Podcasts about Sonny Bono

They're two great tastes that taste great together. They are the chocolate and peanut butter of music. We will never tire of this reference. Gen X forever. Anyway, here in Top Ten Unique Voices That Sound Great Together, we wrap things up with Gabe Scalone and finish our count down of those unlikely and unique voice combos that sound incredible when those combos combine. Picks 5-1 are featured here in Part 2.If you missed Part 1, start here:https://www.podomatic.com/podcasts/alltimetopten/episodes/2025-05-12T04_00_00-07_00There ain't nothin' wrong with the music heard in this here playlist, people. Enjoy this collection of all the songs heard in Parts 1 & 2, bumper songs included.https://open.spotify.com/playlist/78hjDFayS2pOntnFB9DdDJ?si=8cd1fd45b2714508We've lowered our prices, but not our standards over at the ATTT Patreon! Those who are kindly contributing $2 a month are receiving an exclusive monthly Emergency Pod episode featuring our favorite guests and utilizing our patent-pending improv format in which we miraculously pull a playlist out of thin air. The Old Boy Himself Ryan Blake joined for May's bonus episode.Find out more at https://www.patreon.com/c/alltimetoptenWe're having a blast chatting it up about music over on the ATTT Facebook Group. Join us and start a conversation!https://www.facebook.com/groups/940749894391295

Label: Atco 6359Year: 1965Condition: M-Price: $25.00This is one of the nicest copies of this classic single that I've had to offer since opening the store in 2001... a solid Near Mint copy with Mint audio. Check out the mp3 "snippet". (Collector's note: This release is common in conditions less than Near Mint, but copies in truly collectable condition are quite rare.) It's also worth noting that this single appears on both the Dave Marsh Top 1,001 Singles (#228) and the Rolling Stone Top 500 Songs (#451) lists! That's one of the reasons it's hard to keep in stock! Also check out Sonny Bono's stab at Garage Rock on the B side... it's really pretty nasty! :-) Note: This beautiful copy comes in a vintage Atco Records factory sleeve. The labels grade Near Mint with a touch of wear. The vinyl looks Near Mint with a few light scuffs, and the audio sounds pristine Mint.

One of my favorite places in the world is the Coachella Valley. Palm Springs, Palm Desert, Rancho Mirage, Indian Wells. The valley is thriving as new residents move in, the are is mountainous and arid desert blended in an oasis of mixed architectural styles blended with cultural influence from music to fashion and everything in between. I love the Coachella Valley because as a teenager, I would go to Palm Springs for spring break. Something then mayor, Sonny Bono did not care fore and eventually drove us out. Then it was the architecture, followed by Coachella Music Festival combined with Stagecoach. La Quinta Resort remains my personal favorite place to recharge and reflect. Designer Resources Pacific Sales Kitchen and Home. Where excellence meets expertise. Design Hardware - A stunning and vast collection of jewelry for the home!  - Where service meets excellence TimberTech - Real wood beauty without the upkeep I am really pleased to share my conversation with Elyssa Contardo, SoCal native and Coachella Valley based designer. She actually has two offices, one in Palm Desert and the other in Park City, Utah. And we discuss both locations and their emerging status as design forward locales. Check the show notes for links to Contardo's work. Especially as we walk through some of her projects. You are going to hear all about it, right now after this. Thank you, Elyssa.Thank you to my incredible partner sponsors; TimberTech, Pacific Sales, and Design Hardware. Amazing companies and great friends to the trade so please give them an opportunity for your next project. And, thank you for listening, subscribing the show and sharing with your colleagues. If not already subscribing, please consider that so you receive every new episode automatically to your podcast feed. Until next week, thank you for sharing this time together, until the next episode, be well, stay focused and now that it has arrived in earnest, try to rise above the chaos. - CXD

Nicholas Klingensmith says that he grew up a punk and not so nice kid. As he will describe, he was quite self centered, but it was all a façade. He will tell his story of finally realizing that he needed to change both his thinking and his concept of himself. Nick is a type one diabetic. He also is a 4-time cancer survivor and he has a number of herniated disks. He also is a recovering alcoholic. Nick finally realized he had to change after being thrown out of a Las Vegas hotel the night before he was to deliver sales speech. Nick was ejected because he was in, as he says, a “drunken haze”.   Today Nick is a successful author, a public speaker and a successful obstacle course racer and so much more. He also is a survivor of the October hurricane that struck near his home in Tampa Bay Florida.   We talk about all of this during this episode. Nicholas talks about resilience, controlling fear and even why he and his wife made the conscious decision not to evacuate their home as the hurricane approached. Nick offers many insights about how we all can learn to control fear and not only survive obstacles that are put in our way, but he will talk about how we can truly overcome them. As he will tell us, it is all about choice and making informed decisions.   This episode to me is especially poignant because so many of the things we discuss are illustrations of what is going on all around us. I think Nick's experiences and the stories he tells about them are the kinds of things to which we all can relate. I hope you like Nick's discussion and that you will let me know your thoughts.       About the Guest:   After being thrown out of a Las Vegas hotel in a drunken haze, jeopardizing his career and relationships, Nick Klingensmith had to make a change. A 4-time cancer survivor, type-1 diabetic, recovering alcoholic with herniated discs, nerve damage and sleep apnea, he defies it all when he finds Obstacle Course Racing. Refusing to accept his limitations, he's completed over 100 Spartan Races, 6 Major Marathons, several Ultras and scores of other obstacle and endurance events.   As someone who has walked the path of a sales professional, Nick is an expert in propelling other achievement-driven professionals and leaders to overcome fear and rejection and push past self-limiting doubts, by inspiring them to take purposeful action towards their goals. Nick is a raw and passionate storyteller who holds nothing back when revealing who he used to be and the person he is now.   A true testament to the power of resilience, with an unwavering belief in his purpose to overcome obstacles and inspire others to do the same, Nick delivers powerful and transformative speeches, drawing from personal experiences to illustrate the extraordinary potential of pushing through adversity. 1)    The power of perseverance: Pursuing personal growth and overcoming obstacles for success 2)    Pursuing Something Greater: Taking Risks, pushing boundaries and exploring your unlimited potential 3)    Living Inspired: Embracing Purpose, overcoming adversity, and finding belonging   Ways to connect with Nick:   Instagram: @stridemotivation https://www.instagram.com/stridemotivation/ TikTok: @stridemotivation https://www.tiktok.com/@stridemotivation?lang=en Twitter: @stridemotivatio https://twitter.com/stridemotivatio YouTube: @stridemotivation https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOiV2sNB3g4meufvBg3a9sA Threads: @stridemotivation LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nklingensmith/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100069207242260 www.stridemotivation.com Email: nick@stridemotivation.com   About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/   https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!   Subscribe to the podcast   If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. You can subscribe in your favorite podcast app. You can also support our podcast through our tip jar https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/unstoppable-mindset .   Leave us an Apple Podcasts review   Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.       Transcription Notes:   Michael Hingson ** 00:00 Access Cast and accessiBe Initiative presents Unstoppable Mindset. The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Michael Hingson ** 01:21 Well, hi everyone, and welcome to another episode of unstoppable mindset, where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet unexpected. Boy. It's been a crazy time in the world in general, and for our guest, Nick Klingensmith, it's really been kind of unexpected. Nick lives down in the Tampa St Pete area, and we as he knows, and I know, just went through a week ago hurricanes down there, which tells you about when we're recording this. He lost power for a while, but Nick is a pretty resilient guy, and he's going to going to talk about some of that. He's a keynote speaker. He's an author. Does a lot of different kinds of things. He is a coach, conducts master classes, and some things happen along the way that caused him to get to be where he is today. So we're not going to give any of that away. I want Nick and and while I'm Nick to talk about it and you to hear it, so we'll leave it at that. Nick, thanks for being here, and welcome to unstoppable mindset. We're glad you're here.   Nick Klingenmith ** 02:20 Michael, thank you so much for having me. I'm I'm really excited to be here today,   Michael Hingson ** 02:24 and I'm glad I was out in Southern California. Actually, that's not totally true last week or when the hurricane hit. I was in Kansas City and so but I one of the people who spoke when I was there was an economist who lived down in Florida, and I don't know exactly where she lived, but she went out as soon as her talk was over to get back to Florida, because she felt that her home was right in the middle of everything. So gosh, what do you do?   Nick Klingenmith ** 02:53 I'll tell you. Man, with the hurricanes, the most dangerous thing you can do is the reactive decisions before the hurricane. And part of what I'm talking about is being right where we are, right just north of St Petersburg, just north of where ground zero was supposed to be, right up until the like the late hour. You know, there's a lot of factors you have to consider when you like what want to evacuate or not. You know, we have a senior dog. We can't we can only drive so far with him. We have a reactive dog. There's only so many places we can take him, and if you didn't leave early, you risk running out of gas on the side of the highway. So there comes a point where, you know, we decided it our house was as secure as a home can be, even for a direct hit, we're just going to ride it out. We buttoned down. We were as safe as we could be. But, you know, with people telling you, like, run, run, run, right? Like, well, I have a friend who evacuated to Sarasota, where the direct hit actually ended up being, you know, I mean, where was I going to go to? To Orlando. It was directly in the path of the storm. Where was I gonna go? To the mountains? Because clearly, that's not so safe after all, the 72 hours leading up to a hurricane where just everybody panics and, you know, I think honestly, and this is what we'll unpack here, what I've learned from what not just not what I've been through, because what I've been through didn't teach me anything. It was what I had to what I had to do to put it all in perspective, and didn't understand it, but all those lessons in resilience give you the ability to pause and make better decisions in the face of adversity well,   Michael Hingson ** 04:32 and that is absolutely true. You know, should you have evacuated well? You know, as you said, there are a lot of ways to go. And the question is, where could you really go? You'd have to leave really early to make sure you could evacuate far enough away. But then, as you said, you have a dog that that can't travel this far, and that becomes an issue. Just, you know,   Nick Klingenmith ** 04:56 I'm not Florida. Man, all right, right. I am. Out three and a half miles from the shore. Yeah, I am just beyond, like, the line of demarcation, but if I was on the other side of the bridge, there's no way I would have stayed. Yeah, you   Michael Hingson ** 05:12 know, well, you know, you can only do what you can do and decide what you can decide. But the real issue, as you point out, is being able to pause and analyze it. And one of the things that I love to tell people is I love information. For me, when September 11 happened, there were a couple of times I asked people like an FBI agent, what's going on, and they wouldn't tell me. And I understand why, intellectually, they wouldn't because they didn't want to cause panic. As we were coming out of the stairwell, none of us knew what happened. The hundreds of people on the stairs didn't know. Of course, people always say, well, you're blind. You didn't know. Well, that has nothing to do with it. The plane hit on the other side of the building, 18 floors above us, and you know, the reality is, we don't see through concrete, steel and rebar. So the bottom line is, none of us knew, and when I asked, he said, Well, just no time to tell you, but I'll take you where you need to go, me and other people who are with us. I wish he had told me, it would have changed some decisions I made, but I also understand why he didn't. He didn't know me. He didn't know whether I panic or go crazy or whatever, and and so he did what he did. And actually, I shouldn't say that I would change what I did and the direction that we went I might have. But the bottom line is, it's all about being able to pause and analyze, and you have to have the information to do it. And you clearly were in a position to have as much information as you could have and make the decision that you made.   Nick Klingenmith ** 06:48 You know, when you hear seals describe like certain engagements and these split seconds that go by, and just the decision making process and the the way that, you know, time slows down for that. I mean, that's what they train for. That's why they train through adversity, and that's, that's how I look at more adversity now. And it's not that I welcome it. Don't get me wrong, you know? I mean, who really wants bad things or uncomfortable things? You don't want them. But I like to say this because somebody had asked me once that, if I wasn't a diabetic, would I be a better athlete? And I said, No, if I wasn't a diabetic, I wouldn't be an athlete at all. I wouldn't have become one so. Well, why is that I have these tools? I've accepted that life is always going to keep coming, so I just don't need to panic anymore. I know I have the tools and ability to slow down and make that decision making tree to get through it.   Michael Hingson ** 07:46 Yeah, okay, and that makes sense, but it is this, we, what if everything in the world anyway, too many people, what if everything, well, what if you weren't a diabetic, would you have done? You know, we, we, we always have to see those questions coming at us. And it's unfortunate that all too often we What if so much that we create a lot of fear that we don't need to create, yeah, which you know, makes sense. Tell us a little about if you would. I love to start out this way, the early Nick growing up and all that, and kind of what, what started you to where you're going and where you are,   Nick Klingenmith ** 08:26 man, I was a little shit. There you go.   Michael Hingson ** 08:29 That's Thanks for being on the podcast. Nick, we just summarized. No, no, go ahead. I   Nick Klingenmith ** 08:35 was such a punk, not a bad not like a I didn't like to get in trouble, but I, I was a little punk, you know, from the time I was a little kid. And I think I realize now, you know, part of, part of what I've uncovered in my history here is that my my father left me, left my mom, not me at a very young age. I grew up on an island, all right, it wasn't an after school special. He moved down the road, but the problem was that my mom wasn't she was still active with drugs, and she simply just wasn't capable of actually like caring for me. And so I grew up not necessarily looking for other people's validation so much as trying to prove that I didn't need it. So, I mean, I had a, I like, I was, I had a side hustle when I was in the second grade, like, I was hustling kids playing cards out of the playground, like, I just kind of like to buck the rules. I liked, I liked the bad guy in the movies. You know, it was, that's who I related to. But that, that sort of grittiness, actually turned into something after a while, because as I continue to look at myself as more independent and having to do it on my own, I also started working at a young age. I went to a boarding school for high school because I wanted a better education. Something else. I sought out myself, financial aid. I sought out myself. I went to college back. At the University of Massachusetts, and I also paid for that. Paid my own way through summer jobs and well, the last 20 years. So that was all working for me as something for a very long time, I was active in life. I like to play sports. I played competitive beach volleyball for 20 years. I I like to I liked to socialize. I often find myself in relationships, and there just came a point, though, where that sort of me against a world attitude changed. It was something that was giving me fuel and armor for a long time, right when I found out is that it was actually more like the rally cry of the victim mindset that I had been developing.   Michael Hingson ** 10:45 So what happened that brought that realization and that change?   Nick Klingenmith ** 10:51 I needed to start having real things happen to me, such as the four times I've been diagnosed with cancer. I'm a type one diabetic. I just celebrated 10 years of recovery from alcoholism. I have seven herniated discs from two different rollover fatality car accidents, nerve damage in several areas, sleep apnea. I almost died from meningitis. All those things had happened, and all those things had only contributed, though, to the victim mindset. It wasn't until I became an obstacle course racer, until, actually, after my boss walks in my office and challenges me to do a Spartan Race. And this was at a time where I was on top of the world. At that point, I was two years sober. I was a VP of sales. I was doing really well in my career. I was in a new relationship with an amazing woman that's now my wife. And I had just decisively beaten cancer for the fourth time, and I was I was kind of stuck, and so when he challenged me to do this obstacle course race with him. I knew I needed a change, and I didn't know what it was, so I said yes to this event. And it was through that process that I began to defy everything that I had previously believed about myself. I had created such limiting beliefs. I had created this narrative again, me against the world. I'm the victim poor me, right? I was convinced that I couldn't run because of my diabetes. I couldn't adventure because of my sleep apnea. I'd always be a piece of crap because of my addiction. When I went out there and I did my first obstacle course race. So I'm out there in the woods, crawling under barbed wire, carrying heavy objects, climbing up ropes, swinging from things, just like a little kid out there in the world with no fear and no doubt. And it wasn't me against the world, it was me in the world. And I felt just liberated. And I realized that everything I had convinced myself before of that had been a lie, and I didn't know yet what I had just, you know, told you about the victim mindset. It was just that point, I realized I was capable. I had this blank slate in front of me, and so for the next six, seven months, I got into this world of endurance sports and obstacle course racing. And I was improving through better nutrition, better exercise, yoga, meditation. I was improving through mind, body and spirit in all aspects of my life. And that's when I was in a second car accident, and that's where I got several more of my herniated discs, and that's where I got nerve damage. And the same day that happened, my cat of 12 years died, and 10 days after that, the lady who hit me died. And even though all I was doing was sitting at a red light when that happened, I felt responsible, and I was home couple weeks later, just heartbroken and devastated. You know, the last six, seven months have been like a dream to me. I felt like I was becoming this better person in all aspects, and now I felt like it was being all taken away from me, and you want to give up. And I'm sure I'm not the only person who's ever felt that way. I just didn't know what that meant. So I kept going to work. So I keep taking showers, I keep walking the dog, I keep meeting my responsibilities. And so I decided to put another race on the calendar, and when I was trying to train. I just I wasn't in it, and I was listening to this, like motivational compilation on YouTube, this guy's going back and forth about, are you a survivor? You are or victim? Are you a victim or survivor? And that's when I realized that even though I had already been progressing and I had just like found this new found lifestyle that I was still playing the victim. I was still saying, Woe is me, why me? Why me? And I? When I recognized it, that's when I realized that it's also a choice. You may not have chosen to be a victim, but you do choose to remain one, and I decided that that point that I will not be defined by my adversity, but rather. They're my triumph over it, and so it's been a decision. I have to only what. There's only one way I can tell that story, and it's a long version.   Michael Hingson ** 15:07 No, that's fine. You know, one of the things that that I realized during September 11, and it was partly because as tower two was falling and I was falling and I was running away from it, one of the things I said to myself was, God, I can't believe that you got us out of a building just to have it fall on us. And I'm a guy who has a lot of faith and so on, and I don't tend to panic. But I said that, and then immediately I heard in my head of voice as clearly as you hear me now, that said, don't worry about what you can't control. Focus on running with Roselle, who is my guide dog, and the rest will take care of itself. And I've adopted that mindset, which is really what you're saying. Focus on what you can control. There are things that happen to us that we didn't and wouldn't have any control over them happening. I've been well, I'm still yet to be convinced that we truly could have predicted September 11 as a country and stopped it. I don't think that we had the information, which says something about what a team dedicated to trying to create so much chaos and destruction was able to do because they functioned as a team. But the bottom line is that they did what they did. I don't think we could have stopped it, but what I do have control over is how I deal with what happened. I couldn't control what happened, but I can deal with what happened, and I think that's the important part of it, you know, I think   Nick Klingenmith ** 16:42 part of what you just it's not that you can do with it. I think the difference is you recognize it as yours to deal with. That's the first step. You know, too often we we refuse to recognize that we have an option, just because we don't like the options and dealing with it. We have to accept whatever happened happened. I have to accept that I'm a diabetic. I said this in a speech the other night. I said, like it's I'm not to blame that I'm I'm a diabetic, but when I take responsibility for being diabetic, I can be an ultra endurance athlete. Gotta accept our starting line, whatever, whatever that is. And, you know, there's a friend of mine, she's also a diabetic. She has a kind of a special something. I don't really understand diabetes thing, but, you know, she she, she struggles because she tries to control it, instead of just manage it, or instead of live with it. You know, they're basically kind of, now I'm going to mess this one up, but she doesn't focus on what she can control. She's so focused on what she can't. Mm, hmm. And that's what keeps   Michael Hingson ** 17:57 her stuck, yeah, and it happens so often, which is one of the things I talk about in my new book that we published in August of 2024 the book called Live like a guide dog, is that we What if everything to death. And the problem is well over 90% of what we what if about we don't have any control over. And that's the difference between us and dogs. Dogs don't do what ifs. And on September 11, when I was working with my fifth guy, dog, Roselle, nothing directly, really threatened her, and so as soon as we got home, she is ready to play. It was all over, and it's because she doesn't deal with it the way we have taught ourselves, or have been taught, to deal with things. And we What if everything so much that we create a lot more fear in our lives than we need to have, which is, which is so unfortunate, if we could learn to step back from that the   Nick Klingenmith ** 18:52 the speech I gave the other night told my story, as well as centered on a couple of themes that really would have resonated with that particular crowd, but one of them we talked a lot about, was fear was one that they kept kind of bouncing around after the fact. And I say that fear only exists in my imagination, and it's only power sources me, and it's that we suffer more from our own imaginations than we do reality. Sure, we create these things, but if we take just even a moment, and it's hard, even if you think, even if you think through logically, I don't think you can necessarily think through fear. And I'll, I'll speak to that in just a moment, but look back at all the times we were afraid. I found no monsters under the bed or in the closet. Like 90% of the things that I've been afraid of. Also, not only can I get out control, but they also haven't happened, right? Most of them will never manifest. You know, that said, the reason I think that you can't net even though you should be able to logically think through fear and understand that it probably doesn't exist, fear also hits on our emotions and stuff like that. So you. The I do believe that we can then move beyond fear, and therefore action is how we conquer fear.   Michael Hingson ** 20:07 Well, I think that, I guess I differ just a little bit. I think fear is a real thing in a sense, and partly it's a physical physiology, physiological reaction. I will never tell people not to be afraid, because I don't think that overall, we can do that. But what I tell people absolutely is you can learn to control fear and use it as a very powerful tool to help you. If you choose to do that, fear is is something that can cause you to focus, or if you don't learn to control it, it will overwhelm you, or, as I put it, blind you or paralyze you. But it is, it is there, and maybe the time will come when we can completely eliminate the concept. But mostly it's there, in part, because it's a physiological thing that we also encounter. But again, you mentioned the seals earlier, and they've learned to control fear. They're not going to tell you they're not afraid, but they're going to tell you that they can control it and use it to their advantage. Um,   Nick Klingenmith ** 21:12 we don't. We don't differ at all. By the way, the because I didn't fear itself isn't, isn't real. It's our fears are liars, those, most of the time, are the manifestations of the doubt. Fear, of course, is a real thing. Here's what I like to say, Okay, I'm with you, yeah, because I'm afraid of snakes and heights, yet I spend my weekends crawling around swamps and climbing up mountains. But it's not because I'm unafraid. It's I move beyond the fear. I do it anyway, and it I'm still afraid. I'm never going to handle a snake if I see one on the course, I'm going the other direction as fast as I can. It's just that I've, I have to find a way to not let it prevent me from living my life. And so I look for those things to you know, whatever I step into fear, I create. I make my world broader. But I don't know if you ever read the book, fear is fueled by Patrick Sweeney, great book, but he really talks a lot about the difference between fear and courage. Because or being fearless, you'd have to be a sociopath. Yeah, you'd have to have a complete disconnection from reality. And plus, like you said, Fear is very healthy. It is a good idea to fear the hot flame over the stove. It's a good idea to fear the Mack truck going down the highway if I want to go run into the street. Also, fear can be an indicator. You know, I when I was afraid for my job, I knew it's because I wasn't doing it. If I'm afraid for my home, it's because I'm not financially prepared. You know, if fear tells me what's important to me as well. So it's not always a bad thing, like, like we've been saying, though it's what you do with it or what you do about it. So   Michael Hingson ** 22:51 you wouldn't even want to pick up a garden snake or a king snake or anything. Oh, no way, huh?   Nick Klingenmith ** 22:57 I don't care if it had, like, tickets for Vegas and a cure for cancer in its mouth. Put that demon thing, that demon cord away.   Michael Hingson ** 23:07 Well, I have, I have played with some snakes, but I also recognize that they're, they're not like me, and you have to be cautious even among the most non poisonous snakes, and that is something that we have to deal with. But I guess I don't fear them. I'm probably more cautious around a black widow spider than a snake than my wife. There you go. Well. But the other part about snakes is, of course, not knowing necessarily, if I encounter snakes, what they are, I'm going to probably avoid them until I know a whole lot more from somebody else about them. And if I hear rattlers, I'm going to definitely deal with that accordingly and freeze or whatever. So   Nick Klingenmith ** 23:55 that's why my fears are rational, because you would be naturally afraid of the potential consequences of the snake, which is what we should be afraid of, right? If we're getting afraid of something, right? I'm afraid of the snake. I'm afraid it's of its sheer existence. My   Michael Hingson ** 24:10 My brother in law, when he was a kid, my wife used to tell this story, and her parents told the story, and they all passed now, but he came in one day, or came from somewhere, and he was holding a Black Widow and going, Yeah, that's really strange, but eventually he let it go, but he was just holding on to it and showing it to everybody. Fine. I don't think he would do that today, though. Yeah,   Nick Klingenmith ** 24:41 Mo, I feel like again, maybe logic and thinking prevents us from doing really silly things like that from time to time. Yeah, there   Michael Hingson ** 24:48 is that. On the other hand, I've never been a skier, and I'm not afraid of skiing, but I love to tease people and say I'm not going to go skiing, because I know what happened to Sonny Bono and I know. Those trees are out there waiting for me. And no matter where I am in relation to the trees, they're going to come out and get me. And in reality, I know intellectually that if somebody said, Come on, really ski. If I were up in an area where there was a ski resort and we had snow and all that sort of stuff, and there was a reasonably gentle ski slope, I would try it, but it's fun to tease people and say, heck no, I'm not going to go out there and let those trees get   Nick Klingenmith ** 25:28 me. I think what you just said is kind of important, because I look at it like hot sauce, all right. I when I was younger, I could eat the hot or the hot. Nowadays, not so much, but I still enjoy hot sauce, but if it gets too hot, I can't enjoy it at all. It will ruin the entire meal. I can't even eat it. And that's sort of where the fear comes in, or doing things that we're fearful of, because if you just throw me right into it, that's not going to be exhilarating, and that's not going to be something I'm going to come back from and want to come back from and want to do again and say, I conquered that. That's not going to expand my universe. That's going to send me crawling under the bed. So, yeah, if you don't like the ski, if you're afraid of the trees, the bunny slope is where you need to be. Well,   Michael Hingson ** 26:14 having having never skied, I would want to start out there anyway, but, um, but I know intellectually, I'm not really afraid of it. I've just never really been around skiing. Now, my wife was in a wheelchair her whole life, so we really never were up visiting her, her brother, my brother in law, or in any other area, when we were really around in a skiing environment, which is what it's really about i i would never avoid skiing, but it's just not the thing that is the most exciting thing for me to do. I've ice skated in my life, and I was out on an ice skating rink for a few hours, and at the very end, I fell and sprained my ankle. And I haven't really been ice skating since, but I am, but I I'm not afraid to go do it. It's just again. It's not something that that I've done, but I, I think life is an adventure, and I love to explore things. And you mentioned hot sauce, there used to be a show on Food Network with Bobby Flay, and I'm forgetting the other guy, who was, oh, I'm blanking out on his name, but it was called grilling and chilling. And he was from, he owned a restaurant down in in Philadelphia called Jack's Firehouse. And we ended up having to go there. Well, we'd end up going there. Didn't have to go there, but Karen, my wife, and I, went there. They have something there, which is made of the hottest peppers and so on that. You can imagine. It's called hot lava, and they bring you a bowl of it, and I touched my finger to it, and then just tasted my finger, and I went, I'm not going to eat that stuff. That's just too hot for me. But again, I can say safely that if I had to, because I didn't have any choice, I wouldn't be so afraid that I wouldn't do something like eat it if it had to be on something to make it edible or whatever. But I do think you're right. I think that fear is really all about what we do and how how we learn to control it, and that's the important part about it. And all too often, we just don't learn to do that. And so as you point out, well over 90% of the things that we fear never will come to pass, never have come to pass, and we're just the ones who are creating the environment that makes it so much scarier for us.   Nick Klingenmith ** 28:36 Plus, are we really afraid of the thing, or are we afraid of the consequences of the thing, yeah? You know, when you really take it all the way back down to the thing you're most afraid of, you may realize what you're most afraid of is a nuisance and not a catastrophe, right?   Michael Hingson ** 28:55 Yeah? And, and for me, um, I'll, I'll face consequences, and what I the only thing I want to as much as possible know is what the consequences are, and then I'll make a, what you would call a rational decision as to whether I want to do it. But I can take the basic fear out of the situation and turn it into making it somewhat analytical. And the result of that is that it becomes what we're talking about here, which is a choice, you   Nick Klingenmith ** 29:29 know, I'll take it back down in the beginning, because I'm sorry, did I cut you off just now? No, no, okay, you know the decisions that went into the storm, right? So we, I gave you the reasons as to why we were there, but why we decided to stay. But then there were other things to consider. Um, I mean, the house is, like, rated for whatever the wind the windows go 140 like it's a new roof, blah, blah, blah, like it's, it's about as safe as it can get, all right, we we weren't going to die. We weren't going to get flooded. We sandbagged. Everything we did, all this, whatever. So then the decision had to be like, if it is bad, we have to understand, if there's like, catastrophic damage to the area and something goes wrong, they're not going to be able to get to us. So we might be without days. You know, we know. We knew we would lose power. We might be without food, water and access to other human beings and communications for up to, like, a week. So we prepared for that. That said, right, we were as logically prepared as possible. When you're sitting in the middle of a cat four hurricane, I'm not going to tell you I wasn't scared. I mean, like you could look out the window and even the middle of, I mean, it was, it was late when it hit, I mean, trees that don't move were swaying hard back and forth, and you weren't totally unsure that one of them wasn't going to end up in your living room. So those were completely natural fears, even though I was as secure as it could logically be. It's a cat four hurricane, and it can do what it wants.   Michael Hingson ** 31:00 Did did you though, while that was happening and you were seeing all that, did the thought also flash in your mind? Yeah, but I did make the choice to stay here so I can deal with it, or I will deal with as best I can. I   Nick Klingenmith ** 31:13 was already prepared for, you know, in my mind I had, I mean, by the door, we had two doors that were accessible because we barricaded everything else up. And by each of them were, you know, shoes, towels, wet gear, things of case I needed to, case a tree came through and crushed and I had to do something I don't know, whatever, like, you know, the the car was in a position. If we had to bug out, we could bug out. If it, you know, we kept the lifted vehicle here, move the other one down the road. Preparations were about as made. But this is where obstacle course racing literally taught me the process to this. Because I love running Ultras, 50 Ks, you know, 70 obstacles up mountains, 10 to 12 hour days of just misery, because everything will go wrong. Everything will go wrong. Whatever your race plan is, things are going to go wrong. And so I've literally just been practicing tackling one unexpected obstacle at a time, and that's all it is. It's a mental process of right? You prepare for what you can and when things happen, you have to just pause and say, what is the obstacle? What is the challenge I'm facing? What is the outcome I need, and what needs to be done to achieve it? Go   Michael Hingson ** 32:29 deal with that obstacle, and then go to the next one. That's   Nick Klingenmith ** 32:33 That's it. I mean, if, if Windows got punctured out, and then we do this, if something else happened, then you begin to prioritize, protect the dogs. My wife is fully capable of taking care of herself and also doing things to protect the home. So we had our assignments, but instead, you know, because of that, she fell asleep in the middle of the worst of it, which is a good thing. The dogs were comfortable. Nothing bad happened. And I mean, we lost power. But whatever that happens.   Michael Hingson ** 33:01 I was in a sports car rally once, and I was the navigator, so the the course, the instructions were in braille, and I started to read it, and then, and I was reading to the driver, so that the driver followed directions, and I started to get a little bit ahead, and the driver said, no, no, no, don't do that. All I want to know is, what's our next job? And that struck a chord with me, because I I realized, Oh, he wants to focus on just the one thing which makes perfect sense. And that's been a and I was like, 13 at the time. That was a life lesson, though, that I that I really took to heart. Again. You can think about all sorts of things. You do need to make preparations, but when you're in the middle of something, ultimately, you've got to deal with it one step at a time. It's   Nick Klingenmith ** 33:57 It's like chess. You want to consider all your moves, but you only make one move at a time, and I'll tell you, this is something that is so idiot proof I hate that it's taken me 45 years to really get the hang of it, but there's been no better teacher for me in that than sobriety, because I truly learned one day at a time, living and as an entrepreneur and A new speaker and a new coach. This past 18 months, it's sometimes been hour at a time living because life continues to happen, but the way that I will solve most of my problems is with the new action. And so I and you can't just ignore things all the time, but I can say for one hour, I'm focused on this right now. And I literally will say out loud often, no, I'm doing this right now. I'm doing this right now. Even on my run, sometimes I'm like, nope, hey, I'm here right now.   Michael Hingson ** 34:51 Do you do things like, when you're running, listen to podcasts or anything like that, or do you just focus on the running? Neither I listen to music and day. Mean, okay, well, so you you do other things while you're running. Okay, why? I shouldn't have just said podcast. But rather, I pay   Nick Klingenmith ** 35:07 attention to because I run by heart rate. So it'll be like 10 minutes at this zone, 10 minutes at this zone, back and forth. So I have to pay attention. But I set my watch to heart rate. I don't even look at the pace and and so I have to monitor that loosely every, you know, just a little bit at my watch. Also, I will have to look at my diabetes, my blood sugar, every 10 minutes, 15 minutes or so. But beyond that, glucose monitor, yeah, I have it on my phone, yeah. So I'll do that. And then, other than that, I listen to music, and my playlist is very eclectic, but I, I will daydream of things, you know, this is where I set and just daydream of really big goals, or race goals or life goals, and just just fantasize like just, let's say it drift away into that. But running   Michael Hingson ** 35:59 gives you the opportunity to do that, which is what's so cool. I There are things that that I do that I call them sort of brainless activities, but I do them with the idea that while they're going on, I can be thinking about other things. I don't have to focus my full attention on them. And the result of that is that I do accomplish other things, or I set goals, or, as you say, daydreaming things happen because of that.   Nick Klingenmith ** 36:28 And for me, I learned a long time ago. Even though I can be a fierce competitor, I'll go back to my beach volleyball days. Let's say you and I met before the game. You were we're going to play against each other, and I liked you. We were casual with each other. Whatever I would play great. But let's say for some reason we didn't like each other, and then all of a sudden I was kind of pissed off. I would play terrible. I I don't play well, like that. I play well, and I'm loose having fun, yeah. And so since I run my heart rate, I am acutely aware of what a negative a negative thought does to your body, because I literally will turn my thoughts to something negative. And even though I am not making any more effort, I'm not running any faster, my heart rate is jumping six to eight beats a minute. Yeah, so that's also why I don't want to solve problems when I'm out there. You know, that's where I do want to drift away, because when I'm in my work day, right? I'm not daydreaming, I'm working. I'm focused on tasks and things that I can do with other people or places that are required to do during work time.   Michael Hingson ** 37:37 But it's great to have the opportunity to just let your mind go. And I think we need to do more of that. One of the things I also advocate a lot is that people should take time at night, when they're falling asleep or just before, and be introspective, think about what happened during the day, and do it in a in a constructive way. Never say, why did this fail? Why was I a failure here? But rather, what can I learn from this that didn't go as well as I expected? I've learned to not ever call myself my own worst critic anymore. I'm my own best teacher, and that's the way it should be, because first of all, it's a positive thing, and secondly, I am my own best teacher. No one could teach me anything. They can provide me with information, but I really have to teach myself and understand it and emotionally and intellectually deal with it. But I think it's it's so important to have that time just to let your mind go off and do things.   Nick Klingenmith ** 38:36 One of the worst things as people that we do is we start the day with yesterday, yeah. And one of the ways to prevent that, which takes practice, because we're used to it, is we also have to finish the day the day before. So like you're talking about, and this is part of my sobriety, too. It's take that daily inventory, and then I like to after doing sort of doing that exercise myself, I'll also say a nightly prayer, and then I'm going to meditate for at least five minutes, sometimes 30 to 45 probably five. And at that point I'm not trying to think about anything. And I go that that point is when I'm I'm listening or, right, you know, just trying to clear it out. But I think I remember a couple years ago, I was training for this race, and it was a big race, 50k mountain race, and I started to kind of have a panic moment of like, Oh, my God, I have to do all this training. What am I going to do? How am I going to prepare for this? I'm never going to do it in time. And so I asked myself, well, what's the most important thing I need to do right now to hit my goal? And the answer was, I needed to make sure I woke up to do my training in the morning, because that's the only other thing I can impact right I can't do anything about the next three months. So then I asked myself, well, if I need to make that happen, what is the most important thing that needs to happen right now for me to hit my goals? And this is when I was stretching and meditating at night. And I was like, well, I need a good night's sleep so I'll wake up and exercise. Okay, what's the most important thing I can do right now to make sure I have a good night's sleep? Go to sleep. Mountain came down to one breath. Yeah, I hear you. And that's it. I mean, it's I have it written on my whiteboard over here. It says, break things down to the stupid Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 40:26 and eventually get to sleep.   Nick Klingenmith ** 40:28 I mean, it's just the one, the baby steps that I can take. I remember, I was reading Miracle Morning at that same time, and I used to, because I was, I was struggling, and so I was using my meditations for visualization, and I was spending too much time there trying to create a future. And it wasn't giving me that relaxation, and it wasn't. It was actually stressing me out more, and I just needed to relax and just to focus on the single most controllable thing I could and just taking it, you know, take some pressure off myself, and that really was such a simple fix.   Michael Hingson ** 41:01 Yeah, I hear you, if I may, you've talked about being sober now for I think you said 10 years, yep, what? What led you to finally make that decision that you had to change and be sober.   Nick Klingenmith ** 41:17 My final drunk was very public. And by what I mean by that is I was supposed to be the speaker at my company's conference the next day in Vegas, and instead, I got thrown out of the hotel and trespassed in the middle of the night for trying to have sex with a hooker in a broom closet after apparently getting in a fight with somebody. Well, my girlfriend slept down the hall. I wasn't allowed back at the hotel. Told my boss, my lawyer, I lied to my girlfriend about whatever we were getting thrown out of. It took about five hours for us to get a new hotel, and when my head finally hit the pillow, I said out loud, I don't want to live this way anymore. But that was just the final moment. Because what led up to that was I was a very highly functional alcoholic, and I had been for only a number of years. To be honest, I had alcohol wasn't a big part of my life for a while, and then when it came back in, it came back in rapidly. And so really only a period about five or six years I became a highly functional alcoholic, and I mean highly my career flourished during this time, you know. And the thing is, I didn't I wasn't an everyday drinker. I didn't get drunk every time I drank, and bad things didn't happen every time I did, but more and more, my decisions were getting more selfish, my behavior was getting more destructive, and alcohol was just playing more of a bigger role in my life. So I it was when I got cancer the third time that gave me the excuse I needed to crawl deep into the bottle, because at that point it was already sort of critical mass. I wouldn't go anywhere unless I knew I was going to get drunk. Everything was selfish. I didn't know about it. I didn't think about it, and I was actually ready to quit because I didn't like the way other people would talk about me. So that sounds like a healthy reason, right? And so so I tried to quit on my own, and I spent a couple months just white knuckling it, and I tempted fate, and I went to every happy hour. I threw beer Olympics in my house. And I just, I think I wanted to prove that I could do both without, you know, be who I was, without being who I was. But what I also didn't realize at a time that alcohol wasn't the problem. Alcohol was just a symptom. Who I was was the problem. And so when I got cancer for the third time, they told me they couldn't operate. Um, spoiler alert, the tumor's still there. It's been there over 10 years, but that gave me an excuse to crawl deep into the bottle. And so for about a month, I mean, I just, I was drinking at that point, because who's going to mess with me, right? I have inoperable cancer. That was the excuse I needed, and it that's what really led me to take the gloves off, which led me to Vegas. So I tell you, this cancer saved my life, because I would have died for my drink and long before I would have died from the cancer. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 44:19 I hear you. Well, you've said that you recognize that you didn't overcome adversity. You survived it. What does what does that mean? And how do you overcome adversity?   Nick Klingenmith ** 44:29 I understand surviving it is when? How did I how do I say it for someone else? You know? It was because, as I'm standing there in the totality, here's the thing I told you, how I was growing up. You know, this sort of independent kid? Right child of neglect grows up to be independent, weird, right child with trust issues grows up to be self sufficient, cool, but at some time along the way, that just becomes resentment. It and fear, and it works against us, and that's what creates a little bit of the victim mindset, and so, and it's easy to get that way when bad things happen to us, we feel like it's unfair. I mean, it's just natural. Nobody's immediately like, oh, I guess it's just my turn. So I think living with all those things. But this is where, where part of it gets confusing is I survived something, and people would tell me how tough I was. I would all I did was not die from cancer. I didn't do surgery, I didn't prescribe treatment. All I did was not die. I didn't cure cancer for anyone else. So I survived it. I didn't overcome it. All I did was show up to a doctor's appointment like, I'm lucky that I got thyroid cancer and not prostrate cancer. That's it. So I didn't overcome anything. I'm a diabetic. I'm still diabetic. How did I overcome diabetes? By having it. No sir, I was surviving it. All I was doing was being diabetic, but the mindset of thinking that, man, maybe when am I going to get a break? All these things keep happening to me, happening to me. When you think that way, you're not overcoming any of it. You are just surviving it. And you know what? God bless you. Because I know it's hard for a lot people go through a lot, and it's sometimes hard to handle. To overcome it, though, we have to do something with it. That's how you overcome it. I'm a diabetic who helps other diabetics realize they can be ultra endurance athletes. I race with the words fuck cancer written across my chest. I'm currently fundraising for the American Cancer Society for men were pink. I do what I can to help other people who are hearing cancer. I have cancer for the first you have cancer for the first time. That's how I get back there. I try to help other alcoholics recover and get sober. I write books and share about my fears and things that other people can relate to in the hopes that they, too, can overcome those obstacles. And that's how I overcome it. Those things lose power over me now, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 47:08 and I think that last sentence is the real key to the whole thing. You're not giving them power. You're you're putting your power in your mindset elsewhere. You're not giving power to diabetes. Yeah, it's there. You're not giving power to drink. Since you become sober, have you ever taken a drink anymore? No, not at all. So you know you you took away the power, and you're putting the power into the mindset and all the things that you're expressing, which is so important, I think again, that's so much of what most of us tend not to learn, that a lot of the things that we deal with, we deal with because we give them the power, rather than moving forward and putting the power where it really needs to go.   Nick Klingenmith ** 48:04 It's we raise, we raise kids this way, man. And I mean, they're raising the moment to say it's not fair. Wait, everyone's supposed to get a turn, and that's not true. Well, everyone does get a turn, but they get it in a different way, and something I've come to appreciate, because here's here's something that if I wasn't a speaker, and if I had not written a book, I would never talk about cancer, because I feel like I'm sitting at the kitty table, and it'd be, quite frankly, like it's hard for me, like I had an easy road, considering cancer. I'm alive. I've had multiple surgeries, but I mean, God, compared to what so many people that I know have gone through and the people that we've lost, it took me a long time to be okay with the fact that I'm alive and to realize too that that's not something I need to apologize for, but especially if I'm gonna be a speaker and talk about having cancer, and in any way, let that, like me benefit from that, then I have to do something with that. That's what gives me the fuel. And I didn't know how to it was the first time that that I wrote f cancer across my chest. It was because a friend of mine had told me about their diagnosis and they were struggling with it, and I just, I didn't know how to help them, and I just, I just wanted to let them know they weren't alone. So literally, that morning, at five in the morning, I grabbed Sharpie and I wrote it on my chest, and I went out and I did the race, and I was expecting people, their kids around. I was a little iffy about using the F bomb, but I think cancer deserves all four letters, and everyone intended to agree with me that day, I was really surprised at just people tell me about their their loved ones they've lost, or the people struggling with it, or about their the people that have thrived. And I mean, I love hearing the survivor stories, because you don't hear enough of them, yeah, and it, what I've realized is you just. People know they're not alone. They just let it's like you're just letting people have told me about, like, their four year old niece while under the barbed wire crawl of a race. I mean, like, clearly, they they need to share. And so if that's if I help even just that little bit, then that's the role I get to play. And I say, get to play. And   Michael Hingson ** 50:19 I'm with you. I hear you. I talk about resilience, I talk about teamwork and trust. And, of course, tell my September 11 story. And I decided to start to do that. Well, first of all, it was my wife and I together. We decided that I should do that, because if we could help people move forward from September 11, and then, of course, later, from so many other things, teach people that blindness isn't the problem they think it is, and teach them about guide dogs and other things like that, then it makes life worthwhile. So I love to tell people today that what we decided was that selling life and philosophy was a whole lot more rewarding and satisfying than managing a computer hardware sales team and selling computer hardware, and it is   Nick Klingenmith ** 51:03 the other night. The conference I spoke at was a sales conference for a company in the logistics industry, but I've been in that industry for 20 years. I've spoken at least at a dozen conferences. However, all of them, except this one, were on sales or logistics, this one was on fear and overcoming adversity and finding purpose and finding purpose in your team and just thriving and leading the charge. And it was, it was such a different experience, and so much more fulfilling, yeah, in that 45 minutes than any of the time I'd ever spoken on another stage.   Michael Hingson ** 51:46 What do you think is your your greatest strength as a speaker? What do you really bring to speaking that makes you so successful at it?   Nick Klingenmith ** 51:56 I think that this will change over time as but I'm going to say right now, it's, it's simply my authenticity, and maybe not even that may not even change over time, but I'm very raw. I'm very vulnerable. I hold nothing back, and the thing I hear most about myself is that I'm relatable, and so I would say that would be be a differentiator, especially if you consider and this isn't a bad thing for someone who is far more known or professional or more of a brand name. It's not like they're not being raw and authentic, but it gets lost on their it gets lost on their audience over time, and you know, when they're more mainstream.   Michael Hingson ** 52:41 What do you think the the most powerful technique or tool is that you use that people do relate to in store, in in speaking,   Nick Klingenmith ** 52:53 I speak directly to them and share personal stories. Yeah, that's yeah. I mean, that's it. When I say I I should send you the link later, but I the talk I did the other night. I Maybe it's nervous energy, but I am just back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. But I'll tell you what, I made eye contact with every single person in that room, every other second throughout the thing I was I speak to them, and they are personal stories, then they're completely naked. There's nothing that I won't hold back because you know who I am now the obstacle course racing book, right? None of that matters if it's not, if I'm not completely honest about who I was, if I try to sell myself as having been someone else or something else, then I'm not going to help anybody. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 53:46 Well, and I find, as a speaker, that stories, and they have to be authentic, has to be you, but that stories make a difference. And I've, I've been in situations where a speaker's bureau hired me to go and deliver a speech, and I get there to find out that the speakers bureau was totally inaccurate and incorrect as to the kind of the organization that it was that I was going to speak to. And it taught me to learn that I have to customize every talk I give, and I need to be able to adjust, if you will, on the fly. Sometimes, in the case of one particular talk that I gave, it was a totally different kind of environment. What I was led to believe, fortunately, I could find stories to tell these people that showed that I related to them, and I got invited back to other parts of the organization later because of that. But I think that stories are the most important thing that we as speakers can bring, and they have to be true. They have to be authentic. Can't make it up. People can see through that. A mile away,   Nick Klingenmith ** 54:58 I feel like I have to tell the. Vegas story. It's the lowest moment of my life, and if it just it also just speaks to all of it in one incident. So it's kind of like it, but if the person who needs to hear it, you know, I, I don't want someone to just see who I am now and not relate   Michael Hingson ** 55:22 well, this podcast is all about unstoppable mindset. What are some ways to develop an unstoppable mindset? Do you think   Nick Klingenmith ** 55:28 for one we got to go through to get through it, we have to develop what we've been talking about, this sort of obstacle immunity, or at least this understanding that there's always going to be a next challenge. If we ever think that the mountain will be climbed. We can't be unstoppable. We simply have to accept that the purpose of life is to continue to climb. That's that's one thing, and how do we keep how do we keep doing that? Then achievement. I'm highly achievement driven. You can call it motivated, but I don't think so. I have to look for carrots. So whether it be personal, professional, physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, some sort of development is also how we continue to develop that unstoppable mind. Because the only way to be on there's we can't be 100% unstoppable. We always have to continue to progress and to toughen up and to keep moving for it, one of the things though, that has to be ultimately critical. And people talk about this, but I don't know if they really spend enough time on it. Self belief is the gateway to an unstoppable mindset. You have to believe it before you can see it.   Michael Hingson ** 56:32 Yeah, I'm listening. I just agreed with you. Yeah,   Nick Klingenmith ** 56:36 no, I know I was I was cutting, I was stopping.   Michael Hingson ** 56:39 Yeah, I agree, though. I mean, you've you've got to believe it, and you have to believe it intellectually and in your heart, you have to believe it emotionally as well. It is, as I said, if, if you're not authentic, people will see through you a mile away, no matter what I when, when I started selling, I took a Dale Carnegie sales course, and one of the things that I learned in that course is that the best salespeople are teachers. They're counselors, they guide, but because they're teachers, they also adopt. If they're really successful, stories, they can tell you stories that you, whoever you are, can relate to. And so they've they've analyzed and they understand what you need, and they can tell you stories to show you why what they have will work, or the other side of it is won't work. And I've had that situation happen where I've been selling a product and went into a meeting and learned that clearly what we had didn't work, and it's a choice. Do you still try to push your product on them or not? And I think that that's the worst thing that you can do, is to push a product that's going to jeopardize any relationship you have. And I've told customers in the past, here's why my product won't do what you need. Here's what will. And the result of that has always been calls later that say we really appreciated what you had to say. We've got another opportunity, and you taught us what we need to know your product is perfect. We don't want to put it out to bid. Just tell us a price and we'll order it today. Order it   Nick Klingenmith ** 58:23 today. In the book I published a couple months ago, selling inspired, I actually talk about what I call being a bar stool sales person.   Nick Klingenmith ** 58:34 Just tell personal stories like pretend you're at the bar talking to the prospect, and convey those things, because people do want to buy from people these days, it's tricky, because they are heavily gravitated towards convenience, but so we have to change our approach on how we get to know them, or, more importantly, let them get to know us, especially if you're buying virtually, like a lot of people are These days, it's not the bar stool salesman has to, has to become a social app sales person, essentially. But people buy from people make it easy for them to get to know who you are. Connect on a different level. Because, I mean, I'm even part of a a Spartan group. Excuse me. There's about 15,000 of us in this Facebook community, and we are very strict about not promoting businesses and services and stuff like that. You know, this is supposed to be about obstacle course, racing, tips, tricks, positive vibes, whatever. But I recently suggested, and we just actually implemented something that we're calling it the the What is your profession? Because there's 15,000 people. Now I don't know the 15,000 but I'm actually close. I know several 100, and I'm actually close with several dozen. If any one of those people has a service that I need, I'd rather buy from them, sure. And if any one of them is like, Hey, I do this, and that they're getting the message from me, like you. Said, Hey, Michael, can you do this? Here's my email. Send it done? Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:08 yeah, it's still connectionalism, and no matter what, you've gotta be able to connect or you've gotta create an environment where people want to connect with you again, though, that has to be authentic. You can't just fake it. That'll never work. It's   Nick Klingenmith ** 1:00:27 actually, it's hard for a lot of people. Now, I've been lucky for a while because couple things, going back in time, I've actually just been highly passionate about sales. So as far as like social content, I'd post sales, stuff, whatever. But I say that I'm lucky because of my story. I mean that would be like, you say your story. And what I mean by that is we have something different to talk about. I don't have to talk about being a speaker. I talk about things that are helpful to other people, and it just makes it easier, like, easier to engage now with, like, one of the guys that I'm coaching, he has no earthly idea how to start building or putting out any sort of content. And I'm like, bro, what do you like? He's like, like, just and so he actually posted something about the NHL that night, and it got decent content and feedback. Because I was like, he's like, You know what LinkedIn is not for? I go Shut up if we were at a standing at the bar together, like having a at a networking event. I don't want your spec sheet from your company. Yeah, I want to know what you're interested in and get to know you. So tell me, let people get to know you. That's it. Because when they click on your profile, if they don't, if all they see is your business brand, they're like, Okay, great, moving on.   Michael Hingson ** 1:01:34 Yeah, it is, it is. It is crazy. We you talked earlier about how we bring up kids, and we bring up children in such a strange way. They don't learn to overcome fea

We start off the show with this PSA: Don't call it a comeback, Dysentery is making news again.  Then Dan depresses us with a list of the worst foods you can eat (all the good stuff), then we discuss the declining health of Pope Francis and that leads us into conclaves and the conspiracy behind The Black Pope.  But first, Birthdays and some Sonny Bono talk.  LINKS:Dysentery, the diarrhea-inducing bacterial infection, on the rise in Oregon100 Unhealthiest Foods on The PlanetPope Francis suffers two new episodes of ‘acute respiratory insufficiency' | International | EL PAÍS EnglishDoes "the Black Pope" Wield the True Power in the Vatican? | Catholic Answers Q&AThe Treehouse is a daily DFW based comedy podcast and radio show. Leave your worries outside and join Dan O'Malley, Trey Trenholm, Raj Sharma, and their guests for laughs about current events, stupid news, and the comedy that is their lives. If it's stupid, it's in here.The Treehouse WebsiteDefender OutdoorsCLICK HERE TO DONATE:The RMS Treehouse Listeners Foundation

In this week's episode of Retire in Texas, Darryl Lyons, CEO and Co-Founder of PAX Financial Group, breaks down the critical topic of estate planning and why having a will is essential for protecting your legacy. Many people put off drafting a will, assuming they have time or that their estate isn't complex enough to require one - but history shows that failing to plan can create unnecessary legal battles, tax burdens, and family disputes. Key highlights of the episode include: • The real-life consequences of not having a will, featuring case studies on Prince, Abraham Lincoln, Pablo Picasso, and Sonny Bono. • How probate works and why it can take years to settle an estate without a clear legal plan. • The impact of estate taxes and why high-net-worth individuals could lose up to 50% of their wealth without proper planning. • The roles of trustees, guardians, and corporate trustees in managing your estate effectively. • Practical steps to ensure your assets are distributed according to your wishes. Your will isn't just a legal document, it's a conversation about the future of your wealth and your family's well-being. Don't leave it to chance. For additional insights and to learn how PAX Financial Group can help guide your estate planning journey, visit www.PAXFinancialGroup.com. If you found this episode valuable, share it with someone who could benefit!

The pop star turned politician went from making up one half of Sonny & Cher to serving in the U.S. House of Representatives, a position he held until his death in 1998. 

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A successful businesswoman and well-known political leader, Congresswoman Mary Bono (ret.) was hailed as the "embodiment of powerful American womanhood" by the Washington Times, rising to become Chairman of the influential U.S. House Subcommittee on Commerce, Manufacturing and Trade. In April of 2022, Mary was awarded the prestigious Distinguished Alumni Merit Award from her alma mater, the University of Southern California. Today, she is widely recognized as a powerful advocate for issues important for addiction prevention, treatment, and recovery. Mary was elected in 1998 to serve California's 44th (later changed to 45th) Congressional District after the untimely death of her husband, entertainer turned Congressman Sonny Bono. And in 2012, she became the first ever Chairman of the Women's Policy Committee (WPC) in the House. HELP SUPPORT OUR FIGHT AGAINST ADDICTION. DONATE HERE: https://www.patreon.com/theaddictionpodcast   PART OF THE GOOD NEWS PODCAST NETWORK. AUDIO VERSIONS OF ALL OUR EPISODES: https://theaddictionpodcast.com CONTACT US: The Addiction Podcast - Point of No Return theaddictionpodcast@yahoo.com Intro and Outro music by: Decisions by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Source: http://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1100756 Artist: http://incompetech.com/

Mary Bono served 15 years in the House, representing a Palms Springs-based seat in Riverside County, CA. She initially entered politics and the House after the tragic passing of her late husband Sonny Bono - the world-famous singer / TV star turned mayor and ultimately congressman. In this conversation, she talks the political rise of Sonny Bono, running for and winning a seat in the House amidst tragedy, getting her bearings as a member herself, putting her own stamp on her service, taking tough votes as a moderate, championing the cause of prescription drug abuse prevention, and much more in an illuminating conversation with someone who's had one of the most unique and fascinating careers in congressional politics. IN THIS EPISODEGrowing up in the LA area as a daughter of a doctor and scientist and early, formative experiences as a competitive gymnast...The story of when then-Mary Whitaker met Sonny Bono the day after graduating from USC...The challenges of being the spouse of a celebrity and politician...How red-tape run-ins with Palm Springs city government led to Sonny Bono's entry into politics...Sonny Bono's forays into national politics in the mid 90s...What Sonny Bono would've thought of President Trump...The passion projects she believe Sonny Bono would've left politics to pursue...How she made the decision to run for his House seat after Sonny Bono's tragic passing in early 1998...Memories from a whirlwind first few weeks and months of a new member thrown into office in a special election...How she built her own legacy over time in the House...Some of the most intense moments on the House floor in her tenure...The vote against GOP leadership that "got her in the most trouble"...What led to her passion in tackling Rx drug abuse and her experiences of being one of only members who initially took this issue seriously...Memories from her presence as the lone GOP woman on the House Judiciary Committee during the Clinton Impeachment saga...The decision made by Tom Delay that "incensed" Rep. Bono...The bizarre story of a forged love letter from Rep. Bono to another member of the House...The experience of dating and marrying a fellow member of the House...Representing a district that shifted from safe(ish) Republican to a swing seat...Her current projects and passions, including the great podcast Sagely Speaking with Mary Bono...AND 2-tops, Bruce Babbitt, bison farms, Chaz Bono, G.K. Butterfield, Ken Calvert, Lois Capps, Cher, Kellyanne Conway, The Desert Sun, David Dreier, Jo Ann Emerson, Dianne Feinstein, Gerald Ford, King Gillette, Lindsay Graham, Fred Grandy, height jokes, hysterical mothers, the Inland Empire, Angelina Jolie, Gil Kerlikowske, Olga Korbut, Steve Largent, Jerry Lewis, Love Boat, Abbe Lowell, John McCain, The National Enquirer, Anne Northup, Tom Osborn, Nancy Pelosi, Ronald Reagan, Hal Rogers, Karl Rove, SNL, Salton Sea, Tea Party onslaughts, Terry Schiavo, The Waltons...& more!

Chris Molanphy returns to Pop Pantheon for the second and final part in our Cher series. Chris and Louie pick up on Cher's career just as she scored a hit in 1979 with “Take Me Home” during the disco craze. Then they track her string of failures through the early eighties before her massively successful pivot to acting, including her Best Actress Oscar win for 1987's Moonstruck. Next they dig into her best-selling album to date, 1989's Heart of Stone, her infomercial era in the nineties and Sonny Bono's tragic death in 1998 which paved the way for yet another comeback with 1998's Believe. Finally, they discuss contemporary Cher, her formidable staying power and lasting legacy and rank Cher in the Official Pop Pantheon.Come to our dance party Main Pop Girls on 2/1 at Parkside Lounge in NYC!Listen to Pop Pantheon's Cher Essentials Playlist on SpotifyJoin Pop Pantheon: All Access, Our Patreon Channel, for Exclusive Content and MoreShop Merch in Pop Pantheon's StoreFollow DJ Louie XIV on InstagramFollow DJ Louie XIV on TwitterFollow Pop Pantheon on Instagram

Cher has been a global star for over six decades. Her career has spanned music, television and film and throughout that time her outfits have made flamboyant fashion statements. She was born Cherilyn Sarkisian in El Centro, California and had a peripatetic childhood. Her mother married six times and with each new husband the family moved house.In 1962, when she was 16, Cher met Sonny Bono in a coffee shop. She moved in with Sonny as his housekeeper and personal assistant and began singing backing vocals for his boss, the music producer Phil Spector. In 1965 Sonny and Cher released I Got You Babe which reached number one in the US and UK charts – knocking the Beatles off the top of the chart.Cher is an award-winning actor who has starred in films including Silkwood, Mask and Moonstruck. In October 1998 she released her 22nd studio album Believe – the title track remains the biggest-selling number one by a solo female artist in British chart history.DISC ONE: Whiter Shade of Pale - Procol Harum DISC TWO: Love Me Tender - Elvis Presley DISC THREE: A Dream Is a Wish Your Heart Makes - Ilene Woods DISC FOUR: Evil - Stevie Wonder DISC FIVE: You've Lost That Lovin' Feelin' - The Righteous Brothers DISC SIX: I Can't Make You Love Me - Bonnie Raitt DISC SEVEN: Minute By Minute - The Doobie Brothers DISC EIGHT: A Change Is Gonna Come - Sam Cooke BOOK CHOICE: The Saracen Blade by Frank Yerby LUXURY ITEM: An eyelash curler CASTAWAY'S FAVOURITE: A Change Is Gonna Come - Sam Cooke Presenter Lauren Laverne Producer Paula McGinley

Quatre lettres connues dans le monde entier depuis les années 60, Cher a non seulement été une des artistes féminines pionnières dans le domaine de l'indépendance par rapport au mâle omnipotent mais elle a surtout survécu aux modes musicales successives dans lesquelles elle a régné. Cher, c'est quelque part le modèle de Madonna. Vingt ans avant elle, elle se faisait remarquer par ses tenues osées, provoquantes mais pourtant en phase avec la mode de son époque, pardon, de ses époques. Évidemment, à la différence de Madonna, Cher n'ira pas au-delà de la provocation vestimentaire qui met en évidence un corps sculptural sur lequel le temps ne semble pas avoir de prise. Car, comme elle le raconte : on la croit beaucoup plus libérée qu'elle ne l'est vraiment. Cela dit, Cher, c'est une Story américaine. Déjà son physique atypique est hérité d'un père arménien, routier escroc qu'elle n'a quasiment pas connu, et d'une mère dont les racines familiales sont à la fois allemande, cherokee, britannique et française. Une mère qui est une sorte de Marylin Monroe qui n'a pas réussi. Elle est très belle, ce n'est pas la question, mais ses rôles au théâtre et au cinéma, nous sommes à Hollywood, Los Angeles, ne lui permettent pas de se faire remarquer si ce n'est par des hommes, avec qui, ça ne colle jamais. Est-ce la raison pour laquelle Cherilyn qui a raccourci son nom en Cher tout simplement, change de visage aussi facilement qu'un David Bowie. On l'a connu Soul avec Phil Spector, Hippie avec son premier mari Sonny Bono avec qui elle forme le duo à succès Sonny & Cher, présentatrice de variétés à la télévision, petite amie de Gene Simmons le bassiste de Kiss dans sa période disco, avant que le succès ne l'abandonne à la fin des années 70.En 1982, elle croit relancer sa carrière grâce au second album de Meat Loaf mais rien n'y fait. Pensez-vous qu'elle se démonte ? Pas du tout. Cher déménage à New York, qu'elle a connue adolescente, pour jouer au théâtre. Ce n'est pas la même chose mais Broadway, c'est pas mal après tout. Et puis, elle n'est pas n'importe qui, et la comédie, elle connaît, elle a eu un super prof. La preuve : le cinéma arrive bien vite comme les Golden Globe et Oscars et en 1984 c'est le Prix d'Interprétation féminine à Cannes pour Mask. En 1989, c'est le retour aux hits grâce un patron de label qui traîne aussi dans la production de films, Mr David Geffen : deux singles en effet brisent la malédiction, Cher est de retour. Par la suite, tout ne sera pas aussi heureux mais fin 1998, la sauce prend comme jamais quand Cher endosse un nouveau costume, celui de la dance et des rythmes électros. C'était il y a 26 ans, Cher était à nouveau la mégastar des Top40 et autres Ultratop.

As a founding member of The Beach Boys, Brian Wilson led a music revolution that went far beyond the ‘60s “California sound” or even pop music generally. But fame and success carry a price. And for Wilson, the price he paid was his mental health and later physical well-being, as well. Substance abuse further complicated his life. In this 1991 interview Wilson looks back on his life and career as he talks about his memoir. Get your copy of Wouldn't It Be Nice by Brian Wilson As an Amazon Associate, Now I've Heard Everything earns from qualifying purchases.You may also enjoy my interviews with Sonny Bono and Mikcy Dolenz For more vintage interviews with celebrities, leaders, and influencers, subscribe to Now I've Heard Everything on Spotify, Apple Podcasts. and now on YouTube #BeachBoys #Californiasound #1960s #drugabuse

Quand le 19 octobre 1998, Cher publie un énième nouveau single, qui oserait parier un centime d'euro qui n'existe pas encore qu'elle va en vendre 10 millions d'exemplaires. 10 millions ! Et vingt millions de copies de l'album du même nom. Elle n'a bien sûr pas connu une terrible et longue traversée du désert comme Henri Salvador mais quand même : personne ne l'attend à ce niveau, c'est-à-dire la première place du Top dans 23 pays. A 53 ans, on peut encore et toujours parler de miracle, de rêve américain pour cette fille aux multiples pères de passage et d'une actrice métisse Cherokee-Franco-Anglo-Allemande. Ah oui, j'ai oublié de vous dire que que Cheril Sarkisian porte aussi le nom de son beau-père, Gilbert La Pierre. Est-ce la raison pour laquelle Cherilyn qui a raccourci son nom en Cher tout simplement, change de visage aussi facilement qu'un David Bowie. On l'a connu Soul avec Phil Spector, Hippie avec son premier mari Sonny Bono avec qui elle forme le duo à succès Sonny & Cher, présentatrice de variétés à la télévision, petite amie de Gene Simmons le bassiste de Kiss dans sa période disco, avant que le succès ne l'abandonne à la fin des années 70. En 1982, elle croit relancer sa carrière grâce au second album de Meat Loaf mais rien n'y fait. Pensez-vous qu'elle se démonte ? Pas du tout. Cher déménage à New York, qu'elle a connue adolescente, pour jouer au théâtre. Ce n'est pas la même chose mais Broadway, c'est pas mal après tout. Et puis, elle n'est pas n'importe qui, et la comédie, elle connaît, elle a eu un super prof. La preuve : le cinéma arrive bien vite comme les Golden Globe et Oscars et en 1984 c'est le Prix d'Interprétation féminine à Cannes pour Mask. En 1989, c'est le retour aux hits grâce un patron de label qui traîne aussi dans la production de films, Mr David Geffen : deux singles en effet brisent la malédiction, Cher est de retour. Par la suite, tout ne sera pas aussi heureux mais fin 1998, la sauce prend comme jamais quand Cher endosse un nouveau costume, celui de la dance et des rythmes électros. C'était il y a 26 ans, Cher était à nouveau la mégastar des Top 40 et autres Ultratop.

Début des années 60. Une autre époque où aux Etats-Unis, les jeunes ont une telle envie d'être majeurs qu'ils mentent sur leur âge. Pas tous évidemment, disons surtout ceux qui ont été privés de leur enfance et adolescence. C'est le cas de la jeune Cher qui, bien que devenue fille de riche grâce à un beau-père fortuné, n'a connu jusque-là que l'insécurité. Fille d'une belle actrice, célibataire à répétition, elle n'a connu que des départs, alternant misère et changements brutaux d'environnement, bref l'instabilité à un âge où tout ne devrait être qu'insouciance. Alors elle est là, attablée dans un snack bar de Los Angeles avec des copines plus âgées qu'elle mais qui, physique atypique oblige, ignorent qu'elle n'a que seize ans. Étant situé sous les studios et bureaux d'une radio, le lieu est fréquenté par tous ceux qui évoluent dans l'industrie musicale. Ainsi quand un gars qui est loin d'être bâti comme un Dieu, entre dans l'établissement et se fait héler par les filles, Cher devine à son attitude qu'il est spécial.Sonny Bono, qui prétend que sa famille sicilienne descend de Napoléon Bonaparte, tu comprends, on a écourté le nom en arrivant à New York, est un gentil baratineur. Et c'est vrai qu'il est gentil. Quand Cher décide d'abandonner l'école et de vivre sa vie, son beau-père lui impose de travailler pour payer la moitié des frais. Le boulot ne se passe pas bien, Cher va perdre sa colocation mais ne veut pas rentrer chez ses parents. Alors elle supplie le fameux Sonny, onze ans de plus qu'elle, en procédure de divorce, de partager son appart qui se trouve juste à côté. Elle a 18 ans bien sûr, dit-elle, mais elle n'a pas de souci à se faire. Elle n'est le genre de Sonny, qui vit avec elle jusqu'au jour où sa maman, rendant une visite à l'improviste à sa fille, découvre que la soit disant coloc hôtesse de l'air est en fait un coloc de 27 ans. Départ forcé, retour à la maison et quand Sonny se pointe, la maman lâche le morceau et menace de dénoncer le vicelard. Sonny apprenant le mensonge est fâché, Cher perd tout.Car s'il n'était pas très bien payé par la firme de disques pour laquelle il travaillait quand Cher a emménagé chez lui, Sonny est depuis devenu l'assistant d'un certain Phil Spector, auteur de chansons mais surtout producteur à succès, admiré de tous car il a inventé une nouvelle manière d'enregistrer la musique, un nouveau son, qu'il a d'ailleurs appelé le Mur du son. Disons-le tout de suite, c'est déjà un drôle de type, manipulateur et tyrannique dans le travail. Cher l'avait d'ailleurs croisé quelques mois plus tôt lorsque son petit ami de l'époque était entré à son service. Non seulement, elle ne l'avait plus revu mais lors de leur unique rencontre, Spector avait fait une mauvaise blague en français à laquelle l'adolescente avait répondu dans la même langue. Voulez-vous coucher avec moi ? avait-il dit à son voisin en la regardant, ce à quoi elle avait répondu, Oui mais pour de l'argent, alors. Et donc, l'histoire entre Sonny et Cher serait-elle terminée ?

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We Burn Daylight by Bret Anthony Johnston. This is a novel based on the infamous 1993 Waco siege between the FBI and a cult known as the Branch Davidians (named after David Koresh, their leader). A cult has been established in the same area, led by a charlatan named Perry Cullen who is known as The Lamb, and the story centres on two star crossed teenagers who are caught up amongst it. Jaye's mother is a devotee of The Lamb and she and Jaye are living in the compound, while Roy's Dad is the local sheriff who's becoming increasingly worried about the cult stockpiling weapons and the potential for disaster. The kids find themselves at the centre of something apocalyptic. Cher: The Memoir, Part One. This is Cher's account of her life up until the early 1980s - there's so much material it's been split into two books and the second will come next year. It's a fascinating read - her family background and upbringing were unconventional, to say the least, along with the story of her marriages to Sonny Bono and Greg Allman, and the highs and lows of her early professional life. As we all know, she's had - and is still having - an extraordinary career, which is well worth reading about. LISTEN ABOVESee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Mary Tyler Moore, Tony Curtis, Jonathon Brandmeier, Joseph Bologna, and, in a brief but satisfying cameo, Sonny Bono all deliver the turkey in this spoof about a dysfunctional family with about 300 different storylines compressed into an 89-minute-long running time! Return guest Cesare of The Rad Revival House Podcast joins me in a spirited discussion about this head-scratcher of a network TV movie. Plus, poll results, interactive trivia, and listener shout-outs!

Today on The Social, would you ever go to a sauna to network?  And, how do you feel about "treat culture”?  Then, Cher reveals that she didn't know that her ex-husband Sonny Bono owned 95 percent of her company and she owned nothing!  And, should we take teenage love seriously? Then, should you get sick days to care for a pet? And, wellness expert Deepak Chopra says you should never be too busy to meditate. Then, is being "boring" a deal breaker in a relationship?  Plus, Princess Diana's dance teacher opens up about special memories from their nine year friendship.

11-20-24 Afternoon Rush - Bachelorette Jenn Tran Reveals She Is Crashing On Sasha's Couch & Conspiracies That Mike Tyson Threw The Jake Paul Fight A Trading Secrets Podcast Clip! More mike Tyson commentary, this podcast thinks he threw the fight, plus how much Jake Paul actually made. Also speaking of Money, Cher admits that Sonny Bono stole all her money, also a memorable speech at the world premiere of the movie Rust, Bachelorette Jenn Tran admits to sleeping on dancing partner Sasha's couch and jelly roll's amazing weight loss transformation. go to patreon.com/daveneal for more bonus content!

Nicole Kidman is finally addressing the infamous 2001 photo that turned into a viral meme symbolizing post-divorce liberation. Cher alleges that her former husband not only swindled her out of her earnings but also tightly controlled her personal life during their 11-year marriage. Katy Perry and John Mayer are turning heads again—this time, for a friendly reunion nearly ten years after their breakup. Don't forget to vote in today's poll on Twitter at @naughtynicerob or in our Facebook group.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On this episode of TMZ Live: TikToker approached by private investigators about Diddy case speaks out on 'TMZ Live,' Dave Coulier defends John Stamos after bald cap backlash amid cancer battle, Trump's nominee for U.S. Attorney General Matt Gaetz continues to combat sexual misconduct allegations, and Cher reveals Sonny Bono thought about killing her during their marriage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today on The Social, Cher reveals that she didn't know that her ex-husband Sonny Bono owned 95 percent of her company and she owned nothing!  Then, should we take teenage love seriously? And, should you get sick days to care for a pet? Then, wellness expert Deepak Chopra says you should never be too busy to meditate. Plus, is being "boring" a deal breaker in a relationship?

"Her habits have always been a little strange, but she seems to have taken things to a darker place lately as she gets more and more obsessed with not losing A.E.," an insider said about the 38-year-old music producer the singer has been dating on and off since November 2022, spilled an insider. The Witches of Eastwick star, 78, "tries to act like she's got this under control, but the age difference is a big source of anxiety for her, she's paranoid about looking too old," a source dished. Cher dabbled in other shadowy practices like consulting psychics to stay in touch with ex Sonny Bono, who was 62 when he died in a skiing accident in 1998, and her mother, Georgia Holt, who passed away at age 96 in 2022, squealed a spy.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

BOO! Happy Halloween all! We are episode 138(Yes, I love the Misfits) The Troika is back this week with a Deep Dive Into Demons(album title rights reserved.) WE begin with some of the older of the bunch, the Judaic. We also discuss Disney-scooter morality, Sonny Bono, Vlade Divac and more, enjoy!

Cher's gender-switch son Chaz Bono is shacking up in a new $2.5 million mansion with his fiancee, former child star Shara Blue Mathes, in anticipation of their wedding. Chaz, 55, was born Chastity Bono to parents Cher, 78, and her then-husband and singing partner, the late Sonny Bono – but began transitioning from female to male in 2008. Chaz and Shara – who costarred with Jason Bateman in the 1984 comedy show It's Your Move – are eager to get the marriage show on the road, sources said. The couple has had some theatrics of their own – Shara, a divorced mother of one, is a former drug addict, and Chaz has come clean about his past prescription drug problems.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Send us a textMeg tells the true tale behind the most famous tabloid headline of all time: Headless Body in Topless Bar. Jessica looks into the back story of iconic writer Irwin Shaw's beef with his alma mater, Brooklyn College.Please check out our website, follow us on Instagram, on Facebook, and...WRITE US A REVIEW HEREWe'd LOVE to hear from you! Let us know if you have any ideas for stories HEREThank you for listening!Love,Meg and Jessica

It's been quite a year for the brothers Jeff and Steven McDonald of Redd Kross. They're currently in the middle of a tour in support of their eponymous double album, their oral history memoir, Now You're One Of Us: The Story Of Redd Kross comes out in October, and before the year is up, we'll see the release of their documentary, Born Innocent. Somehow they boys found time to chat with us about the important things like K-Pop Band, Blackpink, the Chuck Connors show Thrill Seekers, and Sonny Bono. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's been quite a year for the brothers Jeff and Steven McDonald of Redd Kross. They're currently in the middle of a tour in support of their eponymous double album, their oral history memoir, Now You're One Of Us: The Story Of Redd Kross comes out in October, and before the year is up, we'll see the release of their documentary, Born Innocent. Somehow they boys found time to chat with us about the important things like K-Pop Band, Blackpink, the Chuck Connors show Thrill Seekers, and Sonny Bono. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back in studio for the first time in a year (!) to celebrate the 1986 fantasy/horror movie TROLL featuring Sonny Bono, Julia Louis-Dreyfus, and Michael Moriarty. Paul, June, & Jason discuss Harry Potter Jr. and Harry Potter Sr., the talking mushroom, all the memorable apartment layouts, Malcolm going on a dinner date with a child, the bonkers Troll song, and so much more. Troll 2 VIRTUAL live show on Sept 6th (pay what you can tickets) + we'll be in NYC on Nov 15th! Go to hdtgm.com for ticket info, merch, and for more on bad movies.Order Paul's book about his childhood: Joyful Recollections of TraumaFor extra content on Matinee Monday movies, visit Paul's YouTube page: youtube.com/paulscheerTalk bad movies on the HDTGM Discord: discord.gg/hdtgmPaul's Discord: discord.gg/paulscheerFollow Paul's movie recs on Letterboxd: letterboxd.com/paulscheer/Check out new HDTGM movie merch over at teepublic.com/stores/hdtgmPaul and Rob Huebel stream live on Twitch every Thursday 8-10pm EST: www.twitch.tv/friendzoneLike good movies too? Subscribe to Unspooled with Paul and Amy Nicholson: listen.earwolf.com/unspooledSubscribe to The Deep Dive with Jessica St. Clair and June Diane Raphael: www.thedeepdiveacademy.com/podcastCheck out The Jane Club over at www.janeclub.comWhere to find Paul, June, & Jason:@PaulScheer on Instagram & Twitter@Junediane on IG and @MsJuneDiane on TwitterJason is not on social mediaGet access to all the podcasts you love, music channels and radio shows with the SiriusXM App! Get 3 months free using the link siriusxm.com/hdtgm and code HDTGM.

Label: Atco 6359Year: 1965Condition: MLast Price: $25.00. Not currently available for sale.This is one of the nicest copies of this classic single that I've had to offer since opening the store in 2001... fine enough to grade Mint overall. Check out the mp3 "snippet"... truly stunning audio. (Collector's note: This release is common in conditions less than Near Mint, but copies in truly collectable condition are quite rare.) It's also worth noting that this single appears on both the Dave Marsh Top 1,001 Singles (#228) and the Rolling Stone Top 500 Songs (#451) lists! That's one of the reasons it's hard to keep in stock! Also check out Sonny Bono's stab at Garage Rock on the B side... it's really pretty nasty! :-) Note: This beautiful copy comes in a vintage Atco Records factory sleeve. Its labels are very close to Mint, held back by a whisper of ringwear. The vinyl (as opposed to styrene) looks untouched, and the audio is squeaky clean, pristine Mint... both sides!

I find that people do not necessarily view themselves as “unstoppable”. It just happens with them although later they may truly adopt an unstoppable mindset. Such a person is our guest this time, Wendy Cole. Wendy and I are roughly the same age and, I suspect, for different reasons have many similar life values and observations.   At the age of ten Wendy announced that she was a girl although physically she was a boy. As she puts it, her brain was a girl and the rest of her was a boy. Even so, she moved forward with life. She spent 20 years working for Digital Equipment Corporation. After being laid off as DEC was failing, she decided not to work directly for one company but rather to accept contract work. She enjoyed doing this kind of work and living that existence for twenty years more.   In 2012 she retired, sort of. Wendy began looking more at her life and existence. She began researching transgender topics and discovered that medical science finally concluded that transgender was not a psychological or mental issue but rather it was, as Wendy says, a medical condition. In 2015 Wendy took the leap as she will tell us and became physically a woman.   She now not only coach's transgender people to help them navigate their uncertainties and concerns, but she is a recognized coach helping and mentoring anyone requiring aid in navigating life changes. As Wendy points out, we all are constantly dealing with change and thus transitions from one thing to another whether it be job related or anything else you can think of.   About the Guest: Michael Hingson ** 00:00 Access Cast and accessiBe Initiative presents Unstoppable Mindset. The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Michael Hingson ** 01:20 Well, hello, once again, and welcome to unstoppable mindset. Today, we get to talk to a transition expert in all that that implies, her name is Wendy Cole. And she will tell you about her own transitions and also the things that she helps other people with. So I'm going to not give a lot away. Because I think it'd be more fun for Wendy to tell us and I think we're going to have a wonderful discussion about the concept of transition and change and so on. And it's interesting. For me, I hear a lot. And I know I've talked about it a bunch when we talk about September 11, of course, was just my story. Afterward, people kept saying we got to get back to normal. And for the longest time, I bristled at that until I realized why I wasn't happy when people said we have to get back to normal, which really was saying We don't like change. But the problem is normal would never be the same again. So we can't get back to normal because normal is different. And we need to discover what it is. And normal in reality changes regularly. And we'll talk about that. But I would like you to meet Wendy Cole and Wendy. Welcome to unstoppable mindset.   Wendy Cole ** 02:35 Thank you, Michael. I'm really excited to be here. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks for having me.   Michael Hingson ** 02:40 Well, I really appreciate you taking the time to do this. So why don't you tell us a little bit about the earlier Wendy and all that sort of stuff and kind of catch us up but like to see where you came from and all that. All right.   Wendy Cole ** 02:54 Well, as we, as we've discussed, I, I help people learn to embrace change. And I help them explore and identify and eliminate the stresses of life changes. That's a very general statement about what change is all about. I have, I was born with a very different condition. I was born, what we now call today, transgender. And in 2015, I faced a monumental life change. And I went from living as male to which I really wasn't. I refer to him as my mail facsimile. And I went from living that way to living as when he and I have never been happier. And throughout that entire experience, I learned to embrace change in ways that I never dreamed possible. For me. I spent my entire life repressing what I felt who I felt I was, and I was told at age 10, that I would be committed and fixed at a psychiatric institute. If I didn't stop telling my parents that I was really a girl that was in the late 50s. didn't go well. I tried again in 1970. That didn't go well either. That was when a psychiatrist told me I was afraid and should move to New York City. At any rate, he was right and there was only a few choices I had so I began life with repression and hiding for real, and I was always told, get married. Have a Career have wife have a family. And you'll forget all about this. Well, that didn't work either. So, in terms of life changes, I struggled, I struggled, I repressed, and I repressed everything about myself for probably at least five decades. And we came into 20 2015. And that's when I found that everything had changed. The way I was born used to be considered a psychological condition with no treatment and no cure. And I found out in 2015, that as of 2012, it had been changed to a medical condition treatable through therapy, hormones, and surgeries. For me, I had to do it. I was 67 at the time, and it's never too late. And I just had to do it. One of the first things I started doing was working on myself, Michael, working on aligning my own inner being with who I knew myself, there really be. I did a lot of things to make that happen. visioning mindfulness, a lot of meditations, a lot of work with my therapist. And within six months, I was ready to make the leap, take the leap of faith. I realized at that point, there was no guarantees, I had no idea how it would come out, what would happen to me, and there are no guarantees in life. And throughout all of that six month period of the first six months of 2015, I learned a very hard lesson that life is all about change. And it doesn't stop, it just keeps going. So the best thing I learned to do was evolve with it. You know, it's   Michael Hingson ** 07:09 an interesting concept. And the issue is, you happen to experience that and exhibit that with a physical change. But that started with being different than people thought you were that is you were a boy, now you're a girl. And you were really a girl all along internally, right? But the reality is, does it really matter if it has to do with gender or any other thing? You know, like I said, September 11, people experienced that they wanted to get back to normal, but that genie got let out of the bottle on September 11. And normal would never be the same again.   Wendy Cole ** 07:54 Absolutely. So   Michael Hingson ** 07:57 yeah, and transition isn't just about gender, or any one particular thing. Transition is well, you know, children become adolescents, and they become adults. And if that doesn't change, I don't know what it is.   Wendy Cole ** 08:15 Right. And when I was going into this, I started thinking back on the earlier two years of my life, while I was repressing this while I was trying to get through life and just barely survive, which I did quite well actually. I realized that I had changed my life, periodically in many different profound ways. I started a career in the computer industry. I worked for 20 years for a computer company, second largest IBM,   Michael Hingson ** 08:52 at which company was that? Oh, that was digital equipment, corporate. Look where they are today. Okay. Anyway, I just have to say that yeah. Oh, I remember playing with Dell computers. We had a PDP 10 at UC Irvine. So   Wendy Cole ** 09:05 Oh, yeah. Those were the big ones.   Michael Hingson ** 09:09 Big ones. Yeah.   Wendy Cole ** 09:12 That was in the days when mainframes pretty much still ruled. And you know, disk drives were the size of washing machines.   Michael Hingson ** 09:21 And if one crashed, you knew it all over the campus you could hear.   09:28 So,   Michael Hingson ** 09:29 when a disk was a disk,   Wendy Cole ** 09:32 it was in 1989, that I faced a significant life change. And that was digital equipment was beginning to go out of business. And I was given a choice. I got laid off in New Hampshire, where I was living at the time, or take a transfer to Philadelphia and I took the transfer Were to Philadelphia and stayed employed until 1992, when I finally got laid off. And I got a severance package and two years worth of health benefits. And when I sat down and started thinking about what was I going to do with the rest of my life? Well, what was I going to do for work? So that in and of itself is a fairly profound life change?   Michael Hingson ** 10:26 By any standard it is, what were you doing for DEC,   Wendy Cole ** 10:30 I was, I started out with them as a quality engineer doing inspections of all the equipment before everything got bundled up for shipment. And by the time I left, New England, and the job there, I was a senior project manager overseeing projects in three different states. For the manufacturing facilities. And when I went to Philadelphia, I was a sales support tech type person handling a lot of the sales paperwork, making sure everything was technically correct. And when they messed up the orders, which they did frequently, I had to go in and fix them. So I went from doing that kind of work to I decided, well, I did pretty well working for Dec. Throughout the years, even though it drove me crazy. You see, it was a high tech company. And they reorganized frequently, the way they reorganize this the dissolve the entire organization, everybody had to go get new jobs, you had to do up a resume, you had to find out what the new organization looked like. And you had to go interview for jobs. And that was very frequent. So and that actually drove me crazy. During the time I used to drive a drive people around me nuts with the way I was. And when I was working, I resisted change. And it I just didn't deal with it. Well, and I lived like that for 20 years.   Michael Hingson ** 12:24 What about other people?   Wendy Cole ** 12:27 Um, some people just didn't care. It just kind of went with the flow. I was not one of those flow people at the time.   Michael Hingson ** 12:38 But you weren't guaranteed a job with the new organization, whatever that was? No,   Wendy Cole ** 12:42 you weren't. But the reality of it was this, almost everybody did get a new job. Okay. And the reality of it was, and this is what I found out. After going through that for 20 years, and then doing some serious introspection on what I was going to do with the rest of my life. I actually did better every time they reorganized, I always got a better job than what I always had. I just didn't recognize it at the time. And that was something that was kind of like a major aha moment in my life at that point.   Michael Hingson ** 13:27 Interesting, though, concept and interesting way to go about doing business even so just to constantly reorganize like that. I'm wondering what the professionals in the world would say today about that, or do we still do a lot of that?   Wendy Cole ** 13:44 There are there are organizations do change quite frequently, but what I noticed happened after that timeframe. And was the organization's didn't change. People started changing jobs. When I started working, the mindset was, and it's all about mindset. The mindset was, you go to work for a corporation, you work for them for 40 years, you retire. That's it. Yeah. Well, somewhere along the line, I think in the 80s, maybe even the early 90s, things really started changing and people didn't stay at jobs. They might work for a company for three, four or five years at the most and switch, go to another company get another job. Why? Ah looking for a better job looking for a new challenge, looking for some sort of improvement in their career.   Michael Hingson ** 14:53 Did the kind of reorganization thing that happened at DEC send a message that We're not necessarily as loyal to you, as maybe we were or as you think we ought to be.   Wendy Cole ** 15:10 Initially, I don't think that was the case. But I think as as the years went by, especially by the late 80s, that's the message that started going out. But the rest of the high tech companies at the time, they were all going through similar situations.   Michael Hingson ** 15:33 That's why I was wondering if it was somewhat, not whether the companies did it, even initially. But whether people thought that was the case, and wondering if perception went faster than reality, but reality caught up and companies end up not being quite as loyal as they had been wanting to just keeping for sure, exactly.   Wendy Cole ** 15:55 I think that was, that was probably more the case, things began to evolve as they started outsourcing and overseas, shipping jobs overseas. But what I had decided in the early 90s, when I was laid off was I didn't want to be an employee anymore. When I started, contract work. And I actually loved that. All I had to do was please my, the person that signed my contract and do a good job, which was something I always enjoyed doing. And I taught myself how to program in the Microsoft technologies. And I taught myself SQL Server database and started building intranet applications for corporations. So yeah, that was, I did that until 2012. So   Michael Hingson ** 16:58 that was a major mindset shift, needless to say, because it sounds like you went into the workforce, thinking you're going to be loyal to a company, and you're going to go through that whole thing. And then along the way, things changed. And then you decided to shift the mindset to Well, I can be loyal to somebody who signs my contracts. And that's great. And it might last a long time. But the bottom line is, I need to be loyal to me first.   Wendy Cole ** 17:29 Exactly. My contracts usually ran in three month increments. So every three months, I got the equivalent of a job review. But at that point, I had gone to the mindset of I didn't care, I was fine and confident in what I was doing. I knew I was doing good work and delivering results. I would take on major projects and make commitments to deliver incrementally, every two to three months, major changes and major improvements in what I was doing, or make progress in developing what I was developing. And that would always be visible and open to them. Because I would put everything on what I called staging servers, so that people in the organization assigned by the people signing my contract could actually go in and look at what I was doing. And give me feedback on it as I was working on it.   Michael Hingson ** 18:31 So even though you had contracts that went like in three months intervals, did people keep signing your contracts, and you stayed with the same contractor?   Wendy Cole ** 18:43 What my first contract was with a small ambulance company in Philadelphia. And that was an interesting meeting with the CFO who was signing my contract. He said I was very expensive, and that he could only afford me for a short period of time. And I decided well, okay, he said he wanted to know exactly what I was going to do and how I was going to fix their problems. By Friday, this was on a Monday. So I said to him, well, since I'm expensive and you want this by Friday, I'll save you some money. I'll leave now. And I turned and headed for the door. He told me to wait, I came back. He said Why are you leaving? I said well, it's gonna take me at least a week or two to figure out what your system is how it works. Forget about finding out what's wrong with it. This week, I just have to identify what you've got and how it's all working or not working. And within a week Within two weeks, I'll start being able to tell you how I can fix it. And that was something I could never say to a boss, one. Boy. under contract. Yeah, I could say that mindset shift. Exactly. And it felt good, Michael, it really felt good.   Michael Hingson ** 20:23 So what did he say?   Wendy Cole ** 20:26 He agreed. I committed to updating him every Friday where I would meet with him every Friday morning and tell him where I was and what was going on. And I did. And the first Friday, he was relatively pleased. The second Friday, he was very happy because I was making progress. I had figured out a lot of things. And I worked there for three months. And I was done. They they got there. They were having problems with their invoices to you United Healthcare being paid. And United Healthcare owed them $6 million, because their invoices hadn't gone through correctly. I fixed it, I put a new system in place for them. He was thrilled the money was flowing. He offered me they were moving to a new location. And he offered me the job as IT manager. I turned it down. But you can surprise   Michael Hingson ** 21:35 I had a mindset shift. Again,   Wendy Cole ** 21:37 I had a much better job offer, doing contract work at Merck. I wound up working at Merck supporting the serology laboratory where they do the blood tests from the clinical trials of drugs. And that was a really interesting job. And I enjoyed it, I learned a lot there. I continued to develop my programming skills and my computer knowledge as especially in the Microsoft platform, which I had not worked in in my first 20 years. In fact, I discovered PCs in 1992, and had my first one then. And being a former techie type hardware person. Within two weeks of buying my first PC, I tore it all apart, formatted the hard drive, just to figure out if I could put it back together. And it was fun. Yeah, the I worked at Merck for three years, every three months new contract. And I asked him, I said at that point, I wanted to work basically with intranet applications, and do that kind of development work. And they said they weren't interested in doing that. They didn't trust it. So much to their surprise, I think I quit. I didn't take another contract with them. That's when I went to NEC. Okay. I want the NEC for an in an engineering department and built a whole applicant SQL Server database application for them. And when after, after about a year, it was pretty much done with that and then moved on to a chemical company called FMC. And I took much the same approach to everything I'd been doing just, you know, a whole mindset shift of just been independent doing my work. And I didn't have to play office politics. I didn't have to do any of that stuff, Michael. Yeah. It was really good.   Michael Hingson ** 24:06 So you really took to this particular mind ship mindset. idea of being a contractor, which is cool that you you really liked what you were doing.   Wendy Cole ** 24:17 Yeah. It also helped me with my own personal issues, because   Michael Hingson ** 24:25 I was gonna ask that. Yeah, people like   Wendy Cole ** 24:28 me need distractions, things that will take my mind off of what I was struggling with and what I was repressing. And my computer career definitely did a good job of helping me in that department. But this is something that never goes away. It's just part of who, who I was.   Michael Hingson ** 24:56 So what happened in 2012 2012   Wendy Cole ** 24:59 I'm in the tech field, at least it at that point. And I know in hindsight, this was really wearing on me, I looked a lot older than I actually was. I probably just didn't have the right vibes and the right energy, when I was interviewing for contracts anymore. I was tired, Michael, really tired. And so I couldn't get another contract for quite a while. And what I wound up doing was just setting up my own little business doing in home. Computers and technical repair for small businesses and for IN HOME people. Okay, that kept me busy until about 2014 or so. And then that's when I pretty much went into retirement mode. Which I didn't like.   Michael Hingson ** 26:07 Well, you know, I've been dealing with basically 42 years on the job of doing something. Yeah.   Wendy Cole ** 26:13 So, and that was also I was in a really, really dark place with my whole gender issues and everything else. I've been fighting that for decades. And dealing with that, and it just, I was, I was really pretty much done living. But I did decide, I would go online, and look to see if anything had changed relative to my diagnosis that I'd gotten in 1970. I didn't look after that at all. Because thing. I I just couldn't. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 27:04 Well, that's psychiatrist and 20. When you were unwell when nothing, so 1970 called you a freak. I mean, that's a pretty traumatic sort of thing. Anyway. So one can but wonder what that psychiatrist would say today.   Wendy Cole ** 27:24 I, well, see, this is something to that. People like me go through. You try. And besides, you know, distractions, things that you can do for yourself to get past the gender issues and repress them. A lot of people embark on substance abuses, they become alcoholics, drug addicts, things like that. In from the 90s on, I was pretty much involved with psychiatrists. But I never told them what the underlying condition for my anxieties, my depression and my other things that were going on in my mind, I never told them. After all, why would I always call the freak and so but they're all too happy to prescribe medications. And have you come back for regular visits. So I spent a lot of that time very heavily medicated, when I discovered that the diagnosis had changed to a medical condition that you're born with. And that is treatable by therapy, hormone therapy, and any unnecessary surgeries. That was, sounded wonderful. could finally do something about this. And I was seeing a psychiatrist in Doylestown, Pennsylvania at the time. So I told him all about the underlying condition. Well, guess what? Michael, he wanted to send me to conversion therapy. And that's where they try to work on you so that they try to get it out of your mind by various techniques. And it's been proven not to work. They tried it a lot with gay people. They also tried it with people like myself, it just doesn't work. It's basically, when I was when I was still in the process of being born. My brain went female, my body went male. That's the condition And now it's recognized as such, and it's considered treatable. And it affects people differently. to one degree or another, not everybody goes through what I did. But I started seeing a therapist, she started me working with mindfulness started me, basically back into my old hippie days of meditations. And basically challenging all of my beliefs about who I am, what I am, so that I could learn to accept myself, develop self acceptance, self awareness, and actually begin to develop some degree of self love. Okay, and it, I just continued working on that all the way through the first six months, and giving myself little life tests of going to therapy as Wendy going out after therapy, different public outings and things like that. And I found out that I could do this. And that's when I discovered that there. It's all possible, and life is all about possibility. And   Michael Hingson ** 31:27 that's an important concept for anyone, no matter what, exactly whether you're dealing with a gender issue or whatever, right? Because   Wendy Cole ** 31:38 with once you realize that life is about possibilities, the thing that I found that blocked those possibilities from my vision, or make, it's my beliefs that make it look like it's impossible to do that. So I started asking myself, why, what do I believe that makes this impossible and started challenging that. And what I found, Michael, is that really works. I'm shifting my beliefs, your beliefs are made up of your thoughts, and your emotions. And it's the chemical reactions of your body, with your mind your being that drive that. So that's what I learned to change.   Michael Hingson ** 32:41 So I know you have what you call Windies 80% rule. Tell me about that. I think it's great, I love it.   Wendy Cole ** 32:51 Well summarized very, very briefly, it's 80% of all life change begins and is between your ears. It's in your mind. I really, truly believe that. And I've actually live live it now. Yes, there is a physical reality. But our reality is actually determined in our minds, our bodies, our brains take in through our senses of vision, sight, vision, sound, smell, touch. And that's how we form our reality. And those senses get processed in our minds. And that's what we see, touch, feel and experience from the outer world. And so, your reality, my reality, can be very different and very similar in many different ways. It depends on our senses and how we perceive the world.   Michael Hingson ** 34:06 Well, so, you know, if we talk about fear, for example, there are any number of experts who will tell you that we create most of our own fears, they're unformed, they're unfounded. And they'll never come to fruition. And the ones that are legitimate, that we should really be afraid of, also, oftentimes by using mindfulness by using meditation by using introspection and so on, they are also fears that I hate to use the word can be managed, but rather they can be understood and you can use the fear to help motivate you to do whatever you really need to do rather than being as I love to say blinded by fear.   Wendy Cole ** 34:57 Exactly. I I would totally agree with that, Michael, when, when I first started doing this, to become who I really am, I really had to get past a lot of fears, and change a lot of my thoughts and shift a lot of my emotions around so that I could actually enjoy becoming mate. In the real world.   Michael Hingson ** 35:37 You, you mentioned before about life, being very much involved with possibilities. And you said that our beliefs often keep us from dealing with and essentially mass possibilities. Tell me more about that? Well,   Wendy Cole ** 35:53 I've had people tell me that I couldn't have done this transition from male to female in six months. And my question to them is why. If you believe it takes longer than it will, whatever you believe is what it's going to be. And that applies to everything in life. If you believe that you can't successfully you wanted to try skydiving, you wanted to go up in an airplane and jump and experience skydiving, but you don't believe you can do it? Well, as long as you believe you can't do it, you never will get up and go up and do it. But if you shift that belief, change your emotions about it, overcome the fears of it. Then, at some point, when you feel you're ready, you will get on that plane, you will go up and you will jump and experience skydiving.   Michael Hingson ** 37:08 Which doesn't mean everybody has to test themselves by going up and doing skydiving. But that's an example. That's just a hypothetical. Yeah, there's so many things that that one deals with, but we do lock ourselves into the way we operate by what we believe or don't believe. And we, we tend not to be nearly as good collection of explorers as we ought to be.   Wendy Cole ** 37:39 One of the things that I learned is that the human mind is designed to resist change, change equals risk. We tend to want to stay in known situations and routines. We get up in the morning, we do the same things every morning to get ready for work, we go off to our jobs, we take the same route to work every day. We do everything as routinely as possible deviations from routines, and deviations from our weekly routines. These can be potentially stressful situations.   Michael Hingson ** 38:28 But do you think that's true? Because the mind is really designed that way? Or that's what we've been taught. that   Wendy Cole ** 38:36 I believe is what we've been taught. Because when I I've put myself into so many different situations. Especially since 2015. Where I enjoy taking on new situations going into new environments, doing things that I've never done before, or, or first time experiences. It makes life so much more fun.   Michael Hingson ** 39:10 Have you done skydiving yet? No. Just checking.   Wendy Cole ** 39:14 I'm not willing to jump out of a perfectly good airplane quite honestly.   Michael Hingson ** 39:19 Yeah, you know, I know people who have and I don't I, I have no problem with that. But I have just never had an interest in skydiving just like I've never really had an interest in skiing, but it's not a fear of it. I've done other kinds of things. But I love to tell people that you know Sonny Bono got hit by a tree because he was skiing very kindly and peacefully in a tree jumped out and grabbed him. So my my brother in law who's an avid skier says well then just don't ski near the trees and I said don't you don't understand whether you like it or not they come out and get you. And it's funny to joke about that but I just have never had an interest in ski but I I believe I know myself well enough to know that if I had to go out and do it, or if somebody really wanted me to go out and ski with him if Gary, my brother in law came along and said, Come on, would you just come out with me? I'd go. But it's much more fun to joke about it and blame the trees. Exactly. But But I agree with what you're saying. And I and that's why I asked the question, because I think that we oftentimes hear well, we're resistant to change, because that's what our mind is, is all about, we don't like change the brain is, is resistant to change, and I don't buy that. I think that that's what we're taught.   Wendy Cole ** 40:38 Exactly. I think it starts from childhood with our parents. It begins there. It's continued through especially the early grades of school, you know, doing things outside the box, as it were, are discouraged more often than not? Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 41:05 We just don't do it that way. Well, but why? Exactly.   Wendy Cole ** 41:11 So I, I really have enjoyed the last going on nine years of my life, far more than a lot of the aspects of my previous 60 some odd years,   Michael Hingson ** 41:30 will tell me what are you doing now? So So what have you been doing for the last nine years?   Wendy Cole ** 41:36 Oh, well, once once I did become authentically Wendy I just about every daily activity, everything in life was a brand new experience. Because I was experience it from a completely different perspective. The first time I ever signed my name is Wendy Cole. That, that was that was a really felt good. It was a and that's what I really believe that's what life is all about is feeling good. And I, the first time I got my driver's license, the first time I did my changed my name. And then all the way through everything on an everyday basis was a brand new experience it to one degree or another. And 2017 I had surgery. As I like to put it, I got my birth defect corrected. And that was at NYU Medical Center. And I met a lot of really great people there. And I met people in the city in New York City. And I had a wonderful time I had a lot of experiences there. My mail facsimile would never speak publicly. And I was invited to talk to a group of people, probably about 300, I think or so. About my life. I didn't know I was gonna, that was going to happen to me. And I was given the microphone and said, Go talk about what you've been through. And I did, and I enjoyed doing it. That was a brand new experience.   Michael Hingson ** 43:55 And that's the really cool part about it. You enjoyed it.   Wendy Cole ** 43:58 Yeah, this was all so different to me and also knew it was like, almost kind of almost like a rebirth. My psychiatrist and my, because I got a new psychiatrists thanks to my therapist. My therapist, and my new psychiatrists told me a couple of years after I'd been living as myself full time that they couldn't get over the personality change. They'd see me one week as my mail facsimile, and the following week in would walk Wednesday, and totally different personality, very outgoing, very social, and very open. And whereas I wasn't before, I had a secret to hide that I hit it.   Michael Hingson ** 45:03 So, but you understand that now? Yes, I do.   Wendy Cole ** 45:08 And that has really helped immensely in how I feel and how I live. After my surgery, I decided I wanted to help other people go through this. And I started helping people go in through the NYU organization to have their surgeries and things like that. I would talk to girls night before surgery. And I enjoyed doing that. So that's when I decided, well, I'll start actually coaching people and helping them do this. And in 2020, I spent the entire pandemic year developing my coaching business, and started doing that. And then I found that when I was working with people on helping them change their mindset, and how they approached life, so that they could do this and actually find joy in doing it. I found that the things that I was working with people in that regard, applied to everybody, to one degree or another, it all works for everyone.   Michael Hingson ** 46:38 So it gets far beyond the whole issue of transgender exam is really about life in general and recognizing that, as I would say it, we're always in transition.   Wendy Cole ** 46:54 Oh, absolutely. The other thing that I do want to point out is that this has done wonders for my physical health. So I believe that the mind, the human mind, and all interacts with our body through the chemicals that the mind forces the body to produce the neuro peptides that get produced by the hypothalamus, the hormonal production and everything. So if you're in perpetual state of stress, and anxiety, perpetual fear, you're doing harm to your body physically. You might not eat healthy. I did all of these things. I weighed 70 pounds more than I do now. My blood work was horrible. And I was type two diabetic from age 39 on my doctor, my primary care doctor I was about I was about 6869 at the time looks at me and goes you're no longer diabetic. I'm taking you off the meds. What do you attribute this to? And all I said to him was it starts with being happy. I had I had I've lost 70 pounds I'm not I no longer have the cholesterol issues that I had, I no longer had the triglyceride issues that I had, and I'm no longer diabetic. And I exercise I take care of myself I eat properly. And I enjoy life now. I'm not producing the internal body chemistry that causes that that tells my body that I'm having anxiety   Michael Hingson ** 49:06 what what cause you to use or decide to use the name Wendy? Ah   Wendy Cole ** 49:14 she was a girl in one of my grammar school classes I think around fifth or sixth grade. She was the prettiest girl very popular. Always look nice. And I I wasn't interested in interested in her as a girl. I wanted to be her. So I liked that name. And I adopted that name at that age that if I could ever actually be the person that I knew I was.   Michael Hingson ** 49:50 That would be my name. When nothing to do with Peter Pan huh? Nothing. Second star on the right straight on till morning. Oh, that's good. Thank you. Well, it's it's interesting, those in all seriousness that the way you you talk about this and the whole issue of transition, it goes far beyond. And I'm glad that you do it this way far beyond any kind of gender transgender issue, right? It's recognizing that it's something that we all are constantly going through, I know that, for me, doing this podcast, although I was interested in doing the podcast from the beginning, I wondered what it would be like, and, and it has been absolutely fun. And as I love to tell people, if I'm not learning at least as much as anybody else who listens to or is involved in this podcast, I'm not doing my job well, because I love learning new things. And I love exploring. And I'm glad that so many people have blessed me by coming on and are willing to tell it and talk about stories like, like you're doing.   Wendy Cole ** 51:03 Oh, I agree with you, and I love doing this. It's, it's also part of sharing my life with people so that they can see that. In reality, I'm not that much different from a lot of other people. Right. And there's so many times that people like myself are talked about by politicians by so called religious people. And all these really outrageous comments are made, or they treat us like that psychiatrists treated me and like the seventh day. And I, I really started doing this as a as a way of showing people that I'm not that much different from anyone else. This is how I was born, I finally had the opportunity to do something about it. And I did. And I am grateful for my mail representative, my mail facsimile for not making me a drug addict, not making me an alcoholic, like so many. Go through, unfortunately, and definitely not killing myself, even though I thought about it a lot at times, and went through some very dark times during my life. So I got to a point where now I can enjoy it.   Michael Hingson ** 52:45 Well, you talked about self love and self acceptance and self awareness. And that's clearly a really significant part of it. And, and self love is not an ego thing at all. It's appreciating who you are.   Wendy Cole ** 53:00 And we all have doubts as to what we can do, and what we are able to do. And just shifting your emotions and changing your beliefs will get you past so much of that. And that's what I've learned to do over the years. So   Michael Hingson ** 53:21 what what kinds of basic things do you teach in your different coaching sessions for for people? Since you do talk a lot about transition in You talk a lot about change. I assume that one of the things that you do is that you talk about transition, in terms of saying it's more than changing from what you weren't to what you are.   Wendy Cole ** 53:53 But when we're talking when I'm talking to a person who was born transgender. I like to shift that around to it's less about transitioning and more about more about correcting a condition you are born with, so you can be who you always were.   Michael Hingson ** 54:26 But extrapolate that out beyond transgender to other people in dealing with change.   Wendy Cole ** 54:32 There are okay I've had people that had issues with abandonment parental abandonment, abandonment by a spouse, whatever. And what we need to do in those situations is talk through their beliefs and their their emotions associated with their thoughts, and change those thoughts so that they are creating a pot more, a more believable thought that they can get past that issue of band of abandonment. Look at it differently, change the perspective, change how you look at it. And I'm also a believer in journaling, and writing down all your thoughts, no matter how negative no matter how horrible, they might seem to you write them down, document them in some way that you can go back and look at them 234 days later, and read what you wrote. And when you do that, that's when you start to realize how you were thinking and how you were feeling. And you actually come to the conclusion, I don't want to feel that way anymore. Why am I thinking that? Let's change that thought. So that's when I teach them how to shift that belief that that shift that thought into a new thought, that's a little more supportive of where they need to go and what they need to do. And this can go fairly quickly if they're willing to do the work. And just start to shift all those thoughts, learning how to block thoughts. I've used personally techniques where I have a rubber band around my wrist, and I start thinking, I realize I'm thinking all this, this fall, that makes me really anxious, really upset. I don't want to feel that anymore. Snap the rubber band. It's a way of learning to block the thoughts. It's it's our thoughts that drive our emotions. And the two combined if they persist, form these beliefs that we've got to overcome. You know,   Michael Hingson ** 57:23 I hear a lot of people when they talk about being gay or being transgender or whatever. And they, they tell others about it. They say they're coming out. But I'm wondering, to again, extrapolate that, do you ever encourage people like you're talking about whether it's dealing with abandonment, or whether it's dealing with any kind of life change? Do you is part of the coaching program that you do? Do you encourage them to go out and talk about it?   Wendy Cole ** 57:58 Yes. Because once you start talking with sharing your thoughts and sharing your feelings, with a really good friend. And I actually did this with people that were, relatively speaking complete strangers. I would meet people in a social setting and a bar, go to a restaurant where there's a bar sit at the bar, and you wind up talking with somebody. And, you know, sharing soda or something at that point that is highly personal and somewhat stressful or anxiety loaded. And hearing what the how they respond to it. That can be very helpful. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 58:55 Well, and it can be anything. Exactly. I'm really afraid of not having money, or I'm afraid of a job change or any kind of change. And you coach people through that and get them to the point where they can say, you know, it really wasn't what I thought at all. No. And I want to tell the world about I mean, I've asked that because of the fact that you so eloquently talked about how you then started speaking publicly and talking and speaking right to 300 people right off the bat, which is pretty cool.   Wendy Cole ** 59:32 That was that was something that I would have. I would have had it for the door before.   Michael Hingson ** 59:40 Yeah. It's, it's something that you never thought you would do. But you, you did it. Well, I understand that you're now writing a book. Tell me about that.   Wendy Cole ** 59:50 Well, yes. I've wanted to do this for a couple of years now. Good for   Michael Hingson ** 59:58 you. And And I,   Wendy Cole ** 1:00:01 I started out by writing what turned out to be a 36 page life story of my family and my life. And that that story is the first post in my blog on my website now. And one of the things that talks about is my father, my father was a graduate of Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, RPI in Troy, New York, research chemical engineer, work for Texaco research labs for I think it was almost 45 years,   Wendy Cole ** 1:00:44 over 100 patents, and his name was a lieutenant commander in the Navy during World War Two, my parents were products of the early 20th century, group lived through the Depression, lived through World War Two.   Wendy Cole ** 1:01:07 My father was very conservative. And he has my story on the on the blog post details. He wanted his son to continue the family name. And so he wound up with his first marriage having two daughters, and then with my mother had me. So that that was quite quite a significant thing about it for my life at age 10. When I said, Hey, I'm a girl, and insisted on that, that didn't go well, I'll bet it and no. And that was in a late 1950s, early, very early 60s. So in my book, what I'm doing is focusing more on my life. And what I learned as a result of it. One of the chapters that I'm working on now is having to do with parents who find out their children are transgender. Another one I thought that I'm working on is, has to do with the Wendy's 80% rule. So I also did, I also have been working on another chapter of where I highlight and go through all the differences between men and women. Other aspects of what I've learned. And a lot of it has to do with the whole issue of mindset shift, mindset change, and how we treat each other. Like, with the parents, so many, that's that's a really big problem in some areas of the country now. People find out their children are transgender, they throw them out of the house. There's a program here in where I'm living now. It's a it's a home. It's a facility where they take in kids who have been thrown out of their homes. That   Michael Hingson ** 1:03:48 because it happens for more reasons than just transgender. But, ya know,   Wendy Cole ** 1:03:52 it used to happen a lot for gay, but they don't do that so much anymore. That's become a little bit more acceptable.   Michael Hingson ** 1:03:59 It's maybe not as much in this country as in other countries. But yes, yeah, there are a lot of reasons why things happens to kids, because it's not what the parents expected, as opposed to what is   Wendy Cole ** 1:04:11 right.   Michael Hingson ** 1:04:14 But it's really unfortunate. Now,   Wendy Cole ** 1:04:17 and I've, I've, I've had quite a few experiences in doing this writing that I'm working on. I never thought of myself as having been abused as a child. Now it was perfectly normal in the 1950s to get spanked. And the way my parents treated me as a result of all of this back then, I didn't think twice about it wasn't something I was would, would have considered or thought of as being abused or being abused by A psychiatrist or somebody like that. But yeah, by standards, it's abuse. Does   Michael Hingson ** 1:05:08 your book have a title yet? No, it doesn't. Okay,   Wendy Cole ** 1:05:13 I've got a collection of, I'm working with an editor and I have a collection of what we call rough titles, or chapters. And I'm going through working on each chapter as I feel the inspiration. When   Michael Hingson ** 1:05:33 do you anticipate the book being published?   Wendy Cole ** 1:05:37 Definitely next year. And definitely, I hope to have it in the, into the publisher by no later than the first half of next year.   Michael Hingson ** 1:05:51 Well, they will, they will, I'm sure have other edits and other things publishers do. Although it happens, that's okay. We're writing live like a guide dog right now, which is the book that I'm writing all about learning to be able to control or use fear in a positive way, rather than being blinded by it. We expect that out next July. So that's getting pretty exciting. We, we still get some things from the publisher about well, now we've got this, we saw this error, or we saw this, but it's gotten to be like, only two or three little minor things now. So we're getting pretty close to I think the publisher being totally happy, but also what they've been doing lately. Were good catches. So it's okay. Yep. Well, that's exciting.   Wendy Cole ** 1:06:45 That's the job of the editor. As I understand it, it is   Michael Hingson ** 1:06:48 as long as they don't try to change what you are and who you are and what you wrote. Right. Which is, which is good. Well, I want to thank you for being here. We have been doing this now for well over an hour. And it's been fun. I know time flies when you're having fun. Right? Well, I guess Thank you. But I want to thank you for being here. And I want to thank you for listening to unstoppable mindset, wherever you may be. We'd love to hear your thoughts about it. I'm sure Wendy would if people want to reach out to you maybe talk to you about coaching and so on. Wendy, how do they do that?   1:07:21 Wendycolegtm.net/connect. Do that once more, right? My website slash connect when they call jpm.net/connect. And GPM means GTM GTM gender transition mentor got   Michael Hingson ** 1:07:42 it? Okay, well, let's go jtm.com/dotnet. Right, cool ash   Wendy Cole ** 1:07:49 connect slash Connect. The domain name was the name that I picked in 2020 When I first started,   Michael Hingson ** 1:07:59 but you don't need to have a gender issue to talk to Wendy about transition. So please, reach out. She'd love to communicate and talk with you and assist in any kind of dealing with life changing and transition stuff. And I want to encourage you to do it. You can also reach out I'd love to hear from you and hear your thoughts about unstoppable mindset. You can reach me at Michael m i c h a e l h i  at accessibe A c c e s s i b e.com. Michaelhi at accessiBe.com. Or go to our podcast page, which is www dot Michael hingson.com/podcast. And Michael hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n so Michael hingson.com/podcast. Wherever you're listening, we would appreciate it if you give us a five star rating for the podcast. We appreciate your comments and your ratings. And when you're writing please write your comments. We'd love to hear what you think and and love your your thoughts. If you know of anyone else who want to be a guest on our podcast and Wendy same for you. We'd love to hear from you. We're always looking for guests, and more folks to come on everyone I believe has a story to tell. And we're always interested here I am interested in hearing your stories and, and giving people the chance to to help us learn more on the podcast. And also as I've mentioned, I am a speaker and travel and do a lot of speaking. So if anyone wants to reach out to me and learn about speaking again, feel free to reach out we'd love to talk with you about that as well. So one more time, Wendy, I want to thank you for being here and thank you for taking all this time to be with us today.   Wendy Cole ** 1:09:41 Thank you Michael for having me man. I love being here.   Michael Hingson ** 1:09:50 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. I hope that you'll join us again next week, and in future weeks for upcoming episodes. To subscribe to our podcast and to learn about upcoming episodes, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com slash podcast. Michael Hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n. 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Please come back and visit us again next week.   As a Transition Mentor, Wendy Cole helps her clients face any significant life changes. I help others identify, explore, and eliminate the stress of being themselves and facing life changes. Since 2017, Wendy has guided others through transitions. Her life experiences are the tools she uses. She believes in the mind's powers; she practices mindfulness, shifting her beliefs and energy to support herself going forward, making profound changes in her life, health, and finding joy in being.   Knowing who you are, and not BEING who you are: this is the starting point of every Transitional situation. You KNOW who you truly are, in every aspect, but the outside is what matters. That is what people see. Taking that first transitional step is TERRIFYING. It's the stress: stress of the journey, stress of the mental weight, stress of worrying about the outside world… The physical transition is the easiest part; it's getting through the mental transition that holds us back.   Knowing from childhood she was a girl, Wendy yielded to familial and societal expectations to fit in. At age 67, Wendy changed her life with her transition. Beginning in January 2015 she focused internally: accepting who she really was, confronting fears, doubts, and anxieties that held her back for decades. She took the leap of faith to find freedom and joy in being herself. By July 2015, Wendy was living as a woman. She had her long-awaited surgery at NYU Medical in 2017. Wendy knows by focusing inwardly to find freedom and joy will benefit the rest of your life.   Ways to connect with Wendy: Website:  https://wendycolegtm.net Connect with Wendy: https://wendycolegtm.net/connect/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-cole-gtm/ YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@wendycole8326 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wendycolegtm   About the Host: Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. 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On January 5, 1998, Sonny Bono -- one half of the legendary Sonny & Cher duo whose hit songs and variety show became cultural touchstones of the 60s and 70s -- died after a ski accident in Lake Tahoe. Although his musical legacy remains an important piece of music history, Bono's pivot to politics later in life is perhaps the best testament to a career defined by his scrappy perseverance and ineffable charm. Hosted by Jason Beckerman & Derek Kaufman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We try to determine who the new A-list stars of today are and Lori shares a study about the effectiveness of eye exercises. Plus, Grant's Dirt Alert includes Notorious B.I.G.'s Mom wanting to slap Sean 'Diddy' Combs and Cher winning the royalties lawsuit against Sonny Bono's widow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We try to determine who the new A-list stars of today are and Lori shares a study about the effectiveness of eye exercises.Plus, Grant's Dirt Alert includes Notorious B.I.G.'s Mom wanting to slap Sean 'Diddy' Combs and Cher winning the royalties lawsuit against Sonny Bono's widow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send Kris and Rob a Text Message.On April 26, 2011, the small town of Snellville, Georgia, was shaken by a brutal crime that left a young mother dead and a community searching for answers. Heather Strube, a 25-year-old mother, met her estranged husband in the Target parking lot for a routine custody exchange of their 18-month-old son, Carson. What followed was a shocking act of violence that would unravel a web of bizarre and incriminating details.Heather Strube's life was tragically cut short when, after the custody exchange, a person in disguise confronted her in the parking lot. Eyewitnesses reported seeing a strange figure dressed in a wig reminiscent of Sonny Bono's hairstyle, a fake mustache, and exhibiting a peculiar walk. This individual approached Heather, exchanged words with her, then pointed a gun at her forehead, pulled the trigger, and calmly walked away, leaving Heather lifeless on the ground.The audacity and surreal nature of the disguise initially baffled investigators. The killer's outfit—a wig, mustache, and peculiar gait—seemed almost too theatrical to be real, yet it effectively concealed the assailant's identity. However, the investigation soon revealed a deeper, more personal motive behind the murder.Two key witnesses played crucial roles in unraveling the mystery. These men provided testimony that helped prosecutors piece together the events leading up to and following Heather's murder. Their accounts, combined with forensic evidence, pointed investigators towards a chilling conclusion: the killer was someone Heather knew intimately.The evidence eventually led to the arrest and conviction of Joanna Hayes, Heather Strube's mother-in-law. Hayes had disguised herself in the bizarre costume to carry out the murder, motivated by a deep-seated animosity towards Heather. Her plan, meticulously executed, included the outlandish disguise to mislead witnesses and investigators.The trial of Joanna Hayes captivated the nation, as the bizarre nature of the crime and the dramatic courtroom revelations unfolded. Hayes was ultimately found guilty and sentenced to life in prison, providing a sense of closure to Heather's family and the community of Snellville.Heather Strube's story is a tragic reminder of the lengths some individuals will go to in pursuit of their vendettas. It also highlights the critical role of eyewitness testimony and forensic evidence in bringing justice to victims and their families. Her case continues to be a poignant topic in true crime circles, illustrating both the dark complexities of human relationships and the relentless pursuit of justice.For those fascinated by true crime, the Heather Strube case serves as a compelling and cautionary tale, reminding us of the real and often heartbreaking stories behind the headlines. Tune in to our true crime podcast to hear more about Heather Strube's life, the investigation that brought her killer to justice, and the lasting impact of this tragic event on the Snellville community.Sources used for this podcastSupport the Show.JOIN THE HITCHED 2 HOMICIDE IN-LAWS AND OUTLAWSSTART KRIS CALVERT'S BOOKS TODAY FOR FREEH2H WEBSITEH2H on TWITTERH2H on INSTA

Our wedding in Las Vegas and our honeymoon in California. Leah and Shawn flew to Las Vegas to get married. After spending a few days in Sin City, they drove to Cathedral City, California. This episode of the Soul Forge is a day by day recap of their adventures. May 2nd and 3rd: The first day was a travel day. Major delays were the main topic of conversation. Mechanical problems caused a 7 hour delay in travel. The second day was much better. The couple got their marriage license. The line was huge. The heat in Nevada is very different from that in Florida. Supper at Bubba Gump Shrimp was decent. May 4th: Wedding day finds Leah stuffed up and sniffling. The hotel mattress was uncomfortable and the temperature was all over the place. Leah had her makeup done at a beauty school while Shawn and Wyatt picked up their rental car. It was a Mustang! Shawn and Wyatt went toy shopping and picked up comics and hot wheels. Leah and Shawn were married that afternoon. Dinner was at Triple George Grill. May 5th: A full day of shopping. We visited the Coca-Cola store on the Las Vegas strip. We also went to the Hershey store, the M&Ms shop and the Stranger Things Netflix store. Freemont Street was dirty and busy. The premium outlets were full of moments. The Ocean One Bar and Grill was amazing. May 6th: We finally left Las Vegas. Before we did though, we visited the Antique Mall of America. It was huge and we probably spent over 2 hours in there. Afterwards, we drove the 4 hours to Palm Springs. The scenery was beautiful, almost as if you were driving towards a gigantic painting. Cathedral City is a warm and comfortable town. May 7th: We explored the town and area. The roads were fantastic. The thrifting and antique shopping was also amazing. So much fun sticking around our home base. May 8th: A thrilling drive to Knott's Berry Farm. The highways in California are atrocious. Super busy, congested and full of accidents and slow-downs. The amusement park was fun. May 9th: The wedding week adventures are coming to an end. We visited the graves of Frank Sinatra and Sonny Bono. Afterwards we enjoyed a couple's massage. Then we had a nap and some drinks. May 10th: Homeward bound. An early drive to the San Diego airport. We took an alternate route. While it was quite beautiful, it was also treacherously windy and hilly. We were separated for 4 hours on the first plane ride. Fun, but exhausting. We are married! #coach #hotwheels #strangerthings #shakeshack #bubbagumpshrimp #lasvegas #mustang #starwarsday #triplegeorgegrill #coke #hershey #m&ms #disney #puma #vercini #hottopic #lush #tesla #miraclemile  #palmsprings #antiques #songofthesouth #volkswagen #elcamino #cowboys #anxiety #depression #whiskey  #walmart #thrifting #money #knottsberryfarm #themepark #california #amazonprime #rollercoasters #podcast  #startrek #doctorwho #franksinatra #sonnybono  This week's podcast promos: Earth Station DCU, Earth Station Trek, Earth Station Who

Life and political podcast.  Brought to you from The Divided States of America. Click on "Read More" for Videos of the Week. We're back.... Dan's travels during our 2 weeks off.... Weekly book plug.... Discussion of last Couple of weeks videos: Politics Girl: No one is above the law. Beau: On Trump's crowds. Farron Balanced: Trump begs. Lincoln Project.... Brian Tyler Cohen.... Fact or Crap: Dan: 2 of 2, John: 2 of 2. Dan's cat has issues.... Off on a Sonny Bono tangent.... Some Interesting Stuff: Stormy Daniels testifies in Donald Trump's New York criminal trial. Republican insanity needs to go away! You can disagree with how a war is being handled without being antisemitic! Videos of the Week: Trump tells Time magazine that he won't rule out violence if he loses the 2024 presidential election The SIX Reasons Trump Will Never Return to the White House | Bulwark Podcast Clip Let's talk about Trump and acceptance.... Trump? MAGA? Supreme Court?? Make It Make Sense!!! | Christopher Titus | Armageddon Update Stormy Daniels testifies at Trump's criminal trial about details of intimate encounter with Trump Last Week in the Republican Party - May 7, 2024 Let's talk about Trump, the Judge, and confinement.... Homeland Trump judge postpones documents case 'indefinitely,' but new legal calendar could backfire on Trump Let's talk about a Georgia GOP endorsement of Biden....

This week We Need 2 Talk Baby Reindeer, Rock N Roll Hall of Fame inductees, Jon Bon Jovi Doc, High Hopes, Queen of Tears, NY Sports, Little People Big World, Survivor, Girls on the Bus, Under the Bridge, Palm Royale, K's Trip to Napa, Miss Peaches Gala, Sugar, and SO MUCH MORE 1:47Shutters on the Beach & The Denver Nuggets6:12Draft Day 8:32Miss Peaches on her way to a Gala11:28Queen of Tears/Netflix13:21Survivor/CBS & Paramount Plus15:11Baby Reindeer/Netflix 17:23Under the Bridge/Hulu19:24Thank You & Goodnight/Bon Jovi Doc/Hulu25:28Hall of Fame Inductees27:35Taylor swift in Vegas28:49Megan Fox and MGK Update29:12Morgan Wallen and Post Malone's Song 29:48Palm Royale SUCKS/Apple Plus30:27Sugar/Apple Plus32:38High Hopes/Hulu33:37Little People Big World is OVER34:20GAME TIME

Today's Sponsor: YouTube TVhttp://thisistheconversationproject.com/youtubetv  Today's Rundown:Congress passes TikTok sell-or-ban bill, but legal battles loomhttps://www.yahoo.com/news/congress-passes-tiktok-sell-ban-014549012.html House speaker to visit Columbia University, call for president's resignation amid ongoing protestshttps://www.cbsnews.com/news/house-speaker-mike-johnson-columbia-university-visit/ Michelle Obama, Julia Louis-Dreyfus, ‘Club Shay Shay' and Kara Swisher Among 2024 Webby Awards Winnershttps://www.thewrap.com/webby-awards-2024-winners-list/Katt Williams interview close to breaking YouTube recordhttps://hip-hopvibe.com/news/katt-williams-interview-close-to-breaking-youtube-record/ Texas A&M laying off athletic department staff in response to 'existing and emerging threats to our business model'https://www.on3.com/college/texas-am-aggies/news/texas-am-laying-off-athletic-department-staff-in-response-to-existing-and-emerging-threats-to-our-business-model-per-trev-alberts/ Reggie Bush to have Heisman Trophy returnedhttps://www.espn.com/college-football/story/_/id/40014492/reggie-bush-heisman-trophy-returned Dolphin dead after being repeatedly shot in Louisiana, $20,000 reward offered for informationhttps://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/dolphin-dead-repeatedly-shot-louisiana-20000-reward-offered-info-rcna149216 U.S. orders cow testing for bird flu after grocery milk tests positivehttps://www.cbsnews.com/news/milk-bird-flu-cow-testing/  Website: http://thisistheconversationproject.com  Facebook: http://facebook.com/thisistheconversationproject  Twitter: http://twitter.com/th_conversation  TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@theconversationproject  YouTube: http://thisistheconversationproject.com/youtube  Podcast: http://thisistheconversationproject.com/podcasts     ONE DAY OLDER ON APRIL 25:Al Pacino (84)Gina Torres (55)Renee Zellweger (55)  WHAT HAPPENED TODAY:1950: In the NBA draft, the Boston Celtics used their second-round pick to select Chuck Cooper. That fall, Cooper would become the first African-American to play in the NBA.1988: Sonny Bono was elected mayor of Palm Springs, California. In 1994 he was elected to Congress. He died in a skiing accident in 1997.2019: Microsoft became the third U.S. company to be listed with a market worth of $1 trillion, after Apple and Amazon. WORD OF THE DAY: poetize / [ poh-i-tahyz ]to express poeticallyhttps://thebigwordsproject.morebettermediacompany.com/?p=197 PLUS, TODAY WE CELEBRATE: It's eight months until Christmas!  

We watched: "Chastity" (1968). We have a lot of questions this week: Who was Chastity more like: Aileen Wuornos or Forrest Gump? Is this a horror movie? Who does this movie hate more-- women with trauma or lesbians? Who told Sonny Bono he could write? Is Lucas's Cher impression accurate? We don't know!Rate and review wherever you listen to podcasts!Where to watch: Streaming on YouTube!SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram: why.r.we.doing.thisLucas's LetterboxdCathy's LetterboxdCONTACT USwhyarewedoingthispodcast1@gmail.comNext week: The Deadly Spawn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join us for a compelling conversation with Mary Bono, former congresswoman and leading advocate for addiction prevention, treatment, and recovery. In this episode, Mary shares her personal journey and the pivotal moments that drove her to champion change in the realm of pain management. From her experiences in Congress to her current endeavors as the chair of the board of Mothers Against Prescription Drug Abuse, Mary provides invaluable insights into the complexities of advocating for diverse pain relief options and navigating the political landscape surrounding opioid use. Discover how she continues to drive forward progress, mobilizing communities and policymakers alike to prioritize accessible, effective alternatives to opioids. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the challenges and triumphs in the fight against opioid abuse and the quest for comprehensive pain relief solutions.A successful businesswoman and well-known political leader, Congresswoman Mary Bono was hailed as the "embodiment of powerful American womanhood" by the Washington Times during her tenure in the United States House of Representatives. Mary was elected to Congress in 1998 to serve California's 44th (later changed to 45th) Congressional District after the untimely death of her husband, entertainer turned Congressman Sonny Bono. She established herself as a respected and closely-watched leader on a wide range of critically important issues while serving 7 terms in Congress (1998-2013). While serving in Congress, she co-created the first ever Prescription Drug Abuse Caucus and chaired hearings specific to the opioid abuse epidemic. She continues to be at the forefront of the nationwide fight against drug abuse and the fentanyl epidemic, both of which impact every community in the country.In the Adjusted Reality podcast, well-known athletes, celebrities, actors, chiropractors, influencers in the wellness industry, and other podcasters will talk with host Dr. Sherry McAllister, president, F4CP, about their experiences with health and wellness. As a special gift for listening today visit f4cp.org/health to get a copy of our mind, body, spirit eBook which focuses on many ways to optimize your health and the ones you love without the use of drugs or surgery. Follow Adjusted Reality on Instagram. Find A Doctor of Chiropractic Near You.Donate to Support the Chiropractic Profession Through Education.

Join Attorney-CPA Joe Cordell and Life's Third Act researcher, Marlea Parson, in a riveting discussion on the life, career, and complex legacy of Sonny Bono. From his humble beginnings in Detroit to his rise as a songwriter and iconic performer alongside Cher, Sonny's journey unfolds with unexpected twists and turns. Explore Sonny's ventures into politics, […] The post Sonny Bono – The Importance of Writing a Will – EP. 100 – Life's Third Act appeared first on Joseph E. Cordell.

First day back teaching. Education of today no longer lines up with the needs of young people. What if education was project-based? Outdoors? Kris recounts his history with his Black Mountain Nemesis. Is there something wrong with the architecture of schools? The impossibility of convincing teenagers who don't like to read, to read. What's going on with the price of sandwiches? Kris's band for the day: THE LUXURIANTS! Radical wealth excess. A scathing attack on fandom. Is there any real cultural commentary going on anymore? Stores used to be hubs of underground fandoms. Those don't exist anymore. Kris and I talk about great bookstores. If there is an underground, Kris and I would love to be a part of them. Hidden algorithms and inherent structures. Is the way out through treasure hunting? Forcing people away from the gardens, from cultivation, is having disastrous consequences. We are turning away from ancient patterns of dreaming. Jack Kerouac called Charlie Parker “a creator of forms.” Who is creating forms now? JDO puts forward his idea of “lava lamp creativity.” How does a story actually form? It's worth creating a story in a group to find out. Where did the phrase “it's better than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick” come from? Collective imaginative dreaming leads to lava bubble magic. Where things get fuzzy and immaterial, that is the realm of human dreaming and imagination. Hidden terrain, socially engineered fiction, and spiritual crisis. Dilbert and The Office as signals of the end. The rise of the middle management. What do these people do? Who knows? JDO delivers his mentor profile in the form of a short crime story. Taking care of yourself with the idea that you might have someone to take care of one day. Kris recalls Sonny Bono's PSA on drug abuse. “One day you'll be the older generation.” Kris muses on euphemism. Wondering what it would be like to live in the houses that you pass on the road. Enjoy nostalgia. Dream is the aquarium of night.

All the way back in Season One, Stacie covered the marriage and divorce of Sonny and Cher. But Cher's marital adventures didn't end with Sonny Bono, as Alicia shares. After things fizzled between the pair, Cher went on to marry The Allman Brothers' Gregg Allman - who was unfortunately pretty wrapped up in a cycle of addiction at the time. Things were hard for the couple, and while they gave it a real go (with three divorce filings across their four years!), in the end, they were left merely as co-parents harboring a lot of affection and regret. Want early, ad-free episodes, bonus divorces, limited series, Zoom hangouts, and more? Join us at patreon.com/trashydivorces! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The late Sonny Bono was once asked about illegal immigration, to which he replied, "Well, it IS illegal isn't it?  Nikki Haley thinks it's about family. Watch my latest music video about jackals like Nikki here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NWD-x3GIUFA