Men On Purpose Podcast

What you will learn in this episode: - The most common communication challenges men experience in their marriages. - The impact that communication challenges have on your relationship with your partner and how your partner is feeling. - Strategies for identifying the personal communication challenges you are struggling with. - Choosing which communication habits resonated with you the most and how to implement them. - Integrating these exercises into your daily life to improve your communication skills in your home and work life. - Implementing active listening techniques in your relationship. - How to best respond when your partner is not using active listening techniques. - Communicating your needs and desires more effectively to your partner. - Handling communication breakdowns in a more productive way. - Strategies to prevent communication breakdowns from happening in the first place. - How to incorporate & practice active listening - How to build upon & strengthen your current communication skills to strengthen your relationship with your partner. CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: support@thelobasgroup.com WEBSITE: https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theirreplaceablemancommunity/ FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iamianlobas/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/theirreplaceablemanpodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theirreplaceableman/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #Communication #Activelistening #Improvecommunication

What you will learn in this episode: Strategies for rebuilding physical trust by creating a safe and supportive environment Tips for rebuilding financial trust by being transparent and honest about financial matters Techniques for establishing clear boundaries and expectations around financial matters Setting clear boundaries & Expectations around physical & financial goals.  How to ommunicate effectively about what you want from your partner physically.  Addressing past traumas & triggers that affect your physical & financial world.  Why building intimacy gradually is massively important Staying patient with yourself and your spouse as you build the foundations back up.  Creating a positive physical environment for you & your spouse to feel safe.  How to set clear financial goals together and stick with them.  The benefits of creating a joint budget. Why practicing transparency will get you farther faster.  Set financial expectations & boundaries with each other and honoring your commitments.  Getting clear about each others relationship with money and how to help each other grow through it.  How to practice regular financial check-ins with your partner.  Why celebrating small wins & staying positive is crucial to your foundation & future.  Addressing underlying issues quickly and purposefully.  CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: support@thelobasgroup.com WEBSITE: https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theirreplaceablemancommunity/ FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iamianlobas/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/theirreplaceablemanpodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theirreplaceableman/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #trust #physicaltrust #financialtrust

What you will learn in this episode as well as questions to ask yourself and your partner to gain clarity & traction quickly!  Ways to rebuild competence trust by improving decision-making and follow-through skills What specific decision-making or follow-through skills do you need to work on to rebuild trust in your relationship? What specific actions can you take to improve your decision-making and follow-through skills? How can you hold yourself accountable to follow through on commitments and decisions? How can you communicate your decisions and actions to your partner in a way that builds trust? What barriers or challenges might you encounter in rebuilding competence trust, and how can you overcome them? What support or resources do you need to successfully rebuild competence trust in your relationship? What systems & structure can you put into place to ensure that you will be consistently rebuilding competency & reliability trust? Tips for rebuilding communication trust by being honest and transparent with your partner: What fears or concerns do you have about being honest and transparent with your partner? How can you communicate your feelings and needs in a way that is honest and respectful? How can you actively listen to your partner and validate their perspective? What specific steps can you take to rebuild trust through honest and transparent communication? How can you repair trust if you have been dishonest in the past? What role does empathy play in rebuilding communication trust, and how can you cultivate it in your relationship? Techniques for improving communication skills and building a deeper understanding of each other's needs and perspectives: What communication patterns or habits do you need to change to build a deeper understanding in your relationship? How can you actively listen to your partner and seek to understand their perspective? How can you express your own needs and feelings in a way that is clear and respectful? What techniques can you use to avoid defensiveness and conflict when discussing difficult topics? How can you build empathy and understanding for your partner's perspective, even if you don't agree with them? What role does self-reflection and self-awareness play in building a deeper understanding in your relationship? CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: support@thelobasgroup.com WEBSITE: https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theirreplaceablemancommunity/ FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iamianlobas/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/theirreplaceablemanpodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theirreplaceableman/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #communication #trust #marriage

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What you will learn in this episode: - The 6 Trust Types - How they are broken - How they can be repaired - Why you are breaking trust and How to stop repeating the cycle - Our story of how we broke and repaired each one of these - An exercise you can use to start doing the work now! - Much More! 12-Step Guide To Becoming An Irreplaceable Husband: http://www.Irreplaceableman.com Book a Free Strategy Call with Ian: https://calendly.com/ianlobas/group-coaching-strategy-call Sign Up for The Irreplaceable Man Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvF Monday LIVE Irreplaceable Man Podcast Recording: https://fb.me/e/4db3F08kg Thursday FREE Group Training: https://fb.me/e/UE2Qyf99 Weekly Planning Guide for Couples: https://grow.irreplaceableman.com/tim-couples-weekly-planning-guide/ 6 Trust Types Assessment: https://grow.irreplaceableman.com/6-trust-types-assessment/ CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: support@thelobasgroup.com WEBSITE: https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theirreplaceablemancommunity/ FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iamianlobas/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/theirreplaceablemanpodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theirreplaceableman/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #trust #relationship #marriage

What you will learn in this episode: The hidden ways trust is broken What your wife is thinking and how she feels How the little things add up to be a big deal What causes trust issues in a relationship What you can do to start to course correct Examples from our marriage on how we rebuilt Systems & Strategies you can use now. Your value outside of provider and protector The Replaceable Man Avatars CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: support@thelobasgroup.com WEBSITE: https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theirreplaceablemancommunity/ FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iamianlobas/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/theirreplaceablemanpodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theirreplaceableman/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #trust #relationship #theirreplaceableman

Episode 306 dives deep into the journey of personal growth and development in both individuals and as a couple. We discuss how being a work in progress and how taking ownership of your own growth can benefit not only yourself but also your partner. One common theme that we explore is the idea of men feeling like they have no other value in the world besides money. We challenge this notion and talk about how bad behavior can become a reflection of fear, and how showing up as the man your partner needs you to be is an important part of creating a strong, healthy relationship. We also address the unfair expectation that wives need to do all the work in marriage and the assumption that women do not need us just because they are strong. We discuss how mother's instincts and trauma triggers can impact relationships and marriages and the importance of addressing these issues head-on. Throughout the episode, we stress the importance of communication and building a strong bond of trust between partners. We talk about how changing doesn't necessarily mean that your partner will automatically trust those changes.If you want to improve your relationship with your partner or even just yourself, check out our website and apply to join our community https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/. Quick Timestamps 00:01:53 What Meredith's Thought Process Was When She Was About to Leave 00:04:33 When Ian's Replaceability Began 00:05:01 Being in a Delusional State 00:06:56 Husbands Expecting Wives to Do All the Work 00:09:48 Attaching Your Value On Money 00:11:00 The Misconception Behind Being a Mediocre Husband 00:13:37 Building the Life You Want vs. Facing the Regret in the Future 00:15:16 The Assumption That Our Wives Do Not Need Us Because They Are “Strong” 00:16:40 The 12 Patterns Guide 00:22:04 Natural Motherly Instinct 00:27:24 Being Constantly Busy Is An Excuse 00:28:57 Trauma Triggers 00:30:11 Changing Doesn't Mean Your Wife Would Automatically Trust Those Changes 00:37:10 The Karma Gross 00:42:31 Putting Down the Fear of Being Judged 00:44:21 Trusting Yourself Through Evidence-Based Action 00:50:37 The Toxicity of Not Addressing Problems 00:56:01 Membership Announcement CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: support@thelobasgroup.com WEBSITE: https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theirreplaceablemancommunity/  FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/iamianlobas/  FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/theirreplaceablemanpodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theirreplaceableman/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #PersonalGrowthAndDevelopment #HealthyRelationships #CommunicationIsKey

Episode 305 examines the choice between victimhood and taking ownership of your life, and how it impacts your success. In this episode, Raylen Davis from the Elevated Coaching Academy joins us to discuss the power of leaning into discomfort to achieve success. We explore the importance of focusing on the emotional and inner self, and how mentorship can be a powerful tool for growth. We also discuss the detrimental effects of creating meaning around things and the steps to take in turning your life around. Raylen shares insights on choosing between victimhood and letting go of it, and decoding the formula for success. Taking full ownership and responsibility of your life and marriage is essential to finding fulfillment, as is being present and understanding your authentic desires. We delve into how to access the power that is already within you, the benefits of slowing down to speed up, and how a serving mindset and language can transform your life. As Raylen says, "purpose comes from pain." Join us as we explore this concept and gain valuable insights on how to live a more purposeful life. Listen to the episode and learn more from https://irreplaceableman.com/apply/. Quick Timestamps 00:04:47 Raylen Story About Programming 00:06:47 Leaning Into Two Things for Success 00:07:46 Focusing on the Emotional Side (the inner self) 8:27-9:56 IAN GOLD 00:09:58 Power of Mentorship 00:12:06 Creating Meaning Around Things 00:12:59 Raylen's Defining Moment 00:16:10 Creating Meaning Around Things 00:16:34 Decoding the Victim and Success Formula 16:59-18:15 IAN GOLD 00:18:55 Taking Full Ownership and Responsibility 19:41-20:52 IAN GOLD 21:34-23:46 IAN GOLD: Ball Off the Foot 00:23:57 Taking Responsibility 00:25:55 Being Present 00:31:04 Understanding What You Want 31:56-36:50 IAN GOLD: Defining Success 00:37:14 Self-Mastery by Robert Green 00:38:00 Power vs. Force 00:38:39 How to Access the Power That Is Already in You 42:57-44:19 IAN GOLD: Slowing Down 45:22 - 47:36 Should & Could Mindset 00:47:38 Power of Cold Plunge 00:49:07 Serving or Not Serving 01:00:00 Purpose Comes From Pain Books or Articles mentioned: Self-Mastery by Robert Green & Power vs. Force by David Hawking Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: elevatedcoachingacademy.com

In this episode, we explore the transformative power of affirmations and how they can help us create the life we desire. Our guest, Garrain Jones — shares his personal journey of overcoming adversity and how he used affirmations to change his mindset and manifest his dreams. He emphasizes the importance of creating a personal formula and blueprint for our lives, and how this can help us become irreplaceable individuals as a whole. We delve into the role of energy transmutation in turning negative experiences into positive ones and how it can help us cultivate inner peace. Through personal stories and insights, Garrain and I discuss the importance of surrendering to the universe, being true to ourselves, and using affirmations to align our thoughts and actions with our deepest desires. QUICK TIMESTAMPS 6:57 Garrain's Story 08:22 -09:12 When a Giant Mountain Is on You 09:28 - 10:38 Mom Taught Me to Be Calm 12:40 No One Is Coming to Save You 13:54 Voluntary Discomfort 17:33 Training Your Life Force for Calm Inner Energy 23:02 - 23:32 Whats Easy to Do Is Easy Not to Do 23:33 Moving to LA and Becoming a Model 26:12:00 Not Letting Other People's Good Opinions Get To You 35:06:00 Channeling Inner Peace Through Surrender 43:24:00 You Cannot See the Picture From in the Frame 48:37:00 Cranking up the Obsession of Perseverance 49:42:00 Losing Authenticity 52:32:00 Hitting Rock Bottom and Casting the Vision 54:46:00 Energy Can't Be Destroyed, It Can Only Be Transmuted 56:45:00 Don't Let Your Life Be Stolen 1:01:03 Being an Irreplaceable Husband 1:01:18 Creating Your Formula and Blueprint for Your Life 1:06:45 Creating Powerful Affirmations for Yourself 1:11:42 The Universe Becomes Plastic When You Become Who You Are Designed to Be 1:12:02 - 1:14:58 IAN GOLD Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: garrainjones.com

As men, we have a natural desire to provide for our families and achieve success in our careers. Frankly, this is how most men avoid dealing with their problems. And the problem with that is it hurts the people we say we are working hard for. I remember Meredith saying to me, “You say you're running the race for us, however every time you get a chance to celebrate with your family, you run right by us.” That hurt and hit deep. She was right. I was saying one thing and doing another. I was acting as a business man that happened to have a family. My life changed when I met Jon Vroman who introduced me to the concept of being a family man with a business and the mindset shift that came with it. The pursuit of professional goals can sometimes come at the expense of our family life. Jon and I discuss the challenges of balancing family and business, and share insights on how to prioritize both aspects of our lives family first. We explore strategies for setting boundaries, managing our time, and communicating effectively with our loved ones. Our guest, Jon Vroman — shares his personal experiences and the lessons he has learned as he navigated through the competing demands of work and family. He offers practical advice on his website https://frontrowdads.com/ on how to maintain a healthy balance making him an irreplaceable family man with a business. Quick Timestamps 09:19-11:13 IAN GOLD: Finding the Most Serving Mentor 00:11:20 Jon's Story 00:14:09 Family Men With Businesses 15:39-18:48 IAN GOLD: Misalignment Kills 00:19:07 Checking In on Your Ego 23:23-27:01 IAN GOLD: Living a Regret-Free Life 00:27:11 Buying Back Your Time 29:07-31:29 IAN GOLD: Feeling Insecure 00:31:31 Leadership Imposter Syndrome 00:30:55 Relationship With Significance 00:35:46 Wisdom Should Be Crowdsourced Responsibly 35:36-36:00 IAN GOLD: Balancing the All or Nothing Mentality 00:36:08 Being Present 00:36:22 Designing Your Life for Success in All Areas 00:39:11 Paying Attention to What's Working and Not 00:40:08 Sticking With the Challenges in Business 00:42:00 Formula for Constraints That Serve Your Strengths 00:45:09 Conquering Fears Around Growing a Team 00:48:44 Systems That Help Us Be Conscious 00:51:43 Recognizing Patterns for Course Correction 00:54:09 The FRD Story and the Magic of How It Works 00:56:25 Creating Psychological Safety 01:09:08 Expectations Management: Intentions vs. Expectations Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://frontrowdads.com/

Marriage is not just about two people living together. When you're married, you don't have a housemate, you have a partner that you have made a commitment to. Not just to provide for or take care of, your commitment also has to do with who you are and who you become. Constant personal evolution and growth is a must. For the first couple years of our marriage, I wasnt following those rules. In my mind, because I was providing financially at a high level and we were living a great life, thats all the contribution that was necessary. Yeah, I was a fucking failure as a husband and then the day came when Mere had enough. She gave me an ultimatum that hit me square between the eyes. It broke me and knocked me onto a course of deep level personal growth and development. The fact that not only was I replaceable in my marriage, I also realized that like most men, I was also replaceable as a leader in my business, as a professional and sadly, as a father. Everything changed when the fear of her being with someone else kicked in and I would have let her go knowing that I could have done something however I remained selfish and in my ego. It was beyone fear, I felt and sensed the immense regret I would feel later on in life knowing that I had the chance to make it better and didnt. So the first commitment was to me, to put me first in a serving way and focus on my growth while I learned about what she needed and who she needed me to be. In this special episode, my wife (Meredith) and I put everything on the table and talk about our relationship from the beginning. We are vulnerable and honest about the ins and outs of our marriage in hopes of helping every man out there to transform into their best selves and finally become The Irreplaceable Man & Husband that they need to be, the one their wives want to be with and the one their wives will never leave.. Yes, brother, its all on you! Now that we have switched over to The Irreplaceable Man podcast, you can expect 2x episodes a month with Meredith and I digging into a new topic that stop marriages from being amazing and stop men from being irreplaceable. TIMESTAMPS: 00:03:07 Ian's Fear: His wife never getting over the resentment from who he used to be 00:04:30 Great Partnership = Great Marriage 00:06:22 Moving Past Resentment to Instill Good Communication 00:07:57 Meredith & Ian's Story 00:10:07 Wanting to Be the Provider 00:11:12 Making Money Your Identity Could Destroy You 00:11:55 Angles of Avoidance 00:14:29 Creating A Curriculum for Yourself 00:16:29 What It Means to Be Replaced 00:19:05 Take It All On You 00:21:24 The Feeling of Stability 00:23:29 Rushing into Relationships and Feeling Obligated 00:28:04 Creating Time for Just You and Your Spouse 00:29:05 Seeking Approval Externally 00:33:51 Change Before She Pulls the Switch 00:35:55 Postpartum Depression & Anxiety 00:38:02 Men Having the Fear to be Vulnerable 00:38:13 Feminine Flow Energy 00:41:38 The Fear of Loving Too Much FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/theirreplaceablemanpodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/company/theirreplaceableman/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #marriage #irreplaceablehusband #commitment

Episode 301 is about putting yourself first and making sure you are working on your fullest potential, because what you have financially and materially is not always the truest form of happiness. The truth is, all the money and material possessions in the world may not make you happy. In fact, if you don't feel complete you will probably never let yourself enjoy what you have. Put yourself first and work on your self-depreciation issues, so that you can get out of your own way and achieve real happiness and success. Today, Sam Kabert, a successful Serial Entrepreneur turned Spiritual Seeker, joins us in searching for our own life mission. He is known for his ability to put together virtual teams to execute the vision as efficiently as possible so that all involved can spend more time adventuring and experiencing the beauty the world has to offer outside of traditional work. Do not get caught up in achieving what society has taught you was valuable instead of knowing within yourself what is most important for your life. Let's find your new passion and purpose in life together. Let's make each other proud of our own self-discovery journey. Follow us at https://menonpurpose.net/apply/. QUICK TIMESTAMPS: 00:06:31 Sam's Story 00:10:10 Numbing Depression 00:13:35 Set Site on the Money 00:13:44 Money Was My Identity 15:30-17:14 IAN GOLD: Legacy 00:17:39 Slowing Down and Comparison 00:19:55 Outsourcing Happiness to Materialism 00:21:02 Getting to a Place to Slow Down 00:21:18 Avoidance Tactics 00:23:25 Tapping Into the Feminine 00:24:37 Working on vs Working in the Business 26:26-27:43 IAN GOLD: Slowing Down 00:27:46 Ways to Slow Down 00:29:26 Taking in the World Around You 28:42-29:58 IAN GOLD: Eliminating People From Your Life 00:32:17 Soul Contracts 32:39-36:09 IAN GOLD: Purpose 00:35:02 Doing the Inner Work 00:47:10 Waking up and Adjusting to the World 00:49:41 Quantum Physics 00:50:18 Self-Love 50:40-52:33 IAN GOLD: Finding True Purpose 00:55:31 Integration 00:56:54 Creating Space 00:59:38 Closing Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: http://samkabert.com/

Episode 300 is about why even great marriages could still be at the brink of divorce, and how going through self-transformation could remedy such a situation. There is a common misconception that if you are married, your marriage is guaranteed. This is not the case, and anyone who says otherwise is either unaware of or in denial of the issues concerning the reality of marriage. According to The National Center for Health Statistics in the United States, at least 50% of marriages will end in divorce (Jones & Schulz, 2000). Today, Keith Yackey, founder and CEO of The Married Game & The Ascend Brotherhood, has been committed to helping married men learn how to get their wives to “want” to have sex with them again. He will be discussing communication, attraction, integrity, supporting yourself and other winning formulas that could help you and your spouse rekindle your connection, as every great marriage could be on the doorstep of divorce. It's not a question of “if,” it's a question of “when.” The ability to overcome challenges helps us heal from pain, transform disappointment into victory, and rebuild trust. You don't have to go through the crisis alone. Get advice and guidance from our episodes. Follow us at https://menonpurpose.net/apply/. It's time to stop letting your marriage fall apart! QUICK TIMESTAMPS: 00:07:02 Keith's Story 00:10:03 Every Great Marriage Is on the Doorstep of Divorce 00:11:30 Wife Lost Attraction for Me 00:13:22 Who Were You? 00:15:21 Am I Willing to Go All in on Me? 00:15:53 Do I Even Like Me? 00:16:40 Learning the Skill of Discipline 00:19:20 Become a 10 at Everything in Your Life 19:58-21:43 IAN GOLD - Doing Whatever It Takes 00:22:11 Keeping the Bitch Voice at Bay 00:23:14 Empowering Yourself 24:54-26:36 IAN GOLD - Inevitable vs. Probable 00:27:24 Making Decisions Out of Desperation 00:29:15 De-emasculating Behavior 00:31:21 The P Formula 00:33:30 Attractive and Unattractive Things 00:36:07 The Vicious Cycle of Pleasing Your Wife 00:38:35 Self-Love and Self-Care 00:39:11 Put Time Into Yourself 00:42:43 When Are You Going to Get Tired of Not Being You 45:46-47:16 IAN GOLD - Self-Celebration 00:50:01 Resentment and Regret Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: www.keithyackey.com

Episode 299 is about generational traumas and experiences, and how we cope with it differently in our varying paces as individuals. As we grow older, we may not even realize that we are living with the effects of generational traumas. Our coping skills are programmed into us by our parents, siblings and other environmental factors — even if it doesn't seem like we're hearing it directly from them. Each generation has nuances, but the bottom line is that we must break these patterns if we want to move forward. Generational trauma is defined as the psychological consequences of traumatic events that are experienced by a second or subsequent generation through inherited family systems. This form of intergenerational trauma can lead to physical, emotional and mental health problems. Today, Paul Cope, a highly accomplished consultant, coach, business owner and corporate lawyer possessing a powerful transformative presence with the ability to provide insights that are invaluable to any organization — reminds us of the impact of generational trauma and how we must cope with it. He shares that as humans, we are hardwired to deal with crises and trauma by connecting socially with other people in our community. As a result of our experiences with trauma and loss, it may be difficult for us to trust others or reach out when we need help, hence why he wrote the book How to Solve Any Problem in Life. Just like Paul, we want to help guide men in whatever it is that they might be going through. QUICK TIMESTAMPS: 9:28-11:00 Programming From Parents 00:11:13 Programming Experiences 11:58-14:17 IAN GOLD - Programming 00:14:35 Don't Cry 15:22-16:59 IAN GOLD 00:17:03 Compassion 00:18:04 Programming of Past Generations 00:20:54 Every Parent Says the Same Thing 22:16-26:05 IAN GOLD 00:29:54 That's Just the Way It's Done 31:05-37:16 IAN GOLD 00:37:46 How We Feel About Ourselves Inside 00:41:13 We Are All Flawed 00:41:42 Must Have Duality in Your Life 42:42-46:38 IAN GOLD 00:46:50 Depression and Anxiety 00:48:40 You Must Look After You First 53:37-56:54 IAN GOLD 00:57:16 All the Reasons You Can't Make Time for You 00:58:17 Extrovert vs. Introvert 00:58:47 Change the Question You Put In Your Search Engine 00:59:18 IAN GOLD - Language and Environment 01:08:00 IAN GOLD - Rocket Boosters Peeling Off Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: www.paul7cope.com

Episode 298 is about acknowledging and accepting your core, including loving who you are with the help of discovering new realms. At some point in our lives, we all go through the deep and dark hole of self-discovery. We fear that what we are or who we are could be deemed as unacceptable by society — that we think we need to achieve so many things and become so powerful just to be praised by others. We often fail to realize that this acceptance, respect and praise that we crave are highly rooted within ourselves. Today, Matt Zemon, the author of Psychedelics for Everyone and the Co-Founder of HAPPŸŸ — a mental wellness company that specializes in psychedelic-assisted oral ketamine therapy along with digital therapeutics that promote life-transforming outcomes, challenges us to keep an open-mind to welcome the proper usage and benefits of psychedelics as powerful medicines. He will be with us to speak about his transformation and how psychedelics were able to help other people overcome anxiety, depression, addiction, PTSD and many more. As Matt said, “You are enough right now. You are loved right now. Just go. Just be.” So, join us as we face life with gratitude. May we start counting what we have, rather than complain about what we do not have. Allow us to guide you as we provide support for men through their self-discovery journey. Follow us at menonpurpose.net TIMESTAMPS: 00:07:44 Matt's Story 10:13-13:19 IAN GOLD 00:14:57 The Big Surprise 00:16:54 Love, Acceptance and Safety 00:19:21 Finding What's Missing 00:20:06 Wrapping Your Head Around You Mattering 21:31-24:00 IAN GOLD 00:24:31 Living With Purpose 00:24:49 IAN GOLD 00:26:05 Programming From Birth - Winning & Producing 00:28:19 Removing Shame, Blame and Guilt 00:28:53 Programming Through Generations 00:29:22 Relationships With Parents 00:30:05 How Were You Promoted in Life to Solve Problems 00:31:12 What Are the Roles I Created for My Life 00:31:47 IAN GOLD 00:33:30 Making Excuses 00:35:44 IAN GOLD 00:36:55 Driven By Different Motivators 00:37:04 Sitting Still 00:39:02 Being Productive and Changing Habits 00:40:02 IAN GOLD 00:41:59 Shifting Old Habits 00:43:58 What Really Is Security 00:44:12 Where to Find Psychedelics 00:45:49 Compassion and Connectivity to Others 01:11:00 Unlock Something in You Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://www.mattzemon.com/

Episode 297 is about embracing the mystery of death, our spiritual connections with others and how it can transform us. Most of us fear the idea of death, because we all fear what we do not know. We fear that we might no longer be able to do what we could have done when we still had the chance. Indeed, we regret more the things we did not do than those we did, and this is what makes today's episode very special — as it teaches us how we could possibly handle the concept of dying and how it involves a lot of acceptance. Today, former founder and CEO of a successful multimillion-dollar consumer products company, John David Latta, opens our minds and challenges our emotions when it comes to the inevitable. He is a mystic, teacher, and author who shares intimate and personal stories and teaches workshops on leadership, healing, transformation, awakening, love, synchronicity, and wisdom that unite and expand human experience. As John shares, “We are constructed at a soul level. A cat doesn't die, but the body dies. A human being doesn't die, but the body dies.” Death is a mystery, but death is also part of life and a natural, spiritual experience. To understand what happens when we die, we need to see ourselves in the context of relationships that connect us with others and with something beyond our individual selves. Just like John, we value relationships and connections the most, that is why we provide support for men in all works of life — an extraordinary opportunity to live life more fully and connect with those they love. QUICK TIMESTAMPS: 00:05:31 John's Story Before Hitting Rock Bottom 00:06:46 Confronting Death and Losing All in a Blink of an Eye 00:07:38 Unbelievable Fear of Death 00:10:14 Synchronicity and Spiritual Connection 00:17:05 Plunging Into Your Feminine Side 00:18:47 Factors That Define Your Life 00:20:44 Actual Direct Experiences and Stories 00:21:40 Looking Back at Failed Relationships 23:06-25:22 IAN GOLD - The Difference Between the Human and the Authentic 00:25:33 The Difficulty in Getting Out of Bad Habits 00:26:57 The Truths Behind Transformation 00:30:02 It's Time to Be a Different Story 32:37-36:26 IAN GOLD - Changing Old Habits 00:39:32 Blaming Other People 00:44:09 The Parking Garage of Life 00:46:29 Parents as Children's Safe Space / Guiding Children How to Handle Death 00:51:35 The Grief in Ending a Life Season 00:55:14 Embracing the Mystery of Death 00:59:46 The Fear of Death That People Are Facing Connect with Guest ❤️ Website:https://linktr.ee/johndavidlatta

Episode 296 is about personal development and being purposeful in your life journey. When opportunities arise in your life, do you realize how often you discredit yourself? Because our episode for today tells us straight up that discrediting yourself is not only negative for you; it also insults those who believe in the value that you bring. Discrediting yourself is a dangerous thing to do. When you start believing that you are not good enough, that belief can spread to other areas of your life, and it will cause you to make bad decisions. Today, CEO Randall Crowder of Phunware — a technology company in Austin, TX developing mobile and data solutions for major brands and launching a unique cryptocurrency called PhunCoin, encourages us to be critical in our life choices. Our life choices include a lot of self-actualization and self-reflection, and this episode is about owning up to your choices, because whatever you have, wherever you are, and whoever you are now, is all on YOU. As Randall shares, “We are not human beings. We are human BECOMINGS,” and that speaks volumes about who we choose to be in life. That is why we provide support for men in all works of life, to help you become the person you ought to be. Follow us at https://menonpurpose.net Quick Timestamp: 00:06:29 Randall's Story 00:11:32 Immediately Going to the Negative 00:15:34 Measuring Success and Making Time for You 00:16:02 Spending More Time With Spouse 00:18:03 Biggest Fallacies; Busy Isn't Productive, Productive Isn't Effective 18:22-20:38 IAN GOLD - Getting Ahead of the Competition 00:21:32 Being Purposeful About What Matters 00:23:12 Self-Love and Imposter Syndrome 00:28:06 Series of Moments Build Self Confidence 00:30:32 Pushing Through the Fear in All Areas of Life 00:34:57 Gaslighting 00:35:55 Open Communication in Relationships 00:37:08 IAN GOLD - Betting on Yourself 00:39:09 Self-Sabotage and Disclaiming Yourself 00:43:13 IAN GOLD - Authentic Self vs. Natural Self 00:47:10 Controlling Your Anger and Not Comparing Yourself to Others 00:49:01 Stop Giving You Power Over to Others 00:50:36 IAN GOLD - Opening Up Space 00:53:23 IAN GOLD - Scarcity Mindset and Breaking Integrity 00:54:38 How You Perceive Your Wife in Public 00:57:19 Imposter Syndrome Leads to Insecurity 00:59:46 IAN GOLD - It's All on You 01:02:20 Self-Actualization and Over Correction 01:02:55 Intention Matters and Is Crucial Connect with Guest ❤️ Website:http://www.phunware.com

Episode 295 is about surviving the dark hole in pursuit of our true purpose and happiness. Sometimes when things are going so perfectly in our life, that's the exact moment we feel lost. We get consumed by fame, power and money, thinking all of it should be enough, that it is all that we need — that we forget what it truly feels to LIVE. We start asking ourselves, is this all life has to offer? Today, a former MLB baseball player and MLB all star, Shea Hillenbrand gets to share with us his journey towards the pursuit of his true purpose and happiness. He hid all of his childhood dreams and then realized that none of them were his actual dreams, that all he was doing was chasing the money, fame and the identity of his popularity to appease his ego. So in this episode, we are going to dig deep into our childhood traumas, face our fears, and surpass all the hurdles we thought only the grand things could solve, and we are going to do this together. As Shea says, “Don't miss the meat of the method: POWER and PERSPECTIVE,” so rediscover yourself with us. We provide support for men in all walks of life. Follow us at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/. Quick Timestamps 00:04:43 IAN GOLD Shedding the Identity 00:06:25 Shea's Back Story 00:07:26 Finding Your Safe Space 00:08:43 Creating My Story from What Happened 00:13:34 The Pain That Stays After the Achievement 00:16:05 Is This All Life Has to Offer? 00:16:42 Having Everything Except Fulfillment 00:17:57 Leaving All Behind 00:20:44 When You Are Empty Inside 00:21:11 Ego Can't Bring Sustainable Success 00:23:03 Using Drugs and Alcohol to Numb and Run 00:23:29 The Aha Moment 00:24:18 You Must Rescue Yourself 00:25:09 3 Most Powerful Decisions in Life 00:25:48 Getting Started 00:27:00 The Need to Go Back to Level 1 00:28:26 Who Will Stand Guard for Your Mind 00:30:45 The Anger Resentment Story 00:32:21 Only Reaching a Fraction of Your Potential 00:32:44 The Emotions of Our Stories 00:34:54 Pain Not Transformed Is Transmitted 36:48-37:31 IAN GOLD I 00:38:03 Why Parents Must Communicate With Their Kids 00:42:38 Vulnerability & Sharing Powerfully 00:46:24 Fear of Past Self 00:46:53 3 Pillars of Life: Personal, Private & Professional 00:48:41 Not Present So We Buy Presents 00:49:41 How Do You Act On the Results You Have 55:19-55:57 IAN GOLD II 00:58:09 Serve From Your Heart Not Your Ego Connect with Guest ❤️ Website:https://linktr.ee/riplpm

Episode 294 is about diving deep into the human experience. When we deal with our emotions, especially when it comes to love, it's helpful to identify our patterns. This could resolve a lot of issues when it comes to intimacy, traumas, and even grief. After all, the opposite of love is grief. You love somebody you can lose. That's an unforgettable line we got from Dr. Thomas Jordan — whose clinical specialty is treating adults who are depressed and anxious about past or present unhealthy relationship experiences, people who are struggling with low self-esteem, feelings of loss, or an unhealthy love life. Today, Dr. Thomas will be with us to talk about the psychology around love, and how you can change your love life by changing your psychology. Overcome any emotional dive with us. We provide support for men from all walks of life. Follow us at menonpurpose.net Quick Timestamps: 00:01:09 Guest Intro & Background: Dr. Thomas Jordan 00:05:46 How Thomas Got Started 00:07:39 What You Need to Work On to Have a Great Relationship 00:09:08 What Love Is 00:10:00 Examples of Sabotage 00:14:25 Variation in Attraction 00:15:35 Consciousness Is the Key 00:16:48 Will Is a Decision That You Have to Act On 00:18:42 The Differences in Women: Independence, Control, Intimacy 00:21:19 How the Psychology of a Person Affects Their Experience 00:22:51 Change Your Love Life by Changing Your Psychology 00:23:39 Healthy and Unhealthy Attachment to Thoughts 00:26:28 The Idea You Could Be in Love and Not Get Hurt 00:31:21 Parentified Child 00:32:02 Sharing Your Emotions With Your Child 00:34:12 Starting the Journey of Self-Healing 00:34:42 The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Kids 00:38:54 What Wakes People up From Old Patterns 00:39:59 Dealing With Loneliness 00:43:34 Stop Wasting Your Time 00:44:05 The Importance of Intimacy 00:46:49 Getting Trust Back in a Relationship 00:50:45 The Psychology of Caution and Paranoia 00:53:19 Letting Go of the Past 00:55:39 The Opposite of Love 00:58:03 Schools Should Teach Love and Grief Connect with Guest (Relevant Links to be provided) ❤️ Website:https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/

Episode 293 is about the diamond in the rough. When we work, we don't just make more. We become more. That's advice from the Pope himself. I got to hang out with Andreas Widmer, who used to work for the Pope and now works for you. For years and years, through his stories and experience, Andrew has helped men declare value for themselves. He's shared how the answers are within you and that change is never done. He offers a ton of wisdom for entrepreneurs and is interested in getting the word out of self-love especially for men. We cover a lot of ground including: choosing yourself, what it's like to work directly with the Pope, dealing with your inner conflict, how to deal with feeling used, the need for validation and overcoming it. Today we'll dig into Andreas's insights of authenticity, facing conflict, and doing conscious work towards finding your purpose. To help you break through and see the diamond inside, we provide support for men in all walks of life, follow us at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ TIMESTAMPS: 00:07:26 Andrea's story 00:12:01 Working for the Pope 00:14:20 When we work we just don't make more, we become more 00:16:55 Feeling used 00:21:15 Feeling validated 00:24:35 Becoming the best version of yourself 00:26:00 Ian Gold 00:28:06 The miserable state 00:29:00 The birthing process 00:30:03 Making a career change 00:31:10 The answers are with you 00:32:45 No one else can want for you what you must want for you 00:34:40 The change is never done 00:35:30 Francis Michelin Story 00:35:45 You must break the stone to reveal the diamond 00:40:15 Story of the inventor of box wine 00:40:39 2 kinds of people; creators and harvesters 00:49:00 Setting goals and managing yourself 00:49:38 Making decisions now 00:49:45 Declaring value to yourself 00:54:00 Recalibrating schooling 00:59:45 Self-love & self-advocation Connect with Guest ❤️ Website:https://andreas-widmer.com/

Episode 292 is about relationships and leadership: Ever notice that a lot of successful individuals can easily figure out how to win in business - how to be successful in business. But most of 'em down at home are a complete and utter trainwreck. And you may be one of 'em and not even be aware of it---because you're actually a pretty good husband and a pretty good dad, but your finances suck. Or, you're actually a great dad or husband---but your business sucks! Why is that so? And why is it so common? The solution seems simple enough, why can't we do it just like that. Gary answers this and more. Turns out that it is simple, but it's all a matter of going deep enough. And it all starts with the quality of your relationships. Gary's seen it all, he's trained the highest level executive in developing relationships and taught teenagers and parents to overcome trauma. This is a gold spill of wisdom you won't want to miss. Join us and find support at the Men on Purpose community, where we can help you manifest the life you really want, today! Follow us at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ QUICK TIMESTAMPS: 00:04:58 Gary's bio 00:08:07 Power of adaptability and flexibility 00:12:12 IAN GOLD 00:16:06 The secret skill; a capitalistic edge 00:18:26 A blend of feminine and masculine 00:21:39 Accountability is key 00:24:26 Keeping people inspired 00:26:36 Quadrants of success 00:28:54 Controlling your reaction 00:29:47 Misaligned core values 00:32:03 Striving to feel good enough 00:34:39 Blueprint of relationships 00:40:10 When I look back on my life 00:42:12 Two things that motivate human behavior 00:45:49 Self-leadership 00:48:13 Parents resolving trauma in children 00:51:41 As a leader, what do you stand for 00:55:07 The war within 00:58:29 The thought manifests the word 01:04:18 How do we develop our world view Connect with Guest (Relevant Links to be provided) ❤️ Website:http://garyderodriguez.net/

Episode 291 is about manifesting your future. You can manifest your future today. Nick Devlin was an Army Ranger veteran and has been through the toughest situations for a man to ever be in, literally things he cannot speak about to anybody. He took the life lessons that came with this experience and has used that to help men today become a better version of themselves. There are no pseudo-spiritual manifestations required, just pure and genuine commitment to change. And it's not easy, no. Today, we talk about soldiers as adventure, and how we can transfer skills into our personal lives, and how to overcome discomfort when it matters most. Nick shares his most authentic self and dives into what men struggle with the most today. It's a very enlightening episode and Nick is as genuine as he is easy to listen to. You are an adventurer in this life too, but you don't have to do it alone. There may be uncertainty, and it will never be easy, but commitment helps you triumph all. Join us and find support at the Men on Purpose community, where we can help you manifest the life you really want, today! Follow us at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:01:35 What you will learn 00:06:43 Men being replaced in their families 00:09:32 Getting stuck in financial success 00:17:06 Nick's past and service 00:24:40 You create your own freedom 00:29:04 Discipline and passion 00:32:28 Transferring skills to your personal life 00:34:47 True satisfaction and aligned values 00:37:58 Committing to take that next level 00:41:48 Going on an adventure 00:44:46 A lot of men feel their window is closing 00:47:30 Avoiding uncomfortable conversations 00:49:12 Trust and believing 00:50:48 Running formulas in life 00:53:10 Training, growth and learning 00:54:25 Living the life your past created 00:57:59 Putting yourself first 01:01:24 Pain and inevitability 01:05:35 Choosing your life 01:09:57 You've already taken the step 01:12:32 Invest in yourself 01:15:22 One conversation can change your life Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://www.nickdevlincoaching.com/

Episode 290 is about transforming your pain. Turn your pain into something powerful. Gabriel Keczan is a visionary writer, speaker, mythologist entrepreneur, and executive men's coach. He's the author of a bestselling international book Alive on Purpose, UNC Clenched From Fear and Step Into Your Power with Backbone Heart and Balls. When he was 18 he had a dark night of the soul. He spent 30 days in a psych ward battling his inner demons. Now he is a brand new man helping others get out of their dark place and see the light at the end of the tunnel. Join us now to learn more about becoming a better you! Do you want to know your mission? Our Men on Purpose community provides support and invites inspiring guests, so we all learn together in this path. Follow us on https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:31 Alive on purpose 00:08:28 You are your purpose 00:10:49 Dark night of the soul & 30 days in a psych ward 00:11:42 IAN GOLD 00:16:19 Turning toward our pain and face it 00:17:43 Rejection and abandonment 00:20:56 Going numb and forgetting 00:21:34 Difference between success and fulfillment 00:22:38 Networth isnt your self worth 00:23:42 Danger vs dangerous 00:24:42 IAN GOLD 00:26:42 What is a nice guy 00:27:38 Being a player coach 00:29:13 Covert contracts and shadow contracts 00:31:15 IAN GOLD - Convert Contracts 00:33:43 Present, Claim, Penetration 00:35:27 What women want 00:36:23 Surrender and letting go 00:37:16 Trusting the process of the journey 00:38:31 IAN GOLD 00:44:05 Time scarcity 00:44:29 Why therapy doesnt work for many guys 00:44:52 Guys need to be confronted by the truth mirror 00:48:02 Guys dying again and again 00:51:42 IAN GOLD Connect with Guest ❤️ Twitter: https://twitter.com/GabrielKeczan

Episode 289 is about finding your life mission. What's your mission in life? Lane Belone, former Special Forces Green Beret and now an elite entrepreneur coach, co-author of Unleash Your Humble Alpha, host of Exactly What The Moment Called For and creator of the Joyful Sovereignty Experience. As a special forces soldier he built strength, discipline and healthy habits - but when his service was over he felt like there were parts missing from him; something to live for once out of the military. Lo and behold, he found his next mission. It was to make the world a better place by helping humans unlock their potential and find their mission in life. Join us now to learn more about yourself! Do you want to know your mission? Our Men on Purpose community provides support and invites inspiring guests, so we all learn together in this path. Follow us on https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ QUICK TIMESTAMPS 00:11:32 Applying the high performance professional formula to your personal world 00:12:24 Disbursement of energy 00:15:12 Ian Gold 00:17:27 Well off vs broke 00:22:27 Not taking ownership to our journey 00:22:45 Co Creating an integrated life 00:22:39 Integration over balance 00:25:33 Special forces balance analogy 00:27:58 Finding your purpose and mission 00:30:17 Focus attention and energy on you first 00:31:28 Dialing in and getting yourself aligned 00:31:53 Asking yourself who you are 00:33:40 Ian Gold - trust 00:41:39 Lanes life story - a rock paper scissors bet 00:44:57 Belief: If someone else can do it, so can I 00:49:04 Facing your fears in the moment 00:51:30 Gamifying your search for purpose 00:53:40 Ian Gold: Will they give you a statue or a sentence 00:56:51 Small micro steps that helped build a solid foundation 00:58:02 Finding purpose after military 00:59:22 Aligning with my spiritual path 01:00:55 Power of plant medicine 01:02:33 Ian Gold 01:06:51 Different mission sets Connect with Guest ❤️ Twitter: https://twitter.com/increasefreedom

Episode 288 is about changing your life. Find the needle that truly moves you in your life. Brian Pannuzzo is a men's health and corporate wellness coach, founder of the Success Lift and host of the Success LIft podcast. He started as a Wall Street trader for 20 years before becoming frustrated with his lack of success outside his job (despite being successful at it). It was then that he discovered something about himself through an epiphany – and found his way back to pursuing what made him happy: A fulfilling personal life - taking care of oneself so they could spend more time with family or friends - everything else fell into place when one knows exactly what they want to do in order to achieve their desired results. Join us and know more about topics of changing your life. Do you want to change your life? Our Men on Purpose community provides support and invites inspiring guests, so we all learn together in this path. Follow us on https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ QUICK TIMESTAMPS: 00:08:09 Brian's Story 00:11:00 I made a decision at 17 that shaped my life 00:12:35 The hamster wheel 00:13:48 I was broken down 00:19:20 My role models were failing me 00:24:23 Ian Gold - SNIOP 00:27:00 Benefit of hindsight 00:27:38 Sometimes the affect show up ten years later 00:29:04 People dont change because of discomfort 00:32:05 How the hell do I get out of this 00:32:44 Ian Gold 00:36:07 Root causes and starting there 00:38:39 Disconnecting from pain 00:40:55 Your wife is not your therapist 00:42:09 Ian Gold 00:46:43 4 stages of learning 00:50:48 Time as context 00:51:30 Focusing on your children 00:52:23 Your mess becomes your message 00:54:49 Getting out of the rut 00:56:24 What was the moment you realize your true mission and purpose 01:00:28 The moment you knew your life needed to change 01:02:01 When I realized I was worth it, I started working on me 01:02:22 Focus on what you value 01:02:57 5 second rule 01:03:50 How to increase confidence Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://www.thesuccesslift.com/

Episode 287 is about learning to assess yourself. You are your own number-one cheerleader. Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is a naturopathic doctor, national champion bodybuilder, and founder of the Fit Father Project and Fit Mother Project- online communities for empowering busy parents to get healthy, lose weight, and build muscle through practical nutrition and exercise plans. He advocates for having a healthy well-being; he believes in mental, physical, and spiritual health. We all make mistakes but correcting those mistakes--aligning ourselves on the right path--is what really matters here. A track of our progress or errors can keep us motivated in the long run: while building up foundations for our habits or goals. Let's come together now to learn more about how we can take care of ourselves. Do you want to build a healthy life? Our Men on Purpose community supports and invites inspiring guests, so we all learn together on this path. Follow us at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ QUICK TIMESTAMPS: 00:06:06 Ian challenges 00:07:55 Solving challenges in your personal and business life 00:12:09 Being in a lower place in your life 00:12:24 Quarterly check in's 00:12:57 Seeing through pain 00:15:05 Gut health 00:26:32 Becoming your own #1 advocate 00:28:18 Every challenge is unfolding for you and your journey 00:29:23 Alan Watts - waves have a peak and trough inside and outside 00:31:10 Our journey is our journey 00:33:24 Energy and vibration 00:38:23 Ian Gold 00:42:04 Got to have an arrow and target - discipline and determination 00:44:01 Faith and Patience 00:56:10 Hold your desires and faith 00:57:30 Goal is not to be where you once were, its about where you are now and going 00:58:07 Setting landmarks and milestones Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://www.fitfatherproject.com/

Episode 286 is about making innovations. Innovation is the key to evolution. Costa Michailidis, an athlete and coach, created Innovation Bound- a full service innovation consultancy focused on teaching individuals how they can solve their own problems. And while as an athlete he learned early on what it meant to have discipline and built habits that would transition across parts of his life, his focus has been to teach others how they can use those lessons in order to create something great for themselves too. Join us this time around for another exciting look at developing one's own ideas with all the tricks of the trade! Do you want to generate ideas? Our Men on Purpose community provides support and invite inspiring guests, so we all learn together in this path. Follow us on https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:06 Making your mission measurable 00:11:37 A million is enough to make impact 00:18:01 Leading with humor 00:19:08 The study of creativity 00:21:03 Anything is possible 00:26:01 Reclaiming creativity in education 00:27:25 Habit - creating new ones 00:30:26 Coming up with ideas 00:32:36 Co develop ideas with audience 00:37:58 Evolving ideas 00:41:24 Comedians Innovating 00:44:21 The more ideas the better 00:54:02 How do you sit in it and stay with it 01:03:06 Difference between stubborn and persistent Connect with Guest: ❤️ Website: https://www.innovationbound.com/costa

Episode 285 is about making your dream come true. Set your goals up high and dare to dream bigger than ever before. Dane Esparza is an entrepreneur and coach; he grew up in a loving home with parents and siblings. One day he noticed himself wondering what kind of business culture would set the tone for his company—something centered around people pursuing their dreams? Then, before long, it had morphed from just being about him to also including his own family - as they created lists together that ranged from big dreams to small ones (and everything in between). Eventually, after perfecting this process thanks to the support from those closest to him—he felt ready (and excited!) to share these ideas with others. So he wrote The Dream Machine, which is freely available online for anyone who wants guidance on how to live out their wildest fantasies or pursue even smaller ambitions! Join us now for today's episode. Do you want to know how to achieve your dreams and goals? Our Men on Purpose community provides support and invite inspiring guests, so we all learn together on this path. Follow us on https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:36 Dane's Story 00:10:12 Parents Divorce 00:11:53 Cohabitating parents 00:16:02 Marriage vs partnership 00:16:51 Wanting kids to see us have conflict 00:20:09 Working with different kinds of people 00:24:04 Finding your tribe 00:25:03 Thats just the way I am 00:31:33 Bridge analogy 00:34:08 Divorce is off the table 00:37:05 The Dream Machine 00:37:52 Creating a dreams list 00:39:08 Year end review 00:41:04 I love sports 00:52:07 Spouse trust is a must 00:53:44 Dreaming with your kids 00:57:08 Dreams vs goals Connect with Guest Website: https://daneespegard.com/

Episode 284 is about finding your way. Being comfortable with the uncomfortable. Dr. Calvin Sun has been working as an Emergency Physician and Clinical Assistant Professor in Emergency Medicine for most of his career, but he always knew that there was something else for him out there; one day he got it! His love for travel came after losing a bet to explore Egypt, where his curiosity took hold and never let go since then. Fast forward now, Monsoon Diaries was born – it is an organization founded by people who are dedicated to exploring life in its fullest form while discovering the globe's unexplored corners. Do you want to know how to be resilient? Our Men on Purpose community provides support and invite inspiring guests, so we all learn together in this path. Follow us on https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:07:42 Living a double life 00:09:05 Parents loved me the way they did 00:12:49 Speaking with your kids about emotions 00:18:04 The loss was so sudden 00:20:13 Pushing against a boulder 00:22:09 Regret comes from not communication sooner 00:26:35 Ian - Story about Dad 00:35:43 Becoming a doctor - Its fascinating 00:38:39 I was alone 00:42:38 Total Freedom 00:47:21 Being comfortable with the uncomfortable 00:51:51 What kept your integrity intact 00:56:55 Trust the process Connect with Guest: ❤️ Website: https://monsoondiaries.com/

Episode 283 is about being irreplaceable. How do you find your purpose and become irreplaceable? Branch Isole is an author, poet, and story-teller. After spending 15 years in the corporate world, he became disillusioned with who he had grown into - so he quit his job to pursue a new venture. In doing so, he discovered himself again by studying different spiritual belief systems. One fateful day at the age of 45 when he decided to go back to school for his Masters degree in Theology, he wrote a book about finding one's spiritual path. From then on out, he kept writing; 25 years later producing 22 books containing various topics and messages on how to find one's true purpose in this world. Do you want to know how to find your spiritual path? Our Men on Purpose community provides support and invite inspiring guests, so we all learn together in this path. Follow us on https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:05:11 Branch's experiences 00:05:46 Theres are only so many hours in a day 00:08:05 Who am i in the world 00:09:48 Tapping into fears 00:11:36 Being lost at sea, what does this bring up 00:16:09 Need, want, status, love, fear - 5 motivation 00:18:26 Exercises of choice 00:20:25 Controlling our destiny 00:21:18 Money over purpose 00:22:38 Love, approval, agenda and spiritual grounding 00:24:23 Achieving balance 00:26:10 Fulfilling a need the world can't fulfill 00:26:43 When it's all about me 00:27:29 Processing through external needs 00:28:53 Our choices are filled with consequences 00:34:00 Replaceable vs Irreplaceable 00:36:16 Something is missing 00:37:46 My purpose as a man 00:38:37 Getting spiritually grounded 00:41:33 Is this all there is to life 00:43:18 Connecting with source through the master 00:46:11 An esoteric connection to the source 00:47:13 Right and wrong and reward and punishment 00:47:40 Spiritual grounding reveals the truth of the world 00:54:26 12 Lessons of life 00:58:32 This is how you free yourself Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://www.manaopublishing.com/

Episode 282 is about innovation. Don't judge a book by its cover. When Dave Selinger was an early employee of Amazon, he led the research and development arm of Amazon's data-mining and personalization team. He co-founded Redfin, which helped change the status quo in real estate. Now he has his own company called Deep Sentinel. David is on the autism spectrum but he never let that stop him from living life to its fullest potential - instead, he harnessed what talents and skills came naturally to him. In order to devote time to both work and home life, David makes sure his family gets all of the love they deserve. Do you want to know how to innovate yourself? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:35 Dave's first computer 00:07:29 Trouble connecting with others 00:11:18 Noticing patterns in my life 00:14:19 Fitting In 00:15:43 Epiphany at 9 years old 00:16:36 High Functioning autism 00:20:44 Social norms and adverse effects 00:23:49 Parental support and issues 00:28:15 Meeting your kids where they are 00:30:34 Dialing in your response rates to people 00:37:46 Leaving college to work for a startup 00:39:51 Definition of loss and failure 00:44:29 Work is important, it's just not everything 00:48:15 I'm going to work my ass off, just won't let it poison my family 00:52:43 Amazing years - working with Jeff Bezos 00:54:13 Joining amazon 00:59:45 Starting Redfin and disrupting the RE market 01:02:47 Encouraging my kids to be engaged with the world 01:05:37 Morning exercise is a budgeting exercise Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: www.deepsentinel.com

Episode 281 is about moving forward. You're not defined by your mistakes. Dr. Fred Moss - a physician, coach, and psychiatric expert. - found his calling. He wanted to make an impact on the world by helping people. Thus Welcome to Humanity was born; it's a movement about empowering others for change through healing themselves. Communication, connection, creativity, and conversation seem to be at the heart of all healing for Dr. Fred; without these aspects people just don't heal. And with them? Miracles happen on a daily basis. Voices can heal - listening can too. It seems like whenever we're connected to one another in some way things are better because we're finally accepting our true selves for what they really are - something worth listening to! Do you want to know your inner self? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:02:09 Fred's story 00:04:04 Words and communication center of human connection 00:07:44 Quitting college because of lack of communication 00:12:17 Bringing communication into psychiatry 00:15:07 The introduction of prozac 00:16:58 Hard to go against the status quo 00:19:07 Not all doctors have earned the respect that the MD brings 00:19:59 So many people doing things out of integrity 00:21:08 Out of alignment is a state of mind 00:22:27 Taking people off medication 00:26:11 The medicines perpetuate the conditions they are supposed to treat 00:33:22 My heart was more important than my job 00:34:35 Relinquishing the responsibility for our lives 00:35:42 Being accountable for your self sabotaging behavior 00:38:22 Speaking our true voices 00:39:49 Being inauthentic provides protection 00:41:36 The power of environment 00:44:51 Don't be a prisoner of your past habits 00:46:19 Knowing where you are misaligned and when 00:47:48 Authenticity vs genuineness 00:49:11 The creative 8 00:51:58 Easing someone's burden, pain and restrictions 00:53:16 Help someone do anything to ease their pain 00:54:59 The power of podcasting 00:55:44 Authenticity overtakes agreement Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://welcometohumanity.net/about-dr-fred

Episode 280 is about knowing your why. Knowing your ‘why' is knowing your purpose. Cole Rodgers, after being addicted to substances turned his life around when he found out his why. He met the right people, read the right books, did the right habits and listened to the right podcast. His ‘why' was to be a better person for his wife, children and brothers. Cole followed The Man's Ethos and applied it in his life. And a man he truly became. Join us in this episode where we will explore how you can find yours too! Do you want to know your why? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:04:17 Deep level convo 00:06:34 Men aimlessly walking through life 00:09:56 Men's Ethos 00:12:16 Intentionality is a rear trait 00:13:58 Dont mistake movement for progress 00:16:09 Unhealthy addiction to validation 00:16:57 The self sabotage ride 00:21:12 Chronic masterbation and sexless marriage 00:23:59 Being addicted to the achievement ride 00:28:21 Breaking through the programming of the past 00:32:00 Cognitive Dissonance 00:35:24 How does your partner let go of past resentment 00:37:48 Dealing with being unconditional output 00:38:47 Atlas shrugged passage 00:42:39 Getting out of the attachment of business making you significant 00:43:59 Stop giving yourself unearned rewards 00:45:30 If you dont stand for anything you will fall for it 00:45:52 Reprogramming self talk 00:48:24 The addiction spectrum 00:49:13 Get into the right network whose living at a different frequency 00:52:44 Better men are focusing on what matters the most 00:54:08 Ian explanation of getting into action 00:55:20 Going through the fire not just reading the book 00:55:43 Taking action to get traction 00:56:34 Aim small, miss small Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://schoolofman.live/author/crodgers/

Episode 279 is about knowing your why. Commitment is the single most important key to a successful relationship. With a background in business administration and information technology, AJ Grossman now practices law as a result of an internal force - his calling. He knows what he wants from life: to help people turn around their marriage for the better so that kids can grow up with happy parents. In a marriage, there needs to be an equal balance between both partners. Otherwise, the marriage will fail. However, if you know what you want from this relationship from the start—that may help you decide whether or not to stay. It's vital that people can take care of themselves first before they are able to take care of others. Do you want to know your why? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:04:45 AJ's story 00:08:33 I felt like I fit 00:12:28 How are we going to separate ourselves 00:12:51 Going with the flow of things 00:16:50 Idea on marriage 00:17:20 Getting married too young 00:17:49 Core values 00:19:24 Recognizing your own contribution to a failed relationship 00:21:01 Lenses we look at the world through 00:21:50 Every failed relationship is an opportunity 00:26:43 Cheating doesnt have to end in divorce 00:29:26 Seeking opportunities 00:31:00 Adverse childhood experiences 00:34:01 Getting married later in life 00:36:18 Stale marriages 00:40:29 Distractions in marriage 00:43:44 Fear of the unknown 00:44:17 Using marriage as identity 00:46:08 Self worth and esteem in marriage 00:48:39 Doing things to fit in vs align with purpose 00:50:18 Aligning with the true you 00:52:38 Victims picking themselves up after divorce and thriving 00:54:01 Victimhood is self created 00:56:06 How do you know divorce is most serving 01:03:53 Holding your standards too high 01:06:54 Marriage vs partnership Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://www.leapfrogdivorce.com/

Episode 278 is about finding your authentic self. Yin and yang. The light and dark. The balance of life. Bill Huffhine left his corporate job because he finally realized that wasn't what he wanted to do. After years of questioning himself, he found out that there were stages in life and he named these five seasons of life. Out of this revelation came a coaching practice, not from money-seeking but from the genuine desire to help others find who they really are and create successful businesses using their own reclaimed purpose. Come and join us on this enlightening episode! Do you want to find your authentic self? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:08:00 Bill's Background 00:09:12 5 seasons of my life 00:11:10 The Season formation 00:12:45 The person we are becoming 00:13:52 The season of commencement 00:16:57 Cognitive experiential Dissonance 00:19:03 Getting your world view shaken-up 00:20:56 The season of undoing 00:25:48 Not knowing what to believe about my life 00:27:43 Liminality 00:29:55 The circle of light and darkness 00:35:06 4 impulses of circle of darkness 00:37:59 My breaking point 00:39:27 I need to figure out who I really am 00:39:49 The season of revision 00:41:17 Realizing my purpose and who I really am 00:42:41 Battling Imposter syndrome 00:43:29 Arresting the dark, embracing the light 00:45:41 Its not about money its about people 00:48:34 Season of authenticity 00:53:03 Pushing through my limiting beliefs 00:55:54 Our process of our lives and the seasons of our lives are all ours 01:03:20 Its not about finding your purpose, its about becoming the most authentic operator of that mission Connect with Guest ❤️ Website: https://billhuffhine.com/

Episode 277 is about finding your authentic self. Damien Fahey is a writer for the television show Family Guy who grew up as a DJ in his 20s. Having to cope with ADHD and struggling to connect with his father, who came out gay after staying closeted throughout most of Damien's life was not easy for him to get through- even when he has a successful career. It's challenging, but it shouldn't be impossible. This episode won't be filled with jokes and laughter; instead we'll be delving deep into what it takes to find your authentic self and own your feelings. Do you want to find your authentic self? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:05:42 Damien's Story 00:09:57 Diagnosed with ADHD 00:13:23 Special education 00:16:52 Growing up in the 80s 00:20:39 Lonely childhood 00:22:17 My dad came out gay 00:27:57 People pleaser 00:31:23 Feeling of inadequacy 00:34:09 Authentic you 00:38:00 Foundation of freedom in therapy 00:40:27 Learning from being wrong 00:41:41 Programming of a man 00:43:11 Curated version of yourself in social media 00:46:18 Life is temporary 00:51:24 Being gay in the 50s, 60s 00:56:33 Channeling emotions 00:58:50 Getting into MTV 01:08:25 Life After MTV 01:11:05 Being confident Connect with Guest ❤️ Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Damien_Fahey ✉ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damienfahey/?hl=en

Episode 276 is about soul searching. We are not humans experiencing life for ourselves; we are eternal spirits living a human experience. Robert Althuis, author of “Never Enough It's: Getting What Money Can't Buy”, shares his own experience that money is just one part of success. As a child, he had all the trimmings: money, houses and cars too but something felt amiss. There was a deep-rooted emptiness inside him waiting to be filled. He discovered that what matters most is what satisfies our souls—those intangible things that make us feel alive from within. Soul, the core of our existence. If we don't nourish the soul, nothing is gonna happen to us. We don't know our purpose and our calling. Join us in this enlightening episode as Robert expands on this topic. Do you want to find your sole purpose? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:15 Robert's Story 00:10:11 Bankrupted my soul 00:12:56 Dealing with Anger and Resentment 00:14:37 Trying to prove myself to my father 00:16:11 Parents instill beliefs 00:20:34 Dad Work 00:23:08 The color of the fishbowl we are swimming in 00:23:53 When I get to that level, ill be happy 00:24:21 Moving the goal post 00:24:57 The happiness never comes in that mode 00:27:20 Numbing the pain inside 00:33:25 Getting lost in doing 00:33:50 Transmuting the pain 00:41:39 Going through the dark periods 00:44:39 You don't have to carry the guilt and shame from past 00:47:25 Creating change inside of you by separating 00:48:06 We aren't the mind or body, only the soul 00:49:07 Giving away mental real estate 00:53:17 Duality vs Polarity 00:55:41 The same we are playing here 00:58:35 The role of competition 01:01:02 Finding the love for the game 01:03:01 Finding our unique gifts 01:05:07 Believing in yourself and your dreams Connecting with the Guest: ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-althuis-ceo-coach-life-coach-conscious-capitalism/ ✉ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robertalthuis/?hl=en

Society tells us that happiness requires material possessions: a car, house, money. But in reality, you can be happy without those things. It's about the journey rather than the destination. Dr. Eric Holsapple learned this lesson after he chased what he thought would make him fulfilled - only to find himself lost and without purpose. But after some time had passed, he discovered himself. He realized what his purpose was - to serve the people of this world and give back to the communities. His goal is to change the world by helping everyone who needs it. It's almost like a ripple effect; when you help one person, they'll go on and do things for others too, making it a better place for us all. Do you want to find your purpose? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps [[00:06:51]] Eric's Story [[00:11:35]] Money is the result of your purpose being fulfilled [[00:19:21]] Life is like a baseball game [[00:20:51]] Relationships are most important [[00:22:37]] Running from intimacy [[00:25:13]] Yoga woke me up [[00:28:13]] Being rewarded by the system [[00:28:28]] BE DO HAVE [[00:31:52]] The procession effect [[00:34:05]] Community contribution [[00:37:42]] Affluence vs influence [[00:38:18]] Givers vs takers [[00:40:41]] Giving is the basis of influence [[00:42:42]] How do i move the needle in my community [[00:49:13]] Finding your purpose - inner and outer [[00:51:54]] Overcoming self sabotage [[00:53:41]] Habits supporting a commitment [[00:54:24]] Face your fears and own your commitments [[00:57:25]] What is the right amount of money [[01:04:36]] Livinginthegap.org Download our FREE Purpose Driven Formula Mini Course & Ebook: https://grow.menonpurpose.net/pdf/ Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast: EMAIL: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com WEBSITE: https://ianlobas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/ YOUTUBE: Check out our YouTube channel! #purpose #community #commitment

Episode 274 is about getting over your addiction. Some addictive behaviors are harmless, but for the most part they're destructive. How can you break free from these patterns? Rob Lohman, previously an alcoholic and now turned to a great coach on addiction, deals with this topic. He explains this in his upcoming book Addiction Intervention. Did you know that addiction is hereditary? Epigenetics has everything to do with it. Just because you feel there's something wrong with you, doesn't mean there actually is! What really matters most, though, is how we respond to our addictions; how they are transformed within us. Do you want to overcome addiction? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to break these patterns. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:05:12 Rob's Story 00:08:11 Digging Deeper 00:08:54 Epigenetics 00:12:15 Is substance abuse genetic 00:16:01 Other people's agendas 00:18:30 Not about behavior modification its about transformation 00:21:25 How do you let go of something you know you need to 00:22:52 Aren't you tired of playing the game 00:24:10 Identity 00:24:40 Identity trying to please everyone else- people pleaser 00:27:10 Arguments against genetics and substance 00:28:07 Talking to kids about substance 00:29:41 Triggers - pushing the goal post back 00:30:26 Sober sections 00:32:43 High functioning victim 00:33:36 Treatment didn't work for me 00:37:20 Trauma - how to pinpoint what's at stake 00:38:07 Trauma and the stories 00:46:04 Evidence vs emotion 00:50:02 Being on purpose and doing the work 00:53:51 I'm the steward of the movement 00:54:32 Bringing others into your movement 00:57:14 It's not about quitting it's about evolving your behavior 01:00:34 The ever moving goal post 01:01:10 Ghost ending on the trail, setting unrealistic expectations 01:01:49 What's driving the addiction 01:05:59 Sharing authentically the bandaged cut not the open wound Download our FREE Purpose Driven Formula Mini Course & Ebook: https://grow.menonpurpose.net/pdf/ Connect with Guest ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robertlohman/ ✉ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/roblohmanliftedfromtherut/?hl=en

Episode 273 is about trusting your intuition. Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. Eric Bigger—former superstar from the 13th season of The Bachelorette and entrepreneur turned coach—got over his fear to pursue what he wanted. As a child, Eric was observant; he didn't follow in the footsteps of his drug-dealing, absentee father. Instead, Eric listened to his intuition which guided him towards a more successful life. He started reading books, watching podcasts, attending masterminds and buying courses. In this episode, Eric will share how to tap into your intuition for success! Do you want to overcome fear? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to conquer your fears. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:07 Motivation has always been my anchor 00:08:58 How did you escape being a byproduct of a negative environment 00:09:27 The power of a great mentor 00:10:12 I was never a follower 00:11:05 People pleaser mentality 00:14:36 Constant curiosity of what else was possible 00:15:45 Don't get off my alignment and onto someone else assignment 00:17:09 How do you trust your intuition w/o evidence? 00:19:36 The world programs us to gather all the facts 00:20:02 How does someone tap into the intuition 00:23:56 You will never have certainty in uncertainty 00:26:21 Fear of pain in the present not greater than fear of regret in the future 00:29:24 If you don't follow your idea you are failing yourself 00:29:44 Pouring into yourself 00:35:15 How did you calibrate the down cycles 00:37:28 The way I get help is I take action 00:38:30 How to discipline yourself to have fun 00:41:02 Choosing your inner circle 00:44:25 Who are you without your exterior self 00:46:55 When you eliminate the things that are affecting you and why, your ideal life is there 00:50:29 I know who I am 00:52:35 Having integrity when no one is watching 00:53:06 Getting negative people out of the way 00:53:45 Acknowledging when you are wrong 00:54:21 You don't want to die with regrets 00:56:35 Its miracle season Connect with the Guest ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidrichman/ ✉ Website: https://david-richman.com/

Episode 272 is about connecting with yourself. When we look at the mirror, what do we see? David Richman found out who he really was—a man who used to be overweight and chain-smoke until his eventual transformation back into himself. He grew up with a mother hating him, despite everything he did to love her. He used this as a motivation to become a better version of himself. When he looked at his reflection in the mirror, one day and asked Who am I?—his entire life changed. He never trained for an IronMan Triathlon, but instead just went ahead and did it. Same with quitting smoking cold turkey. He rode his bicycle nearly 5 thousand miles across the US - all while telling stories about his journey through this best-selling book called Cycle of Lives, which has given hope to thousands of people who were struggling with mental illness and trauma. This is one ‘pedal to the metal' episode that will inspire you. We all go through cycles in life. Do you feel like you're lost and don't know your whole identity? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:05:07 David's Story 00:07:48 A mom that didnt love me 00:09:47 How to rekindle my relationship with my mom 00:14:20 Writing a letter to someone you want to forgive 00:15:15 I am a 10,000 piece puzzle with a couple of pieces missing 00:23:48 How did you shed the old ways and start becoming who you are today? 00:24:08 Mirror work 00:25:54 1st ironman triathlon - setting my sights high 00:26:20 Starting a journey to actually start living 00:27:50 The guy in the mirror opinion was finally more important than anyone elses 00:29:47 No once cares what you are doing, no one is watching 00:35:12 If you quit, no one cares but you will 00:38:43 True freedom is when you matter to you 00:40:21 My 3 step process - mirror work, forgive myself, what can i learn 00:41:48 Mastermind self talk 00:44:00 Everything is a learning exercise 00:45:12 You have to know when to give up 00:46:59 Set your goals based on what's at stake 00:49:56 I set goal based on I thought about me 00:50:44 Biking 5000 miles across america 00:53:05 How to talk to people about heavy emotional stuff 00:55:02 How the participants were affected by the deep level of emotional conversations 00:56:55 Understanding people traumas from childhood and why its difficult 00:59:44 You never know what someone is dealing with or what they have gone through 01:01:27 Take a minute to understand someone at a deeper level 01:05:53 Have the deep conversations are easier when you are connected with you Connect with Guest ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidrichman/ ✉ Website: https://david-richman.com/

Episode 271 is about finding the blessing. There are moments when we think things will always go our way. But suddenly, BOOM! they're gone. In one instance, Christian Elliott had it all—a successful business and money in the bank too. Problems arose and his company went bankrupt. He didn't let his loss become too much for him. Rather than relying solely on prayer or waiting for miracles to occur— he did something about it. And along the way, he found himself. Starting with a clean slate, everything was perfect. His wife supported him; his children inspired him. He listened to podcasts and read books—anything to improve himself. And then it suddenly clicked: he had figured out what was wrong, but now wasn't the time for celebrating. There were still plenty of hurdles ahead on this lifelong path toward being a better version of himself. This can be your story too. This episode is where we prove that anybody can turn their life around and find a better version. Especially if you feel like you are stuck in a rut. Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to cope in times of trouble. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:29 Christian's story 00:07:47 What is it I am supposed to be learning in this season of my life 00:10:20 Facing bankruptcy and shutting down the business 00:10:44 Clean slate moment 00:13:12 Scaling the business 00:17:26 Slowing down 00:19:52 Learning the skills I didn't know i needed 00:21:28 Facing down the next challenges 00:27:55 Ian description of extreme ownership 00:36:37 The benefits of clean slate 00:37:15 Ian dialogue about regret now vs future 00:39:25 The goal post kept getting moved 00:40:17 Personal development strategy 00:44:44 Removing distraction and being present 00:45:41 The value of mentorship 00:48:44 How can I add value to others from this situation 00:51:28 Being intentional with my learning 00:55:16 My song isn't over 00:55:51 Going through life fascinated vs frustrated 00:56:46 A spouses trust 00:58:38 You reap what you sow Connect with Guest: ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/truechristianelliot/

Episode 270 is about dealing with grief. Sometimes life isn't all about rainbows and butterflies. We are faced with tragedy. Phil Cohen lost his 14-year-old son in an accident. His son went on a ferry trip and a storm came by and they never came back. The coast guards searched for 7 days, still, no bodies were found. Those 7 days were grueling to Phil, he was in the storm with him during those 7 days. Griefing is a difficult process. We don't know how or what to feel. We get lost on what to do. Phil, after a long time healed. He heard his son's voice telling him to let go and live his life and that's what he did. You all know what they say, when you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm's all about. Are you prepared for the storms you are about to encounter? Watch this episode now. Struggling with grief? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to deal with the grief that will transform a better you. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:05:55 Phil's professional identity 00:11:42 Back Story 00:19:14 My life changed in a moment 00:23:18 The process I went through 00:30:07 The 5 stages of grief 00:31:00 The other things i experienced 00:33:09 Why is a reasonable question for a reason 00:37:45 What it changed it all 00:39:08 My son wouldn't want me like this 00:40:52 Where your focus goes your energy flows 00:41:57 How I started to heal 00:43:36 Healing does not mean forgetting 00:43:53 The feelings are mostly selfish 00:48:50 Questioning my future 00:49:41 Every obstacle is an opportunity to practice a virtue 00:51:29 I made a decision to face my point not run from it 00:54:06 Buffalo and cow story 00:56:11 I found myself in tragedy 00:58:16 The pain of therapy 01:03:19 Higher power guided to a higher purpose Connect with Guest ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cohenphil/ ✉ Website: https://www.philcohen.com/ ❤️ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/phil.cohen1 ✉ Coaching: https://www.philcohen.com/coaching Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast: CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com WEBSITE: https://ianlobas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #grief #higherpower #tragedy

Episode 269 is all about not being a victim. Abracadabra. We all know this word as 'magic' but in Aramaic, it means 'with my word I create or with my word I influence'. By Webster's definition of a spell is a word or a combination of words of great influence. Basically, we're talking magic. Mark England, who is a beast of a coach, entrepreneur, TEDx speaker, you name it, the whole 9 yards shares his experiences on how we can tweak our words and stories to change the narrative in our minds thus changing our actions, perspective and self-talk. According to the Bible in the beginning was the word. What we say or speak to others and ourselves affects us mentally and emotionally. The story you tell yourself is how your life goes. The formula is simple, you tweak the words, you tweak your attitude, you tweak your attitude, and your whole life changes. BOOM! So pack your shit up, cause we're going in for a ride. Don't miss this badass episode and learn the importance and power of words. Self Talk = Self Care. Our Men on Purpose community can help you with positive affirmations that will help you with your overall well-being. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:06:33 Mark's Story 00:07:22 Meaning of Abracadabra 00:12:55 Continuing Mark's Story 00:14:37 Falling in love 2x 00:15:25 Victim Mentality 00:17:24 Moved to Thailand 00:19:04 Atellaphobia: The Fear of not being good enough 00:21:28 Its the meaning we give 00:23:56 The victim mentality definition 00:24:25 Shifting self talk 00:24:54 Becoming the loser you were afraid of being 00:25:20 A great poop changed my life 00:31:01 Emotional detox 00:37:59 Power statements we run our life by 00:39:54 Mark's power statement and fear 00:42:25 The importance of words 00:44:04 Your life is the result of the stories you tell yourself 00:45:22 You won't find opinions in science 00:45:48 Definition of a spell 00:47:34 Reticular Activation System 00:51:34 What words to you more and less of 00:56:37 Language games 01:05:57 Your life is a formula 01:12:53 The story you tell is how your life goes Connect with Guest: ❤️Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enliftedcoaches/ ✉ Website: https://enlifted.me/

Episode 268 is about finding our truest selves. War is dangerous. It's chaotic. But do you know what's even worse? A war with yourself. Diego Ugalde is a former navy seal and now an entrepreneur. Becoming a navy seal is not a walk in the park. You have to go through hell in order to pass. He started his training but ended up being a paramedic. Being gripped by his shame, he used it as a motivation to go back and shoot his shot again. BANG! He got in and became a successful navy seal. Life is all good and suddenly we hit a wall. Diego seems to have avoid inside him, he felt something was missing. He was unfulfilled. And luckily, he found the answer through Mother Nature, psychedelics. Psychedelics are not like any other drug, it connects you to the source. Taking it will get you into an ego-death state that will connect you to your highest self. Introspect with us and dig deep into this episode. Much like training like an elite navy seal. Our Men on Purpose community can help you bring your A-game everyday. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps: 00:03:15 Biz grows to the extent that you do 00:04:17 Being unfulfilled 00:06:05 Being hard wired to go - how to slow down 00:08:05 Laden with failure 00:10:13 How not to let the external environment affect your internal self 00:11:24 The power of psychedelics in personal growth 00:14:07 Dealing with identity and finding yourself 00:19:02 Connecting to your deepest self 00:19:51 Level of fear 00:24:06 Power of plant medicine 00:37:59 Epigenetics 00:45:54 What good can you do for the world 00:47:15 Failure as a seal - I became a seal out of shame 00:55:38 Processing shame 00:59:04 Pushing yourself through self imposed limitations in the flow state 01:03:54 Accessing the flow state Connect with Guest ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/diegougalde/ ✉ Website: https://thetridentapproach.com/ Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast: EMAIL: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com WEBSITE: https://ianlobas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #fulfillment #shame #psychedelics

Episode 262 is about learning from our mistakes. Getting a PhD is hard but getting a PhD in life is even harder. Bew White is one of these people who earned their PhD of Life. He quit his family business to start his own, he worked an insane amount of hours when he was just getting started and he even got into a huge problem why all of this was happening. He wrote all his experiences in his book Summer Classic. Learning from our mistakes is what makes us. It's either you get stuck or you move forward. Sometimes we are alone and sometimes there are people who help us but at the end of the day, it is you who will help you get back up and running. Doesn't matter what pace, as long as you're on the go. Having faith and trust in yourself is what Bew talks about in this episode. Want to learn how to fall 7 times and get up 8? Our Men on Purpose community can help you rise from a fall. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:04:57 Leaving the family business 00:08:47 I earned a Phd in mistakes to the tune of 30m 00:11:57 What led up to the decision to leave the family business 00:14:08 Regret 00:16:32 Wifes support/partner or support group 00:17:10 Working through failures 00:24:27 Did it hurt or strengthen your marriage 00:28:39 Family meetings with kids 00:39:42 What does success mean to you 00:40:25 6 traits of an entrepreneur 00:51:51 Thinking i was going to die brought clarity to life 00:54:39 Faith and trust Connect with Guest: ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bew-white-a58a371b/ ✉ Website: https://www.summerclassicshome.com/bew-white

Episode 266 is about becoming an entrepreneur In today's episode our guest Brian Weaver shares lessons about taking chances , betting on yourself, and becoming an entrepreneur. At the age of 14, Brian was angry because he couldn't do anything except mow lawns. When he turned 26, he was fired from his job and decided to start his own company by buying the company from which he got fired from. Fast forward to today, he's the founder and CEO of Torch. AI, a sophisticated and well trusted AI platform. Are you thinking about taking control of your life and becoming an entrepreneur? What challenges do you foresee as you imagine quitting your job and being on your own? Brian shares his journey with us and helps us see a clearer picture of how to get started and what it takes to become an entrepreneur. Quick Timestamps 00:04:51 What's an entrepreneur/founder 00:06:35 How to know if you have what it takes 00:07:00 The sickness of entrepreneurship 00:08:31 Where I started understanding success 00:09:26 Creating space for others is leadership 00:10:02 Building a team 00:13:25 Introvert vs extrovert leader 00:14:15 Failures are the bricks that are building your house 00:14:46 Athletic performance and business optimization 00:17:19 How to get started 00:18:26 Listening vs hearing 00:21:47 Dealing with fomo 00:23:47 Taking chances on ideas 00:25:11 Intrapreneur vs entrepreneur 00:26:15 Understanding the economic model 00:31:33Now vs future planning 00:33:35 Spousal support and its importance 00:36:05 Dealing with distraction 00:36:33 Investing in the relationship/marriage 00:39:16 Focus on the client's experience vs the money. It's all about them, not about you 00:43:41 The importance of coaching, mentorship and advisors 00:45:19 Be curious and of service 00:49:46 Introvert leader 00:52:51 What's the worst that can happen mentality 00:54:20 Trust the universe Connect with Guest ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/briangweaver/ ✉ Website: https://torch.ai/ Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast: CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com WEBSITE: https://ianlobas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #entrepreneurship #leader #notaboutyou

Episode 265 is about leaving the security of a paycheck Since he was a child, Glenn Lobas always had a fascination with trucks and tractor trailers. In the beginning, he wasn't able to get into the shipping business until he met his girlfriend's mother at the time who made him work at a customs house broker. Fast forward to today, Glenn is the founder of Customs and Trade Logistics LLC. He now has over 3 decades of extensive experience in customs clearance procedures & regulations. His association with the industry leader ‘Unshippers' enables him to provide his clients the most competitive LTL rates & insurance. Today he talks about his journey, and how he was able to develop confidence to quit his job and start his own business. Do you one day dream of being able to quit your job and work on your own terms but fear the unknown? What steps can you take to develop courage and finally take the leap from working a nine to five to achieving independence and success? This episode is full of useful information. Check it out to know more at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction 07:32 - Glenn's childhood fascination 09:00 - Building confidence 12:15 - What motivates you to leave the security of a paycheck 15:25 - Odds stacked against you 23:00 - Maintaining Momentum 25:45 - Practicing patience 27:25 - The satisfaction doesn't come from the money 33:30 - It's not failure, it's a journey 35:00 - The power of mentorship and coaching 36:20 - Positive mindset 43:45 - Keeping fear at bay 51:00 - No matter what, you must believe in yourself 53:00 - Find your niche 59:00 - Steps to plan your ideal life 01:00:00 - How to get out of the box 01:03:30 - Avoid social fears 01:06:30 - Set a timeframe to work within 01:11:00 - Having courage and fortitude 01:11:20 - What's really holding you back 01:13:00 - How do you react to things that trigger you Books or Articles mentioned: Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast: CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com WEBSITE: https://ianlobas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #paycheck #security #quitting

Episode 264 is about lessons of death Chris Meyer has a unique life story. He thought he was going to be a lawyer but then he found something that threw him off: an unexpected career path. He quit the law firm to pursue his passion for the funeral business and learned more about life than he could ever have imagined. As a funeral director, the lessons he learned are way beyond compared to what he learned at law school. He shares these experiences in a book he wrote called 'Life In 20 Lessons'. 'Memento Mori', a philosophical saying that translates to 'remember death'. Our time is finite here on earth and it is also the greatest commodity. So what are you doing with your time? Are you learning from your failures, are you spending time with your loved ones? Chris elaborates how we can be brave and face life when the time is ticking. As a famous roman-emperor said "Death smiles at all, all a man can do is smile back." Don't miss this jarring episode and watch now at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:02:15 Chris' Story 00:04:27 Failed the bar, mom encouraged to appeal 00:07:14 Staying focused 00:08:04 Kids are the turning point 00:09:48 Dad as inspiration 00:12:26 Facing your financial fears 00:13:29 You are going to work for your whole life, might as well love it 00:14:36 Failures are the bricks that are building your house 00:16:02 Comparing yourself to others 00:17:43 A valuable piece of paper 00:25:26 Teaching children kindness and empathy 00:27:01 Are you replaceable 00:29:21 Whos will be there at your deathbed 00:31:15 The most valuable thing in life is time 00:33:18 Burial vs cremation 00:36:53 What is legacy 00:40:29 We are all equal in death 00:44:42 Lessons from a funeral home 00:46:55 What happens after failure? 00:54:35 How do you not internalize emotions of exterior situations? 01:05:18 Seasons of life Connect with the Guest: ❤️ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-meyer-6a5545124/ ✉ Website: https://www.facebook.com/ChrisMeyerAuthor

Episode 262 is about the law of attraction. Sergio Altomare is an ambitious entrepreneur who understands that working smart is the key to success. As a kid, Sergio knew what it meant to work hard and be successful. He has used this early knowledge to create his own business to become one of the most prominent entrepreneurs in the country today. How do you become successful? It's all about knowing your vision. We live in a vibrational world, and the law of attraction is at work all around us. He believes in the power of a positive attitude and tuning in to the right frequencies to attract what you want in life. In this episode, Sergio will teach us the power of thought and how to utilize it. Have you ever wondered how to awaken your potential? Do you know how to find the right vibration to attract it? Our Men on Purpose community can help you tune in those frequencies and awaken that deep potential within. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:03:14 Sergio's Story 00:05:15 Where am I living now 00:08:27 Working hard at school 00:10:21 ADD advantage 00:13:14 What do you wish your dad would have asked you 00:16:04 Angry with my father 00:19:31 I wish my parents knew themselves 00:20:44 Living in the past 00:24:47 Being present in personal and professional life 00:30:46 How do I make more impact 00:33:43 Wasting time and how to avoid it 00:34:48 How do you choose what to spend your time on 00:37:09 How do you build habits that are serving of your vision 00:40:46 Understanding the 5 Fs 00:42:07 Bring intentional with your life 00:44:18 Modeling and finding a mentor 00:50:12 Power of belief 00:57:41 Secrets to working with your spouse 01:07:52 Self storage benefits 01:15:04 No such thing as a perfect life Connecting with the Guest: Website: https://hfireholdings.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sergio-altomare-7823294/ Biggerpockets: https://www.biggerpockets.com/blog/contributors/sergioa Connect with Ian Lobas & the Men on Purpose podcast: CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com WEBSITE: https://ianlobas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #frequencies #vibration #self

Episode 262 is about overcoming our emotions. Leonard Pearlmutter is a spiritual mentor and coach. He is the founder and the director of The American Meditation Institute, which offers programs for people who wish to transform their lives with meditation. He is also the author of several self-help spiritual books such as The Heart and Science of Yoga. There is a new frontier between science and the metaphysical, and Leonard is at the forefront of that. Life doesn't come with a blueprint, that's why Leonard is here to teach us how to become the architect of our lives, identify our fears, examine our pain, AND use this pain of life to teach us. We can always learn from our failures by controlling our emotions. In this episode, Leonard will show us how to manifest our purpose by knowing the dynamics of our emotions. Emotions can serve as a blueprint, provided we know what questions to ask. Like do you really know who you are? When you look at yourself in the mirror, who do you see? Our Men on Purpose community can help you find your true self. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ Quick Timestamps 00:01:27 The Law Of Karma 00:02:10 All of Life is relationship 00:03:00 What direction do I want to go in? What consequence do I want? 00:04:00 Definition of consequence 00:05:15 We all pick up these concepts from so many people in our lives 00:06:25 I am the architect of my own life 00:06:55 The mind is addicted to going outside of us 00:10:10 Who I am, Why am i here 00:11:30 Business plan for life 00:12:10 Pain is a wonderful teacher 00:13:00 That which we seek is within 00:14:20 How to bring yesterday & tomorrow into today and today into this moment 00:16:20 Perceptions are backed by our conceptions 00:17:30 Clearing back pain - triggered by the ego 00:19:00 The sun doesn't rise in the east and set in the west its an optical illusion 00:21:20 Identifying with your pain and creating 00:23:00 Every fear must be examined 00:23:15 Fear: might not get what I want or might lose what I have 00:26:00 Herd Instinct: Don't be on the edge 00:27:00 Adopting a philosophy of life 00:28:50 The benefit of failure 00:32:00 The philosophy of yoga 00:33:15 Self employed or employed by self 00:34:15 Supreme intelligence needs vehicles to serve the world 00:38:00 No longer see fear as an obstacle, its a stepping stone 00:38:30 What is energy 00:39:50 The season of relationships 00:40:45 How to manifest my purpose 00:42:00 Letting go of the past 00:45:30 No outcome, just be of service 00:46:00 Figuring out who I am 00:48:45 How to incorporate this into your life 00:50:00 Who am I not who I thought 00:52:15 Its impossible to be an emotion, its all about your relationship with it 00:52:40 3 Characteristics of who we are CONNECT WITH US: EMAIL: listeners@menonpurposepodcast.com WEBSITE: https://ianlobas.com/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/groups/themenonpurposecommunity FOLLOW US ON: INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/menonpurposepodcast/ FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/MenOnPurposePodcast/ LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ianrlobas/ YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLRr94kEsddMBWz9fArFP2w #emotions #self #courage