Podcasts about Unconditional positive regard

Confidently handle any parenting situation! Start here: https://drlindsayemmerson.com/workshop In this video, I'll share five proven strategies for responding when your child says "I hate you" - words that leave many parents hurt and unsure how to react. As a parent, hearing this doesn't mean you've failed or that your relationship is ruined. You'll learn exactly how to handle these difficult moments in ways that actually strengthen your bond with your child. These practical techniques will help you respond effectively while turning a painful situation into an opportunity for connection. New to my podcast?  If you want to take the stress, frustration, and overwhelm out of parenting by learning how to promote better behavior in your child, you're in the right place.  I'm a clinical psychologist and Mom of 4, and I share the psychology-based strategies that I use to parent with intention and confidence. I help parents move from feeling exhausted and at wit's end, losing their cool, yelling, and wishing parenting was easier, to feeling calm and confident, effectively managing any challenging parenting situation, and actually enjoying time spent with their kids. The practical positive discipline tools I teach based on my 5 C's parenting framework can get you there. ------------------------------------------- Let's connect! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drlindsayemmerson TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drlindsayemmerson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/@drlindsayemmerson ------------------------------------------- Disclaimer: The advice provided on my channel is different from therapy and does not substitute for professional psychological treatment or other types of professional advice or intervention.  Never disregard the advice of a medical professional or postpone seeking professional medical advice related to anything you hear on this channel.   If you or your child have concerns or need further parenting or personal support, please contact a physician or other qualified local health professional.

Curious how you can build a strong, loving relationship with your child? Unconditional positive regard may be your answer. In this episode, Nicole Greene joins me to discuss her guiding beliefs that all people are worthy, all people deserve respect and all people deserve to be cared for.Nicole Greene is a National Board Certified Special Education Teacher. She is a member of the Council for Exceptional Children's Diversity Committee, a Board of Directors member for the CEC's New York Chapter, and an Ambassador for Teachers Unify to End Gun Violence. See all of the amazing work Nicole is doing on Instagram.Looking for a parenting transformation? I invite you to look at my⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Transforming the Toddler Years course⁠⁠.⁠ ⁠Let's turn the daily tantrums into teachable moments that align with your core values as you raise whole kids.May 20, 2025Episode 250How to Love Your Child Unconditionally Using Unconditional Positive Regard with Nicole GreeneAbout Your Host:Cara Tyrrell, M.Ed is mom to three girls, a Vermont based Early Childhood Educator and the founder of Core4Parenting. She is the passionate mastermind behind the Collaborative Parenting Methodology™, a birth-to-five, soul and science based framework that empowers toddler parents and educators  to turn tantrums into teachable moments. Through keynotes, teacher training, and her top-ranking podcast, Transforming the Toddler Years, she's teaching the 5 Executive Functioning Skills kids need to navigate our ever-changing world.Ready to raise world-ready kids who change the world? Visit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.caratyrrell.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠to begin your Collaborative Parenting journey!

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On this week's Keepin It Real, Cam reacts to a text from a friend about the hopelessness she feels today as a result of the new presidential administration. There are two sides to this, Cam says. And the healing must begin within. But it won't be easy. ----- There are those of you listening right now filled with anxiety and rage. You can't believe our nation is full of people who care so little for truth, honesty, and compassion. You can't believe that you know people, lots of people, who are willing to abandon truth, honesty, and compassion to win. This is not how you were taught to live as a child. These are not the lessons of Aesop's fables. There is nothing in the New Testament that says this is Ok. However, there are others of you out there equally mystified. “How can you not want this?” you're asking. How can you not see that our future, both each of us individually and as a nation, will be better? We're returning to dominance. We're getting rid of the cheaters and the thieves who have slipped in and are stealing opportunity from you and me. We're making them pay. We're righting wrongs. This is what this nation is about. This is who we are. We've strayed and we're now, finally, returning to who we should be. How can you not see this? No argument from either of you will win. No data will convince either of you of anything. No clever wording. No quoting the constitution. No biblical chapter or verse. Deadlocked. Both sides deadlocked. Anxiety and rage. Both sides. Dr Carl Rogers was an American Psychologist who, in 1982, was listed as the most influential psychotherapist in history. Of his many accomplishments, there is one practice of his that I'm using – well, that I'm trying to use – in my interactions with others. It's called Unconditional Positive Regard. It's a framework for listening and helping even with those whose opinions are diametrically opposite our own. It's a learned discipline and it's not easy. Unconditional Positive Regard assumes that this person in front of each of us has worth, this person in front of us can grow, they can change, they're eager to learn, they're curious, they are a person of value. Unconditional Positive Regard. You can see how this powerful outlook can benefit a therapist in their interactions with patients. You can see how someone hoping to pull the best out of another person, who still has hope for the other person, could and perhaps SHOULD engage them with a mindset of unconditional positive regard. It's hard, though. It's very hard. Especially when what some of you have seen of others brings this quote to mind: “When you worship power, compassion and mercy will look like sins.” To many of you that's what it looks like out there today. It's obvious to say, but compassion is not a sin. Mercy is not a sin. None of us should ever hold back on either. And perhaps for all of you listening right now filled with anxiety and rage, holding each other in unconditional positive regard might be step one in healing…ourselves. I'm Cam Marston, just trying to keep it real.

Keywords: birth plans, informed consent, birth preferences, healthcare communication, obstetric care, birth experience, birth trauma, obstetrics, patient care, unconditional positive regard, healthcare relationships In this conversation, Justine Leach, Ph.D. and Sarah Adelmann, L.M.H.C., discuss birth plans, emphasizing the need for a more holistic approach that incorporates the emotional and relational aspects of the birthing experience. Justine begins by sharing the findings of a recent article that asks whether the topics given to women on birth plan templates in Spain include what really matters to them. Justine and Sarah then critique the traditional focus on medical procedures and interventions, advocating for a shift towards understanding the feelings and emotional needs of birthing individuals. The discussion highlights the importance of informed consent, continuity of care, and the need for healthcare providers to foster a deeper connection with their patients to enhance the overall birthing experience. The conversation gets heated when Justine shares another article she read in preparation for the episode in which an obstetrician advocates for more flexibility from birth givers through creating birth preferences rather than birth plans. Justine and Sarah express their frustration with this obsterician's point of view and share their belief that his interpretation of the cause of challenging communication with patients and birth trauma is misplaced. The discussion highlights the significance of unconditional positive regard in healthcare and the necessity not only of creating better communication tools for birth givers to express their needs and concerns effectively, but also of providers understanding their role and responsibility in support birth givers in feeling seen, heard, and in control during birth. Artieta-Pinedo, I., Paz-Pascual, C., Garcia-Alvarez, A. et al. Does the birth plan match what is relevant to women? Preferences of Spanish women when giving birth. BMC Women's Health 24, 42 (2024). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12905-023-02856-5 Mohan, R., Abdalla, M. A reflective practice on difficult communication: an obstetrician's perspective on birth plan versus birth preferences. Discov Health Systems 3, 77 (2024). https://doi.org/10.1007/s44250-024-00129-y Takeaways Birth plans often overlook emotional and psychosocial aspects. Informed consent should be a standard practice in obstetric care. The structure of birth plans typically does not leave space for communicating emotional needs. There is a need for curiosity from providers about patients' preferences. It is not the responsibility of women and birthing people to be more flexible. Communication about fears and values is crucial in birth planning. The current system often fails to address the relational needs of patients. A shift in mindset is needed regarding the purpose of birth plans. Healthcare providers should prioritize understanding patients' emotional needs. Many patients have experienced trauma related to birth. Saying no to interventions does not indicate a difficult client. The perception of normal birth can vary greatly between providers and clients. Unconditional positive regard is a political stance in healthcare relationships. Clients often feel powerless in the healthcare system. Effective communication is key to improving birth experiences. Sound Bites "We should be communicating beyond just interventions." "What do I want to communicate with my team?" "The way we think about birth plans is missing a piece." "Our clients want to be seen, heard, and in control." "Having a client say no does not make them difficult." "There's nothing normal about birth." Chapters 00:00 Understanding Birth Plans: A Critical Examination 09:44 The Emotional Landscape of Birth Plans 20:14 Rethinking Birth Plans: From Procedures to Feelings 29:14 Understanding Birth Experiences and Communication 36:03 The Role of Providers in Birth Decisions 43:01 Unconditional Positive Regard in Care 47:47 Creating Better Communication Tools for Birth Givers On the Resilient Birth podcast, Justine and Sarah explore the impact of trauma across the perinatal period, from trying-to-conceive to pregnancy, from childbirth to postpartum and parenting. Through an inspirational quote that drives our weekly conversations about trauma and healing, Justine and Sarah explore topics such as birth trauma, parenting as a survivor, and finding healing with vulnerability and compassion that support birthing people and birth professionals. Each week, listeners leave with takeaways to utilize in their lives and/or clients. Justine and Sarah hold the stories they share with honor and respect with the hope to impart knowledge, increase understanding, and bear witness to this challenging topic. Sarah is a licensed mental health counselor, educator, and mom of three. She walks with a story of trauma from before and as a result of her perinatal experience. Justine supports survivors of trauma through perinatal coaching and childbirth education. As well as being a mother of three, she holds a Ph.D. on representations of consent and sexual violence. Learn more about Sarah and Justine's course called Trauma Informed Fundamentals here: https://resilient-birth.mykajabi.com/traumainformedfundamentals

In the hero's journey, the hero or heroine is called to adventure. Often in the form of a quest, a challenge, or an adversity.And often in unexpected ways.One of the things that's interesting about the heroes journey is that shortly after the call a helper enters the picture.A mentor, sage, guide, or a coach who helps the hero to navigate the adventure,as they strengthen themselves and ultimately transform in ways that allow them to meet their life from a wiser, more skillful, and often more responsive place. Today, we're bringing you the next episode in this new adventure on the Courageous Life - inspiring stories from everyday heroes and the helpers who walk beside them. I am thrilled to share another beautiful helpers conversation, with Liliana Öğün.Liliana is an Executive & Career Coach with more than 20 years of experience in leadership coaching, career coaching, and communication consulting. She holds a Master Certified Coach credential from the International Coach Federation. And since 2010 has been helping leaders across the globe enhance their productivity while maintaining work-life balance. Through coaching, she empowers her clients to raise their awareness and take personal accountability, leading to transformative changes in their careers and lives. For more on Liliana please visit surfingchange.comToday, we'll explore some of Liliana's journey:Including a personal story of her parents loss of one of their children, and how she and her sister navigated the experience together.  What she learned, and how the adversity shaped how she approaches her work today. Liliana will share more about how she “walks beside” her clients. Including meeting them with curiosity, unconditional positive regard, and challenging them to realize their potential.She'll offer tools and practices that have helped her clients to deepen awareness, and transform their relationship to themselves, and others. This conversation was beautiful.  Liliana showed again and again how she embodies the qualities she speaks of, and if you're looking for practical takeaways, you'll find she offers those as well.I hope you enjoy the time with her as much as I did. Did you find this conversation inspiring? Here are other episodes we think you'll love:Building a future starts with feeling seen with Hayley PhilanderEmbracing the journey from 'doing' to 'being' with Amy Dong Enjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts.   Thanks for listening!Support the Show.

In this episode of The Child Anxiety FAQ, we challenge the notion of avoiding distress and emphasizes the importance of helping children learn to cope with discomfort, a fundamental tool in managing anxiety. We explore the difference between punishment and consequences, emphasizing the effectiveness of logical consequences in guiding children's decision-making. We also discuss the role of shame in parenting anxious children and offer insights on utilizing time-out as a protective measure rather than a punishment. Join us as we unravel effective strategies for setting limits and consequences while nurturing our anxious children without causing undue distress or shame.

I played '7 Things' by Miley Cyrus and felt like I REALLY HEARD IT FOR THE FIRST TIME. Shout out to transforming mental dialogue. In this episode we're doing what we do best: asking questions to ask more questions. I'll be attempting to ask the age old question: "why are you studying counselling?", then take you through some of the insights. Like why asking why is usually the wrong question to ask (excuse ME??), person-centered therapy, paraphrasing, Carl Rogers' unconditional positive regard, and the challenge of maintaining empathy without enabling. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Miss you dearly!! Bye for now!

Unconditional positive regard, a concept introduced by Carl Rogers, emphasizes accepting and supporting clients without judgment regardless of what the client says or does. We have thoughts!Join us on October 26th for our 1-day conference in beautiful North Vancouver. For more information, visit EventBrite and search Edge of the Couch. Secure your spot before June 30th for an early bird ticket! See you there!

Unconditional Positive Regard is different from Unconditional Love. Here is a little insight into the differences and how you might cultivate UPR as a way of processing life.

Walking around the park behind the hospital thinking about unconditional positive regard this lunchtime plus a note from Gaynor and Tati and Pippin the dog. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/walkthepod/message

In this Solocast, we discuss what the 3 basic psychological needs are, the importance of 'The Weekend Effect', how you can improve your sense of autonomy, how to implement Unconditional Positive Regard in your relationships and much more... Chapters 0:00 Show Intro 1:19 The 3 Basic Psychological Needs 6:19 The Weekend Effect 11:14 Need 1: Autonomy  20:19 How to Increase Your Autonomy 32:09 Need 2: Competence 38:04 How to Increase Your Competence 51:14 Need 3: Relatedness 52:04 How to Increase Your Relatedness 1:07:19 Next Steps To view TMWBC on Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@thementalwellbeingshow To view TMWBC on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/tmwbcollege/reels/ To view TMWBC on Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@tmwbcpodcast Further Resources “Weekends, work, and well-being: Psychological need satisfactions and day of the week effects on mood, vitality, and physical symptoms” by Ryan et. al. (2010) “A Meta-analysis of the effectiveness of intervention programs designed to support autonomy” by Su and Reeve (2011) “Cortisol reactivity to a teacher's motivating style: the biology of being controlled versus supporting autonomy” by Reeve & Tseng (2011) “Autonomous motivation for therapy: A new common factor in brief treatments for depression” by Zuroff et. al. (2007) “Workplace Motivation & Wellbeing” with Prof. Anja Olafsen - https://youtu.be/eWNL8zJMtvU?si=jwKEXWLBzKPiFlIg “Attachment-Based Parenting” with Dr. Dave Pasalich https://youtu.be/xJOYulYL-HU?si=UqEE9q8-1l9YWdrs “Parent influences on children's school-related self-system process” by Grollnick & Wellborn (1988) “The emotional and academic consequences of parental conditional regard: comparing conditional positive regard, conditional negative regard, and autonomy support as parenting practices” by Roth et. al. (2009) “A Test of Self-Determination Theory in the Exercise Domain” by Edmunds et. al. (2006)“The Ordinal Effects of Ostracism: A Meta-Analysis of 120 Cyberball Studies” by Williams et. al. (2015) 

In today's episode I'm interviewing Dr. Jessica Higgins. Jessica is a Licensed Psychologist and Licensed Professional Counselor. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and a M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She is also a certified Dream Builder Coach and Life Mastery Consultant. Jessica offers an integrative and comprehensive blend of psychology and coaching. She specializes in helping couples shift and transform their ways of relating, guiding them on a path from confusion and heartache to clarity and authentic connection. She is also the founder and creator of Connected Couple, a comprehensive, research-based, transformational, relationship program. This program helps couples at any stage in their relationship or marriage. Today we talk about how to achieve new levels of success, meaning, and aliveness in our relationships. From a very young age Jessica had an inclination towards people, and by the time she was in junior high she knew she wanted to become a psychologist. A few years later, after going through her own relationship struggles, she started to go deeper in her own personal journey and felt very inspired and motivated to help people have access to more relationship principles that cultivate lasting love and long-term intimacy. Healthy Relationships Have Health Benefits Studies show that being in a healthy relationship or having a companion in life can actually improve our longevity. Attachment is the emotional connection that we form as infants with our main caregivers. According to this attachment theory, the healthier the bonding and relationship we had with them the better our relationships with other people will be throughout our lives. There are also FMRI studies that show how someone holding the hand of a loved one, like a significant partner, will experience less pain, so there's a sense of resilience when we can have that partnership. There is also evidence of better recovery rates in hospitals when people have significant partners with them. There are so many benefits physiologically and psychologically that we experience from being partnered. From cradle to grave we are wired to need this bonding. It is as necessary as breathing - we need connection. How Relationships and Intimacy Can Trigger Past Trauma We all have an attachment system, meaning the way that we are going to think about others in the world and how people are going to respond to us. It is affected by whether we feel safe and our needs are met. It's intellectual, so our mental thinking and our beliefs, but it's also physiological, like our nervous system, as well as emotional. So, it's really this whole triad in the working model and that gets developed at a very young age. Zero to three are the formative years and it's the relational imprint of you. This comes through the patterning of how people responded to us, if our caregivers were responsive, if they showed up for us when we cried, if they were attuned and available, etc. Or maybe they were overwhelmed or under unfortunate circumstances if there's been abuse in the family lineage. So, if we fast forward, people can have insecure attachment tendencies in adulthood if they didn't get exposure to consistent care givers in childhood. One of the ways this may show up is by being protective. They turn away from relationships, rely on themselves, and not reach out to others for help. When caregiving was inconsistent, another possibility is to be more anxious in relationships and doing more double checking for connection, such as saying “Are we still good, is everything stable, are you still with me?” That's a hypervigilance tendency. For both of these attachment styles, the studies and medical findings show that there's a lot of activation. It doesn't look like it on the outside. It can look a little indifferent, but what's happening inside the person is the heart rates increases and all the physiological symptoms of stress. So, it doesn't feel relaxed and calm and secure when connecting with another person. It's interesting to notice that these activation responses don't occur with all relationships. It tends to occur in our most intimate relationships. The nervous system sees our close relationships as necessary for survival, so one might say the nervous system is going to respond similarly to being chased by a bear. The nervous system might get triggered just as much if, for example, your husband is giving you a look and is upset with you and having an issue with you. So, that threat happens when we are deeply committed, and we get vulnerable, and if the stakes are higher, like having children together. Whatever it is that intensifies that connection is going to affect our nervous system and our attachment system gets more activated. That's when those previous insecurities might emerge and we might be surprised by them. Stages of Intimacy There are various stages in the development of intimacy. The first stage is the romance stage or even referred to as the honeymoon stage, and it's highly fueled by neurochemicals, like dopamine and oxytocin. They get us in that super excited high and we tend to over romanticize, and project and imagine who they are, but we really don't really know them yet. After 9 to 18 months we enter into the second stage, which is the power struggle stage. This is the place where we are like, “oh, that's how you do that?” or feeling the upset of the differences. At this stage we're working on how we understand each other, how we learn what we're both feeling, and how we can work together. But oftentimes many of us don't know how to do conflict very well. Conflict feels threatening, and all these things are emerging, and it can be difficult to sift through. Navigating The Complexity of Conflict One of the biggest traps we can fall into is when we might have certain expectations that aren't being communicated clearly. So, for instance, say there's a heated discussion. Partner A grew up in a family where there was a sense of connection. During a disagreement, it might get a little charged or people might yell but they all know they love each other so they're going to repair to get to a better place. Then there is Partner B, whose family is a group where they're not going to say anything hurtful and they're not going to speak in any tone that has any ounce of upset. They might pause before talking to be more regulated, or sometimes maybe they don't come back, and they don't talk about things at all. We have to recognize these very different orientations to know how to address a conflict. There are 7 to 8 irreconcilable differences that every couple has. That could be ‘the spender' and ‘the saver', ‘the planner' and ‘the spontaneous one', it could be ‘the social one' and ‘the introvert', or it could be ‘the one that's on time' and ‘the one that's always late'. We have to be able to see all these differences when we're living life together and be willing to works towards communicating our needs and trust our partner will do the same. How to Be More Curious When Conflict Feels Like Criticism The core of most disagreements is that people don't feel heard, and then they aren't feeling like they're able to collaborate and work together for a win-win. It is very common for us to describe the thing that we do not like and hope that our partner will be able to interpret and understand what we are feeling and needing. But that's a lot of decoding that most of us do not know how to do. If it's not a clear signal most people are not going to give what you're asking of them. It's not an easy thing to access, but if we can slow down and say “I wonder what he/she is feeling” or “I wonder what he/she needs right now?” because it's not about him/her criticizing me, it's about there's something happening for him/her that he/she wants and I'm not actually hearing it. So, we could prompt our partner to uncover what might really be at the core of it with questions like, “Well what's this about?” or “Can you tell me about what you're wanting?” or “How does this have value for you?” and then hopefully this will reveal the real feeling underneath the perceived criticism. When we express the feeling that is driving our usual first commentary, our partner – if they are the right partner -- will want to show up for that. No one is interested in showing up for a negative critique, but if we can understand what the other person needs, we can then pivot towards that. That's where the win-win starts to come in, but that's hard to get at when we don't slow down and identify and reveal, and then start to work with those deeper layers. Regulating Your Body can Have a Huge Impact on Having Regulated Relationships If we can support the nervous system to feel more regulated, then we can have access to have more productive conversations. Also, if there's past experiences or trauma and we haven't experienced safety in these types of conversations, then it makes perfect sense that there's going to be a lot of activation around perceived conflict. There's a concept in psychology and neuroscience where our nervous systems are constantly harmonizing and picking up information from the people around us. So, if the tone of voice changes or the facial expressions and nonverbals being perceived, we might not know why, but we'll feel the agitation of that before we have an intellectual understanding of why. We could just start to feel things ratcheting up and we might not even have a real awareness around what's really happening. That's where the importance of slowing down comes in, even to allow the nervous system to get regulated before we get into those conversations. How to Deescalate and Find Clarity Jessica finds it is helpful to create a new cycle together because that's going to create more safety and more connection in the communication. Oftentimes we're aware of the secondary emotions, the tendencies of how we might perceive our partner, but that doesn't get at the deeper layer of what is actually happening and the core of why we reacted that way. And so, we really have to work on slowing down to get to understand the deeper layer. When we can get to a place to just say “Oh, I'm acting this way because I feel nervous or scared” and here's what I'm thinking, here's where I want to go, or here's what's happening internally for me. Historically, couples wait too long to access therapy as support. But you don't have to start there. If the conflict is at a low level, if the charge on a scale from 1 to 10 is like a 3 or 4, start with journaling to unpack these difficult emotions. Keep digging deeper. The first layer will most likely be writing about why you believe you are in the right, but then you should keep writing. Why did it make you feel like that? Did it remind you of something else? If you would like to get a good journal and start doing this this you can find one here. Often times even just by having this unfiltered space where no one else but us can dictate what is going on, we can start to soften. This is because we are making ourselves feel heard and starting to come closer to the truth of why we are reacting in a certain way. And once you get closer and practice more with peeling back those layers and getting to that vulnerability that you were hiding, you can see yourself more clearly, and that maybe you were acting out of fear. Then the next step is learning to share that vulnerability with your partner. When your partner responds kindly and openly to your vulnerability is when real intimacy can be built. If the charge is higher on the scale, and there is also a backlog of problems, that's when it's probably time to seek additional support. How Can We Change Patterns Individually to Get Unstuck Together If we realize we want to make a change in our own lives, but we shy away from that change or delay on these types of conversations, while it might feel less conflictual in the moment, it can cause more difficulty in the long term. There's a term in psychology called differentiating in which we can hold on to ourselves when our partner is doing something different or even disagrees with what we're doing, and we can tolerate some of that discomfort and it can actually be highly attractive. So, we should look at change as something that has the potential to be very positive not just for the individual, but for the relationship as well. When you are hiding yourself for the perceived continuation of the relationship, that can start to resemble something closer to enmeshment or codependence. In healthy interdependence, we do rely on each other, but we can also nurture and listen to our own development and our growth. If we can do a little preparation before these conversations that we know might cause some defensiveness or tension, and if we can understand what we're needing or what that deeper request is or desire or what's not working, then we will most likely have much more productive and understanding conversations with our partners. If we can make a reveal of vulnerability and/or a request in a vulnerable way, those conversations are going to happen in a much more productive and efficient way. The Importance of Unconditional Positive Regard for Yourself Our attachments exist on a spectrum. We are not purely anxious or avoidant. So, it can take time and difficulties in relationships before we are ready and have the history to see where we need healing. As you start to get more curious about yourself, you can start to accept what your own patterns are. As you practice this more, you can realize when you are starting to act on a recurring pattern and choose to change it. That decision to change is a scary step into vulnerability, and what you have to remind yourself in those moments, is that no matter what happens with this person, you will always have your own back. Even if that person doesn't choose you after you show them vulnerability, that's okay because you are showing up for that part of yourself that's scared and feeling anxious about being rejected or abandoned. You can say to yourself “I hear you, I see you, I got you.” You will know you are with the right person if these signals or bids of vulnerability are met with a softening and a reciprocal tenderness. Vulnerability is a Risk, But the Reward Can be Beautiful Beyond Measure If you are parenting and you are taking the opportunity to work on these tough and sometimes scary emotions, you will be modeling these steps that are critical for authentic connection and bonds. Children in turn get to see that and it can shift their future relationships and their experience as a human. Being vulnerable is the same as being brave, and can have a ripple effect into future generations, positively affecting the way people build relationships in the future. In neuropsychology there's this idea that we have to ‘name it to tame it', so even just recognizing the intensity of the emotion and giving space for it (even if it's not resolved right at that moment) will help us start to regulate, and then we're in a much better position to deal with it. But if we're not willing to name it, a lot of things can happen and we will do all types of things to hide, to avoid, and to suppress. A lot of injuries happen in relationship and so when we have the tools for healing, it has profound impact on cultivating repair and resilience and health and all the good things. If you want to reach out to Dr. Jessica and learn more about how she can help you, please make sure to check out her website. She is also on social media as @drjessicahiggins (Instagram) and @EmpoweredRelationship (Facebook). You can also check out her Empowered Relationship Podcast. If you want to learn more about how stress and trauma affect us, and how to heal so that you can be better and more present in your relationships, you may want to read my book Master Your Stress Reset Your Health. In the book, I describe what I refer to as SelfC.A.R.E. based on your Stress Type. C stands for Clean Eating, A for adequate sleep, R for recovery activities, and E for exercise. I share the research behind how C.A.R.E. works in a daily routine to help us process stress and overcome trauma. To know your Stress Type, which is your unique cortisol and adrenaline levels based on how stresses have affected your adrenal function, you can take the quiz I developed. You can find the Stress Type® Quiz in the book and on my website. Then, if you're ready to start rebalancing your cortisol and neurotransmitters, to help your adrenals reset after stress exposure, you can start by ordering this home test kit. And you can also sign up for my Stress Warrior Online Program to guide you here. If you're interested in a safe and effective body, mind and spirit detoxification that will actually make you feel better and that you can do without affecting your daily routine, you can check out my New 14-Day Detox Program here. In the Detox Program I teach you to connect with yourself, and use mind-body tools, such as biofeedback, to process emotions. For the most comprehensive support, even with the most difficult health issues (physical or mental), it is best to meet with me one-on-one, which is available to you no matter where you are in the world (via phone or zoom). You can set up a one-on-one appointment with me here. We're here to help you! 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At a time when student behaviors and attitudes seem more troubling than ever before, we may need to approach their behavior in a different way, too. In this episode, Alex Shevrin Venet returns to talk about unconditional positive regard, a philosophy that offers students care no matter what — they don't have to earn it, and nothing they do can make it go away. This approach can transform some of the most difficult student-teacher relationships, but it's not easy. Venet shows us how it works, why it works, and how teachers can get the support they need to navigate it.  Thanks to Listenwise and EVERFI for sponsoring this episode. Read the full transcript and find links to Alex's book, Equity-Centered Trauma-Informed Education at cultofpedagogy.com/unconditional-positive-regard/.

Hey, Amazing Parents! This week, we're discussing a core psychology concept in my parenting philosophy: Unconditional positive regard. I'll teach you how to use this concept in your daily interactions with your children - not just during the good times but also during those especially frustrating parenting moments. Tune in to learn how you can start showing your child unconditional positive regard every day to help them grow into a self-assured and resilient person with a strong parent-chid connection. I'll show you how to create a family environment where your child feels supported without judgment in their youth, which will help keep the lines of communication with you open as they head toward those tricky teen years. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts: Do you love my bite-size parenting tips? Perhaps you're telling friends, “I've learned so much from Parenting With Psychology and Dr. Lindsay.” Please consider rating and reviewing my show to help it reach more parents like you. Click here, then scroll down to the Ratings & Reviews section. Tap to rate with five stars, and click on “Write a review.” Tell other parents how, in just a few minutes a day, they can learn to get intentional about their parenting and load their parenting toolboxes with actionable, psychology-based parenting tools! If you haven't already done so, follow the podcast to be sure you never miss a new episode. Follow now! Resources:

Hey, Amazing Parents! This week, we're discussing a core psychology concept in my parenting philosophy: Unconditional positive regard. I'll teach you how to use this concept in your daily interactions with your children - not just during the good times but also during those especially frustrating parenting moments. Tune in to learn how you can start showing your child unconditional positive regard every day to help them grow into a self-assured and resilient person with a strong parent-chid connection. I'll show you how to create a family environment where your child feels supported without judgment in their youth, which will help keep the lines of communication with you open as they head toward those tricky teen years. Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts: Do you love my bite-size parenting tips? Perhaps you're telling friends, “I've learned so much from Parenting With Psychology and Dr. Lindsay.” Please consider rating and reviewing my show to help it reach more parents like you. Click here, then scroll down to the Ratings & Reviews section. Tap to rate with five stars, and click on “Write a review.” Tell other parents how, in just a few minutes a day, they can learn to get intentional about their parenting and load their parenting toolboxes with actionable, psychology-based parenting tools! This episode covers Dr. Lindsay's psychology-backed tips guiding you to parent with confidence and intention. At Parenting With Psychology, we want every parent to feel like an amazing parent by learning psychology-backed strategies to create a loving, healthy relationship with their child and raise them to be incredible adults. ====================== Subscribe And Engage With Dr. Lindsay HERE: ====================== ➡ Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@drlindsayemmerson/sub_confirmation=1 ➡ New To My Channel? Start With This Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwLJ2XEbzb9E3HJEH9G9csJ1QeIyaHlt3 ➡ Join Me For Ask Dr. Lindsay Live On Tuesdays At 10 AM: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwLJ2XEbzb9HM8J9mERjSV6ng8voOsgTd ➡ Engage In Our Community Tab Here: https://www.youtube.com/@drlindsayemmerson/community ====================== FREE Parenting Resources: ====================== ✨ Free Downloadable Parenting Resources: https://www.drlindsayemmerson.com ✨ Free Parenting Workshop: https://drlindsayemmerson.com/respect ✨ Join the Amazing Parents Club: https://drlindsayemmerson.com/club ====================== Legal Disclaimer:====================== Please note that the advice provided in this episode is different from therapy and does not substitute for professional psychological treatment or other types of professional advice or intervention. If you or your child have concerns or need further parenting or personal support, please contact a physician or other qualified local health professional. Please read the full Parenting With Psychology, Inc. disclaimer: https://drlindsayemmerson.com/disclaimer

Unconditional positive regard is a concept developed by Carl Rogers, a prominent figure in humanistic psychology. It refers to an attitude of complete acceptance, support, and non-judgment toward an individual. Unconditional positive regard involves showing respect, empathy, and genuineness, regardless of the person's actions, beliefs, or feelings. It means valuing and accepting the person for who they are without imposing conditions or expectations. This attitude is central to client-centered therapy and can facilitate personal growth, self-acceptance, and positive change.Here's an example of demonstrating unconditional positive regard in a therapeutic context:Client: "I'm so disappointed in myself for relapsing. I feel like such a failure."Therapist (Unconditional Positive Regard): "I want you to know that I'm here to support you, and I appreciate your honesty in sharing this with me. Relapses are a part of the recovery journey, and they don't define your worth or the progress you've made. Let's work together to understand what triggered the relapse and explore strategies to help you move forward."In this example, the therapist demonstrates unconditional positive regard by expressing acceptance, empathy, and support towards the client. They emphasize that the client's relapse does not diminish their worth or progress. Instead of judging or criticizing the client, the therapist maintains a non-judgmental attitude and focuses on helping the client understand the triggers and develop strategies for moving forward. This approach fosters a therapeutic relationship built on trust, acceptance, and compassion, providing a safe space for the client to explore their challenges and work towards positive change.If preparing for your National Counseling Exam visit NationalCounselingExam and try our samplers completely free of charge! It's a fantastic way to identify any areas you might want to review. and brush up on.This podcast is not associated with the National Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC) or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

We are continuing our summer series called Partnership Building, where we discuss how sexual health is relational health, and relational health is sexual health. We're talking about seven principles of healthy relationships, according to relationship experts John and Julie Gottman. Last week, Luke and Lauren from the amazing podcast Filled to Flourish talked with us about the ways that Purity Culture encourage turning toward God, and as a result, away from oneself and one's partner. This week, they discuss the ways that they learned to turn toward each other, and the ways that protected the relationship as larger systems began to turn against them. This is a really sad, difficult episode, but also a celebration of their relationship and a source of encouragement to others who may be actively experiencing something similar. We discuss: Unconditional Positive Regard (9:00): Lauren describes, “Gottman uses this idea of unconditional positive regard. We saw each other in the best light and we knew we were doing the best we could amidst all the dysfunction unhealed trauma we were still swimming in. We had this regard for one another, and that helped us to weave this beautiful tapestry versus imploding.”  Messy Work (17:00): Jeremiah sets realistic expectations around the work of deconstruction and relational healing: “Problems tend to begin three to four years before the beginning of couples therapy Shifting and development of new interaction patterns takes a lot of time. This isn't just something that happens overnight. You walk out of the church. You leave the church, whew, thank god that's over. And then I can live and skip into a new life. There's a lot of work that happens after that and it sounds like y'all did a lot of coming back to each other, getting messy, coming back to each other, getting messy, coming back to each other. I think that that's really important to name that that's a realistic part of the process.” Turning Toward Each Other (25:00 - 29:00): There are a few horror stories throughout the episode, including the involvement of a missionary organization criticizing Luke and Lauren for not enacting traditional gender roles. Luke summarizes, “Where I think the starting of us turning towards each other and not feeling safe and saying like, babe, I'm safe with you, but I'm not sure we're safe here.” He notes that this rejection led them to turn towards each other because the Church labeled their relationship as “bad,” and when they both knew that was not the reality, they chose to be with each other and on each other sides, instead of playing the blame game.  White Saviorism (35:00): We have a side conversation about transracial adoption—Jeremiah is a transracial adoptee, and Luke and Lauren have adopted children of color. The elections of 2016 and 2020 enabled Lauren and Luke to speak out against racism and sexism, which the Church did not like. Lauren explains, “So it wasn't so much I started questioning gender roles. But what happened was my outspokenness prior to this was more of a value to a lot of folks, family included, because it was their agenda and their narrative. So I think this is the very confusing thing about outspoken women in the church.” Luke and Lauren chose to turn towards each other because the Church and their families did not agree with their ideas.  There is no Hate like Christian Love (40:00): Luke describes, “I was healing and so I started getting more of a voice and speaking out and having more conversations and being more educated. And every person that we had a conversation, invited a conversation. It became hostile, angry, and abusive. We got stuck in America for Covid. So 2020, we were in America and we ended up losing 25% of our support because we were speaking against racism and our church told us to stop talking about it or they were gonna stop supporting us 'cause we were missionaries and we represented them and they didn't agree with us. […] We didn't feel welcomed at the church anymore.” This encapsulates the Church perfectly: We love you until you don't agree with us. Lauren expands, “We were no longer the tool that we once were. And as soon as you're not a tool in a system of power that only uses people, you are invaluable to them. Your inherent dignity and worth as a human is not a consideration. It's irrelevant and everyone thinks that they are exempt from that.” When the Church deems you not useful you no longer have a community or support or anything. They push people out who have their own thoughts and ideas.  Again, a huge thanks to Luke and Lauren for their vulnerability and wisdom. Please check out their business, Flourish Therapy. Let's heal together!

Listen in as we discuss the basic assumptions and key concepts, such as empathy, non-judgment, and congruence, that form the foundation of UPR. We share real-life examples and techniques therapists use to empower clients and foster their personal development, like active listening and reflecting feelings. Don't miss this opportunity to be inspired by the healing potential of unconditional positive regard in therapy!Unconditional positive regard is a concept developed by Carl Rogers, a prominent figure in humanistic psychology. It refers to an attitude of complete acceptance, support, and non-judgment toward an individual. Unconditional positive regard involves showing respect, empathy, and genuineness, regardless of the person's actions, beliefs, or feelings. It means valuing and accepting the person for who they are without imposing conditions or expectations. This attitude is central to client-centered therapy and can facilitate personal growth, self-acceptance, and positive change.Here's an example of demonstrating unconditional positive regard in a therapeutic context:Client: "I'm so disappointed in myself for relapsing. I feel like such a failure."Therapist (Unconditional Positive Regard): "I want you to know that I'm here to support you, and I appreciate your honesty in sharing this with me. Relapses are a part of the recovery journey, and they don't define your worth or the progress you've made. Let's work together to understand what triggered the relapse and explore strategies to help you move forward."In this example, the therapist demonstrates unconditional positive regard by expressing acceptance, empathy, and support toward the client. They emphasize that the client's relapse does not diminish their worth or progress. Instead of judging or criticizing the client, the therapist maintains a non-judgmental attitude and focuses on helping the client understand the triggers and develop strategies for moving forward. This approach fosters a therapeutic relationship built on trust, acceptance, and compassion, providing a safe space for clients to explore their challenges and work towards positive change.If you need to study for your NCMHCE narrative exam, try the free samplers at: CounselingExam.comThis podcast is not associated with the National Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC) or any state or governmental agency responsible for licensure.

How to show the love of Christ in the midst of daily relationships.

It's that time of year again; summer in Australia. The kangaroo testicles are on the BBQ, Santa has pulled off his top to show you his beach body, and the Sack Game Down Under is complicated with everything falling out, since Australia is upside down. Releasing episodes out of sequence with a last-minute switcharoo, we present the Private Practice Podcast Christmas Special, full of existential philosophy that's tediously related to our ongoing saga into the work of Carl Rogers. If you want to hear about James leaving Casablanca and arriving in Melbourne, you'll have to wait for the next episode, which he incorrectly insists was just recently released before this one.Due to the phenomenal success of last year, everything is kept the same for this year, including Pigs in Blankety Blankets and The Nightmare Interpretation Before Christmas. The Christmas Quiz is loftier and more abstract than before, and yet with the intellectual cop-out of multiple choice answers, Dan manages to win points and will surely impress half of the listener. As you would expect, Unconditional Positive Regard is plentiful from Santa like it is from Carl Rogers, except when it comes to the ludicrous Sack Game, which will unnecessarily leave a taste in your mouth sourer than a rancid sprout that's gone mouldy in Dan's highly contaminated living environment. You haven't got much time to listen to this before Christmas is over, so cancel everything now and play it loud enough to drown out the sound of Meghan and Harry more effectively than Her Majesty ever managed.

Can you develop a heart and mind of unconditional positive regard for those you lead? Free of judgment and full of acceptance? See what happens when you love people unconditionally. People grow where they are loved.

In this week's conversation about Equity-Based Housing Solutions we are talking with Nikki Bell and Desiree Demos from the Living In Freedom Together, otherwise known as LIFT. LIFT is an organization that serves survivors of commercial sexual exploitation and women and others in our community impacted by the sex trade. Josh, Nikki, and Desiree talk about the resources that are available to those who are unhoused as well as folx who may be experiencing other overlapping struggles such as substance use and mental health as well as the importance of approaching these topics with kindness and leading with unconditional positive regard. Learn more about LIFT and the resources available on their website. Public Hearing is a series-based podcast and radio show from Action! by Design about Worcester, MA and designing sustainable and thriving cities; ones that are rooted in equity, Justice, and Joy. Follow our new Twitter account at @PublicHearingMA! Tune in Wednesdays at 6pm on WICN 90.5FM, Worcester's only NPR affiliate station. Not in the Worcester area? No worries, you can listen live at WICN.org

We jump back into Carl Rogers this week with a discussion of the idea of congruence between the internal and external worlds. Dan is back and recording from a hotel room in Hitchin because he is on a business trip; his small talk about this is so boring that it's an easy win for James with his witty and concise tale of a night out in Casablanca. But small talk is not a competition and so there are no prizes. How fortified is your inner world? Do you pride yourself on being able to scream with mean, defenestrating laughter at someone on the inside, but slap on a façade of faux compassion to get away with it? If so then you are objectively wrong and Carl says so. This is followed by skipping over Carl's introduction to Unconditional Positive Regard (because we have made whole episodes on this subject in the past) to ask the question, what is empathy? Baby don't hurt me. James refuses to stop judging Dan and Dan just wants to understand why.

The unexpected beauty of Unconditional Positive Regard.

Niyc Pidgeon is a founder of the multi million dollar coaching brand Unstoppable SuccessⓇ and Creator of the Positive Psychology Coach Academy CertificationⓇ. She is an acclaimed international speaker, award winning Positive Psychologist MSc, triple certified high performance & success coach, and a best selling Hay House author. In this episode, Jenny and Niyc chat about how her books, her methods, her focus and her approach guide entrepreneurs and business leaders to success. Niyc shares her insight on daily rituals, practicing gratitude, trading time for income, using community for personal growth, identifying strengths and more. Claim your FREE hard copy of her book “Now Is Your Chance” HERE - click to openNiyc's Social Links:WebsiteInstagramFacebookPintrestLinkedin  Free guide for fitness coaches  If you are interested in a Body Transformation, please use this link and fill out the Questionnaire  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating  and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser and Castbox. STRONG Fitness Magazine Subscription Use discount code STRONGGIRLResourcesSTRONG Fitness MagazineSTRONG Fitness Magazine on IGTeam Strong GirlsCoach JVBFollow Jenny on social mediaInstagramFacebookYouTube  

Join Dr. Greg, a board-certified couples psychologist, to discuss how to love less conditionally in our romantic relationships and with our kids.We want to distinguish between self-worth and the availability of our love and affection. Kids who have parents who are emotionally validating regardless of their progress toward goals (i.e. academic, extracurricular) fare easier in romantic relationships.Marriage, for instance, has us showing up as ourselves every day with a partner for decades at a time. We want to feel loved as we are, regardless of transient moods or any given day in a 10+ year relationship.The same goes for kids, who soak up critical or contemptuous messages that hurt their self-esteem, efficacy, and sense of self-worth. When talking to their kids, it's helpful for parents to stay focused on their life-affirming values and less on what a child may not be doing particularly well at that moment. When a child develops strong self-worth through positive reinforcement versus criticism, they can thrive. And when they start their own relationships, they'll do so with greater self-esteem and relational skills.✨ Subscribe to hear next week's episode on another great couples and family topic: https://abetterlove.buzzsprout.com/Follow @abetterloveproject on TikTok and Instagram for daily science-based relationship advice.Support the show

Allissa and Cal dig deep into the work that needs to be done to cultivate an unconditional positive regard for clients. Full show notes available at https://massagebusinessblueprint.com/e378-cultivating-unconditional-positive-regard-for-clients-w-cal-cates

In this episode, Sarah Tenisi speaks with Christina Dyer, CEO of Christina Dyer International, an executive leadership and coaching company. She is also the Founder of Noble Adventures, a leadership retreat and adventure company.What You'll Learn in This Episode:●      [01:26] What is “unconditional positive regard”?●      [09:30] Why “participation trophies” aren't necessarily a bad thing●      [10:58] How does unconditional positive regard help businesses heal the world?●      [18:45] The power of one person's attitude in your organization●      [22:04] Christina's globe-trotting adventures and how got to where she is now●      [27:55] About the Rwandan genocide●      [30:27] How far a dollar can go in helping families outside the U.S.●      [35:52] The CALM method●      [42:38] How Noble Adventures helps people develop unconditional positive regard●      [52:54] The benefits of coming from a place of positive intent when interacting with your team●      [56:16] The killer of trust within organizationsKey quotes:●      “Unconditional positive regard allows people the environment in which they can best flourish.”●      “I think one thing that COVID has done is take the focus off of performance and results and put it on people.”●      “When you have one person in your organization that is positive, they can impact and influence attitudes.”●      “Poverty really breeds a lot of creativity.”●      “Self-awareness is the first step to being a leader.”●      “Fun and adventure is the glue that holds teams together.”

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In today's episode of Sex & Spirituality, we talk about S.E.X (sexual energy exchange) and how sex differs when it comes to highly sensitive people. We also discuss self blame and its relation to the throat chakra & being non-confrontational after verbal abuse. Lastly, we examine relational tolerance when it comes to boundaries, trauma responses, suppression and transforming shame. Are you struggling with anxiety or stress? Daily meditation (even for 5 minutes) has helped me stay calm and grounded throughout my day. The guys over at @bloomapp have given me a Free 7-days trial for you guys. Enter the code BLOOMERS when you download the app! Check out my website here: sexandspirituality.godaddysites.com Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexandspiritualitypod/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/lauren-colletti/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lauren-colletti/support

This is episode 1028 of the Arete Coach Podcast with host Severin Sorensen and his guest David Highley, PCC, In this episode David share's his coaching journey and appreciation for holding 'unconditional positive regard' for his coaching clients in the coaching setting. David is an ICF Professional Certified Coach with a specialization in executive coaching, and leadership coaching. David completed his coaching certification training at the University of San Diego. Today, David is a Mentor Coach for the University of San Diego's Leadership Coaching Program.  A professional musician by training, David has spent several decades running his own businesses in the music industry. David's passion for coaching and helping people drew him into coaching as a profession. The Arete Coach Podcast seeks to explore the art and science of executive coaching. You can find out more about this podcast at aretecoach.io. This interview was conducted on 10 May 2021 via Zoom Video. Copyright © 2021 by Arete Coach™ LLC. All rights reserved.

The Magnificent Austin TX based songwriter and performer, David Longoria, known as Longriver, joins Beautiful Mutants to talk about the power of screaming in rock n roll, his performance some years back on Late Night with David Letterman, the inevitable cosmic dance with impermanence, and our nostalgia for mosh pits. Samples of Longriver's stellar songs open the podcast. Full versions can be heard at the links below. Special thanks to our newest Patreon subscribers, Sara Saylor and Rahb Eddy. In his opening monologue Santamaria talks about the difference between fate, destiny, and Unconditional Positive Regard. Join Us! https://hullabaloorecords.bandcamp.com/album/of-seasons http://www.longriversongs.com https://www.patreon.com/dusty_santamaria

What is Unconditional Positive Regard? Denise describes interpersonal experiences from her time in Hip Sobriety School and how Unconditional Positive Regard was and is such an integral piece in supporting others in recovery.

This is now also an article in Better Humans Publication - How to Teach Atypical Family Yoga https://betterhumans.pub/how-to-teach-atypical-family-yoga-32bba77ed462?sk=d93d20ac300da1c5cd3efbbaba593fab Unconditional positive regard is the key to seeing kids shine! Non-judgment, self-regulation, and appreciation: these are essential in any yoga class. When teaching neurodiverse families (as I've done for 20 years), these qualities will make or break your class. Jess is a yoga teacher who was hired to teach family yoga to a group with autistic kids. She was feeling nervous about it, and reached out for best practices and suggestions. Below are the recommendations I gave her. These suggestions could also apply to doing yoga with your own family at home, or to any family yoga class. Modeling inclusivity benefits everyone. What neurodivergent kids and their parents crave the most: Unconditional positive regard. Some other tips I cover: “YES” space Let it go Accept Appreciate Priming Visual supports Special interests Sensory Sensitivities Community How I Structure Inclusive Family Yoga Classes: Sit in a circle — kids with parents on one mat or each on their own next to each other. Encourage everyone to participate at their level of ability, and do something centering, like a name song, a chant or an ice breaker. Let the kids shine! Keep it fun and be sweet. Keep relaxation time short. End with a simple song or chant. Have a blast! Maybe you will see that the kids or their parents are calmer after class. Maybe you will see them shine. You may never know the benefit your class has on the families who attend. That's okay, since inclusive family yoga isn't something you will do for the validation. It will be an extension of your yoga practice, and you will learn so much. FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindfullyparentingatypicalkids Free 5 Day Challenge starts Monday April 19! Sign up here: https://healthy-happy-yoga.ck.page/calmer I'm excited to share a new feature on the podcast, to encourage connection and community: Voice messages! Leave me a voice message through the link and I'll answer the ones I can on a future podcast. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/oceansmama/message

Welcome to this presentation by Poornamurti (Greg Stein) as he reveals the connection between Ayurveda and music therapy.  Poorna is a music therapist and teacher of Vedic astrology (Jyotish).  A passionate proponent of holistic health since his teens, he utilizes the power of music along with the depth of understanding that Vedic astrology offers to help  individuals experience greater well-being in their lives.  The ancient wisdom and science of Ayurveda leads us to discover what is conducive to our happiness and unhappiness.  We come to view music therapy (or any therapy for that matter) through an Ayurvedic lens.  In Ayurveda, we learn about the gunas – the qualities in nature that describe our experience.  The twenty gunas are composed of ten qualities and their opposites.  With the gunas, we encounter the principle of “like increases like.”  For instance, if you are feeling spacey and drink coffee which has the qualities of light and dry,  it will increase your spaciness.  The therapeutic principle of "opposites balance" may be more effective.  When you learn about the gunas, you start to view your life through “guna goggles.”   The gunas impact us through our sensory experiences – our tanmantras.  The tanmantras move from gross to subtle.  Music therapy relates to the tanmantra of sound.  For instance, heavy metal music may may have a hot quality.  When something is hot, it can agitate our nervous system.  Ayurveda is not a black or white science, our subjective experience is important and we can be creative with it.  The idea is how to create more balance in our lives thorugh music – by becoming aware of the qualities of a particular piece of music in relation to our own nature.   If a client is depressed, Ayurveda identifies the quality of slowness.  Lively, stimulating music may be effective in bringing the client out of his dullness - an example of the principle "opposites create balance."  The music therapist formulates goals for the client after completing an assessment and music is applied therapeutically to create a shift.  In yoga, we talk about personal goals or different things we want to cultivate.  Music can be used to cultivate the same qualities.  Poornamurti was inspired to share a quote by Swami Satyananda Saraswati.   “Music has a great power.  It is the greatest power that man has discovered.  You should make use of it.  Through kirtan, you can reach the highest pinnacle of spiritual experience, neither by yoga nor any other means.  By kirtan, you can have the vision of the divine, the vision of yourself, the vision of God, the vision of Christ, the vision of Mary, the vision of Krishna, the vision of Rama.  It is possible.  Music does the important groundwork by taking away the “self” (meaning ego self) from you.”  The yogis are always speaking of the importance of music.  Because of its subtle nature, they consider it to be very powerful.  When you meet the client where he or she is, there is more opportunity for progress.  Not judging and practicing unconditional positive regard – both are important - for clients and ourselves.  “Unconditional positive regard” means seeing the client at his or her best.  When you listen to rap music with teenagers, they feel accepted.  If it's a song that is reinforcing aggressive behavior, however, the first step is to help them understand if this is something they want in their lives.  While they may resist a different style of music, they may accept rap music with a more positive message.   Ultimately, they have to come to their own understanding.  Find Poornamurti at https://vedichealing108.com/ 

In 1967, a catchy tune by The Beatles, “All You Need is Love,” became the anthem for the Summer of Love. The Flower Power culture embraced the song and its message, “love is all you need.” If someone had asked humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers what the song meant, he might have said, “Unconditional Positive Regard!” Although it didn’t quite roll off the tongue the same way, Rogers introduced the concept nearly a decade before the Beatles song, it has the same basic message: empathy invokes change. You can read the NirAndFar blog post on: The Surprising Benefits of Unconditional Positive Regard https://www.nirandfar.com/upr-unexpected-benefits-beyond-therapy/ Nir & Far, a podcast about business, behaviour and the brain by Nir Eyal. If you enjoy this podcast, please subscribe on iTunes and leave an iTunes review. It will greatly help new listeners discover the show. Please visit my website Nir and Far for other info about my writing, books and teaching: http://www.nirandfar.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/nirandfar/support

Have you ever held a resurrection plant? Perhaps you know it as a dinosaur plant? Or a Rose of Jericho? We have a small version of it at home – bought in a desert shop in Israel. A shriveled up flower on a rock. It can stay that way for years. But here comes the miracle. Add a few drops of water…4 hours later – a beautiful flower is in full bloom. You can get them online. Unless attached to something, they are blown about in the wind in the desert - a type of tumbleweed (though they are not dead - it's complicated). They look dead though. The Jewish nation in exile. They have also looked dead from time to time. A little bit of water, life, Torah…and suddenly in the desert of Golus there is a resurgence, a reemergence and a return of the nation. We call that Teshuva. This is the song that the dew sings. The dew revives. It is a blessing. And it sings a song from Hoshea – from the chapter dealing with Teshuva – Return to Hashem O Israel. Yet in this verse, Hashem says that He will stick by us in any case. Wow! Another early example of Unconditional Positive Regard. Lucky us! Maybe it's time to return the compliment…

Ashleigh Kinney from Texas Scottish Rite for Children's Family Services Director discusses an exciting, practical and relevant program she has implemented at Texas Scottish Rite called "Unconditional Positive Regard." Learn about this exciting program in our first two segments and how it is also quite relevant to Covid-19 today.Erin Prendergast, BSN, RN, Oncology Nurse Navigator at Texas Health Presbyterian Dallas, joins us to talk about the Nurse Navigation program at THR and how it is extending beyond oncology as Covid-19 is changing the way healthcare services are delivered. One of the ways hospitals are helping patients navigate the system is through this special navigation from caring nurses like Erin.Steven Love, President and CEO of the Dallas Ft. Worth Hospital Council and Thomas Miller update this week's developments in light of the recent surge in Texas and several other southern states, including an update on how North Texas hospitals are affected. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This is the full interview with Ashleigh Kenney from Texas Scottish Rite for Children's Family Services Director discusses an exciting, practical and relevant program she has implemented at Texas Scottish Rite called "Unconditional Positive Regard." Learn about this exciting program and how it is also quite relevant to Covid-19. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome to the first “Simple Steps” episode! Out first coffee talk is with Deanna Jimenez. She is a client-centered psychotherapist based in Oakland, California. She is a big promoter of breaking unhealthy patterns to have a more rewarding less overwhelming life. In particular, she talked about "Unconditional Positive Regard" and how it helps her during her client sessions to expand the capacity to be curious. At the moment, her one-on-one practice if full so she's putting a strategy in place to offer group coaching and self-paced training. Let's take a sneak peek of what simple steps she's taking to expand her service offerings. Here's how you can get in touch with Deanna: https://www.deannajimenez.com/ 50% off Honeybook: http://share.honeybook.com/50off Simplified Branding Instagram: @simplified.branding Facebook: @simplifiedbranding https://simplifiedbranding.com/ Sponsorships: off for this epis

Today I share with you guys 3 mindsets I am practicing in my life in my relationships. In order to have a quality relationship we need to: 1. Practice Empathy 2. Be Genuwine 3. Unconditional Positive Regard. I unpack all that for you using examples from my real life in hopes of you relating and gaining some insight that you can apply to your life. Before I unpack them, Let's talk about growing in the reality of who God is in us and the access we truly have now because of what Christ has done for us. Join me for Food For Though Friday where I go LIVE on Facebook to encourage you with whatever I believe will from the context of my own life. Facebook link:https://www.facebook.com/ChristianLifeCoaching Also check out Soul Food Sunday where my husband Scott talks to you guys about what he is leading us in as a church. YouTube link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyoExE3Q0zTgZau2ZYon0PA Check out Daily Merch! https://teespring.com/stores/daily-merch-4 Consider becoming a sponsor of Daily Encouragement: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29 Choose from a variety of Platforms. Follow this link: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29 Check out the Blessed Camp Merch! You will LOVE it! Use this link to get a 15% Discount simply because you are apart of the Daily Encouragement Fam! www.blessedcamp.com/discount/ashley THE HOLLER PROGRAM FACEBOOK PAGE: https://www.facebook.com/PsalmsInService/ THE HOLLER PROGRAM WEBSITE: https://www.psalmsinservice.com/ --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/ashley-campbell29/support

Kate and Emma take the filter off of self-understanding, the process of understanding who you are, how to be gentle with yourself, and maintaining your boundaries and expectations. They also dive into the different love languages and how Unconditional Positive Regard can impact your self-talk. Fast forward to 5:40 to skip introductions and head right into what makes up self-understanding. They discuss their personal experiences with how they are figuring out who they are. A surprise guest shows up at 23:18! If you are struggling to understand who you are, what is important in your life, and where your center is, join Kate and Emma as they tackle these topics. Wine is always recommended when listening, but kombucha is an excellent second choice! Here are the quizzes used to discover your love language: https://www.psychologies.co.uk/tests/whats-your-love-language.html https://www.goodnet.org/articles/5-love-languages-which-one-are-you Emma's article on How to Battle Comparison: https://www.coffeeandsmiles.com/2020/02/22/how-to-battle-the-comparison-game/ Disclaimer: We are not mental health professionals, please consult a medical professional whenever you feel the need. Some topics could be triggering, please be aware of your mental state when listening.

We find it easier to love ourselves and other people when we cultivate two surprising attitudes: Unconditional Positive Regard and Unconditional Compassionate Disregard. What are these attitudes and how do they help? Kate explains.

Through answering questions from listeners, Jeff and Stacie weave together a conversation about the importance of people old and young experiencing agency in their lives and how we might help young people gain agency through a concept called Unconditional Positive Regard. 

This week I'm joined by my good friend Todd Bumgardner, a phenomenal Coach and just a great guy in general.This is Todd's 4th time on the podcast and in this episode, we're discussing Todd's new book, 'Let the First Rep Suck'.In this episode we discuss:- How Todd found the process of writing his first book and what he learned along the way. - We discuss the importance of Unconditional Positive Regard and why you should be a Human before you be a Coach.- Why being vulnerable, relatable and having self-awareness is so important as a Coach.Todd also outlines the journey 'Let the First Rep Suck' will take you through.To finish the episode Todd talks about a cause very dear to his heart. For the month of February, all of the proceeds from book sales will be going to NBIA MPAN research to help support his client Ryan who is fighting a rare neurological condition.If you're a Coach, or you know a Coach that you can gift this book to, please buy this book. Todd is an incredible Coach who has helped get me to where I am today more than anybody else. The book will help you become a better coach and a better human for sure but greater than that, buying a copy will also go a long way to helping a 16-year-old boy, and several others, get the research and help needed to help them live a longer life.You can buy the book here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Let-First-Rep-Suck-Unconditionally/dp/0578615843/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1JIIFMV4AA1AO&keywords=let+the+first+rep+suck&qid=1581094185&sprefix=let+the+first+%2Caps%2C170&sr=8-1

In this episode, we talk about panic disorder and OCD, repression, the nature of interpretation, and Freud, Rogers, and Jung.This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Carl Roger's unconditional positive regard means valuing the person as doing their best to move forward in their lives constructively and respecting the person’s right to self-determination—no matter what they choose to do.That doesn’t mean that you need to like the person or approve of what they do. Nor does it mean that you have to simply put up with what they do. The point is to use the love in your heart to create acceptance. This is important not only for others but also for ourselves. Giving this to ourselves is the biggest gift we could give. The best part is, you deserve it. Catherine suggests a fun experiment, the Pink Cotton Candy experiment, for next time you encounter a group of people. Try it!

Deborah Firat is a parent governor. She has seen first hand the the difference it makes when teachers approach their pupils with unconditional positive regard. Her son Zak has autism and although he went to a good mainstream school, they didn't have the tools to maximise he potential. Dave Whitaker (Director of Learning at Wellspring Academy Trust) and Luke Mitchell (Head of Behaviour Support) share what they have learned from years of experience and some guiding principles about how to support the most vulnerable learners. Dave, Luke and staff at Springwell Academy are changing lives - Deborah's, Zach's and many others' at their school; and it all comes back to unconditional positive regard. Don't subscribe now if you don't want to get every episode direct to your phone automatically. Don't check out the We Are In Beta Newsletter otherwise you'll get access to all the resources, research and training mentioned in the episode. Don't share this podcast online or tag me or Dave Whitaker, Luke Mitchell or me @NiallAlcock in.

On this episode of Play Time, we dive into one of the bedrocks of everything we do as child-centered play therapists: unconditional positive regard. We explore what this radical form of acceptance is, why it is important, and how we go about the work of cultivating the ability to consistently accept the children we see in session.Feel like contacting Andrew for any reason? You can reach him at barnettchildtherapy@gmail.com.

Since we live in our own heads, we tend to give ourselves the benefit of the doubt. But we judge others harshly in part because we can’t see what burdens they carry. Healthy relationships are characterized by Unconditional Positive Regard, or...

"No matter what you've done or what's been done to you, I'm still going to support you...and cheer you on" — Shelly Blanchard. Shelly Blanchard does online counseling and tele-therapy for people to help them deal with trauma and move past unresolved conflicts. During this episode, we discussed mental health, including depression, love and unconditional positive regard, and why these things are so important for us to Outperform. Shelly and I also graduated high school together in Albany, MN, so it was nice to catch up :-) Enjoy! Show notes from this episode and more strategies to Outperform The Norm can be found at https://scottwelle.com/shelly-blanchard-unconditional-positive-regard/.

Want to be an effective communicator? You need one essential element - the ability to listen with unconditional positive regard. In this episode we talk about what this is, what it looks like and how you can practice it.  This is a great episode for small business owners who want to improve their relationships with staff and customers. It's also fabulous for parents, friends, and work colleagues. Hmmmm.... sounds like it's worthwhile for everyone!

An interview with the amazing Siobhan Collingwood, Headteacher at Morecambe Bay Community Primary School. Together, we discuss what it is like to build a school on the values of love and kindness, and explore the issues of nurture, attachment, attunement and unconditional positive regard. Siobhan is a champion of the children and community she serves, a regular contributor to the Times Educational Supplement, and member of the Lancashire Safeguarding Board. Her passionate advocacy has seen her giving evidence in the House of Commons and House of Lords, and has led to frequent appearances in the media.

In today's gospel reading, Jesus models good Christian attitude and behaviour and challenges us to do the same. We are told he welcomes sinners and even eats with them contrary to popular treatment of shunning, ignoring, ridiculing, pitying or even talking about them in a derogatory way. St Paul reminds the Philipians and us that because of this he revels in the fact that nothing outweighs the supreme advantage we have of not only knowing but having Jesus Christ as our Saviour and role model. In Jesus, we have someone who teaches us to have a different attitude towards sinners than the world wants us to and as we feel like acting. He challenges us to cease from being judgemental and crirical and instead show mercy and compassion for HE is the God of mercy and compassion. And as His followers, we should aspire to be like him. Amen.

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Letting listeners know that I am continuing the 4 part series on mental health awareness month throughout all of May. Remember to show everyone respect and kindness because you never know what kind of internal battle they are fighting.

How are we transformed? How do we experience healing, peace, or freedom? How does our relationship with Jesus change as we stop doing what we've always been told, and begin to see Jesus in relationship above all else? Susette talks Therapy 101: Unconditional Positive Regard (or unconditional love), intimacy, feeling understood, confidentiality, trust in therapy space. Each host tells stories from their childhood church experiences, they talk similarities about 90's Christian culture. God's unconditional acceptance of us (love & grace that He's given us first) is what transforms us. The more you practice empathy, the more natural it becomes. This conversation will continue in Ep 2. Resources: Brene Brown Video: http://www.susettemagana.com/single-post/2016/11/16/Practicing-Empathy David Seamands "Healing for Damaged Emotions."

It is essential that we embody the role of the therapist when we are working with and dealing with our clients. This therapeutic role is SO much different from how we typically deal with our friends and family that it requires conscious thought, practice and assessment . Being in a therapeutic role means listening differently, speaking differently, responding differently and receiving differently then we do talking to our family and friends. It requires using Unconditional Positive Regard t all times, putting judgment aside, putting opinion aside and resisting the desire to "fix" and advise the client. Without mastering this new and unique way of communicating, we risk our practices being unsuccessful. We risk insulting clients, interfering with rapport and making clients feel unsafe. In this episode I will be giving tips for developing your therapeutic role and how communication as a therapist is different than communicating as your "every day" self. 

Mark Fisher joins Stuart for an interview on the podcast today. Alongside discussing how Mark got into the industry and why he feels this has shaped his career, we also discuss: - The importance of mirroring your clients and how to do this - What unconditional positive regard means and why this is so essential for trainers to grasp - How to get feedback on something you want to get better at and where to start if you've no idea what you should be getting better at - How to approach fear  - Why he loves learning so much and how to take this information from knowledge to application and a load of current book recommendations!

037 – Transference and Countertransference – Unconditional Positive Regard – Your Research Project   In episode 37 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Rory Lees-Oakes and Ken Kelly talk about transference in the counselling room. ‘Theory with Rory' examines unconditional positive regard (UPR). Finally, the presenters talk about doing your research project. Transference and Countertransference (starts […] The post 037 – Transference and Countertransference – Unconditional Positive Regard – Your Research Project appeared first on Counselling Tutor.

037 – Transference and Countertransference – Unconditional Positive Regard – Your Research Project   In episode 37 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Rory Lees-Oakes and Ken Kelly talk about transference in the counselling room. ‘Theory with Rory’ examines unconditional positive regard (UPR). Finally, the presenters talk about doing your research project.   Transference and Countertransference… The post 037 – Transference and Countertransference – Unconditional Positive Regard – Your Research Project appeared first on Counselling Tutor.

How comfortable are you with conflict? If you’re like most people, you avoid it as much as possible and when you can’t avoid it any longer, you have coping mechanisms that might not serve you well. Regular conflict at home or in the workplace takes a toll on our overall wellbeing. The good news is that no matter how you feel about conflict now, you can learn to navigate it with confidence. My guest today is an expert on human behavior and leadership. Jennifer McCabe is the founder and CEO of Pluck With Purpose, which teaches relationship and leadership skills to professionals and nonprofits both online and in person. The core of Jennifer’s work is based on the Four Skills for Relationship Competency. Join us for this conversation about resolving conflict, that’s full of practical tips and examples.   What you’ll hear in this episode: The importance of learning to deal with conflict Jen’s HUGE vision Being at peace with what is coming at you Overview of the Four Skills for Relationship competency: Empathic Listening Empathy Congruence Unconditional Positive Regard Being equipped to relate and take care of yourself How to use empathic listening Do you want to be right OR do you want to understand the other person? When to choose empathy Knowing when to use each skill—and how to integrate them into your relationships Suspending judgment/maintaining integrity Unconditional Positive Regard brings a soft energy to the conflict Life-changing skills Resources: www.pluckwithpurpose.com www.unshakeablesoul.com  (Our Expert Series featuring 18 women: Oct. 10-19)  

This week, Ollie Frith spoke to Dave Whitaker, Executive Head at Springwell Special Academy in Barnsley. Unconditional positive regard for students This is something which has been borrowed from the counselling and therapeutic areas. It’s a metaphor, an ethos or a set of values – it should be something you see and feel as you … Continue reading Dave Whitaker on how to create and use ‘Unconditional Positive Regard’ in your School →

Brendan Murray is the principal at Victoria’s Parkville College, a school that’s inside a prison. He believes in the power of education to change people’s lives and treats every student with unconditional positive regard. This episode includes questions from the audience, and at some points can become a little hard to hear. We’re working on improving our recording techniques—thanks for bearing with us! This podcast is supported by our friends at Bank Australia. Find out more: Parkville College: http://parkvillecollege.weebly.com/ Unconditional Positive Regard: http://www.dumbofeather.com/why-i-teach-with-unconditional-positive-regard/ Viktor Frankl: https://www.ted.com/talks/viktor_frankl_youth_in_search_of_meaning Carl Rogers: http://www.simplypsychology.org/carl-rogers.html