Podcasts about love addicts

Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love author) opens up about love, addiction, grief, and spiritual growth. She opens up about her relationship with Raya, the painful lessons of codependency, and why heartbreak can feel as devastating as substance abuse. Together, they explore life as “Earth School,” the healing power of unconditional love, and why telling the truth is often the only way out of life's deepest traps. THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! Green Chef (50% OFF!)

 What a thrill to talk to Caitlin Canon at AmericanaFest 2025! Caitlin is poignant, funny, and an amazing musician! We talked about making records, being raw and honest, learning from Mary Gautier, doing stand up, and her program “Beyond Bars.”  Caitlin Cannon's album, Love Addict, is a bold, genre-defying body of work produced by MisaArriaga (Kacey Musgraves, Willie Nelson). Blending dreamy Americana with classic country, the 10-track record swirls with intergalactic pedal steel, gritty grooves, and raw, unguarded lyrics. Recorded live, the album captures the spontaneity of guitars bleeding into keys, drums, strings, and more, creating a sound that feels both timeless and fresh. Think “cosmicana”—a soniclandscape as deep and evocative as Cannon's storytelling.  Beyond music, Cannon is a force of creative energy. From her comedic debut on Kill Tony to teaching songwriting to inmates through her Beyond Bars program, she defies easy categorization. Beyond Bars, developed in collaboration with The Cultural Arts Alliance and The 30A Songwriters Festival, has been featured on Meg Ryan's series Empowered, highlightingher commitment to bridging art and social impact.  Be sure to check out Caitlin here:  Website: caitlincannonmusic.com  IG: Caitlincannonmusic  FB: Caitlin Cannon  You Tube: Caitlin Cannon  TikTok: Caitlincannonmusic  

In this episode, we talk to Elizabeth Gilbert. Her memoir – Eat Pray Love – sold millions, became a hit movie starring Julia Roberts and encouraged readers to embark on their own spiritual journeys. But for the author, it was the death of her new partner many years later that actually helped her find what she was looking for. That’s all detailed in excruciating fashion in her latest book – All The Way to the River – a difficult and confessional memoir about addiction and loss. Gilbert is the subject of Good Weekend's cover story this week – "Love Addict" – and this podcast is an edited extract of the interview she did for that piece with freelance journalist David Leser.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Caitlin Cannon on "Slut Energy," Her 'Love Addict' Album, and Songwriting in PrisonsDive deep with Americana artist Caitlin Cannon as she joins Jason English for a raw and unfiltered conversation. Caitlin opens up about her provocative appearance on the Kill Tony show, the "slut energy" she brings to her music, and navigating the industry in her forties. She discusses the inspiration behind her powerful new album, "Love Addict," exploring themes of loneliness, relationships, and self-discovery. Caitlin also shares the profound story behind her work with the Beyond Bars program, teaching songwriting to inmates, and how her brother's incarceration has shaped her art. This is a can't-miss episode about music, trauma, and radical honesty.Proposed Chapters:00:00 - Life on Tour & ADHD02:30 - That Kill Tony "Slut Energy" Moment06:30 - Trauma, Religion & the Americana Scene09:00 - Rebelling Against Industry Ageism13:30 - Inside the "Love Addict" Album15:15 - "You're Losing Me": Loneliness & Divorce22:15 - Relationship Status: "Married to the Music"28:15 - The Story Behind "Jesus Is My Lover"38:30 - The Terrifying Intimacy of Co-Writing47:00 - Beyond Bars: Teaching Songwriting in Prisons52:30 - "Waiting": A Song for Her Brother58:00 - What Caitlin Cannon is Most Curious About

What is it that we actually want from our relationships? "Miss Understood" host and "Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew" alum Rachel Uchitel drops by to talk about our need for validation, the challenges of dating in the spotlight, setting reasonable expectations, balancing confidence with vulnerability, the allure of famous men, and much, much more. Plus, why we shouldn't let a Google search define a potential relationship interest!

What is it that we actually want from our relationships? "Miss Understood" host and "Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew" alum Rachel Uchitel drops by to talk about our need for validation, the challenges of dating in the spotlight, setting reasonable expectations, balancing confidence with vulnerability, the allure of famous men, and much, much more. Plus, why we shouldn't let a Google search define a potential relationship interest!

Stephanie shares her powerful journey from seeking love and validation in relationships to finding her true identity and freedom in Christ.• Growing up in a Christian home with loving parents who demonstrated real faith daily• Developing a destructive relationship framework in eighth grade after being cheated on• Believing the lie that physical intimacy was required currency to gain and maintain love• Meeting and marrying Taylor, but bringing unrealistic expectations into marriage• Placing her husband on "the throne of her heart" instead of God• Seeking affirmation outside marriage when feeling emotionally disconnected• Experiencing the devastating consequences of an affair• Finding transformation through understanding her true identity in Christ• Learning that unconditional love comes first from God, not other people• Walking in freedom and parenting from a foundation of complete acceptance• No longer needing external validation to feel worthy and valued• Sharing her story to help others recognize the lies that keep them in bondageIf you're struggling with finding your worth in relationships or battling guilt and shame from past mistakes, remember that your identity is not defined by what you've done but by who God says you are: loved, righteous, complete, and free in Christ.

"You don't regret the things that you did; you regret the things you never did." – Magda Kay Today's featured author is speaker, certified Theta Healer, Tantra yoga teacher, intimacy expert and the Founder and Dean of The School of Intimacy, Magda Kay. Magda and I had a fun on a bun chat about her book, "No More Faking It: A woman's guide to getting the love, pleasure and fulfillment she deeply desires", why authenticity is crucial for personal growth, and more!! Key Things You'll Learn: What influenced Magda to start her healing and personal development journey Lessons learned from the process of writing and publishing her 1st book How to embrace your originality more often Why your time is valuable and it's okay to go through some pain to embrace your dreams Magda's Site: https://magdakay.com/ Magda's Book: https://a.co/d/fRFiNEF The opening track is titled "Money Trees" by the magnanimous chill-hop master, Marcus D (@marcusd). Be sure to visit his site and support his craft. https://marcusd.net/ Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! 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Caitlin Cannon is a powerhouse singer, songwriter, actor, and comedian. Her new record Love Addict is chock full of bangers that grabbed me on the first listen. It's got country in it with some psychedelica. The album is a sonic and lyrical journey that pushes the envelope.  On some episodes, you really connect with the guest. I feel like this is one of those episodes. Everyone, it is my honor to bring you, my conversation with Caitlin Cannon. The song you are hearing in this episode is "Love Addict" from Caitlin's album of the same name.  Listen on: Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/episode/5nuvJFFlIwlRtc85MUWT20?si=430ead04bbd8431d Apple Podcasts- https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-marinade-with-jason-earle/id1281080492?i=1000709074854 YouTube- https://youtu.be/PNdPEbKAwKs?si=U4Gpzx0as3x_LTjn    

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"Your story might be the lifeline someone out there needs." – Tyler Wittkofsky Today's featured bestselling bookcaster is an award-winning marketing and communications professional, publisher, and mental health and travel blogger, Tyler Wittkofsky. Tyler and I had a fun chat about his books, the importance of normalizing mental health, overcoming imposter syndrome, and more!!! 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"When our thoughts fail us, when those stories and beliefs get in our way, principles serve as a bright beautiful light that helps to guide our journey along the way." – Mary Katherine Morales Today's featured author is a mom, wife, speaker, certified trainer, university fundraiser executive, and the Founder of the Woman of Principle Community, Mary Katherine (MK) Morales. MK and I had a fun chat about her book, "Becoming Woman of Principle: Transforming Your Mind, Living Courageously, and Rising to Your Call", her journey from addiction to recovery, and tons more!!! Key Things You'll Learn: Why mentorship is required for your next level of fulfillment How to build powerful connections and overcome challenges Why the 1% Principle is a tool for successful leaders The role that faith played in her recovery MK's Site: https://www.womanofprinciple.com/ MK's Book: https://a.co/d/dyUL46x The opening track is titled "Money Trees" by the magnanimous chill-hop master, Marcus D (@marcusd). 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Spin to Win! Get exclusive discounts on PDS membership. Limited-time offer—don't miss out! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/spin-the-wheel?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=spin-the-wheel&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast   Why are anxious and dismissive partners so magnetically drawn to each other—and yet so often stuck in pain? In this powerful episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais explores the intense emotional dynamic between the “love addict” (anxious attachment) and “love avoidant” (dismissive attachment). Learn how their core wounds, unmet needs, and subconscious patterns both clash and intertwine—and most importantly, how each can heal independently and together.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: ✔️ Why anxious and dismissive styles are subconsciously drawn to each other ✔️ How unmet emotional needs in childhood fuel anxious clinging or avoidant withdrawal ✔️ Why the dismissive avoidant craves space while the anxious needs closeness ✔️ How this dynamic leads to painful push-pull cycles and mutual frustration ✔️ Practical tools for both partners to heal: anxious self-soothing & avoidant vulnerability ✔️ What each style must do individually to change the relationship together   If you've ever felt stuck in an “on again, off again” dynamic—or feel like you're giving too much or shutting down too fast—this episode is your roadmap to healing and connection.   Meet Your Host: Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School, best-selling author, and a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and subconscious healing. With a Ph.D. and over a decade of experience, she's helped over 70,000 people transform their relationships and emotional patterns from the inside out. Helpful Resources:

"It's one of the things that people in both films and books woefully underestimate—the amount of time and effort. We can write a screenplay that's fantastic, we can write a book that's amazing, but that's just a third of it. Getting it out there to the world is a whole different thing." – Autumn KarenToday's featured author is a mom, ghostwriter, poet, professor, filmmaker, award-winning journalist, "Writer of Vibes", and the founder of Medusa's Gaze Films, Autumn Karen. Autumn and I had a fun on a bun chat about her books, her journey from a challenging upbringing to becoming a successful ghostwriter and filmmaker, and more!!!Key Things You'll Learn:What got Autumn into ghostwritingHow Autumn balances inhabiting other voices while maintaining her creative integrityHow a person's life experiences shape their storytellingHow she juggles both fiction and nonfiction writingWhy it's crucial for authors to promote their projects activelyWhy she believes that human creativity will always have the upper hand when it comes to AIAutumn's Site: https://www.autumnkaren.com/Autumn's Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0DVKLCHRV/allbooksThe opening track is titled, "Set Sail" by Sparks Dynamite. To listen to and download the full track, click the following link. https://planetastroproductions.bandcamp.com/track/set-sail-intro Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmonDonate on PayPal: @DBrightmonBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmonGet Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmonThe Going North Advancement Compass: https://a.co/d/bA9awotYou May Also Like…279 – “Peak Performance Ghostwriting” with Kathrin Hutson (@ExquisitelyDark): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/279-peak-performance-ghostwriting-with-kathrin-hutson-exquisitelydark/173 - "The God Groove" with David Ritz (@davidritz): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/173-the-god-groove-with-david-ritz-davidritz/Ep. 821 – How to Spark Your Curiosity & Live Bravely with Heather Vickery: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-821-how-to-spark-your-curiosity-live-bravely-with-heather-vickery/Ep. 896 – From Mind to Manuscript with Maggie Mills (@takemaggiesword): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-896-from-mind-to-manuscript-with-maggie-mills-takemaggiesword/Ep. 807 – Inside The Mind of The Author Activist with Dawn Bates (@msdawnbates33): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-807-inside-the-mind-of-the-author-activist-with-dawn-bates-msdawnbates33/Ep. 472 – “From Academia to Entrepreneurship” with Dr. Emily Crookston (@EMCrookston): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-472-from-academia-to-entrepreneurship-with-dr-emily-crookston-emcrookston/Ep. 442 – “Jungle Jean” with Geralyn Gendreau (@geralyngendreau): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-442-jungle-jean-with-geralyn-gendreau-geralyngendreau/Ep. 459 – “Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict” with Brianne Davis (@TheBrianneDavis): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-459-secret-life-of-a-hollywood-sex-love-addict-with-brianne-davis-thebriannedavis/18 - "Inspirational Stuff" with Amy Brooks (@AmyReneeBrooks): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/18-inspirational-stuff-with-amy-brooks-amyreneebrooks/Ep. 668 – “The Art & Business of Bringing Other People's Stories to Life” with Amelia Forczak: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-668-the-art-business-of-bringing-other-peoples-stories-to-life-with-amelia-forczak/Ep. 712 – When Your Heart Says to Leave a Legacy with Bridget Cook-Burch (@inspiritwriter): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-712-when-your-heart-says-to-leave-a-legacy-with-bridget-cook-burch-inspiritwriter/Ep. 920 – The Surprisingly Simple Art of Getting It Done with Sam Bennett (@realsambennett): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-920-the-surprisingly-simple-art-of-getting-it-done-with-sam-bennett-realsambennett/

From hip jeans to crazy stories to cults to dopamine hits, you don't want to miss this gem from the Special Ladies. Also, Stefanie joined the Hare Krishnas, no judgement. 

Uncover the surprising truth about your relationship patterns! Are you a love addict or avoidant in relationships? Understanding your attachment style is the first step towards a healthier and more fulfilling love life. In this video, I'll explore the common signs and symptoms of love addiction and love avoidance and provide you with practical tips to overcome t

The episode you have been waiting for is finally here!! Confessions of a Love Addict is my vulnerable and real account of things I have done as a former Love Addict. In this episode we discuss: What is love addiction and how does it show up in your life. Examples of things I have done throughout my life as a love addict. 4 ways to overcome love addiction to start moving forward in your life. This episode has been a long time coming, and took a lot of courage to finally record this and put it out into the world. PLEASE NOTE: There is a trigger warning with this episode because of discussions of abusive relationships and domestic violence. If you have been through something similar and are ready to take the step towards healing, please contact me. I am taking 1:1 clients right now and would love to support you on your journey. Click HERE for more info. Worthy AF is open for enrollment. We start January 6th. Click HERE to join! Follow me on social media @theheather_nicole.

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreLove Addiction is often a response to Insecure Attachment. It looks like it is about sex and chasing sexual outlets, but it isn't really about sex - as the core desire.It is an attempt to gain a sense of 'being wanted', 'being a part of...','accepted', 'owned', 'wanted', 'secure', 'held', 'needed', 'wanted', 'safe', 'protected', 'belonging', The class clown will play up to that carved out role, because of a recognition that they get laughs. Through the back door, laughs gives a temporary sense of being a part of the group - where life mostly is a sense of not belonging, excluded, rejected, not acceptable.Any attention is better than no attention. The crumbs off the table is better than nothing.Friends looking on in frustration and annoyance at the behaviours - self, observing own behaviours - adds to the self-deprecation. The Addict is frustrated. Logic evades them all. The behaviours make no sense. The costs and repercussions from doing the behaviours, make no sense; don't add up.The repetition, the risk taking, the boundary crossing, the trashing own Values and trespassing beyond own comfort levels - makes no logically sense."Why do I do the things which I don't want to do and not do the things which I ought to do?"Let the Kairos Centre come alongside you to reclaim your quality of living life - without shame - bringing colour back to life.Give a little to my fund raising page here, to help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreWant to know more? Click the link and come get me.Get the help you need: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpDiscover the real, authentic you - without shame.The Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; discover the real, authentic you. www.kairos-centre.com or email info@kairos-centre.comNow launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intimacy Building |

Today, Carol the Coach interviews Kimberly Litton, who is the author of I Do It for Her: A Memoir of Recovery and Redemption from Sex, Love and Substances. This book is a vulnerable, yet insightful look into the world of a Female Sex and Love Addict. This memoir delves into painful truths and healing experiences while giving the reader steps to recover. Litton guides the reader through her trauma, various forms of unhealthy coping skills, then ultimately and gracefully provides hope, healing and forgiveness. This book is about resilience, perseverance, self-love, and freedom from addictions. She has a wealth of experience. Kimberly Litton LCSW, CSAT is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. She has a private practice, both virtual and in-person in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida. Kim is the author of “I Do it For Her”: A memoir of a Woman's Healing Journey from sex and love addiction”.  She also serves on the Women's Panel for IITAP (International Institute of Trauma and Addiction), educating professionals on Female Sex and Love Addiction. She has an extensive history of treating women with alcoholism, addiction, eating disorders and sex addiction. Along with her intuitive talent, Kim has an infectious passion for women's recovery. She's dedicated in her own journey of growing, uncovering the many layers of her personal addiction, intimacy and relational problems and codependency. She relates to women on a very human level. Her authentic approach as a clinician is vulnerable enough to be relatable to her clients while exhibiting profound knowledge and tools to integrate a powerful treatment experience.  

Send us a text- On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centreThe Insecure 'ATTACHMENT' label does not describe accurately, what is really in the can with this label on it! It is exactly the opposite. It typically is set up in the early childhood development years. Often, they are experiences which you can't readily or easily access; but your brain remembers them well and put an identification label/marker on each of them, as and when they occurred.You cannot necessarily find or access them or the details about them. The brain does it's job well and blots them out from you finding them, so that you do not have a nervous breakdown.They have been put in boxes. Nailed down and labels attached saying "DO NOT OPEN. We do not lift the lid off these boxes. They contain uncomfortable stuff. They are stored in this area of the brain, to help you get through life without them (too frequently) causing disruption".They are filed in certain parts of your brain, which are not easily accessible without the right password, situation and environment. They can be prematurely triggered out in situations like watching a Netflix movie. (We need to be balanced in our advertising of Netflix and so add.... Amazon Prime, BBC player, Apple TV, a box set etc!).EMDR beckons folks. Out of sight is not out of mind - entirely.Let the Kairos Centre come alongside you to reclaim your quality of living life - without shame - bringing colour back to life.Give a little to my fund raising page here, to help someone access the Recovery Programme: https://igg.me/at/ThekairosCentreGet the help you need: bit.ly/pornaddictionhelpThe Kairos Centre created one of the world's first comprehensive Online Webinar Sex, Porn, Love Addiction video-on-demand Recovery Programme; discover the real, authentic you. email info@kairos-centre.comNow launched: A Video-on-Demand Online Course (for Singles, Couples/Marrieds/Partners) Access here - https://www.kairos-centre.com/changement-on-demand/Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.Episode Keywords: Sex Addiction | Porn Addiction | Love Addiction | Root Causes | Brain Impact | Self-Soothing Behaviors | Family Conflict | Emotional Neglect | Peer Pressure | Performance Pressure | Separation | Divorce | Fear | Anxiety | Stress | Pain | Dissociation| Recovery Program | EMDR Therapy | Emotional Event | Trauma Healing | Neuroplasticity | Online Therapy | Sex Addiction Recovery Program | Compulsive Behaviors | Intimacy Issues | Sexual Dysfunction | Obsessive Thoughts | Guilt | Infidelity | Traumatic Bonding | Objectification | Hypersexualization | Pornography Industry | Love Addiction Patterns | Attachment Styles | Sexual Compulsivity | Behavioral Therapy | Relapse Prevention | Emotional Regulation | Healing Journeys | Intim

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon talks with Jodi White (Psychotherapist & Love Addiction Specialist) about the causes, signs, and cycles of love addiction. Plus they discuss, boundaries, love avoidance, codependency, romantic comedies, fairy tales, and much more. Jodi White's website can be found by clicking here. Jodi White's podcast 'Journals of a Love Addict' can be found by clicking here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To help out our podcast, please fill out our listener survey, click here. To listen to our abuser types episode - click here. PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | Click Here The Covert Narcissism Podcast | Click Here Something Was Wrong | Click Here When Dating Hurts Podcast | Click Here If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit www.domesticshelters.org to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, click here. Join our new Community Social Network at https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/ Join our Instagram Channel at https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse Join our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Welcome to part two of our Substance Use Disorder (SUD) Discussion with Leah Young where we focus on the proactive steps you can take to find recovery from a SUD. Today's episode is all about what to do once you realize you have a problem with substances or addictive behaviors. We'll discuss topics like: Different strategies for ending destructive behaviors spanning from abstinence to harm reduction How to develop boundaries to enable healthier behaviors Easy ways to measure the success of your approach If you missed our last episode, you can easily find it in your podcast feed or by clicking the link in the show notes below. You don't necessarily need to listen to Part 1 to understand Part 2. However, you may want to pull it up if you are trying to figure out whether or not you have a substance use issue. Resources: Brief video overview about Substance Use Disorders from the Center for Disease Control: Click Here Infographic: 2022 Survey on Drug Use and Health - Click Here Book: Sober Curious by Ruby Warrington - Click Here Podcast: Sober Curious with Ruby Warrington - Click Here Mental Note Podcast: www.mentalnotepodcast.com Pathlight Mood & Anxiety Center: www.pathlightbh.com  Eating Recovery Center: www.eatingrecoverycenter.com  Free Group Support: https://www.pathlightbh.com/support-groups  Free Evaluation with a Trained Therapist:  (877) 850-7199  Nearly all substances and many addictive behaviors have 12-step meetings. Below are some examples, but you can search online for the national and local chapters nearest you.  www.aa.org www.marijuana-anonymous.org www.thesira.org - Self Harm www.slaafws.org & www.slaa4poc.neocities.org - Sex and Love Addicts www.recoverydharma.org www.smartrecovery.org www.celebraterecovery.com www.lifering.org www.moderation.org Plus many others that may not be as well known, available, and/or regional 

Book your free intro call for The Inspired Love Program here.   Click Here to activate your FREE TRIAL of the Aura App   Order RYSE Matcha and Adaptogenic products here.  Use code SHANEK15 to save 15% on your order.      Love addiction is extremely common and pervasive.    While addictions like drugs or alcohol are often clearly seen as destructive and people are encouraged to quit or not engage in the first place, the same cannot be said for love addiction.  We are often encouraged to fuel our love addiction and societal pressure from friends and family can often exacerbate the issue.   Furthermore, because of how common it is and it's perceived normalcy, there's virtually no help in diagnosing it and very little support available for those who suffer from it.    Despite that, millions of us have such a destructive relationship with love and dating that it literally ruins our lives and at a minimum, it steals our peace and stresses us out while limiting the true connections we're able to make.   In this episode, Shane breaks down the phenomenon of love addiction in exquisite detail while showing you how to diagnose yourself and giving you practical steps to heal if you feel this is you.   

[TW//references to suicide] Love addiction is as a very serious issue with far-reaching consequences. It can lead to broken relationships, career setbacks, parenting challenges, financial difficulties, legal troubles, and health risks like STDs. In extreme cases, it can escalate to tragic outcomes such as stalking, domestic violence, suicide or murder. Today's guest is Darren, a multi-talented creative who identifies as a love avoidant/fantasy addict. For anyone curious about what love addiction is and if it applies to them - this is the podcast for you! Five years ago, following a break up, Darren contemplated taking his life but has since completely turned his life around with the help of fellowship & therapy and he helps others do the same! Huge thanks to Darren for being so honest so that we can break down the stigma and unpack the finer details around these important topics. I know so many people will identify with your experience and journey ❤️ More on Darren - Darren is a writer, producer, actor and director. An award winning film & theatre maker and in 2017 he was nominated for an Olivier Award for the opera La bohème at the former Trafalgar Studios and won an Off West End Award for Doubt, A Parable at Southwark Playhouse with a further 14 nominations in other theatre works. His debut film as writer & director Blueberry Smoothie won the New York Award for Best Short LGBTQ+ and for his performance in Blueberry Smoothie he won best Performance at the LGBTQ+ Toronto Film Festival 2023. Topics - 0:00 Intro 2:45 Darren's rock bottom & starting recovery 5:45 What does 'acting out' mean to Darren? 9:38 Why loneliness kills 13:35 The power of step 4 18:35 How did Darren learn he is a love avoidant fantasy addict? 23:35 The emotional pain from Sex & Love addiction & how SLAA works 27:15 Your brain on sex & love 28:10 What is love addiction for some people? 30:35 Finding a sponsor in SLAA 33:55 Using fantasy as a creative 35:50 The benefits of recovery 39:10 How to be 'present'? 42:30 Ongoing maintenance 45:15 Why are so many creatives suffering? For anyone struggling with these topics Darren suggests reaching out to - SLAA - https://slaauk.org This Podcast is not for profit but my goal is to break even. To help me make more please donate here. Thank you! https://bit.ly/3kSucAs Follow Darren Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/creativedazzle Podcast - https://theatreaudiencepodcast.com/ Follow Oliver Instagram - https://bit.ly/3IemHLY Facebook - http://bit.ly/3w8S1Gx TikTok - https://bit.ly/3YGLsYm LinkedIn - http://bit.ly/3kp4ymC Threads - https://bit.ly/3svw7yL X - http://bit.ly/3GQYj2l Listen or watch on: (please subscribe/follow & rate/review) Spotify - https://bit.ly/3QsOSf5 YouTube - https://bit.ly/4a3ajKK Apple - https://apple.co/3PajZvQ

In our next two episodes, we will explore a disorder affecting nearly one in five Americans - Substance Use Disorder (SUD). From knowing when your patterns are problematic, to building new neural pathways, to measuring success - we want to dig deep. And we've got the incredible expertise of Leah Young to show us why there's so much reason for hope when dealing with addictive behaviors and substances. You can think of today's podcast as Substance Use Disorder 101. It answers the questions, “How do you know if your use of alcohol or drugs is a problem?” and “Are you exhibiting problematic addictive behaviors?” We will cover topics like Early warning signs Denial Sober curiosity Next steps for getting support.
 Our second episode will examine recovery models for SUD - abstinence, moderation, and harm reduction - and how to know what works for you. Resources: Brief video overview about Substance Use Disorders from the Center for Disease Control: Click Here Infographic: 2022 Survey on Drug Use and Health - Click Here Book: Sober Curious by Ruby Warrington - Click Here Podcast: Sober Curious with Ruby Warrington - Click Here Mental Note Podcast: www.mentalnotepodcast.com Pathlight Mood & Anxiety Center: www.pathlightbh.com  Eating Recovery Center: www.eatingrecoverycenter.com  Free Group Support: https://www.pathlightbh.com/support-groups  Free Evaluation with a Trained Therapist:  (877) 850-7199  Nearly all substances and many addictive behaviors have 12-step meetings. Below are some examples, but you can search online for the national and local chapters nearest you.  www.aa.org www.marijuana-anonymous.org www.thesira.org - Self Harm www.slaafws.org & www.slaa4poc.neocities.org - Sex and Love Addicts www.recoverydharma.org www.smartrecovery.org www.celebraterecovery.com www.lifering.org www.moderation.org Plus many others that may not be as well known, available, and/or regional 

Relationship is one of the biggest areas of struggle for HSP and Empaths, and this week's episode shines light on a very common issue that can often fly under the radar; Love Addiction. Do you put your partner on a pedestal or overvalue them? Do you neglect yourself in your relationship? Do you seek unconditional love in your relationship? And if you don't get it, does that mean you feel like you're not loved or lovable? If any of this sounds at all familiar, you won't want to miss this week's episode with Jodi White, a licensed therapist, coach and podcaster specializing in love addiction and supporting women in recovery from this often misunderstood attachment injury. Jodi discusses her own history with love addiction on her podcast, Journals of a Love Addict, where she shares relatable personal stories, as well as conversations with experts and others who get it. You can connect with Jodi on her website. And here is the book on Boundaries, by Julianne Taylor Shore mentioned in the episode. Please follow, like, and review the Sensitive Collective Podcast so that more Sensitives like you can find the support they are searching for!

In this episode of the Love Addicts podcast, our host Kayla delves into the complex and often misunderstood world of sexual trauma.

This episode Cyrkle B is back!! It's Season 2 of Love Addict the podcast with Cyrkle B. and the revamp of the podcast is on! Cyrkle chops it up with Jay on all things from Beyoncé to Taylor Swift to Megan Thee Stallion to Nikki Haley strap up your seat belts and get ready for an epic season two; come on in and sit down a spell, we got some things to talk about!Like. Share. Subscribe.Email me feedback or topics for discussion at theloveaddictguru@gmail.comOrder your copy of #LOVEADDICT | A Memoir at my website: https://www.theloveaddict.org/Website: Love Addict the podcast with Cyrkle B.

Hey girl,In today's episode, we'll explore the world of love addiction, led by renowned coach Shena from Black Girls Heal. Delving into the complexities of relationships and emotional dependency, this insightful discussion offers invaluable insights and guidance for those seeking to understand and overcome patterns of addictive behavior in love and relationships.Shena Lashey BioShena Lashey is a Relational Trauma and Love Addiction Expert, Coach, and Licensed Professional Counselor based out of Houston, TX. She is the founder of Black Girls Heal, and coaching and therapeutic education company dedicated to helping women of color break the cycles of unavailable relationships & love addiction, heal unresolved childhood trauma, and improve their self-love to make way for the love they want. With these specializations, Shena hosts the Black Girls Heal podcast which talks about all things love addiction, intimacy, attachment, and healing internal wounds. She's created the Healed and Loved Woman Framework ™ to help women have a clear path to outline their healing process to become balanced and available to healthy love. Her coaching programs housed under The Recovery School help give women proven and tested systems to break these cycles and change their lives. Whenever You Are ReadyHere are 3 ways I can help you:​Book A Call With Me - I've been getting A LOT of DM and email requests for to chat with me and answer specific questions about love, dating, relationships, and men so I'm opening back up my limited calendar for a few calls. So book a time with me here!Join the Get Your Guy Club- Wanna have Dating Support for a year to help you get your guy but at your own pace. You can get access to my weekly group calls, my private Facebook group, and my online course with 25+ hours of content for just monthly payments of $250...​​Check Out the Get Your Guy Coaching Podcast- With almost 100 episodes, you can binge and learn so much with my podcast. The latest episode is all about calling in your man, check it out here.​Sincerely,Coach AnwarBook a Consult to Work with MeJoin my Get Your Guy ClubBuy My Dating Strategy CourseCheck out My Latest Podcast Episode

Have you dated a narcissist partner? Or did you struggle with some narcissism yourself? In this episode of the Love Addicts podcast, Kayla pulls back the curtain and reveals everything you need to know about narcissism.

"I became living proof that the past does not equal the future. You can change things." - Dr. Stephan Neff Today's bonus featured bestselling bookcaster is an anaesthetist, speaker, and an Alcoholic in recovery, Dr. Stephan Neff. Dr. Stephan and I talk about his book, "My Steps To Sobriety: Living A Fantastic Life Without Alcohol", reframing daily life challenges, and more!!! Key Things You'll Learn: What led him to become an anaesthetist How to turn your dreams into a manifested vision Why alcohol is like an episode teaser to a season of a bad tv show Dr. Stephan's Site: https://mystepstosobriety.com/ Dr. Stephan's Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B00NXDGWOO/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=de88d1fa-2b6e-44bb-8f2c-2c30535e2367&store_ref=ap_rdr&ref_=ap_rdr Dr. Stephan's Podcast, "Steps To Sobriety": https://stephanneff.podbean.com/e/338-dom-brightmon-advancing-others-to-advance-yourself-mentorship-is-a-book-on-steroids/ The opening track is titled "Check It Out" by Mountaineer from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/check-it-out License code: AR6DFPGVXQ9Q1SSY Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmon Donate on PayPal: @DBrightmon Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmon Get Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmon You May Also Like… Ep. 459 – "Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict" with Brianne Davis (@TheBrianneDavis): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-459-secret-life-of-a-hollywood-sex-love-addict-with-brianne-davis-thebriannedavis/ Ep. 322.5 (H2H Special) – "Burnout Proof" with Michael Levitt (@bfastleadership): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-3225-h2h-special-burnout-proof-with-michael-levitt-bfastleadership/ #M2M Bonus – "An Alcoholic's Progress from Mayhem to Miracles" with Sharla Charpentier (@The_Llove_Llama) #M2M: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/m2m-bonus-an-alcoholics-progress-from-mayhem-to-miracles-with-sharla-charpentier-the_llove_llama-m2m/ Ep. 596 – "The Self-Healing Mind" with Dr. Gregory Scott Brown (@GregorySBrownMD): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-596-the-self-healing-mind-with-dr-gregory-scott-brown-gregorysbrownmd/ Ep. 294.5 (Charm City Bonus Episode) – "The Addict in Aisle 7" with Alison Haase: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-2945-charm-city-bonus-episode-the-addict-in-aisle-7-with-alison-haase/ 24 - "Happy Hour" with Rashad "Bowtie" Mills (@RashadMills629): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/24-happy-hour-with-rashad-bowtie-mills-rashadmills629/ #Bonus Ep. – "Pray. Trust. Ride." with Lisa Boucher (@LBoucherAuthor): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-ep-pray-trust-ride-with-lisa-boucher-lboucherauthor/ 101 - "Every Silver Lining Has a Cloud" with Scott Stevens (@AlcoholAuthor): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/101-every-silver-lining-has-a-cloud-with-scott-stevens-alcoholauthor/ Ep. 405 – "Leadership Lessons From The Pub" with Dr. Irvine Nugent (@irvinenugent): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-405-leadership-lessons-from-the-pub-with-dr-irvine-nugent-irvinenugent/ Ep. 437 – "INpowered Mind, INpowered Health." with Dr. Jayne Marquis (@jayne_marquis): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-437-inpowered-mind-inpowered-health-with-dr-jayne-marquis-jayne_marquis/ 249 – "Never Binge Again" with Dr. Glenn Livingston (@NeverBingeAgain): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/249-never-binge-again-with-dr-glenn-livingston-neverbingeagain/ Ep. 636 – "You Are Deathless" with Nicole Angelique Kerr: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-636-you-are-deathless-with-nicole-angelique-kerr/ 245 – "Your Epic Life Blueprint" with Rock Thomas (@rockthomas): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/245-your-epic-life-blueprint-with-rock-thomas-rockthomas/ 75 - "Life Falls Apart, But You Don't Have To" with Julie Potiker (@JuliePotiker): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/75-life-falls-apart-but-you-dont-have-to-with-julie-potiker-juliepotiker/ Ep. 452 – "Writing a Penetrating Tell-All Memoir" with Karin Freeland (@KarinFreeland): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-452-writing-a-tell-all-penetrating-memoir-with-karin-freeland-karinfreeland/ Ep. 481 – "Breakthrough" with Thomas Gelmi: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-481-breakthrough-with-thomas-gelmi/ #HolidayBonus Ep. – "Fireproof" with David Hollenbach III (@HollenbachLEAD): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/holidaybonus-ep-fireproof-with-david-hollenbach-iii-hollenbachlead/ 211 – "Tough Conversations" with David Wood (@_playforreal): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/211-tough-conversations-with-david-wood-_playforreal/ Ep. 311.5 (Host 2 Host Special) – "More Than Enough" with Emma Dhesi (@emmadhesi): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-3115-host-2-host-special-more-than-enough-with-emma-dhesi-emmadhesi/

"It is our relationship with ourselves that determines the kind of relationships we have with others." - Tracy Secombe Today's featured #1 Best-Selling author is a mom, wife, business coach, public speaker, and 1997 Miss Australia, Tracy Secombe. Tracy and I had a chat about her book, "From People Pleaser to Soul Pleaser: Six Steps to Being Who You Are Meant to Be", how to live a fulfilling life, and more!! Key Things You'll Learn: What inspired her book title What is a soul pleaser and how it benefits you The biggest step that anyone can take first when advancing their personal development journey Her biggest business setback that set her up for success Tracy's Site: https://www.tracysecombe.com.au/ Tracy's Book: https://www.amazon.com/PEOPLE-PLEASER-SOUL-Steps-Being/dp/0645406023/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= The opening track is titled "Check It Out" by Mountaineer from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/mountaineer/check-it-out License code: AR6DFPGVXQ9Q1SSY Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmon Donate on PayPal: @DBrightmon Buy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmon Get Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmon You May Also Like… #Bonus Ep. – "From Shy Girl to Award-Winning Model" with Lorna Greyling (@LornaGreyling): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-ep-from-shy-girl-to-award-winning-model-with-lorna-greyling-lornagreyling/ Ep. 634 – "Divine Messy Human" with Amanda Kate: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-634-divine-messy-human-with-amanda-kate/ 229 – "Unbroken" with Tajci Cameron (@TajciCameron): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/229-unbroken-with-tajci-cameron-tajcicameron/ 269 – "Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free" with Nancy Levin (@nancylevin): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/269-setting-boundaries-will-set-you-free-with-nancy-levin-nancylevin/ Ep. 613 – "Radical Intuition" with Kim Chestney (@KimChestney): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-613-radical-intuition-with-kim-chestney-kimchestney/ 263 – "The Power of a Peaceful Woman" with Jennifer Forster: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/263-the-power-of-a-peaceful-woman-with-jennifer-forster/ Ep. 379.5 – "Awaken Your Inner Awesomeness" with Melissa Oatman (@MelissaOatman): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-3795-awaken-your-inner-awesomeness-with-melissa-oatman-melissaoatman/ Ep. 369 – "Self Esteem Doesn't Come in a Bottle" with Kelly Falardeau (@kellyfalardeau): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-369-self-esteem-doesnt-come-in-a-bottle-with-kelly-falardeau-kellyfalardeau/ 276 – "Over My Dead Body" with Jen Gaudet (@jen_coaching): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/276-over-my-dead-body-with-jen-gaudet-jen_coaching/ Ep. 459 – "Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict" with Brianne Davis (@TheBrianneDavis): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-459-secret-life-of-a-hollywood-sex-love-addict-with-brianne-davis-thebriannedavis/ Ep. 452 – "Writing a Penetrating Tell-All Memoir" with Karin Freeland (@KarinFreeland): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-452-writing-a-tell-all-penetrating-memoir-with-karin-freeland-karinfreeland/ Ep. 294.5 (Charm City Bonus Episode) – "The Addict in Aisle 7" with Alison Haase: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-2945-charm-city-bonus-episode-the-addict-in-aisle-7-with-alison-haase/ 42 - "Courage" with Christie Lindor (@MuseMece): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/42-courage-with-christie-lindor-musemece/ #Bonus Ep. – "Perfectly Flawed" with Janae Sergio (@janae_sergio): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-ep-perfectly-flawed-with-janae-sergio-janae_sergio/ Ep. 542 – "Recovering My True Self" with Dr. Melissa Mayer (@Melissa56449176): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-542-recovering-my-true-self-with-dr-melissa-mayer-melissa56449176/ Ep. 636 – "You Are Deathless" with Nicole Angelique Kerr: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-636-you-are-deathless-with-nicole-angelique-kerr/ Ep. 418 – "Breaking Free & Overcoming Self-Doubt" with Traci Duez (@traciduez): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-418-breaking-free-overcoming-self-doubt-with-traci-duez-traciduez/ 168 - "Spiral" with Amy Simpkins (@amylsimpkins): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/168-spiral-with-amy-simpkins-amylsimpkins/ Ep. 460 – "Dangerous Hope" with Mandy Anderson (@mandybanderson): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-460-dangerous-hope-with-mandy-anderson-mandybanderson/ Ep. 339.5 – "From Limited to Limitless" with Adri Kyser (@AdriKyserYoga): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-3395-from-limited-to-limitless-with-adri-kyser-adrikyseryoga/ Ep. 557 – "A Pathway to Insight" with Ann Hince: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-557-a-pathway-to-insight-with-ann-hince/ Ep. 564 – "Bigger Better Braver" with Nancy Pickard (@cnancyrun): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-564-bigger-better-braver-with-nancy-pickard-cnancyrun/ #Holiday Bonus Ep. – "Emerge Triumphant" with Eliana Gilad (@VoicesofEden): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/holiday-bonus-ep-emerge-triumphant-with-eliana-gilad-voicesofeden/

In this episode of the Love Addicts podcast, our host Kayla discusses crucial conflict resolution skills you and your partner need to know when struggling with anxious attachment.

"You don't regret the things that you did; you regret the things you never did.” – Magda KayToday's featured author is a speaker, certified Theta Healer, Tantra yoga teacher, intimacy expert, and the Founder and Dean of The School of Intimacy, Magda Kay. Magda and I had a fun on a bun chat about her book, “No More Faking It: A Woman's Guide to Getting the Love, pleasure and fulfillment she deeply desires”, why authenticity is crucial for personal growth, and more!! Key Things You'll Learn:What influenced Magda to start her healing and personal development journeyLessons learned from the process of writing and publishing her 1st bookHow to embrace your originality more oftenWhy your time is valuable and it's okay to go through some pain to embrace your dreams Magda's Site: https://magdakay.com/Magda's Book: https://a.co/d/fRFiNEF The opening track is titled "Money Trees" by the magnanimous chill-hop master, Marcus D (@marcusd). Be sure to visit his site and support his craft. https://marcusd.net/Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmonDonate on PayPal: @DBrightmonBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmonGet Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmon You Might Also Like… Ep. 695 – “Becoming Flawesome” with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani (@KristinaMandLak): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-695-becoming-flawesome-with-kristina-mand-lakhiani-kristinamandlak/ Ep. 452 – “Writing a Penetrating Tell-All Memoir” with Karin Freeland (@KarinFreeland): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-452-writing-a-tell-all-penetrating-memoir-with-karin-freeland-karinfreeland/ Ep. 569 - "The Other Goddess" With Dr. Joanna Kujawa (@JoannaKAuthor): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-569-the-other-goddess-with-dr-joanna-kujawa-joannakauthor/ #Host2Host Bonus Ep. - “Innuendo City” with Michelle Nedelec (@michellenedelec): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/host2host-bonus-ep-innuendo-city-with-michelle-nedelec-michellenedelec/ Ep. 551 – “Rewilding” with Dr. Kristy Vanacore: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-551-rewilding-with-dr-kristy-vanacore/ Ep. 640 – “The Way of Inanna” with Seana Zelazo: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-640-the-way-of-inanna-with-seana-zelazo/ Ep. 526 – “The Subtle Art of Making Stuff Happen” with Griselda Beck, MBA: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-526-the-subtle-art-of-making-stuff-happen-with-griselda-beck-mba/ 260 – “Metamorphosis” with L. Farrah Furtado (@LisaAnneFurtado): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/260-metamorphosis-with-l-farrah-furtado-lisaannefurtado/ 275 – “How Thoughts Become Things” with Dr. Marina Bruni (@DrMarinaBruni): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/275-how-thoughts-become-things-with-dr-marina-bruni-drmarinabruni/ Ep. 341.5 – “Playful Cheeks” with Dr. Alison J. Kay (@ajkbliss): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-3415-playful-cheeks-with-dr-alison-j-kay-ajkbliss/ #GNPYear1 Bonus Episode 3 - "The Truth is Within" with Dee Delaney (@deedelaney01): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/gnpyear1-bonus-episode-3-the-truth-is-within-with-dee-delaney-deedelaney01/ 291 – “Unleash the Goddess Within” with Diane Vich (@dianevich) #C2H: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/291-unleash-the-goddess-within-with-diane-vich-dianevich-c2h/ Ep. 459 – “Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict” with Brianne Davis (@TheBrianneDavis): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-459-secret-life-of-a-hollywood-sex-love-addict-with-brianne-davis-thebriannedavis/ Ep. 705 – “Love is Not Pie” with Katherine Lazaruk (@katherinelzrk): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-705-love-is-not-pie-with-katherine-lazaruk-katherinelzrk/ 70 - "From Grief to Grind" with Phoenix J Ma'ri: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/70-from-grief-to-grind-with-phoenix-j-mari/

"Your story might be the lifeline someone out there needs." – Tyler WittkofskyToday's featured bestselling bookcaster is an award-winning marketing and communications professional, publisher, and mental health and travel blogger, Tyler Wittkofsky. Tyler and I had a fun chat about his books, the importance of normalizing mental health, overcoming imposter syndrome, and more!!! Key Things You'll Learn:Why it's important to normalize mental health conversations and build supportive communitiesWhy Tyler started a publishing companyAdvice for new writers and the importance of perseverance and self-beliefHow he overcame addiction to become a better person Tyler's Site: https://linktr.ee/tylerwittkofskyTyler's Books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B07QGWDPVR/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=d6cfb5ea-19a8-4dc2-b5a5-07dac163c92d&store_ref=ap_rdr&ref_=ap_rdrTyler's Podcast, “Cook The Books”: https://open.spotify.com/show/5SXd0yFMBMXIVODl7rID8E?si=7e5f449e3c4b4438 The opening track is titled "Money Trees" by the magnanimous chill-hop master, Marcus D (@marcusd). Be sure to visit his site and support his craft. https://marcusd.net/Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmonDonate on PayPal: @DBrightmonBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmonGet Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmon You Might Also Like…#Host2Host Bonus Ep. – “Living A Fantastic Life Without Alcohol” with Dr. Stephan Neff: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/host2host-bonus-ep-living-a-fantastic-life-without-alcohol-with-dr-stephan-neff/ Ep. 459 – “Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict” with Brianne Davis (@TheBrianneDavis): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-459-secret-life-of-a-hollywood-sex-love-addict-with-brianne-davis-thebriannedavis/ 116 - "Escaping the Rabbit Hole" with Tracey Maxfield (@maxfield_tracey): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/116-escaping-the-rabbit-hole-with-tracey-maxfield-maxfield_tracey/ Ep. 322.5 (H2H Special) – “Burnout Proof” with Michael Levitt (@bfastleadership): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-3225-h2h-special-burnout-proof-with-michael-levitt-bfastleadership/ #M2M Bonus – “An Alcoholic's Progress from Mayhem to Miracles” with Sharla Charpentier (@The_Llove_Llama) #M2M: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/m2m-bonus-an-alcoholics-progress-from-mayhem-to-miracles-with-sharla-charpentier-the_llove_llama-m2m/ Ep. 596 – “The Self-Healing Mind” with Dr. Gregory Scott Brown (@GregorySBrownMD): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-596-the-self-healing-mind-with-dr-gregory-scott-brown-gregorysbrownmd/ Ep. 294.5 (Charm City Bonus Episode) – “The Addict in Aisle 7” with Alison Haase: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-2945-charm-city-bonus-episode-the-addict-in-aisle-7-with-alison-haase/ 24 - "Happy Hour" with Rashad "Bowtie" Mills (@RashadMills629): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/24-happy-hour-with-rashad-bowtie-mills-rashadmills629/ #Bonus Ep. – “Pray. Trust. Ride.” with Lisa Boucher (@LBoucherAuthor): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-ep-pray-trust-ride-with-lisa-boucher-lboucherauthor/ Ep. 358 – “Beyond the Bottle” with Clay Cutts (@claycutts): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-358-beyond-the-bottle-with-clay-cutts-claycutts/ 101 - "Every Silver Lining Has a Cloud" with Scott Stevens (@AlcoholAuthor): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/101-every-silver-lining-has-a-cloud-with-scott-stevens-alcoholauthor/ Ep. 584 – “The Imposter Lies Within” with Sheryl Anjanette (@sherylanjanette): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-584-the-imposter-lies-within-with-sheryl-anjanette-sherylanjanette/ Ep. 704 – “Unleashing the Power of Authentic Stories” with Dr. Jodie Eckleberry-Hunt (@jeckleberryhunt): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-704-unleashing-the-power-of-authentic-stories-with-dr-jodie-eckleberry-hunt-jeckleberryhu/

Alexandra Katehakis, Ph.D., LMFT is Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals, and the recipient of the 2018 WAAT Smart Award, the IITAP Leadership, and the 2012 SASH Carnes Award. She is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist/Supervisor and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist/Supervisor specializing in the treatment of sexual addiction and other sexual disorders. Dr. Katehakis is the author of What Turns You On? A Guide to Living Your Best Sex Life (2022), Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan (2018), Sex Addiction As Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (2016), co-author of the 2015 AASECT award winning Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence (2014), contributing author to the Clark Vincent award winning Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts, in M. Feree (Ed.) (2012), and author of Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot Healthy Sex After Recovery From Sex Addiction (2010).    Center for Healthy Sex ------ Instagram Facebook LinkedIn

"When our thoughts fail us, when those stories and beliefs get in our way, principles serve as a bright beautiful light that helps to guide our journey along the way." – Mary Katherine MoralesToday's featured author is a mom, wife, speaker, certified trainer, university fundraiser executive, and the Founder of the Woman of Principle Community, Mary Katherine (MK) Morales. MK and I had a fun chat about her book, “Becoming Woman of Principle: Transforming Your Mind, Living Courageously, and Rising to Your Call”, her journey from addiction to recovery, and tons more!!! Key Things You'll Learn:Why mentorship is required for your next level of fulfillmentHow to build powerful connections and overcome challengesWhy the 1% Principle is a tool for successful leadersThe role that faith played in her recovery MK's Site: https://www.womanofprinciple.com/MK's Book: https://a.co/d/dyUL46x The opening track is titled "Money Trees" by the magnanimous chill-hop master, Marcus D (@marcusd). Be sure to visit his site and support his craft. https://marcusd.net/Please support today's podcast to keep this content coming! CashApp: $DomBrightmonDonate on PayPal: @DBrightmonBuy Me a Coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/dombrightmonGet Going North T-Shirts, Stickers, and More: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/dom-brightmon You Might Also Like… Ep. 306 – “Be The SPARK” with Simon T. Bailey (@SimonTBailey): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-306-be-the-spark-with-simon-t-bailey-simontbailey/ Ep. 459 – “Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict” with Brianne Davis (@TheBrianneDavis): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-459-secret-life-of-a-hollywood-sex-love-addict-with-brianne-davis-thebriannedavis/ Ep. 712 – “When Your Heart Says to Leave a Legacy” with Bridget Cook-Burch (@inspiritwriter): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-712-when-your-heart-says-to-leave-a-legacy-with-bridget-cook-burch-inspiritwriter/ Ep. 517 – “God's Not Done with You” with Mary Guirovich (@maryguirovich): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-517-gods-not-done-with-you-with-mary-guirovich-maryguirovich/ Ep. 725 – “Closing the Confidence Gap” with Kelli Rae Thompson (@_KelliRThompson): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-725-closing-the-confidence-gap-with-kelli-rae-thompson-_kellirthompson/ Ep. 364 – “7 Deadly Thoughts” with Pastor Travis Hall (@PastorTHall): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-364-7-deadly-thoughts-with-pastor-travis-hall-pastorthall/ #Bonus Host2Host Ep.– “Unleashing the Power of Respect” with Dr. Joseph Shrand (@Drjoeshrand): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-host2host-ep-unleashing-the-power-of-respect-with-dr-joseph-shrand-drjoeshrand/ #Bonus Ep. – “It Is On You To Own You” with Delpha Clarke: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-ep-it-is-on-you-to-own-you-with-delpha-clarke/ Ep. 691 – “How to Spark Your Heart and Ignite Your Life” with Hilary DeCesare (@HilaryDeCesare): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-691-how-to-spark-your-heart-and-ignite-your-life-with-hilary-decesare-hilarydecesare/ Ep. 680 – “The Influence Lottery Ticket for Having High Impact” with Kelly Swanson (@motivationspkr): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-680-the-influence-lottery-ticket-for-having-high-impact-with-kelly-swanson-motivationspkr/ Ep. 667 – “Pursuing Success God's Way” with Erin Harrigan (@ErinHCoach): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-667-pursuing-success-gods-way-with-erin-harrigan-erinhcoach/ Ep. 664 – “The Power of Thought” with Lynn McLaughlin, MEd, BEd, BA (@lynnmcla): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-664-the-power-of-thought-with-lynn-mclaughlin-med-bed-ba-lynnmcla/ #Bonus Ep. – “Pray. Trust. Ride.” with Lisa Boucher (@LBoucherAuthor): https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/bonus-ep-pray-trust-ride-with-lisa-boucher-lboucherauthor/ Ep. 605 – “Love Is” with Kim Sorrelle: https://www.goingnorthpodcast.com/ep-605-love-is-with-kim-sorrelle/

When you date a Love Addict, YOU become their drug. At first they can make you feel like the most special, beautiful person, and all the pain and loneliness in your life was for a reason, because NOW, finally, you real true love has come along. Love addicts LOVE the feeling of being that for you. But they can't sustain it, and that's why dating them is such a roller coaster of highs when they love you, and lows when they totally disappear. The horrible thing about love addiction is that is spreads -- now YOU are the one who can't think of anything else. My letter today is from a woman whose life is now falling apart because she's hooked on a love addict. 10 Things Romantic Manipulators Say. FREE Download: https://bit.ly/3ZcUnkm Take my FREE Course or Quizzes: https://bit.ly/40M2YeW Enroll in my Courses or Membership: https://bit.ly/3HP5qcf Send your questions & comments to: hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com

In this week's episode, we delve into Brooke's compelling story of seeking acceptance and battling personal demons in the world of love and sex addiction. From her humble origins in a small town, where friends and family subjected her to bullying, to her discovery of a supportive online community that embraced her for who she truly is, this is a narrative of resilience and transformation. Join us as we follow Brooke's path through the shadows of desire, addiction, and depression, where she not only confronts her darkest temptations but also discovers the power of love in its most unexpected forms.Take the questionnaire yourself:https://slaafws.org/40-questions/_____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com_____SECRET LIFE'S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

My name is Richelle from New Jersey. I found 12 step rooms in the year 1999 and got clean on January 18, 2000. I was acting out in love addiction and did not even know it. I found Nikki M and the spiritual gangsters Big Book in October 2020.   Richelle speaks on the hopeless state of an untreated Love Addict.  She shares on what a love addict is and how it is defined.  Reco12 is an organization with the mission of learning and sharing the similarities of addiction of all kinds and gaining and sharing tools and hope from others who are walking a similar path.  We come together from all places, faiths and backgrounds to gain tools and hope from others who are walking a similar path.  Speakers from our past meetings have represented so many fellowships, addictions, and afflictions.  And we look forward to continuing to add to the diversity of speakers and backgrounds.  Reco12 appreciates your help in keeping us working our 12th Step with these great resources and services for the addict and loved ones.  We gratefully accept contributions to help cover the costs of the Zoom platform, podcast platform, web hosting, and administrative costs.  To become a Reco12 Spearhead you can quickly and easily become a monthly donor here: https://www.reco12.com/support  or you can do one-time donations through PayPal (https://www.paypal.me/reco12)  or Venmo:  @Reco-Twelve .  Thanks for your support!Resources from this meeting:SLAA (Characteristics of a SexLove AddictBill W's Emotional SobrietyBig Book of Alcoholics AnonymousSpiritual Gangsters List of Meetings12Steps4Hours Big Book Sponsorship"Outro music is "Just Can't Do this On My Own" written by James, Carrington, Thomas Barkmeijer and Paul Freeman and performed by James Carrington and used with full permission of James Carrington.  To learn more about this music and performer, please visit https://www.jamescarrington.net/ and https://m.facebook.com/jamescarringtonmusic ." Support the showPrivate Facebook GroupInstagram PageBecome a Reco12 Spearhead (Monthly Supporter)PatreonPayPalVenmo: @Reco-TwelveYouTube ChannelReco12 WebsiteEmail: reco12pod@gmail.com to join WhatsApp GroupReco12 Shares PodcastReco12 Shares Record a Share LinkReco12 Noodle It Out with Nikki M PodcastReco12 Big Book Roundtable Podcast

Lisa brings us into the world of BDSM and how she's balancing that life and the life of recovery from sex and love addiction._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com_____SECRET LIFE'S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Ever wondered what it's like getting intimate with a clown? Deep dive as comedian Maria Bamford (Arrested Development, Big Mouth) unravels her experiences as sex and love addict, the relationship tools she's learned in her 12 step programs, and her mental illnesses. Plus, for those seeking lasting love, Maria shares the 4 behaviors to avoid divorce. Recorded Aug 22nd 2023.Follow Nicole Byer: See Nicole on tour! Get tickets at linktr.ee/nicolebyerwastakenTwitter: @nicolebyerInstagram: @nicolebyerMerch: podswag.com/datemeNicole's book: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746 

What happens when the man you love cheats on you… again and again? Or when his chronic, narcissistic behavior of gaslighting you every time is pushing you farther and farther away from trusting your instincts and your inner voice? This week, Chloe shares the heartbreaking story of a decade-long relationship and her journey of letting go and learning to trust herself once again. Continuing our Best Of series, we share some of our listener favorites. The episode originally aired on March 1, 2021, as Ep #38._________If you or anyone you know is struggling with an addiction, depression, trauma, or sexual abuse, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.If you'd like to share your secret on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com._____To find out more information about Brianne's book Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, check out the website: https://secretlifenovel.com or At Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Subscribe, Rate & Review: Apple PodcastsFollow & Listen Spotify | Stitcher | Google PodcastsSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonateYou can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sex, Love, Addiction, and Reality TV: The Toxic Relationships of Vanderpump Rules — Rebecca was deep in her alcohol and sex & love addiction 18 years ago when she met Tom Sandavol at a Hollywood house party, and they slept together. Despite the fact, they both were in relationships. In the latest episode of Secret Life, host Brianne Davis teams up with guest Rebecca to delve deep into the intricate and toxic relationships portrayed on Bravo's Vanderpump Rules. Their critical and insightful analysis sheds light on the complex patterns of behavior and underlying issues at play, specifically focusing on the tumultuous love affair between Tom's narcissistic tendencies and Ariana. By examining the emotional dynamics and uncovering the nuances often overlooked by society, the podcast offers a serious exploration of the complexities of human relationships. From Tom and Raquel's affair to Ariana's missing the red flags, Secret Life dissects the frustrations of recovered sex and love addicts who feel that society fails to grasp the intricacies of these situations. Whether you're a devoted fan of the show or simply intrigued by the intricate dance between sex and love addiction, this thought-provoking podcast is a must-listen. Check out the 40 Sex & Love Addiction Questionnaire for yourself:https://slaafws.org/40-questions/For more information about Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous: https://slaafws.org/_____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com.______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email secretlifepodcast@icloud.com_____SECRET LIFE'S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterTranscriptBrianne 0:00:00Okay? So I know everything that's going on, and I just have to say to all the listeners, I don't do pop culture. I don't deal with that kind of shit. But this story, and I know you agreed with me, is so frustrating from a recovered sex and love addict that nobody's calling this shit, that they both are sex and love addicts.Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine. Sometimes you have to go through the darkness to reach the light. That's what I did. After twelve years of recovery in sex and love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself. Please join me in my novel, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex and Love Addict. A four-time bestseller on Amazon. It's a brutal, honest, raw, gnarly ride, but hilarious at the same time. Check it out now on Amazon. Welcome to Secret Life Podcast.I'm Brianne Davis-Gantt. Today, I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets. You'll hear about what people are hiding from themselves or others. You know, those deep, dark secrets you probably want to take to your grave. Or those lighter, funnier secrets that are just plain embarrassing. Really, the how, what, when, where, and why of it all.Oh, my God. Today. My guest is Rebecca. Now, Rebecca, I have a question for you. Don't. Don't. Don't. What is your secret?Rebecca 0:01:31I had a one-night stand with Tom Sandoval 18 years ago when he had a girlfriend.Brianne 0:01:38Son of a nutcracker. He's been doing it for a long time.Rebecca 0:01:42Almost two decades.Brianne 0:01:44Two decades. Okay, before we get into it, when did this happen? Where did it happen? What?Rebecca 0:01:51Yeah, I know. So I met him originally in Miami. I lived in New York before, and I used to go to Miami a lot. And I want to say this was 2003 or 2004.Brianne 0:02:02Okay.Rebecca 0:02:03And I was drinking very heavily. Met him at a club. I was there with my sister. And I remember it's fuzzy because I was very, very drunk.Brianne 0:02:12This is before I got sober and.Rebecca 0:02:14I met him and a bunch of his friends at a club. And we thought he was cute, so we introduced ourselves, and then he said, Come hang out with us. And I remember him popping champagne bottles and spraying it, which he still does.Brianne 0:02:31Wow. Yeah.Rebecca 0:02:33And I don't remember who else was with him, but I know that he lived with Jax at the time, so.Brianne 0:02:37He might have been there.Rebecca 0:02:38I just don't remember. I didn't know him then, so we didn't hook up with him that night, but nothing happened. So then fast forward maybe a year, and at this point, me and my sister had moved to Los Angeles. And this is like, the height of my drinking. This is one of the most drunk nights I've ever had. Like, it sticks out as really out of control. Like, very out of control. And I went to a liquor store and I remember these guys coming in and thinking I was funny because I was drunk. And then they were like, do you want to go come to a house party with us? And like an idiot, I was like, sure. And I went to this house party. I don't know whose house it was, where it was, what part of town.Brianne 0:03:20Like, no clue, no memory.Brianne 0:03:22So scary. I'm so scared for you right now.Rebecca 0:03:25I know, but it was like a legit, typical Hollywood house party with a couple of another reality star. So there was probably some celebrities or well known Hollywood people at this party. And I remember seeing Tom sort of remember and going up to him. I'm like, oh, it's Tom Sandoval. Where I met him. Miami. I remembered him because we thought he was really cute. And I guess I went up to him and was like, do you remember me and my sister? She looks like a lot like me. And he said yes. And then I guess we were talking, and I said something like, my sister thinks you're really hot. Can I bring you home to her?Brianne 0:04:06We live together.Rebecca 0:04:07Can I bring you home for her?Brianne 0:04:09Like a present?Rebecca 0:04:11Exactly.Brianne 0:04:13Here's your party favorite. Enjoy. Okay.Rebecca 0:04:17I remember going home, and me and.Brianne 0:04:20My sister had lived together at the time, but she wasn't home for whatever reason.Rebecca 0:04:24So I said something like, well, I can't let you go to waste.Brianne 0:04:29Yeah, that's a line.Brianne 0:04:34Yeah.Rebecca 0:04:35He was completely unfazed by whoever, whatever. I was like, yeah, I can't let you go to waste, so do you want to go upstairs? And he was like, yeah, sure. I just remember thinking, okay, that was easy because at the time, I treated men like conquest, and I was very into male models. Since I had lived in New York, he was just another male model. So we went upstairs, did the deed. I sort of remember either. I told him first that I had a boyfriend.Brianne 0:05:04Okay.Rebecca 0:05:05He told me that he had a girlfriend, and it was very life, matter of fact.Brianne 0:05:08No guilt about it.Rebecca 0:05:10Just like, yeah, I have a girlfriend. Oh, yeah, I have a boyfriend. And then it was sort of right before the act.Brianne 0:05:16Yeah.Rebecca 0:05:17And then we did and it didn't take very long.Brianne 0:05:21It didn't last very long.Rebecca 0:05:22It wasn't very nothing to write home about, from what I remember. And then I guess I got his number because I gave it to my sister later, which is so weird and twisted.Brianne 0:05:31So weird and twisted. Alcoholic. Yeah. Here, I just left with him. Your turn, CIS.Brianne 0:05:41Yeah.Rebecca 0:05:41I was like, sorry, life. You weren't home. But she didn't care, and so he left. And then I hadn't seen him since. I haven't talked to him. I didn't ever text him.Brianne 0:05:52Okay. So I know everything that's going on, and I just have to say to all the listeners, I don't do pop culture. I don't deal with that kind of shit. But this story, and I know you agreed with me, it's so frustrating from a recovered sex and love addict that nobody's calling this shit, that they both are sex and love addicts.Brianne 0:06:16Exactly.Brianne 0:06:18It's so frustrating. And why did you reach out to me about it? Because I want to hear it from your point of view. Because you slept with him?Brianne 0:06:25Yes, because I've been watching the show, obviously. And I actually started watching because I recognized him on the commercials after I slept with him. This was about I don't know, it was years before Vanderpump Rules. And the whole case just fascinated me for so many reasons, as it does pretty much the rest of America and so many other people beyond. And it's just so layered and it's so interesting why it's captivated so many people. Considering cheating is not an uncommon thing, especially on Bravo, especially on Vanderpump Rules. It's like what the show was based on. So I really wanted to share that aspect of it and talk about how this is a pattern life. He was just found out. But this is happening 18 years ago. And since then I got sober, I'm in slaa, I've identified as a sex and love addict. So I just see so many things that people are not really talking about.Brianne 0:07:27Yeah, and society is missing. It's almost like a secret society is keeping from our human race, because the number one thing people want is love and affection and attention and intimacy. But majority of humans are terrified of it. So we go from person to person to person. Doesn't really even matter who they are, to get this need filled. And we're all just like running around like toddlers, wanting, giving, giving. And here's an example of two people willing to blow up their whole fucking life exactly. For that little thing where they think it's everything. It's that life. Roller coaster, intensity, passion. So let's break it down. So when you are watching it, and I know you've listened to a lot of other podcasts, I mean, JLo is talking about it like, JLo, that's crazy.Brianne 0:08:21It's in Time Magazine, it's in Variety, it's in every major publication. It sort of transcended the Bravo and reality show universe. And there's a reason why I think it's relatable to so many people, but they can't quite put their finger on why.Brianne 0:08:36Yeah. So what is other podcasts saying that's making you frustrated as a recovered sex and love addict?Brianne 0:08:42I just don't think that they're touching on that aspect. I think they're more focused on it's, like black and white. It's a betrayal, obviously, but they're not going into the nuances of what Tom might be feeling or where he might be coming from, or what's going on with Raquel, what their histories and their childhoods might have been like. And one of the most interesting things about it is that Ariana, it turns out knew about Miami Girl and was protecting him. And there's just so many aspects about their relationship that I relate to in other relationships as well. Sort of the manipulation and the narcissism. Not to diagnose anyone, although it used to be a therapist. But there's just so many things that people are missing. I've heard a couple of podcasts coming at it from a psychological and intuitive empathic sort of way. But most of the podcasts are missing.Brianne 0:09:41That well, they're just ragging on them. And listen, I'm speaking from a place where I was a cheater, cheated all the time, go from person to person, overlap them. So I'm coming in from and listen, I was a piece of shit. I will say that I was in my addiction. It was all about me. Selfish, self involved, fill me up, give me attention, give me what I need. In the moment the high wore off and the excitement, I would start looking for somebody else.Brianne 0:10:05I'm familiar, right?Brianne 0:10:06So I have no judgment on Tom. And then I also know, and you and I have talked about this before a long time ago. Well, not a long time ago, but when it came out, we said, listen, poor Ariana, she is the victim, but she also has a place when someone cheats, and I know a lot of people don't agree with me when someone cheats, it takes those two people in the relationship to actually make that happen. She avoided the red flags, she made excuses, she kept a secret, a huge.Brianne 0:10:40Secret for seven years that lied about it.Rebecca 0:10:44New women.Brianne 0:10:44Yeah. So she missed those signs. And then when the intimacy is going away, which she said, our intimacy has been bad, when that starts to break, you're responsible to repair it.Brianne 0:11:00Yes, and she said she tried, but we don't really know what happened.Brianne 0:11:06Yeah, she should have. But here's the thing, then she could say, something's missing, something's going on, you're staying out late, you're not home, you're not spending that much time with me. Red flag, red flag, red flag, red flag.Brianne 0:11:20Yes. And we've all done it. We've all ignored red flags and wasted years doing that. And then we're blindsided and then we're like, what happened? But in hindsight, we can see all the red flags that were there and that we maybe willfully ignored.Brianne 0:11:35So I did read something I Want to Tell you and see your take on it, that he's a narcissist. Listen, I had narcissistic tendencies. I'm not a narcissist, but I have them. And we're not saying he is. And then she did a post a while ago, raquel that she was going to codependency twelve step program Coda. And I was thinking it's not really a Coda situation because I pulled up some of the things is that you will still see a person that's destructive to you. So there's something in her. So that's like the questions. There's 40 questions in Flaw and one of them is, do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though that person is destructive to you?Brianne 0:12:20Yeah. And she did this with James, too. I mean, James was destructive in a totally different way. But she seeks these men out that are very strong personalities and possible narcissists and manipulative. And they're very different in the way that they sort of abused her, but they both were pretty toxic for her.Brianne 0:12:42Overwhelming. She loses her sense of self in the relationship.Brianne 0:12:47Yes. And maybe she feels stronger having someone like that at her side because she's not strong on her own. She's kind of fascinating. She has a lot of oh, yeah. History. That she was adopted by her aunt.Brianne 0:13:05Abandonment, rejection from her birth mom.Brianne 0:13:09Yes. Even though she would probably deny it, because the way that she frames it is really interesting. She said something like, my birth mom was kind enough to give me to her sister, essentially because she couldn't conceive. And she framed it in a way that's a very pageant answer. And then the pageant is a whole that pageant world is a whole other animal where she competed against other women. Other women had this perfectionism, which is why I think a lot of times she seems rehearsed and very stoic and very put together, but there's nothing there.Brianne 0:13:49Well, here's number 14 is, do you feel desperate for a lover or a future mate? It's like instead of going outside this group, she went inside the circle and saw, oh, here's they have a house, they have this. This is what I want. Oh, and he's like a rock star now. Because here's the other thing I want to say. One of the huge characteristics for sex and love addicts, and I love this characteristic, it's my favorite. But we assign magical qualities to others. We idealize and pursue them and then blame them for not fulfilling our fantasies and expectations. And I believe both of them do that.Brianne 0:14:25Both of them did that for him. He was the answer to his midlife crisis. She made him feel seen. She made him feel special.Brianne 0:14:37Yes, you heard and validated.Brianne 0:14:41She's very different than Ariana. Ariana will tell it like it is, and she will just be heart eyes and just very admiring of him. And that's what he needed at that time. If he is a narcissist, that's what he's going to want. He's going to want someone admiring. But does she really see him? I don't know.Brianne 0:15:03No, she doesn't. So that's the thing. Even when they're talking to each other, because you and I just looked at some of the reunion, even when they were in that winnebago or away from the set, they were talking to each other. It's almost like they weren't even seeing each other. It was really interesting to watch. It was like their eyes were glazed over. So it's almost this false form of intimacy that I was seeing that they didn't even seem like they actually knew each other or that they've had sex before. Even when people I used to work as an actor, I go on set and I would know who's fucking who life. You're fucking the hair person, you're with the extra. You're doing this because you can feel that energy. But something in them, and it wasn't because the cameras were on them, because you can still see it. Because we could see it before. There's something where they used each other for false intimacy and it's actually not there.Brianne 0:15:58Yeah, they don't really do that, too. I did. I mean, both scenes that we saw of them together, pretty much everyone is saying that it was weird, it was awkward. And I'm sure most people chalked it up to and they could chalk it up to there's cameras there. But yeah, I didn't see the connection, the intimacy, the love.Brianne 0:16:16But they've had cameras for a long time, so they're used to cameras. It's not like somebody new.Brianne 0:16:21Yeah, but it was a secret that was being exposed and finally filmed. And so I'm sure they didn't know how to act, but I didn't see any connection or intimacy, literally.Brianne 0:16:32Could you see them having an affair for seven months? I did not feel that intimacy at all. It was almost like evaporates. And I think that's what I wanted to say to you, too, and see if you agree, is when we love secrets and lies, the dirtier, the dark, we get to fester in secrets and lies. And when it comes to light, it never lives up to the fantasy.Brianne 0:16:56You could see that the magic was gone, the bubble was burst. You could see that in the trailer. It's like, oh, consequences. Now it's real life, and we're not in this little secret, exciting, forbidden bubble anymore. Now everyone else is involved and it's ugly and it's real life. And like Ariana even said, wait till she starts having real demands and expectations of a girlfriend. She's not going to be so cool and exciting then. And that was Ariana's experience. It's the same pattern repeated.Brianne 0:17:31Yeah. And listen, Ariana could have a little love addict in her. And I believe most of society has this because we all yearn to be loved. But I wanted to read this characteristic. We feel empty and incomplete when we are alone. Even though we fear intimacy and commitment, we continually search for relationships and sexual contacts.Brianne 0:17:51Absolutely.Brianne 0:17:52I mean, how many stories have we I've heard much more stories about him. Been cheating a lot. Like 1112 people. So this is something where he's going into we call it relocating, where you go to other locations and you find people to intrigue with or flirt with or hook up with, and then you leave them there.Brianne 0:18:16Yeah.Brianne 0:18:20Sorry.Brianne 0:18:21No, that's okay. This is 18 years ago, and he had a girlfriend then. And then the next time I saw him, he was with Kristen. That was five or six years they lived together. Very codependent, cheating on her the whole time. And then he went right from that to Ariana. And then he cheated on her from the beginning, whether you want to call it cheating or not. Miami girl. And then I believe there are way more than two or three that he's admitting to.Brianne 0:18:50100%. I would give money on it, because what happens is this is a progressive disease. It's a thinking disease. It's actually not about the other person, we think. And it progressively gets worse. So the higher the stakes means you've been doing it a long time. And here's the stakes. It was her best friend seven months on television for them to even think. And she even said in the interview, I thought it would be okay with Ariana. I thought they would break up. Then him and I could start dating. That was my reality. And in my head, I was screaming, no, that was your fucking fantasy.Brianne 0:19:29Yeah.Brianne 0:19:31That is life. How toxic and how this disease will make you think the craziest things will work out and they won't.Brianne 0:19:40Yeah. I wonder if she thought that, because that's exactly what happened with Kristen and Ariana's overlap. Like, he came on the reunion, we didn't see this, but he had broken up with Kristen and then now he's with Ariana. And maybe she thought that their situation would play out the same way if they weren't caught. That's what would have happened. He would have broken up with Ariana, and the next reunion, they would be together next season, maybe, and everybody would just accept it eventually. That's what she thought. And I think she even said that I was living in my own little world. And even Lala also pointed out that.Brianne 0:20:17Living in fantasy, that she thought it was going to work out. I mean, even Randall, I've met him and gone in for him and castings and stuff. And it's like I smelled him from a mile away of also having this problem. Let's just get to it.Brianne 0:20:30Yeah. I think somebody said maybe it was Ariana. She said the way that he talks about her is exactly the way that he talked about me in the beginning. And so many I've looked at scenes that are almost identical of what he said about Kristen. We're not having sex. She cringes when I touch her. We were basically roommates. And he's saying the exact same things about Ariana. So it's a pattern of over. I mean, that's 15 years right there.Brianne 0:20:59Well, here's the third characteristic, and this one is going to nail ding, ding. It says furied emotional and sexual deprivation. So he felt he had emotional deprivation and sexual deprivation. We compulsively pursue and involve ourselves in one relationship after another, sometimes having more than one sexual or emotional liaison at a time, so that's that overlap. It's like, can't be alone. I'm empty. I'm empty. Fill me up. Give me the sexual needs. Give me the emotional needs.Brianne 0:21:37Yeah, it's life leapfrogging from one thing to another. Life I've never seen again. This is like two decades from what I've seen and from what I know of the exact same thing. I can't be alone. I can't be alone.Rebecca 0:21:50Can't be alone.Brianne 0:21:51I need that girlfriend, but I also need that excitement on the outside.Brianne 0:21:56Yeah. And here's Raquel's one. We confuse love with neediness. Physical and sexual attraction, pity or the need to rescue or be rescued.Brianne 0:22:06Yeah, with James, I guess she was trying to rescue him.Brianne 0:22:09Yeah, but here's the thing. She was trying to rescue Sandoval from his relationship with Ariana, and then she want to be rescued by him in her loneliness. And she couldn't sit within herself. And we were forgetting she hooked up with that other married guy before in Vegas.Brianne 0:22:29Schwartz.Brianne 0:22:31No, schwartz and then the one before. Yes.Brianne 0:22:34I mean, she went from Peter to Oliver to Schwartz, which I think was a decoy, set up something. It was either production or Sandoval trying to cover his tracks. Or she was trying to make him jealous. That both.Brianne 0:22:48I actually think both.Brianne 0:22:49Yeah, because he wasn't committing. I mean, I think what we're hearing is completely different than what they were talking about behind closed doors and what they had planned. Maybe. I mean, there's a theory that she was with Sandoval when she was with James and that's why she broke up with him. She broke the engagement off because it was kind of out of nowhere.Brianne 0:23:11Well, he was paying for their engagement, which is very odd, very strange. It's almost like the seeds were being planted. And it's like a type of not grooming, but a type of grooming situation where, listen, healthy people do not pick unhealthy people. I always say, when you do this work, anybody you choose right now is unhealthy because a healthy person sees those signs, sees those boundaries, and will not put up with them. So anytime someone with these behaviors, who they pick is just unhealthy? That's exactly it. Because here's the thing. Ariana did kiss him while he was with Kristen. There's a part of her that's unhealthy, and people aren't saying that. And listen, she is the victim. I feel horrible for her, absolutely terrible. But she also played out the same pattern. Yes. Not saying that.Brianne 0:24:12No, not saying that. I mean, it's interesting that she's so the victim right now. Everybody feels so bad for her. Andy did touch on it a little bit in the reunion. He said, Listen, this is a room full of cheaters. Ariana, you kissed Sandoval while he was with Kristen. And the thing is, in rewatching the show, she's never once copped to that and said, I mean, she admitted it, but she never said, yeah, that was wrong. I'm sorry, Kristen, that was wrong. That was still cheating. And by the way, I don't know if they just kissed. But even if they just kissed, that's still cheating. That's still doing the same thing that ended up kind of happening to her.Brianne 0:24:54But here's the thing. They're not saying my friend, they're not saying they had an emotional affair already. They were best friends. First of all, I don't know about you, but I don't believe men and women, if that's the sexual if that's who you're attracted to, I don't believe it's a healthy scenario to have a lot of guy friends or to have a guy best friend. No, I just don't. The energy exchange, usually somebody would fuck somebody, so it's not a real friendship.Brianne 0:25:23Agree.Brianne 0:25:24They were having an emotional affair. That's worse than kissing. That's worse. And no one's saying that.Brianne 0:25:32No one's saying that. I know it is. I mean, Kristen said that in the reunion. She said, well, you guys were having an emotional affair. And I think they kind of denied that. But it's pretty clear. I wouldn't want my boyfriend texting his friend who's really hot, who I'm threatened by at three in the morning and saying what certain things that they were saying. It's inappropriate, to say the least. And she never really owned that. Neither of them ever caught to that. We're friends, we're friends. And then he said the same thing about Raquel. We're friends. We're friends. We're dancing at the Abbey at 02:00 A.m..Brianne 0:26:08It's normal.Brianne 0:26:10No, it's not. It is not normal. Whoever you're hanging out whoever's hanging out with somebody at 01:00 A.m., that is not a healthy situation. In the dark is where things get fucked up. And here's the one I want to say, because this is the characteristic for what we're talking about, is having few healthy boundaries. We become sexually involved with and or emotionally attached to people without knowing them. Now, he could say, Ariana and I knew each other back then, and it's like, no, you didn't. You worked behind a bar. Yes, you worked together. But do you actually know the person? Probably they trauma bonded. Probably they complained about Kristen and she felt closer to him and they had this connection. Oh, my God. I can't tell you, if I hear one more person saying, oh, the connection, we were like, I've never connected to another person. I'm like that's a bunch of BS.Brianne 0:27:03Sorry.Brianne 0:27:04Yes.Brianne 0:27:08That was my alarm. Yeah. I think that she probably trauma bonded with him also because she had talked about in her last relationship, she dealt with a lot of emotional and verbal abuse, and she was talked down to and her self esteem was just obliterated. So, yeah, they probably did trauma bond over these toxic relationships that they were in. And they both said that. She said that over and over. Like, I've known him for six years. We've been friends for six years. As if that sort of or no, three years, I think it was at the time. As if that sort of overshadows the actual intimate relationship that Kristen had with him. And they acted like they knew each other on that intimate level because they were friends for three years.Brianne 0:27:56Yeah.Brianne 0:27:57And it's not the same thing. They didn't know each other that way. So they said, you don't even know.Brianne 0:28:04The person that you're with sometimes for years. My husband and I have been together for 18 years, and I still learn things about him. So if you think this overwhelming connection or you know this person, you do not you do not ever there's a part of us that is never fully yes, we're connected. I'm the most connected I've ever been, but I had years and years of therapy and work on myself and my intimacy and all of that. But Tom and Raquel or Tom and Ariana are all these scenarios. First of all, they don't know each other. You're living in an altered reality in general, on television. None of that is fucking real. I've been an actress for 20 something years. It is not real. None of it. So they all live in fantasy. And these two people, let's say, took the fantasy to the next level. And no one is calling it what it is. And now they say she's in rehab or a mental facility.Brianne 0:29:05Do you believe that? I want to know if you believe thatBrianne 0:29:08I don't. Honestly, I have no idea what's going on with her. I think it's probably a good thing that she's not in the public eye right now and in everyone's face, like Sandoval is. She's not flaunting. Whatever she's doing, I mean, it's good that she's out of the public eye in a way. I don't know where she is. Life. Maybe she's at a maybe she's with her parents. Maybe she's at because she seems very reliant on them. And, um maybe she's at a spa that she's sorry. Calling a wellness resort. Maybe there's a theory that she was pregnant and so she's in hiding at her grandmother's house. I don't know. She's more of the mysterious piece for me. She's hard to read.Brianne 0:29:52It's that facade. That mask is that perfectionism.Brianne 0:29:56It's the reflection that all these men because I look.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

It doesn't matter how successful you are, how much money you make, or what you look like, Compare and Despair can and will bring you down. Jana and Brianne talk about how Compare and Despair thinking is pervasive and dangerous. It can contribute to anxiety, depression, shame, and envy, leading to self-criticism and a lack of self-worth. It rapidly undermines any confidence.________If you or anyone you know is struggling with an addiction, depression, trauma, or sexual abuse, we've compiled a list of resources at https://secretlifepodcast.com.If you'd like to share your secret on the show or want to share your thoughts about an episode, please send an email to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com._____To find out more information about Brianne's book Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, check out the website: https://secretlifenovel.com or At Amazon Our Guest: JANA KRAMERJana Kramer is a country music singer and actress who has starred on One Tree Hill, Friday Night Lights, and the 2012 season of Dancing with the Stars. Kramer began her musical career in 2012 and has released two albums: Jana Kramer and Thirty OnTo connect with Jana Kramer:Website: https://janakramer.comThe Good Fight Book: https://janaandmike.comWhine Down Podcast: https://janakramer.com/podcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/kramergirl/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/janakramermusicTwitter: https://twitter.com/kramergirl______Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Celebrating our 150th episode, we're sharing some of our listener favorites, starting with our good friend, Jim Clemente. Unfortunately, his story is all too common, as we see with recent news of the Baltimore Catholic Church, so incredibly prevalent still.This episode originally aired on April 19, 2021 as Ep #45.What would you do if you came face to face with the man that molested you when you were a teen? When Jim Clemente walked into the Bronx home of his former summer camp director, it wasn't for old time's sake. The twenty-something Clemente was wearing a wire. Federal agents and an NYPD detective were listening in.And his old camp boss, Michael J. O'Hara, was showing Clemente pictures of kids he'd molested — just like he'd abused Clemente a decade prior. Clemente had convinced the predator he was a kindred spirit and had to keep his cool, or the criminal case being built against O'Hara — a Boy Scout leader, Catholic school teacher and youth-basketball coach believed to have sexually abused hundreds of kids — would fall apart. (Excerpt from New York Post Article)_______In April of 2021, President Biden announced National Child Abuse Prevention Month. He calls upon all Americans to protect our Nation's greatest resource — its children — and to take an active role in supporting children and parents and creating safe communities filled with thriving families.For more information on what you can do: https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/preventing/preventionmonth/_____At least 1 in 6 men have been sexually abused or assaulted. If you're a man who has experienced sexual abuse or assault, you're not alone.https://1in6.org is there to support you in your path to a happier, healthier future._____Jim Clemente is a retired FBI Supervisory Special Agent/Profiler and former New York City Prosecutor. During his 22-year career with the FBI, he investigated cases from bank robberies to serial killers. He also investigated public corruption in the White House, white collar and violent crime, and has worked as an undercover agent posing as everything from a street beggar to a broker on Wall Street. For over a decade, he was an FBI Profiler investigated violent and sexual serial crimes. He is an internationally recognized expert in the fields of sex crimes and abduction/homicides. Today he is the Founder/CEO of XG Productions, a cross-platform development and production company. He co-hosts the WONDERY podcasts: REAL CRIME PROFILE, BEST CASE WORST CASE. and hosts LOCKED UP ABROAD. He is a Writer/Producer for Criminal Minds and The Case Of: JonBenet Ramsey on CBS, as well as the Co-Creator of Manhunt: Unabomber on NETFLIX. He also Executive Produced the upcoming series: TRUTH & JUSTICE and COLONIAL PARKWAY MURDERS on OXYGEN Network. Clemente authored his first novel, WITHOUT CONSENT, based on his true story and co-authored the non-fiction Audible series, EVIL HAS A NAME.To connect with Jim Clemente: Twitter | Instagram | Facebook | Real Crime Profile | Best Case Worst Case | XG Productions____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction or depression, we've compiled a list of resources on the Secret Life Website: https://secretlifepodcast.comTo share your secret and be a guest on the show, email secretlifepodcast@icloud.comTo find out more information about Brianne's book Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict, check out the website: https://secretlifenovel.com or at Amazon_____HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Subscribe, Rate & Review: Apple PodcastsFollow & Listen Spotify | Stitcher | Google PodcastsSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonateYou can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne DavisOfficial WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark GanttMain WebsiteDirecting WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Karen shares her powerful story of growing up in an alcoholic home and the impact it had on her life, including her struggle with emotional suppression and disconnection. Tune in to hear Karen's journey towards healing, self-discovery, and finding peace within herself. She offers insightful advice for those dealing with addiction in their lives and emphasizes the importance of seeking support and approaching these situations with curiosity and compassion. This podcast is a must-listen for anyone looking to overcome past traumas and experiences and connect with themselves and others on a deeper level._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com.______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email secretlifepodcast@icloud.comABOUT OUR GUEST:Karen Maloney“Your life is like a mirror reflecting your beliefs to you.” Life wasn't always how it is now. To many people I may look and appear the same, but INSIDE I feel like a completely different person. Just like a computer, I've installed a whole new operating system. I've deleted old files & replaced them with new programs instead (i.e. habits, beliefs, thoughts etc) and revolutionised my internal world, shifting the way I think and what I believe about myself. Everything comes from within – ‘as within, so without'. It's been life-changing for me and I know it can be the same for you!Now I can see CLEARLY that for most of my life I lived in the baseline energy of fear. I lived my life in ‘freeze' mode. I felt disassociated, unsafe, anxious and I felt awkward being myself. I judged myself harshly (always trying to be perfect!) and my brain went a 100 miles and hour. But for the most part I never realised there was anything wrong with that. It was my ‘normal'. I thought it was a sign of my ambition and drive. Out of an unconscious fear, I lived from the level of my mind. I thought if I can think, plan, control and rationalise everything in my mind, I would be safe. That need for control provided me with a sense of safety and security inside, that I didn't feel in the external world. But it also lead to burnout. Find out MORE: Soulpowerlight.comCuriosity & Consciousness Podcast_____SECRET LIFE'S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to secretlifepodcast@icloud.com) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterTranscript[0:00:00] Karen: Often a child who grew up in an alcoholic home can have difficulties with trust, with identifying, expressing feelings. And they either go one of two ways totally controlled, or feeling like they have no control over their life. This is 1 million% describing me.[0:00:23] Brianne Davis: Welcome to the Secret Life Podcast. Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine. Sometimes you have to go through the darkness to reach the light. That's what I did. After twelve years of recovery in sex and love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself. Please join me in my novel, Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict. A four-time bestseller on Amazon. It's a brutal, honest, raw, gnarly ride, but hilarious at the same time. Check it out now on Amazon. Welcome to Secret Life Podcast. I'm Brianne Davis-Gantt. Today, I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets. We'll hear about what people are hiding from themselves or others. You know, those deep, dark secrets you probably want to take to your grave, or, you know, those light or funnier secrets that are just plain embarrassing. Really.[0:01:23] Brianne Davis: The how, what, when, where, why of it all. Today. My guest is Karen. Now, Karen, I have a question for you. Dun dun dun. What is your secret?[0:01:37] Karen: I grew up in an alcoholic home. And actually, the impact that it had on me that I totally did not connect the dots to that at all.[0:01:48] Brianne Davis: Like the denial of what living in an alcoholic home does to you.[0:01:53] Karen: Yeah, well, I don't even because there's so many different I suppose that word was never used. It wasn't a thing. It wasn't as if my dad was out all day every day and coming home drunk and crawling havoc and messing up the place and all this kind of thing. No, he totally worked all day, but he went out every single night and came home, particularly when I was a child, I remember him coming home drunk, like, absolutely obliterated, and I hated it. And I always just wanted to be in bed and I would be like, oh, please don't come in and wake me up. Because sometimes he would he'd come in and he'd wake me up and that's when he'd be like, oh my God, I love you so much. profusing his undying love. And sometimes he passed out as well. With life an arm over me. And as a child, I was just terrified.[0:02:41] Brianne Davis: So terrifying. That overwhelming. It's almost like when a family member would do that, it was like you didn't know what to do with all that energy coming at you.[0:02:53] Karen: Yeah, and that's when I literally stopped breathing. Because as a child and before the age of seven, we're literally in PETA. We've been programmed. It's like we're in a hypnotized state again. I'm looking back now as a journey of discovery and healing and connecting all the dots, but I didn't know this at the time. But that's when I stopped breathing, I'd be so terrified. I went into freeze mode because even my dad, if he passed out with his arm over me, I would stop breathing because I'd be like, I don't want to wake him, because if he starts producing his love again, the smell of drink, it's just not cool for a child. And I live my life in that freeze mode.[0:03:39] Brianne Davis: Like, you would realize you were holding your breath.[0:03:43] Karen: And especially if I felt triggered or vulnerable or particularly when it came to relationships and opening up and expressing feelings and emotions, life, I just did not do that. I was a closed book. And if ever I felt in that space of needing to open up, I would go in that freeze mode. It was like, stop breathing. Shut down. Yes.[0:04:05] Brianne Davis: I want to ask you, so I've taken breath class. As an actor, you work with your breath and all. My teacher told me that I breathe just in my chest, and I didn't connect my breath to my belly. And the lower area, is that how you life? I guess I was disconnected too.[0:04:25] Karen: Yeah, upper chest breathing. Because I've studied a lot and done a couple of courses while on breath work. And that upper chest breathing, is that really kind of panic, fight or flight you're passing extra cortisol you're in fight or flight, essentially. You're not in that rest or digest, like, full, deep, diaphragmic breaths that allow oxygenated blood to pass around your body. So, yeah, it does have an impact. But it's so funny because recently I joined Alanon, and honestly, by joining there and that's through another episode of a person close to me drinking. And I was just like, oh, my God. Even with all my skills, all my tools, all my practices, I couldn't cope. It was really triggering me. So I was like, oh, my God, I need help here.[0:05:12] Brianne Davis: Wait, let's not jump ahead, though. Wait, let's go back. I have a couple of questions. Okay. You're like, I know exactly what I want to say, but no. When your household was in that state so he drank every night. He was a functioning alcoholic. It sounds life.[0:05:27] Karen: Now you can look back and go, yeah, absolutely. Because he was up every morning, went to work.[0:05:31] Brianne Davis: Yeah. And that's the hardest ones to diagnose. If your life is not falling to pieces, it's hard to be like, oh, I have a problem.[0:05:39] Karen: Yeah.[0:05:40] Brianne Davis: So was there a word you guys used for when he was in that state, or was it just not talked about?[0:05:46] Karen: No, like I say, it was not mentioned. That word was never brought up. It was never an issue. It was just like and honestly, when I look back, I didn't see it as an issue. I didn't think, oh, my God, my dad goes out every night. It was just like a normal as far as I knew, it's what everyone did.[0:06:04] Brianne Davis: Wait and where are you from?[0:06:06] Karen: Ireland.[0:06:06] Brianne Davis: Ireland, that's it. You're Irish, right? But I'm Irish too and it's like a lot of people I hear say, well, Irish just drink a lot. Like it's our culture, it's the society we were raised in. Yeah.[0:06:19] Karen: And it definitely was part that. But I could see as well, it was probably his bit of a wind down his sanctuary where he met his buddies and they all catched up, caught up, but also when it's every single night of the year. The only two nights he didn't go out was Good Friday because the pubs were closed during Christmas Day because the pubs were closed and I do not remember a single day when he did not go. That's just how it was. But like I'm saying, it was just so normalized and I think this is what happens a lot in trauma or whatever kind of situation. They're just so normal. You don't see that there's any issue. They're just like your blind spots and those particularly coming home life really drunk and kind of waking us up in the middle of the night to tell us he loves us so much, in that I remember that happening literally a handful of times. But when I was really young, like five, six, seven, maybe around that age, it didn't happen as we got older, but he still went out. But it happened enough times for me to live my life in a programmed state of that not feeling safe, that fear, that living in freeze mode, shutting down. That's what we do.[0:07:40] Brianne Davis: You're supposed to rely on, is not in a healthy state. So the boundaries are crossed. Like your boundaries were crossed as a little girl. A father should not be climbing in bed and passing out drunk with his arm over his daughter. Is that when you had that AHA moment? Because you had it after we talked, right? Like we talked on your podcast. So how did that AHA moment realize, I know you have another family member that's also an alcoholic. Can you connect all those dots when this moment of AHA happened for you?[0:08:13] Karen: Yeah, my AHA moment when it all connected and I really saw the impact that those events had on me was like I mentioned, just another family member and just me not being able to cope and I was like, oh hell, I need help here.[0:08:30] Brianne Davis: And did something happen with the other family member? Did the person bottom out or just.[0:08:37] Karen: Every now and again they're just not in a good place, don't have healthy supportive habits. So it's just kind of like, well, I don't give a shit anyway, so I'm just going to go and get obliterated and maybe on a weekly Davis would just be obliterated and awake all night and singing and Wake Me up and I'm just like, what the fuck? So I was just life, oh my God, I need help here. Because obviously again, that's a coping mechanism and they're not ready to do anything else. But it was really triggering me more than anything else because, like, that I have so many tools and skills of and have been on this journey. So I reached out to Alanon and it's so funny because obviously there's so many groups, but it's not funny because there's no such thing as coincidence. But I ended up joining a group called growing up in an Alcoholic Home. And even though looking at it, I was life. Yeah, but that's not really the truth because you have this idea that Narcolic is drunk all day every day and calls him mayhem, which happens.[0:09:35] Brianne Davis: But I was grown up and well, they call Alanon, just so anybody's listening, you don't have to have a drunk parent to be an Alanon. I also went to Alanon. Neither of my parents were drinkers, but it was a dysfunctional family. So they say Alanon's for alcoholic or dysfunctional family, or if you have a.[0:09:52] Karen: Relative or friend, they say, yeah.[0:09:57] Brianne Davis: Well, they're another addiction. Like, my mom is a workaholic. She'll say that other family members had problems. But yeah.[0:10:04] Karen: So this group jumped out at me and at first I was like, no, I'm not going to join that one. I didn't really grow up in the Melcolic home, but then I was like, because this was a Friday and I was like, I really want to just join now. So this was a Saturday morning, so it was the next day. So I was like, yeah, I'm just going to join it. And oh my God. On their opening paragraph, even they describe this adult child and they describe this person who as a child, if they grew up in an alcoholic home and if they often felt either physically unsafe or psychologically unsafe, and that was obviously me, psychologically unsafe.[0:10:44] Brianne Davis: When a parent crosses a line that is just unsure and not normal, which happened to me, I wasn't as sexually abused by a parent, but there was some line crossing where boundaries that is inappropriate for a child. So if you're out there and something has happened where you're like, well, it wasn't sexual abuse, but it definitely made me really uncomfortable as a child. It was too intimate and it was emotionally a meshing and physically meshing a little bit. You're okay to say something happened and I'm uncomfortable, even if it wasn't sexual? I just have to say that because it was so hard for me doing the work to be like, but nothing sexual happened. And my therapist would be like, no, it was inappropriate at six years old for this to happen to you. So I just have to say that because I had the hardest time admitting that to myself.[0:11:35] Karen: Yeah, no, for sure, you're right. And it does make sense, as I say, although I didn't feel physically unsafe. Of course it makes sense. Like you say, yes, absolutely. Boundaries were crossed that's just not normal behavior, definitely, but, like, that it was more a psychological effect for me and how I life. But they had this paragraph on an adult child and how it impacts them, how often a child who grew up in an alcoholic home can have difficulties with trust, with identifying, expressing feelings. And they either go one of two ways total control or feeling like they have no control over their life. And I swear to God, my jaw dropped on the ground because I was like, this is 1 million% describing me and how I operated in my life. I was a total and not sure control freak because I suppose I didn't feel safe. So I had this story. And again, this was all unconscious at the time. This is through the inner work and the uncovering that my story that I was telling myself was if I could control everything outside of myself, I was safe.[0:12:39] Brianne Davis: Yeah.[0:12:40] Karen: And we obviously can't live that way. It's exhausting. We can control nothing.[0:12:44] Brianne Davis: I was saying I love power and control because that's the only thing I felt, because I felt so not in control of everything. And you can't yeah, you can't go through life trying to have power and control over anyone.[0:12:56] Karen: No, but I did. But more so, even over myself. And it was overanalyzing. It was overly critical. I was overly independent. Like, I was just like, I'll do it all myself. I don't want anyone to help me. I didn't want to ask for help. Life just that pure perfectionism. And that just feeling uncomfortable being myself. And a lot of people do it, but that editing, altering, censoring ourselves in order to be liked, to be accepted by others. And again, it wasn't conscious to me at the time. I wasn't going around going I was the most disingenuous person ever. No, I was completely oblivious. I just felt so unsafe and unconnected and uncomfortable being me that this is just what I did.[0:13:40] Karen: And I see I carried so much embarrassment. I really had so much underlying shame and embarrassment, and I was afraid to be seen. I didn't want to be seen. Why were you hired?[0:13:52] Brianne Davis: Can you explain?[0:13:54] Karen: I was embarrassed because if and I remember, I didn't like having friends staying over purely for the fact I was like, oh, my God, imagine if they stayed and he came in in the middle of night, waking us up, saying all this shite. I was just, like, so embarrassed.[0:14:08] Brianne Davis: Right?[0:14:09] Karen: And that's really where it came from. It was just that pure embarrassment of having someone over and seen this behavior or feel behavior that stuck with me. And still at times, because sometimes our wounds, they're always there. No matter the healing we do, we get triggered. And even recently, life last week, I was meditating on the couch in the sitting room, and next thing I heard my brother coming in, and I got really embarrassed. I was like, oh my God, I'm going to stop. But I've done it so much now it's in that moment going, no, that's an old story.[0:14:45] Brianne Davis: That's life. Life.[0:14:46] Karen: And I just stay there, I'm safe, all is good. Who cares if he sees me? Life, let him think what he wants. It's totally fine.[0:14:56] Brianne Davis: Has this affected your romantic relationships?[0:15:00] Karen: Totally, yeah. And again, it was all unconscious. But now I can see how and just to say before I go into this, that AHA moment was joining that group and actually seeing because just connecting the dots and it's just like all the cards fell and it was like, oh my God. That really did have that much of an impact on me because it crossed my mind before and I was like that's when I stopped breathing. But I kind of thought that was it. But no, it was everything in how I was. And because that feeling of not being safe or being afraid to be myself, wanting to kind of hide and being that control freak and perfectionist and overly independent, that obviously put me in my masculine energy. I lived in my masculine energy.[0:15:53] Brianne Davis: Me too.[0:15:56] Karen: Which again, when I saw that I was like, oh my God, we're so blind.[0:16:01] Brianne Davis: But that's the thing. I think a lot of women go to the masculine energy when they feel unsafe. As a child, when you have to walk on eggshells with someone in your household at such a young age, not knowing what you're going to get, if it's a rager, if it's drinking, if it's overly infectionate, all that stuff, you usually turn to the masculine energy because it shuts you down and it protects you.[0:16:23] Karen: Well, it kept me in my head. I was totally disconnected from my body. I lived from the level of mind that thinking, planning, doing. Like if I could think every aspect of us, it's going to be fine, I could control us, I could think my way out of things, overanalyze and.[0:16:38] Brianne Davis: Figure it out completely, which doesn't burnish.[0:16:43] Karen: Because you cannot live there. But again, it was so normal to me because I'm a really ambitious and driven person and I thought my constant striving and pushing and hustling and efforting, I thought that was a sign of oh, that's a sign of my ambition. Like, I didn't see that it was so detrimental. So because I lived at that masculine energy, I obviously was attracting people who were men, who were more in their feminine and who just couldn't hold space to me because energy always has to balance. And again, I was just such a closed book. I just couldn't open, I couldn't express. I was life just kind of numb inside. I was just like, oh, shut down. So totally. Yeah, it impacted everything, but especially relationships. And like, that not even just intimate. Even some of my closest relationships with friends. I remember years and years ago we were on holidays and a friend of mine, one of my best friends, even said to me, she was just like she's just like, who are you? I just don't even know who you are. You don't share.[0:17:48] Karen: And I was like, oh, my God.[0:17:50] Brianne Davis: How long did you have this friendship? How long were you guys?[0:17:52] Karen: Oh, we've been friends since primary school.[0:17:55] Brianne Davis: Wow. To have somebody that you've known that long be life, who are you? Yeah, because I were never completely available.[0:18:04] Karen: Not on an emotional level. Never. I was terrified. I didn't know how to speak about emotions. I didn't know how to express feelings. I didn't know how because, again, one of what happened. But two, we're not taught that inside society. We're not taught how to process emotions, how to feel them, how to release them. So, yeah, it was that. And actually oh, my God, this is so awful that I remember, like, an early boyfriend as well, who I really, really liked and like, that I liked him so much. I was terrified. Again, that fear of being yourself. I was like, Fear of fear. But even more, it was how I acted, what I said. I just had this fear of he doesn't life me because I like him so much.[0:18:46] Karen: So it's that editing that constantly not feeling comfortable in yourself, to just be yourself. It's trying to be that perfect person. And I remember at one stage and we were going out and I remember one day he gave me a big hug. We just met and he gave me a big hook. And he was like, I don't know what's wrong with you? He's like, It's like you're dead inside.[0:19:08] Brianne Davis: What age?[0:19:10] Karen: Oh, my God. I was like, early teens, late teens, late teens.[0:19:13] Brianne Davis: Like 1617?[0:19:15] Karen: Yeah, probably 1718.[0:19:17] Brianne Davis: Wow.[0:19:18] Karen: Like, around that age. Those kind of comments obviously don't help a person to try.[0:19:25] Brianne Davis: Were you confused or did you brush it off? Did you guys? What happened after that? I'm just curious.[0:19:31] Karen: Yeah, well, obviously, we kind of still went out for a bit, but obviously, it didn't go very far. But as I got older, I was more curious. I was like, Why? Because, again, like I'm saying, this was all unconscious. I didn't connect.[0:19:49] Brianne Davis: It's those secrets that we keep from ourselves. We are crazy.[0:19:54] Karen: And that's why the inner work is going within. Because what we carry unconsciously to ourselves are our blind spots. So, yes, I had a curiosity and I was like, what's wrong with me? Why can't I feel this huge joy and kind of safety and things like that? That's what led me on my path of healing and discovery and intimacy.[0:20:15] Brianne Davis: I know, but what you just said was really important. When you dead in the feelings of not being wanted or not being enough or scared of intimacy or being loved and all that, you dead in everything. That's what my therapy you dead in the joy. You don't get to pick and choose what emotional you don't actually feel all of them.[0:20:36] Karen: And you know what's even funny? I remember that's why Brennan Brown's talk, the Power of Vulnerability is one of my favorite ever. It is brilliant. And I remember when I first watched that, probably in 2015 or 2016, I was going out with a guy and he was going through different issues or whatever, and he was a bit shut down, obviously, as well. But again, I was totally unconscious. And I remember I watched that Ted Talk and my mind was blown. And she literally says that at the end, she was like, you can't pick and choose emotions. If you're shut down to one, you're shut down to all of them.[0:21:13] Brianne Davis: Yeah, I heard that twelve years ago. And it just blew my mind when she said that, because I was like, wow. That's why I feel like I never am fully joyous, because I was so dead. And I didn't want to feel anything because as an addict, I don't want to feel anything. Like, I just want to feel euphoria. 24/7. If I can't feel that, I don't want to feel anything else.[0:21:33] Karen: But I remember watching that mind blown. Loved it. But then I was like, that's what's wrong with my boyfriend, trying to get him to watch it. And it just blows my mind now, because again, it's that thing of everything as a reflection. It's not outside of us, it's something within us as well. But again, I was so unconscious. And it even makes sense now as well, because I traveled for years after university and life, you're saying there as well. I just couldn't feel the full expression of anything. I was just pretty much like, pretty numb to everything. And people you'll be watching this incredible sunset and people are like, oh my God, it's so incredible. Newly cried. And I'm like, yeah, it's ground, like.[0:22:12] Brianne Davis: Trying to set like, can we go now?[0:22:14] Karen: Yeah. Trying to kind of fake this, going, oh, yeah. And I'm like going, how are they getting so excited about this? I'm like, It's beautiful, but I just can't feel it. Whereas now I'm that person that I'm like. I'm like crying at the sunset, going, oh my God, it's so beautiful. Nature is so powerful, but I just live my life numb. And again, I just wasn't even aware.[0:22:36] Brianne Davis: Can I just say, too, it was really fascinating when you said about the boyfriend, and I just want to point out, and I always love to take these things because they're tips. Like, if anyone's listening and you keep picking that unavailable person, and it's because something in you is unavailable. You pick those people because you're unavailable. And that's when you go inward. Life, you said you have to do the inner work. If there's drama or you're not feeling what everybody else is feeling, usually there's something we're cut off from.[0:23:05] Karen: Yeah, and that's exactly why they say everything does start from within. If we can't feel the full expression of love, of joy, of whatever within us, first and foremost, nothing outside of us can make us feel it. Yes, they can augment it, they can make it bigger, but they cannot make us feel anything that we do not or have activated within ourselves first. So that's why it's all from within. It all starts from within everything. If it's not happening on the external, it's because of something that we hold within a limiting belief, a subconscious pattern, something. And that's why through my own journey and all my learnings and all these AHA like faceplant moments going, oh my God, how could I be so blind? But that's part of the journey. It's not when you have these uncoverings, it's not to get even harder on yourself. It's kind of to be like, oh, well, now I know. Now I've got something.[0:23:58] Brianne Davis: Now you're gentle, you have compassion and empathy, saying, oh, these are the things that happen. This is why I'm the way I am. And now I need to work on them because you can't carry around that baggage through your life or you're responsible for your behavior now that you know. But here's the thing, and I want to ask you, I want to get back to now there's a person in your life. Is your father still around? I wanted to ask.[0:24:22] Karen: No, he passed away ten years ago this year of cancer. But obviously it was all connected. And it's funny, actually, he mentioned to me close to the end, he said to me one day, he was like, you know what, Karen? I always thought I was an alcoholic and the drink would kill me. And he was like, and here I am with cancer. But it was cold on cancer. So there was obviously a connection.[0:24:47] Brianne Davis: Now you are dealing with someone in your life that is drinking a lot, right?[0:24:53] Karen: Yeah. On a weekly basis, kind of going.[0:24:57] Brianne Davis: So how are you dealing with that? How are you taking care of yourself now that you know this journey and you know what you've been through and you have the tools and you're with other people like mine going through the same thing. How? Karen, you dealing with someone you care about having the same disease, and it's.[0:25:15] Karen: Hard the closer the person is to you because you want to. And especially when you've been on a healing journey, you want to share all these tools and everything. I know, right?[0:25:25] Brianne Davis: And they're like, no, I'm not interested. Leave me alone. That happens to me on a daily basis. It's the most heartbreaking when you're like, no, it's heartbreaking the way you can be better. You don't have to be living like this. And they're, like, not interested.[0:25:37] Karen: Yeah, totally. And that's a really hard part. But it's about making peace with that as well. And I suppose for me now, for years, I have so many daily practices. Like it is my jam to be meditating, to be praying, to be doing yoga, to be conscious all day, every day, that is me. And even more so when I feel triggered in this particular situation. But also it was that extra level of me reaching out to get help from Alanon and be in a like minded group of people who are experiencing the same, to just be able to share because a word you mentioned there as well. When you go on this healing journey and really connect back to yourself, you gain so much compassion for yourself going, wow. It's that thing of when we know better, we do better. But that compassion. Again, like I said before, we have to activate things within ourselves. So the fact that I activated it within myself, for myself, I actually extend that to others. So even to my dad, I have huge compassion for him because I'm like, shit, I don't know what was going on in his life.[0:26:39] Brianne Davis: Yeah, what he went through, you have no idea. It's that empathy that we get to have now because we see that we're all going through something nobody does. Hurt people, hurt people and people are trying to function. But yeah, you look at it from a different angle, totally.[0:26:55] Karen: And I don't think anyone is innately bad, so I do that as well in this situation. And also it's the bigger picture of the higher consciousness that we are a soul, we are a spirit having a human experience. And I'm life just because I think it's bad or it's wrong or it's not the best way. I don't know what another soul is here to experience and to go through and it's just to try, hold, to look after myself. But to hold that space of compassion and love and be just like look, I know you're going through a difficult time. I'm here. Please let me know if I can do anthem. But I also know it's your journey and I fully love you. And giving them that space as well, I think is huge. And I know for us it's made a massive difference because although it hurts and it pains, again, it's not my life. Everyone's here to experience their own things and again, I know it's because of something else that's going on and they know as well. And when they're ready to look at another way, then it'll be their time and it's being okay with that. And I think that's the full truth of awakening, of responsibility, it is that making peace with everyone and anyone, however they're living their life, it's like, okay, maybe it's not my choice, but I don't want to take my anger or because you're not meeting my expectations out on you. That's my piece to deal with. If I am triggered, because that's what they say, nothing can affect me unless I have an unhealed wound within me, unless it's touching something within.[0:28:24] Karen: Me. So it's that constant invitation, and that's the way I looked at it. I'm like, it's an invitation for me to go deeper into my work. And I am so grateful. And I've said this to him as well. I'm like, oh, my God. I'm so grateful, actually, that you're going through this phase, because it has pushed me to go deeper within myself. And now I've connected with this whole community that I am growing and learning so much. And I'm like, oh, my God. And it is helping him. He's like, wow, that's really interesting. And he's starting to look for other avenues in that. So we just never know. And it's really hard the closer someone is. But it's not about getting anger, calling, just telling them to get their shit together and stop being such an asshole or whatever.[0:29:08] Karen: And that's really hard. But it's always our work. It's always our piece.[0:29:12] Brianne Davis: Yeah, I 100% agree. And I love talking to you. We could talk forever. But I have one more question before we go. If someone is dealing with an alcoholic or an addict and they don't know how to have a relationship or move forward, what would be your last bit of advice that you wish you would have heard a long time ago? Yeah.[0:29:35] Karen: Well, again, I suppose because it depends where you're at in your journey, because for so long, I was so unconscious, I didn't even see the connection. So curiosity is such an incredible tool. Like, if we live a life of curiosity and more curiosity about ourselves, why am I getting so angry? 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