How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast

If you spend 18 minutes a day — focused on learning or practicing a skill, you will become better than 95% of the population at that skill.   That's the 100 hour rule.  It's about consistency and this concept of small daily progress that compounds over time.   Jesse Itzler popularized this concept and it shows that you can become great at anything you're willing to put 100 hours towards.     You don't need more time. You need more intention.   In this episode I'm pulling out so many of the highlighted sections from some of my favorite books to bring you a very full perspective podcast episode on this topic.   The 100 Hour Rule is your reminder that you already have what it takes. You just need to start — and keep showing up.      This episode is your mini wake-up call — your invitation to finally get going on learning the skill that you've wanted to and get moving on your small and big and do it in a way that feels totally doable. We're breaking down the 100 Hour Rule with inspiration from: Jesse Itzler Josh Kaufman Chris Williamson Alex Hormozi Ed Mylett Steven Bartlett Let's talk about how to focus, what to prioritize, and how to finally follow through, even if your schedule is full and your motivation isn't perfect.   Why It Works- 100 hours = manageable, realistic, and motivating. Public speaking, playing piano, learning to use Canva, learn to cook, learn how to lift weights, learn how to meditate, learn to hike or mountain bike, learn to watercolor or speak French.  Become at expert at using points to travel to places you wouldn't normally, work on learning & launching a business.        What Is The 100 Hour Rule?

We took Parker and the girls and a few buddies to Dave and Busters a few weeks ago and there was this small thing that happened that has been a huge perspective shift in my life. it's worth a podcast episode.   I was telling Craig on the way there that I've kept all our past Dave and Buster's card organized in the Ziploc baggie in my purse so we have so many cards we have endless game credits we won't have to buy any cards it's literally gonna be the easiest trip to Dave & Buster's ever. So we get there and we're at that scanning machine and one by one each of the 10 cards I had been carrying around in my purse was empty- now they had tickets on them for the stuff in the prize room but zero game credits.   I was laughing so hard I literally couldn't catch my breath as every card we scanned in was a big fat zero and Craig jokingly said… Lindsay you have to stop keeping things.    And it was like the world stopped and I was like - wait a minute - I was sure those cards had value.  What else in my life am I keeping that I won't use or wear or anything. Things that are weighing me down for no reason.      This whole experience threw me into this new way of thinking… where I purge with a feeling of abundance, rather than holding on to things.    My goal in this episode is to help you discover what Dave and Busters cards you've been keeping… that are actually weighing you down.   I've realized more and more that my space needs to be completely organized for my life to feel organized - that's what we're unpacking today!      -The Myth of Value: When We Think Something Still Works Common examples: clothes that no longer fit your lifestyle, kitchen gadgets you “might need someday." -The Weight of Keeping Things "Just In Case" The emotional burden of storing, organizing, and maintaining stuff “just in case.” Letting go frees up not just space, but time, clarity, and energy. -Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset The evolved mindset says: “I'll be okay without this.” If I really need it, I'll figure it out.  So many things we hold onto are a $10 pickup if we need it again  Purging is not wasteful — it's trusting yourself and your future. -Ask Yourself: What Are Your Dave & Buster's Cards? What am I holding onto that no longer adds value? What items feel more like obligation than joy? -Purge with Purpose — and Peace Tips for letting go: Make it a celebration, not a chore. Donate or re-home items to someone who needs them. Keep only what aligns with your current season of life. -The Clarity of Organized Space = Organized Life Organizing your space creates calm, energy, and creativity. When everything has a place, your brain gets a break. It's less about perfection, and more about flow and freedom. -Don't Carry Dead Weight Back to the Ziploc baggie — “it looked like it held value, but it was just weight.” Look at your physical spaces with fresh eyes. Find the freedom and confidence that comes from letting go.   Why an Organized Home = An Organized Life Mental Clarity & Emotional Lightness – Clutter creates mental overwhelm. When your space is clean, your mind feels clear and focused. Saves Time & Energy – No more wasting time searching for things! You can use that energy for creativity, work, or self-care. Boosts Productivity & Motivation – A structured space helps you feel in control and more motivated to tackle tasks. Reduces Stress & Anxiety – Studies show clutter increases cortisol (stress hormone). A tidy home means a calmer mind. Encourages Healthy Habits – An organized kitchen makes healthy eating easier; a tidy workspace boosts efficiency. Better Sleep & Relaxation – A clean bedroom promotes deeper, more restorative sleep. Unique Summer Cleaning Ideas Declutter by Energy Zones – Organize based on how a space makes you feel. If a room feels “heavy,” reassess what's in it. Reverse Spring Cleaning – Unload drawers as if you're moving, then only put back what you truly love or need. “One-Touch” Rule – When tidying, make sure each item you pick up is immediately put where it belongs. Seasonal Reset Box – Place items you're unsure about in a box. If you don't use them in 3 months, donate them. Declutter with Music & a Timer – Set a 30 minute timer & play loud music and go!  The “Why Do I Own This?” Test – Ask yourself if each item serves a purpose or brings joy. If not, let it go! Detox Your Digital Space – Clean up emails, files, and phone apps to declutter your mind.   I hope this episode inspires you to see organization as a form of self-care rather than a chore.  And helps you focus on what you're carrying around that you think serves you but is actually heavy dead weight.    CHEERS to your organized space & life!! 

The craziest thing that I've learned over the last year of reading and re-reading aging and longevity books is that much of what we think is natural aging is actually neglect.     My goal in this episode is to reframe what we assume or are told is “natural aging” or “just getting older” and show all the small things that we might be neglecting over time.   This whole concept is so empowering!!  Rather than feeling like we aren't in control of how we age, we realize that we are actually in control of so much of it.    Focusing on all the tiny things we can do daily to keep our strength, flexibility, energy and sharpness over time.    If you don't use it you lose it and that's not the gameplan!!  Let's go!!            Why We Confuse Aging with Neglect Inspiration: Outlive + Good Energy Dr. Peter Attia challenges the idea of “inevitable decline.” He argues we don't die of old age, we die from preventable chronic diseases (heart disease, Type 2 diabetes, frailty, neurodegeneration). Dr. Casey Means says our modern environment is biologically mismatched. Much of what we consider aging—fatigue, brain fog, joint stiffness—is inflammation caused by neglected lifestyle choices like ultra-processed food, lack of movement, and poor sleep. Reframe: What feels like aging might be: Muscle loss from underuse (not just age) Joint stiffness from inactivity, not age Brain fog from poor metabolic health, not "just getting older" Flexibility & Strength—The First to Go (But Totally Reversible) Peter Attia's Point: “Functional Longevity” You don't train to live long—you train to live well long. His "Centenarian Decathlon" concept: What physical feats do you want to do at 80 or 90? Train now for those. Action Steps: Start a Zone 2 cardio routine (walking uphill, light cycling). Great for mitochondria and long-term energy. Add stability and grip strength work—these are major predictors of longevity. Stretch daily or do mobility work 10 minutes/day. Lack of flexibility is not inevitable—it's just unused tissue. Moving your body regularly improves cellular health and lowers inflammation, which protects against many “aging” diseases. Nutrition is the Silent Ager Good Energy: “You are what you metabolize.” Modern food is driving chronic inflammation, which accelerates what we mistake as aging: skin issues, joint pain, fatigue, insulin resistance. Ultra-processed food hijacks energy systems and causes mitochondrial dysfunction. Action Steps: Prioritize whole foods: protein, fiber, omega-3s. Avoid “glucose roller coasters” — balance meals with fat/fiber/protein to avoid energy crashes. Try time-restricted eating: not for weight loss, but to support metabolic flexibility. Attia promotes a low-carb or carb-conscious diet to control insulin and prevent the slow creep of pre-diabetes that goes unnoticed. Sleep & Stress—The Hidden Agers Poor sleep mimics aging in the brain. One bad night of sleep can spike blood glucose and disrupt hunger hormones. Chronic stress leads to cortisol overload—breaking down muscle, weakening immunity, and inflaming joints. Action Steps: Prioritize 7–8 hours of sleep in a dark, cool room. Wind down early with no screens—melatonin is suppressed by blue light. Practice stress recovery: deep breathing, journaling, cold exposure, or sauna. What to Watch for That Looks Like Aging But Isn't These are early signs of neglect that can be reversed: Needing caffeine to function Losing strength when lifting groceries or kids Taking longer to recover after activity Feeling “foggy” or irritable most mornings Waking up feeling stiff every day Attia and the Means both emphasize: These are signals. If you listen to them now, you can slow or even reverse them. Your “Reverse the Neglect” Starter Plan Give listeners a 5-part challenge: Move 30 minutes every day (combine walking + strength 3x/week) Eat one full day of unprocessed meals Cut sugar and seed oils completely  Stretch for 10 minutes in the morning and before bed Walk after meals to stabilize glucose This isn't about avoiding age—it's about owning your energy.  When we treat aging like a slow collapse, we give away our power.  But when we understand the difference between aging and neglect and add and remove habits, we change the game. Our mind and body will thank us now and even more when we're 80 and 90.   CHEERS to taking control of the way you age! 

In this episode, I'm sharing the best tips for maximizing your budget when it comes to party planning - especially kids parties.   I have this way of doing it that's efficient and organized and easy to decide what's worth paying for and what's better to do yourself.    I'm sharing specific examples from the Party I just threw for Parker because I think it will give you lots and lots of ideas for the parties you plan in the future.   This one was a baseball and ice cream theme so I definitely needed ice cream cones.  I got two quotes for companies to scoop fresh ice cream and make ice cream sandwiches and both came in around $850. Instead, I bought the mini ice cream cones from Trader Joe's for $.46 each - brushed them with a little water and dip them in sprinkles and the kids were so happy.  I took what would have been something like $12 per kid and made it $.46 and if they had two cones, I made it one dollar.  And it had the same feeling as doing the expensive vendor, and nobody knew the difference!   There are so many ways to plan your parties so you spend the money in the most strategic ways and and figure out ways to keep things low in cost, but have a big impact.      Tips!    -spread out your spend    -get multiple quotes    -start early if you can    -set max budgets for some of the creative people    -do half vendor, half yourself (balloons and treats)    -hat vendor - $450 - DIY would have been similar plus helper time to do it    -caricature - $300 for 3 hours - best deal in town    -pizzas & taco guy- sometimes make it pretty and sometimes just to feed people    -snack table is so easy and so useful and ads to decor    -print signs at a store like FEDEX - then I had my sign girl just do 2 main signs    -print tags, papers and “stickers” yourself    -pizza boxes had our logo on it - just paper cut and taped    -Etsy has great resources    -before you rent - see what you would spend buying and do you have a place to store?  This time I spent too much on a wood wall - but I decided I needed it too late    -you either have to spend lots of time or lots of money!  But you dont have to do both    -use the school of YouTube      ***Here's the link to my new party book!!*** https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-ultimate-kids-party-planning-guidebook     CHEERS to your next awesome party!! 

Over the years, I've spent lots of time in hospitals as we navigate keeping Craig healthy despite his genetic heart issues. This past week was another week spent in the hospital for us and even though we've done this so many more times than we would like… Every time I come out with a new perspective in someway or a new thoughts on really how to keep your health as the highest priority in life and what I think is the best way to keep all your records and information organized and how to advocate for yourself.   One of my favorite things about podcasting and connecting with friends is sharing experiences because we're all in different situations every day so we learn different things. I'm grateful to have the opportunity to share our journey and the tips and lessons from being in such extreme situation at times and the take-aways that I think are most valuable to everyone.    We're talking about keeping good notes, showing gratitude to those helping you, staying calm and not letting overwhelming emotions take over and prioritizing the entire family when anyone is going through something hard.      -Email for health records  -Notes on your phone for each person- one for overall history and one more meds/supplements  -Book with everything printed  -Being realistic but optimistic  -Caring for whole family (Craig kept telling me to go be with the kids)  -Letting people know whats going on in your world so you get the extra support  -Stay strong minded and not weak - people help you more  -Ask questions and take notes  -Know people's names, show gratitude in anyway you can -Keep loving & doing normal feeling things through it  -Even if nobody has issues - keep good records as you go -Even if you have so many years so go through - loop in doctors to help you  -Push for doctors to connect with each other  -Consider concierge if you need it  -Get your team of doctors going before you really need it  -Keep health a top priority by reminding yourself that it is a top priority - on your weekly list of things to do  -Don't wait when you feel like something is off  -Don't eat hospital food - it's not good enough for when you're healing  -Do your own research for little things that can help- and ask doctors - juicing, supplements etc.  -Lay out clearly who you are the health quarterback for, then do all of this for them.  It's your most important job.    CHEERS to us, the health quarterbacks!

Quick story to explain this - I was testing out a new business and I was talking to my husband about this product and the cost of goods and profits and the industry and I was explaining about the strong positioning I'll have in the marketplace and he was like many sold last month and what was the net profit?  And when I told him - he's like your time is worth more- that's not big enough - and I'm like totally - but I haven't even gotten started.  He's like but you have sales-  I was like I know, but I'm in the pre-game like I haven't even gotten started.  I'm building the skills and knowledge in the industry to go out and hit a home run.  In the process of explaining this to him, I unlocked SUCH a powerful frame for myself that I think will really help you too.  This frame is genius for anything you've tried at but haven't hit out of the park yet.  In any bucket of your life. Record strong podcast episodes, make sales in your Etsy or Amazon business, lose weight, build stronger relationships with girlfriends- it can be applied to just about anything.  It's the UNLOCK to stop judging yourself for taking too long or not getting there yet or for the mistakes you made along the way.  None of what happens in the past defines how successful you will be going forward - it was all prep work for the BIG move that's about to come.   Let's get into it!!  Reframing Your Past:    •    How to shift your mindset to see everything you've done up until now as preparation, not failure.    •    Embrace your “warm-up reps” as necessary for your future greatness.    •    The power of process over perfection—show up with a growth mindset, not an outcome obsession.    •    Mistakes and slow starts don't disqualify you—they qualify you. Quote: “You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” — James Clear ⸻ 2. The Power of the Pregame Frame in Business:    •    Why launching something small, testing, and learning the landscape is one of the most strategic things you can do.    •    Building muscle in the industry, even if the early results don't look big yet.    •    Your pregame is your research lab—learn fast, fail small, adjust boldly. Quote: “Volume negates luck.” — Alex Hormozi ⸻ 3. Stop Judging the Timeline:    •    You're not late—you're just in the warm-up.    •    The world teaches speed, but mastery comes from depth and consistency.    •    Let go of artificial timelines and embrace your unique runway. Quote: “You can't be upset by the results you didn't get from the work you didn't do.” — Mel Robbins ⸻ 4. Applying the Frame to Different Life Buckets:    •    Health: Every workout you've done, even sporadically, is a win. Your future self will use those reps.    •    Relationships: Conversations that didn't go well taught you what you want in a friendship or partnership.    •    Parenting: The imperfect moments were actually preparation for the present version of you.    •    Creative Work: Podcasts, posts, or projects that felt “meh” were the training ground for your voice. Quote: “Sometimes you win. Sometimes you learn.” — John C. Maxwell ⸻ 5. The Real Work Begins When You Decide to Stop Judging Yourself:    •    Self-compassion is your rocket fuel.    •    You're not behind—you're building traction.    •    “I haven't even gotten started” becomes your permission slip to go bigger. Quote: “Don't attach your identity to the version of you that had to survive.” — Jay Shetty ⸻ 6. Invite Your Listeners to Do This:    •    Write down a list of things you've “started but not mastered.” Then re-label them as “Pregame Practice.”    •    Celebrate what you've learned—not just what you earned.    •    Choose one area to now move into game time with fresh energy. Take the time to be kind to yourself for anything big you are working towards and know that you are just warming up baby, the best is yet to come!!  Check out Lindsay's Weekly Planning System here:  https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem

This episode is all about The Vacation Reset.  How to come home, take a fresh look at your routine, and use everything you felt and experienced on your trip to make your everyday more fulfilling. So rather than having post-vacation blues you have this fresh perspective on everything - what you're eating, what you're spending your free time doing, and what makes you feel the most alive.  It a post-vacation breakthrough podcast.     1. Why Vacation Is Such a Powerful Reset You break your routines naturally — new places, new foods, new experiences. You slow down and experience joy more intentionally. You're more present and tuned into how you actually feel. Mini Thought: → When you remove the autopilot of daily life, you notice what truly lights you up.   2. Coming Home: The Moment of Clarity You can feel what routines were serving you and which ones felt heavy. You're often able to clearly see what you missed (the good stuff!) — and what you didn't. Your nervous system resets — you realize where you were operating from stress without realizing it. Mini Thought: → Vacation gives you the contrast you need to upgrade your life.   3. How to Create Your Personal Vacation Reset Reflect: Ask yourself: What made me happiest on this trip? What did I not miss about home? Audit your life: What parts of your daily/weekly routines could feel lighter, freer, more intentional? Add in Micro-Experiences: Can you add mini "vacation moments" into your normal weeks (like trying new foods, spontaneous adventures, walks without your phone)? Declutter Your Calendar: Remove one thing that drains you. Commit to one thing that fills you up. Mini Thought: → Tiny changes = huge shifts in how your days feel.       4. Use Momentum Instead of Falling Into the Post-Vacation Slump Most people fall into the "Maui Blues" — they mourn that vacation life is over. Shift the story: Vacation isn't the escape — it's a preview of what more joyful living could look like. Plan small things you can look forward to each week (adventures, date nights, slow mornings). Keep something “vacation-inspired” going (sunsets, meals outside, afternoon walks). Mini Thought: → Build your real life to include the things you love about vacation life.     5. Fresh Eyes on Your Big Goals Being away from your normal environment clears your mental windshield. Look at your big goals again — are they still aligned? Or is it time to pivot? Use the renewed sense of energy and perspective to make bold moves or corrections. Mini Thought: → Fresh energy = a fresh roadmap toward what really matters.       Action items!!    -Make a list of what lit you up!  -Notice what you didn't miss about being away and what you dreaded coming back to then audit your calendar.  -Make a playlist that reminds you of your trip to keep that vibe going.  -Add something into your routine that you loved from your trip.  Like reading 10 pages or a long walk after dinner.  -Declutter one part of your space.  -Try a food at home that you loved on vacation.  -Think of tiny daily things that you loved there. Walking barefoot, eating more fruit, etc.      Vacation isn't just a break — it's a gift of perspective. And the best thing you can do is bring that joy, that presence, and that clarity back into your daily life. Instead of mourning the end of vacation, use it as a launchpad for better habits, better experiences, and a more intentional, vibrant life. Every day can have a little bit of that vacation magic — if you design it that way. Thanks for listening, and here's to your most awesome Vacation Reset yet!     Here is a link to Lindsay's 2.0 Calendar System if you want to tie this all together!  https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/2-0weeklyhabitsandplanningsystem

Here are some key strategies to help you plan ahead, manage stress, and respond with patience instead of snapping at your loved ones: Why We Get Snippy & How to Prevent It Lack of Time = Lack of Patience – When we're rushed, our tolerance drops. Planning ahead creates space for calmer interactions. Stress & Overload – When our mental/emotional load is too heavy, small things set us off. Managing stress proactively prevents snippy reactions. Not Meeting Our Own Needs – When we're tired, hungry, or overstimulated, we're more likely to react negatively. How to Plan Ahead to Avoid Being Snippy Buffer Time in Your Schedule – Give yourself 5-10 extra minutes before key transitions (leaving the house, dinnertime, bedtime routines) to prevent feeling rushed. Set a “Reset” Ritual – Before engaging with your family or team, take 30 seconds to breathe deeply, reset your mood, and remind yourself of how you want to show up. Identify Your Triggers – Notice when you're most likely to snap (e.g., right after work, during morning chaos) and create a strategy for those moments (deep breaths, stepping away, music, or hydration). Pre-Communicate Expectations – Set clear expectations with your family/team about transitions or tasks to avoid last-minute stress (e.g., “We're leaving in 10 minutes” vs. “Hurry up, we're late!”). Use “I'm About To Be Snippy” Signals – Recognize when frustration is rising and call it out before reacting: “I need a second,” or “I feel overwhelmed, let's pause.” Plan for Self-Care Daily – Even 5 minutes of alone time, movement, or quiet time makes a difference in emotional regulation. Create a Stress-Reducing Environment – A calm home or workspace (organized, decluttered, good lighting) reduces external stress triggers. Sleep, Food, Water Check-In – Low blood sugar or exhaustion makes snippy responses more likely. Prioritize good sleep, hydration, and balanced meals. Practice the 3-Second Rule – Before responding snippily, take three seconds to pause, breathe, and choose a response that aligns with your best self. Quick Fixes in the Moment The Smile Reset – Physically smiling (even if forced) can shift your mood. Walk Away Before You Snap – Give yourself 60 seconds to reset. Turn Snippy into Funny – If you feel irritation rising, flip it into humor instead of frustration. I hope this episode helps you to reframe your approach to stressful interactions so you can respond as the best version of yourself.  Have an awesome day! 

This episode is all about documents your highs in life, so you can create more of them. As a person who's thought a lot about joy and happiness and fulfillment - if we just try to simplify all of that - I really think it comes down to stringing as many awesome days together as you can. Identifying what made you feel the happiest, the strongest, the most fulfilled… all of it. You probably know I'm obsessed with designing our days rather than letting our days just happen and all of that starts with first figuring out what we actually love, have the most fun doing and what and who makes us feel our best. My goal in this episode is to help you develop a quick and easy system to keep track of your most awesome days and then create more of them. TIPS! -keep a notebook next to your bed- just for this. -take notes on what you did or didn't do you a day when you go to bed feeling awesome. -take notes when you're body feels especially good, rested etc. **because when you know what fuels your days best, you can plan for more days like this. It works so well!  Reflect back on this journal when you feel off or need a push or feel lost! Link here to my planning system for designing your days and your life! https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse CHEERS to designing your life of lots of awesome days!  

Today we are training to be unaffected by chaos!   How to get through it without anxiety or stress or losing your cool.    I love topics that make us make a plan ahead of time, so when we are in a situation like this, we react exactly as we want to because we've thought through it ahead of time.    We aren't reacting out of emotion, but out of a place of control and strategically.  You probably know I always talk about reacting based on what you want the outcome to be, not how you feel in the moment.   We're applying that concept to this situation and also digging into how to guard your inputs and avoid exposing yourself to unnecessary chaos or stress.  And for the times we can't control it, how we will keep our composure which gives us power in any situation.    We're going to take a step back and figure out what our mantra to ourselves will be - mine is “this will not take me down.” Because we can handle much more than we think we can!

This podcast topic might seem a little extreme, but I honestly think it's the difference between planners and doers. Between amateurs and pros.    It's this attitude that I will succeed at this or I will die trying. Said differently - I won't stop until it works.    Because everything takes a long time and it will eventually work if you try hard enough and do enough repetitions and fail enough and learn enough lessons.    Sometimes the original plan is what ends up working and sometimes you pivot 50 times and keep adjusting the plan until it's the winning plan.    I think this way of approaching anything you want to accomplish makes it so much easier because it's accepting that it will be hard and sometimes painstakingly hard. But it's removing the… if this works or it might    It's like … I'm all in going pro at this. It's what I really want and I'm giving it 110% effort. I will succeed or I will die trying.     -Success is inevitable if you refuse to quit. Most people fail because they stop. If you keep going, you win by default. -It's supposed to be hard—difficulty filters out those who can't handle it. If it were easy, everyone would do it. The challenge is what makes success valuable. -The only way to fail is to stop.  As long as you're moving forward, you haven't lost. Keep adapting until you figure it out. -Skills and results compound over time—most people quit before they see the returns. The people who succeed are the ones who endure long enough for compounding to take effect. -Suffering is the price of greatness. You can either endure the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. One leads to success; the other leads to failure. -Successful people do the work even when they don't feel like it. Motivation is fleeting. Discipline and consistency win. -Your mindset determines your outcome. If you truly believe you'll succeed no matter what, your actions will reflect that belief, and success becomes inevitable. -Obsession beats talent every time. The most successful people are those who refuse to stop, not -There's always a way—your job is to find it.  If one path doesn't work, try another. Resourcefulness is more important than resources. -The greatest competitive advantage is enduring longer than everyone else.  Most people give up when it gets tough. If you don't, you'll be the last one standing—and that's who wins.   CHEERS to charging towards your goals with this succeed or die trying mindset! 

Most of us feel like we simply don't have enough hours in the day to do all the things.  To do the things we WANT to do and also the things we HAVE to do.  Today we are talking through overall strategies we can use to make the most out of our days… and also very specific examples of ways you can do things more efficiently so that you simply have more time.  If we can eliminate decision fatigue, schedule specific times for tasks, do things faster, do things ahead of time, eliminate things that don't need to be done and batch work similar items together - we will wind up with the extra time we've been looking for!   Let's dive into all the ideas and find the extra time you need!  Let's go!  One question that people ask me often is… how do you get so much done?  And it makes me so happy because I work at it constantly and I love talking about it.  So let's do it.  Best tactical way to see where you are spending unnecessary time - for one week- keep a log of what you do every 30 mins.  Can be just a few words- but you'll find out real fast where the lag is!  -Only touch things once  -Be ready for the day - clothes laid out, morning routine set (keep a list yesterday)  -Have a wind down routine and stick to it  -Have a plan for the day ready when you wake up. -It's easier to avoid distractions and stick to the plan.  -If something takes 2 minutes or less, do it right away, don't add it to a list.  -Batch similar items together. Answer your emails all at once.  -Have a system that you use to run your days.  -Limit decision fatigue with things like meals and getting dressed.  -Create a “home” for everything in your home. So much time is lost finding things. -Automate anything that can be like bills, etc. -Unsubscribe from emails you don't need.  -Turn off notifications you don't need. -Work on sprints for high focus. 25 mins on, 5 mins off. Pomodoro technique. Set a timer.  -Outsource or delegate- virtual assistant, babysitter time, grocery delivery.  And more specifically…  -On emails -On laundry -On groceries -On getting ready in the morning -On prepping for your morning- know what you will wear and eat.  -On household clutter - set a timer for 10 mins a day to declutter- then big piles never come up.  -On replying to texts and emails- use voice to text and do them twice a day.  -Set-up tomorrow the night before!  Setup priorities so you have a clear direction when you wake up and other people don't decide for you how your day will go.  Episode 259 is a very specific one on how to save time by not running errands.  We live in the greatest time ever to be alive and there are just so many opportunities and so many ways we can be distracted and wander around or we can be hyper focused and productive.  Let's work to find that hour a day then fill it with things that make us feel so fulfilled and awesome!

There is this incredible freedom that comes when you simply cannot be offended.   You have more inner peace, stronger relationships and just more joy in your days.    In order to never be offended by something someone says, I think we need to first put them in one of two buckets, then unpack from there.  They are either in your inner circle or not in your inner circle.    If they are - then you love them unconditionally and you know they aren't perfect, just like all of us, and we have bad days or bad moments or less than ideal reactions.  Or we let our own issues come out and onto someone else.  You know the bond you have and the person they are at, at their core, and you aren't going to catastrophise it.    And if they aren't in your inner circle - it's not worth your energy.  There's no reason to put weight on whatever it is when they aren't your do-anything-for-crew.     And here's the main thing - we know that 90% of judgment or criticism or rude comments comes from peoples own thoughts about themselves… not actually about us. And it's through the lens they see the world through.     It's about getting to a point when your own opinion of yourself weights more heavily than anyone else.  It's this deep confidence and ability to reframe the situation that is key.    I think it is totally a super power if you can get to where you simply aren't offended… and that's why we're podcasting about it today!

This podcast episode is a full education on how habits work and what experts say about the importance of planning and consistency and how to set yourself up to do the tiny daily things that support your big goals.    This is a walk through of the 2.0 Habits System that I created- so if you are already a part of our community - you'll love learning more about how to really make the system work best for your life.    If you've thought about organizing your days this way or you just want to learn strategies about being intentional about how you spend your time- you'll love this episode.    The 2.0 Method works over a long period of time because it includes the most important principles of behavior change. It takes what you already want to do and helps you create a system to do it and feel successful at it. We know that in 20 years we'd give anything to be this age again and this healthy and have this time.  There's no more waiting to train for a marathon, start writing a book, lift weights- whatever it is.  There's no perfect time to start anything - the perfect time is always today.  Let's talk through the science behind what we do and use that knowledge to create the perfect plan for you. A lot of this is being 100% truthful with yourself. It's about pushing through when it's hard and knowing its supposed to be hard - that means you're on the right track.    You're going to get judgment as you change - even by people who love you - because it's a reflection of what they are doing or not doing.    For more info on the 2.0 System or to join the community- visit this site:  https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse   Most of us feel like we just don't have enough time each day and each week. We know what we want to accomplish but we just don't know how to get there. Or we have this story of why we don't have the time or resources to get there. When in reality, these are often hurdles that we've created that don't actually exist. Every Sunday, you will fill out your Awesome Week book for the upcoming week. You take our priorities and goals (from the Deep Dive sheets) and simplify them into daily habits that you do consistently. By planning out your weeks this way, you have a proactive approach, rather than a reactive one (like most people do). You aren't basing your days on the emails or text messages that you get, but being very clear about how you want to spend your time. Then during the week, you just have to follow the plan. Less distractions, less scrolling, less wasting time and procrastinating. It's fulfilling in the short term on the daily, and even more-so in the long term.   We know it's a hundred tiny actions that make big things happen. (not one silver bullet) By focusing on the daily habits that move you forward, you stay focused (not distracted) and you feel fulfillment knowing that you are making progress each day. You make a strong plan on Sunday then throughout the week, all you have to do is execute. You've mapped out what actions you want to take to feel how you want to feel and be the person you want to be. Stick to the plan and you're on your way to the best version of you, what we call 2.0.   

To me Valentine's is so much more impactful when it feels like a season of extra love, rather than a mandatory date night on a certain day.    At the entrance to our wedding in 2009, when I was 27 years old,  I hand rhinestoned letters to go over the arch walking into our reception in Mexico that said CELEBRATE LOVE because that's literally my life mantra.  Love is what we all want to feel and experience and it's one of the greatest life gifts.     This podcast episode is all about ways to use this time to really have fun with your people - show them how much you love them and create special memories and traditions together.    I have 45 creative ideas to share in this episode.  A little bit of everything for every season and bucket of your life.      Ideas for…      Date Nights!   do something that you would have done at the start of your relationship   movie & dinner in on the couch   each make a dessert   each make each others fav thing that you make   play a couples game with questions (might need wine to make this not cheesy!)        School Class Parties!   “what I love about you” for each child - a book or on the wall   scavenger hunt   Valentine's Bingo   frame with picture of child that they decorate and give to parents as a gift   decorate your own bag or mailbox for Valentine's   Valentine's obstacle course - like a fun relay with heart-themed challenges like carrying a candy heart on a spoon.     Girlfriends Night!   “board” party where everyone brings a board - chocolate board, taco board etc.   cocktail tasting!  Wine, champagne, tequila- always fun!   sip & paint with a prompt like - what love means to me  gift exchange - secret Santa style - set a budget and give love themed gifts      Valentine's Snacks!  strawberry love boats – hollow out strawberries, fill with whipped cream and chocolate chips.  Cupid's Arrow Kabobs – Thread strawberries, marshmallows, and brownies onto skewers.  Heart-Shaped Pizza – Let everyone make their own mini heart pizzas.  Chocolate-Covered Pretzel Sticks – Dip in pink, red, or white chocolate and decorate with sprinkles.  Love Bug Apples – Cut apples into heart shapes and use mini chocolate chips for eyes.     Valentine's Crafts!  “Reasons I Love You” Jar – Fill a jar with tiny notes listing reasons you love someone.  Thumbprint Heart Keychains – Use clay to create fingerprint heart keychains.  DIY Love Coupons – Make personalized coupons for acts of kindness or fun activities.  Heart Garland – String together paper or fabric hearts to decorate.  Melted Crayon Heart Art – Melt old crayons into heart molds for colorful decorations.     Fun Activities To Do At Home!   Love-Themed Game Night – Play Valentine's bingo, charades, or Pictionary with love-themed words.  Family Valentine's Bake-Off – Compete in making the best Valentine's dessert.  Candlelight Family Dinner – Dress up and have a fancy Valentine's dinner together.  “Secret Valentine” like secret Santa  – Draw names and do a little gift exchange.  DIY Valentine's Photo Booth – Set up a backdrop and take silly or heartfelt family photos.     Creative Gifts!  photo book   framed pictures   basket of their favorite things   themed basket - example: best sleep of your life, Chiefs fan, Starbucks basket etc.     Ways To Make Kids Feel Extra Loved!   Love Notes Countdown – In the days leading up to Valentine's Day, place a heart-shaped note on their bedroom door each night with a reason why they're special.   Personalized Valentine's Breakfast – Serve heart-shaped pancakes with their favorite toppings, and add a handwritten note or a small toy on their plate to start the day with love.  Surprise “I Love You” Adventure – Plan a mystery outing tailored to what they love— example: a trip to their favorite park, a bookstore, or a DIY indoor fort with movies and snacks.  Heartfelt Story Time – Write a short story starring them as the hero, highlighting their kindness, bravery, and love. Read it together and gift them a printed or illustrated version to keep.  Valentine's Mailbox – Set up a mini mailbox for each child and have family members leave notes, tiny treats, or hand-drawn pictures throughout the day.     Ways To Make Your Lover Feel Extra Loved!    A Love Trail – Leave little love notes, small gifts, or romantic clues around the house leading to a special surprise—maybe a candlelit dinner, a love letter, or a heartfelt video message. 52 Reasons I Love You Deck – Take a deck of playing cards and write a different reason you love them on each one. Bind them together into a “52 Reasons I Love You” flipbook. Memory Lane Date Night – Recreate your first date or a special moment in your relationship. Personalized Love Playlist – Curate a playlist of songs that tell your love story, include inside jokes, or remind you of special moments. Sneak it onto their phone and play it on Valentine's! A Week of Thoughtful Surprises – Instead of celebrating just one day, spread out thoughtful surprises in the days leading up to Valentine's Day—little love notes in their bag, their favorite coffee waiting for them, a midday love text, or a planned romantic evening.     Cheers to CELEBRATING LOVE!! 

This is one of those things that I wish I would have understood as clearly in my 20s and 30s as I do now in my 40s… but I guess that's living and learning. It's the understanding that the small things are what matters.  The small things we do or don't do everyday.  It's what Warren Buffet describes as the power of compounding interest.  It's building a little snow ball and rolling it down a very long hill.  It's slow then it's fast.  This is my problem with the whole - don't sweat the small stuff thing. I appreciate not having anxiety and worrying about every little thing but at the same time - when you give yourself a pass on the habits that would add up to the person you want to be - things like - making the sales calls, lifting weights, eating healthy, taking your supplements, doing regular doctors visits, having the uncomfortable conversations, avoiding toxic things in the environment and toxic people…  You miss the little things - that add up to the big things. We're unpacking it today!  You wake up one day with a chronic disease and you're like when did this happen?  It started 20 years ago.  When did this happen? It happened today!   It's the TINY decision you decided to do or not do that didn't seem like it mattered.  It compounds - and it's almost invisible. It's slow then it's fast. That's why it's so easy to overlook the small things.  If you are competitive like me - know that most people overlook the small things - which gives you a competitive advantage if you obsess over the small things.  This mindset change is everything. It's realizing that small actions - hundreds of small actions stack up over time to create big change.  Here are some examples across different areas of life: Personal Development    *    Reading for 10 minutes a day: Over a year, this adds up to about 12–15 books, enriching knowledge and perspectives.    *    Journaling one line of gratitude: Shifts mindset to focus on positivity and resilience.    *    Writing down one lesson learned: Helps build wisdom and awareness through reflection.    *    Practicing deep breathing for 2 minutes: Builds mindfulness and reduces stress, with lasting effects on mental clarity. Health and Wellness    *    Stretching for 5 minutes: Enhances flexibility and prevents injuries over time.    *    Taking the stairs: Improves cardiovascular health and builds strength in small ways.    *    Drinking a glass of water first thing in the morning: Boosts hydration and kickstarts metabolism.    *    Adding one vegetable to meals: Slowly shifts your diet toward more whole, nutritious foods. Relationships    *    Complimenting or appreciating one person daily: Strengthens connections and builds goodwill.    *    Spending 5 distraction-free minutes with loved ones: Deepens emotional bonds over time.    *    Sending a quick check-in text: Maintains friendships and relationships without requiring large time commitments. Professional Growth    *    Writing or brainstorming for 5 minutes: Over time, this can result in innovative ideas or improved skills.    *    Networking with one person weekly: Grows a professional network exponentially over time.    *    Learning one new word or skill daily: Adds up to 365 small improvements in a year. Financial Habits    *    Saving a small amount every day: Even $5 daily grows to $1,825 in a year, which can compound further with investments.    *    Tracking one expense daily: Builds financial awareness and helps identify patterns over time.    *    Skipping one impulse purchase: Redirecting that money toward savings or investments compounds into financial stability. Creativity    *    Doodling or sketching for 2 minutes: Enhances creativity and visual thinking skills.    *    Capturing one photo a day: Trains your eye to see beauty and inspiration in the mundane.    *    Writing 50 words daily: Adds up to a novel in a year! Remember it's building a little snow ball and rolling it down a very longgggg hill!!

When someone asks you if you can attend an event or party or get together, what's the first thing you do?   You check if you're free!  If you're available at that day and time.  And then, if you are free, you'll probably say yes.  How could you say no, you aren't busy then.    This is where it happens!  We feel like we owe it to them to go, because we aren't busy.  But we could end up spending that half a day doing something really fulfilling and invigorating, instead of going to the obligatory baby shower for our cousins friend.    I think we often feel like there just isn't enough time in a day, because we are giving too much of it away!   This podcast episode is the best reminder of how precious your time is and the best strategies for deciding how you spend it.    Let's go!    Here's the deal with how you decide how to    If you don't want to go, don't go.   Alex Hormozi said- Just because you have free time, doesn't mean that anyone who asks for it is entitled to it.    If you see that you have an empty day, mis people assume if someone asks for that time, its theirs.    Its only not theirs when someone else has claimed it    Which means that your time only belongs to other people.       And then you're surprised that your investment of time has yielded nothing for you.    You've given your most important asset - your time.    Your calendar is the best way to tell where you are going to be in a year.   You can see by what you are doing today, what your life will look like in a year.    The life that you are living today is a result of the work you did 6-12 months ago.    Just like people want an immediate reward, they see their current condition as a reflection of what you're doing today.  It's not - it's a reflection of what you did 6 months ago.    It helps you make better decisions with your time now.    Going to the gym is the best example!  The change isn't immediate.  If you skip all of your workouts, you don't see or feel it right away- but you do in 6 months.  It also works the other way. 

Here's how it works.  Every Sunday when you are planning out your week, you decide on what your four no's will be.  These are things that you just won't do.  It works so well because it's not making this big list of things you have to do - like go to the gym for an hour a day, set aside time and a quiet space to meditate- while I love all things like that too- what we are talking about today is so much easier because it doesn't require more time or energy. It just requires discipline and self control to not to the thing.  Here are examples…  Maybe you had the worst hangover last week - and it's happened a lot lately and you're over it - so one of your Nos would be… NO more than 2 drinks in a night.  Other examples…  No scrolling social media in bed  No eating past 7pm  No hitting the snooze button  All things that make you better- make you feel better, more productive, healthier.  I'm sharing my current four No's and lots of examples to get you thinking about how you can set-up these rules in your life to help you get to exactly where you want to be.  Without doing anything at all, you just have to set limits and say no to things.  Why 4? 5 is too many and 3 is too few  My current ones: No distracted communication  No phone or social media or scrolling before bed or when I wake up  No food past 7 No eating at the fridge  Examples  No raising my voice  No fast food  No negative self talk  No negative talk about others  No refined sugars or starches  No checking emails constantly  No skipping breakfast  No clutter  No processed foods  No sitting for more than 2 hours at at a time  No eating in the car  No more than 2 cups of caffeine  No multitasking  No overcommitting  Here is a link to my 2.0 Habits System that I talk about:  https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/ultimatecourse Here's how you figure out what yours are…  Just ask yourself, what would make your days better?  What would get you going to your goals faster?  It works in all buckets of life.  If you are distracted and not getting enough done, set limits there.   Many of my current issues are around food and eating right now.  But then those will regulate and they will be about other things.  The key is - making a promise to yourself that you will stick to it. And every time you do, its like a vote for the person you want to be.  It's deep self confidence that nobody knows about, but you do.  You become a person that does what you tell yourself you are going to do.  It gives you strength in all areas of life.  When we let our emotions dictate our actions -  We have to be consistent to see change and this sets us up for that.  Emotions are changing and inconsistent.  So by setting up these nos - you creating consistency even when you're emotions aren't. Most people are going through life on auto pilot. If they are annoyed by something or feel a negative emotion or don't feel 100%, they use it as an excuse to not stick to their standards.  They make bad choices and don't do things that align with their goals and priorities.  Because it feels good now- but feel even worse later.   Now I over drank AND I broke a promise to myself.  Your emotions can't determine your actions if you want to be extra ordinary.  We know that for sure.  Doing things this way, you choose what you know is right for you, regardless of how the day is going.  It helps you do what you need to do, even when you don't feel like it. I tell myself, this isn't hard… I don't have to actually DO anything.  I can certainly just not do this thing. I'm all about FREEDOM and the crazy part is - freedom comes from discipline and structure.  And it helps us raise our standards for ourselves. These NOs become our standards.  And we keep these standards even when we're tired or in a bad mood or whatever it is.  Set standards that make you proud of yourself using this system and accept nothing less.  As you move through the weeks, you'll find that some of your 4 NOs become automatic and you replace them with 4 new Nos.  Things you decide you will not do, because you have this high standard of yourself. You just won't break the promise to yourself.  And now you have this whole new set of standards that you have for yourself.  CHEERS!!  To designing your NOs to level up your standards and your life!

Here we go right into the biggest and most fun holidays of the year.  But with that often comes stress, arguments, expectations not met, exhaustion… this podcast episode is to help with all of that! We are talking about some key things to think about ahead of time to have the most happiest holiday. Like… **Don't have set rigid expectations - and for things that are important to you, make sure the people that you love know it **Don't exhaust yourself to where you won't be able to enjoy it **Go into it with a state of mind that you are going to laugh through things that go wrong and not loose your cool **Know that someone might say something triggering and you aren't going to engage **Set yourself up to win - set expectations & be organized This is YOUR holiday too - not just the kids in the family or anyone else.  It's YOURS and today we're going to lean into how we can make sure it's positive and full-filling for YOU too. Thank you for listening! HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!

I just learned these two BEST strategies for responding when    Notice I said respond not react because we know the longer we can space out the action or comment and our reaction the more control we have.    These two strategies will teach you HOW TO RESPOND when someone belittles you or says something disrespectful.    And then best part is, you leave the situation having handled it with confidence and control - and you haven't lowered your standards for yourself - like the other person likely did.    These are skills that you have to think about BEFORE you're in the situation so when the situation happens, you're ready!!      I learned these 2 strategies from Jefferson Fisher, a trial lawyer and an expert on communication. Have them repeat it  Ask them if this is their intention with this  When someone is belittling to you or says something hurtful- make them repeat it. They are trying to get a reaction out of you.  When you ask them to repeat it - they don't get that reaction/ that response time.  It takes the fire out of it and flips it on them.  They don't want to say it again - the spotlight is on them!   THEN ask question of intent. Did you say that to hurt me? Puts a mirror on them.   You don't have to respond or react at all!!!  It handles it!!  You don't have to figure out how to respond to something you dont want to respond to.    Did you say that to offend me? Usually it's no no no I didn't mean to!!  I'm just kidding - you don't need to be so sensitive etc.   You're not going to believe how good this is!!!    Two skills that you have to think about BEFORE you're in the situation so when the situation happens, you're ready!!    Listen - some of these comments could come from good people with good intentions.  But it doesn't always translate this way.  It's your job to respond in a confident way without it rattling you or making you depressed.   Because we know people opinions have so much more to do with them, than us.    And know!!! Don't lower your standard of yourself because someone else lowered their standard of themselves.   Next time this happens to you, you'll be ready to handle it in the most awesome way possible! 

Today, we're just going to jam on gratitude and perspective and how the way we frame things is the way we see them.  I'm sharing what I think are the most valuable insights and thoughts I have in this season of life.  Things I've learned from my reading a book a week every week and just being a student of life.  Having conversations with all different types of people and perspectives and with different experiences.  This is a fun one with lots of different ideas for you think about and maybe insert your life and routine.  I loveeee reading a book a week  I've replaced social media with reading/audio books  Only on social during mellow movement - breaking the cycle of social media early morning and in evenings and in any free minutes.  I have a plan and stick to it instead.  I'm prioritizing stretching with weights for longevity  I 100% believe that aging is mostly neglect not an avoidable part of life  I'm going PRO at sleeping and bedtime routine - setting a plan and being strict with it  And when something seems hard- becoming a PRO at it - starting something or solving something.  Monotasking - do one thing until it's totally done  Using social media strategically and not passively  Purge.  Have less and know where it all is.  Plus life is so much more calm. Spending money very intentionally.  For me it's mostly longevity and nutrition. I also like being put together and have nice things to wear but that's way more Zara these days than designer.  Have a set plan for the day before it gets going.  If you don't have a plan, your day will run you.  Start in control and stick to the plan.  Don't let emotion stray you.  Sending love to you and yours this holiday season and beyond!

Whether you have one kid or 5 kids or you don't have kids but plan to one day… this podcast episode is filled with ideas for you to really connect with each child - starting at any age.    Life is busy and the months go by quickly.  I've learned just how important it is to slow down and be mindful of the relationship and connection that you have with each child and how it changes as they get older.   My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas of ways to really connect and stay connected with your child.  Ideas that will really get you thinking about how you can insert the best ideas for you, into your daily lives.    I believe so much that an extra ordinary life comes largely from taking ordinary moments and making them extra ordinary and this episode is filled with so many ways to do just that with your babies.    **Lots of ideas…  1:1 time consistently  Leave out something to do together (book or football etc) Do what they are interested in  Ask questions that are open ended and curious  Show your love in the way that resonates most with them  Celebrate tiny wins- things you wouldn't normally celebrate  Learn a new skill together  Share a hobby  Create traditions with each child (ex: Sunday am pancakes)  Work together on a charity project  Frame pictures of them that represent special accomplishments or moments  Projects that live on like a time capsule (digital or actual)  Dream day together - make a list, look forward to it, do all of the things on the list  Plan dream playdate together for their friends  Plan their birthday parties together  Start a small business, podcast or blog together  Go on walks after dinner - low pressure environment  Make a seasonal bucket list (summer bucket list to go zip lining etc)  LAUGH!  Plan vacations / adventures      **With each kid have a… TRADITION once a week or once a year   SONG that is theirs/yours THING that is yours (star, magic, champion etc) OUTING to look forward to   **Things to avoid…  Always solving everything for them  Dividing your time with technology  Be curious and not judgmental  Allow them space to fully be who they are      **How we can use what we know about habits to make this all happen!  Anchor to exiting (after brushing your teeth..) Start tiny - 2 minutes of something  Focus on behavior, not outcomes  Be flexible - helps you be consistent  Change your physical space  Just start- build on small wins - momentum  Focus on doing, not perfection      CHEERS to having the most awesome connections with your awesome kids! 

Every year around my birthday I'm like, ok, what's the secret unlock at this age?  Like what have I learned and what I am doing that makes the biggest difference in my life? This year, that skill that I've unlocked in myself this ability to turn what feels like the worst thing, into the best thing. In a very practical and realistic way. So aside from anything really really sad in life, this strategy allows you to get out of thinking and saying how much this sucks or is unfair or is the worst thing that could happen.  And flipping it to- how could this become the best thing? I'm going to fully explain it because once you set yourself up like this - it's crazy how you can see the same situations completely differently. It's saying to yourself, this sucks, and it's not at all what I wanted.  But, how could it actually be the best thing? You have to listen to this full episode - it's 20 minutes or so that will change the way you react when things go sideways. Things that are awful - like getting fired or someone breaking up with you or you don't get the promotion or don't get into the college or high school that you wanted.  You sprain your ankle and can't workout for 3 months and it's your favorite thing.. This is what we know for sure… Bad things happen. People dont know how to cope. And they allow one bad thing to snowball into more. THIS IS THE UNLOCK! Bad things suck. The only thing worse is letting one bad thing ruin many good things. One bad thing happens and the way you operate afterwards is what more bad things happen. Because really… things aren't good or bad- they just are. It's becoming anti fragile as we go. People often dont know how to cope with bad stuff. Thats how you end up with this weird spiral with more bad things happening. People dont know how to manage their emotions so they just react. The more I try to create space between how I feel and what I do, the more I've been able to control my outcomes in situations. It's a superpower, I'm telling you.  The next time something in your life sucks, ask yourself, how can this actually be the best thing ever?

Today we're talking about party cakes!   And all the ways you can make them magical.    From cakes you make yourself at home, to store or bakery bought cakes that you jazz up to custom made cakes, I have ideas for you for all of them!    From simple to extravagant and ways to make the party cake so magical and perfect for the occasion.    My goal in this episode is to give you lots of ideas so next time you have a cake to plan, it's the most special.    We're talking about the center of the party today… the cake!     What's our top priority? Taste, design, price.    Get a Pinterest board going and a folder on your phone. If doing for someone else - show them inspiration and tell you which they like!    Treats vs a big cake or a few cakes        Ways to make your cake magical   -Surprise inside cake - have bakery fill or you fill if baking    -Custom topper - Etsy    -Tons of toppers - Amazon + candy    -Cake to match the theme    A cake is a great “thank you for having us” gift!  Or to bring to a party!      My cake creators info: Brooke- bangpopshop@gmail.com   My sign & cake topper creator: Anh- anh@bldahlia.com   Custom cookie designer: Megan- cousincookie@yahoo.com   Tag me on IG when you create magical cakes!!  @LindsaysCloud   XOX

It may sound obvious, but honest, like real saying what you think,   I'm obsessed with being honest and direct because it does so much for you.    If you need to tell someone how you really feel or cancel on some thing or decline an invitation, be honest. Be kind and considerate and compassionate and have empathy… all those things. But just be honest.    Even if it stings for a second people will respect your honesty and It's hard to be mad at the truth.   Honesty is a superpower because it allows you to go to sleep without crumbs!  You sleep well knowing you don't have little stories to make sure you keep up with or the pressure of doing something that you really don't want to do because you weren't honest from the beginning.    Oh my gosh how much less complicated things are when you are direct and honest.  Rather than calling a friend or thinking about something for days- you know how you feel - be direct and honest and move on to the next.  Most things aren't actually as big of a deal as we make them out to be.    You don't have little white lies to keep track of, and you don't hold on to the burden of things.  Think about how much more effective it is to talk to someone directly about something that is bothering you rather than not talk to them and talk to other people who can't do anything about it and it just makes the problem bigger and stirs up complication. Often times, when you go straight to the source and you are honest, you can clear up miscommunications really quickly.   Being honest doesn't mean just saying the first thing that comes to mind and bulldozing other peoples feelings. To me it's completely the opposite.    When I think about what's the best solution or the best way to handle a situation, it's simple. Just be honest.  If someone asked me to invest in a company, and it's not a good fit, I tell them that rather than making up an excuse, that's not true          Examples!    At work! Direct approach: “Your report had a lot of valuable information, but the formatting and structure made it difficult to follow. We need it to be more organized to ensure clarity.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see how much effort you put into this report, and that's really appreciated. I know making adjustments might feel like extra work, but a clearer structure will help showcase the quality of your insights even more.”     With kids! Direct approach: “You can't stay up past your bedtime. It's not allowed.” With empathy and compassion: “I know you really want to stay up longer and finish your game, but you need rest to feel good tomorrow. Let's set a time to finish it tomorrow after you've slept well.”   Direct approach: “You didn't clean your room, so you can't go to the party.” With empathy and compassion: “I can see that cleaning your room wasn't fun or easy, but it's important to follow through on your responsibilities. Since you didn't finish, you won't be able to go to the party today, but we can plan something fun when you finish it later.”   Direct approach: “You hit your brother, and that's not acceptable.” With empathy and compassion: “I saw you hit your brother, and that's not okay. I understand you were upset, but hurting others is not how we solve problems. Let's talk about why you were angry, and we can figure out better ways to handle those feelings next time.” With spouse!    Direct approach: “I don't feel like you're meeting my emotional needs.” With empathy and compassion: “Lately, I've been feeling like I need more emotional connection between us. I know we've both been busy, but I really miss the deeper conversations we used to have. Can we find some time to reconnect and share more with each other?”   Direct approach: “You're not doing your share of the housework.” With empathy and compassion: “I've been feeling overwhelmed with the housework lately, and it seems like I've been taking on more of the load. I know we both have busy schedules, but could we figure out a way to balance things better? It would really help me out.”     With friends!  Direct approach: “You're always late, and it's frustrating.” With empathy and compassion: “I really value our time together, but it's been tough when you're often late. I understand things come up, but it would mean a lot if we could make more of an effort to start on time. Is there something I can do to help?”       CHEERS to being your most awesome direct and honest self!! 

If you struggle with getting things done and being productive - I have one strategy, one change that will make you 10 times more productive.   I love working with and studying high achievers and this one skill is something they all have.     We're going through how most people tackle tasks and make decisions and how high achievers do.  And then, how you can start doing things this way right away.    It's one shift in how you do every thing, that changes the game.    We are learning into the power of undivided attention, leading to more effective, efficient, and high-quality outcomes.   Focus on one thing at a time - do it the very best you can, then move on.   It's mono-tasking at it's finest.        On the daily...   Improved Quality of Work: When you dedicate your full attention to a single project, you can dive deeper into the details and nuances. This focused effort often leads to higher-quality results. For instance, a writer working on a novel without distractions is more likely to produce a well-crafted manuscript compared to if they were juggling multiple writing projects. Faster Completion Time: By concentrating on one task, you minimize the time lost to context-switching. For example, a software developer who focuses solely on debugging a specific piece of code can resolve issues faster than if they were constantly shifting between debugging and feature development. Enhanced Problem-Solving: Monotasking allows you to immerse yourself fully in a problem, which often leads to more creative and effective solutions. Consider an architect working on a building design; uninterrupted focus enables them to explore innovative solutions and address potential issues more thoroughly. Reduced Stress and Burnout: Handling multiple tasks simultaneously can be overwhelming and lead to stress. Monotasking reduces this strain by simplifying your workload. For instance, a project manager who tackles one project at a time can manage deadlines and expectations more effectively, reducing the risk of burnout. Increased Mastery and Expertise: Focusing on a single project allows you to gain deeper expertise and mastery in that area. For example, a researcher concentrating on one scientific study can develop a more nuanced understanding and contribute more significant findings than if they were dividing their attention among several studies.       In the big picture, in the words of Alex Hormuz…  “The only way to achieve extraordinary results is to focus on one thing at a time and become obsessed with it.” “Your ability to focus on one thing for an extended period of time is directly correlated with your success.” “Success comes from the ability to concentrate your energy and efforts on a single goal until it's achieved.”

In this episode, we are talking about having strategic reactions instead of emotional ones.   All day every day we are faced with situations in which we have opinions and emotions. But that doesn't mean we have to act on them.   It may seem so foreign at first put overtime, it's the most empowering thing, because your energy is not wasted, and you don't have unnecessary headaches.    Asking yourself two things - is this worth my energy and what is the end result I want?    It takes training to not act on your emotions but it's crazy powerful.  You keep so much more of control of your life and the situations you are in.   This episode will save you heartache, stress and will certainly get you more of what you want.    Before you send the text or the email - sleep on it and decide in the morning.    Emotions don't require actions!   Thinking through- what happens AFTER this … is so helpful!    What is the end result that I want?    If you go nuclear on someone -    We should think of the end goal in mind.    I want them to not do that again.  I don't want them to retaliate. If you are trying to avoid retaliation, then it's better not to throw the rock.    Often times I just want to get the F out of the conversation.    So how about just agree and move on.    Examples:  Someone says to you..  “You're fit because you're lucky.  You have good genetics so it comes easy to you."   You say, Ya, it's nice.      Maybe something triggers you politically.   Maybe someone says something uncalled for or inappropriate.      You should probably learn how to do ___ before trying it. Like what do you even know about it?      You don't always have to set them straight or stand up for yourself.  Control what you can control.     THINK 2 steps ahead.   Often times it's honesty.   Just tell the truth.         It's just so powerful for all stages of life.     You have to separate you feeling something and you acting on something.   You may feel angry at your co-worker but jabbing at them will only make your work life miserable.    You have to resist things that might make you feel better in the moment.    Create space and time!   When you feel something and have the desire to act on it - since we want to make as logical of decisions as we can.   If we make more logical decisions, we want to create space from when we feel and when we act.    Just because you feel something doesn't mean to act on it.    You're most likely to regret decisions that you make immediately after something - your instant reaction.     CHEERS to your super power of controlling your emotions and having strategic reactions! 

Let's explore how we can transform ordinary experiences into extraordinary ones by leaning into the elements that make moments memorable.   I've been trying to do this in my own life - making long drives that would otherwise be sort of boring - fun in some way.  And setting up a little family game or activity during the day while the kids are at school for us to all play after dinner.   I'm on this quest to make more lasting memories and have more connections with my people. Not get too caught up in routine and distractions that we forget to celebrate little wins and create more peak moments each week.   I just read the book The Power of Moments by Dan & Chip Heath and this could not have come at a better time.  Today we are talking about how you can inject elements of surprise and excitement and newness into everyday tasks.      By breaking away from routine, amplifying high points, and focusing on emotional impact, we can turn the mundane into the meaningful and forge lasting memories that enrich both personal and professional experiences.     Defining Moments: Moments that stand out in our lives are often characterized by their emotional intensity. They break from routine and are memorable. Four Key Elements: To create powerful moments, focus on these elements: Elevation: Moments that rise above the ordinary and create a sense of wonder or excitement. Insight: Moments that lead to a profound realization or understanding. Pride: Moments that highlight achievements and strengths, often marking milestones. Connection: Moments that deepen relationships and foster a sense of belonging. Elevate Ordinary Experiences: Inject elements of surprise, excitement, or novelty into routine activities. This could mean adding unexpected touches, celebrating small wins, or introducing fun elements to everyday tasks. Break the Script: Deviate from the norm to create memorable experiences. By breaking away from routine and introducing something unique or unexpected, you can make an ordinary moment stand out. Break the script - this is doing something that defies the expectation in the moment.  To create more peaks! It can't happen so often that it becomes the normal  The Power of Small Moments: Even small, intentional actions can create meaningful moments, like personalized gestures or thoughtful acknowledgments. Celebrations: celebrating milestones can help create lasting positive memories and reinforce values. Designing Moments for Others: Think about how you can intentionally craft moments that will impact others positively, whether in personal relationships or in professional settings. The Role of Storytelling: Crafting moments often involves effective storytelling, whether in personal experiences or in shaping the culture of an organization. Leveraging Moments for Growth: Use impactful moments as opportunities for learning and growth, both personally and within organizations. Focus on Peaks: Identify and amplify the high points of an experience. Whether it's a significant achievement or a joyful event, emphasizing these peak moments helps make them more memorable. Create Moments of Pride: Highlight achievements and milestones to foster a sense of pride. Celebrating successes, no matter how small, can turn an ordinary occasion into a meaningful one. Foster Connection: Strengthen relationships by creating moments that deepen connections. This can be achieved through meaningful interactions, shared experiences, or personalized gestures. Use Rituals and Traditions: Establishing rituals or traditions can transform routine events into special moments. These practices provide structure and meaning, enhancing the significance of ordinary experiences. Design for Emotional Impact: Consider the emotional journey of the moment and aim to design experiences that resonate deeply. Whether it's through storytelling, thoughtful gestures, or creating a sense of awe, focusing on emotional impact can elevate ordinary moments.   How to plan for these moments!!  Calendar out your life and picture yourself doing the things!  What would make it more special? A birthday- a massive poster card or game to celebrate the bday person.    When planning, don't fall back on how you do things - for everything.  Keep some things the same - the ones that work best - then find new ideas for the rest.    ASK your people and listen!  By applying these strategies, you can transform everyday activities into memorable experiences that leave a lasting impression.   Items mentioned in this episode...   Darts- https://amzn.to/4cUESDX Cookies- cousincookie@yahoo.com Book- https://amzn.to/3TmgK6f   CHEERS to focusing on emotional impact to elevate ordinary moments!!

The goal of this episode is to get you thinking about planning more newness in your life.  New experiences and adventures. Because we know- If you don't put stuff on your calendar that you really want to do - life will take over. Work will happen, chores will be there and before you know it, we're running life in reactive mode. All of the other life stuff will fill in anyway.  Today we are focusing on planning things ahead of time that feel exciting and that you can do with your favorite people on the planet. We're going through lots of ideas and getting rid of any hurdles you might have in your way as we go. Let's map it all out then all we have to do is follow the script.   Braindump things you'd love to do!  See who wants to do it with you!  figure out what's stopping you and what are you believing that isnt actually true?  Ideas of what to do!  *Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing *Visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience Find a local path and plan a hike *Go camping for the weekend at a local spot Take a photography workshop class with friends *Set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area *Plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries *Learn to kayak at a local river *Road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit *Plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch *Plan a ride in a hot air balloon *Get a group to go indoor rock climbing *Book a rental cabin for the weekend *Take the train on an adventure *Run a non-profit project with a friend *Learn a new skill *Take a new class with family and friends. 

I realized I wanted to have a few key things that I say to my kids all the time, that they will remember their whole lives.  You know how special it is when someone says, oh growing up my mom always told me this… or my dad made sure I knew this…  Parenting can be overwhelming and a lot just keeping up with the day-to-day. I sat down last week to write out the things that I've learned along the way that I think are the most important to help them be confident and strong and kind and grow up to be really awesome people. My goal in this podcast episode is to you give you lots of ideas of things to say to your kids over and over so it really sinks in. Here we go!  15 Awesome Messages To Say To Our Kids Constantly... 1 Make decisions and pursue passions based on what feels best to you. You define what success means to you.  2. Comparing yourself to other people will always steal your joy.  3 If you never speak unkindly of people, you never have to worry about it coming back to you. 4. The best way to make good decisions is to not put yourself in a bad situations. 5. Call me the second something goes sideways - I've got your back always. 6 Follow the rules and always be kind, but also live boldly and push limits.  7 Embrace all of your emotions and don't label any as good or bad.  8 The more you fail, the more you are trying. Collect as many fails as you can and learn the lessons along the way.  9 Never say a word about your body that you wouldn't say to your best friend about hers.  10 Give full effort to everything you do.  11 Family first, always take care of each other.  12 Don't let little things that don't matter in the big picture, get you too upset.  13 Make it your mission to be the one that helps someone who needs it.  Sit by someone who is alone, volunteer and dedicate time to others.  (The way to never feel entitled and see how most of the world lives)  14 You can become good at literally anything you want to be - you just have to be willing to work hard for it. Hard work, consistently can get you anywhere you want.  15 You are so incredibly loved

Ok let's do it - what's a 34?  It's the percentage of people who are happy and feel fulfilled in their lives.  Leaving 66% of people- unhappy and unfulfilled.    I love putting a number to it because it's the best push when you're scared.  When it's hard to start something new and risk failing…  When it's hard to say no to an event you don't want to go to but everyone else is going…    We know that what most people are doing isn't working because the majority of people aren't happy. They don't feel joy and fulfillment and progress in their lives on the daily and in the big picture.    We know a life that makes us feel excited and inspired isn't just going to happen to us - we have to work for it and plan for it and design it.    Today, we're making a plan for becoming a forever 34. Getting out of our own way and out of our head, and doing more of things we love and less of things we hate. We're making a plan to be the happy minority today.    HOW I BECAME A 34…    I started designing my days with intention. Realizing that it wasn't just going to happen, nobody was going to do it for me and nothing was going to change if my habits didn't change.    I needed an actual SYSTEM to help bridge the gap between the life I wanted and the life I was living.    A way to get super clear on my goals and then design a life based on those priorities.    I needed a way to organize the habits I knew I needed to be doing and a way to avoid distractions, celebrate small wins and focus on consistency.   I tried calendar books, habits apps, charts, notes on mirrors, lol basically everything.     There wasn't an actual habits system that helps you get crazy clear on your priorities and set big goals, then charge towards them daily.  So I created one.  And it's awesome.  It's called 2.0 and it's this awesome gift box filled with deep dive sheets, calendar books (one for each week) and other fun supplies to get you going and keep you on track.    It's a clear path to becoming a 34

Let's talk about how to order healthy at any restaurant and what are the right questions to ask, to get a delish but also good for you meal.  Now, up front I want to be clear that I am all about loving what you eat, and having the special experiences and endulging- for sure!   But for the majority of the time - I think we all feel the best when we fuel our bodys with whole foods and limit sugars, refined carbs and seeds oils.  I'm going to give you tips if you are an easy order-er when you're out- and also if you're like me and have no problems being the person with the complicated order - so many tips for you too.  In fact, if there's ever a viral video of someone with like their wildly complicated order, 5 different friends will send me the same video. I laugh too because it's accurate but hey I've learned what makes me body feel crappy and what makes it feel great and if my order has a few turns to get there, it's worth it. TIPS!  Research where you're going ahead of time - pick places with healthier options.  As you get into doing this, call and ask the questions before you go- that way you can order easier when you get there.  Tips for the… Easy order-er -focus on protein  -sauce on the side  -extra veggies instead of a starch  -lettece wrapped instead of a bun  Complicated order-er  -Cook with olive oil or avocado oil  -Drinks - no refined sugar- ask for what fresh fruits they have  -Fish - wild caught  -Chicken - organic  -Beef - grass fed beef or steak  For dessert - bowl of berries - anything on top on the side please  See if you can get something from breakfast menu like greek yogurt and fruit with granola on the side.  And if you're at a place that isn't an experience- bring your own glass container! No shame in bringing your own yummy food if they don't have the right thing for you!  CHEERS to loving the healthy foods you are ordering out!

Let's plan your weekly workout schedule in a way that helps you to be your strongest and most functional self now, and also train for longevity and healthspan.  The concepts I'm sharing today are from the book, Outlive, by Peter Attia.    He takes this complicated topic- what forms of exercise are best for us… and makes it super clear.   We are going through the 4 pillars and exact types of exercises you can do for them.    I believe that there are so many ways to get to what you want in life- you have options so pick one that sounds fun.     So giving you lots of choices and I'm also giving you exact examples of classes to take- if you want to use my favorite online platform - OBE fitness.    Using Peter Attia's 4 pillars as our guide to fitness will help us delay the onset of chronic disease, while also maintaining health span for as long as possible.      Peter Attia outlines 4 different types of exercise:   1. Stability- the foundation of everything. It's what allows you to pick-up 50 pounds off the floor without getting injured. It's focusing on core strength (pilates), balance exercises (balance board or stability ball), functional movements (lunges and squats), progressive overload (challenging muscles through duration or resistance) and injury prevention (strengthen muscles around joints).    2. Strength- muscle mass and strength training. Lifting weights!  A fall that will barely bruise you as a 30 year old can kill you as an 80 year old because you aren't strong enough to survive it.   3. ZONE 2 cardio- aerobic efficiency - this is a steady state where you are cruising along at a sustainable pace. You should be able to maintain a conversation comfortably while exercising at this pace.   4. ZONE 5 cardio - VO2 MAX - an Aerobic peak, a short burst of energy like a HIIT workout.    Attia says that all 4 pillars must be in your routine if you are exercising for longevity.    Here are the types of classes to use on OBE for each type of exercise: 1. Stability- Sculpt  2. Strength- Strength & Power  3. Zone 2 Cardio- Low Impact HIIT & Dance Cardio  4. Zone 5 Cardio- HIIT & Boxing & Endurance   As we age, we lose muscle mass and bone mineral density. Lifting weights prevents this which makes it an essential part of our longevity plan.   Here is a link to Attia's book: https://amzn.to/3SvaKYb   And to Lindsay's 2.0 Master Course: https://howtobeawesomeateverything.com/pages/the-courses   Cheers to moving in the best way now… to plan for a long and healthy life! 

Today we are going through 20 things that I think we can all do- to become the super human version of ourselves. Some are biohacking strategies, others are mindset and some are the way we move and what we eat.  They are all so good and backed by science done by actual experts on the topic.  I just did a re-read of 3 of my favorite books on longevity and health  Outlive, Lifespan & Superhuman and I'm bringing you what I think are the best habits we can all do, to feel great now and function the best as we age.  There is so much information to sort through when it comes to this topic, my goal in this episode is to clear the waters and give you a cheat sheet for the best ways to get closer to the super human version of you and feel awesome!  These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME! They are the natural medicine for…stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life. Treat the cause, not the symptom! Click here to download and print your Super Human Cheat Sheet! (Emily is putting it as a blog on the site - please add in that blog link)  Here are the Super Human Habits!   1. Get Sunlight 2.  Lift Heavy Weights 3.  Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen 4.  Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep 5.  Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings) 6.  Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes 7.  Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility) 8.  Take A Cold Shower / Cold Plunge 9.  Take A Hot Bath / Sauna 10.  Protect Your Happy Headspace 11.  Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive 12.  Do Some Grounding / Feel The Earth 13.  No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed 14.  No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep 15.  Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze) 16.  Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative) 17.  10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key) 18.  Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile) 19.  Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success 20.  Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe)

Today we are making a plan to become tougher and less fragile.  Because it puts us in the drivers seat. When we take full accountability for things and we resist the urge to fall into mindless scrolling or just going with whatever everyone else is doing, we're planning for the long game.    Taking lots of small risks and trying new things and pushing yourself and getting uncomfortable - it's all conditioning you to be tough for life.    So you are mentally and physically strong when you need to me.  So when something hard is in front of you, you haven't created this comfortable bubble that you live in that you just fall apart.    I am on optimist to the extreme - so don't take this as a negative - but just an honest observation - more and more people today are fragile and easily offended than ever before.   That's not the life we are working to create here - so let's design our plan for being completely anti-fragile.      How do we get tougher and less fragile?    First, let's unpack, where we are at and how we got here.   Then, let's make a plan to become anti-fragile.      I'm finishing up the the book The Coddling Of The American Mind and it's SO interesting.   The authors explore why people are mentally weaker than they used to be and more emotionally fragile.      A few key points that the authors make…    In the last 15 years the public has become more emotionally fragile and young people in particular are less tolerant of any discomfort that comes their way.    They talk about a few explanations that they have data to support that explain this…    1. Rise in helicopter parenting The assumption that parents need to watch their kids and protect them at all costs.    2. Philosophy of safetyism  The belief that anything that can cause pain or suffering is ultimately harmful in the long run and can even be tramatic.    3. Lack of play  The past few generations of kids have been so overloaded with schoolwork and extracurricular activities trying to get into a good high school and college that they haven't had time to be kids, and it turns out that most mental and emotional development happens when they are playing.    4. Social media  Social comparison, fear of missing out, constant connectivity and validation seeing are always that social media makes us more emotionally fragile.      JOE ROGAN says…  The hardest thing that has ever happened to you is the hardest thing that has ever happened to you.    It's so easy to win right now because most people are special snowflakes.       Responses from social media:  Everyone expects things at their fingertips with the Internet.   Over parenting… In the 90s we got sent outside all day.   Kids never have to struggle or just figure it out. Parents are too connected to kids.    We are overstimulated with technology. Higher stimulation and emotions means faster to break down.    Think we have more awareness and options more than ever to cater to comfort.   Overprotective parenting and limiting exposure to the “hard” in life.   The media telling us that everything our parents did was wrong.   Definitely the younger generation has a difficult time managing stress and pressure.    Not as much adversity to face, we embrace differences more than different opinions.   Computers and less social interactions.    Everyone gets a trophy.    Lack of downtime in children. Too much screen time.   We know more dangers than our parents did.    I blame the Internet.   Lack of basics In kids. One thing we know for sure - we must be anti-fragile to thrive.      So knowing all this, how do we become anti-fragile?      Here's the breakdown..    We need to do harder things!  Embrace uncomfortable too!    Book: Antifragile Author Nassim Taleb       Thoughts from this book!    Do hard things because adversities make you grow   Go through life as a flaneur Adopt an anti fragile life philosophy  Make a plan for yourself and then stick to it.  Build in redundancy and layers (no single point of failure) Resist the urge to suppress randomness Make sure that you have your soul in the game Experiment and tinker — take lots of small risks Avoid risks that, if lost, would wipe you out completely Don't get consumed by data Keep your options open Focus more on avoiding things that don't work than trying to find out what does work Respect the old — look for habits and rules that have been around for a long time     #1 tip! Put tough people in your ears!!    You have to be willing to look wrong/do the thing everyone else isn't in the short term to look like a genius in the long term.    As the old adage goes, when you do what everyone else does, don't be surprised when you get the same results everyone else does.

Polls show that over half of people walking around are unhappy and I think it's because they are stuck in mediocre. A mediocre job, what they would consider as a mediocre relationship, mediocre health, mediocre version of whatever success means to them. And likely they probably have a story why they are stuck in mediocre. But the real story is, you can get unstuck anytime.   Now, of course, some of us were still dealt a more difficult card than others. So it's going to take more work to get out of mediocre but it's possible because people who have had it harder than us have done it so we can too.   It comes down to being honest with yourself about how you feel about different buckets of your life, realizing and believing that you're incomplete control of all of it, and then establishing daily habits that support the exceptional version of you, not the mediocre version.   I'm very positive and optimistic about the world we live in but I also think it's so easy to win right now because most people settle for mediocre. They simply aren't willing to do the hard work, or they are stuck in habits and routines that support their mediocre life, or they accepted that they are not good at something without actually putting in the hours required to become good at it.   We've got one shot on this planet and mediocre is not the plan.      Here's the trickiest part - when you are honest with yourself and assess what in your life is mediocre - it feels painful like you should have done something differently.    But when you lose the ego behind it and take it with the approach of - well I can't do anything about what's happened before now but I can for sure take all the lessons learned and make the best decisions going forward.  It's not a fail on me - it's forward focusing with a growth mindset.      WHY do we sit in mediocre sometimes?      Fear of failure    Easier to stay in your comfort zone    Lack of ambition    Conforming to social norms    Limiting beliefs    Not willing to work hard    Perceived lack of resources            HOW do we get out of it?      Get around a new crew/ have different influences    Outwork your self doubt - Alex Hormozi    Focus on learning and improvement always    Have high standards for yourself    Take massive action    Learn from failures and embrace them    Stop getting distracted and doing the wrong things    Consistency and discipline!    Set-up systems and processes so it all seems more do-able    Have a clear vision of your long term goals and set-up habits to do each day that support those goals.       We have to be willing to have discomfort now - and resist immediate satisfaction, for the long-term satisfaction that is so much sweeter! 

I do quite a few podcast topics around living in the most positive headspace possible. This one takes it to the next level. I'm sharing specific action steps for completely deleting something negative from your life.  I've been trying to get to this point for years and something happened recently that made me realize. I'm there. Quick story…  another mom friend and I were working on a project for a group with our kids and another mom came in blazing with all this negativity and opinions and it was just ridiculous. My friend and I were the ones doing all the work and she came in hot and I had all these opinions about how we were doing it wrong and was offended. It didn't involve her. The whole thing just made no sense.  But it was jarring at the time because she sent emails and CCed other people, on and on . OK, so fast-forward to last week my friend and I are talking and the other mom who had tried to make our life miserable joined in and we all had a nice chat. Afterwards, my friend reminded me who she was and I was like oh my gosh, you know it's so crazy. I had physically deleted that experience from my mind. I had no idea, that was the woman because it just didn't exist anymore. A big part of this is focusing on what you can control. I can't control her crazy so I deleted it.  Today we're going to go through exactly how to do that.  Let's define some terms - what are we deleting?  Negativity, judgment, drama, anything that makes you feel crappy or bad about yourself or upset or stressed or insecure.  We don't need it.  So we aren't just going to try to ignore it, we are going to completely erase it from our headspace so it's not taking up our precious bandwidth.  ACTION STEPS  -Realize what it is  -Take the fire out of it  -Focus on what you can control  -Journal am and pm to clear your mind  -Think of something SO important to you and realize that time you spend thinking/talking/stressing about the thing- is time away from that something important.  Like bike riding or playing with your toddler or calling your mom. -Control your thoughts  -Control your words- if you don't let it grow, it can't get bigger!  -Don't respond to crazy!  Tell yourself - I don't negotiate with terrorists!!! I'm telling you, the clarity you will feel from not carrying around all this weight that isn't needed is crazy!!! Focus on what you can control - let go of the rest.  When you think about protecting your happy headspace at all costs - when thats an actual priority of yours, all of this gets easier.  CHEERS to hitting the DELETE button on anything that doesn't bring you JOY!

I am recording this on our 15 year wedding anniversary!  On this day 15 years ago Craig and I got married in Cabo, and we started dating 5 years before that. So 20 years in, what have we learned… what have we done awesome and where did we struggle… I'm sharing a bit of our journey and what we know now that been awesome to know from the start.  I hesitate on doing podcast episodes on marriage and also raising kids because it's all so evolving and just when you think you have part of it totally figured out, there's a curve ball. But, I do have some awesome take-aways that I think will be valuable for anyone in a relationship or looking to be, plus some funny (and painful) stories about how we got here.  

This is how you don't wake up one day with a marriage where you don't communicate or connect. This is how you don't wake up one day unable to easily walk up a flight of stairs..    It's called course correcting and I think it's the answer to how we focus on little things daily to support the big things that matter most to us.    It's adjusting as we go.  Not letting things spiral until we hit rock bottom then need an extreme plan to get back on track.  It's being present and noticing things when they are off - in all buckets of your life.  Health, finances, relationships… all of it.    This is your plan for course correcting and compounding small habits that gradually lead the life you want. It's our daily plan actually for designing a life that you love.      The 1 in 60 rule! If a pilot takes off headed to their destination and they are just one degree off course, every 60 miles you fly with that error moves you one full mile off course. So you can see that even a slight variance from accuracy can create a real issue.     This is all about small decisions that you make everyday.    You don't just wake-up one day with a bad marriage or a disconnected relationship with your child, it compounds over time.    And on the flip, you don't just wake up one day feeling like your healthiest and strongest self.  It all compounds over time.    But the best news is - this makes it feel manageable. It's constant focus and attention everyday.    It's knowing your goals and priorities.    In my Ultimate Master Course and also in the 2.0 Habits System, I focus SO much on figuring out what you love and don't love because I think most people just don't ask themselves the questions!    Here's that link if you're interested:  Course- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/2-0theultimatemindsetmastercourse 2.0 Habits System & Weekly Books- https://lindsay-dickhout-7734.mykajabi.com/the-ultimate-mindset-master-course-1   I created a system to focus on daily habits because after reading every possible habits books and really studying the topic at a deep level, I realized that we just need to set ourselves up to do the daily things.  To do the things that bring us closer to our goals or the person that we want to be and NOT do the things that take us further away from it. 

This episode is all about sneaky procrastination!   Because I think all of us in some ways trick ourselves into thinking we are doing the thing- that thing you want to do or need to do - the hard thing that will bring you growth in the way you want - whatever that thing is for you right now.    And instead of actually doing the thing - we do a whole host of things like - make lists, we say we are planning, we talk about it, we do endless research on it OR we avoid it completely and go refold drawers or something.    I am going to read you the best short article I've read on the topic and we're going to unpack it so you can apply it to your life in real time.    Why do we let ourselves get distracted or procrastinate when something feels hard or uncomfortable?  What are we doing to trick ourselves to think we are working on it when actually we just aren't doing the thing?   I read this article by Strangest Loop called    things that aren't doing the thing      Here it is:    Preparing to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Scheduling time to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Making a to-do list for the thing isn't doing the thing. Telling people you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Writing a banger tweet about how you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Fantasizing about all of the adoration you'll receive once you do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading this essay isn't doing the thing. The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing. -------------------   You can dress it up however you want  But the work just needs doing    Ultimately - it's hitting play and recording the podcast or starting the blog or lifting the weight or making the first healthy meal.    We are motivated by the avoidance of discomfort.    Figure out - what is the discomfort?   Often times, have no idea what the discomfort is - we are just avoiding it.    If you have a hard email to write, you might refold and entire set of drawers to avoid doing the thing.    Or if you get to a hard point in writing a book - when it gets hard - we reach for our phone for distraction. WHY Because we are avoiding the discomfort.  Ask- WHY am I avoiding this? Maybe you need more research. Don't keep banging your head. When you become aware of the discomfort - you make a plan to attack it.    I've heard Steven Bartlette say it in this way…  What is the psychological discomfort I am avoiding right now?      Write down - what is the THING.  Unpack it.    WHY it's important to force yourself to do the actual thing… because it's the only thing that matters in becoming the person you want to be or reaching the goal you want to achieve.    Thank you for listening!  Have an awesome day! 

This concept is so freeing… ready?   It's good to feel sad, angry, stressed… because it's part of being human.  Those emotions that we tend to label as negative emotions and judge ourselves for feeling are not the problem.  The actual problem is the label, not the emotion itself.    And here's the best part, the way you get through those emotions- the sadness or the stress is by not trying to feel the opposite but by simply not labeling these emotions as good or bad.    When we label our emotions, if often makes those emotions bigger.  If you feel jealous and you feel badly about feeling jealous, it gets bigger.  If we shift to this new emotional awareness and acceptance for our feelings, we recognize that all emotions serve a purpose.  By having the non-judgements attitude toward emotions, we move through emotions faster and solve problems more efficiently.    It makes us more emotionally resilient and have healthier coping strategies, which is so much more awesome than running yourself down about how you feel.  Let's unpack it!      Here are the things we go through…    -Your actions matter more than your feelings. We think that we need to feel a certain way to be that type of person.  BUT that's where we get it twisted.  It's the actions you take.  If you want to be honest   -For a lot of these character traits we think that we need to feel a certain way, but it's the actions you choose despite how you feel.    -We think that we need to feel a certain way to be a patient or honest person.  But it's the actions you take, regardless of these feelings.    -By labeling emotions, they get bigger.    -Emotional awareness and acceptance makes you recognize that they all serve a purpose.    -What is the lesson with this emotion? Have curiosity and compassion    -This is so essential for navigating the challenges in life.  To have resilience and self-awareness is key.  -Emotions are neither good nor bad; they're simply messengers. It's our interpretation and response to them that shapes our experience.   -Instead of labeling emotions as positive or negative, view them as signals guiding you towards areas that need attention or growth.   -Every emotion serves a purpose; it's about understanding what that purpose is and how you can use it to your advantage.”   -Don't judge your emotions; acknowledge them. They're a reflection of your inner state and can provide valuable insights into your thoughts and behaviors.”     -Embrace the full spectrum of your emotions. By accepting them without judgment, you empower yourself to navigate life's challenges with greater resilience and clarity.     -Your emotions are like the weather—they come and go. Rather than trying to control them, focus on cultivating a mindset that allows you to adapt and thrive in any emotional climate.     CHEERS to allowing yourself to FEEL ALL THE FEELINGS without judgment so you can navigate life in the most awesome way possible.

I feel like most people would say they tired. Today, yesterday, most days.  I'm really interested in this. Are we actually tired or are we sort of not excited by what we are doing most days? And if we are tired, is it because the days are too full and we are doing too many things orrrr is it because we aren't setting ourself up to feel rested and rejuvenated.  Either way, we need to solve it because we can't complain that we are tired and not do anything to change it.  In this episode, let's figure out what's up.  Are you actually tired or are you overwhelmed or underwhelmed with life right now? The awesome news - I'm sharing strategies for tackling both.  Let's get you un-tired so you can be where your feet are and live your days fully.  First, let's figure out why you're tired.  1.  Actually tired Strategies- get more sleep, get better sleep, hydrate with electrolytes, no screen before bed, no food just before bed, create best sleep environment, stick to a schedule.  2.  Not excited with life / overwhelmed / underwhelmed  Strategies- ask yourself the hard questions  Make the changes you need to, have the conversations you need to, do the things you know you should.  3.  In this lazy habit pattern  Just like momentum brings momentum, non-momentum brings non-momentum Strategies- small steps to move more - get going - exhaust yourself  CHEERS to getting un-tired and living your most full life.

Today we are taking the complicated out of eating mostly whole foods and high protein at home in a way that makes you feel full and energized. It's taken me so many years of learning and spending money on experts to help me figure it all out. Now every persons body is different of course but I'm sharing lots of ideas of you to chose from to eat in a way that reduces inflammation in your body and helps you be your healthiest and can help you lose weight, all while feeling satisfied.    I'm giving you a grocery list to follow to make it all simple and not so complicated.    Because this is what I know… most people aren't eating enough protein and are eating too much processed foods. Most people say they are tired and often times we want to  healthier but it's hard to know where to start. I also know that we must have a strong plan in order to stick to our goals.   So this is our plan for eating to feel our best in the short term and long term. Eating for energy and longevity and the part I think that most people miss with this - buying organic and grass fed items are always more expensive than the regular but if you prep it the right way, it is absolutely less expensive than ordering in.    And if you know me you know there are some awesome healthy treats in the plan too, because that's what makes it sustainable in the long term. We are full and satisfied and know it's not at all a diet, but rather a lifestyle to feel our best.   Let's go!      Here is your grocery list   *Grassfed ground beef or steaks  *Organic ground chicken or turkey  *Organic pasture raised eggs *1 organic butter lettuce  *1 organic head of iceberg lettuce  *1 organic rotisserie chicken  *Veggies like zucchini, onions, peppers  *Avocados (1 per day) *Berries  *2 large organic greek yogurts    Then some throw ins to make all of this sustainable  *Siete toritilla chips  *Grain free tortillas  *Grass fed organic cheese, raw if possible  *Organic dark chocolate  *Raw honey  *Bananas & peanut butter      And to cook it in…  *Avocado oil  *Coconut oil  *Olive oil    How to make the money go the furthest!    Protein amounts... An egg has 6g of protein  A chicken breast as about 40g of protein  One pound of ground beef has 65g of protein  Some seeds can be great too like hemp seeds and pumpkin seeds   So if your goal is 1g of protein per pound of body weight- you can divide out how much protein you need per meal. My goal is 120g per day so I plan for about 40-50g per meal and I have 3 meals.   I think the KEY to all of this is to base your meals around protein and mostly whole foods. Get some veggies and some carbs and you're nice and full and happy!      Other options based on preferences! *Halibut or salmon -always wild caught  *Canned tuna or chicken  *Flax seeds and chia seeds  *Protein powders!      Take this list with you to the grocery store!   XO Lindsay

I have my favorite little due on the podcast with me today. Today Parker is going to tell us the story of when he got bit in the head by a scorpion on vacation and we're going to talk about being kind and being brave and probably soccer. Ok so life as a 6 year old and so many stories. Listen in for some fun insight into the life of a little guy and his plan for convincing Dad to have one more baby, a brother named Hot Dog. Thanks for listening!! 

You want to know the craziest thing about worrying what other people think of you?  With the amount of time and energy you spend worrying about what people might think if you do this or that, you could actually DO the thing.     You take control back of your life and your choices when you're making them based on what you really want and what feels best to you.    You'll take more risks, try new things and put yourself out there. Because we know that one day we will be 90 and we won't have the opportunities that we have today, we just won't.  Thinking about it that way makes it a lot less scary to let it go and go for it.    And another awesome thing that happens when you go for it and people do talk about you, it makes it easy… those aren't your people.  Thank you for saving me the time.    And also thank you for making it clear where we're at because I know that nobody ahead of me is taking the time to criticize me.    This concept of, stop caring about what other people think is easier said than done.  Today I'm giving you two awesome hacks to start today, to work towards the ultimate feeling of freedom- not caring what other people think of you.    A few notes from this episode…  -You only have so much energy - you could have actually done the thing!! Started the business, tried the new thing…. In the same effort it took to worry what would happen if you did.    -The upside of never trying is that you never have to feel the feeling of failure.   -I will ensure my failure in private so I never have to risk failing in public.  They take the long failure rather than the short one.    -We aren't afraid of failing!  We are afraid of what other people think of us failing. Imagine what other people are thinking if you aren't doing anything, oh that's right, they're not.    -If you could fail in isolation, you wouldn't care.    -If you're insecure, you might as well use it to get something out of it.   -The perfect condition is wherever you are at right now. If you feel like you have nothing, then you have nothing to lose.  There is always an advantage and disadvantage from every position.    -They won't think of you at all if you aren't doing anything and don't you want to be thought of?   -You're going to be 90. And it's going to be too late to do anything.   -You know I love thinking about my 90 year old self.   If you've spent time with old people, they don't give an F- in the best way. They are wearing socks with sandals in the way they want, they are    -Seeing someone old and no time to do the things is the only motivation I need.    -You know how you get good?  You just start doing what you want without the fear of judgment.  Like one tiny thing.  Like if music comes on at an outdoor restaurant and you think about dancing with your little kid because how sweet but you don't because nobody else is and people might think you are weird.  But doing things that other people aren't doing - usually means it's actually a good idea but 66% of people say they are unhappy.   -So not doing it because other people aren't isn't the right plan!!   -Here's the hacks!!     1.ONE. TINY. THING.  And then you see that you don't die. And you had fun dancing and just doing what you wanted.    Or wearing something different than everyone else because it's comfortable and you love how it feels… and then it's just fine.   You build momentum!!     2.  You make it a clear priority and remind yourself often.    Journal it, calendar it, write it down.  The more you make it a priority to work towards, the faster you will get there.        -Here's another thing - call out your fails.  Now what can they say.   -AGREE when someone says something you didn't do right.  Takes the fire out of it.   -OR agree just to end it. Who cares!?     -Their response to you just doesn't involve you honestly. It's their own perspective based on their experiences and opinions and it just doesn't have to affect yours.    -What's the worst that can happen?   You don't actually die of embarrassment it's actually ok. We move on.    -And I've really learned that leaning into vulnerably is such a strong thing.  Ya, that thing totally flopped.  But it's cool I know so much more now and I'm so pumped on my next adventure.  We accept it and move on, NEXT PLAY!        A few other tips!  -Identify your values: Clarify what truly matters to you and what you stand for. When you live in alignment with your values, you'll be less swayed by others' opinions. -Focus on your strengths: Recognize your talents, skills, and accomplishments. Embrace them and use them to boost your confidence. -Practice self-acceptance: Acknowledge and accept your flaws and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and embracing your humanity can help you be less concerned about others' judgments. -Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your own needs. -Challenge negative beliefs: Examine any negative beliefs you have about yourself that may be fueling your concern for others' opinions. Replace them with more empowering beliefs. -Develop a strong self-image: Visualize yourself as confident, capable, and resilient. Act as if you already possess these qualities, and eventually, they will become part of your reality. -Surround yourself with supportive people: Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and encourage you. Their positive reinforcement can help counteract any negativity from others. -Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that nurture your body and soul, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones. -Focus on your goals: Stay focused on your goals and aspirations. When you have a clear sense of purpose, the opinions of others become less significant in comparison to your pursuit of fulfillment. This is not an overnight thing!! Building resilience against others' opinions is a gradual process that requires consistent effort and self-reflection. By using these strategies, you can gradually reduce the impact of external judgments on your self-esteem and live more authentically.

You know I focus on the positive always and even though this title might not sound positive, it's empowering to call things what they are and make a plan to proceed in the best way possible.    Rather than getting mad about the way things are, we have to recognize what we can control and what is out of our control and make a plan with based on that.    This isn't just about avoiding disease and living as long as possible.    It's that but it's also how to have more energy and strength now and as we age.  How to feel sharp and healthy.    I don't think it's even controversial anymore to say that the traditional healthcare system is not set-up to keep us healthy and prevent disease.    It's set-up to treat symptoms rather than the cause and lean heavily on medication rather than considering lifestyle and natural options first.    I'm all for medications and treatments when needed- I just think it's not a great system when there is so much money in treating illnesses and there isn't a lot of money in getting people healthy or finding cures.    Today we're looking at the health landscape as it is now and making the best plan for us and our families.    This new outlook involves shifting from sick care to well care and reactive medicine to proactive medicine.    For the last 15 years, I have spent so much time in hospitals and doctors offices, and I think I come with a unique perspective… sometimes as a patient, but usually taking care of other people.   In Tony Robbins new book…  Life Force - they explain new technologies like gene therapy, stem cells and hormone replacement therapy to give the audience hope and knowledge for the future.    He talks about how heart disease and other chronic illnesses can be reversed by optimizing four factors.   How you eat  How active you are  How you respond to stress How much emotional support you receive   We have the power to control so much of our health and heart health.  Exercise, eating the right foods, quality sleep, building muscle and reducing stress.   Good health is the foundation of quality of life.    As the old saying goes, a healthy person has a thousand wishes; a sick person only one.    It's a powerful reminder to make the most important commitment you can make.      You must become the CEO of your health.    That's how you keep your energy, vitality and a good quality of life.     A few of my other favorite books on this topic are Outlive by Peter Attia, Lifespan by David Sinclair, and Super Human by Dave Asprey.    We've learned that you must continually challenge the status quo and find what's best for you.    By understanding that you must be in control of your health and by not expecting the traditional healthcare system to take on this role… you will make better decisions for your own health and out of your family. 

Talking about one of my favorite books- 10x IS EASIER THAN 2X By Dan Sullivan and Dr. Ben Hardy    Excerpt from the book: What is a 10x goal?  A massive goal that feels impossible.  Doing more of what you're currently doing will get you to 2x.  10x goals require a new plan and push you outside of your current level of knowledge and assumptions.    To figure out your 10x goal, as yourself…  What do you truly want, more than anything else?  What would excite you more than anything else to be, do and have?  What would you be and do if you weren't afraid of what others thought or the repercussions?    -Let's focus on wants vs needs    When you live life based on need, you're stuck playing a finite game. When you play a finite game, you're driven and controlled by outside forces. You're competing for scarce resources.    When you live life based on want, rather than need, you're playing an infinite game. You see that reality is created and chosen.   In order to go 10x, we have to let go of scarcity and competition-based needing and replace it with abundance and creativity-based wanting.    -Focusing on FREEDOM!    Committing to what you want most is the only way to be free.    To be free, you must first be completely honest with yourself.  Being honest with yourself starts with admitting to yourself what you want most.    Not what you think you want. Not what you think you need.  But what you truly- at your core-want.    Until you can admit and commit to what you want, then you are not free.    Living in a world of needs and rationalizations is prison. It locks you into relationships and situations you don't want but maintain out of fear and perceived security or obligation.        Llet's think about what you are doing now…      Anything you are currently pursuing. Ask yourself what is the source of that... Where did you get that idea? Is it from your parents? Is it from social media? Is it because your friend did something or because your friend got promoted? OR did you get that idea because it makes you FEEL ALIVE?   It takes work to unlearn what we've been taught and put ear plugs in so we don't hear the judgment or the opinions of others.     It's our job to make sure we are running our own race.    We have to be intentional about what success means to us and stop at nothing to get there.     -Once you have it down, what next…    Start with your 10x goal, then figure out the steps, not the other way around.     When we are working towards 2x goals, we are doing the same thing, just more of it. When we are working towards 10x goals, we must completely shake up the plan.  So rather than starting with step 1 and making a plan, we start with the massive goal in mind, then figure out a plan to make it happen.    To check out the 2.0 Habits System and 2.0 Mindset Master Course, click here.   Have an awesome day! 

I think most people would love to have more adventures and new experiences in life but the tricky part is… we get so busy with our routine and all the things that must get done in life, that often, we rarely go new places or try new things.    Which is why I absolutely love this idea by Jesse Iztler.  It's part of his concept about building your life resume more than your professional resume.  He calls it the Kevins Rule, named after his friend Kevin who showed him how fulfilling it can be when you plan out new experiences.    Here's how it works.  You put 6 new adventures on your calendar each year.  One every other month and it could be a day on the weekend or the entire weekend.  The point of this is that by intentionally adding this things to the calendar, you prioritize time with people you love plus more fun and learning.   Being intentional with our calendar planning and putting these 6 mini adventures on the books allows us for 24 experiences (that we wouldn't have otherwise) in the next 4 years.    It also sets us up to be proactive with how we spend our leisure time (advance planning) rather than reactive (planning around invitations that come your way.)    We're planning out your 6 mini adventures for the year today.    Planning for 6 mini adventures per year allows for new experiences and challenges. By adding these days or weekends to your calendar, you prioritize time with people you love, fun and adventures.    Lots of ideas…   Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing, visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience, find a local path and plan a hike, go camping for the weekend at a local spot, take a photography workshop class with friends, set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area, plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries, learn to kayak at a local river, road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit, plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch, plan a ride in a hot air balloon, get a group to go indoor rock climbing, book a rental cabin for the weekend, take the train on an adventure!    Cheers to alllll of your new adventures!! 

The last hour of your day is so important because it determines the quality of sleep that you get and how you approach the next day.    I've learned the most about this in my own life from doing things the wrong way to be honest. Staying up too late, eating too late or just sort of tinkering here and there and I couldn't even tell you what I really did for those last 2 hours.   All these things I did without intention and just because I was getting tired and just doing whatever slowly without a plan.    Taking all of this as lessons learned and on this journey to do everything with intention - now, having a plan for the last hour of the day.   So even if you're tired or you've run out of motivation for the day, when you plan things ahead of time with intention, you don't have to get up the energy because you aren't making the decision, you're just following the plan that you designed.    It requires discipline, which is hard at first, but it gets sooo much easier to do when you see the benefits of these new awesome habits.    We are revamping bedtime.    From the book, 10X is Easier Than 2x: The final hour of the day determines the quality of your sleep as well as the quality of your next day. Over 90 percent of people are 2x at night, where they fall to unhealthy habits and consumption, especially random online scrolling. For 10x sleep, put your phone on airplane mode at least 30-60 minutes before bed. Write in your journal and include 3 wins you had that day. These wins can be any forms of learning or progress you had. Then after you've framed the day as a win, write down what you want for tomorrow.    Other tips: -Have a few other healthy wind down habits like meditate or stretch or a moment of connection with someone you love and then commit to sleep. Be excited and happy to fully shut down. -Create an optional environment - dark, cool and comfortable.   -Having a healthy wind-down process is key. Avoid thinking about stressing topics and solve problems or have tricky discussions earlier in the day. In prioritizing sleep, we have to wrap things up and let things go earlier in the day. Do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said so you don't go to bed with crumbs! You will sleep better without a racing mind when you go to sleep. Journal to wind down and figure out what else sets you up for the best nights sleep.   -Quality sleep over quantity of sleep - The quality of sleep is so much more important than the number of hours. -Get a schedule going - Have a set bedtime and wake time and don't vary it too much or you'll experience “jetlag."   -If you want to read more on this- Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson. Many of these strategies were learned from this book.   CHEERS to being intentional about how you end your day, for the most awesome days!! 

Today we are talking about deep self confidence. How to get it, what it feels like and how to make it attainable. I'm a big fan of taking complicated concepts and turning them into simple daily actions.    Here is how I define confidence. A belief in yourself and clarity of purpose. A feeling that is grounded in authenticity and comes from doing.   Confidence is often talked about like this big feeling at the finish line, but that feels unattainable and hard to figure out how to make progress on.    My favorite quote about confidence is by Alex Hormozi.  He says “You don't become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self doubt.”   I love this way of thinking about confidence because it puts you in the drivers seat.  Your self confidence isn't based on what other people think about what you are doing or some level of success, but it's more about the process and more about what you do, than what you say.    When you feel this deep self confidence, it impacts all other areas of your life. You're less likely to be offended and more likely to let little things go. You're more likely to charge your big goals and less likely to let judgment slow you down.    It's a superpower and we're talking about how to tackle it!    Why have deep self confidence: -It makes you less affected by the opinions of others.  -It keeps you in control of your mood and happiness.  -It helps you communicate better because you feel comfortable expressing yourself clearly.  -It positions you as a leader rather than someone who is easily influenced.  -It makes you more adaptable as you trust in your ability to navigate change.  -It allows you the freedom to really pursue your passions.    How to get deep self confidence: -Put things on your daily habits like that move your towards your goals, personally and professionally.  -Every week, try new things, do hard things, continue to learn and push yourself.  -Since we know that confidence comes from doing, just keep doing things that align with your goals and priorities.    What it feels like to have deep self confidence:  -Confidence comes from doing the things you say you are doing to do. It's this deep feeling of trusting yourself.  -You feel empowered. Like you can take on any challenges. -This sense of inner peace. You are comfortable with you are and trust in your own abilities.  -You're optimist because you have a positive outlook and a strong foundation so you're able to believe in a bright future.  -You're fearless because you know you can handle whatever comes your way.  -You're authentic because you're running your own race.  -You set boundaries, especially with people who are negative or don't make you feel great. You respect yourself enough to know your headspace is top priority.  -You're grateful because you appreciate the journey you've been on and the one you are on right now.  -You're inspirational. When you know someone with deep self confidence, it makes you believe you can be the same way.    How to make progress on the daily:  -Follow the plan! -Make your list of tasks, then execute. -Avoid distractions and don't talk yourself out of it.  -Set big goals, then focus on the daily actions, not the goals.  -Do what you tell yourself you are going to do.  -Set realistic habits so you are set-up for success.    CHEERS to embracing the things that bring you deep self confidence! 

I don't know what's going on lately but I feel like I've been in several situations where someone is coming at me and I've had some friends who have had to deal with some pretty wild situations so I thought, yup, this needs to be a podcast episode.  Let's define some terms.  By coming at you I mean - verbally trying to start something. It's different than an argument because it's like someone having a problem with you or just straight up casting judgment on you.  Our instant reaction is to respond and defend ourselves or get hot with them back… but here's the thing, most of the time, it's just not worth it.  So I think before we do anything we should ask ourselves, what would I gain from engaging?  We often respond out of emotion, but because we know our priority is protecting our happy headspace and our emotional energy, I think we need to approach it differently.  We are going through some awesome strategies today so the next time someone comes at you, you're ready to handle it strategically rather than emotionally.  When this happens, here are your options…  1.  IGNORE  Literally say nothing.  Don't reply to the email or text or DM or walk away if in person.  2.  AGREE - it ends it!!  When you don't want to engage or if there is truth to what they are saying.  When we are insulted, pay attention to it. If there is something  that is true to it - then agree. And move on.  3. HASH IT OUT - onlyyyyyy if it's really worth it!  Only if it's someone in your inner circle that you love. 90% of the time, it's not worth it.  Alex Hormozi says  "The only insults that hurt are the ones we believe.” I tell myself…  I don't negotiate with terrorists. When you get REALLY good at this… it becomes so powerful because it doesn't affect you for more than a few minutes.  It's almost additive because it feels so good to be able to control your emotions and you always win in the situation.  You can't negotiate with crazy so don't try- there's no point!  It's awesome and it saves you so much unnecessary headaches!!  Remember this the next time someone comes at you, take a minute and decide how you want to really handle it.  Have an awesome day!!