tyou just form one giant putty baby yeahseriously like why did you pick thatlittle that little guy why didn't youjust make a Godzillayeah and just say hey you don't need tofight nobody just walk around this cityand you know by the time the PowerRangers like get there like thingtogether and kick you like half the cityalready destroyed man I should have beenRita Rapunzel it's time to conquer earthlet's make look like monsters to getbeat up High School is basically righthigh schoolers led by a giant head ledby a giant head who's never fought a dayin his lifecome on dude Power Rangers jeez I don'tknow shout out the Power Rangers don'tsponsor this show Oh God look at me ohdamn um so like what about what is thereany like movie opportunities like in theworks for you guys mm good question Idon't know I mean I feel like most dancemovies don't go as far as like theydon't you would want them to go yeah Imean but yes oviedo yes I actuallyalways thought about writing a scriptfor a movie that had to do withhip-hop and breaking mmmthat would show more of like the therawness behind it because every dancemovie I've seen has always beencheesiest yeah yeah yeah sure it's likeyou know I'll watch beach street orwhatever just to see the dancing andthen as soon as they start talkingoh you biters you ain't worth the beatthat's what's the point I turned it offyou know I mean but so I've alwayswanted to see a movie like that and Icompare it to eight milelike with mmm where he you know he'sjust like it's almost just a story of emand em really but like there's I feellike they just put like a really grittylike you know veil over it to show themore raw side of like anti popping andyou know battle rapping and stuff and soI always thought that that'd be dope totake that on with with breaking yeah letme double its um yeah I don't know thattelling the real story of like someone'slife versus a little bit cuz like thisis dance somebody yeah the things thathave always bothered me and it kind ofwhy I started this podcast was because Iwould always see like Hollywoodportrayal of breaking and hip-hop danceand it's always like let's do hit hayeah and I'm like alright yeah maybe Imean if you're you know I'm not tryingto like shame that but there's more toit than then hip-hop there's uh you knowlike what I mean I saw some stupid videoof like there's a girl going like andyou know like it was some weird dantlike teaching how to do some stupiddance in a music video and I was likethat's where we he was so it was funnybut uh it might have been a jokeactually um but it was just like yeahthat's not the hip-hop Ino so I wantedto like show the other side of it andtalk to people who've like you knowlived through it and are still livingthrough it to put that on there so thatyou know people who don't know hip-hopdon't just get the one-sided view fromthe Hollywood perspective because reallyHollywoodI think the way Hollywood looks at isthey go okay what is cool looking mm-hmmthis isn't the highlight of our movie ora commercial or whatever we just want tosee some cool moves and look and peoplesmiling it's donewhich is fine like I think that's cooltoo cuz you know any exposure is goodexposure but if that's all you ever seeyou go all like what is breaking what iship-hop what is this it's people smilingand doing backflips and second there's alot more to it than that there's like ahuge hustle behind it there's you knowlong hours at a studio or you know onthe concrete if you like that I meanthere's long there's long hours justlike putting into your craft and stuffthat I think you miss if you only see itso but yeah so that's why I wanted tobring you on because you obviously havegone through the hustle and a struggleto get to where you are and that's whyI've brought on a lot of other peopleand yeah yeah maybe someday I'll write amovie huh sounds dope I think it's justlike if you really understood like howmuch even like physically we go throughthe risk we're putting our bodiesthrough even not just for like now butin the future like it's kind of it'skind of crazythat's great because it's like it's likegetting beat up every day you're notlike you're not getting black eyesyou're definitely doing stuff that Imean I guess as an example like when Iwas learning windmills I would go homeevery day with like a bruise on myshoulder a bruise on my hip and then Icome back the next day and do it againand then the bruza just get bigger andbigger and bigger and then you know andthen tons of scars and then eventually Ithink my body just got used to and waslike alright you win no more no morebruises and then it stopped bruising andit stopped hurting but I'm pretty surethat's gonna correct it for sure forsure so I take care of our bodies gottatake care you're younger you know wedidn't stretch we do just like jump inand just go for ityeah that was I do that all the timeand it wasn't until I tore my meniscusmy right knee and like the doctor waslike you're gonna need surgery you'renever gonna break again and I like it'sover for meand then yes I was just like tripping atthat point and trying to figure out youknow how to how to how to get throughthat and so then I put I just took likea whole year off from dance and just letit heal I was like really scared ofgetting surgery because I had a bunch offriends that got the surgery yeah and sothen um they they think they couldn'tlike dance so as much as they couldafter the surgery saw a super scared ofit and so I just said what do I have tolose let me just quit like a year andsee what happens and if I really can'tmove then I'll go and get a surgery andthat's it the doctor told me that thatwouldn't be a big deal so to wait for itas long as I'm not like did you getsurgery no I didn't get surgery right soI took the whole healed by cell took theyeah and I went to a physical therapistworked out my knee got a lot of like youknow work done on it and and you knowand I just rested a long time cuz I toremy meniscus in high school remember yeahand then you got like hand hopsyeah you got crazy hand offs hey Ididn't know you like tort and dude nosurgery that's crazyyeah cuz I was scared I probably I meanat that moment if I was in a differentmysaid I probably would have got it but Iwas like dude if I get a surgery and Idon't need it and or and like messes itup because the surgery basically youhave a flap of your meniscus which is abunch of cartilage between your knees isit's like torn and doing all sorts ofwaving in the wind and stuff and itfirst of all cartilage takes a long timeto heal so it's it's gonna it's gonnahave problems and then the surgery isthey like they cut it off yeah yeahright move it clean it so then if it'snot perfect like now there's rubbingthere so then they say what happens islike you can get arthritis and lots ofproblems later on in your life too andthen your knee is gonna functiondifferently now that that's not therecuz you you essentially do need thatthere but yeah because it's it's causingmore problems it's causing pain they'llcut it off yeah yeah and so I guess minehealed was kind of healing weird and soI just went to the physical therapistand they would just break down scartissue until it eventually got into agood place where it doesn't bother meand so it really doesn't bother meeither I mean it's good like once in awhile like if it's cold or somethingI'll feel like a little bit of pain orold man like that so that there's thatand then I man I injured my shouldersboth of my shoulders this one was frommy right shoulder was on a I waspracticing do you know what a Arabiantwist flip is it's like you it's likeyou kind of jump like you're gonnabackflip and then you twist 180 and thenfront flip so I was doing that so like Ihave to throw you have to throw your armkind of like this and I threw it way toohard enough effed up my rotator cuff andat that time I was learning air flaresand I had probably like two or three atthat time and so I had a quit Air flightso I lost my air flares and then I coulddude I had to quit breaking for a longtime because of that came back zero airflares zero Arabian twist and a lot ofother moves that I lost yeah okay then Istarted working again getting all thesethings backand then I was working with the warriorsat the time and we were doing theseshows and there was this crazy trickthat we were trying to figure out how todo where I don't you actually me and youmade this trick with Vince the one youknow the one where Vince what's do thesplits on the ground and then I wouldjump and then you jump in here maybe Iwas jumping over you I don't rememberbut we would do that so we were doingthat except our friend Quang who's likethe buffest guy I know he's doing likehis planche like push-ups down whereVince would have been and then one guyjumps over him and then I was jumpingover that guy and then we got anotherguy who gets thrown over here so it waslike it all happens at the same time soit goes boom yeah and so while we werepracticing this he missed oh and landedstraight on me so I went headfirst intothe ground hit my shoulders super hardand it just like effed on my shoulderand so I went to the doctor they're likeoh yeah this is like a common linebackerinjury and I was like yeah cuz I'm afreak yeah look at me and yeah just likedon't don't do whatever you're doing andI'm like okay what do I do and they'relike that's all you can do all right sothen then I lost air flares again andnow my now both shoulders are messed upand this is my catching shoulder soundslike it's hard to get yeah I always likenot to not too happy with that so I haveair flares a long time ago man I can hittwo once in a while if I can deal withthe pain in the shoulder but if I'm notdown to do that and usually I'm not it'slike yeah it's kind of like oh yeah yeahthat's an airflow I guess so yeah that'sthat's the pains of life of a b-boyyeah yeah so do you have any um chronicinjuries from dancing hmm I'm stilldealing with the torn back even to thecorner back yeahso I think I like twisted wrong I feellike I tore a muscle in it hasn't beenconfirmed yet but when was that that'sbeen like two years I've been every nowand then my back will pull so I can'teven like bend over to get my caroh that's been fun sometimes I get likea weird back pain it's not like nearlyas bad but sometimes it'll be like oohwhat's going on like it makes it so ifyou're like in a weird position it likehurts a lot soon I don't know yeah forsure that the meniscus tear sucked forsure when I try to learn air flares backin the day my shoulder went out of placeI stopped doing that oh yeah I was thereI don't know if you're doing air flarebut I remember you did pop your shoulderat once yeah doing a hand holding fundid yeah I'm lucky I didn't and thatnever happened to me because that wouldbe and we were yelling back then too solike yeah you pop it probably whenyou're a sophomore dude that sucksyeah and then you just started learninghand hops on the other hand yeah andlike you know now you can hand off for ayear yeah it's like riding a bike Inever practice them anymoreright and you could just do it yeah heyno weird I get to hand hops threehandouts maybe so you know yeah yeah Ineed a break my soul no - well actuallyI guess that's a good thing for you likeif you ever lost your legs just be likei'm handi-capable hop around dude thatis sickbut yeah injuries for sure suck yeahit's like you know it was like in theend it's my job so like if somethinggoes wrong mm-hmm game overoh I want to see if like dance startsblowing up to the point where it's likea sport and stuff like you know I get Iguess with the Olympics and stuff I wantto see you know if it was at the NBAlevel and they had all these likeyou know good doctors and stuff likeworking with these athletes to keeptheir bodies like perfectly how goodpeople would get yeah for sure becauseI'm 100% with that yeah I mean Artie Ithink already you're seeing like it's alot of now little kids who probablytheir parents were b-boys or B girlsback in the day are now like ten yearsold and you know double flipping overyeah each other kids are crazy now yeahthey do stuff that I'm like I'm nevergonna try that in my yeah well so it'slike I think you see that now and thenso you're seeing kids that are good fromlike birth essentially and you know Ithink once it becomes like a biggersport and maybe there's more researchinto like how to keep people in physicalgood physical shape for itI think melding those two thingstogether dude you're gonna see somecrazy like 20 year olds like literallyflying just I don't know yeah they'relike it's triple air flares yeah likeit's nothing yeah you like the futurefor like at least our generations likemore coaching them I feel like if itdoes become a sport it's like oh yeahfor sure there's no y generation becomecoaches where the teams which would becreated there the era of like gettingbroke off figuring out how to do it intheir the era of like oh you got brokeoff and can teach me how to be a pro capso now I can do it when I'm 10 a dude ohyeah and then when they have kids whoknowsbe crazy or I don't know maybe breakingdoesn't exist at that time I know manOlympics oh yeah I know where hopefullyit goes through you yeah is it throughor no I think it's like 90% sure I don'tknow I'm pretty sure it's going throughI don't want to say 100 because I don'tknowyeah what are your thoughts on thatthings though I think as long as theyfind like a fair judging system likeeven like it like you have to becertified to judge you knowthere's like you do understand thecriteria so it's not so like biased oranything I think that's what will makeit legit versus people seeing it once inthe Olympics and then all of a suddenthey're like oh no you just can't do itbecause you know just because it wasmessed up the first time so mm-hmm aslong as they get it right the first timeit'll last possible yeah I think I thinkso too i think it's it's tight that it'sin the Olympics and I'm really excitedto see it there and I think we've as ascene come very far to get it here but Ialso am worried that the scene is notready for it because for one there's alot of pushback against it which that'sgonna be problems and then yeah thejudging I think there's a there's a lotof hump to get over to make that rightbecause I think basically judging now iskind of like you winno you just point to the dude that youthink wins that ain't gonna cut it forthe Olympics I mean because they're usedto points and whatever and like oh yeahhe wins he got ten points and I give himzero like that doesn't that ain't gonnawork dude okay so I think yeah everybodyeverybody in the scene really needs tocome together think about how to do thisand I'm not just talking about like theoh Jesus I'm talking about anybody hasseen who has a good idea to like try tofigure it out because I think ifanything has been proven is that wedon't have a good judging system otherthan I mean I think one two three pointto who you think wins is fine with meat from like an artistic perspectivebecause I look at it is like there'sthese judges here and they have theirown artistic perspective on what theythink is good and then pointing at it isjust saying my opinion is this that Ilike this more and if the Olympics isokay with that that's cool but the in inand simply because that kind of goeswell with the way breaking was formedand how we've always done it so it staystrue to how we do itI think there's holes in that for surebut I don't think that's gonna fly withthe Olympics because it's kind of like Ithink what they're gonna say is well ifsomebody who's watching says well whydid that guy win and then they go ohbecause Darren from kin just said sobecause he wore a ninja costume and theother guy didn't okay well alrightthat's how you get an Olympic medal thenyeah yes so that's not gonna fly youknow what I mean so but then again Ithink giving points to specific criteriaI have some reservations on that becauseI think it breaks down a little bit whenyou go okay if you imagine a guy who'sreally well-rounded going against a guywho's really good at maybe a few thingsI can still see either of those guyswinning but a judging system thattailors more to all-around person thatguy is always gonna win in that batterso I have some problems with that it'sit's I like to always compare it topainting you know where you're judgingan art piece so say you had like theMona Lisa and you're looking at I forgetthe name of the painting but like it'sPicasso's painting of the war where it'slike all this cubism kind of thingthere's like a lot of like chaos goingon there's a lot of argue if you werecomparing those and they were back likesay those paintings are battling righthow do you judge that yeah because inone way you could say oh the realism onthis one is much better than that sothey win but then you could say but thisemotion hereI see more emotion in it I want that onebut then you go oh but the Mona Lisasmile has this slight little like thingto it so maybe it's like inner pain orwhatever so there's an emotion in thattoo I so there's like a huge failure ahuge debate that gets involved with itand so how do you put criteria to thatand it could like ruin the art form witha really coolbe like okay I'm just gonna do for workjust to get the points you know yeahversus like if that's not what youfeeling then fucking don't which is sowhich is why I really think the pointand point to who you think wins is agood system because it's at least goingokay it's being true to your impressinglike an audience right and showing yourart form to that audience and theaudience is saying okay I want over thatand the audience being the judge so Ithink it's good that it stays true tothat and they're they they're able toput their own creative opinion into intothe choice of the winner so I thinkthat's good but I do think that itbreaks down a little bit so I was I'vebeen playing with the idea of like ifthere was just like 20 judges andthey're all from different areas of theworld they've all you know maybe hadso-and-so amount of experience 20 yearsor whatever renowned or whatever youknow dancers and they're set in in theroom as like the crowd and they're justjudging and so you get 20 differentpoints of people so basically yoursystem is a point system of 20 totalpoints yeah and and your score is justbased on who that got that particularaudience member points to I think that'sfine like I think this is as long as thejudges are like credentialed whateverthey need to do to get to that spot likethen it's like I feel like that is thefairest way first is doing like you getpoints for footwork or top rocks styleand power you know I mean yeah becausethat's so subjective and yeah I mean Ithere you can get in long debates aboutpeople going like that's not to me I godude who cares yeah like you're sayingthat's footwork and that's not for itit's something cares like you knowI mean that guy's expression of a girl'sexpression or whatever they think it issoon it's just dancing it's just amovement it's either cool or it's notdope or it's not so why don't you justjudge on that rather his a pinkietouched the ground like what the hellare you even talking about do yaunless the footwork competition dudeyeah dude I think footwork competitionsare the stupidest thing and this is yeahthis is a hot take and probably a yeah Iwould imagine a lot of people would bemad at this but I think footworkcompetitions are the stupidest shit everbecause it's like it's just a way forpeople to like go in and go hey look atme I I did footwork based on this modelof what everyone thinks footwork is andI win cool like not to diss anybodywho's done thatyou know usually the person who wins isvery good at what they do but I've seenpeople that have very good what I wouldconsider footwork and they lose and it'sbecause what they're doing is maybe notmainstream footwork you know I think themainstream footwork is probably thatkind of like Rocksteady style a littlebit where it's like very step II a lotof pauses and stuff little littlefreezes in their footwork but I've seenlike more flowy styles where they'redoing sweeps and they go on to theground and like kind of rolled aroundand stuff I'm like they're still usingtheir feet so it's hard to say that it'snot footwork in my opinion like evolvingwith yeah when when I look at thefootwork competition the way I break itdown is there it's it's a way of sayingyou're not allowed to do all this otherstuff and if you do it in this littlebubble then you win and if you touch anyof this stuff out here you lose which Imean I guess that's kind of cool but atthe end of the day it's kind of like alet's tie our one hand behind our backand let's box that's what it is to meit's not like a real boxing match ittie both of your hands together and liketry to bite each other you know what Imeanwhich that's probably fun to watch andI'm not gonna lieforward battles are fun to watch but Idon't know if you're talking aboutstraight up breaking dude I don't know Ithink it's stupid yeah that's my hottake don't hate me for it so we'recoming up on 50 minutes or so yeah yeahdude so I know recently you got engagedright so how's it yeah how's that goinglike are you guys planning your weddingand everything yeah already got thevenue Oh dope next year already gotphotographer videographer got the foodyou know Nate course ten course dangdude what happened then got theguestlist going hmm you're invited ofcourse oh the wife right now ready Ionly get me in February yeah Februarynext year not oh dude did you already ohyeah okay well okay so you guys aretaking that's good me and Keiko took ourtime too we heard we were engaged forlike two yearsoh yeah yeah we were engaged for liketwo years I think and then we um cuz shewas in nursing school at the time andthen I was I don't think I was doinganything but I wasn't gonna plan thewedding I mean that's real how much howmuch of your opinion is going into thewebsite I'll try the food with you youdude yeah every single one of my ideasout the door I mean you got to wear thesocks though he pulled it offdo you yeah so he's talking aboutI goofed on everyone at my wedding yeahcuz I like to make jokes I think I madethe joke too Caicos mother because shewas like you know really involved liketrying to like have us do all thesethings and I was like I think we'regonna have a ninja turtle themed weddingand she's just like shocked went throughher face like are you serious like ifshe she takes everything really seriousso that's why I said it she freaked outfor a second and then um I was justsaying oh I'm just messing aroundoh and I remember she asked me like whatis what kind of food are you gonna getI'm just getting a taco truck yeah somesome fear in her face ya know hey I'llstill stick by this opinion I think thatif you did your wedding at like a nicepark and you got a taco truck to comethrough and you know you Davi say haveto get it on a good day for weather butyou get a taco truck and you just invitelots of people you get a really dope DJand then make sure you know the city'snot trippin out about sound and stuffand just did your wedding just like as aalmost like a barbecue you know I thinkthat would be the funnest thing ever beso like less formal yeahtakes out the you need to sit by thisperson it's like yeah like cuz I I'vealways hated like the formality ofthings and so when we started planningour wedding I was like dude this is notfor me man okay let's just like cuz Iwas seriously saying let's just go tothe the courthouse and sign papers inwhatever and then just do it like thatbut I knew that wasn't gonna fly so wehad to dothing and I thought it was a good wayyeah I mean Keiko did a good jobfiguring out what to do and I helped alot with like decorations I guessbecause she would say pay build this andbecause I know how to build so I wouldgo and build it for her so I built awhole bunch of stuff for her or for usand over here come on yeah so yeah itturned out and you know we were lookingfor a good venue so we went to a lot ofdifferent ones and we went to that oneit was about the flower farm in Loomisnear Sacramento so I really liked it shereally liked it because there was likethese chickens they wander around and wethought it was like the funniest thingever because I grew up near Fair Oakswhich there's chickens wandering aroundall the time so it was like something Iwas used to a little bit and I used tohave chickens as a kid tooand so I was like oh this is fun shethought it was funny too so we're likeyeah let's do that's why we chose thatplace they don't spot for sure and soyeah we I mean we made it we took thatand I guess the reason we chose it wasbecause having it on like a somewhatfarm setting like a nice farm settingtook away a little bit of the formalityso I was happy with that so I think itturned out well I need super dope to seeold friends and stuff too yeah that wascool yeah and then yeah during theceremony I got to goof on everybodybecause I said hey well my vows you knowI said all my vows and ice and then atthe end I said Sancta cake oh I wish Ihad because I basically said I'm gladthat you let me do a surprise TeenageMutant Ninja Turtle themed wedding andshe was like oh what and then I likelift up my pants and I had a NinjaTurtles sock on to get clothes thereyeah so I like to it was a good I thinkthat was good yeahyeah yeah cuz I was just I was reallytrying to not make it so forth like Idon't know it when I lost it even likewhat the new job is playing like thatwas just oh yeah yeah I'd already setthe tone like it was gonna formal youknow I was yeah yeah exactly like weyeah we played new jobbies it wasanother reflection no reflection eternaland that's mainly because I think whenme and Keiko first started dating I usedto play that song a lot of snot way Idon't know I can't remember but yeah shereally likes that song tooso anyway so yeah we played that becauseit was like we're trying to set the toneas like this is like have some fun andyou know chill yeah relax have a goodpeople going yeah y'all formalin shityeah you mean like the adults they'relike somewhere dressed in suits they'rejust like hanging do my dad was anotherthing cuz I knew for sure my dad wasgonna wear and so everyone was likeasking me like what's the attire and Iwas like well I don't care what you wearI'll probably be wearing a suit causeit's my wedding day but like you're notgonna offend me if you wear freakingboard shorts yeah in fact I wouldprobably think that's really funny and agood idea cuz it would probably be hotthat day but and then I would say butfor sure I know my dad is not wearing asuit so he kind of just already set thedress code yeah cuz I could tell him towear a suit and he ain't gonna wear sothat's already that's a dress code rightthereso like Caicos doubt of saying oh shemight wear aa tux or whatever I was like you knowyou wear whatever you want to wear butfor sure my dad is not gonna wear a suitso if you're trying to match him likeyou're gonna be looking a lot flier thanhis you know he's gonna come in with hiswork boots is like new pair of jeansthat and I'm talking like he'll havethese black jeans and what he does iswhen he works he has the black jeansthey get holes in them so then like ayear later he buys a new pair so he justbought his new pair without wedding andthen but he's probably still wearingthem working now you know what I mean sohe just you know was smart about what orI don't know I don't know yes so that'sthat's my dad so yeah dude so is likeyour wedding planning like is that goingpretty good like our young Jen's in theindustry you know oh really okay doesn'tmake up artists for wedding so she knowsa lot of people just makes it easier soshe she's not stressing I guess yougotta you're more than a year out yeahyou guys probably aren't stress in themyeah her friends a wedding planner - soodo hired her so just take all thestress away you know he did most of theplanning I think you did most of theplanning paid for everything and we hada day of coordinator though so we workedwith them and then I had a friend whowas a deejay so he did all that and hedid all the lighting and stuff yeahRJ shoutout to him a supreme soul he wasalso on TV don't music to you yeah yeahI saw well yeah I really wanted goodthat was the one thing about the weddingthat I really wanted was good mean Ithink so I was like sure like cuz Ithought of it like this if the weddingsucks it's probably because of a DJ -yeah or if you didn't like really enjoyit and also I also thought is like ifthe wedding really sucks how to save itso it all hinges on a good DJcrazy cuz I it's like yep if somethinggoes bad and the DJ just goes you knowhe plays some sound and in society youknow and then place you know some dopetrack and then people just are like youknow getting down to itdude you save the wedding's like justimagine it you know oh no the weddingthere the the bride spilled wine allover her white dress and the DJ goes ohno yo dude drop that beat son wedding issaved right I don't know I'm not a wayand I'd probably get a divorce yeah wellI would say just enjoy the weddingplanning time try to like have fun withthem for sure don't let it stress youout yeah cuz anything is just likesigning checks like yeah ya know a lotof money like sign checks for sure onetime in your life oh yeah one time inyour life yeah just I think I have astory that like puts it into perspectivewe were like this was like paid probablylike a month or two out from the weddingcake I was like looking at the differentdesserts to have so she wanted all theselike cookies and she like startedbreaking down and crying and stuff whatare you crying aboutshe's like oh my god everything's goingwrong these cookies they're they theydon't have like chocolate cookies theyhave chocolate chip cookie you know itwas like well so they don't havechocolate cookies they got chocolatechip oh oh no I don't have the secondbest cookie they have the first bestcookwhy are you crying and I was like heyjust I started laughing and she's likegetting mad at me and I'm like but heretake a step back and think about whatyou're saying you're like crying aboutcookies like let's just be happy we canhave cookies yeah everybody lovescookies and if you don't love a cookielike fuck you don't you know so yeah andthen I think she she like kind ofstarted laughing too and then she's likeoh yeah it's just the stress yeah solet's just laugh at this how does thecookie and then realize that cookies aregood and everybody loves cookies so ifyou don't like this particular cookieyou can go to cookie hell any cookiesponsors out there yeah mrs. field I'mtrying to remember the other one ChipsAhoywhere you at abisco hey Nabisco I needsome cookies dude you can pay me oh damnso okay so let's like try to wrap theshow up all right so what's in thefuture for you got for you and now thatyou're getting married like starting upthese studios like obviously stilldancing like where do you see this goinglike you're gonna keep teaching you'regonna like do more shows or kind of getaway from there and start coaching orwhatever I don't know yeah I feel likemy body is starting to tell me dude youneed to slow down so I think well rightnow I'm working on a program to helptheir dance teachers or upcoming danceteachers like make money withoutdepending on like you know likeauditions or even a dance studio likejust make it on your own just hustle onyour own and just understand how to uselike marketing and you know salesmanshipandstuff to do it all on your own so youcan just make a living off of that andteach the students that you want toteach me a life can you teach me how tomake a good podcast can you got it dudeI'll do the marketing for you I do thisbut this my guess is already good manI'm killing it I'm terrible at marketingdude I don't even use social media likemuch I mean I use Facebook but it'susually to talk to my mom mm-hmm or whoyou know someone in my family yeah anduh yeah so like a marketing on socialmedia is a nightmare for me yeah likejust thinking about it I'm like dude Idon't want to do that yeah yeah no Ifeel you I feel like especially ourgeneration and so one was like you feellike you have to post a bunch of stuff Idon't like post yeah I feel like it'snot about that it's more about like ifyou understand like how you know likewhen we buy stuff it's usually throughsomebody paying for an ad to show ohyeah yeah I mean so I feel like if youunderstand that like yes you're payingmoney to get your stuff out there but itwill come back to you but a lot of ourgeneration they just want to do it forfreeso that's why they just post a bunch ofstuff but it's not doing anything yeahthere's a lot of tools out there thatlike use the data that it tracks to likesell you stuff seems kind of like theysee like once they see your ad and youcan talk and they click you can targetthem to like you know show up later inthe Blake whoa yeah we've seen thatDarrin has looked up big black manytimes follow me around many likes to doit late at night so next time he'sscrolling through Instagram let's givehim oh hey Kurt you sell big black allthose we got the guy exactly so subduedI have the sides calm like how many canI put you down for a whole bag a bushelthe pockets is led up to that one ohyeah yeahyeah here's an announcement I'm startingmy business a big black bill does calmand check it Darren is my first and onlycustomer thank you you know buying myhost star is somebody owns that domainyeah probably somebody does hey pleasesponsor this I don't care see that'd befunny if like a hundred episodes in I[Laughter]was gonna ask you something again um yesokay so you're um yeah so you're gettingyou're like teaching people how to likemarket themselves and stuff and okay sothat's like you're building like kind ofa business around it yeah okay yeahthat's definitely something that isuseful to a lot of people mainly to mefreelancers you know it's hard out thereyeah it's it's hardwell yeah cuz we I think we live in aworld of freelancing now cuz I've justbeen noticing that a lot of like typicaljobs careers are like getting outsourcednow to freelancers because the overheadfor them is a lot lower they can droptheir costs a little bit then thecompany also doesn't need to pay forlike and health benefits and whateverother benefits they use so it's kind oflike in their best interest to do thatand you know sometimes you know they'repaying more maybe like per hour for afreelancer but saving a lot of moneybecause they don't need to do deal withany of the stuff that they deal with andthey just go okay here's the here's theproject here's the scope and you'regonna do it for this feed I am and thenit's like easier for them to do dobusiness that wayI've noticed that that's been happeninga lot and there's a lot ofresources out there for freelancers tolike be able to do that so yeah I see inlike 10 years it's probably gonna be alot of that yeah sure you know and Iwork so I work as an engineer and Icould see that easily happening yeah Imean it already does happen to us but Ican easily see a lot of companiesstepping back from having full-timeemployees to maybe only like a couple ofthem and then they outsource everythingright sure um cuz yeah I already know ofcompanies that do that right now so sothat's cool so that's your you'reworking on that kind of stuff so beforewe close the show is there any likeshout outs or any kind of plugs you wantto give mmmjust follow me at at Darren our Wang andcheck out my website Darren are wongkomand dude thanks for having me I feellike I haven't seen you in so longyeah nobody even before the wedding Ihaven't seen you in a while yeah causeright after the wedding I moved out hereno I moved down here before the weddingand then during the wedding we were 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TRANSCRIPT FOR EPISODE ONEEPISODE 1Welcome to DREAM TO SHINE show. I'm Loreta and in this episode, I will be sharing with you my personal story.In this show I will discuss about overcoming challenges, getting out of your comfort zone and the importance of fulfilling your dreams one step at a time.I grew up in a small village (or kampong) in the Philippines called PANGARAP which means DREAM. I'm the eldest daughter, I have 2 sisters and I'm supposed to have a younger brother but he didn't make it and went to heaven when I was 3 yrs old. My mother worked part time and active in the community and church services. There will always be events and feast in our village. Life was amazing in Pangarap Village. Everyone is like a Family and very close. My Mom is very supportive, whenever I have some activities at school or I was chosen to participate in contests within school or division, whether to recite a poem, declamation, sing or dance, she will guide me. My mom will help me practice and memorize my lines, she loves to sing and dance, so I got these talents from her. I studied primary and secondary course in this village and attend church and community events. The only time we leave the village is to buy things from the nearest town. Good thing there was no university there, or I wouldn't have the chance to get my college degree in the City of Manila. ^_^ I would be stuck thereI have a BIG DREAM which is to become a Manager someday, that's why I study hard and excel at school. My father (who has already passed on) lost his parents when he was in 9 yrs old and was forced to work as Electrician at such a young and tender age. He was the first generation of OFW in my family not knowing that I would follow his footsteps taking over his roles and responsibilities, to provide for my family and in order to achieve my big dreams. I was 7 years old when he left for Saipan. After 6 years, he came back for good because of his heart condition. I was not used to having a father around and I got the impression that he prefers a son, so I had to work very hard to prove to him that I can also do what boys can do. Since I'm the eldest my father would ask me to assist him, whether it's to build our house, dig well and he even sent me 25 ft down to clean. During school holidays I would assist my father in the construction project and I'm the only girl in that group. Somehow my feminine side to be fabulous was not develop quite well. Since I'm the eldest I have no choice but to mature ahead of my time and be responsible for my sisters as my parents work. Fast forward, I graduated high school and college with a Bachelors degree in Information Technology with flying colors, worked for a few years in Manila and Cebu and had a opportunity to work in National University Hospital in Singapore. I came to Singapore in 1997 and my then-BF who is also from Pangarap Village, followed. We started our own Family. We have 2 children, our eldest son is now serving the army and our daughter is secondary 3.  I wear multiple hats and had to juggle multiple roles for my family in Singapore and back in the Philippines. Unfortunately I was not a superwoman and after 13 years I reached my limit and was burnt out. In 2010, I was at a crossroad and while searching for a change … a friend invited me to attend the Free Millionaire Mind Intensive Training, and that's where the next phase of my life began. I had to take the road less travelled. In 2011, I was invited to join the FRICH REVOLUTION ADVOCACY. It resonated with what I want to do after attending MMI and to fulfil new dreams which is to be FREE and RICH and leave a LEGACY for my children so that I will be the last OFW in my family and my children as well as the next generation in our Family will not experience the rich now poor later cycle. I was doing well in this advocacy but I became complacent and went back to my comfort zone. I did not set new dreams and goals for myself and for 2 years got stuck in a rat race again. My FRICH Mentors did not give up on me, so I still attend major and empowering events. I attended empowering seminars and workshops again from Success Resources and that's when I met Genecia Alloura of Soul Rich Woman. Part of Soul Rich Woman mission is to Empower Women, I said to myself she is the Mentor that I am looking for. And here I am fulfilling another dream of becoming one of the Fabulous Filipina podcast leaders.As I was preparing my contents, I remembered a vivid scene where my seed of podcasting was sown.My mom was listening to the radio, the only source of entertainment that time as we don't have a Television yet back then. She won a contest from the Dambuhalang DJ program. So we went to the radio station and I saw radio broadcasters and some child actors too. At the back of my mind, I'm thinking I want to be like them. But my radio and showbiz career did not push through :-) That was like a long lost dream that is coming true right now!!! Thanks to SOUL RICH WOMAN and FRICH REVOLUTION ADVOCACY, a platform where I can be the best version of myself EVERYDAY."For me everything starts from a dream, whether it's a small dream or an impossible dream. Along the way I've learned that I AM Possible. With dreams or goals to PURSUE, I take actions and generate RESULTS. And with God All Things Are Possible.We all have a choice whether to pursue a dream or not. Whether to set a small or big dream. Let's reflect on what results we want to achieve. Is it just a small result just to get by or is it a MASSIVE RESULT.Small dream will lead to small resultsBIG DREAMS WILL LEAD TO BIG RESULTSAnd when our purpose is compelling enough, we will pursue our dreams and goals and do whatever it takes to achieve it. PERSEVERANCE AND DETERMINATION TO SUCCEED are the key things to ACHIEVE OUR DREAMS.HOW WE DO ANYTHING IS HOW WE DO EVERYTHING.WHAT WE FOCUS ON EXPANDS.WHATEVER THE MIND CAN CONCEIVE AND BELIEVE, IT CAN ACHIEVE.In setting our dreams and goals, and as our teachers taught us to use SMART, ie Specific Measurable Achievable Realistic and Timebound. And if we want to stretch ourselves to achieve our full potential, we have to SET UNREASONABLE EXPECTATIONS. I hope my story will inspire you to step out of your comfort zone and do something that is close to your heart and achieve your dreams in 2020.I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing more of my personal journey on how you too could DREAM TO SHINE.

Today, I am grateful for my ability to connect with God and practice religion the way I see fit. I remember in school, how the Pledge of Allegiance and prayer were always coupled together.As we implement consistent, daily habits of connecting with God, we recognize His goodness, and maintain our freedom to continue to do so.Thank you Kathy, for pointing out how the words, good and God, are similar, and how all goodness comes from God.Goodness always triumphs! There are daily gifts we receive from God, it’s our choice whether we recognize them or not.We can have complete trust that His hand is guiding and directing everything!Today, I Give Myself Permission To Recognize God’s Goodness!I easily, completely, open my entire being to receive the gifts God has for meI am a witness that with God, anything is possible!I am a witness of God creating wondrous miraclesI know He is always thereI move forward boldly and courageouslyI know God is bringing about great abundance in my lifeI have enough, I am enough nowI hold onto inspirationClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook Group. Check out the NEW! Daily GPS Planner. It’s a Gratitude Journal and Planner in one! There is space to write your Inspired Shortcuts, record all your thoughts and impressions from The Daily Gratitude Call and even pages to help you stay focused on your Path of Purpose!To have a 15 minute conversation with Wylene Benson and gain new perspective on an area you desire to change, schedule a time on her calendar by going to this link: askwylene.comTo work more closely with Wylene, become a North Star Navigator! click here to learn more about her new book The Seven Gateways – Your Map to Integrity in Life and Business and the life-changing North Star Navigator Coursethat so many have discovered to be the key to living a life of purpose, fulfillment and happiness!Support the show (https://wylenebenson.com)

Manda and Errol met with Bill and Dani of Escape This Podcast! They are doing a tour of escape rooms in North America, and the divas were so happy to meet up with them in real life. And they sing! I’m so happy they sing!In this episode’s parody, we do the Confrontation song from Les Mis!ERROL:So Bill, we're trappedWe're tied up in these chainsBut over thereI see the answer plainBILL:Before you say another word, ErrolBefore we try answers in vain againListen to me! We should try to think things throughThis problem needs some time and discerning eyesThere is none but me who can set us freeAs I've explained, this phrase is all we needIf we can discern, the secret wordJust need to discernERROL:I just think you're mad!There's the solution plain and clearMany times I have explainedIt's all from that clue.ERROL TOGETHER WITH BILL:Many times I have explainedMany times I have explainedTry 24601I've told you what I saw!You'll see I'm right!Enter it - 24601!That's the only thing we've foundWhat is left, but nothing, now?Can't you see we're wasting timeSoon there'll be a price to payEvery chance we have to winwill be gone. We'll lose this way!You see nothing, it's unfair!We'll be stuck inside this jailI am trapped in here with youThis is why I hate split roomsBILL TOGETHER WITH ERROL:Believe of it, what you willThere is an answer, but it's not from youYou know nothing, here's advice.Why won't you help out instead?You know nothing of this wordYou would sooner see us deadBut not before I see this room is won!Quit ignoring me, I swearHow will we escape these bars?And the hours not up yet!Our game is not yet done!You know nothing, it's unfair!There's a clue but who knows whereSeems I am alone in hereIt's why I hate split rooms

"Think Carefully" by Pete Sanga #28Tagline: "How cancer and thoughts can change your world for the better"It is almost like we wait for something bad to happen to wake us up. For us to really take life serious and realise each day we lose, we will never gain again. Each second we spend not being grateful, happy or fulfilled is a second wasted. Yet when something bad happens, we can sometimes have a realisation that life is important, precious and beautiful.Pete Sanga shares his story of how cancer and controlling his thoughts has massively changed his life and future. He speaks of tangible tips we can all use and incorporate to live a life of happiness, gratitude and fulfilment without having to go through cancer like he did.A truly remarkable individual who gave off a beautiful energy and had an infectious aura about him. Someone much wiser than me with experience I was grateful to have received.Some key discussion points:Cancer being a giftThe importance of your thoughts.How to change your thoughts.Practical positive daily routines.Understanding that we control more of our life than we think.Age is nothing but a number.I urge you to listen to this all the way through and implement some practical steps and tips that you can do for FREE in 10 minutes or less a day to really help you move forward in your life. These tips and tricks aren't just for cancer survivors, or people who have overcome adversity. They can and should be important practices we all take on in our life to truly make the most of this short amount of time we have on this earth.Let's all start to find our voice today and write our own stories.Let's leave our mark on this earth before it's too late.Remember tomorrow never comes.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to Pete Sanga:Amazon business Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Sanga-Aromatherapy-oils-2383077878401459/Amazon businesss link: https://amzn.to/2xkLdXEFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/pete.sanga YouTube transcript[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren Deu a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren Deu what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of fine your voice myname is Aaron and as always I am thehost of the show so sitting herethinking before I released this podcastwhy is it that we always need somethingbad to happen in our lives for us toappreciate the good things or even thesmaller things the more beautiful thingsthat we often take for granted and maybethis is just a human trait but it'ssomething that I'm trying to get throughin this movement I find your voice isthat I want you guys to start livingright now and I want you to findsomething that fulfills you I want youto be happy I want to live in gratitudeyou see I put these stories out here foryou guys to listen to not to make youfeel miserable or to feel sad or startto cry I put these stories out there toshow you how lucky you are you see weare all very blessed and we're all verylucky if we choose to see it that wayyou see living in a moment of gratitudeis fantastic but living a day a week amonth a year in fact your whole life ingratitude that's just so much better andwhat I want you guys to do is to startto take on these tips that we'vementioned in this episode coming forwardbut then go back and listen to thepeople on this show who have sharedtheir story so bravely and so openly andhonestly and think about how your lifeis maybe better than their life in termsof you haven't had to suffer with canceryou haven't had to suffer with blindnessyou haven't had to be homeless forexample and then really start to look inyour own life and start to live withgratitude because that is the key yousee we're all chasing happinesshappiness is a numberone goal and it should be the number onegoal for all of us and through that wechase fulfilment as well and if you canget those two in line then you're gonnahave a fantastic life but what I don'twant you to do is to wait untilsomething bad happens I don't want youto have to experience cancer like ourguest today shares his experience and itwas actually cancer that actually gavehim his life back in almost now youcould see it he's loving his life and heopenly admits it as wellin this episode that it was cancer thatreally made him start to live again butI don't want none of us listening tothis show to have to go through cancerin order to start living because we cando it right now we can all go out thereand find our voice and really try andstart to write our own story sohopefully you guys enjoyed this episodeit was fantastic for me because it didexceed my expectations and if you do geta chance please do hit us up on socialmedia as well we are quite active anddon't forget if you get a chance as wellplease do share it with somebody else aswellto maybe inspire and motivate them to goout there and find their voice sowithout further ado let's get thisinterview on the way I'd like to startthis show by welcoming Pete to the showand I want to thank Pete for taking timeout of his day today to come and sharehis story so Pete thank you for comingon to the show you know I'll come takeyou things like him and you're verywelcome and really appreciate it I thinkit's going to be useful for theiraudience to get to know a bit aboutyourselfso if you wouldn't mind if you can kindof give us like a summary take as longas you need in relation to the life ofPete for example tell us some of yourups tell us some of your dance and thenbasically what brings you here todayperfect no problem and hi audienceI'm glad you listen it is and well whyyou sort of story is I'm not amulti-millionaire or anything like thatfar from it but I live a verycomfortable life and it hasn't alwaysbeen like thatI mean I'm 53 years old so you canimagine when my upbringing from myparents how that was in a very strictupbringing we was always sort ofmonitored by our pens back in game dayswith the early days of very few Asiancommunity in the UK and they had to sortof build their reputation so we resortedvery close communitywe have been declawed close communityparents always took hold of what you hadto do days basically sort of had yourlife for yourselves in mahjong days andI was kind of rebellious with my dadbecause always always one that wanted todo my own thing the way I want to butcourse you have to have respect for yourparents and sort of listen to them aswellso I as I said Oh print being invadeit's a tight community Asian communityand as a site to sort of get older andgoing to school into sort of sixteenseventeen this is where I sort ofstarted to understand that you know Idon't want to follow the footsteps of myparents and Adorno follow the footstepsof my brothers and sisters and GauravUniversity or anything like that Ididn't want to be stuck behind a deskwhen that's what my parents wanted to beI was more inclined to sort of lookingto I used to see it market and I thinkwow I want to do that I don't want to dothat and you know that's how my thoughtswere and so as I got to about 16 17 Istarted kind of rebelled against what myparents wanted and but again same thingyou know you have to have some elementof respect for your pen so I stillfollowed them and I'll put till the agessort of 21 ish when I got married andand we then brought her family businessand and again we started working in thefamily business but it's not somethingthat I wanted it wasn't for me so eventhough I worked in there and putting thehours as long with my with my brothersand it's not something that I wanted todo and what really changed my mindor changed me was when I became ill whenit was about round about 25 and at thattime I had two children and one of themhere and well two boys and I had contactand sort of that's where that's whatreally changed my perspective about lifeand because when you fall into I mean ohno people about cancer and they've curedand they've come every but the initialshock of that was like wow you know Imean I remember sitting on the stagewith my wife and I'm telling my wife andI'm sitting there crying my eyes outthinking and your whole life goes byhere and especially when things likethat I mean nowadays you know they somany curious for so many diseases butwhen you're looking when you're goingback 20 odd years there was there wasn'tas many curious so you know you havethis flashback of your life and youthink wow I'm not gonna be here what'smy kids gonna do and all these thoughtsstart to run through your head and youknow and I remember sitting under stairsand said crying I like that and what dadcame in and he looked at this and hewent there what's the matter what youcrying for and at all my dad okay my hogand even though and he was sort ofstrong I could see sense that he it wasone of them things like wow you knowthis is happening to my son and sayingyou ever went through a treatment andchemotherapy and he was in and out ofhospital I lost a lot of weight and Iyou know sort of kind of lost confidenceas well because I was what I would saywas a greatly confident person but I wasquite confident in myself and I've lostall my confidence as well and my sistershe gave me a book which was there yourguardian angels and as a while I was inhospital I started to read this guide inangels thinking what's this about youknow guardian angels and you justtotally changed my life in the sense ofwe've just read good just reading thebook I thought wow this is there suchthing as this guardian angel is theresuch thing as a spiritual world andthat's why where my spirituality cameout and from there you should have sortof started to progress and as I cameonce I was out of hospital and had donemy chemotherapy and fetal healthy I knewthat I had to do my own thing my own wayand I wanted to be and how I canprogress it wasn't always easy becauseyou always you have this and how prettyyou have this education or you have thisyour your upbringing embedded into youyou see so then they're deep into yoursubconscious mind so they alwaysflop back out and you start to thinkwell should I should I or shouldn't Ibut I know I wanted to move away fromthe family and do my own thing and whichis sort of what I started to do gonnajust pause for a bit or we can jump inthere so there are a couple of things inrelation to that so you always knew froma very young age you mentioned like from1617 you were you're probably differentto your siblings yeah you want to dosomething different and I kind of Icould resonate with that myself so I wasforced in inverted commas to kind of gothrough the academic route because I wasvery I could pick up things very quicklyyeah I didn't want to do any of thatit was never my interest I always wantto kind of go against the grain I wantto be a boxer I wanted to do you cry Iwant to do all the stuff I said ontelevision but he has different stuffand there was an element that I supposesomewhere along the line I kind ofresented the decisions and I was havingto like make my parents happy rathermake myself happy fortunately for me Ididn't have to experience kind sir inorder to really be like okay now I needto just do what's done for me and itkind of seems like cancer was your kindof wake-up call a mass of thingdo you know what I have to look aftermyself yeah and put myself first and itwas it's quite emotional for me justthinking about that moment when you'resitting on the stairs and you and you'retelling your family is stuff I justthought this is just giving you a bookabout the guardian angel and stuff Ithink that's come probably a good timebecause I absolutely did you agree thatif that come it should give you thatbook yeah we'll probably thought once itchanges your perception of do you knowchange started to change the way I'llthink and I need all honesty when Istart to read the book and I started tosort of understand each chapter one at atime I thought wow you know this isamazing can this really be possiblecould you elaborate on something fromthat or something that you maybe do nowyeah of course yeah and so what I'velearnt from that book was of course itstarted to open other doors and otheravenues in Lord of Attraction as aspeople know it I don't know there's alot of it back now whereas when we wasyounger it was it wasn't it wasn't aboutwhat he's still about but we wasn'taware of him but he's a lot more aboutof it often now so and then you know Idon't know thousands if not millions ofpeople's heard of the secret and so thenthatbook came into my hands and it was itjust happened to be that I went onto acourse and which is an angel course andhis spiritual core so as I went thereand this is the lady that was conductingit her name was Angela so and she toldus about this secret and the secretwebsite so I wrote it downsuza go home was sort of jumped on thewebsite got the thing he got the DVDbecause there's gotta be somethingindecent what's what's so good aboutthis or anyway are played it and thenwhat made my two boys what it sat therewatching me and I was totally sort ofenclosed in this secret because thatwhat they were saying is your thoughtsbecome your reality this was for me itwas like a turning point because Ithought wow if that was the case and wowI can create anything the one was withthe kids they were still young therewasn't sort of so much interested in itand so that's where he progressed fromso now you know I have a special routinein the morning and a follow every dayand it's all due to this I guess I cancall it positive thing times Olivia andit's all due to these positive thinkingand you know when you start to think ina certain way certain doors will startto open for youbut you have to trust in your way ofthinking and you have to trust inyourself even though all throughout lifeand even in today's day and age and howfast forward we have become even todayyou still have their thoughts you stillhave to battle with your own mindbelieve it or not and with your negativethought you know you're constantlyfighting against them and like I said toyou know before we started you know youhave a thought you sort of you sort ofhave a negative thought if you like andbefore you know it your negativethoughts your your conscious mindstarting tell you something and beforeyou know you're not that's spiraled intoyour hair before blonde conversationswith yourself you know you're sitting inyour car and you're home or whatever andyou're talking to yourself and you'rehaving this complex it's conversationwith yourself and you're sort offighting with yourself you know onevoice against another and I don't knowif that makes sense you know you sort offighting with yourself and you reallyhave to start to understand your thoughtand that's one of the thingslearn to do is understand my thoughtsand when I'm having a thought like thatI instantly think to myself okay this isthis is the right thought no it's notand I'll stop put a stop to the Thorntonright away because you are in control ofyour own thinking nobody else controlsit for you so you know what you arethinking so if you start to realize thatyou was thinking something that's hasn'teven happened you can stop that thoughtright away when you stop it do youreplace it with something or replace ityeah you have to replace it withsomething positive say for example ifyou're having an emotional thought let'sjust say something bad happened you knowyou you're on your way you've got aparking ticket or you or something likethat you don that's a negative thing andthe first thing you do when you get aparking tickets in your effing andblinding station and and you know andyou know then that you know be from thatanger anything of blinding thinking thatyou know it starts to escalate so if youright away realize all and this is thisis not right it you know what's whatcould be good about there having aparking ticket and then think ofsomething that these positive factorsare negative so when you start to thinkof something positive I'm an 18 it couldwell be this you might have had aparking ticket you might have grabbed aparking ticket God to speak todayconductor or whatever I'm bumped intosomebody who you spontaneously you knowbumped into somebody who is we put yourright you know you and you might haveyou know anything could have happenedwith those gratitude in having a carabsolutely yeah yeah anything you knowanything but as long as you sort ofrealize that you're having this negativethought and without letting this spunout of control with hundreds of otherthoughts stop it right away stop it andchange you to find a positive in thatnegative like I said it could be thatyou've got you could be grateful to youyou've got him you come to meet make ameeting absolutely if that you know hewas worried about your parking ticketthen you might not have gone on to thatmeeting and gain somethingokay knowledge or whatever it is youknow so if there's always a positive ina negative and that's what you have tosort of learn to do it's not the easiestthing in the world who is there but withpractice it becomes perfect that'sinteresting because this is justmeanness or cancers effectivemy family is taking members of my familyaways it's affecting my family some ofthem now so a very negative connotationtowards cancer I sometimes put myself ina position and think if I was to everget cancer or something but a particularpoint I just can't help but think that Iwill feel sorry for myself at some stagehave you ever felt that yeah you do as Isaid that you know it's it's it's notyour normal yeah absolute normal youknow you can't control your thoughts toa degree well you can you can't becausewhen something as severe as cancer orother illness hit you you can't see anyway out so of course it's not so foranybody to think you know how would Ifeelbut as I said earlier on you know you weare you are in control of your thoughtsas long as you don't put emotion intosomething it can never happen it's onlyemotion that creates your reality whenyou paint a picture of what you want andhow you want your life to be yourconscious and your subconscious minddoesn't know the difference betweenright and wrongit just doesn't know the difference itonly responds to what your want pictureyou're painting it so when you're youngas I said you know your pet your parentshave painted how your picture is goingto be so your subconscious mind thenwhen your conscious mind then has tobuild your life around your parentspicture or the picture that you'vecreated or they're created not just yourparent it's society its schooleverything and anything after the sortof ages 10 when you develop fullydevelop your conscious mind after theage of 10 anything after that is whatyour picture has been built on based onyour school your parenting or andsociety itself you know you have to sortof try to understand your thoughts youthink there's a lot and as long as youcan control or though what you'rethinking you can always change it thehardest part of changing something isthat you have to change all your softconscious if people understand what thatmeans if they don't then I went tohighly recommendlooking into that because it's a veryvery powerful part of us it's a part ofour mind and can create reality for youso if you don't understand whatsubconscious is then I so stronglysuggest that you go out and listen to oreven you know we books on that if youdon't like reading like me listen toaudiobooks I love listening yeahmotivation you see and you can learn alot from it so that's what you reallyhave to do you have to sort of thinkabout what you're thinking about thinkabout what you're thinking about all thetime and then stop when you start itwhen you start having it sort of anegative thoughts stop that and thenthink of a positive what could be thepositive thing what is it that you wantin life to change the picture that yourparents have built or society is builtfor you changing that jigsaw yourconscious mind doesn't want to change ajigsaw because you imagine you've made agreat massive jigsaw puzzle here andyou're trying to take the middle of thatjigsaw puzzle add and change it and howhard would it be to change that jigsawpuzzle so that's why your conscious mindis constantly fighting with you to stopyou doing that any fight with you bysending yeah but what if this happensthis is gonna happen this is gonnahappen and reality is just all you'redoing it fighting with you know elseisn't it yeah yeah so that's how yousort of change you know reality that'sbrilliant that's that's powerfulthat's something actually that's foranyone that is this and there's a bookcalled the chip paradox and he actuallyexplains it so it's quadratures paradoxof what he says is you have the chimpwhich is your like your subconsciousthrough then you have a computer whichis kind of the logical side of you butwhat he says is the chimp is morepowerful yeah and it's unless we controlthis chimp whether it's through changingour thought processes and the thingsthat we were taught to believeabsolutely absolutely then the chainsgoing to take over runs on it and that'sexactly what happens we do 95 90 95percent of our societyand yeah yeah you like absolutely yourchip will always try to control what itwants you to do but deep down if youstart to understand it anything ispossible but even having said that it'snot just his thoughts it's it's agratitude you have to put into thingyou know I mean I once all grateful forI mean I can explain sort of you knowwhat my routine isn't when I get a bunchof virtually the next thing so yeah yeahthe routine yeah so for myself what I dowhen I get up in the morning my generalroutine I mean on the early riser somore put three o'clock in the morningand one of the things I've learned andI'll never ever do is put the snoozebutton on now that I ever put snoozebutton or people do that but that's nota really a positive thing to do you knowyou as soon as oh yeah my alarm goes offI'm out of bed my feet hit the floor andthe first thing I do is I put my headtogether and then I go thank you so muchfor another day ahead of me and he'sfeeling that gratitude of another daywhether that day is gonna be the same asyesterday or not matters not it'sanother day I listen to a lot ofaffirmations in the morning as well sowhen you get up in the morning what Ilearned is that your subconscious mindyour conscious mind hasn't quite kickedin so you're still in your subconsciousand state so when you start to feed yoursubconscious state with positiveaffirmations your day will flowperfectly so first thing I'll do is ofgovernment phone I'll put my headphoneson I'll get dressed and I start to playaffirmations positive affirmations oreven relaxing music just to calm I'mlike that and so while I'm goingtesticle have a yeah you know I meanI'll have a shower in the night in caseyou think I think I've had a shower inthe night and so while I'm brushing myteeth I'll still got this headset on soI'll put 20 minutes or so I've got thisheadset on listening to affirmations andwhile I'm having breakfast on listen toaffirmations and I Drive to worklistening to an audiobook and um howyour mind works there's some great booksout there no doubt you've heard of manyof them I love listening to if you don'tmind the answer yeah actually you knowsomeone a box I mean I love listening toThink and Grow Rich by Napoleon HaydenI'm sure millions of poverty read a bookand the other book I think is fantasticand people should really haven'tis the science of getting rich by whatis what'll again it's it's it's heexplained it's a science of game richand it's a great book to if you I meanyou can buy it but if you don't want tobuy it you can get on YouTube and inlisten to it so for forty minutes fromall the way to work on listening to D soI'm always trying to feed my mind withpositive affirmations positive vibes allthe way to work and obviously onceyou've done your work come back home onmy way back home I'm genuinely back onfor about seven in the morning so I'mone ear out at the house for a few hoursand when I'm back home I take the dogfor a walkanother relaxing way to do that and thenI get when I'm when I'm home obviously aboo gone to work by then and then I domy meditation and we solved for the nexthour and so I sit there and I focus whatI want out of life and how I want mylife to be and so I do a meditation thenlisten to some great meditation musicagain you can get on YouTube if youdon't I use one called calm on iTunes itis one that you have to pay for whatyeah it's absolutely fantastic I sawmany on there it's great but as I saidthere's lots of free ones you know youjust have to find one that resonateswith you so once of a sort of listenedand once I've done my own meditation Igenerally fall asleep for an hour songtwo hours and so it's in a sort of fallasleep for about a couple of hours andthen back up to ten o'clock I've startedto do exercises now when I hadn't beforeeven though when I was younger I spent alot of time exercising but when I gothere I sort of lost confidence inxdesign so i starting to sort of carryback into exercising nothing bank am buti have so for ten o'clock consider do 20minutes of sort of general exercise andand and ice get on go about Monday I'llstart work about two o'clock again tohave two and once again I'll start Ionly listen or try to listen toaudiobooks you know any kind of audioBob Proctor is another fantastic I meanhe's amazing you know I know he's on thesecret but he's so he's been doing thisfor 50 years and he's somebody knowswhat they're talking abouthe is a man that knows what he's talkingabout and so I listen to a lot and a lotof his and audio books I listen to a lotof time Roberts and again and does agreat motivator so I'm always listeningto these books and that awesomewhilst I'm at work I generally come homearound 1:00 to finished up getting homefor seven have a meal I try to relax bywatching not so much TV programs butmore very old-fashioned God programs ifyou like and and the reason of watchthem is because it's it's it explains toyou that what we have now has alwaysbeen there but we just we just didn'trealize it so it's in resonates back toyou how you can move forward with whatwe have well I've always had and thegenerally don't got a bed and again onceagain I've always got to sleep at nightand before I go to sleep I just bethankful for my whole day you know Ithink about all the the thing I've donetoday even though my day routine isgenerally the same and I might have metsomebody new there so I always sort ofgratitude to everything I have even mymeals or sit down and I'm you know youwhen I say gratitude because he'sgratitude is part of development so ifyou're not grateful for something thenhow can you be grateful for what youwant to something so you really have tobe grateful for and I know there's lotsof people there's a wall I can't begrateful until I get this box if that'sthe way you're thinking as we spokeearlier on you're only gonna get more ofwhat you're putting out so if you'rethinking I'm not grateful for somethingyour only your your subconscious mindonly sees that you're not grateful forsomething and you know you're feelingsad about something so he thinks ah okayoh yeah it's not about this I'll giveyou more of that so that's how yourcontent works and fall asleep againlistening to youmusic until the next day I don't knowfalling asleep so in the middle of thenight when this thing he's office stillgot my head said oh we should take offpretty so and then you know so that's mydaily routine every day yes it's almostlike the curse of cancer that came intoyour life has always made your lifebetter totally think shame because itthat's it for me it took for me to getill to get where I am I mean you know Ihad a business which and was almost gonealmost bankrupt me because I reallystruggled but had it not been for whatI'd learned over the years I think thatI would have really got into itdepression but because of what I learnedover the years when I did have mybusiness and that didn't work as well asI expected it to and it's just one ofthem things and yes I worried a lotabout it and opera and Laura's worryingin the family put up trying to keep itaway from them as well because I didn'twant them to feel under pressure to helpand there was absolutely fantastic youknow hats off to my family then theystepped in and they sort of we workedtogether and you know and it's anotherthing that I think I should point out isthat when you have when you when you'reworried about something and even worriedabout not telling your parents ortelling your family it's a wrong thingto do because if your family is alwaysthere to understand and support you andjust it's surprising how much taken justjust by taking or talking to somebodyhow much of a burden you can take offyour shoulders and that's what I did yousee but just boy even though they didn'tsort of okay here we'll do this withthis but just talking to them took awayso much of my worries and but as I saidif it wasn't for what I've learned overthe previous year is about beingpositive I wouldn't have come out ofthat business feeling better for myselfand you know going on six or seven yearsnow more than that now here 10 years orso moving forward 10 years you know I'vecreated another great business you knowII'm really happy within them andprogress it's always because you have toprove you have to think of yourself andyour family and move forward with themabsolutely so a couple of good pointsday is born obviously it's easier saidthan done but we shouldn't have to waitfor a cancer or death or something youknow like these are simple things thatevery single one of us on a daily basisand so I ask this question can start todo it's not gonna take us long to justsit there for best part of two threeminutes and just think of all the thingswe're grateful for every single morningand it slowly become easier thenobviously throughout the day we'llnotice more and more things yeah andthen listening to positive stuff sohopefully people listening to this canjust take on this now yeah rather thanhave to wait for something bad in partand then just live in this on what it'salmost like a bliss because you justappreciate every single momentabsolutely right sometimes we will gothrough life and six months tormentsurpassed and you've never really livedin the moment because you've won binanxious about the past and to you I sawyou anxious about the future untilyou've been depressed about the past soit's a dangerous place to be absolutelyit's almost like living in today youalso said talking to people so this issomething that I actually mentioned on aprevious podcast so I struggled withanxiety struggled a lot with overwhelmand similar to yourself I'm trying ityou look after my family I'm trying tocomfort my wife and my siblings and Idon't want to put the burden on them mymom suffered in depression so she'sloved a best friend by the same time Idon't want to have any stress there aswell but then sometimes if it's too muchand I do speak to her yeah she doesn'tsolve the problem but I felt so muchbetter which she feels better that Icould buy dinner yeah same with myfriends or my wife whoever I speak to ittalking is so powerful it's a massivemassive thing but as humans what I meanconnection speaking is it's part of usand because the song takes a turn thatfollows 24 so absolutely we will lose aconnectionabsolutely I think you know that's againlike you said you know is you when youtalk into somebody somebody when youhold it in yourself you're creatingnothing but bad feelings for yourselfbut when you're let that energy outyou've it's almost as if you've left letout and a massive ball of negativeenergy you know that's how you gotacidity is a and you know and it's hardsometimes understand you know certain 16certain things in such a situation yousometimes find it hard totalk to somebody but the best wayforward and I've always found is thatyou know if you can't talk to yourfamily then talk to somebody who'sconfused you're close with you know justtake that off your chest and it makesyou feel so much better and your mindwill always fight you against it becausethey want you to hold and I know itsounds bad do you thinking to yourselfwell why wouldn't my mind want to dothat for me and it's always one see italways sort of and give you a picture ofoh yeah but if you if you told decentI'm gonna do this ad singly and you knowyou but you're creating something hasn'teven happened creating scenario you knowwe're going back again you know creatinga picture of what you want if you wantif you want to if you finally difficultto talk to somebody then imagine it inyour head and I know those who have readand Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hillof one of the things he used to do washe used to have a board meeting and withsome of the richest people in the worldin his head not physically with in yourhead and I mean he could if you canimagine something like that so and it'seasy to imagine thing you know you couldyou can imagine something like like justlike that if I said to you now think ofa pink elephant instantly you'll bethinking of a pink elephant if you'resaying stick your face in the kitchenyou'll be thinking of that so you cancreate emotion to that yeah absolutelyabsolutely without emotion there's lotsof elements that you have to puttogether for the law of attraction towork emotion is one of them gratitude isanother one the positive thinking isanother one and individually you knowimage in your head and what you wantyour life to be is another one when youstart to combine these things togetherthat's when your life starts to changeof people using this Lord of Attractionhas changed in life totally change yourlife around within 12 months just by Imean it takes 30 days to create thething is with life itself which we'vecreated habits and hobbies can bechanged it takes time to change habitsbut habits can be changedI love that and the final point I justwant to add to that is you mentioned abusiness that you've just started thatyou're very happy with we have anotherbusiness because we've got the productson there it's probably packed in one ofthese boxes now because we're movinghouse not okayjoining just share that briefly justwith the ordinance a lot when I firstheard about it I was like that's quitean innovative is quite interesting okaystraight away can you just starting fromscratch sure yeah yeah and others heredo I do my full time I guess it's a jobbut it's not job because he's stillself-employed and do my parcel businessbut always wanted to be sort of anonline trader so what I started to dowas I looked at ways I can make moneyonline Amazon was a biggest platform soI was learned how to sort of startedlooking more into how Amazon works andso I learned how to through theirlearning program and he can learn Lee toAmazon sort of learned how to sellproducts on Amazon and that's what I'mmoving forward with and I've got aproduct on there now which and which isaromatherapy oils but he's one of themthings that sort of well it's a bit of arisk to take but again if you wantsomething to happen you have to have apositive outcome of it and so I startedto understand and learn a lot aboutAmazon and how they were what what to doand learnt the coursethey've had to promote the product howwhere to find a product had to getproduct once I understood all that I'mstill learning from it's not somethingthat yeah fully understood I'm stilllearning from them I started as I said Iimported my first product and it's beengreat you know really has my wife usesit I think that's actually okay yeah itis a great product done yeah just onthat as well so soft and you hear peoplethinking they can't do nothing we haveall these limiting beliefs and they seewhat we can do in life and yeah you justthought okay I wanted to start abusiness and you probably wouldn't youprobably just figured it out along theway yeah you are not selling a productunless that's a lesson to anyone like ifthis is something you want with theright mindset and then obviously theaction nothing impossible without actionyou know you it's no good having theoldest mindset yeah positive thinkingwhen you take no action you you know youhave to take action if it's somethingthere's somelooking to do you know sell online itdoesn't have to be Amazon there's lotsof other platforms on thereI chose Amazon because I was on is deepBiggie's platform to sell and I choseAmazon because I found it you can I canI don't have to store the product at allI'll send it to their warehouseeverything they deal with a moment yeahabsolutely and their fulfillment centerthat deal with the customers they dealwith the returns of course anything thatis returned luckily for me I finally hadone product returned in all the onesthat have sold and then they theycontact you so you have nothing you knowthat this is the biggest fear withpeople they think well how can I startoh I'm Christie what about customerseries what about this but this withAmazon they deal with all that with youyeah of course they target fee which isunderstandable but you have to find aproduct then you can now incorporate allthat and you can make and still make aprofit out of it you know you you knowyou could there's lots of people onAmazon that making great massive massivemonthly incomes and it's it is possibleand you just have to trust in yourselfto do it and that's the hardest thingtrusting yourselfif it's something that you know it's forthe listeners if something that you'repassionate about then use that productuse that as a product absolutely I wantyou to put that in there because I'veseen you use the product as well yeah soit's not like a shameless plug or anyyeah yeah it's inspiring because if Iask someone say for instance my dad ormy own course or something do that thefirst thing that says all are configuredI don't know about the internet and wehave a lot of people in the audience wejust automatically have exclusivestraightaway absolute is always it'sjust refreshing to hear somebody justsay you know what what it actually showsthat everything you're putting inpractice in your daily routines like theaffirmation is opposed to thinking yeahyou put it into practice any practice oryou foods I think that's the thing withall the community because I mean I'm 53and if I can make changes at 53 peopleat that age if not youngerI mean exactly majority to preparepeople you know once they get past fortyforty five to think that's it I thinkthe life is overyou can't progress you can't learn youthe game started yeah it's just startingand I just gain started don't letthings top of you because when you'reyoung you have a whole you could you gotyour whole life in front of you whenyou're 40 your passport you're gettingclose to 50 you think that you've onlygot a few years but just in a few yearsif you with the right mindset it justwithin a few years you can change thewhole life around if that's what youwant being all free absolutely peopleare living longer now resolve of courseyeah yeah definitely Brit okay thank youfor that so we spoke about diversityquite a bit and we spoke obviously thebusiness stuff we spoke about thepersonal health problems as well if youcould just choose one of your biggestlessons that you've learned from thatexperience so I'm going that you had themindset of something but if you can justsay to somebody maybe who's experiencedin it now or going through term orwhether it's cancer or any other illnessif you can just give them one lessonthat you've taken from that situation Iwould say that you know just as hardwhen giving that situation but just tryto see things as I say just try and lookat the light at the end of the tunnelyou know just try to focus on yougetting better you moving forward youwanting the thing that you want insteadof focusing on something and Iunderstand that it's hard because I'vebeen there and but just try to listenand the best way did it one of the otherthings I absolutely love doing is I lovelistening to music that I love becausehe just makes you feel so much betterso if you are going through a tough timelisten to your favorite song don't losesight of you joy yeah something that youenjoy listening to listen to a rock soyou know not so much a rock song in thesense of rock song I mean something thathas a fantastic you know I always findthat that helps me to feel better so andyeah you know just just try to staypositive really you know it's a toughsituation to be more you just have tolearn to stay positiveyeah that's brilliant thank you for thatI'm in this particular moment right thissecond what is your biggest fear andfear is another to say this now becausefear is just a thought it's just thoughtthat can be told controlled when youhave a fear you can always change yourfeeling too and onso I try to avoid having a fear becauseI'm not saying don't not worried aboutanything I'm always worried about thefuture and have I done enough too butwhen I pass how I done enough on thisearth for those were living here now forwhen I pass that means my biggestconcern blooded and I fear because Ithink when you use the word fear I don'tknow a lot of people do but I from whatI've learned one of the things Iunderstand these learn to understandthese fear it's just a word it's a wordthat's used by everybodyso when somebody uses the word fear youinstantly think the worst of somethingso no no that's not what you wanted tohear but I think that they when you usethe word fear you sort of think of theworst but to me don't think of the wayfear and it's hard not to but don'tthink of me think of something think ofit as a unless fear forward if you likebut yeah well my biggest concern is howabout done enough on earth and for thosecoming okay that's one of my biggestinterested and has that purpose of yoursthat why without motivation to leave theworld given as much as usually has thatonly stemmed since again that I don'twant to keep touching on it but theyHansard incident absolutely yeah yeahyeah and that's interesting because alot of people I find that go throughadversity in life or have been throughhardship they almost become selfless andthey just want it almost in that momentwhen they're so great for this stuffthey want to give back more yeah yeah Ithink before that we kind of do live aselfish life yeah absolutely because I Iwas kind of selfish I only reallythought about myself I didn't eventhough I've respected what my pen said Iwould kind of well my life I could dowhat I like or no and even you knowgoing back down I remember my fathersitting me down once and he went and hesaid you know you're going down thewrong path because I started gettinginvolved with the wrong people he saidyou're gonna shame us and he was likethat backing when I was growing up hesaid you're gonna put shame on us andyou're gonna end up in prison because hethought I was gonna end up in prison andbut I you know I was not but I wanted todo what I want to docare about that I just want to do what Iwant to do for what I dye my hair with adime appears like yeah you can't stop meeven though respecting him when I didn'tdo a pop it was one of the thoughts ofhim that was going through her head andso ya can say for me cancer was thebiggest biggest thing that changed andmaybe that's what I neededyou know things they were say the thingscome for a reason maybe that is what Ineededthat's a wake-up call this is why Iactually love like I love dis as part ofmy job because I get to meet people atyou and without having to go through thepain and that you've been through yeahit inspires me so much like this isinspiring but I have sometimes will betalking and I'll be like episode 4so-and-so said this how dare I feelsorry for myselfyeah I'm it doesn't get me through theday and I'll always think I'm blessedbecause when I'm gonna have him speak tosomebody I always get to meet a newfriend and a new person that I form arelationship and then it just changed myperspective because I'm like I'm so muchmore grateful even now just for likehealth see you perfectly because he'sjust pointed it out you know you washaving there we're gonna use the wordnegative again we're having dailythought about something and yet youinstantly realized you was and thenchange it into something positive bysaying about somebody such as 50 centsor how dare Iand it's absolutely like you know thisthere's so many people in this worldthat are worse off than you yeah youknow you other than those who arehomeless and you know this is one of thethings I want to do and as I get betterand better and you know be able to do itis to help the homeless because unlessyou're homeless and God not you if along as you go roof of your hand yesit's always tough if you haven't got ajob and I know it's a big thing and abig concern but yeah if you got a roofover you should be gratefulalways be playing with without gratitudeabsolutely can't move forward and Ithink I think that's that's a brilliantpoint I think it's something though wedo have to do every day because againadversity everything he goes foreveryone's life and I've had momentswhen but death happens all of a suddenfor that month but you're you you'regrateful for everything and you knowlife's too short please share everythingbut then you get very quickly back intotheir old habits happy so that's why Ialways readit should be like a day absolutely youtouch on the homeless thing so I'm I'mvery fortunate my parents are very likeloving people so we foster children andit's laughs okay well you're my sisterthen we adopted and my mom tried toadopt every single kid that coming tothe house and laughs there's no room inthe house so I've got like three whitesiblings and we've got Asian sister aswell was adopted and seeing them andseeing like their issues in terms oflike disabilities there weremalnutrition when they first came thereTestament disorders it made me sograteful like it changed my whole lifeso I gave good-paying jobs to becomelike a social worker to effectivelychange the world and it changed but thenwhat happened was when I got married andI moved into my house here we're sittingtoday yeahdon't my siblings I think about themevery single day but I don't live withthem every day to end that feeling ofgratitude every single day okaywhereas before I never had to remindmyself please job like this a nice thingpoor Kyle he might never be able todrive a car he'll never be able to dothis yeah and he used to make me feelgrateful yeah so it is something I thinklike anything like if you don't lookafter your health every single day it'sgonna deteriorate absolutely I think weshould always try and I think that's thebiggest issue and you get to a certainstage and when you're happy with yourlife you tend to start to forget aboutthat is you know just another quickpoint is you know it's not a religiousthing or I don't want to win anybodyhere but when when something bad younever think about God you go about yourday to day business but when somethingbad happens you straight away you'regoing and pray to God you know God isthere every single day yet you forgetand I know most people don't but themajority do you know they forget thathe's there every day and I even thoughI'm not a I'm a spiritual person and youknow it doesn't matter what you are deepdown with all the same so when you haveto pray to somebody then pray to themevery day if you want to if you feelthat God is your way forward and thenpray to God every day be thankful to himthat you got me walk every day not justa day that you're feeling down or youfind a bad day or you've lost your catyou lost your dog or anything else youknow every single day should be a daywhere you grateful with gratitude 100%you alcohol I think that's beautifulmessage I think it's something that I'mprobably cure you have I remember as akid man if I thought was gonna get introuble bug my parentslike God please get me through this daynever do it again I'm sure we've allkind of done yeah I thought okaybrilliant so we're actually at the funpart of the show is what I called it soit's again quickfire round of 60 to 90seconds depending when I apply you outbasically I just random questions okayare we all ready yeah okay we're gonnago in three two oneif you could abolish one thing in theworld what would it be oh yeah yourfavorite beer butter oh yeah yourbiggest role model Oh baby what wouldyou like to be remembered for the good Idid your biggest goal this year to besuccessful and help us your worstmistake not doing Eternia if you couldrelive one day again what day would itbe the very first day I was bornthe ability to fly or be invisibleinvisible the number one thing thatannoys you but habits and when your fameneither your proudest moment my childrenyour favorite foodgot a visual icing chicken would yourather speak or languages or speak toanimals what's your favorite song at theclub by the Drifters and if you had anextra hour a day how would you spend itmeditating Netflix or YouTube Netflixand the final question is the number onepiece of advice you would give to yourchildren just be yourself okay brilliantso we're approaching towards the end ofthe show now and just two more questionsthat I always like to ask my guest thenext one's about reflection I saw thisis in hindsight obviously we learn wayswhere we can get to places quicker withless heartache or by saving money forexample so if you could go back knowingeverything that you know now and allyour words of wisdom and everything thatwe've spoken about in the show to ayounger time when maybe you wereconfused or going through a time whereyou had no clarity in your life yeah andyou can just whisper something in theyounger piece yeah yeah did you say goneback if I had and I think that this mayyou know I was thinking these yes noweven though I would tell myself that thefuture is what you create the Tippie soif you want your future to be betterpaint that picture in your head andthat's what I would whisper to myselfpaint the picture of how you want yourlife to be and it will create itthat's Brittany I think the more watersthe develop my dream and stuff as wellthat's more what I try and do is I likevision board and stuff and I think Ithink maybe as children as well we dothat but there's somewhere betweenchildhood when you've got that innocenceto growing up yeah we tend to lose it Ithink the vision boards are fantasticand I think that a great thing to havebecause it gives you a idea of how youwant your life to be but the whole timeto that to that is when somebody makes avision board they forget that they canchange that vision board and once you'velooked at it a few times it's just theresitting on the wall of what I tend to dois I've read my goals every morning I'llhave a book written in there what I wantmy average day to be like and I read thebook everything is pretty detailed ofhow I would like to be and I sit downand read it and if there's something alot I don't like in it I always draw itout and change it and I think withthings like vision boards and eventhough I did a great thing like I saidbut vision boards is a massive pictureof you know I feel Bree wants to bemulti millionaire and they know we'renear there it's it's an image where youthink well I'm not gonna get there butif you take small steps because visionboards can be expanded it can be changedbut I think people when who make visionboards are I'm not sure about yourselfof people who make vision boards tendnot to change it so then look at it onceor twiceliterally for a month or so after that -forget the vision boards he's there butyou know going forward it's not it's nota bad thing I'm not saying would yourecommend them having a two year goalit's about building confidence so ifyou're gonna like your goal down foryourself or goals down for yourself andyou've written a goal to say let's justsay for argument's say you're gonna havea million pound in a year and people dolike gods like now because the thing -what if I could create anything oragreat that create that I'm not sayingit can't be created but if y'all haven'tbut if you're not if you're not in linewith your positive thinking creatingthat video path is going to be difficultbut if you say to yourself I want tocreate a slightly similar goal so say afew sectors up I want to10,000 pounds a month 10,000 pound amonth is far achievable easilyachievable because your work hard racketabsolutely once you achieve your 10,000pounds a month you've put it and have abooster then draw your goal pika make ittwenty thousand their next month and youknow no no there's lots of people outthere don't think well I want to be amillionaire and I want to beat in a yearand but you didn't learn to speak andyou didn't know how long did it take youto learn to walk how long did it takeyou to do things now you know justgenerally to do things it takes 12 yearsfor you to go through school and learnall the things in school you're notgoing to become successful in a yearwell I'm not so don't get me wrong sorryI apologize for that it's not you're notgoing to be your mindset isn't brightguitar pitch there won't be a nomineesthat will obviously do it for the vastmajority of us we have to develop one asphere is changing one our mindset one Ihelp everything needs a line is haveyeah and we need to increase theconfidence and our skill set in all ofthose yeah and one of the things that II suppose I've suffered with I saw Idon't do vision boards myself is that nopeople do is when I used to have thesebig goalssomewhere along their journey if you'retrying to be like an entrepreneur tryingto find your way life yeah when yourealize how far you are from you goesyou become very dissatisfied to me andtrying to think of the right words forit be they the lack of motivation yeahbecause you think I'm just so far awayfrom it and even though you might havecome so far the J yank yeah you forgethow far you've come because you'relooking to have my uni heroso this is what I'm saying about visionboards you see becausevision boards are a great thing but ifyou're making a vision board and yourjourney is to be you know a supersuccessful entrepreneur but you're onlyhere you're not seeing absolutely howyou come you you're looking at that andyou you kind of can't get demotivatedbecause you know with anything it can'tbe change but if you're making a goalthat stopped being absolute but you'rehere so that's why that's my adviceno I think that's great advice is so ifwe use the analogy that IowaI can relate to very quickly is healthand fitness so everyone wants a six-packin just absolutely the number onequestion I always get a song that'sabsolutely fine we can get you asix-pack we can help you but it startswith one rep in the gymyeah starts with you going to the gymthat one day yeah and you can't ever getthere any quicker no matter how much youwould have to do that ripyeah then unfortunately you have to do alot of them reps and yeah you can't justdo one on one day you can't just sithere for 24 hours or let's do sit-upsanother city like the world it's aprocess and it's about understandingthat so yeah I think that's it it's apretty answer good answer and thatcertainly actually brings us to the lastquestion and the last question is if in150 years science fails to save us andnone of us are here and it's justhopefully my podcasts by then all thatremains is a book and this book is aboutyou everything in your life or the goodthings you've done or the wonderfulthings and all the people's lives you'vetouched and everything yeah what wouldthe back of the book tell us to makesomebody want to pick it up about youand also what would the title be well Ithink if I was who write a book thetitle of my book would have to be a caryou say Think and Grow Rich butsomething along the lines you knowthoughts I would say I would say it'shard to sort of define them an actualname for the Papa I would say somethingalong the lines of use your thoughtswell think carefully and think aboutwhat you want you know it's hard todefine a name think carefully that'sthat's quite interesting yeah it's sortof something along them lines and withthe back of the book create the lifethat you want by thinking history youknow think about how you painted apicture painting an image on your lifecreate an image of how you want what youlike to be it's hard to sort of it'sfine to be honest I think everythingthat you've said in this episode haskind of told us about the nerve of ityeah and I think the probably the mostimportant thing like you said it's thinkcarefully yeah because you realizedthrough your trials in tribulations isthat if your thought processes thatmanifesto LSU and make your existenceand everything but yeah I think that'sthe biggest thing really you know whenyou're somebody's gonna pick somethingup they're gonna think about what theyare doing what about you as a person howwould you how would you want to beremembered I would like to be rememberedas somebody who diddividing therefore everybody you knowdid the right thing for those who areless fortunate or try to do the wrongthing I think yeah that's brilliantthank you I think that's a great answerand I'm just a final note so we aregonna put your Amazon link in for yourvisit I think you definitely shoulddefinitely if people are interested inthemso it's it's an oil it's a variation allRoma therapy oils basically they're thenatural products there there's noartificial cooling or the fieldadditives in it and they can be used foryour health purposes there's cárdenas aswell and he tells you what you can whatthe purpose of these are and so each oilcan be used for various things I mean Iuse the head of tose so there's a andthere's an oil in there kiddo and Ithink it is that same as witch witchhazel if you're cruising if thought itactually takes your pain away but Idon't have anything okay so and againI'll use the oils to put in the SteamMop just a few tops fantastic you coulduse them in diffuser so there's manyuses for them yeah I got my wife as wellyeah and alongside that are you onsocial media as well is there a way orwould you be open 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How to deal with overwhelm #25 by Aren DeuTagline: "Overwhelm was the main driver behind my anxiety"Overwhelm, whether it comes through your to-do list, your emotions or thoughts is something that can cripple you. It can cause undue stress that has negative connotations on your life. For me dealing with overwhelm has been an uphill struggle personally for years, but through self development and working on myself I have found ways to combat it, reduce it or at the very least recognise why it appears.It is something that affects, children, teenagers, women, men and even the elderly but the positive thing about it, is that it can be managed. I hope these tips and tricks and me sharing my own vulnerabilities with overwhelm encourage you to never shy from your weaknesses and to express them, share them and then tackle them to grow.I hope you all have an amazing day and get in touch via any of the social media handles below and let's connect and continue this movement.P.s. remember any new reviews on iTunes, just send me a screenshot either on twitter, instagram or to my email and ill send you the diet and gym plan as promised. It will likely be a 7-day window due to the volume of listeners.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6y[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren Deu a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself Mr Aren Deu what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so recently I've beengetting quite a few requests to discussthis topic that I'm gonna be speaking toyou about today overwhelmed because Isuppose when you see people on Instagramand they're doing weird and wonderfulthings almost 24 hours a day you youstart to think how on earth are theymanaging to keep that going now againI've spoken about all this previously inrelation to Instagram or Facebook beinga kind of highlight reel so don't alwaystake everything on 100% face value thelikelihood is there are also some badmoments and a lot of failures along theway and one of my failures I suppose orshould I call it learning experienceswas my anxiety and as many of you nowknow because the intro reminds us everysingle time in Zayat it was somethingthat really did cripple me for the bestpart of theyiodd years and it's not something that Icould say I've actually completely gotrid of so one of the key drivers behindmy anxiety was definitely overwhelm andit was something that when it happenedit would come from Norway and it wouldconsume me in that moment and almostparalyzed me into doing anything nowobviously through learning and workingon a lot of self-developmentI'm able to now kind of at leastmitigate the impact of it but also justtry and have a few hacks that willbasically make me at least seem like anormal functioning human afterwards so Ithink it's important that obviously I'dgive you some of the causes as to whysome of us may feel overwhelmed but moreimportantly just before I begin what Iwant to do is just put my cards on thetable besome of you out there might be a bitembarrassed to speak about the thingsthat you're overwhelmed about so Ifigured if I kind of embarrass myselfright here right now on this podcast andthen hopefully as a resort that youwon't feel as embarrassed or as shy toshare your views as well because I dobelieve that sometimes when we share ouranxieties especially with the peopleclose to us they become more sympatheticand they become more understanding ofour situations so one of the things thatI used to get anxious about was notresponding to messages quick enough nowthis could be a text message it could bea whatsapp or it could be an email thelevel of anxiety when I send my phonebleep and if in that moment I couldn'trespond because I was eating or I waswatching something with the missus orwhatever it was it would almost consumeme and make me very anxious especiallywhen I used to drive as well it's theworst thing in the world when you hearyour text go off in the car and you'rethinking shit I need to respondespecially as an anxious wreck likemyself the second one was being late andI remember this even as a young kidwhere my auntie used to take me and mycousin sister to school and she'd alwaysbe late and I would be standing therewith my bags ready for school almostgetting into this unbelievableuncontrollable mess and I'll bestressing in case I've got told up bythe teacher he would then tell myparents and then I get in trouble fromthem so I used to have all thesescenarios player in my head and as faras I could remember I don't think I everactually got in trouble but yeah belayis it's one of the things that I reallystruggle with and it's probably why oneof my pet peeves is people actuallybeing late the third one was myanticipation of dogs so growing up I hada massive fear of dogs having beenchased by one on a holiday in Canada soI would almost make up this scenariothat every house I was gonna go andvisit or every house that I would crossor watch me I would turn down they wouldjust randomly be a dog there and thenthat would obviously cripple me and makeme feel like a nervous wreck to beunderstand and elevate my heart rate itmade me sweaty for no reason and itwould just make that day unbearable atleast until I realized that most of thehouses I went to never had dogs and thenthe final one was always just beinganxious for no apparent reason I wouldwake up I'd be in an absolutely funkI'd be feeling overwhelmed by stuff andit was just so difficult to reallyunderstand why I was feeling this way sothat's methat's my cards on the table hopefullythat makes you feel a little bit betterbecause I can't imagine you havinganything as embarrassing as that so tomove this forward what I want to do inthis episode is to give you guys tips Iwant to give you guys tips that I usepersonally and tips from other expertsas well in the world to basically makesure that you're not consuming yourselfand wasting energy on stuff that doesn'twant matter but to stops you from doingthe things that you need to be doing tomake yourself happy and fulfilled solet's begin by thinking of the commoncauses behind overwhelm and stress Ithink the first one is expectation andthis is probably one of the mainnumber-one sources for stress andoverwhelm across the world if I'mcompletely honest with you it's tryingto satisfy the expectation that we placeunnecessarily not just on ourselves butalso on others as well so sometimeswe're expecting people to idea to ourway and that's not always the case butsometimes we also expect too much ofourselves as well so number one isexpectation moving on to number two iswhen you take on too much now if you'reanything like me and you follow me onInstagram or through my social mediaactivities I'm trying to do a bit ofeverything and there are times wheneverything's going fine but then thereare also times when I'd do burnout and Ido still struggle with overwhelm I'mhere trying to make a social enterprisefor mental health I'm working on mypodcast I'm working on my personal brandI'm working with clients I do a littlebit of personal training here and thereI try and work out myself I have aproperty business as well and so muchmore so it can become dauntingespecially when you have friends andfamily and just other things that youwant to be doing on a daily basis sothat's something that I would certainlymake sure that you're not trying to takeon too much and you're not trying tosolve all the world problems all at onceanother one little bit similar toexpectations but it's about puttingpressure on yourself and if you'reanything like me I always kind of hadthis voice in my head and he just kindof highlights all of the things that Idowrong in fact that's pretty much all itwas doing at one point in time so if Iwasn't eating well enough if I wasn'tworking out well enough or if I wasn'tworking as hard as I should have on thatdayI would almost be lit on myself and myself-worth and my value would almostdecrease day by day and what I realizedwas that I was just trying my best as wewere love you all kind of go throughlife and we try our best with whateverresources we have available but in thatmoment I could be working absolutelyfine for six days 16 hours a day andthen if I choose to have a day off I wasputting this pressure on myself that oneI needed to get to my goals a lotquicker and to that I just wasn't worthyof that time off and boy was that aroller coaster of emotions and againoverwhelm and just unnecessary stress soif that's you make sure you take offthat pressure there is a thing calledescapism and it's something that Istarted to do recently and just try andreflect back and think what are thethings that make me happy is it reallygonna make me that much happier if I endup burning out and then all of a suddenI can't work for X amount of days justfor the sake of working that Sunday itjust might not be and the next one isperfectionism so I had this almost likea a proud badge of honor that I was aperfectionist and I suppose it was oneof the things I used to use ininterviews as a sort of when they usedto ask the question what is yourweakness because it's one of those youcan kind of turn it around but being aperfectionist actually sabotage a lot ofmy progress especially my early yearswhereas now if you follow me again onany of my social media outlets I justkind of say what I want to say and it'sout there and I'll make a lot ofspelling mistakes I'll make a lot ofediting mistakes even on my podcast is acouple of podcasts I'm not sure ifyou've heard previously where some ofthe sound is a little bit mumbo-jumboand yeah it's just kind of that wholeanalogy of let's not try and be perfectnow let's just try and move forward 1% aday and that certainly helps me ratherthan trying to make sure everything'sperfect because let's be honest nobodyis perfect for a start and you're nevergoing to be perfect without trying inthe first place so the best way to do itis by taking a swing of the bat dayafter day day after day putting in thosereps and overtime you start to perfect your craft youstill probably won't be perfect but itcertainly does take that pressure offyou next up we have control now this isone that I'm sure many of you can relatewith but if you're anything like me I'ma little bit of a control freak so Ilike to do a lot of things myself hencewhy I'm kind of I suppose overworkingand when it comes to outsourcing it'svery difficult for me to kind of handover the control and that's not to sayI'm the greatest at what I do becausethere are people who can do so manyother things I do on a daily basis somuch better but it's just handing overthat control that initial bit of sayinghere you go that's something I reallystruggle with in life and I'm prettysure many of you listening today canobviously relate to that as well sothat's basically five I supposeingredients as to why people generallyfeel stressed and overwhelmed okay sonow that you know what the causes arefor ends ieand overwhelm what I'm gonna now giveyou is just some tips and tricks onthings that you can do now this listit's compiled not just through thethings that I do but it's also compiledfrom a lot of research that I've beendoing over the years as well because Iam very very passionate about personaldevelopment none of us are perfect andit's all about trying to be better eachtime so through the books that I've readand through my own experiences I've justclay in a list now I think there's about10 or 15 so hopefully it won't keep youfor too long but what I would recommendis that after this show maybe if youjust make a few notes because if some ofyou are driving right now you might notbe able to recognize all of these andthen maybe just try one or two of themevery time you may feel a sense ofoverwhelm in your life okay so the firstone is meditation or just taking amoment to be still now the reason I saytaking a moment to be still is because Idon't actually meditate but I know thebenefits of it from people who domeditate but one of the things that I'vestarted to do is just try and be presentin that moment now you're probablythinking this is a little bitcounterintuitive because on one end ofthe scale I have all of these thingsthat I need to do because the world'sgonna end if I don't do them but on theother side you're telling me to justtake a breakyes I'm telling you to take a break andI'm telling you to take a break for asimple reason that you need to start tothink logically you need to startthinking with a clearhead and you're not gonna do that inthis mumbo-jumbo fashion where you'retrying to do everything all at oncebecause let's face it nobody Komoritusks our brains are wired in a way thatwe actually just switch between tasks soit's almost like a web browser where youswitching between tabs yes you can moveon to different tabs but you're going tolose a sense of flow because you'regonna have to find out where you werethe last time you were looking at thatweb page and it just doesn't work sowhat you ideally want to do is focus andyou only want to focus on one thing youonly want to focus on one thing at anyone time so anyway back to the point youwant to be still and you want to bepresent in a very quick way can do thisis literally by taking notice of exactlywhere you are so as I sit here nowrecording this I am sitting on my sofa Ihave one leg crossed and one leg on thefloor there's quite an unusual positionbut I can film my feet on the floor soit gives me that sense of touch I canfeel my forearm on my left thigh and Ican feel my lips are pretty dry as wellbecause it was a bit of a crazy weekendso what about you just done there inthat very quick moment is just makemyself present in relation to mysurroundings by doing that it reducesyour stress and your ins ie as well andit just brings your heart rate down everso little number to try and tick offsomething straight away something offyour list and this is why a lot ofpeople make the bed or they work outvery quickly in the morning where theyhave a point of water or they have theirvitamins first thing in the day and it'sactually one of the few things that I doas well so all those little things are alittle point that I do in the daybecause you kind of feel like youachieve something almost instantly soyes it might not be the highest prioritything but just taking off those fewthings certainly reduces that incrediblemonumental made up by the way and listof things in your head that you can'tphysically do in one day because let'sbe honest the list that we make in ourheadsit's almost made out to be a lot moredifficult and a lot more time-consumingthan it actually is the next one ispostpone anything that doesn't matter sothis is something that you can actuallyadopt eisenhower's urgent an importantprinciplenow again just simply google this andwhat it is it's basically four quadrantsand in those scenarios you have thefirst one being important and urgent thenext one important but not urgent thenyou have not important but urgent andthen you have not important and noturgent now obviously if you listen tothis on a podcast it's a hell of a loteasier to go and have a look at what itlooks like and the reason you want to dothis is because what you want to focuson is compiling these to-do listscompiling all these tasks that areoverwhelming you and making you feellike you need to almost do theminstantly and start to place them intheir right boxes for example somethinglike doing the Hoover in your house orspeaking to a potential lead now ifyou're an entrepreneur you start in yourbusiness in my personal opinion it's alot more important for you to go and tryand get leads as opposed to doing theHoover now you could be procrastinatingby doing the Hoover and trying to workaway from it but you really want tofocus on what are the things that moveyou forward one in terms of yourhappiness and your fulfillment but twoin terms of producing income for you sotry to this exercise it'll take you tenfifteen minutes but you can really startto understand the kind of things thatyou're placing into each differentquadrant now I will say in relation tothis is when you have something that isimportant but it's not urgent just bemindful that one day it will beconverging so if you don't do it at somestage it's gonna creep up and it's gonnacomment to that to-do list that's gonnainstantly overwhelm you so make surethat list isn't too big becauseobviously as life comes on we startadding more and more things to our lifeand then when that hits you at the sametime here comes the overwhelm next onewe have is set realistic goals I've beenvery fortunate to work with sellingpeople now who I'm now trying to coachand help them move forward in theirlives and I am all for being optimisticI'm all for grand Cardinals theory of10x and trying to be the best I'm reallytrying to put yourself out there andmake a difference not only to yourselvesbut to society but let's be honest ifyou've come from a place where you'venot made any money and then all of asudden you want to make 10 millionpounds in the next 12 months it's veryunlikely now I'm not here to say it'simpossible thethat's not really the purpose of thisshop what I'm here to say is and one ofthe things that I want to do in thisshow is to look after your well-beingand your mental and physical state so itwould be foolish of me to say yeah justlike ten million and all of a suddenyou're going to achieve 10 millionbecause the fact of the matter is unlessyou're one of the top one or two percententrepreneurs in the world it's probablygonna be very unlikely that you can beable to facilitate a business to makethat kind of money straight away but howrealistic goals have realistic goalsthat you will have maybe replace yourincome for example or you would havemade half a million pounds 1 millionpounds listen the fact of the matter isit just needs to be realistic based onyour resources your skill set the timeyou have available and the actual marketitself so make sure you have a realthing a realistic thing but the sametime do stretch yourself as well don'tgo out there and say I want to make1,000 pounds a month when really that'spretty easy especially if you work hardenough and you do the right thingsnext up lean on people and delegate andthis is a game going back to you thekind of the Hoover example that I usedso for example I don't like doing thehousework and we're already the highestweight for me it kind of stops my flowI almost get overwhelmed and stressed atthe feeling that I have to do it soinitially what I used to do was a hiresomeone I used to pay someone 8 poundsan hourshe's the common bless her heart and sheused to do all the tasks that I didn'twant to do now it was them my duty tomake sure that I was bringing in incomeor produces something that in the futurewill bring in income that would be morethan 8 pounds an hour and that isbasically leverage so for example backsix or seven years ago I was personaltraining and I was charging about thirtyfive pounds and I went solve for me itwas better for me to just go and getmyself another client Rodman's walkingaround the house for an hour trying totidy upwhereas I could just pay someone eightpounds an hour so value your time andlean on people or delegate so put onyour resources look at who's in yournetwork that you can work with and whoyou can help and not only that it helpsyou in return so number seven this ischanging your energy now it's reallythat you get used to changing energy andone of the things I preach on my fitnesschannels is about being healthy and goto the gym and stay inactive becauseenergy creates energy this might soundreally crazy but it does so have youever had those days where you're justsitting around all dayyou're not even hungover and you justbeen watching TV you've almost watchedall season of Netflix and all of asudden you just feel absolutelylethargic that's because you're notcreating any energy so in moments ofoverwhelm or when you're getting overlystressed one of the things you want todo is change your state now Tony Robbinsdoes this better than anyone and you'llsee him jumping around on the stage andI'm not necessarily saying if you're inthe workplace or you're out in publicthat you need to just start jumping upand down on the spot although that wouldbe pretty funny and if you do do it makesure you tag me in on social media whileyou're doing it but something as simpleas doing a couple of press ups doing acouple of squats taking a walk taking ajog something that will just literallymove you from where you are now createsome level of energy and just by doingthat alone it will start to relieve youof tension it will release endorphinsand it will over time start to make youfeel less overwhelmed so you probablysee me now workout twice a day and thereason I do that is because firstly Ilike to put a win in my daily diary assoon as I wake up because then I know ifshit hits the fan and it's a very verydifficult day full of obstacles andproblems I've still done something tobenefit my health and then the secondone normally comes after about lunchtimeonce I've had half of the day of workand then I just want to kind of thinkcreatively so then I go for a secondexercise session and just by doing thatone I release my stress I get to listento some music sometimes I have theoccasional podcast on but then as soonas I come back from that I'm feelingrefreshed and I'm feeling creative againand finally number eight this is whereI'm gonna leave it guys I could talkabout this for ages if you did foundthis useful and you want me to kind ofdo a part two because I've got likeanother 20 points here please do let meknowbut the final one I'm gonna go is justto remember in the grand scheme ofthings be stressed out about whatever itis whether it's doing the laundrywhether it's one deadline for example orwhether it's making sure the dishes arewashed is it really that importantnow I know obviously we're moving thestate of overwhelm is very difficult tothink logically I fully appreciate thatbut if you can just sit there maybe makeyourself present as I mentioned beforemaybe change your state as soon asyou've done that and then just sit thereand think okay I'm getting overwhelmedbecause I have X Y & Z to do and thenthink how important are these if Godforbid I wasn't able to do it bytomorrow or the day after would my lifebe over and you'll probably realize yourlife isn't gonna be over and again thisprobably comes down to all the pressuresthat you put on yourself theexpectations and it's just about beingmore mindful in the moment so hopefullyyou found this useful I again I reallydo enjoy these kind of single soloepisodes because I feel I'm able toobviously give you guys tips on whatit's actually made me bear and again thewhole premise of finding your voice isabout overcoming our adversityovercoming our pain and trying to findways to move forward to not only feelhappier more fulfilled but then be ableto give back into the world so guys asalways I do thank you so much for yourtime I thank you all for the reviewsagain we're starting to pick up somemore reviews as well if you follow me onsocial media actually that's probablythe last time I'm gonna say that todayis I am offering a free gym plan forfour weeks and have dietary advice aswell it's gonna be absolutely free Iusually charge 70 pounds for it but it'sjust going to be in relation to if youcan give us a review maybe share it onsocial media and tag me in so I know whoyou are then what I'll do is I'll getyour email address and I'll personallysend you this free diet plan so the wayI'm selling it at the minute is one yoube doing me a massive favor by helpingexpand this movement getting more peopleto follow find your voice more people tochange their lives and not becomevictims and like I said on the lastepisode start to become a victor of thelife and really take control of it butto you'll also look great naked so onthat note I'm gonna leave it there and Ihope you all have an incredible week andas always thanks for listening andremember this podcast is absolutely freeso all we ask in return is for you toshare this with a friend and drop us afive star review over on iTunes have anawesome day See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Yesterday, my kids all came over for Sunday Brunch. This is a new tradition we started because I was spreading myself too think trying to take myself out to them individually. It became easier for me to create a space where everyone could gather at one time.I still love doing fun things one-on-one with my kids. And now, I have a solid standing invitation that is building a tradition that helps them come to me!Today is Memorial Day. It seems appropriate to mention that there are many of us who feel that our time-honored traditions of freedom are threatened. When our traditions are threatened, we feel personally threatened. In our world today, some of our historical figures who gave their lives to liberate us and give us the freedoms we enjoy today, are being blotted out in the history books. Statues to commemorate significant events in our Nation’s history are being replaced with more contemporary ideals.Rather than adapting our history to fit what we find attractive in the moment, if we want to maintain the freedoms we enjoy today, it’s important to learn from our history and never forget! Traditions is what keeps those memories alive.We all have a responsibility to be a catalyst for change. The traditions, patterns and habits we create for ourselves will produce a result. The change that we begin affects us, our future posterity and even helps free those who came before us.Our choice to change, to be more in alignment with true principles and the proven path to freedom, creates a ripple effect that affects all of humanity.I Give Myself Permission to Inspire ChangeIt costs nothing to speak upI start the cycle of change and change happensI change me to align with the highest truthI honor traditions that have stood the test of timeI honor traditions that perpetuate freedom for me, my family, my community, my NationI am grateful for where I am and for all those who helped me to get hereI know where I am going and I know how to get thereI remember the consistent growth that comes from stepping out and reaching upClick Here for more info on living a life of gratitude.Click Here to find out how to join the Gratitude Call live every weekday morning at 7 am Mountain Time.Click Here to join the “Breakthrough with Gratitude!” Facebook GroupTo learn more about working more closely with Wylene Benson, contact her directly at this link: Contact WyleneSupport the show (https://wylenebenson.com)

Find your voice - Episode 21 "Using exercise to help your Mental Health" Michael Hayes #22Tagline: "What's for you, won't pass you" - Michael HayesMichael Hayes, is one of the most positive, infectious people I have been fortunate enough to have connected with during my time as a Podcaster. A genuine individual who focuses in his own time on promoting positive links between mental health and exercise and whilst spreading authentic, honest and tangible messages through his social media platforms.Michael does not do this for any monetary reasons, but since seeing those close to him suffer with mental health he made a choice to use his expertise in health and fitness and promote a positive link of enhancing not just your physical well-being through exercise but also improving your overall mental health.Our first Irish/Aussie on the show who proves that real messages and honest advice is the same across the world and if you want to ensure you get genuine advice his story is definitely worth following. Michael also admits to having suffered little adversity in his life although when you finish this episode you would probably agree that even if he was, or had, he would not have seen it as a burden or adversity and likely just smiled his way through it.All the links to follow Michael's journey are below and a final note before you go check that out, which I think is worth mentioning and came from his mother is: "What's for you, won't pass you".I urge you all to follow his journey and support him on making a positive difference in the world of fitness and mental health.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mentalhealthfitnesscoach/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalhealthfitnesscoach/ RU Okay: https://instagram.com/ruokday?igshid=r9o8sro81bv3Have an awesome day & #JustDeuit & #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so I am delighted to beable to bring to you today Michael Hayesotherwise known as the mental healthfitness coach now Michael is irish-bornbut now living over in Australia andwhat he has done is he's taken a passionof his ie personal training but he'slinked it very very closely to somethingthat we can all relate to mental healthnow the way he links mental health andfitness is fantastic and it's probablynot what you're gonna expect especiallyfrom somebody who now operates onInstagram not quite the influencer thathe will be one day but Michael'smessages are incredible and I certainlyurge you after this episode to engagewith Michael and follow him on hisjourney because alongside he's workedwith mental health and exercise Michaelis also just a very very positive personin fact he's probably the most positiveperson I've had on the show and I saythat after interviewing so manyincredible guess he's infectious he'sgot a great aura about him and all he'strying to do is make you guys feelbetter both physically and mentally so Ithink without further ado let's jumpstraight into this interview okayfirstly I'd like to start by welcomingMichael Hayes to today's show and I wantto thank Michael for taking time out ofhis day to come on and share his storyand secondly Michael I just want to knowhow are you doing today my friend yesreally good yeah just back from work sosettling in for the night now how aboutyou how's your day been yeah my day hasbeen good so it's early more I say earlymorning is 10 o'clock here so my day iskind of startingfor anyone listening you can probablytell from Michaels voice straight awaythat he's not got this amazing Brummieaccent that I have he's actually fromAustralia so it's our first Australianguest on the show so again I'm verygrateful for thatI think to get this started Michael ifyou wouldn't mind if you can just kindof tell our audience a little bit aboutyourself a little bit about your storybecause hopefully that way you'll givethem an insight in relation to yourselfand also give them an understanding asto why I reached out to get you onto ashow yeah absolutely and I'll just startoff by saying that I'm actually Irish soI've I've been in Australia for the lastseven years so I'm after getting a bitof a twang since I moved here so I likeit I get some serious grief up everyonefrom home when when they hear just whatanyway yesyeah I've been living in Australia thelast 7 years so I guess I run a anInstagram page and a Facebook campaigntype thing called mental health fitnesscoach so I'm pretty much peachy turnedinto just someone that's trying to getpeople to exercise for for all the rightreasons I guess so for your your mentalhealth is sleep for your mood to reducestress and to not look at it from youknow I want to get a six-pack or I wantto you know the quickest way to lookgood on the beach or things like thatjust getting people to take a step backand say you know this is more there'smore to exercise and to and to fitnessand just how you look or you know thematerial things it's there's a lot moreto it a lot more deeper things thatpeople should be focusing on thatunfortunately in this day and age theydon't tend to be so that's where where Iam and that all came about for me I wastrue my work I was doing this 30 days ofexercise and for 30 minutes for 30 daysof exercise for your improved mentalhealth and through that process I wasdoing just my own Instagram post andputting things up this was before thetime of mental health fitness coach so Iwas just posting things off about my own30 minutes of exercise each day andputting little snippets up about thebenefits of exercise your mental healthand putting some bits up also aboutencouraging conversations around mentalhealth and through that 30 days I gotlots of feedback frommy own friends and some really closefriends as well as my family and some ofmy immediate family about strugglesthey've had with mental health and thiswas things that I had never known so itwas a big wake-up call and surprise tome at the time when you know I wasputting these things I would thinking ohyeah you know it's it's great for peopleto exercise remember heads but meantimeI was going on not realizing that a lotof people close to me had suffered orwere suffering with their with theirmental health so that was at thebeginning of it all for me you know itwas a real big eye-opener and from thereI just kind of thought at the time I wasa PT and looking after a gym and kind ofI look I'm in a good position here wheresome people look to me for that fitnessadvice and I'm sorry my former top looksat me for that fitness advice and thisis a time where you know I'm a personthat yeah that people look to and I'lljust put that positive message out so Istarted to mental health fitness coachand it was all about just exercising forthe right reasons and it's about threeyears ago now and you know back then thethe fifties and all those things wereyou know at the big thing now it's bootybends and all that and you know it'sjust it's just not the reason thatpeople need to be exercising like youknow it just just do it for it foryourself and for your mood and yourrelationships that's that's the bigmessage that I try to just send out topeople and I've been doing that now forthe last yeah coming on three years nowa mental health fitness coach and it'snot really anything that I'm doing for agood monetary sense it's just trying toget that that message out there and sofar I think of impacted quite a fewpeople just through my own post if I canhave a positive impact on a few peopleand that's great and if it means someonegoes out and does it hurt him in a walkevery day where they wouldn't have doneanything before and that that helpstheir their daily life then you knowthat's fantastic and that's kind of whatI'm hoping to achieve through all ofthis that's fantastic mate so we'refirst I just want to acknowledge you forthat as well because I think it's anincredible thing that you're doingyou're encouraging people to exercisefor the right reasons so I was a fellowPT I similar to yourself I share thesameviews that we shouldn't necessarilyexercise for that six-pack or how wethink we should look I the Instagrammodel life and it is again it's my kindof way of releasing my tensionsthroughout the day it helps with mentalhealth myself so I think I love thatmessage about it but I also love andwhat you touched on is that you'vemanaged to encourage conversationbetween your friends and family who havesuffered with this mental health intheir own personal lives and I thinkthat's that's a testament one toyourself that people can obviously comeout and speak to you and feel openlycomfortable about that but I think it'ssomething that as a society across theworld in Australia England wherever weareis that we need to encourage thatconversation about mental health and Ijust think that's a fantastic thing andthis is one of the actual reasons that Ireached out to you specifically I seenyour messages and I just thought thiswould be like a really good person tocome on and the fact that you don't dothis for the monetary sense it is togive back it is to get value I really dourge my listeners at the end of the showto jump on your Instagram page and seethe messages that you're having on thatno I just wanted to ask a bit of apersonal question if you wouldn't mindas well is Michael have you sufferedyourself from depression or are yousimply doing this because you see thevalue in helping other people around youyeah good question no I haven't and I'mone of the lucky people who yeah I'venever had any any issue really with anymental health whether it be depressionanxiety mood swingsanything at all so I've been I supposequite privileged in that sense andthat's where I'm a really reallypositive person and always have been andany because of that when I did this 30days of exercise for 30 minutes for 30days and I got all this feedback for myfriends and family that was when Ithought oh shit like you know I'm livingthis this great life thinking it's allgood and you know I've always reallyjust exercised for myself and in my ownmental health how I'm feeling but all ofa sudden I was like this is actually outthere it's real and you know people aresuffering cos I've gone through my lifethinking you know everything's great youknow everyone's happy yeah nobody's okayjust like uber positive almost at apoint where I was unable to see thatthis could behappening in other people because Isuppose my own positivity blinded me towhat might be happening to others andand I would always I would always lookto the well neither no they must be finethat they I'm sure they'll be okay andtell myself the good happy story but andyeah it's really just the last few yearssince I started this and moved toAustralia and I've really started tonotice this and you know thank God I'venoticed they could you know now I I'mmuch more conscious of my own mentalhealth so when I do go through any modesor anything like that I understandwhat's going on and yeah so no luckilyfor me I've never never been impacted byany mental health things fantastic andhopefully continues that way and youjust said yeah thank God that younoticed it and I think definitely thankGod or whatever you believe in that youhave noticed it because now you're in aposition where you're able to helppeople learn almost lift them out ofthis very dark space and I say very darkspace because my mom suffered withchronic depression for the best part ofthe last eight years and prior to thatagain probably similar tell you when youfirst started I didn't understand mentalhealth it was like what have you got tobe sad about got this to look forward toit was only recently over the last eightyears I've really kind of tried tounderstand men to help myself and it'sfunny that you're almost doing what Iwish I had the time to do which islinking one of my passions which isfitness and the other one which is Ihold very close to my heart mentalhealth because obviously it's affectingmy mom and you link in the two togetherso that's kind of why I resonate towardsyour story a lot because I'm like inanother life if I had a bit moreflexibility and a bit more time and mayif I could live in Australia as wellthat would be an added bonus I wouldliterally be doing the same kind ofthings as you so I want to ask just onsomething else that you touched on thereif you wouldn't mind yeah you've alwaysbeen this happy positive person nowbefore we've had this show we spoke forthe best part of a minute and within asecond of seeing your face on on skypeyou were you were smiling you were happyand I was like this is gonna be a goodinterview I knew straight away becauseyou were good vibes off almost instantlywhat are the careers and stuff have youdone throughout life or what do youthink is the reason that you've alwaysjust been happy or is it just literallyyour mindset has just been programmedthat way I reckon yeah it's just mysaid and it's yeah it's just the wayI've always been you know I hadextremely good parents and a reallygreat family there's five kids in ourfamily and you know I'm the youngest soI was always supported and you knowshowing Sean the right road and yeah Iguess it's just how I've always beenlike I don't know any other way than toput a smile on and have a chat to peoplethat I don't know and you know ifthere's a top conversation that's neededto be had with like say my staff orsomeone's going through a hard time likeI'm always happy to get in and and notthings I would people but yeah I thinkit's just the way I've always been itit's not any one particular thing thathappened that you know maybe thispositive person it's just yeah lucky forme I had a really good upbringing andit's just the way I've been that'sfantastic man and long may it continuebecause the world could definitelybenefit from more people like yourselfjust to kind of spread a bit of sunshineso yeah that's also to hear okay sowhat's a general day-to-day life likeover there in Australia for yourselfyeah and I'm the same as you I lovehabits and I think the biggest thing ofme is just trying to be consistentaround the good things that I do so andI suppose I might actually answer it ona week-to-weekthat's all right yeah absolutely themore relevant to what I do and so reallylike usually on a on a Sunday orSaturday our leader have a mental thinkabout what's going to happen in the weekafter and I've got a spreadsheet thatI've been working off now for the lastyear and a half where I scheduled mytraining for the next week and so I knowexactly what I'm gonna doMonday true to Sunday but one of thethings that I found really good formyself to keep myself consistent with myexercise and I'm a runner so I love torun and so one of the things that I didwanted a very very first thing that Idid was started pack run and I know youguys have Perricone you know the weeklyx 5 kilometer runs yeah so that was thatwas one of the first things that Istarted to do me My partner and fianceknow we started doing Park run and forme I know every Saturday at 8 a.m. onthat pack run and I'm running and that'sthat's what I'm doing I thinkthat's a tenner 11 over in the in the UKand I was like a little bit sleepincreate a in there but for me I know thatthat's what that day is so I've tried tobuild my my exercise and my runningaround just habit and consistency soSaturday is always packed on Tuesday Irun with a run Club in in part and W acalled frontrunner sports performanceand I do a Tuesday 6:00 a.m. everysingle week with those guys and then Ido what R is a fight in every singleweek with those guys so I kind of knowlike whatever happens in life unlesssomething goes completely pear-shapedTuesday Thursday Saturday I'm runningand that's what I'm going to do sothat's one of the things that has helpedme get that consistency for probably thelast almost going on a year and a halfnow probably but running in the lastyear with the front runner guys onTuesday and Thursday and and obviouslymassive improvement in my running fromthat and I'm not a person that you'dlook at that would say yeah he'd be okat running but because of the habit thatI have of doing it every week I've justgotten a little bit better every singlemonth throughout the last couple ofyears and now I'm a decent runnerwhereas people would look at me and gooh he he can't run that faster he can'tdo that or a lot of people always getthe question you know how have youimproved so much it's literally it'sconsistency like I started to go in oncea week to Peregrine's and that's whatprobably did that for three or fourmonths it was just once a week and thenthink I sure would choose to era winsthey ran them session in there and thenit became that the Tuesday Thursday andthey're just ingrained in my daily or myweekly routines now and so that's a bigthing for me as part of every week andthen the rest of the week from a monthat Friday I'm full-time job on my healthand fitness coordinator for localgovernments in parts so and that's whatmy general nine-to-five so I look afterthe gym and our group fitness programsin our community classes and I actuallylove that and one of the very very verylucky people that can say I actuallyenjoy money learning and getting up andgoing to work and there'syou know obviously everyone get sick atwork at time from time to time butthere's very occasions that I'm actuallynot happy to go to work or be at work soand that's my job and through the weekand the rest of the week is family myfiance and the dogs and that's that'sher yeah that's brilliant man I supposeyou've almost found what many of us aretrying to find and you know we alwayshear people getting sad on a Sundayevening and they got work in the morningand you've almost kind of found your wayso it's nice to see that you're havingthat and you also touched on somebrilliant points again which was it'sall about consistency and one of thethings I always say is obviously we ourresort of our habits so I think thatgoing back to your 30 minutes a daythere I mean it's a day in the grandscheme of things I thinking we'reexcited to like two percent a day if wecan just get people to do that as a sortof habit initially and then if it hasthe effects of improving your mentalhealth on a long-term scale I thinkwe're on to a winner so on that pointalone have you got access to a sort of30 day plan or is it's just somethingthat people would need to kind of goback into your Instagram and follow intomy Instagram and follow and you know Idon't have any 30-day plans or anywherethat I suppose that the main thing forme with people and I've had with the gymthat I work at I've had many manyinteractions with people about you knowwhat are they going to do to getthemselves fit and healthy and I wentthrough a period of weight gain where Ididn't realize I was gaining weight butI got up to like 115 or 16 kilos butover the last three or four years sinceI started running I'm back down to 90 soI've had a big weight loss and periodand a lot of people asking me about youknow what should they do and you knowwhat exercises should they do for forthis muscle and you know should I begoing how many times a week should I begoing to the gym and how many reps did Ido and how many said should I do thisexercise and I always say to people andeven when people come to a gym like doyou enjoy going to the gym and if theanswer is yes then it's like yeah yeahokay in you go it doesn't matter whatyou do pick exercises you like thick repranges you like it accept ranges youlike and do thatbecause you're only going to beconsistent at the things you like and ifsomeone comes into our gym and says ohyou know I actually quite like workingout in groups send them straight togroup fitness like if someone came intomy gym and said I hate gymsI hate group fitness classes I'd sendthem straight back out the door and tellthem do something else because there'sno point in them coming towards to dosomething that they're not going toenjoy and they're not going to sayconsistent that because you know youcan't sign up for a gym or an exerciseprogram or sports team if that's notsomething that you actually enjoy likeanyone who wants to get fish you need todo something that you enjoy and that youcan keep doing for me it's running andoccasionally lifting weights so I dolots of running and a fair amount ofweightlifting and that's what I lovedoing and so for for people like youknow if you're looking for a 30 day planor whatever it might be that are lookingfor they need to just look intothemselves and go what I like to andI'll you know we live done living inAustralia so there's lots of outdooractivities you can do so someone lovesstand-up paddleboarding or golfing orgardening or whatever it is you know sothat wasn't it that and see that and youknow make the most of that becausewhether or not it's 2 percent to yourday or however long of your day it isthat you're doing this exercise for youwant to be doing something that youenjoy and yeah it's there's too manypeople and this especially with gyms andgroup fitness classes and things likethatthey do it because other people do itnot because it's something that theywant to do they see someone else gettingresults doing that exercise or they godforbid they go on Instagram and they seethe top six exercises to get awesome adsand they do those exercises and realizethat they haven't been it's really abouthaving a thing to yourself of what do Ienjoy doing and if you don't know whatthat is just go and try a few things goto the gym go to an outdoor class join asports team join a join a running clubyou know try things out and whicheverone it is that you you think you enjoythat's what you'll be consistent at sogo do that Michael I love that answer sotwo things I want to point out firstlythis is why I want people to follow yourpage twolearn from yourself and all these littlenuggets that you just thrown in therebut another reason that actually lovethe answer is because you're confirmingeverything I've been preaching myselffor the last time right so mainlybecause you agree with me because I havefour pillars that I always say are mysword when I work with my clients Iwould say if we can add a to these fourpillars and they are enjoymentsustainability consistency and hard workand I think as long as you have amixture of all of those so the enjoymentside which is literally exactly what youexplained so I think that's a reallyreally important point you said theirconsistency we've already touched onsustainability again if your enjoymentand consistency are on point it's goingto be sustainable if they're gonna keepit goingand obviously I think there is anelement that people think they don'thave to work hard and you touched ontheir this the ABS exercises get abs inthree weeks by doing this it doesn'treally work like that because there's abit more science that goes behind it butgreat answer mate and again I'mconsistently plugging your channelbecause it would be nice to get theaudience to see it from a differentperspective somebody on the other sideof the world almost doing the exact samething and making such a positiveinfluence so I appreciate that answer methank you yesokay so the next question is are yougonna be quite an interesting onebecause a very happy positive person butwhat I want to touch on is adversity andI use adversity in all of my episodesbecause I want people to look at thingsor change the perception of things andjust know that whatever situation you'regoing through however difficult you mayfeel it is in that particular time isthere's always a way out of it if you'rewilling to persevere through it so I'mhoping you've been through someadversity and I mean that in the kindestway possible me because I'm not smilingnow on the other side of it but couldyou maybe take us back to a time wherethings were going as well as you maybehoped or you went through some adversityand how you overcame that and thenfinally the lessons that you learnedfrom that if you wouldn't mind yeahabsolutely and yeah I haven't gonethrough a massive amount of adversity inmy life would that's it I you know I'vehad plenty of tougher harder times thatI've had to go it was the one for methatso tis so obviously I'm living inAustralia I'm came here from lard and soabout three years into when I was here Iwas am working in a job and this job wasgoing to sponsor me to stay in thecountry and just before my sponsorshipwent through I reckon two weeks beforemy sponsorship was all gonna go true andeverything was going to be sweet orCenter closed down and yes so thesponsorship went out the window prettyquick unfortunately was not sure anyfault of the employer that's the waythings went down so and yeah just justwhen I thought I was yeah I'm said I'mgonna be in Australia nothing to worryaboutgot my sponsorship that'll get me my PRwe're good to goeverything kind of just set out out ofnowhere literally out of noise but Ihonestly don't look back now on thattime as a time of adversity or a timewhere I was under massive stress becausefor me at the time I was just alrightwell this has happened no matter what Ido I can't really change the outcome ofwhat's happened to and to the centerit's that's just the way it is so thethe first thing that I was doing waslooking for I would I need a job so Iwent and saw myself some work and I wentback to construction work and that wasfine and and then it was just playingthe waiting game to see when when thisCenter was going to get back opened upsee if that sponsorship was still on thecarriage and and I've had a think Ithink I had four months until I had togo home legally the contrary so yeah andI it was it was going to be a little bitmore time until they got the centre openand they had some roof issues that theyhad to sort out so there was a lot ofconstruction to go on and like just buttrue luck that whole period I just kindof kept on to them and said you knowwhen can I get back in is it going tohappen isn't it going to happen andthere for a while there wasn't a wholelot of talk backwards and forwards so Ijust kept doing my construction stuffaway and and eventually I got back intowork and I got this I got sponsored bushI suppose the big thing for me throughthat wholetime was well look if I get sent home Iget sent home and that's just the wayit's gonna be in and I always had in theback of my mind that it's going to sortitself out one way or another whetherit's through work or whether somethingelse comes up or you know whether I getit I think there was the option of apartner a partner visa with my partnerat the time so you know there there wasoptions there and I kinda just didn'tlet myself get too stressed to thecensus you know I was worrying about itall the time and just kind of got onwith things as best I could and andluckily it all worked out and yeah I'mjust I'm still here now but it was yeahI just kind of keep it that positiveattitude towards this and then yeah itworked out in the end but uh I think agood a good quote and I'm gonna call mymom of all people in the world yeah forthis was a sudden my mom sold me heapsof times Trudy years Witter is going fora job or it's going to interviews oranything that I'm racing or whatever Iwas doing she'd always say what's foryou won't pass you so you know if atthat time if it if it was for me to stayin Oz and you know to go on to be whereI am now then that's what it was goingto be if that's not what how it was timeto work out then something else will popup that would be you know just as goodor betterso really it's you know anytime we do ajob interview or anything like that orespecially if I don't get a jobI always think well that clearly wasn'tfor me so if it was I would have got itkind of yeah on to the next thingthat's fantastic me then it's funny yousaid that quote and I resonated withthis straightaway because my nan so shedoesn't speak English but she speaksPunjabi but these direct words that yourmom says she says the same quote soshe's a very religious person and she'salways had that philosophy sure butactually she's starting to remind me alittle bit of yourself and I mean thatwith utmost respect because she's alwayssmiling she's always happy and she'sbeen through a hell of a lot ofadversity in life but she's alwayssaying you know whatever's meant to beis meant to be if you meant to havesomething come in your life will happenif you're not you're not so I thinkthat's a brilliant way and it's probablywhatkept her going so long so very wisewords from my cause mom so appreciatethat me do you have that do you havethat quote in your grandma's words Iyou're testing my Punjabi haha yeah yeahmaybe one for our line may I try and getyou a translation I don't wannaembarrass myself live online yeah yeahhuge you won't be too happy with mypronunciation but yeah if it is exactlythe same but I think that's brilliant Ithink it's a testament to the way thatyou think always got that positiveoutlet you're always looking at thingsas in just the way that I wisheverybody's in it rather then me if I'mcompletely honest five years ago wouldhave seen that as oh my god the wholeworld's falling down I'm so close to getmy sponsorship it's almost falling theirminds I would go through the rephraseyou're just kind of got that in the backof your head so consciously you'rethinking it's all gonna work out and I'mreally glad it has so in this currentsituation now things are going well foryou what scares you in life do you haveany fears and do I have any serious it'sa good question and I don't think I dolike you know I if anything I'll worryabout other people more than I worryabout myself so I'd you know I kind ofwant to make sure that I was good withwith my close mates and my fiance and myfamily and you know some of my sistersare pregnant at the moment so you knowit's the only things I worry about herare all those guys and you know checkingin and then to make sure everything'sgoing okay but now personally for myselfI don't really uh kind of hold strongsimilansmums advice of you know if it's for youwon't pass you and kind of keep keeppushing forward and yeah if that's agood answerno not absolutely my absolutelydefinitely so are you telling me you'renot scared of all the again I'm speakingas a Brit here we hear all the storiesof the snakes and the spiders inAustraliadoes anything like that ever scare youor ever hear of a red back a red backspider not very little that littlespiders with a red back they're prettyfierce looking they're they're smallsmall little things we get lots ofaround my house we get tons of them sothere's lots of and he has brain sprayred backs around here but no of my hairfunny the way my brother-in-law was isscared and worried about coming overhere and sitting on a toilet boner andwater being underneath it when he catchyou for the yeah look lovely that's themit's pretty unlikely and I've never comeacross too many snakes any more a rod Iguess if I was to say one thing Isuppose on on fear and it's not reallyfear for me but it's just for again forother people it's the current age ofsocial media and the influence thatsocial media influencers have you knowso many people are drawn in by theseinfluencers and you know they take whatthey're saying for fur gospel almost andyou know they they you have peoplebuying these fit tees and you havepeople buying to these 30 day programsand all these detoxes and you knowthere's lots of people that are preyingon people's fears and emotions andgetting to sign up to these programs andto be honest it's a real big issue andit's what is one of the main reasons asI said in my page was just to have analternative option of the the quickfixes and things like this becausethere's so many people that andespecially at our gym and and you knowfriends of mine and I see other peopleputting things up like everyone thinksthat these things work and that there'syou know there's something to it pushesyou know a quick quick thing gonna soferrets it's it's a worry the thecurrent state of the fitness industryonline you know that I think the fitnessindustry in Australia on the groundlevel is really good and really positiveand there's lots of people doing greatthings but the the online influence ofpeople who have no experience in healthand fitness is yeah extremely worryinghopefully with people like you andthings that I'm doing you know it yeahthe common sense approach will will winout in the endabsolutely may I think you just hitsomething that again I resonate with isfind it so annoying that theseinfluences are in a position where theyhave so much impact and they're justbeen unethical and they're not beingauthentic in their message and they'reselling these cookie cut programs orthey're saying you can look like me ifyou do this in six months and I'mlooking at him and I'm like you'reobviously on something that's notnatural for example you've been doingthis for 15 years and you're just tryingto almost manipulate people and tobelieve in it and it's not just thefitness industry to be honest so I'minvolved as a property investor as afull-time occupation and even withinthat there is a massive massive marketof people and the shame is is that theyhave so much influence who prey onpeople who are in an almost like adesperation phase and when you'redesperate you're almost clinging on toanything and it's just reassuring toknow that there are people likeyourselves out there who have thisamazing energy about you and you justhonest and authentic and this is areason I do my show it's to give peoplea voice who aren't influences who Igenuinely believe can make a positiveimpact on the world because I genuinelybelieve if my audience however smalleris or however big it grows follows youthey're gonna get authentic informationinformation that and I don't mean thisbecause I say similar stuff I mean it isbecause we understand the basics behindit and it's nice that you're trying tomake an impressive but it's funny isn'tit because on one end we're looking atthese influences and thinking that theway Instagram and Facebook and stuff isit's it's almost damaging to people'sself-esteem Ament to half but at thesame time we also need it to preach ourmessage and to get our voice heard totry and help people absolutely so yeahyeah it's a funny one so what is yourmotivation then moving forward for yourbusiness is it to enhance your voice toget out there to impact more lives or doyou have another underlying motivationbehind the word that you do yeah look Ijust want to keep doing what I'm doingyou know every one person that I thoughtI impact positively is you know it's forme that's that's the ultimate goal isjust to have a small little impact onpeople's lives whether it's someonestarts doing it you know a tiny bit ofexercise that they've never done beforeor whether it's someone else has a chatthat I made about the mental health whothey think isn't doing so well you knowI just want to keep pushing the messageout there andas far as I'd like to get a little bitmore active on social media given yourfull time job and this is just somethingI do on the side I'm probably not asactive or putting out as good a contentas I'd like to at the moment but I justwant to keep keep growing the theaudience and make sure that the messageis reaching as many people as we can andyou know maybe one day start podcastingor doing something similar to whatyou're in here and chatting to peopleabout their own experience of mentalhealth and Howard are our onlyexperienced mental health exercises haspositively impacted that and which yeahfor now it's kind of keep going as we'regoing yeah absolutelyI think you'd be an amazing advocate forboth mental health and fitness so if youdo get the time and capacity later onabsolutely doing if I can help in anyway in terms of like setting up apodcast or anything please do reach outand I'll try my best to help you buddynot a problem that a stress so we'reactually at the the fun part of the shownow this is the part where I'm gonna askMichael all sorts of weird and wonderfulquestions let me know when you're readyand we're gonna hit the time wrap thenwe're gonna get started it's not okaywe're gonna go in three two oneokay Michael what did you eat forbreakfast nothing if you could reallylive one day again what day would it beoh the day I met my partner the abilityto fly or be invisible invisible who doyou admire most in the world and oh godthat's good question I've no ideado I admire most in the world oh geez mymom I love it when your fame mmm moneyyour proudest momentdropping on one knee your favorite foodhates it speak or languages will be ableto speak to animals or speak to animals100% if you could abolish one thing inthe world what would it beoppression what some best describes yourlife there is a song that I can't thinkof it don't worry be happy whatever thatsong got made that is a hundred percentyouokay if you had an extra hour a day howwould you spend it with my partnerNetflix or YouTube Netflix yournumber-one goal this year have apositive impact if you could sit withone person in the world for an hour whowould it berock your worst fear as a child these asbeing too tall I'm 6 4 but I've beenthink forces I was around 6 Wow okaywhat is your biggest addiction Netflixand finally buddy read minds or predictthe future read - love it ok that's theend of the quickfire round so we got toknow especially when you've got like notime to think as well so I was justinterested yes it but yeah some goodchoices there everyone loves pizza and Ithink I haven't found anyone yet whodoesn't like the rock ok but it's allwe've got fine or 2 questions now we'recoming towards the kind of end of theshow and the next thing I like to alwaysask my guess is more about reflection soI am a firm believer that hindsight is awonderful thing in terms of it teachesus a lot he teaches us how we can get toplaces quicker easier or with lessheartache now knowing you now as aperson you're very positive and youhaven't been through I suppose that muchadversity but if you could perhaps goback to a younger michael hayes knowingeverything you know now and whispersomething in that may be uncertain youngversion of yourself what would you sayand mental health is real I'd like tohave known a lot more about mentalhealth and being able to make an impactearlier I think yeah absolutely I thinkthe world would have benefited so muchas well if you knew but I'm justgrateful I'm sure people listening tothis are as well that you're making animpact now and on that note we areactually on our last question of theshow and the last question again Ialways like to ask all of my guess it'sabout legacy and if science fails tosave us all and all that is left is abook and that book is about MichaelHayes and everything you've achieved inyour life and all the great weird andbefore things that you've accomplishedfirstly what would the title will sayand secondly what would the blurb at theback tell us about you and the titlewould say keep it simple stupid the backwould probably go along the lines of andthis bloke managed to convince everybodythat the simple things done consistentlyand with a little bit of hard work makeall the difference I love that I love itmate thank you thank you for sharingthat I think just that title alone woulddefinitely make me pick up the book justto kind of think about the lastfantastic okay Michael so just before weend the show I want to give again I'vebeen plugging it all the way throughthis episode I want to give the audiencea chance to follow you on your journey Ithink you're a very infectious positiveperson I've really enjoyed thisconversationyou've got me out of my seat I was a bitlethargic this morning had two cups ofcoffee but I'm thinking about the restof the day so if you could tell us whereour audience can find you and what I'lldo is I'll play all of that together andI'll put it into the show notes becauseI believe you're gonna do incrediblethings and you already are so far awaymate oh my cheers thanks for that andyeah so on Instagram it's at mentalhealth fitness coach and Facebook justsearched mental health fitness coach andI'll pop up on both of those I'mactually on YouTube as well as mentalhealth fitness coach and there's a fewinterviews that I did in the past andone of them was with the CEO of are youokay which is a company - an Australiancompany that's are encouragingconversations around mental health andthat's quite a good one to go and lookat and that's actually a really goodresource for anyone in the UK as welland who are you okay just the letter areyou and then okay and that's that's onethat yeah it's probably one of the bestones that we have in Australia so forstarting conversations and how I start aconversation with a friend and what tosayand it's a unbelievable resource so I'dgo check that as well be a bitmental health fitness coach everywhereelse is where you'll finally fantasticand we spoke I think earlier this weekyou've also got another podcast so Idon't normally plug another podcast intothis but I think it'd be really nice forpeople to get to know even more so whatI'll also do is I'll put that in theshow notes as well or are you okay inthere as well because again this issomething that I'll follow personallyMichael it's been an absolute pleasurethank you for your time today and foreveryone else at home thanks forlistening today thank you and rememberthis podcast is absolutely free so allwe ask in return is for you to sharethis with a friend and drop us a fivestar review over on iTunes have anawesome day See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Find your voice - Episode 11 - My Little Spartan - Michael V Kalisperas #11Tagline: "Unleash your inner spartan..."Apologies in advance for the sound quality on my end. Technical issues certainly played their role. But in true spartan fashion we kept going.Michael Kalisperas life turned upside when his son was hit with a number of health conditions due to the neglect of a midwife. Sadly his beautiful son's life had changed which would have a knock on effect to Michael and his family.However determined to not let this get him down, Michael continued to take action and let his excuses be a thing of the past. Realising his own excuses and rationales to avoid doing the hard stuff are so insignificant compared to the battles his son, and daughter face on a daily basis he ensured he crushed his goals.A successful property investor, an author, a father and loving husband Michael story is one which touched my heart.I reached out personally when I first heard his story because he genuinely changed my whole perception on the way I view my life or sometimes feel about my own situation.I urge you all to ignore the sound defects, which I take full responsibility for and listen to this incredible man's story.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekalispera (Personal)Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EffusiveMarketing/ (Facebook group)Michaels book: https://amzn.to/2RUZ7MS#JustDeuIt & #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so it's very rare thatI will stop a podcast especially at theend of it just to kind of find out whothe individual is now I'm not saying Idon't get inspired or motivated bypeople but generally speaking I'm justkind of excited for the next podcasthowever on this particular occasion afew years ago I actually pause thepodcast towards the end of the show nowthe only problem was I still had therest of my car journey to go so I waskind of sitting in silence but it wasworth it because I really wanted to senda message to this individual who I'm nowvery grateful to have on my podcast andI sent a message out to Michael to kindof say thank you for the inspiration forthe motivation and more importantly Ihope things really do progress a littlebit easy for him I suppose in life andspeaking to him in this interview it'sdifficult to say how things got easierbut one thing I can say is that he'sattitude is still the same he'swillingness to just go out there andtake action and not be a victim of hiscircumstances is fantastic and that'skind of what this podcast is about it'sabout eliminating your excuses it'sabout pay with the cards that you'redealt with it's about literally thinkingokay this is what's happened now how doI change this how do I go out into theworld and really find my voice and kindof write my own story so I think I'mgoing to leave it thereI just want to say before it starts Idid have some teething issues with theWi-Fi so we actually have to do a zoomcore wherewhich was fine for videos butunfortunately some of the Sam when I wasediting it back wasn't quite as clear asI had hoped because I was using mylaptop speaker as opposed to my mic thatI'm now recording this intro with sohopefully you can bear with this becauseI think more important than the soundquality is the message and the storybehind Michael's life so without furtherado let's get this interview on the wayokay so I am here today with my courseobviously I want to say thank youMichael for taking time out of your dayand there how are you doing today youngI'm very well thank yougood stuff good stuff so I think it'simportant for the listeners to reallystart to understand your story fromyourself so if you could please explainhow you progress through life yeah sureprogress through life as it seems like aI'm 42 in them in literally a couple ofweeks time so it's February you know sonot long I'm gonna be 42 so other knowwhere to begin to go through the wholelife scenario but I've done quite a lotof things I guess I could go back toeven school where I would say I wasprobably not the best at school and notreally someone that was a you know inthese special sets as they call himbecause I wasn't really interested inschool I didn't feel the vibe at schoolI just didn't you know bond with theteachers if I'm being honest but my lifecompletely changed where when I went tocollege and you meet a different type ofteacher and different environment and itwas a bit more more creative more myfeeling you know what cuz I've alwayscome from a creative background I'vealways been like an artist as such andthen I ended up pretty much ending upgoing to to university ended up at deMontford University and doing them so wecall multimedia design and marketingbasically which was basically it wasmultimedia and I left there and a lot ofmy friends ended up in the 3d world fromfrom from those sort of forces and endedup her kind of like playing games forSony Playstation so I'm got a real whileyeah got really good friends I'm quitewell in that and then and I ended upbasically showcasing my work they theyasked for a few people to earnto showcase their work at an exhibitionin London I think it was the Olympia Ican't remember the actual name of thevenue from being asked me so many yearsago and it was a big place and and theyhad about I don't know six of us theshowcase our stuff so they picked peoplethat they wanted to showcase at thisshow and it was just like a sort of likegreatest show and Khaitan story short Igot a head hunted by my boss back thenCharla Crais for the BBC ended upworking at the BBC basically doingdesigns and websites for them and yeahwe touched on many many areas it waswithin a group of people as a lot ofthese companies are and so I was in thedesigner group and basically designwebsites ranging from Teletubbies tocrime watch Top Gear yeah yeah very veryvery very very varied set of you knoweven like you know History Channel maybewe've seen so it was really it was adepartment called fracture and learningback at the time I think they've got ridof the actual Department have somethingelse it's called a different name nowyeah and I was in and I didn't staythere as long as I could of I decided toleave I don't know what it was I comefrom originally London actuallyironically but most of my life wasbrought up in a small village calledMulford where they've got the movinhills and more than spring water and allthis kind of thing and it is a bit likehouse on the prairie kind of thing andas when I lived there I can't wait toget out and you know escape and get intoUniversity and all that sorcerer and andmeet people and but when you go to thelike concrete jungle and kind of thinkon what god what is this AZ yeah yeahit's kind of like we start realizing youknow my dad says it is well he lived inthem the most of his life I actuallycame over here with nothing I mean heliterally had no money for shoes heliterally came with nothing from fromCyprus and he started up and he's donewell for himself through hard graft andhe he said to me I will I won't go backto London even if someone pays me youknow younot because he doesn't like Londondidn't love it you just just just founda different vibe somewhere else simpleas that and I think for me it's the samefind different vibe I still go to Londonoften I'm going for five days literallyin the next day date in half I'm goingthere for five days you're going in outof business and meet people and you knowso yeah it's a it's I love it a littlebit but to live there it's a differentworld he's in itdifferent world I lived there bought ahouse on the outskirts of it was a waswell II did the Olympics actually nowreally wish I didn't sell it I ended upselling it because I got squatter's youbelieve that I so that's my first trueinvestment and actually that propertynow is worth about seven hundredthousand I bought it about 115 I thinkit was i sold actually actually i onlyhad it for a year and I sold it but Imade 40k profit in that point that's loque ya I can't complain and it was a butstill I can't complain absolutely mypoint of doing it in keeping up was Ialways I always thought back there Iused to watch location occasionally allthose programs and I always wanted tobuild my own house I just wanted mightget buy land above my house and you knowobviously working in London you knowyou've got to be pretty sorted you knowsign up and bloody you know 23 years oldor whatever was coming about what andyou know the reality is that to buy landin Londonabsolutely from some guy in Morphin youknowand yeah just bought that property nothe plan was to keep it butunfortunately got screwed over yeah yeahand I was kind of like I just lost thewill to live my eyes I have to get ridso yeah ventually got rid of them andthey trashed it as well because althoughI Franky refurbished it and they trashedit which was really nice of thembut hey and it's one of those and it I'mback in it now yeah back into propertywell I wanted to do it quicker if I'mbeing honest with you I bought my ownhouse back in Melbourne after I sold mymy house therebought my own house back in well whenthat was brick building you knowsomething come up whilst we're comingout of the recession a boy at therecession period which was the worstthing can do I look because I'm soparanoid I was stuck on a highfixed-rate back of n so back then whenrates were going down to ridiculousamounts I was on a 6% or something crazyand it was but it was high right at thewrong time but there was there's off atthis something there's nothing betterthan having a peaceful kind of like youknow as long as you can work bloody harddid all the hours of possibly do tocover it and literally you like workingand everything was going straight intothat pretty much but I truly believe youknow if you can get through the hardtimes that you know the green the greensgrowing you know absolutely is notgrowing yeah so no it was a it was worthit it was worth it and there's my myfirst house and I say proper house 5bedroomed detached properties in it yeahlots of people of them you know donethings with you know the great thingsbut at the time that was the right thingabsolutely how so some wonderful thingisn't it yeah absolutelyso that's took you back into property Iused still actively a property investorknows that where you kind of callyourself or ya know it's a bit weirdbecause I mean I think digress in thatlast question I'm I got back intoproperty after my son was made severelydisabled basically we basically had mybeautiful son bornVasili born completely healthy came homewith him completely normal and then amistake by the Midwifenot following certain procedurebasically ended up with a catalogue ofmistakes not just the Midwife we forgavethem publicly in the newspapers which ispretty damn hard to do because you knowthere was blatant mistakes I mean whenyou go to the report that they did itwas like there was several mistakes andit basically you know from having abeautiful child born healthy coming homeyou know healthy we've got a child nowthat's severely disabled trapped in hishot and wheelchair pretty much trappedin his body and declared blind deaf withspastic cerebral Z so I mean he's realcontrol is his tasteyou know and that was hard we were toldhe was blind to completely weave andsort of like therapy and all sorts ofstuff we research in America and and youknow not too long ago we had somereports saying that he's they put someprobes on his head and the reckon hecould see now and that really just aboutthat he was completely deaf but wepainful taking a decision while they'reyoung to put them through horribleoperations but but we put him through anoperation that has given him like therobotic sound if you know I mean so okhe's got something called Cochlear'swhere they kind of drill into the headthey put a magnet processor goes on thatand then they put some probes orwhatever goes straight down into thecochlea and now that goes back to aprocessor and so he can hear like andthe best way I describe it to people iswhy we've been described we've been toldit is Americans used to talk yeah that'show he can hear pretty much so he'llpick some things up certain spectrumsome sounds he might not be able to pickup but um generally you know but hereacts to me he knows me his mom heknows that's the love it definitelyresponses without that just give me anexample but the amount of light therapythey put on him is basically that youput it had he his blood was poisonedpretty much had to do platoons but theythe way they can sort of negate thatthat the increase of bilirubin whichhelped cause brain damage was put himunder the lights and they did that for alot of premature children actually butbut they put him under the lights and hewas that much under the lights that heactually looked like a black child andhe was you know you know at work witholivey skin but generally kind of whiteyou know but he look like a black childand you know I will never forget andI've got him on my phone I meanliterally I've just got him on my phoneand it's a reason to have a picture ofhim on my phone like this the reason whypeople think it's probably weird why doI have him as a screen saver as my childwith all these tubes in him you know uphis nose on his arms everywhere probeseverywhere and looking it's likecompletely you knowokay but the reality is I'm really proudof him that's why that's his that's hisdefining moment you know they survivedthat and no matter how much crap hashappened since in the last almost sevenyears literally I look at that photo andwhen I'm feeling it and I've had a lotof crap come on trust me within a lot oflocals when I'm really feeling thatthinking how dare I even complain youknow I complain this kid has gonethrough everything you know and hesteals your perception and killseverything that is your lifee absolutelyyeah yeah I'm even using that now on mydiet I'm on I want to call it alifestyle change a lifestyle yeah I lovethat change but I've lost like almost Iwas it I was 17 pound 17 stone - alrightand I put on weight free depression 17pounds - - and with just over threeweeks on and I'm I'm 1510 now so babyit's a big drop for a short period timeand that's because of him you knowbecause I just think I thought screwthis I can't I can't keep killing myselfabsolutely but it's a property yeah I'dsay I'd say that was my defining momentI needed to do something to help my sonand to have my family well we're inhospital whilst all that stuff was goingon with transit bills coming in neededto pay and what people don't show you isyou know obviously you don't have thesupport you know the supports maybe lateIran after a while a little bit ofsupport here in there so it's charitablesupport you know if you get a casethrough negligence then you get supportlater on down the linebut even then you've got support wherepeople assume or you know you thoughtyou got proper support your support soit's actually like that last night youknow I had about four hours sleep whichis standard now most people don't getthat they think that's weird but that'sstandard for us and like we've got withthree carry Shaw so you know my wife andI cover in that you knowI got full-time care 24/7 well he'ssupposed to Apple we've never hadfull-time 24 not for seven years it'sjust impossible it's just we struggle toget people you know what you get it it'slike it's like yeah unfortunately ourhome has become a business in terms oflike it's a care home you know but youknow what in the last year he's beenreally stable so you know it's taking alot more there's less hospital visitsand stuff like that so you know he'sbeen really really stable and you knowhe sees making massive massive strides Imean he was declared blind he wasdeclared deathwe know he can see now he's using on Iguess how much he can see we don't knowI truly believe it's with the therapy wedid with that research we did withChristine Ramon which basically involvedputting a torch in the eyes andswitching on and off watch the peopleopen and grow he'd never met a flinch totalk through the light and he couldflinch and then so at night me and mywife throughout the night with takingturns and just through four hoursyou know switched it has to be tungstennot a blue like they can screw throughthe eyes er it has to be like thoseold-fashioned boulders you know yellowones and yeah and you just watch hisbody so he's like my sergeant is I Irecite which open and grow grew andclosing and and yeah off and theneventually after months of doing thatonce I think is my wife in the in thebathroom she was he wasn't sleep andseals up with him and she was just doingit bless her persevering on and she'sjust called me and I'm not military wentin there and the lights were all off Iput the lights on and I put the lightson because you had a torch and hechanged the hell Wowand she goes let's see he did it to youas well I'm like wow that's crazyso ya know it's mine it's mine so isthat and then again he was fed throughthe tube and we retrained him through alike a milk bottle he couldn't move hismouth off he couldn't in his braindamage basically he's brain damaged butand we used to squeeze the teat you knowand then move his bottom of his chinwith our finger just dissolved so gethim into a sort of like you know any nowhe takes it takes food from the weekendfrom Holly is itit's it's been hard it's been hard manbut you know perseverance what can I sayand that's what it is and I think it'sdifficult because obviously I can'trelate to anything that you've gonethrough in that situation but using thatas an example so my foster siblingssay pastor Simmons there were initiallyfoster siblings we went through specialguardianship so three of my siblingshave had similar what's gonna call itdisabilities growing up as well so forinstance the older one he's got a mentalage which is less than half his agewe've got one who's on the autisticspectrum yeah and when they came into mylife a little bit which is why Iresonate with your story a bit is itchange my whole perception of life andeverything that I used to mourn aboutthe silliest things now I'm grateful forand I know you know we all sending outquotes every single day and we're alltrying this positive beacon of light butI genuinely had them within my followersas well similar to yourself and it'snear when I'm there feeling crappy orfeeling sorry for myself because I don'tknow the car tires flat or somethingsomething daft perspective but thesekids are finding them much harder battlethem then I'm having to fight and yesit's commendable because I don't want tomake this about property because anyonethat wants to know my calling propertiesnew fantastic and you've got podcastsout for that and you can reach out tohim afterwards but this is more aboutyou as a person who's taken this use youchange the perception you've dealt withthe cars that you are handed it's notfair I can't explain only thing anyonecan explain why weird out certain cardsbut all we can do is play with them thebest way that you can a new kind of Iknow you very quickly scaled up afterthat and maybe that's because your backwas against the wall I suppose and yeahyou spy on me I mean there's a myfavorite quote and I promote it in oneof my groups could effusive entrepreneurit's called it's from Jack London andit's a it's basically about you knowplaying a bad hand well basically yeahand there's an ace of cards you know aceof hearts on the card you can you canalways play a bad hand well and sobasically don't even if you you can dofeels like on them on the outside of ityou might feel like you're losing it'show you play or how you react to thatthat counts so example is in propertyis I mean add a commercial toresidential big oneI'm Birmingham it's 15 rooms in the endand it was my my first commercial and mysecond project in property and I prettymuch jumped the gun a bit but we haveeverything complying at us literally andit was really stressful and at the sametime as going through moments or likeI've been for my own health careproblems I was going through cancerscare myself and there's a lot going onobviously my son and you know dealingwith deal certain builders oh my godnightmare and getting things wrong andit was just you know massive learning wehad contamination issues we had we hadall sorts of problems just cracking onbut you know again look at my my son onmy photo on my on my phone and I talkabout my son but I actually used my sonas a metaphor for my family yeah becausemy kids that my children Ellie Maria twogirls they're just as amazing Maria forinstance she's actually disabled as wellbut people don't know it and she's gotsome good Zubaz syndrome where middlepart of her head the brains not fullyformed and really rare and it can happenby being sheared and my bum or I've beenshitty stressed at birth and it can beit can happen from genes and allsomething that it's not our genesbecause we checked them and you know itbasically she's got autistic issues shecould go blind that she grows olderbecause the protein doesn't protect hereyes and all this kind of stuff but shecould have been worse I mean apparentlythey're not supposed to have balance andcan't walk but she she fires us all Imean she was she was born and had wasshaken her lace and Eliza liked she hadnystagmus and head wouldn't stop shakingso she's trained a brain to you know toplanets her eyes and and she's learnedyou know to keep straight and she she'stalking to normal school she's doingeverything she's you know she's onlyfour or five now and she's doing reallyreally well and I she's got littletantrum tantrums but not doesn't quiteunderstand certain stuff but I mean I'dsay but now she's still more behavedsome children I know that haven't gotnearly so I classI think I don't sort of put out therejust because she's not disabled reallyyou know he is on paper but she's not sofor me you know it's almost like my sonwas brought there to sort of like helpus deal with the shit that's to come ifthat makes sense my thought was likethat and we didn't have no problemsbefore and all the stuff for theproperty stuff I don't I think whatwould have hit was hard but goingthrough sheer hell you know when my sonreally sort of prepared us a lot for alot of stuff oh it came I understandthat but I think sometimes it's funnybecause I don't wish anyone to really gothrough pain it's not yeah yeah but thatmakes me feel sad when I know people aregoing through pain but sometimes I feelpeople need to experience some level ofadversity you know not to really findfocus and change their life as well andas much as I'm trying to tell peopledon't wait for that wake-up call forexample don't wait for to find out thatyour child may need extra care forexample or you've been hit with theillness get out there and do it now andI suppose it's easier said than donebecause if nobody's having to live thelife Safe Routes that you've lived forexample yeah well like my siblings theydon't really have that agency my it'sfrustrating I get frustrated because I'mlike we are so blessed like beyond meanseven what we're doing now being able tocommunicate how we eyes Isis anythingyeah absolutely I mean there's so muchhorrible stuff out there in the worldand it's just you know it's crazy to youknow to to not be grateful for whatwe've got and and and you know when yousee people that are grateful whenthey've got little and we've all beenthere we've all been them in some way inour minds we've been at the greatest oflows and it could be from spitting outwith your boyfriend or girlfriendit could be splitting up with you knowyou know a JV partner I don't know thepoint a point is you know at that pointit could be serious the most absolutelow you know you could have healthissues cancer issues family there's allsorts we've had that as well in thisperiod and that n is it's not great it'snot great but at the same time you knowI've always said one of my sayings islike you know we will never you knowwe'll neverI don't get my words up today well we'renever given a Golden Pathit was never we never no one promised usanything you know and so and so like ifyou want something you've got to go andget it you either fail or you successfall you know and if you're successfulgreat if you fail get up and do it againand keep trying that and even if you'vegot no money or anything there's alwaysaway you know and you know what worstcomes to the worst I'm dying fromsomething it's if you've got your mindin the right mind and you think you knowwhat I was conceived that's amazing Ilived a few years that's amazing if youget your mind in the right mind youstill be grateful even when you're dyingyou know I mean and we've seen otherwitness people like that you know yeah Ilove that mindset you just touched onsomething and make sure we add it at theend of the show you've got a group youjust say yeah I've got I've got a groupit's called the effusive entrepreneurokay so anything about stuff like theseentrepreneurs is in the name but aboutyour mindset as well well it's actuallyI do marketing I do it mine only amarketing training and that's like alittle group I actually put more effortin my closed group which is people in myarm in a number the thing for me is likeI literally had a VA that was helping meout on that side of thingsand she literally went AWOL live justrandomly went AWOL and I don't know whathappened I really don't know but she'sfrom Philippinesit just went AWOL so yeah looking at adecent VA at the moment I think I foundonewe'll see how it goes but yeah now Ineed to push push put more engagement inthat group from being honest with youokay yeah I know it's a great group I'vegot loads of people about I think about300 people in the group yeah I doengagement but not as much as I likeI've got a couple of other groups havegot one called it's magnetic marketingsystem is another group it's justbasically a really secret one groupwhere it's just the people that I trainarm property marketing getting leadsabout business and all that kind ofstuff an investment it's a small verysmall group at the moment I've got a fewpeople that you guys know some reallygreat people successful people right inthere and yeahso that's going really well gonna beopen that up again soon um yeah justI've got my event in London that'scausing a lot of bloody Wow yeah my sonright that's marketing again it's goingto be we've got we've got a Khadija theapprentice star she's gonna be therewe've got a YouTube expert you know he'shelped Samuel Leeds get from 50,000 to150,000 something a lot you know he'stalking it's all about marketing it'sgonna be it's gonna be awesome and canfit about 480 people at the MarriottHotel in London it's my event bigpressure on me it's only 16th and 17thof March this year prices start at 97pounds but you get actually what we'redoing now we get got this programactually that I'm affiliated to andwe're going to be offering people freeaccess to this program which is you knowpretty amazing yeah any other ticketprices which basically covers theircosts on the bottom ticket easily andbasically they could create landingpages you know can forgive the emailsystem within it so if you want to buildyour own website that's the andtemplates in there so they get that forfreeI haven't launched it yet but you'veheard it here first on our I'm justgonna say you were saying your nervouslyI'm sure you don't need any moremotivation than just to look at yourphone before that exactly exactly thatmay be right yeah okay absolutely that Isee it I mean I guess that thenervousness is the fact that you knowit's a it's a big thing you'd love tofill it out you know you care about itcare about I've got 15 speakers and manycome from abroad there's people like youknow top and marketers making 40 50grand a month you know it's crazy but afigure of guy theretheir partnership guys and and and youknow it's yeah it's it's this pressureyou know but it's great it's great nowI'm like you know I'm one of these likeyou know it's easy for me to go easycoming to go you know what you've got totry these things what does Rob Moore saydon't the risk you know basicallyabsolutely yeah yeah I'm surewell yeah I'm so it's all quite a fewtickets not enough but we've only justlaunched so you know it's a it'ssomething we pushing out there lookforward to it make sure you mediainformation isafter this and I'll send you a signaturenotes it's automated I said it put a lotof people it's good for you know coachesanyone wanting to launch an event anyonethat's in marketing wants to do a bitmore marketing on their property and getsome really great bubbly gonna get sometools for itfantastic okay brilliant so you actuallydoing like more stuff than I knew aboutyou I know I know of course he's afull-time dad and I thought that wouldbe taking up all your time but here youare making your own events andeverything so another question then soyou're successful in what you've done interms of the property you're doing agreat job with your children and yourfamily so what's the day like from themoment you wake up tell you got like 17or yeah I bet I amI wake up about four or five in themorning right sometimes going to bedlate unfortunately but it's not mychoice no that's not by choice that'sactually by habit now that's initiallyit wasn't by choice now if I'm beinghonest with you the reality is I couldsleep a little bit longer but I've justit's just become me now if I can getsleep and I accidently sleep throughthat because all exhausted or whateverand and actually doing this diet it'sreally helping me so if my son doesn'tdisturb me and doesn't wake up and thatyou know I could easily go into 7:00you know easy yeah well it's it's justum it's just nice you know I actuallyget a good rest when I go to like eventsyou know you know so but my schedule isbasically get about four or five I Ialways turn ask me why it's reallystrange but I always always comedownstairs I eat a bananarandal cake I'm not banana manmy first thing I do a banana I go to myson I give him a really big kiss becausehe's exhaust get ready has his dinnerand he's get ready for his he's likespecialist school a given big kiss thegirls are still in bed and my son's lotobviously awake and then I start lookingat my schedule for the day I neverfollow it just to meokay he's organized work just look at ityes I'm aware of it because what happenswhen I start creating a website orlanding page for someoneor final for someone to help convert youknow get people to event or throughFacebook ads or whatever I'm doing forpeople I end up like getting engrossedin the computer and some way it's gonnabe supposed to be an hour it ends upbeing longer so so setting time becausefor me doesn't and and what I do is Ijust make sure I do the stuff and and Imake sure I do it at whatever cost andso I do I literally do that and I tryand mix it with the children like I havethe computer here in the living room momore often on by my bed upstairs on mybed believe in our it's not the bestcomfortable thing to do here because ofthe reception's better there you know abillion you get piece if the kids arekind of well-behaved watching TV I liketo kind of come here in that but if it'stoo noisy I just can't I just can't overthis I've got like a an outbuilding aswell that I converted for a trainingsuite and I've got an office there thatneeds a little bit more finishing offbut it's pretty much burn so I'm gonnastart and can start utilizing that morejust gets a bit cold I've got the heatis on there in that but it's like you gowarm it up for like an hour or so beforeand today I can't be asked you know justa lot stay upstairs on my bed and justdo my work you know not a great thing todo but now I've got a proper PT involvedwith my exercise we're gonna make itthat part of my schedule something to dothis year try and get you know not justuse the lose the the fat actually getsphysically more stronger and you knowgetting care scheduling for that atleast I think for me there's anything onschedule that I want to do I'm pushingmy marketing efforts because a lotpeople while so I've been my propertyjourney you know I've had a few podcastsand interviews and so on I've not reallypromote it'll push what I what I trainedin you know design and marketing and andI've had a few people approached me overthe years from property world and it'slike I've helped them massively I'vehelped people like were there you knowthey might have a 399 ebook and I makethem 15k within a couple of months injust Facebook ads butby promoting a book you know and it'sit's I know I'm good at what I do but Idon'tand III this is my biggest flaw I don'tlike selling I don't like selling andI'm one of rob mores mentors and I'vesigned up to his thing cuz I got reallygood at helping people value theirselves helping them realize their worthand he said something recently he saidhe said something about when people sayoh I don't need to sell myself I don'tneed yeah I don't need to sell myselfpeople come to me that's me that's meman I hate to admit it it's like I get Iget work it just comes to me right butactually imagine what I'd do if I shouldstart promoting myself you know leave itso much on the table yeah I'm leaving somuch on the table almost I almost don'tgive a crap because I'm designing my ownlife you know I mean yeah at the sametime if I really want to get to my goalmy goal is actually to eventually beable to afford to buy an Ironman suitfor my son some sort of give him theindependence thought we know that'sgonna cost millions and if I want to getto that goal at that you know at thatpoint then I'm gonna have to do betterthan this sort of like you know just youknow happy happy that enough workscoming my way and people using me thatway I think I should be you knowprofessionalizing myself a little bitmore and and valuing myself more to thepoint that I should promote myself it'sjust that there's a nervousness ofpromoting yourself I mean I think you'veprobably seen it amongst the the theforums and that people kind of thinkyour guru rising yourself or you knowlike oh god who's another personthinking a minute I had a businessbefore hello you know these peoplebusiness before and what you do inbusiness is you promote a market that'swhat you're supposed to do you knowthey're almost I allow myself to beaffected by other people's judgmentswhich you can't do even myself I mean Ipromote myself a lot more recentlyespecially in the last 12 months interms of like my own brand and me as aperson that initially was the hardestthing I've ever had to do and the wholepoint of like you need to know yourWorth and stuffwe were spoken to me I thinking one ofmy first jobs when I was young as aproject manager and my manager at thetime because I came out of meyou know when they ask you what'sspecial about you give three things asan icebreaker I was like nothing I'mjust I'm just me yeah he told meafterwards because he he listed like afew things that he found special aboutme and long story short he was that ifyou don't blow your own trumpet nobodyelse is gonna in this world because ofthe way the moment is and I don't knowyou always resonated with me and itstill took me the best part of seveneight years later on to real stuff I'mthinking if I can just do this and notreally worry about the engagement andkind of just be like look I've got amessage here I want to share it it comesfrom the heart it's honest if youresonate with it fantastic if you don'tnot a problem so it was difficult for usbecause they used to send it off andyou're kind of looking at your phonethinking what's gonna happen and nowit's kind of like I just Lars a andpeople ask me that how did you writecontent and I say I don't like reallywrite contact a kind of document like mylife kind of things like you've donesomething a property I'll speak about itif it's health and fitness I'll speakabout it if it's like an interestingmeeting I'll just speak about it andhopefully I always try and give peoplesome sort of tangible yeah informationthat they can take away I think youshould be that because I didn't know youwere doing all these amazing crazywonderful things yeah a bit here inthere I do you know I mean I'll get myflap out on flipping social media justto really put myself available to theworld you know that I'm gonna loseweight and I say I wrote i put a visionI put watch this miraculous journey ofthis of me this is anyway and I've doneit in three weeks already there's noultimate accountabilityyou know ridicules you that you're gonnabe it's embarrassinga whole lot the source stuff but at thesame time you know for the first time inmy life we have tried different dietssince what happened to my son I put alot of weight on the first time in mylife I'm facing it head-on so yeah ohyou and look at my fat mass yeah I'mhereabsolutely even my addictions and I callthem addictions because that's all I'veever eat and then it's like I literallyget urges for this stuff isn't my portmy secrets of this diet is I'm facing itand I call it the no BS lifestyle dietokay basically I put Pringles fizzydrinks and I've got a packet of Haribooutside of my bedoh no Quinn okay right and I sleep withthem by the side of my bed and I wakethat with the word webecause I had to face my addictions yeahyeah and it's a bit like that inproperty when people would like go totraining training training trainingtraining training training trainingtraining training the good mentors weresaying you got to do you've got to justyou know and and I you know I'm a coursedrinking I'm proud of it I'm proud of itI'm a course drunk eating for two mainreasons number one it's always good evenif you already know the stuff to go overagain it's good to get reminders rightbut number two and this is the biggestonementors need Mentors even if you'rewhatever level you are and all mymentors have got mentors themselves youknow I mean Nick James is mentorshipI've been under song azuki's mentorshipI mean Rob Moore's mentorship you knowthe reality is and I I mentor otherpeople myself yeah and I truly believethat you you've got to really be what'sthe word humble enough to want to keeplearning absolutely and there's a lot ofpeople that are arrogant and feel likethe only courses well good for you happyyou do not everyone wants to work thatway I actually love people right I lovenetworking I love people but I lovegenuine people that I've got integritythey're true to them certainly I reallycan't stand people that fake I hate itand I can sense them a mile away and andI always when I talk about marketing'sbe true to yourself just be yourself andpeople attract to you and a good friendof ours Camilla does the sa stuff Iwould say so namecan we look oh yeah she's exactly greatand I mentor mentoring in marketing aswell but it's usually just started to befair and and you know she's a reallygreat she's doing massive should bereally successful and she's doing it byjust being herself she's been brilliantyou know and you know we all learn offeach other I've learned a lot of Simon'suchi I've learned a lot of Rob more I'velearned a lot of Nick James you knowI've got another mentor that is you knowdefinitely need him because he's likehe's like a sales machine he reallyknows he's you know he's good he's got aproduct called open with a closingdoesn't do its Leslie it's just like youknow you want my product is I'm worththis much and you know so this is whatit is and he's named my Elwell reallygreat guy amazing guy getting hired bysome really top guys at the momentbecause he's easy really is you knowlegend or what he does and so yeah Iwant to constantly improve I want to beI want to be my ultimate self before Idie and I know more than a lot of peopleknow life it's bloody short manit really is severely because of yourexperiences yeah absolutely yeahyeah I think you touch on quite a fewthings with your whole I'm lookingforward to it but I actually lose 42pounds in seven and a half weeks myselfso what I want to do boxing never go tothe gym and I was a think was about 24at the time and there was like sevenyear-olds two ten-year-olds very cheekylittle kids and I'd to go for a roomwith him so I told the kids because thenI was all the way and I could I couldn'trun more than like 200 meters and all Icould hear him was saying come on oldman come on Batman and all these kind oflike really literally me facing it but Itook I took it personally I was likeI'll get you back and then with a loveworking working my ass off basically forthe next two months it really reallyhelped and there is no magic formula toanything whether it's property whetherit's health and fitness whatever it isliterally you just got to go and do itand then if you you learn a little bityou pivot I hope that's called it on myuncle my own podcast called Mike dropsget okay I guess my drop is call mineyet close and I've interviewed a coupleof a top level you know we're talkingreally high level guys in America mycalls another guy called les Evans and11 there's Evan said a thing to me hesaid he said um he said people thinkthere's an easy route to success butit's all hard work even when it doesn'tlook that way and he said even if you'repeople just speak in the thing they'rejust speaking they're successful fromspeaking andand he's brilliant at that is amazingamazing me he's gonna you know he's he'sadvised people in the White House he'sdone all sorts he's just bum a lot theguys absolutely legend and he's hadbecome a really good friend of mine andand he was saying to me you know Iremember it was on the lines of like Iremember when you said pedal stallpeople like that look big and famous andhe became himself but in the end they'rejust flipping normal people and whatpeople don't understand is that you knowthey want to laugh you know they want toget on you know they don't to be usedand and and there's a lot of truth inthat and there and there's a lot ofpeople do assume they also die theyconnected that way back I used to givehim a lot of my time for free and in theend I ended up blocking him and this iswhere you learn about time for money andit wasn't yeah it was like you everyevery conversation about a heart I'vetough your love to have your lives loveto out Matt me yeah I'd live in aflipping shed and have my son healthyyou won't want my life trust me it's notgreat but you know it's not as great asyou think it is you know and and it wasjust constant constant constant constantlike you know like MV and it wasn't thenice he wasn't moving forward is that Iwant to get 200 houses within two yearsand he was like really unrealistic yeahall right 10x it I you know go for ityou know I hate that comment that wordclinics it got you know I love whatGrant Cardone is about I just hate the10x it that side of it not because Idon't believe in it I believe in itit's just that I see if thrown aroundtoo freely now and and like by peoplethat could potentially really screwtheir lives over if they do try to 10xit you know and where they feel that youknow they've been inspired and they canjust rush ahead you've got to get theeducation in I don't care what you knowyou got to build the foundations he'sgot to build the foundations and andthen and then to exit first you know andthen check out what you know check out aflavor for it and then check out what Xmight be you know I don't like the 2xyou know I'm not doing us a great pointI think we're in thesociety obviously with the wholeInstagram highlight reels and nobody'sreally posting stuff that is like theirbad days of supposed and I supposedindirectly I don't know how but when Iwas getting a bit of traction in likethe property groups it was because I wasjust Oakley admit all my mistakes upsomething I was just documenting againlike listen I am probably the worst guya property talking three years ago I wasa look I made this mistake I've madethis and people resonated with that soindirectly actually helped 9% of thetime it is lychee everyone showing theirbest date on a highlight reel and Ithink we get that thing and then peopleread the secret and it's all thiswishful thinking and it's like listen itis goes back to what you said earlier doit do it you've just got to face it anddo it just exactly I mean madness you'respot on and the crazy thing is is thatI've been exactly the same I've donepodcasts and I've been honest juststraight on you know I'll straight upwith out loud you didn't want to hear itwe didn't want to hear it I'm like youknow and and cut long story short thethe realities that they won't value inmy time but I wasn't violent valuing itI can't blame them it's actuallysomething that I get a trouble from frommy wife so I'm always trying to help asmany people as I can so I'm alwayshaving these one-hour coffees that goingto like one and a half hours orconversation 15 minutes or less yeah andthen at the end of its like I've got notime to spend with my wife for exampleyeah because I'm just trying to help butthen most of those people they'll comeback with pretty much the same kind ofquestions or concerns two months laterhaving done nothingyou're almost yourself and I think I'msimilar to you in that respect which isthere's some great points that you madedays that I need to start my new my timea little bit there yeah not so much Iknow I need to charge for example it'son the faith basis that is this personreally going to do it and what I'vestarted doing as of the last two days istaking calls on the way to the gym soI'm like you've got ten minutes with mefar away I'll kind of give youeverything I've got I know it's workingokay because it kills that time to thegym so yeah absolutely yeah it's noteating a weigh-in time that you which isvaluable time is valuable time time I'vesaid entire book emergency we have youknow in the lane if if if people don'tvalue your timemmm bug you you spell as I and why workwith people that don't value you they'rejust picking and sponging your brainbecause they can't be asked again spendthe money on the courses and theeducation and or go through the grit inthe action that you've gone through inthe pain that you've gone through theyjust want to just you know squeeze yoursponge brain and get all the bloody Evoout you know those people it doesn'tmake us a you know this is not a youknow I'm holy than now I'm perfect I Iknow my share you know this has justjust been honest with the situation youknow so I absolutely love helping peopleI really do it's just some people justdon't value your time enough so okaywe're gonna change gears a little bitwe've spoken about adversity which isone of the main drivers like in yourlife and I don't wish it on anyone to gothrough the same kind of stuff but weall go through something what I wouldask you though is a different questionis about fear so it's probably a commonquestion but I want to know what is yourbiggest fear but I want to stop and takeaway what I think he's gonna be yourfirst answer from doing some Daryl Browntactics here so you can't mention youryour children or your wife in thisscenario but what is your biggest fearas as yourself my biggest fear formyself is not accomplishing my dreamsokay and my dreams are actually yes theyare to be able to get enough money toafford certain things from my family andI'm not supposed to mention them but myactual my dreams are to actually besuccessful and proud enough to know thatyou know that boy in school that was atloss was crap had to have extraeducation was themedyou know classes dyslexic really smashedit regardless he's not I mean and and soyou know for me to start that wouldreally be probably my biggest fear stophim from for me I really I really wantto get aspire to inspire is what I wantto do right and the way you inspire isby doing great things and and thosegreat things could be I give a lot tocharity myself I donated just over fourthousandpounds Christmas do recently you knowand and before that I've donated loadsand even my book my little spot and thatI've written for my son all the all themoney from that including the cost ofmaking it which most people don't dothey has gone to different charities youknow everything wasn't a lot you knowbecause these costs of these profitscarry yeah yeah and even before thateven you know I've just constantly youknow every year given in some form tocharity and the point is this like it'snot because I'm you know I want to beseen as you know are what passive and uhand people that know with me will knowthis is true so I could be a propertymeet in and we're walking up the roadfor me laughter and I'll just givetwenty pounds of baby homeless man Idon't record it I don't you know butpeople that would mean no it yeah Idon't do it for you know I know inLondon wherever I am if I see someoneI'll donate and you know and I don'tcare if they're they look like they'redruggies well it's not at the end of theday I because I'm not gonna judge youknow they can do what the hell they wantwith ityou know I want to give if I've got ityou know and if it helps them it helpsthem I just get I don't need to promoteit or anything that but the reality isalthough ironically there's a promote inthis podcast estrangement but honest islike where we're and it's just merelyanswering your question you know my goalis to aspire to inspire to inspire andif I can do that for my kids and otherpeople and great you know and and if itmeans like you know giving when youhaven't even got it and I've done thatand and you know it's like then you knowyou do you leaving some sort of trail oflegacy wait wait people might notremember me you know but you knowsomeone might you know yeah I don't knowbut at the end of the day it's strange Ihaven't made haven't made it in in mymind a successful property developer ormarketing agency in my mind I've got along way to go but I'll also at the sametime I don't want to have a lot you knowI want to be comfortable I don't want tohave like the two hundred thousandliving rooms and whatacquiring to do well you know I reallydon't I don't envy people like that whenI see people doing well I'm like good onyou I'm yeah I really I never had thejealous I never I just truly think goodon you the ones I don't like are theones that do it and they're they'rehorrible assholes you know I mean thesepeople win don't they yeah yeah okayfantastic no I know that that makessense I think I'm very similar as wellin relation to what you saying there andjust on that analogy song I've had goingoff on a bit of a tangent here peoplewho are quite charitable but they'llnever give to somebody who maybe theyassume is gonna have alcohol and drugsor something and my philosophy hasalways been I mean growing up and theway my mom's always talking is just givewhatever you can give but and the baseis that maybe maybe your donation thatthey will just change that person'sperspective or life and providing you'renot just throwing it at home and maybeyou can just give it a try contact willhave a good day or something so I justgive him that lift that they need alljust to keep him going for another dayso I'd always urge people whatever youcan give this absolutely give but yeah Ican't imagine you being somebody's gonnabe taking a selfie while you're doingthat I mean and the truth is I should beyou know utilizing it for you know butat the same time it's it's not itdoesn't sit rightyou know it doesn't sit right so you'veheard the buzzer it's going off so whatI'm gonna do now is but Mike with threespaces for the next 60 seconds and he'sall I do basically whatever the firstanswer comes into your head please giveme that one and you ready mate I'm coolI'm ready okay we're gonna start inthree two oneokay the ability to fly or be invisiblefly money or fame fame singing ordancing singing Netflix our YouTubeYouTube Marvel or DC are Marvel easilywould you rather know how you were dyingor when you would i how love or moneylove books or movies i love booksactually if you could sit with oneperson in the world for an hour whowould it be I would love to sit withDonald Trump to figure out why the helllooking weird andgo ahead going on I just I'm justperplexed and also kind of yeah it's aweird onethat we interested yeah you're worse bea growing up fighters actually okay andfinally what is your biggest addictionmy biggest might what was my biggestaddiction was slight wrinkles and yeahwrinkles my biggest addiction at themoment is learning junkie for learningand just some Pringles because I'm aPringles fun as well what's yourfavorite cocktail sorry I don't get methinking the next one's on reflectionyeah we've spoken about this earlierwe've spoken about hindsight being awonderful thing how you can teach you toget to where you are quicker easier orwith less heartache for example butknowing what you know now and with yourlife experiences and obviously yourmindset now if you could go back to atime maybe when you were younger maybegoing through college or school and youcan just whisper something in your earknowing how life would pan out for youand just to kind of maybe motivate orinspire that young Michael what wouldyou say I would say you're able to doanything you put your mind to because Ireally believe growing up because I wastold it you know my teacher I didn'thave a good attention span and myteacher must teacher said to me ohyou're gonna end up as a glassblower shewas old fashioned herself and mostpeople didn't really kind of connectwith her if I'm being honest with youbut that really thought I thought whatthe hell you know kind of thing to saythat just because I you know and Iwasn't interested in her lessons I justwould and again it goes down to what weread in property marketing people couldbe connected you know whatever you do init's about attention and connectionright you've got to get the attention tobe noticed and you've got to connect soif you're going to get an investor tocome to you you've got to get theattention you've got to do that one wayor another and then you've got toconnect and you can only connect bybeing you because long term wise youknow it's a marriage you know it'ssimply that absolutely and it's theeasiest thing to do be yourself ratherthan trying be someone else off man donot have some music but I see people mygod and I just cringe and I know that itmakes me cringeI see people they've been II won't even touch into it too much butthere's people that mean there's aparticular person that's training thesame people when they're like they'refollowing the same moves and everythingin their acting the same as this personexactly in every way and it's a it'ssquiggly it's creepy and windy it is andthe problem with it is as well if you'recopying somebody else you're almostrelying on them to do something you knowthe few to follow see as a policy if youjust make your own journey and writeyour own story I've got one thing whereI've got respect for these people that'sall for helping them is they've alreadytaken a step at least they're gettingthemselves out of the shell and they dosomething but but seeing exact copiesit's just yourself yourself it's likehave you ever seen those live videoswhen they're sat there quietly for likeflipping five minutes I'm like I don'tlike it I just it's just great I'm likeI just talk shit for a bit I say topeople okay just talk shit wait topeople come on[Music]and that's not always like to ask myguess is if in 150 years time and youare no longer here but all that existsis a book and it's about your life andsomebody's walking past and they pick upthis book what would the blurb say andalso what would be the title of the bookwell already written it it's called mylittle spot on the globeit says embrace your struggle to findyour strength and pretty much what wetalked about today and and I it has asub heading saying unleash your lip in aspa and because we've all gotten in thispart and and what I mean by that it'snot a judgment thing on Spartans andwhile it's just the fact that you knowagainst the odds it's a metaphorit's against the odds they know they'regonna die but they're fighting all theycan yeah and that's the point at the endof the day we're all gonna freakin diebut let's just see what we can do youknow that's all we can do but you knowyou know the end of a that's why I don'tmind helping people as much as I canbecause that you know any bit of helpyou get out there is whatnice absolutely Granta our future looksalready out yes my little spy Amazonyeah best seller internationalbestseller there you go is it oh wowyeah i 100% put that in the bottom ofand the show notes as well alright it'sactually the first time somebody'salready answered my question and done myquestion but what I always like to askpeople is there is somewhere they cancontact you now I know you're doingamazing things all over the world innetworking marketing property you're anauthor as well there's one place and I'mjust gonna limit it to one but I willobviously add everything else afterwardswhat is the number one place that you'dprefer base for Facebook Facebook I'm 5mI'm maxed out sorry guys so just listenI've got another group page good MichaelV Calais Paris just a baby bear I'd bethere and start using it more nowbecause I'm that's my that's my ownthat's my professional page so just wantthem on to Michael V or try and messageme on on on my one at least and I'm nottry and connect and brilliantly it'sbeen a absolute pleasure like I said atthe beginning I reached out to you longtime we don't know yeah I love yourstory you know that this is fascinatingpromise there's live calls on them youall get busy I haven't managed toreconnect there so and thank you foryour time today you've been doingawesome things as well okay it's good tosee and again like you know we reach outto people that we connect with and likeand so on and you know obviouslyresponded back to you because I knowlike and trust okay you know it worksthe same way you know yeah that's how Isee it and and that's how that's howrelationships grow that's how investorsget involved that's how all this stuffhappens you know it's it's all aboutthat you know so absolutely absolutelyspinning it's been an absolute pleasureand well as well thanks for listeningand remember this podcast is absolutelyfree so all we ask in return is for youto share 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There are a myriad of different ways we can calm ourselves when we are stressed. Some that were shared on the call were:BreathingWalking barefoot in natureYogaConnecting with someone who is grounded and calmChoosing a positive state like enthusiasm or patience rather than stressNoticing an act of kindness or a child’s smileJumping on our Daily Gratitude Call at 7 am mountain time!Go for a walk, physical activitySudoku or other mind puzzlesCount your blessingsEscape within a bookSleepPrayListen to uplifting or spiritual musicWhat we discovered on the call today is that stress originates from outside. It is pressure from something outside of ourselves. The only time stress affects us is if we choose to allow the pressure to get to us. The same stressor for one person is super easy for another. So it is not an absolute truth that stress MUST affect us negatively.BE PRESENT!Our minds can only focus on one thing at a time. If we are focused on something calming and positive, we will be calm and positive. There is only stress when we focus on the negative and the situation that is stressful.New Ideas to ConsiderI have important things to accomplish out thereI am ready for anythingI calmly and patiently await the next thingI am enjoying every moment as it arrivesI choose gratitude for this momentI am excited to see what is nextSupport the show (https://wylenebenson.com)

In episode twelve, Tim and Tuesday talk about how we honour and interpret our ancestors’ actions, roles, and impacts — think reverberations of colonialism and class — to grasp the underpinnings of our current world.1.12 —— SHOW NOTESTim: I’ve been doing a lot of work around what it means to have been raised and educated within my class. I realized the need to own the impacts of my ancestry on me and my life, my brother, my sister, parents and friends. This provided a new invitation to see it and take it in—not only how I’m often approached which is colonizer-based. Tues: We are talking about ancestors on two levels: our direct ancestors and their impact on our families and ancestors at large (our people and their impacts). That’s not always a straight line. Tim: We are already ancestors by virtue of being alive. We need to begin to think of ourselves as ancestors.Tues: For me it’s the whole view that says, ‘can I soften my heart to let in that whole view; while very much holding that right now our pasts, our presents and our future is absolutely impacted by our positioning related to that colonialism.’Tim: This is about analyzing our own society with the same rigor we apply to other areas of our society. What is the emotional and psychological state of the people in senior leadership positions? How is that playing out?Tues: The systems aren’t broken. They are doing what they were designed to do.Tim: This ends with how I raise my own children. The power to change is in my house. And something else also starts here, which is what so much of our work and friendship is—the ability to be in whatever happens next and knowing what has come before.POEM: ‘The Boxer’ by Tim MerryThey abandoned meThey should have been thereI was leftBereftAloneCurled up under a duvet cover from homeWishing to not be seenHeart beating, scared“Why did you leave me here?”Fear PulsingRed, jagged and spiralling From solar plexus outRunning frantic energy through my bodyAll the way to my fingers and toesBut nowhere to run, nobody I knowTo run to“Where were you?”This was meant to be grand adventureNot traumaNot weeping at 43Only feeling meWhen the tears flowHand on heartWe never should have been apartOur familyYou and meIn the empty spaceStepped the boxer, bracedFor any attackCome one, come allI am ready, poised, watchfulWeavingFists up, back to the wall, there is no leavingSadness turned to angerReading to explodeUnloadWhen things get beyond controlProtecting my soulWhen you did notI surrounded myself with a team of defendersBoxerCharmerActorFixerWorkerJokerLoverAngerServerConnectorAll to keep the world at bayBecause it was not safe To come out and playNow slowly I am peeping outMy blurry eyed headOver parapet wallsThere is me Looking inTo the place I protectedWhere I am not longer connected Meeting eye to eyeStarting to cryMore tears to flowMore of myself to knowIf I dare go slowWith the flowOf what the wisdom of my psycheIs unveiling to me nowAt 43I am coming back home, to meSong of the day: Oppression, Ben HarperSubscribe to the podcast now—in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher or anywhere else you find podcasts. New episodes will be available every second Tuesday. If you’d like to get in touch with us about something you heard on the show, reach us at podcast@findtheoutside.com.Find the song we played in today’s show—and every song we’ve played in previous shows—on the playlist. Just search ‘Find the Outside’ on Spotify.Duration: 38:24Produced by: Mark Coffin @ Sound Good StudiosTheme music: Gary BlakemoreEpisode cover image: source See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Find your voice - Episode 7 - The Way I Changed The World - Mus Jones Yafai #7Tagline: "They are willing to do this, no matter the circumstances, no matter the time of the day, no matter who you are, they are willing to take your child, no matter what!"Mus Jones Yafai is a wonderful human being who needs your support in raising awareness for his wonderful cause, Child Safe. Having experienced a child abudction attempt on his younger child Mus has made it his lifes purpose to ensure the public are aware of all the ways possible to safe guard their children and other peoples children from abducters.With shocking statistics, it is the first time in my life I felt scared for anyone with children, for my younger siblings, for my own family members. I felt somewhat oblivious to all that was going on, only to really be woken up by this.I urge you all, to listen to this episode or at the very least follow Mus over on his social media outlets and help support this amazing cause to better safeguard the children of our future generations.P.s. it is not everyday you hug a grown bodybuilder the first time you see them!Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yafaichildsafe/ (Child Safe)Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mus.yafai (Personal)Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/childsafe1kickstarter campaign:http://kck.st/2UuLWPM#JustDeuIt & #FindYourVoicewelcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAaron do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aaron due toanother episode of find your voice myname is Aaron and as always I am thehost of the show so it's very rareyou're gonna see two grown men embraceafter an interview in fact you're notgonna see that because I never recordedit but this individual was an amazingperson that after this interview weactually we had a moment and I say thatbecause I thought a true connection tothis person and I trust my gut feeling Ihaven't been a social worker in myprevious life this is a person who's outthere really trying to change the worldand more importantly what he's trying totackle is gonna affect almost everysingle one of us because it's aboutchildren and that's one of the mostimportant things in the world if you askme so I'm gonna literally jump into theinterview you're gonna hear about anamazing person who's doing amazingthings but he's also had some incredibleexperiences something that I don't wishupon anyone so without further ado let'sget this interview on the way okay so Iam sitting here now with moss so how youdoing today man good very goodalways and yourself very well than thecold yeah thank you for taking timeevery day I think it's important forlisteners to obviously get a story aboutyourself from you because rather than mykind of narrative yeah so if youwouldn't mind if you could just give usa little bit about your life maybe yourupbringing just like key stuff that youthink would be important and relevantfor this story and then we want toreally touch on the word that you'redoing today which I'm really excitedabout but be good to get everyone tojust get to know you a little bitokay well I'm a family of 11 Wow okaysix reverse two sisters we grew up in athree-bedroom house wasn't easy but wewere so it was fun and scary at the sametime see living with strict Muslimparents okay no people tend to stillreally know about it's not about thereligion it's about culture the cultureis completely different I did aboutChristmases I do like birthdays but thatmade me appreciate life even more nowespecially with my children yeah I meanso I'm very grateful to have the littlethings with someone tries to give me agift now I'm not well then so growing upyou know growing up I played Lockerbieokay I plan to the playing professionalwould be the age 80 after playing rugbyand then when two universities my degreeafter doing a sports degree no idea whatI was doing constantly searching for itand I always wondered what is it whatI'm going to do in life until now Ibelieve we all have a destiny absolutelyno matter when it will happen in ourlife we don't know as we keep searchinggood surgeon and I found when I stoppedsearchingI think everyone's trying to find theperfect age I suppose yeah or they'llsee somebody else next door to findingit that's not necessarily your storypeople these days well they see was theysee the value of money objects as wellyou know you know I do as well you seesomeone if I want to do that look wellthen you realize they put that hard workin I haven't just been handed it to andthen this day when their work you knowtheir lives to get those things I alwayssay that I think it's so easy to look atso you see people on Instagram forexample or Facebook and they'resuccessful they've got a nice car moneyand you like it's easy for them well isit really easy for ya do you know whatthey win through the power sisterjourney and actuallyyeah okay that's interesting so youdidn't use your degree actually touchedon phase of your path so eleven childrenin your house are you the middle one theolder young yes are you the young oh yeshe's a pretty one yes we are at theCouncil of four children okay justbefore we go into this it was mine ofcourse so you've got your degree yourealize you're not gonna do nothing withthe degree I can relate to thatyeah and you do something now what'shappening in between here is this momargue just be lost the wall no this isall found one supposed to do now this iscompletely and it took something tragicfor me to find it but there's nouncertainty in my mind and now what Ihave to do and it's for the rest of mylife it's there's no doubt it's like I'mfinally happy it's it's an amazingfeeling to know what you're supposed tobe pond why'd you were put on earth forand this is the feeling that we need togive to everyone else to find it it'sthe most amazing feeling ever youwouldn't you know what you want to dolike I said life is not about just goingto work every single day to work yourwell for someone else and then just togo home yeah I'll see you happy kidyou're happy then just go work if it'sup to me obviously we have that passionto find something we'd love to doabsolutely and then spend the time withthe people we love that's what lovesabout I mean you have to do somethingyou love to do in life there's no youcan't work just to end your lifeI suppose it's a shame though societykind of teaches us that that's the normof course it's go to school get a decentbread innocent that's it retire at 65make sure you've got pension safesixty-five no we can do it now of coursethe white decision is in the rightaction okay so fantastic so we're gonnajump into the bit that I'm excited aboutyeah so I just thought of a name youknow I want you to elaborate I want youto explain it or it's gonna be the firsttime I'm listening as well okay sohopefully the listeners will will getexcited as much as I am okay what I'mgonna start with the Nana neighborschild safe mm-hmyeah bread more than that well I'll tellyou the story and how the story came sobasically my three-year-old daughter wasalmost taken from me the 7th of October2018 at 1 p.m. and Lidl was doing mysupermarket shopping it was the craziestscariest feeling I've ever heard of mylife I'm just doing my shopping asnormally doing but I noticed this manwalking around the shop he had enoughfusions constantly not taking any foodup no do no shoppingso I'm a partner there's something weirdhappen in the shop he's everything Icould just feel it and then he carriedon following us around a shop and theyjust I tried to ignore it but not knowat the same time because just when didyou involve with children your parentsdid you're the protector you have to doanything you can't just keep them safeso we get to talk when we're doing putenough into the into the trolley andthen Otis joined our queue and he's gotnothing any sound so I'm just like okayand then I've put more daughters as bothAttilio there's normally an edgysomething like that sent them enoughfood in the toilet and then the exits toour left and with kids it's alright sowe're standing and then he just wants toplease shut down I said okay something'sdefinitely having no and she's donepause I'm gonna go get ice concert Kim aperiphery looking at him and then hewalks past in the queue so he's leavingthe shop but he doesn't leave the shophe walks then to the right and goes itsix six market and I'm like don't tellmiles of him whatsoevermom my head's like is he gonna dosomething is he not am i playing trickson myself I'm not just reading into thistoo much is he generally just a normalman just stand in their waybut it wasn't that case unfortunately hedecided to get close to my daughterclose to my daughter and then I saidtime upon again I said he's about to dosomething which is like he's not doinganything so I've turned back round givehim that chance to see if he does turnback round again he's then about to pickup my daughter and run out the shop withher this is where like I completelyfroze at first because that was a nutmuch shock you just like you know a lotof men would say why didn't you do thiswhy didn't you do this and fortunately Ireacting the more perfect why you're noteven around my kids and I've got both ofthem put them both behind me and Istared at this man I said you just triedto kidnap my daughter mmm the thing thatbaffled me them even more he just stoodthere said to me do you even sayanything did you move didn't do anythingjust the best there and I mean I'm likeyou just tried to take my daughter turnwhat are you doing nothing so now I'mstanding there I looked at my bondanother man comes running through theshop grabs him in a bow the most is thatpeople slamming body doesn't do anythingabout itI'm shouting this man telling me tellinghim he's a toy yeah everyone's carryingon with their shopping no this is thething that I'm trying to get people torealize that we need to stick togetherinto these situations we all need toeducate on child abductions mmm I'm chodcrimes so we are aware for otherpeople's children I'm just trying to putmyself in that situation even as a boyand a girl go apprehend that or what youmust have been going through andobviously the whole reaction side andstuff to it people can't see you on thispodcast you're a big guy you know a guythey're gonna rob something from likeI'm being honest I would go tea yeahit'd be intimidating for me so you justprove she's come out absolutely provedto me they're willing to do this nomatter what I mean this is at 1:00 p.m.in the middle of the down I'm doing myshopping you know I mean the tauntingyou least expect under the times whenthey're gonna try and strike because weare get so complacentday to day lives we're gonna do myshopping my kids this it was a vigilantthere and I'll sometimes done stuff Idon't know it's a bit of drivingsomething you drive something you knowdriving yeah of course do you know yourdaughter pilots subconsciously yes thescary thing is especially my mom ponderkind of beat yourself up for a becauseshe for a long time she couldn't dealwith cuz she knows and even or no and Icould say she day she would have beengone if I was in there yeah come onpartner didn't see nothing she's verybelievers in their own world she shewouldn't think there's someone trying totake a dog especially so close to homebut this is the thing we're gonna makepeople realize it does not matter whereyou are in this country next country ishappening people do these things andit's scary that people know people don'tknow anything about what happens we seethe films that's how you 2018 last yearwas I speak like people don't know therewas 1189 actions with almost a hundredthousand attempted a child yeahManchester being in this countryBirmingham's third these every yearsthey're very high and people don't knowanything about it yeah I mean I was asocial worker in my last life yeah Iwent back to uni and looking afterGeorge was always kind of a my dad Iwant you to be the best social workerfor children yeah wonderful children ourhopes and feel your passion in hereobviously you just can't do somethingelse that's crazyso did the police did you get the pieceabout what yeah obviously I'll gone into speak to them I'm in the shop so I'lltalk to the manager I said listen I needthe CCTV the finish of the story I'veactually ran out to the shop I've got mykids got something and they was they wasstanding in the middle of the car parkthey were just basically and I'll run upto them again just to say listen you'vetried to take my daughter the police andbecause I'm stealing that much shock heplayed in my mind he tricked me he waslike no noI didn't take your daughter and I'm justlike he's not my wife is in the shopshe's got a full trolley she's waitingin the queue okay let's go back in soI've locked the door but other kids Isaid I'll be back in a second soobviously as I've said that about Debwalked off quite quickly so I walkedback into the shop they did have a womanwith him but they had no shopping allright so that as I've gone in them threeare running out the shelf so this is thething we need to reload they're workingin groups and we can't judge the fuckthe male or female a comedy with afemale and two groups to try and track achild obviously though maternity thinkthat woman has with children they doinganyone would do it but yeah of courseyour point he was just scared to knowthat a woman would be in that group aswell so this is the thing that I'mtrying to but try to have one that notjust for our kids for other people ofcourse as you said we see things how wethink we would do it other way oh wegotta realize everyone is different Imean I already grabbed it do you knowall these kind of crazy but you don'tknow well okayso thank God no of course all of thatfrom that what was your process then sothen I went to the manageras for the CCTV footage he said there'sa code they have to get from the headoffice the police the police I said okaywe're gonna go down and get the head andget the code we'll get the CCTV footagebecause all I wanted to get that thosefaces out to the public so they knowwhat they look like and they can beaware from it you know what I blame thepolice for a while because I kept goingobviously every weekend to do my foodshopping you do kept telling me thepolice I'm pinned down you the policestation again I said what's going on waswhen we bend down and we said we have wesent police down there okay what'shappening this is the way for the codeI've gone down to little again I saidthey come to get the code it was like nono no one's come down yet and I'm likeokay what's this quite strangeafter three weeks gunned down againanyone in all come to get the code Nocome down yet four weeks have gone theCCTV footage has rewritten gun this isthe thing I've gonna made my socialmedia I make videos about the policesaying calm believe what they've done tome then they let me down those foul butthis system was fine filed by the policewell I wasn't the police went down threetimes little failed me right they keptlying to the police telling them thatthe code haven't come down yetthe code don't come down yet yes ofcourse it is so they let me down theycompletely let me down they didn't getthe code when they never attempted toget the code in the first place whichwas their heartbreaking comment whichyou know it was all never those facesyou mean you know I never thought forthat was gonna happen I never knew thiswould be the outcome of my daughterThomas being taken from me as well sothroughout life things are gonna happenwe're all gonna go straight faced yougoing to go through stuff that it's notfair some stuff is out of our controlyou have in that moment day I supposeand moving forward of course two waysyou can either take it or you can takethose actions when you're in controlyourself control you change the world socould you explain a little bit moreabout this net so we know it's calledCharles Seife yes it's based on thestory that obviously you went throughthat horrific moment there's so firstlyI opened up a social media page so howdo I reach the people these days it wasall social media so my way to reachpeople with social mediatold my story which I think are 10 to 15thousand views share it compared to myvideos now I'm not yeah of coursesuppose I mean how many ever got so manyviews on it and that's what then enticedeveryone else to follow me what I wasdoing so what can I do to challenge itfirstly I just like okay I walk aroundsupermarkets are warriors shops yougotta move it here you get to Birminghamwhen you see signs everywhere sayingcriminals in action watch your carsthieves here did nowhere is that a signtelling you that child abductors arenowhere is someone that someone may takeyour kid I know that people might notwant to see that unfortunately this isthe life we live in people need to beaware I mean I would let my daughter aworld did let more daughters run aroundthe shops let him do what they want youknow me no one's gonna tell my kid butthat's not the way life is now so sadya know I'm even going back to when Iwas young doors are open in the housescause it was a community yeah I think itis a problem and I'm guilty of thismyself I'm sure listeners can resonatewith this is like even now I mean I'vegot lovely neighbors on both sides yourhouse because its head down I'm gettingon with my life course and Tokyo yespose because but the thing is you say wehaven't got time but stuff like this weneed to make it non negotiable onJupiter and we have okaybring it sorry sorry trucks yes okay sofrom there obviously I've got theseposters and I'm like I need to getsomeone designedI've never done anything - where do I gosome was like the graphic designer I'mlike okay I'll go speak to so that isonly he doesn't mean oh I have thisimage in my head and what my designlooks like and then can you do me aposter poster for me and I'm like oh mygod this is amazingso I'll get thousands of posters printedI'm using all of my own money I'm betterthan everything I possibly can into thisand then on this social media page I'mtelling everyone who was a help who wasa help memessage of the message after message andI'm like what the hell I didn'tunderstand I didn't realize this isgonna I'm not okay I'm gonna I'm gonnahave to take the you count by myself I'mlike this but I hate I mean I've had now3,000 followers among them to free fastfollows I'm a group and my page I've got900 almost hitting the thousand I'm mypage and I'm just like messages someparents telling me what an inspiration Iam teenagers telling worried aboutasking me for four posters saying I wantto help I want to get your posters outthere I want to put them in the shops Iwant to post your fly for the door andI'm like I wanted to make a differencewhere I'm noticing that everyone elsewants to make it fits as well at leastyeah so I spend the first few monthsending posters here Thursday and I'mlike I'll totally get in around in thisarea by the hillstar which everyone I'mlooking it's up in Yorkshire sucked downsouth it's it and so from there knowwhat do I do nextfirst we need to raise the awareness sothat's the main thing we need to dobecause people don't know what'shappening so the main thing to me was toraise the awareness to everyonemmm-hmm well and I'm like this is goodit was not good enough no where do I gofrom hereyou know what I went to met this mancalled Oliver he messaged me and saidcan I meet up we are because I love whatyou're doing up and he was an amazingman he's been for a lot of things aswell our kids he's weren't in prisonsand his scene is but with people and heseen so much of his stuff and heeducated me and so much it gave me thisknowledge I'm not okayeducation that's where I'm goingeducation so that's where I got to startand that's why I'm gonna finish we needto educate the country and educate ourchildren on the dangers because ease thechildren a this is happening to sochildren don't know what's happening hmmand as parent you know we do as welleven if you tell you know what I'll tellmy daughter things she won't listenschool she's like the best pupil becauseI thought I'm an authority figure tellthem something they were listen andlearnso I need to get into the schoolsdesigned with the kids because the kidsare on the games and there was over ahundred children you know they have noidea about after doing research if youwant you're gonna win this country ofcourse but it's just like no one's herepolice like after getting them up on aloved it because they said we used to goto the schools and do the strangerdangers and things I mean yeah yeah butwe don't Lisa V Cohn anymoreyou ain't got no police we can't sendthem down you guys we need the police inthe streets and because of what'shappened in our stabbings or the theftschild abductions or child cards havebeen pushed to the back you know I meanbe this it's absolutely we need to makesure it's gonna be safe for now so I'mgonna dust the plantbut that's just the beginning of courseso with the school I'm not okay I'mgonna go to my doors prime school Ican't go down so promise don't saylisten this is what happens when you getthis is the tips and you need to know soI had a bear designed cord captainCharlton okay so how can I get two kidswhat do I do monkeys to teach them areread books to them every single nightand you know what they're nuts sometimesthey love this in their favorite butthey even recite them to me as I'mreading because they beat him so muchI'm like I'm gonna make books I'm gonnawrite books at the moment for booksbooks the first one I've just sent offfor editing he's come back and it'samazing I love itwhich is based on a true story calledthe supermarket okay so the first storyeach story will educate the children aswell as be fun which will also educatethe parents because we need to educatethe parents as well because parentsdon't know this parents understandwhat's happening so we say to theparents the kids can't stay next to meso I mean I'll where's he gone book wedon't but there's no sense of panic whenthey have gone always probably in theother oil so for me to then show thatmessage that in the supermarkets withhe's capturing child safe so he's thehero you know say Whitney got Sly Foxhe's the one in every situation we'lltry and take the job so in eachsituation in each book there's always ahappy ending right always a happy endingbut in happy so that's how I'm targetingthe younger age is to to a to the otherso through story and because the thingis also okay I'll do a program for thekids at the primary school what kidsforget within 10 seconds before going tomention span as well but somebodyspeaking of course of courseso if I went into a smaller I teachingthem I'll go in there once I'm not gonnago in everyday online so don't forget assoon as they've forgotten I sit insidetheir head so if we do it for a storyit's gonna be read to them time and timeand time again and being Brennan totheir brain and they know as they growupno calm run off in the shop because if Iwanna finish shut the slyfox mindgetting out that's what I'm trying to doand feed into their brainWow I mean like you said when youstarted this you had no idea no ideawhich way to go goes the books yourNorth in our liver said this isfascinating so you you were talkingabout raising awareness then you've gota fantastic Facebook page and all thisstuff will be in the show notes and I'llshare it as much as I possibly can aswell okay everyone's life's busy coursewe're gonna hear this it's gonna touchmore people as hearts but some peopleare gonna touch them for a bit and thenthey're gonna get on with their livesyeah of course if they could just do onething that's very very quick that wouldjust help your message whether it's likeis it as simple as just sharing yourvideo or these leaflets here you've gotavailable put in one of those oh thisI'll have my leaflets these days I'llpay for our print they're all free ifanyone wants posters they're more thanwelcome to us they all have to do isdrop a message to my page I will thendeliver send it but yet the Flyers andthe posters are free I've had caustichas done as well which these are soldand my website is gonna be finished justcalled child safe okay they're stickersI have t-shirts made it's Ruby sorryright on the page as well where all themoney that I'll music space or my ownmoney or the world I've worked for andany profit made it all goes into thechalk on to the police there's somethingcalled active citizens fund okay and I'mwaiting for the approval of it approvalof it because I can't go into theschool's intended I can't go to thosekids and be like yeah as soon as theylisten they need something to read totake the information they need the tipsso they concert can keep reading oh andalso show the parents because there'stips and there for parents of what theycan and can't doing or should orshouldn't do even to let them childrenbe safe yeah and stuff you were gettingearly and I'm like I I get that becauseI'm sitting here now midway through thisand I just want to help you like yeahI'm gonna help you right noweach and Brian this will probably comein I don't know a month's time for weekstime because of the schedule bumblerthis needs to be out there now so upuntil that timeoffline after this I want you to speakto me as well and let me know of courseI've got a couple of friends in theprinting industry as well okay and evenif it is quite a few favors can you justdo the first thousand free listen thisis going to stuff that's going to changethis world the world hundred percent youdon't mean and it's most people aregonna have children in their lives or nochildren of course find of children tomake sure that there was no why even notthe people just with children peoplethat don't have children need to knowthat so they they are aware as well sowhen they see someone talking to a childand they and the child is acting in thecertain behavior that don't look rightthey can step in and say excuse melittle one you okay is this your dad isthis your mom I mean so they need to beaware of this is for everyone it ain'tjust at first I generally thought usedto the parent and I'm like you know whatthe best one that happened to me thisgirl I want to be waiting just cuz Ifinally realize what I gotta do ifyou're like okay this is just this is mymissionthis is that's my mom this isn't ourmission so this is I'm just doing whatI'm supposed to be doing so this wasbuilt message me tell me one inspirationa man that and I'm like okay well thankyou flyershe's messaged me again and I said shejust put thank you so much again fordoing what you doing you helped me savea life what do you mean I helped yousave a lot she goes I was in memory Hilldidn't shopping because I've seen alittle boy were in on the shop and he'srunning down there and there's noparents and she said all of a suddenman's grabbed his hand and she saidshe's lucky that she's run over to thisbone and said this dust on your son isit she he's let go I'm enough so she'sobviously she said because of whatyou've doneyeah you've educated me to be vigilantand I've saved the boy's life and momscome were in that shock come here my sonshe's like some manhood and I'm like ohthat was the maddest even that was likeI'm tingling that was the best feelingDonna my message is gonna buzz it istenit's working that girl is now savedanother kidswe almost need everyone to know nobodyso everyone's singing from the same hymnsheer supposed because there is atendency are suppose even we're notwe're not gonna have for example and yousee tail up without us and you see likesomebody may have been a bit like overlyaggressive speaking to his wife you knowPyrus and suppose you know should I jumpyeah should I know it's always that kindof know your limits know your boundarieslast thing you want to do is go in andthen even she turns around he's likewhat are you doing I mean no couples allyou don't yeah anyway we need to jump innot justify just to stop and profess ifyou're not jumping into joining thefive-year someone because you've hurthim what's the point you're just doingthis bad as that privacy really don'tmake money to join in just to stopbefore explain this and you guys explainthis like the best I supposeintervention methods for the phobiapercent I figure of someone who'sprobably gonna be anxious to do thatalthough we need to do it yes I've saidbecause I had so many messagesmmm-hmm when fortunately I reacted inthe perfect way of what government mykids and everyone else should do that aswell especially if it's someone elsedoesn't matter if it is that or is momand you think they're acting the way ofjust grab that child's hand and ask ifthey're okay and you're not do nothingbad it's so many people telling me sowhy didn't you beat him up and you knowwhat I didn't know there was a group Ifirst turned to me there was one man soif I've jumped on this Mannie my doorsare never seen that go my children arenow panicking I'm on top of this manbeating this man oh all of a sudden Ilook up there my children are gonebecause the other two in the group oftank in themwe can't this again how it's almost likeyou actually reacted in the yeah it'sfortunately that's not me notfortunately I acted in the perfect wayand grab muchOh No maybe he was the decoy to get metogether you see I think it's plenty ofvideos where there's somebody who I seenone the other day sorry I'm going a bityeahthere's a piece of delivery driver on amotorbike you know the guys robbed thepizza from the back of the day okay andas he's run off the guys that my pizzahe's gonna deliver it so he's chased himto the door of someone's run on his bikeyes but it's a similar kind of qualitybecause they saw suppose house Wow didthey use our brains again so it's init's in our interest to act 100% the wayyou act you children your children isyour first priority in life no matterwhat you were the first thing scrubberJose Cuban said don't need don't worryabout Emma don't worry don't grassydon't jump on him it's if you have yourpartner with them or someone else getyour pond it's a cup of kids and theydetain that map you know mean see thisis arrest that manthat's it you don't you don't wanna stopbeing an absolute yeah the fault ofsomeone taking your child is that partbreaking you will go too far you maykill that man and then you're still notgoing to see your child anyway okayfantasticI could just speak about this for like awhole day I'm conscious that the show isit in its own yeah of course and so Iwant to kind of find out more stuffabout you yeah a little bitI'm just it's fascinating it takes acertain type of human being to do thislike I said I'm in my social life I saida lot of people or moms from like anursing background I always thoughtthose kind of people with that naturethat caring nature the world needs moreof it and of course they need moresupport so if I could support you afterthis podcast I'll do that thank you sosome of these questions now this is moreinterested I always think it'sfascinating when I when I when I sitwith people at yourselves you've gotsuch an amazing story so I think routineand daily habits are where we are inlife for example so I look at successfulpeople like okay he's doing this I'mgonna just take this from his dailyhoney I can explain from the moment youwake up to the moment you sleep how is aday that it's all routine I've got aworking with you you know whatI see most times in my life I neverworked in routine and you don't yourbody is a machine your body is acomputer whether you like it or now youneed to realize that your body in yourbrain it all workson repetition so if you do somethingyour body knows the next day it's gonnado the same thing so and even to ourmotion because I've still never plannedout course we don't happen so I have thekeys marketed before I leave the housejust in case anything does happen to meso that's what I do and then I get upI'm on a routine time I'll just try myso then so I've got my routine foodclothes give some love to my dog to work[Music]this is me hundred percent so I'm gonnago to work come back home spend sometime with children you know what you allget so focused and forget a lot ofthings sometimes and sometimes we forgetour children and you know I'm she wasdoing 70 80 hours a weekso we just spent fun it's on soon as Tomgoes sammartino go to the gym in themorning I tell my kids to school whenI'm saying it seem normal because I'mdoing the key thing is I just wannastare is you've got the routine causethis is so important because plan planplan plan plan like I did before mrs. Inever planned anything Moloch was allover the place watch your reactiveimpulse on the moment live for the daythat's all it's one of the things sowhen I gave up my job I had to getroutine in placeI'm scatterbrain yeah everyone knowsthat regimented from the moment I wakeup similar to yourself Anderson evenstuff like I have to have a liter and ahalf of water so nutritious ineverything is so regimented of coursebut you get so much more done becausebecause I've got no time I guaranteeyou've got you probably said no but it'samazing stuff you're doing now you'vegot three doors as well yeah you'redoing all this amazing stuff you'reworking out as wellI know you're in competition prep it'stough I know what it goes through menteeto use that that way in everything sothis Lodge we live in this live fromwhen people are going freejust doing the easiest things possiblejust to get through the day no meanthere maybe you go to the pub have adrink of a laugh or no but this love yougot a challenge yourself man everysingle day is supposed to be a challengeI mean if you ain't challenge yourselfor fluff about no mean cannot do thatlets covergirl let's do itI'm scared of that let's do the scariestthing possible man cuz that doli thosethings will give you those amazingfeelings no if nothing else will giveyou that feeling it's impossible hundredpercent I mean I always say at themoment your brain tells you should we dothat or no do it do it cause that issomething that you need to do yeah ofcourse that's where you're talkingyourself know a little bit like we spokeabout just before a stylist podcast thereason I'm doing this part I have to dothis yeah I have to do this and it's notabout me and I keep saying this thispodcast is nothing to do with me like mystory's not on here but this is aboutpeople like yourself yeahbecause even if I get 5 people to listento this and to share your story andthink child thing's safe enough I lovethat model stuck in my head lookee whathe said it was yeah if we can stop fivepeople that my job is don't do of coursethat's Michael isn't that 5 or 10 saidsomeone else and then that Forbes orsomeone else and then the word passes onthat that's it that's how the worldworks it's all gonna do we're gonnachange each other's mindset to makepositive impact you know what happens tome every dayit's just it's no even downpour this isa teenagers well I didn't expect thereaction this is one of them adoresfence follows me on Instagramno I've seen his post and he was on hisstory these poornamed neo gliese girl in my class andthen the only boy in my class andeveryone's going in on itno what is this boy doing so I have tomessage it no I don't know himpersonally I saw I saw a young manthat's like we can't judge people wesmell up to us the judge I said youmight affect someone's life really backspeople are putting four names on thisthing I'm a man I said we need to dosomeone else we need to change watermake it positive let every wheel I saidpeople will love you more if you dosomething good and tell say who is theprettiest who is the best of footballwho is the funniest and then you knowwhat I was expecting a little teenageryes he said to six laughs he deleted itpeople who defeats the funniest and hethinks the face he got so many morecomment soon he had so many people hewas reported look how many more peoplecommented now because it's a positivemessage I send you know yes so that wasa wicked never write anything like thatas a kid because simply we gotta havethat emotional intelligence whensomebody create new almost constructivecriticism AUSA's which is hard to takeas hundred are you going stuff but asI've dropped my ego as I've grownthrough life and personal developmentit's easier now 100 would I had thatintelligence Isaac as a kid so if I seesomething like I was driving yesterdaydo you man see people said really doesno people think that maybe we may haveall bad bad things happen in our livesand he's supposed to choose how we dealwith them problems and happy happy or wegonna dwell on it and be set for therest of our lives this is what I need toteach people we need to teach people alot of people think they're stuck in therock yeah I mean they don't know how toget out and this is their life nowthat's how they'll be with celebritiesthis is a message to perform coach edgewe're all in control of our destinyeveryone is in control of it well Easterday tomorrow in a month we are controlyou say you want to go do that so manytime you put the hard work in and it canget donethere's notice things are possible kidssay I carnate a word in my addictionyeah yeah you know body get rid ofthat's one of the first Birds I got ridof nano magic screen there told oh manhe's powerful you remind me of myself soyou'll meet my wife one day yeah hopeyou have this we hundreds ain't gonnakeep in touch I'm sure died for thisbecause I I'm one of the most emotionalpeople like you'll ever see for a guyyeah I like I've done the whole boxingscene may I do that all day but you showme a sad story when I see someone hurtwhether I normal not I I don't know whatwhat happens to me but I feel they hurtand you almost want to just say look letme take that away from you know kind ofthing like we bless we're looking evenbetter listen people like this yeah wehave such big hearts and we came herehave that emotion to give to everyoneelse so I used to so I'm gonnafront-engine here I just have this thingwhere a leopard doesn't change this busand all we believe people could havechanged and I've interview somefascinating people are gonna cook onhere and they've changed their life aswell yeah so I've almost changed my ownbeliefs to sort of think everyone's goodbut we sometimes make bad decisions yeahof course we do and I think if we cantry and like you said chain thatperception get everyone thinkingpositively doing good things will itcome and I used I used to be scared ofsaying like I want to change the worldright yeah because it's that you changethe world you just don't just a normalguy whatever I'm like okay I want tochange the world I can't do by myselfit's a bit like you say you don't knowhow you're gonna get there but you justtake one step on it I'm gonna get therethis is the thing that you don't dothoughthis is why I attempted to do I wantedto know I wanted my boy I did and I'mlikecompletely burned myself out and I waslike I even doubted myself there is toomuchI mean in my Eskimo convict's a pictureof my kids there is I was in the paperrecently there's an established news ofpictures the article to remind me ofthat day you can even use the analogy soI always talk about how to finishbecause it's a part of me you want toget to where you want to get to on yourdate so one thing always trying to dowith people is I wanted to get involvedin the gym or some sort of activitybecause that's the transferable skillwhen you master it you can take it intoanywhere it canthe next question is about adversity soif you could think of a time whereyou've been through adversity you'vecome over it you know more versity myluck was you know I gave my love to somany people for one more friend and itwas the hardest seems to be for me to dookay so much love and I generally foughtmy friend on me back my life and then Iremember sitting down watching BobbyKahn you did a little casting session hewas like we need to figure out why youlove the people that don't love you backand we know you know I never reallyfigured it out till you Vince it upuntil now and the main thing I had to dobecause there were bad people I didn'tunderstand why doing do things like Iwould call my friends daily asklike they'd go for trial tribulation soI thought I'll be thereI mean I know we're doing the stuff thatyou would have done for this yeah coursebut I generally thought that's whatfriendship is yeah you know I mean but alot of people see friendship as is hegot something for meand you know what broke my heart manremember cry my eyes out dedicated tohim and never got it back no and then Igrew and then I met some other peopleI'm not are these clothes cool and i'madjoining with these and then the samething happened again man I'm like Iblamed me I mean I'm like this issomething wrong with me when I'm ondoing what about done this must besomething wrong till I met my partnerthen we got kids they love me yeah musthave never done anything wrong like I'vedone bad things I never do Bettis topeople don't know I've always hadpeople's backs and I never understoodBrian and you know what people want tobe my friend or he would talk to me andneed help I'll never stop change it'snot can't change that's this theme I'mnever gonna stop changing but I'velearned to never expect it back that'smy wife sister is something about theseat home I'm not gonna call the systemtheir expectations and that's theproblem so when you come from a goodheart in everything you do you expectthe person to reciprocate that in thesame way as yourself only did it causeand it doesn't weather and I learnedthis in solar even in the property gameor I've had people reach out and Ialways take it on face value I'm likeI've got no reason not to trust you so Itrust you straight away yeahso when they telling me all this amazingfun right this is fantastic then all ofa sudden there's a hidden little oh isthat one yeah then I used to startthinking is that the reason that you'reyou're nice to me for youafter all this time and I'm here likewilling to do anything for you I supposepeople sit as a weakness oh yeah so thatyet people could see as weakness byPegasus strength days so powerful whatyou're gonna go on and do yeah and Ithink as you go through this like youmentioned a guy earlier Oliver forexample yesyou're gonna meet Oliver's in the worldgym right he was the first same userJohn who's the first person a person ohwow these people don't know what's goingon this is what I want yeah I wanna youare an influencer of the people youaround yeah of course you you when youstart spreading this you're only gonnatrap genuine people yeah because I'mgonna become a millionaire supportingthis but I'm gonna change ahead of a lotof lives do and if that's somebody'strue purpose lie like it is mine yeahwe're gonna back this season mean thisis amazing I mean not the fact that Igot 3,000 followers in what's it'sOctober November 3 to two months it'sjust two months man and I'm like thatmany people want to make a difference aswell this is like changing my timezoneby a thousand a million because thatmany people actually want to do it wejust need to get it in their eyes getthem seen this it's not I didn't evenattack a lot of work doesn't take a lotwhatsoever all it takes is that littlepin on the board this podcast yeah andeven it's just them viewing it they arebuilding the knowledge we're not evenknowing they're getting the knowledgejust by watching the videos I don't knowthere's I mean I just think it's anothersocial media page okay cuz I've there'sso many social media pages and I see somany videos but we tend to get enticedin this board into the funny video whenit comes to the serious things peopletry to forget about it don't want to seethe serious book they have to is youcan't forget I know what your answer isto the next question right and it iswhat is your biggest fear you touched onit basically idea I know anythingopportunity kids before I had kids alittle bit stank'sin sports I was the best in the Midlandsand even now like you know I guess Ifelt like a failure to my family as wellI still I believed I was gonna changethe family my family's lives I stillbelieve that now there's no I'm stillgoing to so that feeling never wentwithout failure okay okay so nextquestion I think you've kind of answeredit again it's kind of just aboutmotivation song yeah what motivates youyou know I'm still human this is thething we've got to remember that we arestill homeless okay so on the days whereyou don't feel like getting out of bedand doing the stuff what we mud Smokieseveryone says that's somethingyou know before I was my kids was to bethe best so if I didn't get up in themorning and go do that run someone elseagain up in the morning doing that runand then he's gonna be better than me soI don't want to be that loser so meansob I'm doing it soon as I'm like a cakeyou know now someone's going to sleep solet them sleep I'm gonna do some moreworkyeah I mean that's how that's what I wasmy motivation to be the best I mean itschallenges and those sort of thingseven other people mana motivate me wehave to learn more about ourselves wellknown as why we might abandon ourselvesbecause we want to do this we want toget this far even if it's the motivationto work hard cause you want to go buy anew carI mean for some people that's they thinkyeah cool it's not necessary my there'snothing wrong with that or I do what youdo so I do this thing right and ifsomebody doesn't understand all goingthrough a person development Statesgonna think I'm crazy but I do thisthing so I'll go to the gym for examplenot Sam do cardio I hate cardio isbecause I then start talk to myself whoelse is doing this at this timethat's only I'm doing it I hate it butI'm doing it and I kind of like almoststop digging myself up yeah yeah whathappens you start feeling more confidentpowerful and then it's like then I'll goin for like a gym workout and the laydown but nobody else is doing thiswhile I'm working 16 hours a day whatI'm trying to do this one time and it'sthat self-talk and I suppose the reasonwe're doing so much done is because alot of my life I was talking to myselfthe way the negative people had spokento me you know you're shy you're anxiousyou're this you're that and he wasalways those kind of stories thosetelling me now it's like the story Itell myself is the story I wanted Thomasyeah that's gonna bring me out into theworld in new ways it yeah so so dopeople don't be scaredthis is a thing don't be scared if thatbus is bigger than you or the challengeis bigger than you you guys think okaythen let's tackle this i'ma take youdown so now we're at the fun part ofshow so we're gonna start in three twoonethe ability to fly or be invisible flywhen your fame Netflix our youtube neverCoke or Pepsi Pepsi would you rather nothow you would die or wake you withoutlove or money no books or movies moviesit with one person in the world whowould it bewhat is your biggest addiction to winsummer or winter winter your favoriteplace in the worldspeak all languages will be able tospeak to animals in the world what wouldit be you favor some Emma voice the manin the read minds or forget the teacherGod have you ever been in a fight okaycool so the next one's about reflectionso I believe that how it's a wonderfulthing because as we've spoken aboutalready yes so you can always think ofways to get there quicker easier withless heartache I suppose but the journeyteaches us a lot of course it does Ithink the process is so important so ifyou knew what you knew now unless sayyou could go back to say before yourdegree for example yeah and you couldwhisper something knowing everything youknow now to that to most at 17 forexample what would you say you know whatit's probably tell him it's gonna beokay it's you're still alive it'sbecause you know what when you gothrough the trials or tribulations inyour life those things feel like theylast forever don't you just like yeahlike a week from then and what's on themenu here from then that won't evenmatter now this all was I wish I couldtell could've talked as I dwell too muchon the bad that was happening in my lifeand whenever someone made a mistakeevery time someone bad happened to meI'm not boys happening to me again whatam I gonna do and if I could've justThomson don't worry about it yeah don'tdwell on itit's okay it's a case no I tell myselfthis all the time now through everythinglike we are so lucky to be where we arein this world are you still alive Korsoso if you're in that situation and it'sthat hard but you still know there'snothing than someone no one can takethat away any long as you know no onecan take that away from you know me so Iwish I could have told myself that Wowokay last question okay okay so the lastquestion I always ask my guess is if in150 years time science doesn't save usright and we're no longer here andthere's a book on the table now and I'mgonnaand a little bit to this crystal as wellso there's a book on the table in it'sabout your life right so what I want toknow is in any order you want firstlywhat is the title of the of the book andif we turn it on the back you knowyou've got blueberry there what willthat tell us about you okay the bookcalled the world I think it'd be thatwill be I've always wanted to change theworldand like you see so much bad happeningthere's no way I'm gonna go from bridgesand I'm gonna come over and there'sgonna be everything that's good thisthings are gonna tackle me these peoplethat may even go against me no I thinknow sometimes I would have to savechildren's lives here but there's stillgonna be people out there I neverthought I'd have one person at all so -and the one I did I'm like yeah ofcourse in them do something positive isexactly what he went on I'm trying to benice and said back into this and thatwasn't Denise yourself I'm referencingwhat I've got it from unrest he's doinga quick Google search he got the firstthing they said look at this no no no itgoes deeper than that and then then Iactually said to him in the end I saidyou got so much energy because look howmuch I said use that good that energyyou got tackle it someone new and tellsomeone about what I'm doing that's thelast thing to do everyone a message it'snot just about giving the people themessage that want to listen yeah yeahsome people will find it at the wrongtime but it's in the beginning yeaheveryone's journey is different ofcourse the information is there youmaybe you just keep you've done your jobthere long as you've told all thosepeople 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Everyday is a "Sun" DayPoetry Lyrics:Hello World! And to all the Glorious Sunny Sun Days With love from me to youOn any given Sun dayI may not see your smileBut I know you are thereI may not see your voice or hear you calling my nameBut I can feel you near Feel your warmth, Charm, Laughter & smileliveliness to dream live and loveI know you're thereOn Any day, on Every day on any given Sun daySunny days of my tomorrows smiles We lift our heroic memories to the top exceeding miles beyond our lifetimes Emotions, Interest, Love, and Glory within On any given Sun dayThrilled to be, be with you Across the world, over the seas and oceans BlueOur hearts Spread, on any given Sun DayWe Connect through Earths energy powered by the love withinEarths matrix smiles uniting us togetherYou hold the key to be freeOn any given Sun day "I, I, I love you"On any given Sun dayIs your fun day the Sun shinesOn any given sun dayFor you, you to seeWe wake up in the glory of your existence Without you there's no me, and without me there's no youBut I'm always hereOn any given Sun day Every day on any given Sun DayMy brothers and sisters from all over the worldI come to you with love.Pass it forward,Smile, because you matterForward dreams are catalogs of potential realities All it takes is youYour energyYour ambition And your smile ..................................Alright ladies and gentlemen! Welcome back and thank you for taking another ride to the other side, we just have a few more hyper jumps through the astral planes and we're back within our known universe and into Earths matrix. Hope you enjoyed the ride on Poetry Shuttle 21! Make sure to watch your step when exiting the shuttle and don’t forget to pick up a free glass of dreams and a sugar free lollipop at the door. ;)If you're interested in hearing more crazy, unique and out of this world poetry tune in to my Podcast series available on all major podcast platforms, just search for Poetry Shuttle 21.

送我个你房间来自南方的吻吧，让我闻一闻你身边月亮的味道让我知道，你一切都好让月亮替我捎句话，思念偶尔也会抹眼泪。多腻，多甜的歌词，我翻译的时候，边翻边羡慕你，喜欢吗？Romeo's Tune3D:ZEM翻译：ZEMMeet me in the middle of the dayLet me hear you say everything's okayBring me thousand kisses from your roomMeet me in the middle of the nightLet me hear you say everything's alrightLet me smell the moon in your perfume在阳光盛开的午后，请让我知道你现在一切都好。我想收到你从你温暖的小屋给我捎来的南方的略带潮湿的亲吻。在轻柔月色里，请让我放心你一切都好，我想在你给我的淡淡香味中闻到月亮的味道。Oh, Gods and years will rise and fallAnd there's always something moreIt's lost in talk, I waste my timeAnd it's all been said beforeWhile further down behind the masquerade the tears are thereI don't ask for all that much I just want someone to careThat's right now时间仓促，上帝也急急忙忙的。总有很多没有做完的事等着我们。时间在闲闲碎碎的低语中流掉，我总是这样放纵我的时间去说这些重复的话，一遍，一遍。我和佐罗一样有着一副面具，可是把它层层剥下，却只有孤零零的眼泪留在那里。我没有要求太多的东西，我只是想要一个人来在乎我，就这样，仅此而已。Meet me in the middle of the dayLet me hear you say everything's okayCome on out beneath the shining sun在午后遇见，请让我放心你一切安好，我会在明媚的阳光中盛放Meet me in the middle of the nightLet me hear you say everything's alrightSneak on out beneath the stars and run让我在安静的夜色中遇见你，让我听到你一切安好的消息，我会在那些若隐若现的星星中慢慢消失。Oh yeah, oh yeah yeah, oh yeahIt's king and queen and we must go down now beyond the chandelierWhere I won't have to speak my mind and you won't have to hearShreds of news and afterthoughts and complicated scenesWe'll huddle down behind the light and fade like magazines这是个国王和王后的故事。在华丽的吊灯后，仓皇而逃，逃去一个安静的地方，我也不用每句话都要斟酌再三，你也不用听那些闲言碎语和应对那些复杂的声色犬马。我们就这样，逃离那些耀眼嘈杂的光线，像本杂志一样，在时光中褪去。Meet me in the middle of the dayLet me hear you say everything's okayBring me thousand kisses from your roomHey hey, meet me in the middle of the nightLet me hear you say everything's alrightLet me smell the moon in your perfumeOh now, meet me in the middle of the dayLet me hear you say everything's okayLet me see you smiling back at meHey, meet me in the middle of the nightLet me hear you say everything's alrightHold me tight and love and loving's freeWoah yeah

我是一个用情至深的女子-LiterallyLiterallyadv. 照字面地；逐字地；不夸张地；正确地；简直I'm the type who takes love literallyIf it's thereI take it to the max我是那种对爱情很认真人一旦爱了我便会爱到极致歌名：Say We Can 歌手：Diana RossI said, "Girl, now don't fall to pieces on me"But she cried her eyes out literallyAt the party at theLeper colony我说：“你还，别为我伤心”但她竟然在汉生疗养院的派对上失声痛哭歌名：Party At The Leper Colony歌手：Weird Al YankovicThat is literally the nicest thing you've ever said to me.这真的是你对我说的最好听最感人的话了。出自《海洋奇缘》想和卡卡老师快乐学习？全新趣学电影课程已经上线，免费课程咨询助教微信Kakaketang

A little old lady is walking down the street dragging two plastic garbage bags with her, one in each hand. There's a hole in one of the bags and every once in a while a $20 bill comes flying out of it onto the pavement. Noticing this, a policeman stops her. "Ma'am, there are $20 bills falling out of that bag." "Damn!" says the little old lady, "I'd better go back and see if I can gather up some of them. Thanks!" "Well, now, not so fast," says the cop. "Where did you get that money? Did you steal it?" "Oh, no," says the little old lady. "You see, my yard backs up to the parking lot of the football stadium. Each time there's a game, a lot of fans come and pee in the bushes right into my flower beds! So, I stand behind the bushes with a big hedge clipper and each time some guy sticks his dick through the bushes, I say; '$20 or off it comes!'" "Hey not a bad idea!" laughs the cop. "Ok, good luck! By the way, what's in the other bag?" "Well," says the little old lady, "not all of them pay up."SOUR LaffadayLast week I did big foot and week before that I did the Kennedyassasination this is alien abduction. Last night i watched somethingon alien abduction and UFO's, and while watching the abduction partsomething struck me as wrong and I could figure out what it was.We've all heard the stories person walking along or something getsbrought on board and probed with devices and needls, put back on the groundand then the person forgets the hole thing only to have it brought upunder hipnosys. And then it hit me why are these beings using needls.I mean if they are capable of coming here from a place the we can't seethen surely they are addvanced enought to not have to use something as primativeas needls. And surely if they are so intersted in us and studing usthen they should be able to work out an anistec that doesn't wear off.FMCIf the greatest alcoholic drink in the unisverce was like gettinghit with a solid gold brick up side the head with a lemon on it thiswas it's opposit. Or to describe it, like being hit in face withbaseball bat of poo with a lime wedge. FMCWhy is it when there is a war on people with sacrific and money poars in from the government. When wars start up you don't here well this will cost us so many billionsbut when we need to save our selves from the things we've been doingit suddenly becomes all about the money never mind the fact thatsome countries (cough US cough) could use abit of a kick in the asseconomicaly. Take our neibours to the south and see what happenedswhen they through out 10 billion dollars for nucular power plantsand a soloar system that will cover just about al there needs.Oh and don't bring up the battery thing there are batteries out therethat can power cars for what most people they've been around for years.Oh and cutting fuel costs now sure easy annouce in 2 years taxes will doubleon gas and no tax on deisle then maybe we'll see all the deisle carsand trucks that europ have come flying over here, the mass transit costswill go down then maybe we can get some that work in this courty outside of Ottawa and Toronto.CollegeWho should pay for a childs collegeFirst let me start off by explaining my exp and then go from thereI want to do this becuase alot of people when giving there views don't tell you there past.I paid my own way in hightschool i pissed away all my money the i made each summerand had next to nothing the summer before i started I word from May - Oct(i think)for just a dollar more then minum wage (7.10-8.00 at the time i think) 35 hours a weeki had enought saved to go and paid for all my own stuff. My parents paid my insurancefor the car that i drove i used my dads car and i paid for gas thy feed me and didn't charge me rent. After school i came home and did nothing i had no money and worked at a car wash till i was fired thankfully beforewinter started.I was broke when we got out from may-sept and got a great paying jobfor the rest of my time in college, and graduated with no debts.Now for the questions who should pay for a childs collegeFirst off that's a bad question who's paying for my kids college is noneof YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS, if you think i shoudl pay FUCK you if you think mykid should pay i'll tell them to say FUCK YOU to you just a soon as they can.Now on to the meat of issue should the parents pay yes and no, should the child have to payyes and no should both partent and child find a way to pay that works out best for the childyes.This is what needs to be done the child needs to know how much their paretns will paywhen they enter highschool that way they know how much money is on there ass. The rest needsto be either worked for with blood, sweat, tears, and mybe a donated kidney, OR come from a loan.There is nothing wrong with being in debt over getting higher education absolutly nothing and I havenever heard one case where that is untrue.Kids spend most of there time from 13-18 saying how much they want freedom and when 18 rolls aroundsay so wheres my money for college this seems abit like cake and eat it too type thing.But parents should help if they can and not break there own banks to do it. Also as much as thechild deservses, a parent with a lazy ass kid and gimme gimme attitiude have nothing close to moral obligation to get that basard through film school.Actually i think parents would be better off paying for moreof second year then first give them something to work for and an insentive to get throughI saw to many people drop out of my college class to not have some sort of observation like thisas did everyone who has been through univeristy or collage.my course started out with 200 and ended with45 a small few got jobs and didn't need a paper others graduated and didn't get jobs because of the econoy.I'm going to tel my kid if you don't know what you want to do don't go to college work and figure things outthen go when you know what you want to do that way you have a better footing yes you will be in debt but if your doingsomething you love to do not something you thought that you would love to do it makes everything easier. You know the honey moon is over when shes says "can you atleast wait till I'm asleep!"FMCCar Insurance: A government required protection service through a company that gets mad when you what you paid for.If the government wants to decrease the number of guns out there why don't they just make everyonethat owns one get insurance. This would be a hole lot simpler for everyone far less cost to the tax payers,well except for the 10 studies that will be needed to see if it's fesable, and of course all the time they will need to find a suitable no bid contract for a test market. The insurance companies will be happy and they can now go out with there ruthless efficany to inforce this. Gun owns woudl still have to register there guns but i'm betting an insurance companywould be able to do it way faster. Then when someone has to go buy a gun they need to get the insurance and provide the paper work and there rates go up the more guns they have and then if something happeneds to the gun they boughtlike it's shoot there insurance goes WAY up.I want to be able to either through my work or through my business be ablt to afford the kind of health insurance that if I ever find myselfneeding a hospital stay other patents are knocked out of my way as I'm wheeledthrough the halls.FMC T-Shirt Ideas4 women in burca's standing in a line with a phrase"I'll tkae whats behind curtian number 3"Say what you will about China but atleast they are opressing their own people.I love it when an american slams China about human rights, I can't wait for someChinese comic to point out that yah well when we are gather up strengh we are notcommiting genoside on 2 different peoples and umpteen different tribes steal there landthen create a great land on the backs of a people brough there for the purpose.I knew he was going to be good realeastate manager when we were kidsand we played monopoly. He owned everything on the board then bought outtwo other boards through home refinasing lones and government grants. If could walk away not owing him 5 bucks it was a good game.A man went to his boss's costume party with nothing on but a nakedyoung woman on his back. "So what the hell are you supposed to be?" the boss asked. "I'm a snail," the man replied. "What a load of crap!" his boss spat. "How can you be a snail when allyou've got is that naked young woman on your back?" "You've got it wrong," the man replied, "That's Michelle."Unsuccessful German Restaurants: LuftWaffle House BlintzKrieg What-a-Braten BurgerKraut Dolph & Eva's Secret Garden Mein Kaffe Reich's Chris Steakhouse Just-Stop-O Burgermeister & Jerry'sQuick piece of addivce for all you single gals out there if your under 30 and you want to wear a smell like a perfum or somethingwear something fruity or flowery. Don't over think this one you can try and go for somethingabit more safisticated but at that point you risk getting into mom and women smells.For you ladies over 30 where something classy don't try the fruity stuff if it's in youconditioner or your body wash fine but your better then that stuff as your main smell.I wonder what has the better rate of getting teenagers cleanRehab centers Like the Top top top of the lineorthe military inclueding military schoolI wonder what profession has the most accuracyweather peopleorfinancail advisorsTop ten DVD's that category bugs teh shit out of meI'll tell you why 10 movies fine but top 10 DVD's well nowwe are not ust talking movies now the extra features are on the table and at top of my list for that would be the lord of the ringstriogly I lump them togther becuase they are just one big ass moviebut i tell you what this is best DVD becuase you can just watch themaking of the lord of the rings and sit back and fantasis thatthey did make the movie i had hoped they would.Red flags for how to tell if your in a bad relashonshipIf before you get out of car to meet your person you say to your selfhhhmmm I wonder what will happen today and you do that more then 2 times a week.thats badSmurfs ass hair as a unit of measre ment