Podcasts about Codependency

What happens when someone you love is still drinking, and you are learning how to be okay even when the people around you may or may not be okay?I recently came home from a family vacation to Hawaii, and while there were so many beautiful moments, there was also a very real 24 hours that brought some old patterns right to the surface. It gave me another opportunity to practice what I have been learning through Al-Anon, my own sobriety, and the Recover Your Soul process.For me, Al-Anon was the place where I first began to understand that I wasn't responsible for someone else's wellbeing. I was powerless over alcohol, over another person, and over their choices. But I also learned that I could turn the attention back to myself.And that is really what this episode is about.I share what happened on our trip, the family patterns that showed up, my old pattern wanting everything to be perfect, and what I learned about letting go of control and allowing each person to have their own experience.The Recover Your Soul process has given me a deeper way to work with these moments. Instead of trying to fix, manage, prevent, or control someone else's journey, I can become curious about my own. What is happening inside of me? What pattern is being activated? What am I trying to control? How can I see this differently? And can I continue to see the person I love in their wholeness, even when their choices are painful to witness?This is not about getting to a place where life is perfect or where the people we love suddenly make the choices we wish they would make.It's about our own healing, our own awakening, and our own soul's journey.Life continues to be lifey. We are still human. We still get activated. We still fall into old patterns.And we get to choose again.If you have someone in your life who is still drinking, still using, or making choices that are difficult for you to watch, I hope this conversation reminds you that you can love them, have compassion for them, and allow them to have their own journey—while continuing to choose your own wholeness.Send a one way text to Rev Rachel

Walking this road to recovery requires having people around us. We can't face our brokenness without God and others. But sometimes the relationships on earth can get messy and dysfunctional and even become complex and tricky. What do we do when they become difficult and messy and even drama filled and chaotic? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack the importance of how to maintain peace amidst the chaotic relationships happening around us.

Heute reden wir über Co-Abhängigkeit, dieses umstrittene Phänomen, das manche Menschen zu befallen scheint, die mit Suchtkranken zusammen leben. Co-Abhängigkeit heißt für die einen, sich in einem vollkommen normalen Maß um eine andere Person zu sorgen und zu verzweifeln, wenn sie sich selbst verletzt, während die anderen darin eine obsessive Besessenheit von den Problemen anderer Leute sehen, in die Co-Abhängige sich verstricken, um sich nicht mit sich selbst beschäftigen zu müssen. Die Frage ist: Gibt es Co-Abhängigkeit überhaupt und wenn ja, was ist das genau? Wie ist das Konzept entstanden? Schadet der Begriff »co-abhängig« mehr als er nützt? Was gibt es für Alternativen im Umgang mit Angehörigen von Suchtkranken und wie kommt es, dass ein Modell mit Wurzeln in der 12-Schritte-Kultur der Dreißiger und einer Blütezeit in der Selbsthilfekultur der Siebziger Jahre heute unter Lifestyle-Psycholog:innen auf TikTok und Instagram wieder so rasend angesagt ist?QuellenCo-Abhängigkeit – ein hilfreiches Konzept? Alfred Uhl, Alexandra Puhm, 2007https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258697484_Co-Abhangigkeit_-_ein_hilfreiches_KonzeptThe Lived Experience of Codependency: an Interpretative Phenomenological AnalysisIngrid Bacon, Elizabeth McKay, Frances Reynolds & Anne McIntyre, 2018https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11469-018-9983-8Conceptual Models of Families Affected by Addiction and the AFINet ApproachRichard Velleman, Torkel Richert, Gallus Bischof & Alicia S. Ventura, 2025https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-031-82583-5_3Schluss mit der Co-AbhängigkeitMelody Beattie, 1986Codependency Is a Toxic Myth in Addiction RecoveryMaia Szalavitz, 2022, New York TimesLoving an Addict, While Caring for Myself: Readers react to a guest essay critical of the concept of codependency and tough loveNew York Times, 2022Patterns and Characteristics of Codependencecoda.orgWebseite Al-Anon Familiengruppenal-anon.deCo-Dependency in 45 SecondsNathalia Christensen @nathaliachristensen Hier findest du uns noch:Abonniere den SodaKlub Newsletter oder werde Mitglied im SodaKlubWerde Mitglied, unterstütze oder informiere dich über Recovery DeutschlandAbonniere Mias Newsletter Romanzen und FinanzenRECOVERY WALK am 12. September in DüsseldorfKontakt für Helfer:innen (keine Vorkenntnisse notwendig): daniela@recoverydeutschland.orgAllgemeiner Kontakt: Info@recoverydeutschland.orgSpendenkampagne: https://www.betterplace.org/de/projects/170427-recovery-walk-2026Mia GatowMias Buch: »Rausch und Klarheit«Mias Newsletter: Romanzen und FinanzenMika DöringRecovery Deutschland e.V. Mikas Kunst Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What Is Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD)? Do you struggle to make decisions without someone else's approval? Do you constantly seek reassurance, fear being alone, or stay in unhealthy relationships because the thought of leaving feels terrifying? In this episode of the Ask Kati Anything Podcast, licensed therapist Kati Morton takes a deep dive into Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD). We explore the official DSM-5 diagnostic criteria, how DPD differs from anxious attachment, codependency, and borderline personality disorder (BPD), why DPD develops, and practical steps to rebuild self-trust and confidence. EPISODE SPONSOR Specialized virtual trauma treatment is available through Rebound. Founded by survivors and psychologists, Rebound provides clinically effective trauma therapy covered by leading insurance plans: https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything Timestamps 00:00 - Introduction: Understanding Dependent Personality Disorder (DPD) 01:31 - Q1: Am I Needy, Depressed, Traumatized, or Is It DPD? (DSM-5 Criteria) 10:30 - Q2: Capable at Work, But Indecisive at Home (Capability vs. Self-Trust) 15:15 - Q3: Asking Multiple People Before Making Decisions: Advice vs. Permission 18:54 - Advice vs. Reassurance: Finding What You Really Think 20:42 - Q4: Backtracking During Disagreements & Fear of Conflict 24:00 - Q5: Why Staying in Bad Relationships Feels Safer Than Being Alone 29:31 - Q6: Urgently Jumping Into Rebound Relationships 35:40 - Q7: DPD vs. Anxious Attachment, Codependency, BPD & Avoidant PD 44:33 - Q8: Where Does DPD Come From? (Genetics, Childhood, Overprotective Parenting) 53:32 - Q9: Why Does Reassurance Never Feel Like Enough? (The Reassurance Cycle) 56:31 - Q10: Transferring Dependency onto Your Therapist 01:02:03 - 5 Actionable Steps to Build Self-Trust and Overcome DPD MY BOOKS Why Do I Keep Doing This? Traumatized Are u ok? ONLINE THERAPY - Enjoy 10% off your first month If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati - a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you. SOCIAL X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Substack https://substack.com/@katimorton1 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co Disclaimer: The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. Ask Kati Anything ep. 333 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Beneath the noble veneer of the chivalrous protector, men trapped in a white knight savior complex are rarely searching for a healthy, balanced partner; instead, they are unconsciously addicted to the "hot mess"—women entangled in volatile distress, abusive dynamics, or chronic trauma. This magnetic pull toward chaos is far from accidental: the white knight actively scouts out the proverbial bird with a broken wing because her unmanaged crises provide the exact emotional currency he needs to validate his fragile ego and feel indispensable. By obsessively managing her high-stakes emergencies and self-destructive patterns, he constructs an illusion of control while avoiding the deep discomfort of his own unhealed pain and insecurities. The harsh reality of this dynamic is that the white knight doesn't actually want the hot mess to get fixed—because a woman who finds stability, sets boundaries, and heals no longer requires a rescuer, completely dismantling the savior's identity and exposing the hollow codependency at the heart of his crusade.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/depraved-and-debaucherous--5267208/support.Contact KOP for professional podcast production, imaging, and web design services at http://www.kingofpodcasts.comSupport KOP by subscribing to his YouTube channel and search for King Of PodcastsFollow KOP on X and TikTok @kingofpodcasts (F Meta!)Listen to KOP's other programs, Podcasters Row… and the Wrestling is Real Wrestling Podcast and The Broadcasters Podcast.Buy KOP a Coffee https://buymeacoffee.com/kingofpodcastsDrop KOP a PayPal https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=3TAB983ZQPNVLDrop KOP a Venmo https://account.venmo.com/u/kingofpodcastsDrop KOP a CashApp https://cash.app/$kingofallpodcasts

Self-betrayal rarely happens through one dramatic decision. More often, it happens through small, everyday moments: saying yes when you want to say no, dismissing your feelings, hiding your preferences, questioning your intuition, or keeping the peace at your own expense.In this episode of Healthy Mind Healthy Self, we explore how people-pleasing, fear of conflict, self-silencing, and over-responsibility can slowly disconnect you from your authentic self. You'll learn the difference between healthy compromise and self-abandonment, why these patterns often begin as ways to preserve safety and connection, and how to rebuild self-trust through small acts of honesty.If you've been feeling resentful, emotionally exhausted, indecisive, or unsure of what you truly want, this episode will help you recognize where you may be drifting from yourself and begin realigning with your needs, values, desires, and voice.https://www.healthymindhealthyself.com/inner-shift-waitlist

This woman has genuinely changed my life. Every single time I talk to her, she flips on a new light switch in my brain, and suddenly I’m seeing my entire life, relationships, and patterns in a completely different way. She’s a licensed psychotherapist and bestselling author of Boundary Boss and Too Much, and now her newest book, The Father Wound, is out October 27th. Terri is here to help us understand our boundaries, heal wounds we may not even realize we’re carrying, and break the cycle of high-functioning codependency.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why Adult Children Defend Toxic Parents (Narcissistic Abuse & Codependency Recovery) Have you ever caught yourself saying, "My childhood wasn't that bad," while quietly struggling with chronic anxiety, intense people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, or a string of toxic relationships? Do you constantly minimize your own pain, compulsively defend the parents who hurt you, or experience overwhelming guilt for even questioning your upbringing? If so, please know that you are not crazy. You are navigating a deeply ingrained biological response: you learned to protect vital family attachment by abandoning your own reality.   In this powerful live workshop episode of the Breakdown to Breakthroughs Podcast , Breakthrough Life Coach Lisa A. Romano explores why adult children of narcissists, alcoholics, and emotionally immature parents spend decades rationalizing family trauma. Through deep psychological insight and trauma-informed nervous system awareness, Lisa breaks down the mechanics of cognitive dissonance, subconscious survival programming, and codependency. This discussion is not about placing blame—it is about restoring radical honesty to your healing journey.

Whether your day, one or day 10,001 of your recovery journey, we all will have days where we feel lost, discouraged, and even alone based on things that are happening around us and the inside of us. What are the steps toward Hope and healing when we're in this desperate place? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack some important reminders for us to think about in the midst of our struggle to help point us toward hope and keep us on the path, keeping our eyes on Jesus through the process.

Is Your Business Relationship Toxic? Connection vs Codependency Explained! Connection vs Codependency: Where Does Love End And Losing Yourself Begin? Supersize Your Business Annual Challenge Day 262! Pop in here every day for a dose of different business building perspective! https://facebook.com/supersizebusiness Supersize Your Business (free) Skool link: https://www.skool.com/supersize-your-business-1654/about #supersizeyourbusiness #supersizeyourbusinessannualchallenge #emotionalintelligence #emotionhandling #suppressingemotion #acknowledge #seeemotion #feelittohealit #emotionalhealing #boundaries #connection #codependenc Understand the difference between codependency in business and true connection to build stronger professional relationships. We are on day 262 of the Supersize Your Business Annual Challenge, focusing on how our emotions shape our work environment. Whether you are a solopreneur or leading a team, recognizing when you are relying too heavily on others is vital for sustained success. This session breaks down the core differences in connection vs codependency so you can maintain your independence while fostering collaboration. Improving your emotional intelligence is a key step in this process. By setting healthy boundaries, you protect your energy and ensure your business growth remains sustainable. We explore how to identify when you are losing yourself in relationships and how to pivot back toward authentic, productive professional ties. Subscribe for daily business building perspectives, and share in the comments: what is one boundary you have struggled to set lately? 0:00 Uncovering the roots of your business behavior 2:47 The fine line between connection and codependence 4:08 The hidden cost of overgiving in business 7:04 Practical steps to evaluate your relationships

Is Your Business Relationship Toxic? Connection vs Codependency Explained! Connection vs Codependency: Where Does Love End And Losing Yourself Begin? Supersize Your Business Annual Challenge Day 262! Pop in here every day for a dose of different business building perspective! https://facebook.com/supersizebusiness Supersize Your Business (free) Skool link: https://www.skool.com/supersize-your-business-1654/about #supersizeyourbusiness #supersizeyourbusinessannualchallenge #emotionalintelligence #emotionhandling #suppressingemotion #acknowledge #seeemotion #feelittohealit #emotionalhealing #boundaries #connection #codependencUnderstand the difference between codependency in business and true connection to build stronger professional relationships.We are on day 262 of the Supersize Your Business Annual Challenge, focusing on how our emotions shape our work environment. Whether you are a solopreneur or leading a team, recognizing when you are relying too heavily on others is vital for sustained success. This session breaks down the core differences in connection vs codependency so you can maintain your independence while fostering collaboration.Improving your emotional intelligence is a key step in this process. By setting healthy boundaries, you protect your energy and ensure your business growth remains sustainable. We explore how to identify when you are losing yourself in relationships and how to pivot back toward authentic, productive professional ties.Subscribe for daily business building perspectives, and share in the comments: what is one boundary you have struggled to set lately?0:00 Uncovering the roots of your business behavior2:47 The fine line between connection and codependence4:08 The hidden cost of overgiving in business7:04 Practical steps to evaluate your relationships

Episode Summary What makes a relationship truly toxic, and how do you know whether it can be repaired or whether it's time to walk away? In this episode, Eric is joined by licensed professional counselor, board-certified art therapist, and Radiant Life Project founder Kate King, author of Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships. Together, they explore toxic dynamics in romantic relationships, families, friendships, and workplaces, including why ADHDers and other neurodivergent people may be especially vulnerable to people-pleasing, fawning, conflict avoidance, and staying too long in painful situations. Kate shares her framework for the seven traps that can keep us stuck, along with practical ways to recognize patterns, communicate needs, build tolerance for difficult conversations, and decide whether a relationship has the mutual willingness needed to mend. Show Notes In this episode, you'll learn: How to distinguish a truly toxic relationship from a relationship that is simply struggling Why your body may recognize a toxic dynamic before your brain fully accepts it How familiar dysfunction can feel safer than unfamiliar change The difference between healthy interdependence and codependency Why people-pleasing, fawning, and conflict avoidance are often rooted in nervous-system safety patterns How to begin practicing "easier hard things" to build tolerance for difficult conversations How to assess whether a relationship, family dynamic, or workplace can be repaired Why mutual willingness is essential if a relationship is going to mend Kate's seven traps of toxic relationships: Buy-in Comfort Powerlessness False ownership Unhealed trauma Avoidance Codependency Guest Kate King is a former licensed professional counselor, board-certified art therapist, award-winning author, radiant life coach, and founder of The Radiant Life Project. She is the author of The Radiant Life Project and Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships. Learn more about Kate, her books, and her work at theradiantlifeproject.com. Resources Mentioned The Radiant Life Project: theradiantlifeproject.com ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com One-on-one ADHD coaching worldwide and therapy in Illinois: adhdrewired.com Adult Study Hall: adhdrewired.com Support ADHD reWired on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired Patreon Update The monthly Patreon Coaching Call, available to Patreon supporters at the $25/month level and above, is held on the last Tuesday of each month. The call has moved from 4:00 p.m. Eastern to 2:00 p.m. Eastern. Chapters 6:01 — Introduction and Guest Bio 7:10 — Kate's ADHD Connection: Growing Up with an ADHD Parent 11:31 — Identifying a Toxic Workplace 15:44 — Mend or Move On: Where to Start 20:54 — Personal and Family Relationships 21:59 — Three Signs of a Truly Toxic Relationship 23:24 — The One Requirement to Mend a Relationship 30:46 — Building the Courage to Leave 33:26 — The Seven Traps of Toxic Relationships: Introduction and False Ownership 36:33 — Buy-in, Comfort, and Powerlessness 37:42 — Unhealed Trauma and Shadow Work 38:53 — Avoidance and Codependency 43:17 — Kate's Relationship and Healing Journey 45:48 — Spotting Gaslighting in a Partnership 48:53 — You Don't Owe Anyone Anything 51:42 — Where to Find Kate's Work

On Dianna Romanov's Divorced Like a Boss podcast, psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., explains his Human Magnet Syndrome theory, that givers are reflexively drawn to narcissistic takers, and why the outdated term "codependency" should be replaced by Self-Love Deficit Disorder. His pyramid model traces the problem from childhood attachment trauma to core shame, pathological loneliness, and an addiction-like compulsion to stay in harmful relationships. His ten-stage Self-Love Recovery Treatment Program, roughly nine to eighteen months of weekly therapy, resolves each layer so people can leave personality-disordered partners and reach lasting self-love abundance.Diana Romanov is a San Francisco family law attorney handling divorce, child custody, child and spousal support, domestic violence restraining orders, property division, and marital agreements. She offers advice and mediation in English, German, and Russian. She holds a family law JD from Freie Universität Berlin and an LLM in US Legal Studies from Golden Gate University School of Law, and received the Justice and Diversity Center's Outstanding Pro Bono Award for Family Law Cases. More about Diana:  https://www.romanovlaw.com/Support the showABOUT ROSS ROSENBERG Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and celebrated author. He is also a global thought leader and clinical expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, narcissistic abuse, and addictions.Ross's pioneering contributions to codependency have provided sweeping theoretical and practical updates and developed a treatment program that permanently resolves the issue. Ross has been featured on national TV and radio and is a regular radio and podcast guest. In addition, he has traveled the world, giving his one-of-a-kind keynote presentations and educational workshops. His global impact is best illustrated by his YouTube channel, with 30 million views and 297,000 subscribers, and the sale of 190,000 Human Magnet Syndrome books published in 12 languages. In 2013, Ross created The Self-Love Recovery Institute, a hub for his personal development, workshops, professional training, retreats, other programs, and services.Learn more at www.SelfLoveRecovery.com. Facebook.com/TheCodependencyCure) Instagram (@rossrosenberg_slri) Twitter (@RossRosenberg1) and now…TikTok! (@RossRosenberg1)

What happens when two people in a neurodiverse relationship remember the same conversation completely differently? This week, Mona and I explore the memory and communication disconnects that can put neurodiverse couples in what I call “the boxing ring”—where partners become opponents, each trying to prove who's right and who's wrong. From the partner who remembers every word but misses the meaning to the one who remembers the feeling but not the details, we break down why this happens—and why it doesn't have to be a deal breaker. We also talk about executive functioning in daily life, the cereal box story, and important questions every couple should ask before moving in together.

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We are continuing a part two conversation around answering some hard questions from our great leaders on a local level of celebrate recovery. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of celebrate recovery, will wrap up a series of questions from the west gathering in CA that need answering to help build confidence in our great leaders on a local level.

Episode Summary Self-worth is an inside job, but so many of us were taught to look outside of ourselves to feel valuable. In this episode, I'm talking about what self-worth really is, where it comes from, and how appearance, performance, perfectionism, people-pleasing, codependency, and outside validation can shape the way we see ourselves. I also share part of my own story of growing up with my worth tied to beauty and appearance, and how that eventually led me on a deeper journey of building real self-worth from within. You'll learn how to come back to fact and truth when comparison or self-judgment starts to spiral, how to practice self-validation in small everyday moments, and how to help children build healthy self-worth by validating who they are, not just what they do. Key Takeaways Self-worth is not something you have to earn Looking outside of yourself for your worth leads to unhealthy patterns and relationships Appearance, performance, helping, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can all become ways we try to feel worthy Codependency can make our identity and self-worth feel tied to helping others Children build self-worth through what is modeled and reflected back to them Validating children for who they are is more powerful than only praising what they do Comparison is not always the problem. The problem is when comparison turns into self-judgment Stories are not fact and truth, and they can send us into anxiety, overwhelm, and awfulizing You have the power to choose which thoughts you latch onto Changing your physical state can help interrupt a negative emotional spiral Small daily validations matter, even if no one else sees them Healthy self-worth is built from the inside out Resources from this Episode: Free Self-Worth Masterclass: https://theadultchair.com/selfworth The Adult Chair® Metamorphosis Live Event: https://theadultchair.com/liveevents   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

0:00 — Intro WV Uncommon Place podcast introduction. JR Sparrow welcomes listeners back from hiatus and introduces Dr. Jo to discuss the mental health stigma of codependency.1:27 — What Is Codependency? Dr. Jo defines codependency as a phenomenon where someone cares more about another person's needs and feelings than their own, often originating in addiction-affected families. She shares her personal experience growing up with an alcoholic father.2:49 — Codependency Beyond the Home Dr. Jo explains how codependent patterns extend into workplaces, friendships, and all types of relationships — and why boundaries and communication are essential to preventing them.4:12 — The Nervous System Perspective Discussion of how the nervous system adapts to chaos and how caretaking others can feel "safe" because it's familiar, creating a feedback cycle that reinforces codependent behavior.5:33 — Kindness vs. Codependency Dr. Jo breaks down the key difference: kindness comes from authentic love with proper selfhood boundaries, while codependency comes from insecurity, a need for validation, and often involves enabling.9:22 — How Childhood Shapes Codependency Dr. Jo discusses how early trauma (before age five), shame, and "repetition compulsion" — unconsciously seeking partners who recreate unresolved childhood dynamics — contribute to codependent patterns in adulthood.12:35 — Why High-Achieving Women Fall Into Codependency Dr. Jo explores how perfectionism, drive to prove worthiness, societal pressure on professional women, and the "sister wound" (women competing rather than supporting each other) all contribute to codependent behaviors.14:45 — People-Pleasing and Why It's Hard to Stop How societal conditioning teaches women to please, the difficulty of saying no, and how people-pleasing early in a relationship creates expectations that are hard to break — leading naturally into codependency.17:50 — Genuine Love vs. Fear of Abandonment JR asks how to tell whether someone is expressing genuine love or acting from fear of rejection. Dr. Jo emphasizes self-awareness, embodiment, and honest communication about insecurities.20:14 — Embodiment: Reconnecting With the Body Dr. Jo explains how many people live "from the neck up" and how tuning into the body's wisdom — the heart and gut brains — can guide decisions and support healing from codependency.22:07 — Physical Signs You're Abandoning Yourself Dr. Jo describes dissociation and "going numb" as key signs, and demonstrates how naming the behavior in the moment ("I notice I want to fix this for you") takes away its power.24:49 — Healthy Boundaries and the "Translucent Bubble" Dr. Jo introduces the visualization of a translucent bubble — letting others' energy bounce off while still holding space — and how to apply boundaries at work, in relationships, and with media consumption.

If you grew up learning that the safest thing you could do was manage the emotional environment, this episode is for you. Vanessa explores the Three C's from codependency and Al-Anon recovery spaces: I didn't cause it, I can't control it, and I can't cure it. Through family systems, Bowen's differentiation of self, Jungian ego inflation and individuation, detaching with love, and the grief underneath control, this episode looks at why overfunctioning, rescuing, fixing, and emotional caretaking often feel like love while secretly functioning as anxiety management. The invitation is not to stop caring, but to stop confusing love with responsibility for someone else's healing.Applications are now open to the public for Cohort 4 of Inner Compass Academy.ICA is Vanessa's 10-week depth psychology training for therapists, coaches, space holders, creatives, seekers, and anyone who wants to go beyond surface-level self-help and learn how to work more deeply with shadow, the unconscious, embodiment, relational patterns, dreams, archetypes, and the symbolic life.This is not a program promising quick formulas or coaching scripts. It is a certificate training rooted in depth, Jungian theory, relationship, liberation psychology, and the kind of inner work that changes how we hold ourselves and others.Cohort 4 begins September 13.Learn more and apply here: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academyRESOURCES & REFERENCESAl-Anon: The Three C'sA reminder that you didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it.https://al-anon.org/pdf/P46_2003_web.pdfAl-Anon Family GroupsInformation and support for people affected by someone else's drinking.https://al-anon.org/Melody Beattie: Codependent No MoreA resource on codependency, boundaries, self-care, and the ways we can lose ourselves while trying to help someone else.https://www.melodybeattie.com/codependentnomoreThe Bowen Center: Differentiation of SelfAn introduction to staying emotionally connected to others while maintaining a clear and distinct sense of self.https://www.thebowencenter.org/differentiation-of-selfInternational Association for Analytical Psychology: IndividuationAn introduction to the Jungian concept of individuation—the process of becoming more conscious and more fully yourself.https://iaap.org/jung-analytical-psychology/short-articles-on-analytical-psychology/individuation-2/If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Being a leader and celebrate recovery can be lonely at times and questions can come up that we need some extra help to help bring clarity. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of celebrate recovery, will answer some questions from Ministry leaders across the US, that were asked at the west gathering in California. The goal is to help bring clarity to some questions to help sharpen the saw of our great leaders on the local level.

I sat down with clinical psychologist and energy healing coach Nicole Parkes to talk about how her own autism and ADHD diagnoses changed the way she works with clients. We get into what it feels like when pathological demand avoidance (PDA) takes over, why talk therapy alone wasn't enough to help her heal from trauma, and the particular exhaustion of chronic illness layered on top of neurodivergence. Nicole also opens up about a more recent chapter of self-discovery that surprised her, and shares something her own coach once told her that changed how she sees her whole life. This episode goes to some unexpected places, and I think you may come away from it thinking differently about what it means to be wired the way you are. Find Nicole at nicoleparkescoaching.com or on Instagram @nicoleparkescoaching.All episodes written and produced by Kristen Hovet.Send in your questions to otherautism@gmail.com Buy me a coffee!Book a life-coaching session with me!The views, opinions, and experiences shared by guests on this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or production team. The content is intended for informational purposes only and should not be taken as medical or professional advice. Please consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making any decisions related to your health, fitness, or wellness. 

BPD Exws What is The Pathway To Healing and What Is Not?BPD Exes what is the pathway to healing? It is not merely researching and "understanding" Borderline Personality Disorder. That canactually become a block to your healing and recovery process. In response to a commenter who is so lost, I talk about what isn't helpful when one has decided or knows they need to heal and recovery from a BPD toxic relationships and Codependency. I respond to a commenter who is really in a no-win place of unhealthy thinking "married" to being a "poor victim" of a person with VPD. Despite th e reality that people with (especially) untreate4d BPD hurt, abuse, use, and traumatize others, it's not helpful to stay in a "poor victim mentality" even though you have been victimized. https://ajmahari.ca/sessions - One-to-one private sessionshttps://ajmahari.com - Online Store

Codependency is the topic at hand . We do deep dive into how we hurt ourselves without our so called needs .

Breaking Free from Codependency | Dr. Sarah Michaud, Clinical PsychologistWhat happens when the behaviors that once helped us survive begin preventing us from truly living?Dr. Mary Sanders welcomes Dr. Sarah Michaud, a clinical psychologist with more than 30 years of experience in addiction and codependency and more than 40 years of sobriety, for an honest conversation about codependency, recovery, healthy boundaries, and emotional freedom.Together, they explore how codependent patterns can sometimes look like love, loyalty, compassion, or simply being the person everyone depends on. They also discuss how to recognize these patterns, tolerate other people's disappointment, establish healthier boundaries, and begin creating a stronger relationship with yourself.If you have ever felt trapped in the role of rescuer, fixer, caretaker, or peacekeeper, this episode offers compassionate insight and practical steps toward change.Because breaking free from codependency is not about becoming less caring. It is about learning not to abandon yourself in the process.Ready to explore a more personalized approach to your wellbeing? Schedule a complimentary Discovery Call with Dr. Mary.Schedule Your Complimentary Discovery Call: https://calendly.com/drmarysanders/discovery-call?month=2026-08

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What is the overall goal of vulnerability and is it the end goal? In this part two episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will finish up this topic on understanding vulnerability and staying in a healthy space as we share through a corporate, one on one testimony and/or small group setting.What are some practical examples of healthy vulnerability in recovery?

What if the struggle you're gripping so hard right now was never yours to force — only to move through, awake? In this episode of The MetaBusiness Millennial, I sit down with Marvin Wilkerson — master evolutionary astrologer, certified hypnotherapist, and author of Soul Fusion Healing: Integrating Mind, Body, and Soul — who has spent 75 years learning, teaching, and embodying one radical truth: you are not the doer. We go deep on the soul's life plan, why your desires were imprinted before you were born, the real difference between surrender and giving up, why the most spiritual thing you can do is simply be human, and how your birth chart reads like the language of energy itself. If you're a woman building something real and quietly exhausted from forcing it, consider this your permission slip. Come sit with us. ✨ What You'll Take Away Why “you are not the doer” isn't permission to stop — it's permission to stop forcing How your desires, and your hardest lessons, were chosen at the soul level before you arrived The real difference between surrender and giving up (and why the grief lives in the gap) Why the most spiritual thing you can do is be fully human — not more spiritual How evolutionary astrology reads your chart as the soul's blueprint — talents and karmic patterns alike Why the chaos women are moving through right now is the birth of their organized power ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 — You Are Not the Doer 00:53 — Welcome Marvin 01:33 — The Reading at 18 That Flipped the Switch 04:48 — Why Soul Fusion Healing Had to Be Written 08:36 — Seek, Don't Believe — Beliefs Are Fiction 11:12 — White Light, Theta, and Wordless Unity 15:36 — You Are Not the Doer, Unpacked 21:02 — Soul Groups, Karma, and the Lessons You Chose 25:54 — Surrender vs Giving Up 31:00 — You Are Not the Body 34:22 — Where Vision and Pain Live in the Brain 38:31 — Talking to Spirit Out Loud 45:36 — Astrology as the Language of Energy 52:15 — Reading the Blueprint — Nodes, Codependency, Power 55:48 — Women Coming Into Their Power 1:02:32 — Lightning Round 1:05:42 — Where to Find Marvin + Close

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We've all experienced struggles around oversharing if we've been in ministry any length of time. What do we do with the scenarios? Where does over sharing take place and become unhealthy? Honesty with intention vs information for attention. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacks a part one of a two-part series on understanding, vulnerability, and where we can get stuck with some practical examples. What does healthy vulnerability and unhealthy vulnerability look like?

There's one reason your new habits never stick, and it has nothing to do with willpower. Peter Crone has spent decades coaching PGA Tour golfers, Major League Baseball athletes, and top executives on the subconscious wiring behind their results, and he breaks down why force can override a habit but never an identity. He explains why most relationships start as attachment and codependency instead of real love, why hatred is a wound you carry inside yourself, and why the story you keep telling about your pain is the thing keeping you stuck in it. You'll hear why the mind isn't the brain, why you can't heal from the same level of consciousness that created the problem, and why chasing certainty is the exact thing keeping you anxious. This conversation will change how you see the parts of yourself you've spent your whole life trying to fix. Sign Up For Peter's Mastermind: Website Peter on Instagram Peter on Facebook In this episode you will: Discover why willpower fails to create lasting change and what actually shifts an identity Learn the difference between force and true power, and why force always collapses on itself Uncover how childhood conditioning quietly writes the script for your adult relationships Understand why you can't heal from the same level of consciousness that created your pain Break down what's really driving your need for certainty, and why it feeds your anxiety For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1969 More SOG episodes we think you'll love! Get More From Lewis! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why do you keep falling in love with the same toxic person, just wearing a different face?I sat down with Ross Rosenberg, MEd, the author of the bestselling book Human Magnet Syndrome, and a psychotherapist whose work has reached over 34 million YouTube views and sold 200K books in 12 languages.Ross has spent decades untangling the real roots of codependency and reframed it as what he calls Self-Love Deficit Disorder.We get into the invisible pull between people who give everything away and people who take it, and why that chemistry so often feels like fate when it is really just familiar pain.He breaks down the pyramid that starts with attachment trauma, builds into core shame and pathological loneliness, and ends in compulsive attraction to narcissistic personality disorder. His method for reaching memories the conscious mind cannot access explains why talk therapy alone rarely breaks these cycles.We also cover emotional incest and what it takes to divorce a narcissist.Visit selfloverecovery.com and use code LUKE to save 35% off all books, courses, and seminars. Email help@selfloverecovery.com and mention LUKE for 25% off your first therapy session.You'll learn:[0:00] Introduction[4:43] Codependency's history, from Al-Anon jargon and the tango dance concept to self-love deficit disorder[16:09] The self-love deficit pyramid, from attachment trauma to pathological loneliness[24:40] Familiar love feels like a drug, healthy love feels like home[36:37] The difference between a pathological narcissist and someone who's simply selfish[43:29] The narcissist's hated child grows up broken and can't see the problem[50:50] Comparing overt abuse to neglect and abandonment in shaping a child[59:44] Talk therapy fails while psychedelics open the door to buried trauma[1:07:08] Inside the HITCH technique and the moment a client reintegrates their inner child[1:15:17] Narcissistic bonds take a toll, from childhood emotional incest to needing a strategist in divorceResources Mentioned:Melody Beattie | WebsiteRead: A Horse Named Lonesome: Tales and Teachings to Reclaim Connection, Transcend Separation, and Discover the Divine Within by Luke Storey | BookDorothy Tennov | WikipediaRead: Alcoholics Anonymous by Alcoholics Anonymous World Services | BookAttachment Theory | WikipediaJohn Bowlby | WikipediaBessel van der Kolk | WebsiteRead: The Doors of Perception: And Heaven and Hell by Aldous Huxley | BookRead: Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams |BookFull show notes at lukestorey.com/selfloveFind more from Ross:Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed | Instagram | Facebook | X | TikTok | YouTubeSelf Love Recovery | Website | FacebookRead: The Codependency Revolution: Fixing What Was Always Broken by Ross Rosenberg here.Find more from Luke:Luke Storey | Instagram | Facebook | X | YouTube | LinkedInThe Life Stylist is Brought To You By:PIQUE | Visit piquelife.com/luke and get 15% off for life when you subscribe.QUANTUM UPGRADE | Visit lukestorey.com/quantumupgrade and use code LUKE15 to start your 15-day free trial.JUST THRIVE | Head to justthrivehealth.com/luke and use code LUKE to save 20%.APOLLO NEURO | Visit apolloneuro.com/luke and use code LUKE for $99 off.

How to Love a Spouse Who Has Psychological ProblemsWhen a spouse struggles with anxiety, depression, severe ADHD, OCD, or another ongoing psychological problem, it can be easy to shift from being a partner into being a caregiver. Over-caretaking, avoiding conflict, or tolerating harmful behavior may seem loving but can lead to burnout, resentment, and an unhealthy relationship. Coach Jack explains how to balance compassion for a spouse's struggles with boundaries that protect both partners and the marriage.What You'll LearnHow to distinguish supporting a spouse from taking on too much responsibility for themHow healthy boundaries can protect your spouse, yourself, and your relationshipHow to respond when psychological symptoms become an excuse for demanding or abusive behaviorHow to maintain your own well-being without abandoning compassion for your spouseWant to Work With Coach Jack?The Difficult Partner Coaching Package can help you work toward a healthier relationship while changing patterns that leave you feeling trapped, over-responsible, or emotionally exhausted. Coach Jack helps clients develop more constructive relationship patterns while balancing care for a spouse with care for themselves and the marriage.Key TakeawaysPsychological problems do not eliminate the need for healthy boundaries.Excessive caretaking can contribute to burnout and codependency.A spouse's anger about a boundary does not necessarily mean the boundary is harmful.Consistency is important when establishing healthier limits.Caring for yourself helps you remain a partner rather than becoming only a caregiver.Additional ResourcesDifficult Partner Coaching PackageConsultationsWork one-on-one with Coach Jack to repair your relationship using small, easy steps that rebuild connection quickly. Visit CoachJackIto.com to learn more about relationship coaching.

If you've ever wondered whether suffering can be meaningful without becoming your whole identity, this episode is for you. Vanessa explores the difference between suffering that humbles, transforms, and moves us toward greater honesty, and suffering that becomes a role, a claim, a performance, or a way to stay morally protected. Through depth psychology, meaning-making research, Viktor Frankl, Jung, terror management theory, Freud's mourning and melancholia, secondary gain, pathological altruism, and the martyr archetype, we look at why pain can become so hard to release when it has given us significance, belonging, or leverage. The question is not whether your suffering is real; the question is what it is doing.Applications are now open to the public for Cohort 4 of Inner Compass Academy. ICA is Vanessa's 10-week depth psychology training for therapists, coaches, space holders, creatives, seekers, and anyone called toward deeper work with shadow, the unconscious, embodiment, dreams, archetypes, relational patterns, and the symbolic life.Cohort 4 begins September 13. Learn more and apply here:https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academyRESEARCH & REFERENCESCrystal Park — Meaning-Making After Stressful Life EventsResearch on meaning-making, including global and situational meaning and how people integrate stressful or traumatic experiences into broader beliefs, goals, and worldviews.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20192563/Ronnie Janoff-Bulman — Shattered AssumptionsExplores how trauma can disrupt fundamental assumptions about ourselves, other people, safety, meaning, and the world.https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Shattered-Assumptions/Ronnie-Janoff-Bulman/9780743236256Viktor Frankl — Man's Search for Meaning & LogotherapyFrankl's work on the human search for meaning, particularly in the context of suffering.https://www.viktorfrankl.org/books_by_vf.htmlhttps://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/538699/mans-search-for-meaning-by-viktor-e-frankl/Jung — The Religious Function of the PsycheA Jungian perspective on the psyche's production of religious, symbolic, and numinous material in relation to meaning and psychological wholeness.https://jungchicago.org/the-religious-functions-of-the-psyche/James Hollis — Jungian Psychology & the “Larger Life”Hollis's work explores suffering, meaning, the ego, and the movement toward what he describes as a larger life.https://jameshollis.net/“Martyr” — Etymology & the Meaning of WitnessThe etymology of martyr, tracing its roots through Latin and Greek martyr/martys, meaning “witness.”https://www.etymonline.com/word/martyrTerror Management TheoryResearch and theory concerning mortality awareness, existential anxiety, cultural worldviews, self-worth, meaning, and symbolic immortality.https://dictionary.apa.org/terror-management-theoryhttps://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/9781118430873.est0813https://doi.org/10.4135/9781071840801.n283Secondary Gain — APA Dictionary of PsychologyA psychological concept describing benefits or advantages that may arise from symptoms beyond their primary psychological function.https://dictionary.apa.org/secondary-gainSigmund Freud — Mourning and MelancholiaFreud's distinction between mourning and melancholia, including identification with the lost object, self-reproach, and the displacement of reproach toward the object onto the self.https://ia903101.us.archive.org/29/items/FreudMourningAndMelancholia/Freud_MourningAndMelancholia_text.pdfBarbara Oakley — Pathological AltruismExplores circumstances in which altruism, empathy, or helping behavior can produce unintended harmful consequences.https://barbaraoakley.com/books/pathological-altruism/Heinz Kohut — Self Psychology & the Grandiose SelfBackground on Kohut's self psychology, including self-esteem regulation, narcissistic development, external relationships, and the grandiose self.https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/nursing-and-health-professions/self-psychologyVanessa Bennett — Codependency, Martyrdom & Relational PatternsVanessa's clinical and depth-psychology framework for understanding codependency, overgiving, resentment, moral armor, indirect communication, and martyrdom within relationships. https://www.vanessabennett.com/If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I've been thinking a lot about how we choose to see and interact with the people in our lives. Especially the ones we love the most.What if we could begin to see them not just as their choices, their behaviors, their wounds, or the stories we've created about them, but as souls having their own human experience?What happens when we stop trying to fix people?What happens when we release the need for them to be different so that we can be okay?And what happens when we remember that their soul journey is theirs, just as ours is ours?This is a deeper conversation about the spiritual side of Recover Your Soul, about remembering our wholeness, releasing judgment, and beginning to see the people around us in a different way.I'm sharing some of what I've been learning and experiencing, including some ideas about souls, our human experience, and why I believe the people who challenge us can sometimes be some of our greatest teachers.As always, take what you need and leave the rest.I'm just sharing what I'm discovering on my own journey, and I hope something in this conversation opens a new way of seeing for you too.

One of the powerful things about principle seven of celebrate recovery is that we have an opportunity to sit with the Father and allow Him, the teacher to speak. What if we slowed down long enough to ask what He is saying to us and what He is teaching us about ourselves and others and how we move forward as believers in Jesus Christ? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, walks us through an exercise that he and his wife practice together to allow God's word to marinate and saturate their hearts toward change.

“Good Girl” consciousness isn't a personality trait. It's actually a rigid, self-righteous construct. It's a way you're trying to feel safe, loved and worthy; but truly it kills your desire, alienates you from others, diminishes your creativity and inhibits intimacy.In this episode, grace breaks down how the most common signs the good girl programming are running your nervous system, your relationships, and even your business. She traces where the programming comes from, why it often collapses into martyrdom or control, and what it takes to trade goodness for a more pleasurable, wild wholeness instead.We discuss —(0:33) what good girl consciousness is — a pattern in your nervous system and a paradigm about how the world works(6:55) not feeling “good enough” to want what you want(8:36) being rigid about everyone else's behavior and beliefs(12:41) believing it's your job to save others, and resenting those who aren't trying to “save the world”(15:39) the real point of a spiritual practice is not being a good person(19:34) driven by the fear of being misunderstood and performing so people won't leave you(33:41) the suffering artist story surrounding your gifts(40:02) pride in hyperindependence and the fear of “wanting too much”If you enjoyed the episode, check out —finding your true Gift

In this episode of The Owaken Podcast, Lukis Mac and Hella Omega explore why you cannot change friends, family, partners, or colleagues, and how attempts to fix or micromanage others often create frustration, resistance, and codependent dynamics rooted in fear and survival.They share the teaching “be love, be creative,” emphasizing that you can only create for yourself while allowing others to be their own creator, and introduce the “third probability” as a way to move beyond binary thinking and trust divine timing in others' growth.Using the stages of change, they discuss discerning support versus spiritual bypassing, the importance of consent. They also cover boundaries, guilt, breathwork and meditation for processing emotions, leading by example, and outgrowing misaligned relationships.This episode is a powerful reminder that loving someone doesn't mean taking responsibility for their healing, choices, or growth. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is release control, honor their path, set clear boundaries, and bring your energy back to yourself.When you stop trying to change other people, you create more space to focus on what you can change: how you respond, what you choose, what you allow, and how you show up in your own life and relationships.00:00 Why You Can't Change People01:07 Setting Intentions Together01:44 Be Love Be Creative04:39 Control Fear Codependency06:31 The Third Probability08:44 Stages of Change12:25 Boundaries Support Growth19:25 Guilt After Saying No26:02 Ask What They Need35:22 Stop Coaching Without Consent37:08 Lead By Example42:32 Choose You Don't Dim46:26 Final Takeaways Wrap UpFollow for more insights and inspiration:Follow Owaken:instagram.com/owakenbreathworkFollow Hella Omega:instagram.com/hellaomegaFollow Lukis Mac:instagram.com/lukismacLearn more about Owaken Breathwork at:Owaken.com

Do you constantly feel responsible for other people's happiness? Struggle to say no? Find yourself rescuing, fixing, or losing yourself in relationships? In this replay episode, we're revisiting one of our most practical conversations on codependency. Haley and Dustin unpack what codependency really is, why it's often misunderstood, and how unhealthy relationship patterns can quietly shape marriages, families, friendships, and even ministry. Together they explore the warning signs of codependency, the emotional and spiritual issues that often fuel it, and what Scripture teaches about healthy love, boundaries, and finding your identity in Christ instead of another person. Whether you've wondered if you're codependent or you're trying to help someone caught in an unhealthy relationship, this conversation offers biblical wisdom and practical steps toward healthier relationships and lasting freedom. Subscribe to the podcast and tune in each week as Haley and Dustin share with you what the Bible says about real-life issues with compassion, warmth, and wit.   So you have every reason for hope, for every challenge in life. Because hope means everything.   Hope Talks is a podcast of the ministry of Hope for the Heart.   Listen in to learn more    Hope for the Heart resources   Join us this fall at the Hope Together Conference! Learn more and sign up here: https://hopetogether.com/    Connect with Hope for the Heart on social!    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hopefortheheart   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hopefortheheart    Learn more about the ministry and resources of Hope for the Heart: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/    Learn more about Hope Talks and catch up on past episodes: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/hopetalks/    Want to talk with June Hunt on Hope in the Night about a difficult life issue? Schedule a time here: https://resource.hopefortheheart.org/talk-with-june-hope-in-the-night     God's plan for you: https://www.hopefortheheart.org/gods-plan-for-you      Give to the ministry of Hope for the Heart: https://hopefortheheart.donorsupport.co/page/hope-talks    ---------------------------- Bible verses mentioned in this episode   Jeremiah 31:3 -- “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Romans 5:8 – “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 8:38-39 – “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Betrayal Trauma Is Not Codependency Episode Summary For years, partners who have experienced sexual betrayal have sometimes been labeled as codependent or “co-addicted.” But is that an accurate way to understand what happens after betrayal? In this episode of the Human Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Kevin Skinner and MaryAnn Michaelis explore the important difference between betrayal trauma and codependency. They discuss research showing that the trauma symptoms experienced by betrayed partners are distinct from codependency and explain why labeling a betrayed partner as codependent can unintentionally shift responsibility away from the person who engaged in deception or betrayal. At the same time, codependent patterns can exist in any relationship. Kevin and MaryAnn explore what happens when we become afraid to speak honestly, avoid conflict, enable unhealthy behaviors, lose our sense of identity, or depend on another person to determine our worth. The conversation also explores the importance of differentiation—learning to remain connected to others without losing yourself. Healing means recognizing what belongs to you, taking responsibility for your own growth, setting healthy boundaries, developing your voice, and refusing to take responsibility for another person's choices. Ultimately, healthy relationships are not built by losing ourselves in another person. They are strengthened when two people develop a clear sense of who they are while learning how to love, support, and connect with each other. Resources Facing Codependence — Pia Mellody A foundational resource for understanding codependency, its origins, and developing a healthier sense of self. Codependent No More — Melody Beattie A classic resource for recognizing codependent patterns, developing boundaries, and learning healthier forms of self-care. The Other Side of Infidelity — Dr. Kevin Skinner | TEDxRiverton A presentation exploring the often-overlooked experience of betrayed partners and the traumatic impact of sexual betrayal. Learn More About Healing as a Couple If sexual betrayal has affected your relationship and you are trying to understand how to move forward together, learn more about the Intimacy Repair Method™. The Intimacy Repair Method provides couples with a structured approach for rebuilding emotional safety, restoring trust, understanding each partner's experience, and creating greater connection after betrayal. Visit IntimacyRepairMethod.com to learn more about resources, courses, and opportunities for couples.

David Canfield joins Katey and Chris Rosen to look at the fall offerings from the studio-based indie labels Focus Features, Sony Pictures Classics, and Searchlight Pictures. Then Katey talks to Charles Melton about how he tapped into his Gen Z side — as well as some very endearing cluelessness — to play his character Austin on the Emmy-nominated Beef. 00:00 Intro 01:24 Fall Preview: The Indie Labels 02:42 Searchlight's Big Bet: Wild Horse Nine 08:06 Behemoth Premieres At New York Film Fest 12:27 Sony Classics' Slate: Bunker And Beyond 13:40 John Turturro's Overdue Moment 18:25 Focus And The Obsession Phenomenon 21:53 Can Werewolf Follow Nosferatu? 25:22 Andrew Scott And Elsinore 31:45 Focus's Unsolved Mysteries 33:46 Women Directors 40:18 Next: Charles Melton 41:24 The Dinner That Launched Beef 43:37 Navigating Award Season Meetings 45:14 Directors As Film School 47:24 The Beef Viewing Diet 49:43 Why It's Funny, But Not Funny To Play 51:27 Austin's Dangerous Sweetness 54:22 Codependency, Books And Identity 55:36 Leaving The Role At Work 57:28 Playing Austin Davis 59:45 That Finale: A Happy Marriage? 01:01:47 What Do You Take From Every Role? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe today⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to Prestige Junkie After Party bonus episodes. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to the Prestige Junkie newsletter.  Follow Katey on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Letterboxd⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow The Ankler. 

Why Codependency Takes So Long to Heal A Live Workshop Episode with Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach Have you ever wondered why, even after years of self-help, therapy, or awareness, you still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns? Do you find yourself exhausted from overgiving, overthinking, fixing others, and trying to earn love, while slowly losing connection with yourself? If so, you are not failing. You may have been conditioned to focus on everyone else except yourself. In this powerful live workshop episode, Lisa A. Romano explains why codependency takes so long to heal and why many people stay trapped in subconscious patterns for decades without realizing it. Through deep psychological insight, nervous system awareness, and trauma-informed healing, Lisa reveals how codependents become hyper-focused on managing other people's emotions while unconsciously abandoning their authentic selves. This is not about weakness. It is about survival conditioning. In This Episode You'll Discover:

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Why do we worship and celebrate recovery? It's a question that's important for us to answer so that we understand that it's not just something we do apart from recovery but it's something that is very much setting the table and a part of the recovery process. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack his personal experiences around a recent celebrate recovery worship meeting, and some takeaways that he learned about the value of worship in a celebrate recovery meeting. Most of all, why it's more important than we realize.

Step into a deeply honest, courageous, and eye-opening conversation with Ralph Brewer, founder of Help For Men and creator of Dad Starting Over, on this episode of Intimate Conversations: Dark Night to Divine Light. Ralph's work has helped hundreds of thousands of men rebuild their confidence, heal after divorce, navigate relationship breakdowns, and rediscover themselves through personal responsibility rather than blame. Drawing from his own painful journey through infidelity, divorce, co-parenting, and emotional healing, Ralph shares how what once felt like the greatest failure of his life ultimately became the foundation of his life's purpose. What began as surviving a devastating marriage evolved into mentoring men around the world toward healthier relationships—with themselves first. Together, Allana and Ralph explore the hidden dynamics behind "dead bedrooms," emotional disconnection, anxious attachment, codependency, and the patterns that quietly destroy intimacy long before relationships end. Ralph vulnerably explains how many men unknowingly become trapped in people-pleasing, reassurance-seeking, and "Nice Guy Syndrome," only to realize that true attraction begins with becoming emotionally secure rather than trying harder to earn love. The conversation moves beyond relationship advice into something much deeper: self-awareness. Rather than focusing on blaming a partner for betrayal or emotional distance, both Allana and Ralph discuss the transformative power of radical ownership. They explore how healing begins when we become willing to examine our own blind spots, attachment wounds, fears, and unconscious behaviors without excusing harmful actions from others. Throughout the episode, they unpack why so many people ignore their intuition in relationships. Ralph shares how insecurity often causes us to overlook obvious warning signs because we fear losing love more than we value listening to ourselves. Together they discuss the importance of learning to trust uncomfortable feelings rather than immediately trying to suppress or escape them. A powerful part of the discussion centers on emotional healing and the courage to simply feel. Ralph explains that many men are conditioned to suppress grief, fear, sadness, and vulnerability, believing strength means emotional silence. Instead, he argues that emotional resilience comes from allowing difficult feelings to exist without immediately trying to fix, numb, or avoid them.  Allana beautifully expands on this idea by exploring how unprocessed emotions become stored within the body and eventually impact our relationships, health, and overall well-being. She explains how healing the emotional body often transforms physical symptoms, confidence, posture, intimacy, and self-worth in ways many people never expect. The conversation also explores what happens when genuine personal growth changes the trajectory of a relationship. Ralph explains that as many men become healthier, more emotionally secure, and more authentic, they sometimes discover that their relationship was built on unhealthy foundations. While painful, they discuss how choosing truth over comfort can become one of the greatest acts of love—for themselves, their children, and even their former partners. Allana and Ralph speak candidly about conscious uncoupling, raising emotionally healthy children, and releasing the shame often associated with divorce. Rather than seeing the end of a relationship as failure, they invite listeners to view it as an opportunity for growth, accountability, compassion, and creating healthier models of love for future generations. The conversation concludes by highlighting the importance of community, mentorship, and authentic male friendship. Ralph shares why he created The Brotherhood—a space where men can openly discuss struggles that are rarely spoken about elsewhere, receive support without judgment, and learn that vulnerability is not weakness but one of the greatest expressions of courage. We also talk about: Healing after infidelity and divorce Dead bedrooms and emotional disconnection Codependency and "Nice Guy Syndrome" Radical self-ownership Learning to trust intuition Sitting with uncomfortable emotions Physical health and emotional well-being Masculinity and emotional vulnerability Conscious uncoupling and co-parenting Personal responsibility versus blame Brotherhood, mentorship, and community Becoming secure from within rather than seeking external validation This episode is a powerful reminder that healing doesn't begin when someone else changes—it begins when we become willing to face ourselves with honesty, compassion, and courage. Sometimes the path to finding real love begins by learning that you are already enough. About Ralph: Ralph Brewer is the founder of Help For Men and creator of Dad Starting Over, two influential platforms supporting men through divorce, dead bedrooms, and modern relationship breakdowns. He is the author of five books, including his most recognized title, The Dead Bedroom Fix, which has earned hundreds of 5-star reviews on Amazon and become a go-to resource for men ready to reclaim their confidence and clarity. Ralph combines honest storytelling with practical guidance—offering mentorship, not therapy—to help men rebuild their lives, relationships, and self-worth. Through coaching programs, digital courses, and his private Brotherhood community, he provides tools men can actually use. Whether you're divorced, stuck in a strained marriage, or just feeling invisible, Ralph's message meets men where they are—and calls them to lead themselves forward.   Connect with Ralph: Website www.helpformen.com Facebook URL www.facebook.com/realhelpformen Instagram URL @realhelpformen YouTube URL @realhelpformen Twitter URL @realhelpformen Go deeper with me inside The Intimate World. patreon.com/AllanaPratt #TheIntimateWorld

Sometimes boundaries can be misinterpreted as a means to reject, control, or even push people away as a sense or source of punishment. But what is the heart behind boundaries? What was God's design in scriptures that we can learn from the value and importance of boundaries. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, discusses boundaries and the heart behind them and what our posture should be as we practice boundaries with the people around us in Ministry and our recovery.

Stop losing yourself to love. What if codependency isn't just about your relationships with other people, but your relationship with yourself? In this episode, John and Vanessa explore why recovering from codependency is really about building a stronger sense of identity. They explain how people pleasing, lacking boundaries, and fearing rejection can keep us disconnected from who we really are, and why choosing authenticity over self-abandonment is essential for healthier relationships. In this episode: • Why codependency recovery is really identity work • How people pleasing can become a way to avoid yourself • The connection between resentment, boundaries, and self-abandonment • Why some relationships change or end when you begin healing • The difference between healthy love and the version of love many of us were taught • How corrective experiences help you build a stronger relationship with yourself If you enjoyed this episode, follow the podcast, leave a rating, and share it with someone who might need to hear it.

Angela Harger-Thompson had moved to Hollywood to make it big in showbiz but soon fell victim to a devastating assault. There to comfort her was her intermittent boyfriend. She really liked him and thought his offer of a four-week, 4000 mile sailing voyage on the Pacific Ocean, accompanies by a small crew of strangers and a dog seemed like a good idea. The claustrophobic pressure of that situation, combined with the dangers of ocean travel, was compounded by the rapid emergence of the covid pandemic. That meant closed borders, dwindling provisions, and a fear of what would come next. Angela tells us of the codependency in play in this situation, how they finally reached semi-friendly shores, how the romance crumbled hard, and the fallout that ensued. It's all detailed in her new book, Worst Tits Ever, a title that sprang from an angry missive from what had become her very much EX-boyfriend. Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of Maximum Fun. Check out our I'm Glad You're Here and Depresh Mode merchandise at the brand new merch website MaxFunStore.com! Hey, remember, you're part of Depresh Mode and we want to hear what you want to hear about. What guests and issues would you like to have covered in a future episode? Write us at depreshmode@maximumfun.org. Depresh Mode is on BlueSky, Instagram, Substack, and you can join our Preshies Facebook group.  Help is available right away. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 or 1-800-273-8255, 1-800-273-TALK Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741. International suicide hotline numbers available here: https://www.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines Help support this show and unlock bonus content! Become a member at https://maximumfun.org/joindepresh

Codependency is a complicated, controversial topic that no one quite agrees upon. Anney and Samantha unpack why this is such a complex issue and how the understanding of it has evolved over time, especially when it comes to gender norms and women.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.