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Essa semana, relaxamos consertando um PSP em ReStory: Chill Electronics Repairs e comentamos algumas coisas que vimos no Festival Jogatório. Nas notícias, os vazamentos de GTA VI, as novidades de Kingdom Hearts IV, a live desastrosa de Star Citizen, o fechamento da Night School Studios e mais!Blocos• 00:21:15: Novos vazamentos de GTA VI• 00:33:20: Novidades sobre Kingdom Hearts IV• 00:52:14: Declaração polêmica do CEO da Saber Interactive• 01:04:32: Netflix fechou mais estúdios de jogos• 01:14:12: Kinetic Publishing anuncia seus primeiros jogos• 01:20:05: Big Walk vendeu 1 milhão de cópias em uma semana• 01:23:27: Alan Wake 2 vendeu mais de 3 milhões de cópias• 01:30:18: Stream catastrófica de Star Citizen• 01:37:04: Destaques do Festival Jogatório• 02:00:07: ReStory: Chill Electronics Repairs• 02:25:02: Perguntas dos ouvintes• 02:35:38: Comentários dos ouvintes Apoie e acompanhe• Contribua• YouTube• Twitch• Bluesky• Contato
O Brother Where Art Thou is a somewhat musical, somewhat Odyssey retelling, and all story about a trio of idiots who get everything they want (although not exactly how they want it.) We talk about: Seattle Trip, No Other Choice, The Bitter Tears of Petra von Kant, Hell Maiden, Cacadia, Breaking Bad Finale, Return Of The King Is Bad, WWE2k Modding, Restory, U-Haulin', FF7, Fields Of Misteria, Heavenly Creatures, More Coen White People, Blind Seer, Selling Your Soul, Singin', Movie Twins, Horny Toad, Meeting At The Urinal, Spread My Seed, Put Him In The Tower, My Wife The Quest Giver, Deep Cut Odyssey, Tight Spot, Southern Off, Psylocke, Inflation, Idiot Trio,
Gen Con games we didn't get to last week, Restory, Big Walk, Fail Safe (1964)
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We witnessed a gaggle of Ls this week as Amazon/Twitch launch opt-out AI training on their streamers to everyone's dismay. Even more abysmal AI news: An ex-writer within Saber Interactive allegedly replaced by AI and the CEO has a very healthy reaction. Luckily we finally get our first real look at Kingdom Hearts 4 and it's launching sooner than we thought! Games this week: Continuing Big Walk, KOTOR 2, Sandustry, DIVE or DIE, ReStory and more! 00:00:00 - Intro00:01:00 - To the MOON00:04:00 - War Dogs00:09:20 - Mortal Shell 200:14:00 - Twitch/Amazon training AI off streamers00:29:00 - Writer gets replaced by AI00:41:00 - Weird things in WoW00:49:00 - Terraria Calamity mod shutting down00:54:30 - Kingdom Hearts 4 news00:57:00 - Marvel Rivals doing extremely well01:00:42 - People upset with Wolverine?01:07:00 - Elder Scrolls 6 looks great according to CEO of game01:09:50 - Alan Wake 2 sells 3 million copies01:13:20 - BEEG Walk01:19:50 - Falcom reports 110% profit growth from Trails in the Sky 101:21:00 - Fire Emblem Fortune's Weave01:26:50 - Marvel Tokon gets PC patch01:35:30 - Zeke played KOTOR201:44:50 - Sandustry01:49:40 - Lootbound01:59:00 - Chop Chop Inc.02:04:30 - DIVE or DIE02:11:20 - Pax Autocratica02:23:00 - Servant of the Lake02:30:00 - Below, Rusted Gods02:36:40 - Cat Mail Co.02:42:20 - ReStory02:49:00 - Dragonsword Awakening02:59:00 - Shoutouts See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
It is with a heavy heart that we share that the XCOM and Star Wars mashup, Star Wars: Zero Company, seems pretty good. You have another video game to play this year. At least, that's what Rob told Patrick and Chia on this episode of Remap Radio, where we chat about turn-based Clone Wars, Twitch's shockingly honest admission about AI, why nobody should work at Saber Interactive, the great time Patrick's having repairing electronics in ReStory, and more.Links: Saber Interactive CEO Responds to Accusations, Twitch Makes AI Training Opt-Out. Stream Clip of Twitch Explaining Why it's Opt -Out. The CouchmasterDiscussed:00:00:00 - Intro00:00:55 - Star Wars Zero Company00:56:20 - Saber Interactive accused of replacing writer with AI01:16:24 - Twitch is Training AI on you01:28:41 - The Normies and AI02:05:30 - ReStory02:22:58 - Big Walk02:34:58 - Question BucketSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Hey Leute, ich bin dann mal ein paar Tage weg. Hier ist ein Podcast für die Zwischenzeit. Viel Spaß beim Hören :DSpeckObstler PlayStation gehen die Ideen aus Halo ist tot Patreon/Steady Vergänglichkeit und was wir daraus lernen können Bonus: Brand New Podcast Ink Ribbon Radio VILE: Exhumed Sinners | Steady Andere Wertungskonferenz: PRAGMATA | HitStop Deluxe Unterstützt meine Arbeit auf Patreon oder Steady und erhaltet neben exklusiven Inhalten auch erweitertete Versionen dieses Paodcasts.PatreonSteadyHolt euch bei HOLY die Mystery Box und spart 10% mit meinem Code "SPECKOBST"Timestamps 00:00 Intro 01:39 Update NEUE SPIELE 08:37 ReStory: Chill Electronics Repair 15:18 Echobreaker 21:03 Kusan: City of Wolves NEWS 28:34 Steam Kundendaten Leak 30:45 Super Mario Bros Speedrun Perfection 34:09 Leute lieben die GTA VI Ultimate Edition 37:22 Moonlighter Steam Experiment 38:48 Lord of the Rings War in the North Legacy Edition 40:06 Super massive Entlassungen 42:19 Alan Wake 2 erreicht 3 Millionen Verkäufe 43:45 Persona 1 und 2 Remakes? THEMA 45:40 AI Steam Disclosure FRAGEN 56:20 Was sind Spiele mit einem besonderen oder einzigartigen Artstyle? 57:48 Würde sich deine Meinung zu Remakes ändern, wenn alle besser wären? 59:27 Wer könnte Xbox Studios kaufen? OUTRO 01:03:26 Die ganz besonderen Supporter
Googles neue Hardware ist da, nur die Gründe für ein Upgrade nicht. Amazon baut eigene Stromkraftwerke. «Ted Lasso» trainiert wieder und in «Restory: Chill Electronics Repairs» reparieren wir alte Handys und Konsolen.
Ricardo Regis do Nautilus se junto a nós para contar como tem sido sua experiência em Marvel Tokon, novo jogo de luta da Arc Sys focado em heróis e vilões do universo Marvel. Jeje teva a oportunidade de jogar o Star Fox de Switch 2, remake da versão de Nintendo 64, e também temos conversa sobre ReStory: Chill Electronics Repairs, que envolve arrumar aparelhos eletrônicos, como videogames antigos.Participantes:Ricardo RegisJessica PinheiroHeitor De PaolaAssuntos abordados:02:00 - Beast of Reincarnation17:00 - Marvel Tokon1:13:00 - Star Fox (2026)1:51:00 - ReStory2:15:00 - Heave Ho 2Vai comprar jogos na Nuuvem? Use o link de afiliado do Overloadr!Use nosso link de filiado ao fazer compras na Amazon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
As gaming gears up for another showcase season towards the end of August, Netflix has opened up the bag to get an extended look at Grand Theft Auto VI on August 27, and with it hitting YouTube some hours later, along with social media and all the sites. Final Fantasy VII Revelation will also get its time on the Geoff Keighley Gamescom Opening Night Live, there are reports that Kingdom Hearts IV also will get some time to shine at some point too. Although it is a bit delayed, we are also doing as a main topic the Best Games of 2026 So Far the Summer check-in. What are some of the highlights for Sean and Marc so far in this year and what games are they most looking forward to playing in what's left of the year or that they haven't been able to play quite yet. Plus, Square-Enix is doing well, so is Take-Two, and that's even without GTA VI hitting yet; Nintendo and Blizzard also appear in the episode. Marc has been playing ReStory, will we get Persona 1 & 2 remakes, and more!You can also watch this episode in video form on the W2M Network Youtube Channel, please give us a like, comment on the episode, and give the channel a subscribe and follow as well: https://youtube.com/live/SeV9TBR2DIQ
Ricardo Regis do Nautilus se junto a nós para contar como tem sido sua experiência em Marvel Tokon, novo jogo de luta da Arc Sys focado em heróis e vilões do universo Marvel. Jeje teva a oportunidade de jogar o Star Fox de Switch 2, remake da versão de Nintendo 64, e também temos conversa sobre ReStory: Chill Electronics Repairs, que envolve arrumar aparelhos eletrônicos, como videogames antigos.Participantes:Ricardo RegisJessica PinheiroHeitor De PaolaAssuntos abordados:02:00 - Beast of Reincarnation17:00 - Marvel Tokon1:13:00 - Star Fox (2026)1:51:00 - ReStory2:15:00 - Heave Ho 2Vai comprar jogos na Nuuvem? Use o link de afiliado do Overloadr!Use nosso link de filiado ao fazer compras na Amazon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
NeezieDuzIt, Jonmau5 and Hardly Dan would like to introduce you to Joysticks and Chill Episode 2 - The Sequel - Now with 90% more volume!Games we discuss: Alone in the Dark (2024) Saints Row Reboot (2022) Gothic (2026) Lego Batman Legacy of the Dark Knight, Hell Let Loose Vietnam, Restory and Farming Simulator 25.We discuss Sony ending physical discs for the Playstaion, Game going into administration again and talk about the best and worst peripherals we've ever had.Email us: joysticksandchill@gmail.comJoin our Discord: https://discord.gg/WGX6Du9PYg
The crew talk about the recent Microsoft layoffs, new games Restory and Rhythm Heaven Groove, and a bunch of classics including Resident Evil 2 and Twilight Princess. iTunes Page: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/noclip/id1385062988 RSS Feed: http://noclippodcast.libsyn.com/rss Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5XYk92ubrXpvPVk1lin4VB?si=JRAcPnlvQ0-YJWU9XiW9pg Watch our docs: https://youtube.com/noclipvideo Crewcast channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/noclippodcast Follow our games coverage escapades: https://www.youtube.com/@Noclip2 Learn About Noclip: https://www.noclip.video
In this best-of The Reconnect, Mary DeMuth, author of "Restory," talks about how through Jesus, He's not just saving you from past sin and hurt, but He actually reframes that past, rewrites your present and redefines your future. Embrace your "restory." Micah LaCerte, author of "The Breaker," talks about his story of pain and abuse, and how Jesus helped him and helps other men break the power of shame and guilt. Jesus is the breaker of those chains! The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here
O Brother Where Art Thou is a somewhat musical, somewhat Odyssey retelling, and all story about a trio of idiots who get everything they want (although not exactly how they want it.) We talk about: Seattle Trip, No Other Choice, The Bitter Tears of Petra von Kant, Hell Maiden, Cacadia, Breaking Bad Finale, Return Of The King Is Bad, WWE2k Modding, Restory, U-Haulin', FF7, Fields Of Misteria, Heavenly Creatures, More Coen White People, Blind Seer, Selling Your Soul, Singin', Movie Twins, Horny Toad, Meeting At The Urinal, Spread My Seed, Put Him In The Tower, My Wife The Quest Giver, Deep Cut Odyssey, Tight Spot, Southern Off, Psylocke, Inflation, Idiot Trio,
Mary DeMuth, author of "Restory," talks about how through Jesus, He's not just saving you from past sin and hurt, but He actually reframes that past, rewrites your present and redefines your future. Embrace your "restory." Licensed counselor Debra Fileta, host of "Talk to Me" and author of "People Skills," understand that sometimes it's hard to know what to talk about or how to communicate what you want to talk about. She offers help for us to understand the levels of communication and how to gain comfort in having conversations. The Reconnect with Carmen and all Faith Radio are made possible by your support. Give now: Click here
Today, we get practical with Type 8 counselor duo Chris Bruno and Tracy Johnson from ReStory Counseling and the Thrive Marriage Lab Podcast to talk about marriage conflict. Chris is a Licensed Professional Counselor specializing in men and masculinity, sexual addiction, trauma, and abuse, while Tracy is a storywork coach who sits with people in their untold stories, specializing in trauma, abuse, sexuality, marriage issues, and pregnancy loss. Together, they help couples discover the why behind the what in their marriage, and here they discuss the levels of conflict, why communication issues often stem from deeper emotional stories, how conflict reveals the landscape of your heart, and why understanding your narratives can enhance your marital connection. Chris and Tracy explain their ReStory approach: they don't settle for external behavior change or hand out tips and techniques. Instead, they hold out hope for true life-change that comes from heart-change. This conversation is about moving beyond surface-level communication problems to understand what your conflict is really revealing about your story, your wounds, and the restoration God wants to bring to your marriage. Find out more about ReStory here! Use the code ENNEAGRAMMARRIAGE for $20 EVERY Month of the Monthly Membership Group here! https://www.restory.life/thrive Restory for Men, Women, and Couples, https://www.restory.life/ Find the Thrive Marriage Lab Podcast here! https://thrivemarriage.transistor.fm/ Restory for Churches https://www.restory.life/restory-for-churches Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! www.EnneagramandMarriage.com Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too here! Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Host Erin Kerry sits down with author, speaker, and trauma survivor Mary E. DeMuth to talk about what it means to “restory” your life—allowing Jesus to reframe your past, rewrite your present, and redefine your future. Mary shares her personal healing journey and how childhood trauma shaped her understanding of God's presence, along with practical ways to recognize life turning points, step out of hiding, and embrace your God-given story. You'll learn how to move from feeling stuck to walking in purpose, how God's “chesed” (steadfast, covenant love) changes the way you see your story, and how both individuals and church leaders can create safe spaces for healing. If you're navigating trauma, midlife transitions, identity shifts, or faith struggles, this conversation will remind you: your story isn't over. Key Topics: - Mary's personal healing journey and the meaning of “restory” - How trauma shapes identity—and how God reframes it - Recognizing turning points in your life story - Why midlife is often a powerful season for transformation - How to get unstuck and step out of hiding - Practical habits and rhythms to restory your life - Understanding God's hesed (steadfast love) and its role in healing - How God sees and values women in their stories - Creating safe, trauma-informed spaces within the church - Moving from survival mode into purpose and calling Links Mentioned: Book: Restory Your Life: How Jesus Reframes Your Past, Rewrites Your Present, and Redefines Your Future Podcast: Pray Every Day Website: Marydemuth.com Join Erin's monthly mailing list to get health tips and fresh meal plans and recipes every month: https://mailchi.mp/adde1b3a4af3/monthlysparksignup Order Erin's new book, Live Beyond Your Label, at erinbkerry.com/upcomingbook/
What does it mean to restory your life? Mary DeMuth, literary agent, author, and podcaster, joins us today to talk about her newest book, Restory Your Life: How Jesus Reframes Your Past, Rewrites Your Present, and Redefines Your Future.Mary writes, "Maybe your story feels too messy. Maybe the wounds of your past still haunt you, keeping you stuck in cycles of pain, regret, or doubt. Or maybe you're just exhausted―longing for purpose and meaning but unsure of how to move forward. But what if the very parts of your story you'd rather forget are the ones God wants to redeem?"Links and Resources from this episodeLearn more about Mary's writing and work: marydemuth.comVisit Mary's Etsy store: marydemuthartFind Janell and Join the Heartlifting Community:Heartlift Wellness on SubstackJanell's website: janellrardon.comOrder Stronger Every Day: 9 Tools for an Emotionally Healthy You and download a free Study Guide.Support the podcast and leave a review here.
You can go from a life of woe to a life of WHOA… How? By letting Jesus rewrite your story. This week, the Etc. gang chats with Mary DeMuth about […] The post Mary DeMuth | Restory Your Life | Steve Brown, Etc. appeared first on Key Life.
You can go from a life of woe to a life of WHOA How? By letting Jesus rewrite your story. This week, the Etc. gang chats with Mary DeMuth about [] The post Mary DeMuth | Restory Your Life | Steve Brown, Etc. appeared first on Key Life. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/1544/29?v=20251111
PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In today's episode, I sit down with Mary DeMuth, author of Restory Your Life, to talk about her powerful journey from childhood trauma and sexual abuse to healing and restoration through faith in Jesus. Mary shares how storytelling, community, and embracing our identity in Christ help us move from brokenness to wholeness. We discuss the ongoing nature of healing, the importance of safe spaces to share our unfiltered stories, and how God can re-story our lives for hope and purpose. Mary's honesty and wisdom offer encouragement for anyone seeking restoration and a new chapter in their story. To learn more about Mary and get her books, visit MaryDeMuth.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Mary Demuth's personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and sexual abuse.The role of faith in Jesus in the healing process.The concept of restoration as a journey from brokenness to wholeness.The importance of storytelling and community in healing.The idea of "re-storying" one's life and redefining identity through faith.The ongoing nature of healing and the layers involved in trauma recovery.The significance of expressing thoughts and sharing experiences to break cycles of pain.The distinction between healing and maturing in the context of personal growth.Practical tools for restoration, including journaling and reflecting on one's story.The need for safe spaces in communities, particularly churches, to discuss and address issues of sexual abuse.More Resources:Restory Your Life* by Mary DeMuthThe Wall Around Your Heart* by Mary DeMuthSex & Anxiety (online course)Related Podcasts:Help and Hope for Women to Heal from Sexual AbuseLord Be Near: Finding Hope in Suffering through PrayerFreedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse*This is an affiliate link. Be Broken may earn referral fees on purchases through this link.----------Please rate and review our podcast: Apple PodcastsFollow us on our Vimeo Channel.
Settle in for a heartfelt, hope-filled conversation between Allie Marie Smith and author and speaker Mary DeMuth. In this episode, Mary vulnerably shares her journey of healing from childhood trauma and how faith in Jesus met her in the middle of her pain. Together, they talk about the power of storytelling and why your story—especially the hard parts—matters. You'll hear how sharing our experiences can be a meaningful step toward healing, both for ourselves and for others. Mary also offers practical insights into tools such as EMDR therapy and the importance of safe, supportive relationships. The episode closes with a gentle invitation to take a brave next step—whether that's sharing your story, seeking support, or simply believing that healing is possible. You are not alone, and your story matters.
Mary DeMuth is a bestselling author, international speaker, host of the Pray Every Day podcast, and has devoted her life to helping people heal from difficult stories. And yet, before guiding others toward hope, Mary was a little girl growing up in chaos, navigating abuse, neglect, addiction, and the loss of her father. Today, Mary shares how to move from victim to survivor to healer, why lament is not weakness but faith refusing to let go, and what forgiveness really looks like in real life. She speaks honestly about trauma resurfacing years later, the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and how striving to prove your worth can quietly shape your identity. Her words are gentle, grounded, and deeply practical. My friends, if you are tired of carrying pain in silence or rushing yourself past grief, this conversation is for you. You will leave with courage, practical wisdom and the reminder that the best is yet to come.
Firstly, Discord is telling its users that they're implementing either facial scan or uploading your ID to prove you're an adult. What scary times eh? We've played Restory, which is a wonderful, cozy assembling game where you run a secondary shop to fix older things. It's quite fun. Pezzy played Mewgenics and No Rest for the Wicked and has some thoughts on them.
Adinel Dincă is Associate Professor at Babeș-Bolyai University (UBB) in Cluj-Napoca. In this interview he talks about his major research project “Restory – Recovering Past Stories for the Future: A Synergistic Approach to Textual and Oral Heritage of Small Communities”. While this project focuses on the little known group of Transylvanian Saxons, it includes partners from all over Europe. The project aims to rediscover local experiences and micro histories by working along-side local galleries, libraries, archives, and museums, to share them with the localities that the stories came from.Adinel breaks down how the endeavour was developed, how the several elements of the project function and how the partners are working together. He also points out that the research is particularly interested in the local stories of good resource management, whether this is through primary education to build better human resources, or through re-use and re-purposing of physical resources for pragmatic and symbolic aims.This podcast is part of a series of interviews covering central Europe in the medieval period for MECERN and CEU Department of Historical Studies.The Restory project is funded by the European Research Executive Agency through the Research and Innovation Actions, Cluster 2 - Culture, Creativity, Inclusive Society, Pillar 2 of Horizon Europe (call HORIZON-CL2-2023-HERITAGE-01-04: Cultural heritage in transformation – facing change with confidence; Project nr. 101132781). Views and opinions expressed are however those of the author(s) only and do not necessarily reflect those of the European Union or the European Research Executive Agency. Neither the European Union nor the granting authority can be held responsible for them.
We reflect on the first season of a new TV series that explores Stephen King's clown-centric horror universe, check out a decorative piece of technology for Christmas that will invoke some arcade memories, and play the early preview of a Zen-like game where the goal is to restore vintage electronics. (May contain some explicit language.) Patreon » patreon.com/genxgrownupDiscord » GenXGrownUp.com/discordFacebook » fb.me/GenXGrownUpTwitter » GenXGrownUp.com/twitterWebsite » GenXGrownUp.comPodcast » GenXGrownUp.com/podMerchandise » GenXGrownUp.com/merchTheme: “Grown Up” by Beefy » beefyness.com Apple » itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/genxgrownup-podcast/id1268365641CastBox » castbox.fm/channel/GenXGrownUp-Podcast-id2943471?country=usPocket Casts » pca.st/8iuLAudible » amz.run/6yhRTuneIn » tunein.com/radio/GenXGrownUp-Podcast-p1020342/Spotify » spoti.fi/2TB4LR7iHeart » www.iheart.com/podcast…Amazon Music » amzn.to/33IKfEK Show Notes Now You See Me, Now You Don't » youtu.be/-E3lMRx7HRQ?si=68fV0P35IrapJ1Bo Tron: Ares » youtu.be/YShVEXb7-ic?si=L1dItK8TG8TVlAfQ Welcome to Derry » youtu.be/oKa6u7LT0qE?si=pO0wqgjIHo7FSO3z Electric Arc Lighter » amzn.to/3MI3Z5n (affiliate) WOLFBOX Electric Air Duster » amzn.to/4pRZILw (affiliate) Star Trek™: Strategic Operations Simulator Arcade Game Ornament With Light and Sound » www.hallmark.com/ornaments/keepsake-ornaments/star-trek-strategic-operations-simulator-arcade-game-ornament-with-light-and-sound-5QXI8815.html Capes » store.steampowered.com/app/2081080/Capes/ The Darkside Detective » store.steampowered.com/app/368390/The_Darkside_Detective/ The Darkside Detective Live » youtube.com/live/-1baoJQbC-s?feature=share ReStory » store.steampowered.com/app/3812600/ReStory_Chill_Electronics_Repairs/ Avatar: Fire and Ash » youtu.be/nb_fFj_0rq8?si=zb3LDLfwTzfqP0jo The Copenhagen Test » youtu.be/cfTcNb104NI?si=e6KOFdW6OJNwFxY4 Startfleet Academy » youtu.be/rHDDzcyNWGs?si=4GdOHC481cSWW1Ik Email the show » podcast@genxgrownup.com Visit us on YouTube » GenXGrownUp.com/yt Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
How do you write 2,000 words daily while managing 40 clients and a daily podcast? Mary DeMuth's productivity system is deceptively simple but devastatingly effective. She treats writing "like a muscle"—consistency builds strength, breaks destroy momentum. Her secret weapon: Self-imposed deadlines for a decade before getting published. When real deadlines arrived, she was already trained to deliver early. Results: 52 published books, 6 million podcast downloads, and a literary agency that revolutionizes author-agent relationships through community building. Discover Mary's complete creative productivity system in Episode 528 of Get Yourself Optimized. The show notes, including the transcript and checklist to this episode, are at getyourselfoptimized.com/528.
Today Claire Pedrick is talking to Koralia Timotheou about her journey from a corporate career to coaching, the importance of storytelling in shaping our lives, and the concepts outlined in her book 'Restore, Restory, Restart'. They discuss the differences between coaching and therapy, the significance of understanding our true selves, and how to approach life changes with simplicity and mindfulness. Takeaways Koralia's journey began as a midlife awakening, leading her to coaching. The importance of returning to childhood passions for self-discovery. Stories shape our subconscious and influence our beliefs. Re-storying allows individuals to change their narratives and life paths. Understanding the laws of nature can simplify our lives. Contact Koralia through info@koraliatimotheou.com Contact Claire by emailing info@3dcoaching.com or checking out her 3D Coaching Supervision Community If you like this episode, subscribe or follow The Coaching Inn on your podcast platform or our YouTube Channel to hear or see new episodes as they drop. If you'd like to find out more about 3D Coaching, you can get all our new ideas and offers in our weekly email. Coming Up: John Blakey will be talking about his new book: Force for Good Soon - Candida Javaid at the Podcast Corner Key Words coaching, storytelling, personal development, re-story, therapy, life purpose, self-discovery, midlife awakening, restore restart We love having a variety of guests join us! Please remember that inviting someone to participate does not mean we necessarily endorse their views or opinions. We believe in open conversation and sharing different perspectives.
Telos recently led a ReStory US trip to the city of Charleston, South Carolina. Through our ReStory program we are working together to repair our home by knowing, owning, and writing a more honest American story. This conversation with Dr. DeSean Dyson and Dr. Otis Pickett unpacks some of the unique history of Charleston, and lessons, insights, and stories that can help our work of ReStorying our own communities, regardless of where we live. Our conversation touches on the history of Christian implication in injustice as well as Christian resistance to it, the importance of seeking out diverse historical narratives, and why history is critical to understanding the context today. With it, we can own our agency to act in imaginative and creative ways in pursuit of true and lasting peace.Read and share the Principles and Practices of PeacemakingJoin the Telos Learning CorpsFrom DeSean and Otis:40 Acres and a LiePurpose That Prevails (Dr. Otis' podcast)Liberia, South CarolinaVoices of Black South CarolinaBlack CharlestoniansIf you're enjoying the podcast, become a monthly donor to Telos!Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
In this replay episode, Ned revisits a powerful conversation with Chris Bruno about the true meaning of marriage vows and the challenges of staying committed through tough times. Chris explains how understanding and embracing both the pain and glory in ourselves and our spouses can transform our relationships. They discuss the idea that love isn't just a feeling but a choice that requires sacrifice and growth. Men are urged to reflect on their role as husbands and fathers and are offered insights on how to better show up for their families.Links and ResourcesChris on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-bruno-3567718/ ReStory: https://www.restory.life/ Restoration Project: https://www.restorationproject.net/ Sage by Chris Bruno: https://tinyurl.com/bdfadajv Brotherhood by Chris Bruno: https://tinyurl.com/yc2r9569 Man Maker Project by Chris Bruno: https://tinyurl.com/yr7s5n5m---------Transform Your Body with Ned & RUK Fitness: RUK FitnessThis episode is sponsored by The Adventure of FatherhoodOrder The Adventure of Fatherhood children's book hereCheck out the TEDx----------Want to learn more about The Adventure of Fatherhood?https://www.adventureoffatherhood.com/https://www.rebelandcreate.com/Each week Ned sits down with a dad and asks him to open up his field notes and share with other men who find themselves on the Adventure of Fatherhood. Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review!Follow us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatherhoodfieldnotesYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@FatherhoodfieldnotesFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/rebelandcreateMentioned in this episode:RUK...
Guest Bios Show Transcript https://youtu.be/g3j3C25thlcMuch research has been done to address individual trauma. But what happens when trauma is collective—when an entire congregation, for example, is betrayed by a pastor they trusted? In this edition of The Roys Report, Kayleigh Clark, a pastor and a pastor's kid, discusses the impact of communal suffering, which church leaders often overlook. Kayleigh, a doctoral student at Kairos University, is completing her dissertation on congregational collective trauma and paths towards healing and restoration. And what she's learned is ground-breaking for churches that have experienced pastoral abandonment or moral failure and are struggling to recover. As was explained in the popular book, The Body Keeps the Score, unhealed trauma—if unaddressed—will manifest itself as physical and psychological ailments in our bodies. Likewise, unaddressed trauma in the Body of Christ will also manifest as corporate dysfunction and pain. But as Kayleigh explains in this eye-opening podcast, this doesn't have to be the case. Healing is available. But it requires congregants and spiritual leaders who understand trauma and don't try to charge forward before the congregation has healed. Given all the unhealed trauma in the church, this is such a relevant and important podcast. It's also one that discusses dynamics Julie knows all too well, as someone who's in a church with others who've experienced deep church hurt. She discusses her own experience in the podcast, which could be a prime case study. Guests Kayleigh Clark Kayleigh Clark is founder and director of Restor(y), which exists to journey with churches on the hope-filled path of healing and restoration. She completed a Master of Divinity at Northeastern Seminary and is currently a Th.D. Candidate at Kairos University with a focus on the interplay between psychology and theology. Kayleigh and her husband, Nate, love exploring the outdoors with their son near their home in Rochester, New York. Learn more about Restor(y) online. Show Transcript [00:00:00] Julie: Much research has been done to address individual trauma, but what happens when trauma is collective? When an entire congregation, for example, is betrayed by a pastor they trusted. According to my guest today, the impact of communal suffering is often overlooked, but the body of Christ keeps score. [00:00:22] Julie: Welcome to The Roys Report, a podcast dedicated to reporting the truth and restoring the church. I’m Julie Roys. And joining me today is Kaylee Clark, a pastor and a pastor’s kid who’s well acquainted with the beauty, joy, pain, and heartache that exists within the church. Kaylee also is a doctoral student at Kairos University, and her dissertation work focuses on congregational collective trauma and paths towards healing and restoration. [00:00:50] Julie: She also is the director of ReStory, a ministry to help churches heal and embody the hope of Jesus, especially after experiencing a devastating loss or betrayal. I had the pleasure of meeting Kaylee about a week ago, and I was so excited by her insights and the work that she’s doing that I was like, you have to come on my podcast. [00:01:10] Julie: So I am thrilled that she can join me today, and I know you’re going to be blessed by this podcast. I’ll get to my interview with Kaylee in just a minute, but first, I’d like to thank the sponsors of this podcast, the Restore Conference and Mark Horta Barrington. If you’re someone who’s experienced church hurt or abuse, there are few places you can go to pursue healing. [00:01:30] Julie: So, Similarly, if you’re an advocate, counselor, or pastor, there are a few conferences designed to equip you to minister to people traumatized in the church. But the Restore Conference, this February 7th and 8th in Phoenix, Arizona, is designed to do just that. Joining us will be leading abuse survivor advocates like Mary DeMuth and Dr. [00:01:50] Julie: David Pooler An expert in adult clergy sexual abuse. Also joining us will be Scott McKnight, author of A Church Called Toe, Diane Langberg, a psychologist and trauma expert, yours truly, and more. For more information, just go to Restore2025. com. That’s Restore2025. com. Also, if you’re looking for a quality new or used car, I highly recommend my friends at Marquardt of Barrington. [00:02:17] Julie: Marquardt is a Buick GMC dealership where you can expect honesty, integrity, and transparency. That’s because the owners there, Dan and Kurt Marquardt are men of integrity. To check them out, just go to buyacar123. com. [00:02:37] Julie: Well, again, joining me today is Kaylee Clark, a pastor and doctoral student who’s studying congregational collective trauma and the paths to healing and restoration. She’s also the founder of Restoree and she’s a wife and mother of a beautiful baby boy. So Kaylee, welcome. It’s just such a pleasure to have you. [00:02:56] Kayleigh: Thank you. Thank you for having me. It’s an honor and a pleasure to be with you today. [00:03:00] Julie: Well, I am just thrilled to have you on our podcast and I mentioned this in the open, but We talked last week and I was just like, Oh my word, everything that you’re doing, your work is so important. And it’s so where I’m living right now. [00:03:15] Julie: And I know a lot of our listeners are living as well. And so I’m thrilled about it. But as you mentioned, your work is, is unique. We’re going to get into that, but I am just curious, this whole idea, collective trauma, you know, ministering. To the church. How did you get interested in this work? [00:03:33] Kayleigh: Sure. Um, so I am fourth generation clergy. [00:03:37] Kayleigh: So great grandpa, grandpa, my dad, and then me. So are all pastors. Uh, and so I’ve just always known the church, uh, pastors have also been kind of my second family. I’ve always felt at home amongst the church and amongst pastors. Um, but when you grow up in the parsonage and other PKs will know this, uh, you are not hidden from. [00:03:58] Kayleigh: The difficult portions of church and the really hard components of church. And so then when you add on to that, becoming a pastor myself, you know, my eyes continued to be open, uh, to some of the ways that church can be a harmful place as much of it as it is a healing place. And I began to kind of ask the question, well, well, why, um, what is going on here? [00:04:21] Kayleigh: Um, particularly because when I served and we’ll get into more of this, I think, but when I was serving in my first lead pastor, it’s. So I’m a really young, I was like 27 when they, or 28 when they entrusted me when I first lead pastorate, which is kind of wild. And so they kind of threw me in and what they do with most young pastors is they kind of throw us into these dying churches. [00:04:44] Kayleigh: And so, right, it’s a small. Church with, you know, it’s dying, it’s dwindled in numbers. And so this is my first kind of lead pastorate. And, you know, I read all the books, I’m a learner, I’m a reader. I, you know, I know how to do all the things. And so I’m reading all of the books on how to revitalize a church and raise a church up from it and all those things and nothing is working. [00:05:06] Kayleigh: Um, and it started to kind of really raise my attention to, well, maybe there’s something else going on here. Um, And, and maybe we’ve been asking the wrong questions when we’ve been approaching the church. Uh, and so, uh, again, I’m a learner, so I was like, well, I’m just going to go back to school. If that was the only way I knew how to figure this out. [00:05:25] Kayleigh: So I landed in a THD program that focused on combining the studies of trauma theory with theology. Um, and my undergraduate degree is in psychology, so it felt kind of like a merging of my two worlds. Um, and it was there that I encountered collective trauma and. Really in an interesting way, studying, um, more like childhood development trauma. [00:05:46] Kayleigh: But anytime I looked at it, all I could see was the church, um, and seeing the ways in which there might be a bigger picture. There might be a bigger story going on here. And maybe there’s some collective congregational trauma underneath the, these dying, uh, declining churches that we just aren’t aware of. [00:06:04] Julie: So, so good. And this is the thing that, that just stuns me. When I, I, I do an investigation and the top pastor gets fired, sometimes all the elders step down, but the church, it’s, it’s unbelievably rare for one of those churches to thrive afterwards. And I, and I think so much of it is they think, Oh, we got rid of the bad apple. [00:06:29] Julie: And they have no concept of how that toxicity, one, you know, the toxic, often bullying way of relating and everything was, was taught and learned and trained throughout. But then there is that trauma and, and I just, I think of Willow Creek Community Church, I went to their, it was like a midweek service where they were going to deal with, Supposedly, the women who had been sexually harassed and abused by Bill Heibel’s, the previous pastor, and they didn’t even name it. [00:07:08] Julie: They didn’t name what had happened. They didn’t go into what had happened. They didn’t apologize to the women. The women became like this amorphous something out there, the women, you know? Um, and, and then they talked about, they had a repentance time, like we’re supposed to repent for his sins. It was the most bizarre, unhealing thing I had ever seen. [00:07:27] Julie: And I couldn’t imagine how after something that dysfunctional, a church could go, okay, we’re back, you know, reach the lost, you know, seeker sensitive church. It was just bizarre. Um, so, so much of your work is, is resonating with me. And again, We’ve seen a lot in and it’s really important is dealing with individual trauma and which is super important work. [00:07:53] Julie: Um, and my last podcast with Chuck DeGroat, we talked a lot about that. We talk a lot about that on a lot of podcasts, but we often don’t address again, what’s this collective trauma that, that, you know, that it actually has a social aspect. So talk about why is it important that we begin addressing collective trauma and not just individual trauma, though, you know, obviously we each need to heal as individuals, but collectively as well. [00:08:24] Kayleigh: Yeah. So collective trauma is a newer field, even in psychological studies. So it’s, Not as old as individual trauma studies, and it actually became more popular through the work of Kai Erikson, who’s a sociologist. He’s not even a psychologist, but he studied collective trauma in kind of what he refers to as unnatural disasters. [00:08:43] Kayleigh: And so these disasters that are experienced by communities that have a human, like, blame component. So it was due to somebody’s negligence due to somebody’s poor leadership due to somebody’s abuse, and it’s on a community. And so Kai Erickson notes the, the social, he calls it the social dimension of trauma or collective trauma. [00:09:03] Kayleigh: And what he, he details there is that collective trauma is anything that disrupts and ruptures the, uh, relationships within a community. Distorting and taking apart their, uh, he calls it communality instead of community, but it’s their sense of, like, neighborliness. It’s their sense of being together. It’s their, Their shared identity and their, their shared memories are all now distorted. [00:09:26] Kayleigh: And so I think when we’re speaking specifically about the church, and when we’re looking at religious trauma and congregational trauma, we need to remember that the church is first and foremost, a community. And so sometimes I think that’s missed in our kind of American individualism. You know, a lot of people kind of view spirituality as this individualistic thing, but the church is a community. [00:09:48] Kayleigh: And so when we come together as the body of Christ, you know, when wounding happens, when trauma comes, it breaks down the relationships within that congregation, which really. is what makes it a church. The relationships are what make that a church. And so when trauma comes in and disrupts those and starts causing the divisions and the distrust and the he said, she said, and the choosing of sides and the church splits and all of these things have these ripple effects on the community. [00:10:19] Kayleigh: Um, and they really are, are traumatizing. And so what happens is that if we don’t deal, if we’re only dealing with the individual trauma, In part, that’s usually dealing with people who have left the church, right? And so usually the people who are seeking individual healing from their religious trauma, who are able to name that, who are able to say, I went through this, have often stepped outside of the church. [00:10:42] Kayleigh: Sometimes just for a season, which is completely understandable. They need that time away. They need time to heal. They’re, they don’t, feel safe. But what we’re missing when we neglect the social dimension of religious trauma are often the people who stay are these congregations who can’t name it yet, who can’t articulate that what they’ve gone through is religious trauma, who who maybe are still trying to figure out what that means. [00:11:07] Kayleigh: Often it means that we’re missing, um, you know, these, these the church that I served in, you know, isn’t one of these big name churches that’s going to get, you know, newscasted about. And they can’t necessarily name what happened to them as religious trauma because nobody’s given them the language for it. [00:11:25] Kayleigh: And so we’ve often missed these, these declining churches. We’ve missed because we haven’t remembered that Trauma is communal that trauma is relational. And so we need to, yes, provide as much care and as much resourcing as we can for the healing of individuals, because you can’t heal the community if the individuals don’t know. [00:11:44] Kayleigh: But we really need to remember that the community as a whole. impacted, and that especially when we’re talking about the church, we want to be able to heal and restore those relationships. And to do that means we have to address the social dimensions of the religious trauma. And so [00:12:01] Julie: often the people that, that stay aren’t aware of what’s happened to them. [00:12:08] Julie: Are they not even aware they’re traumatized? [00:12:11] Kayleigh: Right, right. Yeah. [00:12:13] Julie: Yeah. You introduced this, this concept, which is great. I mean, it’s, it’s a riff off of the book, The Body Keeps the Score, which, you know, um, just an incredible book by, uh, Dr. Vander Kolk. But this idea that the body of Christ keeps the score. [00:12:33] Julie: Describe what you mean by that, that the body of Christ keeps the score when there’s this kind of trauma that it’s experiencing. [00:12:40] Kayleigh: Sure. So you kind of alluded to it earlier when you were giving an example of the removing of a toxic pastor, right? And then just the placement of a new pastor. And so often what happens in these situations where there’s spiritual abuse or, um, clergy misconduct or any of those things that’s causing this religious trauma, the answer seems to be, well, let’s just remove the. [00:13:00] Kayleigh: Problem person. And then that will solve everything. Um, well, what happens is we forget that trauma is embodied, right? And so you can remove the physical threat. Um, but if you remove the physical threat or the problem person, but this congregation still has this embodied sense of trauma in which they perceive threat now. [00:13:23] Kayleigh: So they’re reacting to their surroundings out of that traumatized position, because that’s what the collective body has learned to do. And so you see this, um, It’s a silly example, but I use it because I think people see it a lot. So you have a new pastor come in and the new pastor has a great idea, at least he or she thinks it’s a great idea. [00:13:46] Kayleigh: And it probably has to do with removing pews or changing carpet color. Okay. And so they present this, what they think is just a great harmless idea. And the response of the congregation is almost volatile and the pastor can’t figure out why. And often, unfortunately, what pastors have kind of been taught to identify is that they must just idolatry. [00:14:11] Kayleigh: They just have the past as an idol for them and they need to kill this golden cow. Right. And so it becomes this theological problem. Sure, there might be cases where that is the truth, but often I would say that there’s, um, a wonderful. So another great book on trauma. It’s more on racialized trauma, but it deals a lot with historical trauma is, um, rest my Mac mannequins book, um, my grandmother’s hands and in it, he addresses this historical trauma that is embodied and he quotes Dr. [00:14:42] Kayleigh: Noel Larson, who says, if it’s hysterical, it’s probably historical. In other words, if the reaction to the thing happening doesn’t seem to match, like it seems out of proportion, either too energized or not enough energy around it, it’s probably connected to some kind of historical trauma that hasn’t been processed. [00:15:03] Kayleigh: And so we see this a lot in churches who are having a hard time being healthy and flourishing and engaging with the community around them. And. The reason why is often because they have this unhealed trauma that nobody’s given them language for. Nobody’s pointed out, nobody’s addressed for them. Um, and so it’s just kind of lingering under the surface, unhealed, unnamed, and it’s informing how they believe, how they act. [00:15:33] Kayleigh: Um, and so this is really What I mean when I say the body of Christ keeps the score is that the body of Christ has embodied this trauma and it’s coming out in their behaviors, in their actions, in their values, and our pastors are not equipped to address it from a trauma informed perspective. They’ve only been given tools to address it from maybe a theological position, or this kind of revitalization remissioning perspective. [00:16:02] Kayleigh: That often doesn’t work. [00:16:04] Julie: There’s so many things I’m thinking as as you’re talking. I mean one. to come in and do something. And then because people react to, I mean, basically that’s shaming them. It’s guilting them to say, Oh, you have an idol or what’s wrong with you that you can’t get on board. And the truth is they don’t know what’s wrong with them. [00:16:23] Julie: They, they don’t. And, and they’re hurt. And all they know is you just, they’re hurt and now you’ve hurt them. So now they don’t trust you. So way to go. Um, but I’m thinking maybe because we brought this up and I don’t mean to beat up on, on Willow Creek, but I’m thinking about. When the new pastor came in, and I don’t think he’s a bad guy, um, you know, they, they were bleeding money. [00:16:45] Julie: Obviously they, they did not have the resources they did before. So one of the first things they did was they centralized, which meant the campus pastors weren’t going to be preaching anymore. They were going to be pumping in video sermons. Here’s the pastor that people trusted on these campuses. Now, that person’s not going to be preaching, which then of course, all of them left. [00:17:06] Julie: They ended up leaving and the trauma you’d now it’s trauma upon trauma. And it just seems like, especially in so many of these churches, you bring somebody in and they want to move somewhere like, right. They want a thriving church. What they don’t want to do is be at a church and sit in your pain. And yet. [00:17:27] Julie: Unless that’s done, I mean, can these churches, I mean, can they move forward? I mean, what’s going to happen if you come in and you don’t? slow down and say, these people are hurting and I need to, I need to be a shepherd. Then that’s the other thing. It’s so many of these mega churches, and I know this isn’t unique to mega churches that this happens, but I, it’s the world in which I report so often is that these mega churches are very mission vision, five year plan oriented and what they’re not capable of doing. [00:17:59] Julie: I think so many of these, you know, and they always bring in the, the pastor. That’s a good orator, maybe not a shepherd at all. In fact, some of these guys even say, I’m not a shepherd, which that’s another, yeah, I mean, but, but to actually, they need a shepherd at that point. Right. I mean, these, these people need it. [00:18:20] Julie: So, I mean, again, what, what do they need to do? And what happens if they don’t do some of these things? [00:18:28] Kayleigh: So the thing that I have really been drawn to, especially as I study Jesus, and I look at what it means to be trauma informed in the pastorate. So I, I do believe that God is still working through pastors. [00:18:39] Kayleigh: Um, in fact, there’s a really beautiful section of scripture in Jeremiah 23, where God is addressing abusive shepherds and God’s response is, I will raise up new shepherds. So God still wants to work through shepherds. There is still a place for a pastor. The problem is, is I don’t think we’ve taught pastors how to lead out of a posture of compassionate curiosity. [00:19:03] Kayleigh: And so if you follow Jesus and you look at the way that Jesus interacts with hurting people, it is out of this beautiful, humble posture of compassionate curiosity. And so I was always struck by like, he asks the blind man, what do you want me to do for you? And it always seemed like a. That’s a strange question. [00:19:20] Kayleigh: Like, he’s blind, Jesus. What do you think he and often it’s preached on, like, well, we need to be able to tell God what we want. And that’s maybe some of it. But I think it’s also the truth that God knows that it can be re traumatizing to somebody to tell them what they need and what they want. Right? So what we learned when we studied trauma is that it’s not. [00:19:40] Kayleigh: So especially when we’re talking trauma caused by abuse is that abuse is so connected to control. And so what has often happened to these victims of religious abuse of spiritual abuse is that they have had control taken from them entirely. And so when a new pastor comes in and tells them, this is what you need to get healthy again, and never takes the time to approach them from this. [00:20:02] Kayleigh: posture of compassionate curiosity, they can end up re traumatizing them. Um, but our pastors aren’t trained to ask these questions. And so, so often if you read, you know, and they’re well meaning books, you know, they’re, they’re trying to get to what’s going on in the heart of the church. They’re trying to get back to church health, but so many of the books around that have to deal with. [00:20:23] Kayleigh: Asking the church, what are you doing or what are you not doing? And trauma theory teaches us to ask a different question. And that question is what happened to you? And I think if pastors were trained to go into churches and ask the question, what happened to you and just sit with a church and a hold the church and, and listen to the stories of the church, they, they might discover that these people have never been given space to even think about it that way. [00:20:52] Kayleigh: You know, where they’ve just, they’ve had abusive leaders who have just been removed or they’ve had manipulative leaders who have just been removed and they’ve just been given a new pastor and a new pastor and nobody’s given them the space. To articulate what that’s done to them, um, as individuals and as a congregation. [00:21:09] Kayleigh: And so if we can learn to, to follow Jesus in just his curiosity, and he asks the blind man, what do you want me to do for you? He, he says, who touched me when the woman reaches out and touches him. And that’s not a, it’s not a question of condemnation. That’s a question of permission giving. He knows that this woman needs more than physical healing. [00:21:28] Kayleigh: She needs relational healing. She needs to tell her story. And by pausing and saying, who touched me? He provides a space for her to share her story that she’s never been able to share with anyone before. And I think if we were to follow that Jesus, as pastors and as leaders, we would begin to love the Bride of Christ in such a way that would lead to her healing, instead of feeling the need to just rush her through some five year plan to what we think is healing and wholeness, and what actually may not be what they would say is what they need. [00:22:02] Julie: So many things you’re saying are resonating with me. And part of that’s because, uh, like I said, we’re living this. Um, I, I told you last week when we talked that our, our house church was going on a retreat, first retreat we’ve ever had. We’ve been together a little over, well, for me, I came in about two years ago and I think they had been meeting maybe eight or nine months before then. [00:22:29] Julie: Some of the people in our group, Um, don’t come out of trauma. Um, you know, one of our, one of the couples in our church, uh, they’re like young life leaders, really just delightful, delightful, delightful people, but they haven’t lived the religious trauma. One couple is, they’re from the mission field and they had a great missions experience. [00:22:55] Julie: The only trauma they might be experiencing is coming home to the U. S. The truth is they love the mission field, right? Um, and then. The remainder of us come from two, two churches, um, that, that had some sexual abuse that was really, you know, mishandled and the trust with the leaders was, was broken in really grievous ways. [00:23:19] Julie: Um, and then there’s me on top of having that, um, living in this space where, I mean, I just report on this all the time. And so, but one of the beautiful things that happened in this, in this group is that it did have leaders when we came into it and it triggered us. Like, you know, and for us it was like, oh, here’s the inside group and the outside group. [00:23:47] Julie: Like, we’re used to the ins and the outs, right? And, and we’re used to the inside group having power and control, and the rest of us just kind of go along with it. And, and we’re, we’re a tiny little group. Like we’re 20 some people, right? But, but it’s just, and, and we’re wonderful people. Wonderful people. [00:24:02] Julie: And yet we still like, it was like, mm. And um, and so. The beautiful thing is that those leaders recognize, like they didn’t fully understand it, but they said, you know, I think we need to just step down and just not have leaders. And I didn’t even realize till we went on this retreat what an act of service and of love that was for them to just say, were laying down any, any agendas we might’ve had, any even mission or vision that we might’ve had. [00:24:35] Julie: And for one of, you know, one of the guys, it was really hard for him cause he’s just like, Mr. Mr. Energy and initiative. And, and he was like, I better not take initiative because like, it’s, it’s not going to be good for these folks. Um, and on the retreat. So then, I mean, it was, it was really a Holy Spirit. [00:24:54] Julie: experience, I think for all of us, because there definitely was a camp that was like, okay, we’ve had this kind of healing time, but can, can we move forward a little bit? Like, can we, can we have some intentionality? And then there were part of us that were just like, oh my word, if we, if we, if we have leaders, why do we need leaders? [00:25:12] Julie: We’re 20 something people. Like we can just decide everything ourselves. And, and there really was somewhat of an impasse, but it’s interesting. The things that you said for me, And it was funny at one point. They’re like, can’t you just trust? And, you know, kind of like, what, what are you guys afraid of? You know? [00:25:29] Julie: And the first thing that came out of my mouth was control control. Like we’re afraid of control, um, or I’m afraid of control. Um, but what was so, so. Huge for me and I think was one of those again, Holy Spirit moments was when, you know, I was trying to like make a point about power dynamics, like you don’t realize power and like we have to be aware of how power is stewarded in a group like this because everybody has power. [00:25:59] Julie: If you don’t realize as a communicator the power that you have, like I’m aware now that because I can, I can form thoughts pretty quickly. That I can have a lot of influence in a group. I’m aware of that. And so, you know, there was even like a part where I was leading and then I was like, I can’t lead this next thing. [00:26:17] Julie: I’ve been leading too much, you know, and then we, and then we gave, we, somebody had a marker and we gave the marker to, to, um, one of the guys in our group who’s fantastic guy. And, um, And at one point, so, so anyway, I was talking about power and, and one of the guys was like, well, I don’t, I don’t really see power. [00:26:35] Julie: I don’t need. And I’m like, you have it, whether you realize it and you have it. And what was huge is that one of the other guys that sort of a leader was a leader was able to say what she’s talking about is real. Everybody has power. This is really important. And he was quite frankly, somebody with a lot of power in that group because he has a lot of trust, used to be a pastor. [00:26:57] Julie: Um, and for him to acknowledge that for the rest of us was huge. And then this, this other guy, I mean, he said at one point, Oh, well, you know, so and so’s holding the marker right now and he has power, doesn’t he? And I was like, yes, you’re getting it. That’s it. That’s it. Thank you. Because he’s like, you just reframed what we said and I wouldn’t have reframed it that way. [00:27:22] Julie: Like I wouldn’t. And I’m like, yes, exactly. It’s like, and it was like, it was like the light bulbs were going on and people were starting to get it. Um, and then another key, key moment was when one of the women who, you know, wasn’t, you know, from our church where we experienced stuff, who said, can you, can you tell me how that, how that felt for you when we used to have leaders? [00:27:46] Julie: And then for people to be able to express that. And people listened and it was like, and I was able to hear from this guy who felt like he was, he had a straight jacket, you know, because he, he like wants to use his, his initiative. Like he, he. You know, and God’s given that to him. It’s a good thing, you know. [00:28:07] Julie: And all I can say is it was just an incredible experience, an incredible moment, but it would not have happened if, and now I’m going to get kind of, it wouldn’t have happened if people cared more about the mission than the people. And they didn’t realize the people are the mission. This is Jesus work. He doesn’t care about your five year plan. [00:28:41] Julie: He doesn’t care about your ego and the big, you know, plans that you have and things you can do. What he cares is whether you’ll lay your life down for the sheep. That’s what shepherds do. And what I saw in, in our group was the willingness to, for people that have shepherding gifts to lay down their, you know, not literally their lives, but in a way their lives, their, their dreams, their hopes or visions, everything to love another and how that created so much love and trust, you know, in our group. [00:29:22] Julie: And we’re still like trying to figure this out, but yeah, it was, it was hugely, it just so, so important. But I thought how many churches are willing to do that, are willing to, to sit in the pain, are willing to listen. And I’m, I’m curious as you go in now, there’s so much of your work has become with ReStory is, is education and going into these churches. [00:29:52] Julie: You know, normally when this happens, And you told me there’s a, there’s a name for pastors that come in. It’s the afterpastor. Afterpastor. [00:30:00] Kayleigh: Yes. The afterpastor. [00:30:02] Julie: How many times does the afterpastor get it? And does he do that? [00:30:07] Kayleigh: So the problem is, and I can tell you, cause I have an MDiv. I went, I did all the seminary. [00:30:11] Kayleigh: I’m ordained. We don’t get trained in that. Um, so, and there is, um, like you said, so you use this guy as an example who has the clear. Initiative gifts. So they’re what would be called kind of the Apostle, um, evangelist gifts in like the pastoral gift assessment kind of deal. You’ve got the Apostle, prophet, evangelist, shepherd, and teacher. [00:30:34] Kayleigh: And right now there’s a lot of weight kind of being thrown behind the Apostle evangelist as kind of the charismatic leader who can set the vision. And so most of the books on pastoral You know, church health and church are written kind of geared and directed that way. Um, so we’re really missing the fact that when we’re talking about a traumatized church, what you really need is a prophet shepherd. [00:30:57] Kayleigh: Um, you need somebody who can come in and shepherd the people and care for them well, but also the prophet. The role of the prophet is often to help people make meaning of their suffering. So if you read closely, Jeremiah and Ezekiel, particularly who are two prophets speaking to people in exile, what they’re really doing is helping people make meaning of that suffering. [00:31:17] Kayleigh: They’re helping people tell their story. They’re, they’re lamenting, they’re crying with them. They’re, they’re asking the hard questions. Um, and they’re able to kind of see between the lines. So prophet, Pastors who have kind of that prophetic gifting are able to see below. They’re able to kind of slow down and hear the actual story beyond the behaviors, right? [00:31:35] Kayleigh: So the behaviors aren’t telling the whole story, but we need eyes to see that. And so the problem, I would say, is that a lot of well, meaning pastors simply aren’t taught how to do this. And so they’re not given the resources. They’re not given kind of the, um. this like Christian imagination to be able to look at a church and say, okay, what has happened here and what healings take place here? [00:31:59] Kayleigh: Um, the other problem is, you know, we need to be able to give space. So denominational leaders need to be able to be okay with a church that maybe isn’t going to grow for a few years. And I think that is whether we like it or not. And we can say all day long that we don’t judge a church’s health by its numbers. [00:32:19] Kayleigh: But at the end of the day, pastors feel this pressure to grow the church, right? To have an attendance that’s growing a budget that’s growing and. And so, and part of it is from a good place, right? We want to reach more people from Jesus, but part of it is just this like cultural pressure that defines success by numbers. [00:32:36] Kayleigh: And so can we be okay with a church that’s not going to grow for a little while? You know, can we be okay with a church that’s going to take some like intentional time to just heal? And so when you have an established church, um, which is a little bit different than a house church model, it can be. A really weird sacrifice, even for the people who are there, because often what you have is you have a segment of the church who is very eager to move forward and move on and and to grow and to move into its new future, and they can get frustrated with the rest of the church. [00:33:15] Kayleigh: That kind of seems to need more time. Um, but trauma healing is it’s not linear. And so, you know, you kind of have to constantly Judith Herman identifies like three components of trauma healing. And so it’s safety and naming and remembering and then reconnecting, but they’re not like you finish safety and then you move to this one and then you move to this one. [00:33:36] Kayleigh: Often you’re kind of going, you’re ebbing and flowing between them, right? Because you can achieve safety and then start to feel like, okay, now I can name it. And then something can trigger you and make you feel unsafe again. And so you’re now you’re back here. And so, um, um, Our churches need to realize that this healing process is going to take time, and collective trauma is complicated because you have individuals who are going to move through it. [00:33:57] Kayleigh: So you’re going to have people who are going to feel really safe, and they’re going to feel ready to name, and others who aren’t. And so you have to be able to mitigate that and navigate that. And our pastors just aren’t simply trained in this. And so what I see happening a lot is I’ll do these trainings and I’ll have somebody come up to me afterwards and go, Oh my goodness, I was an after pastor and I had no idea that was a thing. [00:34:18] Kayleigh: And they’re like, you just gave so much language to my experience. And you know, and now I understand why they seem to be attacking me. They weren’t really attacking me. They just don’t trust the office of the pastor. And I represent the office of the pastor. Okay. And so sometimes they take that personally again, it becomes like these theological issues. [00:34:38] Kayleigh: And so helping pastors understand the collective trauma and being able to really just take the time to ask those important questions and to increase not only their own margin for suffering, but to increase a congregations margin for suffering. You know, to go, it’s going to be, we can sit in this pain. [00:34:58] Kayleigh: It’s going to be uncomfortable, but it’s going to be important, you know, learning how to lament, learning how to mourn. All of these things are things that often we’re just not trained well enough in, um, as pastors. And so therefore our congregations aren’t trained in them either. You know, they don’t have margin for suffering either. [00:35:14] Kayleigh: Um, and so we need to be able to equip our pastors to do that. Um, and then equip the congregations to be able to do that as well. [00:35:20] Julie: So good. And I’m so glad you’re doing that. I will say when I first started this work, um, I was not trauma informed. I didn’t know anything about trauma really. And I didn’t even, you know, I was just a reporter reporting on corruption and then it turned into abuse in the church. [00:35:38] Julie: And I started interfacing with a lot of abuse victims. who were traumatized. And I think back, um, and, and really, I’ve said this before, but survivors have been my greatest teachers by far, like just listening to them and learning from them. But really from day one, you know, it’s loving people, right? It really, it like, if you love and if you empathize, which You know, some people think it’s a sin, um, just cannot, um, but if you do that and, and that’s what, you know, even as I’m thinking about, um, within our own, our own house church, there were people who weren’t trained, but they did instinctively the right things because they loved. [00:36:28] Julie: You know, and it just reminds me, I mean, it really does come down to, they will know you are Christians by your love. You know, how do we know love? Like Christ laid down his life for us. He is our model of love and, and somehow, you know, like you said, the, in the church today we’ve, we’ve exalted the, um, what did you say? [00:36:49] Julie: The apostle evangelist? The apostle evangelist. Yeah. Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. Um, we’ve exalted that person, um, you know, And I think we’ve forgotten how to love. And too many of these pastors don’t know how to love. They just don’t know how to love. And it’s, it’s tragic. Because they’re supposed to be I mean, the old school models, they were shepherds, you know, like you said, like we need apostles, we need evangelists. [00:37:16] Julie: But usually the person who was leading the church per se, the apostles and evangelists would often end up in parachurch organizations. I’m not saying that’s right or wrong. I think the church needs all of those things. Um, and, uh, But yeah, we’ve, we’ve, we’ve left that behind, sadly. And there’s nothing sexy about being a shepherd. [00:37:37] Kayleigh: Yeah, no, I, all, all of the Apostle, I mean that, well, the whole thing is needed, um, and it’s most beautiful when we just work together, and, and when they can respond to each other. So, I mean, me and you’re an example in your house, you’re a visiting example of this. You can’t, even if just listening, you have some clear Apostle evangelists in your group, right? [00:37:54] Kayleigh: I mean, Um, right? And so you have these people wired for that, and yet they’re able to, to learn and respond to some of the people in the group who have more of those prophet shepherd tendencies. And so I think that that’s really what, and that’s loving, right? So we should go back. It’s just loving one another and learning from one another. [00:38:17] Kayleigh: And knowing when to lean into certain giftings and to learn from others giftings. This is why it’s the body of Christ. And so when a component of the body of Christ is left out, we can’t be who God’s called us to be. And so when we neglect the role of the shepherd and neglect the role of the prophet or minimize them, or see them as secondary, then we’re not going to do called us to be. [00:38:44] Kayleigh: You know, we may need all of it to come together to do what God has called us to do. God is working in this church. He’s worked all through this church. He has established it and called it, and He’s going to use it. But we need to be learning how He has built it and how He framed it. For me to love one another and not elevate one gifting above another. [00:39:07] Julie: And it’s interesting too, you mentioned the office of the pastor. Um, I know as we were discussing some of this, we have one guy who’s very, I mean, actually our entire group, and I think this is probably why we’ve been able to navigate some of this. It’s it’s a really spiritually mature group. A lot of people. [00:39:26] Julie: who have been in leadership, um, which sometimes you get a lot of leaders together and it can be, you know, but this hasn’t been that way because I think people really do love the Lord. Um, and they love each other. Um, but one of the things that was brought up, um, is Is the pastor an office or is it a role and have we made it into an office and, and what we realized in the midst of that and I, you know, I, I’m like, well, that’s really interesting. [00:39:57] Julie: I would like to study that. And I find there, there’s a curiosity when you talk compassionate curiosity, I think there’s also a curiosity in, in people who have been through this kind of trauma. There’s a curiosity in, okay, what, what did we do? that we did because everybody said that’s how we’re supposed to do it. [00:40:18] Kayleigh: Yeah. [00:40:18] Julie: Yeah. Do I really have that conviction? Could I really argue it from scripture? Is this even right? And so I find even in our group, there is a, there is a, um, there’s a curiosity and maybe this is because we’re coming through and we’re in, you know, I think a later stage of healing is that now we’re like really curious about what should we be? [00:40:44] Julie: Yes. Yes. What should we be, like, we, we want to dig into what, what is a church, what should it really be, and what, why, how could we be different? Of course, always realizing that you can have the perfect structure and still have disaster. Um, it really does come down to the character of the people and, and that, but, but yeah, there’s a real, Curiosity of, of sort of, um, digging, digging into that. [00:41:10] Julie: And, and let me just, I can ask you, and, and maybe this will be a rabbit trail, maybe we’ll edit it out. I don’t know. Um, , but, but I am curious what do, what do you think of that idea that the, the pastorate may be a role that we’ve made into an office and maybe that could be part of the problem? [00:41:27] Kayleigh: I think that’s a lot of it. [00:41:28] Kayleigh: Um, because when we turn the, the pastorate into an office, we can lose the priesthood of all believers. So that I think is often what happens is that, um, you create this pastoral role where now all of the ministry falls on to the pastor. And so instead of the pastor’s role being to equip the saints for the ministry, which is what scripture says, the scripture describes a pastor as equipping the saints for the ministry. [00:41:56] Kayleigh: Now the pastor is doing the ministry, right? There’s, there’s just all of this pressure on the pastor. And that’s, that’s where I think we start to see this. The shift from the pastor being the one who is, you know, encouraging and equipping and edifying and, you know, calling up everybody to live into their role as the body of Christ where we’ve seen. [00:42:19] Kayleigh: You know, I have a soft spot for pastors. Again, I’m like, they’re all my relatives are them. I love pastors and I know some really beautiful ones who get into ministry because that’s exactly what they want to do. And so what has often happened though, is that the, the ways of our culture have begun to inform how the church operates. [00:42:40] Kayleigh: And so we saw this, you know, when, when the church started to employ business In kind of the church growth movement. So it’s like, okay, well, who knows how to grow things? Business people know how to grow things. Okay. Well, what are they doing? Right. And so now that the pastor is like the CEO, people choose their churches based on the pastor’s sermon, right? [00:43:00] Kayleigh: Well, I like how this pastor preaches. So I’m going to go to that church. Um, so some of it is. So I would say that not all of it is pastors who have like that egotistical thing within them at the beginning. Some of it is that we know that those patterns exist. But some of these men and women are genuinely just love the Lord’s people and then get into these roles where they’re all of a sudden like, wait, I, Why, why is it about me and others, this pressure to preach better sermons and the person down the road or, you know, run the programs and do all of these things instead of equipping the people to do the work of God. [00:43:38] Kayleigh: And so I think it’s, it’s about, and right, I think it’s happened internally in our churches, but I also think there’s this outward societal pressure that has shifted the pastor from this shepherding role to the CEO office. Um, And finding the, like, middle ground, right? So again, like, we can swing the pendulum one way and not have pastors. [00:44:05] Kayleigh: Or we can swing the pendulum the other way and have pastors at the center of everything. But is there a way of finding, kind of, this middle ground where people who are fairly calm and gifted and anointed by God to do rich shepherding can do it in a way that is Zen sitting that church that is equal famous saint that is calling the body of Christ to be what it is called be. [00:44:27] Kayleigh: And I guess I’m, I’m constantly over optimistic and so I’m convinced that there’s gotta be a way , that we can get to a place where pastors can live out of their giftings and live by their callings and live out of their long dreams in such a way. That leads to the flourishing health of the church and not to its destruction. [00:44:45] Julie: Yes. And, and I think if it’s working properly, that absolutely should be there. They should be a gift to the church. Um, and, and sadly we just, we haven’t seen enough of that, but that is, that is, I think the model. Um, let’s talk specifically, and we have talked, or we might not have named it, um, but some of the results of this collective trauma. [00:45:08] Julie: in a congregation. Um, let’s, let’s name some of the things. These are ways that this can, that this can play itself out. [00:45:17] Kayleigh: Sure. So when we’re talking about congregational collective trauma, one of the main results that we’ve talked about kind of in a roundabout way is this lack of trust that can happen within the congregation. [00:45:27] Kayleigh: And this can be twofold. We can talk about the lack of trust for the leadership, but it all also can be lack of trust. Just, In the congregation itself, um, this often happens, particularly if we’re looking at clergy misconduct that maybe wasn’t as widespread. So I think this is some of what you’ve kind of talked about with Willow Creek a little bit, and I’m, I wasn’t in that situation, but I’ve seen it other places where, you know, in our system, the denominational leadership removes a pastor. [00:45:56] Kayleigh: And so what can happen in a system like that is that denominational leadership becomes aware of abuse. They act on the abuse by removing the pastor. And what you have happening is kind of this, um, Betrayal trauma or this, you know, bias against believing. And so because the idea that their clergy person who they have loved and trusted, you know, shepherd them could possibly do something that atrocious. [00:46:24] Kayleigh: That idea is too devastating for them to internalize. So it feels safer to their bodies to deny it. And so what can happen is you can have a fraction of the church. that thinks it’s, you know, all made up and that there’s no truth to it. And they began to blame the denominational leadership as the bad guys or that bad reporter that, you know, the [00:46:45] Julie: gossip monger out there. [00:46:47] Julie: It’s so bad. [00:46:48] Kayleigh: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. So you have this split. Now, sometimes it literally splits and people will leave. Um, but sometimes they don’t and they all stay. And so you have these fractions of people who believe different things about what happened. And so now there’s, there’s a lack of shared identity. [00:47:08] Kayleigh: So I would say one of the key components of collective trauma in a congregation is this mistrust, which is often connected to a lack of shared identity. And so they can’t really figure out who they are together. What does it mean for us to be a community to get there? Um, and so trauma begins to write their story. [00:47:27] Kayleigh: And so when we talk about the embodiment of trauma, one of the ways that that works in individuals, and this is like a mini neuroscience lesson that many of your listeners are probably aware of, because I think you have a very trauma informed audience. Audience, but, um, you know, that it, it makes us react out of those fight, flight, or freeze responses. [00:47:46] Kayleigh: And so that happens individually, right? So something triggers us and all of a sudden we’re at our cortisol is raised. We’re acting out of the, uh, you know, those flight flight places that happens communally too. So a community gets triggered by, you know, a pastor again, having what they think is just a creative idea, you know, but maybe it triggers that time that that pastor. [00:48:09] Kayleigh: Had a creative idea that was, you know, and ran with it without talking to anybody and just like wield the control and manipulated people. And now, all of a sudden, this pastor who thinks they just have this innocent, creative idea is now seen as manipulative. And what are they going to try to do behind our backs? [00:48:27] Kayleigh: And what are they going to try? And, and. What are they going to take from us? Right? And so trauma, trauma takes from people. And so now they’re living kind of out of this perpetual perceived fear, perceived threat, that something else is going to be lost. And so when you have a congregation that’s constantly operating out of, you know, this fight, flight, or freeze response. [00:48:52] Kayleigh: Collectively, I mean, how can we expect them to live out the mission that God has given them? Um, you know, they’re not, they’re not there. They’re not able to, um, they’re not able to relate to one another in a healthy way. And so we, we see a lack of kind of intimate relationships in these congregations, right? [00:49:09] Kayleigh: Because so the Deb Dana, who has helped people really understand the polyvagal theory, when we’re talking about, um, trauma talks about your, your, um, Nervous system, your autonomic nervous system is kind of being like a three rung ladder. And so in this three rung ladder, you have the top rung being your ventral bagel state, which is where you can engage with people in safe and healthy ways. [00:49:32] Kayleigh: And then you move down into kind of your sympathetic nervous system. And this is where you’re in that fight flight freeze and then dorsal bagels at the bottom. And in those two middle and bottom, you can’t build these deep relationships. And again, deep relationships are what make a church a church. And so if you have a congregation that’s stuck in these middle to bottom rungs of this ladder, they’re, they’re fight, flight, freeze, or they’re withdrawing from one another. [00:49:54] Kayleigh: You’re, you’re losing the intimacy, the vulnerability, the safety of these congregations to build those kinds of relationships. And so I would say that, that distrust, that lack of shared identity and that inability to build deeper kind of relationships are three kind of key components of what we’re seeing in congregations who are carrying this collective trauma. [00:50:16] Julie: And yet, if you work through that together, like I will say right now, I feel a great deal of affection for, for everyone. Uh, in our house tours because we went through that chaos together, but also it was, it was an opportunity to see love and people lay down their lives for each other. So to, to be able to see, I mean, you begin writing a new story instead of that old story that’s been so dominant, you know, that you have to tell, you have to work through. [00:50:50] Julie: Yeah, you do. And, and, and you have, you do. I love where you say, you know, people need to, to hear that from you. Yeah. I think that’s really, really important for people to have a safe place. But then at the same time, you can’t, you don’t want to live the rest of your life there. You don’t want that to define, define you. [00:51:09] Julie: Um, and that’s, that’s what’s beautiful though, is if you work through it together, now you, you’ve got a new story, right? You’ve got, you’ve got Dodd doing something beautiful. Um, among you and, and that’s what he does. [00:51:23] Kayleigh: That’s why we call our organization Restory. Um, it is a word used in trauma theory and in reconciliation studies to talk about what communities who have experienced a lot of violence have to do is they have to get to a place where they’re able to, it’s exactly what you’re talking about with your house churches doing is you guys have kind of come to a place where you’re able to ask the question, who do we want to be now? [00:51:45] Kayleigh: And this is this process of restorying. And so what trauma does is in many ways, for a while, it tries to write our stories. And for a while, it kind of has, because of the way that it’s embodied, we kind of, it has to, right? Like we have to process like, okay, I’m reacting to this. trigger because of this trauma that’s happened. [00:52:05] Kayleigh: So how do I work through that? You know, how do I name that? How do I begin to tell that story? And so we, and we have to tell the story, right? Because I mean, trauma theory has been the dialectic of traumas, but Judith Herman talks about is it’s very unspeakable because it’s horrific, but it has to be spoken to be healed. [00:52:22] Kayleigh: Right. And so with this trauma, it can be hard to speak initially. But it needs to be spoken to be healed. But once we’ve done that, once we begin to loosen the control that trauma has on us. Once we’re able to speak it out loud, and then we can get to a place individually and communally where we can start to ask ourselves, Who do we want to be? [00:52:45] Kayleigh: And who has God called us to be? And no, things are not going to be the way they were before the trauma happened. I think that’s the other thing that happens in churches is there’s a lot of misconception. That healing means restoring everything to the way it was before. And when that doesn’t happen, there’s this question of, well, well, did we, did we heal? [00:53:06] Kayleigh: And we have to remember that we’re never going back to the way it was before the trauma happened. But we can begin to imagine what it can look like now. Once we begin to integrate the suffering into our story, and we begin to ask those helpful questions, and we take away the trauma’s control, now we can ask, who do we want to be? [00:53:24] Kayleigh: And we can begin to write a new beautiful story that can be healing for many others. [00:53:29] Julie: A friend of mine who has been through unspeakable trauma, I love when she talks about her husband, because they went through this together, and she often says, he’s like an aged fine wine. You know, and I love that because to me, no, you’re not going back to who you were, but in many ways who you were was a little naive, little starry eyed, a little, you know, and, and once you’ve been through these sorts of things, it is kind of like an aged fine wine. [00:54:01] Julie: You have, you’re, you’re aged, but hopefully in a beautiful way. And, you know, I, I think you’re way more compassionate. Once you’ve gone through this, you’re way more able to see another person who’s traumatized and And to, you know, reach out to that person, to love that person, to care for that person. And so it’s a beautiful restoring. [00:54:26] Julie: And we could talk about this for a very long time. And we will continue this discussion at Restore, [00:54:33] Kayleigh: um, because [00:54:34] Julie: you’re going to be at the conference and that was part of our original discussions. So folks, if you wanna talk more to Kaleigh , come to Restore. I, I’m, I’m gonna fit you in somehow because , I’m gonna be there. [00:54:46] Julie: you’re gonna be there. But do you just have a wealth of, uh, I think research and insights that I think will really, really be powerful? And I’m waiting for you to write your book because it needs to be written. Um, but I’m working on it. , thank you for, for taking the time and for, um, just loving the body. [00:55:07] Julie: And in the way that you have, I appreciate it. [00:55:09] Kayleigh: Well, thank you. Because, you know, when I heard about your work and your tagline, you know, reporting the truth, but restoring the church, you know, I was just so drawn in because that’s what we need. The church is worth it. The church is beautiful and she is worth taking the time to restore. [00:55:24] Kayleigh: And I’m so thankful for the work that you’re doing to make sure that that that happens. [00:55:28] Julie: Thank you. Well, thanks so much for listening to the Roy’s Report, a podcast dedicated to reporting the truth and restoring the church. I’m Julie Roys. And if you’ve appreciated this podcast and our investigative journalism, would you please consider donating to the Roy’s report to support our ongoing work? [00:55:47] Julie: As I’ve often said, we don’t have advertisers or many large donors. We mainly have you. The people who care about our mission of reporting the truth and restoring the church. So if you’d like to help us out, just go to Julie Roy’s spelled R O Y S dot com slash donate. That’s Julie Roy’s dot com slash donate. [00:56:07] Julie: Also just a quick reminder to subscribe to the Roy’s report on Apple podcasts, Spotify or YouTube. That way you won’t miss any of these episodes. 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As a licensed professional counselor and dad of three, Chris Bruno is acutely aware of how childhood trauma can impact your fatherhood approach. In this conversation, Chris describes the importance of processing your experiences with others, finding healing from the past, and becoming deeply rooted in brotherhood as you raise your kids. Key Takeaways You became the man you are today because of the guidance or lack thereof from the men who came before you. Exploring your own story means confronting the areas you've walled off within yourself and processing your experiences with others. We are the best fathers when we have brothers alongside us. Trauma continues to pass through generations until someone has the courage to feel it. Chris Bruno Chris Bruno is an author, licensed professional counselor, founder of ReStory, and CEO of Restoration Project. He is passionate about the intersection of transformation and adventure. Chris and his wife, Beth, have three young adult children. Key Quotes "We are the best father when we have our best brothers with us. We need those guys. Those are guys in my life and we need our brothers. And also we need someone else who's on the outside who's got some training, is a professional in some ways to come along side to create a safe space for a child to unfold." "We are heaps of undigested experience. When you have indigestion, there's something unwell about your body. So if there's undigested experience, there's something unwell about your soul and we need someone to come alongside us and to be with us and partner with us and talk through those things with us to digest the experience so that in that moment, we can make meaning in a way that won't be a traumatic meaning. It won't be one of those collapsed vows or walled off moments in life." Links from Today's Conversation Man Maker Project: A Father's Guide to Initiating His Son to Manhood by Chris Bruno Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage by Chris Bruno Brotherhood Primer: A Man's Guide To Turning Buddies Into Brothers by Chris Bruno Restoration Project ReStory Counseling Chris Bruno's TEDx Talk: ReStory: How to Live Your Truest Story Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome Connect with dadAWESOME Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Receive weekly encouragement by texting "dad" to 651-370-8618
Jon Connors is a quintessential evolution of entrepreneurship. He is the founder of Restore-A-Thon which are community restorations through collective action. Jon has a deep experience with both conservative and liberal thinking, and is determined to build bridges for new ways of thinking, and doing. ... Thank you to Basil Childers for producing this a with Better Worlds. Stay tuned for Better Worlds productions: https://www.betterworlds.com/ ... https://www.restore-a-thon.com/tulsa ... https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QDiq-kWYjGnsOodjDQe3Wgp9vS36KXWR/view
Pastor Dave's sermon "RE-STORY" focuses on God as a restorer, emphasizing repentance, discipline, and restoration. Using examples from Judea and Joel, he highlights God's faithfulness in providing abundance and preparing individuals for their purpose. The sermon encourages praise, trust in God's protection, and the transformative power of the Holy Spirit in experiencing a new story of peace, safety, and completeness.Joel 2:25-27 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, And praise the name of the Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; And My people shall never be put to shame. 27 Then you shall know that I am in the midst of Israel: I am the Lord your God And there is no other. My people shall never be put to shame.Joel 2:21 Fear not, O land; Be glad and rejoice, For the Lord has done marvelous things! 22 Do not be afraid, you beasts of the field; For the open pastures are springing up, And the tree bears its fruit; The fig tree and the vine yield their strength. 23 Be glad then, you children of Zion, And rejoice in the Lord your God; For He has given you the former rain faithfully, And He will cause the rain to come down for you— The former rain, And the latter rain in the first month. 24 The threshing floors shall be full of wheat, And the vats shall overflow with new wine and oil. 25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied,Psalms 34:1I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth.Psalms 34:3 Oh, magnify the Lord with me, And let us praise His name together.Joel 2:28-32 “And it shall come to pass afterward That I will pour out My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your old men shall dream dreams, Your young men shall see visions. 29 And also on My menservants and on My maidservants I will pour out My Spirit in those days. 30 “And I will show wonders in the heavens and in the earth: Blood and fire and pillars of smoke. 31 The sun shall be turned into darkness, And the moon into blood, Before the coming of the great and awesome day of the Lord. 32 And it shall come to pass That whoever calls on the name of the Lord Shall be saved.
Pastor Dave's sermon "RE-STORY" focuses on God as a restorer, emphasizing repentance, discipline, and restoration. Using examples from Judea and Joel, he highlights God's faithfulness in providing abundance and preparing individuals for their purpose. The sermon encourages praise, trust in God's protection, and the transformative power of the Holy Spirit in experiencing a new story of peace, safety, and completeness.Joel 2:25-27 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied, And praise the name of the Lord your God, Who has dealt wondrously with you; And My people shall never be put to shame. 27 Then you shall know that I am in the midst of Israel: I am the Lord your God And there is no other. My people shall never be put to shame.Joel 2:21 Fear not, O land; Be glad and rejoice, For the Lord has done marvelous things! 22 Do not be afraid, you beasts of the field; For the open pastures are springing up, And the tree bears its fruit; The fig tree and the vine yield their strength. 23 Be glad then, you children of Zion, And rejoice in the Lord your God; For He has given you the former rain faithfully, And He will cause the rain to come down for you— The former rain, And the latter rain in the first month. 24 The threshing floors shall be full of wheat, And the vats shall overflow with new wine and oil. 25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, The crawling locust, The consuming locust, And the chewing locust, My great army which I sent among you. 26 You shall eat in plenty and be satisfied,Psalms 34:1I will bless the Lord at all times; His praise shall continually be in my mouth.Psalms 34:3 Oh, magnify the Lord with me, And let us praise His name together.Joel 2:28-32 “And it shall come to pass afterward That I will pour out My Spirit on all flesh; Your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, Your old men shall dream dreams, Your young men shall see visions. 29 And also on My menservants and on My maidservants I will pour out My Spirit in those days. 30 “And I will show wonders in the heavens and in the earth: Blood and fire and pillars of smoke. 31 The sun shall be turned into darkness, And the moon into blood, Before the coming of the great and awesome day of the Lord. 32 And it shall come to pass That whoever calls on the name of the Lord Shall be saved.
“As ones who have been shown mercy, may we [Christians] demonstrate God's compassion toward those who embrace all things LGBTQ” writes Linda Seiler in Transformation. “At the same time, may we hold fast to God's Word, refusing to compromise on His sacred design for sexuality that images the gospel. Such compassion without compromise reflects God's heart and leads to transformation.” In this episode of the Influence Podcast, I talk to Seiler about her former desire to become a man, and how Jesus Christ transformed her from the inside out. I'm George P. Wood, executive editor of Influence magazine and your host. Linda Seiler, Ph.D., is an ordained Assemblies of God minister, a Chi Alpha missionary, and executive director of ReStory ministries. She is author of Transformation: A Former Transgender Responds to LGBTQ. ————— This episode of the Influence podcast is brought to you by My Healthy Church, distributors of Captivated. There is a difference between knowing the Word of God and knowing the God of the Word. The Captivated Bible study takes women deeper with God so that they may be firmly rooted, unshakable, and flourishing in His Kingdom. For more information about Captivated, visit MyHealthyChurch.com.
How do I sit in the dirt with someone who is experiencing sexual brokenness? What if I don't know what to say? What if I find myself dysregulated or sexually aroused by the other person? Jeremy Williamson offers invaluable wisdom and counterintuitive clarity about how "be with" others in such a way that they experience the presence of God.Jeremy Williamson is a storywork coach and counselor with ReStory. He is also the Director of Restorative Experiences at Restoration Project. As a former pastor and missionary with 20+ years of experience, Jeremy serves as a kind and passionate guide for men and women who long to know God and live in wholeness. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restory.life.If you loved this interview...Take the Sitting In The Dirt Course by Chris Bruno and Jeremy Williamson (highly recommended!)Join Sitting In The Dirt Cohort (for 5 weeks with Jeremy)Use the discount code HUSBANDMATERIAL for $10 off!Come to our free online workshop:HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 13!Sign up now at husbandmaterial.com/workshopTake the Husband Material Journey... Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTube Step 2: Join the private Husband Material Community Step 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow Porn Step 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material Academy Thanks for listening!
The Guys Like Us Podcast is joined with Peter Greer who is the President and CEO of HOPE International. In this episode we discuss all things prayer! In particular, we look at the prayer lives and habits of leaders across the globe. Peter and the extended team find some interesting trends in their research, ones you may not expect! Tune in to hear more about how prayer is rising and changing lives to become more like Christ. As mentioned in the podcast, if you are interested in a virtual and interactive marriage course, visit Restory.Life/Thrive to learn more and join today! Make sure to use code “GLU” to save $20 each month! For more on Peter visit peterkgreer.com and hopeinternational.org. To sign up for the Guys Like Us newsletter for all the recent updates and content, visit www.theguyslikeus.com!
When life throws you into the depths of despair, where do you find the strength to climb back out? Our latest Foxhole Symphony episode is a beacon for those caught in the tempest of hardship. We share the raw emotions that accompany life's most challenging trials—illness, addiction, loss—and the profound loneliness that can often ensue. But it's within this very vulnerability that we discover the irreplaceable value of brotherhood and authentic community. Through the pain, we emerge not alone but supported, our faith in humanity and the divine restored.Have you ever felt weighed down by the 'layer cake' of life's issues, uncertain of how to face another day? Our heartfelt discussion revolves around the power of community and faith, drawing parallels with the silversmith's artistic process—how through the heat and hammering, a purer, stronger self is revealed. As we examine scriptures like the Ephesians 6 and the Armor of God, we uncover the solace and strength that spiritual armor and community provide, empowering us to confront the darkness around us. This episode is a reminder that, even when the road is rocky and the shadows long, we are not walking it unaided.Concluding our exploration, we delve into the constancy of God's faithfulness and the stability it offers our lives, even when everything else seems to be shifting sands. We celebrate and give thanks for the Bible as a source of comfort and guidance, inspiring us to engage with its words for deeper understanding, connection to our creator and solace in tough times. We close on a note of hope, encouraging listeners to find peace in God's unchanging truths. As we share our collective journey of faith, we extend an invitation to join us in discovering the transformative impact of an authentic, supportive community.THRIVE MARRIAGE LAB BY OUR FRIENDS AT RESTORYThe Thrive Marriage Lab is the solution between books and counseling! Serving up hope, not prescriptions, once a year the doors open to join this unique 12-month journey. Led by experienced marriage counselors, members receive live and recorded monthly engagement through an intentional pathway guaranteed to lead to more curiosity, more intimacy, and more connection.And, as a faithful listener, you get $20 off each month when you use the code: FOXHOLE. Go to Restory.Life/Thrive to learn more and join today!Support the showWe have BIG plans at Foxhole Symphony and sure could use your financial support. Would you prayerfully consider a small monthly contribution to support us in our mission to catalyze transformation in the hearts of men? Support Our MissionFind us at:https://www.foxholesymphony.comhttps://www.facebook.com/foxholesymphonyhttps://www.instagram.com/foxholesymphony/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuvcXdDpE79S_D_hInblcDw
On this episode of the Grace Fueled Wife, we get to dive into conversations all about marriage, healing, and the power of stories with the exceptional Tracy Johnson. Tracy's work at Restory Counseling inspired me on my own journey to becoming a marriage therapist. She gives us the scoop on what it means to engage our personal stories in marriage and how that can supercharge healing. Tracy shares a deeply moving personal story about the weight of past experiences and the healing power of having someone witness your pain. We then delve into Restory's Year of Good Dates, an awesome tool Tracy's team developed that's all about sparking connection through shared storytelling. Tracy also drops details about what you can expect from the Thrive Marriage Lab, which is like a gym membership for your marriage! This program brings resources, growth opportunities, and a real community spirit straight into your relationship. If you're all about creating a deeper, richer connection in your marriage, this episode is filled with tons of valuable takeaways. Check it out! 00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction 00:24 Exploring Your Marriage Story 01:17 Guest Introduction: Tracy Johnson 03:43 Understanding the Role of Family of Origin in Marriage 06:50 Advice for Reengaging a Disengaged Spouse 09:39 The Importance of Self-Awareness in Marriage 11:03 The Role of Loneliness in Marriage 13:34 The Concept of 'ACK': Awareness, Curiosity, Kindness 16:47 A Year of Good Dates: Engaging Each Other's Story 21:24 A Drive to Dairy Queen: A Personal Story 22:43 Understanding the Impact of Past Experiences 23:36 The Power of Witnessing and Understanding 24:29 The Role of Trauma in Relationships 26:58 Choosing to Remember: A Path to Healing 28:26 The Importance of Personal Work in Relationships 30:10 The Power of Story Work and Witnessing 37:22 The Thrive Marriage Lab: A Resource for Couples 40:51 Closing Thoughts and Appreciation You can find Tracy's info here: ReStory Counseling: Website: https://www.restory.life Facebook: facebook.com/ReStory.Life Instagram: @storyrestored Thrive Marriage Lab: Website: https://www.restory.life/thrive CODE: GFW for 20% off! FREE 12 Months of Dates: How date nights can lead to connection Subscribe here: www.restory.life/thrive-dates How healthy is your marriage? Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessment Instagram: @ThriveMarriageLab Youtube: @ThriveMarriageLab Wait!!! Before you go! Here are some ways you can work with me or become a part of my community! Schedule a FREE discovery call: https://gracefueledwifecall.gr8.com/ Become an Insider and get updates on all the podcast news. Gracefueledwifesteps.gr8.com Join my community on Facebook - The Grace Fueled Wives Club https://www.facebook.com/groups/GraceFueledWifeCommunity
We all know technology forms us -- but how? How does technology intersect with our spiritual lives? It's tempting to just toss tech out the window, but how do we think more Christianly about the tech we use? Whether as parents or leaders, we have to reckon with the affect of technology on our affections. We end the episode with a few small, practical ways to get started thinking about formation, worship, and technology's affect on our affections. Links: Ted Gioia's Substack article, "The State of the Culture" Jon Haidt, The Anxious Generation and The Coddling of the American Mind Social Dilemma Dallas Willard on vision, intention, means. We've got a limited-time, special offer for you!: What if God has more for your marriage? We're so excited to partner with Restoration Project! They're some of our favorites and now they've started a cohort for married folks called THRIVE. With code HALES you'll get $20 off each month. Go to Restory.life/thrive for details. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Marriage is an amazing gift. And yet, it can reveal a lot of our weaknesses, vulnerabilities and our growth edges. Today we talk with Chris Bruno about the most common struggles for marriages today and how we can fulfill our greatest desires for deep connection, to be known, and to truly know one another within our marriages. Chris Bruno is a licensed professional counselor and the founder and CEO of ReStory Counseling and Restoration Project. He, along with Tracy Johnson, are the marriage experts of Thrive Marriage Lab, ReStory Marriage Intensives, and co-hosts of the Thrive Marriage Podcast. He is a colleague of authors, speakers, and counselors like Dr. Dan Allender of The Allender Center, Dr. Curt Thompson of The Anatomy of the Soul, Sheila Wray Gregoire of The Great Sex Rescue, and Milan and Kay Yerkovitch of How We Love. His goal is to help couples stay married and love being married. His team has helped hundreds of couples explore their story, and come to understand and care for one another more deeply. To connect with Chris Bruno, go to: Website - https://www.restory.life/ Facebook - www.facebook.com/ReStory.Life Instagram - @storyrestored To find Thrive Marriage Lab go to: Website - https://www.restory.life/thrive Instagram - @ThriveMarriageLab Youtube - @ThriveMarriageLab FREE 12 Months of Dates - How date nights can lead to connection. Subscribe here - www.restory.life/thrive-dates How healthy is your marriage? Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessment ======================= We LOVE that you've decided to join us this week for the Living Wholehearted Podcast. We hope you enjoyed the conversation, tips, and resources to help you transform every relationship that matters most to you. If you think this will help someone you know, make sure you send it their way or share on socials. Tag us @living_wholehearted and @terramattson! Don't forget to FOLLOW/SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss an episode and help spread the word by leaving us some stars on a review. Thanks for partnering with us to help more leaders, just like you, who want to live and lead with integrity at home, work and in the community. Go to livingwholehearted.com and sign up to receive our free leadership tips and updates delivered to you in our monthly newsletter. Don't forget our unique Wholehearted Leadership Cohort opportunities. Applications are open for the next one-year and two-year cohorts. In fact, the Cohort experience might be the very thing that helps you see long-term shifts in your leadership at work and at home. We'd love to come alongside you! Learn more and apply today at www.livingwholehearted.com/cohort. And, if you're a girl mom, check out mycourageousgirls.com. Until next time, be the leader you would follow! Grateful for you, Jeff & Terra To connect with Jeff & Terra Mattson and Living Wholehearted, go to: INSTAGRAM @TerraMattson @Living_Wholehearted @MyCourageousGirls FACEBOOK @WeAreLivingWholehearted @MyCourageousGirls WEBSITES LivingWholehearted.com TerraMattson.com MyCourageousGirls.com RESOURCES Shrinking the Integrity Gap https://davidccook.org/shrinking-integrity-gap-book/ https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Shrinking the Integrity Gap e-Course https://www.livingwholehearted.com/e-courses Courageous: Being Daughters Rooted in Grace https://www.livingwholehearted.com/store/books Dear Mattsons https://www.christianparenting.org/dearmattsons/ Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters http://cpguides.org ======================= The Living Wholehearted Podcast is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org
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Embark on a transformative journey with our notable guest, Chris Bruno, a man on a mission to cultivate authentic male relationships. Having spent a decade in the Middle East with CRU and now leading the charge at the Restoration Project and Restory Counseling in Northern Colorado, Chris brings a wealth of life experiences and a unique approach to counseling and leadership.We dive deep into the labyrinth of male relationships, unearthing various stages that range from being strangers to forming profound bonds of brotherhood. Through Chris's insightful guidance, we dissect the risks and rewards associated with deepening relationships and explore the empowering concept of sagehood. By focusing on honesty, courage, tenderness, and trust, Chris helps us understand how these elements can foster deeper connections among men. We also contemplate the distinction between simply growing elderly and becoming an elder, and how relinquishing control and mastering the art of listening can elevate our understanding.This episode encourages us to invite the healing power of Jesus and community into our lives. We delve into the process of identifying and addressing areas of shattering, exile, and shame in our lives, underlining the transformative potential of bringing these issues into the open. With Chris's encouragement, we are urged to prepare to become elders early in life, to be ready for metamorphic steps when we reach midlife. By the end of our journey with Chris, you'll feel inspired to reevaluate your relationships and embark on your own journey towards sagehood. So, join us in this exploration of the transformative power of authentic male community.ReStory Counseling:Website: https://www.restory.lifeFacebook: facebook.com/ReStory.LifeInstagram: @storyrestoredRestoration Project:Website: https://www.restorationproject.net Sage trip: https://www.restorationproject.net/mens-experiences/sageFacebook: facebook.com/RestorationProjectInstagram: @restorationprojectco Thrive Marriage Lab:Website: https://www.restory.life/thriveFREE 12 Months of Dates: How date nights can lead to connectionSubscribe here: www.restory.life/thrive-datesHow healthy is your marriage? Take our FREE marriage assessment here: https://www.restory.life/marriage-assessmentInstagram: @ThriveMarriageLabYoutube: @ThriveMarriageLabBelow are Amazon links for Chris' books:Sage: A Man's Guide Into Second Passage - https://www.amazon.com/Sage-Mans-Guide-Second-PSupport the showWe have BIG plans at Foxhole Symphony and sure could use your financial support. Would you prayerfully consider a small monthly contribution to support us in our mission to catalyze transformation in the hearts of men? Support Our MissionFind us at:https://www.foxholesymphony.comhttps://www.facebook.com/foxholesymphonyhttps://www.instagram.com/foxholesymphony/https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuvcXdDpE79S_D_hInblcDw
When it comes to addressing trauma in our stories, it can seem as though cultural expectations and the messages received as young boys can keep men from engaging in their pain and ultimately, experiencing true healing. How can men better address their stories of hurt and heartache in a way that helps them to move forward with both strength and tenderness? Counselor and author Chris Bruno began to see a pattern emerge in his own story and in the countless others of those he counseled. Men who didn't receive a clear path in terms of their journey from boyhood to manhood and who didn't address their wounds, often struggled with maladaptive behavior patterns that hurt themselves and others. When there wasn't intentional attunement to their stories of pain, their lives and the ones around them were deeply impacted. It was through this realization that Chris based the work in his practice and his books in order to help men find a way through the terrain of their own hearts and lives into the healing and redemption that God intended. His latest book, Sage: A Man's Guide into his Second Passage, helps men navigate midlife and beyond. In this deep conversation, Davey sits down with Chris to talk about how there is always a story behind our behaviors, the impact of how boys are raised in their emotional health as men, and the stages of every man's journey. This episode is a reminder that God longs to enter into the painful parts of our story and help us find a way to turn that pain into tender strength for those around us. Website: https://www.restory.life/ https://www.restorationproject.net/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/storyrestored/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReStory.Life/ Book: Sage: A Man's Guide Into His Second Passage https://a.co/d/9ASZBpm Do you need a reminder in your pain that God isn't done with your story? Sign up for our free, 7 day devotional delivered straight to your inbox: www.nothingiswasted.com/7-day-devo Want to be a part of the Nothing is Wasted Prayer team? Sign up today: www.nothingiswasted.com/prayerteam Pastors, looking for a way to establish a path towards healing and redemption within your church? Join Davey Blackburn for a live call on how Nothing is Wasted can help: www.nothingiswasted.com/pastors
Chris Bruno talks about ReStory. He is the Founder & CEO of ReStory Counseling, Restoration Project where he is working with men on the restoration of their heart, an author, and so much more! Go HERE to order Chris's book ‘Brotherhood Primer: A Man's Guide To Turning Buddies Into Brothers' - https://youtu.be/y2Bm1GMAxAM Key Discussion Points: Telling your ReStory What does a Midlife Crisis really mean? Marriage Problem Truths Why men hold onto unknown & untold stories God's excitement for you No Rubber Chicken Power in counseling Masculinity, Sexual Addiction, Trauma, Abuse Faith Story Every man is called to fill very specific roles - Want to learn how to Podcast? Check out my course How To Start, Launch, & Run Your Podcast in 30 days HERE! Get the PDF version of the course HERE! Other Resources to help you HERE! - Quick shoutout to our sponsors for this show: Tranquil Turtle Massage - Amazing massage specialist in downtown Coeur D'Alene - (Tell them I sent you for $25 off!!) CDA, Brows, Body, & Ink LLC - Offering Coeur d'Alene's Best Tattoo Brows, Plasma Fibroblast Tightening, and PMU services in the heart of downtown Coeur d'Alene! - (Tell them I sent you for $100 off Tattoo brows or Plasma Tightening!!) Consign Furniture & Consign Jewelry - The LARGEST consign furniture & jewelry store in the U.S.! They offer more than just consignment furniture and jewelry; they also design and sell custom-made and new furniture and jewelry. Tigatu - A Lifestyle Clothing Company (use code "TopRatedMMA" for 10% off) Craig Feistner / Stallion Performance / CDA Fitness 1 on 1 - Online & In Person Training. Voted North Idaho #1 Personal Trainer 3x 2021, 2022, 2023. Dotcal - Dotcal helps individuals & businesses book more meetings with scheduling tools designed to delight! - Use promo code ERIKALLEN50 for 50% off Dotcal Pro features for six months INTERESTED IN BEING A SPONSOR OF OUR SHOW? Fill out the form HERE! - Be sure to FOLLOW Chris Bruno - Instagram Facebook Website Be sure to FOLLOW Restoration Project - Instagram Facebook Website - Thanks for watching! Check out another playlist on my channel: The Erik Allen Show Podcasts Featuring Erik Allen Voice Over Work Product Reviews Fun - FREE Resources to help you
Zach and Laura interview Chris Bruno and Tracy Johson of ReStory about their work taking both individuals and couples into deeper work about how their past stories inform their present and future. Be sure to check out their work at https://www.restory.life/ and snag their free resource Thrive Dates https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Zach and Laura interview Chris Bruno and Tracy Johson of ReStory about their work taking both individuals and couples into deeper work about how their past stories inform their present and future. Be sure to check out their work at https://www.restory.life/ and snag their free resource Thrive Dates https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Did you know that the narrative you tell about your marriage truly matters, perhaps more than almost anything else? Yes, truly knowing one another and sharing meaningful stories is the best way to reach the deepest intimacy in relationships. Today, we are grateful to have ReStory expert Tracy Johnson, Enneagram 8 (8-7 pairing), introducing us to a model for reaching one another again and again as we tell new stories and find new ways to make that deeper meaning together. She gives us a formula that has a natural yet practical flow so we can bring ourselves to each date or activity ready for reconnection. Enjoy this rich conversation with Tracy as we walk towards delighting, discovering, sharing our depths, and connecting more closely than ever before. Watch the Episode on YouTube! Visit Tracy and the entire group at ReStory here! Sign up for "A Year of Good Dates" here: https://www.restory.life/thrive-dates https://www.thrivemarriageweekend.com @thrivemarriageweekend on Instagram View the Unwanted Sexual Behaviors Course at ReStory Visit Tracy on Red Tent Living for her prolific blogs Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right here at Apple or on Spotify here!
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