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"It's a PRANK!" Apparently, these words are so powerful that grant anyone who says them is granted absolution, or even immunity, from any perceived wrongdoings. (Or at least that what we've learned from the Internet! LOL) WE BACK IN THE THANG!! and today is a huge episode for a couple of reasons!!1) It's WHYI's Birthday

This week on the program we welcome our friend Deremy Dove into the hallowed halls to discuss the career of funny man Tracy Morgan. Join us won't you? Transcript:[0:41] Thank you so much, Doug and Nance. It is fantastic to be here with you all.And there are quite a few of you. I can see you queued up outside the SNL Hall of Fame.My name is J.D., and it is just a thrill to be with you here on this lovely Monday.We have got a fantastic show for you.But before we go any further, I feel it necessary to tell you to wipe your feetbefore coming into the hall. all.Now, back when I was a wee lad, my mother scolded me once for making a messof the floor, and ever since then I feel compelled to tell people to wipe their feet.There. I've said it. It's finally out in the public, and I feel great.Thanks for being my therapist by proxy. The check is in the mail.The SNL Hall of Fame podcast is a weekly affair fair where each episode we takea deep dive into the career of a former cast member, host, musical guest,or writer and add them to the ballot for your consideration.Once the nominees have been announced, we turn to you, the listener,to vote for the most deserving and help determine who will be enshrined for perpetuity in the hall.And that's how we play the game. It's just that That simple. You listen.You vote. We tabulate. We announce.Track 2[2:06] Repeat after me. You listen. You vote.We tabulate. And we announce. Speaking of announcements, our good friend MattArdill is standing around loafing.It looks like, hey, if you've got time enough to lean, you've got time enough to clean, young man.Track 3[2:25] Hey, JD, I saw the new exhibits on the way in. I really like the Norm Macdonaldhat collection that we've got going on.Turd Ferguson, that Turd Ferguson hat and that big hat. It's funny.Yeah, you can't go wrong with a funny hat. That's right.How are you doing? I'm excellent right now. Yeah, I'm pretty good.What have you got for us this week? I have got an awesome player of Tracy Morgan.So I'm really looking forward to sharing some facts about him. Well, let's do it.Great. Well, Tracy's 5'9", born November 10th, 1968.He has 67 acting credits, five producer credits, and eight writing credits.Born in Brooklyn and raised in Marlborough Houses and Tompkins Houses in Bedford.He was actually named after a platoon mate of his father who shipped off withhis dad to Vietnam, but was killed in an action within days of deployment.Track 3[3:31] So his dad was very close to this guy, and so that's why he got that name.Um yeah he went on tomarry his high school sweetheart and began hiscomedy career at the age of 17 by performing stand-upon street corners in new york he had his datefirst debut as hustle manon the television show martin sohe's been working hard since he was akid um and it shows i meanhe lists his influences as carol burnett lucille balljackie gleason which i actually see the mostin a lot of what he does uh martin lawrenceeddie murphy and richard prior uh buthe learned about that is a great pedigree huh yeah that's athat's a really good good lineup but yeah the thingis he he says he learned his comedy first fromhis dad who taught him about jonesing whichis basically roasting people he put put himon his lap and they would roast people on the the streetand he also drew from his uncles who he said were also very funny so you knowit runs in the family um you can actually see his first stand-up gig which isan apollo theater amateur night on youtube so if you want to go out and seehis first big break it's there for you to find.Track 3[4:52] I'm going to have to watch that. Yeah. Yeah. You don't get that.See that with a lot of comedians. No. Yeah.He nicknamed all the talk show hosts that he's appeared with.So David Letterman is D rock.Jimmy Fallon is Jimbo and Conan O'Brien is C black.Track 3[5:08] The line between Tracy Morgan and Tracy Jordan is remarkably thin. That's right.Yeah. So he has lobster for dinner every day.He does in fact own sharks. He has, at this point, 15, and he has a backyard tank.And now, to be fair, he has a very close relationship with his daughter,who wants to be a marine biologist.So at least partially he's doing this for her. Oh, it's a shark pony.Track 3[5:40] Yeah, it's a shark pony. Yeah, some people get pony ponies.She got a shark pony. um yeah toentertain his daughter uh and her friends he turnshis basement into a haunted house and he goes allout to the point he every halloweenhe actually won't go into the basement because he's afraid ofthe haunted house that he sets up in his own house umthat's spectacular now he whendrinking he does have a alter ego uh namedchico divine that he describes as thethe coolest dude who would never hurt anybody but chicodid at least piss piss one person off as princekicked chico out of his house uhfollowing a pre-grammy party he got a little out of control um now the thingis this actually helped turn tracy's life around because he got a dui whichled to a confrontation between himself and his son and from that point on he's been sober.Track 3[6:39] Wow. Good for him.Track 3[7:09] So it was a real uh great great thing for him to do to honor his dad that is great,what a tear-jerking end to trivia this week yeah a little bit more serious and and uh,intense uh trivia but it was one of those things where it's like you know iwas reading it i'm like should i you know leave this out because it's a littledown but it's like it really helps explain explain a lot of his comedy and thecharacter behind Tracy.I mean, I've met people who've done shows with him and they say he's like a really sweet dude.And this is where a lot of this comes from. Awesome.Well, our friend, Jeremy Dove is here and he is down with Thomas right now.So let's turn it over to those two.Track 4[8:30] All right. Matt Ardill, JD, thank you so much for that.And I am excited today because we have, first of all, a great guest.Second of all, really interesting nominee.Track 4[8:45] Very different nominee. And I think my guest today and I talking before we hitrecord, that's kind of the word that came up was different.Tracy Morgan is such a different cast member. He has such a different vibe comparedto a lot of people that have been on the show.So this is going to be a fun one to get into. So to talk all things Tracy Morganand SNL, I have with me my guest for today, my friend, a great guest on theSNL Hall of Fame in the past.He's been on for Dick Ebersole, Adam McKay, been on a roundtable.Track 4[9:21] Great guy, I think, to chat about Tracy Morgan. Deremy Dove.Deremy, how's it going, man?Thomas, I'm honored by your kind words, and I'm honored to be here to talk aboutsomeone who is, as you said, just so different in SNL history.We're going on near 50 years, and it's always you think like, oh, you've seen it all.But with Tracy Morgan, he is one of one.He's definitely one of one. With Tracy Morgan, it's a lot about vibes.So we're going to vibe out today on some Tracy Morgan.So you're a podcaster, obviously.So you have the Bigger Than The Game podcast with Jose Ruiz. I'm a fan.Tell everyone what's been going on over at Bigger Than The Game, man.Well, we just did our most recent episode was on the 60th anniversary of SonnyListon versus Cassius Clay, who later became Muhammad Ali.And it was just, like, incredible that, like, man, it's been 60 years sincethat legendary and epic match.And it was kind of fun to look at. I know you'll enjoy this, Thomas.Track 4[10:29] In the same month, February of 1964, the Beatles went on Ed Sullivan and youngCassius Clay Muhammad Ali upset Sonny Liston to become heavyweight champion.Champion and it's like man in that month two thingsthat really changed not only the decade but the way welook at pop culture sports everything twoof the biggest figures of the 20th century the Beatles and Muhammad Ali reallyemerged all in that same month so it's just really fun to kind of get into justwhat this match set up for the rest of the decade and the rest of the 20th centuryas far as sports I love it you guys talk sports history but you break it downyou put Put it into that context.You talk about all the narratives surrounding the sporting event or whatevertopic you're talking about at the time.You and Jose do such a great deep dive into all the topics that you cover.So I love it. Thank you. Go check out Bigger Than The Game with Jeremy and Jose.And I'm told you have another podcast. Why don't you tell everyone about that?So it's this show called Pop Culture 5.It's me and this guy. What's his name? I think it's Thomas Senna oh my goshthat's right we do have a podcast together we have a show I mean who would have thought it so,that has been just so fun to do the show with you man my friend and.Track 4[11:53] We look at anything in music, movies, TV shows, and we're picking five essential things from that.So if it's TV, it's episodes, music, it could be songs for an actor, a director, movies.And we're just kind of talking about our five essentials. And depending on who'sthe host, if you're the host that week, you get three.The co-host gets two, but gets veto power.So it's really like a fun twist on it. And we've gotten nothing but great responses,and I've just really enjoyed doing the show with you, man.Yeah, I look forward to it every week, recording episodes.I love deep diving into our topics at any given week.So one week, I'm all about Nirvana.One week, I'm deep diving into Spike Lee movies and Spielberg.And so it's just been a lot of fun, man. And I think when this Tracy Morganepisode gets released, we'll be up to 25 episodes around then, something like that.Yeah. Yeah. So being released because we have some banked. So this has been– I think we found a really nice groove.Absolutely. Absolutely. Big credit to you for that, man.And you too. So everybody go check out my podcast and Deremy's podcast, Pop Culture 5.Track 4[13:14] Today, we're here on the SNL Hall of Fame. See, I got to get into SNL Hall of Fame mode.Yeah. Yeah, I was going to do this introduction like I was on Pop Culture 5,but we got to get into SNL Hall of Fame mode here.I know, it's a brain shift. It is a brain shift.So, today we're talking about Tracy Morgan here on the SNL Hall of Fame.Tracy joined the cast when he was 27. He auditioned at the same time as Stephen Colbert.Track 4[13:38] Stephen Colbert and Tracy Morgan auditioned, and Tracy auditioned with a littlekid character named Biscuit. Have you seen his audition?I have. I have seen it. Well, can you describe his audition and who Biscuit is?Because it was a really memorable audition to me. I'll be honest, right?Track 4[13:57] It's really weird. For the whole audition, there's certain people,like when you watch Phil Hartman's and Will Ferrell, and to me,it's just like, oh, that's a lock.Track 4[14:06] That guy has to be on. or even Jimmy Fallon forTracy's it was really like I'm likeman like it's not that it's not funny but it'sjust so it's just so different and unique andI'm just like I wonder what they talked aboutin the room once he like got done and saidthank you like you know what I mean because like you mentioned Biscuitand Biscuit was just this I'm probably gonnastruggle to describe but like just this odd character thathe kind of like had I feel like he did it from his stand-up days yeahit was like a little kid who was this kindof shy kid but not almost a socially awkward kidbut he would but then the premise was that he was asked torecite like a christmas poem or something yeah soit was like he was this shy kid but like hewas awkward but would kind of say these like weirdlike i don't know sassy kind of stuff at times like itwas was just really like it was differentit was just so weird for a character to biscuit littlekid named biscuit that's like definitely a tracy morgan touchon this and so like i mentioned he he and steven colbert were two of the finalistsand i've heard norm mcdonald even say like norm mcdonald was part of the selectionprocess and he watched the uh all the uh people audition and And he even said,he's like, I just assumed that Stephen was going to get it.Track 4[15:31] Yeah. We saw both of them. And even Norm said, I just thought,oh, Stephen Colbert is going to be a cast member. Right.Track 4[15:38] But I don't know. His audition, Tracy's audition won the show over, Jeremy.So one, I mean, what do you think?Track 4[15:50] It was about Tracy that might have won SNL over.And two, that's quite the what if between Stephen Colbert and Tracy. Yeah.Well, number one, I believe Tracy just has raw charisma.There's some people who they're just naturally funny.It's like the guys, like the class clown when you're in school or at the lunch table.Track 4[16:16] They just are funny. and they can almost like readthe phone book to you and they'll crack you upand Tracy has that you know a lot of times comedians they'rethey're you know it's an art form and it's trained it's timing andall those things but then there's just some who break throughwho it's just something about them they just make you all their mannerisms justmake you laugh and you can't pinpoint one specific thing you're like I likethis guy he just cracks me up and Thomas I don't know this is a hot take foryou or not but when i'm thinking about tracy morgan and getting ready for this episode.Track 4[16:52] I think this is lauren michaels most uniquehire and i also think whenit comes to judging how good of a talent evaluator lauren michaels is i go totracy morgan as number one yeah because of it's such a unique hire like thisshows me like lauren he thought outside the box when it comes to who who he's bringing on the cast.No, I don't think that's a hot take. I think I used a different word,but I think it encapsulates the same thing.We were probably both thinking along the same lines. I think it's one of Lorne's most inspired hires.That's a good word. It's a better word. No, it's a different word,but I think unique's a great word too for it. A unique hire, an inspired hire.I have to give Lorne and the other producers, I think Steve Higgins was probably,Obviously, Steve Higgins has been there forever.He's been there longer than Keenan. That's how long Steve Higgins has been there. Yes, yes.So I have to think whoever is in charge, Morrissey. Mm-hmm.Track 4[17:52] Choosing Tracy Morgan, they could have gone the easy route and chose StephenColbert and, you know, just plugged him in.But choosing Tracy was just like such a – it was a conscious,it was a deliberate choice to choose somebody like Tracy.Yeah, I'm wondering, like, if you look at the cast, like, do you think at thetime that they needed somebody like Tracy, like, to feel some sort of thing to add?Well, it's interesting because he came in 96, so he's not part of that 95 castwho saved the show again with Will Ferrell and Sherry O'Terry and everything.But he's still remembered as part of that group, even though he came a year later.He's still kind of grouped in with those guys as part of the group that kind of saved the show.So it's interesting because that's one season kind of removed from the toughesttime Lorne has really had on the show where like the network executives werekind of breathing down his neck and being like, you got to get the show funnier.And, you know, you kind of lost. And we've talked about this before.We kind of understand where they're coming from. That 94, 95 season was not really that good.So I think he was looking for people to kind of had an original voice.I think you hear Lawrence say that a lot when he's doing those interviews.I think he wanted people who were original and kind of got back to.Track 4[19:21] Snl really is and i think he wanted someone totracy's credit who people like towork with and was easy to work with too and ithink that's also a big thing that people don't talk about for tracyi'm glad you mentioned about the show's originalvibe and hearken back to that because there's an element of tracy that i thinkis part of the spirit of the original snl and that's almost that danger aspectyes yes like that unpredictability and that's that's a good thing and tracycould be unpredictable but in like a controlled way he's still a professional,he's still you know it's not like he sabotaged sketches ordid anything like that tracy was a professional but he had this aura vibe abouthim that was uh dangerous or unpredictable i think that did harken back to theoriginal time then that was something to me they probably wanted to shy awayfrom that in season 21 because they had just come off of sandler and farley and they were.Track 4[20:18] Dangerous quote-unquote and unpredictable but it got to bea disruption on the show i think right i thinkthey maybe consciously didn't hire somebody like that for the immediate seasonfollowing sandler and farley and those guys but maybe they re-evaluated andlike let's get somebody who can add that danger that unpredictability i meanis there something to Am I just being a weird SNL fan? No, no. I think there is.It was that tamed. Like you said, it's a controlled danger.It wasn't someone that, oh, he's off the rails and is not willing to work.And I think also he brought a confidence, too, where just from Tracy's background,his upbringing, you know, doing stand-up, I think, as well.Like there's a difference between being an improv actor and being a stand-upcomic. and I think Tracy just kind of did...Track 4[21:11] Not to say he's in this person's ballpark overall as far as SNL,but one thing about Eddie Murphy,when he was a part of that cast that replaced the original people from the firstfive years, a lot of those guys, and I understand, rightfully so,they're replacing the epic first five years. They were scared.They were nervous, all this pressure, the presses on them, and everyone alwayssaid Eddie just had a confidence where he didn't care.He's like, I know I'm good. I'm doing it. And I'm not saying Tracy's Eddie Murphy,but Tracy kind of always gives a confidence of, I know who I am.I don't care what you think. I'm here. I'm ready to go.And I think that's what Tracy kind of really brought. I feel like Lorne andthe others kind of saw in him.He wouldn't be scared of the moment. No, I definitely agree.And Tracy was confident in the material. He's like, I know this is funny.I know my inflection's funny. I just know what's funny about this.And so I'm going to get on screen and show you. So that, yeah,that's such a good point.And I think another element, especially around this time, 96,when Tracy got hired, that fascinates me.It's hard to think about Tracy getting cast around this time,to me, without thinking about SNL's history, somewhat tenuous history with black cast members.Track 4[22:26] So I'm wondering, Jeremy, like, can you talk about the show's history with blackcast members, like up until that point, and even like on?On yeah yeah it's always it's beensomething um i remember when ifirst saw tracy do stand-up comedy was after hehad left snl but people in the crowd wereyelling out like you know brian fellows and everything and hemade the joke that honestly my whole life i heard which is like black peopledon't watch snl except for when eddie murphy was on there right in my wholelife people my own family a lot of said i felt weird because me and my brotherliked it but they were like ohwe don't watch that except for when Eddie Murphy was on and it was always,you saw what happened in the original cast with Garrett Morris and how,you know, he really was neglected and just kind of stereotyped and.Track 4[23:15] Made to just either wear drag or just play this token black.And I think Eddie Murphy, he talked about his struggles and he had those battlestoo, but he was such a star and the show had no stars.So he kind of really emerged and became that guy.But then you see Damon Wayans came and he had struggles and just frustrationsof being that only black voice.Track 4[23:40] And you're seeing a room filled with white people who don't understand you.Not willing to really understand you becausethey're going to go to this performer who they either knowor feel like will get their work over better they're notsitting down trying to understand your comedic sensibility understandyour background and you know you saw that from damonit went to you know chris rock had the same battles and hereally struggled there where everyone here knows chrisrock and legendary stand-up comic but if hewasn't who he became came after SNL no one reallyremembers what Chris Rock did in that time and that'sa glorious time those early 90s of SNL soreally you look at from Eddie Murphy by thetime Tracy comes on there you know Tim Meadows was onbut he you know did his roles andstuff like that but didn't really like stripe it and I feel likenow he gets a little more appreciation forhis time on SNL but I feel like he was kind of like an underrated hecould do a lot of things but minus likeyou know the oj when the oj trial happenedi feel like that kind of helped him out and then the ladies man a little bitbut never really got that shining star treatment that i think tim meadows shouldhave gotten too so i think tracy is really an interesting um i guess like amarker for blacks being on the show where.Track 4[25:05] He still battled it too, and I know we'll talk about that, but he kind of reallyset the stage to me for Kenan, for Leslie Jones, Jay Pharoah.He was that guy to kind of really set the stage for seeing SNL starting to improveon that relationship with Black cast members.Oh, that's really great perspective and well put. And even though we're allSNL fans, love the show, I wouldn't be doing an SNL podcast if I didn't love the show.But there's also in the show's 49-year history stuff that they need to reckon with.You know, this is their treatment of women, their treatment of black cast members,maybe not enough representation.Yeah. Even like as a Latino myself, I always kind of look like about Latinorepresentation as well.I mean, that's just the reality of it and something that I know.You know, SNL, about when Leslie got hired, that's something that they madea conscious effort to get a black woman onto the show.And that was almost spearheaded by Kenan, telling them, you know what,look, you need to hire a black woman.Track 4[26:16] Plenty of qualified black women to do a lot of these roles. You need to get one on the gas.No. Oh, and I think it was shown in the conversations. Like,you look at it when In Living Color came out in the early 90s and just like,okay, then what are we saying here?Like, there's this show on Fox that's reaching this other demographic.And then people are kind of, like, I think kind of trying to say,like, oh, there's not that whole excuse of, well, there's no one to bring on.And it's like, that was a lie. You saw from the Weyans to all these different people.You know, it's funny that Damon Wayans, this great comedic talent,was on Saturday Night Live and was just misused and then becomes an all-timesketch performer on In Living Color, you know, four years later.Like, what's that say to you? Exactly. He was so frustrated on SNL that he sabotaged a sketch. Yeah.The Monopoly Man sketch with John Lovitz. Like, Damon just sort of sabotaged it and he wanted out.Right. Right, and Chris Rock leaves SNL to go to In Living Color because he'slike, hey, that's where my voice will be heard.Now, he picked bad timing because it was the way in –.Track 4[27:26] They left One Living Color, so his timing was off. But the decision to me wascorrect, where it's like, yeah, who's going to get your voice heard and understood?It's like, not Saturday Night Live. And Chris Rock has said there were so manygreat comedic minds from JimDowney, Al Franken, Lorne, and great cast members, great friends of his.But still, he wasn't being represented and wasn't being heard there.Yeah, I think it's an important discussion. and that's whyI think Tracy's one of the many reasons why Tracy's such aninteresting figure to me as far as Tracy goes Jeremy likehow did you get introduced to him how are you like most familiar withTracy was it SNL you see you mentioned his stand-up yeah so he was someone Ibeing you know I know you are too big fan of stand-up comedy you I would seehim on different things and different tapes and stuff like that but honestlyit was Saturday Night Live where it It was like, I was like, oh, that dude.I saw him on like the Apollo doing stand-up and everything.Back when the, you know, Steve Harvey used to host the Apollo and it would air Saturday nights.And I remember seeing Tracy Morgan. And then when I saw him on Saturday NightLive, I was like, oh, that guy.Because like this mid-90s era is when I really started watching SNL live.Track 4[28:40] I would watch the reruns before, but like watching it live was kind of like around 93, 94.So I was really kind of getting into my SNLlike fandom you know the year before and then whenTracy arrived so it was kind of cool to see and ofcourse as a black man when you saw like that other oh they brought on a blackcast member male or female you kind of like oh okay let's see what how theydo and Tracy Tracy in his own way shined through yeah yeah that's awesome soSo we mentioned he started in 96 at SNL was on the show until 2003.What's a we'll dive into it. What's the character sketch that kind of firststicks out to you during Tracy's time?Track 4[29:25] It's one that I kind of, I'll be honest, I didn't really like at first,and a lot of people, like, disagreed with me, like friends, but Brian Fellows is funny.Like, I will give Brian Fellows, and I kind of thought it was,like, overdone and stuff like that, but as I look back on it,and I'm like, you know what, that is, it's classic Tracy.And just the way he does that and just him being this Safari,Brian Fellows, Safari planet and this animal enthusiast, but doesn't have anyidea about any of the animals and always kind of got freaked out by him.And it is really, he's playing Brian Fellows, but in all honesty,it's just different forms of Tracy in all these sketches.That's really funny to me. Our first guest is like a human cactus.Please welcome our porcupine.Track 4[30:16] Ooh, and who are you? I'm Dale Dudley from the Texas Wildlife Sanctuary in Austin. Hello, Austin.Track 4[30:26] No, I'm from the Wildlife Sanctuary in Austin. My name is Dale Dudley. I'm Brian Fellow.Hello, Brian. I want you to meet my porcupine friend. His name is Willie.That rat needs a haircut.So that one and then the classic Christmas band member. I thought, yeah, I loved that.I loved it when it happened. I remember watching it live and loving it.And I still love it to this day when they kind of all got back together likea few years ago to do it. I always loved that.And I love Tracy in it. And just his facial expression always cracked me up.Those are just a couple of the memorable sketches or in moments with Tracy thatI have. I'm glad you brought up Brian Fellow's safari plan at first,and not just because I think this was the most times that he did a character.I think he did it nine times on SNL, so I think that was his most recurring character.But it just, to me, the story behind this just totally encapsulates Tracy's time at SNL and why...Track 4[31:29] He's successful, I think, in a major way.So Norm MacDonald, again, Norm, said that this came about because he and RobertSmigel wrote the Brian Fellows sketch as kind of a rib on Tracy because of theway Tracy would pronounce his S's.Like they wanted to mess with Tracy at the table read and give him somethinghard to read because of how he pronounced stuff.And as far as iknow they did like tracy like norman smigel idon't know like as far as i know yeah yeah smigel sayinganything bad about tracy so i guess itwas all in good fun but i love this becausetracy took something that was supposed to be a jokeon him and turned it into something that was his own andsuper memorable like he's he he basically waslike yeah screw this like in his own little way likethis is supposed to be a rib on me but the joke's onyou because i'm going to make this like a really successful sketch and a characterso that's a big reason why like to me that almost encapsulates big reason whytracy's just successful just in general right he just keeps on yeah and andyou hit on a couple things here which is like,you know rip norm and you know smigel is a great great all-time writer but justlike Like, how messed up that is.Track 4[32:53] And, like, that's a small example of that cultural difference where,like, that wouldn't happen to him on In Living Color.You know what I mean? Or, like, whatever that day's Key and Peele or Chappelleshow, that wouldn't have happened to him.Right. He would have had writers in there who understood, who knew him,like, know his background.They can relate to him. They kind of, like, did it as a spoof.And to your point, Tracy took it. And I think that's what makes Tracy greatis there's just a confidence about him and a no fear kind of mentality.Like because he has that background and I think like, hey, I was out here,you know, selling different items in front of Yankee Stadium a few years ago,you know, just trying to make, you know, $30.So I'm on NBC on Saturday Night Live. What do I have to lose?So he has that kind of fear that was like, all right, you want to like mock it?Fine, let's go. Oh, and he takes it and makes it his most memorable character. Yeah, absolutely.Track 4[33:53] And the sketch itself, his delivery is so great.I think the just genius part about it is Tracy does these characters and hehas this delivery to where it seems like it's an accident.It seems like he's not putting a lot into it, but it's by design.A lot of his inflection, his timing, him being amped up Tracy Morgan,it's by design because he knows that that's going to get the laughs.He knows how to pull laughs from people. Like Brian Fellowes.Track 4[34:26] Just how he pauses or how somebody will say their name on the show and thenhow he'll pause and say, he'll say, well, I'm Brian Fellow.Track 4[34:35] Tracy knows that that pause and then his kind of shoulder shake,the delivery is going to pull the laugh.So it seems like he makes it look so easy and natural, but it's just by designbecause Tracy has that comedic mind.I always was entertained by the Brian Fellow Safari planet because of that.No, and to me, like you said, it was by design. It's just that inflection.But what he did, which I feel like Chris Rock didn't do, and I think a lot ofthe people who were stand-ups on the show before him didn't do,is when you're not an improv person who knows how to do that,like working with others and different characters and acting,a lot of times they say if you're on SNL as a stand-up, it's best to be on aweekend update or have a solo thing where you're on a show.You're looking in camera and kind of doing your own thing, almost like you'redoing standup and Chris rock didn't really figure that out. Right.But I think Tracy, when you have like, you know, he would have a guest on, but from Brian fellows,astronaut Jones, different things, he kind of found his lane and kind of pokedand reconstructed like improv and sketch by doing this, these individual charactersthat really highlighted his sensibility.Yeah. And with astronaut Jones again, like he made it look like,Oh, oh, that's just Tracy playing himself.Track 4[35:57] But he just knew his delivery. Maybe there's danger.He knew how to tap into just how to say something.That one in particular, Ashton Jones, is almost like anti-comedy in a way.There's a big old theme song.Track 4[36:38] The sketch itself is anticlimactic. Oh, yeah.But that's like a lot of anti-comedy. And then Tracy just has to do like just a few little things.I'm just, the Britney Spears astronaut Jones is the one that I always went back to.My name is Craig Ellera. I'm the queen of Orpheoleans. A proud and peace-lovingrace. My people have been awaiting your arrival for some time now.We're in desperate need of your help. The Galaxians have besieged our citiesand plundered our riches. What?Say what? Right. Dig. Uh-huh. Right.Well, why don't you drop out of that green jumpsuit and show me that fat ass?Track 4[37:25] It's like a one-joke thing, but it's like anti-comedy in a way, but that's just like,you brought up such a good point, Jeremy, me earlier abouttracy's just a different funny personhe's like that got the your friend at the lunch table yourfriend who just makes you you should read the phone book and crackyou up and things like astronaut jones arelike a perfect example to me no for sure actuallyand you you nailed it on what makes that you know that because i rememberthat britney spears and it was almost what was funnywas just a dichotomy of having britney and tracy togetherand it's like the odd couple effect waslike that cracked you up just being like britney spearsand tracy morgan like having even though like it's scripted andstuff but like having a conversation it just was odd but like itwas that alone made you laugh but i remember um i think it was season 25 andjamie fox was the host and it was a time where uh it was like you know in betweenwe're like you know jamie's walking and tracy's like oh what's up jamie what'sup man he goes i'm glad we got some some brothers on the show,and Jamie's like, oh, yeah, yeah.Because Tracy's like, yo, these writers don't understand me.They don't get me or that dude with the white hair.And Jamie's like, you mean Lorne Michaels?Track 4[38:38] He's like, I don't know, whatever. He's like, he's your boss.He's like, yeah, he's just always saying weird stuff and doing weird things.And he's like, I'm going to be on the show a lot this week with you here,and we're going to take over. Revolution will be televised.And Jamie's like, yeah, you know, he kind of looks all quiet,like he's sneaking something.He's like, you're right, man, we're going to take over. I got mad lines,man, and this week I'm blowing up the spot.That's what I'm saying. All right, come on, let's go. We're in the middle ofa show. Okay? Yeah, yeah, all right.Jamie? Give me a soda, bitch!Track 4[39:16] Okay all right but it was one ofmy favorite tracy morgan moments because he just just thatline get me a soda like he just nailedit bitch yeah yeah bitch and lauren just goes okaylike i'm like that was great that was like that dangerousaspect of tracy i always love likehe's he's like one of the only ones that could pull that offconvincingly quite honestly we're inseason 49 and i think the current cast ismissing someone like that for sure if they tryto do a backstage and like i wouldn't andrews music is myfavorite cast member currently i don't think hecould pull that off convincingly james austin johnson idon't think keenan can it's not in keenan's nature necessarilyto like pull that off convincingly they don't havesomeone currently like tracy morgan thatadds that kind of unpredictability danger thisbackstage stage stuff with lauren that he did he because he did that a fewtimes the garth brooks one was another yes funny oneto me when he was talking to garth brooks and he was like manthat chris gaines i don't know like uh you're doinga great job garth but like what's up with that chris gaines guy and whateverand then lauren comes to talks to tracy and and he's like hey tracy you knowand then tracy's like no i know i know i know garth is chris gaines i know thatso it's almost like yeah yeah like a turnabout like he's just telling laurenlike i know that you like you got to give Give me some credit.Track 4[40:37] And then I don't know if it was this one or another one where all he has todo is look at Lauren and Lauren goes, orange soda, right? Yeah.Track 4[40:47] So credit to Lauren for playing along. But Tracy's the only one or one of thefew, I think, over the last 25 years or so that could pull something off likethat convincingly. And I think you're right.And it's not a knock on cast members past or present. you said Kenan's greatthat's just not who he is and the people who were on with Tracy that's not who they were like.Track 4[41:13] You can't find like you can't teach that what tracyhad like just like it just comes fromit's part natural part upbringing inyour experiences but like i i alwaysthink about something um jim brewertold a story uh i forget what radioshow he was on but he talks about you knowhim and tracy kind of were high around the same time and itwas the week that you know tragically like when farley cameand hosted and how he was just not in not ingood good shape and uh marcyhe said marcy went to because he was not doingwell during the week and not showing up and was not all thereso he was trying to hang out withlike different people in the cast and jim brewer's like me andtracy weren't doing that but then like marcy andpeople were looking at those to and kind of putit on them like oh you two must be getting chris into troubleand so they said marcy went intolike the office talked to jim and tracy and waslike you two need to stay away from chris so doall these things and like leave him alone and jim brewerwas like you know i'm new so i got nervous and scared andhe said credit to tracy he said tracy stood upand said i'm a grown man with children's you can't talk tome that way i got children's you ain't gonna talk tome like that and he was like but credit to him he's likehe's i didn't do nothing i'm a grown man with children's andi'm like yeah and jim brewer said andi'm like right like he was like no new or not you're not going to come in and.Track 4[42:43] Accuse me something i didn't do and disrespect me i'm gonna stick up for myself.Track 4[42:46] And jim brewer's like he got courage from seeing tracy to be like yeah we didn'tdo anything we didn't take chris out we're not the bad influences here don'tyell at us but that But Tracy was new,and him doing that to Marcy, who's a high-up person,that shows the kind of courage he came in with.Well, yeah, that's that thing where you were right.You alluded to, I mean, he was selling things outside of Yankee Stadium justa few years back, and now he's on SNL. He made it.Track 4[43:18] He's making that salary. That's why he said during a...When he was going to his audition, he was confident because he was like,I shouldn't even be here.The fact that I'm in this last audition, I got nothing to lose.I'm going to go in here and just show my stuff and just be confident.That's just how he carried himself. He's almost like, I shouldn't be here.I already won. The fact that I'm in this room, I already won,so I'm not going to compromise myself and stand down to Marcy Klein or something like when she comes in.Track 4[43:52] And tries to yell at us for something that we didn't do, especially.That just speaks a lot to how Tracy even got to the show. Right.No, for sure. For sure. It just kind of shows, especially by the time you getto the 90s and on, even before then, but that is the goal of so many improv actors.Whether you're at Second City or the Groundlings or whatever,is to make it to Saturday Night Live.That's the goal. So then, of course, no matter how talented you are,if you're on that level and trying to get to SNL, if you get there,you're going to be, especially early on, nervous.And I'm not knocking anyone, but scared because this was your dream.This is the big time SNL. I can make it here.I can maybe be a movie star or a TV star from here.So then you're trying to kiss up to the writers and the big time producers.Juicers i think it was an advantage for a guy like tracymorgan you know same like it was for eddie back in theearly 80s that wasn't his they were stand up likethat wasn't their goal and it was just like all right like we know what it'slike to be in front of this crowd on our own and having to make someone laughand when i come here like i'm not intimidated by this stage i made it the factthat i'm already here i made it here let's go what's the worst that could happen to me Yeah,that speaks to why we're even talking about him right now and why he...Track 4[45:18] Resonates as such a fan favorite because it'shis personality it's kind of the vibe that thatTracy gives off that that compel peopleto watch that draw people to him and it comes through in the sketches and hisand his work on SNL for sure like I have a bunch of example I don't know ifyou remember this one it's toward the end if it's like his second to last seasonand he and Rachel Dratch had a it was a one-off thing it was a talking to thestars with Rachel and Tracy and they were talking to Jon Stewart.All right, well, hosting an awards show of that caliber must be quite stressful.Y'all like to get high, right?Track 4[45:59] Uh, no, no, I don't. What? Get real, Dratch.I've been backstage at those awards shows, man. The Source Awards was like Weed City, bruh.Come on, tell me. Y'all like to get lifted, right? Uh, lifted.Lifted um i find if tracy says aword that i don't know it usually means hi oh okay andthis showed like that loose loose canon element oftracy and just like how tracy mightbe if you're just hanging out with him and the bit was like thatrachel dratch is taking the interview with john store.Track 4[46:32] Very seriously she has her cards and she'sasking him questions and tracy's just being tracy he'sjust goofing around he's ribbing dratch he's asking johnstore inappropriate questions ends and that's justlike the vibe like that that one uh thatsketch with with rachel dratch like that perfectly encapsulatesjust that whole vibe to me darren likelike there's a reason like i heard you kind of breakinto a tracy morgan voice like there's areason why people want to like imitate tracy soi'm gonna take you outside and get you pregnant like peoplejust want to get you you pregnant doodoo pampasyeah jay moore does a great there's a great oh yeahbut uh there's a reason why peoplejust want to imitate him and love him and want toimitate his mannerisms and the way he you know because hejust gives off that like vibe yeah there'ssomething that he has that is rare thatsometimes it's more valuable than if you're the most polished orthe best the best writer or the best you know setupguy and you you can see it with certain peopleand you know pop culture even like in politics there'scertain people who have they just have a likability that comes through the screenand people just you like no matter what they might even portray the worst charactersthat are you know they're delivering bad news but you know what people justreally like this person and i think tracy even in that sketch with rachel dratch.Track 4[48:00] You just like Tracy Morgan. I think a lot of us fans just always liked him andgravitated toward him, which is why then and now, for those years,for that era, you hear Will Ferrell, Sherry O'Terry,Molly Shannon, but you're going to hear Tracy Morgan being mentioned too.To me, not just because of what he's done post-SNL, just talking about thatera SNL, for as he wasn't someone who was always used, I think it's incrediblethat we still talk about that era in the show's history,and one of the first names we're going to talk about is Tracy Morgan.Track 4[48:35] Yeah, yeah, right. That's why this is probably a different feeling episode,even for the SNL Hall of Fame, which is fitting to me with Tracy Morgan.He was just a different feeling kind of cast member, just a different dude that we all love.You had mentioned his stand-up, and I've seen a little bit of it.How would you describe his stand-up comedy? buthe raw and all over the place i'veseen him twice and i'll be honest the first time wasat i was at temple university um andhe was about an hour and a half late and hecame out and he seemed unprepared hehad some funny lines just because tracy's funnybut he seemed unprepared and it was kind of like underwhelmingi'll be honest okay i went a couple years later andsaw him new york in New York at a comedy club and heseemed much he was still that like we talked aboutthat raw like danger feel but likehe was more prepared he was on time and he was a lot better as a stand-up comedyso he it's almost in a way what he brings to SNL he still brings to stand-upwhich is I would never say Tracy's like number one stand-up of all time butI would tell anyone like would Would you like,should I buy a ticket to see Tracy Morgan do state? I would say,yeah, because you're going to laugh.Track 4[49:56] You're going to have a good time because of all the things we're talking about.He's just charisma, that sense of danger. You don't know what he's going to say.He doesn't care. He's not afraid of being canceled or not afraid of like someonefrom the crowd may shout something.Track 4[50:10] He's not like worried about that. He's going to fire right back or go along with it.You're going to be entertained and you're going to end up liking him.If you don't know him or you're not sure, you're going to like Tracy.So it's that same kind of vibe.Same vibe. So there's a sense of danger when he does stand-up.But maybe it's a little more chaotic because he doesn't have Lauren or SteveHiggins or Marcy Klein or the censors on him.But similar vibes. Yeah, that's how I felt with some of the stand-up that I'veseen just on YouTube or going back and watching some of bits and pieces of hisspecials or whatever. Yeah.Uh just some quick hitters too from SNL like probably some stuff that a lotof people would remember Dominican Lou.I love to watch the movies the Sling Blade, the Eddie Maguire and the English Pages.It's a good movie a lot of people they enjoy this movie they love to see itthey love to see the Tom Cruise it's very good for them they like it.Track 4[51:18] What was your favorite part of the movie i don't knowi didn't see it i have notime i'm working all the time you know but ihear it's a good movie it's a good movie people in the building they're talkingabout it a lot they love the movie they like to see the movie all the time they'retalking about it oh hell yeah he did three times i love dominican lou becauseit was like Like, Dominican Lou was this, it was a perfect,like, it's a very specific archetype of a person.It's the person who wants to be part of the conversation, but they haven't really,like, lived it themselves.So, Dominican Lou's always like, yeah, like, this thing was good.I hear everybody talking about it. So, he's not really giving his opinion.He's saying that, like, I heard people in the building talk about it.So, it's like this person who really wants to be part of the conversation.They want to be clued in. but they don't have like the firsthand experiencethemselves so they only have a certain amount of,like i said firsthand experience to go off of so he's always like living vicariouslythrough others yeah and he's fine with it yeah you know what you just said somethingthat and maybe i don't know how people will react to this but.Track 4[52:31] When it comes to, like, you look at, like, the legacy of a Dan Aykroyd,one of the things people talk about is the everyday, everyman characters thathe brought to, you know, sketch comedy and Saturday Night Live.That, like, blue-collar guy that everyone knows, but you didn't really see on,you know, sketch and on TV yet, like, being portrayed that way.And I'm wondering, I feel like Tracy Morgan, even though he has some outrageouscharacters, some of his characters kind of—he kind of brought that, too, where—.Track 4[53:01] But not like his main one, not like Brian Fellows or anything,but like Dominican Lou and some other ones like that, where it's like, you know that guy.Yeah. You know that guy, and it was the kind of representation you weren't reallyseeing on Saturday Night Live before.I think you're absolutely right. I see a little bit of that,too, in his Woodrow character.Yes. Obviously, it's like a heightened kind of thing, but I mean,you've come across someone like that.Mm-hmm. And I can see that. And the commonality, too, is like there's some heartunderneath there, too, because somebody like Woodrow, even Brian Fellows,like I root for him. Yeah. He's likable.And we had brought up Britney Spears with the Astronaut Jones,but it was like Britney Spears and Woodrow had had she did a Woodrow sketchwith him and they went they were hanging out in the sewer and having a little conversation.And there's something about how tracy portrayed woodrowwho's this uh he's a homeless gentleman yeahan eccentric homeless gentleman who told britney spears that uh that he hasthe the post office box down there because the because that's where they werehaving keeping secrets on him so he stole it and put it down in the sewer sohe says kind of goofy stuff like that but But there's a lot of human quality.There's a lot of humanity in a character like that. I think it's easy for Tracyto bring that humanity, I think, too.Track 4[54:31] And I kind of wonder, because you mentioned... I know that episode,and I remember all the sketches.Those were two different episodes, by the way. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah,okay, they're two different ones. I'm wondering, do you think...Track 4[54:45] Britney Spears kind of requested to be with Tracy in some sketches, you think?Or something because it's like, Britney Spears, I mean, people still,I think, know how big she is.But at that point, she's like, you can make a case like the hottest star outthere is Britney Spears.It's not Will Ferrell in these weird ones. It's Tracy Morgan doing these things.So I'm just like, I wonder if Britney was a fan or it could have been the writersjust thinking that's an odd couple pairing.But it's interesting. now that's a good thought so she did thewoodrow one with him in season 25 at the end of season 25and she came back in season 27 that's where they did the astronaut jones andif you watch re-watch the astronaut jones sketch at the end when he says hislike famous when he says his famous line as astronaut jones oh why don't youdrop out of that green jumpsuit and show me that fat ass.Track 4[55:38] When he says that you could see britney laughand i don't know or she's like smiled and i don't know ifthat was supposed to happen like the character because ifshe was supposed to be this robotic alien but when tracysays that you see britney crack a smile at the end and then they go to the themeto the ending credits for the sketch i kind of do think that britney likes tracyand enjoyed and enjoyed working working with him that's like that's a good thoughtman that's It's something that's a good thing to pick up.Yeah, I was just like, because it's just not, for all the people who were onSNL at the time, it's like you could have put a lot of people with Britney Spears,but it's very memorable. So, yeah, I was just wondering, yeah.Yeah, no, I love that. One of my other favorite ones, one of my last favoriteones is Uncle Jemima's Pure Mash Liquor. Yes, yes.Classic. I love the concept of Aunt Jemima's husband having his own product.And he even says in the commercial, like, they asked me, like,why mash liquor? And he's like, well, sell what you know.And I know, like, so Tracy's whole delivery of this sketch was just so greatto hear me. Oh, it was classic.Track 4[56:46] Now she says that selling booze is degrading to our people.I always say that black folk ain't exactly swelling up with pride on accountof you flipping Framjack.Ain't I right, Sammy? Listen, don't get me in this mess. Then she say,but why booze? I said, sell what you know.And I know about booze.Uncle Jemima's Pure Man Snicker has a 95% alcohol content, and that's per volume.Track 4[57:15] What the hell does that mean? That means you get up for less money.And that might be my low-key favorite one.Track 4[57:26] Great like you said like just who wouldhave thought about that like to like you know everyone and jemimaand how controversial and jemima can be looked on and for him to kind of goin there and do like her husband and kind of doing that like you know i getno respect and i gotta sell something to here and don't forget about me feelit was just classic tracy morgan i'm like that's it's a genius character honestlyyeah it's great they only did it one time i would have led to see Uncle Jemima pop up,even more and he has those cartoon birds around him andhe's swatting at them and then at the end Tim Meadows calls itout he's like what are you swatting at he asked him that's hilarious I forgotyep that's so good yeah that's so good that's from season 25 Uncle Jemima'sPure Mash Liquor yeah that was awesome is there anything else like well I thinkthis was after his tenure but,you know everyone I know is excited for the,the big SNL 50th celebration and, you know, how epic the S the 40th was,but Tracy had had that accident that, you know, his friend tragically passed away.And a lot of people thought Tracy, you know, weren't sure if he was going to survive that accident.And Tracy was absent from SNL 40.And I know Alec Baldwin and Tina Fey gave, he had a special little segment wherethey gave shout out to him. And I thought how even in the moment then and even more like now I.Track 4[58:53] How big that was that a lot of times, you know, it's sad, but that those kindof things go to like the cast members or people who have passed away.And Tracy wasn't hadn't passed. He was, you know, just injured.Track 4[59:04] But like he had that kind of lore and Alec Baldwin, you know,did a great impression of him, too.And that part, you know, was dead on. Actually, I was really good by Alec Baldwin.But in that moment, it kind of hit me like, yeah, that was somebody who wasso missing from that celebration.Inspiration and I'm like yeah I wish Tracy Tracy wouldhave been so good in that sketch or in that thinglike oh but awesome but just also like theimpact that Tracy made that for at that 

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"I became a Christian because of the evidence” - cold case homocide detective @jwarnerwallaceBoy oh BOY are we in for a treat this Sunday, Made to Shine FAM!as seen on NBC's dateline, FOX, Court TV….- cold case homicide detective- former atheist turned Christian apologetic- adjunct professor of Christian apologetics- Cold Case Christianity podcast hostThis man had an extreme impact on my faith before I ever met him. His book Cold Case Christianity takes us through the detective journey he went on, using his cold case homocide detective work skills, to figure out if we can *logically* put our faith in Christ. In the episode you will learn- how he tested the Gospels- how you can know something is true without having all your questions answered- why it takes more faith to believe in an impersonal force that created the world- the biggest objections he's seeing to belief in Jesus today, and whyI pray this blesses you friend! I seriously recommend you getting his book- Cold Case Christianity. Xoxo

What and how did the India-Israel relationship develop over the years? India used to be pro-Palestine and anti-Israel.... now its both pro-Israel & pro-Palestine .... but leaning to the Israeli side ---- WHY?WHYI try and answer in about 17mins.#India#Israel#PalestineCheers for listening. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's time for a money reset.I've been really deeply thinking about this and wanted to share my collective thoughts, do a mindset reset around money and get REAL with you about what I have seen to be true in the online business world.After being self-employed for 8 years, having 2 online businesses and going from STRUGGLING for the first 3 years of my first business to being able to grow and scale with WAY more EASE than I thought possible, I'm sharing the differences between those two situations AND what I know to be true about the latter because it really freaking needs to be shared.Tune in for:** The HOW I've been holding back on you + the TRUTH behind what I know is required to hit your money goals** A money reset-convo that the coaching, creatives and service industry DEEPLY needs right now** My honest opinion on WTF has happened in the industry as of late and how I got caught up in this too** A powerful money mindset reset exercise you can steal (this TRULY the 'secret' as to HOW I've created unheard of growth in record breaking time in this business)This is a little loving smack in the face (consider yourself warned) but I KNOW that if you're ready to hear it this is going to serve you so well in building your mindset around money to grow your ability to feel safe around being able to RECEIVE and HOLD More money. (Because those are TWO significantly different things).Tune in to this episode of The Things We Didn't Do now to hear what I KNOW is required to hit big money goals and the mindset reset exercise that I use to create record breaking business growth.And don't forget to DM me on IG to let me know your biggest takeaway from this episode! I'd LOVE + APPRECIATE your help my love!!If you are:** A purpose DRIVEN human that is READY to make bold moves, choose your desires over comfort and start hitting your vision board goals** An established online business owner who has signed at least 3 clients/made at least 3 sales** Deeply Desire to Grow to 6 Figures and beyondAND/OR** Have scaled to 6 Figures but are feeling capped AF and you don't know WHYI would LOVE to talk to you and ask you some questions about your biz and your BIG bold beautiful desires.I have some BIG ideas brewing but as always I want to make sure I'm creating something that is going to serve YOU in the best way to help you create more aligned success.As a MASSIVE THANK YOU, in exchange for our super quick 15 min market research call, I'll happily gift you a ‘Your Next 100k Strategic Scaling 1:1 Session'.In this session I'll support you to create a plan so that you know EXACTLY what you can do in Q4 to set yourself up for your BIGGEST quarter yet.Please don't book in if you're not prepared to share honestly with me and show up FULLY for the session as I'd hate to waste your time or steal this opportunity away from someone who could wildly benefit from this level of support as my coaching spots are highly sought after and strictly limited.That's it!I'm looking to speak with 5 woman over the next two weeks and as my Free 1:1 Strategy Calls go fast, please make sure you head below now to book in so you don't miss out!https://elisedanielle.satoriapp.com/offers/275525-market-research-callLINKS: Website: https://www.elisedanielle.com/DM me on Instagram: @elise_danielle_Facebook Group:

#120 As I was cleaning up a bit, I came across my little notebook from when I trained to be a Surgical Technologist. So, I decided to share my notes on one of the procedures-a laproscopic cholecystectomy. If you'd like to hear a little bit about the surgical procedure and some of the instruments, then you definitely want to tune in. Especially if you want to find out whyI compare it to marbles!!Support the show

1 Corinthians 4:14-21 (ESV) 14I do not write these thingsto make you ashamed, but to admonish youas my beloved children.15Forthough you have countless[b]guides in Christ, you do not have many fathers. ForI became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel.16I urge you, then,be imitators of me.17That is whyI sent[c]you Timothy,my beloved and faithful child in the Lord, to remind you of my ways in Christ,[d]as I teach them everywhere in every church.18Some arearrogant,as though I were not coming to you.19ButI will come to you soon, if the Lord wills, and I will find out not the talk of these arrogant people but their power.20Forthe kingdom of God does not consist in talk but in power.21What do you wish?Shall I come to you with a rod, or with love in a spirit of gentleness?

By Kurt BeyersFor her debut as a recording artist, the album ready to liv, livinthemomnt sings, in 10 alt poptracks, the story of a young woman on the cusp of a new life.The story is rendered in a voice that, in its lowest register, like on the track “atonement,”plunges down into the listener's bones and makes them tingle. In the first half of the very nextsong, “so long,” her high register soars into the upper atmosphere.Liv says she is still exploring how high she can go.“I've learned a lot about my own voice and vocal range through creating this album,” she said,adding, “but this album actually doesn't even portray my highest range.”Still, her voice covers a remarkably wide range in singing the stories in individual tracks. Theyinclude three short, fun and funny vignettes that punctuate the overall narrative frame.“The album is about a young woman who is in a relationship and dealing with those ups anddowns while also coexisting with the struggles of going to work at a job that she doesn'tnecessarily enjoy,” said Liv.“And,” she concludes, “wanting more, she makes the decision to go and pursue her dreams.”The musical conclusion comes in the last track, the title song, “ready to liv”:I'm ready to live with all this shit that I didI won't let nothing stop me from where I'm goingI'm never going back this time.The album is based on her life but, naturally, she takes some artistic license.“There are some exaggerations. I didn't kill anyone in a wreck or anything, like in ‘so long.' Youcan take the meaning of the songs any way you want when you're listening, you know? Somepeople relate differently to them. But overall, it is based on me and my life.”Olivia Toliver, artist name livinthemomnt, is a singer/songwriter from North Carolina. She hasbeen involved in music since childhood, performing in school talent shows and at local venues.As a teenager, she was also in America's Got Talent and Miss America Teen pageants.After performing with the Salisbury Symphony in North Carolina, Liv was given an openinvitation to return but decided to launch her own career instead. She worked through the fallon ready to liv and released the project this spring.The personal part of ready to liv, the part of the story in which the protagonist decides to takethe road named “Hopes and Dreams,” is not an exaggeration. That's what she did.“It's something I've always wanted to do, and I've always known that I wanted to do this. Thetime is now. It just felt right.”She grew up listening to blues and soul from artists like Etta James, Nina Simone, Sam Cooke,but she loves a wide variety of music.“I've never wanted to be boxed into just one genre, because there's just so many genres that Ilove, and I enjoy singing. I want to be able to put aspects of all genres into my music. That's whyI went with alternative, but I ultimately consider my music as alternative soul.”“The sound that I have created, I feel like, is a unique sound.”How she feels about her music and career is how she wants her audience and her fans to feel.“When they hear the album, I want people to feel empowered, and I want them to be able torelate to it and to know that no matter where you're at in life, it's okay to start over, live withyour mistakes and pursue whatever you want.”Right now, her focus is ready to liv.“I want it to reach its full potential. I want it to be successful. This is my first love right here, so Iwant to cherish this moment and get it to where it should be.” She is working on visuals for thealbum.At the same time, she and her producer are working on the next project, which will be what she calls act two of a three-act sequence.“This,” she said, meaning ready to liv, “is just the first part, and we're working on the secondone. We hope to have that released by the end of this year. This is just the start.”Rise with her and her music by staying connected to livinthemomnt on all platforms for newmusic, videos, and social posts.Linktree: https://linktr.ee/livinthemomntnstagram: https://www.instagram.com/livinthemomntsTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livinthemomnt

Are you ready to transform your health and well-being? Then you don't want to miss this amazing episode, featuring our fabulous client Darrell Johnson! Darrell shared with us his journey of doing The 30 Day Detox Jumpstart, and boy did he get some results! As the creator of the 30 Day Detox Challenge, I care deeply about my clients' wellness, and that's whyI've created the challenge. This challenge is all about transforming your health and well-being. It's not just a diet; it's a lifestyle change! This plan will help you renew your mind, identify triggers, jumpstart your weight loss journey, break plateaus, and create a firm foundation for better health Now, let's talk about Darrell's journey. He lost an amazing 30 lbs in just 30 days! That's right! Transformative, right? In this episode, he shared with us how he incorporated the Detox Jumpstart program into his lifestyle, and the challenges he faced. Darrell is living proof that this program works! So, join us on the journey of discovering the benefits of the Detox Jumpstart program. This episode is full of tips, tricks, and encouragement to help you along the way. And as always, we promise plenty of laughs and lighthearted moments. Get your notebook, a refreshing drink, and join us as we explore the power of transformation and Detox Jumpstart with Darrel Johnson. Get ready to take that first step to better health! #30DayDetoxChallenge #LifestyleChange #BetterHealth #Transformation #HealthyLiving #SuccessStory Learn more about the 30-Day Detox Challenge below: http://www.bodybytosha.com/services/ Watch the video version of the episode here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrHwV6rg1Zw&t=2393s Connect with me on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter! https://www.instagram.com/the_execution_strategist/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057545705139 https://twitter.com/DatoshaMayo

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A guy calls Neil about the Uncle Bonsai concert Saturday at the Colony Theater. He brings Neil 10 tickets to give away. Glen gets a letter addressed to "the laughing jackass. A caller asks Neil if he knows about Jaco Pastorius' condition (he died that night), but Neil has not heard of him, or Weather Report. People take shots at Joey, and Stan, NFL strike, and Sonny Fox of WHYI calls in. If Brian is not at Emac's and Bolios tonight, Neil says they will never mention the ice cream shop again. Stan drops in and he is in a surly mood.

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You might have been wondering why I would not be proud of you, right? First of all…..   When we use the word WHY - it is here to create a meaning and our mind creates around 500 meanings for one thing, one thought, so it is up to us to start making conscious choices on what meaning we will give to things.    Secondly…   When you look online for a map of consciousness developed by David R. Hawkins you can look at the energetic frequencies of different levels. The map starts on frequency 20 which is the lowest and that is Shame and then it is rising to guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger and here next is our PRIDE.    When we say to someone: I am proud of you, we are at a frequency of only 175. Of course, better than shame and guilt, yet when I am celebrating someone, especially my loved ones and my clients my intention is to energetically raise their frequency.    For that reason, I started to use the words like: LOVE and JOY that are higher on the energetic frequency scale on numbers 500 and 540.    I don't say anymore I am proud of you, I say: I love… I love what you have created, I love how you are shifting… Or    I am so inspired by you.     We keep growing daily…moment to moment my love, so this is my invitation for you to start using your words and energy even more consciously.    What are you going to be using instead of I am proud of you now?

Guess what we're talking about today, marketing and marketing and marketing. But we're gonna be talking about a specific kind of marketing and why you need to be creating it. Everything you do today is content. The posts you make when you're taking up the ugly carpeting in the basement is content. The picture of you and your clients at the closing is content, that big ass kitchen with beautiful views, that is content, anything you publish is content, and you have to be creating it going forward. There is no other way, lead generation is dead and you're gonna burn out door knocking and cold calling. To further engrave this into your minds, we're bringing on Gary Pickren as our guest today. Gary has deep ties to the local real estate community. Since 1995 Gary has performed real estate closings, taught real estate agents, and advocated for all South Carolinians in changing South Carolina real estate law. Toward that end, Gary started a weekly video blog that has over 4,000 subscribers. He even started a real estate podcast in 2020 to better educate the real estate agents on issues in the real estate closing process.Three Things You'll Learn in This EpisodeThe importance of being visual with your communication and why it is so effectiveHow to sound more authentic and why that matters Why podcasting is a great form of contentResourcesLearn More about Gary PickrenListen to Gary's PodcastReal Estate Marketing DudeThe Listing Advocate (Earn more listings!)REMD on YouTubeREMD on InstagramTranscript:So how do you attract new business? You constantly don't have to chase it. Hi, I'm Mike Cuevas to real estate marketing. And this podcast is all about building a strong personal brand people have come to know, like trust and most importantly, refer. But remember, it is not their job to remember what you do for a living. It's your job to remind them. Let's get started What's up ladies and gentlemen, welcome another episode of the real estate marketing dude, podcast. Guess what we're talking about today, marketing and marketing and marketing. But we're gonna be talking about a specific kind of marketing call it media, and why you need to be creating it. So probably about a week or two ago, I was on somebody's podcast, and now he's on ours. And this guy's an attorney. He's a he's a he's an a boring attorney. Okay, talking about the most stuffy profession in the damn world. Like anyone in the attorney space. It's like you get attorneys, you get to doctors, but anyone that wears a suit pretty much all the time, or you would think wears a suit all the time. That's a very stuffy, stuffy business. Well, Mr. Gary here has taken the concept of creating media around his brand. He's a real estate attorney in one specific state, but he understands marketing, he understands content creation, he understands communication, and staying in front of people remaining on top of mine, the only way you remain on top of mind is if you create content, otherwise, how the hell do you do it? Everything you do today, guys is content. The posts you make when you're taking up the ugly carpeting in the fucking basement is content. The picture of you and your clients at the closing is content, that big ass kitchen with big ass views, that is content, anything you publish is content, and you have to be creating it going forward. There is no other way lead generation is fucking dead and you're gonna burn out door knocking dead cold calling dead. I'm telling you guys, it's common. We've been talking about this attraction thing, but I wanted to bring on the most stuffy business and show you how it even works in his damn business. And he's either due to a video he's doing in the form of a podcast, this podcast you're listening to is a form of media. I publish it every Saturday. And as a result, some of you guys, are you gonna call me next week and schedule a demo and spy my shit. And it's because I'm constantly adding value and want you're gonna convert sooner or later. I don't give a fuck what do you think but I'm gonna convert you. Anyhow, let's introduce our guest, Gary picker the show Gary wants to come in and tell everyone a little bit hello to you. Oh,what's up, man? First of all, I don't like attorney so I try to do everything I can to not be like an attorney. And that's whyI like you. I don't like attorneys either. I hate attorneys.To help wrong with it. You marry an attorney. You made a bad decision already. But yeah, I try not to be anything like an attorney. But Mike, man, I really love being on your show. You are the real estate marketing. Dude, you're a guru in this. And it is an incredible honor to be with you. And have you on my podcast. Really appreciate it.Yeah, he has a podcast going what tell everyone what that is because theyare podcast called dition dirt. And it started really in South Carolina just kind of a podcast talking about things that real estate agents need to know in terms of agency appraisal gaps, multiple offers, a lot of it applied to real estate agents all around the country. But recently, in particular, in the last five or six months, I've been very fortunate to meet people like yourself and some other great coaches and other agents that have said, hey, I want to come on your show and talk about some of the crap we do. And it's kind of taken two sides. Now we do a little bit of the legal stuff and things that agents deal with. But we also hit a lot of the marketing things, how to stay top of mind how to get a referral based business, how to do you know servant leadership, things like that. So we've had a really good run over here and it's, it's kind of taken off. It's been really surprising.So let's back into how you started this thing. Okay, so we're gonna start the beginning with this, you guys. Gary's a real estate attorney. He makes money off of real estate closings, but Gary's license in South Carolina. Right. Right. So you only closed properties in South Carolina. Is that cool?Pretty much. So yeah, we have we used to have an attorney in North Carolina. We got one in Florida that mainly it's just South Carolina.So how long ago until you realize you're like, I got to start creating content. And Gary today has a podcast and his main form of content Correct? Correct me if I'm wrong, but your main form of content is creating a podcast consistently every week. And all it does it has people like myself on it and other people and you interview and you give a marketing advice, right?Yeah, we have a podcast and also have something called legal tips, which is a video blog that we did that we send out through Bom Bom and I've created about a 4500 person subscriber list. And with that subscriber list, they're all pretty much real estate agents and the vast majority are in my market. We have offices in Greenville, South Carolina, Columbia, South Carolina, Lexington, South Carolina. So the vast majority of that comes from my market. And I've been able to hit that group in less than two years with 1 million opens of those videos. So the videos are usually a short topic one to three minutes. And then my podcast usually runs 30 minutes. But the podcast kind of came out of the idea from the videos, because in a video format, when you're sending emails out, whether it is somebody who has signed up for your blog, or somebody, you're just trying to attract through social media, most people give you a minute, two, maybe three, if you're lucky, but anything goes about two or three minutes, they're not going to listen to it. So when you start trying to talk about appraisal gaps, and how not to have your clients stolen from you, and things of that nature, you can't hit that crap in two minutes. I mean, just no way. So I decided, hey, why not try a podcast, it was going to be a one one a month. That's all I was gonna do. And that first one went really well for us. And the next thing I know, I'm doing one a week, and it's developed into having people like you and Krista and Jan and Jan and some other people on the show that has just really helped push it forward for us. And our people listen all over the country, which is really cool.And when did you realize like, how did you and most of your business comes from real estate agent referrals? Is that correct? That's right. So most of his business comes to real estate agent referrals, he realized that he had to do something to attract more and more referrals. And when did the light switch go out? Like you're like, you're like, I'm an attorney, I started podcasting new video series. How did you know that? That was a direction to take it?That's a really good question. So I've been doing this for 26 years, I started 1995, before internet was a thing, right? And I was the attorney in 1995, or 96, who told the guys in our office, let's don't get internet, because a staff will do nothing but play on it. It's no good for, for searching for porn, right? People basically use it for back in the 90s. And so, you know, I was kind of always anti social media. And then I've just over the last maybe seven or eight years when when our firm a bunch of lawyers and another from broke off and started this farm. And I said, you know, we have to be different than everybody else. Everybody's doing the same crap over and over doesn't matter if you're a lender, you're an agent, or you're an attorney, we all do the same crap over and over. And when you say, Well, what differentiates you from everybody go, I give great service. Nobody gives a crap. Everybody gives great service. It's kind of the expected, so you better come up with something that's different than everybody else is doing. So at that point, I was doing a representative of a real estate agency called Russell Jeff coat. And I was sending them out. They were a big independent that's been consumed by big major. But we were sending out basically a legal tip to the people that we worked with, we just type up a little email going, Hey, guys, don't do this, as we're seeing this being a problem. And from that, I decided, hey, this could go farther, because I was getting so many positive remarks about it going hey, I love your tip you did on this. I love your tip on home warranties. So we made it into a WordPress and so we started putting on our website as a WordPress. Well that sucked because, you know, I'm from the south and we type that type all this stuff up and we're different we, you know, I come up with my own version of English sometimes and the words aren't really really that correct. But you know, I was having to type this up, give it to an associate to proofread it, send it back to me, make sure everything's legally the way it supposed to be. And so you're doing a little two paragraph post is taking you hours. And I'm like there's got to be a better way of this crap. This should this doesn't work. And so I went to rehumanize at Bom Bom and ran into Alicia there. And I started thinking how could I take what I was already doing, which was being successful, and make it different than everybody else? And I was like, video, nobody's doing this crap in South Carolina. Why don't I do video. So I started doing the video is legal tips. And I started finding out instead of spending 30 minutes or an hour, typing it up making sure the grammar is correct. And I'm not using the wrong words that I could crank out content in three to five minutes because you know, they wanted to be authentic. They don't want to sound rehearsed. And once I cranked out that content, it exploded. I mean, it literally exploded all over the place. And what's that exploded, I started noticing every time I literally can be sitting at home on a Sunday watching a football game. And notice the number of opens and then hit Refresh an hour later. And it goes up two or 3000 on a Sunday afternoon in the middle of December. It's just amazing how I'm able to stay consistently in front of my client base, even when I'm not working. And so at that point, I said, Alright, I'm on to something here. This is working. Let's now look at where we can take it to the next level. And so we started the podcast but but ultimately Mike what really pushed me to do this and to keep really going farther and farther and farther. And this is everything we've ever done in this farm has been copied by every one of our competitors. Yeah, so eithera badge of honor. Right? It's a bunch of the Guru's are copying my shit.There's no doubt about it. I copy your shit, you know? Be honest with you. I actually posted a podcast I did a legal tip today and a business coach email me goes hell I love this. I'm gonna use this I will record it myself. But she's like, I'm just kidding. I wouldn't do that to him like I don't care still isthe best form of flattery, dude, the wheel you don't need to reinvent the wheel folks. You need to make it yours.Exactly. So at that point, I'm like, you know everybody's Feeling everything we're doing. So we've got to keep recreating, uh, coming up with new stuff, better stuff, more interesting stuff. And that's just kind of what we've done over the last six, seven years or eight years, really.So I like it. I like it all. Let's want to relate it back to Paco, we have their real estate agent. So a lot of people get stuck when they're like, Okay, what kind of content am I going to create? Now? Can I do it long term, you can never create content with first identifying who your audience is. Okay. And this is true for any business. Gary's business is real estate agents, his audience, my business is real estate agents, lenders, investors, we do videos for them. But a realtors business is 95 99% of time is their Facebook friend list the relationships that they have in life. So you have to look at those relationships and be like, Okay, how do I nurture these relationships? That's really we're talking about how I farm these relationships. And you have two ways to do it. One, you can just start talking about real estate all the time. And I'm gonna tell you first why that's probably not going to work as well as the latter. One is that if you are always if Gary, Gary, you're married, right? Yep. Okay, if you when you get off of work, do you? What's your wife's name? Emily, Emily. So when you get off of work, do you tell Emily and just come home and just keep talking about work? That you don't wanna hear? But yeah, what would Emily do if every time you communicated it was just about work?It was just not look at me. She she'd eventually belike, This guy's boring as shit. I'm going to divorce him and go find a 25 year old. But no, seriously, so but and but I can talk about work with my content, because people subscribe for marketing stuff, right? Gary can talk about work with his real estate agent list, because they're subscribing to get value from Gary. But people don't subscribe to the real estate agents that constantly hear about real estate. So that means you it's hard to always talk about work with your friends, family. It's also hard to talk about work with your audience. Let's just first identify it. Because real estate, such a relationship type business, I just think you need to remind you I don't think I know. You just need to remind people that you're in real estate and create content consistently. That's more entertaining. Doesn't have to always be educational, you guys.And we do a lot of content here too. Like during COVID. Every single thing you heard on the news was doom and gloom terrible numbers, everything was going to shut down the economy was going to crash were real estate was going to be the worst it's ever been in the history of the world. What's quite the opposite real estate actually wanted to be in the greatest city had ever been in much years. And so I started a legal tip called Gary's good news only. And every Friday, I would send out a two or three minute video on good economic stuff, good real estate stuff and good COVID news. So like if we saw COVID numbers going down, we saw real estate and I was just getting this stuff from Inman News or Fox News or CBS or NBC I just go on their websites and there was always a piece of good news somewhere that somebody wanted to hear about and I was getting emails from people when I stopped doing it and please start doing it again. I send this to my parents and did anyof that and here's the thing then you what you sent those out via bom bom right? So when he sends these out via bom bom it do not have your branding all over the all over the actual email that says you're an attorney. Therefore you don't have to during it you guys like what people see is very impactful. And the reason why video and vid being visual with your communication is so effective is because that's where your branding plays. Like no matter what if you're going to be doing a video you better have your damn sign or something that tells me you're in real estate there. Otherwise don't do the damn video. You're missing the point. But it's a giant game a reminder, remind don't tell remind, you'll tell. Can i Alright, so we get this podcast going. And then you and I would honestly if you would have told me as an attorney in South Carolina and we never met and say you didn't do a podcast if you would have told me that if I do a podcast? Is that a good idea? I'd say no, it's not a good idea. I'd say I would probably a video series in a local markets a very good idea because it puts your face with the name but the fact that you did it through an audio only version of a podcast in the local market but made a national presence is absolutely amazing.Yeah, and it's been a long time coming. I've been doing this for 26 years and during that time I've represented real estate agents at the real estate commission when they've had grievances filed against them. I represent the Realtors Association. A wrote that the contract helped write the contract for our Realtors Association. I helped write the seller disclosure form for the state. And then I got put on the real estate commission. So over my course of 26 years my brand has been common the Gary is the go to guy he's the one who knows about the seller disclosure. He's the one who knows about the contract. He knows about this. And so because my brand in a lot of ways has become that it was just a perfect fit for me that I was able to start doing the legal tips and explain the legal stuff. And you know, I don't there's not really a real estate agency in Colombia that I haven't represented at some form, whether it's a Keller Williams or color or Coldwell Banker or an auto real estate or whoever. And because of that been able to get this big following. And that's that has been a big help. I have to admit that. But yeah, that's been part of my branding is to be that go to guy. I do agree 1,000% with you my ability to target with agents with going straight education or majority education works to a point where I don't believe it would with an agent because if you're if I'm just a homebuyer and you're constantly hitting me over the head with what's a deed, what's, you know, what does it mean for sale by owner and all this? I get bored? I'm moving on. Yeah. But so we've started to because of listening to your podcast, and some others started trying to bring a little bit more that fun in and some of the other aspects and our podcast. No, it'dbe a good idea. Maybe if you guys did like a, the craziest legal stories of the month. Yeah, the summary episode of that. Like, even crazy, there's a agent here, she's gonna start podcasts. And we ended up calling it I don't know if she launched yet or not. But we ended up calling it humor house. And it was all about the funniest crazy stories that agents have in real estate. And what she was doing it for is that she wanted to create a podcast to create a referral based business from other agents. So humor, she just interview agents that would like tell their stories about like, the dead body they found in the house, or the safe that had like a pound of heroin in it or, you know, like, whatever it may be the crazy shit we see. Right? So I think that could have been a good idea for her. But you have to first come up with a theme you guys like you're gonna create content. My theme is creative marketing outside the box video content creation, personal branding, right? Your theme is legal pitfalls of real estate, stay out of trouble, essentially. Right? Right. So it's no differently. Each of you guys has a theme to create content with. There's a reason why people hire you. Because before you get hired, you have to be remembered. And the reason they remember you is your theme.Right? And it's worked very well for us. And you know, like I said, we tried to venture out with Gary's good news only also did a series one time, which I'm almost embarrassed to talk about, but it was called three dudes watch The Bachelor. I mean, it was a real estate lender, and it was another Real Estate Commissioner, and we would watch The Bachelor and then we would come in my office andwatch like react videos. Oh, well, wewould actually talk about the day after it's like this is what happened last night on this crappy crappy show. And it was a lot of fun wegot it wasn't that crappy? Because you guys kept watching it every week. Wow. That's like me. I'm like I watch every episode. I'm like, No, my friends. But you watch The Bachelor making the fuck out here talking about bachelor bachelor me watch The Bachelor. What are you talking about?Course that means like, where do you get to see 25 beautiful women hit on one guy that doesn't happen. That's why I never watch The Bachelorette. Because you can see 25 guys hit on one girl in any bar in America. Watch that.Yeah. So there's Alright, this is great, man. So I want to know, what's your advice to people? Because here's the challenge a lot of people have we all want to become internet famous yet yesterday, right? We all want everyone to know who we are, like three weeks ago. And when you start creating content, I mean, it's not gonna happen overnight. You guys like you don't build your brand overnight, you build over day. And I think that's one of the reasons why people don't ever commit to doing it. So why don't you tell us what that experience has been for you? And give some people some advice that might be thinking about creating content, maybe they're thinking about hiring us and get on video or whatever it may be. Talk, tell them a little bit about that.I think you hit a good point there is that everybody wants to be internet famous. But the question really is, is what are you trying to do? I mean, are you trying to be internet famous? So people will ask you to sell their crap on on the internet? Are you trying to become internet famous because you want to make your business expand? And that's been a tough thing for me to understand. And I kept doing videos on YouTube or doing something on Facebook or even doing a podcast wanting the million downloads, right? Everybody wants to say, look, I had a one go viral and a million. But if you are selling real estate in San Diego, where you are, and I get a million downloads from New York City, does that really matter? I would rather have 1000 downloads in San Diego where my clients are, where people are that are going to hire me to sale then worry so much about how many people around the country. When I first got into this podcast, I can track where they're being downloaded. And I got real excited going, hey, wow, somebody in Cleveland or somebody in Denver is watching my listen to my podcast. And it's a big ego boost. There's no doubt about it to say people around the country are listening to your stuff. But when you're really doing it to hit your market, what's really more important is core market. And so when I started really looking back at the numbers, I'm like, Okay, well, this week, 500 of the people that in my market that are looking at me that I might be able to close a deal with. Those are people who are listening to this podcast, these are the people who are looking at my legal tip video. These are the ones who are interacting with me. And so after a while, I kind of had to get over that ego thing that I want to go big and viral and all this stuff because it doesn't mean crap. It doesn't mean anything. And so that was the big thing that I had to come come away with is doing that. The second thing I had to come away with Is the authenticity of it matters so much. As y'all can tell, I'm very southern, I say words like Virginia and not Virginia because I make words up. That's who I am. I talk very fast, which is very odd for a Southerner, but it's just who I am. And I'm not going to change it. It's the way I am and people that work with you, and are going to use you that already know you that you're trying to stay in front of mind with them. If I came in here, and was very robotic, and completely different in my podcast in my video than I was in person, it would come across rehearse scripted in terrible. And so they need to know that Gary is Gary and what you get in the video and what you get on the podcast is exactly who I am. And if I say words, like forgot, I sort of forgot. That's who I am. And so that was one of the things I got over very quickly. I also had to get over with the podcast, and the videos don't have to be perfect. You hit record once and you record it, you do it. And when you say awesome, and the phone rings in the background, that's natural life. And that seems like a lot better than these that are very rehearsed and very script read. It just doesn't work.Yep. Yeah, I mean, that's why I like the viral videos on tick tock, or like a cat. Like here, I posted a my son. I posted this reel. And I'm not big an IG dude, I'm not an IG expert. I just put my content. There's my weakest channel. However, I'm starting to get into it. And just a little late to the game. But like, I posted a video of my baby climbing the stairs and he's grumpy and he's like, or, or and he turns around, he goes, and it sounds like he says, Hi, he goes Hi. I'm like grunting baby says hi. And he said hi perfectly, we didn't really mean to say I was this way. But I got like 3700 views on this thing. And then I look at some of my other content that'll be like real estate related or anything, I'll get like 12 views. So the point being is that it's not about the number of people that see your stuff. It's about the fact that you do it consistently. I have a lot of content that bombs, okay, that's great. But I take a lot of risks in life to a lot of businesses I started that never took off and was bankrupt. But I kept trying and it's the same thing with videos. As long as you focus on the consistency of it. It almost always works like I have yet to see anybody do video where it hasn't worked like I have yet to see a case study. No bullshit, you guys at least in in real estate agents in our industry. I've yet to see someone that has done video consistently for anywhere between two to six months and not see it work. I shit you not the only time it doesn't work you guys is when people don't like you. I said every week on this show. There's nothing we can help you with on that. Right? You're probably in the wrong career. To be honest with you. You're not supposed to like it. Everyone's not supposed to like you. It's okay. I like pissing people off with my videos. Some guy just made a video comment on one of my ads. And he's like, I have a video where I'm swearing believe that. And it's targeting a cold audience. This guy's like, well, you should. One guy goes, I don't really like to. I hate because it's such a turn off the use of the F bomb and I go, Hey, you can't win them all. Another guy comes in and says, Oh, we should learn how to edit first. I'm like, Hey, thanks for the advice. Right? I hug my haters. But if you're not hating, that means no one's watching it. Right?Well, you know, I failed at video first, I'll be honest with you. And the reason I failed at video first is I had no plan and no consistency. It goes back to what you said about the consistency. So when I signed up with Bom, bom the very first time I got really excited 15 videos, the first month, maybe the second month was like 10. And it was down to five. And by the fourth month I called Shane and said I'm done. I'm out. And he said come to this meeting. We're doing a rehumanize conference. So I went and I came home with six pages of notes of ideas. And I sat down I said, Okay, I can't implement six pages. I don't have enough time to do this crap. So what will work for me? And what worked for me was legal tips. I said, Okay, let's try this legal tip and see how this works. And just like you said, you got to keep trying and some things bomb and some things don't. Well legal tips took off. I mean, it was like bam. And so then I went to Gary's good new zoning, bam, that work. And then I went with the podcast, I do a legal tip, talking about the podcast, and now that goes on. So it's a lot of trial and error, and not everything's gonna work. But if you don't have a plan, you're gonna fail. And if you're not consistent, I come out every Thursday with a legal of podcast tip of what my podcast is going to be about. And I come out every Friday morning with that legal tip. And when I don't do what people ask me, where are you last week, you didn't do legal tip. And another thing I'll tell you, it's also found out when I do these videos, two things were important. One was background. To me people do videos where it's like, you almost wonder if they're sitting on the toilet when they're doing it, you know, it's just all you see straight up their nose and you see the back of a wall. And so I spent a lot of time developing behind me what my personality is and so if you can if you are on video, I have pictures of my family, all these different baseball fields. I've got my Cleveland Browns helmet right there. Yes, I like the Cleveland Browns. I've got some Johnny Cash stuff so like country music so I've put some pieces an outing and thought into what my background is. And then what I also found out just by happenstance is I forgot to do a legal tip, I was on vacation. So I pulled the video out and did one from Utah. And that video is my most watched video that for a long period of time, so then I started saying, okay, when I go on vacation, whether it's the Yosemite or Zion, or Moab, or wherever, I'm going to come with a list of three videos, I'm gonna do a video, every you know, every chance I get at different places. And when I get home, I'll come and post it, I don't post it while I'm gone. So we'll be able to have gone but those are amazing. Those are those have more views than anything because people are like, Oh, I've been to Monument Valley, or I've been to Zion, and they're relatable.Right? It's really relatable, your content, your content has to be relatable. It's like how ours are like just people that hate me. I'm sure like the guy swears to me, that's all it's usually like, it's usually it's usually all the old people do. A lot of people trust me. They think I get called it all the time. You're so frustrated, you make me sick, whatever. I don't care. Like, I'm never gonna fuckin work with you anyways, dude. I mean, like, I don't, I don't care in but you have to, I understand that. I'm not meant to attract everybody. But I think I attract a lot more because of how authentic it is. And it's really just not holding back. I think it's very, very well, any, let's wrap this up. And let's see any closing thoughts you have for anybody that is thinking about possibly getting started. I mean, you're doing it as an attorney in a local market. And it's just a, it's ticking off for you. So what else you want to tell anyone else that's thinking about, and I'm not saying get on video, of course, video is the best one to use. But you have to start creating content, wherever it is, whether it's pictures, whether it's written posts, whether it's written emails, I don't care, you have to create content, it's no longer optional, it is a necessity. And if you're not creating content, you are going to be out of damn business.Well, I think you're going out of business, if you do do something else. And that is you got to understand that regardless what the market is, there's too many real estate agents, right? There are a lot of part time agents, a lot of excellent church agents. So the agents who signed up became an agent, they're gonna sell a friend at church, a house that will sell a friend down the street, a house, and that's it. But we have I think, even in South Carolina, we have like 60,000 Real estate agents. And so you have to figure out what is going to separate me from everybody else. We don't want to be a commodity. And if you're a real estate agent becomes a commodity, all you're doing is replacing one with the other. So you have to show value, and show that you're different than other people. And if you will go back and look at your multiple listing service that they have the stats for you go back 10 years and look at the top 10 agents and tell me where they are today. I bet you almost all of them are not in the top 10 anymore. It's a new group of people that come in the top 10 Because people are not planning ahead and looking and trying to be ahead of the curve. One of my clients told me one time he's a builder, he said, if you're not changing your business and how you're marketing what you're doing in your technology every two to three years, you already two to three years behind. And so we have learned that you know, like, as I mentioned earlier in the show, we came up with the signs that everybody stands by and you take a picture says my real estate agent rocks came over that in 2015 or 16. Every lawyer in Colombia has that now every lawyer in South Carolina has that. Then I started putting TVs on the wall. And then everybody started doing that. And then we started putting MLS pictures on the TV. We did Greenstreet screens. It's gotten to a point now where it Blair Kato, we actually have our own beer. I mean, we've had our thinking so far the box, we have candles that have our own scent, you walk into a casino, you know what it smells like you walk into black ghetto, we want to know what it smells like, with the iPads, we have our own. We have music going during our closings from XM Radio, we have a bear call closing time that we do at Columbia craft. So you've always got to be thinking ahead and what's gonna differentiate me from the other people using the real estate marketing dude, he's taking a lot of that thinking out for you, because he's helping you come up with these plans. So if you're not working with the real estate marketing, I don't know what you're doing. You got to get with somebody who knows what they're doing, they can help you develop a plan that you can implement and that you can put in place and that you can market and change when you need to change because I'm telling you at 26 years, the last five years has changed change more than the previous 21 and I guarantee you the next five years will be so much more change than we've had this past five years we're looking at remote online notary electronic closings, everything is going to be changing in the next five years this this what we're talking about today in three years will probably be old hatwell said and thank you for the plug. But yeah, he's focusing on the client experience you guys and that's extremely important how you make people feel is what they remember. But you got to be top of mind for them to experience that first and that's why you have to create content so you have a brand appreciate you guys listening to another episode of real estate marketing do podcast Gary want to go ahead and tell them website they could check out your stuff tell me your shows that so they can reach you if they have any questions. And you canfind me at Blair Cato BL a ir ca to calm that's on the web. And then if you want to find our podcast it's called dition dirt without a GDI Shi N apostrophe dirt On any podcast platform, and you can find blackhead on internet on the Instagram or on Facebook at Blair Cato.Awesome. And thank you folks for listening to other episode real estate market, new podcast. If you're looking to build that brand, start creating content, we'd love to speak with you. It's not very difficult. I need one to three hours a month from you. 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JB Braden, Founder of Beyond the Field CoachingIs a certified coach who specializes in working with Entrepreneurs, Corporate Leadership Teams and Business leaders helping you develop superior presentation skills and exceptional leadership skills! Teaching you how to craft a Signature Talk specifically designed to inspire, engage, educate and convert your prospects to clients.Giving you the tools and techniques to master the art of public speaking!Training you to communicate your message more effectively.Helping You "Speak with a Purpose"Giving leaders the tools necessary to develop strong leadership teams.================================================Ari Gronich (0:14):Welcome back to another episode of Create a New Tomorrow, I amyour host Ari Gronich. And today, I have with me another one of the Achieve alpha leaders.Achieve Systems is an organization that I've been part of about 14 years. And today I havewith me JB Braden, he is an inspirational speaker, trainer and speaker coach, he actually forachieved does the speaker trainings helps people get on stages, get their voices out there inthe world. JB I'm gonna let you talk a little bit about your background. But let's just kind ofgo through a little bit, you're a certified life coach, or certified business coach really is lifebusiness, same thing. You work with entrepreneurs, corporate teams, business leaders, inteaching them how to develop superior presentation skills, teaching them how to craft theirsignature presentation, I'd like to talk a little bit about that specifically. And, you know, yourmission here is to impact empower the lives of millions of people, and inspire them to createextraordinary success, teaching them how to think live and lead and win like a champion. SoJB, welcome to the show, let's, let's tell the audience a little bit about your background,because I know you didn't kind of start out the same place that you've ended up and thenwe'll get into like, why achieve, why you, why achieve and some of that stuff. So, take itaway.JB Braden (1:45):Yeah, sure, man. Thank you for having me on. It's always a pleasure toconnect with you and, and see you. So, thank you for that. But a little bit about me, as yousaid, I'm a certified coach, certified, and I specialize in working with leaders, executivesuccess teams. My goal is to create success in people's lives, create success in my life, andto teach people how to create success in their lives. And to do it in a sustainable way. So, Iwork with leadership teams, I work with entrepreneurs, because I'm also a speaker, coach,as you mentioned. And I've been speaking for well over 20 years. And I've been coachingspeaker's half that time. And so, when I met Robert, a few years, about four years ago, wecreated the speak with a purpose workshop, that I use to help people put together trainingfor a speaking for their marketing tool for their business, as well as a signature presentation.So, I do a lot of that. But yeah, that's a little bit about what I love to do what I'm called to do,and a little bit about me, I was born, I was born and raised in Alabama, but I live in Coloradonow. Now, I was raised by a single mom. And she one of the things that she taught megrowing up was, she taught me a couple of things. One of the things that she taught me Ariwas, you know, treat people the way you want to be treated. And that those words shall helpshape my life. And it helped me find my calling and my gift, and my gift and calling to speakinto other people's lives and empower them. And so that's what I do.Ari Gronich (3:29):Nice. So, I like that. Here's my thing about it, right? We always say thatthis golden rule of treat other people the way you want to be treated. But here's the thing.And as a healer, you notice this as somebody who's in business, you hear all the self-talk asa business coach and life coach. People don't treat themselves very well know that, right?Yeah, I don't want to be treated the way I treat myself, the way the right, you know, I wantto be treated the way I treat others, right. So, I think the golden rule needs a little shifting.But I do like the premise of the golden rule, which is that we want to treat people like our kinlike but then I go okay, but kin, you know, family, we don't treat our families very well.James Braden (4:27):Right, right. Yeah. Well, it's so interesting you say that Ari becauseI've actually, you know, that was the basis for a lot of things that I do. And I actually tookthat, that what people call the golden rule and elevate it, you know, so it's not just treatedpeople the way you want to be treated, but treat people the way they want to be treated.You know, and then and it really comes down to this, you know, my mom's you know, treatpeople with respect, you know, and respect is earned, but she also another thing that shetaught me was people are people you know, doesn't matter what color we are, how tall orshort we are, how much money we have, we don't have, you know, we're all people and weall deserve to be treated with respect. And, you know, that's how I live my life. And, youknow, by doing that, you know, I treat people, I take that, like I say that one step further totreat people the way they want to be treated. And the only way you can treat people theway they want to be treated, is you, you have to do something, you have to spend time toget to know them. Okay? That's what am saying, and that was one of the key things is you,we're all individuals, you know, and so get to know a person for who they are. And Iremember being in high school man, and, you know, people would go around me, they'd saystuff about people and say this and say that, and I was always debunking, I'm like, Look,man, I don't know that person. So, I'm not gonna sit here and, and chat with you anythingabout that person. But I would go out of my way to get to know a person for myself, youknow, and that's the challenge that I have for a lot of people get to know people for whothey are, make your own damn opinion. And then, you know, and then you know, how totreat those people treat them the way they want to be treated?Ari Gornich (6:08):Yeah, you know, it's interesting, we definitely, and this goes back tobusiness as well as life in general, relationships in general, is the assumptions that we makeon how a person is or who a person is based on the stories that we've heard of them. And Idon't know about you, I've met a lot of people in my life, that other people might say, thatperson is this or that person is that or this person has this stereotype or, or because of their,you know, color. I mean, I had roommates that are were Palestinian Muslims. I was like, mysister, you know, like my family. And, and I was all you know, you can't be friends with thosepeople. You know, doesn't matter what people they are. Right? can't be friends with thosepeople. I was the guy when I was growing up, that parents said, you can't be friends withhim. He's a bad influence. So, I never, ever wanted to do that to another human being.Right. So, I agree with you like, getting to know somebody. But you know, it's funny. Mybuddy, AJ Ali is a documentary film producer. And he's actually Robert knows him and hewrote a movie, did a movie called Walking Wall Black, Love is the answer. It's a fantasticdocumentary. He's just been shown it to police and homeland security all over the countryto deal with the lack in police, black and blue issues, you know, really is the black and blue.And love is the answer is an acronym. And the first letter is the L right? And what is that Lstands for is learn about your neighbors. Learn about who it is that is next door to you, learnabout the people that you live near. Go and introduce yourself. There used to be a time inthis country, when you moved into a neighborhood and you had five neighbors bringing youbrownie and things and welcoming you to the neighborhood. We don't do that kind of thinganymore. But God, what a what a benefit. It would be if we kept doing that if we chose tolearn about our neighbors and our people.JB Braden (8:36):Yeah, now I agree with you. I think that's the one key that's missing, youknow. Part of my background and speaking as I spoke, I've spoken a lot of high schools,right. And one of the programs that I spoke for, that I do still do some speaking for, but I dida lot of speaking for in the past as an organization called Rachel's challenge, right. RachelScott was the first person killed on the Columbine tragedy. And after she died, her father,they her family discovered that she had a goal to start a chain reaction of kindness. So, hecreated this program to take into schools to challenge the students has challenged thefaculty to start a chain reaction of kindness. Okay, well, you treat people with kindnesswhere you stopped excluding people. And so, I say the reason I bring that up is because it'skind of stems to what you just said, getting to know people, you know, a lot of times likeright now the day we're in a big world of social media right now. Right? And so, but we're abig social media and so, you know, a lot of people they are, all about how many friends do Ihave on Facebook. But I've always said this, and I used to say this to the students that Iwould speak to, social media is great. But it doesn't replace social interaction. Okay, truesocial interaction. And here's what I believe some people may disagree with this. But willyou remember you and I are about the same age. And so, when we're in school, when we'rein school, when we had a beef with someone, we would go to them and we would talk it out.Okay. And sometimes we will come to blows. But then we would hug and we would make up,right?Ari Gronich (10:26):Yeah. Usually, the people who got in the biggest fights became thebest of friends right afterwards. And that was because not only did they confront the issuedirectly, instead of withholding it and bottling it up and all that. But you know, it was like,when you go toe to toe with somebody, you gain a level of respect, regardless of outcome.JB Braden (10:55):You gain a lot of respect. That's correct. And sometimes it works out.Well, you become closer, sometimes you don't. But the bottom line is you dealt with thatissue, as opposed to, as you said, letting it fester. Okay. And then you had those. So, whathappens now is people hide behind social media, okay. And they think that's theirconnection to people. And what has happened in our society, is there's a loss of how peopleshould, people don't know how to really build true connection, connection that lasts alifetime connection that changes, you know, changes people, changes generation,connection that when you're going through something so hard, and so terrible. Becausewe're disconnected these days, it's easier for somebody to pick up a gun, and go blast abunch of people that they don't know. But when they have, I feel like when you have a trueconnection with people, when you have that connection, it can help eliminate that. Becausenow you got some people that you can rely on, because this world is hard man, which is whyI'm calling to do what I do to be able to help empower people and inspire people and pickpeople up and let people know that you'll have to live by yourself. It's struggling to getpeople around you that can help you.Ari Gronich (12:18):It's funny, they did a documentary, I think it was Michael J. Fox, whodid this documentary called happy. And they, they were studying what made people happythroughout the world. And they found that the happiest place on earth was this town, inTibet, in the Himalayas. And they actually don't measure gross domestic product GDP, theydon't measure that they measure Gross National Happiness GNH, how happy their society isas a whole. And that's a measurement that they actually use in order to determine if theirsociety is being successful or not. And they found that, that these societies, this one,especially the biggest difference, and this happens in all the Blue Zones, as well, thecenturion, places where they're living over 100 years old, is that the biggest similarity is notdiet, it's not anything other than connection with other human beings. They are a family,they are a community to the true sense of the word, they take care of each other. Theydon't let somebody fester in depression. If somebody is depressed, they surround them.They don't try to fix them by the way, that's the other thing that they do not do, they do nottry to fix them. They just surround them and let them know that they are the support at anypoint, right? They are. They are the they're the wall. They're the rock. And that's the biggestthing that I think we're missing in this world because, as you said, everybody's on socialmedia, but there's such an anonymity to saying fuck you to somebody on text versus sayingit to their face. There's such an anonymity to destructive behavior that you would never doin person. You can do because why, there's a text box and a screen between you.JB Braden (14:29): Yeah, I think social media gives people a soft, a false sense ofconfidence. They'll say things. They'll say things on social media they wouldn't dare say andother people in front of people's face. You know, I call the keyboard bully is what I call it.Okay. And because I mean, I can remember being in high school if we had something to sayto somebody would say it to their face, and we wouldn't say it, you know, then we'd hash itout. But people now man they just, we got a bunch of keyboard bullies out They, have afalse sense of security and false sense of confidence that I'll say what I want to say. But theywon't say it in front of your face. If you were sitting face to face to him, they wouldn't daresay it, because they don't have the balls to say it, you know, and so nor because it's justdifferent, when you have a human connection, we have such a disconnect in our world now.And a lot of that is because people think they are friends on social media. And that's not the,we've lost the sight of what a true friend is, without looks like.Ari Gronich (15:35): So, let's kind of take this back to a slightly different, different angle.And that angle is going to be, in all of this noise and all of this social media noise and all ofthe things that we have to experience millions and millions and billions and billions andtrillions of bits of data more than our primal history, even 40 years ago, is able tocomprehend I mean, the amount of technology has increased so drastically that we're inliterally adrenal shock, on 100%, daily basis, just in the amount of things that our body andour senses are taking in. So, in all of this noise, and all of this stuff, right? We're gonna go tothat signature presentation, how does somebody step out of that noise and become heardbecome seen? Because to me, I have this saying, a bully's best friend is silence. Silence is abully's best friend. How does one break out of the noise so that they get heard when theyare talking? Because what you've said is true, that people are holding back and notspeaking, at least not in person. But the other part is that when they are speaking, they'renot being heard. They're not being listened to. They're not being seen. And so, in business,and in life, right, we all need that be seen, and you do this signature presentation, which Ibelieve is one of the ways but why don't you talk about this a little bit? How does somebodystep out of the noise?JB Braden (17:27):That's very good question. And when I when I want to teach and talkabout the signature presentation, there's two key components that we look at. And we willmake sure that no matter which clients, we're working with the two key questions that weasked them Ari, and one of them is who's your target audience? Okay. And so first of all, yougot to be clear on who your target audience is, you find the right target audience, you'regoing to be heard. Okay. So that's the first thing. And then the second question that wealways ask is, what's the problem that you solve for your target audience? Right? That's veryimportant. Because if you don't understand the problem, you solve that you can'tcommunicate that problem to your target audience. But you want to talk about being heard.When you get in front of the right audience with the right message, you know, deliveringand communicating the problem that you can solve their problem, whatever the problem orproblems maybe, then you will be heard. Okay. And so that's, that's how you can find yourvoice. That's how you can be heard by speaking to the right audience, and communicatingto them that you can solve their problem. Does that make sense?Ari Gronich (18:46):Yeah, absolutely. The I guess the question becomes, you know, I feellike, let's say, I've been in this industry, 27 years, right. And there's been times when I'vehad a really fantastic booming career with athletes and actors and A list celebrities andpeople who, you know, that was my target market back then I was living in Los Angeles thatwas those were the people that I was looking for, right? And then and then 911 happens,and all the studios shut down. Right. And so, I didn't really know who my target market wasand so nothing that I was saying was getting out to the world. So, I'm kind of, I'm kind ofplaying this, this scenario, so that the audience maybe can get an idea of how it plays out.Once I figured out Okay, my target audience now is gonna be just the athletes. I'm no longergoing to be doing studio work, because the studios are shut down. So where do I go right?And so back then there wasn't really internet, you know, is web TVs and maybe a little AOLand prodigy with some chat rooms. But I'm taking myself, you know, I remember my 486sXcomputer that was this big. Right? I'm here and I'm going okay, so what do I do to get thesepeople? So, my target audience was high end athletes, Olympic guys, right? So, what did Ido? I was living near Muscle Beach. And so, I go down to Venice to Muscle Beach to theGold's Gym. And I could pick two or three athletes out of that place at will, because I knewmy business, and I was going to where my target was, right? so I got heard. And then I went,you know, there was another crisis, right? And, and so I didn't know who my target audiencewas. And then, and then the 2008. And I had at that point, I had just bought a house is amillion-dollar house in LA, right. I'm like, now my house is worth 600,000. All of my clientswho were high end at the time business profile, people, lost their hedge funds, lost theirhouses lost their shirts and all of a sudden, you got to pick up and who's my target audiencenow. So, this is not, what I guess what I'm getting at is one, the stories that might help theaudience get to a place where they, okay, I can re-assess my audience, but also letting themknow, yes, you can. This is a living thing. Right? This isn't static. And so, people, the biggestI think thing I hear when I hear people talking to you, and you tell them to niche down is, butI serve everybody.JB Branden (23:41):Yeah, and I've heard that before. And if you serve, if you serveeverybody, then you wouldn't be struggling for clients. There's no such thing. You know, oneof the things that T Harv Eker says in his millionaire marketing course is, your ideal clients,are clients who are willing to work with you, okay, your ideal clients are not everyone, andquite frankly , when you think about it Ari, you don't want to work with everyone. Okay. Andthen think about you think about Nike, you think about some of the big companies out there,okay. They don't target everyone. But they know who their target market is. They know whotheir demographics is. And that's what they target. Now that does people outside of theirtarget market, purchase their things? Absolutely. But that's not who they go after. And that'llhappen. And so, the people that say that, you know, I target everybody. That's where you'remissing out. Because you when you target everybody, then you're targeting no one. Okay?Because no, we all don't have the same problems. All right. And so how can you get clear onthe problem you solve, when you assume that everybody in the world has that problem thatyou solve, that's not the case. And so, the two go hand in hand, if you think about it, it's notjust the target audience, but it's also the problem that you solve for that target audience.They both go hand in hand. And when you understand that, and you understand both ofthem together, then you understand. You're target audience is not everyone.Ari Gronich (23:41):Right. So, as you know, I'm a solutions guy. And every time I talk toyou, one of the fun things that that I have is that you're a solutions guy, too. You're not,you're like, I don't want to talk about the problem. Let's get to a solution. Let's get to wherewe can fix this. Let's get to the, you know, the meat. And so, I have this new saying that Icame up with recently and it's “I want to stop gathering to complain and start collaboratingto succeed”. Right, that's what we want to do in life. We want to stop gathering to complainand start collaborating to succeed. And one of the things that Achieve Systems does iscollaboration at a scale hardly ever seen in the industry, right? So, we bring together healthprofessionals, fitness professionals, nutrition, I mean speaking coach, visibility, marketing,all these things, we collaborate, right. So, what is the one thing that you found as a benefitto collaboration versus competition and why Achieved Systems kind of excels in that arena?JB Braden (24:56):Oh, wow. The biggest benefit is perspective and experience fromothers and support. Think about this. Most entrepreneurs, they feel like they're out there bythemselves all alone. Okay. And being an entrepreneur being a business owner, it's like aroller coaster ride when you agree. And so when you have a community where you cancollaborate with people, on those times where you're stuck, where you're dealing with fear,where you're dealing with limiting beliefs, when you have when one of the things that what Icall it the surrounding yourself with ass Kickers, right? Okay. So when you have that, whenyou surround yourself with those ass Kickers, those people that you collaborate with, andyou're going through those tough times, is easier to pull yourself out of it, because you gotyou because you have their strength as well as your strength working together, which is howit's meant to be, you know, so for me, the biggest thing about Achieve is having thatcommunity of people that will not let you let yourself down, does not allow that you letyourself down, you know, if it is that you find yourself going a different direction, because aslong as you're in lockstep with the people that achieve, then you will, you will succeedbecause that's what we, we want you to succeed. And so that collaboration is like is like thatforce of energy moving forward. And that's the that's the most important thing, man.Ari Gronich (26:34):Yeah, I want to add to that it's not just the support, because, youknow, there's a lot of mastermind groups, and there's a lot of, you know, inner circles andsupport groups. Right. And I don't really like to think of achieve as a support group forbusiness owners, right. I think of it as a place where you can get the support, yes, you couldget the actual help, not just the advice, not just the support, not just the advice, not just thehelp, but you can actually find partners and people to collaborate with directly to build otherretreats and build products and build other things with I mean, I've had the honor of writingthe foreword for two people or two books, writing a chapter in another book for achievedmembers, right? That's area where I'm supporting them, but also collaborating andpartnering with them. So where are some of the places I know you have? where some of theplaces that you've collaborated? To make a successful exit, so to speak with an achievemember?JB Braden (27:52):Oh, yeah, no, those are good questions. Um, we have a whether it beworking with a group with a mastermind. That's always good. One of the things that I love is,that's a good collaboration is I'm part of the achieve leads group, okay. And I actually call itachieve mastermind group, but we work together, helping each other, cultivate and findleads. And so, that collaboration, is like you said, it's not just about the support, but it's also,what I've learned from it, is the different approaches, the different perspective that peopletake, you know, but also, you meet people that you would never have never met. And that'swhat I love about it, when you collaborate, you can introduce to let's just say, of you and I,and some of the people that I've collaborated with, in achieve, I've had the opportunity toget to know people on their network, and they've had an opportunity to get to know peopleare in my network. So, collaboration, when you collaborate with other people, then you havethe opportunity to also connect other people to collaborate, that's what I found. So, it's likekind of building on it. And so being a being a part of achieves, leads group, I've been able todo that, and have that collaboration with other people, and then connect them with otherpeople, You know, a lot of times we'll be sitting around, say, hey, do you know, you know,anybody good CPA, or do you know anybody that does this? Or does that, whatever the casemay be? Say? Yeah, now I know a couple of people. Let me introduce you. And there you go.And so that's why that collaboration is so powerful.Ari Gronich (29:31):Awesome. So, I don't want to leave out competition, because I dotend to, you know, put competition on a little bit further down the totem pole forcollaboration. I don't want to completely destroy competition, although I do a little bit. Butwhy don't you tell me what in your mind, healthy competition looks like?JB Braden (30:00):Competition in business. That's an interesting. First of all, when itcomes to competition, I think about this first thing I'll think about is being very good at whatyou do. When you're very good at what you do. You spend time making sure that youcontinue to be good at what you do. And then being afraid of competition isn't a thing forme. Okay. It's more of how can I dominate my sector? Okay, how can I dominate my sector?And what I mean by that is, when people when people think about speaking and speakercoaching, I want them to think about me. Okay. And so that's my goal. So, there's not somuch about having competition. Here's what happened. Competition does, it keeps yousharp, it keeps you honest. It keeps you striving to be better. Because think about is if youdon't have competition, would you when you say that if you don't have a competition, youmay become complacent.Ari Gronich (31:12):So that all depends. I'm going take it a different step with you adifferent way. Because I don't believe in competition with anybody else. I don't believe thatI've ever been in competition with another massage therapist, sports therapist, right. But Iam in competition with yesterday's version of me. That is who I'm in competition with everysingle day. Some days I win that competition, and some days I lose it. I'll be honest, right?I'm not in competition with anybody else. for any other reason, or comparison. And anymore, you know, I used to be like, somebody skinnier than me got bigger muscles than megot, you know, higher IQ than me, you got whatever, you know, whatever it is, right? Got abetter more degrees than me. I don't have any degrees. You know, like, everybody gotdegrees. No, I'm not in competition with anybody else anymore. I'm in competition withyesterday's version of me every single day. And I find that the more I look at perspectivethat way. I could go up to somebody who I might have thought was competition in the pastand say, “Hey, I saw that you guys open a gym right next door to my gym? What do you dodifferently than I do? I could send some people your way.” And we could create collaborationbetween the two gyms between the two personal trainers between the two therapistsbetween the two hypnotherapist all that you know, is like, we could create partnerships andcollaboration with the people who are better than us at certain things, and not be incompetition with them specifically, in competition with the previous version of ourselves.And that's something I think Achieve Systems is really designed to help people with is not bein competition with others in our field, but be in competition with our previous version ofourselves with the person who thought I can't do business, I'm too spiritual, I can't acceptmoney for this, or whatever the block whatever the thing is that stopping somebody frombeing that better part of themselves.JB Braden (33:37):I love that. I love the Ari because when you think about it, I've neverlooked at myself. I've never looked at other speakers and speaker coaches as mycompetition. I never have. And so, I love how you put that that I'm in competition withmyself being a better version of myself. And how do you do that you look at the people inyour field, what they're doing. And my approaches this, what are they doing, that I canincorporate to make me better? Is there anything they're doing that I can make me better?That's how I always look at it. I have a lot of speaker friends around the country. And that'sone of the that's one of the things that we've been able to help each other get betterbecause I can look at something that they may do on stage and say, Oh, I like that. I'm goingto try that. Or I'm going to try this version of that, you know, that sort of thing. That's howyou get better. And so I love that you said that because I've never looked at people in myfield other coaches as my competition. I looked at I look at them as my allies. Okay. How canwe learn from each other, make each other better at what we do? And like you said, that'swhat's great about Achieve, okay, because that's one of the things that we love to helppeople Do it's not about you being competition, but it's how can you take what I'm doingincorporated into your business if we're in the same business and make you better, and viceversa? Love that.Ari Gronich (35:13):Yeah. And that goes to the same thing with life. Right? I'm divorcednow, right. But every minute since the time that I've got separated, beyond the trauma,right of the experience, my thoughts have been How can I be a better man? How can I be inbetter relationship? How can I take ownership of every bit of my responsibility in thisdebacle that has occurred? You know, how can I How can I be a better man in a betterrelationship with people. And I spent, I talked about this a lot, but I spent about 300 plushours inside of a mirror. naked, staring at myself, crying, wailing, screaming, stunned andshocked. I mean, in in any emotional state, you could imagine. Until I worked that out ofmyself until I was a better version of me until I had stripped, I call it stripping the layers ofmasks of trauma. Stripping the layers of masks because we have this inauthenticity fromtrauma that stops us from being the best we can be. I'm going to relate this back to youbecause the biggest fear is not fear of snakes. It's not fear of flying. It's not fear of falling.It's fear of speaking. Public speaking.JB Braden (37:04):Yeah, you've heard it said, and that's a huge fear for a lot of peoplefear of speaking, and it's a real thing. And some of my clients have had it. And, you know,we work through it, and allow them to get to the crux of what that fear really is, you know.And then once they get to the crux of what it really is, they can move past it. And so, do alot of work around that. It is a big fear for a lot of people. A lot of a lot of fear around it isunsubstantiated. And it's just it stemmed from a limiting belief, or, another fear, you know,some of them. Some I've heard people say all the time, well, I'm afraid of messing up. Okay,well, how can you eliminate that fear? And then we work on it?Ari Gronich (37:56):That's up a lot. That's how you eliminate the fear. Okay. I messed up.JB Braden (38:01):And here's the thing, you know, and basically, because that was one ofmy fears, plus 20 plus years ago, and then I was like, Well, how can I eliminate that? Well,prepared to the best of my ability. Okay. And that's all you can do.Ari Gronich (38:18):Right? Just a question. Do you still get the butterflies when you go upon stage?JB Braden (38:25):I do. But it's not from fear. Now. It's excitement. I think people thinkthey feel that and I think, because if you think about it, fear and excitement can feel thesame. It's the same energy. And so people ask that all the time and said, Do you get the youget afraid? I said, No, now I just feel excited. You know, so it's a different feeling than achannel because I've done it so much now. And I know how to prepare. I prepare myself tothe point where that fear that fear of messing up has no power. Okay. Is it still there? Yeah,but it has no power because I've taken the power away from that. Now it's just it's just anexcitement of being able to share my message with a group of people.Ari Gronich (39:15):You know, it's funny, I've been speaking 27 years. My grandmotherwas 40 years, head toastmistress in San Diego, was a speaker. My mom is a teacher. Mybrother is a teacher. My dad was a master debater, you know, in the debate clubs and stuff.So being on stage, and I grew up in Hollywood, so I've been acting and in commercials andstuff like that all my life. And what I find to be fascinating is how much I hate being on videohow much I dislike the look of myself on camera, still, how much I dislike looking at thepictures of me on stage or video of me on stage. And then I look at the pictures of theaudience while I'm on stage, right, afterwards or I look at the response that I get, makes allof that dislike of not wanting to be seen not wanting to be heard, not wanting to beacknowledged, because every time growing up I did, it was some kind of trauma you know,some kind of trauma happened, if I got seen, whether it was, you know, physical abuse,sexual abuse, didn't matter, mental abuse, it was, if I got seen, there was trauma. And so, Ididn't want to be seen. So, you know, what's funny is the only way to cure the somatictrauma of not wanting to be seen, is to be seen a lot, and to be seen in a place that's safe.you know, so part of what I love about achieve, and what I love about what you do withachieve, especially in the speaker sector, is that you provide and we provide a safe place tohave different somatic experiences, so that you can get seen often, and have it be such asafe container that you can become comfortable being seen, you can release those traumasthat are embedded in the soma, in the tissues in the memory, because we create that safeplace. So, talk a little bit about why that safe place is so important, especially for seekers,and especially for people who have that trauma of not being worth and not being seen. Andyou know, not being valuable. Because I know you and I feel pretty much the same thateverybody has some amazing value to offer others. It's just a matter of getting them to bewilling to share, right?JB Braden: Exactly. Yeah, that's a good point. And so, for people who, what you said aboutthe safe place is so important. And how do you create that safe place, you make sure you letpeople know It's okay. It's okay to make a mistake, you're not going to be judged. Thisdoesn't define who you are. And so, creating that gives people permission and a lot of times,that's what we need, we just need permission to try that it's okay, if we don't, if it doesn'tturn out the way we think is going to because most of the time it doesn't. So we spent, Ispent a lot of time helping change people's perspective on fear of failure, so to speak, okay,because it's not about failing is about learning the lesson from what you just done, youknow, learning the lesson that you need to learn and you're supposed to learn. And so,creating that safe place for people to do that, it's kind of goes back to think about this kindof goes back to when we were all toddlers starting to walk. Okay, our parents created a safespace for us to continue to fall as we went through that, right. And so, it's the same thinghere, we create a safe place for people to learn to walk in business, so to speak. Right? Witha permission to It's okay, that you're gonna fail at this or you're gonna fail at that. But thegoal is to continue to get up. Always get up, always keep moving forward. And we have thatsafe space. And that support for people to do that. It's so important.Ari Gronich:Yeah, it's so nice that you can get up with somebody pulling you up, instead ofon your own accord. You know, it's so nice that you could have an Achieve, you know, wehave 20 people to put out their hands. Hey, I'm here. You know. That to me, is incredible.One of the things I tell people I tell therapists a lot is, if you're a healer, if you're a therapist,if you're whoever, right, in the healing arts, that your clients will only heal to the level atwhich you've healed. Meaning the level at which your boundaries and your barriers havebeen washed away, have been cleaned up have been cleared. That's to the level at whichyour patients can heal, that's to the level, which if you're a business owner, your businessescan heal. Right? If you're a business coach, because, it's all you know, it's like, it's justhealing, right? it's like, you know, it's not putting band aids on P&L. It's healing the P&L, it'smaking the P&L better, so it doesn't need band aids anymore. So, you know, we look at life alittle bit differently, I think you and I, then then most we're looking at it from this holisticpoint of view. And for the audience, who is listening. Give us some of your perspective, onresilience, in business, in life in general and I guess, resilience with a map, resilience with aplan, because resilience is awesome to have but if you don't have a plan, you're spinningyour wheels. There's no amount of resilience that adds gonna stop you from, you know, like,getting exhausted and falling on your butt on the hamster wheel. Right? So let's talk aboutresilience, but also making a plan that makes that resilience worthwhile.JB Braden:I love that. And the first thing that you said, that's so important is and that andthat aspect is having a plan. Okay? having a plan and knowing where you want to go, okay,what's your purpose? You got to be able to ask answer that question. What's your purpose?What's your Why? Why are you doing what the hell you that you want to do? Okay, what'syour purpose for doing that? And where do you want to go with it? I see a lot of people inbusiness. They don't have that. They don't have that dialed in. They don't know wherethey're going. Okay. And so, then they get dragged all over the place. And they get draggedinto all these different things. And so first of all, having a plan. Here's what I was telling thatguy, I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday, that's so important about having a plan,your plan is not going to be perfect. How many people have you met Ari say, well, as soonas this plan is perfect that I'm going to watch. That's not what that's not the purpose of aplan. A plan is to get you out of the starting blocks. Okay? Jeff also talks about in this book,The slight edge, a plan is never going to fucking be perfect. Okay, get that out of your head.It's just to get you off the damn starting block. Because 10 yards down the road is gonnachange, something's gonna cause a change. Okay, something in the plan is not gonna work,you're gonna have to course correct. And you're gonna have to pivot. And so, part of thesome of the things that you heard me, we were talking earlier, before we started thepodcast about one of the series that I've been working on that I've been was the, you know,the habits, thoughts and actions that cultivates success. Right, and so a couple of thosethings fit into this resilience that you talked about. Okay? And so, I'll give you a couple ofthem. First of all, one of the ones that we talked about, he's got to have a can-do attitude,right? I can do this, have a can-do attitude that builds that depth of resilience, right?embrace, change, embrace change, and be open to change. Because when you're open tochange, then you it's easier for you to course correct. Okay. And also, when you're open tochange, it leads into the other one of be okay, being uncomfortable. Because when you'reuncomfortable, then you're in growth mode, right?Ari Gronich: I don't remember a day in my life that I've ever actually been comfortable. So,I think I've just been constant. But yeah, I don't get the people who say I want to becomfortable.JB Braden: Yeah, me either. Because I get why they say it. But I don't think theyunderstand what they're saying when they say that. Okay. It's not about being comfortable.It's about being the best you. And that doesn't always feel comfortable.Ari Gornich:Right. think what people are wanting when they say comfortability is they'rewanting peace inside of the uncomfortability. They're there wanting the mental state ofbeing that I have the storm, that wizard, right. So, that's a totally different thing than thecomfortability. So that's what I think people are trying for is peace with it. Like, I love whenchaos is happening around me and I'm still calm. That's like, that's the ultimate for me.Place where I know I've arrived at another level, right? I could calm inside of the storm.JB Braden:Right. Yeah. I love that. And then on the other key that's so important tobuilding that resilience, and having that plan. And I mentioned this earlier is to surroundyourself with ass kickers man. Okay, I can't say that enough. Surround yourself with peoplewho are rowing who are doing who are creating success, because success begets success.Right? And you know that, and I know that. But that's so important when you have thatwhen you when you start to put those things together. That's where you build thatresilience. Because one of the things that you said earlier, that's so important is there's a lotof times that we can get up on our own. But those sometimes we get hit so fucking hard thatwe need help getting up off the damn canvas. And that's why you have those as kickersaround you that that can pull help pull you up off the canvas, because the most importantthing is to always get the fuck back up. Right.Ari Gronich:Yes and I just want to because we kind of mentioned it a little bit ago with theTibetans. The other part of that is not trying to fix the person who's down. Right. But we pullthem up by being okay and being comfortable in their uncomfortability and that's kind of thepoint I was making with the therapist and the level of healing is so many therapists get souncomfortable with their patients' pain. That the patient will never heal because thetherapist is so uncomfortable. Right? And so that's the same thing with, like, let's say you'rea speaker, coach, and you're comfortable with everything right. But let's say you had anexperience of trauma. And then you had a speaker student, who was triggering that trauma,specifically, over and over again, every single time they got up to speak in front of you,right? When you're teaching them. What do you do?JB Braden:You got to work through the trauma first, you have to. In order for you to get toa point where you can be the person you need to be for your clients, you got to workthrough some shit so to speak, okay. Because of what you're talking about, that translatesand people pick up on that and you're doing your clients a disservice. If you're still in it, weall have things, okay. But we have to work through those things, okay, order to be better forourselves, so that we can be better for our clients and the people that we're supposed toserve, and the people that we that we live with, and that we love. Okay. And so, the goal isnot to hang on to the trauma. But to find out, what do I need to do to move forward? Andhow can I use this to propel me forward, so to speak?Ari Gronich:Right? What's the lesson? And this is a good question to ask what it's a goodquestion to ask yourself, like, every day, what? What's the lesson in this? Right? So, youknow, I know we kind of jumped around a little bit on my show, because this is all aboutcreating a new tomorrow today. And, and that's not a linear conversation. But the fact thatyou and I are both solution oriented people I want to kind of give an always do this on theend of every show is three tips, tricks, skills, things that people can take away immediatelyto create their new tomorrow today and activate their vision for a better world. So, this time,I want three from you, as JB, the speaking coach, and then I want three from you as JB theAchieve Systems leader, who has something to say to the people in our industry, you knowabout business, so..JB Braden: Okay, all right. Well, it's very interesting, but they're probably the same. Andhere's what I mean by that. It goes back to exactly a couple of things that I've already said.First of all, you need to know your why and everything that you do in life, why the hell areyou doing it? Okay, so you need to understand that, whether it be business, relationships,finances, it doesn't matter. What is your why. And you need to understand that. And here'swhat I say, Well, here's what I tell people all the time. And I learned this from one of mymentors, your why there needs to be an emotional connection to your why or what you do.Okay, that is so strong, that no matter what happens, it's not going to knock you off-course.That's the first thing. understand and know your why, and be connected to your why. That'sthe first thing. The second thing is understanding the importance of taking steps each day.Understand what success looks like. And then one of my favorite books is the Slight Edge byJeff also he talks about this. People think success is this quantum leap, it's not.JB Braden:Is consistent doing the right actions consistently over time. Okay, that's whatsuccess really is. We just we just we look at somebody and we look at their success, and wethink it happened overnight. We don't see the 10,000 hours of Malcolm Gladwell talks aboutan outliers that they put in. We don't see that. okay. But you truly want to be successful. Dothose right actions consistently over time. And here's the thing that I tell people, allow timethe opportunity to do its work. Because the time is the catalyst, a lot of times we give up,and we say, well, this isn't working. It takes time. And some things take more time thanothers, we need to give it time. If you're doing the consistent actions over time, 12 monthsfrom now, 20 months, 24 months from now, and I related to, let's just take it back to health.All right, think about this. If you have a goal to lose weight to get in shape and you're doingthe exercises and the workouts three months from now, if you continue to do that, you'regoing to see a little change. 13 months from now, 24 months from now, how much of achange, you're going to see if you can consistently do that action.Ari Gronich:You mean, I can't go to the gym for five hours today and then not go back andhave a six pack abs in a month? No, Oh my god. Oh, and in here, I was doing it all wrong.JB Braden:Right. But see, that's what people think. You see people with ABS you say, oh,man, that's awesome. Man put a lot of work into that shit. Right? So, it's consistent actionsover time. What are the consistent actions over time that you need to do to create thesuccess in your business and your relationships and your finances? Okay, and it's not justquantum leap. So those are the key things that I that I tell people and business and speakingknow your why understand the consistent actions that you need to do over time and beconsistent doing those things. Okay. And so those are key things.Ari Gronich:Yeah. You know, from that perspective, I have a quick story of a patient that isin Pennsylvania, that I've been working with, I'm in Florida, how do you work with a strokevictim after you know, from online, right, but I've been training him because the nursinghome he's in, frankly, should be shut down and reconfigured, they have no idea what they'redoing in there. They basically have told him that if he comes in that, he probably will neverleave. And he's 52 years old, had a stroke, not like an invalid, you know, he's not an elderlyperson who's not going to be capable. But he's from the Bronx. And he's a PR guy who'sbasically toured with rock bands his whole life. As you know, the stage crew, basically, heruns the whole production for rock bands. And, and so he got to get the personality of a guyfrom Brooklyn who's kind of like that, right? They don't have a slowdown button. They don'thave a can't do button, they have, I'm going to go until I break myself button. And so, I'vebeen telling him slow and steady wins the race over and over and over again, slow andsteady, slow and steady build the foundation first slow and steady. So, it's almost been ayear at the end, at the end of April, beginning of May will have been a year that he's been inthis nursing home, where they told him they'll be for the rest of his life. And I get messagesevery single day just about nowadays, with I just stood up in the shower and without holdingmyself up for the first time. And I didn't need to sit in my wheelchair anymore. And like, I'mgoing to get out of this place. And I walked up a grassy hill that was uneven. And you know,it's like he's doing all this progress. At first, it was no progress at all, that he could see thatno progress at all. No progress at all. No prior months and months of I don't see anyprogress. And then all of a sudden, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. Because once you getthat foundation, which is the hardest thing to build, the kitchens easy, the bathroom is easy,the beautiful fixtures are easy once you have the foundation, but if you don't have thefoundation, you'll never have the beautiful structure above. Right? So, this is what I tell him.It sounds like this is kind of the similar thing to what you're saying is so slow and steady bepatient, take your time build your foundation strong and know your why. So, what's yourwhy?JB Braden:Exactly? You're asking me that question? I love it, I love it. My why is to fulfill mydestiny. Okay, my destiny and my calling I know this I learned it a long time ago when I wasa teenager. My why is to empower and inspire people to be their best. I'm called to speakinto other people's lives to be there for other people. Okay. And you know what, know whatthat does for me Ari, in order for me to be there, for other people, I got to be at my best,which means I got to continue growing. Okay, I got to continue being better. Because I'm nogood to anyone else, If I'm not at my best, okay. And so, my best continues to grow. Thatchanges, right? And so, but my why? My true why is to create success in other people'slives. And I do that by creating success in my life. Because I want people to understand thatit's their obligation, it is their duty to create success, because here's the thing that peoplemiss. Here's the thing that people miss, and I learned a long time ago, there are people thatyou haven't even met yet that you're supposed to serve. There are people that you don'teven know yet that they are supposed to learn from you and your life lessons. Okay. Sothat's my why is to make sure people are tapping into their greatness and to beextraordinary, so that they can make the world an extraordinary place, their world anextraordinary place.Ari Gronich:That's awesome. How can people get ahold of you, JB if they want to get aholdof you? And how can they get ahold of Achieve if they're interested in becoming a part ofour family?JB Braden:Oh, good stuff. Well, you can reach out to me at JB@beyondthefieldcoaching,you can go to my website beyondthefieldcoaching.com, those are places you can reach outto me. As far as reaching out to Achieve and learning more about that you can go to ourachieve website which is achieve.com. I think that's right, in there right to achieve.com,achievesystems.com, I knew it did sound right, achievesystems.com that's how you can findout more about Achieve. But you can also contact me and I can connect you with the rightpeople and Achieve as well.Ari Gronich: Awesome. Thank you so much for being on. This has been another episode ofCreate a New Tomorrow. I've had a great time talking to JB Braden, he is a friend andcolleague and absolutely amazing speaking coach, trainer, business person, but really just afriend, mentor and a good person to know he's got a lot of connections. So, if you areneeding anything, you know, feel free to get ahold of him. And you could connect with me aswell if you'd like to learn a little bit more about Achieve Systems, but here is to Creating aNew Tomorrow today activating our vision for a better world. Let's all go out, stop the bulliesstop the silence speak our truth into people so that they too can get inspired. I know for memy why is I have to do this stuff. I don't have really a choice. It's part of the calling that I'mbuilt for. And you know, I'm called as my Why? Why do I do this to wake people up to therealization that we made all this shit up, and we can do better. Andso, let's do better to livetogether collaborate for success. Thank you so much for being here and we'll talk to younext time.

2020 has been tough for a lot of paintball fields.We heard a lot of news about fields closing and this is whyI was excited to here about a new field opening in NFLDMy guests today are the owners of RAPPA NFLD, a upcoming action sportfacility that will host paintball, airsoft and more.We talk about why they decided to open it, about the amazing building its going inand about why people should visit this field and not just for the paintball.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/Maritimepaintballpodcast)

“Doing Donuts in an '87 Mustang 5.0, After My Homie Chris Gets Broken Up With” was first published in The Offing, October 2019. For more of Michael Torres's work, visit michaeltorreswriter.com.Doing Donuts in an '87 Mustang 5.0, After My Homie Chris Gets Broken Up WithI want to argue for the stars but I find them missingthrough this window splattered with mud. Tonight,I sit shotty and do not ask Chris if he's okay. This isthe kind of loyalty I know—how the Mustangmakes eights across a soccer field. I run my handover pennies Pepsi-ed to the center console. That photo of his ex still blocks the speedometer and the nextfew years of his life have already begun to carve a cave. I pluck pennies into my palm. It doesn'ttake long for this story to burn through the field.The safety belt shocks my collar. Chris turns and aims for a gate without easing off the gas. I yell Fuck it to whatever I can't hear him say. And isn't that whyI'm here?—to watch chain-links swell in his headlights. I disappear the pennies with my fist.

As a Global Entrepreneur in Residence at the Founder Institute https://fi.co and chair of the selection committee for the North Bay Angels https://www.northbayangels.com/ I see heaps of pitches. Unfortunately, the same few fundraising mistakes doom most of their efforts. I want to share with you my list of the ten most common fundraising mistakes founders make and how you can avoid them.1 – Only Looking at EquityJust because you can get angel or VC investment does not mean that you should. Some other sources of growth capital don't require selling part of your business.2 – Going in ColdAt the North Bay Angels, companies introduced by a member receive funding several times as often as previously unknown startups. You are at a massive disadvantage if your first interaction with an investor is to put your hand out asking for money.3 – Fundraising too EarlyA large fraction of companies applying to the North Bay Angels are not ready for angel investment. Unfortunately, you typically only get one bite at that apple.4 – Missing the What and WhyI often reach the end of a pitch, having heard all kinds of information but with no idea what the company does or why. I need to be able to picture your business in action and your users interacting with the solution.5 – Failing to Understand Your AudienceYou know your business far too well, or at least I hope you do. You no longer remember what was obvious about your market space and what you learned while working on your business. This leads founders, particularly technical founders, to assume that their audience of investors understands these things too. I assure you that we do not.6 – Weak CommunicationsIn a perfect world, investors would judge your company solely on the quality of your idea, plan, and execution. Unfortunately, we don't live in that world. Investors are unlikely to see past an ugly surface to the gold within.7 – Hiding WeaknessesMany startups have some skeletons in the closet. If it looks like you have been trying to keep these issues hidden, you are violating our trust. And trust is everything in early-stage investing.8 – Failing to Make CommitmentsOften founders are vague about timelines and milestones. I want to know that after this investment, you will release a new version of the product with the following enhancements, grow to some number of customers, and generate a specific amount of revenue. If you can show a history of making and keeping commitments, even better.9 – Raising too Much (or too Little) CapitalSometimes funding applications draw an immediate rejection because they are raising too much money or too little.10 – Failing to Follow-upFinally, follow-up after your introduction, pitch, and any other interaction. Most investors are busy and easily distracted. If you wait a few days to get back to us or set the next meeting following a pitch, I am likely to have forgotten most of what you said and be off chasing some new shiny object.ConclusionFundraising is hard, time-consuming work. Even if you do everything right, the odds of any angel or VC investing in your company are low. But, if you make these unforced errors, the odds quickly drop to zero. You are taking a huge risk as an entrepreneur. Make sure you give yourself the best possible chance of success.

As a Global Entrepreneur in Residence at the Founder Institute https://fi.co and chair of the selection committee for the North Bay Angels https://www.northbayangels.com/ I see heaps of pitches. Unfortunately, the same few fundraising mistakes doom most of their efforts. I want to share with you my list of the ten most common fundraising mistakes founders make and how you can avoid them.1 – Only Looking at EquityJust because you can get angel or VC investment does not mean that you should. Some other sources of growth capital don't require selling part of your business.2 – Going in ColdAt the North Bay Angels, companies introduced by a member receive funding several times as often as previously unknown startups. You are at a massive disadvantage if your first interaction with an investor is to put your hand out asking for money.3 – Fundraising too EarlyA large fraction of companies applying to the North Bay Angels are not ready for angel investment. Unfortunately, you typically only get one bite at that apple.4 – Missing the What and WhyI often reach the end of a pitch, having heard all kinds of information but with no idea what the company does or why. I need to be able to picture your business in action and your users interacting with the solution.5 – Failing to Understand Your AudienceYou know your business far too well, or at least I hope you do. You no longer remember what was obvious about your market space and what you learned while working on your business. This leads founders, particularly technical founders, to assume that their audience of investors understands these things too. I assure you that we do not.6 – Weak CommunicationsIn a perfect world, investors would judge your company solely on the quality of your idea, plan, and execution. Unfortunately, we don't live in that world. Investors are unlikely to see past an ugly surface to the gold within.7 – Hiding WeaknessesMany startups have some skeletons in the closet. If it looks like you have been trying to keep these issues hidden, you are violating our trust. And trust is everything in early-stage investing.8 – Failing to Make CommitmentsOften founders are vague about timelines and milestones. I want to know that after this investment, you will release a new version of the product with the following enhancements, grow to some number of customers, and generate a specific amount of revenue. If you can show a history of making and keeping commitments, even better.9 – Raising too Much (or too Little) CapitalSometimes funding applications draw an immediate rejection because they are raising too much money or too little.10 – Failing to Follow-upFinally, follow-up after your introduction, pitch, and any other interaction. Most investors are busy and easily distracted. If you wait a few days to get back to us or set the next meeting following a pitch, I am likely to have forgotten most of what you said and be off chasing some new shiny object.ConclusionFundraising is hard, time-consuming work. Even if you do everything right, the odds of any angel or VC investing in your company are low. But, if you make these unforced errors, the odds quickly drop to zero. You are taking a huge risk as an entrepreneur. Make sure you give yourself the best possible chance of success.

Show Notes: What I did in December and whyI ran Marcothon, running every day in the month of December a minimum of 3.1 miles or 25 minutes whichever comes first. A personal challenge completely for yourselfIf you are already running consistently it’s not necessarily a difficult physical challenge. But it gets you outside every day in December, it gets you doing physical activity in DecemberMarcothon is one of my mental health-enhancing in the month of December. Personal Leadership Lesson Learned in Marcothon1) Consistent baby steps done daily add up to a lot over time: How you spend your time defines who you are. 2) There is no substitute for doing the work: You can’t outsource it. No one else can do the work for you. 3) You can accomplish more than you think: It takes time and experience to get to the bigger goals. You only get the experience by time and doing the work. 4) A strong body makes us perform better in all aspects of our lives. The better I take care of my body the better I do in all aspects of my life. We can’t discount the mind-body connection. 5) Minimum Goals! The smaller the goal the faster to get out and do the work. Make the hurdle small. Set the bar really low because then on the days you don’t want to do it you are still able to keep the promise to yourself. 6) Accountability matters: I posted in a Facebook group after every run and post it to the group. When you are supporting and cheering others on that matters. Encouraging others ends up being an encouragement to yourself. Be accountable to something greater than yourself. 7) Have a strong WHY! My why wasn’t just about running. It was more about getting myself outside in December moving my body every day and getting outside every day in the darkest month of the year. My WHY pushed me forward when it was hard to get outside8) Commitment, Perseverance: When you make a commitment to yourself and then go back on that commitment you degrade your confidence in yourself. You break trust in yourself. When you keep commitments to yourself you build confidence in yourself back up. You begin to learn that you can follow through on what you’ve told yourself you will do. Resistance always come up when it’s important9) Habit is the most powerful force in your life. Commitment, perseverance only takes you so far. Habit is what drives us. I don’t make New Years Resolutions, but I’m into creating healthy habits and habits that support my goals. 10) The Body is capable of more than we give it credit for. What limitations have you told yourself you have? Challenge the notion of what you think is possible. 11) Building The Most important hardest things into your calendar first. The longer you put off the hard things the harder they become. Eat the Frog First. Get the hardest thing done first thing in the morning. 12) See it through in your mind first: Commitment. When I made the commitment, see it through in your head first. Then take the action steps to get you there. Don’t’ be attached to the outcome. Don’t make a resolution, make a plan, get a coach. Break down the big dreams into small achievable baby steps.

a. do the laundry 洗衣b. get up 起床c. eat/have dinner 吃晚餐d. go to bed 睡觉e. watch TV 看电视f. go home 回家g. eat/have breakfast 吃早餐h. go to work 去上班i. read a book 读书j. listen to music 听音乐k. take/have a shower 洗澡l. go shopping 逛街m. read a newspaper 读报纸n. iron the clothes 熨衣服o. get dressed 打扮/着装p. eat/have lunch 吃中餐举例：写文章的时候，用what/when/how/where/whyI got my iPhone 6s! After placing an order on the internet a month ago, it was delivered to my place this morning. I am so excited! It's the latest model of the iPhone. I finally have my own smartphone! What a wonderful day it is today!（我拿到iPhone 6s了！一个月前在网路上下单后，今天早上送到家裡来。我好兴奋啊！这是最新型的iPhone。我终于有一支自己的智慧型手机了！今天真是美好！）我这天的日记：I had a very busy day!I got up at 7:54 am and was just in time for my live class with my students at 8 o'clock. 昨天我非常的忙碌！我7:54分起床，然后刚好赶上8点和我学生的直播课。Thankfully it could be done online. After that, I went to do some shopping for a wounded friend. I took the groceries to his house and had a chat. 好险，这个课程可以在网上教。之后，我去帮我一个受伤的朋友买些东西，我把杂货带到他的家，然后聊一下天。Around 2:15 pm, I left his house and went to the movie theater with my good friend, Venus, and we saw ‘Fifty Shades Freed'. To my surprise, I really liked it. It was better than the last movie of this series I saw. 大约下午2:15，我离开他家和我的好朋友Venus去电影院一起看「格雷的五十度阴影：自由」，出乎我意料之外，我非常喜欢，它比这个系列的上个电影好看。Then, I had to quickly say goodbye to her and went to the Apple store to have my phone fixed. 然后，我得和我的朋友快快说再见，去苹果店修我的手机。Afterwards, I went to another friend's house for hot pot dinner. I had a lot of food because I didn't have time to eat all day. 后来，我又去了一个朋友家吃火锅。因为一整天都没时间吃东西我一下子吃得好多菜。I ended up having a tummy ache. I arrived at home around midnight and went to bed right away. What a day!结果我肚子疼。我大约半夜才到家，然后就直接睡觉了，真是好充实的一天啊！想要参与更多的外语聊天秘诀，直播互动课程，别忘了关注我的公众微信账号：贵旅特（iflyclub）

a. do the laundry 洗衣b. get up 起床c. eat/have dinner 吃晚餐d. go to bed 睡觉e. watch TV 看电视f. go home 回家g. eat/have breakfast 吃早餐h. go to work 去上班i. read a book 读书j. listen to music 听音乐k. take/have a shower 洗澡l. go shopping 逛街m. read a newspaper 读报纸n. iron the clothes 熨衣服o. get dressed 打扮/着装p. eat/have lunch 吃中餐举例：写文章的时候，用what/when/how/where/whyI got my iPhone 6s! After placing an order on the internet a month ago, it was delivered to my place this morning. I am so excited! It's the latest model of the iPhone. I finally have my own smartphone! What a wonderful day it is today!（我拿到iPhone 6s了！一个月前在网路上下单后，今天早上送到家裡来。我好兴奋啊！这是最新型的iPhone。我终于有一支自己的智慧型手机了！今天真是美好！）我这天的日记：I had a very busy day!I got up at 7:54 am and was just in time for my live class with my students at 8 o'clock. 昨天我非常的忙碌！我7:54分起床，然后刚好赶上8点和我学生的直播课。Thankfully it could be done online. After that, I went to do some shopping for a wounded friend. I took the groceries to his house and had a chat. 好险，这个课程可以在网上教。之后，我去帮我一个受伤的朋友买些东西，我把杂货带到他的家，然后聊一下天。Around 2:15 pm, I left his house and went to the movie theater with my good friend, Venus, and we saw ‘Fifty Shades Freed'. To my surprise, I really liked it. It was better than the last movie of this series I saw. 大约下午2:15，我离开他家和我的好朋友Venus去电影院一起看「格雷的五十度阴影：自由」，出乎我意料之外，我非常喜欢，它比这个系列的上个电影好看。Then, I had to quickly say goodbye to her and went to the Apple store to have my phone fixed. 然后，我得和我的朋友快快说再见，去苹果店修我的手机。Afterwards, I went to another friend's house for hot pot dinner. I had a lot of food because I didn't have time to eat all day. 后来，我又去了一个朋友家吃火锅。因为一整天都没时间吃东西我一下子吃得好多菜。I ended up having a tummy ache. I arrived at home around midnight and went to bed right away. What a day!结果我肚子疼。我大约半夜才到家，然后就直接睡觉了，真是好充实的一天啊！想要参与更多的外语聊天秘诀，直播互动课程，别忘了关注我的公众微信账号：贵旅特（iflyclub）

a. do the laundry 洗衣b. get up 起床c. eat/have dinner 吃晚餐d. go to bed 睡觉e. watch TV 看电视f. go home 回家g. eat/have breakfast 吃早餐h. go to work 去上班i. read a book 读书j. listen to music 听音乐k. take/have a shower 洗澡l. go shopping 逛街m. read a newspaper 读报纸n. iron the clothes 熨衣服o. get dressed 打扮/着装p. eat/have lunch 吃中餐举例：写文章的时候，用what/when/how/where/whyI got my iPhone 6s! After placing an order on the internet a month ago, it was delivered to my place this morning. I am so excited! It's the latest model of the iPhone. I finally have my own smartphone! What a wonderful day it is today!（我拿到iPhone 6s了！一个月前在网路上下单后，今天早上送到家裡来。我好兴奋啊！这是最新型的iPhone。我终于有一支自己的智慧型手机了！今天真是美好！）我这天的日记：I had a very busy day!I got up at 7:54 am and was just in time for my live class with my students at 8 o'clock. 昨天我非常的忙碌！我7:54分起床，然后刚好赶上8点和我学生的直播课。Thankfully it could be done online. After that, I went to do some shopping for a wounded friend. I took the groceries to his house and had a chat. 好险，这个课程可以在网上教。之后，我去帮我一个受伤的朋友买些东西，我把杂货带到他的家，然后聊一下天。Around 2:15 pm, I left his house and went to the movie theater with my good friend, Venus, and we saw ‘Fifty Shades Freed'. To my surprise, I really liked it. It was better than the last movie of this series I saw. 大约下午2:15，我离开他家和我的好朋友Venus去电影院一起看「格雷的五十度阴影：自由」，出乎我意料之外，我非常喜欢，它比这个系列的上个电影好看。Then, I had to quickly say goodbye to her and went to the Apple store to have my phone fixed. 然后，我得和我的朋友快快说再见，去苹果店修我的手机。Afterwards, I went to another friend's house for hot pot dinner. I had a lot of food because I didn't have time to eat all day. 后来，我又去了一个朋友家吃火锅。因为一整天都没时间吃东西我一下子吃得好多菜。I ended up having a tummy ache. I arrived at home around midnight and went to bed right away. What a day!结果我肚子疼。我大约半夜才到家，然后就直接睡觉了，真是好充实的一天啊！想要参与更多的外语聊天秘诀，直播互动课程，别忘了关注我的公众微信账号：贵旅特（iflyclub）

S1 ep 13- Where we are. Where we're from. Where we are going & episode 7B Immigrant Shit Reprise (interlude) life is about accumulation Life is about removal Life is a myriad gumboThrow in what you willTake what is necessary I've been here before So many colors Going for yoursGotta get it for my brother Preacher of peaceBut I needs me my pieceMade alot wrongs I gotta let it beThis world won't stopWe all want alotMamma at Sam's clubI cannot stand forThat any longer This shit is long runGotta get a home runThe homes that we run fromGot me burning lungs upI chase this raceThis skin I face I been on my wayBuild it from the ground upVision that surround usI been throwing years awayI could give it all awayBet you imma hit thoughFrom roaches to rentalsGo find the inspo Ration In this nation That have you hitting pavement Got more love than hate andI still feel low isolate emo tionAnd go for broke manNever againI put that on my rentsTook that from my boyThis art for the coinThe shit that annoyI do it Cause I grew inThe wrong side of lights I don't walk to flyHold on your eyes They meant to expose & I don't got the timeTell you all what I mean If I knew what it meanGet it all with my reachDo you want it meBow and denyYou wow with the liesBut it don't honor the lifeGet you low in the lightWho be looking I been bookingJukingOut and onOn my own in town We don't go for nounsCall it what you willAnd tell it how you feelMy minds effortGot a whole shine specialThe whole 9 levelsWhen you hold out better It's the laws of fireLord if IBreak through Then make roomThe more I hate youThe more you faithfulHands up higher Prayer over riotsDon't do it how you like itThis notion The motion Of more endsGet more friends Get no lensI know when I openI close inIn divineThrough out the timeCut out the vinesStraighten the linesBlock out the shineI don't do it for mineI do it for mindsPreach peace GodAt least we wantLove freedomAnd a whole kingdom Of the slow reruns The lowly sonsWho roll Nissan Don't need nothing Head spinTail wind I won't Set inDevelopment Heaven to holdI cannot goBack in my ways That ain't the cure How I lay And loose my wayAnd go for broke confuse the dayTalk with GodBeen off and onI won't know what you write Show my hands fists gone fightFish don't fry In the kitchen Pay no mindTo they rythmMy beat offOur kingdomLook a lil different Not gonna mention Poppa on tensionMomma don't check inCheck in the counterOpen the mouth upSay nothing Take nothingRules for oppressionMind where you steppingLower the eyesKeep with disguise Don't make anymoreDon't go for the priseFuck kinda life Is thisWe bet(ter) not missWe better then thisPoppa don't worry Skin like curryMind like flurryIn morning Always hurry9-5State of lifeThat make no lifeDon't make those eyesThe day go byAnd they don't mindIt is what isI bet we don't missMissing back homeAnd you can't goStack moneyRack moneyThat moneyHat money That money HarmonyThat moneyAll the things That moneyFreedom timePiece of mindKeep peace in mindBuy that home cross those linesBout that note get all that lifeKids need to prosper Dinning room gossip Need to move over Cards the bulldozer Brake downAnd take downAnd make outWith hate ouchMake a life for the life Of the offspring Getting it right or play or tight You can't all beMellow The morning coffee bellowsPast due bills say helloHell don'tFreeze for no oneIdle minds don't focusMore tensionDon't step in ArenasThat require clean upThe stage is not evenWhen is it ever evenIts not like you identify with edenBack home wasn't no betterStale opportunities take the form of terrorThe cold lumber The low numbersThe slow runnersPace for gracePeg that to faithAnd wash your faceAnd work for futureAnd don't you ruinChances for you and your ilkImmigrant shitImmigrants shiftImmigrants liftsIn search for different In search for better In need of opportunity In need of chanceThere is no romance In assimilation Shed the exoskeleton of motherlandIn the pursuit of accumulation To establish the ground workOf preservation For the offspring For the distant heirs and their generation Save money send it back homeSave your mind attach it to your homeWhy should we atone for chanceBirth plants us in a particular landWe have the free will and choice To uproot and seed life where need be In the pursuit of a fertile and bountiful future Its a new way thinking Pour out the beakerGot more and more reasons To try and get evenWord to my engineerWe be bumping out the fearTrynna figure out the field We wanna live a lilIf our tounges don't taste a meal (mil)Our souls gotta tap the feelsDon't I know itThe mind a oceanI mind my own self Keep me open To my annoyance Where'd I come from what I doGet lost in this maze still think about youThe years are relentless Drown out my checklist Some doors they had closed Still gotta rollTackle these fears Clean out my earsGarbage in gossip Garbage in talk up Meter the outcomeThe words they bout none (nothing)On my mother17 others On my mother There's power in numbersIdeas that I run fromRun from ×2I can't go to nowhere that's no place to be Know what I meanOwn up to lifeHope that I mightThe lawyerThe lone oneLive up to ideasThat become source of fearI chase plansWhose blueprints I dont understand How I build out lifeThat I can't justify It takes alotTo make alot Make salatAnd build a loft Keep ambitions to the skyMy American pieBaked by curried skinAll these cuisines they lure me inDishesWishes This shitVicious CyclesThe tight ropeThe right notesTo keep us in line thoughIs this the life that I've chosen Do you think I could be you for a momentMan come from villageMan came to get itDon't wanna hear itDon't hurt the spirits The sins of my fatherThe blessings of my father's father FartherOur bloodYou call it loveI call it uhDo I live upOr give upTalk to the spirits My orishas Protect this creatureGuide my freedomI want edenThe apple too far from the treeAmerican prism Cuff ambitions No cuffs on leninI won't stop my sentence If you don't stop this sentence This prolonged prison So long to experiment Bind experience Times delirious Times we living inHoodiesVersusHoodVersus Hooded figureFigureIt's aOne in the sameGameConnect fourConnect oneTo gunAnd Many runSo many sonsTo slaughter BarterLifeFor what sounds rightOn Twitter InstaGramGods planGrand design Follow the lineFollow orders Fall off the border That's where we all from Board upBrothels That whore usOut For cloutBlue screens White screensDo you know what I thinkThe American dream so frightening Fried wingsAnd brass knuckles The concrete shuffle Shuttle Darker colored facesShip bodies off to places That have little to know space15 minutes that's a time out15 years for 15 seconds that's a wipe outRecess ain't so sweetAs peanut butter treats The recesses in concrete Shackle us from head to feetBox bodies casket mindsLord probably cast net over timeCapture the 50'sCapture the 60'sCapture the 70'sYou know what those eras singOr sungTunes That plague ruinTombsThat became the wombCradle bodies That hurt nobody I don't love my bodyTell me whyI despise Images who feed my eyes Suckle on irreverence Mother America where is our protection  FOLLOW US ON TWITTER @NIGHTWORLDPODEmail us- nightworldpod@hvbrecordings.comSEASON 1 LOOKING THROUGH THE TUNNEL WILL RUN FROM JUNE UNTIL THE END OF OCTOBER.NIGHT WORLD IS RECORDED AT NIGHT SOUND STUDIOS IN CARRBORO NORTH CAROLINA. Fresh Love, Purple and Blue and Soak are  the instrumentals used in today's episode 13 IS FROM SFRBEATS.COMNIGHT WORLD a PODCAST is written  & performed by Arvid, 8TATE HYE, & Zaf. Glenn Schwartz is our recording engineer. Please leave reviews, subscribe and share this podcast.   

In this episode I talk about whyI believe people refuse to wear a mask and how its silly, I also talk about the Stocks I own and why I own them, finally I talk about my experience with working in Customer Service industries - The Michael Labs Show is a long sit down talk formatted Podcast from myself and friends and guests. The subjects and topics are random and it is designed to be a conversation and free flowing based Podcast. Hope you enjoy! Thank You!

In this episode I discuss whyI needed to repent this week and where God has me rn

So how is this for crazy…I worked day and night for almost 15 year in a business before I broke a million dollar in annual sales…and I implemented one simple strategy that had me break a million dollars in sales in 3 days…but I will tell you more about that laterHere is how I got interested in doing this showMy brand JVology - the perfect Mix of people fun and profit, is a global community of entrepreneurs who GET Win/Win, who understand that redefining their business models to include joint ventures is one of the most powerful ways to be of greater service to our clients AND make more $$ with LESS effort.My tribe asked me for years to do a podcast to broaden our reach and support other entrepreneurs…So The Art and Science of Joint Ventures is a way to share the concepts… feature opportunities and expand our communityHere is the WHYI want to shorten the journey of success for entrepreneurs…There is no need for struggle…Leads are not that difficult to findFor most people their greatest weakness is their greatest strength turned up too LOUD…For entrepreneurs that strength is often their independence and when turned up too loud they end up alone…unsupported and struggling to maintain their business…and their image…The solution is community, connection and joint ventures!Here is the catalyst:I have LIVED the difficulties of attempting to do it on my own…I KNOW the difference between a business model designed for success VS a Business model designed for failureand I want to support entrepreneurs to create and experience success FAST…15 years is TOO LONG to break 7 figures in annual salesI want to give it to you:The most powerful shortcut, the best long term strategy and a direct pathway to success as an entrepreneur…The short version is how I went from taking 15 years to break 7 figures in annual sales to doing it in 3 days is Joint ventures…and if your business is not set up to take advantage of and leverage Joint ventures then there are 3 things I know:You are working far too hard for too littleYou have a business model that primarily focuses on getting one client at a timeThere is an easier way and I want to share it with YOU! Here is what you can expect..Fun fast paced interviews with moving and shaking entrepreneurs from ALL DIFFERENT industries and niches…The latest “In the trenches” strategies and results that you can apply to your business NOW!Actual Joint Venture opportunities that will make you money today!!If there is more you want to know, People you would like to hear from let me know I am happy to share anything that will support you to succeed at Joint ventures!

Khoa, a chemist by day and a bboy by night, discusses his approach to creativity and learning, and how hip hop has shaped his life. Follow @Instagram: noiseofthebrokeboysTwitter: BrokeBoysNoiseListen to the Audio on all Podcast platforms. All The Links Here: https://linktr.ee/NoiseOfTheBrokeBoysA broke degenerate hooligan documents conversations about being a Bboy, Breakin', Hip Hop, Dance, Art, Music, Creativity, Innovation, and the slow subtle crumble of society in audio form.----more----[Music]this episode of noise of the broke boysis brought to you by tardiness ring ringring hey is that your alarm are yousupposed to be somewhere right nowoh you're too cool to be on time becauseyou have a hundred followers on socialmedia okaysorry carry on those of you that do havesomewhere to be but decide to stillexercise tardiness despite not having alegitimate excuse I'm here to say headover to your local shopping departmentand head to the time telling devicesection of the wide selection of 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crow no virus not corona virusalthough this guy might have that aswell but chrono as in time he's got atardiness problem but anyways yet todayI have a special guest he is my friendqua the chemist or he used to go byquality but he was a biter so he changedhis name he is a b-boy he is a actualchemist and he's also a douchebag howare you doing my friend what's upnothing much again my apologies forbeing late today very very cleverimpromptu fake ad as well so what's updude you've been living out here for aminute right so we're out here in LAyou've been out here since college rightcuz you went to UC Irvine oh yeah that'sright you studied chemistry out here orsomething right mmm that's right so yeahI studied um first I studied biologythat I realized I hate memorizing shitso I decided to get into chemistrybecause I thought organic chemistry wasactually surprisingly interesting andkind of fun to do at that time which iscontradictory to what everybody aroundme was saying everyone used to say likeman fuck okay that shit sucks dickthat's the reason why I don't even wantto do chemistry anymoreso but then I was against the green Isuppose in this case so I wouldthat chemistry and then after Igraduated I found a job in the area andwas testing out food oh that's rightyeah you were like a food tester yeah ohman so it was you who is putting allthat freaking coronavirus in the food orwhatever they don't mean a thing I don'tknow I'm just making sure though oh no Iput it in the Modelo virus virus thatPBR viruswell dope dude so yeah so you are achemist and you are also a b-boy so youmoved out here and you've been a b-boysince high school right I think I metyou man what were you probably like afreshman or something so or maybe that'scorrect we met during high school Iofficially started back in middle schoolI I just saw my friend at the Buddhisttemplate I go to every Saturday and mmmhe was one of the I don't know you everheard of Turtle Wax crew back then andSacramento hurdle wax crew I don't knowyeah it's like they I mean that justsounds like someone's racing cars thatnight turtle wax is the stuff that makesyour car real shiny that's right yeah sothat was like his crew back then whatI'll call it rice rocket I went out hedrove a rice rocket back then chewedyeah and it was probably busted too itwas like one of those you know one ofthose messed up like CR X's with like anice body kit but it doesn't matcheverything else is like like the colorof the car is different than the colorof the eye of the body kit oh yeahthat's definitely player those back inthe back in those days did you have arice rocket oh no I couldn't even affordone okay all I had back then was just anice reliable Camrya silver cat we solid color all aroundso okay so okay soand so you've been breaking since middleschool in that I guess for reference youare how old you're almost thirty rightalmost 30 so I'm 29 right now so it's abit about living over 16 years since Istarted breaking it's a long time it'sit's it's so weird to me because likewe're like I mean maybe it's justgetting old I guess in this scenebecause like I remember being the youngperson in the scene and now I'm likelegitimately the old person in the sceneand I'm like oh crap dude what the heckit's kind of weird to just to look atthat cuz you go to like a an event orwhatever a breaking event and you seeyou know 12 year olds and stuff 13 14 1516 all the way up to like 20 year oldsand I'm like dang dude I'm 10 yearsolder than all of you guys so I guess itget it just goes to show you that thisis such a young a young dance a youngculture but you know as we're allgetting older and it's getting morepopular I think we're gonna see more oldpeople older people in the scene soanyways so like what got you intohip-hop cuz you you are from the samecity that I'm from which is Carmichaelmm-hmmin Sacramento which is not necessarilyknown for its hip-hop it's a richhip-hop culture it's not known for itsrich like urban scene it's not knownlike it's known for some cows some oldpeopleand that's probably it I don't know whatelse is it's got a good school districtI guess yeah we definitely do have someof that but yeah so what would what gotyou into to HIPAA I mean I guess yeahyou said you're in the Buddhist templeyou saw someone breaking but is thatwhat hooked you into and then how didyou go back home and then figure out howto do this oh yeah so after I saw myfriend doing like a couple of flares anddude even doing a 90 on concrete and Ishouldn't was hella cool so I want tolearn how to do that so the onlyresource I had back then was I went onto my 56k dial-up internet and I waslooking for b-boy tutorials onlinemm-hmmand I notice always talk to people whichis like kind of frowning apart likelooking at people looking at a b-boytutorials however I was like the onlyresource I had at the time so I justread into these message sports and whateveryone probably knew as b-boy got hardback in the days so that's how I firstgot started and I just startedpracticing flares and windmills in myliving room what some really shittycarpet where you get carpet burns andyou have a big living room so it's likeyou got some room for sure it'sdefinitely like enough space to I getsome breaking in I know your your housewas like freakin big at least that onebig entryway is like really big is thatwhere you did itum that's what I did in my later yearsbut in the beginning actually ya know Ithink by the living room was so prettybig yeah well cause like I'm justcomparing it to my parents living roomand like there wasn't much because itwas more long than it was like yours iswide in all directions my parents waslike shorter in one direction so theyhave the couch there and so I give youtried windmills you definitely kickedthe couch but I know yours I don't thinkyou would hit anythingyeah no you had big room yeah I don'tknow yeah there's definitely my plentyof space in the living room but when Iwas like a super newbie back then Iwould I wanted to try learnon a smooth floor so I had this reallysmall like tile section between theentryway door and the living room so Iwould say it's like maybe just a 5 feetby like I don't know 10 feet rectangleof tile saw we just tried to win thoselove that mmm so that's why I firststarted learning uh windows and that'swhat got me even more into it so it'slike I realized oh I can do this shitmaybe I could try learn some other movesokay and so then 16 years later you'restill into it you work in full time inyour chemistry thing or what what isactually your exact job title so I wentthrough a series of different careerchanges so I work over three years ithas a food chemist and then I realizedthis doesn't pay very well I need tolook for a new job okay but you knowbeing like 2425 a time I don't know whatto fucking do I don't have a strongpassion in this career to be a broke boyyes exactly I would be a broke boy if Ididn't work so all I care about wasalright how do I get more money and Ididn't know what to do at the time so Ijust went on a job board so that's Ilook for anything relevant to my skillsso I found this one small company Ilooked for a chemist it said chemiststhis much salary and assistant projectmanager I was like what the hell is aproject manager sounds pretty cool okayso you manage projects and I guess likein the industry what is the industryexactly because it's not food anymoreright so right now I I work for abiotech company diode that makes mediafor you to develop vaccines or they alsomake stuff to freeze your eggs or makeyour sperm swim faster so I work forthat kind of company right now and I domore of the project management stuff nowrather than the laboratory work wait sothat just made me think of a sperm bankthe is there do you have like a sectionof the building you are kidding that's asperm bank that's like you got dudescoming in they're like hey hey hey guesswhat I got you know that's a goodquestion I don't know we have like areservoir of like semen in thelaboratory or something to put them torun their tests I wouldn't doubt itthat's hella funny okay so you're overthere mix and freaking people's semenall day that's what's upb-boy so you're mixing semen by day anddoing windmills by night that's what'supthat's hella tight' but so okay so whatgot you into chemistry though so becauseyou you were into breaking first and allof a sudden you wanted to get intochemistry and I don't know was that wasthat something you were alwaysinterested in you know as much as I wantto provide like what do you what I calla LinkedIn response which is like a veryoptimistic professional soundingresponse about to be like very genuineand learn about it I have to say I justwanna look for something that will makeme money in the future and chemistryjust seemed like something about morefeasible where hey I can do this shit Ican't say I love it but it's interestingenough for me to keep going with it asat that time like I wasn't sure what toreally do because I grew up in a familywhere as we know like a lot of Asianfamilies especially with Vietnamesefamilies we have a kinda like a I guessa pre-arranged kind of life stage oflife stages where okay you're gonna goto school study biology you're gonnabecome either a pharmacist or a doctoror an ale person nail painter yeah whatis their timeOh nail salon specialist you know salonspecialist is that in your career pathat all I'm not I was like trying to findmy mom so I wouldn't consider it likeyou know no no I'm gonna get into thatyou go mixed semen instead now now Imanage key for the mixed semen no cakesand shit like that's the soap so you'relike hey all you Pezover here you mix my semen for me andthey're like oh yes siryes project manager especially is heylet's get this shit done on time ah I'mabout to get some corporate shaking frommy bossoh yeah he's gonna throw his semen atyou you're not doing your job o'clockhere's my semen now wipe it up and gogive it to your peons oh no I'm justtrying to do my job mandamn dude all right that's tight but Iguess kind of going back to like when Iwas like 18 or younger stages so I nevergot to exercise a lot of my owndecision-making back then so I was justrelying upon the whole okay I'm justgonna follow this preset life stagessystem because there's like guaranteesecurity and money and I realize when Iwas showering for a pharmacist so I it'skind of boring it's kind of a link Imean I'm not gonna knock on that kind ofjob because that makes hella money and Irespect people that go through the wholepharmacy school and go through all drugdealers oh yeah exactly yeah you don'twant to go the drug dealer path that'swhat's up um so the reason I was I'masking about chemistry and stuff andbreaking is because I know that you'veall you grew up in like a situationwhere there was like you were kind ofguided towards a certain path but Ithink breaking most people that get intobreaking are like kind of going againstthe grain usually so I'm curious ifthere was like if any like pushback fromyour parents to not break oh all thetime I remember like when I was in highschool I would try to session at home inthe living room and the living room dayyou saw before and I remember my stepdadwould always tell me to stop doing Jeffthe gymnastics as he would college[Laughter][Music]yeah just what this purpose I guess wecould just use that voice yeah and therewas your mom's voice like oh that'ssupervening me I can't even do thataccent ah she would just tell me likejust just focus on my studies enough badboy kick I give you spanking like thatno your mom's only nice I like her yeahbut um yeah I just never my parents justdidn't support it cuz um my stepdadwould hear me like flopping everyone youhear a lot of thud or he walks out ofhis office and he's just like tappingthe ground like dude you flop bro you'reonly ten but your abiders - yeah hewould basically be doing this so Ididn't really get like a whole lot ofsupport earlier on but I like doing itbecause I thought it was cool so I justkept on doing it and then eventually Iforgot how the story went but I guess myfault my mom finally recognized that heycarla has some dope shit and now insteadlike discouraging me she's not braggingto all her friends about me that's rightso she eventually turned around and Iwas like alright all this rolling on theground is is kind of cool but go be apharmacist but you can roll around onthe ground afterwardsI guess callaghan unspoken compromisebecause she saw that oh hey quadgraduated from college and he did prettywell he got a jobI mean he's still breaking so I guessshe saw some nitrous you can see thatthe breaking didn't really kill my Iguess career path from her eyes youwouldn't call her that yeah yeah and sheprobably also recognized that it's likesomething that you love doing and thatit you know it is a creative outlet toyou and that has a lot of benefitI mean that I think I'm comparing it toto my parents who my mom is an artist mydad is a general contractor and Mikecarpenter furniture makers well heactually made this table so they're bothlike creatives and so they were alwaysyou know looking at breaking as I meanthey would say oh don't break your neckdon't you know crash too hard orwhatever but they always looked at it aslike a good thing because it was like acreative outlet to me and my brother andso they were pretty supportive of itother than don't break your neck don'tdo them head spins but everything elsethey're like yeah that's cool so Iimagine maybe your mom started seeingthat as wellyou know because chemist chemistry andbreaking it seems like such differentthings to me and that's I think why it'sso fascinating to me that the this isthis is your reality is that you havethis very like technical skill set andthen this very creative skill set andI'm very curious about like how those tocoincide could collide with each otherdo you see any kind of overlap with itin terms of like maybe mentality oranything I mean I imagine there's a lotof creativity in the work that you dobut it's just not so apparent to someonewho's stupid like me you wouldn't see ityou know I don't know shit aboutchemistry I got an A in chemistry warmactually I set the curve in that classyeah that's really impressive and onlife you look for people below the curveyeah no I was like uh I'm a chemist dudeand then I'm like okay you gave everyoneI'll just smoke back there and the smokein there like oh dude he's gonna be sucha good chemist and then I'm like nahfuck this shit I'm gonna go study somemath or whatever I don't know mmm bangyou know actually that's a really goodquestion about tying in like I guess thechemistry background went breaking thinghonestly as of right now II kept them pretty separate in thisfight like some sort of unconsciousparallels that probably happen I justnever really gave that much thoughtabout it well here's here's somethingthat maybe you can consider is like forme uh you know I'm an engineer I studiedmath and structural engineering inschool and so I have a very like you'llhave like a very set process I mean it'svery math oriented and so when Iapproach breaking I have kind of like aprocess of doing it in a way you knowwe're not necessarily formulaic althoughit might look that way it's it's morelike so when when you get good at mathright you you're not just memorizinglike a bunch of formulas or somethingyou're understanding the process of howlike numbers work and how you know andvariables and stuff and so what you dois you know how to manipulate you know amathematical equation right or just amathematical statement you know how toalter it because you have all thesetools at your disposal and so I approachbreaking kind of in the same ways whereI like try to learn all these new toolsso that when I come into break I canpull pieces of it and kind of get me towherever I want which is the same thingas math really like if you're trying toget you're trying to turn an equationinto something that's usable so you'reapplying all these different tools soyou know whatever this formula youlearned back in the day or this otherlike substitution you can do these areall little tools you use to alter theequation which I know is somewhatsimilar in chemistry so I I don't knowactually no I now that you bring that upthat kind of like I guess woke upside of my brain that actually have somefeedback on this so I do agree I do seeone parallel at least where I think youcan relate to this square we had like acomplex problem and if we want to beable to figure it out we just break itdown to the simplest of basic form of itand I think that I you I definitely usethat a lot more recently with when Ineed to fix my foundation and breakinglike I realized fuck my footwork lookslike shit right nowand if I want to break it down I alwaysdid no no you're right it looked likeshit for a longest time and it wasn'tuntil like I don't know maybe roughly atleast over two years ago I started totry to fix it and the best way to fix itI guess supposed to break it down onestep at a time because like if I justlook at a six step my own six attackthen yeah I'm like man it looks likecrap yeah I just I just break it down tolike individual steps on how to make itlook crispy yeah yeah exactly and Ithink that's the same with math is likeyou have this equation here and you canmemorize thatbut what's probably more important is ifyou learned how that equation wasderived the process of which and so whenI compare that to a sixth step you havethe Move six steps sure and I you knowyou learned that but then if your sixthstep looks like shit what you should bedoing is looking at each of those sixsteps and figuring out how to make eachof those six steps look better and in away now you have six moves rather thanone move right and so now instead ofdoing a six step you're doing just stepsand you can alter the steps as you asyou want and I think it gives you somuch more depth to your dancing and ifyou apply that to like literally everystep you have I think at least for me Ifound that footwork you're no longerthinking about it in terms of six step 7step 8 step twine whatever all thesestupid steps I don't think of it likethat anymore I just think of it as likea certain movement like I'll move my hipthis way inmy foot that way or whatever on my legor I'll have my head up higher have itlower have my arm reaching out more soit's you know in you combining thosemoves together and then yeah that lookslike a six step but I can also alter itnow it becomes like a you know a twinestep or whatever and so yeah that's thethat's the correlation I have with thetechnical background and in the creativebackground no you're absolutely rightabout that like it was until recentlywhen I've realized the importance oflike committing for example the hook inyour sixth step okay I just thought likeoh it's just a part of the six step butI realized now you gotta make that hooklook really good for that stick stuff tobe really good yeah yes well it it'slike every every piece of the move hasthe ability to make a statement so ifyou want to make the statement at thepart where you're hooking your legaround you want to make sure that thathook looks perfect or at least the wayyou want it so cuz that's gonna be thisthat's gonna be the exclamation point onyour on your sentence right or you knowlike like if you're stepping forwardlike one of the one one of the ways theydo it is like I think it'll be it's likeit's basically a step out but you kindof stick your butt up in the airmm-hmm from a sixth step all you'redoing is just accentuating that one stepyou're still sticking your hips uphigher so you can see it but that sothat now that's the exclamation in thein the sentence so I don't know I thinkhaving a good a good balance ofexclamation points and subtle movementis what really makes it's so interestingthe dancing so interesting I agree Ijust feel like it I guess if you want tocompare it to like if you want to reachup to a broader audience overcharged alla nice pretty picture but we can't drawthis pretty picture without having anice knowing how to draw a nice squarenice triangle a nice nice circle or elseyou have like all these bluff tight-asscircleugly-ass warehouse guys look like shityeah it looks like dope so like okay soin terms of creativity like whatcreatively inspires you in this dancehmm you know honestly the whole createevery part was the one I struggle thehardest with like for the longest timeit wasn't until maybe again like roughlytwo years ago at the same time when Istarted fixing my foundation am Ibreaking that's when my creativityfinally started like flourishing back inthe days hate to admit that I most of mycreativity was I really creativity wasjust watching my friends Freddy's ideaswere just basically biting Oh always beboth to be while fighting shit he's abiter so that was like me back in thedays and then it wasn't until like whenI saw like fixing my foundation when Ican finally learn how to creatively addon stuff so I guess the more of thestory being that it's really importantto really build the basic b-boyfoundation first because that's how tocreate these creativity starts flowingas cliche as that sounds but that shitis true and I wish I learned that likemany years back and I think that wouldhave like expend my growth a lot fasterearly on but moving forward going backto the creativity part and I'll say allof it is just like just starts withworking with my friends whoever Isession with and then anytime someonehas a cool idea we just try to build offof that yeah yeah it's definitelyhelpful to have like a bunch of a groupof people to kind of bounce ideas off ofa lot of times when I train with mybrother well me and him are like reallygood at this cuz we just will dosomething and it's like a you know ashitty movinglike say he does a shitty move and I'llbe like oh can you do this after it andthen he'll try it but he'll do it shittyor whatever and then it wasn't quitewhat I had in my mind but then what hedid actually looks better than what Ihad in my mind or whatever and so thenwe were just like oh that was tight justlike clean that up or whatever and samething for me I'll do a move and I'll belike yo what should I do after this orwhatever and so we just bounce ideas andI think the the part that makes itreally interesting is kind of the Lostin Translation thing because he mighthave an idea for what I'm trying to doand he'll try to say it and I won'tquite understand it but I'll go I thinkI understand let me try it and it'scompletely the diff the wrong thing butit's like he'll see it and go oh thatwas tight actually shit try to do thator whatever so I don't know yeah I justplay it's just playing around reallyit's playing around and and not caring Ithink is the two most important thingsfor me at least I'll actually no I agreejust I guess being in a relaxed state ofmind really does it really is importantfor the creativity part especially Idon't know you have I'm sure you hadthese kind of moments where and eitheryou're in a shower or you're taking youryour your work shits and all of a suddenwhile you're taking a shit you're likeoh I have a dumb idea like it doesrelaxed State oh yeah yeah yeah yeah nouh definitely like you have some weirdideas in the weirdest times yeah cuz Imean it I think what's what's reallyimportant for creativity is to likefully immerse yourself into the momentinto it I mean they call it like a flowstate where like ideas are just flowingand so it's like you're hyper focused inthe moment of you know trying to dosomething and and so I think the timeswhen I'm most creative is when I getthat flow state and I'm hyper focused onjust music and you know just caught upin my own head trying to dosomething in but also not being afraidto just go with the flow you know ifyou've if your body is saying do thisjust try itI mean don't get injured or anything butlike see what happens yeah and thenmaybe maybe it's still maybe it's wackI don't know but actually I was gonnaask you about the whole flow State thingso that's like one of the topics I'vebeen trying to explore a lot morerecently and I've experienced that flowstate where things just likeeverything's you should have just turnsinto going that moment like I guess whatI'm trying to figure out and ask fromyou is how do you obtain this flow statea lot more consistently becausesometimes like you I'll be at practiceI'm like trying to take deep breaths andtry to calm myself but I can't alwaysobtain that flow state consistently so Ijust want to ask you from what's on yourend uh well so yeah I've actually beenreally interested in this topic as welland so I've been listening to a fewpodcasts that have experts in the fieldthat have you know they're like what arethe scientists that study the brainpsychology as AI neurology they're allyes something like that but basicallythey're studying what the brain lookslike in that state so they'll get liketest subjects to like get into thatstate and then they're looking at what'sgoing on in their brain and likefiguring out what was the best way toget them there and I mean I think ithasn't been conclusive of what it is butthey have a few things that help and Imight get this wrong but I guess maybeit's better if I just speak fromexperience what I find is that yeah it'skind of like a meditative exercise in away is like you gotta calm yourself andbecome high like again hyper focused ina certain moment which you know is is ameditative state you're you're notthinking about what anyone else is doingif anyone's looking I mean it's almostlike you're in a room by yourself rightand you're there you're on the ground orwhatever and you're not thinking aboutanyother than music for instance for me forme it's it's the easiest one you know Ihave this music going and it you knowit's like my favorite music or whateverand it's an empty room it's just me Ifind myself getting into that state alot easier because they're there I'm notthere's no one around me to like youknow to give me some kind ofsubconscious stretch distraction yeahyeah I'm not trying to like perform forthem or whatever so not that you can'tdo that with other people around I meanI do that all the time too but you justit's a little bit harder because youhave this thing in the back of your mindthat oh there's these people here orwhatever you can't be crashing all overthe place oh but yeah so like I thinkyeah if you I think the things thatapply to meditation also apply to like aflow State for creativityI don't know I'll have to send you someof the podcasts I've listened to aboutit because it's it's a very interestingsubject and it's not fully understoodbut there are a lot of methods thatpeople have figured out and it's notjust and it's not um it's not only foryou know typical arts things like youcan get into like a float a creativeflow State for really anything andthat's I think that's how a lot of themost the coolest accomplishments havehappened is when people get hyperfocused on something and they date youknow they'll come up with cool ways todo it I mean I have a I have a theorythat Elon Musk is like really good atthis because that guy just has somewild-ass ideas all the time and thenhe's also good at executing them so youknow I feel like he just gets into thiscrazy State of Mind where he's coming upwith all these ideas and then he goesokaylet me reach into my deep bass pocketwith all this money and now let's makeit happen you know and then got a rocketthat's going all over the place andstuff so well yeah kind of continuingoff of that how it's just kind ofcuriouskind of a side question did you startdrinkingmatcha recently because of thel-theanine properties it has the whatElvis theanine l-theanine I have no ideawhat that isI drink it cuz it's good that's goodyeah yeah I don't know yeah it cuz ittastes good and it's I mean like I likecoffee a lot but sometimes coffee giveyou like a headache and stuff and likematcha has some caffeine in it and Idon't know it's I guess it's not soharsh in terms of like caffeine spikeyeah the caffeine spike so I'll drinkmatcha like more often now but I don'tknow I don't know what what isl-theanine with l-theanine it's acomponent in commonly found in matchatea and I've read this recently whereBuddhist monks in Japan which workmatcha tea for the healthy earningbecause l-theanine is supposed to belike this meditative component thathelps your brain relax a lot more soit's supposed to help them with theirmeditation sessions and I started Iguess reading about how to like calm mybreaking down a lot better because I goI go to jams and so you know consciouslyI know that I feel hella nervous and I'mtrying to like take deep breaths andcalm myself and I've been trying to doresearch on how to like optimize thewhole relaxation process you know Istarted buying like the l-theanine selfamazed to see that kind of helps and Iwould say it made my sessions a bitbetter in recent days and be more so Ijust thought that maybe you starteddrinking matcha green chief what else doyou need no but maybe that maybe that'smaybe that's what's been helping me Imean I didn't watch it pretty often soand I drink a lot of tea too so ifthere's any of that l-theanine and likeregular ass tea to you know just regulargood green tea then maybe that helps meI don't know I'll have to look into thatcuz I've never heard of thatI mean shit if it helps then that's dopeI don't know for me I think for me I'vealways just not cared so much about whatother people think soI think that helps me a lot when I go tolike an event I mean obviously that'snot a hundred percent true because I docare I don't want to crash I don't wantto look like shit but I also recognizethe fact that if any of that does happenit's not the end of the world so thatlike helps me a lot and also theexperience you know I've been doing thisfor so long it's kind of like I knowwhat to expectso I've been in this situation you knowI've been dancing in front of people forlike most of my life so it's you knowjust remembering that this isn't I'm nota newcomer to this so I can just jump inand make it happen I think that helpscall me the most you know so do you likeconsciously perform these kind of mentalexercises you want to call it that uh Iguess so ya know I mean there's momentswhen like say you're in a crazy battleand you're just getting blown the fuckup that I think that's when somethingreally sparks up in me because you knowlike back when I used to do martial artss like when you're against someone who'sreally good who's just lighting you upyou know they're like kicking and shitand you're like oh dude this guy's gonnaknock me out or whatever um you get thislike fear in your body and like once youhave a fear you're like I'm definitelygonna lose I'm gonna get fucked up andyou have to like turn something on totell yourself you know no you're notgonna get fucked up you can do this youcan handle it you know what I meanbecause you don't you don't want to getyourself in the defeat state of mindwhen you haven't been defeated yet Imean even if you get knocked out youhaven't really been defeated you want toget back up you know and train getbetter come back at itpercent later on you know yeah so it'sit's it's always been a thing for me todo to to not be defeated by anything andso yeah I think something maybe switcheson in my mind to go itI guess I've kind of trained this iswhere what I like what triggers in mymind is like it is kind of like afeeling of this guy is trying to takesomething from me this guy's trying tolike you know I don't know kidnap myfamily or whatever take some shit fromme you know like I turned some kind oflike thing on in my mind where it's likein a way life or death which then makesme go okay all this scared this is goingaway all this fear is going away cuz Idon't have I have no time for that rightnowyou know I can go back and reflect onthis later but at this moment there's notime for this and so training that Ithink has helped me a lot not that I I'mlike super good at it or anything but Ithink I've gotten a lot better at itjust because it's I'm more conscious ofit so that you like start training yourmental state a lot more recently uhmaybe not super recently I mean withinthe last probably like six or sevenyears it's I think what I've mostlytrained myself in thinking is like whenthat happens and you start having like afear or a doubt in your mind toautomatically go no that's not gonnahappenin fact I'm better than this I got thisI've been in the situation many timesand you know let's just handle this youknow I you know and again yeah this guyis trying to take something away from mewhich then triggers like I don't know ifit's some like primal thing inside likehumans where you know like a maybe it'slike a fight-or-flight kind of feelingso then you get this adrenaline spotso that now you you're more equipped tohandle that situation but yeah I thinkjust training yourself to think aboutthat at that moment that it like thattrigger so when you hit that fear levelautomatically there's a trigger to go nowait that's not gonna happen I mean itdoesn't happen all the time but I I'vegotten better at making that happenprobably in the last six or seven yearsI sounds like you're just challengingthese I guess irrational fears areirrational yes or oral or I don't knowit's I think because I think as humanspeople we all have these instincts inourselves and we just need to know howto trigger them and like you know in inthe situation of a dance battle I thinkmaybe we're all like it maybe doesn'tget naturally triggered all the time foreverybody because you're not really indanger you just freakin somebody spin iton their head or with some shit andyou're like oh I'm just getting blown upor whatever you know but but if you canI guess trigger that to fightfight-or-flight kind of mentality ormaybe not flight fight you're triggeringthe fight in you you get that adrenalinespike I can handle this I'm not gonnarun from it yeah I don't know that's apretty interesting point I think I mightstart taking notes on this yeah I youknow one of the things one of the thingsthat always crossed my mind when I dothis is and I think it helps a lot is isI imagine my grandpa who was in theJapanese internment camps I imagine howhe probably felt as soon as that startedhappening because he was probably likeyou know oh shit everything's gettingtaken from me fuck this you know it's ayeah it's like a firefight mentality atthat moment so I try to think of thatand that gets me better intostate of mind like okay someone's tryingto take something from me let's let'sfight for this you know so I don't knowthat helps me a little bit yeah actuallythat's that's actually a reallyinteresting point I guess try to makethat conscious continual decision yeahthe fight rather than just caving intothe oh fuck I'm getting roasted I'mgetting smoked kind of moment yeah it'sit's hard to though because I also don'ttake myself too seriously so likesometimes if I'm getting blown up I'mlike oh shit that was a tight ass movethough and so I'll like be cheering andthen I'm like oh dude wait what is thefuck are you doing you got it you gottalike battle this guy's so yeah I don'tknow yeah I guess fighting thatlaid-back nough Stu is a little bitchallenging too so I don't know but Idon't have a huge issue with thelaid-back nice just because you knowdancing should be fun so if you're agood if you're laid-back and it's fun Ithink you're doing it right if you'renot having fun then I think you're notdoing it all rightoh no I totally see that if you'rehaving fun and that shit's likecontagious with everybody in the roomyeah uh so um other than breaking do youhave any other creative hobbies mmmother than breaking I would say I don'tknow if cooking counts it's like acreative hobby yeah I think so nice atleast my cooking I don't know how tocook so I'm like oh I want this to tasteuh you know acceptable so let's throwsome soy sauce in it cuz it soy sauce isgood it's a sugar or something all righthopefully this shit tastes good actuallyyou're right though I guess if you learnsome some basic foundations of cookinglike what happens if your food is toosalty use that a little bit of sugar tolike balance it out so I guess in a wayyou're kind of making creative decisionsoptimize your cooking for that momentyeah I mean I've like never learned howto cook properlybut the way I always do it is I justlike taste it and then I go okay this islike a little bland I should add thisand like I'm familiar with flavors ofyou know different spices and stuff so Igo okay this probably would taste goodif I threw a little bit of this on itand then I just freaking do it and if ittastes like shit then whatever I'llstill eat it yeah I of a freestyle justcook okay Cole probably be like this isnasty so you got to eat it okayI mean I've eaten worse I mean what yeahone of my favorite foods is freakinKraft macaroni and cheese with tuna init so you know oh that's the standard iskind of low so I never had thatcombination before I used to eat it allthe time because my grandma would alwayscook it for us cuz it's like I don'tknow the cheapest freakin meal that youcan make for like a bunch of kids youknow it's like at that time probablyKraft macaroni and cheese was like 50cents and tuna can was like 50 cents orwhatever so it's like a dollar and youmake the whole thing and you can feedlike three kids or four kids or whateverdo you know you're right crap is hellacheap I used to live off of that duringmy college days dude I still eat itand it's because I legitimately like itand it's probably because I ate it as akid and it probably tastes disgusting toeverybody else but I like it but ya knowso yeah anyways my standard of cookingis very low and so if I messed up somefood I'll probably still eat it just Imean unless it's just burnt to shit orsomething which which that's happenedbefore you know genic toast dude nothat's some ghetto shit I mean yeah it'ssome ghetto shit just like this podcastbut ya know I think cooking has a lot ofcreativity in it I mean if you thinkabout all the stuff you can do with foodand how people learn how to do thatI don't know I don't know any other waythey could have figured it out otherthan just playing around with shit youknow what I mean like who knew how tomake what caramel what do you do likeyou cook butter and sugar and like yougot to cook it a certain way and itbecomes that you know and it tasteddelicious who knew that that wouldhappen and when you cook it that way Idon't know they probably just threw itall in a pan and started doing it youknow or whatever I don't know yeah Idon't know how like some people come upwith some of them most wild things likewho knew that people would come up withlike haggis for example yeah I'mstuffing some sheeps stomach with randomstuff or like I guess I don't know howpeople would pick open a durian from atree and just break it nope just spikyfruit and break it open and start eatingit like there's a spiky ass heavy fruitthis looks dangerous it's not likesomething that would kill me if it fallson my head and it smells like throw-uplet's eat it yeah no oh man this isactually a really funny thought becauseI was always like there's so manyfreaking poisonous things in the worldlike how the hell did we figure out notto eat you know that one specificmushroom without trial and error bro youknow some cavemen are just like yo goeat that shit real quick and then likethe dude dies and they're like oh Iguess we can't eat that one like howelse do you figure that out you knowthere's some poisonous ass shit you knowfor sure and there's some foods where ifyou don't cook it the right way thenit's poisonous to you which that's evenwilder to me because then that was likeyo go eat that mushroom real quick oh hedied hey let's try it again but let'scook it hey bro eat this cooked mushroomoh you're alive don't we can eat it ifwe cook it seriously what the hell Idon't know how that happened but that'sit if I had a time machine I'd love tolike go back inside and just see thatmoment when the caveman was like you eatthat much quicknah that's crazy I don't know how peopleeven come up with just even like thisokay like I don't know if you ever usefish sauce during cooking yeah and itdoesn't smell too great it's notsomething that you would drink out ofbut it make it gives that amazing mommyin your food when you add it into yourcooking and I don't know how people comeup with like oh no drying a bunch ofanchovies or I get a big-ass barrelright like that's how they cook it orthey make it it's like a bunch of fishjust in a barrel with what like vinegaror something I don't know like hellasalt so I'm Sonia and I don't just clickall the drippings and that just becomesyour fish sauce and yeah it's crazy howsomething with such a strong pungentsmell can make your food like wow andactually some of it is made with likesquid or something right or some kind oflike non fish oh I'm pretty sure some ofthem put like a squid or something youknow I wouldn't be surprised yeah Idon't know that's crazy how people thinkof this stuff back dead yeah I mean fishsauce in general I'm like I wonder ifwhat they did was they just like triedto pickle the fish and they fucked upand they're like yo we're not gonna eatthis fish but this sauce smells kind ofgood let's throw it in our food let'sthrow it in our bland ass food to makeit taste better or you know what maybethey did pickle the fish and the fishwas good but they ran out of the fishand then they're like oh we still need ayou know we need to eat all we have isrice let's pour this fucking sauce on itso it tastes better I mean but that'screativity right they're like dude youknow we fucked up pickling let's try tosee what happensso that's dope so uh how have you takenany like cooking classes or you justkind of figure it out on you on your ownI know Vince is kind of like a he cookshe cooks a lot and I don't he I don'tthink he take took any classes but hewatches a lot of YouTube videos andlearns how to cook from YouTube no Ijust only took like one semester cookingclassduring high school just to get startedand I just learned from my mom growingup so it's all just like informallearning here and there and I justbasically copy off for YouTube videosnowadays just yeah I can't like kind offigure out like this sort of patternbetween like a lot of those videos sothat's how I got startedyeah that's tight so have you ever likecooked a big meal like a Thanksgivingmeal or something for a bunch of peopleit was just kind of a hobby I guess uhbiggest call people I made food for wasyes for my R&D department in my currentcompany and every Ally doing a potluckso I just made like hella Vietnamesespring rolls and as a prettylabor-intensive because you have to likeyou got to cook the pork you got to cookthe shrimp now you got to cut thevegetables now you have to roll everyindividual roll and I probably roll likeI think maybe 40 rows 40 doesn't soundlike much no it takes hella long yeah soI'll show you when you fuck one up andyou're like oh can't make can't give himthis one you gotta keep going if I didthat you know what I would have done isI would have had all the ingredients andthen I would have just had the littlerolls and be like yo just take that dipit in the water and then you roll ityourself you motherfucker I doing thisfor youhey I've made all this food for youthere's a little picked up grabinstruction how to roll your own food doyou not want even do that I would justgo like yeah watch me real quick Booproll all right you're on your own dudeI'm out peace I'm gonna go eat somethingelse oh yeah that's a good way to goabout it have have people figure it outyeah have them figure it out becausesomebody had to figure it out okay socook so cooking um do you have any otherhobbies um that's not a hobby which is Idon't actively practice it I do likedrawing or paintingI took one dose it was a group on takingclasses so are those paint Knights ohyeah yeah like where you drink you getdrunk or whatever in paint yeah exactlyexcept the one I had didn't really havedrink spa I mean usually salon does winein Cape nights and9 - wine bye anyways because I've alwaysdone pain during high school I was likewhy am i first creative outlets - so Iwould say yeah I'm in - I'm not gonnasay I'm takasi or anything but that'sthat's not a creative outlet that I hadin the pastthat's Heights oh so have you done anypaintings recently I would say likeabout two weeks ago okaydid went to like one of those paidnights okay that's pretty dope to justreally explore the something that I'vedone in the past yeah yeah yeah I usedto paint all the time my mom she'sreally into acrylic painting she and sheused to be into like oil painting nowshe does a lot of watercolors too butyou know from a young age she taught mehow to paint and so uh I used to paintall the time so I did this probably 10years ago I made this one I don't knowthis was recent because I started thispodcast and I was like oh I need africkin logo I think I got drunk andpainted this and then that one I don'tremember when I painted that that wasmaybe like a year ago I don't know Idon't really paint too often thoughthose ones over there damn those propthose are oldest fuck actually those areprobably ten years old - and then I havea lot of even older stuff at my parentshouseall right I like painting but I justdon't have a lot of time to do it it'skind of messy - and like back in the daywho I used to do is I would throw acanvas on my bed and I would paint on itcuz I didn't have like a you know aplace to like paint mm-hmm so just usemy bed dad like she has like think sothere's like I have these old sheets andstuff they have like paint all over thembecause I would paint on my beddank cuz I didn't give up here do thissome real bro yeah I live this life dudeI still have those sheets by the way andI actually use themso that's some real broke bullshit butyes I used to paint all the time andyeah I would actually do it a lot moreoften if I had more time more recentlyI've been into mic music production andit's mainly because it's a skill setI've never had before other than I kindof knew how to play piano a little bitbut I'm not good at or anything um soI've been getting more into that butpainting has been a part of my lifesince I was a kiddrawing too and I used to do uh ceramicsas well but I haven't done that in avery very long time actually you've beenexposed to art for like your most ofyour life dead there's a lot ofcreatives in my family I mean my momagain is an art an artist and she's aart teacher and then my dad you knowhe's you know he makes a lot offurniture and so in a way it's he's anartist with wood my grandpa on my mom'sside he's kind of the same way he's acarpenter he made a lot of friends hereand stuff so uh you know and he he's avery creative person because he wouldyou know he could you know he he has thebroke boy mentality to you I mean but Imean he he because he lit he came fromlike war times and stuff he's from fromGermany he was an immigrant in Americahe came here with like not much moneyand stuff so he had to make shit happenso in lieu of not having money to dosomething it was like he had to figureout a way to do it you know and so yougot to have some creativity creativityto make that happen so I've just beensurrounded by that a lot in my life so Idon't know I think that's probably whyI'm so interested in so many creativeoutlets and maybe see the creativity inother things that aren't traditionallylabeled as creative endeavors but youfeel like a lot of those past creativediverse kind of help shape your I guessyour minds framework and when youapproach to breaking because I rememberyou would tell me you bepracticing in your living room just onthe floor just figure out how to go frompoint A to point B differently ya knowit definitely does because I meanthere's an argument to be made thatcreativity is itself just a skill youknow not just in this specific topic orwhatever it's a skill because in a wayyou have to turn a piece of your mind onin a certain way and apply that toanything just like you would have to dowith with like any kind of skill interms of you know building somethingwith your hands you need to you need tohave certain skills to do that rightsame thing I think with creativity isyou need to have you need to have skillsto turn on this piece of your brain todo it and I think if you can do it wellin one thing say breaking I think youcan also probably do it well in otherthings and that's why I think it's beeneasy for me to pick up a lot of things Imean mainly I mean because I started asan artist a painter and I then I gotinto breaking and I think a lot of thoseskills transferred into breaking sobreaking I mean not that it was easy tolearn because it takes a lot of skill tolike pick up on the the the athletics ofit but once I got to that point and theAthletics became easy I think everythingjust started making everything startedclicking more together because now Icould apply this creative creativitythat I've always you know been a it'salways been a part of my life into thisnew thing and the same thing with musicproduction and you know not that I'mgood at it or anything but like ilearning more about music theory andstuff it's just giving me more tools toplay with and then that part of my brainthat lets me play which is creativityboom it just happens i think and so soyou feel like a lot of those actuallyit's kind of started making yourcreativity muscles like get buffer andbufferyeah I guess yeah it's uh yeah I don'tknow it it's is such a weird thing to mebecause cuz yeah people will ask me likewhat how how the hell did you do thisand it's always just it's creativity tome is a broke boy mentality it's likealright here you have these tools nowwhat can you do with it and a lot ofpeople would be like oh I need moretools to do something but I feel like abroke boy would be like well I need todo this so alright all I have is thismicrophone this empty thing of coffeeand this piece of paper let's make afucking podcast bruh you know what Imean so it's like just make it hat thatit's just like make make it happen youknow and then as you refine your toolsmaybe get more tools you come back makeit better make it better make it betterI don't know I guess it kind of fallsAnette on the whole problem solving kindof mindset yeah holla dad it is aproblem-solving mindset for sure it itvery much is because um you know I thinkif you looked at any art endeavor let'ssay a painting you have this picture inyour mind let's see what let's see whatI can do a lot of times you startdrawing or painting or whatever and itcomes out a little differently than whatis in your mind but then you go ohactually I like this let's play aroundwith this a little bit more boom let'skeep playing around and so you're it'sit's like a process of playing and doingat the same time in a way you know Idon't know creativity is a veryinteresting subject to me and that'swhat that's that's why I like talking toother creatives and that's why I madethis podcast to talk to other creativesto kind of more understand that processyou know I'm not like an expert on it oranything I mean I would say I'm not aexpert at allI just know my own process and I thinkthat other people's processes can helpme better refine my own process andhopefully help other people to ifthey're listening so anyways I thinkthat's a good discussion we're hittingthe one hour mark at this point so wecan probably close the show up prettysoon um let's see I got a bunch ofquestions here uh is there anything elseyou want to say before we close out theshow no I'm pretty much good to goactually um well thank you guys forlistening let me set this show up so wecan turn it off because it's a littlebit bad you two bronies hit the jackpot[Laughter]thank you guys for listening um this hasbeen noise of the broke boys with myfriend clawis there any way what's your Instagramand everything where do people where canpeople find you so people can find me atmy Instagram called a quality sesh sothat's KH o al ity SE sh t seshwhat a sesh it's just a short version ofthe word session so that if scream wasintended just to capture all my practiceclips or my breaking clips thoughbecause I it just become kind ofcumbersome of the switch back andforward to my own Instagram accountI decided users that's my primaryInstagram account so I'm pretty surepeople are just clicking around clickingon following my old account and I justnever really likedcheck or update it so you want to followme pleasebut a quality sesh follow him qualitysesh alright thanks for having forshowing up man thank you for having meand fuck you for being late alrightthanks for watching thanks for listeningsorry the show sucks peace[Music][Music]you[Music] 

Darren Wong, a member of the famous dance group the Kinjas, discusses his beginnings in dance and business, and goofs around with some dude.Follow @Instagram: noiseofthebrokeboysTwitter: BrokeBoysNoiseListen to the Audio on all Podcast platforms. All The Links Here: https://linktr.ee/NoiseOfTheBrokeBoysA broke degenerate hooligan documents conversations about being a Bboy, Breakin', Hip Hop, Dance, Art, Music, Creativity, Innovation, and the slow subtle crumble of society in audio form.----more----[Music]this episode of noise of the broke boysis brought to you by cardboard yesthat's right I'm talking about the samecardboard that is used to protect youryear's supply of preparation-h as it isshipped from the warehouse to yourresidence same cardboard that used tospin on your back because you were toobroke and lazy to walk to that freepractice session that your local hip-hopscene provides and yes that samecardboard that was used to make theposter of Justin Bieber that you hide inyour closet don't worry as a truebeliever myself I will not let yoursecret out have you ever wondered whatthat be and cardi B's name stands forwell its board this is car D boardsupplying your local strip club with thefreshest tunes cardboard is smoothstrong and stylish it's the perfectreplacement for all your card stockneeds head down to your local dumpsterand dive right in to pick up the latestshipment of cardboard and have yourselfa cardi board e time and now onto theshow[Music]in this episode I bring in a good dancebuddy I've had since high school webasically came up together as b-boys inthe early 2000s and grew to love hip hopculture together he is a member of theworld famous dance group the kynges andcurrently lives in the SouthernCalifornia area teaching and managingthe various dance schools that thekynges have built from the ground upplease enjoy this episode with my goodfriend Darren Wong hello everybodywelcome to the diarrhea doodoo show thisis noise of the broke boys I am yourhost Kurt rocks key and today I have oneof my oldest dance friends he is amember of the kynges or if you don'tknow they are ninja cosplayers that alsodo dance they do not root Oh cosplay andthen they're also good dancers as wellright I've known this guy for quite awhile I went to high school with him Ihad a crush on his mother yeah she wasmy math teacher and yeah what's up manthis is d-money mr. Darren Wong what'sup yeah so dude I haven't talked to youin a minute when did I last see youprobably my wedding huh yeah becauseyou've been living out in LA for aminute huhyeah probably since 2007yeah and we went to school like irvineright you went to UC irvine you movedout here and have been out here sincethen Yeah right cool um cool so likewhen I first met you um you were alreadylike you already knew what's up withdance I mean you were already kind ofdancing and this was you were a freshmanin high school and I wasJr probably yeah thank Junior so I don'tknow what I was doing hanging out withjuniors I mean hanging out with freshmenwhen I was a junior oh yeah I guess soyeah yeah you were cool and I was uncoolso we like met in the middle a littlebit yes we were about both sophomoresyeah I guess soso when I met you yeah you were alreadyinto dance so like what got you intodance I think like most guys who want todance a girl of course I wanted toimpress a particular girl maybe wiseI think particular girl in like middleschool so I wanted to do breaking cuz Ithought that was like the closest thingI could do since I did martial arts umso then I basically just tried to findany video I could through like illegalway times before YouTube and just learnfrom that just practice in a garage withmy homieand then yeah so did you get the girlnow got different go there oh it allworked outsweet yeah no uh back then that was like2001 Pro yeahdude did the internet yet exist yeahyeah I just remember like going to whatwas it b-boy calm or org or somethingyeah yeah yeah yeah and they had thoselike they had gifts but they're not likethe gifts you see now they were likeyeah it'd be a 10-second thing butthere's only five frames in it so you'relike oh what is he a bad call yeahbecause I remember letti trying to getthat stupid page to load that taught youhow to doturtles yeah and it was a it was a gifof I think Cujo doing him and like I youknow you wait ten minutes for it to loadyeah and then it finally loads and it'sjust like dude and I was like how thehell did he do that like the wholereason I waited so long for this to loadwas to see how to do that in slow motionbut no it skipped like 15 frames so Imissed it allyes yeah stupid b-boy org I hope youdon't exist anymore no actually I hopeyou do but I hope you're listening tothis instead I'm sorry I love your giftsice yeah I downloaded them that's that'sall bad when you're like downloadinggifts you downloaded gifts to like learnhow to break yeah it's the animatedpicture it's yeah that's terriblebut anyways somehow we got to wearanimated gifts to a finalist on world ofdance Thank You b-boy da or you are andyou are the people the People's Choiceforgives so do you still rep PandaExpress so we back when we went to highschool together we went to El Caminohigh school we made this crew togetheras like kind of a joke and we called itPanda Express cute cuz all of us werejust the only Asian kids there and yeahall of us just decided to break is thatAsian Club or is that like breaking ClubI don't know it could be both breakingClub and Asian Club had the same membersso anyways yeah we made it and we calledit Panda Express crew cuz I'm tired youknow we actually yeah we didthat's even funnier that wewe battled people as panda that's thebest part but anyways so since highschool you've like you've had a prettydecorated list of like groups you'vebeen a part ofof course like legendary steps flexibleFlav you were in Cabo modern right youwere leading that crew right yeah yesyears table modern the what would youcall them the hip hop dance choreo danceyeah I feel like there's like multipleteams that you see I cop modern isprobably like one of them one of the topwomen's tops and then the other onewould be CADC which is where mm-hmm Mikeand Anthony the two creators of Kim justcame from actually okay yeah so thenyeah obviously kynges and now you're inunderground flow it is also a Sacramentooh yeah uh so how did you get involvedwith kynges I mean I guess he kind ofalluded to it but yeah so when I was afreshman in college there's this thingcalled Casa dance-off which is like aKorean club basically it's like thisKorean club they put together it's onlyfreshmen so if you're a freshman you'reallowed to compete in like thischoreography showcase basically sobasically every school has their ownteam in their own choreographers sothat's kind of where I met Mike andAnthony at the same time and then at thesame time Victor Kim who used to likemmm yep I know you're trying to elude mebut him yo Victor was telling me like ohyou should go for like either one ofthese cuz he's like you know the topcrews so that I never go in with tabajust cuz they did more breaking piecesand I didn't know like choreo choreo soI went with that and then that's likekind of how I met both of them thoughthrough Casa dance-off cos mm-hmm werethere choreographing mmm and so then youguys they formed they they formed thecrew or conceptualized it or whateverand then they reached out to youyeah so basically the way King justformed was Anthony was going away towork somewhere else so they wanted to doone last showcase together and bringingall the homies that they've alwayswanted to dance with so they just likehand-picked like pretty much the toppeople from each crew that they don'tknew and like we're still friends withand then they don't know case and thenall of a sudden people really liked itand they're like oh shoot this is likesomething we might be able to do it'slike some seven cent money yeah that'sthat's a that's a very normal or like amuch toned down version that I wasthinking it was I thought you guys maybelike went to like a comic-con you're alllike dressed as ninjas and then justlike and then just all of a suddenstarted like dancing and then you'relike oh he's a dancing ninjaoh you're dancing ninja and you're alljust like oh we should join a PowerRangers ninja force oh no wait nevermindlet's uh let's just join it let's make acrew together yeah that would have beenthe cooler origins I guess that that onewas too normal for me so that's what I'mgonna I'm gonna cut out what you justsaid and just say that's whatbut yeah so then okay so then you jointogether and then the underground flowtwins Steven and Michael they joined -they got reached out to and who else doyou have in that crew good it's got alot of yeah you boys I mean it's Victorused to do it in the very beginning okaywhen they were on boob black ops yet sowhat is it ANBU black opsthat's literally from the ANBU black opsyeah so then that was Lin like for surewe were doing a lot of it never you tostuff what the hell and we changed it tojust be you know dancing I don't knowNaruto but that sounds like a reallyterrible BG show ANBU black hot we'relike I don't know some care right wechanged it yeah okay was it roll out thetalkiesno not at all oh yeah you guys wouldhave definitely lost forever we got suedto you you got sued and lost ANBU blackops is off the show okay so that'sthat's dope um so you guys wrapped asthat name eventually came up with kyngeswhat like what is what does kynges meanI guess like I just assumed as ninjasthat are Korean or not a lot of peoplealways guess that it's not the only onekin means family mm-hmm and then I gotdances ninjas so keeping up with thekynges that's what's upso um if people don't know this kyngeseventually went to world of dance whichwas like a TV dance competition showthat had tons of different dancers onthere and like a million-dollar prizeright and so you guys were competing init and you guys were the finalists of itand you lost to got out too late twinsbut should have been these dudes no I'mkidding they're good yeah actually wegot to the finalists for our group soit's like finalists for like soloistsand duo's and then there's finalists forgroups and then there's finalists for itwas like called kids or whatever thatwas yeah so we lost - JLo salsa team JLosalsa team yeahoh they're dope they're dope they'relike definitely high energy I feel okaymaybe I missed I didn't watch the wholeseason I watched like the ending ya knowwhat's confusing different groups it waslike yeah there was a lot and there wasso many different stylesthe other thing well anyway so that'slike that got you guys a lot of Fame andstuff so you guys now are like you knowteaching and then doing shows and stuffso like I guess what what where has thatgotten you now and like what are whatare you guys planning to do in thefuture so actually today we're opening anew studio in downtown LA it's calledthe complex so we have that we have wedid like a Kickstarter IndieGoGo typething for our first studio in MontereyParkmmm called kynges dojo we currently havethree studios I believe in China overall over these Chinamen China a lot nowcuz you got you just got back from Chinalike a couple weeks ago dang so youworried that what's I figured you werethere doing like shows or something yeahyeah so we have a lot of work in Chinanow too so all over the place other thanthat just teaching with around the worldworkshops normal stuff some of the guyschoreographed for like kpop stuff wellthat's that yeah so pretty much anythingto do it dance and music we're trying tobe have our little hands in I guess andthen yeah your your little hands youhave like your little swords yeah how doyou guys actually dance with foot I justknow you walked around like one day someweapons throwing some like yeah you knowuh so okay so in China I wouldn'timagine hip-hop dance is popular inChina but apparently it is now it is itis they started making it mean well youknow how like China's government is theylike time control what people see so nowthey're living like dance be a big thingoh that's so that's why I think it'skind of blowing up a lot more nowthere's a political reason for thatwhy would I don't know money has lessmoney yeah they don't I don't know Idon't know how a China works actuallycuz they're communist country yeah Idon't know how their money works so Igot a lot of it got a lot of it andthey're giving it all to you guys teachthem dance and do shows for that so coolyou're like a that's the most Americanthing you can do dude you're a patriotlet's dump so so like what is the dancescene like in China like I've been toChina because I used to do shows withNBA dance shows and so I went to inChina probably like two or three yearsago and so there was like a huge youknow huge NBA crowd there the and they'dfreaking love basketball and but we werethere and it seemed like they reallyenjoyed what we were doing too but theymaybe weren't too familiar with it Iguessbut it seemed like a cool place to likefor it to blow up someday and I knowthat the breaking song is starting togrow a little bit sorry my dog isbarking H so I so another breaking sceneis starting to blow up a little bit moreand you're seeing more cruising stuffcome from there I don't know if otherhip-hop styles are like you know there'screws in those Styles coming from Chinabut seems like it's a growing place yeahfor sureI think the dancers over there likethey're hungry to like learn so likethey're leveling up pretty quickly sothey're coming coming from the lead foreverybody are they dressed as ninjasno they got them like Crouching TigerHidden Dragon outfit you know what I'mtalking aboutthe kung-fu outfit they dress likenormal hip-hop what if they made a movielike Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon butit was just dancing maybe and they juststart flying yeah it would like fly ohyeah it's heavy dope we could just makeit I would watch it but I'm not Chineseit needs to be in Chinese and then likehave subtitles or whatever like dub overit I guess you could do that just justsay something else and then your mouthis moving differently oh man yeah that'sa I think it's ideas are yeah yeah thatsounds like a quick way to get introuble so um yeah so that's that'stight that you guys are in China doinglike a lot of them cool things umso aside from teaching and stuff arethere any big shows that you guys areworking on like I'm comparing you tolike maybe Jabbawockeez who lives whohave a show out in Vegas that theyperform and then they also had starteddoing some traveling thing or whateverbut yeah they do they're doing showslike all over the place is that like inthe cards for you guys to I think we'vealways talked about doing like our owntheater show I think there's just somuch going on right now that there'salways something in the background thatis happening as far as I know I thinkwe're just more focused right now onjust one this complex opening and thenyeah from there we'll see where thatleads I guess mm-hmmbut I'm pretty sure in the future wewould love to do it like a theater showyeah you know it's just funya know I think that that's that's acool way to like let to like let yourstuff shine and you get full control oflike what yeah well assuming you getfull control I mean probably you got towork with a lot of the other theaterpeople to make sure that they're gettingwhat they need out of it but but yeahyou got a lot more control of like whatyou can do you could say I want thisexact music I want to extend this partso long you know compared I'm comparingit to like something like what you didon world of danceyou would do a set that's like a minutelong or whatever um have to getcopyrights versus music yeah oh yeahthere's a lot of stuff you got to do thered tape there's a lot of red tape yeahthat and so many hoops to jump throughand then there's a lot of productionstaff that are like giving you ordersdifferent so I imagine that that kind oflike I don't know it lets you notcontrol it as much as you probably wantyou know like because I imagine when Ido stuff I go oh I have this vision forand then someone goes oh well that songdoesn't work yeah oh well actuallysuccessful what the heck was I gonna sayI was gonna ask you something I forgotoh so at your studio at your dancestudio like you have now you have threeyou said three Studios in China and youhave two in LA and are you planning togo anywhere else like he's always likean option I mean people always ask us toopen studios you know near them so EastCoast yeah maybeokay like pretty much anywhere is anoption I think I guess it probablydepends on where you're people areplanning to go cuz you obviously need tohave some of your people there mhm allof them are here right yeah I would saymost of us are here and then we havepartners called sino stage those are ourpartners in China okay I run that overtherenow do the students that go there dothey have to wear ninja outfits no Imean if you want you can what if Idislike you know we go to Disneylandit's like okay to dress up I feel likeif you're walking it's like mashed upyou're like cool you're like no one'sgonna look at you what would I have towear it for them to like kick me outit's like what's the limit here what ifI was with a ninja next question alrightthat's that's the end of that so I withwith all your successI imagine you've you've seen a lot oflike cool things in your life so can youtell me maybe about like the coolestthing you've seen like that dance hasbrought you to or like the mostinspirational or even the funniest orall three as a good question I guess thecoolest would have to be world of dancethat was like just being surrounded bypretty much everybody's like a master intheir craft you're basically like in aroom with like a bunch of masters andthey're just like vibing out togethereveryone's like friendly so there waslike no hate or beef so that was coolfor sure I think that was like thenumber one memory traveling wise I wouldsay maybe going to like the Philippineslike seeing like there's like a dota 2championship or something like that ohthe video game yeah so is like a Oh achampionship and then like the GreenRanger was there and the Green Rangerwas he actually dressed up as the greenI don't know does he wear like regularclothes cuz that's what they wouldalways do right I don't know if I wasthe green I would do that all except Iwouldn't want to be the Green Ranger I'dprobably be the what I hate the blackRanger well you know because cuz Zakfrom the original one would be likelet's go he'd like strike he'd be he'ddo a body roll into a fighting stanceand it was like the dough fish at leastwhen I was ten years old or wheneverwhatever I was when I watched that I waslike that's how you fight then I gotbeat up your sets man bring it backno I just want to getstreet fights like that just like a whatdid you say to me let's goit's morphin time then like as I'm doingthat they're like beating me up I knowyeah my yeah that sounds like a bad ideadon't do that but it was cool to watchyeah cuz he was just they were justfighting do you know the little likepudding whatever I never understood thatactually I don't understand cuz it justwas like clay and then they all of asudden we're like things and you justkicked them once again dead and I'm likeman you guys screwed up a little bitlike if you put all your faith in liketaking over the world with those littlethings like dude you guys or why didn'tyou just form one giant putty baby yeahseriously like why did you pick thatlittle that little guy why didn't youjust make a Godzillayeah and just say hey you don't need tofight nobody just walk around this cityand you know by the time the PowerRangers like get there like thingtogether and kick you like half the cityalready destroyed man I should have beenRita Rapunzel it's time to conquer earthlet's make look like monsters to getbeat up High School is basically righthigh schoolers led by a giant head ledby a giant head who's never fought a dayin his lifecome on dude Power Rangers jeez I don'tknow shout out the Power Rangers don'tsponsor this show Oh God look at me ohdamn um so like what about what is thereany like movie opportunities like in theworks for you guys mm good question Idon't know I mean I feel like most dancemovies don't go as far as like theydon't you would want them to go yeah Imean but yes oviedo yes I actuallyalways thought about writing a scriptfor a movie that had to do withhip-hop and breaking mmmthat would show more of like the therawness behind it because every dancemovie I've seen has always beencheesiest yeah yeah yeah sure it's likeyou know I'll watch beach street orwhatever just to see the dancing andthen as soon as they start talkingoh you biters you ain't worth the beatthat's what's the point I turned it offyou know I mean but so I've alwayswanted to see a movie like that and Icompare it to eight milelike with mmm where he you know he'sjust like it's almost just a story of emand em really but like there's I feellike they just put like a really grittylike you know veil over it to show themore raw side of like anti popping andyou know battle rapping and stuff and soI always thought that that'd be dope totake that on with with breaking yeah letme double its um yeah I don't know thattelling the real story of like someone'slife versus a little bit cuz like thisis dance somebody yeah the things thathave always bothered me and it kind ofwhy I started this podcast was because Iwould always see like Hollywoodportrayal of breaking and hip-hop danceand it's always like let's do hit hayeah and I'm like alright yeah maybe Imean if you're you know I'm not tryingto like shame that but there's more toit than then hip-hop there's uh you knowlike what I mean I saw some stupid videoof like there's a girl going like andyou know like it was some weird dantlike teaching how to do some stupiddance in a music video and I was likethat's where we he was so it was funnybut uh it might have been a jokeactually um but it was just like yeahthat's not the hip-hop Ino so I wantedto like show the other side of it andtalk to people who've like you knowlived through it and are still livingthrough it to put that on there so thatyou know people who don't know hip-hopdon't just get the one-sided view fromthe Hollywood perspective because reallyHollywoodI think the way Hollywood looks at isthey go okay what is cool looking mm-hmmthis isn't the highlight of our movie ora commercial or whatever we just want tosee some cool moves and look and peoplesmiling it's donewhich is fine like I think that's cooltoo cuz you know any exposure is goodexposure but if that's all you ever seeyou go all like what is breaking what iship-hop what is this it's people smilingand doing backflips and second there's alot more to it than that there's like ahuge hustle behind it there's you knowlong hours at a studio or you know onthe concrete if you like that I meanthere's long there's long hours justlike putting into your craft and stuffthat I think you miss if you only see itso but yeah so that's why I wanted tobring you on because you obviously havegone through the hustle and a struggleto get to where you are and that's whyI've brought on a lot of other peopleand yeah yeah maybe someday I'll write amovie huh sounds dope I think it's justlike if you really understood like howmuch even like physically we go throughthe risk we're putting our bodiesthrough even not just for like now butin the future like it's kind of it'skind of crazythat's great because it's like it's likegetting beat up every day you're notlike you're not getting black eyesyou're definitely doing stuff that Imean I guess as an example like when Iwas learning windmills I would go homeevery day with like a bruise on myshoulder a bruise on my hip and then Icome back the next day and do it againand then the bruza just get bigger andbigger and bigger and then you know andthen tons of scars and then eventually Ithink my body just got used to and waslike alright you win no more no morebruises and then it stopped bruising andit stopped hurting but I'm pretty surethat's gonna correct it for sure forsure so I take care of our bodies gottatake care you're younger you know wedidn't stretch we do just like jump inand just go for ityeah that was I do that all the timeand it wasn't until I tore my meniscusmy right knee and like the doctor waslike you're gonna need surgery you'renever gonna break again and I like it'sover for meand then yes I was just like tripping atthat point and trying to figure out youknow how to how to how to get throughthat and so then I put I just took likea whole year off from dance and just letit heal I was like really scared ofgetting surgery because I had a bunch offriends that got the surgery yeah and sothen um they they think they couldn'tlike dance so as much as they couldafter the surgery saw a super scared ofit and so I just said what do I have tolose let me just quit like a year andsee what happens and if I really can'tmove then I'll go and get a surgery andthat's it the doctor told me that thatwouldn't be a big deal so to wait for itas long as I'm not like did you getsurgery no I didn't get surgery right soI took the whole healed by cell took theyeah and I went to a physical therapistworked out my knee got a lot of like youknow work done on it and and you knowand I just rested a long time cuz I toremy meniscus in high school remember yeahand then you got like hand hopsyeah you got crazy hand offs hey Ididn't know you like tort and dude nosurgery that's crazyyeah cuz I was scared I probably I meanat that moment if I was in a differentmysaid I probably would have got it but Iwas like dude if I get a surgery and Idon't need it and or and like messes itup because the surgery basically youhave a flap of your meniscus which is abunch of cartilage between your knees isit's like torn and doing all sorts ofwaving in the wind and stuff and itfirst of all cartilage takes a long timeto heal so it's it's gonna it's gonnahave problems and then the surgery isthey like they cut it off yeah yeahright move it clean it so then if it'snot perfect like now there's rubbingthere so then they say what happens islike you can get arthritis and lots ofproblems later on in your life too andthen your knee is gonna functiondifferently now that that's not therecuz you you essentially do need thatthere but yeah because it's it's causingmore problems it's causing pain they'llcut it off yeah yeah and so I guess minehealed was kind of healing weird and soI just went to the physical therapistand they would just break down scartissue until it eventually got into agood place where it doesn't bother meand so it really doesn't bother meeither I mean it's good like once in awhile like if it's cold or somethingI'll feel like a little bit of pain orold man like that so that there's thatand then I man I injured my shouldersboth of my shoulders this one was frommy right shoulder was on a I waspracticing do you know what a Arabiantwist flip is it's like you it's likeyou kind of jump like you're gonnabackflip and then you twist 180 and thenfront flip so I was doing that so like Ihave to throw you have to throw your armkind of like this and I threw it way toohard enough effed up my rotator cuff andat that time I was learning air flaresand I had probably like two or three atthat time and so I had a quit Air flightso I lost my air flares and then I coulddude I had to quit breaking for a longtime because of that came back zero airflares zero Arabian twist and a lot ofother moves that I lost yeah okay then Istarted working again getting all thesethings backand then I was working with the warriorsat the time and we were doing theseshows and there was this crazy trickthat we were trying to figure out how todo where I don't you actually me and youmade this trick with Vince the one youknow the one where Vince what's do thesplits on the ground and then I wouldjump and then you jump in here maybe Iwas jumping over you I don't rememberbut we would do that so we were doingthat except our friend Quang who's likethe buffest guy I know he's doing likehis planche like push-ups down whereVince would have been and then one guyjumps over him and then I was jumpingover that guy and then we got anotherguy who gets thrown over here so it waslike it all happens at the same time soit goes boom yeah and so while we werepracticing this he missed oh and landedstraight on me so I went headfirst intothe ground hit my shoulders super hardand it just like effed on my shoulderand so I went to the doctor they're likeoh yeah this is like a common linebackerinjury and I was like yeah cuz I'm afreak yeah look at me and yeah just likedon't don't do whatever you're doing andI'm like okay what do I do and they'relike that's all you can do all right sothen then I lost air flares again andnow my now both shoulders are messed upand this is my catching shoulder soundslike it's hard to get yeah I always likenot to not too happy with that so I haveair flares a long time ago man I can hittwo once in a while if I can deal withthe pain in the shoulder but if I'm notdown to do that and usually I'm not it'slike yeah it's kind of like oh yeah yeahthat's an airflow I guess so yeah that'sthat's the pains of life of a b-boyyeah yeah so do you have any um chronicinjuries from dancing hmm I'm stilldealing with the torn back even to thecorner back yeahso I think I like twisted wrong I feellike I tore a muscle in it hasn't beenconfirmed yet but when was that that'sbeen like two years I've been every nowand then my back will pull so I can'teven like bend over to get my caroh that's been fun sometimes I get likea weird back pain it's not like nearlyas bad but sometimes it'll be like oohwhat's going on like it makes it so ifyou're like in a weird position it likehurts a lot soon I don't know yeah forsure that the meniscus tear sucked forsure when I try to learn air flares backin the day my shoulder went out of placeI stopped doing that oh yeah I was thereI don't know if you're doing air flarebut I remember you did pop your shoulderat once yeah doing a hand holding fundid yeah I'm lucky I didn't and thatnever happened to me because that wouldbe and we were yelling back then too solike yeah you pop it probably whenyou're a sophomore dude that sucksyeah and then you just started learninghand hops on the other hand yeah andlike you know now you can hand off for ayear yeah it's like riding a bike Inever practice them anymoreright and you could just do it yeah heyno weird I get to hand hops threehandouts maybe so you know yeah yeah Ineed a break my soul no - well actuallyI guess that's a good thing for you likeif you ever lost your legs just be likei'm handi-capable hop around dude thatis sickbut yeah injuries for sure suck yeahit's like you know it was like in theend it's my job so like if somethinggoes wrong mm-hmm game overoh I want to see if like dance startsblowing up to the point where it's likea sport and stuff like you know I get Iguess with the Olympics and stuff I wantto see you know if it was at the NBAlevel and they had all these likeyou know good doctors and stuff likeworking with these athletes to keeptheir bodies like perfectly how goodpeople would get yeah for sure becauseI'm 100% with that yeah I mean Artie Ithink already you're seeing like it's alot of now little kids who probablytheir parents were b-boys or B girlsback in the day are now like ten yearsold and you know double flipping overyeah each other kids are crazy now yeahthey do stuff that I'm like I'm nevergonna try that in my yeah well so it'slike I think you see that now and thenso you're seeing kids that are good fromlike birth essentially and you know Ithink once it becomes like a biggersport and maybe there's more researchinto like how to keep people in physicalgood physical shape for itI think melding those two thingstogether dude you're gonna see somecrazy like 20 year olds like literallyflying just I don't know yeah they'relike it's triple air flares yeah likeit's nothing yeah you like the futurefor like at least our generations likemore coaching them I feel like if itdoes become a sport it's like oh yeahfor sure there's no y generation becomecoaches where the teams which would becreated there the era of like gettingbroke off figuring out how to do it intheir the era of like oh you got brokeoff and can teach me how to be a pro capso now I can do it when I'm 10 a dude ohyeah and then when they have kids whoknowsbe crazy or I don't know maybe breakingdoesn't exist at that time I know manOlympics oh yeah I know where hopefullyit goes through you yeah is it throughor no I think it's like 90% sure I don'tknow I'm pretty sure it's going throughI don't want to say 100 because I don'tknowyeah what are your thoughts on thatthings though I think as long as theyfind like a fair judging system likeeven like it like you have to becertified to judge you knowthere's like you do understand thecriteria so it's not so like biased oranything I think that's what will makeit legit versus people seeing it once inthe Olympics and then all of a suddenthey're like oh no you just can't do itbecause you know just because it wasmessed up the first time so mm-hmm aslong as they get it right the first timeit'll last possible yeah I think I thinkso too i think it's it's tight that it'sin the Olympics and I'm really excitedto see it there and I think we've as ascene come very far to get it here but Ialso am worried that the scene is notready for it because for one there's alot of pushback against it which that'sgonna be problems and then yeah thejudging I think there's a there's a lotof hump to get over to make that rightbecause I think basically judging now iskind of like you winno you just point to the dude that youthink wins that ain't gonna cut it forthe Olympics I mean because they're usedto points and whatever and like oh yeahhe wins he got ten points and I give himzero like that doesn't that ain't gonnawork dude okay so I think yeah everybodyeverybody in the scene really needs tocome together think about how to do thisand I'm not just talking about like theoh Jesus I'm talking about anybody hasseen who has a good idea to like try tofigure it out because I think ifanything has been proven is that wedon't have a good judging system otherthan I mean I think one two three pointto who you think wins is fine with meat from like an artistic perspectivebecause I look at it is like there'sthese judges here and they have theirown artistic perspective on what theythink is good and then pointing at it isjust saying my opinion is this that Ilike this more and if the Olympics isokay with that that's cool but the in inand simply because that kind of goeswell with the way breaking was formedand how we've always done it so it staystrue to how we do itI think there's holes in that for surebut I don't think that's gonna fly withthe Olympics because it's kind of like Ithink what they're gonna say is well ifsomebody who's watching says well whydid that guy win and then they go ohbecause Darren from kin just said sobecause he wore a ninja costume and theother guy didn't okay well alrightthat's how you get an Olympic medal thenyeah yes so that's not gonna fly youknow what I mean so but then again Ithink giving points to specific criteriaI have some reservations on that becauseI think it breaks down a little bit whenyou go okay if you imagine a guy who'sreally well-rounded going against a guywho's really good at maybe a few thingsI can still see either of those guyswinning but a judging system thattailors more to all-around person thatguy is always gonna win in that batterso I have some problems with that it'sit's I like to always compare it topainting you know where you're judgingan art piece so say you had like theMona Lisa and you're looking at I forgetthe name of the painting but like it'sPicasso's painting of the war where it'slike all this cubism kind of thingthere's like a lot of like chaos goingon there's a lot of argue if you werecomparing those and they were back likesay those paintings are battling righthow do you judge that yeah because inone way you could say oh the realism onthis one is much better than that sothey win but then you could say but thisemotion hereI see more emotion in it I want that onebut then you go oh but the Mona Lisasmile has this slight little like thingto it so maybe it's like inner pain orwhatever so there's an emotion in thattoo I so there's like a huge failure ahuge debate that gets involved with itand so how do you put criteria to thatand it could like ruin the art form witha really coolbe like okay I'm just gonna do for workjust to get the points you know yeahversus like if that's not what youfeeling then fucking don't which is sowhich is why I really think the pointand point to who you think wins is agood system because it's at least goingokay it's being true to your impressinglike an audience right and showing yourart form to that audience and theaudience is saying okay I want over thatand the audience being the judge so Ithink it's good that it stays true tothat and they're they they're able toput their own creative opinion into intothe choice of the winner so I thinkthat's good but I do think that itbreaks down a little bit so I was I'vebeen playing with the idea of like ifthere was just like 20 judges andthey're all from different areas of theworld they've all you know maybe hadso-and-so amount of experience 20 yearsor whatever renowned or whatever youknow dancers and they're set in in theroom as like the crowd and they're justjudging and so you get 20 differentpoints of people so basically yoursystem is a point system of 20 totalpoints yeah and and your score is justbased on who that got that particularaudience member points to I think that'sfine like I think this is as long as thejudges are like credentialed whateverthey need to do to get to that spot likethen it's like I feel like that is thefairest way first is doing like you getpoints for footwork or top rocks styleand power you know I mean yeah becausethat's so subjective and yeah I mean Ithere you can get in long debates aboutpeople going like that's not to me I godude who cares yeah like you're sayingthat's footwork and that's not for itit's something cares like you knowI mean that guy's expression of a girl'sexpression or whatever they think it issoon it's just dancing it's just amovement it's either cool or it's notdope or it's not so why don't you justjudge on that rather his a pinkietouched the ground like what the hellare you even talking about do yaunless the footwork competition dudeyeah dude I think footwork competitionsare the stupidest thing and this is yeahthis is a hot take and probably a yeah Iwould imagine a lot of people would bemad at this but I think footworkcompetitions are the stupidest shit everbecause it's like it's just a way forpeople to like go in and go hey look atme I I did footwork based on this modelof what everyone thinks footwork is andI win cool like not to diss anybodywho's done thatyou know usually the person who wins isvery good at what they do but I've seenpeople that have very good what I wouldconsider footwork and they lose and it'sbecause what they're doing is maybe notmainstream footwork you know I think themainstream footwork is probably thatkind of like Rocksteady style a littlebit where it's like very step II a lotof pauses and stuff little littlefreezes in their footwork but I've seenlike more flowy styles where they'redoing sweeps and they go on to theground and like kind of rolled aroundand stuff I'm like they're still usingtheir feet so it's hard to say that it'snot footwork in my opinion like evolvingwith yeah when when I look at thefootwork competition the way I break itdown is there it's it's a way of sayingyou're not allowed to do all this otherstuff and if you do it in this littlebubble then you win and if you touch anyof this stuff out here you lose which Imean I guess that's kind of cool but atthe end of the day it's kind of like alet's tie our one hand behind our backand let's box that's what it is to meit's not like a real boxing match ittie both of your hands together and liketry to bite each other you know what Imeanwhich that's probably fun to watch andI'm not gonna lieforward battles are fun to watch but Idon't know if you're talking aboutstraight up breaking dude I don't know Ithink it's stupid yeah that's my hottake don't hate me for it so we'recoming up on 50 minutes or so yeah yeahdude so I know recently you got engagedright so how's it yeah how's that goinglike are you guys planning your weddingand everything yeah already got thevenue Oh dope next year already gotphotographer videographer got the foodyou know Nate course ten course dangdude what happened then got theguestlist going hmm you're invited ofcourse oh the wife right now ready Ionly get me in February yeah Februarynext year not oh dude did you already ohyeah okay well okay so you guys aretaking that's good me and Keiko took ourtime too we heard we were engaged forlike two yearsoh yeah yeah we were engaged for liketwo years I think and then we um cuz shewas in nursing school at the time andthen I was I don't think I was doinganything but I wasn't gonna plan thewedding I mean that's real how much howmuch of your opinion is going into thewebsite I'll try the food with you youdude yeah every single one of my ideasout the door I mean you got to wear thesocks though he pulled it offdo you yeah so he's talking aboutI goofed on everyone at my wedding yeahcuz I like to make jokes I think I madethe joke too Caicos mother because shewas like you know really involved liketrying to like have us do all thesethings and I was like I think we'regonna have a ninja turtle themed weddingand she's just like shocked went throughher face like are you serious like ifshe she takes everything really seriousso that's why I said it she freaked outfor a second and then um I was justsaying oh I'm just messing aroundoh and I remember she asked me like whatis what kind of food are you gonna getI'm just getting a taco truck yeah somesome fear in her face ya know hey I'llstill stick by this opinion I think thatif you did your wedding at like a nicepark and you got a taco truck to comethrough and you know you Davi say haveto get it on a good day for weather butyou get a taco truck and you just invitelots of people you get a really dope DJand then make sure you know the city'snot trippin out about sound and stuffand just did your wedding just like as aalmost like a barbecue you know I thinkthat would be the funnest thing ever beso like less formal yeahtakes out the you need to sit by thisperson it's like yeah like cuz I I'vealways hated like the formality ofthings and so when we started planningour wedding I was like dude this is notfor me man okay let's just like cuz Iwas seriously saying let's just go tothe the courthouse and sign papers inwhatever and then just do it like thatbut I knew that wasn't gonna fly so wehad to dothing and I thought it was a good wayyeah I mean Keiko did a good jobfiguring out what to do and I helped alot with like decorations I guessbecause she would say pay build this andbecause I know how to build so I wouldgo and build it for her so I built awhole bunch of stuff for her or for usand over here come on yeah so yeah itturned out and you know we were lookingfor a good venue so we went to a lot ofdifferent ones and we went to that oneit was about the flower farm in Loomisnear Sacramento so I really liked it shereally liked it because there was likethese chickens they wander around and wethought it was like the funniest thingever because I grew up near Fair Oakswhich there's chickens wandering aroundall the time so it was like something Iwas used to a little bit and I used tohave chickens as a kid tooand so I was like oh this is fun shethought it was funny too so we're likeyeah let's do that's why we chose thatplace they don't spot for sure and soyeah we I mean we made it we took thatand I guess the reason we chose it wasbecause having it on like a somewhatfarm setting like a nice farm settingtook away a little bit of the formalityso I was happy with that so I think itturned out well I need super dope to seeold friends and stuff too yeah that wascool yeah and then yeah during theceremony I got to goof on everybodybecause I said hey well my vows you knowI said all my vows and ice and then atthe end I said Sancta cake oh I wish Ihad because I basically said I'm gladthat you let me do a surprise TeenageMutant Ninja Turtle themed wedding andshe was like oh what and then I likelift up my pants and I had a NinjaTurtles sock on to get clothes thereyeah so I like to it was a good I thinkthat was good yeahyeah yeah cuz I was just I was reallytrying to not make it so forth like Idon't know it when I lost it even likewhat the new job is playing like thatwas just oh yeah yeah I'd already setthe tone like it was gonna formal youknow I was yeah yeah exactly like weyeah we played new jobbies it wasanother reflection no reflection eternaland that's mainly because I think whenme and Keiko first started dating I usedto play that song a lot of snot way Idon't know I can't remember but yeah shereally likes that song tooso anyway so yeah we played that becauseit was like we're trying to set the toneas like this is like have some fun andyou know chill yeah relax have a goodpeople going yeah y'all formalin shityeah you mean like the adults they'relike somewhere dressed in suits they'rejust like hanging do my dad was anotherthing cuz I knew for sure my dad wasgonna wear and so everyone was likeasking me like what's the attire and Iwas like well I don't care what you wearI'll probably be wearing a suit causeit's my wedding day but like you're notgonna offend me if you wear freakingboard shorts yeah in fact I wouldprobably think that's really funny and agood idea cuz it would probably be hotthat day but and then I would say butfor sure I know my dad is not wearing asuit so he kind of just already set thedress code yeah cuz I could tell him towear a suit and he ain't gonna wear sothat's already that's a dress code rightthereso like Caicos doubt of saying oh shemight wear aa tux or whatever I was like you knowyou wear whatever you want to wear butfor sure my dad is not gonna wear a suitso if you're trying to match him likeyou're gonna be looking a lot flier thanhis you know he's gonna come in with hiswork boots is like new pair of jeansthat and I'm talking like he'll havethese black jeans and what he does iswhen he works he has the black jeansthey get holes in them so then like ayear later he buys a new pair so he justbought his new pair without wedding andthen but he's probably still wearingthem working now you know what I mean sohe just you know was smart about what orI don't know I don't know yes so that'sthat's my dad so yeah dude so is likeyour wedding planning like is that goingpretty good like our young Jen's in theindustry you know oh really okay doesn'tmake up artists for wedding so she knowsa lot of people just makes it easier soshe she's not stressing I guess yougotta you're more than a year out yeahyou guys probably aren't stress in themyeah her friends a wedding planner - soodo hired her so just take all thestress away you know he did most of theplanning I think you did most of theplanning paid for everything and we hada day of coordinator though so we workedwith them and then I had a friend whowas a deejay so he did all that and hedid all the lighting and stuff yeahRJ shoutout to him a supreme soul he wasalso on TV don't music to you yeah yeahI saw well yeah I really wanted goodthat was the one thing about the weddingthat I really wanted was good mean Ithink so I was like sure like cuz Ithought of it like this if the weddingsucks it's probably because of a DJ -yeah or if you didn't like really enjoyit and also I also thought is like ifthe wedding really sucks how to save itso it all hinges on a good DJcrazy cuz I it's like yep if somethinggoes bad and the DJ just goes you knowhe plays some sound and in society youknow and then place you know some dopetrack and then people just are like youknow getting down to itdude you save the wedding's like justimagine it you know oh no the weddingthere the the bride spilled wine allover her white dress and the DJ goes ohno yo dude drop that beat son wedding issaved right I don't know I'm not a wayand I'd probably get a divorce yeah wellI would say just enjoy the weddingplanning time try to like have fun withthem for sure don't let it stress youout yeah cuz anything is just likesigning checks like yeah ya know a lotof money like sign checks for sure onetime in your life oh yeah one time inyour life yeah just I think I have astory that like puts it into perspectivewe were like this was like paid probablylike a month or two out from the weddingcake I was like looking at the differentdesserts to have so she wanted all theselike cookies and she like startedbreaking down and crying and stuff whatare you crying aboutshe's like oh my god everything's goingwrong these cookies they're they theydon't have like chocolate cookies theyhave chocolate chip cookie you know itwas like well so they don't havechocolate cookies they got chocolatechip oh oh no I don't have the secondbest cookie they have the first bestcookwhy are you crying and I was like heyjust I started laughing and she's likegetting mad at me and I'm like but heretake a step back and think about whatyou're saying you're like crying aboutcookies like let's just be happy we canhave cookies yeah everybody lovescookies and if you don't love a cookielike fuck you don't you know so yeah andthen I think she she like kind ofstarted laughing too and then she's likeoh yeah it's just the stress yeah solet's just laugh at this how does thecookie and then realize that cookies aregood and everybody loves cookies so ifyou don't like this particular cookieyou can go to cookie hell any cookiesponsors out there yeah mrs. field I'mtrying to remember the other one ChipsAhoywhere you at abisco hey Nabisco I needsome cookies dude you can pay me oh damnso okay so let's like try to wrap theshow up all right so what's in thefuture for you got for you and now thatyou're getting married like starting upthese studios like obviously stilldancing like where do you see this goinglike you're gonna keep teaching you'regonna like do more shows or kind of getaway from there and start coaching orwhatever I don't know yeah I feel likemy body is starting to tell me dude youneed to slow down so I think well rightnow I'm working on a program to helptheir dance teachers or upcoming danceteachers like make money withoutdepending on like you know likeauditions or even a dance studio likejust make it on your own just hustle onyour own and just understand how to uselike marketing and you know salesmanshipandstuff to do it all on your own so youcan just make a living off of that andteach the students that you want toteach me a life can you teach me how tomake a good podcast can you got it dudeI'll do the marketing for you I do thisbut this my guess is already good manI'm killing it I'm terrible at marketingdude I don't even use social media likemuch I mean I use Facebook but it'susually to talk to my mom mm-hmm or whoyou know someone in my family yeah anduh yeah so like a marketing on socialmedia is a nightmare for me yeah likejust thinking about it I'm like dude Idon't want to do that yeah yeah no Ifeel you I feel like especially ourgeneration and so one was like you feellike you have to post a bunch of stuff Idon't like post yeah I feel like it'snot about that it's more about like ifyou understand like how you know likewhen we buy stuff it's usually throughsomebody paying for an ad to show ohyeah yeah I mean so I feel like if youunderstand that like yes you're payingmoney to get your stuff out there but itwill come back to you but a lot of ourgeneration they just want to do it forfreeso that's why they just post a bunch ofstuff but it's not doing anything yeahthere's a lot of tools out there thatlike use the data that it tracks to likesell you stuff seems kind of like theysee like once they see your ad and youcan talk and they click you can targetthem to like you know show up later inthe Blake whoa yeah we've seen thatDarrin has looked up big black manytimes follow me around many likes to doit late at night so next time he'sscrolling through Instagram let's givehim oh hey Kurt you sell big black allthose we got the guy exactly so subduedI have the sides calm like how many canI put you down for a whole bag a bushelthe pockets is led up to that one ohyeah yeahyeah here's an announcement I'm startingmy business a big black bill does calmand check it Darren is my first and onlycustomer thank you you know buying myhost star is somebody owns that domainyeah probably somebody does hey pleasesponsor this I don't care see that'd befunny if like a hundred episodes in I[Laughter]was gonna ask you something again um yesokay so you're um yeah so you're gettingyou're like teaching people how to likemarket themselves and stuff and okay sothat's like you're building like kind ofa business around it yeah okay yeahthat's definitely something that isuseful to a lot of people mainly to mefreelancers you know it's hard out thereyeah it's it's hardwell yeah cuz we I think we live in aworld of freelancing now cuz I've justbeen noticing that a lot of like typicaljobs careers are like getting outsourcednow to freelancers because the overheadfor them is a lot lower they can droptheir costs a little bit then thecompany also doesn't need to pay forlike and health benefits and whateverother benefits they use so it's kind oflike in their best interest to do thatand you know sometimes you know they'repaying more maybe like per hour for afreelancer but saving a lot of moneybecause they don't need to do deal withany of the stuff that they deal with andthey just go okay here's the here's theproject here's the scope and you'regonna do it for this feed I am and thenit's like easier for them to do dobusiness that wayI've noticed that that's been happeninga lot and there's a lot ofresources out there for freelancers tolike be able to do that so yeah I see inlike 10 years it's probably gonna be alot of that yeah sure you know and Iwork so I work as an engineer and Icould see that easily happening yeah Imean it already does happen to us but Ican easily see a lot of companiesstepping back from having full-timeemployees to maybe only like a couple ofthem and then they outsource everythingright sure um cuz yeah I already know ofcompanies that do that right now so sothat's cool so that's your you'reworking on that kind of stuff so beforewe close the show is there any likeshout outs or any kind of plugs you wantto give mmmjust follow me at at Darren our Wang andcheck out my website Darren are wongkomand dude thanks for having me I feellike I haven't seen you in so longyeah nobody even before the wedding Ihaven't seen you in a while yeah causeright after the wedding I moved out hereno I moved down here before the weddingand then during the wedding we were justplanning so we were just locked up inhere and then after the wedding yeah andthen after the wedding we were like justwe didn't want to go anywhere you'relike I'm sick of the world yeah yeahjust you know yeah so we were justchilling and then yeah we moved here andoh no so now I'm closer to you and mankick it more yeah so okay cool oh don'tyou have a YouTube channel you teachyour son or something I do if you wantto check that out it's also Darren ourWang so pretty much give you time andDarren are Wong I'm all over the placeso pornhub yeah Darren our Wang you'llsee some wild stuff sponsored by likedildos comm dope dude so yeah shout outto your pornhub account shout out toyour YouTube shout out to your Instagramyour Facebook your big black dildoaccount tight man well it's been greathaving you I'd love to have you back Ifeel like I could talk to you foreverum there's tons of other stuff I cantalk to you about good luck to you goodluck to kynges man I'd love to have aninja outfit if you got any of them hiI'm Jim asked I need I need a Halloweencostume so I was thinking about wearingthis for Halloween and then changing theway that I normally dress to just beninja so if you got spare ninja costumesI'm not picky just or if there's asponsor ninja costumes calm what's upwhere you atI need some sponsors oh please you knowI'll get paid in ninja cough okay youcan pay me and ninja stars dude orwhatever and into whatever else and thenjust have smoke bombs you pay me insmoke bombplease oh god okay thanks thankseverybody for listening sorry this showsucks[Music][Music]you[Music]  

Many of us are working on trying to just figure his life out as we go. We are rookies at this and just doing the best we can… today I share a little bit about the 5 Ws of Life. 
Who, What, When, Where, and WhyI hope something in the show today inspires you to RISE UP out of your current situation and live your best life! Find & connect with Kim more at https://www.choosetoriseup.com/ IG: kjpmeyer FB: choosetoriseup Help Support this podcast by- sharing it with a friend - posting it on your social media - donating funds to keep it going @kim-meyer-49 on Venmo *all funds go towards producing this podcast

Many of us are working on trying to just figure his life out as we go. We are rookies at this and just doing the best we can… today I share a little bit about the 5 Ws of Life. 
Who, What, When, Where, and WhyI hope something in the show today inspires you to RISE UP out of your current situation and live your best life! Find & connect with Kim more at https://www.choosetoriseup.com/ IG: kjpmeyer FB: choosetoriseup Help Support this podcast by- sharing it with a friend - posting it on your social media - donating funds to keep it going @kim-meyer-49 on Venmo *all funds go towards producing this podcast

In this episode, Dan discusses the book "So Good They Can't Ignore You" by Cal Newport and applies some of its main points to teaching. He examines what deliberate practice is and how it could be the key to revolutionise your approach to teaching and learning. He terms this Deliberate Teaching.Deliberate Teaching, become so good they can't ignore you by Daniel Jackson is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.Join the Facebook CommunitySo Good they can't ignore youAt the heart of the book is the message that to follow your passion is bad advice instead you should develop yourself as a craftsman. Become so good at your work that it becomes your passion.Become a craftsmanMaster rare and valuable skills to develop career capital. To do this you need to use deliberate practice.Erikson stated that expert performance is not based on talent but on practice. Cal further identifies that it is not JUST hours of practice, but hours of deliberate practiceDeliberate PracticeStretch yourself just beyond where you are comfortable with the goal to improve your skills or knowledge in this area. This applies to everything from Math to Creative arts. Deliberate practice requiresKnowledge of the “chunks” or criteria for improved performancePractice that stretches you in one of those chunks identified to improve but that is not so far it seems unattainableFeedback in relation to whether you are getting closer to this goal Key to this is the deliberate practice of a skill at a higher level in order to master the skill.WhyI think it applies to our teaching and student learningStudents need to be able to practice skills in relation to goals and criteria and receive feedback frequently in relation to these to really master a skillAs a teacher, shouldn't we be applying such insights into our teaching practiceIn order for us to improve as teachers, we need to know what expert teaching looks like, understand the criteria we can use to describe and explain it. We should then be developing at least one of these all the time, by extending ourselves in this area and getting feedback with relation to the goals.Deliberate TeachingChose a specific area of expert teaching and identify ways to improve this. EgIf you struggle to use Tech in your classroom, find an expert in this area and get some advice on what you can do to begin to stretch yourself. Stretch yourself in this area, which does not just mean put it in practice. First, you need to learn about it. Maybe do a course, like the online courses at TeachersPD.net or read a book in this area. Then try it… but not on your ownIt's time to open our doors!!Get feedback from people you know are good in the area you are looking to improveIf you need to record your lesson and share it with others for feedback. I am actually looking to set this system up in TeachersPD over the coming weeks where teachers will record and share and provide each other with feedback that is specific to the area we are looking to improve.The more feedback you can get the better. And keep repeating the process until you have improved this area and then move to another criterion and Repeat!!Lifelong learningThis will model lifelong learning for the studentsYou will begin to provide better teaching because you are constantly looking to improve your practice and this will naturally help students to learn the skills required for lifelong learning and possibly the motivationYou can apply deliberate practice to your student's learning as well, helping them to master what they are doing, because as Cal Newport identifies throughout this book, it is through mastering a skill or an area of knowledge, becoming an expert… that is what creates passion and leads to satisfaction in life.Give it a go!Find an expertLearn about the area you want to improveTry it and get feedback and repeat until you master i..

欢迎收听今天的早安英文，今天来教大家一首易学又经典的英文歌曲。这期节目的笔记我们已经整理在下方了。如果还想获得这首歌下半部分的音频以及笔记，欢迎大家来关注我们的威信公众号「早安英文」，回复"0”即可。更多有意思的英语干货也在等着你哦！——————「微信」或者「微博」搜索关注［早安英文］，查看更多有趣实用的中英双语节目。[Verse 1]An empty street, an empty house# an nemty street, an nemty houseA hole inside my heart# ə ho lin sai my hartI'm all alone, the rooms are getting smaller# ə mall lə lone 的 room zar ge din smallerI wonder how, I wonder why# 啊 wonder how 啊 wonder whyI wonder where they are# 啊 wonder 歪 they 眼⼉儿The days we had the songs, we sang together# 的 day 嘴 hæ 的 song 嘴 sæn təgether[Pre-Chorus]And oh, my love, I'm holding on forever# an ⾖豆 my love əm ho din non fə reverReaching for the love that seems so far# reaching for ðə love 的 seem so fa:[Chorus]So I say a little prayer# so 啊 say 夜 泪lo prayerAnd hope my dreams will take me there# 恩 no mai dream zil 忒 me thereWhere the skies are blue# 外 的 sky 咋 blueTo see you once again, my love# tə C U 王 ⾊色 gain my loveOverseas from coast to coast# over C s from ⼝口s 的 ⼝口 stTo find a place I love the most# tə fin 的 play sai love 的 mostWhere the fields are green# 外 的 feel 泽 greenTo see you once again my love# 的 C U 王 ⾊色 gain my love[感谢造化]作者:Jörgen ElofssonPer MagnussonDavid KreugerPelle Nylén制作⼈人:Per MagnussonDavid Kreuger[找到我]新浪微博:@良凌罗

This week the boys chat with local talent Jamie-Lee Griffiths of Jumbo Dragon!EPISODE NOTES:Running out of energyNo batteriesWill I surviveIf I’ve got no fightNever seems to work at allRunning out of timeDon’t matter if I tryWill I surviveIf I’ve got no timeNever seems to work at allIf I’m six feet underDrowning in my thoughtsWill I surviveDo you know whyI can’t sleep at nightIf my heart is freeBut my brain’s locked upWill I surviveDo you know whyI can’t sleep at night(Chorus)Got a blood running through my veins ohTelling me to give up on the game ohTelling me not to trust myselfGive up on myself woahI’m unstableOh and a little too ableTo give up on everythingSo don’t put no weight on meNo weight on me yeahNo weight on me ohOh no weight on me ohRunning out of steamAre you feeling meWill I surviveIf I’ve got no fightNever seems to work at allIf I’m empty insideAnd I can’t see a lightWill I surviveIf I’ve got no lightNever seems to work at allIf I’m six feet underDrowning in my thoughtsWill I surviveDo you know whyI can’t sleep at nightIf my heart is freeBut my brain’s locked upWill I surviveDo you know whyI can’t sleep at night(Chorus x 2)Be sure to Follow My Songs Suck on FacebookCheck out Your Man Alex Smith! on Facebook, Bandcamp, Spotify & iTunesCheck out James's other podcast Unfeatured Articles! on Facebook & iTunesAnd check out the other great podcasts from That's Not Canon Productionswww.thatsnotcanonproductions.com

Find your voice - Episode 17- "Wonderfulness of Life" - Louise Blyth #17 Part 1Tagline: "Be the captain of your fate and master of your soul"Louise Blyth, is an incredible lady who has experienced losing the love of her life, George Blyth tragically from cancer. With cancer now affecting 1 in 2 families it is a common occurrence so many of us face in our day to day life. But unlike any other story Louise world took a massive turn upon the sad death of her spouse and soul mate.Experiencing a supernatural event during his last few days Louise beliefs, perceptions, outlook and whole world had been turned around where she found herself finding, what she describes as "the greatest love all of us could ever know"A 2 part special episode, this incredible story does not lean on an emotional tale which will have you in tears of sadness, despite its tragic theme. Instead, tears of happiness seeing someone recover from grief and finding a bigger purpose and understanding of her being in the world takes over the story's narrative and leaves you feeling rather refreshingly happy that in such a sad circumstance someone can continue their life in a positive, fulfilling way.Now a widow of 2 children, Louise has created The Wonderfulness of Life which focuses on, Happiness being a choice and a state of mind.I am sure you will all agree this story truly warranted two episodes and if anyone can take anything positive away from this, it is to cherish all the moments we have with our loves ones and find blessings in whatever cards we are dealt in life.Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Website: https://www.thewonderfulnessoflife.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/louise-blyth-207a7a49Instagram: https://instagram.com/wonderfulness_of_lifeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/louise.Blyth83Have an awesome day#JustDeuIt #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people thank you for tuning into another episode of find your voice myname is Aren and as always I am thehost of the show so before I begin thisannouncement I just want to say amassive massive massive thank you toevery single one of you who havelistened to this show I also want to saya massive thank you to anyone who haspreviously listened to his show and lefta review because it's your reviews thatI've helped us get into the news and notworthy on iTunes now this is no smallfeat this is actually an incredibleachievement and the more I research itthey're more proud I actually feel butmore importantly I'm so proud of myguests and I'm so grateful that theywere able to share their journey but I'malso so happy to have such loyallisteners like yourselves to reallysupport this movement and that's exactlywhat it is it's a movement it's abouttrying to inspire people try and put apositive beacon of light into the worldand really try and get everyone to livetheir best life combat their excuses andreally change their perception andmindset so without rambling on too muchwe have a really really excitingtwo-part episode coming up for you nownow this is actually our first evertwo-part episode and conscious of yourtime which is obviously our biggest andmost important commodity I'm gonna jumpstraight into this one okay so I justwant to start by thanking Louise for hertime and coming onto the show today toshare her story which I'm sure you'reall gonna find absolutely inspirationalso Louise how are you doing todayI'm good thank you I'm good fantasticfantastic so I just want to say thankyou I appreciate you and I'm reallylooking forward to this one so this wasactually a recommendation from somebodyelse you may haveone heard previously on a podcast it'sepisode number fourteen and it's my betdaily Rylan it's something that I urgeall of you to check out because it wasactually within the first four hours itgot the most number of listenstraightaway so it's a great hit and I'drecommend you all going back to thathowever moving on now we have anotherfantastic guest in Lewis so Louise Ithink it's really important for thelisteners to understand your story andunderstand a little bit about yourselfas well if you if you wouldn't mind ifyou could just kind of give us aninsight into yourself a little bit aboutyour journey and what basically bringsyou here today yeah no worries so and ifI'm completely honest I never thoughtthree even four years ago that I wouldbe someone that would be sat beinginterviewed on a podcast talking aboutthe subject that I'm going to bring tothe table today which is lossbereavement and life after livingthrough sort of that kind of trauma soso my story is from nottingham fromrobin hood that's where i kind of growup grew up and spent my childhood had afantastic childhood my parents reallysort of put myself over the first I waskind of one of those people at schoolthat was not really super cool but alsoI hope not too much of a mega geek andyou know you did did the normal stuffkind of growing up going into nightclubsprobably too young being carried out ofnightclubs after having drink too muchso my friends before say probably tooyoung and went away to university at 18where I studied French and actuallylived abroad for a year when I was 19which was quite young and that was Isuppose my first experience if I'm beingbrutally honest of life if that makessense so in terms of really realizingthings around loneliness relationshipsbeing able to kind of go it alone and dothings for yourself because essentiallywhen you're on your own in a foreigncountry you have no one else to rely onother than yourself and I and so thatwas that was really really kind of bigexperience in my life and graduated inin 2006 probably like many so you reallyexpect it about what life had to offerme and had one of these huge plansaround what I thought I was gonna be andwhat car is thought I was gonna driveand what house I wanted to have hadn'tmet kind of anyone special at that pointthere's been a few a few boys but no onewho'd kind of really made me sort of situp and take notice and in 2006 I wasaccepted on to a training scheme agraduate training scheme and that waskind of a supposed to start of where mylife really really started to change soI I started there in September and on myfirst day in fact before my my first dayon the induction day I met George who Iwould fall in love with and marry so wewere part of a group of about 30 peoplehe will join together and we had a greattime it was like being at university youknow me we were there training togetherliving together all became really reallygreat friends but he was the guy thatkind of more than anyone else you knowwas not never first I on any level I youknow I remember thinking oh my gosh thisguy's so confident you know he's reallysort of sure of himself but we justbecame really great friends and we usedto would talk all the time and then itwas that that Christmas so this is theSeptember when we started our job and itwas that Christmas when we actually kindof had our first kiss so he'd he'dreally really raison he said when hefirst were in the business oh well I'mgonna be I'm gonna be in Edinburgh soI'm gonna have a hub burn a party andwe're all gonna come to Edinburgh andhave this holiday party and I rememberthinking oh my god who is this guy likethey're so confidentso anyway true to his words you knowfour months later there we all were sortof twenty or so others at his flat in inEdinburgh and that's kind of whereGeorge and I had our first kissNew Year's 2006 2007 and after that youknow my life my life changed in aninstant I know for people that arelistening that of maybe you know you'vemet someone that they know that theywon't spend the rest of their life withwhen you meet that special person youknow really it is everything that you'veever hoped for it is kind of like themovies and the songsand it's it's truly beautiful it's areally amazing experience and we knew weknew from the outset that we hadsomething special I think that often youdo you know it was more than just afriendship it was a kind of deeprespectful sort of love it was it was itwas powerful you know and so we kind ofwent on living our lives together youknow as what happens when you meet theperson that you want to spend your lifewith you know you stop being you stopbeing as our lives became more and moreintertwined so we we lived apart welived togetherwe vented together we bought a housetogether his kind of his career wentfrom kind of great amazing as he kind ofcharged through the ranks from corporateperspective we were engaged in 2010 wewere married in 2011I felt pregnant we had off this babyquite quickly which was just a hugeblessing and we it gave birth to of thisson in 2013 so for all intents andpurposes we were the couple that thathad it all we were probably the peopleand I hugely recognize this that peoplelook to in kind of discipline oh howthey got this you know like they'vethey've met young they've both got goodjobs they're doing really well hopefullythey thought we were nice people youknow we had we had a nice house we drovenice cars we had a you know we had wedecided we wanted to have a baby and itjust was easy we got pregnant and I hadno problems with my pregnancy so youknow we were on to a good thing life waslife was really really great and then wedecided to have another baby and I gotpregnant very easily again and shortlyafter office and was born we moved houseso we relocated back to Nottingham surebecause by this point we're living downsouth because that's like the street sirI paid gold and then whilst I waspregnant with our second son George justhad this overwhelming feeling which Ican come back to and talk about somemore and as we kept kind of maybe deeperinto the interview there that we had tomove that we had to move back to myhometown andum so we we bought a house when I wassix months pregnant and moved after ourson was just born to me with an 8 weekold baby at that time that's when Georgestarted to be presenting with symptomsthat just weren't you know wasn't welland we couldn't get to the bottom of ithe was wrong he constantly had a cold hewas always tiredhe was really rundown he had low reallyreally low energy levels and because ofthe stage and the circumstance of ourlife in that we had two incredibly youngchildren Zoey at this point you know wehad a three-month-old baby and atwo-year-old son and you know justNewhouseGeorge was commuting to London from ourhouse and Notting Michelle it is a bigcommute you know said not you know notfor the faint-heartedwe just continually put it down to thefact that this is what life is in yourseason and you know you try and haveyeah we're rundown you know this ishaving kids everyone whinges about thetiredness and the exhaustion which is ayou know it's part of the territory ofyou know you don't live with yourchildren but it just didn't sort of seemto get better and there was thiscontinual niggle that was there andessentially basically we pursued it andto cut a long story short of how weactually came to this conclusion wedecided to send George for a colonoscopywhich is a process where you basicallyhave a camera put up your bottom it'snot that unpleasant so he went off andhad this procedure and I mean this iswhat our life was like at this point intime our and so he decided to have thisprocedure in London because he rememberhim saying to meyou know I'm so busy at work what I cando is I can go to work and then I can dothis after work and I can come back andI can still behave at that time wegenuinely didn't think that there was abig you know big big reason to beconcerned all of the health careprofessionals had said to us there's nota reason to be worried he's so younghe's 33 it's definitely not gonna bebowel cancer and basically that day thatyou had the colonoscopy which was thethe 9th of December 2015he called me I was at home literallykind of quite literally walking aroundthe Christmas tree and my little boyanswer and with a little Senate nurse weputting all my fairy lights out thinkingwow you know life's amazing this is grayand he called me and that phone call wasthe moment that just shattered my lifebecause having your husband ringing andsay the words I've got cancer ah it wasjust it felt like a time-space continuumand I yeah it was just hideous and Iremember saying to him oh my god shecan't know this already how do you knowlike it can't be which was actually theroute that I went domine when he told uswas exactly the route that all of ourfriends went down afterwards when weactually had to then tell them the newswhich was just as difficult as himhaving to tell me and I know now thatthat's the kind of psychologicalresponse in terms of you know plausibledenial you want to commercialise withwhat you're hearing and you want somehowto be like this isn't true this thiscan't be the case this isn't us you knowdo you not know who we are today and Iremember you know being on the phonewith George and crying and him saying tome it's fine like he'd managed to havethe force I mean this is the kind ofincredible guy he was he'd had theforesight to call my parents tell myparents what happened before he ran meso he could say to me after he told meI've got cancer your mum and dad are onthe wayyour mum doubt of coming over andthey're gonna be here any minute andthey're gonna be they're gonna be herethey're gonna scoop you up and I'm on myway back from London it was just so soso kind and so thoughtful which was justwho he was to his coreso that was December 2015 and our livesin that instant you know I often jokedwith people and say I sing the song fromFresh Prince of bel-air oh it's probablyshows the kind of generation that I amit was you know this Oriole upside downbecause in that instant it was my lifewas flipped turned upside down and yeahit was just everything that we knewabout our life was thrown thrown on thefloor but then that you know that wasn'tthe end that was the beginning of a newlife and a new existence which went onfor 11 monthsso we then lived in a season of stagefour bowel cancer so when George wasdiagnosed he had metastatic bowel cancerwhich is basewe can circle of lingo for the fact thatthe cancers bad and it spreads todifferent parts of your body and inGeorge's case it spread to his liverwhich is not good news obviously it'sone of our major organs that you need tofunction so George then lived through Ithink it was eight rounds ofchemotherapy followed by six weeks ofreally intense radiotherapy followed bya season of kind of watch wait let's seewhere this where these horrible cellskind of come back then he did a hugehuge surgery in the summer which issomething called the liver resectionwhich is essentially where you getchopped open and all of your liverthere's got cancer and chopped out whichis kind of just the most epic surgeryyou can imagine before he did that hecycled around London and raised a lot ofmoney for bowel cancer UK and then hesaid I remember him saying to hisoncologist you know just before he hadthis liver surgery I'm gonna I'm gonnado more bike riding and then this sortof all looking at him like he wascompletely mental eight weeks to the dayafter he'd had his liver resection hecycled from London to Paris releasedmore funds for Bar Council UK and thenshortly after returning home from thatboat ride he started complaining againfeeling unwell and we you know wegenuinely thought that we were on thesort of positive track with this diseaseand literally eight weeks the day afterhe'd stood in front of the eiffel toweryou know holding his bike you know inthis kind of really momentous epicphotograph that I've got of him he wasdead so he he went downhill incrediblyquickly and peacefully passed away onthe 18th of November 2016 so I was 33and I had a three year old and a tenyear olds and yes it was incrediblyincredibly hard yet was incrediblybeautiful and a moment of glory that Inever expected at the moment of hispassing so I suppose that was a realgame-changing moment when he died whichwas just absolutely beautiful andthere's no other word to describe itwhich is I suppose why my story's a bitdifferent because I think probably mostpeople are going to be expecting me tosay and then it was himyes and then it was all for and I lovethis season of grief and and it has beenand it was all of those things but itwas equally really beautiful because oftheir the way in which George died andwhat happened to all of this at themoment of his death which I'm sort ofreally excited to talk some more withyou about say and just stunned that lastbit and which we will touch on just in afew moments time I can tell that youwere going to have that response justfrom the way you were explaining yourjourney and everything that you've beenthrough so but when I think of concernwhat it's done to my family it becomes amore of an emotional thing and it'squite like even when you talk about itlike demeanor and everything changeswhen you say you can see that you'veactually found the silver lining in thisin this journey that you've had to takeand I just find that incredible so I'mlooking forward to hearing just a bitmore about that have balls and knowabout how it was one not only incrediblyhard but also incredibly beautiful Imean I'm taking notes here because Idon't want to miss anything and I'm surelisteners I probably think ask her thisask her this because it's so fascinatingbecause what you've literally describedis a fairy tale story and it's kind of astory that I suppose when we grow upthere's there's a thing and I was I wasdoing a speech recently and I was sayinghow you know how we go to school andyeah you get your results and then yougo to secondary school then you have theI love is then you go to university thenyou get married and you have kids andthen you retire at 65 it's almost likesomewhere in a in our subconscious Isuppose we reprogram to believe we'rejust going to lift or 65 wheneverything's just gonna fall in placeand then what happens it comes in boomit hits you how is he so hard yeahthat's why people struggle and I justthink yeah it's a I'm grateful thatyou're sharing this story because itwould just wake people up yeah I'm veryfortunate that nothing like that hashappened to my wife or myself at thismoment but I do try and live as if thatcould happen tomorrow oh yeah it wouldthat the nightmares that couldpotentially happen so oh you mentionedthat you've been travelling for a yearas well not obviously generate so wheredid you travel so I didn't travel so Ilived I mean sorry you lived you liveyeah yeah yeah and I said friendshipUniversity and I lived in fret in FranceI actually lived I need to be honest I'dlove to go back now as a 35 year old anddo I did then I lived in the noirWeinbergwhich at the time as a 19 year old hebasically like drinking wkt blue it wascompletely lost of me as like a kind ofcultural experience but it was part itwas part of my my studies in terms ofwhat I had to do to kind of learn thelanguage but yeah that was that wasinteresting and it's been reallyfascinating actually as I've taken sometime particularly this last year becauseI've been taking some time out of workto actually I'm writing a novel actuallyso I'm writing the story of what whathappened to is in that in detail becauseI'm really mindful that to try and relayit in you know an hour even in two hoursit doesn't do it justice which is whyI'm writing the story of exactly youknow all of the twists and turns and thebeauty of what unfolded but essentiallyyou know I've really realized that thatexperience that I had in France wasreally formative and actually wasequipping me with skills that I wouldneed kind of in the moment of George'sdeath and it was also interesting inthat some of the corporate experiencesthat I'd had as well so often you knowpeople always saying it's very clicheisn't it you know when you're having adifficult time people often say stuff toyou like you know this all happens for areason or you know it's in difficultywhere you learn and you know what Ihugely believe in both of those pointsbut actually when you're in thathardship and you're in that season ofstruggle and people say that to you ifI'm being brutally honest sometimes itfeels like a slap in the face becauseyou just you just feel kind of like wellyou don't know what is to be in thesituation I'm in and how do you knowthat I've been positioned for such atime as this but I think you have to Ithink you have to come to thatconclusion yourself I don't think otherpeople can kind of impart that wisdominto you and it's taken me to livethrough the experience of my husband'scancer and his death to wake up to lifedoes that make senseand I now look at all of theseexperiences that I've had the good andthe bad and go wow like I was being liketrained I was being because I waspositioned into that set ofcircumstances the reason why thathappened was to serve me later and whenyou start to reflect that in that wayyou often see that you've done that youdid do some really great learning in meseasons of struggle and they and theyhave served to make you a more full kindof person that can then cope and be moreresilient in times that will be eventougher may be that you face in thefuture say yeah this interesting I justlove that I just love your perspectiveon things and I think because I believeeveryone gets these potential lessonsand I call it potential lessons becauseyeah it's what they take from it reallyand yes that you mentioned resilience aswell and yeah I I've hadI mean I'm day two you know and I feellike I've had some ups and downs as wellin my life which I'm sure every singleperson has yeah the grass is nevergreener on the other side yeahabsolutely yeah I mean that's one of thereasons for this podcast but I'mgrateful now especially in hindsight ofall the adversity and everything thatI've been through because now whensomething trivial happens say forinstance in my day job or you got a flattire or something that would normally Isuppose dress me out five six years agoyeah yeah it just doesn't faze mebecause in the grand scheme of things doyou know what I mean you you snotabsolutely 100% yeah I'm interested inthis novel Azure which i think is gonnabe fantastic because like you said wecan't touch on everything within thisshort amount of time but I think justfrom listening to the opening 15-20minutes people are going to be veryinterested in hearing more about thismyself included and I think you're notalone in what you've experienced but I'msure that you're very unique in terms ofhow you've change your perspective and Ithink if you can hopefully help otherpeople who have maybe been through asimilar situation to maybe look at it inthe way that you said so I want to goback to that bit where you mentioned howincredibly hard it was oh but then alsoincredibly beautiful if you yeah yeah solet's talk about the hardship and thestruggle first I think you have you seethat fully fully understand that thenunderstand the beauty if that makessense you have to source it in thedarkness to feel to feel the light whichsounds quite cheesy but I think it's youknow that's kind of essentially the theheart of this story and you know thatmoment that if we go back to the momentthat I described to you earlier when youknow George was diagnosed with cancer itwas hideousand I often say to people actually thatis when my life changed and that is whenI started to grievebecause that was the moment that ourlives changed forever at that point wewere obviously still hoping there Georgewas gonna live to tell the talebut even if he had lived to tell thetale he would have been living to tellthe tale with the with the scar ofcancer and I think this is the part ofcancer that is so widely misunderstoodpeople want to treat it like a diseasethere is a heart problem or anorthopedic problem which is you know yougo to the hospital you have somemedicine and you get better and yourlife's all okay again and actually thereality of cancer at any stage that youget it is that it alters the check thatyour mindset and the course of your lifeforever because it fundamentally makesyou realize your own mortality in a waythat you've never had to realize itbefore and it also therefore because ofthat makes you live your life verydifferently it makes you live your lifein fear it also makes you live your lifewith joy because you appreciate and havesuch a broader perspective for theamazing and wonderful variety of whatyou see in everyday life because it isyou know that is where you live and inin the everyday not in the holiday thatyou've got planning for six months timeor the night out that you're reallylooking forward to a couple of weeks andand cancer really has a way of sort ofshifting your perspective and I think Ithink this shift of perspective isuniversal but obviously I think from myown experience is not fertile for anyoneelse he's impacted by this disease butwhat's interesting is you know once youkind of take some time to let the newssettle which you have to do and you getnews that big you know I remember forGeorge and I we had the classicfight-or-flight response and we actuallychose flight so we ran away essentiallyto the yorkshire dales which was whereGeorge's mother lived and basicallyspent sort of two or three days almostin hiding trying to figure out what wewere gonna do so yeah we we ran away tothe oxidase and there we sort of liketried to look at the situationpragmatically so both of this had sortof a spaceman entrained in the corporateworld because of the circumstances inwhich wewhich was on this kind of managementtraining scheme unit we'd both beenthrough quite vigorous corporatetraining so we've done all of the youknow separate the people from theproblem how do you make a decision allof that kind of stuff and actually wekind of said you know what we've got tokind of implement some of these skillsthat we've been taught in terms offacing this this beast that is cancerand that and that's kind of what wechose to do so when we actually sort ofapproached it as if it was almost acorporate problem and and I and I feellike I'm I'm I'm even laughing as I saythis because it because essentially thisis what we had to do we had to look atit as not a black dark disease that wasgonna claim our life we had to look atit as a unwanted guest that maybe movedinto our house which is how it fell andthen it was kind of like what what we'regonna do in this and once a guesthow are we gonna how are we gonna makeyou feel part of the family and then wedon't really want them to be here butaccept the fact that they are gonnaprobably eat our table now for theforeseeable future and we can't makethem leave they're only gonna go whenthey want to you know so we we looked atyou know what we could do and one of thefirst things actually that we did wasand it was George's this is alldifferent by George not by me was hesort of said well I'm not having cancerand I remember saying to him what areyou talking about you know you've gotcancer like we can't we can't get rid ofit just like that and say no what I meanis I'm not I'm not calling it cancer I'mnot I'm not going to be named as havingcancer because there's a lot in the nameI mean there's even a you know there'sthe beautiful Shakespeare quote of youknow if Rose has anything else you knowI can't I can't remember it and thebaton but it's about you know if it wascaught if it was still called over butit was cannot call the rose but it stillsmells so sweet and that same that samethinking and that same mindset is sotrue cancer because the problem is isyou say cancer to people and peoplethink death because people are so scaredof death and actually the reality thesedays is one and two people will getcancer and also lots of people havecancer and go on to live reallybeautiful long lives also have cancerand live really successfully with cancerfor a good number of yearsbut we all have this fear you know it'sessentially the Millennial tuberculosisthat you get cancer and it's literallylike then the Grim Reaper is their dooryeah so George George said to me fromthe from the outset I don't want cancerI'm not gonna have cancer I'm gonna havea project name so we we we were sort oflike I was like okay so it was it waslike a awesome cheesy episode of TheApprentice we were driving north and hewe were there thinking of names andevery name I came up with which I can'tremember any of the names I actuallycame up with he he was beating ofdallying no that's awful that's that'shorrendous I kind of thought I can'thave this then he said out of nowhereInvictus what about Invictus andhonestly when he said that name it wasliterally like a thunderclap in the carit was amazing like it shot wavesthrough my heart and I was like that'samazing I was like why do we both knowthis name a week googled it and we'relike oh it's an aftershave and then wewould you know laughing joking whichagain is another you know like that is areal great way of building resilience soit sounds so awful and crude to say butto try and find the fun and the smilesand the everyday humor in amongst youknow this car crash that is your life isso important because you're stillyourself when you still find the samethings funny and you like eating thesame sweets and the same places eventhough you've got cancerI remember we're in fits of laughter bekind of like you know why on earth haveyou chosen an aftershave advert this isjust really cheesy but then when we wentfurther into it we found out thatactually the original naming conventionsare coming from this amazing poet and byErnest Hemingway which actually I nowhaving a frame on my wall at home andthe line the closeout line of the poemis this really sort of like thunderousclothes which basically says I'm thecaptain of my fate and I am the masterof my soul and those words we were justlike they were literally like boom toour hearts we were like yes okay this isit now we we are not having cancer sowe're having sort of project and victorsand that was the start of is Isuppose time to refrain what washappening to is but that also didn'tmean that what was happening to uswasn't horrible you know like there'slots of cancer there is hideous there isabsolute sleep deprivation becauseyou're so anxious about everything thatyou you go to bed and you can't sleepand you're wide awake you wide awakethere's there's an easier because ofthat because you're so exhausted you'reand you're trying to keep the show onthe roadyou can't remember sometimes the mostsimplest of things there's the the hugeimpact that it has on your daily life Imean essentially I was still onmaternity leave you know we had an eightmonth old baby so I was supposed to bethe one that was being looked afterbecause I was up at night you know stillwith a baby that didn't really know youknow day from night if I'm beingbrutally honest yeah and you know then Ihad to switch roles into this personthat wasn't just caring for atwo-year-old and a eight month old itwas also caring for a guy he was theretwo three who had cancer which for himwas just as difficult as it was for mebecause he was the the dad he was thefather figure of the family he wanted tobe able to provide and support his wifeat his children and the reality of thecancer treatment that he had was there Imean he had really really top-drawerchemo which was like I remember themsaying the hospital is it's pretty muchlike we're putting bleach in your veinsand he had it every 11 days so he didn'thave much downtime between treatment youknow he'd go on it he'd go on his go andhave his infusion and actually he thenhad to come home with a with a bottleattached to him which is a type ofchemotherapy that lots of bowel cancerpatients if anyone who's had bowelcancer is listening will be familiarwith and you then basically take thepump it's called a pump home with youfor three days so that was you know thatwas a man mindful in itself because wehad to explain to our kids what wasgoing on that they couldn't jump ondaddy and it wasn't ever that we keptanything secret from our children butyou know our oldest child was two yearsold you know how do you explain to a 2year old dad daddy's got cancer thathe's got this medicine on him I meanactually and that is what we explainedto him and we had to explain what thewords meant to him but you know theydon'tat that age they don't understand whatit means they it means nothing to themyou know for all intensive purposes forthem it was like daddy had a bottle ofCal Poly attached to him you know theydidn't get the severity of it and it wasreally tough and it brought up a lot ofstuff for me around you know what do Ido in terms of work so obviously I wasoff work on maternity leave I actuallywent back to work because I felt so muchpressure because I was thinking you knowI don't we'd have no idea how long thiscancer journeys gonna go on for and eventhough both of our employers were justthe most supportive employers B couldhave ever asked foryou always have that niggle in the backof your head that actually if this goeson for six years seven years are theystill going to be this supportive andlist understand a and I remember sayingto George you know I've got to go backto work George because we might be in aposition where we're only rely you knowwe're relying upon my salary and youknow you can't work which he neverreally wanted to face into so I wentback to work and even when I talk aboutit now I genuinely don't know how I didit I went back to work with aone-year-old just three year old and ahusband with cancer and was kind ofdoing my job as well as commuting toLondon and you know running a house youknow it was absolutely exhausting andexhausting in a way that makes your souleight you know it wasn't just it wasn'tjust sort of tired of the way thatpeople say I'm tired you know it wasexhausting and it was the relentlesssort of tsunami of it all because theway that cancer works is you kind of itis it's a long boil disease you know itisn't a disease there you know it goesit doesn't go away like an orthopaedicyou know injury like I said previouslyand it and it's it's always theresimmering in the background and everynow and again you get these huge wavesthat crash over you and they sometimesabsolutely come out of nowhere and it'sabout then how you how you protectyourself and what you what you do - Isuppose build that resilience and that'swhat we learn in that 11 monthsessentially initially it was like wewere all at sea we have no idea what thehell we were doing and gradually as theyearwent on we built that resilience muscleand we learned the techniques aroundwhat is it that's gonna help us and weknew that there were certain things thatfor us as a family he with the thingsthat work but that took some time tofigure out it wasn't like the next dayafter George I can't sir we went yeahthis is this is what we have to do thistrick is it yeahno no so it was so hard it was so sohard so hard yeahfirstly what a wonderful person hesounds like and I just in yourrelationship the way you were justfeeding a feature then you had thiswhole story behind Invictus Sol Invictusfor me initially yeah Paco Rabanne it'sthe which is what I remembered but alsothere's a film money as well yes andit's happened to feed on conquerable soWowyeah you actually said it in this momentthat's what I was feeling and I wasgetting almost goose thinking yeahthat's it how you guys have done it andit just shows the power of like thehuman will and the importance that wordsbecause just by changing that nameyou're not you're not necessarily sayingto listeners here listen let's brushcancer under the copy and pretend it'snot here what you're saying is okay weacknowledge it's here and some dayswe're facing it but we're gonna justface it in a more positive way to helpus move forward and I think that'sreally really yeah the way you've donethat and in terms of exhausting I meanwe all sit here myself included andwe'll have a 14 hour day or a 12 hourday we've been asked to do some overtimeand we feel you know what I'm tired I'mtired and here you are with no actualchoice with your back against the walljust showing how powerful the human mindand body in sync how much we're actuallycapable of doing and that also goes sexywhen you mentioned George who did thatrunning I mean who in their right mindif you think about it from a logicalperspective things after being choppedup I'm go go go raise money wait youknow you know what there are what Iwould say is I follow some reallyinspirational people on Instagram andparticularly love the the three womenand who created the you me Big C podcastand Rachel blance or sadly passed awayin September last year and I follow Ifollow the girls actually that do thatshow on Instagram and they ones a cancersurvivor one one is living with stagefour cancerthey are always out exercising andactually what I would say is it heyfor you to realize that your body isfragile and that you have to look afterit to want to look after it sometimesand actually the irony is is that Georgeactually was a fitness fanatic evenbefore he had cancer so he was on thesepeople that would go to gym gym and Iwould always be like what are you doingbut I had to say since he has had cancerand obviously lost his life to cancerit's made me go as well you know yourbody is so precious you have to lookafter it you have to be mindful of whatyou're putting in it in the way in whichyou're using it in the way in whichyou're nurturing it because it's it'sprecious to you and it's your onlyrocket ship you're not going to getanother one so you have to look after itand I think incredibly there is thismindset amongst the cancer community ofI am gonna do the stuff that like youknow that we run a 5k or run a marathonbecause almost as well you know everyoneknows the healing benefits of fitnessit's it's proven right so there is thismindset of just you know well I am whatI want to do this mentally even morethan I've ever wanted to do it so I doyou think it's crazy but I also thinkyou know not taking anything away fromGeorge because it was incredible what hedid but I also think you'll find thatthere are lots of people who areimpacted by cancer that also have thatabsolute mindset of no I'm gonna go forit I'm gonna raise this money I'm gonnago and do this and I think you're rightand I think but this is kind of what Iwant this podcast to do is not letsomebody have to suffer with cancer seesomebody also for with cancer to reallyunderstand what they're actually capableof because we're so much we're livingjust in the comfort zone all the timeand health and fitness is one of mybiggest passions so yeah I've alwaysbeen into it but then when I went touniversity was it was more about vodkacommands and hangovers sure yeah it wasthat kind of stuff for generallyspeaking up when I was about 25 I thinkthat's when cancer came into into myfamily only affected my own cause yeahand one of the things I started doingthen was really taking my health andfitness seriously so I blogged onpersonal training since then I'vetrained over like three 400 clients andI always know my analogy is I know thecircumstances for instance similar toGeorgia where you can be healthy you canbe doingright and then it's just not meant to beI can just come for what I always tryand do is just put the odds in my favorand I always tell all my clients justput the odds in your favor you know whenyou lift some weights or you do any sortof CV exercise cardiovascular you'reyou're you're reducing the chances of ofillness and that's kind of what I do soevery single morning without fail andunless some literally on my deathbedsorry or I'm traveling I'm training andI don't have to enjoy it but for me youknow it's 4% on my day just afteryourself and you touched on somethingthere by what you put into yourself andI think it's important for the listenersjust to know it's not just physicalconsumption like food and water it'salso what you say in your monitor yeahabsolutelyso the project Invictus that kind ofstuff is it's empowering and if you canjust so I just think there's this Icould talk about what you said now foranother five hours because I'm surepeople are going to pick up on thank youthank you for sharing all of that what Ineed to move it forward just slightlyotherwise we'll have a six hour podcastbut what definitely can get you back onso nice obviously change quite quitesignificantly now yeah yeah and it'ssomething that you obviously you'renever prepared for what is a day likefor yourself now and what I want to askmore in particular is obviously life'staught you so much so quicklyalready are there certain habits ortraits that you maybe do on a dailybasis that you think people listeningcould potentially benefit from yes so Imean the part of the story that haven'tgot into and maybe isn't one for thedates move maybe at halftime is the whatactually happened when George died whichin which I suppose was the absolutebeautiful firework finale to this wholeyear so if you imagine this 11 monthswhen George had cancer was like us itwas a slowly learning how to overcomeadversity and build resilience in a waythat I'd never had see before and thenwhen we realized that you know the endwas nigh when he was told there wasnothing that they could do and he wasgoing to die but weyou know how long it was going to be andwhat that what may or may not look likeand how painful it may be and all thoseother things that was the moment whereif I'm really honest and being reallyreally vulnerableI hit absolutely rock bottom because Ikind of when I don't know what to do nowyou know like all of this other stuffthat we've taught ourselves this far interms of you know finding three thingsevery day to be thankful for doingexercise you know renaming things tomake them feel more palatable you knoweating well to make sure we're we knowwe're making our bodies feel as great aswe can sleeping where we can in amongstnear the chaos of TV and children all ofthose things that other sort of thingsif you pick up any book on on resilienceand how to and how to kind of you knowbuild and and and work that muscle theyjust didn't work and I I remember justthinking oh my gosh like what what do Ido and it was it was awful and it meantthat we were both in a reallyemotionally low state which as I'm sureagain lots of people will identify withwhen you're in that place what happensis you lash out or the people that youlove the mostso we're in this hideous set ofcircumstances which was you know we knewthat George was gonna die and we hadwhat was probably the biggest row Ithink we ever had of our whole marriageour whole relationship because I wasreally angry at him and actually youknow what I was actually angry about himwhat I thought I was angry about him wasnot what I was angry about at him at allI was actually angry at him because hewas dying and that's what I now realizewith hindsight you know I was at I wasangry about him about something thathe'd said to us mom or not said to hismom but that wasn't you know and I'vegone back and rabbit reaction man thatwasn't the reason the reason I'm socrossed with him was because I was angrythat he was leaving me that he was gonnadie that he was not going to be here tobring up my kids that I was gonna haveto do life on my own in a way that I'venever ever expected to and that night Iwent out I literally ran out of thehouse into my car it sounds Hollywooddramatic and it actually was a littlebit that way and I got in my car and Idrove it was dogevening it was raining and I didn't knowwhat to do and I just felt lost reallyreally lost and in that moment Iremember thinking in my head where am Igonna go who do what who should go andsee if it goes to my mom and dad I couldgo see like my aunty best friends who'sthe person that I need that who do Ineed and I was I was sort of trying allthese people in my head to see if theyfitted with it the way I thought in myheart and none of them felt that theyworked and actually at that point intime was seeing a psychologist and Ithought do I bring her like do I go seeher I couldn't even bring myself to gosee my psychologist he was the personthat really you know I employed to sortof be the person I could take all thesethings to so I decided it in that momentthat I needed to go to a church and thenI was kind of like right really go to achurch and if I'm honest again I thinkit was rooted in some level of utopianmemory that I've got from childhoodprobably movies like home alone whereKevin goes to church and yeah has thatlike magical moment when he's missinghis mummy you know I was right I'm gonnago to church and tried that and to go toa church on this like rainy Octoberevening at about I think it must havebeen about five o'clock everywhere I waslocked her and I was so angry oran Ican't tell you how angry I amI was literally raging so I remember Ipulled my car over on a hard shoulderand I and I said at least she got out mycar and I screamed and at this point intime I was not a person of faith sothere is a purpose behind me telling youthe story and so I pulled over my carand I literally got out of my car it wasraining I was screaming and I literallyit was like I was boxer in a ring that Iwas a mad okay and I literally screamedat the universe if you are real if youare real you have to bleep bleep bleepbleep show me there was a lot of swearwords yeah I was crying I was crying somuch you know I couldn't even reallyspeak I was coughingit was awful I got back in my car andGeorge text me two words that just saidcome home and then I just wrote backokay he wrote back I'm not planning ordying anytimeSene and i just hysterically burst intotears and went home now that that momentwas a absolute another kind oflife-altering moment but it wasn'tlife-altering in that exact moment ifthat makes sense because then whatunfolded in this or three weeksfollowing on from me going out andhaving this moment where I went for itand said to God you know you are realit's now or never because I don't knowwhere else to turn it and God had neverbeen someone a force and an energy thatI had ever looked to previously but Iwas I felt like I had nothing left in mycup I had no place else to gohe was the only viable option left forme to go to and what then happened andwhat unfolded around George's deathwhich we maybe don't have the time todiscuss today was just supernaturallyunbelievably beautiful he died the mostglorified beautiful miraculous deaththat was completely driven by sort ofthe Holy Spirit just moving in andtaking residence in his room okay peopleI'm just gonna play the out role now forthis part of the show but the nextepisode should be available straightaway on your feed whether you using iOSor Android and I hope you enjoy thisjust as much as you've enjoyed thisfirst part of this incredible story fromLouise I know the next part certainlygave me 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Ready to Positioning Your Business to Profit? Go to-->>> http://positioningtoprofit.com/Patty: Hey there my legacy leader. This is Patty Dominguez. Goes with her legacy Podcast Episode number 19 featuring Ciji Siddons. Now Ciji I've known now for a while. She's a network marketing professional when any professional and legitimately a professional. Her results have just been outstanding. What she has earned the way that she showed up in then the consistency and when she's operated is very admirable.So if you've ever participated in this type of a business model definitely listen closely and even if you haven't been in network marketing there are very specific mindsets perspectives, interpretations that she has in the way that she operates which is absolutely something to take on for her stuff and really ask yourself, Hey wow she's getting these amazing results.Can I get those same results as well? Absolutely and if you ask her she'll say 100 percent. So definitely take a listen you're going to enjoy the show tremendously and of course that this is quite one if you haven't already done so. And I hope you enjoy this episode my friend Ciji Siddons.Patty: Ciji Siddons thank you so much for being on her legacy podcast it is such a pleasure to have you here.Ciji: I want to thank you for having me. I absolutely adore you so I know you asked me to do I'm always a Yes.Patty: Thank you. Thank you. Yes. We're going to be talking about personality traits specifically where you come to mind for certain things.But let me just say you know I'll leave that as an open item. So I want to get braggy as I do with all my guests that come on. What do you believe your superpower is?Ciji: I believe my superpower is it's the ability to die on the treadmill. So if you've ever heard of the Wilson quote where he says you might be smarter than me you might be better looking than me might have me in 10 out of 10 categories the one place you're not going to beat me is that we get on a treadmill together two days and a half and you're going to get up or I'm going to die like my superpower is the ability to die on the treadmill.Patty: So aka tenacity?Ciji: Tenacity persistence and how are you going to say it.Patty: Absolutely. And so here is what I mean by that I just want to emphasize that one quality that you have because you are one of the people that come to mind where anytime I. Am almost always says well I'm pretty solid yes. Right. And if it's a no it's for a specific reason and I can count on one hand the times I've said no to you.But anytime that I do say no I'm always like holy shit I have to say no. This is why because Ciji Siddons and this is such a part of her success and this is why I'm bringing it up. She's relentless. She does not take note easily and by easily I mean while no is a complete sentence no is just no not right now.And what I mean by that is Ciji. Is network marketing professional and has had an amazing trajectory of success in this particular career. So before we get to the highlights this gets to the story where did you start out before network marketing.Ciji: That was awesome. The thing is that it makes me really happy that you don't like to have to tell me No because I don't want to tell me nowhither I know.Patty: I know you don't.Ciji: So I started out I guess in my journey. I was waitressing and bartending on the Jersey Shore. So I always hated my claim to fame. If you watched the show on MTV that's actually exactly where I bartend it. And at the time I was not thrilled with the direction my life was going quite honestly. But I didn't even realize that network marketing was huge and I was looking for. I was introduced to network marketing through product experience because of a girl I. happen to Work with behind the bar and it was through that explosion that I started to slowly educate myself about the profession of network marketing. I started to find mentors and trainers and when I got into it I was. Not really.The ideal candidate. I don't think that anybody would be looking for when they were looking to build a network marketing business. I was introverted I was quiet. I wasn't a big personality. I didn't have a lot of faith or belief in myself because when I had an urge like that a little bit as I have a really amazing ability. To commit and see things through and the more I started to learn about network marketing and understand and understand the position that I was in with that.The more committed I became to figure it out no matter how bad I was in the beginning. And truth you told that I was not good in the beginning but it was it was just a series of really learning the skills or habits the mindset and going through the process of it and it's been seven years since I started building this business. I've been all-time in it for the last five and I mean it's given me everything I could have ever wanted in life and where I always say I feel like my life is one that would've only existed in movies but it's better because I get to do it where my friends are my family and the people I mean the most. And I just need people like you and you are actually really important in my journey and I don't know that you always remember this.We had a conversation very early on. You said something to me. I mean you said a lot to me that has really stuck with me. One of the things you said to me was. Ciji You doesn't realize how lucky you are to be where you are in the company or in the position you're in right now.I've never been exposed to anything but where I was at that moment and that was what really made me wake up to kind of look at the profession as a whole and then compensation plans and understanding structures and understanding companies and really go to appreciate everything I had at my fingertips and I honestly just landed in because one of the things you actually said Were people spend their entire life looking for what you actually just felt into. That's why I savor it.Patty: Wow I didn't even realize I think I remember saying that but I did. I did the fact that you would have brought that up here and now so that's awesome that you heard that because it's absolutely true. And why I wanted to have you on my show was more than anything just to distill to. I almost think it's like such a mystery to people because most people that has exposure to network marketing it's because of it kind of falls in their lap. It's says something that people are looking for necessarily because you don't know what you don't know. Right. And so for me when I was exposed to itI was like wow that's a really interesting business model other people come at it from oh it's one of those pyramid things right. So people may come in not knowing anything at all. Other people may come in with this stigma attached to it. But what I know is that.You have the tenacity to have stuck with it. And I think one of the important things that I'd like to highlight if you don't mind is a transparent moment because when I met you we met through a coach. We were both coaching with at the time. And it was in December of 2011 and we were both there for our own reasons. But really the gist of it was to improve to get that breakthrough to help move the needle forward in what we were pursuing at the time. Right.And so you know within the network marketing space and I was witness to what is now gone down in history as like this insane the breakthrough that you had in front of everybody and it was so glorious and whatever. And one of the things that I really want to highlight is people see the fabulous Ciji Siddons on stage and all these accolades and all this immense success. But what people don't really understand is what it took to get there.And that's what I really want to highlight is yes tenacity yes consistency yes perseverance but the work that you've done on your mindset has been absolutely pivotal because can you give just a little bit of an overview of where you were what that space was in your head in December of 2011 when I met you.Ciji: Yeah absolutely and I still remember that. It goes like it was yesterday and it feels like it was lifetimes going I'm sure you'd almost agree in that sense. But the place I was in I was something when I was earning 500 dollars a month and my network marketing business. I had been waitressing and bartending on the Jersey Shore. So I'm hit by Hurricane Sandy and I wasn't very clear if I was going to have a job.We didn't even know actually the building that I work in was still standing. Post-hurricane and then on top of that I had just finished grad school where hoping to get a degree that would qualify me essentially for nothing but I actually found my comprehensive exam. So now I was going to have all of the staff generally not even get a degree and my life wasn't really going and any certain direction and I certainly wasn't like I sent someone a book at that point earning 500 dollars a month to my network marketing business and building it. At that point for about a year.And I was really struggling and I. Don't know that I've ever had a real rock bottom moment. But if I had to choose one it was probably around that time where I met you where I mean my belief in myself was so low my belief in the profession was absolutely there. But it was really I think I only struggle with my belief in myself and really believing that I could. Does something like this because I wasn't an outgoing personality I wasn't most likely to succeed or you know. greatest. Anything in high school and they give those superlatives. I was just someone who hadn't got by but I was also always someone whoWhen I could commit to somebody I have. I think a really amazing ability to connect and once I see something I can't unsee it. And I don't know if it's integrity or what it is but I can't put my head on the pillow at night knowing I walked away from something that was proven to work. And so it was one of those things where I was watching people I knew had success and I absolutely had the conversation in my mind about if it could be for me if I could do it if I got so far into this thing that I was like so far in over my head all that went through my mind but I just kept going back to.I'll be damned if I walk away from this thing that I know works and have to look back in five years and say I wish I really stuck with it and that was really the driving force behind it. And I don't like to suck at things. So why doesn't necessarily even a financial goal? I was going after it was more I just wanted to prove to myself that I can do it.Patty: Yeah. Well here's the part that I love because I remember reading once and I will remember even where it was but it stuck with me as like anything in life you have to suck at it really bad at first until you suck less and then there's a turning point in which you're like oh I'm actually really good at this you know.And then it just becomes an unconscious competence. But in order to get there, it's like people think that you're like I'm just really bad that I'm going to give up. You know what I mean. People don't understand that there's a whole cycle to that point where you're like oh my god I was really bad at that. And that's why I completely bombed that particular conversation or whatever it is.And I absolutely agree. It's just you just do it and do it and do it and get through the however 10000 hours that people talk about or have any conversations and all that in order to finally be good at it. So that's awesome. Such a great perspective.Ciji: It's not that I don't have those moments now where I wonder like am I good at this. I really do. I just end this one because I work so much and my skills and habits and my mindset really I just don't have the tools to kind of like acknowledge the thought and then move on because I know it's ridiculous and the end of the day and I know what's going to help me I'm going to help me stay stock.So I don't think that look at me and my experience. I don't know that having those moments ever stop. It's just a matter of having fewer and further between and just being better able to kind of manage them.Patty: Yes. So tell me about love. What are the key drivers for the switch that you had? Do you think it's coaching is one of the main things that helped you.Ciji: In coaching mentorship. I mean would probably be like 99 percent of it for me because I was always willing to do the work right. That didn't scare me. It was just a matter of not even knowing what work I was supposed to do. And I actually remember. Before I hired my first coach it was because I felt like I wanted to get somewhere but I felt like I just kept banging my head against the same wall and I had a moment of realizing that if you want.Something to look different you're going to have to do something different because you've tried everything at your disposal and none of it has really propelled to power. And so I've always kind of been a yes person. And when it comes to that genre. You were to call me and say Ciji you need to try X spicy things and I have a massive impact on you. I may yes. And I not just say yes now because of my financial situation. I wasYes when I started this when I was really struggling and look at my bank balance because I just always believed that there was something else out there and I wasn't afraid to invest in myself to find and finding people who at least were further along in their journey you me and really who believed in me was really really credible.We always talk about at least in our marketing borrowing other people's belief and I get that for a really long time. I was lucky enough to have mentors who really form belief from poor greatness into me all the time even when I wasn't feeling myself and eventually you just throw that muscle where you can and start to look for other people.Patty: That's awesome. And how do you discern between a good coach and a bad coach is a just trial and error. Like if somebody is listening to this and say OK it sounds like I really need a coach to help kind of short cut time collapse whatever. How do you know what a good coach is in your opinion?Ciji: That's a great question because I think I have had both and you know during over the last decade or so I think it's on looking at their results that they produce their personal results their results for their coaching client really doing some research because I think in today's day and age everyone and anyone can be a coach of everything and anything.And it's really easy to use the buzzwords and look really good in pictures and you know post on social media and. Appear to have credibility and I think it's really important to do our homework on the people that we're paying because at the end of the day it's my responsibility and I feel like. I didn't have a great experience because I didn't look into it enough. So I think that's important I think trusting that you know what you're looking for trusting your gut on things.There have been times where I've hired coaches are doing things and in my gut it didn't feel right and I did it anyway and it didn't go in the direction I would've wanted it to and then at the same time it waiting to desert-like not feeling comfortable with it and also realizing there was like a little bit of fear and nervous excitement around it around kind of knowing the difference between the two.And so I think that's a big part of it too but I really think especially now paying attention to what people have done in the past and doing your own research and not expecting someone else to find them for you.Patty: That's really good. And then in terms of the company I mean I know that you're blessed to have your first network marketing experience with a really great company. So what makes a great company in your opinion?Ciji: I think there's a couple factor I think one having a product that is emotional and visible so produces a visible result and is consumable is really important obviously that it's safe and effective and it makes a difference for people so the product is important.I think I'm learned more than anything and this is something I took for granted early on because it's all I know having a compensation plan that really works your benefit is huge and there's a big difference between multilevel marketing and network marketing. And so having a compensation structure that really supports humor and unlimited growth and creating real residual income versus shiny on draft on objects and getting paid really quickly upfront and maybe not having the potential to build long term well.And I also think who's running the show at the company is so important. Look at it. Do they have network marketing experience? Have they been successful in this profession where have they been in this for before? Do they know what it's like to be in a field? I actually have some brand friends of friends and in every company and a lot of them had experience and struggles because the people leaving the company have never been in network marketing where they have no experience there. So then it's hard to build on me. Never actually been exposed to before in the past.Patty: Well that's really good because in essence, it's just a lack of congruency right. They're not really being congruent. Yeah that totally makes sense. Okay so with that you've had really really great success.Your top earner and your company really reputable company and one of the important things are what is it that drives you now to continue to produce. Right.Because you still have the same level of excitement that you did when you were building and when you were hitting of the markers on a personal level and the rewards and the accolades and the stage presence and all that. So why do you do what you do now?Ciji: When I did it I want to be really clear when I first started I was doing it for the money just plain and simple. I needed more money in my life when I was doing was not creating very much of a lifestyle. At this point, because I got myself to acclaim right I earn a really amazing income. Now I do it for the stories of the people on my team that I get to hear.It's the text messages that I wake up to in the morning and the recognition that my team is getting and seeing them excited and lit up and exposed the possibilities.Now I'm doing it for everybody else's for the new people and am having an impact on them and it's showing them that it's possible. I mean that's the only thing at this point I think that drives me is knowing that we have something so amazing when there are so many people out there that are just like me that have never been exposed to before.Patty: So let me offer a perspective outsider looking in. I think because it's the same type of thing it's compensation initially. And then it boosts contribution. And I think you're in that contribution stage where it's about the contribution that fulfills you I mean that's whyI do what I I do it for contribution and then for me my part in helping people to leave a legacy and what drives me. And I think we live that in parallel because I think that it's great to get the money but it's even cooler to be in contribution and to have an impact on somebody's lives. I mean can you give me an example of somebody that really was you're like oh my god I'm going to ugly cry because it's such a good story.Ciji: Oh my God, I have so many. And the reason I touch on the money early on is that I think a lot of people come into network marketing thinking I just want to help all these people. And that's full and great. That's really what drives you. But I also think it's OK it's like compensation can drive you.Patty: Absolutely.Ciji: So probably my favorite story I shouldn't say favorite there's so many that I love but like I said I had waitress and bartenders at Jimbo's Bar and Grill at Seaside Heights that's the shameless fun for my favorite. On the planet. I worked there forever.The people who owned it were my bosses for almost a decade and it got hit by Hurricane Sandy and even though the building was still standing. Tourism in the area was dead for a really really long time so businesses couldn't even bring in income even if they were able to withstand a hurricane. And so about a year after Hurricane Sandy, I had a conversation with Ernie my chef and Michelle Jackson they were the owners. Of the place that I worked and also really good friends of mine. And I sat at their kitchen table and was talking about the opportunity that I had and they were actually telling me about what they had experienced over the last year.Because of. The hurricane and what they lost in terms of finances and the debt that they were and their three kids and so much goes along with that. Your source of income essentially been frozen. Yeah. So sitting at their table and having a conversation I'll never forget it about what they wanted to create for themselves in network marketing and the next six months 12 months two years and to see them.And this is not typical and it doesn't happen to everyone and they work really really hard but to see them earn a six-figure income in a six months' time period and essentially save their family from bankruptcy saved their business so that way they could continue at this point now seven years later six years later still owning that business and now let it be thriving. But knowing that it wouldn't even exist if it wasn't for network marketing. I think that's my favorite story.Patty: Wow that's amazing.Ciji: Yes.Patty: That so great.Ciji: You watch people you loved and that much go through such a challenging time. And then on the other side and we always say now.It was almost like a perfect storm but it was such a blessing in disguise because a lot would come from going through that horrible experience, now you have two businesses that are producing six-figure incomes.Patty: No that's awesome. That's great. So yes that was a great plug for Jimbo's. In.Ciji: Jimbo's Bar and Grill in Seaside Heights.Patty: Okay they are giving a great link back. That would really good for search engine optimization. We're turning the corner what personal development or growth habit do you have aside from Great hair?Ciji: Yeah. I mean obviously great hair. There's no camera for this podcast when it comes out because that may not be debatable. I plug into something every single day. It's just become such a habit in my life so I usually wake up and I actually do the same thing because I think we got this from a mentor that we both had where I write when I'm grateful for what do I want an experience that day.And what do I want to manifest and actual text it too? I'm we have it. And so that's actually how I start my day and then I always listen to something whether it's a book or a podcast or some kind of. Mindset personal development something I am I would say a seminar junkie I love live events. I love going to places where I can really feel the energy of the experience.And I love the opportunity to learn new things and I actually have this real love-hate relationship with personal development and that the more confronting that it is. The more I want to do it even though it's sometimes so Abrante.I don't know that answers the question.Patty: Yeah totally answers the question. OK. What TV character movie star recording star best would be a symbol for your life?Ciji: That might be the hardest question anyone has ever asked me. Let me think.Patty: Yeah.Ciji: That's a really good question. All right so I'll say this because it's the name of my dog Madonna.Patty: So why Madonna.Ciji: Because 1 she's an icon and she only needs one name. She just goes by Madonna. And she's a disrupter in the music industry. Everybody knows who she is or like her or dislike her or love her music or don't really love her music.She's willing to take a stand for what she believes and show up exactly how she wants to without ever worrying about what anyone is thinking or what the press is saying or anything on those lines.Patty: There is a good answer. I knew you would say that actually.Ciji: Did you.Patty: I did. I was I guess writer-producer. Right. Looking at her precious cup at this moment. OK so how about if your life were a song. What would the title be? Or is there a song that comes to mind.Ciji: So when I used to bartend Yeah I don't know I said I use to bartend at Jumbos at Seaside Height.Patty: The show wills going to extend. Can you please go on a podcast for me I literally can't get in a plug right now?Ciji: That was a good laugh but I used to look at see the ocean I use to look at the ocean and there were these Jojo songs had to be like 2000 where it was. There's got to be more to life than chasing around all of these very heights.Patty: Oh I love it.Ciji: I can sing That song in my head over and over again like I always look at the ocean just thinking like there has got to be more to life than what I'm doing and I'm so always so grateful that I at least have the capacity to think because I don't even know how some people are able to think has kind of where they currently are.And I just always knew there had to be something else out there I didn't know what it was and didn't know how to get direct It was so unclear on so much of it and so much of it. I just always believed that there was something else out there for me.Patty: Oh my god that is such. I literally got chills because it was almost like a mantra inside of you intuitively knowing that you were searching for more and it came to you it's like you manifest it bad.Ciji: Yeah.Patty: That is so cool.Ciji: Thank You.Patty: Yeah I know it really is right. And one more question what was your dream as a child.Ciji: You know I'm being honest it was probably to be a hair model.Patty: Really.Ciji: Yeah I love a dress. And I love the hair as well. But it wasn't really in my cards. I mean I went through like I want to be a veterinarian and I went to my first college to be a teacher which clearly that lasted eight days before I dropped out. I had a lot of dreams.But I do remember telling my sister that when I was a child when I was older I said I want to find a job that will let me go to the gym in the morning because that's when I feel the bus go out to lunch when I want to go out to lunch and get a tan and whatever I combined it's going to pay me for that. I mean and she was like Yeah Good luck.And here we are not going to get paid for those things specifically but I've been able to create a life where I can have as much of those things in it that I want.Patty: That's exactly what you experience because I'm staying at your house in La Joya when you used to live there. And I remember you had that one time when it was like Tara was there Vicky was there it was so funny that house that you had in La Jolla.And then we got up we went to spin class and then everyone got like bowls or fruit juice and we're just kind of wandering around that we went for sushi I'm like oh my god this is literally the best life ever. And I told you that. And then you're like isn't it awesome I get to live this way every day.Ciji: I know.Patty: It was just so great.Ciji: You need to knock and visit and we'll do it again.Patty: I know I really do have so much fun with you. That's for sure. Ciji Siddons and thank you so much for being on my show. One last question that's really important and I want it like to be super fact provoking after everything is said and done.What do you want? Your legacy to be.Ciji: I want my legacy. To be. That I did everything I set out to do. That's it.thats all I got.Patty: That's it. Love that Super sustained tan and that's it. Yeah. And I am fairly certain that you live that way all the time and it's just who you are. All right.How do people get a hold of you and get to the kind I spy on your hair status. And how you drink celery juice which we need to talk about that real quick after I stopped the show. How do people get a hold of you?Ciji: You have so much to talk about after this show you can hold on me on Facebook Instagram @cijisiddons... I'm probably the only one on the planet. So you could find me there.Patty: Yes. All right thank you Ciji. For being on the show.Ciji: Love you.Links mentioned in the Podcast:Ciji Siddons (cijisiddons@gmail.com),Website: cijisiddons.com,Social Media Handles: IG @cijisiddonshttp://www.jimbosbarandgrill.com/

Find your voice - Episode 3 - The Art Of Connecting With Ourselves by Theodore TreveilTheodore Treveil also known as Theo, knows what it is like to hit rock bottom. He has had a life of so much adversity and hardship that rather than killing him, it has only made him so much stronger. Determined to find his voice and show the world he was more than his current circumstances he often lay there visualing."Visualise, visualise, visualise" - TheoFrom sleeping on the streets of Victoria Station to ridding himself of his drug addiction Theo has now taken a stand and truly connected with himself. In doing this his passion now is to touch as many lives as possible, with a 50,000 target next year. Titans Mastermind is his movement and is about becoming a Titan of your own life!Let me assure you, this is one guy whos story you want to follow, as it has only just begun..."Our thoughts create our feelings and our feelings influences our actions" - Theodore TreveilFollow it below:Thanks for listeningFree Audible book sign up:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Audible-Membership/dp/B00OPA2XFG?actionCode=AMN30DFT1Bk06604291990WX&tag=are86-21Best book on Mindset by Carol Dweck: Mindset https://amzn.to/2QajMvZSupport the podcast: https://www.patreon.com/findyourvoiceLinks to me:Website: https://www.arendeu.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/aren.deu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/arendeuFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/aren.singhLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aren-deu-65443a4b/Podcast: https://www.findyourvoicepodcast.com YouTube: http://tiny.cc/51lx6yLinks to guest:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mohamed.abdulrahman.54540#JustDeuIt & #FindYourVoice[Music]welcome to an episode of find your voicea movement led by yours trulyAren do a guy who has overcomecrippling anxiety adversity anddifficulty like so many of you in lifewhose main goal now is to help youcombat your excuses take control of yourlife write your own story and mostimportantly find your voice so nowwithout further ado I welcome the hostof the show himself mr. Aren do what'sgoing on people yes that is correct myname is Aren and I am the host of theshowso today's interview was a fascinatinginterview it was I'd say certainly forme it was definitely a game-changer andthe reason I say that is because inhindsight there was so many moments whenI listened to it back where I kickedmyself I kicked myself for my poorpodcasting skills I kicked myselfbecause I never asked the right questionI kicked myself because I never acceptedsilence and I kind of rushed it becauseI was panicking about the recording andthe time and all of that stuff that youprobably don't think goes into a podcastNo one thing I will say is that I hopeyou find that in some way motivationalor inspiring because you do not have tobe perfect to start a podcast you do nothave to have all your ducks in a row soI kind of want you guys to take that onboard as well if there's something youtruly want to do just go out and do itgo ahead and do it pivot adjust and thengo forward again and that's what it'sall about but there's certainly times inthis interview and I'm definitely eagerto get him back for a second podcastmaybe in about six to twelve months timewhere we really gonna hone in on some ofhis answers because I think theemotional intelligence that he showedfor being such a young man wasincredible and I hope you could takeaway some of the insights and some ofthe lessons that he displays andhopefully you can follow him on hisjourney as well because he is absolutelyright in his own story right now he hasfound his voice and there's gonna be alot of good things coming from thisindividual I'm very confident of thatand hopefully I say hopefully as I'vecrossed my fingers right now which youcan't see my podcast goeswe'll improve as well so without furtherado let's get this podcast over the wayhi good morning Theo how we doing todayand fantastic today really excited to beon this podcast really excited to haveyou just for the listeners who arelistening me and Theo we exchanged a fewmessages via I think it was Facebookinitially and just hearing a summary ofhis story was I was quite amazed to behonest it was so interesting it wasalmost like a film created and then tofind out your age as well I think thelisteners are in for a treat so we'rejust quickly I just want to get yourfull name so it's Theodore travell isthat correct yes yes Theodore Wong okayfantastic so so that's the name you'reall gonna look out for so we're gonnaliterally start this for the listenersat home just to kind of get to know youa little bit so if you wouldn't mind ifyou could just please explain how youprogress through life and ended up whereyou are similar to kind of the story youtold me well it's been quite afascinating journey and it's a journeythat I have never anticipated it willtake me where I am today so it was onlyquite a few years ago when I came acrossnetwork marketing from a friend I'vealways been the passionate type and theenthusiastic type even when my life wascompletely the other way aroundI've always felt a sense of I want tohelp people I want to serve people Iwant to do more for people and this wasmy why and this driver was was what wasguiding me through a lot of challengesand obstacles in life and so what hashappened was this drive that I had thispassion that I had it took me from alife of crime a life of drug a life of alot of negativity and it brought me intopositivity but just when I thought myjourney was beautiful and it ended soperfectly this was when I was reallytested and this was when I was reallychallenged so my parents they were froma very religious background and they'refrom a very cultural background andpersonal development wasn't somethingthat they really entirely got orunderstood so I was going through thismental transformation there's spiritualtransformation and emotionaltransformation and they started the theystarted becoming more alien to me and Istarted to become moreinto them and this trip into bought mefrom network marketing into wanting tostart my own business coaching andserving people and as this progressed onone mindset just constantly justcontinue changing changing changingchanging and then came a point where Istarted to really question my identitythe person that my parents have broughtme up to believe I was the religion Iwas brought up in the name that I wasbrought up in I just challengedeverything because I just thought Icould not be a hundred and twentypercent myself as I am beingindoctrinated with other people'sbeliefs and volumes and rulesso first came okay I'm reallyparticularly believe in this religionand I don't really think it's a religionfor me to be following and that was onething that I've let go off and then camemy name and then came he just everybelief every rules that my parents haveever brought me up on I just questionedtheir one at a time and the ones that Ilike yes I okay you know there's acompromise I can make that but the onesthat I thought was absolutely no thiswas not going to serve me on my journeythis wasn't going to help me create areality that I want to create impactlives how I want to impact are not letgo of them and this was quite a shock tomy parents because you know if someoneraises you want to be a certain way andyou want entirely the opposite way it'sa pan interrupts it's an interruptionmark so they were just very shockedemotionally shocked and if just shockedeven it just even affected their healthto the point they had to go to hospitaland you know we raised our son this wayand now he's telling us he's entirely adifferent way and they couldn't reallyaccept it they couldn't really tolerateand soon enough I found myself outsideon the street homeless for three monthswith nothing but just faith nothing butbelief and nothing but vision that youknow I was going to overcome this I wasgoing to continue believing and continuehaving faith and continue going onforward no matter what anyone says nomatter what anyone does and no matterwhat anyone throws at me this is what Iam about this is my vision this is mypurpose Ireally believing it and I'm willing tomake any sacrifice to run with it andsee it till the end Wow just in thatshort little bit what you just saidthere there's so many nuggets ofinformation that I think I just want toquickly point out for the listeners ifyou don't mind firstly your emotionalintelligence could you just let everyoneknow how old you are23 23 okay so anyone listening to thisthis guy is 23 now if you're anythinglike me at the age of 23 I had nowherenear the level of emotional intelligencethat you you've just displayed there anda couple of things you've you've justpointed out there so religion obviouslyI'm not here to talk about religion it'snot what this podcast is about but mypersonal opinion is that obviouslypeople need something to believe in sowhether they choose religion or not onething you managed to find in that bitwhich I just kind of highlighted I madea note of list when you were homelessfor three months which we will elaborateon shortly if that's okay with yourselfis you had the belief in something andthat's something I believe is yourselfis that is that right would you wouldyou agree with definitely a hundredpercent and the reason why was becausewhen I was first homeless I was lookinginto some false or some energy and somecreator outside of me and now again likeyou said I'm not here to talk aboutreligion or any of that or cover any ofthat however the other part of when Iwas homeless so for the other two fromthe second month and the third month Istarted believing more in myself I'munderstanding that I had the resources Ihad the tools and I was forced withinmyself Wow Wow just just there as well Imean for anyone that follows selfdevelopment personal developmentresourcefulness I think Tony Robbinshe's probably the Guru of personaldevelopment that's something he speaksabout and I'll put my hand on my heartand be honest here I'm 32 now and onlyrecently have I understood the power ofthis sauce fulness which you'redemonstrating at such an early age isservedI'm excited me I'm actually exciting orwhat you're going to bring to the futureI think because you've got real-lifeexperiences as well that I'm sure manypeople are going through or may gothrough that hopefully they canobviously resonate with your story likeI said after free month of experience inhomelessness it was just the mostpowerful period of my life and why I saybecause I've been indevelopment for three years it was onlywithin just a short period of threemonths that I had to condense everythingreally put it into practicality and soat first when I was homeless it was Iwas just so self-destructive I startedmy old habit of smoking I had a veryquick mentality I had a very wise Godagainst me kind of mentality but thenlater on and it's crazy like it's crazylater on in the second third month Ijust started meditating more and thiswas when I was literally when I had noidea where I was going to sleep or wherewould wind up and I always winded upeither in hostels or strangest placesbut I just I just had no more fear I wasjust meditate and I was really connectedI was really like this is going to turnout as it's meant to turn out and Ibelieve everything happens for us andnot to us and now after free month Imanaged to find my own sharedaccommodation and from there always justgoing on to building my dream which I'mcurrently right now in Wowoh haha I'm actually getting goosebumpslistening to this is it's fascinatingjust emulation to the drugs so I've hadexperience of family members using drugsa lot of alcohol abuse especially couldyou elaborate a little bit on that wasthat a dark period or was it justrecreational it was a very dark periodbecause when I was taking drug it wasalso a period of my life or time where Ifelt suicidal okay I felt like I justwant to kill myself but I didn't havethe courage or the determination to gothrough with it so I thought what otherway can I you know slowly in my life andI slowly and my dream cannot slowly justend all these pain away and you knowit's very it was very II it's very easyfor me to judge myself and be like ohthat was a very bad action for me to doin but the reality is I knew at thattime when I was taking drug I was doingwhat I was doing to the best of myknowledge and so therefore I always sayyou do better when you know better andthat was what I knew at the time andthat's what I was using at the time torelieve my pain but I felt like it was avery important period of my life to Ineeded to experience that and to gothrough that in order to be where I amtoday life is all about balance andduality you know you don't knowif you don't know good if you don't knowbad so you don't know a terribleexperienceyou don't know a great experience unlessyou know a terrible experience so I'mgrateful I think you just touched onsomething fantastic there as long you dobetter when you know better and one ofthe traits that you've you've definitelyhighlighted in just this short amount oftime so far is a growth mindset and I'mnot sure how far your personaldevelopment goes but growth mindset wascertainly something for me that Isuppose it affected my ego initiallybecause we think we've got it allfigured out and you know having thatfixed mindset and you're demonstratinghere that you needed to know betterin such a short amount of time and youalso touched upon something how yourhabits was a congruent say for instancewith your vision but one thing I wouldpoint out and this is more for thelisteners as well is that just becauseyou do something I if you an extra sliceof cake or something for example itdoesn't necessarily make you a badperson that particular action I thinkthat's the problem with society we kindof beat ourselves down almostunnecessarily that's such a powerfulthing for you to say because I was onlysharing it on my social media friendsthe other day that look there's no suchthing as stupid peoplethere's only people that do stupidthings our actions should never defineus and this was a huge lesson that I hadto learn when I was homeless thatwhatever I'm doing right now andwhatever I'm experiencing right now itisn't me it shouldn't define me yes I amdoing this and I should just enjoy itwhile I'm doing it rather than feelguilty and beat myself up about itbut once I'm done let me beself-reflective let me say was thatreally a wise decision why was I reallydoing this what emotion what deep-rootedemotion is there into this and how can Iheal that and love that so I can moveall of my lives just give me a momentthere it's fantastic um I want to thisis more for myself my own curiosity herejust one day of living she would call ithomeless or on the streets or whereveryou were living if you could justexplain that to people because I thinkin society nowadays we kind of we see itwe feel bad for a few seconds but wedon't actually know the extent to whatit takes from a person if that makessense so if you could just pour uponthat a little bit please okay well oneparticular and this was a period thiswas a particular day whereI just felt like I hit rock like one andthat was where now when I went to thatnight I thought I had a place here tostay which I didn't and I only hadaround a pound or so on my debit cardliterally and my credit card I knew Iwasn't going to be able to book any roomand I know I'm going to be able to goanywhere so I thought okay where can Igo and it seems like Victoria Stationseems to be the spot for a lot ofhomeless people so I went to VictoriaStation and I was really tiredI was extremely exhausted bowels alsocold I was really cold so I couldn'tjust sleep anywhere because I needed tofind somewhere which I couldn't so I goon to Victoria Station I go in therewhere all the coaches are and I'm justpretending like I'm there sittingwaiting for a coach to arrive an hourhas went by two hours went by threehours went by and I thought okay I can'tdo this anymore so I found a big bannerand one of the places two big bannersand I put it together to hide myselfbecause there's a security guard therethat constantly checks around to see ifthere's any homeless people sleeping andthen she kicks them out so I found twobig banners and then I put them togetherto hide behind this corner and I wassleeping there I was cold but I couldn'tfeel my feet and it was really reallycold and this was a time to like can iare now sleeping on the floor I wasn'teven stealing you know anything I wasrock floor to myself is there any morerock bottom I can hit them this I haveno moneyI've asked all my friends if I couldstay over their place and nobody reallyhad you know has that opportunity to letme stay in a place and I'm here sleepingon the floor and this was a time where Iwas also working in peds Express so Ihad a jaw I was sleeping in VictoriaStation and I had a job at the same timeso the next day I had to go back to WestWestville Center to go to my job wearingthe same clothes sleeping in the sameclothes and doing everything in the sameclothes and my mentality was literallylike okay this is it I can do it is Idon't want to do this anymore I want toquit my job I just want to quiteverything I just want to quit my lifebut it was also a beautiful period oftime because and this is what I say guysvisualize visualize visualize this was aperiod of my time well sleepin on Victorstation I was sleeping on the floor Iwas called but I closed my eyes and Ijust visualized my future I just thoughtokay you know what maybe I may not beable to change my outside circumstancesand situations but I can most certainlychange out what I'm internallyprocessing him right now I do nottolerate any of this to internally be apart of me so I just closed my eyes Icould see myself standing on stagespeaking to people coaching clientsone-to-one be in a business doing whatit is that I'm passionate about and loveto do you know without any of theseobstacles becoming an obstacle and itwas so amazing because even at that timewhen the security god came and she foundand she was like get out she shouted atme I'm still okay with the house I cameto accept my reality knowing that thisone wasn't going to be my last andreality and I just got okay okay let mejust go along with this and let me justlook brighter for him yeah let me lookto the next day and then the next daycame I went to my friend and anopportunities just came networkmarketing came and a lot of things cameand my friend actually allowed me tostay over her place for a month so thisis the power of visualization WowI think I think you're a true exampleand this is why I really wanted to kindof get you on this podcast is that youliterally took control and you picked upthat pen and you started writing yourown story and this is kind of one of thethings that I always try and bring outof other people is that throughout lifewe kind of pigeon-holed into certainways for example do this because you'regood at it what you've kind of done isyou've sat back and you thought hold ona second Who am I who is theall andyou've picked up that pen and even we'reprobably a lot of people because I'lltell you somethingI mean I'm I can't handle any sort ofcold people that normally I'm constantlygot a hoodie on and I'm struggling so tohave that resilience and still have thevisualization like you said visualizevisualize visualize to believe that oneday you will achieve what you're doingand now I know looking at your story nowyou're there and that's fantastic so Idon't want to give too much away to thelisteners because I'd rather hear itfrom yourself but what you're whatyou've said there what you visualizedthere is kind of what you doing nowisn't it so if you could just give us aday in the life of the or now pleasewell I believe right now I wear on mylife it's ever-growing it'sever-evolving but it's goingexactly in the right direction it'smeant to go out so alive for me today isjust I'm currently running programs andcourses 21-day programs and coursesteaching people exactly the step to stepthat I used when I was homeless and whenI didn't have a place and even when Iwas going through my struggle and how Iovercame that mentally because I reallybelieve it's our internal wall thatcreates our external world and whateverwe are able to conceive within us we'reable to create outside of us so we onlyhave a lot of 21 day programs right nowthat I'm doing and I've just actuallystarted running a mastermind group onlyquite a few days ago called Titansmastermind creating leaders that areheart centered and that really want togo and travel and inspire people tobecome a more heart centered and tobecoming more authentic and genuine intheir work in their field of workwhatever that work may be and you knowdoing these podcasts being able to sharemy story and being able to be invited tospeak in on stage so I'm really reallygrateful and I never take thisopportunity for granted because I knowwithin me I have experienced a lot andI've learnt a lot and now I feel it's myresponsibility and duty to go out thereand to share with other people in orderfor them to unlock their potential andgift and create a reality that isbeautiful for them that is fantastic sofor anyone listening you've just heardtheir and obviously at the end of theshow we'll give you direct access toTheo but there's a there's programs outthere as masterminds but what I alwaystry and shy people away from is not justgoing on the internet and looking atsomeone who's paid a couple of thousandpounds for a Facebook ad and he'sdressed up in a nice smart shirt whatI'm trying to find throughout thispodcast as well myself he's authenticgenuine people like Theo here who'swho's actually been there who canactually tell you listen this is exactlywhat you need this is the blueprint so Iurge anyone who's in that position toreach out and can I be honest there andI've done that I've tried I've tried thewhole because when I first started thisit's very easy to get into the idea thatwe need to wear suit we need to sound acertain way we need to look a certainway we need to be a certain way in orderfor us to be successful and that's why Isay yeah my personal growthand your preneur journey really startedthis shit because the past two years itwas exactly the same way I used to lookat people in suits and I used to thinkokay let me wear soon let me cook youwhat they're saying let me do whatthey're doing and letting you go outthere and you're getting a client andthen I realized people really just buyinto hearts they don't buy like yesimage may play a contribution and makeplay a little factor but really andtruly people buy into hearts absolutelyso that's what I'm really about in mymission I'm not here to create 21stcentury business people I'm here tocreate 21st century heart centeredpeople I love that I love that messageand I appreciate your honesty there aswell and showing how you thought aboutit initially so I've got I've got nodoubt and I'm sure people listening tothis have no doubt that you will achieveall of this and create some amazingpeople well I say create I thinkeveryone's already got it in themselvesyou'll help them bring it out or supposeso from the moment you wake up in themorning are there other things or habitsthat people could say copy for exampleto kind of get that right mindset sowe've had guests previously who follow amiracle morning or we have certainpeople who anchor themselves to the gymor a long run meditation I mean I knowyou briefly touched on meditationearlier if you could just give a coupleof key things that you make sure thatyou get done in your day in order tokeep you moving forward before I sharethat can I share something absolutely soI'm gonna be sharing what I do in everysingle day regularly in my morninghowever as you listen to this really andtruly what I want is for you to findwhat suits you what really resonateswith you and what really connects withyou it's not I might suggest a lot ofthings like share I'm gonna be sharingright now but you find what suits andconnects with you because I've triedcooking in many other people's routineand you know on a superficial level Iwas starting to feel the difference buton a deeper level I still knew it wasn'treally connecting with me and it wasn'treally making a lasting transformationand ultimately that's what you should beseeking for isn't a temporarytransformation it's a lastingtransformation sustainability yeah sofor me I tried the morning routinemorning miracle routine and only a weekago I actually spot twoto go stop so what my morning routineright now really consists of is and it'sjust so simple but I actually reallyfeel the difference when I don't do itwhen I do do it which is I do one hourmeditation but these meditations areactually split into frees one meditationis for forgiveness and love so anyonethat I've been holding on to that I feellike I can't forgive just use that timeto forgive them and to let go of themand just send them as much love aspossible but also send a lot of planningand send forgiveness to the planet and Ifeel like as I do that because as I dothat I just release whatever needs to bereleased within me every single day is anew day every single day is a newchapter so for me it's an absolute thatI'm not taking whatever happenedyesterday or two years ago three yearsago even three months ago into mypresent life into my present moment soforgiveness and love is my first selfmeditation the other second set ofmeditation is visualization what do Iwant my day to be like feel like what doI want to accomplish today and I justvisualize it so vividly I don't mean ona superficial level like hey I'm gonnamake a thousand a thousand a thousandpounds I mean really coming from a placewhere I know I'm I am right now I knowI've got the resources and tools inorder to make this a real day and mylast set of meditation is reallygratitude what am i grateful for I lovea quote that says here as you go on topursuing what it is that you want topursue don't forget to be grateful forwhat you have today so my finalmeditation is just great gratitudegratitude not even just for the greatthings in life but also for the thingsthat I have heard for the things thatkind of taught me a lesson because likeI said I wouldn't know joy had I notknown pain so I just take it all in asone and I'm just so grateful for andthen after that when I finish all that Ido yoga I'm half an hour of yoga reallyconnect with my breathing because mygrieving is navigating me through lifebuddies navigate through life and mylast thing I do is just join in it sowriting down what the experience waslike in terms of my meditation my yogawhat I am what I'm gonna enjoy about orwhat I enjoyed about yesterday were I'mgonna enjoy about today and justanything journaling anything tostructure my thoughts to structure mymind because you know we have twelvethousand to seventhousand thoughts a day so if we're notable to structure a piece of paper we'regoing to be confused about what it isthat we want from our life we're goingto be confused in where it is what we'regoing and we're gonna make a veryindecisive decision Wow okay so just torecap on that then so we've got the ourmeditation which is looking atforgiveness in love they move up thevisualization on a deeper level and thengratitude followed by yoga journaling aswell okay fantastic and it's a greatpoint that you just said actually therebecause and I should have picked this upmyself was not to just copycat someoneelse because I've done it I've had allthese routines and I've sinned likesuccess for entrepreneurs that maybe IHoward in high esteem and I've been likeokay if you can do this I can do thisbut then you've got to look at your ownlife and it's got to be sustainable foryour own life so if you're if you'rewaking up at par 4 for example or the 4a.m. club but then you're half asleep by12 o'clock it's not really sustainable Ithink that's a great point that peopleshould find their own stuff but I wouldcertainly recommend I mean most of thestuff you mentioned there the greatleaders of the world all sort ofimplement in their day so thank you forsharing that I appreciate it so we'vetouched briefly on your past and I thinkadversity comes as one of the firstwords when we think about your strugglesand how you've got to where you've gotto in this particular time if we canjust sideline the homelessness just fora second and if you could just point outone other particular time where you facegreat adversity but you perseveredthrough it and what I want you to do isif you if you wouldn't mind just take afew seconds to really try and putyourself back in that moment just tokind of give the listeners some realtrue authentic feeling of what it waslike and then how you got through it andthen obviously we can move on and seewhat lessons you learn from that and youknow as you ask that question now I feelreally connected to my my emotionbecause the reason being is I want toshare a quote with you that I cameacross which is so powerful until thisday I live by this quote it's aphilosophy it's a way of life for mewhich is I am not who I think I am I amnot who we think I am who I think youthink I am and so for me it's we we liveour whole life through other people'slenses other people's perceptionyou know it's like really how much ofwho we are is it really who we are andso for me the greatest adversity I guessI faced was when I was in that period oftime where I just thought okay you knowI can quit all this and this was when Iwas at my friend's place you know shewas allowing me to live with her for amonth and then now I had to go out thereand I had to find my own place and Ijust fought can't do this I really can'tdo this what on earth was I thinkingyou know really coming on my truth I'mreally living in my truth I'm still akid I still won't know what the hell I'mdoing I'm still young and I felt at thatperiod of time I just felt like I couldjump off a train track and I felt like Icouldn't care less that was when I wasunder I was on the ground and I thoughtlet me just jump off there as you canclearly see the pattern when I washomeless there was a lot of times I feltsuicidal a lot it wasn't just once itwas quite intense quite a time so thatwas my greatest adversity it was reallyI knew what I wanted to do I knew whereI was going with this but then my egojust started coming out of nowhere andstarted challenging that and this iswhat I'm going to tell you when you havethe courage and the determination andthe faith to go out there and to pursuewhat it is that you believe in it's noteven what other people are telling youthat is the greatest challenge is whatyou're telling yourself you know thatdull part of you that that self and Ican't do it I'm not good enough andreally intuitive what you need areShort's office where did this come fromit didn't come from you it must havecome from somewhere else because reallyand truly we are light we are love weare all that is good you know we are allthat is courage and faith and otherwisehumanity wouldn't be out where it istoday so anytime that I was experiencingthat I just asked myself is this reallymy voice or is this just the voices ofpeople outside of me or the naysayersand so there's a great quote that EricThomas once says if the enemy withincan't attack the enemy outside could doyou know how so that was my greatestadversity it was my own soft or my ownown own disbelief but I overcame that Iloved that is this really my voice and Ithink so often all our limiting beliefsthroughout life is mainly is peopleteachers it could be your parents itcould be your friends your family yourpeers and I'm guilty of it myself to behonest I think I am where I am now in amuch better place but the last seveneight years with just me followingaround what other people wanted from meI suppose and trying to trying to pleaseother people I suppose and that's kindof the world we live in especially withsocial media being so so prevalent ineveryone's daily life that you're almosttrying to keep up with the Jonesesyou're almost trying to have a highlightreel as opposed to writing your ownstory if that makes sense and you knowwhat the hard part about that all is iswe can try to lie to ourselves and thisis a great insight that was given to melet's just say for example right nowfear is bigger than your dream let'sjust say that let's just say you knowyou you know it is that you want to dobut you're just too scared to do it soyou'll just give away you will just giveit away and you'll be like no I'm notgonna pursue this I'd rather stick to mycomfortable life a year from now you maynot experience the difference two yearsfrom now you may not experience thedifference three years maybe not butultimately there will come a time wherethat voice what if comes and I reallybelieve resistance then turns intophysical illness so that means that youhave a lot of people that are successfulthat have accomplished so much in lifeyet they're sick they're spirituallysick they're mentally sick they'reemotional in you're sick they're notfulfilled they're not content they knowthe art they know the mechanic tosuccess but they don't know the art offulfillment they're not experienced inthat so I always say like you know whatyou can risk ityou can try and live all comfortable asyou want but how long is it really gonnalast and how deep is it really and Ibelieve a lot of our successes and a lotof the happiness that comes from oursuccesses is very superficialfor me what I'm interested in is reallycreating a lasting fulfillment andhappiness in my life that comes fromwithin my soul not just for meaccomplish and achieving mechanicsuccess based things I love the answerbecause I had a debate with somebodyabout this previously so I'm not gonnaspeak about myself too much here but oneof the things my mom who's like my bestfriend always taught me was always aboutgiving and like the importance of beinggrateful and just helping as many peopleas possible and I remember as a childwhilst a child was about 15 I got myjob and I was working as a salesassistant and I had something like 42pounds or something I think it was andstraightaway I went home and this waswithout any sort of guidance or anythingI and not many people know this and Isponsored a child straightaway and I andI donated the about four pounds to likeWaterAid and I think it was cancer Ididn't have much we come from humblebeginnings and throughout my life I'vealways whatever I've had I've tried togive as much as I possibly can and thereason I say this is because youmentioned something there about thesuperficial part and you mentioned aboutfulfillment because I believe there'stwo different types of people on a macrolevel and what I believe is you havepeople who genuinely just have a desireto help people and then you have peoplewho achieve all this amazing successfeel somewhat unfulfilled feel unhappyand then what they do is in return startdoing charities getting a sense offulfillment now I'm not here to sayone's right and one's wrong and one'sbetter than the other because I believeanyone who helps anyone in any way isdoing a great service but I can trulysee within you for somebody who's beenat the bottom who's still there with youknow trying to be positive a positivebeacon to the world you've got thatfirst trait you're the person who'salways wanted to help you're not theperson who's I when I when I make amillion pounds and I've got the car inthe house then maybe I'll take a bit oftime at and it's like my friend saysthough my personal development is ourpersonal development the work that Ileave today will be left to futuregenerations yeah so that's why it's evenmore important that you know at the endof the day yes enjoy life yes you knowmake the most of it but make sure thatif you're going to leave this planetneither we've leave it in a great wayleave it in a way that's so positivethat future generations where they cometo come alive and grow up here they canpick it up from somewhere positive I'msure the listeners I get in plenty ofnuggets see I'd even recommend pause inthis just to kind of take in some of thesome of the stuff you say and there'ssome fantastic quotes there as well byThomas somebody who I have a lot ofadmiration for as well deal we're gonnawe're gonna just switch gears a littlebit here I wanna I want to ask you andagain I mean I don't really need to saythis to you because you're very wellthought out but if you could just tellme what your biggest fear is not notliving up to my full potential and giftlet me share a story with you actuallyand this is what really scares me when Iwas born I was born and this was 1995and I was a civil war going on and youknow there were a lot of soldiers firinga.k rifles and ask where you were bornsorry to Tamale so there were they werefiring aka rifles and there was onebullet could have potentially really hitme in the head and I could have died andas a child so I really I don't take mylife for grantedI believe every single day is a miracleand my biggest fear is not living up tothat miracle and that opportunity andchance that has been given to me Wowsee that's a remarkable story and it'ssomething that I even now I take I'm sograteful of my circumstances when I wasborn and I'm sure everyone listening tothis as well never came from such a sucha difficult start it was almost like theodds were against you from the start butyou kept persevering so I'm confidentthat you will destroy that fear shall wesay and you will live up to yourpotential and if I can help in any wayor if anyone listening to this can helpin any way then certainly reach out toTheo thank you for that I appreciate itwe've kind of spoken obviously aboutyour wire your inspiration yourmotivation and I suppose I don't want tokind of repeat the same question againbut do you have days where you justdon't feel like doing anything and Iwant you to be completely honest herebecause yes we will ever why we all wantto change our parents lives our wiveslives our partners lives we have a goalto help serve people let them writetheir own story let them find theirvoice and all of that stuff but in thosemoments where you're not feeling quiteup to it because I know it happens to meand I'm pretty confident it happens to99% of the people out there otherwisethey're lying so when it does happen toyou what keeps you going on that day Iwould say it would be alive for me tosay no I have experience and this is noquestion I was just asked me today wasalso asked to me last night and I wouldsay yes I have a lot of days where Idon't want to wake up out of bed and Idon't want to do anything and I justwant to quit and I just want to give upand I just want to say you know what letme justaround and do absolutely nothing becauseit's challenging it's like first yourpersonal growth is the most remarkablethe most exciting the most fun thing butat the same time is the most challengingthing because what it really brings outis triggers what it really brings out isa lot of part of you that you've beenneglecting and suppressing so for medays there where I actually start toexperience these triggers which was likethree days ago where I was supposed togo to this event but I just felt like Idon't want to go to it I don't want towake up our bed I just want to stay inbed I just wanted to be tucked under myduvet and I just want to sleep and whatreally you know I don't push thatfeeling and I don't resist that feelingI embrace it because like I said everyemotion that is a deep-rooted reason towhy we're feeling what we're feelingthere is a reason behind every feelingso the way I motivate myself is I try toget to the 80 grit T of why I'm feelingthat way what is this really about itisn't about the fact that it's just coldand I just don't want to go out there'sa real deep root very concerning reasonwhy and I get into that why and Iexplore every possibility I question inevery way so that therefore is got noway of taking over me because you knowour thought creates our feeling and ourfeeling influences our action so I justask as many questions about this feelingas possible I try to really cover itfrom all aspect of like you know acylinder and soon enough is that oh okaythat's why that's why I'm feeling thisway and then when I accept and Iacknowledge it I just think to myselfyou know what this is my thought this ismy feeling but it doesn't have to be andsomething that I act upon it you know Iget to choose how I want to respond tothis so once I can really get into whyI'm feeling the way I'm feeling and thenI choose to respond and the way I chooseto respond is I just love it Iacknowledge is that and I say to myselfyou know what I can rather act on thisbut I know I'm gonna regret it later onI could just choose what feels hardright now but ultimately later on I'mgonna be very thankful and grateful forit so that's how I motivate myself Idissect and you're very very self awarein order to be able to kind of separatethose things the reason I asked that aswell is becausewhen I went on my entrepreneurialjourney when I used to have those days Iused to absolutely beat myself up and Iused to be like I'm a bad husband I'm abad businessman I used to just basicallylabel myself based on my mood that dayand then what one of the quotes I thinksuch a from a song and it says it's okaynot to be okay and I love that becauseyou can use that across all walks oflife but when I say that then I'd thenadopt a similar approach to yourselfokay so kay not to be okay today andmaybe I don't feel like working out forexample or going to a conference eventbut what I will do is understand whythat is happening and you hit the nailon the head there because really trulyunderstanding the deeper reason behindwhy you do what you do if you can masterthat then you can almost I suppose nexttime it comes handle it much betterwould you agree with that it is it isbut this is the biggest problem thebiggest problem is people are very muchfocused on outside in rather than insideout because you know we can't resistinstant gratification so we can't resistinstant result but what people need toreally understand is that it's when youwork from within you take ten stepforward rather than just taking one stepforward so yeah it really really is Ithink it's just you have to reallyunderstand why you're not feelingmotivated when you're not me feelingmotivate don't try to suppress and I'mforce yourself to do something that youdon't want to do if you don't feel likeyou're going for a run today don't gofor a run today then you know but thenpeople is that you've gotta push you'vegotta push you've gotta push there'swhat happens when you push the sameproblem repeatedly shows up in your lifeagain and again and again and today itmay be very subtle but tomorrow's gonnabe very big and very overwhelming andyou'll find it even harder to overcomeit okay guys you've heard the buzzer gooff and that means it's the most funpart of the show so what I'm gonna bedoing is putting Theo through his pacesand I'm gonna set the timer for 60seconds and I'm gonna be asking him asmany questions as possibleTheo you've got no time to think I wantyour first answer okay okay start inthree two oneokay Theo the ability to fly or beinvisible fly money or fame fameNetflix our YouTubeclicks calling or texting calling Cokeor Pepsi coke would you rather know howyou would die or when you were dying howI would die Christmas or birthdaysChristmas tea or coffee tea summer orwinter summer your favorite place in thewhole wide worldOh Brazil Brazil Brazil Brazil would youknow how to speak all the languages inthe world will be able to speak toanimals and animals if you could abolishone thing in the world what would it begreed Facebook or LinkedIn Facebook readminds or predict the future read mindscats or dogs cats have you ever been ina fightyes did you win no last question yourfavorite movie star Hugh named fromWolverine Hugh Jackman yeah Hugh Jackmanokay fantastic brilliant okay that'stime just that was very interesting Ijust thought I'd just mix it up a littlebit the Hugh Jackman thing I'm not sureif you've sinned he's recent from thegreatest showmen um I wonder what sure Ihaven't seen about how the great thingsabout yeah well it's the musical soinitially I was kind of like under fencewith it I don't know about you but I'mquite an emotional guy saying say Joeand I remember watching that and I waswatching it with the wife and likethere's quite a few scenes that werereally kind of touching and I thinkespecially with your story as wellbecause this without giving too muchaway it's a guy with a dream he's gothis partner supporting him and he's justgoing through all these obstacles andadversities to kind of get to where hewants to get to you know the songs arepowerful but it's a brilliant movie andespecially if you're a fan of him somake sure you check that one out buddydefinitely thank you I only think thefriends between him and me is how I needto find my partner which I'm sure youall sure they'll come running in okay sowe've got two more questions left thenext question is about reflectionobviously hindsight's a wonderful thingand upon reflection we can always thinkof ways to get to where we are currentlyquicker do the things we're currentlydoing earlier or perhaps just movetowards that goals that bigbut I guess the journey also teaches usa lot as well and sometimes I supposeyou could say everything happens for areason so what I want to know is if youcould go back in time to one particularmoment where you really struggled andsuffered with adversity and just whispersomething in your ear knowing what youknow now what would that be it was whenI came back from Slovenia and to go tomy parents house and to finally reallylay out the balls for them so to tellthem okay this is who I am and this iswho I've become and this is my desiresand these are my visions and you know itdoesn't really resonate and connect withyou so what I would have told myselfwhen I was when I made that decision wasthat rather than doing it in a verydefensive way do it in a very loving waybecause a very beautiful quote I reallyenjoy unlike is that love and honestycan penetrate through anything in lifeparticularly when it comes to those hardconversations that you were having withyour family or your friends if you do sowith hate intent or doubt or anger orfrustration or irritation or even asense of fire within you you know it'llnever turn out exactly the way it canpossibly turn out but if you do it froma place of love and honesty no matterhow how great the mistake or how greator how hard the conversation is if youdo it from a place of like I'm justgonna do this in a very loving way andI'm gonna do this in a very honest wayI'm sure things would have turned out abit differently so that's what I willthat's what I would have told myself isas you're having that conversation it'sokay to speaking your truth continuedoing that but change the intent a bitdo it from a place of love and not froma place of doubt anger frustration orirritation love and honesty canpenetrate through anything in lifeokay so sadly we're at the last questionnow if if we fast forward and we move up150 years in time and sadly sciencefails to save us or if there wassomebody who wrote a book about theodoretravel and it's sitting there and thensomebody else walks over and picks upthat bookand realizes there's too many pages toread here do I really want to read thisso instead they turn it over and theylook at the blurb in the back what doesthat blurb tell him so if there was abook what would what it will tell themis who was I really that's what he willtell them the most enjoyable andbeautiful part about the life I'm livingright nowis every single day I'm a differentperson and it's not to say oh the personI am today is you know fake andsomewhere tomorrow person's gonna bereal but every single day I get theopportunity to unravel a part of methat's always being there but it's justbeing shy it's being scared away alwaysbeen frightened away so who was Theodorebecause like I said I changed my name myname used to be Mohammad and today myname is Theodore and I can change thattomorrow so it's just who was I reallyWho am I reallyand I think the person that picks upthat book and see that I wanted toexcite as they're reading that I wantthem to challenge themselves and askthemselves so if this person you knowwas able to change his name and is ableevery single day he's evolving whatabout me Who am I and that is the mostpowerful question because once you canhave that question which I believe it'san ongoing journeyyou're not gonna fully a hundred percenthack it you know you want to be overfifty percent at least two beautiful itreally is a beautiful beautiful thing tounderstand who you really are and juston the sidelines so Who am I I reallybelieve the way to summarize Who I am isjust divine I love that I love that I'msure they'll pick up the book and readall of it if you said that absolutelyfantastic my friend okay so for anyonelistening that now I'm sure you canagree that was an unbelievable story andone that is still being written and Ithink they all hit the nail on the headthere where he explained that it's anongoing journey and that's the same forall of us even myself even as I gothrough the process of trying to becomea podcaster I'm still learning and evenmy self development in other aspects butthey always certainly demonstratedamazing traits and his story iscertainly one that I urge all of you toreach out and speak to him about so whatI'm gonna do is I'm gonna give Thiel achance now to basically let us know theone best place where you can find himthank you so muchby the way this has been such aprivilege and what you're doing isabsolutely incredible thank you so muchthank youso like I said right now I'm actuallyworking an exciting exciting excitingnew project which is called the Titansmastermind and my vision and passion forquite a while has always been to createa community where we can all supportempower inspire each other withauthenticity integrity love and honestyand just just about anything that ispositive and heart centered so I'vequite recently started this few days agoand already right now I've got six orseven members but by next Jim and that'swhy I don't plan on doing this alone Iplan on touching as many lives aspossible so that therefore they cancreate a ripple effect by next year Iwonder I want that to reach 50 K so 50 Kmembers were all supporting each other'sbusiness were all supporting each otherin personal life professional life soit's cool Titans among us Titansmastermind and it's really about helpingyou become the Titan of your life owningyour life and really running your lifeas you want it to join in you know justand follow me on Facebook and drop me amessage and I will invite you into thegroup yeah it's a very safe place as avery comfortable place it's not justit's not all about just money motivationit has so much more to do with that soany support you need any assistance youneed whether it is business whether it'syour life all there iswhatever struggle you're going throughcome and come along and join it becausethis is the one thing that I wish I hadthree years ago when I was in thebeginning of my personal growth journeyyou know being able to be in anenvironment where I wasn't just kind ofbeing superficially honest I was beingreally honest some people were takingthat in that would they were absorbingit in there with digesting in and theyjust had so much excitement into helpingme so I wish I had that and so today Ihad the opportunity to create that sowhy not so if you are and whateverwherever you are in your journey whetheryou feel like you're doing great and youdon't be there whether you're in themiddle whether you're in the beginning Ibelieve we all need support so comealong join in let's have fun and let'screate 2019 to become an awesome yearthey are is that free to access foranyone in the public yeah it's a freeattack so yeah so it's a closed groupthat's why I message me forso I can invite what number is free yeahwhat I will do is I'll put all the oddsdetails in the show notes as well so youcan direct message him personally I justwant to say thank you to Thiel fortaking time out of his day today andsharing his fantastic story I'm surewe're all gonna hear and see his name alot more I mean this guy is like wisebeyond his years he's he's so young he'sdoing incredible things so I know mynext job after this call is to get onthat Facebook group as well so Theo ifyou wouldn't mind adding me in as wellplease definitely I'd appreciate thatbuddy and for everyone else at homethanks for listening thank you so muchand remember this podcast is absolutelyfree so all we ask in return is for youto share this with a friend and drop usa five star review over on iTunes havean awesome day See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome back everyone. Listen to today's episode of storytime to find out whyI'm so hyped! :-).

Spilling all the tea. WhyI won't DM you first.

"I Want to Know Why"Lyrics and melody by Harry HirshArrangement and production by Gordon HarveyVocals: Simone GillGuitar: Robin Gist© 2018www.aquilinemusic.comCreated on behalf of Intentional Insights at www.intentionalinsights.org to spread word about the Pro-Truth Pledge at www.protruthpledge.org and promote truth-seeking, including the book "The Truth-Seeker's Handbook: A Science-Based Guide." www.intentionalinsights.org/truth-seekers-handbook-science-based-guide/ You are free to use it for any educational, civic, or noncommercial purpose.Lyrics to "I Want to Know Why"I want to know why the stars light up the nightI want to know why the moon keeps shining brightI want to know why fish are born to swim and birds to flyI want to know whyI want to know why rain falls to the groundI want to know why lightning makes a soundI want to know why the seasons change and why time passes byI want to know whyI want to know why diseases plague our livesI want to know why everybody diesI want to know why people suffer and believe in their own liesI want to know whyI want to know why reality persistsI want to know why anything existsI want to know why it is that I want to know whyI will find the answers and grow wiseI will find the answers and grow wise

Hello! In our 35th episode, we had a great time chatting with Nate Martin of Puzzle Break! We talk about his escape facility, Escape the Rubicon (his escape room on the Royal Caribbean cruise ship), and the escape room industry in general!For our parody, Codegreen (whom I call leader) was excited to write a Moana parody! So she sent us the lyrics and got Si Miu to sing it! Huzzah! You can find them and their reviews on Escapers 4G.And here are the lyrics for our parody song! ^_^I've been staring at the words on the paperLong as I can remember, never really knowing whyI wish , I could be a good escapistBut I know I'm not the greatest, no matter how hard I tryEvery step I make, every Braille I crackEvery code I break, every clue leads backHow am I so slow, why do I not knowHow to get the keySee the line of this code it's so hard and needs solvingOh I don't know, my brain has frozeAnd I think I will fail for this room is beyond meI'm not a pro, and I know my team's escape rate's kinda lowI know, we are working on these puzzlesthey are happy with these puzzlesEverything is well designedI know they are working on these puzzleswhat's my role with these puzzles?I dunno if we'll escape in timeI should solve not hide, I can see what's wrongI'm not satisfied to just play alongBut the voice inside says I take too longWhat is wrong with me?Shine the light on the wall I can see, it's tinyNo that's not right, use the black lightHere we go, there's a glow and it's pointing behind meAnd now we'll knowDo you hear that chime, are we out of time?See the line on the wall can you read it out to meJust let me know, try the comboBut the words, I can see, they are written in ChineseThe final code, we were too slow...

韩国摇滚漫谈第二十期回顾与展望下篇：展望-播放歌曲：1. 李长熙 - 那是你-19732. CNBLUE - Let&`&s Go Crazy-2010-专辑blue love3. 春夏秋冬 - 有些人的梦想 (SSaW Long)-19934. hyukoh - Lonely-2014-专辑205. Black Hole - 深夜的写真曲-19916. THE SOLUTIONS - Silence-2010-同名专辑7. Nell - Cliff Parade-20128. 张基河和脸们-是那种关系-20119. 热土豆Hot Potato -汝矣島的花儿太好了-2012-专辑Who Doesn&`&t Like Sweet Things10. Trax - End Of The World下篇文案C.N. BlueC.N. Blue是F&C Music/Ai Entertainment公司继FTIsland后又一打造的实力派乐队，2009年07月30日在日本出道，2010年01月14日在韩国出道，由两位吉他手兼主唱郑容和与李宗泫，一位贝斯手李正信，一位鼓手姜敏赫组成。2009年8月19日在日本作为独立乐队发行首张mini专辑《Now & Never》，于2010年1月14日发行韩国mini一辑《Bluetory》，正式在韩国出道。2009年起四位成员相继出演了多部高人气电视剧，以演员的身份得到了认可。代表作品：《孤独》《LOVE》《直觉》《Hey you》《I&`&m sorry》等。春夏秋冬爵士民谣风格的乐队，成立于1988年，成员为金钟镇和金泰国hyukoh(赫吴) 由四个1993年生的同龄朋友： 队长兼主唱吴赫(Oh Hyuk)、吉他手Hyun Jae、贝斯 Dong Gun 以及鼓手 In Woo 所组成，而团名正是取自主唱名字倒过来的。其中乐团的灵魂人物吴赫在北京出生成长（直到大学才回韩国），在当时的女友和母亲的影响下开始学音乐，一直以来独自写歌的他，在首张专辑完成后决定组乐团，透过好友的牵线介绍认识了Dong Gun、Hyun Jae以及精通钢琴、长笛、小提琴等多种乐器兼制作的才子鼓手 In Woo（本来竞速滑冰选手，后来腿受伤才放弃改学音乐），2014年5月四人乐团终而成型。而团员们也透露当初听demo带时，主唱吴赫的好声音是吸引他们加入的一大主因。2014年8月发行首张EP专辑 [20] ，是吴赫在中国时期独立完成的，虽然专辑完成后乐团才成军，但其他成员也参与了不少讨论修改完成。这张专辑没有任何宣传，而是透过口碑相传获得越来越多关注。black hole一个韩国非常知名的速度金属乐队。这个乐队1986年发表第一张专辑，算是韩国金属乐队的先行者，乐队的歌主要表现了要寻求自由的意志。吉他手Joo Sang Kyun 是韩国非常受尊敬的音乐人，也是位知名的社会活动家。THE SOLUTIONS2012年出道的四人乐队，详细信息欠奉Nell韩国年轻乐队中的代表性乐队，韩国内部极具知名度的团。由金钟万，李正勋，郑在元、李在京四位成员组成，于1999年组队，主唱的声音同样很有特点，很清澈，带着点忧伤。Nell的音乐做得很有Coldplay和the Verve的感觉，Britpop又带点迷幻，在pc国绝对算的上是独树一帜的音乐风格。他们的歌听来都有一种贴近自然，很大气恢弘的感觉，和主唱清澈的声音相得益彰张基河和脸们张基河，韩国独立乐队主唱兼词曲创作人，毕业于韩国最高学府首尔大学社会学系。因2008年参加了第10届ssamzie声音庆典被大众广为人知，同年在《[1] EBS空间共感》舞台上展现出他独特的音乐及歌词，在网上引起极大回响，独特的音乐风格成为了张基河的象徵。2013年参加了MBC电视台王牌综艺《无限挑战》2013自由路歌谣祭，与HAHA搭档组成Seventy Fingers(HAHA& 张基河和脸孔们)演唱了歌曲《super杂草man》张基河在组合“张基河和脸孔们”担任主唱和词曲创作人，该组合在2008年5月份成立,组合成员有张基河(主唱)、李民基（吉他手）、Jung Joong-yeop(base)、金贤镐（架子鼓）、长谷川阳平（吉他手）、李宗敏（键盘手）和全日俊（架子鼓）。张基河的成名歌曲应该是《廉价咖啡》这首歌，这首歌销售记录突破了1万张。曾经荣获了第六届韩国大众音乐奖的三个奖项。他特有的说唱方式吸引了当时的韩国音乐界很多歌迷热土豆Hot Potato主唱金C，1997年创建乐队，和尹道贤是好友，名曲《告白》。同时担任两天一夜的主持人，作为演员，参演电影、电视剧、舞台剧等，为多部影视剧创作ostTrax韩国视觉摇滚乐团出道之时被其所属公司——韩国龙头娱乐公司S.M的四个花季美男组成的摇滚组合，从一开始就充满了神秘感。主唱Typhoon、鼓手Rose、贝司手Attack、吉他手X-mas。Trax是由日本视觉摇滚乐团鼻祖人物Yoshiki一手打造的。每个成员都有很强的实力和让人无法移开目光的特点。无论是华丽出众的外表还是独特的摇滚风格，都能感动任何一个有摇滚精神的人，带给人们不同于以往的视觉摇滚乐团带来的惊喜！《那是你》一切都进入梦乡，宁静的夜晚怎么办，只有我一个人睡不着翻过的书上，无数的字怎么办，一个字都看不到那是你，那是你，就是因为你现在正下着雨的街道上不撑伞，一个人走着突然，面对面的同学说道你疯了吗，一边哈哈的笑着那是你，那是你，都是因为你想要打电话就换了硬币一整天都在和号码牌摔跤就那样你接了就结束了是因为什么，像傻瓜一样的哭着那是你，那是你，就是因为你那是你《Let&`&s Go Crazy》Let&`&s go crazy let&`&s go crazy let&`&s go crazyI can feel the hit in my flesh and boneI don&`&t wanna be here on my ownMight miss a chance turning every stoneA moment or two and it&`&s goneI only wanna play for funCome let&`&s get together every oneIf you wanna know stay till the endI could be lover or friendI&`&ll be damned if i doI&`&ll be damned if i don&`&t do tooI find a way to get throughThat is youLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againSome of the days gonna pass you byNot always great and you don&`&t know whyI will if you up till you touch the skyCause i&`&m gonna make you flyI&`&ll be damned if i doI&`&ll be damned if i don&`&t do tooI find a way to get throughThat is youLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againI&`&m gonna go break now i&`&m gonna uh go break nowI&`&m gonna go break now i&`&m gonna go uh uh uh woo《有些人的梦想》有的人，怀揣梦想而生活有的人，分享梦想而生活其他人，为实现梦想而生活有的人，为忘却梦想而生活有的人，掠夺别人的梦想而生活其他人说，梦想并不存在这世上有多少人就有多少种个性每个人都认为自己是正确的虽说这就是，所谓的梦想吧我是谁，是否在梦想着明日我是谁，没有任何梦想吗我是谁，是否在梦想着明日我是谁，没有任何梦想吗《lonely》Lonely your embraceIs disappearedSlowly your smells disappearedSuddenly indulge in old memoriesScattered pieces of old flameKeep knocking the doorTell me if you&`&re not aloneIf there&`&s someone nowI don&`&t wanna bother morePlease answer meI don&`&t wanna disappearIn your whole worldLike I didn&`&t pastPlease answer meI don&`&t wanna disappearIn your whole worldLike I didn&`&t past《深夜的写真曲》漆黑的夜晚，我独自无法入睡只有绿光找到我的，窗外夜晚云朵飘啊飘的晚上我肚子无法入睡随着星光载满我的眼泪闪烁着避而不见，逐渐夜深的夜晚疲惫的眼泪连星光都消失了夜晚的眼球里有很多留念只有黑色的夜晚消失在我的视野《silence》Come on all the audience to feelEverything you want and wanna beCome on we&`&re the alliance to fillEverytime we hope to be freeWithout you being hereNothing&`&s gonna change downThe world and who we areWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s you who make new other worldCome on all the audience to feelEverything you want and wanna beCome on we&`&re the alliance to fillEverytime we hope to be freeWithout you being hereNothing&`&s gonna change downThe world and who we areWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s you who make new other worldWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s you who make new other world《Cliff Parade》拜托嘴唇的瞬间，已经凝固的那句话贫困过的事实，交错交织一向又远又近，脱落的影子每个视线停留的地方，手能触到的地方全部渐渐消失let it crash站在悬崖边上的不知道是新的希望，还是绝望一直是我的救援也是另一个死亡，阻碍的影子每个视线停留的地方，手能触到的地方全部渐渐消失let it crash《汝矣島的花儿太好了》没有踩到我的脚蚂蚁在认真的搬运着白白，天天，小小，圆圆不知是早饭，还是午饭、晚饭有很多脚在经过，这边，那边有很多车在经过，这边，那边向着天空立着的高楼大厦们也不飞走，就乖乖坐着的萤火虫不知哪边的风，红花花香，染红着我的心没有踩到我的脚蚂蚁在认真的搬运着白白，天天，小小，圆圆不知是早饭，还是午饭、晚饭有很多脚在经过，这边，那边有很多车在经过，这边，那边向着天空立着的高楼大厦们也不飞走，就乖乖坐着的萤火虫不知哪边吹来的风，红色花朵的香气，染红着我的心

韩国摇滚漫谈第二十期回顾与展望下篇：展望-播放歌曲：1. 李长熙 - 那是你-19732. CNBLUE - Let&`&s Go Crazy-2010-专辑blue love3. 春夏秋冬 - 有些人的梦想 (SSaW Long)-19934. hyukoh - Lonely-2014-专辑205. Black Hole - 深夜的写真曲-19916. THE SOLUTIONS - Silence-2010-同名专辑7. Nell - Cliff Parade-20128. 张基河和脸们-是那种关系-20119. 热土豆Hot Potato -汝矣島的花儿太好了-2012-专辑Who Doesn&`&t Like Sweet Things10. Trax - End Of The World下篇文案C.N. BlueC.N. Blue是F&C Music/Ai Entertainment公司继FTIsland后又一打造的实力派乐队，2009年07月30日在日本出道，2010年01月14日在韩国出道，由两位吉他手兼主唱郑容和与李宗泫，一位贝斯手李正信，一位鼓手姜敏赫组成。2009年8月19日在日本作为独立乐队发行首张mini专辑《Now & Never》，于2010年1月14日发行韩国mini一辑《Bluetory》，正式在韩国出道。2009年起四位成员相继出演了多部高人气电视剧，以演员的身份得到了认可。代表作品：《孤独》《LOVE》《直觉》《Hey you》《I&`&m sorry》等。春夏秋冬爵士民谣风格的乐队，成立于1988年，成员为金钟镇和金泰国hyukoh(赫吴) 由四个1993年生的同龄朋友： 队长兼主唱吴赫(Oh Hyuk)、吉他手Hyun Jae、贝斯 Dong Gun 以及鼓手 In Woo 所组成，而团名正是取自主唱名字倒过来的。其中乐团的灵魂人物吴赫在北京出生成长（直到大学才回韩国），在当时的女友和母亲的影响下开始学音乐，一直以来独自写歌的他，在首张专辑完成后决定组乐团，透过好友的牵线介绍认识了Dong Gun、Hyun Jae以及精通钢琴、长笛、小提琴等多种乐器兼制作的才子鼓手 In Woo（本来竞速滑冰选手，后来腿受伤才放弃改学音乐），2014年5月四人乐团终而成型。而团员们也透露当初听demo带时，主唱吴赫的好声音是吸引他们加入的一大主因。2014年8月发行首张EP专辑 [20] ，是吴赫在中国时期独立完成的，虽然专辑完成后乐团才成军，但其他成员也参与了不少讨论修改完成。这张专辑没有任何宣传，而是透过口碑相传获得越来越多关注。black hole一个韩国非常知名的速度金属乐队。这个乐队1986年发表第一张专辑，算是韩国金属乐队的先行者，乐队的歌主要表现了要寻求自由的意志。吉他手Joo Sang Kyun 是韩国非常受尊敬的音乐人，也是位知名的社会活动家。THE SOLUTIONS2012年出道的四人乐队，详细信息欠奉Nell韩国年轻乐队中的代表性乐队，韩国内部极具知名度的团。由金钟万，李正勋，郑在元、李在京四位成员组成，于1999年组队，主唱的声音同样很有特点，很清澈，带着点忧伤。Nell的音乐做得很有Coldplay和the Verve的感觉，Britpop又带点迷幻，在pc国绝对算的上是独树一帜的音乐风格。他们的歌听来都有一种贴近自然，很大气恢弘的感觉，和主唱清澈的声音相得益彰张基河和脸们张基河，韩国独立乐队主唱兼词曲创作人，毕业于韩国最高学府首尔大学社会学系。因2008年参加了第10届ssamzie声音庆典被大众广为人知，同年在《[1] EBS空间共感》舞台上展现出他独特的音乐及歌词，在网上引起极大回响，独特的音乐风格成为了张基河的象徵。2013年参加了MBC电视台王牌综艺《无限挑战》2013自由路歌谣祭，与HAHA搭档组成Seventy Fingers(HAHA& 张基河和脸孔们)演唱了歌曲《super杂草man》张基河在组合“张基河和脸孔们”担任主唱和词曲创作人，该组合在2008年5月份成立,组合成员有张基河(主唱)、李民基（吉他手）、Jung Joong-yeop(base)、金贤镐（架子鼓）、长谷川阳平（吉他手）、李宗敏（键盘手）和全日俊（架子鼓）。张基河的成名歌曲应该是《廉价咖啡》这首歌，这首歌销售记录突破了1万张。曾经荣获了第六届韩国大众音乐奖的三个奖项。他特有的说唱方式吸引了当时的韩国音乐界很多歌迷热土豆Hot Potato主唱金C，1997年创建乐队，和尹道贤是好友，名曲《告白》。同时担任两天一夜的主持人，作为演员，参演电影、电视剧、舞台剧等，为多部影视剧创作ostTrax韩国视觉摇滚乐团出道之时被其所属公司——韩国龙头娱乐公司S.M的四个花季美男组成的摇滚组合，从一开始就充满了神秘感。主唱Typhoon、鼓手Rose、贝司手Attack、吉他手X-mas。Trax是由日本视觉摇滚乐团鼻祖人物Yoshiki一手打造的。每个成员都有很强的实力和让人无法移开目光的特点。无论是华丽出众的外表还是独特的摇滚风格，都能感动任何一个有摇滚精神的人，带给人们不同于以往的视觉摇滚乐团带来的惊喜！《那是你》一切都进入梦乡，宁静的夜晚怎么办，只有我一个人睡不着翻过的书上，无数的字怎么办，一个字都看不到那是你，那是你，就是因为你现在正下着雨的街道上不撑伞，一个人走着突然，面对面的同学说道你疯了吗，一边哈哈的笑着那是你，那是你，都是因为你想要打电话就换了硬币一整天都在和号码牌摔跤就那样你接了就结束了是因为什么，像傻瓜一样的哭着那是你，那是你，就是因为你那是你《Let&`&s Go Crazy》Let&`&s go crazy let&`&s go crazy let&`&s go crazyI can feel the hit in my flesh and boneI don&`&t wanna be here on my ownMight miss a chance turning every stoneA moment or two and it&`&s goneI only wanna play for funCome let&`&s get together every oneIf you wanna know stay till the endI could be lover or friendI&`&ll be damned if i doI&`&ll be damned if i don&`&t do tooI find a way to get throughThat is youLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againSome of the days gonna pass you byNot always great and you don&`&t know whyI will if you up till you touch the skyCause i&`&m gonna make you flyI&`&ll be damned if i doI&`&ll be damned if i don&`&t do tooI find a way to get throughThat is youLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againLet&`&s go crazy you gotta show oh babyLet&`&s go crazy go with the flow and maybeNot so hasty takin&`& it slow it&`&s so easy and let us go crazy againI&`&m gonna go break now i&`&m gonna uh go break nowI&`&m gonna go break now i&`&m gonna go uh uh uh woo《有些人的梦想》有的人，怀揣梦想而生活有的人，分享梦想而生活其他人，为实现梦想而生活有的人，为忘却梦想而生活有的人，掠夺别人的梦想而生活其他人说，梦想并不存在这世上有多少人就有多少种个性每个人都认为自己是正确的虽说这就是，所谓的梦想吧我是谁，是否在梦想着明日我是谁，没有任何梦想吗我是谁，是否在梦想着明日我是谁，没有任何梦想吗《lonely》Lonely your embraceIs disappearedSlowly your smells disappearedSuddenly indulge in old memoriesScattered pieces of old flameKeep knocking the doorTell me if you&`&re not aloneIf there&`&s someone nowI don&`&t wanna bother morePlease answer meI don&`&t wanna disappearIn your whole worldLike I didn&`&t pastPlease answer meI don&`&t wanna disappearIn your whole worldLike I didn&`&t past《深夜的写真曲》漆黑的夜晚，我独自无法入睡只有绿光找到我的，窗外夜晚云朵飘啊飘的晚上我肚子无法入睡随着星光载满我的眼泪闪烁着避而不见，逐渐夜深的夜晚疲惫的眼泪连星光都消失了夜晚的眼球里有很多留念只有黑色的夜晚消失在我的视野《silence》Come on all the audience to feelEverything you want and wanna beCome on we&`&re the alliance to fillEverytime we hope to be freeWithout you being hereNothing&`&s gonna change downThe world and who we areWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s you who make new other worldCome on all the audience to feelEverything you want and wanna beCome on we&`&re the alliance to fillEverytime we hope to be freeWithout you being hereNothing&`&s gonna change downThe world and who we areWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s you who make new other worldWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on outside the ruins of broken wallWe&`&re living in the silenceWe&`&re living in the violenceCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s time to take another worldCome on it&`&s you who make new other world《Cliff Parade》拜托嘴唇的瞬间，已经凝固的那句话贫困过的事实，交错交织一向又远又近，脱落的影子每个视线停留的地方，手能触到的地方全部渐渐消失let it crash站在悬崖边上的不知道是新的希望，还是绝望一直是我的救援也是另一个死亡，阻碍的影子每个视线停留的地方，手能触到的地方全部渐渐消失let it crash《汝矣島的花儿太好了》没有踩到我的脚蚂蚁在认真的搬运着白白，天天，小小，圆圆不知是早饭，还是午饭、晚饭有很多脚在经过，这边，那边有很多车在经过，这边，那边向着天空立着的高楼大厦们也不飞走，就乖乖坐着的萤火虫不知哪边的风，红花花香，染红着我的心没有踩到我的脚蚂蚁在认真的搬运着白白，天天，小小，圆圆不知是早饭，还是午饭、晚饭有很多脚在经过，这边，那边有很多车在经过，这边，那边向着天空立着的高楼大厦们也不飞走，就乖乖坐着的萤火虫不知哪边吹来的风，红色花朵的香气，染红着我的心

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I want to share with all of you about Not Looking Back: Unfortunately It’s something that we all do...a lot!  I, myselfhave caught myself looking back at all the things that I’vedone in my life that was either - wrong, crazy, hurtful andway to much more that I don’t even really want to thinkabout.  A number of years ago I realized that I had a tendencyto always look back at the negative things instead of thepositive things that I did.  Why do we do that?  We tend toalways look back at the negative and not the positive. We’re all growing and learning were here on earth to learn andgrow, we’re not perfect.  So, that’s why sometimes we do thosecrazy things like looking back at the negative instead of tryingto find out what was really good to and think about all thosegood things we did. Now, looking back on the negative is only a good thing whenyou going to try and learn from it, when you’re going to try andmake better choices and maybe change direction in your lifeand really be on a good path and maybe even trying to changeyour behavior or anything like that. But, it’s really not a good idea to look back at the negative andthen torture yourself about the bad things that you’ve done, andit’s just a natural human tendency that we have.  We’re not taughtas little kids to look back the things that didn’t go right or thethings that we’ve done wrong and try to learn from it. I think they need to teach all these things in school,  even asearly as elementary.  What do you think?  Let me know. What impact it’s having on our lives when we think about allthe negative things, or just the whole idea of looking back atthe negative is kind of scary. So, what impact is it having on your life, let me ask you that.So think back at the last time you looked back at your pastand depending on how old you are, you can have many, manyyears on things that you’ve done that maybe you wish youcould change. Of course we can’t wish and we can’t change the past, butthink about things that you’ve thought about recently thatyou’ve done in the past and it was really negative, and thenit just got you down thinking about it because, that’s one ofthe things that looking at your negative past does to you - ifyou’re not using it to help correct your life now and you’re justtrying to beat yourself up about all the bad things that you’vedone.    When was the last time you thought about that and what didit do to you? Did it put you in a state of depression? Did it just want to make you eat sugar? Did it just want to make you scream? Think back to when the last time it was, it could have beentoday, it could have been last month, who know!  We have somany thoughts that go through our head every day that it’sjust amazing.         Each podcast I always say “write everything down, get it outof your head”, by now I hope that you actually have writtenthings down.  Maybe you bought a notebook or created yourown.  Write it down, it has such an amazing effect when youphysically write it on paper verses on your computer or smartphone. I’ve talked about this many times in my different episodes.But think about it, write it down - what was the last thing thatyou thought about that was negative and when was it.  Thinkabout how you could actually turn that around and make it sothat it could actually help you in your life verses just using itto torture yourself, because that really doesn’t help you oranyone around you. Because when you start to get depressed or frustrated, wetend to take it out on the people that are the closest to us -our family and even sometimes friends or if you work.  If youhave a job around a lot of other people and somebody’s irritatingyou, you might just want to take out your irritation on them. Think about that, what is that thing that you keep thinking about?A lot of times it’s just a couple of things, sometimes we don’tthink about the many, many things we did, but somethingsthere’s a couple things that we tend to torture ourselves with. I know because I’ve actually done that, I’ve realized that it wasusually just a couple of things that I used to torture myself with -thinking about how stupid it was, why did I do that it made no sense. Who knows what else, I don’t even want to remember thethoughts that I was thinking at the time. What you have to remember is that we’re human and we haveto learn all these things, nobody teaches us these things whenwe were little. So, if you’ve never been taught how to do certain things, now’sa good time to start taking notes. I always encourage people to listen to these episodes morethan once because you can always learn something new whenyou listen to each episode more then one time, because there’sso much content involved and so many things that I’m talkingabout. So, start by writing things out and just go back in your mind.If it’s to hard, then maybe you have to work yourself up tothinking about it instead of just trying to go back there in yourmind. Sometimes if you think about it, when you actually can get itout of your head - get it out of your thoughts, it’s easier to letit go.  We like to hold on to every good and bad. It’s not really healthy for us to hold on everything that’s notworking for us.  It’s a good start, it’s a good practice to have -to write everything out. It starts the process of you recognizing it and then eventuallyyou’ll have the ability to let it go.  Well, you actually have towant to let it go first before you can let it go. I would say, after you get it out on paper think about why youwere even thinking about that because sometimes when you’redoing something, there’s always a trigger somewhere.  Whenyou’re doing something or you’re in a location or you’re aroundcertain people, there’s those triggers that pop into your headand reminds you of the past of those negative things that you’vedone.  Sometimes it’s a place or a person that is the cause ofthis, we have to take responsibility ourselves for inappropriateactions. Sometimes if there’s another person involved, it could be theother person just making you crazy and who knows you couldhave said something really horrible or if that person was irritatingyou, you could have just snapped and said something that reallyyou shouldn’t have that really hurt that other person. Who knows, there’s endless possibilities of things that couldhave happened.  Catch yourself too, as you go about your dailylife, really catch yourself in everything that you do.  Think aboutthe things that you say and the places that you go, think aboutwhat  you’re doing and if you’re starting to say something thatyou know you’re going to regret!  Then try to catch yourself andstop yourself from saying something that could be really harmfulto somebody else and the more you practice that, the easier itbecomes to start catching yourself. Of course it is a little bit of work, but once you get that habitgoing of - always thinking about what you’re going to say first.It really will make a big difference. I’m on of those, that I like to speak my mind so sometimes Idon’t think about what I’m saying, I just open my mouth and Irealize that I shouldn’t have said that.  Now I really try to workon thinking about what I’m going to say first.  I’ve been to placeswhere I’ve said things and then I thought “oh” and if my husbandwas with me, he would tell me later “why did you say that!”  Iwould just be in a state of shock like “oh, yah I don’t know whyI said that” and of course he’s either embarrassed or he’s justconfused as to why I say the things I say. Sometimes we do that to our spouses, (but not on purpose)It’s a give and take right! ;) I just want to encourage you to try and catch yourself wheneveryou’re going throughout your day and sometimes it doesn’teven involve anybody else when you do things that really arenegative and sometimes it’s just you.  It’s O.K., just know that you’re human and you’re just like everybody else who’strying to work through this life and learn and grow to becomea better person. If you can just start with these few things, it will really make youfeel good.  I didn’t realize how good it made me feel when Irealized a while back that I was doing this crazy thing on justtorturing myself about all the negative things that I’ve ever donein the past and it really was eye-opening and now I’m so gladthat I recognized it and I’m trying to work on  not torturing myself.I’ve come a long way, it’s taken  awhile.  I don’t want to feel yuckylike that anymore and sometimes there’s no better word to usethen yucky, because yucky is just kind of a mishmash of a wholebunch of feelings.  You just get tired after a while of feeling yuckyand you just don’t want it anymore.  You got to figure out whyyou’re feeling yucky and one of the things that makes you feellike that is just looking back on all this negativity. Try and make it an effort, you might even want to make it apractice everyday to start looking at all the positive things thatyou’ve ever done, the people’s lives that you’ve impacted thethings that you’ve accomplished or anything that’s good. Start cheering for yourself, start celebrating the wonderful thingsthat you’ve done.  Celebrating yourself, it doesn’t have to bethis big celebration that’s not what I’m talking about, but ofcourse you can do that if you want. Just celebrate with yourself or with a friend or your family oranybody.  Go out and get a snack or go get a bite to eat andjust celebrate and talk about the positive and you’ll be reallyamazed at what a difference it will make and how you’ll feel. I really encourage you to take this step forward because thiskind of looking back stuff really prevents you from movingforward in your life.  It’s really hard to overcome things andaccomplish great things and great things are different toeverybody, but it’s really difficult when you’re constantlylooking back at the negative. Try and NOT look back and try to work towards focusing onthe positive. I promise you, you’ll be really happy and might even feel someexcitement that “hey, I can do this”. I want you to email me, connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com,let me know how you’re doing and if you need help I’ll would be happyto help you, you can email me for a free consultation, you can sendme a voicemail - just go to my website at fashionablefinance.comand on the right hand side is the voicemail tab you can leave mea voicemail message and let me know what you think. Your feedback is wonderful too, I really appreciate you lettingme know what you like and what you don’t and the things thatyou want to hear about. Again I would ask you to please share this podcast with anybodywho you think would get great value out of it, maybe you knowsomebody struggling with something that maybe listening toany of these episodes will help them.  You can send them tomy website at fashionablefinance.com and it has all the episodesthere, they can listen or you can go to iTunes and just searchfor Fashionable Finance and while you’re there in iTunes, I wouldlove for you to give me a rating and an honest review - pleasebe honest so that I know what’s working and what’s not andwhat you like and what you don’t like. It’s O.K. I can take the truth, I’m more mature now so I candeal with it. I thank you again for listening I really appreciate you being hereand I hope you have a fantastic day. a hui hou malama pono - until next time, take care You can also find me at facebook.com/fashionablefinance.comand www.twitter.com/janinjohnston I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast! Subscribe to this podcast in iTunes or Stitcher Radio,so that you'll never miss an episode. Connect with me:  janin@fashionablefinance.com Mahalo for listening. Aloha, Janin Johnston Music by: Dennis PavaoSong: Ipo Lei ManuAlbum: Wale NoProduced by: Pilialoha Production  

There is some exciting news on the business end of the podcast, and Lauren and Chan are thrilled to join 58 Ember as their new podcasting network! Lauren talks her newfound love for TikTok, and why its users are a unique brand of unhinged. Hear some of their favorite comments from their TikTok videos. The gals also give an assessment on a review that calls them Pick Me Girls and even break out Urban Dictionary to consider the accusation. They then discuss the inception of Kim Kardashian's launch into fame with supporting players Ray J and Kris Jenner. The narrative accepted by many versus the alleged facts are very different and darker than they originally thought. Lauren & Chan also break down Kanye West's problematic, misogynistic 46th birthday party, and Chan gives her family friendly hopes for his next birthday celebration. Finally, hear all their thoughts on Tom Girardi's mental competence and Erica's role in the deceit. MERCH IS HERE! Click here to check out our limited drop of Work Soft hoodies and hats. Get yours before they're gone!To support the show on Patreon and access our 100+ bonus episodes, including our Royal's Deep Dive, click here!Please note this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00] Before weget into theepisode, everyone. I just need toput a quick plug in here. If you like our podcast, if you, you know, have liked all the 166 episodes before this one. Please do us a favor, share it on your story.Post a link to your favorite episode using the little link button on Instagram. shout us out.We trulyappreciate it. It really helps us grow and getsthe word out aboutPops.So if you do that, we will be forever grateful to you.Follow us on YouTube, follow us on TikTok. and let's get to the episode. well, well, well, good morning, Lauren. Welcome to episode 1 67. Wow, we've done too many of these. Um, I don't know why I felt the need to say the number, but sometimes it's, it's grounding, you know, it, it's validating to know that we've done [00:01:00] 167 episodes of pops.On there you are aging us. First of all, how I know, Second of all, yeah, 160. This is our hundred 67th episode. Actually, it's probably more like our 350th episode because we also, everyone, not sure if you've heard about it, but we do a Paton episode every Friday. Sowe've been doing this for a while.Quite a while. but you know, even the hundred 67th time or whatever, 300th time feels like the first time, soNever gets old chatting with you, sis. Never. Um, we have big news to share. Super exciting. Okay, here's the deal everyone. We're really excited because today we are announcing that we are joining a network.we are joining 58 Ember. 58. Ember is a new network. They're, and we are really excited to be partnering with them. should we share like how this started, Chandler?Yeah, let's just give a, a little bit of a, a background. we were with a previous network a year ago, [00:02:00] um, andthen we a year ago. Yeah.Part ways. Um, but then 58 Ember approached us and yeah. Lauren, you can take it from there.Yeah. So basically we were with the network, and they were great, but we ultimately decided that we wanted. To be part of a platform called Red Circle. That's where we moved to. because it was a little more self-service, it allowed us to handle our ads in a more efficient way. and it just was a little more seamless, a little more efficient.And so we were with Red Circle. We loved Red Circle. Everything was going along swimmingly and we didn't think we needed to be with a network at all. But we got approached by 58 Ember, by the founders. They're two really, really smart women, Erica and Emily. Um, and they have a whole different approach to podcast networks, and I was very taken with their mission.Their mission is to have a podcast network that truly fosters community and embraces the network and podcast network. and also a network that [00:03:00] really focuses on helping creators grow through being strategic through, meaningful brand partnerships. And what I, saw in their presentation was something that's really not available.In traditional podcast networks right now, traditional podcast networks, the brass tack of it is they're really good at monetizing audiences that are already built, but they're not necessarily focused on helping smaller creators build audiences. Um, and so anyway, there's definitely a white space in the market and 58 Ember is absolutely going to fill it.And so we are really, really honored to be a podcast on their platform and on their network. and we're really excited to join.Yeah. some exciting updates on the business end of pops, but you know, should we get into why everyone tuned in today for the hundred 67th episode?Should we get to it?galvanization by the app Tick talk.Okay, let me, let me start with a small disclosure that I've been making to friends and loved ones recently. [00:04:00] I've been saying to people before I see friends or anybody in group texts, across group texts. Hey, for what it's worth, it's okay to mute, pop apologies as we begin to go full steam on on the social channelsbecause. I just was like, Ijust need toput this out there. You know, for anyone who's like, who sees me on a frequent basis, like maybe they don't wanna also see eight videos from me, you know, every time they open up their phone or from you, no offense to you. Um, soyes, youmay have noticed that we are now full steam on TikTok.On Instagram, that is because we are trying to grow and wanting to, you know, create that short form content that people are loving these days. so anyways, I, I have been making that disclosure to friends and family. Like I've said that to multiple people. Just like, it's okay if you have to mute me. I would mute me.It's fine.Oh, absolutely. I mean, here's the thing. The fact that we do not want to forever toil away an obscurity should not mean that our friends and family should [00:05:00] suffer the wrath of our constant content. Okay? Um, and so I absolutely agree with you.there's something about opening up my TikTok and then seeing your face and hearing a hot take coming from you. That has been very hard for me and I, I'm like, it's funny cuz I, I love it. I, this is something we've been needingOh really? Do you? I love it for the business side of things. And I love it for our platform because we really do like, have so much good content that like, I wanna share you know, in little reels and stuff.But, you know, it's been a little bit jarring for me and I've been like, okay, like squa swipe. I can't see Lauren's face every time I open up TikTok. But I love it and it's very good for us and we're going to keep, chugging forward.Well, the thing that I didn't realize, Chandler, about TikTok that I'm very excited about. Also, we're on YouTube now, everyone full episodes or on video on YouTube every week. If you wanna watch mine and Chandler's facial expressions as we are chatting, um, and see our fits, you can hit up our YouTube. here's what I didn't know about [00:06:00] TikTok, okay?About the app. that originated in China. Parent company, bite dance, otherwise known more prominently as TikTok. So TikTok. I didn't truly realize how powerful it is as a creator Meanwhile, I'm on Instagram and I am posting all this content, doing stories. All of it could just be a TikTok reel And right now our Instagram. Love it. I love chatting with people. It's great, but really it's basically talking to the same people over and over. And if for us to have this podcast succeed, we need to reach more people. and it's been galvanizing for me as a human being to see that I can do the same, performance art that I'm engaging in.Certainly a performance.just kidding. Uh, I can do the same shtick and nonsense on Yeah. And TikTok somehow doesn't care that we only have [00:07:00] a hundred followers or 120 followers. It will, if it sees people liking the video, spin it up to the masses. And that is just not something that's possible on our current platform that we've been using.Mostly she'll remain nameless. so anyway,yeah.it's Yeah, yeah. No, it's been great. I think, yeah, I, you've just been doing such a good job, so I just wanna say, you know, thank you on the airwaves and publicly declare my thanksOh, thanks. Can I also say Chandler, how I A what?let me continue one more with my,thank you. Yeah, sorry. Sorry. add. No, Lauren. I say thank you because I think you are truly very, very good at this type of thing. You, I don't wanna say you're shameless, but I think you are just better, and we've always known this. You're just better at like hopping on, you know?Turning on that front facing camera, hitting your cord, and just like killing it. Like, it's truly like a talent for like this type of performance. And like [00:08:00] I, I think without that ability, we would not be where we are. So I just, I really think you're meant for this kind of thing and I, you know, I'm gonna, I'm gonna continue myjourneyof getting better atit.Well, that's really nice of you. I mean, we were at Blackberry Farm and Courtney was giving me this compliment that I'm very fierce and our dear friend, Maron was, you know, echoing that sentiment. And I said, it's not that I'm fierce, it's that I love the truth and I want the truth to get to people, you know, with, uh, fire in my eyes.AndWyatt patted me on the back, kind of laughed and said, that's part of your delusion. You know, but that's why we love you.  I love that Lauren has spun this compliment about her performance art into like how she's like Joan of Arc or something.Likeit really is partof your delusion and that's what makes you so great at it.The self aggrandizement is truly flooring. so thank you Chandler. I will continue to be a champion of truth, honor, TikTok and other social platforms. Um, but I wanna sh [00:09:00] share with you, another reason why I love TikTok, okay?Okay.The people are truly unhinged onYeah, it's true.I didn't realize.I didn't know Chandler. I thought that it's the same type of conversation happening over there. It's like Twitter degenerates are commenting on TikTok. It is like the worst of YouTube all together. It is four chan created a social media company.I honestly, yeah, I, I sometimes love just perusing the TikTok comments because it's like from another realm, like where the, it'salmost. Liketoo insane to even be bots. yeah, it's, it's really good. And it feels like they're not even really connected to like, people, they're just like usernames.that's the reason people are posting anonymous So they're posting what they really think. I think that's a big part of it. Like a non culture is bigger on TikTok than it is on Instagram. can I just read you a few hilarious unhinged comments that we've received [00:10:00] on our video that's going by that I don't know if it's going viral, but it's really, um,um,we have one video that's really spun up right now anyway, so in the beginning of the video, it's the video where we ask the question, the rhetorical question.How could anyone cheat on someone as beautiful and smart and talented as Natalie Portman? Mm-hmm. a rhetorical question we go on to illustrate the fact that it has nothing to do with her physical or otherwise attributes. Anyway, that doesn't stop people from jumping down our throats and not watching till the end of the video anyway.So to answer that question, hear are what a few people say. So, a woman named Lumira says, easy. The fantasy was over once the movie was done. Okay. Um, cutting.It's kind of beautiful writing.Miss Cat 77 67 says, when a man marries a mistress, it creates a vacancy.Oh my gosh.That's a co that's, that's a zenko. Sosh said, okay, and this gives me the chills cause I know that some of my people are on TikTok.she says, [00:11:00] should have known I'd be the first to leave. Think about the place where you first met me. I mean, she's quoting,she's the prophet of our time. profit of our time. Julius C says, beauty is temporary and charm is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Okay? I love a little religion. I love a You do you love a little religion sprinkled in a littlebit ofreligious self-righteousness. You can't get enough.I cannot get enough. So we're gonna continue in that vein. Twan writes, Solomon had a thousand women and still wasn't satisfied. This, this is men.This is men. This is men. I'm getting that tattooed. This is men.I responded, Towan, and I said, you're right, Twan. Most men need 1,001. Which I thought was hilarious. Um, if I do say so by myself, and then Twan says [00:12:00] men need what Ecclesiastes says in the end. anyway, there's a cute back and forth if anyone wants to go find it. I A cute biblical back and forth.yeah, between me and Twan, where we actually connect and agree.I'm not gonna, I won't, you know, I won't belabor it. I'm sure that madeyou know the Serena joy in you all tingly no, literally, wan and I are like, Fist bump at the end of the conversation. Like we, we get each other. wan understands. Okay, so, a guy named at John Jung says, I for one get bored one to two years in. And that's long constant change gets my little guy sturdy, eggplant emoji.OhSo sorry, that's a departure.yeah. and then finally, Someone commented, so she started dating an unavailable man. Now she's surprised he cheated. I guess you can buy a Harvard diploma.so the people on TikTok are unafraid and completely unhinged, and it is my new happy place and home.[00:13:00] Okay, great.Congratulations. Enjoy.Thank you. Speaking of unhinged people, can we please, please, Chandler respond to the accusationOhmy gosh. I mean, at us?I don't know how unhinged this person was. Seemed like they were pretty hinged.Um, yeah, this person actually might be telling exactly the truth, which I want to talk with you about. Cause I don't know if they don't get us or if they get us too much. You know, if they can see very clearly what's happening here.I fear it might be the latter. Okay. Solet's read what we're talking aboutyeah, let's read this, this, this is a, unfortunately, a recent review. We got, from t Kitty h she left this on June 8th. He or she, excuse me,he, she ortheyone star, the subject line. Holy pick me girl.Pickme girl energy so hard. These girls are desperate.That's it. No, no. Period. That's it. It's like he,she, or they basically trail [00:14:00] off. They can't even, you know, write anything else. They're so frustrated.Yes. okay, so the last part of that review, that these girls are so desperate. Absolutely correct. We are totally desperate. We've been doing this thing for three years. We're, we're, we're working hard. 350th episode. Basically, we would really like to grow. upon seeing this, I was like, yeah, where's the lie? Like I,I, Ihear you. I'm right there with you. T Kitty. I guess my question is though, the thing that is ambiguous for me still, um, and why I will become my own defense attorney in this moment is isn't a pick me girl, isn't that a girl who tries to be cool for the guys and is like, I'm into sports, I'm into exertion, I'm into e eating tacos likeisn't I, the girls are dramatic.Yeah.I actually, I'm gonna read you the Urban Dictionary Pick Me Girl definition. A Pick Me girl is a girl who seeks male validation by indirectly or directly insinuating that she is not like other girls. Basically a female version of a symp. Characteristics of a pick [00:15:00] me girl, let's men walk all over her because of her carefree demeanor.I'm just gonnastop youright there. You can ask my boyfriend of two years if I have ever been carefree.Theanswer isno, notonce, not a single day. Have I been carefree unless, you know, I was like heavily under some type of influence.I invite you all to DM Kagan and ask how chill and carefree I was when I gave him an ultimatum. Okay? Like, we are so not that description. That is my only line of defense here. Like if that is what this person's calling us, she's giving a review on the wrong podcast. Right. but if bime garlic is a larger symbol, then we're in trouble. I'm like the opposite of a guy's girl. I don'tknow.I just, Ipride myself on not being a guy's girl and being unpalatable to men.We are staunch defenders of Zero Hobbies, the zero Right, right, right.That's an OG pop anthem. So I invite you to search back on our Instagram for the [00:16:00] clip. but yeah, Chandler and I have died on the Zero Hobby Hill and we are absolutely not the girl who doesn't hang with girls or, and hangs with the guys, blah.no thank you.Okay, so anyway, um, now that we've taken no responsibility, Desperate.Yes.Carefree. No.Okay. So yes. Desperate. Yes. Carefree. Absolutely not. Um, Chandler, so I wanted to, when we were discussing what we were going to chat about today, I wanted to potentially watch the new episodes of the Kardashians, because, you know, that is a font of content that I enjoy, absolutely. It's a. Yeah, it's literally like the, California aqueduct or whatever, it's just, it's ever flowingYes. and as Sandoval has come to a bit of a close, we are not talking about Tom and Ariana on this episode, it's a blessed day. I think for everyone who doesn't watch Van Pump Rules. That drama is simmering. We need other people to [00:17:00] gossip about. So anyway, I asked you if you wanted to watch the show and please share your response.I said, I'm not watching. And then I said, I don't really want to watch. I kind of drew a line in the sand, you know? and I, have expressed this to you before that I've had a fall from Grace with the Kardashians. And do you want me to talk about the watershed moment in my life you know, should we get into that first, or do you want me to just explain my entirePOVnow?I wantyou to explain the watershed moment.Paint a picture for everyone. me paint a picture.I've honestly always liked the Kardashians and I've defended them to people who just like blatantly hate them. I think There's definitely a sect of people who just flat out think they are dumb women and don't think that they have hold any value or like have contributed anything.Andme, frankly, like I. Really supported them. And Kim Kardashian was like, the only reason why I enjoyed my curves. I literally grew up thinking [00:18:00] every woman was supposed to look like Marissa Cooper from the oc. Like that was a normal body. Um, or that was the ideal body. So, you know, I, I like, I really appreciated that, you know,what, what the Kardashians contributed to, you know, kind of widening, you know, the. like widening the plane of desirable bodies, like opening people up to the idea that, yeah, like the Kate Moss frail chic vibe is not the pinnacle of beauty. Absolutely.And. Not to make this all about me, but I've basically had like a sizable butt my entire life. And that's something I've always felt very like ashamed about. And like Kim Kardashian helped me overcome that. And you know, that is something I will forever thank her for. Um, but I wasn't like blind to the Kardashian machine.I just thought like Chris was a mogul and, you know, good for them. Like they should cash in, like whatever. but then I think. When you told me that the news broke, that Ray J said that Chris Kardashian was like heavily involved in the [00:19:00] selling of Kim's sex tape, like, and that was confirmed that I could not recover from, and maybe that was always something people knew and I just had, you know, chosen to never really believe it.But in that moment I was just like, I just felt very gross about it, and it just seemed like an extremely dark, morally bankrupt move. Even for them, even for people. I don't see them as like pillars of virtue, but I was like, wow. Even from day one they've been kind of gross like that. be honest, another huge part of thisis like them lying about plastic surgery.Like I was already kind of like, Damn, people loveto lie.Um, and they love to also, you know, pedal skinny me or flat tummy tea and, working out twice a day. But they also get NPSsandtucks literally everywhere and lie about it. And also, you know, filter and face tune their bodies into oblivion.so I was already kind of like frustratedwith that. Butbasically that's my, uh, that's my notes app reasoning for why I've kind of like fallen away fromthe Kardashians and whyI don't wanna watch their [00:20:00] show.Yeah. I think that for you, that was a watershed moment where you felt like this was a family that you, on some level under. Understood. You got them. and then you felt deceived. You felt like This family, you were no longer willing to give the benefit of the Dow too. Like even though you saw their, flaws, a lot of them, and you saw, you know, potentially that they were turning your culture into a more shallow narcissistic culture and that they were setting also some unrealistic beauty standards about surgically changed bodies, um, and really bodies that don't exist actually in nature.Or very extremely rarely. And so anyway, I think that you were willing to look past all of that until you had that moment where you're like, wait, this family will actually make deals with the devil in order to get more money and power and fame. And I don't wanna be a part of that.And honestly like I, I think a huge aspect of it was that it was literally so long ago that it was like, [00:21:00] it's not like they've just, you know, been completely warped by Hollywood and their life and whatever, whatever. Like that almost is more, I hate to say it, understandable, but the fact that it was like from day one before they were even famous, they were willing to like, Sell This tape just made me feel really dark inside and, and I was just kind of like, this is not a mother, daughter's, you know, relationship that I actually want toidolizeanymore in any way.So, I think it might be useful for people that are like, nodding along curious. I don't think that this entire saga has been fully deep dived enough, and so I wanna lead everyone through this whole re j drama really quick. It's probably gonna be like a five minute segment. Um, just to give everyone a full picture of what Chandler is exactly talking about.Yeah. and so.basically we're gonna go through the inception of Kim Kardashian into fame. So Chandler, it's easy to forget what catapulted Kim Kardashian [00:22:00] from Paris. Hilton's best friend and closet organizer, a Marie condo before her time. To the woman we know today. Let's remember what kick started Kim's career.Kim was working as a stylist for Brandy Ray J's sister, which is where Kim and RayJay met. They dated from 2003 to 2006. This is Kim is largely an obscurity. she's the girl walking behind Paris Hilton with the Louis Vuitton multicolored bag. Um, Ray J. And Kim start dating and he has referred to her as one of the greatest loves of his life.. Um, and in February, 2007, a tape of Kim and RayJay having sex while on vacation in Mexico surfaced and was obtained by Vivid Entertainment.Kim sued the company for 5 million to gain rights to the tape. That same year. This tape catapulted Kim into the beginning of who. We all know today it was the inception of the family's billion dollar empire. [00:23:00] This is all alleged fyi. Kim Kardashian is a public figure that we are making commentary on, under our First Amendment rights.and this is all alleged, and we don't know if any of this is actually factual and at all could be made up.Um, and there's something called anti, . Okay. according to the TMZ partner, two fab.com, Ray J and Kim's agreement was at each.Would receive $400,000 plus 12.5% of the profits of the sale of their sex tape. . TMZ stated, we've obtained an email from Vivid Entertainment Honcho, Steve Hirsch dated May. First 2007 in which she informs Kim, the tape has made $1,424,636 and 63 cents in revenue, including the majority of which million coming from DVD sales.To date, the video has had more than 210 million views online. On on DVDs. Kim and Raj continue allegedly to earn money from the video around $360,000 per year. Okay. So we knew that the video [00:24:00] was sold to Vivid Entertainment, but it was all kind of, other than that, it was the big question.Did Kim release it or did Ray J release it? the official approved narrative Okay. In the mainstream media, um, was that Ray J sold it. Okay. and in April, 2022, episode of the Kardashians, fast Forward let's see, this is from 2007 to 2022. So 15 years later, Kim is worried that there is additional unreleased footage of her and Ray that could potentially be released on the internet.Kim says in the episode that Kanye has retrieved any footage that RayJay supposedly had. She says, he got me all of the sex tapes back. She tells her family, he flew home and got the computer. It was on the high drive and he met up with Ray J at the airport and got it all back for me by the way, Ray J has gone on to have a partner, have children, have a whole other life, but he's constantly being pulled back into this narrative, right?That he took advantage of Kim and sold the sex tape and yada, yada, yada. [00:25:00] So Ray J, responds rightly so to defend his honor and says All of this is a lie, shaking my head, can't let them do this anymore. So untrue. Apparently there was no explicit footage that Kanye picked up from a computer.It was footage of Kim and RayJay at a restaurant nightclub, and nothing sexual or weird. So this is classic Kardashian plot manipulation. Um, in May, 2022, RayJay says that Kim has always had the tapes and that Chris was always in control of the release. So this is where we go from, was this tape.That Kim sold and was part of to get famous. . This is where it gets really icky. And where I get the ick and it gets gross because in May, 2022, Ray J says that Kim has always had the tapes and that Chris was always in control of the release.According to Ray's interview with the daily mail, Ray J said that he was never in possession of the sex tape. [00:26:00] This is a quote from Ray J. I've sat in the shadows of for over 14 years. Allowing the Kardashians to use my name to abuse my name to make billions of dollars over a decade and a half.Talking about a topic I've never really spoken about.I'venever leaked a sex tape, in my life. It has never been a leak. I never had a single one at my house. She had them at her house. She's always had all the tapes in a Nike shoebox under her bed. That's how it all came about. Once I pitched the idea to her, just playing around a little bit, that's when she jumped on the idea, talked to her mom, and it was out of my hands from there.As reported by US weekly.com, Ray J accused, both Kim and Chris Jenner as the ones who orchestrated the leak of the sex tape. He also revealed alleged dms between he and Kim that claim that everything shown on the Kardashians regarding the tape was a lie. Us weekly.com published the text from Ray Ray's Instagram screenshots, which says,so he's texting Kim or DMing Kim. Now I realize this is another promo stunt for you unless you reach out to me soon. I'm gonna take it to the level where it shows all of what we did, [00:27:00] all of the meetings and convos about the plan, date and times of our meetings, and the whole lie you and Chris planned.Since the beginning. The US weekly.com article continued. Kim allegedly apologized and responded. I completely understand and I appreciate hearing this from you.I want you to know that I wish nothing but the best for you. This has heard us both in so many ways, and I know we are aligned in wanting to move forward with our lives. Thank you for reaching out, and my hope is that after next week when everyone sees that the computer is given back to Kanye, that this story will be dead and done.I'm sorry for all this is affecting you. That wasn't my intention. Okay, so obviously she's trying to brush it under the rug. That's unreal. not directly addressing anything that he's saying.no,the skirting around the whole thing.just being like, hash up. This is basically shut up. she's just being a politician here.Right.So on September 8th, 2022, Kris then goes on James Corden's show and does a segment where she takes a lie detector test.James asks Kris if she helped Kim release her [00:28:00] sex tape, and Kris says, no, no. And the results say that she's telling the truth. Chris responds, oh, I like that. We cleared that up. All right, so later that month, Ray J. Fire is back. And this is where the real, I think, bomb is dropped and the mic is dropped, and suddenly things get a lot more clearer. Com reports that on September 10th, rej took to Instagram live for a 28 minute video saying that he remembered things quite differently. He said that he and Kim had filmed a second sex tape in Santa Barbara as a backup that he said Kris was not only aware of, but she made the decision for them to have a second video for safety, just in case he says, that's my.Paraphrase, just in case his exact quote is for safety. He says that Chris watched both videos and then told him that they were going to releasethe first videosince it gives Kim a betterlook than thesecond video. this isRay J's quote, but you watched it and made a decision. He said billboard.com [00:29:00] continued. Ray J claims that he has a legal documentsproving the releaseof the sex tapewas orchestrated by Chris Jenner.Contracts that list three items. Cabo Intro, Cabo Sex, and Santa Barbara Sex RayJay hasshow the contents ofthe contracts other than the title of the three items.Hmm.So I. Here'sthe question. If this is true,how problematic is it thatKris allegedly watched her daughter's sex tape,had her film a secondone, justin case, watch that, and thenbrokered adeal where she profited off that deal, allegedly.I mean, problematic is like, Doesn'teven begin todescribe it, in my opinion.It's so dark to me.It's so dark. But Ido think this gets at bigger questions. Right. And I just wannasay, I thinkthat we have entered this new, culture where everyone wants tobe really positive and we wannasupport people doing all sorts of careers. Um,[00:30:00] You know,whether that's on only fans or whatever, and selling your body and selling your,uh, physicality we're supposed toall be totally morally neutral to that.So I guess the devil'sadvocate question is, is isn't this just really the samething, like trying to utilize, and maybe would Chris Jenner be looking out for her daughter trying to get her money inpower? Um,By justreleasing thissimple video, like, what's different about this and why is it a problem? what's differentabout this? Because that is a whole other conversation that like I havemixed feelings about,but likeI can understandboth sides of that, that conversation. But what is problematic to me and what is really dark about this, is that they have, profited off the storyline that this was very traumatic for Kim.Hmm.And they have made this to be a very emotional, like they've just sold us a lie that like this was never somethingthat shewanted and that, and we were all made to feel sorry for her and to, you know, believe that this was a really traumatic[00:31:00] event inher life that, you know, she never wanted. And that, that's where I feel really lied to.And it's that lie that in my opinion, invalidates any like sex positive, uh, conversation.Gotcha. Okay. I cansee that their entire empire is built onto seatof the public. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And I thinkit's thatthat's where you really lose trust inthese people. Andpeople are, there's,I'm sure there are listeners who are like, shakingtheir head laughing like, you ever trusted these people? and I think there arepeople who saw through them from the beginning. so I totally understand where you're coming from. I also wanna say that this really, um, sings intomy crass, orI don't know the, the, the phrase, but this really, you know, it's like, I don't know, there's aphrase sinks intomy CRAsgets my, anyway,wanna hear about your CROs everOkay.on this podcast.I really don'tknow what that,anyway, if someone please DM me what, what I'm trying to say. This really gets meupset becauseI will [00:32:00] just say publicly that I think it's absolutely wrongto.Teach your daughters and help your daughters sell their bodies for money or for power.I think there are things that are more important, more virtuous, more worth chasing afterthan, um, money and power. And I think thatresorting to that is a fundamental betrayal of goodpriorities. Um, as a mother, which is a steward over your children.So all Serena Joy all fucking day I mean, I don't,I just, I'll co-signthat, even asChandler be so bold.police, like, I'll justfully co-sign that. I think it's really dark to see amother-daughter relationship this has happened,um, and where it feelslike it goes against biology a little bit.Exactly, and it just feelslike that's the role of the mom. The mom is supposed to be theone where she isinstructing children about what actually matters in life. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. [00:33:00] and she's the one that's supposedto be like, you know, helping when her daughters get bad ideas. Ideas that they potentially are not wise enoughto realize are bad ideas.And so to not only, you know, it's, it's giving, you're doing amazing, sweetie, on her playboy shoot. It's just, there's somethingabout it that doesn't sitwell with me.honestly, like the Playboy shoot doesn't even, that is like,I agree. It's,it's a comp on adifferent scale. It's like butI think, I don't wanna stay too long on this conversation, but I think that this family has manipulated the publicinto thinking that they're like a real family, you know, who really cares about each other.And I'm notsaying theydon't care about each other, I just think that they are morally bankrupt completely. And I feel betrayed by that.I absolutely agree, and I think when you make a deal with the devil, you reap what you sow. And I don't think all prizes are earthly. And I think that it will be interesting to watch as fate unfolds for [00:34:00] these people. I do wannatalk about Kanye'sbirthday partywhat I wanna get toOkay. Yeah, let'sget to thatnext, and then we can move on from the Kardashians.All right, so this is according to page six, Kanye West 46th birthday featured plenty of bizarreantics, including theeyebrow raising decisionto serve sushi and sashimion nude women's bodies. The disgraced Yeezy designer included the Japanesepractice called Neo ta moriat hisSui Saturday to the interest Of thecelebrity attendees, including his nine year old daughter. Northsocial media users, however, believe the act to bemisogynistic. So these are somequotes from socialmedia.Treating a human woman like a plate is kind of misogynistic. Big dog tweeted one person.yeah.InIn what world is treating women like objects from male consumption,literally not misogyny, argued another. W t F. He's getting weirderand weirder each day.Others joke that Sex and the City character,Samantha Jones, did it first 2008in theseries first film.film.Yeah. Here's what I'm gonna say [00:35:00] about the nude sushi.It is misogynistic Also,thisis not the,just a Kanye weird thing. I've seen this on Housewives also on Sex and the City. Like,it's just like a weird rich people thing, like party trick. but yeah,it's still gross. It's very gross to me that Northwas there andI just, ugh, I hate even saying this.I don't wanna put,I feel guilty putting thisenergy out into the world, but Ijust,don't know how youcan be a normal child. With this type of environment,and I,I, I just feel like thatis going to be very damaging to your mentality. I mean, havingKanye as a father is going to be damaging, and that is likereally sad and itjust makes me really sad.Kanyeis a wolf in sheep's clothing. AndOh, I, I think he's a wolf and Wolf'sclothing. Well,I think he's a wolf and Wolf's clothing.he projects all this talk about Christianity, about God, about virtue. He'sall over Kim Kardashian for dressing too provocatively. And yet he has his now wife, basically naked[00:36:00] walking around. Like she'sliterally wearing almost no clothes inpublic.is wearing,I think, clothing that communicates something really dark. I think Kanye West is very dark. I'll just leave it there.AndI think that the fact that Kim Kardashian, her children are with Kanye West,and now her children have tobe around this environment, that is a little bit offate.Okay. That's, that's a little bitof karma. Excuse me. and it'snot good.It's not good atall. Uh, I just think likeI'm, I am getting more and more like mom and dad every day, but like I just, kids should not. See women objectified like this at the age ofnine.and no one should have to see that.you know what, I would love tosee Lauren.What.I would love to see Kanye throw a party forhimself,a 46thbirthday at,you know, or maybe for his 47thnext year if he's gonna, you know, hear this at an indoor trampoline park.Okay. I would love to seeKanye throwing his party at,you know, Sky high orwhatever, indoor trampoline parkandyou know, he can [00:37:00] make everyone wear the bizarre yay clothing and then everyone have, would have to like jump around inlatex dresses and suits.That would be funny. Now that's an idea that feels like, okay,Kanye, you did something crazy.versus just, you know, a misogynistic sushi party.What happened to Chandler Cake and Sprinkles and yeah, jumping around and having fun. What happened to that being a way tocelebrate your birthday? Iabsolutely agree with you. I would love nothing more than, um, Kanye West taking overAlexis Binos franchise.Um, sky Highin Lake Forest, California, and absolutely jumping around with all of hisarchitectsandSinging some nice rap songs.Absolutely. I cosignthis vision.Ihave The Kardashians fatigue me.so I have a little bit of background on Neo Time Mori that I can share with people. Or do you want, or do you wanna moveon?if it addscontext, let's doit.Well, I think it's interestingcuz we're gonna get a lot of comments that are like,you don't understand Japanese culture and you are just, white girls from Orange [00:38:00] Countywho have never, you know, left Laguna Naeland it's showing so.I'mjust going to sharewith you the background on Neo ta Mori and then I wanna discuss this as a larger question.So, the origin of neo ta mos, according to Wikipedia, canbe traced back tofood play, um, that was performed during the Eddo period. Um, sothis is likea period of history in Japan where saki would be poured into a sex worker'spubic regionfor drinking purposes. Okay. by Japan's economic growth inthe 1960s.This practice wasfurther evolvedby the hot springing bathing industry, wherethe erotic nature of neo mori was used as an advertising tactic by the hot springing resorts to attract male customers who were on company trips to the region. The Neo time Mori practice dwindled as family and private trips To the destinations became increasingly popular in the 1980s, and it wassubsequently adopted bycatering and sexestablishments as an exotic attractiondue to the lack of primary sources, the misconception of Neo Moore's origin [00:39:00] persisted whenthe practice becameinternationally known through popular culture.Intraditional neo mori, the model isgenerally expected to lie still at all timesand usually not talkwith guests until the event is concluded.Even after all food is removed,the sushi isplaced on sanitizer, leaveson the model's body to prevent skin tofish contact. Oh, episode title discovered Skin to fish contact.All right.and onsufficiently flat areas of the body, which the sushi will not roll off of in theJapanese style, the geisha body is fully naked, except for the traditional footwear and headdress. The Western style is a bit more modest. Chandler sometimes adding a G-string.Mm-hmm.Neo taMori is consideredan art form.Usually champagne and sock are served in naked sushi restaurants. Guests must be respectful and observe the strictest decorum. Talking with the modelsis highly discouraged. Inappropriategestures or commentsare not tolerated,and diners can only pick up sushi with chopsticks. Although rules in some restaurants are lessstrict.For example,in some restaurants, guests can nibblenori [00:40:00] rolls off nipples if theychoose. okay, so anyway. The practicehas beencriticized as being decadent,humiliating, degrading, cruel, antiquated, objectifying, and sexist.Several countries havebanned the practice.in 2005,China outlawed Neotime mori on naked bodiescondemning it due to public health reasons andmoral issues.anyway,I just wannasay, This is my pointof bringing thisup.I understand that this is a cultural practice,right?And my personal feeling is that just because something say cultural practice doesn't meanthat it's,you know, morally neutral.Doesn't mean that you can't make an assessment as a human being anddecide that thiscultural practice is repugnantand disgusting.I mean, and it's notjust in like, you know, Eastern culture, like let's talk about polygamy or youknow, like inbiblical times, taking multiple wivesand all the,you know, all the hat jazz, if youwill.Um, so yeah,I completely agree.It is, it is [00:41:00] degrading likemany antiquatedcultural practices, it's degrading.Yeah,it's, I mean, the, there are cultures on this earth right now where. Womenare stonedfor committing adultery or for doing certain things. I don't think we just write that off as, oh, you know, we just don'tget what it's like to live in that country.well, and I don't think peopleare, it doesn't sound like people are,Um, well somepeople are, so, some people in coin the comments like on YouTube and stuff, cuz I wasreading Twittercomments about this. They're like, you don't get it. Also a big argument for is like, listen, like some places inare so bad that if you can get paid money to lay naked with sushi on you, that is so much better than otherjobs available toyou.Um, sothere isthat argument.that is, that'sreal and that's very sad,Yeah.And and it's not, it'snot a comment on the woman. It's literally not a comment on the woman atall. Orthe person, you know,in thatposition. Like, Ifeel like Isaw this on a, on a Housewives episode. Like it has nothing to do with the person working that job or being in that, it's the [00:42:00] personIt'sthe person partaking ofit. It's the person feeding the beast, consuming it, paying money for it. Um, so I completely agreewithyou.Okay.Wow.We gotta get off our moral high horses on this podcast.That's forsure.know. Okay. let's talk about Tom Gerardi some news this week. He has been found mentally fitto stand trial.if you'll remember, Erica Jane.Wasor is on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills.This is her ex-husband who she'snow gotten a divorce from, um, who came under a lot of, uh, fire and is in theprocess of beingprosecuted. So maybe Lauren though, if you wanna givemore context on Tomgdi. I would love to. Sofor Non-Real Housewives of Beverly Hills viewersor listeners, excuse me.Tom Gerardi is a very famous attorney whose notoriety goes well beyond Bravo. Tom Gerardiis theactual attorney in theAaron Brockovich trials. Sowhen Aaron [00:43:00] Brockovichthat movie withJulia Roberts shewon best actress for the Oscar and sheplayed a woman who basically was like thepseudo attorney going after pg and e who had poisoned the water of the small town in Central California.Um, andall these really kind of down and out people had gottencancer and it was this horriblesituation. so anyway, Tom Gerardi was the hero of that story, who saw Erin Brockovich as this scrappy woman, gave her a jobwhen she was down on her luck,and then they took on the behemoth of pg and e together,um, and deliveredthe people, you know, their justrewards.So anyway. Tom Gerardi, washailed as a hero. He was thought to be one ofthe most successful attorneys of all time. and he was a champion of the people goingafter evil corporations ontheir behalf.So his entire, however, facade and reputation came crumbling down when it wasrevealed that he was.Stealing money from his clients. Sohis clientswere not actually getting thesettlementsthat they wereowed. He was actually stealing those for company [00:44:00] purposes, and this was made even worse. by watchingErica Jane, his wife, that was 40 years, his junioronReal HouseHorse ofBeverly Hills, who led a lifestylethat would be considered beyond lavish.and frankly not understandable on anattorney's salary. Multiple private planes, a Jetta couldget them all the way across the world. Ajet for justdomestic travel. She had literally sang a song titled, it's Expensive to Be Me. She hada hundred thousand dollars Cartier Ring,like she wasbeyond gosh. Um, and so this really, sank into people's CRAs. I, I don't even know the phrase, but this really got people.Um, whenthey realized the money she wasusing to live a lavishand completelyunnecessary lifestyle was the stolen fundsallegedly, ofactualvictims, of heinous events and tragedies.Okay. Chandler, I'lllet you take it from here. I'lleven sayevenup until. Most recently with[00:45:00] that Malaysia airline that crashed where all those people died, you know, so tragically Tom Gerardi was the lawyer for all those families. He representedall of them.They did not receive their money. and that is all explored and I think the Hulu documentaryabout, Tom Gerardi.So,I think it's the real housewife andthe hustler.yeah. Yeah, exactly. okay, so this brings us to this weekwhere, Tom Gerardi has been,you know, allegedly sufferingfrom dementia.And thisis a storyline that's beenpurported by Erica on Housewives, by Tom'speople, you know, by his family. if everyone will remember the iconic moment where Erica,you know, saysTom's house was broken into and he confronted the burglar and then he had to go have eye surgery and then my son had to go over and help and then, hi my son, he rolled his car five times on the way home.Yeah, I'm under a lot ofstress. You know,there was this whole season where Erica wasjust talking about, trying to keep the train on the tracks whileTom was [00:46:00] deteriorating mentally,and, you know, her life was falling apart. so,to her jewels, bythe way, like this woman who, it's as she, there was likea pair of earringsthat she would notlet go ofthat.You know, she refused to basicallygive to the victim's families. And you know, in her eyesit's morecomplicated like a $2 million pair of bearings, Right, right.Yeah, it's not, yeah, itwasn't like $40 TJ Maxearrings. and we've seen Tom on the show andhe's old. He's an old guy. So I was fully buying that.He had dementia. And I was like, I was like, makes sense. but some have questionedthe diagnosis. I'm gonna paraphrase from this article, but basically, you know, Gerardi was still running his firm and still speakingto clients upuntil literally the day it allcollapsed. he evenhosted an education panel and you know, the state bar was actually so suspicious that he was faking an illness.[00:47:00] That it asked the judgein the conservatorship proceedings to order an independent and more thorough mental examination with an agency lawyer Writingthat the claimof cognitive problems came, quote, only after gerardi became enmeshed in mounting legal troubles.So,Clearly the, you know,the state of California and the justice system was not buyingthis dementiadiagnosis. You know, despite Erica's claims and Tom's claims, um, I thinkhe lives in a home right now.Um, does.So anyways, I think it is extremely shocking that he has been foundmentally fit to stand trial Ourgrandpahad Alzheimer's, and dementia. they are two different things. and we saw trulyhow.Mentally crippling this disease is, andhow firsthandhow this, you know, the person, you know, when in his like later years was gone. You know, he was reallynot mentally sound.And so I think it's,[00:48:00] I. Really sick that they haveplayed this up.You know, the fact that a, like an independent neuropsychiatrist or neuropsychologist has found him to be mentally fit. Like you have to be prettysound to be able to stand trial. And I just,I'm so floored that, you know, he is in fact mentally sound because he is, there've been pictures of him where he'slooked, you know, like. He is, you know, on death door essentially. and so I just,it's, it's reallyshocking tofind out. It was kind of all an act, or at leastan act to somedegree,Well, I think this guy's a total fraud,obviously, and so it makes sense to me that he would tryto feigin in competence and commit further fraud in order to avoid being, you know, brought tojustice. So it tracks for me. also,I will say that dementia is so interesting because.I just think that it would be exhausting to try to fakethat.Yeah, totally. dementia is sorealand it isso. strikingly[00:49:00] real to, to be in frontof withwhen someone has it. already for our paternal grandfather who we really didn't know very well, growing up, he, you know, didn't have muchinterest. Um, our realgrandfather was ourgrandmother's, second husband,um, that was our grandpa, but our paternal grandfather, um, he actually was so crazy.His wholepersonality transformed it to be an. Nicerperson to be a lotsofter and gentler once he like lost his real personality. Um, and he, dementia really sunk infor him. Um, and it, my pointof sharing that is to saythat it makes you a differentperson.and think it's something you truly can fake, you know? Tom Jardiis not an an Oscar-winning actor, and good luck, dude.But I'm so happy that he's gonna stand trial.yeah, I, I definitely feel like this is a,a win forjustice today.I think it also definitely blows apart Erica's credibility.[00:50:00] Mm-hmm.Oh, I mean,Ithink that Erica Jane has been cosigning hisdiagnosis,and I think that a lot of people gave her the benefit ofthe doubt, even saw her. You know, as she clutched her diamonds, um,not willing to release them so that the value could go tothe widows and orphanswho were, you know, swindled. Um, people kindof gave her the benefit of doubt and thought this is a woman who's losing everything. she's going from her 13 million house to her $2 million house in, la.How sad for her, a casita, her like beautiful dream of a home, Like that whole situation.Anyway, Ijust think that now this brings other things too light because.shewas propping upthis narrativein theshow, allegedly, and it just makes me a little suspicious about a potentialco-conspirator ship allegedly, whoknows?Yeah, [00:51:00] absolutely. I mean, For herto saythat he has dementia or that he was basically like gone mentally.And then to have that, called into question and then confirmed,I mean, she's a liar.She's a big liar. And like, I, definitely wonder ifthis will play out in the next season.Yeah, Ithink that, you know, she wasreally trying to pushthat narrativeon the show with these crazy sceneswhere she would, talk about hiscarve accident that happenedwhere he got abrain injury, just trying to plant the seeds. thathe could potentially yes, be demented. Um,and I think that, you know, the truthhas a way of,showing itself,of revealing itself.It's true, it's true. I mean, if I wereErica,I would not continue toto sell his lies.I would get as far away from him as possible. If I truly didn't know anything, I would say I'm divorcing you. I'm getting as far awayfrom this situation aspossible.you just she's still getting money orsomething?[00:52:00] exactly?I think allegedly,I think that, they set up some sort of situation where she could still be. Receivingfunds, I don't think that her career as a pop star where she was, it was just losing money is paying for her lifestyle. I also think her $650,000 alleged. Salary as a Beverly Hillshousewife.While that might sound like a lotin California, that's 300 grand after taxes. And then trying to live alifestyle in LAlikethe oneshe was living, that shitdoesn't go far, baby. So, I think there's morehere thanmeets the eye.yeah. Well thenI wonder if she will, you know, go down with him insome way.I, I don't think so. I really don't think so. it'll be interesting to see,butSharon, should we leave it there today?I. Yeah, let's leave itthere.All right, Chandler,thank you so much for being here with me today. [00:53:00] sorry everyone. Thishas kind ofbeen a heavy, dark episode, but youknow, sometimes it's important toexplorewhat's really going on around us.if you enjoy pop Apologi and youenjoythis podcast, we beg of you on Benin Knee,Pick me girlsthat we are Please everyone share this podcast.Share it on your Instagramstories. Include the link soyour followers cantap it and listen.Pleaseshare a thoughtfulshout out.usa review. Oh mygosh. 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Jacob and Kalob discuss how to become spiritually successful. Whether or not you consider yourself religious, spirituality is an important aspect of success. It includes a sense of connection to something bigger than ourselves, mainly involving a search for personal meaning and purpose in life. This is everyone’s quest for success or happiness. It's important to find time to pray, meditate, ponder, or have moments to yourself to contemplate your purpose and how you will fulfill it.QuestersDefinition:(noun) someone making a search or inquirySynonyms:searcher, seekerPodcast SummitWebsiteFacebookFeedback for future eventsWe would like to receive feedback on what you’d like to see in a future SuccessQuest event. Please reach out to us via email or social media (links found below). Spiritual SuccessSpiritual success is for Everyone. U b Even if you don’t believe in God, there will be a lot you can benefit from in this podcast. Finding Your WhyWhy?Why become successful?Why Improve? What is your purpose?Exercise: Ask why 7 times.(Example)Q: Why do you want to be successfulA: So I can provide for my familyQ: Why do you need to provide for your family?A: So they can have a better life than I didQ: why… Kalob’s WhyI want to be in control of my destiny. Jacob’s WhyI want to reach my full potentialThe Parable of the Talents (Matthew 25:14–29)Prayer, Meditation and PonderingLife is stressful. Prayer meditation and pondering give you an opportunity to escape from this stress. When else do you do your best thinking? Allows for outside the box thinking. Tips for Prayer, Meditation and PonderingKalob: There isn’t a best way. Kalob: Find a quiet place. Kneel down. Take time to think. Jacob: Try to eliminate distractions.Jacob: Intentionally talk with God.Jacob: Take a piece of paper and write down thoughts and impressions. Benefits of MindfulnessGet better sleepMake progress toward weight lossStress reductionDecrease lonelinessImprove attentionReduce anxietyIncrease brain gray matterJacob Links:Jacob’s WebsiteJacob’s LinkedInJacob's Twitter: @jacob_m_harmonKalob Links:Kalob’s LinkedInSuccessQuest Links:WebsiteBlogFacebookLinkedInTwitter: @MySuccessQuestEmail: podcast@MySuccessQuest.com