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Saying yes to everyone sounds generous right up until you notice who is actually paying for it. Lesley Logan and Brad Crowell recap their favorite takeaways from the conversation with transformational coach, speaker, and author Peter Kolat, also known as Polish Peter, who landed in Detroit at fourteen with no English and rebuilt his life after a recession and a divorce. Brad gets honest about the job he stayed in way too long and what finally made it unbearable.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:What the three letters in DEI actually mean without the politics.The costs of saying yes to everyone and everything in your life.The difference between a business plan and a personal life vision.How to spot the signal that you are on the wrong path.Peter's daily practice for hearing yourself think again.Episode References/Links:upLift Teacher Training - https://xxll.co/uwseLevate Mentorship Program - https://lesleylogan.co/elevateOPC Flashcards - https://opc.me/flashcardsNevada SPCA - https://nevadaspca.org/OPC Posters - https://opc.me/postersCambodia October Waitlist (2027) - https://crowsnestretreats.comPilates on Tour Goa India (December) - https://xxll.co/potOPC Winter Tour - https://opc.me/eventsAmericans for Immigrant Justice - http://aijustice.orgThe Authentic Self Rebirth by Peter Kolat - https://myauthenticrebirth.com/free-bookv2Submit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsGuest Bio:Peter Kolat is a transformational coach, speaker, and author who helps people uncover the quiet beliefs holding them back and rebuild on more honest ground. Known as "Polish Peter," he arrived in the U.S. from Poland at 14 with no English, trained as an architect, and later moved into coaching after a personal and financial turning point reshaped his path. Today he's recognized for a direct, no-nonsense style and a talent for naming the limiting beliefs people can't see in themselves. A Robbins-Madanes certified coach, Peter has spoken at more than 100 live events and authored The Authentic Self Rebirth. He co-hosts The Lifeonaire Show and leads a national coaching company. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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If something is missing, if something feels like it's missing, then you're probably not being true to yourself, right? You're not being your authentic self.Lesley Logan 0:12  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Brad Crowell 0:53  Take it away.Lesley Logan 0:56  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap for my co-host in life, Brad, and I are going to dig into the authentic convo I had with Peter Kolat, also known as Polish Peter, in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause us now. Go back and listen to Polish Peter, and then come back and join us.Brad Crowell 1:15  Yeah, Polish Peter, I love it.Lesley Logan 1:15  I know. It's on his Zoom call. It says Polish Peter.Brad Crowell 1:18  That's what he calls himself. Yeah, he explained it in the episode. I kind of had a good chuckle, but yeah, a lot of fun.Lesley Logan 1:24  I mean, he's Polish.Brad Crowell 1:25  Well, there's that. I mean, I hope I would hope he's Polish. He better fucking be Polish if he's calling himself Polish. Lesley Logan 1:32  And he's not just Polish. He's from Poland. So there's that. All right. So today is September 17th. Here's the deal, guys. We're gonna get down and dirty because you know what? The day before recording this, I'm a little, I'm a little annoyed. So we're in on this stuff. It is whether or not people wanted to celebrate this day. There, we are celebrating it. It is National DEI Day.Brad Crowell 1:53  It's September 17th.Lesley Logan 1:54  That's right. It's September 17th. It is National DEI Day. National DEI Day champions our nation's commitment to diversity, equity, and inclusion every September 17th, sharing its date with Constitution and Citizenship. Wow, with Constitution and Citizenship Days. I wonder if the people who aren't into DEI have ever read the Constitution or taken a citizenship test. Anyways, it reinforces values of democracy and belonging. I am zesty today, and belonging. Communities nationwide are encouraged to wear blue and unite to celebrate equity in action. Discover resources, participate in discussions, and support initiatives that foster a truly inclusive society. So, Brad put some stuff together.Brad Crowell 2:36  Yeah, DEI. Here's what each word actually means, but completely stripped of political charge that's been layered with all of the craziness that's been happening.Lesley Logan 2:47  Okay, by the way, if anyone's triggered by the fact that we're talking about DEI, they're already gone. Brad Crowell 2:51  So yeah, this is probably already gone. Lesley Logan 2:53  Yeah, but this is for our people who needed to explain it to their family members. Brad Crowell 2:57  Well, yeah, I think it's really important. DEI is just this supercharged acronym. We told my dad that our government is going after people about. They've shut down grants to universities because the university has a DEI class. But what is DEI? What does that actually mean? Right. The D stands for Diversity. The E is Equity. The I is Inclusion. But D includes the presence of people with different backgrounds, identities, and experiences in a group or organization. So that's all different backgrounds, identities, and experiences. This includes, but is not limited to, race, ethnicity, gender, age, sexual orientation, disability, socioeconomic background. Right?Lesley Logan 3:42  Yeah. If you're poor.Brad Crowell 3:43  You're DEI, right? National origin, so that could certainly be people from another country. It could also mean religion, and also side note, every fucking person who's ever been in the military.Lesley Logan 3:56  Yeah, you're DEI. When we told my family member, we're like, you're DEI. I'm like, you are over 65, so that's an age thing. You are a veteran.Brad Crowell 4:07  Yep.Lesley Logan 4:08  DEI.Brad Crowell 4:09  Yeah.Lesley Logan 4:09  There it is. You are. I have a sweatshirt that says you're probably DEI too.Brad Crowell 4:14  Yeah. So that's the D. So E is designing systems so that outcomes aren't predetermined by someone's starting point, so it's not the same as equality, giving everyone the same thing, right? This is equity. Equity means adjusting for the fact that different people face different barriers.Lesley Logan 4:35  Yeah, I mean, if you grow up in a poor area of town in the U.S., that likely means that your school has less funding, which means if you're able to be a straight-A student in your school with less funding, equity means that they see you similarly to someone who went to a very high-end school versus like, "Oh well, you got a 3.8 at this school, but these people have 4.2's." No, they're like, "Oh hi, that's insane, that's amazing, whoa, we should look at that."Brad Crowell 5:08  Well, it's adjusting. Yeah, exactly. It's adjusting for the fact that there are different barriers of entry. Right? So that's what equity is.Lesley Logan 5:15  There's also a really interesting thing. You can see it on YouTube. It was going around during 2020 and 2021, where they just put people on a starting line and they ask them questions, right? Did you have this? Did you have that growing up? Did you have this growing up? And you have to take certain steps forward or backward, and then you look and you see people of different socioeconomic backgrounds and races often are behind other places, and it doesn't mean that we take these other people down. It's that we actually go, "Oh, we should actually account for that and give these people an opportunity to even the drawing, give them a better opportunity at life."Brad Crowell 5:52  I stands for Inclusion. Whether people who are present actually feel welcome, they feel heard, and they're able to participate fully, or whether they're just technically in the room, right? Making sure that everyone has a voice.Lesley Logan 6:06  It's like in the '80s, or I don't remember when they, for, "Oh well, that board has a woman on the board, but she doesn't ever get to talk, and her points are never listened to." Then it's not actually included.Brad Crowell 6:18  She's the talking woman on the board.Lesley Logan 6:19  Yeah.Brad Crowell 6:20  Right. Yeah. So who is included in DEI? This is where it often gets—I'm just going to sum it all up. This is often where it gets misunderstood. DEI frameworks were born out of civil rights and anti-discrimination work. So, in practice, the groups most often centered are Black, Latino, Hispanic, Indigenous, Asian, women, LGBTQ+, people with disabilities, and veterans. However, the framework itself is not exclusive to those groups. A white man from rural Appalachia with no college degree is considered diverse in a room full of Ivy League professionals, and equity would ask whether he has had the same shot at advancement. Right? So.Lesley Logan 7:02  But they would never tell that guy that.Brad Crowell 7:06  Okay, well, the political fight isn't really just about the definition; it's about whether these frameworks produce fair outcomes or create preferential treatment, right? That's the—that is where the argument is: Is it right for us to give a voice to the guy from Appalachia? Are we giving preferential treatment to him, or is it producing a fair outcome? And that's where, you know, that's now where opinion comes into play, right? It's about that and whether institutional programs built around DEI actually deliver on the premise or become performative checkbox exercises, right? So it's definitely easy to just turn into a checkbox exercise. This is where reasonable people land on different places.Lesley Logan 7:45  Yeah, I mean, look, I don't know that DEI mandates, the wrong word, but values in a company are always going to be perfect. I think everything is going to have flaws, and there's always going to be blind spots to different things just based on experiences, no matter where you land on the board, but I do think that punishing people because they have DEI as a value system or something that's important to them is wrong, and also just assuming that somebody who is of any of the things we said got there because they were just gifted a thing is just ignorant. Brad Crowell 8:22  It would also be wrong.Lesley Logan 8:24  It's wrong to assume. "Oh, there's a person of color, or a poor person, or a woman, or a queer person in a job. It's because DEI." No, every person who interviews for a job still has to get past the interview. They still have to get there. You know what I mean? It's so interesting to me how people think that something is happening at them. We all benefit when there's different people at.Brad Crowell 8:51  Oh the stats are in. I mean, the, the if you go look at any corporation that focuses on diversity in their company, they perform better as a company. There's not even any question.Lesley Logan 9:02  100% So I don't know. We obviously, I want to say about Polish Peter, but I just think it's really important. If you're listening, there's a good chance you're probably DEI too in some way, and if you have family members who are really like, they roll their eyes at those letters, I strongly encourage you to look up and see if they fall in under DEI and explain it to them because what sounds like is that they've been brainwashed that people are having a leg up on them, which is not true. And if they just recognized that they also fall under these things, there are systems for them. Like, this is the thing that frustrates me the most. There are systems for people,Brad Crowell 9:38  Yeah.Lesley Logan 9:39  Who think that the world is against them. There are these things. You have to look them up. It's really frustrating, but there are these things. I hear about different things that Vegas offers people in different socioeconomic backgrounds and homes. I didn't even know existed. I'm like, how are people hearing about this? But we do have. Brad Crowell 9:55  I mean, we're watching The Pit right now. Again, literally. Lesley's on the third time through. I'm on the second time through, and there's in season two. There is a unhoused guy who he needs a bath really bad, right? And he gets in to they they they clean him up and they start talking to him and everything. And the charge nurse, the head charge nurse, says, you know, you need to work the system. The system is there to support you. You have to learn how to work the system. Right? And and so it's shoot that wrong. Lesley Logan 10:25  We have some incredible people on our teaching team and and our team who've had things that are outside of their control, just terrible things that just have sidelined their dreams. And not only did they work the system, and yes, it requires you being on long phone call holds and doing the paperwork and and keeping the receipts, but their kids are benefiting from it and Brad Crowell 10:48  Yeah, big time. Lesley Logan 10:48  So do it. Brad Crowell 10:49  In a good way.Lesley Logan 10:50  Do it.Brad Crowell 10:51  Yeah.Lesley Logan 10:51  And also we are voting in the next less than 60 days. Please consider how you are voting and who supports people. Brad Crowell 10:59  Well, first off, make sure you vote.Lesley Logan 11:01  Make sure you vote.Brad Crowell 11:02  Yeah.Lesley Logan 11:02  You can vote for whoever you want, but also think about how that person feels about other people.Brad Crowell 11:08  Yeah.Lesley Logan 11:09  You know. Anyways, we got to get into it. Brad Crowell 11:11  We're going to talk about what's coming up here and what our travel is.Lesley Logan 11:14  The upLifter, upLift Teacher Training Program. We're actually onboarding our instructors this fall, so. Brad Crowell 11:20  Our educators. Lesley Logan 11:21  Our educators, for that this fall and upLift is for people who want to become a pilates instructor or people who have had partial trainings who would like to make it a comprehensive training so they can have a career and longevity in this career. So if you are interested in my upLift teacher training program and being able to do that in person with one of our educators, xxll.co/uws. No, we still don't have a link for all these things, but we'll get there probably next year. It's a 2027 goal. All right. eLevate. That is my mentorship program. So that's for those of you who are—if you're like, "Oh, I would love to learn from you, but I'm already trained teacher." That's eLevate. We have a few spots left, and you can actually watch. Brad Crowell 11:57  Well, we might be sold out by the time you hear this in September, but yeah, we'll see. At the very least, get on the wait list for future.Lesley Logan 12:03  Just go and check, and you never know. And we'll figure out a better way to announce this stuff. lesleylogan.co/elevate. But you should go learn about it and see if it's the right thing for you. Brad Crowell 12:12  I mean, honestly, the the the reality is this: that 2027 is already sold out. 2028 is almost sold out, right? So if this is something that you're considering, it's getting further out in the future. So now is the time to start thinking about it because, you know, we might already be talking about 2029. Lesley Logan 12:29  And I won't even let them pick dates, so we're not even talking. But anyways, I want you in if you want in. I want you in. It's not some elitist thing, by the way. It's just people always, "Oh, I can't believe I got accepted." It's, yeah, you meet the requirements and why you want to join is why I do the program, and so it's a kind of a first-come, first-serve. I'm not one of those hierarchical. Is that the right word?Brad Crowell 12:49  Yeah, you nailed it.Lesley Logan 12:49  Yeah, educators where you must have been teaching 30 years, and you must bow down to me and be in my cult. No, I, I really, if you want to learn from me and you meet the why we do what we do and what you need to have done, then it's a first-come, first-serve. So there is no someone had this training and that's why they're in over someone else. Nope, nope. Also, our flashcards. Did you know that if you want to support this podcast and you're not ready to be an OPC member, there's a way to support this podcast by buying our flashcards. And when you buy our flashcards, you don't just support us. You actually support the Nevada SPCA.Brad Crowell 13:21  Hey, love that.Lesley Logan 13:22  And they do fucking great work.Brad Crowell 13:24  Yes.Lesley Logan 13:24  Yeah. opc.me/flashcards.Brad Crowell 13:26  We were able to buy all of the dogs in the. Lesley Logan 13:30  Not just the dogs, Brad. We were able to pay for 114 shelter animals' food for one week.Brad Crowell 13:35  That's amazing.Lesley Logan 13:36  And at the time, they only had 61 shelter animals, so we probably paid for two weeks of. Brad Crowell 13:40  That's what I thought. It was two weeks. The way that it worked out was it's two weeks worth of meals for the the animals that they had, the future pets that they had, and we're really proud of that, y'all. Like this is not just Lesley and I saying this. This is your participation with Online Pilates Classes. We are so excited to be able to write that check, and we write it every quarter, and it's because of you.Lesley Logan 14:03  And also, we should be updating you on Q3 soon. So stay tuned. We'll see how many more animals we we fed, or how many we paid for the adoption fees for. Anyways, posters.Brad Crowell 14:14  Yeah, people have asked us where the posters are found. The OPC posters. Just go to opc.me/posters, and then real quick, we're gonna rip through this. Yeah, we'll be in Sacramento in October for Pilates On Tour. Lesley Logan 14:26  It's sold out.Brad Crowell 14:27  It is sold out, but we'll be there, and we'll be bringing the flashcards, by the way. And then Lesley and I literally leave our van, and we take the BART into San Francisco, and we are going to hop on a plane to go to Cambodia to host our annual retreat there, which is also.Lesley Logan 14:44  Well. It's been sold out for a long time, but you can get on. You're making it sound like no one can hang out with us.Brad Crowell 14:48  No.Lesley Logan 14:48  You can get on the wailist because we will not sell tickets to 2027 until January. There is space in 2027 hangouts. But you got to be on the waitlist for that.Brad Crowell 14:58  In November, Lesley is going to be at a Pilates summit in China.Lesley Logan 15:02  Yes. Brad Crowell 15:03  Just outside of Shanghai.Lesley Logan 15:04  Still have no link for you, but I heard that they're promoting it on the Chinese socials. Brad Crowell 15:09  Yes, it is up and out. We're we're working on that.Lesley Logan 15:11  Tell your friends in China. Yeah, hopefully I can come a lot.Brad Crowell 15:15  That'd be awesome.Lesley Logan 15:16  Yeah.Brad Crowell 15:16  In December, Lesley's going to India. She's going to be in Goa.Lesley Logan 15:19  There are spaces.Brad Crowell 15:20  And there are spaces at the Pilates On Tour there, the POT there. So go to xxll.co/pot Lesley Logan 15:27  And Goa, you guys, I said yes because when you look at Goa, you too will say yes. And the way they do Goa is so different. They treat it almost like you're going on a retreat. So your ticket covers the resort, the food, the whole thing.Brad Crowell 15:39  Oh, nice.Lesley Logan 15:40  Yeah.Brad Crowell 15:41  You have food there too. That's great.Lesley Logan 15:42  Well, of course they're gonna feed me. They always do, but everyone you fed.Brad Crowell 15:45  Not you, I meant the ticket attendees. Lesley Logan 15:46  Yeah, they get everything, and then it covers their their end of resort. We're all at a resort together.Brad Crowell 15:51  Very cool.Lesley Logan 15:52  It's gonna be like the White Lotus, but not no murders, no affairs.Brad Crowell 15:58  Awesome, and then Lesley literally flies from India straight to Denver, which you know that we're in Vegas. But I'm driving the van to Denver. She's gonna fly from India to Denver, and I'll pick her up, and we're gonna hit the road for our winter tour for OPC. Lesley Logan 16:14  Weird, wild, and crazy, and people think I'm 30 years old.Brad Crowell 16:16  Yeah, so come join us. Go to opc.me/events opc.me/events. Lesley Logan 16:21  And if you're like, oh, I'm gonna do next year's, just so you know, I've accepted nothing for 2027.Brad Crowell 16:28  For the winter tour?Lesley Logan 16:29  No, I mean for any of these POTs orBrad Crowell 16:32  Any of the events, yes. Lesley Logan 16:33  Or whatever. We haven't at this moment that we're recording. We have, I've accepted. Oh, I've accepted one thing, but I haven't had the contract on it yet, so. Brad Crowell 16:41  That's true. That's true. Oh, actually, before we leave, hold on, stick around, stick around. We are very excited to talk about the charity of the week. So this week's charity is we're going to be highlighting the Americans for Immigrant Justice. It's a Miami-based nonprofit law firm fighting for immigrant basic human rights for nearly 30 years. Since 1996, they provided free legal representation because, unlike criminal court, there's no guaranteed right to an attorney in immigration proceedings. I just want to say that again. We all know that the court provides us an attorney if we need one, right? We do, we do, we get that, yes. But if you are an immigrant, if you're going through immigration proceedings, that is not a guaranteed right, right? So what do you? First off, you might not even know anything about our legal system, and then what? You're supposed to represent yourself? That's crazy.Lesley Logan 17:34  Well, we have friends who, because of all this ICE shit, are being thrown into representing people because it's hitting the federal courts now, which is not normally how it goes, and they are having to learn immigration shit.Brad Crowell 17:44  Yeah, and so, yeah, so this organization offers literally free legal counsel. It's all in the Miami-Dade area, so South Florida, but it's—it's—it's amazing. They've provided attorneys to more than 175,000 people from over 160 countries. That's amazing. They're the only provider offering on-site legal help at Miami-Dade's domestic violence shelter. They do not just immigration, but they also do violence, like domestic violence. They've exposed abusive conditions inside detention centers in Florida and on the Texas border. And in 2025, they won a federal injunction blocking a Florida law that would have made it a felony for certain undocumented people to simply be in the state. Lesley Logan 18:23  Wow, this is really cool. And also, I'm sure if you don't live in Florida, I bet you they have friends and colleagues in different states.Brad Crowell 18:30  Yeah, they're four-star rated by Charity Navigator. Your donation actually goes to real on-the-ground work for people who have nowhere else to turn. And you can find out more at aijustice.org. AIjustice.org.Lesley Logan 18:43  I love that. It's really important. You know, there's a lot of ish happening right now, and it's, it's very scary, and it's all meant to just scare. It's all scare tactics, but also these are real people who are being locked up in places that it's not how it's normally done. They're actually, when people say, "Do it the right way," a lot of these people are. They actually went to their immigration appointment and they got picked up. It takes a long time. So, anyways, please take a look at how you can support people who have immigrated here in your areas. If this organization doesn't work, there's probably a lot of different ways you can support those in your community. Do that.Brad Crowell 19:17  Yeah, and if you have a recommendation for a charity that we should investigate and check out, send us a text 310-905-5534, or you can submit that to beitpod.com/questions. You can also leave us a win for the Friday episodes, and if you know, you know. Stick around. We'll be right back. All right, let's talk about Peter, known as Polish Peter and sometimes Polish Tony, for his Tony Robbins-esque style. He's a transformational coach, speaker, and author. Born in communist Poland, Peter landed in Detroit in 1991 at the age of 14 with no English and Big Dreams of the USA, shaped by Hollywood movies. He trained as an architect, but after the 2008 recession and a divorce, he found his way into coaching. Today, he helps people like—all the stories holding them back, and asks the tough, sobering questions that people need to hear, rather than what they want to hear. He does have a book. It's called The Authentic Self Rebirth, and we'll put the link in the show notes, so check it out below. Lesley Logan 20:13  But he's got such great energy. Brad Crowell 20:16  Yeah, my Authentic Birth. You can find it, and he has a book there. It's free right now, apparently, actually.Lesley Logan 20:21  No, you just pay for shipping handling.Brad Crowell 20:22  Yeah, awesome. So yeah, yeah, it was a great convo.Lesley Logan 20:25  I agree. I don't. I think I don't even remember. Remember when the 747s were falling out of the sky, like they were having issues.Brad Crowell 20:34  Yeah, sure. Like two years ago.Lesley Logan 20:35  No, more like before COVID. But there was that. Was it really? Yeah, maybe they weren't 747s. Maybe they were—remember the Boeing? There were Boeings, and there was two that the pilots were trying to do something, and the computer was doing the opposite thing. Yeah, and then you were on a plane to New Orleans, and I had to get on a plane to Poland, and it was one of these Boeing numbers, and I started having a panic attack, and you weren't answering your phone because you were on a plane,Brad Crowell 21:00  I think it was 2023, babe.Lesley Logan 21:02  No, definitely not. It was before COVID. We lived in LA, and so I'm texting you, "I think I'm gonna die now. I'm going." Brad Crowell 21:10  Oh yes, I do remember this.Lesley Logan 21:11  And I love you so much. Here's where I come down. Brad Crowell 21:15  This was your first trip to Poland.Lesley Logan 21:17  My first trip to Poland, and they made me check my bag, which you know how much I hate because I said it was too heavy, and so of course I found some tequila and some kombucha, and I made myself a margarita at the airport. And I'm walking around drinking my margarita that I made, and I get myself on this plane. I was like, okay, if the plane takes off and nothing happens in 20 minutes, I think we're okay. So I set a timer, and I'm just sitting there with my timer. What? Nothing happened.Brad Crowell 21:43  What? No idea what you said.Lesley Logan 21:44  Well, I was just like watching my timer. I was just watching the timer. I was watching 20 minutes tick down, right? Because I was like, "This is—this is when it's going to happen. It's going to happen the next 20 minutes." And this woman next to me, when there was no one in the middle seat, she was, "I'm scared to fly too," and I was like, "Oh yeah, normally no, but this is one of those planes that goes down, so I'm just scared to be on this one." And she started talking about being living in communist Poland.Brad Crowell 22:06  She did?Lesley Logan 22:07  Yeah. And she told me it was so wonderful because she talked nonstop. Even my timer went off. She just kept talking, and she told me her whole life trying to escape communist Poland and how her family got to the U.S. and because in communist Poland you couldn't have access to your passport, so you had to have different reasons to get access to it. And then they watched you heavily when you had access to your passport. And she and her family were able to escape Poland and come to the United States.Brad Crowell 22:37  That's amazing.Lesley Logan 22:37  Yes, and it was a beautiful story. It was, and then she's like, "And I'm going back to see family." I'm like, so. Brad Crowell 22:43  Why would you do that? Okay. Lesley Logan 22:44  But it's not communist. Anyways. But it was. I just, anyways, I thought of her when I thought of that story and thought of her when with Peter because how difficult for his family to come here and then to be a child. Now he's in Detroit. How many Polish people are in Detroit. He's in Detroit. He doesn't know English, and English is. You think Polish is hard? English is hard. So, anyways, he operates, and this is probably why, is because he operates under the belief that life happens for me, not to me. And I know we've all heard that before, but you really do have to think about that in a way that's, that helps you because shit happens, and if you really can think about it, he, you know, in 2008 he lost all the things and his partner and all this stuff, and if he can think about this is happening for me and see the opportunities that are there to grow and to become a different person and to have a different life, so he definitely had some really good explanations. He said, imagine banging your head against the drywall, like something's going to give.Brad Crowell 23:42  Something will give.Lesley Logan 23:43  It will, and if you live at a flipped house, it will definitely give. But it's not good. You don't want to do that. He does—he said you should figure out what the root cause of the issue was going on. Like, really going back in time, and I think a lot of us stick to the surface level. This happened, so this is the thing. But there's often a first domino that starts the effect. So he also, I really like when he talked about the different patterns that signal a wrong direction, and we have to pivot. And my God, I know we all hate that word. It's still like a trigger word for us. But there's nothing wrong with a good pivot. I don't know. I'm a pivot queen.Brad Crowell 24:19  I think it's a great skill to have. I mean, it's also an important time to step back and reevaluate.Lesley Logan 24:27  Well, I was just talking with some eLevate people this week about how sometimes they get so super focused on this one thing in a person doing an exercise, and I love how you are a dog with a bone on that. But you got to zoom out because if you don't zoom out, you're actually missing that these three things are happening, which is probably why the thing you're zoomed in is happening there. And if you don't zoom out, then you're actually going to be going in the wrong direction. Where if you zoomed out and made a pivot, it doesn't mean you're a bad teacher. It actually means you're, you're going, "Whoa, hold on! I have more information, and now I can take us in the right direction." No, that's what.Brad Crowell 25:06  Well, I really loved what he was talking about. How do we know that we're being authentic? Because that's just be yourself. Just be authentic.Lesley Logan 25:13  I love this because everyone talks about being authentic. It's so annoying, but I love the word. Yeah, how do you know if you are?Brad Crowell 25:18  He said when you are true to yourself, he said, "You'll know when you're true to yourself if it feels like nothing is missing," right? If something is missing, if something feels like it's missing, then you're probably not being true to yourself, right? You're not being your authentic self. He also said that if you're living from stories of what the world told you to be, not how you need to be, right? So it's, this goes back to all the, you know, parallel here is like magazines or society telling you what this is how you should do it, and it's not necessarily the right path for you, right? For me, yeah, I agree. Yeah, you know, so I think it's amazing when you are pressured by something outside of you. That could be your parents. That could be your school. That could be your church. That could be whatever it might be. Your job. There's tension. There's obviously tension there. Sometimes the pressure is good. They're helping you with your path, but you know if the pressure is not good, right? It makes me think of my job that I had before I finally quit. Yeah, I mean, look, my parents pushed me to be a better student. You know, that's a good thing. My job pushed me to do things that could I do those things? Yes. Should I do those things? Probably shouldn't have done those things. You know, there was so much turmoil and tension in doing those things, but I was, I felt stuck. Felt super, super stuck. I need to get paid. I need to, you know, that's what's keeping me here. Is the only thing that's keeping me here is the paycheck, right? And I, it became very clear over time. I can't keep operating this way. I cannot keep doing the things I'm doing, you know, because I am not being authentic to myself. I don't believe in the things that I'm doing. I don't, I don't want to be doing the things that I'm doing, but I'm still doing them for some reason, right? And so, you know, I think that there's that internal frustration that you have, and that is a huge indicator that you're not being your authentic self.Lesley Logan 27:21  Yeah, I think I look back at my job I had in retail, which I do love and I'm really grateful for. But I kept taking promotions, expecting like the next thing to be better, the next thing to be better, and then I'm like, I gotta move cities, and that's gonna make it better. And then it's—you keep saying, "And then once this happens, then it'll be better." And it's actually no, if that keeps happening, there's something missing, and so you're not fully being authentic. And you got to take some time to think about that means and go get to know yourself. You know, go watch Runaway Bride and see how long it took her to figure out what she liked. You know, it takes time.Brad Crowell 27:52  Yeah, I mean, you know, I think the idea of getting to know yourself will help you create clarity when you have that tension. It's really hard, you know, to step aside and reevaluate things. It often comes with major life change, you know. For him, he was talking about how getting divorced was a reality check, and it made him do a lot of self-inflection.Lesley Logan 28:20  Self-inflection, reflection?Brad Crowell 28:22  Inflection.Lesley Logan 28:24  Self-inflection.Brad Crowell 28:25  Yeah, right? Lesley Logan 28:26  I don't think that's right. I don't want to correct you, but I don't think that's right. Self-inflection?Brad Crowell 28:32  Maybe it's self-reflection.Lesley Logan 28:33  It's reflection. Brad Crowell 28:34  What is inflection? What does that even mean?Lesley Logan 28:36  Well, this is when I'm in—I'm inflecting my voice. Like, I'm doing inflection. I'm inflecting this way. I am doing it like this. Like, inflection is like what you do with sounds.Brad Crowell 28:47  Well, we're gonna inflect in just a minute. So stick around. We'll be right back when we we inflect on those Be It Action Items.Lesley Logan 28:53  Oh my god, you guys! It's a Friday night.Brad Crowell 28:55  It's definitely Thursday.Lesley Logan 29:00  Leave it in. Just leave it in. Brad Crowell 29:03  We'll be right back. Brad Crowell 29:07  All right, welcome back. Let's talk about those be it action items. What bold, executable, intrinsic, or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Polish Peter? He identifies as a recovering people pleaser. He said that if you say yes to everything and everyone except the things that are most important to you, what ends up happening most of the time is the people who are closest to you get hurt the most. I'm going to say that again. If you say yes to everyone else, everyone except for the things that are important to you, the people that are closest to you get hurt the most. That was really interesting to think about. He also pointed out the people who are always told to write business plans, but nobody ever tells you to write a vision for your own personal life. I thought that was also really intriguing. So, but the thing, but let me get back to the thing about the people get hurt the most are the people closest to you. Think about this. This is—this is actually one of the things we talk about with OPC. You gotta put yourself first so that you can be the better you for your family, friends, coworkers, job, whatever it might be. For yourself, you have to put yourself first.Lesley Logan 30:20  I agree. Also, I was just watching a shitty reality TV show, and these people were with terrible people, and they're, you can watch the people-pleasers trying to make it work, and some of it was manipulation and coercion, but they're trying to people-please their way out of the situation, andBrad Crowell 30:35  It was some inflection.Lesley Logan 30:36  Yeah. And other person feel really good, but guess who got hurt? Their friends, their family, the people they cared about, because those people could see this partner is not good for them, and they could see what this person was doing, jumping through hoops to make this partner good for them. And it's, they ended up losing friends and losing connection with family members. And so you ought to be mindful. Yeah, I agree. Your OPC example was perfect. Brad Crowell 31:00  Yeah. Moving on to the business plan for your life, like writing a vision for your life. He said to stop being a people pleaser. He wrote out his own vision for his own life, and he blocked out personal priorities in his calendar to ensure those spots were not taken up by others or other commitments when he was usually saying yes. And he said the payoff was when people would ask for his time. He would say, "Hey, let me get back to you on that," and then he would go sit down and he would think, "Does this align with my vision? Is this going to help me with my vision, or is it going to take me further away from my vision?" Right?Lesley Logan 31:36  I have a filter.Brad Crowell 31:37  But also that sounds super selfish. Does this align with my vision? Is it going to help me with my vision, or is it going to take me further away?Lesley Logan 31:45  I think this selfish needs a rebrand.Brad Crowell 31:48  Right. So self-care isn't selfish. We talked about that a whole lot back in the day, but the idea here is, yeah, it might sound selfish, but because he had not put himself first in the past, his entire life fell apart. So on round two, he was major change needs to happen. I'm going to run all of these things through this filter of how aligned is this thing with what I need for me. In addition to, I'm sure there's ways in there he can do both, but there are certainly things in there that will not serve him at all. And he's, "Hold on a minute. I don't know if I can do this anymore." So good for him. That's a really powerful thing to learn. And now he's helping people with it.Lesley Logan 32:33  Yeah. I also definitely understand feeling bad when I say no to things that don't align with what I want to do. It's not about—I don't feel bad, right? While this is going on, we were asked to be somewhere for an event, and we're available, but it's the only month to be fucking home, the rest of the year, it's it, and so I said we can't make it because it's the only month not on plane, and I'm really excited for you, and so of course I feel some FOMO. I feel, "Oh my God, are we letting people down?" And also, I can't do it. I will not be present enough for October events, November events, December events. I can't do it. So it's actually not selfish because going back to the people pleasing thing, if I had said yes, then the people coming to our events the rest of the year are going to get an exhausted version of me, so I had to say no, and it's not selfish; it's self-preservation.Brad Crowell 33:29  Right.Lesley Logan 33:30  Yeah. Anyways, I like that he said literally every day be with yourself. I do this all the time, so I couldn't agree more. I actually get really annoyed when I can't be with myself for four plus hours. I think it's really important. Find ways to be with yourself. Some people want to be with themselves in movement. Some people want to be themselves meditation, whatever. But you got to be with yourself without the podcast in the ear. I know this podcast, but so as much as I want you to keep listening, find 15 other minutes to be with yourself. But be with yourself. He suggested being in front of a camera or a mirror and just be with yourself and just be quiet. I think that's cool, especially if you don't do things with the camera. I'm in front of a camera all fucking day. I don't want to see my face anymore, so most of my time with myself is not seeing my face. I really appreciate that, but then it's really hilarious because I'll be with myself for four hours, and I'll put a camera. I'm like, "Wow, I walk the dogs like this." But anyways, I couldn't agree more because I think it's really important that you you just take time to be with you without any extra input. So I love that. I'm Lesley LoganBrad Crowell 34:35  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 34:36  We're so happy you're here. Thanks for being here. This is episode 734. That's insane! Insane! Insane to me. But thanks for listening, and thanks for sharing this with friends. It's so fun to hear new listeners who are downloading the podcast and their takeaways, and share Polish Peter's episode with a friend who needs to hear it. 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Peter Kolat spent years saying yes to everyone and quietly losing himself in the process. A transformational coach and author, he tells Lesley Logan how a divorce and what he calls his optimistic depression became the turning point that rebuilt his life. Peter breaks down how to catch people-pleasing in the act, write a one-page vision that protects your priorities, and get honest about who you actually need to become. This one is for anyone tired of performing and ready to just be themselves.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:The belief that life happens for you rather than against you.Reading the difference between a fear-driven stop and a real pivot.The hidden cost people-pleasing carries into your closest relationships.Writing a one-page life vision that protects your real priorities.Asking the sobering question that reveals who you must become next.Episode References/Links:Peter Kolat's Website - https://polishpeter.com/Authentic Self Rebirth Free Ebook - https://myauthenticrebirth.comPeter Kolat's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/authenticselfrebirthPeter Kolat's Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/peterkolatPeter Kolat's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@HiddenMasteryMindshiftsPeter Kolat's LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/peterkolatPeter Kolat's X - https://x.com/peterkolatSubmit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsGuest Bio:Peter Kolat is a transformational coach, speaker, and author who helps people uncover the quiet beliefs holding them back and rebuild on more honest ground. Known as "Polish Peter," he arrived in the U.S. from Poland at 14 with no English, trained as an architect, and later moved into coaching after a personal and financial turning point reshaped his path. Today he's recognized for a direct, no-nonsense style and a talent for naming the limiting beliefs people can't see in themselves. A Robbins-Madanes certified coach, Peter has spoken at more than 100 live events and authored The Authentic Self Rebirth. He co-hosts The Lifeonaire Show and leads a national coaching company. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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You say yes to everything and everyone except for the things that are most important to you. I know deep down inside. You do know deep down inside. I know I should not be saying yes, but I'm saying yes, right? And what ends up happening most of the time? The people who are closest to you get hurt the most.Lesley Logan 0:19  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. Lesley Logan 1:02  You guys, I'm excited for this conversation. It's really fun. We got to talk a lot of things. We got to talk about rock bottoms, divorce, finding a partner, authenticity, true authenticity, people pleasing. My people pleasers, you know, hear this podcast. It's so good. So Polish Peter is our guest today. He is an author of a book you're gonna want to read, especially if you are, ah, I know I need to be authentic, but authenticity been ruined. We just have a really great conversation around that, and I think this is really going to help those who are feeling a little stuck. Those need a reminder to keep going. Those of you who've just kind of lost the way or have been, why is this happening to me? All great stuff in this episode. So here is Polish Peter. All right, be babe. I'm really excited. This is gonna be a fun conversation. I already know because I've already talked to this person before, and we're just gonna get into it. Polish Peter, who are you? What do you rock at? Well, are you Polish Peter? Is that your formal name? Should we give a last name, or we just go by Polish Peter? Polish Peter Kolat 1:55  No, there is a last name. It's called Kolat, Peter Kolat. But what ended up happening over the years in my industry, I've been now coaching people and things like that, I've been referred to as Polish Tony, like in regards to Tony Robbins, and then the kind of Polish Peter kind of stuck with me. So that's how it just happened like that.Lesley Logan 2:11  I love it. You know, that's how nicknames come about. I used to always go by my last name, and then people just called me LL, and I was going do I want to be LL, and actually, I do. It's like a whole alter ego. I step into a different power. It's super fun. So you're an inspiration. How did we get here? How did that happen? Did you always be someone who was inspiring, like a Tony Robbins, or was there a journey that got you there?Polish Peter Kolat 2:34  No, I drank some Kool-Aid. No, I think it was. I mean, I think my whole life. I think there was something that I thought I was something bigger than I was meant for something bigger. I don't know. There was some kind of innate kind of a feeling that I wasn't meant to work for someone else. It was always something that I needed to know, do my own path, kind of a thing. So I think there was always something like that. And the more I started, especially after 2011, I went more into this, because people kept telling me, "Listen, I think you should be a coach. I think you should be the person who's speaking to people because of who you are, your story. I think would benefit a lot of people." And when you start looking from that perspective, you start to, okay, let's do it. Let's try it on. See how it happens.Lesley Logan 3:20  Yeah, I think we're all meant to step into something bigger than ourselves, and some of us follow that calling, and some of us get stuck. So, do you feel like you did something uniquely different that you didn't get stuck like other people? Was it scary to try to do something bigger than you? What was the journey there?Polish Peter Kolat 3:38  Yeah, I mean that's a really good question. I think that is true. People do get sometimes stuck, and I think for me it was. Think about it this way: every single person in the world has some kind of a story, right? And I don't think these stories are meant to just die. I think the stories are meant to you help other people on their journey because my circumstances might be completely different, but maybe sharing my story with you maybe will help you give you some kind of different impact that you are going to make different choices in life or inspire you or whatever might be. So I think we're all called to do that. Now I think it kept me going is couple of beliefs that I have. One, I have a belief that life happens for me, not to me. So if life happens for me, not to me, then there must be something behind that. You know what I mean, that drives me. The other thing I have this belief that, and sometimes that helped me, sometimes it didn't really help me, is that I don't quit. I don't quit very easily. And what ended up happening, I when I sometimes talk to my students, and this is not the best of analogies, but at some point I came up with, and I just keep using it. Imagine if you're standing in front of a drywall and you're banging against the wall, something is going to give. Either you're going to stop banging your head against the wall, or the drywall is going to break through.Lesley Logan 4:52  Yeah. Polish Peter Kolat 4:53  And when you start looking, not giving up, maybe sometimes you need to pivot a little bit. But if you don't give up in life, I think you will be able to accomplish a lot more and drive you more towards what you've meant to be here on this earth for. You know what I mean? That you go into your calling, sort of speak.Lesley Logan 5:10  Yeah, like you just got to keep going. And I do think some people get to a wall and they go, "Oh, this is a sign that I'm not meant to do this." That's what I hear people. "Oh, well, there was that door closed and that door closed. This must not be meant for me, or it's leading you down a hallway. That door, you know what I mean." But so, how do you know if you're supposed to keep going or if you have hit the wall and you're going to break? What's the signs that you look for to keep going?Polish Peter Kolat 5:39  That's a really good question. That's one of those things that we all trying to figure it out, right? Lesley Logan 5:44  I was hoping you had the answer. Polish Peter Kolat 5:45  Well, I had the answer, right? I mean, let's bring somebody else in the podcast. Maybe somebody else will know. No, but I think what I've discovered up to this point is this: people, when they stop, why am I stopping? Am I stopping because there is a fear that's driving that decision, right, and worry or whatever might be. If it's some kind of a negative emotion, negative decision, negative something, I think I think that's us just stopping, not because we're not meant to go through that door, and also there might be people around you or things that are happening around you that gives you this pattern that says you're going down the wrong direction. Right? And what ends up happening is the pattern around you says keep going, and you feel like, oh, I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I am ready for this. And all of a sudden you get a call that you want to be speak in front of 10,000 people, and you've spoke in front of 500 at most ever, and this is collectively speaking, you're like, ah, how am I going to do this?Lesley Logan 6:51  Yeah. Polish Peter Kolat 6:52  But, you know, maybe this is an opportunity that you've been kind of working towards. So it requires some faith, requires courage, right? So if I think it requires the courage, requires this little bit of a faith. I think that tells you that you're going down the right direction.Lesley Logan 7:08  Yeah, yeah. I've had some people go, "I want to speak on these big stages," and but they won't say yes to a stage of 10 people. And it's, well, if you've never spoken in front of 10, it's hard to speak in front of 100. Recently I actually taught a class for over 300 people, and there was some people like, "Oh my god, I want to do that." And you get, yeah, guess what? I had to teach to five people first, and then at some point that got to be 20 people, and then at some point the number was 50, and then this earlier this year, the biggest number of people in one class was 85, and if I hadn't taught the 85, I couldn't have taught 300. I wouldn't know what to do with 300 people. You have to build the muscle up, and I agree. Like there's that. Okay, we have to take a journey back though, because you have a story. So, before you became an optimism, helping coach, inspiring people to find their way. What got you here?Polish Peter Kolat 7:55  Well, so I was born in Poland during the communist. Poland was communism at that particular point. Then in '89 got abolished. I came here to United States when I was 14 at '91. Not because I wanted to, it's because my mom was already here, and this was a land of opportunity. Money grows on trees here. By the way, I kid you not, Lesley. I actually, as a kid growing up, I had to believe that there was money trees in here. Imagine my disappointment when I came here. Oh, here's the other thing. One, there is no money trees. There was a different conversation about that. But when I was flying over here to United States at 14 years old on a plane, they played two movies. The first movie was by Eddie Murphy.Lesley Logan 8:37  Coming to America? Polish Peter Kolat 8:38  Guess what? Coming to America. Probably complete coincidence, right? Had to be complete coincidence.Lesley Logan 8:45  Yeah. Polish Peter Kolat 8:45  And the second one was Eddie Murphy movie as well, and that was Beverly Hills Cop when he was in L.A. Okay?Lesley Logan 8:53  Oh my God. Polish Peter Kolat 8:54  So I am resisting coming here, but I'm looking at this movie and I'm, you know what? This might not be so bad. You got palm trees, which, I love palm trees. You got beautiful skies, skyscrapers, sports cars. Right? Lesley Logan 9:08  Where did you end up? Did you end up in Ohio? Did you get to L.A.?Polish Peter Kolat 9:12  Well, I ended up in Detroit.Lesley Logan 9:15  I don't think there's a palm tree in Detroit. Polish Peter Kolat 9:17  No, there isn't. So imagine my disappointment, right?Lesley Logan 9:20  Yeah. Also, in Detroit when they were going down, because I feel like that's about when yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 9:25  '91. There was the you know Kilpatrick thing later on and all that kind of stuff, right? So there was the whole discussion, and then you know I went to high school, was learning English because I don't know any English, you know. In fact, I remember thinking to myself, wait a minute, am I Polish or am I polish, right? Because the word looks exactly the same, right? I mean, talk about confusing. I mean, you know, language.Lesley Logan 9:46  Yes.Polish Peter Kolat 9:47  So got the you know graduate of high school, went to college, got a degree in architecture, which was inspired by my uncle because he built his entire house. Did you know that? And I'm sharing my story. I'm revealing a lot of the belief system right that was driving this thing, my uncle, and so I'm going to architecture. Graduated high school architecture when actually became an architect here in Michigan. I was developing a lot of buildings while I was doing this. Ended up finding my wife, got three kids. After that, we started you know one kid, second kid, third kid, you know. And I in about 2007, I don't know if you remember what happened in 2008, but I saw the writing on the wall here, especially in Michigan, because we got the big three, and I started my own company on the side, and it was a marketing company to be able to help real estate investors and people in real estate, you know, market themselves. So I kind of started seeing the writing on the wall. I went to in about maybe 2009 full time into that, and I started growing this business. Then in 2010, my wife came to me and she said she wants a divorce because guess what? Peter got lost in the entire business. By the way, one of the beliefs that draw of that was the people pleaser. So gotta make sure everybody's happy, right? So there was that conversation, and so after that, for about two years, I went into what I called my optimistic depression. And when I say that, some people get confused. What does that mean? But if you are an optimistic kind of a person, I think you can understand what optimistic depression is, right?Lesley Logan 11:17  Yeah, you're like you're constantly thinking there's going to be hope on the other side, but you're depressed on the inside too.Polish Peter Kolat 11:22  Well, yes, that and on the inside, I remember asking myself that question: What the hell is wrong with me? Right? Because how is it that my whole world basically like crashed for me? Yeah, kind of thing. You know what I mean? What the hell's wrong with me? And when people come to me, you okay? Everything good? Talk to me. Right? Guess what my answer was. I'm good. I'm good. I'm great. Yeah, yeah, great. Right, and people could see it. So that's the optimistic depression. So during that particular time, I actually went through what I call my awakening, and I've learned a lot about myself. And because of that, that's when I went into a mastermind. That a friend of mine, he's my best friend Jason brought me into this company, (inaudible). Was in the mastermind group, and as I started learning all about myself, that's when people started saying, "Listen, you should be a coach because you have this way of speaking to people and asking the questions. Sort of like they call me Frank because I'll be can be frank with you. I'll be the person who would ask and people what sometimes they need to hear, and that's not what they want to hear. You know what I mean? So that's why it prompted that, and and that's when the kind of a journey started. And here I am today.Lesley Logan 12:31  Oh my goodness! Oh, what a journey! That was a difficult time for a lot of people. That 2007, 2008, but also like a lot of great things were born from there. And so it's interesting. Thank you for sharing that. And I just want to go back to the people pleaser part, and then we'll go back to optimistic depression. So we don't want to miss that one. But you mentioned it, and I want to highlight people who are people pleasers. Think, oh, I'm trying to make everybody happy, but in doing that, you make zero people happy, including yourself. And so, can we talk about what should we? What are the signs you're a people pleaser, and how do you stop? Did you stop? Are you still one?Polish Peter Kolat 13:01  Yeah. Well, hi. My name is Polish Peter. I'm a recovering people pleaser, right? So, I love your laugh, by the way. I think it's awesome.Lesley Logan 13:11  Thanks. Polish Peter Kolat 13:12  So here's the thing: sign. You say yes to everything and everyone except for the things that are most important to you. And you know, deep down inside, you do know deep down inside. I know I should not be saying yes, but I'm saying yes, right? And what ends up happening most of the time? The people who are closest to you get hurt the most, you know, especially you. How do I, you know, deal with that? Well, when I first started this entire process, one of the things I did. I wrote a vision for my life. What I want my life to look like.Lesley Logan 13:43  Okay.Polish Peter Kolat 13:44  Right. Because nobody ever tells you to write a vision for your life. They tell you to have a business vision and business plan.Lesley Logan 13:49  Yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 13:49  But nobody tells you to have a vision for your life. So I wrote it out. What does that vision look like? On one piece of paper, in present tense. And then I created a calendar that I started putting pieces from that vision to my calendar, so I started putting things in my calendar to make sure that these spots are not taken up. So, for instance, morning routine that I have in the morning, that's in the calendar. Then I put down 3:30 in the afternoon. I had the gym that I wanted to go hit the gym. Then at 6 o'clock, eat dinner. I actually put that in my calendar. People pleaser, we don't do that. I actually put in my calendar. Then between 10 a.m. and 2:30, 3 o'clock, those are my work hours because what ended up happening after my divorce, I want to make sure that I want to pick up and drop on my kids at school. So you know the drop-offs and pick-ups started like you know 9 a.m. and then I started going and seeing, you know, picking up the kids from school about 2:30, so that was a hard kind of a bounce, right? Hard deadline. And the way I was able to say no to people from that point on is because I knew myself that was going to have a hard time saying no. I would say when someone would ask me, "Hey, can you do this for me?" And I would say, "Well, let me get back to you." I think that's okay for people to say it.Lesley Logan 15:05  Yeah. Polish Peter Kolat 15:05  And then I would go, and I would say, hmm, look at my vision. I go, does this align with my vision? Is this going to help me with my vision, or is going to take me further away from my vision? And majority of the time, it would be a no, would be take me away from it. But I would go back and I would say, listen, I would love to do this for you and with you or whatever because I do. That's the people pleaser.Lesley Logan 15:28  Yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 15:28  However, my vision doesn't allow me to do that.Lesley Logan 15:31  Yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 15:32  But guess what I did? I blamed it on my vision. I'm no longer the bad guy. The vision is. You know me. And then we had the discussion. But that's how I was able to go and eliminate the whole people pleaser thing.Lesley Logan 15:42  I, okay. First of all, everyone who needs to literally write down in your notes, let me get back to you. Thanks for this. Let me get back to you so you can copy and paste it. So it's just you don't even have to think about it because you're gonna think about it and you're gonna overthink it and you're gonna rewrite it 17 times and you're gonna say yes to the thing because that was faster. So love that. And then I do love the blaming. It's not alignment with what's going on right now. I have, you know, every day someone's pestering me for something, and I have just been, oh, this, that's not gonna, I can't add one more thing to the calendar right now. But I love that you thought about me. Thank you so much. And it kills me because it's like, oh my god, I should, I should be doing more of that. I should be doing all the shoulds, right? But I, Polish Peter, you and I are very similar. I definitely think that you have to know who you want to be, where you want to go, and it has to be in your calendar. Absolutely, must be in your calendar because if it's not in your calendar. It does not get done. But of course, you have to put dinner on in your calendar because if it's if you're someone who's I fuel myself, I take care of myself. It's got to be in the calendar, otherwise you won't. Because hello, I'm ADHD, and I just realize why am I so hungry? Oh, I forgot breakfast. I didn't. I didn't look at my calendar this morning. I really appreciate that. You know, there's a course like the master class and the what's her name? Who, The Devil Wears Prada is based on? She has a course and she says she always thanks people for the work that they did, and then she will just say we're moving into a different direction right now. Thank you so much for that. We're moving, so you don't have to explain anything anyway. You tell the people the new direction. You don't have to overexplain yourself. It's just not in alignment with what is happening in this moment. So thanks so much. Okay, so now let's go back to the optimistic depression because how did you get out of just the habit of saying you're good, everything's great, I'm great. How did you get to be someone who who isn't fake because to me that's faking it right. That's not a Be It Till You See It thing. That's a faking. I'm faking being happy because I'm supposed to be happy. So how did you step out of that habit?Polish Peter Kolat 17:33  Well, one I had to recognize that I can't hide it. It's impossible to hide it. People can see it because they were coming up to me, so guess what? The people pleaser in me didn't like that, right? Because guess what happens that they can see it. You know what I mean? So that's one. And two, during the whole awakening process, I started looking from all the different beliefs that I've had. Like I said to myself, like what the hell is wrong with me? So my brain went into the conversation. Well, here is the reason what's wrong with you because you got to be very careful the types of questions that you ask yourself because brain is going to give you the answer. Right?Polish Peter Kolat 18:10  What kind of answer is it going to give you? Well, the one that satisfied that question and it's going to go back to your past and your circumstances and all those kinds of things going to tell you the answer. So as I started looking from that perspective, I started discovering different beliefs that I formed over my course of the life, and then I ask myself, does this help me to get where I want or is it actually hindering me because are these beliefs from the place of fear, worry, or they're actually from the place of abundance I want to live? So then I discover most of them were not, you know, like the people pleaser. I think it's there is a fear-based kind of a way of living, people pleaser, because for me, one of the big things that I discovered that I wanted to feel important, like I matter, like I'm, you know, someone acknowledging me, those kinds of things. So people pleaser with me will say yes to everybody because I wanted to be the guy, right? At the end, it actually costing me a lot. I started discovering that what's costing me, and then I started basically creating a new belief system. You know, getting back to that authenticity, because if I look from that perspective, think about it: when we were four or five years old, were we fearful? Probably not. Were we curious? Heck yeah, we were. Kids are very curious. They're happy. They're in the moment, right?Lesley Logan 19:26  Yeah. Polish Peter Kolat 19:27  They are just full of you know whatever. So what if I just started doing that? You know, I mean, what if I just got back to that basics of it?Lesley Logan 19:35  Yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 19:36  And I was beginning to be more present, more intentional in life, and I think that's what helped me get out of this thing. Because what ends up happening? Think about people who are depressed. A lot of times, they are never in the present moment. They're in the in the past or in the future.Lesley Logan 19:50  Yeah, yeah. Polish Peter Kolat 19:52  So hope that makes sense. Lesley Logan 19:53  It does. It really does. It's, you know, like they say, if you live in the past, you're going to be depressed. If you live in the future, you're going to be anxious. It's really hard to be in the present. It can be hard to unravel those habits of not just people pleasing, but also trying to hold everything together when you know you don't want people to know that it's not all there. So I really appreciate you sharing that because I think it's really helpful. You know, you're obviously in a different place now, and I would love to hear your Be It Till You See It for attracting the partner you have now because it's not easy to go through a divorce and change like that. Like, do you want to dive into that? Because I read your notes and I thought, oh my god, this is so funny! I hit a rock bottom in 2013 and single and no car and no place to live and blah blah blah. And so I was like, okay, if I want to have a great partner in my life, I have to make space for them. And I had to, and I was, I had to work extra because I had no, I had to buy a new car and get a place to live in L.A.. And so I was like, how am I going to add a partner in this life if there's no life in this life? Like there's not space. So what I did was every morning I poured two cups of coffee. I poured one for me and one for the future Brad. I was like, I'm gonna be with someone who drinks coffee, and I'm making coffee in the morning. That's what I'm gonna do. And then I protected Thursday nights. I'm like, okay, Thursday nights I will say yes to nothing except for a potential date. And if on the day of I don't have a date, then I'm gonna do something for myself. But I'm protecting this for the person I want to be with, so that I can actually go on a date to meet someone. So, what about you? How did you? How did you become someone who could have someone in your life?Polish Peter Kolat 21:29  Yeah, I love that. By the way, the little things that you did. By the way, did you drink that second cup of coffee? Lesley Logan 21:34  Yes, I did. I became like I had. I'm a two-coffee girl. Polish Peter Kolat 21:37  All right, so you were like ready to go, right? Lesley Logan 21:40  Yes, yes. My day started early, so I just put one in a to-go container and one with me, and I definitely needed that. Polish Peter Kolat 21:47  All right, very cool. So listen. So the way I've approached this, is this, I wrote a vision for that future wife, you know, and I wrote a vision from the perspective of who do I want that person to be like. What are some of the maybe the musts, right? Like for instance, I have three kids, so she has to like my kids. My kids have to like her, right? I'm Christian, right? So she's hopefully going to be Christian. I want her to be Christian too, right? And so many different things, right? And there was must, shoulds, should nots, can't, right? All those different things, and then based on these qualities that I wrote on that piece of paper, big page. I mean, it was I don't know, maybe 30, 40 items on there. It was a huge, you know, and because I had this very elaborate kind of vision. And by the way, one that guy Jason Wojo, he actually encouraged me to do this, and I resisted it for a very long time. And then he finally found the wife. I'm like, well, maybe there's something to that, you know. So I finally wrote it and found this girl in January of 2016, and we started dating, and she was meeting these kind of qualities. What had me be able to go and find this girl? Because at the end of this vision that I wrote, I had to ask myself a very sovereign question, and that is this: Who do I need to become in order for that woman to actually show up in my life?Lesley Logan 23:07  Right.Polish Peter Kolat 23:07  Because if I'm a deadbeat and I don't want a deadbeat, then guess what? She's probably not going to look for a deadbeat. So who do I need to become in order for that woman to show up in my life?Lesley Logan 23:17  Yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 23:17  So that's the things that I started putting into my life to create this, you know, for instance, one of the things I used to do as a people pleaser is this best foot forward kind of a thing, right? When we go meet someone, yeah, I would show up differently, like I'm all put together or whatever might be. What I've discovered is that actually doesn't work very well for me, so I just like let's be authentic, right?Lesley Logan 23:42  Yes.Polish Peter Kolat 23:43  People say you have to wait two days to call the girl after you see her. Well, we went on a date, right? I texted her the next morning and say how was everything. You know what I mean? So you start breaking the rules of what the society says how it needs to be. Because if it's the right person, guess what? She's not gonna care either, right? And that's what basically started it all. And here's the thing, crazy thing, Lesley. But the first girl in January dating her, she didn't align because she was not emotionally available for me. Guess was not in that vision emotionally available.Lesley Logan 24:18  Oh.Polish Peter Kolat 24:18  So then we went our separate ways, found another girl in what was like March, April of that year. In June 1st, we started dating, and we started dating. And I know that she's very political, you know. And I'm like, man, she talks about politics a lot. And I'm well, if her political views or my political views are sort of similar, and I go in my vision. Guess what's not under the political views. So I added that in there. But I'm like looking probably category of a should, right? So we kept dating, and today we're married. So it's, you know what I mean, it's when you look from the perspective.Lesley Logan 24:56  I love this story because I think I went to a college where all the girls wrote the list of what they want in someone, and I was just, okay. That's great. You do need to know where you're going. We all have to have a map. Yeah. But also, so many people don't then look at what they need to attract that person. And when you're, if you're finding that you're not attracting the right person, there is, it's hello. It is you thing. It's not a them thing. A lot of people like to blame the dating pool out there, but it's like yes, and also if you keep attracting that person, there's something you're putting out into the world that is a magnet for that. We either repel people or we attract them, and I want to repel people who are not for me always, all the time. I don't want to be someone who's a magnet for things I don't want. So I love that you were okay. I love this, and this is what I want. But I need to be the person who this person would want. And then it's true; people don't realize that when a relationship doesn't work out, it's not like a failure. It's just information on, oh, I didn't realize how important this thing was to me, or actually, I didn't realize that this thing was a should, but it has to be a must because I thought it would I be okay with it, but I'm not, and that's it's just all information that we have to go out and we get to do and we get to figure out and we learn about ourselves dating these people. I love that so much. I think that's so cool.Polish Peter Kolat 26:10  That's why I said like it's most people there's a big missing element when people don't do this. You know what I mean? That's like who do I need to become? I think that people never ask the question because they're kind of worried and afraid what they might what the answer might be, and they're not willing to grow into that person.Lesley Logan 26:22  Yeah, yeah. Well, because it means letting go of stories that don't serve you.Polish Peter Kolat 26:27  Exactly. Because these stories, some shape or form, they do serve them. That's why they're holding onto them.Lesley Logan 26:33  I agree. I agree. Polish Peter, what are you most excited about right now?Polish Peter Kolat 26:38  Well, the one thing I'm most excited about is in the book that I released last year, I just want to make an impact in people's lives and be able to help them grow in their own life. So that's the thing that kind of that's my next mission in life, kind of thing.Lesley Logan 26:50  That's so cool. Okay, well, tell us about the book. Writing a book is not easy. You had to become a writer.Polish Peter Kolat 26:57  And I'm a talker, I'm a writer. You know what I mean? Lesley Logan 27:00  Yeah. How'd you do it? How'd you go from being a talker to a writer?Polish Peter Kolat 27:03  Well, I will tell you this: one day at a time, kind of a thing. I start with just one paragraph, one paragraph, one paragraph, and then end up being a book, like a 43,000-word book. I was surprised. I even surprised myself. I was like, "What? No way!"Lesley Logan 27:14  I don't even know how many words are in a regular book. How is that a lot? Polish Peter Kolat 27:18  No. So this is about 180-some pages. Lesley Logan 27:21  Okay, that's a good size book. Yeah. Okay. All right. Authentic Self Rebirth. I love it. Okay. Polish Peter Kolat 27:25  Authentic Self Rebirth. So, basically my own journey, and I'm looking to help people get back to their authenticity. That's the whole book.Lesley Logan 27:32  So okay, I want to because I love I want only authentic people in my life, and then also because of the internet, the authenticity word has been totally bastardized, ruined. But I don't think you. I think it's still important to have. So, what does authenticity mean to you? How do we know that we're being authentic?Polish Peter Kolat 27:52  When you're true to yourself, you know what I mean? Think about it this way: we all know deep down inside whether this that who we are is actually like, if you feel like there's something missing, you know, I have this question: like something's off, something's missing, something is not there. Do you know that you're not being your authentic self? And then the other aspect is that if you're living from the stories of what the world told you to be, how you need to be, and we all have this because at some point, Johnny, when he was in the second grade, he raised his hand and he was all excited to give an answer that two plus two equals three. You know what I mean? And the whole class laughed. And now Johnny decided that I'm never going to raise my hand again. I'm never going to speak up because I want to make sure 100% that I'm right. That's you being inauthentic, you know what I mean. Because now, because the world told you that you need to, you made the decision that I cannot speak up, and I think that's what happens for a lot of people that keeps them away from being fearless, to being courageous, being going out there and making things happen in life. You know what I mean? Because I think we all can impact somebody else's life. So when you start looking from that perspective, I had to. When I went through after the divorce, I noticed that a lot of the stuff that I was being was inauthentic because I wanted. I felt like there was deep down inside. I was supposed to be doing something else or being someone else, but I was just performing. There you go. That's the word. It's not about performing; it's about being. Yeah, and I think most people are performing.Lesley Logan 29:24  Yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 29:24  Especially on the social medias.Lesley Logan 29:26  Oh well, that's what it's for.Polish Peter Kolat 29:28  Yeah, exactly.Lesley Logan 29:30  I mean, my favorite compliment. My listeners have heard this before. I was, it was 2019, I want to say, and I was in Australia, and I'd finished teaching these workshops, and I wanted to go to this one store before it closed, and so the host was driving me to the store, and we're having some fun. We're in the traffic, whatever. And the host, one of the hosts, is, "You're the same person in real life that you are online." And I.Polish Peter Kolat 29:51  Right.Lesley Logan 29:51  Yeah, I don't know. I actually don't know how to be anybody else. I I don't actually know how to do that. Maybe that's the AuDHD in me. Like I don't actually. I really. Don't know. I can only really be myself, and so thank you for that. And it's it's difficult because what happens is people get rewarded for performing, just like little Johnny learned, don't raise your hand, you'll get laughed at. Other people learn, I get attention if I perform, and so it's hard for people to be authentic because on either side, you know, there's these pressures to be something else, or pulling you to be something else. So I agree. A lot of people do perform instead of being. So that's I like. I think authenticity is when you're being. I love that. Yeah.Polish Peter Kolat 30:31  Because think about. I used to hate my accent. I want to get rid of it as much as possible. I actually because I will tell you this. Doing events around the country now, right? We, you know, and so I speak in front of people. My team, because we have a team that runs it, there is in the back of the room there is a thing called Peterisms, the words and phrases that Peter says that maybe people don't understand or sound something different. I am not allowed to say the word shift because it sounds like something else. Okay? However, guess what? Do you think that stops me from being me, kind of a thing? No, no. And I think that's what I think is missing in life, that authenticity than just being, because people are always looking from the perspective. I need to looking good, right? I think that's another thing that drives a lot of this conversation.Lesley Logan 31:20  Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think that's so interesting. I, you know what, I don't know a single person who likes the sound of their voice, and I don't even, you know, I'm always oh, I don't have an accent, and then I go places that, you know, I do have an accent. I love your accent. I'm, what are you talking about? I don't have an accent because I'm from California and we don't have an accent. But the people in the South, you sound like you're from California. So.Polish Peter Kolat 31:41  I hear you.Lesley Logan 31:42  Oh my gosh! Well, I I think you know what's so fun about this Polish Peter is we're all going to be on a journey, and the more we learn about ourselves, the more the better we get at being ourselves. You know, so thank you for going on this with us and sharing your book and your story with us. We're going to take a brief break and find out what people can find you, follow you, be inspired by you. Lesley Logan 32:03  All right, Polish Peter, where do you hang out? Where can they buy your book? Where can they learn more about how to be their authentic self?Polish Peter Kolat 32:09  Well, they can find the book. By the way, thank you so much, Lesley, for having me. It was great being here. They can find the book at myauthenticrebirth.com. That's myauthenticrebirth. They can pick up the book and just pay for shipping and handling there, or literally anywhere the books are sold, like Amazon, Barnes & Noble, anywhere. And you want to hear more of this accent. You want to hear more of these kinds of mind-shift kind of videos. Instagram channel that I'm constantly under. It's called Authentic Self Rebirth. That's the name of the channel.Lesley Logan 32:39  I love it. Okay, you've given us some really great tips. I mean, quite honestly, like people can be it till they see it with most of what we just talked about. But what bold, executable, intrinsic, or targeted steps can people take to be it till they see it?Polish Peter Kolat 32:51  Be it till they see it. Be literally every day. Be with yourself. Like get in front of the camera, or get in front of the mirror and just be with yourself, and see when you are feeling comfortable or uncomfortable. And you know what ends up happening because most people do not like looking at themselves, right? And do not like being with themselves. So every single day, I would say, get in front of the camera or get in front of the mirror that you just be with yourself and just be quiet. I used to sometimes I do this exercise in our events, and if you want to do this, do that with your spouse or someone that's very close with you. Stand or sit in front of someone that's maybe a foot away from you, and just look at each other quietly without saying anything for five minutes. It will be the one of the longest minutes in your entire life, and you're going to see so many different emotions, so many different things in each other, and it's one of the most powerful exercises I've done with people because you don't say anything, but you are talking the entire time. That makes any sense?Lesley Logan 33:57  Yeah, yeah. Oh, I agree. People don't sit with our thoughts very much, and it's true. I definitely had no idea that most of my job would be me looking at myself in a camera. You know, you got to do it. It's a you got to do it so you can get over the things that you don't like about yourself, and also get excited about the things you do like about yourself. And you know, I think that's really a really good thing, and I also think so many of us are so busy in our head we're never with ourselves. So I love this. I love this action so great. Polish Peter, you are fabulous. You guys go get his book and share with Polish Peter and myself what were your takeaways, what landed with you. Share this with a friend who needs to hear it. Maybe you have an optimistic depressed friend who just needs to be called out in a kind way. They won't know until they get to this part that that's why you send it to them.Polish Peter Kolat 34:45  That's right.Lesley Logan 34:46  And you know, I think we all have a lot of us have people pleasing to work on. You know, and it's one of the biggest things you can do for yourself. So, thank you for your inspiration, your tips, your wonderfulness. And until next time, everyone, Be It Till You See It.Lesley Logan 34:58  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. 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Episode 458 - Annika Rosendahl, Storyteller, Timefinder, Leadership Coach and ConsultantAnnika is a result-minded and caring Storyteller, Timefinder and Leadership coach with 20+ years of leadership experience from the corporate world in Telecom, Automotive and Utility industries. She is a Master of Science in Electrical Engineering, a PMI certified Project Management Professional and a certified Professional scrum master as well as a Robbins-Madanes trained life coach. Annika is also a published author of both fiction and non-fiction books.https://www.instagram.com/annikaslolhttps://annikarosendahl.com/Support the show___https://livingthenextchapter.com/podcast produced by: https://truemediasolutions.ca/Coffee Refills are always appreciated, refill Dave's cup here, and thanks!https://buymeacoffee.com/truemediaca

In this episode of Feel the Boot, I sit down with leadership expert Emily Hawkins to tackle one of the biggest challenges founders face: effective team management.

Sascha Mueller is a professional athlete, personal trainer, and international master trainer for various training methods such as TRX, PPSC, and Animal Flow. As a results coach and business trainer, he works daily with clients worldwide. With qualifications from Robbins-Madanes and Tony Robbins, he has logged over 2000 coaching sessions. His life experience is shaped by both professional successes and personal highs and lows. In his free time, he enjoys surfing, training Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, or playing golf, always striving for personal growth.   https://thisdrivesme-coaching.com/ BOOKS:

Leszek Siennicki is the founder of the Flowlife App, a certified Robbins-Madanes and Zen Coaching Coach, and a graduate in Eckhart Tolle's School of Awakening. For over a decade, he has dedicated himself to guiding others toward awakening their consciousness and unlocking the inner strength needed to create the life they truly deserve. Beyond his work, Leszek is also an entrepreneur, ultra runner, sailor, and skier. Most importantly, he's a loving husband and a proud father of three children - including Natalia, his eldest, whose journey with Down syndrome brings immense joy and inspiration to his family.   https://flowlife.app/ BOOKS:

I am a Relationship Expert, specializing in relationship coaching and mentoring. With over three decades of experience in the field of health and wellness, along with overcoming my own experiences and challenges, I have gained profound wisdom and knowledge by being certified from the most famous mentors such as ROBBINS- MADANES, RICH LETVIN and BYRON KATIE.   Watch The Art of Vibrant Living Show LIVE! - Did you know that this "podcast" is actually a LIVE video show?  Register (completely SPAM-Free) to receive automated announcements whenever we go live.  Then simply click and engage.  We welcome your questions and real-time participation.  Go to http://ryps.tk/avl-register and register (free) now!

In this episode, Kate is joined by Relationship & Family Coach, Nichole Farrow to discuss professional help during a separation or divorce. Episode summary:In this episode, Kate and Nichole look at the different professionals who can help you navigate a separation. They discuss the various organisations and charities in this space as well as which parts of the process you can do yourself. Nichole explains how to access support, and where to find free information and low-cost options to help if you're on a budget. About the guest:Nichole Farrow is a relationship and family coach. Her distinctive blueprint for fostering thriving relationships and families is shaped by her own journey, as well as a profound grasp of human psychology and relationship dynamics. She is an expert in guiding complex family dynamics and divorce cases to a harmonious outcome.Nichole is a certified Robbins Madanes coach, NLP practitioner, and Resolution member, so she is well-placed in guiding complex family and divorce matters to a harmonious outcome. She is one of the UK's leading mindset coaches, specialising in supporting divorcing parents and blended families, and is regularly featured across the media, with a monthly slot on BBC Radio 5 Live. 

Roman Mironov is a relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins. He helps clients create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over.He teaches you how to be grateful for your partner, respect them, and communicate effectively. is a coach trained by a Tony Robbins' program and he helps people maximize their potential by stopping porn addiction.Go to https://romanmironov.com and book a no-fee breakthrough session or check out his courses. Mention that you're a listener of my show and Roman will give you a 30% discount if you buy from him.

There's an art to effective leadership. However, we're seldom taught how to do it. As entrepreneurs, we all want to become better leaders. Whether you have a team or want to have one, it's crucial that you put important leadership methods in place as soon as possible. Today, career coach Emily Hawkins explains how.   About Emily Hawkins Emily Hawkins empowers the unemployed, unfulfilled, and unrecognized to find what they love in their life and put it in their work. Her online courses and individual career coaching will help identify the barriers that are preventing you from knowing and achieving your purpose. With over 15 years in corporate America working with budgets, processes, and people Emily can help you streamline your time, team, and career aspirations to land a new role, a promotion, or a completely new venture. Armed with a Georgia Tech MBA and a Robbins-Madanes (yes, Tony Robbins!) life coaching certification, Emily has been uncovering the potential in people for years. As a career coach and corporate leader, she has seen the most common mistakes people make over and over - many she learned through her own failures. Emily ended that vicious cycle when she took charge of her life.   Finding Success from Past Failures In this episode, Emily explains how her first-hand experiences of failure taught her how to build a successful team. She describes the importance of diversity in her workforce and the best way to onboard and gives praise.  This involved an initial amount of discomfort. It's hard to face your mistakes and consciously learn from them. Yet, by recognizing where your business needs improvement, you can see where you need to fill the gaps by creating a robust team.   Good Leadership Starts with You Although team building involves working with others, it also requires a lot of working on yourself. Emily talks about how good leaders listen more than they speak. She explains the importance of integrity, trust-building, and following through on promises. Running your team with integrity means treating its members as you would want them to treat you. Model the behavior you want to see. This demonstrates respect, which is a huge motivator when it comes to working together with others.   Communicating with Your Team in a Meaningful Way Of course, no team will function well without proper communication. Emily fosters this by regularly asking seven seemingly simple yet essential questions. This includes “What's on your mind?”, and “What else is on your mind?” Even just asking “How can I help?” will lead to richer and more authentic interactions.  When you really get to know your team members through asking questions and listening to their responses, you'll learn so much about them. You'll discover their values, what motivates them, where they're confident, and where they need support. This helps you build a team that feels seen and cared for. What does good leadership mean to you? Leave a comment on the episode page!   In This Episode How making mistakes made Emily an expert in team-building [4:15] What integrity really means for leaders [17:05] Improving communication and connection with 7 essential questions [28:15] Learning to relinquish control and let your team members take the lead [43:20]   Quotes “I thought that I wanted to work with people like me. But I'm already on the team. I don't need another me. I need somebody who's very opposite of me so that all of our gaps are filled.” [10:15] “Words are kind of empty. You can say a lot, but your actions speak louder than your words.” [21:26] “There's no point in talking about what we're going to do in three weeks when what we're doing this week matters the most. But if they know what I'm working on and I know what they're working on, then we're all on the same page.” [52:25]   Review Fed and Fearless on Apple Podcasts! Send a screenshot of your review to hello@lauraschoenfeldrd.com or send me a DM on Instagram and I'll send you my Overcoming Undereating eBook. If you post your favorite episode in your Insta stories and tag me @LauraShoenfeldRD, I'll also send you my 14-Day Calorie Challenge Recipe Guide!   Links Get Access to the 100 Leads free training! Find Emily Hawkins online Join the Waitlist for LeaderSHIFT Leave a review of Fed and Fearless! Sign Up For The Free Training: The 5 Secrets of Fearlessly Healthy Women of Faith Learn more about business coaching with me Got a question you'd love to hear me answer on the show? Leave me a voice message here! Join the Fed and Fearless Society on Facebook Follow me on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest Podcast production & marketing support by the team at Counterweight Creative

Do you believe in true love?  Do you wish it was a part of YOUR live?  Today we are talking with Dating Coach Jen Youngquist.  She's is going to help us better understand how to attract our Soul Mate Partner and enjoy a life of true love. I know I can't wait another second, so let's get right into it.    About our Guest, Jen Youngquist Jen is a dating coach, a yoga teacher, and energy expert. She has studied energy and transformation through yoga teacher training, certifications in Reiki and Naisha Ashian's Primus Activation, multiple shamanic workshops and her own energy practices. She's been through several coach training programs (Robbins-Madanes, Strategic Intervention, and is working through Sacred Depths with Joanna Lindenbaum). She is a native of Cincinnati, OH and lives there with her husband and her two kitties. Prior to meeting her husband, she had a really hard time with relationships. Starting at the age of 15 with a narcissistic psychopath, two busted proposals and several others that turned out to be some level of emotionally unavailable. Most of these relationships ended up sucking 2-4 years of her life. By the time she was 35, most of her friends, coworkers, and even younger cousins were all partnered up! She was beginning to think that maybe she was just not marriage material or that lasting love was not in the cards for her. That all changed when she decided to go on a journey to figure out how to shift this pattern. She discovered The Law of Attraction which gave her enough empowerment to make the changes necessary in order to attract the man that is now her husband.  When she started her coaching practice a few years later, she knew exactly who she wanted to help - other women that, like her, were feeling hopeless and discouraged when it came to finding lasting love. She created The Path to Partnership Program which is a 1:1 program that helps women figure out what is mucking up their attraction signal and shift it so they can find The One. Contact Info for our Guest:Website:  https://jenyoungquist.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenyoungquist/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenyoungquist/The Path to Partnership FB Group  https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathtopartnership  Click HERE for more information about the 7 Figure System Signature Program. If you enjoy the Real Life Startup Podcast, subscribe here and share with your friends. 

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We have Emily Sanchez on the podcast with us today! Emily Romney Sanchez grew up in a competitive environment and was taught to achieve goals and succeed from her parents and coaches in music and sports through college. Those coaches inspired her to become a life coach as a way to continually grow, reach higher and motivate others. Her experience started early as she spoke throughout Arizona on education issues and domestic violence. Through her divorce and single parenthood she managed two different insurance agencies. After remarrying, she finished her Bachelors degree from NAU and completed training and certification through Strategic Intervention, Robbins/Madanes training, APSATS, IFS and is currently pursuing her master's degree in social work from WNMU. She is a Divorce Coach who works with distinguished family law attorney, Kevin Jensen, offering seminars and coaching. She is supported by an amazing husband, Yasser Sanchez, and 5 children. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram and Apple Podcasts as ldsdivorcecoach. In this episode, we discuss how to start to shoot for the stars and see our higher self even while experiencing betrayal trauma. We look into why we may struggle with this starting with our society and past. To get out of these meaning frames, Emily encourages us to question our core beliefs. "What do you desire?" As you dive deeper, you may receive retaliation from your spouse or others when bringing up a desire you have. It may be uncomfortable, but you will find that it fills up your core and self respect. Emily also reminds us that if we are not in a place to do this, to give ourselves grace. Please listen in next week for Part 2 as we go more into the topic of divorce! Show Notes: If you would like to know more about Emily Sanchez, please visit her website here. If you would like to listen to her podcast, listen here on Apple podcasts. Please follow Emily Sanchez, @ldsdivorcecoach. If you would like to join one of our Worth groups, divorce or marriage, please enroll here or email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org. We'd love to help walk this healing journey with you!

Tara Chatzakis has always been a free spirit. Born in Yorkshire, she was married and raising a family in Greece when she had an epiphany: she could leave her dysfunctional marriage if she wanted and create a new life for herself. She relocated herself and her three daughters to the Isle of Wight, and shortly after, realized she wanted to help other women to empower themselves. She began to take accreditation to become a business coach and entrepreneur; due to her love of people and her extroverted nature, she also found a niche in podcasting and motivational speaking. In this episode of the show, she and Mighty Pete discuss what it's like to wake up one day and decide to take your life in your own hands. How the smallest of decisions can be pivotal, and how courage can be found along the way.   KEY TAKEAWAYS We only have one life, so it's worth it to take chances on big dreams. Tara can help isolate the root causes of her clients' insecurities and give them an action plan on how to move through them, thus releasing the obstacles holding them back from achieving their highest potential. The first step in achieving professional or personal goals is to be honest with yourself and what truly is motivating you. There is only one of each of us – so one of our life's missions must be figuring out who that person is and being brave enough to let that person out – and a life coach can help. We all need mentors and will use them at different points in our lives. Training your brain through neuroplastic techniques and affirmations can help us reset the negative soundtracks we may not even be aware that we are playing. BEST MOMENTS “Everyone has so much potential within them to do great things, but you just get used to living every single day like the Groundhog Day movie, every single day is exactly the same (but it doesn't have to be).” “The more you speak about what you're doing, the clearer you become on what you're doing.” “The ego, bless it, is there to protect you, isn't it? It wants to keep you safe. If it's unknown, it's going to question whether you need it, whether you it's important, whether it's expensive, whether it's right for you, and all these things because it doesn't understand what the outcome is going to be because it's new and it's scary. But you must let that go, and trust.” “You could spend your whole day worrying about something, and worrying that you're not going to be able to do something, and then when you get to that point it's all well and good anyway, so why did you waste all that time getting anxious about it?” ABOUT THE GUEST Tara is a certified Law of Attraction practitioner and Robbins-Madanes coach, who works with women entrepreneurs who want to manifest their careers and lives into the next level. She has been working in this field for over a decade, and recently has also started her own podcast, (Happy, Inspired, Motivated) which is in the top 5% of motivational podcasts globally. She lives in the Isle of Wight with her daughters Kalls, Andi, and Gabby, and their cat and dog.    CONTACT METHOD Website: https://www.tarachatzakis.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/tarachatzakis YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3ekoKlqtzKrGRTYEVBMdtg Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tarachatzakiscoaching   ABOUT THE HOST The ‘Mighty Pete Lonton' from the ‘Mighty 247' company is your main host of ‘Fire in The Belly'. Pete is an entrepreneur, mentor, coach, property Investor, and father of three beau98tiful girls. Pete's background is in project management and property, but his true passion is the ‘Fire in The Belly' project itself. His mission is to help others find their potential and become the mightiest version of themselves. Pete openly talks about losing both of his parents, suffering periods of depression, business downturn and burn-out, and ultimately his years spent not stoking ‘Fire in the Belly'. In 2017, at 37 years of age that changed, and he is now on a journey of learning, growing, accepting, and inspiring others. Pete can connect with people and intuitively asks questions to reveal a person's passion and discover how to live their mightiest life. The true power of ‘Fire in The Belly' is the Q&A's - Questions and Actions section. The ‘Fire in The Belly' brand and the programme is rapidly expanding into podcasts, seminars, talks, business workshops, development courses, and rapid results mentoring. CONTACT METHOD https://www.facebook.com/mightypetelonton/ https://uk.linkedin.com/in/mightypete https://www.facebook.com/groups/430218374211579/                   Support the show: https://www.facebook.com/groups/430218374211579/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Emily Hawkins empowers the unemployed, unfulfilled, and unrecognized to find what they love in their life and put it into their work. Her online courses and individual career coaching are designed to help identify the barriers that are preventing you from knowing and achieving your purpose. Her goal is for no one to ever feel alone in their career. With over 15 years in corporate America working with budgets, processes, and people Emily can help you streamline your time, team, and career aspirations to land a new role, a promotion, or a completely new venture. Armed with a Supply Chain degree from the University of Tennessee, a Georgia Tech MBA in Global Business, and a Robbins-Madanes life coaching certification, she has helped thousands uncover their potential. You can learn more about Emily's work on her website: www.emilyhawkins4u.com or on social media by searching for emilyhawkins4u You can also follow Emily on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilyhawkins4u/ And be sure to check out Emily's podcast - The LeaderSHIFT Playbook - on Apple/iTunes and other media outlets. ######################## Interested in joining my Business Success Mastermind group? New cohort is starting. Now accepting applications: https://ib4e-coaching.com/mastermind Please support this podcast: https://ib4e-coaching.com/podinfo ######################## If you like this podcast, consider supporting the effort. Every little bit helps. Thanks.

Resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences, especially through mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility and adjustment to external and internal demands. “If your actions inspire others, to dream more, learn more, do more, become more, you are a leader.” John Quincy Adams Rita Schiano is a resilience strategist and coach, speaker, and founder. A former corporate vice-president and small business owner, Rita's leadership knowledge, strategies, and insights draw from both sides of the aisle. Organizations use Rita to help staff build resilient leadership skills, manage stress, and improve morale. Rita received her Strategic Intervention Coaching Certificate from Robbins-Madanes. She is the author of several books, including Live A Flourishing Life, a stress management and resilience-building process workbook; the critically-acclaimed, semi-autobiographical novel Painting The Invisible Man, and Sweet Bitter Love. Favorite snack is peanut butter cups. https://www.ritaschiano.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/ritaschiano https://www.facebook.com/RItaSchiano.LiveAFlourishingLife/ https://twitter.com/RitaSchiano Music-"Homesick" Copyright 2018. Written by Shireen Amini. Produced by Shireen Amini and Mike Davidson of Plaid Dog Recording (Boston, MA)

In this episode of the Secret MENS Business podcast with Joe-y Busuttil we speak to Roman Mironov, who shares how porn became a hidden addiction, how it ended his marriage, and how he eventually ended this zombie behaviour and became a coach to help others with their relationships.ROMAN MIKRONOV:"I'm a relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins.I help clients create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over.I teach you how to be grateful for your partner, respect them, and communicate effectively."HELPING CLIENTS:- KEEP AND FIND THE LOVE OF THEIR LIFE.- BRING PASSION AND JOY INTO THEIR RELATIONSHIP AGAIN.- SAVE THEIR RELATIONSHIP FROM FALLING APART.- RECOVER FROM A BREAKUP AND MOVE ON QUICKLY.ROMAN MIRONOV:https://romanmironov.comTWITTER:https://twitter.com › romansmironovLINKEDIN:Roman Mironov - Relationship Coach - Self-employed | LinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com › romanmironov------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------The Secret MENS Business website:https://thesecretmensbusiness.podomatic.netThe Secret MENS Business podcast:SpotifyiTunesGoogle ManagerAmazon MusicPodomatic -https://thesecretmensbusiness.podomatic.comThe Secret MENS Business Facebook group (MEN Only):https://www.facebook.com/groups/secretmensbusiness01Secret MENS Business Podcast Facebook page :https://www.facebook.com/projectselfacceptanceInstagram:secretmensbusiness_smb

Today's guest Hans Ajay Bhargava will calm you immediately with his zen presence and soothing vocal qualities.  From former sarcastic funny guy to mindful meditator through personal transformation, Hans shares his wisdom about meditation, and how to live a mindful life in all ways.Hans came from a decade long career in corporate enterprise technology and has over 16 years of experience in the personal development industry.  He is a recovering perfectionist and loves geeking out on the quantum universe, neuroscience, mysticism, plant medicine and the human mind.  Hans is a Robbins-Madanes trained life and business coach who leads people on a journey to facilitate their personal, business and spiritual growth.If you are enjoying these episodes, I invite you to share them with friends, like them, subscribe and rate so we can spread sparkles everywhere!Hans can be found here:www.levelupnow.lifeInstagram: @hansajaybLinkedIn: HansajaybI can be found:www.kim-selby.comInstagram: @kimduffselbyLinkedIn: Kim Duff Selby

Are You Substituting the Pleasures of a Good Relationship with Food? with Roman Mironov Our relationships are such an important part of our life. Especially the intimate relationship, the one that we have with our romantic partner because when we feel good in the relationship, everything else basically falls into place. When we don't, let's say our relationship gets toxic. We tend to go to food and other addictions as a coping mechanism. About Roman I'm a relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins. I help clients create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over. I teach you how to be grateful for your partner, respect them, and communicate effectively. www.romanmironov.com www.feedingfatty.com Full Transcript Below Are You Substituting the Pleasures of a Good Relationship with Food? with Roman Mironov   00:00:15 Roy Hello everybody. Welcome to another episode of feeding fatty. This is Roy. This is Terry. So we are the podcast. We are chronically in my journey through getting healthy, again, diet, exercise, change in mindset. So, we talk from time to time about the struggles and things that we do and Terry support for that. We also have, professionals as guests from time to come on and help us out. Give us some different viewpoints on things that we can do better to help us in this journey. Today is no different. Terry I'll let you introduce Roman. 00:00:50 Terry Yeah. Roman Marinov is a relationship coach trained by Robbins. Madanes the official training center of Tony Robbins. He helps clients create beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over. He teaches you how to be grateful for your partner, respect them and communicate effectively likes to help people realize there's a potential and to live a happy lifestyle. Roman, thank you for being on the show. Welcome. 00:01:20 Roman Well, Ryan Garrett, thank you so much. It's an honor. I'm very happy to be with you today. Thank you. 00:01:28 Roy Yeah. Because we explore, relationships, with our food, with exercise, with life, and then also, with each other, Terry is such a big part of, me getting her well, she's a big part of life, no, either way, but we worked together and she is very instrumental in helping me on this path to wellness. So, let's just talk about that. What, how do relationships, affect things like are eating motivation, things like that. 00:02:05 Roman Oh, they actually affect them a lot because our relationships is such an important part of our life. Especially the intimate relationship, the one that we have with our romantic partner, because when we feel good in the relationship, everything else basically falls into place. When we don't, let's say our relationship gets toxic. We tend to go to food and other addictions as a coping mechanism. 00:02:38 Roy Okay. Yeah. I think it's two fold because for me, sometimes I can be driven just the other ways that, we're excited, things are going good and it's always like, Hey, let's go out and celebrate and have something good to eat. That's all it's like to celebrate. One thing that we're trying to, work hard on or, the, I guess, relating to different things as, food triggers, not only in our relationship, but work in life. It's just that, instead of having everything as a celebration point to run out and, eat some really good food, we're trying to change that to like maybe go do five pushups or do an exercise, do something physical instead of going for that food. 00:03:28 Roman Yeah, exactly. That's why when I celebrate, I made sure not to celebrate for food because it really only adds to the addiction. We're talking about addictions makes us stronger. It makes the neural pathways between food and pleasure is stronger in your mind. Right. 00:03:49 Roy Yeah. I think, we had a guest on this last week and were talking about some things that, and we try to look back in our past that relationships that we've had and things that have happened. And, I've been very fortunate that I have, I had an awesome childhood adulthood, life has just been very good for me. I'm blessed and couldn't ask for more, but the one thing that we kind of uncovered this last week was, ice cream. And, my relationship with that, as far as it being that celebratory mechanism that, as growing up, I had two grandpas that whenever anything, if were working, it'd be like, let's go down. You know, you worked really hard today. Let's go celebrate with some ice cream. Of course, taking a break, like my dad, when I'd go to work with them, we'd be like, oh, let's take a break and run over to dairy queen and get this. 00:04:47 Roy It's interesting that, while I never really thought about it until this week that I've carried that around in life with me, not necessarily as a negative, that something went bad and that's what triggers, but actually mainly that may be just the opposite. It was such a positive experience that, as cream is my thing that I've gotta be very careful with. 00:05:18 Roman Yes, yes. I know it makes a lot of sense. You associated again associated tons of pleasure with ice cream. Right. And that's when, right. When you want to feel great, now we just go to ice cream. Right. 00:05:33 Terry Also with your relationship with your grandparents, just anybody that you're thinking about that you had that celebratory mode with, it's like, it brings up good feelings, loving feelings with that. Yeah. 00:05:48 Roy It, and it carries over to, our spouse, our partner, because it's like, it, and it's not her not Terry's fault more me. I'm the one, I'm the trigger. It'd be like, oh, we had such a good day today. Let's rush out and get something to eat. Anyway, definitely something that we've been working on is to try to find, and maybe it's just as simple as let's go take a walk instead of, making food that focal point. 00:06:14 Terry To make a nachos at one o'clock in the morning, like we did a few months ago. Right. 00:06:21 Roy What are some other things that we can do to strengthen those relationships? And I, I, I'm assuming that this applies not only to our loved ones, but the relationships that we build with our families and coworkers and just, pretty much relationships in general. 00:06:41 Roman Yeah. That's a great question. I think you guys are a couple that's a great role model for me. I've been talking to you before and today, and I think that there was great energy between you and that's something that I definitely want to write and to be more specific, we need more communication. If you want to improve your relationship with the other person, remember that communication is the blood of the relationship. So, one thing to do is to make sure that you engage your partner in very deep conversations, not just shallow things about day to day stuff early into deeper emotions and feelings asked and how they feel and being asking very specific questions that also helps not just how are you, right? Yeah. How did you feel about that person saying that? Or how did you feel when you were in pain today? Those kinds of high quality questions? Another tip is to always be 100% present in the conversation. 00:07:54 Roman Make sure that you're not distracted by anything right. Gave that presence, that gift of your presence to your part. I will come in the eye be 100% there, especially if you are a man because women feminine women, they are very susceptible to this. Let's say the third tip is to make sure that you make your partner feel significant. You remind them that they are important to you. You praise them for every little thing. You make sure that they feel that they're appreciated because this is important. Yeah. Oftentimes we just take our partners for granted and we never gave them that praise or the feeling of significance. Yeah. 00:08:42 Terry Roy's really, Roy is really good at that. I mean, he D he tells me how grateful he is for me. I, I can't even tell countless times a day. I'm just like, oh me, I, I can't take a compliment. It's really hard for me to do. Yeah, 00:08:59 Roy Yeah. She is, I think it's an effort between both of us because she takes such good care of me in so many ways that it's like, Ooh, I've got to keep telling her not only because she is really awesome, but also because I don't want her to think I take it for granted or, those little bitty things that she does. I don't want her to think that they're unnoticed or overlooked. They're all just to me, the little things are as important as the big things. Probably more important day to day. 00:09:31 Roman Wow. That's some beautiful level of consciousness. Yeah. That's Tourette. Yeah. I can appreciate it. 00:09:40 Terry He's really good about it. He's also really good about trying to talk things out, trying to get to the root of causes, which I'm not like, I'll take care of him the way that I know how, and that's cooking and doing what I need to help make sure that he's being healthy and that I'm being healthy and all of that. I need to learn to verbalize that better. You have any tips on that? I mean, it's just hard. I don't know why it's so hard. 00:10:12 Roman Oh, that is such a huge shower for many women. And that, thank you. Thank you so much for sharing it. And let me tell you a bookstore. It, that is a great representation on this thing, that there is this marathon runner, a very popular athletes, rich role. He tells a story in his book. What basically happened is that he was going to get married to their girl and they have been dating for quite a long time. At one point they were living in different seats, let's say about two or three hours long away. At one point they were supposed to meet. She was supposed to come to him, but she said that she could, and that was about one month before their wedding. They were supposed to get married and well, he got upset and he said, okay, well, let me come to you. Let me drive. 00:11:16 Roman And she said, no, don't okay. So that was her first hand. Then they were doing the wedding rehearsal. She actually, she didn't want to do it. There was a lot of tension and basically what she was doing. She was showing him that she didn't want the marriage. The rehearsal went its way, but he actually was very anxious. He thought that she might not even show up during the way, but she did. She did. And they got married. And then they went to this honeymoon. I think it wasn't Hawaii or something like that. In that honeymoon, they were not talking to each other. They like, she was so angry that she had told him not to talk to her at all. So they were basically spanning it apart. At the end of the honeymoon, on the field day, he was fed up with it. He said, okay, so I can't take this anymore. 00:12:29 Roman We should just break up. And she said, okay. So he was very angry. They went home and they basically did not leave a day together as a couple, as a married couple. He went to talk to her friends. That's when he found out that she actually had someone else who was dating someone else at this point. The point of this story is that she was dropping hands to him all along the way, many hints, but she was not saying this directly. And he was not getting those hands. That's the point where the men, they don't like cans. They want direct information, direct commands, direct orders. They're basically a very simple in the sense. Yeah. 00:13:24 Terry Yeah. That's, that has been a big issue, huge issue between men and women, because we want men to get it. We want them to get it and you figure it out, but here's a couple of hints along the way. You just figure it out. I don't need to have to tell you, I don't know why that is. 00:13:42 Roy Well, and that's, and I'm that way, sometimes I have to tell Terry I'm getting something here, but let's just be very clear about it. Cause you know, yeah. Cause I mean, sometimes that receptors not always dialed in and most of the time, I mean, we've been together long enough and I think we care enough about each other that, a lot of that stuff comes through and maybe she says, oh, don't worry about it, but I know better. I need to, I need to be worrying about that. But, but it's like we're making a transition in our diet. I have been very quizzical quizzical about this to her to, because I want to know where, we talked about it, but I need to make sure that this is good for her as well as good for me. Trying to just set her down and ask her, how do you feel about this? Let's talk about it. 00:14:40 Roy Because I don't want, if it's not good for both of us, I don't want this to go on for a long time and in her be resentful because that's, what I see is what happens is one per one partner does something for the other and they have to keep doing it or it last over a period of time until they become very resentful of that. 00:15:05 Roman Yes, yes. That happens. I mean, you need to be careful about that before, so think or discuss before to take on such a commitment. Yeah. And any, no. What if you don't feel comfortable doing it anymore? It's okay to renegotiate. Exactly. 00:15:22 Roy Yeah. That's what I keep telling her, is this in, because I think it's, I think a lot of this can be generational just like with myself. When I was growing up, you went to work for a company and you stayed there for 30 years, you did this and you bought a house and you stayed there for your whole lifetime and, younger in life in my thirties that, I decided that, what, it's all right to change your mind as we grow. And as we develop things change. We have to be able to accept it, understand it, but we have to communicate. I mean, there's things that have changed in our relationship that I don't know what it is. I can't tell, but it's just, maybe a little thing that was like, Hey, I don't really like that too much. Right. This moment, not anymore. And, but instead of just either letting her continue to do it or, her doing it and me just, festering about it, that I don't like this that much anymore, just have a community, just talk about it. 00:16:30 Terry I like how you said, I like how you said you, how you give permission to renegotiate because we are so set and we just think we need to follow through, , 00:16:44 Roman That's right. That's right. That's the best example of how we need to keep communication lines open and the relationship. Even if something is bothering us, it's okay to say this. Just make sure that you say it in a loving way. Yeah. You find the right moment, that's it? 00:17:06 Roy Yeah. And it's easy to lash out. This is something that I have to be careful about because, do we work a lot? And so, we enjoy our work. We work a lot and sometimes things get tense, not necessarily between us, but more me like a process is breaking down. Something's not clicking. It's like when you have very limited time and you have a lot of things to do, if things tick off just perfect, you can get it done. And life is good. If there's one little glitch, then it throws everything out of balance. Unfortunately, Terry is the closest person and I don't ever want to lash out her. I had to be very careful about, Hey, what? I I'm having this problem. It's has nothing to do with you. I don't want it to run off on you. I, you know, I'm not that great. 00:18:01 Roy Not as good as I need to be about, well, number one, not letting it fester to get that way, but also, just making sure that she doesn't get the runoff from things, other things that are going on in life. 00:18:14 Roman Exactly. That's the correct word runoff. That's why they want to, you want to share what's on your mind very quickly. Not wait until it festers. Sure. 00:18:27 Terry Yeah. I mean, you do a good job at that. You you're very cognizant and I don't mean this to be the Roy and Terry show, but honestly you really, they really are very cognizant. I mean, hopefully at this juncture in our life, we've learned something along the way. I think we're really applying blind those lessons. 00:18:48 Roy Yeah. That's something else that, I feel fortunate enough about that. I just told her earlier that how, I was lucky to find her and we got together and, life has been good, but what, how difficult is this now at older ages or, I guess people coming together at an older age when they're very set in their ways they're set in their routines, I guess that makes it harder to mesh, to become a couple. 00:19:22 Roman Sometimes yes. Sometimes now, and no, because as people get mature, more mature, they actually become more patient. They become less selfish and they are more open to having a relationship that actually sustainable and not just about them, but they are ready to give more, even though it means that it might mean that they're not getting the same amount of love back. Yeah. That this transition, basically that happens over our lifetime from selfishness to selflessness, it helps relationships in older age. 00:20:08 Terry They know, I think we know more about ourselves, so we know what we want or what we like and can talk about that, can you express that? Not so well, like I'm doing now, but, we just know what to look for and know what that attraction is. 00:20:34 Roman Exactly. Exactly. Just, just like Roy was saying about his, wanting everything to be perfect. And if something doesn't go right. Even little thing, you might not be happy about it and this might show, so he knows himself very well. He's very cognizant then that's one good thing that comes from the fact that he's a mature masculine man. 00:21:02 Terry He is very masculine, honey. 00:21:06 Roy I think I'll say, I don't know if he just told me the other day that she's like, are you 14? And I'm like, yeah, mostly most of the time. Yeah. I haven't dwelled. I'm still the little boy I see the shiny object and have to chase it or have to stand on the rail that you're not supposed to stand on or whatever it is like that. So. 00:21:26 Terry I don't want the frozen pond in the back. That's not all the way frozen. That was scary. Yeah. 00:21:31 Roy We had this winter, we had a Creek behind the house as Stover. I mean, like really bad. It got so cold. And, so were down there. I don't even know why were back there, but I was like, Ooh, let me just test that. She's like, first he tried to talk me out of it and then she could see she wasn't going to do that. She took her camera out and started. She's like, I just want to get a picture of you when you fall through, that's another, important part I think for us is, the laughing and having fun together. Even though we work together, we're together, a lot of time, we still take time to try to laugh and have fun and, not be serious all the time. 00:22:23 Roman Wow. This is, this is impressive because give me given the fact that you guys work together. You already spent quite a lot of time together. You have the time and the energy to also laugh together. I mean, wow. I'm impressed. I'm impressed. 00:22:43 Terry You humor is very important. Yeah. Yeah. Even if it doesn't seem like it's the right time to laugh, ? 00:22:51 Roy Yeah. Humor and, we have a lot of other things in common. Like, we like music, so we're able to bond over, we both have a pretty intense appreciation of music from our childhood and generation. So, we're able to bond over that. But, I was just going to ask though, in, as you help people with relationships, what are, 2, 3, 4, 5 of the largest, contributors to a discord in a relationship? 00:23:25 Roman Well, we actually touched upon some of them, first of all, is communication. Basically a lot of people lay like to stop communication when things go wrong. Yeah. And basically doing it as a punishment. Yeah. Right. Let's say their partner does something that they don't like and punish them with what I call silent treatment. 00:23:50 Terry Women do that a lot. And another mistake, 00:23:55 Roman Another mistake is not praising your partner, just taking them for granted too much. Yeah. Another mistake is taking your relationship for granted and thinking that your partner is not going anywhere, they will stay there for life. This is not true because you always need to be looking for looking to introduce new units and to be a relationship because newness is important for keeping passion. You might have loved, we might have downs of love between each other, but if you don't have passion, your relationship might be due. Right. Another mistake is let's say, I'm sorry. Yeah. Okay. Another mistake is not being emotional enough, not being too touchy and feely because you need that. You need that a romantic connection in addition to your like regular conversational connection. For example, be sure to give hugs, be sure to kiss your partner, be sure to smile at them all the time. 00:25:16 Roman This is also important. 00:25:19 Roy Yeah. I definitely think that one is two and it's funny cause we still hold hands a lot, this like teenagers and that's, and like even at night when we go to sleep, sometimes that's just, my hand over on her just where I can touch her, feel her there. It's just, I don't know. It's kind of weird, but it's important just to have that connection. 00:25:43 Roman And it's not weird. No, that's absolutely normal. And it's actually beautiful. I like that again, you guys rock. Thank you. Well, yeah, just. 00:25:55 Terry Trying to take a compliment. 00:25:58 Roy Yeah. It's, I think the funny part about taking things for granted is that, maybe if you haven't had it, you appreciate it more. But I think it's just the opposite. The better things are between us. The more appreciative I am for her and all of those things, because it's so rare to find, two people that really mesh, I think, as good as we do on so many things. No, I'm not saying we don't have our differences or things that, I was trying to think what that was it's, she doesn't like all lives and I like all lose. We're able to, segregate that and it doesn't have to be a big thing, but for the big things in life, I feel like that we're pretty much on track, but there's always, some little differences that we may not always be together on, but talking about it. 00:26:54 Roy I think the other thing, is respect is that, we have to really respect our partner and their thoughts and their feelings. I don't have to agree with her, but I just have to respect that her life, circumstances have gone, have got her to this belief. And so you have to respect it. 00:27:17 Roman Yeah, that's right. What else can you do? Other, you also have a perspective, your own perception, right. And who knows who's right. Yeah. It's better to be happy to be right. Exactly. Or something, 00:27:31 Terry Something in the middle there, and that's what you just kind of mesh it together. 00:27:36 Roy I think that's a, I hate to get off on the social media tangent, but I will for just a minute that's a problem with that is that, we try to spend so much time to, convince or to talk people into having our point of view that we really don't take the time to listen to them, to see what their point of view is. The other part is that we can harmonize. We don't, I mean, it'd be a boring world if were all carbon copies and all felt the exact same way about everything. I mean, that's what that kind of adds to the spice of life. Just a little bit. And, the other part I get off on this tangent too, but trying new things is that we, Terry's a lot more conservative in that respect and that, especially as we talk about cooking and trying some new things that we're doing is I just tell her, look, do whatever you feel, throw it out there. 00:28:39 Roy Especially, it's like, if it messes up or comes out bad, we can start over or we can go up to the restaurant and get something we're not going to starve to death, but you hear people that is like the wife makes something bad and then it turns into a fuss and, I don't really get that, but I encourage her, do something different. It's it's okay. 00:29:05 Roman Yeah, yeah, definitely. That's one reason you guys have each other present as a masculine man, your, and having her as a feminine woman yeah. In air life. One of your goals is to challenge her in a positive way and that does how you do it. She is a little bit more conservative. As you say, you are there to give her new challenges. Right. And that's one of them. He does. 00:29:39 Terry He really does. I mean, staying in the food genre, I, I fry fried up, I guess it was fried up. Some TemPay never had done that before. We didn't know what it was going to turn out to be, but I don't know. It was, it was lots of prepping and everything. You fry it up and put all your stuff on. It turned out to be pretty good. I just hate doing all that. Tend to know that it's not going to turn out bad in that terrible. I should, I need to try new things. 00:30:07 Roy Yeah. And it's yeah. It's even like, we've been kind of locked down and haven't been out of the house much, but it's like the other thing is the spontaneity. I'm not sure which one of us is more spontaneity. I think we are at different times on different subjects, but, it's like, it was like, were just sitting on the couch one night and I got an email from a, a place that has music. It just said, the first 50 people get free tickets for, it was a cover band, a couple of cover bands. We liked the bands that they were covering. So, what I, I just sent an email in not expecting to win. I got a message back like, oh, you're the winner. So, it was like the next night or two, we just loaded up, went to this place and we had an amazing time. 00:30:58 Roy The music was good. We found a couple bands, but the place was good. And, it was just kind of fun to do something on a whim. 00:31:08 Roman Oh yeah, this is so important. This is important again, because it introduces newness and their relationship. It also see when we become too conservative, we start feeling older. And this is not conducive to love. This is not conducive to passion. When we go back to that younger mindset, we could slip in when we had less responsibilities and so on and so forth, we feel younger. Let's say you go out and you spend a wild night and you come home at 4:00 AM. This is something that makes you feel young. That reenergizes your passion in the relationship. Yeah. 00:31:59 Terry Yeah. I'm just thinking, I'm just thinking about how much older I'm going to feel the next day. 00:32:05 Roy That's me holding back. Yeah. I'm like, what? You can sleep all day. It doesn't matter. We don't have anywhere to be. So, we can go do that kind of stuff. And, I, I think it's fun, it's just new adventures and that we are both, fairly up for adventures. I think that's the other thing is just, having these adventures, experiencing things together and the memories that it provides, because, w we have those things. It's like, oh my gosh, you remember that concert went to and this happened and it's, those are pleasant too. It's like when the, when it is a slow time and you're just kinda sitting around, not doing much and thinking about all these things, it's just, I think it adds to that pleasure from your partner as well. Yeah. Yes. For sure. Well, Roman, we appreciate you taking time to stop by and talk to us today. 00:33:07 Roy Any closing words, any closing thoughts on relationships before we wrap it up? 00:33:14 Roman Yeah. Yeah. One thought is that you need to treat a relationship, your relationship, a romantic one as an important area of your life, like your business or your health. You spend time in those interests, right? Both with your business and kind of your, how, and you also want to spend time, invest time and effort into your relationship. If you live it as is it well die pretty soon, right? So you want to at least read books about read books and get better at it so that you make sure that you stay motivated and you have the right information, the right resources to keep your partner happy. Yeah. Don't take it for granted. Yeah. 00:34:07 Roy Do you have any books off the top of your head, any recommendations that you can think of? If not, don't worry. I'm not, I didn't mean to put you on the spot. I just thought maybe you might. 00:34:16 Roman Have one, I would say two books. The first one is a general one, but it speaks a lot about whole, all things, relationship wise and this Stephen Covey's seven habits of highly effective people. Okay. The second one is by Sharon Salzberg called real love. 00:34:40 Roy Okay. Yeah. And I think it's interesting. I, I'm glad you bring that up because again, I can speak for me and that is a deficit in our relationship because we do something that we really enjoy. And so it's easy to spend. It's easy to spend a lot of time. There's, it's like, there's never an end to the things that we could do, even if we get things done that we've got to have done, there's still always looking at this new form of marketing, looking at this new technology, looking at this. Maybe we want to twist this or tweak that. Anyway, it, and this gets back to the communication is that Terry is, we are confident enough in our relationship. She can tap me on the shoulder and say, all right, you're done. And then, you know, 00:35:33 Terry Like, I'll say why I'll be there in a minute and now say you're a minute or my minute, because they're two different things. 00:35:43 Roy Yeah. It's easy to get hung up in that it just never ends. So, taking that time, if we're going to invest, like you said, we invest time and money in our businesses, in our homes. In a lot of things that we need to take that same approach to our relationships and, really invest and it's time. It's not, thank goodness Terry is not, she's not high dollar maintenance, so that's not an issue. But, just taking that time out of our day to, really be together to have those conversations, it's truly important. I think that's where people, kinda miss out some is that, you got, especially when you have kids, you got kids pulling you one way. You've got parents, you've got your job. Then, V go out and do stuff with friends that it just, it really divide your time down to where you don't have enough to devote to your relationship. 00:36:40 Roy That's the cool thing with Terry and me, it's like, we're best friends. We like to hang out with each other, even outside of work, we like to go do things together. So. 00:36:55 Roman Yes. Yeah. You, you are an inspiration. 00:37:01 Roy Well, we're trying, we have to work at it, but all right, Roman, well, tell everybody, somebody needs some relationship coaching. How can they get ahold of you? 00:37:17 Roman Yes. The best way is go to the website, which is Roman mirror knob.com, spelled as R O M A N M I R O N O V.com. There you have all the links to my social media and the ability to contact me for a free coaching session. If you match the lecture coming up, the Roy and terrorist podcast, I'll be happy to give you a 30% discount. Oh, wow. 00:37:43 Roy Nice. Yeah. 00:37:45 Terry You have a podcast as well, correct? Yes. It just under your name or is it called something else? 00:37:56 Roman It's called be version two of yourself. Okay. 00:38:00 Roy All right. Great. Well, y'all go out and give a listen if you need some help in a relationship and well, let me say it this way. Don't wait till you need help in a relationship, seek out somebody like Roman, that can be preemptive and don't wait until there's a problem. Get the tools that you need to have a successful relationship because it spills over into everything. I have a business show I was talking about, and were just talking about, you can't park your emotions at the door to work. Same thing, coming home, you can't park your work stuff at the door. Everything is all intermingled. For us to have a happy, productive life at work, we have to have a happy, productive life at home. And, again, I'm blessed to have somebody that supports me in everything. I know that she's my biggest champion and there's nobody in this world that I want to see succeed more than her. 00:38:57 Roy I think it's important to, get out in front of that. Don't wait till it's a, don't wait till it's a train wreck to try to clean up the mess, get out there ahead of the game and make it happen where you can continue to be happy in that relationship. 00:39:15 Roman Yeah, that is golden. Yeah. 00:39:19 Roy All right guys. Well, that's going to do it for another episode of feeding fatty I'm Roy. You can always find us at www.feedingfatty.com. We're also on all the major social media platforms, as well as the podcast platforms, iTunes, Stitcher, Google, Spotify. If we're not one in which you listened to, if you'll reach out, we'll certainly be glad to add you. So thanks for listening until next time. Take care of yourself and take care of your family. www.romanmironov.com www.feedingfatty.com

Who hasn't had challenges in life with personal relationships? It's a part of life. However, becoming more aware of the focus necessary to maintain a healthy personal relationship is a key component towards being able to work on our own self-development. Our guest on this episode is Roman Mironov, a Personal Relationship Coach, that has made it is life mission to help others improve their relationships with their life partners. Roman has been trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robins.  In this episode we will discuss: - Staying proactive in relationships to avoid unnecessary heartache. - Cleaning up your "mental diet." - Active listening - Acknowledgment of your partner - Combating loneliness  - Overcoming destructive sexual addictions    Roman Mironov's website with 30% off services for listeners of Ungraduated Living & Learning: https://romanmironov.com   Resources: The Pomodoro Technique https://www.themuse.com/advice/take-it-from-someone-who-hates-productivity-hacksthe-pomodoro-technique-actually-works   My website: https://ungraduated.com  

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Tonia and Roman talk about unconditional love. Roman shares his relationship advice and tips on self love. He also shares how his relationship problems provided insight on how to best cultivate a more healthy relationship with himself and others. He's a relationship coach who believes awareness is vital. Links Roman mentions: Website: https://romanmironov.com/ More about Roman: Roman is a relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins. He helps his clients create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over. He teaches you how to be grateful for your partner, respect them, and communicate effectively. Ways to Support and Grow with Us: Subscribe and Become a Financial SUPPORTOR: https://bit.ly/37qE8pO Coffee With T Clothing and Apparel Store: https://teespring.com/stores/coffee-with-t #ConfidentStrides #coffeewitht #toniatyler #strideflowcreate Our featured video podcast "Coffee with T" on Confident Strides is a 20-minute conversational interview on different topics ranging personal development to business strategy and entertainment to foster empowerment in others. We believe everyone has story to share. By creating this platform, people can share their wisdom and insight, gain exposure and allow their voices to be heard. At Confident Strides, we believe that if you strengthen the core of an individual, other domains to include relationships and vocation will flourish as a natural byproduct of that empowerment. Connect with COFFEE With T via Confident Strides: WEBSITE: https://confidentstrides.com/ Watch on YouTube: https://bit.ly/2Zv4jJJ Share with us: What was one of your favorite takeaways from today's show? Before we go, show some love by leaving us a review. Thanks for listening. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/confidentstrides/support

Today I have on Raquel DaRowe on to discuss Rapid Transformational Therapy! Raquel - a certified Hypnotherapist, Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner, certified Integrative Nutrition health coach, trained Robbins-Madanes life coach & PSYCH-K Facilitator. If you've never heard of this type of therapy, listen in! Super interesting! https://www.facebook.com/groups/transformationjunkies facebook group IG: @raqueldarowe www.raqueldarowe.com

To steal a phrase from the movie Vanilla Sky, when actor Jason Lee says, 'The sweet is never as sweet, without the sour' he could also be referring to the ups and downs of being a coach. We love it when we're hitting the ball out of the park on those sweet working days when you and your client make incredible breakthroughs. But then there is the sour. The days when we're just not feeling it. Or worse, we think maybe we shouldn't be coaches at all, the self-doubt has crept in, and it just won't go away. On the sour days, maybe we say ‘screw it.’ Well, not today Satan. It's time for a little Pep Talk. Today I discuss those horrible bad days in running your coaching business and what you can do to address the dip in your mood or client results. I look at our enemy Mr. Imposter Syndrome and advise you on how to silence his noise with a little revision into your previous client successes. I remind you to take out your licensed tools, whether they be those of Profit First, Book Yourself Solid, or Robbins-Madanes, and ask you to refresh your mind with why these methods work for you. I also ask you to check yourself and examine if this lousy day – or days- is with one client or several clients and what I think it means regarding your velvet rope policy or coaching mindset in general. "If you don't believe that you can get it, why is that? Is it because you're listening to the Imposter Syndrome speaking in your brain?" – Jos Willard "Sometimes it's that you misread the client. When you brought them in, you don't have a red velvet rope policy in place, and you're taking money from people that you shouldn't be taking money from because they're not the kind of person that you do your best work with" – Jos Willard "What are sessions that you have gone through that have been effective? When have you been at your best? Think back to that and describe for yourself everything around that." – Jos Willard "Sometimes you have those days, but you want to minimize those days. And what I have managed to do for myself in order to help me minimize those days is exactly what I've laid out here." – Jos Willard This week on Profit For Coaches: Why you should keep a record of your positive work results Testimonials and why you should get that great feedback from your best clients Why you should brush up on your licensed IP's tools How to address a crisis of self-confidence Why it might be your choice of client causing a bad day The FREE eBook you can access today Resources Mentioned: Book: Profit First Book Yourself Solid Robbins-Madanes                           Connect with Jos Willard: Profit For Coaches Website Jos Willard on LinkedIn Jos Willard on Twitter Jos Willard on Instagram The Four Must-Haves for a Profitable Coaching Practice I want to make sure that the time you invest here is profitable. And the best way to do that is to make sure you grab a copy of the free eBook The Four Must-Haves for a Profitable Coaching Practice. It's absolutely free, it's worth every penny. It outlines the four areas that every profitable coaching practice on the planet has in common.  And thus, they're the four things that you must have nailed down in your coaching practice if you want it to be consistently profitable. So if you want an easy to understand very specific tool that makes it crystal clear where to be focusing your attention in your practice, and what you can safely ignore to ensure that your practice is consistently profitable and supports the life that you want to be living go to: Profitforcoaches.com and download your copy of The Four Must Haves for a Profitable Coaching Practice today.

Do you want your relationships to bring you the most joy in life? Roman is a relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, who helps his clients to build nurturing relationships. He gives proven relationship advice to people.

Roman Mironov is a certified relationship coach from Toronto, Canada trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins. He helps people create amazing relationships. Before moving to Canada, Roman lived in Russia, where he worked as a professional translator.  He decided to become a relationship coach after deciding that he didn’t want to see others go through the especially avoidable mistakes that can destroy relationships. In 2010 he discovered self-help materials and was able to improve many areas of his life but he was still too focused on results.  He paid for this dearly with his wife divorcing him due to his constant criticism which ruined their relationship.  This was a turning point for him. Roman is all about teaching insanely actionable strategies that make relationships the number one source of happiness in his clients' life.  At the core of his teaching are frequent communication, respect, and gratitude. With a continued focus on personal growth, Roman has discovered how to start enjoying relationships more with unconditional love and how to appreciate the little things in life.   Connect with Roman: Website: https://romanmironov.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTpjfwxdtmsJ78QiPGMrsOQ/ Podcast: http://romanmironov.libsyn.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/romanmironov/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/romansmironov/ You can reach him to schedule a no-fee breakthrough session! _____________________________________________ Hello Fearless Freedom Tribe!  We are now at Episode 112 and I’m so excited to share this one with you.    I also want to thank you all for listening, subscribing, and sharing the podcast with your friends, and for your help in making this podcast a success!  The Fearless Freedom tribe is amazing and I’m so grateful for each and every one of you. ______________________________________________ Here’s your weekly reminder that the podcasts from the Podcasting Launch Course for Professionals are LIVE! The amazing women in the course have created incredible content and shows that are pure fire!  They’ve gone through the course with me and have now launched.  It’s honestly pretty cool to have witnessed this process and I’m so proud of each of them. Check out the shows that are currently out. Show them some love by subscribing, leaving a 5-star rating, sharing, and leaving a positive comment.  (Did you know that if you work with me in my course or done-for-you service to get your podcast launched, I’d be honored to share your podcast with the world just as I am for the podcasts highlighted below.)   Pivot & Bloom Podcast  https://bit.ly/PivotandBloom   The Drama-Free Workplace with Patti Perez  https://bit.ly/DramaFreeWorkplace   Living at Your Finest  https://www.buzzsprout.com/1202669   Ignite Your PowHer https://igniteyourpowher.buzzsprout.com/   _____________________________________________ RESOURCES: 1. Looking to start a podcast? Now is a great time to do just that!  Check out the free podcast launch masterclass I created to see if starting a podcast is a match for you.   http://bit.ly/podcastinglaunchmasterclass    2. Are you too busy to participate in a facilitated course but still want to get your show started? The Podcast in a Box is for you! You provide the audio for your first 5 five shows to launch with a bang, we do the REST.   http://bit.ly/doneforyoupodcasting   3. Are you a podcast host or have the desire to be a podcast guest?  You will want to check out PodMatch, a free service that automatically matches podcast guests and hosts together for interviews.  Here’s my invite link: http://bit.ly/joinpodmatch   Get off the fear fence today. Your tribe is waiting to hear your voice!

This is one that is just in time for Valentines day!!! Keep the sparks alive and work out your differences in your love relationships. Roman is a relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins.He Helps clients create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive […]

It was Cold Turkey podcast's first time of discussing sex addiction and I surely hope it is not the last. Not only was I able to discuss this without even an ounce of taboo, this was also quite eye opening in so many ways. Roman Mironov is a certified relationship coach (Robbins Madanes) that help & teach clients how to be grateful for your partner, respect them, and communicate effectively. You can find ways to reach to Roman here: https://romanmironov.com/ (https://romanmironov.com/) This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podcorn - https://podcorn.com/privacy Support this podcast

In this episode, Marisa Meddin shares how she went from a corporate job to being a full-time traveling medium and healer. In this conversation, Marisa shares her unique way of delivering messages from spirit, how she struggled with her gift at first, but has learned the art of surrender, and how her dark night of the soul revealed her purpose. Enjoy!   Request a letter from spirit: www.marisamedium.com/ophelia Website Link: https://marisamedium.com/ Instagram Link: @mlmeddin   Marisa's Bio: Marisa Meddin is a clairvoyant medium and intuitive coach, where she helps people connect with loved ones who have passed on, and gain clarity on their life direction. Her mission is to help others heal & live a life in alignment so that we can live more joyful lives filled with less physical and emotional pain. Prior to discovering her psychic gifts, Marisa received a business degree from one of the top business schools in the US, and worked for six years in the corporate world before going on to start several successful entrepreneurial ventures. She has since received a coaching certification through the Robbins-Madanes program, completed an intensive 22 week Mediumship program to develop her psychic medium abilities, and has also trained in Beyond Quantum Healing to perform past life regressions and hypnosis techniques. Though Marisa was born and raised in Atlanta, GA, she now travels the world full time, and has lived in and visited over 60 countries while working remotely in a passionate career that she loves, serving as a medium, coach and healer.

Hello this is Nate Scott, author of Life Is Rich: How To Create Lasting Wealth, and welcome to the Life Is Rich podcast. In today’s ‘Life Is Rich” podcast, I’m going to share an interview with Dame Nicola Smith-Jackson. www.nicolasmithjackson.com DAME NICOLA Founder of PINK MILLIONAIRE CLUB , 9 Figure Business Builder| Mentor to 6 & 7 Figure Earners | Serial Entrepreneur 26 Yrs| Philanthropist| Business School Excellerated Instructor

Roman Mironov is a coach trained by a Tony Robbins' program, helping people create amazing relationships and a happy lifestyle. Go to https://romanmironov.com (https://romanmironov.com) and book a no-fee breakthrough session. Mention that you're a listener of my show and Roman'll give you a 30% discount if you hire him. Or connect with Roman through social media: ✔YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTpjfwxdtmsJ78QiPGMrsOQ/ (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTpjfwxdtmsJ78QiPGMrsOQ/) ✔Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/ (https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/) ✔Podcast - Be Version 2.0 of Yourself: http://romanmironov.libsyn.com/ (http://romanmironov.libsyn.com/) Roman Mironov Transcript https://www.mediafire.com/file/vuw1ow14tiq0gl4/Roman_Mironov_transcript.docx/file (Download) Roman Mironov SUMMARY KEYWORDS relationship, roman, people, divorce, unconditional love, talking, partner, support, baggage, boundaries, ed, watters, podcast, money, person, listen, point, important, wife, coaching SPEAKERS Ed Watters, Roman Mironov Ed Watters 00:01 Recently, I sat down with Roman Mironov. Roman is a relationship coach. And we had a very interesting conversation. During this unique conversation, you're going to hear Roman talk about unconditional love, and invisible tubes, the love language. Also, the highlight of the show for me was when Roman talked about how to turn your baggage into knowledge. This is a very interesting interview that we all need to listen to. Because we all have relationships. And sometimes, we need to listen to outside sources. And this is a wonderful source to listen to, because he's been there in the trench in that depressive time of divorce. It's unique when you can talk to somebody that has went through a divorce, because divorce is something you don't want. And Roman can help you develop skills to avoid those dark depressive times during a break up, or how to avoid them all together, you should really connect with Roman and get involved with him. Let's not waste any time and get into this interview with Roman. To overcome, you must educate. Educate not only yourself, but educate anyone seeking to learn. We are all Dead America, we can all learn something. To learn. We must challenge what we already understand. The way we do that is through conversation. Sometimes we have conversations with others. However, some of the best conversations happen with ourselves. Reach Out and challenge yourself. Let's dive in and learn something right now. And welcome today we have a great guest with us. Roman Mironov. Roman is a relationship coach, which has been trained by Tony Robbins, would you please introduce yourself? And could you let people know just a little bit about yourself and what you do Roman? Roman Mironov 03:01 Yeah. Hi, Ed. Thank you for having me today. It's a privilege. Thank you so much. So yeah, I am a relationship coach. And I had my training with a Tony Robbins program. It's called Robbins-Madanes training. And my goal in life is to help people create a happier lifestyle for themselves. And with special focus on relationships. Ed Watters 03:28 What made you get into being a relationship coach, after you went through a divorce? Roman Mironov 03:35 That's correct. So that was one big reason. I failed in my marriage, and my wife got a divorce. So I had to, I had to realize that that was a painful realization that I was I actually sucked with women. I do not understand them at all. I did not understand how to build a relationship and how to keep it going. So I went out and started dating, started creating relationships, practicing every tip that I could get my hands on. And I think I learned a lot. So I felt that now I could actually help people with this. Because I'm relatable. And I have this knowledge. There was one thing. The other thing is that I am a big fan of self improvement. And Tony... Support this podcast

This week, I had the pleasure of speaking to Roman Mironov, who is a certified relationship coach, trained by Robbins-Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins.He has also been featured in many news / media outlets. He teaches people how to succeed in a relationship by creating an ethos of respect, gratitude and effective communication. Enjoy the episode Reach out to him: https://www.romanmironov.com/ Don't forget to leave us a review on your preferred podcast platform If you have any questions, just message us on my Instagram: Vital Educators Visit www.vitaleducators.com if you are looking for a tutor/ coach Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/vitaleducators)

Roman Mironov is a certified relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training centre of Tony Robbins. Roman helps clients create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over. He teaches you how to be grateful for your partner, respect them, and communicate effectively. Contact Roman for a no-fee relationship breakthrough session through his website: https://romanmironov.com. Get a 30% discount by mentioning the entrepreneurs sushi club podcast. Social media: ✔YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTpjfwxdtmsJ78QiPGMrsOQ/ ✔Podcast: http://romanmironov.libsyn.com/ ✔Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/

Please join us our conversation today as Roman Mironov shares his journey of how he ROSE above the Toxic Shadows & turned tragedy into Triumph! This episode contains an AMAZING Story from special guest Roman Mironov who is a Relationship Coach in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. He helps people create amazing relationships. Roman was trained by Robbins-Madanes, the training program of Tony Robbins. One reason I'm enthusiastic about Tony is that I got myself out of mild depression twice by using exclusively self-improvement tools. I've been a fan of self-improvement for more than 10 years and now bring my best ideas to my clients. Last year, his lifelong dream of living in North America came true when I moved from Russia to Canada! Roman Guides: "I'm into self-discipline and subject myself to all kinds of experiments for better performance. I became a relationship coach because I want to inspire people to make their relationships the number one source of fulfillment and happiness. Among other things, I use the lessons learned from my divorce 6 years ago." *********************************************************************************************************************** Please Download to hear more on this Amazing Young Man's Journey to Healing himself by sharing his Healing with other Souls! Thank you for TUNING INTO our Broadcast! / Viewer Support is Always Appreciated to keep this Podcast Efficiently Running! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/toxicshadows/support Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/toxicshadows/message Love & Light Beautiful Souls / Jess Intuitive Angel Healer *************************************** Here is how you can reach Roman's if you resonate with his services: Contact him for a no-fee relationship breakthrough session through his website: https://romanmironov.com ✔YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTpjfwxdtmsJ78QiPGMrsOQ/ ✔Podcast: http://romanmironov.libsyn.com ✔Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/toxicshadows/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/toxicshadows/support

In this episode Robin chats with Roman Mironov about long-term relationships, the importance of self-love and what role traveling and cultural differences can play.Roman is a certified relationship coach trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins. He helps clients create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over. He teaches you how to be grateful for your partner, respect them, and communicate effectively.***Website Link: https://romanmironov.com/  

The mark of a well-lived life is the relationships you cherish! Roman Mironov is a certified relationship coach from Toronto, Canada trained by Robbins Madanes, the official training center of Tony Robbins. He helps people create amazing relationships. Roman is all about teaching insanely actionable strategies to create those beautiful moments in a relationship that you wish you could relive over and over. At the core of his teaching are frequent communication, respect, and gratitude. Listen in to learn more...

In this episode, I talk about the “Never Chase a Girl” principle. So if you’re new to dating and want a crash course, these tips are for you. Here are some of the things that I’ll go over in this episode: First, I’ll show you how to strike a balance between being masculine and not chasing a girl too much. You’ve got to hit a sweet spot here. Otherwise, you might scare a girl off by seeming too needy. Next up, you’ll learn what to do when she doesn’t respond. This is important because if you overreact, you’ll lose her forever. Finally, I’ll show you how to pass her tests. Girls test men a lot, and your success with her depends on staying calm and playful. All in all, you’ll understand the “Never Chase a Girl” principle and have solid tips for landing more dates. Enjoy! ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/never-chase-a-woman/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you want to enjoy a great relationship, book a no-fee relationship breakthrough session with me to discuss: https://romanmironov.com/ Why Am I Not Over My Ex, According to Science (Stop Doing This to Yourself) (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/why-am-i-not-over-my-ex/ The Best Way to Get Over a Breakup with Denise Zavitson (relationship advice podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/best-way-to-get-over-breakup/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe to watch videos that help you make your relationship the No 1 source of happiness in life. ►Follow me on Instagram to feel happier daily: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/ ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing relationships. ____________________________________________ About Genie Goodwin Genie Goodwin delivers innovative, impactful, life-changing strategies and was dubbed by her clients: My Relationship Genie. She is the creator of the Relationship Revolution which has revolutionized marriages, families, and companies all over the world. Genie is also the best-selling author of How to Win Her and Influence Him. She is a Certified High-Performance Coach and has been coaching and training people into their immediate breakthroughs for over 25 years. Her favorite thing to do is create breakthroughs for her clients, especially if they’ve been told nothing works! Website: https://www.myrelationshipgenie.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipgenie/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/geniegoodwinsuccesscoaching How to Win Her and Influence Him: https://www.amazon.ca/How-Win-Her-Influence-Understanding-ebook/dp/B00YM2NEXM   #Relationships #Dating #RelationshipCoaching

Are you in pain getting through a breakup? Listen to Denise Zavitson sharing practical tips that will help you recover faster. Denise Zavitson married her husband too hastily and later divorced him. And she told me her powerful lessons learned. Tune in to learn about how to find a gift in a breakup and feel better instantly. ____________________________________________ ABOUT DENISE ZAVITSON Denise is a certified Life Coach, the author of The Bountiful Garden and host of the online course, Awaken to Joy. Using her experience gained from a series of personal tragedy and loss, a six-month stay at a Buddhist community and a year-long solo retreat to a cabin on the Buffalo River in West Tennessee, Denise has found purpose and fulfillment helping others via her book, online courses, coaching, retreats and speaking engagements. Denise and her husband have four adult children, three grandchildren and live on a houseboat in Nashville, Tenn. ____________________________________________ DENISE’S RESOURCES Website: https://www.denisezavitson.com Awaken to Joy website: https://awakentojoy.com Follow her on all social media platforms: @DeniseZavitson ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/getting-through-a-breakup/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you feel pain getting through a breakup, book a free relationship breakthrough session with me to discuss: https://romanmironov.com/ Dating is Time-Consuming – 5 Tips Women Need to Stop Wasting Time (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/dating-is-time-consuming/ Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship in 2020 – 16 Tips from a Communication Expert | Podcast Ep. #39 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/maintaining-a-long-distance-relationship/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe to watch videos that help you make relationships the No 1 source of happiness in life. ►Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/ ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing and enviable relationships. ____________________________________________ OTHER LINKS: #Breakup #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipCoaching

In this podcast episode, I’m going to show you EXACTLY how to maintain a long-distance relationship. (With insanely actionable tips.) In fact, these tips help me with maintaining a long-distance relationship with my family in Russia while I’m in Canada. To make sure you get the best advice, I talked to a top communication expert Lauren Sergy. She shared a lot of practical tips that you can start using right away. Listen to her interview in this podcast or read a more detailed companion blog post: https://romanmironov.com/blog/maintaining a long-distance relationship/ _________________________________________ About Lauren Sergy Lauren Sergy is a public speaking and communication expert who specializes in maintaining a long-distance relationship, among other things. She has helped thousands of people across Canada, the US, and Europe, improve their interpersonal communication skills, empowering them to be more effective leaders and more powerful communicators. She works with a variety of clients from large corporate firms to small not-for-profits, universities, and government workers. Lauren has a Masters in Library and Information Studies and teaches business communication at the University of Alberta. She has been interviewed numerous times on TV and radio, and her book, The Handy Communication Answer Book, was named one of the Best Reference books of 2017 by Library Journal. Lauren hails from Edmonton, Alberta with her endlessly patient husband and two energetic kids. _________________________________________ Lauren’s links Website: https://laurensergy.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/speaklauren/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCACHHIl-cbPyfTH6lC2sxxQ/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lauren-sergy-03079a29/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lsergy/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurensergy/ The Handy Communication Answer Book: https://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/1578595878/ _________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you’re having trouble maintaining a long-distance relationship, book a no-fee relationship breakthrough session with me to discuss: https://romanmironov.com/ Dating is Time-Consuming – 5 Tips Women Need to Stop Wasting Time (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/dating-is-time-consuming/ 15 Actionable Examples of Unconditional Love for 2020 | Podcast Ep. #38 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/unconditional-love-examples/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe to watch videos that help you make relationships the No 1 source of happiness in life. ►Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/ ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing and enviable relationships.   #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipCoaching

You can heal any pain in your relationship with unconditional love. In fact, unconditional love helped a life coach Kajal Pandey enjoy a beautiful relationship for over 9 years. So if you want more love in your life, you’ll love Kajal’s insights and actionable tips. ____________________________________________ ABOUT KAJAL PANDEY Kajal is a certified transformational life coach who is passionate about people! She guides you through the process of transformation to becoming your most empowered, aligned and free self. She works with clients all over the world and from all walks of life. ____________________________________________ KAJAL'S LINKS Website: http://www.kajalpandey.com/ Book a coaching session: http://www.kajalpandey.com/coaching/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/dearkajal/ Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/kajalspandey/ Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/kajalspandey/ Facebook Community, True Self Tribe: https://www.facebook.com/groups/trueselftribe/ ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/unconditional-love-examples/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you’re going through pain in your relationship, book a free relationship breakthrough session with me to discuss: https://romanmironov.com/ Why Am I Not Over My Ex, According to Science (Stop Doing This to Yourself) (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/why-am-i-not-over-my-ex/ How to Deal with Tough Times (3 Tips from a Bestselling Author) | Podcast Ep. #37 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/deal-with-tough-times/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe to watch videos that help you make relationships the No. 1 source of happiness in life. ►Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/ ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing and enviable relationships. ____________________________________________ OTHER LINKS: #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipCoaching

Here's an inspiring story of someone who knows how to deal with tough times. Marc Reklau is a bestselling author of 30 Days - Change your habits, change your life. He lived on welfare while writing his first book and knows how to get through the darkest periods. Here are his lessons learned that will inspire you to stay strong in tough times. Dealing with tough times as a teenager One of Marc Reklau's most difficult periods was from 14 to 16 years. First, he had problems with his father. And then his parents divorced and his father died. Those were tough times but dealing with them shaped him as a person. 30 years later, Marc says he's grateful for that period because it made him the person he is today. Jobless after college When Marc graduated from university in 2002, there was a huge crisis in his home country, Germany. And he was jobless right out of college. That was quite unexpected because his university was so great. Everyone used to graduate from it with a job contract. And suddenly, most graduates were jobless. Those were difficult times when his friends pitied him. But this experience turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Marc decided to look for a job in Barcelona, one of the most beautiful cities in Europe. After 9 months, he got a job there. Suddenly, he was working in one of the greatest cities with a beach and a perfect climate. And now his friends went from to pitying to envying him. Jobless again in 2013 In 2013, Marc got fired after working 11 years for his company. He felt down but at that point, he already knew how to use reframing in tough times. So, he took his negative self-talk such as: I'm jobless, I'm jobless, I'm jobless And he turned negative into positive: Not having a job gives me time to think about what I want to do in life. This helped him look at the situation from a different perspective. To deal with these tough times, he set goals and created an action plan to accomplish them. From hopeless to breakthrough One of his goals was to write a book. That's how he created his future bestseller 30 Days. But after he had published it in August 2014, nothing happened for a long time. In the meantime, he was living on his savings and jobless welfare of $850. Finally, in March 2015, his breakthrough came. He got a promotion on Amazon. The book reached 40,000 downloads in a couple of days. About Marc Marc Reklau is the author of 10 books including the international #1 Bestseller 30 Days - Change your habits, change your life, which since April 2015 has been sold and downloaded over 200,000 times and has been translated into 15+ languages including Spanish, German, Japanese, Russian, Thai, Indonesian, Chinese, Portuguese and Korean. He wrote the book in 2014 after being fired from his job and went from jobless to bestseller (which is the title of his second book) and from living on 850$ of jobless welfare to living the life of his dreams. Marc's mission is to empower people to create the life they want. He teaches how to develop habits, productivity, and happiness that help deal with tough times. His message is simple: Many people want to change things in their lives but few are willing to do a simple set of exercises. You can plan and create success and happiness in your life by developing habits that support you on the way to your goals. Marc's links Website: https://www.marcreklau.com/ Good Habits Academy: https://goodhabitsacademy.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marcreklau/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarcReklau/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marcreklaucoaching/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcreklau/ ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/deal-with-tough-times/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you’re going through pain in your relationship, book a free relationship breakthrough session with me to discuss: https://romanmironov.com/ How Do I Make My Wife Happy? (7 Tips to Knock Her Socks Off Again) (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-do-i-make-my-wife-happy/ Can You Get Motivation for Success When You Have None? (Inspiring Interview) | Podcast Ep. #34 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-motivation-leads-to-success/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe to watch videos that help you make relationships the No 1 source of happiness in life. ►Let’s connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/be20ofyourself/ ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing and enviable relationships. ____________________________________________ OTHER LINKS: #SelfHelp #Motivation #LifeCoaching

Does finding your purpose in life seem too challenging to you? You might have a lot of ambition but you don't know where to apply it. Tune in to learn actionable tips from Tomas Svitorka about finding what you’re passionate about. Tomas is a successful life coach who helps people realize their full potential. If you do what he says, you'll find your life purpose. ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/finding-your-purpose-in-life/ ____________________________________________ TOMAS’ LINKS: Tomas’ website: https://tomassvitorka.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomassvitorka/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tomassvitorka/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tomas.svitorka/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/tomassvitorka/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomasSvitorka/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you’re going through pain in your relationship, book a free relationship breakthrough session with me to discuss: https://romanmironov.com/ How Do I Make My Wife Happy? (7 Tips to Knock Her Socks Off Again) (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-do-i-make-my-wife-happy/ The Beginner’s Guide to Leaving Comfort Zone in 2020 | Podcast Ep. #35 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/leaving-comfort-zone/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing and enviable relationships. #LifePurpose #OkIsNotEnough #LifeCoaching

Do you dream of leaving comfort zone? Want to understand why you’re stuck in average and how to motivate yourself? Tune in to listen to Tomas Svitorka and get motivated right now. Tomas is an amazing life coach on a mission to help people leave their comfort zone. And his message is surprising: it doesn’t require hard work at all. ____________________________________________ TOMAS’ LINKS: Tomas’ website: https://tomassvitorka.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomassvitorka/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tomassvitorka/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tomas.svitorka/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/tomassvitorka/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TomasSvitorka/ ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/leaving-comfort-zone/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you’re going through pain in your relationship, book a free relationship breakthrough session with me to discuss: https://romanmironov.com/ How Do I Make My Wife Happy? (7 Tips to Knock Her Socks Off Again) (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-do-i-make-my-wife-happy/ Can You Get Motivation for Success When You Have None? (Inspiring Interview) | Podcast Ep. #34 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-motivation-leads-to-success/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing and enviable relationships. ____________________________________________   #ComfortZone #SelfHelp #TomasSvitorka

Do you want to go from lazy to motivated and ultimately successful? Learn how Tomas Svitorka found a source of endless motivation. Tomas is an inspirational life coach who knows everything about success. Listen to his interview and do what he did to become just as successful as he is. ____________________________________________ TOMAS’ LINKS: Tomas’ website: https://tomassvitorka.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomassvitorka/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tomassvitorka/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tomas.svitorka/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/tomassvitorka/ ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-motivation-leads-to-success/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need relationship advice, I’m here to help. I’m a relationship coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ When Relationships End – 4 Tips That Ease the Pain of a Breakup (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/when-relationships-end/ One Meal a Day Results – I Survived 3 Months on OMAD Diet! | Podcast Ep. #33 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/one-meal-a-day-results/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I’m a relationship coach trained by Robbins-Madanes, helping clients create amazing and enviable relationships. #LifeCoach #SelfHelp #TomasSvitorka

Here are my "One Meal a Day" results. I've tried the OMAD diet for three months. Today, I'll break down my experiences to help you decide if you can benefit from it. In the end, I'll share one best thing and one worst thing about it. ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/one-meal-a-day-results/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need relationship advice, I’m here to help. I’m a relationship coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ Saving a Marriage – My Best Tip for Turning a Failing Marriage Around (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/saving-a-marriage/ How to Make a Guy Want You More – 3 Ways to Melt Him with Words | Podcast Ep. #25 (relationship advice podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-make-a-guy-want-you-more/ How Do I Stop Yelling – The Definitive Guide (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-do-i-stop-yelling/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ OTHER LINKS: #Omad #OmadWeightLoss #LifeCoaching

One of my best reframing examples is how I reframed fatigue as a way to build resilience. Last year, I overexercised myself and felt fatigued. Even trivial tasks such as climbing the stairs became difficult. But I kept telling this to myself: I'm strengthening patience and all these challenges will seem easier when my fatigue goes away. This reframing helped me change how I felt. Here's how you can use reframing to love your challenges instead of hating them. Neuro-associative conditioning Before we get started, let's look at the theory behind reframing. Reframing is part of neuro-associative conditioning (NAC). It's a critical tool for managing our behavior and how we feel. The creator of NAC Tony Robbins said: When we take control of NAC, we take control of our lives. NAC relies on associating pain and pleasure with what we want and don't want, respectively. More specifically, reframing is replacing negative beliefs with positive ones by: Linking pleasure to new, positive beliefs. Linking pain to old, negative beliefs. With this tool, we can replace any beliefs that don't serve us anymore. Here are examples of reframes I used to shape how I feel about challenges. ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/reframing-examples/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need relationship advice, I’m here to help. I’m a relationship coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ How to Resolve Conflict in a Relationship (In Just 2 Steps) (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-resolve-conflict-in-a-relationship/ How to Make Him Obsess over You – Do This 1 Thing for FAST Results | Podcast Ep. #28 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-make-him-obsess-over-you/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ OTHER LINKS: Question for an expert comment #Motivation #LifeCoaching #SelfHelp

First, understand why you yell. You want to feel significant, or respected. Yelling gives you that because it makes the other person pay attention to you immediately. So why not get that feeling of significance in a more positive way. If you yell at your spouse to feel heard, how about engaging them in a deep conversation instead? One that will lead to both you being 100% heard out. Second, think of your emotional bank account. I love this metaphor by Stephen Covey. You have this bank account with all people in your circle. Whenever you do something positive for them, you make a deposit. When you do something negative, including yelling, you make a withdrawal. If you yell too much, you’ll deplete the account quickly. This often means irreparable damage to the relationship. Third, think about how unproductive yelling is. Instead of resolving a problem, yelling only exacerbates it. You focus not on the problem but on what’s wrong with the other person. You remember your resentments from the past, triggering a negative state where problem solving is impossible. Fourth, yelling causes stress. By yelling, you make your loved ones suffer. You hurt them, often hurting them in a way they’ll never forget. And what’s worse, this stress creates a pathway for disease in their bodies. According to CDC, 90% of all disease is stress-induced. Dig this: yelling equals stress and stress equals disease. That said, use the pain and pleasure principle to stop yelling. Think of ways to punish yourself for yelling. For example, you might bake a cake and deliver it to a food shelter, even it means staying up for three hours into the night. And also think of ways to reward yourself for not yelling. For example, buy something that you always wanted. By doing this, you’ll rewire how you feel about yelling. The next time you feel like yelling, you’ll go, “No way am I doing this because yelling is pain while not yelling is joy.” ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-do-i-stop-yelling/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need relationship advice, I’m here to help. I’m a relationship coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ Never Chase a Woman? (I Didn’t… and Lost Her) (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/never-chase-a-woman/ Law of Attraction Success Stories – Martin Eden and Maria | Podcast Ep. #24 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/law-of-attraction-success-stories/ The Power of Neuro-Associative Conditioning (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/neuro-associative-conditioning/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ OTHER LINKS: Tony Robbins: https://www.tonyrobbins.com/ Stephen Covey: https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits.html Dave Turpen: http://dtlifecoach.com/ Karina Grant: https://www.karinagrant.co.uk/ #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipCoaching

I  worked hard in my first business. But I never knew how to work smart, not hard. I did well financially but still, I didn’t work smart enough. Today, I’ll explain how to increase output without breaking your back. My story of working hard In 2005, I created my first business: a Russian translation agency. I would wake up early, walk the dog, kiss my wife and son, and go to work at 5 am. And I would return around 9 pm. When I had urgent translation projects, I would sit translating for 18 hours straight. No rest. Just quick unhealthy snacks. On average, I worked about 90 hours per week for about 14 years. With this hard work came two results. Result 1 I felt happy, probably at a level 8 out of 10. I loved what I was doing because I’m passionate about languages and translation. And as a workaholic, hard work made me happy. Result 2 I built a solid business employing several people. And I was doing pretty well financially. Arnold Schwarzenegger wrote: “I’m a great believer in hard work, grinding it out, and not stopping till it’s done.” Realization 1: I worked hard but not smart enough Yet, here comes the big “BUT.” I worked hard all right, but did I work smart? Say, I had a press release to translate. And at the same time, I had to work on participating in an upcoming translation conference. And I would always choose to translate the press release, even though I could delegate it to a colleague. As a result, I was missing out on opportunities for marketing and growing my business that the conference presented. A life coach Pam Blanchard said: “Working hard has little importance unless there’s value in the work that you’re doing. Anything we do hard in our life should fuel us, not deplete us.” Realization 2: “Get rich quick” mindset Still, there is a second big “BUT” on top of the first one. Yes, I should’ve worked smarter. BUT it doesn’t mean that I should’ve not worked hard. People tend to misinterpret this principle. They believe smart work is more important than hard work. They see other people get rich quickly and it looks like a result of smart work alone. Like writing a hit song. But what they don’t see is years of hard work that came before writing that one song. How to work smart, not just hard Hoping to succeed by working smart and avoiding hard work is a bad idea. It devalues hard work. But working hard without thinking is just as bad. See, they are both important. And we need to hit the sweet spot. To do so, we can discuss our strategy with a devil’s advocate—as a sanity check: a parent a friend a mentor a coach an accountability partner   In my example, they would’ve told me to invest hard work into growing the business. That’s how I could’ve gone from 8 points to 10 points on the happiness scale. Actionable tips My first tip is to work smart, not just hard: have the right strategy for your business. Second, make regular appointments with a mentor to review your strategy. Break through your barriers If you need help understanding how to work smart, not hard, check out my life coaching services. You will increase performance at work while also enjoying your leisure time more. My website is www.romanmironov.com. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need relationship advice, I’m here to help. I’m a relationship coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ Why Am I So Fearful of the Future (Plus Must-Use Method to Stop Fear) (self- help video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/why-am-i-so-fearful-of-the-future/ Coping with Loneliness – 4 Lessons My Loneliest Day Taught Me | Podcast Ep. #22 (self-improvement podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/coping-with-loneliness/ I Am Miserable – How to Stop Feeling Miserable in 5 Minutes or Less (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/i-am-miserable/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ LINKS I'VE MENTIONED: Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Autobiography Total Recall: https://books.google.ca/books?id=qYijfgz4acgC&pg Life coach Pam Blanchard: http://www.newlifecoachingbypam.com/ #Workaholism #SelfHelp #LifeCoaching

Quiero compartirte el gran momento que pasé conversando con Rafael Candas. Carlos tiene 16 Trabajando en la América corporativa con mas de 10 promociones en diferentes empresas. Él es Life coach de Robbins Madanes academy y  Promotor de la diversidad social y de mejores estrategias de vida. Este día Rafael Candas nos comparte sus estrategias principales para incrementar tu audiencia como todo un estratega de vida. Si gustas adquirir la descripcion de las 6 necesidades humanas que Rafael te promete, mándame un email a trigal.family@gmail.com y con gusto te proporciono lo prometido. Si quieres encontrar a Rafael búscalo en redes sociales como Rafael Candas y síguelo en su página https://candascoaching.com/ Un placer haber estado contigo hoy y si te llevas algo de valor de este podcast.... comment and review please! A mi puedes encontrarme en FB o IG solo busca a la única e inigualable Anahi Trigueros

I will never be happy. If that’s your mantra, you need to meet Mr. Butler. He’s a character in a novel Martin Eden by Jack London. He ended up realizing, “I sacrificed everything for money and now I will never be happy.” Today, I’m going to break down his mistakes to help you become happier. Butler’s story Charles Butler went to work at a young age. He worked in the daytime and studied at night.  He began as an office boy at a law firm and quickly progressed to a clerk and then junior partner. He was ambitious. Butler denied himself any enjoyment in life and saved money. Soon, he was rich. He reached his goal but was he happy? Mistake 1: He sacrificed happiness for his goal “Layin' up money, workin' all day an' studyin' all night, just workin' an' never playin', never havin' a good time, an' never learnin' how to have a good time--of course his thirty thousand came along too late.” Butler wired himself to be happy only when he got his goal. And in the process of getting there, he lost something important: his ability to enjoy life. “An' I bet that he's solemn an' serious as an old owl, an' doesn't care a rap for a good time, for all his thirty thousand a year.” He thought money would make him happy and felt jealous of rich people. But then he got rich and felt jealous of happy people. “An' I'll bet he's not particularly joyful at seein' others have a good time.” Mistake 2: He focused on making money “He could not find an adequate motive in Butler's life of pinching and privation. Had he done it for love of a woman, or for attainment of beauty, Martin would have understood.” Butler made a false assumption that money would make him happy. And he failed miserably. Money does provide comfort but not necessarily happiness. He should’ve focused on being happy rather than making money. Focusing on doing what he loved and service to other people. Then he would’ve been happy. And he would’ve also made money because he would’ve been naturally good at doing what he loved. Mistake 3: He ruined his health Butler’s dyspepsia is a perfect metaphor for how we already have what we need to be happy. He had his health and ability to enjoy life but thought that wasn’t enough. And when he got rich, he couldn’t enjoy it because of dyspepsia. At that point, he realized that he should’ve been happy when he still had had his health. Mistake 4: He was stingy Butler was too economical. And he pushed himself into a scarcity mindset. He held onto his money even when he became rich. What’s the point of being rich if he wired himself not to be able to spend it? Mistake 5: He missed his golden years “Why, thirty thousand, lump sum, wouldn't buy for him right now what ten cents he was layin' up would have bought him, when he was a kid, in the way of candy an' peanuts.” Kids can be 100% present in the now wherein lies our happiness. Butler didn’t make use of those golden years. He never learned to be playful in life. He taught himself to be serious. And that’s a state that makes it hard to be happy. One actionable tip "I feel sorry for Butler. He was too young to know better, but he robbed himself of life for the sake of thirty thousand a year that's clean wasted upon him.” Don’t be Mr. Butler so that you end up saying, “I will never be happy.” Be Martin Eden. He pursued his passion and loved passionately. He had fun all the time. He enjoyed his money by spending it and giving away happily. A life coach Tomas Svitorka said: “20s should be years of experimenting and exploring what you love and what you want in life. As soon as you find it, buckle down and pursue it with all you have. With that said, don’t miss out on life entirely. There are things you won’t be able to do later. Always pursue fulfilment.” Break through your barriers If you need help being happier, check out my life coaching services. My website is www.romanmironov.com. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help achieving happiness in your life, I’m here to help. I’m a relationship coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ Why It Is Hard to Ask for Help – 3 Principles to Get Better at Asking Fast (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/why-it-is-hard-to-ask-for-help/ My Child is Lazy and Unmotivated – 4 Principles to Bring Out the Best in Them | Ep. #21 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/my-child-is-lazy-and-unmotivated/ The Top 10 Blogs of Life Coaches in Toronto (a review of personal development blogs): https://romanmironov.com/blog/best-life-coach-toronto-blogs/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships.   #lifecoaching #lifecoach #happiness

Here’s how to make him obsess over you. You might think it’s difficult but knocking your boyfriend’s or husband’s sock off is easier as long as you use this one tool. Get inspired by the story about one of the best presents that my girlfriend gave me. And learn to use this tool that will change your relationship forever. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help rekindling your relationship, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back – 3 Principles Shown on a Girl (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-get-your-ex-girlfriend-back/ How to Improve Organizational Skills (One Amazing Tactic for Minor Tasks) | Ep. #20 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-improve-organizational-skills-one-amazing-tactic-for-minor-tasks-ep-20/ I Am Miserable – How to Stop Feeling Miserable in 5 Minutes or Less (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/i-am-miserable/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ LINKS I’VE MENTIONED: https://www.tonyrobbins.com/podcasts/why-we-do-what-we-do/ Do you agree that as a woman, knowing and meeting your man’s needs is one of the best ways to make him loyal? #RelationshipAdvice #Relationships #RelationshipCoach

I destroyed my marriage when I was 31. I thought living alone would make me happier. But I found I was wrong. Here are lessons learned to show you how to prevent divorce. Reason 1: The problem is usually me My divorce story When I got a divorce, we had been together with my wife for 11 years. We were financially stable. We had a great son and she was a good mother. We had had a lot of great experiences together. And still, I felt miserable because I wasn’t getting enough out of the relationship. For example, I wanted us to grow together but she didn’t care about personal development as I did. Unjustified perfectionism When it comes to our spouses, we are perfectionists and expect them not to have any flaws. How realistic is that? It’s like they are a huge beautiful world but we choose to focus on one piece of dirt and miss all the beauty that’s out there. There’s always going to be something not to like about our spouse. It was my problem really Stephen Covey famously said: “If you think that the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem.” The real problem was my scarcity mindset. I took what was good about my wife for granted and focused on one thing I didn’t like. Unconditional love Instead of blaming my wife for making me unhappy, I should’ve changed myself. Jim Rohn said it best: “For things to change, you have to change.” I needed to accept her as she was. That’s how you stop fighting over your  “problems.” If you get a divorce, you will carry the problem—which is really yourself—right into the next relationship. And it will likely blow up just like this one. Reason 2: Sunk costs See, after 11 years together, there were a lot of sunk costs. Even if it wasn’t perfect, our family was a system that took time and energy to build. And destroying that system meant all that would go to waste. How will our son feel? That’s a huge trauma to our son’s that can lead to developing mental issues. How do I find a new partner? I thought it would be easy to find someone better than my wife. But that’s not the case. Now that I’m older, I’m picky. And I don’t meet enough new people which means fewer opportunities to meet a partner. The next question is finances. We had a small financial system running smoothly. And suddenly, we had to break it, split everything between the two of us, and create our separate systems. Reason 3: I wasn’t better off alone as I had thought I’d be That’s what I had expected from my divorce but I realized I was wrong. It felt okay to be alone and self-sufficient but I wasn’t living up to my full potential. We all have a fundamental need for love and connection. Tony Robbins said: “When you get to the top of the success mountain by yourself, you might want to jump off.” I love my experiences but sharing them with an intimate partner magnifies them. My spouse was the perfect person for that. We were a unit: we had our son to take care of, we lived together and shared everything, we had common goals. We also had many memories. Nurturing this kind of bond makes a difference in the quality of our life. One actionable tip If you want to save your marriage, do marriage counseling with a coach who will fight for your marriage. If that’s not an option for you, here is something you can do on your own. Create a list of things that you like about your spouse. Focus on these positive things all the time, especially when you have a negative thought about him or her. For example, I’d have focused on how responsible and organized my ex-wife was. We used to run a business together and she was one of the best managers that I’ve ever known. Focusing on the positive will rewire how you think about your spouse. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need relationship advice, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ Counseling Before Marriage – A Sad Story To Watch Before Engagement (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/counseling-before-marriage/ My Child is Lazy and Unmotivated – 4 Principles to Bring Out the Best in Them | Ep. #21 (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/my-child-is-lazy-and-unmotivated/ I Am Miserable – How to Stop Feeling Miserable in 5 Minutes or Less (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/i-am-miserable/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ LINKS I'VE MENTIONED: Jim Rohn: https://www.jimrohn.com Tony Robbins: https://www.tonyrobbins.com Stephen Covey: https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits.html #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy #RelationshipCoach

In this podcast episode, you’ll learn 3 principles to get your man to miss you. Principle #1: being a well-rounded woman is attractive to men. Principle #2: spending time apart gives him space to miss you. Principle #3: doing unexpected things makes your relationship exciting. Tune in to learn how to make your boyfriend miss you. ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-make-a-man-miss-you/ __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help making your boyfriend miss you, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ How to Please a Man in Bed – 4 Symbols to Help You Get Insanely Better at Sex (self-help video):  https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-please-a-man-in-bed/ What to Expect from Couples Counseling (I Wish I’d Known This Before My Divorce) | Ep. #19 (self-improvement podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/what-to-expect-from-couples-counseling/ The Top 10 Blogs of Life Coaches in Toronto (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/best-life-coach-toronto-blogs/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. #Relationships #Love #LifeCoaching

How about a deeper relationship and more intimacy with your man? Do you want to feel more love and connection between you? Tune in to hear about 3 communication skills that help you make a guy want you more. Before we dive in, I want to caution you to be genuine. You don’t want to come across as dishonest or let your man have illusions. Skill 1: Praise to build significance Example: a girlfriend told me once that I was ripped. I felt significant and associated that pleasant feeling with the girl. And I fell more for her. Her praise also reinforced my desire to stay ripped. It was a recognition of the progress I’ve made. Further tips Know what your man is proud of and compliment him on that even if you don’t think that’s a big deal. What matters is how important it is to him. Your man needs more praise from you if he doesn’t get significance from other sources such as his work. Because most people don’t praise enough, you might want to “overdo” it a little bit. This is when you’ll likely hit the sweet spot. Further examples “I just love how you made this decision quickly and confidently.” “Thank you for hanging the blinders in our bedroom.” “I love how you get up at 5 am. I wish I were as disciplined as you.” Skill 2: Stand out to make a guy want you more Example: I approached a group of men and women once and asked if I could talk to one of the women because I liked her. One of the women said I was so brave to do that. And I still remember that. Things like that stand and make your man feel appreciated and want you more as a result. Focus on these aspects of what you say: Specific Be as specific as possible with your compliments or praise to make a guy want you more. Being too general might come across as a sign of insincerity or flattery. When my emotional intelligence was low, I’d give general compliments to people. For example, I’d tell my university professor how great she was out of the blue. Now I realize I was insincere but back then, I didn’t know any better. Another reason to be specific is to avoid saying what the other person heard many times before. When you meet his parents, don’t say, “I like your mother”. Say instead: “Your mom has incredible attention to detail. I loved how she had arranged the dinner table.” Thoughtful Most people are so preoccupied with themselves that they either don’t acknowledge what you’re saying or say something too general. It’s similar to liking him on social media. It doesn’t mean anything. People crave meaningful and specific comments that add depth to the relationship. Say things that show you are paying attention. Suppose your man is playing a soccer game. Come watch him and say: “I loved how you ran back to defend your net while others just stood watching.” Creative Another way to stand out with what you say is to be creative. There was this girl who liked me and wrote a poem to me. I didn’t like her but I did appreciate her creativity. And I still remember that. Because hardly anyone takes the time to be creative, the effect of creativity is so powerful. Example: When your man comes back from a trip, sing him a 4-line song about how much you missed him. Skill 3: Be intimate Example: You can refer to your man’s body as yours. He: “My hands are cold”. You: “These are actually my hands. And let me make them warm.” True appreciation Most relationship problems arise from differences that couples have. If you can communicate that you choose to appreciate those differences, that’s extremely intimate. It shows true care without judgment and is the ultimate expression of love. Suppose, you don’t like that your man watches sports. But you sit down to watch a game with him and ask a lot of questions anyway. Intimacy itself Say something that creates the feeling that the two of you are one. Men might seem less romantic but we love intimate things, too. Example: Compliment him on what he does to you sexually: “I’ve been thinking about what you did to me last night.” Say more things that create intimacy because we don’t voice them enough in our busy everyday lives. When you say that, make sure you feel it in your body. Ideally, it should give you goosebumps. One actionable tip Say something that you learned from this episode to your man today. Make sure it has one of these characteristics: praise, stand out, be intimate. And really feel it in you so that your man hears not just the words but also your emotion. If you need help making your man want you more, check out my life coaching services. My website is www.romanmironov.com. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help with relationships, I’m here to help. I’m a relationship coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ 5 Characteristics of a Narcissist You Must Develop (The Real Secret to Their Self-Confidence) (self-help video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/characteristics-of-a-narcissist/ Dealing with Depression Naturally – Feel Better FAST Without Medication | Ep. #18 (self-improvement podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/dealing-with-depression-naturally/ Life Coaching in Toronto – Opportunities to Help You Bring About Change (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/life-coaching-toronto/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ COMPANION BLOG POST: https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-make-a-guy-want-you-more #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #RelationshipCoach

Here’s one of my favorite law of attraction success stories. When I feel down, that’s my go-to source of motivation. It helps me get back on track with visualizing and manifesting. Don’t miss this quick tip to motivate you immediately. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help using the law of attraction, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ Is NoFap Worth It? (After I’ve Been on NoFap for 6 Years) (self-help video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/is-nofap-worth-it/ 4 Open Relationships Stories | Is an Open Relationship Bad? (relationships podcast): https://romanmironov.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=1241&action=edit My Interview for The Gratitude Podcast: Moving to Ontario and Helping People as a Life Coach (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/life-coach-ontario-interview/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ LINKS I'VE MENTIONED: Download the audiobook: https://librivox.org/martin-eden-by-jack-london/ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Eden http://london.sonoma.edu/Writings/MartinEden/chapter25.html http://london.sonoma.edu/Writings/MartinEden/chapter43.html #LawOfAttraction #Manifest #LifeCoaching

What happy people know is that they can control their emotions. If they feel down, they make themselves feel better instantly. Here’s their 3-step method that you can benefit from right away. ___ Here is the ultimate question that we need to answer to understand what happiness is about: Do circumstances make us happy or do we choose to be happy? Happy or depressed? It’s a choice One good example is Owen Cook, a self-improvement and dating guru also known as Tyler. When he started years ago, he wanted success so much that he decided to allow himself to be happy only after he got successful. He pushed for results and felt miserable. In the mid-2000s, his training business took off. He was able to enjoy his dream lifestyle. He went to live in a beautiful apartment overlooking the ocean in Hawaii with a beautiful girlfriend. He went to five-star dinners every day. He traveled a lot. How do you think he felt? He was still as miserable as before. Even though he had everything, his subconscious mind focused on something that he didn’t have such as even more money. Our brain is a survival tool  that is hundreds of thousands years old . It always finds something that we don’t have and focuses on it. It goes, “Danger, danger” to ensure our survival. To be happier, we need to retrain it to be more reasonable. What happy people know is that they can use Tony Robbins’ Triad for that. Step 1: Changing physiology The first step of the Triad is changing my physiology. When I feel great, I notice that my back is straight, I smile, and I breathe deeply. The feeling causes this physiology . But it also works the other way round. When I recreate this physiology, it triggers the feeling. Wayne Dyer told Tony Robbins in an interview that he had spent 30 minutes laughing with his son before the interview. When he did this, his physiology changed and his mind followed quickly. I tried it with my son and it worked like magic. Last year, we were taking a walk in Oslo, Sweden. He saw a moving light that was coming from a theater and started following and dancing in that light . He was having such a great time that I got jealous. But then I thought, “Wait a second, I can do that too!” I joined him and this dancing changed how I felt.`` Step 2: Focusing on the positive The second part of the Triad is our mental focus. I had a mild depression years ago. Sometimes, I would start feeling better. And then I would think, “Wait, am I feeling happy? No, I can’t allow myself to do that.” And I went back to focusing on depression. When I change my mental focus, I feel better. Continuing with kids as a role model, I remember how I could play with a toy for hours as a kid. My mental focus was on the toy 100% and I forgot about everything else including negative things such as being hungry or wanting to pee. Today, I emulate my younger self. I focus on what I am doing and let it consume me instead of thinking of negative stuff. Step 3: Using uplifting language The third part of the Triad is using uplifting language. It’s not just what we think that makes us unhappy, but also the specific language we use. When I was depressed, I used to say to myself that everything felt like an uphill battle . Waking up, taking my dog for a walk, making breakfast, going to work—everything. And I kept playing these words over and over in my mind: “Uphill battle, uphill battle, uphill battle.” This language only reinforced depression. What I should’ve done was replacing that language with a more positive mantra. Continuing with kids as a role model, I could’ve said “Water slide” instead. And I would’ve felt like a kid who is happy going down a water slide. Actionable tip This is what happy people know. By changing our physiology, mental focus, and language, we change our emotional state. Kids know how to be happy unconsciously. Be around them and model them for fast results. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need relationship advice, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ Counseling Before Marriage – A Sad Story To Watch Before Engagement (relationship advice video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/counseling-before-marriage/ My Child is Lazy and Unmotivated – 4 Principles to Bring Out the Best in Them | Ep. #21  (self-help podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/my-child-is-lazy-and-unmotivated/ I Am Miserable – How to Stop Feeling Miserable in 5 Minutes or Less (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/i-am-miserable/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients strengthen their relationships. ____________________________________________ LINKS I'VE MENTIONED: Wayne Dyer’s interview with Tony Robbins: https://youtu.be/JBYO4M_c9UY Tony Robbins’ Emotional Triad: https://www.tonyrobbins.com/stories/unleash-the-power/discover-your-peak-state/ How do some people manage to be happy even when life deals them lemons? #Happiness #Emotions #LifeCoach

This podcast episode explains how to improve organizational skills by mastering less important tasks. We need to spend most of our time on important tasks such as building our business or spending quality time with family. And as soon as we get momentum with these important tasks, it’s easy to forget about the smaller ones. For example, I tend to ignore them in the hope that they will solve on their own or become unnecessary. But what I’ve realized recently is that with some smaller tasks, ignoring them altogether doesn’t work. Oftentimes, they have an impact on the quality of my future work. Not doing them means I’ll be able to produce a lower quality of work or do less work. It might also mean wasted time and money. Join me as I sit down to discuss how I improved my organizational skills around those minor tasks. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help developing your organizational skills, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto and will be happy to have a free coaching session with you. Contact me through https://romanmironov.com/ How to Wake Up Effortlessly Every Morning (self-help video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/best-tip-to-wake-up-early-in-the-morning/ Transformational Coach (self-improvement podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/what-does-a-life-coach-do-5-truly-transformational-benefits-ep-14/ This is How You Avoid Marriage Counseling (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/marriage-counseling/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly inspirational videos that present self-help tips in bite-sized chunks. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients with wellbeing, feeling more confident, full of energy, getting into their best shape, enjoying relationship, and raising star kids. ____________________________________________ LINKS I'VE MENTIONED: 7 Habits of Highly-Effective People by Stephen Covey: https://books.google.ca/books?id=upUxaNWSaRIC #RomanMironov #OrganizationalSkills #SelfHelp

I made a podcast episode about what to expect from couples counseling because I believe in its power so much. It doesn't take much to improve a relationship really. The problem is that the two people are stuck in thinking that the relationship is just not working. And they don't feel this love for each other anymore. All they need are two things: Bring in a life coach to counsel them as a couple or separately. Their life coach must understand and believe that love as a feeling is a result of love as an action. That's it! So even if you think your relationship is doomed. Even if you have already packed your things. Even if you have already discussed who the kids will live with after separation. You can still turn it around. Join me as I explain how counseling can change couples in a beautiful way. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help resolving any relationship problems, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto and will be happy to have a free coaching session with you. Contact me through https://romanmironov.com/ Children Won't Leave Home in Their Thirties? (self-help video): https://youtu.be/s73ji08u6iE Self-Esteem Coach in Toronto (self-improvement podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/3-ways-to-build-confidence-as-you-age-they-work-in-my-self-esteem-coach-practice-ep-13/ Life Coaching – 5 Inspiring Stories of Change (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/toronto-life-coach/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients overcome life issues such as depression, lack of confidence, lack of energy, excessive weight, relationship problems, and issues with kids. ____________________________________________ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST: Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits.html Ken Fierheller, a Calgary psychotherapist: https://kenscoachingandtherapy.com/2018/2/6/5-things-you-learn-relationship-counseling/ #CouplesTherapy #SelfHelp #RomanMironov

There are three major ways for dealing with depression naturally. First, I can resolve the underlying problem. If I am depressed because I don’t have work, I need to start working. Second, I can make changes to my diet, exercise, and mental practices such as meditation or mindfulness. if I am depressed because I don’t have enough energy, I can try making changes to my diet and exercise. And the third method is working directly on the negative emotion that I feel. I discuss this method in this video. My suggestion is to replace this negative emotion with a positive one. When I feel depressed, I remind myself of a moment when I felt elated. I make sure to replay it in my mind in as much detail as possible. The more senses I can engage, the better. Because our mind can focus on one thing at a time, this positive emotion replaces the negative one. And I feel great instantly. Then I maintain this positive emotion as long as possible by reminding myself of it whenever my depression tries to creep back in. When the effect wears off, I can replay the moment all over again to reinforce the effect. I found that as I practiced shifting my focus from negative to positive emotions, I got better at this. I programmed my mind to replace those depressive thoughts with positive ones and it happens almost automatically now. I encourage you to try it today. It might find it to be one of the best natural cures for depression for you. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help dealing with depression naturally, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto and will be happy to do a free coaching session with you to see what your needs are. Contact me through https://romanmironov.com/ How to Get Rid of Fear | Simple Reframe That Wipes Out Fear (self-help video): https://youtu.be/kt8MgB_kSJA Life Coach for Kids: Is It Really That Crazy as It Sounds? | Ep. #12 (self-improvement podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/life-coach-for-kids-is-it-really-that-crazy-as-it-sounds-ep-12/ My Best Advice as Confidence Coach Toronto | Achieve 95 Confidence Level (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/confidence-coach-toronto/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that show you natural ways to help depression. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients overcome life issues such as depression, lack of confidence, lack of energy, excessive weight, relationship problems, and issues with kids. ____________________________________________ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS PODCAST: Tony Robbins talks about the Triad: https://www.tonyrobbins.com/stories/unleash-the-power/discover-your-peak-state/ Tim Matthews, The Powerful Man: https://www.thepowerfulman.com/podcast/why-we-fight-for-our-excuses-&-how-to-stop-it/ #Depressed #RomanMironov #LifeCoach

Let me tell you 4 open relationships stories that make you think about whether this is something you want in your life. The first story is about a husband who enters a polygamous sect. In the next story, the husband develops a sexual relationship with a female friend. The third story is about a wife who realizes she is polyamorous and wants to explore her sexuality in new ways. In the last story, a couple opens up their marriage to new sexual partners. The experience of these couples show that an open relationship only works when both partners genuinely agree to it. But if one of the partners is not supportive of the idea, it’s just a matter of time when they say, “I can’t really stand it.” Another recurrent idea is that having good communication, transparency, and a set of rules are all beneficial to a viable open relationship. Tune in to listen to these stories see whether a relationship like this could work for you. __________________________________________ HELP AND LINKS: If you need help resolving relationship problems, I’m here to help. I’m a life coach in Toronto: book a free coaching session with me through https://romanmironov.com/ How to Avoid Impulse Buying | 4 Recommendations That Really Help (self-help video): https://romanmironov.com/blog/how-to-stop-buying-addiction/ Starting from Scratch in Life: 3 Things That Will Motivate You | Ep. #16 (self-improvement podcast): https://romanmironov.com/blog/starting-over-in-life/ My Story of Overcoming Hunger - My Best Overeating Tips (personal development article): https://romanmironov.com/blog/overeating-tips/ ____________________________________________ SUBSCRIBE AND CONNECT: ►Check out my YouTube channel: http://bit.ly/BeVersion20OfYourselfYouTube — subscribe for weekly motivational videos that help you grow in your life step by step. ►Let’s connect on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/roman.mironov.10 ____________________________________________ ABOUT ME: I am a Robbins-Madanes-certified Strategic Interventionist, helping clients overcome relationship issues such as dating problems, narcissism, lack of confidence, feeling bored, or open relationships. ____________________________________________ LINKS I'VE MENTIONED: Ethical non-monogamy coach Laurie Ellington: https://poly-coach.com/open-relationship-therapy/pros-cons-of-being-in-an-open-relationship/ #OpenRelationship #RomanMironov #RelationshipCoach

This is a Special Birthday episode where I want to give a Shoutout and a big congrats to my good friend, student, partner and simply amazing woman Polya Rosin. Happy Birthday. Polya Rosin is the go-to relationship coach for parents, entrepreneurs and busy professionals. She is an expat, a mum of 3 kids and an entrepreneur. Polya has a bachelor and a master's degree in science, teaches evidence-based decision making and is a Robbins-Madanes trained coach. Over the last 5 years, she has helped high-level executives, entrepreneurs, busy professionals and parents to build deep authentic connections, feel more appreciated in their relationships and have the confidence and freedom to express themselves. She uses strategic interventions, NLP, science and modern psychology. Polya coaches clients online as well as in-person in Stockholm. You can connect with Polya on her social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/polyarosin/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PolyaRosinRelationshipsCoach/ And make sure to book a free consultation: Link for freebie - my calendar to book a free consultation, www.polyarosin.as.me ________________________________________ You know that I absolutely love visualisation, meditation and vision boards. This time I have created something very special for you future millioniares. A Million dollar Vision roadmap. Download here for FREE and join my success tribe: http://bit.ly/milliondollarvision Last but not least, message from your host Dijana Llugolli If you loved this show, please follow, share and leave a comment, your support means the world to me. You can connect with me on Instagram where I share behind the scenes stories about being a mom and serial entrepreneur. I also invite you to check my page Fearless & Successful Coaching and join me for some LIVE tips & tricks and if you are a global kick-ass leader and female entrepreneur, I invite you to my Success Tribe on Facebook Fearless and Successful Fempreneurs For more inspiration and motivation you are welcome to sneak peak to my Success Library and grab some of my favourite free and paid resources: Success Library And If you also have a story to share and would love to make an impact, we would love to feature you too. You can apply here for the >>> Fearless & Successful Interview --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/fearlessandsuccessful/message

About Sandy: Sandy Rocourt is a creative writer, speaker, and strategic transformational educator, who helps clients turn the tragedy of loss & heartbreak into the strength needed to rebuild their lives. Sandy is currently completing her memoir by winter of 2019. After going through multiple traumatic losses in a short 3-year span, Sandy found triumph when she discovered a library of personal development books that her now deceased sister had collected. Her journey of self-discovery led Sandy to become a graduate of the acclaimed Robbins-Madanes life coach training program and dedicate her life to empowering others to develop their own toolbox to overcome life’s storms. Today, Sandy works with clients through group coaching and speaking engagements to teach you how to move beyond the pain of grief and loss in order to create happiness, build stronger relationships, and live with intention and fulfillment. Where to find Sandy: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sandyrocourt/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandyrocourt/ Website: https://sandyrocourt.com/   SHOW NOTES: 00:07 - Introduction to Embrace Your Destiny Podcast 00:48 - Sandy Rocourt's biography 01:55 - Sandy shares her story 05:10 - Enduring a year and a half of struggle 07:05 - Money Master the Game: 7 Simple Steps to Financial Freedom - Tony Robbins 09:10 -  Books really can save you! 11:21 - Sometimes requests for help are left unanswered 12:52 - Sandy struggles to find her purpose 15:00 - Sandy does the fire walk at Tony Robbins Unleash the Power Withing event! 16:08 - Sandy's biggest lesson 20:33 - Writing as a therapeutic tool 21:42 - Sandy offers advice to anyone going through a similar experience 30:45 - Sandy shares her final thoughts   About your host: Sandra Dawes is a recovering control freak and excuse maker who works with clients struggling with similar issues. She holds an Honors BA, an MBA and a certificate in Dispute Resolution. After the passing of her father and circumstances that followed, she suffered from bouts of depression and sought the help of psychotherapists. Unwilling to seek pharmaceutical assistance to deal with her chronic unhappiness, she was lead on a journey of self-awareness and forgiveness that changed her life in deep and meaningful ways. Sandra enjoys spending time with friends and family and her partner Satnam. She published her first book Embrace Your Destiny: 12 Steps to Living the Life You Deserve in 2013. Sandra was added to the Wall of Role Models by the Diversity Advancement Network in July 2016. You can find more articles and learn more about Sandra and the programs and products she offers at www.embraceyourdestiny.ca. You can also find Sandra in the following places: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EmbraceYourDestiny Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embraceurdestiny Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/mbraceurdestiny

A few weeks ago I spoke to a widow who's support system disappeared after she lost her husband. Today, I welcome a guest who's support system vanished in the course of 15 months... yes, months because they all passed away! Sandy Rocourt is a creative writer, speaker, and strategic transformational educator, who helps clients turn the tragedy of loss & heartbreak into the strength needed to rebuild their lives. Sandy is currently completing her memoir by winter of 2019. After going through multiple traumatic losses in a short 3-year span, Sandy found triumph when she discovered a library of personal development books that her now deceased sister had collected. Her journey of self-discovery led Sandy to become a graduate of the acclaimed Robbins-Madanes life coach training program and dedicate her life to empowering others to develop their own toolbox to overcome life’s storms. Today, Sandy works with clients through group coaching and speaking engagements to teach you how to move beyond the pain of grief and loss in order to create happiness, build stronger relationships, and live with intention and fulfillment. Connect wiith Sandy at https://sandyrocourt.com For grief related resources go to: http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/grief-resources/ Subscribe to this podcast by using one of the following: Click here to subscribe via Apple Podcasts Click here to subscribe on Android Click here to subscribe via RSS Click here to subscribe on Spotify Contact me using any of following: email - darwyn@dealingwithmygrief.com twitter - http://www.twitter.com/dealwithgrief web - http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com voice message - http://www.dealingwithmygrief.com/voicemail Facebook - https://facebook.com/groups/dealingwithmygrief Instagram - https://instagram.com/dealingwithmygrief   Music provided by Oren Levine (oren@ohljazz.com)

In this episode , we talk about all things emotions, thoughts, how to deal with negative thought patterns and what role your thoughts play in creating your current reality! We have with us Tyson Sharpe who is an amazing Emotional Fitness coach. Tyson is a Robbins Madanes certified coach and works with digital entrepreneurs and marketers!   Links: http://tysoncoaching.com The Free PDF that Tyson talks about (its really awesome ) : https://tysoncoaching.leadpages.co/serve-leadbox/Eo5P2NQHnPPUFQSBN9pCrn/      

Welcome back for another episode of Health Coach Conversations! Today, Cathy talks with health coach Pam Bilfeld, who has been doing a lot of creative marketing using free social media platforms like Instagram. Pam went to IIN in 2011 and has narrowed down her health coaching market to men and women aged 40 and older. She has completed the Robbins-Madanes Life Coaching Course and also took some online continuing medical education courses on nutrition and tools for healthy change through the Harvard Medical School. Pam and Cathy discuss Pam’s journey as a health coach and the benefits of using other online platforms for your coaching business.   Pam’s health coaching background and the Robbins-Madanes program Pam’s coaching approach and the Living Fit Club How Pam mentors and holds clients accountable for their progress   Things Mentioned In This Episode: IIN: Institute for Integrative Nutrition Robbins-Madanes Training Harvard Medical School Living Fit Club Young Living Essential Oils   Links to resources:  Health Coach Group Website

**GUEST** Rita Schiano is a resilience strategist and coach, speaker, and founder of Rita Schiano ~ Live A Flourishing Life. A former corporate vice-president and small business owner, Rita's leadership knowledge, strategies, and insights draw from both sides of the aisle. Organizations use Rita to help staff build resilient leadership skills, manage stress, and improve morale. As a personal strategic coach, Rita helps clients focus specifically on their most important goals, interests, challenges, and needs. The goal of private sessions is to offer insight and assistance that guides you towards actionable, positive changes that will affect all areas of your life. Rita received her Strategic Intervention Coaching Certificate from Robbins-Madanes. She is the author of several books, including Live A Flourishing Life, a stress management, and resilience-building process workbook; the critically-acclaimed, semi-autobiographical novel Painting The Invisible Man, and Sweet Bitter Love and articles for The Huffington Post / AOL Healthy Living, the Worcester Business Journal, and guest blogger for Psychology Today. http://www.ritaschiano.com/ Radio Call-in Number: (619) 924-0811Motivational, Speaker, life coaching, mentoring workshops,     

Looking for more One Last Thought content? You can now join the OLT Insider program at: glow.fm/oltinsider and unlock your very own private feed packed with exclusive episodes!Guests: Carol Campos, Cris Beswick.In this week’s episode of The One Last Thought Podcast, we are joined by Carol Campos, and Cris Beswick. Unbeknownst to them, they were both sharing thoughts about being true to oneself, embracing what makes you different and unique, and living in complete and total authenticity in who you are in all aspects of your life.Guest bios:Carol Campos is a Life Coach, and the Co-host of The Divine Breadcrumb podcast. Carol previously worked in corporate for over 20 years until last Spring when she made the leap to the unknown to create a career that she loves. In the past year she has started The Divine Breadcrumb podcast and online community with her best friend of 20 years and also launched her coaching practice focused on intuition, awareness, energy healing, and other holistic & spiritual topics, all geared on creating a life you love. Carol is a certified Robbins-Madanes coach and is also completing her master certification program in intuitive/spiritual coaching through Michael Sandler's Inspire Nation Coaching program.Cris Beswick is a Bestselling Author, Strategic Advisor, Entrepreneur & Investor.Connect with our guests:Carol Campos:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carol-campos-5657638/Email: mailto:clcampos22@yahoo.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/carollcamposcoaching/https://www.facebook.com/thedivinebreadcrumb/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carol_l_campos/https://www.instagram.com/thedivinebreadcrumb/Website: http://www.carollcampos.comhttps://thedivinebreadcrumb.comCris Beswick:LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/crisbeswickTwitter: https://twitter.com/CrisBeswickInstagram: www.instagram.com/crisbeswickFacebook: www.facebook.com/innovationexpertWebsite: www.crisbeswick.comEmail: mailto:cris@crisbeswick.comGuest Giveaways:Carol Campos:Carol is currently accepting new clients for her 1 on 1, 12-week coaching program, Light Your Path, where she will provide tools, anchors and exercises to help you on your life's path. Carol invites you to book a free Discovery Session on her website:http://www.carollcampos.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/one-last-thought/exclusive-content