Farm Family Harmony Podcast

In this episode, I sit down with Lydia Carpenter, a farmer, facilitator, and thoughtful voice in rural community development, for a special role-reversing conversation where I'm the one answering the questions. We talk about the power of storytelling in farm succession and how the narratives we inherit, avoid, or rewrite shape the future of our farms and families. Lydia and I explore the emotional side of transition planning, the importance of listening with intention, and how language, values, and identity all influence what legacy really means. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Lydia Carpenter Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:01:30 - Introduction and discussion about the power of stories 0:01:40 - Exploring the power of letters  0:03:46 - Elaine's advice for young farmers  0:07:29 - Elaine's early experiences as a young farmer 0:15:15 - Changes in farming and family dynamics 0:23:15 - Importance of communication and being present 0:26:27 - What excites Elaine about working with farm families 0:31:06 - Reflections on contentment and life's journey

In this episode, my guest is Lauren Van Ewyk, co-founder of the National Farmer Mental Health Alliance, agricultural mental health advocate, social worker, foster parent, sheep farmer, and PhD student on a mission to give farmers better access to ag-informed therapists. We explore what narcissism has to do with farm family dynamics and why not understanding the truth—that we are fiercely loved and incredibly precious—ultimately blocks us from healthy relationship dynamics and personal growth. This episode is full of practical strategies, insight, and resources to help you navigate the complexities of your life as a farmer. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Lauren Van Ewyk Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 The story of Elaine's stuffed sheep 0:02:25 Introduction to Lauren Van Ewyk 0:03:10 What is a narcissist when it comes to farm family dynamics 0:05:48 Helpful language for dealing with feeling attacked  0:07:52 You play an invaluable role in our world and community 0:09:46 Curiosity is a really valuable tool 0:11:24 It's all about identity 0:14:25 What does ‘dropping a stone' mean 0:15:44 The impact of generational trauma  0:17:02 Unhelpful guilt and people pleasing 0:19:58 The dark side of resilience and workaholism  0:22:18 How to begin navigating towards a healthy dynamic on the farm

In this episode, my guest is Isobel Knight, an Australian succession planning specialist and owner and director of ProAgtive - Australia's leading farm family transition planning business. Isobel specializes in ensuring that the next generation has an opportunity to participate in agriculture and believes that valuing family above all else is the key to future success. We will explain what it means when mom and dad “go soft” during the farm transition, plus the consequences of not having a family-centred process in place for the next generation. We will discuss how succession planning is not a single event, but an ongoing process, which, if started early enough, can protect farm family members (particularly mom and dad) when they're at their worst and most vulnerable.  Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Isobel Knight Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction of Isabel Knight and her background in farming 0:01:14 Isabel discusses her family farm history and challenges in farm succession 0:07:08 Explanation of Proactive's approach to farm transition 0:09:25 Detailed process of gathering information, including questionnaires and financial analysis 0:15:13 Discussion on "going soft" with children in farm transition 0:18:24 Strategies for helping parents align and plan for their future 0:22:16 Importance of integrating business, succession, and estate plans 0:25:07 Challenges of making decisions after losing a spouse 0:28:54 Closing advice on prioritizing parents' needs in farm transition

In this episode, my guest is Andrew Leikvoll, a leadership coach based in west central Minnesota. Andrew is part of the team at Triune Leadership Serves, a coaching and consulting organization based entirely around servant leadership. We discuss what is at the heart of servant leadership and why the culture of leading with love accounts for the tendency of servant-led organizations to outperform and thrive in the long run. We talk about how micromanaging is robbing the next generation of their innovative energy, and why being able to clearly articulate your business (not your personal) purpose, vision, and values, is crucial in your ability to show people why their role matters and how it may (or may not be) aligned with the overarching purpose of the business. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Andrew Leikvoll Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:36 Introduction of Andrew Leikvoll and discussion of servant leadership 0:08:31 Discussing personal identity separate from work 0:10:24 Accountability and keeping people aligned with core values 0:14:04 Living in the past and delaying progress in agriculture 0:21:18 Importance of relationships in leadership 0:22:53 Biblical perspective on leadership styles 0:27:31 Coaching strategies for improving generational relationships in family businesses 0:32:45 Discussion of love, patience, and commitment in relationships 0:35:36 Examples of successful people-first companies

In this episode, my guest is Matt Boos, founder of Agrigrowth Consulting, based in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. We discuss the power of peer groups and why surrounding yourself with people with positive mindsets, who genuinely want to cheer you on, is a game-changer when it comes to personal growth. We explore the benefits of joining a peer group with folks of different perspectives and varying levels of experience, as well as the little mindset shifts and decisions you can make to buy back truly valuable time. We also cover why the Law of Reciprocity and providing value without expectation is so important in the realm of self-development. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Matt Boos Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the Farm Family Harmony Membership waitlist RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Matt Boos 0:03:56 What is a peer group and why is it so powerful? 0:07:16 Learning from failures and successes  0:07:42 Understanding your value  0:10:13 The guidelines that need to be in place for peer groups 0:12:28 Matt's new peer group 0:15:08 Leveraging AI to alleviate the things we're not good at  0:20:02 The antidote to overcome barriers to establishing peer groups 0:20:53 The power of bringing together different perspectives 0:23:49 The success of all vs the individual 0:24:37 The Law of Reciprocity 0:26:32 Diversified revenue streams 0:29:07 How Matt stays in the lane of positivity  0:29:33 Peer groups are like a secret society 0:31:44 Getting more “time currency” 0:35:33 Stacking habits and total transparency 0:41:42 Comparison is a joy stealer

In this episode, my guest is Ben Law, former financial advisor turned podcaster and strategic coach for agribusinesses and the rural community - helping them grow, protect, and transition family wealth by addressing the problems and pitfalls of succession. We discuss the importance of preparing the next generation to be good custodians of wealth by cultivating early succession planning. We also explore how fear, language, and financial transparency all play a role in whether or not a farm family thrives. By the end of the episode, you'll understand how the combination of wealth, wisdom, and wellness are key factors in the overall success of high-performance farm families. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Ben Law Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - join the waitlist for the Farm Family Harmony Membership RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Ben Law 0:05:58 Why some farm families thrive and others don't 0:08:03 The 3 factors of wealth, wisdom, and wellness 0:010:06 Being proactive vs reactive 0:12:41 High-performing families are built, not born 0:15:37 How Ben got clarity on his new identity 0:18:00 Using language to understand what someone truly wants 0:23:30 How to address to fear of failure 0:27:30 The telltale signs that a succession either will or won't be successful 0:30:43 Why all generations need to be at the table (including both on and off-farm siblings) 0:35:20 It's the unsaid things that are the problem 0:36:39 How can you add value to the farm as an off-farm family member? 0:41:09 A hopeful message to any despondent mom's

In this episode, my guest is Robin Tunnicliffe - vegetable farmer and co-owner of Sea Bluff Farm in Saanich, Vancouver Island. Robin was one of the attendees at a workshop I held in Saanich over a decade ago, and today, we discuss her journey from not knowing where to start to now owning equity as a non-family farm member. We discuss Robin's transition from farm apprentice to farm owner and the challenges she faced along the way, including making sure everyone was on board during all the phases of transition. We also talk about how Robin's husband, Sasha, played an instrumental role in the success of the transition, as well as the power of written agreements. This is a must-listen for anyone interested in non-related joint venture farming. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Robin Tunnicliffe Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - join the waitlist for the Farm Family Harmony Membership RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Robin Tunnicliffe 0:02:45The story behind Sea Bluff 0:04:59 How Robin became part of the farm as a non-family member 0:06:04 What culture means when it comes to the farm 0:07:01 The power of written agreements 0:09:56 When Robin actually secured equity in the farm - the tipping point 0:12:58 Making sure everyone was in agreement 0:14:43 Robin's succession plan  0:16:28 The benefits of becoming incorporated 0:17:04 The Legacy of Sea Bluff  0:19:31 Finding other channels of profitability

In this episode, I sit down for the first time on this podcast with our newest coaching teammate, Alyssa Brown. Alyssa is a fifth-generation farmer, mom, and farm partner who is passionate about working with farmers to stay financially organized on the farm. We have an in-depth discussion about the consequences of delayed decision-making and how changing that habit can help determine the long-term profitability and sustainability of your farm. Alyssa shares several practical strategies and useful tools for financial organization as well as tips for young farmers who are struggling to get founding farmers on board. By the end of the episode, you'll have a good grasp on the next steps of your own financial journey and will have gained knowledge as to why a team of advisors (who you actually like!) will save you money in the long run. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Alyssa Brown Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the waitlist for the Membership RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Alyssa Brown 0:03:21 The first step to getting financially organized 0:04:58 Separating the family account from the farm account 0:05:30 Embracing new technology for accounting 0:08:28 Accounting software options 0:09:08 Tracking non-cash transactions 0:13:09 Variable costs vs fixed costs 0:16:19 Organization tip for tracking fixed vs variable costs 0:18:02 A useful piece of info to include on your spreadsheet 0:19:21 Financial transparency on the farm 0:23:18 Where to gain better financial literacy  0:25:39 Having a good connection with your team of advisors is important  0:26:56 Using a funnel as a visual metaphor  0:28:11 Was it about farmers not wanting to pay tax? 0:33:55 How young farmers can get their whole family to the table 0:36:52 Why it's important for advisors to be transparent about their work

In this episode, I sit down with Farm Family Coach Kalynn Spain - a certified Leadership Coach with a degree in Conflict Resolution Studies and over five years of training and volunteer experience as a mediator. In this discussion Kalynn shares recent insights from her experience with moving in with the in-laws and beginning the challenging, but hopeful journey of farm succession planning. We also explore how healthy boundaries are essential to stay firm as a family when transitioning to farm life. We discuss what it looks like to remain true to your own family values, dreams, and schedules while integrating with life on the farm. By the end of the episode, you'll have gained a new perspective on the importance of boundaries for self-care, a sense of safety, living authentically, and working together towards a more intentional future. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Kalynn Spain Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Kalynn Spain  0:02:57 Boundaries and emotional regulation 0:08:01 Assumptions began after moving to the farm 0:08:43 We don't always need to give specific reasons 0:09:07 External vs internal boundaries 0:10:04 Saying no authentically 0:13:29 Finding the courage to set boundaries 0:16:46 Healthy ways to build trust 0:21:00 Going to a financial planner for clarity on and off the farm 0:26:00 Challenging assumptions and the stories we tell ourselves 0:28:47 Boundaries promote safety and the authentic self

In this episode, my guest is Patti Durand - author, speaker, facilitator, and mediator ​​specializing in succession planning for family businesses. Patti has just released her first book, The Future Leader - which is effectively a workbook families can read together and use as an instruction guide to work through the tough stuff. We discuss how much of the strife families experience is simply because they do not yet have the language to communicate their needs in a clear and effective way. Patti shares key information about how assumptions, accountability, and avoidance play a big role in the success of the successor and what you can do to assure it. Our conversation is geared towards folks in agriculture, but Patti has made it a priority to make sure anyone reading her book, no matter their background or gender, is able to benefit from the wisdom within. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Patti Durand Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Patti Durand  0:01:21 Why the title to Patti's book changed 0:03:00 Patti's path to Brightrack Consulting 0:05:52 Patti's key messages 0:06:53 Why the book was written in 2nd person and without gender  0:09:21 Giving farmers the language they need for hard conversations 0:10:30 The thing about assumptions 0:13:23 Awareness and better decision-making at an earlier age 0:16:14 What's stopping people from breaking down assumptions 0:17:15 Transparency and personal wealth bubbles 0:20:23 Accountability when you don't know the answer 0:21:58 Why founders find financial transparency so difficult 0:23:39 Communication habits that are not serving us 0:24:50 A peer network beyond your family 0:29:30 What drives Patti's passion

In this solo episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, we'll bring in the New Year with the topic of living with intention. Throughout the episode, I'll ask you to ponder many areas in your life, including all the different roles you play in your busy life as a farmer, friend, and family member. I talk about the fact that we have many choices when it comes to living an intentional life. I challenge you to go deep and explore how you're currently showing up on the farm and what things you might want to change to show up differently in 2025. We'll go over tips and ideas on practical ways to make mindset shifts that will lead to a more meaningful, intentional life.  Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:00 Introduction 0:00:30 Alison Weaver's Rural Lifestyle Planner, “Navigate 2025” 0:01:36 Living an intentional life  0:02:55 Speaking engagements in 2025 0:04:33 Shifting mindsets in agriculture 0:05:45 How are you living intentionally in your 6 Key Roles? 0:08:24 What is your Rallying Cry? 0:09:32 Community Support (beyond your family) 0:10:40 One of the roles I struggle with  0:11:48 Your cherished belief 0:13:35 Financial Transparency  0:15:19 Blocking priorities in Google Calendar 0:16:19 Planning your mini-transition 0:18:46 Cocooning 0:22:40 Having strong self-worth 0:23:17 What is your vision for 2025?

In this episode, my guest is Farm Family Coach Lyle Wiens - a professional Agrologist and Grain Marketing Advisor, with training in conflict management, mediation, and group facilitation. We discuss Lyle's knowledge on an approach to leadership called the “Art of Hosting”, including the four Principles of Dialogue in which the goal is a meaningful and impactful dialogue that is respectful, creative, generative, and allows for solutions. Listeners will gain insightful and practical wisdom on how to achieve a farm family transition that is oriented towards creating conditions for positive relationships and building healthy teams and organizational culture. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Lyle Wiens Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - join the waitlist for the Farm Family Harmony Membership RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Lyle Wiens 0:03:34 Art of Hosting and the Principles of Dialogue 0:05:33 Key Principles of the Principles of Dialogue 0:08:42 What it means to “host yourself” 0:10:03 Listening vs Convincing 0:10:42 Barry Johnson and Polarity 0:13:51 Honoring the intensity of agriculture 0:18:00 Power dynamic in farm family transition 0:18:45 Navigating and hosting powerful people 0:20:00 Sitting with tension and being conflict-aware 0:22:23 The stories we tell ourselves 0:23:25 Power, Control, and Perfectionism 0:25:42 Nonviolent Communication 0:26:23 Life-alienating Communication 0:27:26 Moralistic Judgements 0:29:16 Limiting Beliefs  0:31:35 There's always a choice  0:36:25 Crying and the culture of love  0:35:42 A generational resistance to face-to-face conversation  

In this episode, I sit down with multi-lingual (English/Spanish) coaching teammate and life-long learner Lydia Carpenter. Lydia is a first-generation farmer with a fascinating background in climate science and meteorology and a passion for people in agriculture. Together we explore the difference between "complicated" and "complex" systems, particularly as they apply to farm transition and family dynamics. Through the lens of complexity theory, we discuss why cookie-cutter checklists often fall short and how embracing complexity can actually be empowering for farm families. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Lydia Carpenter Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction to Lydia Carpenter and complexity theory 0:03:55 Complicated is not the same as complex  0:07:00 The three circles: family, management, and ownership 0:09:15 Why checklists aren't always the answer 0:10:38 Key characteristics of complex systems 0:13:02 The importance of internal and external stories 0:15:37 Creating space for meaningful dialogue 0:18:33 Self-awareness and situational awareness 0:21:41 Working with patterns and making changes 0:25:05 The power of diverse voices and perspectives 0:28:18 Moving forward despite uncertainty 0:30:34 Taking the next steps and creating healthy patterns 0:32:45 Embracing complexity in farm transition 0:34:50 The importance of ongoing dialogue and communication

In this episode, my guest is Glenn Dogterom, Farm Family Transition Coach, retired CPA, financial planner, and acting member of the Canadian Association of Farm Advisors. Over the years, Glenn has provided various services to his clients including tax planning and preparation, financial statements, cash flows, and transition planning. Glenn proposes there's a better, more thoughtful approach to transition without all the pressure and potential for bad decision-making. We discuss practical strategies for achieving realistic timelines and involving the younger generation from the get-go, as well as what to do and expect if you haven't. At the end of this episode, you will gain a better understanding of how much time it truly takes to achieve a more meaningful transition, and why taking into consideration inevitables like illness and debt is so important. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Glenn Dogterom Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - Join the waitlist for the Farm Family Harmony Membership RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction Glenn Dogterom 0:01:30 What to do when you're stuck 0:03:55 Creating realistic timelines and involving your children in the process 0:07:00 Assessing your skills and creating a business plan as a younger farmer 0:08:21 Financial preparedness and passing on debt  0:10:38 How to lean on your team of trusted advisors 0:13:02 Navigating transition in the midst of health issues 0:15:37 Finding harmony through understanding can take time 0:18:33 Glenn's favorite “good transition” story 0:21:41 It's a journey, not a sprint

In this episode, my guest is a teammate, conflict transformation facilitator, organization transition coach, and dairy farm partner from Chihuahua, Mexico, Crisol Gonzalez. Tune in to hear our discussion on how being aware of and taking personal responsibility for the role you play in conflict is crucial for success. We explore what the Karpman Drama Triangle has to do with dysfunctional dynamics in an attempt to bring awareness to what roles you and your farm family members may be playing to contribute to conflict. Additionally, we discuss the work of Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and nonviolent communication, the difference between an emotion and a feeling, and a range of useful tools for conflict resolution. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Crisol Gonzalez Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:30 Introduction Crisol Gonzalez  0:01:18 Karpman Drama Triangle  0:04:23 Who in your farm family is playing the ‘victim' role? 0:06:15 Why the ‘villain' gets nothing accomplished in family meetings 0:07:37 How to get everyone to the table  0:08:27 Women are tired of being the mediator in the middle 0:10:55 Getting triggered quickly 0:11:13 Dr. Marshall Rosenberg and nonviolent communication 0:11:47 Crisol's work in the local school system  0:12:36 The difference between an ‘emotion' and ‘feeling' 0:15:45 The Conflict Dynamics Profile 0:17:50 Writing it out before talking is a powerful tool 0:21:59 Using voice notes if you don't like to write 0:22:55 Asking permission before offering feedback 0:25:03 Conflict Basics 101 and dysfunctional dynamics 0:28:30 Having each other's back  0:29:36 Are farm women getting what they need? 0:30:34 The Farm Family Transition Membership and breakout rooms

In this episode, Elaine introduces good friend, spunky seniorpreneur, speaker, author of the award-winning book Return To Center, and clinical therapist Patricia Morgan. You'll hear some awesome insights on how using ordinary language is one of the most powerful tools in her toolbox as a therapist, and yours as a farmer. Elaine and her guest examine how Patricia's discovery of Polyvagal Theory in 2020 led to a better understanding of what stress actually is, how it affects the nervous system, and how the simple use of intentional words can change everything. This episode provides listeners with some actionable tips and tools they can start using today, to stop catastrophizing and start returning to center. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Patricia Morgan. Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:00 Introduction to Patricia Morgan and her award-winning book 0:00:46 The motivation behind Patricia's book “Return To Center” 0:01:43 Polyvagal theory - a new understanding of stress  0:02:33 Using ordinary language vs complex medical terminology  0:04:08 How Patricia helps people return to center   0:08:38 Challenging triggering thoughts  0:09:50 What is an “Emotional Bank Account”  0:12:53 Catastrophizing and triggers   0:14:40 Rocky Mountain Couples Retreat   0:15:40 Jumping to conclusions and mind-reading  0:16:36 How are you, really?  0:17:28 Emotional reasoning 0:18:12 Expressing emotions is one the best positive conflict behaviors  0:19:46 Judging, name calling, and labeling  0:20:22 The danger of ‘You Are' and ‘I Am' statements 0:22:28 The power of the word “wow” 0:23:20 Hurt vs afraid  0:24:35 How the need to be right is wronging your relationships 0:26:15 Self-compassion 0:27:48 The three emotional states and the one you wants to work towards  0:30:00 Accessing mental health services

In this episode, Elaine welcomes friend, farm partner, and University of Nebraska agricultural economist, Jessica Groskopf. Elaine and her guest discuss one of the most challenging topics for many farm families - financial transparency in farm transition. From addressing your biggest financial fears (whether you're the owner or the heir) to the importance of having honest conversations around expectations, this episode offers practical insights for farm's facing transition. Jessica highlights key strategies for ensuring financial transparency, the biggest generational differences when it comes to finances, why there IS such a thing as good debt, and some of the best questions every farmer needs to ask. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Jessica Groskopf Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:03 Hello and Personal Shout Outs 0:00:51 Introduction to Jessica Groskopf 0:02:05 Jessica's Webinar 0:03:09 What are Your Biggest Financial Fears? 0:04:48 The Owner Generation and The Sunset Years 0:06:05 Having Honest Conversations 0:07:49 Your Parents Don't Owe You Anything 0:09:46 Getting A Clear Picture of Your Compensation Package  0:12:13 Good Debt vs Bad Debt, There is a Difference 0:15:33 The Generational Differences in Attitudes About Debt 0:17:39 Keeping The Books and Financial Transparency  0:20:15 Living Expenses for the Average Farm Family Today 0:24:36 What's Good Practice for Bank Accounts  0:26:52 Where is it Written That Only Women Do Farm Books? 0:29:30 Strategies for Transitioning From The Older to Younger Generations 0:33:31 Jessic's Stress Test 0:36:22 Some Great Questions for All Farmers 0:41:00 Jessica's Top Three Takeaways For Financial Transparency

In this episode, Elaine connects with podcaster, agriculture entrepreneur, mom of two, and farm wife, Emily Reuschel. You'll hear about Emily's journey from fourth-grade teacher, to non-profit leader, and how she eventually ended up as a leader for rural women in the world of entrepreneurship, podcasting, and coaching. Emily talks about her own personal development, the habits that have supported her success, both personally and professionally, and what it means to invest in yourself, transform your mindset, and start living life on purpose. You'll discover that it IS possible to heal, grow, and experience joy in alignment with the things you truly want. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Emily Reuschel Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:03 Introduction to Emily Reuschel 0:00:54 Emily's backstory and current passion for women in agriculture 0:03:22 Emily's many roles and her how her life on the farm has evolved over the years 0:05:38 Investing in personal growth and considering new possibilities 0:06:52 Counseling is about recovery and coaching is about discovery 0:07:33 Practices that have helped Emily and her husband stay emotionally strong 0:07:57 Chasing after the “arrival fallacy” and how it leads to burnout  0:10:30 A powerful exercise to shift away from burnout  0:13:27 Elaine's battle with postpartum depression and the importance of mental wellness 0:14:13 The garden metaphor  0:16:15 How Emily helps women find the time to discover what they truly want in life 0:17:13 Emily's favourite question to remove expectations 0:18:30 Everything is figureoutable  0:21:46 The importance of good friends, connection, and relationships 0:22:32 Healing yourself vs expecting someone to be your everything 0:23:52 Finding your people, despite age differences 0:25:02 Being the kind of friend you want to have and taking personal initiative 0:26:20 Elaine's shout out to all the older women listening 0:27:37 Getting your partner on board with your growth trajectory  0:31:20 Men in ag are showing up more in the personal development space  0:32:52 Google Calendar is your best friend  0:33:30 The best to learn more about Emily and final thoughts and encouragement

In this episode, Elaine connects with podcaster, agriculture entrepreneur, mom of two, and farm wife, Emily Reuschel. You'll hear about Emily's journey from fourth-grade teacher, to non-profit leader, and how she eventually ended up as a leader for rural women in the world of entrepreneurship, podcasting, and coaching. Emily talks about her own personal development, the habits that have supported her success, both personally and professionally, and what it means to invest in yourself, transform your mindset, and start living life on purpose. You'll discover that it IS possible to heal, grow, and experience joy in alignment with the things you truly want. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Emily Reuschel Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE   CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:03 Introduction to Emily Reuschel 0:00:54 Emily's backstory and current passion for women in agriculture 0:03:22 Emily's many roles and her how her life on the farm has evolved over the years 0:05:38 Investing in personal growth and considering new possibilities 0:06:52 Counseling is about recovery and coaching is about discovery 0:07:33 Practices that have helped Emily and her husband stay emotionally strong 0:07:57 Chasing after the “arrival fallacy” and how it leads to burnout  0:10:30 A powerful exercise to shift away from burnout  0:13:27 Elaine's battle with postpartum depression and the importance of mental wellness 0:14:13 The garden metaphor  0:16:15 How Emily helps women find the time to discover what they truly want in life 0:17:13 Emily's favourite question to remove expectations 0:18:30 Everything is figureoutable  0:21:46 The importance of good friends, connection, and relationships 0:22:32 Healing yourself vs expecting someone to be your everything 0:23:52 Finding your people, despite age differences 0:25:02 Being the kind of friend you want to have and taking personal initiative 0:26:20 Elaine's shout out to all the older women listening 0:27:37 Getting your partner on board with your growth trajectory  0:31:20 Men in ag are showing up more in the personal development space  0:32:52 Google Calendar is your best friend  0:33:30 The best to learn more about Emily and final thoughts and encouragement

In this episode, Elaine converses with good friend and well-renowned farm consultant, Dick Wittman from Lewiston-Clarkston, Idaho. Elaine and her guest dig deep to uncover some of the biggest issues holding farm families back from reaching success in their farm transition. Dick Wittman offers guiding wisdom from his many years of experience in the ag industry. He explains some of the key issues that cause resistance, and practical, uncomplicated strategies to become a proactive farmer. You'll learn more about Wittman's Guidebook and why Elaine hails it as an incredibly powerful tool towards better transition.  Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Dick Wittman. Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube. SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become at Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition  BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:00:03 Introduction to Dick Wittman 0:01:57 The key issue to the farmer's resistance to getting good help  0:02:47 The difference between a salesman and an advisor 0:03:41 The importance of financial transparency  0:05:17 The questions you need to ask to take fear out of the equation 0:07:58 How to find Dick Wittman online 0:08:30 Investing in Dick's Consulting Management Binder  0:09:07 How humiliation is having a negative impact on moving forward  0:09:47 Why farm families are so resistant to paying for a good advisor 0:11:58 How one advice of can save thousands of dollars  0:12:30 Elaine's explains “a fair exchange of value” 0:14:43 Why farmers aren't taking advantage of available tools  0:16:01 What the proactive farmer does to succeed 0:16:42 Dick's guidebook is a transformative tool 0:19:01 What you can do to start moving forward with your transition planning 0:21:46 The importance of culture, and how it wins over strategy 0:23:53 Women can be a better rural resource by being champions of change 0:24:43 Commit to rolling up your sleeves and doing the work 0:26:12 How you can save $400 an hour 0:26:51 Booking a Discover Call with Elaine

Welcome to Season 3 of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast with Elaine Froese and guests! In this season's opening episode, Elaine connects with midwestern farm wife and mom from Northern Illinois, Mary Pat Sass. Prepare yourself for some awesome ag insight! Mary shares how she balances her many roles on the farm with motherhood and marriage, getting clear on what she wanted her life to look like, and how counseling, coaching, date nights, and babysitters have all helped her in creating that life. Access the full show notes for this episode at elainefroese.com. Discover more about our guest: Mary Pat Sass and @marypat.sass. Elaine Froese Resources: Watch this episode on YouTube SPEAKING - book Elaine for your next event COACHING - find your Farm Transition Coach MEMBERSHIP - become a Farm Family Harmony Member RESOURCES - download for FREE CONTACT - take the next steps in your transition BURNING QUESTION? Submit it here for Elaine or her coaches Timestamps 0:01:49 How Mary's role on the farm evolved, from scouting to motherhood 0:03:47 Finding flexible ways to stay involved with operations while mothering 0:04:23 Elaine shares a story of her own struggles of parenting while farming 0:05:11 Childcare strategies and keeping kids safe on the farm 0:06:05 Drop-in style childcare, and dividing and conquering with Josh (Mary's husband) 0:07:35 A new season of life and the importance of boundaries 0:08:59 How the roles of Mary's mother and father-in-law have changed 0:11:24 Impacts of over-committing and getting clear on what Mary wanted her life to look like 0:12:36 Staying organized, keeping the marriage healthy, and the decision to take Sundays off 0:15:40 Mutual respect, feeling valued, and asking for what you need 0:17:08 Getting counseling as personal investment for growth 0:18:35 Elaine's big epiphany and how therapy is getting destigmatized  0:20:26 Date nights, babysitters, and bartering with childcare 0:22:21 Permission to ask for what you need 0:22:59 Dealing with burnout, anxiety, and overwhelm 0:26:28 The biggest challenges women in ag face in finding their place on the farm today 0:29:34 Realizing they couldn't do it on their own and how coaching helped 0:33:29 Connecting with Mary via Instagram and her podcast Beyond The Crops

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, we're joined by our favorite retired, but not really retired accountant, Glenn Dogterom, who brings decades of experience working with farm families to our coaching team. Together we dive deep into the art of mentorship for farm transitions. Glen shares insights from his years of working with farm families in southern Alberta, emphasizing the crucial role of mentorship in successful transitions by providing professional transition strategies. From building trust to fostering open communication, Glen highlights the key characteristics of effective mentors. We explore professional transition strategies for navigating the complexities of transition, including the importance of financial transparency and managing risk in farming. Whether you're a seasoned farmer or just beginning your agricultural journey, this episode offers valuable insights into building a successful farm transition. Tune in to learn how mentorship can shape the future of your farm family! "We have this thing in our practice that says, 'Change is inevitable, growth is optional.' And I think that's a great way to look at whether or not people are going to have the flexibility." Timestamps 12:30 - 14:00: Learn Glenn's experience working with farm families as an accountant and financial planner, emphasizing the importance of mentorship in successful farm transitions. 18:45 - 20:15: Discover the essential qualities of successful mentors in farm transition, including good listening skills, building trust, having an encouraging demeanor, and reliability. 26:10 - 28:30: Hear the significance of financial transparency in farm transition and the mentor's role in facilitating understanding of financial aspects for the successor. 36:50 - 39:20: Learn the necessity of patience in farm transition, particularly in waiting for the next generation to gain off-farm experience and skills before returning to the family farm. 47:10 - 50:00: Explore strategies for managing farm debt and equity in farm transition, including options for successors to acquire land or shares in the family business, and the importance of financial planning. 54:20 - 56:40: Address challenges and opportunities for young farmers in accessing resources, such as grants and government support, to help build their own enterprises and gain economic traction. Download resources for free: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to speak at your next event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books Learn about Ranching for Profit: https://ranchmanagement.com/ranching-for-profit-school-2/ Use the Ultimate Decision Maker Tool Our founding member's launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in October: elainefroese.com/membership Glenn Dogterom is a dedicated professional with a deep-seated passion for empowering farm families through transitions. With a robust background as a public accountant and financial planner, he honed his expertise within the agricultural sector, specializing in guiding farm families through the intricate process of succession planning. Glenn's commitment to facilitating smooth transitions and fostering sustainable legacies has propelled him into the role of a Farm Family Transition Coach, where he continues to make a meaningful impact on the farming community. Learn more at: https://elainefroese.com/coaching/coaching-team/ We hope you found this episode of "Mentoring For Great Management Transition” as insightful as we did and learned some professional transition strategies for easy transition! Share your thoughts in the comments below—we're all ears! Your experiences and perspectives are what make this community thrive. Let's keep the conversation going!

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, I meet with Arlen Motz of Agribusiness Mindset. We discuss the importance of self-belief and curiosity, highlighting how these elements are crucial for empowering oneself and others. We explore their application in farm transitions, farm planning, leadership, and grain marketing, with Arlen sharing insights from his coaching and leadership training. Prepare to gain valuable perspectives on maintaining open communication, managing emotions effectively, and embracing a growth-oriented mindset. Whether you're dealing with fluctuating grain prices or navigating family dynamics on the farm, this episode provides practical tools and insights to help you thrive. "In my journey, I learned that believing in yourself and maintaining a curious mindset can transform how you navigate challenges on the farm. Empower yourself first, and then empower others." - Arlen Motz We have discussed grain marketing, farm challenges, and much more here are the timestamps. 1:45 - Discover the importance of the emotional factors affecting planning and marketing in farm transition. 2:20 - Learn Arlen's personal experience with farm transition and marketing canola crops with his father-in-law, offering practical examples of navigating intergenerational farming challenges. 8:50 - Hear how to build self-belief and empower oneself and others through curiosity, to cultivate a growth mindset for personal and professional development. 10:40 - Gain insight from Arlen's example of addressing a misunderstanding with his father-in-law through respectful communication, demonstrating practical conflict resolution techniques. 11:39 - Learn the importance of progress over perfection in relationships to maintain harmony and continuous improvement in family farming operations. 14:00 - Unlock strategies on how to build trust and collaboration in family farming. Arlen Motz is a certified personal and business mindset coach with a passion for training leaders on how to be the best they possibly can be. Learn more by visiting: https://www.agribusinessmindset.com/ Read Dan Sullivan's “WHO Not How?” resources by clicking here.  For Elaine's standard resources, visit: Download resources for free: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to speak at your next event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books Our founding member's launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in October: elainefroese.com/membership We hope you found this episode of "Rats, The Price Went Up After I Sold! Ag Mindsets" as insightful as we did, especially with the valuable grain marketing tips! Share your thoughts in the comments below—we're all ears! Your experiences and perspectives are what make this community thrive. Let's keep the conversation going!

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine meets with guest Lewellyn Melnyk who shares her personal journey of overcoming mental health struggles while growing up on a farm in Manitoba. Her book, "Rooted: How I Stay Small Town Strong When Life Gets Hard, and How You Can Too," serves as a guide for rural women in agriculture, offering insights and coping mechanisms for navigating life's challenges. From the importance of connection and vulnerability to the role of music and self-care, Llewellyn emphasizes the need for open conversations and prioritizing mental wellness in farming communities. Through her own experiences and those of others, she highlights the power of resilience and the value of seeking support. Join the conversation as Llewellyn discusses the significance of understanding one's values, setting boundaries, and taking small steps toward better mental health. “I think as farmers and people working in the ag industry, we are very susceptible to mental health challenges in the circumstances that we live in and work in. And so it's very, very important that we have boundaries and make those boundaries for ourselves and stick by them." Timestamps 0:49 Lewellen emphasizes her motivation behind writing her book and what she wants listeners to discover. 4:12 Discusses supporting new mothers from Postpartum depression to hormonal changes. 7:53 Explores emotional connection, vulnerability, and the prevalence of loneliness in rural communities. 16:36 Emphasizes the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and putting your mental health first. 19:09 Touches on discovering signs of loneliness and the significance of checking on others. 22:32 Discusses setting boundaries and prioritizing well-being for farmers. Lewellyn Melnyk: Author, Farmer, and Mental Health Advocate Lewellyn's new book “Rooted” is a prescriptive memoir that tells the story of her own struggles with anxiety and depression and offers tips on how to stay small-town strong when things get tough. Mental health is one of the biggest threats to rural communities, and Lewellyn has made it her life's work to start more discussions around this topic, advocating for agriculture, women, and mental health. Visit https://www.lewellynmelnyk.com/ to learn more. For mental health resources, visit: The National Farmer Mental Health Alliance: https://nfmha.ca/ The Do More Agriculture Foundation: https://www.domore.ag/ Mental Health First Aid: https://mentalhealthcommission.ca/what-we-do/mental-health-first-aid/ Tune in to Jennifer Buchanan, music therapist: https://www.jenniferbuchanan.ca/main-book/ For Elaine's standard resources, visit: Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books Join the waitlist for our Farm Family Transition Membership! Launching this October, spots are limited. Sign up now at elainefroese.com/membership I hope you found this episode on Rural Roots & Mental Health as insightful as we did! Share your thoughts in the comments below—we're all ears! Your experiences and perspectives are what make this community thrive. Let's keep the conversation going!

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine Froese and Lydia Carpenter, part of Elaine's coaching team, explore the crucial elements of emotional strength in farm leadership. With a focus on empowering both seasoned founders and the next generation of farmers, Elaine and Lydia share practical strategies for fostering resilience, navigating tough conversations, and building trust within farm families. From embracing accountability and adaptability to fostering empathy and open communication, this episode offers invaluable insights for cultivating emotional resilience and fostering harmony in farm leadership. Whether you're a seasoned farmer or just starting out, this episode provides actionable advice for becoming an emotionally strong leader on the farm. “It's stepping back and rising to the occasion of becoming an emotionally strong leader without stepping away.” Timestamps: 4:54 Discusses emotional intelligence in agriculture, mentioning the importance of self-reflection and adaptability. 9:18 Reviews building emotional strength in farmers through peer networks and mentorship. 12:43 Discusses using performance appraisals to identify strengths and weaknesses, improve management support, and foster self-reflection among resistant older farmers. 16:59 Shares personal experience as a first-generation farmer and relates to founders' challenges in transferring knowledge to the next generation. 20:57 Emphasizes the importance of a shared leadership journey for both generations, with a focus on communication, appreciation, and forgiveness. 25:45 Reviews how clarity of expectations, emotional health, and agreements are key for successful farm leadership. Lydia Carpenter lives and farms in Manitoba and is a mediator and coach with Elaine Froese Farm Family Coach. She has a Master's Degree in Natural Resources Management with a research focus in rural livelihoods. She has hands-on experience as an owner/operator and built a profitable cattle grazing and beef business as a first-generation farmer. Lydia and her spouse/ business partner are also part of a family farm transition plan with non-family. She is most passionate about the human relationships needed to make farming and rural communities really work. Her passion for the people in agriculture has driven her pursuit of lifelong learning and relationship building. For more information, visit: https://elainefroese.com/coaching/coaching-team/ Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books Order Words That Change Minds Here: https://amzn.to/3RQUVKb Order The Emotionally Strong Leader by Carolyn Stern Here: https://carolynstern.com/book/ Check out the Being an Emotionally Strong Farm Parent Article Here: https://www.grainews.ca/farm-life/being-an-emotionally-strong-farm-parent/ Check out the Country Guide November 2023 Edition Here: https://www.country-guide.ca/digital-edition/country-guide_2023-10-31/ Check out the Country Guide February 2024 Edition Here: https://www.country-guide.ca/digital-edition/country-guide_2024-01-30/ Our founding member's launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in October: elainefroese.com/membership Improve the HEALTH AND PRODUCTIVITY of your ranch, the PROFITABILITY of your business, and the QUALITY of your life. Join the Ranching for Profit: https://ranchmanagement.com/ranching-for-profit-school-2/ I hope you found this episode on How to be an Emotionally Strong Leader on a Farm as insightful as we did!

In this thought-provoking episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, What Does Money Mean to You? Elaine and financial psychologist Dr. Moira Somers dive into the complexities of wealth and legacy within affluent families. They explore the intricate web of personal narratives surrounding money, emphasizing its profound impact on family dynamics and future planning. Throughout their discussion, they stress the importance of financial responsibility, literacy, and effective communication in managing family wealth and resolving conflicts. Together, they provide practical insights and guidance for navigating the intricate landscape of wealth, fostering sustainable wealth management, and leaving a meaningful legacy for future generations. “If you can show up peaceably, in regards to your relationship to money, you can often show up much more peaceably in regards to relationships in general.” Timestamps: 4:18: Discuss the challenge of transferring wealth to the next generation, particularly for those who have experienced financial insecurity in the past. 11:54: Emphasize the importance of financial education and literacy, particularly for women, and encourage them to seek advice from trustworthy advisors. 22:51: Discuss challenges in having difficult conversations with farm families about transferring wealth, including feelings of embarrassment and humiliation around not meeting expectations. 27:20: Acknowledge difficulty in equally distributing wealth within a family business, suggesting mechanisms for addressing this issue. 31:42 Discuss the importance of sharing emotions and perspectives on money management in a family farm business. Dr. Moira Somers is a psychologist, family wealth consultant and executive coach. She specializes in the psychology of money. Moira addresses matters that range from the highly personal concerns of individuals and families all the way up to broader service, design and structural issues affecting financial follow-through and equitable access to capital.  Visit her website for more information: https://moneymindandmeaning.com/ Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Order Words That Change Minds Here: https://amzn.to/3RQUVKb Our founding Members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in October: elainefroese.com/membership.

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine is joined by friend Lauren Lundt. Lauren shares her journey from Central Florida to Iowa, marrying into a multi-generational farming family. Facing unexpected challenges like the passing of her father-in-law, Lauren offers insights into building relationships with in-laws and finding her place in the farming community. Together, Lauren and Elaine discuss the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and embracing change. Lauren's story highlights the need for understanding and flexibility as farm families navigate evolving dynamics. “I hate texting for communication… I'm a big believer in being able to see people's eyeballs. And the eyes are the window to the soul and to have a sense of the tonality”. Timestamps 6:57 Discusses how in-laws face challenges in adjusting to new roles and emotional support after the loss of a spouse. 10:49 Reveals helpful communication strategies for in-laws. 15:53 Lauren describes her experience with her husband and in-laws after the death of her father-in-law and one of the founders of their farm. 24:45 Elaine and Lauren reflect on their experience with in-laws in agriculture, mentioning the importance of cultural DNA and the need for vulnerability and honesty in decision-making. 29:38 Emphasizes how to balance farm work and family life, highlighting the tension between work and play for the next generation. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Order Words That Change Minds Here: https://amzn.to/3RQUVKb Our founding Members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in October: elainefroese.com/membership

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony podcast, Elaine is joined by her special guest and fellow coach, Crisol Gonzalez, calling in from her dairy farm in Mexico. As a bilingual coach working with Spanish-speaking families across North America, Crisol brings a unique perspective to the table. With her background in law, education, and family facilitation, Crisol is well-equipped to tackle the challenges faced by farm families. Elaine and Crisol dive deep into the intricacies of family meetings, focusing on how to build a conducive environment for fruitful discussions. They emphasize the importance of setting a clear theme for each meeting and establishing guidelines that promote respect, honesty, and active listening. Crisol shares practical strategies for managing conflicts and navigating diverse communication styles within the family. “The first meeting that you are going to facilitate in your family, is the one that sets the ground for everybody to trust.” Timestamps: 6:41 Highlights how the agenda should be focused on exploring the big-picture vision for the farm and family, with ground rules established to ensure productive discussion. 11:36 The group discusses using a shared values board as a reminder of their chosen values during heated or unexpected moments. 17:44 Crisol expresses frustration with a culture that wants things done quickly, but also recognizes the importance of planning and preparation for transition. 23:14 Crisol recommends creating a safe space for family members to express their love and appreciation for each other, which can lead to more meaningful and productive conversations. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Order Words That Change Minds Here: https://amzn.to/3RQUVKb Our founding Members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in October: elainefroese.com/membership

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony podcast, Elaine explores the art of perspective-taking and its crucial role in fostering positive communication and understanding within farm families undergoing transitions. With practical tips and real-life examples, Elaine dives into the power of active listening, curiosity-driven questioning, and reframing perspectives to navigate complex family dynamics and succession planning challenges. Tune in to gain valuable insights and actionable strategies for creating a harmonious farm culture rooted in empathy and mutual understanding. "Making the other person feel that you are taking their concerns seriously, results in the other person, feeling understood." Timestamps: 5:01 Emphasizes the importance of understanding and aligning perspectives among family members and founders in the transition of farm management. 7:36 Uses why" questions to understand family members' land desires, promoting constructive dialogue. 13:39 Encourages the next generation to explore limiting beliefs and perspectives that may be hindering their growth. 16:00 Emphasizes the importance of curiosity, recognition, and communication in the transition process. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Order Words That Change Minds Here: https://amzn.to/3RQUVKb Our founding Members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in October: elainefroese.com/membership

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine explores the challenges and opportunities of conflict resolution, providing practical strategies and insights for fostering harmony and understanding. Elaine welcomes Dr. Ken Keis, a renowned expert in behavioral assessment strategies and leadership. Together, they dive into the theme of conflict communication, unraveling the complexities of interpersonal dynamics on the farm. From understanding personal styles to navigating core values, Elaine and Dr. Keis provide invaluable guidance on bridging the gap between differing perspectives. Discover how recognizing and honoring individual differences can transform conflict into an opportunity for growth and collaboration within your farm family. With real-life anecdotes and actionable advice, this episode equips listeners with the tools they need to navigate conflict communication with empathy, respect, and resilience. Tune in to "Why Aren't You More Like Me?" and embark on a journey towards healthier, more harmonious relationships within your farm family. Learn to embrace diversity, foster open dialogue, and build a foundation of trust that transcends conflict.  Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Order Why Aren't You More Like Me? Here: https://amzn.to/3vpnx63 Our Farm Family Transition Membership provides simple, practical, and actionable tools to get traction in your farm transition. Doors are now open. Join the Farm Family Transition Membership today: elainefroese.com/membership

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine shares essential tips for initiating and navigating tough conversations within farm families, with a focus on the critical topic of transition. She emphasizes the importance of mature communication, internal reflection on desires, and understanding the emotional aspects of these discussions. Practical advice on financial considerations and seeking external support is provided, along with a helpful checklist for families embarking on their transition journey. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Order The Emotionally Strong Leader from Carolyn Stern here: https://amzn.to/3NUiCjU Our founding members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in February:  elainefroese.com/membership

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine welcomes special guest Shelby Watson-Hampton, a fourth-generation farmer, marketing specialist, and author of "Grace, Grit, and Lipstick." Join the conversation as they discuss the challenges and triumphs of farm life, emphasizing effective communication, work-life balance, and the power of mentorship. Gain insights, practical tips, and inspiration for navigating your journey with grace and confidence. Tune in for a celebration of the unique stories and contributions of women in agriculture. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Order Grace, Grit & Lipstick from Shelby Watson-Hampton here: amazon.ca/Grace-Grit-Lipstick-Farm-Curious-Friends-ebook Our founding members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in February:  elainefroese.com/membership

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine engages with Lindsay Gillon (Seafoot), an HR specialist near Wawanesa, Manitoba. Lindsay sheds light on navigating HR challenges in agriculture, offering practical tips for farmers and agribusinesses. The episode provides valuable insights into building HR foundations and ensuring a harmonious work environment. Listen now for expert advice on simplifying the complexities of HR in the agricultural sector. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Our founding Members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in February: elainefroese.com/membership

Terry shares insights on buying out farm assets, explores creative solutions for farm succession, and delves into fairness in farm family transfers. Discover alternative approaches to farm ownership transfer, success stories of young farmers in buyouts, and financing options for the next generation. Uncover the secrets to negotiating fair terms in farm family transfers as we navigate the challenges and triumphs of this critical journey.

In this episode of the Farm Family Harmony Podcast, join Elaine as she takes you on a journey to "Discussing the Undiscussable." With engaging anecdotes and practical tools, you'll learn how to address those unresolved issues within your family farm, fostering better communication, understanding, and ultimately, harmony. Don't miss this insightful episode filled with valuable transition tips and tactics to enhance your farm family relationships. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Our founding Members launch is now past, and if you'd like to be on the waitlist to join our Farm Family Transition Membership, please sign up for the waitlist to join us in February: elainefroese.com/membership

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Join Elaine in this episode as she sits down with Lance Woodbury, a renowned expert in farm transition planning. Lance's expertise has guided countless families to achieve prosperous farm successions. Tune in to discover insightful discussions on decision-making strategies for farm transitions, the essential steps for a seamless farm transfer, and navigating the intricate landscape of family dynamics during this crucial process. Elaine and Lance also shed light on pivotal financial considerations and the legal facets of farm succession. These elements are the bedrock for ensuring a harmonious transition within your farming family. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books. Our membership is launching this fall! Get simple, practical, and actionable tools to get traction in your farm transition. Join the Farm Family Transition Membership: Your Path to Harmony waitlist: elainefroese.com/membership

 In this episode, Elaine Froese meets with the witty and down to earth. Damian Mason, who is also a podcast host of the Business of Agriculture. In this episode, Damian shares thought-provoking insights into the intersection of agriculture, family, and business. Listeners will gain valuable perspectives on addressing undiscussable issues, treating farming as a business, and navigating succession planning. Our membership is launching this fall! Get simple, practical, and actionable tools to get traction in your farm transition. Join the Farm Family Transition Membership: Your Path to Harmony waitlist: elainefroese.com/membership Get your farm family talking and making decisions to kick-start better farm transition conversations. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking  Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books

In today's episode, Elaine dives deep into the dynamics of the farmer-accountant relationship, providing valuable insights and practical tips for getting along with your accountant, working on transition plans, and fostering a strong accountant-client relationship. Join Elaine and her guest, Glenn Dogterom, a seasoned farm family coach, and accountant, as they explore the essential conversations about transition, the skill sets accountants bring to the table, and common traps to avoid. Whether you're a young farmer seeking guidance on asset buyouts or a founder looking for recommendations on improving family needs, this podcast is your ultimate resource. Discover how to navigate the complexities of farm finances, overcome procrastination, and ensure affordability when it comes to buying out assets. Tune in now and unlock the keys to financial transparency and harmonious farm family relationships. Our membership is launching this fall! Get simple, practical, and actionable tools to get traction in your farm transition. Join the Farm Family Transition Membership: Your Path to Harmony waitlist: elainefroese.com/membership Get your farm family talking and making decisions to kick-start better farm transition conversations. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books   

In today's episode, Elaine introduces Jenna Zurba, a palliative care nurse with a background in farming who shares her story of leaving the family farm and dealing with grief and loss. As a coach, Jen helps farm families understand that grief and loss are not only related to death but also to the many losses experienced during a farm transition. She encourages families to acknowledge these losses and seek counseling to help them navigate this difficult process. Our membership is launching this fall! Get simple, practical, and actionable tools to get traction in your farm transition. Join the Farm Family Transition Membership: Your Path to Harmony waitlist: elainefroese.com/membership Get your farm family talking and making decisions to kick-start better farm transition conversations. Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get the Online Course: elainefroese.com/online-course Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books

In this episode of the The Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine is joined by Lydia Carpenter, a first-generation farmer, to discuss how to get started with farm transition conversations. With a decade of experience and a successful direct market beef business, Lydia provides valuable insights and shares her own journey as a farmer. The conversation focuses on the key aspects of starting the farm transition conversation and how to navigate conflict resolution in agriculture.   Our membership is launching this fall! Get simple, practical, and actionable tools to get traction in your farm transition. Join the Farm Family Transition Membership: Your Path to Harmony waitlist: elainefroese.com/membership   Get your farm family talking and making decisions to kick-start better farm transition conversations.  Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books    

In today's episode of The Farm Family Harmony Podcast, Elaine discusses the topic of procrastination and how it is impacting agriculture and farm families. Procrastination is often tied to conflict avoidance, and many are avoiding having difficult conversations about the future of the farm and the family. In this podcast episode, Elaine offers advice for overcoming procrastination and taking action on important decisions. She also encourages farmers to work with a team of advisors, including a lawyer, accountant, financial planner, and coach, to help navigate the transition process. Elaine also reminds listeners that the farming journey is a long one, and that taking the first step is crucial to achieving success. Tune in today's podcast for more insights and tips. Get your farm family talking and making decisions to kick-start better farm transition conversations.   Download for free here: elainefroese.com/free-planning-resources/ Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books   Follow Elaine On social to hear about upcoming events, free transition tools, and finding harmony tips! Facebook: www.facebook.com/farmfamilycoach Instagram: www.instagram.com/farmfamilycoach LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/farmfamilycoach YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/farmfamilycoach Twitter: twitter.com/elainefroese

In this episode, Elaine Froese tackles the Workaholism Monster! We learn how a Pomodoro can help you live a more intentional life with your farm family at home. Elaine gives tips on how to start mending your broken work culture on the farm. And, finally, find out where your time is really going and how to make sure you have more of it, for the things that matter most.   Book Elaine Froese to Speak at Your Next Event: elainefroese.com/speaking Get a Farm Transition coach: elainefroese.com/coaching Shop Elaine's Bookstore: elainefroese.com/shop/#books Follow Elaine On social to hear about upcoming events, free transition tools, and finding harmony tips! Facebook: www.facebook.com/farmfamilycoach Instagram: www.instagram.com/farmfamilycoach LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/farmfamilycoach YouTube: www.youtube.com/c/farmfamilycoach Twitter: twitter.com/elainefroese