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Healing After Betrayal—A Guide for Co-ParentsDivorce attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright welcome relationship coach and betrayal trauma expert Mr. Jay for an insightful discussion about healing and co-parenting after profound betrayal. Drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience, Mr. Jay helps people navigate from devastating betrayal to healing, offering unique perspectives on how this specific trauma affects every aspect of life.The conversation explores what makes betrayal trauma distinct from other forms of trauma—particularly how it reshapes not just our present and future, but also our understanding of the past. Seth and Pete dive deep into practical strategies for managing ongoing relationships with former spouses when children are involved, while Mr. Jay shares powerful insights about healing personal wounds first. The discussion covers everything from financial betrayals to infidelity, examining how different types of betrayal trauma affect co-parenting relationships and personal recovery.Questions we answer in this episode:How is betrayal trauma different from other life challenges?What steps can I take to co-parent effectively after betrayal?How do I protect my emotional health while dealing with a betrayer?Key Takeaways:Healing requires addressing both current wounds and past traumaSelf-love and boundary-setting are crucial for emotional recoveryEffective co-parenting starts with personal healingThe episode provides essential insights for anyone struggling with betrayal during or after divorce, offering practical tools for healing while maintaining necessary relationships for the children's sake. Mr. Jay's approach emphasizes personal growth and self-care as fundamental steps toward building a healthy post-divorce life.Links & NotesVisit Mr. Jay's websiteFind Mr. Jay on Instagram, X, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, or his other linksCheck out Mr. Jay's journalSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:31) - Mr. Jay and Betrayal Trauma (01:43) - Mr. Jay's Background (05:40) - Defining Betrayal Trauma (08:28) - Trauma vs. Betrayal Trauma (10:47) - What If You Still Care? (14:01) - Affecting the Past as Well (18:28) - Co-Parenting (21:23) - Healing for You (22:53) - Admitting It (23:44) - Define what forgiveness means to you (28:14) - Getting Better Equipped (32:30) - Asking the Hard Questions (33:30) - Wrap Up

Faith, Family Law, and Finding Peace: Understanding Catholic AnnulmentsIn this enlightening episode, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome Father David Mowry, a Roman Catholic priest and assistant professor at the University of St. Mary of the Lake in Mundelein, Illinois. With the recent election of Pope Leo XIV (the first American-born Pope), the conversation explores the intersection of Catholic faith and family law, specifically focusing on the church's approach to marriage, divorce, and annulments.Seth and Pete dive deep into the Catholic Church's perspective on marriage as both a sacred covenant and a legal institution. Father Mowry explains how annulments differ fundamentally from civil divorces, detailing the extensive process and support systems the Church has in place. The discussion reveals how the Church's approach to failed marriages isn't about finding loopholes, but rather about determining whether a true marriage existed in the first place according to Catholic teaching.Questions we answer in this episode:How does a Catholic annulment differ from a civil divorce?What happens if one spouse refuses to participate in the annulment process?How does the Church support children whose parents are going through divorce?Key Takeaways:The Catholic Church views marriage as a permanent covenant—annulments determine if a valid marriage ever existedAnnulment processes include extensive pastoral and legal support systemsLocal priests serve as initial guides but specialized Church courts handle the formal proceedingsThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating the complex intersection of faith and divorce. Whether you're Catholic or simply interested in understanding different approaches to marriage dissolution, Father Mowry's explanation of the Church's compassionate yet structured approach to failed marriages provides a fascinating perspective on healing and moving forward.Links & NotesLearn more about Father David Mowry on his websiteSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - Meet Father David Mowry (04:31) - Catholic Annulments vs. Divorce (05:16) - Civil vs. Church Law Around Marriage (12:20) - Annulments – The Loophole (18:05) - What the Church Looks at (20:27) - Counter to Catholic Thinking? (23:08) - A Way to Set People Free (24:06) - Unwlling Participant (25:46) - When It's Contested (27:34) - Appeals Process (28:15) - Judges (31:50) - Emotional Infrastructure (36:55) - Working with the Kids (41:31) - Where the Job Begins and Ends (45:06) - Historical Records (46:47) - Pete's Story (48:35) - Wrap Up

Mastering Stoic Empathy During and After DivorceDivorce attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright welcome leadership expert and author Shermin Kruse to explore how combining stoicism with empathy can transform the divorce experience. Kruse, who grew up in war-torn Iran before becoming a lawyer and author, brings unique insights on maintaining emotional control while staying attuned to others' perspectives during high-conflict situations.Seth and Pete dive deep into practical applications of stoic empathy—from courtroom strategies to co-parenting interactions. The conversation explores how intentional discomfort practice builds resilience, while cognitive empathy helps navigate challenging relationships. Kruse shares powerful examples from her personal journey and professional experience, demonstrating how these principles can help anyone handle difficult conversations and negotiations more effectively. The discussion particularly focuses on how divorcing couples can maintain their authentic selves while managing conflict constructively.Questions we answer in this episode:How can I stay calm and focused when dealing with a hostile ex-spouse?What practical exercises help build emotional resilience during divorce?How do I balance being strong with staying empathetic in co-parenting?Key Takeaways:Practice discomfort in safe settings to build emotional controlUse active listening and pausing to better understand others' perspectivesRemember your responses are in your control, even when others' actions aren'tThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating divorce or high-conflict relationships. Kruse's blend of philosophical wisdom and practical experience provides actionable strategies for maintaining composure while building stronger post-divorce relationships.Links & NotesFind Sher on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, or FacebookTune in to Sher's podcast Stoic EmpathyCheck out Sher's book Stoic EmpathySchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Shermin Kruse and Stoic Empathy (02:07) - What Is Stoic Empathy? (06:06) - The Practice of Stoicism (14:03) - Working on Empathy (20:08) - In the Divorce Process (32:43) - After Divorce (36:26) - Sher's Book

David Lynch's Dark Suburban MasterpieceJoin hosts Krissy Lenz and Nathan Blackwell with special guests Andy Nelson and Pete Wright as they dive into David Lynch's controversial classic Blue Velvet (1986), a film that exposed the dark underbelly beneath idyllic small-town America.When college student Jeffrey Beaumont (Kyle MacLachlan) discovers a severed ear in a field, he's drawn into a twisted mystery involving nightclub singer Dorothy Vallens (Isabella Rossellini) and the terrifying Frank Booth (Dennis Hopper). The hosts explore how Lynch creates a jarring contrast between 1950s suburban aesthetics and the disturbing criminal world that exists beneath the surface.The panel discusses how Blue Velvet serves as Lynch's most accessible work while still containing his signature surrealism. Unlike his later films that abandon traditional narrative structure, Blue Velvet follows a relatively straightforward detective story, making it an excellent entry point for viewers new to Lynch's filmography. The film's lasting impact can be seen in later works like Twin Peaks, which further developed many of the themes and visual styles first explored here.Dennis Hopper's unhinged performance as Frank Booth remains one of cinema's most memorable villains, with the hosts noting how Hopper reportedly told Lynch, "I am Frank Booth," when accepting the role that many actors had turned down due to its disturbing nature.Topics Discussed:The film's juxtaposition of 1950s idealism with 1980s darknessLynch's signature visual style and sound design techniquesThe voyeuristic themes and Jeffrey's seduction by darknessIsabella Rossellini's haunting performance as Dorothy VallensHow Blue Velvet compares to Lynch's other worksThe famous "Pabst Blue Ribbon" sceneLynch's influence on subsequent filmmakers and mediaEach host's rating of the film (on a scale of Pabst Blue Ribbons)The episode concludes with deep-cut recommendations including The Reflecting Skin (1990), John Cheever's short story "The Swimmer," and the video games Alan Wake and Control - all works that share thematic or stylistic elements with Lynch's universe.Whether you're a Lynch devotee or curious newcomer, this episode offers fascinating insights into a film that continues to disturb and captivate audiences over three decades after its release. --We couldn't do this without your support of The Most Excellent 80s Movies Podcast! Thank you!Join now for: $5/Month • $55/year • Learn More

Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Divorce: A Guide to Repair and HealingSeth Nelson, a Tampa divorce attorney, and Pete Wright explore the complex journey of repentance and repair during divorce with special guest Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg, author of "On Repentance and Repair: Making Amends in an Unapologetic World." Rabbi Ruttenberg brings ancient Jewish wisdom to modern relationship challenges, offering insights into healing and growth when marriages end.The conversation dives deep into what true repair means in divorce, exploring the difference between reconciliation and healing. Seth and Pete discuss with Rabbi Ruttenberg her five-step framework for meaningful repentance, examining how these principles apply specifically to divorce situations. The discussion illuminates how personal accountability and genuine healing can occur even when one party refuses to participate in the repair process, and explores the impact of this work on co-parenting relationships.Questions we answer in this episode:Can you heal from divorce without receiving an apology from your ex?How do you move forward when the other person won't take accountability?What role does personal accountability play in divorce healing?Key Takeaways:True healing requires owning your part, regardless of the other person's actionsThe five steps of repentance provide a practical framework for divorce healingModeling accountability and repair helps children navigate divorce impacts betterThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating divorce or its aftermath. Rabbi Ruttenberg's framework, combined with Seth's legal expertise and Pete's facilitation, creates a powerful roadmap for personal growth and healing during one of life's most challenging transitions.Links & Noteslifeisasacredtext.com Get Rabbi Ruttenberg's book “On Repentance and Repair”Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Rabbi Danya Ruttenberg (03:47) - Repair in the Context of Divorce (05:06) - When the Other Party Won't Engage (06:50) - Doing Your Work (11:24) - Needing to Face the Music Together (13:00) - Steps of Repentance (17:56) - Readiness for Change (19:08) - From the Legal Perspective (21:42) - Blame (24:48) - Learning Better Ways to Communicate (27:56) - Repentance Around the Kids (30:33) - When Kids Become a Focus (34:38) - Finding Peace (36:24) - Wrapping Up

Protecting Your Kids Through Divorce: A Mental Health Expert's GuideSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome Dr. Larry Waldman, a psychologist with over four decades of clinical experience helping families navigate divorce. As the author of "Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex," Dr. Waldman shares crucial insights on protecting children from trauma during divorce and maintaining healthy parent-child relationships through major life transitions.The conversation explores the often-invisible ways parents unknowingly traumatize their children during divorce, from erasing evidence of the other parent to making children emotional confidants. Dr. Waldman, Seth, and Pete discuss practical strategies for maintaining stability, fostering healthy co-parenting relationships, and ensuring children feel secure and supported throughout the divorce process. Their discussion weaves together psychological insights with legal considerations, offering a comprehensive guide for parents navigating this challenging transition.Questions we answer in this episode:How do parents unknowingly traumatize their children during divorce?What's the best way to handle transitions between homes?When should older children have input in scheduling decisions?Key Takeaways:Keep photos of both parents visible in children's spacesFocus on positive experiences during transitions between homesMaintain appropriate parent-child boundaries; don't make children confidantsThis episode provides essential guidance for any parent going through divorce, offering both practical strategies and deeper insights into protecting children's emotional well-being. Dr. Waldman's expertise, combined with Seth's legal perspective and Pete's facilitation, creates a valuable resource for maintaining healthy family relationships during and after divorce.Links & NotesGet Dr. Waldman's book “Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex”Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - Meet Larry Waldman (01:11) - Invisible Damage (04:48) - Damnatio Memoriae (06:15) - What Does Divorce Look Like to the Child? (08:47) - Making the Child a Confidant (09:32) - Weaponizing Your Kids in Court (10:30) - Someone New (12:19) - Stability and Security During the Divorce (15:26) - When They're Older (20:00) - Your Child Is the Focus (21:04) - When They Grow Up (22:22) - When They Come Back from the Other Parent's (23:59) - Using the Kid as a Scapegoat (25:51) - Larry's Book (27:16) - Demonstrating What's Most Important (29:38) - Wrap Up

De-escalating High-Conflict Divorce: A Rabbi's Perspective on Finding PeaceRabbi Avi Kahan joins Seth Nelson and Pete Wright to explore how de-escalation techniques and cultural sensitivity can help families reach sustainable resolutions during divorce. As a mediator handling complex religious and cultural divorce cases, Rabbi Kahan brings unique insights into managing high-conflict situations and helping couples transition from being spouses to successful co-parents.The conversation delves deep into how fear and conflict often mask deeper emotional struggles during divorce. Seth and Pete explore with Rabbi Kahan how the legal system's focus on "fairness" can sometimes escalate tensions, while religious and cultural perspectives might offer alternative paths to resolution. They discuss how divorce doesn't actually separate parents—it unifies them in a new way as co-parents, requiring them to articulate a new future together for their children's sake.Questions we answer in this episode:How can you de-escalate high-conflict divorce situations?What role does "fairness" really play in divorce proceedings?How can religious perspectives help in understanding divorce as transformation rather than failure?Key Takeaways:Focus on living your life, not your divorce—don't let temporary legal proceedings define your actionsDe-escalation often requires helping both parties want the divorce, not just need itCourt litigation can force parents to suppress their authentic selves, potentially harming childrenThe episode offers valuable insights for anyone navigating a contentious divorce, especially those dealing with cultural or religious complexities. Rabbi Kahan's perspective on viewing divorce as a unifying rather than separating force provides a fresh framework for approaching this challenging life transition. Links & NotesVisit Rabbi Avi Kahan on the web, Instagram, LinkedIn, or YouTubeSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Rabbi Avi Kahan (01:15) - De-Escalation and Rabbi's Background (03:29) - In the Interpersonal Space (06:21) - Getting Them on the Same Page (09:51) - To Make Life Better Post-Divorce (10:42) - Decompressing the Proxy Battle (14:56) - Fairness (22:20) - Husband v. Wife, Father v. Mother (24:53) - Lack of Agency (27:46) - Escalation as Coping Mechanism (29:28) - Affecting the Children (33:12) - Preparing for Mediation and Litigation (36:59) - Wrap Up

Helping Kids Navigate Divorce with Parent Coach Danielle LindnerSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome parent coach and early childhood education expert Danielle Lindner to discuss how children process divorce and what parents can do to help them stay resilient. Lindner, author of "The Parent's Pocket Guide to Surviving the Preschool Years" and several children's books, specializes in helping families raise emotionally healthy kids while maintaining their own wellbeing during major life transitions.Seth and Pete explore key indicators that children might be struggling with divorce, often manifesting in behavior changes opposite to their typical personality. The discussion delves into positive parenting strategies during divorce—including the importance of consistency, emotional validation, and avoiding negative talk about the other parent. Lindner emphasizes the power of age-appropriate communication and explains how "scaffolding"—building supportive steps toward greater emotional agency—can help children develop resilience during challenging times.Questions we answer in this episode:How can you tell if your child is struggling with divorce beyond what they're telling you?When should you consider bringing in professional help for your children?How do you handle introducing new partners when kids express negative feelings?Key Takeaways:Maintain consistency and kindness across both householdsValidate children's feelings without overloading them with informationConsider early intervention with counseling—it's better to start early than wait for problemsThis episode provides practical, actionable advice for parents navigating divorce with young children. Whether you're just beginning the process or already co-parenting, Lindner's expertise offers valuable insights into supporting children's emotional health while maintaining positive family relationships during and after divorce.Links & NotesFind Danielle on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTubeCheck out Danielle's booksSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Danielle Lindner and Positive Parenting (01:35) - First Signs a Child Is Struggling (06:01) - Myths Around Kids and Divorce (10:27) - Positive Parenting (11:57) - Coaching Parents (15:07) - Tools for Struggling Children (18:21) - Scaffolding (20:19) - Learning to Be Emotionally Resilient (22:12) - Social Media (26:35) - Third Parties (30:35) - Daily Reminder (33:23) - When to Use a Counselor (34:40) - Danielle's Book (38:27) - Wrap Up

I had Andy Nelson on to discuss the 1990 movie 'Metropolitan'. Hell yeah.

“All your followers are blind, Too much heaven on their minds, It was beautiful but now it's sour, Yes it's all gone sour.”Talking About Jesus Christ Superstar with our guest, editor Lucy DonaldsonFilm editor Lucy Donaldson joins Andy Nelson and Pete Wright to discuss Norman Jewison's bold 1973 musical adaptation Jesus Christ Superstar and share insights from her impressive editing career. From working on acclaimed projects like Ma to recent hits like A Haunting in Venice, Donaldson brings her expert perspective to analyzing what makes this unconventional rock opera work so magnificently on screen.In this entertaining and insightful conversation, Donaldson opens up about her journey in the film industry, from her early days at the National Film and Television School to assisting on major productions at Blumhouse before landing breakthrough editing opportunities. The discussion explores the collaborative nature of film editing, working with directors, and how test screenings help shape the final cut. The conversation then dives deep into Jesus Christ Superstar, examining how Jewison's creative vision of hippie performers telling the Biblical story in the Israeli desert creates a uniquely compelling cinematic experience. From the magnetic performances of Ted Neely as Jesus and Carl Anderson as Judas to the bold editing choices and striking cinematography, the group analyzes what makes this controversial film continue to resonate decades later.With its daring artistic choices, memorable musical numbers, and raw emotional power, Jesus Christ Superstar remains a fascinating piece of cinema that challenges conventional storytelling. Through Donaldson's thoughtful analysis and personal connection to the film, we gain new appreciation for this groundbreaking rock opera that shouldn't work on paper but absolutely triumphs on screen. This engaging discussion with a talented editor offers wonderful insights into both the craft of film editing and the enduring impact of bold artistic vision.Film SundriesWatch the conversation on YouTubeLucy's WebsiteWatch this on Apple or Amazon, or find other places at LetterboxdTheatrical trailerOriginal Material Learn how to support our show and The Next Reel's family of film podcasts by becoming a member. It's just $5 monthly or $55 annually. Learn more here.Follow the other podcasts in The Next Reel's family of film podcasts:Cinema Scope: Bridging Genres, Subgenres, and MovementsThe Film BoardThe Next Reel Film PodcastSitting in the DarkJoin the conversation with movie lovers from around the world in our Discord community!Here's where you can find us around the internet:The WebLetterboxdCheck out poster artwork for movies we've discussed on our Pinterest pagePeteAndyWhat are some other ways you can support us and show your love? Glad you asked!You can buy our movie-related apparel, stickers, mugs and more from our MERCH PAGE.Or buy or rent movies we've discussed on the show from our WATCH PAGE.Or buy books, plays, etc. that was the source for movies we've discussed on the show from our ORIGINALS PAGE.Or renew or sign up for a Letterboxd Pro or Patron account with our LETTERBOXD MEMBERSHIP DISCOUNT.Or sign up for AUDIBLE.

Breaking Free from Toxic Family Patterns During DivorceIn this compelling episode, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright are joined by Jerry Wise, a family systems coach with over 45 years of experience helping people heal from dysfunctional and emotionally immature family dynamics. They explore how divorce often isn't the hardest part of ending a marriage—it's breaking free from the dysfunctional patterns that shaped you before you even got married.Seth and Pete dive deep with Jerry into the concept of emotional enmeshment and how it affects divorce proceedings and co-parenting relationships. They discuss practical strategies for recognizing when you're emotionally fused with your ex-spouse and techniques for breaking free from these patterns. The conversation takes fascinating turns as they explore how unresolved family-of-origin issues can impact current relationships and how to prevent passing these patterns to the next generation.Questions we answer in this episode:How do I know if I'm emotionally enmeshed with my ex?What can I do when I feel triggered by my ex's behavior?How do I protect my children from inheriting dysfunctional relationship patterns?Key Takeaways:Focus on yourself and your healing instead of blaming your exLearn to respond rather than react to triggering situationsWork on breaking unhealthy patterns before they affect your childrenThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating divorce or struggling with challenging family dynamics. Jerry's expertise, combined with Seth and Pete's practical legal and personal experience, provides listeners with actionable strategies for breaking free from toxic patterns and building healthier relationships moving forward.Links & NotesFind Jerry on his website, Instagram, or YouTubeCheck out Jerry's Road to Self programSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Jerry Wise and How to Divorce without Passing Down Toxic Patterns (02:37) - Lots of Things Affect Kids (04:21) - Enmeshment (07:49) - Getting Unmeshed (09:13) - Focus on Yourself (10:27) - Emotional and Legal Divorce (11:07) - Things You Can Do (16:23) - Breaking the Triggering Patterns (19:18) - Not All Feelings Are Equal (21:20) - Role Model for Kids (24:37) - Kids' Resilience (26:08) - Realizing You're Ready for Change (30:49) - Leaving Because... (32:09) - It's a Lot (33:14) - You Won't Always Feel This Way (35:27) - Marker 17 (39:18) - Wrap Up

“There's something in the atmosphere that makes everything seem exaggerated.”Talking About Powell & Pressburger's 1947 film Black Narcissus with our guest, screenwriter James HandelIn this episode of Movies We Like, screenwriter James Handel joins hosts Andy Nelson and Pete Wright to discuss Michael Powell and Emeric Pressburger's 1947 masterpiece Black Narcissus, along with Handel's fascinating career writing genre-bending films like The Last Horror Movie, The Hoarder, and his latest psychological dramedy The Trouble with Jessica.From Philosophy to FilmBefore diving into Black Narcissus, Handel shares candid insights about his journey from philosophy student to screenwriter, starting with an unproduced vampire script and eventually leading to successful collaborations with directors Julian Richards and Matt Winn. He discusses how his background in philosophy influences his approach to moral dilemmas and character psychology in his screenplays, particularly evident in The Trouble with Jessica's darkly comic exploration of ethics and human nature.A Masterpiece of Psychological DramaThe conversation then turns to Black Narcissus, examining how Powell and Pressburger crafted this visually stunning psychological drama about Anglican nuns attempting to establish a convent in the Himalayas. The group discusses the film's groundbreaking technical achievements, with Jack Cardiff's Oscar-winning Technicolor cinematography bringing the entirely studio-shot production to vivid life. They explore how the film masterfully depicts the psychological deterioration of the nuns as they struggle with repressed desires, loss of faith, and the overwhelming power of their environment, all while maintaining a remarkable balance between expressionism and restraint.Black Narcissus remains a masterclass in psychological storytelling and visual craftsmanship, demonstrating how thoughtful restraint and artistic innovation can create an unforgettable cinematic experience. We thoroughly enjoyed diving deep into this classic with James Handel, whose own work carries forward the tradition of examining complex moral questions through compelling drama.Film SundriesWatch our conversation on YouTube!Watch this on Apple or Amazon, or find other places at LetterboxdScript OptionsTheatrical trailerOriginal Material Learn how to support our show and The Next Reel's family of film podcasts by becoming a member. It's just $5 monthly or $55 annually. Learn more here.Follow the other podcasts in The Next Reel's family of film podcasts:Cinema Scope: Bridging Genres, Subgenres, and MovementsThe Film BoardThe Next Reel Film PodcastSitting in the DarkJoin the conversation with movie lovers from around the world in our Discord community!Here's where you can find us around the internet:The WebLetterboxdCheck out poster artwork for movies we've discussed on our Pinterest pagePeteAndyWhat are some other ways you can support us and show your love? Glad you asked!You can buy our movie-related apparel, stickers, mugs and more from our MERCH PAGE.Or buy or rent movies we've discussed on the show from our WATCH PAGE.Or buy books, plays, etc. that was the source for movies we've discussed on the show from our ORIGINALS PAGE.Or renew or sign up for a Letterboxd Pro or Patron account with our LETTERBOXD MEMBERSHIP DISCOUNT.Or sign up for AUDIBLE.

In this special season finale episode of How to Split a Toaster, family law attorney Seth Nelson joins Pete Wright to wrap up their comprehensive "Your Divorce Case" series by tackling pressing listener questions. This episode marks the conclusion of Season 10, where they've guided listeners through every aspect of the divorce process, from initial consultation to appeals.The episode dives deep into real-world divorce scenarios submitted by listeners, covering everything from custody arrangements for children with ADHD to hidden cryptocurrency assets and international divorce complications. The discussion provides practical insights into how these situations are typically handled in the courtroom, while breaking down complex legal concepts into understandable terms. The conversation consistently emphasizes the importance of consulting with local counsel, as laws and procedures vary by jurisdiction.Questions we answer in this episode:How do courts typically handle parenting plans when parents disagree about medical treatment?What options exist when you suspect hidden financial assets?How are digital assets like cryptocurrency handled in divorce proceedings?Key Takeaways:Settlement opportunities can arise at any point during the divorce process - even during trialCourt orders and requirements vary significantly by jurisdictionDocumentation and proper legal counsel are crucial throughout the divorce processThis episode serves as both an excellent standalone resource for specific divorce questions and a fitting conclusion to the season-long examination of the divorce process. Whether you're just starting your divorce journey or looking for specific guidance on complex issues, this episode offers valuable insights into navigating the legal and emotional challenges of divorce.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Listener Questions (00:52) - Question One (03:11) - Question Two (04:09) - Question Three (04:52) - Question Four (06:58) - Question Five (08:44) - Question Six (10:44) - Question Seven (16:56) - Question Eight (19:48) - Question Nine (21:14) - Question Ten (24:20) - Question Eleven (29:05) - Question Twelve (31:57) - Question Thirteen (34:31) - Question Fourteen (36:33) - Question Fifteen (38:40) - Question Sixteen (40:08) - Question Seventeen (42:11) - Question Eighteen (45:49) - Question Nineteen (47:43) - Wrapping Up the Season (50:40) - Wrap Up

Navigating the Appeals Process in Divorce CasesContinuing our season-long Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome appellate attorney Ceci Berman to discuss what happens when divorce cases move to the appeals court. As a board-certified appellate practice attorney with extensive experience arguing before state and federal courts, Ceci brings deep expertise in family law appeals and complex commercial litigation.The appeals process works very differently from trial court, with strict timelines and procedures that must be followed. Seth and Pete explore with Ceci how appeals aren't simply "do-overs" of the original case, but rather reviews of whether the trial judge made legal errors in their decision. Through their conversation, they break down the machinery of appeals - from filing deadlines to oral arguments before a panel of judges - and discuss what clients should expect during what can be a lengthy process lasting anywhere from 9 months to 2 years.Questions we answer in this episode:What exactly is an appeal and how does it differ from the original trial?How long does the appeals process typically take?What happens if you win your appeal?Key Takeaways:You have just 30 days from the final judgment to file an appealAppeals are expensive and time-consuming - carefully consider if it's worth pursuingWinning your appeal means starting over - potentially with the same judge who ruled against you initiallyThis episode provides an invaluable look at a complex but crucial part of the divorce process that many people misunderstand. Whether you're considering an appeal or just want to better understand how the system works, Ceci's expert insights combined with Seth and Pete's practical experience make this an essential listen for anyone navigating divorce proceedings.Links & NotesCeci Berman – Brannock Berman & SeiderSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - The Appeal with Ceci Berman (01:55) - How Is It Different? (04:04) - Who Decides? (07:21) - Finality (08:21) - Triggers for an Appeal (13:57) - Preservation of Error (20:16) - Mechanics of an Appeal (27:48) - Three Judges (29:25) - Time to Get an Opinion (32:06) - What Your Role Is (35:21) - Juggling Relationships with Attorneys (36:24) - Stays (38:24) - Questioning Results (39:51) - Hard to Win (41:31) - Taking Time (43:39) - Expensive (45:24) - Wrap Up

Mastering Courtroom Behavior: Your Guide to Trial SuccessIn this final installment of our three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa family law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deep into courtroom etiquette, behavior, and psychological preparation. As part of our season-long exploration of Your Divorce Case, this episode provides essential insights into how to present yourself effectively in court and work productively with your attorney during trial.Seth and Pete break down the discussion into three key segments: mastering courtroom behavior, being an asset to your attorney during trial, and psychological preparation. They explore everything from appropriate facial expressions and dress code to the importance of proper note-taking and communication with your attorney. The conversation also covers critical aspects of post-trial procedures, including motions for rehearing and appeals, while emphasizing the importance of maintaining composure both inside and outside the courtroom.Questions we answer in this episode:What are the most common courtroom etiquette mistakes that can hurt your case?How should you handle emotionally triggering statements during trial?What's the proper way to communicate with your attorney during proceedings?Key Takeaways:Maintain neutral facial expressions and conservative dress in courtUse note-taking to manage emotions and assist your attorney effectivelyStay off social media before, during, and after trialWhether you're preparing for trial or simply want to understand the court process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into navigating the complexities of divorce court. Seth and Pete's practical advice and real-world examples make this a must-listen for anyone facing divorce proceedings or interested in understanding courtroom dynamics.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:37) - The Trial Part III (01:16) - Mastering Courtroom Behavior (04:38) - Handling Emotional Triggers (06:48) - Judicial Hot Buttons (10:04) - Being an Asset to Your Legal Team (13:00) - Communicating During Zoom Court (13:29) - Strategy and Psychological Preparation (16:34) - The Courthouse Encounter (19:22) - Avoid Social Media (21:33) - Post-Trial Steps (25:45) - Testing Pete (30:27) - Don't Get Freaked Out (31:45) - Wrap Up

Prepare yourselves for a journey into the bewildering world of Bong Joon Ho's latest sci-fi offering. That's right—the director who brought you parasites in the basement and tentacles in the river has now delivered expendable humans on a frozen planet.In this week's utterly perplexing episode, Pete Wright gathers his gang of film-analyzing thugs to dissect "Mickey 17," a movie that asks the profound question: "What if your corporate job literally killed you repeatedly and you STILL couldn't quiet quit?"Our brave hosts—Tommy Metz III, Justin Jaeger, and the mysteriously summoned Andy Nelson (who apparently only materializes for "M" movies)—dive headfirst into this existential workplace nightmare starring Robert Pattinson as the universe's most exploited employee.The conversation spirals through multiple lanes of analysis—much like the film itself—touching on everything from identity ethics to alien sauce consumption to Mark Ruffalo's bombastic performance as what can only be described as "Poor Things, But Make It Space Napoleon."Is this a masterpiece of philosophical inquiry or a jumbled mess of unexplored concepts? Does it matter that they destroy the only machine that could save humanity? Why is there a man in a pigeon suit? AND MOST IMPORTANTLY—did any of these gentlemen actually enjoy the film?Join us for an hour of delightfully frustrated film criticism where our hosts attempt to extract meaning from what might be the most ambitious yet bewildering sci-fi release of the year. As Tommy so elegantly puts it: "I wish it wasn't so much movie."Film SundriesWatch this on Apple or Amazon, or find other places at JustWatchTheatrical trailerMickey7 by Edward AshtonLetterboxd

Trial Strategy: Making Your Case in Divorce CourtIn this second installment of their three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deeper into trial strategy and momentum. Part of their season-long "Your Divorce Case" conversation, this episode explores how attorneys navigate the complex dynamics of presenting evidence, examining witnesses, and adapting their approach as trials unfold. Building on last week's overview of courtroom basics, they now focus on the strategic elements that can make or break a case.Seth shares detailed insights about trial preparation, witness examination, and the intricate dance between attorneys, judges, and clients during proceedings. Through real-world examples and candid discussion, Seth and Pete break down how success is measured in divorce court, why "winning" isn't always what it seems, and how attorneys must constantly adjust their strategy as new evidence emerges. Their conversation reveals the complex reality behind courtroom proceedings, including how judges signal their thinking and why settlement offers often play a crucial role in defining success.Questions we answer in this episode:What happens when you finally take the witness stand?How do attorneys measure success in divorce court?Why don't clients really get their "day in court"?Key Takeaways:Trial momentum can shift dramatically between daysYour attorney should be completely transparent about how the case is progressingThe best outcome often beats the last settlement offer, not necessarily "wins" everythingWhether you're headed to trial or trying to decide if you should settle, this episode offers crucial insights into how divorce trials really work. Seth and Pete's practical discussion helps demystify the process while providing valuable perspective on what constitutes success in divorce court.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:37) - The Trial Part II (01:44) - Be Prepared for Anything (06:21) - It's Not Your Day in Court (08:56) - Sit Still and Don't React (10:55) - Legalese (16:19) - Shifting Strategies (20:56) - The Final Judgment (23:39) - Momentum (25:03) - In-Court Relationships (27:51) - Closing Statements (33:28) - Finishing the Case and Measuring Success (42:58) - Being Honest (46:04) - Wrap Up

Inside the Courtroom: What Really Happens During a Divorce TrialTampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore what really happens when a divorce case goes to trial in this first episode of a two-part deep dive. As part of the tenth season's "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete take listeners inside a Florida divorce courtroom, breaking down everything from the physical layout to the intricate procedures that govern these proceedings.Seth guides us through the mechanics of a divorce trial, describing the roles of everyone present—from the judge and attorneys to the bailiff and court reporter. The conversation examines how evidence is presented, the importance of proper documentation, and the strategic elements that shape trial proceedings. Pete's thoughtful questions help illuminate complex legal concepts, making them accessible to anyone facing divorce court.Questions we answer in this episode:What does a divorce courtroom look like and who will be there?How does evidence get admitted during a trial?What happens during opening statements and how do they shape the case?Key Takeaways:Trials move quickly—preparation and organization are crucialEvidence must be authenticated, relevant, and admissible to be consideredLike a tennis match, trials have momentum shifts but staying focused is keyWhether you're facing a divorce trial or simply want to understand the process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into how divorce trials actually work. Seth and Pete's engaging discussion demystifies the courtroom experience while offering practical knowledge about what to expect when your divorce goes to trial.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:36) - The Trial Part One (01:29) - The Courtroom (04:56) - Public Viewing (06:57) - Taking Notes (08:26) - Procedures (10:54) - Memoranda, Joint Stipulated Exhibits, Etc. (16:36) - Evidence (17:40) - Getting It Into the Transcript (19:00) - Housekeeping Issues (20:02) - Kids (20:24) - Back to Housekeeping Issues (23:58) - Opening Statements (27:06) - Presenting the Evidence (28:13) - Closing Statements (29:25) - Painting a Picture (30:15) - Chess Match (33:00) - Next Time and Wrap Up

Your Burning Divorce Questions: Expert Answers for Real-Life SituationsAs part of this season's deep dive into "Your Divorce Case," Pete Wright and family law attorney Seth Nelson tackle listener questions spanning complex financial arrangements to sensitive custody matters. Their insights provide practical guidance for navigating the intricate landscape of divorce proceedings.Real Solutions for Modern Divorce ChallengesThis episode explores creative solutions to modern divorce challenges, from managing shared living spaces post-divorce to handling delicate relationship transitions. Through real-world examples, Seth and Pete address concerns about property division, co-parenting, and legal documentation, offering actionable advice while emphasizing the importance of proper legal guidance.Listener Questions Covered:Post-divorce cohabitation: Managing shared home ownership with a low interest rateDating during slow-moving divorce proceedings: Understanding potential consequencesInternational divorce complications: Handling custody with a foreign national spouseReunification therapy timeline: What to expect in the healing processDocumenting parental alienation: Effective strategies for courtCatholic annulment concerns: Managing religious and legal proceedingsCreative settlement options: Handling significant age gap divorcesLegal annulment vs. divorce: Understanding the differences and requirementsEnforcing custody agreements: Dealing with violations and discovery requestsWhy This Episode MattersThe episode delivers valuable insights for anyone facing divorce, whether dealing with unique living arrangements, complex financial situations, or challenging custody scenarios. Seth and Pete's practical approach and clear explanations make complex legal concepts accessible while emphasizing the importance of making informed decisions throughout the divorce process.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - Listener Questions! (01:16) - Question One (09:44) - Question Two (12:06) - Question Three (14:26) - Question Four (16:09) - Question Five (20:06) - Question Six (25:40) - Question Seven (28:10) - Question Eight (31:11) - Question Nine (37:30) - Wrap Up

Demystifying the Appraisal Process in DivorceSeth and Pete dive deep into the complex world of appraisals during divorce proceedings. Whether you're dealing with real estate, wine collections, artwork, or vintage electronics, understanding how items are valued can significantly impact your divorce settlement.Getting your assets properly appraised is crucial for fair distribution in a divorce, but timing and strategy matter. Seth and Pete explore the differences between full appraisals and market analyses, when to get items appraised, and how to handle situations where collections or assets may be damaged or hidden. Through real examples and practical scenarios, they break down the systematic approach professional appraisers use to determine value.Questions we answer in this episode:When is the best time during divorce proceedings to get items appraised?Should both parties get separate appraisals or share one appraiser?How do courts handle significant differences between competing appraisals?Key Takeaways:Start the appraisal process early, especially for valuable collectionsDocument everything with photos and receipts before moving itemsFor items you want to keep, lower valuations work in your favor during settlementThis episode provides essential knowledge for anyone navigating property division in divorce. Seth and Pete offer practical guidance on protecting your interests while maintaining transparency in the appraisal process. Their discussion of real-world cases and strategic considerations makes complex appraisal concepts accessible and actionable.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Appraisals (02:02) - Garage Sale Value Unless… (03:07) - Why to Get an Appraisal (04:29) - When to Do It (05:29) - High vs. Low Appraisal (06:33) - Before or After Marriage Purchases (07:14) - Identification (08:51) - Quality (09:36) - Special Circumstances (09:52) - Value (13:48) - Separate vs. Joint Appraisals (15:44) - Analyzing the Appraisal (17:23) - Collecting Data (18:04) - Recording the Data (19:21) - The Report (19:54) - Can Be Tedious and Detailed (23:25) - Conflict in the Process (26:06) - Tainting Judge's Opinion (26:51) - Active Appreciation and Depreciation (28:33) - Virtual Appraisals (29:12) - When to Update Appraisals (31:15) - Back to High vs. Low (33:30) - When It's Overseas (35:22) - Wrap Up

Table of Contents: CINEMATOGRAPHY01:38 - “The Brutalist” - Lol Crawley02:52 - “Dune: Part Two” - Greig Fraser04:36 - “Emilia Pérez” - Paul Guilhaume06:48 - “Maria” - Ed Lachman09:08 - “Nosferatu” - Jarin BlaschkeORIGINAL SCORE10:29 - “The Brutalist” - Daniel Blumberg11:18 - “Conclave” - Volker Bertelmann13:04 - “Emilia Pérez” - Clément Ducol and Camille14:20 - “Wicked” - John Powell and Stephen Schwartz15:39 - “The Wild Robot” - Kris BowersSOUND18:06 - “A Complete Unknown” - Tod A. Maitland, Donald Sylvester, Ted Caplan, Paul Massey and David Giammarco19:41 - “Dune: Part Two” - Gareth John, Richard King, Ron Bartlett and Doug Hemphill20:57 - “Emilia Pérez” - Erwan Kerzanet, Aymeric Devoldère, Maxence Dussère, Cyril Holtz and Niels Barletta22:59 - “Wicked” - Simon Hayes, Nancy Nugent Title, Jack Dolman, Andy Nelson and John Marquis24:26 - “The Wild Robot” - Randy Thom, Brian Chumney, Gary A. Rizzo and Leff LeffertsThis past year featured some of the most stunning, innovative, and groundbreaking work in the categories of Cinematography, Original Score, and Sound. And since we've been diligently interviewing the artists and teams who have received Academy Award® nominations in those categories, we offer you this special round-up episode — to help give some greater insight into how to cast your final votes. The soundbites in this episode are mere snippets from the discussions we've been conducting through the past several months. If you'd like to take a deeper dive:FULL EPISODES, BY CATEGORY:= CINEMATOGRAPHY =“The Brutalist”237 - Lol Crawley and the Cinematography of The Brutalist - Feb 10th, 2025YouTube: https://youtu.be/d342-st5dvgSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0Txxk3xNAcmItPwsm9GquPApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/237-lol-crawley-and-the-cinematography-of-the-brutalist/id1549901182?i=1000690773442“Dune: Part Two”189 - Greig Fraser and the Cinematography of Dune: Part Two - March 5th, 2024YouTube: https://youtu.be/39p8wPkhmtMSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5WMtD1WbGGVBgrlQtSFzONApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/189-greig-fraser-and-the-cinematography-of-dune-part-two/id1549901182?i=1000648108720“Emilia Pérez”220 - The Making of Emilia Pérez - Dec 4th, 2024YouTube: https://youtu.be/VZruPNqHv3wSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1YHHeGMGzBwdTIXlHKAgz2Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/220-the-making-of-emilia-p%C3%A9rez/id1549901182?i=1000679018480“Maria”236 - Ed Lachman and the Cinematography of Maria - Feb 7th, 2025YouTube:

The Art of Divorce Depositions: Strategy, Preparation, and SuccessIn this episode of the season-long "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete tackle one of the most crucial elements of divorce proceedings: depositions. As Seth notes, depositions are where cases can be won or lost, making this episode essential listening for anyone facing divorce proceedings.The discussion reveals the strategic chess game that unfolds during depositions, from how attorneys prepare their clients to the careful dance of questions and answers. Seth shares insights from his years of experience, explaining why depositions are his favorite part of legal proceedings and how proper preparation can make all the difference. The episode covers everything from the basic structure of a deposition to advanced techniques for handling difficult questions, all while emphasizing the importance of authenticity and honesty in your responses.Questions we answer in this episode:What rules should I follow when answering deposition questions?How do attorney objections work during a deposition?What rights do I have if questioning becomes hostile?Key Takeaways:Listen carefully and only answer exactly what's askedTake your time reviewing documentsStay authentic - don't try to outsmart the processThis episode provides invaluable insights for anyone facing a deposition, offering both practical guidance and strategic understanding. Seth's enthusiasm for the deposition process, combined with real-world examples, makes complex legal concepts accessible and actionable for listeners.Links & NotesTune in to our Deposition Prep episode!Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Depositions (00:56) - What Is a Deposition? (02:41) - An Art, Not a Science (03:36) - Who Is Present? (04:02) - Questions and Answers and Objections (07:34) - Recorded vs. Live (09:10) - Strategy (13:39) - What You Can't Do (16:05) - Attorney Client Privilege (18:11) - Preparing the Client (20:33) - It's an Interview, Not a Conversation (23:00) - How Much Coaching Works (25:11) - Recording Types (27:27) - Understand the Theme of Your Case (30:33) - Ethical Considerations (32:44) - Take Your Time (35:33) - Making Mistakes (36:53) - Wrap Up

In this episode of our Your Divorce Case series, Seth and Pete explore the crucial role of Guardian Ad Litems (GALs) in custody cases. This episode breaks down how these court-appointed representatives work to protect children's interests during custody disputes, while navigating complex legal challenges like hearsay rules that can limit their effectiveness.The discussion centers on when and why courts appoint GALs, how they gather and present information, and their impact on custody decisions. Seth and Pete examine the limitations GALs face when presenting evidence from teachers, medical professionals, and other third parties, offering practical solutions for overcoming these obstacles. They also provide valuable insights into how parents can effectively work with GALs, including proper communication strategies and the importance of showing balanced perspectives about custody challenges.Questions we answer in this episode:When should you request a Guardian Ad Litem in your custody case?How can hearsay rules affect your GAL's effectiveness?What role do GALs play in the court's final custody decisions?Key Takeaways:Understanding hearsay rules is crucial for effective GAL testimonySuccessful GAL relationships require honest, organized communication from parentsCourts heavily weigh GAL recommendations, though they're not bound by themThis episode provides essential knowledge for parents navigating custody disputes. Whether you're considering requesting a GAL or have been assigned one, understanding their role, limitations, and the legal framework they operate within can significantly impact your case's outcome. Seth and Pete's practical advice offers valuable guidance for parents in the divorce process.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - The Guardian ad Litem (02:09) - Hearsay (04:52) - Truth of the Matter Asserted (06:43) - Exceptions to Hearsay Rule (09:05) - When to Use a GAL (10:48) - Connecting with the Kid (12:37) - Difference from a Therapist (14:32) - Impact (16:25) - How Do You Deal with the GAL? (17:55) - Coaching (20:14) - The Kid's Opinion (21:45) - Cost (23:04) - Common Mistakes (24:18) - Qualifications (26:41) - Wrap Up

I had Andy Nelson & Madison Woodward on to discuss the Top 5 Movies of 2024. Hell yeah.

Inside the Mediation Room: Understanding the Process with Family Law Mediator Tami SbarIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, part of the season-long series Your Divorce Case, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome back family law mediator Tami Sbar to dive deep into the mediation process. With 35 years of legal experience, Tami shares her unique perspective as a neutral party who helps divorcing couples reach agreements outside the courtroom. This episode builds on last week's discussion about mediation preparation, offering valuable insights into what actually happens during mediation sessions.Seth and Pete explore with Tami how mediation differs from courtroom proceedings, particularly in how it empowers couples to make their own decisions. Tami explains her role as a neutral facilitator rather than a decision-maker, and describes how she works with couples separately to help them reach mutually beneficial agreements. The conversation covers everything from managing power imbalances to handling emotional reactions, while providing practical examples of how mediators can help bridge communication gaps between divorcing partners.Questions we answer in this episode:What exactly does a mediator do during divorce proceedings?How do mediators handle situations with significant power imbalances?Can mediation address issues that courts can't enforce, like college expenses?Key Takeaways:Mediators work as neutral facilitators, not judges or decision-makersKeeping parties in separate rooms often leads to better outcomesSuccessful mediation requires both parties to be emotionally ready to settlePlus, we tackle another listener question! A parent asks about handling college expenses in states where courts don't address them, particularly when one parent previously promised to cover costs through inheritance. Seth and Tami discuss various solutions, from establishing trusts to creating detailed agreements with specific timeframes and conditions.Whether you're considering mediation or already scheduled for it, this episode provides crucial insights into the process. Tami's experienced perspective, combined with Seth and Pete's practical advice, offers valuable guidance for anyone navigating divorce mediation.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Mediation with Tami Sbar (01:29) - Tami's Background (03:32) - Conditions to Get Through It (04:46) - Being ‘A Neutral' (06:20) - Finding Underlying Reasons (07:53) - With or Without Lawyers (09:14) - Compartmentalization (11:26) - Preparing Mentally for Mediation (16:31) - How Lawyers Can Mess Things Up (21:02) - Your Authority (22:56) - Negotiating (25:01) - Power Imbalances (29:57) - Finding a Good Mediator (32:07) - Certification (32:51) - Feeling Comfortable with Your Mediator (34:42) - Listener Question (42:36) - Wrap Up

Preparing for Mediation: What You Need to KnowIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the importance of preparation when it comes to mediation. As part of the season-long series "Your Divorce Case," Seth and Pete aim to equip listeners with the knowledge and tools they need to navigate the mediation process effectively. Next week, they'll be joined by mediator Tami Sbar to discuss the mediation process in depth.Seth and Pete emphasize the significance of setting realistic expectations for clients and the crucial role of emotional readiness in the mediation process. They discuss the confidential nature of mediation and how it differs from a trial setting. The hosts also highlight the importance of having a solid parenting plan and a clear understanding of financial matters before entering mediation.Questions we answer in this episode:What is mediation, and how does it fit into the court process?How can you prepare emotionally and mentally for mediation?What should you bring to mediation, and what can you expect during the process?Key Takeaways:Preparation is key to a successful mediation. Draft a parenting plan and gather financial documents beforehand.Mediation is confidential, allowing parties to speak freely and explore options without fear of repercussions in court.Compromising beyond your comfort level may be necessary, but it's often better than the alternative of going to court.Plus, we tackle another listener question! In "Fed Up with Frivolous Motions," a listener asks how to deal with a spouse who refuses to mediate and constantly files frivolous motions. Seth suggests requesting a scheduling order from the judge to set deadlines and keep the case moving forward.This episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice for anyone preparing for mediation in their divorce case. By listening, you'll gain a better understanding of what to expect, how to prepare, and how to approach the process with the right mindset. Tune in to ensure you're well-equipped for your upcoming mediation session!Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Preparing for Mediation (01:14) - Setting Realistic Mediation Expectations (05:28) - Parenting Plan Mediation (09:13) - Getting Emotionally Ready (10:23) - Your Day to Talk Freely (14:12) - Goals (16:28) - What Causes Mediation to Fail (18:25) - Long Days (21:08) - Buyer's Remorse (25:08) - Last Notes (26:28) - Listener Question (30:02) - Wrap Up

Talking About Inglourious Basterds with our guest, cinematographer Shane HurlbutIn this engaging episode of Movies We Like, acclaimed cinematographer Shane Hurlbut joins hosts Andy Nelson and Pete Wright to discuss Quentin Tarantino's masterpiece Inglourious Basterds and share fascinating stories from his illustrious career behind the camera. From his humble beginnings on a farm in upstate New York to becoming one of Hollywood's most innovative cinematographers, Hurlbut's journey is filled with determination, creativity, and a fearless approach to his craft.The conversation delves deep into what makes Inglourious Basterds a cinematographic triumph, with Hurlbut breaking down the brilliant work of Robert Richardson and how the film's visual style enhances its storytelling. He discusses the importance of tension-building in Tarantino's work, the strategic use of lighting, and how the film's iconic scenes were crafted to maximize dramatic impact. The discussion also explores the significance of color, particularly the use of red throughout the film, and how it ties into the narrative themes.Hurlbut shares incredible behind-the-scenes stories from his own career, including his innovative work on films like Drumline, Terminator Salvation, and The Babysitter. He details how he overcame challenging shooting conditions, developed creative solutions to technical problems, and established strong collaborative relationships with directors like McG and Charles Stone III. His anecdotes about transforming limited resources into cinematic gold provide valuable insights into the art of cinematography.Inglourious Basterds stands as a testament to the power of masterful filmmaking, where every technical element serves the story's emotional core. Our conversation with Shane Hurlbut not only illuminated the brilliant craftsmanship behind this modern classic but also demonstrated how passion, innovation, and fearless creativity continue to push the boundaries of cinematic storytelling.Film SundriesFind Shane on his website, Facebook, Instagram, and IMDbLearn more about Filmmakers Academy on their YouTube channelWatch this on Apple or Amazon, or find other places at JustWatchScript OptionsTheatrical trailerLetterboxd Learn how to support our show and The Next Reel's family of film podcasts by becoming a member. It's just $5 monthly or $55 annually. Learn more here.Follow the other podcasts in The Next Reel's family of film podcasts:Cinema Scope: Bridging Genres, Subgenres, and MovementsThe Film BoardThe Next Reel Film PodcastSitting in the DarkJoin the conversation with movie lovers from around the world in our Discord community!Here's where you can find us around the internet:The WebLetterboxdCheck out poster artwork for movies we've discussed on our Pinterest pagePeteAndyWhat are some other ways you can support us and show your love? Glad you asked!You can buy our movie-related apparel, stickers, mugs and more from our MERCH PAGE.Or buy or rent movies we've discussed on the show from our WATCH PAGE.Or buy books, plays, etc. that was the source for movies we've discussed on the show from our ORIGINALS PAGE.Or renew or sign up for a Letterboxd Pro or Patron account with our LETTERBOXD MEMBERSHIP DISCOUNT.Or sign up for AUDIBLE.

The Final E: Understanding Everything Else in Your DivorceFamily law attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright wrap up their journey through the PEACE Process, focusing on that last E – the often-overlooked but crucial "Everything Else" component. In this episode, they break down the practical aspects of divorce proceedings that can make or break your case.Seth and Pete dive deep into the importance of process management in divorce cases, from document preparation to courtroom proceedings. They explore how setting clear goals at the start can help navigate the emotional complexity of divorce while staying focused on what matters most. The conversation covers everything from working with paralegals as accountability partners to understanding the role of private investigators in gathering evidence, and the critical aspects of attorney fees and retainers.Questions we answer in this episode:How do I manage the overwhelming amount of documentation needed for my divorce?What should I expect regarding timeline and costs for my divorce proceedings?How do attorney retainers work and what are my financial obligations?Key Takeaways:Start with your end goals and work backward to create an effective strategyMake time for your case and utilize support staff as accountability partnersUnderstand the true timeline of divorce proceedings - even "simple" cases typically take 3-18 monthsThis episode provides invaluable insights into the practical aspects of divorce proceedings that often catch people off guard. Seth and Pete's straightforward discussion about process management, documentation requirements, and financial considerations offers listeners a comprehensive roadmap for navigating their divorce journey more effectively.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:34) - Everything Else (01:30) - Attorney's Fees and the Process (02:26) - Starting at the End (06:13) - Reactive (07:25) - Foreign Place (09:59) - Working Backward (12:21) - Make the Time (14:54) - Working with a Paralegal (16:27) - Understanding the Next Step (18:19) - Trial Prep (20:39) - The Theme of Your Story (23:08) - Hiring PIs (25:07) - Client Gathering Info (28:37) - Walking Through It (33:39) - Attorney's Fees (39:50) - Tax Implications (40:21) - Wrap Up

Wicked has music that swings from massive orchestral pieces, to delicate underscore. There is sound design adding comedy, tension and fear. On top of all that, there is the singing, recorded live on set, that really brings out the emotions of the story. Production sound mixer Simon Hayes tells us how they captured the vocals on a busy set and supervising sound editors Nancy Nugent Title & John Marquis discuss building up the sounds to create the sonic world of Oz. Supervising music editor Jack Dolman, discusses how the music all came together from pre-records to the final edit. All that work, so re-recording mixers Andy Nelson and John Marquis could sculpt the mix to make this crowd pleasing epic operate at its peak. This episode is sponsored by Sound Ideas, check out their 50% off sale happening now until Jan 31st: https://www.sound-ideas.com Notes: https://tonebenderspodcast.com/293-wicked/ Podcast Homepage: tonebenderspodcast.com This episode is hosted by Timothy Muirhead

‘Tis the Season... for Co-Parenting Conflict!No parent wants to deal with emergency motion handling orders or duty judges on the holidays, but it happens. Stress can be high and the holidays – any holiday – can become a ripe place to pick a fight. So how do you avoid conflict to make the holidays still a special time for the kids?The key is to do everything you can to avoid problems. Often, that means getting your ego out of the way so that you and your ex can make it about the kids. Avoid exchanges on travel days. Try to not split actual holidays, but if you have to, think about the activities of the day and plan accordingly. (In other words, if you're splitting Christmas, do it in the afternoon so they can enjoy Christmas morning.) And do what you can to avoid escalation – perhaps you need to stay away from the eggnog until after you've dropped the kids off.What about gifts? The kids were used to getting gifts from both parents. You don't have to stop co-gifting just because you're divorced. It may be what your child needs to feel safe around the holiday. Seth and Pete offer lots of great advice. Tune in, and have yourself a happy and safe holiday season.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (01:00) - Co-Parenting During the Holidays (01:17) - Holiday Emergencies (03:09) - Don't Exchange on Travel Days (06:45) - Splitting Holidays (09:11) - Points of Escalation (11:05) - Gifts (14:27) - Other Holidays (21:06) - Avoid Conflict for the Kids (22:31) - Lower Expectations (22:59) - Enjoy the Holidays

Welcome to Winter! It's that time of year we love to hunker down and reflect, taking just a few weeks to recharge and prepare for the burst of new life in the spring. We have a few episodes from the archives to share with you over these cozy weeks. First up, what was originally an episode about splitting the summer holidays comes today, just in time for winter's chill!Winter, that time we celebrate the most cherished of all divorce traditions, that special time when you sit down and ask: how do you split the holidays?Let's get this out of the way early: if you have kids involved, splitting holidays is not easy. We're not just talking about the winter holidays, mind you. What about winter break... New Year's Eve, New Year's Day, Valentine's Day, birthdays, Mother's Day, Father's Day, spring break, President's Day, three-day weekends, teacher planning days, Jewish Holidays, Non-Hallmark holidays, and believe it or not, the list goes on from there!Luckily, after you wrap your head around the sheer number of days to calculate, you can rest easy in the comfort of the one person in your corner who can help you with all that holiday math: your lawyer. That's right, your lawyer has likely been through this many, many times and has seen every possible permutation of the holiday split and with a little patience, can get you scheduling like a pro. (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (01:21) - Splitting Holidays (24:58) - Definition of the Week – Deposition (26:58) - Working With Your Lawyer When It Comes to Holidays (33:58) - Wrapping Up

On this episode, I spoke to Re-recording Mixer Andy Nelson, Re-recording Mixer and Supervising Sound Editor John Marquis, and Supervising Sound Editor Nancy Nugent Title and Production Sound Mixer Simon Hayes about their work on Wicked.  Andy Nelson is a… 24x Oscar nominee (2x winner for Les Misérables and Saving Private Ryan)  22x BAFTA nominee (5x winner for Les Misérables, Moulin Rogue!, Saving Private Ryan, L.A. Confidential and Braveheart) 8x AMPS Award nominee 25x CAS Award nominee (3x winner for La La Land, Les Misérables and Saving Private Ryan) Simon Hayes is a…  2x Oscar nominee (Winner for Les Misérables) 3x BAFTA nominee (Winner for Les Misérables)  3x CAS Award nominee (Winner for Les Misérables)  2x AMPS Award nominee Nancy Nugent Title is a…  3x Emmy Award nominee (2x winner for Dinosaur Planet and When Dinosaurs Roamed America) 13x MPSE Award nominee (3x winner for Inglourious Basterds, Grand Canyon Adventure: River at Risk, and Top Speed)  John Marquis is a… 8x MPSE Award nominee (Winner for Megamind: The Button of Doom) 

In this episode, we are excited to welcome Andy Nelson; an Army Veteran, Intellectual Property Lawyer, Founding and Managing Attorney of Salient Counsel, a boutique intellectual property law firm based in Southern California. After transitioning from the Military, Andy graduated from law school and began practicing intellectual property law in Southern California. After 15 years in the industry, Andy decided to take the leap and go into business for himself.Andy will dive into the science of relationship building and some best practices for attracting and retaining clients. He'll also cover intellectual property and how you can protect your small business from potential liabilities down the road. Whether you are an aspiring lawyer or entrepreneur, seize this opportunity to learn from an expert in small business ownership and relationship building!Support the show

Uncovering Hidden Assets in Divorce with Forensic Accountant Kristin DiMeoIn this installment of our "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete welcome Kristin DiMeo, a forensic accountant and expert witness who has seen Seth in action representing clients in mediations and trials. The conversation focuses on Kristin's role in the divorce process, looking backwards at a couple's finances to uncover and analyze assets that may be hidden or overlooked.As a CPA, Kristin compiles and examines past financial records to help answer key questions about a divorcing couple's money matters. Beyond digging into the details, she also assists clients and attorneys in settlement discussions and preparing exhibits for court. Seth and Pete dig into what someone should expect when working with a forensic accountant like Kristin and how she approaches complex issues like business valuations.Questions we answer in this episode:What does a forensic accountant do in divorce cases?How does a forensic accountant work with divorcing individuals and attorneys?What are the different approaches to valuing a business in a divorce?Key Takeaways:Forensic accounting is about uncovering financial details, not always catching deceptionDivorcing individuals can help the process by gathering as many financial documents as possibleBusiness valuations in divorce consider assets, income, the market and non-marital factorsFor anyone facing a divorce who is unsure about the complete financial picture, this episode is a must-listen. Seth, Pete and Kristin break down the crucial role a forensic accountant can play in ensuring all assets are accounted for and valued properly to enable fair settlement discussions. Tune in for an inside look at the financial side of untangling a marriage.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:01) - Meet Kristin DiMeo (03:00) - The Forensic Accountant's Role (05:38) - Creating Transparency (10:49) - One or Both Parties (11:30) - Setting Up Your Expectations (15:44) - Discovery Methods (18:41) - Business Valuations (20:52) - Asset Approach (25:50) - Common Complications (29:02) - Alimony and Child Support (31:35) - Trial (35:29) - Live Questions (42:38) - Wrap Up Stay safe and sober this holiday season with Soberlink. Co-parenting can be challenging, especially when alcohol abuse is a concern. Give yourself and your family the gift of peace of mind during the holidays by using Soberlink's remote alcohol monitoring system. Improve trust, accountability, and communication in your co-parenting arrangement. Visit their site today to learn more and get $50 off. Happy Holidays from Soberlink!

Navigating the Complex World of Child SupportIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive deep into the often murky waters of child support, the C in the PEACE Process. With precise rules, high stakes, and emotions running even higher, understanding child support is crucial for anyone going through a divorce.Unraveling the Intricacies of Child SupportIn this installment of our season-long look called Your Divorce Case, Seth and Pete break down the complexities of child support, explaining that it has little to do with actual child expenses. Instead, the state uses a mathematical formula based on the combined net income of both parents to determine the amount of support needed. They discuss how factors such as the number of children, parenting time, and additional expenses like health insurance premiums and uncovered medical costs impact the calculation.Questions we answer in this episode:• How is child support calculated?• What factors influence child support payments?• Can the court deviate from the child support guidelines?Key Takeaways:• Child support is based on a formula, not actual child expenses.• The percentage of financial responsibility for each parent is crucial.• Regular recurring income, such as bonuses and vested stock options, counts towards child support calculations.Seth and Pete's in-depth analysis of child support provides valuable insights for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce. By understanding the nuances of the guidelines, parents can better prepare for the financial aspects of co-parenting and ensure the well-being of their children post-divorce.Links & NotesFree Child Support Calculations on Family Law SoftwareSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:00) - The PEACE Process: Child Support (04:34) - Not Just About Child Expenses (07:19) - Who Pays Whom? (13:19) - No Reason to Fight (13:47) - Deviating from Guidelines (15:50) - Kids from Multiple Marriages (19:02) - Finding the Net Income (27:19) - Changes in Circumstance (30:21) - Enforcement (32:07) - Bankruptcy (32:50) - Can't Waive the Right (33:48) - Modification (35:09) - How Does the Court Know? (37:33) - Extracurriculars (38:50) - Remarriages (42:34) - Almost Wrap Up (43:18) - Alimony (44:09) - Real Wrap Up Stay safe and sober this holiday season with Soberlink. Co-parenting can be challenging, especially when alcohol abuse is a concern. Give yourself and your family the gift of peace of mind during the holidays by using Soberlink's remote alcohol monitoring system. Improve trust, accountability, and communication in your co-parenting arrangement. Visit their site today to learn more and get $50 off. Happy Holidays from Soberlink!

Show Me The Money: Understanding Modern AlimonyIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the complex world of alimony. As part of their comprehensive P.E.A.C.E. Process mini-series, they break down what alimony really means today, who might be eligible, and how courts determine payments.Over the course of the episode, Seth and Pete demystify how alimony actually works. They explore everything from basic calculations to lifestyle considerations, debunk common misconceptions about savings components, and explain why "need and ability to pay" matters more than simple income differences. The discussion covers various types of alimony payments, from short-term support during transitions to longer-term arrangements, and explains how courts look at the whole financial picture.Questions we answer in this episode:• How do courts calculate alimony payments?• What expenses can be included in alimony calculations?• Can I modify my alimony after divorce?Key Takeaways:• Alimony is based on need and ability to pay, not just income differences• Don't forget to factor in new expenses like health insurance and HOA dues• Consider lump sum payments to avoid ongoing financial entanglementPlus, we tackle several listener questions! From high-income scenarios to job loss situations, Seth explains how courts handle various real-world alimony challenges and what rights both parties have when circumstances change.Whether you're facing divorce or just want to understand how modern alimony works, this episode provides essential insights into one of divorce's most misunderstood aspects. Seth and Pete's practical approach makes complex financial concepts accessible while offering strategies to protect yourself financially during and after divorce.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - PEACE: Alimony (02:20) - Quiz Time (05:58) - Starting Point (07:37) - Understanding Where the Money's Going (11:47) - Forensic Accounting (12:49) - Unanticipated Income (15:55) - Ability to Pay (19:14) - Changes in Alimony (21:26) - Ways to Save in Fees (28:12) - Listener Questions (33:28) - Wrap Up

Splitting Assets in Divorce: More Than Just Breaking a Toaster in HalfIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright tackle the thorny issue of dividing assets in divorce. As part of their P.E.A.C.E. Process mini-series, Seth and Pete break down what "equitable distribution" really means - and why it's about way more than just splitting everything 50/50.Seth and Pete walk through the four key steps of dividing assets: Identification (what stuff do we actually have?), Classification (whose stuff is it really?), Valuation (what's it worth?), and Distribution (who gets what?). They cover everything from basic bank accounts to complex business valuations, and even dive into some surprising assets you might not think about - like vacation days and airline miles. Along the way, they share real-world examples that show why "fair" in divorce court might not match your definition of fairness.Questions we answer in this episode:• How do you figure out what's "yours," "mine," and "ours" in a divorce?• What happens when one person tries to hide assets?• Can my ex get half my frequent flyer miles?Key Takeaways:• Just because something's in your name doesn't mean it's all yours• Personal goodwill (like your winning personality) isn't a marital asset• Sometimes arguing for "fairness" means you've already lostPlus, we tackle another listener question! A California resident asks about inherited money that got mixed into shared accounts and home purchases during marriage. Seth explains why following the money matters and how different states handle these situations differently (spoiler alert: location matters!).Whether you're facing divorce or just curious about how courts slice and dice assets, this episode breaks down complex legal concepts into bite-sized pieces. Seth and Pete take a practical approach to help make this topic both digestible and surprisingly engaging.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - PEACE: Equitable Distribution (01:10) - Equitable, Not Equal (01:38) - Identification (03:55) - Classification (09:35) - Both Marital and Non-Marital (11:30) - Filing Date (12:23) - Proof (13:32) - Rings (14:42) - Valuation (19:34) - Valuing a Business (24:40) - Distribution (26:55) - Not Equitable (28:21) - Hiding Assets (31:52) - Prenups (34:40) - Lots of Nuance (35:26) - Listener Question (41:16) - Wrap Up

Reunification Therapy: Rebuilding Parent-Child Relationships During and After DivorceSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome psychotherapist Gina Aguinaga to explore one of the most challenging aspects of divorce: repairing fractured parent-child relationships. As part of their ongoing "Your Divorce Case" series, this episode dives deep into reunification therapy. Gina, who specializes in helping families navigate difficult divorces and separations, brings her expertise to this crucial conversation about healing broken family bonds.The episode examines the nuanced dynamics of parent-child estrangement during divorce, including both unintentional and intentional alienation behaviors. Seth and Pete guide the discussion through practical approaches to rebuilding relationships, from simple first steps like phone calls to the importance of maintaining presence at children's events. Gina shares insights from her therapeutic process, emphasizing the need to treat family issues holistically rather than focusing solely on the rejected parent and child relationship.Questions we answer in this episode:What behaviors or situations typically lead to parent-child estrangement during divorce?How can parents start rebuilding damaged relationships with their children?When should families seek reunification therapy versus trying to handle issues themselves?Key Takeaways:Start with small, manageable steps toward rebuilding relationshipsFocus on the child's activities and interests during reconnection attemptsAddress issues early - waiting only makes reunification more challengingThis vital installment in the children and divorce conversation provides essential guidance for parents navigating complicated family dynamics. Through professional insight and practical examples, listeners gain valuable strategies for maintaining and rebuilding parent-child relationships during the divorce process, making it a crucial resource for families in transition.Links & NotesFind Gina and learn more about the reunification process at her websiteSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Gina Aguinaga, Reunification Specialist (01:00) - When Reunification Therapy Is Needed (03:36) - Reasons (06:25) - When the Child Doesn't Want to Connect (07:59) - Role of Favored Parent (10:27) - Intentional Alienation (13:20) - Court-Ordered (15:41) - The Favored Parent's Perspective (16:57) - Frequency (18:48) - Changing Outcomes (20:49) - New People in Parents' Lives (21:12) - Extended Family (22:24) - Harder Cases (24:04) - When They're Doing the Work (26:14) - Out of State (27:50) - Get Your Own Treatment Too (30:24) - Finding Gina

Parenting Across Two Homes: Strategies for Success After DivorceIn this installment of our Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright continue the conversation about parenting plans by exploring the realities of co-parenting children across two households after divorce. They are joined by Leanne Tran, a registered psychologist who specializes in working with children and families dealing with autism, ADHD, and learning disorders. Building upon the previous episode about crafting effective parenting plans, Seth and Pete dive deeper into the impacts of divorce on children and strategies for successful co-parenting, with a special focus on the unique considerations for neurodivergent kids.Leanne shares valuable insights on the key factors that influence how children cope with the changes brought by divorce, such as the level of parental conflict, disruption to routines and sense of identity, and the emotional and behavioral signs of distress parents should watch out for. The discussion also touches on the additional challenges faced by neurodivergent children, who may struggle more with transitions, need for sameness, and sensory sensitivities. Leanne emphasizes the importance of parents being on the same page, providing consistency across households, and being mindful of the impact on siblings as well.Questions we answer in this episode:What signs indicate a child is struggling emotionally with divorce?How can parents best support neurodivergent children across two homes?What should be considered when introducing a new partner to the family dynamic?Key Takeaways:Changes in behavior, emotions, sleep, appetite, and interests can signal distress.Consistency, predictability, and catering to sensory needs are crucial for neurodivergent kids.Clear communication and gradual introductions help children adjust to new partners.Through the lens of her expertise, Leanne provides valuable guidance for parents navigating the complexities of co-parenting, both for neurotypical and neurodivergent children. This episode offers practical tips and compassionate advice to help families thrive after divorce, building upon the foundation of a well-crafted parenting plan discussed in the previous episode. Tune in for insights that can make a real difference in your post-divorce parenting journey.Links & NotesFind Leanne on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and her websiteListen to Leanne's podcast Parent Like a PsychologistSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:10) - Meet Leanne Tran (04:21) - Impact on Kids (06:20) - Signs of Distress (07:51) - Changing Their Own Identity (11:11) - Changes in Routine (13:35) - When They're Neurodiverse (18:43) - Autism (21:03) - Splitting Time (23:03) - Finding a Sense of Regulation (23:48) - Impact on Siblings (25:14) - New Partners (28:26) - Therapeutic Options (32:13) - Handling Parenting Plan (33:51) - Priority Dilution (38:17) - Finding Leanne (39:32) - Wrap Up Learn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT. 

Parenting Plans: The Foundation of Co-Parenting After DivorceIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deep into the crucial topic of parenting plans as part of their season-long series, Your Divorce Case. Seth shares his expertise on the essential components of a parenting plan and how they can help establish a solid foundation for co-parenting after divorce.Navigating the Complexities of Parenting PlansSeth and Pete discuss the key aspects of parenting plans, including parental responsibility, time-sharing, and addressing the unique needs of children at different ages. They explore how the court determines the best interests of the child using various factors and delve into the implications of relocation cases. The hosts also touch on the importance of flexibility and adaptability in parenting plans while maintaining clear and enforceable guidelines.Questions we answer in this episode:What are the essential components of a parenting plan?How do courts determine the best interests of the child?What happens when one parent needs to relocate for work?Key Takeaways:Parenting plans should be clear, unambiguous, and enforceableFlexibility and adaptability are crucial for successful co-parentingSubstantial changes in circumstances can warrant modifications to the parenting planThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce with children. Seth's expertise and Pete's thoughtful questions provide listeners with a comprehensive understanding of parenting plans and how they can help establish a strong foundation for co-parenting after divorce. By tuning in, you'll gain the knowledge and tools needed to create a parenting plan that prioritizes your children's well-being and fosters a healthy co-parenting relationship.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:10) - PEACE: Parenting Plan (03:08) - Essential Components (05:58) - Legal Terms (07:49) - Determining What's Best for the Child (11:27) - Weight for the Factors (12:52) - Geography (15:51) - How Detailed? (18:32) - Allowing for Flexibility (20:39) - Modifying It (23:19) - Enforceability (26:18) - Education, Healthcare, Extracurriculars, Etc. (29:14) - Changes in FL Law (31:01) - It's About the Child, Not You (33:03) - Wrap Up Learn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT. 

Temporary Relief in Your DivorceIn the latest installment of the Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the complex world of temporary relief. Join them as they explore what temporary relief is, who it helps, who it hurts, and why it matters in the grand scheme of your divorce proceedings.Navigating the Choppy Waters of DivorceSeth and Pete break down the concept of temporary relief, a legal lifeline designed to keep families afloat during the tumultuous divorce process. They discuss how temporary relief can address critical issues like parenting plans, alimony, child support, and attorney's fees. The hosts also delve into the pros and cons of seeking temporary relief and the potential impact on the final outcome of your case.Questions we answer in this episode:What is temporary relief and how can it help during a divorce?How do you request temporary relief and what can you ask for?What are the potential drawbacks of pursuing temporary relief?Key Takeaways:Temporary relief can level the playing field in contentious divorcesRequesting temporary relief involves filing motions and attending hearingsSeeking temporary relief can be costly and time-consuming, so weigh the pros and consSeth and Pete emphasize that while temporary relief can provide much-needed support during a divorce, it's crucial to consider the financial and emotional costs involved. They offer valuable insights into the strategic decisions you'll face when contemplating temporary relief in your own divorce case.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating divorce. With their trademark wit and expertise, Seth and Pete provide the guidance you need to make informed decisions about temporary relief and protect your interests during this challenging time.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:10) - Temporary Relief (03:35) - What It's Supposed to Do (16:38) - Why to Consider It (17:25) - The Process (20:06) - Pros and Cons (26:06) - Review (27:59) - How Influential (29:47) - Wrap Up (30:03) - Listener Question Learn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT. 

Meet the Key Players in Your DivorceIn this seventh installment of the "Your Divorce Case" series on How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the various court personnel and professionals you might encounter during your divorce proceedings. From judges to forensic accountants, they break down the roles and responsibilities of each key player, helping you navigate the complex world of divorce court with greater ease and understanding.Throughout the episode, Seth and Pete discuss a wide range of court personnel, including trial judges, appellate judges, judicial assistants, bailiffs, court reporters, and clerks of the court. They also explore the roles of professionals outside the courtroom, such as divorce attorneys, paralegals, forensic accountants, guardians ad litem, mediators, and more. By understanding the function of each individual, you'll be better prepared to work with them effectively throughout your case.Questions we answer in this episode:Who are the key players in a divorce case, both inside and outside the courtroom?What roles do court personnel and professionals play in the divorce process?How can understanding these roles help you navigate your divorce more effectively?Key Takeaways:Familiarize yourself with the various court personnel and professionals involved in your case.Understand the responsibilities of each key player to work with them more effectively.Respect and be courteous to all individuals involved, as their actions can impact your case.As part of the "Your Divorce Case" series, this episode is a must-listen for anyone going through a divorce or considering one. By gaining a clear understanding of the key players in your case, you'll be empowered to make informed decisions and work more productively with your legal team. Seth and Pete's insights will help you feel more confident and prepared as you navigate this challenging process.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:10) - Court Personnel (04:06) - Pop Quiz (10:55) - Appellate Judge (14:04) - Trial Judge (14:45) - Judicial Assistant (15:19) - Bailiff (16:39) - Court Reporter (17:32) - Paralegals, Legal Assistant, Scheduler, Clerk of the Court (18:55) - Mediation (23:22) - Forensic Accountant (26:33) - Corporate Counsel (28:04) - Social Investigator (29:07) - General Magistrate (31:30) - Lawyers (33:13) - Other Roles (38:24) - Wrap Up Learn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT. 

Effortlessly Navigate the Motions Maze in Your Divorce CaseIn this sixth installment of our series, Your Divorce Case, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deeper into the world of motions in divorce proceedings. Building upon the foundation laid in Motions Part I, we explore the differences between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings, discuss various types of motions you may encounter, and provide valuable insights to help you navigate this crucial aspect of your divorce case.Seth and Pete break down the key distinctions between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings, highlighting the importance of understanding what to expect in each type of hearing. They also discuss common motions, such as temporary orders, restraining orders, and motions to compel, providing real-world examples and practical advice for listeners facing these challenges in their own divorce cases.Questions we answer in this episode:What's the difference between evidentiary and non-evidentiary hearings?Do I need to testify at every hearing during my divorce?What are some common motions filed in divorce cases?Key Takeaways:Always be prepared to answer questions in court, even if it's a non-evidentiary hearing.Evidentiary hearings are like mini-trials, with witnesses, evidence, and cross-examination.Familiarize yourself with the types of motions that may arise in your divorce case.This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce. Seth and Pete's insights and practical advice will help you understand the motions process, prepare for hearings, and make informed decisions throughout your case. Whether you're just starting your divorce journey or in the thick of it, this episode will provide the knowledge and confidence you need to move forward.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Motions Part II (01:11) - Catch-Up on Last Week (02:41) - Motions Quiz (12:18) - Evidentiary vs. Non-Evidentiary Hearings (25:40) - What to Expect as the Client (28:07) - When They're Filed Against Me (34:54) - Next Week: Court Personnel

In part 5 of the Your Divorce Case series, Seth and Pete dive deep into the world of motions in divorce law. They explore what motions are, why they matter, and how the right move can dramatically impact your case.Seth and Pete break down the different types of motions, from motions to compel and for contempt, to emergency motions and motions for temporary relief. They discuss the requirements and strategies for each, sharing insider tips on how to effectively present your case to the judge in the limited time you have.Questions we answer in this episode:What are motions and why are they important in divorce cases?How do I get a hearing scheduled for my motion?What types of motions are common in divorce proceedings?Key Takeaways:Motions are requests for the court to take action before the case is finalizedThoroughly prepare for your motion hearing as time with the judge is limitedUnderstand the specific requirements and procedures for different types of motionsWhether you're seeking temporary alimony, exclusive use of the marital home, or enforcement of a prior court order, this episode arms you with the knowledge to confidently navigate the maze of motions in divorce court. Seth and Pete's expert insights and practical advice make this a must-listen for anyone facing divorce litigation.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Motions (02:13) - What Are They? (11:17) - Emergency Motions (13:03) - Motion for Temporary Relief (17:39) - Scheduling a Hearing (26:00) - After the Ruling (33:58) - Next Week: Motions Part II (35:03) - Wrap Up

Divorce Questions Answered: Navigating the ComplexitiesIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into listener questions, addressing a wide range of divorce-related topics. From the financial implications of staying married on paper to the impact of alcohol consumption on custody, Seth and Pete provide insightful guidance to help you navigate the complexities of divorce.Throughout the episode, Seth and Pete tackle real-life scenarios submitted by listeners, offering practical advice and legal perspectives. They discuss the pros and cons of staying married for financial benefits, the factors considered in relocation cases, and the potential consequences of winning the lottery during a divorce. Seth and Pete also address the emotional challenges of dating during a divorce and the importance of focusing on your children's well-being.Some questions we answer in this episode:• What are the financial pros and cons of staying married on paper?• How does alcohol consumption impact custody decisions?• Can a judge force a parent to return after relocating without filing?Key Takeaways:• Timing and legal nuances play a crucial role in divorce proceedings.• Prioritize your children's well-being and seek legal advice before making decisions.• Be mindful of the long-term consequences of your actions during a divorce.Whether you're considering a divorce or currently going through one, this episode provides valuable insights and guidance. Seth and Pete's expertise and relatable approach make complex legal concepts accessible, empowering you to make informed decisions. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the divorce process and discover strategies to protect your interests and maintain healthy relationships.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:04) - Listener Questions (02:50) - Married-ish in Malibu (09:11) - Alcohol and Custody (13:14) - Muddled by Moving (16:02) - Lucky Lotto Limbo (18:33) - Longing for Love (20:58) - Pregnant and Perplexed (24:34) - Pension Ponderer (26:57) - Retirement Percentage Perplexed (28:44) - Dissolution Deliberator (31:53) - Sam (33:21) - Family Law Fixer (37:17) - Saddled with Spousal Support (41:05) - Reconciliation Rollercoaster (42:52) - Falsely Accused Father (45:17) - Endless Ex Entanglement (49:49) - Commingled Cash Conundrum (50:18) - Breathalyzer Burden of Proof Puzzled (51:31) - Wrap Up Establishing trust with Co-Parents can be difficult when alcohol abuse is involved. Use Soberlink as an opportunity to improve co-parenting arrangements. Visit their site to learn more and get a promo code for $50 off.

Navigating the Complexities of Pleadings in DivorceIn this episode of "How to Split a Toaster" – part three of our Your Divorce Case series – Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the intricate world of divorce proceedings, focusing on the crucial role of pleadings. Seth and Pete aim to demystify the legal jargon and provide valuable insights to help listeners navigate their divorce cases more effectively.We explore the emotional and legal significance of filing for divorce, discussing the various documents involved, such as petitions, counter-petitions, and answers. They shed light on the importance of properly drafting and filing these documents, as they set the stage for the entire divorce process. The hosts also delve into the nuances of residency requirements and how they can impact the court's jurisdiction over a case.Questions we answer in this episode:What are pleadings and why are they important in a divorce case?How can the way pleadings are drafted influence the outcome of your divorce?What should you consider when deciding whether to file for divorce first?Key Takeaways:Pleadings are crucial documents that set the foundation for your entire divorce case.It's essential to work with your lawyer to ensure your pleadings accurately reflect your goals and desires.Understanding the legal terminology and process can help you make informed decisions throughout your divorce.This episode provides a wealth of information for anyone considering or currently going through a divorce. By breaking down complex legal concepts and offering practical advice, Seth and Pete empower listeners to take a more active role in their divorce cases and work towards achieving the best possible outcome for themselves and their families.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:04) - Pleadings (03:09) - The Filing (05:34) - A Pleading (06:50) - Petition and Answer and Counter Petition (11:04) - Residency (15:42) - Notice Pleadings (17:57) - Amended Positions (22:37) - Getting Pleadings Right (26:11) - Boilerplate Items (30:32) - When Pleadings are Closed (32:23) - Your Answer (38:19) - Wrap Up Establishing trust with Co-Parents can be difficult when alcohol abuse is involved. Use Soberlink as an opportunity to improve co-parenting arrangements. Visit their site to learn more and get a promo code for $50 off.

Navigating the Do's and Don'ts of DivorceThis week on How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the second episode of Your Divorce Case, a season dedicated to providing listeners with practical advice for navigating the complexities of divorce. This episode tackles a critical aspect of the process: your actions. Seth and Pete emphasize the importance of taking responsibility and making conscious choices throughout the divorce journey to minimize conflict, reduce legal fees, and prioritize the well-being of everyone involved.This episode centers around the concept of maintaining the "status quo." Seth and Pete explain the significance of standing orders, which are court-issued guidelines that dictate behavior during divorce proceedings. They delve into various aspects of maintaining the status quo, such as managing finances, co-parenting responsibly, and communicating effectively. From handling credit card spending to navigating shared expenses and making major purchases, they offer practical advice on avoiding common pitfalls that can escalate conflict and legal costs. They also emphasize the importance of clear, respectful communication with your ex-spouse, especially when it comes to children, and caution against involving friends and family in a way that could negatively impact the case.Questions we answer in this episode:What are standing orders, and how do they impact my divorce?How can I manage finances responsibly during the divorce process?What are the implications of dating during a divorce?Key Takeaways:Maintain the "status quo" in all aspects of your life, particularly finances and childcare.Communicate with your ex-spouse clearly, respectfully, and factually, avoiding emotional language.Seek support from a therapist rather than involving friends and family, who could potentially become witnesses in your caseThis episode of How to Split a Toaster is an invaluable resource for anyone going through a divorce. Seth and Pete provide practical advice and actionable steps to help listeners navigate the process with greater clarity, control, and peace of mind.Links & NotesBIFF for Co-Parent Communication by Bill EddySchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:04) - Your Actions Matter (04:31) - Standing Orders (05:20) - Financial Status Quo (11:10) - Out of the Ordinary Expenses (14:13) - Standing Orders with Kids (16:34) - Communication Strategies (20:45) - “I believe” (22:24) - Dating During Your Divorce (25:35) - Discoverable (26:26) - Friends and Family (28:25) - Protected Communication (29:29) - Therapist (31:29) - Relocation (36:09) - The Move (42:24) - Documents (44:15) - No Photos (46:11) - Next Time: Pleadings (47:49) - Wrap Up Establishing trust with Co-Parents can be difficult when alcohol abuse is involved. Use Soberlink as an opportunity to improve co-parenting arrangements. Visit their site to learn more and get a promo code for $50 off.

In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright kick off season 10 with an exciting and in-depth season-long series: Your Divorce Case. In this first episode, we start by diving into one of the most important relationships you'll have during your divorce: the one with your attorney. Seth shares his expertise on establishing the attorney-client relationship, from the initial consultation to the next steps in the process.Seth and Pete discuss key aspects of working with a divorce attorney, including attorney-client privilege, conflict checks, and what to expect during your first call. They also explore strategies for finding the right lawyer for your case and how having a good attorney on the other side can benefit both parties.Questions we answer in this episode:• When does the attorney-client relationship begin?• What should you expect during the initial consultation?• How can you prepare for your first call with a divorce attorney?Key Takeaways:• Attorney-client privilege starts from the moment you believe the attorney represents you, even without a formal agreement.• Be prepared for conflict checks and providing basic information during your first call.• Having a skilled attorney on the other side can help resolve your case more efficiently.Seth and Pete's insights will help you navigate the early stages of your attorney-client relationship with confidence. By understanding the process and knowing what to expect, you'll be better equipped to work with your lawyer and achieve your goals in the divorce.This episode is packed with valuable information that can save you time, money, and stress as you begin working with a divorce attorney. Tune in to learn how to establish a strong foundation for one of the most critical relationships in your divorce journey.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - The First Call (01:39) - The Attorney-Client Relationship (06:49) - Tracking Conflicts (09:11) - What You Should Expect (12:41) - Conflicting-Out Strategies (15:44) - Goal for This Conversation (20:57) - Cost and Duration (22:33) - Expectations for Second Call (24:31) - Season 10 Plans (26:26) - Checklist (27:59) - Wrap Up Establishing trust with Co-Parents can be difficult when alcohol abuse is involved. Use Soberlink as an opportunity to improve co-parenting arrangements. Visit their site to learn more and get a promo code for $50 off.

Learning to Communicate with a NarcissistNarcissist Divorce Coach Victoria McCooey joins Seth and Pete to talk about the challenges that come when trying to get out of a marriage to a narcissist. It's not easy! We walk through Victoria's three stages in communicating with your narcissist soon-to-be ex that can help you more easily navigate this difficult situation through each of its phases.Victoria has been through her own divorce from just this sort of person and has turned that experience into a powerful mission to help others do the same.Links & NotesVictoria McCooey Coaching:on the webon Instagramon Facebookon TikTokon YouTubeSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (01:34) - Meet Victoria McCooey (02:05) - Three Phases in Communicating With a Narcissistic Spouse (04:31) - Getting Ahead (06:10) - Turning to Attorney (07:29) - The Stepford Wife Phase (09:05) - Phase Two (10:05) - Learning to Not Take the Bait (15:22) - Taking a While to Get Out (17:17) - Communicating During Divorce Podcast (18:38) - STUFF (21:12) - Other People's Eyeballs (22:32) - Problem With Message or Sender? (24:28) - Kids Are the Priority (26:06) - Asking Lawyer What to Gather (27:03) - Getting Stronger (28:58) - How Will It Be Presented? (29:59) - Phase Three (33:01) - Reaching Out to Victoria (36:14) - Wrap Up

When you hear the term ‘Custody Battle,' you have a certain image in your mind. Courtroom fights, crying kids, the worst stereotypes we learn from movies and television. But what happens when you find yourself in a fight for the custody of your kids for real? This week on the show, we welcome Reneé Rodriguez, custody coach and founder of Best Foot Forward, a company with a singular mission: helping parents navigate family court in contentious custody situations.We talk about perspective – look at what you're bringing to your lawyer. Are they gripes? Or are they real issues? There's a difference between the real world and the legal world, and it's important to know the difference. The goal, of course, is to help you as the parent figure out what's actually in your best interest. That doesn't necessarily line up with what you think is in your best interest. The faster you're able to connect with that, the easier your custody battle will be.The key in all custody cases is, of course, the kids. How do you protect your kids so they are damaged as little as possible in the process? This is particularly true when trying to get away from a spouse who is a narcissist or abusive. And the real struggle here is that you have to acknowledge that court-ordered parenting classes rarely make a change in a parent. Courts can't order parents change to be better parents. But judges are real people. They're working to help the child end up in the best situation they can.There's a lot to discuss about this topic. Tune in!About ReneéI help parents in a custody battle against a narcissistic co-parent to go into family court and get the custody arrangement that's best for their kids.  These women and men have suffered psychological abuse at the hands of their former partners and are working to ensure their children are protected from further cruelty.  My company, Best Foot Forward, was founded in early 2018, born out of the encouragement of others to focus on what I had become highly skilled at--navigating family court with my particular strategy and set of templates and sharing all of this with others.Links & NotesNational Domestic Violence HotlineBest Foot Forward LLCBest Foot Forward's Custody TemplatesReneé on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTubeSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (01:44) - Meet Reneé Rodriguez (02:19) - Custody Battles (06:23) - Important to You vs. The Court (11:34) - Coaching the Parent (13:28) - What's Fair (14:06) - Documentation (17:56) - Buried in Details (19:54) - The Kids (23:59) - What's Kept Them Stable (27:46) - Domestic Violence (36:46) - High Conflct (39:25) - DV Hotline (40:15) - Reneé's Background (48:44) - Best Foot Forward (50:16) - Contentious Cases (51:26) - Wrap Up