Podcasts about Solitude

1er épisode solo de la rentrée solo je vous raconte mon été, celui où je suis parti trois semaines à Stockholm écrire le livre sur lequel je travaille depuis un an et demi.Un livre sur ce que la technologie nous retire quand elle nous facilite tout.Ce départ est né d'une sensation que je traîne depuis longtemps, ce pincement au ventre chaque fois que je demande mon chemin à Google Maps plutôt qu'à un humain, chaque fois que je fais rédiger un texte par une IA, chaque fois que ma vie devient un peu plus pratique et un peu plus vide en même temps. Je me suis imposé une règle : aucune ligne de ce livre ne serait écrite par une machine. Et pour tenir cette règle, il me fallait un endroit où rien ne viendrait m'aider à fuir.Ce que je n'avais pas vu venir, c'est que je partais écrire un livre sur la friction dans le pays qui a le mieux réussi à la faire disparaître. Et que ça allait d'abord me mettre à terre.Dans cet épisode, nous parlons de la première semaine, celle où je n'ai adressé la parole à personne et où la solitude que je croyais désirer m'a serré le ventre pendant sept jours pleins. De l'effet de dévitalisation, ce mot que j'ai fini par trouver pour désigner ce qui nous arrive collectivement. Du papillon qui doit déchirer sa chrysalide lui-même sous peine de ne jamais voler. Du pigeon de Skinner, que je porte en moi chaque fois que j'essaie d'affiner ma routine du matin. De la nuit où j'ai décidé de jeter la moitié de mon manuscrit. Des Suédois qui s'effacent plutôt que de vous contredire, et de ce que ma sœur m'a dit à ce sujet qui m'a scié. Du Rat Park et de la cage confortable qu'on se construit tous. Et du moment où j'ai griffonné mon numéro de téléphone sur un bout de papier, à mon âge, pour le tendre à quelqu'un.Je me suis questionné sur ce que la solitude fait vraiment, sur la différence entre celle qu'on choisit et celle qui nous tombe dessus, sur ce qu'on croit épargner à nos enfants en leur retirant l'attente et l'ennui, et sur ce qui reste d'une société quand elle a poli tous ses angles.C'est un épisode long, personnel, et sans doute le plus intime que j'aie enregistré. Si vous vous êtes déjà surpris à ne pas savoir ce qui vous avait fait sourire ou pleurer dans la journée, il est pour vous.3. Citations marquantes« Comprendre un piège ne vous permet pas d'en sortir. Vingt ans plus tard, je suis plus accro que jamais. »« Je critique, je rejette, et je reste. C'est sans doute la définition la plus honnête de ma situation, et peut-être de la vôtre. »« J'ai reçu des mails de lecteurs qui me remerciaient pour ce texte que je n'avais pas écrit. Le fait que ça marche m'a prouvé l'efficacité du système et a creusé le vide encore un peu plus. »« Si vous ouvrez le cocon du papillon pour lui simplifier la vie, vous le condamnez : il ne pourra jamais voler. »« On est devenus des athlètes de la certitude dans un monde qui réclamerait plutôt des acrobates de la complexité. »(Bonus si besoin d'un sixième extrait pour les réseaux)« Je suis venu écrire sur ce qui nous arrive quand on retire toutes les frictions d'une vie, et je me suis retrouvé dans un pays qui a fait exactement ça, mais à l'échelle d'une culture entière. »4. Idées centrales discutées 1. L'effet de dévitalisation≈ 09:30 Les systèmes conçus pour nous retirer les frictions de la vie, l'attente, l'effort, l'ennui, le désaccord, finissent par nous vider de l'intérieur. Ils réduisent notre capacité à décider, nos compétences, jusqu'au sens qu'on donne à notre existence. On devient performants, productifs, et vides. Pourquoi ça compte : c'est le mot qui manquait. Tant qu'une sensation n'a pas de nom, elle existe dans le corps mais pas dans la conversation collective. Nommer permet d'agir.2. Savoir ne suffit pas≈ 03:10 Vingt ans à connaître parfaitement les mécanismes d'addiction des plateformes, et vingt ans à y céder quand même. La lucidité n'est pas un levier de changement. Pourquoi ça compte : ça disqualifie toute la littérature qui promet qu'il suffit de comprendre pour se libérer, et ça déplace la question du côté de l'environnement plutôt que de la volonté individuelle.3. Le vivant se renforce par la résistance, pas par le rendement≈ 21:00 La friction est un mauvais élève en ingénierie, on la supprime pour gagner en rendement. Mais un arbre se renforce sous le vent, les valvules du cœur avec le flux du sang, et le papillon a besoin de l'effort qui brise la chrysalide pour que ses ailes se remplissent. Pourquoi ça compte : les designers de la Silicon Valley ont appliqué la logique de la machine au vivant sans vérifier qu'elle s'y appliquait. C'est une erreur de modèle, pas une erreur de morale.4. Friction n'est pas souffrance≈ 23:00 La souffrance réelle, celle de la maladie, du deuil, de la précarité, ne construit rien, elle épuise et elle diminue, et elle demande de la justice et du soutien. Les frictions du quotidien, elles, font grandir quand on les traverse. Pourquoi ça compte : sans cette distinction, tout le propos bascule dans le discours réactionnaire du « c'était mieux quand c'était dur ». C'est le garde-fou de l'épisode.5. La bonne solitude a besoin de micro-liens≈ 32:00 Le flot d'écriture n'est pas venu de l'isolement pur. Il est arrivé au moment précis où j'ai commencé à échanger trois mots avec le type de la cantine et la femme de la sécurité. J'avais besoin d'être seul pour écrire et de ces quelques regards pour tenir debout pendant que j'écrivais seul. Pourquoi ça compte : ça renverse le mythe de l'artiste retiré du monde, et ça donne un dosage concret plutôt qu'un idéal.6. Ce n'est pas la substance qui crée l'addiction, c'est l'isolement≈ 51:30 Le rat seul se tue à la morphine, les rats du Rat Park en consomment jusqu'à dix-neuf fois moins, et ceux qui étaient déjà accros réduisent d'eux-mêmes une fois replacés dans la vie sociale. Pourquoi ça compte : appliqué à nos écrans, ça déplace tout le débat. La question n'est pas de savoir si TikTok est mauvais, mais de savoir dans quelle cage on le consomme.7. Le désaccord est un muscle qu'on a laissé fondre≈ 42:00 Les Suédois s'effacent plutôt que de vous contredire, et le résultat n'est pas un enfer, c'est doux, propre et sûr. Mais le prix, c'est un lien social qui se dévitalise. Nous suivons le même chemin avec les bulles de filtres et la disparition des lieux où l'on croisait des gens qui ne pensaient pas comme nous. Pourquoi ça compte : c'est la friction dont personne ne parle, parce que tout le monde a envie de s'en débarrasser. Et c'est peut-être celle qui nous manquera le plus.Questions structurantes de l'épisode(Format solo : ce sont les questions que je me pose à voix haute et qui portent le récit. Utilisables telles quelles pour les chapitres, les descriptions courtes, ou comme angles de relance sur les réseaux.)Pourquoi ma vie devient-elle un peu plus pratique et un peu plus vide en même temps ?Comment peut-on connaître parfaitement les mécanismes d'un piège et y rester enfermé vingt ans ?Qu'est-ce qu'une sensation qui n'a pas de mot ? Existe-t-elle vraiment tant qu'on ne peut pas la nommer ?Que se passe-t-il exactement quand on retire à un être vivant toutes les résistances qu'il rencontre ?Où passe la ligne entre la friction qui construit et la souffrance qui détruit, et pourquoi les confond-on autant aujourd'hui ?Est-ce que la solitude qu'on désire est vraiment celle qui nous fait du bien ?Qu'est-ce qui a changé entre une époque où l'attente était le décor et une époque où elle est devenue une agression ?Pourquoi cherche-t-on à affiner jusqu'à son repos, et qu'est-ce que ça dit de notre rapport au hasard ?Que faut-il pour accepter de jeter la moitié d'un travail quand une solution confortable est à portée de main ?Combien de décisions ai-je réellement prises aujourd'hui, et combien ont été prises pour moi ?Que devient une société qui a réussi à supprimer le conflit de ses relations quotidiennes ?Est-ce qu'on protège nos enfants en leur retirant l'attente, l'ennui et l'échec, ou est-ce qu'on les prive de ce qui nous a construits ?Hébergé par Audiomeans. 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Alain de Botton est écrivain et philosophe. Il est également le fondateur de The School of Life, il a écrit Le cours de l'amour, un livre que j'ai lu il y a quelques années et qui m'a franchement retourné, parce qu'il commence là où tous les films s'arrêtent : le jour d'après le mariage.C'est le retour de l'été et ca m'a semblé bien de diffuser cet épisode en cette dernière semaine d'aout.Petite précision avant de démarrer : cet épisode a d'abord été diffusé en anglais. J'ai quand même tenu à le proposer en français, parce que ce qu'Alain raconte sur l'amour me paraît trop utile pour rester réservé à celles et ceux qui sont à l'aise avec l'anglais.Il y a un moment dans la conversation où je me suis vu, moi, dans ce qu'il décrivait. Il explique, statistiques à l'appui, que les enfants d'alcooliques tombent massivement amoureux de personnes qui ont un problème d'addiction. Pas par malchance. Parce que nous ne sommes pas attirés par ce qui nous rend heureux, nous sommes attirés par ce qui nous est familier. Et on peut passer une vie entière à rejouer la même scène en croyant chaque fois faire un choix neuf.Dans cet épisode, nous parlons de l'idéal romantique et de ce qu'il nous fait faire, des papillons dans le ventre et de ce qu'ils cachent vraiment, du complexe d'Œdipe relu comme un manuel pratique, des drapeaux rouges à repérer dès le premier dîner, de la sexualité qui s'éteint dans les couples aimants, du polyamour et des dégâts qu'il laisse parfois, de l'infidélité comme tentative maladroite de se rapprocher, des ruptures et de la manière décente de partir, des enfants qui abîment le couple, et de ce qu'on appelle la folie de l'autre.J'ai discuté avec Alain des questions que tout le monde se pose et que personne n'ose formuler à voix haute : est-ce qu'on peut faire changer quelqu'un, comment savoir qu'on a vraiment tout essayé, pourquoi les hommes hétérosexuels ont si peu de mots pour dire ce qu'ils ressentent, et pourquoi les applications de rencontre ont un intérêt économique à ce que vous ne trouviez personne.Ce qui m'a le plus marqué, c'est sa réponse finale. Derrière l'argent, la gloire et l'amour, ce que nous cherchons tous, dit-il, c'est le calme que nous avons connu nourrisson. Et il ajoute une phrase que je n'ai pas réussi à me sortir de la tête : le bruit qui est à l'intérieur de nous a d'abord été un bruit extérieur.Bonne écoute.3. Citations marquantes« Nous ne sommes pas attirés par ce qui nous rend heureux. Nous sommes attirés par ce qui nous est familier. »« Il ne s'agit pas de trouver quelqu'un de sain d'esprit, tout le monde est fou. Il s'agit de trouver quelqu'un capable d'explorer sa folie avec un minimum de maturité. »« Le modèle économique des applis de rencontre repose sur votre échec. C'est une machine à sous : le bonheur, oui, mais pas maintenant, revenez demain. »« Se déshabiller, c'est intéressant. Mais se mettre psychologiquement à nu, ça, c'est la vraie aventure. Et ça ne devient jamais ennuyeux. »« Il n'existe pas d'équilibre entre vie pro et vie perso. Tout ce qui vaut la peine d'être fait va déséquilibrer votre vie. »4. Idées centrales discutées 1. Nous aimons dans un décor que nous n'avons pas choisi (≈ 02:35) Alain ouvre sur cette maxime de La Rochefoucauld : certaines personnes ne seraient jamais tombées amoureuses si elles n'avaient jamais entendu dire que ça existait. Nos émotions reçoivent des encouragements discrets de la société qui nous entoure, et l'idéal romantique en fait partie. Pourquoi ça compte : si nos attentes viennent du décor, elles peuvent être révisées. C'est une bonne nouvelle déguisée en fatalité.2. L'attirance suit le familier, pas le bonheur (≈ 12:52) Le mouvement romantique promettait qu'en suivant son cœur, on choisirait mieux. La psychologie moderne dit l'inverse. Nous rejouons les schémas de frustration de l'enfance parce qu'ils ressemblent à la maison. Pourquoi ça compte : c'est l'explication la plus solide au sentiment de « je retombe toujours sur le même profil » que tant de gens décrivent.3. Les perversions sexuelles sont des terreurs de l'intimité (≈ 25:39) De l'exhibitionniste au voyeur, Alain lit ces comportements comme des refus de la réciprocité : il faut imposer, ou observer de loin, parce que se regarder dans les yeux est insupportable. Pourquoi ça compte : le même mécanisme, en version douce, explique l'amant qui disparaît le lendemain matin. Le désir de connexion et la terreur d'être englouti cohabitent chez tout le monde.4. Les applications de rencontre ont besoin de votre échec (≈ 32:06) Leur modèle repose sur une promesse jamais tenue, exactement comme une machine à sous. Alain reste pourtant optimiste sur la technologie : il imagine une IA témoin du couple, qui signalerait ce que nous ne savons pas entendre. Pourquoi ça compte : ça déplace le débat, le problème n'est pas la technologie, c'est le modèle économique qu'on lui a collé dessus.5. On ne cherche pas quelqu'un de sain, on cherche quelqu'un de lucide (≈ 19:59) La bonne définition d'une attente réaliste, selon lui : quelqu'un capable d'annoncer sa folie avant de la vivre, et de s'en excuser après. Pourquoi ça compte : ça remplace la quête épuisante de la personne parfaite par un critère observable dès les premiers mois.6. Le dialogue a une limite, et il faut l'accepter (≈ 49:05) C'est le moment le plus vulnérable de la conversation. Alain vit de l'idée que les mots transforment les gens, et il admet que ce n'est pas toujours vrai : le traumatisme ferme des portes qu'aucun argument n'ouvre. Pourquoi ça compte : certaines des ruptures les plus douloureuses viennent de là, quitter quelqu'un qu'on aime et qui ne peut pas comprendre.7. La folie de l'autre peut devenir le lieu de l'intimité (≈ 21:28 en germe, développé à 1:20:59) Ce n'est pas la nature du problème qui décide, c'est la manière dont il est porté. Dire « j'ai un problème avec le sexe, aide-moi » peut être plus intime que le sexe lui-même. Pourquoi ça compte : ça retourne complètement la logique des drapeaux rouges. Le défaut avoué relie, le défaut caché détruit.5. Questions posées dans l'interviewComment l'idéal romantique de l'âme sœur a-t-il façonné ce que nous attendons de l'amour, et quels sont les pièges de ces attentes ?Comment prend-on du recul par rapport à un idéal romantique dans lequel nous baignons depuis toujours ?Que valent les papillons dans le ventre, et que sommes-nous censés ressentir quand nous tombons amoureux ?Faut-il suivre son intuition en amour, ou s'en méfier ?Que pensez-vous de l'idée que l'amour dure trois ans ?Quelles sont les attentes réalistes qu'on peut avoir d'une relation ?Existe-t-il des drapeaux rouges fiables, et quelles questions faut-il poser dès les premiers dîners ?Nous vivons dans une société sans friction, Uber, Airbnb, tout doit être fluide. Cherche-t-on aussi un partenaire sans friction ?Est-ce que les hommes hétérosexuels sont plus démunis que les femmes face à leurs propres émotions ?Comment accueillir la folie de son partenaire sans se perdre soi-même ?Peut-on faire changer quelqu'un, et à quelle vitesse ?Comment garder le désir sexuel vivant dans un couple qui s'aime depuis longtemps ?Pourquoi tant d'hommes réclament-ils aujourd'hui des relations ouvertes ?Pourquoi deux personnes qui se sont profondément aimées deviennent-elles des étrangères ?Peut-on pardonner une infidélité, et comment ?Comment savoir qu'on a vraiment tout essayé et qu'il faut partir ?Comment la société devrait-elle évoluer pour améliorer la qualité de nos relations ?Peut-on faire trop de thérapie ?6. Références citées dans l'épisodeAuteurs et philosophesLa Rochefoucauld (≈ 02:48) : « Il y a des gens qui n'auraient jamais été amoureux s'ils n'avaient jamais entendu parler de l'amour. » La citation matrice de tout l'épisode, reprise plus tard à propos du polyamour (≈ 56:47).Sénèque (≈ 17:34) : « Pourquoi pleurer sur des parties de la vie ? Elle appelle tout entière les larmes. » Cité comme exemple de pessimisme réconfortant.Nietzsche (≈ 19:44) : pour vivre, nous avons besoin de certaines illusions.Freud (≈ 33:26) : le complexe d'Œdipe, relu comme modèle des compétences nécessaires à l'âge adulte. Alain note au passage que Freud écrivait mal et qu'il a besoin d'être commenté.Spinoza (≈ 33:50 et ≈ 42:55) : cité comme exemple de penseur qui ne dit pas le meilleur de sa pensée, puis L'Éthique comme exemple de complexité que nous aimons pour de mauvaises raisons.Racine, Shakespeare, Tolstoï (≈ 49:05) : convoqués pour dire que même la plus belle éloquence ne fait pas bouger quelqu'un qui est fermé émotionnellement.Flaubert, Madame Bovary (≈ 59:09) : Emma lit les mauvais livres, ceux qui lui disent que sa vie est ennuyeuse.Livres et créations d'Alain de BottonLe cours de l'amour (The Course of Love) (≈ 00:33) : cité par moi en intro comme le livre qui m'a marqué.The School of Life (≈ 00:33 et ≈ 1:27:43) : l'institution qu'il a fondée, sa chaîne YouTube, et le terrain de ses explorations à venir.Livre français discuté sans être nomméL'amour dure trois ans (≈ 17:34) : je lui soumets la thèse, il répond qu'il ne connaît pas le livre, se félicite qu'il ne soit pas traduit en anglais et refuse d'y croire un vendredi matin à 11h20. [Auteur non nommé dans l'épisode : Frédéric Beigbeder]Cinéma et cultureÉric Rohmer (≈ 59:09) : le cinéaste qui nous apprend la patience des conversations ordinaires.Gladiator (≈ 59:09) : l'exemple inverse, le récit à l'échelle héroïque qui rend la vie quotidienne décevante.Personnes citéesEsther Perel (≈ 18:20) : mentionnée comme la voix à convoquer sur la durée du désir.Invitée d'un précédent épisode de Vlan! (≈ 1:27:26) : je mentionne une conversation qui m'a fait comprendre que le bruit est surtout intérieur. [Nom mal transcrit dans le fichier, à vérifier avant publication]Lieux et imagesLe Bois de Boulogne (≈ 25:39) : l'exemple de l'exhibitionniste.Sainte-Lucie, Saint-Barthélemy (≈ 1:09:21) : les îles de son histoire de plage, la démonstration la plus drôle de notre amnésie sentimentale.Timestamps clés00:00 — Pourquoi cet épisode est en anglais J'explique en français le contexte de l'épisode et pourquoi je tenais à le proposer malgré la barrière de la langue.00:33 — Alain de Botton, School of Life et Le cours de l'amour Mon introduction : pourquoi ce livre m'a marqué, et pourquoi les 20 ou 30 questions les plus difficiles sur l'amour sont réunies ici.02:35 — « Certains ne seraient jamais tombés amoureux s'ils n'en avaient jamais entendu parler » La maxime de La Rochefoucauld comme point de départ : nos émotions ne poussent pas dans le vide, elles sont encouragées par la société. L'idéal romantique nous dit que l'autre doit tout deviner sans qu'on ait à parler.04:59 — La question simple qui fait tomber l'idéal Comment saurai-je que je suis aimé ? À quoi le reconnaîtrai-je ? Vingt personnes dans une pièce donneront vingt réponses différentes selon leur âge, leur pays et leur musique. Nous sommes des créatures hautement suggestibles, et c'est ce qui nous rend libres de changer.06:27 — Les papillons dans le ventre, deux heures suffisent-elles ? Je raconte cette femme rencontrée récemment qui, après deux heures, savait déjà qu'elle ne ressentait rien.07:07 — La solitude originelle et la quête de la maison De l'intérieur d'un corps à l'extérieur du monde, du doudou serré dans les bras à l'adolescence qui cherche un autre corps. Les papillons, c'est la reconnaissance d'une maison perdue, dans une couleur de cheveux, une odeur, un angle de cou, un certain humour.10:58 — Mariages arrangés, romantisme, et le retournement Le passage de la logique dynastique au règne du sentiment, entre 1750 et 1870. Une révolution qui a produit des résultats bien plus paradoxaux qu'on ne le croit.12:52 — La statistique qui fait mal Les enfants d'alcooliques tombent massivement amoureux de personnes qui ont un problème d'addiction. Nous ne sommes pas attirés par le bonheur, nous sommes attirés par le familier.15:43 — Faut-il suivre son intuition ? Non sans la soumettre à examen. Et surtout : tenez un journal de ce que vous vivez, parce que la mémoire réécrit tout. Faites confiance à ce que vous avez ressenti sur le moment, pas à ce que vous imaginez maintenant.17:34 — « L'amour dure trois ans » ? Sa réaction est une des plus drôles de l'épisode. Puis l'argument sérieux : nos goûts ne changent pas si vite, et on ne change pas d'amis tous les trois ans.19:59 — Personne n'est sain d'esprit La seule attente réaliste : quelqu'un capable d'annoncer sa folie juste avant de la vivre, et de s'en excuser après. Il vaut mille fois mieux quelqu'un qui dit « j'ai peur de l'intimité » que quelqu'un qui ne répond plus au téléphone.21:37 — Drapeaux rouges : les vraies questions du premier dîner Un premier dîner est un entretien psychologique. Demandez l'histoire de la personne, sa relation avec ses parents, et observez surtout sa capacité à répondre. « Je ne sais pas, je n'y ai jamais pensé » est en soi une réponse.24:28 — La moitié d'entre nous a peur de s'approcher Environ 50 % des gens portent l'idée inconsciente que se rapprocher de quelqu'un finit mal. Presque tout le monde veut aimer, et presque tout le monde a un obstacle.25:39 — Les perversions sexuelles comme terreurs de l'intimité L'exhibitionniste, le voyeur, et jusqu'au cas le plus tragique. Toutes des manières de refuser la réciprocité. Et le même mécanisme, en version douce, chez l'amant qui promet de rappeler et ne rappelle jamais.28:50 — La vie sans friction et le partenaire sans friction Je lui parle du livre que je veux écrire sur la société du sans-couture, et de cette manie de collectionner les gens en les jetant dès la première imperfection.29:53 — Et si l'IA aidait vraiment les couples ? Son scénario optimiste : une intelligence artificielle témoin du couple, qui signale ce qu'on n'a pas entendu. « Il a mentionné son père trois fois et vous n'avez rien dit. »32:06 — Les applis de rencontre sont des machines à sous Leur modèle repose sur l'échec répété et la promesse du prochain coup. Un appel direct aux entrepreneurs qui écoutent.33:26 — Le complexe d'Œdipe, enfin expliqué utilement Ce que Freud voulait vraiment dire, et pourquoi il l'a mal dit. L'enfant a besoin d'être reconnu comme désirable sans jamais être séduit, et sans jamais être ignoré. Les deux dangers symétriques.38:18 — Pourquoi les conversations entre hommes hétérosexuels sont si ennuyeuses Ça commence dans la cour de récréation, quand pleurer devient une accusation. Ça finit par un adulte qui ne peut dire presque rien de ce qu'il est.40:36 — Quand une remarque sur des chaussures est entendue comme une condamnation à mort Pourquoi certaines personnes vivent toute critique comme une annihilation, et ce que ça révèle de ce qui leur est déjà arrivé.42:55 — Un plaidoyer pour la simplicité Nous adorons la complexité, Spinoza, l'astrophysique, et nous la respectons parfois là où elle n'a rien à faire. Trois heures de discussion quatre fois par semaine sur le sens d'un mot n'est pas une preuve de profondeur.44:26 — Ce qu'est l'amour mature Savoir s'excuser, séparer le passé du présent, distinguer la personne en face de soi de son père ou de sa mère. Et l'analogie du coureur olympique : tout le monde ne peut pas être dans votre équipe.46:36 — On ne change pas sur ordre Les gens changent, mais quand ils le décident, jamais sous la pression. Plus vous insistez, moins c'est possible.47:58 — L'âge émotionnel n'a rien à voir avec l'âge civil Nous tombons amoureux de personnes qui ont notre âge émotionnel. D'où les écarts de vingt ans qui fonctionnent, et les couples du même âge qui se décrochent.49:05 — L'aveu le plus vulnérable de l'épisode Il vit de l'idée que les mots transforment les gens. Et il reconnaît que le traumatisme ferme des portes qu'aucune éloquence n'ouvre. Certaines ruptures naissent exactement là.51:42 — Le désir qui s'éteint dans un couple aimant Le conflit entre le besoin de paraître respectable et la vérité de nos désirs. Plus on a besoin de quelqu'un, moins on ose lui montrer qui on est vraiment.54:17 — Polyamour : « du sang sur le tapis » Son expérience personnelle des amis qui appellent à trois heures du matin. Sans condamner celles et ceux pour qui ça fonctionne.55:51 — L'hôtel, et le partenaire redevenu inconnu La proposition concrète : sortir de la routine, et se rappeler que la personne qu'on croit connaître par cœur reste largement une inconnue.56:23 — Pourquoi tant d'hommes veulent une relation ouverte Une lecture historique et économique du mariage bourgeois, et ce qui se libère quand la contrainte financière disparaît.58:33 — Les histoires d'amour finissent toutes trop tôt Les films s'arrêtent au moment où les deux se trouvent. On ne les voit jamais préparer le dîner vingt ans plus tard.59:09 — Madame Bovary lisait les mauvais livres Rohmer contre Gladiator. Ce que nous regardons décide de ce que nous jugeons digne d'intérêt dans notre propre vie.1:01:06 — La passion, mais psychologique Deux personnes pressées de se retrouver le soir pour reparler de leur enfance. Se mettre psychologiquement à nu, voilà l'aventure qui ne s'épuise jamais.1:02:49 — Le chagrin d'amour est une forme de mort Il refuse de minimiser. Certains en meurent. Et c'est pire quand on ne comprend pas pourquoi l'autre est parti.1:04:09 — Les règles de la décence quand on quitte quelqu'un On prend une amende pour 25 km/h de trop, et on peut disparaître de la vie de quelqu'un après vingt ans sans que personne ne dise rien. Son message le plus direct : si vous savez, partez maintenant.1:07:17 — Peut-on rester amis ? Plus vous avez aimé, plus l'amitié sera pâle. Le meilleur terrain pour une amitié après coup, c'est ironiquement quand on ne s'est pas beaucoup aimés.1:09:21 — Le fichier « problèmes avec X » et l'histoire de la plage Sa méthode contre l'amnésie sentimentale, illustrée par son incapacité chronique à se souvenir qu'il déteste la plage.1:12:11 — L'enfant est une perte, et il faut le savoir La structure tragique de la parentalité, les associations inconscientes qui s'installent quand quelqu'un devient père ou mère, et pourquoi le sexe devient plus compliqué.1:13:47 — « L'équilibre vie pro vie perso n'existe pas » Tout ce qui vaut la peine d'être fait déséquilibre la vie. Il vaut mieux se préparer que se plaindre.1:14:44 — Un plaidoyer pour le compromis Rester pour les enfants n'est pas automatiquement une lâcheté. Refuser tout compromis, c'est un système totalitaire appliqué à sa propre vie.1:16:14 — Comment savoir qu'il est temps de partir Quand vous avez vraiment tout essayé. Les six mois de plus qui semblent perdus vous économisent des années de regrets.1:19:42 — L'infidélité comme tentative de se rapprocher Certaines trahisons disent l'inverse de ce qu'on croit : je ne veux pas sortir, je veux entrer.1:20:59 — La folie de l'autre comme chemin vers l'intimité « J'ai un problème avec le sexe, aide-moi » peut créer plus d'intimité que le sexe. Ce n'est pas la nature du problème qui compte, c'est la manière dont il est porté.1:23:07 — La question qu'on ne lui pose jamais Personne ne l'interroge sur Œdipe ni sur l'exhibitionnisme. Il vient de dire ce qu'il attendait depuis longtemps de pouvoir dire.1:24:10 — L'âge psychologique de l'amour Après les mariages arrangés et l'ère romantique, une troisième époque s'ouvre. Il n'y a qu'une seule voie, l'intelligence émotionnelle.1:25:00 — Peut-on faire trop de thérapie ? Non, mais on peut la faire mal. Et beaucoup de thérapeutes sont mauvais, imposant leur vision du monde à leurs patients.1:26:38 — La porte qu'il ferme : l'anxiété Ce que nous cherchons derrière l'argent, la gloire et l'amour, c'est le calme du nourrisson qui vient de manger.1:27:26 — « Le bruit intérieur a d'abord été un bruit extérieur » La phrase de fin, en une ligne.1:27:43 — Ce qui l'attend La School of Life, et cette immense toile sombre de la vie émotionnelle dont il découvre un morceau à la fois. Suggestion d'autres épisodes à écouter : [BEST OF] Esther Perel : repenser le couple à l'âge du choix infini (https://audmns.com/fHyNTYA) [Hors-Serie] Tout ce que j'aurais voulu savoir en amour avec Alain de Botton (partie 1) (https://audmns.com/jiDhQhD) [Hors serie] Tout ce que j'aurais voulu savoir en amour avec Alain de Botton (partie 2) (https://audmns.com/vUBKEkK)Hébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Join David Heavener as he delves into the reasons why people may resist or misunderstand your spiritual awakening. Filmed in a rustic barn, this engaging talk explores themes of solitude, spiritual sensitivity, and the importance of personal connection with God. Heavener discusses the challenges of maintaining spiritual integrity in a world often focused on religious systems, encouraging viewers to find solace and strength in one-on-one time with God. This video is a call to embrace spiritual growth, even when it leads to feeling misunderstood by others. 8.23.26

Most people think dogs see the world only in black and white—but that's simply not true. Dogs do see color, just not the same colors you do. Understanding how your dog actually experiences the world explains everything from why certain toys are easier to find to why some colors practically disappear. It's a fascinating glimpse into life through your dog's eyes. Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/canine-corner/200810/can-dogs-see-colors Disasters strike without warning, leaving people with only seconds to react. Yet those first few moments often determine who survives and who doesn't. Surprisingly, the biggest factor isn't always physical strength, experience, or even luck. It's how your brain responds under extreme stress. Amanda Ripley has spent years studying real-life disasters and the people who lived through them. She explains what happens inside your mind during an emergency, why so many people freeze or make dangerous decisions, and what you can do now to dramatically improve your chances when the unthinkable happens. Amanda is author of the book The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why (https://amzn.to/4fGJakN). Many people think spending lots of time alone is a sign that something is wrong—that you're lonely, antisocial, or missing out on life. But research tells a very different story. Solitude, when chosen rather than forced, can improve creativity, emotional resilience, relationships, and even your overall well-being. Psychologist Netta Weinstein explains why healthy solitude is one of the most misunderstood tools for living a happier, healthier life—and how to know whether you're getting too much, too little, or just the right amount. She is author of the book Solitude: The Science and Power of Being Alone (https://amzn.to/3X1XkWf). Your phone goes almost everywhere you do—into your hands, your pocket, your car, the kitchen, even the bathroom. Along the way, it quietly picks up far more than texts and emails. The surprising part isn't that your phone is covered with germs—it's how easily those germs can wind up on you. Listen as I explain why your phone deserves more attention than you probably give it and the simple habit that can keep it from becoming a health hazard. Source: https://www.nm.org/healthbeat/healthy-tips/quick-dose-is-your-cell-phone-making-you-sick PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS AIR DOCTOR: Head to ⁠https://AirDoctorPro.com⁠ and use promo code SYSK to get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers, including the 3500, 4000, and 5500 models. Plus, you'll receive a free 3year warranty, an $84 value, and AirDoctor's 30-day money back guarantee WAYFAIR: Ready to upgrade your home for way less? Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Wayfair.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less.  QUINCE: Elevate your everyday. Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too! SHOPIFY: It's time to turn those "what ifs" into CHA CHING with Shopify Today! Sign up for your $1 per month trail and start selling today at ⁠https://Shopify.com/realm⁠ INDEED: Get a $75 Sponsored Job credit to help get your job the premium status it deserves at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Indeed.com/PODCAST⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Crocodilopolis by John Manuel Arias is a riveting meditation on legacy, myth and masculinity which follows brothers locked in a power struggle after a dark family secret threatens their once-powerful political dynasty. John joins us to talk about the anxiety of a sophomore novel, sibling rivalry, global mythology, and tropical plants with cohost Isabelle McConville. This episode of Poured Over was hosted by Isabelle McConville and mixed by Harry Liang.                     New episodes land Tuesdays and Thursdays (with occasional Saturdays) here and on your favorite podcast app.   Featured Books: Crocodilopolis by John Manuel Arias One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison East of Eden by John Steinbeck The Dew Breaker by Edwidge Danticat The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy Sula by Toni Morrison Beloved by Toni Morrison The House of the Spirits by Isabel Allende Lonely Crowds by Stephanie Wambugu Blindness by José Saramago The Grand Paloma Resort by Cleyvis Natera Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov   TBR Featured Books: Crocodilopolis by John Manuel Arias Fruit of the Drunken Tree by Ingrid Rojas Contreras Swamplandia! by Karen Russell

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Why Are We So Lonely Even When We're Not Alone?   Host Curtis Chang talks with psychologist and podcaster Dr. Alison Cook about why America's loneliness epidemic can't be solved by simply adding more people to our lives. They explore how attachment wounds, anxiety, distraction, and modern life leave us disconnected—and how solitude and honest prayer can become paths toward healing. Dr. Cook offers a practice for loneliness: "recognize and return"—name what you feel, then remember, "I am loved even here."   02:46 - Why Do We Minimize Loneliness? 05:12 - What Is Attachment Theory? 10:31 - Childhood Wounds and Cultural Context 13:42 - Where God Enters the Healing Process 16:14 - The Inner Dialogue with God 20:44 - The Importance of Solitude 27:20 - The Modern Epidemic of Loneliness 35:16 - Loneliness as a Holy Longing 39:22 - Spiritual Practices for a Healthy Inner Life   To give to Good Faith: https://goodfaith.org/donate   Mentioned in This Episode: Dr. Cook's The Secure Soul: Finding Inner Strength and Connection When Trust Doesn't Come Easy The U.S. Surgeon General's report: Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation Professor Irvin D. Yalom's Existential Psychotherapy Dietrich Bonhoeffer's Life Together   Scriptures: Psalm 42 (ESV) Psalm 131 (ESV) Psalm 139 (ESV) Genesis 2 (ESV) Romans 8 (ESV)   More From Alison Cook: Dr. Alison Cook's Website Dr. Alison Cook's The Best of You podcast   Follow Us: Good Faith on Instagram Good Faith on X (formerly Twitter) Good Faith on Facebook   The Good Faith Podcast is a production of a 501(c)(3) nonpartisan organization that does not engage in any political campaign activity to support or oppose any candidate for public office. Any views and opinions expressed by any guests on this program are solely those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views or positions of Good Faith.  

Father Robert Nixon, OSB, joins the Son Rise Morning Show to continue exploring Thomas à Kempis' Solitude and Silence: The Cloister of the Heart. They discuss why habits—especially the habit of excessive talking—can be so difficult to break, even when we sincerely repent and resolve to change. Father Nixon explains how our minds can justify returning to old behaviors and why perseverance, prayer, discipline, and God's grace are essential to lasting conversion.Support the show: https://www.sacredheartradio.com/donate-now/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cet été, C'est pas toi, c'est moi fête ses 3 ans. Pour l'occasion, je vous propose de réécouter certains des épisodes qui m'ont le plus marquée depuis le lancement du podcast.Dater apres un divorce : entre réalité ou désillusion ?Dans cet épisode, je vous fais réécouter l'histoire de La Petite Gaby. Après un divorce, deux enfants et un retour sur le marché du célibat 2.0, elle nous raconte ses aventures dans l'univers des apps de rencontre. Des dates foireux, du 50/50 et la peur de ne plus croire au coup de foudre, Gaby nous livre tout ça avec son humour et sa fraîcheur. C'est un épisode sans tabou, et franchement, c'est à ne pas manquer !Bonne écoute et à dans deux semaines pour un tout nouvel épisode !Pour soutenir le podcast :https://fr.tipeee.com/cest-pas-toi-cest-moiMerci d'être là depuis le début ❤️Pour participer au podcast, envoyez vos témoignages sous la forme d'une présentation écrite + un audio sur ce mail : cestpastoi.temoignage@gmail.com•⁠ ⁠CONTACTE-MOI :Instagram :⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@leslye.granaud⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok :⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@dearleslye⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Un podcast animé et produit par Leslye Granaud et coproduit.Couverture illustrée par Mathou (@mathou_cdh)Hébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Father Robert Nixon, a Benedictine monk from New Norcia, Australia, joins the Son Rise Morning Show to continue exploring Thomas à Kempis’ Solitude and Silence: The Cloister of the Heart. This discussion focuses on a challenging lesson for the spiritual life: learning to restrain ourselves even from things that are perfectly lawful and harmless. Father Nixon explains how practicing restraint in small things—what we eat, what we say, and even when we choose to remain silent—helps develop the self-mastery needed to resist what is genuinely harmful. They also reflect on Proverbs 17:28 and the surprising wisdom of silence: sometimes the best response is simply to listen, rather than feel compelled to speak.Support the show: https://www.sacredheartradio.com/donate-now/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Marlon and Jake explore the power of setting in novels—and why the best stories feel like they couldn't have happened anywhere else. They discuss settings that become characters in their own right, fictional worlds they'd love (or absolutely hate) to inhabit, and books that made unexpected places fascinating. Plus: why a modern-day Captain Nemo might just be a tech bro. Amerika by Franz Kafka Treasure Island by Robert Louis Stevenson Mutiny on the Bounty by Charles Nordhoff and James Norman Hall Moby-Dick by Herman Melville Master and Commander by Patrick O'Brian Robinson Crusoe by Daniel Defoe The Long Ships by Frans G. Bengtsson The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson Masters of Atlantis by Charles Portis Wise Blood by Flannery O'Connor The Last of the Mohicans by James Fenimore Cooper Steppenwolf by Hermann Hesse Gormenghast trilogy by Mervyn Peake Dubliners by James Joyce The Ballad of the Sad Café by Carson McCullers Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy by John le Carré Journey to the Center of the Earth by Jules Verne Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea by Jules Verne The Bridge of San Luis Rey by Thornton Wilder One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler by E. L. Konigsburg The Merry Adventures of Robin Hood by Howard Pyle The Swiss Family Robinson by Johann David Wyss My Life in the Bush of Ghosts by Amos Tutuola The Lord of the Rings by J. R. R. Tolkien Ragtime by E. L. Doctorow A Room with a View by E. M. Forster Macbeth by William Shakespeare Dune by Frank Herbert The Last Man by Mary Shelley Little House in the Big Woods by Laura Ingalls Wilder

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Susanna Clarke's "Piranesi" has held popularity for a few years now and has been dubbed a "modern classic." What makes it classic? Readers wander "The House" with lovable Piranesi while he figures out the meaning of his life and uncovers some life-changing secrets. All the while, it teaches lessons on life, loneliness, simplicity and change.

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Danseuse, courtisane et légende vivante, la Belle Otero a traversé son temps comme une héroïne de roman, avant de tout perdre, dans le silence et l'oubli.Franck Ferrand vous entraîne dans les coulisses éblouissantes de la vie de la célèbre danseuse et courtisane Otero, surnommée "La Belle Otero". De son enfance misérable en Espagne à son triomphe sur les scènes parisiennes, en passant par ses frasques et ses amours tourmentés, cet épisode retrace le destin hors-norme de cette femme devenue une véritable icône de la Belle Époque.

In this episode of Lead Culture, Jenni Catron shares what she learned during an extended summer break and why stepping back can be essential for sustainable leadership. She reflects on the tension between doing and being, the challenge of slowing down, and how time away revealed deeper questions about purpose, significance, and identity.Jenni opens with a reminder that culture does not take care of itself and that leaders must lead with intention. She then shares how her sabbatical included time with friends and family, reading, rest, and intentional disconnection from social media, email, and Slack. Even though the break was restful, it also surfaced a struggle many overachievers face: feeling significant only when they are productive.A major takeaway from the episode is that nothing magical happened on sabbatical — and that was the point. Instead of chasing big ideas or a new vision, Jenni focused on stillness, presence, and making space for what matters most. She describes how this time helped her recognize the importance of creative space, mental rest, and the right-brain work of meaning-making and reflection.Jenni also connects her personal experience to a broader cultural insight, referencing Arthur Brooks' research on how modern life often overvalues efficiency and problem-solving while undernourishing meaning, creativity, and human connection. She shares how this tension was made even more vivid in the wake of an EF3 tornado in her community, where people rallied together and reminded her that people are the point.Key TakeawaysHealthy leaders need rhythms that sustain them.Rest is productive when it creates space for meaning and clarity.Leaders often confuse being with doing.Creativity, stillness, and reflection are essential leadership practices.People should remain the priority, even in busy or crisis-filled seasons.Questions Jenni Asks LeadersWhat can you do that disrupts your rhythms and lowers your heart rate?How can you disconnect your doing from your being?Are you making space for quiet, creativity, and presence?What rhythms do you need to lead in a healthy, sustainable way?Resources MentionedInvitation to Solitude and Silence by Ruth Haley BartonThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerThe Sabbatical Journey by Alan BriggsThe Meaning of Life by Arthur BrooksJenni's book Clout: Discover and Unleash Your God-given InfluenceClosing EncouragementJenni ends by encouraging leaders to protect the rhythms that keep them healthy, purposeful, and present — not only for their own well-being, but for the health of their teams and cultures. To connect with Jenni, email jennicatron@get4sight.com.We need your help to get the LeadCulture podcasts in front of more leaders! There are three simple things you can do that truly help us:Review us on Apple podcasts Subscribe - we're available wherever you listen to podcasts.Share - let your friends know about the podcast by sharing your favorite episode on social media!

In this episode, host Elizabeth Pitman sits down with Andrew R. Jones to discuss his new book, Ten Treasures of Learning to Pray, the third and final installment in his trilogy built around Martin Luther's framework of oratio, meditatio, and tentatio. Andy walks through several of the treasures God deposits into our lives through prayer — from persistence and solitude to forgiveness — and shares the biblical prayer guides, like Hannah and Hagar, who have shaped his own life of faith.Episode Timestamps0:00 — Introduction & Welcoming Andy Jones Back1:15 — Andy's Feelings as the Trilogy Comes to a Close2:00 — Understanding Luther's Oratio, Meditatio, and Tentatio5:00 — What Sets Ten Treasures of Learning to Pray Apart7:00 — Why Prayer Is a Treasure9:00 — The Story of Andy's Grandfather and His Baseball Cards11:00 — The Treasure of Persistence14:00 — Solitude and Community as Paired Treasures17:00 — Forgiveness: A Treasure to Be Hoarded and Shared19:00 — Why We Can't Forgive Ourselves22:00 — Andy's Favorite Prayer Guides: Hannah and Hagar24:00 — How to Pray Using the Collect Format27:00 — A Prayer Practice to Try This Week29:00 — ClosingAbout the GuestAndrew R. Jones lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where he enjoys running, hiking, and adventuring with his wife, Stephanie. He has served the church in a variety of roles and locations, utilizing the gifts of speaking, teaching, and writing. As a curious author and parish pastor, he is known for conveying deep spiritual concepts in ways everyone can understand. You can find his weekly writings on his Substack, Bible Curious.Resources MentionedTen Treasures of Learning to Pray by Andrew R. Jones — cph.orgTen Lies Satan Loves to Tell by Andrew R. Jones - cph.orgTen Questions to Ask Every Time You Read the Bible - cph.orgConcordia Publishing HouseBringing you God's enduring Word in a changing world.

You'd think fear is what stops you from doing hard things. At 25, with zero rowing experience, Taryn Smith crossed the Atlantic alone. 3,000 miles, 46 days, and I learned that the fear was never the obstacle. It was the signal she was finally in the right place.In this episode, Dr. Gabrielle Lyon and Taryn Smith discuss:Why fear is a "metric of success," not a stop sign, and how to train yourself to move toward discomfort instead of away from itHow food becomes visible performance fuel when you're the only engine, and how to preserve muscle on limited calories using protein and daily amino acidsThe "long-term optimist, short-term realist" mindset that carries you through a slog with no end in sightThe post-achievement crash nobody warns you about, and why the low after a big win is predictableWhether or not you'll ever touch an oar, you'll walk away with a portable mental framework for facing anything you've been avoiding, and a clearer sense of who you are when no one's watching.Want ad-free episodes? Subscribe to Forever Strong Insider: https://bit.ly/4u5VSRe

There is a great mercy hidden within these unsettling sayings from the Evergetinos. The Desert Fathers do not speak to us about spiritual warfare in order to make us preoccupied with the devil. They speak about it so that we might become sober, humble, and utterly dependent upon Christ. This is one of the great blessings the Desert Fathers continue to offer the Church. They expose what ordinarily remains hidden. Modern man tends to imagine temptation almost exclusively in terms of dramatic moral choices. We think of sin as something obvious placed before the will: Will I do this or will I not? But the Fathers understood the human heart far more subtly. Long before the temptation becomes an obvious choice, something has often already begun moving within us: a thought entertained, an irritation indulged, a desire awakened, an image cherished, a conversation replayed, praise secretly enjoyed, an injury remembered, a judgment formed, prayer postponed. The enemy rarely begins by asking us to renounce God. He asks only that we become slightly inattentive. And so Abba Simon gives us one of the most important sentences in tonight's reading: “Keep watch inside your cell, and keep watch outside it.” The brother cannot understand why he leaves his cell, becomes caught up in the distraction of others, laughs when they laugh, talks when they talk, and then discovers upon returning that the peace he formerly possessed has disappeared. He wants to move between recollection and distraction without consequence. Abba Simon tells him gently but firmly: That is impossible. The heart carries within itself what it consents to. This is why nepsis—watchfulness—is so central to the spirituality of the desert. The Fathers discovered that the cell is not merely a physical room. Ultimately, the cell is the heart. We must learn to inhabit it wherever we are. Solitude without vigilance will not save us, nor will activity necessarily destroy us. What matters is whether the heart remains awake before God. The modern elders say the same. St. Porphyrios continually warned against becoming fascinated with darkness. We do not overcome darkness by staring at it. We turn toward Christ. St. Paisios likewise spoke with great realism about the suggestions of the enemy, yet his emphasis was always upon humility and trust in God. St. Silouan and St. Sophrony understood perhaps most deeply that spiritual warfare is finally a battle over where the heart will abide: in itself or in Christ. This is precisely why these passages must never be read merely intellectually. We can study the taxonomy of temptation and still remain utterly blind to ourselves. Indeed, that may itself become another temptation. The moment I read these sayings and begin identifying the passions of other people, I have already missed their purpose. The proper response is much simpler: There but for the grace of God go I. “Satan Is Not Dead” Perhaps the most sobering saying tonight is the Elder's response to the man who declares, “I am dead to the world.” “You may say that you are dead, but Satan is not dead.” What extraordinary spiritual realism. The Fathers distrust premature declarations about ourselves. I have conquered this passion. I am beyond that temptation. This no longer affects me. I have reached dispassion. I understand myself now. No. The desert teaches us never to presume upon yesterday's victory. This is not because the Fathers are pessimistic about grace. Quite the opposite. They are so convinced of the power of grace that they refuse to confuse grace with human self-confidence. A man who knows his weakness can be extraordinarily strong because he clings to Christ. A man convinced of his strength is already standing dangerously alone. This is why the account of the dying monk is so striking. Satan says, “You have eluded me,” and even then the Elder replies: “I do not yet know whether I have eluded you.” There is no spiritual swagger here. No confidence in accomplishments. No inventory of virtues. Only vigilance until the final breath. The Trembling of Agathon Then comes Abba Agathon. He has spent his life seeking God. Yet as death approaches and the brothers ask whether he is confident that his deeds have been pleasing to God, he answers: “God's judgment is one thing, man's another.” This is not neurotic scrupulosity. It is humility purified of illusion. Agathon knows something we continually forget: we cannot finally stand outside ourselves and judge our own souls. Even our virtues may contain admixtures we cannot perceive. Generosity may conceal a hunger to be needed. Zeal may conceal anger. Orthodoxy may conceal pride. Asceticism may conceal self-reliance. Service may conceal the desire for recognition. Even repentance itself can become subtly self-absorbed. Therefore Agathon places himself entirely before God. And notice how the story ends. He dies in joy. This is crucial. The humility of the Desert Fathers does not lead to despair. It leads to freedom. Agathon has nothing left to defend. Nothing to prove. Nothing to claim for himself. He places everything into the hands of God and ascends “as one who greets his friends and loved ones.” True humility ends in joy because it has surrendered the impossible burden of saving itself. The Vessels of the Enemy The extraordinary vision of Abba Makarios brings all of this together. The devil appears covered with vessels containing different means of temptation. One attacks prayer with drowsiness. Another Scripture with physical discomfort. Another obedience. Another chastity. Another speech. Another appetite. Another humility through pride. Another virtue through vainglory. Another remembrance of eternity through forgetfulness. The image may seem strange to us, but its psychological and spiritual insight is profound. The enemy studies where we are vulnerable. He does not tempt everyone identically. And more importantly, he frequently attacks us precisely where we are seeking God. When we pray, suddenly we become tired. When we seek silence, a hundred apparently urgent thoughts arise. When we begin fasting, food occupies our imagination. When we perform some good work, we begin wondering whether anyone noticed. When God gives us spiritual insight, we subtly begin thinking ourselves spiritually insightful. When we experience grace, we may begin secretly believing that the grace belongs to us. Even virtue can become the material of temptation. This is why Makarios sees vessels around the devil's neck filled with pride and human glory. The enemy does not care whether he captures us through obvious vice or apparent virtue. He cares only that the gaze of the heart moves away from Christ and returns to itself. And perhaps the most frightening vessel is the one containing forgetfulness. The enemy makes “the memory of these things disappear.” Forgetfulness is not simply poor memory. In the language of the Fathers, it is an existential forgetfulness of God. We forget who we are. We forget whose we are. We forget death. We forget judgment. We forget mercy. We forget the Kingdom. We forget the presence of Christ. And once remembrance disappears, almost anything can enter. This is why the Jesus Prayer is so powerful. “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me.” It is remembrance restored. The Name gathers the scattered heart. The Name interrupts the conversation with the logismoi. The Name returns us to Presence. Sitting With the Fathers This is why we need to journey with the Desert Fathers rather than merely read them. Their sayings are not curiosities from an exotic period of Christian history. They are maps of the human heart. We should read them slowly enough that they begin reading us. Where am I inattentive? Where have I become confident in myself? What thought do I repeatedly entertain? Where do I seek human approval? What happens to my heart after certain conversations? What destroys my recollection? What makes prayer difficult? Where has forgetfulness entered? And above all: Where am I relying upon myself rather than Christ? These questions should not produce anxiety. They should produce humility. The Desert Fathers were not obsessed with demons. They were captivated by God. Precisely because they desired God so intensely, they learned to recognize everything that sought to draw the heart away from Him. And they knew they did not fight alone. We live within the communion of the Church. The angels surround us. The saints intercede for us. The Mother of God shelters us. The prayers of the Church carry us. Our guardian angel accompanies us. And the Name of Jesus is placed upon our lips. The evil one may indeed be relentless. But he is not sovereign. Christ is. Makarios can interrogate the devil precisely because Christ has already conquered him. The powers of darkness are exposed because the Light has come into the world. And so vigilance is not fearfully watching for Satan behind every movement of life. Vigilance is keeping the heart turned toward Christ. The safest person spiritually is therefore not the one who thinks, I would never fall into that. It is the one who whispers: Lord, without You I could fall into anything. Keep me. Guard my heart. Give me remembrance of You. Send Your holy angels to protect me. Through the prayers of Your saints, preserve me from deception. And then we understand why we must keep returning to the desert. The Fathers know the terrain. They have watched thoughts arise and disappear. They have suffered temptation. They have fallen and risen. They have learned the terrible danger of self-confidence and the astonishing strength hidden in humility. They take us by the hand and teach us to watch. Inside the cell. Outside the cell. Until our final breath. Not because we are terrified of the darkness, but because we have discovered something infinitely more beautiful that we do not wish to lose sight of: the face of Christ. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:08:04 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Volume 3 page 54 number 3 00:56:55 James Hickman: In the past year or so, certain Catholic exorcists have come under attack for describing a bit of their healing ministry. For instance, some attack the priests for revealing that the devil has told them x, y, or z. The attackers, who only seem to attack the priests behind their backs, say that the priests are either lying or that they've been misled by the devil, for the demons can't be trusted. I trust these priests, and here Abba Macarius is just one more witness to the power of the Church to compel the demons, if it be God's holy will, to share what otherwise we wouldn't know. I suppose I'm sharing this hoping more of us will pray for these exorcists and for priests in general. Abba Macarius, pray for us! 01:04:00 Forrest: The appearance of the Devil in this story reminds me of an earlier hypothesis where a great saint laughed at a group of demons struggling to lift a single feather.  How hard it was for them! Here the Prince of Demons wears many vessels with feathers attached. 01:04:25 Adam Paige: The 35 Doctors of the Church: Revised Edition by Rev. Christopher Rengers, O.F.M. Cap 01:18:27 Rebecca Thérèse: Uriah the Hittite 01:20:25 Julie: Thank you

In a week where:Nine killed at Thai school by 14-year-old who first shot his grandparents, then himself.Scientists have used AI to design new viruses that don't occur in nature and can infect bacteria.Saudi Arabia, Turkey and Pakistan sign mutual defense pact.Spain and Italy impose reciprocal border controls in Schengen dispute over Ceuta migration crisis.Benjamin Netanyahu rejects 15-point Gaza plan backed by Donald Trump and accepted by Hamas.In Politics: (12:59) In Togo, Political violence is rife after multiple orgs classed their leadership undemocratic. Torturing, harassment & constant fear paint people that dare to speak up. (Article By Hannah Uguru)In Tech: (24:11) Nothing is sacred in the eyes of AI companies. In efforts to keep their models fresh, they have taken old books, scanned them and then burning them from existence. Nasty work... (Article By Chris Stokel-Walker) In Education: (39:03) For the past few weeks, right-wing media have been foaming at the mouth over academic Jason Arday & his suspect background. But once again, they seem to think one hire that should've been vetted better means that no people of colour should get high roles in academia. (Article By Jason Okundaye) Lastly, in Life: (55:06) Solitude in day-to-day life is not always bad in a world where we're always told to touch grass. Women on socials are gassing up being alone and people are relating to it. (Article By Yang Tian) Thank you for listening! If you want to contribute to the show, whether it be sending me questions or voicing your opinion in any way, peep the contact links below and I'll respond accordingly. Let me know "What's Good?"Rate & ReviewE-Mail: the5thelelmentpub@gmail.comTwitter & IG: @The5thElementUKWebsite: https://the5thelement.co.ukPhotography: https://www.crt.photographyIntro Music - "Too Much" By VanillaInterlude - "Charismatic" By NappyHighChillHop MusicOther Podcasts Under The 5EPN:Diggin' In The Digits5EPN RadioBlack Women Watch...In Search of SauceThe Beauty Of Independence

Michael and Ethan discuss The Seven Strings of the Lyre, by George Sand (also known as A Woman's Version of the Faust Legend), while drinking Craigellachie 13yo Speyside Single Malt..In this episode:Strong start claiming to do a chiasmus but APPARENTLY, ACTUALLY doing an Antimetabole.A lot of sports talk from two guys who know nothing about sportsInappropriately asserted man mid-life crises; unenthusiastic Masters thesesWe gotta talk about the lyre, and the seven strings thereofAlastor; or, the Spirit of Solitude, by Percy Bysshe Shelley (in case you also couldn't/can't help yourself)The Divided Soul, by Heidi White (it's literary criticism, but also life criticism)Worry about what the Capital T “Truth“ isWe do finally talk about the Lyre and its stringsMan has to bottom out somewhereShakespeare references Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade and Sand references ShakespeareRockstar gnosticismNext time Michael and Ethan will discuss two comics: Justice Leage of America #10, by Gardner Fox, and Captain America #107, by Stan Lee and Jack Kirby! Join the discussion! Go to the Contact page and put "Scotch Talk" in the Subject line. We'd love to hear from you! And submit your homework at the Michael & Ethan in a Room with Scotch page. Join us on GoodReads!Get on our Substack!Donate to our Patreon! MUSIC & SFX: "Kessy Swings Endless - (ID 349)" by Lobo Loco. Used by permission. "The Grim Reaper - II Presto" by Aitua. Used under an Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike License. "Thinking It Over" by Lee Rosevere. Used under an Attribution License.(Links to books & products are affiliate links.)

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There is a temptation in every generation to believe that the spiritual life consists primarily in learning new methods, acquiring hidden knowledge, or discovering techniques that promise quick access to God. St. Isaac the Syrian gently dismantles this illusion. When he speaks of the deeper forms of prayer, he deliberately refuses to satisfy our curiosity. It is a remarkable act of humility. He knows that the mysteries of prayer cannot be communicated as information because they are received only as a gift. They belong not to those who seek extraordinary experiences but to those who have quietly consented to be transformed through long obedience. This restraint reveals something profoundly important. The deepest prayer is never mastered. It is given. One does not arrive there through spiritual cleverness but by allowing grace to accomplish its hidden work over time. “Sit in your cell,” the ancient saying declares, “and your cell will teach you everything.” The cell becomes the place where the restless search for novelty dies, where the heart gradually ceases to seek explanations and begins instead to seek only Christ Himself. For Isaac, stillness is therefore not an escape from the world but the creation of an interior space where the face of Christ can finally be seen without distortion. This is why he speaks so forcefully about abstention from many concerns. The problem is not simply that busyness consumes our time. Far more dangerously, it fragments our attention. It scatters the heart among a thousand anxieties until it loses the capacity to remain before the Lord with loving simplicity. How striking that Isaac does not first speak about outward activity but about the inability to remain “directly before the face of God.” The Christian life begins here. Before there is ministry, teaching, writing, service, or even ascetic labor, there is the gaze of love. The Father turns His face toward us in His Son, and little by little we learn to return that gaze. Prayer is not first our speaking to God but our remaining before Him long enough for His presence to heal what has been wounded within us. This changes the whole character of spiritual struggle. We often imagine that holiness is achieved by greater effort, tighter control, or stricter discipline. Certainly there is ascetic labor, and Isaac never minimizes it. Yet its purpose is not self-perfection. It is to remove whatever prevents us from remaining peacefully before Christ. The battle is not ultimately against activity itself but against everything that steals our attention from the One who alone can heal the heart. Only in such stillness do we begin to notice the subtle movements of the soul. Isaac says that the monk learns to distinguish “what enters into and what comes out” of him. Here we discover the extraordinary psychological and spiritual depth of the desert tradition. Before modern psychology attempted to map the interior world, the Desert Fathers had already entered its hidden landscape. They understood that thoughts, desires, fears, fantasies, and memories continually seek entrance into the heart. Unless one lives before the face of Christ, these movements remain confused and unexamined. But in the light of His countenance they become discernible. His gaze exposes nothing in order to condemn; it reveals everything in order to heal. This is why the entire ascetical life must remain Christ-centered. Stillness divorced from Christ easily becomes isolation. Silence without Christ becomes emptiness. Solitude without Christ can become merely another form of self-absorption. But when every moment of silence is filled with the awareness of His presence, stillness becomes communion. The heart is no longer occupied with itself but quietly captivated by the beauty of the Lord. Here, I believe, we begin to understand what I have called throughout these writings desire and wonder. As the heart becomes less driven by endless concerns, it does not become emotionally barren. Quite the opposite. It awakens. Desire is purified because it is no longer dispersed among countless lesser loves but gathered into a single longing for Christ. Wonder returns because His presence is never exhausted. Every moment before Him becomes fresh. Every prayer becomes an invitation into a mystery that can never be possessed, only received. Perhaps this is the hidden fruit of Isaac's refusal to explain the higher forms of prayer. He wishes to protect us from seeking experiences rather than seeking Christ. For if we truly stand before His face day after day, if we patiently guard the heart, if we willingly relinquish the tyranny of unnecessary concerns, then prayer itself will teach us. Not because we have become experts, but because Love Himself has become our teacher. In the end, the goal is beautifully simple. To become men and women whose hearts are no longer scattered but wholly gathered before the Face that has always been turned toward us. And in that Face we discover that every true desire finds its fulfillment, every fear loses its power, and wonder becomes the atmosphere in which the soul learns to live. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:04:23 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 218 mid paragraph 4 00:07:02 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: https://www.philokaliaministries.org/post/the-name-above-every-name 00:07:22 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 218 mid paragraph 4 00:10:21 Linda Frasier: may I share the link with a friend? 00:10:31 Janine: Father…whatever happened to the gentleman from New Zealand who used to join? 00:10:35 Linda Frasier: thx 00:11:03 Janine: His dad wasn't well 00:11:12 Janine: Yes I was wondering 00:11:53 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: https://www.philokaliaministries.org/post/the-name-above-every-name 00:12:39 Linda Frasier: already ordered Monastic Heart—arriving Monday!! 00:14:14 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: https://www.philokaliaministries.org/post/the-name-above-every-name 00:15:37 Janine: The baby has joined! 00:27:32 Bob Čihák, AZ: P 218, paragraph 5, bottom of page 00:37:26 Kate: Footnote 1 on page 219 is quite convicting! 00:40:13 Adam Paige: Tis the gift to be simple, 'tis the gift to be free'Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be, And when we find ourselves in the place just right, 'Twill be in the valley of love and delight. When true simplicity is gained, To bow and to bend we shan't be ashamed, To turn, turn will be our delight, Till by turning, turning we come 'round right. 00:58:25 Bob Čihák, AZ: Re: story of Martha and Mary taking the “better path”: Christ doesn't specify what that better path might be. Many, including St. Augustine, say that it's the path of contemplation. I think it could be that “the better path” is the path for that person fulfilling the will of God, in that place, at that time. We all have different immediate paths to take, at different times. Obviously, Martha earned Christ's gentle rebuke which to me suggests that she should consider that her role at that time and place might be providing hospitality. 01:06:19 Nancy Pagan: Why if we can learn by ourselves some desert fathers insist in having a staret?I I really believe we can but I should not trust myself that way? 01:06:27 Nancy Pagan: Sorry 01:07:22 Lee Graham: “Without  distractions the devil has no means of entering the soul” the footnote #1 01:13:29 Art: I gain a lot of peace of heart and mind from the Benedictine motto “to work is to pray”.  I've also seen “Prayer is my work”. Work is my prayer”.  It helps me accept whatever it is I need to do 01:13:42 David Swiderski: In loving one another's God is us is made flesh. Simple not complicates but I have this written on my bedroom door because I forget and it has guided me for years. I rise and remember to be simple and the goal clear in the day. I think less words help the most as my grandfather left with me as a high school education tut taught me more than Aquinas or any spiritual father. As my mother said love few and profoundly. As I age I find all the answers where at my hands but I got lost at some times in my life. 01:13:53 James Hickman: Father, is there any distinction between unadulterated entertainment vs perhaps a cultural experience by watching a series or movie not too different from sitting down to read a novel or go to a play performed live? It might be an opportunity for leisure. I think of PBS Masterpiece where I can watch a high quality production of Les Miserables or The Count of Monte Cristo and ponder mysteries of forgiveness or the vices in my life. Certainly I'm not saying this is of greater value than spending two hours in stillness. I'm maybe admitting my weakness here, but I do wonder: is there a place for this in my life? Are there any good distractions? In moderation? 01:17:58 David Swiderski: Amen seeking beauty and what is good shapes our lives and our goals. 01:18:47 James Hickman: I breathe a sigh of relief

We're often told that the key to happiness is building stronger relationships and a bigger community. While meaningful connection is essential, what if a fulfilling life doesn't require an overflowing social calendar? In this episode, I explore the benefits of solitude, why some people genuinely thrive with more time alone, and how finding the right balance between connection and solitude—not simply more relationships—may be the real secret to lasting well-being. * Explore the Alignment Journal—24 reflective prompts designed to help you reconnect with yourself, gain clarity, and live with greater intention. Learn more: https://selineshenoy.com/alignment-journal

Cette semaine, je suis avec Jérémie Delessert qui est berger au chalet de la Moille Vieille près de Semsales dans les Préalpes fribourgeoises. Ce chalet qui accueille  autour de 85 genisses, se trouve sur le sentier des armaillis, (c'est ainsi qu'on appelle ici les bergers), à 1230 m d'altitude. C'est là, dans la cuisine de son chalet, que je me suis assis avec Jérémie. Et dans le fil de notre conversation, il m'a parlé de sa solitude choisie, de cette liberté si particulière qu'offre la montagne, de ses 85 bêtes qu'il connaît chacune, mais aussi de ces rituels qui rythment sa vie de berger : la poya, la montée des troupeaux vers les alpages au printemps, et la désalpe, leur retour dans la vallée lorsque l'automne s'installe. Et même si ces traditions saisonnières sont la mémoire d'un territoire et d'un métier, elles rappellent aussi que tout est changeant, et que c'est peut-être dans cette impermanence que réside le véritable équilibre. Comment être heureux en solitaire ?   C'est la question de la semaine.

Fluent Fiction - Hungarian: Midnight Reflections: Bridging Solitude in Budapest's Library Find the full episode transcript, vocabulary words, and more:fluentfiction.com/hu/episode/2026-08-07-22-34-01-hu Story Transcript:Hu: A nyári nap lassan lenyugodott Budapest felett, a széles egyetemi park fölött aranyló fénybe vonva mindent.En: The summer sun slowly set over Budapest, casting a golden glow over the wide university park.Hu: Az egyetemi könyvtár már szinte elnéptelenedett.En: The university library was almost deserted.Hu: A magas ablakokon keresztül csak az esti nap utolsó fényei táncoltak be az épületbe.En: Through the high windows, only the last rays of the evening sun danced into the building.Hu: A falakat könyvek sora borította.En: The walls were lined with rows of books.Hu: A levegőben csak a klíma halkan duruzsoló hangja hallatszott.En: In the air, one could only hear the gentle hum of the air conditioning.Hu: Bence csendben ült az egyik asztalnál, egy vaskos mérnöki könyv fölött görnyedve.En: Bence sat quietly at one of the tables, hunched over a hefty engineering book.Hu: Nagy célja volt: megőrizni az ösztöndíját, és biztosítani a jövőjét az építészet világában.En: He had a big goal: to maintain his scholarship and secure his future in the world of architecture.Hu: Egyedül érezte magát a teremben, a magány pedig észrevétlenül nőtte körül.En: He felt alone in the room, and the solitude grew around him unnoticed.Hu: Néha megkérdőjelezte saját képességeit.En: Sometimes he questioned his own abilities.Hu: Vajon elég lesz-e, amire képes?En: Would it be enough, what he was capable of?Hu: Dóra közben a könyvtár egy másik sarkában próbált koncentrálni.En: Meanwhile, Dóra tried to concentrate in another corner of the library.Hu: Bármennyire is vidámnak és magabiztosnak mutatta magát, belülről küzdött a családja elvárásainak terhével.En: No matter how cheerful and confident she seemed, inside she struggled with the burden of her family's expectations.Hu: Mindig a legjobbat vártak tőle.En: They always expected the best from her.Hu: Hogyan tudja megmutatni, hogy az, amit elért, saját erejéből sikerült?En: How could she show that what she achieved was through her own strength?Hu: Az este előrehaladtával Bence észrevette, hogy Dóra közeledik.En: As the evening progressed, Bence noticed Dóra approaching.Hu: A lány mosolyogva ült le hozzá.En: The girl sat down next to him with a smile.Hu: "Bence, maradjunk együtt. Egyedül nem megy..." mondta halk hangon, amiben ott bujkált a félelem.En: "Bence, let's stay together. Alone, it doesn't work..." she said softly, fear lurking in her voice.Hu: Az introvertált fiú nem volt hozzászokva a társasághoz, de valamiért örült Dóra jelenlétének.En: The introverted boy was not used to company, but for some reason, he was glad for Dóra's presence.Hu: Ahogy az óra mutatói közeledtek az éjfélhez, egyre nyilvánvalóbbá vált, hogy szükségük van némi pihenésre is.En: As the clock hands approached midnight, it became increasingly clear that they needed some rest as well.Hu: Az este csendja felemésztette körülöttük a gondolatok zaját.En: The silence of the evening devoured the noise of thoughts around them.Hu: "Már nem sokáig tarthatjuk fenn ezt a tempót," suttogta Bence.En: "We can't keep up this pace for much longer," Bence whispered.Hu: Dóra bólintott.En: Dóra nodded.Hu: "Tartsunk egy kis szünetet, menjünk ki egyet sétálni a parkba!"En: "Let's take a little break, let's go for a walk in the park!"Hu: Kéz a kézben hagyták el a könyvtárt, a nehéz könyvek békében pihentek mögöttük.En: Hand in hand, they left the library, the heavy books resting in peace behind them.Hu: Kint az éjszakai levegő felfrissítette őket.En: Outside, the night air refreshed them.Hu: Bence megtanulta, hogy nem csak a saját erejére támaszkodhat, hanem mások segítségére is.En: Bence learned that he could not only rely on his own strength but also on the help of others.Hu: Dóra pedig végre érezte, hogy megérdemli azt a magabiztosságot, amit mások mindig látni véltek benne.En: And Dóra finally felt that she deserved the confidence that others always seemed to see in her.Hu: A parkban járkálva megbeszélték, hogyan fogják együtt az utolsó héten támogatni egymást.En: As they strolled through the park, they discussed how they would support each other during the last week.Hu: A hosszú éjszaka után a hajnal új lehetőségeket hozott.En: After the long night, dawn brought new opportunities.Hu: Már nem voltak egyedül, és tudták, hogy együtt szembeszállhatnak bármilyen kihívással.En: They were no longer alone and knew that together they could face any challenge.Hu: Így tértek vissza az egyetem falai közé, ahol a jövő fényében másnap újra találkoznak.En: Thus, they returned within the university walls, where, in the light of the future, they would meet again the next day. Vocabulary Words:solitude: magányhunched: görnyedvehefty: vaskosscholarship: ösztöndíjmaintain: megőrizniexpectations: elvárásokburden: teherconfident: magabiztoscheerful: vidámlurking: bujkáltintroverted: introvertáltdeserted: elnéptelenedettapproached: közeledtekclock hands: óra mutatóipace: tempóstrolled: járkálvasecured: biztosítaniconfines: falaiglow: aranyló fénydance: táncoltaklined: borítottaair conditioning: klímagentle hum: halkan duruzsoló hangfear: félelemdawn: hajnalchallenge: kihívásopportunities: lehetőségekconfidence: magabiztosságsecure: biztosítaniprogressed: előrehaladtával

Solitude is the spiritual discipline of stepping away from noise and distraction so we can honestly recognize what is happening within us and bring it before Jesus. By regularly embracing quiet and stillness, we allow God's truth to correct, heal, and lead us into a life shaped more by peace than anxiety.

Join Pastor Candy Christmas from Regeneration Nashville as she delves into 'The Dark Night of the Soul.' Drawing from Psalm 139, Pastor Candy offers encouragement and insights on finding God's presence in times of darkness and solitude. This spiritual discussion emphasizes the transformative power of such periods and how they can lead to deeper intimacy with God. Discover stories of faith and perseverance through biblical references and personal anecdotes, providing hope and reassurance for those experiencing their own night seasons.

Fluent Fiction - Hungarian: From Solitude to Connection: A Day at Széchenyi Baths Find the full episode transcript, vocabulary words, and more:fluentfiction.com/hu/episode/2026-08-05-22-34-02-hu Story Transcript:Hu: A napsugarak aranyszínű tükröt festettek a Széchenyi Gyógyfürdő vizére.En: The sunbeams painted a golden mirror on the waters of the Széchenyi Gyógyfürdő.Hu: Budapest nyüzsgő szíve, ahol a múlt és a jelen találkozik.En: Budapest's bustling heart, where the past and present meet.Hu: A neoklasszikus épületek magasodtak az emberek feje fölött, miközben a meleg termálvíz felett ködös pára lebegve keringett.En: The neoclassical buildings towered over the people's heads as a hazy mist drifted over the warm thermal water.Hu: Az emberek nevetése és beszélgetése beleolvadó dallamként hullámzott a fürdő langyos vizében.En: The laughter and conversations of people flowed like a harmonious melody through the bath's lukewarm waters.Hu: Áron, egy csendes iskolai tanár, a nyári szabadságát töltötte a fürdőben, menedéket keresve a mindennapok monotonitása elől.En: Áron, a quiet schoolteacher, was spending his summer holiday at the baths, seeking refuge from the monotony of everyday life.Hu: A kezében könyvet tartott, de inkább a körülötte zajló eseményeket figyelte.En: He held a book in his hand but was more interested in observing the events happening around him.Hu: Gondolataiban elmerülve azon töprengett, vajon van-e valaki, akivel igazán megoszthatná érzéseit és gondolatait.En: He pondered deeply, wondering if there was someone with whom he could truly share his feelings and thoughts.Hu: A nap egyik kellemes pillanata azonban meglepetést tartogatott számára.En: However, one pleasant moment of the day held a surprise for him.Hu: Eszter, közös barátjuk, jött mosolyogva mellé.En: Eszter, their mutual friend, came over smiling beside him.Hu: "Áron, szeretném bemutatni neked Katát," mondta Eszter vidáman.En: "Áron, I'd like to introduce you to Kata," said Eszter cheerfully.Hu: Kata, egy vidám művészlélek, épp festői inspirációt keresett az élettel teli helyszínen.En: Kata, an exuberant artistic soul, was looking for artistic inspiration in the lively surroundings.Hu: Áron hezitált.En: Áron hesitated.Hu: Idegen volt számára a nyitottság, de Eszter bátorító mosolya és Kata barátságos pillantása eloszlatták a kétségeit.En: Openness was foreign to him, but Eszter's encouraging smile and Kata's friendly glance dispelled his doubts.Hu: "Szervusz, Kata," mondta végül, összeszedve a bátorságát.En: "Hello, Kata," he finally said, gathering his courage.Hu: "Szervusz, Áron," válaszolta Kata, miközben beleereszkedett a forró vízbe Áron mellett.En: "Hello, Áron," responded Kata, as she settled into the hot water beside Áron.Hu: A hő és a víz megnyugtatta mindkettőjüket.En: The heat and the water soothed them both.Hu: Kezdetben a beszélgetés csak apró hullámokat vert, de hamarosan sodró áradtá változott, ahogy közös érdeklődési körük bukkant a felszínre.En: Initially, the conversation caused only small ripples, but soon it turned into a flowing current as their shared interests surfaced.Hu: Áron és Kata mélyen és elragadtatottan beszélgettek.En: Áron and Kata conversed deeply and passionately.Hu: Szavak nélkül is megértették egymást, egy közös hullámhosszra találtak a vidám cseppek között.En: They understood each other without words, finding a common wavelength among the cheerful splashes.Hu: Áron ráérzett, milyen felszabadító érzés megnyílni és olyasvalakit találni, akivel megoszthatja a gondolatait.En: Áron realized the liberating feeling of opening up and finding someone with whom he could share his thoughts.Hu: Ahogy a nap később a horizont felé hajolt, Kata és Áron egy meghitt mosollyal váltak el.En: As the sun leaned later toward the horizon, Kata and Áron parted with a warm smile.Hu: "Találkozunk újra?En: "Will we meet again?"Hu: " kérdezte Kata sejtelmesen.En: Kata asked teasingly.Hu: Áron örömmel bólintott, a magány érzését maga mögött hagyva.En: Áron nodded with delight, leaving the feeling of loneliness behind.Hu: Érezte, hogy valami új és értékes kezdődött el ezen a különleges napon.En: He felt that something new and valuable had begun on this special day.Hu: Ahogy elhagyta a fürdőt, Áron nem csak fizikailag, hanem lelkileg is könnyednek érezte magát.En: As he left the bath, Áron felt light not only physically but also mentally.Hu: Megnyílt a lehetőségek előtt, magabiztosabb és reményteljes volt.En: He opened up to possibilities, feeling more confident and hopeful.Hu: A nap, ami egyszerűnek indult, egy új élmény kapujává vált.En: The day that started simply became the gateway to a new experience.Hu: A Széchenyi Gyógyfürdő vizében talált barátság új, kalandokkal teli ösvényeket nyitott meg számára.En: The friendship he found in the waters of the Széchenyi Gyógyfürdő opened new, adventure-filled paths for him. Vocabulary Words:sunbeams: napsugarakgolden: aranyszínűmirror: tükrötthermal: termálvízhazy: ködösmist: páralukewarm: langyosmonotony: monotonitásapondered: töprengettrefuge: menedéketexuberant: vidámhesitated: hezitáltopenness: nyitottságglance: pillantásadispelled: eloszlattáksoothed: megnyugtattaripples: hullámokatcurrent: áradtásurfaced: felszínreliberating: felszabadítóparted: váltak eldelight: örömmelloneliness: magánygateway: kapujáváadventure-filled: kalandokkal telipossibilities: lehetőségekconfident: magabiztosabbhorizon: horizontencouraging: bátorítómelody: dallamként

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Are you living in casual proximity to Jesus or are you reaching for Him with desperation? I know this sounds like a very deep question that I am asking, but I am so excited because it came from a book that we are going to discuss today: *A Story Worth Living by Amy Loflin. She highlights the story of the woman in the Bible who suffers 12 years of bleeding. I love that this woman reached for Jesus in desperation and that was Amy's challenge: Are we just living close to Jesus or are we reaching for Him? We are going to dive deep into this story today in a Bible Shoes style episode, and I cannot wait for you to hear the wisdom from Amy. Also, I am so excited for someone to win a copy of Amy's book, *A Story Worth Living. All the details of the book giveaway are on my website at jodisnowdon.com or you can click this direct link: https://kingsumo.com/g/107x7r3/a-story-worth-living-giveaway Other Bible Shoes Episodes on the Depth Podcast Depth Podcast Episode 161: Bible Shoes on Elijah Depth Podcast Episode 166: Bible Shoes on the Samaritan Woman by the Well Depth Podcast Episode170: Bible Shoes on Holy Week Depth Podcast Episode 179: Rahab- Cinched Depth Podcast Episode 238: Moses- How Do you Want to Be Remembered? Book Recommendations: *Invitation to Solitude and Silence by Ruth Haley Barton *Jesus: A Pilgrimage by James Martin Amy Loflin is a speaker, life coach, co-founder of Echo Joy Collective, and author of *A Story Worth Living. With a background in counseling and over a decade in church leadership, her work helps women move past fear, perfectionism, and self-doubt to embrace lives of confidence, clarity, and purpose. Known for her warmth, humor, and honesty, Amy connects with everyday women in powerful, relatable ways. Her passion is to equip women to walk in freedom—and remember that wholeness, purpose, and Jesus are always within reach. She would love for you to reach out to her on Instagram. *Note: If you are interested in purchasing this book or the books recommended, I would love for you to use the Amazon Affiliate link above to help support the podcast. Thank you!  

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3097: Marc Chernoff continues his relationship advice on embracing time alone. In part 2, he explores trusting your own decisions, experiencing life mindfully instead of numbing yourself with distraction, and why comfort in solitude makes you stronger in dating and love. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.marcandangel.com/2015/06/21/5-things-that-happen-when-you-embrace-being-alone/ Quotes to ponder: "Following your intuition means doing what feels right, even if it doesn't look or sound right to others." "every one of us is an addict, and what we are addicted to is avoiding ourselves" "many of us will go to great lengths to avoid the feeling of being alone in an undistracted environment" Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and family, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Episode Summary:In this message from the Fruit of the Spirit series, we look at patience through the words of Jesus in Matthew 11:28-30. Patience is not simply waiting on someone else; it is steadiness, endurance, and perseverance as we walk with Jesus. For anyone who feels tired, worn out, or burned out, Jesus offers a better rhythm: come to Him, rest with Him, learn from Him, and live freely and lightly. This episode invites us to recover spiritual patience by practicing solitude, Sabbath, simplicity, and a slower pace of life.Main Scripture:Matthew 11:28-30Mark 2:27Big Idea:Patience grows as we learn to live at Jesus' pace through solitude, Sabbath, simplicity, and slowing down.In This Episode:Patience is deeper than waiting; it is steadiness, endurance, and perseverance in the life God has given us.Jesus names a progression we often ignore: tired, worn out, and burned out.When we are tired, we need rest; when we are depleted, we need to be refilled.Solitude helps us hear God again when the noise of the world has become too loud.Sabbath teaches us that real rest is part of discipleship, not a distraction from it.Simplicity helps us trust what God has already placed in our hands instead of trying to carry what does not fit.Slowing down helps us stop missing what God is doing now because we are rushing toward what is next.Reflection Questions:Where have I reduced patience to simply waiting on others instead of learning steadiness with Jesus?Am I tired, worn out, or burned out? What signs have I been ignoring?What is one thing I may need to say “no” or “nope” to so I can live by what God has laid out for me?What noise is keeping me from hearing God clearly?When was the last time I simply sat with God and rested?Where am I trying to complete God's assignment with someone else's method?Where am I rushing so fast toward tomorrow that I am missing what God is doing today?Next Steps:Spend intentional time alone with God this week before letting the noise of the world speak first.Build real rest into your rhythm instead of waiting until you are depleted.Practice saying “no” to one thing that does not fit God's priorities for your life right now.Choose simplicity in one area of your schedule, ministry, or finances.Slow down enough to enjoy the ride and notice what God is doing now.Walk with Jesus in the unforced rhythms of grace, trusting that He will not place anything heavy or ill-fitting on you.Closing Line:Listen in, share this message with someone who needs rest, and subscribe to keep walking through the Fruit of the Spirit with us.

This playlist is 91% vinyl friendly. Near perfect. Philips, The Tina Century Bluetooth Turntable room.. A £350-£400 retro look to blend in with your wood panelling room, it reminds me of a car grill from the 1960s. Built-in speakers with deep (how low can you go) bass and crystal-clear highs. Any track marked * has been given either a tiny or a slightly larger 41 Rooms tweak/edit/chop and the occasional tune might sound a bit dodgy, quality-wise. On top of that, the switch between different decades and production values never helps in the mix here. Lyric of Playlist 154 Tim Hardin’s lyric and song title. 00.00 (Intro) THE FLAMINGOS – Stars (Edit) – Unreleased demo – 1983. Episode #1 for info. 00.41 NEW ORDER – Dreams Never End (John Peel session: 16.2.81) – The Peel Sessions 12″ EP – Strange Fruit – 1987 Diary for Jan 16, ’81 says ‘Karl W round. NEW ORDER JOHN PEEL…‘ Those caps signal something special and the journey had begun at Heaven, London a week earlier. Two good mates called Karl were there, though I hadn’t realised the one at my house listening to the first broadcast of the session was a Carl. 03.45 THE TEARDROP EXPLODES – Second Head – Kilimanjaro, LP – Mercury – 1980 Listening to this album now it’s got a bit of a bubbly and bouncy feel. Judging by a set list suggested for the Manchester Poly night’ that followed ours/mine it doesn’t look like Second Head made into our night here. Packed with Kilimanjaro tracks though. 06.55 TOM PETTY and THE HEARTBREAKERS – I Need To Know – 7″ – Shelter – 1978 Still with a fair amount of ‘rock’ in my world at this point in time, for some reason I thought I’d had a 12″ of this but that would have been a bit daft. At just 2mins 22 plus, a fiery new wave feel that could have made it as an Elvis Costello tune. 09.17 FORMAL SPPEEDWEAR – Who Needs Spain Ball – Punch Card, LP – Melodic – 2026 “Who Needs Spain Ball?”. ‘On the surface, the single functions as a highly accessible, synth-forward New Wave track featuring the record's biggest, most infectious pop chorus. However, the title and the song’s inner mechanics are intentionally surreal, designed to “pull the rug” out from under the listener‘. – Apologies, I forgot the source. An early Talking Heads vibe going on? They’re pulling the rug even more with their merch – with the band’s name the only lettering… album t-shirts! 12.28 BIG JOANIE – It’s You – Sistahs, LP – The Daydream Library Series – 2018 So post punk! 14.48 EGOSLAVIA – Twist Face – Self-titled, (mini) LP – 9 1/2 x 16″ Records – 1982 Not that many will have debated it but I’ve always pronounced this band as ‘Egoslayvia’ and it’s only just dawned on me it was likely ‘Egoslahvia’. Better late… and a band I was introduced to by a US guy who dropped in on John Peel’s radio show somewhere in the ’80s. Very unusual for Peely to have anyone else in the studio with him but his guest was picking tracks from three or so US bands that Peely had never heard of, something that irritated the latter, slightly. 20.08 BIFFER BONKER – 4 Prong, Fucked Up, 2 Potato Thing – Biffer Bonker Is…Unabashed, download album only – ? – 2026 Anyone with a decades long history of Bedford, UK’s musical landscape stretching back to punk bands of the mid to late 70s will have knowledge of Biffer in a former life or three fronting a wealth of different bands but his present world view is available here, with something from the man for me currently getting waylaid by various postal services. ‘No god is required… ‘ Ain’t that the truth and if there isn’t a lyric sheet involved somewhere I might be requesting one :), as he’ll be back here at some point. He’s also the man who introduced me to Click Click via an early demo tape of theirs somewhere around 1984. 23.17 BROKEN SPINDLES – To Die, For Death – Fulfilled / Complete, LP – Saddle Creek – 2004 Content with having spun Induction on an earlier show, and as it turns out, rightly guessing on the album’s diversity I hadn’t been rushing to grab the physical vinyl… but here we are! One Joel Peterson, from Omaha, Nebraska. 25.35 TARWATER – 20 Miles Up – Silur, LP – Kitty-Yo – 1986 From the US to Germany and there’s a far wider breadth to this duos ‘catalogue’ than the two tracks now spun on 41 Rooms would suggest. 29.35 RIPPLE – I Don’t Know What It Is But It Sure Is Funky – 7″ – GRC – 1973 I don’t know about I Don’t Know… but with no UK release it’s unlikely our mainstream radio of the time spun this, though maybe a DJ or two down the Pilgrims or in the Anglers (Inn) Lair across the road could have. I have strong memories of hearing Willie Henderson’s Dance Master at the latter. 32.53 MARY KENT – Lost Generation – 7″ – CBS – 1969 It’s a slower, darker take than the version the song’s writer, Jim(my) Webb put out himself a year later and though Mary’s intro needed red carding for the show her version has some gravitas and feels ‘worthier’ now than it may have done to the UK’s record buyers back in 1969… what with the Vietnam war being… yep, somewhere else. The intro brings to my mind Common Sense’s Resurrection ’95. 36.57 LADY BLACKBIRD vs CROOKED MAN – Whatever His Name (Pt 1) * – Crooked Spirituals Remixes, 12″ – Foundation – 2025 She’s rightly got her soul audience but I much prefer her vocals set against some electronic goings on, as with the already 41 Rooms’ spun Athletes Of God and some remixing bods, including here, Crooked Man. They seem to give her vocals more of an edge for me. 42.18 ROBERTO RODRIGUEZ (feat. MAX C) – About This Love (Crazy P Remix) (Dub) * – 12″ – Compost Black Label – 2009 The vocals are incidental but the track just keeps building, dropping, shifting. A head-nod-a-thon of slight unease. 45.42 CLICK CLICK – Stay Out Of The Water – 12″ b-side – Rorschach Testing – 1985 Great times in the summer and autumn of ’85. Our RT label is off and running with a party at Winkles (Bedford), a P(roduction) and D(istribution) deal with Rough Trade, 500 copies of the initial yellow and blue sleeved 12″ pressing head straight to the US off the back of A-side (Sweet Stuff) getting CC Single Of The Week in Sounds and with spins on John Peel’s radio show there are one-off gigs in London, Brighton and Northampton and rehearsals are sounding great. Gig poster for 28.11.84. Part of a Rorschach Testing ad, The Catalogue #29, Aug ’85. 49.24 SIMPLE MINDS – Premonition (John Peel session: 7.1.80) – Silver Box, 5CD – Virgin – 2004 Having already seen them on the OGWT (live from Hurrah’s New York) and live at the Marquee the previous month I must have heard this session but for whatever reason I definitely didn’t record it. A ropey photo below of mine from London’s Hammersmith Palais, 26.8.80. 54.28 THE FALL – Dktr. Faustus * – Bend Sinister, LP – Beggars Banquet – 1986 It’s about time Mark E Smith (RIP) and his gang made it back here… so they have. 00.01.00 ECHO and THE BUNNYMEN – I Bagsy Yours (John Peel session: 22.8.79) – The Peel Sessions 12″ EP – 1988 This show’s third Peel session track of the era and the song renamed Monkeys in time to nestle next to the track Crocodiles months later on their debut album. I’m with ‘Bagsy’, though. Even us southerners used the term back then, though it might be best to not remember how it was being used here. 01.02.47 THE MOVE – I Can Hear The Grass Grow – 7″ – Deram – 1967 ‘An early, proto-psychedelic freakbeat masterpiece‘ in some modern day circles but a fab bit of wild pop back then. As the years rolled on though, the ‘weedier’ (sadly) Roy Wood’s guitar interjections have sounded. 01.05.52 PETULA CLARK – The Other Man’s Grass (Is Always Greener) – 7″ – Pye – 1967 Husband and wife writers, Tony Hatch and Jackie Trent (or in this particular case, Jackie Trent and Tony Hatch :)), with their key and tempo changing swirler giving ‘Our Pet’ her last Top 20 hit. So idiosyncratic it never got covered by anyone else or maybe offered as an exclusive to Petula? Either way, I bet Trent (no mean singer herself) forwarded a guide vocal version and I’d have been interested in hearing that. And it’s taken me a week to realise I’ve placed two songs next to each with ‘Grass’ in the title. Very unintentional but spooky and true. 01.08.49 BROOKE COMBE – Tears Won’t Lie * – 7″ – Fontana – 2026 I reckon Northern soul’s younger followers will dance and some older purists will very likely pick at the production but Combe and co-writer, James Skelly have nailed it, and if this song had been recorded in the mid 1960s – and maybe on the label this 7″ now pays homage to (with say Kiki Dee?) – there’d be an even bigger price tag on it than this barely out of the 2026 pressing plant £18 7′ already commands. Also, all involved in the Combe camp will have been as meticulous on the look for the dancers in the video as was MT Jones for his I Don’t Understand. Paying homage can be tough stuff. 01.11.19 TERRY CALLIER – Ordinary Joe – 7″ – Cadet – 1972 Terry and producer, Charles Stepney with a ‘skipping along the road’ feel. An even more expensive buy than the above… and I have neither. 01.15.17 CHAIRMEN OF THE BOARD – Give Me Just A Little More Time – 7″ – Invictus – 1970 INV 501. Did Invictus kick off their UK releases with a homage to Tamla Motown’s UK singles catalogue. Five years earlier the latter had also started with (TMG) 501, via The Supremes’ Stop In The Name Of Love. 01.17.57 JACKIE WILSON – I Get The Sweetest Feeling – 7″ – Brunswick – 1968 1968 for Jackie but the mid ’70s for me. Putnoe, Bedford… sunshine… Gill H… 01.20.49 THE CONTROLLERS – Somebody’s Gotta Win, Somebody’s Gotta Loose (7″ version) – 7″ – Juana – 1977 I didn’t knowingly hear this til maybe twenty years ago. With the amount of music that bypasses us, is it possible I’ve never heard the greatest song I could ever hear? 01.24.42 UMBRA MOON – Don’t Let Me Down – Download only – 2024 This Australian girl is seemingly taking longer to break out than I would have imagined but though stylistically aside of my normal listening, this is a gem. 01.28.02 SHAWN PHILLIPS – Solitude – 7″ b-side – Columbia – 1965 With my copy bought for this side alone, there are few artists I’ve come across who have been both super jaunty and deeper than deep in the songwriting department and 41 Rooms can be with Shawn in both moods. 01.30.48 JOHN and BEVERLEY MARTYN – Primrose Hill – 7″ – Warner Brothers – 1970 In 1970 approximately 1% of the American population had a passport, so aside thinking (at best) Primrose Hill maybe had some Civil War battle reference for them they were going to struggle to warm to this London landmark being referenced, even though somebody at Warners US – as opposed to their UK counterpoints – thought this Carole King-like tune had legs as a single. Sadly, they were wrong, with the promo 7″ likely more common than the stock copy. 01.33.40 TIM HARDIN – You Upset The Grace Of Living When You Lie – 7″ promo only – Verve Forecast – 1967 Yep, lyric and title of show 154 goes to… though at 1min 45 it’s nearly over by the time he’s got through singing the line. A ragged, slightly altered take of the song was part of Hardin’s performance at Woodstock but his set only got to make it to an official release of the festival in 2019. 01.35.22 JOSE FELICIANO – Dirty Work – For My Love… Mother Music, LP – RCA – 1974 It’s likely I’d be outnumbered with my thinking here but Jose’s passion makes Steely Dan’s own recorded version, sung by their then main vocalist, David Palmer, sound lack lustre. 01.38.08 VANGELIS – He-O – Earth, LP – Vertigo – 1973 Back in Vangelis’ big years I only got around to wanting his 1976 single, Pulstar but then hearing the Beatfanatics Balearic Boogie Remix of Let It Happen in 2007 led me backwards to this album and it’s the vocals (of one Robert Fitoussi) on both tracks that seem to make the difference for me. 01.42.05 STEVIE WONDER – Pastime Paradise * – Songs In The Key Of Life, 2LP – Tamla Motown – 1976 I bought the album at the time but my youthful ignorance didn’t fully take in the scale of Stevie’s accomplishment and looking now at the full tracklisting there were only six tracks I regularly played, with Pastime Paradise being one of them. The American buyers who took Songs… to No 1 in the Billboard album charts will have delved deeper. 01.45.21 KOICHI OZAKI – Petal Of The Cherry Blossom * – Novo Tempo / Koichi Ozaki: Novo Tempo Meets Eurasian Suite Vol. 2, 12″ – Eurasian Suite – 2004 If I could dip into the whole of the soul/(acid)jazz/beats etc etc world of the Japanese from the ’90s onwards there’d be a basket full of great tunes I’ve yet to hear. So little time… 01.51.22 KEITH JARRETT (TRIO) – Dancing – Changeless, LP – ECM Records – 1989 ‘Original material which is deeply subversive (though also respectfully aware) of the whole tradition of jazz as a system of improvisation on ‘the changes’… On Changeless, there are no chord progressions at all; the trio improvises each section in a single key, somewhat in the manner of an Indian raga‘. – The Penguin Guide to Jazz. ‘These pieces – not written, rehearsed, thought out, sketched, or arranged – ‘came up’ in the middle of four distinctly different concerts. Process is swifter and more accurate than thought.‘ – Keith Jarrett’s album liner notes (edited). Show 155 arrives Sept 6. Dec x The post Post Punk Plus Podcast Playlist 154 – Original upload 2.8.26 appeared first on 41Rooms.

Liv Ogier recently completed the first ascent of Yellow Sun (5.14d), an extension to Tommy Caldwell’s Kryptonite at the Fortress of Solitude. As a former comp climber, her choice to project at one of Colorado’s most remote and challenging sport crags resulted in numerous days and nights of challenging conditions that are more often associated with alpinism than sport climbing. But the result of her efforts landed her among a very small and select group of women who have established first ascents of routes rated 5.14d.  But first, your grumpy hosts grump about climbing. Our final bit is from Victor McConnell. Show Notes Follow Liv Ogier: https://www.instagram.com/oogier/ Read about her ascent: https://tensionclimbing.com/blogs/blog/the-evolution-of-kryptonite-the-process-behind-yellow-sun-colorado-s-newest-5-14d Tension Climbing: https://tensionclimbing.com Victor McConnell‘s work and news. https://www.victormcconnellauthor.com/ Victor on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/victormcconnell/ Order Victor’s book If You Can Hear This here: Bottlecap Press: https://bottlecap.press/products/ifyovm World Climbing Assembly Cancels Vote on Banning Israel, Russia, and Belarus: https://www.climbing.com/news/world-climbing-assembly-cancels-vote-on-banning-israel-russia-and-belarus/ Chicago Climbing Gym Ordered to Pay $50 Million for Negligence in Child Sexual Abuse Case: https://www.climbing.com/news/first-ascent-climbing-gym-chicago-negligence-50-million-child-sexual-abuse-case/ No Return: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2026/07/06/did-a-climber-leave-his-girlfriend-to-die-at-the-top-of-a-mountain Become a RunOut Rope Gun! Support our podcast and increase your RunOut runtime. Bonus episodes, AMA, and more will be available to our Rope Guns. Thank you for your support! http://patreon.com/runoutpodcast Contact us Send ideas, voicemail, feedback and more. andrew@runoutpodcast.com // chris@runoutpodcast.com

Ex-Special Forces commando Tim Thomas on why elite soldiers break — and the 10 minutes a day that fix every exhausted man. From down under, Tim joins Ted Phaeton on The Modern Man Podcast to unpack the Performance Pyramid, the Two Golden 5-Minute Windows, and the warfare tactic he learned in Afghanistan that maps directly to how modern men are burning themselves out.   Tim served with Australian Special Forces in Afghanistan, competed as a pro MMA fighter, survived PTSD, and has spent the last decade in the veteran recovery space. He's the founder of Breathwork in Bed (an app, a method, and a movement), author of Fight, Flight, Feel, and has raised over $1M for veteran mental health research. His message is simple — most men are trying to fix their life while exhausted. Fix the sleep first, everything else follows.   In this conversation: the Performance Pyramid (outcomes → actions → rest/recovery/healing art forms — and why most men build only the top two), the bow-and-arrow reframe for rest days ("bow days"), self-worth as our real center of gravity, how pain transforms into loneliness and isolation and what breaks it, the "energetic millionaire" metaphor, Tim's own path through the crushing weight of defeat, and the tactical spine — the 5 minutes before sleep + 5 minutes upon waking that determine the shape of your entire day. Plus: why breath outranks thinking, why the presence of oxygen is the absence of disease, and Tim's invitation to Ted (and to you) — the Breathwork in Bed 28-day challenge.   Chapters: 00:00 Elite soldiers break — not from lack of strength, from lack of recovery 01:42 Welcome brother — Ted's intro 02:12 The performance question no training manual prepares you for 02:55 The 20s vs. the rest of your life  03:15 The Performance Pyramid (outcomes → actions → rest)  05:22 Warfare tactic — attack the enemy's sleep, better than a bullet 05:53 Our center of gravity is self-worth  08:16 Ted on peace in the home  10:36 The bow-and-arrow reframe — bow days over rest days  14:02 Solitude vs. isolation  16:38 The danger age for men — 38 to 42  17:20 Tim's veteran suicide-prevention work — 40 lives in one year  21:23 The Noble Knights + the isolation break  23:14 The question that changes everything — how many other people? 26:04 The firefighter story — the problem wasn't my own  27:33 The Energetic Millionaire metaphor  30:37 The research on sleep + testosterone + performance  32:51 Speaking to the stubborn version of yourself  35:31 The pyramid vs. pyramid — the competitor's edge  38:24 THE TWO GOLDEN 5-MINUTE WINDOWS  40:41 Breath outranks thinking 42:30 What the breath work actually looks like  45:22 Sleep is the soil from which everything grows 46:27 The Breathwork in Bed 28-day challenge  49:13 The crushing weight of defeat — Tim's vision  51:25 Ted's recap   Connect with Tim Thomas: Breathwork in Bed app: Search "Breathwork in Bed" in your app store — 28-day free trial Book: Fight, Flight, Feel Web: breathworkinbed.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breathworkinbed

Highlights of what's new in streaming for the week of August 1, 2026. Netflix Gate24: The Border, season 1 (Aug. 2) Let's Marry Harry (Aug. 5) Big Chicken: A Fast Food Conspiracy (Aug. 5) One Hundred Years of Solitude, part 2 (Aug. 5) My Life with the Walter Boys, season 3 (Aug.6) The Last House (Aug. 7) Our Sticky Love, season 1 (Aug. 7) Ricky Gervais' Alley Cats (Aug. 7) Disney+ The Devil Wears Prada 2 (Jul. 29) ESPN Jeopardy!, season 1 (Jul. 31) Futurama, season 14 (Aug. 3) Betrayal: Dirty Secrets, season 4 (Aug. 4) The Shards, season 1 (Aug. 5) Star Wars: Visions Presents – The Ninth Jedi (Aug. 5) Flex x Cop, season 2 (Aug. 7) HBO Max Hard Knocks: Training Camp with the Seattle Seahawks (Aug. 4) Monsters of God (Aug. 6) Paramount+ Lioness, season 3 (Aug. 2) Special Ops True (Aug. 4) The Challenge: Cutthroat (Aug. 5) Peacock The Super Mario Galaxy Movie (Jul. 30) You, Me, and Tuscany (Aug. 7) Prime Video Sterling Point, season 1 (Aug. 5) Apple TV Ted Lasso, season 4 (Aug. 5) Acorn TV The Chelsea Detective, season 4 (Aug. 3) Hallmark+ Toast to Italy (Aug. 1)

Jett Franzen is a writer and YouTuber. What holds people back? Is it their mindset, environment, or circumstances? One overlooked factor is the ability to be alone. Solitude can build clarity and resilience, but too much can be destructive. So when is being alone a superpower, and when does it become dangerous? Expect to learn the pitfalls of taking too much medication, why being lonely and/or isolated for a period of time is a superpower, why the most dangerous are ambitious but lazy people, the mentality that is keeping people stuck in a terrible mindset, how to escape the hedonic treadmill, why the incel community came after Jett and much more… Sponsors: Modern Wisdom Merch available this Friday: https://mwmerch.com See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠ Get the brand new Whoop 5.0 and your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get 10% discount on all Gymshark products at https://gym.sh/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM10) Get up to 20% off Timeline powered by Mitopure (now at a lower price) at https://timeline.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT's most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get ChatGPT to explore ideas, solve problems, and learn faster at ⁠https://chatgpt.com Timestamps: (00:00) Why You Need to Confront Your Shadows (10:09) Make It Until You Believe It (22:19) Why Success Demands Real Work (34:36) Can Anyone Go From Nothing to Something? (39:19) Don't Let Empathy Hold You Back (52:39) Are We Addicted to the Next Win? (56:31) Progress vs Position: What Matters More? (01:08:59) Why Happiness Comes From Acceptance (01:14:05) Escaping the Victim Mindset (01:19:54) Protect What Makes You Unique (01:29:40) How to Use Ego as a Strength (01:36:57) Don't Let the Fear of Having Self-Belief Hold You Back (01:51:31) Does True Authenticity Really Exist? (01:58:00) Where to Find Jett Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/books⁠ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: ⁠https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom⁠ Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast⁠ Email: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/contact⁠ - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The meta is broken, but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy it! and I play Herald Warlock on the ladder. You can find the deck import code below the following contact links.  You can follow me @blisterguy on Twitch, Bluesky, and Youtube. Join our Discord community here or at discord.me/blisterguy. You can support this podcast and my other Hearthstone work at Patreon here. # 2x (1) Conflagrate # 2x (1) Glacial Shard # 2x (2) Cursed Chains # 2x (2) Drain Soul # 1x (2) Rotten Apple # 1x (2) Shadow Rounds # 2x (2) Shadowsworn Disciple # 2x (3) Caged Cranium # 2x (3) Hellfire # 2x (3) Imp Gang Stooge # 1x (3) Rustrot Viper # 1x (4) Godfrey the Betrayer # 2x (4) Shrine of Twilight # 2x (5) Spire of Solitude # 1x (6) Ultraxion # 2x (8) Annihilation # 1x (10) Deathwing, Worldbreaker # 2x (10) The Unseen Atlas #  AAECAcn1AgbNngbRggfQvweb1Aet2QeO3AcMj58E56AE054GqYgHk74H2L4H4L4H3dcHsNkHsdkHt9kHjdwHAAA=

Does your life ever feel like a jar of dirty water?A brand new series starts today called, “Side Quests”. We'll be discussing healthy non-work rhythms after graduation that are filled with purpose, starting with rest and retreat. InterVarsity alumnus Jonny Gose shares about his own journey into rest and retreat after graduation (including how a jar of dirty water transformed the way he thinks about slowing down with Jesus). And he'll walk us through some practical ways to build a rhythm of rest that not only fits this season of life after graduation, but also becomes a rhythm you never want to miss.RELATED EPISODEA Foundation for Healthy Rhythms of Rest (E122) - Apple, SpotifyOTHER RESOURCESGrab your alumni retreat box today!STAY IN TOUCHSocials: @afterivpodVisit our Website ★ Support this podcast ★

Solo Episode 121... What if the season you've been calling loneliness is actually God's preparation for your greatest comeback? Have you ever felt like God pulled you away from everything you once knew? In this episode, B.Simone talks about what it means to protect your comeback after a season of solitude. If God has hidden you for a season, don't waste it. Solitude isn't punishment—it's preparation. B.Simone shares how to be productive while you're alone with God, how to steward the refining process, and how to return stronger, wiser, and with the tools to protect your peace and joy when it's time to step back into the world. Not everything is meant to go with you into your next season. Some things have to be pruned, while other parts of you God will lovingly refine. This conversation is an encouragement to embrace the process, trust God's timing, and protect the woman you're becoming. Please leave a review , if this episode spoke to you!  Hair is HairAreUs Use promo code "LTTA" for $ off you order : ⁠⁠https://hairareus.com/discount/LTTA⁠ For exclusive bonus content, behind-the-scenes moments, a safe place connect with like minded women.... plus more, join the LTTA app community at ⁠⁠LTTA.app⁠⁠ today. We are now in the app store! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New powers unlock and old grudges resurface as the Vampirates find themselves quickly entwined in the mess at Moreveil Key. Blood 'n' Booty is played on the Mischief TTRPG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠available here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Support Us • Support Us on Patreon: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/drimbus⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Visit Our Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.drimbus.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Sign up for The (Not-So) Daily Drimbus: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.drimbus.com/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Buy us a Coffee: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://ko-fi.com/whimsic⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Buy our Merch: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.drimbus.com/merch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ • Find and support our sponsors at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fableandfolly.com/partners⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Cast • Amanda Fernandez-Acosta (Sable Moreveil) • Hannah Schooner (Queenie Highclaw)(Editing) • Kayla Temshiv (Tomas Highclaw) • Michael Pisani (Beau Byron Wilde) • TJ Berry (Tuliere Jordaine) • Giancarlo Herrera (BG)(Editing/Sound Design) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marcus Aurelius Anderson sits down with Ed Hinman, Marine infantry officer veteran, public figure protection specialist, historian, and author of The Barbarian in You. Ed shares how his time at the Naval Academy, deployments across Iraq, Afghanistan, Pakistan, and Africa, and a pivotal reckoning with ego and identity led him to build a life around three core principles: vigor, wonder, and fellowship. Drawing on history, philosophy, and hard experience, Ed makes the case that living a full life is not about optimization — it's about reconnecting with the most primal, truest parts of yourself. The conversation weaves through the creative life, the craft of writing, the mentorship of Steven Pressfield, the wisdom of Montaigne, Emerson, and Marcus Aurelius, and the courage it takes to follow what resonates rather than what looks good on paper. Episode Highlights: 1:54 - Ed and Marcus discuss the mentorship of Steven Pressfield and the discipline required to show up for the creative life 29:44 - Ed introduces his three-part philosophy of vigor, wonder, and fellowship as a framework rooted in how pre-civilized humans actually lived 49:23 - Ed recounts his Marine Corps career, the ego-driven disappointment of deployments that went nowhere, and how psychosomatic pain forced him to ask what he actually wanted 58:58 - Ed and Marcus explore the idea of listening to intuition over empirical evidence, following resonance rather than a prescribed path, and why the barbarian in you is the truest version of yourself Ed Hinman served as an infantry officer in the United States Marine Corps, graduating from the Naval Academy and deploying five times across Iraq, Afghanistan, Pakistan, and Africa before earning a master's degree in history and building a career in public figure protection with Gavin de Becker's firm. He is the author of The Barbarian in You and the founder of the Barbarian in You blog, where he writes about history, strength, friendship, and the philosophy of living with vigor, wonder, and fellowship. Visit barbarianinyou.com to find Ed's book, blog, and writings. Follow him on Instagram at ed_hinman. Learn more about the gift of Adversity and my mission to help my fellow humans create a better world by heading to www.marcusaureliusanderson.com. There you can take action by joining my ANV inner circle to get exclusive content and information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Olivia Laing is known as one of the most distinctive voices in contemporary literature. Their work is renowned for its capacity to make abstract ideas feel precise, intimate, and beautifully thought through without ever talking down to the reader. Their books include the number one Sunday Times bestseller The Garden Against Time, Funny Weather: Art in an Emergency and, most recently, The Silver Book: a bewitching love story set during the making of Fellini's Casanova and Pasolini's Salò. In June 2026 Laing came to Intelligence Squared for a one-off celebration of the ten-year anniversary of their seminal work, The Lonely City. Hailed as ‘a new kind of literature' when first published, The Lonely City is both a personal quest to master the art of being alone, and an investigation into how artists have reckoned with isolation. The book asks questions that resonate in our increasingly digital and divided world. What does it mean to be lonely? How do we connect with others? Does technology draw us closer together, or keep us apart?         Laing was joined live at Union Chapel in London by Charlie Porter, as they reflected on the legacy of The Lonely City, the paperback publication of The Silver Book and what loneliness, intimacy, solidarity and connection mean in a world of rising fascism. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Tim Conway Jr Show Hour 3 (7.16) A new study suggests people who enjoy spending time alone may also be more loyal in relationships, while the FDA investigates an iceberg lettuce supplier linked to a cyclosporiasis outbreak. Danny Griffith, co-owner of Pasadena's Sweet Red Peach Bakery, shares how copper thieves left the beloved neighborhood business scrambling—and how the community can help keep its doors open. Plus, Kalshi rolls out a new market allowing users to place bets on flight cancellations. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Olivia Laing is known as one of the most distinctive voices in contemporary literature. Their work is renowned for its capacity to make abstract ideas feel precise, intimate, and beautifully thought through without ever talking down to the reader. Their books include the number one Sunday Times bestseller The Garden Against Time, Funny Weather: Art in an Emergency and, most recently, The Silver Book: a bewitching love story set during the making of Fellini's Casanova and Pasolini's Salò. In June 2026 Laing came to Intelligence Squared for a one-off celebration of the ten-year anniversary of their seminal work, The Lonely City. Hailed as ‘a new kind of literature' when first published, The Lonely City is both a personal quest to master the art of being alone, and an investigation into how artists have reckoned with isolation. The book asks questions that resonate in our increasingly digital and divided world. What does it mean to be lonely? How do we connect with others? Does technology draw us closer together, or keep us apart?         Laing was joined live at Union Chapel in London by Charlie Porter, as they reflected on the legacy of The Lonely City, the paperback publication of The Silver Book and what loneliness, intimacy, solidarity and connection mean in a world of rising fascism. --- This is the first instalment of a two-part episode. If you'd like to become a Member and get access to all our full ad free conversations, plus all of our Members-only content, just visit intelligencesquared.com/membership to find out more. For £4.99 per month you'll also receive: - Full-length and ad-free Intelligence Squared episodes, wherever you get your podcasts - Bonus Intelligence Squared podcasts, curated feeds and members exclusive series - 15% discount on livestreams and in-person tickets for all Intelligence Squared events ... Or Subscribe on Apple for £4.99: - Full-length and ad-free Intelligence Squared podcasts - Bonus Intelligence Squared podcasts, curated feeds and members exclusive series … Already a subscriber? Thank you for supporting our mission to foster honest debate and compelling conversations! Visit intelligencesquared.com to explore all your benefits including ad-free podcasts, exclusive bonus content and early access. … Subscribe to our newsletter here to hear about our latest events, discounts and much more. https://www.intelligencesquared.com/newsletter-signup/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) — Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: ⁠⁠https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join⁠ Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 4085: Vironika Tugaleva reflects on how rediscovering solitude helped her break free from swinging between people-pleasing and rebellion, allowing her to better understand her own needs without dismissing the needs of others. Through a simple but powerful personal story, she illustrates how creating space for self-reflection can lead to healthier relationships, greater emotional resilience, and more compassionate problem-solving. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.vironika.org/doormat-control-freak-solitude/ Quotes to ponder: "Solitude makes me strong. Then, I bring that strength to my relationships." "I'm trying to formulate a bond with myself that's strong enough to weather the influence of the outside world. It's hard, but I'm doing the work. And that's enough for me." "Rebellion liberated me in one way and limited me in another. In order to always put myself first, I throttled my empathy. I told myself that, in order to be happy, I had to do what was right for me and forget everyone else." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices