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Protecting Your Kids Through Divorce: A Mental Health Expert's GuideSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome Dr. Larry Waldman, a psychologist with over four decades of clinical experience helping families navigate divorce. As the author of "Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex," Dr. Waldman shares crucial insights on protecting children from trauma during divorce and maintaining healthy parent-child relationships through major life transitions.The conversation explores the often-invisible ways parents unknowingly traumatize their children during divorce, from erasing evidence of the other parent to making children emotional confidants. Dr. Waldman, Seth, and Pete discuss practical strategies for maintaining stability, fostering healthy co-parenting relationships, and ensuring children feel secure and supported throughout the divorce process. Their discussion weaves together psychological insights with legal considerations, offering a comprehensive guide for parents navigating this challenging transition.Questions we answer in this episode:How do parents unknowingly traumatize their children during divorce?What's the best way to handle transitions between homes?When should older children have input in scheduling decisions?Key Takeaways:Keep photos of both parents visible in children's spacesFocus on positive experiences during transitions between homesMaintain appropriate parent-child boundaries; don't make children confidantsThis episode provides essential guidance for any parent going through divorce, offering both practical strategies and deeper insights into protecting children's emotional well-being. Dr. Waldman's expertise, combined with Seth's legal perspective and Pete's facilitation, creates a valuable resource for maintaining healthy family relationships during and after divorce.Links & NotesGet Dr. Waldman's book “Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex”Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - Meet Larry Waldman (01:11) - Invisible Damage (04:48) - Damnatio Memoriae (06:15) - What Does Divorce Look Like to the Child? (08:47) - Making the Child a Confidant (09:32) - Weaponizing Your Kids in Court (10:30) - Someone New (12:19) - Stability and Security During the Divorce (15:26) - When They're Older (20:00) - Your Child Is the Focus (21:04) - When They Grow Up (22:22) - When They Come Back from the Other Parent's (23:59) - Using the Kid as a Scapegoat (25:51) - Larry's Book (27:16) - Demonstrating What's Most Important (29:38) - Wrap Up

Welcome to Season 10 of All the Feelings, where your hosts Pete Wright and Tommy Metz III take you on a guided tour of that weird liminal space between “I should know better by now” and “Why does filling out a W-2 feel like a personality test written by Kafka?”In this premiere episode, the subject is Money, starting with the slow-burning crisis of homeownership. Tommy—staunch apartment loyalist and occasional demon extractor—wonders if owning property is still the pinnacle of adult success, or just another gatekeeping tradition propped up by 1940s mortgage policy and peer pressure from ghosts. Pete, long-time homeowner and accidental handyman, walks us through the real cost of grass, siding, and painting things that no landlord will pay for.Then, it's Tax Time: the annual gauntlet where America's adults cosplay as accountants and hope they don't accidentally confess to fraud. If you've ever had to Google “What is MAGI?” and gotten answers involving sorcery or the Nativity, this episode is for you. Pete recounts his annual ritual of fiscal shame and digital form-filling dread, and Tommy offers a scathing comparison between the IRS and the HOV lane—both of which function primarily through fear.Along the way, we explore the emotional toll of systems that are designed to be opaque, the quiet panic of feeling unqualified to do basic grown-up things, and why the true cost of adulthood might just be your confidence. Spoiler: No one really knows what they're doing. Even Einstein.

De-escalating High-Conflict Divorce: A Rabbi's Perspective on Finding PeaceRabbi Avi Kahan joins Seth Nelson and Pete Wright to explore how de-escalation techniques and cultural sensitivity can help families reach sustainable resolutions during divorce. As a mediator handling complex religious and cultural divorce cases, Rabbi Kahan brings unique insights into managing high-conflict situations and helping couples transition from being spouses to successful co-parents.The conversation delves deep into how fear and conflict often mask deeper emotional struggles during divorce. Seth and Pete explore with Rabbi Kahan how the legal system's focus on "fairness" can sometimes escalate tensions, while religious and cultural perspectives might offer alternative paths to resolution. They discuss how divorce doesn't actually separate parents—it unifies them in a new way as co-parents, requiring them to articulate a new future together for their children's sake.Questions we answer in this episode:How can you de-escalate high-conflict divorce situations?What role does "fairness" really play in divorce proceedings?How can religious perspectives help in understanding divorce as transformation rather than failure?Key Takeaways:Focus on living your life, not your divorce—don't let temporary legal proceedings define your actionsDe-escalation often requires helping both parties want the divorce, not just need itCourt litigation can force parents to suppress their authentic selves, potentially harming childrenThe episode offers valuable insights for anyone navigating a contentious divorce, especially those dealing with cultural or religious complexities. Rabbi Kahan's perspective on viewing divorce as a unifying rather than separating force provides a fresh framework for approaching this challenging life transition. Links & NotesVisit Rabbi Avi Kahan on the web, Instagram, LinkedIn, or YouTubeSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Rabbi Avi Kahan (01:15) - De-Escalation and Rabbi's Background (03:29) - In the Interpersonal Space (06:21) - Getting Them on the Same Page (09:51) - To Make Life Better Post-Divorce (10:42) - Decompressing the Proxy Battle (14:56) - Fairness (22:20) - Husband v. Wife, Father v. Mother (24:53) - Lack of Agency (27:46) - Escalation as Coping Mechanism (29:28) - Affecting the Children (33:12) - Preparing for Mediation and Litigation (36:59) - Wrap Up

Helping Kids Navigate Divorce with Parent Coach Danielle LindnerSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome parent coach and early childhood education expert Danielle Lindner to discuss how children process divorce and what parents can do to help them stay resilient. Lindner, author of "The Parent's Pocket Guide to Surviving the Preschool Years" and several children's books, specializes in helping families raise emotionally healthy kids while maintaining their own wellbeing during major life transitions.Seth and Pete explore key indicators that children might be struggling with divorce, often manifesting in behavior changes opposite to their typical personality. The discussion delves into positive parenting strategies during divorce—including the importance of consistency, emotional validation, and avoiding negative talk about the other parent. Lindner emphasizes the power of age-appropriate communication and explains how "scaffolding"—building supportive steps toward greater emotional agency—can help children develop resilience during challenging times.Questions we answer in this episode:How can you tell if your child is struggling with divorce beyond what they're telling you?When should you consider bringing in professional help for your children?How do you handle introducing new partners when kids express negative feelings?Key Takeaways:Maintain consistency and kindness across both householdsValidate children's feelings without overloading them with informationConsider early intervention with counseling—it's better to start early than wait for problemsThis episode provides practical, actionable advice for parents navigating divorce with young children. Whether you're just beginning the process or already co-parenting, Lindner's expertise offers valuable insights into supporting children's emotional health while maintaining positive family relationships during and after divorce.Links & NotesFind Danielle on her website, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTubeCheck out Danielle's booksSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Danielle Lindner and Positive Parenting (01:35) - First Signs a Child Is Struggling (06:01) - Myths Around Kids and Divorce (10:27) - Positive Parenting (11:57) - Coaching Parents (15:07) - Tools for Struggling Children (18:21) - Scaffolding (20:19) - Learning to Be Emotionally Resilient (22:12) - Social Media (26:35) - Third Parties (30:35) - Daily Reminder (33:23) - When to Use a Counselor (34:40) - Danielle's Book (38:27) - Wrap Up

Breaking Free from Toxic Family Patterns During DivorceIn this compelling episode, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright are joined by Jerry Wise, a family systems coach with over 45 years of experience helping people heal from dysfunctional and emotionally immature family dynamics. They explore how divorce often isn't the hardest part of ending a marriage—it's breaking free from the dysfunctional patterns that shaped you before you even got married.Seth and Pete dive deep with Jerry into the concept of emotional enmeshment and how it affects divorce proceedings and co-parenting relationships. They discuss practical strategies for recognizing when you're emotionally fused with your ex-spouse and techniques for breaking free from these patterns. The conversation takes fascinating turns as they explore how unresolved family-of-origin issues can impact current relationships and how to prevent passing these patterns to the next generation.Questions we answer in this episode:How do I know if I'm emotionally enmeshed with my ex?What can I do when I feel triggered by my ex's behavior?How do I protect my children from inheriting dysfunctional relationship patterns?Key Takeaways:Focus on yourself and your healing instead of blaming your exLearn to respond rather than react to triggering situationsWork on breaking unhealthy patterns before they affect your childrenThis episode offers invaluable insights for anyone navigating divorce or struggling with challenging family dynamics. Jerry's expertise, combined with Seth and Pete's practical legal and personal experience, provides listeners with actionable strategies for breaking free from toxic patterns and building healthier relationships moving forward.Links & NotesFind Jerry on his website, Instagram, or YouTubeCheck out Jerry's Road to Self programSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Jerry Wise and How to Divorce without Passing Down Toxic Patterns (02:37) - Lots of Things Affect Kids (04:21) - Enmeshment (07:49) - Getting Unmeshed (09:13) - Focus on Yourself (10:27) - Emotional and Legal Divorce (11:07) - Things You Can Do (16:23) - Breaking the Triggering Patterns (19:18) - Not All Feelings Are Equal (21:20) - Role Model for Kids (24:37) - Kids' Resilience (26:08) - Realizing You're Ready for Change (30:49) - Leaving Because... (32:09) - It's a Lot (33:14) - You Won't Always Feel This Way (35:27) - Marker 17 (39:18) - Wrap Up

Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright, authors of Unapologetically ADHD and hosts of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, join me to talk about what it means to be neurodivergent—and how that can affect your ability to plan, prioritize, and follow through.We dive into the unique challenges and strengths of neurodivergent brains, especially when it comes to health goals like meal planning, habit-building, and staying consistent with routines.Nikki and Pete share practical strategies that honor how your brain works, helping you create systems that feel supportive instead of overwhelming.Whether you've been diagnosed with ADHD or just like learning new strategies to help yourself, this episode offers a compassionate, actionable framework to help you move forward.Bio: Since 2010, certified ADHD coach, Nikki Kinzer, and professional podcaster, Pete Wright, have been the co-hosts of the award-winning podcast, “Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast”, speaking to adults with ADHD all over the globe.Over 30 seasons—and more than 600 episodes—Nikki and Pete continue to offer support and strategies for adults living with ADHD. And recently, they decided to write their first book, Unapologetically ADHD.Buy the book: https://a.co/d/9vILtc9Listen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/taking-control-the-adhd-podcast/id368426151Tune in each week for practical, relatable advice that helps you feel your best and unlock your full potential. If you're ready to prioritize your health and level up every area of your life, you'll find the tools, insights, and inspiration right here. Buy Esther's Book: To Your Health - https://a.co/d/iDG68qUFollow Esther on TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@estheravantFollow Esther on IG - https://www.instagram.com/esther.avantLearn more about booking Esther to speak: https://www.estheravant.comLearn more about working with Esther: https://www.madebymecoaching.com/services

Welcome, you depraved ghouls and ghost enthusiasts, to another episode of Sitting in the Dark—the podcast where we ask the truly vital horror questions, like, “Is this house cursed by restless spirits, or is it just what happens when unresolved trauma and black mold get into a knife fight?” This week, host Tommy Metz III is joined by fellow ghost provocateurs Pete Wright, Kynan Dias, and Kyle Olson to dig into haunted house horror—though not just your average “the walls are bleeding, but let's still stay the night” tales. No, we're talking haunted spaces—as in, Session 9, Ouija: Origin of Evil, and The Others—three films that prove the scariest thing in any building isn't the wallpaper peeling off the walls… it's the emotional wreckage you brought with you.Tommy kicks things off with a haunted homage to asbestos removal (yes, really), leading a deep dive into Brad Anderson's Session 9—the only film that will make you afraid of abandoned hospitals and David Caruso's dramatic whisper-acting. Then it's on to Mike Flanagan's miraculous studio rescue, Ouija: Origin of Evil—the rare horror prequel that's smarter than its brand deal, sharper than its title suggests, and way too good to be based on a board game. Finally, the gang closes the coffin lid on Alejandro Amenábar's The Others, Nicole Kidman's masterclass in weaponized repression, ghostly guilt, and why sunlight is overrated anyway.Along the way, expect critical mass levels of hot takes on ghost psychology, asbestos-based metaphors, PG-13 trauma horror, and why the real haunted house is sometimes the one you build inside your own mind. So pull the blackout curtains tight, polish your crucifixes, and maybe call your therapist—because tonight, we're not just sitting in the dark. We are the dark.Film SundriesThe List on LetterboxdWatch the movies discussed:Session 9: Apple • Amazon • LetterboxdOuija: Origin of Evil: Apple • Amazon • LetterboxdThe Others: Apple • Amazon • Letterboxd (00:00) - Welcome to Sitting in the Dark (07:32) - Do you LOVE Ghost Stories (10:02) - Thinking about Haunted House Tales (16:28) - Session 9 (24:20) - Mysterious Peanut Butter (26:04) - Session 9 (35:43) - Ouija: Origin of Evil (55:16) - The Others Learn how to support our show and The Next Reel's family of film podcasts by becoming a member. It's just $5 monthly or $55 annually. Learn more here.Follow the other podcasts in The Next Reel's family of film podcasts:Cinema Scope: Bridging Genres, Subgenres, and MovementsThe Film BoardMovies We LikeThe Next Reel Film PodcastJoin the conversation with movie lovers from around the world in our Discord community!Here's where you can find us around the internet:The WebLetterboxdPeteKyleTommyKynanWhat are some other ways you can support us and show your love? Glad you asked!You can buy our movie-related apparel, stickers, mugs and more from our MERCH PAGE.Or buy or rent movies we've discussed on the show from our WATCH PAGE.Or buy books, plays, etc. that was the source for movies we've discussed on the show from our ORIGINALS PAGE.Or renew or sign up for a Letterboxd Pro or Patron account with our LETTERBOXD MEMBERSHIP DISCOUNT.Or sign up for AUDIBLE.

In this episode of Author Nation Interviews, host Melody Ann sits down with certified ADHD coach Nikki Kinzer and professional podcaster Pete Wright to explore effective Team-based Authoring Strategies. Discover how to navigate creative chaos and maintain productivity through collaboration and innovative writing techniques. ✍️✨Join us as we dive into practical tips for Keeping Your Focus While Writing and enhancing your Collaborative Writing Process for Authors. Whether you're an experienced writer or just starting out, this conversation is packed with valuable insights to help you thrive in your writing journey!

There's a particular moment—somewhere between noticing a scent that shouldn't be there and sitting someone down to talk about it—that HR becomes more than just policy. It becomes anthropology.This month on Human Solutions, Pete Wright sits down with Terry Cook and Tom Jones for a course in navigating the most uncomfortable corners of professional HR—body odor, domestic violence, and workplace impairment. But this isn't just an etiquette tutorial for the brave and the nose-sensitive. This is about the human—and legal—implications of what happens when our personal lives collide with professional expectations.How do you handle body odor without turning empathy into accusation? What does it mean when you suspect domestic violence, and the person across the desk trusts you enough to say, “Yes”? And where exactly is the line between suspicion and assumption when you think an employee might be impaired?This is an episode about silence—what it costs to break it, and what it costs when we don't. It's about the limits of policy and the power of institutional empathy. And it's about the people on the other end of the phone—the Terrys and Toms—who make it their job to sit with discomfort long enough to make something useful out of it.Because sometimes, the most powerful tool in your HR arsenal after a good policy is the courage to say, “Let's talk.”Links & NotesMassachusetts Domestic Violence Leave LawAIM members can reach the HR Helpline at 800-470-6277 or helpline@aimnet.org for inquiries Monday through Friday from 8:30 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. (EST). Email requests will be responded to within 24 hours. AIM HR Solutions offers supervisor training and reasonable suspicion training, for more information visit our website at www.AIMHRSolutions.com  AIM members can reach the HR Helpline at 800-470-6277, online, or via email at helpline@aimnet.org for inquiries Monday through Friday from 8:30 a.m. – 5:00 p.m. (EST). Email requests will be responded to within 24 hours. 

“There's something in the atmosphere that makes everything seem exaggerated.”Talking About Powell & Pressburger's 1947 film Black Narcissus with our guest, screenwriter James HandelIn this episode of Movies We Like, screenwriter James Handel joins hosts Andy Nelson and Pete Wright to discuss Michael Powell and Emeric Pressburger's 1947 masterpiece Black Narcissus, along with Handel's fascinating career writing genre-bending films like The Last Horror Movie, The Hoarder, and his latest psychological dramedy The Trouble with Jessica.From Philosophy to FilmBefore diving into Black Narcissus, Handel shares candid insights about his journey from philosophy student to screenwriter, starting with an unproduced vampire script and eventually leading to successful collaborations with directors Julian Richards and Matt Winn. He discusses how his background in philosophy influences his approach to moral dilemmas and character psychology in his screenplays, particularly evident in The Trouble with Jessica's darkly comic exploration of ethics and human nature.A Masterpiece of Psychological DramaThe conversation then turns to Black Narcissus, examining how Powell and Pressburger crafted this visually stunning psychological drama about Anglican nuns attempting to establish a convent in the Himalayas. The group discusses the film's groundbreaking technical achievements, with Jack Cardiff's Oscar-winning Technicolor cinematography bringing the entirely studio-shot production to vivid life. They explore how the film masterfully depicts the psychological deterioration of the nuns as they struggle with repressed desires, loss of faith, and the overwhelming power of their environment, all while maintaining a remarkable balance between expressionism and restraint.Black Narcissus remains a masterclass in psychological storytelling and visual craftsmanship, demonstrating how thoughtful restraint and artistic innovation can create an unforgettable cinematic experience. We thoroughly enjoyed diving deep into this classic with James Handel, whose own work carries forward the tradition of examining complex moral questions through compelling drama.Film SundriesWatch our conversation on YouTube!Watch this on Apple or Amazon, or find other places at LetterboxdScript OptionsTheatrical trailerOriginal Material Learn how to support our show and The Next Reel's family of film podcasts by becoming a member. It's just $5 monthly or $55 annually. Learn more here.Follow the other podcasts in The Next Reel's family of film podcasts:Cinema Scope: Bridging Genres, Subgenres, and MovementsThe Film BoardThe Next Reel Film PodcastSitting in the DarkJoin the conversation with movie lovers from around the world in our Discord community!Here's where you can find us around the internet:The WebLetterboxdCheck out poster artwork for movies we've discussed on our Pinterest pagePeteAndyWhat are some other ways you can support us and show your love? Glad you asked!You can buy our movie-related apparel, stickers, mugs and more from our MERCH PAGE.Or buy or rent movies we've discussed on the show from our WATCH PAGE.Or buy books, plays, etc. that was the source for movies we've discussed on the show from our ORIGINALS PAGE.Or renew or sign up for a Letterboxd Pro or Patron account with our LETTERBOXD MEMBERSHIP DISCOUNT.Or sign up for AUDIBLE.

Shame is a formidable force—an emotional wildfire that can either illuminate our path to growth or consume us in cycles of self-blame. For individuals with ADHD, this complex emotion is often amplified, lingering far beyond its utility as a corrective signal. But why? And more importantly, how do we break free?This week on The ADHD Podcast, hosts Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer embark on an exploration of shame spirals with two powerhouse guests: James Ochoa, LPC, renowned ADHD pathfinder and author of Focused Forward: Navigating the Storms of Adult ADHD, and Dr. Nachi Felt, an ADHD specialist and professor at Columbia University where he teaches Psychopathology and helps direct the Cognition and Neuroscience Research Lab.Together, they dissect the neurobiology of shame, its insidious tendency to hijack our presence of mind, and the ways in which ADHD uniquely intensifies its grip. James and Nachi offer profound insights into the role of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and the often-overlooked power of resourcing—the practice of cultivating internal and external tools to navigate emotional turbulence.From the interplay of trauma and shame to the game-changing realization that the same agency that allows us to sit in shame also allows us to stand up and move forward, this conversation is both a course in emotional resilience and a rallying cry for self-compassion.With humor, wisdom, and a touch of Brooklyn-style candor, this episode invites you to challenge your inner narratives, embrace the possibility of rewriting your personal stories, and ultimately, reclaim your incredible sense of self-worth.Resources & Links:Take Control ADHD Discord CommunitySupport the Podcast on PatreonJames Ochoa's Work & BooksDr. Nachi Felt's ADHD ResourcesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:09) - Support the Show! (03:37) - The Nature of Shame Spirals ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

For years, finance in higher education has worked quietly behind the scenes—essential, but rarely seen as a force for change. Budgets got balanced, reports got filed, and institutions moved forward... slowly. But what happens when that model starts to crack? When rising costs outpace tuition revenue, and the math that once worked no longer adds up?It's a moment of reckoning—and an opportunity.In this episode of Navigating Change, Pete Wright is joined by Michael Gower, Andrew Simpson, and Howard Teibel—three leaders who are reimagining what's possible when finance steps out of the back office and into the strategy room. They're not just managing numbers; they're reshaping mindsets.Together, they explore a bold idea: that financial health isn't just about closing budget gaps—it's about leadership, influence, and building a future-ready institution. Through the lens of the Rutgers University case study, they reveal how finance can become a catalyst for innovation rather than a barrier to it. They talk about navigating resistance, sparking breakthroughs, and embedding financial thinking into the DNA of decision-making.So what does it really take to shift from financial survival to sustainability? Can higher ed let go of outdated models before it's too late?This isn't just a conversation about money. It's about power, persuasion, and the future of higher education. Because the real question isn't whether universities can afford to change—it's whether they can afford not to.Links & NotesAdopting a Financial StrategyFinancial Strategy Policy

There's an inflection point when technology shifts from novelty to necessity. The printing press. The telephone. The internet. And now, artificial intelligence. For those with ADHD, the rise of AI presents an especially tantalizing paradox: a tool that promises to sharpen focus and streamline tasks, yet one that, if wielded carelessly, could just as easily become another source of distraction.In this episode of The ADHD Podcast, Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer take us into the heart of the paradox. They begin with a simple but profound question: How do we make AI work for us, rather than the other way around?It starts with a refresher on prompt engineering—the art of structuring AI queries with precision. It's not unlike training a dog. Give vague instructions, and you'll get unpredictable results. But with the right prompts, AI can become an invaluable assistant, distilling complex information, organizing thoughts, and even generating study guides.But then comes the tension. The unease. The creeping realization that AI—like all powerful tools—has a darker side. What of the Paperclip Problem, a thought experiment that suggests AI, if left unchecked, could optimize itself into oblivion, consuming all available resources (including us) in its relentless pursuit of efficiency. Far out? There are those who argue not so far as you think.The conversation then shifts to the Goldilocks Zone—that elusive middle ground where AI enhances productivity without eroding autonomy. Pete shares his meticulously curated AI toolkit: Perplexity AI for research, Grammarly for writing, TextExpander for automation, and Adobe Voice Enhancer for audio clarity. Each tool, when used correctly, reduces cognitive load. But over-reliance? That's where the danger lies.By the end of the discussion, one thing becomes clear: AI is neither savior nor saboteur. It is a mirror, reflecting back the habits and intentions of its user. The question isn't whether AI will replace us—it won't. The real question is: Will we use AI to become more of who we are, or will we let it decide that for us?Links & NotesPerplexity AI – AI-powered research assistantPoe.com – Multi-model AI chat platformGrammarly – AI-enhanced writing assistantAdobe Voice Enhancer – AI-driven audio clarity toolCoda.io – AI-integrated database managementJoin our Discord communitySupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:22) - Prompt Engineering (12:08) - The Problem with AI (18:25) - The Goldilocks Zone (22:16) - Some Tools (25:19) - Gell-Mann Amnesia ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Artificial intelligence is everywhere—shaping how we work, think, and even how we manage our ADHD. But is AI a game-changing cognitive assistant or just another digital white whale primed to swallow our focus whole?This week, Pete Wright and his AI-curious co-pilot Nikki Kinzer embark on tour of ADHD and AI. With AI tools evolving at a dizzying pace, the duo explores how these technologies can either empower or derail neurodivergent minds.Throughout the episode, they share some of the tools making waves in the ADHD community, from AI-powered task managers like Motion and Reclaim to text-based assistants like ChatGPT and Claude. They also unpack the critical distinction between AI as a thought partner versus an unreliable oracle—one that is often confidently wrong.But AI isn't just about efficiency. Pete and Nikki probe the philosophical and ethical dilemmas AI presents: Is AI truly augmenting human potential, or are we handing over too much cognitive agency to machines?Links & NotesSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes DatabaseJoin the ADHD Discord communityExplore AI tools we talked about on the showMotion AIReclaim AITodoist AINotion AICodaPoe AIPerplexity AIBrain.fm (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:57) - Support the Show: Become A Patron! (03:51) - AI (08:21) - ADHD & Your AI Sidekick (11:53) - AI Models (18:38) - Sidebar: Perplexity AI (21:04) - AI Tools ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this special season finale episode of How to Split a Toaster, family law attorney Seth Nelson joins Pete Wright to wrap up their comprehensive "Your Divorce Case" series by tackling pressing listener questions. This episode marks the conclusion of Season 10, where they've guided listeners through every aspect of the divorce process, from initial consultation to appeals.The episode dives deep into real-world divorce scenarios submitted by listeners, covering everything from custody arrangements for children with ADHD to hidden cryptocurrency assets and international divorce complications. The discussion provides practical insights into how these situations are typically handled in the courtroom, while breaking down complex legal concepts into understandable terms. The conversation consistently emphasizes the importance of consulting with local counsel, as laws and procedures vary by jurisdiction.Questions we answer in this episode:How do courts typically handle parenting plans when parents disagree about medical treatment?What options exist when you suspect hidden financial assets?How are digital assets like cryptocurrency handled in divorce proceedings?Key Takeaways:Settlement opportunities can arise at any point during the divorce process - even during trialCourt orders and requirements vary significantly by jurisdictionDocumentation and proper legal counsel are crucial throughout the divorce processThis episode serves as both an excellent standalone resource for specific divorce questions and a fitting conclusion to the season-long examination of the divorce process. Whether you're just starting your divorce journey or looking for specific guidance on complex issues, this episode offers valuable insights into navigating the legal and emotional challenges of divorce.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Listener Questions (00:52) - Question One (03:11) - Question Two (04:09) - Question Three (04:52) - Question Four (06:58) - Question Five (08:44) - Question Six (10:44) - Question Seven (16:56) - Question Eight (19:48) - Question Nine (21:14) - Question Ten (24:20) - Question Eleven (29:05) - Question Twelve (31:57) - Question Thirteen (34:31) - Question Fourteen (36:33) - Question Fifteen (38:40) - Question Sixteen (40:08) - Question Seventeen (42:11) - Question Eighteen (45:49) - Question Nineteen (47:43) - Wrapping Up the Season (50:40) - Wrap Up

Navigating the Appeals Process in Divorce CasesContinuing our season-long Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome appellate attorney Ceci Berman to discuss what happens when divorce cases move to the appeals court. As a board-certified appellate practice attorney with extensive experience arguing before state and federal courts, Ceci brings deep expertise in family law appeals and complex commercial litigation.The appeals process works very differently from trial court, with strict timelines and procedures that must be followed. Seth and Pete explore with Ceci how appeals aren't simply "do-overs" of the original case, but rather reviews of whether the trial judge made legal errors in their decision. Through their conversation, they break down the machinery of appeals - from filing deadlines to oral arguments before a panel of judges - and discuss what clients should expect during what can be a lengthy process lasting anywhere from 9 months to 2 years.Questions we answer in this episode:What exactly is an appeal and how does it differ from the original trial?How long does the appeals process typically take?What happens if you win your appeal?Key Takeaways:You have just 30 days from the final judgment to file an appealAppeals are expensive and time-consuming - carefully consider if it's worth pursuingWinning your appeal means starting over - potentially with the same judge who ruled against you initiallyThis episode provides an invaluable look at a complex but crucial part of the divorce process that many people misunderstand. Whether you're considering an appeal or just want to better understand how the system works, Ceci's expert insights combined with Seth and Pete's practical experience make this an essential listen for anyone navigating divorce proceedings.Links & NotesCeci Berman – Brannock Berman & SeiderSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - The Appeal with Ceci Berman (01:55) - How Is It Different? (04:04) - Who Decides? (07:21) - Finality (08:21) - Triggers for an Appeal (13:57) - Preservation of Error (20:16) - Mechanics of an Appeal (27:48) - Three Judges (29:25) - Time to Get an Opinion (32:06) - What Your Role Is (35:21) - Juggling Relationships with Attorneys (36:24) - Stays (38:24) - Questioning Results (39:51) - Hard to Win (41:31) - Taking Time (43:39) - Expensive (45:24) - Wrap Up

What if the very quality that makes those early, intoxicating moments of romance so vibrant—the spontaneous weekend getaway, the surprise bouquet of flowers—later becomes the source of relationship friction? The human brain, particularly one wired with ADHD, contains multitudes of contradictions, and nowhere is this more evident than in how impulsivity shapes our intimate partnerships.This week on the show, relationship expert Melissa Orlov peels back the layers of impulsive behavior in ADHD relationships with Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer. Pete's personal confession—renting a convertible for a romantic coastal drive during courtship, then later purchasing an entire car during what should have been a routine oil change—illuminates the Jekyll-and-Hyde nature of impulsivity that Melissa has observed in thousands of couples."It came from somewhere," Melissa notes of impulsive words and actions that wound our partners. But where? The answer lies in a neurological tightrope walk between present-moment reward and long-term relationship consequences. The ADHD partner experiences the euphoria of now, while their significant other bears witness to the aftermath, creating an asymmetrical emotional experience that compounds over time.What of verbal impulsivity—those cutting remarks that can never be unsaid? Melissa offers a revelation that ADHD partners are "blessed with the ability to move on quickly," while non-ADHD partners ruminate, creating relationship dissonance long after the moment has passed.Let us take our cues from Melissa's "verbal cues," pattern interrupters in relationship conflict. The deliberate absurdity of an agreed-upon word like "hamburger" or "aardvark" serves as a circuit breaker during emotional escalation—a linguistic tool that transcends the heat of argument to preserve relationship integrity. It's a Safe Word, but for your ADHD.This is an invitation to understand how neurological differences fundamentally shape our perception of time, commitment, and connection—and how awareness of these differences might just be the greatest relationship skill we can develop.Links & NotesADHD MarriageIntent to Action Membership ProgramThe ADHD Effect on MarriageThe Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHDSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (00:39) - Support the Show! Become a Patron! (01:40) - Introducing Melissa Orlov (06:58) - Auto-Impulsivity (09:32) - Impulsivity is Not a Monolith (12:38) - How We Fight (15:22) - Trust & Boundaries (19:10) - Fidelity (20:43) - Breaking out of Impulsive Patterns in Relationships (25:16) - Collaborating with the Non-Impulsive Partner (31:19) - Transparency (34:24) - Emotional Dysregulation & Verbal Cues (41:30) - Learn more about Melissa's work ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Mastering Courtroom Behavior: Your Guide to Trial SuccessIn this final installment of our three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa family law attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deep into courtroom etiquette, behavior, and psychological preparation. As part of our season-long exploration of Your Divorce Case, this episode provides essential insights into how to present yourself effectively in court and work productively with your attorney during trial.Seth and Pete break down the discussion into three key segments: mastering courtroom behavior, being an asset to your attorney during trial, and psychological preparation. They explore everything from appropriate facial expressions and dress code to the importance of proper note-taking and communication with your attorney. The conversation also covers critical aspects of post-trial procedures, including motions for rehearing and appeals, while emphasizing the importance of maintaining composure both inside and outside the courtroom.Questions we answer in this episode:What are the most common courtroom etiquette mistakes that can hurt your case?How should you handle emotionally triggering statements during trial?What's the proper way to communicate with your attorney during proceedings?Key Takeaways:Maintain neutral facial expressions and conservative dress in courtUse note-taking to manage emotions and assist your attorney effectivelyStay off social media before, during, and after trialWhether you're preparing for trial or simply want to understand the court process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into navigating the complexities of divorce court. Seth and Pete's practical advice and real-world examples make this a must-listen for anyone facing divorce proceedings or interested in understanding courtroom dynamics.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:37) - The Trial Part III (01:16) - Mastering Courtroom Behavior (04:38) - Handling Emotional Triggers (06:48) - Judicial Hot Buttons (10:04) - Being an Asset to Your Legal Team (13:00) - Communicating During Zoom Court (13:29) - Strategy and Psychological Preparation (16:34) - The Courthouse Encounter (19:22) - Avoid Social Media (21:33) - Post-Trial Steps (25:45) - Testing Pete (30:27) - Don't Get Freaked Out (31:45) - Wrap Up

Prepare yourselves for a journey into the bewildering world of Bong Joon Ho's latest sci-fi offering. That's right—the director who brought you parasites in the basement and tentacles in the river has now delivered expendable humans on a frozen planet.In this week's utterly perplexing episode, Pete Wright gathers his gang of film-analyzing thugs to dissect "Mickey 17," a movie that asks the profound question: "What if your corporate job literally killed you repeatedly and you STILL couldn't quiet quit?"Our brave hosts—Tommy Metz III, Justin Jaeger, and the mysteriously summoned Andy Nelson (who apparently only materializes for "M" movies)—dive headfirst into this existential workplace nightmare starring Robert Pattinson as the universe's most exploited employee.The conversation spirals through multiple lanes of analysis—much like the film itself—touching on everything from identity ethics to alien sauce consumption to Mark Ruffalo's bombastic performance as what can only be described as "Poor Things, But Make It Space Napoleon."Is this a masterpiece of philosophical inquiry or a jumbled mess of unexplored concepts? Does it matter that they destroy the only machine that could save humanity? Why is there a man in a pigeon suit? AND MOST IMPORTANTLY—did any of these gentlemen actually enjoy the film?Join us for an hour of delightfully frustrated film criticism where our hosts attempt to extract meaning from what might be the most ambitious yet bewildering sci-fi release of the year. As Tommy so elegantly puts it: "I wish it wasn't so much movie."Film SundriesWatch this on Apple or Amazon, or find other places at JustWatchTheatrical trailerMickey7 by Edward AshtonLetterboxd

Imagine two people standing on opposite sides of a canyon. One, tethered to the rhythms of neurotypical expectation—cause and effect, action and consequence—a world in which forgotten keys are just that: forgotten keys. The other, moving through a landscape of impulsivity, of fractured attention, of a thousand micro-failures that feel, at times, like an existential indictment. They love each other. They try to reach across the chasm. But the bridge they need is invisible.This week on The ADHD Podcast, Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer embark on a three-part exploration into ADHD and relationships. Their guide this first week: Jonathan Hassall, an ADHD and executive function coach with a background in psychiatric nursing and ADHD research. Jonathan has spent years decoding the paradoxes that arise when ADHD meets the relentless machinery of relationships.Why do partners of those with ADHD feel unheard? Why does an innocuous comment about condiments over lunch spiral into a silent war? Why do people with ADHD sometimes feel like perpetual disappointments in the eyes of those they love? And is there a way—a real, tangible way—to undo the corrosive misunderstandings that accumulate over years, even decades?Jonathan argues that the real problem isn't ADHD itself. It's adaptation—or rather, the failure to adapt. The rules of engagement in relationships often assume a kind of neurological symmetry that simply doesn't exist when one or both partners have ADHD. And when partners misinterpret behavior—when forgetfulness looks like indifference, when emotional reactivity looks like hostility—the result is a slow erosion of trust.But what if there were another way? A way to recalibrate, to assume goodwill, to dismantle the myths and rebuild a foundation not on correction, but on understanding? From the science of emotional regulation to the power of a single moment of grace, Pete, Nikki, and Jonathan dissect the anatomy of ADHD relationships and ask the most fundamental question of all: What does it take to be truly seen?Links & Resources:Jonathan's book: Decoding DoingLearn more about Jonathan Hassall's work at ConnectADHD CoachingJoin the ADHD community on Discord: TakeControlADHD.com/discordSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:00) - Support the Show on Discord, Socials and Patreon! (01:58) - Introducing Jonathan Hassall (02:54) - ADHD & Relationships ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Trial Strategy: Making Your Case in Divorce CourtIn this second installment of their three-part series on divorce trials, Tampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive deeper into trial strategy and momentum. Part of their season-long "Your Divorce Case" conversation, this episode explores how attorneys navigate the complex dynamics of presenting evidence, examining witnesses, and adapting their approach as trials unfold. Building on last week's overview of courtroom basics, they now focus on the strategic elements that can make or break a case.Seth shares detailed insights about trial preparation, witness examination, and the intricate dance between attorneys, judges, and clients during proceedings. Through real-world examples and candid discussion, Seth and Pete break down how success is measured in divorce court, why "winning" isn't always what it seems, and how attorneys must constantly adjust their strategy as new evidence emerges. Their conversation reveals the complex reality behind courtroom proceedings, including how judges signal their thinking and why settlement offers often play a crucial role in defining success.Questions we answer in this episode:What happens when you finally take the witness stand?How do attorneys measure success in divorce court?Why don't clients really get their "day in court"?Key Takeaways:Trial momentum can shift dramatically between daysYour attorney should be completely transparent about how the case is progressingThe best outcome often beats the last settlement offer, not necessarily "wins" everythingWhether you're headed to trial or trying to decide if you should settle, this episode offers crucial insights into how divorce trials really work. Seth and Pete's practical discussion helps demystify the process while providing valuable perspective on what constitutes success in divorce court.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:37) - The Trial Part II (01:44) - Be Prepared for Anything (06:21) - It's Not Your Day in Court (08:56) - Sit Still and Don't React (10:55) - Legalese (16:19) - Shifting Strategies (20:56) - The Final Judgment (23:39) - Momentum (25:03) - In-Court Relationships (27:51) - Closing Statements (33:28) - Finishing the Case and Measuring Success (42:58) - Being Honest (46:04) - Wrap Up

ADHD doesn't just complicate relationships—it shapes them. From romantic partnerships to friendships, family dynamics, and workplace interactions, the traits of inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity ripple across every connection. Romantic relationships often bear the brunt, with ADHD symptoms leading to miscommunication, frustration, and even intimacy challenges. Couples may struggle with mismatched libidos, impulsive behaviors, or emotional dysregulation, but understanding ADHD's role can transform these struggles into opportunities for deeper connection.Family and professional relationships, too, are affected. ADHD parents often wrestle with providing structure or consistent discipline, creating chaotic home environments that strain relationships with children and partners. At work, impulsivity, time management issues, and difficulty following through on commitments can complicate team dynamics and career growth. Socially, the ADHD brain's challenges with focus and emotional regulation can lead to feelings of rejection or isolation, making it harder to build and sustain friendships.The science behind these struggles lies in the ADHD brain itself. Impaired dopamine regulation impacts empathy, social cognition, and emotional recognition, all of which play critical roles in relationships. Comorbid conditions like anxiety, depression, or substance use disorders further complicate matters, while genetic factors often ripple across generations, creating patterns of behavior that shape family and social dynamics. But the good news? With the right diagnosis, treatment, and tools, ADHDers can overcome these challenges and thrive in their relationships.In this episode, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright explore the intersection of ADHD and relationships, unpacking the science, the stories, and the strategies that foster connection. From structured communication techniques to empathy-building exercises, they offer actionable advice to help ADHDers and their loved ones navigate challenges and unlock the unique strengths ADHD brings to relationships. Whether you're navigating romance, family life, or professional interactions, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to better understand ADHD's role in human connection.Links & NotesSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:29) - ADHD Relationships ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Inside the Courtroom: What Really Happens During a Divorce TrialTampa divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore what really happens when a divorce case goes to trial in this first episode of a two-part deep dive. As part of the tenth season's "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete take listeners inside a Florida divorce courtroom, breaking down everything from the physical layout to the intricate procedures that govern these proceedings.Seth guides us through the mechanics of a divorce trial, describing the roles of everyone present—from the judge and attorneys to the bailiff and court reporter. The conversation examines how evidence is presented, the importance of proper documentation, and the strategic elements that shape trial proceedings. Pete's thoughtful questions help illuminate complex legal concepts, making them accessible to anyone facing divorce court.Questions we answer in this episode:What does a divorce courtroom look like and who will be there?How does evidence get admitted during a trial?What happens during opening statements and how do they shape the case?Key Takeaways:Trials move quickly—preparation and organization are crucialEvidence must be authenticated, relevant, and admissible to be consideredLike a tennis match, trials have momentum shifts but staying focused is keyWhether you're facing a divorce trial or simply want to understand the process better, this episode provides invaluable insights into how divorce trials actually work. Seth and Pete's engaging discussion demystifies the courtroom experience while offering practical knowledge about what to expect when your divorce goes to trial.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:36) - The Trial Part One (01:29) - The Courtroom (04:56) - Public Viewing (06:57) - Taking Notes (08:26) - Procedures (10:54) - Memoranda, Joint Stipulated Exhibits, Etc. (16:36) - Evidence (17:40) - Getting It Into the Transcript (19:00) - Housekeeping Issues (20:02) - Kids (20:24) - Back to Housekeeping Issues (23:58) - Opening Statements (27:06) - Presenting the Evidence (28:13) - Closing Statements (29:25) - Painting a Picture (30:15) - Chess Match (33:00) - Next Time and Wrap Up

Your Burning Divorce Questions: Expert Answers for Real-Life SituationsAs part of this season's deep dive into "Your Divorce Case," Pete Wright and family law attorney Seth Nelson tackle listener questions spanning complex financial arrangements to sensitive custody matters. Their insights provide practical guidance for navigating the intricate landscape of divorce proceedings.Real Solutions for Modern Divorce ChallengesThis episode explores creative solutions to modern divorce challenges, from managing shared living spaces post-divorce to handling delicate relationship transitions. Through real-world examples, Seth and Pete address concerns about property division, co-parenting, and legal documentation, offering actionable advice while emphasizing the importance of proper legal guidance.Listener Questions Covered:Post-divorce cohabitation: Managing shared home ownership with a low interest rateDating during slow-moving divorce proceedings: Understanding potential consequencesInternational divorce complications: Handling custody with a foreign national spouseReunification therapy timeline: What to expect in the healing processDocumenting parental alienation: Effective strategies for courtCatholic annulment concerns: Managing religious and legal proceedingsCreative settlement options: Handling significant age gap divorcesLegal annulment vs. divorce: Understanding the differences and requirementsEnforcing custody agreements: Dealing with violations and discovery requestsWhy This Episode MattersThe episode delivers valuable insights for anyone facing divorce, whether dealing with unique living arrangements, complex financial situations, or challenging custody scenarios. Seth and Pete's practical approach and clear explanations make complex legal concepts accessible while emphasizing the importance of making informed decisions throughout the divorce process.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - Listener Questions! (01:16) - Question One (09:44) - Question Two (12:06) - Question Three (14:26) - Question Four (16:09) - Question Five (20:06) - Question Six (25:40) - Question Seven (28:10) - Question Eight (31:11) - Question Nine (37:30) - Wrap Up

Demystifying the Appraisal Process in DivorceSeth and Pete dive deep into the complex world of appraisals during divorce proceedings. Whether you're dealing with real estate, wine collections, artwork, or vintage electronics, understanding how items are valued can significantly impact your divorce settlement.Getting your assets properly appraised is crucial for fair distribution in a divorce, but timing and strategy matter. Seth and Pete explore the differences between full appraisals and market analyses, when to get items appraised, and how to handle situations where collections or assets may be damaged or hidden. Through real examples and practical scenarios, they break down the systematic approach professional appraisers use to determine value.Questions we answer in this episode:When is the best time during divorce proceedings to get items appraised?Should both parties get separate appraisals or share one appraiser?How do courts handle significant differences between competing appraisals?Key Takeaways:Start the appraisal process early, especially for valuable collectionsDocument everything with photos and receipts before moving itemsFor items you want to keep, lower valuations work in your favor during settlementThis episode provides essential knowledge for anyone navigating property division in divorce. Seth and Pete offer practical guidance on protecting your interests while maintaining transparency in the appraisal process. Their discussion of real-world cases and strategic considerations makes complex appraisal concepts accessible and actionable.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Appraisals (02:02) - Garage Sale Value Unless… (03:07) - Why to Get an Appraisal (04:29) - When to Do It (05:29) - High vs. Low Appraisal (06:33) - Before or After Marriage Purchases (07:14) - Identification (08:51) - Quality (09:36) - Special Circumstances (09:52) - Value (13:48) - Separate vs. Joint Appraisals (15:44) - Analyzing the Appraisal (17:23) - Collecting Data (18:04) - Recording the Data (19:21) - The Report (19:54) - Can Be Tedious and Detailed (23:25) - Conflict in the Process (26:06) - Tainting Judge's Opinion (26:51) - Active Appreciation and Depreciation (28:33) - Virtual Appraisals (29:12) - When to Update Appraisals (31:15) - Back to High vs. Low (33:30) - When It's Overseas (35:22) - Wrap Up

The Art of Divorce Depositions: Strategy, Preparation, and SuccessIn this episode of the season-long "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete tackle one of the most crucial elements of divorce proceedings: depositions. As Seth notes, depositions are where cases can be won or lost, making this episode essential listening for anyone facing divorce proceedings.The discussion reveals the strategic chess game that unfolds during depositions, from how attorneys prepare their clients to the careful dance of questions and answers. Seth shares insights from his years of experience, explaining why depositions are his favorite part of legal proceedings and how proper preparation can make all the difference. The episode covers everything from the basic structure of a deposition to advanced techniques for handling difficult questions, all while emphasizing the importance of authenticity and honesty in your responses.Questions we answer in this episode:What rules should I follow when answering deposition questions?How do attorney objections work during a deposition?What rights do I have if questioning becomes hostile?Key Takeaways:Listen carefully and only answer exactly what's askedTake your time reviewing documentsStay authentic - don't try to outsmart the processThis episode provides invaluable insights for anyone facing a deposition, offering both practical guidance and strategic understanding. Seth's enthusiasm for the deposition process, combined with real-world examples, makes complex legal concepts accessible and actionable for listeners.Links & NotesTune in to our Deposition Prep episode!Schedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Depositions (00:56) - What Is a Deposition? (02:41) - An Art, Not a Science (03:36) - Who Is Present? (04:02) - Questions and Answers and Objections (07:34) - Recorded vs. Live (09:10) - Strategy (13:39) - What You Can't Do (16:05) - Attorney Client Privilege (18:11) - Preparing the Client (20:33) - It's an Interview, Not a Conversation (23:00) - How Much Coaching Works (25:11) - Recording Types (27:27) - Understand the Theme of Your Case (30:33) - Ethical Considerations (32:44) - Take Your Time (35:33) - Making Mistakes (36:53) - Wrap Up

Welcome to Sitting in the Dark, the podcast that illuminates the shadowy corners of horror cinema. This month, your host, Kynan Dias, and a coven of his most insightful monster aficionados – Pete Wright, Kyle Olson, and Tommy Metz III – go under the sheets into a chillingly erotic realm: the intersection of horror and sex.Now, we're not talking about the gratuitous, the exploitative. No, this is a deeper dive, a plunge into the murky waters where fear and desire intertwine. Think of it as the uncanny valley of emotion – that unsettling space where repulsion and attraction collide.Our cinematic subjects? A trio of films that span decades and genres, each offering a unique perspective on this monstrous ménage à trois. First, we confront the hallucinatory, emotionally raw world of Andrzej Żuławski's Possession. Isabelle Adjani's Cannes-winning performance anchors this psychosexual nightmare, a film that pushes the boundaries of body horror and marital breakdown. Prepare for tentacles. Prepare for existential dread. Prepare to question everything you thought you knew about love and divorce.Next, we shapeshift into Mike Nichols' Wolf, a film that explores the beast within. Jack Nicholson's transformation from corporate drone to lycanthrope becomes a metaphor for unleashed primal instincts.Finally, we sink our teeth into Karen Kusama's Jennifer's Body. This darkly comedic horror-satire tackles the complexities of female desire and monstrous appetites. Megan Fox, as the titular Jennifer, embodies the seductive power of the demonic feminine, a force that both allures and devours.Film SundriesPossession: Apple • Amazon • JustWatchWolf: Apple • Amazon • JustWatchJennifer's Body: Apple • Amazon • JustWatch (00:00) - Welcome to Sitting in the Dark (03:22) - Sexy, Sexy Monsters (07:22) - Possession (26:04) - Wolf (47:59) - Jennifer's Body (01:11:54) - Coming Attractions: Last Woman Standing Learn how to support our show and The Next Reel's family of film podcasts by becoming a member. It's just $5 monthly or $55 annually. Learn more here.Follow the other podcasts in The Next Reel's family of film podcasts:Cinema Scope: Bridging Genres, Subgenres, and MovementsThe Film BoardMovies We LikeThe Next Reel Film PodcastJoin the conversation with movie lovers from around the world in our Discord community!Here's where you can find us around the internet:The WebLetterboxdPeteKyleTommyKynanWhat are some other ways you can support us and show your love? Glad you asked!You can buy our movie-related apparel, stickers, mugs and more from our MERCH PAGE.Or buy or rent movies we've discussed on the show from our WATCH PAGE.Or buy books, plays, etc. that was the source for movies we've discussed on the show from our ORIGINALS PAGE.Or renew or sign up for a Letterboxd Pro or Patron account with our LETTERBOXD MEMBERSHIP DISCOUNT.Or sign up for AUDIBLE.

WARNING: This episode contains discussions of youth bullying and suicide.What does it mean to transform heartbreak into hope? For Tony and Cassi Bellezza, the loss of their son Anthony was not the end of his story—it was the beginning of a mission. Anthony, a vibrant and compassionate child who lived with ADHD, inspired those around him with his unique ability to see the world through a lens of kindness. But his journey wasn't without challenges: navigating school accommodations, transitioning between educational systems, facing bullying, and finding outlets for his passions.In this episode of The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright sit down with Tony and Cassi to explore the roots of Anthony's Way - The Road to Kindness, the non-profit they founded to honor their son. They discuss how Anthony's struggle—and his empathy—became the foundation for a program designed to help children and teens with ADHD not just survive, but thrive.From the challenges of private school 504 plans to the life-changing impact of extracurricular activities, Tony and Cassi share personal stories of advocacy, resilience, and the profound importance of kindness. They also dive into the organization's innovative Holistic Care Model, their Kindness Scholarship program, and the transformative power of community support.This is a conversation about ADHD, yes—but it's also about legacy. It's about how one family took their pain and turned it into a movement. And it's a reminder that kindness isn't just a value—it's a roadmap to something greater.Links & NotesLearn more about Anthony's Way - The Road to KindnessSign up for the Road to Kindness EventSecond Annual Walk for Kindness: FebruarySupport the organizationSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:31) - Anthony's Way—The Road to Kindness ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode of our Your Divorce Case series, Seth and Pete explore the crucial role of Guardian Ad Litems (GALs) in custody cases. This episode breaks down how these court-appointed representatives work to protect children's interests during custody disputes, while navigating complex legal challenges like hearsay rules that can limit their effectiveness.The discussion centers on when and why courts appoint GALs, how they gather and present information, and their impact on custody decisions. Seth and Pete examine the limitations GALs face when presenting evidence from teachers, medical professionals, and other third parties, offering practical solutions for overcoming these obstacles. They also provide valuable insights into how parents can effectively work with GALs, including proper communication strategies and the importance of showing balanced perspectives about custody challenges.Questions we answer in this episode:When should you request a Guardian Ad Litem in your custody case?How can hearsay rules affect your GAL's effectiveness?What role do GALs play in the court's final custody decisions?Key Takeaways:Understanding hearsay rules is crucial for effective GAL testimonySuccessful GAL relationships require honest, organized communication from parentsCourts heavily weigh GAL recommendations, though they're not bound by themThis episode provides essential knowledge for parents navigating custody disputes. Whether you're considering requesting a GAL or have been assigned one, understanding their role, limitations, and the legal framework they operate within can significantly impact your case's outcome. Seth and Pete's practical advice offers valuable guidance for parents in the divorce process.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - The Guardian ad Litem (02:09) - Hearsay (04:52) - Truth of the Matter Asserted (06:43) - Exceptions to Hearsay Rule (09:05) - When to Use a GAL (10:48) - Connecting with the Kid (12:37) - Difference from a Therapist (14:32) - Impact (16:25) - How Do You Deal with the GAL? (17:55) - Coaching (20:14) - The Kid's Opinion (21:45) - Cost (23:04) - Common Mistakes (24:18) - Qualifications (26:41) - Wrap Up

In this episode of Authentically ADHD, host Carmen Irace explores how to navigate planning and prioritizing when living with ADHD. Drawing insights from the book Unapologetically ADHD by Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright, Carmen shares practical strategies to tackle common challenges, such as managing executive functioning, micro-planning, time blocking, and leveraging visual aids to stay on track. Additionally, the episode dives deep into the concept of time blindness—a unique challenge faced by many ADHD brains—and offers actionable tips to manage it, including externalizing time, using the “now and not now” technique, and anchoring tasks to daily events. Carmen emphasizes the importance of progress over perfection, self-compassion, and celebrating small wins along the way. Tune in to gain empowering tools and relatable insights that can help you feel more confident and capable as you work toward your goals! Unapologetically ADHD by Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright of the Taking Control ADHD Podcast: https://www.amazon.com/Unapologetically-ADHD-Step-Step-Framework/dp/1394265425  Patreon: ⁠https://www.patreon.com/AuthenticallyADHD⁠ 

Inside the Mediation Room: Understanding the Process with Family Law Mediator Tami SbarIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, part of the season-long series Your Divorce Case, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome back family law mediator Tami Sbar to dive deep into the mediation process. With 35 years of legal experience, Tami shares her unique perspective as a neutral party who helps divorcing couples reach agreements outside the courtroom. This episode builds on last week's discussion about mediation preparation, offering valuable insights into what actually happens during mediation sessions.Seth and Pete explore with Tami how mediation differs from courtroom proceedings, particularly in how it empowers couples to make their own decisions. Tami explains her role as a neutral facilitator rather than a decision-maker, and describes how she works with couples separately to help them reach mutually beneficial agreements. The conversation covers everything from managing power imbalances to handling emotional reactions, while providing practical examples of how mediators can help bridge communication gaps between divorcing partners.Questions we answer in this episode:What exactly does a mediator do during divorce proceedings?How do mediators handle situations with significant power imbalances?Can mediation address issues that courts can't enforce, like college expenses?Key Takeaways:Mediators work as neutral facilitators, not judges or decision-makersKeeping parties in separate rooms often leads to better outcomesSuccessful mediation requires both parties to be emotionally ready to settlePlus, we tackle another listener question! A parent asks about handling college expenses in states where courts don't address them, particularly when one parent previously promised to cover costs through inheritance. Seth and Tami discuss various solutions, from establishing trusts to creating detailed agreements with specific timeframes and conditions.Whether you're considering mediation or already scheduled for it, this episode provides crucial insights into the process. Tami's experienced perspective, combined with Seth and Pete's practical advice, offers valuable guidance for anyone navigating divorce mediation.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Mediation with Tami Sbar (01:29) - Tami's Background (03:32) - Conditions to Get Through It (04:46) - Being ‘A Neutral' (06:20) - Finding Underlying Reasons (07:53) - With or Without Lawyers (09:14) - Compartmentalization (11:26) - Preparing Mentally for Mediation (16:31) - How Lawyers Can Mess Things Up (21:02) - Your Authority (22:56) - Negotiating (25:01) - Power Imbalances (29:57) - Finding a Good Mediator (32:07) - Certification (32:51) - Feeling Comfortable with Your Mediator (34:42) - Listener Question (42:36) - Wrap Up

Preparing for Mediation: What You Need to KnowIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the importance of preparation when it comes to mediation. As part of the season-long series "Your Divorce Case," Seth and Pete aim to equip listeners with the knowledge and tools they need to navigate the mediation process effectively. Next week, they'll be joined by mediator Tami Sbar to discuss the mediation process in depth.Seth and Pete emphasize the significance of setting realistic expectations for clients and the crucial role of emotional readiness in the mediation process. They discuss the confidential nature of mediation and how it differs from a trial setting. The hosts also highlight the importance of having a solid parenting plan and a clear understanding of financial matters before entering mediation.Questions we answer in this episode:What is mediation, and how does it fit into the court process?How can you prepare emotionally and mentally for mediation?What should you bring to mediation, and what can you expect during the process?Key Takeaways:Preparation is key to a successful mediation. Draft a parenting plan and gather financial documents beforehand.Mediation is confidential, allowing parties to speak freely and explore options without fear of repercussions in court.Compromising beyond your comfort level may be necessary, but it's often better than the alternative of going to court.Plus, we tackle another listener question! In "Fed Up with Frivolous Motions," a listener asks how to deal with a spouse who refuses to mediate and constantly files frivolous motions. Seth suggests requesting a scheduling order from the judge to set deadlines and keep the case moving forward.This episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice for anyone preparing for mediation in their divorce case. By listening, you'll gain a better understanding of what to expect, how to prepare, and how to approach the process with the right mindset. Tune in to ensure you're well-equipped for your upcoming mediation session!Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Preparing for Mediation (01:14) - Setting Realistic Mediation Expectations (05:28) - Parenting Plan Mediation (09:13) - Getting Emotionally Ready (10:23) - Your Day to Talk Freely (14:12) - Goals (16:28) - What Causes Mediation to Fail (18:25) - Long Days (21:08) - Buyer's Remorse (25:08) - Last Notes (26:28) - Listener Question (30:02) - Wrap Up

In this inspiring episode, I'm joined by two incredible guests, Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer, the dynamic duo behind the new book, Unapologetically ADHD. With decades of combined experience in coaching, podcasting, and living with ADHD, Pete and Nikki share their unique journey of co-authoring their book and the lessons they've learned about failure, success, and working together as a team. We dive into their podcasting journey, strategies for navigating big projects, and how they've redefined ADHD productivity with compassion and practicality.Nikki Kinzer is a professional certified ADHD coach through the International Coaching Federation (ICF). She's been coaching adults with ADHD since 2010 and has built a business around supporting the ADHD community through coaching, teaching, and podcasting. She lives with her husband, Brad, in Springfield, Oregon. Pete Wright was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 28 and has spent the better part of his life since then studying and podcasting about his lived ADHD experience. He is a professional podcaster and co-founder of the TruStory FM podcast network. He's a former journalist, educator, and public relations executive and lives with his wife, Kira, in Portland, Oregon. Episode Highlights:[0:00] - Pete reflects on reprogramming how we view failure.[0:44] - Introducing Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer, their backgrounds, and the new book.[2:35] - The origins of their podcast and the magic of their partnership.[7:15] - Nikki's journey into ADHD coaching and the transition to focusing on ADHD clients.[13:20] - Pete's perspective on working with a professional organizer and managing ADHD.[17:03] - How their second book came to life and what made the process smoother.[22:22] - Strategies they used to tackle challenges during the writing process.[29:01] - Key takeaways from Unapologetically ADHD for managing big projects. [37:37] - Pete's deep dive into routines, executive function, and strategic friction. [43:12] - Final reflections: reframing failure and embracing being unapologetically ADHD. Links & ResourcesVisit Pete and Nikki's website: takecontroladhd.comOrder their book, Unapologetically ADHD: https://takecontroladhd.com/adhdbook Listen to their podcast: Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast wherever you get your podcasts. https://takecontroladhd.com/the-adhd-podcast Thank you for tuning into "SuccessFULL with ADHD." If this episode has impacted you, remember to rate, follow, share, and review our podcast. Your support helps us reach and help more individuals navigating their journeys with ADHD. Want to be ‘SuccessFULL with ADHD' by Activating Your ADHD Potential?Order our 3x best-selling book/workbook for adults with ADHD ▶️ http://bit.ly/activateadhd

The Final E: Understanding Everything Else in Your DivorceFamily law attorney Seth Nelson and co-host Pete Wright wrap up their journey through the PEACE Process, focusing on that last E – the often-overlooked but crucial "Everything Else" component. In this episode, they break down the practical aspects of divorce proceedings that can make or break your case.Seth and Pete dive deep into the importance of process management in divorce cases, from document preparation to courtroom proceedings. They explore how setting clear goals at the start can help navigate the emotional complexity of divorce while staying focused on what matters most. The conversation covers everything from working with paralegals as accountability partners to understanding the role of private investigators in gathering evidence, and the critical aspects of attorney fees and retainers.Questions we answer in this episode:How do I manage the overwhelming amount of documentation needed for my divorce?What should I expect regarding timeline and costs for my divorce proceedings?How do attorney retainers work and what are my financial obligations?Key Takeaways:Start with your end goals and work backward to create an effective strategyMake time for your case and utilize support staff as accountability partnersUnderstand the true timeline of divorce proceedings - even "simple" cases typically take 3-18 monthsThis episode provides invaluable insights into the practical aspects of divorce proceedings that often catch people off guard. Seth and Pete's straightforward discussion about process management, documentation requirements, and financial considerations offers listeners a comprehensive roadmap for navigating their divorce journey more effectively.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:34) - Everything Else (01:30) - Attorney's Fees and the Process (02:26) - Starting at the End (06:13) - Reactive (07:25) - Foreign Place (09:59) - Working Backward (12:21) - Make the Time (14:54) - Working with a Paralegal (16:27) - Understanding the Next Step (18:19) - Trial Prep (20:39) - The Theme of Your Story (23:08) - Hiring PIs (25:07) - Client Gathering Info (28:37) - Walking Through It (33:39) - Attorney's Fees (39:50) - Tax Implications (40:21) - Wrap Up

‘Tis the Season... for Co-Parenting Conflict!No parent wants to deal with emergency motion handling orders or duty judges on the holidays, but it happens. Stress can be high and the holidays – any holiday – can become a ripe place to pick a fight. So how do you avoid conflict to make the holidays still a special time for the kids?The key is to do everything you can to avoid problems. Often, that means getting your ego out of the way so that you and your ex can make it about the kids. Avoid exchanges on travel days. Try to not split actual holidays, but if you have to, think about the activities of the day and plan accordingly. (In other words, if you're splitting Christmas, do it in the afternoon so they can enjoy Christmas morning.) And do what you can to avoid escalation – perhaps you need to stay away from the eggnog until after you've dropped the kids off.What about gifts? The kids were used to getting gifts from both parents. You don't have to stop co-gifting just because you're divorced. It may be what your child needs to feel safe around the holiday. Seth and Pete offer lots of great advice. Tune in, and have yourself a happy and safe holiday season.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (01:00) - Co-Parenting During the Holidays (01:17) - Holiday Emergencies (03:09) - Don't Exchange on Travel Days (06:45) - Splitting Holidays (09:11) - Points of Escalation (11:05) - Gifts (14:27) - Other Holidays (21:06) - Avoid Conflict for the Kids (22:31) - Lower Expectations (22:59) - Enjoy the Holidays

What makes a single movie become a phenomenon? What is it about certain films—films that arrive in theaters, scare the daylights out of us, and then stay with us—that transforms them into franchises spanning decades? Why does one horror film birth sequels, spin-offs, reboots, and even TV shows, while others fade quietly into obscurity?Picture this: a young boy receives a doll for his birthday, only to discover it's inhabited by the spirit of a serial killer. Elsewhere, a teenager falls asleep, only to find herself hunted by a burned man in a striped sweater who kills through dreams. And, in another corner of horror lore, a puzzle box opens the doors to a realm of sadistic creatures who blur the line between pleasure and pain. These, taken on their own, sound mostly ridiculous.Child's Play, A Nightmare on Elm Street, and Hellraiser. These three films became more than just singular stories—they evolved into worlds. Worlds filled with iconic characters like Chucky, Freddy Krueger, and Pinhead, names that transcend the genre to become part of pop culture itself. But how?Why do some horror films captivate us so deeply that we want to revisit their worlds, again and again? Why do we keep coming back to the dolls, the dream-demons, and the interdimensional sadists? Unforgettable villains? Unique and terrifying concepts? Marketing? Or is it something deeper—something they reflect about us, about our society, about our fears?Today, we're going to explore this question by diving into these three legendary horror films as we take on First Frights this month on Sitting in the Dark with Pete Wright, Kynan Dias, Kyle Olson, and Tommy Metz III. (00:00) - Welcome to Sitting in the Dark (04:39) - First Frights (08:05) - A Nightmare on Elm Street (26:20) - Hellraiser (46:59) - Child's Play (01:06:28) - Coming Attractions: Sexy, Sexy Monsters! Learn how to support our show and The Next Reel's family of film podcasts by becoming a member. It's just $5 monthly or $55 annually. Learn more here.Follow the other podcasts in The Next Reel's family of film podcasts:Cinema Scope: Bridging Genres, Subgenres, and MovementsThe Film BoardMovies We LikeThe Next Reel Film PodcastJoin the conversation with movie lovers from around the world in our Discord community!Here's where you can find us around the internet:The WebLetterboxdPeteKyleTommyKynanWhat are some other ways you can support us and show your love? Glad you asked!You can buy our movie-related apparel, stickers, mugs and more from our MERCH PAGE.Or buy or rent movies we've discussed on the show from our WATCH PAGE.Or buy books, plays, etc. that was the source for movies we've discussed on the show from our ORIGINALS PAGE.Or renew or sign up for a Letterboxd Pro or Patron account with our LETTERBOXD MEMBERSHIP DISCOUNT.Or sign up for AUDIBLE.

Welcome to Winter! It's that time of year we love to hunker down and reflect, taking just a few weeks to recharge and prepare for the burst of new life in the spring. We have a few episodes from the archives to share with you over these cozy weeks. First up, what was originally an episode about splitting the summer holidays comes today, just in time for winter's chill!Winter, that time we celebrate the most cherished of all divorce traditions, that special time when you sit down and ask: how do you split the holidays?Let's get this out of the way early: if you have kids involved, splitting holidays is not easy. We're not just talking about the winter holidays, mind you. What about winter break... New Year's Eve, New Year's Day, Valentine's Day, birthdays, Mother's Day, Father's Day, spring break, President's Day, three-day weekends, teacher planning days, Jewish Holidays, Non-Hallmark holidays, and believe it or not, the list goes on from there!Luckily, after you wrap your head around the sheer number of days to calculate, you can rest easy in the comfort of the one person in your corner who can help you with all that holiday math: your lawyer. That's right, your lawyer has likely been through this many, many times and has seen every possible permutation of the holiday split and with a little patience, can get you scheduling like a pro. (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (01:21) - Splitting Holidays (24:58) - Definition of the Week – Deposition (26:58) - Working With Your Lawyer When It Comes to Holidays (33:58) - Wrapping Up

Red One: When Santa Goes Marvel (feat. Pete Wright)Is Amazon's $250 million Christmas blockbuster Red One a fresh take on holiday magic, or a cynical cash grab? Join Matthew and special guest Pete Wright as they unwrap this action-packed holiday film starring Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson and Chris Evans. From buff Santas to beach-fighting snowmen, this episode explores how Hollywood's attempt to "Marvelize" Christmas might have missed the spirit of the season.Did Red One forget what makes Christmas special? We dive deep into how the movie's attempt to universalize Santa Claus across all cultures reveals a concerning lack of cultural awareness. The hosts explore why forcing Christmas onto everyone – including those who don't celebrate it – feels particularly tone-deaf in our current social climate.What happens when you mix Marvel-style action with holiday mythology? We examine how J.K. Simmons' surprisingly buff Santa and the movie's fresh take on Krampus reshape traditional Christmas lore. The discussion weighs whether these creative choices enhance or diminish the heart of Christmas storytelling.Other topics covered:The problematic implications of Santa's worldwide surveillance stateHow the film handles redemption through Chris Evans' character arcThe surprising handling of Krampus as a complex character rather than pure villainThe film's uncomfortable relationship with body image and fitnessWhether this expensive holiday spectacle has any chance of becoming an annual tradition**************************************************************************This episode is a production of Superhero Ethics, a The Ethical Panda Podcast and part of the TruStory FM Entertainment Podcast Network. Check our our website to find out more about this and our sister podcast Star Wars Generations.We want to hear from you! You can keep up with our latest news, and send us feedback, questions, or comments via social media or email.Email: Matthew@TheEthicalPanda.comFacebook: TheEthicalPandaInstagram: TheEthicalPandaPodcastsTwitter: EthicalPanda77Or you can join jump into the Star Wars Generations and Superhero Ethics channels on the TruStory FM Discord.Want to get access to even more content while supporting the podcast? Become a member! For $5 a month, or $55 a year you get access to bonus episodes and bonus content at the end of most episodes. Sign up on the podcast's main page. You can even give membership as a gift!You can also support our podcasts through our sponsors:Purchase a lightsaber from Level Up Sabers run by friend of the podcast Neighborhood Master AlanUse Audible for audiobooks. Sign up for a one year membership or gift one through this link.Purchase any media discussed this week through our sponsored links.

Uncovering Hidden Assets in Divorce with Forensic Accountant Kristin DiMeoIn this installment of our "Your Divorce Case" series, Seth and Pete welcome Kristin DiMeo, a forensic accountant and expert witness who has seen Seth in action representing clients in mediations and trials. The conversation focuses on Kristin's role in the divorce process, looking backwards at a couple's finances to uncover and analyze assets that may be hidden or overlooked.As a CPA, Kristin compiles and examines past financial records to help answer key questions about a divorcing couple's money matters. Beyond digging into the details, she also assists clients and attorneys in settlement discussions and preparing exhibits for court. Seth and Pete dig into what someone should expect when working with a forensic accountant like Kristin and how she approaches complex issues like business valuations.Questions we answer in this episode:What does a forensic accountant do in divorce cases?How does a forensic accountant work with divorcing individuals and attorneys?What are the different approaches to valuing a business in a divorce?Key Takeaways:Forensic accounting is about uncovering financial details, not always catching deceptionDivorcing individuals can help the process by gathering as many financial documents as possibleBusiness valuations in divorce consider assets, income, the market and non-marital factorsFor anyone facing a divorce who is unsure about the complete financial picture, this episode is a must-listen. Seth, Pete and Kristin break down the crucial role a forensic accountant can play in ensuring all assets are accounted for and valued properly to enable fair settlement discussions. Tune in for an inside look at the financial side of untangling a marriage.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:01) - Meet Kristin DiMeo (03:00) - The Forensic Accountant's Role (05:38) - Creating Transparency (10:49) - One or Both Parties (11:30) - Setting Up Your Expectations (15:44) - Discovery Methods (18:41) - Business Valuations (20:52) - Asset Approach (25:50) - Common Complications (29:02) - Alimony and Child Support (31:35) - Trial (35:29) - Live Questions (42:38) - Wrap Up Stay safe and sober this holiday season with Soberlink. Co-parenting can be challenging, especially when alcohol abuse is a concern. Give yourself and your family the gift of peace of mind during the holidays by using Soberlink's remote alcohol monitoring system. Improve trust, accountability, and communication in your co-parenting arrangement. Visit their site today to learn more and get $50 off. Happy Holidays from Soberlink!

Navigating the Complex World of Child SupportIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive deep into the often murky waters of child support, the C in the PEACE Process. With precise rules, high stakes, and emotions running even higher, understanding child support is crucial for anyone going through a divorce.Unraveling the Intricacies of Child SupportIn this installment of our season-long look called Your Divorce Case, Seth and Pete break down the complexities of child support, explaining that it has little to do with actual child expenses. Instead, the state uses a mathematical formula based on the combined net income of both parents to determine the amount of support needed. They discuss how factors such as the number of children, parenting time, and additional expenses like health insurance premiums and uncovered medical costs impact the calculation.Questions we answer in this episode:• How is child support calculated?• What factors influence child support payments?• Can the court deviate from the child support guidelines?Key Takeaways:• Child support is based on a formula, not actual child expenses.• The percentage of financial responsibility for each parent is crucial.• Regular recurring income, such as bonuses and vested stock options, counts towards child support calculations.Seth and Pete's in-depth analysis of child support provides valuable insights for anyone navigating the complexities of divorce. By understanding the nuances of the guidelines, parents can better prepare for the financial aspects of co-parenting and ensure the well-being of their children post-divorce.Links & NotesFree Child Support Calculations on Family Law SoftwareSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:00) - The PEACE Process: Child Support (04:34) - Not Just About Child Expenses (07:19) - Who Pays Whom? (13:19) - No Reason to Fight (13:47) - Deviating from Guidelines (15:50) - Kids from Multiple Marriages (19:02) - Finding the Net Income (27:19) - Changes in Circumstance (30:21) - Enforcement (32:07) - Bankruptcy (32:50) - Can't Waive the Right (33:48) - Modification (35:09) - How Does the Court Know? (37:33) - Extracurriculars (38:50) - Remarriages (42:34) - Almost Wrap Up (43:18) - Alimony (44:09) - Real Wrap Up Stay safe and sober this holiday season with Soberlink. Co-parenting can be challenging, especially when alcohol abuse is a concern. Give yourself and your family the gift of peace of mind during the holidays by using Soberlink's remote alcohol monitoring system. Improve trust, accountability, and communication in your co-parenting arrangement. Visit their site today to learn more and get $50 off. Happy Holidays from Soberlink!

Show Me The Money: Understanding Modern AlimonyIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into the complex world of alimony. As part of their comprehensive P.E.A.C.E. Process mini-series, they break down what alimony really means today, who might be eligible, and how courts determine payments.Over the course of the episode, Seth and Pete demystify how alimony actually works. They explore everything from basic calculations to lifestyle considerations, debunk common misconceptions about savings components, and explain why "need and ability to pay" matters more than simple income differences. The discussion covers various types of alimony payments, from short-term support during transitions to longer-term arrangements, and explains how courts look at the whole financial picture.Questions we answer in this episode:• How do courts calculate alimony payments?• What expenses can be included in alimony calculations?• Can I modify my alimony after divorce?Key Takeaways:• Alimony is based on need and ability to pay, not just income differences• Don't forget to factor in new expenses like health insurance and HOA dues• Consider lump sum payments to avoid ongoing financial entanglementPlus, we tackle several listener questions! From high-income scenarios to job loss situations, Seth explains how courts handle various real-world alimony challenges and what rights both parties have when circumstances change.Whether you're facing divorce or just want to understand how modern alimony works, this episode provides essential insights into one of divorce's most misunderstood aspects. Seth and Pete's practical approach makes complex financial concepts accessible while offering strategies to protect yourself financially during and after divorce.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - PEACE: Alimony (02:20) - Quiz Time (05:58) - Starting Point (07:37) - Understanding Where the Money's Going (11:47) - Forensic Accounting (12:49) - Unanticipated Income (15:55) - Ability to Pay (19:14) - Changes in Alimony (21:26) - Ways to Save in Fees (28:12) - Listener Questions (33:28) - Wrap Up

It's an honor to interview Pete Wright. Pete has been practicing law in the area of special education since 1978, and he and his wife are the founders of Wrightslaw. In today's episode, Pete and I chat about his own personal story and why he became involved in special education law. He also answers 9 frequently asked questions about education rights.  1) What does the law say about the difference between a 504 and an IEP? Is one better than another? 2) Can the school refuse to provide an IEP or a Section 504 Plan to a child who is making good grades? 3) Most people know that they are able to request a new evaluation every three years. What if the school says they don't believe the student needs another evaluation? Do you have to wait 3 years before requesting another evaluation? If a parent doesn't agree with the evaluation results, does the school have to agree to an IEE? 4) What if the school isn't following the 504 or IEP consistently? 5) What if the goals, objectives, and data collection don't make any sense? Ex. unclear and data collection is confusing 6) Are children who attend private schools, religious schools, and charter schools eligible for special education and related services? 7) What do the laws say about bullying at school? 8) What does the law say about Restraint and seclusion? 9) What do the laws say about suspensions for disruptive behavior and what if the behavior is related to the child's disability? What if the school believes the behavior is not related to the child's disability but the parent does think the behavior is due to their child's disability? Pete generously offered our listeners 15% off on Wrightslaw books. Use the coupon code "crossvine" to get 15% off. This offer ends 12/31/24.  Click Here - https://www.wrightslaw.com/store/ Pete refers to specific statutes and page numbers in Wrightslaw: Special Education Law, 3rd Ed. Please click here and enter "crossvine" as both your username and password to access the document.  Sincerely, Holly Blanc Moses - The Mom/Neurodivergent Therapist ATTENTION THERAPISTS - Click here to get your neuroaffirming continuing education training! CLICK HERE for Holly's ONE STOP RESOURCE - Social Success Guide, Behavior Guide, and MORE! Learn more about Holly's private practice in North Carolina ⭐️ Join Holly on Instagram ⭐️ Join our Private Facebook Groups ➡️ Professionals who support neurodivergent kids & teens join HERE ➡️ Parents join HERE

Splitting Assets in Divorce: More Than Just Breaking a Toaster in HalfIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, divorce attorney Seth Nelson and Pete Wright tackle the thorny issue of dividing assets in divorce. As part of their P.E.A.C.E. Process mini-series, Seth and Pete break down what "equitable distribution" really means - and why it's about way more than just splitting everything 50/50.Seth and Pete walk through the four key steps of dividing assets: Identification (what stuff do we actually have?), Classification (whose stuff is it really?), Valuation (what's it worth?), and Distribution (who gets what?). They cover everything from basic bank accounts to complex business valuations, and even dive into some surprising assets you might not think about - like vacation days and airline miles. Along the way, they share real-world examples that show why "fair" in divorce court might not match your definition of fairness.Questions we answer in this episode:• How do you figure out what's "yours," "mine," and "ours" in a divorce?• What happens when one person tries to hide assets?• Can my ex get half my frequent flyer miles?Key Takeaways:• Just because something's in your name doesn't mean it's all yours• Personal goodwill (like your winning personality) isn't a marital asset• Sometimes arguing for "fairness" means you've already lostPlus, we tackle another listener question! A California resident asks about inherited money that got mixed into shared accounts and home purchases during marriage. Seth explains why following the money matters and how different states handle these situations differently (spoiler alert: location matters!).Whether you're facing divorce or just curious about how courts slice and dice assets, this episode breaks down complex legal concepts into bite-sized pieces. Seth and Pete take a practical approach to help make this topic both digestible and surprisingly engaging.Links & NotesSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:27) - PEACE: Equitable Distribution (01:10) - Equitable, Not Equal (01:38) - Identification (03:55) - Classification (09:35) - Both Marital and Non-Marital (11:30) - Filing Date (12:23) - Proof (13:32) - Rings (14:42) - Valuation (19:34) - Valuing a Business (24:40) - Distribution (26:55) - Not Equitable (28:21) - Hiding Assets (31:52) - Prenups (34:40) - Lots of Nuance (35:26) - Listener Question (41:16) - Wrap Up

Since 2010, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright have been the co-hosts of the award-winning podcast, Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, speaking to adults with ADHD all over the globe. Over 29 seasons—and more than 600 episodes—Nikki and Pete continue to offer support and strategies for adults living with ADHD. And now they decided to write their first book, Unapologetically ADHD.   Listen to this Parenting With Impact episode with Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright about becoming ‘Unapologetically ADHD'. Here is what to expect on this week's show: Nikki and Pete advocate for fostering a safe and supportive environment by engaging in curiosity-driven conversations with children with ADHD. Pete highlights the importance of overcoming shame associated with ADHD and embracing the condition unapologetically. Pete emphasizes the significance of providing structure and support without judgment.   Links Mentioned: Unapologetically ADHD by Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright:  https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1394265425/?tag=im0ea3-20 Taking Control:  The ADHD Podcast:  https://takecontroladhd.com/the-adhd-podcast Shame Resilience: A Key Component in ADHD Wellness:  https://youtu.be/ZvV3GdXiE8s Success! A Mother's Journey From Shame to Acceptance:  https://youtu.be/nXuBh5n8DEg?si=V9xAbko0eE8G-UTE Medical Bias vs. ADHD: The History of a Smear Campaign:  https://youtu.be/0Cdcg5nwV2Y CBT for ADHD: Thoughts Don't Cause ADHD, But They Can Help Manage It:  https://youtu.be/S-pgDRjS7zQ?feature=shared Magic 3 Questions: https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/learn-from-mistakes/ 3 Step Method to ACE Communication with Complex Kids & Teens:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/3-steps-to-ace-communication-with-complex-kids-teens/ 3 Steps to Respond Without Reacting:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/3-steps-to-respond-without-reacting/ Failing Forward: Make Every Mistake a New One:  https://impactparents.com/blog/complex-kids/failing-forward/ What Does it Mean to “Treat” ADHD?:  https://impactparents.com/blog/adhd/what-does-it-mean-to-treat-adhd-2/ Connect with Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright: Website: takecontroladhd.com Unapologetically ADHD by Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright: takecontroladhd.com/adhdbook Facebook: facebook.com/takecontroladhd Instagram: instagram.com/takecontroladhd Pinterest: pinterest.com/takecontroladhd YouTube: youtube.com/@takecontroladhd   Get your FREE copy of 12 Key Coaching Tools https://impactparents.com/gift   Connect with Impact Parents: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/impactparents/ @impactparents Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ImpactParent @impactparent LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/impactparents/ @impactparents X (fkaTwitter): https://twitter.com/ImpactParents @impactparents Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reunification Therapy: Rebuilding Parent-Child Relationships During and After DivorceSeth Nelson and Pete Wright welcome psychotherapist Gina Aguinaga to explore one of the most challenging aspects of divorce: repairing fractured parent-child relationships. As part of their ongoing "Your Divorce Case" series, this episode dives deep into reunification therapy. Gina, who specializes in helping families navigate difficult divorces and separations, brings her expertise to this crucial conversation about healing broken family bonds.The episode examines the nuanced dynamics of parent-child estrangement during divorce, including both unintentional and intentional alienation behaviors. Seth and Pete guide the discussion through practical approaches to rebuilding relationships, from simple first steps like phone calls to the importance of maintaining presence at children's events. Gina shares insights from her therapeutic process, emphasizing the need to treat family issues holistically rather than focusing solely on the rejected parent and child relationship.Questions we answer in this episode:What behaviors or situations typically lead to parent-child estrangement during divorce?How can parents start rebuilding damaged relationships with their children?When should families seek reunification therapy versus trying to handle issues themselves?Key Takeaways:Start with small, manageable steps toward rebuilding relationshipsFocus on the child's activities and interests during reconnection attemptsAddress issues early - waiting only makes reunification more challengingThis vital installment in the children and divorce conversation provides essential guidance for parents navigating complicated family dynamics. Through professional insight and practical examples, listeners gain valuable strategies for maintaining and rebuilding parent-child relationships during the divorce process, making it a crucial resource for families in transition.Links & NotesFind Gina and learn more about the reunification process at her websiteSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Gina Aguinaga, Reunification Specialist (01:00) - When Reunification Therapy Is Needed (03:36) - Reasons (06:25) - When the Child Doesn't Want to Connect (07:59) - Role of Favored Parent (10:27) - Intentional Alienation (13:20) - Court-Ordered (15:41) - The Favored Parent's Perspective (16:57) - Frequency (18:48) - Changing Outcomes (20:49) - New People in Parents' Lives (21:12) - Extended Family (22:24) - Harder Cases (24:04) - When They're Doing the Work (26:14) - Out of State (27:50) - Get Your Own Treatment Too (30:24) - Finding Gina

Parenting Across Two Homes: Strategies for Success After DivorceIn this installment of our Your Divorce Case series, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright continue the conversation about parenting plans by exploring the realities of co-parenting children across two households after divorce. They are joined by Leanne Tran, a registered psychologist who specializes in working with children and families dealing with autism, ADHD, and learning disorders. Building upon the previous episode about crafting effective parenting plans, Seth and Pete dive deeper into the impacts of divorce on children and strategies for successful co-parenting, with a special focus on the unique considerations for neurodivergent kids.Leanne shares valuable insights on the key factors that influence how children cope with the changes brought by divorce, such as the level of parental conflict, disruption to routines and sense of identity, and the emotional and behavioral signs of distress parents should watch out for. The discussion also touches on the additional challenges faced by neurodivergent children, who may struggle more with transitions, need for sameness, and sensory sensitivities. Leanne emphasizes the importance of parents being on the same page, providing consistency across households, and being mindful of the impact on siblings as well.Questions we answer in this episode:What signs indicate a child is struggling emotionally with divorce?How can parents best support neurodivergent children across two homes?What should be considered when introducing a new partner to the family dynamic?Key Takeaways:Changes in behavior, emotions, sleep, appetite, and interests can signal distress.Consistency, predictability, and catering to sensory needs are crucial for neurodivergent kids.Clear communication and gradual introductions help children adjust to new partners.Through the lens of her expertise, Leanne provides valuable guidance for parents navigating the complexities of co-parenting, both for neurotypical and neurodivergent children. This episode offers practical tips and compassionate advice to help families thrive after divorce, building upon the foundation of a well-crafted parenting plan discussed in the previous episode. Tune in for insights that can make a real difference in your post-divorce parenting journey.Links & NotesFind Leanne on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn, and her websiteListen to Leanne's podcast Parent Like a PsychologistSchedule a consult with SethGot a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (02:10) - Meet Leanne Tran (04:21) - Impact on Kids (06:20) - Signs of Distress (07:51) - Changing Their Own Identity (11:11) - Changes in Routine (13:35) - When They're Neurodiverse (18:43) - Autism (21:03) - Splitting Time (23:03) - Finding a Sense of Regulation (23:48) - Impact on Siblings (25:14) - New Partners (28:26) - Therapeutic Options (32:13) - Handling Parenting Plan (33:51) - Priority Dilution (38:17) - Finding Leanne (39:32) - Wrap Up Learn more about the Holiday Harmony: Soberlink's Tools for Safe and Conflict-Free Co-Parenting webinar and sign up to attend right here! It's on Saturday, November 16th, at 9:30a PT. 

The holidays: a time of joy, connection, and… overwhelming and paralyzing stress? For many, especially those with ADHD, the rapid approach of holidays can trigger a last-minute scramble. On this episode of "Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast," Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright offer a proactive approach to holiday planning, transforming the season from a source of anxiety into a period of manageable excitement.Forget the stress spirals! Nikki and Pete kick things off with a simple but powerful tool: your calendar. Dust it off, check those dates, and make sure everything's up to date. Then, unleash your inner brainstormer! Grab a pen and paper (or your favorite digital tool) and let those holiday to-dos flow. Mind maps, master lists – whatever helps you wrangle those thoughts onto something other than the inside of your head. Important note: This isn't your actual to-do list, just a brain dump. We'll get to the action items later.Next up? Taming the to-do beast by sorting it into categories. Think "Gifts," "Decorations," "That epic holiday party I'm totally going to crush." Once you've got your categories, it's time to plug them into your trusty task management system. The goal? A clear view of what needs doing, so nothing gets lost in the pre-holiday shuffle.Now for the nitty-gritty: prioritizing. Nikki and Pete guide you through assessing deadlines, impact, and (let's be real) how much time you actually have. They also dive into the brilliant concept of "Priority Dilution" from Rory Vaden's book, Procrastinate on Purpose. It's like that moment when you keep adding water to your favorite drink and it becomes… well, less awesome. Learn how to avoid the Urgency Illusion, the Reactivity Trap, and other productivity pitfalls, and discover the power of a well-placed "no."Feeling overwhelmed? Nikki and Pete have you covered. They recommend creating a separate daily list, picking just one or two tasks from your master list. It's all about small wins and avoiding that "where do I even start?" paralysis.Finally, they share strategies for getting ahead of the game. Delegation? Yes, please! Accountability partners? Game-changer. Body doubling sessions? Pure magic. Regular check-ins with your task list? Essential. And remember, all progress is good progress. Pace yourself, schedule reasonable time blocks, and get ready to enjoy a smoother, more joyful holiday season.Links & NotesSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:40) - Support the show, Find the show, Discord the show (04:54) - Long-Term Planning with ADHD: Holiday Edition (17:22) - Priority Dilution --It's Time to Live Unapologetically — The Book is Available Now!Our new book, Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework for Everyday Planning on Your Terms, is out and available now! You can find the hardcover or ebook version via Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Kobo, and Apple Books. Visit https://takecontroladhd.com/adhdbook for direct links to your favorite bookstore online, or visit your neighborhood bookstore and ask for it by name!  ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode of the Live By Design Podcast, ADHD experts Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright join us to explore the often-misunderstood world of ADHD, especially as it impacts high-achieving women!In this episode you can expect to:

Do you struggle with time management and ADHD? Or maybe you don't have ADHD, but you want to get better at planning projects and everyday tasks, and focus on what's most important. This week's episode is for you! Today's guests, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright, and experts in the realm of planning with ADHD. We chat about how time management and planning work differently with ADHD, how you can be more clear on your boundaries, and ultimately, how to accept yourself and create a time management system customized to your brain. Whether you live with ADHD or not, you'll be encouraged by this conversation!  

This week on The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright wrangle the comedic duo, Penn and Kim Holderness, authors of the New York Times bestselling book, ADHD is Awesome. Known for their viral videos (and possibly for single-handedly introducing COVID to the US, but we'll let Kim explain that one), the Holdernesses bring their signature blend of humor and honesty to a conversation about ADHD, vulnerability, and the art of the perfectly timed split jump.Kim, the self-proclaimed anxiety and OCD whisperer to Penn's whirlwind of ADHD energy, shares her side of the story, revealing the secrets to thriving in a relationship where lost car keys and forgotten stoves are just part of the daily soundtrack. Penn takes us on a trip down memory lane, from his shirt-chewing, interruption-filled childhood to the college years where academic probation became an unwelcome roommate. He shares how ADHD has shaped their careers, from the fast-paced world of local news to the creative explosion of online content creation. And yes, he finally explains the genius behind the cauliflower rice video – prepare for a philosophical debate that will divide your family for generations.Join Pete and Nikki for a laugh-out-loud, yet touching conversation with Penn and Kim. This episode is packed with relatable anecdotes, practical tips, and a healthy reminder that even in the midst of chaos, there's always room for connection, understanding, and maybe even a well-placed split jump.Links & NotesFind links to all their goodies at TheHoldernessFamily.comPick up ADHD is AwesomePick up Unapologetically ADHDDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:17) - Become a Patron! patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (01:43) - Introducing Penn & Kim Holderness (11:43) - ADHD Adaptation Between Partners (19:15) - The Beach Story (30:39) - The Baggage of ADHD (36:13) - Tackling the Title (44:19) - The Creative Process (52:55) - Collaboration (01:01:41) - What's Next? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★