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In this recap, Lesley and Brad reflect on their powerful conversation with Amber Fuhriman—attorney, NLP trainer, and host of Break Your Bullshit Box. Together they unpack how perfectionism and people-pleasing keep high achievers trapped in fear, and how authenticity, though uncomfortable, is freeing. This episode challenges listeners to take responsibility for their choices and trust that staying authentic is better than constantly seeking approval.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:Why people-pleasing is a hidden form of control, not kindness.How perfectionism hides behind fear and the need for validation.What authentic affirmations sound like without toxic positivity.Why creating an “SOS list” can help you act instead of overthink.How taking responsibility for choices leads to personal freedom.Episode References/Links:Cambodia Retreat Waitlist - https://crowsnestretreats.comOPC Winter Tour - https://opc.me/eventsPilates Journal Expo - https://xxll.co/pilatesjournalAgency Mini - https://prfit.biz/miniContrology Pilates Conference in Poland - https://xxll.co/polandtContrology Pilates Conference in Brussels - https://xxll.co/brusselseLevate - https://lesleylogan.co/elevateeLevate Waitlist - https://lesleylogan.co/elevatewaitlistSubmit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsTiny Habits by BJ Fogg - https://a.co/d/fNNWEahAmber Fuhriman's Website: https://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com90 Day Success Jumpstart Training - https://jumpstart.successdevelopmentsolutions.comBreak Your Bullshit Box Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! 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You know, I want to be this type of person. I will become this type of person, right? I am becoming this type of person.Lesley Logan 0:14  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 0:57  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the candid convo I had with Amber Fuhriman on our last episode. If you haven't listened to that one, you are going to need to listen to that one, because I'm stumbling over my words today. Brad Crowell 1:12  It's a great episode. It's a lot of fun.Lesley Logan 1:14  It's so good, it's so fun. And it was nice as local. And I really like being on her podcast, so you're gonna want to listen to it whether you listen to it first or last, I mean, there's, it's really okay, I think, in life to hear the ending and then watch the show. Sometimes I do that with real life TV, because I just want to know if I'm like, falling like, if I'm like, rooting for a villain or not. I just want to know. I gotta, I gotta have that information now.Brad Crowell 1:35  Yeah, she's not lying. She literally does this. Lesley Logan 1:38  Hey, you know what? Brad Crowell 1:39  Tell me. Lesley Logan 1:39  Bands would like drop just like a single song, but you'd go buy the whole album without listening to it. So you, in fact, knew there's one song I'm gonna love on this. Speaker 1 1:50  I think there's a difference between the teaser of something and the ending conclusion. Lesley Logan 1:55  These are not teasers. The recap episode is teasers. We are taking a talking point each, right? And of the many talking points that they had, so it's like two things.Speaker 1 2:06  I don't know what that has to do with going and watching the end of a TV show before you start the TV show. That's the conclusion versus a teaser. Lesley Logan 2:12  It's a sample, sampling. Brad Crowell 2:14  Okay. Lesley Logan 2:14  Sampling a part. Brad Crowell 2:16  It just happens to be the ending sample. Lesley Logan 2:18  Okay. Well, today is October 30th and we decided we want to talk about tomorrow, because tomorrow is Halloween. And I don't know about you, but I grew up. First of all, I went to some churches where Halloween was, like, just the evilest thing you couldn't even go trick or treating. Did you ever go to a church like that, like, where, like, they didn't even? Brad Crowell 2:35  No. Lesley Logan 2:35  Okay. Your church has always trick or treated? Brad Crowell 2:37  Yes. Lesley Logan 2:38  Okay. So I did not experience that all of my childhood. But then some churches, we could totally trick or treat, and then there were some churches where you could trick or treat, but like people, like whispered, you know. Brad Crowell 2:49  They whispered about trick or treating? Lesley Logan 2:51  At any rate, what no one talks about is how this holiday had nothing to do with the churches, and it wasn't even the Halloween. It was about something else. And we decided to tell you about the true history of Halloween. So.Speaker 1 3:03  Yeah, it's, it's actually like cultural warfare is, if you, if you want to look at it. Lesley Logan 3:08  I know, like, it's like an appropriation. Brad Crowell 3:10  Yeah. Well, they, yes, they appropriated the time and they renamed it. So we'll talk about that. Lesley Logan 3:16  Okay, many, many holidays were done this way. So Halloween originated from the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, right. Brad Crowell 3:24  Samhain. Lesley Logan 3:25  No no. In the thing we looked up, it literally said to how to say it pronounced saa · wn. So Samhain is pronounced saa · wn spelled Samhain, but it's you say it saa · wn, let me go back to my sheet. Okay. A three day celebration held over 2000 years ago that marked the end of the harvest season and the beginning of the dark, cold winter. Are you gonna just.Brad Crowell 3:52  Sorry, just taking over right there. All right, keep going. Lesley Logan 3:55  Okay. Thank you so much. Okay, so the Celts believed that this was a time when the boundary between the worlds of the living and the dead blurred, allowing spirits to roam the earth. To ward off harmful spirits and guide benevolent ones, they lit bonfires, wore costumes and left offerings and food outside their homes. Pause, just so you know, also in October in Cambodia, they do something called Pchum Ben and Pchum Ben, Pchum Ben, it is a almost month long celebration in parts of the country, but for sure, a three day celebration where everyone, no one works, including in the tourist city of Siem Reap we're only going to find expats working. You're not going to find a single Cambodian working. And they they don't get dressed up, but they celebrate and they do all these things so like that is awesome.Speaker 1 4:42  Pchum Ben is a Buddhist holiday that is celebrated every year where they believe that the souls of their ancestors are released for 15 days so that they can basically stay with family. Lesley Logan 4:53  Yeah, it's really cool. People like will travel on a moto for 11 hours to go with family. It's freaking crazy. But I just want to say, like, how cool, like, even across the world, the same, similar thing was happening. So to ward off harmful spirits and guide benevolent ones, they, oh, I already said that part, sorry. Speaker 1 5:09  They lit bonfires, wore costumes and left offerings, which is actually like it trickles down over the, you know, millennia. And the ancient custom, those ancient customs, kind of evolved into what are now, trick or treating, the costumes, decorations and parties celebrated for modern Halloween. I mean, we don't light bonfires and, you know that kind of a thing (inaudible).Lesley Logan 5:30  No because if you did, people are gonna think that you're a witch. But you can actually just say, no, I'm celebrating. How do you say it? Samhain, I'm celebrating Samhain Okay, so the oh, one more thing on this, the Roman and Christian influence. After the Romans conquered the Celtic lands, Roman festivals like Feralia and Pomona were incorporated into Samhain traditions. Later, the Catholic Church established All Saints Day on November 1st and All Souls Day on November 2nd, making October 31st All Hallows Eves, which means hallowed or holy, right? So they just.Brad Crowell 6:05  Which then become Halloween. Yup.Lesley Logan 6:08  .Yeah, So they just stole it. Brad Crowell 6:10  Yeah. Just just renaming things over here. Lesley Logan 6:12  So if you don't like that I'm harping on the church, you know it, sometimes we have to accept the responsibility of people from our past. Every fucking group of people has done something wrong, but it's more important to be like, educated and understand. And if you love Halloween, I love that for you. I decided to get into Halloween-ish, this year I got witchy nails, which are not done for this recording, but just check out my Instagram. They're witchy nails for me anyways. And when I because I just, like, remember, when I was why does everybody like, this holiday, but now that I, like, know the history of it and what it was for, I actually can get down with it.Speaker 1 6:50  It also marks like, it's actually the end of a season, going into the next season. So it was the end of harvest. So imagine, yeah, imagine, imagine you just spent all season, like, you know, really digging in on the harvest, and now it's time to party, and there's a new season coming. So I feel like it all kind of goes together. Lesley Logan 7:11  And also, like, I mean, just imagine a couple thousand years ago, like, life was so hard. And I also (inaudible), the more you look at the celebrations that they had, it really was like taking a pause of the hard work of life, and doing some sort of way to celebrate that. And we don't do that around here. We just, like, keep working through all the things. And like, at least in the States, maybe you take off a couple days for the actual holidays. And so I just, I feel like this is a holiday that has a lot more history to it. And and I, and I kind of like, what that history is. It seems really beautiful. And what a great way to spend time with family and past loved ones. And also, like, let's not forget, you know, in Mexico, they do Día de Muertos, which is on November 1st, right? Like, the big celebration of the like, there's a lot of different cultures that celebrate the people that have come before them and spend time together. And there's all this stuff. So anyways, just think about that. Think about the loved ones you had, and celebrate the harvesting you did, and report back. Okay.Speaker 1 8:09  Yeah, Lesley and I've been back from Cambodia and Singapore now for a week and a half. And it's just always so refreshing for us to get back to our second family over there. You know, people that we love, the places that we love to be in. The environment over there is just it's so magical. And we would love to have you join us next year, but get on the waitlist, because there's limited amount of spots. We're going to be going in October of next year, but we're going to be announcing all of that in January. So go to crowsnestretreats.com to get on the waitlist for information about the upcoming trip for 2026 we're only going one time next year, only going one time next year. We're only going one one time next year. Lesley Logan 8:50  Are you trying to convince yourself or everyone else? Brad Crowell 8:53  I'm letting everybody know, because a lot of people have said, oh, I'll come with you in the spring, and we're not going in the spring. We are only going in the fall next year, so, side note. Lesley Logan 9:04  And probably the year after that, I just have to say it to you. Brad Crowell 9:06  October 1st, we already rolled out our tour go to opc.me/events to join us for the OPC winter tour. We're gonna be driving all around the United States of America. We're gonna be going from Vegas all the way up to Boston, down to Miami and back. It's gonna be something like 24, 25 locations. It's kind of insane. We're very excited about it. We are going to be even bigger.Lesley Logan 9:28  We're going to studios we've not been to and have been excited. They've been on the list for a while. These are human beings that, like, we have literally been like, how do we make sure we get to see them again?Speaker 1 9:39  But you can find out all the specifics where we're stopping. Go to opc.me/events, chances are high that some locations may already be sold out. Lesley Logan 9:47  Yeah it's been out for a month. Brad Crowell 9:48  Because it's been out for a month. So but go check it out opc.me/tour. Then in January, where are you teaching?Lesley Logan 9:55  We'll be at the Pilates Journal, their first ever event in the U.S. It will be at Huntington Beach. If you go to xxll.co/pilatesjournal, you can get your tickets Brad Crowell 10:03  Pilates Journal Expo. Lesley Logan 10:05  Yeah. So Pilates Journal is a Pilates Journal. It's a magazine, and they.Brad Crowell 10:10  It's free, by the way. Lesley Logan 10:11  Is it? Brad Crowell 10:11  Yeah. The journal they release is free. Lesley Logan 10:14  Oh, I love that. I mean, I always just assumed, I just was given it for free. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Pilates Journal, but I just, I don't know. I just thought maybe they just (inaudible).Brad Crowell 10:23  I'm like 90% sure. Lesley Logan 10:25  But they, they do a really, they do events in Australia and. Brad Crowell 10:28  Yeah, subscribe for free. Lesley Logan 10:29  You can subscribe for free. I've written for articles for them several times. I think it's really worth looking into. But if you're a Pilates teacher, you should come. The lineup is amazing. Several of these teachers have taught. We've all taught together somewhere, but never taught all together. So like you're not going to see this line up again, you might as well come and then in February, we're going to host Agency Mini, that is our business coaching program for Pilates instructors and studio owners. And you're going to want to go to prfit,biz/mini. So it's profit without the O dot B-I-Z slash mini, to get on the waitlist. Also probably in January-ish, they'll be letting the waitlist people get the best discount. So I'm just saying. In March, we're going to two places in Europe. We'll be in Poland, at the Pilates Poland Controlology Pilates Conference. So go to xxll.co/poland by the way, I'm doing that with Karen Frischmann. And so if you like me, and you're gonna like Karen, I'm just gonna tell you right now, she's like, she's extremely smart, extremely knowledgeable. And like, I I feel, I feel like, like, you know how there's like the pop band, and then there's like the, like, uber rock, like, just has done, been doing music for decades, and like, they're just like, that's what it is. And so you, if you don't know Karen, I promise you're gonna love Karen. And if you know Karen, then what are you waiting for? The two of us will be together so we can, like, knock it out in one weekend, or go into Brussels, xxll.co/brussels. We'll be at El's studio there in Brussels, and we're very excited about it, different workshops at each event. So, but same teacher. So you're as long as long as you love Karen and I, or one of us, you're gonna have a great lineup. Just pick the one that works the best for you, and then we will, Brad is gonna take me on a second honeymoon, and then we are going to land and arrive at P.O.T in London. And I don't have a link for you, but you could just Google P.O.T., Balanced Bodies P.O.T. London, It will come up. They have amazing SEO. They're really good at what they do. And you can snag your spot. It is limited, and it sells out every year. So there you go. Before we get into this amazing interview with Amber, what is our question this week?Speaker 1 12:29  @marystarpilates asks, hey, Lesley, do you still do your continued education teacher training program? Where can I find information on that? Thank you so much. So I'm assuming she's talking about eLevate. Lesley Logan 12:41  Yes, I did clarify. And the answer is yes, she's talking about my mentorship program for Pilates instructors. So you have to have, you have to have done a comprehensive program in that, like, you should have been trained on the mat, Reformer, Cadillac or Tower and Chair, right? The Wunda Chair. Of course, I'd love it if you (inaudible) on the barrels. But like, I'm not worried about you being overwhelmed by the fifth weekend, but you need and then you have to have access to a mat, a Reformer, a Tower, Cadillac, a Chair and a Barrel. So you don't have to have a full studio access. It doesn't have to be classical. In fact, I work with both classically trained and contemporary trained people who are classic, classically curious, classical people who feel like they were like, taught this, like, rigid, you know, culty perfect way of doing Pilates, and they would like to have a little bit more fun. And we just really break down and ditch perfection and get really excited about what Joe gave us and what the intentions were, and free you from thinking you need to have a million fucking cues all the time. And also really help you with your own personal practice. Help you with seeing, help you with patience in your teaching. And so if you go to lesleylogan.co/elevate, you can learn more about it if you do the same exact URL, but add waitlist to it. So lesleylogan.co/elevatewaitlist, you can get on the waitlist for the next one, because this upcoming what year are we in right now? So 2026, is next year is sold out. Sold out. You can reach out to us. You never know what might happen. But 2027 is where we're already we're actually already taking people, taking applications, selling spots. The reality is mentorship programs like this. I have friends who have one who are five years booked in the future. I'm not going out that far. I'm kind of a year in advance kind of person, but if you know you want it then you can plan ahead. So that's what I would say. Speaker 1 14:24  Yeah, awesome. Well, stick around. We'll be, oh, actually. Lesley Logan 14:28  Go to beitpod you want to send us questions. Brad Crowell 14:30  Yeah, you have to join us for all these questions. Your participation is required, or we don't get to ask answer your questions. So 310-905-5534, hit us up or.Lesley Logan 14:39  And I want some fun questions. I want, I want relationship questions. I want family questions. I want career questions. I want some (inaudible) questions. Brad Crowell 14:50  She wants some juicy questions.Lesley Logan 14:51  I want, I want, I want. I also want the gossip that comes with the questions. You could be anonymous. Speaker 1 14:58  Go to beitpod.com/questions, where you can leave a win or a question. Thank you for that. Stick around. We'll be right back. We're going to talk about Amber Fuhrman. Amber Fuhriman is a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser and an attorney who now works as a coach, human behavior expert and podcaster. As a certified trainer of neuro linguistic programming or NLP, and host of the More Than Corporate Podcast. She blends her legal background with mindset and performance coaching to help high achievers push past limiting beliefs and perfectionism. And after years of believing success was about money and titles, Amber has redefined it as freedom choice and building a life that truly feels fulfilling. A lot of relation like a relatability here with her story and just.Lesley Logan 15:43  I know, another guest where it's like, oh, we're, like, just on the same we're on the same longitude, you know, just a different latitude. Like, she's doing something very similar, like it's, we're on the same longitude, but a different latitude, you know, like, like, Joe Allen was doing similar things with the orthodontist. And we do what we do for Pilates instructors and studio owners, and she does what she does for like, other professional it's just very cool. But also I love how our lives can bring a different lens to it, a different focus to what we do. And we I really appreciate her willingness and interest in like, we talk about people pleasing, and we talk about a bunch of stuff, but I just really got excited about talking about people pleasing because, like, how many of our listeners, how many people do we know that are doing things that are people pleasing? Brad Crowell 16:26  Well, I thought her definition of it was, she said, people pleasing is when you consider other people's feelings before you consider your own. And I thought that was interesting, especially because, you know, and then y'all talked about how.Lesley Logan 16:47  Yeah, we talked about see, so, like, I also think that some people pleasers are it's just another form of control. By the way, you can also be you're controlling people's emotions as well, or the outcome of people's emotions. But we, she clarified that not people pleasing doesn't mean being an asshole. Just for the purpose of being an asshole, like it's about instead about being authentic and speaking your truth. So meaning, like a lot of people will go to dinner with a family member on Thursday to people please, rather than which is not authentic, by the way, because you don't want to be there. You're gonna be somewhere else. So you're actually that's kind of, I think you're more of an asshole if you're people pleasing because you're not being authentic. I think that's we should re define people pleasing as being an asshole, a non-authentic person.Brad Crowell 17:28  Not authentic person. Lesley Logan 17:30  Yeah. So she advised, like, what you can do when you're not people pleasing is, like, were the actions that I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human So, meaning you decided to not people please. Someone had a reaction that was not something that you liked like all, that they're upset that you're not doing the thing for them. And so like, you get to ask yourself, were the actions that I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human being? If the answer is yes, then I will not apologize when I'm 100% in alignment with my actions. And you can understand that and accept me for I am, or you don't accept me and like, that is really hard for a lot of people, because, like, I'm gonna lose people. You guys were allowed to lose people in our life. We just are, and it's gonna happen. Like, it's impossible. It's impossible to keep everyone happy with you all of the time. There's just not, there's no way that is going to even be a possibility. And so if you are, if you are actually being authentic in alignment with how you feel and you speak that and someone doesn't like it, you are not in the wrong. They are also, by the way, there might not even be in the wrong.Speaker 1 18:29  I mean, look, you could be in the wrong, but if you are doing this to protect yourself or to stop people pleasing, this is when you have to ask yourself these questions. You know, were the actions I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human? If that's the case, then, then you can confidently move forward knowing that you weren't doing it to hurt them. You were doing it to uphold your own values, right? So if you were doing it to hurt them, then don't be an asshole. But if you're doing it to uphold your own values, that that's different.Lesley Logan 19:00  If you were doing it then hurt them. Sorry. You are being an asshole. But I just think that the more we can understand ourselves, the recovering people pleasers that we are, these are gonna be conversations you have to have with yourself. You're going to have to chit chat with yourself about like, okay, but give yourself pep talk. I want to be this person who speaks my heart, who shares how I feel, who's honest with how and will I will spend time with people, and that is going to upset some people who would like me to have more of me or have me at this thing. But I'm not in the wrong. I'm not an asshole. I'm being authentic and like, they will either come around or they won't. Speaker 1 19:35  Yeah, I really liked when she was talking about the like, toxic positivity, like, fake it till you make it. Where she was talking about, she, basically, I just, she was so frustrated about the idea of it, and she, she was like, don't ever put me in a room with people who believe this, because she's gonna lose her shit.Lesley Logan 19:59  Yeah, I want to be in that room. Actually, is that terrible? I like, I would like her to, like, she's such a good person with words. I would love to and she's a lawyer, so she's so good at articulating. Speaker 1 20:11  I mean she talked about, she talked about, you can't lie to yourself and convince you like you can, but there's dissidence that's happening when you're lying yourself in that way. And she said, the brain doesn't like distance between what is being said and what is truly believed. So, you know, she said, instead of doing that, instead of being like, I'm amazing, I'm beautiful in the mirror every morning, kind of a thing, she said, she advocates for affirmations that acknowledge the gap between who I think I am now and who I need to be in order to accomplish this. You know, I want to be this type of person. I will become this type of person, right? I am becoming this type of person, right? That's different than, you know, like.Lesley Logan 20:49  Like people do I am, I am rich. But if you're, like, barely able to pay your bills, like the brain is, that is not helpful. So I am becoming rich.Brad Crowell 20:57  Or I make decisions that are going to make me rich. Lesley Logan 21:00  Yes, I make decisions that are making me rich. I am on my way to abundance. I am, you know? Speaker 1 21:05  Yeah, I like that. And so it's, it's nuanced. It's nuanced here, you know, but I, but I actually appreciated that, and I thought, oh, that's a cool way to to adjust it, because sometimes it does feel fake, and that's annoying, and that's not, that's not. I have a hard time embracing that too, so I get that.Lesley Logan 21:20  Well, because scientifically, like in behavior science, like the brain, doesn't like dissonance, right? So, BJ Fogg, his sister, she was talking about how, you know, one of the habits, BJ likes to get people to start with from reading his book, it's like every day, get out of bed, you put your feet on the floor, like everybody does this. You can literally start a habit. Tomorrow morning, you put your feet on the floor. You say, today is going to be amazing. Or you can say, I'm amazing, but, like, usually he would say, today's me amazing day. And then you stand up and like, you like, so you want and like, it's a great first habits, a great way to start the day. And she, like, talked to us just like, yeah, so my husband died, and on the day of his funeral, I'm not going to put my feet on the floor. I go today is an amazing day. Because the brain isn't like dissonance, and that's gonna screw the habit up, right? Because it's gonna be like, oh, this is not real. So what she said is, today is going to be as good as it can be, right? And that's an honest thing. And so I think where she's.Speaker 1 22:16  And it's an affirmation, you know, like, still, is putting you on like, a path to see the good in the day. Lesley Logan 22:22  Without it being toxic positivity. It's like, it's an and so I actually really appreciated that because we taught we have a lot of people talk about, like, affirmation and mantras. And hers is like, yeah, so have ones that are that are actually helping you be it till you see it, not that are lying to you about what you are. That's not gonna be helpful. She's just super cool. I mean, I listened before I was on her podcast, because I met her in person for the podcast. I listened to several of her episodes, and I was just like, I feel like I'm learning so much. Brad Crowell 22:48  That's cool. Love it.Lesley Logan 22:49  Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you don't have to put her on faster speed, just gonna be really honest, you can put it on a regular speed, because I had it on 1.75 I was like, maybe we'll take that down a little bit. It's like listening to me.Speaker 1 23:00  That's hilarious. Well, stick around. We'll be right back. We're gonna dig into those into those Be It Action Items that you have with Amber Fuhriman in just a minute. Brad Crowell 23:10  All right, welcome back. So finally, what Be It Action Items, can we take away from your convo with Amber? Oh, I said that differently this time. For those of you who say it along with me, say it along with me. What bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Amber Fuhriman? She said, hey, when you are struggling with overthinking or in or you are struggling with intense emotions, this is really cool y'all. She said, create an SOS list, meaning the list of people that you are flashing the SOS sign to, right? And this list is just two or three trusted people who you can reach out to, and they can be your gauge for you, right, that they can help you when you know you're spiraling out, like if, if you know, for example, if you are like an overthinker and you can't put it into action, and you recognize I'm overthinking again. I'm not acting. I need you to actually just get started. You can text your SOS list, you know, but first ask them if that, you know, they're willing to be on it. But you can develop a specific, predetermined SOS phrase, like Amber said, I'm stuck at the airport, right? And for her, being stuck at the airport is like she's prepping, she's prepping, she's prepping, she's prepping, but she's never taken off. She's never taken off. She's always stuck at the airport. So she said, explain what the SOS phrase means to you, and clarify that if you send that message to your people on the SOS list, it really means I need somebody to check in on me right now. So for example, you know, I imagine it may change over time. You know, what does your SOS mean, right? Especially when Amber's partner died, I imagine it was a, you know, a different reason to be reaching out than now where she's, you know, it's been a couple of years, and she's moving on, and she's running a company and things like that. You know. So she said, it really will help you have somebody check in on you. Who, who you trust to understand like, I need help right now. So when you find yourself in those overwhelm moments, send an SOS to your list. And she said the decision to ask for help actually allows your brain to see solutions. Okay, even if they don't get back to you instantaneously, it will put you on a different path to see solutions, particularly helpful for recovering perfectionists who find it really hard to say, I actually need some help right now. So really cool idea. Lesley Logan 25:35  Something has nothing to do with what we're talking about now, right now. But like my brain went to this person, somebody in China, bought a first class ticket to some Chinese airline, which means that you get to eat in the first class lounge before you take off. And because it's a first class ticket, it's like fully refundable and transferable. So for 300 times, 300 meals, this person would check into the airport, check into the first class lounge, eat for free, and then reschedule their ticket. And they did this 300 times before anyone's like, what is this person doing? So talk about being stuck at the airport, and I just thought, is the food that good? Because the actual like going to an airport, getting into a first class lounge is so annoying.Speaker 1 26:27  Even the food at the Centurion lounge, it's good, but I wouldn't say it's great. Lesley Logan 26:31  And also, not all Centurion lounges are created equal. I like ours, but the L.A. one, you can get it together as can you JFK, just saying, Okay, my big, back on track. Brad Crowell 26:41  Yeah, how about you over here? Lesley Logan 26:43  Recognize you have complete control over your daily decisions. You've complete control your daily decisions. I think we like to outsource decisions like I can't do that because x, y and z, but you have complete control over your daily decisions. And if you're unhappy, you have to dig into the decisions you're making to create that situation. Are you saying yes to things you should be saying no to? Are you staying up late the night before so you feel like shit in the morning, right? So understand that avoiding a decision is still a decision. Oh, avoiding a decision is still a decision, and make different choices to change your outcomes. She also said.Speaker 1 27:22  I think that's been the biggest thing that has changed my stress level is that I would avoid making a decision, but in the back of my mind, it was still I knew I had to address this thing, whatever this thing would be. It didn't matter what it was like, I might like just be unwilling to open a text message from somebody because I knew it was going to launch a whole thing. I got to go down this thing and then I would push it off, and then, you know, or it's like email inbox kind of stuff, too, like, avoid it, avoid it until it's like an actual problem. Yeah, and that was one of the biggest changes, was making the decision to stop avoiding things and to just hug a cactus, as it were. But I love that. I think, I think acknowledging that avoiding a decision is actually still a decision that was super helpful for me.Lesley Logan 28:08  And she said, consider her 90 Day Success Jumpstart Training or join her free Break Your Bullshit Box community. So I and that's on Facebook, if you, if you go there, I mean honest on I went on Facebook the other day, and I was like, oh, wow, look at all these people I can unfollow. Thank you for acknowledging yourself, sir and sir and you so anyways. But I just thought this is such a bright, wonderful, honest and maybe a little maybe you feel called out, maybe you feel called out, and maybe you need to, because you got to break your bullshit. You know. And I just think a lot of us the what's getting in the way of being it till we see it is people pleasing and telling ourselves that we don't have control over certain things, some things you do, and we just gotta be honest about that. So, share this with a friend who needs to hear it, especially the people pleasing one, because those people can bother your life too. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Brad Crowell 28:56  Bye for now.Lesley Logan 28:58  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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Attorney and success strategist Amber Fuhriman joins Lesley for a raw and empowering talk about perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the hidden fear behind our need for clarity. Amber opens up about how achievement became her coping mechanism and how trauma can disguise itself. Together, they unpack toxic positivity, hyper-independence, and what it really means to redefine success on your own terms. You'll walk away with Amber's SOS system to ask for help before burnout hits.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:How people-pleasing can quietly sabotage your goals and boundaries.Why success and busyness often mask deeper emotional pain.How “seeking clarity” hides perfectionism and fear of making mistakes.The real cost of toxic positivity and how to embrace hard emotions.How Amber's SOS system helps you stop overthinking and take action.Episode References/Links:Break Your Bullshit Box Facebook Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporateAmber Fuhriman's Website: https://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com90-Day Success Jumpstart - https://jumpstart.successdevelopmentsolutions.comRory Vaden's TED Talk - https://youtu.be/y2X7c9TUQJ8?si=yV69LFYhwgBlc4zYTiny Habits by BJ Fogg - https://a.co/d/0MOylqVGuest Bio:Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, success strategist, and speaker who helps high achievers create success aligned with self-awareness and authenticity. She is a certified Trainer of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and uses mindset and communication tools to help clients overcome perfectionism and fear-based decision-making. Amber hosts the Break Your Bullshit Box* podcast, where she leads honest conversations about leadership, mindset, and the courage to live fully. Her work focuses on helping professionals bridge the gap between external achievement and internal fulfillment. Through her coaching and speaking, Amber empowers others to define success on their own terms and take purposeful action toward it. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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We both lost our dads at the age of 18. We both had siblings that we felt like relied on us. There were these things that were identical to who we were, yet I went to law school and he went to jail. He became a drug addict. He has turned his life around now, and he's clean and sober, yet people look at him and they say, you're such a screw up. And people look at me and they say, you're so successful. What they don't realize is we were numbing the same thing. Academic accomplishment was my numbing mechanism. If I did enough, if I focused on something else, then I wouldn't have to feel what I was going through.Lesley Logan 0:49  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:32  All right, Be It babe, get ready. This interview, we go on the best journey. It's so good. The Be It Action Item was great. There's also some really good action steps to take within the interview. Amber Fuhriman is our guest today, and I wanted to have her on because I got to be on her amazing podcast. And I loved her questions so much. I loved her responses. I loved the conversation. I was like, she should be on this show, because if anyone's been being it it till you see it, it's her, and we talk about people pleasing and perfectionism and success. And I just think you're going to have a really great time. I think it's going to be really eye opening. Pay attention to the SOS thing. I think that's a killer. And let me know what your takeaways are. I want to hear about it. So here's Amber Fuhriman. Lesley Logan 2:10  All right, Be It babe. Get ready. I know this is going to be a great conversation, because I've already had the pleasure of meeting this woman on being on her podcast, and we could have gone on for hours. So I just decided, well, let's just continue the conversation over on my podcast. Amber Fuhriman, can you tell everyone who you are and what you rock at?Amber Fuhriman 2:27  I'm so excited to be here, and I agree with you. We could have talked forever, and you just meet people. It's crazy we're both in Vegas, because I think our response was, how have we not crossed paths? Like, how is two amazing people that it is fantastic not met before now, so I'm so excited. To sum it up, I'm a recovering perfectionist, a people pleaser that is learning how to not people please. I'm an attorney, a, it's a struggle, man, the struggle bus is big on the people-pleasing train, right? Yeah. I am a attorney, sometimes in recovery, sometimes not. And I do coaching and human behavior and podcasting and all of the things.Lesley Logan 3:05  Oh my gosh. I think everyone their ears perked up when they heard, oh, you're a recovering perfectionist and a recovering people-pleaser. like, hi, who are you, like, we're listening? Because the people-pleasing, looking to start there, it is really hard. And I think it's like, I think some people don't even realize they're people-pleasing. I think that they think they're being kind.Amber Fuhriman 3:24  Yeah. I think that's so true, and I also think we don't, we've never been told to talk about it, because people-pleasing is what we were told we were supposed to be as not even just women. I mean, I do think women have it more than men, but I don't want to exclude men from the conversation of people-pleasing, but I do think that we as women were told that our job is to be there for other people. We are traditionally put into nurturing roles. I remember being the only female attorney at the criminal defense firm I worked at before I started my business, and we had a really sensitive case, and I remember them coming in and saying, Amber, we need you. We need a woman's touch. And I said, you, and you asked me, like, have you not met me? Like, I'm so rough around the edges. If you need somebody that can nurture this poor woman, I should be your last choice. I can look at six men that will do a better nurturing job than I will, but there's this perception that we're just supposed to take care of other people.Lesley Logan 4:20  Yeah, yeah. And it's like, can you, do you know, like, what are, in case people don't know, what are some signs that they are a people-pleaser? Do you have that off the top of your head, like?Amber Fuhriman 4:30  Yeah, I think the one that's coming to my head the most right now is that you care about what somebody else is going to feel about your actions more than you care about what you're going to feel about your actions. So you go to say something or do something, and the first thought you have is, but what will the other person think? And I am, I want to clarify that there's zero part of me that's telling you to go around being an asshole, just for the purposes of being an asshole, but if your authentic self and you speaking your truth and who you are, is going to piss somebody else off, then let them fucking be pissed.Lesley Logan 5:05  Oh, okay, so here, my mind went so many places, because one of the things that, we coach Pilates studio owners a lot, and so we're small business owners, and, like, also just in life, go out, and I like talking to small business owners, and it is amazing how many people, like, don't want to change their policies, don't want to charge for a late cancelation and won't raise their rates because they are so concerned with how it's going to affect the other person that it's actually affecting their business from making the money it needs to make for them to stay in business. And it's like to your point, of course, I'm not an asshole who doesn't care how they feel, and I don't want to lose them as a client. But also, if I don't make enough money doing this, when I am working with clients, they are taking a spot from someone who could pay me so that I can actually provide for my family, so I cannot put their feelings so far ahead that I'm actually suffering.Amber Fuhriman 5:53  Yeah, and I don't think we think about it that much right, like if I am speaking my truth and I'm being me, and I'm being authentic to who I am, and that upsets somebody, and I think, oh my gosh, I can't say that, because they're going to be upset. Are they putting the same thought process into whether they're asking me to be somebody different than who I am? Right? Why is it that we are the ones that have to adjust and and I know this is going to trigger some people out there, so you're welcome and I love you, because the reality is one of my favorite sayings is that your actions are all about you, and their responses are all about them. So whenever I have somebody who responds emotionally to something that I'm doing, the first question I ask myself is, were the actions that I took in alignment with who I want to be as a human being. Do I need to adjust something? Are they rightfully upset? Did I act out of alignment with who I am? If I did, then I have some apologies to make. I have some internal work to do. I have some questions to ask, but if I can look back and say I am 100% congruent with the actions that I took, and yes, I want to repair this relationship, and I will be there for you when you're ready to have a conversation, but I will not apologize when I am 100% in alignment with my actions. This is a conversation you get to understand and accept me for who I am, or don't accept me, and it is a beautiful place to get to, but it's not easy. Lesley Logan 7:17  Yeah, thank you for clarifying, like how you can self-reflect, to just address and also double check what you're doing. Because I think especially if you are trying to not people-please as much, you're going to need that set of tools to help you get there, because you're going to have people who get pissed off. The first people who get pissed off are your close family and friends who will get that's who you're people-pleasing for so many years are not going to like when you start acting different.Amber Fuhriman 7:43  Yeah and I think family and friends is the hardest, because they're going to support you the least by nature, which is not all their fault. It's human behavior, right? We exist. So for the people that are listening, there's this term that I love in NLP, called perception is projection. And basically what that means is we project all of the things about ourselves out onto the world. So everybody that we come in contact with is meant to teach us a lesson, positive or constructive about ourselves, right? So we can only see the world as we are. So when we start making positive changes in our life, when we start becoming the next version of who we are. We are fucking with the perception that our friends and family have held of us for a really long time, and that messes with their identity, because now they're faced with, do I level up or do I stay and leveling up takes courage and getting out of a comfort zone and something that not everybody's ready to do. So when they're faced with that choice, sometimes it's easier for them to try to convince you not to change than it is for them to face their own bullshit of whether or not they're going to be willing to join you.Lesley Logan 8:54  Oh my gosh. Everyone rewind. Hear that one more time. It was so good. It's so good. We can keep going on this path. But I also wanted to say, like, maybe let's go on a journey with you. You like, have you always wanted to be a coach? Did you always want to, like, dive into helping people with success and things like that? Or was like being an attorney, like the thing you wanted to do? Like, what's the journey that got you to where you are today, podcasting and helping people like you do?Amber Fuhriman 9:18  Yeah, the answer is neither. So I will say that going to law school was a trauma response for me, and because it was a trauma response, the question I hated the most was, what made you decide to go to law school, or why did you go to law school? Because I never had an answer. For me, I grew up in, I was born in the '80s, grew up in the late '80s, early '90s. So I say that because that period of time, for those of us who were raised there, we were taught that we put in enough hard work and there was this level of payout that's gonna come at the end, right?.Lesley Logan 9:50  Oh yes, yes, you work hard and you're going to get rewarded, also. Amber Fuhriman 9:54  Hard work pays off, I fucking hate that phrase. Lesley Logan 9:56  If you add that, if you add a layer of religion in there, the same thing, like, there's a lot of gold at the end of all of this for the people who do everything perfectly right, and work harder than yesterday. And you know what? Also, also, you should do 110% at work just to prove that you deserve the paycheck you're getting, and then be happy that they didn't fire you and not give you, like, like, all these different things. But anyways, keep going.Amber Fuhriman 10:24  Yeah, yeah, no. So, so you get it. And then the second part of what I'm about to share is the reality that we often say what it is we want to have, but we don't articulate the reason those things are important to us. And so we never understand and get to make the connection of whether what we think we want is actually going to bring the payout that we think it's going to bring. So let me bring this down a little bit for you. So I grew up in the world where money equaled success, success equaled happiness, and I was in so much pain. So I talk about this in my book, when I decided to go to therapy in 2016 and decided is an overstatement, when I was suffering from panic attacks and had no choice but to go to therapy because I couldn't breathe, in 2016 it was the first time I had ever heard the term abandonment disorder. I didn't know what that meant. And then I started looking back at my life, and I started experiencing death for the first time at the age of seven. My cousin, I had two suicides in my family before the age of 14. My dad died when I was 18. Like our brains don't comprehend that somebody died. They just comprehend that somebody's gone, right? So for me, I was just so used to people leaving me that it created this belief that people aren't going to stick around, and I've got to be super hyper independent, along with that, after my dad passed away, when I went to a grief counselor for the first time, the first thing they did was try to put me on antidepressants. And I never wanted to be medicated, so in my brain, that connected if I talk to anybody about not being okay, they're going to medicate me, and I don't want that, so I just pretended I was good, until I couldn't pretend anymore. After my dad passed away, I failed out of undergrad. I was the first person in my family to go to college. I really struggled with this idea of grief and success at the same time. So when I was at my rock bottom, I thought, something's got to change. I've always loved legal thrillers. I fell into the trap of thinking that life as an attorney was a John Grisham book, which it is, sadly not. My dad and I talked about me going to going to law school. He thought I'd really like it. He was no longer here, so it was kind of a connection to him. But most importantly, it's the only way I knew to make six figures, and that money equals success. Success equals happiness. Happy people don't feel pain. So in 2016 after I'd gone to law school, I'd made my first six figure income. I had the respect in my profession, and I still hurt. I didn't know how to breathe, and that's when my panic attacks started. It was learning the human behavior behind choices, healing from my own choices, uncovering and dealing with the masks that I put on throughout my whole life as I saw the benefits of that. That's when coaching kind of opened its doors to me.Lesley Logan 13:22  Wow, thank you for that whole journey. And I think I can, I don't, I don't have, I didn't have the grief part of it in my childhood, but I definitely had the hyper independence, like, you know, I, I, there's pictures of me as a little girl, like, making my own breakfast, because my dad was, like, very into, like, build a bit, like, you have to be able to take care of yourself. And like, so like, as a three year old, like, the bowl of cereal was poured and the milk was in the fridge, and I had to grab the milk from the fridge, it's already poured in a cup for me to fill my bowl. And, like, I love the independence it taught, but also, layered with that whole, and my parents for good reason, like, they live in a small town. They do not have money. So if they're like, if you want to have a life that's not like this, you have to go to college, because college is going to guarantee a paycheck.Amber Fuhriman 14:12  It's so comical now, right?Lesley Logan 14:13  It guaranteed a lot of student loans. I'm glad, of course, I'm glad I went. I would not be here today had I not gone on that journey, because I don't believe anything happens without happening for us, but because I'm but I did laugh as like in the 2008 recession, when I was a full time Pilates instructor that is not why I went to school for, and I was like, well, this $700 month student loan bill sucks, but I wouldn't have found a Pilates had I not been there. So, like, all these different things happen for the way they go. But it took me a really long time, and I'm still learning today, it's probably the thing, the hardest thing I'll ever have to learn is like, I cannot do it all alone. So I'm constantly thanking my team. I'm constantly thinking, my team. I have to remind myself, my team. And then when things go wrong, I have to the my first reaction is like, I could have done it better, and I have to go, no, I could have explained it better. I could have, maybe I could reflect back and see where I could have checked things more. I could have. But, like, I that hyper independence is a really hard thing, I think for a lot of women, because what they do is they just do everything themselves, and then they're burnt out and they're pissed off, and they'are resentful. Amber Fuhriman 15:19  Yeah. Yeah. And I think so when you say I could have done it better, you're saying you could have done it better than the team or better than. Lesley Logan 15:26  Myself. I could have done it better myself. Amber Fuhriman 15:27  You could have done it better yourself. Lesley Logan 15:28  Yeah, which is not true, because I can't even do, I can't even like, do technology myself, so.Amber Fuhriman 15:34  Right. And I fall into that often. And the reason I asked for clarification was because I wanted to make sure I understood what you meant. And maybe we could have, right, done it better, but we can do it better once, and then they get to be better at it by doing it over and over again. But I think more importantly, have you ever heard Rory Vaden's TED Talk, Procrastinate on Purpose? Lesley Logan 15:56  Yes, yes. Amber Fuhriman 15:57  Oh my gosh. I love this so much. And one of the things that he says in there that really sticks with me is by saying yes to one thing, you're saying no to an infinite amount of other things that you don't even know yet. So when we say I could have done that thing better, maybe that's true, but what is the thing that we actually did better that we wouldn't have been able to do had we focused on that thing that we might have done better? Right?Lesley Logan 16:20  Yeah, yeah. I think that's so good. And I think, like, we, I, we all have our things that we are overcoming. And like, it'll think you, you're in the coaching world, so, like, maybe you can address this. I think the perfectionist in us, and in all the people listening, is that, like, we should get over it. And I've determined, or come to some comfort thinking that, like, nothing you're ever over it, you just get quicker at identifying that you're in it and that you have to deal with it. Amber Fuhriman 16:49  What is it, the perfectionism? Lesley Logan 16:51  The perfectionism or the thing that you're like, whatever your whatever your trigger is, so like, the hyper independence, or the people-pleasing, or it's not that you're like, you just like, overcome it and it's behind you and you'll never do it again. It's like, I think that, like, it still comes up in different levels or different ways, and you have to go, oh, I recognize it a little sooner. Like, instead of it taking days for me to get over it, like, whatever it is, like, I it takes me an hour, or takes me five minutes, I go, oh, that's me falling into that trap again.Amber Fuhriman 17:20  Yeah, I think it's so important to focus on that, because one of the things that we do in our trainings is we help people with some emotion-related conversations, which is basically every conversation we're ever going to have in life. So when we think about some of these perfectionism and people-pleasing and even overthinking or lack of delegation, or whatever the behavior is, usually that is tied to some emotional response that's usually tied to anger, sadness, fear, hurt or guilt, which are five major emotions. Normally when we're talking about what, what the purpose is of these behaviors, we can tie it back to one of those five emotions. So as we do the emotion work, the behaviors start to shift, and one of the biggest ones is fear, right? I'll ask people, what's the purpose of not delegating? Well, I'm afraid it won't get done as good if I do it, or I'm afraid like somebody will see it and it won't be mine, and then that'll trigger this imposter, or whatever it is, right? So when we're talking about this, understanding what we're actually feeling when we experience those behaviors is so incredibly important, so we can deal with those emotions, but I think also being able to tap into what the purpose of those behaviors are. So whenever somebody that I'm working with has a behavior like perfectionism or lack of delegation, or whatever the it is, I'll ask them, what's the purpose of this? And they're like, well, it doesn't serve a purpose. And my response is always, it must, or else you wouldn't do it, because every behavior has an intention. So what is it that you're gaining or avoiding by doing these behaviors, because that's where the real work is done.Lesley Logan 19:03  This, as a habits coach that's the same thing, like BJ Fogg, who I study with, he said there's no such thing as a bad habit, because every habit serves you. If you don't like a habit that you have, that's okay, but there's no there's they're not good or bad. It's just, like they all either they're providing certainty or safety or there's a actual positive feeling you're getting from it in your brain, even if you don't like that you do. If you don't like that, you scroll. There's something that you're getting that's a dopamine hit that your brain is like, this makes me feel good. Now, to unravel that, we have to figure out what the prompt is, and we have to figure out, you know, how do we get that same, a similar feeling with something else that you actually do want? But I, thank you for (inaudible) that journey. Can I ask, like, I think, like something that stuck out, and we don't have to talk about this, if you don't want to, but like, you mentioned that like going to law school is like a trauma response. I feel like most people wouldn't think that like going and taking yourself to school would be a trauma response. I guess I'm wondering, like, what are, what are some trauma responses that people might not realize that, like, that's a trauma response they'd be doing. Like, can we talk a little about trauma responses?Amber Fuhriman 20:06  Yeah, absolutely. And I'm an open book, so I will go anywhere you want to go. So let me give an example. This is when I started to realize that it was kind of a trauma response. I have a really good friend of mine that I did a podcast interview with about four years ago, when I first, first started my podcast, he's one of the first people that I met in the personal development space, and one of the reasons we connected is because we had so many similarities in our life. So if you took away our names and our identities and our genders, and you looked at just the dots that were important to our identity, we both had a history of suicide in our family. We both lost our dads at the age of 18. We both had siblings that we felt like relied on us. There were these things that were identical to who we were, yet I went to law school and he went to jail. He became a drug addict. He has turned his life around now, and he's clean and sober, yet people look at him and they say you're such a screw up, and people look at me and they say you're so successful. What they don't realize is we were numbing the same thing. Academic accomplishment was my numbing mechanism. If I did enough, if I focused on something else, then I wouldn't have to feel what I was going through. And I think that we fall into this trap of thinking that because our and I'm really careful when I compare this, because our addiction is socially acceptable. We convince ourselves that it's healthy, right? But it's not. We're still numbing. If you're I mean, obstacle course racing that I did for a really long time was a numbing mechanism for me when law school didn't work. At some point in time, we get to feel the feels. At some point in time, we get to just be human and be enough without feeling like we need to be or do or become something more when we feel that way, when we feel like I am enough right now, then the things that we want to do and become become additional exciting opportunities for us, instead of the thing that is going to fix us or heal us. And I think that's the difference. So when we, when I look at law school as a trauma response, the only reason I can say that it was one is because I didn't go to law school because I wanted to go to law school. I went to law school because it was supposed to fix or stop the pain of something, and anytime we do one thing because it's supposed to make us not hurt, I think that there's some trauma in there, and that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. It just means that we get to take it for what it is.Lesley Logan 22:46  Yeah, I think, my yoga teacher was I interviewed on my podcast, and his he was talking about, like, everyone's label things as good and or and bad. And he's like, that's just not really how it works. He's like, you can't have happiness without sadness. You can't, like, all these things have to exist for you to feel happy. You have to have felt pain. Like, that's the only way you can do it, which I think is really interesting, that we were taught like, success equals happiness and happy people don't feel pain. That's not true. But he also said, like, you know, in our society, we tend to think, oh, someone who drinks wine at the end of the night is numbing, and that's bad. But actually, like, there's been a lot of people who have even said like Mindy Pells, he said it there's someone else who's like, if that glass of wine helps you relax after a hard day and allows you to connect with your family, allows you to talk to them and to be fun, it might not be bad. Now, if it's you're doing it every night, too numb from the pain of work and also ignore your family, then it's not really serving you. Then it's so like, we do have responses to things, and as long as we're evaluating like, how is this actually serving us? Is it serving us? Is it actually serving the people that we say we love? Then we can't we need to stop being so hard on ourselves about some of the things that we're doing and that some things that we might not deem healthy aren't really healthy. Because I actually really liked that you told that story. You know, I have a real, after living in L.A. and living around unhoused people for as long as I did, just it's really, it's like nails on a chalkboard when someone says that they're lazy, why don't they go get help? Why don't they use resources? And it's just like we have no idea what their life was that led them here. Most people who are mentally healthy do not choose to live on the streets. You know, like, most people.Amber Fuhriman 24:27  And only that, like, I love that we went here, and I'm gonna piss some people off here in just a minute. So remember, you love me. I just did a keynote in Nashville in March, and my keynote is, every victim needs a villain, and it's so easy for us to look at people who live on the street as being a victim and be the person that's like, why don't you do this, or, why don't you do this? What about the person that wakes up pissed off at their job every single day and doesn't take control of their life? What about the person that wakes up and doesn't run their business the way that they want to do or that they could in order to make more money? What about the person that wakes up without good relationships with their family and then allows those relationships to destroy them inside? Because they have a roof over their head, doesn't mean that they're any less of a victim than anybody else. So we get to sit back and say, yeah, it's really easy for us to sit here and judge this type of victim, because we can look at them and we can identify that they are not societally acceptable. But your type of victim, whatever it is you're a victim of, because I promise you, every single person is a victim of something. It's a lot less easy for us to look internally and say what am I not taking control of in my own life?Lesley Logan 25:40  Yeah, Gosh, what a great TED Talk. And also, like, I think, like, what came to my mind is, like, a lot of people are like, well, my problems aren't as bad as so it's not that big a deal.Amber Fuhriman 25:50  And that works double sorted wise, right? Yeah, because, number one, my problems aren't as bad as this, so I don't need to deal with them. It's really unfortunate because the person who is living unhoused didn't wake up one day and live unhoused. There were not that bad problems that started it right. But second of all, the other side of that is when it comes time to become something great we also use that to say, well, my life didn't have the transforming moments because my problems weren't that bad, so I don't have anything to share with the world. So we get to just stop comparing ourselves in general, and say there's this thing that I don't like about what's going on right now, and regardless of whether somebody else has it worse, I still get to deal with this thing. And I want to tangent just a little bit, because you mentioned something earlier that I want to make sure that we dig into, which is the success happiness thing and it's toxic.Lesley Logan 26:46  You're reading my mind. Yeah, we're going here next.Amber Fuhriman 26:50  Toxic happiness and toxic positivity culture that some people live in, like I absolutely despise affirmations, the way that they are traditionally taught, which is stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself you're pretty until you believe it. Because this fake it till you make it mentality doesn't work. And if I don't think that I have self-worth, and I don't think I'm pretty, and I don't think like that I'm capable of whatever, then standing in front of a mirror and lying to myself about it isn't going to do a goddamn thing, except for convince myself I'm a liar, right, right? Lesley Logan 27:21  Well, the brain doesn't like distance, so you can't, that's why this is not called fake it till you make it, right, like, that's. Amber Fuhriman 27:26  Yeah, which I love. I love. So we get to pay attention to what that voice is. When you stand in front of a mirror and you say, I can have a seven figure business. I can have an eight figure business. What does that voice tell you? Because instead of just telling that voice it's wrong. We get to understand where does that voice's beliefs come from, and heal whatever that is that makes us believe that. So, and I'm not saying like so, the best way that I've ever seen affirmations done is to say this is who this is what I want to accomplish. This is who I need to be in order to accomplish it, and this is who I think I am now, so that you can see the gap between them to become it, and then your affirmations become things about yourself that you are in control of, that you are committed to being in order to level up to that next step of your life. So that's the first side. The other side is this toxic positivity and happiness. Like, if somebody else looks at me and says just think happy thoughts. I'm going to shove them through a glass window. Like, so I want people to hear this, because especially in the clickbait side of personal development, there's like, just feel better about yourself. Yeah, that's great. Like, thanks for the million dollar advice. Lesley Logan 28:38  It's like when someone says, well, you know, calm down. It's like the same, the same visceral response happens, I think, like, there, as we know, as you and I know, on the other side of things, yes, you can always look back on a rear view mirror and go, that shitty situation was a great thing to help me pivot. But while you're in the shitty situation, what you don't need to hear is just think happy thoughts. This is going to be great, like this is no no one needs to hear that from you. They can come up with that themselves, but at first they do have to feel the feelings of the shitty situation.Amber Fuhriman 29:16  Yeah and when I hear that, so the one for me that really resonates, and the reason I laughed is because when I was suffering from panic attacks, I would love it when people would say, Amber, just breathe. And I'm like, have you ever had a panic attack? I'm telling you, that's what I'm not capable of doing right now. Like, I would love to just breathe. You make it sound so simple. I like it takes every thought that I have in every ounce of focus to get air in my lungs right now. So just breathing doesn't seem as easy as you make it sound, but I think the other side of this just think happy thoughts, comment that you made is it makes us feel like we're doing something wrong, or that we are wrong because we're not okay. And it is okay to not be okay, it's just not okay to stay not okay, right? I got a. Water bottle at a conference I went to once that said nobody drowned by falling in the water. They drowned by staying there. So like we get to acknowledge like I'm not okay right now, how long am I going to allow myself to not be okay, and where do I need to be and who do I need to be around in order to be okay? So in this, in this vein, I encourage all of my clients to create an SOS list. And I actually encourage them, if they have an iPhone, to go into their text replacement and come up with an SOS phrase and replace SOS with their SOS phrase. So for example, mine is, I'm stuck at the airport because my so my SOS moments are normally overthinking. And I remember talking to a good friend of mine, and I was venting about what direction I was going to take my business. And I was tired of constantly feeling like I was having the same conversations about growth and not taking action and all the bullshit. And I said you know what I feel like? I said, I feel like I'm stuck at the airport. And she says what do you mean by that? And I said, I feel like somebody has given me an all expense golden ticket, paid vacation to anywhere that I want to go in the world. All I have to do is pick the plane that I'm going to get on. But instead of actually choosing a plane, I'm standing in front of the departures board looking at which one that I want to do, over analyzing every decision, and then I become Tom Hanks living in an airport, right? So for me, any choice I made would be a better choice than what I'm doing right now, but I'm so overthinking it that I can't express what I want. So I think that what's important is when we're in those moments we are sometimes so in our thoughts that we don't know how to ask for help. So if you have that close knit group of friends that you can say you are on my SOS list. If I text you and say I'm stuck at an airport, I am in my shit. So whatever your phrase is, what you'll find, and what's beautiful is that the moment you send that message, your brain knows that it's okay and you will normally have the answers that you're looking for before they even call you back. It's that decision to ask for help that allows your brain to say, okay, now I can see solutions. So if you if you find yourself in those places, pick two or three people, reach out to them, get their permission, I'm going to put you on what's called My SOS list. This is my SOS phrase. This is what it means to me. If I ever send this to you, it just means that in that moment, I really need somebody to check on me because I don't know how to ask for help.Lesley Logan 32:32  Oh, my god, that is so good. And I love that so much, because it makes me think of like Brené Brown said, like, I have five people. I have a name of five people in my life whose opinions of me matter, and they know that their opinions may matter, and if I have bad feedback or something comes up, I look at that list and it's like, okay, well, they're they're not my five person list. So who are they? So it makes me think of that. It's like having these lists of people that can help us, because it is, it is hard to fall in the water, not judge yourself for falling in the water, not get frustrated that you're back in the water and then, and then you're like, okay, I get to feel my feelings, and then somehow it gets becomes a habit, and you're still in the water, right? Like, so I really do like that like, we get to fall in the water, we can actually feel these feelings, and then when we're ready to get up and ask, like, we have a way of asking for help, which isn't like, I need help right now, because that is so the recovering perfectionist in the world, like that is like you that's like a that's a four letter word is I need (inaudible). Amber Fuhriman 33:30  Yes. Well, because a lot of this perfectionist thing comes from, you know, everybody's different, so I hate lumping behavioral traits into this is where they come from, but I've seen some trends, and a lot of it comes from believing that we had to be something in order to be valued and loved and worthy of connection, right? That just ourselves wasn't, so if we are imperfect, that means that we're unlovable, and I find that there's a lot of that connection between perfection end. And then the other thing that I love right now is the word clarity, that, because I see that everywhere, and I remember my coach telling me. Lesley Logan 34:10  (inaudible) having an authentic moment, clarity is. Amber Fuhriman 34:12  Yeah, yeah. Like my coach kept saying, so when are you going to take action? And I said, I just need some clarity. Just need some clarity. And I didn't realize how much I said it, and I'll never forget her telling me, Amber, you realize clarity is just the word perfectionist used to not use the word perfection. I'm like, I hate you right now, and I love you.Lesley Logan 34:29  I have a coach who said certainty is perfection in disguise. I'm like, fuck you. You're right. Like, like, I need it. Amber Fuhriman 34:39  I hate it when you're right. Lesley Logan 34:41  Yeah. You're like, I know that. I knew that. Amber Fuhriman 34:44  So, there's this, there's this video. This is what I feel like when I talk to my coach sometimes, there's this video of a little boy. I'll have to send it to you, and you can put it in the show notes. It's hilarious. A little boy, and you know those slides that we grew up with, like, not the safe ones that kids have today, but the metal ones that you were either going to burn your ass on when you go down, or you were going to end up bruised because you went so fast that you hit the gravel. Yeah, we didn't have those soft, padded, black, safe surfaces that kids get now. So I was watching a video of this little, maybe six year old boy, and he's walking towards this death slide that we grew up with, and he's carrying a blue toboggan behind him, and you can see that in his little six year old boy brain, he's going to climb up the stairs of the slide and ride the toboggan down this metal death slide. And his mom's videoing, and I love this so much, because his mom says, if you're going to be stupid, you better be tough. And his response is, I know you told me that lots of days. And so like I feel like every single time my coach says something to me that makes sense, I'm like, you tell me this all the time. I know I'm still going to take my blue toboggan up my death slide and figure out how this works in my own damn choices. And then you and I are going to figure out how to fix the outcome, right?Lesley Logan 36:07  Oh, my god, please send it. We have to link it. And also it's, it's, well, I mean, so as applied instructor, I was teaching someone in my group who's in my mentorship program who's trying to up level her teaching, and I was giving her some breakfast, like, I know, but like, I should be able to do it by now. And I'm like, okay, hold on. Like, I know that you know what the exercise is supposed to look like. I know that you've been doing this for years, and you, your body has been able to cheat its way through this. And I also know that you signed up to no longer do that. The problem is that your body wants to do the easiest thing, because it's just that's it's trained to conserve calories. It's literally trained to conserve calories. So we know that the new way, the better way, the more the stronger way, the more connected way is better. But to rewire our brain to do it that way, to do it that way is going to take more calories. So our body wants to do the easiest way. And I think, like us, you know, use clarity or certainty or have these other the perfectionist person of us is like, okay, I'm not. I'm going to work on being imperfect. And then our brain's like, oh, look at this thing over here. This is a great way to, like, hide out and take notice, because it's harder, it's more calorie-consuming. It's more awareness. It requires more thought to actually not like, to actually live in that imperfect place, and like be willing to make a mistake or be willing to get on the wrong flight, or be it requires more calories. So our brains and bodies are very good at sneaking around and taking shortcuts.Amber Fuhriman 37:41  Yeah, I love it. And one of the things that's coming to my mind right now, and I think I'm going to go do this. I've never done it before, and I think I'm going to, and I would encourage some of your listeners to do it and let me know how it goes. I want to leave my house without a plan one day, and I just want to, like, find out where I end up. And maybe, since we're both in Vegas, we can leave our houses without a plan together and just figure out what choices present themselves to us and where we end up when we don't have a expectation of how our day is going to turn out.Lesley Logan 38:12  Okay, we're, we're setting a date to do this. I have three months in town, so let's set a date where we do this, and then, and then we'll have a date the next day to talk about it.Amber Fuhriman 38:21  To talk about it, right, like, what opportunities do we miss? And I'm not telling people they shouldn't plan like my my schedule is like, completely planned out because it's important to but I also think that every now and then we need days where we just figure out where we would end up if we didn't have expectations about what the day would look like, what would we say yes to, and what opportunities do we miss when we're so focused on something else?Lesley Logan 38:46  Because, I mean, like when we go on vacation, some people can't have a vacation day that's not over planned. My husband, I went on vacation earlier this year after our big tour. Our tour was 8000 miles, like 22 cities, 47 events. Like every day is planned out. Otherwise we don't make it on the tour on time. So we have a vacation that's planned after every tour. And I took him to this hotel I love, and we literally laid by the pool, and I got so I read two books, and I got so bored. I was okay, I'm really bored now. It'd be a good time for us to, like, do something else. And he's like, what do you want to do? I'm like, I don't know. Why don't we just drive into town and see what we see. And like, had the best time wandering around a town, you know. But like, like, we do this when we're on vacations, ideally, you relax and you have but like, we don't ever do it like, on a on a day that normally we planned out or in our own towns. It makes me think of artist dates I'm in. I love it.Amber Fuhriman 39:35  Yeah, let's do it. I also want to share for those of like, because we've talked so much about perfection, I love, and I would encourage, if your listeners are artistic, they can they can do this, or they can go, like, find a picture on the internet. But whenever a friend of mine or a client of mine talks to me about perfection, I'll ask them to introduce me to their unicorn, and they'll be like, what are you talking about? And I said, Well, if we're gonna talk talk about things that don't exist, then we might as well talk about unicorns, right? So, like, just think about, like, we would never say, I can't go do something today because I have to take care of my unicorn. Everybody would be like, that is out, like, that's so dumb. Like, unicorns don't exist. Exactly, exactly, my friend.Lesley Logan 40:20  Okay, I have one more question, because I would love, I mean, I get, I feel like I get this asked all the time, and we brought up success, enough like, how, how do you define success now? Because I'm assuming it's changed since it's no longer get rich to be happy and not feel pain.Amber Fuhriman 40:38  Yes, it has absolutely changed. Yeah, freedom, which I know really isn't a definition. I love when people define words with other non-definable words. So I'll go a little bit deeper on that. For me, I love knowing that if I wanted to pick up and go to Nashville for a month, I can pick up and go to Nashville for a month if I have a friend who needs me, or if my family needs me, I my uncle passed away, or, I'm sorry, my cousin passed away in August, and I was able to just go stay with my aunt for I call him my uncle. This is why it's so hard. They're so much older than me. But either way, I was supposed I was able to go stay with his wife for a little bit and not have to worry about work, because I could travel so location, freedom and independence is so incredibly important to me, and then feeling like I'm in control, you know, not necessarily not having responsibilities. One of my coaches quotes that I steal from her all the time, so I'll give her credit, is choices of powerful things, suffering is always optional. So when I step back and I say, whatever happened today, I was in complete control of my choices in how I spent my day. So if I am not happy with the way my time was spent, then I get to look at my choices to determine how I'm going to avoid repeating that again in the future, where did I spend time that I didn't want to spend time? So time and location freedom is my definition of success right now. Lesley Logan 42:08  I do love that. I do love that. Okay, well, we could obviously talk for hours. We're gonna take a brief break, and then we're gonna find out how people can find you, follow you, work with you. Amber Fuhriman 42:15  Sounds good. Lesley Logan 42:16  All right, Amber, where'd you like to hang out? Where are all the places people can hear your amazing words of wisdom more.Amber Fuhriman 42:24  So first of all, the I have a free Facebook group, which we are revitalizing. It's been pretty dormant for a while, and I'm committed to changing that. So if you want to be a part of that revitalization, called the Break Your Bullshit Box Community on Facebook, so you can go check that out there, other than that, socials and the book and all of that stuff is on my website, at successdevelopmentsolutions.com.Lesley Logan 42:49  Amazing, amazing. Okay, you have actually given us so much. There's a few things I'm like, well, that's a Be It Action Item. Well, that's a Be It Action Item. But for the for the bold, executable, intrinsic, targeted steps people can take to be it till they see it, what do you have for us? You can take from what we've already gone over, or you can add more. Amber Fuhriman 43:04  Yeah, so I think the first thing that I would say is, if any of your listeners are interested in taking that next step, I do have an online 90-Day Success Jumpstart Training that starts to get you into some really actionable steps. So if they're interested in that, they can go to jumpstart.successdevelopmentsolutions.com. The actionable piece that I really want to leave people with is an understanding that you have complete control, like you make decisions every single day, whether you realize you make decisions and if there is anything that you are not 100% happy with in your life, then we get to dig into what decisions you're making to create that, because avoiding making a decision is still a decision. So what choices are you making? And how can we make different choices? So that's the actionable piece I would leave them with. Lesley Logan 43:54  Love, love, love. Amber, so fun. Okay, we have a date to make about our unplanned day, and then also a date just to be in person. You're wonderful, amazing. You guys, share this with a friend who needs to hear it. Share this with that people pleasing friend who doesn't realize that they are. They won't know that we told them to do that until they get to this part. And then, yes, that was for you. And make sure that you share any takeaways with Amber or the Be It Pod. We want to hear from you. We want to hear what your takeaways are. And until next time, you know what to do, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 44:23  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod.Brad Crowell 45:06  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 45:10  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 45:15  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 45:21  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 45:25  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Transcribed by https://otter.aiSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Send us a textAmber Fuhriman, an attorney turned success coach, reveals how our self-created excuses limit our potential and how we can break through these barriers to create lasting change. She shares her journey from small-town Idaho to Las Vegas criminal defense attorney, and ultimately to becoming a transformational coach and NLP practitioner.• Growing up in a small farming town of 2,000 people in Idaho• Losing her father at age 18 and struggling through college with a 1.6 GPA• Pursuing law school as a "trauma response" and graduating in the top 3% of her class• Working death penalty cases and seeing the worst of society while maintaining humanity• Creating "Break Your Bullshit Box" to help people identify and overcome limiting beliefs• Recognizing common excuses like "I don't have time" and "I didn't have a choice"• Understanding that blame keeps us in a victim mindset• Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) as a tool for personal transformation• Finding personal breakthrough through obstacle course racing and physical challenges• Living by the question "When was the last time you did something for the first time?"Connect with Amber at successdevelopmentsolutions.com or follow her on social media to learn more about her book, podcast, and upcoming trainings.Support the showThanks for listening & being part of the Mindset Cafe Community.----------------------------------------------Connect With Devan:https://www.devangonzalez.com/connect----------------------------------------------Follow On Instagram https://www.instagram.com/devan.gonzalez/https://www.instagram.com/mindsetcafepodcastLet me know what topics or questions you want covered so we can help you achieve your goals faster.----------------------------------------------P.S. If you're not already a part of the The Mindset Cafe Community Page I would love to have you be a part of the community, and spread your amazing knowledge. The page is to connect and network with other like minded people networking and furthering each other on our journeys!https://www.facebook.com/groups/themindsetcafe/

What if the biggest obstacles to your success aren't external challenges but the stories you tell yourself? In this revealing conversation with attorney, success architect, and podcast host Amber Fuhriman, we unpack the limiting beliefs that keep entrepreneurs trapped in cycles of frustration and self-doubt.Amber shatters the common myth that successful entrepreneurs have some secret knowledge or inherent advantage. "Nobody knows what they're doing," she explains. "We act with uncertainty, evaluate our decisions, figure out what worked, and figure out what didn't." This refreshing honesty cuts through the carefully curated social media personas of success, particularly what Amber calls the "Lambo, plane, and Rolex watch" images that trigger more skepticism than inspiration among seasoned entrepreneurs.The conversation takes a surprising turn when discussing high-stress environments. Rather than pushing harder, Amber advocates for intentionally slowing down—scheduling "breathe time" throughout the day and working in focused 45-60 minute blocks. This counterintuitive approach has transformed her productivity and mental clarity, especially after discovering the power of breathwork when traditional meditation failed her.We explore the fascinating connection between childhood experiences and entrepreneurial drive, with Amber explaining how our earliest programming shapes our definition of success. "Money equaled success, success equaled happiness," she shares about her own journey, "and that meant all the pain I felt in my life was going to disappear." The revelation came when success didn't deliver the promised emotional fulfillment, leading to anxiety attacks and a profound reexamination of her goals.Perhaps most valuable is Amber's advice for entrepreneurs feeling stuck: "The antidote to feeling stuck is taking a step, whether you think it's in the correct direction or not." She challenges listeners to examine whether they have data supporting their perceived plateau or if they're simply justifying inaction, noting that "the distance between deciding and action will decide who makes the most money."Whether you're just starting your entrepreneurial journey or looking to break through to your next level of success, this conversation provides the mindset tools to recognize and overcome the internal barriers holding you back. Connect with Amber at successdevelopmentsolutions.com or amber@amberfurman.com to continue your journey toward authentic success.How to connect with Amber?Email: Amber@amberfuhriman.com Website: https://fuhrimanlaw.com/Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/break-your-bullsh-t-box/id1475272089YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@amberfuhriman668Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2320358498239185Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amberraefuhriman/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fuhrimanlaw/Twitter: https://x.com/FuhrimanLaw Support the show

Suzanne and Amber Fuhriman discuss the realities of imperfection, authenticity, and challenging societal norms. The conversation delves into themes of overcoming procrastination, redefining success, effective communication, and the struggles of maintaining authenticity in personal and professional lives. Both Suzanne and Amber share personal anecdotes, from childhood experiences to present-day challenges, highlighting the importance of being true to oneself. With insights into the power of transparency, empathy, and the courage to embrace imperfection, this episode is a refreshing take on personal growth and self-acceptance. In this episode Suzanne and Amber discuss:  The Struggles of Publishing with Explicit Titles The Imperfection of Podcasting Understanding Different Perspectives The Power of Perception The Cost of Numbing with Entertainment The Value of Rejection in Networking The Role of Authenticity in Coaching Find out more about Amber here: http://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com Find out more about Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com For exclusive content, including a private solo podcast, join Suzanne's Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/suzanneculberg Enjoy my podcast? You'll love my emails, sign up here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/newsletter Join Networking without Schmooze with Laura & Suze, Register here - https://networkingwithoutschmooze.substack.com/ Want to be a guest on The Nope Coach podcast? Send Suzanne Culberg a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/thenopecoach A simple way to make my day – please subscribe to my YouTube channel - https://www.youtube.com/@suzanneculberg?sub_confirmation=1 The Nope coach Suzanne Culberg teaches you how to put yourself first without feeling selfish, by setting healthy boundaries and reclaiming the unapologetic badass you long to be. Contact Suzanne here: https://www.suzanneculberg.com/contact  

Message us, here for you!Ever wonder what happens when a criminal defense attorney hits rock bottom at the peak of her career? Buckle up, because Amber Fuhriman's story is about to shatter everything you thought you knew about success, trauma, and the real path to fulfillment.Picture this: Six-figure salary, law degree, respect in the courtroom - the whole package. But instead of feeling on top of the world, Amber's battling panic attacks and questioning everything. Why? Because chasing external success to fill internal voids is like trying to fill a black hole with confetti - it just doesn't work.But here's where it gets juicy. Amber doesn't just survive her crash - she uses it as a launchpad to completely reinvent herself and her definition of success. We're talking about transforming from a burnt-out attorney to a badass business coach who's not afraid to call bullshit on the toxic hustle culture.Get ready for some hard truths:Success without self-worth is just a shiny cageYour childhood money trauma is probably sabotaging your business (yeah, we're going there)"Humility" might be the dirtiest word in personal development (mind blown yet?)Amber's dropping wisdom bombs left and right, from how to build a 300k law firm with no credit and pure grit, to why your "villain" might just be the key to your personal growth. And don't even get me started on her take on the lie that "if you build it, they will come" - spoiler alert: they won't.Whether you're a struggling entrepreneur, a high-achiever feeling empty inside, or just someone trying to figure out how to actually love the life you're building, this episode is your wake-up call.Want more of Amber's no-bullshit advice? Check her out: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/afuhriman82 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amberraefuhriman/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amberraefuhriman/ Website: https://successdevelopmentsolutions.com/Don't just listen - engage. Hit us up with your thoughts, your struggles, your a-ha moments. Let's build a community of badasses who aren't afraid to do the inner work while crushing it in the outer world. Now go out there and start redefining success on your own terms - Amber's cheering you on, and she's not taking any excuses.Follow our Host, Stoy Hall:Twitter, FaceBook, Instagram, Tiktok, Linkedin

Welcome to an awesome new episode with Amber Fuhriman, a multi-talented attorney, author, podcaster, and success architect. Amber shares her journey of overcoming personal and professional barriers to design a life filled with purpose and impact. Through her book, "Break Your Bullshit Box," Amber addresses the excuses that hold people back and offers practical tools to break through limiting beliefs. Their conversation explores the importance of overcoming self-doubt, reframing your mindset, and embracing vulnerability. Amber also highlights the role of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) in helping professionals unlock their full potential. Ambers Facebook Ambers website Connect with Nicholas 00:00 Introduction to Nicholas Kuhne and Wunderbrand 00:57 Meet Amber Fuhriman: A Multifaceted Professional 01:17 Amber's Journey and Her Book 'Break Your Bullshit Box' 03:23 The Concept of the Bullshit Box 05:31 Overcoming Excuses and Embracing Vulnerability 08:49 The Importance of a Supportive Circle 11:08 Gender Differences in Networking and Support 15:23 Reprogramming Through NLP 24:50 The Value of Failure and Creative Freedom 30:23 Marketing Insights and Customer Engagement 33:08 Conclusion and How to Connect with Amber Furman

Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, author, speaker, success architect, and podcaster. She is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law in Las Vegas, Nevada. Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to begin her career. Throughout her educational and professional career, Amber always thought there would be a moment when everything would fall into place, as she calls it, her “I'll be happy when moment.” When that moment never came, Amber realized her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney and chasing accomplishments to fill a void that accomplishments could never fill. Amber's road to becoming a successful architect began in 2016 when she dug into personal development. Since 2016, Amber has pushed the boundaries of her self-imposed physical and mental limitations, living outside her comfort zone as much as possible and learning about how the mind works and how our limiting beliefs affect our success. In 2020, Amber became a Certified Trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and a Certified Master Practitioner in Integrated Timeline Techniques. She is also a Success Mastery Academy Certified Coach.@http://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com/#DefiningSuccess #AmberFuhriman #SuccessJourney #SuccessMindset #PersonalGrowth #SuccessStrategies

Today's guest is Amber Fuhriman, a recovering attorney turned success architect. Host of Break Your Bullshit Box, you know this one is gonna get good and ranty (not to mention sweary). We're breaking down what it means to be your true self in a world hell-bent on forcing you to conform. If you've ever felt like you're wearing a bunch of different masks to balance your personal and professional lives, this episode is your wake-up call.  Can't-miss moments:Do you have a dozen different versions of "you" floating around out there? Amber shares how and why she chose to be herself (plus a bonus story on why I flipped out when someone Photoshopped me)...If you find yourself about to flip a freakin' table, pause and ask yourself this powerful question (this one is a splash of cold water to the face, in the best possible way)...What does success even mean? Amber shares the surprisingly simple reason you may be struggling to get to your end goal...Mic-drop moment: "You have to be selfish before you can be selfless." Amber has an eye-opening take on goals and success (hint: wanting what you want is not only OK, it's critical to actually doing the damn thing)... Are you running FROM something or TOWARD something? Here's how to tell (and why it's super important)...Amber's bio:Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, author, speaker, and podcaster. She is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law in Las Vegas, Nevada.  Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to being her career.Throughout her educational and professional career, Amber always thought there would be an “I'll be happy when moment.” When that moment never came, Amber started to realize her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney and chasing accomplishments to fill a void that accomplishments could never fill. Since 2016,  Amber has pushed the boundaries of her self-imposed physical and mental limitations, living outside her comfort zone as much as possible and learning about how the mind works and how our limiting beliefs affect our success. Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber is a Success Architect! Her book, "Break Your Bullsh*t Box" released August 23, 2023.  In it, Amber discusses the excuses we have relied on to justify holding ourselves back and how we can break the bullshit box that those excuses live in.  Resources and links:Amber's websiteAmber's podcastBreak Your Bullshit Box - Amber's bookSupport the Show.Let's collab: Book a chat Work with Angie Get the PTKA book Let's connect: Angie's FB Page Angie on IG Angie on YT If you dig the show and want to help bring more episodes to the world, consider buying a coffee for the production team!

When you think of the Northern Lights what comes to mind? My guest today is Amber Fuhriman. Amber writes a letter to her dad and shares why he made such an impact on her life. The Northern Lights, also known as the Aurora Borealis, paint the Arctic skies with a mesmerizing dance of vibrant colors. This celestial spectacle, resulting from charged particles from the sun colliding with gases in the Earth's atmosphere, creates a breathtaking display of swirling hues predominantly seen in regions near the North Pole. From emerald greens to vivid purples and shimmering blues, the auroras weave a tapestry of light against the dark canvas of the night sky, captivating observers with their ethereal beauty and mystical allure. Enveloped in a sense of wonder, those fortunate enough to witness this natural phenomenon are treated to a fleeting glimpse of the universe's awe-inspiring grandeur. Join me as we walk in Amber's shoes. 

Amber Fuhriman's journey from attorney to success architect is one of self-discovery and personal growth. As the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law in Las Vegas, Nevada, specializing in Criminal Defense and Immigration Law, Amber initially believed that achieving professional success would bring lasting happiness. However, she soon realized that her identity had become entwined with her career, leading to a sense of emptiness.   In 2016, Amber embarked on a path of personal development, pushing the boundaries of her self-imposed limitations and delving into the workings of the mind. Through becoming a Certified Trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and a Certified Master Practitioner in Integrated Timeline Techniques, she gained valuable insights into how limiting beliefs impact success.   Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber serves as a Success Architect, guiding individuals through the process of defining their goals, breaking free from comfort zones, and achieving their dreams. Her book, "Break Your Bullsh*t Box," released in August 2023, delves into the excuses that hold individuals back and offers practical strategies for overcoming them.   Amber emphasizes the importance of challenging oneself physically to expand mental limitations, drawing from her own experiences with loss, grief, academic and professional success, and physical challenges like endurance obstacle courses. Through her work, she empowers others to break free from their own limitations and reach their highest potential. Learn more about Amber here: http://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com/ ___________________ Subscribe to this podcast and download your favorite episodes to listen to later:     ___________________   ⚕️ Are you a woman healthcare professional who is struggling to juggle everything in your personal and professional life?  

Recovering Perfectionist and Serial Accomplisher helping professionals design their best life and have the courage to live it. Attorney, author, podcaster, speaker, success architect, NLP Master Coach, NLP Certified Trainer.  Author of the book "Break Your Bullsh*t Box" where she discusses the excuses we have relied on to justify holding ourselves back and how to break the bullsh*t box those excuses live in.http://www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com/https://www.facebook.com/afuhriman82https://www.instagram.com/amberraefuhriman/https://www.linkedin.com/in/amberraefuhriman/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/i-am-refocused-radio--2671113/support.

Have you ever felt trapped on a career path that just doesn't fit who you are? Amber Fuhriman shares her compelling transformation from a successful attorney to an acclaimed author, podcaster, and success strategist, revealing the dramatic shift that comes when we align our professions with our purpose. With the wisdom of someone who's shed the 'recovering perfectionist' label, Amber shows us that it's okay to change course and reframe our identity beyond our job titles. Throughout our conversation, we uncover the beauty of evolving career narratives and the courage required to grow and change while honoring our personal development.Amber's experiences with panic attacks and the subsequent journey through therapy and obstacle course racing are a raw look into the often-hidden struggles of high-achievers. As she guides us through her introduction to neuro-linguistic programming, we learn how breaking down psychological barriers can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling life. We tackle the complex tapestry of redefining success, the power of internal fulfillment over external achievements, and the societal pressures that often dictate our milestones. Amber's story acts as a mirror, reflecting the collective yearning for personal definitions of success and the tools necessary to forge our own paths.Closing out this insightful episode, Amber entices us with her Success Development Solutions and the principles behind her book, "Break Your Bullshit Box." We discuss the intricacies of overcoming excuses and setting realistic goals to achieve personal aspirations. Her Break Your Bullshit Box Academy promises not only goal-setting strategies but also a blueprint for authenticity in a world rife with impostor syndrome. Our exchange serves as an invitation to conduct regular life audits, control your narrative, and carve out your personal definition of success, ensuring it resonates with who you are, not just what you do. Amber's journey is a beacon for those seeking harmony and purpose in their lives, and this episode is your map to finding it.Join Amber's free Facebook group, More Than Corporate, Big news, creative pros! Your Brand Amplified is proudly sponsored by Simplified. With Simplified, effortlessly transform lengthy videos into engaging, shareable clips, and streamline your workflow with an intuitive subtitle generator. For designers, explore the AI-powered image generator, create compelling presentations, and design eye-catching YouTube thumbnails with ease. Click here for your free trial today. Are you looking to get yourself booked on podcasts, at live events, and in the press? PitchDB is the AI-driven, all in one platform you need to share your perspective with the world. Connect DIRECTLY with podcasters, event organizers, local associations, and the press to share your message with their audience. Click on the link receive a 7-day free trial plus an exclusive 20% off your subscription! As we close out today's episode, thanks to Simplified for making it possible. For all the marketers and creators out there, Simplified is your ally in effortlessly crafting on-brand content with its Design & Video AI. Discover how AI can enhance your creative process at Simplified.com. Start for free and elevate your content game. Thank you for listening, and here's to your next creative breakthrough!We're happy you're here! Like the pod? Visit our website! Check out our sponsor PitchDB! Start your trial on Simplified!

Amber Fuhriman came onto the show and told us how being a lawyer is stressful and that podcasting has changed the way she communicates with clients. She opened up her practice but since has decided to move more into coaching and public speaking. FB Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate/?ref=share IF you want to start podcasting and make money follow the link below https://www.joinpodmatch.com/bankedoutt BRS FB page https://www.facebook.com/bankedouttradioshow Email inquiries to bankedouttradioshow@gmail.com

What happens when you stop reaching into your EXCUSE BOX?"What you feed.....GROWS"....nothing is more evident of that than the excuses we feed to justify our own worth, our own fears, and our outcomes that we don't want, but that we have manifested.Everyone carries their own "Bullshit Box"....and Amber Fuhriman joins Patrick Kagan, author of SELL THE DIFFERENCE - The Ultimate Guide to Increased Sales, Profits, & Customer Satisfaction & CREATE THE DIFFERENCE - A Leader's Guide to Strategy, Growth, & Hiring to unpack the power of addressing the root causes of our own excuses....our own procrastination to unlock the real and true person....the real and true potential that lies within all of us.   Can you manifest new OUTCOMES simply by what you allow as valid self talk?  Listen and learn, as Amber walks through the how and why with Patrick.Patrick opens the door to higher levels of income and satisfaction in  his book, "SELL THE DIFFERENCE" and he takes leaders to levels of ABUNDANCE they only dream of in his book "CREATE THE DIFFERENCE".  Both 2 of the best options to develop personally and professionally in sales and leadership.  Your copy awaits you here:https://pksolutionsgroup.comOR GET YOUR AUDIOBOOK AT MOST AUDIO BOOK PLATFORMS.Want more growth as a professional?  SCHEDULE YOUR FREE CONSULTATION WITH ME: https://calendly.com/pksolutionsgroupOr, just choose "SHOP" at https://www.pksolutionsgroup.com , and purchase your own individual edition of bonus content from any of our podversations.©2022 -2023 PK Solutions Group. All rights Reserved.Not to be distributed for commercial use without express permissionEnjoy the easy to understand, and practical approach to improving yourself, and therefore, the world around you, both personally and professionally.   Patrick gives you the support, now make hiring his team your next  priority to move toward the best results and most positive changes you could imagine.Support the show

I recently had an eye-opening conversation. With Amber Fuhriman – attorney, author, and success architect. Based in Las Vegas. As the owner and attorney at Fuhriman Law. Specialising in criminal defence and immigration law. Amber's journey, from serial accomplisher to success architect is truly inspiring. In our discussion, she shared her insights into breaking free. From the pursuit of external accomplishments, and finding true fulfilment; through self-discovery.Amber's recent book, "Break Your Bullsh*t Box," released on August 23, 2023. It's not just a title; it's also the name of her podcast. Join us on "Lost in the Groove," for an enriching conversation. That explores Amber's path to success, and how she encourages others. To break free from self-imposed limitations. Besure to check out her book, and the podcast, and her coaching program. Proved with the links below:https://successdevelopmentsolutions.comWe have a magical link below with all our socials and handle so you can find us on your favorite pod spot

Amber Fuhriman joins me today and shares her journey of self-healing. She shared that journey lead her to an understanding that she deserved to let the things that brought her happiness back into her life, especially music. Amber's book- Break Your Bullsh*t Box can be found here - https://a.co/d/fRd8q28 Join her Break your BS Box community here - https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Listen to that voice in your head. When it tells you something, believe it because we don't get any growth by challenging what our unconscious mind believes is true.” —Amber Fuhriman Do you ever feel like something is holding you back from achieving your goals, no matter how hard you work? The hidden beliefs and unconscious fears buried deep in your mind could be sabotaging your success without you even realizing it.  Discover how to uncover and overcome the lies your inner critic has been telling you in this eye-opening conversation with Success Coach, Amber Fuhriman. Amber is an inspiring speaker who shares her wisdom and experience overcoming challenges to find her purpose. She offers valuable insights into human behavior and how our past can influence our present decisions. Join the conversation as Daniel and Amber provide thought-provoking perspectives on gaining self-awareness and changing behaviors, the influence of our subconscious mind on our decision-making, what our reactions say about us, the importance of having the willingness to reprogram our limiting beliefs, how to start listening to our beliefs, and lessons from Amber's book, Break Your Bullshit Box”.     Be Inspired! with Daniel:  Website (Makings of a Millionaire Mindset) Website (Daniel Gomez Global) Facebook Facebook Group Twitter Instagram LinkedIn Pinterest YouTube Episode Highlights: 03:13 Finding Purpose Through Career Pivot 07:53 Mental Health and Personal Growth 12:32 Be More Understanding of Yourself 18:12 Move Away From Self-Blaming 23:23 Manifestations of Self-Sabotage 27:35 How the Unconscious Mind Influences Success 38:14 What Our Reactions Say About Us 43:54 Personal Growth and Decision-Making 50:49 The Connection Between Vulnerability and Courage  

Welcome back to another enriching episode of "Healthy Mind, Healthy Life." I'm your host, Avik, and today, we have the incredible privilege of hosting a guest who is not only an accomplished attorney but a master of self-discovery and personal growth. It's an honor to introduce Amber Fuhriman, a woman of multiple talents, roles, and remarkable achievements. Amber is a recovering perfectionist and serial accomplisher, and she's on a mission to help professionals design their best lives and summon the courage to live them. Amber's professional journey began in the realm of law, as she graduated from law school in Michigan and embarked on her career as an attorney, eventually establishing herself as the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law in Las Vegas, Nevada, specializing in Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. However, as Amber's story unfolds, we discover that her path was far from conventional. Throughout her educational and professional life, she carried a belief that there would be a defining moment when everything would fall into place, a kind of "I'll be happy when" moment. But, like many of us, that moment never arrived, leading Amber to a profound realization.

How do you end toxic financial cycles? That's the topic of today's conversation. So many of my clients struggle from financial sabotage. Today's guest is NLP Master Certified Trainer, Amber Fuhriman.

Amber Furhiman's father thought she should be a lawyer. She thought it was a ridiculous idea. Then, unexpectedly, he died.Amber worked toward her law degree with renewed interest. Once she achieved both it and the financial benchmarks she set for herself, she felt empty.Connect with Amber on The Success Entrepreneur Podcast or by clicking HEREYou will learn:Living life, telling ourselves that, "If only X happened, then everything would be great," is a setup for disappointment. Finding out what void the rabid pursuit of accomplishments might fill is key to finding contentment.Living outside of our comfort zone might just be the key to keeping life interesting.Lizbeth's links Support the podcast and Lizbeth's writing for $2 or $5 a month on Patreon HEREOR Buy Lizbeth a Coffee Lizbeth's memoir Pieces of Me: Rescuing My Kidnapped Daughters is now a TV movie, #Stolen By Their Father on Lifetime, now streaming on Roku, Vudu, Hulu, and Amazon Prime. Interested in seeing if you and Lizbeth would partner well for 1:1 coaching? Sign up for one free session to see. Need a motivational speaker? Sign up HERE to talk with Lizbeth about your needs.

How do you end toxic financial cycles? That's the topic of today's conversation. So many of my clients struggle from financial sabotage. Today's guest is NLP Master Certified Trainer, Amber Fuhriman.

How do you end toxic financial cycles? That's the topic of today's conversation. So many of my clients struggle from financial sabotage. Today's guest is NLP Master Certified Trainer, Amber Fuhriman. After breaking through her own limiting beliefs and now on a mission to help others, this conversation is for the listener who is ready for change and wants to know what action to take to finally get new financial results and change their life forever!!

Who is Amber Fuhriman?I first met Amber this past spring at podcast in Orlando. She is like the connector—every time I would run into her, she would say, “Have you met this person?” She's really great at connecting people. Amber is also an attorney, and she runs the More Than Corporate podcast. She is also a success architect (I love that term), an NLP trainer and a podcaster, and she helps business owners and entrepreneurs get out of their own way, by understanding their mindset blocks, so they stop sabotaging their life. Her experience through law school, and NLP training, obstacle course racing (including a 24-hour endurance race) have given her incredible skills, perspectives, and knowledge that place her in a unique opportunity to help her clients design their lives and have the courage to live it. She's been featured on tons of podcasts in the top 100 attorneys in Las Vegas in 2019, the top 100 women in Las Vegas in 2022. Her mission is to make sure that every single person knows that they don't have to settle in their life—that if they don't have everything that they want, the only reason for that is themselves. With the right tools and resources, there's a way to accomplish the life that they deserve. “I feel like if there's anything that people need to be good at in order to become valuable in any industry, it is the ability to connect other people.”“I felt for the first time what it was like to live a life that you were proud of and happy with, and to live a life where you knew that work and life went together, not as work being a price you had to pay for life.”“You just get to decide what you want that career to look like and how it's going to fit into the life that you wanna have instead of trying to build your life around a career you hate.”“You have an opportunity to impact those around you, but you can only do it if you're willing to allow yourself to be seen, and you can only do that if you're willing to get hurt.”Find out the following and more: How Amber rebuilt her life to what it is todayWhy she hates the question, “What do you do?”How to value yourself independently from your careerWhy movement creates resultsWhy people get stuck in a joyless careerAmber's advice to RealtorsResourcesBrene Brown TED talksWebsite: Successdevelopmentsolutions.com/realestatesurvivalguideMore Than Corporate PodcastPodcast edited by Kenny Carfagno.Show notes and blog posts are created by Jennifer Harshman and RealtorEmails. John Schuchman is a licensed REALTOR® in Lancaster, PA, with Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Homesale Realty and a part of the Andrew Welk Group. The opinions shared on this show represent the opinions & values of John Schuchman and do not necessarily represent the opinions & values of Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Homesale Realty. The opinions & ideas shared in this podcast do not guarantee or promise any results of success to the listener.

Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, Certified NLP Trainer, Speaker, and Success Architect. After realizing that her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney, Amber has spent the past 5 years, pushing her own boundaries and learning about how our past experiences affect our success. Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber uses her NLP knowledge as well as her experiences with grief, professional success, and physical challenges, including a 24-hour endurance obstacle course race, to help other business owners and entrepreneurs gain clarity on what they want finally live a life and business they deserve. Listen & Subscribe on: iTunes / Stitcher / Podbean / Overcast / Spotify Contact Info Company: Success Development Solutions Website: www.successdevelopmentsolutions.com Podcast: More Than Corporate Most Influential Person Her Dad. Effect on Emotions Growing up, I was always the kid that was too emotional. I was the kid that wanted to hug family four or five, six times before I left I was the kid that said goodbye a bunch. I was the crier. I'm still the crier. I feel like my friends just carry around tissues with them because they know I'm coming. Mindfulness has helped me realize that that's not a weakness. Mindfulness has helped me realize that it's okay to feel those emotions and express them. And that too emotional isn't really a thing. But to close off is. Thoughts on Breathing I do believe that breathing is related to mindfulness. I also believe that when you are in the middle of the time you need it the most. If one person looks at you and says Just breathe, you want to punch him in the face. So for me when I have people who are struggling with anything where they need to slow their mind down, while I do tell them to breathe, I tell them to count first, because that's what made a difference for me. For me, it was math problems, I would do math problems in my head until I forgot what I needed to breathe about. And then I would do breathing exercises, because I feel like when it when you're completely overtaken with emotion, whether that be anxiety or panic or fear, whatever it is, that when you breathe, sometimes you can't turn your mind off enough to make the breathing worth it. But multitasking is a myth, we can't do it. So if you force your brain to focus on math problems, your brain can't focus on whatever it's afraid of. And then as soon as you forget what it is that you were doing math problems for, then you can breathe to recenter yourself. Suggested Resources Book: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life By Mark Manson Book: I Hope I Screw This Up: How Falling in Love with Your Fears Can Change the World By Kyle Cease App: Spotify Bullying Story My mom, and I have an amazing relationship now. And she has listened to my podcast and we have these conversations. So I'm not saying anything I wouldn't say to her. When I decided I was going to go to law school, her response to me was, I think you should pick a less ambitious goal because I don't want to comfort you when you fail. And to me, that was my mom telling me that she didn't believe in me. That was my mom telling me that I wasn't strong enough. And that was just one of many things that I have internalized and become the victim of because of my own mindset. I graduated from law school and I graduated at the top of my class passing the bar for the first time building this amazing career. And I still never felt like she supported me. And then I went through NLP. I learned that statements are never about me and always about her. And what happens is she grew up in a different generation where going out and doing something like going to law school and moving across the country on her own. She couldn't see herself as being capable of doing those things. So the statements that she was making towards me weren't coming from a place of hatred or anger or lack of support. They were coming from a place of her not knowing how to support me because my actions were something she couldn't relate to. Related Episodes How To Discover Your Career Purpose; Sean Sessel Passionate NLP Instructor Teaches How To Be Limitless; Serena Denmark Quantum Healing and NLP For Body and Mind Transformation; Beth Sutherland Special Offer Are you experiencing anxiety & stress? Peace is within your grasp. I'm Bruce Langford, a practicing coach and hypnotist helping fast-track people just like you to shed their inner bully and move forward with confidence. Book a Free Coaching Session to get you on the road to a more satisfying life, feeling grounded and focused. Send me an email at bruce@mindfulnessmode.com with ‘Coaching Session' in the subject line. We'll set up a zoom call and talk about how you can move forward to a better life.

Today's guests: Todd KuckahnTodd Kuckkahn's passion for leadership and growth earned him an independent speaker, coach, teacher,and trainer certification with The John Maxwell Team. Throughout his career, Todd has done countlesspresentations, workshops, and seminars at local, state, national and international conferences.Todd is passionate about sharing his experience and knowledge in communication, leadership, personalgrowth, corporate culture, and non-profits. Todd is also a DISC certified consultant and writes fornumerous publications, including an international publication. He has also been certified as a DEI trainerfor diversity, equity, and inclusion through Empowered Living.On this episode:Amber is joined by speaker, coach, teacher, and trainer Todd Kuckahn for a discussion on communication styles, adapting to personalities, and the power of non-verbal communication.Tweetable Quotes:"Different age groups and personalities have different communication styles. Being able to see that is a valuable talent." -Amber Fuhriman"A key to success that I've seen consistently is how you to treat people." -Todd Kuckahn"Tell people who you are before you talk about what you do." -Amber Fuhriman"55% of communication is non-verbal. Training is lacking in the corporate world when it comes to communication." -Todd KuckahnTodd Kuckahn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddkuckkahnhttps://www.facebook.com/toddkuckkahnIf you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com.Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the More Than Corporate Facebook group: http://bit.ly/2MuWn53Checkout Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0Schedule a connection call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, speaker, success architect, and podcaster. She is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law, a Law Firm she operates in Las Vegas, Nevada. Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to being her career. Support the show

Are you living your life by someone else's standards of success?  Last week's conversation with Amber Fuhriman got me thinking about whether or not I had a good definition of success for myself. It turns out, I do - but that wasn't always the case. It's time for some real talk about how I got there, and some advice on how you can get there too.Topics discussed in this episode:Redefining success applies in at least four main areas:Work or CareerHealth & WellnessPersonal GrowthSpiritual GrowthYou can define success in those areas by being honest with yourself about these three things:Knowing YourselfKnowing What You Want To DoKnowing How You Want To Do ItBecome an Intentional Optimist!All my links 30 Minute Free ConsultationLeave a rating and review!Apple: just scroll to the bottom, choose a rating and write a review.Podchaser (Android): click here  Podchaser Link and leave a rating and review!Skillshare: Spark your creativity. Get 40% Off Annual MembershipNoom: A Mindful Way to Eat Learn how to intentionally challenge your mindset in order to take control of your health.Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

A practicing defense and immigration lawyer, Amber is also a Success Architect along with being a NLP practitioner.  She works with “serial accomplishers” like her former self to help them gain clarity of what they actually want, define what their best life looks like and help them get out of their comfort zone to achieve their dreams.  Amber believes that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone physically helps challenge your mental limitations of what you can accomplish professionally.  She uses her experiences with loss, grief, academic and professional success, and physical challenges to help her clients get out of their own way and achieve their highest level of success. Topics discussed in this episode:Leadership principle:  Design your life and have the courage to live itHabits: Complete Life Wheel Planner - What does success mean?Green Flags:Stand in front of the mirror and give yourself the advice you'd give others.Listen to your intuition and ask questions.Advice:   Be honest with yourself and ask what YOU really want.Find success for yourself in every action you take.FREE Life Wheel PlannerWhere to find Amber:Website: More Than CorporateLinkedIn: Amber FuhrimaInstagram: @amberraefuhrimanFacebook Page: Amber FuhrimanPodcast:  More Than CorporateBecome an Intentional Optimist!All my links 30 Minute Free ConsultationLeave a rating and review!Apple: just scroll to the bottom, choose a rating and write a review.Podchaser (Android): you can go to this link here and leave a rating and review! https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/intentional-optimists-unconven-1406762Noom: A Mindful Way to Eat Learn how to intentionally challenge your mindset in order to take control of your health.Skillshare: Spark your creativity. Get 40% Off Annual MembershipDisclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you.Support the show

Amber Fuhriman is an Attorney, podcaster, speaker, success architect, NLP Master Coach, NLP Certified Trainer. Recovering Perfectionist and Serial Accomplisher helping professionals design their best life and have the courage to live it.Website:www.successdevelopmentsolutions.comSocial Links:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amberraefuhrimanFacebookGroup: https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporateLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/amberraefuhrimanInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amberraefuhrimanPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-corporate/id1475272089We discuss real life topics, tools and tips on how to challenge and transform your thinking with no sugar added. Hope you will go on the journey with us as we grow, fail and get back up. Life is about challenges and learning how to overcome those challenges together.https://linktr.ee/Neenaperez#inspire #straighttalknosugaradded #straighttalk #transform #positivemindset #positivethinking #thinking #positive #CT #NY #speaker #challenge #women #men #mindset #influencer #influence #powerful #life #lifetopics #talkshow #talk #host #selflove #love #women #menSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/straight-talk-no-sugar-added-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

“We stop ourselves from feeling fear because we're uncomfortable. We stop ourselves from feeling happy because we're uncomfortable… So it all comes from the willingness to get uncomfortable.” -Amber Fuhriman   When we admire other people, it may seem like their lives are better than ours. We can't relate to their daily activities, the things they own, or the positions they aspire to. But the real question is, is this what we truly desire?    What we should focus on is not just the career we want, but the life we want. We may have to work a lot in order to have material wealth, but we learn to sacrifice many things for it, including our happiness. The life we want can start with our very selves— how are we at the moment?    In this episode, Daniel sits with Success Development Solutions founder, Amber Fuhriman to discuss two opposite factors that hinder us from creating the life we want: fear and happiness. Well, “fear” can keep us from chasing our dreams headstrong, but “happiness”...? Amber and Daniel answer that question as well as inspiring and stirring reasons why perfectionism is not the way to go, why “unbelievable” is an unfriendly word, why a busy life is not a valid reason for putting off what makes you happy, and how being vulnerable helps you overcome fear and guilt, and improve your health and life as a whole.    The ultimate life we want should be rich with meaning and fulfillment. Tune in and learn how you can create that life for yourself!  Be Inspired! with Daniel:  Website Email Facebook Facebook Group Twitter Pinterest YouTube Episode Highlights: 02:55 How Perfectionism Kills Progress 07:56 What Really Kills Emotions and Humanism 14:03 Allow Yourself to Feel and Blossom 20:46 Don't Give Your Power of Choice Away 24:22 Acknowledge Your Fear  29:23 Nobody Relates to Perfect 35:23 Be Willing to Get Uncomfortable 39:01 Don't Think “Unbelievable” 42:48 The Truth in “I Don't Care” 46:07 Stop Depriving the People Waiting for You 50:49 Busy is NOT the Problem- What Is?

Recovering Perfectionist and Serial Accomplisher helping professionals design their best life and have the courage to live it. Attorney, podcaster, speaker, success architect, NLP Master Coach, NLP Certified TrainerAmber Fuhriman is an attorney, speaker, success architect, and podcaster. She is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law, a Law Firm she operates in Las Vegas, Nevada. Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to begin her career. Throughout her educational and professional career, Amber always thought there would be a moment where everything would fall into place, as she calls it, her “I'll be happy when moment.” When that moment never came, Amber started to realize her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney and chasing accomplishments to fill a void that accomplishments could never fill. Amber's road to becoming a success architect began in 2016 when she dug into personal development. Since 2016, Amber has pushed the boundaries of her self-imposed physical and mental limitations, living outside her comfort zone as much as possible and learning about how the mind works and how our limiting beliefs affect our success. In 2020, Amber became a Certified Trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and a Certified Master Practitioner in Integrated Timeline Techniques. She is also a Success Mastery Academy Certified Coach. Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber is a Success Architect! She works with “serial accomplishers” like her former self to help them gain clarity what they actually want, define what their best life looks like and helps them get out of their comfort zone to achieve their dreams. Amber believes that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone physically helps challenge your mental limitations of what you can accomplish professionally. She uses her experiences with loss, grief, academic and professional success, and physical challenges including a 24 hour endurance obstacle course race to help her clients get out of their own way and achieve their highest level of success.www.successdevelopmentsoluntions.com

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio & Amber Fuhriman dive deep into how you can make content that SELLS. Create content that talks about why them. Why now... People need to know why they should act now & the consequences if they don't. Create exclusivity. Introduce the product…Answer the basic who, what, when, where & how questions. How you can handle objections ahead of time. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio & Amber Fuhriman talk about the gateway to educate buyers during your sales funnel. It's proven that educated buyers stick around more & spend more money. Here are some ideas for content that your podcast can utilize to educate your audience on: -Educate your audience on misconceptions -Educate your audience on how to hire you. -Educate your target customers on what mistakes people are making, (like if you'd try to do the service yourself) -Educate your audience on which information is bogus. -Educate your audience on your best path forward. -Educate your audience on things they should stop doing. -Utilize FAQ's -Talk about the worst-case scenarios Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio & Amber Fuhriman dive deep into how you can create a podcast series that will attract, engage, nurture & convert more clients for your business. Your podcast can be a great marketing channel. The podcasting medium is that you can be imperfect & conversational. Get people to know you exist and have them start consuming your content during the attraction phase. Engage & nurture by sharing industry insights to demonstrate your authority & expertise. Recapping & creating highlights is a good way to get your credibility in front of people without tooting your own horn too much. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On-Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, speaker, success architect, and podcaster. She is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law, a Law Firm she operates in Las Vegas, Nevada. Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to being her career. Throughout her educational and professional career, Amber always thought there would be a moment where everything would fall into place, as she calls it, her “I'll be happy when moment.” When that moment never came, Amber started to realize her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney and chasing accomplishments to fill a void that accomplishments could never fill. Amber's road to becoming a success architect began in 2016 when she dug into personal development. Since 2016, Amber has pushed the boundaries of her self-imposed physical and mental limitations, living outside her comfort zone as much as possible and learning about how the mind works and how our limiting beliefs affect our success. In 2020, Amber became a Certified Trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and a Certified Master Practitioner in Integrated Timeline Techniques. She is also a Success Mastery Academy Certified Coach. Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber is a Success Architect! She works with “serial accomplishers” like her former self to help them gain clarity what they actually want, define what their best life looks like and helps them get out of their comfort zone to achieve their dreams. Amber believes that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone physically helps challenge your mental limitations of what you can accomplish professionally. She uses her experiences with loss, grief, academic and professional success, and physical challenges including a 24 hour endurance obstacle course race to help her clients get out of their own way and achieve their highest level of success.Find More Than Corporate on FacebookCheck out Amber on InstagramBuild a business that feels good to you by forging genuine, meaningful relationships through podcasting. Learn more here.Find out more about the Path to Podcast Success here.

In this episode, your host Amber Fuhriman has special guests Meredith Egeland & Erik Cabral to talk about gaining the clarity that will allow you to reach your goals in your personal life, podcasting life & your business life! There are some healthy ways for you to merge personal & business brands. How do you find a balance between the two? Have a plan!!! When naming your podcast, do you name it after your business brand or personal brand? This will determine the content of your podcast. How can you make your personal brand/podcast an ASSET Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Erik Cabral and Amber Fuhriman go over how you can leverage guesting on other people's shows to best support your brand, your business & your goals. Most podcast hosts overlook being a guest on other people's shows to expand their network & personal brand. How to deal with the noise & find the right shows to guest on. Guesting on other shows will improve your public speaking in a way hosting doesn't. Listen to past episodes & review how you can improve your speaking. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman talk about using podcasting to nail your dream 100 strategy. Make a list of the top 100 people you need to connect with now & utilize podcasting to scale that list & make it happen. Hosting & having guests on your show will help you connect with your dream 100 list of people & build long-lasting relationships. Utilize a solid outreach program to approach your dream 100 people & acknowledge the value you can bring to them. What are some good ways to follow up with your guests and how can you add even more value to their lives? Use the 30-60-90 day follow-up system. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman explain how you can overcome mental blocks in order to turn your shows and content into money makers for your business and personal brand. Different ways people monetize their content: -Sponsorships -Affiliate for products -Promote your own products -Incorporating your shows/content in your sales funnel You should understand that you don't need millions of listeners for your show and business to be successful. You need ENGAGEMENT. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman go over the mental blocks of starting a podcast, growing your show! Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. If you have a message that you want to convey, there will be people out there who will listen. They can't listen if you don't do it! One is better than zero… would you rather have 5 viewers that take action or 100 that don't? Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

Amber Fuhriman has been a practicing attorney since 2012. She opened her law firm in 2017. In 2016, through her own experiences, she started questioning what success meant to her. She spent the next few years learning about how the mind works, the power of our words and thoughts, and why we have the limiting beliefs and fears that we have. She became a Certified Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). She started her podcast, "More Than Corporate" to discuss different ideas of success and other mindset topics related to accomplishing goals. She founded Success Development Solutions to help people define their own idea of success, define their best life, and get out of their comfort zone to live that life!Together, between the law firm, the podcast and Success Development Solutions, she gives her clients information necessary to allow them to make the decisions best for them and take control of their future.|Amber Fuhriman|Fuhriman LawSuccess Development Solutions|JakeGallen|InstagramTwitterFacebookLinkedin|TimeStamps|0:00 - Introduction3:50 - Success Architect11:45 - Law + Coaching21:00 - Future Podcasting23:00 - Law Practice25:00 - Immigration29:00 - Immigration in Nevada37:30 - Criminal Defense 40:00 - Skills Defense 53:25 - Networking01:01:20 - What does Las Vegas mean to you?|LISTEN and SUBSCRIBE to the platform of your choice|-Apple Podcasts-Spotify-Google Podcasts-Amazon Podcasts-Youtube (VIDEO RECORDING)

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman deep dive into different ways you can promote your podcast. 1. When your show goes live, share an announcement post 2. Create a message that caters to pleasure & move away from pain 3. Use your data & statistics in your promotions 4. Promotional posts that focus on a problem 5. Promotional posts that focus on a solution 6. Understand your audience 7. Encouraging engagement with your posts 8. Tagging your guests & quotes from episodes Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Check out Amber Fuhriman's Podcast at https://morethancorporate.com/ Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman deep dive into how you can maintain your relationships with guests you have on your podcast. The conversation of promotion starts before the interview happens. The whole podcasting experience is about building relationships, and how you and your guest can mutually benefit each other There are workflows you can set up to automate the process of following up with guests & maintaining the relationship like taking advantage of Calendly's task reminding system. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Check out Amber Fuhriman's Podcast at https://morethancorporate.com/ Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman explain how you can maximize your content potential with the right website set up! Learn the common mistakes you can run into that hold you back from being the industry thought leader you deserve to be. Putting effort into making a good website will show your viewers and potential business clients that you're SEROUS! Embedding all of your media into one home base will help with search engine optimization. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Check out Amber Fuhriman's Podcast at https://morethancorporate.com/ Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman explain how you can get millions of online interactions without paying for advertising. Leveraging assets such as organic content marketing can help grab attention over the course of years for an hour or two of work. The content you create should reflect the customer journey & how they can find you through organic google searches. Know who your customer is & what they are searching for. Optimize your content around those keywords. Modern titles should be clear and clever to get more interactions. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Check out Amber Fuhriman's Podcast at https://morethancorporate.com/ Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman dive into the differences between boosting your post & running legitimate ad campaigns on social media. 3 strategies for social media marketing List building & sending out emails Master your customer's journey Promote your episodes! Use “page transparency” to view other Facebook pages' ad campaigns to get an idea of what other companies are doing, but keep in mind of YOUR target audience for your ads. Different strategies for budgeting ad campaigns on social media. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On-Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Check out Amber Fuhriman's Podcast at https://morethancorporate.com/ Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Erik Cabral and Amber Fuhriman explain the importance of valuing relationship building over transactional intent with your podcast! Do you have a podcast to specifically sell a product or service? Making a podcast just to sell a product or service to your guests is not the way to go. Building relationships naturally & adding value to people's lives through expressing your message is the best way to expand your personal brand & image. Valuing a transaction over a relationship is not going to get you far. Have a follow-up system with your guests to keep the relationship going. Get all of the episodes of The On-Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Check out Amber Fuhriman's Podcast at https://morethancorporate.com/ Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman get organized & explain why it's so important with your podcast. Being organized helps with having clarity & makes your podcast smoother. Creating a google document that outlines the episode's structure & content will make each episode more consistent. Naming your documents & files will ensure recalling your files will be easier down the line. Detailed show notes of what your guest said in each episode help with repurposing content. All of your content & files should live in one space. Set up automatic follow-ups with your guests to help build a relationship after the show. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

Amber Fuhriman, defense attorney and host of More Than Corporate podcast, joins Julie, Mark, and Corey to talk about overcoming obstacles and neurolinguistics. Amber discusses how graduate school doesn't prepare you for the real world, and why money doesn't solve everything. Amber tells a bit about her backstory before the group talks more about overcoming obstacles and goal setting. They end the show with Amber diving in neurolinguistics and how eye patterns can help you determine what people are saying vs what they really mean. Connect with Amber on Instagram (@amberraefuhriman) and listen to her podcast (https://morethancorporate.com/) Special thanks to Hot 702.5 (https://hot7025fm.com/) for making this podcast series possible. Follow our podcast on Instagram (@bizquik.podcast), and if you want to learn more about SB PACE, head on over to our website SBPACE.com. You can also find us on the following social media platforms: Facebook (SB PACE) Instagram (@sb.pace) LinkedIn (@sb-pace) Twitter (@sb_pace) YouTube (SB PACE) You can buy our book, Seriously? Now What?! A Small Business Guide to Disaster Preparedness, on Amazon. BizQuik is a Traxler-Harris production. #bizquiktips #podcast #smallbusiness #smallbiz #smallbiztips #smallbuisnesssupport #smallbusinesstips #entrepreneur #podmatch #podcaster #podcastlife #creators #applepodcasts #spotify #newpodcast #iheartradio #podcasthost #entertainment #startupbusiness #podcasting #content #interviews #podcastshow #media #podcastlife #podcastinglife #newpodcast #businesslaunch #businessstrategy #businessgrowth #businesslife

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman give tips on what to do in your first five podcast episodes! “If you ever feel overloaded, reset your self surge protector & take the time to recharge” Putting together a mini-series can help reduce the chances of “pod fade”. Each episode should be a “pillar topic” that tees up what the podcast is all about. These minisodes can make a great season transition Make a list of your best episodes of a specific topic & repurpose it for marketing Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman dive into the topic of being a good host Getting the right balance between highlighting your guest and conveying your message is important, your goal is to drive the conversation and let your guest shine! Have backup questions and gear them towards what your guest is passionate about. More podcasts are doing solo “reflection” episodes where they summarize what was talked about in past episodes. Quick Tips: Screenshot Tips Recap episodes Be Conversational The power of intention Links: Get all of the episodes of The On-Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio and Amber Fuhriman go into email marketing strategies & the beneficial relationship it can have with your podcast. There are two types of people: I need to promote business but don't know how to create content I have too much content but don't know how to promote it. Marketing can make really smart people do really dumb things. Emails are a two-way street. Implementing a call to action can get them to reply. Build your email list through your podcast. Links: Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to create your own podcast or have us produce it? https://OnAirBrands.com Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio & Amber Fuhriman go over Todd's step-by-step strategy on launching your first or next podcast faster with his season 0 strategy. Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to get on more podcasts as a guest? Check out https://PodMAX.co Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio & Amber Fuhriman talk about what success means to you and how to know you're achieving it through measuring your success. Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to get on more podcasts as a guest? Check out https://PodMAX.co Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio & Amber Fuhriman dive deep into expanding your brand and podcast by building an audience. Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to get on more podcasts as a guest? Check out https://PodMAX.co Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

In this episode, your hosts Todd Giannattasio & Amber Fuhriman talk about how you can build a brand that gets people excited to give you money. Get all of the episodes of The On Air Brands Show at https://onairbrands.com/show Want to get on more podcasts as a guest? Check out https://PodMAX.co Want some free resources to help build your engaged audience? Check out https://thegrowthsuite.com/free --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

Another PodMAX Interview!  Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, speaker, success architect, and podcaster.  She is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law, a Law Firm she operates in Las Vegas, Nevada.  Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law.  She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to being her career.  Throughout her educational and professional career, Amber always thought there would be a moment where everything would fall into place, as she calls it, her “I'll be happy when moment.”  When that moment never came, Amber started to realize her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney and chasing accomplishments to fill a void that accomplishments could never fill.  Amber's road to becoming a success architect began in 2016 when she dug into personal development.  Since 2016, Amber has pushed the boundaries of her self-imposed physical and mental limitations, living outside her comfort zone as much as possible and learning about how the mind works and how our limiting beliefs affect our success.  In 2020, Amber became a Certified Trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and a Certified Master Practitioner in Integrated Timeline Techniques.  She is also a Success Mastery Academy Certified Coach.  Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber is a Success Architect!  She works with “serial accomplishers” like her former self to help them gain clarity what they actually want, define what their best life looks like and helps them get out of their comfort zone to achieve their dreams. Amber believes that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone physically helps challenge your mental limitations of what you can accomplish professionally.  She uses her experiences with loss, grief, academic and professional success, and physical challenges including a 24 hour endurance obstacle course race to help her clients get out of their own way and achieve their highest level of success.  Amber joins Mitch to share her story and how she has become the motivational person who helps people seek out their passion and their dreams to live the life they want and deserve.  You can also watch a video of their discussion by visiting our YouTube Channel. For more general information about the podcast, send an email to info@beinhakerlaw.com To follow Mitch and the podcast, go to linktr.ee/beinhakerlaw. You can subscribe and listen to episodes on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music and most other directories. Please review us whenever possible and thanks for your continued support! Sponsorships and paid guest appearances are available. Connect with us by email or on social media. The Accidental Entrepreneur is brought to you by Beinhaker Law, a boutique business & estates legal practice in Clark, NJ. To learn about shared outside general counsel services and how to better protect your business, visit https://beinhakerlaw.com/fractional-gen-counsel/ Please support our affiliate sponsors (https://beinhakerlaw.com/podcast-affiliates/). Also be sure to visit our new podcast store (https://beinhakerlaw.com/podcast-store/) to purchase affiliate services, guest merchandise and even podcast merchandise.  Yes, we have merch! Digital Accelerant - the digital business card that generates leads. Get a custom branded digital card with information and links to all your social media, email and other information. Text LAW to 21000 to connect with us and request more details. Fetch Internet. Fetch Pro is an app that creates a secure and high-speed mobile internet connection for laptops and desktop computers. Printify - the on-demand print shop to create your own merchandise without cost or the need to house inventory. The Accidental Entrepreneur is a trademark of Mitchell C. Beinhaker. Copyright 2018-2021. All rights reserved.

What does success mean to you? Being a recovering perfectionist and a serial accomplisher, Amber Fuhriman defines true success as being able to make an impact, create experiences and provide transformation for others, while staying true to living life on your terms. It's about intentionally creating it every day. Amber is an attorney, a success strategist, a speaker, podcast host, a mindset motivator, and a master practitioner of neuro-linguistic programming or NLP. Today, she talks about the value of having real conversations, the importance of being selfish before you can be selfless, and finally, the power of intentionally defining your success each day. Here are some power takeaways from today's conversation: Valuing conversations and building relationships What she defines as her weakness now Being selfish before you can be selfless What happens when you're always saying yes to things Why she's a recovering perfectionist and serial accomplisher What success means to Amber and intentionally creating it each day Episode Highlights: Valuing Conversations and Building Relationships There is no greater sign of trust than somebody can give you their audience. If you're doing podcast interviews, somebody is sharing their space with you and they're sharing their audience with you. They're trusting you with the know, like, and trust factor that they've built up with their audience through time. And if you don't see that as a huge sign of the faith they have in you, then you absolutely should. Because any podcast host who values their audience is the gatekeeper between the information that their audience gets. Putting Yourself First You have to be selfish before you can be selfless. You have to be selfish with your time and your resources, before you can choose who to give that time and resource to. Because if you're not selfish, and you just say yes to everything around you, then you don't have anything to give to the people who need it and you don't have anything to give to yourself. When you say yes to something, you are saying no to an infinite amount of other things. So we go through our life saying we don't want to say no. But by saying yes, we're saying no to all of these other opportunities. What True Success Really Means The definition of success for people changes throughout their lives. What was a success to you previously doesn't have to be successful to you tomorrow. Yet, we hold on to that. And we don't give ourselves permission to change because we worked so hard to get somewhere. And so then we just keep ramming our head against this concrete wall thinking it's supposed to make us happy. And it doesn't end up well. Success is broken down into micro definitions. If you can define success for yourself every single day, then that big definition of success is always going to fall in alignment with where you're at no matter what your job is, what your relationship status is, or where you live. If every single day is a success, and you're intentionally defining that every single day, then the rest falls into place. Resources Mentioned: https://www.roryvaden.com/procrastinate-on-purpose --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/erikecabral/support

“Life doesn't get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” ― Steve Maraboli,    2021 is all about RESILIENCE! And there is no better person to come on the T&T mic to share her epic journey of consistent resilience than Amber Fuhrman! Amber is Attorney, practicing Criminal Defense and Immigration Law, as well as a sought-out speaker, success coach, and fellow podcaster, hosting her show,  More Than Corporate. Amber shares her journey of breaking down and breaking through and we jump right into the deep with heavy, but relevant conversation around immigration and the law. Ambers is no stranger to approaching difficult situations that often times don't have a straight forward solution. Maintaining your cool and keeping a balanced perspective is absolutely a skill set. If you are in a space where you are seeking answers or wondering how you're going to approach a difficult situation, this is the cast for you! Amber started from a place of avoidance because of loss and then found her way through purpose and inspiration. We can all be reminded again and again that the one thing we do have control of is our reaction. Get inspired to level up with Ambers good words. We need the varsity humans on the front lines come 2022… the training starts now. Here's to personal responsibly in effort to inspire collective positive (worldly) growth, cheers. Highlights: Breakdown and breakthrough. The law, business, and the world. Nurture vs. Nature. Women supporting women. Seeing things from all perspectives. Unpacking the details. Open minds, open hearts. Progression. Being proud to be an American. The news vs. reality. Do your research. Understand that you might not ever understand. Family. Self-care. Balance. Amber Fuhriman: amber@amberfuhriman.com www.morethancorporate.com Amber Fuhriman is an attorney, speaker, success architect, and podcaster. She is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law, a Law Firm she operates in Las Vegas, Nevada. Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to being her career. Throughout her educational and professional career, Amber always thought there would be a moment where everything would fall into place, as she calls it, her “I'll be happy when moment.” When that moment never came, Amber started to realize her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney and chasing accomplishments to fill a void that accomplishments could never fill. Amber's road to becoming a success architect began in 2016 when she dug into personal development. Since 2016, Amber has pushed the boundaries of her self-imposed physical and mental limitations, living outside her comfort zone as much as possible and learning about how the mind works and how our limiting beliefs affect our success. In 2020, Amber became a Certified Trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and a Certified Master Practitioner in Integrated Timeline Techniques. She is also a Success Mastery Academy Certified Coach. Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber is a Success Architect! She works with “serial accomplishers” like her former self to help them gain clarity what they actually want, define what their best life looks like and helps them get out of their comfort zone to achieve their dreams. Amber believes that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone physically helps challenge your mental limitations of what you can accomplish professionally. She uses her experiences with loss, grief, academic and professional success, and physical challenges including a 24 hour endurance obstacle course race to help her clients get out of their own way and achieve their highest level of success. Connect with T&T: IG: @TurmericTequila Facebook: @TurmericAndTequila Website: www.TurmericAndTequila.com   Host: Kristen Olson IG: @Madonnashero Tik Tok: @Madonnashero Email: Info@KOAlliance.com Website: www.KOAlliance.com  

Amber is an attorney, podcast host, speaker, Certified Trainer in Neurolinguistic Programming, NLP Master Coach and Success Architect.As a recovering perfectionist and former "serial accomplisher", Amber knows what it feels like to chase success and fulfillment, thinking it's just behind the next accomplishment. Time after time, she said the words "I'll be happy when..." and just kept pushing forward without any real direction. In 2016, she was asked a question that would drastically change her life.... "What does success mean to you?" She has spent the last 5 years answering that question and helping others do the same.As a successful architect, she helps her clients realize that you don't find success and fulfillment, you create it by intentionally designing the life you want and being courageous enough to execute that plan so they can live the life they've always wanted.Connect with Amber!Success Center Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporateLinkedIn -https://www.linkedin.com/in/amberraefuhriman/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/amberraefuhrimanConnect with ME! Also, I'd love it if you connected with me on LinkedIn or Instagram. Or shoot me an email at youshould@connectwithpablo.com with the "Heard CEC's Charod" in subject. This that's a genius email address?  Me too, but I didn't come up with it.  It was the idea of my good friend, and super talented web designer, Nathan Ruff. If you want your website redone, updated, and managed with unlimited updates for just $250/month (CRAZY GOOD DEAL RIGHT??), go to Manage My Website and hookup with one of the smartest, most talented guys I've ever met- THE Nathan Ruff.Support the show (https://connectwithpablo.com)

On this solo episode, Amber is talking about putting the work in to good relationships and how essential they are to success.Tweetable Quotes"Your success is anchored in your ability to nurture relationships." -Amber Fuhriman"When you're reaching out to a new contact, your intention should always be to create value." -Amber Fuhriman"It's important to remember in relationships, you control your intention not their response." -Amber Fuhriman"Never allow one person's opinion to change your entire strategy." -Amber FuhrimanIf you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com.Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the More Than Corporate Facebook group: http://bit.ly/2MuWn53Please check out our NEW YOUTUBE CHANNEL here: Amber Fuhriman on YouTube See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On this solo episode, Amber shares deeply personal insight on relationships, what inner work it takes to have them, and how taking responsibility for your life will always be the first step to improving your relationships.Tweetable Quotes"The moment I took responsibility for my own happiness, the relationships with everyone around started to change." -Amber Fuhriman"If you are hiding who you are, you're not doing a service to that relationship." -Amber FuhrimanIf you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com.Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the More Than Corporate Facebook group: http://bit.ly/2MuWn53Please check out our NEW YOUTUBE CHANNEL here: Amber Fuhriman on YouTube See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today's Guest: Ryan Allen BellWhen Ryan was 7 years old he got his first computer, "I remember seeing an ad on the internet that said, “Learn How To Become An Entrepreneur.” That planted a seed in me that one day I would eventually be an entrepreneur." Today, Ryan is in the 7th year of his home based business. "When I started earning more income part time from home than working full time at my job I decided to quit my job, and now I have been working from home full time for over 4 years." Ryan's business has expanded to over 10 countries all over the world, he serves as a career coach to several 6-figure earners, and has helped hundreds of people be able to quit their jobs to build a full time home based business.On this episode:Amber is joined by podcast host & entrepreneur Ryan Allen Bell for a conversation on team building, networking, and what role advice plays in success."Tweetable Quotes ""Freedom is no free. You have to be willing to pay the price."" -Amber Fuhriman""Success is not quick."" -Ryan Allen Bell""There's a stigma out there about network marketing, but some of the best products available are in that space.""-Amber Fuhriman""99% of the time, I only take advice from the people who have the results that I want."" -Ryan Allen Bell"Ryan Allen Bell:https://www.ryanallenbell.comConnect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the More Than Corporate Facebook group: http://bit.ly/2MuWn53 See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On this solo episode, Amber is talking about the stigma attached to accepting compliments while remaining humble. Tweetable Quotes"Our brain believes what we tell it. If you reject positivity, it will resonate." -Amber Fuhriman"Many of us were raised to avoid being the center of attention, this made an imprint on many of us and caused this indirect response to positive feedback." -Amber FuhrimanIf you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com.Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the More Than Corporate Facebook group: http://bit.ly/2MuWn53Please check out our NEW YOUTUBE CHANNEL here: Amber Fuhriman on YouTube See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On this solo episode, Amber discusses selfless acts and what it takes to be in a position to be able to be selfless. Tweetable Quotes:"Becoming selfish with your time, allows you make decisions that are in your best interest, and then puts you in a position to be that friend who can clear their calendar for something you feel is important." -Amber Fuhriman"Spend your resources on things that are in alignment with who you are." -Amber Fuhriman"Money is an exchange of energy. It will come and it will go." -Amber Fuhriman"You won't be able to be selfless until you realize your value." -Amber FuhrimanIf you are interested in connecting with Amber, send an email to amber@amberfuhriman.com.Connect with other incredible people looking to break out of the corporate mindset by joining the More Than Corporate Facebook group: http://bit.ly/2MuWn53Please check out our NEW YOUTUBE CHANNEL here: Amber Fuhriman on YouTube See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What if you achieved a six figure income....and you were miserable? That's exactly what my guest, Amber Fuhriman, went through during her law career. She thought money would solve all her problems and passing the Bar Exam would bring success to her life. That was not the end of the road for her, it was the beginning. It's when she was forced to confront that she was chasing money to run from her demons and now she had to turn around and face them. This was a really fun wide ranging discussion that included business, weight loss and evaluating our mindset around money. You can design your life with Amber by joining her upcoming program at MoreThanCorporate.com

Amber Fuhriman joins the show! Owner of Fuhriman Law, Creator of More Than Corporate Podcast. my goal is to share my story with others in hope that it will inspire people to chase their own idea of success and live the life of their dreams. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shutupandgrind/support

Are you sleepwalking through your business and ready to wake up, take control, and make things happen? Listen to this episode and learn how to design your life and your business so you’re set up for success. Meet our new co-host Amber Fuhriman on today's episode as we go over: - How to choose yourself and break out of the mold of traditional "success" to achieve true fulfillment - The secret language patterns you can use to format your shows for greater impact - Why vulnerability and authenticity are the key to unlocking your next level of success Plus a ton more in this jam-packed episode! Get the show notes and free resources at https://onairbands.com/show --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/onairbrands/message

Amber is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law, a law firm she operates in Las Vegas, Nevada. Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. She graduated from Law School in Michigan and immediately moved to Vegas to begin her career. In 2013, she passed the Nevada Bar Exam and dove head first into the legal world, representing clients in immigration and criminal courts, including jury trials and appellate arguments in front of the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals.  Throughout her educational and professional career, Amber always thought there would be a moment where everything would fall into place, as she calls it, her "I'll be happy when moment." When the moment never came, Amber started to realize her entire identity had been tied up in being an attorney and chasing accomplishments to fill a void that accomplishments could never fill.  Amber's road to becoming a coach began in 2016 when she dug into personal development. Since 2016, Amber has pushed the boundaries of her self-imposed physical and mental limitations, living outside her comfort zone as much as possible and learning about how the mind works and how our limiting beliefs affect our success. In 2019, Amber became a Certified Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and a Certified Practitioner in Timeline Therapy. She is also a Success Mastery Academy Certified Coach. Now, in addition to practicing law, Amber is a Success Architect! She works with "serial accomplishers" like her former self to help them gain clarity what they actually want, define what their best life looks like and helps them get out of their comfort zone to achieve their dreams.   Amber believes that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone physically helps challenge your mental limitations of what you can accomplish professionally. She uses her experiences with loss, grief, academic and professional success, and physical challenges including a 24 hour endurance obstacle course race to help her clients get out of their own way and achieve their highest level of success.  facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate/ @amberraefuhriman https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-corporate/id1475272089 Follow us on Instagram: @TheMorningSpotlight  Email us at: themorningspotlight@gmail.com  www.themorningspotlight.com  For title insurance inquiries contact Mike at michael.ham@ctt.com  Join the Fat Brother Soap Family! Use code "MIKEH10" at fatbrothersoap.com

On this episode, Ryan sits down with Amber Fuhriman Lawyer & Host Of The More Than Corporate Podcast where they dive deep into discovering what is success. On This Episode: Amber shares how she found herself earning 6-figures as a lawyer feeling like a failure. Ryan and Amber discuss how success must be defined for each of us. Amber shares how she reinvented herself. Hear how Amber launched her own podcast and coaching business. Key Takeaways: Figure out what success is for you. You can do more than what you're doing right now. Seek coaching when necessary. Tweetable Quotes: “Rock bottom made me who I am today.” “You can do whatever you want.” "Things are never as bad as we think they are.” Connect with Amber Fuhriman: Email: amber@amberfuhriman.com Facebook Community: Success Center To find out more information about the Home Based Business Podcast and host, Ryan Allen Bell, visit https://my.captivate.fm/ryanallenbell.com (ryanallenbell.com).

Today we've got the Founder of Success Development Solutions, Amber Fuhriman, The Success Architect. Amber is the Owner and Attorney at Fuhriman Law, a Law Form she operates in Las Vegas, Nevada. Amber practices Criminal Defense and Immigration Law. Amber graduated from Law School in Michigan and in 2013 passed the Nevada Bar Exam and dove head first into the legal world, representing clients in immigration and criminal courts, including Jury Trials and Appellate arguments in front of the 9th Circuit Court of Appeals. In this episode, we talk about how Masterminds can allow you to have the hard conversations outside of your circle to make real change. [00:01 – 02:06] Opening Segment I introduce our guest, Amber Fuhriman I briefly talk about the great values that await you in this episode Connect with Amber. See links below [02:07 – 09:52] Amber's learning journey Amber talks about how her learning changed from his early years vs today How each individual filters information Amber talks about her mentors and partners The importance of focus in absorbing content and implementing it in your own life [09:53 – 16:07] Masterminds and Self-education How Masterminds helped Amber in resetting herself and get unstuck Finding people that are invested in your success but not in your trauma Having those hard conversations The Importance of having cheerleaders, Crabs, and Challengers to achieve success Amber's thoughts on the impact of COVID on Self-education [16:08 – 21:20] Amber's Reality What people can expect when they enter Amber's reality The Define Your Life Mastermind Amber talks about the limiting belief [21:21 – 28:15] Creating Success Amber's thoughts on getting over the hump and fear of being successful Amber's definition of Success The willingness to do whatever it takes to be successful Amber shares her goals and plans with The Define Your Life Mastermind [28:16 – 31:18] Closing Segment Tips, tricks, and actionable items from Amber Start taking 100 Percent responsibility for everything in your life Final Thoughts Tweetable Quotes: "There is no better experience than just getting on and just talking to somebody who's been through it. You can research all day long, but you can't really learn it until you live it.” - Amber Fuhriman “We could all sit and watch the same thing, and we would all come out with different experiences.” - Amber Fuhriman “Reading isn't where learning happens, it's that implementation afterward.” - Amber Fuhriman “If you're part of the problem, you can't be part of the solution. Because you can't see the whole picture in it. - Amber Fuhriman “The moment you start changing the way you react to things, great things start happening to you, and doors start opening up. Because you have a different energy about you, an energy as someone who wants to make a difference, as somebody who wants to succeed, as somebody who has control over their life and their future.” - Amber Fuhriman Resources Mentioned: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-corporate/id1475272089 (More Than Corporate Podcast) https://www.facebook.com/groups/949897822110402/ (Define Your Life Mastermind) To learn more, connect with Amber on https://www.instagram.com/amberraefuhriman/ (Instagram) and https://www.facebook.com/AmberRaeFuhriman/?ref=py_c (Facebook). Visit https://fuhrimanlaw.com/ (https://fuhrimanlaw.com/) and https://morethancorporate.com/ (https://morethancorporate.com/). Guest Email: amber@vegasnvlaw.com  Be one of the first adopters of The Success Finder when it releases! Email me at brandon@thesuccessfinder.com You can connect with me, Brandon Straza, onhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/brandonstraza/ ( LinkedIn),https://www.instagram.com/brandonstraza/ ( Instagram), or send me an email athttps://my.captivate.fm/brandon@thesuccessfinder.com ( brandon@thesuccessfinder.com). I'd love to get in touch and talk more about personal development and how you can live past

Check out our wonderful discussion with immigration defense attorney and neuro-linguistic programmer Amber Fuhriman! We learn about what a neuro-linguistic programmer actually is and get to hear Amber's personal story and how counseling has impacted her life! She needs a counselor and so do you!!

Amber Fuhriman specializes in uncovering the meaning of success, finding fulfillment, and living your best life. Criminal Defense and Immigration Law attorney, Founder of Fuhriman Law, Founder of Success Development Solutions, certified coach and NLP practitioner, Amber also draws on her personal grief, loss, academic, professional, and athletic achievements to help her clients find and pursue their personal fulfillment. On today's episode, Amber shares hard-earned lessons from getting rid of your “rear-view mirror” to making improvements and all the mess that personal and business growth entail. She uncovers a powerful secret about how we see the world and how you can harness it -despite the discomfort- to find and create growth in areas of yourself and your business that would otherwise be inaccessible. Amber also reveals one painful misconception that creates huge problems for both novice and seasoned entrepreneurs and business leaders alike, plus how to shift the balance in your favor to continue growing yourself and your business.  This episode is brought to you by Adaptability Coaching. Want to reduce exhaustion, overwhelm, stress, and increase passion, engagement, and growth in yourself and your company? Learn to turn tough circumstances, reactions, and exhaustion into energy, excitement, and excellence for you and your company. Learn to become fast, flexible, and formidable. Learn more at www.DrYishai.com/Coaching  Guest Links: Instagram and Facebook @amberraefuhriman More than Corporate FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amber-fuhriman-b2797872Find Your Why TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IPYeCltXpxw Host Links:The Business Couch with Dr. Yishai Website: https://thebusinesscouchwithdryishai.buzzsprout.com/Connect with Dr. Yishai: https://www.DrYishai.com/contact Dr. Yishai's email: Yishai@DrYishai.comDr. Yishai's Instagram: @DrYishai or https://www.instagram.com/dryishai/To request being on TSBS, please book a call with Dr. Yishai at: https://calendly.com/dryishai/adapt Disclaimer: The information contained in this publication is for general informational purposes only and shall not be relied on or construed as coaching advice. © 2020 Yishai B LLC. All rights reserved.  

Amber Fuhriman specializes in uncovering the meaning of success, finding fulfillment, and living your best life. Criminal Defense and Immigration Law attorney, Founder of Fuhriman Law, Founder of Success Development Solutions, certified coach and NLP practitioner, Amber also draws on her personal grief, loss, academic, professional, and athletic achievements to help her clients find and pursue their personal fulfillment. In today's episode, Amber shares her journey from playing small and hiding from herself to creating her own definition for success, learning how limitless she can be, and pushing through the hard times and fear. Amber also reveals how we all lie to ourselves sometimes and the cost of not addressing it head-on, plus tangible takeaways to deal with tough truths.  If you've ever ignored or boxed up your own feelings, today's episode will show you the hidden cost to yourself and your business, plus how to understand why your brain acts that way and what you can do to deal with it better.  This episode is brought to you by Adaptability Coaching. Want to reduce exhaustion, overwhelm, stress, and increase passion, engagement, and growth in yourself and your company? Learn to turn tough circumstances, reactions, and exhaustion into energy, excitement, and excellence for you and your company. Learn to become fast, flexible, and formidable. Learn more at www.DrYishai.com/Coaching  Guest Links:Instagram and Facebook @amberraefuhriman More than Corporate FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporate/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amber-fuhriman-b2797872 Host Links:Podcast Website: https://thebusinesscouchwithdryishai.buzzsprout.com/Connect with Dr. Yishai: https://www.DrYishai.com/contact Dr. Yishai's email: Yishai@DrYishai.comDr. Yishai's Instagram: @DrYishai or https://www.instagram.com/dryishai/To request being on TSBS, please book a call with Dr. Yishai at: https://calendly.com/dryishai/adapt Disclaimer: The information contained in this publication is for general informational purposes only and shall not be relied on or construed as coaching advice. © 2020 Yishai B LLC. All rights reserved. 

This episode was recorded at an exclusive event called PodMAX / Propelify where founders had an opportunity to share their stories and knowledge.  Special guest host Amber Fuhriman of Success Development Solutions leads the conversation down a path of insights, solutions, and collaboration.  Join the us for our next event at www.podmax.co And grab your virtual seat for the next Propelify Innovation Festival on October 5-9 at http://www.propelify.com (www.propelify.com) Michael Galkin Michael Galkin, Co-founder of VoiceNEXT, is a serial entrepreneur. Having started his first company in his freshman dorm room to taking another public, Mr. Galkin has a vision and turns that vision to reality. Mr. Galkin has over 35 years experience in the telecommunications industry. He was involved in the wireless industry from its inception in 1986. He is presently a leader in the VoIP industry with 15 years experience. VoiceNEXT was a pioneer creating a “Business Class” Cloud phone service for businesses. Using VoiceNEXT's Cloud PBX, companies can use the power of the internet to empower their voice communications. Mr. Galkin was recognized as a finalist in the Ernst and Young Entrepreneur of the Year Award as well as receiving an Inc. 500 Award(#126).         Mr. Galkin has been with VoiceNEXT since it's inception in 2003. The Company provides state of the art Telecom services to business' using the power of the internet. VoiceNEXT powers close to 1000 businesses; providing them with cloud based communications services. As a leader in the Industry VoiceNEXT was one of the first companies to add SMS to business contact centers. VoiceNEXT strives to continue to deliver cutting edge communications services to its clients. The Company presently powers Call and Contact centers for several Church and Dwight brands: Trojan, Simply Saline and Act Fluoride; as well The Tribeca Film Festival and others. Let VoiceNEXT show you a better way Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://megaphone.fm/adchoices (megaphone.fm/adchoices)

This episode was recorded at an exclusive event called PodMAX / Propelify where founders had an opportunity to share their stories and knowledge.  Special guest host Amber Fuhriman of Success Development Solutions  leads the conversation down a path of insights, solutions, and collaboration.  Join the us for our next event at www.podmax.co And grab your virtual seat for the next Propelify Innovation Festival on October 5-9 at http://www.propelify.com (www.propelify.com) This episode was recorded at an exclusive event called PodMAX / Propelify where founders had an opportunity to share their stories and knowledge.  Special guest host of the leads the conversation down a path of insights, solutions, and collaboration.  Join the us for our next event at www.podmax.co And grab your virtual seat for the next Propelify Innovation Festival on October 5-9 at http://www.propelify.com (www.propelify.com) RAMA K. RAO Rama is an entrepreneur who is passionate about developing solutions to accelerate clinical trials/improve healthcare He is currently the CEO/Founder of an innovative Clinical Trials Management and Finance company in NJ, USA and has been a speaker at many leading blockchain/Clinical Trials conferences in the world.  He also is an Adjunct Professor of Finance at Fairleigh Dickinson Univ. NJ, where he initiated the first course on Blockchains for MBAs in 2019. Prior to being an entrepreneur, he was the CFO for Novartis Pharma Canada and later Russia, where, as a member of the Russian executive team he participated in setting the strategic and operational direction of the Pharma organization in Russia.  He also served for a brief period as an interim CEO in Russia. Rama's roles over 27 years at Novartis and Eli Lilly, have included being the Global Development Finance Head for Oncology Global Development, and Lead Faculty for Novartis's R&D Finance College - that trained over 150 associates in R&D Finance.  He also served as the CFO for Novartis Canada. He has served as a regional finance head for the Novartis Oncology InterContinental Region (seventy-four countries) at its inception. Furthermore, he served as a Financial Advisor in Lilly's M&A group at their Corporate Finance and Investment Banking Unit, and, helped to set up Lilly's operations in Africa and India. He is a member of the CFA Institute, holds an MBA from INSEAD, and Indian Institute of Management Calcutta, a B.Tech. from Indian Institute of Technology, Delhi, is bilingual in English & French, and has worked in seven countries Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://megaphone.fm/adchoices (megaphone.fm/adchoices)

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Amber Fuhriman is an Attorney, podcaster, speaker, success architect, NLP Master Coach, NLP Certified Trainer. Recovering Perfectionist and Serial Accomplisher helping professionals design their best life and have the courage to live it.Website:www.successdevelopmentsolutions.comSocial Links:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amberraefuhrimanFacebookGroup: https://www.facebook.com/groups/morethancorporateLinkedin: www.linkedin.com/in/amberraefuhrimanInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amberraefuhrimanPodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/more-than-corporate/id1475272089We discuss real life topics, tools and tips on how to challenge and transform your thinking with no sugar added. Hope you will go on the journey with us as we grow, fail and get back up. Life is about challenges and learning how to overcome those challenges together.https://linktr.ee/Neenaperez#inspire #straighttalknosugaradded #straighttalk #transform #positivemindset #positivethinking #thinking #positive #CT #NY #speaker #challenge #women #men #mindset #influencer #influence #powerful #life #lifetopics #talkshow #talk #host #selflove #love #women #menSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/straight-talk-no-sugar-added-podcast/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy