Podcasts about reality based leadership

Alex Dorr speaks to audiences and organizations all over about ditching the drama and getting more productivity and engagement from employees and more overall value for companies. His session at Digital CPA in Denver in December 2024 focused on many of those same principles and was tailored to modern accounting firms. On the Journal of Accountancy podcast, Dorr, vice president at Reality-Based Leadership, explained more about how readiness for change can lead to a better work reality for employees and managers alike. What you'll learn from this episode: ·         Dorr's reflection on whether he was a “high-drama” college basketball player. ·         Why the examination of an employee's or team's value should include an assessment of “readiness for what's next.” ·         The “juicy” question Dorr answered about speaking to accounting groups. ·         The importance of validating someone's experience in the workplace before addressing ways to make it better.

Alex Dorr is the Vice-President of Reality Based Leadership. 

This week's episode is all about a common pattern that happens when people are really excited about Reality-Based Leadership, or they just learned some of our new techniques after a session. They accidentally begin weaponizing Reality-Based Leadership, and the ideas. We get it, you're excited about some new approaches and really looking forward to trying to shift a place your team has been stuck, or an individual has been stuck for a long time. What often happens, is people grab the harshest part of the message and use it on the person that's running away from them the fastest, and then the content doesn't work. This is one example of many that are talked about in this week's podcast of where the loving part of Reality-Based Leadership gets weaponized and used for evil. So today's episode, Cy and Alex discuss some of the ways that great techniques that can work most of the time, get used in a way that's harsh and actually backfires for people that are excited about Reality-Based Leadership. This can affect even the most seasoned practitioners of our content and tools, so this is a great reminder. In fact every two years just like what sparked this episode, there's usually an example that comes through that someone grabbed a deeper part of the philosophy and used that first in their very next meeting after a session, and we hear reports that it backfired, then the groups a little bit turned off from RBL. This podcast is designed to help those who may have experienced setbacks, offering a chance to reset, as well as those eager to maintain the momentum they've built with their teams. It's all about preventing the misuse of the tools, practices, and techniques of Reality-Based Leadership, while ensuring we focus on loving people up so we can call people up to greatness.

In this episode, Cy and Alex share some incredible insights from Reality-Based Leadership's Leadership Development Series! While many know them for their engaging keynotes, their deep dive programs are all about transforming teams into modern leaders who can ditch the drama and turn excuses into tangible results. They reveal some impressive data from participants, showcasing significant boosts in career satisfaction and leadership skills. For instance, 50% of respondents reported higher job satisfaction, 94% said they'd stay in their roles post-course, and burnout was reduced by an astounding 50%! On the leadership side, 55% feel more confident coaching others on the spot, while 70% have enhanced their ability to hold teams accountable. Plus, 60% are ready to lead their teams through change with newfound confidence. Remarkably, 80% are excited to drive results without just hoping for the best. And every single participant is now using at least one powerful tool daily to elevate their leadership. Cy and Alex also explain how the program is structured, from interactive sessions to group coaching and ongoing support that truly makes a difference. If your current training isn't delivering the results you're looking for, this conversation is a must-listen. And if you're interested in redesigning your curriculum, Ana from our team can work with you to create a tailored approach for your team. Don't miss out! Email us today at info@cywakeman.com

A leader recently asked Alex and Cy, “What happens when you're trying Reality-Based Leadership or using a tool and everything goes silent? Does that mean that the tools not working? What do I do when there's silence? What do I do when that silence feels like it has some extra tension attached to it, is it working?” All of these questions came up and in this podcast, Cy and Alex explore their own experiences in coaching with running their own business facilitating tools that have led to silence. And what that really means from a Reality-Based Leadership perspective. Many people believe that something is not working when there's silence after introducing a tool technique, coaching question, but we would say that actually means you are just beginning Reality-Based Leadership and getting to the good stuff, cultivating accountability. Self reflection is the foundation of accountability, and self reflection often includes silence. So in this episode, we're going to share with you ways to use silence to better your leadership and prove your use of the tools and most importantly, moving people from why we can't to how we could. And moving people from where they're stuck into where they're hoping to be. You'll love this episode. We had fun doing it and can't wait to hear your feedback on ways you can use these tools in your leadership.

One of the top three biggest questions we get at Reality-Based Leadership is, How do I get my team to buy-in? How do I get them to buy into what needs to be done? How do I get them to buy into strategies? How do we get people to buy into changes the organization needs us to execute on? And the next question after that is, what do I do If I thought I had buy-in, and then it turned out it was fake, or it seems to be where people say they're bought in, but the behaviors are different? So in this podcast, Cy and Alex talk about this pattern, if it's happening and how you might be able to address fake buy in, how you can go after more buy in, and the truth is, buy in is the first step of accountability. It's about commitment. Buy in is a verb and if an individual isn't able to offer up their buy-in, it's really game over when it comes to happiness results in engagement at work. So Cy and Alex do all they can to come up with our best techniques to help you go after buy-in, secure buy-in, but remember you can only work with the willing, you can't buy someone else in, and this podcast will give you some techniques to figure out what's really going on.

Many leaders struggle with giving freedom for their employees to do their best work, because they forget to provide some structure for them to work in. In today's episode, Alex and Cy talk about leader's role in finding the balance between structure and play. In the conversation, they go into a key Reality-Based Leadership focus that all leaders need to have, is setting your nonnegotiable as a leader to then get people to buy into those. From there, people are allowed to bring their best self play in the workplace so to speak and create magic. They also cover why it's so important to focus on this balance because too much structure and people believe we're over proceduralized. And they feel like they can't do any work and too much play, then it's really a free-for-all and innovation can't happen. So the magic comes from just enough structure and then people are allowed to innovate and collaborate knowing they have the same basics, so this is a really, really important episode to setting the groundwork for good leadership and Cy and Alex can't wait to hear your thoughts.  

Send us a text :) The average person spends 2.5 hours a day feeling bad for themselves. Whether it's at work or in their personal life, we ruminate on stories that we tell ourselves.The problem?Oftentimes these stories aren't even true. A complete waste of time!Cy Wakeman gives us tangible advice on how to eliminate our ego when it goes unchecked and remove this 2.5-hour daily burden.Cy Wakeman is a drama researcher, NY Times Bestselling Author, Hall of Fame Speaker, and recipient of the #1 Global Leadership Guru award for three years running.Deemed "the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace and the worldplace."Cy works with organizations globally to ditch the drama, hardwire accountability in their teams, and turn excuses into results.As the founder of Reality-Based Leadership, she inspires audiences to modernize their approach to leading their teams, enabling them to succeed despite the challenging circumstances they face.Her thought-provoking insights capture the hearts and minds of attendees of all backgrounds, helping them realize that success and happiness in their careers is their natural state—once the drama is gone.Please enjoy this conversation and be sure to let us know what you think. Thanks for listening!Feedback & Sponsorship Opportunities: andrew@permissiontoshine.org Cy Wakeman LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cywakeman/Andrew Namanny LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-namanny/@PermissionToShine_

If you're a leader that is currently leading your team through change, transformation, innovation, and noticing that there is a lot of resistance concern or fear, this is the podcast for you. Cy and Alex dive deep into what they call Business Readiness, which is their modern take on traditional change management. In short, change management has been the name of the game in leadership for years and in many ways still is, but Reality-Based Leadership is starting to see that it is not ready for the modern workplace. It is a model that responds to change. It notices change happening and then starts to manage it, where Business Readiness is a forward, thinking, leaning in to ensure that people are ready, willing, and able to deliver on what the business needs. This shift and mindset will help you transform in the way which your team embraces and sees it as an opportunity to capitalize on it, so where change management focuses on change being least disruptive to the people, Business Readiness is a model that helps you ensure that change is least disruptive to your customers, your patients, and your organization. Cy and Alex go back-and-forth on how this connects to resilience and how you can build resilience in your people and readiness in your systems in your organization. And this sweet spot is how to disruption-proof your workplace and ensure that it can handle whatever change comes its way. You don't want to miss any word in this podcast, so be sure to tune in.

In this episode of Relationships at Work, Russel chats with best-selling author, drama researcher and headline speaker Cy Wakeman on focusing on a reality-based leadership approach to improve accountability at work.Cy shares her insights and experience in:Why we need to self-reflect and be personally accountable.Reality-based leadership practices.Cultivating curiosity and compassion to understand different perspectives.Collective Genius for reducing risks and driving innovation.Achieving post-traumatic growth.Co-creation and simplification for the greater organizational good.And connect with me for more great content! Sign Up for R@W Notes Subscribe on Youtube Follow on Linkedin Follow on Instagram Follow on TikTok Email me anytime

Alex and Cy connected with Mike Lee to talk about the new rules of the future of leadership. Although these rules are simple rules that you might already know, the key insight is that for years, they have been nice to have, and now they're really the new rules to lead the up-and-coming workforce. In the podcast, they cover some of the solid fundamentals of leadership, how keeping it simple as a leader is the most impactful. Going through what's called mental rehearsal to be a more prepared leader, the power of visualization, how modern leaders are legacy driven instead of outcome driven. And also some great ways to support people by loving them up and calling them up to greatness with some of Mike's best techniques. This is an action packed episode with an individual who's worked with some of the top, high-performing people in the world. Be sure to share this episode with all of your team members and discuss your biggest insight or takeaway.

Cy and Alex got looking ahead at their schedules and couldn't believe we're already a month away from National Nurse's day, National Nurse's week, National Hospital week, and they had healthcare on their mind for this week's podcast. They wanted to talk about some of the trends they're seeing in healthcare and with the healthcare professionals they're working with in their sessions and in their coaching and wanted to share some ideas and tips on getting back to the basics, getting back to helping hope make a comeback and talking about ways that energy management can help us do the great work that we signed up to do in healthcare. They hope this is a podcast that inspires a bit of hope, talks a bit about how Reality-Based Leadership might be the support that your teams are craving and why we'd love to be there in your system whether it's virtually or in person in the next month or so for the celebrations, so let's celebrate on this podcast, any healthcare professionals you have in your life and Cy and Alex share opportunities to hear some Reality-Based Leadership content soon to honor those amazing healthcare professionals. In this podcast, they talk about getting back to the basics, why Reality-Based Leadership actually drives engagement and hope, and decreases burnout. Cy shares several stories, in which even in challenging circumstances with some tools of Reality-Based Leadership, people can get back to believing it's possible, believing it's doable, and Alex jumps in as well to share several stories of how teams are able to turn towards each other and succeed, in spite of challenging circumstances if they have some of the basics of RBL, and we're able to get them these tools. So this is a fun episode and pass it on to any healthcare professionals that you know and let them know that RBL is here to help them. Be sure to share this episode with all of your team members and discuss your biggest insight or takeaway.

In this episode of CISO Tradecraft, host G Mark Hardy welcomes Alex Dorr to discuss Reality-Based Leadership and its impact on reducing workplace drama and enhancing productivity. Alex shares his journey from professional basketball to becoming an evangelist of reality-based leadership, revealing how this approach helped him personally and professionally. They delve into the concepts of SBAR (Situation, Background, Analysis, Recommendation) for effective communication, toggling between low self and high self to manage personal reactions, and practical tools like 'thinking inside the box' to confront and solve workplace issues within given constraints. The conversation underscores the importance of focusing on actionable strategies over arguing with the drama and reality of workplace dynamics, aiming to foster a drama-free, engaged, and productive work environment. Alex Dorr's Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexmdorr/ Reality-Based Leadership Website: https://realitybasedleadership.com/  Transcripts: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1wge0pFLxE4MkS6neVp68bdz8h9mHrwje    Chapters 00:00 Introduction 00:57 Alex Dorr's Journey from Basketball to Leadership Expert 03:54 The Core Principles of Reality-Based Leadership 06:20 Understanding the Human Condition in the Workplace 09:19 Tackling Workplace Drama with Reality-Based Leadership 11:58 The Power of Positive Energy Management 17:42 Navigating Unpreferred Realities and Finding Impact 19:44 Reality-Based Leadership in Action: Techniques and Outcomes 23:12 The Importance of Skill Development Over Perfecting Reality 24:32 The Challenge of Employee Engagement 25:49 Secrets to Embracing Reality and Taking Action 25:58 Leadership vs. Management: Navigating Workplace Dynamics 28:28 Empowering Employees with the SBAR Framework 34:04 Addressing Venting and Negative Behaviors 36:17 Developing People: The Core of Leadership 37:50 Choosing Happiness Over Being Right 40:15 Integrating New Leadership Models and Making Them Stick 46:24 Concluding Thoughts and Contact Information

One of the core philosophies of living Reality-Based Leadership at work is to stop judging, start helping. People love this as a way to get started and dive right in, but sometimes their helping becomes doing everyone else's work, or jumping in to fix a lot of things. This creates the risk of becoming an over-functioner or an enabler in your workplace. So many people that just start reality-based leadership say that I started to say how can I help and next thing you know I was busier than ever and couldn't get my work done. This is another step in the evolution of being a reality-based leader is how to jump in to help without taking on everyone else's work. In this episode, Cy and Alex talk about this pattern and how to watch for it and how to see when you're helping is actually hurting and how to begin saying yes and separating out how the work gets done to be able to keep momentum going and agree to goals but also keep your boundaries. With these boundaries, you're able to then take on the short term issues that need to be taken care of where you do jump in and fix, but then you can leave some space to have others help you with midterm issues and then long-term issues in the workplace. Truly a powerful episode to make sure that one of the best tools of reality-based leadership doesn't get weaponized and used for evil. Enjoy, share with your colleagues and make sure you subscribe to the podcast and have discussions on this topic. We can't wait to hear from you.

Ever thought that doing Reality-Based Leadership might take the humanness out of work? What Alex and Cy cover in this session is that RBL actually brings the true humanness back to work. We don't try to bring our whole self to work but instead, we invite you to bring your most evolved self to work. This means that we're not trying to take the humanness out of work we're trying to limit the effect of the human condition on us doing our best work, or at least the lack of the human condition that leads to drama. So in this episode, Alex and Cy dive deep into how to bring your most evolved self to work. We discuss a great story about what happens when the judgments are reduced, and how humans create things in the world with less judgment. Also, we give you practical tips to ensure that people are finally able to bring their most authentic, evolved self to the workplace to do their best work in a highly engaged way. We can't wait to hear your feedback from this episode and make sure to subscribe and share with others to have a conversation about bringing the humanness back to work through Reality-Based Leadership.  

Dr. Nathan Regier, your host, welcomes Cy Wakeman to this special 50th episode of The Compassionate Accountability Podcast. Cy is a drama researcher, international leadership speaker, and consultant. In 2001, she founded Reality-Based Leadership. Cy works with organizations globally to ditch the drama, hardwire accountability into their teams, and turn excuses into results.   Key Takeaways: [2:18] What did motivate Cy to research drama? [6:24] CY defines drama and how that relates to leadership training. [7:28] Cy advises to consider drama as waste (and organizations know what to do with waste in their processes) [8:22] What are the key sources of trauma? Ego and lack of accountability are the first two drama triggers. [11:03] Conflict is just energy! Either we waste it or take advantage of it. [13:05] Love up (compassion) and Call up (accountability). [19:30] Cy explains the notion of Reality-based Leadership, considering that multiple things are true simultaneously and expanding on the future of leadership. [22:21] We all want success and happiness. [27:15] Reality-based thinking: Given this reality, what are some ways we can be great? [30:56] You have drama in your organization because you hired it, you enabled it, or you are it. [34:39] Cy talks about how she helps organizations. [35:50] Cy shares what is on the horizon for her now: Transitioning her organization to her team.   Mentioned in this episode: The Compassion Mindset Compassionate Accountability: How Leaders Build Connection and Get Results, Nate Regier Visit Next-Element   Right Kind of Wrong: The Art of Failing Well, Amy Edmondson   Tweetables: “Drama is energy that goes away from results and well being” #oncompassion   “Drama is an emotional waste.”  #oncompassion   “Ego is the number one key source of trauma.” #oncompassion   “Modern leadership is managing the energy of people.” #oncompassion   “Rules without relationship equals rebellion.” #oncompassion   “A bad day for the ego is a great day for the leader.”  #oncompassion   “You have drama in your organization because you hired it, you enabled it, or you are it.” #oncompassion   “You are the source of all your problems.” #oncompassion

Join Cy and Alex in this thought-provoking episode where they answer the challenging question of what to do with a 'toxic genius' or a high-perfomer that happens to be high-drama?  Inspired by an episode that Alex heard in which Brene Brown, Simon Sinek and Adam Grant brought up the concept and the challenge in handling these scenarios, Cy and Alex discuss the impact of this type of employee on the workplace and how leaders can navigate the situation. Cy and Alex dive deep into research from Reality-Based Leadership's 2nd book (Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace) and the Employee Value Equation that was able to get scientific and specific of the cost of drama. This equation gives you a self-assessment that can be used to start the conversation on reducing drama and doing better math on the value a high-performer that is costing a lot in emotional expensiveness to a team and organization. This is one of the hardest leadership situations to approach and the tips and tools in this episode give you tons of direction in doing better math around the value each person on your team is adding to the work at hand. Cy and Alex also touch on how this equation changes the conversation around quietly quitting and discuss the importance of not simply measuring performance, but also change readiness and emotional expensiveness of each person on a team. Truly a fascinating conversation. We can't wait to hear your biggest takeaways! Ready to take the Employee Value Equation self-assessment and calculate your drama-level? Don't be scared! This is the starting point to bringing your most evolved self to work. info.realitybasedleadership.com/equation

Topics include:  DC and profession news and analysis  Technical updates  Decision-making during high-stress and high-productivity demands    Speakers:   Barry Melancon, President and CEO, AICPA  Erik Asgeirsson, President and CEO, CPA.com  Lisa Simpson, VP, Firm Services, AICPA  Alex Dorr, VP, People Evolution, Reality Based Leadership 

Back by popular demand, Cy and Alex sit down to talk about the latest topics in leadership as they are out speaking on the circuit with the top leaders across the globe. The hottest topic that is coming up is all around trust and how it fits with leading in a Reality-Based way. How does trust fit in? Can you use the tools and principles you are talking about if trust isn't there? Trust is absolutely important on a team and in a leadership moment when you are calling teams to greatness. However, trust can be layered with so many other things as a way for someone to avoid a call to greatness that could help them evolve. Cy and Alex do a deep dive into trust in the workplace, some misconceptions with the topic, how it affects the team, and how trust isn't solely the responsibility of the leader to create. So if you are looking for tips and ideas to: Create more trust on your team Build more trust in your culture Understand how to truly create sustainable trust at work Clarify why trust is such a hard thing to build with others Become more trustworthy in your life in a variety of work situations Then this is the podcast for you. Be sure to share this episode with all of your team members and discuss your biggest insight or takeaway. Download the Edit Your Story Tool.  Cy Wakeman is the President and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership. Alex Dorr is VP of People Evolution at Reality-Based Leadership and has been standing side-by-side with Cy for almost a decade. Together, they have been helping leaders modernize their approach to leadership and to ditch the drama in the workplace. To learn more or to book Cy or Alex to speak at your next event or training be sure to visit Reality-Based Leadership or fill out this form to connect with the team!

Cy Wakeman discusses why engagement is overrated and what really drives results. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) How your ego ruins 2.5 hours of each day. 2) Three questions for breaking free from your ego. 3) Why to stop saying “should". Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep898 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT CY — Cy Wakeman is a drama researcher, international leadership speaker, and consultant. In 2001 she founded Reality-Based Leadership. She is the author of four books: Reality-Based Leadership: Ditch the Drama, Restore Sanity to the Workplace and Turn Excuses Into Results (2010), NY Times Bestseller, The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace: Know What Boosts Your Value, Kills Your Chances, and Will Make You Happier (2013), No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results (2017), and her newest release, Life's Messy, Live Happy. Deemed as “the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace,” Cy Wakeman was voted in the top 100 leadership professionals to follow on twitter for 7 years in a row. In 2021, 2022, and 2023 she topped the Global Gurus list of Top 30 Leadership Professionals across the globe, coming in at #1. • Book: No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results • Newsletter: Reality-Based Leadership Newsletter • TED Talk: Ditch the Drama – How to Live Happy in a Messy World • Website: RealityBasedLeadership.com — RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Book: Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words by David Whyte • Book: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns • Figure: Byron Katie See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Leaders don't manage people, they manage energy. Drama researcher, thought leader, and New York Time best-selling author Cy Wakeman joins Erin to discuss what it means to manage the energy of your team & the individuals you lead by analyzing emotional waste and how to replace it with good mental processes. If your team is burning out quickly and you're not sure what you can do – this is a good place to start. More about Cy: Cy Wakeman is an International Speaker on Leadership & Management, a Global Thought Leader, and Drama Researcher—which is a career she discovered accidentally and has since quantified how much drama there actually is in the workplace. Her research has shown that the average employee spends nearly 2.5 hours per day in drama, gossiping, tattling, withholding buy-in, resisting change and stepping down from accountability. Drama is emotional waste, any unproductive thought or behavior and like any other waste in the workplace. Now, her work is focused on giving leaders tools to recapture that emotional waste and upcycle it into results. Cy founded Reality-Based Leadership, her company that teaches leaders and individual contributors ways to lead, and reality that diffuses drama in the workplace. Cy is also a New York Times best-selling author and has published four books, the latest of which is Life's Messy, Live Happy: Things Don't Have to Be Perfect for You to Be Content (2022). ICYMI – Your Post-Episode Homework: 1) Share this episode with someone you love 2) Take one of the juicy chicken nuggets from this episode and apply it – only you know what this looks like. Connect with Cy Wakeman: Cy's Instagram Cy's LinkedIn Cy's Tik Tok Cy's Podcast, No Ego Cy's books Show Links: Send a question/voice message on SpeakPipe here! Want to book Erin to speak at your organization or large-scale event: Learn more here! Did today's episode resonate with you? Please leave us a review for a chance to win a self-care package from us! Take the quiz to download your free Wellness Workbook! Connect with Erin Diehl: Instagram LinkedIn improve it! TikTok Improve it! Instagram Improve it! Facebook improve it! website Book a Laugh Break Book a Workshop Email Erin: info@learntoimproveit.com “I love this podcast and I love Erin!!” If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing this podcast! This helps Erin support more people – just like you – move toward the leader you want to be. Click here, click listen on Apple Podcasts, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with 5 stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let Erin know what you loved most about the episode! Also, if you haven't done so already, subscribe to the podcast. That way you won't miss any juicy episodes! Thanks in advance, improve it! Peeps :)

Topics include: Innovation and technology Leadership DC and technical updates  Speakers:  Barry Melancon, President and CEO, AICPA Erik Asgeirsson, President and CEO, CPA.com Lisa Simpson, VP, Firm Services, AICPA Kimberly Ellison-Taylor, CEO, KET Solutions Alex Dorr, VP, People Evolution, Reality-Based Leadership  

Do you want to get rid of drama on the manufacturing floor? As a leader, you avoid drama, set boundaries, and inspire by your team by becoming the ultimate “drama diffuser!” In this episode, I'm joined by guest Cy Wakeman, the president and founder of Reality-Based Leadership and the bestselling author of books like No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results. I've been a fan of Cy's writing for years, and I'm excited to have her as a guest to talk about how leader can use skills like curiosity and self-reflection to overcome drama in their organization. 1:30 – To avoid drama—and your own ego—approach every situation by considering what you know for sure 3:30 – It's easy to fall into situations where you believe someone else is the villain or that you're doing the right thing, which is why it's important to consider facts, mindsets, and what details you know for sure 9:07 – The power of self-reflection is the ultimate drama diffuser 10:19 – Instead of judging or making assumptions, approach situations with curiosity, patience, and grace 11:49 – By extending an invitation instead of a lecture, you can “call people up to greatness.” 13:20 – “As the leader goes, so does the team.” 15:05 – If something happens that's unpreferred, you need to step up and impact it 20:02 – As a leader, you can set an example and set your team up to avoid drama 21:32 – By setting a strong leadership example and empowering your team, you can find productive solutions while still maintaining healthy boundaries and not falling into the trap of being a “fixer” for everyone's problems 23:05 – A question to ask yourself: if I see behavior I don't want, how am I enabling it? 24:29 – When you quit buffering your team member's relationship with reality, they will make better choices 29:32 – To get through to others, state reality and ask for what you really need 33:16 – As a leader, you can only make the invitation—it's up to others to decide what to do with that invitation 34:59 – With the correct leader, your team will step into brilliance most of the time 35:16 – If you have drama in your workplace, it's because people are venting instead of self-reflecting Connect with Cy Wakeman LinkedIn Reality-Based Leadership Website Newsletter Read Trevor's book review on No Ego    

Cy Wakeman is a drama researcher, international leadership speaker, and consultant. In 2001 she founded Reality-Based Leadership. She is the author of three books: Reality-Based Leadership: Ditch the Drama, Restore Sanity to the Workplace and Turn Excuses Into Results (2010), NY Times Bestseller, The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace: Know What Boosts Your Value, Kills Your Chances, and Will Make You Happier (2013), and her new release No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results (2017). In 2017 and 2018, she was named as one of the Top Global Leadership Gurus by Global Gurus, a Top 100 Leadership Expert to Follow on Twitter, and was deemed “the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace.” In this interview, Cy and Cindra discuss: What it means to operate with “no ego” How our stress comes from our stories How suffering is optional Ways to question your thinking Tools for Reality-Based Leadership The actual time we waste in work-place drama…and it is astonishing! HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE: www.cindrakamphoff.com/522 FOLLOW CINDRA ON INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/cindrakamphoff/ FOLLOW CINDRA ON TWITTER: https://twitter.com/mentally_strong TO REACH CY: Cy Wakeman & Reality-Based Leadership (realitybasedleadership.com) Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/high-performance-mindset-learn-from-world-class-leaders/id1034819901

There is no way around it, life is messy! Cy Wakeman, leadership speaker, consultant, and author, sat down with me to about how to be okay when things get a little crazy. Life isn't about being perfect, its about being happy within the chaos and accepting the mess. Cy's Newest Book: LIFE'S MESSY, LIVE HAPPY: Things Don't Have to be Perfect for You to be Content is about dramatically changing the level of happiness you feel in your daily life, by learning to disconnect happiness from external forces, stop worrying about the future, and realize that most of your negative feelings are about things that never even happened. About the Guest: CY WAKEMAN is a drama researcher, international leadership speaker, and consultant. In 2001 she founded Reality-Based Leadership. She is the author of Reality-Based Leadership, No Ego, and the New York Times bestseller The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace. In 2021 she was named the #1 Global Leadership Guru by Global Gurus as well as one of the Top 100 Leadership Experts to follow on Twitter, and she was deemed “the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace.” Wakeman lives in Baja California Sur, Mexico. www.youtube.com/c/CyWakeman ​​www.realitybasedleadership.com www.twitter.com/cywakeman www.instagram.com/cywakeman www.facebook.com/cywakeman About the Host: Following the crumbs in the chaos is a full-time job as a Productivity Coach. As a busy mom of three and the founder of Chaos N' Cookies, keeping moms from crumbling is my main objective. After gaining 10+ years of experience as a Director of Marketing helping build multiple 6 & 7-figure businesses for other women I've created the Chaos Control System to equip moms to overcome their own objections so they can live the life they want to live and start that business they have always wanted. The Family Playbook, or standard operating procedure, is the tool every mama needs to save time and stress-less when chaos ensues at home. For new biz owners, I also help simplify systems on social media and other business platforms to automate processes to get their business up and running quickly and efficiently with how-tos and hands-on coaching. I have helped hundreds of women to be more productive and self-sufficient in their homes and businesses allowing them to reclaim control of the chaos. www.chaosncookies.com https://www.instagram.com/chaosncookies/ https://www.instagram.com/theheathergreco/ https://www.facebook.com/Chaos-n-Cookies-111324364538688 https://chaosncookies.com/shop https://linktr.ee/hsteinker Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below! Subscribe to the podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. You can also subscribe in your favorite podcast app. Leave us an Apple Podcasts review Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.

Designed for you to share with everyone you want to introduce No Ego and Reality-Based Leadership with, this podcast walks through the 5 main sources of drama that all leaders and teams will encounter in the workplace. Drama leads to over 2.5 hours per day of lost time and energy per person in an organization on average. Modern leaders know the biggest part of their job becomes navigating these interferences of drama when they come up. Being able to manage energy around ego-based thinking, lack of accountability, buy-in, resistance to change and engagement is where leaders need to evolve next in the modern workplace.ENJOYED THIS INTRO AND READY TO TAKE THE NEXT STEPS IN YOUR JOURNEY? Below are my recommendations for all budgets.$0 (FREE!) - Learn the first tool to start reducing drama. This SBAR tool is a simple template that will save you nearly an hour per day in drama. Follow the link below to watch the video lesson and download the tool.Get the free tool: info.realitybasedleadership.com/minute$25-$30 - Buy one of our books.Reality-Based Leadership - this is our core philosophy of leading beyond drama at workReality-Based Rules of the Workplace - the 5 principles for anyone to be happy and successful at work regardless of circumstancesNo Ego - our latest tools to move teams to their most evolved selves, new coaching tools and our modern takes on how to fix employee engagement and improve change management with Business Readiness. This book also shows how our tools and philosophies can transform your culture to low-drama and accountability over time with case studies!$100 - Buy my No Ego Toolkit Email Series. Get my 5 favorite drama ditching tools, emailed to you once per week with a tutorial video and application example along with action steps for you to begin using with your team. This is the easiest way to take what you learned in the podcast and begin evolving the way you lead.$199 - Buy my No Ego: The Reality of Peace, Happiness and Great Results Virtual Course. This is a 2-hour self-lead course that will change the course of your career forever. The 5 sources of drama that will trip you up and exactly how to navigate passed them with our 5 proven tools to do so. Work becomes effortless after completing this course!$500 - Buy my 25 Lessons of Reality-Based Leadership Video Course with Discussion Questions. If your team has found every excuse for why there isn't time to start practicing and learning these ideas I discuss - this course is your solution. Each video is 1-3 minutes with a couple of discussion questions. Hit play, watch the video before your meetings and have a 5 minute discussion. This is the fastest way to start transforming your teams in less than 10 minutes.Call/email for pricing - Hire me to speak to your team, organization or at your next event. I deliver both virtual or in-person keynote presentation as well as company-wide rollouts of our curriculums that include coaching sessions and consulting. You can view my Speaker's Page here for a list of my past clients, testimonials and bio.--------------------------------I'd love to continue the discussion, hear your responses to the content or read/listen to how you build on these ideas on any of the platforms below:TwitterInstagramFacebookTikTokThank you so much for listening and happy sharing!And if you're new - welcome to peace, happiness and incredible results at work.I'm thrilled you're here. Let's keep ditching the drama.-Alex

Are you a boomer who wants to live a life that's fulfilling, inspiring and packed with opportunities for joy and happiness? If so… you'll want to be sure to take a listen to what our guest, Cy Wakeman has to say. Cy is a drama researcher, international leadership speaker, and consultant. She is the founder of Reality-Based Leadership and authored a number of books including Reality-Based Leadership, No Ego, and the New York Times bestseller The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace. Now Cy has just come out with a new book that each of you will want to have in your personal library. It's called, LIFE'S MESSY, LIVE HAPPY: Things Don't Have to be Perfect for You to be Content. Obviously the title is intriguing and we are lucky to have Cy with us to share all about it. If you want to make the most of this incredibly special time of life, make certain you tune in for this one!

Cy Wakeman is a leadership consultant. She's founded her own firm, Reality-Based Leadership. Her book of the same name is a New York Times best seller. Her new book is more personal. It's called Life's Messy, Live Happy. She and Tristan discuss the many life lessons it contains. Pre-order the book here: https://amzn.to/3u6GEgH Connect with Cy on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/cywakeman/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cy Wakeman is a leadership consultant. She's founded her own firm, Reality-Based Leadership. Her book of the same name is a New York Times best seller. Her new book is more personal. It's called Life's Messy, Live Happy. She and Tristan discuss the many life lessons it contains. Pre-order the book here: https://amzn.to/3u6GEgH Connect with Cy on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/cywakeman/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cy Wakeman is a leadership consultant. She's founded her own firm, Reality-Based Leadership. Her book of the same name is a New York Times best seller. Her new book is more personal. It's called Life's Messy, Live Happy. She and Tristan discuss the many life lessons it contains. Pre-order the book here: https://amzn.to/3u6GEgH Connect with Cy on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/cywakeman/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cy Wakeman is a leadership consultant. She's founded her own firm, Reality-Based Leadership. Her book of the same name is a New York Times best seller. Her new book is more personal. It's called Life's Messy, Live Happy. She and Tristan discuss the many life lessons it contains. Pre-order the book here: https://amzn.to/3u6GEgH Connect with Cy on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/cywakeman/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cy Wakeman is a leadership consultant. She's founded her own firm, Reality-Based Leadership. Her book of the same name is a New York Times best seller. Her new book is more personal. It's called Life's Messy, Live Happy. She and Tristan discuss the many life lessons it contains. Pre-order the book here: https://amzn.to/3u6GEgH Connect with Cy on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/cywakeman/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Joe Topinka, founder of CIO Mentor, shares his experiences learning that leaders don't judge and how to really lead by example through a tough moment in his career. A new CEO came in and he was removed from the executive leadership team. An average leader will let their ego take over. An exceptional leader will take another route. Listen in this episode for Joe's top lessons, his source of inspiration, and our top insights you can put into practice immediately. Your ego overreacts and lies to you. Not only step out of the drama triangle, but bring others along with you. When a phone call is better than in person or a video call Great self coaching question: "Are you who you think you are?" Leaders don't judge. They help solve problems. Why your team needs rules of engagement and how often to discuss Bring a brick, not a cathedral, to your team for new ideas About Joe Topinka Joe Topinka is a visionary Chief Information Officer, mentor, author, and speaker with more than 35 years of success in elevating and leading IT organizations to drive meaningful business results. A CIO with success across multiple industries, he creates agile, business-minded IT functions that are viewed as valuable assets to executive teams through a variety of business cycles. He is a passionate mentor who builds loyal, high-performing teams based on accountability, integrity, and consistency. Joe has been awarded CIO of the Year 3 times by 3 separate entities. As the founder of CIO Mentor, LLC, Joe leverages his expertise and empowering leadership style to guide companies in capturing the power of technology to achieve profit-driven business results. For more than 15 years, he has applied his successful methodology that creates a bridge between business stakeholders and IT organizations, establishing a people-powered platform that aligns teams to compete. He also coaches IT leaders in transforming corporate relationships, leveraging the right technology, and prioritizing investments. Connect with Joe on LinkedIn. Learn more about CIO Mentor and Joe's book, IT Business Partnerships: A Field Guide. We discussed Cy Wakeman's work quite a bit during our conversation. Her books are a must read for any leader sick of drama, change resistance, and entitlement. Check out her company and work, Reality Based Leadership.   Lead Kick Ass Meetings: Complimentary Resource Meetings are a really expensive use of your time. It only makes sense that they need to be more productive and valuable. Instead of running meetings that could have been an email, lead powerful meetings that have purpose, participation, and problem solving.

Have you ever wondered how to manage gender expectations as a female leader, even if your Enneagram type's gifts don't align with gender norms? Look no further! We spoke with Kelli Thompson about how to harness your powers and excel as a leader, regardless of your personality type.Kelli Thompson is a keynote speaker, writer and leadership coach. She has delivered talks, webinars, and workshops for many organizations including the Young Professionals Summit, Executive Women International, Medical Solutions, Management Women Inc, and more. She has over 10 years of leadership experience for financial services and technology organizations, and is certified in Reality-Based Leadership, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, and the Enneagram. Kelli is actively writing her first book, The Clarity Effect, to be released in 2022.We begin our conversation with some background on how Kelli became a leadership coach and what drew her to using Enneagrams in her coaching. As Kelli describes, she started in sales before moving on to marketing. Marketing is all about psychology, and as Kelli was always into personality tests - like the Meyers-Briggs test - it was a natural fit. She soon discovered another form of personality categorization, the Enneagram. Kelli states that an Enneagram is different in that it's not just about what your personality is; it's also why or how you developed to be this way. If you're not familiar with Enneagrams, Kelli gives a useful overview here. The name comes from Greek, meaning nine personalities. Indeed, with Enneagrams, there are nine fundamental types. (Kelli mentions that there are actually 27 types, but we don't get into quite that much detail here!) Read more at petite2queen.com/female-leader-enneagram-typeSupport the show (https://p2q.link/donate)

Host Raymond Hawkins discovered that despite lacking formal leadership training, Cy Wakeman, President & Founder of Reality Based Leadership, has written a plethora of books in the leadership genre. As a former counselor in human psychology, Wakeman revamped traditional leadership views. She explained, “I saw the world from a viewpoint of shared accountability at the time that most people were seeing the world as the leader was really responsible for the wellbeing of their employees.” According to Wakeman, an individual can experience the same organization differently depending on their accountability. When “high accountables” are in pain, they question their role and how to address deficits. After addressing their role, what remains falls on the organization. “Low-accountables,” on the other hand, hold more of a victim mindset and first point to the organization as the source of their pain. Wakeman began implementing these ideas through reality-based leadership training to healthcare businesses that were losing money. Soon, other organizations began to request training. Wakeman has since built upon her training philosophy with many other essential concepts. For example, she emphasized that “A lot of people believe their circumstances are the reason they can't succeed. Your circumstances are the realty in which you must succeed.” Thinking inside of the box given the restraints to achieve a goal is a must. Leaders are key to this; they help move the ‘why we can't' to ‘how we could.'” Perhaps Wakeman's most important point is this: “True resilience is not about being the smartest or how much perseverance you have, it lies in the collective genius—have the best network of positive relationships, ask for help, and be vulnerable.” These concepts only touch the tip of the iceburg. For more details, you can reference Wakeman's books, visit realtybasedleadership.com, sign up for her newsletter, or follow @cywakeham.

In this episode, I continue my conversation with Cy Wakeman. Cy has dedicated her work to understanding how to combat drama, toxicity, and ego in work and in life. In Part 2 of our conversation, we focus on Cy's philosophies and teachings for finding greater work-life wellness. Cy is the President and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership, a NY Times Best Selling Author, Keynote Speaker, and Drama-Researcher. We discuss the pandemic's influence on work-life wellness, the importance of human-centric workplaces, how to manage our energy by living in the present moment, personal agency, and more.For more information on combatting ego in the workplace, order a copy of Cy's book, No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results. Cy's newest book will be releasing March 29, 2022: Life's Messy, Live Happy: Things Don't Have to Be Perfect for You to Be Content.If you're looking for some great reads, Cy recommends Anne Lamotte's work, as well as Byron Katie, and poetry from David Whyte.Check out Cy's podcast, No Ego, to learn more about Cy's teachings!Learn more about Dr. Laura on her website: https://drlaura.liveFor more resources, below are Dr. Laura's organizations. Work EvOHlutionSynthesis PsychologyCalgary Career CounsellingCanada Career CounsellingDr. Laura is a partner of Humance | Culture and Performance.

“The average person spends about two hours per day in drama…and lack of accountability is one of the sources of drama”. Listen to this excerpt from the August 12th Town Hall Series as Reality-Based Leadership's Alex Dorr joins Lisa Simpson, the AICPA's VP of Firm Services and Eric Asgeirsson, CPA.com's CEO, to discuss workplace drama and how to create an engaged and accountable firm culture. Resources mentioned: Increase accountability in your firm Streamlining the “you got a minute?” meeting Gain insights for your firm with the Employee Value Self-Assessment To learn more about Alex and Reality-Based Leadership, please visit their website at https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/. This episode is brought to you by the AICPA's Private Companies Practice Section (PCPS), the home of small firms. To learn more about PCPS, visit aicpa.org/pcps or email pcps@aicpa.org for a free web tour. Note: If your podcast app does not hyperlink to resources, visit https://aicpasmallfirm.libsyn.com to access show notes with direct links.

Did you know that the average person spends 2.5 hours of their workday submersed in drama? All of us have an ego, but we must learn to notice, acknowledge, and bypass our ego as we go through our lives. Cy Wakeman is the President and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership, a NY Times Best Selling Author, Keynote Speaker, and Drama-Researcher. Cy has dedicated her work to understanding how to combat drama, toxicity, and ego in work and in life. This is Part 1 of our conversation. I am honoured to have had the opportunity to sit down with Cy Wakeman to examine ego in our polarized world. In this episode, we discuss the gap between our external reality, and our internal representation of reality. Cy explains how the lens of ego distorts our view of life, the importance of self-reflection in leadership and life in general, practical strategies for addressing drama and toxicity, how the pandemic has influenced these topics, and strategies for mindfulness and building a happier life.For more information on combatting ego in the workplace, order a copy of Cy's book, No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results. Cy's newest book will be releasing March 29, 2022: Life's Messy, Live Happy: Things Don't Have to Be Perfect for You to Be Content.Learn more about Dr. Laura on her website: https://drlaura.liveFor more resources, below are Dr. Laura's organizations. Work EvOHlutionSynthesis PsychologyCalgary Career CounsellingCanada Career CounsellingDr. Laura is a partner of Humance | Culture and Performance.

Drama researcher Cy Wakeman joins the Inside Out Leadership Show w/ Robb Holman to talk about Reality-Based Leadership and eliminating drama. According to Cy's research, employees spend nearly 2.5 hours per day in Drama. What does this mean and what do we do about that? Find out in this episode of the Inside Out Leadership Podcast with Robb Holman.

Look at your calendar and cross out the things that you don't enjoy doing. You could do ten other things that you enjoy over one thing that you hate. It's all about choosing the energy. In today's episode, Michael Zipursky and his guest, Cy Wakeman, talk all about what it's like to be a consultant and why positive energy is so important. Cy is the President and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership. She is also the New York Times Best Selling Author of several books such as Reality-Based Leadership Workshop and No Ego. Learn when you are overcommitting to something so that you can find some positive energy and even use that energy to grow your business.Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share!Here's How »Join the Consulting Success Community today:consultingsuccess.com

Have you ever been there?  Standing in front of a room and absolutely sure that the people you are briefing are going to figure out that you aren't qualified?  STOP IT!  YOU ARE! On this episode, I had the great pleasure to talk with Kelli Thompson and we talk about imposter syndrome (among many other things).  What's imposter syndrome?  Take a listen and find out...you won't be disappointed! More on Kelli.. Kelli Thompson is a leadership coach and speaker who helps women leaders advance with clarity and confidence so they can make impact in the rooms where decisions are made. She’s coached and trained hundreds of women to trust themselves, lead with more confidence and create a career they love. She is the founder of the Clarity & Confidence Leadership Masterclass, a nationwide, online leadership development program for women leaders. Kelli spent over 15 years in Corporate America before taking the leap into entrepreneurship to start her own leadership coaching practice. She holds over 10 years of leadership experience for financial services and technology organizations. As a speaker, Kelli is experienced in working with audiences from 10 to 1000 at all professional levels. Participants in her programs consistently give rave reviews of the wisdom Kelli provides that changed the way they lead and approached their personal and work life. Kelli was awarded the Training Magazine Emerging Training Leader award for her demonstrated leadership in leading and developing high-impact training programs. She earned her MBA and has served as Adjunct Management Faculty at the University of Nebraska – Omaha. She is certified in Reality-Based Leadership, Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and the Enneagram. Her thought leadership can be found on Thrive Global, Introvert Dear, HR Daily Advisor, LinkedIn, and via her blog and social media channels. Kelli’s favorite roles are wife to Jason and mom to their teenage daughter, Hailey. Check her out!  https://www.kelliraethompson.com/  

Calm the Chaos/ Paula Staffeldt  Paula is a former organizational development practitioner, with over 20 years experience in corporate training, leadership development, and coaching. She earned a graduate degree in Counseling Psychology with a cognate in Theology from the University of Denver. Paula’s expertise includes Reality-Based Leadership, Crucial Conversations, and Contemplative Leadership. As a board-certified coach, an ordained ministerial counselor, and a certified Focusing guide, Paula brings a wealth of expertise and understanding to her work. In her study of transpersonal and nondual psychology, Paula discovered how the practice of Focusing freed her of being identified with the ego, allowing her to live more consistently from a state characterized by wisdom and grace. This is why Paula shares this practice with others, so that they may also experience a transformed way of being What  You’ll Learn How Covid came along and changed Paula’s plan Paula focuses on spiritual training and development for leader and people who are spiritual seekers who are looking to dissolve their ego and live from a higher level of consciousness  How Focusing works, an example and what to expect Examples of how focusing has helped people What Paula has learned about herself through her journey How can you connect with Paula How does Paula calm the chaos Paula’s challenge for the listeners Resources Connect with Paula here  Connect with Deborah for coaching here Take the mid life Quiz here Enjoy the show? Don’t miss an episode, follow the podcast on ITunes , I HEART RADIO and Spotify Please rate, review and subscribe to the podcast and share with a friend!

In this episode, Cy Wakeman, founder of Reality-Based Leadership, explains why pain -- not suffering -- is a choice, and how we can gain control over our emotions, perceptions and choices by learning to "edit our stories" and co-create a different life narrative. * * * More about Cy and Reality-Based Leadership | Watch the full conversation | Lead with impact

Who needs some real conversation and encouragement? For the next several weeks, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt is breaking down hot topics and bringing you snippets from powerful conversations shared during the Brave Enough Elevate Summit. In this episode, Sasha chats with Cy Wakeman -  drama researcher, global thought-leader, New York Times best selling author and President of Reality-Based Leadership.

Who needs some real conversation and encouragement? For the next several weeks, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt is breaking down hot topics and bringing you snippets from powerful conversations shared during the Brave Enough Elevate Summit. In this episode, Sasha chats with Cy Wakeman - drama researcher, global thought-leader, New York Times best selling author and President of Reality-Based Leadership.

#LifeAtGeisinger welcomes Alex Dorr, professional speaker, trainer, and the Vice President of People Evolution at Reality Based Leadership, to the podcast to discuss leading through a crisis, navigating team dynamics, and calling people to greatness. This episode of the "#LifeAtGeisinger" podcast is hosted by HR colleagues and podcast enthusiasts Grace Lowry, talent manager, and Bobbi Hicks, senior recruiter.

This episode features Cy Wakeman, President and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership. Here, she discusses how unnecessary drama can affect morale in the workplace, how stamina and resilience go hand-in-hand, and more.

I've been a fan of Cy Wakeman's work for the past few years. Her New York Times bestselling book, 'No Ego' and her 'reality based leadership' methodology has changed the way I work and understand the role of personal and professional development, coaching and leadership in the workplace. She has a unique ability to cut through the bullshit to connect and share heart to heart. Her philosophy and methodology is exactly the kind of approach we need right now, one that demands accountability, truth telling, empathy, vulnerability and integrity. In this episode Cy shares her methodology and some really simple yet powerful ways to help you cut through ego, develop greater self awareness and not only have a greater positive impact at work, but to have live a more loving, compassionate and conscious life. It might be messy, but it's worth it. For more of Cy's wisdom, check out her 'No Ego' podcast here.And check out her 'Reality Based Leadership' work here. 

Tiffany O'Donnell talks with drama researcher, New York Times best-selling author, leadership consultant and founder of Reality-Based Leadership, Cy Wakeman. She's been a keynote speaker multiple times at Women Lead Change events and always leaves her mark in the best of ways. Have you ever listened to a speaker and said, "That's the voice inside my head, I just couldn't find the words." Well, our friend Cy found them for us. Our conversation today covers a lot of territory and most notably the five things she says leaders need to be doing today current and post COVID-19. Follow Women Lead Change on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn and visit wlcglobal.org for more information. Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=7V9VAGJQC2YLA&source=url)

I was honored to talk to the "No Ego" podcast host and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership, Cy Wakeman about her amazing and pragmatic mindset concepts that stem from her counselling and spiritual backgrounds that significantly reduce the suffering or "drama" that consumes the workplace and our lives. Part 1.

I was honored to talk to the "No Ego" podcast host and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership, Cy Wakeman about her amazing and pragmatic mindset concepts that stem from her counselling and spiritual backgrounds that significantly reduce the suffering or "drama" that consumes the workplace and our lives. Part 2.

Tessa Felix is the HR and Operations Lead for PWL Capital, an advisory firm that oversees nearly $3.6 billion in assets under management. Tessa has focused on developing the culture of her advisory firm and has put systems in place to make everyone accountable for their work, while still making it a fun environment. Today she joins the show to discuss how she is making her firm an enjoyable place to work in, as well as the leadership system she has incorporated into her management approach. Listen in as we talk about the weekly team meetings, internal podcast, and monthly one-on-ones Tessa uses to maintain the culture of the firm. She shares how she transitioned from being a peer of her co-workers to their manager and how she came to be the culture lead for her firm. If you’re ready to cultivate a growth mindset within your own business, this is the episode for you! For show notes and more visit: https://www.kitces.com/161      

Listen in on a full keynote of mine on how to ditch the drama at work with Reality-Based Leadership. Ever wondered what it would be like to sit in the front row for one of my sessions? That's what you are listening to here! This session was one of my best yet. Concise and straight to the point with a TON of energy and practical tools to start leading more drama-free, engaged and results-driven teams. This group was super interactive and all-in to the philosophy so it made for a great time! The average person is spending 2.5 hours per day in drama at work. 2.5 hours per day! That is an enormous amount of time and energy that leads to stress and less joy in our day-to-day. This session gives you some of our best tools to start chipping away at that drama. As you carve this away, it reveals so many more places to have better results and more happiness in each interaction. So if you are interested in learning about: Sources of drama at work that add up to 2.5 hours per day per person How to lead better How to lead your team through change How to deal with conflict at work Best tools and techniques to redirect energy away from drama How to create a culture that is high in accountability How to change a culture in a way that is effective How to truly drive engagement at work while ensuring it leads to results How to help your teams thrive in change instead of fear it How to overcome your fears, stress, lack of confidence and suffering What truly adds value in today's workplace and how you can always deliver that value Then this keynote is exactly what you are looking for! If you are currently a leader or employee and hoping to take what you are doing at work or in life to the next level this is an important hour of content to listen to. As I mentioned, you can listen to a longer extended version of this content that teaches you the entire framework, philosophy and tools of Reality-Based Leadership in this podcast episode at the links below: Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify Listen on Google Play Listen on Simplecast If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below: Twitter Instagram Facebook For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel. If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more. Cheers to another week of living and leading drmaa-free. - Alex

Does your drama you bring to the table impact others more the higher up you get in your career? This was a great questions asked by a recent executive leader at one of my sessions that got me thinking. This podcast breaks down my thoughts on whether the impact of our personal drama as a higher-level leader in an organization is grander than our initial research has discovered. In our research at Reality-Based Leadership, we found that your overall value that you bring to your work decreases greatly if you are high in emotional expensiveness or lacking fluency in what causes drama in an organization. In fact, the amount of drama has a 3x negative effect in comparison to your performance and your future potential when you look at the total value you are bringing to a team, organization, interaction or customer experience. This -3x factor is quite an eye-opener for many who hear our work for the first time. Below is the link to do your own self-assessment and learn more about our Employee Value Equation and the cost of our own drama. https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/Employee-Value-Equation-1.pdf But in a recent session in NYC with an executive group, an attendee posed the question about whether as a CEO or high level leader that your drama could be even grander than that because of your influence and position in a company. Could it be -5x, -8x or even a -10x because so many are aware of your every move, comment and non-verbal. After all, you are the final decision point for your organization and many look to your leadership for guidance. I had not considered this as an option so on the plane after the event I did some reflecting and put together this podcast. So this is a great episode for anyone wondering about: What is the effect of my drama as a leader on the organization How to lead better with less drama What is the cost of drama on high-level leaders Conflict Resolution and understanding our part in solving issues This really is something to consider and I can't wait to hear what you all think about this topic and my reflections. It really makes you think about each day and your influence especially for some of you who have a determined team working alongside you. Your influence if you are not bringing your highest self to the table could be an even grander cause of chaos in your workplace. If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below: Twitter Instagram Facebook For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel. If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more. Let's keep livin' drama free my people. - Alex

Have you ever thought about what you could be like if you were truly great? Maybe not since you were 7 years old and wearing a superhero costume, but that is about to change. What would you be like if you were truly operating at your greatest you? In this interview, Cy Wakeman a drama researcher, author, TedX Speaker, Podcaster and CEO of Reality Based Leadership will walk us through how to ask the hard questions so we can truly be our greatest selves. Key takeaways: the snake story that changed Cy's life How to stop getting stuck in your story the 3 questions that will change your life how to take take your power of co-creation seriously why staying curious can uplevel your relationships how to stay in joy or leave in peace And thats just the tip of the iceberg! Cy shares stories that are so relatable you'll be able to implement her strategies immediately. Connect with Cy here: Realitybasedleadership.com Youtube Read Cy's books No Ego Podcast

Today's episode features an idea that has been keeping me up at night. Could there ever be some universal good mental processes that everyone agrees on that lead to more happiness and results in our lives? If so, could they become non-negotiable as professional ways to behave in meetings and discussions. I'm fascinated with this idea and share some of those good mental processes as examples in this episode. Drama is an enormous interference in our life and at Reality-Based Leadership we have found that the average person is spending 2.5 hours per day in drama. This is arguing with reality, blaming, moaning and whining, resisting change, not aligning with their organization - saying things like "this is sick and wrong and shouldn't be happening and I wouldn't have made that decision..." It is chaos instead of clarity. Drama is simply mental/emotional waste in our minds that lead to us taking poor actions and getting bad results. In business, if we have waste, we eliminate it by putting in a good process. How could we get rid of emotional waste? Using good mental processes. In this episode I consider a world where we had everyone align to good mental processes that the research shows leads to more happiness, better choices and better results. If we all are looking for relief and peace and incredible results. Surely, it would make sense to have a chance to universally align to proven good mental processes. That is a Reality-Based Leadership workplace. A No Ego workplace. Some of those great mental processes includes our Ego Bypass Tools we teach leaders. You can learn those here! Questions for self-reflection also trigger the use of a good mental process. Here are some of the heavy-hitter questions discussed in this podcast: What do I know for sure? What would great look like? Is what I'm about to say going to add clarity or chaos? What is my role in this situation? Decision-maker? Consultant? or just to be informed? If I wasn't judging, what would I be doing to help? This episode is great for anyone wondering: How can I lead beyond drama with my teams How do deal with conflict at work How to manage teams more efficiently I mentioned Cy Wakeman and my dissertation podcast we did on everything you'd ever need to know about giving and receiving feedback at work - Here is the link to watch that! Thank you guys for tuning in. I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this one! If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below: Twitter Instagram Facebook For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel. If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more. You know the deal - stay drama-free my people.

There is a reason drama is taking up over two hours per day of your attention, and the long-term effects aren’t great. But today, there’s hope! Join Alex for a deep look as to why we have drama, what we can do to reset our mind to think with a reality-mindset, and how we can avoid getting enthralled—and even help others avoid getting into workplace drama. You don’t want to miss this episode! Click the link below to register for our next class! Company-wide Compensation without Losing You’re A$$ets!   Are you wondering how to create a commission structure for your stylists without giving away the farm? Or, how do you know what to pay a full-time salon manager based on your salon's revenue? Join our online class to see how we've created a plan for compensation [WITH BENEFITS] that: * pays the owner six figures  * pays better than other brand-name retailers * leaves a six percent profit margin so your business is worth buying someday.  * doesn't discourage TEAM (in fact, we will prove that it IS possible to pay commission and have a thriving TEAM culture!)  Make sure you and your leadership team join this one!   OUR INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/beyondthetechnique/ https://www.instagram.com/katiwhitledge/ https://www.instagram.com/meetyourstylist/ https://www.instagram.com/be_inspired_salon/   BECOME A MEET YOUR STYLIST SALON! https://www.meetyourstylist.com/   HERE’S THE LINK TO OUR PRIVATE GROUP PAGE! https://www.facebook.com/groups/370912749922331/   OUR COMPANY WEBSITES http://www.beyondthetechnique.com/ https://www.meetyourstylist.com/ http://www.beinspiredsalon.com/home.aspx http://www.katiwhitledge.com/   BUY OUR BOOK! Build Your Best Team This Year CHECK OUT ROSY SALON SOFTWARE! https://www.rosysalonsoftware.com/free-trial?referrerCode=bangs845   CONTACT BEAUTY BACKBONE! https://beautybackbone.com/product/beauty-backbone-education-system/   ALEX’S RESOURCES BOOKS: Reality-Based Leadership (for leaders) https://reality-based-leadership.myshopify.com/collections/books/products/reality-based-leadership-book   Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace (core mindset to be happy and successful regardless of circumstances in life) https://reality-based-leadership.myshopify.com/collections/books/products/reality-based-rules-of-the-workplace-book   No Ego (how to operate a drama-free salon and lead teams beyond ego) https://reality-based-leadership.myshopify.com/collections/books/products/no-ego-book   FULL Reality-Based Leadership Podcast overview: Itunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/full-overview-of-the-reality-based-leadership-philosophy/id1375784986?i=1000415116442&mt=2   Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Pr05S7Fo8QPjxyahaZ8hW   Google Play: https://play.google.com/music/listen?u=0#/ps/Iw2ilkr3t4rjt25n6k2zzz6n3ee   TOOLS: Edit Your Story (reduces stress in the moment) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mXLIzgjKrUw&feature=youtu.be   Leaders can introduce the cost of drama using the Employee Value Equation Self-Assessment: https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/2018-Employee-Value-Equation.pdf   CONNECT WITH ALEX: Learn more about Alex and Reality-Based Leadership or hire him to come speak to your teams. https://www.realitybasedleadership.com/meet-our-team/alex-dorr/   Facebook | Twitter | Instagram | YouTube | Podcast

We’ve all heard the phrase “save the drama for your mama” but it seems like people save the drama for their workplaces. If there’s one thing that’s constant in the workplace is drama and today’s guest, Alex Dorr, has the research to back it. At Reality Based Leadership, they have found the average employee spends 2½ hours a day in drama, which is a form of mental and emotional waste in the workplace. But Alex knows it doesn’t have to be this way. He envisions a world where work is effortless, and teams are drama-free. Standing side-by-side since 2015 with NY Times Bestselling author and thought leader Cy Wakeman, Alex collaborates with organizations and leaders globally to help them ditch the drama from the workplace, hardwire accountability in their teams and turn excuses into results.  In this interview, Alex defines Reality Based Leadership and the three ways drama seeps into organizations.  He tells us what to do with the drama queens and kings in our organization, how ego plays a role in the drama and leaves us with a tangible tip. Alex gives a process (SBAR) to help steer people away from drama and he offers questions to ask to shut down the drama. This jam-packed interview offers a ton of value. In fact, before I published this interview, I shared his interview with a leader at a drama filled office. If you’ve ever been around drama at work (and who hasn’t?), this interview will help you shut it down. Thank you to our sponsor, Workplace Money Coach. Workplace Money Coach’s 4-week, Living Paycheck to Purpose financial empowerment program, helps employees address the root causes of their financial challenges so they can better align their financial choices with their purpose and the life goals that matter most to them. You can find out more at http://www.workplacemoneycoach.com/. For links mentioned in today's episode visit: http://bit.ly/Redesignpod To join the Redesigning Wellness Community visit:https://www.facebook.com/groups/rdwellnesscommunity/

Many people are searching for ways to increase their confidence as a leader, but find themselves holding back. In a recent session of mine, an attendee loved the content but didn't know how to confidently give the techniques a try and wanted some advice. This episode breaks down my thinking on how to truly increase your confidence with some simple techniques and mindset shifts. So many people believe most of your confidence comes from being competent and building skills. Once those skills are built up enough, then you can finally say that you are confident right? But time and time again, I know exactly what to do and how to execute something and then my confidence still waivers. In this episode, I give you some practical strategies to start increasing your confidence as a leader. I argue that much of your confidence comes from understanding the mechanics of your mind and how your stories really decrease your confidence if you don't question them. I loved this topic that the attendee brought up at my session and it was a blast thinking through my current beliefs on confidence and how to build it as a leader. I mentioned I would link the Reality-Based Leadership tools that have given me the confidence to address about any challenge in front of a group I am speaking with. I truly believe if every leader was grounded and fluent in this playlist of tools that they would remain in a constant state of confidence. They are FREE for you to check out and learn! Hope you enjoy this episode and pass it on to anybody else you think it can help. Let's keep the drama free movement rolling! Thank you guys. - Alex If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below: Twitter Instagram Facebook For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel. If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more.

The Reality-Based Leadership philosophy really resonates for so many people. It reveals some universal truths and actions steps to start living a drama-free life both at work and at home. However, the ego and the human condition can play tricks on us and often causes some common challenges when first starting to try out the techniques and ideas. Be aware of these as you begin your journey! I feel this is one of the most important episodes I've created to date because if you are starting to believe that you "get it" and others don't when it comes to ditching the drama, you are actually being introduced to the next evolution of your ego that returns you back to judging and not helping. That ego is so sophisticated. This episode is meant to streamline you through the next phase of development as you are practicing the Reality-Based Leadership philosophy and feeling what it is like to have less drama in your life. This will help you sustain that momentum so far! Understanding these 5+ common mistakes that people run into once becoming fans and practitioners of the philosophy will help you jump the next level of drama and emotional expensiveness you can get into. So give these some good thought, attention and self-reflection as you continue your learning. If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below: Twitter Instagram Facebook For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel. If you'd love for me to speak at your next event you can check out my Speaker's Page to learn more. Let's keep ditching the drama.

Welcome to another episode of No Ego! In keeping with our new format, this week is a solo episode with me. Next week we'll be back with another great guest, so be sure to stay tuned for that. On this episode today, I'm telling you guys "how to start" - where do you begin with the Reality-Based Leadership philosophy and how can you start implementing it?  Have you tuned into Season 2 of my Q&A show Life's Messy, Live Happy? I'm answering fan questions - and you can submit one too! Check it out here: facebook.com/lifesmessylivehappy

In this episode, I take clips from three strong women in business, mash them together and put them into one great "masterclass" podcast. The first clip is from Kristen Hadeed, the Founder and CEO of Student Maid and author of "Permission To Screw Up".  She talks about her growth mindset and how to lead with authenticity. The second clip is from Annie Matthews, a personal mentor of mine and the VP Sales at TechTarget.  She talks about why you should love what you do - and what to do if you don't love it. The final clip is from Cy Wakeman, Founder and CEO of Reality-Based Leadership, keynote speaker and NY Times bestselling author of "No Ego".  She talks about how to remove ego and spread positivity on a daily basis. Enjoy!   Listen Here: iTunes Google Play Stitcher Sign up for the weekly Millennial Momentum Newsletter. No BS, All hustle

In this episode, I take clips from three strong women in business, mash them together and put them into one great "masterclass" podcast. The first clip is from Kristen Hadeed, the Founder and CEO of Student Maid and author of "Permission To Screw Up".  She talks about her growth mindset and how to lead with authenticity. The second clip is from Annie Matthews, a personal mentor of mine and the VP Sales at TechTarget.  She talks about why you should love what you do - and what to do if you don't love it. The final clip is from Cy Wakeman, Founder and CEO of Reality-Based Leadership, keynote speaker and NY Times bestselling author of "No Ego".  She talks about how to remove ego and spread positivity on a daily basis. Enjoy!   Listen Here: iTunes Google Play Stitcher Sign up for the weekly Millennial Momentum Newsletter. No BS, All hustle

As you might notice by now, this new season of No Ego is special in that every other episode is a guest, while the episodes in between are me solo. This new format is meant to showcase all the different angles and philosophies of Reality-Based Leadership, but also bring fresh topics and perspectives from people in my network. Today's episode is going to get into the nitty-gritty of buy-in: why it isn't optional, what it truly means to be bought in, and how you can best introduce the concept into your workplace and worldplace.  Want more from me? There are so many places I share amazing content! Find me all over social media:  facebook.com/cywakeman instagram.com/cywakeman youtube.com/cywakeman

Dr. Heidi and Cy Wakeman, President and Founder of Reality-Based Leadership, talk restoring sanity to the workplace. Cy Wakeman is a drama researcher, global thought-leader, and New York Times best-selling author who is recognized for cultivating a counter-intuitive, reality-based approach to leadership. Backed by 20 years of experience, Wakeman’s philosophy offers a new lens through which employees and executives alike, can shift their attention inward, sharpen their focus on personal accountability, and uncover their natural state of innovation simply by ditching the drama. Deemed “the secret weapon to restoring sanity to the workplace,” Wakeman has helped companies such as Pfizer, Facebook, Caterpillar, New York Presbyterian, Catholic Health Initiatives, Eli Lilly, Keurig Green Mountain, and Nationwide learn to harness energy wasted in workplace drama and reinvest that effort into achieving profound business results. Cy Wakeman has been featured on the TODAY Show, the AskGaryVee Show with Gary Vaynerchuk, Business Insider, SHRM.com, Forbes.com, The Huffington Post, and many more. In 2018, she was voted both Top 100 Leadership Expert to follow on Twitter and #10 on the Global Guru’s list of Top 30 Leadership Professionals. Website: http://www.realitybasedleadership.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CyWakeman Twitter ID: @CyWakeman Instagram : @CyWakeman This episode is brought to you by my wellbeing tech of choice, Oska Pulse. It has helped relieve my chronic pain caused by Lyme disease so that I can get back to work, and life in general. Oska Pulse is a Pain Relief and Recovery Device using Pulsed Electromagnetic Field Therapy (PEMF). It creates an electromagnetic field that pulsates while it modulates the damaged cells to squeeze the toxins out and opens the cells to allow nutrients (potassium, sodium and magnesium) to flow into the cell. The Oska Pulse puts the damaged cells in the best situation to repair themselves and then replicates the electrical signals your body creates to fix the damaged cells.   Click here to get yours today with my Ambassador discount. Or enter 2BU as a discount code at OskaWellness.com ShortLink is http://bit.ly/EDS-Oska

Cy Wakeman is an international keynote speaker, business consultant, New York Times best-selling author, and psychologist. She helps people around the world ditch the drama and turn excuses into results. Naturally, Laurie is a total fangirl. Today, Cy and Laurie talk about how to get the best out of people, whether or not you really NEED leaders, and what the future of work looks like for all of us. Cy has a great strategy for getting clients in the door and to help them take all the negative energy at work and turn it around to positive results based on new actions: she gives her stuff away for free. The individuals who learn from her content then turn around and put the pressure on their leaders to bring her in to do work, and she gets great results. Cy has an interesting take on work NOT being broken. Work, she says, is our reality, and whether or not we succeed in it is up to us. Cy explains the parts of work that are lacking, from leadership to HR, and it all has to do with the people, not the construct. If you’re keen on learning about leadership, you’ve probably noticed there are a million different people speaking and teaching about it. But have you stopped to actually listen to their messages? Sounds a lot like pop psychology, feel-good stuff that, unfortunately, doesn’t really address the problems. Cy shares her take on the current trend of ‘best practices’ and why understanding the human condition is the most important thing you can do, leader or not. You’ve probably heard people talking about the ability to bring your ‘whole self’ to work. Cy disagrees; instead, she urges you to bring your ‘most evolved’ self to work. In fact, Cy doesn’t think you should bring your whole self anywhere, and she explains why you need to be fit for duty beyond the tasks you undertake. Leadership has evolved over the years. In modern times, we’re more concerned with purpose and engagement. Cy shares a surprising insight: engagement without accountability creates entitlement. And more importantly, happiness at work isn’t up to leaders. Cy’s years as a therapist come to bear when she says that a relationship like that is co-dependency and isn’t healthy, and you end up losing the best employees. You need to be willing to pick favorites when it comes to your employees: there are the high and low accountables. High and low performers, and according to Cy, too much attention has been given to low accountables to try to keep them engaged. Cy explains why this is the opposite of what it should be. Can low accountables become high accountables? Sometimes. But is it the responsibility of the organization to make it happen? No. It might seem like a tough choice to make, but Cy believes that a business should instead focus on making themselves a place where high accountables want to work. In fact, there isn’t a shortage of talent, and Cy explains why. You don’t have to harm people and harm the environment to make a profit. That’s a load of bologna according to Cy. Instead, we need to focus on ‘pure profit.’ It’s not what you think. Cy reveals exactly what that means and how businesses can be sustainable without hurting the world. Community has been a buzzword for a while now, whether you’re talking about regionality or groups online. How healthy are the communities in which you find yourself? As a psychologist, Cy has a great message about what makes a healthy community and what makes hers thrive, even with millennials. Cy has a vision for the future of work and what you need to remember is this: it’s not something that’s going to happen TO us. It’s something we need to do for ourselves. It’s where we go beyond ego, salary, title, and all the other things that seem so important to us now. How and why should we do it? Cy shares what drives her to do the work she does. With the future of work being AI and automation, we’re left wondering if the future holds any place for heart and for love. Laurie poses the question to Cy, and she’s got a very heart-centered answer for you. And it all comes back to people and the concept of ego. The DIY HR Handbook Wouldn't you love to get your hands on Laurie's no-holds-barred, honest DIY HR Handbook for employees and pros alike? Download it for free! Cy Wakeman Find her @cywakeman everywhere on the Internet! Reality-Based Leadership: http://www.realitybasedleadership.com/  Life's Messy Live Happy Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/LifesMessyLiveHappy/ No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results https://amzn.to/2uqfPGc   Reality-Based Leadership: Ditch the Drama, Restore Sanity to the Workplace, and Turn Excuses into Results https://amzn.to/2ul0tTg

Episode 176 is live! This week, we talk with Cy Wakeman in Omaha, Nebraska. Cy is the President of her company, Reality-Based Leadership. She is an international keynote speaker, drama researcher & New York Times best-selling author who has spent more than 25 years cultivating a revolutionary approach to leadership. On today's episode, Cy shares: What you can do to cut down on the drama in your workplace What you can do if you're switching jobs and you're looking for less drama How work drama can impact us emotionally Listen and learn more! You can play the podcast here, or download it on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. To learn more about Cy's work, visit her website at http://www.realitybasedleadership.com/. Thank YOU for listening! If you've enjoyed the show today, don't forget to help me out. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts! When you subscribe, it helps to make the show easier for other listeners to find -- and to get great free job search advice!

Here it is you guys! The entire Reality-Based Leadership philosophy in one episode. Many have asked for a full overview with stories and examples to bring the ditch the drama philosophy altogether and this is it. Ready to recapture the 2 hours per day per person that is lost to drama at work? Listen in! Reality-Based Leadership is a revolutionary leadership philosophy calling for an entirely new role for the leader. Leaders have traditionally been responsible for inspiring others, for motivating others, for engaging others or making their people buy-in. The problem? These are personal choices by the individual and cannot even be the role for the leader. The role of the leader in today's reality is not to inspire or to motivate another - the true role of the modern leader is to help eliminate emotional waste (drama) from the workplace by facilitating good mental processes. Businesses have laser-focus on eliminating waste from their workplaces with good processes improvement. If you want to eliminate mental/emotional waste from the workplace (2 hours per day in our stats per person) you must be able to facilitate good mental processes and hold people accountable to using these good mental processes that will lead to happiness, high engagement and results. Learning and practicing the Reality-Based Leadership philosophy will help people recognize the one thing that unites us all and causes us to default into drama - our human condition. By working to overcome our own human condition and helping others to do the same we will start to lead teams that quickly recognize when they are in drama and help each other get into better mental processes to recapture that precious energy and use it towards better ROI. In this podcast you will learn: How the human condition leads us to stress and stepping down instead of stepping up The New Employee Value Equation and the role emotional expensiveness plays in the value we add Ways in which drama arises in our daily interactions and how to quickly redirect that energy into a better ROI How happiness is a choice when you understand personal accountability Reality-Based Thinking and the importance of not believing everything you think What it truly means to be aligned to your organization and how to add value in your role at work How to drive for results and succeed in spite of the circumstances you believe are holding you back. BREAKING DOWN THE PHILOSOPHY BY TOPIC: Part 1 - 21:27 (Introduction to RBL and Drama) Part 2 - 31:23 (Troublesome Trends and Your Human condition) Part 3 - 47:49 (Why You Should Lead First, Manage Second) Part 4 - 102:54 (New Employee Value Equation and the Role of the Modern Leader) Part 5 - 124:28 (More Happiness With Personal Accountability) Part 6 - 138:48 (Less Stress with Reality-Based Thinking) Part 7 - 152:16 (Truly Buy-In with Organizational Alignment) Part 8 - 211:07 (Start Capitalizing on Changing Times) Part 9 - 218:07 (Succeed in Spite of Your Circumstances) Here is a link to download the Edit Your Story Tool I mentioned in this podcast to relieve stress and help with venting. The Negative Brainstorming Activity is great when teams are struggling with change even though a decision has been made in your organization. Want to calculate your own Employee Value Equation? Here is the link to see where you are at. Was your level of emotional expensiveness higher than you realized? If you are interested in having me speak at your event or conduct a training with your team you can check out my speaker page here. I hope you love this one! If it was helpful for you please share it with a friend, family member, a colleague or your entire team. If you have any feedback or questions let's continue the discussion at any of the places below: Twitter Instagram Facebook For more of my videos and behind-the-scenes footage of my keynotes and speaking engagements check out my YouTube Channel. Let's keep ditching the drama.

This week I'm bringing you a treat: two episodes of the No Ego podcast! Please join me for my first ever bonus episode - I sat down with Alex and Kelli, two of the amazing speakers from Reality-Based Leadership, to talk about what to do when you're not consulted. People automatically assume that when they're asked to work on something, they will be consulted. We break down why that's not the case and why they should give the gift of their work anyway. Don't forget to leave a review if you love this podcast! Those reviews mean a lot to us and help us tremendously.  Want more of my content? Find me here: facebook.com/cywakeman instagram.com/cywakeman youtube.com/cywakeman

Episode #28 - Book Report Reality Based Leadership by Cubicle Insanity

Cy Wakeman joins the show to discuss her Reality Based Leadership program. Cy is a dynamic international keynote speaker, business consultant, New York Times bestselling author, and global thought leader with over 25 years experience cultivating a revolutionary new approach to leadership. Grounded in reality, Wakeman’s philosophy has helped organizations and individuals all over the world learn to ditch the drama and turn excuses into results.Wakeman’s professional journey began when she was promoted to her first management position in the late 1980’s. Rather than forcing ineffective, conventional management practices into her workplace, Wakeman began developing and teaching her employees a reality-based mindset, one that is founded in personal accountability. What she discovered was inspiring – her employees were not only motivated to succeed, but they were also driven to deliver results, adept to change, and emanate happiness on the job. Inspired to help others transform their organizations and their work, Wakeman began consulting and training. Today, she visits more than 200 companies each year, empowering employees and executives alike to take control of and invest in their work.Wakeman’s newest book, No Ego, points out that Ego-driven behaviors are the #1 source of drama in workplaces today, and it’s costing organizations billions annually. The philosophy of “perfecting the environment” to create employee engagement just feeds the ego and generates huge amounts of drama and emotional waste. It is high time for a modern leadership philosophy that provides simple tools and techniques to eliminate drama from our organizations, deliver up employees who say yes to what’s next, and cultivate accountability, not engagement, to drive big business results.www.cywakeman.com

Cy Wakeman (@cywakeman) is the founder of Reality Based Leadership. She wrote a book called No Ego. No Ego is a leadership book, which is an unusual read for me since I'm a solopreneur, but I couldn't put it down. You might hear me talk about ego from time to time. I think my conversation with Ryan Holiday back on episode 31 was the first time I was really thinking about ego. He wrote the book Ego is the Enemy. Since then I've come to realize that ego is the number one enemy that can hold you back from reaching your creative potential. Your ego will keep you from being accountable to yourself and what you want to accomplish. It will direct your attention outside of you, and cause you to blame others. It will cause you to make limiting excuses for yourself. But if you're able to bypass your own ego, something magical happens. You start to concentrate on what you can control. You start to see a connection between your actions and the results you get. This is what I loved so much about Cy's book, No Ego. It's a powerful book for keeping ego from ruining your workplace, but at the same time it's a powerful book for keeping ego from ruining yourself and sabotaging your own potential. Love Your Work now an Alexa Skill! To add the Love Your Work skill to your Amazon Echo, say "Alexa, enable Love Your Work." It's very important, by the way to use the word "enable," and not "add." Also, you can search on the Alexa app, or visit kadavy.net/alexa New Short Read: How to Write a Book I just published a little "book." It's more of a pamphlet, really. It's a Kindle Short Read called "How to Write a Book." It will show you how to use self motivation to overcome writer's block and make your book real. Buy How to Write a Book at kadavy.net/wab. Again, that's kadavy.net/wab Donate on Patreon Supporters are currently covering more than half of production costs for Love Your Work. Support the show, get early access to episodes, as well as bonus masterclasses and office hours with me. Sign up at kadavy.net/donate. Feedback? Questions? Comments? I love to hear anything and everything from you. Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Tweet at me @kadavy, or email me david@kadavy.net.     Sponsors http://skillshare.com/loveyourwork Show Notes: http://kadavy.net/blog/posts/cy-wakeman-podcast/

Today's essay is about the power of taking your own advice. I've got an interview coming up next week with Cy Wakeman (@cywakeman). Cy is the founder of "Reality Based Leadership." She wrote a book called No Ego, which I thoroughly enjoyed. Today's essay is based upon a quote from that book. Love Your Work now an Alexa Skill! To add the Love Your Work skill to your Amazon Echo, say "Alexa, enable Love Your Work." It's very important, by the way to use the word "enable," and not "add." Also, you can search on the Alexa app, or visit kadavy.net/alexa New Short Read: How to Write a Book I just published a little "book." It's more of a pamphlet, really. It's a Kindle Short Read called "How to Write a Book." It will show you how to use self motivation to overcome writer's block and make your book real. Buy How to Write a Book at kadavy.net/wab. Again, that's kadavy.net/wab Donate on Patreon Supporters are currently covering more than half of production costs for Love Your Work. Support the show, get early access to episodes, as well as bonus masterclasses and office hours with me. Sign up at kadavy.net/donate. Feedback? Questions? Comments? I love to hear anything and everything from you. Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Tweet at me @kadavy, or email me david@kadavy.net.     Show Notes: http://kadavy.net/blog/posts/take-your-own-advice-podcast/

Cy Wakeman is a dynamic international keynote speaker, business consultant, New York Times bestselling author, and global thought leader with over 25 years experience cultivating a revolutionary new approach to leadership.  She is the CEO and Founder of Reality Based Leadership.  Named one of the “Top 100 Leadership Experts to Follow” on twitter, Wakeman’s influence continues to build. Participants consistently rank her programs as the single most impactful training they have ever received. Wakeman’s newest book, No Ego, points out that Ego-driven behaviors are the #1 source of drama in workplaces today, and it’s costing organizations billions annually. Enjoy listening in on this fun conversation between Cy and Lou.   *** Connect with Lou - loudiamond.net Subscribe to Thrive LOUD - thriveloud.com  

Cy Wakeman is an international keynote speaker, business consultant and New York Times bestselling author. Her books Reality-Based Leadership, Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace and No Ego teaches people how to turn excuses into results and transform unhappy employees into accountable, successful members of the workforce. 

Cy Wakeman is a dynamic international keynote speaker, business consultant, New York Times bestselling author, and global thought leader with over 25 years experience cultivating a revolutionary new approach to leadership. Her newest and most anticipated book, No Ego.

Cy Wakeman is a dynamic international keynote speaker, business consultant, New York Times bestselling author, and global thought leader with over 25 years experience cultivating a revolutionary new approach to leadership.   Named one of the “Top 100 Leadership Experts to Follow” on twitter, Wakeman’s influence continues to build. Participants consistently rank her programs as the single most impactful training they have ever received.   An expert blogger on FastCompany.com, Forbes.com and The Huffington Post, Wakeman’s ideas have been featured on the TODAY Show, The Social, The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Business Insider, Huffington Post, The Daily Muse, Success.com, and SHRM.com.   She’s written three books, Reality-Based Leadership, The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace and the newly released: No Ego: How Leaders Can Cut the Cost of Workplace Drama, End Entitlement, and Drive Big Results.   In No Ego, she points out that Ego-driven behaviors are the #1 source of drama in workplaces today, and it’s costing organizations billions annually. She says the philosophy of “perfecting the environment” to create employee engagement just feeds the ego and generates huge amounts of drama and emotional waste.   This was an enjoyable free flowing conversation on a hectic book launch day for Cy and we covered a lot of ground and there are lots of takeaways from this conversation.   In particular, expect to learn: Why the ego can keep us from achieving our professional and personal goals How to silence our ego Why elaborate employee engagements programs may be a source of entitlement and can actually be detrimental to company performance   All topics discussed: Cy’s new book, No Ego Why our organisations must be in a constant change of readiness How the ego keeps us from being our best How to silence our egos Why suffering is a choice The cost of emotional waste Why choosing to do one new thing each month makes us resilient How learning to say “yes” to more can be a source of growth The cost of drama in our organisations What the real cost of comparing ourselves to others is The power of depersonalisation What “BMW driving” is and how it applies to your company Don’t think change, think next Why employee engagement programs can be a bad thing Why we should stress accountability over engagement How to identify and attract emotionally inexpensive and effective employees Why a company’s or a person’s circumstances shouldn’t be used as an excuse   Show Notes: Cy’s website: Realitybasedleadership.com @cywakeman on Twitter and Instagram Cy on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChEOp127ZAQAz7MMarBmygA Cy on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CyWakeman/   Cy’s books on Amazon: No Ego: https://amzn.to/2x9xpPl Reality-Based Leadership: https://amzn.to/2NDSPhP The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace: https://amzn.to/2QoFY1x --- Listen on iTunes @ goo.gl/sMnEa0  Listen on Stitcher @ www.stitcher.com/podcast/future  Listen on Google Play @  bit.ly/FSGoog If you've got any questions on this podcast feel free to send an email to steve@collectivecamp.us or tweet me on Twitter @steveglaveski or @future_squared Follow me on Instagram: @thesteveglaveski Like us? It'd make our day if you took 1 minute to show some love on iTunes, Stitcher or Soundcloud by subscribing, sharing and giving us a 5 star rating. To sign up to our mailing list head to www.futuresquared.xyz For more information on Collective Campus, our innovation hub, school and consultancy based in Australia and Singapore check out www.collectivecamp.us

60-80% of all difficulties in an organization are caused by strained relationships between employees.   2 hours a day per employee is lost to employees complaining.  A typicla manager spends 25-40% of her time managing conflicts.     How do you ditch the drama?!  Rob Otrembiak of Cy Wakeman called in to share with Natalie and Marjorie the secrets of Reality Based Leadership.   To connect with Rob, go to Reality Leadership's Website, or find them on Facebook.   For healthcare industry related tips, text PEACE to 96000.   Connect with Us! Natalie on LinkedIn Marjorie on LinkedIn 501Crossroads on Facebook  

Everyone talks about personal accountability in the workplace, but few of us are confident that we have fully established accountability throughout our organizations. To help HR pros gain some concrete knowledge of personal accountability and why it’s important element of a successful organization, we’ve asked Kelli Hinshaw to join us. Kelli is VP of Strategic Development at Cy Wakeman, who provides actionable ways that change the way her audiences lead and approach their personal and work life. She leads Reality-Based Leadership consulting and training engagements across the United States, and she combines her business acumen with expertise in coaching individuals and teams to lead large scale M&A and business readiness projects, conduct strategic planning, and drive culture changes. She was awarded the Training Magazine “Emerging Training Leader Award” for her demonstrated leadership in developing, facilitating and generating strong ROI from her training programs. Kelli will be speaking on organizational readiness for change at BLR’s upcoming Advanced Employment Issues Symposium in Las Vegas in November. Learn more at aeisonliine.com. In this podcast, Kelli addresses topics such as: • The elements of the competency of accountability • How to determine if a job candidate demonstrates personal accountability • “Hardwiring” accountability throughout an organization • The connection between accountability and engagement • How to measure accountability

LearnChair Radio host Bob Dragone talks with speaker, author and coach Cy Wakeman about the principles of Reality-Based Leadership. Cy explains how she came upon her unique approach to leadership development and how it allows an organization's leaders to cut through the everyday drama of the workplace to deliver better results.  In the discussion, Cy steps us through how Reality-Based Leadership is about becoming the revolutionary new type of leader needed today—one who can change the way people think about and perceive their circumstances. A Reality-Based Leader deals with the facts, clarifies roles, gives clear and direct feedback, instills accountability, and helps others focus their efforts on their contribution (and not on the drama!).  Cy gives examples of success in the workplace and how leaders she has worked with have increased productivity through her methods.  Cy's opinion that a leader requires empathy rather than sympathy is a notable addition to our list of characteristics for good leadership. j5x62cx2

CY WAKEMAN – REALITY BASED LEADERSHIP (PODCAST) by LEADER-OF-INTEREST RADIO

33voices interviews Cy Wakeman, author of Reality Based Leadership.

Join me and my guest Cy Wakeman. Cy advocates a revolutionary new approach to leadership: Reality-Based Leadership. Instead of working to perfect the circumstances of employees, she advocates a reality-based mindset in which employees can become bulletproof to anything that might happen, and they succeed and deliver results in spite of their circumstances. Cy’s groundbreaking ideas are featured in The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The New York Post and SHRM.com. Her podcasts and blogs are favorites and featured on FastCompany.com and Forbes.com. Cy was honored in Mumbai, India, with the prestigious World HRD Congress Outstanding Leadership Award for her achievements as a global thought leader in 2012. Her book, Reality Based Leadership – Ditch the Drama, Restore Sanity to the Workplace, & Turn Excuses Into Results is receiving rave reviews throughout the nation. Her new book The Reality-Based Rules of the Workplace is due Spring 2013. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices