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This week our guest Claire shares the beginning of a relationship that seemed to have all the ingredients of a great love story: adventure, deep connection, and a partner who appeared thoughtful, supportive, and committed to growth. But as the years unfold, subtle moments of criticism, manipulation, and shifting power dynamics begin to reshape how Claire sees herself and her place in the relationship. In Part One of this powerful two-part story, Claire reflects on the early warning signs she missed, the ways coercion can hide behind self-improvement and good intentions, and how easy it is to lose trust in your own instincts when someone else becomes the authority on your reality.Are you in the Chicago, Tampa, or Orlando area and want to come see us live?! Get your tickets at the links below:7/16 in Chicago: https://tickets.thedentheatre.com/event/dating-detectives-llpj8q?utm_source=performer&utm_medium=performerlink&utm_campaign=datingdetectives8/5 in Orlando: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/48863575/the-dating-detectives-live-orlando-funny-bone-comedy-club-orlando8/6 in Tampa: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/35010834/the-dating-detectives-live-tampa-funny-bone-comedy-club-tampaClick here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Bellesa. Get a free Whisper Vibe or free Rose Suction Toy with any Whisper order at bbvibes.com/detectives.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1/month trial at shopify.com/datingdetectivesThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Jones Road Beauty. For a limited time our listeners are getting a free Cool Gloss on their first purchase when they use code DATINGDETECTIVES at checkout. Head to jonesroadbeauty.com to get yours today!This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/TDD.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The skills problem isn't going anywhere — it's just wearing new clothes. In this episode, I unpack how the lessons we learned decades ago (limiting work in progress, the theory of constraints, test-driven development) are coming roaring back as the fundamentals that will carry you through the agentic shift. The bottleneck has moved, and knowing where it went changes how you should work. A lot of what we're learning about building with agentic tooling isn't new at all — it's a re-emphasis on lessons software engineers learned twenty years ago, just arriving in a new form. In today's episode, I walk through why the fundamentals are becoming more important than ever, why so many of us feel scattered despite having the most powerful tooling we've ever had, and where the real bottleneck in software delivery has quietly moved. My goal isn't to convince you that your job is now babysitting AI — it's to show you which parts of the work are still squarely yours, and how older principles can make you faster and more confident right now. Limiting Work in Progress Is Back: Just because you can spin up fifty agents doesn't mean you should split your focus across fifty things. Orchestrated fan-outs are powerful, but a human juggling agents across hiring, on-call, and a project all at once still pays the same old context-switching tax — and the quality drops while the speed never improves. Work Deeper, Not Wider: Instead of spreading yourself shallowly across more tickets, run multiple sessions on the same domain. Write a competing or adversarial version that critiques your assumptions, develop better documentation, or capture what you're learning as a reusable skill. Depth beats breadth. The Scattered-Engineer Epidemic: Engineers are burning out faster, not slower. We have the capacity to push more through the pipeline, so we're getting handed (or choosing) more than we can carry. Reducing parallelism often holds your delivery speed steady while dropping your cycle time and raising quality. The Theory of Constraints, Revisited: Treat your software development lifecycle as a pipeline with a bottleneck — and if you can't find one, you've optimized one part too far. Writing code used to be the choke point, so we spent enormous energy de-risking work before it ever reached an engineer. The Bottleneck Has Moved: When production gets cheap, it's no longer worth heavily de-risking upstream — which is why engineers are picking up more experimental, proof-of-concept, discovery work, and product folks are prototyping with these tools too. The new constraint isn't writing the code; it's verifying the agent didn't ship something broken. Verification Scales With Your Effort: The more an agent produces, the bigger the pile of PRs, MRs, and outputs waiting on human review. That backlog is the new bottleneck — and skepticism is creeping in because we're not even sure our tests are sufficient to verify what the agent built. Why TDD Fits This Moment: The honest question isn't "Can I trust the agent?" — it's "What verification loop do I need to build so I can trust it more?" Clear requirements feed a clear testing loop: write the failing test, let the agent write the code to turn it green, and you bridge the gap between requirements gathered and requirements met. It's not as simple as "go write a test," but it's a strong fit for where we are right now. Episode Homework: Go dig into the fundamentals — limiting WIP, the theory of constraints, test-driven development. Find the old lesson that still applies to your workflow today, bring it to your team's flow, and email me about what you discover.

- Curso gratis de SDD- Todos los enlacesEn este episodio hablamos de:El acoplamiento es mental: lo difícil de soltar no es el modelo, es la comodidad de lo que ya conoces.Estandariza en texto plano: todo en .agents / AGENTS.md, que lo lee casi cualquier agente.Ten un marco de trabajo propio: un SDD y palabras mágicas (grill me, tareas atómicas, TDD, PRD + ADR) que dan resultados con cualquier modelo.Hazte tus skills y MCP: portables entre agentes y a la medida de tu proyecto.Migrar es fácil con lenguaje natural: le dices "migra mi stack", lo hace, y tú solo revisas y pruebas.

When Emma reconnects with a childhood family friend during a disaster relief deployment, she never expects to fall for a man who seems straight out of a movie. A decorated paramedic, respected leader, and real-life lifesaver, Adam is the kind of person everyone admires. As their relationship deepens, Emma finds herself swept into a world of grand gestures, heroic rescues, and unwavering devotion. But as small inconsistencies begin to surface, she's left questioning whether the man she trusts most is really who he says he is. In Part 2 of this story, Emma shares how following her instincts led her to uncover a hidden life she never could have imagined—and the difficult lessons she learned about love, loyalty, and knowing when it's time to walk away.Are you in the Chicago, Tampa, or Orlando area and want to come see us live?! Get your tickets at the links below:7/16 in Chicago: https://tickets.thedentheatre.com/event/dating-detectives-llpj8q?utm_source=performer&utm_medium=performerlink&utm_campaign=datingdetectives8/5 in Orlando: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/48863575/the-dating-detectives-live-orlando-funny-bone-comedy-club-orlando8/6 in Tampa: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/35010834/the-dating-detectives-live-tampa-funny-bone-comedy-club-tampaClick here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Only Fantasy. Listen wherever you get your podcasts, or binge all episodes ad-free on Audible.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by OSEA. Get 10% off your first order site-wide with code DATINGDETECTIVES at oseamalibu.com.This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week's podcast episode covers, in just eight minutes, how you can (and should) adjust Kent Beck's "call it" trick for TDD to your leadership toolbox. Let your thumb take a break from scrolling and give yourself a little upgrade.Grab a copy of my books, Capitalizing Your Technology and  The Tech Executive Operating System.Subscribe to the best newsletter for tech executives.For any questions or comments, reach out to me directly: aviv@avivbenyosef.com

When Emma reconnects with a childhood family friend during a disaster relief deployment, she never expects to fall for a man who seems straight out of a movie. A decorated paramedic, respected leader, and real-life lifesaver, Adam is the kind of person everyone admires. As their relationship deepens, Emma finds herself swept into a world of grand gestures, heroic rescues, and unwavering devotion. But as small inconsistencies begin to surface, she's left questioning whether the man she trusts most is really who he says he is. In Part 1 of this story, Emma shares how a romance that looked perfect from the outside slowly became impossible to ignore.Are you in the Chicago, Tampa, or Orlando area and want to come see us live?! Get your tickets at the links below:7/16 in Chicago: https://tickets.thedentheatre.com/event/dating-detectives-llpj8q?utm_source=performer&utm_medium=performerlink&utm_campaign=datingdetectives8/5 in Orlando: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/48863575/the-dating-detectives-live-orlando-funny-bone-comedy-club-orlando8/6 in Tampa: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/35010834/the-dating-detectives-live-tampa-funny-bone-comedy-club-tampaClick here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by DeleteMe. Get 20% off your plan at joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives with code TDD.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/TDD.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Green Chef. Get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months at greenchef.com/50datingdetectives with code 50datingdetectives.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by DeleteMe. Get 20% off your plan at joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives with code TDD.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Quince. Get free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/datingdetectives.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Only Fantasy. Listen wherever you get your podcasts, or binge all episodes ad-free on Audible.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you seen the new testing tool that claims to give you fully working end-to-end tests in five minutes with zero setup? What are some of the ways AI agents are quietly gaming their own benchmarks, and what does that mean for how you evaluate them? How do you keep test-driven development alive when AI is the one writing the code? Find out in this episode of the TestGuild News Show for the week of June 1st. So, grab your favorite cup of coffee or tea, and let's do this. Time Item URL 0:00 Intro   0:24 Testifly https://testgld.link/Testifly1 1:13 AI False Confident principle https://testgld.link/130UlI0w 2:46 Webinar of the Week https://testgld.link/qG5fosCF 3:38 AI Agent Cheating https://testgld.link/C40pSlfj 4:44 TDD for AI https://testgld.link/wvLSXtmu 6:10 Webwright https://testgld.link/Nc0BkWBu 7:29 AI Quality Manifesto https://testgld.link/SUXMTc4X 8:45 Claude Workflows https://testgld.link/gOp52O6T  

BoxLang is a modern dynamic JVM language built for rapid application development. It's 100% Java-interoperable, compiles to JVM bytecode, and deployable anywhere from OS to AWS Lambda to Spring Boot. In this episode, we sit down with Luis Majano (CEO of Ortus Solutions and creator of BoxLang) and Cristobal Escobar (BoxLang community manager) to dig into the wave of innovation that has hit the platform over the past few months.We cover the BoxLang AI v3 release, a major overhaul that ships multi-agent orchestration with parent-child hierarchies, an AI Skills system based on Anthropic's open standard, MCP server integration (both consuming and serving), a composable middleware layer with six built-in classes including a FlightRecorder for deterministic CI testing, and a unified API spanning 17 AI providers. Luis and Cristobal walk us through the highlights of a 7-part BoxLang AI deep dive series, covering tools, memory systems & RAG, streaming, middleware, and MCP. We also touch on the BoxLang Spring Boot Starter, BoxLings (an interactive TDD/BDD learning platform), and TestBox 7's real-time streaming test runner.Whether you're a Java developer curious about dynamic JVM languages, an AI engineer looking for a productive alternative to Python-based agent frameworks, or just want to see what the JVM ecosystem can do in 2026, this episode is for you.GuestsLuis MajanoFoojay author pageLinkedInCristobal EscobarFoojay author pageLinkedInLinksOn the BoxLang website:BoxLang docsBoxLang AI docsBoxLang AcademyBoxLang for desktop applicationsBoxLang Spring Boot StarterBoxLingsAnnouncing MatchBox Open Beta: BoxLang, Now Running in New PlacesTry BoxLangOn Foojay:Overview of all recent BoxLang AI articles: Complete Guide to Building AI AgentsBoxLang AI v3 Has LandedBoxLang AI Deep Dive series, Parts 1–7How to Develop AI Agents Using BoxLang AI: A Practical GuideIntroducing the BoxLang Spring Boot StarterIntroducing BoxLings!Introducing skills.boxlang.io — The Open Agent Skills Ecosystem for BoxLang & the Ortus WorldContent00:00 Introduction of topic and guests01:17 What is BoxLang and how to use it05:25 Multi-runtime (WASM) with MatchBox, based on Rust07:00 Combining BoxLang with Spring Boot10:40 The abstraction approach in BoxLang AI, compared with LangChain4j and others14:18 Markdown skill files similar to Claude are also used in BoxLang AI15:21 About the 7-part Foojay BoxLang Deep Dive posts series, agents, event-driven,...19:28 BoxLang can be used for MCP server and client23:01 Premium features in BoxLang and building a company on an open-source project27:52 BoxLings, an interactive learning tool for BoxLang that teaches TDD and BDD30:25 TestBox 7, real-time streaming test execution and a browser-based IDE32:58 How to get started with BoxLang?34:14 How the evolutions in the JVM and Java language influence BoxLang development39:33 Which article to read first on Foojay about BoxLang?43:27 More learning resources and ideas for the future and desktop development48:05 Conclusions

Topics covered in this episode: Dumb Ways for an Open Source Project to Die How to create a pylock.toml lockfile https://github.com/facebook/Lifeguard Choosing a Python Logging Library in 2026 Extras Joke Watch on YouTube About the show Sponsored by us! Support our work through: Our courses at Talk Python Training The Complete pytest Course Patreon Supporters Connect with the hosts Michael: @mkennedy@fosstodon.org / @mkennedy.codes (bsky) Brian: @brianokken@fosstodon.org / @brianokken.bsky.social Show: @pythonbytes@fosstodon.org / @pythonbytes.fm (bsky) Join us on YouTube at pythonbytes.fm/live to be part of the audience. Usually Monday at 11am PT. Older video versions available there too. Finally, if you want an artisanal, hand-crafted digest of every week of the show notes in email form? Add your name and email to our friends of the show list, we'll never share it. Michael #1: Dumb Ways for an Open Source Project to Die Core categories The maintainer left The maintainer is still there Sabotage and capture The release pipeline broke Force majeure The world moved on The project split - Examples Bulma PRs still from 2023, issues and PRs with no maintainer response for years, last release 1.5 years ago diskcache Similar, got hired by OpenAI, crickets after that Brian #2: How to create a pylock.toml lockfile Tim Hopper Tim walks through using uv, pip and pdm to create pylock.toml files. Recommendation: use uv export --format pylock.toml -o pylock.toml He also has How to install from a pylock.toml lockfile with pip but the short version is: use -r because tools treat it like a requirements file Michael #3: https://github.com/facebook/Lifeguard Lifeguard is a static analyzer to detect Lazy Imports incompatibilities and ease the adoption overhead for Lazy Imports in Python. I'm more excited about lazy imports after my Cutting Python Web App Memory Over 31% experience Some Python patterns depend on imports executing immediately. For example: Module-level side effects — a module that registers a handler or modifies global state at import time will behave differently if that import is deferred. The registry pattern — a module that registers itself (e.g., adding to a global dict) when imported will silently fail to register under Lazy Imports. sys.modules manipulation — code that reads or writes sys.modules assumes prior imports have already executed. Metaclasses and __init_subclass__ — class creation side effects may depend on imports being resolved. Project Stage: Beta Lifeguard is in active development. We are aiming to be ready for general use by the Python 3.15 final release. Brian #4: Choosing a Python Logging Library in 2026 Ayooluwa Isaiah " which libraries matter, how they compare, where they overlap with the standard module, and when each one makes sense.” The slant with this article is the need to log json output, which seems reasonable as things like API entry and exit point logging will include json. Covered libraries standard library logging with a hat tip to python-json-logger Same site has a guide to setting up python-json-logger structlog Loguru Logbook picologging Some benchmarks with structlog, stdlib+json, and Loguru, with structlog coming out faster I liked the Loguru example I'm going to have to try @logger.catch and logger.exception() for easily logging exceptions and serialize=True to enable JSON output. Extras Brian: When Women Stopped Coding - Planet Money segment , spotted on BlueSky from Savannah Ostrowski Lean TDD is now leaner Still working on audio version, but some great changes in 0.7.1 version Ch 6, TDD Interpretations, move ATDD and some of BDD to chapter Ch 7, Change name to TDD with Teams: BDD and ATDD Ch 9, Lean TDD, streamline steps and chapter Ch 10, Change name to Lean TDD with Teams: Lean ATDD Ch 11, Lean TDD with AI, Add short discussion about guardrails and security Michael: New course: Python Web Security: OWASP Top 10 with Agentic AI All courses now with Spanish subtitles, see announcement Joke: Stop texting me

Tester oui, mais par où commencer ? Et quels pièges éviter quand on débute ?Dans cet extrait, Antoine partage les grands principes qui guident ses choix de testing, que ce soit en phase exploratoire ou dans des contextes matures.Il aborde aussi un sujet brûlant : l'arrivée de l'IA dans les pratiques de testing. Automatiser plus, ou tester moins mais mieux ? Sa réponse est sans ambiguïté.Ce que vous allez entendre :Par où commencer quand on n'a jamais fait de testsPourquoi tester, ce n'est pas seulement une histoire de codeLes grands principes qui permettent de garder une stratégie de testing efficaceL'impact de l'IA sur le testing : plus de tests ≠ meilleure qualitéComment garder une approche frugale et pertinente face aux sirènes de l'automatisationRetrouvez Antoine :Sur LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/acraske/Si cet épisode vous a plu, pensez à laisser une note et un commentaire - c'est la meilleure façon de faire découvrir le podcast à d'autres personnes !Envoyez-moi une capture de cet avis (LinkedIn ou par mail à dx@donatienleon.com) et je vous enverrai une petite surprise en remerciement.

This week on the Dating Detectives, a newlywed woman begins to suspect that her husband's behavior is hiding something far darker than infidelity. What starts as mounting lies, manipulation, and emotional abuse quickly escalates into a terrifying story of control, violence, and survival. In part two of this deeply emotional conversation, she shares the shocking unraveling of her marriage, the moment everything finally came to light, and how she ultimately found the strength to escape. Are you in the Chicago, Tampa, or Orlando area and want to come see us live?! Get your tickets at the links below:7/16 in Chicago: https://tickets.thedentheatre.com/event/dating-detectives-llpj8q?utm_source=performer&utm_medium=performerlink&utm_campaign=datingdetectives8/5 in Orlando: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/48863575/the-dating-detectives-live-orlando-funny-bone-comedy-club-orlando8/6 in Tampa: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/35010834/the-dating-detectives-live-tampa-funny-bone-comedy-club-tampaClick here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkGet control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by TheRealReal.  Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to therealreal.com/datingdetectives. This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by DeleteMe. Get 20% off your plan at joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives with code TDD.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1/month trial at shopify.com/datingdetectivesThis episode is sponsored by Wayfair. Shop Way Day from April 25–27 for up to 80% off with free shipping at wayfair.com.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on the podcast, our guest Hannah shares the terrifying story of how a whirlwind romance that felt like a fairytale quickly unraveled into something far darker. After meeting a man on Hinge who seemed perfect in every way, the two fell fast, married within months, and began building what Hannah believed was her dream life. But when subtle behavioral changes and suspicious late nights started piling up, Hannah's intuition led her into full detective mode — uncovering a shocking double life involving lies, manipulation, and escalating abuse. In this emotional and deeply intense first part of a two-part story, Hannah walks through the moment she realized the man she trusted was not who he claimed to be, and how quickly love can turn dangerous behind closed doors.Are you in the Chicago, Tampa, or Orlando area and want to come see us live?! Get your tickets at the links below:7/16 in Chicago: https://tickets.thedentheatre.com/event/dating-detectives-llpj8q?utm_source=performer&utm_medium=performerlink&utm_campaign=datingdetectives8/5 in Orlando: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/48863575/the-dating-detectives-live-orlando-funny-bone-comedy-club-orlando8/6 in Tampa: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/35010834/the-dating-detectives-live-tampa-funny-bone-comedy-club-tampaClick here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkGet control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Jones Road Beauty. For a limited time our listeners are getting a free Cool Gloss on their first purchase when they use code DATINGDETECTIVES at checkout. Head to jonesroadbeauty.com to get yours today!This episode is sponsored by SKIMS. Shop the SKIMS Everyday Cotton collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order be sure to let them know we sent you by filling out the survey!This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this week's episode of the podcast, our guest Erica shares the shocking unraveling of a five-year relationship that seemed picture-perfect from the outside. What began as a Tinder romance filled with business success, engagement plans, and dreams of a future together slowly spiraled into jealousy, manipulation, and mounting red flags she tried desperately to explain away. But when an unexpected knock at the door exposes a devastating secret, she's forced to confront the reality of the man she thought she knew.You can follow Erica and get rat man merch at @__ericamericaAre you in the Chicago, Tampa, or Orlando area and want to come see us live?! Get your tickets at the links below:7/16 in Chicago: https://tickets.thedentheatre.com/event/dating-detectives-llpj8q?utm_source=performer&utm_medium=performerlink&utm_campaign=datingdetectives8/5 in Orlando: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/48863575/the-dating-detectives-live-orlando-funny-bone-comedy-club-orlando8/6 in Tampa: https://www.etix.com/ticket/p/35010834/the-dating-detectives-live-tampa-funny-bone-comedy-club-tampaClick here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by TheRealReal.  Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to therealreal.com/datingdetectives. This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by OSEA. Get 10% off your first order site-wide with code DATINGDETECTIVES at oseamalibu.com.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/TDD.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Green Chef. Get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months at greenchef.com/50datingdetectives with code 50datingdetectives.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by DeleteMe. Get 20% off your plan at joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives with code TDD.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jesse Vincent is the Founder & CEO of Prime Radiant and creator of Superpowers — the most-used Claude Code plugin in the world. He built the first agentic software development methodology from scratch while managing MIT interns in the early 2000s, and hasn't written a line of code manually since October.The Creator of Superpowers: Why Real Agentic Engineering Beats Vibe Coding // MLOps Podcast #373 with Jesse Vincent, Founder & CEO of Prime RadiantIn this conversation, Jesse walks Demetrios through the full Superpowers system: why he thinks most developers are still approaching agentic coding wrong, how he designs skills that force LLMs to stop rationalizing and actually follow rules, and what he's building next at Prime Radiant — including Green Field, an unreleased tool for reverse-engineering legacy codebases into specs. This one is for developers who want to go beyond "vibe coding" and build AI-assisted workflows that actually scale.

Happy Dating Detectives Monday! This week's story follows Daniel, who thought he had built a life rooted in love, family, and hard-earned stability—until things slowly start to stop adding up. What begins as a fast-moving romance turns into decades of marriage, children, and financial ups and downs… but beneath it all, there are cracks forming that he can't quite explain. Missing money, shifting stories, and a growing sense that something isn't right lead Daniel down a path to discovering the shocking truth. Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkCheck out our new sister podcast The Dating Debrief on Spotify, Apple Podcast, Youtube, or wherever you get your podcasts! This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by DeleteMe. Get 20% off your plan at joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives with code TDD.Get control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up for a $1/month trial at shopify.com/datingdetectivesThis episode is sponsored by Wayfair. Shop Way Day from April 25–27 for up to 80% off with free shipping at wayfair.com.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode captures the energy of PowerShell Summit through two conversations, one with Gilbert Sanchez and one with Joshua Dearing. The discussion moves from open source maintenance and the future of PowerShell in AI workflows to the human side of technical communities, including burnout, neurodiversity, mentorship, and the value of showing up in person. It also highlights how PowerShell can change careers over time, not just by teaching syntax, but by opening doors to better communication, stronger community ties, and bigger technical thinking. Key Takeaways: · Community is often the unlock, not just the tooling. Both conversations reinforce that Summit's real value is the people, the hallway conversations, and the sense that learning gets easier when you have others around you who are willing to help. · Sustainable technical growth matters more than short bursts of output. Gilbert talks about burnout, open source maintenance, and creating healthier ways to contribute, while Andrew connects that to ADHD, mental health, and building a career that can last. · PowerShell is a starting point for much bigger opportunities. Joshua's story, from community member to module author, reflects a broader theme in the episode that small steps, taken consistently, can completely reshape what kind of work you can do and who you can become in the field. Guest Bio: Gilbert Sanchez is a Staff Software Development Engineer at Tesla, specifically working on PowerShell. Formerly known as "Señor Systems Engineer" at Meta. A loud advocate for DEI, DevEx, DevOps, and TDD. Resource Links: · PSake: https://psake.dev · Gilbert Sanchez links: https://links.gilbertsanchez.com · Gilbert Sanchez blog: https://gilbertsanchez.com Josh is a systems administrator with a philosophy degree and a helpdesk origin story. He's a speaker, open source contributor, creator of ModuleExplorer, and a PDQ Sysadmin Hall of Fame winner. He's a firm believer that the best script is the one you don't keep to yourself. · Joshua Dearing's website: https://dearing.dev The PowerShell Podcast on YouTube: https://youtu.be/XJAbZgOVMF4    

In this gripping continuation of Abby's story, what begins as a fresh start quickly unravels into something far more complicated and unsettling. As her new marriage takes shape, subtle shifts in behavior raise questions about trust, control, and the reality behind closed doors. With her past still casting a long shadow, Abby finds herself navigating a relationship that feels increasingly unfamiliar, forcing her to confront difficult truths about love, independence, and the patterns we don't always realize we're repeating. Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Jones Road Beauty. For a limited time our listeners are getting a free Cool Gloss on their first purchase when they use code DATINGDETECTIVES at checkout. Head to jonesroadbeauty.com to get yours today!This episode is sponsored by SKIMS. Shop the SKIMS Everyday Cotton collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order be sure to let them know we sent you by filling out the survey!This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this deeply unsettling two-part story, Abby shares how growing up in the rigid, high-control world of IBLP shaped her understanding of love, obedience, and self-worth, and ultimately set the stage for a relationship she didn't have the tools to question. From a childhood defined by isolation, fear, and forced compliance, to a young adulthood marked by loneliness, manipulation, and a desperate search for safety, Abby's story reveals how early indoctrination can blur the line between devotion and control. As she begins to break free from her upbringing she meets a man who seems to offer everything she's been missing. But as their whirlwind relationship accelerates into engagement and marriage, subtle red flags begin to surface, leaving listeners to wonder: is this finally love, or just another version of the control she's always known? This is Part 1 of Abby's story—and trust us, it only gets more complicated from here. Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by OSEA. Get 10% off your first order site-wide with code DATINGDETECTIVES at oseamalibu.com.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/TDD.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Green Chef. Get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months at greenchef.com/50datingdetectives with code 50datingdetectives.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by DeleteMe. Get 20% off your plan at joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives with code TDD.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Coyuchi. Get 15% off your first order at coyuchi.com/datingdetectives.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join Dave Farley — co-author of Continuous Delivery (Jolt Award winner), author of Modern Software Engineering, and inventor of the CD Deployment Pipeline - and guest Steve Freeman in this fascinating episode. Steve is a pioneer of the software craftsmanship movement and a foundational figure in the global Agile community. He is the co-author of the seminal book Growing Object-Oriented Software, Guided by Tests, a winner of the Gordon Pask Award, and the co-creator of JMock. With a PhD from Cambridge, Steve has spent decades refining the "London School" of TDD, shifting testing from a verification step to a profound tool for architectural design.----------------------------------------Only Patreon supporters get to see the full length video episodes of "The Engineering Room” Sign up here: https://www.patreon.com/c/continuousdeliveryLinkedIn Steve Freeman: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevefreeman/Equal Experts is a product software development consultancy with a network of over 1,000 experienced technology consultants globally. They increase the pace of innovation by using modern software engineering practices that embrace Continuous Delivery, Security, and Operability from the outset ➡️ https://bit.ly/3ASy8n0

Simon Willison is a prolific independent software developer, a blogger, and one of the most visible and trusted voices on the impact AI is having on builders. He co-created Django, the web framework that powers Instagram, Pinterest, and tens of thousands of other websites. He coined the term “prompt injection,” popularized the terms “AI slop” and “agentic engineering,” and has built over 100 open source projects, including Datasette, a data analysis tool used by investigative journalists worldwide. What makes Simon unique is that he's made the leap from traditional software engineering to AI-native development more fully and visibly than almost anyone—and he's been documenting everything he learns in real time on his blog, SimonWillison.net.In our in-depth conversation, Simon shares:1. Why November 2025 was the inflection point when AI coding agents crossed from “mostly works” to “actually works”2. How Simon writes 95% of his code from his phone now and why he's mentally exhausted by 11 a.m.3. Why mid-career engineers (not juniors) are most at risk right now4. The three agentic engineering patterns Simon uses daily (red/green TDD, templates, hoarding)5. The next leap: the “dark factory” pattern where nobody writes or reviews code and AI does its own QA6. Why prompt injection is an unsolved security problem and the “lethal trifecta” that will likely lead to an AI Challenger disaster7. Why the pelican riding a bicycle became the unofficial benchmark for AI model quality—Brought to you by:WorkOS—Modern identity platform for B2B SaaS, free up to 1 million MAUsVanta—automate compliance, manage risk, and accelerate trust with AI—Episode transcript: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/an-ai-state-of-the-union—Archive of all Lenny's Podcast transcripts: https://www.dropbox.com/scl/fo/yxi4s2w998p1gvtpu4193/AMdNPR8AOw0lMklwtnC0TrQ?rlkey=j06x0nipoti519e0xgm23zsn9&st=ahz0fj11&dl=0—Where to find Simon Willison:• X: https://x.com/simonw• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonwillison• Website: https://simonwillison.net• Agentic Engineering Patterns: https://simonwillison.net/guides/agentic-engineering-patterns—Where to find Lenny:• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com• X: https://twitter.com/lennysan• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/—In this episode, we cover:(00:00) Introduction to Simon Willison(02:40) The November 2025 inflection point(08:01) What's possible now with AI coding(10:42) Vibe coding vs. agentic engineering(13:57) The dark-factory pattern(20:41) Where bottlenecks have shifted(23:36) Where human brains will continue to be valuable(25:32) Defending of software engineers(29:12) Why experienced engineers get better results(30:48) Advice for avoiding the permanent underclass(33:52) Leaning into AI to amplify your skills(35:12) Why Simon says he's working harder than ever(37:23) The market for pre-2022 human-written code(40:01) Prediction: 50% of engineers writing 95% AI code by the end of 2026(44:34) The impact of cheap code(48:27) Simon's AI stack(54:08) Using AI for research(55:12) The pelican-riding-a-bicycle benchmark(59:01) The inherent ridiculousness of AI(1:00:52) Hoarding things you know how to do(1:08:21) Red/green TDD pattern for better AI code(1:14:43) Starting projects with good templates(1:16:31) The lethal trifecta and prompt injection(1:21:53) Why 97% effectiveness is a failing grade(1:25:19) The normalization of deviance(1:28:32) OpenClaw: the security nightmare everyone is looking past(1:34:22) What's next for Simon(1:36:47) Zero-deliverable consulting(1:38:05) Good news about Kakapo parrots—References: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/an-ai-state-of-the-union—Production and marketing by https://penname.co/. For inquiries about sponsoring the podcast, email podcast@lennyrachitsky.com.—Lenny may be an investor in the companies discussed. To hear more, visit www.lennysnewsletter.com

This week on The Dating Detectives, we hear Tracy Hall's jaw-dropping story of dating one of Australia's most notorious con men. What begins as a seemingly healthy, slow-burn romance with a supportive, emotionally intelligent partner turns into a shocking unraveling of identity, trust, and financial security when Tracy discovers the man she loved never existed at all. As she pieces together an 18-month relationship built on meticulous lies, Tracy shares how even the smartest, most capable people can be targeted, manipulated, and ultimately betrayed—and how she fought to rebuild her life in the aftermath. This episode is a powerful reminder that scams don't look like scams when you're inside them. Stick around for the Dogfish Debrief for more insights, and if you want to go deeper, check out Tracy's book The Last Victim, and the hit Australian podcast that dives deep into all of Hamish's crimes, Who the Hell is Hamish? Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkTake control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. This episode is sponsored by Shopify. Sign up today for your one dollar per month trial at shopify.com/datingdetectives***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We explore how test-driven development (TDD) remains essential—perhaps more than ever—when working with AI coding tools. Luca shares his evolved workflow using Claude Code, breaking down how he structures tests in three phases: test ideas, test outlines, and test implementations. We discuss why TDD provides the necessary control and confidence when AI generates code, how it prevents technical debt accumulation, and why tests serve as precise specifications for AI rather than afterthoughts. The conversation covers practical challenges like AI's tendency toward "success theater" (overly generous assertions), the importance of maintaining tight control over code quality, and why the bottleneck in AI-assisted development isn't code generation—it's expressing clear intent. We also touch on code spikes, large-scale refactorings, and why treating AI development as pair programming keeps you in the driver's seat. If you're wondering whether TDD still matters when AI writes your code, this episode makes a compelling case that it matters more than ever. Key Topics [02:30] Why TDD still matters with AI: confidence and control over generated code [06:45] Tests as specifications: describing desired behavior to AI rather than writing prompts [09:20] The three-phase test workflow: test ideas, test outlines, and implementations [15:30] Pair programming with AI: staying at the conceptual level while AI handles implementation [20:15] Code spikes and exploration: using AI to answer questions before writing production tests [24:40] AI failure modes: over-mocking and "success theater" with weak assertions [28:50] Large-scale refactorings: how AI excels at updating hundreds of tests simultaneously [32:10] The real bottleneck: expressing intent and specifications, not code generation speed Notable Quotes "As far as I am concerned, test-driven development is just about writing prompts for the AI that it can then use to build what you want it to build." — Luca "If you expect that a five-line prompt resulting in 10,000 lines of code will not result in 9,995 lines of uncertainty, you're just deluding yourself." — Luca "You can be five times faster than you were before and still maintain a very high production level quality code, but you probably can't be a hundred times faster." — Jeff Resources Mentioned Claude Code - Terminal-based AI coding assistant that Luca uses for TDD workflows, keeping conceptual work separate from code-level work Embedded AI Podcast - Luca's separate podcast focusing on AI in embedded systems, co-hosted with Ryan Torvik Luca's AI Training Courses - Hands-on trainings for using AI in embedded systems development (and much more!) links to all of Luca's work - Training, consulting, podcasts, conference talks and everything else You can find Jeff at https://jeffgable.com.You can find Luca at https://luca.engineer.Want to join the agile Embedded Slack? Click hereAre you looking for embedded-focused trainings? Head to https://agileembedded.academy/Ryan Torvik and Luca have started the Embedded AI podcast, check it out at https://embeddedaipodcast.com/

On this week's Dating Detectives, Mackenzie and Hanna are joined by Talia Koren, host of the podcast Dating Intentionally, for a Mackenzie Undercover story that turns into a conversation about intuition, insecurity, red flags, and what it really means to date with purpose. As Mackenzie investigates a man's growing suspicion that his much younger girlfriend is hiding something, the episode unfolds into an insightful look at trust, cheating, and the difference between anxiety and real intuition. Talia brings practical, no-nonsense dating advice to balance out the chaos, making this episode equal parts wild undercover case and genuinely helpful dating conversation. Want more of Talia? Listen to her podcast by searching Dating Intentionally on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow Talia on Instagram at @dating.intentionallyClick here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkTake control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. This episode is sponsored by Wayfair. Refresh your home for less. Shop back-to-routine deals by visiting Wayfair.com.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Julian “Jules” Storer is the creator of the JUCE C++ framework and the Cmajor programming language dedicated to audio.He created JUCE in the late 90s, and it grew to become the most popular audio plugin development framework in the world. Apart from audio capabilities, it is a general-purpose cross-platform application development framework (Windows, macOS, Linux, Android, iOS, and embedded platforms). Most plugin companies use JUCE; whether you like it or not, it has become a de facto industry standard.You know that I love JUCE; I created the official JUCE audio plugin development course with them, and they are the sponsor of the podcast. So naturally, I was super excited to be able to interview Jules!His next big thing is the Cmajor programming language. It is a C-like, LLVM-backed programming language dedicated solely to audio.He has also given many talks at the Audio Developer Conference, so I encourage you to check them out as a way to relax and get inspired.Jules is known for his strong opinions and dry humor, so I guarantee you'll find yourself chuckling every few minutes

When a whirlwind romance starts moving fast, it can be hard to tell the difference between genuine connection and something that's just a little too good to be true. In this episode, Claire shares the second part of her story about a relationship that seemed exciting, promising, and full of big plans until small details started to feel… off. As the Dating Detectives dig into the strange moments, unanswered questions, and gut instincts Claire couldn't shake, a much bigger picture begins to emerge. What starts as a confusing dating story quickly spirals into something far stranger, raising unsettling questions about identity, truth, and how far someone might go to keep a carefully constructed narrative alive.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Jones Road Beauty. For a limited time our listeners are getting a free Cool Gloss on their first purchase when they use code DATINGDETECTIVES at checkout. Head to jonesroadbeauty.com to get yours today!This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Ava. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING.Get control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on The Dating Detectives, Hanna and Mackenzie are joined by Claire, a single mom in Canada, who walks us through an intense, whirlwind connection with “Ryan,” a charming Hinge match who presents as a high-powered real estate executive and quickly positions himself as her protector—showing up with grand gestures, inserting himself into moments of stress, and escalating intimacy at lightning speed. But as the weeks unfold, the relationship becomes a nonstop crisis carousel: mysterious medical emergencies, shadowy enemies, workplace drama, a “secret” elopement plan with endless missing documents, and increasingly unbelievable danger—until a chilling Halloween-eve message from Ryan's father detonates everything. It's a jaw-dropping Part One that will have you screaming at your headphones… and counting down for the reveal in Part Two.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkTake control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. This episode is sponsored by Daily Look. For 50% off your order, head to DailyLook.com and use code DATINGDETECTIVES.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/tdd today to get 10% off your first monthMake this spring your most delicious yet with Green Chef. Head to greenchef.com/50datingdetectives and use code 50datingdetectives to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What starts as a workplace mentorship between a young, ambitious HR assistant and her intimidating, high-powered boss quickly spirals into a secret relationship. In this explosive two-part Dating Detectives episode, Kayla shares how validation turned into flirtation, flirtation into obsession, and obsession into a web of escalating emergencies, whispered promises, and suspicious tragedies that always seemed to surface at just the right moment. As she uproots her life, distances herself from her support system, and risks her career and finances for a future she believes is real, the cracks in her partner's stories grow harder to ignore—yet the love bombing only intensifies. By the time a frantic late-night demand forces Kayla to choose between logic and loyalty, the stakes are no longer just emotional—they're life-altering.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkTake control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/tdd today to get 10% off your first monthThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Jones Road Beauty. For a limited time our listeners are getting a free Cool Gloss on their first purchase when they use code DATINGDETECTIVES at checkout. Head to jonesroadbeauty.com to get yours today!***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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I feel like I'm getting saltier, and it's concerning. If you want me to tone it down and/or up, let me know. It'll go a lot better if you just write to podcast@searls.co instead of yelling at your phone. As usual, I brought the goods. Now here are the receipts: prove_it is doing its job, mostly Aaron's puns, ranked Starsand Island studio confused by alleged 'praise-bombing' attack Sony is considering holding back PlayStation 6 until 2028 or 2029 Southwest changes are infuriating fans (News+) NYT: All the news that's fit to manspread Gurman: Tesla CarPlay Held Back by Need for Wider Adoption of Apple's iOS 26 (Archive) YouTube on Vision Pro (News+) Apple Announces Special Event in New York, London, and Shanghai on March 4 Filed my first SwiftUI bug as feedback. It's FB21962656 Thoughtworks concludes TDD is good and billable juniors valuable Ugh, Anthropic CEO was right about the timing of AI writing all the code Peter Steinberger Chose OpenAI. The Code Was Never the Point Eternity Starfleet Academy Your Friends & Neighbors

Russ Miles joins the show to unpack why developer platforms fail and how to rethink platform engineering through the lens of flow of value rather than factory-style developer productivity metaphors. Russ explains why every organization already has an internal developer platform, and why treating it as platform as a product changes everything. The conversation explores cognitive load and cognitive burden, how to design around strong feedback loops, and why the OODA loop mindset helps teams make better decisions closer to development time. They discuss the risks of overloading pipelines and CI/CD systems, the tension between shipping fast and handling security vulnerabilities in a regulated environment, and how to “shift left” without simply dumping responsibility onto developers. Drawing on lessons from Rod Johnson, the Spring Framework, TDD, and modern software engineering as described by Dave Farley, Russ reframes platforms as systems that support experimentation through the scientific method. The episode also touches on AI assisted coding, developer focus, and how thoughtful developer experience and DX surveys can prevent burnout while improving value delivery. Links Website: https://www.russmiles.com Substack: https://russmiles.substack.com X: https://x.com/russmiles Resources Talk: https://www.russmiles.com/platform-engineering-failure-keynote Substack article: https://russmiles.substack.com/p/developer-platform-devrel-listen We want to hear from you! How did you find us? Did you see us on Twitter? In a newsletter? Or maybe we were recommended by a friend? Fill out our listener survey! https://t.co/oKVAEXipxu Let us know by sending an email to our producer, Elizabeth, at elizabeth.becz@logrocket.com, or tweet at us at PodRocketPod. Check out our newsletter! https://blog.logrocket.com/the-replay-newsletter/ Follow us. Get free stickers. Follow us on Apple Podcasts, fill out this form, and we'll send you free PodRocket stickers! What does LogRocket do? LogRocket provides AI-first session replay and analytics that surfaces the UX and technical issues impacting user experiences. Start understanding where your users are struggling by trying it for free at LogRocket.com. Try LogRocket for free today. Chapters 00:00 What Is a Developer Platform 03:00 You Already Have a Platform 08:00 Cognitive Load vs Cognitive Burden 12:00 Feedback Loops and TDD 18:00 Pipelines, Security and OODA Loops 26:00 The Factory Metaphor Problem 31:00 Modern Software Engineering and Value Delivery 40:00 Avoiding Burnout Through Better DX 46:00 The Software Enchiridion and Final Thoughts

In this episode of Dating Detectives, Mackenzie and Hanna are joined by “Anna,” a guest from the UK who shares how a relationship that began with charm, intensity, and big promises slowly became something far more disorienting. As subtle red flags stack up and the lines between care, control, and manipulation blur, Anna finds herself questioning her instincts, her memories, and even her sense of self. Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkGet control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!Take control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're continuing our AI Tools series with Marcos Polanco, engineering leader, founder, and ecosystem builder from the Bay Area, who joins Matt and Moshe to introduce CLEAR, his method for using AI to build real software, not just demos. Drawing on decades in software development and his recent research into how AI is reshaping the way teams ship products, Marcos shares how CLEAR gives both technical and non‑technical builders a production‑oriented way to work with vibe coding tools.Instead of treating AI like a magical black box, Marcos frames it as an “idiot savant”: incredibly capable and eager, but with no judgment. CLEAR wraps that raw power in structure, guardrails, and engineering discipline, so founders and PMs can go from prototype to production while keeping humans in control of the last, hardest 20%.Join Matt, Moshe, and Marcos as they explore:Marcos's journey through engineering, founding, and AI research, and why he created CLEARWhy AI tools like Bolt, Cursor, Claude, and Gemini are fabulous for prototypes but risky for production without a methodCLEAR in detail:C – Context: onboarding AI like a new hire, using stories and behavior‑driven design (BDD) to articulate requirementsL – Layout: breaking work into focused, scoped pieces and choosing a tech stack so AI isn't overwhelmedE – Execute: applying test‑driven development (TDD), writing tests first, then having AI write code to pass themA – Assess: using a second, independent LLM as a QA agent, plus a human‑run 5 Whys to fix root causes upstreamR – Run: shipping to users, gathering new data, and feeding it back into the next iteration of contextHow CLEAR lowers cognitive load for both humans and AIs and reduces regressions and hallucinationsWhy Markdown (with diagrams like Mermaid) is becoming Marcos's standard format for shared human–AI documentationHow CLEAR changes the coordination layer of software development while keeping engineers central to quality and judgmentPractical advice for PMs and founders who want to move from “just vibes” to predictable, production‑grade AI developmentAnd much more!Want to go deeper on CLEAR or connect with Marcos?CLEAR on GitHub: https://github.com/marcospolanco/ai-native-organizations/blob/main/CLEAR.mdCLEAR slides: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1mwwDtr7cCP5jLUyNVgGR5Aj-MBq8xsMlhSc0pvSQDks/edit?usp=sharingLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcospolancoYou can also connect with us and find more episodes:Product for Product Podcast: http://linkedin.com/company/product-for-product-podcastMatt Green: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattgreenproduct/Moshe Mikanovsky: http://www.linkedin.com/in/mikanovskyNote: Any views mentioned in the podcast are the sole views of our hosts and guests, and do not represent the products mentioned in any way.Please leave us a review and feedback ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

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A milestone birthday trip to Turkey is supposed to be Lena's main-character moment: sunrise photos at a historic mosque, solo-traveler bliss, and a little flirtation that feels harmless—until it turns into a full-blown romance-and-tariff scam run by a charming “uncle,” a too-good-to-be-true heartthrob, and a pressure-cooker handoff that leaves Lena scrambling for a flight… and suddenly out tens of thousands of dollars. But just when the story seems destined for the familiar ending, Lena snaps out of the shame spiral, flips the power dynamic, and goes on a creative, scorched-earth mission to get her money back—leading to one of the most unexpected outcomes we've ever had on the show. This one is wild, infuriating, darkly funny, and ultimately empowering.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Ava. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING.Take control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. Get control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!This episode is sponsored by Baked By Melissa. Get 20% off your order by going to bakedbymelissa.com/datingdetectives.This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode I talk with Christian Genko, founder of Fileinbox. We discuss bootstrapping SaaS products, finding business ideas through openness rather than forcing, how LLMs have changed development workflows, TDD with Claude Code, and the enduring value of taste and abstractions in software.Links:FileinboxChristian Genco's personal websiteChristian Genco on XNonsense Monthly

Join us for the juiciest Mackenzie Undercover story yet! What starts as a consensual surrogacy arrangement between two married couples, meant to be loving, transparent, and drama-free, quickly takes a turn when strange messages, broken rules, and suspicious “errands” begin stacking up. Mackenzie is then brought in to investigate and get to the bottom of the secrets and lies that plagued this surrogacy for nine months. The story spirals into a jaw-dropping tangle of secrets, shifting alliances, and behavior that is truly stranger than fiction. This episode is messy, shocking, and impossible to predict—and it will absolutely have you yelling “WHAT?!” out loud.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkTake control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. Looking to level up your style this year? Try out Daily Look for fashion crafted by your own personal stylist. Go to https://www.dailylook.com/ and use code DATINGDETECTIVES to get 50% off your first order ***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

 Season 6 episode 18 rebecca  j...and therapy - 1_8_26, 10.27 AMThu, Jan 08, 2026 10:40AM • 57:28SUMMARY KEYWORDSemotional metabolization, existential threat, destabilizing changes, social media, information overload, Venezuela crisis, racial identity, colonization, anti-blackness, white privilege, immigration policies, historical context, white supremacy, interdependence, narrative controlSPEAKERSSpeaker 3, Speaker 1, Speaker 2 Jenny  00:30I think something I'm sitting with is the impossibility and the necessity of trying to metabolize what's going on in our bodies. Yeah, and it feels like this double bind where I feel like we need to do it. We need to feel rage and grief and fear and everything else that we feel, and I don't think our nervous systems have evolved to deal with this level of overwhelm and existential threat that we're experiencing, but I do believe our bodies, Yeah, need space to try to do that, yeah,yesterday, I was sitting at, I don't know what's gonna happen to people anyway, Rebecca  01:45Pretty good. I'm okay. It like everyone. I think there's just a lot of crazy like and a lot of shifting to like, things that we could normally depend on as consistent and constant are not constant anymore. And that is like, it's very, 02:11I don't even have a word I want to say, disconcerting, but that's too light. There's, it's very destabilizing to to watch things that were constants and norms just be ripped out from underneath. People on like, every day there's something new that used to be illegal and now it's legal, or vice versa. Every day there's like, this new thing, and then you're having to think, like, how is that going to impact me? Is it going to impact me? How is it going to impact the people that I care about and love? Yeah, Danielle  02:52Jenny and I were just saying, like, maybe we could talk about just what's going on in the world right now, in this moment. And Jenny, I forgot how you were saying it like you were saying that we need to give our bodies space, but we also need to find a way to metabolize it so we can take action. I'm paraphrasing, but yeah, Rebecca  03:30And I would agree, and something else that I was thinking about too is like, what do you metabolize? And how do you metabolize it? Right? Like, in terms of what's happening in Venezuela, I have people that I count very dear to me who feel like it was a very appropriate action, and and people who are very dear to me who feel like absolutely not. That's ridiculous, right? And so, and I'm aware on that particular conversation, I'm not Venezuelan. I'm not I'm very aware that I stand on the outside of that community and I'm looking in on it, going, what do I need to know in order to metabolize this? What do I not know or not understand about the people who are directly impacted by this. And so I, like, I have questions even you know about some of the stuff that I'm watching. Like, what do you metabolize and how do you come to understand it? And in a place where it's very difficult to trust your information sources and know if the source that you're you're have is reliable or accurate or or complete in it, in its detail, it feels those are reasons why, to me, it feels really hard to metabolize things i. Jenny  05:06There's this like rule or like theory thing. I wish I could remember the name of it, but it's essentially like this, this graph that falls off, and it's like, the less you know about something, the more you think you know about it, and the more confident you are. And the more you know, the less confident you are. And it just explains so well our social media moment, and people that read like one headline and then put all these reels together and things talking about it. And on one hand, I'm grateful that we live in an age where we can get information about what's going on. And at the other end, like, you know, I know there, there's somewhere, some professor that's spent 15 years researching this and being like it is. There's so much here that people don't know and understand. And yeah, it feels like the sense of urgency is on purpose. Like that we just have to like it feels like people almost need to stay up to date with everything. But then I also wonder how much of that is whiteness and this idea of like, saviorism and like, if I'm just informed, then I'm doing my duty and like what I need to do and and what does it look like to slow down and be with things that are right in front of US and immediate, without ignoring these larger, transnational and global issues. Yeah, it feels so complicated. Rebecca  06:55I do think the sense of urgency is on purpose. I think that the overwhelming flood of information at this time is not just a function of like social media, but I think, I think the release of things and the timing of things is intentional, I think, and so I think there's a lot of Let's throw this one thing in front of you, and while you everybody's paying attention to that, let's do 10 other things behind closed doors that are equally, if not more, dangerous and harmful than the thing that we're letting You see up front. And so I think some of that is intentional. So I think that that sense of almost flooding is both about social media, yes, but it's also about, I think some of this is intentional, on purpose, flooding Jenny  08:01I think it's wise to ask those questions and try to sort of be paying attention to both what is being said and what is not being said. Rebecca  08:16Yeah, it may makes me think, even as you named Venezuela like my understanding is that that happened either the day of or the day before Congress was supposed to explain why they had redacted the Epstein files, and it just the lengths that they will go to to distract from actually releasing the files and showing the truth about Trump and Epstein and everyone else that was involved is, Speaker 2  08:52well, yeah, yeah, yes. And there's something in me that also wants to say, like it what happened around Venezuela might be 09:32and its natural resources is not a small thing. And then I was reminded today by someone else, this is also not the first time this country has done that. It might be the first time it was televised to the world, but so I don't Yes on the distraction. And I agree with you times 1000 10:09hard about this moment, is that there's all this stuff that's happening that's like absolutely we would be looking at, how do you possibly put any of that in any sense of order that it makes any sense? Because, yes, the FC, I mean, it's horrific. What we're talking about is likely in those files, and if they are that intent on them not coming out, if it's worse than what we already know, that's actually scary. Danielle  10:44Yeah, I agree that this isn't new, because this is it feels like, you know, Ibram X kendi was like, talking about, hey, like, this is what I'm talking about. This is what I'm talking about. And it feels as though, when we talk, I'm just going to back up, there's been this fight over what history are we teaching, you know, like, this is dei history, or this is, you know, critical race history. But in the end, I think we actually agree on the history more than we think. We just don't disagree on where we should take it. Now, what I think is happening is that, and you hear Donald J Trump talk about the Monroe Doctrine, or Vance talk about Manifest Destiny, or Stephen Miller, these guys talk about these historical things. They're talking about the history of colonization, but from a lens of like, this was good, this was not a mistake. Quote, slavery was not necessarily a bad thing. You have like Doug Wilson and these other Christian nationalists like unapologetically saying there was slavery. It's been throughout all time. This was, quote, a benefit people, you know, you have Charlie Kirk saying, you know, in the 1940s like pre civil rights movement, quote, I think he said, quote, black people were happier. He has said these things. So in my, in my mind, yes, they, they're they're saying, like, we don't want X taught in schools. But at the same time, they actually, we actually kind of agree on history. What we don't agree on is what we should do with it, or or who's in com, who's in control. Now, I think what they're saying is, this was history. We liked it, and we don't like the change in it, and we're just gonna keep doing it. I mean, they literally have reinstated the Monroe Doctrine, which is so racist, it's like, and manifest destiny is like, so fucked up to, like, put that back in place, like Rebecca said, I'm not, I'm not negating the murder that just happened in Minneapolis, but this concept that you you can tell who's human and that these resources belong to us, the only person human in the room, then, is the White man. I don't know. Does that make sense? It Rebecca  13:24makes me think of you know, when you talk about sort of identity formation, or racial identity formation, when you are talking about members of the majority culture and their story is, is this manifest destiny? Is this colonization and and the havoc and the harm that that they engaged in against whole people groups in order to gain the power? Do they, sort of, on a human level, metabolize the their membership in that group, and what that group has done the heart the and that it's come by its power by harming other people, right? And so in order to sort of metabolize that you can minimize it and dismiss it as not harmful. So that's the story, that slavery is not a bad thing, and that black people are happier under slavery, right? You can deny it and say that it didn't happen, or if it did, it wasn't me. That's Holocaust deniers, right? That didn't happen. I think what we're looking at now is the choice that some of the powers that be are making in order to metabolize this is to just call what is evil good, to just rewrite. Not the facts, but the meaning that that we draw from those facts. And then to declare, I have the right to do this, and when I do this, it makes me more powerful, it makes me a better leader, and it establishes rules and norms about right versus wrong. I think they're rewriting the meaning making as a way to kind of come to terms with what what they've done. And so I think that statement by the Vice President about you no longer have to apologize for being white in this country is actually about more than an apology. That was that is now, a couple of weeks later, after watching what happened in Venezuela, watching what happened in Minneapolis, watching what they're doing about Greenland, you go like, that's just a statement that we're going to do whatever the heck we want, and you cannot stop us, and we will do it without apology, and we will make you believe. We will craft a narrative that what is wrong is actually right, Jenny  16:43it just, it's, it's wild to me that our last time, or two times ago that we were talking, I was talking about Viola liozo, who was the white woman who drove black people during the bus boycott and was murdered, and the what feels like is being exposed is the precarity of white privilege, like it is Real. It exists, and so long as white people stay within the bounds of what is expected of them, and Renee good did not and I think that that is it Rebecca  17:36exposes what's already true, that I think racism and race are constructs to protect the system, and so if, no matter what your melanin is, if you start to move against the system, you immediately are at risk in a different way, and yet still not in the same way. You know, like there are already plenty of people who have died and been disappeared at the hands of ice. What happened is not new. What is new is that it did happen to a white woman, and it reveals something about where we are in the fulcrum, tip, I think, of of power and what's happening? 18:30because I think the same, like you said, is true during the Civil Rights Movement, right that in there, they're really they're most of their stories we don't know. There's a handful of them that we know about these, these white the people who believe themselves to be white, to quote on history codes, who were allies and who acted on behalf of the Civil Rights Movement and who lost their life because of it. There's probably way more than we know, because, again, those are stories that are not allowed to be told. But it makes me wonder if, if the exposure that you're talking about Jenny is because we were at some sort of tipping point right, in a certain sense, by the time you elect Obama in oh eight, you could make the argument that something of racial equality is beginning to be institutionalized in the country, right? I'm not saying that he solved everything and he was this panacea, but I'm saying when the system, when the people in the system, find a way to bring equilibrium. That's the beginning of something being institutionalized, right? And, and, and did that set off this sort of mass panic in the majority culture to say that that cannot happen? Mm. Yeah, and and, so there is this backlash to make sure that it doesn't happen, right? And to the extent that it's beginning to be institutionalized, that means that some members of the majority culture have begun to agree with the institutionalism of some kind of equilibrium, some type of equity, otherwise you wouldn't see it start to seep into the system itself, right? And it means that there are people who open doors, there are people who left Windows cracked open there, you know, there are, right? I mean, somebody somewhere that had the key to the door, left it unlocked, so, so that, so that a marginalized community could find an entrance, right? And and so it does make me think about, are we? Are we looking at this sort of historical tipping point? And what's being exposed is all these people are the majority culture who are on the wrong side of this argument. We need you to get back in line. I mean, if you read ta nehisi Coates book, eight years in power, he makes a sort of similar argument that that's what happened around reconstruction, right? You have the Emancipation Proclamation being signed, slavery is now illegal in the United States, and there's this period during reconstruction where there's mass sort of accomplishment that happens in the newly freed slave community. And then you see the rise of the Ku Klux Klan and the very violent backlash. This is not going to happen. We're not. We're not. And when, when I say what happened during Reconstruction, is like again, the beginning of the institutionalizing of that kind of equilibrium and equity that came out of the Emancipation Proclamation. Right? My kids were part of a genealogy project a few years back, and one of the things that they uncovered is they have a ancestor who was elected to this 22:27and while he was in office, he was instrumental in some of the initial funding that went to Hampton to establish Hampton University, right? And so that's the kind of institutionalized equity that starts to happen in this moment, and then this massive violent backlash, the rise of the Ku Klux, Klan, the black codes. We this is not going to happen. We're not doing this right. And so it does make me wonder if what we're actually looking at the exposure that you're talking about, Jenny is like the beginning of the this sort of equilibrium that could happen when you when things start to get institutionalized and and the powers that be going No way, no How, no dice, not doing that. Danielle  23:21I think that's true, and especially among immigrant communities. I don't know if you know, at the beginning, they were saying, like, we're just going after the violent criminals, right? And this morning, I watched on a news source I really trust, a video of a Somali citizen, a US citizen, but as a Somali background, man pulled over by ice like he's an Uber driver in Minneapolis. And they like, surrounded him, and he's like, wait a minute, I thought you were going after the violent criminals. And they're like, Well, you know, like, Are you a US citizen? He's like, Well, where's your warrant? And they're like, we're checking your license plate. He's like, well, then you know who I am. And then they want him to answer, and they keep provoking and they're like, Oh, you have a video on us. And he's like, Oh, you have a GoPro. He's like, I thought you were just going after violent criminals, you know? And they're like, no, we want to know if you're a US citizen. So in a sense, you know, there was all this rhetoric at the beginning that said, we you have to do it the right way. And I remember at the very beginning feeling afraid for Luis like, oh, man, shit, we did this the right way. I don't know if that's really guarantee. I don't think that's a guarantee of any guarantee of anything. And it's not doing well paying all the bills like it's expensive to become a citizen. It is not easy. Paying all the bills, going to the fingerprints, get in the test, hiring a lawyer, making sure you did it. Like cross, all your T's dot, all your eyes, just to get there and do it. And then they're saying, you know, and then they're saying, Well, prove it. Well, what do you have on your record? Or people showing up after having done all that work? They're showing up to their swearing in to be US citizens. And they're saying, Sorry, nope. And they're like, taken by ice. So you can see what you're saying. Rebecca first, it says violent criminals. Yeah, and you know, you have to have like, an FBI fingerprint background check. You had to do this, like, 10 years ago. Whenever Luis became a citizen, that's like, serious shit, you get your background check. So by the time you're into that swearing in, they know who you are, like you're on record, they know who you are, so they've done all that work. So this is not about being a criminal. This is about there's somebody successful that's possibly not white, that has done all the right things, paid all the fees, has the paperwork, and you don't like them because they're not white. And I think that's directly related to anti blackness. Rebecca  25:40Yeah. Say more about the anti blackness, because we started this conversation talking about Somalis and and Somalis are only the latest target of ice, right? It started with people of Latino descent. So how does that for you come down to anti blackness? Oh, for me, Danielle  26:02I see it as a as a projection. I can't tolerate my feelings about, quote, people of color, but let's be more specific about black people, and I can't tolerate those feelings. And for a time, I think we were in this sliver of time where it was not quite it was still like gaining social momentum to target black folks, but it was still a little bit off limits, like we were still like, oh, it's the criminals. Oh, it's these bad, bad guys. I know it's just the Latinos or, Oh, it's just this, this and this and this. But then if you notice, you start watching these videos, you start noticing they're like, they're grabbing, like, Afro Latinos. They're like, they're like, pushing into that limit, right? Or Puerto Rican folks they've grabbed, who are US citizens? So now you see the hate very clearly moving towards black folks. Like, how does an untrained $50,000 bonus ice agent know if, quote, a black person, quote, you know, if we're talking in the racial construct, has a Somali background or not, right? Right? It actually feels a little bit to me like grooming, right? Rebecca  27:24I I've asked myself this question several times in the past couple of years, like, and if, and I think some of the stuff that I've read like about the Holocaust, similar question, right? Was like, is racism really the thing that is that is driving this or is it something else, like at the at the heart of it, at the end of the day, are you really driven by racialized hate of someone that is different than you? Or is that just the smoke screen that the architects of this moment are using because you'll fall for it, right? And so I do think like you start with the criminals, because that's socially acceptable, and then you move very quickly from the criminals to everybody in that ethnic group, right? And so you see the supreme court now saying that you can stop and frisk somebody on the basis of a surname 28:22or an accent, Rebecca  28:26right? And it feels very much like grooming, because what was socially acceptable was first this very small subset, and now we've expanded to a whole people group, and now we've jumped from one country to another, which is why I think you know MLK is quote about injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. If you're going to come for one subset, you will eventually come for everyone, until the only subset is those in power versus those that aren't. Danielle  29:05Or just, let me just ask you this question then, so you got he's enforcing immigration bans on certain countries. Guess who the where the majority of those countries are located, Africa. Now, why didn't he do that with Latin the Latin America? It's very interesting, Rebecca  29:29and my fear is that it's coming right again. It's socially acceptable in this country to be anti black. Everyone understands that, and then you move from anti black to anti everybody else. And what you say is this, this people group is closer to black than white, and for that reason, they're out too, which is also not a new argument in this country. Jenny  29:58It makes me think of someone you. To this illustration, then I will not get it probably exactly how it is, but it was basically like if I have a room of 10 people, and I need to control those 10 people, I don't need to control those 10 people. I need to make a scapegoat out of three of them, and then the other seven will be afraid to be that scapegoat. And I feel like that is a part of what's going on, where, viscerally, I think that, again, like white bodies know, like it is about race and it's not about race, like race is the justification of hatred and tyrannical control. And I really love the book by Walter Rodney, how Europe underdeveloped Africa. And he traces like what Europe, and I would include the US now has done to the continent of what is so called Africa, and it didn't in the end, that it was used to create race and racism in order to justify exploitation and of people and resources. And so it's like, yeah, I think at the end of the day, it's really not about race, and it is because of the way in which that's been used to marginalize and separate even from the construction of whiteness, was to try to keep lower socioeconomic whites from joining with formerly enslaved black people and indigenous people to revolt against the very few people that actually hold power, like there are way more people that lack power. But if, if those in power can keep everyone siloed and divided and afraid, then they get to stay in power. Danielle  32:01That's where I come back to history. And I feel like, I feel like these guys like JD Vance and Stephen Miller love our history and hate the parts of it that are leading towards liberation. For people, they love that they love the colonization. They talk about it. They've there's a fantasy. They're living in, this fantasy of what could be, of what was for one set of people, and that was white men. And they're enacting their fantasy on us in some ways, you know, I think the question of, you know, Jenny, you always deal with bodies, and, you know, you're kind of known for that shit, I think, I think, just like, but the question of, like, who has a body when, when? Like, when does the body count? You know, like, when does it matter? And it feels like that's where race becomes really useful, 33:09because it gets to say, like, you know, like, that white lady, that's not really, that's not really a murder, you know. Or, you know, George Floyd, like, Nah, that's not really it, you know, just com, and they knew there's so many other lynchings and murders. Like, we can't cover them all. I just think it's just speaks to, like, who, you know, another way to say it'd be like, who's human and who's not. Jenny  33:42And like I sent you. Danielle, there was a post yesterday that someone said, those white lives matter. People seem to be really silent right now. And it just exposes, like the the hypocrisy, even in that and the, I think, the end of not the end, because racial privilege is still there, but, but this moment is exposing something, I think, as you're naming Rebecca, like it feels like this really scary tipping, and maybe hopeful tipping, where it's like there's enough, maybe fear or grasping of power, that there's enough desperation to execute a white woman, which historically and now, I think it says something about where we are in this moment. And I don't know exactly what yet, but I think it's, it's very exposing. Rebecca  34:43Yeah, but my what floats across my mind when you say that is really what has been the narrative or trajectory for white women? Because I think if you start to pull on stories like Emmett Till. 35:01Soul, and you realize what has been done in the name of protecting white women that doesn't actually feel like protection, right, right? And so, so again, you almost have this sense of like white femininity being this pawn, right? And you and you can have this narrative that that sounds like it's protection, sounds like it's value, but really it's not right. I only pull that out and use it when it when it gives me permission to do what I really want to do, right? 35:43And so in this moment. Now, you know, I mean, Emmett Till died because he was accused of looking inappropriately at a white woman, right? More recently, that incident with the the bird watcher in Central Park, right? I mean, his freedom is is under threat because of a white woman and, and then how do we go from that to ice killing a white woman and, and what like you said? What does that actually say about the value of white women, Was it, was it ever really recognized by the powers that be, right? Or is that like a straw man that I put up so I can have permission to do whatever I want? Jenny  36:36Absolutely, yeah, I think the trope of protecting white womanhood. It's it's always given women privilege and power, but that is only in proximity to white men and performing white womanhood. And you know, as you were talking about, the rise of lynchings, it did begin after reconstruction, and it really coincided with the first movie ever shown in theaters, which was Birth of a Nation they showed, yeah, white men in blackface, sexually assaulting a white woman, and the absolute frenzy and justification that that evoked was, we're protecting our white women, which was really always about protecting racial and class privilege, not the sovereignty of the bodies of white women, Rebecca  37:33right, right? And so we're back to your original thought, that what now is exposed, you know, with what happened in Minnesota is it's not really about protecting her and she's expendable. She is, quote, a domestic terrorist 37:56now so that we can justify what we're doing, Jenny  38:15which I think subconsciously at least white bodies have always known like there is something of I am safe and I am protected and I am privileged, so long as I keep performing whiteness. Rebecca  38:39I mean, the thing that scares me about that moment is that now we've gone Danielle from the criminals to the brown skinned citizens to white women who can be reclassified and recast as Domestic Terrorists if you don't toe the line, right? They're coming for everybody, because, because now we have a new category of people that ice has permission to go after, right? And again, it reminds me, if you look back at the black codes, which, again, got established during that same time period as you're talking about Birth of a Nation, Jenny, it became illegal for black people to do a whole host of things, to congregate, to read all kinds of things, right to vote, and in some states, it became illegal for white people to assist them in accomplishing any of those tasks. I Yeah, Danielle  39:53I mean, it's just the obliteration of humanity like the. Literal like, let me any humanity that can you can connect with your neighbor on let me take that away. Let me make it illegal for you to have that human share point with your neighbor. I really, that really struck me. I think it was talking about the the Minnesota mayor saying they're trying to get you to see your neighbor as like, less than human. He's like, don't fall for it. Don't fall for it. And I agree, like, we can't fall for it. I'm mean, it's like that. I Jenny  40:45don't know if you know that famous quote from Nazi Germany that was, like, they came for the Jews. And I didn't say anything because I wasn't a Jew. They, you know? And we've seen this, and we've all grown up with this, and the fact that so many people collectively have been like, well, you know, I'm not a criminal, well, I'm not an immigrant, well, I'm not, and it's like it this beast is coming for everybody, Rebecca  41:13yeah, well, and I, you know, I think That as long as we have this notion of individualism that I only have to look out for me and mine, and it doesn't matter what happens to anyone else. That is allowed the dynamic that you're talking about Jenny is allowed to flourish and until we come to some sense of interdependence until we come to some sense of the value of the person sitting next to me, and until we come to some sense of, if it isn't well with them, it cannot possibly be well with me. That sort of sense of, Well, I'm not a criminal, I'm not a Jew, so I don't have to worry about it is gonna flourish. 42:09Yesterday, I jumped42:12on Facebook for a second, and somebody that I would consider a dear friend had a lengthy Facebook post about how in favor he was of the President's actions in Venezuela, and most of his rationale was how this person, this dictator, was such a horrible person and did all of these horrible things. And my first reaction was, like, very visceral. I don't, I can't even finish this post like, I just, I mean, this is very visceral, like, and, and I don't want to talk to you anymore, and I'm not sure that our 20 plus years of friendship is sufficient to overcome how, how viscerally I am against the viewpoint that you just articulated, and I find myself, you know, a day later, beginning to wonder, Where is there some value in his perspective as a Latino man, what, what is his experience like that, that he feels so strongly about the viewpoint that he feels? And I'm not saying that he's right. I'm saying that if we don't learn to pause for a second and try to sit in the shoes of the other person before dismissing their value as a human. We will forever be stuck in the loop that we're in, right? I don't you know, I don't know that I will change my opinion about how much as an American, I have problems with the US president, snatching another leader and stealing the resources of their country. But I'm trying to find the capacity to hear from a man of Latino descent the harm that has been done to the people of Venezuela under this dictator, right? And I have to make myself push past that visceral reaction and try to hear something of what he's saying. And I would hope that he would do the same. I. Danielle  45:06I don't have words for it. You know, it just feels so deep, like it feels like somewhere deep inside the dissonance and also the want to understand, I think we're all being called, you know, Rebecca, this moment is, you know, this government, this moment, the violence, it's, it's, it's extracting our ability to stay with people like and it's such a high cost to stay with people. And I get that, I'm not saying it isn't, but I think what you're talking about is really important. Rebecca  45:57like you said, Jenny earlier, when you were talking about like, the more you know about something, the less confident you are, right? It's like, I can name, I am not Venezuelan, right? I can name I don't even think I know anybody who's from Venezuela, and if I do, I haven't taken the time to learn that you're actually from Venezuela, right, right? And I don't know anything about the history or culture of that country or the dictator that that was taken out of power. But I have seen, I can see in my friend's Facebook post that that's, it's a very painful history that he feels very strongly about. I so mostly that makes me as a black American, pause on how, on how much I want To dismiss his perspective because it's different than mine. Jenny  47:22I yeah, it also makes me think of how we're so conditioned to think in binaries and like, can there be space to hold the impossible both and where it's like, who am I to say whether or not people feel and are liberated or not in another country? I guess time will tell to see what happens. But for those that are Venezuelan and that are celebrating the removal of Maduro like can that coexist with the dangerous precedent of kidnapping a leader of a foreign country and starting immediately to steal their resources and and how do we Do this impossible dance of holding how complex these these experiences are that we're trying to navigate Rebecca  48:29and to self declare on national TV that like you're the self appointed leader of the country until, until whenever right some arbitrary line that you have drawn that you will undoubtedly change six times. I mean the danger of that precedent. It is I don't have vocabulary for how problematic that is. Danielle  48:57I don't mean to laugh, but if you didn't believe in white supremacy before, I would be giving you a lesson, and this is how it works, and it's awesome. Jenny  49:10And like you're saying, Rebecca, like I love books are coming to me today. There's another one called How to hide an empire and it Chase. It tracks from western expansion in what is now known as the United States to imperialism in the Philippines, in Puerto Rico, like in all of these places where we have established Dominion as a nation, as an empire, and what feels new is how televised and public this is, that people are being forced to confront it, hopefully in a different way, and maybe there can be more of this collective like way to psych it. This isn't what I'm supporting, because. I think for so long, this two party system that we've been force fed has a lot of difference when it comes to internal politics in the United States, but when it comes to transnational and international politics, it's been pretty much very similar for Democrats and Republicans in terms of what our nation is willing to do to other nations that we are conditioned not to think about. And so I think there's a hope. There's a desire for a hope for me to be like, Okay, can we see these other nations as humans and what the US has always done since the beginning. Rebecca  50:45you know, there's what actually happened, and then there's the history book story that we tell about what happened, right? And it like, it like what Danielle said. It appears to me that white supremacy is just blatantly at play, right? Like they're not hiding it at all. They're literally telling you, I can walk I can walk into another country, kidnap its leader and steal its resources. And I will tell you, that's what I'm doing. I will show you video footage of me intercepting oil tankers. I right like, and I will televise the time, place and location of my meeting with all the oil executives to get the oil um and and I'd like to be able to say that that is a new moment in history, and that what feels different is that we've never been so blatant about it, but I'm not sure that's true, right? I would love to have a time machine and be able to go back in some other point in time in American history and find out what they printed on the front page of the newspaper while they were stealing Africans from Africa or all the other while they were committing genocide against all the Native American tribes and all the other places and countries and people groups that the United States has basically taken their people and their resources. And so I don't know if this is different. I don't because, because the history books that I read would suggest that it is that right, but I don't. You can't always trust the narrative that we've been taught. Right? When I think there's an African proverb but as long as history is told by the lion, it will always favor the lion. Jenny  52:55I love you. Really good to be with you. Love you. Bye. Bye. See You Bio: Jenny - Co-Host Podcast (er):I am Jenny! (She/Her) MACP, LMHCI am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Certified Yoga Teacher, and an Approved Supervisor in the state of Washington.I have spent over a decade researching the ways in which the body can heal from trauma through movement and connection. I have come to see that our bodies know what they need. By approaching our body with curiosity we can begin to listen to the innate wisdom our body has to teach us. And that is where the magic happens!I was raised within fundamentalist Christianity. I have been, and am still on my own journey of healing from religious trauma and religious sexual shame (as well as consistently engaging my entanglement with white saviorism). I am a white, straight, able-bodied, cis woman. I recognize the power and privilege this affords me socially, and I am committed to understanding my bias' and privilege in the work that I do. I am LGBTQIA+ affirming and actively engage critical race theory and consultation to see a better way forward that honors all bodies of various sizes, races, ability, religion, gender, and sexuality.I am immensely grateful for the teachers, healers, therapists, and friends (and of course my husband and dog!) for the healing I have been offered. I strive to pay it forward with my clients and students. Few things make me happier than seeing people live freely in their bodies from the inside out!Rebecca A. Wheeler Walston, J.D., Master of Arts in CounselingEmail: asolidfoundationcoaching@gmail.comPhone:  +1.5104686137Website: Rebuildingmyfoundation.comI have been doing story work for nearly a decade. I earned a Master of Arts in Counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and trained in story work at The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. I have served as a story facilitator and trainer at both The Allender Center and the Art of Living Counseling Center. I currently see clients for one-on-one story coaching and work as a speaker and facilitator with Hope & Anchor, an initiative of The Impact Movement, Inc., bringing the power of story work to college students.By all accounts, I should not be the person that I am today. I should not have survived the difficulties and the struggles that I have faced. At best, I should be beaten down by life‘s struggles, perhaps bitter. I should have given in and given up long ago. But I was invited to do the good work of (re)building a solid foundation. More than once in my life, I have witnessed God send someone my way at just the right moment to help me understand my own story, and to find the strength to step away from the seemingly inevitable ending of living life in defeat. More than once I have been invited and challenged to find the resilience that lies within me to overcome the difficult moment. To trust in the goodness and the power of a kind gesture. What follows is a snapshot of a pivotal invitation to trust the kindness of another in my own story. May it invite you to receive to the pivotal invitation of kindness in your own story. 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Website: https://www.kitsap.gov/hs/Pages/SBHO-Get-Behaviroal-Health-Services.aspx• Deaf / Hard of Hearing: Use your preferred relay service (for example dial 711 then the appropriate number) to access crisis services.• Warning Signs & Risk Factors: If someone is talking about harming themselves, giving away possessions, expressing hopelessness, or showing extreme behavior changes, contact crisis resources immediately.Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.Rebecca A. Wheeler Walston, J.D., Master of Arts in CounselingEmail: asolidfoundationcoaching@gmail.comPhone:  +1.5104686137Website: Rebuildingmyfoundation.comI have been doing story work for nearly a decade. I earned a Master of Arts in Counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and trained in story work at The Allender Center at The Seattle School of Theology and Psychology. I have served as a story facilitator and trainer at both The Allender Center and the Art of Living Counseling Center. I currently see clients for one-on-one story coaching and work as a speaker and facilitator with Hope & Anchor, an initiative of The Impact Movement, Inc., bringing the power of story work to college students.By all accounts, I should not be the person that I am today. I should not have survived the difficulties and the struggles that I have faced. At best, I should be beaten down by life‘s struggles, perhaps bitter. I should have given in and given up long ago. But I was invited to do the good work of (re)building a solid foundation. More than once in my life, I have witnessed God send someone my way at just the right moment to help me understand my own story, and to find the strength to step away from the seemingly inevitable ending of living life in defeat. More than once I have been invited and challenged to find the resilience that lies within me to overcome the difficult moment. To trust in the goodness and the power of a kind gesture. What follows is a snapshot of a pivotal invitation to trust the kindness of another in my own story. May it invite you to receive to the pivotal invitation of kindness in your own story. Listen with me… Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that. Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

In this episode I talk with Steven Diamante about coaching teams on XP practices and AI coding agents. We discuss why change is so hard (people have to want it), his success turning an underperforming team around through weekly learning hours, and how to use TDD with AI—including "predictive TDD" where you have the agent guess if tests will pass or fail.Links:Diamante Technical CoachingSteven Diamante on LinkedInNonsense Monthly

In this episode I talk with Paul Hammond about TDD as a discoverable principle—something alien programmers would independently arrive at. We discuss my "specify, encode, fulfill" formulation, why programming needs theory instead of rules of thumb, and the business payoff of technical quality: Paul returned to a well-built project after 18 months and delivered months of planned work before Christmas.Links:ScenaristNonsense Monthly

BONUS: The Operating System for Software-Native Organizations - The Five Core Principles In this BONUS episode, the final installment of our Special Xmas 2025 reflection on Software-native businesses, we explore the five fundamental principles that form the operating system for software-native organizations. Building on the previous four episodes, this conversation provides the blueprint for building organizations that can adapt at the speed of modern business demands, where the average company lifespan on the S&P 500 has dropped from 33 years in the 1960s to a projected 12 years by 2027. The Challenge of Adaptation "What we're observing in Ukraine is adaptation happening at a speed that would have been unthinkable in traditional military contexts - new drone capabilities emerge, countermeasures appear within days, and those get countered within weeks." The opening draws a powerful parallel between the rapid adaptation we're witnessing in drone warfare and the existential threats facing modern businesses. While our businesses aren't facing literal warfare, they are confronting dramatic disruption. Clayton Christensen documented this in "The Innovator's Dilemma," but what he observed in the 1970s and 80s is happening exponentially faster now, with software as the accelerant. If we can improve businesses' chances of survival even by 10-15%, we're talking about thousands of companies that could thrive instead of fail, millions of jobs preserved, and enormous value created. The central question becomes: how do you build an organization that can adapt at this speed? Principle 1: Constant Experimentation with Tight Feedback Loops "Everything becomes an experiment. Not in the sense of being reckless or uncommitted, but in being clear about what we're testing and what we expect to learn. I call this: work like a scientist: learning is the goal." Software developers have practiced this for decades through Test-Driven Development, but now this TDD mindset is becoming the ruling metaphor for managing products and entire businesses. The practice involves framing every initiative with three clear elements: the goal (what are we trying to achieve?), the action (what specific thing will we do?), and the learning (what will we measure to know if it worked?). When a client says "we need to improve our retrospectives," software-native organizations don't just implement a new format. Instead, they connect it to business value - improving the NPS score for users of a specific feature by running focused retrospectives that explicitly target user pain points and tracking both the improvements implemented and the actual NPS impact. After two weeks, you know whether it worked. The experiment mindset means you're always learning, never stuck. This is TDD applied to organizational change, and it's powerful because every process change connects directly to customer outcomes. Principle 2: Clear Connection to Business Value "Software-native organizations don't measure success by tasks completed, story points delivered, or features shipped. Or even cycle time or throughput. They measure success by business outcomes achieved." While this seems obvious, most organizations still optimize for output, not outcomes. The practice uses Impact Mapping or similar outcome-focused frameworks where every initiative answers three questions: What business behavior are we trying to change? How will we measure that change? What's the minimum software needed to create that change? A financial services client wanted to "modernize their reporting system" - a 12-month initiative with dozens of features in project terms. Reframed through a business value lens, the goal became reducing time analysts spend preparing monthly reports from 80 hours to 20 hours, measured by tracking actual analyst time, starting with automating just the three most time-consuming report components. The first delivery reduced time to 50 hours - not perfect, but 30 hours saved, with clear learning about which parts of reporting actually mattered. The organization wasn't trying to fulfill requirements; they were laser focused on the business value that actually mattered. When you're connected to business value, you can adapt. When you're committed to a feature list, you're stuck. Principle 3: Software as Value Amplifier "Software isn't just 'something we do' or a support function. Software is an amplifier of your business model. If your business model generates $X of value per customer through manual processes, software should help you generate $10X or more." Before investing in software, ask whether this can amplify your business model by 10x or more - not 10% improvement, but 10x. That's the threshold where software's unique properties (zero marginal cost, infinite scale, instant distribution) actually matter, and where the cost/value curve starts to invert. Remember: software is still the slowest and most expensive way to check if a feature would deliver value, so you better have a 10x or more expectation of return. Stripe exemplifies this principle perfectly. Before Stripe, accepting payments online required a merchant account (weeks to set up), integration with payment gateways (months of development), and PCI compliance (expensive and complex). Stripe reduced that to adding seven lines of code - not 10% easier, but 100x easier. This enabled an entire generation of internet businesses that couldn't have existed otherwise: subscription services, marketplaces, on-demand platforms. That's software as amplifier. It didn't optimize the old model; it made new models possible. If your software initiatives are about 5-10% improvements, ask yourself: is software the right medium for this problem, or should you focus where software can create genuine amplification? Principle 4: Software as Strategic Advantage "Software-native organizations use software for strategic advantage and competitive differentiation, not just optimization, automation, or cost reduction. This means treating software development as part of your very strategy, not a way to implement a strategy that is separate from the software." This concept, discussed with Tom Gilb and Simon Holzapfel on the podcast as "continuous strategy," means that instead of creating a strategy every few years and deploying it like a project, strategy and execution are continuously intertwined when it comes to software delivery. The practice involves organizing around competitive capabilities that software uniquely enables by asking: How can software 10x the value we generate right now? What can we do with software that competitors can't easily replicate? Where does software create a defensible advantage? How does our software create compounding value over time? Amazon Web Services didn't start as a product strategy but emerged from Amazon building internal capabilities to run their e-commerce platform at scale. They realized they'd built infrastructure that was extremely hard to replicate and asked: "What if we offered it to others?" AWS became Amazon's most profitable business - not because they optimized their existing retail business, but because they turned an internal capability into a strategic platform. The software wasn't supporting the strategy - the software became the strategy. Compare this to companies that use software just for cost reduction or process optimization - they're playing defense. Software-native companies use software to play offense, creating capabilities that change the competitive landscape. Continuous strategy means your software capabilities and your business strategy evolve together, in real-time, not in annual planning cycles. Principle 5: Real-Time Observability and Adaptive Systems "Software-native organizations use telemetry and real-time analytics not just to understand their software, but to understand their entire business and adapt dynamically. Observability practices from DevOps are actually ways of managing software delivery itself. We're bootstrapping our own operating system for software businesses." This principle connects back to Principle 1 but takes it to the organizational level. The practice involves building systems that constantly sense what's happening and can adapt in real-time: deploy with feature flags so you can turn capabilities on/off instantly, use A/B testing not just for UI tweaks but for business model experiments, instrument everything so you know how users actually behave, and build feedback loops that let the system respond automatically. Social media companies and algorithmic trading firms already operate this way. Instagram doesn't deploy a new feed algorithm and wait six months to see if it works - they're constantly testing variations, measuring engagement in real-time, adapting the algorithm continuously. The system is sensing and responding every second. High-frequency trading firms make thousands of micro-adjustments per day based on market signals. Imagine applying this to all businesses: a retail company that adjusts pricing, inventory, and promotions in real-time based on demand signals; a healthcare system that dynamically reallocates resources based on patient flow patterns; a logistics company whose routing algorithms adapt to traffic, weather, and delivery success rates continuously. This is the future of software-native organizations - not just fast decision-making, but systems that sense and adapt at software speed, with humans setting goals and constraints but software executing continuous optimization. We're moving from "make a decision, deploy it, wait to see results" to "deploy multiple variants, measure continuously, let the system learn." This closes the loop back to Principle 1 - everything is an experiment, but now the experiments run automatically at scale with near real-time signal collection and decision making. It's Experiments All The Way Down "We established that software has become societal infrastructure. That software is different - it's not a construction project with a fixed endpoint; it's a living capability that evolves with the business." This five-episode series has built a complete picture: Episode 1 established that software is societal infrastructure and fundamentally different from traditional construction. Episode 2 diagnosed the problem - project management thinking treats software like building a bridge, creating cascade failures throughout organizations. Episode 3 showed that solutions already exist, with organizations like Spotify, Amazon, and Etsy practicing software-native development successfully. Episode 4 exposed the organizational immune system - the four barriers preventing transformation: the project mindset, funding models, business/IT separation, and risk management theater. Today's episode provides the blueprint - the five principles forming the operating system for software-native organizations. This isn't theory. This is how software-native organizations already operate. The question isn't whether this works - we know it does. The question is: how do you get started? The Next Step In Building A Software-Native Organization "This is how transformation starts - not with grand pronouncements or massive reorganizations, but with conversations and small experiments that compound over time. Software is too important to society to keep managing it wrong." Start this week by doing two things.  First, start a conversation: pick one of these five principles - whichever resonates most with your current challenges - and share it with your team or leadership. Don't present it as "here's what we should do" but as "here's an interesting idea - what would this mean for us?" That conversation will reveal where you are, what's blocking you, and what might be possible.  Second, run one small experiment: take something you're currently doing and frame it as an experiment with a clear goal, action, and learning measure. Make it small, make it fast - one week maximum, 24 hours if you can - then stop and learn. You now have the blueprint. You understand the barriers. You've seen the alternatives. The transformation is possible, and it starts with you. Recommended Further Reading Tom Gilb and Simon Holzapfel episodes on continuous strategy  The book by Christensen, Clayton: "The Innovator's Dilemma"  The book by Gojko Adzic: Impact Mapping  Ukraine drone warfare Company lifespan statistics: Innosight research on S&P 500 turnover  Stripe's impact on internet businesses Amazon AWS origin story DevOps observability practices About Vasco Duarte Vasco Duarte is a thought leader in the Agile space, co-founder of Agile Finland, and host of the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast, which has over 10 million downloads. Author of NoEstimates: How To Measure Project Progress Without Estimating, Vasco is a sought-after speaker and consultant helping organizations embrace Agile practices to achieve business success. You can link with Vasco Duarte on LinkedIn.

Topics covered in this episode: Has the cost of building software just dropped 90%? More on Deprecation Warnings How FOSS Won and Why It Matters Should I be looking for a GitHub alternative? Extras Joke Watch on YouTube About the show Sponsored by us! Support our work through: Our courses at Talk Python Training The Complete pytest Course Patreon Supporters Connect with the hosts Michael: @mkennedy@fosstodon.org / @mkennedy.codes (bsky) Brian: @brianokken@fosstodon.org / @brianokken.bsky.social Show: @pythonbytes@fosstodon.org / @pythonbytes.fm (bsky) Join us on YouTube at pythonbytes.fm/live to be part of the audience. Usually Monday at 10am PT. Older video versions available there too. Finally, if you want an artisanal, hand-crafted digest of every week of the show notes in email form? Add your name and email to our friends of the show list, we'll never share it. HEADS UP: We are taking next week off, happy holiday everyone. Michael #1: Has the cost of building software just dropped 90%? by Martin Alderson Agentic coding tools are collapsing “implementation time,” so the cost curve of shipping software may be shifting sharply Recent programming advancements haven't been that great of a true benefit: Cloud, TDD, microservices, complex frontends, Kubernetes, etc. Agentic AI's big savings are not just code generation, but coordination overhead reduction (fewer handoffs, fewer meetings, fewer blocks). Thinking, product clarity, and domain decisions stay hard, while typing and scaffolding get cheap. Is it the end of software dev? Not really, see Jevons paradox: when production gets cheaper, total demand can rise rather than spending simply falling. (Historically: the efficiency of coal use led to the increased consumption of coal) Pushes back on “only good for greenfield” by arguing agents also help with legacy code comprehension and bug-fixing. I 100% agree. #Legacy code for the win. Brian #2: More on Deprecation Warnings How are people ignoring them? yep, it's right in the Python docs: -W ignore::DeprecationWarning Don't do that! Perhaps the docs should give the example of emitting them only once -W once::::DeprecationWarning See also -X dev mode , which sets -W default and some other runtime checks Don't use warn, use the @warnings.deprecated decorator instead Thanks John Hagen for pointing this out Emits a warning It's understood by type checkers, so editors visually warn you You can pass in your own custom UserWarning with category mypy also has a command line option and setting for this --enable-error-code deprecated or in [tool.mypy] enable_error_code = ["deprecated"] My recommendation Use @deprecated with your own custom warning and test with pytest -W error Michael #3: How FOSS Won and Why It Matters by Thomas Depierre Companies are not cheap, companies optimize cost control. They do this by making purchasing slow and painful. FOSS is/was a major unlock hack to skip procurement, legal, etc. Example is months to start using a paid “Add to calendar” widget! It “works both ways”: the same bypass lowers the barrier for maintainers too, no need for a legal entity, lawyers, liability insurance, or sales motion. Proposals that “fix FOSS” by reintroducing supply-chain style controls (he name-checks SBOMs and mandated processes) risk being rejected or gamed, because they restore the very friction FOSS sidesteps. Brian #4: Should I be looking for a GitHub alternative? Pricing changes for GitHub Actions The self-hosted runner pricing change caused a kerfuffle. It's has been postponed But… if you were to look around, maybe pay attention to These 4 GitHub alternatives are just as good—or better Codeburg, BitBucket, GitLab, Gitea And a new-ish entry, Tangled Extras Brian: End of year sale for The Complete pytest Course Use code XMAS2025 for 50% off before Dec 31 Writing work on Lean TDD book on hold for holidays Will pick up again in January Michael: PyCharm has better Ruff support now out of the box, via Daniel Molnar This is from the release notes of 2025.3: "PyCharm 2025.3 expands its LSP integration with support for Ruff, ty, Pyright, and Pyrefly.” If you check out the LSP section it will land you on this page and you can go to Ruff. The Ruff doc site was also updated. Previously it was only available external tools and a third party plugin, this feels like a big step. Fun quote I saw on ExTwitter: May your bug tracker be forever empty. Joke: Try/Catch/Stack Overflow Create a super annoying linkedin profile - From Tim Kellogg, submitted by archtoad

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In this wild new episode of The Dating Detectives, Hannah and Mackenzie sit down with a guest whose dating app romance took a turn so shocking, you'll be yelling at your phone. What started as the perfect match quickly spiraled into a maze of fear, manipulation, and unbelievable claims, including her boyfriend insisting he was part of the Russian mafia. As red flags pile up and his stories grow darker, Susan finds herself trapped in a reality that feels more like a crime thriller than a relationship. This episode is emotional, infuriating, and impossible to stop listening to. If you've ever ignored a gut feeling or fallen for someone who seemed “too good to be true,” this one's going to hit hard. Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode is sponsored by Revolve. Shop at REVOLVE.com/DATINGDETECTIVES and use code DATINGDETECTIVES for 15% off your first order. Offer expired on 12/1.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Ava. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING.This episode is sponsored by Suvie. Get the smart countertop kitchen robot that refrigerates, cooks, and meal-preps dinner while you're away. Go to Suvie.com/DatingDetectives to start your 100-day risk-free trial and get 16 FREE meals with your order.This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.Get control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Paired. Head to PAIRED.COM/DATINGDETECTIVES to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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AI Assisted Coding: Treating AI Like a Junior Engineer - Onboarding Practices for AI Collaboration In this special episode, Sergey Sergyenko, CEO of Cybergizer, shares his practical framework for AI-assisted development built on transactional models, Git workflows, and architectural conventions. He explains why treating AI like a junior engineer, keeping commits atomic, and maintaining rollback strategies creates production-ready code rather than just prototypes. Vibecoding: An Automation Design Instrument "I would define Vibecoding as an automation design instrument. It's not a tool that can deliver end-to-end solution, but it's like a perfect set of helping hands for a person who knows what they need to do."   Sergey positions vibecoding clearly: it's not magic, it's an automation design tool. The person using it must know what they need to accomplish—AI provides the helping hands to execute that vision faster. This framing sets expectations appropriately: AI speeds up development significantly, but it's not a silver bullet that works without guidance. The more you practice vibecoding, the better you understand its boundaries. Sergey's definition places vibecoding in the evolution of development tools: from scaffolding to co-pilots to agentic coding to vibecoding. Each step increases automation, but the human architect remains essential for providing direction, context, and validation. Pair Programming with the Machine "If you treat AI as a junior engineer, it's very easy to adopt it. Ah, okay, maybe we just use the old traditions, how we onboard juniors to the team, and let AI follow this step."   One of Sergey's most practical insights is treating AI like a junior engineer joining your team. This mental model immediately clarifies roles and expectations. You wouldn't let a junior architect your system or write all your tests—so why let AI? Instead, apply existing onboarding practices: pair programming, code reviews, test-driven development, architectural guidance. This approach leverages Extreme Programming practices that have worked for decades. The junior engineer analogy helps teams understand that AI needs mentorship, clear requirements, and frequent validation. Just as you'd provide a junior with frameworks and conventions to follow, you constrain AI with established architectural patterns and framework conventions like Ruby on Rails. The Transactional Model: Atomic Commits and Rollback "When you're working with AI, the more atomic commits it delivers, more easy for you to kind of guide and navigate it through the process of development."   Sergey's transactional approach transforms how developers work with AI. Instead of iterating endlessly when something goes wrong, commit frequently with atomic changes, then rollback and restart if validation fails. Each commit should be small, independent, and complete—like a feature flag you can toggle. The commit message includes the prompt sequence used to generate the code and rollback instructions.  This approach makes the Git repository the context manager, not just the AI's memory. When you need to guide AI, you can reference specific commits and their context. This mirrors trunk-based development practices where teams commit directly to master with small, verified changes. The cost of rollback stays minimal because changes are atomic, making this strategy far more efficient than trying to fix broken implementations through iteration. Context Management: The Weak Point and the Solution "Managing context and keeping context is one of the weak points of today's coding agents, therefore we need to be very mindful in how we manage that context for the agent."   Context management challenges current AI coding tools—they forget, lose thread, or misinterpret requirements over long sessions. Sergey's solution is embedding context within the commit history itself. Each commit links back to the specific reasoning behind that code: why it was accepted, what iterations it took, and how to undo it if needed. This creates a persistent context trail that survives beyond individual AI sessions. When starting new features, developers can reference previous commits and their context to guide the AI. The transactional model doesn't just provide rollback capability—it creates institutional memory that makes AI progressively more effective as the codebase grows. TDD 2.0: Humans Write Tests, AI Writes Code "I would never allow AI to write the test. I would do it by myself. Still, it can write the code."   Sergey is adamant about roles: humans write tests, AI writes implementation code. This inverts traditional TDD slightly—instead of developers writing tests then code, they write tests and AI writes the code to pass them. Tests become executable requirements and prompts. This provides essential guardrails: AI can iterate on implementation until tests pass, but it can't redefine what "passing" means. The tests represent domain knowledge, business requirements, and validation criteria that only humans should control. Sergey envisions multi-agent systems where one agent writes code while another validates with tests, but critically, humans author the original test suite. This TDD 2.0 framework (a talk Sergey gave at the Global Agile Summit) creates a verification mechanism that prevents the biggest anti-pattern: coding without proper validation. The Two Cardinal Rules: Architecture and Verification "I would never allow AI to invent architecture. Writing AI agentic coding, Vibecoding, whatever coding—without proper verification and properly setting expectations of what you want to get as a result—that's the main mistake."   Sergey identifies two non-negotiables. First, never let AI invent architecture. Use framework conventions (Rails, etc.) to constrain AI's choices. Leverage existing code generators and scaffolding. Provide explicit architectural guidelines in planning steps. Store iteration-specific instructions where AI can reference them. The framework becomes the guardrails that prevent AI from making structural decisions it's not equipped to make. Second, always verify AI output. Even if you don't want to look at code, you must validate that it meets requirements. This might be through tests, manual review, or automated checks—but skipping verification is the fundamental mistake. These two rules—human-defined architecture and mandatory verification—separate successful AI-assisted development from technical debt generation. Prototype vs. Production: Two Different Workflows "When you pair as an architect or a really senior engineer who can implement it by himself, but just wants to save time, you do the pair programming with AI, and the AI kind of ships a draft, and rapid prototype."   Sergey distinguishes clearly between prototype and production development. For MVPs and rapid prototypes, a senior architect pairs with AI to create drafts quickly—this is where speed matters most. For production code, teams add more iterative testing and polishing after AI generates initial implementation. The key is being explicit about which mode you're in. The biggest anti-pattern is treating prototype code as production-ready without the necessary validation and hardening steps. When building production systems, Sergey applies the full transactional model: atomic commits, comprehensive tests, architectural constraints, and rollback strategies. For prototypes, speed takes priority, but the architectural knowledge still comes from humans, not AI. The Future: AI Literacy as Mandatory "Being a software engineer and trying to get a new job, it's gonna be a mandatory requirement for you to understand how to use AI for coding. So it's not enough to just be a good engineer."   Sergey sees AI-assisted coding literacy becoming as fundamental as Git proficiency. Future engineering jobs will require demonstrating effective AI collaboration, not just traditional coding skills. We're reaching good performance levels with AI models—now the challenge is learning to use them efficiently. This means frameworks and standardized patterns for AI-assisted development will emerge and consolidate. Approaches like AAID, SpecKit, and others represent early attempts to create these patterns. Sergey expects architectural patterns for AI-assisted development to standardize, similar to how design patterns emerged in object-oriented programming. The human remains the bottleneck—for domain knowledge, business requirements, and architectural guidance—but the implementation mechanics shift heavily toward AI collaboration. Resources for Practitioners "We are reaching a good performance level of AI models, and now we need to guide it to make it impactful. It's a great tool, now we need to understand how to make it impactful."   Sergey recommends Obie Fernandez's work on "Patterns of Application Development Using AI," particularly valuable for Ruby and Rails developers but applicable broadly. He references Andrey Karpathy's original vibecoding post and emphasizes Extreme Programming practices as foundational. The tools he uses—Cursor and Claude Code—support custom planning steps and context management. But more important than tools is the mindset: we have powerful AI capabilities now, and the focus must shift to efficient usage patterns. This means experimenting with workflows, documenting what works, and sharing patterns with the community. Sergey himself shares case studies on LinkedIn and travels extensively speaking about these approaches, contributing to the collective learning happening in real-time.   About Sergey Sergyenko   Sergey is the CEO of Cybergizer, a dynamic software development agency with offices in Vilnius, Lithuania. Specializing in MVPs with zero cash requirements, Cybergizer offers top-tier CTO services and startup teams. Their tech stack includes Ruby, Rails, Elixir, and ReactJS.   Sergey was also a featured speaker at the Global Agile Summit, and you can find his talk available in your membership area. If you are not a member don't worry, you can get the 1-month trial and watch the whole conference. You can cancel at any time.   You can link with Sergey Sergyenko on LinkedIn.

In this deeply moving and powerful episode, the Dating Detectives sit down in person with therapist and author Meredith Beardmore, who tells us her story of love, addiction, betrayal, coercive control, and ultimately, survival. Meredith shares how a seemingly stable, loving eight-year relationship unraveled during the pandemic as her husband spiraled into alcoholism, Adderall abuse, and frightening, unpredictable behavior that escalated into danger for both her and their young son. Meredith brings a raw and unfiltered honesty to the show as she unpacks the shame of being a therapist who “should have known,” the denial that kept her trapped, the rage that finally saved her, and the moment that shattered everything—a hidden Plan B receipt that confirmed the infidelity and manipulation she could no longer ignore. Meredith's story is as heartbreaking as it is brave, navigating domestic violence, addiction, psych holds, identity-theft discoveries, a terrifying police intervention, and the devastating aftermath of her ex-husband's eventual overdose. Through her insight, her humor, and her hard-won clarity, Meredith reminds listeners that abuse can happen to anyone, healing is nonlinear, and rage is sometimes the most honest tool we have. Her book, The Plan B Chronicles, will be featured in an upcoming Dating Detectives Book Club, and listeners can find more of her work on her YouTube channel, Mend With Mere.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode is sponsored by Suvie. Get the smart countertop kitchen robot that refrigerates, cooks, and meal-preps dinner while you're away. Go to Suvie.com/DatingDetectives to start your 100-day risk-free trial and get 16 FREE meals with your order.Take control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.This episode is sponsored by ZocDoc. Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/tdd find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this two-part Dating Detectives story, we meet Jessica, a dog groomer and accomplished show-dog handler whose grief after her father's death left her vulnerable to a “Show Dogfish". What begins as comforting late-night calls with Dylan, a fellow competitor in the dog show world, escalates into love-bombing, a sudden proposal, a courthouse wedding, and controlling red flags—from secretive money moves, to keeping her car keys. As Jessica juggles her dogs, grief, and mounting estate logistics, a crisis at home collides with a shocking knock at her door: a process server tied to a $2M fraud case naming Dylan. Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode is sponsored by SKIMS. Shop the SKIMS Fits Everybody Collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order be sure to let them know we sent you by filling out the survey!This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.Make this spring your most delicious yet with Green Chef. Head to greenchef.com/50datingdetectives and use code 50datingdetectives to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping.This episode is sponsored by Wayfair. Refresh your home for less. Shop back-to-routine deals by visiting Wayfair.com.Take control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. Get control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this powerful two-part conclusion, Abby's story reaches a shocking and emotional climax. After surviving a devastating sexual assault, she finds herself drawn back to her ex, Peter, who weaponizes her trauma, manipulates her into taking psychiatric medication, and ultimately coerces her into creating non-consensual OnlyFans content under her own name. As Abby's world unravels—from financial exploitation and digital trafficking to secret surveillance and forced “swinger” events—she begins to reclaim her clarity, her body, and her freedom. With the help of an unexpected ally, she escapes the marriage and exposes the horrifying ways predators are exploiting online sex-work platforms without accountability. This is one of the most intense and important stories the Dating Detectives have ever told.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode is sponsored by Suvie. Get the smart countertop kitchen robot that refrigerates, cooks, and meal-preps dinner while you're away. Go to Suvie.com/DatingDetectives to start your 100-day risk-free trial and get 16 FREE meals with your order.This episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.This episode is sponsored by ZocDoc. Stop putting off those doctors appointments and go to Zocdoc.com/tdd find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Ava. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING. Rebuild your credit fast with no interest, no credit check, with AVA. Download the AVA app and use promo code DATING.This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Jones Road Beauty. For a limited time our listeners are getting a free Cool Gloss on their first purchase when they use code DATINGDETECTIVES at checkout. Head to jonesroadbeauty.com to get yours today! ***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this two-part episode, Abby shares a harrowing story that begins as a sweet college romance but quickly twists into a nightmare of manipulation, stalking, medical and mental health gaslighting, and a violent sexual assault—one her abuser later weaponized to force his way back into her life. Part one exposes the classic Dogfish playbook: love bombing, isolation, lies, and control. Next week in part two, we enter a whole new level of exploitation, one that may feel disturbingly familiar if you remember our OnlyFans Pimp cases. Trigger warnings: sexual assault/rape, coercive control, mental-health gaslighting, and online sexual exploitation. Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkTake control of your data today. Get 20% off your DeleteMe plan by visiting joindeleteme.com/datingdetectives and using the promo code TDD at checkout. This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/tdd today to get 10% off your first monthThis episode is sponsored by Suvie. Get the smart countertop kitchen robot that refrigerates, cooks, and meal-preps dinner while you're away. Go to Suvie.com/DatingDetectives to start your 100-day risk-free trial and get 16 FREE meals with your order.This episode is sponsored by Wayfair. Refresh your home for less. Shop back-to-routine deals by visiting Wayfair.com.***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Part Two of Claudia's saga is a tangle of exes, receipts, and survival. As she builds a new life with Amber, a DM from Melissa's ex, Taylor, detonates everything—revealing a secret alliance with Amber's ex Kayla, alleged surveillance, financial doxxing, and the chilling photo of Claudia's child sleeping on a mattress in a closet. We follow Claudia into court, through “defensive parenting,” and onto TikTok where a web of past partners surfaces a pattern of control; veganism-as-control, forced tattoos, baby pressure, and love-bombing wrapped in “toxic positivity.” Trigger warning: child endangerment and abuse are discussed.Click here to join our Patreon! For only $5 a month you will get 2 extra episodes a month, monthly virtual live events, and access to our community page. And now for $9 a month you can get all of that, plus ad free episodes!If you've been dogfished and want to share your story on the show, email investigate@thedatingdetectivespodcast.com or contact us through our website using this linkThis episode is sponsored by Miracle Made. Get silver-infused, bacteria-fighting, temperature-regulating sheets and towels at TryMiracle.com/TDD and use code TDD to save over 40% and claim a FREE 3-piece towel set.Make this spring your most delicious yet with Green Chef. Head to greenchef.com/50datingdetectives and use code 50datingdetectives to get 50% off your first month, then 20% off for two months with free shipping.Get control of your finances with Monarch Money. Use code DATING at MonarchMoney.com in your browser (not app) for half off your first year!This episode of The Dating Detectives is sponsored by Paired. Head to PAIRED.COM/DATINGDETECTIVES to get a 7-day free trial and 25% off if you sign up for a subscription.This episode is sponsored by SKIMS. Shop the SKIMS Fits Everybody Collection at SKIMS.com. After you place your order be sure to let them know we sent you by filling out the survey!This episode is sponsored by Baked By Melissa. Get 20% off your order by going to bakedbymelissa.com/datingdetectives. ***The following Program contains names, places and events that have been anonymized or fictionalized for the purposes of protection and safety. The following Program is provided for entertainment purposes only and any commentary from the hosts are strictly conjecture and should not be held as making any definitive statements about the truth or identity of any particular individuals or circumstances.If you or a loved one are involved in an abusive relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 for support.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.