Parenting the Intensity

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"Today we will normalize the feeling of isolation and explore the reasons for this isolation:Understanding our experience (or lack thereof)Sharing our experience (once again, or lack thereof)JudgmentWe will also explore the fact that sometimes we need to isolate ourselves to process, give ourselves time, and protect ourselves.And as a possible solution: seek the right support to break the feeling of isolation.Need to feel part of a community.Clean up the support around us.Impact of good support on confidence.If you haven't, subscribe to the new private podcast ‘You're not failing', to stop feeling…well like you're doing it wrong and start to build your parental confident https://familymoments.ca/notfailingYou can find everything else I offer on the website www.familymoments.ca so you can take action on what's the most important for you right now. *I'm recording this podcast on an unceeded territory of the N'dakina and Wabanaki communities.

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"Today, we'll discuss trauma. This may seem like something that doesn't apply to your situation, but you might be surprised.We'll cover:What minor trauma, major trauma, and complex trauma are?Why it's not widely recognized in official systems and the impact it hasSchool traumaHealthcare system traumaRebound or direct trauma from parents: BurnoutIf you haven't, subscribe to the new private podcast ‘You're not failing', to stop feeling…well like you're doing it wrong and start to build your parental confident https://familymoments.ca/notfailingYou can find everything else I offer on the website www.familymoments.ca so you can take action on what's the most important for you right now. *I'm recording this podcast on an unceeded territory of the N'dakina and Wabanaki communities.

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode we'll be talking about parental confidence—what it really means, why it matters, and how it impacts the way we respond (rather than react) to our emotionally intense kids. Rooted in my experience and findings from my Master's degree I'll cover the internal and external factors that shape our sense of confidence as parents, including our knowledge, personal experience, relationships with our children, and the influence of societal expectations and outside feedback.I'll also share practical strategies for identifying your own parenting triggers, building self-compassion, and shifting from guilt and self-doubt to a more empowered and intuitive approach. If you haven't, subscribe to the new private podcast ‘You're not failing', to stop feeling…well like you're doing it wrong and start to build your parental confident https://familymoments.ca/notfailingYou can find everything else I offer on the website www.familymoments.ca so you can take action on what's the most important for you right now. *I'm recording this podcast on an unceeded territory of the N'dakina and Wabanaki communities.

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"Today, we are talking about grief, because yes, we are going through a grieving process of what our life is not what we expected or what society is telling us it should be. And that might make us feel some guilt.We will dive into:What is grief in generalWhat's different with our griefWhy there's not reason to feel guiltWays to support yourself in the grieving processIf you haven't, subscribe to the new private podcast ‘You're not failing', to stop feeling…well like you're doing it wrong and start to build your parental confident https://familymoments.ca/notfailingYou can find everything else I offer on the website www.familymoments.ca so you can take action on what's the most important for you right now. *I'm recording this podcast on an unceeded territory of the N'dakina and Wabanaki communities.

This is a special episode from the "Parenting the Intensity Retreat - Conflict Edition" coming up February 25th-27th! (start tomorrow)It's the live kick-off call from the Facebook group that shares how the event works and explain how the nervous system works and it's impact on the emotional reaction and conflicts in our family and how working with instead of against it can make a difference. You can go to minute 26 if you only want the info on the Nervous systemYou can get register over here at www.parentingtheintensity.ca/register to get access to it all!What to expect from this recording-What to expect this week and how it will all work-How to win prizes-Goal of the retreat-How to choose which presentations to attend-How to get the most of the presentations you attend-Deep Connection Pass-Dive into the Nervous System (it's key to so many presentations, it's important to understand)

This roundtable is part of the Parenting the Intensity Retreat 2025 - Conflict Edition. You can register to the retreat at www.parentingtheintensity.ca/register We discussed strategies for staying calm as parents to support children effectively and why it's important.We emphasized self-care, understanding triggers, adapting parenting strategies, and modeling calm behavior, while focusing on the importance of addressing underlying needs and setting realistic priorities.Key themes are:Staying calm to support children.Impact of parents' calmness on kids.Self-care and basic needs.Understanding and handling triggers.Role of environment in behavior.Modeling self care and regulation for children.Differentiation in sibling parenting.Panelists are:Laurie Moser from https://www.stayingactive.ca/Jen Lumanlan M.S., M.Ed from https://www.yourparentingmojo.comMalia Phelps Waller from www.maliaphelpswaller.com/homeschooltoolbox Moderator is retreat host Anouk Briere-Godbout, owner of Family Moments www.familymoments.ca

This roundtable is part of the Parenting the Intensity Retreat 2025 - Conflict Edition. You can register to the retreat at www.parentingtheintensity.ca/register Panelists are:Afsaneh Moradian from https://www.mlccoaching.comAllison Livingston from https://www.5stepstoconnect.comShaqueena Murreld M.S., CCC- SLP from www.immersedtherapies.comModerator is retreat host Anouk Briere-Godbout, owner of Family Moments www.familymoments.caIn this roundtable we discussed shifting perspectives on children's behavior, emphasizing understanding unmet needs, emotional regulation, modeling, and reducing conflict.We highlighted strategies like connecting through empathy, validating feelings, and maintaining a flexible approach for effective parenting.Key themes are:Understanding children's behaviorConflict resolution in parentingEmotional regulation techniquesCommunication strategies with childrenHomeschooling challenges and solutionsParental expectations and pressuresImportance of apologies and repairsSupporting children's unmet needs

This is a special episode sharing all the details about the "Parenting the Intensity Retreat - Conflict Edition" coming up February 25th-27th!You can get on the waitlist over here at www.parentingtheintensity.ca/retreat before February 10th or register if it's after that date!You want to be on the waitlist for the reminders of the pre-retreat live roundtables!

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"This is the last episode of the season (that lasted around a year and a half. The podcast will pause until after the Parenting the Intensity Retreat in February (there might be some surprise episode once in a while but I can't promise anything).To get the episodes when they will be available again, make sure to subscribe to the podcast.Here are the links referenced in the episode:Judgment workshop on November 24th (replay available): https://familymoments.ca/product/navigating-judgments-workshop/Holiday episode on Judgment: https://www.justcast.com/shows/parenting-the-intensity/audioposts/1524263Parenting the Intensity Retreat waitlist: https://parentingtheintensity.ca/Self Care Guide: https://familymoments.ca/realistic-self-care-for-busy-parents/Meltdown to Connection Guide: https://familymoments.ca/from-meltdown-to-connection/

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Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"I had the pleasure of hosting Danika Maddocks again on the podcast.In this episode, we delve deep into how autonomy and kids' interests can be pivotal in overcoming challenges, especially for emotionally intense, gifted, and twice-exceptional children.Danika, a psychologist and founder of the Gifted Learning Lab, shared her valuable insights on how these approaches can benefit not only neurodivergent kids but all children. Here are some key takeaways:

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Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"This new episode of "Parenting the Intensity" features Gillian Boudreaux, clinical and school psychologist. We dig deep into how we can better understand and support our emotionally intense kiddos, whether you're a parent, teacher, or just someone keen on creating a nurturing space for kids.✨ What You'll Learn:Be Curious, Not Judgy: Keeping a curious mindset about kid behavior helps us respond with patience and support instead of jumping to conclusions.Ditch the Bias: Our expectations can shape how we interact, especially in schools. Staying aware of biases helps avoid reinforcing those stereotypes.Talk It Out: Being open about all our feeling, good and bad, helps lighten the stress load and keeps kids grounded in reality.Catch all the insights and tips to make your interactions more positive and supportive. Plus, check out Gillian's recommended resources for more ways to handle the ups and downs of parenting intense kidsMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caGet in contact with Gillian.gillianboudreauphd.comIG @calmconnectionpsychologyRessources mentionedLearn Play Thrive Podcast: Two Sides of the SpectrumBook Calm the Chaos by Dayna AbrahamFair Play Life.comJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

This episode is part of the "Special Connection Series"5 episodes, released every day this weekThe focus is all on lowering conflict with our emotionally intense kids by connecting instead of correcting5 topicsFocus on the Relationship, Not the BehaviorsWhy Emotionally Intense Kids Feel DisconnectedStop Conflict in it's TrackReframing Discipline and BoundariesBuilding Connection in Small Family MomentsGo listen to the previous and next episodes for all the information and subscribe on the website to get the Magazine that complement those 5 episodes with short takeaways versions of the episode, so you can refer back to them more easily, insight from guests of the podcast and an opportunity to join the Connected Family experiment next week.Today's topic : Building Connection in Simple Family MomentsIn tis episode I explore the power of building connection with our kids and how it can be simpler than we think. I share insights on the importance of focusing on small, everyday moments to nurture connection and enhance self-care and why documenting these moments can counteract our brain's tendency to focus on the negative.Join the Connected Family experiment September 30th to October 6thJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

This episode is part of the "Special Connection Series"5 episodes, released every day this weekThe focus is all on lowering conflict with our emotionally intense kids by connecting instead of correcting5 topicsFocus on the Relationship, Not the BehaviorsWhy Emotionally Intense Kids Feel DisconnectedStop Conflict in it's TrackReframing Discipline and BoundariesBuilding Connection in Small Family MomentsGo listen to the previous and next episodes for all the information and subscribe on the website to get the Magazine that complement those 5 episodes with short takeaways versions of the episode, so you can refer back to them more easily, insight from guests of the podcast and an opportunity to join the Connected Family experiment next week.Today's topic : Reframing Discipline and BoundariesIn this episode we discusses the importance of setting boundaries as a way to support our children's needs and provide a safe container, rather than simply enforcing rules for the sake of it and explore the need to question our expectations and choose boundaries that truly matter to us and our children, rather than those influenced by societal norms and we also address the idea of lowering demands when necessary and not panicking when boundaries need to be adjusted.Joint the Connected Family experiment September 30th to October 6thJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

This episode is part of the "Special Connection Series"5 episodes, released every day this weekThe focus is all on lowering conflict with our emotionally intense kids by connecting instead of correcting5 topicsFocus on the Relationship, Not the BehaviorsWhy Emotionally Intense Kids Feel DisconnectedStop Conflict in it's TrackReframing Discipline and BoundariesBuilding Connection in Small Family MomentsGo listen to the previous and next episodes for all the information and subscribe on the website to get the Magazine that complement those 5 episodes with short takeaways versions of the episode, so you can refer back to them more easily, insight from guests of the podcast and an opportunity to join the Connected Family experiment next week.Today's topic : Stop conflict in it's trackWe will talk all about the power you hold as parents to stop the conflicts by staying calm and not engaging, a practice that's easier said than done, but that will allow to conflict to dissolves even if your child is still reacting intensly.Joint the Connected Family experiment September 30th to October 6thJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

This episode is part of the "Special Connection Series"5 episodes, released every day this weekThe focus is all on lowering conflict with our emotionally intense kids by connecting instead of correcting5 topicsFocus on the Relationship, Not the BehaviorsWhy Emotionally Intense Kids Feel DisconnectedStop Conflict in it's TrackReframing Discipline and BoundariesBuilding Connection in Small Family MomentsGo listen to the previous and next episodes for all the information and subscribe on the website to get the Magazine that complement those 5 episodes with short takeaways versions of the episode, so you can refer back to them more easily, insight from guests of the podcast and an opportunity to join the Connected Family experiment next week.Today's topic : Why emotionally intense kids feel disconnectedI discuss into the reasons why emotionally intense kids often feel disconnected from their parents and other adults. The impact of constant correction on their behavior, how it affects their self-confidence, and the feeling of being misunderstood. And also the struggles parents encounter in feeling judged, disappointing themselves, and seeking understanding.Joint the Connected Family experiment September 30th to October 6thJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

This episode is part of the "Special Connection Series"5 episodes, released every day this weekThe focus is all on lowering conflict with our emotionally intense kids by connecting instead of correcting5 topicsFocus on the Relationship, Not the BehaviorsWhy Emotionally Intense Kids Feel DisconnectedStop Conflict in it's TrackReframing Discipline and BoundariesBuilding Connection in Small Family MomentsGo listen to the previous and next episodes for all the information and subscribe on the website to get the Magazine that complement those 5 episodes with short takeaways versions of the episode, so you can refer back to them more easily, insight from guests of the podcast and an opportunity to join the Connected Family experiment next week.Today's topic : Focus on the relationship, not the behaviorWe'll explore how traditional parenting advice often focuses on controlling behavior, but we're here to shift the focus to building a strong and understanding relationship with our unique kids first.Join the Connected Family experiment September 30th to October 6thJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In today's episode, we have guest Penny Williams, a parenting coach for ADHD and autistic families. Together, we'll talk all about the myths behind "good" and "bad" emotions and behaviors, and discuss why trying to change our kids to fit societal norms is misguided. Instead, Penny suggest understanding, compassion, and radical acceptance.We'll explore how feelings of safety and regulation are crucial for appropriate behavior, and why transparency in our own emotional struggles can model healthier ways for our children to handle theirs. Plus, Penny shares invaluable resources to help parents navigate this journey."And we are doing every human being a disservice by saying that some emotions are good and some emotions are bad.Every single emotion is natural. Our biology triggers all of these different types of emotions, and that is just the way it is."Connect with Pennyhttps://ParentingADHDandAutism.comhttps://www.instagram.com/pennywilliams/ Resources mentionedMaking social emotional learning stick, book by Elizabeth SautterMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In today's episode, we dive into the complexities of parenting ADHD kids as an ADHD parent with our guest, Jo Mitchelhill. Jo, a coach specializing in ADHD and trauma-informed care, provides valuable insights for parents dealing with this reality.Together we explore the impact of unresolved childhood experiences on adult emotions, the importance of therapeutic parenting, and the necessity of understanding and addressing triggers and emotions in both parents and children.Join us as we discuss the fluidity of diagnoses, the significance of setting clear (and supportive) boundaries, and the crucial role of parental expectations in interactions with emotionally intense kids. It's an episode filled with valuable advice, real-life experiences, and practical strategies for navigating the big emotions of parenthood."If you scream and shout at your kids, don't be surprised that they're gonna scream and shout back at you. They're just responding to the energy that you put out there."Connect with Jowww.jomitchelhill.comFacebook groupResources mentionedScattered Minds, Book by Gabor MatéMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode of "Parenting the Intensity," we dive deep into the topic of giftedness and twice exceptionality (2e) with our special guest Danika Maddocks. We discuss the complexities of identifying giftedness and 2e in emotionally intense children. Danika shares her expertise in supporting gifted and twice exceptional kids and offers valuable insights for parents navigating this unique parenting journey. Join us as we unravel the nuances of giftedness, 2e, and provide valuable resources for supporting these exceptional but challenging children. You won't want to miss this enlightening discussion!"So some families, it's not until their second or third assessment that they learn their kid is twice exceptional."Connect with Danikawww.giftedlearninglab.comhttps://www.instagram.com/giftedlearninglab/Resources mentionedReduce Power Struggles with Your Gifted/2e Kid free email mini courseMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"We all know that parenting isn't easy, especially when our kids have intense emotions. So, let's break down how we can take care of ourselves and stay calm as a parent to support our exceptional but challenging kids.And to do that with is, we're joined by Michele Riechman, a mom of 4 and a military wife. Michele's journey towards prioritizing health and well-being started after her 3rd child. She shares how she found simple ways to integrate self-care into her busy life, leading her to become a personal trainer and health coach. Her mission is to help women simplify self-care, so they can be the best versions of themselves for their families.​"So really becoming aware of those thoughts and telling yourself the truth. Because our brain has lots of thoughts and ideas, and a lot of them aren't even true. But we keep living and thinking as if they are true, so really paying attention to those thoughts."Connect with Laciewww.micheleriechman.com/www.instagram.com/micheleriechman/Resources mentionedInsight Timer, meditation AppMichele's Podcast Healthy Beyond 40Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode, our host Anouk explore the concept of the Comfort Plan and its crucial role in helping parents navigate big emotions in their children with guest Lacie Newton. Lacie, a specialist in emotional regulation, shares her personal journey of developing the Comfort Plan and how it has transformed her approach to parenting. From mindfulness practices to understanding the intensity of emotions, this episode offers valuable insights and practical strategies for parents. Join us as we navigate the challenges and triumphs of parenting with compassion and intentionality."And regardless of the messages you are getting from your culture, from your family, the media, Instagram, there is this path that's also available where things do feel like you are the right person for this child. This child is the right one for you, and everything is okay the way it is."Connect with Laciewww.MamaSimpatico.comhttps://www.instagram.com/mamasimpatico/ https://www.facebook.com/mamasimpaticoResources mentionedUnruffled, podcast from Janet Lansbury Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode, we will explore the concepts of co-regulation and co-dysregulation and how they can help us navigate the unique needs of our exceptional but challenging kids.And to do so we are welcoming Penny Williams, founder of parenting ADHD and autism, to discuss this complicated but oh so essential subject!"We need to have radical acceptance of what is for our kids and what might be different in their lives. Because when we get okay with those things, we're not freaking out about them. We're not freaking out about their future. There's so much more room for joy."Resources mentionedRoss Green Book : The Explosive ChildKelly Mahler interoception curriculumConnect with Pennyhttps://ParentingADHDandAutism.com Beautifully Complex Podcasthttps://www.instagram.com/pennywilliams/ https://www.facebook.com/PennyWilliamsAuthor/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/ParentingADHDandAutism https://www.pinterest.com/pennywauthor/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/penny-williams-8b601543/Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode we delve into the essential keys to staying calm when parenting emotionally intense children.Anouk introduces the key points and topics that will be explored in future episodes, offering a roadmap tailored to the unique needs of both parents and their intense kids.Through coregulation, understanding and supporting children's needs, avoiding escalation, practicing mindfulness, fostering confidence, dealing with judgment, and seeking support, Anouk provides a glimpse into the strategies that will be discussed in depth in upcoming episodes."We can teach them lots of techniques and tips and tricks to calm down, but the most important one is to first stay calm ourselves."Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode of "Parenting the Intensity," we delve into the challenges and rewards of raising emotionally intense children with our special guest, Scotti Weintraub, founder of Reframe Parenting and a mother of two teens.The insightful conversation with Scotti centers around reframing the way we view children's struggles and changing our perspectives to be more effective in supporting them. We explore the importance of understanding and guiding children as individuals, navigating societal pressures, and fostering healthy, critical thinking.Join us as we discover valuable strategies for parents and caregivers, touching on self-awareness, communication, collaboration, and the powerful impact of positive feedback."Leading with curiosity: Rather than jumping first to judgment, why can't he turn his homework in? I wonder why he's not turning in his homework. "Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode of Parenting the Intensity, we delve into the reasons why we want our kids to calm down. Anouk discusses the unrealistic expectations society places on children to behave in a certain way, particularly challenging for emotionally intense kids. Anouk emphasizes the importance of adapting the environment and changing expectations, rather than trying to change the child.By focusing on the child's current needs and providing necessary accommodations, parents can support their children in developing resilience and adapting to the world as they grow older.Anouk encourages listeners to consider whether their expectations are realistic in the moment and provides valuable insights on parenting emotionally intense kids."Most of the time, we need to make changes around the child for them to then be able to collaborate, learn, behave, act in a way that we are that is expected of them."Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"Today we are looking at the parent side of things, what we are experiencing as parents of emotionally intense kids.In one word: challengingIn another words it can be isolating, frustrating, discouraging, stretching, feeling like we are failing...but it's also impressive, stimulating and endearing. Because they are not just their struggle and we are becoming better parents every day by being their parents. We also addresses the judgment and self-doubt that parents in this situation commonly experience, offering hope and practical solutions for creating a better relationship and finding peace in parenting. Join us as we explore the unique journey of parenting emotionally intense children and discover the support and resources available to navigate this challenging yet rewarding experience."You have the power to make changes, and I'm guessing that's why you're here.So I want you to know that there's other possibilities, and your life don't have to look that way."Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode I'm breaking down the basic principles of parenting an emotionally intense child which are:Reframe: They are not doing it on purposeHelping them be calmerBeing calm ourselves (regulation and coregulation)There is also some other essentials to keep in mind that make parenting emotionally intense kids different and easier:Expecting the intensity and not seeing that as bad but at the way they express themselvesNot escalating (hard hard hard)Detective work: getting to know them like the palm of our handBeing their voiceBuilding them up (they will be put down so often)"It's okay that they express themselves. It's okay that they let the stress out."Resources mentioned on the podcast Parenting the Intensity CommunityEpisode 40 about self careParenting the Intensity RetreatWho's That Kid?Child AdvocacyEpisodes on Advocacy: Episode 6 and Episode 36 (more are coming soon)Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Quick note: the Podcast will now be released every 2 weeks, so you can dive in the archives if you want to listen and there's no new one! Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode of "Parenting the Intensity," host Anouk takes a deep dive into the world of emotionally intense kids. Focusing the discussion around the three types of emotionally intense kids – the lion, the hedgehog, and the sloth – Anouk provides a detailed explanation of what it means to be emotionally intense, how it manifests in children, and the distinct characteristics of each type.She delves into real-life examples and sheds light on the challenges and struggles faced by parents of emotionally intense kids. Anouk also emphasizes the importance of understanding and supporting these children, while deconstructing misconceptions and providing a much-needed perspective.So, grab a cup of tea and join Anouk as she breaks down the complexities of parenting emotionally intense kids, offering insight, empathy, and practical guidance."If you think you have emotionally intense kids, you most probably are."Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"It's time for a quick update on the Parenting the Intensity podcast! I'm shaking things up to bring you even more valuable content focused on parenting emotionally intense kids. I will be breaking it down into five key areas, like helping kids calm down and boosting parental confidence. Plus, I'm planning a mix of solo chats and guest interviews to keep things interesting. And I would love to hear from you, so if you've got ideas or questions, reach out and get involved, this podcast is for YOU.Get ready to dive deeper into the wild world of parenting the intensity - we're in this together!"I want to make it easier for you to follow, understand, and I wanna dig deeper in some specific topics that I consider essential for parents of Emotionally Intense Kids"Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"Today I'm sharing with you the recording of an interview I was on as a guest for the Joy Reclaimed Summit, organized by Linda Sanderville who was also the first guest on the podcast in episode 14.I'm sharing how I realized how much self care was essential in parenting emotionally intense kids and how I was, and still am, able to do some in my life even with all the demands on my time and energy and how you can do it too.I also address how important it was to find the right self care for YOU, the same way you work hard to support your kids in the way they need to be supported."It's all about how to do self care, how to make it realistic and fitted for our needs"Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this podcast episode, Anouk addresses the fear and concern that many parents have about their children using drugs. She emphasizes the importance of starting prevention and planning early, especially for emotionally intense kids who may be more at risk for problematic drug use. Anouk invites Richard Capriola, a mental health and substance abuse counselor, to share his expertise on the topic. Richard highlights the need for parents to become informed about the types of drugs available and the warning signs of substance use. He also emphasizes the importance of open and honest communication with children, starting at a young age, to build trust and address any underlying emotional issues that may lead to substance use. Richard encourages parents to seek professional assessments if they suspect their child may be using drugs, as early intervention and treatment can make a significant difference.3 Key Takeaways- Early communication and trust-building with your child can effectively mitigate the risk of substance abuse later on.- Look out for warning signs such as declining grades, changes in social behavior, and unusual odors or paraphernalia at home.- Seeking professional assessments and early intervention can lead to remarkable results in addressing substance use and underlying psychological issues in children."The most important thing that you can do is start to develop open, honest communication with your child. Learn to listen to your child. We're not so good at hearing the feelings underneath those words."Connect with Richard:Website: http://www.helptheaddictedchild.comFacebook https://www.facebook.com/richard.capriola;Twitterhttps://twitter.com/CapriolaRichardPinterest https://www.pinterest.com/richardcapriola Resources mentioned:The Addicted Child: A Parent's Guide to Adolescent Substance Abuse by Richard CapriolaNewport Academy (www.newportacademy.com) - a website offering parent and family resources on substance useMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In our everyday parenting life, it's easy to focus only on our children's behaviors and overlook the child behind those behaviors. But, understanding the child who's hiding under the challenging behaviors is what will make it possible to actually help them be more manageable.In this podcast episode, Anouk and Tonya Wollum discuss the importance of seeing beyond the behavior and provide valuable insights and strategies for supporting children with special needs. They also introduce the concept of mentorship for both parents and children.Additionally, Tonya shares an exciting project she's working on called the Story Boxes, which offers a unique and engaging way to enhance literacy skills in children.Let's dive deeper into these topics and discover new approaches to parenting.Key Takeaways:- Importance of seeing the child behind their behavior- Delays in executive functioning skills as a cause of intense behaviors- Value of finding mentors for parents and children- Introduction of story boxes as a multi-sensory reading experience"We can only take so many tantrums in a day before we're exhausted."Connect with Tonya:Website: https://waterprairie.com where you can fina link to her podcast mentionned.Instagram https://www.instagram.com/water.prairie Facebook https://www.facebook.com/waterprairie Twitter https://twitter.com/WaterPrairie Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@waterprairie Linkedin https://www.linkedin.com/company/waterprairie Linkeding https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyawollum/Resources mentioned:Carrie Bonnett episode on Executive Functions on the podcast: https://www.justcast.com/shows/parenting-the-intensity/audioposts/1538889Episodes 71 of Tonya's podcast about Executive functioning: https://waterprairie.com/2023/08/04/executive-function/My episode on Tony's podcast https://waterprairie.com/2023/10/16/emotionally-intense-kids/Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode of "Parenting the Intensity," host Anouk is joined by guest Carrie Conrad, founder of Beating Disasters, to explore the challenging topic of dealing with emotionally intense children who engage in physically dangerous behavior. The conversation sheds light on the need for parents to approach restraint from a place of empathy and support, rather than control or punishment, while emphasizing the importance of safety and nonviolent parenting. Anouk and Carrie discuss the struggle of finding helpful resources for parents dealing with intense behaviors and highlight the crucial role of natural consequences, preventative measures, and emotional regulation in parenting. Stay tuned for valuable insights, practical advice, and helpful resources in this thought-provoking discussion on resilient and mindful parenting.3 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ How and When to use Restraints: Approach restraint from a place of service and support, rather than punishment or control. We emphasized the importance of turning to resources like Dr. Althea Solter's book "Tears and Tantrums" for valuable insights into understanding restraint from a gentle, respectful, and dignified perspective.2️⃣ Prioritize empathy and support : while implementing natural consequences and preventative measures for challenging behaviors in children, especially those prone to emotionally intense reactions. It's important to adapt parenting advice and resources to fit your own child and family's reality.3️⃣ Importance of parent's emotional regulation: Recognize the significant impact of a parent's emotional regulation on their child's behavior and practice self-care to model the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing well-being. Teaching children about self-care and boundaries is crucial for their own emotional growth and development."Everybody wants control. But when it comes to physical safety and people or children being emotionally dysregulated or not in control of themselves, oddly enough, we give control to gain control."Connect with Carrie:Website: Www.beatingdisaster.comFacebook: Www.facebook.com/BeatingDisasterResources mentioned:Book tears and tantrum from Aletha Solter, Ph.D. founder and firector of The Aware Parenting Institute: https://www.amazon.ca/Tears-Tantrums-What-Babies-Children/dp/0961307366Daniel the Tigger for emotional regulation: https://pbskids.org/daniel/Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode, host Anouk sits down with special guest Sarah Young, a homeschooling mom and parent advocacy coach, to discuss the critical topic of advocating for children's needs, especially when faced with the complexities of obtaining special accommodations and support in school. Sarah shares her personal journey of advocating for her children, offering practical tips and strategies for navigating the educational system and empowering parents to stand up for their children's rights. Join us as we delve into the world of advocacy, understanding individual needs, and building partnerships with educators to create the best outcomes for our exceptional children.3 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Advocacy Without a Diagnosis: Navigating Access to Services: Advocacy is essential in accessing services for children without a formal diagnosis, as waiting lists for public services can be lengthy and evaluations may require the child to struggle before receiving necessary references. Sarah emphasizes the importance of standing up for children's needs through proactive communication with schools and healthcare providers.2️⃣ Empowering parents with Strategies for School Support: Anouk and Sarah stress the need for open communication and creative solutions for children's needs in schools, and Sarah shares strategies for effective communication and documentation.3️⃣ Tailoring Support to Individual Children's Needs: Sarah discusses her experience advocating for her child's accommodations and emphasizes the need for understanding individual children's needs, regardless of formal diagnoses."Advocating for your child and understanding that whether you have a diagnosis or not, you still have rights and your child still is entitled to all the support and understanding they should have."Connect with Sarah:Website: https://www.sarahyoungllc.com/calmingthechaosThe Calming the Chaos Collective: https://www.facebook.com/TheCalmingTheChaosCollectiveInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/calming_the_chaos_collective/Resources mentioned:ADHD and Autism: Support for Neurodivergent Moms and Kids (aheartforallstudents.com)Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In today's episode, Anouk is joined by the insightful Victor Antunez, a father and real estate agent who shares his personal journey of relocating with his autistic daughter. Together, they discuss the impact of reorganizing their daughter's play area to suit her needs and share a more calming symbol for autism. They also delve into the importance of choosing a home that accommodates the unique needs and safety concerns of autistic children. From traveling tips to finding the right neighborhood, this episode is packed with practical advice and personal stories. So, grab a cup of tea, sit back, and join us as we dive into the world of parenting intense and sensory sensitive kids.3 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Personalized, Safe Spaces for Autistic Children: Victor discusses the impact of reorganizing and making changes to our autistic child's environment to make it less stimulating and more calming.2️⃣ Relocating with an Autistic Child: Safety and Accessibility: Victor shares insights on the significance of living in proximity to necessary services for autistic children, such as schools and therapy centers. He expresses the importance of neighborhood adaptability and considerations for potential hazards, such as the risk of wandering and drowning, are emphasized.3️⃣ Communication and Inclusion for Smooth Transitions: Victor emphasizes the significance of involving children in the moving process, regardless of verbal ability. He discusses the importance of familiarizing the child with new environments, such as airports, and planning rest stops with amenities for ease during travel are recommended."We're seeing more and more kids being diagnosed later in life, and we're realizing that autism is different than what we thought it was. It's possible because there's different levels and different ways that autism can show."Connect with Victor Antunez:Links: https://miamiautismdad.com/ https://miamiautismdad.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Home-Renovations-Sensory-Friendly-Interior-Design-1-39.pdfMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In today's episode, we are joined by Michelle Steiner, who bravely shares her experience living with invisible disabilities, including dyscalculia, limited hand dexterity, and visual perception issues. Michelle works as a paraeducator, advocating for people with disabilities and emphasizing the importance of connecting with others who share similar experiences. She discusses her childhood diagnosis, the invaluable support she received from her parents, and the profound impact of their advocacy. Join us as Michelle candidly unpacks the challenges she faces due to her disability and sheds light on the empowerment found in focusing on one's abilities rather than limitations. We'll also explore the importance of disability representation, the impact of societal views on learning disabilities, and the support resources that Michelle passionately advocates for. This is an episode you won't want to miss as we delve into the complexities of living with and parenting a child with invisible disabilities.3 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Empowerment through Connection: Michelle emphasized the importance of connecting with others who share similar experiences. Finding a supportive community and focusing on abilities rather than limitations can be transformative for individuals with disabilities.2️⃣ The Power of Advocacy: Michelle's story highlighted the crucial role of parental advocacy in supporting a child with special needs. Her parents' unwavering support, reassurance about her intelligence, and proactive advocacy significantly impacted her journey.3️⃣ Embracing Adaptive Solutions: Michelle's experiences shed light on the impact of technology and adaptive solutions in education and daily life. Recognizing the value of personalized learning experiences and adaptive tools can make a profound difference for individuals with learning disabilities."My parents did a lot of advocacy for me when I was younger, and I can remember having my mom was great for explaining my disability to other people and they were accepting, and I thought to myself, oh, I wish I could do that."Connect with Michelle Steiner:Links: https://www.michellesmission.net/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100013356902200 https://www.instagram.com/steiner7250/References:Non- Verbal Learning Project: NVLD Home | The NVLD Project | Non-Verbal Learning DisabilityEye to Eye: Home - Eye to Eye (eyetoeyenational.org)All Abilities Media: All Abilities MediaMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity"!In this episode, we are joined by the insightful Zia Hassan, a highly sensitive person himself and the parent of highly sensitive children. Zia brings a unique perspective, drawing from his experiences as a highly sensitive individual, a professional skills trainer, and a coach for new dads and career transition. Together with our host, Anouk, Zia shares his journey of navigating high sensitivity, coping mechanisms, and the impact of sensitivity on parenting. Tune in as we explore the strengths, challenges, and coping strategies related to high sensitivity in children and adults.3 key takeaways:1️⃣ Embracing Highly Sensitive Children: Zia Hassan discusses his own highly sensitive nature and the impact it has had on his life and parenting. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and embracing highly sensitive children, providing support and coping mechanisms tailored to their individual needs.2️⃣ Practical Coping Mechanisms for Highly Sensitive Individuals: Zia shares practical coping mechanisms for highly sensitive individuals, such as using noise-canceling headphones, a white noise machine, and earplugs to manage sensory stimuli like sound. He also emphasizes the value of mindfulness techniques and assertive communication to navigate overwhelming situations.3️⃣ Harnessing the Strength of High Sensitivity: Zia Hassan views high sensitivity as a superpower and believes that parents should help their sensitive children express themselves, fostering a unique perspective on the world. He advocates for understanding and empathy toward highly sensitive individuals, highlighting the potential for positive impact with the right guidance and support."The thing about stimulus is that for people like me, when we're encountering a strong feeling or a strong smell or sound or whatever it might be, There's no gap between that stimulus and our response to it."Connect with Zia Hassan:Website: 1-1 Coaching to Navigate Your First Time Fatherhood Journey (firststepsdad.coach)Instagram: Zia Hassan (@ziahassan) • Instagram photos and videosLinkedIn: zia-s-hassanMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity"!In this episode, our guest Amanda Riley, a passionate advocate for neurodiversity, brings her 20+ years of experience to the table as she shares her journey of understanding and supporting her neurodivergent children. From her daughter's ADHD diagnosis to her own adult diagnoses, Amanda sheds light on the challenges and triumphs of parenting neurodivergent children. Join us as we explore the impact of language, perceptions, and the power of seeking a diagnosis to empower children and adults within the neurodiversity community. Whether you're a parent, educator, or ally, this episode offers invaluable insights and resources for navigating the world of neurodiversity.3 key takeaways:1️⃣ Shifting the Focus: Emphasizing Strengths and Positivity- Amanda highlighted the importance of shifting the focus from negative language surrounding neurodivergent conditions to highlighting the strengths and positive aspects, particularly for children and adults diagnosed later in life.2️⃣ Importance of Diagnosis: Empowerment and Understanding- Amanda emphasized the significance of seeking a diagnosis for neurodivergent conditions to empower the child and avoid negative labeling from others. Understanding oneself and individual traits within a diagnosis can be truly transformative.3️⃣ Support and Resources: Community, Therapy, and Education-Amanda discussed the valuable role of building relationships with other parents of neurodivergent children, as well as seeking support from therapists and specialized classes at school. She also recommended resources like Attitude Mag and Tony Atwood for insightful information on ADHD, autism, and related conditions. "Create that future for them where they don't have to feel ashamed or they don't have to feel that they have to mask or hide who they really are."Connect with Amanda Riley:Website: http://www.thrivingwithneurodiversity.com.auInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thrivingwithneurodiversity/LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/amandajrileyResources Amanda mentioned in the episode:Additude magazine: ADDitude Magazine Subscription | Renewal | Gift (subscriptioncore.com)Tony Attwood: Home - Attwood and Garnett EventsMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity"!In today's episode, we have the pleasure of hosting Afsaneh Moradian, a homeschooling coach and advocate for effective communication with children. Together, Afsaneh and host Anouk explore the intricacies of addressing power struggles and fostering open communication with children, particularly neurodivergent kids. They also discuss the advantages and challenges of homeschooling, emphasizing a personalized approach that caters to children's emotional and learning needs. Join us as we uncover valuable insights and practical strategies for nurturing a deeper connection with your children.3 key takeaways:1️⃣ Understanding and Supporting Emotionally Intense Children: Afsaneh emphasizes the importance of avoiding power struggles with emotionally intense children and understanding the reasons behind their behavior. Parents are encouraged to address underlying emotions and narratives while approaching situations with patience and empathy.2️⃣ Homeschooling as a Personalized Approach for Neurodivergent Children: Afsaneh advocates for homeschooling as an opportunity to create a customized learning experience for neurodivergent children, offering intellectual challenge, creative expression, critical thinking, and independent learning.3️⃣ Building Effective Communication with Children: Afsaneh stresses the importance of developing and practicing effective communication skills with children, particularly in the face of challenging behaviors. By understanding the underlying issues that prevent children from complying with parental requests, parents can facilitate smoother and quicker resolutions without engaging in power struggles."What your child is experiencing has nothing to do with you. Children are the centers of their own universes."Connect with Afsaneh:Www.mlccoaching.comhttps://www.facebook.com/MLC.Homeschool.Coaching https://www.instagram.com/moradian.afsaneh/Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode, Anouk is joined by Michelle Purta, a passionate marriage coach, to explore the vital importance of maintaining a united front in parenting and fostering harmonious relationships amidst the intensity. Michelle emphasizes the significance of self-reflection, open communication, and the 4 R's method - Reflect, Reveal, Repair, and Reconnect. Together, they shine a light on the struggles parents face when balancing the demands of parenting an intense child with nurturing a strong relationship. Tune in as they share insights and strategies for navigating these challenges, and stay till the end for actionable resources and a heartfelt message of solidarity.3 key takeaways:1️⃣ Have a Neutral, Open Attitude: Michelle Purta stresses the importance of maintaining a neutral, open attitude for effective communication with both children and a spouse. This approach creates a conducive environment for healthy dialogue and understanding, fostering stronger relationships within the family.2️⃣ Reflect, Reveal, Repair, Reconnect: The "R" steps - Reflect, Reveal, Repair, and Reconnect - are crucial in handling conflicts and building open, collaborative dialogue. This method encourages individuals to reflect on their emotions and experiences, reveal them via constructive communication, repair any misunderstandings, and reconnect for sustainable resolutions.3️⃣ Root of Issues: Rather than addressing surface-level problems, it is advisable to reflect on the root of issues. Understanding these underlying causes provides the foundation for addressing challenges effectively and fostering a more harmonious family environment."You do not have to choose between being a great parent & having a great marriage."Connect with Michelle:Her website: https://www.michellepurta.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/michellepurtacoachingFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/purta.michelleMarriage & Motherhood Community: https://www.facebook.com/group/marriageandmotherhoodPodcast: https://www.michellepurta.com/podcastMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In today's episode, Anouk sits down with special guest Carrie Bonnett, a veteran teacher and executive function coach, to discuss the critical role of executive function in the lives of emotionally intense children. Together, they explore the challenges and strategies for managing tasks, time, and emotional control, shedding light on the universal nature of these struggles and the importance of explicit teaching around executive function. From identifying signs of executive function challenges to fostering independence in children, this episode provides valuable insights and practical tips for parents navigating the complexities of parenting intense children.3 key takeaways:1️⃣ Understanding Executive Function: The importance of understanding executive function in children, its impact on emotional control and daily tasks, and the need for explicit teaching and support.2️⃣ Strategies for Supporting Children: Practical strategies such as time tracking, minimizing distractions, providing choices, visual cues, and fostering independence to help children manage their time and tasks.3️⃣ Self-Care for Parents: The importance of parents managing their own time and stress levels to create a supportive environment for their children's success, and the encouragement to find parenting methods that work for both the parents and their kids."The goal of parenting, is to foster independence someday. So the more that we can give them a chance to use their brain to figure it out, the better."Connect with Carrie:www.carriebonnett.comFB: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100070263132010LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-bonnett/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCddNZWEJck1U9fHwdUHe3fQResources mentioned by Carrie:Smart but Scattered: The Revolutionary "Executive Skills" Approach to Helping Kids Reach Their Potential - Kindle edition by Dawson, Peg, Guare, Richard. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.The Executive Functioning Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7qTyfCMOWe3P0EySzPgBRP?si=cf9042b6b0c44237Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this episode we have on parenting coach and neuropsychologist, Dr. Gila, to talk with us about the unique challenges faced by single parents (but don't run if you are not a single parent, there so many things that apply to everyone). Gila shares insights on the importance of self-care, decision-making, and handling intense moments with kids when you are alone with them. With her expertise and personal experience as a single parent, Dr Gila offers valuable advice, practical tips, and resources to help single parents navigate the complexities of raising intense kids. Join us as we explore the strategies and support that can make a positive impact in single parenting emotionally intense kids.3 key takeaways:1️⃣ Self-Care for Single Parents: Dr Gila emphasizes the importance of self-care for single parents, highlighting that taking time for oneself is essential for being able to show up for their children. She encourages single parents to seek support from sources other than a romantic partner for decision-making and recommends journaling as a way to process thoughts and emotions.2️⃣Emotional Regulation and Connection: Dr Gila uses the metaphor of a sink to explain emotional regulation, emphasizing the need to recognize when the "sink" is getting full. She advises parents to prioritize actions aligned with family values and to understand each child's unique needs for emotional regulation. Gila also emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and validation in building a connection with children.3️⃣ Grounding Techniques and Parenting Strategies: Dr Gila provides grounding techniques for parents, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion and patience in responding to intense emotions and strong wills in children. She advocates for compromising and changing positions when necessary, and highlights the importance of being present with the child, even if it means not meeting external time pressures."One of the best things that you can do for your kids is to take care of yourself. If your sink is nice and taken care of, then you can show up for them in the way that they need."Connect with Dr Gila:Links: Website: www.connectionbasedparenting.com IG: www.instagram.com/drgila_parenting FB: www.facebook.com/drgilaparenting/ YouTube: https://youtube.com/@drgila_parentingMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this week's episode we have on Allison Livingston, she is a Parent Coach who transforms families struggling with intense anger or anxiety /hard family dynamics. Allison shares her personal journey with her intense daughter and how nonviolent communication transformed their relationship. Join us as we explore the impact of societal judgment, the power of compassionate communication, and practical strategies for navigating emotionally charged parenting moments. Tune in as we delve into the world of emotionally intense parenting and discover new ways to support our children and ourselves.3 key takeaways:1️⃣ Validate Emotions: Prioritize validating children's feelings and experiences to provide support and promote healthy emotional development. Using nonviolent communication and a feeling-first approach can help in this process.2️⃣ Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion and grace when learning new parenting methods. Recognize the impact of societal judgment on parenting and learn to manage reactions to judgment through body awareness and self-compassion.3️⃣ Connect and Regulate: Prioritize recognizing and connecting with emotions before trying to regulate and calm oneself. Implement techniques such as deep breathing, making eye contact, and using mnemonic devices like "S.T.O.P" to maintain a regulated, connected approach to parenting."The more I can see what's going on underneath the surface, that's when real connection and real understanding can happen. And that's the core needs of our kids is to be seen and heard and understood."Connect with Allison Livingston:Her website: www.5StepsToConnect.comInstagram: Allison Livingston (@5stepstoconnect) • Instagram photos and videosMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this week's episode we sharing PART 2 of the episode with Elizabeth Yarnell, she's the award-winning cookbook author of "Glorious One Pot Meals", TEDx speaker, and expert in chronic inflammation. Elizabeth shares her journey of developing time-saving cooking techniques tailored for parents with autoimmune conditions, offering over 150 customizable recipes that promote healthier eating and manage fatigue. Join us as we delve into the benefits of one-pot cooking, the impact of food sensitivities on parenting, and practical tips for involving children in meal planning and cooking. Get ready to be inspired to unleash your creativity in the kitchen and explore new ways to navigate food challenges as a parent.3 key takeaways1️⃣ Simplifying the cooking process is essential for busy parents, and Elizabeth Yarnell's one-pot meal method offers a time-saving solution for preparing healthy, customizable meals.2️⃣ Involving children in meal planning and cooking can foster creativity and help accommodate dietary restrictions, offering enjoyable and inclusive family mealtimes.3️⃣ Understanding the impact of food sensitivities and inflammation triggers on children's behavior and emotions can empower parents to make informed dietary choices that promote overall well-being.Connect with Elizabeth:The Inflammation Academy (business name) TheInflammationAcademy.comElizabeth Yarnell – Individual & Corporate Wellness Programs | Create your healthy reality today.https://elizabethyarnell.com/inflammationquiz/ Elizabeth Yarnell | Naturopath (@elizabethyarnell_naturopath) • Instagram photos and videoshttps://twitter.com/ElizabethYarnel https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethyarnell/Book: Glorious One-Pot Meals: A Revolutionary New Quick and Healthy Approach to Dutch-Oven Cooking:https://www.amazon.com/Glorious-One-Pot-Meals-Revolutionary-Dutch-Oven-ebook/dp/B001NLKSKM/ "So it's no wonder convenience foods took over. We wanted them. We needed them, but now we have to take a step back and recognize that."Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this week's episode we have on Elizabeth Yarnell, she's an award-winning cookbook author, TEDx speaker, and expert in chronic inflammation. Elizabeth shares a personal story about her son's health struggles, stemming from food sensitivities, and the impact it had on his behavior, learning, and growth. We delve into the link between food sensitivities and children's behavior, learning, and growth, and the misdirection of traditional parenting practices when a child's intense behavior is caused by food sensitivities. Elizabeth also discusses the concept of hidden inflammation and its role in various health issues, sharing insights from her own diagnosis of multiple sclerosis. We'll explore how to identify and manage food sensitivities in children, negotiate dietary changes with kids, and ensure food safety for the entire family. Join us as we uncover essential strategies for navigating the complex world of parenting intense kids with food sensitivities.3 key takeaways1️⃣ Understanding the Impact of Food Sensitivities: Elizabeth Yarnell provides valuable insight into the link between food sensitivities and children's behavior, learning, and growth. The episode highlights the importance of considering food sensitivities as a potential root cause of intense behavior or health issues in children, underscoring the impact of diet on their overall well-being.2️⃣ Addressing Inflammation as the Root Cause: The discussion emphasizes the significance of addressing hidden inflammation as the root cause of symptoms, especially in relation to children's health issues. Elizabeth emphasizes the need to focus on addressing inflammation rather than solely treating the symptoms, leading to a greater understanding of the importance of a holistic approach to wellness.3️⃣ Practical Parenting Strategies: Elizabeth Yarnell offers practical insights into navigating dietary changes for children with food sensitivities, providing a balanced approach that combines negotiation, delicious and safe food substitutes, and positive reinforcement. Additionally, her tips on identifying safe food items, batch cooking, and freezing food offer tangible strategies for parents navigating food-related challenges."We don't necessarily make the connection easily that the kids might just be in pain, and that's why they are acting that way because young kids don't say I'm in pain."Connect with Elizabeth:The Inflammation Academy (business name) TheInflammationAcademy.comElizabeth Yarnell – Individual & Corporate Wellness Programs | Create your healthy reality today.https://elizabethyarnell.com/inflammationquiz/ Elizabeth Yarnell | Naturopath (@elizabethyarnell_naturopath) • Instagram photos and videoshttps://twitter.com/ElizabethYarnel https://www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethyarnell/Book: Glorious One-Pot Meals: A Revolutionary New Quick and Healthy Approach to Dutch-Oven Cooking:https://www.amazon.com/Glorious-One-Pot-Meals-Revolutionary-Dutch-Oven-ebook/dp/B001NLKSKM/ Make sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this special bonus episode of Parenting the Intensity, I sits down with author Anandamayi Baker to discuss her book "Bee Coming Strong." The book addresses inclusivity, bullying, and deep breathing exercises in a playful and integrated way. Anandamayi shares her personal journey growing up in a dysfunctional family and how she found solace in nature and yoga. She discusses how her book aims to connect children with nature, teach them calming techniques, and celebrate differences. Anandamayi also reveals an interesting breathing technique inspired by bees. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for parents looking for practical tools to help their children navigate intense emotions and a wonderful gifts idea!3 takeaways of the episode1️⃣ Celebrating Differences: Anandamayi's book, "Bee-Coming Strong," beautifully highlights the importance of celebrating differences and teaches valuable life lessons about inclusivity, empathy, and understanding.2️⃣ Playful and Integrated Mindfulness: Anandamayi shared insightful techniques for helping children calm down and deal with intense emotions through fun and integrated approaches. The book cleverly weaves in deep breathing exercises and offers a playful way for kids to learn about and connect with nature.3️⃣ Bee Breath Technique: Anandamayi introduced an interesting breathing practice called Bee breath, which is not only calming but also holds great potential for both children and adults to manage stress and anxiety."Differences are to be celebrated. Differences help us be stronger and kinder."Where to find AnadamayiWebsite AnandamayiBaker.comBook: Bee-Coming Strong on AmazonAdditional resource suggested by our wonderful guestDr. Heather Alexander https://www.livewellmindfully.com/Video on breathing exercise for familiesShow notes and transcript of the episode over hereMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"In this week's episode we are welcoming Jami Kirkbride, mom of 7 and licensed professional counselor, to tackle the rollercoaster of emotions and challenges that come with raising emotionally intense kids during the holiday season, or any period of life where unpredictability, lots of people and tiredness come into play. With personal anecdotes and professional knowledge, we dish out tips for understanding sensory processing, managing anxiety, and handling family gatherings. Jamie's shares strategies and resources, and she's all about prioritizing the needs of our unique kiddos over any outside influences. So, grab a cup of something soothing and join us for an episode full of resources to navigat the holidays with emotionally intense kids.3 key takeaways1️⃣ Understanding the child's efforts: Children with sensory processing issues often put in tremendous effort for daily activities that come easily to others. It's crucial to recognize their unique triggers, provide sensory tools, and schedule breaks to support them.2️⃣ Family Support and Adaptation: Educating family members about our child's needs is key to creating understanding and support. Prioritizing the child's needs over external judgment is crucial, especially during the holidays.3️⃣ Self-Care and Trusting Instincts: Parents play a vital role in modeling self-care and trusting their instincts. It's okay to let go of ideal expectations and adjust plans to accommodate the needs of emotionally intense kids during the holiday season and let ourselves off the hook too!"Only after I took the risk of really communicating some of our struggles and the differences that we were seeing with him, did my parents start becoming more open minded"Where to find JamiWebsite Parenting with PersonalityBeind the Behavior: A Uniquely Wired ChildFacebook GroupInstagramJami also has an app with a free course on how to manage meltdowns. Get the app on Apple or GoogleResources mentioned by JamieBrain body parenting book by Mona DelahookeSensory processing 101 book Dayna Abraham Show notes and transcript of the episode over hereMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"November is adoption month and this week on the podcast we are welcoming Angie Grandt. Angie is not only a dedicated bio and adoptive mom but also an adoption coach, speech therapist, and former foster mom who has worked in the autism field. Together, they dive deep into the emotional journey of parenting intense children, particularly those who have experienced trauma and disrupted attachment. Angie shares her own personal experiences and offers valuable insights and strategies for creating a safe and supportive environment for these unique children. Join us as we delve into the complexities, fears, and joys of parenting intense kids and gain tools to build strong attachments and navigate the emotional rollercoaster.Although almost all we are taking about today can apply to any emotionally intense kids so I encourage you to listen anyway!Here are three key takeaways from our conversation:1️⃣ Respond vs. React: Angie emphasized the importance of responding to our children's needs, rather than reacting to their behaviors. By maintaining a calm and focused mindset, we can create a safe and supportive environment for our kids, regardless of their background or challenges. This approach fosters strong attachments and helps children feel loved and secure.2️⃣ Shifting Perspectives: As parents, it's natural to have doubts and fears, especially in the case of adoptive or foster parents. Angie shared her own struggles with feelings of inadequacy and uncertainty. However, by working on our mindset and believing in our ability to create the family we envision, we can overcome these challenges and provide the love and support our children need.3️⃣ Seek Support: Parenting emotionally intense children can be overwhelming, but we don't have to face it alone. Angie encourages parents to seek support from coaches, therapists, and communities like her Facebook group, Connected Parents with Angie. By connecting with others who understand their unique journey, parents can gain valuable insights, tools, and resources to thrive in their role.If you're a parent facing the challenges of parenting emotionally intense children, I highly recommend tuning into this episode. Angie's wisdom and personal experience will inspire and empower you on your parenting journey. Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast and leave a rating and review!"Respond to your child as if the goal of your ideal relationship is already achieved instead of responding to the behavior.""I can be happy no matter what"Where to find AngieWebsite Connected Parents with AngieFacebook GroupInstagramShow notes and transcript of the episode over hereMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay

Welcome back to "Parenting the Intensity!"For today's episode. We have a special guest joining us, Keri Cooper, a therapist who specializes in working with children and adolescents.In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with the amazing Keri Cooper, a therapist who specializes in working with children and teens. Keri dropped some serious knowledge bombs about the importance of focusing on foundational elements for stable moods and overall well-being. From hydration and healthy eating to setting boundaries and practicing mindfulness, we covered it all.We also delved into the struggles of finding balance in our children's busy schedules and the importance of prioritizing self-care for both parents and kids. Keri even shared some practical tips and strategies from her workbook that can help you and your child implement healthy habits and navigate those intense moments with grace.We also tackled how to get kids on board with eating their veggies and introducing mindfulness into their daily routine. You won't want to miss Keri's expert advice on these topics!1. Prioritize Foundation Elements: Keri emphasizes the importance of focusing on foundational elements for stable mood and overall well-being. These include physical aspects like hydration, food, sleep, exercise, and meditation, as well as mental aspects such as independence, boundaries, and healthy ways of dealing with disappointment. By prioritizing these elements, both parents and children can lay the groundwork for better mental health and navigate challenges more effectively.2. Model Healthy Habits: As parents, we have a powerful influence on our children's habits and behaviors. By leading by example and practicing what we preach, we can inspire our kids to follow suit. Whether it's eating well, staying hydrated, or practicing mindfulness, our actions speak louder than words. Let's be role models for our little ones and create a healthier, happier future for our families.3. Build Supportive Communities: Anouk and Keri both stress the importance of seeking support and building a community of like-minded parents. Parenting can be challenging, and having a support system can make a significant difference. Whether it's joining online groups, seeking guidance from therapists or experts, or simply connecting with other parents, building a support network can provide valuable resources, advice, and a sense of belonging."And it wasn't until 10 years into my career that through my own daughter with a dairy insensitivity that massively impacted her mood when she was young, did I realize We need to look past just the symptoms."Where to find KeriWebsite Keri Cooper Holistic TherapyFacebookInstagramBooks : Mental Health Uncensored and Mental Health Uncensored Teen WorkbookShow notes and transcript of the episode over hereMake sure to subscribe to our podcast for future episodes and leave a rating and review, that helps us get in front of more parents. Don't forget to check out the resources mentioned on our website at www.parentingtheintensity.caJoin the "Parenting the Intensity Community" to find the right things that works for YOUR child and adapt them to YOUR reality.To be able to enjoy your life and kids, not always being afraid of the next outburstTake a deep breath, keep going, we're all in this together!Music by Oleksii Kaplunskyi from Pixabay