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Dan shares strategies for creating value as an entrepreneur - from maximizing personal productivity to defending your creative space so you can build something meaningful. He breaks down the common roadblocks entrepreneurs face at the $300K revenue mark and shares practical wisdom for navigating difficult personalities in business and in life. Book recos form the episode: “Getting Things Done” (https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Workbook-Productivity/dp/0143133438/ref=asc_df_0143133438?mcid=8cf409580165307c978272271b141e8d&hvocijid=15444100736713862639-0143133438-&hvexpln=73&tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=721245378154&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=15444100736713862639&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007527&hvtargid=pla-2281435179258&psc=1) “5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life” (https://www.amazon.com/Types-People-Ruin-Your-Life/dp/B0DV6KLYC6/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2XI6HASJOC1CI&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.vB7JCEt3Og8cDygXrXeEWuprrnGZbCo9bXz_8hivMgw.ljlmur6bThrAhnt8mX938E0x47HbPWXHVGLTBrS1JwI&dib_tag=se&keywords=5+types+of+people+who+can+ruin+your+life+workbook&qid=1743617303&sprefix=5+types+of+peo%2Caps%2C121&sr=8-1) “The Courage to Be Disliked” (https://www.amazon.com/The-Courage-to-Be-Disliked-audiobook/dp/B07BRPW98K/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2J6KLS4URJPZ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.6M0xO7k-7OIyut3WpFLx89nhn98gTCAwAFJbzRcsBAsPYnWu8eYEzx6UuC9P43UDe-4GfUHDnBPOxhPsiCPZ5EjePC6L_-mhWJ0xAy26V-M.wyFwtN60MQaRbI5NabZRkzp2HRhm4B4dCdxhHMjIgjg&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+courage+to+be+disliked&qid=1743617338&s=audible&sprefix=the+courage+to+b%2Caudible%2C133&sr=1-1) CHAPTERS (00:00:13) Intro (00:00:45) “Entrepreneurs create more value than they consume” (00:02:12) Create & define space for creativity (00:03:52) Consistency in daily activities (00:04:55) “Getting Things Done” (00:05:59) What's your “one thing”? (00:06:22) Setting up for reactive success (00:08:30) Being your own leader (Manage productive time) (00:11:40) Change meeting structure to protect creative time (00:15:17) The $300K sticking point (00:15:55) Key blockers: marketing systems & hiring decisions (00:17:46) Taking a pay cut in order to grow (00:18:53) Scale beyond one-to-one service delivery (00:19:56) Organizational design is critical (00:21:18) “The Five Types of People Who Will Ruin Your Life” (00:23:07) “The Courage to Be Disliked” (00:24:11) Improving business and personal relationships (00:25:39) Wrap Up CONNECT Dan “at” tropicalmba dot com Ian “at” tropicalmba dot com LINKS Join the DC (http://dynamitecircle.com/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/tropicalmba/) PLAYLIST "The Tailwind Index" & Dodging Business Blindspots (https://tropicalmba.com/episodes/tailwind-index-dodging-business) The Unexpected Downsides of Selling Your Business (https://tropicalmba.com/episodes/exit-founders-disappointed) Success Without Sacrifice? (https://tropicalmba.com/episodes/success-without-sacrifice)

The Courage to Be Disliked Book Summary | How to Stop Seeking ApprovalMost of us spend our lives trying to be liked. But what if true happiness comes from the exact opposite?Based on the groundbreaking ideas of Alfred Adler, The Courage to Be Disliked reveals why seeking validation holds us back—and how letting go of approval leads to true freedom. This book challenges everything we think about success, relationships, and self-worth.In this Book Summary, you'll learn: ✔ Why your insecurities aren't facts—they're just opinions you've created ✔ How to stop living for approval and start living for yourself ✔ Why freedom means being willing to be disliked ✔ How to separate what you can control from what you can't ✔ The biggest life-lie keeping you from true happiness

Is the government manipulating inflation data? Why do so many people feel like their personal costs are rising faster than official inflation numbers suggest? In this episode of the Rational Reminder Podcast, we dive deep into one of the most debated and misunderstood economic topics: inflation. Today, we are joined by Andrew Barclay, an economist and senior analyst in the Consumer Price Division at Statistics Canada, to discuss everything you need to know about inflation and the Consumer Price Index (CPI). Statistics Canada is Canada's national statistical agency dedicated to producing accurate, relevant, and timely data to help Canadians better understand their country. In our conversation, we unpack how inflation and the CPI are calculated and why it is so important. We explore the controversy around CPI calculations and the influence of inflation on government benefits, tax brackets, and the overall economy. Andrew also addresses scepticism and conspiracy theories about government inflation reporting, uncovers drivers of the perception gap, and explains how Statistics Canada ensures the accuracy and integrity of its data. Join us to hear the real story behind CPI and inflation with Andrew Barclay!   Key Points From This Episode:   (0:00:00) Background about Andrew and what inspired today's topic.  (0:05:33) Find out why measuring inflation is important and how the CPI is calculated.  (0:10:08) What goes into the CPI basket and how frequently the contents are updated. (0:12:42) How consumer choices impact inflation and how 'shrinkflation' is accounted for. (0:15:43) Learn how quality adjustments are accounted for in the CPI and why they matter.  (0:19:01) Scepticism surrounding quality adjustments and how the CPI adapts to crises. (0:25:21) The role of grocery price tracking and why Canada uses a single CPI measure. (0:28:08) Explore the idea of personal inflation and why it is usually different to the CPI. (0:31:10) The difference between home prices and housing costs and how they are calculated. (0:35:41) Hear how Statistics Canada's approach for housing compares to other methodologies. (0:41:15) Perceived inflation versus actual inflation and drivers of the inflation perception gap. (0:51:58) Statistics Canada's method of dealing with the perception gap and ensuring quality.  (0:55:51) Uncover the most criticized indexes and how Statistics Canada includes feedback. (1:01:52) Andrew's message for those who do not trust the CPI and his definition of success.   Links From Today's Episode: Meet with PWL Capital: https://calendly.com/d/3vm-t2j-h3p Rational Reminder on iTunes — https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-rational-reminder-podcast/id1426530582. Rational Reminder Website — https://rationalreminder.ca/  Rational Reminder on Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/rationalreminder/ Rational Reminder on X — https://x.com/RationalRemindRational Reminder on TikTok — www.tiktok.com/@rationalreminder Rational Reminder on YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/channel/ Rational Reminder Email — info@rationalreminder.caBenjamin Felix — https://pwlcapital.com/our-team/ Benjamin on X — https://x.com/benjaminwfelix Benjamin on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/benjaminwfelix/ Mark McGrath on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmcgrathcfp/ Mark McGrath on X — https://x.com/MarkMcGrathCFP Andrew Barclay on LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-barclay-a38b6035/ Statistics Canada — https://www.statcan.gc.ca/ Canadian System of National Accounts | 'Catalogue of products' — https://publications.gc.ca/Collection/Statcan/13F0029X/13F0029XIE2000001.pdf Bank of Canada — https://www.bankofcanada.ca/ Canadian Real Estate Association (CREA) — https://www.crea.ca/ Episode 323: Renting Versus Buying a Home in Canada 2005-2024 — https://rationalreminder.ca/podcast/323 Surveys of Consumers | University of Michigan — https://data.sca.isr.umich.edu/ Statistics Canada | The Daily — https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/dai-quo/index-eng.htm   Books From Today's Episode:   The Courage to Be Disliked — https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1501197274   Papers From Today's Episode:  'The naked eye versus the CPI: How does our perception of inflation stack up against the data?' — https://www.statcan.gc.ca/o1/en/plus/256-naked-eye-versus-cpi-how-does-our-perception-inflation-stack-against-data

Are we bound by our past experiences, or do we have the power to redefine them? it's time to challenge our thinking by contrasting psychological theories of Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler and how their ideas shape the way we see ourselves today.Inspired by The Courage to Be Disliked, we explore how shifting perspectives on past experiences can lead to personal freedom and growth. What We Discuss:Freud vs. Adler—two opposing views on human behaviourAre we shaped by past trauma or our present choices?Why taking responsibility for our experiences can be freeingThe difference between therapy and real-world problem-solvingPractical ways to reframe your past and take control of your futureKeen to learn more about personal growth, career and money?   Find me on Instagram or Tik Tok  Thank you for listening, it means so much to me. Please leave a comment, rating or review if you're enjoying and we will chat in the next episode. Need help creating a CV? Here's one of the best FREE CV creators.  Want to get in touch directly?   sarah@theoneupproject.nz  Disclaimer: All opinions are my own, please seek professional financial advice.

In this episode, Smith and Mayhew dive into the powerful lessons from The Courage to Be Disliked and why so many men hold themselves back because of fear—fear of judgment, fear of failure, and fear of not being ‘ready'. We unpack why waiting for the perfect conditions is just another excuse, how self-sabotage often hides behind good intentions, and why caring less about what others think is a game-changer for growth. If you want your question answered on a future episode, please drop the lads a line : hello@agameconsultancy.com   RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE The Courage to Be Disliked – Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga - AMAZON UK The Let Them Theory - Mel Robbins - AMAZON UK Adam Smith From depressed and suicidal to the happiest and fittest he's ever been, Adam Smith's self-development journey hasn't been easy but it has been worth it. Today, he's a qualified mindset coach in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and a certified Time Line Therapist®. Adam has coached many high performers, using NLP to rewire his clients' thoughts and behaviours so they can destroy limiting beliefs and engineer the change needed to excel. Connect with Adam Smith: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-smith-high-performance-coach/ Adam Mayhew Adam Mayhew swapped burnout and binge drinking for ultra marathons, CrossFit and sobriety. A registered nutritional therapist specialising in performance nutrition, Adam supports everyone from office workers to athletes to build healthy eating habits. Using science (and never fad diets, quick fixes or gym bro culture) he helps clients target their problem areas and confidently master diet, training and lifestyle. Connect with Adam Mayhew: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-mayhew-nutrition-coaching/ To find out more about Smith & Mayhew: https://agameconsultancy.com/about/

Dan breaks down five key mindset shifts for business owners in the thick of the growth grind. Inspired by Alex Hormozi's tweet on sacrifice, he explores what it really takes to succeed—reflecting on courage, relationships, and balance—with actionable takeaways to stay productive and happy. Book referenced in the episode is The Power to be Disliked (https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1668065967/ref=asc_df_1668065967?mcid=0db73a9ea9f13b728a2cf3eb593e7720&hvocijid=13369597873068056788-1668065967-&hvexpln=73&tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=730432682330&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13369597873068056788&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007527&hvtargid=pla-2281435176698&psc=1). Connect with 1000+ global founders running profitable online businesses without sacrificing their unique lifestyles @ dynamitecircle.com (http://dynamitecircle.com/). CHAPTERS (00:00:35) Hormozi's 10-year formula for success (00:04:29) “The Courage to Be Disliked” (00:11:01) Change your relationships (00:15:12) Accept your responsibility (00:16:33) Take on a six-week sprint (00:18:26) Baseline & Brenwall (00:20:50) Do it for the right reasons CONNECT Dan “at” tropicalmba dot com Ian “at” tropicalmba dot com LINKS Join the DC (http://dynamitecircle.com/) Follow us on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/tropicalmba/) PLAYLIST Niche B2B Content = Big Revenue on YouTube (https://tropicalmba.com/episodes/b2b-content-youtube) The Unexpected Downsides of Selling Your Business (https://tropicalmba.com/episodes/exit-founders-disappointed) Is Your Biggest Expense Helping or Hurting? (https://tropicalmba.com/episodes/your-biggest-expense) Past guests on TMBA include Cal Newport, David Heinemeier Hannson, Seth Godin, Ricardo Semler, Noah Kagan, Rob Walling, Jay Clouse, Einar Vollset, Sam Dogan, Gino Wickam, James Clear, Jodie Cook, Mark Webster, Steph Smith, Taylor Pearson, Justin Tan, Matt Gartland, Ayman Al-Abdullah, Lucy Bella Simkins, Brian Balfour, Nick Huber, Mike Michalowicz, Greg Crabtree, Jordan Gal

Today on “Run a Profitable Gym,” Two-Brain founder and CEO Chris Cooper shares his top book recommendations for gym owners in 2025. He unpacks the lessons he learned from these titles and how he applied them to grow his gym and his other businesses.Remember, it's not how many books you read that matters; what matters is that you put what you learn into action.Ready to learn and take action to grow your gym? Check out Chris' suggested reading list below: - “The Mountain Is You” by Brianna Wiest- “The Courage to Be Disliked” by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi- “High Road Leadership” by John C. Maxwell- “Tribalnomics” by Justin Garcia- “Be the Unicorn” by William Vanderbloemen- “10x Is Easier Than 2x” by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy- “The Obvious Choice” by Jonathan Goodman- “The Road Less Stupid” by Keith J. Cunningham- “The Golden Hour” by Chris Cooper LinksGym Owners UnitedBook a Call  01:24 - Books 1 and 205:53 - Books 3 and 411:24 - Books 5 and 614:16 - Books 7 and 819:05 - “The Golden Hour” by Chris Cooper

“The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked. When you choose to live authentically, you inevitably invite criticism.” — The Courage to Be DislikedIn today's social media-driven world, the desire to be liked by everyone can become an overwhelming force that shapes our thoughts, actions, and identity. But The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga argues that true freedom and happiness come not from being liked but from living authentically — even if it means facing rejection. The book, based on the psychological theories of Alfred Adler, teaches readers how to break free from the chains of external validation and embrace a life rooted in personal values.This episode explores the idea that living a meaningful life requires courage — specifically, the courage to be disliked.The Strong Stoic Podcast is a raw, honest, and unapologetically deep podcast about philosophy and self-improvement. Join your host, Brandon Tumblin, as he breaks down a wide variety of complex and difficult topics aimed at provoking thought and opening your perspective.This podcast is listener-supported; if you would like to support the Strong Stoic (as well as gain access to exclusive content), you can do so on Patreon or Substack:Patreon: www.patreon.com/brandontumblinSubstack: https://strongstoic.substack.com

“The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked. When you choose to live authentically, you inevitably invite criticism.” — The Courage to Be DislikedIn today's social media-driven world, the desire to be liked by everyone can become an overwhelming force that shapes our thoughts, actions, and identity. But The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga argues that true freedom and happiness come not from being liked but from living authentically — even if it means facing rejection. The book, based on the psychological theories of Alfred Adler, teaches readers how to break free from the chains of external validation and embrace a life rooted in personal values.This episode explores the idea that living a meaningful life requires courage — specifically, the courage to be disliked.The Strong Stoic Podcast is a raw, honest, and unapologetically deep podcast about philosophy and self-improvement. Join your host, Brandon Tumblin, as he breaks down a wide variety of complex and difficult topics aimed at provoking thought and opening your perspective.This podcast is listener-supported; if you would like to support the Strong Stoic (as well as gain access to exclusive content), you can do so on Patreon or Substack:Patreon: www.patreon.com/brandontumblinSubstack: https://strongstoic.substack.com

In this episode, we dive deep into the pervasive issue of imposter syndrome and uncover the 3 practical steps you need to silence self-doubt and step into your full potential. Join 11,000+ leaders receiving the Finding Peak Newsletter: https://go.ryanhanley.com Connect with Ryan Hanley: https://linktr.ee/ryan_hanley Using personal stories, research-backed insights, and actionable strategies, you'll learn how to reframe your inner critic, document your wins, and align with your purpose to show up with confidence—even when fear lingers. If you've ever felt like a fraud or doubted your worth, this episode is your roadmap to conquering those thoughts for good. What You'll Learn in This Episode The truth about imposter syndrome and why high achievers often feel it most. Step 1: Reframe the Critic – Learn to use the inner voice of doubt as a guide rather than an enemy. Step 2: Collect Your Receipts – Discover why creating a “success file” can be a game-changer when resistance strikes. Step 3: Reconnect With Your Mission – How shifting your focus from perfectionism to purpose helps you lead with confidence. The surprising role of fear in personal growth—and why it's often a sign you're on the right track. Memorable Quotes “Imposter syndrome isn't protecting you—it's protecting itself. The louder it gets, the closer you are to something great.” “You are not the voice in your head. You are the one who hears it—and that's where your power lies.” “When you shift your focus to the people you're here to serve, fear and self-doubt take a backseat.” Resources Mentioned The War of Art by Steven Pressfield – https://amzn.to/4j1yzm6 The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer – https://amzn.to/422wzEc The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga – https://amzn.to/3DICO5S Actionable Takeaways Start a “success file” today—document your wins, feedback, and achievements. When doubt creeps in, ask yourself: “What value am I bringing in this moment?” Write down your purpose or mission statement and revisit it whenever resistance gets loud. Connect with Us Got a story about how you've overcome imposter syndrome. Please share it in the comments... Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast so we can reach and inspire more listeners like you!

In this episode, we dive deep into the pervasive issue of imposter syndrome and uncover the 3 practical steps you need to silence self-doubt and step into your full potential. Join 11,000+ leaders receiving the Finding Peak Newsletter: https://go.ryanhanley.com Connect with Ryan Hanley: https://linktr.ee/ryan_hanley Using personal stories, research-backed insights, and actionable strategies, you'll learn how to reframe your inner critic, document your wins, and align with your purpose to show up with confidence—even when fear lingers. If you've ever felt like a fraud or doubted your worth, this episode is your roadmap to conquering those thoughts for good. What You'll Learn in This Episode The truth about imposter syndrome and why high achievers often feel it most. Step 1: Reframe the Critic – Learn to use the inner voice of doubt as a guide rather than an enemy. Step 2: Collect Your Receipts – Discover why creating a “success file” can be a game-changer when resistance strikes. Step 3: Reconnect With Your Mission – How shifting your focus from perfectionism to purpose helps you lead with confidence. The surprising role of fear in personal growth—and why it's often a sign you're on the right track. Memorable Quotes “Imposter syndrome isn't protecting you—it's protecting itself. The louder it gets, the closer you are to something great.” “You are not the voice in your head. You are the one who hears it—and that's where your power lies.” “When you shift your focus to the people you're here to serve, fear and self-doubt take a backseat.” Resources Mentioned The War of Art by Steven Pressfield – https://amzn.to/4j1yzm6 The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer – https://amzn.to/422wzEc The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga – https://amzn.to/3DICO5S Actionable Takeaways Start a “success file” today—document your wins, feedback, and achievements. When doubt creeps in, ask yourself: “What value am I bringing in this moment?” Write down your purpose or mission statement and revisit it whenever resistance gets loud. Connect with Us Got a story about how you've overcome imposter syndrome. Please share it in the comments... Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast so we can reach and inspire more listeners like you!

303 Episode #471 Best of 2024 Welcome to Episode #471 of the 303 Endurance Podcast. We're your hosts Coaches Rich Soares and April Spilde. Thanks for joining us for another week of endurance news, coaching tips and discussion. Shoutouts to: @genucan @ironmantri @303triathlon @tridottraining @tridottrainingsystem #ironmantri #cycling #triathlon #swimbikerun #Iamtridot #tridotambassador #tridotcoach   Show Sponsor: UCAN UCAN created LIVSTEADY as an alternative to sugar based nutrition products. LIVSTEADY was purposefully designed to work with your body, delivering long-lasting energy you can feel. Whether UCAN Energy Powders, Bars or Gels, LIVSTEADY's unique time-release profile allows your body to access energy consistently throughout the day, unlocking your natural ability to finish stronger and recover more quickly!    In Today's Show Announcements Ask A Coach Get Gritty Ironman Confessions Triathlon News/Updates - X-Mas Gift Exchange     Announcements:   Upcoming Programming in January - In January we are going to bulletproof you and your season with a focus on strength and mobility. In fact we have Erin Carson on board to share her expertise on the podcast.    FulGaz Virtual Group Ride Schedule Dec. 21 - IM Kona 8am MT The FulGaz Experience Lessons Learned and Adjustments Dec. 28 - IM Cozumel 8am MT Jan. 4 - IM Nice 8am MT   Ask A Coach Sponsor: G2G Coaching Triathletes, are you ready to level up and see what's possible with smarter training? At Grit2Greatness Coaching, we're here to set you up for success with TriDot's game-changing platform.   When you click Coach April's or Coach Rich's TriDot Sign-Up link, you'll get a white-glove onboarding experience designed to help you hit the ground running. We'll walk you through every step of the process—from setting up your TriDot account to understanding how the platform tailors your workouts to fit your goals and lifestyle.  Your onboarding will include 2-weeks of free access and then you can decide on plans as low as $14.99 per month.  Get started with us because we've been where you are and know how to bridge the gap between where you're starting and where you want to be. With TriDot and our support, you'll train smarter, gain confidence, and crush your goals.   Ready to get gritty? Start your journey today—because every epic finish line starts with the first step!   Ask A Coach:  Coach Rich, as you know, I had my CSS test this morning and it was my first in a 25 meter (LCM) pool. I maintained my swim dot score, and definitely gave it my all. The only issue is that I know I left a lot of meat on the bone because of my flip turn technique, especially during the 400 meter portion. In 2025, my swim goal is to focus on improving my flip turns so that I am faster doing them then turning at the wall. What tips do you have to help me master my flip turns? Train With Coach Rich: Coach Rich Soares Rich.soares@tridot.com Rich Soares Coaching TriDot Signup - https://app.tridot.com/onboard/sign-up/richsoares RunDot Signup - https://app.rundot.com/onboard/sign-up/richsoares   Train with Coach April: Coach April Spilde April.spilde@tridot.com Grit2Greatness Endurance Podcast Podcast Series - Apple Podcasts TriDot Signup - https://app.tridot.com/onboard/sign-up/aprilspilde   Best of 2025:   It has been a 303 tradition to have our final episode of the year to reflect on the year. We are going to do this in two parts:   Part 1: Our Favorite “Tri Related” Things    Rich's: Pro Race at any distance: Paris Olympic MTR Personal Race or Event: Colorado's Ride Personal Training Day: Pike Peak Book: The One Thing by Gary Keller and Jay Papasan Podcast Episode: Gwen Jorgensen Races Local and Mark Allen Reset Tips   April's Pro Race at any distance: Definitely the XTERRA North American Championships at Oak Mountain State Park, Pelham AL–getting to see my faves all in one place and race on the same day! Personal Race or Event: Boulder Sunset Tri - Athena 2nd place finish and flew out of the water looking like swamp thang, LOL Personal Training Day: Riding the Falcon Trail on the Air Force Academy Book: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (Highly recommend you listen to this one). A self-help book that encourages readers to embrace their individuality and live authentically, regardless of others' opinions, by applying the philosophical concepts of Alfred Adler, which emphasize the idea that true happiness comes from accepting oneself and not seeking validation from others, essentially finding courage to be disliked if it means staying true to yourself; the book is structured as a dialogue between a young man and a philosopher discussing these ideas, allowing readers to explore the concepts through conversation. Podcast Episode: Ep. #271 Building Powerful Triathlon Habits & Episode #461 Preventing/Rehabbing Injury 9 Year End Reflection Questions     Get Gritty Tip: Welcome to this week's “Get Gritty” tip!   This is where we dive deep into the nuts and bolts of mental toughness, resilience, and building a winning mindset—not just for peak performance in triathlon but for life itself. After all, the best athletes are those who inspire others and lead by example. This week, we're drawing inspiration from Richard Barrett's Seven Levels of Consciousness as outlined in his book, “A New Psychology of Human Well-Being.”  Every decision you make—from pushing through the last mile of a race to handling a tough conversation with a teammate—stems from your current awareness. Recognizing that and learning how to elevate yourself is a game changer. These levels offer a fascinating way to think about how we grow mentally and emotionally, and how our consciousness evolves to guide our actions. Let's break it down:   The Seven Levels of Consciousness map your mental and emotional state across different dimensions. The first three levels—Survival, Relationship, and Self-Esteem—are where fear-based, limiting beliefs often hold us back. Imagine you're mid-race, and your energy plummets. If your mindset shifts to Survival mode, you may feel overwhelmed and anxious, questioning your ability to finish. Sound familiar? These thoughts are rooted in fear, not possibility. Here's the gritty part: when you recognize these fear-based triggers, you gain the power to shift your mindset. For example, instead of spiraling into doubt when you're struggling on the bike or in open water, ground yourself by focusing on what's in your control—your breathing, cadence, or a mental mantra like 'calm and strong.' This technique helps you climb from Survival consciousness to higher levels like Transformation or Internal Cohesion, where you're aligned with your purpose and values, not paralyzed by fear. For coaches, this model is equally transformative. When you understand where your athletes are mentally, you can tailor your guidance to meet them where they are. An athlete stuck in Survival consciousness after a DNF might need reassurance and small, actionable steps to rebuild their confidence. By recognizing these patterns, you help them develop resilience and guide them toward realizing their potential. Ready to go deeper? Level 1: Survival Consciousness   *Triathlete Perspective*:   At this level, you're focused on meeting your most basic needs—hydration, nutrition, rest, and overall health. Think about the first time you trained for a triathlon. Were you worried about how far you could swim without panicking or whether you'd have the energy to finish a workout? Survival consciousness is about building a foundation of physical security. For new triathletes, it's essential to master these basics without succumbing to fear. Trust your training plan and learn to prepare for challenges like staying fueled on a long ride or handling a flat tire on race day. *Coach's Perspective*:   A coach operating at this level helps their athletes build confidence in the fundamentals—proper gear, safety in open water, and pacing basics. It's about creating an environment where athletes feel safe to grow without being overwhelmed by survival fears.  Level 2: Relationship Consciousness   *Triathlete Perspective*:   Once your survival needs are met, you start seeking connection—belonging to a training group or feeling supported by friends and family. At this stage, having training partners or a triathlon club is critical. It's where you begin to feel like you're part of a team and gain strength from the relationships you've built. *Coach's Perspective*:   A great coach fosters a sense of community. They emphasize the importance of collaboration, such as relay races or group workouts, where athletes feel supported. This level is also where trust is built between coach and athlete, helping athletes feel safe to share fears or insecurities. Level 3: Self-Esteem Consciousness   *Triathlete Perspective*:   This level is about proving to yourself that you belong in the sport. Maybe you're chasing your first podium finish, hitting a PR, or finally calling yourself a "triathlete" without hesitation. However, the flip side of this level is battling self-doubt. A bad workout or race can trigger those nagging thoughts of not being good enough.  *Coach's Perspective*:   Coaches at this level focus on building confidence. They set realistic goals for their athletes to achieve small wins, reinforcing a sense of accomplishment. A coach might celebrate a new PR or remind athletes that even showing up is a victory on tough days. Level 4: Transformation Consciousness   *Triathlete Perspective*:   At this stage, you start asking more profound questions. Why am I doing this? What does triathlon mean to me? This is where athletes often discover their *why*—whether it's to push boundaries, inspire others, or simply find joy in the process. Transformation consciousness is about stripping away ego-driven motives and aligning your training with core values. *Coach's Perspective*:   Coaches help guide athletes toward this level by encouraging reflection. This might involve post-race debriefs, journaling about their journey, or exploring how triathlon fits into their broader life goals. Level 5: Internal Cohesion Consciousness   *Triathlete Perspective*:   Triathletes find meaning and fulfillment in their training and races at this level. It's not just about crossing the finish line but about how the sport contributes to your well-being. You start to notice how the discipline, focus, and resilience from triathlon spill over into other areas of your life.   *Coach's Perspective*:   Coaches help athletes connect their training to a larger purpose. This might mean encouraging them to mentor newer triathletes, participate in charity events, or reflect on how triathlon enhances their relationships and careers. Level 6: Making a Difference Consciousness  *Triathlete Perspective*:   You're not just in the sport for yourself at this stage—you want to give back. Maybe you're mentoring a beginner, volunteering at a race, or advocating for inclusivity in triathlon. Your focus shifts to making a positive impact on others.   *Coach's Perspective*:   Coaches at this level inspire athletes to think beyond personal goals and contribute to the community. They might lead initiatives to promote youth triathlon programs or encourage athletes to support causes that align with their values. Level 7: Service Consciousness   *Triathlete Perspective*:   This is the pinnacle of consciousness, where triathlon becomes a way of life and an expression of your deepest self. Training and racing are no longer "work" but a form of play, joy, and connection. You're fully aligned with your purpose, using the sport as a platform to live authentically and inspire others.   *Coach's Perspective*:   A coach at this level is no longer just teaching athletes—they're transforming lives. They model selfless service and show that triathlon can be a force for good, whether it's inspiring resilience, building community, or fostering personal transformation. Here's the gritty takeaway: every level builds on the last. To grow as athletes and humans, we need to move beyond basic survival or simple performance metrics and tap into reflection, connection, and purpose. When you level up your consciousness, you level up your life—inside and outside the sport.   Triathlon is the perfect metaphor for life—challenging, rewarding, and constantly evolving. By learning to identify and elevate your level of consciousness, you don't just get stronger physically; you build the mental toughness that helps you overcome any obstacle. Remember, growth begins with awareness.  So, this week, ask yourself: what level of consciousness are you operating from right now? How can you elevate it? Whether you're a triathlete or a coach, climbing these levels could be the key to unlocking your potential.   That's it for our “Get Gritty” tip of the week! Stay tuned for more practical strategies to build resilience and mental toughness in every episode.   Today's Fun Segment: Ironman Confessions Description: A no-holds-barred look at the funny, embarrassing, or downright weird moments athletes have experienced during training or races. Think: porta-potty stories, open-water freak-outs, or “bonking” in the most awkward situations. Example: “I ate someone else's gel at an aid station…on purpose.” Example: “I have sucked the sweat out of the bill of my own visor.” Truth or Lie? Example: “Drank out of a dog bowl at the end of a driveway” Truth or Lie? We want to hear from you! 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Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga's The Courage to Be Disliked,

Chapter 1:Summary of The Courage to Be Disliked"The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is a philosophical dialogue that explores themes of individual freedom, self-acceptance, and the nature of happiness. The book is structured as a conversation between a philosopher and a young man, who represents readers' doubts and concerns.Key points include:1. Adlerian Psychology: The book is grounded in the principles of Alfred Adler, an early 20th-century psychologist. It emphasizes the idea that our past experiences do not define us; rather, we have the power to shape our present and future.2. Courage to Be Disliked: It encourages readers to embrace the idea that being disliked by others can be a natural outcome of living authentically. True happiness comes from self-acceptance and pursuing personal goals, rather than seeking approval from others.3. Interpersonal Relationships: The authors stress the importance of relationships and suggest that many of our problems stem from issues in how we relate to others. They argue that the key to healthy relationships is mutual respect and understanding, rather than dependence on external validation.4. Freedom and Responsibility: The book discusses the notion of freedom as an inherent human quality that comes with the responsibility to choose one's own path in life. Each individual is responsible for their own happiness and for the choices they make.5. Living in the Present: The dialogue encourages a focus on the present moment, as dwelling on the past or fearing the future can inhibit personal growth and happiness.Overall, "The Courage to Be Disliked" promotes a message of empowerment, urging readers to confront their fears and societal expectations in order to live more authentic and fulfilling lives. The conversational format makes complex psychological concepts accessible, encouraging readers to reflect on their own beliefs and behaviors.Chapter 2:The Theme of The Courage to Be Disliked"The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is a philosophical dialogue that explores themes of self-acceptance, interpersonal relationships, and psychological theories primarily based on the teachings of Alfred Adler. Here are some key plot points, character developments, and thematic ideas present in the book: Key Plot Points1. Dialogue Structure: The book is structured as a conversation between a philosopher (the Mentor) and a young man (the Student) who questions the ideas presented. This format allows for a dynamic exploration of complex philosophical concepts.2. Rejection of Past Influences: The Mentor guides the Student to understand that one's past experiences do not determine their future. The emphasis is on the power of choice and how individuals can define themselves irrespective of their upbringing.3. Concept of Separation of Tasks: A significant point is the "separation of tasks," where the Mentor explains how individuals should focus on their own tasks and not interfere with others' responsibilities, fostering healthier relationships.4. Interpersonal Relationships: The conversations shift to the importance of community and social connections. The Mentor illustrates how having a sense of belonging and working toward the common good can enhance one's life.5. Courage and Happiness: The idea that true happiness comes from having the courage to be oneself is a recurrent theme. The Mentor encourages the Student to embrace his individuality, which may involve moving away from societal expectations. Character Development- The Mentor: Represents Adlerian philosophy and serves as a guiding voice throughout the narrative. He embodies wisdom and encourages growth through challenging the Student's preconceived notions.- The Student: Initially skeptical and resistant, the Student...

On this episode, I am joined by Carly O'Donoghue. We highlight five books that we believe everyone should own, and if you don't, they should be on your Christmas List. These books would also be perfect for team members, friends and family. Book 1: Untamed - https://amzn.to/4g2BYPr "The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that there was something wrong with me." Book 2: The Courage to Be Disliked - https://amzn.to/3AIswSp Book 3: Nedd Brockman Showing Up - https://amzn.to/4eGgM0A Book 4: The 12 Week Year - https://amzn.to/4i3CKxd Book 5: The One Thing - https://amzn.to/3YYULEs If you find this video interesting, please share it with your friends, give it a thumbs up, and subscribe to the channel so you never miss an update. My Books: It's No Secret There's Money in Podiatry - https://amzn.to/3ZJxto5 It's No Secret There's Money in Small Business - https://amzn.to/4dklIY3 ON-SITE TRAINING & LEADERSHIP DAYS My training and leadership days are designed specifically for your podiatry business needs. I can tailor my program based on your team's needs (Teamwork, Leadership, Goal Setting, Improving Happiness, Understanding KPIs, Following Systems). If you want to learn more, please email me at tf@tysonfranklin.com. We can then arrange a Zoom call to discuss your clinical and business needs, as no two podiatry businesses are the same. BUSINESS COACHING Do you have questions about your business, team, personal goals and career direction? If you do, I'm here to help in any way I can. I recommend following the link below to my calendar and scheduling a free 30-minute Zoom call. I guarantee that after we talk, you will have far more clarity on what is best for you, your business and your career. https://calendly.com/tysonfranklin/podmeeting30 A podiatrist I spoke with in early 2024 made an extra $40,000 by following my advice from the 30-minute free Zoom call. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.   

Don't miss out on the next #womenintech podcast episode, get notified by signing up here http://womenintechshow.comBe featured in the Women in Tech Community by creating your profile here http://womenintechvip.com“Kalli Prins of Her Workplace: The Career Network”#womenintech Show is a WeAreTech.fm production.Become a Most Valuable Listener at http://womenintech.loveTo support the Women in Tech podcast go to https://www.patreon.com/womenintechTo be featured on the podcast go to http://womenintechshow.com/featureHost,Espree Devora https://twitter.com/espreedevorahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/espreeGuest, Kalli Prinshttps://www.linkedin.com/in/kalliprinsIn LA? Here's some awesome resources for you to become immersed in the LA Tech scene -For a calendar of all LA Startup events go to, http://WeAreLATech.comGet Podcast Listeners, http://getpodcastlisteners.com/Resources Mentioned:Her Workplace, https://www.herworkplace.comTech Week, https://www.tech-week.comChaGPT, https://openai.com/index/chatgptFocused Space, https://www.focused.space222, https://222.placeQuiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153The Art and Science of Connection, https://www.amazon.com/Art-Science-Connection-Missing-Healthier/dp/0063289113The Courage to Be Disliked, https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1501197274People Mentioned:Arlan Hamilton, https://www.instagram.com/arlanwashereMarilynn Joyner, https://www.linkedin.com/in/marilynn-elise-joynerCredits:Produced and Hosted by Espree Devora, http://espreedevora.comStory Produced, Edited and Mastered by Cory Jennings, https://www.coryjennings.comProduction and Voiceover by Adam Carroll, http://www.ariacreative.caTeam support by Janice GeronimoMusic by Jay Huffman, https://soundcloud.com/jayhuffmanShort Title: Kalli Prins

Episode Title: Exploring "The Courage to Be Disliked" Hosts: Leanne and Chelle Episode Overview: In this episode, Leanne and Chelle dive into "The Courage to Be Disliked" by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi. This book explores Alfred Adler's psychological theories, focusing on themes such as self-determination, social interest, and the courage to be disliked. The hosts discuss how past experiences shape us through the meanings we assign to them and highlight the concept of true happiness stemming from contributing to others. Key Discussion Points: Introduction to the Book: Leanne introduces "The Courage to Be Disliked," discussing its challenges and its foundation in Alfred Adler's psychology. Language and Respect: A conversation on the importance of language learning and respect, sparked by Leanne's experience with Japanese homework. Book's Premise and Style: The book's use of Adler's theories for personal growth and its conversational style, compared to "Conversations with God." Main Themes: Self-determination, social interest, and the courage to be disliked. The transient nature of relationships and contribution to happiness. Living for oneself and overcoming the tendency to please others. Practical Application: The significance of self-reflection and emotional work. The concept of horizontal relationships in parenting. Recommendations: Audiobook Suggestion: Leanne and Chelle recommend the audiobook version for its engaging conversational style. Further Reading: Interest in Fumitake Koga's other work, "The Courage to Be Happy." Final Thoughts: The hosts express their appreciation for the book's practical insights and invite listeners to share their thoughts and book recommendations.

Today's episode is a stream-of-consciousness conversation with myself about a few topics: 1) The political landscape of America one week before the election 2) Restlessness and discontent that has us look for alternatives 3) Standing on the SHOULDers of Giants and what that gets us Excuse the tickle in my throat that has me cough, or recognize it for what it is: a roadblock in the way to speaking my truth. That tickle represents my ability to choose to go forward in spite of circumstances that might want me to stay quiet. What do you typically do when roadblocks show up? Do you look for permission to proceed? Do you "go along to get along"? Or do you move forward in spite of the challenges? Want more opportunities to connect with others? Join us in the Enlightened Leadership Lab Mondays at 4 p.m. central (www.enlightenedleadershiplab.com). I mention three books today: The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, The Courage to Be Disliked, and The Courage to Be Happy.

In this episode, Dallas Pruitt reflect on recent storms, emphasizing community, service, and positivity. They discuss personal growth, avoiding self-centered thinking, and leadership lessons from The Courage to Be Disliked.Please leave a rating and review of the show! We are giving away a mystery prize to some lucky winners who leave us a rating and review.Check out the Multifamily Mindset store for great tools like the Think Bigger Journal and MFM merchandise.Follow Tyler & Dallas on Instagram:►Tyler Deveraux (@tyler_deveraux), CEO of Multifamily Mindset & Managing Partner of Multifamily Capital Partners►Dallas Pruitt (@dalpruitt), Founder of LIVE LIFE Mission and Resident Mindset Consultant at the Multifamily Mindset

Chapter 1:Summary of The Courage to Be Disliked"The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, published in 2013, is a philosophical self-help book presented in a dialogue format between a philosopher and a young man. The book explores principles of Adlerian psychology, a school of psychology founded by Alfred Adler, which emphasizes the importance of establishing self-worth and developing social interest as ways to lead a fulfilled life.Throughout the conversation, the book delves into various concepts and ideas central to Adlerian thought. Some of the key themes include:1. Separation of Tasks: The book discusses the importance of distinguishing between one's own tasks and the tasks of others. It asserts that intruding into others' tasks or allowing others to intrude into one's own tasks can lead to unnecessary stress and conflict.2. Freedom from Past and Others' Expectations: According to Adlerian psychology, individuals are not determined by their past or by ingrained trauma. Instead, people have the freedom to choose and reinterpret their past, ultimately guiding their own future independent of their history or societal expectations.3. Creation of Lifestyle: Adler suggests that by the age of three, individuals have already formed a unique lifestyle pattern that governs their behavior. This lifestyle is not fixed and can be changed through self-awareness and conscious effort.4. Pursuit of Superiority: Unlike the negative connotation that the word 'superiority' might suggest, Adler uses it to describe a person's natural desire to improve and succeed. The book differentiates between unhealthy forms of superiority, where one seeks to dominate or be better than others, and healthy forms, which are about self-improvement and personal growth.5. Social Interest and Community Feeling: One of the most crucial aspects of Adlerian psychology is the development of social interest, which refers to the feeling of connectedness with others and desire to contribute positively to the community. It is argued that true happiness and fulfillment come from being part of and contributing to the greater community.The book is structured as a series of discussions and rebuttals that allow the reader to explore deep psychological concepts in an engaging and accessible manner. "The Courage to Be Disliked" has been a bestseller in Asia and has resonated with readers worldwide for its profound insights into achieving lasting happiness and understanding one's own life and the lives of others.Chapter 2:The Theme of The Courage to Be Disliked"The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga is an engaging work that uses a conversational format to explore complex psychological concepts, primarily borrowing from the theories of Alfred Adler, an influential 20th-century psychologist. The book is structured as a dialogue between a young man and a philosopher over five consecutive nights. Here are key elements such as plot points, character development, and thematic ideas: Key Plot Points1. Introduction and Setting the Stage: The dialogue begins with the young man, skeptical and confrontational, visiting the philosopher to challenge his ideas about happiness and living a fulfilled life.2. Discussing Freedom: The philosopher introduces Adlerian psychology, emphasizing that people are not determined by their past, but are free to choose their future regardless of their circumstances.3. Concept of Trauma: The young man believes past trauma determines his present inability to be happy. The philosopher counters this by suggesting that trauma is not an experience but a chosen response to past events, which one can change.4. Tasks and Community Feeling: Discussing Adler's concept that human behavior is goal-oriented and tasks should not be for personal gain but for the good of the...

Guest: Mark Pincus, founder & chairman of Zynga, and managing member & co-founder of Reinvent CapitalBefore Zynga and Facebook made social gaming mainstream, the video game industry was “extreme on this being about art and crafting,” recalls Zynga founder Mark Pincus. He believes his winning instinct was the realization that games were “at least 50 percent science” — but it's not enough to just have the instinct. Mark says entrepreneurs like him have to quickly take multiple shots on the goal and “look for feedback loops that tell you your instinct is right ... you need to get to a minimum viable idea state and you need to find true signal around that idea state, that it's right or wrong, and move on.”Chapters:(01:40) - Rubbing sticks together (07:01) - Virtual businesses (12:10) - Pre-Zynga companies (13:51) - Setting the real intention (17:44) - Internet treasures (23:21) - Disrupting gaming (30:14) - The chip on Mark's shoulder (33:19) - The end of Tribe (37:24) - Zynga Poker (42:59) - Explosive growth (46:57) - Making the virtual real (52:02) - The downturn (58:12) - Stepping aside (sort of) (01:01:50) - Back into the fire (01:08:45) - In the abyss (01:11:46) - What “grit” means to Mark Mentioned in this episode: Dot Earth, Elon Musk and the Boring Company, Uber Eats and Dara Khosrowshahi, ChatGPT, Roblox, Madhappy, Reid Hoffman, Craigslist, Google, Napster and Sean Parker, the California Culinary Academy, Peter Thiel, Mark Zuckerberg and Facebook, Yahoo, John Doerr, Words with Friends, LinkedIn, Tribe.net, Supercell and Ilkka Paananen, FarmVille and Hay Day, Parker Conrad and Rippling, Bing Gordon, Fred Wilson, Brad Feld, the Game Developer's Conference, CNET, Matt Cohler, Don Mattrick, Microsoft and the Xbox, Joe Biden, Jason Citron and Discord, Steve Jobs, Super Labs, Marcus Segal, Frank Gibeau, The Courage to Be Disliked, and Stewart Butterfield.Links:Connect with MarkTwitterLinkedInConnect with JoubinTwitterLinkedInEmail: grit@kleinerperkins.com Learn more about Kleiner PerkinsThis episode was edited by Eric Johnson from LightningPod.fm

In this solo episode, I'm inviting you into a deeply personal and intimate space — one where we can reflect, grow, and have honest, heart-to-heart conversations. It's a chance for us to connect on a more meaningful level, exploring the lessons life has been teaching me lately and how I'm finding my way through them.In this episode, I cover:​⁠  ⁠Reflections and key takeaways from past episodes​⁠  ⁠Areas I'm currently focusing on to improve​⁠  ⁠Behind-the-scenes look at upcoming projects close to my heart​⁠  ⁠Finding clarity during seasons of uncertainty​⁠  ⁠The power of saying no to prioritize what truly matters​⁠  ⁠Two book recommendations that have shaped my journeyThis isn't just an episode; it's a personal conversation between us, grounded in reflection, growth, and the shared journey we're all on. I hope it resonates with you, brings comfort or inspiration, and reminds you that we're navigating life's twists and turns together — one step at a time

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On this show, Heather Satterley and Joe Woodard talk about the importance of revising pricing strategies for existing clients, an issue critical to any firm that has been in business for more than one year. Here are the key points they covered in the podcast: The Seven Step Revenue Reset Process: This is a high level discussion to get you thinking. The full revenue reset process is available to Woodard members. More information is at this link: https://www.woodard.com/membership-overview TV and Movie Segment: As always, Joe and Heather share quotes from recent shows they've watched and bring it back around to a relevant business topic. Joe recently watched The Acolyte and Heather binged House of the Dragon. Book Segment: Heather discussed "The Courage to Be Disliked," which talks about Alfred Adler's psychology theory focused on future-oriented living over being tethered to past traumas. Social Media Segment: Both Heather and Joe shared a social post, including one about the need for every business to have a specialist akin to an Olympic athlete who excels in one area. The AICPA Client Termination Letter Checklist can be found at this link. Woodard Report Article Recommendation: Heather recommended an article on managing seasonal revenue spikes for bookkeeping firms. Thank you to our show sponsor! Rightworks — All your accounting apps, unified in the cloud Learn more about the show and our sponsors at Woodard.com/podcast

In this episode, I spoke to Cassandra Rix, the owner and chief leadership coach at The Resonance Coach. Our conversation centered around understanding individual motivations and expectations within group efforts, especially in the context of company acquisitions. I think you will find the insights applicable to many situations at work and at home.Cass's Background and ExpertiseCass has spent over 20 years working with businesses either in the process of being acquired or on the tail end of an acquisition. She specializes in service agencies selling expertise and time, such as consultancies and communication specialists. Her focus now is on helping founders looking for investment or seeking an exit strategy, and the businesses interested in investing in them. She believes that many acquisitions fail despite thorough due diligence because the underlying human motivations and behaviors of the individuals involved aren't fully understood.Understanding MotivationsWhile people may outwardly agree on a common goal, such as selling a company, their underlying reasons can be very different. These differences will show up during times of significant change (after the investment or acquisition). Everyone's motivations are influenced by their own personal experiences and beliefs, which drive their decisions and behaviors.Cass's own interest in understanding motivations stems from her background in sales and marketing, where she worked with buyers and wanted to comprehend why people made specific purchasing decisions. Our beliefs drive our behavior, and it's crucial to recognize that we often make assumptions about others' motivations based on our own perspectives. We expect them to act the way we would. I'd like to look deeper into this in future episodes.If you find this helpful, it kind of makes sense to subscribe, doesn't it?The Challenges of AssumptionsIt's risky to assume that everyone's motivations are similar. Cass used the analogy of wearing someone else's shoes – just because you're in their shoes doesn't mean you understand their journey. This is especially relevant in business settings, where assuming that all founders or team members share the same motivations can lead to conflicts and dysfunction.Cass illustrated this with an example of how misaligned expectations can derail an acquisition. For instance, if one founder decides they have enough financial security post-acquisition and leaves, the remaining team dynamics can be severely disrupted:So the things that fall apart there is, well, we all think we've agreed to sell this business or invest, have investment in this business so that we can carry on. What does carry on mean? What if that means that one person has generated enough income in the acquisition process, not to need to stay throughout the earn-out. And suddenly you go from a leadership team or founding team of four to three or three to two. What if the other two people in that business were beautifully balanced by that third individual? And so the relationship that they're left with is dysfunctional. They don't really like each other. They don't know how to communicate with each other. They've never had to without that third person as a foil. And probably the most flawed thing is the assumption that the rest of the business, whether you're talking about another twenty people, fifty people or thousands of people, the assumption that those people don't know.This scenario can lead to conflicts and a decline in business performance, which affects everyone's livelihoods.The Role of Vulnerability and Communication As individuals climb the corporate ladder, they often create personas that might not align with their true selves. This can lead to exhaustion and dissatisfaction, as they try to maintain an identity that doesn't reflect their genuine motivations.Cass said that vulnerability is not a weakness but a strength. When leaders and team members are open about their true motivations and feelings, it fosters understanding and empathy. She shared that when people reveal their authentic selves, it often leads to relief and better teamwork. This openness can help teams navigate change more effectively, as everyone understands each other's perspectives and can support one another.Practical Implications and Real-World ExamplesCass pointed out how small habits and cultural norms, such as which hand you use to hold a fork, can shape our perspectives and lead to emotional attachments about how things should be done. If we feel that strongly about cutlery, imagine the intensity of our feelings about approaches to business where the stakes are much higher. Translating this to business settings, she explained how deeply ingrained beliefs about success and behavior can affect decision-making and team dynamics. Differing motivations for making money can lead to misunderstandings. Some people might want to make money to retire early and spend time with family, while others aim to leave a legacy or achieve a prestigious position. These differing goals and expectations can create friction if not openly discussed and understood. Whether you are the acquiring/investing company or the company being invested in, understanding these things can make a huge difference in your long-term happiness (money, legacy…).The Courage to Be DislikedOur conversation concluded with a serious reflection on the importance of self-awareness and the courage to be true to oneself. Cass recommended the book "The Courage to Be Disliked," which explores the concept that what others think of us often reflects their own beliefs and insecurities. She encouraged leaders and individuals to focus on their own motivations and well-being rather than constantly worrying about others' opinions.Her final thought: "The most liberating two words in the English language are 'let them...'" Letting go of the need for external validation and embracing one's true self can lead to greater fulfillment and success, both personally and professionally.Let them.Your deepest insights are your best branding. I'd love to help you share them. Chat with me about custom content for your life science brand. Or visit my website. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cclifescience.substack.com

We dive deep into the compelling themes of 'The Courage to Be Disliked,' a book that serves as a clarion call for authenticity in an age where societal judgment can be crippling. Join Heather and me as we embark on a thought-provoking journey through the philosophy of Alfred Adler and the life-changing potential that comes with embracing our true selves. We discuss the impact of societal pressures, such as OCD and germophobia, and the importance of recognizing these as limitations that can, and should, be overcome. Through the lens of personal responsibility, we underscore the empowerment that comes from owning our choices and the direct influence they have on our happiness and health. The importance of work ethic is a standout theme in our discussion. By showing up consistently and dedicating ourselves to our endeavors, we inadvertently stand out in a world where the bar is often set low. We share anecdotes that reveal how a strong commitment can lead to unexpected opportunities and a sense of fulfillment that extends beyond personal achievement. The conversation also delves into the cultural obsession with quick results, contrasting this with the profound satisfaction of mastering a craft through time and dedication. We stress the significance of community and how our individual contributions can lead to collective improvement. We hope that our exploration of these themes will inspire you to pick up 'The Courage to Be Disliked' and join us on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment. It's time to live courageously, authentically, and with a sense of purpose that transcends the opinions of others. --------- EPISODE CHAPTERS --------- (0:00:00) - The Courage to Be Disliked Discussion (0:09:26) - Living in the Present and Future (0:17:30) - Living Consciously and Taking Responsibility (0:21:53) - Work Ethic and Expectations in Society (0:25:21) - Importance of Community and Craft Mastery (0:36:36) - Boot Camp Culture and Masculinity (0:48:32) - Benefits of Hard Training and Lifestyle (0:54:56) - Double Standards in Sports and Society (1:03:21) - Recommendation for Thought-Provoking Book --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/warriormindset/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/warriormindset/support

This week I discuss the lessons I am learning from the book "The Big Leap." Some key takeaways from this episode are: Growth occurs in Spurts Slow and Steady wins the race God helps those who help themselves and what it is like to live in your zone of genius zoneofgenius.com is one of the resources I used to find some of this information. I also use Hoopla [a free resource from my local library to listen to FREE audiobooks, including The Big Leap.] Two other books that I am reading that I HIGHLY recommend are: The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron and The Courage to Be Disliked by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bitchopediapod/support

Join Gino Barbaro, co-founder of Jake and Gino, as he dives into the world of branding, storytelling, and communication with a special guest who's mastered the art of raising capital with an authentic touch. Guest: Stacey Havener, Founder & CEO of Havener Capital Episode Highlights: Branding & Storytelling: Learn from Stacey Havener, who has raised $8 billion leading to an additional $30 billion in follow-on assets. Discover the power of personal branding and storytelling in the asset management industry. Communication Strategies: Insights into ethical and fun ways of raising capital, going beyond the numbers to connect with investors on a human level. Gino's Insights: Gino shares personal stories and draws connections between storytelling, mentorship, and success in business and real estate. Stacey's Journey: From aspiring college professor to a leading figure in investment, Stacey shares her unique path and how being the "blue-collar girl from the Berkshires" shaped her approach to business.   Chapters: 00:16 - Introduction of Stacey Havner and Discussion on Branding, Storytelling, and Communication01:26 - Stacey's Background and the Power of Raising Capital02:17 - Stacey's Journey from Aspiring College Professor to Investment Success05:02 - The Art of Raising Capital Without a Track Record08:01 - Building Your Network and the Importance of Early Adopters09:26 - Leveraging Personal Connections and Referrals in Business 10:41 - Emotion and Logic in Sales and Investment13:58 - Gino's Origin Story and Its Impact on His Business Approach16:23 - The Significance of Sharing Personal Stories19:46 - Reflecting on Personal Growth and Authenticity 20:53 - The Practical Steps of Storytelling in Business 23:13 - Connecting with Your Audience: Heart First, Brain Second24:48 - Finding Your Niche and the Importance of Authenticity26:29 - You're the Guide, Not the Hero: Positioning in Storytelling28:21 - The Role of the Host as a Guide in Conversations30:05 - Self-Awareness and Vulnerability in Leadership31:25 - Understanding Brand Beyond Logos and Fonts33:16 - Building Your Brand Pillars and Being True to Yourself34:59 - The Courage to Be Different and Stand Out39:19 - The Power of Repelling the Wrong Fit to Attract the Right One44:58 - Stacey's Book Recommendation: "The Courage to Be Disliked"45:10 - Card - The Courage to Be Disliked - Buy on Amazon46:03 - Gino Wraps It Up   Book Recommendation: "The Courage to Be Disliked" - Dive into a powerful read that explores the journey of self-discovery and the impact of shedding societal expectations.   Connect with Stacey: For more insights and resources for entrepreneurs, visit StaceyHavener.com and connect with Stacey on LinkedIn.   Key Takeaway: Whether you're a seasoned investor or just starting out, the insights from this episode will inspire you to leverage your unique story and values in your professional journey.   Subscribe to our channel for more insightful conversations on real estate, investment, and business strategies.   #JakeAndGino #RealEstateInvesting #Storytelling #Branding #Communication #InvestmentStrategies Remember, this journey is about making connections, being authentic, and helping others along the way. Let us know in the comments how storytelling and branding have played a role in your success! Until next time, keep learning and growing.  

We threw out the rulebook in this episode. Today's guest, Victoria Thérèse, is something of a walking library. A wunderkind of sorts. Expect this episode to be a cerebral-spiritual tour de force. We had a massive list of mind-bending topics we originally planned to discuss with Victoria, but we barely touched that list. This might as well be another installment of our Serendipity Sessions series, because we were simply feeling the flow of the natural conversation. It's easy to get carried away when you have a brain like Victoria's on the line. She's an advocate for the democratization of information and spiritual knowledge, so rest assured you'll be well fed in this episode.  Victoria's fascinating and well-educated perspectives are epitomized by the episode title. We called her slightly controversial, she self-describes as morally gray, and we love it all. Here's a peek at some of the many topics we approach in this episode:Removing morality from spiritual spacesWhy Dolores Cannon sucks. Also, is Brené Brown problematic now?!The deconstruction of language and how language shapes realityPronouns!The intersection of political policy and spiritualityChristianity and colonizationThe importance of citing your sourcesWhy it's kosher to steal the work of colonizersTwin flames and manifestation as gateway drugs to new age spiritualityThat time the Dalai Lama kissed a little boyMultilevel marketing schemesThe ongoing genocide of PalestiniansCancel culture vs. accountability culture vs. blame cultureSpiritual ergonomicsResources mentioned (we are 100% missing a lot because so much was brought up): Book: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro KishimiBook: The Symposium by PlatoTED Talk Video: Start With Why by Simon SinekFairy Tale: The Red Shoes by Hans Christian AndersonTV Show: On Becoming a God in Central FloridaAbout Victoria ThérèseVictoria is a spiritual advisor specialized in psychic mediumship with an emphasis on Eastern philosophy, tarot reflections, and spiritual practice. She helps clients unlock their own intuition and awaken the possibility to live their fulled life. In addition to having lived, worked, and studied in 6 different countries, Victoria has a M.A. in Political Science with a concentration in Policy Analysis and a B.A. in International Studies, Philosophy, and Religion. Her experience provides her with the necessary tools to help you explore, identify, problem solve, and hold space for the most aligned version of who you are and who you want to become. Connect with VictoriaWebsite: https://www.greygray.caTiktok: @victoria.thereseInstagram: @victoria.therese_Patreon: @greygray*******************************CONNECT WITH CLAIRANNOYANCE:Clairannoyance InstagramClairannoyance TikTokClairannoyance WebsiteMegan's InstagramMegan's TikTokMegan's WebsiteRyan's InstagramRyan's TikTokRyan's Website

The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness… An international bestseller and TikTok sensation with more than 10 million copies sold worldwide, The Courage to Be Disliked is a transformative and practical guide to personal happiness and self-fulfillment. Now you can unlock your full potential and free yourself from the shackles of past traumas and societal expectations to find true personal happiness. Based on the theories of renowned psychologist Alfred Adler, this book guides you through the principles of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering in a straightforward, easy-to-digest style that's accessible to all. The Courage to Be Disliked unfolds as a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, who, for five enriching conversations, realizes that each of us is in control of our life's direction, independent of past burdens and expectations of others. Wise, empowering, and profoundly liberating, this book is a life-changing experience that shows you a path to lasting happiness and how to finally be the person you truly want to be. Millions are already benefiting from its teachings—and you can be next. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/michael-kaagee-mante/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/michael-kaagee-mante/support

Ever wondered how your personal wellbeing could impact your business success? Are you ready to discover the mindset shift that can transform not only your business, but your entire life? Here’s a thought-provoking book that explores the connection between inner peace and business performance. Join Omar as he delves deep into the insights and takeaways […] The post MBA2431 Must Read: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga appeared first on The $100 MBA.

Ever wondered how your personal wellbeing could impact your business success? Are you ready to discover the mindset shift that can transform not only your business, but your entire life? Here’s a thought-provoking book that explores the connection between inner peace and business performance. Join Omar as he delves deep into the insights and takeaways […] The post MBA2431 Must Read: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga appeared first on The $100 MBA.

Welcome to book club!! Today's episode is dedicated to discussing the book The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. In The Courage to Be Disliked, we are diving into the psychology of self-acceptance and the art of living a fulfilling life. We'll explore the book's key concepts and share our own reflections on how the courage to be disliked can be a transformative force in our own lives. Whether you've read the book or not, this episode is a beautiful exploration of philosophical ideas that challenge conventional thinking and invite you to reconsider your own perspectives on courage, acceptance, and the pursuit of a meaningful life. So come and get comfortable, and join us for a conversation on The Courage to Be Disliked in today's episode!   Join us in NYC for the Flash Photography workshop on March 19th, 2024! http://edenstrader.com/in-person-flash-photography-workshop   Book a VIP Day to have your own personalized workshop - Let me help you have a successful 2024! https://edenstrader.com/vip-coaching-days-for-creatives-1   If you enjoyed today's episode, please:   - Leave a positive review or rating! - Come join our free Manifestation Challenge, a fan favorite freebie! https://edenstrader.com/manifesting-challenge - Post a screenshot & key takeaway on your IG story and tag us @edenstrader so we can repost you. - Follow (+) our show for new episodes every Monday!

Darian Kaia, a destination wedding photographer, shares her unconventional journey into the photography industry and how she got to where she's at today. Darian opens up about her unique approach to business, where she discusses the importance of setting boundaries, being true to herself, her leap into destination photography and what that looks like, and how she manages client relationships. Darian not only provides valuable lessons for aspiring photographers but also offers a refreshing perspective on entrepreneurship, creative pursuits and authenticity.   Follow Darian on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dariankaiaphotography/ Darian's website: https://dariankaia.com/contact   Grab the The Courage to Be Disliked for book club next week! https://a.co/d/f8C65uO   Join us in NYC for the Flash Photography workshop on March 19th, 2024! http://edenstrader.com/in-person-flash-photography-workshop   Book a VIP Day to have your own personalized workshop - Let me help you have a successful 2024! https://edenstrader.com/vip-coaching-days-for-creatives-1   If you enjoyed today's episode, please:   - Leave a positive review or rating! - Come join our free Manifestation Challenge, a fan favorite freebie! https://edenstrader.com/manifesting-challenge - Post a screenshot & key takeaway on your IG story and tag us @edenstrader so we can repost you. - Follow (+) our show for new episodes every Monday!  

Hop on this episode with Brian Dally as we explore opportunities and strategies that can transform private market investing into a game-changer for your portfolio. Discover how to diversify your investments effectively and conquer the private investing landscape by tuning in now.     Key Takeaways To Listen For Groundfloor: Their services, processes, ideal customers, and the advantages of working with them Misconceptions about alternative investments and why they aren't true Why it's important to adjust your business operations based on current market conditions Why private market investing could redefine investing for non-accredited investors A good habit all investors should develop and practice     Resources/Links Mentioned In This Episode Jumpstart Our Business Startups (JOBS) Act Bank of America Private Bank Study Finds Younger Investors Turning to Alternatives, Sustainability and Digital Assets to Create Wealth Labs by Groundfloor Auto Investor Account Groundfloor Investing App | App Store and Google Play The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga | Kindle, Paperback, and Hardcover     About Brian Dally Brian is an entrepreneur and the co-founder and CEO of Groundfloor. Aside from being an Internet ideologue, he's a community organizer at heart, drawn to decentralized technologies that break down barriers and open access to once-closed markets. His expertise lies in instigating and capitalizing on changes to legal frameworks and social psychology, creating value at a mass-market scale.      Connect with Brian  Website: Groundfloor LinkedIn: Brian Dally Twitter: @brian_dally     Connect With Us If you're looking to invest your hard-earned money into cash-flowing, value-add assets, reach out to us at https://bobocapitalventures.com/.     Follow Keith's social media pages LinkedIn: Keith Borie Investor Club: Secret Passive Cashflow Investors Club Facebook: Keith Borie X: @BoboLlc80554

Your family and friends are the people you walk life with, so it is important to choose wisely. In this episode of our Wisdom for Our Children series, Nichole joins me to reflect on what the younger generation should keep in mind when forming these valuable relationships. Press play to hear what it takes to build meaningful relationships. OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE OF THE RETIREMENT ANSWER MAN PRACTICAL PLANNING SEGMENT [3:17] What you do speaks so loudly I cannot hear what you have to say [8:15] How to love someone [16:55] Have high standards  [18:52] Create boundaries with family  [20:30] Comments from listeners TODAY'S SMART SPRINT SEGMENT [26:58] Check in on someone Resources Mentioned In This Episode BOOK - The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman BOOK Series - The Crucial series by Kerry Patterson and Joseph Grenny BOOK - Boundaries by Henry Cloud BOOK - Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud BOOK - Love Does by Bob Goff BOOK - The Power of Moments by Chip and Dan Heath BOOK - The 4 Agreements by Miguel Ruiz BOOK - The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi BOOK - QBQ by John Miller BOOK - 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman Rock Retirement Club Roger's YouTube Channel - Roger That BOOK - Rock Retirement  by Roger Whitney Roger's Retirement Learning Center

Chat with me about oversharing, why we do it, and how we can stop. I share some practical tools to help you live a more private life, and protect the intimate details about yourself from people who don't deserve to know them.If you liked the episode, the best way you can support this podcast is by leaving a RATING and REVIEW. Especially a written review, if where you listen offers that. Also, be sure to subscribe to the show and get notified so you don't miss out on any episodes. Watch on YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/wWLEDg6pUNASocial mediahttps://www.instagram.com/theaffirmedpodcasthttps://www.instagram.com/brandy.groveListen to 'The Courage to Be Disliked' for free on YouTube: https://youtu.be/YK3JC1k4rTg?si=8l4_N5hZHm2HTDSePodcast LinksSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rT9VFS3cfmjLlCj2REg48?si=c37b4ca7b23442eeApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/affirmed/id1583513296Listen anywhere: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/1846168.rsshave a lovely day and remember that not everyone deserves to know you on an intimate level.much love and until next week,brandy maria

Did you know that there is another way to borrow money to purchase a home that is not a mortgage? Larry is thinking about using a securities-based line of credit against his after-tax investment account to borrow to buy a house. Discover my opinion on this optimization question on this episode of Retirement Answer Man. Listen in to also hear my August reads and learn about the importance of protein to keep strong as you age. Press play now. OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE OF THE RETIREMENT ANSWER MAN BOOKS I READ IN AUGUST [2:58] The Wager [6:02] American Prometheus [7:12] Outlive [9:09] The Courage to Be Disliked [10:06] The Big Short LISTENER QUESTIONS [11:14] Should Larry use an after-tax investment account to borrow to buy a house? [21:33] Jennifer wants to hear more about pretirement [26:25] How to get the Roth clock ticking when you don't qualify for a Roth [28:18] On discussing faith in the RRC [29:20] The costs of alcohol [30:12] Richard's thank you on 500 episodes [31:34] Do the same (golden) rules apply to Roth 401Ks as Roth IRAs BRING IT ON WITH DR. BOBBY DUBOIS [35:30] Building energy using protein powder [41:00] How much protein people really need [44:02] Negatives of too much protein [48:12] Do people get enough protein? [50:06] More on protein supplements [57:55] How to ensure you are getting enough protein TODAY'S SMART SPRINT SEGMENT [59:01] Keep a captain's log Resources Mentioned In This Episode BOOK - American Prometheus by Kai Bird BOOK - Outlive by Peter Attia BOOK - The Wager by David Grann BOOK - The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi BOOK - The Big Short by Michael Lewis Episode 502 - Should I Realign My 401K Now That I'm Retired? (with Kevin Lyles) Episode 500 - 500 Episodes and Still Rocking A few episodes in which we discuss retirement - 183, 214, 244, 324, 430  Rock Retirement Club Roger's YouTube Channel - Roger That BOOK - Rock Retirement  by Roger Whitney Roger's Retirement Learning Center

In our 97th Episode of "The Failosophical Guy", we're delving into the wisdom of a groundbreaking book that challenges conventional thinking. Get ready to explore the transformative lessons from "The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi. Tune in to know more!

#123: Top vlogger and world traveler, Nuseir Yassin joins Chris to discuss the transformative power of travel and how it can help you save money. They share insights on connecting with local communities in new places, the joys and complexities of traveling with a partner, and dig deep into their personal travel goals. They also explore topics like the difference between being kind and nice, underrated countries to visit and the concept of mental poverty. Nuseir Yassin, better known as @NasDaily, has captivated a global audience of 65 million followers with his one-minute daily videos that include diverse stories and experiences from around the world. Nuseir is also the founder of Nas.io and Nas Academy. Link to Full Show Notes: https://allthehacks.com/traveling-nuseir-yassin Partner Deals Green Chef: 50% off + free shipping for healthy and delicious meal kits MasterClass: Learn from the world's best with 15% off Athletic Greens: Free 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs Facet: $250 enrollment fee waived off your personalized financial plan Gelt: Skip the waitlist on personalized tax guidance to maximize your wealth Resources Mentioned Nuseir Yassin: YouTube | Instagram | Website Nuseir's favorite travel destinations: The Maldives Greenland Easter Island in Chile Nuseir's Break Up Video Full Show Notes (02:43) Nuseir's Mission Statement In Life (06:16) How Travel Changes Perspective (07:14) Being Kind Vs. Being Nice (09:13) Tactics To Be Nice And Upfront (12:25) Nice Getting In The Way Of Authenticity (15:18) Bill Perkins: Die With Zero Experiment (16:18) Aiming to Be Disliked (20:50) Negativity Of Being Authentic / Radically Transparent (22:16) The End Of Nuseir's 6 Year Relationship (26:50) How To Connect With People In New Places (28:31) Traveling With Your Partner (29:43) Engaging With Local Communities & Learning Their Culture When Traveling (31:03) One Thing Nuseir Does In Every New Country (32:11) Countries That Are Underrated (34:36) Chris's Travel Goals (35:32) Chris's Travel Experience In Bora Bora (38:18) Betting on Yourself (43:28) Traveling As A Way To Save Money (46:58) Streamlining Life Decisions By Reducing Maintenance (49:16) Mental Poverty (52:30) Letting Go Of Net Worth Growth (54:15) Nuseir's Dream of Starting An Airline (55:30) The End Goal For Nuseir Connect with All the Hacks All the Hacks: Newsletter | Website | Facebook | Email Chris Hutchins: Twitter | Instagram | Website | LinkedIn Editor's Note: The content on this page is accurate as of the posting date; however, some of our partner offers may have expired. Opinions expressed here are the author's alone, not those of any bank, credit card issuer, hotel, airline, or other entity. This content has not been reviewed, approved or otherwise endorsed by any of the entities included within the post.

Too many property management entrepreneurs tolerate bad clients. They subject their team to crappy owners and are often miserable.  In this episode, property management growth expert Jason Hull explains how property management entrepreneurs can deal with bad owners and prevent bringing them on in the first place. You'll Learn... [04:03] What is a Bad Client? [09:50] Why Bad Clients Lead to Bad Team Members [10:43] You Need to Punch Your Clients! (Figuratively) [15:36] How to Prevent Bad Clients [24:57] Creating Processes to Get Better Clients Tweetables “If you cannot figure out how to make them into a good client, then you need to let them go.” “You get what you tolerate.” “If you just ate ramen, or you just tighten the belt a little bit, you might be able to let go of that bad client or those bad doors right now.” “If you are tolerating a bad client and you have team members, then you're not taking care of your team.” Resources DoorGrow and Scale Mastermind DoorGrow Academy DoorGrow on YouTube DoorGrowClub DoorGrowLive TalkRoute Referral Link Transcript [00:00:00] If you are tolerating a bad client and you have team members, then you're not taking care of your team.  [00:00:06] all right. Welcome Doorgrow Hackers to the DoorGrowShow. If you are a property management entrepreneur that wants to add doors, make a difference, increase revenue, help others, impact lives, and you are interested in growing in business and life, and you're open to doing things a bit differently, then you are a DoorGrow hacker. DoorGrow hackers love the opportunities, daily variety, unique challenges and freedom that property management brings. Many in real estate think you're crazy for doing it. You think they're crazy for not because you realize that property management is the ultimate, high trust gateway to real estate deals, relationships, and residual income. [00:00:47] At DoorGrow, we are on a mission to transform property management, business owners and their businesses. We want to transform the industry, eliminate the bs, build awareness, change perception, expand the market, and help the best property management entrepreneurs win. I'm your host property management growth expert, Jason Hull, the founder, and CEO of DoorGrow. Now let's get into the show.  [00:01:12] All right, so we just had here at DoorGrow, right here at DoorGrow Headquarters in the Austin, Texas area at the Kalahari Resort in Round Rock, Texas, we had DoorGrow Live, our DoorGrow Live event. It was super awesome, super cool, amazing to see everybody in person. It was really awesome, great experience. I highly recommend that if you want to get in momentum in your property management business, you want to get inspired, you want to be around people that are at operating at a different level than at typical property management conferences. Our clients are special. Our clients are special because they have upleveled their mindset. Just being around them will shift you as well. So come hang out with us. That's one of the things we do is we install a different mindset into our clients. So they start functioning and thinking at different higher level than what's typical. And then we start to teach them really good strategies and ideas for growth. One of our clients man-- I'm so excited for some of these testimonial videos-- one of our clients I think went from like 120 doors to like 400 and something doors. And like, I don't know, he like doubled his doors in like four months and he was working with our acquisitions coach. Went and got like, went through a whole acquisition. Like he wouldn't even have known how to look for a deal, let alone have handled the whole thing. He literally just did whatever he was told by his coach. Like, "say this. Send this email. Don't do this." He just did it and now he's going to be adding a bunch of doors. Asked him if he thought he could get to a thousand doors and he said, "oh yeah I'll do that in like maybe two or three years, no sweat." we've laid out that roadmap, we have the DoorGrow code of what a company needs to do in order to get to a thousand doors. [00:03:01] And those of you listening that you're already a thousand doors, maybe your business could be optimized. Maybe it could be more fun for you. Maybe we can improve your team. Maybe you're losing more doors than you're getting on right now. Our clients are adding more doors than you're getting on, and you don't have to do it through acquisition necessarily. You can just add doors. And so if you're having any of these issues, reach out. Like we would love to help you.  [00:03:26] So my topic that I wanted to talk about today, we, Sarah, my wife and COO of DoorGrow brought two clients up on stage and said, " Jason doesn't really know exactly totally what we're going to be doing." [00:03:39] And I was like, "okay. I like a little chaos and a little risk," so she brings them up and was like, "Hey, basically we're going to coach them in front of everybody." I was like, "okay, this could go really horribly wrong or really awesome," but I didn't think it'd go wrong. And it was great. So one of our clients got up and he was just talking about the biggest challenge in his business right now is just a really bad owner. And so we had this great discussion and coaching and conversation with the entire room about bad clients. And so the topic for this episode is how to deal with bad clients or firing. How property managers can deal with bad clients or fire bad clients, right? How do we deal with them?  [00:04:25] One thing that's important is that you should fire some. If you cannot figure out how to make them into a good client, then you need to let them go. It's important to let bad clients go and I think that's the hallmark of a seasoned property manager is that you fired some shitty clients that you don't want to have. Let's chat a little bit about this. So bad clients, what they look like. They're clients that do not respect you. They're clients that do not value you. They're clients that treat you poorly. And one of the things I want you to realize is that you get what you tolerate. And so if you have tolerated this kind of behavior, you may have created clients that don't value you or trust you if you aren't as effective in your sales pitch in creating trust, which is really what true sales is, it's getting people to trust you. Not manipulating, not tricking them. You legitimately have a solution to a real problem that you can solve, and they want that, and you're able to charge a fee for that, right? That is a real business. The big challenge though, is this was like 10% of his portfolio. This one owner. This would be painful to let go.  [00:05:49] So the usual way that I coach clients, if they have a, like sometimes when clients first come to us, especially if they're in that first sand trap of maybe 50, 60 units or less than a hundred units, their whole portfolio might be bad. They might have a large percentage of accidental investors, people that waste their time, people that are pushing back that don't respect their boundaries. And so it's important to set a rule. So my usual recommendation is set some sort of rule. We want to get you growing and adding good doors to offset those and then set a rule like a three to one rule or a five to one rule that every time you get three bad doors or five, I mean, yeah, every time you get three new doors, three good ones, or five good doors, you and your team have permission to let go of a bad door. Or maybe you do it by owners. You just set a rule. Maybe you already know, like you knew the client he wanted to get rid of. You just need to figure out how do we let go of that person. Now, that's one idea. That's if you want to replace that income. But if you're dealing with a shitty owner and the difficult situation, I want you to take a step behind that question because this is the question that a lot of people think superficially. They need answers. How do I replace this income? What I think is a better question is to take a look at, instead of trying to replace all that income before you let them go, is to figure out what amount of additional revenue would I have to be generating or additional clients or business would I have to be generating in order to be able to tolerate letting them go, which is different. [00:07:29] So figure out what's the minimum amount that I could scrape by with and survive with to get rid of them as soon as possible. Because as soon as you get rid of them, it's going to free up a lot of attention, a lot of bandwidth. Your revenue will dip, but you just need to offset it. You might find that you could survive. [00:07:49] If you just ate ramen, or you just tighten the belt a little bit, you might be able to let go of that bad client or those bad doors right now. And what that does is it frees up a lot of head space. It frees up a lot of time. It frees up bandwidth so that you can go replace those doors faster. This is similar to the advice that I gave to my clients that were there that now are full-time, like owning and running their business together. These business partners, when they first came to me though, they were starting a property management business and they wanted to quit their day job. They both had jobs and their dream was to start this business together and offset all their income. And I said, don't try to offset all your income. Figure out what's the bare minimum that you can each pay yourselves and survive on. Like tighten the belt, figure out what that is because if you can just get to that level and then quit your jobs and then go all in on this business, and we teach you all the growth strategies and you start to grow rapidly, this is exactly what they did, they then could grow a lot faster. So they let go of their jobs and they started growing a lot faster and they had to get some doors before they could do this, but once they hit that lower level that they decided they could survive on, then they were able to invest, go all into the business and grow a lot faster. [00:09:11] Same thing with firing clients. Like don't wait until you offset all of the income. I once had a client come to once and he wanted to offset all of his income and he was a pharmaceutical rep making like six figures and he was like, "well, I'm going to start adding some doors and build up this new business, but I'm going to do it kind of part-time and I'll wait until I offset all my income." and I was like, that's not going to happen very easily, if at all. And I think he underestimated the amount of work it would take to start a business. He didn't really want to spend time to do it. It was kind of a dream, and he was pretty comfortable in that job, right? Had a lot of freedom and was pretty comfortable and they paid him really well, so it was hard to give it up. So, let's just keep that in mind.  [00:09:59] All right, so the other thing about firing, I think that's really firing clients that I think is important to recognize is you need to protect your team. If you are tolerating a bad client and you have team members, then you're not taking care of your team. You're going to lose A players. B players will tolerate shitty behavior and they will tolerate shitty bosses and they will tolerate a bad environment. A players won't. By keeping on bad clients, you are losing your best people. If you wonder why you have a lot of turnover, it might be because you're not protecting and insulating your team from people mistreating them or treating them poorly. You haven't set healthy boundaries with your clients and started to protect your team, so make sure you're protecting your team. So fire, protect your team.  [00:10:51] Next item, punch them in the face. Okay, this is metaphorically, I am not recommending violence in this situation. What I am saying is that metaphorically or figuratively, you need to punch them in the face, sometimes these bad owners. Sometimes bad owners are high D personality types on the disc profile, which means they are drivers. They're short, maybe quick. They want results. They want like information quickly. They want to see things moved fast. They do not care about stories or excuses. Let's go! And in order for them to respect you, and a lot of investors or wealthy people might be high D. They're driven. Just like a lot of entrepreneurs, and so if that is the case, you may need to punch them in the face. Like sometimes you'll see two guys and they're like, they have a beef with each other and they like, they're arguing or whatever, and they get into a fight and then they're best friends for forever, right? They respect each other after that. Sometimes you need to punch these crappy owners in the face in order for them to respect you. You need to set boundaries right at the beginning. Boom! And say, no, I'm not going to do that, Mr. Owner, and here's why. They're just waiting. A lot of these owners are just waiting for someone to set boundaries with them to show that they know what they're doing. They cannot, high D cannot respect you if you give in to their demands. They cannot respect you if you cave to their bad behavior. Like they will test you.  [00:12:27] A lot of guys that have dated women or been in the dating scene know, have heard about shit tests, right? Like maybe your spouse does this to you, like they will test you to see if you really are who you say you are, or try to showcase that you are on the tint. They will challenge you. Your clients are going to challenge you. They're going to test you to see if you really are going to stick to those fees. If you really are confident in your business, if you really are going to stick to your contractor agreements, right? They want to see if you have integrity. Integrity in a building is strength. How much integrity does the steel have? Do you have the integrity of steel? Are you strong? Can you maintain your boundaries? Do you know your limits? Can you punch them in the face? If you can punch them in the face in the beginning, a lot of times owners will say "finally, I've found a property manager that I can respect that I don't have to tell what to do, that I don't have to micromanage that owns their stuff." they're looking for that extreme ownership, which is a great book by the way. I love listening to the audiobook because these guys sounded like they gargled sand, like in the deserts of Ramadi, right? So they're like, Jocko Willick and Leaf. They're like, "you need to have extreme ownership. This is what we did in Ramadi, right?" [00:13:53] I don't know if that's a pretty good impersonation, but I love listening to the audiobook. So I recommend the audiobook, but these guys know they take extreme ownership. They're accountable for things, but they also probably are willing to punch somebody in the face. It's like being shitty or mistreating or whatever, right? So make sure you punch them in the face and you do that early during the sales process, and you will be probably the most likely to get them as a client because they go to everybody else, they're not going to find what they're looking for, which what they want is peace of mind. They want safety and certainty, and you cannot feel safe with somebody that caves to the whims of everybody. That's not a safe person. You're not a safe property manager to manage their property. If they think you're going to fold on every vendor saying, " I'm going to charge way too much," or you're going to cave on every tenant that's going to say, "well I want to paint the house purple," or whatever they want to do. You're like, "well, okay." They're not going to trust you. They need to know that you have what it takes. You need to show them that. And then they're going to be like, oh my gosh. You're the property manager for me. You just need to say, "no, Mr. Owner, we're not going to do that. And here's why. We know this. We know what to do. This is how we do it. Our way works better than yours. By your own admission, you're coming to us for help because things aren't going well as you have told me, and we don't have that problem. Our clients don't have that problem. We are better at this than you. So either you trust us and respect us to do our job, and we will not be perfect, but we'll get it. We'll fix it, we'll make sure we get it right eventually, but we're going to do this better than you. We're good at this and you can trust us to take care of stuff." And they'll go, "that's all I wanted. That's all I needed. I just wanted that safety and certainty. Just wanted to know you had the strength to do what I would want to be done." [00:15:44] Okay, the next step is you need to figure out after you've dealt with a bad client, maybe you forgot to punch somebody in the face. Maybe you forgot to protect your team. Maybe you didn't fire them soon enough. Now you need to make sure you learn and prevent this situation in the future. So how do we learn? And how do we prevent? Well, when you need to take inventory, what did we do to create this situation? What did we do to allow a client like this into our portfolio? Why did we allow this? What happened? Where was the breakdown? Do we need to or can we improve our agreements? Do we need to improve the conversation or during the sales process when we review the agreement and tell them so they can hear and see what it is we're going to do, so, Instead of just sending the agreement, can we go through the agreement with them to align them towards our way and make them a better client? Can we filter better? Can we qualify during the sales process and prevent bad clients from coming in or set better expectations during the sales process? All of these things, Allow you to qualify and get your clients potential clients to level up. You can turn them into better clients during the sales process. So learn and prevent. Can we create new processes and procedures that insulate and protect us from owner situations like this, right? You need to learn. So we want to make sure that our clients feel safe and they might need to be punched in the face, and they might need better boundaries, and they might need better guidelines, and they might need better training or education during the sales process on how to be a good client. [00:17:30] We have this in our agreement with our clients, how to be a good client. And there's a list, right? And during our sales pitch, one of our slides in our pitch deck is the three commitments we require of people that come into our program of what's required. Like do you measure up? Do you qualify to be with us, right? You need to set boundaries and you need to use that, that sales tactic of qualifying and of prising yourself. You're the prize. You solve their problem, they have problems. They're paying you to solve those problems, which means you're the prize, not them. Mindset. That's a mindset shift.  [00:18:12] Okay, so the next thing, get clear on your boundaries, right? So after you learn and prevent, get clear what are our boundaries? And recognize people will test these boundaries. So how do you pass the test instead of fail the test? So if somebody's setting boundaries, you will either pass or you will fail a test. If somebody's trying to test your boundaries you'll either pass or fail. So make sure you set your boundaries. What are their boundaries, right? So make sure you're passing the tests. It is it's so helpful to recognize that everybody that matters, or your spouse, your kids, your clients, tenants, they're all going to test your boundaries, so you need to get clear on what those boundaries are, and when a boundary is crossed, you'll know it because your nervous system will not be happy. You will not feel good in your body. You'll feel guilt or shame or embarrassment, humiliation, lack of power. Whatever, gross, icky, right? These are when people order situations overstep or go over your boundaries, or you aren't respecting or take taking care of yourself. You need to take care of that little you on the inside. It needs your protection. You need to take care of you. You need to know that you will protect you no matter what. Just like your team needs to feel safe. Your heart needs to feel safe. Your mind needs to feel safe. Your body needs to feel safe. These are like three children that you control. You are not your mind. You are the person that thinks the thoughts. You are not the thoughts. You are not your mind. You are also not your emotions. You are the person that feels the feelings. This is another vehicle. Your mind is a vehicle. Your heart is a vehicle, and you are also not your body. You are the person that moves the body and uses the body and experiences the body. These are like three unruly children on the bus, and you should be driving the bus, and if you let any of these drive the bus, it can be a bit chaotic, right?  [00:20:21] If your brain's driving the bus, everything's scary because the brain's job it's to avoid pain and scare the shit out of you and protect you. So it's going to like look at every logical angle. How can I avoid feeling these uncomfortable feelings? And the heart and the emotions needs to feel everything. It's the only thing you can do with the feeling. You need to feel the uncomfortable feelings. You need to feel the sorrow of the sadness, the crap, the happiness, the joy. You need to feel it all. That's part of being human, that's life, that's feeling alive. The full breadth of human experience. We need to feel it all, but the brain doesn't want us to fill it all because the brain's like, well that didn't, I don't know if I liked that last time. That was uncomfortable. And it judges everything. And then we have our body, and our body wants like sex and it wants to taste stuff and it wants to get rest. And like our body has these needs. So we can't let our body be in control, right? Like our life can be really strong chaos. We're just letting our tongue and our genitals and our physical needs like take complete control of the bus, that would be a really bad life, bad situation, right? If our heart and emotions were in control of everything, we'd be kicking holes in the wall. Like we would just be emotional about things. We would be up and down, right? We would get way too excited about some stuff, right? And logic then steps in and like controls a little bit of that, right? And we have some reason, and some logic we're like, how much would it cost to kick a hole in the wall? How much would it cost to repair that? So we start to make logical choices. What would be the ramifications of this relationship or doing this thing or taking this risk, right? So, Then we have our intuition, right? [00:22:00] Another vehicle that I didn't mention, but we have another vehicle, our intuition, some might call it gut, some might call it God, source, whatever. Our spiritual side that we need to tap into that is a higher faculty than our logical mind that gives us clues and lets us know things that need to be done that sometimes don't make logical sense, but they end up being right and deep down they're right. A lot of really logical people cannot listen to intuition, which is a higher faculty. That's why the intuitive people have a one up on some of the most logical people. They're too logical, they're too logical, and a lot of times they're too logical because they're really just trying to avoid feelings and it cuts off their intuition. [00:22:41] So going back what I was why I'm going over this is we need to set really good boundaries and we need to take care of these four vehicles, our intuition, our mental, our emotional, our physical. We need to take care of these vehicles, these little children that we kind of manage. We need to be listening to all of them, and we need to figure out what our boundaries are. What are we willing to do? What are we not willing to do? And then we need to figure out how to avoid the temptations that cause us to fail at that. And sometimes one of the things that came up is one of our clients was very transparent during one of our awesome speakers and said that sometimes when there's conflict with vendors and some of the vendors are his friends, like doing stuff, he's kind of a pleaser and it's hard to set boundaries with them or to let them know, have uncomfortable conversations that they're not doing things right or something needs to be done faster or stuff like this. And so what within ourselves, the kind of question that she asked was like, what within ourselves thinks that we. Deserve to have those things happen to us, or why within ourselves are we so concerned with being liked, and a lot of times it's from when we were young. People overstepped our boundaries. People treat us poorly and we had to like fawn or please to get people to like us in order to feel safe. And so, there's a great book I read recently I really enjoyed, called The Courage to Be Disliked. All about Adler, Adlerian psychology and which is different than Freud and young. Really interesting. I think he was way ahead of his time. The world wasn't ready for him back then. He was a contemporary of both of those young and Freud. But Adlerian psychology has become very popular in Japan, and I believe the authors of the book are both from Japan, and it was translated to English, I think. [00:24:41] So really awesome book. The Courage to Be Disliked. And the sequel is the Courage to Be Happy or something like that. Great books. We need to have courage, the courage, the willingness to feel those uncomfortable feelings and be disliked in order to respect our boundaries. And so that's something else that we could do a whole episode on this, right?  [00:25:05] So the next piece is to build process, right? So take a look at your process. This might be connected to learning and preventing. This might be connected to getting clear on boundaries and what you want, protecting the team, but coming together as a team. We had Errol Allen at this event. He's a process expert and he talks about getting the entire team together to work on a process. Like who feeds the process, who works on the process, and who is affected later, or what, the output affects of the process affects them, right? So we want to make sure that we get all the stakeholders involved and we develop a really good process. So that we can, as part of that learning and preventing and avoiding the temptation and passing the tests is creating a really good process. And so these are the main things that we discussed in relation to dealing with this challenge of letting go of clients that are not treating you well and setting really good boundaries. Now, If you don't, then you will get caught in the cycle of suck. Everybody's heard me talk about this before, which means you take on crappy owners, you then have crappy properties, you then have crappy residents because they're frustrated about the crappy property and the crappy owner, and then you're going to have crappy reviews. Then you're going to attract more crappy clients, right? And this sums up the property management industry in aggregate. This is the challenge in why most property managers suck. Most of your competitors you probably believe suck. It's because they're taking on any client. You need to set some rules, set some boundaries, and let go of some bad clients and that will get you out of the cycle of suck. Why do you want to be out of that? Some of you think, well, that's just property management. That is not very profitable property management. This is why the average property management business has like 4% or 6% profit margin and makes very little money. [00:27:00] Our clients sometimes have 10 times those amounts, a profit margin. We've got clients doing 20, 30, 40, sometimes 50 or 60% profit margin, right? And so to have really good profit margin, you cannot have really bad owners and really bad systems and you can't be caught in the cycle of suck. You've got to let go and clean your portfolio up and you'll be a lot more profitable. because one bad property can take easily 10 times, just maybe even a hundred times the amount of work as a good door, as a good property. Okay. All right, so hopefully this gave you some ideas. You're probably thinking right now about a client. I know you. You're thinking about a client right now. You're like, I'd be so happy if I could just get rid of that. My team would love if we could just get rid of that person, if we could just get rid of that one property, that would be great. This is your business. It can be the business of your dreams, or it could be like your master and you could be a slave to it. Which one do you want? Any business at? Any size could be either one. You get to decide this is your business, so be the entrepreneur, not the property manager. Protect yourself and let go of some of those bad clients. And that's it for today.  [00:28:17] So, if you are a property management entrepreneur and you want to get your either add doors or you want to finally dial in the operational side, you're curious maybe about how does DoorGrow help with process and their, what's their DoorGrow flow software and how do they help with sales and what's their CRM software, DoorGrow CRM, and how do they help with operations and what is this DoorGrow os and why is it so much better than eos? And how are they helping property managers get their teams in a alignment so that they can go from pretty good growth to having like 300% growth in a year, like some rapid growth where the team are all moving the business forward, like and thinking like an entrepreneur. How do we finally get great team members? Our client that just doubled his doors I was telling you about, since joining DoorGrow, he fired most of his team and replaced most of his team because he realized by getting clarity in working with us and getting the hiring stuff going and vetting his team, he realized he did not have the right team. He didnt have the A players, he didn't have believers. So we need to help you get a really great team and then install DoorGrow os and then make sure you have processes and if you have those three system people, system, process, system. And planning system, you then have a scalable business. So now this client he has a business that can scale, right? We want you to have a scalable business, a business that if you lost team members, you could get back up to speed very quickly, right? Whereas most of you probably just did Russian roulette hiring until you eventually got enough team members and fired enough team members that you had a good team and you finally installed decent culture and then you were finally able to break 600 doors. You can't break 600 doors with a crappy team.  [00:30:04] You'll last see so many people in that two to 400 door range struggling. You get to 500 and it's painful. If you feel like right now, if you're honest with yourself, deep down that if you added more doors right now, if you added another a hundred doors this month, your life would get shittier and worse then your business is not set up to be scalable. The business owner's life should get better the bigger the business gets and the more money you have. And that means your business is not set up to be scalable. Let's get your business to be scalable. Reach out to DoorGrow. You can check us out at doorgrow.com. Go to our homepage, the big pink button. "I want to grow." click that and there's a free training. You can book a call with our team and you can watch our testimonials and case studies and we're going to blow your mind. And we're going to help you realize why marketing doesn't work very well generally, advertising generally doesn't work very well for growth, and why you've been struggling to get your team and business in alignment so that you enjoy your day to day. Let's get you there.  [00:31:02] Until next time, to our mutual growth, I'm Jason Hull. Bye everyone.  [00:31:06] Jason Hull: You just listened to the #DoorGrowShow. We are building a community of the savviest property management entrepreneurs on the planet in the DoorGrowClub. Join your fellow DoorGrow Hackers at doorgrowclub.com. Listen, everyone is doing the same stuff. SEO, PPC, pay-per-lead content, social direct mail, and they still struggle to grow!  [00:31:33] At DoorGrow, we solve your biggest challenge: getting deals and growing your business. 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Easily listen to The Science of Self in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/ScienceOfSelfPodcast00:02:13 To understand Galileo, we must understand Polish astronomer Nicholas Copernicus00:10:46 Navigating Rejection 00:12:02 Modern day Japanese authors Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitaki Koga wrote a book called The Courage to Be Disliked.00:17:40 Have Faith In Yourself 00:22:00 Let's wrap up today's episode with The Takeaways.http://bit.ly/GeniusHollins• Copernicus's and Galileo's genius traits included intellectual honesty and non-conventionality.• Copernicus was an astronomer who has been credited as being the first to put forward the idea of heliocentrism. It was Galileo who popularized and expanded these ideas after Copernicus's death, but Galileo also had many other accomplishments, including the invention of a telescope and the discovery of many great ideas in astronomy and mathematics. • Galileo's ideas directly challenged the predominant religious worldview at the time, earning him scorn and even resulting in him being tried and convicted of heresy. He was forced to retract his statements under penalty of death.• Galileo may have submitted to the church's persecution, but his ideas were revived by other scientists in non-Catholic countries, until eventually the heliocentric model was taken as fact by the end of the 18th century.• Both Galileo and Copernicus possessed an uncommon originality and independence of thought, and pursued facts and evidence despite resistance from others. They both achieved what they did because they were intellectually honest and wiling to pursue what they knew was right.• We can follow in this spirit by understanding that sometimes success comes with a willingness to be disliked. If we can relinquish ideas of a deterministic fate, own our actions and our agency, and foster self-esteem for who we are, then we are less susceptible to the judgments and criticisms of others. • To be independent thinkers, we need to lower the value we give to social approval and increase the value we place on our own vision.• To cultivate courage in ourselves, we can regularly check in with our own values and principles, and align with them always. Many geniuses are powered by an unflinching commitment to their own path. What is yours? #Adlerian #Copernican #Copernicus #Determinism #Fumitake #FumitakeKoga #Galilean #Galileo #GalileoGalilei #HeavenlyBodies #Ichiro #IchiroKishimi #IsaacNewton #JohannesKepler #Kishimi #Koga #NicolausCopernicus #PopeJohnPaulII #PopePaulIII #Ptolemaic #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelf #ThinkLikeaGenius

“Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn't that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.” Welcome back to another episode of Made You Think! This week, we're diving into The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. This book is full of wisdom, challenging you to free yourself from the expectations placed on you by others so you can achieve happiness. We cover a wide range of topics including: Pledging loyalty to yourself How "Insta-therapy" can be simultaneously hurtful and helpful When not to give unsolicited advice Are all problems interpersonal problems? Having the courage to follow through on your ideas And much more. Please enjoy, and make sure to follow Nat, Neil, and Adil on Twitter and share your thoughts on the episode. Links from the Episode: Mentioned in the Show: The End of Medicine (29:40) The Game Changers (29:48) What is a Spoonie? (38:40) Hurts So Good (40:36) Books Mentioned: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck (3:17) (Nat's Book Notes) How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World (10:19) Finite and Infinite Games (21:55) (Nat's Book Notes) King, Warrior, Magician, Lover (22:03) Antifragile (46:47) (Nat's Book Notes) Turning Pro (55:57) (Nat's Book Notes) Shadow Divers (56:54) People Mentioned: Alfred Adler (5:38) Will Durant (10:03) Harry Browne (10:18) Nassim Taleb (46:26) Steven Pressfield (55:55) Show Topics: 2:10) On today's episode, we're discussing The Courage to Be Disliked. Written by two Japanese authors, the book is a conversation between a German philosopher and a young man teaching that the past doesn't control you, as you have ownership over your life and your actions. (7:16) Insta-therapy; social media posts all about therapy and unpacking trauma. While it can be helpful and informational, there can be some downside to it, too. When it comes to therapy, there's a difference between unpacking your life and taking action on it. (12:29) The book talks about lifestyles and how it's something that we can choose at any point in our life. (15:17) Everything you experience is in context of other people. Separation of tasks: Don't try to do somebody's tasks for them. "A parent suffering over the relationship with his or her child will tend to think, 'My child is my life.' In other words, the parent is taking on the child's task as his or her own, and is no longer able to think about anything but the child. When at last the parent notices it, the ‘I' is already gone from his or her life. However, no matter how much of the burden of the child's task one carries, the child is still an independent individual." (23:23) Unsolicited feedback. You can usually tell if someone's feedback is sincere or if it's for their own benefit. (29:54) Vegan diet vs. standard American diet, and how elimination diets are a way to see how your body reacts and what you're sensitive to.  (34:15) Once we took lead out of gasoline, violent crime rates and other factors went down tremendously. The "Spoonie" community.  (40:46) When you identify with a group, you may tend to believe in all related ideas or beliefs in order to stay a part of that group, even if the ideas are questionable. (42:54) The way the book frames ambition and how you shouldn't be seeking recognition. By being ambitious, you can contribute to more people.  (45:27) Nat, Neil, and Adil discuss the title of the book and their interpretations of it. It's impossible to get everyone like you. If you aren't disliked, you're restricting your behavior to receive a more favorable outcome, but are you really free?  (51:34) Pledging loyalty to yourself and recognizing that you can't please everybody. (54:14) When you think you can't do something, it's often because you lack the courage to follow through on it. You can't fail if you don't start, and that can prevent you from taking action. (56:34) That wraps up this episode! Next up, we'll be covering Country Driving by Peter Hessler so make sure to pick up a copy and read along with us before our next episode. If you enjoyed this episode, let us know by leaving a review on iTunes and tell a friend. As always, let us know if you have any book recommendations! You can say hi to us on Twitter @TheRealNeilS, @adilmajid, @nateliason and share your thoughts on this episode. You can now support Made You Think using the Value-for-Value feature of Podcasting 2.0. This means you can directly tip the co-hosts in BTC with minimal transaction fees. To get started, simply download a podcast app (like Fountain or Breez) that supports Value-for-Value and send some BTC to your in-app wallet. You can then use that to support shows who have opted-in, including Made You Think! We'll be going with this direct support model moving forward, rather than ads. Thanks for listening. See you next time!

“It was impossible to expect a moral awakening from humankind itself, just like it was impossible to expect humans to lift off the earth by pulling up on their own hair. To achieve moral awakening required a force outside the human race.” Welcome back to another episode of Made You Think! In this long-awaited episode, we're covering The Three-Body Problem, a science fiction trilogy by Liu Cixin. Find out what happens when a military group successfully sends signals into space in hopes of making contact with aliens. We cover a wide range of topics including: The difference bewteen exponential and linear cultures Why anything in the "dark forest" should be considered a threat Using hibernation as a form of time traveling Escapism and the need to flee earth to survive The fragility of being a human and remaining healthy And much more. Please enjoy, and make sure to follow Nat, Neil, and Adil on Twitter and share your thoughts on the episode.   Links from the Episode: Mentioned in the Show: The Last of Us (0:59) Casa Grande Ruins (15:29) TransMedics (25:59) Fermi paradox (1:01:22) Books Mentioned: Project Hail Mary (6:17) Where Is My Flying Car? (38:42)  What Your Food Ate (39:19) The Paper Menagerie (51:07) Einstein: His Life and Universe (56:20) The Sovereign Individual (1:10:54) (Nat's Book Notes) The Courage to Be Disliked (1:15:36) People Mentioned: Liu Cixin Ken Liu (49:53) Walter Isaacson (56:20) Show Topics: (0:00) This week, we're diving into The Three-Body Problem! Spoiler alert: If you haven't read the book and don't want anything given away, we recommend you come back to this episode later to avoid learning plot twists and key information. (6:13) One of the quirks of the alien species is that they are not able to deceive each other. We also talk about the difference between exponential vs. linear culture. (10:16) The books jump through many genres from a mystery thriller to classic adventure. We provide some of the context of the book and ponder on how other civilizations would view humans in their perspective. (13:37) Nat, Neil, and Adil share their reactions on the end of the story and the inevitable death that everybody faces.  (15:12) Preserving information and monuments over time. There are still stone engravings that hold up today, but even things like paper and hard drives aren't able to withstand the test of time.  (19:15) This year, The Three-Body Problem is hitting Netflix as a TV series! We talk about what the show may look like and how they will portray the different dimensions. (22:52) A lot can change in just a short time. How would humanity react if we found out today that in a few hundred years, humanity would be destroyed by a group of powerful aliens? (24:12) How the book presented the idea of hibernation and using someone's skills later as opposed to the current moment. In a way, it's like time traveling. (28:58) Escapism, the space cities, and how easy it is to be poisoned by your own environment. (32:53) Wallfacers and other interesting ideas that the author incorporated into the storyline. The series was very interesting for its many different paradoxes and sociological concepts. (38:30) There's the paradox that we have so much we can potentially solve with our technological advancements, but at the same time, do we really have all of the of smaller components and variables of it figured out? (41:15) The fragility of being human and the importance of micronutrients to our functioning that we may or may not realize.  (47:21) The series is based on the author's back story in the cultural revolution in China. While written in 2007, the books weren't translated into English until 2014 where some parts of the story got slightly changed or adapted. (52:14) Will there be substantial changes in how we understand and view the universe in the next century, and how will these shift our perception of these novels? (1:00:01) There's a sense in today's world that we've simply figured everything out, while we arguably have a lot more yet to discover. (1:01:12) The Dark Forest theory. The idea that there are potentially many alien civilizations that exist, and other intelligent lives we come across would presumably be seen as a threat. (1:11:30) Nat, Neil, and Adil share their thoughts on which of the books in the trilogy was their favorite. (1:15:35) That's a wrap! Next up, we're reading The Courage to Be Disliked. Make sure to pick up a copy if you'd like to read along before the next episode! If you enjoyed this episode, let us know by leaving a review on iTunes and tell a friend. As always, let us know if you have any book recommendations! You can say hi to us on Twitter @TheRealNeilS, @adilmajid, @nateliason and share your thoughts on this episode. You can now support Made You Think using the Value-for-Value feature of Podcasting 2.0. This means you can directly tip the co-hosts in BTC with minimal transaction fees. To get started, simply download a podcast app (like Fountain or Breez) that supports Value-for-Value and send some BTC to your in-app wallet. You can then use that to support shows who have opted-in, including Made You Think! We'll be going with this direct support model moving forward, rather than ads. Thanks for listening. See you next time!

If you are thinking about retiring in the next few years you're probably wondering what the best tools are to help you plan. Finding the right retirement planning software can not only help you plan retirement but help put your mind at ease so that you can Rock Retirement! One listener asks my opinion on the best retirement software to use. If you are curious about my answer you'll press play.  In this episode, you'll also hear about the books I read in March, an interview with Steven Chen from the New Retirement Calculator, and learn the benefits of creating horizontal relationships. OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE OF THE RETIREMENT ANSWER MAN BOOK REVIEWS [1:30] Books I read in March LISTENER QUESTIONS [5:30] Which retirement software should I use? [11:49] On using dividend investing to fund retirement [20:19] On using indexed annuities with downside protection [24:04] A recommendation for my wife, Shawna [24:55] Looking for a financial planner that is a retirement consultant  STEVEN CHEN INTERVIEW ON THE NEW RETIREMENT CALCULATOR [26:45] What New Retirement Calculator users think about [33:06] Planning for the future [38:36] What's new with the New Retirement Calculator BRING IT ON [41:55] The benefits of creating horizontal relationships TODAY'S SMART SPRINT SEGMENT [47:10] Revisit your allocation plan Resources Mentioned In This Episode NAPFA Garrett Planning Network New Retirement Calculator Money Guide Pro Elite Financeware BOOK - The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi BOOK - Make Your Bed by William McCraven BOOK - Sea Stories by William McCraven BOOK - Build by Tony Fadell BOOK - Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bonnie Ware Morningstar's The Long View Podcast - Retirement Planning Is Not Financial Planning LiveWithRoger.com - Register for the webinar on May 11, 2023 to discover the 4 Phases of a Great Retirement Plan Rock Retirement Club Roger's YouTube Channel - Roger That BOOK - Rock Retirement  by Roger Whitney Roger's Retirement Learning Center

Adrian Koehler is a leadership performance coach for high level executives, including many CEOs of large companies. Among some of his clients are: -Nike -Virgin Hyperloop One -Oprah Winfrey Network -Oppenheimer -Organifi -Jeni's Ice Cream -Gavin De Becker & Associates -Smarty Pants Vitamins He shares his insights on a variety of topics around the science and the art of great leadership. Among these were: Developing a growth mindset in others The top qualities of great leaders Effective communication for results Management versus leadership How to build great cultures Hiring for results Dealing with toxic high performers Leading with empathy and understanding Practicing uneasy vulnerability to enhance performance And more! Give it a listen to instantly learn to be a better leader Intro (1:35) Developing a growth mindset (8:00) Asking penetrating questions (9:00) Maintaining personal growth (12:00) Book recommendation: "The Courage to Be Disliked" (14:00) Top qualities of great leaders (16:45) Accountability for communication (21:20) Leading by example (19:45) Cynics leading themselves poorly (25:00) Management versus leadership (38:00) Building great cultures (39:00) Breakdowns due to poor communication (41:30) Hiring for results (44:22) When to let somebody go (45:45) Leading with empathy and understanding (48:43) Dealing with toxic high performers (49:29) Breaking the dog and pony show (57:50) Preferences in performance (1:00:49) Practicing uneasy vulnerability (1:06:25) Guest: Adrian Koehler https://www.instagram.com/adrian.k/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/adriankoehler/ https://www.youtube.com/ @nakedleadership Host: Brody Vinson https://www.tiktok.com/@professionsession https://www.instagram.com/brodyvinson.io/ https://linktr.ee/brodyvinson

Audio: Motivational Speech on Courage  Guest: Krista Roseborough  Welcome to the Undeniable Level Up Podcast, your go-to source for powerful insights and transformative tips to elevate every aspect of your life! Why settle for mediocrity when you can unleash your full potential? Join us as we dive into the world of personal and professional growth, uncovering life hacks to boost your career, turbocharge your relationships, and elevate your personal well-being. Together, let's unlock the secrets to becoming the ultimate version of yourself, armed with the tools, strategies, and yes, even the tricks, that we'll explore in our captivating conversations. Get ready to level up like never before! You know, courage is really an interesting and layered idea. It's been on the minds of thinkers and philosophers for ages. Basically, it's all about standing up to tough situations or risks with a strong mindset, some guts, and a can-do attitude. So, Aristotle talked about courage in his book Nicomachean Ethics, and he saw it as one of the most important virtues. He believed it's all about striking the perfect balance between being too scared and too confident when dealing with tough times. A brave person knows they're afraid, but they still take action, without running away or diving headfirst into danger. Historically, other philosophers perspectives on courage emphasized moral or ethical considerations. For example, some philosophers argued that courage involves not your the ability to face danger or adversity but it towards a just or a noble cause. In this sense, courage is tied to moral principles and a commitment to doing what is right, even when it is difficult or risky.   Oh, and speaking of courage, existentialist philosophers like Søren Kierkegaard and Jean-Paul Sartre had their own unique take on it. They saw courage as dealing with the ups and downs of life while trying to find meaning in a world that doesn't seem to care. For them, being brave means tackling life's uncertainties, owning your freedom and responsibility, and making genuine choices when faced with life's big questions. Courage, as a philosophical concept can be understood as a virtue that enables individuals to face adversity, danger, or challenges with strength, determination, and a commitment to moral or ethical principles. While the specific nuances of courage may vary across philosophical perspectives, it is generally recognized as a crucial aspect of human character and personal development. And here to speak with us about courage is out special guest and friend, Krista Roseborough.   Hi Krista… Joe and I met Krista through Jiu Jitsu when she was training here in Houston, TX.  As a professional, a mother, a daughter and the many more hats that Krista wears, the one thing she never has a shortage of, is courage.  Thank you for taking the time to join us today.   Can you begin by telling our listeners where you grew up?    "Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear." – Franklin D. Roosevelt Q: What are your thoughts about President Roosevelt's words? This quote really highlights that courage is not about being fearless, but rather understanding and recognizing that some things are more important than fear, such as what we value and hold dear, our goals and our purpose in life. Today, we present seven powerful hacks that will not only boost your courage but also empower you to confront challenges and seize new opportunities in life. By implementing these seven practical strategies, you'll be able to develop your courage, conquer your fears, and unlock your full potential And the first of the seven hacks is setting achievable goals – Setting achievable goals is essential to driving internal courage as it fosters a sense of self-efficacy, motivation, and resilience in individuals. By establishing realistic objectives, individuals are more likely to feel confident in their abilities to overcome challenges and accomplish their desired outcomes. This sense of self-belief serves as a catalyst for courage, empowering individuals to take calculated risks and face adversity head-on. Moreover, breaking down larger aspirations into smaller, attainable goals provides a clear roadmap for progress, allowing individuals to track their achievements and maintain motivation. As each milestone is reached, a sense of accomplishment further reinforces the courage to persevere and overcome obstacles.  In essence, setting achievable goals not only nurtures a resilient mindset but also cultivates the internal courage needed to navigate life's uncertainties and achieve personal and professional success. Q: Have you ever found breaking goals down into smaller chunks boosting of your self esteem and confidence? And has that ever given you courage to chase more daring and challenging objectives? The 2nd Hack is embracing vulnerability.  You know, being open and vulnerable is super important when it comes to building up your courage. It helps you form genuine connections, grow as a person, and bounce back from tough times. When you're honest about your fears and hopes with people you trust, you create a support system that can offer great advice, motivation, and guidance. Sharing your experiences and viewpoints not only makes you stronger, but it also helps you feel less alone in your struggles. Plus, when you embrace vulnerability, you can face and accept your own limitations, which helps you develop a growth mindset that's key for building courage. Recognizing your weaknesses means you can tackle them head-on and learn from your setbacks, turning obstacles into chances for growth and self-improvement. And, being vulnerable also encourages self-compassion and empathy, giving you a better understanding of your feelings and experiences. This emotional intelligence lets you handle tough situations with more adaptability and resilience, which ultimately boosts your inner courage. Q:  Have you ever struggled to be vulnerable and where did you muster the courage to overcome that fear? Number three is practicing mindfulness.  Practicing mindfulness is important to driving internal courage because it fosters a deep sense of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and mental focus. By engaging in mindfulness practices, such as meditation or journaling, you learn to observe and process your thoughts and emotions without judgment. This increased self-awareness allows you to recognize and confront your fears, paving the way for the development of courage. Furthermore, mindfulness helps you stay present and focused, enabling you to approach challenges with a calm, clear mind and a heightened sense of resilience.  As you become more adept at managing your emotions, you'll find it easier to act courageously in the face of adversity, since you'll be less likely to be overwhelmed by fear or anxiety. In addition, mindfulness encourages reflection and introspection, which can lead to a better understanding of your values, goals, and motivations. This clarity of purpose further reinforces your internal courage, empowering you to make confident decisions and take decisive action in pursuit of your aspirations. Ultimately, practicing mindfulness is a powerful tool for cultivating a courageous mindset, equipping you with the mental and emotional strength to navigate life's challenges with grace and determination. Q: How do you practice mindfulness?  What grounds you in the present?   READ QUOTE: Nelson Mandela stated, when asked about overcoming fear, "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." Q: What do you think President Mandela meant by that statement? The truly courageous person acknowledges their fear and finds the strength to conquer it in order to move forward. Hack number four is visualizing success.  You know, visualizing success is super important when it comes to building courage. It's all about using your imagination to picture yourself achieving your goals. When you do that, you can feel the emotions and excitement of success, which helps you believe in yourself and boosts your courage. The more you see yourself overcoming challenges and reaching your goals, the more confident and determined you become. It's like a mental practice run that gets your brain ready for success, making it easier to take action when things get tough. Plus, visualization can help you bounce back from setbacks by letting you imagine different situations and solutions. This way, you're prepared to handle surprises with confidence and courage. So, in a nutshell, picturing success is a powerful way to make your dreams come true, face your fears, and tackle life's challenges with a never-give-up attitude. Q: Do you visualize your success before it's achieved?  If so what does that look like?   Five is to surround yourself with positive influences.  Surrounding yourself with positive influences is critical to driving internal courage because the people you choose to spend time with have a profound impact on your mindset, beliefs, and actions. By connecting with individuals who inspire, uplift, and encourage you, you create an environment that fosters personal growth, self-belief, and a can-do attitude. These supportive relationships act as a source of strength and motivation, providing you with the confidence and resilience needed to face challenges head-on.  Additionally, positive influences can serve as role models, demonstrating through their own actions the power of courage, determination, and perseverance. This exposure to courageous behavior helps you internalize these qualities and adopt them as part of your own character. Ultimately, immersing yourself in a circle of positive influences paves the way for the development of internal courage, empowering you to tackle obstacles, seize opportunities, and reach your full potential. Q:  Who are the positive influencers in your circle?  How do you cultivate positive energy  in your environment?  Where is your Sacred Space of Success?  How to eliminate toxic or negative energy? Hack six is learn from your failures.  Learning from our mistakes is super important for building courage. It's all about turning those setbacks into chances for growth and getting better at what we do. When we learn from failure, we get to know our strengths and weaknesses better, and that helps us be more resilient when facing future challenges and making smart choices. Plus, it encourages us to see obstacles as stepping stones, not huge barriers we can't overcome. Changing the way we see failure helps us be braver when taking risks and facing tough times with determination and persistence. Plus, when we realize that failure is just a normal part of the journey to success, we're less scared of messing up, which boosts our confidence and self-assurance. So, learning from our mistakes not only makes us more resilient, but it also gives us the courage we need to chase after our dreams and goals, no matter what. Q: What has been your biggest failure and what did you learn from it?  How has this failure made you more fearless? The last hack, is to practice exposure.  Practicing exposure plays a vital role in developing and driving internal courage as it allows individuals to confront and gradually overcome their fears, anxieties, and limiting beliefs. By facing challenging situations or stimuli in a controlled and incremental manner, individuals learn to build tolerance and resilience, ultimately reducing their negative emotional responses to these perceived threats. This process of desensitization helps individuals recognize that their fears are often irrational or exaggerated, enabling them to develop a more grounded and realistic perspective. As individuals gain confidence in their ability to cope with previously intimidating situations, they experience a sense of empowerment and self-efficacy. This newfound belief in their capabilities serves as a catalyst for internal courage, fostering the determination and resolve necessary to tackle even greater challenges. Moreover, the process of exposure also promotes personal growth and self-awareness, as individuals gain insights into their strengths, weaknesses, and coping strategies. Ultimately, practicing exposure not only strengthens resilience and adaptability but also cultivates the internal courage essential for overcoming obstacles and achieving personal and professional success. Q: How do you practice exposure?  Has it been beneficial?  Have you struggled to practice exposure? READ QUOTE: The poet E.E. Cummings is quoted as saying, "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are."  Q: What do you think E.E. Cummings meant by this? I believe he meant that it takes courage to embrace our authentic selves and take the necessary steps to grow and develop, even when it's challenging or uncomfortable.  (CTA)If you find yourself holding back, dodging challenges, and coming up with reasons why you can't achieve what you truly desire, it's time to reignite your inner courage. If fear—whether it's the fear of making mistakes, looking foolish, or failing—is stopping you from stepping out of your comfort zone, then it's time to harness your internal bravery. If you're stuck in analysis paralysis, unable to make crucial decisions swiftly, or if you begin exciting projects only to quit without a clear reason, then this message is meant for you! We urge you to grab a copy of "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers or "The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro (Itch-e'-Row) Kishimi (Kish-e'-Me') and Fumitake (fumi-Taki) Koga. These books offer incredible insights into cultivating and nurturing your personal courage. Check the show notes for the links, and let the journey towards a more courageous you begin! https://a.co/d/9opStAQ - "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers  https://a.co/d/9PjWgNH - "The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Kogahttp://www.komusodesign.com/krista15 - "Komuso Breathing Necklace Krista, any advice for our listeners out there who may be struggling from an overall lack of  courage?  We want to thank you for joining us today on our show.  It has been a pleasure and incredibly humbling to get to know you on a more personal level and understand how you use courage to achieve and live an amazing life. As we wrap up this inspiring podcast on discovering courage, let's remember that courage isn't about being fearless; it's about facing challenges with determination, strength, and a dedication to doing what's right.  Our guest, Krista Roseborough, shared incredible wisdom on developing inner bravery, touching on setting achievable goals, welcoming vulnerability, practicing mindfulness, envisioning success, surrounding ourselves with positivity, learning from setbacks, and embracing exposure.  Building courage is a journey that takes time and effort, but the rewards are beyond compare. As E.E. Cummings beautifully put it, "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." So, let's all commit to nurturing the inner courage we need to reach our goals and unlock our true potential. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

How can we approach change work with fierce honesty and utmost gentleness? How can we allow transformations to unfold naturally while releasing any fantasies of perfection?In this offering, I'm sharing my personal notes and contemplations about the week ahead. Combining astrology, tarot, the Akashic & Cosmic Body perspectives, and guidance from my sacred ancestors, healing guides and my own spirit, I hope these messages will serve you as you walk your path.While this contemplation was inspired by the energy and the astrology of the week of 04.10.23, I also offer the possibility that that the message here is relevant for you - even if you found the episode sometime in the future. This week, Venus will enter into Gemini, making aspects to Pluto in Aquarius and Saturn in Pisces.  In addition, the Sun will conjoin Jupiter in Aries.Try the incredible breathwork and meditation app Open for 30 days free using this special link. If this episode calls to you, I have some spots available for astrology readings and I invite you to click here to book an astrology reading or click here to book an Akashic reading with me.I mentioned the book The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. I also mentioned the work of Ari Felix and Natasha Levinger. This podcast is hosted, produced, and edited by Jonathan Koe. Theme music is also composed by me! Connect with me through my newsletter, my Instagram @nate_qi, and my music. For podcast-related inquiries, email me at healingthespiritpodcast@gmail.com.

It isn't easy to keep up with the pace of life. It can feel like time is running away, and there's always more to do than we can manage. So it's no wonder many people are trying to figure out how to slow it all down. But what does slowing down mean? What do we want to let go of? And how do we make these changes in a world that expects more and more from us? In this episode of The Gentle Rebel Podcast, I want to go beneath the surface and explore some of the profound benefits of slowing down. Episode contentsSlow Consumption in a World Of Instant Knowledge | 2:41Slowing Down and Control | 8:23What's The Point of Personal Productivity? | 10:53How Does Slowing Down Reduce Stress? | 13:31What Would Help Me Slow Down in Life? | 15:38Perception of Pace | 22:40What Do We Want When We Seek a Slower Life? | 27:51Slowing Down Our Important Tasks | 30:42The Risk of Rushing | 33:40Speed as a Tool | 35:56Why Do Time Management Tools Make Us Busier? | 37:05Enjoyment is Not The Destination | 40:12Where Do We Get to Slow Down Now? | 43:45Slowness is a Beautiful Waste of Time | 45:14Why I Call Myself a Slow Coach | 46:56What Would You Like To Waste Your Time On? | 48:08What's The Rush? Enter The Sanctuary of Slowness | 50:47 Slow Consumption in a World Of Instant Knowledge | 2:41 This topic is on my mind as I plan the next Haven Book Club. We are reading The Courage to Be Disliked, to which we will dedicate the next four months. What will slowing down make possible? How much more will we see, explore, and experience by not rushing? What will greet us in the gaps between the sessions and the vast depths as we reflect and process the ideas, and our conversations about them, over time? It's reassuring to know that we could quickly acquire an overview of a book's core concepts if we had to. So what if tools like Blinkest, StoryShorts, and Snapreads allow us to take our time with the books we want to read instead? To mine the depths for the kind of wisdom and mindful insights that don't come from knowledge hoarding. These valuable tools can reinforce and support our goal of slowing down. But only if we choose to approach them that way. If we only ingest bitesize nugget versions of books, we might struggle to open space for the inner conversations that lead to self-awareness and intentional growth. Slowing Down and Control | 8:23 Slowing down can help us let go of the need for control. It's about understanding that growth starts with roots that emerge from seeds planted in the dark. These are processes beneath and beyond our field of vision. Not an easy thing to do in a world that likes quick and visible results. What's The Point of Personal Productivity? | 10:53 I spent a lot of time, money and thought on productivity tools and time management techniques. I would hand hours over to designing my "ideal week" and perfect processes to deal with emails, social media, and my morning routine. But invariably, the more I focussed on being productive, the more overwhelmed I felt. This "productivity trap" is where we end up using productivity to free time to do more. It seems obvious, but it doesn't feel like it when we're stuck in that mode of thought, where we tell ourselves that with the right formula, technique, or process, we will finally have all the time in the world for the important stuff. This is accompanied by that dreaded feeling that we should be doing more. Because there is always more to do, even if we optimise our routine and clear our schedule, "more" will slip in. If these productivity techniques are not helping us do what we're already doing but slower, they are probably not helping us. Rather than asking, “what do I want more time to do?” maybe we could ask, "what do I want to be able to do more slowly if I choose to?" We can use that as a starting point from which to design the foundations of our life. How Does Slowing Down Reduce Stress? | 13:31

In this episode I chat with Lianne Kim (@liannekimocoach). She's a Business Coach & Strategist. Founder: Mamasandco and author of "Building a Joyful Business". Also, host of the podcast "The Business of Thinking Big". In this episode we chat about: 1. How to Combat Entrepreneurial Anxiety. It's the internal struggles of owning, operating, and growing an online business alone, sans an employer. It's the worry of building and putting out an offer only to have it rejected in a big way. It's the consistent failures and the heavy repercussions tackled in isolation. It's the mom guilt when you take time away from your family to dedicate to your entrepreneurial journey. It's the fear that you can't be a badass in business and a good mom simultaneously. 2. How to Overcome the Fear of Money. 3. Why You Want to Be Disliked in Online Business.

Brooke Rasmussen is completing her masters in Marriage and Family Therapy at Whitworth University in Spokane, Washington and is an intern at Partners with Families and Children, a social safety net for families facing neglect and abuse. Brooke is passionate about helping clients find personal and relational growth in their marriages and teaches Gottman Institute Marriage Courses online with her husband, Scott. Her research at Whitworth focuses on pornography use and its connections to emotional intelligence. Brooke and Scott traveled the world through his career as a diplomat, living in Africa, Europe, and the Middle East before putting down roots in Spokane with their eight children. Brooke's experience as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is fundamental to her development as a leader and thinker. Highlights 02:15 Introduction to Brooke and the topic of personal development 05:30 Brooke's process of preparing for the Leading Saints Women's Conference 07:45 What is a vertical relationship? 10:00 In a vertical relationship, there are only winners and losers. You are one up or one down. It can lead to pulling rank, shaming, and others feeling less than. 14:30 Identifying our own behaviors of trying to one up someone else 16:30 Kurt gives examples of one-up situations 18:40 We go one down in a vertical relationship when we are playing a victim role. When we are minimizing our choices and acting like we are forced into things. When we hide our needs or desires. 20:00 A one-down mindset can be when we let others emotionally protect us or we try to protect them. This happens a lot in families. Brooke gives examples of what this looks like. 22:00 Playing small can be deflecting or self deprecating. It's ok to want to aspire. 24:30 Historically women use the one-down spot for power. There is a victim power. 26:00 It gets tricky with the one-down position by saying it's a Christlike position 26:30 Brooke explains what it really means to turn the other cheek 28:30 Christ invites us to have horizontal relationships, where we are all on equal ground 29:40 The call of Christianity isn't a call to be a victim. It's a call to step into power. 30:40 If someone tries to one-up you then what does it look like to bring them back down to a horizontal relationship? 31:30 Brooke shares her own personal experience of a marriage fight and stopping the dynamic of trying to one-up each other 34:15 What to do in a church meeting when you feel like you got bulldozed. Learn to speak up for yourself and bring a meeting back to horizontal. 37:20 What can you do or say when someone else is playing the one-down card and acting like they are fine? You know they are trying to be accommodating. You can invite them to equal ground. 38:15 How anxiety plays into the horizontal and vertical relationship dynamics 41:00 God has established horizontal relationships and plans since the beginning of time. It's not meant to be a power struggle, that is why He established councils. 42:00 If you are receiving as much as you are giving then you aren't going to get burned out in your calling. It has to be a team effort and a horizontal experience in our wards. 46:20 We shouldn't abolish all authority and priesthood keys but it's all about inner intention. As a leader you can take the time to listen to everyone and put yourself on equal ground with others. 49:30 What to do when you have a tyrannical leader? Some people will refuse to step down. 51:30 There are real victims and perpetrators. We can still find dignity in our situation and show respect for ourselves. Links The Courage to Be Disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga Jennifer Finlayson Fife Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast WATCH on YouTube Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library The Leading Saints Podcast has ranked in the top 20 Christianity podcasts in iTunes, gets over 500,

Brooke Rasmussen is completing her masters in Marriage and Family Therapy at Whitworth University in Spokane, Washington and is an intern at Partners with Families and Children, a social safety net for families facing neglect and abuse. Brooke is passionate about helping clients find personal and relational growth in their marriages and teaches Gottman Institute Marriage Courses online with her husband, Scott. Her research at Whitworth focuses on pornography use and its connections to emotional intelligence. Brooke and Scott traveled the world through his career as a diplomat, living in Africa, Europe, and the Middle East before putting down roots in Spokane with their eight children. Brooke's experience as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is fundamental to her development as a leader and thinker. Highlights 02:15 Introduction to Brooke and the topic of personal development 05:30 Brooke's process of preparing for the Leading Saints Women's Conference 07:45 What is a vertical relationship? 10:00 In a vertical relationship, there are only winners and losers. You are one up or one down. It can lead to pulling rank, shaming, and others feeling less than. 14:30 Identifying our own behaviors of trying to one up someone else 16:30 Kurt gives examples of one-up situations 18:40 We go one down in a vertical relationship when we are playing a victim role. When we are minimizing our choices and acting like we are forced into things. When we hide our needs or desires. 20:00 A one-down mindset can be when we let others emotionally protect us or we try to protect them. This happens a lot in families. Brooke gives examples of what this looks like. 22:00 Playing small can be deflecting or self deprecating. It's ok to want to aspire. 24:30 Historically women use the one-down spot for power. There is a victim power. 26:00 It gets tricky with the one-down position by saying it's a Christlike position 26:30 Brooke explains what it really means to turn the other cheek 28:30 Christ invites us to have horizontal relationships, where we are all on equal ground 29:40 The call of Christianity isn't a call to be a victim. It's a call to step into power. 30:40 If someone tries to one-up you then what does it look like to bring them back down to a horizontal relationship? 31:30 Brooke shares her own personal experience of a marriage fight and stopping the dynamic of trying to one-up each other 34:15 What to do in a church meeting when you feel like you got bulldozed. Learn to speak up for yourself and bring a meeting back to horizontal. 37:20 What can you do or say when someone else is playing the one-down card and acting like they are fine? You know they are trying to be accommodating. You can invite them to equal ground. 38:15 How anxiety plays into the horizontal and vertical relationship dynamics 41:00 God has established horizontal relationships and plans since the beginning of time. It's not meant to be a power struggle, that is why He established councils. 42:00 If you are receiving as much as you are giving then you aren't going to get burned out in your calling. It has to be a team effort and a horizontal experience in our wards. 46:20 We shouldn't abolish all authority and priesthood keys but it's all about inner intention. As a leader you can take the time to listen to everyone and put yourself on equal ground with others. 49:30 What to do when you have a tyrannical leader? Some people will refuse to step down. 51:30 There are real victims and perpetrators. We can still find dignity in our situation and show respect for ourselves. Links The Courage to Be Disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga Jennifer Finlayson Fife Read the TRANSCRIPT of this podcast WATCH on YouTube Get 14-day access to the Core Leader Library The Leading Saints Podcast has ranked in the top 20 Christianity podcasts in iTunes, gets over 500,

“Blessed are the weird people: poets, misfits, writers, mystics, painters, and troubadours, for they teach us to see the world through different eyes.”- Jacob Nordby In my six years as an undertaker, I was always struck by the ordinary weirdness of human beings. Eulogies are filled with memories of mundane idiosyncrasies, quirks, and funny habits. These are things we treasure and miss about people. Weirdness is par for the course of humanity. We are all weird in our own way. And yet we learn to fight those parts of ourselves that don't fit the mould. We hide them, judge them, and crush them. In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown defines belonging as “the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us". She says, "because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging but often barriers to it." And then later, in Braving The Wilderness, she described “the quest for true belonging” as underpinned by our “courage to stand alone”. In this episode of The Gentle Rebel Podcast, we ask how we might nurture the courage to embrace and express our normally weird selves in life. Episode ContentsWhat Makes Us Ordinary is What Also Makes Us Weird | 1.48The Parable of The Blind Men and The Elephant | 6.29Ordinary Weirdness in Everyday Life | 9.33Belonging in The Wilderness | 14.30Self-Belief, Impostor Syndrome, and True Belonging | 21.26Entitlement vs Belonging (True Safety) | 23.32Perfectionism and Conditional Belonging | 26.12An Ode to Imperfection and Ordinary Weirdness | 32.40Stop Caring THAT People Think | 38.44Ordinary Weirdness and The Courage to Be Disliked | 41.44Identifying Our Path - Confidence in How We Go | 48.21The Temple of Dreams | 53.36What is Alive in You Right Now? | 66.14 What Makes Us Ordinary is What Also Makes Us Weird | 1.48 Ordinary weirdness is not something that can be forced. It's how we express our experience of life as the proverbial elephant. The Parable of The Blind Men and The Elephant | 6.29 You may know the story of the six blind men who wanted to figure out the form of an elephant. One man felt its trunk and believed the elephant was a thick snake. Another found the ear and compared it to a fan. The third felt the elephant's leg and imagined it like a tree trunk. The fourth man felt the creature's side and likened it to a wall. Another man felt its tail, believing it to be like a rope. And the last could touch the elephant's tusk, declaring it to be a spear. “We get stuck in the metaphor of language. But it's really the abstract sensation that connects everything. Art that is sensual goes straight to the ball of sensation that is in the centre of us. It bypasses words. This is what is Real.”- Alex Paxton My friend Alex talked about his relationship with art and its role in his understanding of life. Language is the imperfect tool we use to try to make abstract things concrete. But life is a lot like the elephant. We can feel and describe different parts of it. But none of us can ever capture the entire thing. And even as we define it, we do so with comparisons to other things. So art (and a life of ordinary creative exploration) keeps us moving around the elephant, finding new ways to feel, imagine, and describe it. But we never fully grasp it. Our experience and understanding of reality sits at the heart of our unique and weird ways of seeing the world. This is why there is always another piece to paint, song to sing, book to write, and truth to speak. Ordinary Weirdness in Everyday Life | 9.33 We discussed this in a Haven Kota session and recognised that "weird" is not an easy word for everyone to hold. It can carry baggage if used as an insult or criticism. There isn't a perfect word to describe this ordinary everyday weirdness. We thought about "authentic", but that carries a sense of essentialism,

This is the episode we didn't know we needed– EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT A PARENT! I took so much value from this convo with Dr. Siggie Cohen because although she is a renowned parenting expert… what she's really teaching us today is how to be a compassionate, boundaried human that knows how to meet another human (big or little) exactly where they are.  Parenting is one of the most challenging tasks we can take on; partially because raising a tiny creature with really big emotions takes a LOT of patience and energy, but also because of the way our reactions to those big emotions tell us about how we're parenting our own inner child. Dr. Siggie is a child and family therapist with over 35 years of experience. As a parenting expert who works with toddlers through teens, Dr. Siggie covers how best to connect with your kids in a way that benefits both you and them. By putting our egos aside and consistently asking “what's underneath the surface of the conflict in front of me?,” we can experience healthier interactions with not only our children, but within all other relationships in our lives. “Your goal is not to make your child's life easy, it's to show them they can do hard things.” Dr. Siggie believes that you don't always want your child to be happy— in fact, they MUST learn to not only recognize but sit with other emotions as well (like frustration, jealousy, boredom and disappointment) in order to function through life's challenges. By teaching our kids to be mindful and accepting of the full spectrum of difficulty and joy, we actually protect them from dismissing, denying, or being overtaken by any one of these complex feelings. Likewise, when we're feeling unhappy ourselves (perhaps we've “failed” at an important project or made a major mistake), Dr. Siggie talks us through how to both practice and model productive, solution-oriented self-reflection, using every bump in the road as a learning opportunity for ourselves and the little ones that look up to us. Whether you have kids, are thinking about having kids, or simply want to reparent yourself, these tips should help you foster healthier relationships with yourself, your kids, and others in your life. Let's get juicy! Connect with Dr. Siggie Cohen: Follow @dr.siggie on IG Follow @parenting.with.dr.siggie on TikTok Visit her website Connect with Organic Olivia: My new Instagram HERE Shop my herbal formulas HERE Try Rosehip Relief HERE Recommended Reading: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

170: How Can Your Nonprofit Be More Effective Seeking Grants? (Gauri Manglik)SUMMARYAs a nonprofit leader, are you focused on the most important elements that help you generate more funding? In episode #170 of Your Path to Nonprofit Leadership, learn how to better train your staff, measure the impact of your team, and choose the best tools for your nonprofit from Gauri Manglik, creator of a barrier-breaking grant discovery, research, and tracking tool. Aside from your mission, the talent you attract and retain is crucial to the success of your nonprofit. Having served over 2,000 nonprofit organizations, Gauri shares what she's observed about successful nonprofits and how they manage their people and technology. In this age of big data, she breaks down unique trends nonprofit leaders should look for and how to leverage quantitative insight when applying for funding.ABOUT GAURIGauri has dedicated her career to building intuitive and delightful user experiences. Seeing the opportunity to force multiply the nonprofit sector's ability to create impact through software led to her work at Instrumentl. As CEO and a co-founder, she has led Instrumentl to serve over 2,000 nonprofits today, making it a favorite tool among grant seekers for bringing grant prospecting, tracking, and management to one place. Before Instrumentl, Gauri was CEO and co-founder of Fondu, an online community for sharing bite-sized restaurant reviews. After Fondu was acquired by Airbnb, Gauri led their mobile and special projects teams.EPISODE TOPICS & RESOURCES The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga​​​​​​​Learn more about Gauri and Instrumentl here.Use code NPLPOD50 to save $50 off your first month or year of Instrumentl.Sign up for a 14-day free Instrumentl account here: https://www.instrumentl.com/r/PathTake our Podcast Survey and let us know what you want to hear!Check out Patton's new book Your Path to Nonprofit Leadership: Seven Keys to Advancing Your Career in the Philanthropic Sector

From: India/California, USA & Texas, USA Connect on: Men managing depression & burnout Connect with: Prashant Agrawal o LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/prashant-agrawal-b671983/ Skip Mondragon o LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/skip-mondragon-66a2b436/ o Facebook "Wrestling is Not For Wimps": https://www.facebook.com/SkipWNW/ o Twitter: https://twitter.com/SkipWnw o TED Talk: Tough Guys Are An Endangered Species – https://youtu.be/YMmhTsdDX2g o Book: Wrestling Depression is not for Wimps: www.wrestlingisnotforwimps.com Resources: Dr. Robert Lavant – Normative Male Alexithimia (when men have tremendous difficulty putting their emotional experience into words.) - https://www.drronaldlevant.com/mrni.html Book: Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl Book: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichirou Kishimi, Fumitake Koga Wisdom Gratitude - First thing in the morning be genuinely thankful for a few specific things in your life. This will prime you for a great day ahead. Meditation - Is one of the best tools to build mental strength. Living in the moment and being happy is a choice. Meditation can help you choose more such moments. Proverbs 17:22 - “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.” Dr. Skip's prescription: Laugh and laugh heartily Subscribe to my YouTube channel and access new and past episodes! To receive episodes and personal 'Connection Challenges' in your inbox, subscribe at www.NotQuiteStrangers.com. #NotQuiteStrangers #ConnectToJoy #Inspiration #Diversity #Inclusion #Manhood #Depression #Burnout #Masculinity

Strangers: Meet Prashant Agrawal & Skip MondragonFrom: India/California, USA & Texas, USA Connect on: Men managing depression & burnout Connect with:• Prashant Agrawal o LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/prashant-agrawal-b671983/• Skip Mondragon o LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/skip-mondragon-66a2b436/ o Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SkipWNW/ o Twitter: https://twitter.com/SkipWnw o TED Talk: Tough Guys Are An Endangered Species – https://youtu.be/YMmhTsdDX2g o Book: Wrestling Depression is not for Wimps: www.wrestlingisnotforwimps.comResources:• Dr. Robert Lavant – Normative Male Alexithymia (when men have tremendous difficulty putting their emotional experience into words.) - https://www.drronaldlevant.com/mrni.html• Book: Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl• Book: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichirou Kishimi, Fumitake Koga Wisdom• Gratitude - First thing in the morning be genuinely thankful for a few specific things in your life. This will prime you for a great day ahead.• Meditation - This is one of the best tools to build mental strength. Living in the moment and being happy is a choice. Meditation can help you choose more such moments.• Proverbs 17:22 - “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.”• Dr. Skip's prescription: Laugh and laugh heartily Subscribe to my YouTube channel and access new and past episodes! To receive episodes and personal 'Connection Challenges' in your inbox, subscribe at www.NotQuiteStrangers.com. #NotQuiteStrangers #ConnectToJoy #Inspiration #Diversity #Inclusion #Manhood #Depression #Burnout #Masculinity Let's Connect • Website: http://www.valeriehope.com • NQS Challenges: https://www.valeriehope.com/nqschallenges • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valeriehope/i • Twitter: https://twitter.com/ValerieVHope • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ValerieVHope/

If you've been struggling with performance mindset, perfectionism, people pleasing, doing things to try to prove your worth to yourself and to other people… This one is for you. Actually, this one is for everyone. The main message of this episode is this: Give yourself permission to just BE. In this episode, I also talk about some of the things I've learned from the book The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. Thank you for being here and for listening! - SKH -------------------------- LINKS: Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/JylxSs6ttw4 More Resources: http://sharonkilonhan.com CONNECT: Instagram: @sharonkilonhan. LEAVE A REVIEW: If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and rate this podcast on Apple podcast! (Apparently, these things really help~) -------------------------- Episode Vocabularies: affinity (n) a spontaneous or natural liking or sympathy for someone or something. hiatus (n) a pause or gap in a sequence, series, or process. subordinate (n) a person under the authority or control of another within an organization. appease (v) relieve or satisfy (a demand or a feeling). stifle (v) prevent or constrain (an activity or idea). grandiose (adj) impressive and imposing in appearance or style, especially pretentiously so. cease (v) bring or come to an end. steadfast (adj) resolutely or dutifully firm and unwavering. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/millenniallifeschool/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/millenniallifeschool/support

Let's discuss the lessons I learned from the most influential book that I had in my life: The Courage to be Disliked by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi which shaped my values. If you have the courage to be disliked, you will have more freedom in life, and I want you to take advantage of that freedom. The Courage to Be Disliked presents a simple and straightforward answer. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of nineteenth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, this book follows an illuminating dialogue between a philosopher and a young man. Let us review what a psychologist taught over 120 years ago which can be applied to our lives today so that we can live a happier life. #TheCourageToBeDisliked #AlfredAdler #MarketingAgency #SalesAndBusinessMastery ***Four Different Ways I Can Help You: 1. Sell a $25K Marketing Funnel Cheatsheet https://sellyourservice.co.uk/sales-book 2. Sell Your Service Mastermind Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/sysmastermind/ 3. Discover “Easy Win” Clients https://sellyourservice.co.uk/apex-campaigns/ 4. Free (10 Minute) 1-on-1 Marketing Coaching and Consulting https://go.sellyourservice.co.uk/freedom ***Let's Connect: Website: https://sellyourservice.co.uk Blog: https://sellyourservice.co.uk/blog/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/sysmastermind/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mkillen/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/mike_killen Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sellyourservice/

"As we practice unconditional trustworthiness, we notice a healing result: we are no longer devastated when others fail us. Our focus has shifted from ourselves as victims of others' betrayals of fidelity to our own commitment to trustworthiness. We still see that some people are not trustworthy, and we feel sad and injured. But as long as we do not follow suit, we are not so hurt as we once were—and we like ourselves more. This does not mean that we have become naive or gullible. It actually shows that we trust ourselves more. Then we become more discriminating in recognizing trustworthiness in others." —David Richo, author of Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love & Intimacy Often the word trust is expressed as a fundamental desire to find in other people, but what often is forgotten is how we play a role in both being fully trustworthy, but also trusting ourselves. Having self-trust, David Richo shares in his book Daring to Trust is one of the four types of trust we must possess in order to live a deeply enriching and fulfilling life. What are the other three types of trust you may be wondering? We will talk about those in today's post/episode. Over the course of this podcast, I have shared many discoveries from a vast range of books on how to improve the skills that will improve the quality of our lives (see the list of the most recent, the past two years, below). I found it especially poignant and timely that I read Daring to Trust as the year 2021 wound down. #318: How to Become a Secure Adult in Relationships, inspired by the book Attached #287: 5 Things to Do to Build Healthy Relationships and 4 Things Let Go (inspired by David Richo's first book - How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The 5 Keys to Mindful Loving) #307: How to Step into your Fullest True Self, inspired by Martha Beck's book The Way of Integrity #301: The Courage to Live Fully & Deeply, inspired by the book The Courage to Be Disliked #275: 34 Ways to Attain Emotional Freedom and Cultivate More Joy of Living, inspired by Judith Orloff's book Emotional Freedom #293: Choose a Life You Love Living Each Day (yes, it is possible), inspired by the book Nonviolent Communication: The Language of Life blog post: 9 Ways to Think Like a Monk, as taught by Jay Shetty Often we aren't certain or cannot pinpoint what exactly is preventing us from living a life of true contentment. Perhaps we have come quite close, have felt it from time to time, but not consistently. There are moments of deep fulfillment and peace, but it eludes us at other times, and we wonder what we have done wrong. For me, after reading the following books listed above (link to the episode each book inspired), I felt confident I had the ingredients to live a life of everyday contentment, and largely I did, but the said contentment would flit away when certain moments would present themselves, and so I kept searching. I told myself, there must be a missing ingredient I have overlooked. I must have missed a crucial skill for holding myself steadily in contentment each day. Turns out it was understanding what true trust is and how to be fully trustworthy all the while acknowledging that we (and others) are human. Both of these concepts are what will be discussed in today's episode/post. First, let's find common ground on what trust is. David Richo defines it simply as reliance on reliability. He underscores, "[Trust] is not dependency but rather an inner assurance, a confidence that gives us a sense of security." 1. Strengthen your trust IQ: Know when to walk away "We trust others when we feel safe and secure in their presence. Our insistence that we will spend time only with those with whom we feel safe increases our trust IQ. Over time, we become more adept at telling the difference between a con artist and a straight-up guy. When we feel unsafe with someone and still stay with them, we damage our ability to discern trustworthiness in those we will meet in the future." Understanding true trust in others and exercising trustworthiness in how we live our lives gives us the tools to know when to stay and when to leave. Richo's quote above brings to our attention the importance of how we hurt this skill of discernment each time we distrust what we know about trust. When we know we can trust, "we know longer have to protect ourselves" and the cultivation of true intimacy becomes possible. But first, what is adult trust? In other words, what is the trust we need to understand? 2. What is trust, adult trust? When I read the first chapter of David Richo's book I became immediately aware of how I had approached trust incorrectly throughout my adult life. I had placed the responsibility on the other to show trust or to be trustworthy, placing the power in someone else; however, I had it backwards and I disempowered myself in the process. Let me explain: Adult trust is "I trust myself with whatever you do" instead of "You will never hurt me." Sounds crazy to choose to let go of the latter statement, but again, you are taking back your power, taking responsibility for being trustworthy and being able to accurately determine if someone is available to be trusted. Richo points out that when we make this shift to adult trust, we remove the victim mentality and own our life, our choices and honor ourselves which improves our ability to observe those who are capable of being trusted as we move forward. By putting the trust in ourselves to discern if others are trustworthy, knowing we can walk away at the worst of it, speak up with assertiveness (not aggression) we exhibit security in ourselves. And when we demonstrate we are a secure individual, we attract healthier individuals to us as we are not seen as a burden to someone else, not seen as a victim in need of someone else's care. 3. True trust takes time As much as we desire to flat out trust the person who captures our eye, our libido, our hopes, to say we fully trust someone so quickly is foolhardy. In fact, we must count ourselves fortunate if we grew up in a family home where a healthy installation of trust as Richo calls it was part of our upbringing because we will know what true trust looks and feels like in others as we navigate into our adult lives. However, if such a childhood was not part of our life story, it is important to learn what true trust is so that we will begin to seek out those we can trust and let go of those we cannot. We forget that as a baby, our whole lives were placed in the responsibility and care of adults we didn't get to choose. Over the course of our childhood - 18 years or so - we either have a mountain of evidence that our parents were trustworthy to provide security and care or we don't, but it took time, and our parents were not perfect, so they made mistakes, but most likely, they are people you could trust. The imperfection is important to note, as is the time factor. Trust takes time. No matter how attracted you are to someone, no matter how hotly charged the chemistry that runs between you two, neither have anything to do with whether or not you can trust them. You may want to trust them, but you do not have enough experience with them, time with them or exploration of them to know whether you can or not. What does taking time to trust look like? We open a space to explore and let someone in, but gradually. We move forward when appropriate and accept when moving on is what will fit best based on the response or lack thereof from the other We keep our ego in check - we are not entitled to someone else's trust no matter how badly we want them to trust us. The building of trust is a two-way street, and each of us are in different vehicles having traveled different life journeys with trust. If someone hurts our trust as we have been open to them, we tell them - clearly but with courtesy - so they can know, and we can set a boundary and we observe if they learn from it (or visa versus - we listen we someone tells us we have hurt them and apply the lesson). Let self-disclosure happen in increments, not all at once. We are investigating with each interaction, listening closely, opening up gradually, and observing to see if the 5 A's (shared below) are present all the while exercising the 5 A's with each engagement. We engage with loving kindness, and also are loyal to an "unconditional yes to what is". We accept reality. We cannot control the other, only ourselves. We only have control over our own trustworthiness. "Our companion practice of the unconditional yes to what is directs us to be thankful for trustworthiness from others when it comes our way and be open to disappointment sometimes too." 4. Often sex is desired when it is trust we seek "Regarding touching, it is central to trusting." While there are the five languages of love as Gary Chapman talks about in his book which was the central focus of episode #87 - Romantic Love: What is it and How to Maintain It, touch is often something each of us is starved for. Healthy touch, loving touch, a safe touch. Richo brings to our attention that "in adulthood we may look to sex as a substitute for the touch and holding we need" when what we are actually seeking is a heart connection which can happen in many other ways of touching. However, because we know that other forms of touching prompt great emotional response, we are fearful of the emotion that will arise, so the sex gives us temporarily what we long for, but isn't fulfilling if it isn't with someone we trust. On the trustworthy side, which is something we have entire control over (we'll talk about what that is in the next point), when we trust ourselves (self-trust) we aren't afraid to express our emotions or let ourselves feel the emotions we have while with another, and so we are able to let go of our unnecessary inhibitions and extend touch - whether in an arm around the shoulder, a touch of the hand or a kiss. All of these actions again are exchanged with someone we trust and motivated by sincere exchange of feeling knowing the person with whom we are exchanging feels safe with us. 5. Be wholly trustworthy in your daily actions When we are trustworthy, David Richo explains, we are living with and engaging with the world with integrity and loving kindness. When we act with integrity, we may be rejected, we may even be laughed at, but because we are mature enough to understand how trust can be built with another, the opinions of those who reject or laugh or scoff matter less because we have strengthened our inner resources and know to walk away. We do not take revenge, retaliate or act in a way that is against our integrity, but instead engage with loving kindness. Richo shares this detailed list of the many ways you express loving kindness and integrity. Here is just a taste: do your best to keep your commitments, honor your word and follow through on tasks committed to take care of your body and your health (mental and physical) forgo taking advantage of others in a vulnerable situation simply because I have authority or the power to do so refrain from ingratiating myself to gain approval appreciate the love given, and have no expectations that I receive it ask for what I need with assertiveness, not aggression - ask for the love I long for otherwise how will someone know? accept, without judgment, the given of sudden unexplained absence, ghosting, or the silent treatment by others and do not use those styles myself 6. Build a full and healthy life: Rely on your partner for only 25% of your needs fulfillment It is not just a romantic partner we shouldn't rely on for more than 25% of our needs fulfillment but any one person. Why? If we remain in the child-parent trust model which is a survival approach, we are in a dependency-relationship which thwarts any attempt for a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Ironically, we are programmed to have our survival needs met - the child-parent model - but we must shift away from this comfort seeking and step into the challenge approach to living which requires that we become more comfortable with the unknown and cultivate more self-trust (we'll talk about this type of trust below). The shift occurs when we start seeking safety and security from within rather than outside of ourselves. When we make this shift, our world changes for the better. Our days and relationships more enriching and our contentment grounding. Richo shares a quote from Henry David Thoreau which I found quite succinct and accurate to describe what we seek in relationships, "I will come to you, my friend, when I no longer need you. Then you will find a palace, not an almshouse." So where does the rest of our need fulfillment come from if only 25% can come from any one person? It comes from the healthy social circle and self-care you have thoughtfully nurtured over time, and that doesn't just mean people. In this post, I share a list of different connections and relationships worth investing in and then in this post share the elements of a strong social well-being. Simply put, your friends, family, yes, even your pets, and of course your career, spiritual practice, Mother Nature and any other resource that strengthens your sense of safety and security make up the remaining 75% of your needs fulfillment. 7. Exercise, as well as be able to identify, the five A's In episode #287 - 5 Things to Do to Build Healthy Relationships, David Richo's first book How to Be An Adult in Relationships: The 5 Keys to Mindful Loving inspired the content. Detailing the five A's necessary to be exercised by both individuals in any mutually satisfying and fulfilling relationships, these 5 A's play a fundamental part in building trust. What are the A's? Attention Acceptance Appreciation Affection Allowing We are being trustworthy when we express each of these in relationships. We know someone is worthy of being trusted when they exercise them in return. (read this post to explore each of the A's in more detail). 8. When we have self-trust, there is no need, or desire, to control others "The yes of surrender to the limits in our relationship leads to serenity, the safety and security that happen from within us. Such surrender is our proof to ourselves that we really can trust ourselves. We begin to redirect our trust, an empowering venture." An intimate relationship takes time to build as both involved have taken the time to show they are trustworthy. When we trust the other, we gradually and then more largely surrender, and surrendering is possible because we hold fast and steadily to strong trust of ourselves. The surrendering has as much to do with being with another human being as it has to do with letting our feelings be what they will be in the midst of all the experiences that will arise. And letting ourselves fully feel these feelings without suppression. I speak largely of the awesome feelings that we may have thought were never possible. We are more comfortable with surrender because we trust ourselves to respond rather than react, to speak up with assertiveness not aggression when our needs are not being met as well as knowing what our needs are and why because we have done the homework of ourselves as well as acknowledged that we are still growing and learning and evolving. Richo writes about men in American culture and how often when men deny or step away from the potential of a relationship with a real, healthy and secure individual, stating the reason is because they fear losing their freedom, it is actually an inaccurate reason. Let me explain. If the person they are stepping towards is indeed real, secure and has self-trust, then what men actually fear is not the loss of their freedom, but rather the feelings that may arise when they surrender themselves to what the relationship, what the intimacy, may actually be and who they will become when they surrender to the truth of what they feel. In other words, two self-trusting adults who exchange all of the 5 A's create a space, a life of fulfillment without controlling the other. Why? Because we are not forcing the other to be engaged with us. They want to be with us because we each find comfort, affirmation, love and community with each other. It feels good because it is good to feel our best, and if we feel our best with them, even when we unintentionally make mistakes or life trips us up, so long as we are acting with integrity and loving kindness, the intimacy remains and actually strengthens. Such strength in a relationship takes time to build, just as trust does and that is why true intimacy, true fulfillment, true love, takes time and is never at first sight. 9. Strengthen your core trust and become curious about your own life journey Essentially our core trust is acceptance in the reality of the world. A letting go, a trusting in magic and truth of things beyond our control. It doesn't mean we do not engage or act passively, but we do not strangle life. We let it unfold while dancing with it. When we exercise our core trust we "generate a calm abiding, a serenity that energizes. The opposite of being in control is resting secure and being alert to what comes next." "To open to reality is to turn toward it and to trust that it makes room for us in that very same moment . . . all this happens as we let go of control and stay with whatever happens until it transforms." Understanding what core trust is and how it can open up our lives was an aha moment for me. In many ways over the past 12 years I have been exercising a core trust even though I was doing so unconsciously. When we take our life experiences and mine them for wisdom rather than wallow in them and lament about how things may have been different, we are choosing to embrace our journey and figure out what is our calling, how can we marry what we are passionate about with what the world needs - our dharma as Jay Shetty calls it and in so doing, our journey unfolds in ways we could never have imagined. We are open to possibility and brave enough to explore the unknown while staying grounded in our self-trust - our boundaries maintained, our values held once questioned and evaluated to truly be our own. "When I give up trying to direct the show and instead keep opening to how it unfolds, I unfold." Richo reminds that "without core trust, we can't relax our grasp and let reality unfold as it needs to . . . with core trust, we gain confidence that nothing can happen to us that does not offer a fulfillment of our ineradicable yearning for wholeness. Thus everything in our lives, whether from events or from people, is just what is needed for our unique story to be told." How exciting is that! How freeing is that to know that it is in the letting go, engaging, but not demanding or manipulating, that we actually infuse our life with awesome possibility. 10. As your trust strengthens, your wisdom grows "Wisdom requires us to open to what happens and be discriminating about what we let in." As we come to understand what constitutes trust in someone else, as we explore our own feelings to accurately access what our needs are and why we are feeling what we are feeling, as we communicate with assertiveness paired with courtesy our needs, as we experience the walking away and opening up to new people, as our self-trust grows, as our core trust grows, we are better able to know who to begin letting into our lives and who to walk past. 11. Understand where the need to control originates "Our need to control is actually not a need; it is a panic that our needs will not be met unless we take full charge." Richo's explanation of the truth he states above prompted many lightbulb moments to go off in my own head. I found myself shaking my head in agreement, acknowledging the truth of my own desire to control in a variety of different instances in my life, and I felt grateful to finally have found his insights as they helped me better understand myself. The truth is, when we demand to control, we let go of the core trust we must have in order to live a life of fulfillment. The ego wins when we require something go exactly our way, and when the ego wins, we are relinquishing the belief in our own powers. We are far more capable than we acknowledge in such moments, and letting the ego win keeps us in a state of dependency rather than trust in the world around us and in ourselves. 12. The four directions we give our trust In today's episode so far we have talked about self-trust (#8) and core trust (#9), and now I would like to talk about the other two because once we have all four types of trust being exercised in our lives, the quality of our relationships and our experience of life, thus a life of fulfillment, elevates. When we exercise self-trust we become better able to determine who is trustworthy and who to continue to get to know in a variety of types of relationships. Exercising self-trust in this way ushers in the third type of trust - interpersonal trust. Interpersonal trust - Richo defines it as "we believe that they have our best interests at heart. We trust that they will come through for us, stand by us, and be there for us when we need them. We believe they will not knowingly or purposely betray, disappoint, deceive or hurt us. If they do, we trust ourselves to handle those experiences by grieving and attempting to reconcile if that is appropriate to the situation." As we nurture a variety of interpersonal relationships of trust, we make sure not to place more than 25% of our needs in any one relationship. We do so because we trust ourselves, we have a core trust and, to introduce the fourth type of trust, we have trust in a higher power. Do not jump to conclusions. A "higher power" as defined by Richo "can mean belief in a personal God or in any force or spirit in nature or the universe that transcends ego and can be relied upon for grace and support. In many ways, our core trust and trust in a higher power are one. Richo is not saying our destiny has already been pre-ordained or even that there is intervention by something we don't understand. No. What he is saying is that we can have "confidence that no power on earth can hold us captive to hate or prohibit us from loving." This does not require us to have faith in a literal God, but rather to understand something we cannot fully understand but have the courage to believe in the 'friendliness of the universe'. Richo goes on to talk about Grace-full Coincidence in his epilogue, further encouragement to each of us to let go, act with integrity and loving kindness in each of our days, be engaged with the world, but not demanding, and trust in something magical. He poses this question: Does the universe position things so carefully that our hearts can open at just the right time? What mysterious power makes it all come together just like that? Is it that friendly? How can we ever doubt that we can dare to trust? My immediate response and annotation in my book was, I hope so. And so I am consciously daring to trust, to open my heart to that possibility and take control of what I can, which is only myself and how I engage. Remembering to exercise the 5 A's, remove the stories from my mind and walk with patience and self-trust along with all of the other trusts, grateful for the gift of being here on this earth. I dare you to do the same and am confident your life journey will delight and amaze you when you do. Explore the full book here. 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-What does the separation of tasks, coined by Dr. Alfred Adler, entail? -How can we codependummies determine whether a task is ours or someone else's? -What happened in my marriage when I kept taking on my husband's tasks? (hint: it was not pretty or loving) Welcome to our 50th episode! 5 - 0! Fifty! This episode is all about the concept of “The Separation of Tasks.” Back in the early 1920's, an Austrian medical doctor and psychotherapist by the name of Alfred Adler, suggested that “all problems are interpersonal relationship problems.” He made bold statements like that and suggested that when we are able to separate our tasks from one another, or as we say “set boundaries” in our contemporary lexicon, then all of our relationship problems will be addressed! WHAT? Listen to Marissa breakdown Adler's concept of how to separate tasks and hear what happened in her marriage when she failed to separate tasks with her husband--not good!  Thanks for listening! A share, rating, and review is much appreciated! Be sure to get your copy of The Confiding Codependummy: 30-Days of Journaling Prompts for a less-codependent and more-conscious YOU at www.codependummy.com/toolsforhealing. Now through midnight on November 30, you can get a discounted copy for just $20. Hop to it since the price increases to $30 on December 1!  Helpful links: The Courage to Be Happy by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga Alfred Adler's Wikipedia www.codependummy.com for The Self-Validation Challenge, Newsletter sign-up, and Tools for Healing! More deets on this week's episode:  Alfred Adler is an Austrian-born medical doctor and psychotherapist who contributed to the mental health field from about 1900-1930. He collaborated with other OG's like Freud and Jung, however, broke off on his own to develop Individual Psychology. You may recognize terms like the inferiority complex, style of life (or lifestyle), and birth order from Adler.  Adler said things like “All problems are interpersonal problems.”  With such an emphasis on interpersonal problems, Adler was really into separating tasks (or what we would call “setting boundaries”) since he sensed they were the root to all problems.  How do we go about separating tasks? By asking "Whose task is this? Who will ultimately pay the consequences if this task is not completed?” If the answer isn't “me,” then that task is technically not yours.  Adler discouraged us to not intrude on other people's tasks. He even suggested that, in general, all interpersonal relationship troubles are caused by intruding on other people's tasks, or having one's own tasks intruded on.  I share an anecdote of taking on my husband's self-care as my own task. It did not turn out well. In short, I was hyperfocused on my huband's tasks while neglecting my own.  In Adler's writings, when someone like me is confronted with a need to separate tasks between themselves and their partner, he wrote that the act of believing is also the separation of tasks. You believe in your partner; that is your task.  Note: we are not talking about non-interference. Sometimes, I will make requests since noninterference is the attitude of not knowing, and not even being interested in knowing what another person is doing. If there is an issue with an undone task, you can tell the other person that that is their task, and then let them know that you are ready to assist them whenever they have the urge to address the task. Homework: How to apply the Separation of Tasks to your life.  Pay attention When you are about to do something, ask yourself “Whose task is this? Who will ultimately pay the consequence if this task goes undone?” If it's your task, complete your task. If it's another's task, you can decide whether you want to a) relinquish that to them or b) offer assistance. Muster all the might and will it will take you to not intrude or meddle in another's task.  While you are letting others deal with their own tasks, look down at your body, look inward at your mind, tune into your heart and soul and identify any of your own tasks that you are neglecting.  If you can identify an undone task, I encourage you to start addressing it this week.  Questions:  Whose tasks, if any, are you taking on right now that you need to separate? What are you afraid will happen if you let their tasks go? Is the non-separation of tasks working for you and the other person?  What do you get out of taking on their tasks (distraction, self-esteem, a purpose, etc.)? How are your attempts to be helpful actually hurting others by not separating your and their tasks?  Thank you!  www.codependummy.com/toolsforhealing for our premier product, The Confiding Codependummy: 30-Days of Journaling Prompts now just $20 through Nov. 30!!!   Marissa's info: marissa@codependummy.comwww.codependummy.com/challenge  @therapywithmarissa on IG Wanna work with me? Go to www.therapywithmarissa.com Help keep the lights on here: https://linktr.ee/codependummy

Mason Prater joins Matt and Chris for another history lesson on WWI and WWII, what we trade when we give away our data to big companies, and discuss the Courage to Be Disliked.To buy The Courage to Be Disliked: https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Be-Disliked-Phenomenon-Happiness/dp/1501197274/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1637178423&sr=8-1Connect with Mason on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/mason-prater-104aba85/We want to hear from you, so leave a message for us at www.podinbox.com/cheineon.If you like what you hear and want to have a podcast produced for you, visit www.cheineproductions.com to learn more. We offer podcast production and more in Bonita Springs, FL.Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/7akb13iEN24 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/chris-heine2/message

In this podcast episode Susanne & Lacey explore what Radical Self Love looks like. They explore radical self acceptance first through observation and neutrality, self respect, boundaries, toxic & harmful behavior, and what it looks like to be active participants in cultivating Radical Self Love through actions. This has been quite a process and journey for both of them and they are still actively pulling the threads on these concepts in their own lives daily.Please note on the small time stamp pertaining to accountability:Here's areas where we think it's appropriate to hold people accountable outside of interpersonal relationships:-When brands or companies  who should be for the people they create for are contributing to harmful behavior-When actual abuse is happening (emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, child neglect,?etc)— please report ASAPBooks we recommend: All Brene Brown books, specifically: Daring Greatly & The Gift of ImperfectionsUntamed by Glennon DoyleIt Didn't Start With You by Mark WolynnWhat Happened to You by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. PerryThe Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake KogaIntro Music by BensoundWe hope you enjoy this podcast. Don't forget to subscribe, review, and follow us on Instagram @thepullingthreadspodcast

"How we navigate our highest-pressure moments has a huge impact on the overall trajectory of our lives, both in terms of how successful we are and how much we enjoy the journey along the way."   My guest today is Dane Jensen, author and CEO of Third Factor, a company that helps people become better coaches, more resilient performers, and more collaborative teammates. Dane has deep expertise in navigating pressure, having worked with high performers in elite sport, academia, business, and government.   He is also a keynote speaker, instructor at Smith School of Business, Queen's University as well as an affiliate faculty member at UNC. In today's episode, we explore Dane's excellent new book, The Power of Pressure: Why Pressure Isn't the Problem, It's the Solution.   You'll learn to: Understand the “pressure equation” of importance, uncertainty and volume Escape the traps of pressure with effective tools and tactics Be ambidextrous so that you can handle pressure both in peak pressure moments and over the long haul Utilize the most important preparation tip I've ever heard, and more!   What Makes Us Feel Pressured Pressure is really a function of three things: importance, uncertainty, and volume. The first thing that has to be there for us to experience pressure is importance. The importance that we have assigned to the outcome is directly correlated to the pressure that we feel in a situation. If you don't care about the outcome, it's not going to create pressure.   Dealing With Everyday Pressures We need to be able to connect with importance to be able to push through the daily grind. I need to have a really good answer to the question ‘why am I doing this'? Why is this important to me? Why am I putting in the time, effort, and energy for this? The answer to those questions will be a very crucial source of energy in the long haul.     A More Effective Tool Than Willpower People sometimes feel like all they need to do is to will themselves to focus and say ‘no' to distractions, but that's not realistic. It's a losing battle if you're only relying on willpower to say ‘no'. It's more effective to remind yourself of your principles, act on them, and create a structure that allows you to make decisions without relying on willpower.     Links and Resources Connect with Dane: LinkedIn, Website, Twitter The Power of Pressure by Dane Jensen (book) The Courage to Be Disliked by Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi (book)

Neville Medhora and Sam Parr (TheHustle + HubSpot) go over books for business, life, fiction, and investing. Which are YOUR favorite books? LIST OF BOOKS MENTIONED IN THE INTERVIEW → LIFE BOOKS: • How to Get Rich: https://amzn.to/3mHT7Uq • This Is Earl Nightingale: https://amzn.to/3lAcWxN • The Almanack of Naval Ravikant: https://amzn.to/3FOw8zH • Courage to Be Disliked: https://amzn.to/3j5xFb5 • Endurance: https://amzn.to/3vdsuKY • Man's Search for Meaning: https://amzn.to/30xoDNx • Empire of The Summer Moon: https://amzn.to/30x9w6M • How to Think Like A Roman Emperor: https://amzn.to/3lK4kVe • Think and Grow Rich: https://amzn.to/3pbQzRd • Kitchen Confidential: https://amzn.to/3ATIgMn • The 5 Love Languages: https://amzn.to/3lR5Ch6 BUSINESS BOOKS: • Influence: https://amzn.to/3DNYfxo • The Adweek Copywriting Handbook: https://amzn.to/3DOSijF • Built To Sell: https://amzn.to/3AX8e1k • Essays of Warren Buffet: https://amzn.to/3pb5rQ7 • The Snowball: https://amzn.to/2XmZvYw FUN READS: • The Dirt: Confessions of the World's Most Notorious Rock Band: https://amzn.to/3BXeeIW • The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists: https://amzn.to/3DJr5yO • Rise of Theodore Roosevelt: https://amzn.to/3AO5JOR • Titan: The Life of John D. Rockefeller: https://amzn.to/3p6BX5z • Sam Walton, Made in America My Story: https://amzn.to/3FYXTWf • Steve Jobs: The Exclusive Biography: https://amzn.to/3j7rYcr • Elon Musk: https://amzn.to/3FUwCEK • Benjamin Franklin: An American Life: https://amzn.to/3lSjUhN • The Return to the Little Kingdom: https://amzn.to/3lU6Poc • Travels with Charley in Search of America: https://amzn.to/3DHI04I • The Martian: https://amzn.to/3ASREjd • Project Hail Mary: https://amzn.to/3ayPACm • Seed: https://amzn.to/3aMpqMz WRITING BOOKS: • On Writing: https://amzn.to/2Z2n1uw • Ogilvy On Advertising: https://amzn.to/3ACmegX • Confessions of an Advertising Man: https://amzn.to/3AO42AR • Getting Everything You Can Out of All You've Got: https://amzn.to/3BQ7Nr7 • The Boron Letters: https://amzn.to/3paHmsB Follow Sam Parr:

Don't miss out on the next #womenintech podcast episode, get notified by signing up here http://womenintechshow.com.Be featured in the Women in Tech Community by creating your profile here http://womenintechvip.com/“Erika Batista of On Deck”#womenintech Show is a WeAreTech.fm production.To support the Women in Tech podcast go to https://www.patreon.com/womenintechTo be featured on the podcast go to http://womenintechshow.com/featureHost, Espree Devorahttps://twitter.com/espreedevorahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/espreeGuest,Erika Batistahttps://twitter.com/ErikaBatistahttps://www.linkedin.com/in/erikabatista/Be featured in the Women in Tech Community by creating your profile here http://womenintechvip.com/Listener Spotlight,Adam Marxhttps://twitter.com/adammarx13In LA? Here's some awesome resources for you to become immersed in the LA Tech scene -For a calendar of all LA Startup events go to, http://WeAreLATech.comGet Podcast Listeners, http://getpodcastlisteners.com/Resources Mentioned:On Deck, https://www.beondeck.comReply All, https://gimletmedia.com/shows/reply-allVine, https://vine.coThe Courage to Be Disliked, https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43306206-the-courage-to-be-dislikedCredits:Produced and Hosted by Espree Devora, http://espreedevora.comStory Produced, Edited and Mastered by Cory Jennings, https://www.coryjennings.com/Production and Voiceover by Adam Carroll, http://www.ariacreative.ca/Team support by Janice GeronimoMusic by Jay Huffman, https://soundcloud.com/jayhuffmanShort Title: Erika Batista of On Deck 

Are you able to celebrate other people's success? Or do you get jealous and tend to compare yourself to other people who seem to be doing well even when you don't want to? Do you know that's a sign of feeling inferior? How do we overcome that? Sharing some highlights of the first two chapters of “The Courage to Be Disliked” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. Remember, you are who you decide you are. You are not defined by your past, and how you see yourself and the world is entirely up to yourself. Also, the grass is greener where you water it. **Song at the end “禮物” (Blessings): https://youtu.be/mYzEPfabaps -- Would love to hear from you - please comment below anything you'd like to share! Excited to hear your stories and opinions! If you like this podcast, please subscribe and give a 5-star review as well! Podcast - New episode every Thursday! https://arieltsai.lnk.to/ArielsWhisper_CH Ariel's Facebook：http://bit.ly/ariel_tsai_FB Ariel's Instagram：http://bit.ly/ariel_tsai_IG Ariel's YouTube：http://bit.ly/ariel_youtube Powered by Firstory Hosting

The title of the book we're discussing this week is provocative—The Courage to Be Disliked—and that's one reason we picked it. It's intrigued many others, too: it's sold more than 3.5 million copies. Jerome and Laura talk about some of the essential pieces of advice in this fascinating book that's based on the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of nineteenth-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung. Come have a listen!Have a question about raising your kid or something you want us to chat about on Billboard Happiness?Send us an email (hello@billboardhappiness.com) or send us a voice text and we'll use it on the podcast! 415-515-0995Links:The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga  Jerome's psychology practice websiteLaura's copywriting business and her website-in-a-day business

In 2019 the „organic area made up 8.5 % of total EU agricultural land.” But how do you manage weeds in organic farming? The answer to this question is located in Latvia, where Janis Jasko developed together with his team a laser-focused weeding machine. Weedbot uses a high-precision laser to get rid of weeds in three simple steps. Janis has over 10 years of experience in research and development and all we can say is…it shows! More about his experience and the start-up in this episode. Advice from Janis: Moments when something is not working as planned happen. And the main idea or the main challenge is to move forward and not take it too seriously because we see technical things can go wrong and they often do. Books: Disciplined Entrepreneurship by Bill Aulet The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga contact Janis via Linkedin: @janisjasko more about the company: weedbot.eu Keep in touch with us! Linkedin: Innovation Friday Podcast Instagram: @innovationfridaypodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/innovationfriday/message

Aligning with your cycle is about more than just tracking in your calendar. Since there are so many ways that your cycle influences and can be influenced by different areas of your life, it has to be holistic. Today's episode focuses on ideas for self-care and ritual that might feel good throughout both the menstrual and lunar cycles. But first, a rant on goop press's latest publication, Intuitive Fasting.The Lunar Body is brought to you by the Hormone Harmony Workshop Series! Four classes to help you align with your cycle holistically and intuitively:Intuition NutritionSleeping Your Way to Less StressFertility for EveryoneFinding Relief From PMS & Period PainGet all the details at goodwitchkitchen.net/harmony --------Mentioned in this episode:Source: Fasting for too long can mess with blood sugar (CW: o*esity)Thoughts on religious fasting — @emilyfonnesbeck_rdThe Moon Book by Sarah Faith GottesdienerSelf-love potion recipeSource: Medicinal benefits of roseSource: Rose tea for primary dysmenorrheaOrganic India Tulsi Sweet Rose Tea (sign up for Thrive Market with this link and get 25% off your first order) Blog: Cleansing without sageThe Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake KogaHauswitch's banishment spell for self-reflectionThe Hormone Harmony Workshop Series--------If you have any questions that you want to be answered on the podcast, email them to Kristen at thelunarbody@gmail.com.Keep in touch:WebsiteInstagramSupport the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/kristenc)

Гайхалтай өглөө/өдөр/оройн мэнд! Та сэтгэл хөдлөлийн талаар юу гэж боддог вэ? Та баяртай үедээ өөрийгөө анзаардаг уу? Эсвэл ууртай үедээ яг юунаас болж бухимдаж байгаагаа мэддэг үү? Хялбархан зүйл шиг санагдаж байгаа ч, сэтгэл хөдлөл маань биднийг үнэхээр төөрөгдүүлж чаддаг шүү. Энэ дугаарт "Emotional intelligence" буюу сэтгэл хөдлөлөө анзаарах, удирдах, илэрхийлэх чадварт суралцахыг хичээж байгаа талаар ярилцлаа. Бусдыг хүлээлтэнд нийцэхийг хичээж, ажил хэрэгч, тайван хүн байхыг хичээсээр бид өөрийн сэтгэл хөдлөлөө хэтэрхий их дардаг байх. Гэвч өөрийн мэдрэмжээ дарж байгаагаа юу ч мэдрэхгүй байна гэж будилах тохиолдол олон. Ийм үед бид сэтгэл хөдлөлөө удирдах нь байтугай анзаарах ч чадваргүй болчихдог байж магадгүй юм. Тиймээс түр зогсоод юу мэдэрч байгаагаа дахиад нэг бодоод үзье :) Энэ дугаарыг хамтарч хийсэн Южидээ зөндөө их баярлаа. Ярилцахад үнэхээр таатай байлаа! Сэтгэл хөдлөлийн тухай Цээгийгийн дурдсан ном (Emotional Compass by Ilse Sand): https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Compass-Think-Better-Feelings/dp/1785921274 Сэтгэл хөдлөөлөө удирдах чадвар хүн бүрт байгаа тухай Южигийн дурдсан ном (The Courage to Be Disliked by I.Kishimi, F.Koga): https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/43306206-the-courage-to-be-disliked?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=TH4kKs7IoU&rank=1 Южигийн зөвлөж буй подкаст (Asian Boss Girl): https://www.asianbossgirl.com/

Eddie Jones is one of the most experienced and decorated coaches in world rugby. He has been the head coach of the England national rugby team since 2015, leading them to win the Six Nations in 2016 and 2017 and then reaching the final of the 2019 Rugby World Cup. He previously coached the Australian Wallabies between 2001 and 2005, taking the team to the 2003 Rugby World Cup Final and winning the Bledisloe Cup in 2001 and 2002 against the mighty All Blacks of New Zealand. He was an assistant coach for the South African Springboks  when they won the 2007 Rugby World Cup and from 2012 to 2015 he coached the Japanese Brave Blossoms, leading them to their upset win over South Africa in 2015. His autobiography is called "My Life and Rugby: The Autobiography" by Eddie Jones In this discussion Eddie references the book "The Courage to Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga If you would like to send us any feedback or if you know a great coach, who has a unique story to share, then we would love to hear from you, please contact us at thegreatcoachespodcast@gmail.com or contact us through our website thegreatcoachespodcast.com

Ichiro Kishimi'nın 'Kendinle savaşma sanatı'  (The Courage to Be Disliked) kitabı üzerine başladı muhabbet. İdeal ben nedir? Var mıdır yok mudur? Hiyerarşi nasıl oluşur? Eziklik ve üstünlük kompleksi nedir? Rekabet yararlı mıdır zararlı mıdır?  'Kurban' rolünü oynayarak travmalarımızın esiri nasıl oluyoruz? Freud bizi 'ileri' değil geriye mi götürüyor? Adler psikolojisi nedir? gibi konulardan konuşurken baktık ki konu döndü dolaştı içimizdekileri kıroları ve assolistleri anlamaya çalıştığımız 1 saat geçivermiş bile. Keyifli dinlemeler ve bol savaşlı barışlar

*** Don't forget to subscribe! *** In this episode, Adina Goldman joins Ran to talk about life in this digital era, what it means to own what you say, the power language has to shape people's sense of belonging, and what it's like to raise a child in these incredible times. Oh, and what it's like to have a neigbour steal your plants, what it's like to be a manager in a progressive media company, and other heartwarming goodies. Some of the books cited in this episode: Design in Nature: How the Constructal Law Governs Evolution in Biology, Physics, Technology, and Social Organizations By Adrian Bejan and John Peder Zane https://g.co/kgs/MzMjsw The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga‎ https://g.co/kgs/MgtCD2 An essay on Public vs. Private Register, by Danny O'Brien: https://www.oblomovka.com/wp/2003/10/13/the-register/ See more from Shooting it RAW at: https://www.shooting-it-raw.com/ OUTRO MUSIC CREDIT: “Magic” by Six Umbrellas: https://www.youtube.com/redirect?q=ht... Tags: Shooting it RAW, podcast, photography, photo, Canon, Nikon, Olympus, Pentax, Lumix, Sony, iPhone, samsung, camera, digital, ran elfassy, manfrotto, tamron, sigma, how to, classes, teaching, learning, profession, pro, artist, photographer, professional, street, portrait, up-close, personal, covid-19, Mongolia, Ulan Bator, Gobi Desert, The Hive

Today, Michele and I discuss the nuances of how her life is changing. From decluttering to decorating her new home office to trying a smoked grilled cheese sandwich made by her son who has become quite the culinary explorer. I'm hungry now! We also talk about different forms of psychology and different things you can do to help your child grow the kind of confidence that will be with them throughout their lives. To access all blog posts and podcasts with Debbie and Michele, just click LIONESS in the main menu of www.joybasedliving.com or go to the Search bar at the bottom and type LIONESS. Topics discussed: Releasing stuff, decluttering Michele re-organizing her office into an office art space Our happiness affects our children's happiness Smoking a grilled cheese sandwich Homeschooling experiences and making memories Tradeoffs Experimenting and exploring, celebrating each others' journeys = joy Allowing joy to be fully experienced, along with all other feelings Inclusive compassion Freud, Jung, Adler, Frankl Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga Costa Rica, surfing and white water rafting Michele teaching art classes online http://www.carrollwoodcenter.org/classes/art/ #parenting #decluttering #homeoffice #homeschooling #joy #joybasedliving --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/debbiehappycohen/message

Once again as every time a few new great insights into the thoughts of the stoics. - This episode of the Self Development with Tactics / SDWT podcast is all about another book about stoic philosophy. - Sivers.org. (2018). The Courage to Be Disliked - by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga | Derek Sivers. [online] Available at: https://sivers.org/book/Disliked [Accessed 20 Dec. 2019]. ‌ - I as always hope that you get a lot out of that! - Love you ➠Thank you for being with me! If you liked this episode of your daily self development kick please subscribe and like. Stay tuned for upcoming self development videos aaaaand comment down below or hit me up on the social media platform you like the most. Wish you the best, health wealth and happiness ❤️ Who I am? I am Christopher Walch a 18 year old graphic design student from austria, really interested in marketing self Development and having success in every aspect of life❤️However I am not only interested in having the best for me! I want you to be at your peak as well. Giving value to the people out here is what I want and what I am able to do here! Thank you. Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/walchchristopher Self Development with Tactics'/Christopher Walch's Podcast: https://www.anchor.fm/selfdevelopment_wt/ Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Twitter: https://twitter.com/SelfTactics Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Facebook: www.facebook.com/Selfdevelopment-With-Tactics Self Development with Tactics on Tumblr: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/we-selfdevelopment Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6ms9lq2XRrgdy0rOrMYVUQ Self Development With Tactics/Christopher Walch on Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Christopher-Walch-SDWT-Podcast LOVE YOU ALL!! ❤️

The stoics are just great and this is another book that gives you a few insights into their thinking and how they lead their lives so what they are teaching as well. - This episode of the Self Development with Tactics / SDWT podcast is all about another book about stoic philosophy. - Sivers.org. (2018). The Courage to Be Disliked - by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga | Derek Sivers. [online] Available at: https://sivers.org/book/Disliked [Accessed 20 Dec. 2019]. ‌ - I as always hope that you get a lot out of that! - Love you ➠Thank you for being with me! If you liked this episode of your daily self development kick please subscribe and like. Stay tuned for upcoming self development videos aaaaand comment down below or hit me up on the social media platform you like the most. Wish you the best, health wealth and happiness ❤️ Who I am? I am Christopher Walch a 18 year old graphic design student from austria, really interested in marketing self Development and having success in every aspect of life❤️However I am not only interested in having the best for me! I want you to be at your peak as well. Giving value to the people out here is what I want and what I am able to do here! Thank you. Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/walchchristopher Self Development with Tactics'/Christopher Walch's Podcast: https://www.anchor.fm/selfdevelopment_wt/ Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Twitter: https://twitter.com/SelfTactics Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Facebook: www.facebook.com/Selfdevelopment-With-Tactics Self Development with Tactics on Tumblr: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/we-selfdevelopment Self Development with Tactics/Christopher Walch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6ms9lq2XRrgdy0rOrMYVUQ Self Development With Tactics/Christopher Walch on Quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Christopher-Walch-SDWT-Podcast LOVE YOU ALL!! ❤️

DO YOU HAVE THE COURAGE 2 BE DISLIKED

I just read a passage from The Courage to Be Disliked about value judgements. 'The Philosopher' says that feelings of inferiority arise when we compare ourselves to others. For example,"I'm too short", "I'm not clever", "I'm ugly". This resonates strongly with the content of this week's interview with Cameron Airen. Speak to pretty much anyone, and they will point to fixed traits that make them feel inferior to others. These can quickly become the pull of our attention. Three Responses to Inferiority An excuse (I can never do what I dream of because I'm a Highly Sensitive Person), a futile obsession (I am going to eliminate or at least hide my sensitivity), or a twisted focus (I'm going to prove that it's better to be highly sensitive). These three responses to inferiority are unhealthy, because they continue to build the story around the inferiority feelings. We often fall into this because they're all such natural responses. But if we're going to learn to live and thrive within the truth of who we are at our core, then we need to accept those things. Reject inferiority feelings (this makes me worse than others). Dismiss the pull towards superiority (this makes me better than others). Embrace the middle ground of acceptance (this is how I function). Ask what this makes possible. We often focus on the opposite question: what does this make impossible? You probably ask this question about all sorts of things without even thinking. Cameron Airen I am joined on the podcast by Cameron Airen, who is a feminist mindset coach, gender consultant, writer and podcaster. She helps people frame their high sensitivity as a superpower. This is the key to unlocking their consciousness to create the kind of change they want to see in their lives and the world. She focusses on the stories we have been told and have come to believe about who we are supposed to be. Cameron helps people see the specific messages that have influenced them as an individual, so that they can find their own true voice beneath and actively choose how to show up in the world. In the interview we discuss: Competition and the Highly Sensitive Person Cameron was a fitness coach and long distance running coach. She knows what it takes to succeed in the field of endurance sport. We talk about how HSPs often carry an intrinsic drive to push themselves and succeed at chosen pursuits. And how this can be destroyed by society's obsession with interpersonal competition and win-at-all-costs mentality. Gender Stereotypes There are subtle messages everywhere we look, which point us towards particular gender frames. We filter all manner of things, which are completely unrelated, through a lens of gender: the toys we play with as children, the clothes we wear, the appropriateness of our ambitions, or the relationship we have with our emotions. Things to which there is no correlation other than the social constructs we have built up. We talk about how these constructs are damaging our health, both as a society, and for individuals within our communities. Gentle Rebellion Cameron definitely fits the Gentle Rebel mould (in that she doesn't fit a mould!) We talk about how she grew in confidence to stay true to her natural sensitivity, while at the same time standing up for what she believes in. The surprising truth is that this was about becoming more of her highly sensitive self, not less. She believes that when we give ourselves permission to allow the sensitivity to flourish, we become more resilient and resistant to the prevailing messages that we need to rail against.   Support the Podcast and get bonus extras: