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Today Claire Pedrick is talking to Koralia Timotheou about her journey from a corporate career to coaching, the importance of storytelling in shaping our lives, and the concepts outlined in her book 'Restore, Restory, Restart'. They discuss the differences between coaching and therapy, the significance of understanding our true selves, and how to approach life changes with simplicity and mindfulness.   Takeaways Koralia's journey began as a midlife awakening, leading her to coaching. The importance of returning to childhood passions for self-discovery. Stories shape our subconscious and influence our beliefs. Re-storying allows individuals to change their narratives and life paths. Understanding the laws of nature can simplify our lives.   Contact Koralia through info@koraliatimotheou.com   Contact Claire by emailing info@3dcoaching.com or checking out her 3D Coaching Supervision Community   If you like this episode, subscribe or follow The Coaching Inn on your podcast platform or our YouTube Channel to hear or see new episodes as they drop.    If you'd like to find out more about 3D Coaching, you can get all our new ideas and offers in our weekly email.    Coming Up:  John Blakey will be talking about his new book: Force for Good Soon - Candida Javaid at the Podcast Corner   Key Words coaching, storytelling, personal development, re-story, therapy, life purpose, self-discovery, midlife awakening, restore restart   We love having a variety of guests join us! Please remember that inviting someone to participate does not mean we necessarily endorse their views or opinions. We believe in open conversation and sharing different perspectives.

Telos recently led a ReStory US trip to the city of Charleston, South Carolina. Through our ReStory program we are working together to repair our home by knowing, owning, and writing a more honest American story. This conversation with Dr. DeSean Dyson and Dr. Otis Pickett unpacks some of the unique history of Charleston, and lessons, insights, and stories that can help our work of ReStorying our own communities, regardless of where we live. Our conversation touches on the history of Christian implication in injustice as well as Christian resistance to it, the importance of seeking out diverse historical narratives, and why history is critical to understanding the context today. With it, we can own our agency to act in imaginative and creative ways in pursuit of true and lasting peace.Read and share the Principles and Practices of PeacemakingJoin the Telos Learning CorpsFrom DeSean and Otis:40 Acres and a LiePurpose That Prevails (Dr. Otis' podcast)Liberia, South CarolinaVoices of Black South CarolinaBlack CharlestoniansIf you're enjoying the podcast, become a monthly donor to Telos!Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

In this replay episode, Ned revisits a powerful conversation with Chris Bruno about the true meaning of marriage vows and the challenges of staying committed through tough times. Chris explains how understanding and embracing both the pain and glory in ourselves and our spouses can transform our relationships. They discuss the idea that love isn't just a feeling but a choice that requires sacrifice and growth. Men are urged to reflect on their role as husbands and fathers and are offered insights on how to better show up for their families.Links and ResourcesChris on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-bruno-3567718/ ReStory: https://www.restory.life/ Restoration Project: https://www.restorationproject.net/ Sage by Chris Bruno: https://tinyurl.com/bdfadajv Brotherhood by Chris Bruno: https://tinyurl.com/yc2r9569 Man Maker Project by Chris Bruno: https://tinyurl.com/yr7s5n5m---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:RUK...

Guest Bios Show Transcript https://youtu.be/g3j3C25thlcMuch research has been done to address individual trauma. But what happens when trauma is collective—when an entire congregation, for example, is betrayed by a pastor they trusted? In this edition of The Roys Report, Kayleigh Clark, a pastor and a pastor's kid, discusses the impact of communal suffering, which church leaders often overlook. Kayleigh, a doctoral student at Kairos University, is completing her dissertation on congregational collective trauma and paths towards healing and restoration. And what she's learned is ground-breaking for churches that have experienced pastoral abandonment or moral failure and are struggling to recover. As was explained in the popular book, The Body Keeps the Score, unhealed trauma—if unaddressed—will manifest itself as physical and psychological ailments in our bodies. Likewise, unaddressed trauma in the Body of Christ will also manifest as corporate dysfunction and pain. But as Kayleigh explains in this eye-opening podcast, this doesn't have to be the case. Healing is available. But it requires congregants and spiritual leaders who understand trauma and don't try to charge forward before the congregation has healed. Given all the unhealed trauma in the church, this is such a relevant and important podcast. It's also one that discusses dynamics Julie knows all too well, as someone who's in a church with others who've experienced deep church hurt. She discusses her own experience in the podcast, which could be a prime case study. Guests Kayleigh Clark Kayleigh Clark is founder and director of Restor(y), which exists to journey with churches on the hope-filled path of healing and restoration. She completed a Master of Divinity at Northeastern Seminary and is currently a Th.D. Candidate at Kairos University with a focus on the interplay between psychology and theology. Kayleigh and her husband, Nate, love exploring the outdoors with their son near their home in Rochester, New York. Learn more about Restor(y) online. Show Transcript [00:00:00] Julie: Much research has been done to address individual trauma, but what happens when trauma is collective? When an entire congregation, for example, is betrayed by a pastor they trusted. According to my guest today, the impact of communal suffering is often overlooked, but the body of Christ keeps score. [00:00:22] Julie: Welcome to The Roys Report, a podcast dedicated to reporting the truth and restoring the church. I’m Julie Roys. And joining me today is Kaylee Clark, a pastor and a pastor’s kid who’s well acquainted with the beauty, joy, pain, and heartache that exists within the church. Kaylee also is a doctoral student at Kairos University, and her dissertation work focuses on congregational collective trauma and paths towards healing and restoration. [00:00:50] Julie: She also is the director of ReStory, a ministry to help churches heal and embody the hope of Jesus, especially after experiencing a devastating loss or betrayal. I had the pleasure of meeting Kaylee about a week ago, and I was so excited by her insights and the work that she’s doing that I was like, you have to come on my podcast. [00:01:10] Julie: So I am thrilled that she can join me today, and I know you’re going to be blessed by this podcast. I’ll get to my interview with Kaylee in just a minute, but first, I’d like to thank the sponsors of this podcast, the Restore Conference and Mark Horta Barrington. If you’re someone who’s experienced church hurt or abuse, there are few places you can go to pursue healing. [00:01:30] Julie: So, Similarly, if you’re an advocate, counselor, or pastor, there are a few conferences designed to equip you to minister to people traumatized in the church. But the Restore Conference, this February 7th and 8th in Phoenix, Arizona, is designed to do just that. Joining us will be leading abuse survivor advocates like Mary DeMuth and Dr. [00:01:50] Julie: David Pooler An expert in adult clergy sexual abuse. Also joining us will be Scott McKnight, author of A Church Called Toe, Diane Langberg, a psychologist and trauma expert, yours truly, and more. For more information, just go to Restore2025. com. That’s Restore2025. com. Also, if you’re looking for a quality new or used car, I highly recommend my friends at Marquardt of Barrington. [00:02:17] Julie: Marquardt is a Buick GMC dealership where you can expect honesty, integrity, and transparency. That’s because the owners there, Dan and Kurt Marquardt are men of integrity. To check them out, just go to buyacar123. com. [00:02:37] Julie: Well, again, joining me today is Kaylee Clark, a pastor and doctoral student who’s studying congregational collective trauma and the paths to healing and restoration. She’s also the founder of Restoree and she’s a wife and mother of a beautiful baby boy. So Kaylee, welcome. It’s just such a pleasure to have you. [00:02:56] Kayleigh: Thank you. Thank you for having me. It’s an honor and a pleasure to be with you today. [00:03:00] Julie: Well, I am just thrilled to have you on our podcast and I mentioned this in the open, but We talked last week and I was just like, Oh my word, everything that you’re doing, your work is so important. And it’s so where I’m living right now. [00:03:15] Julie: And I know a lot of our listeners are living as well. And so I’m thrilled about it. But as you mentioned, your work is, is unique. We’re going to get into that, but I am just curious, this whole idea, collective trauma, you know, ministering. To the church. How did you get interested in this work? [00:03:33] Kayleigh: Sure. Um, so I am fourth generation clergy. [00:03:37] Kayleigh: So great grandpa, grandpa, my dad, and then me. So are all pastors. Uh, and so I’ve just always known the church, uh, pastors have also been kind of my second family. I’ve always felt at home amongst the church and amongst pastors. Um, but when you grow up in the parsonage and other PKs will know this, uh, you are not hidden from. [00:03:58] Kayleigh: The difficult portions of church and the really hard components of church. And so then when you add on to that, becoming a pastor myself, you know, my eyes continued to be open, uh, to some of the ways that church can be a harmful place as much of it as it is a healing place. And I began to kind of ask the question, well, well, why, um, what is going on here? [00:04:21] Kayleigh: Um, particularly because when I served and we’ll get into more of this, I think, but when I was serving in my first lead pastor, it’s. So I’m a really young, I was like 27 when they, or 28 when they entrusted me when I first lead pastorate, which is kind of wild. And so they kind of threw me in and what they do with most young pastors is they kind of throw us into these dying churches. [00:04:44] Kayleigh: And so, right, it’s a small. Church with, you know, it’s dying, it’s dwindled in numbers. And so this is my first kind of lead pastorate. And, you know, I read all the books, I’m a learner, I’m a reader. I, you know, I know how to do all the things. And so I’m reading all of the books on how to revitalize a church and raise a church up from it and all those things and nothing is working. [00:05:06] Kayleigh: Um, and it started to kind of really raise my attention to, well, maybe there’s something else going on here. Um, And, and maybe we’ve been asking the wrong questions when we’ve been approaching the church. Uh, and so, uh, again, I’m a learner, so I was like, well, I’m just going to go back to school. If that was the only way I knew how to figure this out. [00:05:25] Kayleigh: So I landed in a THD program that focused on combining the studies of trauma theory with theology. Um, and my undergraduate degree is in psychology, so it felt kind of like a merging of my two worlds. Um, and it was there that I encountered collective trauma and. Really in an interesting way, studying, um, more like childhood development trauma. [00:05:46] Kayleigh: But anytime I looked at it, all I could see was the church, um, and seeing the ways in which there might be a bigger picture. There might be a bigger story going on here. And maybe there’s some collective congregational trauma underneath the, these dying, uh, declining churches that we just aren’t aware of. [00:06:04] Julie: So, so good. And this is the thing that, that just stuns me. When I, I, I do an investigation and the top pastor gets fired, sometimes all the elders step down, but the church, it’s, it’s unbelievably rare for one of those churches to thrive afterwards. And I, and I think so much of it is they think, Oh, we got rid of the bad apple. [00:06:29] Julie: And they have no concept of how that toxicity, one, you know, the toxic, often bullying way of relating and everything was, was taught and learned and trained throughout. But then there is that trauma and, and I just, I think of Willow Creek Community Church, I went to their, it was like a midweek service where they were going to deal with, Supposedly, the women who had been sexually harassed and abused by Bill Heibel’s, the previous pastor, and they didn’t even name it. [00:07:08] Julie: They didn’t name what had happened. They didn’t go into what had happened. They didn’t apologize to the women. The women became like this amorphous something out there, the women, you know? Um, and, and then they talked about, they had a repentance time, like we’re supposed to repent for his sins. It was the most bizarre, unhealing thing I had ever seen. [00:07:27] Julie: And I couldn’t imagine how after something that dysfunctional, a church could go, okay, we’re back, you know, reach the lost, you know, seeker sensitive church. It was just bizarre. Um, so, so much of your work is, is resonating with me. And again, We’ve seen a lot in and it’s really important is dealing with individual trauma and which is super important work. [00:07:53] Julie: Um, and my last podcast with Chuck DeGroat, we talked a lot about that. We talk a lot about that on a lot of podcasts, but we often don’t address again, what’s this collective trauma that, that, you know, that it actually has a social aspect. So talk about why is it important that we begin addressing collective trauma and not just individual trauma, though, you know, obviously we each need to heal as individuals, but collectively as well. [00:08:24] Kayleigh: Yeah. So collective trauma is a newer field, even in psychological studies. So it’s, Not as old as individual trauma studies, and it actually became more popular through the work of Kai Erikson, who’s a sociologist. He’s not even a psychologist, but he studied collective trauma in kind of what he refers to as unnatural disasters. [00:08:43] Kayleigh: And so these disasters that are experienced by communities that have a human, like, blame component. So it was due to somebody’s negligence due to somebody’s poor leadership due to somebody’s abuse, and it’s on a community. And so Kai Erickson notes the, the social, he calls it the social dimension of trauma or collective trauma. [00:09:03] Kayleigh: And what he, he details there is that collective trauma is anything that disrupts and ruptures the, uh, relationships within a community. Distorting and taking apart their, uh, he calls it communality instead of community, but it’s their sense of, like, neighborliness. It’s their sense of being together. It’s their, Their shared identity and their, their shared memories are all now distorted. [00:09:26] Kayleigh: And so I think when we’re speaking specifically about the church, and when we’re looking at religious trauma and congregational trauma, we need to remember that the church is first and foremost, a community. And so sometimes I think that’s missed in our kind of American individualism. You know, a lot of people kind of view spirituality as this individualistic thing, but the church is a community. [00:09:48] Kayleigh: And so when we come together as the body of Christ, you know, when wounding happens, when trauma comes, it breaks down the relationships within that congregation, which really. is what makes it a church. The relationships are what make that a church. And so when trauma comes in and disrupts those and starts causing the divisions and the distrust and the he said, she said, and the choosing of sides and the church splits and all of these things have these ripple effects on the community. [00:10:19] Kayleigh: Um, and they really are, are traumatizing. And so what happens is that if we don’t deal, if we’re only dealing with the individual trauma, In part, that’s usually dealing with people who have left the church, right? And so usually the people who are seeking individual healing from their religious trauma, who are able to name that, who are able to say, I went through this, have often stepped outside of the church. [00:10:42] Kayleigh: Sometimes just for a season, which is completely understandable. They need that time away. They need time to heal. They’re, they don’t, feel safe. But what we’re missing when we neglect the social dimension of religious trauma are often the people who stay are these congregations who can’t name it yet, who can’t articulate that what they’ve gone through is religious trauma, who who maybe are still trying to figure out what that means. [00:11:07] Kayleigh: Often it means that we’re missing, um, you know, these, these the church that I served in, you know, isn’t one of these big name churches that’s going to get, you know, newscasted about. And they can’t necessarily name what happened to them as religious trauma because nobody’s given them the language for it. [00:11:25] Kayleigh: And so we’ve often missed these, these declining churches. We’ve missed because we haven’t remembered that Trauma is communal that trauma is relational. And so we need to, yes, provide as much care and as much resourcing as we can for the healing of individuals, because you can’t heal the community if the individuals don’t know. [00:11:44] Kayleigh: But we really need to remember that the community as a whole. impacted, and that especially when we’re talking about the church, we want to be able to heal and restore those relationships. And to do that means we have to address the social dimensions of the religious trauma. And so [00:12:01] Julie: often the people that, that stay aren’t aware of what’s happened to them. [00:12:08] Julie: Are they not even aware they’re traumatized? [00:12:11] Kayleigh: Right, right. Yeah. [00:12:13] Julie: Yeah. You introduced this, this concept, which is great. I mean, it’s, it’s a riff off of the book, The Body Keeps the Score, which, you know, um, just an incredible book by, uh, Dr. Vander Kolk. But this idea that the body of Christ keeps the score. [00:12:33] Julie: Describe what you mean by that, that the body of Christ keeps the score when there’s this kind of trauma that it’s experiencing. [00:12:40] Kayleigh: Sure. So you kind of alluded to it earlier when you were giving an example of the removing of a toxic pastor, right? And then just the placement of a new pastor. And so often what happens in these situations where there’s spiritual abuse or, um, clergy misconduct or any of those things that’s causing this religious trauma, the answer seems to be, well, let’s just remove the. [00:13:00] Kayleigh: Problem person. And then that will solve everything. Um, well, what happens is we forget that trauma is embodied, right? And so you can remove the physical threat. Um, but if you remove the physical threat or the problem person, but this congregation still has this embodied sense of trauma in which they perceive threat now. [00:13:23] Kayleigh: So they’re reacting to their surroundings out of that traumatized position, because that’s what the collective body has learned to do. And so you see this, um, It’s a silly example, but I use it because I think people see it a lot. So you have a new pastor come in and the new pastor has a great idea, at least he or she thinks it’s a great idea. [00:13:46] Kayleigh: And it probably has to do with removing pews or changing carpet color. Okay. And so they present this, what they think is just a great harmless idea. And the response of the congregation is almost volatile and the pastor can’t figure out why. And often, unfortunately, what pastors have kind of been taught to identify is that they must just idolatry. [00:14:11] Kayleigh: They just have the past as an idol for them and they need to kill this golden cow. Right. And so it becomes this theological problem. Sure, there might be cases where that is the truth, but often I would say that there’s, um, a wonderful. So another great book on trauma. It’s more on racialized trauma, but it deals a lot with historical trauma is, um, rest my Mac mannequins book, um, my grandmother’s hands and in it, he addresses this historical trauma that is embodied and he quotes Dr. [00:14:42] Kayleigh: Noel Larson, who says, if it’s hysterical, it’s probably historical. In other words, if the reaction to the thing happening doesn’t seem to match, like it seems out of proportion, either too energized or not enough energy around it, it’s probably connected to some kind of historical trauma that hasn’t been processed. [00:15:03] Kayleigh: And so we see this a lot in churches who are having a hard time being healthy and flourishing and engaging with the community around them. And. The reason why is often because they have this unhealed trauma that nobody’s given them language for. Nobody’s pointed out, nobody’s addressed for them. Um, and so it’s just kind of lingering under the surface, unhealed, unnamed, and it’s informing how they believe, how they act. [00:15:33] Kayleigh: Um, and so this is really What I mean when I say the body of Christ keeps the score is that the body of Christ has embodied this trauma and it’s coming out in their behaviors, in their actions, in their values, and our pastors are not equipped to address it from a trauma informed perspective. They’ve only been given tools to address it from maybe a theological position, or this kind of revitalization remissioning perspective. [00:16:02] Kayleigh: That often doesn’t work. [00:16:04] Julie: There’s so many things I’m thinking as as you’re talking. I mean one. to come in and do something. And then because people react to, I mean, basically that’s shaming them. It’s guilting them to say, Oh, you have an idol or what’s wrong with you that you can’t get on board. And the truth is they don’t know what’s wrong with them. [00:16:23] Julie: They, they don’t. And, and they’re hurt. And all they know is you just, they’re hurt and now you’ve hurt them. So now they don’t trust you. So way to go. Um, but I’m thinking maybe because we brought this up and I don’t mean to beat up on, on Willow Creek, but I’m thinking about. When the new pastor came in, and I don’t think he’s a bad guy, um, you know, they, they were bleeding money. [00:16:45] Julie: Obviously they, they did not have the resources they did before. So one of the first things they did was they centralized, which meant the campus pastors weren’t going to be preaching anymore. They were going to be pumping in video sermons. Here’s the pastor that people trusted on these campuses. Now, that person’s not going to be preaching, which then of course, all of them left. [00:17:06] Julie: They ended up leaving and the trauma you’d now it’s trauma upon trauma. And it just seems like, especially in so many of these churches, you bring somebody in and they want to move somewhere like, right. They want a thriving church. What they don’t want to do is be at a church and sit in your pain. And yet. [00:17:27] Julie: Unless that’s done, I mean, can these churches, I mean, can they move forward? I mean, what’s going to happen if you come in and you don’t? slow down and say, these people are hurting and I need to, I need to be a shepherd. Then that’s the other thing. It’s so many of these mega churches, and I know this isn’t unique to mega churches that this happens, but I, it’s the world in which I report so often is that these mega churches are very mission vision, five year plan oriented and what they’re not capable of doing. [00:17:59] Julie: I think so many of these, you know, and they always bring in the, the pastor. That’s a good orator, maybe not a shepherd at all. In fact, some of these guys even say, I’m not a shepherd, which that’s another, yeah, I mean, but, but to actually, they need a shepherd at that point. Right. I mean, these, these people need it. [00:18:20] Julie: So, I mean, again, what, what do they need to do? And what happens if they don’t do some of these things? [00:18:28] Kayleigh: So the thing that I have really been drawn to, especially as I study Jesus, and I look at what it means to be trauma informed in the pastorate. So I, I do believe that God is still working through pastors. [00:18:39] Kayleigh: Um, in fact, there’s a really beautiful section of scripture in Jeremiah 23, where God is addressing abusive shepherds and God’s response is, I will raise up new shepherds. So God still wants to work through shepherds. There is still a place for a pastor. The problem is, is I don’t think we’ve taught pastors how to lead out of a posture of compassionate curiosity. [00:19:03] Kayleigh: And so if you follow Jesus and you look at the way that Jesus interacts with hurting people, it is out of this beautiful, humble posture of compassionate curiosity. And so I was always struck by like, he asks the blind man, what do you want me to do for you? And it always seemed like a. That’s a strange question. [00:19:20] Kayleigh: Like, he’s blind, Jesus. What do you think he and often it’s preached on, like, well, we need to be able to tell God what we want. And that’s maybe some of it. But I think it’s also the truth that God knows that it can be re traumatizing to somebody to tell them what they need and what they want. Right? So what we learned when we studied trauma is that it’s not. [00:19:40] Kayleigh: So especially when we’re talking trauma caused by abuse is that abuse is so connected to control. And so what has often happened to these victims of religious abuse of spiritual abuse is that they have had control taken from them entirely. And so when a new pastor comes in and tells them, this is what you need to get healthy again, and never takes the time to approach them from this. [00:20:02] Kayleigh: posture of compassionate curiosity, they can end up re traumatizing them. Um, but our pastors aren’t trained to ask these questions. And so, so often if you read, you know, and they’re well meaning books, you know, they’re, they’re trying to get to what’s going on in the heart of the church. They’re trying to get back to church health, but so many of the books around that have to deal with. [00:20:23] Kayleigh: Asking the church, what are you doing or what are you not doing? And trauma theory teaches us to ask a different question. And that question is what happened to you? And I think if pastors were trained to go into churches and ask the question, what happened to you and just sit with a church and a hold the church and, and listen to the stories of the church, they, they might discover that these people have never been given space to even think about it that way. [00:20:52] Kayleigh: You know, where they’ve just, they’ve had abusive leaders who have just been removed or they’ve had manipulative leaders who have just been removed and they’ve just been given a new pastor and a new pastor and nobody’s given them the space. To articulate what that’s done to them, um, as individuals and as a congregation. [00:21:09] Kayleigh: And so if we can learn to, to follow Jesus in just his curiosity, and he asks the blind man, what do you want me to do for you? He, he says, who touched me when the woman reaches out and touches him. And that’s not a, it’s not a question of condemnation. That’s a question of permission giving. He knows that this woman needs more than physical healing. [00:21:28] Kayleigh: She needs relational healing. She needs to tell her story. And by pausing and saying, who touched me? He provides a space for her to share her story that she’s never been able to share with anyone before. And I think if we were to follow that Jesus, as pastors and as leaders, we would begin to love the Bride of Christ in such a way that would lead to her healing, instead of feeling the need to just rush her through some five year plan to what we think is healing and wholeness, and what actually may not be what they would say is what they need. [00:22:02] Julie: So many things you’re saying are resonating with me. And part of that’s because, uh, like I said, we’re living this. Um, I, I told you last week when we talked that our, our house church was going on a retreat, first retreat we’ve ever had. We’ve been together a little over, well, for me, I came in about two years ago and I think they had been meeting maybe eight or nine months before then. [00:22:29] Julie: Some of the people in our group, Um, don’t come out of trauma. Um, you know, one of our, one of the couples in our church, uh, they’re like young life leaders, really just delightful, delightful, delightful people, but they haven’t lived the religious trauma. One couple is, they’re from the mission field and they had a great missions experience. [00:22:55] Julie: The only trauma they might be experiencing is coming home to the U. S. The truth is they love the mission field, right? Um, and then. The remainder of us come from two, two churches, um, that, that had some sexual abuse that was really, you know, mishandled and the trust with the leaders was, was broken in really grievous ways. [00:23:19] Julie: Um, and then there’s me on top of having that, um, living in this space where, I mean, I just report on this all the time. And so, but one of the beautiful things that happened in this, in this group is that it did have leaders when we came into it and it triggered us. Like, you know, and for us it was like, oh, here’s the inside group and the outside group. [00:23:47] Julie: Like, we’re used to the ins and the outs, right? And, and we’re used to the inside group having power and control, and the rest of us just kind of go along with it. And, and we’re, we’re a tiny little group. Like we’re 20 some people, right? But, but it’s just, and, and we’re wonderful people. Wonderful people. [00:24:02] Julie: And yet we still like, it was like, mm. And um, and so. The beautiful thing is that those leaders recognize, like they didn’t fully understand it, but they said, you know, I think we need to just step down and just not have leaders. And I didn’t even realize till we went on this retreat what an act of service and of love that was for them to just say, were laying down any, any agendas we might’ve had, any even mission or vision that we might’ve had. [00:24:35] Julie: And for one of, you know, one of the guys, it was really hard for him cause he’s just like, Mr. Mr. Energy and initiative. And, and he was like, I better not take initiative because like, it’s, it’s not going to be good for these folks. Um, and on the retreat. So then, I mean, it was, it was really a Holy Spirit. [00:24:54] Julie: experience, I think for all of us, because there definitely was a camp that was like, okay, we’ve had this kind of healing time, but can, can we move forward a little bit? Like, can we, can we have some intentionality? And then there were part of us that were just like, oh my word, if we, if we, if we have leaders, why do we need leaders? [00:25:12] Julie: We’re 20 something people. Like we can just decide everything ourselves. And, and there really was somewhat of an impasse, but it’s interesting. The things that you said for me, And it was funny at one point. They’re like, can’t you just trust? And, you know, kind of like, what, what are you guys afraid of? You know? [00:25:29] Julie: And the first thing that came out of my mouth was control control. Like we’re afraid of control, um, or I’m afraid of control. Um, but what was so, so. Huge for me and I think was one of those again, Holy Spirit moments was when, you know, I was trying to like make a point about power dynamics, like you don’t realize power and like we have to be aware of how power is stewarded in a group like this because everybody has power. [00:25:59] Julie: If you don’t realize as a communicator the power that you have, like I’m aware now that because I can, I can form thoughts pretty quickly. That I can have a lot of influence in a group. I’m aware of that. And so, you know, there was even like a part where I was leading and then I was like, I can’t lead this next thing. [00:26:17] Julie: I’ve been leading too much, you know, and then we, and then we gave, we, somebody had a marker and we gave the marker to, to, um, one of the guys in our group who’s fantastic guy. And, um, And at one point, so, so anyway, I was talking about power and, and one of the guys was like, well, I don’t, I don’t really see power. [00:26:35] Julie: I don’t need. And I’m like, you have it, whether you realize it and you have it. And what was huge is that one of the other guys that sort of a leader was a leader was able to say what she’s talking about is real. Everybody has power. This is really important. And he was quite frankly, somebody with a lot of power in that group because he has a lot of trust, used to be a pastor. [00:26:57] Julie: Um, and for him to acknowledge that for the rest of us was huge. And then this, this other guy, I mean, he said at one point, Oh, well, you know, so and so’s holding the marker right now and he has power, doesn’t he? And I was like, yes, you’re getting it. That’s it. That’s it. Thank you. Because he’s like, you just reframed what we said and I wouldn’t have reframed it that way. [00:27:22] Julie: Like I wouldn’t. And I’m like, yes, exactly. It’s like, and it was like, it was like the light bulbs were going on and people were starting to get it. Um, and then another key, key moment was when one of the women who, you know, wasn’t, you know, from our church where we experienced stuff, who said, can you, can you tell me how that, how that felt for you when we used to have leaders? [00:27:46] Julie: And then for people to be able to express that. And people listened and it was like, and I was able to hear from this guy who felt like he was, he had a straight jacket, you know, because he, he like wants to use his, his initiative. Like he, he. You know, and God’s given that to him. It’s a good thing, you know. [00:28:07] Julie: And all I can say is it was just an incredible experience, an incredible moment, but it would not have happened if, and now I’m going to get kind of, it wouldn’t have happened if people cared more about the mission than the people. And they didn’t realize the people are the mission. This is Jesus work. He doesn’t care about your five year plan. [00:28:41] Julie: He doesn’t care about your ego and the big, you know, plans that you have and things you can do. What he cares is whether you’ll lay your life down for the sheep. That’s what shepherds do. And what I saw in, in our group was the willingness to, for people that have shepherding gifts to lay down their, you know, not literally their lives, but in a way their lives, their, their dreams, their hopes or visions, everything to love another and how that created so much love and trust, you know, in our group. [00:29:22] Julie: And we’re still like trying to figure this out, but yeah, it was, it was hugely, it just so, so important. But I thought how many churches are willing to do that, are willing to, to sit in the pain, are willing to listen. And I’m, I’m curious as you go in now, there’s so much of your work has become with ReStory is, is education and going into these churches. [00:29:52] Julie: You know, normally when this happens, And you told me there’s a, there’s a name for pastors that come in. It’s the afterpastor. Afterpastor. [00:30:00] Kayleigh: Yes. The afterpastor. [00:30:02] Julie: How many times does the afterpastor get it? And does he do that? [00:30:07] Kayleigh: So the problem is, and I can tell you, cause I have an MDiv. I went, I did all the seminary. [00:30:11] Kayleigh: I’m ordained. We don’t get trained in that. Um, so, and there is, um, like you said, so you use this guy as an example who has the clear. Initiative gifts. So they’re what would be called kind of the Apostle, um, evangelist gifts in like the pastoral gift assessment kind of deal. You’ve got the Apostle, prophet, evangelist, shepherd, and teacher. [00:30:34] Kayleigh: And right now there’s a lot of weight kind of being thrown behind the Apostle evangelist as kind of the charismatic leader who can set the vision. And so most of the books on pastoral You know, church health and church are written kind of geared and directed that way. Um, so we’re really missing the fact that when we’re talking about a traumatized church, what you really need is a prophet shepherd. [00:30:57] Kayleigh: Um, you need somebody who can come in and shepherd the people and care for them well, but also the prophet. The role of the prophet is often to help people make meaning of their suffering. So if you read closely, Jeremiah and Ezekiel, particularly who are two prophets speaking to people in exile, what they’re really doing is helping people make meaning of that suffering. [00:31:17] Kayleigh: They’re helping people tell their story. They’re, they’re lamenting, they’re crying with them. They’re, they’re asking the hard questions. Um, and they’re able to kind of see between the lines. So prophet, Pastors who have kind of that prophetic gifting are able to see below. They’re able to kind of slow down and hear the actual story beyond the behaviors, right? [00:31:35] Kayleigh: So the behaviors aren’t telling the whole story, but we need eyes to see that. And so the problem, I would say, is that a lot of well, meaning pastors simply aren’t taught how to do this. And so they’re not given the resources. They’re not given kind of the, um. this like Christian imagination to be able to look at a church and say, okay, what has happened here and what healings take place here? [00:31:59] Kayleigh: Um, the other problem is, you know, we need to be able to give space. So denominational leaders need to be able to be okay with a church that maybe isn’t going to grow for a few years. And I think that is whether we like it or not. And we can say all day long that we don’t judge a church’s health by its numbers. [00:32:19] Kayleigh: But at the end of the day, pastors feel this pressure to grow the church, right? To have an attendance that’s growing a budget that’s growing and. And so, and part of it is from a good place, right? We want to reach more people from Jesus, but part of it is just this like cultural pressure that defines success by numbers. [00:32:36] Kayleigh: And so can we be okay with a church that’s not going to grow for a little while? You know, can we be okay with a church that’s going to take some like intentional time to just heal? And so when you have an established church, um, which is a little bit different than a house church model, it can be. A really weird sacrifice, even for the people who are there, because often what you have is you have a segment of the church who is very eager to move forward and move on and and to grow and to move into its new future, and they can get frustrated with the rest of the church. [00:33:15] Kayleigh: That kind of seems to need more time. Um, but trauma healing is it’s not linear. And so, you know, you kind of have to constantly Judith Herman identifies like three components of trauma healing. And so it’s safety and naming and remembering and then reconnecting, but they’re not like you finish safety and then you move to this one and then you move to this one. [00:33:36] Kayleigh: Often you’re kind of going, you’re ebbing and flowing between them, right? Because you can achieve safety and then start to feel like, okay, now I can name it. And then something can trigger you and make you feel unsafe again. And so you’re now you’re back here. And so, um, um, Our churches need to realize that this healing process is going to take time, and collective trauma is complicated because you have individuals who are going to move through it. [00:33:57] Kayleigh: So you’re going to have people who are going to feel really safe, and they’re going to feel ready to name, and others who aren’t. And so you have to be able to mitigate that and navigate that. And our pastors just aren’t simply trained in this. And so what I see happening a lot is I’ll do these trainings and I’ll have somebody come up to me afterwards and go, Oh my goodness, I was an after pastor and I had no idea that was a thing. [00:34:18] Kayleigh: And they’re like, you just gave so much language to my experience. And you know, and now I understand why they seem to be attacking me. They weren’t really attacking me. They just don’t trust the office of the pastor. And I represent the office of the pastor. Okay. And so sometimes they take that personally again, it becomes like these theological issues. [00:34:38] Kayleigh: And so helping pastors understand the collective trauma and being able to really just take the time to ask those important questions and to increase not only their own margin for suffering, but to increase a congregations margin for suffering. You know, to go, it’s going to be, we can sit in this pain. [00:34:58] Kayleigh: It’s going to be uncomfortable, but it’s going to be important, you know, learning how to lament, learning how to mourn. All of these things are things that often we’re just not trained well enough in, um, as pastors. And so therefore our congregations aren’t trained in them either. You know, they don’t have margin for suffering either. [00:35:14] Kayleigh: Um, and so we need to be able to equip our pastors to do that. Um, and then equip the congregations to be able to do that as well. [00:35:20] Julie: So good. And I’m so glad you’re doing that. I will say when I first started this work, um, I was not trauma informed. I didn’t know anything about trauma really. And I didn’t even, you know, I was just a reporter reporting on corruption and then it turned into abuse in the church. [00:35:38] Julie: And I started interfacing with a lot of abuse victims. who were traumatized. And I think back, um, and, and really, I’ve said this before, but survivors have been my greatest teachers by far, like just listening to them and learning from them. But really from day one, you know, it’s loving people, right? It really, it like, if you love and if you empathize, which You know, some people think it’s a sin, um, just cannot, um, but if you do that and, and that’s what, you know, even as I’m thinking about, um, within our own, our own house church, there were people who weren’t trained, but they did instinctively the right things because they loved. [00:36:28] Julie: You know, and it just reminds me, I mean, it really does come down to, they will know you are Christians by your love. You know, how do we know love? Like Christ laid down his life for us. He is our model of love and, and somehow, you know, like you said, the, in the church today we’ve, we’ve exalted the, um, what did you say? [00:36:49] Julie: The apostle evangelist? The apostle evangelist. Yeah. Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. Um, we’ve exalted that person, um, you know, And I think we’ve forgotten how to love. And too many of these pastors don’t know how to love. They just don’t know how to love. And it’s, it’s tragic. Because they’re supposed to be I mean, the old school models, they were shepherds, you know, like you said, like we need apostles, we need evangelists. [00:37:16] Julie: But usually the person who was leading the church per se, the apostles and evangelists would often end up in parachurch organizations. I’m not saying that’s right or wrong. I think the church needs all of those things. Um, and, uh, But yeah, we’ve, we’ve, we’ve left that behind, sadly. And there’s nothing sexy about being a shepherd. [00:37:37] Kayleigh: Yeah, no, I, all, all of the Apostle, I mean that, well, the whole thing is needed, um, and it’s most beautiful when we just work together, and, and when they can respond to each other. So, I mean, me and you’re an example in your house, you’re a visiting example of this. You can’t, even if just listening, you have some clear Apostle evangelists in your group, right? [00:37:54] Kayleigh: I mean, Um, right? And so you have these people wired for that, and yet they’re able to, to learn and respond to some of the people in the group who have more of those prophet shepherd tendencies. And so I think that that’s really what, and that’s loving, right? So we should go back. It’s just loving one another and learning from one another. [00:38:17] Kayleigh: And knowing when to lean into certain giftings and to learn from others giftings. This is why it’s the body of Christ. And so when a component of the body of Christ is left out, we can’t be who God’s called us to be. And so when we neglect the role of the shepherd and neglect the role of the prophet or minimize them, or see them as secondary, then we’re not going to do called us to be. [00:38:44] Kayleigh: You know, we may need all of it to come together to do what God has called us to do. God is working in this church. He’s worked all through this church. He has established it and called it, and He’s going to use it. But we need to be learning how He has built it and how He framed it. For me to love one another and not elevate one gifting above another. [00:39:07] Julie: And it’s interesting too, you mentioned the office of the pastor. Um, I know as we were discussing some of this, we have one guy who’s very, I mean, actually our entire group, and I think this is probably why we’ve been able to navigate some of this. It’s it’s a really spiritually mature group. A lot of people. [00:39:26] Julie: who have been in leadership, um, which sometimes you get a lot of leaders together and it can be, you know, but this hasn’t been that way because I think people really do love the Lord. Um, and they love each other. Um, but one of the things that was brought up, um, is Is the pastor an office or is it a role and have we made it into an office and, and what we realized in the midst of that and I, you know, I, I’m like, well, that’s really interesting. [00:39:57] Julie: I would like to study that. And I find there, there’s a curiosity when you talk compassionate curiosity, I think there’s also a curiosity in, in people who have been through this kind of trauma. There’s a curiosity in, okay, what, what did we do? that we did because everybody said that’s how we’re supposed to do it. [00:40:18] Kayleigh: Yeah. [00:40:18] Julie: Yeah. Do I really have that conviction? Could I really argue it from scripture? Is this even right? And so I find even in our group, there is a, there is a, um, there’s a curiosity and maybe this is because we’re coming through and we’re in, you know, I think a later stage of healing is that now we’re like really curious about what should we be? [00:40:44] Julie: Yes. Yes. What should we be, like, we, we want to dig into what, what is a church, what should it really be, and what, why, how could we be different? Of course, always realizing that you can have the perfect structure and still have disaster. Um, it really does come down to the character of the people and, and that, but, but yeah, there’s a real, Curiosity of, of sort of, um, digging, digging into that. [00:41:10] Julie: And, and let me just, I can ask you, and, and maybe this will be a rabbit trail, maybe we’ll edit it out. I don’t know. Um, , but, but I am curious what do, what do you think of that idea that the, the pastorate may be a role that we’ve made into an office and maybe that could be part of the problem? [00:41:27] Kayleigh: I think that’s a lot of it. [00:41:28] Kayleigh: Um, because when we turn the, the pastorate into an office, we can lose the priesthood of all believers. So that I think is often what happens is that, um, you create this pastoral role where now all of the ministry falls on to the pastor. And so instead of the pastor’s role being to equip the saints for the ministry, which is what scripture says, the scripture describes a pastor as equipping the saints for the ministry. [00:41:56] Kayleigh: Now the pastor is doing the ministry, right? There’s, there’s just all of this pressure on the pastor. And that’s, that’s where I think we start to see this. The shift from the pastor being the one who is, you know, encouraging and equipping and edifying and, you know, calling up everybody to live into their role as the body of Christ where we’ve seen. [00:42:19] Kayleigh: You know, I have a soft spot for pastors. Again, I’m like, they’re all my relatives are them. I love pastors and I know some really beautiful ones who get into ministry because that’s exactly what they want to do. And so what has often happened though, is that the, the ways of our culture have begun to inform how the church operates. [00:42:40] Kayleigh: And so we saw this, you know, when, when the church started to employ business In kind of the church growth movement. So it’s like, okay, well, who knows how to grow things? Business people know how to grow things. Okay. Well, what are they doing? Right. And so now that the pastor is like the CEO, people choose their churches based on the pastor’s sermon, right? [00:43:00] Kayleigh: Well, I like how this pastor preaches. So I’m going to go to that church. Um, so some of it is. So I would say that not all of it is pastors who have like that egotistical thing within them at the beginning. Some of it is that we know that those patterns exist. But some of these men and women are genuinely just love the Lord’s people and then get into these roles where they’re all of a sudden like, wait, I, Why, why is it about me and others, this pressure to preach better sermons and the person down the road or, you know, run the programs and do all of these things instead of equipping the people to do the work of God. [00:43:38] Kayleigh: And so I think it’s, it’s about, and right, I think it’s happened internally in our churches, but I also think there’s this outward societal pressure that has shifted the pastor from this shepherding role to the CEO office. Um, And finding the, like, middle ground, right? So again, like, we can swing the pendulum one way and not have pastors. [00:44:05] Kayleigh: Or we can swing the pendulum the other way and have pastors at the center of everything. But is there a way of finding, kind of, this middle ground where people who are fairly calm and gifted and anointed by God to do rich shepherding can do it in a way that is Zen sitting that church that is equal famous saint that is calling the body of Christ to be what it is called be. [00:44:27] Kayleigh: And I guess I’m, I’m constantly over optimistic and so I’m convinced that there’s gotta be a way , that we can get to a place where pastors can live out of their giftings and live by their callings and live out of their long dreams in such a way. That leads to the flourishing health of the church and not to its destruction. [00:44:45] Julie: Yes. And, and I think if it’s working properly, that absolutely should be there. They should be a gift to the church. Um, and, and sadly we just, we haven’t seen enough of that, but that is, that is, I think the model. Um, let’s talk specifically, and we have talked, or we might not have named it, um, but some of the results of this collective trauma. [00:45:08] Julie: in a congregation. Um, let’s, let’s name some of the things. These are ways that this can, that this can play itself out. [00:45:17] Kayleigh: Sure. So when we’re talking about congregational collective trauma, one of the main results that we’ve talked about kind of in a roundabout way is this lack of trust that can happen within the congregation. [00:45:27] Kayleigh: And this can be twofold. We can talk about the lack of trust for the leadership, but it all also can be lack of trust. Just, In the congregation itself, um, this often happens, particularly if we’re looking at clergy misconduct that maybe wasn’t as widespread. So I think this is some of what you’ve kind of talked about with Willow Creek a little bit, and I’m, I wasn’t in that situation, but I’ve seen it other places where, you know, in our system, the denominational leadership removes a pastor. [00:45:56] Kayleigh: And so what can happen in a system like that is that denominational leadership becomes aware of abuse. They act on the abuse by removing the pastor. And what you have happening is kind of this, um, Betrayal trauma or this, you know, bias against believing. And so because the idea that their clergy person who they have loved and trusted, you know, shepherd them could possibly do something that atrocious. [00:46:24] Kayleigh: That idea is too devastating for them to internalize. So it feels safer to their bodies to deny it. And so what can happen is you can have a fraction of the church. that thinks it’s, you know, all made up and that there’s no truth to it. And they began to blame the denominational leadership as the bad guys or that bad reporter that, you know, the [00:46:45] Julie: gossip monger out there. [00:46:47] Julie: It’s so bad. [00:46:48] Kayleigh: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So you have this split. Now, sometimes it literally splits and people will leave. Um, but sometimes they don’t and they all stay. And so you have these fractions of people who believe different things about what happened. And so now there’s, there’s a lack of shared identity. [00:47:08] Kayleigh: So I would say one of the key components of collective trauma in a congregation is this mistrust, which is often connected to a lack of shared identity. And so they can’t really figure out who they are together. What does it mean for us to be a community to get there? Um, and so trauma begins to write their story. [00:47:27] Kayleigh: And so when we talk about the embodiment of trauma, one of the ways that that works in individuals, and this is like a mini neuroscience lesson that many of your listeners are probably aware of, because I think you have a very trauma informed audience. Audience, but, um, you know, that it, it makes us react out of those fight, flight, or freeze responses. [00:47:46] Kayleigh: And so that happens individually, right? So something triggers us and all of a sudden we’re at our cortisol is raised. We’re acting out of the, uh, you know, those flight flight places that happens communally too. So a community gets triggered by, you know, a pastor again, having what they think is just a creative idea, you know, but maybe it triggers that time that that pastor. [00:48:09] Kayleigh: Had a creative idea that was, you know, and ran with it without talking to anybody and just like wield the control and manipulated people. And now, all of a sudden, this pastor who thinks they just have this innocent, creative idea is now seen as manipulative. And what are they going to try to do behind our backs? [00:48:27] Kayleigh: And what are they going to try? And, and. What are they going to take from us? Right? And so trauma, trauma takes from people. And so now they’re living kind of out of this perpetual perceived fear, perceived threat, that something else is going to be lost. And so when you have a congregation that’s constantly operating out of, you know, this fight, flight, or freeze response. [00:48:52] Kayleigh: Collectively, I mean, how can we expect them to live out the mission that God has given them? Um, you know, they’re not, they’re not there. They’re not able to, um, they’re not able to relate to one another in a healthy way. And so we, we see a lack of kind of intimate relationships in these congregations, right? [00:49:09] Kayleigh: Because so the Deb Dana, who has helped people really understand the polyvagal theory, when we’re talking about, um, trauma talks about your, your, um, Nervous system, your autonomic nervous system is kind of being like a three rung ladder. And so in this three rung ladder, you have the top rung being your ventral bagel state, which is where you can engage with people in safe and healthy ways. [00:49:32] Kayleigh: And then you move down into kind of your sympathetic nervous system. And this is where you’re in that fight flight freeze and then dorsal bagels at the bottom. And in those two middle and bottom, you can’t build these deep relationships. And again, deep relationships are what make a church a church. And so if you have a congregation that’s stuck in these middle to bottom rungs of this ladder, they’re, they’re fight, flight, freeze, or they’re withdrawing from one another. [00:49:54] Kayleigh: You’re, you’re losing the intimacy, the vulnerability, the safety of these congregations to build those kinds of relationships. And so I would say that, that distrust, that lack of shared identity and that inability to build deeper kind of relationships are three kind of key components of what we’re seeing in congregations who are carrying this collective trauma. [00:50:16] Julie: And yet, if you work through that together, like I will say right now, I feel a great deal of affection for, for everyone. Uh, in our house tours because we went through that chaos together, but also it was, it was an opportunity to see love and people lay down their lives for each other. So to, to be able to see, I mean, you begin writing a new story instead of that old story that’s been so dominant, you know, that you have to tell, you have to work through. [00:50:50] Julie: Yeah, you do. And, and, and you have, you do. I love where you say, you know, people need to, to hear that from you. Yeah. I think that’s really, really important for people to have a safe place. But then at the same time, you can’t, you don’t want to live the rest of your life there. You don’t want that to define, define you. [00:51:09] Julie: Um, and that’s, that’s what’s beautiful though, is if you work through it together, now you, you’ve got a new story, right? You’ve got, you’ve got Dodd doing something beautiful. Um, among you and, and that’s what he does. [00:51:23] Kayleigh: That’s why we call our organization Restory. Um, it is a word used in trauma theory and in reconciliation studies to talk about what communities who have experienced a lot of violence have to do is they have to get to a place where they’re able to, it’s exactly what you’re talking about with your house churches doing is you guys have kind of come to a place where you’re able to ask the question, who do we want to be now? [00:51:45] Kayleigh: And this is this process of restorying. And so what trauma does is in many ways, for a while, it tries to write our stories. And for a while, it kind of has, because of the way that it’s embodied, we kind of, it has to, right? Like we have to process like, okay, I’m reacting to this. trigger because of this trauma that’s happened. [00:52:05] Kayleigh: So how do I work through that? You know, how do I name that? How do I begin to tell that story? And so we, and we have to tell the story, right? Because I mean, trauma theory has been the dialectic of traumas, but Judith Herman talks about is it’s very unspeakable because it’s horrific, but it has to be spoken to be healed. [00:52:22] Kayleigh: Right. And so with this trauma, it can be hard to speak initially. But it needs to be spoken to be healed. But once we’ve done that, once we begin to loosen the control that trauma has on us. Once we’re able to speak it out loud, and then we can get to a place individually and communally where we can start to ask ourselves, Who do we want to be? [00:52:45] Kayleigh: And who has God called us to be? And no, things are not going to be the way they were before the trauma happened. I think that’s the other thing that happens in churches is there’s a lot of misconception. That healing means restoring everything to the way it was before. And when that doesn’t happen, there’s this question of, well, well, did we, did we heal? [00:53:06] Kayleigh: And we have to remember that we’re never going back to the way it was before the trauma happened. But we can begin to imagine what it can look like now. Once we begin to integrate the suffering into our story, and we begin to ask those helpful questions, and we take away the trauma’s control, now we can ask, who do we want to be? [00:53:24] Kayleigh: And we can begin to write a new beautiful story that can be healing for many others. [00:53:29] Julie: A friend of mine who has been through unspeakable trauma, I love when she talks about her husband, because they went through this together, and she often says, he’s like an aged fine wine. You know, and I love that because to me, no, you’re not going back to who you were, but in many ways who you were was a little naive, little starry eyed, a little, you know, and, and once you’ve been through these sorts of things, it is kind of like an aged fine wine. [00:54:01] Julie: You have, you’re, you’re aged, but hopefully in a beautiful way. And, you know, I, I think you’re way more compassionate. Once you’ve gone through this, you’re way more able to see another person who’s traumatized and And to, you know, reach out to that person, to love that person, to care for that person. And so it’s a beautiful restoring. [00:54:26] Julie: And we could talk about this for a very long time. And we will continue this discussion at Restore, [00:54:33] Kayleigh: um, because [00:54:34] Julie: you’re going to be at the conference and that was part of our original discussions. So folks, if you wanna talk more to Kaleigh , come to Restore. I, I’m, I’m gonna fit you in somehow because , I’m gonna be there. [00:54:46] Julie: you’re gonna be there. But do you just have a wealth of, uh, I think research and insights that I think will really, really be powerful? And I’m waiting for you to write your book because it needs to be written. Um, but I’m working on it. , thank you for, for taking the time and for, um, just loving the body. [00:55:07] Julie: And in the way that you have, I appreciate it. [00:55:09] Kayleigh: Well, thank you. Because, you know, when I heard about your work and your tagline, you know, reporting the truth, but restoring the church, you know, I was just so drawn in because that’s what we need. The church is worth it. The church is beautiful and she is worth taking the time to restore. [00:55:24] Kayleigh: And I’m so thankful for the work that you’re doing to make sure that that that happens. [00:55:28] Julie: Thank you. Well, thanks so much for listening to the Roy’s Report, a podcast dedicated to reporting the truth and restoring the church. I’m Julie Roys. And if you’ve appreciated this podcast and our investigative journalism, would you please consider donating to the Roy’s report to support our ongoing work? [00:55:47] Julie: As I’ve often said, we don’t have advertisers or many large donors. We mainly have you. The people who care about our mission of reporting the truth and restoring the church. So if you’d like to help us out, just go to Julie Roy’s spelled R O Y S dot com slash donate. That’s Julie Roy’s dot com slash donate. [00:56:07] Julie: Also just a quick reminder to subscribe to the Roy’s report on Apple podcasts, Spotify or YouTube. That way you won’t miss any of these episodes. And while you’re at it, I’d really appreciate it if you’d help us spread the word about the podcast by leaving a review. And then please share the podcast on social media so more people can hear about this great content. [00:56:29] Julie: Again, thanks so much for joining me today. Hope you are blessed and encouraged. Read more

As a licensed professional counselor and dad of three, Chris Bruno is acutely aware of how childhood trauma can impact your fatherhood approach. In this conversation, Chris describes the importance of processing your experiences with others, finding healing from the past, and becoming deeply rooted in brotherhood as you raise your kids.    Key Takeaways   You became the man you are today because of the guidance or lack thereof from the men who came before you.  Exploring your own story means confronting the areas you've walled off within yourself and processing your experiences with others.  We are the best fathers when we have brothers alongside us.  Trauma continues to pass through generations until someone has the courage to feel it.   Chris Bruno   Chris Bruno is an author, licensed professional counselor, founder of ReStory, and CEO of Restoration Project. He is passionate about the intersection of transformation and adventure. Chris and his wife, Beth, have three young adult children.    Key Quotes   "We are the best father when we have our best brothers with us. We need those guys. Those are guys in my life and we need our brothers. And also  we need someone else who's on the outside who's got some training, is a professional in some ways to come along side to create a safe space for a child to unfold." "We are heaps of undigested experience. When you have indigestion, there's something unwell about your body. So if there's undigested experience, there's something unwell about your soul and we need someone to come alongside us and to be with us and partner with us and talk through those things with us to digest the experience so that in that moment, we can make meaning in a way that won't be a traumatic meaning. It won't be one of those collapsed vows or walled off moments in life."   Links from Today's Conversation   Man Maker Project: A Father's Guide to Initiating His Son to Manhood by Chris Bruno Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage by Chris Bruno Brotherhood Primer: A Man's Guide To Turning Buddies Into Brothers by Chris Bruno Restoration Project ReStory Counseling Chris Bruno's TEDx Talk: ReStory: How to Live Your Truest Story Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome   Connect with dadAWESOME   Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Receive weekly encouragement by texting "dad" to 651-370-8618

Jon Connors is a quintessential evolution of entrepreneurship. He is the founder of Restore-A-Thon which are community restorations through collective action. Jon has a deep experience with both conservative and liberal thinking, and is determined to build bridges for new ways of thinking, and doing.  ... Thank you to Basil Childers for producing this a with Better Worlds. Stay tuned for Better Worlds productions: https://www.betterworlds.com/ ... https://www.restore-a-thon.com/tulsa ... https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QDiq-kWYjGnsOodjDQe3Wgp9vS36KXWR/view  

Pastor Dave's sermon "RE-STORY" focuses on God as a restorer, emphasizing repentance, discipline, and restoration. Using examples from Judea and Joel, he highlights God's faithfulness in providing abundance and preparing individuals for their purpose. The sermon encourages praise, trust in God's protection, and the transformative power of the Holy Spirit in experiencing a new story of peace, safety, and completeness.Joel 2:25-27 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, And praise the name of the Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; And My people shall never be put to shame. 27 Then you shall know that I am in the midst of Israel: I am the Lord your God And there is no other. My people shall never be put to shame.Joel 2:21 Fear not, O land; Be glad and rejoice, For the Lord has done marvelous things! 22 Do not be afraid, you beasts of the field; For the open pastures are springing up, And the tree bears its fruit; The fig tree and the vine yield their strength. 23 Be glad then, you children of Zion, And rejoice in the Lord your God; For He has given you the former rain faithfully, And He will cause the rain to come down for you— The former rain, And the latter rain in the first month. 24 The threshing floors shall be full of wheat, And the vats shall overflow with new wine and oil. 25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied,Psalms 34:1I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth.Psalms 34:3 Oh, magnify the Lord with me, And let us praise His name together.Joel 2:28-32 “And it shall come to pass afterward That I will pour out My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your old men shall dream dreams, Your young men shall see visions. 29 And also on My menservants and on My maidservants I will pour out My Spirit in those days. 30 “And I will show wonders in the heavens and in the earth: Blood and fire and pillars of smoke. 31 The sun shall be turned into darkness, And the moon into blood, Before the coming of the great and awesome day of the Lord. 32 And it shall come to pass That whoever calls on the name of the Lord Shall be saved.

Pastor Dave's sermon "RE-STORY" focuses on God as a restorer, emphasizing repentance, discipline, and restoration. Using examples from Judea and Joel, he highlights God's faithfulness in providing abundance and preparing individuals for their purpose. The sermon encourages praise, trust in God's protection, and the transformative power of the Holy Spirit in experiencing a new story of peace, safety, and completeness.Joel 2:25-27 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, And praise the name of the Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; And My people shall never be put to shame. 27 Then you shall know that I am in the midst of Israel: I am the Lord your God And there is no other. My people shall never be put to shame.Joel 2:21 Fear not, O land; Be glad and rejoice, For the Lord has done marvelous things! 22 Do not be afraid, you beasts of the field; For the open pastures are springing up, And the tree bears its fruit; The fig tree and the vine yield their strength. 23 Be glad then, you children of Zion, And rejoice in the Lord your God; For He has given you the former rain faithfully, And He will cause the rain to come down for you— The former rain, And the latter rain in the first month. 24 The threshing floors shall be full of wheat, And the vats shall overflow with new wine and oil. 25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied,Psalms 34:1I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth.Psalms 34:3 Oh, magnify the Lord with me, And let us praise His name together.Joel 2:28-32 “And it shall come to pass afterward That I will pour out My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your old men shall dream dreams, Your young men shall see visions. 29 And also on My menservants and on My maidservants I will pour out My Spirit in those days. 30 “And I will show wonders in the heavens and in the earth: Blood and fire and pillars of smoke. 31 The sun shall be turned into darkness, And the moon into blood, Before the coming of the great and awesome day of the Lord. 32 And it shall come to pass That whoever calls on the name of the Lord Shall be saved.

“As ones who have been shown mercy, may we [Christians] demonstrate God's compassion toward those who embrace all things LGBTQ” writes Linda Seiler in Transformation. “At the same time, may we hold fast to God's Word, refusing to compromise on His sacred design for sexuality that images the gospel. Such compassion without compromise reflects God's heart and leads to transformation.” In this episode of the Influence Podcast, I talk to Seiler about her former desire to become a man, and how Jesus Christ transformed her from the inside out. I'm George P. Wood, executive editor of Influence magazine and your host. Linda Seiler, Ph.D., is an ordained Assemblies of God minister, a Chi Alpha missionary, and executive director of ReStory ministries. She is author of Transformation: A Former Transgender Responds to LGBTQ. ————— This episode of the Influence podcast is brought to you by My Healthy Church, distributors of Captivated. There is a difference between knowing the Word of God and knowing the God of the Word. The Captivated Bible study takes women deeper with God so that they may be firmly rooted, unshakable, and flourishing in His Kingdom. For more information about Captivated, visit MyHealthyChurch.com.

How do I sit in the dirt with someone who is experiencing sexual brokenness? What if I don't know what to say? What if I find myself dysregulated or sexually aroused by the other person? Jeremy Williamson offers invaluable wisdom and counterintuitive clarity about how "be with" others in such a way that they experience the presence of God.Jeremy Williamson is a storywork coach and counselor with ReStory. He is also the Director of Restorative Experiences at Restoration Project. As a former pastor and missionary with 20+ years of experience, Jeremy serves as a kind and passionate guide for men and women who long to know God and live in wholeness. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restory.life.If you loved this interview...Take the Sitting In The Dirt Course by Chris Bruno and Jeremy Williamson (highly recommended!)Join Sitting In The Dirt Cohort (for 5 weeks with Jeremy)Use the discount code HUSBANDMATERIAL for $10 off!Come to our free online workshop:HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 13!Sign up now at husbandmaterial.com/workshopTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!

The Guys Like Us Podcast is joined with Peter Greer who is the President and CEO of HOPE International. In this episode we discuss all things prayer! In particular, we look at the prayer lives and habits of leaders across the globe. Peter and the extended team find some interesting trends in their research, ones you may not expect! Tune in to hear more about how prayer is rising and changing lives to become more like Christ. As mentioned in the podcast, if you are interested in a virtual and interactive marriage course, visit Restory.Life/Thrive to learn more and join today! Make sure to use code “GLU” to save $20 each month! For more on Peter visit peterkgreer.com and hopeinternational.org. To sign up for the Guys Like Us newsletter for all the recent updates and content, visit www.theguyslikeus.com!

When life throws you into the depths of despair, where do you find the strength to climb back out? Our latest Foxhole Symphony episode is a beacon for those caught in the tempest of hardship. We share the raw emotions that accompany life's most challenging trials—illness, addiction, loss—and the profound loneliness that can often ensue. But it's within this very vulnerability that we discover the irreplaceable value of brotherhood and authentic community. Through the pain, we emerge not alone but supported, our faith in humanity and the divine restored.Have you ever felt weighed down by the 'layer cake' of life's issues, uncertain of how to face another day? Our heartfelt discussion revolves around the power of community and faith, drawing parallels with the silversmith's artistic process—how through the heat and hammering, a purer, stronger self is revealed. As we examine scriptures like the Ephesians 6 and the Armor of God, we uncover the solace and strength that spiritual armor and community provide, empowering us to confront the darkness around us. This episode is a reminder that, even when the road is rocky and the shadows long, we are not walking it unaided.Concluding our exploration, we delve into the constancy of God's faithfulness and the stability it offers our lives, even when everything else seems to be shifting sands. We celebrate and give thanks for the Bible as a source of comfort and guidance, inspiring us to engage with its words for deeper understanding, connection to our creator and solace in tough times. We close on a note of hope, encouraging listeners to find peace in God's unchanging truths. As we share our collective journey of faith, we extend an invitation to join us in discovering the transformative impact of an authentic, supportive community.THRIVE MARRIAGE LAB BY OUR FRIENDS AT RESTORYThe Thrive Marriage Lab is the solution between books and counseling! Serving up hope, not prescriptions, once a year the doors open to join this unique 12-month journey. Led by experienced marriage counselors, members receive live and recorded monthly engagement through an intentional pathway guaranteed to lead to more curiosity, more intimacy, and more connection.And, as a faithful listener, you get $20 off each month when you use the code: FOXHOLE. Go to Restory.Life/Thrive to learn more and join today!Support the showWe have BIG plans at Foxhole Symphony and sure could use your financial support. Would you prayerfully consider a small monthly contribution to support us in our mission to catalyze transformation in the hearts of men? Support Our MissionFind us at:https://www.foxholesymphony.comhttps://www.facebook.com/foxholesymphonyhttps://www.instagram.com/foxholesymphony/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuvcXdDpE79S_D_hInblcDw

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On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional Tracy Johnson. Tracy's work at Restory Counseling inspired me on my own journey to becoming a marriage therapist. She gives us the scoop on what it means to engage our personal stories in marriage and how that can supercharge healing. Tracy shares a deeply moving personal story about the weight of past experiences and the healing power of having someone witness your pain. We then delve into Restory's Year of Good Dates, an awesome tool Tracy's team developed that's all about sparking connection through shared storytelling. Tracy also drops details about what you can expect from the Thrive Marriage Lab, which is like a gym membership for your marriage! This program brings resources, growth opportunities, and a real community spirit straight into your relationship. If you're all about creating a deeper, richer connection in your marriage, this episode is filled with tons of valuable takeaways. Check it out!   00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 00:24 Exploring Your Marriage Story 01:17 Guest Introduction: Tracy Johnson 03:43 Understanding the Role of Family of Origin in Marriage 06:50 Advice for Reengaging a Disengaged Spouse 09:39 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Marriage 11:03 The Role of Loneliness in Marriage 13:34 The Concept of 'ACK': Awareness, Curiosity, Kindness 16:47 A Year of Good Dates: Engaging Each Other's Story 21:24 A Drive to Dairy Queen: A Personal Story 22:43 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences 23:36 The Power of Witnessing and Understanding 24:29 The Role of Trauma in Relationships 26:58 Choosing to Remember: A Path to Healing 28:26 The Importance of Personal Work in Relationships 30:10 The Power of Story Work and Witnessing 37:22 The Thrive Marriage Lab: A Resource for Couples 40:51 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation   You can find Tracy's info here: ReStory Counseling: Website: https://www.restory.life Facebook: facebook.com/ReStory.Life Instagram:  @storyrestored Thrive Marriage Lab: Website: https://www.restory.life/thrive CODE: GFW for 20% off!   FREE 12 Months of Dates: How date nights can lead to connection Subscribe here: www.restory.life/thrive-dates How healthy is your marriage? Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessment Instagram: @ThriveMarriageLab Youtube: @ThriveMarriageLab Wait!!! Before you go!  Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Schedule a FREE discovery call: https://gracefueledwifecall.gr8.com/ Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news.  Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity

We all know technology forms us -- but how? How does technology intersect with our spiritual lives? It's tempting to just toss tech out the window, but how do we think more Christianly about the tech we use? Whether as parents or leaders, we have to reckon with the affect of technology on our affections. We end the episode with a few small, practical ways to get started thinking about formation, worship, and technology's affect on our affections. Links: Ted Gioia's Substack article, "The State of the Culture" Jon Haidt, The Anxious Generation and The Coddling of the American Mind Social Dilemma Dallas Willard on vision, intention, means. We've got a limited-time, special offer for you!: What if God has more for your marriage? We're so excited to partner with Restoration Project! They're some of our favorites and now they've started a cohort for married folks called THRIVE. With code HALES you'll get $20 off each month. Go to Restory.life/thrive for details. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Marriage is an amazing gift. And yet, it can reveal a lot of our weaknesses, vulnerabilities and our growth edges. Today we talk with Chris Bruno about the most common struggles for marriages today and how we can fulfill our greatest desires for deep connection, to be known, and to truly know one another within our marriages.   Chris Bruno is a licensed professional counselor and the founder and CEO of ReStory Counseling and Restoration Project. He, along with Tracy Johnson, are the marriage experts of Thrive Marriage Lab, ReStory Marriage Intensives, and co-hosts of the Thrive Marriage Podcast. He is a colleague of authors, speakers, and counselors like Dr. Dan Allender of The Allender Center, Dr. Curt Thompson of The Anatomy of the Soul, Sheila Wray Gregoire of The Great Sex Rescue, and Milan and Kay Yerkovitch of How We Love. His goal is to help couples stay married and love being married. His team has helped hundreds of couples explore their story, and come to understand and care for one another more deeply.   To connect with Chris Bruno, go to: Website - https://www.restory.life/ Facebook - www.facebook.com/ReStory.Life Instagram - @storyrestored   To find Thrive Marriage Lab go to: Website - https://www.restory.life/thrive Instagram - @ThriveMarriageLab Youtube - @ThriveMarriageLab   FREE 12 Months of Dates - How date nights can lead to connection.  Subscribe here - www.restory.life/thrive-dates   How healthy is your marriage?  Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessment   =======================   We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community.  Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter.    Don't forget our unique Wholehearted Leadership Cohort opportunities. Applications are open for the next one-year and two-year cohorts. In fact, the Cohort experience might be the very thing that helps you see long-term shifts in your leadership at work and at home. We'd love to come alongside you! Learn more and apply today at www.livingwholehearted.com/cohort.   And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com.     Until next time, be the leader you would follow!   Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra   To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to:   INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls   WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com  MyCourageousGirls.com   RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap        https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course        https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace       https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Dear Mattsons        https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/ Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters        http://cpguides.org   =======================   The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org  

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Embark on a transformative journey with our notable guest, Chris Bruno, a man on a mission to cultivate authentic male relationships. Having spent a decade in the Middle East with CRU and now leading the charge at the Restoration Project and Restory Counseling in Northern Colorado, Chris brings a wealth of life experiences and a unique approach to counseling and leadership.We dive deep into the labyrinth of male relationships, unearthing various stages that range from being strangers to forming profound bonds of brotherhood. Through Chris's insightful guidance, we dissect the risks and rewards associated with deepening relationships and explore the empowering concept of sagehood. By focusing on honesty, courage, tenderness, and trust, Chris helps us understand how these elements can foster deeper connections among men. We also contemplate the distinction between simply growing elderly and becoming an elder, and how relinquishing control and mastering the art of listening can elevate our understanding.This episode encourages us to invite the healing power of Jesus and community into our lives. We delve into the process of identifying and addressing areas of shattering, exile, and shame in our lives, underlining the transformative potential of bringing these issues into the open. With Chris's encouragement, we are urged to prepare to become elders early in life, to be ready for metamorphic steps when we reach midlife. By the end of our journey with Chris, you'll feel inspired to reevaluate your relationships and embark on your own journey towards sagehood.  So, join us in this exploration of the transformative power of authentic male community.ReStory Counseling:Website: https://www.restory.lifeFacebook: facebook.com/ReStory.LifeInstagram:  @storyrestoredRestoration Project:Website: https://www.restorationproject.net Sage trip: https://www.restorationproject.net/mens-experiences/sageFacebook: facebook.com/RestorationProjectInstagram: @restorationprojectco Thrive Marriage Lab:Website: https://www.restory.life/thriveFREE 12 Months of Dates: How date nights can lead to connectionSubscribe here: www.restory.life/thrive-datesHow healthy is your marriage? Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessmentInstagram: @ThriveMarriageLabYoutube: @ThriveMarriageLabBelow are Amazon links for Chris' books:Sage: A Man's Guide Into Second Passage - https://www.amazon.com/Sage-Mans-Guide-Second-PSupport the showWe have BIG plans at Foxhole Symphony and sure could use your financial support. Would you prayerfully consider a small monthly contribution to support us in our mission to catalyze transformation in the hearts of men? Support Our MissionFind us at:https://www.foxholesymphony.comhttps://www.facebook.com/foxholesymphonyhttps://www.instagram.com/foxholesymphony/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuvcXdDpE79S_D_hInblcDw

When it comes to addressing trauma in our stories, it can seem as though cultural expectations and the messages received as young boys can keep men from engaging in their pain and ultimately, experiencing true healing. How can men better address their stories of hurt and heartache in a way that helps them to move forward with both strength and tenderness? Counselor and author Chris Bruno began to see a pattern emerge in his own story and in the countless others of those he counseled. Men who didn't receive a clear path in terms of their journey from boyhood to manhood and who didn't address their wounds, often struggled with maladaptive behavior patterns that hurt themselves and others. When there wasn't intentional attunement to their stories of pain, their lives and the ones around them were deeply impacted. It was through this realization that Chris based the work in his practice and his books in order to help men find a way through the terrain of their own hearts and lives into the healing and redemption that God intended. His latest book, Sage: A Man's Guide into his Second Passage, helps men navigate midlife and beyond. In this deep conversation, Davey sits down with Chris to talk about how there is always a story behind our behaviors, the impact of how boys are raised in their emotional health as men, and the stages of every man's journey. This episode is a reminder that God longs to enter into the painful parts of our story and help us find a way to turn that pain into tender strength for those around us.   Website: https://www.restory.life/ https://www.restorationproject.net/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/storyrestored/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReStory.Life/ Book: Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage https://a.co/d/9ASZBpm Do you need a reminder in your pain that God isn't done with your story? Sign up for our free, 7 day devotional delivered straight to your inbox: www.nothingiswasted.com/7-day-devo Want to be a part of the Nothing is Wasted Prayer team? Sign up today: www.nothingiswasted.com/prayerteam Pastors, looking for a way to establish a path towards healing and redemption within your church? Join Davey Blackburn for a live call on how Nothing is Wasted can help: www.nothingiswasted.com/pastors

We go beyond the usual chit-chat and really dig deep into how our disconnection from nature is contributing to exploitative practices and how crafting can bring us back in sync with our roots. All the while, we analyze the dominant stories we live by and their role in perpetuating these exploitative practices. Crafting for us, isn't just a hobby, but a powerful tool to reconnect with nature and rewrite the world's narrative. Hear us wax lyrical about the unique connection between our hands and brains, the history of makers, and the critical role dexterity and nerve connections play in crafting.Throughout this episode, we touch upon the multifaceted benefits of spoon carving which extends beyond relaxation and community building, to encompass aspects such as humility and mental health. Dave shares an engaging tale of a stolen hawthorn log and the cycle of gifting that it sparked. The real kicker though, is our exploration of crafting as a radical act, with scintillating discussions on how the practice of craft can transform the practitioner, foster mindfulness, and establish a profound connection. So, tune in and get inspired to pick up the carving knife and join the crafting movement!Episode links:Dave's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/davethebodger/Nettlecombe Craft School - https://www.instagram.com/nettlecombe_craft_school/Jeffrey Earth Floors - https://www.instagram.com/jeffreythenaturalbuilder/Building Sustainability Podcast - https://www.instagram.com/buildingsustainabilitypodcast/Leave a review - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/building-sustainability-podcast/id1459369615https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cortical_homunculusDave's links:The RYSE - https://linktr.ee/theryseA school called home - https://aschoolcalledhome.org/Book - At work in the ruins - https://tinyurl.com/yna8cfnxBook - Tyson Yunkaporta - Sand Talk - https://tinyurl.com/yt5y3e6yPodcast - Tyson Yunkaporta - https://open.spotify.com/show/2SYIwG9Yc91UeM79srVzTrDecolonial Futures - https://decolonialfutures.net/Martin Shaw - book - https://tinyurl.com/yll58s9vMartin Shaw - podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/in/podcast/smoke-hole-sessions/id1566369928Support the showConnect with me:IG - @jeffreythenaturalbuilderTwitter - @JNaturalBuilderFacebook - JeffreythenaturalbuilderLinkedIn - JeffreythenaturalbuilderSupport this podcast - https://www.patreon.com/buildingsustainability

About Chris:  Chris Bruno is the Co-Founder and CEO of Restoration Project and Founder and CEO of ReStory® Counseling, devoting his life to helping people come alive. He is the author of Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage, Man Maker Project: A Father's Guide to Initiating His Son to Manhood and Brotherhood Primer: A Journey Into Genuine Masculine Friendships, and a licensed professional counselor. He has decades of experience helping men recover their hearts.  https://www.restorationproject.net/sage  – this is where listeners can learn more about the book, and also take the “Tremors Assessment” https://www.restory.life  – this is where Chris leads a team of counselors offering care from his unique “ReStory” approach. Additionally, https://www.restory.life/colorado-counseling-intensive is where listeners can find the ReStory Intensives Chris facilitates Here are a few socials: Facebook:  Restoration Project: facebook.com/RestorationProject ReStory Counseling: facebook.com/ReStory.Life Instagram:  Restoration Project: @restorationprojectco  ReStory Counseling: @storyrestored Sage: A Man's Guide Into Second Passage - https://www.amazon.com/Sage-Mans-Guide-Second-Passage/dp/B0B8RJ3CPS Brotherhood Primer: A Man's Guide To Turning Buddies Into Brothers - https://a.co/d/gBExgXx Man Maker Project: A Father's Guide to Initiating His Son into Manhood - https://www.amazon.com/Man-Maker-Project-Fathers-Initiating/dp/B0B1HXV28Y

Chris Bruno talks about ReStory.  He is the Founder & CEO of ReStory Counseling, Restoration Project where he is working with men on the restoration of their heart, an author, and so much more!  Go HERE to order Chris's book ‘Brotherhood Primer: A Man's Guide To Turning Buddies Into Brothers' - https://youtu.be/y2Bm1GMAxAM Key Discussion Points: Telling your ReStory What does a Midlife Crisis really mean? Marriage Problem Truths Why men hold onto unknown & untold stories God's excitement for you No Rubber Chicken Power in counseling  Masculinity, Sexual Addiction, Trauma, Abuse Faith Story  Every man is called to fill very specific roles - Want to learn how to Podcast?  Check out my course How To Start, Launch, & Run Your Podcast in 30 days HERE! Get the PDF version of the course HERE! Other Resources to help you HERE! - Quick shoutout to our sponsors for this show: Tranquil Turtle Massage - Amazing massage specialist in downtown Coeur D'Alene - (Tell them I sent you for $25 off!!) CDA, Brows, Body, & Ink LLC - Offering Coeur d'Alene's Best Tattoo Brows, Plasma Fibroblast Tightening, and PMU services in the heart of downtown Coeur d'Alene!  - (Tell them I sent you for $100 off Tattoo brows or Plasma Tightening!!)  Consign Furniture & Consign Jewelry - The LARGEST consign furniture & jewelry store in the U.S.! They offer more than just consignment furniture and jewelry; they also design and sell custom-made and new furniture and jewelry. Tigatu - A Lifestyle Clothing Company (use code "TopRatedMMA" for 10% off) Craig Feistner / Stallion Performance / CDA Fitness 1 on 1 - Online & In Person Training.  Voted North Idaho #1 Personal Trainer 3x 2021, 2022, 2023.  Dotcal - Dotcal helps individuals & businesses book more meetings with scheduling tools designed to delight! - Use promo code ERIKALLEN50 for 50% off Dotcal Pro features for six months INTERESTED IN BEING A SPONSOR OF OUR SHOW? Fill out the form HERE! - Be sure to FOLLOW Chris Bruno -  Instagram Facebook Website Be sure to FOLLOW Restoration Project -  Instagram Facebook Website - Thanks for watching! Check out another playlist on my channel: The Erik Allen Show Podcasts Featuring Erik Allen Voice Over Work  Product Reviews Fun   - FREE Resources to help you

Episode 75!Chris Bruno grew up in Denver, Colorado in a family that encouraged and shaped him to be of service to others.  After a stint in corporate America and a decade of life as a missionary in the Middle East, Chris came home to attend seminary and counseling school.  He founded the counseling center, ReStory and started the Restoration Project to provide "fathering" experiences and resources for men to develop deeper relationships with their children.   Tune in to hear how Chris's life experiences shaped him to be prepared to live the life he's living out today.Enjoy!  -----------------Connect with Chris here:Website:https://www.restorationproject.net/https://www.restorationproject.net/firstprojecthttps://www.restory.life/Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/restorationprojectco/https://www.instagram.com/storyrestored/Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/RestorationProjecthttps://www.facebook.com/ReStory.Life/Thanks for listening! Eric Sardina Executive Life Coaching Feeling stuck, empty or out-of-sync at work, at home, or in your relationships? As a business and life coach, I help individuals work through these feelings towards authentic lives of meaning and purpose. I also work with organizations to optimize their teams and individual contributors. Interested in working with me or learning more? Connect with me below: Website: https://www.ericsardina.com - book a free, 15-minute strategy session. https://calendly.com/ericsardina/8-session-authentically-you-discovery-call-website-linkFollow me on: Instagram: @Eric_sardina26.2 Facebook: Eric SardinaLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericsardina/ Affiliate: LMNT hydration drink mix: get a free sample pack with your first order by using this link: http://elementallabs.refr.cc/ericsardina

Zach and Laura interview Chris Bruno and Tracy Johson of ReStory about their work taking both individuals and couples into deeper work about how their past stories inform their present and future. Be sure to check out their work at https://www.restory.life/ and snag their free resource Thrive Dates https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We understand that not only is carving our time for a date night challenging, but connecting deeply with one another can be difficult if you don't have the right framework! In today's episode, we bring Tracy Johnson to share about their new FREE resource, A Year of Good Dates, and share the THREE components to cultivating a great date. This episode brought a new thought to Jon and Carrie and we know this will be important for marriages. Meet Tracy: Tracy Johnson is the Supervisor for Storywork Coaches at ReStory Counseling and co-facilitator and co-creator of the ReStory® trauma, abuse recovery, and marriage intensives. She is also the founder of Red Tent Living, a community of women reframing femininity through intentionally curated spaces. She and her husband have been married for 35 years and live in Texas with the youngest of their 5 children.Download the FREE guide: A Year of Good DatesWork with Tracy!Thrive Marriage Labhttps://www.restory.life  – this is where Tracy is offering care from her unique “ReStory” approach. At ReStory, we're interested in restoring the heart on all levels.https://www.restory.life/thrive -  is where listeners can learn about Thrive Marriage Lab and join our Thrive community.Follow Tracy on social media:Facebook: facebook.com/ReStory.LifeInstagram: @storyrestoredWhat did you love most about this episode? Send us an email at jcvhouse@gmail.com to let us know or DM Carrie on Instagram.We'd also love to have you take 30 seconds to leave us a review for the show over on Apple Podcasts. We love hearing from you and would love to feature your review on the show!Support the showSupport Couples Becoming Intentional! Buy us a coffee! Sign up for the credit card that has allowed us to travel so often!

A few long-distance sound issues today. Amy Ewbank is “a deliciously flawed, complex and wonderful human being, who supports other deliciously flawed, complex and wonderful human beings to live their best lives.” We take an early detour with interesting insights into media's use of women and the story around them… and male bonding. Many of us have a story about what our life will look like.  Amy discusses what we might do if things don't follow that story line. When you berate yourself, Amy suggests bringing a sense of curiosity about your thoughts and… bring a sense of humour too.  When you Re-Story” focus on Joy… focus on alternatives. Amy discusses the Bechdel Test.  You may want to look that up! (link below) When you ponder “What am I?” what is your first response? And don't “people please”! You're a role model… did you realize that? Embrace it! Find Amy at https://amyewbank.com/ Learn more about Amy and find all her links at https://boomwithabang.com/amy-ewbank/  

Did you know that the narrative you tell about your marriage truly matters, perhaps more than almost anything else? Yes, truly knowing one another and sharing meaningful stories is the best way to reach the deepest intimacy in relationships. Today, we are grateful to have ReStory expert Tracy Johnson, Enneagram 8 (8-7 pairing), introducing us to a model for reaching one another again and again as we tell new stories and find new ways to make that deeper meaning together. She gives us a formula that has a natural yet practical flow so we can bring ourselves to each date or activity ready for reconnection. Enjoy this rich conversation with Tracy as we walk towards delighting, discovering, sharing our depths, and connecting more closely than ever before. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Visit Tracy and the entire group at ReStory here! Sign up for "A Year of Good Dates" here: https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates   https://www.thrivemarriageweekend.com @thrivemarriageweekend on Instagram View the Unwanted Sexual Behaviors Course at ReStory Visit Tracy on Red Tent Living for her prolific blogs Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage   Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!

Exploring mid life, how to do it well and positively affect younger generations.   In this episode, we welcome special guest Chris Bruno, co-founder and CEO of Restoration Project and founder and CEO of ReStory® Counseling. Chris has dedicated his career to helping people come alive and has written extensively on masculine identity, fatherhood, and building genuine friendships.    With his mission and in honor of Father's Day approaching, Chris is a timely guest. Through personal examples and metaphors, we discuss the importance of recognizing and dealing with personal issues, finding trustworthy mentors, and doing the tough work required to achieve personal growth and development. We also emphasize the lost concept of becoming an elder and the importance of looking within oneself for identity.    If you're looking for a roadmap for creating a life filled with joy, purpose and fulfillment, this episode is for you!  Join us as we explore The Power of Living Intentionally: Exploring Purpose and Fulfillment in the Second Half of Life with Chris Bruno.     Chris Bruno is the Co-Founder and CEO of Restoration Project and Founder and CEO of ReStory® Counseling, devoting his life to helping people come alive. He is the author of Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage, Man Maker Project: A Father's Guide to Initiating His Son to Manhood and Brotherhood Primer: A Journey Into Genuine Masculine Friendships, and a licensed professional counselor. He has decades of experience helping men recover their hearts.    Chris lives in Colorado with his wife of 27 years and they have three mostly adult children and enjoy adventures in the Colorado mountains or overseas whenever possible. He loves Jeeps, streams, whiskey, Scotland, and everything Celtic.    Here's how to connect with Chris: https://www.restorationproject.net/sage  – this is where listeners can learn more about the book, and also take the “Tremors Assessment” https://www.restory.life  – this is where Chris leads a team of counselors offering care from his unique “ReStory” approach. Additionally, https://www.restory.life/colorado-counseling-intensive is where listeners can find the ReStory Intensives Chris facilitates   On Social Media: Facebook: Restoration Project: facebook.com/RestorationProject ReStory Counseling: facebook.com/ReStory.Life Instagram: Restoration Project: @restorationprojectco  ReStory Counseling: @storyrestored   Connect with Lori: Website: https://loriksnyder.com Lori's Facebook   Instagram @LoriKaySnyder

This week on "Hometown Heroes", meet Kevin Keeley of Spring Creek Lavender Farm in the Oneida County village of Remsen, New York. They will host a Thrive Marriage Weekend August 11-12, 2023. Keeley says the wonderful dreams which people take into their marriages often are followed by couples' harder times. There are always ways in which each couple -- and each individual in a marriage can "tune in" to one another and live into joy and commitment   Facilitated by marriage experts Chris Bruno and Tracy Johnson, this two-day retreat will take you through four curated experiences that are key to developing marital belonging. Far more than learning tips and techniques, you will walk through the ReStory® marriage process and leave with more understanding, empathy, and a vision for how your marriage can flourish the way God intended. Spring Creek Lavender has graciously decided to offer a special $25 discount for the weekend for Family Life listeners and website users. Use the coupon code “Family Life” when you go to thrivemarriageweekend.com

The Guys Like Us Podcast is joined with Chris Bruno who is the co-Founder and CEO of The Restoration Project, author, counselor, and creator of ReStory. In this episode we discuss men's focused topics around mentorship, wisdom, and the value of solitude and silence. In particular we dig in to being a sage, and why it is so important to consider Wisdom as you grow and mature in Christian faith. His book “Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage” as well as others can be found where books are sold! Sign up for the Guys Like Us newsletter at theguyslikeus.com to stay up to date with all the latest!

Vanessa Jacobs is the Co-Founder and CEO of The Restory, an aftercare service, restoring Luxury Fashion. Vanessa joins Elliot to share her inspirations and the challenges of starting a business 'too early,' before the rise of circular fashion and sustainability.

Welcome back to another episode of Sustainably Influenced. In today's episode we are discussing the world of leather and asking the question, can leather ever be eco-friendly? We are joined by Emily Rea, co-founder of The Restory Source: https://moralfibres.co.uk/can-leather-be-eco-friendly/The Restory are a retail company that provide aftercare for Luxury Fashion. They have previously partnered with Harrods, Manolo Blahnik, FarFetch, Selfridges and Harvey Nichols among others. They revive and repair bags, shoes and clothing. Their team consists of specialists brought together from all over the globe to ensure items are in the most capable and passionate hands. They are also training the next generation of masters to ensure the best and brightest are retained and have room to grow and develop their careers.Thanks for listening today, you can follow us on @sustainablyinfluenced Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To hear Episodes as they come out follow us at "If You Could See Me Stories"Donna Johnson Edwards is, in the words of William Shakespeare, small but fierce. She stands just under 5 feet tall and admits to having to shop in the children's section from time to time. In spite of, or maybe because of, her tiny stature, Donna exudes power. She doesn't realize it because her new reality differs so completely from who she was prior to the Traumatic Brain injury she experienced in 2016 that changed her life forever. Her courage and commitment to her healing, the storytelling process, and the honesty of her storytelling is an inspiration. This is her story. I met Donna in 2018 when she became a member of my ReStory personal narrative writing and storytelling group at Life in 10 Minutes, in Richmond, Virginia. She made it known early in the process that she had been referred to the class by her therapist as part of her healing from a traumatic brain injury. Her courage and commitment to her healing, the storytelling process, and the honesty of her storytelling was inspiring and endearing. In 2019, Donna joined the If You Could See Me Project performing her story in our June event that year. Donna's is a story shared by so many who experience disabling conditions or events which alter their mind, body, and probably more than anything their sense of who they are, their value in the world, and often leaving them scrambling to find the appropriate resources and support to return to functioning. Donna's ability to talk about her experience and to advocate for herself and others, is a reflection of her fierce resilience.Disclaimer: This story is for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is experiencing the effects of any medical or mental health condition, please seek medical attention. This series is not intended as medical or therapeutic advice and should not replace the engagement of a medical or mental health professional.

Donna Johnson Edwards is, in the words of William Shakespeare, small but fierce. She stands just under 5 feet tall and admits to having to shop in the children's section from time to time. In spite of, or maybe because of, her tiny stature, Donna exudes power. She doesn't realize it because her new reality differs so completely from who she was prior to the Traumatic Brain injury she experienced in 2016 that changed her life forever. Her courage and commitment to her healing, the storytelling process, and the honesty of her storytelling is an inspiration. This is her story. I met Donna in 2018 when she became a member of my ReStory personal narrative writing and storytelling group at Life in 10 Minutes, in Richmond, Virginia. She made it known early in the process that she had been referred to the class by her therapist as part of her healing from a traumatic brain injury. Her courage and commitment to her healing, the storytelling process, and the honesty of her storytelling was inspiring and endearing. In 2019, Donna joined the If You Could See Me Project performing her story in our June event that year. Donna's is a story shared by so many who experience disabling conditions or events which alter their mind, body, and probably more than anything their sense of who they are, their value in the world, and often leaving them scrambling to find the appropriate resources and support to return to functioning. Donna's ability to talk about her experience and to advocate for herself and others, is a reflection of her fierce resilience.Disclaimer: This story is for entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you love is experiencing the effects of any medical or mental health condition, please seek medical attention. This series is not intended as medical or therapeutic advice and should not replace the engagement of a medical or mental health professional.

In contemporary culture, people who identify as LGBT have a clear narrative. Their lives became better after they “came out” as lesbian, gay, or transgender. Society should celebrate with them. Individuals who don't are “homophobic” and “transphobic.” ReStory Ministries believes that the coming-out narrative is not the only story. They believe people find true life when they give their hearts to Jesus Christ and live out sexuality according to biblical norms. In this episode of the Influence Podcast, I'm talking to Linda Seiler and Joe Dallas about this second story. I'm George P. Wood, executive editor of Influence magazine and your host. Linda Seiler, Ph.D., is executive director of ReStory Ministries, which helps Assemblies of God churches more effectively minister to LGBT persons and their families. Joe Dallas is a board member of ReStory, a Christian counselor, and author of numerous books on LGBT topics. ----- This episode of the Influence Podcast is brought to you the ReStoried 2022 Conference. This year's theme is “Beyond LGBT — Stories of Redemption, Tools of Ministry.” ReStoried 2022 is a one-day conference about effective ministry to LGBT people. It meets on Saturday, September 24, at Central Assembly in Springfield, Missouri. Visit ReStoryministries.org/ReStoried22 for more information and to register.

Donna Johnson Edwards is, in the words of William Shakespeare, small but fierce. She stands just under 5 feet tall and admits to having to shop in the children's section from time to time. In spite of, or maybe because of, her tiny stature, Donna exudes power. She doesn't realize it because her new reality differs so completely from who she was prior to that fateful series of events in 2016 that changed her life forever. I met Donna in 2018 when she became a member of my ReStory personal narrative writing and storytelling group at Life in 10 Minutes, in Richmond, Virginia. She made it known early in the process that she had been referred to the class by her therapist as part of her healing from a traumatic brain injury. Her courage and commitment to her healing, the storytelling process, and the honesty of her storytelling was inspiring and endearing. In 2019, Donna joined the If You Could See Me Project performing her story in our June event that year. Hers is a story shared by so many who experience disabling conditions or events which alter their mind, body, and probably more than anything their sense of who they are, their value in the world, and often leaving them scrambling to find the appropriate resources and support to return to functioning. Donna's ability to talk about her experience is a reflection of her fierce, resilience which is reflected in every aspect of her life and her history.

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Lucy Clayton is joined by Emily Rea, Co-aFounder of The Restory for a masterclass looking after the stuff you love. From simple reheeling to full blown reimagining - discover how aftercare can transform your wardrobe, future-proof your favourites and be part of a more sustainable approach to fashion. Please support our micro donation campaign for the charity Beauty Banks. Text BEAUTY to 70490. Links Visit our website The Restory Beauty Banks Follow @dressfancypodcast on Instagram Follow @thebeautybanks on Instagram Follow @mslucyclayton on Instagram Follow @therestory_ on Instagram Follow @emilycharlotterea on Instagram

You buy a pair of shoes that you love but over time you wear them out and they end up collecting dust in your closet because you think they're no longer presentable. On the other hand, you don't want to throw them out and aren't sure what to do with them… Today's episode brings you a close look at an untapped yet ready to be served industry. Neri sits down to talk with Emily Rea, the co-founder of The Restory, an on-demand service providing modern aftercare for luxury fashion. At The Restory they are on a mission to empower the after care industry by bringing your favorite designer pieces back to life and making you fall in love with them all over again. Some of their partnerships include luxury brands such as Nicolas Kirkwood, Manolo Blahnik, Farfetch, Selfridges, Harvey Nichols, and Harrods. Emily is a sustainability advocate. Her personal belief is that repair unlocks circular fashion and that after care can also be a luxury. She and her team have developed a very unique business model that promises to be the beginning of an after care tradition that is here to stay. “You just have to start! Every business pivots and you learn from things, and you change things. As soon as you decide not to change anything, that's when you know that you're destined to fail so you have to be willing to constantly evolve and change”. - Emily Rea There are big plans for The Restory. From licensing to scaling, Emily tells it all! Throughout the episode, Neri and our guest talk about how the business started out of her house, how they plan to build their sustainable competitive advantage, how their partnerships enable the after care industry to grow, and more. Thank you for tuning in! If you haven't listened to episode 14 where Neri interviews B Corp expert Chris Marquis PhD, then go back and check it out! In this episode, we cover: -How The Restory was born. -What future Emily sees for the after care industry. -The role of technology in helping the repair industry scale. -How to become a customer of The Restory. -What a typical day looks like for her as fashion entrepreneur. Resources and links mentioned during this episode: -Visit www.the-restory.com to learn more about their services and business model and follow them on Instagram @therestory_. -Neri is a published author! Read her book, Fashion Entrepreneurship: The Creation of the Global Fashion Business here! Connect with Neri: -Follow Neri on Instagram @nerikarraworld and @modametiers. -Visit modametiers.com and check out our services, resources, and previous work. -Enjoying what you hear? Follow and leave a review HERE.

Starting a luxury business can be challenging. It is common for new entrepreneurs to experience a wave of questions and self-doubt when starting out especially when they don't have all the answers, resources, or experience. So, how do you overcome this and build a successful business? In today's episode, Neri comes with 3 great tips for new entrepreneurs working on their luxury brands as well as advice on how to effectively scale their business. She covers what you should focus on, the importance of networking, your main target buyers, how to know what makes you unique, and much more. If you want to keep learning from and being inspired by successful entrepreneurs, don't forget to tune into next week's episode where Neri will be interviewing Emily Rea, co-founder of The Restory. Thank you for tuning in! If you haven't listened to episode 14 where Neri interviews B-Corp and sustainability expert - Chris Marquis, then go back and check it out! Connect with Neri: -Follow Neri on Instagram @nerikarraworld and @modametiers. -Visit modametiers.com and check out our services, resources, and previous work. -Enjoying what you hear? Follow and leave a review HERE.

In today's episode Louise speaks with Emily Rea, Co-Founder of The Restory, an aftercare company that restores luxury handbags, shoes and clothes. The Restory combines art, craft and the power of technology to make sure cherished items can last forever.

Katie Jones is a well-being Practitioner, Story Alchemist, Speaker, and Author, leading people to weave their very own personal transformation narrative. Katie's potent RESTORY™ approach is based on the principles of Positive Psychology, Post Traumatic Growth, Compassionate Inquiry, and Manifestation. Her dynamic and thought-provoking methodology explores ancient modalities of wellbeing combined with cutting-edge research and science. Visit Katie's Website Follow Katie on Instagram --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

The modern, linear manufacturing that is typical of much fashion and textile production can be hugely wasteful and damaging to the environment. While the sector has been wising up, it's not happening fast enough. We meet two entrepreneurs who explain how innovations in technology and a revolution in aftercare can ensure that fashion and textile production needn't cost the earth. Beth Esponnette is the head of Unspun, a robotics and digital clothing company that builds custom jeans on demand for every individual consumer. Its mission is to reduce those grim global carbon-emissions figures through automated, localised and intentional manufacturing. Vanessa Jacobs is the co-founder of the world's first aftercare platform for fashion, a business that helps the world's biggest brands offer care, repair and restoration to their customers. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Vanessa Jacobs is co-founder and CEO of The Restory, the world's first aftercare platform for fashion. The Restory helps the world's biggest brands to offer care, repair and restoration services to their customers around the world. It has aftercare partnerships with celebrated stores, such as Harvey Nichols and Selfridges, and with brands, including Farfetch and Manolo Blahnik. It's a smart and innovative business, going from strength to strength. But how did it all start? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode was recorded in Dec 20, 2021. Tracy Johnson – Lives in Austin, Tx. Works with and for Chris Bruno at Restoration Counseling in Fort Collins, Colorado. She is the founder and Chief editor of Red Tent Living Magazine, online space for women around the world. She works in the virtual world with story work and spiritual direction, seeing people from all over the world. Chris Bruno – Founded Restoration Counseling 12 years ago after living overseas doing missions. He is a licensed professional counselor and works locally with folks as well as online. He has been doing a lot more Intensives and group intensives – the opportunity to spend more focused time. He loves that work. He also founded Restoration Project, which is focused on men, fathering and brother-ing, exploring what it means to be a son. Danielle has had an increase in requests for support, coaching and counseling. Where can we plug people in? What's available?Tracy has had similar experiences – there was a lull in the summer when people were out enjoying the sun but she too is experiencing an uptick with people needing help. Tracy believes that COVID, the pandemic and isolation has shrunk space that used to be expansive inside of people, and people are noticing they are less well. Before there may have been pockets of anxiety or depression before but now is it more prevalent and feels like it doesn't go away.She says the same is true for spirituality—before the pandemic people may have masked a struggle with their spirituality by continuing to go to church and bible study, but as that went away, the questions have surfaced and there is more disruption between their relationship with God and their relationship with the Church.Chris agrees with both. The way he conceptualizes where we've been is by looking back to 2020-2021 New Years when there was an emotional rally. As a world, we said “2020 sucked! It sucked the life out of us” and yet mentally and emotionally there was this thought that “2021” will be different. But this year, as we realized that the pandemic is not going away, and the coping mechanisms aren't going to help us any more than they did before. This are not shifting. “Deferred Hope.” 2021 was a thinning of this hope. The last little bit of hope in relationships, marriages, etc. has eroded. He's seen this too in their Thrive Marriage Lab online – relationships seem more tense, thin and desperate. Like it could move to crisis if it's not dealt with. Tracy says we're set up for the same this year looking at 2022. We can make no plans; everything is subject to cancelation. We're not okay again.Chris wants to invite people to do something different in 2022. There isn't a going back to normal—the normal that we know is now different and therefore the internal work we do needs to be different. The mental, emotional and relationship work needs to look different than what it was and what we assumed. There is a shift in how we need to work on and expand “the space inside” that is no longer spacious. This is the important work that needs to be done in 2022. Tracy said those can be part of what comes in the New Year—it is just a fact that we will never go back to where we were before. She thinks what we're learning to do now is about tending to ourselves in ways that we've never had to do that before. There was so much noise pre-pandemic with traveling and parties, gatherings and going to the office… It's kept us from having to listen to our internal selves. How do we learn to tend to this internal space? What does that mean and what does it look like for me? For some people, that tending needs to be done with a therapist or licensed counselors. For others that looks like tending to the stories that our bodies and souls hold; To listen and care for those stories. Now is the time to do this work. “Our world has changed and so that we're going to be in our world has to change, like it or not.”Danielle said she has been paying a trainer to work out twice a week because first she doesn't want to get COVID in a gym class but secondly because she likes the attention on her—that there is someone who it watching and attending to her body. A few days before this recording, her trainer told her that the average human uses between 50-70% of the air in their lungs. That means we're only breathing at 50-70% our capacity. Danielle was un-attentive to her breathe, and as her heart rate get high her trainer said, “you're not in your body!” Danielle was thinking, “hey I'm the therapist!” But her trainer replied, “If you want to push yourself, you have to be present. You have to pay attention to your body.” Danielle said this interaction with her trainer in a sense is like what Chris is doing with intensives—it is expanding someone's capacity to stay present in themselves and their relationships. Chris loves that image of how much space is your lungs and in your body and the invitation to pay attention to it. Some of the work around story is about being aware of and staying in your body. “How present are you to what's happening inside of you?” Restoration Counseling's logo is a cross-section of a tree. The outside, Chris says, is the adult part of us. The inside are all the rings of the life of the tree. Those rings are still inside the tree, marking the dry years, the years with a lot of sun, the shade of another tree. You can read the story of how that tree was shaped by the rings. All you see from the outside is just the outside, but all the stories of all the days that tree has ever lived are still inside that tree. Humans are the same—we have all those parts of us that live inside of us. And what he believes Tracy is saying is do we have enough space to attend to those parts that are living with us. As an example from a recent intensive Chris hosted, while working with a man in his 40s, present in the work was his 3 year old self, his 5 year old, 13 year old, 18 year old… All those parts had no space to live and to tell their stories. Those parts are all interacting with the present day trauma, isolation, anxiety… We have to in our present day have space for our past day to still live inside us. Can we have the capacity to increase our “lung capacity” for our stories to live in us?Tracy liked what Danielle said about choosing to have a personal trainer – those trainers eyes are on you, noticing how your body is positioned, what it's doing. You can't do this for yourself; even with a mirror you can't totally see whether you're the correct position so that you don't hurt yourself. She has never had that kind of witness like she did when she first started counseling and story work – having someone attend to her and notice her eyes, face and body shifting. It invited her to think and be with herself different. I wonder why I did that?For listeners, she said that may sound a little woo-woo… But she believes this is what we were designed for. This is why Jesus had to come in the flesh—it was to experience with-ness. To have someone physically watching you, being with you and noticing you… It has been such a gift to even have a zoom space that is devoted to that. Part of what we've lost in all the years of noise, that has taken up so much space, is our ability to be with ourselves. And the pandemic has brought the silence and space we need to attend to those places. We are made for with-ness and that is what we've been needing: to have a witness. With-ness can be learned in the therapeutic and Story Work spaces. Once someone has done this with and for you, then you can in turn be with and for others. Tracy believes this is what will heal us. Danielle lost her last grandparent the day before thanksgiving. She cried and grieved. But in the last week she's been with people and she's felt sad and she's just let her tears come. Mostly it's been with her officemates. They've asked her what's coming up and she said she doesn't know but she's just sad. And her colleague said, “Yeah I think we're going to be sad for a while. I'm sad too.” It was comforting to be seen in her sadness and to know that other are with her in her sadness. It restored some space in her. Tracy said we need to be able to be sad with one another. She thinks that when we're able to experience sadness with one another, the feeling of depression is less. Depression is “I'm a sad and I am alone. I have fallen into this deep pit and I can't get out of it.” It feels like no one else is sad. But when we know that we're not alone, it's like we're not falling down the pit at the same rate. Feeling sad is normal, it doesn't have to mean there is something wrong with me. Perhaps it means something is right about me. And each person's sadness will be different but there is a sense of with-ness if knowing that you are not sad alone. Tracy said she didn't lose a grandparent but she has lost a friend. She knows something of the sadness of loss. And while its not the same, they both can witness each other's sadness. Chris says the worse experience a human can have is the experience is aloneness. There is s sense that if I am actually alone, I don't have a buoy or a tether to keep me human. He believes the human experience is meant to be done together. Calling on places in scripture where is says, “mourn with those who mourn, rejoice with those who rejoice.” Whether it is rejoicing or mourning, it is elevated when it is done together. To be sad with one another does not mean that you are not able to be joyful or even laughing in the next second. There is the sadness of the loss of Danielle's grandmother and there is a beautiful memory about her life. Both of them can co-exist. When someone is spiraling out in depression, they are losing the ability to have this co-existence of emotions; holding grief and joy, celebration and sadness being so close together. Danielle agrees, grief and joy are so connected.Tracy adds, but most people don't live like there are connected. She believes this is a sad biproduct in Church circles because of the Church's focus on joy, not mourning like those who don't have hope. It contributes to people feeling alone. “I can't be at church and have my sadness shared. I'm doing to be told I need to rally and get out of it, to grab on to some joy or hope so everyone isn't uncomfortable with my grief and sadness.” This is another forced shift that has been very disorienting for a lot of Christian folks. This is no longer working during this pandemic season.Danielle circles back to what Chris shared that the tools we've had to cope with a starting a new year, aren't going to be enough this time around. It can be so intimating to reach out to therapists, counselors and story groups, Danielle asks how people can find the work that they are doing:Tracy, who does the Story Work and Spiritual Direction, said they have openings right now just head over to their website and hit the drop-down menu option for what you're wanting. www.restorationcounselingnoco.comThere are also intensives available, for those who want to do 2-3 days rather than every other week rhythm. Available for both men and women. Thrive Marriage lab- couples wanting support to have better conversations. Affordable way to do something for your marriage. Chris mentioned the “Re-Story Experience Coordinator” – helps people find the best care for what they need. Identifies an avenue of care, and if it doesn't exist within Restoration Counseling, she will help you find what you need. If you are in Colorado, their therapists can work with you. Intensive are 15 hours of face-time… It's condensing 15 weeks of engagement. Intensive work with you counseling, before and after. It's increased care to help you get unstuck. Tracy says to those who are “just getting by:” what would it looks like to imagine more than just getting by? That you're worth more than just getting by. The choice to seek out care is an investment and that can be the hardest part for people who are just getting by. She wants to say to them there's more for you, and you don't know what you don't know. Lend them some trust! This is what they do. Invest in yourself, you are worth it. Chris adds, for the person who is just getting by they have found some level of management with their coping strategies, he says “do you want to have a lifetime of coping or a lifetime of living?” We do things outside of soul care to take care of ourselves, like the dentist! We go to prevent cavities in addition to helping cavities. The same is for self-care and soul care.CALL 1-855 -RESTORY will get you to Katelyn the ReStory Experience Coordinator. Chris says for 2022, can we welcome where we currently find ourselves and wonder what is now available in the coming year?

Vanessa Jacobs is all about action, grabbing the tiger by the tail and taking that first step. After a career in investment banking and consulting, she started what she calls her side ‘mummy hustle'. Little did she know that this would turn into a full on successful startup The Restory - a leading luxury aftercare company providing services for the likes of Harrods, Harvey Nichols and most recently Manolo Blahnik. In Episode 17 we take a look into the story behind The Restory, lessons learnt about starting a side hustle, taking the leap from consulting to startup, burnout and everything in between. WE DISCUSS: 02:21 - The birth of The Restory 07:14 - See a need - fill a need 09:31 - Vanessa's biggest business challenge 15:54 - The hardest thing for a start-up 18:15 - Fuel for the fires 20:02 - (Believing) 22:41 - What is leadership 27:04 - Growing up and moving to London 31:20 - Advice for consultants who want to start their own business 32:32 - Understanding failure / Taking care of yourself 35:27 - Advice for Vanessa's younger self 40:11 - The “Impossible” question 41:53 - What Vanessa is most proud of VANESSA JACOBS LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/vanessajacobs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vljacobs THE RESTORY Twitter: https://twitter.com/therestory_/status/930832106330230784 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therestory_/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-restory/ EPISODE #17: You can listen to the full episode here OR WATCH it on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-YIz5pEMM9vigbYOxK2Kw (change this) MARIA HVOROSTOVSKY: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariahvo/ Instagram: @MariaHvo - https://www.instagram.com/mariahvo/ Clubhouse: @MariaHvo - https://www.clubhouse.com/@mariahvo HVO Search: www.hvosearch.com/ Get in touch if you need help HIRING your senior leadership team LEAVE A REVIEW: If you're listening on Apple Podcasts make sure to Subscribe, Rate, and leave a REVIEW. The best review will get a mention in the next episode!

Sometimes we're asked to tell stories of our childhood and we can't. We assume we don't have any memories, yet we sense that much of our present reality was shaped by things that happened to us. Why is that? Why do we FEEL something that makes no sense according to our "memory"? Chris and Beth Bruno discuss the difference between explicit and implicit memory and why our body remembers more than we're often cognizant of.Mentioned in the show:Dr. Daniel Siegel's MindsightDr. Bessel Van Der Kolk's The Body Keeps the ScoreThe ReStory™ Podcast is a product of ReStory™ Labs powered by Restoration Counseling, a part of the ReStory™ Universe Network.Learn more about Chris and Beth here.

“Once I commit myself, I'm really all in. And I'm, as I said, a bit of a masochist about it” Vanessa Jacobs is all about action, grabbing the tiger by the tail and taking that first step. After a career in investment banking and consulting, she started what she calls her side ‘mummy hustle'. Little did she know that this would turn into a full on successful startup The Restory - a leading luxury aftercare company providing services for the likes of Harrods, Harvey Nichols and most recently Manolo Blahnik. In Episode 17 we take a look into the story behind The Restory, lessons learnt about starting a side hustle, taking the leap from consulting to startup, burnout and everything in between. VANESSA JACOBS LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/vanessajacobs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vljacobs THE RESTORY Twitter: https://twitter.com/therestory_/status/930832106330230784 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therestory_/ EPISODE #17: You can listen to the full episode here OR WATCH it on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-YIz5pEMM9vigbYOxK2Kw MARIA HVOROSTOVSKY: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mariahvo/ Instagram: @MariaHvo - https://www.instagram.com/mariahvo/ Clubhouse: @MariaHvo - https://www.clubhouse.com/@mariahvo Get in touch if you need help HIRING your senior leadership team LEAVE A REVIEW: If you're listening on Apple Podcasts make sure to Subscribe, Rate, and leave a REVIEW. The best review will get a mention in the next episode!

We experience trauma as a fire or as a drought. The one is far more visible and its ripple effect far more noticeable. But the other is equally harmful. How do we identify those in our lives and what do we do to come alive again?The ReStory™ Podcast is a product of ReStory™ Labs powered by Restoration Counseling, a part of the ReStory™ Universe Network.Learn more about Chris and Beth here.

"I had a great childhood. My parents are loving. I don't have a story." We hear this all the time. And it's utterly wrong. We all have stories and whether or not they could be classified as Big T or Little t traumas, we have all experienced shaping events. How can you tell what stories have shaped you?The ReStory™ Podcast is a product of ReStory™ Labs powered by Restoration Counseling, a part of the ReStory™ Universe Network.Learn more about Chris and Beth here.

This is a common experience: you come for relief from unwanted symptoms, but end up feeling worse for the first few sessions. Why? And what can you expect to start to happen once you start a journey with a ReStory™ practitioner? Mentioned in the podcast: Jason Uptown's Scarecrow.The ReStory™ Podcast is a product of ReStory™ Labs powered by Restoration Counseling, a part of the ReStory™ Universe Network.Learn more about Chris and Beth here.

What if your memory is wrong? Have you been telling yourself lies or has your mind constructed a narrative it needed at the time? How do we make meaning of our experiences that differ from others who lived through the same ones? Join the Brunos in a conversation spurred by the Rise and Fall of Mars Hill Bonus Episode 9.The ReStory™ Podcast is powered by ReStory™ Labs, a part of the ReStory™ Universe Network. Learn more about Chris and Beth here.

In Part 4 of 4, Chris and Beth Bruno explain the difference between content and context and the role this plays in the ReStory™ approach.You can learn more about Restoration Counseling here.You can learn more about ReStory Labs, our digital laboratory, here.Our brother organization, Restoration Project, and sister organization, Fierce & Lovely, share our heart and ethos.

In Part 3 of 4, Chris and Beth Bruno talk about the role of kindness as the greatest weapon against evil on earth.You can learn more about Restoration Counseling here.You can learn more about ReStory Labs, our digital laboratory, here.Our brother organization, Restoration Project, and sister organization, Fierce & Lovely, share our heart and ethos.

In Part 2 of 4, Chris and Beth Bruno talk about the role of evil in the ReStory™ approach.You can learn more about Restoration Counseling here.You can learn more about ReStory Labs, our digital laboratory, here.Our brother organization, Restoration Project, and sister organization, Fierce & Lovely, share our heart and ethos.

In Part 1 of 4, Chris and Beth Bruno define ReStory™ and explain how it is different than most counseling modalities. You can learn more about Restoration Counseling here.You can learn more about ReStory Labs, our digital laboratory, here.Our brother organization, Restoration Project, and sister organization, Fierce & Lovely, share our heart and ethos.

Danny Holcomb is a peer recovery specialist, a survivor of mental health and substance use disorders, a light worker, artist, and beautiful human. This discussion sheds light on the internalized stigma that can be experienced by individuals with a history of mental health or substance use disorders and often creates barriers and limiting beliefs. Recovery is a process, an action word, that requires on-going commitment to well-being. Following the discussion is an original piece written by Danny for a ReStory group session entitled, Heaven. Stick around to check that out and visit The If You Could See Me Project YouTube channel to experience Danny's story from the 2019 men's group performance. Danny Holcomb on The If You Could See Me Project stage, December 2019: https://youtu.be/mUhiU2b6K9QDanny will facilitate the 2021 IYCSM Men's/Male Identifying group. Visit www.ifyoucouldseeme.com to find out more and reach out to express your interest in participating.

Welcome back to Retail is Dead. A podcast started in Lockdown 1.0 as our answer to all the negative press around retail. We are fed up hearing that “retail is dead”, when in our opinion it’s just getting exciting. Our sixth episode is the first of a four part series on Sustainability. Whilst we would all agree we feel the pressure to be make more sustainable choices in life - use less plastic/paper, eat less meat or use less car travel, we aren’t so aware of the positive impact little changes in our buying habits could make. Our aim is to raise awareness of the various solutions at hand and to talk about brands that are fighting the good fight whether it’s using more recycled/upcycled materials, turning waste into new products, offsetting the impact of their supply chain or giving clothes a second life. Our guest interview is with the fabulous Vanessa Jacobs (@vljacobs) Founder and CEO of The Restory (@therestory_) www.the-restory.com, an on-demand aftercare service for shoes and handbags that can be found online as well as in physical concessions at Selfridges, Harrods and Harvey Nichols. They are also this episode’s The Drop, as they have just launched Farfetch Fix by The Restory, a service that allows Farfetch customers to book a collection and get their items repaired from anywhere in the world: https://the-restory.com/farfetch-fix-services-list/ As ever, thank you so much for all your support & feedback, we really appreciate it. Don’t forget to follow us on Insta @retailisdead_ or drop us a line at info@isretailisdead.co.uk, and please don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe on Apple or Spotify. Erin, Bex & Leanne Resources: Ellen MacArthur Foundation Circular Fashion report here Our Brands: H&M Looop concept link hereIG @hm Ganni x Levi’s collab : https://repeat.ganni.com/us/en/ganni-x-levis/ IG @ganni @levis Levi’s less water article

This week Erin spends a Saturday morning over coffee talking to her friend and fellow healer Lucretia Marie. Lucretia will join Erin each month as a Co-Host of Saturday Morning Coffee (3rd Saturday of each month), Live on Facebook, www.facebook.com/iycsm. You can join them THIS Saturday, 2/13/21 at 10 am. In the meantime, enjoy this episode where they discuss life in this moment and the many thoughtful messages within the recent Pixar release "Soul." (SPOILERS)Lucretia Marie (she/they/them) is a mindfulness advocate and Artist of the Spirit certified Life, Energetic, and Spiritual coach who works with women, adolescents, adult creatives, and folx across the BIPOC and LGBTQ+ spectrums to move through the issues that affect them most. Lucretia Marie Anderson, Owner of Joyful Muse Coaching: https://joyfulmusecoaching.com/ Lucretia Marie (Anderson) is a dynamic workshop facilitator, speaker, and writer whose career began in arts and humanities education and nonprofit administration. Their exuberant coaching and facilitation style brings compassion, authenticity, and joy to the forefront of personal and professional development. They use mindfulness based stress reduction, MindBody Therapy, energy healing, and creative arts techniques in their work with clients in individual or group settings.After experiencing their own Racial Awakening and after 20 years as a social justice artist/activist/educator in the Richmond, VA and Washington, DC areas, they developed the Compassionate Anti-Racism and Equity (CARE) training program to offer an approach to diversity, equity and inclusion that centers individual and interpersonal healing in education around social and racial justice.

In this week's episode, I've Anjana Moraes, Sahiti Gavarikar, and Anvitha Vidyasankar from The Restory Project. Listen from these young professional mental health therapists on how you can create a positive and healthy environment for yourself in a world full of toxicity. If you like the episode then share it with your friends and family to help them feel better! Thanks for tuning in! :) Also, you can reach out to The Restory Project for affordable therapy sessions at therestoryproject@protonmail.com

Happy New Year! The longest year in recent history has finally come to an end and whatever happens 2021 will be a year and we will meet it. This week Erin talks about Marsha Linehan's Wise Mind concept from Dialectical Behavior Therapy. There are stories and self reflections, and a bonus original meditation track to help you find peace, motivation, and resilience as you usher in this new year. Check out the infographic on instagram mentioned in the episode. https://www.instagram.com/theifyoucouldseemeproject/Become a ReStory community subscriber: https://www.ifyoucouldseeme.com/changeyourstory

On this minisode, Erin talks about the Yin and Yang of Self-Compassion originated by Kristin Neff and the incredible power of learning to nurture ourselves, quiet the inner critic, and take action when necessary to create the things we need for our own peace and success. This is an excerpt from a recent Facebook Live that Erin hosted. Contact Erin Mahone for more information about how to work with her, hire her, and join the community of brave storytellers working together to heal and create change, erin@ifyoucouldseeme.comJoin the ReStory Community for more inspiring, motivating, and healing conversations just like this one: https://www.ifyoucouldseeme.com/plans-pricing Buy Erin's book at https://www.amazon.com/If-You-Could-See-Motherhood/dp/1628654341/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=if+you+could+see+me+erin+mahone&qid=1605209783&sr=8-1 Join the conversation and share your story at www.ifyoucouldseeme.com We are proud members of the Mental Health News Radio Network!Support our show by supporting our affiliates!Get the irel8 app and support The If You Could See Me Project at the same time!https://irel8.org/ifyoucouldseeme/iRel8 is a global, anonymous peer empowerment platform focused on mental wellness. Our platform brings people together in a safe community with others who have “been there, done that”, with the goal of helping and healing each other. iRel8 believes people have an innate need to connect to one another and uses Microsoft technology to Stop the Stigma while making a positive impact on mental wellness.iRel8 provides access 24/7/365 in a confidential and safe mobile app, and brings communities of people together to help and heal each other.

In this episode, we talk with Renaut Van der Riet, who is the Founder/President of “Love Made Visible”, Founder/Owner of Axum Coffee, and Lead Pastor for Mosaic Church, one of the fastest growing churches in the U.S.THOUGHT #1Spend More Time Living Your Life Well, than Building Platforms of InfluenceTHOUGHT #2Anything Less Than a Conscious Commitment to the Important is an Unconscious Commitment to the Unimportant – Stephen Covey CONNECT:Website: ThisIsMosaic.orgWebsite: AxumCoffee.comWebsite: LoveMadeVisible.comFacebook: @RenautvdRInstagram: @RenautVanDerRietLinkedin: Renaut Van der RietTwitter: @RenautvBook: What Great Ministry Leaders Get Right (2021)BRAND & RESOURCE MENTIONS:Hebrews 10:24-25 - Hebrews 10:24-25Navy Seals - Military.comBraveheart (movie) - IMDB.comPaul (Bible) - OverviewBible.comWillow Creek - WikipediaRick Warren - PastorRick.comHillsong Church - Hillsong.comThird Day - WikipediaToby Mac - TobyMac.comJars of Clay - JarsOfClay.comCOVID-19 - CDC.govStephen Covey - WikipediaNick Saban - WikipediaApple - Apple.comStarbucks - Starbucks.comWalmart - Walmart.comHard Rock International – HardRock.comThoughts That Rock – ThoughtsThatRock.comCertified Rock Star - CertifiedRockStar.comCulture That Rocks: How to Revolutionize Your Company’s Culture (Jim Knight) – CultureThatRocks.comBlack Sheep: Unleash the Extraordinary, Awe-Inspiring, Undiscovered You (Brant Menswar) - FindYourBlackSheep.comRock ‘n Roll With It: Overcoming the Challenge of Change (Brant Menswar) – RocknRollWithIt.comCannonball Kids’ cancer – CannonballKidscancer.orgBig Kettle Drum - BigKettleDrum.comSpectacle Photography (Show/Website Photos) – SpectaclePhoto.comJeffrey Todd “JT” Keel (Show Music) - JT KeelRENAUT VAN DER RIET'S BIO:Renaut is passionate about living, teaching, and leading in a way that shows the Gospel of Jesus to be true and beautiful.He lives out that passion first and foremost with his family. Of all the roles he fills, none is as important to him as being a husband to his wife, Brooke, and father to their eight children, four of whom are adopted from Ethiopia.In 2002, he and Brooke founded Mosaic Church in Winter Garden, a suburb of Orlando. With a continually growing congregation, Mosaic was one of the top ten fastest-growing churches in America in 2018. Under Renaut’s leadership-by-example, the church has become a nationwide pacemaker for fostering and adoption and a sought-after model of how ministries can respond to childhood special needs and trauma care.Renaut’s work bringing hope to hard places extends far beyond the walls of Mosaic Church. In 2009 he started Love Made Visible, a nonprofit organization that equips families, individuals, churches, and agencies to care for orphans and vulnerable children across the United States and around the world, including in Africa, Latin America, and China. The following year, he and Brooke founded Axum Coffee Company, a growing chain of coffee shops and restaurants whose goal is to fund social justice initiatives and also invite people into that story and work of redemption.Most recently, Renaut is developing The ReStory, a project aimed at providing Gospel clarity to followers of Christ and extending them an invitation to consider how their lives might be different if they dared to believe Galatians 5:1: “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.”Renaut's book, What Great Ministry Leaders Get Right is due out in March 2021 and is currently available for pre-order.

Welcome to another 'Style Natters' - thank you for listening...We thought it is worth mentioning that everything we natter about in this podcast are things we love or inspire us, they are not gifted.Here's what we're nattering about in this episode:We are hoping to be more sustainable with our wardrobe and love the idea of breathing new life and restoring our shoes and bags with the help of a service provided by The Restory which provides luxury aftercare for shoes, bags and leather goods: https://the-restory.comWe had a wonderful morning last week at a glorious pop-up curated by Isobel Spearman called the Daily Dress Edit. We headed to much loved Elizabeth Street for an inspiring morning which we have documented on our Style Natters instagram. Head over to see Camilla in a gorgeous O Pioneers dress www.opioneers.co.uk There were so many designers featured including Kemi Telford, And Daughter, Anna Mason, Cabbage & Roses and Seraphina London (amongst others). We are loving Selfridges - 'Project Earth' initiative, lots to thought provoking initiatives in store for sustainability and ethical shopping in mind. Do check out their website for more information including online interviews/events.We are missing attending evening talks in person at the V&A, but we're thrilled to see they are hosting talks online to feel informed and inspired.We are longing to visit the new beauty destination by Harrods, H Beauty in-store at Intu Lakeside, Essex www.harrods.com/en-gb/h-beautyWe chatted about 'Maskne' (that's acne or spots caused by wearing face masks!). We have been taking much more care of our skin recently and using some great new products. Emma is a big fan of Trinny London, https://trinnylondon.com specially BFF cream and Miracle Blur. Camilla loves Charlotte Tilbury www.charlottetilbury.com Magic Cream Moisturiser.If you're looking for a new book, we are longing to settle down and indulge ourselves in Designer Tabitha Webbs new book 'No Regrets'. It has had some brilliant write ups... we can't wait to read it!Camilla is longing to get a new pair of boots and has her eye on a pair from https://ivyleecopenhagen.com And for something more relaxing, she also has her recommendations for somewhere to enjoy a spot of afternoon tea, new new Connaught Patisserie...Thank you so much for listening, and do please DM us on our instagram 'Stylenatters' with any feedback or comments, we'd love to hear from you.Love, Camilla & Emma x

There are wonderful initiatives that focus on people from all walks of life sharing their stories. The #ifyoucoulseeme project is one of them. Today we speak with its founder, Erin Mahone, and her hope to have someone on the Autism spectrum join the movement. This project has taken off, been reported on in the news, and is becoming known around the globe for its groundbreaking ability to help people be seen and heard. Erin's "day job" is as a caseworker in the state of Virginia working with families to find services for their children with special needs - many with Autism. Her great passion is providing space for difficult conversations about mental health in all areas of life. She offers audiences tips for recognizing their inner critic and shares proven strategies to develop self-compassion and quiet the voice of resistance with humor, passion, and humility. Her work is intended to change the way we talk about mental health and related issues with the understanding that to make that change we must first tackle our own shame and fear. Erin educates and empowers people of all backgrounds and experiences to use the stories of their lives to create a more just, equitable, and compassionate world understanding that everyone's story has value and innate power. Erin is the author of the book If You Could See Me: Life, Motherhood, and the Pursuit of Sanity (Author's Place Press, 2018). She is the creator of #IfYouCouldSeeMe a multi-media storytelling project designed to change the way we talk about, think about, and address mental health and related issues. Erin leads ReStory, a personal narrative coaching initiative, and she is creator of two one-woman shows, It Runs in the Family a collection of songs and stories about laughter, family, mental illness, and unconditional love; and her new show Shark Woman Meditates, an honest look into her own mental health journey. Erin is pursuing her master's degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Longwood University. She is particularly interested in exploring Narrative Therapy and its effectiveness in the treatment of complex trauma. Erin is a recent TEDx presenter and speaks frequently on the intersection of creativity, compassion, and change. She was recently named a Michele Dowdy Emerging Leader by the Virginia Counselors Association and she is an "A World of Difference" facilitator with the Anti-Defamation League (ADL). Erin lives in the suburbs with her husband, three children, and a furbaby named Kismet. www.ifyoucouldseeme.com

It’s the last Bunkum! You made it to the end! Congratulations! An epic quest! A monster to be slayed! A kingdom to save! A display of cowardice! Bunkum goes out with a bang AND a whimper! Bye, everybody! Be sure to listen to my current and better scripted comedy podcast, The Restory of History’s Mysteries!

Live ReStory Showcase at Life in 10 Minutes, in Richmond, VA on October 18th, 2018.

I love teaching this awesome class! These beautiful people never cease to amaze, inspire, and entertain me with the stories they create in our time together. For more information about ReStory and all of our offerings visit www.ifyoucouldseeme.com

Thank you to the amazing Valley Haggard, founder of Life in 10 Minutes, for welcoming ReStory into the family! On Thursday, March 22 these seven incredible individuals shared their stories. Over the six weeks of our class they did so much soul searching during this process and supported one another so deeply that it was magic to sit with them each Monday morning. Next class begins Monday, 4/16 http://www.lifein10minutes.com/restory/ReStorytellers: Ray RyanDonna Johnson EdwardsFontaine Williamson Trish EdinboroSara BergerRosie MesserJerry Long

Joining Licensed Professional Counselor Michelle Nietert today on Counselor Thoughts is Mary DeMuth, author of 30 books translated into 5 languages and the founder of the Restory Conference, a local event coming to the DFW area on September 16th. In this episode, Mary and Michelle discuss the idea not only of reframing a life event but also seeing the hope that comes when we heal from our past.  Whether it involves traumatic relationships, divorce, a move or ending of a relationship or friendship we once held dear, many of us long to restory our lives so that we can create a new story filled with belonging, freedom and new life.  The discussion also includes practical ways a parent can coach their children towards healthy friendships and specific ways they can pray for their children as they face life struggles. If you’d like more information on Mary and her resources please visit http://www.marydemuth.com. The Restory Conference is a Saturday morning event and ticket prices will increase on September 8th.  I’d love to see you there and you can learn more about the conference and purchase tickets at https://www.restoryconference.us.  Thanks again for joining Counselor Thoughts. If you have questions for Michelle or suggestions for future episodes, feel free to contact her - michelle@counselorthoughts.com and if you are enjoying this podcast, we encourage you to subscribe and tell us and others what you think by leaving a review. Ordinary Mom, Extraordinary God: Encouragement to Refresh Your Soul (Hearts at Home Book) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0736915001/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_8gnQzbKP2V7MG Building the Christian Family You Never Had: A Practical Guide for Pioneer Parents https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400070317/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_iinQzb0AY710C

Restory Show (February 2017) Mary DeMuth and I talk about my journey of writing Courtship in Crisis and Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed.

Bruce Van Horn is an Author, Speaker, Teacher and Coach who helps people to ReStory their Passion, Purpose & Vision. Bruce is the creator and host of the "Life is a Marathon Podcast" and author of the books, "Worry No More! 4 Steps to Stop Worrying and Start Living" and " You Can Go The Distance." His story is incredible. Bruce's story ranged from the familiar (setting aside his creative passions early in life in exchange for corporate pursuits) to heart-wrenchingly unique (losing a daughter, and almost losing himself in a battle against cancer). The objective and honest way in which Bruce describes his journey, how it has shaped him and what's he's learned along the way will touch and inspire you. During the course of the conversation, I lost count of how many powerful and important little nuggets of hard-earned wisdom Bruce imparted upon the conversation. There were a lot of them, as you'll here. But here are just a few key takeaways that stood out from my chat with Bruce: 1. In order to transform anything in your life, you need to first make the decision to do so. And you need to make that decision more than once. Much more than once. I love the way Bruce describes this so I'll leave it at that for now and let you listen for yourself. 2. Through all the “problems” Bruce felt he had, he was able to boil it all down to recognizing he really only had just one problem: A Bruce problem. He speaks on it with remarkable clarity and accountability. This point alone one is a little piece of magical knowledge that anyone can apply in their life to great effect, if they're only as willing to accept responsibility as Bruce. 3. Stop criticizing yourself and start coaching yourself. I loved it when Bruce said that he finally recognized the negative voice in his head and that once he did, he was able to say to it, “You’re a liar.” ©2016 Kevin Bulmer Enterprises