Podcast appearances and mentions of Carol Gilligan

I have been reflecting on the nature of practice-awakening. In the Buddhist tradition this refers to the process (both sudden and gradual) of realizing our fundamental wellbeing. This is a transformational practice. This is a healing practice. And it is mysterious. It doesn't happen in the way that we expect.Insights happen, and then are forgotten. Love is awakened and then seemingly covered over. Only to be rediscovered again. We can read the same teaching years later and feel like it opens a new level of depth, or is actually just what we needed to hear in that moment.The ancients spoke of stabilizing our insights, of familiarizing ourselves with the love, peace and understanding that we are.I am reading a book by Carol Gilligan called The Birth of Pleasure. In it Gilligan is using the myth of Psyche and Eros, to talk about the development of the psyche in women. She is also writing about relationship and the maturing of love. As I was reading I encountered a short paragraph where she introduced research between mothers and infants that revealed the relational attunement present at this early stage of our development. She spoke of how the research challenged assumptions of separation.Their research was challenging an orthodoxy of separation (we are born alone, we die alone) by revealing a reality of relationship. Finding and losing and finding again. This is the rhythm of relationship, played over and over again in the games that delight babies and young children. It is the rhythm of love.—Carol Gilligan, Birth of PleasureWhen I read this, I heard dharma practice instructions. That is the thing about immersing in the dharma, we hear it, we see it—everywhere.How many of us have this orthodoxy of separation ingrained in us? Who think thoughts or hold beliefs that—we are alone? We are separate from the rest of the world? That no one understands us? That we are unloveable or exiled in some way?The dharma challenges this orthodoxy, by revealing a reality of relationship. We can wake-up to the reality of interconnection, of non-separation. Practice is that finding and losing and finding again. Its the rhythm of love that delighted us as children. Its something we know deeply.We are never apart from it, but we get lost, as humans do. And then get found.A coin that is lost in the river, is found in the river.—Zen KoanWe are that coin. Our true nature is that coin. And actually we are the river too, where nothing is ever lost. Its always right here.In the Tibetan tradition you do practices a one-hundred-thousand times as part of the preliminary practices, called ngondro, this includes prayers, refuge practices, bows, atonement and offerings practices. I have a little taste of this from the studies I did at Tara Mandala. You keep a practice log, and you actually count.Part of the theory being that once you do it thousands of times, its in you. Faith, determination and trust are born through the practice of return. We actualize the rhythm of love that we delighted in as children.Isn't it delightful to rediscover the refuge of our breath, to reconnect with the stability and openness of our original heart?In the Zen tradition we have our own expression of this. Throughout the course of a retreat or a residential period, you will do 100s or 1000s of bows and hours of meditation. You will chant the same chants, participate in the same ceremonies, over and over again. Hogen used to say if you train at Great Vow Zen Monastery for at least 7 years—the dharma is in your bones. Ten or more years of dedicated lay practice that includes sesshin has a similar kind of embodied resonance.Part of the point here is the repetition. If we lose and find ourselves one-hundred-thousand times, we will start to trust the practice—we start to trust those periods of feeling lost, afraid or anxious as part of the rhythm of love—part of the rhythm of being. We will start to have a kind of experiential faith that love is us. That we are never apart from openness. That the peace we seek is really right here.one-hundred-thousand returns to loving kindness and kindness becomes more the ground from which we liveThe recognition, the experience of love, of ease, of understanding, takes an instant. But the true developing of the refuge takes time— perhaps one-hundred-thousand times or more.And we still get angry, we still get anxious—but our response is closer to the actual experience. We can feel the anxiety with kindness and openness, with curiosity and humility—and that changes everything.Sometimes we think, it must not be working if i still have to practice, if there is still this much anger. But this is the human realm, we live in a world with anger, with hatred, with loss and pain. Practice is an orientation of the heart, it's learning more and more to dwell with life as it actually is.Over the past year we have been reciting Ken McLeod's version of the Four Immeasureables prayer at Mud Lotus Sangha. I share it here, may you chant it 100k times until every cell in your body knows the truth behind these words.Four ImmeasurablesEquanimityMay I be free from preference and prejudice.May I know things just as they are.May I experience the world knowing me just as I am.May I see into whatever arises.Loving kindnessMay I be happy, well, and at peace.May I open to things just as they are.May I experience the world opening to me just as I am.May I welcome whatever arises.CompassionMay I be free of suffering, harm, and disturbance.May I accept things just as they are.May I experience the world accepting me just as I am.May I serve whatever arises.JoyMay I enjoy the activities of life itself.May I enjoy things just as they are.May I experience the world taking joy in all that I do.May I know what to do, whatever arises.…I'm Amy Kisei. I am a Zen Buddhist Teacher, Spiritual Counselor, Astrologer and Artist. I offer 1:1 Spiritual Counseling sessions using IFS and somatic mindfulness. I also offer astrology readings. Check out my website to learn more. I currently live in Columbus, OH and am a supporting teacher for the Mud Lotus Sangha.Summer Read— The Hidden Lamp: Stories from 25 Centuries of Awakened WomenJoin me starting on the Summer Solstice, Friday June 20th for a summer read of the Hidden Lamp. I hand selected 15 stories from the book that we will explore over the course of the summer.Weekly Online Meditation EventMonday Night Dharma — 6P PT / 9P ET Join weekly for drop-in meditation and dharma talk. We are currently exploring supportive practice forms for engaging the dharma in life outside of retreat.Feel free to join anytime. Event lasts about 1.5 hours. ZOOM LINKZen Practice opportunities through ZCOGrasses, Trees and the Great Earth Sesshin—August 11 - 17, in-person at Great Vow Zen Monastery (this retreat is held outdoors, camping is encouraged but indoor dorm spaces are available)In-Person in Columbus, Ohio through Mud Lotus SanghaInterdependence Sesshin: A Five Day Residential Retreat Wednesday July 2 - Sunday July 6 in Montrose, WV at Saranam Retreat Center (Mud Lotus is hosting its first Sesshin!) Currently full, contact me to be added to the waitlist.Weekly Meditations on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amykisei.substack.com/subscribe

Régulièrement, l'équipe de Folie Douce partage avec vous les extraits les plus marquants des épisodes du podcast. Aujourd'hui, on vous propose de réécouter la philosophe américaine Carol Gilligan, théoricienne du care, évoquant la puissance des voix des adolescentes, qui sont celles de la résistance.Retrouvez cet épisode en entier sur toutes vos plateformes de podcast.À 88 ans, Carol Gilligan est l'une des plus grandes penseuses contemporaines, et accessoirement la théoricienne du care. Faisant se rencontrer féminisme et santé mentale, elle incarne toutes les valeurs que défend ce podcast. La recevoir dans Folie Douce, c'est notre cadeau de fin d'année pour vous remercier de votre écoute depuis maintenant 22 (!) épisodes.Vous trouverez cet entretien sous deux formes : l'une complètement en anglais, l'autre doublée et expliquée en français par Lauren si vous préférez (les deux se trouvent séparément dans le flux du podcast, suivez les drapeaux !)Carol Gilligan est l'autrice d'un ouvrage majeur paru en 1982, Une voix différente, dans lequel elle développe la notion de care, qui se rapproche du soin - et est principalement pris en charge par les femmes - et critique les travaux des psychologues de l'époque qui catégorisaient les enfants par leur genre. Une voix humaine, publié cette année, se présente comme une réponse au premier : cette voix différente est-elle vraiment genrée ? Elle y déploie entre autres la question de la voix, l'inner-voice en nous que l'on tait souvent, et celle que l'on utilise librement.Au micro de Lauren Bastide, elle se penche sur la notion d'écoute active, qu'elle a mise en place dans les nombreux entretiens qu'elle a menés avec des jeunes filles dans le cadre de ses travaux. Carol Gilligan parle également de sa mère, et de la jeune génération d'activistes. Elle explore ce « marché » que les femmes sont encouragées à faire avec la patriarcat, pour obtenir la reconnaissance en échange de la silenciation de leur voix authentique. Elle met en avant, à la fin de l'entretien, l'importance de l'écoute, la plus grande marque de respect, qui peut changer notre vision du monde.

For my recent New York Times Magazine article on my experience of doing couples therapy with noted therapist Terry Real, I interviewed Terry's old friend and former collaborator Carol Gilligan. This is an edited version of that conversation, which is in part about Terry but also more broadly about issues of gender roles and relationships, patriarchy and politics.Gilligan, now in her 80s, is probably best known for her landmark 1982 book In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development, which proposed a new model of early psychological development that distinguished between how boys and girls develop.She's since written a host of other books, including The Birth of Pleasure: A New Map of Love; Meeting at the Crossroads: Women's Psychology and Girls' Development; Women, Girls and Psychotherapy: Reframing Resistance; and most recently Why does patriarchy persist? and Darkness now visible: patriarchy's resurgence and feminist resistance.I wrote about Gilligan and Real in a recent post on this Substack, describing how they met and ended up collaborating:“I think there's a deep love of men in Terry,” says the feminist psychologist Carol Gilligan, who first met Real in the late 1990s, after she positively reviewed his book on male depression, I Don't Want to Talk About It, in The New York Times. Gilligan had just returned to the US from England to accept a chair in gender studies at Harvard, and Real was teaching and practicing nearby at a family therapy institute in Cambridge. She was invited to visit the institute, and while there she observed Real, through a one way mirror, working with a married couple. She was struck by the intensity of his therapeutic presence, and by the way that his confrontation of men was able to simultaneously draw in both halves of the couple.“I hadn't seen a therapist who had the ability Terry had to talk with men,” she says, “and to name what was going on. I think men could hear it, and I would watch the woman, and her eyes would open wide: 'Oh my god, somebody's saying it.'”Soon Gilligan and Real began seeing couples together. At the time, Gilligan was also working with psychologist Judy Chu on a project observing four-year-old boys in pre-school. What she and Chu ended up charting was a kind of inverse of the psychological stunting process that Gilligan had identified in her earlier, groundbreaking work on the development of girls. Where girls, beginning in adolescence, would often suppress their “masculine” assertiveness and voice, boys, at age four or so, would begin to suppress their “feminine” capacities to perceive and respond to the internal states of themselves and others. Under pressure from their peers and parents, they'd begin to go emotionally dumb. Gilligan wondered if many of the romantic conflicts faced by adult couples were rooted in these parallel failures of development, and whether one could heal adult relationships by bringing these earlier selves into relation to each other in therapy.“Where was the emotionally honest 11-year-old girl who said what she saw and felt?” she says. “And where was that emotionally intelligent four-year-old boy from my studies with boys who would say things like, 'Mommy, why do you smile when you're sad?' I thought: if you could get these two people in the room, they could work out the problems in the relationship.”We talk about her work with Terry, her work with fathers of young boys, early psychological development, her take on Terry's approach to working with me, and much more. It's a relatively brief, but I think quite rich, conversation. Get full access to Eminent Americans at danieloppenheimer.substack.com/subscribe

Pour soutenir mon travail, abonnez-vous à ma newsletter sur Substack.À 88 ans, Carol Gilligan est l'une des plus grandes penseuses contemporaines, et accessoirement la théoricienne du care. Faisant se rencontrer féminisme et santé mentale, elle incarne toutes les valeurs que défend ce podcast. La recevoir dans Folie Douce, c'est notre cadeau de fin d'année pour vous remercier de votre écoute depuis maintenant 22 (!) épisodes.Vous trouverez cet entretien sous deux formes : l'une complètement en anglais, l'autre doublée et expliquée en français par Lauren si vous préférez (les deux se trouvent séparément dans le flux du podcast, suivez les drapeaux !)Carol Gilligan est l'autrice d'un ouvrage majeur paru en 1982, Une voix différente, dans lequel elle développe la notion de care, qui se rapproche du soin - et est principalement pris en charge par les femmes - et critique les travaux des psychologues de l'époque qui catégorisaient les enfants par leur genre. Une voix humaine, publié cette année, se présente comme une réponse au premier : cette voix différente est-elle vraiment genrée ? Elle y déploie entre autres la question de la voix, l'inner-voice en nous que l'on tait souvent, et celle que l'on utilise librement.Au micro de Lauren Bastide, elle se penche sur la notion d'écoute active, qu'elle a mise en place dans les nombreux entretiens qu'elle a menés avec des jeunes filles dans le cadre de ses travaux. Carol Gilligan parle également de sa mère, et de la jeune génération d'activistes. Elle explore ce « marché » que les femmes sont encouragées à faire avec la patriarcat, pour obtenir la reconnaissance en échange de la silenciation de leur voix authentique. Elle met en avant, à la fin de l'entretien, l'importance de l'écoute, la plus grande marque de respect, qui peut changer notre vision du monde.➡️ Rejoignez la communauté sur Instagram.➡️ Abonnez vous à la newsletter pour recevoir des conseils de professionnels de la santé mentale, des recommandations de livres et une curation de contenus, événements et podcasts.Folie Douce est disponible gratuitement sur toutes les plateformes : Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Deezer, PodcastAddict, Amazon Music ..Si vous avez aimé cet épisode, laissez nous des étoiles ⭐ et abonnez vous pour ne rater aucun nouvel épisode.Folie Douce donne la parole à des artistes, des militant·es, penseur·euses pour explorer leur parcours de santé mentale à la lumière de leur travail artistique ou politique. Ce podcast a pour vocation de faire émerger des récits à la première personne. Les propos de ses invité·es n'ont pas valeur d'expertise. Le terme « folie » est employé ici à des fins de renversement du stigmate et de réappropriation d'une identité habituellement imposée et marginalisée. -------------------Folie Douce est une émission produite par Lauren Bastide.Générique : Lauren Bastide et Marion Emerit sur une musique composée par Irma.Montage et mixage : Marion Emerit.Programmation et coordination : Marie Laurence-Chérie assistée de Lou Ozanam-Simon.Partenariats : The Podcast Bureau / melanie@thepodcastbureau.frConsultant : Morgan Noam

Pour soutenir mon travail, abonnez-vous à ma newsletter sur Substack.À 88 ans, Carol Gilligan est l'une des plus grandes penseuses contemporaines, et accessoirement la théoricienne du care. Faisant se rencontrer féminisme et santé mentale, elle incarne toutes les valeurs que défend ce podcast. La recevoir dans Folie Douce, c'est notre cadeau de fin d'année pour vous remercier de votre écoute depuis maintenant 22 (!) épisodes.Vous trouverez cet entretien sous deux formes : l'une complètement en anglais, l'autre doublée et expliquée en français par Lauren si vous préférez (les deux se trouvent séparément dans le flux du podcast, suivez les drapeaux !)Carol Gilligan est l'autrice d'un ouvrage majeur paru en 1982, Une voix différente, dans lequel elle développe la notion de care, qui se rapproche du soin - et est principalement pris en charge par les femmes - et critique les travaux des psychologues de l'époque qui catégorisaient les enfants par leur genre. Une voix humaine, publié cette année, se présente comme une réponse au premier : cette voix différente est-elle vraiment genrée ? Elle y déploie entre autres la question de la voix, l'inner-voice en nous que l'on tait souvent, et celle que l'on utilise librement.Au micro de Lauren Bastide, elle se penche sur la notion d'écoute active, qu'elle a mise en place dans les nombreux entretiens qu'elle a menés avec des jeunes filles dans le cadre de ses travaux. Carol Gilligan parle également de sa mère, et de la jeune génération d'activistes. Elle explore ce « marché » que les femmes sont encouragées à faire avec la patriarcat, pour obtenir la reconnaissance en échange de la silenciation de leur voix authentique. Elle met en avant, à la fin de l'entretien, l'importance de l'écoute, la plus grande marque de respect, qui peut changer notre vision du monde.➡️ Rejoignez la communauté sur Instagram.➡️ Abonnez vous à la newsletter pour recevoir des conseils de professionnels de la santé mentale, des recommandations de livres et une curation de contenus, événements et podcasts.Folie Douce est disponible gratuitement sur toutes les plateformes : Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Deezer, PodcastAddict, Amazon Music ..Si vous avez aimé cet épisode, laissez nous des étoiles ⭐ et abonnez vous pour ne rater aucun nouvel épisode.Folie Douce donne la parole à des artistes, des militant·es, penseur·euses pour explorer leur parcours de santé mentale à la lumière de leur travail artistique ou politique. Ce podcast a pour vocation de faire émerger des récits à la première personne. Les propos de ses invité·es n'ont pas valeur d'expertise. Le terme « folie » est employé ici à des fins de renversement du stigmate et de réappropriation d'une identité habituellement imposée et marginalisée. -------------------Folie Douce est une émission produite par Lauren Bastide.Générique : Lauren Bastide et Marion Emerit sur une musique composée par Irma.Montage et mixage : Marion Emerit.Programmation et coordination : Marie Laurence-Chérie assistée de Lou Ozanam-Simon.Partenariats : The Podcast Bureau / melanie@thepodcastbureau.frConsultant : Morgan Noam

In this episode of Parents Who Think, host Danusia Malina-Derben explores Stoicism and its relevance to parenting. Drawing on her experience as a mother to 10 children, she reflects on how Stoic principles like control, patience, and detachment have shaped her approach to raising kids. But it's not just about personal resilience ~ Danusia also gets into the limits of Stoicism, especially when it comes to addressing the broader systemic challenges that families face.   Through thoughtful reflections, she balances Stoic ideas with insights from feminist and care ethicists like bell hooks, Audre Lorde, and Carol Gilligan, showing that emotional engagement and systemic awareness are essential in parenting.   This episode challenges listeners to consider how they can raise resilient children while also recognising and addressing the societal pressures their children face.   Tune in for a thought-provoking exploration of Stoicism, love, and the complexities of modern parenting.   Head over to comment on this episode on the “Parents Who Think” on Substack.    Discover more from us: • Follow PWT on Substack • Follow us on Instagram • Connect with Danusia • Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts • Advertising Inquiries here   Credits: • Hosted by Danusia Malina-Derben • Edited, Mixed + Mastered by Marie Kruz • Cover art by Anthony Oram

Dr. Hillary McBride joins Jen for this month's Jen Hatmaker Book Club selection to explore her book “Wisdom of Your Body.” Dr. McBride, a psychologist and researcher, invites us to compassionately reunite with our bodies, recognizing that they are not obstacles but advocates for our well-being. In this conversation, Jen shares personal anecdotes on how this research of Hillary's changed her life, and Hillary shares insights from her latest research. * * *  Resources and Books Mentioned in this Episode: The Wisdom of Your Body by Hillary McBride - https://hillarylmcbride.com/the-wisdom-of-your-body/ For The Love Podcast episode ft. Hillary McBride - https://bit.ly/4c1TikW Dr. Carol Gilligan - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_Gilligan APA's Briefing Series on the Role of Psychology in Health Care - https://bit.ly/3Yd9BbA Sacred Knowledge by William A. Richards - https://bit.ly/4cSU59p Even After Everything by Stephanie Duncan Smith - https://bit.ly/4bV40cZ Guest's Links: Hillary's Website - https://hillarylmcbride.com/ Hillary's Twitter - https://twitter.com/hillarylmcbride Hillary's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/hillaryliannamcbride/ Hillary's LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/hillary-l-mcbride-342a531a Connect with Jen! Jen's website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker Jen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker Jen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker?sub_confirmation=1 The For the Love Podcast is a production of Four Eyes Media, presented by Audacy.  Four Eyes Media: https://www.iiiimedia.com/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“What I became aware of when I started writing about resistance, and I thought, the healthy body resists infection. We have an immune system. And the healthy psyche resists a culture that's going to infect us psychologically, that's going to keep us from basically being able to function psychologically. And what I realized is that there is, I mean, you see little boys going to school and they come up against it in this school, pre-kindergarten, kindergarten, where to be one of the boys they have to be tough. And then you see girls and adolescents coming into, where to be included, not excluded, to be one of the girls that people want to be with. And that's when you get there. You have to be nice. You have to be seemingly perfect. You know, she's good at everything. She's good at drawing and she's good at sports. And she never, you know, that kind of thing. And so what I'm trying to say is there's a force in the world that you're up against with this kind of stuff. It's not just coming from inside people.” So says Dr. Carol Gilligan, esteemed professor and developmental psychologist, who is the author of a landmark book called In a Different Voice—a book that I talk about and write about all the time. Back in the ‘80s—Gilligan is 87 now and still working—she looked at all the research from the likes of Lawrence Kohlberg and Piaget and made a stunning and obvious realization: These developmental psychologist giants had only ever studied boys. Typically white, middle-class boys. In response, Gilligan did a study on girls and moral development, a groundbreaking look into how culture genders our response to the world: Gilligan found that for girls, morality is relational and rooted in care—not so much law—and that fear of separation from relationship encouraged these girls to stop saying what they know. She struggled to get this study published—it was rejected multiple times—and has since become the most requested reprint out of Harvard. It also became the subject of In a Different Voice, which has sold 500,000 copies—unheard of in academic publishing. Everything that Carol Gilligan shares with us in this conversation is a revelation and also deeply resonant—and something you will know to be true. Before I go, if you missed Niobe Way's episode from a few weeks ago, tune in to that next—Niobe was Carol's student, and has done for boys what Carol has done for girls. MORE FROM CAROL GILLIGAN: In a Different Voice In a Human Voice Why Does Patriarchy Persist? Carol Gilligan's Website Niobe Way's Episode: “The Critical Need for Deep Connection” FROM MY NEWSLETTER: “What Valley Girl's Tell Us” “What Are We ‘Really, Actually” Saying “The Achilles Heel of Women”  “How to Keep Caring”  “Why is it So Hard to Scream?” EPISODES IN THE “GROWING UP” SERIES: Niobe Way, “The Critical Need for Deep Connection” Harvey Karp, M.D., ”The Long-Term Implication of Sleep” Carissa Schumacher To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

“You can't be independent if you're not deeply connected. So what happens to a child that's not deeply connected? What actually happens? Guess what happens? They don't feel the confidence to be able to take risks. They don't feel the confidence to go out and be self-sufficient. They don't feel the confidence in doing it. So we're actually backbiting, right? We're kicking ourselves in the asses when we just focus on independence. Because we need to give them the skills to be able to be independent, which are relational skills, which is knowing that when I need help, I can turn to you and you will help me and I will help you when you need it. So then you can go off and take a risk or go and live in a new city or go have your own apartment and know that you can lean on me when you need to. And so to me, the attachment story that comes out, at this point, almost a century of research on attachment is a gorgeous, gorgeous story.” So says Dr. Niobe Way, an internationally-recognized Professor of Developmental Psychology, the founder of the Project for the Advancement of Our Common Humanity (PACH) at NYU, and the Director of the Science of Human Connection Lab. She is also a Principal Investigator of the Listening Project, funded by the Spencer Foundation, the Chan-Zuckerberg Initiative and the Rockefeller Foundation. When she was a student, Niobe studied with Carol Gilligan—if you read my newsletter or listen to this podcast, you know Carol is a hero of mine and will be wrapping up this series as a guest. Niobe has done for boys what Carol has done for girls—and their research intersects and Venn diagrams in fascinating ways. While Carol's research shows that girls come to not know what they know, Niobe traces how boys disconnect from their caring and often enter a period of irrevocably devastating and dangerous loneliness. Niobe is the author of Deep Secrets: Boys' Friendships and the Crisis of Connection as well as the just-released, Rebels with a Cause: Reimagining Boys, Ourselves, and Our Culture, which offers fascinating insight into our culture at large. Along with historical context, Niobe offers beautiful case studies from her research—following and interviewing boys as they grow up—along with notes from boys who have gone on to wreak havoc on the culture, in homicidal and suicidal ways. These notes speak to disconnection, extreme loneliness, and feeling like nobody cares. As I talk about my book in living rooms around the country, I often cite Niobe and Carol Gilligan, specifically the insight that at a certain point—around 8 for boys, and 11 for girls—the word “don't” enters children's vocabulary. For girls, it's “I don't know.” For boys, it's “I don't care.” And of course, girls knows. And of course, boys care. We need to repair our culture so it's safe for them to stay connected. As you can tell, I'm very excited for this conversation. MORE FROM NIOBE WAY, PhD: Rebels with a Cause: Reimagining Boys, Ourselves, and Our Culture Deep Secrets: Boys' Friendships and the Crisis of Connection The Crisis of Connection: Roots, Consequences, and Solutions Niobe Way's Website To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss Casa Amor in Love Island USA's latest episodes, including how Kordell didn't understand the assignment and ultimately missed with Serena & how Aaron's past experiences likely informed his reaction to Kaylor's questions. They also discuss Serena's past relational traumas and the utility of Relational Cultural Therapy. In addition to discussed episodes 16-23 of season 6 of Love Island, Dr.s Kay & Ray also discuss the last 4 episodes of Bridgerton's season 3.  They discuss adolescent girls' loss of voice, according to the work of Carol Gilligan, and how Penelope's character allowed for important feminist values to be portrayed. [Warning: Dr. Ray talks about seeing dead dolphins on her trip to Cape Cod during the check-in, from 2:20m-7:27m]    ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we're having against objective reality. So, here in Reality Test, we're going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality. Come Reality Test with us!Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. RayThank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypodsTikTok: @dr.realitvFacebook Page: Reality Test Pod YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPodEmail: realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

Hi, It's Elise, host of Pulling the Thread. Starting next Monday, I'm doing another special series—this one is about growing up, and no, it's definitely not just for parents. It's mostly about re-parenting, or understanding the driving factors of how we all come to understand the world. You'll hear from four very different voices about childhood, social programming, and development. Two are pioneers in gender development: One of my all-time heroes, developmental psychologist Carol Gilligan, who I write about in my Substack all-the-time who wrote In a Different Voice in the ‘80s, is joining me on the show, and so is Niobe Way, who does for boys what Carol Gilligan does for girls. I'm also talking with legendary pediatrician Harvey Karp, creator of The Happiest Baby on the Block, the founder of the Snoo, and an ardent and early environmentalist—and Carissa Schumacher, a full-body psychic medium and dear friend who is going to talk to us about what it's like to raise and be a highly empathic and intuitive person—and how you can retain and develop those abilities. Or shut them down. It will be a great series, coming every Monday for the next month. I'll see you every Thursday for a regular episode. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How much should we really value altruism?Looking for a link we mentioned? It's here: https://linktr.ee/philosophyforourtimesFrom charity-givers, to those who sacrifice themselves in war for others, we see altrusim and selflessness as virtues to be applauded. Those who take no heed of their own interests are highly praised in Western culture. But many point to a danger. Studies show that altruism gone awry leads to tolerating abusive partners, eating disorders and depression. And critics argue that some of history's most horrific episodes rose from appeals to altruistic tendencies. Forced sterlizations in the West were justified as "better for all the world". Should we see unhampered altruism not only as futile, but actively dangerous? Join Professor of Humanities and Applied Psychology at New York University, Carol Gilligan, feminist icon and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Lodz, Katarzyna de Lazari-Radek, and Research Professor of Biological Anthropology at Harvard University, Richard Wrangham as they debate the dangers of altruism. Robert Lawrence Kuhn hosts.There are thousands of big ideas to discover at IAI.tv – videos, articles, and courses waiting for you to explore. Find out more: https://iai.tv/podcast-offers?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=loving-oneself-and-loving-othersSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“All growing up stages are the product of scientific investigation of the stages of growing up that people go through. And those are all defined in third person terms because they're the person or thing being spoken about. When we talk about the archaic stage or the magic stage or the mythic stage, if you look within right now, you can't see any of those stages. As a matter of fact, before we had this conversation, you had no idea that you had all these six to eight stages of growing up that you will go through. You didn't know anything about those because you can't see them. They're not first person or even second person phenomena. They're third person, the person or thing being spoken about.” So says Ken Wilber, whose work and intellect is difficult to describe. Throughout a long career—and the authoring of 20 books, including A Brief History of Everything, Grace and Grit, Sex, Ecology, Spirituality, and The Religion of Tomorrow, Wilber has put together what is essentially a synthesis of every psychological model of development. In fact, he locked himself away for years, writing every model down on pieces of yellow legal paper, and then knit them all together. I've written about Wilber's work at length in my newsletter, which is also called Pulling the Thread—I'll put links in the show notes—and I talk about his work on this show as well. Most recently, I talked about Ken Wilber with Nicole Churchill in our conversation about Spiral Dynamics. Wilber is a Spiral Dynamics wizard, though he uses it in aggregate with the work of other developmental thinkers, integrating the work of luminaries like Carol Gilligan, Robert Kegan, and others.  In today's conversation, we talk about Wilber's brand new book, Finding Radical Wholeness, which explores the five big processes we all undertake in our lives. In today's conversation, we mostly talked about two: Waking Up and Growing Up, which are often conflated. Wilber makes the case for why they are unrelated processes—and the essential nature of the latter. While Waking Up, or having a Satori experience is wonderful—and something that 60% of people report—we all need to grow up. Wilber and I spend most of today's conversation talking about our political environment from the standpoint of developmental psychology: Why we're so fractured, and what it will look like when the Integral Stage becomes the leading edge of culture and we learn how to include and transcend. I think this is fascinating, and reassuring, and excellent context for a moment that feels so out-of-control. MORE FROM KEN WILBER: Finding Radical Wholeness A Brief History of Everything Sex, Ecology Spirituality Trump and a Post-Truth World The Religion of Tomorrow Grace and Grit More books from Ken Wilber More from Pulling the Thread Podcast: “The Basics of Spiral Dynamics” with Nicole Churchill “Our Collective Psychological Development” with John Churchill More from Pulling the Thread Newsletter: Transcend and Include Embracing Nondual Thinking Right Doing Ascending and Descending States vs. Stages To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of the Matriarchy series, we explore how deeply ingrained patriarchal narratives can create a policing effect on the behavior of women.  Author, Elise Loehnen, discusses her book "On Our Best Behavior" which examines how concepts like the seven deadly sins have historically been used to restrict women's behavior and police their adherence to an idealized form of "goodness." Loehnen unpacks the insidious ways women are culturally conditioned from a young age to suppress normal human drives like anger, ambition, and sexuality. And how disrupting rigid gender stereotypes is important when raising the next generation in order to build a more compassionate world.  Jen and Elise discuss: How women are culturally conditioned and expected to embody "goodness" while men are oriented toward power  How concepts like the "seven deadly sins" have historically been used as a patriarchal "punch card" to police women's behavior Why raising boys to have an emotional inner life nurtures positive identity development The current era of politics that calls for women to challenge the patriarchal system while also having compassionate dialogue to build a new, care-centered world where everyone can flourish * * * Thought-Provoking Quotes: “Women are trained for goodness and men are trained for power.” - Elise Loehnen “The worst thing for a woman is reputational harm--just the assigning of her badness. Bad mother. Toxic coworker. Toxic boss. Unkind. She says the wrong thing. And it's sort of impossible to defend yourself against that. We have zero tolerance, and it's very scary.” - Elise Loehnen "We need a culture where the men are like, 'I would like to be more like women. I need to be caring. I want to be nurturing and creative. And yes, I can be strong and I can be masculine, but I also need this underdeveloped muscle.'" - Elise Loehnen Resources Mentioned in This Episode: On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen - https://bit.ly/44tz41D Goop - https://goop.com For the Love of Being Seen and Heard ft. Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/4b8YT9C Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb - https://bit.ly/3JO7FOn Evagrius Ponticus (Fourth Century Christian Monk) - https://bit.ly/4b7zEV5 Pope Gregory on the 7 Deadly Sins - https://bit.ly/3y1J1XK Harvey Weinstein Abuse Cases - https://bit.ly/4b5ktM5 Carol Gilligan - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_Gilligan In a Different Voice by Carol Gilligan - https://bit.ly/3JQ9IBh   Human Voice by Carol Gilligan - https://bit.ly/3UQ1Rcn Andrew Tate - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andrew_Tate Order, Disorder, Reorder (An idea Developed by Richard Rohr) - https://bit.ly/44xzHqK For the Love of The Enneagram ft. Richard Rohr - https://bit.ly/3QzzZaW Loretta Ross - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loretta_Ross Guest's Links: Elise's Website - https://www.eliseloehnen.com/ Elise's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/eliseloehnen/ Elise's Twitter - https://www.twitter.com/eloehnen Elise's Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EliseLoehnen/ Elise's LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/elise-loehnen-b867523/ Pulling the Thread (Elise's Stubstack Blog) - https://eliseloehnen.substack.com/ Pulling the Thread (Elise's Podcast) - https://www.eliseloehnen.com/episodes Connect with Jen! Jen's website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker Jen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker Jen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker?sub_confirmation=1 The For the Love Podcast is a production of Four Eyes Media, presented by Audacy.  Four Eyes Media: https://www.iiiimedia.com/ To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is it time to abandon the Golden Rule?Looking for a link we mentioned? Find it here: https://linktr.ee/philosophyforourtimesJoin us as world-leading cognitive scientist Donald Hoffman discusses his cutting-edge research about consciousness and perception, as well as its astonishing implications for the ultimate nature of reality.Donald Hoffman is an American cognitive psychologist working at the University of California, Irvine. Hoffman's Interface Theory of Perception suggests that, instead of presenting reality as it "really is", our perception is like a desktop interface that has evolved to ensure survival. To advance his theory of consciousness, Hoffman explores cutting edge physics that suggests spacetime is non-fundamental. For Hoffman we must explain consciousness in fundamental terms, beyond spacetime. There are thousands of big ideas to discover at IAI.tv – videos, articles, and courses waiting for you to explore. Find out more: https://iai.tv/podcast-offers?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=a-rule-to-live-byEmail us on podcast@iai.tv!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever noticed that most of the theorists and philosophies in our early childhood textbooks are the same handful of men-plus-Montessori? Heather got curious....who are the women (past and present) who are influencing and informing the work we're doing with young children. So, here's the first installment of a new tradition--episodes in May that invite some of my favorite women in early childhood to talk about the women who guide our work. In this episode, Heather is joined by Rixa Evershed, Carol Garboden Murray and Lizz Nolasco to discuss how Robin Wall Kimmerer, Carol Gilligan, Janet Gonzalez Mena and Rhoda Kellogg inspire them. 

Have you ever noticed that most of the theorists and philosophies in our early childhood textbooks are the same handful of men-plus-Montessori? Heather got curious....who are the women (past and present) who are influencing and informing the work we're doing with young children. So, here's the first installment of a new tradition--episodes in May that invite some of my favorite women in early childhood to talk about the women who guide our work. In this episode, Heather is joined by Rixa Evershed, Carol Garboden Murray and Lizz Nolasco to discuss how Robin Wall Kimmerer, Carol Gilligan, Janet Gonzalez Mena and Rhoda Kellogg inspire them. 

Our skies grew dark while we played in the yard. My best friend's mother picked her up in a fast car... "Mt. Saint Helens blew!" - 2 volcano blasts a few millennia apart, compared today. Recent new science in AI tech, finds groundbreaking new data, literally, of philosopher Plato's last days. We've never heard any of this, burnt and buried in Herculaneum, 79 A.D. He had a few strong opinions, and his reported last words were... common. Hmm. [I made 2 interchanges accidentally. Look for Washington state U.S. and Oregon state U.S. to be mixed up. Also, same thing about Mount Vesuvius and Mount Saint Helens. See if you can spot where! Pardon!] ________ ep 168. "She had no rhythm." notes - 5/1/2024 **CORRECTION: I stated that Mt. Saint Helens blew in 1981. It was May 1980. 6 months off! Pardon. Pretty good ballpark, got in the region, for a 44-year-old memory. ___________ Carol Gilligan, philosopher. Her book - In a Different Voice. "This is the little book that started a revolution, making women's voices heard, in their own right and with their own integrity, for virtually the first time in social scientific theorizing about women. " - https://www.amazon.com/Different-Voice-Psychological-Theory-Development/dp/0674970969 _______________________ The first known University - The Academy of Athens. Platonic Academy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platonic_Academy _________________ "Plato's final hours recounted in scroll found in Vesuvius ash" - in Palermo Mon 29 Apr 2024: https://www.theguardian.com/books/2024/apr/29/herculaneum-scroll-plato-final-hours-burial-site ___________ "Scrolls discovered in Vesuvius ash reveal Plato's burial place and final hours | BBC News" - Date - 4/30/2024 [This is the video with the self aware commentator, talking about mansplaining.]: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7cjmjOj7JlA _________________ _________________ 12 step, Adult Children of Alcoholics: https://adultchildren.org/ _______ National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. 1-800-273-8255 ____ National Sexual Assault Hotline Hours: Available 24 hours 1-800-656-4673 _____ POD DESCRIPTION: This is The House on Valencia Street. This is a place where ghosts & psychics, with PTSD, exist, & I'm talking about it. Share time with a rare survivor, walking back to haunted rooms and space being claimed from long ago. This is from the survivor's perspective, communicated as I see fit, in a way that feels right, for me. I do not offer advice here, I share what worked for me. I am not a professional therapist, this is just one case study, one perspective. Please seek professional help, if mental health issues need attention. This podcast is intended for entertainment purposes only, and I am a commentator. USE YOUR DISCERNMENT. Language is explicit. Names may or may not be changed, to protect some. Content Warning: ghosts, psychic ability, rape, incest, foster care, murder, emancipation, BDSM, therapy, lightning strikes, personal responsibility, Buddhism, LGBTQIA+, recovery, codependency, comedy, domestic violence - and inappropriate humor, most likely. Picture inset: This is me, so many years ago, standing in front of my mother's Impala, and the House on Valencia Street. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/mohmah/support

In this episode, Trudy Goodman speaks with Tyler Lapkin of the Joseph Campbell Foundation.One of the earliest teachers of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), Trudy taught with its creator, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn at the MBSR clinic at University of Massachusetts Medical School in 1983. In 1995 she co-founded, and is still the Guiding Teacher at the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy, the first center in the world dedicated to exploring the synergy of these two disciplines. She was an early adopter and now smiles  seeing mindfulness everywhere.After becoming a mother, Trudy was fascinated by human development, and studied w Jean Piaget in Geneva, Carol Gilligan, Lawrence Kohlberg, and Jerome Bruner at Harvard. Trudy co-founded a school for distressed children, practicing mindfulness-based psychotherapy with children, parents, teenagers, couples and individuals. She enjoys the company of kids of all ages and has kept her own child-like wonder and curiosity about the world she loves.Since 1974, Trudy has devoted much of her life to practicing Buddhist meditation with great Asian and Western teachers in the Zen and Theravada traditions. From 1991 to 1998, Trudy was a resident Zen teacher at the Cambridge Buddhist Association. She then moved to Los Angeles and founded InsightLA, the first center in the world to combine training in both Buddhist Insight (Vipassana) Meditation and non-sectarian mindfulness and compassion practices. Trudy has always been a connector of people, spiritual traditions, cultures, and communities, carrying her Zen delight across the divides.Trudy has trained a new generation of teachers, mindfulness humanitarians who make mindfulness and meditation classes available for professional caregivers, social justice and environmental activists, first responders, teachers, and unsung individuals working on the front lines of suffering – all done with tenderness, courage and a simple commitment to holding hands together.Trudy conducts retreats and workshops worldwide – from the hallowed halls of Mazu Daoyi's Ch'an monastery in China, to leading trainings on the ground in the intense heat of Darfuri refugee camps in Eastern Chad on the Sudanese border. She has loved it all. Trudy is still creating new projects and good trouble wherever she can. Details to be found in her forthcoming memoir!In the conversation today we discuss her life, meditation, mindfulness, and her perspective on the famous Campbell quote, "Participate Joyfully in the sorrows of the world".To learn more about Trudy visit: https://www.trudygoodman.com/ For more information on the MythMaker Podcast Network and Joseph Campbell, visit JCF.org. To subscribe to our weekly MythBlasts go to jcf.org/subscribeThe Podcast With A Thousand Faces is hosted by Tyler Lapkin and is a production of the Joseph Campbell Foundation. It is produced by Tyler Lapkin. Executive producer, John Bucher. Audio mixing and editing by Charles Mallett.All music exclusively provided by APM Music (apmmusic.com)

What's an early memory of using your voice? That's the question we kicked off our recent 3-day in-person client retreat with - and the women's answers were incredibly powerful. March is Women's History Month and March 8th is International Women's Day (#IWD2024), so this episode is about the power of women's voices and stories to change the world. From young women activists like Malala Yousafzai and Greta Thunberg to pro-choice women who are running for office to women like YOU who are out there sharing your messages, ideas, and stories, women are making a positive difference in their industries and communities. In this episode, I talk about: The history-changing importance of women getting together to share their stories and experiences The self-doubts that too often hold us back from using our voices Why we need feminism more than ever My recent realization of the story I had been telling myself vs. the bigger story of what happened when I delivered my TEDx talk about women and power in 2016   Show notes at https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/378/ Discover your Speaker Archetype by taking our free quiz at https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/quiz/ Enroll in our Thought Leader Academy: https://www.speakingyourbrand.com/academy/  Connect with me on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carolcox   Mentioned: Emily's List: https://emilyslist.org/  New York Times' opinion column: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/23/opinion/alabama-embroyo-dobbs-reproductive-freedom.html  Carol Gilligan: https://its.law.nyu.edu/facultyprofiles/index.cfm?fuseaction=profile.publications&personid=19946    Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 319: The 3 Stages We Go Through as Women When We Use Our Voice Episode 267: The Way to Gender Equality is through Public Speaking Episode 163: A Feminist Approach to Public Speaking Episode 162: Why We're #ChoosingWomensVoices - and You Should Too Episode 92: Deconstructing My TEDx Talk: Why We're Uncomfortable with Women in Power

IMPORTANT: Registration is open for The Regenerative Alchemy Somatic Coach Training is open. Find out more and apply here: www.drsarahcoxon.com/coachtraining War, Masculinity, and Somatic Embodiment. In this episode we explore the intersections of war & masculinity, and how somatic embodiment offers a robust way forward on the path to collective peace. Suggested Reading: Sarah Coxon. 2021. The Way of the Priestess.  Kai Cheng Thom. 2023. Falling Back in Love with Being Human. Carol Gilligan. 2016. In a Different Voice. Judy Y. Chu. 2014. When Boys Become Boys. Marshall Rosenberg. 2015. Non-Violent Communication. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with friends and on your socials, to help grow our small regenerative community.

In this episode Julia, Westley, and Rev. Dr. Carter explore the ways patriarchal thinking influences the world around us and, more often than not, our inner monologue. We begin the episode by connecting the violence happening in Palestine and Israel to the violent nature of patriarchal thinking. We discuss where we see patriarchy in our own lives and some subtle and overt types of patriarchal thinking that impact the Church. We end the episode by exploring some of the values we can adopt to help us unlearn patriarchal thinking. In this episode we reference Ivone Gebara's book “Longing for Running Water” and Carol Gilligan's “In A Different Voice.”

Phoenix suffered through a record-breaking heat wave in July. But due to climate change, high temperatures are the new normal. But architect Marlene Imirzian designed a heat-abating building that could help keep people safe and cool. Here & Now's Peter O'Dowd reports from Phoenix. And, psychologist Carol Gilligan wrote the book "In a Different Voice," stating that women embody a caring voice different from men. Now, she's revising that work. She says that a caring voice is actually accessible to everyone, regardless of gender. Gilligan joins us to talk about her new book, "In a Human Voice."Then, our resident chef Kathy Gunst joins us to share some recipes utilizing a favorite fall fruit: apples. Gunst breaks down a number of apple varieties and offers sweet and savory recipes.

Falls euch cogitamus gefällt, lasst bitte ein Abo da und/oder empfehlt uns weiter. Abonnieren könnt ihr uns auch auf YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cogitamus Unterstützen könnt ihr uns ebenfalls: paypal.me/cogitamus oder cogitamus@posteo.de. Schaut auch mal auf UNCUT vorbei: https://www.uncut.at/. Zurück aus der SOMMERPAUSE und es geht endlich weiter mit unserer Zwei-Jahresreihe zur politischen Philosophie. Aufgrund der komplexen, vielschichtigen Themen werden wir die Jahresreihe auf zwei Jahre ausweiten. Nach der ökonomischen und klimatischen Gerechtigkeit widmen wir uns der sozialen Gerechtigkeit. Wieso gibt es trotz 200 Jahren Menschenrechten keine Gleichheit? Wieso funktioniert der vielbeachtete Gleichheitsansatz von John Rawls nicht? Inwiefern spielt die Kritik von Carol Gilligan an Kohlbergs Moralentwicklung eine Rolle? Welchen Einfluss hat die Trennung von Privatheit und Öffentlichkeit? Was sagt Seyla Benhabib dazu? Wo erkennt sie die blinden Flecken? Nächste Folge der Reihe Politikphilosophie: Kampf gegen Ungerechtigkeiten, Gewerkschaften & Menschenrechte Nächste Spezialfolge Philosophiegeschichte: Denis Diderot und die Enzyklopädisten Timemarker 00:00 Intro: Unabhängigkeitserklärung, Einordnung, Ablauf, Rückblick 08:43 Rawls Theory of Justice 23:47 Blinde Flecken 01:03:11 Lösungsansätze 01:15:25 Takeaways, Abschlusszitat, Outro Literatur/Links/Quellen Vorlesungen Uni Wien John Rawls – A Theory of Justice Martha Nussbaum - Die Grenzen der Gerechtigkeit. Suhrkamp Verlag, 2014. Martha Nussbaum – Langfristige Fürsorge und soziale Gerechtigkeit Seyla Benhabib - Der verallgemeinerte und der konkrete Andere, in: Selbst im Kontext Lisa Herzog – Politische Philosophie Bildnachweise: https://www.philomag.de/sites/default/files/styles/header_no_full_width/public/images/210128_benhabib-werkgesprach_bild-malte-jager.jpg?itok=Jq24cNMO; https://www.actionsa.org.za/wp-content/uploads/2020/09/3-Social-Justice.png; https://static.vecteezy.com/system/resources/previews/000/548/222/original/equality-vector.jpg

Gurupioupiou vous parle de violence, de la violence du patriarcat, subie par toutes et tous. Cette pression qui s'exerce sur chacun et chacune de nous, nous enfermant dans des stéréotypes de genre : douce, gentille et dévouée pour les filles et rejet de ce qui est considéré féminin pour les garçons. En s'appuyant sur des études des chercheuses Judy Chu, Carol Gilligan et Naomie Snider, Gurupioupiou parle de la peur que nous avons à sortir de ce système qui pourtant nous oppresse et nous empêche de vivre pleinement notre vie. Bonne écoute et bon envol à tous les pious!

Please Support Our Show: Join us on SubstackLove KnotWork Storytelling? Support the show, find the in-depth show notes, and get even more stories on our Substack, Myth Is Medicine.OUR STORY:Niall of the Nine Hostages was an Irish king and the first sovereign of the powerful Uí Néill dynasty. Mari Kennedy's telling of the story begins with the birth of Niall, son of a king and an enslaved woman. In the story's most powerful, enduring element, we meet the Hag the Well, and witness her transformation into the shining Sovereignty Goddess.OUR GUESTMari Kennedy is a global gatherer of Celtic women, a yoga, breathwork, and embodiment teacher and Sovereign Woman's coach and Mentor. Six years ago she founded The Celtic Wheel, a global online journey of ritual, myth and practice for women who want to do the sacred work of the feminine. Her work weaves ancient esoteric indigenous wisdom with evolutionary modern science in service to the new more beautiful world she believes is emerging. Her passion across all her work is in uniting the opposites and playing the polarities of being human. Find Mari at www.marikennedy.com, www.thecelticwheel.com, and on Instagram: @marikennedywisdomThe marriage of the king to the goddess is at the core of the indigenous Irish tradition's concept of Sovereignty. The marriage of the feminine and masculine in the individual works on the individual as well as the collective cultural level.Mari looks to Carol Gilligan's definition of patriarchy: it is a way of living that privileges some men over other men and all men over women. Feminism has always been intended to support all people because patriarchy affects everyone in the society.Mari's story stands in contrast to Marisa's version of this story (Ireland's Forgotten Goddess Witch Queen, S1 Ep2) which places Mongfind at the center of the story. Marisa was inspired by Gearóid Ó Crualoich's Book of the Cailleach The marriage of the scholarship, the silences, and the intuitive knowing - and making room for the modern retellings.Work with MarisaMarisa is a writing coach for wellness professionals, entrepreneurs, and aspiring authors. Learn more about her services and book a complementary consultation: www.writingcoachmarisa.comFind more of Marisa's writing and get a copy of her book, The Sovereignty Knot www.marisagoudy.comFollow the show on Substack, Instagram, Facebook, and join listeners' community.

Today I'm bringing you an archived podcast episode from January, 2019. This particular episode was one of the sparks I had that ended up developing into the creative project that is now my third book, Make Some Noise. I had listened to a podcast series that got me thinking about the conditioning we as girls and women are handed and grow up in.Those beliefs and conditioning then shape the beliefs we have about how to act and how to feel about what it means to be a woman.  There are some questions I take you through as I talk about this, and a free worksheet you can download (see below).  *********************************  A few weeks ago I was listening to Scene on Radio, an excellent podcast. It was episode 10, in season 3 where it was a man telling a story about his son going to 6th grade and the changes that took place-- I'll let you listen to it (it's REALLY good, please go listen to both season 2 and 3).  There was a particular part where Terry Real, psychologist was talking and said something in particular that stopped me, and I had to pause the podcast, and cry. He talks about how children are made to “halve” themselves, to cut off certain parts of themselves (generally speaking for boys, it's emotions). He talks about a certain age when “the patriarchy hits kids, lands on them, the psychic results can be severe”. He goes on to say, “Now if you read the literature on girls and girls development, that trauma-- and I use that word on purpose-- is traumatic to excise, to cut off half of your humanity, that trauma lands on girls about 11, 12, 13-- the edge of adolescence. That's when they learn what Carol Gilligan calls ‘the tyranny of the nice and kind'. They learn to over accommodate and resent it. That's the traditional set up. Fifty years of the women's movement has changed that for a lot of girls and women, but it's still part of the culture.” So, in essence, as we enter puberty, (and btw, he goes on in this episode to talk about how it hits even younger for boys), we learn about how to be. We learn to be nice and kind and accommodating. We learn to put others' feelings, wants and needs before ours.  Join me in this podcast episode as I explore this more, and ask a series of questions for you to answer about your own life to get the parts of you back that you were conditioned to let go of.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our capacity to authentically relate to one another is shaped not only by our life experiences, early childhood, and attachment, but the broader culture we live in and the myths we pick up from society about what relationships should look like. In this episode, I speak with a trauma-informed couple's therapist about the qualities of healthy loving relationships, how toxic and transactional societal values shape how we relate, and real-life examples of moving through triggers and developing deeper intimacy. Why taking a trauma-informed lens to couples counseling is crucial The utility of “attachment styles” and putting it into context of child development and broader societal values Learning from “in tact cultures” that values connectedness and belonging from birth Transactional relationships and learning to see people beyond the scope of our own needs The 5 adaptive strategies we learn in childhood that come up in interpersonal relationships How to repair from conflict and deal with our triggers with real case examples Using mythology, narrative, and intuition in couple's work Advice for those entering new relationships Rebecca Nidorf, LCSW-R is a psychotherapist in private practice in the Hudson Valley. Rebecca Has been a practicing clinician for 25 years and part time at Bard College as a clinical supervisor and director of a crisis counseling program for 18 years. She began her career as a complex trauma therapist working with rape and incest survivors. This led to a private practice where she treats individuals and primarily, couples. Rebecca is an integrative therapist who uses teachings from a variety of mentors and practitioners ranging from Esther Perel, Terrance Real, Pia Melody, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D, Francis Weller, Resmaa Menakem, Carol Giligan and many others. Rebecca considers herself to be a consummate student. She feels a sense of soulful gratitude when working with her clients in a therapeutic setting and when she is leading retreats and teaching. Rebecca is grateful for all of the many people who have trusted her with their stories over the course of her career. Rebecca's Website: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/rebecca-nidorf-new-paltz-ny/200303 Reclaiming All Parts of You: Healing Shame Workbook & Meditation :  ⁠⁠⁠https://witty-creator-9045.ck.page/e89cafda64⁠⁠⁠ Resources: Women Who Run with the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/241823.Women_Who_Run_With_the_Wolves Why Does Patriarchy Persist? by Carol Gilligan https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/39971978-why-does-patriarchy-persist Esther Perel https://www.estherperel.com/ Disclaimer: The DEPTH Work Podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Information on this podcast in no way to be construed or substituted as psychological counseling, psychotherapy, mental health counseling, or any other type of therapy or medical advice.

“Joanna Piotrowska” Entre nousLE BAL, Parisdu 16 février au 21 mai 2023Interview de Julie Héraut, Responsable Exposition et Recherche chez LE BAL, et co-commissaire de l'exposition,par Anne-Frédérique Fer, à Paris, le 15 février 2023, durée 19'53.© FranceFineArt.https://francefineart.com/2023/02/15/3389_joanna-piotrowska_le-bal/communiqué de presse Commissariat : Diane Dufour, Directrice du BAL Julie Héraut, Responsable Exposition et Recherche chez LE BAL“J'ai demandé à mes amis de travailler avec moi à concevoir des situations dans lesquelles ils poseraient avec les membres de leurs familles dans des dispositions parfois empruntées à des sessions de “thérapie” et parfois à leurs propres photographies prises dans le passé. En résulte des situations complètement fictionnelles photographiées selon la codes documentaires.”Joanna PiotrowskaSe confronter à l'oeuvre de la jeune artiste polonaise Joanna Piotrowska invite inévitablement à faire l'expérience de la contrainte. De ses photographies ou vidéos se dégagent une atmosphère d'enfermement, de violence sourde. S'y observent des corps sous tension aux postures artificielles mis en scène dans des intérieurs domestiques, des cabanes enfantines et précaires construites de toutes pièces par des adultes au sein de leurs propres maisons, des gestes contre des ennemis invisibles, mais aussi des cages de zoos désertées par leurs occupants. Autant de situations dans lesquelles l'expression corporelle se substitue à l'expression verbale. Ce que le langage ne peut exprimer, Joanna Piotrowska le met volontairement en scène par des gestes et attitudes soigneusement composés, créant ainsi un nouvel alphabet corporel, insolite et grinçant.Ainsi sa première série Frowst, réalisée à partir de 2014, reconstitue un étrange album de famille. Inspirée par les pratiques thérapeutiques de groupes, Joanna Piotrowska demande à des proches de poser en famille. Lieu potentiel de tendresse mais aussi d'emprise, d'émancipation et d'oppression, la famille agit ici comme un miroir de la société tout entière : les multiples systèmes de domination s'incarnent jusqu'à influer sur le mouvement des corps et leurs langages. Dans ces duos ou trios mis en scène, impossible de distinguer la part de réel et celle de fiction d'autant que l'artiste n'hésite pas à y convoquer tous les codes de la photographie documentaire. Ces images de corps étrangement entrelacés, où la ligne ténue entre étreinte et contrainte n'est plus si claire, font ressentir toute l'ambiguïté qui habite son oeuvre.Pour transcrire cette dualité, Joanna Piotrowska performe le réel. Elle photographie des structures édifiées par des adultes au sein de leurs propres maisons. Ces draps tendus, agrégats de chaises, de meubles, d'objets divers, ces abris de fortune sont-ils destinés à s'isoler du monde extérieur, à s'extraire de sa propre vie ? Inspirée des écrits de la psychologue féministe américaine Carol Gilligan et de manuels d'autodéfense, une autre série d'images se concentre quant à elle sur le corps des femmes. Ici, des ventres contractés, des bras et des jambes repliées, des poings tendus, des dos voutés, semblent lutter, se défendre contre une puissance hors champ. Ces corps contorsionnés, contre qui ou contre quoi se débattent-ils ? [...] Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.

La filósofa y profesora de la Universidad de Deusto, Cristina de la Cruz, nos presenta a la filósofa Carol Gilligan. Su "Teoría del cuidado" revolucionó la manera de analizar y pensar el mundo, hatsa entonces, con un claro sesgo masculino....

Deborah Anna Luepnitz, Ph.D. is a returning guest here on the podcast. See our last conversation here: https://youtu.be/k1-9tuujKdA She was on the Clinical Faculty of the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine for over 30 years. She is currently on the faculty of the Institute for Relational Psychoanalysis of Philadelphia (IRPP). She is the author of The Family Interpreted: Psychoanalysis, Feminism and Family Therapy -- published in 1992 -- which is still taught in therapy courses around the world. Carol Gilligan called it: "A book of unusual wisdom and humanity." Her more recent book is Schopenhauer's Porcupines: Five Stories of Psychotherapy which has been translated into seven languages, plus Braille. It was recently released as an Audiobook, read by the author herself. Dr Luepnitz was a contributing author to the Cambridge Companion to Lacan, and has written about the possibility of a "third way" for psychoanalysis -- that is: one that values the insights of both the Anglo-American and French schools of thought. In 2005, she launched I.F.A. (Insight For All -- connecting analysts with homeless and formerly homeless adults in Philadelphia. In 2013, she received the Distinguished Educator award from the International Forum for Psychoanalytic Education. Join us for this new series as we discuss Freud and Man's Soul by Bruno Bettelheim. Schopenhauer's Porcupines: https://www.amazon.com/Schopenhauers-Porcupines-Intimacy-Dilemmas-Psychotherapy/dp/0465042872 Freud and Man's Soul: https://www.amazon.com/Freud-Mans-Soul-Important-Re-Interpretation/dp/0394710363Note: Information contained in this video is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a mental health professional or business consultant.

We've covered a number of episodes in the past that feed into this one, including https://www.yourparentingmojo.com/healthyboys (Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys with Dr. Judy Chu) (which focused on boys' understanding of masculinity in the preschool years), and https://yourparentingmojo.com/sports/ (Playing to Win with Dr. Hilary Levy Friedman) (which looked at the lessons children learn from sports...which aren't really related to the sports themselves...).   And of course there are the two episodes on patriarchy; https://yourparentingmojo.com/patriarchy/ (the interview with Dr. Carol Gilligan), as well as https://yourparentingmojo.com/parentingpatriarchy/ (my conversation with listener Brian Stout about what we learned during the interview).   A few weeks ago https://yourparentingmojo.com/captivate-podcast/youngfemininity/ (listener Caroline and I interviewed Dr. Marnina Gonick on the topic of girls' relationships), which stemmed from the question 'why are middle/high school-aged girls so mean to each other?' but became much broader in scope as we looked at the cultural factors shaping girls' relationships. At the end of that conversation I asked Dr. Gonick if she knew anyone who was doing work similar to hers but looking at boys' relationships, and she did!   In today's conversation Caroline returns to co-interview Dr. Michael Kehler, who is Research Professor in Masculinities Studies at the Weklund School of Education at the University of Calgary. We discuss how masculinity isn't something that boys are; it's something they do, how the traditional interpretation of masculinity hurts our boys and girls, and what parents can do to support boys in engaging in alternative masculinities that allow them to feel more whole as people.

Merel Visse and Inge van Nistelrooij talk with Kim about Care Ethics. Over the course of the episode, we discuss works by many care ethicists and other philosophically inclined thinkers. Prominent among these is Joan Tronto, whose book Caring Democracy: Markets, Equality, and Justice (NYU Press, 2013) offers a political approach to the practice of care. Also discussed are Carol Gilligan's In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development (Harvard UP, 1982; useful excerpt available here) and Francois Jullien's The Silent Transformations (trans. Krysztof Fijalkowski and Michael Richardson, Seagull Books / Chicago UP, 2011). Several of Merel and Inge's publications are discussed in the episode as well. You can read their co-authored article, “Me? The invisible call of responsibility and its promise for care ethics: a phenomenological view” in Medicine, Health Care and Philosophy (2019) 22: 275–285. Full lists of publications are available for Inge here and Merel here. Both our guests are members of the Care Ethics Group at the University of Humanistic Studies in Utrecht, the Netherlands. Inge van Nistelrooij is an Associate Professor of Care Ethics at the University of Humanistic Studies and an endowed professor of Dialogical Self Theory (DST) at Radboud University in Nijmegen, the Netherlands. Merel Visse is the Director of the Medical and Health Humanities Program at Drew University in Madison, New Jersey and an associate professor in Care Ethics at the University of Humanistic Studies. This week's image is an undated painting titled “Resting” by Amrita Sher-Gil (1913-1941). Music used in promotional material: ‘Peace of the Night' by Crowander Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Merel Visse and Inge van Nistelrooij talk with Kim about Care Ethics. Over the course of the episode, we discuss works by many care ethicists and other philosophically inclined thinkers. Prominent among these is Joan Tronto, whose book Caring Democracy: Markets, Equality, and Justice (NYU Press, 2013) offers a political approach to the practice of care. Also discussed are Carol Gilligan's In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development (Harvard UP, 1982; useful excerpt available here) and Francois Jullien's The Silent Transformations (trans. Krysztof Fijalkowski and Michael Richardson, Seagull Books / Chicago UP, 2011). Several of Merel and Inge's publications are discussed in the episode as well. You can read their co-authored article, “Me? The invisible call of responsibility and its promise for care ethics: a phenomenological view” in Medicine, Health Care and Philosophy (2019) 22: 275–285. Full lists of publications are available for Inge here and Merel here. Both our guests are members of the Care Ethics Group at the University of Humanistic Studies in Utrecht, the Netherlands. Inge van Nistelrooij is an Associate Professor of Care Ethics at the University of Humanistic Studies and an endowed professor of Dialogical Self Theory (DST) at Radboud University in Nijmegen, the Netherlands. Merel Visse is the Director of the Medical and Health Humanities Program at Drew University in Madison, New Jersey and an associate professor in Care Ethics at the University of Humanistic Studies. This week's image is an undated painting titled “Resting” by Amrita Sher-Gil (1913-1941). Music used in promotional material: ‘Peace of the Night' by Crowander Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Merel Visse and Inge van Nistelrooij talk with Kim about Care Ethics. Over the course of the episode, we discuss works by many care ethicists and other philosophically inclined thinkers. Prominent among these is Joan Tronto, whose book Caring Democracy: Markets, Equality, and Justice (NYU Press, 2013) offers a political approach to the practice of care. Also discussed are Carol Gilligan's In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development (Harvard UP, 1982; useful excerpt available here) and Francois Jullien's The Silent Transformations (trans. Krysztof Fijalkowski and Michael Richardson, Seagull Books / Chicago UP, 2011). Several of Merel and Inge's publications are discussed in the episode as well. You can read their co-authored article, “Me? The invisible call of responsibility and its promise for care ethics: a phenomenological view” in Medicine, Health Care and Philosophy (2019) 22: 275–285. Full lists of publications are available for Inge here and Merel here. Both our guests are members of the Care Ethics Group at the University of Humanistic Studies in Utrecht, the Netherlands. Inge van Nistelrooij is an Associate Professor of Care Ethics at the University of Humanistic Studies and an endowed professor of Dialogical Self Theory (DST) at Radboud University in Nijmegen, the Netherlands. Merel Visse is the Director of the Medical and Health Humanities Program at Drew University in Madison, New Jersey and an associate professor in Care Ethics at the University of Humanistic Studies. This week's image is an undated painting titled “Resting” by Amrita Sher-Gil (1913-1941). Music used in promotional material: ‘Peace of the Night' by Crowander Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/critical-theory

Dr. Robyn Koslowitz is a clinical psychologist, parenting educator, and the host of the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast. Dr. Koslowitz received her master's degree in School Psychology from New York University in 2002, and her Ph.D. in School/Clinical Child Psychology from New York University in 2009. She is the author of the Prescriptive Parenting column in Binah.  Dr. Koslowitz is the founder of Post-Traumatic Parenting, which is both a podcast and social media community for parents who have ever asked themselves: How can I give my children a normal childhood, if mine was anything but? Or perhaps, our childhood was lovely, but recent events in their lives have left us reeling. After all, since Covid, we're all Post-Traumatic Parents now! You can find the Post-Traumatic Parenting community on Instagram @dr.koslowitzpsychology and the podcast here: https://www.drrobynkoslowitz.com/podcast-2/ Dr. Koslowitz goes Live on Instagram every Monday night at 7PM EST, with Dr. K's Story Club, where she models the lost art of reading books to children and teaches parents how to use books to help Little Humans learn to cope with Big Emotions and Big Problems. She also goes Live on Thursday nights at 9PM EST with Therapy Thursday, a discussion for Big Humans only about all things psychotherapy and trauma related.  Dr. Koslowitz has been working as a licensed school psychologist since 2002, and as a licensed clinical psychologist since 2017 (NJ License # 5751). While at NYU, Dr. Koslowitz was privileged to serve as a research assistant to such prominent professors as Dr. Ester Buchholz (author of books on child psychotherapy); Dr. Carol Gilligan (whose book In a Different Voice revolutionized the psychology of women and adolescent girls) and Dr. Sandee McClowry (whose research on Temperament Based Teaching and Parenting pioneered empirically validated temperament based parenting programs). On a personal note, Dr. Koslowitz lives in Lakewood, NJ, with her husband and nine children. In her (copious) spare time, Dr. Koslowitz enjoys practicing martial arts, Spinning, reading, and playing with her children and grandchildren.

In Episode 32, Gregg welcomes Dr. Darcia Narvaez. She is Professor Emerita in the Department of Psychology at the University of Notre Dame, and has recently been identified as one of the top 2% of scientists worldwide. She is author of many excellent books and articles, including one of Gregg's all-time favorites, Neurobiology and the Development of Human Morality: Evolution, Culture, and Wisdom. In this episode, she describes her conception of the "Evolved Nest," which maps the key social, physiological, and ecological features that foster healthy human socio-emotional and moral development. They explore how this Nest aligns with the UTOK Tree of Life, and the implications for society and human development.  Darcia's Homepage: https://darcianarvaez.com/ Darcia on Twitter: https://twitter.com/morallandscapes Darcia's Moral Landscape PT Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes The Evolved Nest: https://evolvednest.org/ Breaking the Cycle - Reclaiming Our Humanity with Our Evolved Nest: https://breakingthecyclefilm.org/ the 6-min. Film is on YouTube with subtitles in 15 languages: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d_f4fzzFc8A --- Ressources mentioned in this episode:

Être féministe et hétérosexuelle, toujours compatible en 2021 ? L'autrice et journaliste Mona Chollet marque le début de cette rentrée littéraire avec un nouveau best-seller : “Réinventer l'amour. Comment le patriarcat sabote les relations hétérosexuelles". Après "Chez soi" et "Sorcières", l'autrice propose une réflexion sur l'impact du patriarcat au sein des relations hétérosexuelles. Entre charge mentale et violences conjugales, Mona Chollet nous appelle à revendiquer notre place dans la définition de ce que nous appelons l'Amour. Clémentine Gallot et Emeline Amétis se sont penchées sur cette œuvre et nous en parlent dans ce nouvel épisode court de Quoi de Meuf. Les références entendues dans cet épisode : Mona Chollet, “Réinventer l'amour. Comment le patriarcat sabote les relations hétérosexuelles”, La Découverte (2021)Mona Chollet, “Sorcières. La puissance invaincue des femmes”, La Découverte (2018)Mona Chollet, “Chez soi. Une odyssée de l'espace domestique”, La Découverte (2015)Mona Chollet, “Beauté fatale. Les nouveaux visages d'une aliénation féminine “, La Découverte (2015)Elizabeth Jane Ward, “The tragedy of heterosexuality”, New York University Press (2020)Colette Dowling, Cendrillon et l'argent. Le nouveau combat des femmes”, Édition Grasset (1999)Monique Wittig est une romancière, philosophe, théoricienne et militante féministe lesbienne française. Elle a considérablement marqué la théorie féministe grâce au concept de “contrat hétérosexuel”. Adrienne Rich est une poétesse, essayiste, professeure d'université et théoricienne féministe américaine.Carol Gilligan et Naomi Snider, “Pourquoi le patriarcat ?”, Flammarion (2021)Annik Houel est une psychologue et féministe française, professeure émérite en psychologie sociale à l'université Lumière Lyon 2. Elle est membre de l'Association nationale des études féministes, qu'elle présida pendant plusieurs années, et co-fondatrice du Centre Louise Labé. Houel Annik, Patricia Mercader, et Helga Sobota, “Crime passionnel, crime ordinaire”, Presses Universitaires de France (2003)Marie-Carmen Garcia, “Amours clandestines : nouvelle enquête - L'extraconjugalité durable à l'épreuve du genre”, PUL (2021)Liv Stromquist, “Les sentiments du Prince Charles”, Rackham (2010)Quoi de Meuf est une émission de Nouvelles Écoutes. Rédaction en chef : Clémentine Gallot. Journalistes chroniqueuses : Emeline Amétis, Kaoutar Harchi, Anne-Laure Pineau, Pauline Verduzier. Mixage et montage par Laurie Galligani. Prise de son par Adrien Beccaria à l'Arrière Boutique. Générique réalisé par Aurore Meyer Mahieu. Réalisation et coordination par Cassandra de Carvalho et Mathilde Jonin. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today, Jodi speaks with Dr Robyn Koslowitz of Targeting Parenting. We all experience trauma at some point or another. Since an individual's life experiences affect one's current status, it is crucial to ensure that your parenting is stemming from an authentic place that does not carry too much baggage. Additionally, it is important to be on the lookout for the potential of your child's emotions manifesting in negative ways and avoiding ways in which your parenting can lead to sensitive outcomes on behalf of your child(ren). About Our Guest:Dr. Robyn Koslowitz is a clinical psychologist, parenting educator, and the host of the Post-Traumatic Parenting podcast. Dr. Koslowitz received her master's degree in School Psychology from New York University in 2002, and her Ph.D. in School/Clinical Child Psychology from New York University in 2009. Dr. Koslowitz has been working as a licensed school psychologist since 2002, and as a licensed clinical psychologist since 2017 (NJ License # 5751). While at NYU, Dr. Koslowitz was privileged to serve as a research assistant to such prominent professors as Dr. Ester Buchholz (author of books on child psychotherapy); Dr. Carol Gilligan (whose book In A Different Voice revolutionized the psychology of women and adolescent girls) and Dr. Sandee McClowry (whose research on Temperament Based Teaching and Parenting pioneered empirically validated temperament based parenting programs).Show Notes:5:55: Childhood trauma and its effects on parenting“Just because you've been traumatized by a childhood experience doesn't mean you had quote, unquote bad or abusive parents”9:30: Advice to parents “If you have the luxury to free yourself up to be a parent, meaning that if there is a trauma that you've never really dealt with, if there's an experience or something that's still bugging you that something that like you haven't fully gotten over, do what you can to deal with that experience, get yourself into a really healthy good place” 14:30: Overcoming a behavioral tendency that may be stemming from trauma“Journaling about it, thinking about it, perhaps getting therapy about it, reading the trauma literature, getting to sort of know the trauma world, and thinking it through … A lot of post traumatic parents come into therapy, thinking like ‘oh I came out of this unscathed, I had this really traumatic childhood, but I'm really fine' ”17:40: Being aware of and supporting your child's potential trauma“It's our job to get in there, young, and foster that relationship as best we can. We want our kids to know things like: no matter what happens, no matter what trouble you get into, you can always come talk to me about it and I will hear you out” 20:30 Toy-hacking“When we play with someone else, our brains are actually in attunement. And research actually shows ... if a child plays with a parent, their brainwaves are in sync with each other” Post-Traumatic Parenting is both a podcast and social media community for parents who have ever asked themselves: How can I give my children a normal childhood, if mine was anything but? Or perhaps, our childhood was lovely, but through recent events their lives have left us reeling. After all, since Covid, we're all Post-Traumatic Parents now! Dr. Koslowitz goes Live on Instagram every Monday night at 7PM EST, with Dr. K's Story Club, and also goes live on Thursday nights at 9PM EST with Therapy Thursday.Credits:Host: Jodi FriedGuest: Dr. Robyn KoslowitzEditor: Matt Feiler

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La philosophe Sandra Laugier et Najat Vallaud-Belkacem, ancienne ministre et directrice de l'ONG One en France sont les invitées du 88e épisode de La Poudre, enregistré en live le 10 décembre 2020. Avec Lauren Bastide, elles ont parlé de vulnérabilité, d'interdépendance et de soin.L'édito de Lauren :L'autre jour quelqu'un m'a dit que La Poudre était moins sexy depuis que je recevais plus de savantEs et moins d'artistes. Ça m'a même pas énervée, parce que c'est pas vrai. Je trouve qu'il n'y a rien de plus excitant, de plus désirable, que la pensée féministe. Personnellement je ressens des frissons d'extase quand on me donne un mot pour nommer une intuition, quand on me déroule une logique qui me fait voir les choses sous un jour nouveau. L'une des notions théoriques qui m'a donné la plus grande jouissance ces dernières années, c'est celle de care. On la croise à peu près partout où l'on essaie de penser le genre. Pour vous en parler, je vous ai chopé LA chercheuse du care en France : Sandra Laugier. Il y en a deux-trois autres que je cite dans l'épisode. Elle a co-écrit, avec Najat Vallaud-Belkacem, ancienne ministre, un petit livre captivant : La société des vulnérables. On s'est parlées un soir d'hiver, sur Zoom. Et vous étiez là, et on s'est donné·e·s chaud avec de l'amour et des idées. Et je vous promets, c'était super sexy.Résumé de l'épisode :Si la crise du Covid a mis un élément en pleine lumière dès le premier confinement, c'est bien la place centrale des enjeux de l'éthique du care et de celles et ceux qui exercent des fonctions s'y rapportant. Le 10 décembre dernier, au micro de Lauren Bastide et en public, Sandra Laugier, l'une des plus importantes penseuses de ce concept féministe en France et Najat Vallaud-Belkacem, directrice France de l'ONG One qui lutte contre l'extrême pauvreté ont décortiqué tout l'apport de cette philosophie à la situation actuelle. Toutes deux déplorent la réaction du gouvernement et sa rhétorique guerrière face à la pandémie (06:00), mais aussi la disparition des femmes de l'espace médiatique, au moment même où leurs rôles sont au cœur de la réponse au virus (08:32). En effet, si nos interdépendances ont été visibilisées de façon flagrante, cette vulnérabilité partagée n'est pas égalitaire : certain·e·s y sont bien plus exposé·e·s que d'autres (10:57). Et sans prisme féministe (14:30) et antiraciste (31:54), impossible de comprendre pourquoi les fonctions les plus essentielles sont aussi les plus dévalorisées et pourquoi les personnes exerçant ces fonctions sont aussi parmi les moins protégées. Ce concept philosophique introduit en France sur la base des travaux de Carol Gilligan grâce à Sandra Laugier, Pascale Molinier ou encore Patricia Paperman (23:15), a mis longtemps avant de trouver sa place comme outil d'analyse dans le champ politique (19:10). Par ailleurs, Vallaud-Belkacem et Sandra Laugier soulignent comment l'obsession de l'universalisme empêche de s'en saisir pleinement en refusant de nommer et visibiliser les inégalités existantes (28:18). Elles relient les enjeux du care à la préoccupation écologique (42:00) et appellent à s'appuyer sur l'expertise citoyenne, celle des femmes et des personnes racisées pour qu'une politique de l'attention et du soin puisse voir le jour (58:15). Bonne écoute, et continuez de faire parler La Poudre !La Poudre est une émission produite par Nouvelles ÉcoutesRéalisation et générique : Aurore Meyer-MahieuProgrammation, prise de son et coordination : Gaïa MartyMixage : Marion Emerit

Áudio leitura do artigo As faces do cuidado entre éticas, práticas e fluxos globais, publicado no Fios do Tempo, do Ateliê de Humanidades. Leia o artigo no site: https://ateliedehumanidades.com/2021/02/13/fios-do-tempo-as-faces-do-cuidado/ *** As práticas de cuidado são fundamentais para a produção e reprodução da vida humana e não humana; e a ética do cuidado é uma demanda urgente diante das crises de nosso tempo. É por isso que, como preparativo para o curso livre virtual “Teorias do cuidado: uma introdução”, trazemos hoje, no Fios do Tempo, um texto do brilhante jovem sociólogo Lucas Faial Soneghet que apresenta com clareza e competência o campo de estudos e pesquisas sobre o cuidado. Neste breve panorama, podemos conhecer as distintas faces do cuidado, investigadas por autoras como Carol Gilligan, Eva Feder Kittay, Joan Tronto, Patrícia Paperman, Helena Hirata, Annemarie Mol, Patricia Hill Collins, Lélia Gonzalez, Barbara Ehrenreich e Elena Pulcini. Desejo uma ótima leitura, ou escuta! A. M. Fios do Tempo, 13 de fevereiro de 2021

Carol Gilligan (1998) contended that Kohlberg's research excluded and devalued women's ways of moral reasoning. His theories on moral development were put forth by a male, in a male dominant society, using only male subjects and thus, were biased in favor of men. She had a point. Using extensive interviews with girls ages 6 to 18, she postulated that women have differing moral reasoning tendencies than men. According to Gilligan, women tend to think of right and wrong (morality) in terms of caring relationships and connections whereas men tend to think in terms of rules and justice. She argued that these differences were largely a result, not of biological influences, but of social influences and gender conditioning that occurred in a context in which women's ways of thinking were often undervalued compared to men. As society continues to evolve (hopefully), these differences will continue to diminish.

Mythological Paths to Personal Potential Myths and fairy tales depict women’s initiation into authority and adulthood. Hades abducted Kore (maiden) into the underworld; Snow White choked on a poisoned apple and lay in stasis; Aphrodite punished forsaken Psyche with arduous tasks. As all were blossoming into the fullness of their beauty and fertility, all were also in thrall to innocence complexes that blinded them to realities of envy, aggression, and power, imaged as rapist, step-mother, and mother-in-law. Women’s initiation into adulthood and authority involves encountering shadow, finding inner fire, taking action, and wielding power. Kore became queen of the underworld; Snow White metabolized the poison and revived; Psyche reclaimed her mate and ascended to Mt. Olympus. Female initiation involves relational trauma and the sacrifice of a naively romantic and other-oriented stance. This mythological pattern points to the potential for finding clear-eyed selfhood, life direction, and the will to achieve goals. Here's the dream we analyze: "I was playing a concert with a famous elder statesman of bluegrass. We play a funny song about a cat that travels with its owner in a semi-tractor trailer, across the USA.  The song begins with me playing the bass and with the cat making some kind of meow. My cat (all grey, yellow eyes, born without a tail) was lying next to me on stage, curled up on top of a stool.v The cat's presence gave me comfort, humor and warmth. At end of song the lights went dark. A spotlight forms above the elder statesman, casting shadows across his features. He turns to me and gets very close to my face. I feel pressure at being the focus of attention. He produces a large stack of cards below his chin and starts showing them to me, one by one. At first the cards and numbers don't make sense. He draws 10 then 13 - maybe he can't guess the numbers my mind is picking. All of a sudden the "trick" begins to work. He picks 24, 48 and 72.  He is drawing the cards I’m thinking of and from a very large stack. These numbers are bigger than a deck of playing cards, yet they are similarly designed, quite intricate. I’m shocked, not afraid, that he knows the numbers. The elder smirks a slight, knowing smile." References: Michael Meade. The Water of Life: Initiation and Tempering of the Soul.  Mary Pipher. Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls.  Carol Gilligan. In a Different Voice.  Paul Foster Case. Tarot: A Key to the Wisdom of Ages. 

Dr. Rick Arenas, Associate Professor in the Department of Speech and Hearing Sciences at the University of New Mexico, joins Sara MacIntyre, M.A., CCC-SLP to discuss a recent research study conducted in collaboration with his student, Katlyn Ferguson, which looks at the experience of parents of children who stutter, and specifically their experiences in support group involvement. "The Experience of Being a Parent of a Child Who Stutters and Subsequent Involvement in Support Groups: A Narrative Study," uniquely seeks to add to our understanding of the caregiver experience of stuttering, and a growing need to better document the positive impact of being involved in support organizations/ community. Five parents were interviewed and asked to describe their experience as a parent of a CWS. Interviews were analyzed using a modified version of Carol Gilligan’s Listening Guide. Dr. Arenas shares the many common themes parents' reported, and above all else, the positive impact getting involved in support has had on their true understanding of the experience of stuttering.Link to Full Text Article (via the UNM Thesis Repository)Link to Friends: The National Association of Young People who Stutter"A Father's Advice" By: Rick ArenasBio: Dr. Rick Arenas is an Associate Professor in the Department of Speech and Hearing Sciences at the University of New Mexico. He received a bachelor's degree in Speech and Hearing Science, a master's degree in Speech Pathology and Audiology and a Ph.D. in Speech and Hearing Science all from the University of Iowa. His primary research interest is in developmental stuttering. He is interested in the anticipation of stuttering and the contextual variability of stuttering: Why is it that stuttering occurs consistently more frequently in particular contexts? Recently his research has transitioned toward the way people relate to their stuttering and how it plays a role in their personal narrative. Using qualitative methods, he is investigating how people who stutter change their thoughts and beliefs to live harmoniously with stuttering. The overall goal is to translate research findings in to more effective treatments for stuttering in order to lessen the social and emotional impacts of the disorder.

Activists have been working to dismantle patriarchal structures since the feminist and civil rights movements of the last century, and yet we continue to struggle with patriarchy today. In their new book, Why Does Patriarchy Persist? (Polity, 2018), Carol Gilligan and Naomi Snider use psychoanalysis and psychology as frameworks for understanding the vexingly enduring power of this social structure. They offer a cogent and eye-opening theory addressing the fear of loss against which patriarchy aims to protect us, and the consequent impingements on our ability to enter into genuine relationships. In our interview, Carol and Naomi talk about how this book came about and what their ideas offer for our understanding of current political events. Carol Gilligan is a writer, activist, University Professor at New York University, and the author of In a Different Voice, one of the most influential feminist books of all time. Naomi Snider is a research fellow at New York University, co-founder of NYU's Radical Listening Project, and a candidate in psychoanalytic training at the William Alanson White Institute. Eugenio Duarte is a psychologist and psychoanalyst practicing in Miami. He treats individuals and couples, with specialties in gender and sexuality, eating and body image problems, and relationship issues. He is a graduate and faculty of William Alanson White Institute in New York City and former chair of their LGBTQ Study Group; and faculty at Florida Psychoanalytic Institute in Miami. He is also a contributing author to the book Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis: Defining Terms and Building Bridges (2018, Routledge). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Benjamin Fong's Death and Mastery: Psychoanalytic Drive Theory and the Subject of Late Capitalism (Columbia UP, 2016) revitalizes two oft' maligned psychoanalytic concepts, the death drive and the drive to mastery, and makes lively and thoroughgoing use of both to revisit arguments about the power of the culture industry and how we might resist its narcotizing allure. For instance, we know Facebook is the devil, offering us relief from real strife via impotent political engagement; like prisoners in solitary we write on its wall. We know Netflix is a platform for product placement that we pay for, meanwhile losing track of our myriad subscriptions. We know we ought to think twice before inhaling the contents of either yet we simply cannot seem to stop ourselves.  What gives? This--our compliant involvement with what promises to decrease our power and increase our alienation—is an old Frankfurt School obsession and query. Fong attempts to explain our complicity by using Freud altogether differently than his forebears. (Fong has been a member of the Society for Psychoanalytic Inquiry which, having turned ghosts into ancestors, strikes me as the closest thing we have to a contemporary version of the Institut fur Sozialforschung going today, although I believe most of its members are American born.) He reminds us that the Frankfurt School ignored the death drive. In fact, the Freud engaged by the Frankfurt School appears to have stopped writing around 1919. (It is very odd to think that they did not absorb and make use of Beyond The Pleasure Principle, forget Civilization and Its Discontents.) I admit I found myself wondering if Freud's conclusions about man as wolf to man, the impossibility of loving our neighbor as ourselves, and our desire to go out as we came in, were simply too bleak even for Adorno, Horkheimer and Marcuse? Of course, the death drive is tough for politics: how to organize people to fight for what is just if, at the end of the day, they simply seek the cessation of tension, and furthermore, are compulsively drawn to repeat their worst experiences? Freud's thinking after 1920 can be read as offering a devastating critique of neoliberal “just do it” life with its appeals to progress and perfectibility. And Fong puts this Freud to great use. Attempting to construct a way out of being subsumed by the culture industry, with its promise of ruin, Fong champions a reappraisal of the super-ego as a friendly presence. He borrows from Hans Loewald, who argued for the super-ego as being future oriented, and harboring a hopeful fantasy, like a kind parent, about the fate of the ego over time. Fong also engages the thinking of Jacques Lacan, and with his help, tries to answer a question derived from a debate between Freud and Wilhelm Reich, about “where does the misery come from?” (Thanks to Jacqueline Rose for bringing this question to all of our attention). He develops a new theory (!) about aggressivity that locates it as arising neither solely from within nor from without. Interestingly, he does not rely on Laplanche to make his argument. That said, mastery as a concept scares me. Can “the master's tools,” to paraphrase Audre Lorde, “dismantle the master's house?” Lawrence Kohlberg's stages of moral development did come to mind as I read, and I was left at times feeling a bit like one of Carol Gilligan's adolescent girls, putting my feet, talk about returning to the primordial ooze, into the shoes of another. Then there is Freud's idea that women lack sufficient super-egos. Following this logic, it is not too strange to ask if women can exercise mastery? And finally, what about Kerry James Marshall's evocative and resonant use of the word, albeit spelled differently (Mastry), to refer to both slavery, the slave master, and the lives of those who survived it and his aftermath? Mastery is not a neutral word. Tracy D. Morgan is a psychoanalyst and the founding editor of NBiP. Write to her at tracedoris@gmail.com

Carol Gilligan is a writer, activist, NY University professor, and the author of In A Different Voice, one of the most influential feminist books of all time.----Naomi Snider is a research fellow at NYU, and founder of NYU' s Radical Listenting Project----They' ve co-authored the book, Why Does Patriarchy Persist?

Are ethics and public relations mutually exclusive, like ethical embezzlement? Popular conceptions of public relations range from the relatively benign, as in ginning up publicity, to the more nefarious, as in sowing doubt and spreading misinformation. In that view, on a good day, public relations is frivolous; on a bad day, evil. A long line of social critics, philosophers, and ordinary citizens see more bad days than good. In fact, a recent survey shows most Americans consider PR practitioners “smart, friendly liars.” That's the issue we will address as we examine public relations from the happy hokum of a P.T. Barnum to the hollow bombast of a Donald Trump and points in between. Along the way, we'll examine the practice through the intellects of great thinkers from Aristotle, Immanuel Kant, and John Mill to John Rawls, Alasdair Macintyre, and Carol Gilligan. PR doesn't have to be the shortest four-letter word in the dictionary.

Are ethics and public relations mutually exclusive, like ethical embezzlement? Popular conceptions of public relations range from the relatively benign, as in ginning up publicity, to the more nefarious, as in sowing doubt and spreading misinformation. In that view, on a good day, public relations is frivolous; on a bad day, evil. A long line of social critics, philosophers, and ordinary citizens see more bad days than good. In fact, a recent survey shows most Americans consider PR practitioners “smart, friendly liars.” That's the issue we will address as we examine public relations from the happy hokum of a P.T. Barnum to the hollow bombast of a Donald Trump and points in between. Along the way, we'll examine the practice through the intellects of great thinkers from Aristotle, Immanuel Kant, and John Mill to John Rawls, Alasdair Macintyre, and Carol Gilligan. PR doesn't have to be the shortest four-letter word in the dictionary.