Podcast appearances and mentions of Heather Armstrong

Send us a textThat breakthrough you've been praying for might be waiting—not in your striving, but in your sleeping. Divine rest isn't a luxury or an afterthought; it's foundational to how God designed us to function in relationship with Him.Ben Armstrong brings profound wisdom to our conversation about sleep, dreams, and the prophetic. He highlights how in the creation narrative, each day began with evening—a divine rhythm suggesting we should live from rest toward activity, not desperately racing toward rest after depleting ourselves.When the Holy Spirit was poured out at Pentecost, Peter quoted Joel's prophecy that dreams and visions would be key languages of the Spirit. Yet many believers have lost touch with this vital spiritual channel. Through biblical examples like Jacob receiving identity and direction through a dream, Ben illustrates how God often speaks most clearly when we're at rest.Modern science confirms what Scripture teaches—our bodies undergo crucial restoration during sleep, and most growth in nature happens at night. High cortisol levels from stress inhibit rest, while practices like reducing screen time before bed improve both sleep quality and dream recall. Even nutrition plays a surprising role in our ability to rest well.Perhaps most challenging is Ben's observation that we often "spiritualise our dysfunction," pushing through exhaustion while framing unhealthy patterns in religious language. Jesus modelled something different—communion with Father first, followed by purposeful action with more than enough resources for the day.The conversation concludes with a practical challenge: identify one small daily habit that acknowledges rest as vital to your life. This simple act of stewardship invites God's grace and can transform your entire approach to living in His kingdom.What divine breakthrough might be waiting for you in the place of rest you've been avoiding?BEN ARMSTRONGThe Overseer of Prophetic Ministry at Bethel Church, Redding, where he and his wife, Heather Armstrong, both serve as pastors.Through teaching and preaching, Ben equips people with the skills and tools they need to bring the kingdom of heaven to earth. He has a passion to see individuals fully equipped in living a prophetic lifestyle, as well as walking in the revelatory gifts. Ben has a passion for the pursuit of God's presence, seeing worship reach new heavenly realms, dreams and interpretation, healing, and living a prophetic lifestyle.They have three amazing children; Conner, Kira, and Madison. Ben, Heather, and their children are passionate about living the kingdom and bringing the supernatural in their family life and equipping others to do the same.https://armstrongministries.com/Support the showwww.greaterthingsinternational.com

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Hospitals throughout the U.S. use their 340B savings in innovative ways to care for their patients in need. In some cases, they can take that care outside the walls of the hospital to meet patients where they learn, live, and play. We speak with Heather Armstrong with Comanche County Medical Center in central Texas to tell us how her health system invests 340B savings into innovative approaches to community care.Improving student health on campusSince the end of 2022, Comanche County Medical Center has been operating a school campus-based program that pairs onsite diagnostic equipment with telehealth visits to keep students and staff healthy without requiring families to miss school and work. The program has decreased absenteeism and enabled faster recoveries for the patients it serves.Putting community care on wheelsComanche County Medical Center has a fully equipped mobile van clinic that it can deploy wherever the community needs care. By bringing the clinic to food drives, sporting events, and areas affected by wildfires, the center has been able to provide many more residents with preventive services, medications, and other vital care that they otherwise would not have accessed.Expanding the reach through pharmacy partnersThe community pharmacies that Comanche County Medical Center partners with, combined with prescription delivery services, has greatly expanded the numbers of patients whom the center can connect to needed prescription drugs. But drugmaker restrictions on contract pharmacies has had substantial negative impacts on that access and has affected the center's plans for health services growth.Check out all of our episodes on the 340B Insight podcast website. You also can stay updated on all 340B Health news and information by visiting our homepage. If you have any questions you'd like us to cover in this podcast, email us at podcast@340bhealth.org.Resources:Court-Backed Arkansas Contract Pharmacy Law Prompts Enforcement Action, More Drugmaker Retreats

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How do you rebuild a marriage after the harsh sting of infidelity? Jason and Lauren Vallotton interview their dear friends, Ben and Heather Armstrong, who have got some answers that empower couples to opt back in, even after the devastation of broken trust. The Armstrongs offer a heartening and insightful conversation where they candidly share their journey of perseverance and hope, revealing how they found their way back to each other after a painful betrayal. Their story isn't just about surviving infidelity, but about building a brand new, beautiful marriage on the other side.The Armstrongs didn't just come up with a theory on rebuilding their marriage; they lived it. This episode offers a unique blend of their personal narratives and hard-won wisdom. Ben shares candidly about the choices he made that slowly led him down a path of infidelity, and Heather opens up about the emotional rollercoaster she went through upon discovering her husband's affair and the healing process that followed. The importance of mutual ownership, honest communication, and taking responsibility for one's actions — steps that are not only essential for healing but for moving forward — are discussed.--------Heather Armstrong is a gifted photographer and runs a successful photography business. She is also the Local Women's Pastor at Bethel Church, Redding. Ben Armstrong is the Overseer of Prophetic Ministry at Bethel Church, Redding where they both also serve on the Senior Leadership Team. They have three amazing children; Conner, Kira, and Madison. Ben, Heather, and their children are passionate about living the kingdom and bringing the supernatural in their family life and equipping others to do the same. Heather says, “Revival isn't revival until it shows up in our homes!”Look for their book, "I Choose Us," which comes out in late 2024.Heather on InstagramBen on InstagramConnect with Lauren:InstagramFacebook Connect with Jason:Jay's InstagramJay's FacebookBraveCo Instagramwww.braveco.org

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Christian talks to the Ladies Team that represented Great Britain and Northern Ireland at the inaugural PR22 World Championships in Italy. Laura, Holly, Andrea and fourther member of the team,  Heather Armstrong, who could not be with us for the podcast, brought home Bronze in the IPRF Ladies Division

Things have gone way too far, and it's time to take action. True Sunlight co-hosts Mandy Matney and Liz Farrell look at the organized efforts online to silence victims, journalists, bloggers and other influencers … people who are using their voices for good. In this episode they talk to Rae Andreacchio, a Mississippi mother who has been attacked and defamed as she seeks answers about how her son Christian died in 2014. Andreacchio stood up to the bullying and took her case to federal court. Also in this episode, the story behind Dooce blogger Heather Armstrong's death and what might have contributed to her decision to take her own life.  Want to look at the documents referenced in this episode and others? Consider joining our Luna Shark Premium Membership community to help us SHINE THE SUNLIGHT! CLICK HERE to learn more: https://bit.ly/3BdUtOE. Through lunasharkmedia.com, Premium Members will get access to searchable case files, written articles with documents, case photos, episode videos and exclusive live experiences with our hosts - all in one place.  We all want to drink from the same Cup Of Justice — and it starts with learning about our legal system. By popular demand, Cup of Justice has launched as its own weekly show. Go to cupofjusticepod.com to learn more or click the link in the episode description to get a hot cup of justice wherever you get your podcasts! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cup-of-justice/id1668668400 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Itp67SQTZEHQGgrX0TYTl?si=39ff6a0cc34140f3 SUNscribe to our free email list to get alerts on bonus episodes, calls to action, new shows and updates. CLICK HERE to learn more: https://bit.ly/3KBMJcP And a special thank you to our sponsors: Microdose.com, PELOTON, Simplisafe, and others. Use promo code "MANDY" for a special offer! Find us on social media: facebook.com/TrueSunlightPodcast/ Instagram.com/murdaughmurderspod/ Twitter.com/mandymatney Twitter.com/elizfarrell youtube.com/c/MurdaughMurders Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Alamo and Bexar County Long-term Care Ombudsman Program extends an invitation to those who want to become certified volunteer long-term care ombudsmen. Ombudsmen are advocates who give a voice to concerns raised by residents living in long-term care communities, and work to ensure their quality of care and life. Training classes will be led virtually and start Monday, July 24, from 5:30-7:30 p.m., and will continue at the same time every Monday and Thursday for eight-and-a-half weeks. Applications are due by Monday, July 17. For information or to apply, contact Heather Armstrong at harmstrong@aacog.com or 210-362-5209.Please include your zip...Article Link

Sexual health researcher Dr. Heather Armstrong and mental health educator Victoria Maxwell break down how bipolar disorder, mania, depression, and medication impacts sex, how to deal with hypersexuality and low libido, and strategies to improve your sexual well-being. Hosted by Dr. Emma Morton. (03:46) About Dr. Heather Armstrong(04:38) About Victoria Maxwell(06:32) How of Bipolar Disorder Affects Sex(09:23) Hypersexuality & Triggers(14:35) Low Sexual Interest(17:10) Talking About Sex Is Challenging(20:42) How Medication Affects Sex & Dysfunction(26:33) Warning Signs & Preventing Hypersexuality(34:15) Pornography/Masturbation Triggers Mania?(36:24) How to Explain Hypersexuality to Your Partner(48:21) Solving Low Desire & Building Intimacy(55:10) Shame & Recovery from Hypersexuality(59:54) Is Increased Sex Drive Always Bad? Dr. Heather Armstrong is an Assistant Professor in Sexual Health at the University of Southampton in Southampton, United Kingdom. She is also a chartered psychologist with the British Psychological Society. Her research primarily focuses on improving sexual health and well-being among sexual and gender minority people. She has presented her work at national and international conferences around the world and has published 60 journal articles and numerous book chapters. She is an Associate Editor at Sexual Health and is on the editorial boards of the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, BMJ STI, and the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality. Since being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, psychosis, and anxiety, Victoria Maxwell has become one of North America's top speakers and educators on the lived experience of mental illness and recovery, dismantling stigma and returning to work after a psychiatric disorder. As a performer, her funny, powerful messages about mental wellness create lasting change in individuals and organizations. By sharing her story of mental illness and recovery she makes the uncomfortable comfortable, the confusing understandable. The Mental Health Commission of Canada named her keynote That's Just Crazy Talk as one of the top anti-stigma interventions in the country. More on this episode: https://talkBD.live/sex #talkBD⁠⁠⁠⁠ gathers researchers, people with lived experience, healthcare providers, and top bipolar disorder experts from around the world to discuss and answer the most important questions about living with bipolar disorder. Learn more about the talkBD Bipolar Disorder Podcast and upcoming episodes at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://talkBD.live

We hear a lot of talk in the media these days about mental illness. In fact, this podcast frequently covers the topic with the goal of understanding the disease and supporting those who struggle with a mental disorder. But there can be a lot of confusion about what qualifies as mental illness. Sometimes, it's used as an excuse for everything from mass shootings to road rage. And while that may be true in some specific instances, we're seeing it used today, for example, as a shield for hate crimes, anti-semitism, and mass murder. For many who suffer day-in and day-out with crippling depression, anxiety, and other forms of debilitating mental illness, these individuals often can't even get out of bed in the morning. They're not focused on committing crimes.   Sometimes severe depression can't be controlled by traditional means. In June of 2019, Florine interviewed author and well-known “mommy blogger,” Heather Armstrong, who described how her crippling depression made it impossible to even get out of bed in the morning or take a shower. Nothing Heather tried relieved her symptoms. Medication didn't help. Therapy didn't help and her substance abuse issues only contributed to the problem. By 2017, Heather was so desperate that she participated in an experimental treatment protocol that left her clinically brain-dead for several minutes at a time. Her memoir entitled, The Valedictorian of Being Dead, tells how the experimental procedure helped to, at least temporarily, alleviate her symptoms. Heather's bravery and openness in sharing the most painful aspects of her life proved to be an inspiration to many and led to her being named one of Forbes' List of Most Influential Women. But perhaps because there's a lot of shame and stigma surrounding the disease of mental illness, Heather's openness in sharing her struggles also made her a frequent target of online trolls. Sadly, during the pandemic, Heather suffered a relapse and on May 9th of this year, Heather took her own life. She was only 47 years old and left behind two teenage daughters. Heather's deteriorating mental state became evident in her spiraling blog posts and her words provoked online trolls who subjected Heather to horrific online bullying about every aspect of her life.   It's important to remember cruelty and bullying only make a bad situation worse. Instead of ostracizing, mocking, and abusing those who are struggling, let's recognize that the most vulnerable members of our society need our compassion, understanding, and grace, and as a memorial tribute, please listen to Florine's interview with Heather Armstrong. And remember that every single day is a gift and when you are at your lowest point, remember that this too shall pass. If you truly are having suicidal thoughts, please reach out and pick up the phone. Help is only a phone call away. Please call the National Suicide Prevention hotline at 800-273-8255.   Brought to You By: Gardner White Furniture   Mentioned in This Episode: Heather Armstrong  Heather Armstrong IG Dooce.com The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live, by Heather B. Armstrong  

What I have to do, I have to catch everybody if they start to go over the cliff — I mean if they're running and they don't look where they're going I have to come out from somewhere and catch them. That's all I do all day. I'd just be the catcher in the rye. - JD SalingerTaylor Swift's concerts have become cultural phenomenons, religious-like experiences for so many people worldwide, especially little girls. Happy moms post videos of their flushed, excited faces and near-hysteria at the first sight of their idol.It's girl world, to be sure. But it's also become, like so many other things in American culture, LGBTQIA world too, like the upcoming Barbie movie is sure to be. There doesn't seem to be anywhere left that belongs only to girls. From locker rooms to sports to clothes and makeup, girls are vanishing. Recently, Taylor Swift “got political,” and was no doubt backed into a corner by activists demanding she take a loud public side against what they believe are “harmful” laws hurting their community. Which laws? They don't say, and you aren't allowed to ask. They're all bad, they insist. You're with us, or you're against us. There is one law growing in prominence not just here but in other countries too, and that's to put the breaks on “gender-affirming care” for minors. But if you support gay marriage or you want to be a good ally, you have to go along with that too, you have to be part of a movement that is sterilizing children legally, in the United States in 2023. Most people, including Taylor Swift, have no idea just how bad things have gotten. I too was mostly unaware of what “gender-affirming care” actually means. I also didn't know how bad things had gotten for women in sports. Denying biological reality seems to be something fundamentalist religions do, not educated liberal societies, yet here we are, insisting trans women are women. They can believe that if they want to but it doesn't make it true. The media does such an expert job of pandering to activists, pretending like it's a small percentage of athletes. But the truth is that there is widespread suppression of dissent and a climate of fear that keeps so many from speaking out about how this is not just a tiny movement anymore. It's the core identity and belief of the Democratic Party. They can't see this as a social contagion because that news never enters their feedback loop. All they hear, over and over again, is “protect trans kids.” Does protecting them include making them infertile? Does it include surgery that creates a false opening that must be dilated several times a day, or it closes up? Does it mean eliminating their sexual function? For life?Standing up to any of it is hard. We all saw what happened to JK Rowling. The activists are out in force, patrolling reading lists, science labs, school libraries, and all media outlets. Just in writing this, I run the risk of losing everything. But so what? I'll take my talking points from exiled scientists - the new heretics of our time, like evolutionary biologists Heather Heying and Bret Weinstein:As long as we still have a First Amendment, there is no justifiable reason to stay silent on something so urgent. Controlling speech has been the only reason this madness has gone as far as it has. But thankfully, the voices of dissent are getting louder, and there is strength in numbers. When Twitter, under Elon Musk's ownership, struck a deal with the Daily Wire to stream What is a Woman on the first day of Pride, they got spooked enough to pull the deal unless they removed two scenes they labeled “hate speech.” One of those scenes included a desperate father who had been charged with child abuse for misgendering his own daughter, as he fought to stop her from life-altering medical intervention.Thankfully, Musk stepped in and put the kibosh on Twitter censorship, even tweeting out the film to his followers. By the end of the weekend, it had been viewed close to 200 million times. Because of Matt Walsh standing up and speaking out, and because Elon Musk bought Twitter, more people know about what goes on behind closed doors at gender clinics, at universities, and in the minds of so many well-meaning politicians. How is it we have arrived in 2023 and the people sticking up for truth, science, and reason are the Conservative Christians?Here are some of the film's best scenes:The activists have pushed the American public too far. While most everyone was accepting of gay rights and gay marriage, they kept moving the line. Now, elementary schools are making Pride somehow part of their curriculum. But Pride isn't what it used to be. It's not the many gay parents I got to know while I was raising my daughter. It's now expanded like a mushroom cloud to include this unforgivable abuse of minor children under the Orwellian term “medical care.” At this point, I know beyond any doubt that there is no fixing the Left. There is only leaving - leave the schools, leave the therapists, leave the online bubbles, vote them out. Here is Ben Shapiro on the growing backlash:Too many moms now are finding their march toward progress nothing but feet getting stuck in the mud, unable to move, trapped in a movement that seeks to erase them and minimize their power as mothers. Some moms found out all too well, and all too late. “America is Wrong” but Heather was RightDooce, aka Heather Armstrong, came up alongside Ree Drummond, the Pioneer Woman as mommy bloggers with great cameras who recorded their daily struggles raising their kids. But Dooce would never get a cooking show on the Food Network nor sell merch like an air fryer with her personal design on it. But she was a great writer who was funny and brilliant, and there is no doubt she loved her kids. Much to the shock of her longtime readers like me, she killed herself last month after a long battle with depression and a relapse into alcoholism.Dooce had two daughters. The younger daughter was Marlo (pictured above), the absolute girly girl. Dooce described this aspect of Marlo's personality often. She loved tea parties, pink dresses, makeup, and princess costumes but had emerged in our post-2020 dystopia as a “non-binary they.” When I saw this on Dooce's Instagram, I immediately thought, oh, there she goes again. Surfing the latest trend, so of course, one of her kids would be trans. She'll get much mileage out of this online with all of those Good Liberal White Women clucking about, using the correct pronouns, and settling into the only activism they have left. But something wasn't adding up in my mind. I wasn't sure why. Something made me think more deeply about Dooce, her kids, and her suicide. Was there a story there? Then I saw this from NBC news:Armstrong's impulse to put her most private feelings on display occasionally forced her readers to reckon with sentiments they might have found troubling. In a lengthy blog post published in August 2022, most notably, she expressed views some deemed transphobic.The post in which she wrote "Biological gender is scientific" and "we are tossing around these pronouns like goddamn candy" was later removed. But some fans remained disappointed; some said they stopped reading her blog.And even after her suicide, a tweet by Nicole Rosenleaf Ritter (she/her/hers) says: “After almost 20 years, I stopped reading @dooce after her terrible TERF moment last year, but I always hoped she would come out of that so I could delight in her singular voice again. I hope she has found peace, and I ache for her loved ones.”No matter what else Dooce was, no matter how “delightful” her voice, women like Rosenleaf Ritter drew the line at her opinion on trans issues, even when trying to save her daughter's future. That is why there is no saving the Left. Fanaticism has obliterated objective truth and humanity itself. Heather was, more than anything else, a good mother. She knew both of her daughters well, and had tracked their lives for years on her blog, with loving, hilarious, tender detail. What came flooding back when I unlocked my memories of reading Dooce all of these years — her daughter Marlo was a girly girl!Does the above photo, Princess in the Garden, look like gender dysphoria in any way, shape or form? Or does that look like an adorable girly girl? If there was a textbook definition of what the Gender Cult thinks defines a girl early on, Marlo would be it. I don't go along with the idea that there are such well-defined gender stereotypes. I know this isn't true from my own experience and watching my daughter grow up. Neither of us fit what they would call upon to decide what gender we were. But never in that time did any of us even consider, for one second, whether we were girls or not. So what exactly was so offensive as to make so many of Dooce's readers turn on her? While her post, America is Wrong, has been deleted, it's still available on the Wayback Machine. It is a long, rambling, desperately sad depression spiral that was a clear sign she was in trouble mentally, emotionally, and physically. In it, she already confesses to having attempted suicide. But just as she heads for the edge of the cliff, with nothing to lose, she lays it out, all of it, the whole ugly truth of what she and every honest mother knows, otherwise known as “Her Terrible TERF moment.” She wrote:For the kids who are still with me — and you're still with me, right? You can trust me, and I need you to believe that. It will become very clear why. I may be a little scary because no one in your life is allowed to talk to you about gender dysphoria.Those words are super loud and clarion clear to all of you, aren't they.Gender dysphoria. There. I said it again.Every adult in your life has been told by the government to AFFIRM AFFIRM AFFIRM your gender dysphoria because you are out there co-opting suicidal ideation. You are throwing that phrase around as if you own it, as if you have any f*****g idea what it means.Yes. I am calling you out, too. All of you. And I will calm down a little bit, maybe, because you need to be able to trust someone who loves you. And I love you more than you will ever comprehend because I am you.And she continued:White progressive moms, I am talking to you now. And I have no f*cks to give should any of this hurt your feelings. I feel your pain, too, because when my they/them told me they wanted to change their pronouns I believed they were riding this massive cultural shift in acceptance and inclusion.But I was wrong. America is f*cking wrong.During my recovery process I began to realize that I was not asking the right questions about what we think is a radical new way of celebrating diversity.White progressive moms, are you asking yourselves the right questions? Maybe you should so that I don't have to do the work for you. But since none of you are doing the work, lean in close and let me give you the answers to the questions you won't ask.Gender dysphoria is social contagion.Should your theys and thems be afraid to read this or disinterested in the manic rambling spiral of some looney white anorexic on the internet, this part is for you and your kids together. Read this part together calling upon the pain of your childhood that in hindsight might have made you realize that your girls are experiencing normal human sadness. They are teenagers. They were once your precious baby girls.They are experiencing the same sadness you experienced when you were their age.Your children are perfect. They were born perfect. And you love them just the way they are.Let me say it again, and you need to repeat this over and over again to your girls. Every single day for the rest of their lives because WHO KNOWS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE DIE:Your children are perfect. They were born perfect. And you love them just the way they are.This was her Marlo - the textbook “girl” by their own definition of what defines a girl. How does a gender clinician talk their way around this?Heather posted this photo of her own withering body, to emphasize the damage caused by a lifetime of body dysmorphia. You'd think, given that, a little bit of sympathy would be on offer for all of her pain. But no. She has broken the sacred trust of the Ordnung and for that, she must pay.And a Tweet from Fatemeh Khatibloo that says:So. Heather Armstrong (aka as Dooce) has, in one utterly unhinged post:1) Outed herself as a TERF parent to a non-binary child2) Demeaned neurodiverse adults everywhere3) Co-opted the pain and lives of Black women4) Disappeared Black trans women entirelyThis poem on Heather's Instagram, and the accompanying photo, reveals how hard it was for her and what it would mean to abandon everything she knew about her child. She might have seen Marlo's transition as her mental health issues visited upon her youngest, despite the therapy, despite the self-help, despite being a “good liberal” and doing everything right. But that isn't true. Like so many young girls, Marlo has been taken in by a movement that looks a lot like a cult that gives her the acceptance every adolescent needs. Does any of this mean her daughter, the gender clinics, the internet or any external forces are responsible for Heather's suicide? Absolutely not. That was her decision to end her life, just as it was her decision as one of the mommy bloggers to put that life, and the lives of her children, online. But Heather left her daughter, and countless other girls a precious gift: a trail of breadcrumbs back to the real Marlo. It's all there. The photos, the smiles, the stories, years and years of history - once a mommy blog, now an archaeological dig, a historical record of what really happened in the life of a young girly girl with curls, dimples, and a lisp. I can't know what happened with Marlo, whether she was in the process of taking “T” or not, but Dooce's desperation in America is Wrong is a warning. And that tells me that she was likely worried this was her daughter's future, defined only by the drugs she would have to take for the rest of her life.Heather was not a TERF, which is a hateful slur to punish and control women to shut them up. She was a worried mother like so many worried mothers going up against such insurmountable forces, from Taylor Swift to the President of the United States.It shouldn't be surprising that to gain control of our youth, they must first gain control of women by driving a wedge between them and their kids or co-opting them as happy cult members sending their kids into the lion's den. But if there is one thing everyone knows to fear in the wild, it's the Mama Bear. We are ferocious when it comes to protecting our young.One such Mama Bear is Megyn Kelly, who has taken on the fight too. Her explanation of why she will no longer use pronouns has recently earned almost 1 million views. It should go without saying that standing up for women and girls doesn't mean being abusive or cruel to trans people. What they do as adults, how they choose to live, is their business, as long as it doesn't mean trampling the rights of others to live the way they choose to live, to have fair competition in sports, to feel safe in locker rooms, and to mature fully as biological women, or men, before they decide to alter their bodies permanently. And don't force us to go along with your version of reality. Don't force us to say something that isn't true or force us to use pronouns because no one should be forced to believe anything. That's fascism. Despite Dooce's declining mental state and her withering physical form, she had enough Mama Bear to risk even her carefully cultivated reputation to go up against her own audience and perhaps lose everything. That, right there, is true grit. Dooce.com is Heather Armstrong's legacy. They can call her whatever they want. Her beautiful words will remain.She wrote:Dooce wrote: July 17, 2014 - My Little MermaidMarlo is currently obsessed with mermaids and not because of Disney, no. Leta has been watching an Australian show on Netflix called H2O: Just Add Water with Marlo tucked in on the couch beside her. She got several mermaid Barbies for her birthday and has been requesting that I leave her hair down “like a mermaid” before I send her to camp. Before I left for Southeast Asia I bought a passport cover in faux pink crocodile that she calls my mermaid wallet, and when I returned she claimed it as her own. This is one of those adorable yet at times annoying phases (if I let her she would swim in the bathtub “like a mermaid” for hours and hours) that I'm glad I'm documenting so that I can remember it years from now. And remind her that she used to sleep with my passport cover.Rest in Peace, Heather BArmstrong, AKA Dooce. You were right. America is wrong. But don't worry, I got you. 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In this episode Tara brings on Jo Piazza, best-selling author and established podcaster, about the mental health implications of living an online life, particularly for content creators. The conversation also touches on the tragic recent passing of Heather Armstrong, the pioneer parenting writer and creator of Dooce.com. They discuss the impact of social media on mental health and the toxicity of the internet towards women and mother creators. Jo shares her experiences as the host of Under The Influence podcast interviewing creators who have been driven to the brink by the negativity they face online. They also discuss the vulnerability of mothers and the identity shift that comes with motherhood, which can make them more susceptible to online attacks. This raw conversation highlights the importance of discussing mental health in the context of living an online life and the need for better support for creators, particularly women and mothers.*This episode contains explicit words. Links:https://www.jopiazza.com/www.dooce.com Follow & DM me @modernmomprobs Pick up my book Check out modernmomprobs Shout out to Citizens of Sound Leave a review

“And then I just heard Holy Spirit say, ‘I choose us, I choose us, I choose us'…and it just broke something in the Spirit.” - Heather Armstrong   In a beautiful, authentic, and deeply vulnerable conversation, Ben and Heather Armstrong share their story of finding redemption in their marriage. Both leaders at Bethel Church in Redding, California, Ben and Heather recount a period of time in their marriage in which they had to learn to choose each other and choose forgiveness and reconciliation in the midst of an incredibly difficult circumstance. And now, 27 years into their marriage, having fully reconciled and received breakthrough in their circumstances, Ben and Heather's marriage is stronger than ever.   In the midst of one of the most challenging situations and upon finding just how disconnected they were as a couple, Ben and Heather share how they turned to the Holy Spirit and partnered with Him. It wasn't an easy process; it was a difficult journey of choosing hope, trust, and connection every single day. And in the moments in which it would've been easiest to simply give up, they pressed on and pressed in to what the Lord was walking them through.    Sharing keys for how they navigated this season of their marriage, Ben and Heather explain how they continued to choose connection, even on the most difficult days. They were both willing to do the hard work in order to get internal healing and to pursue each other through reconciliation, all with the Lord leading them through each and every step forward. No matter what your circumstances are or what your relationship status currently is, be encouraged that there is hope available to you today—hope for redemption, peace, and full restoration.    Related Materials: Join the International Mentoring Community IMC, to facilitate a safe environment where like-minded people at any stage of their walk can enter into a deeper experience of Jesus. Liz Wright will mentor you each week through revelatory teaching, powerful testimonies and the grace to step into life-changing encounters with Jesus.  https://lizwright.org/imc  

Deze aflevering gaat over de impact die rolmodellen kunnen hebben op mensenlevens, wie de mijne zijn en wat ze voor mij betekenen.Hier had ik het over:- hoe mijn week een ietwat andere wending kreeg na een bericht van iemand uit een boeiend verleden- de beginjaren van het internet, en hoe ik ben beginnen schrijven voor een publiek- het belang van voorbeelden, en wie de mijne waren- hoe we allemaal iets voor anderen kunnen betekenen, soms zonder dat zelf te weten- waarom het zo belangrijk is om je eigen weg te volgen, ook als anderen het (nog) niet snappen Dit heb ik vermeld: - Story Magazine - dit artikel over Heather Armstrong- dooce.com- Brooke Castillo- Gabor Maté- Brené Brown- Glennon Doyle - Simone Seol- Amy Porterfield- Catherine Andrews- Cal Newport- Alok Vaid-Menon Wil je regelmatig van me horen? Abonneer je dan op mijn nieuwsbrief, #vergeetniettekijken. Laat eens iets achter op mijn antwoordapparaat. Heb je interesse in de online masterclasses die ik afgelopen zomer gaf? Die kun je nu kopen aan 97 euro in plaats van 147: Je Stress de Baas met Zorg voor je Zenuwstelsel, Ontschaam Jezelf en Intentioneel Leven en Denken Meer weten over ontdekkend dagboekschrijven?Hier vind je een gratis e-book om je op weg te helpen. Je vindt mijn werk terug op Instagram. Je kunt me mailen op hallo@kellyzegtfoert.be.

Three of our favorite segments from the week, in case you missed them. Why film and TV writers are striking and the new economic picture of the industry in the streaming age. (First) | Though much of the media referred to Heather Armstrong of Dooce.com as "queen of the mommy bloggers," the moniker did not do her work justice. Jo Piazza offers an appreciation (Starts at 20:35) | WNYC/Gothamist's Steve Smith and Precious Fondren preview some of the summer's hottest concerts, from small venues to arenas. (Starts at 44:59) If you don't subscribe to the Brian Lehrer Show on iTunes, you can do that here.

WARNING: This episode examines the topic of self harm and suicide. Anyone dealing with these issues can find help by calling or texting 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or visiting the website to chat by going to 988lifeline.org.  Moderator Mayhem: A Content Moderation Game. OpenAI's Sam Altman Urges A.I. Regulation in Senate Hearing. Updating our inactive account policies. Universal Short Title Catalogue. TikTok Ban Signed in Montana, Paving Way for First Amendment Legal Battle. Where to preorder Amazon's new Echo Pop, Echo Show 5, and Echo Buds. Review: HP Dragonfly Pro Chromebook is the best of ChromeOS. Uber puts family (even teens) at the center of its new products and features. After a 29-year run, Vice files for bankruptcy. Heather Armstrong, 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47. Lithium battery fire and smoke incidents on airplanes worry pilots, flight attendants. Cord-Cutting Q1 2023: Pay-TV Ops Lose 2.3M Subs, Worst Quarter to Date. Pixel 7a's free Pixel Buds and case offer ends this weekend. Google Docs adding collapsible headings, custom building blocks. Google Calendar and Microsoft Outlook are syncing up. Kind of. Google teases more Workspace AI: Gmail inbox org, Meet notes, Slides soundtrack maker. Android TV now has a 'Live' tab with free channels, just like Google TV. Pixel phones to gain new ringtone inspired by Kenny G. Picks:  Stacey - PSA: Older Wemo Smart Plugs Have Vulnerability That Leaves Them Open to Attack. Jeff - Rebranding the Wienermobile. Jeff - The World Talks. Ant - Early Morning Photo Contest Winners Announced. Ant - Don't Leave Home Without It. Hosts: Leo Laporte, Jeff Jarvis, Stacey Higginbotham, and Ant Pruitt Download or subscribe to this show at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-google. Get episodes ad-free with Club TWiT at https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: AWS Insiders - TWIG GO.ACILEARNING.COM/TWIT

WARNING: This episode examines the topic of self harm and suicide. Anyone dealing with these issues can find help by calling or texting 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or visiting the website to chat by going to 988lifeline.org.  Moderator Mayhem: A Content Moderation Game. OpenAI's Sam Altman Urges A.I. Regulation in Senate Hearing. Updating our inactive account policies. Universal Short Title Catalogue. TikTok Ban Signed in Montana, Paving Way for First Amendment Legal Battle. Where to preorder Amazon's new Echo Pop, Echo Show 5, and Echo Buds. Review: HP Dragonfly Pro Chromebook is the best of ChromeOS. Uber puts family (even teens) at the center of its new products and features. After a 29-year run, Vice files for bankruptcy. Heather Armstrong, 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47. Lithium battery fire and smoke incidents on airplanes worry pilots, flight attendants. Cord-Cutting Q1 2023: Pay-TV Ops Lose 2.3M Subs, Worst Quarter to Date. Pixel 7a's free Pixel Buds and case offer ends this weekend. Google Docs adding collapsible headings, custom building blocks. Google Calendar and Microsoft Outlook are syncing up. Kind of. Google teases more Workspace AI: Gmail inbox org, Meet notes, Slides soundtrack maker. Android TV now has a 'Live' tab with free channels, just like Google TV. Pixel phones to gain new ringtone inspired by Kenny G. Picks:  Stacey - PSA: Older Wemo Smart Plugs Have Vulnerability That Leaves Them Open to Attack. Jeff - Rebranding the Wienermobile. Jeff - The World Talks. Ant - Early Morning Photo Contest Winners Announced. Ant - Don't Leave Home Without It. Hosts: Leo Laporte, Jeff Jarvis, Stacey Higginbotham, and Ant Pruitt Download or subscribe to this show at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-google. Get episodes ad-free with Club TWiT at https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: AWS Insiders - TWIG GO.ACILEARNING.COM/TWIT

WARNING: This episode examines the topic of self harm and suicide. Anyone dealing with these issues can find help by calling or texting 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or visiting the website to chat by going to 988lifeline.org.  Moderator Mayhem: A Content Moderation Game. OpenAI's Sam Altman Urges A.I. Regulation in Senate Hearing. Updating our inactive account policies. Universal Short Title Catalogue. TikTok Ban Signed in Montana, Paving Way for First Amendment Legal Battle. Where to preorder Amazon's new Echo Pop, Echo Show 5, and Echo Buds. Review: HP Dragonfly Pro Chromebook is the best of ChromeOS. Uber puts family (even teens) at the center of its new products and features. After a 29-year run, Vice files for bankruptcy. Heather Armstrong, 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47. Lithium battery fire and smoke incidents on airplanes worry pilots, flight attendants. Cord-Cutting Q1 2023: Pay-TV Ops Lose 2.3M Subs, Worst Quarter to Date. Pixel 7a's free Pixel Buds and case offer ends this weekend. Google Docs adding collapsible headings, custom building blocks. Google Calendar and Microsoft Outlook are syncing up. Kind of. Google teases more Workspace AI: Gmail inbox org, Meet notes, Slides soundtrack maker. Android TV now has a 'Live' tab with free channels, just like Google TV. Pixel phones to gain new ringtone inspired by Kenny G. Picks:  Stacey - PSA: Older Wemo Smart Plugs Have Vulnerability That Leaves Them Open to Attack. Jeff - Rebranding the Wienermobile. Jeff - The World Talks. Ant - Early Morning Photo Contest Winners Announced. Ant - Don't Leave Home Without It. Hosts: Leo Laporte, Jeff Jarvis, Stacey Higginbotham, and Ant Pruitt Download or subscribe to this show at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-google. Get episodes ad-free with Club TWiT at https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: AWS Insiders - TWIG GO.ACILEARNING.COM/TWIT

WARNING: This episode examines the topic of self harm and suicide. Anyone dealing with these issues can find help by calling or texting 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or visiting the website to chat by going to 988lifeline.org.  Moderator Mayhem: A Content Moderation Game. OpenAI's Sam Altman Urges A.I. Regulation in Senate Hearing. Updating our inactive account policies. Universal Short Title Catalogue. TikTok Ban Signed in Montana, Paving Way for First Amendment Legal Battle. Where to preorder Amazon's new Echo Pop, Echo Show 5, and Echo Buds. Review: HP Dragonfly Pro Chromebook is the best of ChromeOS. Uber puts family (even teens) at the center of its new products and features. After a 29-year run, Vice files for bankruptcy. Heather Armstrong, 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47. Lithium battery fire and smoke incidents on airplanes worry pilots, flight attendants. Cord-Cutting Q1 2023: Pay-TV Ops Lose 2.3M Subs, Worst Quarter to Date. Pixel 7a's free Pixel Buds and case offer ends this weekend. Google Docs adding collapsible headings, custom building blocks. Google Calendar and Microsoft Outlook are syncing up. Kind of. Google teases more Workspace AI: Gmail inbox org, Meet notes, Slides soundtrack maker. Android TV now has a 'Live' tab with free channels, just like Google TV. Pixel phones to gain new ringtone inspired by Kenny G. Picks:  Stacey - PSA: Older Wemo Smart Plugs Have Vulnerability That Leaves Them Open to Attack. Jeff - Rebranding the Wienermobile. Jeff - The World Talks. Ant - Early Morning Photo Contest Winners Announced. Ant - Don't Leave Home Without It. Hosts: Leo Laporte, Jeff Jarvis, Stacey Higginbotham, and Ant Pruitt Download or subscribe to this show at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-google. Get episodes ad-free with Club TWiT at https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: AWS Insiders - TWIG GO.ACILEARNING.COM/TWIT

WARNING: This episode examines the topic of self harm and suicide. Anyone dealing with these issues can find help by calling or texting 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or visiting the website to chat by going to 988lifeline.org.  Moderator Mayhem: A Content Moderation Game. OpenAI's Sam Altman Urges A.I. Regulation in Senate Hearing. Updating our inactive account policies. Universal Short Title Catalogue. TikTok Ban Signed in Montana, Paving Way for First Amendment Legal Battle. Where to preorder Amazon's new Echo Pop, Echo Show 5, and Echo Buds. Review: HP Dragonfly Pro Chromebook is the best of ChromeOS. Uber puts family (even teens) at the center of its new products and features. After a 29-year run, Vice files for bankruptcy. Heather Armstrong, 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47. Lithium battery fire and smoke incidents on airplanes worry pilots, flight attendants. Cord-Cutting Q1 2023: Pay-TV Ops Lose 2.3M Subs, Worst Quarter to Date. Pixel 7a's free Pixel Buds and case offer ends this weekend. Google Docs adding collapsible headings, custom building blocks. Google Calendar and Microsoft Outlook are syncing up. Kind of. Google teases more Workspace AI: Gmail inbox org, Meet notes, Slides soundtrack maker. Android TV now has a 'Live' tab with free channels, just like Google TV. Pixel phones to gain new ringtone inspired by Kenny G. Picks:  Stacey - PSA: Older Wemo Smart Plugs Have Vulnerability That Leaves Them Open to Attack. Jeff - Rebranding the Wienermobile. Jeff - The World Talks. Ant - Early Morning Photo Contest Winners Announced. Ant - Don't Leave Home Without It. Hosts: Leo Laporte, Jeff Jarvis, Stacey Higginbotham, and Ant Pruitt Download or subscribe to this show at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-google. Get episodes ad-free with Club TWiT at https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: AWS Insiders - TWIG GO.ACILEARNING.COM/TWIT

WARNING: This episode examines the topic of self harm and suicide. Anyone dealing with these issues can find help by calling or texting 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or visiting the website to chat by going to 988lifeline.org.  Moderator Mayhem: A Content Moderation Game. OpenAI's Sam Altman Urges A.I. Regulation in Senate Hearing. Updating our inactive account policies. Universal Short Title Catalogue. TikTok Ban Signed in Montana, Paving Way for First Amendment Legal Battle. Where to preorder Amazon's new Echo Pop, Echo Show 5, and Echo Buds. Review: HP Dragonfly Pro Chromebook is the best of ChromeOS. Uber puts family (even teens) at the center of its new products and features. After a 29-year run, Vice files for bankruptcy. Heather Armstrong, 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47. Lithium battery fire and smoke incidents on airplanes worry pilots, flight attendants. Cord-Cutting Q1 2023: Pay-TV Ops Lose 2.3M Subs, Worst Quarter to Date. Pixel 7a's free Pixel Buds and case offer ends this weekend. Google Docs adding collapsible headings, custom building blocks. Google Calendar and Microsoft Outlook are syncing up. Kind of. Google teases more Workspace AI: Gmail inbox org, Meet notes, Slides soundtrack maker. Android TV now has a 'Live' tab with free channels, just like Google TV. Pixel phones to gain new ringtone inspired by Kenny G. Picks:  Stacey - PSA: Older Wemo Smart Plugs Have Vulnerability That Leaves Them Open to Attack. Jeff - Rebranding the Wienermobile. Jeff - The World Talks. Ant - Early Morning Photo Contest Winners Announced. Ant - Don't Leave Home Without It. Hosts: Leo Laporte, Jeff Jarvis, Stacey Higginbotham, and Ant Pruitt Download or subscribe to this show at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-google. Get episodes ad-free with Club TWiT at https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: AWS Insiders - TWIG GO.ACILEARNING.COM/TWIT

WARNING: This episode examines the topic of self harm and suicide. Anyone dealing with these issues can find help by calling or texting 988 to connect with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or visiting the website to chat by going to 988lifeline.org.  Moderator Mayhem: A Content Moderation Game. OpenAI's Sam Altman Urges A.I. Regulation in Senate Hearing. Updating our inactive account policies. Universal Short Title Catalogue. TikTok Ban Signed in Montana, Paving Way for First Amendment Legal Battle. Where to preorder Amazon's new Echo Pop, Echo Show 5, and Echo Buds. Review: HP Dragonfly Pro Chromebook is the best of ChromeOS. Uber puts family (even teens) at the center of its new products and features. After a 29-year run, Vice files for bankruptcy. Heather Armstrong, 'Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47. Lithium battery fire and smoke incidents on airplanes worry pilots, flight attendants. Cord-Cutting Q1 2023: Pay-TV Ops Lose 2.3M Subs, Worst Quarter to Date. Pixel 7a's free Pixel Buds and case offer ends this weekend. Google Docs adding collapsible headings, custom building blocks. Google Calendar and Microsoft Outlook are syncing up. Kind of. Google teases more Workspace AI: Gmail inbox org, Meet notes, Slides soundtrack maker. Android TV now has a 'Live' tab with free channels, just like Google TV. Pixel phones to gain new ringtone inspired by Kenny G. Picks:  Stacey - PSA: Older Wemo Smart Plugs Have Vulnerability That Leaves Them Open to Attack. Jeff - Rebranding the Wienermobile. Jeff - The World Talks. Ant - Early Morning Photo Contest Winners Announced. Ant - Don't Leave Home Without It. Hosts: Leo Laporte, Jeff Jarvis, Stacey Higginbotham, and Ant Pruitt Download or subscribe to this show at https://twit.tv/shows/this-week-in-google. Get episodes ad-free with Club TWiT at https://twit.tv/clubtwit Sponsors: AWS Insiders - TWIG GO.ACILEARNING.COM/TWIT

In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura chat with Sara Peterson, author of Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture. Sara has written about motherhood and feminism for The New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, The Washington Post, and elsewhere. She also writes the newsletter, In Pursuit of Clean Countertops, where she explores the cult of ideal motherhood. She lives in New Hampshire. You can find Sara on Twitter or Instagram. Subscribe to her amazing newsletter here! Heather Armstrong, mentioned in this episode, passed away a few days after recording. Sara wrote about Heather here. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠⁠ OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thatdarnchat⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Crystal on social media ⁠⁠⁠⁠@itscrystalbritt⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Domestic Violence Resources ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Grab a Fair Play Deck⁠⁠ Interested in learning more about Fair Play? You can check out the ⁠⁠⁠book here⁠⁠⁠ or check out this ⁠⁠⁠youtube ⁠⁠⁠video! Please note: We are not your doctors. None of what we say should be considered a replacement for therapy. :) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message

In a world that often minimizes or ignores women's voices, Heather Armstrong, aka Dooce, was an OG Mommy blogger who demonstrated that our voices have value. In the early 2000s, Dooce was one of the very first bloggers who was able to monetize her words. Her success unleashed thousands of voices into the blogosphere. Elizabeth is remembering the courage and complexity of Dooce, who died by suicide in early May, on this week's episode.  Radiant BadassChris Martin, Creativity CoachDooceI'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy 

For those of you that don't understand about the experience of depression, I have two websites that might help folks get a grip on it.     The first is Will O'Neil's Actual Sunlight.    It is a fictional narrative game about the experience of living and trying to exist in a depressive state.     Another expression of the experience is an old school HTML website called Deprression Quest.   It is an interactive experience about living with depression.   What am I talking about this?    In this episode, a word or two about Heather Armstrong and a few resources that might help you understand depression a little bit more and a resource or two to help some of you stay on this side of the life fence. If you need support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 or 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 741-741. Resources Mentioned:  Washington Post article about Heather Armstrong. The website Live Through This Will O'Neil's Actual Sunlight   Old school HTML interactive narrative Depression Quest Disclaimer:  Links to other sites are provided for information purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.  Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health disorder. This blog and podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing in this program is intended to be a substitute for professional psychological, psychiatric or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.  

The OG blogging community reacts to the tragic death of Heather B. Armstrong AKA Dooce, Tiffany's big Beyonce news, a note to a Twitter users' sexually active neighbors is unsurprisingly controversial, Addison Rae cements her Hollywood legacy, Eurovision's rigged winners, Twitter's new CEO, and a tattoo artist's lazy attempt at a fox and flowers themed sleeve blows up TikTok. LINKS! Eurovision Eurovision's Gayest and Sluttiest Moments Grimes “The doomers could simply deploy the AI safety thot propaganda machine” Addison Rae Addison Rae has been cast alongside Ryan Reynolds, Jason Momoa, Vince Vaughn and Aubrey Plaza in live-action hybrid ‘Animal Friends.' She will be one of the main live-action characters. Beyonce tour kicks off Gender neutral toilets could spell problems in Florida Beyonce addresses lack of visuals Sex Note A couple has been having such frequent, aggressive sex that their neighbor wrote a note and gifted them beers. The internet has mixed opinions. Elon Musk to step down as Twitter CEO “Unnamed woman” to replace him until June Four months ago, MrBeast shared on Lex Friedman's podcast that he was in the running to possibly become the CEO of Twitter (segment starts around 15:00) Tesla recalls almost every single car it's sold in China (1.1 million) Fox Tattoo Drama Woman pays $1500 for a terrible sketch of a fox  Turns out the ‘design' was traced from Etsy Another client gets half the work done and then doxxed by the artist  The wrong Lucid Tattoos is getting review bombed on google Matt Vaught an LA based tattooist has offered to fly her out and tattoo for free Dooce Dooce's passing is shared on her instagram page, allegedly by her boyfriend, Pete Ashdown ‘Dooce' Heather B. Armstrong, ‘queen of mommy bloggers,' dead at 47 Opinion Heather Armstrong, a.k.a. Dooce, was real and raw. And we loved her. Jordan Reid of RamshackleGlam posts a letter on Instagram to Alice Walker of Get Off My Internets, holding her responsible for the bullying culture she's created on GOMI ‘Evil' comment site GOMI trashed blogger Heather Armstrong in life and death Follow us on TikTok, Instagram and Twitter

Heather Armstrong, the influential blogger who created and wrote Dooce.com, died this week by suicide. Though much of the media referred to Armstrong as "queen of the mommy bloggers," the moniker did not do her work justice. Jo Piazza, author, podcast creator and journalist, offers an appreciation.

With her blog, Dooce, Heather Armstrong ushered in a new genre of confessional writing online, inspiring millions of readers and creators. To honor her legacy, we are replaying the episode from 2011. Among many things, we talked about suicide and depression, so please be forewarned.

The world's first mommy blogger passed away, Heather Armstrong, Dooce. They're calling it suicide, alcoholism and poor mental health. But, what if? It was the vile energy the world dumped on her for sharing what it felt like to be her … an imperfect person, an imperfect mom.

This week's hosts: Christopher Cunningham (Public Square Magazine) and Ivan Wolfe (Times & Seasons) In this episode, we delve into a variety of topics, including the transformative power of birth experiences, the ongoing debate surrounding caffeine and the Word of Wisdom, the controversial recognition of Tucker Carlson in Deseret News, the passing of Heather Armstrong and her impact as a prominent mommy blogger, the jury deliberations in the Lori Vallow Daybell murder trial, the historic moment of interfaith leaders in Kenya welcoming The Church, the 50-year celebration of an unlikely union between a Jewish congregation and Latter-day Saints in Utah, the social capital rates of Latter-day Saints and mainline Protestants, the earthquake relief efforts in Türkiye and Syria by Latter-day Saints, and the GFWC Williston Woman's Club receiving a grant from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Join us as we explore these captivating news stories, providing insights and analysis along the way. News Links: New food bank opens doors in Wilmington, receives large donation to help kickstart operations Ivan Wolfe's Articles CHANGING THE WORLD ONE BIRTH AT A TIME Latest from Mormon Land: Is caffeine really against the Word of Wisdom? Tucker Carlson lauded in Utah newspaper despite replacement theory ties Heather Armstrong, ‘Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,' Is Dead at 47 Jury begins deliberations in murder trial of Lori Vallow Daybell Historic Moment as Interfaith Leaders in Kenya Welcome the Church ‘This could only happen in Utah' — Jewish congregation celebrates 50 years of an unlikely union Why Latter-day Saints and mainline Protestants have the highest social capital rates Latter-day Saints Continue to Provide Earthquake Relief in Türkiye and Syria GFWC Williston Woman's Club receives grant from The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Medical training, computers enhance education, and service in flooded communities: Service from Latter-day Saints around the world

You don't have to worry about this week's Nose taking your phone and putting it in the bottom of a root beer float. On Sunday, The New York Times published an Amy Chozik profile of Elizabeth Holmes, who wants to go by Liz now, it turns out. The piece has been, let's say, controversial. And: Bupkis is a somewhat autobiographical comedy series created by Pete Davidson with Judah Miller and Dave Sirus and executive produced by Lorne Michaels. Eight half-hour (!) episodes are available to stream on Peacock. Rebecca Castellani's endorsement: Jury Duty on Freevee Irene Papoulis's endorsements: David O. Russell's Spanking the Money on DVD Unmasking Narcissism: A Guide to Understanding the Narcissist in Your Life by Mark Ettensohn Pedro Soto's endorsement: Westville Artwalk 26 in New Haven Some other stuff that happened this week, give or take: Heather Armstrong, who made it okay to say motherhood was hard, dead at 47 The pioneering blogger behind Dooce.com upended women's media and laid the ground for the influencer industry The Sad Dads of The National For two decades, the band has written music about the kind of sadness that feels quotidian and incremental—the slow accumulation of ordinary losses. ‘It's Going to Be a While': No End in Sight for Hollywood Strike The writers and entertainment companies remain far apart on several key issues, including money, and the standoff could last for months. There's a ‘volume war' happening in music Drag business flourishes in state's arts and entertainment scene Why are these groups so much more likely to wear glasses than any others? “After Breakfast Mom Would Kick Me Outside And Tell Me Not To Come Home Until The Street Lights Came On”: Gen X'ers Are Sharing The Laughably Bad Parenting Boomers Did To ThemApparently, Gen X grew up in cigarette smoke-filled rooms and never wore seatbelts. Pickleball is the worst Paramount Can't Say No to the Man Behind ‘Yellowstone': $50,000 a Week for His Ranch, $25 Per Cow Taylor Sheridan writes most of the company's hits, giving him clout to dominate the big-budget productions through his network of commercial projects, pushing costs to among the highest in Hollywood I Really Didn't Want to Go On the Goop cruise On David Foster Wallace Reconsidering the man, the meme, and the writing Notes from Prince Harry's Ghostwriter Collaborating on his memoir, “Spare,” meant spending hours together on Zoom, meeting his inner circle, and gaining a new perspective on the tabloids. Bill Hader Just Wants to Make Weird Things The co-creator and star of the HBO comedy “Barry” on the end of the series, his film-nerd past, and why he has no desire to be part of “the conversation.” Shakira And Tom Cruise Were Spotted Together Amid Dating Rumors — Here's How People Reacted Randomest couple. People Are Calling Ben Affleck The Unhappiest Husband In Hollywood After A Video Of Him Slamming A Car Door On Jennifer Lopez Sparked A Debate About Their Marriage Sad Ben Affleck strikes again. Please stop using AI to make Wes Anderson parodies A recent online trend has seen users mock up Harry Potter, Star Wars and Lord of the Rings in the director's distinctive style but is he beyond parody? GUESTS: Rebecca Castellani: Co-founder of Quiet Corner Communications and a freelance writer Irene Papoulis: Teaches writing at Trinity College Pedro Soto: President and CEO of Hygrade Precision Technologies The Colin McEnroe Show is available as a podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe and never miss an episode! Subscribe to The Noseletter, an email compendium of merriment, secrets, and ancient wisdom brought to you by The Colin McEnroe Show. Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Colin McEnroe and Cat Pastor contributed to this show.Support the show: http://www.wnpr.org/donateSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Thursday briefing: Covid public health emergency ends; Title 42; George Santos; birth control pill; Heather Armstrong; and moreRead today's briefing.

On Tuesday, Heather Armstrong died by suicide after a lifetime struggle with depression.

EPISODE 89: JUNE JOHNSON, WEED DOULA June Johnson, Founder/CEO of Collective High and The Weed Doula June Johnson: https://www.linkedin.com/in/junejohnson/  Collective High: https://collective-high.com  The Weed Doula: https://rustic-unit-619.myflodesk.com   Marijuana laws by state: https://www.mpp.org/states/  Books about mass incarceration: The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson A Knock at Midnight by Brittany K Barnett| Slavery by Another Name by Douglas Blackmon Quick takes: Announcement of Heather Armstrong's passing on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/CsERc9lR_XC/  TikTok on Jordan Neely: https://www.tiktok.com/@elisacp/video/7229478130388438318 My Substack newsletter on rejecting conventional advice for women to "stop apologizing": https://elisacp.substack.com/p/sorry My share of Jory Des Jardin's post on fractional leadership: https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:7061817328971231232/  TV mentioned: Allison Holker on the Today Show: https://www.today.com/video/allison-holker-on-stephen-twitch-boss-no-one-saw-this-coming-172460613925 Books mentioned: The Marriage Portrait by Maggie O'Farrell Music mentioned: Willie Nelson: A Beautiful Time Where to find me: My website: https://elisacp.com  Sign up for my newsletter, This Week-ish with Elisa Camahort Page: https://elisacp.substack.com  Calendly: Schedule a session with me!: https://calendly.com/elisacp  Thanks to Ryan Cristopher for my podcast music: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/ryan-cristopher/1479898729  Road Map for Revolutionaries by me, Carolyn Gerin and Jamia Wilson:  https://elisacp.com/books  Social media handles: TikTok: @ElisaCP Mastodon: elisa@sfba.social Spoutible: @ElisaCP Twitter: @ElisaC Insta: @ElisaCP Please share, subscribe, rate and review!

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Alamo and Bexar County Longterm Care Ombudsman Program invites volunteers to become certified volunteer ombudsmen. These volunteers serve as a voice for residents in local nursing homes and assisted living communities. An eight-week training begins Monday, April 24; training is free! Applications are due by Friday, April 14. For information or to apply, contact Heather Armstrong at harmstrong@aacog.com or 210-362- 5209. Please include your zip code.Article Link

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SHR # 2951:: Fiber is Good for You, Except When it's Not - Dr. Heather Armstrong, MSc, PhD - Dr. Eytan Wine, MD, PhD, FCRPC - People who suffer from inflammatory bowel disease may soon have access to personalized dietary guidelines to keep them feeling well, thanks to new research on how dietary fiber affects the disease. The research team discovered that certain types of dietary fiber cause an inflammatory response in some patients, causing symptoms to worsen. They are now working to develop a stool test to examine the microbes found in each patient's gut in order to predict who will have the negative response, so they can tailor dietary recommendations and treatment for individual patients. - CARL RECOMMENDS: superhumanradio.net/carl-recommends - - View and download all shows at https://superhumanradio.net - Visit us on Instagram: @superhumanradio - Support SHR - https://superhumanradio.net/make-a-donation

"Fall" novelist Neal Stephenson on the digital afterlife. Also, DJ Ankur Malhotra is trying to preserve Indian folk music one vinyl press at a time, and blogger Heather Armstrong shares the lengths she went to battle depression. Plus, a look at how the funeral industry is breathing new life into memorials.

November 14, 2021 | Sunday Morning Service | Text: Psalm 77

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We talk with Ben and Heather Armstrong about what leads to an affair, redemption and wholeness after and why the wedding night and antibiotics don’t mix. 

Help to improve the quality of life and care for residents in a nursing home or assisted living by becoming a Certified Volunteer Ombudsman (advocate). The Alamo and Bexar Long-Term Care Ombudsman Program will offer a free eight-week training program starting May 13. The training will be held virtually every Monday and Thursday evening, and will provide the tools and ongoing support you need to advocate for resident rights. Interested participants must register by contacting Heather Armstrong at 210-362-5209 or harmstrong@aacog.com. For information, find them on Facebook at www.facebook.com/alamoaaaombudsman.Article Link

In the gauntlet of life lessons we call middle school, there's nothing quite as memorable (or regrettable) as first love, as is the case in Heather Armstrong's story from the archives of TPR's live storytelling event, Worth Repeating. Following Heather's story in this episode of the podcast are three other stories from the archive.

Heather Armstrong, Owner and Career Change Consultant at Career Design Associates, joins VIP's Casey Hasten in a discussion about the challenges of making a career change. We discuss career fulfillment and how you can find and pursue a career you are truly passionate about. We also discuss strategies for making a career change, ensuring you utilize your transferable knowledge to market yourself as an asset to any team. About The We Are VIP Podcast:This podcast is brought to you by VIP to add value to your job or candidate search. Each week, we'll bring you helpful tips and insights from leading professionals to help candidates land their dream jobs and help employers find better talent. Hosted by:Casey Hasten, Director of Recruiting at VIPAbout VIP:We utilize a holistic approach to support your strategic initiatives in accounting and finance. From recruiting and strategic staffing, to project management consulting, our service model offers a comprehensive solution that allows for flexibility as you navigate transformation and growth within your organization.Connect:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/270216/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WeAreVIPCompanyJob Openings and Services: https://wearevip.com

Learn about a mother’s journey in curing her depression by going to the extreme and dying ten times. A mother who would do anything and go to extreme lengths to save her own life, even if that meant dying ten times. A mother who would go to the extreme to feel joy again in her life. This is the story of Heather Anderson as she experiences radical treatment for her depression, which involves nearly dying to live again. Heather was put into a medically-induced coma ten times over the course of a few weeks, and she details her experience in this memoir about her journey and struggles to overcome mental illness. *** Do you want more free audiobook summaries like this? Download our app for free at QuickRead.com/App and get access to hundreds of free book and audiobook summaries.

"Tough times never last, but tough people do."—Robert H. Schuller In this episode, Matt and Des Gonzales have a conversation with their good friends Ben and Heather Armstrong from Bethel Church in Redding, Ca. Ben is the prophetic ministry director and Heather is a professional photographer. Together they co-lead Bethel Cascade campus. Listen in as they share their powerful journey of life, ministry, and how they dealt with the spirit of competition that tries to affect a couple's ability to co-lead effectively. You will also hear powerful key principles of how to lead during these difficult times.   LINKS: bethelpropehtic.com Instagram: @thebenarmstrong, @heatherarmstrongphotography, @bethel.prophetic   Quick Episode Summary: Meet Ben and Heather The personal touch The nurturing side of the prophetic The prophetic looks different from person to person The prophetic is creative in nature The competition in marriage Changing the equation of a healthy marriage God loves to speak our language  Why are mothers and fathers both necessary in a prophetic culture? Preparation for co-leading A word for the season. Philippians 4:8, Isaiah 26:3 Dealing with the spiritual side yard

We have a rather special guest on the podcast this week. She is one of the luminaries that helped forge the idea of posting an online diary or journal into the collective consciousness. If you were reading and writing blog posts in the mid 2000s, you might have followed any of a number of online journals - among them Dooce, written by Heather Armstrong, Belle du Jour, written by Brooke Magnanti, and Petite Angaise, written by a british girl living in Paris called Catherine Sanderson. This week we find out the story of how "Petite Anglaise" came to be, what happens when a blog becomes famous, how you go about turning a blog into a book, and why we now know Catherine's name.

Want more free audiobooks like this? Download our app for free at QuickRead.com/App and get access to hundreds of free book and audiobook summaries A mother who would do anything and go to extreme lengths to save her own life, even if that meant dying ten times. A mother who would go to the extreme to feel joy again in her life. This is the story of Heather Anderson as she experiences radical treatment for her depression, which involves nearly dying to live again. Heather was put into a medically-induced coma ten times over the course of a few weeks, and she details her experience in this memoir about her journey and struggles to overcome mental illness.

Topic: Is death all love and light when you get to the other side? Maybe so, but if you’re a severely depressed person maybe you don’t actually have to be on the other side to finally experience the happiness you’re missing. We’ll talk to Heather Armstrong, author of “The Valedictorian of Being Dead: The True Story of Dying Ten Times to Live”. If you are severely depressed or know someone in that situation you want to hear this. Website: Dooce.com

This week Anna Merlan (@annamerlan) helps us Ana Marie Cox (@anamariecox) parse America’s increasingly conspiratorial culture. Anna spent eight years covering conspiracy groups and just came out with a book, Republic of Lies: American Conspiracy Theorists and Their Surprising Rise to Power. Join us as we discuss vaccinations, UFOs, spying on Quakers, and finding a path forward. Also, check out our bonus mega-mix of Anna Merlin, Will Sommer, Heather Armstrong, Tommy Orange, Will Sommer again, and Vann Newkirk and their most ridiculous secret beliefs. (We had to end Conspiracy Month in the strangest way possible.) Thanks to our sponsors!  Blinkist is the only app that takes the best key takeaways, the need-to-know information from thousands of nonfiction books and condense them down into just 15 minutes that you can read or listen to. Blinkist has a special offer just for our audience. Go to Blinkist.com/withfriends to start your free 7 day trial. Bombas are made from super-soft, natural cotton, and every pair comes with arch support, a seamless toe, and a cushioned foot-bed that’s comfy but not too thick. With many colors, patterns, lengths, and styles, Buy your Bombas at BOMBAS.com/friends TODAY, and get twenty percent off your first purchase. Everyone wants their home to look and feel great. Luckily, Snowe makes it incredibly simple. They create trend-proof, beautiful, functional, luxurious pieces at an affordable price. Snowe is offering our listeners $30 off your first purchase of $150 or more when you go to SnoweHome.com/FRIENDS The New Yorker represents the best writing in America today. To get a 12 week subscription for just $6 (thats half off!), the New Yorker tote bag, home delivery of the print edition each week, unlimited access to exclusive content on newyorker.com, access to their apps, online archive, crossword puzzles, and more - go to NewYorker.com/FRIENDS We all want to do the right thing to keep our bodies healthy in the long run. It’s only a dollar a day to have all the essential nutrients your body needs, delivered every month — no strings attached. Visit ritual.com/FRIENDSto start your subscription today at 10% off. 

CW: Depression and Suicide. If you or a loved one is struggling with depression or suicidal ideation, please call the National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255. You are worthy of love and you deserve to be alive.   This week Heather Armstrong (@dooce) joins Ana Marie Cox (@anamariecox ) to discuss family, a changing work world-- and also going into several medically induced comas to cure her depression. They begin by unpacking that depression and why going to the extreme to find solutions seemed like the only option. They talk about what contributed to her depression spiral, and how she climbed her way out of it. Finally they talk about how climbing out of the hole changed her familial relationships, sometimes for the better. Tune in for a meaningful discussion on coming back from the brink. Thanks to our sponsors! Blinkist is the only app that takes the best key takeaways, the need-to-know information from thousands of nonfiction books and condenses them down into just 15 minutes so you can read or listen to. Right now, for a limited time Blinkist has a special offer just for our audience. Go to Blinkist.com/withfriends to start your free 7 day trial. ThirdLove uses data points generated by millions of women who have taken their Fit Finder quiz, to design bras with breast size and shape in mind for a perfect fit and premium feel. Go to THIRDLOVE.com/FRIENDS now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase! If you don’t know Jemele Hill, you really should. She’s a sports expert. She’s a political junkie. She’s a social media B.S. detector. And did I mention she’s funny as hell? Now, Jemele has a brand new Spotify Original Podcast called Jemele Hill is Unbothered. Listen now to Jemele Hill is Unbothered, for free, only on Spotify. Everlane only makes premium essentials, using the finest materials, without traditional markups. Right now, you can check out our personalized collection at Everlane.com/FRIENDS If you’ve been listening to this show, you’ve heard me talk about Framebridge. They make it super easy and affordable to frame your favorite things, from art prints and posters to the travel photos sitting on your phone. Go to Framebridge.com and use promo code FRIENDS you’ll save an additional 15% off your first order.

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Lex is off this week but Jon and Moltz talk about what happens when kids Google their names. The first link on Amazon for Moltz is for Moltz's brother's book. The Spanish language version of his Minecraft book is 12th. Heather Armstrong had two articles on Slate about blogging about their kids. Needless to say, both of these nerds are excited about Captain Marvel. Disney is doing some cool animatronics in their new Star Wars - Galaxy's Edge world. Hank is a fan of seasons 3 and 4 of Legends of Tomorrow when it actually gets good. Our thanks to Candlewick Press, publishers of CIRCLE, the final book in the bestselling trilogy by New York Times bestselling duo Mac Barnett & Jon Klassen. CIRCLE continues the story of three geometric friends who like to play sneaky tricks on one another. CIRCLE is available wherever books are sold. Go to candlewick.com for 25% off your order. And our thanks to Amaze jr., providing parents with honest, comprehensive, age-appropriate sex ed videos to watch with their 4-9 year olds. Amaze jr. helps you navigate those tricky conversations about growing up like a true sex ed expert! For more answers to little kids’ BIG questions, go to amaze.org/jr/THISCAR. Follow us: @ttcashow. Lex Friedman can be found @lexfri, John Moltz can be found at @moltz and Jon Armstrong is @blurb.

Heather Armstrong is the blog founder, writer, also known as "Dooce". In this episode, we speak with Heather about her journey of being one of the most prolific mommy bloggers, influencer marketing, and how she's growing her business these days.   Support the show.

You never know who you're going to get into a Lyft with at a conference. Lucky for me, it was Gabrielle Blair from the blog, Design Mom, and founder of the Alt Summit Conference. Listening to her, I learned so much about how to be a super successful creative entrepreneur. Gabby was one of the first design-focused bloggers, and she paired that with being a mother to six kids. In our conversation, we talk about how she started her blog and grew it, how she and her family started the Alt Summit Conference for other creative entrepreneurs. We even go deep and talk about Gabby's battle with depression, how so much of what we both do as bloggers isn't exactly "real," and how we both deal with comparing ourselves to others. Gabby is such a down-to-earth, honest, kind person, you will love our wide-ranging conversation! Resources: Design Mom Alt Summit Darlybird Dooce Apartment Therapy Design Sponge Oh Happy Day Say Yes Freshly Picked Solly Baby Tubby Todd Emily Henderson Kinfolk Books MiloTree Transcript: How to Be a Super Successful Creative Entrepreneur with Gabrielle Blair Host: [00:00:03] Welcome to The Blogger Genius Podcast brought to you by MiloTree. Here's your host, Jillian Leslie. Jillian: [00:00:10] Hey everyone. Welcome back to the show today. I am excited to bring on my friend, Gabrielle Blair. Now Gabrielle and I really we just met in a Lyft on the way back from the airport to the Mom 2.0 Conference Jillian: [00:00:30] But I have known you from afar. You are the brains and the creativity behind both Design Mom, which is a blog that you've had since you started in 2006. Gabrielle: [00:00:44] Yes. Jillian: [00:00:44] And you're also the founder of a conference that I've been dying to go to called Alt Summit, which is a conference for creative entrepreneurs and influencers and you have such a beautiful blog. So Gabrielle, welcome to the show. Gabrielle: [00:01:00] I am so glad to be here. Thank you for the invitation. Jillian: [00:01:03] And it was so serendipitous that we were waiting in line and you said screw this, we're taking a Lyft, and we got in the Lyft with a random group of people and you paid for the Lyft, which was so generous. And I said to you, would you be on my podcast? Gabrielle: [00:01:18] And I said yes. Jillian: [00:01:19] And you said yes. So will you, because I don't know your story. I've known you. But I don't know your story so you tell me from the beginning, how you started this and one other thing we have to talk about in this is that you have six children. Gabrielle: [00:01:34] This is true. I have six kids, but they're not all toddlers anymore. So whatever you're picturing, it's probably not what you're thinking. Gabrielle: [00:01:44] I'm happy to share my story. You bet. So Design Mom was started in 2006. This is 12 years ago this month, July and I had just had Baby Number Five two months before, and I worked and lived in New York. Gabrielle: [00:02:02] I worked in the city as an art director at an advertising agency. And I loved my job, but after babies, once we were getting so many kids at home, I knew I needed a break where I could do sort of like an extended maternity leave, where I can maybe work at home, do some freelance that kind of thing. Gabrielle: [00:02:19] And I also knew by this time having had lots of babies that I go crazy if I don't have something creative to do after the baby's born. It's just sort of classic postpartum depression, you know you get overwhelmed. And if I had something to engage my brain that was creative and exciting, I could avoid some of that. Dealing with depression as a blogger Gabrielle: [00:02:37] Which is great. And I'm very open about having dealt with depression and dealing with depression daily, so you can read about that on Design Mom if you ever want to. But we won't talk about that right now. Gabrielle: [00:02:52] So blogs were around, but were still pretty new and most of the blogs I read were essay blogs and I really loved them. But I attempted to write an essay on a blog post once, and just went, Oh yeah I'm not good at this. Gabrielle: [00:03:06] This is not, you know, I had barely done any writing at that point in my life, and was really just a designer. That was where my focus was, on graphic design and art direction. Early design blogs Gabrielle: [00:03:15] But then I found Design Sponge and Oh Joy. And they were both design blogs that are still around, but they were very new. And you'll remember this is before any kind of social media, it was just blogs. And so a blog post might be what would be like a pin now, where it would be cute shoes. I love the cat pattern or you know what I mean. Like just something so simple. And that would be a blog post on a design blog. [00:03:41] Like a product image and a statement or it could be so short and you might do this multiple times a day. Because again it's like an Instagram or a pin or or a status update. Gabrielle: [00:03:54] So I saw that and went, Oh well that I can probably handle, it's very visual, very minimal writing and I can fit that in if I'm in the middle of a night nursing the baby or whatever. I just have a few minutes it doesn't have to be like an intensive eight hour block of work time. So I called it Design Mom. Gabrielle: [00:04:17] And at the time again I'm in New York, and I was 31, and here I just had my fifth baby. But most of my peers were just getting married or having their first baby. Jillian: [00:04:29] Wow. How old were you when you had your first baby? Gabrielle: [00:04:32] I was 23. Jillian: [00:04:33] Wow. Being an early pro at motherhood Gabrielle: [00:04:34] So for my peers in New York, as they're just having their first one like I am a total pro. Right? You know, they're having their first and I just had number five so they're asking me for advice as a mom, but also you know, it's New York you want to be a cool mom. So they're asking me like where did you find cute cute toddler shoes? And do you throw a first birthday party? Who's invited? The kid doesn't really have friends yet. Gabrielle: [00:05:00] Anyway that just stuff like that. I'm getting asked advice or do you use a sling or do you you know, use a carrier pack and which brand and what was the best looking option. What about diaper bags and just everything you know maternity clothes all of it. Gabrielle: [00:05:13] So I was getting asked questions by friends, my neighbors, my co-workers, naturally and I thought well I could cover that on a blog and talk about parenting but kind of through this design lens. Design Mom and the tagline from the beginning was the intersection of design and motherhood. Gabrielle: [00:05:31] And this is what I'm going to cover and that's what I did. That's what I've covered it was just ideas I had, or again I'd find some great deal on something or a new product that was cool or whatever it might be, and talk about it. And I would post three times a day and that was the average sometimes more and it took off. So this was even before Google Analytics this is I mean 2006 was a whole different world. Jillian: [00:05:57] And this was the time where, tell me if this is how you did it, but you would have your favorite blogs and you check them every day. Gabrielle: [00:06:04] Oh yeah. Because again, no social media. This was amazing. So I didn't have Google Analytics but there was a product called Track-See, a little software that you could put on your blog and it would count how many followers or who was coming. Gabrielle: [00:06:21] It was revelatory for me because my blog post might get five or six comments. Usually people I knew in real life, neighbors or co-workers or family members. But I put Track See on and I could see,oh there are a hundred and fifty people that came to my blog today and I don't know any of them, you know you would just have their IP address. And maybe their city and I would go, whoa what in the world. I was just amazing. Gabrielle: [00:06:49] So so it was trying to figure out, well how can I get them to speak out more and you know like how could I get them to sort of acknowledge their presence. How do I do that you know? Because I think it's amazing that these many people are reading. It just blew my mind. Of course now I have much bigger traffic. But at the time that was a big deal to see that there were over 100 people reading. The first blog giveaway started with Design Mom Gabrielle: [00:07:12] So I said, well what if I did giveaway and I've been credited for inventing the first blog giveaway. I don't know if you can even track that down. But I thought I need to give them an excuse to comment. So what if there's a prize and you can say anything you want and you just have a comment to win? Gabrielle: [00:07:31] So my one of my husband's friends from high school, I knew she had started a cool little shop called Darlybird. And I reached out to her and said, Hey would you be up for offering a prize and it will be comment to win and it's just this idea I have, and then you know you'll ship the prize to the winner and we'll just randomly pick someone you know pick a number kind of thing and let's just try it. Gabrielle: [00:07:57] And she's like, sure. How about a pair of earrings and a bracelet, or you know she came up with a prize. So I did it and I had the instructions that said OK we're going to try something new. Comment. You can say anything you want, I even gave sample comments so you know to help them out. Jillian: [00:08:15] Wow. Gabrielle: [00:08:16] Like, Wow this is cute. Or you can say, Neato! or I want to win! You know you're basically just really simple because I knew there was a few barriers for that. You know, people weren't used to commenting that wasn't a thing. And then there was a little captcha. And that the first time you see it you're like What is this?  You know that feels like an extra hurdle. Gabrielle: [00:08:35] And then of course it's intimidating to know you your words are just out there and your name might be associated with them, so I let them know. Oh you can. You can leave anonymous comment. You just need to have a real email address so I could contact you. But no one can see your email address. Gabrielle: [00:08:48] I'm kind of training them right. Teaching them how honesty works. And it was amazing so not all 100 plus readers commented but like 70 did. Jillian: [00:08:59] Wow. Gabrielle: [00:09:00] And I'm getting calls from all these people in real life that read my blog, you know neighbors are going. Who are these people? Where do they come from? Because of course they hadn't seen the stats from that. Jillian: [00:09:14] So they said this was just like a personal blog. Jillian: [00:09:17] Right. So they just thought OK so they're reading and the couple you know the few people commenting or reading, my sister's friends from church, friends in the neighborhood, you know things like that. Gabrielle: [00:09:28] And so they could not have been more shocked and I wasn't shocked because I knew I had seen the stats, but I still was shocked in that I didn't think 70 would, I thought I would maybe get 20 or something like that. Gabrielle: [00:09:40] So it was very exciting and immediately like the same day I got emails from must have been 10 or 15 different bloggers saying hey can I copy this? Can I copy and paste instructions? Can I do this because it was so effective. It's great way to sort of train people how to comment on a blog. Gabrielle: [00:09:59] And then of course it took off, and now it's just ubiquitous and of course are sort of obnoxious at this point. But it was a big deal at the time and I remember also having to explain to people. Every time there's a giveaway does that mean I get the prize. It goes directly to you, I usually don't even see it in person. Gabrielle: [00:10:20] Because they are already troubled with the idea that like I'm getting spoiled somehow by these I don't know. Anyway it was interesting. It's so intimate so personal, they don't like the idea that someone's making money from blogging at the time. Jillian: [00:10:38] Then how did you start monetizing online? Design Mom starting to monetize her blog Gabrielle: [00:10:41] OK so once I could see that there was traffic, once this giveaway thing took off. I was like, oh there's something here. No one was really monetizing their blog outside of display ads. I remember Heather Armstrong, Dooce had display ads and that was really kind of how you did it that, was it. Gabrielle: [00:11:01] And so but I felt like there was something there and I didn't have like an ad network to do to do display ads although within the next couple of years I got one but at first I just didn't even know how that worked or or how to how to go about that. Gabrielle: [00:11:15] So I started doing sponsorships right away just for trades. So one of the earliest ones I did is we were moving from New York, and we're moving to Colorado. And I approached I pitched moving companies. Moving moving across country is a big thing. Gabrielle: [00:11:35] And I approached moving companies and said I'm going to take these pictures on this blog post, you know gave them examples, showed them that some of that sample giveaways and just other stats I had at the time and said do you want to do a trade? Gabrielle: [00:11:50] I'll write about you, showcase the whole thing will do X number of blog posts. You know when we arrived, the unpacking all of this stuff make sure we're showing your trucks and let's trade. And Mayflowers said yes. So which was great because it is very very visual trucks so it worked really well. The green and yellow and they're really distinctive and for photography and stuff it was wonderful. Gabrielle: [00:12:18] This is pre-social media too. So blog content is really what the sponsor's getting. Then once I had that once I had built some of those trades I could actually start asking for money instead of trade. Gabrielle: [00:14:45] Trades are great, especially if you need it, but they don't buy groceries unless you're writing for grocery stores. I still I mean, I'm 12 years in, I'm established, I do this full time. I have plenty of paid sponsorships but I will still approach companies for a trade. If it's something that I need and I can get a great value out of that I'm totally fine with that. Jillian: [00:15:08] So give me an example of a trade that you recently did. How to approach brands about a trade as a blogger Gabrielle: [00:15:14] Sure, so I'm working on one right now for my boys' bedroom. My oldest son is getting home from two years abroad in Colombia. We haven't seen him for two years. He's been on a mission and he's getting home. Gabrielle: [00:15:27] We're redoing the boys' bedroom because while he's been gone it's been sort of half guestroom. It's just been in transition. So we're going OK he's getting home, he's older now. He probably won't even live in this room very long, but I want him to have a space when he gets home that feels like his own. You know just feel like he's got a spot. Gabrielle: [00:15:45] So I approached Room and Board, who I've worked with before and said, "Hey how about how about the social media package and blog package?" And I basically will price out OK I'm going to give you X number of post and X number of Facebook and X number of Instagram and I value that X number of dollars and then they'll trade for that amount of credit. Gabrielle: [00:16:08] And then I can use that to buy furniture and if I still have credit left over I could use it to buy additional product although usually I max it out. You know for the room, and it really gets decked out and have a good time. Jillian: [00:16:19] Got it. Gabrielle: [00:16:21] So that works great for me. I know I'm going to need to spend that money. It's great content. I know I can't buy groceries with it but that's fine. I can do other sponsorships for grocery money. Jillian: [00:16:32] So how often are you doing sponsored posts now? Gabrielle: [00:16:37] Oh it all depends. I feel like I aim for two to three a month right now seems to be a good amount. Jillian: [00:16:44] OK. And do you use a team of people to help you? Or are you the one taking the photographs? Hiring people to help with sponsored blog posts Gabrielle: [00:16:55] Yes and no. So I have had big teams in the past. I've had big teams of contributors and now I'm pretty barebones right now because I've shifted a lot of energy to Alt Summit. Gabrielle: [00:17:08] But basically what I have is I hire photographers, like I have a shoot for Room and Board tomorrow in store and I'll hire a photographer for that. Gabrielle: [00:17:16] So I have several local photographers here in the Bay Area that I know I can reach out to for basically a half day shoot, you know, come for two or three hours maybe up to four to shoot something at my house, or somewhere else other things I'd totally shoot myself. Gabrielle: [00:17:30] Often I'll shoot a shot recently for Stonyfield, my own kids. I'll shoot books myself. I shoot lots myself because I do things so last minute and that's just a function of a full life. I'm not trying to be a jerk about it, but it's just a function of how full my life is right now. Gabrielle: [00:17:51] It's hard to hire out somethings like there are definitely posts where I think, Oh I definitely should have hired someone to do this and I didn't do it in time and now I've got to do it. You know what I mean. I didn't. Because where I can do something the day of or the night before, I can't really ask that of someone I'm hiring. Gabrielle: [00:18:09] So I do have a great food contributor Lindsay Rose Johnson. She's been with me for years and years and years. If I do have a food post and I give her enough time she's amazing it's not like she needs months, but I don't want to ask her the day of. So she's amazing. Gabrielle: [00:18:25] If I have a craft project Amy Christie is a longtime contributor for me, and she's great at shooting. If I have an idea for a DIY but I don't have time to execute it myself, she's fantastic. Gabrielle: [00:18:36] What I'm trying to do I put out a call for an editor. I got amazing applications and then haven't actually had time to hire someone. Gabrielle: [00:18:47] My hope is that I will hire someone that can really help maintain daily content where I can check in with like when I have like a longer form post that I really want to discuss. Gabrielle: [00:19:03] Because Design Mom has transformed. Now it's almost all long form, it's one post a day. You know that kind of thing. But there are some things where it would be no problem to get a contributor. Gabrielle: [00:19:13] Like if I'm doing a shopping post or it might be a roundup of things I've found online that other articles that kind of thing where I really could get help. And then when it's something where it needs to be my voice like we're discussing a social issue or a parenting issue that I can really get in and write that. Gabrielle: [00:19:32] So I'm hoping to build my team up again in a way that I can keep Design Mom vibrant but also concentrate a lot of time on Alt Summit. Jillian: [00:19:41] So I have to stop you. You do one long form blog post a day? Gabrielle: [00:19:51] That's a little bit of an exaggeration. So, long form compared to when I used to do three posts a day? Yes. Because my three posts a day were you know two or three paragraphs and a photo. Or it might even be one paragraph and a photo. Gabrielle: [00:20:07] And now, a longer form might be it's 1,000 words or 3000 words and tons of photos or only one photo and a long essay. They are definitely longer form. If I can do one of those a week that's terrific. Gabrielle: [00:20:21] A Home Tour I usually do on Tuesdays and I do have a man named Josh Bingham. He's been editor of those for a while and it's been great. So he can help with that. And really what he does is you know compile it and put it online so then I can edit it from there you know. Jillian: [00:20:40] Wow. Yeah I mean I was on your blog today looking at your content and I didn't realize that you were posting every day! Getting comfortable writing as a blogger Gabrielle: [00:20:48] Yeah. And then I don't know if we count a shopping post, like I get pretty verbose at this point I'm like where I went from not being able to write an essay when I started in 2006. I mean I have a bestselling book now. I write a ton. Gabrielle: [00:21:02] So writing, I'm not very fast in it but I am comfortable writing now. I did one on a recent blog post is on four picture books. It's pretty minimal writing. So I just took more time to do the photos and the writing. Gabrielle: [00:21:20] And then my Friday links. I don't know that we call that long form, they do take a ton of research it's basically me collecting links throughout the week that I think are compelling that I want to share with readers and I'll do some introductory. Jillian: [00:21:35] We have to discuss this. What does your work schedule look like? Especially how many kids do you have at home? Because I know a couple of them are grown, too. Gabrielle: [00:21:45] Well this summer I have five at home. So yes my oldest is on this mission in Columbia as I mentioned. My second just spent her freshman year at Berkeley, which is just across town so she was in the dorms but not too far and she's been home for the summer. Gabrielle: [00:22:01] She's working full time so I don't see a ton of her right now but she is around. So really it's just the four, a high schooler two middle schoolers and a third grader. Jillian: [00:22:14] OK. So could you explain what your life looks like. What life looks like as a blogger with six kids Gabrielle: [00:22:19] Sure. I mean it's pretty crazy but I want to start with, my husband and I both came from big families where both of us are one of eight. Jillian: [00:22:30] OK. Gabrielle: [00:22:31] Number 5 in line and number 7 in line in his in his family, so we were used to an element of chaos. It just was normal to us and we knew we wanted a big family. Gabrielle: [00:22:40] So for sure our days would be too chaotic for a lot of people, which I totally understand and I'm not advocating that anyone else needs to do this but but it's also kind of normal for us. Gabrielle: [00:22:51] So a day that might stress someone else out, might seem like pretty normal at our house. Gabrielle: [00:22:58] So in the summer it's going to be different than the school year obviously. Last week was pretty crazy. Three of the girls were doing this skateboarding camp and then they went directly to swim team and then they had play rehearsal. Gabrielle: [00:23:14] But the play ended this week is going to be much more casual we have it's a much easier week but the kids are all old enough now they really can take care of themselves. They need rides but they don't need babysitters. Gabrielle: [00:23:28] So they can get up. They can work on an activity. They might climb our trees, we have these pretty epic trees where you have to put on climbing gear. Gabrielle: [00:23:39] They might bake, they really love baking. They might put on a play or make a movie someday if they're in the mood to be creative, or they might try and sneak in as much screen time as they can and just watch YouTube videos. Gabrielle: [00:23:52] You know typical summer day stuff they I don't really have to like take time to feed them lunch you know. Dinner yes, we'll all gather for dinner. But they can kind of take care of themselves. Jillian: [00:24:03] But are you working? Are you working between carpool? Or are you saying guys, I am working. Gabrielle: [00:24:09] Well my husband and I both work at home. Jillian: [00:24:13] OK. Is he your partner? Does he do Alt Summit stuff? Gabrielle: [00:24:16] He is not. He is part of a startup called Teacher.co and he is super busy in that and they're about to do an ICO. And he has a jam packed schedule. Gabrielle: [00:24:29] Over the years he has, you know, like we had a series of videos called All Of Us. That we did for scripts. We did like 40 episodes and he was a producer for those so he has worked with me before but really he has his own things. Which is awesome. He's does amazing stuff. Jillian: [00:24:45] Ok but do you like kick your kids out and go guys go to work? Gabrielle: [00:24:48] Yeah, totally so the kids know, I'm sitting with my laptop I've got to get worked on and they know that. But my workday gets interrupted a lot to drive. They're going to get picked up. Oh we got to do these errands. Gabrielle: [00:25:01] So my workday never really looks like I start working at 9:00 I end up 5 with a lunch break. That's not a thing. It's going to be I'm going to work from 8 to 10. But then I know we have to go run these two errands and then from 11 I have a phone call and then you know at 1:00 o'clock I'll get two more hours on the computer. Gabrielle: [00:25:20] But then after that, I've got something with the kids or something and then you know at 7:00, I can work again for a few more hours. Yeah I mean it might look like that. Jillian: [00:25:28] Wow. Gabrielle: [00:25:29] So I have my list of things I need to get done. I usually make that you know I'll update that in the morning. I'll find out my priorities at the top, the things that have to get done that day right. Gabrielle: [00:25:44] Those go at the top and then I tackle as much as I can. But I have to build a lot of flexibility in my days because it's real life going on, so yes you work hours but you also got to get the kids to the ortho appointment. Jillian: [00:25:56] Totally! And then there's food poisoning that takes the whole house. Gabrielle: [00:26:03] Right and then we're just out of groceries and we just have to go to the store. And there are tools I know out there, we just had a package from Amazon Prime Pantry. Have you ever tried that? Jillian: [00:26:17] Yes. Gabrielle: [00:26:17] You know that was delivered yesterday so there are some things I can do to try to use these services and I'm sure I could be better at that especially here in the Bay Area where all these startups began. So you can kind of access them before they even expand it to the rest of the country. Gabrielle: [00:26:32] But really, I feel like we do a lot of this just we don't use tools that we just go, OK we just go to the grocery store. What is the Alt Summit Conference? Jillian: [00:26:41] So can we talk about Alt Summit? Which is a conference that I have always wanted to go to. It seems like it is just so beautiful and cool. Gabrielle: [00:26:53] It is. Jillian: [00:26:54] And so you started this. So you said to yourself I'm going to start a conference? Gabrielle: [00:27:00] Well pretty much. So basically what happened was again, it's early blogging we were in 2009. So I've been blogging for a few years. My sister is a blogger. Her name is Jordan Ferney. Her blog is Oh Happy Day. Jillian: [00:27:14] Oh I love her. Gabrielle: [00:27:15] Yes, she's amazing. And my sister-in-law, married to my brother Jared, is also a blogger from Say Yes, Liz Stanley. So we had this blogger family and we were all on a family trip, and we were again since 2009. I guess it actually would have been 2008 because the first conference happened in January of 2009. Gabrielle: [00:27:36] So in 2008 we were talking and talking about conferences, and I started to go to a couple I've been to BlogHer and then helped start Mom 2.0 that first year, although I'm not an organizer now but just helped out that first year. Gabrielle: [00:27:53] Laura Maiz who is one of the key organizers, she also owns a part of Alt Summit, she is a longtime business partner of mine. So anyway that's the connection there. Gabrielle: [00:28:02] But I'm talking with my siblings we're all talking about these conferences, and I said well I've been to these conferences. It's awesome but they're really focused on writers or maybe kind of moms. Gabrielle: [00:28:14] A lot of the design blogs I was reading like Apartment Therapy or as I mentioned Design Sponge, Oh Joy. All these blogs I was reading in 2006 you know they're not at these conferences. The design blogs are not there and they're not really geared to design blogs. Gabrielle: [00:28:30] And so and like Jordan, who didn't have kids at the time, and Liz, who didn't have kids at the time, why would they have gone to Mom 2.0 Summit. And even BlogHer, they didn't really know any of those bloggers. It wasn't quite the right fit for them. Gabrielle: [00:28:44] So we were saying well, what if we did a conference for the blogs we read. You know these design blogs because I overlap both worlds with the name Design Mom I get to be a mom blogger and design blogger. Gabrielle: [00:28:56] But they were just strictly in the design blogging thing and this is before we were really even saying lifestyle blogs. So my sister Sarah who is not a blogger, but is awesome at organizing things said, yeah let's do a conference. I can be the event or the event planner or the organizer. And you guys can handle the speakers and content. Gabrielle: [00:29:19] Liz and Jordan didn't necessarily want to be involved in that, but I totally did. So Sarah and I really started this conference where I handled all the content, the speakers the programming. And she did the planning and it was and great. It was awesome. Jillian: [00:29:36] The thing about the conference is it's so true. They sell out immediately. Gabrielle: [00:29:41] They really do. It's like a two hour thing. Although I have to tell you this year we expanded for the first time in a big way. We've always kept these very small and it's kind of been obnoxious. Gabrielle: [00:29:54] I mean it's awesome to sell out, but then we get just these you know sob stories that people they really want to get there, and they didn't happen to be available in that two hour mark. They were in a meeting or whatever the tickets are gone. Gabrielle: [00:30:04] And we knew it was a problem and we'd try and open more. You know it was it was just a struggle. So we're really excited because I think I've solved that. I mean we'll see. We'll see how this year goes. Gabrielle: [00:30:17] But I had this flash of insight at some point as we were looking at locations and saying are we going to stay in Palm Springs, is time to move? Gabrielle: [00:30:27] And all the really cool hotels in Palm Springs the ones that I really love, The Park at Palm Springs and the Ace Hotel and Saguaro, they're amazing and they're memorable and you just love being there. Jillian: [00:30:38] Yes. Gabrielle: [00:30:39] They're not really big enough for a conference Jillian: [00:30:42] No. Gabrielle: [00:30:42] In fact Alt Summit was at the Saguaro the last two years. And we knew we were too big, and as we do surveys basically people would say, you guys this was awesome but this hotel is not big enough. Gabrielle: [00:30:52] I mean like we know but if we move to another hotel. It's just they become so generic so fast. Jillian: [00:30:58] Yeah. Gabrielle: [00:30:59] So you're at a Ritz Carlton or a fancy Hilton or whatever, it's just a big hotel with you know regular ballroom spaces they are split into classrooms. And then you compare those to these special properties in Palm Springs. Jillian: [00:31:13] And by the way we just have to say for people who don't know. Palm Springs is like a mid century fantasy like it is a designer's dream place. I mean my husband and I just drive around and look at the architecture. Yes. So I understand why you do it in Palm Springs. Gabrielle: [00:31:33] And we've all you know we did it had a big fancy hotel in Salt Lake for many years. We loved it. It was gorgeous. You know a five star hotel. Amazing. It's not like we're opposed to that, but we know having done it at these more distinctive spaces that it makes a big difference. Gabrielle: [00:31:47] And our social shares when we move to the Saguaro which is this Rainbow Hotel, our social shares went up by 30 percent. Well because it's basically the most Instagramable spot on the planet right now. Gabrielle: [00:32:00] And anyway so I was trying to figure out what to do because if we wanted to get a hotel, as I said it's really hard to find a hotel that has big meeting spaces but that is still really special and that doesn't feel sort of run of the mill. Gabrielle: [00:32:13] And we could transfer to something like, oh let's have like more of a warehouse feel on a pier or something. Jillian: [00:32:19] Right. Gabrielle: [00:32:19] But then it's not a one day conference, it's a month at a conference and people want to congregate at a hotel where they can hang out. So we know this and we were really stuck on where to have this. Gabrielle: [00:32:33] And then I thought well what if it was at all the coolest hotels in Palm Springs. None of them have a big enough room for you for everybody. But what if there was enough classes going on simultaneously at different locations where there's enough room for more people. But we still have this small feel, small classes and these really cool spaces. [00:32:57] So I'm really excited. We've expanded. We're going to have three times as many people, we're going to have 2,000 people there. We'll have four locations. And then because of these multiple locations, we looked to South by Southwest. And I've been to South by Southwest multiple times. And I look to see kind of learn what I could from them. Gabrielle: [00:33:19] Part of what they do is they actually do a nine day program. Ours will only be six. But the point is that you have more time to move around these locations and to fill your schedule instead of just like pack into classes and kind of get overwhelmed and and not feel like you got to do everything you want to do. Gabrielle: [00:33:36] We could spread this out and give people more time. Because that's some of the feedback we've gotten. They love the content but they want to see every class and they can't because they're you know several going on at the same time and even when we've repeated and we have tried things like that they just want more. Gabrielle: [00:33:55] And so we're hoping this provides that we know six days is a long time, and we know that some people will only come for part of it which of course is no problem. And they'll it'll be worth their while however long they can come. But we're really excited about this. Gabrielle: [00:34:09] And we did contract with one very big space where we can do like massive keynotes or things like that but otherwise everyone will get to go to whatever class they want to at whatever location, and we'll have shuttles going. We're hoping to do some kind of like electric scooters and let people get to know the city as they drive around and get access to all the cool spots in town. Jillian: [00:34:40] What month is it? Is it in February? When do you do it Gabrielle: [00:34:43] Well it's actually March. So it's been in January for now eight years. Jillian: [00:34:51] OK. Gabrielle: [00:34:52] Well sorry, seven years than two years in February, and this year we're moving to March simply for logistics. It was the week that all of the properties we wanted were available the same time. What type of blogger is Alt Summit best for? Jillian: [00:35:03] Got it. And by the way there'll be a link in the show notes if you want to check it out. And if you were to say who the perfect person or different types of people who would get the most out of the summit, who are these people? Gabrielle: [00:35:18] So these are typically women it tends to be about ninety five percent women. So it's women. And these are people that are drawn to creative careers. Gabrielle: [00:35:28] Originally it was aimed at bloggers. But again as social media has changed, it really expanded. So all of a sudden Etsy shop owners wanted to come and and they were welcome, we did content for them and then people who are making their careers on Instagram or Pinterest, you know they were there in fact Pinterest. The the Web site launched at Alt Summit. Jillian: [00:35:48] I knew that! Yes. Ben Silbermann talked. Pinterest was launched at Alt Summit Gabrielle: [00:35:51] Yes. Well and I can tell you a segue just a brief thing about Ben. First he came just as an attendee. Jillian: [00:35:59] Yes. Gabrielle: [00:35:59] One of our early years and he was just kind of, you know, he's not like a crazy loud guy, he's just really nice. You know seems kind of like an introvert you know and he would just be approaching people quietly and say hey, I have this thing. Check it out. And it was very visual obviously it's Pinterest and so Alt Summit was all these visual bloggers. Jillian: [00:36:22] Right. Gabrielle: [00:36:23] And and so they would try it out and loved it because it is such a useful tool if you're a visual person and you know the idea of being able to have a pinboard, with all the things you love is so right up any visual person's alley. And so people loved it. Gabrielle: [00:36:37] And the next year he came back he was on a panel, and then the next year he was the keynote because Pinterest had exploded. Jillian: [00:36:46] OK so if you are in design or if you are an influencer or if you are an Etsy shop owner. Gabrielle: [00:36:55] Right. So I want to say creative entrepreneurs. So if you are trying to run a business and you tend to the visual or creative. So like some really beautiful baby product companies have come. Gabrielle: [00:37:10] I'm thinking of like Freshly Picked, they do moccasins and diaper bags and things like that. You know she came to Alt Summit many many years, learned her social media here learned a lot of her business skills there and has built a massive company. And I certainly can't credit all them for that. but that the type of person that comes. Gabrielle: [00:37:27] Solly Baby who does wraps as well as Tubby Todd. All these women come to Alt Summit. Those are baby products but I'm just saying they all require lots of visuals, they're all required a lot of creativity. They're going for like beautiful lifestyle kind of things. That's a great fit. Gabrielle: [00:37:43] Jessica Alba came when she was just launching Honest Company. It was such a great fit. And any of the cleaning companies that are really cool and visual if you think of Method or Mrs. Meyers they love to come to Alt Summit. You know it's this very design appreciative crowd. Alt Summit is for creative entrepreneurs Gabrielle: [00:38:01] So you might not be a designer yourself, but if you're like, yeah, but I love reading Emily Henderson's blog or I love reading Apartment Therapy, or whatever it might be, You're going to love this. Gabrielle: [00:38:13] It's people building their businesses but they're trying to build a creative business. So that means we're talking about how do you do photography and we have modeling classes. A lot of these people have to be in photos right you know. So it's and then you know how do you present yourself so there might be fashion. How do you do your makeup. Gabrielle: [00:38:30] All of this stuff ends up overlapping with creative entrepreneurs especially these days where you have to be everything right. You are the marketing team, you are the model. Jillian: [00:38:40] Yes. You are the editor, you are the voice. Gabrielle: [00:38:45] So we're teaching classes on how to do all this content creation how to photograph, how to write, how to do all that but also specific marketing things, like here's how to start an email list and here's what you should be accomplishing with your newsletter and that kind of thing. Gabrielle: [00:39:02] And then it might be OK. Well what about Instagram Facebook. You know maybe it's on Facebook content but then another one on Facebook ads and how to run those. Gabrielle: [00:39:12] And then of course a lot of these people have written books and they've gotten their book contracts by coming to Alt Summit. We often have publishers there, pretty much every year and they're often taking pitches. Gabrielle: [00:39:28] So like the Kinfolk Magazine, I brought my publisher there, Artisan Books, to Alt Summit and they met the Kinfolk team and ended up publishing Kinfolk recipe books. I want to say the big you know coffee table huge volumes. Gabrielle: [00:39:49] And I can give a million examples of those so if you're someone is thinking a book and it might be a novel but it's more likely like a coffee table book or you know that kind of thing. Gabrielle: [00:40:01] Darcy Miller who is the editor of Martha Stewart Weddings for you know the entire run basically of the magazine comes because she's launching her new creative career as a crafter and you know everyone comes. It's amazing. Gabrielle: [00:40:14] So we'll have fashion people there, and we'll have YouTubers there and we'll have Etsy shop owners, tons of crafters, often Joanne's comes in as as a sponsor and we'll just even have classes where you can just craft your heart out. The balance between Design Mom and Alt Summit Jillian: [00:40:28] That's amazing. Now, how much of your life is spent doing Design Mom and how much is spent doing Alt Summit? Gabrielle: [00:40:37] Well Alt Summit is such a seasonal thing that it's it's probably ends up being 50/50 but it doesn't it doesn't feel like that because the Alt Summit stuff ramps up as I get closer. Gabrielle: [00:40:46] So like for right after Alt Summit, I'll have a few months where I'm barely doing Alt Summit. The conference is over there's sort of that dead period where we're doing it a little bit of marketing and some follow up and that kind of thing. But mostly I can semi-ignore my inbox there. Gabrielle: [00:41:03] But then the closer we get, the more I have to do Alt Summit until I'm at a point where I'm barely functioning on Design Mom, I'm sure the readers are furious. Gabrielle: [00:41:17] Or I've hired friends to give me content for the week. You know like guest post, things like that because I just have to disappear. Gabrielle: [00:41:25] The issue is this year with this expansion of Alt Summit, which again I'm so excited about, I think about it all the time it's going to be amazing. I have even less time for Design Mom and it is a really tricky thing. Gabrielle: [00:41:41] Design Mom's comment sections are amazing the community there is so good, so vibrant, so interesting and I don't want to give it up, it's like personally super fulfilling for me. And also I think it's important. It's one of the only place on the Internet where you can discuss some of these hard things and not have fights break out in the middle of the comments you know. It's a really special place. Gabrielle: [00:42:04] So it's my biggest challenge this year is going to be figuring out how do I maintain Alt Summit in a way that feels authentic and that readers are happy with, but be able to devote a lot of time to it. Gabrielle: [00:42:15] And I think the biggest issue I have and it's always been true is to do sort of that background infrastructure stuff. How do you fit that in? It's almost like you have to shut down the blog for a couple of weeks to do some of the background stuff you know like to say to do your hiring and to get people trained, how do I fit that in with my normal daily schedule of posting working on Alt Summit taking calls with clients, things like that, I don't know. Gabrielle: [00:42:41] I've never been able to figure that out. Do you know what I mean? Jillian: [00:42:46] I do. And I guess one thing that I would love just to speak to you briefly is, you are visual and you are a designer and you make beautiful things and we kind of touched on this previously. Jillian: [00:42:59] Before we we started recording we were talking about podcasting because you're starting a podcast, and we just were talking about it and we were talking about this idea of my philosophy with podcasting is to press record and just let it happen. Jillian: [00:43:15] And if you know, kids come in or dogs bark or whatever, I'm going to leave it in because this is life and life is messy. How do you reconcile the fact that you've got six kids and as you're describing your day, no day seems like it's like the next day, and yet there's something beautiful to what you do. How to balance the mess and the beauty as a blogger Jillian: [00:43:34] And I would say my days are messy but it doesn't look that beautiful. And when I think of Alt Summit, I think it's so beautiful it's almost intimidatingly beautiful. How do you balance the mess and the beauty? Jillian: [00:43:48] Because I think a lot of influencers struggle with the fact that they go onto Instagram and everybody's life looks more beautiful than the next. And we all say well underneath it, it's probably not like that, but how would you speak to that? Gabrielle: [00:44:04] Yeah, I mean I've spoken to that quite a bit over the years and I don't know that I have a great answer, but I'll tell you give you some thoughts. Gabrielle: [00:44:14] You know, we do as just as consumers of content because yes, I Instagram but I also read Instagram right. I follow people and as consumers of content, we do love vulnerability and honesty and authenticity. But I feel like only to a certain degree. Gabrielle: [00:44:37] I think people think, no I want the real thing, the unvarnished and I don't believe that's true because I've tried it over the years. Again I'm in this 12 years, I've tried this kind of thing and I've seen other people try it and people want the vulnerability but they want a little bit controlled. Jillian: [00:44:57] Or packaged with a pretty bow. Gabrielle: [00:45:00] You don't mind seeing the laundry but you don't want to actually see the dirty underwear. Like it's like, I don't mind seeing there's a cute little basket that has laundry in it that needs to be done or a big pile on the couch but there's pretty filtered light or whatever. Gabrielle: [00:45:14] But I don't actually need a close up of your dirty laundry like no one wants that. And of course not, that's disgusting but that's true. Like I mentioned earlier, I write about depression, and I do and it's a real and very real it's part of my life but I rarely write about it or even mention it when I'm in the depths of despair. Writing about depression as a blogger Jillian: [00:45:36] Yep I get that. Gabrielle: [00:45:37] I'll write about it after, it when I feel like I've gotten things under control and been able to resolve it and think about it and can reflect on it carefully, and then I'll write about it and talk about this is what helped and this is what didn't help, and you know and be able to be helpful about it. Gabrielle: [00:45:52] If I just told you every time I was super depressed, it's just too depressing for everyone else. You know it's just awful. Gabrielle: [00:46:02] So I can write about it and they appreciate it and I can give them helpful things and I can acknowledge that this is real, and they don't need to be afraid of it, and they can fight it. And all these things and I don't need to have shame around it but they really only want to hear that when I'm through it. Jillian: [00:46:17] And you're on the other side with a little bit of a bow on you. Gabrielle: [00:46:20] A little bit. And now now that's not always totally true. It depends on the platform and you know that kind of thing because if this is just my friends on Facebook on my personal Facebook page and I was you know in the depths of despair and just said Hey guys I need a little love. Help me out. Well you know like that's no problem. And I can really be in the depths of despair but I don't feel like I could do that on Design Mom. I mean maybe a tiny bit but not really. Gabrielle: [00:46:49] So it is real and messy behind the scenes and I don't think people really want to see it as much as they claim that they do. And so yes you can be vulnerable and honest and authentic in all these things. But I mean I get on Instagram I have different needs on different platforms right. Gabrielle: [00:47:07] Like on Twitter, I'm mostly just looking for news stories. I feel like I get the headlines fastest there versus even going to news apps you know. So I like news headlines and I like just funny, like people are funny responses and it's makes me laugh. Gabrielle: [00:47:25] On Facebook I use it more as a personal thing, so it's going to be like someone's birthday or it's you know someone had a baby or that kind of thing. Gabrielle: [00:47:38] And then on Instagram, I'm looking for pretty pictures and inspiration. Jillian: [00:47:42] Right. Gabrielle: [00:47:43] So content I make. Of course I try to use pretty pictures, but the things that get the best response is when I'm discussing sometimes heavy things like again social issues or politics or that kind of thing. Gabrielle: [00:47:55] But me as a consumer, I'm just looking for pretty pictures and other people are too, and I know if they don't follow me, I totally get it because they might just be like, No I'm just looking for pictures of parties or pictures of vacations or whatever that might be right. And that's totally fine, you can get whatever you want out of those things. But if I'm if I'm on Instagram, I just want pretty and someone is showing me their dirty laundry. I'm going to be like, no. Dealing with jealousy as a blogger? Jillian: [00:48:22] OK. Do you ever have that thing where you see somebody who does beautiful things and do you ever get that pang of jealousy or I wish I had done that. Gabrielle: [00:48:37] 100 percent. I don't know how to do that beyond human nature right. This is just how it is. Jillian: [00:48:44] But again I just have to say you are Design Mom, you created Alt Summit. I want to hear you too feel that way? Gabrielle: [00:48:51] For sure. So for me it's so I'll see something and I'll go. It might be business related right. I'll see. Like even the podcast. I'm working on this podcast but I've been trying to, I knew I needed to do this a year ago. I'd already gotten feedback about this and then had it confirmed again earlier this year. Gabrielle: [00:49:11] But again I've known this for a long time and so I'll see someone announce a podcast, or do something and think, I'm so behind, you know like that kind of stuff will kill me. Gabrielle: [00:49:20] Or if I see someone just doing something really smart on Instagram and I'm just a slacker on Instagram, and I'll feel like business guilt, like I know I could have a bigger following, and that would be better for me but also for sponsors and it's better for the business in general. Gabrielle: [00:49:35] But I'm not doing it and I'll feel that sort of business owner guilt, you know which I think if you a business owner you know what that is because there's always your list is never done. There's always something. Gabrielle: [00:49:44] Oh I should be optimized for SEO in these ten steps that I'm not doing, I'm only doing three of the steps, you know or whatever it might be, or I was doing a newsletter every month and then I had to take a break. Gabrielle: [00:49:56] And I'm feeling guilty because I see someone else's cute newsletter come out and I think I know I could get help with this and hire it out and get this done and why have I done that? So I definitely feel that kind of thing from a business perspective. Jillian: [00:50:08] And how about like somebody is launching a line of party supplies for Target? Gabrielle: [00:50:14] Why can't I have that? Why haven't I worked with Target before. Am I not good enough? And you start questioning yourself, should I be pitching is that where I should be spending my time? Gabrielle: [00:50:22] And then again business questions on like, is that how to make money, or is it better to sponsor posts or should I be doing some subscription service somewhere? You know where they get a box? Or you know trying to figure out those questions because you are trying to build a business and provide for your family. Gabrielle: [00:50:38] Yeah those kind of things can drive me crazy. And then you have the personal stuff, like you see someone, maybe I've had a day where like I've just really been glued to the computer. I had a bunch of deadlines had to get stuff done and I get on Instagram and someone's made cookies with their kids, and I'm like, I'm like the worst mom. My kids have been have been on YouTube all day. Gabrielle: [00:51:04] I haven't even talked to them, you know, I don't even remember even saying words to them this morning. I got right on my computer. And you just feel like a jerk you know. Gabrielle: [00:51:13] I mean that's just I don't know what to say. But I think everyone's going to fill that and I definitely take social media breaks and I'm not supposed to as a business owner. Jillian: [00:51:27] As an influencer, I know I do the same. By the way, I do the same. Take a break from social media as a blogger Gabrielle: [00:51:29] But I have to I think it's just kind of kills me sometimes so I'll take breaks, the easiest one for me to not take breaks from is Twitter because I don't follow anyone like that where it like. It's not really visual and I'm not following any of my business peers or really influencers. Gabrielle: [00:51:48] It's like again, I'm there for news or different things so I'm fine to get on Twitter and never throws me off like that. But Instagram can kill me. Oh my gosh or I'll see someone on vacation. Jillian: [00:52:00] Well for me on Facebook seeing people on vacation and I don't know why, because I go on vacation. But something about here's our family in Rome kills me. Gabrielle: [00:52:11] Yes. Or if I see a couple and I think when's the last time I took a vacation just with me and Ben Blair you know, where we got to get away. And I'm sure we should do that and keep our marriage healthy you know. I don't know how to avoid that. Gabrielle: [00:52:27] I know Facebook is a trigger for some people definitely Instagram is mine. Jillian: [00:52:30] Facebook is mine. Gabrielle: [00:52:32] Yeah. Jillian: [00:52:36] Well I have to say, I so appreciate your honesty about this because I have to tell you that I've been a writer forever, I was a writer in Hollywood for a lot of years so the written word is very comfortable to me. Jillian: [00:52:52] But visually, really I've always felt inadequate. And so to hear you say that you too have these feelings is so comforting and you are the brains behind Alt Summit, which I have always wanted to go to, but also feel like I don't know, I'd feel like a poser. Gabrielle: [00:53:12] No you would love it! Why we fake things as a blogger Jillian: [00:53:14] I say this to my daughter all the time. We'll be doing a sponsored post, and I'll be shooting something for Instagram and it will be a lava cake. There was this lava cake I had to make. Guess what? It got stuck, ultimately it didn't flow out so you know what. I faked it. Jillian: [00:53:35] I had some floaty stuff and I put the cake on top of it and I said to my daughter come in here, I want to show you this. This is fake and I want you to know that it's going to look good and it's going to look as if this stuff oozed out beautifully and that it totally worked. And this is fake. And I wanted to be a teaching moment. Why. Gabrielle: [00:53:58] Did she get it? Jillian: [00:53:59] She totally got it. And by the way, that post is up on Catch My Party and it doesn't say that I faked this. Gabrielle: [00:54:05] Well I don't blame you. I mean look, that's anyone who shot a photo ever of anything must understand that right outside the frame is chaos and mess. That's just the reality. Gabrielle: [00:54:18] And that was true long before blogs. I worked in New York I was in art direction. We do shoots for magazines, we do shoots for, you know all editorial and all kinds of stuff, and it's just a chaotic mess outside the frame period. It has nothing to do with being an influencer. That's just the nature of creation and photography. Gabrielle: [00:54:38] It's art. Think you have a beautiful piece of art on the wall at a museum. But to create that the mess that the artist made in their studio, was going to be nuts is going to be insane. And so that's that's how it is. Gabrielle: [00:54:51] So if you're if you're going to be someone who creates content and as a business person or an artist or just a creative, there's going to be a mess. Gabrielle: [00:55:01] And if you are a reader or consumer of social media or blogs or whatever it might be and you don't understand that this is pretend, it's every bit as pretend as the magazines you used to read. And that was the thing. Then you're there you're not being fair, you're not coming to this as a fair participant because no one has ever said this is my life all the time. Jillian: [00:55:33] So yes and I would say that for my daughter who is impressionable at 11. These are important teaching moments. Gabrielle: [00:55:42] For sure and for sure my kids know all of that because they're part of the shoots often. And so they know. All right everyone pretend we like each other. Jillian: [00:55:50] Exactly the number of times I've told my daughter to smile with gritted teeth, look like you like the pudding. Gabrielle: [00:56:03] And you know my kids just finished a play. They were in a play this week and they were three performances. It's the same thing. I had nothing to do with the play, had nothing to do with me. It was a big production. It was you know lots of adults they were kind of this children's chorus. Gabrielle: [00:56:17] And and you were at these rehearsals and it's a mess, and it's everything is behind schedule and blah blah blah. Like this is creativity. This is what it looks like. And they have to get on stage and pretend to be in a good mood even though the rehearsal went two hours too long and they're tired. And you know what I mean, like and they should have been in bed. Gabrielle: [00:56:38] This is not just blogging it's not just Instagram. This has always been the thing and it always will be as far as I can tell. I don't know how else to do it. It's the same with any creative endeavor, if you're a writer. You have these horrible messy drafts. Red ink everywhere and then you end up with this beautiful book. Jillian: [00:56:58] Totally I would say this. This thing which is I was a screenwriter, and I would finish a project. And it would be done and it would be and it would be great. Jillian: [00:57:09] And then I would start a new project and it would suck at the beginning and I would think to myself every single time, I lost it. I don't know I don't do this anymore because I was at the beginning. Gabrielle: [00:57:23] Yeah. Jillian: [00:57:24] And I'd forgotten. Gabrielle: [00:57:26] You are someone that's going to consume any content anywhere that was created as a creative endeavor, and whether again it's a fashion show or writing or a movie or whatever it was an enormous mess caused you know in order to create this thing. Jillian: [00:57:44] Right. And I bet you sucked at the beginning. Gabrielle: [00:57:45] And I'm sure the beginning, the first drop was awful and the first you know try the first photo was awful, and you know what. This is how it is if you're going to consume this stuff and pretend that's not true. Gabrielle: [00:57:56] That somehow, this book came into being perfectly. Or this movie came into being on the first take or whatever it is, I can't do anything to help you. You're living in a different world than I am if that's the case. Gabrielle: [00:58:13] But that said, and I understand that the feelings of jealousy or inadequacy are totally real. And they were real before Instagram. Gabrielle: [00:58:33] You know that or at work because it's the same reasons you didn't get the promotion or you didn't get picked for this project or whatever it might be. The feelings of inadequacy, the comparison, the all of that. That's not a new thing that has been with us forever. And I assume will be with us forever. Gabrielle: [00:58:51] And if you need to take a break from social media, take a break. It will be there when you get back you know it'll be waiting for you. Jillian: [00:58:59] I agree. All right. So Gabrielle this is terrific. How can people reach out to you see what you're doing, all of that? Gabrielle: [00:59:07] You bet. So the blog is still my favorite spot because I own it. And the algorithms can't change it. So yeah you can always go to DesignMom.com to see the latest, I post there very frequently and I'm pretty decent at responding to comments so feel free to check in with me there. Gabrielle: [00:59:23] I'm also on Facebook at Design Mom Blog, is my page on Instagram I'm Design Mom on Pinterest. I'm Design Mom I'm active on all of them. But if you want to see it first it's usually on the blog. Buying a ticket to Alt Summit Jillian: [00:59:34] OK and if they want to learn about Alt Sumit, are tickets on sale now? Gabrielle: [00:59:40] They are on sale now and prices are going to go up and up. So if you want them, now is the time to get them. The handles are all Alt Summit on all social. Gabrielle: [00:59:52] But the web address is actually altitudesummit.com which was the original name so it was originally Altitude Design Summit and then we're going to start calling it Alt Summit which is much easier to say. Gabrielle: [01:00:02] But yes, so tickets are on sale if you've ever been before. There is an alumni discount available because we know this was kind of a leap in price if you weren't used to it. Gabrielle: [01:00:13] But even for everywhere else this is the best price you're going to get, whether you've been there or not. Right now the best prices the best price you're going to get. It's going to start going up per month. Gabrielle: [01:00:23] Again modeling that on South by Southwest, seeing how other longer conferences do that. So this is definitely a learning year for us. But I just was on the call this morning about some content programming and it's really going to be epic. Gabrielle: [01:00:39] With Alt Summit, the goal has been to amplify women's voices and kind of what they're doing, the projects they're working on, and bringing attention to what they're doing which is still my goal. Gabrielle: [01:00:50] And this is going to allow us to not just focus on cool things entrepreneurs are doing, and cool things brands are doing, but you know what are cool films women are making, and what are cool bands and cool music women are making, and you know if you're if you're a woman and you're doing something really interesting, maybe it's a nonprofit maybe you're a writer. I want you there I want you there telling your story. Gabrielle: [01:01:14] Getting to know people and you can build your business or also just again amplify your message, amplify whatever it is you've created. So I'm really excited. It's going to be epic. Jillian: [01:01:25] Oh Gabrielle, thank you so much for being on the show. Gabrielle: [01:01:29] Thank you so much for having me. 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In this second episode of a two-part series on mental health, Soleil speaks with Heather Armstrong and Kimberley Wilson on the links between diet and mental health. Armstrong, a blogger and writer also known as “Dooce,” tell us how her last attempt at veganism resulted in the worst depression of her life. Then, psychologist Wilson talks to us about her work busting myths about clean eating and dieting in the UK.  Produced by Juan Ramirez and Stephanie Kuo. Music by AF the Naysayer and Blue Dot Sessions. LINKS DU JOUR Read more about the state of prison food in this piece via Governing. The science of serotonin—the chemical produced in the intestines—is fascinating! Yes, the use of the word "superfood" in food marketing was banned in the EU.

We're continuing our countdown of the best parenting fails shared on the ParentNormal Podcast in 2017.  Parenting is stressful enough without beating yourself up for past mistakes. And that's what this countdown is all about. Every parent makes mistakes. The best thing we can do is just say sorry and try not to make the same mistakes again.

My guest today is a speaker, a bestselling and award-winning writer, brand consultant, and an entrepreneur. She became an answer to a Trivial Pursuit and Jeopardy question after being fired from her job as a web designer for blogging stories involving her colleagues. My guest is now the Founder of and professional blogger at Dooce. She has been a part of the internet writing community for 14 years and has worked to create targeted content for global brands, including Ford, Nintendo, and Clorox. She is also the author of the New York Times Best Seller, It Sucked and then I Cried. Now let's hack... Heather Armstrong. In this 32-minute episode Heather Armstrong and I discuss: How her blog caused her to lose her job Why you need to pay very close attention to your audience The benefits of blogging far outweigh the negatives Moving from blogging to consulting international brands The Show Note Dooce.com HeatherArmstrong.com Heather's Books Heather on Twitter Jon on Twitter

This week, I'm releasing two editions of parenting fails in honor of my new book Perfect Parenting: A Complete History. I did the research and (Spoiler Alert) there is no history of raising kids perfectly. Thus, every one of the book’s 40 chapters are empty. It is the parenting book with the fewest words but most important lesson: You aren’t going to be a perfect parent. If you want lessons on how to be a perfect parent, DON’T buy this book. But if you or a friend needs a funny reminder on your coffee table, nightstand or both that perfect parenting is impossible, this book could be the almost-perfect book for you. At the very least, it will be the easiest book for you to finish reading this year. It’s only $5 right now on Amazon, and again it’s called Perfect Parenting: A Complete History.

Heather Armstrong, known by her fans simply as Dooce, is this week's featured guest. She is not only one of the most successful bloggers of all time, she is a mother of two, a New York Times bestselling author and she has even been the subject of a question on Jeopardy that went like this: Rhyming with “Juiced”, it’s "to lose one’s job because of one’s blog", coined by blogger Heather Armstrong The correct answer was, "What is Dooced?" - because, as you might infer, Heather famously lost her job because of her blogging about it. In an article by the New York Times that called her the Queen of Mommy Bloggers, it said she had 100,000 visitors to her site daily. So I think blogging has worked out pretty well for her. In our conversation, we’ll talk about how blogging has changed since the early days, how bloggers can use their platform to promote positive messages, how Heather helped influence the creation of Twitter and how her readers helped her with her postpartum depression.

Sarah and co-host Adrienne Martini are delighted to have a gab-session with Heather Armstrong, the genius behind the highly successful, long-running “mommy blog” Dooce as well as Manic Rambling Spiral, a pithy podcast about single parenting. Like in her NYT best-selling memoir It Sucked and Then I Cried: How I Had a Baby, a Breakdown, and a Much Needed Margarita, Heather speaks candidly on her depression and how her most recent episode was precipitated by marathon training and a sub-basement-level of Vitamin D. Hear how Heather hopped into the Chicago Marathon so last minute, she didn’t even pack her running shoes when she headed to the Windy City last week! The conversation then shifts to single parenting with Heather admitting the hardest things about guiding her family solo—as well as the up side to the journey. Pre-Dooce, Sarah and Adrienne show their age by talking about full v. half-slips, plus they bond over the acronym YDY. *To find the Saucony layering pieces, shop the Saucony website, where you... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is Your Blog Being Hurt by Your Obsession to Create New Content? Today, I want to talk about an obsession that many bloggers have - an obsession with creating NEW content and want to suggest that we all take a little step back from spending quite so much time on that task and pay attention to something that might have a better payoff for us. I’m going to share with you a practice that I’ve build into my daily rhythm. You can listen to this episode in the player above or here on iTunes. But before I do - a couple of quick pieces of house keeping. Blogging Groove Update: Facebook group will remain live. We will do some ongoing challenges. You can take the challenges any time. I know a few people who have decided to keep doing them one a week indefinitely. If you enjoyed the challenge let us know by leaving an iTunes review. Virtual Ticket: ProBlogger Event Virtual Ticket 50 sessions - 6 keynotes, 24 breakout training sessions, 20 workshops Great speakers like Brian Fanzo (live streaming), Nathan Chan (growing your email list), Natalie Sisson (Sales Funnels), Nicole Avery (starting a blog), Emilie Wapnick (building community on your blog) and many more including me (3 sessions this year). Topics - beginner to advanced. Creating content, building your readership, monetization. Blogging, Podcasting, YouTube, Social (paid and organic). You Also get access to our exclusive event networking and accountability group on FB Immediate access to all the recordings and slides from our 2015 event (with Jadah Sellner, Heather Armstrong, Dan Norris, Ruth Soukup and many more). 23 sessions. $USD229 ($299 AUD). All 50 sessions from 2016 and 23 from 2015 are yours to keep and refer back to time and time again. A simple daily practice that I do: Every day we publish new content on dPS - two posts a day. We work on making the content as good as it can be. Useful, practical, well laid out, as few grammatical errors as possible, well illustrated, optimised for SEO, good headline, great CTA etc. We then think about how we share it - visual content, timing on social, craft the descriptions, get it into the newsletter etc. Our authors are then thinking about engaging with readers who come - trying to get good discussions going, watching social comments etc. A lot of effort goes into these things in the lead up to and for the days after a post gets published. This is all pretty normal - most bloggers do that. But here’s the thing - your blog post is on the web for a lot longer than that first week. That first week can definitely bring you a spike in traffic - but it’s just the beginning of the content’s life. I touched on this in episode 136 where I gave tips for creating Evergreen content for your blog - but today I want to share with you a daily practice that I’ve developed over the last 5-6 years that helps me to stay in touch with my archives. Your archives quite likely contain a lot of really useful content that your readers have probably not read - particularly your newer readers. If your blog is anything like mine your archives are what gets most of the eyeballs on your blog on any given day - not the new posts. I just looked at Google Analytics for today’s traffic on dPS - we’ve published 14 posts in the last 7 days and as I look at today’s traffic - those 14 posts got around 15% of my site’s traffic. 85% of my traffic was hitting my archives. I suspect most blogs are similar - yet most of us spend most of our effort focusing upon our new posts. Most bloggers spend 99% of their time focused upon their fresh content but their readers spend most of their time focused upon the archives. I think bloggers should allocate time to focusing upon their archives too. The daily practice that I do does just that. In Today’s Episode The Daily Practice I Have Built Into My Blogging Rhythm It happens at the end of my day (late afternoon or early eveni...

Note: you can listen to this episode above or load it up in iTunes. How to Find Readers for Your Blog Through Commenting and Relationships Today's episode is about how to find new readers for your blog. It's the question I get asked most by bloggers, so this is the forth of a series of podcasts on this topic. In part one we looked at two really important questions to ask before you go hunting for readers to read your blog. In part two, we talked about how to use two types of content to find readers for your blog. In part three, we talked about building a blog that readers will want to return to again and again (a 'sticky' blog). Today, we talk about how to grow your readership by commenting and networking. In This Episode You can listen to today's episode above or in iTunes or Stitcher (where we'd also LOVE to get your reviews on those platforms if you have a moment). Today we talk about: How to identify the places your ideal readers are hanging out online How to leave comments on blogs and social media to grow your profile How to network informally with other bloggers to build opportunities to grow your readership How building a blogging alliance can grow your blog How to pitch to influencers (people who are already getting noticed) How to feature influencers Further Reading/Listening For Finding Blog Readers Let me Show You Inside a Secret Blogging Alliance How to Grow Traffic through Forums and Social Media Group How to Grow Traffic with Blog Commenting Full Transcript Expand to view full transcript Compress to smaller transcript view Hi there and welcome to episode 36 of the ProBlogger Podcast. My name is Darren Rowse and today, we'll be looking at two techniques to find readers for your blog. You can find today's show notes at problogger.com/podcast/36.  Before we get into today's show, I just wanted to give you a little update. Today is Monday, the 17th of August as I record this and literally, just last night, I got home from the ProBlogger event for 2015. We had 700+ attendees come up to the Gold Coast in Queensland, Australia where we got together for two whole days to talk blogging. There's a whole heap of people there, it was quite amazing. The previous year we had I think I was close to 540–550 people so it was quite a bit larger than the previous year, almost 200 larger and we had a great time together. We did a few new things, we had a few more networking events at this particular year, we had a great party on Friday night, but the main reason we were there was for some great content. We had, I think, it was over 24. It might have been closer to 30 sessions this year. We had speakers fly in from around the world: Jadah Sellner from Simple Green Smoothies, Heather Armstrong from Dooce, Pamela Wilson from Copyblogger, and Ruth Soukup from Living Well, Spending Less. Then, there was a whole heap of amazing Australian bloggers there speaking as well. We had Dan Norris, Claire Healy, Nat Kringoudis and many more. You can actually find them all listed at probloggerevents.com, but it was really just a fantastic time. I'm, right now, feeling simultaneously, incredibly energized and incredibly exhausted as well, physically exhausted but mentally really energized and really looking forward to what comes next for particularly the Australian blogosphere. This year, we also had people flying in from India, quite a few from New Zealand, and even attendees flying in from other parts of the world including the Middle East and America. It was quite a diverse group of people, all kinds of niches. We had quite a few younger bloggers this year as well as older bloggers. As usual, a lot of women. It was in the 90% range of male to female ratio but it was just a fantastic time. Despite my croaky voice today, I'm feeling really great about the state of the Australian blogosphere and als...

Just in time for the start of summer, it' Episode 89, with Graeme McMillan and Jeff Lester finally finishing off questions posed by you over a month ago...but not without some technical glitches. This episode starts off In Media Tech SNAFU, with Jeff answering a question posed by Graeme before Skype goes kaput and kills our first five minutes stone dead. Fortunately, for everyone, it's an answer that makes sense without the question--as opposed to most of the time with us when that is never the case--and then we proceed to talk Action Comics #10; superhero movies and the geek comfort zone; Spawn and Glamourpuss #25; Minutemen #1 featuring an impassioned discussion over Heather Armstrong, Internet communication and freelancer responsibility; Double Barrel #1; the best reviewed comic in the world; James Ellroy in comics; Zombo; Sonic Disruptors; American Flagg; Zenith; Detective Comics and much more. Plus, exciting news for Wait, What? and a request (at least one!) for listener assistance...all in less than two hours. We thank you for listening and, as always, we hope you enjoy!

Heather Armstrong on reconciling with her family after writing about them on her blog, taking photos of her dog Chuck and her broken Maytag washing machine.

Maria interviews power blogger, author, and HGTV personality Heather Armstrong. Heather is arguably one of the most powerful blogger in the United States …. Her blog Dooce draws 157,100 of visitors monthly. That puts Dooce in the top 10 blogs. Armstrong was featured by Forbes magazine among 30 honorees on its list of The Most Influential Women In Media for 2009.