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Hey ladies, welcome to episode 59. This is a continuation of 58, and this is gonna be on the gift of long suffering. How many of you guys have ever thought about long suffering as a gift while I'm going to share with you? The revelation that I have recently been given related to long suffering in this episode, let's get it. CONTACT ANGIE:   Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com   Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com   What's up ladies. Welcome back to this episode today, I'm going to talk about the gift of long suffering. This was a a thing that I was asked to do by my pastor. And she had asked me to do a Bible study for the three spirits of the spirit long suffering gentleness and goodness. So today is gonna be all about long suffering. So if you listen to episode 57, which was the one right before this, then you are right on track. If you have not listened to that, I just told a long story about how I could not get this Bible study together until after I got through this stage of being just paralyzed about having been asked to do this. I said, yes. And then I was just paralyzed because I did not feel worthy enough to be the one to share these gifts of the spirit because of imposter syndrome. So go back to episode 57 because not only did I talk about imposter syndrome, but I also went through how I was able to get through feeling just stuck and paralyzed related to that, that instant. So let's talk about the gift of long suffering. So you're in a situation where things are piling up. I mean, if you are listening to this, you're one of my fir you're one of my ladies. You have lots of things on your plate and you are always feeling like, listen, there's just never enough time in the day. Everything always is piling up. We don't know what to do. We don't know where to go. We feel completely out of sorts. And there is a thing about being in the place of this suffering or in this place of being overwhelmed or feeling stuck that no matter what you do, you feel like you just get deeper and deeper and deeper. It's like, there's not enough time today. So I didn't get enough stuff done. And then tomorrow, not only is there not enough time in the day to get today's stuff done, but I still have yesterday's stuff to do. And it just feels like compounded interest and not in a good way. It's not making me wealthy. It's robbing me of time and peace and all of the things you know, so, so I feel like I use this analogy. It feels like, you know, those, the people that, and I don't have these, but I do have glasses and contacts because yeah, I am like blind as a bat without my contacts. I literally could not see who's standing in front of me without my contacts in. Okay. But, so I can't really wear these, but a lot of people are able to, they are the glasses that when you step out into the sun, they turn dark they're sunglasses. And then when they step back into the light the darkness goes away. The thing about sunglasses, and here's the other thing that I do. I wear my sunglasses all the time on when I am driving. They're on my face. Obviously when I get outta my car, if I'm going to need them, I just put them, I keep them on the face until I walk into the building. And then I put them on my head so much so that I forget that my glasses are even on my head. Okay. So I totally forget that, that they're even there. I feel like sometimes we're in, when we're in this place of suffering, it's much like these sunglasses that people wear where they walk into the light and the shades turn dark so much. So they're so used to it that they're not even cognizant or aware that their glasses are shaded. Their glasses have shaded to protect them from, you know, the, the ultraviolet rays and all the things, but they wear them so much. They don't even know that they're looking through these shaded glasses. That's what I feel like sometimes where we're, when we're in this place of feeling stuck or that things are so overwhelming that we start to see the world through these shaded glasses that we have forgotten that we even have on. It feels like we're drowning. It feels like we're not good enough. We're not worthy enough. We're not maybe Christian enough. We're, we're in a place of overwhelm and feeling stuck. And we just, we gotta do something to get back from it. But there are times in our lives when we're going through this stuff, this, this time of suffering or overwhelm that we forget that that actually shades the way that we see the world. It actually, it, it changes our perception. We're seeing the world through glasses that we have forgotten that we even have on. So I know last week I mentioned a friend of mine Rochelle, who was keeping me accountable to get back on the podcast and we need sisters in our life like that. We need friends in our life like that, that are willing to say to us, huh? I, I don't see what you're seeing that way, because if we don't have people to keep us accountable and we forget that we're looking through shaded glasses that are changing our perception of what we're seeing, then we end up just swirling and going deeper and deeper and deeper into this whole of stuckness. And we don't even realize that we're there sometimes, but it's all, it's often coloring, tainting, shading, the way that we see and hear and perceive from other people. So there's a few things I wanna read first to kind of put us in perspective of long suffering and some scriptures that I read about long suffering. John 1633 is I have said these things to you in that in me, you ha may have peace in the world. You will have tribulation, but take heart. I have overcome the world. Not might not maybe, but will, you will have tribulations. So suffering number one, he says in his word that we will have it. But take heart. He has overcome the world. We have victory Proverbs three, five through six trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding in all your ways, acknowledge him. And he will make straight your paths, Romans 8 28. And we know that for those who love God, all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose, James one, two, count it all joy. My brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, when you meet trials of various kinds for, you know, that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness, there's that long suffering being steadfast with faith, even though you're meeting trials of various kinds and let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect, complete lacking and nothing. So when we go through trials we must have steadfastness, which reminds me of long suffering and we will be made perfect and complete and lacking in nothing he's saying that we will have in our long suffering in our overwhelm states in our, in our stuck places, we will be made perfect and complete lacking in nothing. Huh? James, one 12 blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial for when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life. How do we get the crown of life? If we didn't go through the test, he just said for when he stood the test, he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him, huh? Being steadfast, long suffering under trial. And we will receive the crown of life. So interesting. What if we don't have these long suffering periods? Do we receive the crown of life? Well, I don't know. We will go through these trials because he says we will, and we will remain steadfast in our gift of long suffering. He has given us and we will receive the crown of life. I just find this fascinating. This is like a completely new revelation that I got as I was studying for this long suffering. Once I was able to get my own over my own self first Peter four, two beloved do not be surprised at the fiery trial. When it comes upon you to test you as though something strange were happening to you. Hello, it's not strange that we're going through crazy stuff. It's not strange that we're suffering. It's not strange that we ha we're having trials and tribulations. We are supposed to go through trials and he has giving us the gift of long suffering to do that so that we may be made complete and whole lacking. Nothing made perfect in him. Okay. First Corinthians 10, 13, no temptation has overtaken you that it is not common to man. God is faithful and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation, he will also provide the way of escape that you may be able to endure it Philipp Philippians four, six, and seven, do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with Thanksgiving, let your request be made, known to God in the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts in your minds and Christ Jesus. I feel like in the gift of long suffering, the Philippians four, six, and seven is a reminder that we will remain with the peace of God, because that will surpass all understanding because it's from God. And he has prepared us perfectly with our individual gift of long suffering so that we may be able to withstand and be steadfast in our suffering. I, I just, I just found this completely revealing when I, when I went through this for, in preparation for this Bible study. So we talked about the shades, right? So, you know, when we've been praying for something for a really long time, that has not come to pass and manifested itself yet, you know, whether it's a healing, whether it's our child to get all the way back in to Christ, whether it's an addiction for someone we love, we're praying for, for an overcoming of that. You know, there are things that we suffer through and we have to be steadfast in. He has told us multiple times and all of those scriptures that we have to remain steadfast in these trials, in these sufferings. So I think it's super important to number one, change the way we think about when we're suffering through something or when we are having to endure something for a longer duration than what we would prefer, that we have been gifted with a very specific fruit of the spirit called long suffering. So have a certain awareness of the fact that when we are suffering, it can change the way that we're seeing the world. If we are not careful to stay in the word and the truth of God that's very important. It can, you know, that example I used where, and that's the best way I CA I kept thinking about it was if I don't even know I'm looking through shaded sunglasses, I don't know that I'm looking through darkness. I it's, if I'm not recognizing that when I step outside into the light that my shades are becoming dark, and I'm just seeing the world for what I think I see that is not the perspective that is necessarily the truth. It's only shaded in that way, because I have these glasses on that I have forgotten that I'm looking through. So it's important to become aware about what it is you're perceiving. And is that actually staked in the truth, or is it colored or tainted by these glasses? You're looking through because you are in a position of suffering, suffering changes the way that we perceive what people say to us or due to us suffering changes the way that we receive information. So it's, it's super important to just have a, do, be diligent and very intentional in these times of suffering that you are intentionally trying to perceive the world, looking through a lens that is truth, not shaded, not jaded, not tainted. Okay. We respond differently when we receive information differently, we perceive it differently. We perceive conversations differently. We attach meanings emotions to things that sometimes if I wasn't in that place, I would never have attached that thing or that emotion to in the first place. But if I'm not intentional enough to recognize that I'm attaching emotions and feelings to something that just happened, or I just heard, because I'm in a place of darkness. If I don't realize I'm in a place of darkness, then I don't understand that. Now the way that I've responded to this was actually because I was in darkness. Not because the other person intended to be dark towards me. It it's like looking through a fog. It's like thinking that you are seeing something that just really isn't even there beyond the fog, beyond the darkness, it's actually is actually truth. And we're just not seeing it all the way there. This is where I, I wanna go back. Oh, he, this is where I wanna go back and, and, and remind yourself, don't do this alone. He didn't intend for us to do long surf, long suffering alone. While we each have our own individualized gift, that's made specifically for us to withstand what it is we're suffering through. He didn't intend for us to do it alone. He intended for us to do it with the people that he's put in our circles, in our close proximity that are God fearing women, men, whoever that is. Your church body, your church family, your pastors, your sister, your, your sisters who are gonna hold you accountable. Like my friend did he's put those people in our circle on purpose. So let's lean on those people that we know are God ordained to be in our, in our path, in our circles. So when we're in this spot where we feel stuck, where we are suffering through something, we need to get ourselves in a place where we can get unstuck. We we've got to get in a place where we are sure that we are perceiving things in a way that are based in truth. Okay. Here's the good news. There's always a point where you can get unstuck. There's never a time where you're too far gone or been in pain too long, that you won't be relieved of that pain or that you can't go to God and be reminded of who you are, who he says he is. And the fact that he's given us this gift along suffering. In fact, the fact that he's given us this gift long suffering demonstrates our ability to express the gift we've been given, right? The, the whole point that we are in a, a time of suffering or overwhelm or being stuck is a place where we can demonstrate his spirit, that he has given us specifically for that situation. And it is a testimony to him when we can ha be steadfast in, in doing that long suffering is a gift we've been given by God. He is specifically and uniquely designed our gift. Just for me. My gift is just for me, because he knows every step that I'm gonna ever take. So he's designed my gift of long suffering just for me and you, my friend have your own gift of long suffering just for you. Now, we've gotten to the point where we realize, listen, we've been going through this thing for a long time. We're tired, we're weary. We are down. We're disappointed. We're all the things we're seeing things. We're, we're getting offended. That's another big, a big signal red flag that maybe you are in a place where you need to be intentional about some self awareness. When you start getting offended a lot, because honey being offended is not a spirit of God. So when you start getting offended at what people are doing and saying to you, then you better check yourself and get to a place where you realize that you may be seeing and hearing some things that are not actually what the intent of the other person was. So we get to a point where we might have to do something. And so let's talk about a strategy that we can use to get, to activate our spirit of long suffering. We wanna activate the gift of the spirit of long suffering. So we're gonna get unstuck, and I'm gonna use the letters and unstuck to get us to activate our gift of long suffering. You understanding that God created this gift of long suffering for this very thing you're going through just for you. He's made it just for you in we're gonna nurture that thing. We're gonna nurture the fruit along suffering. We are going to conquer our flesh, and we are going to be very intentional about being aware of how we're perceiving and receiving information and responding to that person or thing that is that is in our, in our midst, S is sufficient. His grace is sufficient, no matter how long we have to endure it, no matter how long it's been, no matter how many years, no matter how hard it's been, his grace is sufficient. He told us. So that's part of the gift that we have his grace that is completely sufficient, no matter what to be steadfast in this situation, T is time here. Here's the deal. Everything is time limited. Everything has a season. There is no season that we're gonna be in that will last our entire life. And if it does, and we go on the Lord, well, hallelujah, we're with the Lord. You know, I mean, he said, we have the victory. So we have to activate that, that belief, that faith, that we're going to have the victory and that our victory is going to come to pass. He said, it would, he said it is finished. It is done. And we have the victory. That's present tense. So we know that whatever it is we're going through is just time limited. It has a season. And during that season, we are called to activate our gift of long suffering. You is upbeat. Be intentional about how you're perceiving information, be intentional about being, self-aware be intentional. Call yourself out, get with the group of friends, ask them, Hey, did I get offended for something that I shouldn't have? Did I read that into that? That I shouldn't have get somebody that's gonna hold you accountable and love you enough to give you feedback that you need to, to get yourself in check. If you don't have a group of girls or a group of friends, or who, or a boss or somebody who loves you enough to give you the feedback you need to make changes, then you better get around some other people that are gonna hold you accountable, because part of love is giving feedback so that you help somebody grow. All of us should be growing. We should be seeking to grow, and we should be helping others grow. Okay? We're all supposed to be growing. See it's for courage. You, this is, this is courageous. It's courageous to activate the spirits the, the fruit of the spirit that, that we've been given. These gifts that we've been given, it is courageous. Sometimes you have to be bold and courageous in taking action to do what it is that God's called you to do and be who it is that God's called you to be. You've got to be bold and courageous kindness. That's the key is kindness. If you are always acting in kindness, then you are being loving. You're remembering to serve other people, even when you're going through it, serving other people will pay dividends back to you because you're paying it forward. The reality is, that's what we're called to do. We're called to serve and love others. We that's, it we're called to serve. We're called to love. We are called to show kindness to others, no matter what the circumstances, it's not anyone else's issue that I have sunglasses on that I have forgotten that are on my face, and I'm seeing the world through darkness. That's not other people's issue. That's my issue that I need to get, get checked on so that I can continue to serve and love others. We make mistakes. You know, we, we mess up, but it's his grace that's sufficient to help us, you know, be convicted in that and move forward. Apologize. Repent, ask for forgiveness when you've responded in a way, because you're looking through these glasses that, that are darkening up your world. Maybe you've damaged some relationships. Maybe you've messed up some things. Well, it's time that you acknowledge it, understand that, you know what? This is part of our spiritual walk. That being step fast, you know, through this long suffering, being patient, being faithful, being honest, having integrity, all of that is part of our walk. And so it's time to acknowledge that if there's some damage that you've caused, because you've gotten to a place where you have forgotten to activate your gift of long suffering, you gotta acknowledge it and ask for forgiveness and then move on. It's part of our walk. So that is the gift of long suffering. I just wanna encourage you today that you feel the peace of the Lord, the peace that's surpasses all understanding and understanding that he has called us to use this gift that he has prepared us for. He knows he already knows, and he is already given us the gift that we need to be able to be steadfast. When we go through trials and tribulations, God is faithful. He won't tempt us beyond our ability. He will always provide a way for us to escape so that we can endure all the things that are gonna come our way, sisters, I'm praying for you. I will see you on the next episode. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving your review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some love. Thanks so much. And I'll see you in the next episode. 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EP 58: Do I Have Imposter Syndrome? How Do I Know if I Am Self-Sabotaging Myself? CONTACT ANGIE: Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com   Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com What's up ladies I'm back.  well, listen. So I am totally doubting my abilities and feeling like a complete fraud. Yeah. I said it… a complete fake phony fraud. Have you ever felt that way? That's about what we're gonna talk about today in today's episode, I've been away for so long, but I'm back and I have missed you guys. So let's get into today's episode about being a fake a phony. What's up ladies. I am back, back back. And I first wanna thank a friend of mine named Rochelle, because she has been on me on me, on me sisters. Listen, you guys need accountability partners in your life. Like I have, I've got this girl, this friend of mine, Rochelle, who asks me almost every time that she sees me. Are you ever gonna do a podcast episode again? And I'm like, girl. Yes, but I don't know… things. Life has just crazy. It's happened and I've dropped off guys. It's August and I am pretty sure it's been since December, since I have posted, it has been a wild and crazy year. And so you heard what I said when I said the intro, which was feeling like a fraud, a fake, a phony, right. Well, that is exactly what we're gonna talk about today. And I will go into in some future episodes about what's been going on in this past year and what I've been doing. But I just wanted to first thank and give a shout out to Rochelle because I know she'll hear this and I want to thank you my friend for being on top of me and accountability because we need that. We need that in our lives. And I am so thankful that I have a close group of ladies that hold me accountable to do and say what it is I am meant to do and say, okay, so let's talk a little bit about feeling like a fraud, doubting your abilities and that kind of thing today. I'm talking about duh duh imposter syndrome. So how many of you guys have heard of imposter syndrome? It is loosely defined. It's about doubting your abilities, feeling like a fraud, a fake, a phony, it, it actually disproportionately affects very high achieving people, high achieving people and those people in, and I'm, I'm one of those people in case you didn't know it, you find it difficult to accept your accomplishments. And so many question, whether or not they're deserving of accolades or accomplishments or things that they've done, right? So imposter syndrome, it's an internal experience. So it happens inside. It's like a, you know, that, that negative self talk that happens. It's believing that you're not as competent as others perceive you to be. So others are saying that you're competent, but you really in your hood and your emotions in your heart, you don't feel like you're very competent. You're competent. This is it's usually narrowly applied to highly achieved people. It does have links to perfectionism and you guys know my history with perfectionism and unbecoming perfectionism, right? So it is usually tied to that, but it can hit anybody. Anybody can feel this way. At any point in time, it's basically experience of feeling like a fake, a phony. You feel like as if any moment, you're gonna be found out that you are a total fake, you're a total fraud. Like you don't belong where you are, you don't deserve what you've got. And you've basically just gotten there through dumb luck which by the way, I don't believe in luck, I believe in blessings. But it can affect anyone, no matter their social status, no matter their work background, their skill level, their degree of expertise. It can hit anyone at any time. Some of the common signs of imposter syndrome are an inability to assess your own competence and skills really see those for what they are. It is attributing your success to external factors other than yourself and you know, on this podcast, you know, God, right. It's it's me and God. Okay. it thinking about the fact that, well, that wasn't me. That was something else. Okay. You berate your performance, you downplay what you've done to get the accomplishments that you've, you've experienced. You fear that you won't live up to expectations. You overachieve, you overcompensate for things. Oh my Lord. This is speaking to me so much because in my past specifically, and then very recently, I had a overwhelming feeling of this, these symptoms, which are defini definition of imposter syndrome. You sabotage your own success. You doubt yourself, you set very challenging goals. And then you feel like you have a right to feel disappointed when you fall short or in the sabotaging way, you set such high goals that, you know, you'll never meet them because you feel like you need to fall short because you're not measuring up to what everybody thinks you are. It is like this horrible cycle. So coping with imposter syndrome, when you look at when you look up things like on the internet or reading books, this is what they say to help you get past the imposter syndrome. You've gotta start asking yourself some hard questions and you need to really think about self-awareness awareness, which is true. You've gotta be self-aware to know that you're even experiencing this. This hit me so hard recently. And I'll tell you a little story about it in a second. So questions you need to ask yourself are what are the core beliefs that I hold about myself? What do I believe about myself? Second question, which is like, if there was an a and B, this would be B, where am I getting the beliefs that I hold myself to fru that becomes very important spiritually, especially because if I feel heavily, this imposter syndrome and all of these symptoms that come with it, and then I ask myself, what are the core beliefs that I really hold about myself when I start to examine and point out all of the things that I'm thinking about myself that are not true, I have to then look at where did I form these beliefs from where? Right. Am I looking in the truth to find out who I am? What I am beliefs about myself? Or am I looking to what is probably not the truth, which is a lot of times in the world or all the things that are not in the truth and in the truth. I am talking about the Bible. Yes, because that is where the truth comes from. Another question, do I believe I am worthy of love as I am like, if do I really believe right now as I stand here being who I am, that I am worthy of love and to be loved. Do I believe that? And if I don't believe that, why, why do I not believe I'm worthy as love or worthy of love? Must I be perfect for others to approve of me? Do I have to be walking in perfection or think that I have to present perfection to the world? Ooh, this one, this one gets me every time. When I think about having people to my house, because it is such a place of non perfectionism to me because the three boys and the dogs and the lack of time, I have to actually spend the amount of time I need to on my house to keep it clean. Ugh, Lord, Lord. This one hits me bad. So here's why all of this came up for me. And this is where I, you know, I, I was asked recently to do a Bible study at my church and my pastor asked me and I am always, always, always gonna be a very close yes. Close. Yes. A C se. And then yes. That's what I'm saying. A close. Yes. And that's a whole nother podcast episode, actually. I think I have it recorded and I haven't, I haven't downloaded it to you guys yet. I need to do that, but how to be a close? Yes. And why you wanna be a close? Yes, but I am always gonna be to my pastor a close. Yes. Because I know that if she asks me to do something, there's a reason she's asking me to do it. So she asks me probably two months ahead of time, two months ahead of time to do a Bible study where I would lead a lady's Bible study at our church in front of very godly spiritual women, amazing women. Okay. And I said, yes. And then this imposter syndrome paralyzed me for months, for two months, paralyzed me literally up into until the day before I was supposed to do this Bible study, I was completely stuck. I was not able to get to the content of what she asked me to share about, because I was overwhelmed with feeling like a fr a fraud, a fake, like, who am I to get up in front of these ladies who I know or I perceive do all of these things for God. And you know, they, they memorize scripture and they know the Bible back and forth, and they know all the stories in the Bible. And you know, they're wonderful wives and wonderful mothers and you know, know amazing servants and who in the world am I to stand up in front of these ladies and give them a Bible study? So I was paralyzed and it wa I was just paralyzed. So finally, I'm trying to prep. I'm trying to prep every time I go to prep, I'm just stuck. I'm looking at what she's asked me to go over and I'll, and I'll tell you what that is in a minute. And I just can't, I I'm reading the words and the scriptures. I'm I'm I'm I know what these gifts are, but I just can't get it together to get a Bible study prepped for this thing that is supposed to happen the next day. Okay. So finally, I'm doing everything I need to do to stall and to not sit down and try to do this because I can't get past it. I'm paralyzed. It hits me as I'm washing dishes. It hits me who did I say? You are in my spirit. It just hits me. Who have I said you are because you are paralyzed because of something you are saying that you are, which is not based in truth and not based in who it is that I have said you are. So in order for me to get to where she wanted me to go, I had to first remind myself of who God says I am. So that's when I wanna walk through with you today, because if you have felt any of these symptoms, quote, unquote of the imposter syndrome, where you're, you are, you are sabotaging, you, you're doubting yourself. You are berating your own own of performance. You're paralyzed. You are believing things about yourself that are not actually based in truth. This is for you. Okay? So I'm just gonna go through some of the things that I had to spend about two hours, going through scripture and finding what are all the things that God says about me so that I could, and I didn't know this when I was doing this, but he just said, go, remember, go find who it is that I say you are. And that will help you get to the next duty, which is to get this Bible study together over these three gifts that she asked me to talk about. So here they are. Here's what I found. And I just want you to listen to these and take these in and remember that all of these things that I'm about to say to you are written in the truth. They're written in the word, and it is all the things that God says that you are sister. You are my friend, all of these things. I'm about to say to you. And so sit back, take a deep breath and listen to who it is that God says you are. I am loved. I am worthy. I am purposed. I am his and I belong. I am called. I am chosen. I am royalty. I am an heir. I am accepted. I am adopted. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am created in his image. I am redeemed. I am restored and renewed and refined. I am saved. I am forgiven. I am transformed. I am valuable. I am spirit filled. I am powerful. I am mighty. I am strengthened. I am able, I am free. I am sealed and delivered. I am faithful. I am a friend of Jesus. I am full of peace. I am lavished by, by grace, a child of light. I am holy and righteous. I'm a Saint, a steward, a servant, a soldier. I'm a witness and a worker. I am victorious. I'm a citizen of heaven. I am no longer a slave to sin. I'm an ambassador for Jesus. I'm set apart and I'm sanctified. I'm a special possession. I'm made new. I'm anointed. I'm triumphed. I'm joined with the Lord. I'm one with him in spirit. I am blameless before God. I am God's workmanship. I am blessed and I am favored. I am covered and protected. I am safe. I am the salt of the earth and the light of the world. I'm completely forgiven. I'm a temple of the holy spirit. I am bold. I am courageous. I am confident. I am above and not beneath. I am the head and not the tail. I am more than a conqueror and I am an overcomer. I am justified by grace. I am rescued. I'm complete. I am whole, I am healed. I am far from oppression. I will not live in fear. I belong to him. I'm intricately woven. I'm seated in high places. I'm raised up with Christ. I'm made alive in Christ. I'm given access to the father almighty. I'm a member of the body. I'm a member of God's household. I am given hope. I am given faith. I am given peace. I am given mercy, Ephesians four. I can mature spiritually. I can be certain of God's truth. I can have a new attitude and a new lifestyle in Ephesians five and six. He says things like, I can honor God through my marriage. I can parent my children with composure. I have God's power. I can stand firm in the face of evil. I am a friend in Jesus. And since I am a friend in Jesus, I can be a friend like Jesus. And since I am made in his image, I can share my thoughts on his words for me and for you. Woo. So , that is what God asked me to go find, because I don't know about you, but the whole time I was reading this, I was feeling the chills and all the things, all the feels, because that is what my God, my father says about me. And because he said it, it is the truth. So today my friends, my sisters, my ladies, I want you to take some time today, write down the I AMS that you are, that your father, your holy father almighty says about you. I want you to write down all of those I AMS that you are. And if you are feeling these symptoms of not being enough, you are with God. You are enough with the holy spirit because he said, so he makes us strong where we are weak. He said, so, so I want you to take the time today, ladies, I don't know if you needed this or not, but I know I needed this to be able to just remind myself who is it that my daddy, God says I am. And now I can feel equipped to move on and talk about the three fruits of the spirit that I was asked to talk about which were long suffering, gentleness and goodness. I, I will do those in another podcast because the long suffering has been something that I, he revealed long suffering to me in such a way that I've never seen long suffering before long suffering is a gift. And that is what I'll talk about in the next episode, ladies, I love you so much. It's good to be back. I'm not gonna tell you how often I'm gonna pose, because I don't wanna you know, say something to you that I don't hold my hold up to because I don't know. I don't know, but I am going to post three more times because for sure, because I've got these gifts that I'm going to give you. And then I'm gonna also gonna do the close. Yes. So ladies, I love you today. Go find in the scripture in the truth, who you are and who your daddy, God says you are and empower yourself today to know that you loved because he loves you. All right, we'll see you now. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving your review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some love. Thanks so much. And I'll see you in the next episode. 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EP 57 How to Wait Patiently on the Lord When You Are Tired Weak Frustrated Angry Hurt: How to Trust God When His Timing is Not Fast Enough For Me Okay. How many of you guys can say that you honestly know how to patiently wait on the Lord. When you are feeling only frustrated and angry and upset and throwing tantrums all over the place. How many of you guys can actually say that that never happens to you and you always know how to patiently wait on the Lord, raise your hand. Okay. My hand is not raised just in case you wanna know, because I have to continuously try to wait patiently on the Lord. And today that is exactly what we're gonna talk about. Contact Me!  Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: atoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Hey, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™, Ladies. I am so glad to be back. I don't know about you, but hopefully you've been patiently waiting a lot better than I have in this season. I have missed several weeks, even about a month, probably maybe a little over a month actually, of recording. And that is because I have been trying to rearrange my life with this new real estate agent business that I am building right now out. And I've been doing that since about October 14th, actually. So we're going on two months and at the same time, some of the coaching that I'm doing, as well as the work in the real estate investing. And then finally I am managing vacation rentals here in downtown Louisville. And so I have been kind of doing like a huge startup all at once with all of these different things. So it has been absolutely insane and it's holiday time. So there you go. On November 20th, 2020, it was my year anniversary of resigning, my chief nursing officer position. And so today's episode is all about with eating patiently and how do you wait patiently when you are super frustrated, super tired, flat out angry, and just don't really know where to go and what to do. So that is what today's episode is gonna be about. Ladies is how can we persevere and wait patiently on God when we are tired and frustrated. So let's get into the episode. Okay. So like I said, November 20th, 2020 was my year anniversary of resigning, my chief nursing officer position. And most of you guys, if you've listened to some of the beginning episodes, you know, that this journey that I've been on for the past year started with a God word, God directed me to resign for my chief nursing officer position. Essentially give him that position, that title, that salary, that work life that I had that career give it all up to him as a sacrificial offering. And he would show me what's next. And he had something more, something better, something bigger for me. Now, you know, at the beginning of that transition, it was a lot of time where I just took to decompress and kind of, I guess, just chill out from being, you know, having worked for the past two decades where I'm on call 24 7, I am running for no less than 80 hours a week. And on the phone, if I'm not on site at work. So it just took like several months to decompress from that and not feel like anxious when I walk out of the room and I forget the phone and realize, oh my gosh, maybe I missed an important phone call, that kind of thing. So it took me several months to I decompress from that. And as I kind of listened and asked him to kind of tell me, okay, what do you want me to do next? You know, starting this podcast a year, actually the first episode dropped on December 31st, 2020, so almost a year ago. And that was all a God idea. He said, do a podcast. And so I said, okay, if I'm gonna do a podcast, you're gonna have to tell me what to talk about on every episode. And quite frankly, some of the hiatus that I've been on is because I didn feel at peace with what it was he asked. He of, of, I didn't feel at peace with getting on here and dropping an episode about something that I didn't feel came directly from him. Because I really resolved when I resigned that position, I really resolved to really try to step as he has directed me, you know this plaque that I got as a gift from one of these, the ladies at work when I was leaving it was the song, I think it's hill song oceans, you know, spirit lead me where my justice is without borders that song. So I really tried to be very intentional to when I took steps, I wanted it to be him directing me and not my own needs, once desires my own need to control things. So I tried, I approached the podcast in that very way. I prayed about what do you want me to talk about? And then, you know, an idea would pop in and I would feel at peace that, yeah, that was from him. And then some of the weeks that I didn't drop anything, it was because I just didn't feel at peace with what it was I was thinking about. I just didn't feel at peace that it was from him. And I really didn't want this podcast to be about something. I specifically my own, like flesh wanted to talk to people about, or talk to the computer about talk to the microphone about, but I really wanted it to be led by spirit, you know, led by the holy spirit because I, this wasn't my idea to do a podcast. And so I wanted to be true to if it's, it led, then let it be spirit led. So that's kind of where we are so fast forward to about the last month or so maybe month. Yeah. A month or so. You know, when I resigned that position back in November, I, when I hit that year 11, 20, 20, 21 I, it was almost like you know, the stages of grief where you, you have the loss of something. So you're angry, you're in, you're in denial, you're in bargaining. You know, anger is actually it's sick CLIC, right? You, it doesn't have to be fluid. It's not like, step 1, 2, 3, when someone's grieving something or grieving the law of something it's fluid. It goes from maybe bargaining to denial, to anger, back to bargaining, back to, you know, those kinds of things. So I kind of slipped into this almost, like I said, part of a grieving process where I started to feel like not angry as in like angry, something around like, like aggressively angry, but just like frustrated that like, man, I was making a really good salary and I, I had everything set and I gave it all up and I'm still God sitting here a year later. And I don't feel like I'm in the place that I personally would've wanted to be in financially for sure. I mean, it has been so humbling. It has been such a season of sacrifice. At the same time though, it's been kind of this, this double edged thing, because it's been such a blessing too, because I'm telling you guys math. I don't know if you know that two plus two equals four. Well, not in this past year. It hasn't, we have been so blessed with I seriously, when I look at our budget and I look at how many bills that we had to pay, and I look at the amount of money that came into our bank account. Since I resigned, the math does not work out. It just doesn't make sense yet. Here we are a year later and while I'm not making a huge salary the bills that we had that matched the salary that I was making before, they're all being paid on time. We haven't missed a thing and that's nothing but miraculous. I mean, that is nothing but God's hand right on that because I'm telling you guys two plus two does not equal four, a situation math does not add up. So while frustrated that I'm not where I personally thought I would be at this point a year later from resigning. At the same time I look at like, I look around and I'm like, man, what a blessing? Like what a testimony that it it's just like, you can't even explain it. The math just doesn't add up. We should not have been able to make all the payments we made and pay all the bills that we've paid. The math doesn't add up, but it's, it's real it, we've done it. And so that's all God and that's who God, you know, not, not just God, but it always God, but God uses people around us. So we've been blessed by people that have been in our lives and we've received gifts. And just, it's just been such a blessing yet for this path month and a half. And this is what I wanna talk about is waiting patiently on the Lord, because for this past month, not a month and a half month, I have, I actually recently just had to get on these and pray to God and repent really just apologize because I've been acting like such a brat, like moping around, you know, like being sad about the fact like, okay, my bank account still doesn't have, you know, not even one zero in it, you know what I mean? , you know what I mean? And man, I've just been moping and almost feeling getting into this, like this, the sad I don't use depression lightly. I mean, that's a clinical word, but you feeling down and like frustrated and like, man, even to the point where I started to question God, did you really tell me to do what I think you did a year ago? And what I know is what I know, I know what I heard and I know throughout months and months of prayer I know all of that was confirmed and I know that that was the right thing to do. I know that that's what I was being directed to do. But a year later when things aren't where I personally think that they should be, I have to, to remind myself that I've gotta patiently wait on the Lord, I've got to trust him. And I've gotta know that what he said is what he said. And I know that what he says is true. And so when I hear things or things start creeping up in my mind, like, did I, you know, why did I do that? I can't believe I did that. Like, we would've been in such a better situation by now financially if I had just stayed where I was you know, or did I really hear what he says or why hasn't this part of the business taken off or this part of the business taken off, you know, all these questions. And what I know is that those are lies. If they're not aligned with his, he says he has plans to prosper us, not harm us. And he says he works all things out for our good, so I know what the truth says, and I know that it's a lie and that's the first thing you gotta identify that that's a lie, but I wanted to talk today about how we can, it, you know, I wanted to be candid about where I've been this past past month or so in my own emotions, in my own head, in my own thought life, you know, I've had to like work extremely hard to really focus my intentional thoughts on being aligned with what I know the truth is. So how do we patiently wait on God when we are in a place where we are just super frustrated or we're grieving the loss of something, or we're angry even about things. And number one is trust. You have to be able to trust. We have to trust him. We have to say, I trust you. I trust you. It's in your hand, I give it to you, take it. We have to be able to say that we trust it. And we, the more we say it, the more we do it, the more we remind ourselves of you know, what the truth is, God has said it starts to become easier to do. And anytime those thoughts creep up, you have to head them off and you have to align your mind with the truth. And you have to identify that when those whispers are happening in your head where you're like, God's forgotten God doesn't care, or you know, maybe you didn't hear God talk, right. You know, reminds me of when the serpent talked to Eve in the Garden of Eden. And Eve said, you know, is that what he said, is that, what really? He says, is that really what God said to you? Or, you know, and then she was like, well? I dont know- he was helping her twist the words, you know, he was using God's words, but twisting them up in a different context than what they were intended. And that's what Satan does. He, he uses tiny pieces of truth and twists it. So you have to be identified. You have to be able to di identify that that's a lie. So you wanna fight back with the truth. You wanna use scripture, you wanna use prayer and you wanna use those reminders. You know, we say that we hope and wait in the Lord. He will hear me. That is scripture. He will hear he, we will wait on God and my God will hear me. And so the second thing that we have to do is we have to be faithful. We have to understand that even if we're angry, even if we're hurt, even if we're frustrated, even if we feel, feel like God's gone quiet, I mean, this past month, I'm like, God, can you, can you speak up? Like I'm listening, I'm waiting. And you know, tell me what you want me to do. Am I doing what you're I'm supposed to be doing? And so when you start to have to do all of these actions where you feel like God's gone a little quiet on you, and you're like, well, I guess I'll just continue doing these actions. I'll continue with the work of my hands, because he blesses the works of our hands. I'll continue doing what I know how to do while he's quiet and just make sure that my ears are focused so that I can hear when it is time for him am to reveal the next or reveal something else or something different. And like I said, it's easy to become angry when you are patiently trying to wait on God, because especially when you feel like you've been waiting forever. I think sometimes when that happens, too, when we start to feel angry, we aren't always intentional about listening at that point. It, you know, it's like we're throwing our own little tantrums. We're having our own little pity party. And when we're having our own little pity party, we're walking around moping all sad, all moody. We're not, we can't hear him. We can't, even if he was trying to speak to us, we'd be too busy throwing our little pity party on the side that we wouldn't hear it. We wouldn't notice it. We wouldn't see it. So you've got to be very, very careful and not to get angry and not to get bitter as you're waiting you. And this is the time where you run back to him. You run back to him because we are faithfully and patiently waiting on God. And it doesn't matter whether we feel at peace with what we think we're hearing or not hearing as far as, you know, if he's gone quiet, like if he's quiet, then that means that you gotta just continue to do what you're doing and continue to pray and continue to ask and, and continue to ask him to reveal it to you. And if he doesn't reveal it today, then he'll reveal it tomorrow. If he doesn't reveal it tomorrow, then he'll reveal it the next day. It's, it's a belief that, you know, he's right there with you. And if he needed to say something to you, he would and again, you guys, if this is your first time listening, when I talk about God talking to me, it's not like an audible voice that he's sitting right here in front of me. And we're having a, like a conversation like you. And I would have. It's a, it's a, just a knowing. It's a feeling in my gut, in my spirit and a piece that comes over me. This is how I hear a piece that comes over me. When I feel like I've heard him speak to me, it could be through people. It could be through a song. It could be through a prayer. It could be through a plaque that somebody hand you at a store that has a scripture on it. I mean, you, it could be the clock that says 11:11pm , you know, double portions. Hello. But it, it is just that feeling that you get when something comes to you and it means something to you, you feel it in your spirit and you feel a peace, or I do. I feel a peace with what it is I've heard. So when you feel like he's quiet, it's just more time for you to talk to him. He's listening. So think about it like that. When you feel like God is being quiet, he is listening to you. Therefore you need to talk to him. You need to talk and have a conversation when he's quiet and you're not hearing him talk to him, ask him, tell him you need him. Tell him you love him. Tell him you. Thank him. Make sure you're being a good steward with what he's put in front of you right now. It's, it's an opportunity to enter his presence. Like never before. If he's quiet, maybe it's just because you need to talk to him more and tell him more about what it is you need. Maybe you need to reveal the ugly bitterness that you're feeling, or the anger that you're feeling. Maybe you need to have a cry session with him. Maybe you need to repent for being such a brat. Like I literally just said, you know what, God, I, I'm sorry. I've been a complete brat this past week. I've been moping around. I've been like STR frustrated. I've been looking at everything that's happening negatively. And I've been letting it, you know, frustrate me, which then starts to affect our behaviors. So it's a big cycle you've got to press in when you feel like he's quiet. He draws us to him when he's quiet. If we allow him to the next thing is to make sure you never stop serving other people. So you want to serve. He wants us to love and serve other people. He wants us to wait on other people. Think about this during this time of waiting where you are not seeing the results that you want, or like in my season where I'm not getting the results I want fast enough, it just means that I need to serve better. I need to provide more value to people. I need to do more to care for other people. The more you give to others, it will be returned to you. So take some of this time to say, okay, how can I serve better? Then I'm not getting the results I want. All right, what can I do to serve people better? I'm mean in my real estate career, that is something that I look at as like, okay, I'm not getting this or that. Then how can I serve that person better? Or how can I do this, this part of the job in a way that serves the person in front of me, better, like it, I'm just gonna take it upon myself to try to serve better. The other thing is that remembering that God gives us small things to do, and if we're stewarding the small things, well, it will prove to him that we're ready to steward bigger things. So sometimes it's just having, being faithful with the little things so that he will be so that he knows that we'll be faithful with the larger ones. If, if we're not careful and intentional to take care of the little stuff, then it doesn't make room for him to do the bigger things and, and move us to the next step. Okay. Here's a, I think this is a fourth thing here. Be expectant and trust, be expectant that like I'm waiting right now, but I know what I know. And I know, I know that a, that over a year ago when he started kind of nudging me, moving me towards giving up the, the CNO position he said that he has bigger and better things. He said that he will guide me. He said that he will provide for me. So he said those things. So I'm expecting him to do that. So while I deal with my flesh where I get to the end of the money or the end of the month, or the end of the result, that didn't happen, how I wanted it to, I know that he said he was gonna take care of it. He said he was gonna lead me. And so I can do two things. One, I can expect it and believe it and talk to him about it. And two, I can make sure that I am being obedient with the little things that he's giving me as we are walking a, as we are on the, this journey. So I'm gonna expect and trust that his ways are better and I'm gonna trust his timing. Like, I'm not where I wanna be, but maybe it's because it's not time for me to be there yet. And maybe where I wanna be is not at all where God's taking me. I have no idea. It's his, you know, God's I, I said this before I God's my CEO and I'm his COO, right. I'm his operations officer and he's my executive officer. So he's the chief, he's the one directing, he's the one in charge. I'm just, I'm just doing the work to make sure that the operations go okay. So that's kind, kinda where I am with that. And I just have to remember that he's, he's leading. So if it's not time for me to be where I think I need to be, then it's not time. And I have to trust that he, his timing is better and he know his ways are better than my ways. Okay. And then I think I talked a little bit about this already with being grateful, being thankful, just taking the time every single day, like I said, he's provided, so there's no way I can't thank him every single day. Like thank you that we haven't missed a mortgage payment. Thank you. That we've been able to pay tuition bills. Thank you. That we have food in our refrigerator. Thank you. That I've not, you know, I'm able to put gas in my car. Thank you. That, that the insurance has been paid it. I mean, it, there's, there's so much thank you for protecting, you know, us during travel. Thank you for protecting my child. Thank you for bringing my child, you know, pulling on his heart and having him come back to you. Thank you for reminding me who I am in a word and not in the world. Thank you for taking care of my children in this crazy culture that they are bombarded with every day. So you know, thank you for, for helping me become a better wife and showing me how I can improve and being a better wife, all those things that we need to thank him for. We got to continue to be grateful for what we do have while I'm not exactly where I personally would love to be. It's doesn't mean that it, I, I'm not grateful for where I am and losing hope is not an option. Okay. It's he is hope there is no place to lose hope. So always knowing that there's always hope because he said what he said, and I believe in his word, I was just thinking about something else. And I was think about a prayer and I just lost it. So I, I think, I think I have kind of covered most of the points that I wanted to cover, and I felt like I needed to cover. And again, you know, , this whole episode is really about talking to myself on how to better wait on God, you know? We gotta trust. We, we wanna, we gotta be patient. We gotta believe and expect that the truth is exactly has this exactly where we need to be. You know, we gotta be grateful. We gotta serve others and we have to be realistic about our places of weakness. That's that, that was the last thing is just praying for strength when it is that when it, when we're in a place where we feel like we can't do it and we don't how to do it, it's just having that place where we show him, God, I don't know what to do. I am doing what I know how to do. I think I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing, but I don't know if this is right. I don't, you know, because if the results don't come right away and there's not evidence right away, sometimes we get a little skitish. Sometimes we get a little, you know we start to question if what we're doing is the right thing. And that's a point of weakness for me, for sure. I mean, if I don't get results right away, I start to question, am I doing the right thing? Am I, should I switch to so else? Because I'm used to getting results right away, especially in my old job. So when you're in that place where you're feeling like, just like you need strength and you need wisdom and you need that discernment, and you gotta just know that that's where he finds us. He finds us in our weakness and he fill in the gaps. So there we go. Now we can all patiently wait on the Lord. a little bit better. It's all a process guys. It's a process. It's a journey. You know, I wouldn't have it any other way, because any way with God is better than a way without I wanna thank you guys for tuning in. And like always, if you want to connect with me, you can go to my website and Angie to rogers.com. There's plenty of spaces on that site where you can connect with me and I will be happy to have a conversation. I do also continue to provide coaching. And certainly if you guys have any real estate needs, especially my local friends and where people want to a buy seller or invest in real estate, feel free to refer me, anyone in Kentucky that needs help in Kentucky. I am available for that as well, but I love to hear from you guys, if you have not left a review lately, feel free to leave another review that helps get the podcast shared with other women. And again, I also have the Facebook community jump in there and we can talk further over there too. All right, ladies here's to patiently waiting on the Lord, have a wonderful day.

EP 56 How to Pray for My Marriage-Power of Prayer Series: How Should I Pray for My Husband? What if He has Broken My Trust? Hey, what's up guys. Welcome back to this episode of holy made life. And today we are going to continue our power of prayer series in we're gonna do some prayer about some different things that we may go through during marriage. So let's get into it. Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: atoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Okay, sisters. So I know that a lot of us may be married and today's episode is going to be about different things that we might go through in our marriage. So these are a few different prayers and these are prayers that I kind of go through and look at different women's sites and Christian women's sites. And just try to find kind of a compilation of prayers that are really designated for the relationship that should be rooted in Christ because marriage was God's idea. So when you said I do to your husband, it was God's idea. And quite frankly, if it wasn't a biblical start to the marriage, now that you're married, because marriage is God's idea, you are underneath his idea and underneath his his rule. So even if it didn't start out as it should have, you can still participate in the relationship under God together. So we're gonna say a few prayers about different things that we go through in marriage. Okay. So let's do a marriage prayer for strength. Let's let's go to God right now in prayer and I'll just lead in prayer and you guys can pray along or add in your own stuff. Okay? Father, we come to you today in great praise and Thanksgiving. We come to you to you today in unity and in acknowledgement that you are the center of our marriage, this marriage was your idea. Even if we did not acknowledge that to begin with this marriage is a holy relationship and it reflects our relationship with you. And it reflects the love that you have for your children. You want so much for us to be in love with each other as we are with you. And we thank you that you were remind us to keep you at the center of our relationship. Our marriage relationship is a form of worship to you. The better we are with each other in our marriage and keeping you the center of it. The, the better worship we are giving you as our God and father and provider show us how to follow your example of love and forgiveness and grace and mercy help us remove selfishness and pride from ourselves and humbly serve each other help us be more mindful of the other person than we are of ourselves. Help us to give more than we receive help us look out for each other's interests and help us take the time to notice each other and to hear the beat of our husband's heart and lay our head on his chest and let it rise and fall, fall, and be thankful for every breath that you've given him to take. As he become becomes the priest of our, we pray for his strength as he leads us in a biblical way as a biblical husband, as a biblical parent, as a provider, as a protector. And we thank you for the strength that you are giving him through you to be there for us, us may the love that we have eat for each other grow wildly more and more every single day. May we want each other more and desire each other more today than we did yesterday and more tomorrow than we did today. Let our love be an example to our children. Let us remember that it is God first and then each other, and then our children, and then others, let us keep our relay in order in biblical order. Thank you God, for your hand in healing, those places in our hearts that have been damaged thank you for giving us a place to check our baggage that we've brought into this marriage and acknowledge that each of us have a room with our baggage in it, and that we should be mindful of each other's history. Each other's triggers each other's desires, hopes, dreams, each other's downfalls our the places where we are weak, the places where we are hurt help us recognize that in our spouse and be more tender, be more loving, be more sensitive to those areas. Give us the strength and the wisdom and the discernment to know what to say in certain situations and what to do for our spouse. Let us have a heart of service towards our spouse. We thank you, God, that you've put the love within us, that we need to love our spouse is the right way. Let us be inspired by the word of truth in the Bible, let us be reminded of what kind of woman we should be with our husband. Help us to be understanding and have forgiveness and trust. for those of us who feel separated emotionally, God, we come before you today and we ask you to reveal in ourselves what it is we need to heal so that we can feel closer to our spouse. Always remind us of what we need to do to improve and work on ourselves. And as we each work to work on ourselves, we will come closer to each other. As I improve myself, you will work on spouse. It is not my job to change my husband. It is not my duty to do that. It is my job to seek you first God and work on myself first. So I ask that you remind me when I am focused on him and him changing that you refocus my attention back on what I need to do differently, to be a better wife help us to identify and work through anything that's not pleasing to you between us and help us just reach a higher level of unity with each other spiritually, physically, mentally, emotionally, financially. Thank you God for putting your hands on marriage. And we know that the enemy comes to attack marriage and try to split that up. And God let us recognize the lies that come to attack our marriage. Let us recognize when the enemy is using tactics and using us again each other, so that we may reunite under your word and under your love. I, I pray for mutual growth. I pray that you give me a heart to chase after you and chase after your word and chase after the truth. And I pray that you give my husband a fire and a, and a desire to be hungry for your word and be hungry for becoming a, a, a biblical husband and serve in the way that you want him to serve in his how household. Thank you God for the wisdom. Thank you for the strength. Thank you for being faithful to us. And God, when there are times of disagreements financial disagreements, money disagreements, I ask that the stress of debt be canceled. I ask that all debts be canceled and that any stress that we have about finances, we are able to reroute those to, to you and, and you help us discern how it is. We should arrange our finances in a way that will be great stewards for our family now and in the future to create legacy wealth. Thank you for your peace and contentment, regardless of what we have list of what's in the bank account. Thank you for always being our provider and reminding us that you are, you will always provide in a, in a case where we need restored, trust God for any women that are listening, that they feel like trust has been broken, or there needs to be a restoration of trust. I ask that there's reconciliation in both hearts of the spouses. I ask, they asked to be reconciled together that their love for each other will grow and blossom and be stronger than ever before. And no matter what's happened in the past, that it is in the past and it can be forgiven and it can be healed. Wounds will be healed by your stripes. You said, will were healed. And we receive and believe that today. And we heal our marriage of any spiritual attacks or manipulations or any distractions that are trying to come in between us. We ask you to have mercy on our relationship. We ask you to rebuild trust and honesty. Things have been broken and separated. I pray for all soul ties to be broken in the name of Jesus. We, we pray for we actually demand for a seven full restoration of the trust and honesty that the evil one has stolen from us through distractions, through other people through behaviors and actions that were not aligned with what it was you were calling us to do as a husband or a wife. So I pray for every woman now that is listening that needs that restoration of hope and hope is not ever lost. Hope is not lost. I ask for a complete understanding and revelation that any lack of trust and honesty, any action that either spouse has taken that has caused trust to be broken is an attack of the enemy. And the enemy will do whatever he can to split up the marriage because a powerful United marriage under God is a force to be reckoned with. And, and I pray for every couple, every woman listening to understand that the enemy is after any marriage. And so when trust is broken, it can be restored under God. So I just pray for that restoration. And I pray for hope right now in the name of Jesus for that woman who is in need of that right now today, I gotta ask for the, the giddy love of our wedding day to return and let that joy and peace and contentment and excitement be restored in our marriage and be stronger than it ever was. I pray for a great friendship between husband and wife. I pray for grace when we mess up. I pray for we're. We're easy to forgive quick to forgive each other. I just thank you that you're a Redeemer, you're a restorer I, and you're a lover and you teach us all of those things and we share those things with our husband. Thank you for your love and faith faithfulness. Thank you for your power that you've given us to love each other. And I just wanna thank you for every woman and every husband that that you have put together. Thank you for the gift of their relationship. Thank you for the powerful unity that they bring with their relationship. I thank you for all the couples and people and children that they are destined to impact as a United couple. Thank you for that. And I thank you that when marriage gets tough, sometimes we just go again and I thank you for the strength to make the choice every day to stay married and to, to choose marriage, to choose to love this partner that you have given us. Amen. I'll see you guys on the next episode.

EP 55 How to Pray for Prosperity and Success in Your Business Career Work: Power of Prayer Series- He Has Plans for Us to Prosper Not Harm Us Contact Me!  Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com So we're gonna get right into this prayer. God, I wanna come to you today in great Thanksgiving and praise heavenly father. Thank you for your word. Thank you for your love. Thank you for showing up for us every day in our lives. Thank you God, for enlightening, our eyes revealing to us who it is. You want us to help today. And I just thank you for that ability to have an opportunity to serve and to of others in the way that you've called us to your word says that I can do all things through Christ Jesus. I can do all things through you who strengthen me. And I ask that you give me strength and I ask that you give me strength. As I take the steps that I need to take every day in business or at work, I ask that you help give us the strength to succeed in our work in our businesses, bless our work with prosperity for you are good. And it is all for your glory. May the love of our savior, Jesus Christ, the tenderness of our savior, Jesus Christ and the presence of the holy spirit. May father, God, God bring us joy. Bring us peace in what we're doing today. And every day, I thank you, God, that every good and perfect gift comes from you. And that is in the form of our business, our work, our gifts, our talents, our customers our clients. I thank you God, for every person that you bring into our path, because there is a purpose that you have them in front of us. And I ask that we are able to serve them exactly how they are needed. God, you've promised that if I, whatever I do to you, then you will cause my plans to succeed. And my success will come from aligning my plans with your plans with your will not my will God, but your will. Let me hear your voice in every single thing I do. Let me hear it clearly, as you give me with wisdom and guidance, as you give me the ability to discern what it is that is good versus evil. Remind me that success is not found in this world, God, but it is found in you. And as long as I am in you, I will succeed. It is impossible for me not to prosper because you said that you have, you know, the plans for me and that is for me to prosper. And I believe that and receive that today. God and I thank you, God, that your work is perfect. Your ways are just, you are a God of faithfulness. And the Bible says that if I walk in your ways and observe your commands, that I will prosper in every, everything that I do and everything that I, everywhere that I go give me assurance that as I seek you and I make you the CEO of my business, or make you the leader of my work, that you will bless the work, you will bless the results of the work you will cause prosperity to grow. May the love of the father, the, the saving grace of your son and the presence of the almighty holy spirit, may it bring joy to our everyday interactions. And I just thank you for all, all of those things, God you've promised and you're faithful. And we rely on you. Your word says that you give us ability to create wealth through the work of our hands. And I commit my business and my work to your hands. I, I, I commit the work of my hands to you, and I know that the work of my hands, as long as it is aligned with what your word will give you glory. And I thank you God, for that ability to work and meet your people, your children, and come into agreement with them for your good that you, you align all of our works. And you align and use all things for our good as we are in Christ Jesus. And I just thank you for, for working all things for our good, and I just I'm grateful today. God, you are. My rockier, my Redeemer, you have made all things good in you and I thank you that you hold all of those things together. You've said that you have have plans and a purpose for me, plans to prosper me and not harm me and I receive. And I believe that today, I trust you with my work. I trust you with my business. May the word of Jesus Christ dwelled deeply within my soul deeply within my heart. May I be a student of your wisdom? May I work with thankfulness and gratefulness? May I be able to look at all that you have provided me with and see how blessed and favor I am and be grateful for what it is? God, let us be good stewards of what it is you've put in front of us. Whatever we do maybe do it in your name, maybe do it for you. And I just thank you today for the ability to be a reflection of your light in business, in work and in my relationships, God, thank you for or all that you've done. God, I ask that you put your hand on every single woman represented listening to this podcast. I pray that their homes are blessed. I pray that their work is blessed. I pray that their minds are blessed. I pray that it, their hearts are blessed. God I ask for healing in minds, bodies, emotions, spirits. I ask for that healing for your women, your children of God. I ask that you bless each and every household that's represented. As woman represented here gives her heart to you, gives her intentions to you and strives to walk in the purpose that you have given her in Jesus name. Amen ladies, I'll see you on the next episode.  

EP 54 How to Pray for Physical Healing in Your Body- Power of Prayer Series- By His Stripes We Are Healed! Hey ladies, welcome back. And we are back for a power of prayer series. And today we will be going over another piece of our last pie and we will be going over praying for our physical healing. Join me and we'll see it inside. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Hey ladies, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™ and we're still in the series of the power of prayer. So the power of prayer series, and last time we went over the prayer and I directed that prayer for our children. And so the purpose of this series is to give you an idea of how you can use the word of God and use what it is that you need, what you're thankful for, what you're grateful for, what you're praising God for, and just have that daily intimate relationship with God, with your friends, your counselor, your father, , you know, the one that is there for you at all times, it's just a way to talk to him and develop that relationship. So, , I am just doing this power of prayer series in different areas of our life wheel. And since I did children last week, I think today we're going to do in our physical part of our pie, our life pie or our wheel of life. We're going to talk about healing for our bodies. So, and these are just examples. I've, you know, made up some of these things I've used. , you know, I find scriptures and pray or reflect on those scriptures or use words from those scriptures. I've looked up different prayers for different things on the internet. , a lot of my friends I've asked, Hey, what do you do about this? Or do you have a good prayer or good scriptures that you pray when you were needing healing in your body or you're needing intervention for your children? So talk to those around you that are like-minded. And, , no, you know, those, those people that, you know, are, , pursuing a relationship with God through the word of God, through the Bible and ask them what are the scriptures they use? What are some prayers that they say? And so that's where all of these things come from. So, I want to give credit where credit's due. So I don't know where a lot of these things are, come from. Basically, here's what I do: I have a notes app for the iPhone on my Phone and I, every time I come across a prayer, whether I hear it, or whether I find it on the internet or a friend gives me reference or says a prayer, I make notes about that. And I keep a huge long, , place where I like, , basically have a whole list of different prayers and different scripture. So that's how I do it. So when I need to have some guidance, , or I need some help with my words, or I want to pray specifically or intentionally for something like my children or my marriage or healing, then I'll go to this reference that I've created on my iPhone. Okay. So, the other thing to remember too, is that when you're coming to God, you know, we always want to come with him with a clean heart and, you know, every single day all of us have done or said something that maybe, , or, and been engaged in something, or maybe had an interaction that we weren't, , maybe as, , as intentional about being loving towards that person or towards that situation. And so we just always want to thank God and praise him for who he is and for his grace and his mercy, and ask him for forgiveness for any of those things that we may have in our hearts that are not, , clean that unconfessed sin in our lives so that we're not afraid to come to him or, you know, and he's the graceful merciful father. So he is there and he already knows anyway. So just saying it to him, confessing it to him with your mouth, , will help, , you know, get you into the right state of mind. So let's talk a little bit about, let's see, let's go into prayer about healing for the body today. , and, and maybe I'll just go over some scriptures and then maybe I will just, you know, pray. So we'll just kind of do do this, and this was what this would be, what I would be doing, you know, with God as well. So, , James five 15 says the prayer of faith shall save the sick. So having that faith, God, I thank you that you're a faithful father, a faithful God. And I thank you for you increasing my faith. No weapon formed against us shall prosper. And every tongue that rises against me in judgment, you will condemn. , I am strengthened by you God and I thank you God for being present in my spirit. , I renounce all bitterness, anger, revenge, unforgiveness, mouse, envy, jealousy, lust, , any pride or fear in the name of Jesus. I ask you for forgiveness for anything I've done or said that was not of the Lord. , and ask you to forgive me and, you know, reveal those things to me. If I have done or said something or been in a place where I am not, , walking out the purpose that you have for me, or I am not treating someone with the love of Jesus, reveal those things to me so that I can work to fix those. , and, and forgive me and allow me to start to forgive myself. , I am thankful for you because you, you bless me. You lift me up, you are gracious. , you give me peace, you command blessings upon my life. And I'm thankful for that. , I got, I thank you for healing in my body. I thank you that, , your grace and goodness allows me to be in your presence, allows me to dwell with you forever. , even though I'm walking through the valley of the shadow of death, you are with me and your rod and your staff, they comfort me. So even when my circstances don't line up, God, I thank you to know that you are there with me. You haven't given me a spirit of fear. You've given me a sound, mind, a power and love and a sound mind. , that's in two Timothy, one seven, and I think, , I'm not the best with remembering the actual scriptures. God, forgive me for that. Let me have a heart for the word so that I can remember where scriptures are in the book. , but I thank you that you've given me the book to read every day and remind myself every day of what you have said to me. And I thank you for that. , I thank you, God, that you are healing me through your protective and preserving blood of Jesus Christ. You, you preserve and you renew my spirit, soul, and body, and you have sent the world to the word to heal me the word to heal me. I receive healing from you now. And I thank you, God that you give me life more abundantly than I could ever even ask. , you heal me and I call upon the name of Jesus Christ, , against any other name, any time that there is a physical diagnosis that gives it a name, and we know that your name God is above all names. And we know that you were, you will heal us from that. You will heal me from that. You will deliver me from things that are too strong for me. You will, you will take over when my strength is not enough. You are enough. And I thank you, God, you are God over all flesh. Therefore there is no sickness. There is no disease. There is no infirmity. , that ails me. You can deliver me from all of that. You deliver me from evil. You deliver me from all sickness. I am redeemed. I am, , redeemed from sickness and disease. , everything is stopped through the blood of Jesus Christ. And I thank you for that. Thank you for delivering us. God, you are the strength of my wife and you are that shield of faith that quenches every fiery dart of the enemy, even when it has a heavy name, , that is a physical diagnosis. You are over my life. You are healing me. You are holding me in the cliff. The, you are hiding me under your wings. And I thank you God for that. , we release the fire of God to burn out any sickness or disease that would operate in our bodies in the name of Jesus Christ, no sickness or plague or illness or infirmity shall remain in my dwelling in my body or in my household heal me and I shall be healed. You are a healer, you heal all disease. , you, you said that we will live and not die. And if we proclaim proclaim the name of the Lord, and that is what we do today, we proclaim your name above all names. Thank you God for renewing my youth. , thank you for, , you, your, your sacrifice, you by your stripes, we are healed. All of it was finished. It's already finished. , and I asked that we see you and your stripes and your wound, your wounds that were, that happened because of my transgressions. And I thank you God, for your sacrifice for me, you left me enough to have a finished work. And I thank you God for that. And, , God, let's see, I'm gonna go through this last part, God. , and I just I'm, I'm this thankful that you hear every prayer and every word I pray for every organ in our bodies. And those of the listening ladies that are here, I pray over them, command every organ in our bodies to function in the way that you intended them to be, , in the name of Jesus. I call out every tor in growth and let it melt right now in the name of Jesus in the presence of God, let any infection in their bodies be burned by the fire of God. The fire of the holy spirit, I release them from. We release you, you, they are released, , from all allergies and viruses in the name of Jesus Christ, because you are the healer. You are the ultimate physician. I pray for their arteries and veins to be open and circulatory system to function properly in the name of Jesus. I pray that temperatures remain in the normal range that you've created them to be. I pray that their blood circulates around their body, to the heart, through the arteries, into the veins, to deliver oxygen and nutrients to their organs and carry waste products away in the name of Jesus Christ. I pray for the, , skin system, integentary system, , skin, hair, nails, sweat glands, and other glands to be healthy and to be functioning in the way that you've intended so that our youth is renewed and functions functioning in the way that you've designed them to in the name of Jesus, I pray for digestive and excretory systems to absorb nutrients and eliminate waste from their bodies as they were designed to do. I pray for the endocrine system, which regulates hormones to function as you, God intended them to function in the name of Jesus. I pray for, , our immune systems to be strengthened in the name of Jesus. Also our lymphatic systems to defend our bodies from any pathogens, which we may be exposed to. I prefer muscular systems to be strengthened and be supple enough for them to be removed or move with ease and without pain in the name of Jesus. I pray for nervous systems to collect and process information from, from our senses via the nerves in our brain, as you've intended them to do our brains and spinal cords will process integrate and control information received from our sense organs and send instructions to the rest of our body, , in the way that you've designed it to. I pray for our renal and urinary systems, including our kidneys to filter blood and produce urine as waste to be expelled from our body. Just as you've designed it specifically to do in our reproductive systems. God, I pray that they function as you've designed them to do right now. God, I just, I want to pray for all those I'm hoping and praying for a baby. God let their reproductive systems work exactly as you've designed them to do. And in the name of Jesus, I pray for their miracle pregnancies right now in the name of Jesus. I pray for our respiratory systems to be strengthened and recover from any virus or any allergy or anything that we've been exposed to. I pray that we function our lungs function, , and we'll not be impaired and it will function in the way that you've intended for our system to be strengthened and to be able to carry our body and organs as you've designed them to do I pray and know right now that we are made whole in Jesus Christ. And I thank you God for making us whole, I thank you for healing, our bodies and God, despite our circumstances, despite what we see in this world, God, we know what the truth is. And I thank you, God that you've created each of us so uniquely, but in such a miraculous way that our bodies will be healed in the name of Jesus. As you said, by your stripes, we are healed. And we thank you today in the name of Jesus. Amen. Thank you guys. And join me next episode for the next prayer, the next power of prayer series. And we will go over another piece of our life pie and cover that piece in prayer.

EP 53: How to Pray for Your Children's Safety, Blessings, Favor, Protection Against the weapons & lies of the world, lies of the enemy Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Okay. Let's get into this episode where we are going to say some prayers for our children. So I'll just hop right into it. Let's talk today about the spirit of alcohol abuse and dependence, or I'm going to throw in praying against the attack of the enemy related to nicotine alcohol abuse, dependence generational curses, disorientation division conflict, those kinds of things. Okay. All right. So God would come to you to gait today. Love thanks. And just Thanksgiving, we praise you God, for who you are. We praise you, God that you already have the end in mind. There is a mark today that all of our children will come back to you, come to you and be drawn to you by the holy spirit, they will, it will, they will be drawn as magnets to you. God, because you have all that they need. And we thank you, God, that there is a mark today where our children will see the purpose that you have. And they will see themselves God, as you have designed them. So right now, God, we come against the attack of the enemy. We rebuke alcohol abuse and dependence. We rebuke nicotine dependence. We review all generational calls, persons God in the name of Jesus rebuked, the spirit of drunkenness, confusion, division, disorientation conflict generational curses. We break the and ties that enemy has set up before our children of the promise. We send back every word assigned by the devil. And I say that all of these things, the enemy has set up against our children was a thing of the past and will be no more in the name of Jesus. And in the mighty blood of Jesus. I call out every wicked spirit who have attached themselves to my sons. God, I, I asked for complete freedom and Liberty from every attack of the enemy that has been set up before them. It is not your will God that our children live in the lies of the enemy. So we want us to be cleaned this day. We wipe every unclean spirit that's inside of us. We call out every evil, demonic spirit to reveal itself and be banished immediately go far from us. Now, enemy, you have no strength. You have no authority here in my household with my children, with my husband, there is no power in you, God, because God is faithful and he will not let us be tempted beyond what we can bear. But when we are tempted, God, I thank you that you give us a way out that we can endure God. There is no excuse for the attack of the enemy in our lives. God, we ask that you remove it now from our thoughts and our actions for everything in this world. For the less of the flesh, the less of the eyes, the pride of life comes not from the father, but from the world. And we rebuke every worldly spirit that has taken a whole of our minds and our bodies, our emotions, and our spirit. We rebuke it now in the name of Jesus, God, we chase the spirit of the enemies away from our home, away from our children and away from our family members. We break generational courses right now in the name of Jesus. I bind and cast out every spirit that is not of you from my children, heavenly father. In this day of trouble, I call on you. I seek your face for righteousness in our lives. I believe that you will banish all forms of attack that the enemy has come against us in the name of Jesus for we, no weapon formed against us shall prosper when we are within the love of Jesus Christ and under the mighty powerful blood of Jesus. God hear our cry. Let our prayers rise up to you. I beg you to act quickly for our children could be an imminent danger from the worldly enemy. Demonic lies that are upon them. Their lives might be endangered Lord and I am in a helpless position. I ask that you send your angelic hosts to keep my children safe for rent forever now and forever surround them above them, beneath them, beside them, behind them in front of them. Surround them God with your angelic hosts to protect them from the lies of the enemy. I asked for the holy spirit to convict and persuade and strengthen my children in Jesus name. I pray the holy Spirit's power over the enemy and his forces of evil that daily assault our child through the media, through internet, through social media, through TV, through music, God, the demonic lies of the world will fall, fall a powerless at their feet. God, because you, God are the ultimate in all mighty power. And we plead the blood of Jesus over their lives. I pray the holy Spirit's power of the enemy and his forces of evil. I pray against the enemies. Deceitful promises, let them recognize the lies of this world. Let them recognize the lies of the devil, the lies of the enemy. The demonic lies that come against them everyday. God let them see them for what it is. If it is not in alignment with your word guy, God, it is a lie. I pray against the pleasure of evil and I pray that sin tastes bitter to my children. God, you understand us. You understand a parent's heart. You know that we trust you. We love you. We have faith in you, but as a parent, it is so hard to leave our child completely in your hands. It's hard for us, God. So we pray for strength and wisdom and discernment that we can give our children back to you. They, our RC that you have trusted us with and given us, given us and we pray God that you keep your hand on them. God, we pray for strength. As we give you complete trust. And we hand our children to you. We are worried or even angry about the evil influences that push against our children. God. And we asked for a hedge of protection to be placed all around them. God, place your hands around our children and guide them into your presence. Give them a Thurston, a hunger for you and a dissatisfaction for the pleasures of this world. Place people in their lives, in their paths to influence and encourage them towards the heart of God. I asked for a holy spirit to convict and persuade and my children in Jesus name. I pray the holy spirit power over the enemy because the enemy has no power under the blood of Jesus Christ. And I pray over the daily assaults against my child. I pray that there is recognition there that the holy spirit recognition against whatever is deceitful and whatever is of this world. I pray against the pleasure of evil. I pray that harmful friends and dangerous actions brighten my children so that they run towards you for protection and power and purpose, help them find their identity in you alone and not in the lies of the enemy, not in the lies of this world, but you got, you give them are their identity. And I pray that you reveal that identity to them. I claim victory over my child's life because of Christ's sacrifice on the cross and his powerful resurrection in Jesus, holy and mighty name. I pray for them to return to the blessings of a life lived holy for God. May they walk worthy of your calling? May they please? You may. They conform no longer to the world, but be transformed in their minds, lead them into your good and perfect. Will I give them into your hands God, to transform them through your power in Jesus' precious name. Amen. And that would be a prayer that you can pray over your children every day, because prayer, my friends is powerful and he hears it. And when we pray these things together, and like I said, put your kids' names in there. And when I say help, my children find their identity. I say, help, Clayton help Elijah, help Ryzen find their identities in you alone. Put their names in there. And when I pray, I also put my friend's kids names in here. I put my children's friends names in here because that is powerful. We need to raise our kids up and we need to hand our kids up to God so that he is in, we are in constant unity over the holy spirit having control over our children's lives. And in Jesus name, we pray for that covering and protection. And we pray for that strength. As parents, as we walk through life, when our children aren't always making the decisions that we wish they would make, or we know they should make, we, we pray for strength to hand them up to God and trust that God has a marked day, that they will be coming to the full light of the holy spirit and understand what their purpose is for God. And we pray for that consistent hedge of protection and give us strength. As we know that God will send his angelic hosts forward to prepare them and keep them in the name of Jesus. Amen. All right, until next time, ladies, Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review and you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. 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EP 52: Power of Prayer- How to Pray So That God Hears You! How to Get the Answers You Need- Does God Really Hear Me When I Pray? Do I Need to Pray Out Loud? What's up guys. Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™ and ladies, the very first thing I have to do is apologize because the last time when I started the new season, I said that I'm going to drop an episode per week. Well, life happened and I wasn't able to be consistent with that. So there are a lot of things going on right now in my life as I am sure your life. And so in order to night, make a liar out of myself, which I never intend to do. I will just say that we will meet hopefully monthly. Okay. And if I can release more than that, then that's amazing. That's awesome. But I am going to right now in this season, at least try to drop an episode at least once a month. I mean, these weeks have been flying by. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com So I have been up to a couple of different things, which I'll talk about in another episode, but it's just been quite crazy if I want to be completely out there and honest, but today's episode lady, ladies is about something that a lot of you guys have asked about. And according to one of the most popular episodes that I have it is about prayer and the power of prayer. So I want to talk a little bit today and not too long, but just a little short episode here to talk to you about the power of prayer, because prayer is so, so very important in all of our lives and all of the lives that you are connected. Prayer is so powerful. So the very number one highest tip that I can tell you about the power of prayer is that then de you have to do it. There is power in prayer, but only if you do it. So in order to, you know, reap all the benefits of prayer, you have to pray. And I think sometimes we think that it's, oh, we'll do it tomorrow and put it off. But guys, if we really thought about how powerful prayer is we would be making more time to pray. So if nothing else just do it, just pray. That is the number one thing I can say to you about the power of prayer is that it is powerful because we do it. And one thing that I want you to think about is it's not that you are powerful when you pray it's in who it is. We are praying to the power comes from God and God is capable to do all things. He works all things together for our good, for those of us who, who believe. And I believe that a hundred percent. And so it's not that because I pray things happen it's that God responds to our prayer. God is the power behind our prayer. And when we are in unity, when we are with him, when we are in unity with others, praying about a certain thing or a certain person, or a certain situation, or our government or our schools, or our cities our leadership when we are in unison and praying for that, there is more power in that. And because God who it is that we are praying to is the all powerful. He is the one that makes things happen. And when the holy spirit moves through prayer and through that faith that develops in that discipline that develops that obedience, that develops through our prayer things happen. That is how it works. So the power of prayer comes from number one in doing it. And number two, in having faith and knowledge in the one that we are praying to. And when we are praying to God it is not like I said, the result of our praying, as far as the power in that it is the power that resides in God. It is he, that will answer our prayers if they are in agreement with his will. And so knowing his word is also important when we are praying, because if we are praying in alignment with his word, then he will act in accordance to his word and his will. He will answer us and no answer is an answer, a delay. Isn't an answer. Sometimes it's, it's always going to be in our best interest. He works all things out for our good and if it does, if it aligns with his will, then it is going to come to pass. And the other piece of that is that even when there's a no, or even when there's a delay, or even when there is no answer, we continue to pray. And we continue to take those steps because all of our steps are ordered by the Lord, if we are called for his purpose. And we are in obedience to what it is, we feel like he's calling us to, then we are taking those steps of faith and we will see the results from that, whether now or later, whether our circumstances line up to what we know is the truth is really not relevant. It is our actions in the meantime you know, as you guys know, as I stepped out of my nursing career and because, you know, God said, you know, step out, there's something different. I have more, I have different for you. I didn't know. And I still am in the process of walking that out. And that's been one of the things that I've been working on is this new adventure. I'm doing the coaching for women and that has been amazing and that is continuing and will continue. And I have been doing a lot of real estate investing with a group of people here, locally, learning a lot of things, managing some short-term rentals helping to place travel nurses that come to serve our community here in Louisville. And I recently just passed my real estate exam. And so I will become an agent and I will help people sell their homes here in Louisville as part of that process. But, you know, I don't know what all the things are gonna look like, but I do know that I know, like I know, like I know that God asked me to step out. So when I'm obedient that is when the, the revelation comes. That's when things are revealed because as you take steps more and more is revealed and you know, just like every time you take a step, if you take one step down a step, your perspective of what you can see changes. If I am sitting in a chair looking out my window, well, my perspective is different than if I stand up and take a step towards the window. So you have to always be moving forward and you have to be doing that in obedience. And one of the tips somebody asked recently, well, how do you know what, you know, when you're praying and you're praying about something specific, how do you know what the answer is? Or how do you know? And for me, I really just continue to pray about it until I feel a peace about the decision. If I don't feel the piece about the decision, then I continue to pray about it because I don't want to take a step in a direction if I don't feel that it is in alignment with God, in some things you just know, okay, this is an alignment and you would take the step. And now not that you're not praying about it, but, but that you just, you, you just have that knowing it's those decisions that, where there are multiple doors open and you are having to make decisions about the doors that are in front of you, do you go left? Do you go right? Do you go straight? And you turn around you know, those are the decisions sometimes that are harder. And so what I do is I just continue to pray until I feel like I've gotten an answer. And the answer for me is typically feeling a peace about it. And as long as I find that peace that I feel that kind of overwhelms me when I'm thinking and praying about a certain topic then I know that's the right decision. The here's the other thing. And recently I was in this position, there was a situation where I was praying about a door that I could walk through that I wasn't sure if that was the right door that I should be walking through. And I had some unsettleness. And instead of listening to that, unsettled this, or waiting to make that decision until I felt that peace, I went ahead and walked through that door. Well what I found was while that was a good experience, it was not the door that I was being called to. So while I made a decision to walk through a particular door and having a particular experience what God does is he helps you, even when you have taken a step that may not have been in alignment with what he wanted you to do. So what you can trust is that even when we don't make the right decisions, God will still come chasing after us. He will still come to pull us back and get us back on the path that is in alignment with what he wants. That is in the ordered steps that he has for us. If we can take a step outside of the, the designed in divine steps, he already has prepared for us. He will come chasing. He will come through and get us back on the right track. If we are open and willing to listen, I almost immediately knew that this was not the right decision. And so I had to pray then for him to help me find a way to exit that situation. And he did just that it took a little bit of time, and I did learn stuff in the meantime, but looking back, I did not feel the peace making that decision. And I should have waited until I got that final feeling of peace, or at least was able to proceed without the unsettleness that came with that. So that's important to remember that, you know, sometimes you just have to continue to pray until you feel like you've gotten that answer. Okay. Here's another big tip. As far as the power of prayer. I think some people get a little nervous about prayer because they're like, I don't have the right words. I don't know enough of the word. I sound silly when I pray. You know, maybe you were way raised to just pray certain prayers that you've kind of memorized. And you don't know how to pray outside of that. So the key here is, is that again, it's not about you and the words that you're saying, it's about your heart. It's about your intent to want to be closer to God, to want to talk to God. And it's not about the words, it's not about the words that you say. It's not about the passion behind your prayer. It's not really about the purpose of your prayer. Other than you want to talk to God and you want to get closer to God. And you want him to know that you are trying to, to understand what his will is for you. You're asking him to reveal things to you, to show me who it is. You want me to help today, God, or, or show me what it is you want me to do today. God or God, there's three different jobs. I'm thinking about God, help me, help me make the right decision, help me make the decisions that's in your will help me get placed in the place where you want me to impact the people around around me. So it's about the intent and the heart of wanting to get closer to God and just wanting to make those decisions that he has already laid out for us. Remember, it's a finished work. It's all finished. He already knows what the end is. He already has the path. It's just, how open are we to pray through those things and be willing to give him our yes. Even when that yes, feels scary. Like when I was walking away from my, you know, chief nursing job, that was these scariest thing, one of the scariest things that I've ever had to do. But I knew that it was right, because I knew that he called me to do that. And I said, yes. And I just took the step. And here I am almost, it's not quite a year later. It was back in November. So w w we're in October now we're getting ready to be in October. So almost nine months, eight months it's been, and he has provided. I mean, it's amazing when you step out on what God calls you to do when you are obedient, that brings the favor. That is something pastor said in a service last night was the favor is a result of your obedience. That is powerful. The more obedient we can do to what it is, he's calling us to do the more favor and blessings follow us and touch others that we're impacted by. So again, remember, it's bigger than just me. It's bigger than just you. It is about your kids, your husband, your family your people on your job, the people that you haven't met yet, your obedience is important to the future for others, for their purpose, for their revelation of who they are and who they need to become to be in alignment with who God's calling them to be. Okay. And so I don't want you people to worry about their, their words or phrases. Just talk to God, just talk to him. The more you read the word, the more you you know, focus on that. The more words you will have that are exactly in alignment with what God wants. And so, you know, pray to God to ask you for a hunger for his word, so that you want to wake up every morning and do a devotion. You want to wake up every morning and read a Bible verse or memorize a Bible verse or whatever it is that gets you closer to knowing more of his word, because his word is the truth. And our obedient obedience to that word is his will. And that will bring favor. You know, it's not magic, it's just obedience. It's it keeps us in relationship with him. It keeps us communicating with him and we just have to ask him for help. We have to, you know let him know what we need. If we don't reveal to him what we need, then we haven't taken that step to say, I give it to you. God, show me, help me. Take me lead me. If you know, he knows what our needs are you, you know, the funny thing is it's like he knows the things that we have that we don't like about ourselves or that we're trying to hide. He knows what all those things are, but he has given us free will. And with that free will, we need to take action that shows him that we are obedient. And that shows him that we are in relationship with him. We trust him. We have faith in him. We love him. We want to hear from him. Okay. So it is so much about obedience. So that is the power of prayer that I want to talk about today. Our wanted to talk about today and I encourage you to just start, just do it every single day. Make it part of your morning routine or your nightly routine, or, you know, when you're washing your hands, say a prayer, look at yourself in the mirror while you're washing your hands. You're supposed to be washing your hands for 20 seconds anyway. So say a prayer at that point, you know, and if you don't know anything else, say the, our father, you know, take that time to pray. Thank him. You know ask him tell him you know, all of the things that you would do with your father, your mother, or your best friend, like he is all of those things to us. So make sure that you are having those conversations with him daily and that's, it, it doesn't have to be scary. It doesn't have to be formal. It's just you and God creating that daily relationship. And, you know, throughout the day, just thank him for whatever comes to your mind, just bring the acknowledgement to him and he will reward you for that. You will find favor and blessings through that obedience and that yes to God. All right, ladies, I will see you on the next episode for the next couple of episodes. What I am going to do is give you some ideas on prayers related to specific parts of our wheel of our life wheel. So parenting being a wife, being, becoming more spiritual your work, your finances. So I will go through this next series of just talking through different types of prayers that I have heard through my friends. Maybe I've gotten them off of the internet. Maybe I've gotten pieces out of the Bible. You know, but just different prayers that could be in alignment with what it is you need to pray about right now. You know, for example, my, my son is in college and I am always praying for, you know, his covering and protection and salvation. And because that you need to cover your children at all times, and you need to thank God for connection that the holy spirit has with your children and that your children will continue to seek him out in all things, in everything that they do. And that he will reveal the purposes of their lives to them so that they know the steps that they should take. And they know the, you know, what they should study and all of those different things. So, all right, guys, next time we will do a series of prayers related to the different parts of our life. Okay. Thank you guys. Have an amazing day. And remember to reach out to me on Facebook, on the, in the Facebook group, a Wholly Made Life™ And you always can send me an email as well at atoninirogers@gmail.com Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And, you know, I love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.  

EP 51 How to Handle the Hot Summer Heat! What to Do if Your Thermostat Is Not Working- Difference Between a Thermometer and Thermostat Ladies welcome back to Wholly Made Life™. I'm so excited to talk to you today. It is a new season of Wholly Made Life™. And we are going to talk about how to handle the heat. Let's go,   Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com   Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com   Hey mama. Welcome to Wholly Made Life™ where I believe that you are not created to do just one thing in your life. Well, you're not just your job, your title or your salary. You're not just a mom or a wife or a sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made to lead in all areas of your whole life. Your life is like a pie that's made up of different pieces that create a complete circle and girl, you deserve to enjoy the whole pie. Hi, I'm Angie Tonini-Rogers and mama, I know you are really good at what you do in your profession or business, but if you're ready to stop ignoring different pieces of your pie and reclaim your whole life, then you are in the right place. Girl, let's tap into the whole life. God has for you and experienced that God size fulfilled life together. We're going to walk through some boundaries, leadership mindset and restoration in different areas of your life that may need to change. It's going to be some tough workup in here, girl, but we're going to walk this thing out together, uncovering some bold courageous actions that we can take to experience, not just a good life, but your whole life. Are you ready to live your whole life, Holy made? Let's Do it. Oh my goodness. What is up? My Wholly Made Life™ ladies. It has felt like it has been so long. I took a break for the summer so that I could spend time building my business and spending time with family. So now that the kids are back in school last week, I am back. So I have missed you guys. I don't know how you guys feel, but on my end, when I do these podcasts, I feel like I'm talking to a group of girlfriends and I've missed you guys. So I just wanted to say a quick hello and let you know what this season of Wholly Made Life™ will be like. I am going to release one episode per week. That is my goal. I was doing two initially. Now that I've got my business up and running with life coaching and real estate investing, I'm doing some really excited things and exciting things, and it is like soaring off the ground. So I am super busy and trying to organize all of my time while my balance in all parts of my life, right? Because that is the new goal, keeping that balance, whatever that looks like. And as that's defined by me for my life and my family, keeping that in check. So I am going to reduce this season to one episode and then we'll see what happens for the next season. So today I wanted to talk to you about the heat. It has been such a hot summer, and I am telling you I'm missing the Arizona heat because that is such dry heat. And in Louisville here it is. So dag-gone humid in wet and just nasty so much that you can't even breathe. So, and I haven't even spent that much time in the pool. And so anyway but I wanted to, I was thinking about the heat and I was thinking about this concept of a thermometer versus a thermostat. So let's talk a little bit about what this could mean for each of us. And I just want you to think about it. So a thermometer is a device that measures temperature or the gradient of temperature. Okay. It's has two important elements. It's a temperature sensor in which some change occurs with the change in the temperature. So it measures that change. It moves with the change in the environment. And it obviously translates that into a numerical value. Okay. A thermostat on the other hand is a regulating device and it senses the temperature of of an environment. And it regulates that environment. It maintains that desired set point that the thermostat has been preset with. So the main difference is that a thermometer measures the environment and moves and is impacted by the environment and the thermostat is what sets that temperature for the environment. Okay. So we want to think about simple reasons why the thermostat might not getting power. Okay. Now, before we move there, I want you to just think about this. What did you as a person, as a mother, as a wife, as a, an employee, as a leader, would you want to be the thermometer or the thermostat in this situation? Think about this. Do you want to be the thermometer, which just changes your temperature based on the environment, based on your circumstances, based on your situation, or do you want to be the thermostat in the situation where you regulate the temperature, the environment, the situation, the circumstance. So think about that and let's move into some other pieces about thermostat and thermometers. So when there's an issue with a thermostat, it is because the service that is what is actually setting the temperature. And by the way, like spoiler, I want to try to be the thermostat. I want to not be moved so easily that the environment, circumstance situation, the temperature when it gets too hot, too cold, too crazy, too chaotic. I don't want to mind for my temperature, my regulation to be impacted by the environment. I want to be the one that is steady within the environment and actually create that environment and set that temperature around me, set that a temperature for the environment, because that puts you in control and it doesn't allow these circumstances situations. No matter how hot it gets, it doesn't change your temperature. You set the tone, you set the environment. Okay. So I'll just go ahead and give you that. Spoiler let's have our goals to be a thermostat. Okay. So having said that if we are the thermostat, let's talk a little bit about when our thermostat, when we cannot appropriately regulate the environment, what might be causing that issue. All right. So number one, the thermostat might not be getting power such as dead batteries or a tripped breaker or a blown, a blown fuse. Okay. So think about this. If you are the thermostat, where are you getting your refreshing? Where are you getting your power? If you are dead, if you are not energized, if you are not renewed and rejuvenated, then you are not going to have enough power, enough control to set the environment to the temperature that you need to have it at. Okay. So think about that. Where are you getting your power? Where are you plugged into? That's keeping you at a place where you have enough energy. You have enough power source to create that environment that you're intended to create. Okay. if you are certain that the thermostat is receiving power, then you're going to shut off that thermostat breaker in order to safely take off that cover and examine the inner components. So let's say that you've assessed the fact, man, you, your power source for your thermostat is dead. Your batteries are dead. You have no fuel, you have no power. So then you've got to sit back and you got to take a look, an internal look at what needs to be fixed and examine those inner components. Is it your prayer life? Is it you're not in the word enough? Is it who you're hanging around is draining you? Is it that you're letting circumstances dictate the temperature? You're letting relationships dictate the temperature. You're letting your boss dictate the temperature of how you feel about what you've been called to do the purpose of your work. So take a minute and take off the cover. Take off that exterior and look inside. Look at those inner components. When thermostat problems develop, there are rarely dramatic events with sparks flying or where smoke alarms are sounding or that kind of thing. Most thermostat malfunctions caused subtle or sudden changes in the performance of your cooling system. Ooh, you hear that subtle or sudden changes in your cooling system. What does it take for you to malfunction your thermostat? What around you happens that it takes for you to just lose and thermostat goes haywire. Okay. And is it, you know, it's not the big things. It's not the sparks in this smoke in the blow. The breaker blew up. It's the small things that sometimes change us from a thermostat into a thermometer. So think about that functionality. Think about the things that are happening around you that easily throw your function of your thermostat off learning how to troubleshoot these issues can help us avoid unnecessary and costly service calls. Okay. If you allow your thermostat to malfunction regularly, it's going to cost a lot more for you to get the environment, get the temperature backward. It needs to be in your relationships at work in your relationship with God, with your husband, with your kids. If you let that thing go without the, the internal checks and without stopping to troubleshoot the issues, it is going to cause a lot more drama and it's going to cause a lot more heat. That's going to take a long time to cool off and get it to back to where it is a manageable temperature. Okay. So don't ignore problems that are coming in your thermostat. Don't ignore those problems that are, are malfunctioning, your ability to maintain the temperature you want around. You don't allow those things to happen. Okay. A couple of other things that I just thought was interesting in the thermostat this is interesting. So if everything emotionally on the outside looks okay, right? You're certain it's retreat. It's receiving power the breakers. Okay. You were going to check for buildup of dirt, soot, cigarette smoke, or dust, a coating of debris on the mechanical or electronical components that can affect the thermostat's normal operation. What have you allowed to set upon your S to set in and settle down in your life, in your mind in your spirit that is causing debris and stuff, that's in the way of your thermostat correctly working. Okay. carefully clean the thermostat internal parts with the soft brush. Okay. Give yourself grace and forgiveness. If you find yourself with dust and debris, okay. Give yourself some forgiveness and grace, once it's clean check for obvious problems with other components, other things outside like loose wiring or loose screws that need to be tightened, check all those things that might be impacting you and other people in your lives look for signs of corrosion. Okay. And then finally use your owner's manual in order to ensure that you are repairing the inner workings of the thermostat correctly. Yall, does this not speak to you spiritually or what? I don't know why this whole thing was like all kinds of spiritual talk to me, but it was you know, a buildup of grinding costs, inconsistencies between the temperature setting in the actual room temperature. So clean it up, don't allow the grind, a poor installation job or insulation can also throw it off kilter. Okay. Who are you surrounding yourself by? We kind of talked about that a little bit. All right. And then finally, if the thermostat is in a bad location, it will not be able to accurately regulate the temperature. Where are you in position, your position matters? Where are you in your mind, your body, your spirit, your emotions, where are you? Are you saying yes to what it is God's calling you to say yes to and no, to what it is the holy Spirit's guiding you to say no to. Are you in a place of position and argue, stewarding that position? Well, whew. Hello? Are you stewarding that position that you are in well in? Are you in the right spot? Okay. Are you taking advantage of the position? Okay. and then finally, let's see. Okay. Finally, if you are not able to get your problem solved, if you have done everything, you can, everything, you know how to do then do not be afraid to reach out to an experienced HVAC professional, to investigate and help you figure out the issue. Girl, if you've got some issues, you can't figure out, reach out to your community. Number one, that's what we're here for. If you need additional help or you need to reach out, then reach out to me and we will go through a coaching session, just reach out to somebody. If you can't figure out what it is, that's throwing you off and unable to program you to the place where you can create that environment, that at the temperature that you can function properly in, then you need to reach out to one of your people, your supportive people. That will also not be the one that is helping you get all off on a malfunction. Right? You gotta be careful of who it is that you're discussing these things with. Okay. All right. So that is the thermostat. That is the thermostat. I just, for whatever reason, that is something that was speaking to me. And I thought that why not go ahead and share that with the type of heat that we've been having and let's make it a situation in which we are more mindful of the environment that we are creating, that we are regulating and realize that we are the thermostat we are in control of that we can use information that's happening around us and regulate ourselves so that it doesn't negatively impact those around us and in the environment that we have. Okay. All right, ladies, it was great to be back with you today. I will see you next week. Have an amazing week. Don't forget to reach out if you need anything and we can, oh, it's hot. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. 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EP 50 The Power of Prayer: The 5 Types of Prayer. The Gift of Praying for those You Love Through Thanksgiving, Praise, Worship, Petition, Intercession, Supplication, Spiritual Warfare Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com Angie Tonini-Rogers is a daughter of a King first. Wife to the tall dark, handsome man she's been with for 24 years, BoyMom of 3 boys, born and raised in Louisville, Kentucky.  She's been a nurse leader for over 15 years, & recently transitioned from a Chief Nursing Officer position to start her own business. She is the host of the inspiring and slightly provoking podcast, Wholly Made Life™, for Success-driven women who deserve it all, in all areas of their lives, not just the professional.   Her mission is to help successful, working moms create boundaries and balance in their lives, so that they can experience their God-sized, fulfilled, Whole Life, Holy Made.   Angie specializes in helping professional women tap into their whole God-sized life, through intentional life coaching; balance, boundary, and accountability strategies, and restoring the mindset that God has for her; helping her to uncover bold, courageous actions she can take to experience not just a good life, but claim fulfillment in all areas of her whole life.   Angie believes that each fearfully and wonderfully made woman has a God-given calling, and that we are more than “just” our title, position, and salary; we're more than “just” a mom, wife, sister. Angie helps woman rediscover who they are, and identify areas of her life that may need a change.   Angie believes that God has a plan for each woman, that only she can live out and accomplish all the things He has for her; and His idea is always so much bigger and better than we can ever imagine. It's a journey to become the woman she is called to be, and Angie believes that each of us need a community in which we can encourage each other to grow, learn, and lead in all areas of our lives. Every woman deserves to live her life, feeling fulfilled in every area of her life. Girl, Let's walk this thing out together, you deserve your Wholly Made Life™! IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com

EP 49 How Do I Break Down Strong Brick Walls How Do I Move Mountains and Cast Them into the Sea: Joshua, Rahab, Jericho So what does a brick wall and Joshua and Rahab have to do with reaching your promise, reaching your goals every day? That's what we're going to talk about in today's episode! Ladies. I am so thankful that you guys are here today. We're going to talk about how do we bring down strong walls that are in front of us today? I was honored and privileged to be able to do a ride along with a couple of people in my community who are up and coming real estate investors, and one who is a very experienced real estate investor in our city. And he does these ride alongs. And so I was riding with one, two, three, four, five, five others, including myself. So six of us plus the very experienced person. And as we rolled through the city and he kind of gave us his take on real estate, investing in our city and talked about all of his trials and tribulations, everything that he's faced, everything that he's gone through and everything that he's triumphed in, everything he's learned, all the lessons learned as he's been investing in our city. He ended the trip with a visit to a brick wall and his point was to talk us through we had already talked about our why and why do we want to invest? Why do we want to do this? And in anything in life that you do anything that's worth getting after there's a why behind that. And there's also work. There's also trials and tribulations. There's also sweat and tears and blood. There's also joy and laughter. There are all these things that come with accomplishing a goal, especially when it's hard. And as you know, I say, how you do anything is how you do everything. So I believe that you should put in a hundred, 10% effort in no matter what you're doing. But I also know that in the pineapple, it says when we are faced with our trials to trust in the Lord. And I definitely believe that no matter what you're doing, you're going to come up against brick walls, right? So this metaphor, I guess, of looking at this brick wall, it was all the way around. And there was, you know, we were thinking about the fact that what if your promise is right on the other side or what if your, why is right on the other side? And all you had to do was figure out how to get over through, around, under under this brick wall, right? What would you do if your children were in there? And the only way you could get to your children was to figure out how to get through this wall. The fact is, is that most of us, if our backs were up against the wall and we had to get to our kids on the other side, we would figure out a way. And I think that the important thing to this is that you have to understand why it is that you're doing what you're doing. When we face walls in our life. We just have to remember what are we doing this for in the first place? Because I will tell you, especially now, as I have transitioned into this current season where I'm not currently responsible for a big team of people, and I'm not on call 24 seven, and I don't have all of these key performance indicators that I know I have to meet, it has been a lot harder to be accountable to myself than it is for me to be accountable to my team, to the people that I am supervising or managing or the people I'm leading, or even the people that I am directly reporting to. It's so much easier to meet expectations and to push and to meet those goals, create those goals and go after those goals sometimes when you are doing those things for other people. So the point was, is to think about your, why, why are you doing the things that you're doing? And when you come up against the wall to be able to push through that thing, just figure out a way to get through it. You know that in thinking about the word of God, it talks about being able to cast the mountain into the sea. Well, yes, we can talk to God about these days and yes, we can ask him to move it. But he has asked us and told us that we have the power of the holy spirit within us to be able to cast that mountain out into the seas. He left us with the same powers of the holy spirit within us that Jesus had. And we can pray and heal the sick we can you know, call out miracles. We can call out greatness in other people we can say to that mountain, be that removed and be cast into the sea. We can say to these demons in our life, in the spiritual realm of, you know, I rebuke you and I tell you to flee seven different ways. We have power in our tongue now by no stretch of the imagination. Am I trying to say that we are cheeses or anything like that? So please don't misconstrue. We are all sinners. I am a sinner and I am not at all saying I'm Jesus. What I'm saying is that we all have the power within us and it's not our own strength. It's God's strength. It's the holy spirit strength to really trust in him and do what it is he's called us to do. So as we're standing here looking at this brick wall, and I'm thinking about all the reasons why I do the things that I do, I thought of Jericho. I thought of how the Joshua in Jericho, the kind of leader he was, he was very bold, very courageous and very upfront saying, you know, if God said, this is our promise land, why do you talk about how we can't conquer it? He said, it was hours. He's said, it's a promised land. We are going to go there. And we are going to get what he said is ours. And so when they get there and wall is there, you know, many are probably looking at that wall. Like, man, yeah, no, historically nobody could get in and nobody could come out. So I don't see how this is gonna happen. And isn't that always the case that sometimes we have no clue how a wall is going to come down. But what we do know is that if we listen to the holy spirit and we listened to God and we follow what he's asking us to do, that he will help us get that wall down. He'll help us go through it around it, under it sideways. He'll help. He'll bring people to us that have ladders. He will bring other strong people around us that can help lift us and get us over that wall. We are equipped to do whatever it is to do it. It is that we're called to do. And if it is steps that we're taking that are ordered by God, if we are taking steps that he's asked us to take, then he will provide a way he is the way maker. He is the promise keeper. And if our promise is on the other side of that wall, you best believe that he's got a way for us to get through it, to get over it, to get to our promise land. That's the promise. That's the word? That is the truth. So I want to talk about a little bit about Jericho and something else, which was crazy, right? Because at church the other day Colin pastor Colin was talking about rehab, the story of rehab. And as we sat in this right along and we approached this brick wall and he talked about, you know, you are the one who can make a choice here and make a difference. You are the one that can set up generational wealth for your children and your children's children. But it depends on you taking a step. It depends on you making a choice. Well, the story of rehab, it was so crazy. I feel like that story that I just heard a couple of weeks ago, I, it was ringing in my ears as we sat here and looked at this wall because the story of rehab is that when Joshua, the son of nun sent out two men to spy secretly saying, go and view the land, especially Jericho. They came across this harlot named rehab and rehab new that they were here to take over the land. They asked her for a place to stay. She then hid them. Okay. She hit them. And when they came looking for the two men, the woman hit them, the woman being rehab. And she said they didn't, she didn't know where they were. She hid them after the men that were looking for Joshua's men left, she said to them, listen, I know that you have come to take over the land and that everybody in the land is nervous. They're concerned. I'm just asking, asking you to spare me in my family because of what I have shown you, that what hospitality I have shown you. And I am paraphrasing guys. This is in Joshua two. And it took re Hab this one choice to help hide these two men that were Joshua's men. She could have chosen not to do that, but she chose to help them help hide them so that they were not captured. They were not seized. And that choice is what saved her and her family. And don't, you know, that in her bloodline comes David and then comes Jesus. So imagine if Ray Hab had not been the one to stand up, stop and say, I will hide you. I will protect you if you will in return, protect me and my family. What if she had not done that? What if she had given them up and she was killed for being a trader and hiding them in her home, there are choices that we have to make every single day. And we may face walls. We may have to make really tough choices, but one choice, one step, one obedient act from what, whatever it is, God's giving you, whatever it is God's leading you to do could be the pivotal moment that changed, changes everything. So I'm thankful that pastor Colin had talked about this as we sat here and looked at this one, because the story of Jericho, you know, all of us pretty well, no, this is that they had to walk around the city, walk around the city and they had to keep doing and keep going and keep going. And eventually the miraculous thing of the walls came crumbling down and they were able to enter the city. Now these were walls that were supposedly 10, the high double bricked, right? Nobody could come in or out. So the only one way that that could happen would be from an act of miraculous places which come from God, but it was their obedience and their willingness to step into the promise that God had for them. They could have turned around and said, forget it. We're not going to do all of this stuff. We're not going to believe we're not going to step. We're not gonna do the things that we are being directed by the man of God, which was Joshua. At that point, we're not going to do these things. They could have very well made those choices and very well could have never, ever seen the promised land, just like you and I, when we are in situations where we face a mountain or we're facing this wall. And what if we don't know that the promise is on the other side? What if it's just a possibility wouldn't you rather know, not have to live with regret then to not take a step and just wonder if you were supposed to be rehab in that moment and make that choice that changes the entire future for your bloodline. I don't know about you, but when I think about my children and my children's children and their children and their children, I want to create a legacy. I want to be they're prayerful, faithful ancestor who prayed and believed and stepped in faith because I want to set things up for them as, as I can in, in how I'm being called to do it. Not because the power is within me or the strength is within me, but because God is calling me to do and be a certain person. And after everything comes the impact after all of that, yes, off after all of that obedience, after all of the fights and blood and sweat and tears and the, just the obedience after all of that comes the impact that he has intended. He's calling each of us in our places at the timing is exactly what it should be in this season. It should be. You're surrounded by people that you should be surrounded with. He has placed you divinely in a spot where he needs you to best serve the purpose that he's called you to. I just thought that was really a regulatory moment for me, just to think through, you know, the steps that I take are so important, the obedience or lack thereof could mean everything or nothing to my children and their children and their children. And it goes on and on and on. We all have such a powerful place in our lives to create what it is that will be the legacy for our children and their children and their children. So when you look at a wall, when you look at that, what looks to be an unsurmountable mountain, have faith in God, trust him that he would not place something in front of you. If you were not equipped to climb it, if you were not equipped to figure it out, he wouldn't, he wouldn't ask us to do those things. He has put the people in our lives that we need. He has put the partnerships in our lives that we need. We just have to be opened. Our heart needs to be open to him and to be a servant to him and to others around us. We need to be doing everything in love. We love other people. And as we're walking that thing out, he will reveal to us what it is that he wants us to do relationships. He wants us to foster relationships. He wants us to say goodbye to there's a time and season for everything. And he knows exactly where you are and what you need. And it is our job to just say, yes, take a step and say, yes, again, take another step and say yes. Again with each step comes, that becomes or with each step comes that clarity with each step comes that clarity. And with each yes, comes the reward. Whether we see it immediately or not, we are not, you know, think about it. I'm not going to say, see my children's children's children's children's children's children, right? I'm going to be long gone by then. But the steps I take today and the yeses I give God today are creating a future for my family. That I'll never even meet. Think about that, by the way, when you say yes, and you take those steps, you are impacting people right now on this earth that you don't have any clue that you're impacting. I remember one of the years for unbecoming, we talked about the butterfly effect and you know, why the flap of a butterfly's wing can, is strong enough to start a ripple effect that can cause a tsunami or a hurricane, something crazy like that. And it was crazy. Actually, when we, when I think about this there were, we released butterflies. And then very soon after that there were storms. I can't remember if it was hurricanes or something, but there were storms. And I was like, wow, that's interesting that we released a whole bunch of butterflies. And then there were these major storms anyway. I think everything in this world and in the spiritual world are connected. So I am always looking for regulatory, things like that ways to connect to the holy spirit and just to listen to what messages he, he brings to me. And I hear weird messages. I think the other day, in an episode, I was talking about how tire tires being balanced and car alignments, that the holy spirit was using that to speak to me and confirm some things to me, that's just how he talks to me. I just hear things and get confirmations that way. Or he shows me those kinds of things in, in simple everyday things. But you know, that doesn't come without practice and without obedience, I purposefully seek out, what are you trying to tell me today? Holy spirit, what do you want me to do today? What do you want me to hear? What do you want me to feel? What do you want me to see am looking for those opportunities to make those connections? So I think just remembering that too, is being intentional about what you look for and what you're seeking, what you focus on is what you will get. That is absolutely the truth. You can really only focus on one thing at the time. So if you're kind of in a negative space, I promise you you're going to receive negative. If you're in a positive space, then things are going to be more positive. Even if the circumstances aren't positive, you will be intentionally out the positives in that situation. Like it's a lesson learned instead of a failure, right? So you will be seeking out what you can learn and what the positives are for that situation. So what can we do to break down strong walls? When we feel like we are just coming up against brick walls and we feel like, man, if I could just get through this thing, if I could just figure out how to get through, what are some of those things that we can do. So I think a couple of things that I would love for you to take away from this today would be to really think about, first of all, identifying the wall, what is the wall? What is it? What is it made of? Is it made of fear? Is it made of anger? Is it made of hatred, complacency? Is it made of illness and sickness? What about sin or what about self hate, low self-esteem prejudices? What is it the wall made up? Because if you can identify what kinds of bricks that wall was made of, then you will know what kind of tools you need to break it down. So identify what the wall is first. So acknowledge and identify the wall, understand that this is metaphorically, right? You don't have a brick wall standing in front of you necessarily. These might be walls within that are keeping you from getting to your promised land or to whatever it is on that other side. And the only way that you're gonna identify what those are, is to pray about it and ask God to reveal it to you, ask him to reveal it to you so that you see it. The other thing is thinking about being okay with being different and separating yourself from the world. And when I think about rehab again, rehab was a prostitute. She found the redemption that she was looking for because she was able to separate herself from Jericho, right? She was in Jericho and she was separating herself from it. She could have very easily turned those guys in, but she didn't. She separated herself and she was able to redeem herself and her family in that action. So be willing to be a little different, be willing to do something different, be willing to do more than what your neighbor might be doing in order to get to promise. The third thing I think would be to say, yes, be obedient, listen to what it is God's asking you to do and be obedient to that. Just say yes, and then just take one step at a time. That is all it takes one step at a time. That's it? You don't have to figure out how you're going to get to the top of the mountain today. You don't have to figure out how you're going to get the entire wall today down. You just need to say yes and work on that one. Brick. You need to say yes and take that one step. Just sit Mitch yourself to what it is God's calling you to do, and then speak victory over yourself in your life. Speak victory. We have to remember that the power of life and death is in our tongue. So speak victory over yourself. Repeat what it is. God said about the promise about what it is that he's promised us. Repeat that out loud. Call out the blessings that you are praying for. Call out blessings over others, pray for others in your life. Pray for those relationships. Pray for those divine connections and interactions. Pray for the people that you've never even met. Pray for general racial curses to be destroyed in the name of Jesus. And then finally, the last step I think is to just thank him, thank him that he has given us the choice to follow him the choice to say yes, and the choice to take a step and the choice to receive the blessings he has for us. He gave us that choice. We are free to choose whatever it is, but I can guarantee you that your joy and your promises, that in your blessings will be so much more. If you choose to say yes to whatever it is that he's calling you to do, you are purposefully designed to say yes to what he's calling you to. And you just like rehab are able to change the trajectory of all of those people in your life now until forever in your future. If you simply say yes and thank you for the choice to say yes, all right, that is what I have for you today. So God, I just want to thank you today for every woman listening. And even though God, I ramble a little bit and I get off track and I get sidetracked. I thank you God, for the holy spirit, that gives me revelation to be able to just sit here and share with other people. And I thank you, God, every heart listening today, God, every family that's represented by every person that's listening here today. I thank you for her. I thank you for the family. I pray that every generational curse is broken right now in the name of Jesus. I pray that you lay your hands on every situation. God, I pray that you lay your hands on it and we take our hands off of it so that you can do the work that you are able to do. Thank you, God, for the promises, you are a promise keeper. You are a way maker. And I thank you for that revelation. I thank you for that truth. And I just thank you God, for the light that you shine upon us, the light that you shine upon our paths as we take each step. And that light follows us just a little bit ahead so that we can see just the, even a little bit ahead. We don't need to see the whole picture. God, because we trust you. And we thank you that you were just lighting that area where we need to take that one step. Thank you for keeping a light on that. And thank you for giving us clarity as we say yes. And as we take a step in the name of Jesus, we pray and we thank you. Amen. All right, sisters, I will see you inside the Facebook group. Guys. I would love for you guys to be super active in that group so that we could talk. We could hang out. We could create this community. So make sure you hop over there and say hello and give us your opinions and your thoughts on whatever it is, the topic that's on your heart. Because I believe that it is not by accident, that we are all connected, that we are, you know, you're sitting on the other side, listening while I'm sitting here talking. And I don't believe that that's an accident. I believe it's divine. 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EP 48 How Do I Steward What God Has Placed in Front of Me Even When I Don't Feel Like It's My Calling? Making the Most of Every Time and Season for Working Moms What's up ladies. Welcome back to this episode! Today I just want to talk a little bit about something that I am also dealing with, with myself and reminding myself about, and it is about how can I be a good steward of what God has put in front of me, even if I don't think that's the thing, or even if I don't know if that's the thing. I think that's a really important question to asks ourselves because God doesn't do anything by accident. He always wants us to steward wherever he's placed us steward the people steward, the finances, steward the resources, steward, the job that we've been given. He always wants us to steward whatever it is he's put in front of us in a way that that really reveals who he is. So I think sometimes when we're in a season where we're really not sure if this is the thing we're supposed to be doing, let's think about a job. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Maybe, you know, sometimes we have this love, hate relationship with our job and we know it provides it's a source, right? It's not the I'm sorry, it's a resource. It's not the source because we know that source is God, but it is a resource by which we receive our paycheck and we go to work and we do the things that we're supposed to do, hopefully with excellence so that we can earn the paycheck. And hopefully we are the people that are going above and beyond, and we're doing more because we want to have that servant heart. We want to do what it is God's calling us to do. And we want to be our excellent cells and everything that we do. You know, that there's a saying how we do anything is how we do everything. So I believe that no matter what it is, we should be giving 110% and striving for excellence in everything that we do. But sometimes it's that love, hate. Like, we don't feel like getting up in the morning and going to work or maybe we're stressed out or maybe we're overwhelmed or maybe we're just burnt, burnt out. Or maybe we just don't really feel it anymore. We're restless. We don't really enjoy what we're doing anymore. So I was challenged this morning, as I was thinking about something that I was doing and feeling a little disappointed in myself that I'm not getting the results that I want or that I think I should be getting or and feeling a little bit sad or bad about the fact that the people on the receiving end probably aren't receiving what I would say is excellence in what I, what it is I'm tasked to do. So I was kind of convicted as I was listening to a, a group coaching video that I'm part of it was a recording. I had missed the meeting and there was this one thing that somebody said was, you always have to remember that no matter where you are in your journey, that God, whatever God's put in front of you, you have to become a good steward of that because you may not be able to move on, or it may not be revealed to you. Whatever that next step is until you show him that you are going to be a good steward of what he's putting in front of you. And for me, that was convicting. So it reminded me of a Bible story in Matthew 25, 14 through 30. And I'm just going to read through this quick story so that we can talk through this. So it's, or I'm going to kind of paraphrase it, but it is about three servants that were caught called forward. So it's about three servants that were given something and they were delegated responsibilities. The master gave one servant $5,000 and he gave another servant 2000 and a third one. He gave 1000 depending upon their abilities, then the master left. So right off, the first servant went to work and he doubled his master's investment. The second one did the same, but the man with the single thousand dug a hole and carefully buried his master's money. So after a long accents, the master came back in those three servants came back to settle up with him. The one given $5,000 showed him how he had doubled his investment in his master, commended him and said, great work. You drank, you did a great job. You will be my partner. Then the second servant with 2000 showed how he also doubled his master's investment. His master again said, great job. You're you've done a great job and you're going to be my partner. And then the servant, that was the third one that was given the 1000 that had buried his seed or buried that thousand dollars said, master. I know you have high standards in a hate, careless ways, and that you demand the best and make no allowances for error. I was afraid I might disappoint you. So I found a good hiding place and secured your money here. It is safe and sound down to the last cent. The master was furious. That's a terrible way to live it's criminal to live coffin sheet costage costs just li like that. If I knew I was after the best, why did you do less than the least, the least you could have done would have been to invest with the, some with bankers where at least I would have gotten a little interest, take a thousand and give it to one who risks the most and get rid of this, play it safe, who won't go out on a limb, throw him out into utter darkness. So that was Matthew 25, 14 through 30. And that was the message version. And I think it's important because this scripture brings up to me how to steward whatever God's given me. And whether you're talking about money in this, in this instance, it was talking about investing and money and finances. But I also think about you know, I'm teaching students right now pediatric nursing students right now. And I think about them as my investment in am. I stewarding the opportunity I had to make contact, build relationship with them help them on their journey to become a nurse. Am I stewarding that opportunity in the way that God wants me to? And when I heard this comment today on this business podcast that I was listening to, that is what convicted me. I, this is the opportunity I've been given right now. And one of the opportunities I've been given right now, and I need to ensure that each person that I come in contact with throughout this opportunity is dealt with as a child of God. And as a promise that God has given this world, and I have been given the luxury and the privilege to sit in front of and meet up with build relationship with impact these students. And so that is what, when I think about, are you stewarding? Am I stewarding what God's put in front of me? You know, regardless of the fact, if I think this is like my new career path or that kind of thing, I don't necessarily think that teaching students is going to be my next career path or career move, but for this time and place, God has perfect timing. He places these people in these opportunities in front of us at a specific time for a specific reason. So there's some job, there's some thing I have to do in this timing with these people and this opportunity. So I just wanted to, you know, a lot of times when people get up to preach or people get up to worship or people get up to teach a leadership class or I sit and do my podcast, we are preaching to ourselves and teaching ourselves just as much as we're hoping that the content will impact you positively. So I'm in that place where, you know, man, I need to, I need to be more thankful. So thinking about what are some ways that we can actually make sure that we're stewarding what God's given us, the very first thing that comes to my mind is to be thankful, to be grateful. You've got to be thankful for the opportunities. And instead of saying, I have to do this thing, or, you know, I've got to go to work to earn a paycheck. You say to yourself, I'm thankful for this resource you have given me. I'm thankful for the people you've put in my path to learn from and to teach to impact. And I get to do this thing. I get to go to work and spend time with these people that I care about, or these people that maybe you have designed me to be a lighthouse to in this dark time, I get to do these things. So having that gratefulness and thankfulness and that perspective of you get to impact people right now in this time, in this way. Okay. so having that thankful heart, the second thing that comes to mind is trust that God will continue to put you on the path that he wants you on. The other thing is that trusting that God will help us correct errors in decisions that we've made. If we've walked on a path or are walking on a path that is not designed by God, then we can trust that our father will always come after us and always help us course, correct. He will give us holy spirit guidance. He will intervene in ways that we may like or not like, but there will be things that as we are needing that course correction, that he will be that feedback. He will be that provider. He will be that loving father that even though his kids are making those errors are not walking the path that he would like for us to walk, he will still love us. I think about my own children every single time that they make a decision that I do not agree with, or I know does not serve them in the way that they should be served in the way that will impact their lives and fulfill them every time they make a decision that is not going to fulfill them are not going to serve them. Well, I still love them unconditionally. I still want the best for them. I still will be there to help guide them and help them course correct, or to listen or to, you know, give them a hug or without that whole condemning and shame and guilt. And that whole blaming I told you. So, so that's how I think about our father. Sometimes the way that we think about God hinders what we think he can do for us. So if we think that he's there to say, I told you, so I told you not to take that and give us a spanking or make it condemn us and make us feel guilty. That is not the God, the father, that's not who he is. He is there to give us that unconditional love and love us anyway, give us that, that gentle correctness, you know, he, that that's that that thing cuts going in, but it heals coming out, right? He gives us that hard feedback sometimes, but he loves us and heals us as he gives us that feedback. So that's what makes me think about that. Second thing. That third thing that I think about is to no matter what season you're in no matter whether or not you have this hate relationship going on with what you're doing or what's being presented to you right now is to still find the joy in it. Still find the joy, pay attention to the two, whether or not you are feeling fulfilled and feeling that joy. If you're not feeling that joy, then going back to the word and finding that fruit that God's already given us within us. He's giving us the fruit of joy. He is everlasting joy. And so we find joy in him. And we thank him for the opportunities that he's given us. So being and remaining joyful. The last thing I think about is too, and there are many more, I think when you talk about stewardship, it, it is to give of yourself in excellence, give your time, give your talent. Sometimes it's give your finances, but it is give of yourself in ways that, you know, you're being called to give, you know, how you do anything is how you do everything. So if you are not giving what the opportunity deserves, what that person that's in your path deserves, they deserve your light. They deserve your love. They deserve your joy. They deserve your consistency. They deserve your excellence. They deserve your effort and your attention and your empathy. They deserve all those things. So that's what I think of in love and your, and your love. So give of those things to others, and remember also to give of those things to yourself, give yourself, and the other person, grace, in that relationship, steward that relationship. Well understand that sometimes interactions always going to go the way they, they were intended, not how you intended them to be or not how the other party intended them to be. And so giving them enough grace and giving yourself grace, when things don't, aren't working out, as you would hope, and then continuing to just give, give, be a servant, be a servant heart, and love people in front of you. And again, just be mindful that there is a time and a season for everything, and just be mindful that God has placed you in this place on purpose. And I apologize, guys, my, my old dog is out there barking. She wants to come inside. But I just think that giving yourself an excellence is always a part of stewarding that well. So guys, that is the information I wanted to talk to you guys about. I'd love to hear what you guys think about this and and whether or not you feel like you've been able to be in a place of great stewardship right now with what is presented to you right now get over in that Facebook group and let us know what you think about this. And we can all talk about it and live in community together. Thank you guys. Have an awesome day and I'll see you guys on the next episode. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. 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EP 46 How do I Know What God is Telling Me What to Do next- What should I do while I wait on the Lord for Busy Working Moms I am so sorry that I am late posting this episode. We actually had a family member that passed away of COVID. And so yesterday on Friday, we're all of the proceedings and things for that. So I spent the day with family took the day off other than a couple of nursing teaching things that I had to do early in the morning. And I just was not able to get this thing ready to post. So I wanna apologize for the delay, but I'm sure you guys will forgive me and love me through it. So today I wanted to talk about how to take steps when you don't know quite what to do or quite what's next. And I know that some of you guys have probably been been in that season, or maybe that's where you are now is that you're trying to do what God called you to do, but you really just don't know what to do next. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com I am so sorry that I am late posting this episode. We actually had a family member that passed away of COVID. And so yesterday on Friday, we're all of the proceedings and things for that. So I spent the day with family took the day off other than a couple of nursing teaching things that I had to do early in the morning. And I just was not able to get this thing ready to post. So I wanna apologize for the delay, but I'm sure you guys will forgive me and love me through it. So today I wanted to talk about how to take steps when you don't know quite what to do or quite what's next. And I know that some of you guys have probably been been in that season, or maybe that's where you are now is that you're trying to do what God called you to do, but you really just don't know what to do next. Or maybe you are just feeling like you're not hearing from God. If you're not hearing from God, then hop back over to some of those other episodes. I think the last episode too, there's been a couple of episodes. We've talked about how we can hear from God and ask God what's next and that kind of thing. But sometimes we're just in a season where we know that we're being called to do something new, but we just don't know what's next. He, he hasn't shown you the next step. So maybe it is a situation in which your season that you're in was forced upon you. Maybe you lost your job or maybe a plan's unexpectedly changed. And you just don't know what to do. Maybe you feel like you've been stuck in the same situation for awhile which by the way, if you're in that season right there where you're feeling stuck, ladies, that is what I'm here for. I'm here to help you get unstuck. So make sure you hop over to my website at www dot Angie, Tony rogers.com and hop over to the coaching menu and select one of those options. And we can walk through all of those things, all of those reasons why you feel like you're stuck and then get you to a place where we are getting beyond that together. Okay. So regardless of the, cause we tend to fall into these situations and we just sometimes don't know what to do next. We don't know where we're headed. We don't know what we're being asked to do. We don't, it just seems like we just don't know where to go next. We don't know the directions to take, we don't know the actions today. So the very first thing I want you to think about is have you already done the last thing that God told you to do? Have you already done that? Because I think sometimes God gives us a direction or the holy spirit kind of leads us and nudges us to take a specific step or action. And sometimes we are afraid or fearful to take those next steps because we don't know when we step, are we gonna step on water and be held up? Are we going to step on solid ground? You know, what is coming next? And so sometimes we don't actually take the steps that God's told us to take already. And what I can guarantee you is that with every step comes more clarity and comes more, a clear vision of what's next. You know, as you take a step each time you step your perspective, your perspective changes, you're able to see a little further than you did before with each step, you're able to see a little bit to the peripheral, to the sides. You can see a different perspective as you take that step. So the first thing to really think about is have you done what the last thing is that God told you to do, perhaps, you know, or maybe he's already told you to do something and you haven't done that yet. So if that's the case, then take the step because sometimes there is a new vision or a new perspective that's needed, but you can't get there until you actually take that step or do that thing that you've already been asked to do. And if you're not sure if you've correctly heard, then sometimes you can find confirmation and reading his word. Sometimes you can just pray about it. Sometimes you can seek out guidance from a friend who has that spiritual guidance that you're looking for, you know be careful about who you go to about those things. Because, you know, just because God's saying something to you doesn't mean he's always saying something to a friend or a husband or a neighbor or whoever you go to. So just ask for that wisdom and discernment and strength to make those decisions, but really assess and figure out have you done the last thing that God's told you to do? If you have then keep doing that thing until the next step is revealed, he is trustful. He is faithful. He is worthy of the weight. So part of that weight sometimes is that trust that faith, that believing that he is going to do what he says he is going to do, he is the one guiding you. And if he has told you to take a step and he hasn't given you that next step yet, then just keep doing the thing that he's told you to do. The other thing is that if you've taken that step and you haven't gotten the next yet, so really just be wise and be purposefully looking for confirmations that he's looking for. You know, what we focus on tends to be what we see, what we're received, what we perceive. And so that focus and that prayer full ask on what it is that he wants to reveal to us. Just ask him. The other thing is ask him if anything is in the way, God, if there's anything inside of me, that's preventing me to see the vision. You need me to see, to see the next step, remove it from me. You know, maybe it's that we haven't quite gotten the clarity because we haven't finished the action. He's asking us to take, we are still, we have still have a place to learn in this current season that we're in. Maybe we're still being prepared. So really seek out God, pluck those things out of me. If those things are in the way, right? That's your prayer, that's your ask. And you know, he does always give us that wisdom when we ask for it. And when we seek that out and when we focus on, if I'm missing something, God, if there's something in my way, something I'm doing something that's not right in my spirit, then reveal it to me so that I can know and just be ready for him to reveal it to you, be ready for him to plus that thing out, you know, his, his word and his spirit and his guidance is, you know, sometimes sharp going in, but it heals coming out. So just be ready for him to actually reveal those things. So the next thing is is that if you're doing that and you're praying, then sometimes it's just about resting. Sometimes it's about waiting patiently and waiting in a place of peace. Just again, in that knowledge that if he's called you to do it, then he's got a plan. He already has. It worked out. And it's just the season that you're in continuing trying to be restful and encouraging during that time. You know, man, I mean, when I think about the ruthless elimination of hurry by John mark, Homer, that book that I've read recently, there is so much conviction in that weight, that ability to rest, that ability to seek out peace and that ability to rest in the season that you're in and the ability to be able to take some of that time to not be so busy. I mean sometimes busy and hurriedness and always having to go, go go is actually prohibiting you from actually seeing what it is that he wants you to do next. So maybe it is just chilling out and spending time with your family and doing the things that are bringing you joy. Maybe that is the season he wants you to be in versus always having to know that next. I mean, I am a recovering perfectionist as I've talked about and a recovering control freak. And so sometimes it is just that he wants me to chill out and stop trying to control everything that's coming next. And just, just be just enjoy. So maybe you're in a situation where you were in between jobs or you are trying to figure out what to do with your job. You know, there's always this fine line and this balance between sitting on your couch and not really doing much and just say, oh Lord, I'm waiting on you to provide for me, you are to Jehovah-jireh. You are going to provide for me, but you're not really doing anything. So there's always this fine line. Like recently I had applied for a position and you know, if I don't get a call back and I have emailed the HR person and I have, you know, emailed a reference and said, Hey, would you be a reference for me? And I've done those things, then God will then show you which doors he wants you to continue to try to pursue and walk through, or he will eliminate those things. And so you just have to trust that you're doing what it is he's called you to do, be prayerful, be mindful and, you know, rest when he's calling you to rest or rest when there's not a lot of opportunities presenting themselves to you. Well, maybe that's because it's the season where you're not supposed to be being active in, in applying for those jobs. If you're not finding those jobs that you need to apply for, that you feel led to apply for, then maybe it's not the season to be applying. So on the other hand, if you are seeing an opportunity pop up that you think, God, do you want me to do this, then apply for it. And if it's not the opportunity it'll weed itself out because God will divinely set everything up to work out as it should, as long as you are being prayerful. And you're focusing on what it is asking him for that and discernment and making these decisions. So you can do that balance where you're not just sitting on the couch saying, Hey, God provide for me during the, the season of unknown, but you're taking steps and you're being prayerful about it, but you're not always like pressing and running and being busy and just doing things just for the purpose to try to make yourself feel better, better, because you're busy. You know, hopefully that makes sense. And in the season, a lot of the times it is so easy to get anxious and almost fearful sometimes definitely getting worried about what's coming next. Especially if you have financial issues tied to this season of not knowing what's next. I can tell you that that absolutely has been one of my continuous prayers to God is I know that you're a provider. I know that you'd called me out of this one thing and you had a plan and there are certain seasons. And like I've always said before, you know, when I stepped out of my chief nursing officer Rowe, it's been about six months ago. I said, I don't know if it's going to be forever. Maybe it's just the season where I'm taking this time. And I know for a fact that a lot of this season has been time for me to reconnect with family, be available for my children and help, you know, with some homeschooling issues that were going on, which have thank you, God turned around. But I just I know that family and that reconnection with family has been one of the purposes of the season, but that doesn't mean that, you know, in a few months from now that I might go back into doing something similar or not, it just means that I am being mindful of the season and that she's putting me in. I'm listening to all of the cues that he's, it's giving me about the season. And he wants me to learn in, he, I'm asking him to reveal what it is that needs to be fixed within me. You know, to become a better wife. Remember my word for this year was becoming and or to become, and so becoming a better wife, becoming a better leader, becoming a better servant, becoming a better friend, becoming a better mother. So all of those things that, you know, reveal those things to me, what, during this timeframe in this season of uncertainty, do you want me to focus on? And so the other big thing is that when there are financial things attached to this season of not knowing that sometimes anxiety and fear can come up. And for me, the two things that part of me walking away from that position, that I was very comfortable in financially and very comfortable in as far as my confidence in my competence was giving up that control and giving up that financial security that I had and trusting him with all of it. So as I approach seasons throughout these time periods where things are getting tight, or I'm like, man, I don't know exactly where it's coming from. He comes through every single time just today. Another thing came through for me and he will put people in your right path. He will put people in things. I mean, I was talking to a woman of God today and she talked about how in her season, she had a similar situation where she had walked away from some things and she walked up to her mailbox and there was checks in the mail. I mean, you hear this proverbially and you hear this, you know, in a narrative, in a story, but it happens. God will direct people and circumstances in your life. If you are allowing him to do that. Now again, I haven't been sitting on the couch for the past six months. I have been working and, and making connections and going to meetings and doing all of these different things that I've been working on. And so you are doing the same thing too. You are taking those actions. You just got to take those actions that he's calling too. If he, if he introduces a new person in a new opportunity, in a new relationship to you ask him, God, what is this relationship for? What do you want me to do with this? You know, if you see a job pop up in your email and you think, should I apply for this, pray about it and do it, but whatever you do, just remember that anxiety and fear and worry are, are tools of the enemy. They are not meant from God. And so when those things start to creep up, just a reminder to yourself that God, you are the provider, you said you would give me and fulfill all of the things that you have for me. You will fulfill the promises that you have for me. I believe that I received that and I'm just going to keep walking on faith and he will show up. He will show up as long as you trust him and you take the action as you and you do our part, you know, faith without works is dead. So it doesn't come without your works, your actions. So just make sure that you are taking those actions. And I found a prayer actually on let's see, I think it's prayer for anxiety.com. So I wanted to read this prayer to you guys because I think it is just sometimes we just need a tool. Sometimes we need to remember what we can say. So if you're having trouble coming up with that, that word, those word warriors those prayers to be a prayer warrior for yourself, then I want you to think about this prayer. It's on prayer for anxiety.com, dear heaven, heavenly got I faced situations and decisions. It's complicated. I feel confused and lost. Can you help me? Can you show me the light? Can you reveal to me what it is you want me to do? First of all, Lord, calm my heart. Let me know that my peace depends upon you. Not the circumstances, not the situations, but it depends on you. No matter how things turn out, you are at the center of my life. I'm keeping you at the center of my life. I will stand. I will survive. Made your spirit, keep me balanced. God, show me your will show me and reveal to me what it is you want me to do. Give me that strength and wisdom and discernment to make decisions and act and take those steps in the way that you want. Let my mind and heart be open to what best serves truth and life. Let me be aligned with truth. Let me defeat those things that come into my mind that are not of you. Let me be reminded of the truth in the word. Give me courage to do what's right. Show me your word. Reveal it to my heart. Show me with what's within me. That is prohibiting me from taking those steps and seeing what it is. You want me to see God, let me and get, get my heart, right? Let me get my heart right. Let me get my mind. Right? Help reveal to me whatever needs to be, shake him. Whatever needs to be changed. Show it to me. God, make my conviction strong. Send me the evidence that you want me to see. Send me those confirmations that you want me to see. Let, when I hear that song that is confirming something I've already felt in my spirit. Let me look for that. And let me acknowledge that. When I go to you, God, show me your will. And the blessing is guaranteed. It is not easy, God, and it might take some time, God, but I trust and stand on the truth and I trust and stand in. Faith. Love to you. Thank you God, in Jesus name. Amen. So that is the prayer that I wanted to read to you related to anxiety. And I just want to pray for you. Pray that over you today. If you're in a season where you just don't really know what to do, I encourage you to continue to walk, continue to step, continue to pray, continue to ask, ask, and you will receive knock and the door will open. It's there. He just, maybe I'm not ready to reveal it to you, or maybe you are just not taking the step that he's already asked you to take, just do an assessment of it and really ask him to show you and really make sure that you're taking the steps. And you've already done what he's asked you to do. He can't trust you in the next, if you haven't done what you've asked, he's asked you to do already. Okay? So I encourage you. Take the steps, keep going. You are exactly where you need to be. You are in the season. He wants you in, just know that he is with you. He is guiding you and just be intentional about looking for those confirmations. Be intentional attentional about aligning yourself with the word and the truth and be intentional about doing everything he is calling you to do. Okay. Faith without works is dead. Take those actions and with each action comes more clarity. Okay? Sisters, thank you so much. Have a fantastic weekend. And I hope to see you inside the Facebook group. And again, ladies, if you're looking for someone to help you get unstuck in anything that we ever talk about anywhere on this podcast, that is what I'm here to do. That is my passion project. 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EP 45 Follow These 7 Steps to Find More Balance in Your Wholly Made Life for Busy Working Moms: Decrease the Burn-Out, Stress, Overwhelm in your Marriage, Parenting, Job What's up ladies, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life. So today I want to talk to you about signs and symptoms of feeling unbalanced or being unbalanced. And we're going to get into this whole word of balance because I think it's really important. You know, we hear all of these things and I talk a lot about this as well, is that we want to restore that balance in all areas of our lives. But what does that really mean? Downloads for Wholly Made Life Listeners!!  Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com So ladies, before we get into today's episode, a quick word about a special coaching package that I have for you. If you have been feeling unbalanced in some areas of your life, and you've been feeling like you're just stuck and you can't seem to get out of this funk, that's exactly what my coaching package will help you with. We will go through the big idea framework together, and we will come up with an action plan that will allow you to do some small things that equal big results. So jump over into my email actually, instead of my email, jump over to my website. It's at Angie, Tony rogers.com and you can access my coaching menu there. All right. So let's get into today's episode. Okay. We're going to talk about this almost dreaded thing called because I think sometimes it just seems so unattainable. So let's first talk about some signs and symptoms that you might be in a place where you feel unbalanced in some areas of your life. So it can look like burnout or feel like burnout. It can feel like you are constantly busy and you are not really having time to breathe or to do things that you feel like you need to do. It could be that you get to the end of the day. And you're like, what in the world did I even do today? What did I even accomplish? It can be feeling like you're constantly tired and you just can't get a break or you can't get rested. You can't get to a place where you're feeling any peace at all. It could result in physical manifestations like headaches or upset stomach. A lot of times when we're stressed out or when things are going in a way that we're not really able to take care of ourselves because we are just in such an unbalanced place. In some area of our life, we start to have a lot of gastro issues which would be belly or you know, either nausea or vomiting or sometimes diarrhea or constipation. A lot of times our physical manifestations of stress show up as headaches or stomach issues. So bowel problems fatigue, energy loss, those are all things that could be happening. Just a sense of overwhelm, a sense of just feeling stress could be that you're having trouble remembering what it was that you needed to do on your to-do list. Maybe your to-do list is like a mountain that you can not see the top of, or that you can never even get to the bottom of. And so you're just standing in the middle of this mountain, hanging on for dear life, wishing or hoping that you could either start over and get to the bottom or, and go home or get to the top and finally breathe in the air and look at the view. But it's just that you're stuck. Okay. So those are some of the symptoms. So let's talk about my seven steps that we are going to go through to find a sense of balance. Okay. So the first one, well here's what, whatever we're going to do, we're going to spell out the word balance and I have a word and an action for each of those letters. So B well, let's start with balance. So the number one, one thing that we're going to do is you have to define it. There are so many people that say, Oh, I'm just not balanced, or I don't feel right. Or things are not going well, or I'm not meeting all my expectations. I'm never accomplishing anything. But when you talk to them, they're like not, they're not even in a place where they can even define, well, what would it look like to be balanced? What does it feel like? So think about each of our areas of our life pie, which we're talking about, physical, financial, professional, relational, et cetera, and think about, okay, if you felt like you were spending enough energy and time there and feeling accomplished in those areas, what would it feel like? What does it look like? You've got to know what the goal is in order to know that you're meeting the expectations or meeting that balance. So it's so super important to define what balance looks like to you. I hate to break it to you, sisters, but balance is not like a perfect circle where everything is. Even in fact, if you take the Holy made life short assessment, which can be accessed on my website, Andy, to nanny rogers.com, you will see that there are going to be areas in our life pie, where we are scoring lower than other areas. And that's okay for the season that we, or you may be in. In fact, let me read you a scripture. It is Ecclesiastes three, one eight for everything. There's a season and a time for every matter, under heaven at time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant in a time to pluck up. What's planted a time to kill and a time to heal a time to break down a time, to build up a time, to weep a time, to laugh, a time to mourn a time to dance, a time to cast away stones and a time to gather stones together at a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing. So this scripture reminds me that there are seasons for everything. So you have to understand that even if your scores are uneven or unbalanced, quote unquote, I'm doing air quotes, then you still might be in a season where that might be okay. You just have to give yourself permission to be okay with that. And to still give yourself credit for meeting the expectations. Here's a great example. Let's say you've got a big project at work that you're working on. Well, maybe you have to work those 10 or 12 or 14 hours a day during the season where this project is, maybe that portion of your life pie needs more time for you right now. So, so the key is to be intentional about the other areas of your life, you know, with your relationships, making sure you communicate, Hey family, this is a project that I'm going to be working on during this season. And this is what it's going to require of me. And here's what I need from you to support me in this. Here's what I need for you to remind me when I'm falling short of certain things. Maybe I'm not getting enough sleep well, you've got to balance some of that. You can't go, you know, every single night for three weeks with zero hours of sleep. So you've got to have somebody there that's going to help hold you accountable to that as well as yourself, but also having that intentional conversation about, Hey, it's gonna be more energy and time and focus in my professional piece of the pie right now during this season. And then once that season's over, we will refocus and reallocate some time to maybe the relationship piece of a pie. Okay? So that's an example of how we are in seasons. We are always looking to be in balance based on the season and the needs that we have for that particular time. The other thing about balance and making sure that you add this to the definition is that it is on going, it's ongoing. You have to make peace with the fact that you are going to have pieces of your life pie that require more time than others at different times in your life. And you have to know that being balanced and creating that balance is based on a definition that you can actually maintain and meet expectations from. And you're always working on it. You're always assessing it. You're always trying to create that balance. You're being intentional about that. So it's ongoing. You have to know where you feel and find joy. The fruits of the spirit include joy. So you have to make sure that you are finding joy somewhere, because the more places that even if they're small, that you can identify that you find joy from that will help keep the levels of burnout and stress and overwhelm down because you're still able to find that joy. All right. So we talked about it flexing. That means that it's, it's gonna be, it's going to wax and wane, you know, with your seasons. Okay. So that's B that's balanced. The second one is a, and we're going to assess and acknowledge. So what this means is that you've in order for you to kinda know what's going on, you've got to pinpoint the feelings and emotions and, and mindset that you have around what's going on right now in your life with your life pine, with all of these different pieces of your pie. You've got to assess what that looks like. You've got to make sure that the definitions that you, you created up and be in the balance, the definition still makes sense for today because today's definition of what balance looks like might be different than yesterday or three months ago or three years ago, or before you had kids, or before you had your fourth kid, or before you took this new job before you quit your job before your kid went to college, whatever. Okay. So you've got to have that assessment, and then you've got to acknowledge those places that you are identifying that need a little bit of work and then be intentional about creating that plan to do a little bit more in that area. Okay. The third is L which is left. There are so many, especially when you're in a place of unbalanced, there's so many, or when you perceive you're unbalanced, I guess there are so many times I talk to ladies and they say, I don't remember the last time that I actually laughed. And this goes into kind of restoring that joy again as well, but laugh, loosen up. Don't hold yourself to such a standard that a perfectionist couldn't even meet the standard. It's okay. A false balance is an abomination to the Lord, but just adjust. Wait is in his delight. That's Proverbs 11 one. So loosen up a little bit and understand that it's okay to laugh. It's okay to have fun. It's okay to purposefully schedule something in your day that, you know, you're going to find that fun and that joy and that laughter in you know, there's a lot of studies that say, laughter in of itself, adds years to your life because it reduces stress. It releases endorphins. There's a physiological response to smiling and laughing. I remember one of it was Bryson my youngest, where when he would get hurt, I would say, laugh it out, laugh it out because it actually physiologically releases endorphins and your body kind of switches to dealing with those pain feelings that are happening to the endorphins that are a more powerful hormone that gets released. So definitely adding laughter to your day is something that can help overall. Okay. The fourth step is going to be a, and that is going to be a line. Now I found this very interesting and I don't know why I got on this tangent, but I started thinking about tires being balanced and alignment for your car. And I thought, okay, which one comes before or after the other? And I just started looking it up and I just found it pretty interesting. So first of all, let's define a line. So online means to get a person place or thing to put into a straight line, or it means to commit yourself to being either for, or against something. It means to bring into alignment, you know you remember your third grade teacher telling you, you can't use the word in the definition. Well, when you read definitions online or wherever you're reading from Wikipedia or wherever, it always has the word in the definition somewhere let's see. It means to put into the exact correct place often in relation to something else or to arrange an Alliance or to be parallel. Okay. So I think about that in two ways, one alignment with the word of truth in the Bible. Number two, again, I just started thinking about how a car needs their tires balanced and needs the alignment done routinely in order to keep it safe. It's self safe, it keep it from being destroyed on the road. So let's talk a little bit about this because I found some parallel, no Palm words information. So you know, drive, meaning where's the way at your car and it's not just, you know, on paint chips and scratches and that kind of thing. It can where the entire inner system of your car to where your entire car stops running or is so damaged that you can't drive it. Well, I think of that as life, life wears away at us, right? If we're the car life, where's the way it is sometimes, especially if we're not being intentional about creating this quote unquote balance that is only yours, okay? It's not mine, it's yours and yours is not mine your balance. If we don't get intentional about this, we start to wear away and we start to friction starts to tear at us and we start to get worn and we start to get shaky and we start to vibrate and on different levels. And, and we're just not we're not balanced. We're not able to meet our tires on the road in a way that helps us be suspended correctly. The tires themselves help to blunt the worst part of the impact when you go over potholes bumps and other things in the road. But these impacts jar the suspension components. If your wheels are out of alignment, which then starts to damage all the underpinnings of the car. Now I am by no means on mechanic, but I just found this somewhat parallel to what it taught It, what, what I'm talking about today. It just reminded me of this. So I thought it might be helpful just to kind of share through that. Okay. So it's recommended to rotate your tires regularly so that they keep even where I thought that was very intuitive. We have to continually SS, as I talked about what our definition of balances and whether or not we are in with the truth, with the definition and with our activities, with our intention ality, because otherwise we start to wear unevenly, our relationships get worse, or we start performing poorly on our job. If we are not regularly rotating our tires or balancing our tires, okay. Balancing our life, coming up with that definition, assessing that on an ongoing basis, then we start to experience uneven wear and tear in our lives. Okay. I thought that that was kind of a parallel. And it's not just what we see. It's the inside stuff that starts to stuff that we can't see that starts to make the car shake excessively or have poor vibrations to the point where again, the car is not able to run as it should. So sometimes our lack of focus on what expectations we're holding for ourselves or what definition we're using and constantly beating ourselves up that we're not meeting it. Sometimes those things go unnoticed until we start to fall apart or still until pieces of our pie start to fall away or start to fall apart. So it's important to regularly on an ongoing basis, assess what needs to happen in our lives to help us feel and create and meet these definitions of those. Yeah. Okay. Another thing with alignment was that it can help the tires, the things that meet the road, the, when the rubber hits the road, it helps them perform properly longer. It helps them with stand those potholes and all of the impact of the hard stuff, hitting it longer. So when you keep the tires aligned, it helps them perform better monger. It helps maintain the entire vehicle handling so that the vehicle doesn't pull, despite the fact that you're trying to go straight, if your wheels become unaligned or, or unbalanced, you are starting to pull to the right or pull to the left, despite the fact that you are trying to keep the steering wheel straight, that is like life again, if we're not being intentional about creating that balance and all of our areas of our life, or we're not acknowledging that, Hey, my professional piece of my pie is going to have to need more time and energy right now. And this is how I'm going to intentionally set up my during this time. If we don't do that, then we start to shake and we start to pull off in one direction and leave the other one on behind. And it starts to damage those, those areas. Okay. Okay. So that was my comparison to a tire alignment and balance in what we're talking about. Okay. So let's get to number five, which is the N okay. I really wanted another B in here because I wanted to say that boundaries, but I'm going to say no, no, no, no. You know that song by Destiny's child? Something about no, no, no. That's okay. I can't remember the song and I certainly am not going to sing it, but you have to create boundaries. You have to say no. Okay. Ladies let's count on the count of three. Let's all say no one, two, three, no. Okay. So I hope that you said that with me now, my question is, did you die? Did anybody throw stones at you? Did you know, is your life over? No, no, no, no, no. It's not because there are times ladies that we have to say, no, we have, you have to be able to prioritize. Especially if you've taken the time to define what that balance is, define what piece of the pie you're going to have to spend more energy in and what you're going to do to protect the other pieces during that season, you're going to have to prioritize. And sometimes you're going to have to say, no, you're going to have to put boundaries in place and say no, sometimes. So we'll leave that one there. I know that one's hard, but you know, I encourage you to try it, try saying no. Sometimes if it means that you're going to add something to your life, just if you're already feeling busy and you're already feeling like you can't sleep and you're already feeling like you don't have a time to breathe in your day and your schedule is managing you, instead of you managing your schedule, then saying yes to something else is probably not the right choice for you. All that's going to do is not serve you, your family. So practicing now, okay. The next letter, and this is number six, and this is, is claim it have courage and care. Okay. That's overboard. It's three CS. It's three things. But I just want you to think about once you've set, those knows once you set those boundaries, claim it and stick to it. Okay. And then, you know, have that courage to continue to make decisions that serve you and your family and your friends and your areas of your life pie in a positive way. Make sure that what you are saying yes, to what you are defining as your balance, as your seasons for your certain pieces of your pie, make sure that that's serving you and it is serving whatever it is God is calling you to do. Because part of that balance too, in that definition is that spiritual, which is what is God telling you to do? What is the Holy spirit guiding you to do? And are you being intentional about making the time to do that and to spend time in that piece of your pie? Okay. And then care. I added care in there because care is something that I think for us, it's just really hard. It's hard because we don't take time to care for ourselves. We got to care for ourselves spiritually. We got to care for ourselves. Physically. We got to care for ourselves financially. We got to care for others, but you've got to make sure that you are doing something to take care of yourself. It's the same thing. Like when you're on an airplane and it says, put your oxygen mask on yourself first, before you help your child, same thing. You cannot help others if you are not helping yourself. So you've got to work that in. Okay, ladies, the last step, the seventh step, the E is empower. The word empower means to give someone the authority to do something, to allow authorized commission. Well, I am allowing you. I'm authorizing you. I'm commissioning you to walk in bold courageous action to be exactly who it is. God called you to be and give yourself grace, give yourself mercy, give yourself forgiveness, allow yourself to be imperfect because that's how God's created you and allow yourself to have an ongoing assessment of what you're doing in your daily action. What you're doing in your weekly action, your monthly action, what you're doing to achieve your goals, acknowledge what you're doing to achieve those things. You are enough. You are meeting all of the expectations that you need to because you're creating that intention reality around. I don't even know if that's word, you're creating that intention to be purposeful about what you're doing. None of us are perfect. So don't hold yourself to that. You are exactly who God's called you to be. You're equipped with exactly what God has given you to be successful in all the areas of your life. Whatever's going on in your season. That's placed there. You're equipped for it. Okay. I've got a couple of other scriptures that I wanted to mention throughout this. Of course, you know, I got long-winded and I got sidetracked and I didn't mention it. But we, we talked about Ecclesiastes three, one through eight, about the seasons. I want to talk about Philippians four, eight. I think it is. So finally whatever's true. Whatever's honorable. Whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely. Whatever is commendable. If there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things, fine. Those things. When you are in that alignment stage, when you are aligning yourself to the truth and to the word of God, make sure that you have that focus on those things that are true and honorable and just, and pure and lovely pay attention to those things and work those things in to your plans. Something else that I thought of was the story of Mary and Martha in Luke, Luke 10 38 through 42. Now, as they went on their way, Jesus entered a village and a woman named Martha welcomed him into her house. And she had a sister called Mary who sat at the Lord's feet and listened to his teaching. But Martha was distracted with much serving and she went up to him and said, Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve you alone? Tell her then to help me. But the Lord answered her. Martha, Martha, you are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her. Oh, that one is convicting, especially for a person like me. And probably a lot of you ladies listening, we are always trying to be everything to everybody wearing all the hats and we net, we want to juggle all the balls and we never want to stop juggling. We never want to take off any hats. And the reality is we were not created for that. There's a time and a place and we cannot forget what it is we're called to do. We're called the praise. We're called to worship. We're called to pray. We're called to nurture our spiritual piece of our pie. We've got to make sure that we put time in our day to do that, to go to the one who makes us strong, where we are weak, when we're feeling that overwhelm and that stress, we ask the Holy spirit to guide us so that we know where do we put our intentions during this difficult season? Or where do I find the joy and the love and the peace again, when I'm feeling anxious or when I'm feeling troubled or when I'm feeling like I can't find that joy anymore, go to the Holy spirit, go to God, go to Jesus and ask him for his guidance because we cannot do it alone. And we weren't meant to do it alone. Also, another thing that it reminded me of is, is call a sister, call a friend, email me, get on, get on my website and, and hit one of those contact me buttons. And I'll get on the phone with you, reach out to somebody that is like-minded ethic, and that can help you create that plan that you might need help with. Don't suffer in silence. None of us are going through this, that another sister can't help with. I mean, I think it's very purposeful that when I'm going through something, my sister, friend is not. So my sister friends ready and equipped to be there in my circle, in my life for that time and that timing. And I think that you're that rock for somebody else. In other ways, all of us ebbs and flows. All of us are not in crisis at once. And I think that's purposeful. God knows exactly who we need and when we need them. So don't forget to use your community when you are in a place where you're feeling a little unbalanced, you might just need a little bit of that help the other great thing. And my pastor mentioned this during a Bible study a few weeks ago, this is so interesting. And I think it plays right into us as women and, and this whole notion that we have to be perfectly balanced and we have to wear all the hats and do all the things for everyone. And we are busy, busy, busy all the time. Well in the Bible, God is always calling men to him to go. He's telling men to go, go to the mountain, go, go, go, go get your pickup, your nets, and come or drop your nets and come. He's always telling them to go. But when he goes, when he is talking to women, he goes to where the woman is. He goes to the woman at the well, he goes to Mary and Martha's house. So when Jesus comes to us, he's coming to us. Why? Because we are women. We are doers. We are juggling. We are being everything to everyone. And he knows that he designed us. He knows how we're wired. He knows how we're built, but I just wanted to, that was such a revelation to me where, you know, he's always telling the men to come to him, but he's always coming to us. So he's right there. And he will come to you where you are doing what you do. So I wanted to point that out because I thought that was awesome. I think there was one more step a scripture. Okay. Yeah, it was prowess, Proverbs 16, 11 adjust balance and scales are the Lords. All the weights in the bag are his work. So it, again, it's just a reminder that we are not supposed to be perfectly balanced without God. We have weaknesses that are made strong in him. Guess what? We can't be made strong if we don't have the weaknesses. If we don't have those areas that need his help, we need him for that. So don't be afraid to ask for that. All right. Let's review because I've gone a little bit longer than I wanted to go, but I hopefully it made sense and hopefully it wasn't too rambly, but let's go through the seven steps again. We're going to balance, we're going to defend it defined it. Excuse me. We're going to assess on an ongoing basis, we're going to laugh and loosen up and give ourselves some grace. We're going to align ourselves to the truth and make sure that our actions are in alignment with the definitions that we've created. And we're not holding ourselves to a, a false or higher standard than is necessary for the season. We are going to say, no, we're going to claim it. We're going to walk in courageous action and we're going to care for ourselves. And finally, we're going to be empowered to do what it is God's calling us to do and empowered to make these adjustments on an ongoing basis so that we can create that intentional balance in our lives. All right, sister, friends, thank you so much for listening. And if this helped you, or if you have a sister friend that you think this might help, please do me a solid and share it with them. Just click it and send it to them on a text or post it in your Instagram or Facebook stories. That is what helps us get the podcast showing up for more people when they are searching for content that might, they might find in this podcast. 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EP 44 How Do I Hear from God When I Don't Know His Voice? 4 Steps to Hearing from God Every Day: PRAY: Position, Relationship, Apply/Act, Yes/Yearn Hey ladies, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. We are in episode 44 today, and today we're going to talk about something that I think people think about and wonder about sometimes, especially when our circumstances aren't always satisfactory or something that we would wish upon ourselves when those circumstances get hard situations, get hard. Sometimes I think this question comes up and that is how do I know that I'm hearing from God? Or how do I hear from God? And today we're going to talk about a acronym that spells out pray P R A Y, and how you can quickly remember how it is that you can get ready and be willing to hear from God. So let's get into today's episode. Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Hey mama. Welcome to Wholly Made Life™ where I believe that you are not created to do just one thing in your life. Well, you are not just your job, your title or your salary. You're not just a mom or a white versus sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made to lead in all areas of your whole life. Your life is like a pie that's made up of different pieces that create a complete circle and girl, you deserve to enjoy the whole pie. Hi, I'm Angie Tinetti Rogers and mama. I know you are really good at what you do in your profession or business, but if you're ready to stop ignoring different pieces of your pie and reclaim your whole life, then you are in the right place. Girl, let's tap into the whole life. God has for you and experience that God sized fulfilled life together. We're going to walk through some boundaries, leadership mindset and restoration in different areas of your life that may need to change. It's going to be some tough work up in here, girl, but we're going to walk this thing out together, uncovering some bull courageous actions that we can take to experience, not just a good life, but your whole life. Are you ready to live your whole life, Holy made? Let's do it. Hey, what's up successful mama. Listen, I know you are a success driven woman, so I know you're successful in your job or your career, your business, but I also know that there's something going on in your heart or your mind where you're feeling a little unbalanced or a little off as a mom or as a wife, or maybe in another area of your life. Are you unsure of what this thing is? You've been feeling, but you know, there's something missing. You're wanting something more. Do you wish there was a way for you to feel balanced in all areas of your life? Says, what if you could go from feeling restless or burnt out overwhelmed or stressed out all the time to actually restoring the joy and feeling balanced in all areas of your life? Well, let me tell you, I have felt this way. We've all felt this way sometimes where we've just been off or felt unbalanced, but it's when you're stuck and you can't really get past it when you might need to reach out for some help. And that's where I'm here for you. Listen, I believe you're not created to do just one thing. Well in your life, you're not just your job or your title or your salary. You're not just a mom, a wife or a sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and you're made to lead in all areas of your whole life. God has a specific intention for you in all areas of your life. You deserve to have joy and feel completely balanced in all parts of your life. You can actually feel successful as a mom and a wife and a friend and at work. So are you ready to reclaim your whole life and happen to God-sized fulfillment and all areas of your life? Well, friend, I have something for you. I can help you find that balance again and help you rediscover. God's big idea for you and your life. We're going to go through an hour session where we are going to get you balanced. We're going to fix the foundation of your Wholly Made Life. And we're going to go through my framework of idea, which is identity, identify, define, embrace, and activate. We're going to go through that entire framework to get you back to where you feel equipped to lead a balanced life in all areas of your life. Okay, we are going to do this thing together. So I encourage you today to get over to my website at www.angietoninirogers.com so that we can talk about scheduling a coaching session for you, where I can help you find that balance again. Okay. All right, guys, I will see you on the inside of the episode. Let's go. Okay, ladies, welcome back to this episode. And first and foremost, I want to thank you so much for being here. And I would love if you have not already to hear from you in a written review with hopefully five stars. And so if you haven't left a review, would you do us all a favor and hop over there on the iTunes, in a click, write a review, put whatever it is that is on your heart to put in there and click those five stars. That is the best way that Apple shows this podcast to other women just like us when they're on here searching for a podcast that might be good for them. So thank you very much for doing that. Now, today, we're going to talk about how to hear from God and I wanted to use the word pray P R a, just so that we could walk through how to hear from God. So the first letter is peep and that is position. So one of the things that I find very interesting is that we have to be in the right position. Our heart position has to be in the right space. Our mind position has to be in the right space, our mood, our emotions, all of those things have to be positioned to be able to hear from God. So I think it's important when you are positioning yourself to hear from God, to really think about why you're needing to hear from God. And when it is that you desire to hear from him, most, I have made a daily practice throughout the day to talk to God and to ask him, Hey, what do you want me to learn from this? Or what do you want me to do today? Or what are you trying to tell me through this interaction that I have all these emotions coming up from, or if there's a circumstance going on that feels kind of yucky for lack of a better word. What is it that you're trying to show me through this? So positioning yourself for a consistent listening in on what God has for us. I feel like that's number one. You don't want to get into a place where you're seeking out to hear from God only in circumstances that are hard or circumstances in which you need something from him. You know, God's not magic, he's not a genie. He is a friend. He is a father. He is a wonderful counselor. He is our provider, but this is a relationship. So that brings me to the second letter, which is R which is relationship. If you think about relationships that you guys have, and that I have, I think about friends that I've had in my past, that I haven't talked to in years. Well, it's going to be pretty impossible for me to hear from them if I don't do something to nurture or rekindle that relationship. So I think about some high school friends, for example, that I haven't talked to in years, well, I'm not going to hear from them because they are not reaching out and being purposeful and I am not reaching out to be purposeful. So the difference with God is, is that he yearns for us to always be in relationship with him. So he's not going to let us go void. He's not going to let us go without him or without him reminding us who he is and our lives, but we have to be willing to be looking for those reminders. You know, if one of my friends from high school picks up the phone and calls me, I have to be available to answer the phone, right. Or I miss that opportunity to catch up with, or that be back in relationship with that friend. So that's what it, I think about when I think about being in relationship with God being in relationship. You just think about a friendship. Those friendships that you have that are thriving are people that you are in relationship with living life, with those of the best friends that you have typically, because those are who you are in daily or weekly or monthly relationship with. Now. I also have friends that I haven't talked to in awhile and maybe we meet up quarterly or something like that. And we pick up to where we left off. So those are different kinds of relationships in which we can maintain, but there's not a lot happening in the, in between. God doesn't want that kind of relationship with us either. He wants to be in our lives daily. He wants to be in relationship with us every day, which means we have to be available for when he calls us. You know, I think about metaphorically, the phone ringing. I don't get to hear the person on the other line and be in relationship with that person unless I pick up that phone. So he wants to be in that daily relationship. So I have to be positioned to hear from him. And I have to be in relationship with him in a place where I am able to pick up that phone call. I'm able to recognize when he's trying to reach out, to talk with me or to urge me or to nudge me with something, okay, this the a is going to be to apply or act. Now, this one I think is very important because sometimes when God talks to us, it is something that is a difficult thing for us to hear because God is he, his word and his conversation with us is, can be sometimes convicted ding, but it's without condemnation. So sometimes we hear things from him that are hard. And if we don't apply what we're hearing from him, or we don't act on what he is nudging us or urging us to do, then it's very likely that we're going to stop hearing from him. Or we're not going to hear from him as much because he can't trust us with what it is he's directing us to do. So I think that's important to remember that we have to apply or act. Another place I want to think about right here is distinguishing the voices that we hear in our thoughts in our mind from each other. So, you know, I think a lot of times God talks to us in our thoughts, in our mind, in the things that we come across, I think he uses circumstances and people and books and music and all of those things to confirm what it is he's trying to say, or maybe if we've missed his phone call, he sends us a word through a sermon at church, or he sends us a word through a friend that, that we do pick up the phone for, or if sends us a word through a worship song. I think that he tries to use all these different ways to communicate with us. And part of us hearing that is being in position to hear it and be intentional about seeking out that friendship and relationship with him. But I think because things come in our mind and our thoughts, it takes practice to distinguish, is it his word, or is it the word of the enemy or is it my own fleshly thoughts and, and, and emotions. So if it's you, if it's your thoughts, typically the, our own thoughts come to us with some sort of logic or a analysis it's analytical. It it's similar to what we would say to ourselves, or we would say to other people. So it's, it's logical a lot of times when it's our own thoughts. The second thing is if it's of the enemy, if it's of Satan, then it is going to be more condemning or negative or a revengeful accusing blame guilty guilt written and shameful. So it definitely not aligned with the truth. So I think if you are having those thoughts and you're asking yourself, is this a loving thought, or is this a condemning thought, is this a negative? Is this destructive? Does this destroy kill or steal from the livelihood of myself or my family or others? Does this push blame on someone else? Because none of those things are aligned with the truth and aligned with God. So I think also it's really important to distinguish your own thoughts, which should be logical and analytical and, you know, similar to what you would say with Satan's the thoughts of the enemy, because the, the enemy will use our thoughts and make us think that that's truth. And so when we're having all that negative self-talk, that is from the enemy. So that is not even us, we're even confusing our own thoughts with what the enemy is trying to make us believe. So God's words, God's conversation with us is aligned with the word it's aligned with the truth. It's kind, it's loving, it's full of grace and mercy and forgiveness. It's encouraging. It has wisdom that is aligned with the truth. It's convicting without condemning us because he wants us to, he loves us the way they we are and who we are, but he doesn't want us to stay in that place. He wants us always growing and learning and becoming who it is he's calling us to be. And he can only do that through a loving conviction, convicting our heart, polling our heart in our thoughts and our mind and our emotions to know that we are being pulled to something that's a little more uncomfortable or we're being convicted to repent, which means turnaround and change. We're being convicted too, do something different without makeup us feel guilty and shameful. So if the guilt and shame comes with it, then that's from the enemy. But the conviction may be there. If we allow it to go into guilt and shame or anger or resentment than we are, we may be hearing God's word, but we are allowing the enemy to take that word in, twist it. And it inhibits us from doing, applying, acting in the ways that we're being called to do. And then finally his word is healing, you know, and, and kind of like the conviction without condemnation. When he sends a word to us, sometimes it cuts going in, but it heals coming out because that's the nature of our God. So I think it's important to distinguish and always ask those questions about what is it that I'm hearing and is it me? Is it of the enemy or is it of God? And then finally the why is yes. And, and also yearning. I think, I think we have to yearn to have a relationship with God. And I think we have to be able to say, yes, yes, God, I want a relationship with you. Yes, God, I want to hear you. Yes, God, I will follow what it is you're guiding me to do. I mean, sometimes God asks us to do things that are hard, like, you know, six months ago when I left my position that I had worked for, for all of my career that required a yes from me. And it required a relationship with God that I had been intentionally building with him over the past many, many years, but he didn't ask me to do that in a place. I wasn't ready to do it. He asked me to do it. And I, in relationship with him, questioned him and threw some tantrums and argued with him and looked for other confirmations about, am I here? Is this you guys? Or is this me? What is this? Who is this coming from? So I did that, the work to make sure that what I was hearing was from him. So I think that there's such a value positioning your heart, making sure that the reason you're wanting to you hear from God is a reason that is to be in relationship with him, hear from him, to love him, to just be living life with him at your side. But having that, that relationship that is an ongoing relationship. Yeah. Applying and acting in a way that is consistent with, so what he's actually asking you to do, and then giving him your yes, and then also yearning for more yearning to become more to please him. And again, we don't have to work to please him. He loves us where we are and who we are. But I do think that he calls us to grow and cause us to become, because there are so much potential in each one of us and all of that potential is necessary to impact those people that he's going to place in our lives to be in relationship with us all for the glory of his kingdom here on earth. You know, I find, I found it interesting before I close out here. I was in a service recently and I was thinking about this episode and my pastor started talking about Samuel on how he was sleeping in the same room as the, the arc of the covenant, the same room with the spirit of God yet. He had never heard God's voice. So it is possible that if we are not positioned and we're not in relationship, and we're not showing God that we will apply what he's asking us to do and saying that yes, it is possible that we could be in the same room with him and not ever hear from him. So there's gotta be intentionality on our part to hear from him. Finally, he heard from God after three or three times, I think is when Samuel was being called by God. And he didn't know God, even though he was in the same room with the Ark of the covenant covenant. So again, I think it's so important for us to just be intentional. If you want to hear from God, then you got to be intentional about creating that space, creating that stillness, creating that relationship with him, where, when he speaks, we're open, we're ready. We have our phone on, we have it on, on, we don't have it on silent. We have it on sound. And we're going to pick up that phone call when he calls us. And then we're going to be able to recognize that it's him instead of somebody else like Satan or yourself trying to disguise yourself. So ladies, that is what I wanted to talk with you about today. And just so remember, prey position really apply or act and say yes and yearn for more. That's how I think we can start practicing from here or to hear from our daddy. God, thank you God, for this time with these ladies, God, I thank you for every single lady that's represented here. Every single woman that is here represents a family. And I thank you, God, that you are moving in her life so that she is able to impact those, that she is around those in relationship with her. I pray God that the voice of Satan is distinguished so that we know when the enemy is coming to destroy and kill and steal what it is you have for each of us. God reveal that to us, reveal yourself in your word to us. As we work to distinguish what it is we're being asked to do and what it is we're experiencing and what's happening around us, God reveal yourself to us so that we may see you for who you are, which is hope and light and provision. And, and I just thank you, God, that you are here with each one of us today. And I thank you for the strength and the wisdom and discernment that you're giving each woman that is here listening today in the name of almighty Jesus. Amen. All right, ladies, I will see you guys on the next episode and make sure you hop over to the Facebook group to join us in community and remember to leave that review so that we can share this thing with other women have a great day guys. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. 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EP 43 Am I Too Flawed, Cracked, Weak to Serve My Purpose? Am I Equipped to Do What God Has Called me To Do? What if I Feel Inadequate, What if I am not enough? Hey ladies, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. Today. I'm going to tell you a little story that I actually heard several years ago in a leadership training. And recently over the past couple of weeks, I've heard it again by a lady named Vonnie Lopez, who is a pastor preacher, and also my pastor, Stephanie Harrison. And I just thought it would be a great story to share with you ladies, because I think it reminds us how God can use us, despite our circumstances, despite our history, despite all that we've walked through that we think disqualifies us from doing his work for his glory in his kingdom. So today I want to talk about a story about a cracked pot. All right. So it is a story about a lady who needed to get water from a well daily. And back in the day, whenever it was that this story occurred, she had to walk through the city up and down Hills and make a Trek every day to get water. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com   So she had a contraption that she put on her back. It was a stick that went across her back and on both sides were a bucket or a pot. And the, she walked and as she got water, one bucket would stay full and work really hard to keep all the water inside the bucket and the other bucket or the other pot had a crack or a series of cracks. So despite how hard this little clay pot or this little bucket try, he was not able, or she was, was not able, we'll say to keep the water inside herself. And so as the lady walked from the well back to home, she would lose water all the way home. Yeah. Now I first want to talk about the, well, this is something that was quite a revelation that I got in a Bible study again with my pastor, Stephanie Harrison. And she talked about the well and how in the Bible we talk about things that happen at the well, well, one thing to know about the well, number one, and this is kind of an aside from the story, but one thing we want to know about a well is that it is a community spot. It's a place where all the village or all the people go to get their water. So you go into a community into a village setting where there's a community well, where everyone is getting water from the well that's important because it shows you that no matter what happens when you are in a community, that there is water present, there's water. There. There's always someone there to help you get what you need from that. Well, whether you have a bucket or not, whether you have a pot or not to dip into that, well, to get the water that you need to sustain you, there's always somebody there that will give you or help you with getting that water. You come, and you don't have the bucket that you need. You can get being guaranteed that in community, there will be a sister there that will be there to support you and be able to help you draw water from that. Well, so that was a regulatory thing that I just I thought that was so powerful because so many times we try to do this thing by ourselves. So many times we try to solve all the problems. Number one, we don't go to God. First, number two, we don't reach out to our sisters who are there in our community to support us. Now, if you don't have sisters to support you, then hop over to the Facebook group of Holy made life. Because there are a lot of sisters there that can, we can commune together and we can work to support each other. There is no pride in keeping what you need and what your struggles are to yourself. He did not design us to be alone and be individual. He didn't design us to get help that way. He, yes, we need to go to him first. But he also, if you think about how people were, were going to the well and these communities, I think as pastor Stephanie said, that is a purposeful, meaningful thing that he wants us to go to community, to get what we need from the community. Just as in him. Now, again, he is always number first. That's what the Bible says, correct? Order is, is God, your spouse, then your children, and then everyone else. Okay. So you got to keep things in order. But the point is, is that we have to commune with each other and where, where I am weak, someone else, one of my sisters is strong. And the same thing when you, Oh, this is so powerful. When you are struggling with something, there's a sister in your community. That's not struggling with that thing right then. So she can be your strength and your your place where you can go to get that encouragement and support to say, listen, SIS, you can do this. The word of God says you are fearfully and wonderfully made and you are strengthened in him. So and when two or three are gathered together, he's in the midst of us. So, you know, there's a reason why all of us don't struggle with something at the same time, because we're here to support each other and help each other. When I'm down my sister's up. When my sister's down, I'm up. And that's how it's designed, it's designed so that we can support each other. Okay? So this lady walking to the well, every day, one pot works really hard to stay full. The second pot has several series of cracks and no matter how hard this pot tries, water trickles out. So the time by the time she gets home, the pot is almost empty or half full, half empty. However, you want to look at that. Okay. So one day the as the, as the woman is walking, the pots are talking to each other. And the one that is full, both about how she can keep her pot full and she doesn't spill, not a drop. And so she is able to provide for that woman once she gets in her home. Okay? So she, this pot is boasting about this. And this other part that has a series of cracks is saddened and burdened and feels not adequate. And not enough. This cracked pot feels like she's not serving her purpose. And so she feels condemned and guilty and shameful that she can't do quote, unquote, her job that she was designed to do, which is to carry water back to the home. So she thought, so isn't that like, God, that sometimes he has a plan for us. That's different than what we think our purpose and our plan is keep that pin that right there, because we're going to get back to that. Okay? So as these parts are conversing and the cracked pot is getting more and more frustrated, finally, the crackpot, as they're getting ready to go on their journey to the, well, again, this morning, the crackpot builds up some strength and some courage and decides to speak to its owner, to her owner. And the crackpot says to the owner, just let me go, just put me down. I cannot serve you. How you need me to serve you. I have cracks. I can't carry the water. Like you need me to, I can't serve you in your home. Like you need me to, I am not worthy. Don't carry me anymore. I am a burden to you. All it is is just a burden. And so the owner says, Hey, little pot, as we walk to. And from the, well, I want you to pay attention to the surrounding rather than working so hard to keep all the water inside of you. Once I get this water, I want you to look out and look forward and look around and pay to your surroundings. And I want you to tell me what you see. So as they're walking back after the owner has filled up both pots, the full pot is snickering and laughing that she is keeping her pot full and not a drop is falling out. She's working really hard to stay full. The other part though follows her owners directives, and she starts to look out and look around. And as she starts to look at the path on her side of where her owner carries her, she sees a whole array of colors. There's a whole array of colors and it is beautiful and it is vast. And it's so life-giving. And so she said yes to the owner owner, why is my side full of color? And my sister side is, is empty and barren. And the owner says, I knew you had it cracks all along. I purposed you because I knew the cracks that you had would pour out water onto the side onto the ground. And so, in preparation for you, I put seeds in the ground, knowing that you would sustain life. As I walked with you, as the water fell through the cracks. So you all along have been purposed and use to create a harvest, to feed the ground with your water. Your water has fed the ground so that these flowers could grow. So you have shared your worth with the world. It's one thing, ladies, to be who it is your call to be in your home. And that's 100% important. It's an additional thing to not only be who it is, you're call to be in purpose for in your home, but also to spread that beyond the walls of your home, to spread that purpose out into the world so that others are impacted by your purpose. In the other thing, is that those cracks would you thought made you not adequate and not worthy are the very thing that makes you purposed makes you exactly who God's called you to be at this very moment. Those cracks history, that thing that happened to you, all of that is on purpose. As far as being used. It's, you know, God doesn't want bad things to happen to us, but he doesn't waste things that have happened to us. He wishes that we don't have the cracks. Yes, of course we do. And he does too. However, what he's not to do is waste those cracks. He's going to learn, he's going not learn. We're going to learn how it is that he has designed us to be and how he wants us to use the stuff that's happened to us. Use the cracks that we have to water the people around us with his life, with his glory. So I was just very impacted by that. Again, I just felt it and received it differently than I did years ago when I first heard this in a leadership training. And I just think it's so relevant. There are so many things going on right now. And there are so many reasons why we tell ourselves that we're not good enough. We're not adequate. We have too many flaws. We have too many cracks. You know, we can't do what we think that we should be doing when all along those very cracks. Those very flaws are exactly what purposes us to make the impact that God has designed us to make. So today, God, I just want to thank you for each lady. That's listening to us today. Each of us have cracks and flaws and God, we thank you today for purposing us to use our flaws, to use our story, to do it anyway, do the things that are hard, do the things that are scary because you've called us to walk and step in authority. Despite our cracks, despite our history, despite our upgrading upbringing, despite who our mama was, despite who our daddy was do, despite all the things that we think disqualifies us, those are the very things, God that you have said, that's what qualifies you. Let me tell you, I am thankful that God has called us and equipped us with what we need for right now in this very moment. And each of you are equipped. You have exactly what you need right now inside of you. God, I thank you for opening up our hearts. I thank you for opening up our eyes to see ourselves as you see us. And I ask that you, that you reveal the purpose that you have for each one of us so that we can walk in the authority that you have already given us. God, I ask you to reveal it to us now so that we know what it is you're calling us to do. I ask you to open up our hearts, open up our spirit so that we can receive what it is that you've called us to do. Thank you God, for the cracks. Thank you for the flaws. God, thank you. Because in our inadequacy, in our, not enough in our weakness, you said you make us strong. You make us strong in our weakness, in our cracks and our flaws. You fill in those gaps. And we thank you for that in the name of Jesus. Amen. All right, ladies, that is today's episode. Thank you for listening in and as always guys, if you need any assistance, if you need any help, if you want to reach out I'm available. Angietoninirogers@gmail.com, by the way, I just launched my website. Finally, it's been under construction for so long and it's finally up. So you can find all of my coaching menus and information. You can find your new podcast episodes. You can find my favorite things and any other resources that I've ever talked about on the podcast, on my website. And that is https://www.angietoninirogers.com So hop on over there and you know, leave me a message so that I know what it is that you, you are looking for. I would love to hear from you so that I know, Hey, what are the things that you want me to talk to you about? What are the things that you want to commune about? Because sisters, that's what we're here for to support each other and help each other. Walk this thing out. All right. Okay, ladies. See, on the next episode…    

EP 42 What is the Symbolism of a Lighthouse? Stand Strong, Mama, You're Not Too Busy to Be the Light, Hope, Peace, & Joy Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life. Ladies. I'm so glad that you're here today. Joining me. I am always grateful for those of you who are listening and get to share a few minutes with me a couple of times a week. So again, I just want to thank you for always tuning in and listening. And by the way, I also want to thank those of you who have left to review and who have shared an episode here or there with one of your sisters who you think might benefit from the information. So, so my ladies today, we are going to talk about standing strong young lady because you, my friend are a lighthouse let's get into today. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Download your free gift from me! Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Take the Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com Hey guys. Welcome back to this episode. So today, ladies, I want you to stand up strong. Go ahead. Actually, if you're not driving, go ahead, stand up, put your shoulders back, put your chest out. Brace yourself with your feet a little bit shorter. We shoulder length apart and just look forward and stand strong young lady because you, my friend are a lighthouse. I don't know why a lighthouse has just kept kind of appearing to me as I'm driving through. I'll see something that says light house, or I drove, I drove by a church that has a program called the lighthouse, but I decided to go ahead and talk to you ladies about a lighthouse because as I started studying and looking through things and thinking about the lighthouse, it made me think of you ladies, because you ladies are a lighthouse. So let's talk about it. A lighthouse is a tower or a beacon or a structure containing a light to warn our guide ships coming to shore or to help assist with aerial navigation. It is a powerful light that cuts through the darkness. It stands strong through damaging storms. It AIDS in navigation for the loss, for the weary, for the confuse. And even for the disoriented, it is a symbol of strength and individuality or uniqueness. It is a symbol for safety. It withstands those powerful storms. So it is resilient in nature. It gives a sense of hope and a safe Haven when the ship or the captain is, has been out to sea and they are pulling in and they finally see that light, that small glimmer of light, it provides hope in the distance for them to be guided safely to Harbor. A lighthouse is something that overcomes challenges and adversities. You can think about it in that way, where no matter what kind of storm or rocks or waves are on the shore, no matter what kind of damaging winds, the light house stands and the light burns on. The other neat thing about lighthouses are that they're local hated strategically and intense. They're not everywhere. They're specifically placed in areas in which it is dark. It is in an area where, where it will light up the most hazardous or dangerous of coastlines. So it's strategically placed intentionally placed in the most hazardous and most dangerous places. And this is to guide the safe entry of ships to harbors, or again, that aerial navigation. So while these were wildly used in the past, operational lighthouses have declined. So the use of operational lighthouses has declined. Interesting. I feel like because the use of lighthouses have declined because of the, of the maintenance of the lighthouse. Now, I find that interesting because it makes me think about our culture. If we are lighthouses symbolically, how expensive does it have to get until we decide that we need to become an operational and stop shining our light because it gets too expensive in this culture. It's too expensive to stay peculiar or stay unique, or stay individual as an individual that shines light in the darkness through challenges through adversities. Think about that. How it's expensive. Does it have to get for us to go ahead and throw in the towel and shut down our lights? Just a thought that I want you guys to think about this. The other neat thing that I think about with lighthouses is that the job of the light house keeper. So the light house building foundation is strong, but there needed to be a light house keeper to ensure that light kept burning so that it would never go out. The person who tended to the lighthouse was keeping the light so that even in the most dire circumstances, the light would continue to burn so that people could find their way in darkness. I think about the light housekeeper as our God, the God is always there keeping us and the Holy spirit within us is always burning as long as we decide to stay operational in that function of shining light. Right? I found this very inspiring when I started to think about what a light house does, what it's for and the spiritual connection of, or the, I guess, the symbolism that I think of when I think of the job of a lighthouse to be the only glimmer of light in the darkest of the dark, the only glimmer of hope in the most hazardous, confused, disoriented situation, that my sister is what we are called for to be light for others, to be a glimmer of hope for others, to always shine the light that is within us and never let it burn out. So that at any point, anyone coming into our circumstances in our life, in our circle, if they are suffering through a storm, if they are walking through darkness, we can be that glimmer of hope and that light that helps guide them into shore safely back to where it is they need to be to light themselves up again. I just, I find it's so parallel. And especially when you think about the fact that because of the expense, a lot of lighthouses has gone have gone on operational. They've stopped operating because of the expense that just reminds me of the culture in which we live. Everything always pounding against us to try to tell us that it is too expensive to continue to shine our light through all of this darkness. Think about 2020. We were pounded and pounded and pounded with confusion and anger and hate. And those of us who were symbolically house chose to keep shining no matter what was happening, everybody around us could see that we're still standing strong. We're still that structure. We're still that beacon of hope. We're still that person that can guide people back to shore, back to a safe place. We still help the lost navigate their way. The weary come find rest and peace with us. We were not the ones creating the division. We were creating unity through loving and shining our light on others. That's what a lighthouse is. It stands strong, despite adversity, despite challenges, despite the expense, it stays in operation 24 seven to shine the light through the darkness. So, wow, that was just something that for whatever reason, the Holy spirit dropped in me. And so I looked up some verses to see what I could find that would parallel or align. And some of the verses that I came across were John eight, 12. Again, Jesus spoke to them saying, I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life. I don't know about you. But that to me is paralleled with what we're talking about. Being that light house, Matthew five 14 through 16, you are the light of the world. A city set on a Hill cannot be hidden nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand. And it gives light to all in the house in the same way. Let your light shine before others so that they may see your good works and give glory to your father who is in heaven, give glory to our light house, keeper, our God, wow. Psalm 43, three sent out your light and your truth. Let them lead me. Let them bring me to your Holy Hill and to your door. Guide them back, guide them back to the shore, to the safe place, to God's arms. I mean, so good. I feel like so good ladies. I want you to think about how you stand strong and who it is. God's called you to be the light that he's put within you. The Holy spirit that is moving and burning within you. He has so equipped you to be that light, be that shimmer, that glimmer of hope to all of those around you. And even when you are feeling in a dark place or in a place where challenge after challenge is coming and beating up against you like the waves do against the rocks. That's a time for you to burn even brighter, praise, even harder, seek out the other lighthouses in your life to help them guide you. You know, sometimes we are on those ships in the sea that need to find that tiny little glimmer of light up on that hillside to help guide us, find other lighthouses in your life that you can go to when you are the captain on a ship that is sailing through some storms and sailing through the dark. All right, ladies, I we'd love to pray for you today. So God, I want to come to you today and just thankfulness and praise. I want to praise you for each and every woman listening to this podcast today, God, every family represented here today. I speak blessings over them. Now in the name of Jesus, I speak your hope, your light, your strength, your wisdom, your peace, your safe place that you give them to come hide. I pray that they are overwhelmed with that peace and that love today. God, I pray that they walk strong in the Holy spirit, equipped miraculous gifts. You've given them on the inside so that they may be a shining light to all of those that encounter them. Thank you God, for every single heart that is touched today, that is changed today. That is reminded today of how much you love her. Thank you God. For changed hearts, transformed minds and awakened spirits. Thank you God. For shining light upon the gifts that you have given your children of the promise. We say yes to you, God. And we say amen. In the name of Jesus. Amen guys. I will see you guys on the next episode. Hey, what's up successful mama. Listen, I know you are a success driven woman, so I know you're successful in your job or your career, your business. But I also know that there's something going on in your heart or your mind where you're feeling a little unbalanced or a little off as a mom or as a wife or maybe in another area of your life. Are you unsure of what this thing is? You've been feeling, but you know, there's something missing. You're wanting something more. Do you wish there was a way for you to feel balanced in all areas of your life? Says, what if you could go from feeling restless or burnt out overwhelmed or stressed out all the time to actually restoring the joy and feeling balanced in all areas of your life? Well, let me tell you, I have felt this way. We've all felt this way sometimes where we've just been off or felt unbalanced, but it's when you're stuck and you can't really get past it when you might need to reach out for some help. And that's where I'm here for you. Listen, I believe you're not created to do just one thing. Well in your life, you're not just your job or your title or your salary. You're not just a mom, a wife or a sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and you're made to lead in all areas of your whole life. God has a specific intention for you in all areas of your life. You deserve to have joy and feel completely balanced in all parts of your life. You can't actually feel successful as a mom and a wife and a friend and at work. So are you ready to reclaim your whole life and happen to God-sized fulfillment and all areas of your life? Well, friend, I have something for you. I can help you find that again and help you rediscover. God's big idea for you and your life. We're going to go through an hour session where we are going to get you balanced. We're going to fix the foundation of your Holy made life. And we're going to go through my framework of idea, which is identity, identify, define, embrace, and activate. We're going to go through that entire framework to get you back to where you feel equipped to lead a balanced life in all areas of your life. Okay, we are going to do this thing together. So I encourage you today to get over to my website at www.angietoninirogers.com so that we can talk about scheduling a coaching session for you, where I can help you find that balance again. Okay? Okay. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review and you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us. You're five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.  

EP 41 Why Am I so Burnt Out Stressed Overwhelmed Restless Let's Talk About the Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer Get the Book: Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer Get the Big IIDEAA Journal! ==> https://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal For my yoke is easy. And my burden is light. Jesus said that in Matthew 11, verses 28 through 30 today, we're going to talk about how to make our burdens more lights from the teachings of what Jesus said. Let's get into it. Hey ladies, before we get into this episode to talk about how his yoke is easy and his burden is light and why we get so stuck about living that out. I wanted to let you know about a new free gift that I have for you. It's called the BIG IIDEAA journal. It is a 26 page journal that you can download and use and go through the Wholly made life, short assessment, and start to go through some journaling prompts and things that will help you start on your journey to going through your identity, identifying areas in your life that you might need to change, defining it, embracing where you are, where you're going and activating, coming up with an action plan and then assessing, okay. Thinking about, okay, what is it that's going well and what needs to change? So I've got a journal for you that I created. You can go to https://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal And that will get you your free copy of this journal that I created for you guys. And this is just for my Holy made life ladies. So I wanted to let you know, also that link will be in the show notes and you'll be able to grab that. But I wanted to let you know about that free gift for you. I just released it. And I wanted to make sure that you guys were the first to get a copy because after all you guys are my girls, you're the ones that made it for all right. All right, let's get into it. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Hey, what's up successful mama, listen, I know you are a success driven woman, so I know you're successful in your job or your career, your business. But I also know that there's something going on in your heart or your mind where you're feeling a little Unbound or a little off as a mom or as a wife, or maybe in another area of your life. Are you unsure of what this thing is? You've been feeling, but you know, there's something missing. You're wanting something more. Do you wish there was a way for you to feel balanced in all areas of your life? Since what if you could go from feeling restless or burnt out overwhelmed or stressed out all the time to actually restoring the joy and feeling balanced in all areas of your life? Well, let me tell you, I have felt this way. We've all felt this way sometimes where we've just been off or felt unbalanced, but it's when you're stuck and you can't really get past it when you might need to reach out for some help. And that's where I'm here for you. Listen, I believe you're not created to do one thing well in your life, you're not just your job or your title or your salary. You're not, not just a mom, a wife or a sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and you're made to lead in all areas of your whole life. God has a specific intention for you in all areas of your life. You deserve to have joy and feel completely balanced in all parts of your life. You can actually feel successful as a man and a wife and a friend and at work. So are you ready to reclaim it your whole life? And it's happened to God-sized fulfillment in all areas of your life. Well, friend, I have something for you. I can help you find that balance again and help you rediscover. God's big idea for you and your life. We're going to go through an hour session where we are going to get you balanced. We're going to fix the foundation of your Wholly Made Life. And we're going to go through my framework of idea, which is identity, identify, define, embrace, and activate. We're going to go through that entire framework to get you back to where you feel equipped to lead a balanced life in all areas of your life. Okay, we are going to do this thing together. So I encourage you today to get over to my email angietoninirogers@gmail.com so that we can talk about scheduling a coaching session for you, where I can help you find that balance again. Okay. All right, guys, I will see you on the inside of the episode. Let's go, come to me all year, who are weary and burdened, and I will give you, take my yoke upon you and learn from me for, I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy. And my burden is light. Jesus said that in Matthew 11, verses 28 through 30 today, we're going to talk about how to make our burdens more lights from the teachings of what Jesus said. Let's get into it. Hey ladies, before we get into this episode to talk about how his yoke is easy and his burden is light and why we get so stuck about living that out. I wanted to let you know about a new free gift that I have for you. It's called the BIG IIDEAA journal. It is a 26 page journal that you can download and use and go through the Wholly made life, short assessment, and start to go through some journaling prompts and things that will help you start on your journey to going through your identity, identifying areas in your life that you might need to change, defining it, embracing where you are, where you're going and activating, coming up with an action plan and then assessing, okay. Thinking about, okay, what is it that's going well and what needs to change? So I've got a journal for you that I created. You can go to https://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal And that will get you your free copy of this journal that I created for you guys. And this is just for my Holy made life ladies. So I wanted to let you know, also that link will be in the show notes and you'll be able to grab that. But I wanted to let you know about that free gift for you. I just released it. And I wanted to make sure that you guys were the first to get a copy because after all you guys are my girls, you're the ones that made it for all right. All right, let's get into it. Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life. And I am excited to share with you today about a book that I recently read. It is so amazing. Okay. So the title of this book is called the Ruthless Elimination of Hurry and it's by John Mark Comer. So the first quote that he has in the book is it is a scripture and it is come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest, take my yoke upon you and learn from me for, I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. This is what Jesus says in Matthew 11 verses 28 through 30. So this book is all about hurry, the hurriedness and the busy-ness of our lives. And I just want to read a little bit more and I will put a link in the show notes to this book. You can find it anywhere on Amazon. It's an audio book. I've listened to it a couple of times on audible. So I will put a link to this book because I think if you are anything, like I am the busy-ness is such a distraction in our lives. And I want to talk and I want to talk about it because it's about time that we get okay with eliminating the hurry in our life. So he says this on page two of his book. My life is so fast and I like fast I'm type a I'm driven. I get it done type of guy, but we're all past that night. Now I work six days a week early to late, and it's still not enough time to get it all done worse. I feel hurried like I'm tearing through each day. So busy with life that I'm missing out on one more on the moment and what is life, but a series of moments. So he talks about hurry and busy-ness and talks about, is this the way of Jesus is this who I'm actually becoming? He talks about all of the focus on being busy and hurried and out on the actual moments of our day, he talks about always being in a hurry, rushing to become somebody that he doesn't even like. He doesn't want this in his life. And I don't think that you do either. And so this book is all about eliminating hurry. So he talks about an inventory that we can take. And I'm telling you, this book was life-changing. I'm going to have to read it again. I've listened to it twice. And I'm about to go through the written part of the book. But here are 10 symptoms that John Mark Homer says that might indicate that you are a victim or a participator you're in the life of being hurried. All right. Number one is irritability. Number two is yeah. Hypersensitivity. Number three is restlessness. Number four is workaholism. I know none of you have ever heard of that one before. Right? number five is emotional numbness. That's a really good one. Number six is out of order priorities. Number seven is lack of care for your body. Number eight is escapist behaviors. Number nine is slippage of spiritual disciplines. And number 10 is isolation. I don't know about you, but I feel like we just hit on every area of our Holy made life pie. If you are in a place where you are feeling irritable or hypersensitive or restless, or you're working way too much, or you are nonstop activity, like you're go, go, go. You can't stop. You feel like you are having to keep a pack schedule. And even when you don't have something to do you feel like you should be doing something emotional numbness is like, when you are numb to the things going on around you, like example. When is the last time that you remember laughing did seriously? When you think about your day, do you recall laughing and feeling joyful today out of border priorities? Yes. That is their lack of care for your body. Oh my goodness. How many of us are in such a hurry that we grab a quick bite to eat on the way home from the fast food restaurant? We don't remember the last time we had a healthy home cooked meal. You know, we are living on coffee and diet sodas with caffeine, maybe we're drinking bangs or some other type of energy drink. What about the fact that escapist behaviors? I can raise hand on this one that I used my workaholism to escape the places or the things that I felt less competent in. Maybe you're just so tired that you don't choose to do things that would impact others positively, or maybe create that quality time that your husband is looking for. So you, you turn to whatever your distraction of choices like Netflix or social media, I don't know about you, but it was, It would be a really neat experiment. I think if you wrote down every single time you picked up your phone to check an email or check to check a social media site, literally that's an assignment, okay. For the next day, the next 24 hours, when you get up, I want you to make it tick in a notebook or however you keep track, but make a little tick of how many times you pick up your phone in idle times where you check social media, where you check an email, where you go back and see how many likes you got on your story, or how many viewers you got. I guarantee you it's much more time than you probably even realize is going to that. Okay. Number nine, talking about the slippage of spiritual disciplines. I don't know about you, but when you're in a hurry, when you get over busy, the things that are truly life-giving like prayer, like reminding yourself of what God says about you using biblical principles. And the only way you do that is by opening up the BI B L E. Those things tend to fall off. What about those Wednesday nights? At least for me, where it's church night and you are just so swamped or so busy that you're like, ah, maybe I'll just watch online instead of getting yourself to the church building where you'll be surrounded by other people who you love and love you. And you can gather together in a praise and worship. Those are the things that tend to slip. He goes into an entire chapter and maybe it's more than that on the Sabbath. That's a whole 'nother section that I won't go into, but, and then finally, isolation, isolation, w you know, when we are feeling hurried and busy, it is like a domino effect. We start to feel disconnected from God, which makes us feel disconnected from others, which makes us feel disconnected from ourselves and who we are and who we're becoming. And then we forget to talk to God. It's like this vicious cycle. So if you were to think about these things and score yourself in irritability, hypersensitivity, restlessness, workaholism, emotional numbness, out of order priorities, lack of care for your body, escape, his behavior, slippage of spiritual disciplines or isolation, that's 10 items. How many of those would you raise your hand and say, yep, that's me. Yep. I'm guilty of that one. Yep. I fallen into this other one. How many? Five, seven, eight, ten one. I'm telling you right now that when things feel a little out of control or a little unbalanced, a little overwhelming, I can raise my hand for all 10 of these. If you can raise your hand for at least half of these, then you may be in that may be an indicator that you may be living a hurried busy. So as far as this book, first thing as we always talk about ladies is awareness, personal awareness. You gotta be aware of what's going on. You got to stop long enough to recognize where a problem might be. You know, when you're feeling that restlessness or that overwhelm or that stress, or you're just not finding the joy and things that you used to anymore, or maybe you're thinking back on your day or maybe a week and thinking, man, have I even laughed about anything? If you're in a place where you're feeling that way, number one, get this book, it will change your life. Number two, grab a coaching session with me. This is exactly what I worked through with my clients. So grab a session@angietoninirogers@gmail.com. These are the things that we are identifying and defining. We're embracing where we are. We're coming up with an action plan to activate to make a difference in these areas. And then we are assessing to make sure that we are staying on the right track and evaluating to make changes as we need to. Okay. So I just want to remind you of that, but this book I'm telling you is absolutely amazing. So let me give you a quick cliff notes of what some of the solutions are that John Mark Comer, the author of the Ruthless Elimination of Hurry recommends. So the first solution is to discuss time. We all have the same amount of time every single day. So what he talks about is to slow down and manage your time effectively. The greatest thing that in the world that we can do is to become aware of what we're doing every single day, so that we can manage our time in a way that is beneficial to really work towards who it is we are intended to become. You know, we did all throughout my time, working in mental health and in social worker arenas, we did what we called time studies. And I can remember the groans now when it was time to do our time studies. So this is where for a certain block of time, let's say you work an eight hour shift and it is every five minutes or every 15 minutes. You have to label what you did during that block of time. And you have to do that for your whole shift. And usually we would do it for an entire week. So if you work a five day work week in an eight hour shift, then you would have to every 15 minutes label what it was you were doing. And I will tell you those people that were being honest in their times, it was eye opening because there were so many times where you would look at those results and you would see that, wow, you're spending so much time on emails. You're not getting to any of the actual day-to-day operations that you should be participating in. Or there were so many different times where let's say you had a 15 minute block and you would have several different labels during that 15 minutes, it showed a lot of distractibility or you were not managing your time. Well, so you would start an email and then get interrupted with a phone call and then somebody would be at your door and then you would go get a glass of water, and then you would come back and eat a snack. And then you would answer the phone. And then you would answer an email. And, you know, by the end of an eight hour shift, it's like my goodness, what did I do all day? So if you have never done a time study of sorts, I would take as many, much as it feels kind of annoying. It is so eye opening to take a look at what you're actually doing in a day. So from the time you wake up to the time you go to bed, I would say one of the first things that you should do is just do a time study. It doesn't have to be elaborate, but just keep a little record of what you're doing. And maybe you do it an hour blocks. So it's a little bit easier to manage, but that will at least give you an idea of what you're doing throughout the day. Okay. The second thing he talks about is the secret, the easy yoke, and, Oh my goodness, this was so good. You guys, this is on, this starts on page 75 of his book. I'm telling you, you guys have to get this book. Okay. He talks about the easy yoke and he talks about Jesus saying that his yoke is easy and his burden is light. So really what does that mean? It talks about the way that Jesus shouldered the weight of life, living as a human being, walking this earth and experiencing thing that we have experienced. So when we think about ourselves, it's the way that we shoulder the weight of our lives through marriage, through to force through prayer, through money, through sex, through conflict, conflict, through government, through a law, all of those things that we are all shouldering as a weight. And if you think about what we've had to shoulder through the weight of life, this past year in 2020, and halfway into this year, it's the way in which we carry that. It's the way in which we shoulder that weight. Yeah. Two oxygen that's yoke together to pull a cart, to plow a field. The yoke on the oxygen is how they shoulder that load. What made Jesus unique wasn't that he had, it was that he had an easy yoke think about it. And I have never thought about this scripture in this way before, but yes, I know that, you know, he's got an easy yoke and his burdens are light. I never really attributed to it's because of the way he shoulders that weight. And he's calling us to shoulder the weight, but to give him the weight that we're carrying in our lives so that he can shoulder it for us, shoulder it in a way that will make it light. I just, I was, I was blown away by the way that he talked about the easy yoke and the light Brown that Jesus carries. So let me read this again to you. The scripture come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest, take my yoke upon you and learn from me for, I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy. And my burden is light. This is from Matthew 11. And I'm paraphrasing a little bit. Think about that. This is like an invitation from Jesus to live, how Jesus is calling us to live. It's like saying, are you tired? Are you burnt out? Are you overwhelmed? Are you stressed out? Are you restless? Come to me, daughter, come to me, get away with me and I'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. I'll show you how to rest. Walk with me and work with me. Watch how I do it. Jesus is saying to us and inviting us, learn from him, learn the rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me. Stay with me, learn from me. Talk with me, walk with me, be at peace with me. And you will learn to live freely and lightly too. That's what God's saying. That is what this author is reminding us. It's an invitation for us. We're tired. We're burnt out. We're stressed. Yes. We're stuck. We're going through our to-do lists. We are on caffeine just to make it through the day. What if we didn't have to live like that? What if we were able to give ourselves permission? Not to be hurried, not to have to check off that last thing before bed. I mean, what if we accepted this invitation to allow him to show us how to shoulder the weight of life so that it is a light burden? My goodness, that's good right there. You can't tell me that's not good, but here's the thing we want that life. We want that easy life. We want that easy yoke. We want that burden to be light. We want to be able to shoulder that weight of light so that it is light, but Jesus didn't just live that life. He wasn't just about that life. He lived and walked and talked a lifestyle. It's like, we want that life, but not willing to adopt the lifestyle behind it. That's what this author says. And yes, that might give you a little spiritual spanking or a little personal awareness. But that's the truth. Sometimes we make things so much more difficult because we're not really working intentionally to adopt the lifestyle that he modeled for us. And not only that, he modeled this lifestyle, but he gave us equipment that we are to use to help us create this lifestyle. The equipment is the yoke. A yoke is a work instrument. It's a thing that helps us bear the responsibilities that we have in life. It's a way that he can help us use a piece of equipment. Metaphorically called a yoke that helps us shoulder, the weight of life in a bearable way. You guys, the ticket is not to think about an easier life because he never said that we'd have an easy life. He says, when the trials and tribulation comes, when the struggle comes, we will be prepared, right? He will give us what we need while he has said to us, yes, that he has an easy yoke. He has an easy and a light burden. He is not saying that we're going to have an easy life. He's saying that he's given us the equipment to shoulder the responsibilities and bear the responsibilities that we have in our life. That can be hard sometimes. Yeah. Revelation. That's what this is. Okay. So he does say that there are four solutions and I'm not going to give you all the details around these, because I know that this book for my listeners, you ladies, that are sitting here listening to the Wholly made life. I know this book is for you. So I just want you to go get it. And I don't get a daggone thing for you going to get this book, other than knowing that this book is going to be a gift to you and your life. Okay. All right. So the four solutions that he mentioned, and you're going to have to go get the book to dive in, to see what these mean. All right. Number one, silence and solitude. Number two, the Sabbath number three, simplicity. And number four is I lost it slowing. Okay, ladies, I hope this was helpful. And yes, I just dropped the mic and like slam the book shut because this book is like a mic drop moment. Okay, ladies, I urge you go out and get this book. It will be such a gift to your life. And like I said before, if you are working through these kinds of things and you're feeling stuck, jump over to AngieToniniRogers@gmail.com, let me know that you're ready for a coaching session and we will walk through this thing together. All right, ladies, I will see you on the next episode of Wholly made life, where we can live it out together and live whole wholly. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.  

EP 40 How Accurate are Personality Assessments? Are Personality Tests Effective for Defining Who I Am? Do I Need to Be Concerned about my Emotional Intelligence? Oh girl, you are such an introvert! Hey, you are way too analytical. You are such a high achiever. You are such a type A! Oh no, I can't do that. I'm an introvert. I am way too shy for that... You're the life of the party. You are like a magnet. Everybody comes to you everywhere you go. Have you guys ever heard of any of these kinds of things? I'm a type, a personality.  I'm a partier. Maybe you have heard that you are a, like... a dictator. Well, all of these kinds of things come from personality traits and there are so many different personality assessments out there. And I just wanted to give you a soft warning about personality tests today in this episode, that's what we're going to talk about. A warning about all of the different personality tests actions. Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angie@whollymadelife.com Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Welcome back friends to this episode of Holy made life. Before we get into it, I want to talk to you for just a minute. Listen, I know how you might be feeling right now. There's a lot going on around us. And I think that that impacts how we feel about our ability to feel successful in all areas of your life. There's something going on in our hearts and our minds. And we're just feeling a little as a mom or a wife, or maybe we feel like we're putting too much into our work and not having enough energy and love left for our spouses, our kids, and all the extra things that we have to do. You know, maybe you're unsure of what this thing is you've been feeling, but you know that there's something more and you're just trying to figure out what you can do to get to a place where you feel more balanced. Again. You know, if you wished there was a way to feel more balanced and successful in all areas of your life, you know, you wish maybe that you can go from feeling restless or burnt out, overwhelmed, stressed out all the time from not being able to meet all of these X pay expectations and all areas of your life. You know, we can get to the point where we can actually restore that joy and the feeling of satisfaction in those areas that we feel a little off in. So, you know, we feel this way sometimes, right? All of us feel a little stuck sometimes, but there are times that we feel like, man, I just can't get past this. And those are the times that you got to reach out for help. I believe that you're created to do all the things in your life well, and that you're more than just your job or your title or your motherhood, or being a wife. You are more than all those things. You're so wonderfully and fearfully made and you deserve to have that joy to feel fulfilled in all parts of your life. And so does your family, so you can have it. All. What I want to do is invite you to come have a session with me to go through the five things that will help us get ourselves back to where we want to be. We're going to walk through rediscovering your identity, identifying those areas of your life. That might mean a change, defining what success looks like. How do you even know if you're getting there? If you don't know what you're going after, we're going to embrace where you've been, who you are and where you're going, who you're becoming. We're going to embrace that because only you can get to where you're destined to be. And we're going to activate those things by coming up with simple action plans that you can implement in each area so that you can start to feel more balanced and meet that expectation for you in your life. And then we're going to reclaim feeling that balance and our whole lives. All right. So hop on over to Angie tune, anyRogers@gmail.com and I will be so excited to talk to you and walk through this idea framework together. Okay. All right. So today we're going to talk about something that I think is a pretty neat thing, and it is the spiritual gifts. Now I want to pause for a minute here and talk a little bit first about the amount of weight that we put on things such as personality assessments and even the spiritual gifts assessment. You know God has made us who we are for a specific purpose. You know, all of us have gifts that differ. And it's all according to the grace that he has given us to let us use those gifts that we have actually Romans 12, four through six says for, as in one body, we have many members and the members do not all have the same function. So we don't many are one body in Christ and individually members. One of enough having guests that differ according to the grace, given to us, let us use them. And so that's speaks to the fact that we're all made different. So I want to just have a balance here of what it is and who it is God's calling us to be. We need to be very, very clear of our identity in Christ. Jesus. We need to be very clear about what the Bible says about who we are that always comes first. And then when we take these personality assessments and I've taken, I mean, probably all of them, not all of them, I guess, but many, many of them throughout my time in the social work and mental health and behavioral health field, we take personality, assessment galore. And quite frankly, a lot of those traits or characteristics or ways that I do things or how I experience things. A lot of those ring true. But some of it doesn't. So yeah, it's important to know first your identity in Christ, so that when you take these assessments, you are able to gauge that and see if it's aligned with who it is called. God's called you to be pray about those things that are out of place or feel a little bit different than what you feel like you experienced life as. So sometimes things come back and assessments that make you feel a certain way. Like, man, I don't really feel like I experienced life that way, or that's not really me now. Number one, I asked you to think about the feedback and really see, is it really not like you? Or is it an area that is a area I don't call them weaknesses. I call them areas for growth. Is it a place where you can grow or get that feedback and just get some insight on how you might be able to change a little bit in that area to experience life a little differently, or use some of those areas for growth to become more impactful or effective in that area of your life. But ultimately it has to align with the word of God. It has to align with what God has said about you. So remember that as I talk through this spiritual gifts assessment, okay. There are lots of different assessments. The Myers-Briggs I know people talk about the Enneagram and you know, there's a lot of controversy, especially among Christians with that one, because that one was rooted in pagan roots. And so obviously that is a controversial one, but I think that with anything, because guys, we live in this world, we are of this world, but we're not from this world. So we are going to be impacted. We're going to be surrounded by, you know paganism things. Is that even a word? I don't know we're going to be impacted by the culture of this world. It's just important though, that we take a stand and have that basic foundation of who we are in Christ, who we are in a biblical worldview, so that when things don't align around us, in our culture, in personality tests, that we are able to call out those differences and walk in alignment with God. All right, let's talk about the spiritual gifts. I just want to go through these. I was having a discussion about this recently with some girls and while a lot of it rings true for them, some of them were talking about how well that doesn't really feel like me. And you know, the important thing is just as in Romans 12, four through six, it said that we all have different gifts. We all are members that don't have the same function. So, but we're all one embodying Christ. The same thing happens with these characteristics. These, all these things, ebb and flow for me specifically, and this might come as a surprise for a lot of people, especially in my professional world. I am an extreme introvert. I did not say extrovert. I said, introvert. I am an extreme introvert, but I have had positions in my life, especially in my career where I have had to adapt and develop my skill sets to be more extroverted because I was in positions of leadership and I had to go out and talk to people. I didn't know. And I had to make room for that skillset. So I had a lot of practice how I know that it is something that is outside of my nature, outside of how I'm built, how I'm wired is because it exhausts me completely exhausts me, you know, after serving hours at the church for a function or after working an eight to 10 to 12 to 18 hour shifts. I am exhausted when I am done with that because not only is it I'm putting the best energy that I can out for that the best activity that I can, but it's also an adaptation that I have developed to be over and beyond what my nature, what my normal characteristics, my normal personality would be. So it's just that much more work. So what's important. What I, I guess my point in that was is that you can develop skill sets if you are weak or have an area of growth in one area, but it's something that you think might be beneficial. Then you can take actions to get outside of that and develop that skill. The more you do it, the better you will get at it. Here's another perfect example of that. I have been studying real estate investing. And so as a part of that, I have been going to a lot of Korea, which is the Kentucky real estate investor association meetings. I have been going to meetings and I'm telling you, it is the most uncomfortable thing that I could possibly be doing is to go into a room full of strangers, who a lot of them know each other. They're all talking to each other and walk up to them and introduce myself to them and start a conversation. I mean, small talk is like, totally not my thing. I would rather just not talk then to make some small talk or to walk up to a group that I don't know and introduce myself and then have to come up with a conversation. It is nerve wracking to me. However, I have been to probably maybe eight meetings in the past, maybe 10 meetings in the past month of different types of meetings that are networking meetings. And I have just taken a deep, deep breath. And I have said, Angie, the worst that can happen is somebody doesn't talk to you or somebody doesn't really strike up a conversation. You're not going to die. You're going to live. And you just do it. You take that bold courageous step to do something that will increase your experiences, increase your skillset. So some of these personality tests it's even the spiritual gifts assessments come back and it feels like you maybe, you know, I could be this one or I could be that one, or, you know, I am like four or five of these. All of that is okay. It is not a black and white thing. It's a great thing. And it is a thing that needs to be aligned with the biblical principles on who it is God's called you to be all right, now let's go do the spiritual gifts. So if you go to the spiritual gifts, test.com, I'll put this link in the show notes, you will see an example of the definitions and descriptions of the different kinds of spiritual gifts. There's actually a test. It's a free test that you can take on this website, spiritual gifts, test.com. And you'll be able to take this test to see where you fall based on your interests, your desire, desires, or passions. So that's at the spiritual gifts, test.com. I'll give you a couple of other personality tests that I had taken that have been helpful in just creating some of that personal awareness and insight. There is the Myers Briggs. There is one that is called the disc. D I S C there's one called the color code. I actually liked that one. That one is an easy one to use for everybody in the household, especially children because they understand the way that the results come out. It just is simple enough. I feel like for kids, there's the five love languages that gives you insight on your type of personality and how you receive and give love and appreciation. There is the strength binders. That's a book that you can get. There's one that is emotional intelligence. So there, and I'll put these all in the show notes, but if you are looking for ways to gain some personal awareness on your identity and why it is, you are the way you are and some clarifying information, then taking some of these personality tests might be a good idea, but I just want to give you that soft warning to make sure that you don't take that as gold, that you don't take that as a black and white and say, Oh, well, that's why I am. And now you're going to start using that as an excuse as to why you can't do things, the worst thing that you can ever do. And I've heard this from so many people, they'll say, Oh well, that's because that's not, you know, I'm not in that personality group. You don't, I'm an introvert. So I can't go to networking, networking meetings, or I can't, you know, be in a leadership position because I'm an interview vert I'm too shy. So they use that as a crutch almost so that they don't have to take bold courageous actions that can help propel them into the purpose God is calling them for. So I just want to give you a soft warning to not get into that trap, because that would be something that is being used in the world to keep you from becoming who it is God's calling you to be. But this is a that I was having about the spiritual gifts test. And then we started talking about all these other personality tests and I'm all for the personality tests because I, I am, as you know, an avid learner and an avid growing, I want to be avidly growing in. Always want to be more self-aware of who I am, why I'm the way that I am. Why do I experience life and circumstances a certain way, but I always test those results against the word of God. Okay. All right. Well guys, thank you so much for listening into this episode. And if you do go and take a personality test hop over to the Facebook group and let us know which one it was, even if you have one that I didn't name. If you have one that you really like put it in the Facebook group so that other of other ladies can discover those personality tests and get more information about themselves that way get more personal clarity and personal awareness about it, about the ones that you might like. Okay. And then the other great thing about personality tests that it's not just about you, you find out about you, but what I used to love to do, I would have my team take, I did the strength finders. Most recently, I'd have them all take this test. And then what we could do is share the results with everybody else. So then when I'm looking at a Macy's and over here, I'm looking at Amanda's well, when Amanda is having trouble with something, if we understand her personality type, it helps us to communicate with her better and support her differently, support her in a better way than if we didn't have that insight about each other. So I love it for that. I just want to make sure that I, again, encourage you to align that with the word of God. Okay. All right, guys, I'll see you over in the Facebook group. And once again, if you are stuck in any part of your Holy made life pie, and you need a little extra help pop over into my email, Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com. And let me know that you are ready for a coaching session. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. 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EP 39 Does Faith Really Help Healing? How Do I Increase My Faith Even When My Circumstances Do Not So, I stood there under the lights on the platform in front of the entire congregation with a microphone, right at my mouth, telling people, well, they told me that I have a cyst or a mass in my right breast. And then I proceeded to tell the rest of the story... Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com What's up ladies. Welcome back to Wholly Made Life™. I'm so glad you're here. I just want to talk to you today about faith and I had an experience recently that I wanted to talk about, and I just think it's important to just shed light on how it kind of happens in real life and how we walk that out. So about a month, a month and a half ago, or so I, gosh, I've lost track of time. It goes so quickly, but I had my annual mammogram and it came back abnormal and they said that they saw some sort of, you know, I, I don't know the language they wanted to use a mass assist, whatever, you know, I guess they can't really call it a assist until they actually see, is it actually assist or not? But a mass that was in my breasts that I needed further, further testing on an interestingly, a friend of mine in a group that I'm in, had the same exact diagnosis, if you will, like a few days prior to me getting the same thing. So anyway, she went through some extra texts testing and actually she is a miracle. And what happened with her was before. So she had something going on in her breast. They found something in a rush. She went back for the mammogram, they could see it on the mammogram and from the walk, from the mammogram room to the room where she was going to do the ultrasound, they, it disappeared. They could not find that area that looked like a mass or assist or whatever it is you want to call it. Okay. it was a miracle literally from the walk, from the mammogram room to the ultrasound room, it was gone. So that was amazing. So she had that testimony a few weeks ago and I, you know, just amazing she's I love her, she's a miracle. And that was a miraculous testimony that I know God used to encourage other people. So during that though, I was walking through my own. And you know, I think what's really interesting is that when I got that news that I had something going on, that I needed further testing it. And, you know, we know what they're all testing for. They're testing for the big C word to make sure that it's not cancer. And so we know that that's the loom and doom and, you know what they're testing for, but I just had an overwhelming peace and an overwhelming calm. And, you know, I told that group of girls that I was talking about just, just now about it, because it was so interesting that it was so similar. I just felt like kind of, we were a little bit under attack almost. And so we were all praying together. So the power of prayer is huge too, but we, you know, I D other than that, I just, you know, I prayed and thank God for, you know, the fact that I'm healed. And there was no anxiety, no fear, no. I just wasn't worried about it. I just knew that it was fine and I, okay. I'll go through these extra tests and things. And I think I went for another moment, mammogram and ultrasound, and they verify it, they got more measurements and all that stuff, and they sent me away and then they rescheduled a new they wanted to get a biopsy of the area. So this is about a month, a month and a half in, I guess. So this week on Tuesday as it is what's today, it's Thursday, today. So on Tuesday at two days ago, I went and I got the biopsy and they said it would be about 72 hours. I mean, the most anxious I felt was actually the part where I knew they were going to put the needles in to numb me up because those things are huge. And and wasn't bad. It was fine. I was actually pretty just praying through it. And but I still wasn't had an overwhelming peace, you know, that kind of piece that just surpasses all understanding. They talk about that kind of peace in the Bible. That's the kind of peace I had for the entire time. It really was not something that was on my mind. I just had a feeling, a peace wash over me, and it just stayed with me. And I just wasn't worried. I wasn't concerned. I just knew that it was going to come back benign. So yesterday, which was Thursday or Wednesday, so a day after the biopsy, I got a call and they said, we just want to let you know that it's benign. It's negative. So praise God. Hallelujah. Thank you God. And it's funny because I was telling God on the way, yes. Let's see. Tuesday on the way to the appointment. I was like, Hey God, if you want it to disappear, by the time I get to that mammogram room or that ultrasound room, that'll be an awesome testimony at that. Sure will. But it also obviously will be an Austin testimony if I have to go through the through with the biopsy and it'd be negative in benign. So that's just how I talked to God. You know, I just talked to him like, he's one of my friends or he's my dad, or, you know, he's there, he's all those things for me. He's my counselor. He's a promise keeper, my, my way maker, my miracle worker, he's all those things. So you talked to him, you know, just in the season that you're in, how you, you know, your relationship you have with them. So anyway, so, but for this particular thing, I had to go through the biopsy and it came back negative. Hallelujah. So yesterday at church I was serving in the back and I was what we call the back runner in the back. Just kind of watching the back of house to make sure everything was okay and everybody, you know, everything was going good. And pastor, I guess after worship called me up there and he kind of started talking, you know, it's one of those things you get on the platform in front of the whole congregation. And it's just it's kinda, it's not my favorite place to be, but anyway, I love my pastor. I've been there 11 years and it's just weird to be up in front of the platform when I'm used to kind of serve in behind the scenes. So anyway, he was talking about how, you know, he knew what was going on and just how I continued to serve. I continued to show up. I, you wouldn't have known anything was going on. He talked about, you know, that I always have a smile on my face and I'm always doing what I need to be doing offering to help and all this kinds of things. And he talked about that in the aspect of just that faith, that level of faith that I have in that everything was going to be okay. So it's just, you know, it was just something I did not receive. I did not receive that. I was going to have any bad news. I just didn't receive that at all. So we all know who the ultimate physician is, who the, who has the ultimate say, we know that God has the last word. We know that it's a finished work and that, you know, he said by his stripes, we are healed and that's a past tense and future tense and present tense. It's all of it. So it's art, it's everything it's finished. It's a finished work when he said it's done. It's done. So sometimes in our circumstances, though, we haven't experienced, we haven't caught up with that finished work. And so we have, that's when we have to walk it out and have that faith in the meantime. But what I thought was interesting is I had zero qualms about believing and just knowing a hundred percent that it was going to come back benign, come back negative. I had zero other thoughts, then it was going to be fine, a hundred percent faith, 120000% faith that it was all going to be fine. And it was going to be clear and it was going to be negative. Interestingly though after that, and I'm, I'm grateful because I know that God will use that testimony to encourage someone else's faith. And that's what we're all here for. That's a lot, you know, people say, well, I don't know a purpose says, well, your purpose is to walk out your life and do what it is you're called to do in the way that you're called to do it so that you can encourage people to get closer to God. You can encourage other people's face. You can encourage people through loving them through proving that they have worth and that they are destined for so much more for what God's called them to be. You know, that that's what we're purpose for. So I know that, you know, that was purposed for a testimony, so that, that will encourage another person's faith, that you can still walk things out, knowing that what God said to be true is true. And you can walk that thing out, despite your circumstances, knowing that that's true. But it was interesting because after, as I was home and I was looking in the mirror last night and I was washing my hands, washing my face, and I just heard kind of this, this nudging from the Holy spirit saying, you know what? You knew that that was going to be negative. You had so much faith. You had zero anxiety, zero fears, zero worries, zero concern about it. And you so much so that you were just praying and going on and thanking him for, you know, your health. And you knew that it was gonna be fine. You knew that it was going to be negative. So why can't you then? Well, let me say, you knew this, and this is the Holy spirit kind of nudging me in my spirit. How is it that you can be so faithful and so a hundred percent positive that I'm going to take care of you and that it's to come out negative in an area where you have no control, you have no option to put your hands on it. You have no option to have any control over it. Right? Cause my health related to assist or a mass in my breasts, I have, there's nothing I can do at that point. There's not anything I can go try to do and make, do more of, or do something different or make better, or just put my hands on it. There's nothing I can do. So I am a hundred percent faithful that he's got this. So the Holy spirit was nudging me saying, you know, when it's a situation where you don't have an ability to put your hands on it, you're all in, you're all the way in. You're a hundred percent faithful. You've got it. There's no concern. There's no worry. So he asks me, you know, again, this is in my spirit, this is what I'm hearing. This is what I'm feeling. He's like, so why is it that on things that you do have the ability to put your hands on, that you don't always have the a hundred percent faith that you have on stuff that you wouldn't have. Yeah. The option to touch. And if you know me and maybe it's like some of you guys out there who are doers, who are these type A's, these professionals successful women, and that just goo do and go, they make things happen with their hands, with their work. They're hard workers. You go out, you do it and you can always do more to make things happen. You've got great skill sets and you can use those skillsets to make things happen. You have some control and options to put your hands on those things. Right? So I was immediately convicted like, okay, God, cause I'm in this season. As you guys know, I am building up my business of my life, coaching business, you know, guys, I offer individual again. I will have some group coaching sessions coming up, but I offer this individual coach session. I'm doing some real estate investing. And I'm starting up these businesses because I've left my corporate job. And he reminded me, you know, when it's something that you don't have a choice to put your hands on and try to control, you got a hundred percent faith, but grow when you have an ability to put your hands on something and try to make something happen. That's where your faith falters. That's where your faith tends to not be so faithful. So overwhelmingly a hundred percent all in. And he said, why is that? Why is it that you think that when there are places that you wouldn't be able to control anyway, that you can give me a hundred percent, but when you do have some control, you do have some of that space where you could put your hands on something that you tend to do, try to do it for me. You are trying to do my work for me. God said, and I'm just waiting on you to throw your hands up and say, God do it all. And I trust you to do it. Even if I could. Now that's not to say, you're sitting on the couch, eating a bag of bond bonds, and you're not doing anything that he's calling you to do, but I tend to do go over, do too much. I tend to make things happen. That was the whole premise of, you know, I was in a place where I took such a huge faith step, where I left my corporate job based on faith, based on what I was hearing from him saying, do this, give this to me. And I will show you what's next. But in the seasons of coming up with what's next, sometimes when you're in the thick of it, when you're in that circumstance, you forget that he will do what he said he was going to do. You're just not met up with that yet. Your circumstance just hasn't met up with the end result that he has in mind yet. And so we start to start to frantically start to work and do, and, and we don't always know what we're doing. And we don't always remember to give it back to God. If he called you to it, he will lead you through it. And so that's, I just wanted to share that because I think that's important. It's where in your life do you feel like you are a hundred percent all the way in giving God his credit and given God all that you have to say, yes, I trust you. I know without a shadow of a doubt that, you know, in my case, this was God, this is going to be negative. I know it versus other spaces in your life where you've gotten your hands on something that God is saying, let it go, give it to me, stop putting your hands on it. When you take your hands off of it, I will be able to do the thing that I've been trying to do. I'll be able to reveal to you that God size dream, that God's size outcome that I've been trying to get you to. Where are you in your life? Falling short of the faith that you need to grow to let him take it, to let him grow you. That's my challenge to you today, because that was my challenge. Last night, as I stood washing my face, looking in the mirror and hearing that nudge of the Holy spirit to say you are getting to that point where you're putting your hands on some things that I've told you I'll take care of, and you need to trust me as much as you did with your health outcome. You need to trust me with your financial outcome. You need to trust me that I, the women that, that are meant to be connected with you already there for you. Hello ladies, you guys listening to this podcast. You guys are my ladies. You guys are my people. He's already got the connections, worked out. He's already divinely set up all the interventions, all the connections that he needs to now in the past now and in the future it's already done. So there's a level of trust that I need to bump up in my financial business career life to give him all the way now. Yes, I took a huge face step and gave him my, my career in my, my salary and my title and all that stuff. But I have to continue to walk in that trust and walk in that faith. So I want to challenge you today. Ladies, those of you guys listening, you're here for a purpose. You're here for a reason. And I believe that you're listening to this episode today because there's somewhere in your life that you are not quite giving it all up to him. You're not quite still enough, or you're not quite resting enough to allow him to guide you to do what's next. There's a difference between sitting on the couch and not doing anything, then being quiet and resting and listening for his guidance and then doing what he's guiding you to do. So I want to challenge you today. I'm challenging myself and I'm going to be doing it right along with you. Find that spot, find those places in your life that you could loosen up the reins on what you're holding onto so that God can show you. What's next. Okay, ladies. All right, ladies, if you are stuck in this, if you need help with this feel free to email me at Angie, Tony Rogers, gmail.com. And we can walk this through this thing together. We will go through my big idea framework, where we will talk about your identity. We will identify the issue. We'll define it so that it is attainable. We will embrace where you've been, where you are, where you're going. We will activate by making an action plan that you can use every single day to get closer and closer to your goals. And we will then assess meaning that we will just figure out what's working. What's not working once we've activated and implemented, we will assess and see what do we need to tweak? Okay? That's the framework that we'll walk through in the coaching sessions. All right, ladies, love you guys so much. Thank you guys for listening and we will see You on the next episode. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women. Just like us. You're five stars in written review. Really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.

EP 38 How to Be the Modern Day Esther for Overwhelmed Working Moms. How You Can Become a Hero Like Esther in the Bible through Bold, Courageous Action Hey ladies today, we're going to talk about an awesome character in the Bible. And that is Esther. We're going to talk about how the name of God was not even mentioned in the book of Esther. We're going to talk about what she needed to overcome the fear to take the bold courageous action that she took, even though she could have faced death. And we're going to talk about what reward she got when she did take that bold and courageous action. And let me just remind you that every single one of you are a modern day hero like Esther. Wholly Made Life Big IIDEAA framework: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAJournal Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com So our story today about Esther and what the heck that has to do with you. I wanted to just speak to my mommas, who are feeling overwhelmed, overworked, stressed out and burnt out. I know that you are feeling kind of completely unbalanced and maybe you're feeling like you don't really know what your purpose is. Well, I hope today's story of Esther really encourages you to help you find that purpose. But I also wanted to help you get back into the place where we can fix the foundation of your Holy made life. What I'm offering is I've got a place for three women this month, and I am going to help you rebalance the foundation of your Holy made life. Okay, we're going to go through your identity. We're going to identify where it is that needs to change. We're going to define what success and balance looks like for you. We're going to work together to kind of embrace where we've been, where you are and where you're going. And then we're going to come up with an action plan so that you know exactly what to do on a daily basis to help you lead the more balanced life that God has intended for you. You have been created for a purpose on purpose. And I want to make sure that you are living that thing out because there are people in your life, SIS waiting on you. They're waiting on you to fulfill that purpose, just like they were waiting on Ester. So grab a session. Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com. Now let's get into today's episode. Okay. So the book of Esther, well, this is the only book that doesn't mention the name of God. Now that doesn't mean that God wasn't all up in there. Okay. God was permeating that whole story of Esther, what it was and what it is is that even though all of the events that were happening in Esther seemed to be so out of control and so chaotic and maybe hopeless. It's very clear that Esther was created for purpose on purpose for a time that she was in at that point, just like you, you are today's Esther, you have been created in purpose for a time such as this God was there. Even when things didn't make sense, even when there were clear dangers and clear chaos and really a worry or a fear that she might even lose her life. God is the God of promises though. God is a promise keeper. He's a miracle worker and he will keep his promise. And the key to Esther was that even though Esther was afraid, she took bold action, but let's not forget that she had someone in her corner corner rooting for her. And that was Mordecai. He reminded her that she was made for a time, such as this. She was purposed exactly for this exact thing in Esther, four 14. He says, perhaps this is the moment for which you've been created or for if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place. But you and your father's family will perish they'll die and you, and who knows, but that you have come to your Royal position for a time such as this, what he was encouraging. Esther was that, look, you're in the position. You're in the right position at the right time, in the right place to make an impact on everybody, around you. And in this situation, it was a life or death situation, not only for her and her family, but for all of her people all of the Jewish people, because Haman had come up with a plan to kill all of Jewish, all of the Jewish people. So what she did was she used her bold courageous action, and she went to the King, even though she could have faced death. Okay. she was afraid for her own life. You know, no one was supposed to approach the King without being called from him being called by him. So she actually, she was fearful. She tried to hide. She tried to avoid taking that action, but Mordecai begged her pleaded with her, encouraged her, reminded her that she is the queen and she is in the right time, the right place in the right position to do something, to save the Jewish people. So the next that's what I want to point out. Number one, you always got somebody that God has placed in your corner, encouraging, you know, who those people are. Maybe it's me. Maybe it's me. Maybe I'm the one that's supposed to be in your corner, helping you kind of get your foundation of your Holy made life on a, on a more balanced on the more balanced ground. So may or maybe it's someone else that you know of, but be prayerful about that. Make sure that the people in your life that, that you're listening to the ones that are Holy spirit led and the ones that God has placed in your life like Mordecai Esther's life. So the thing is that she had someone that God had specifically placed in her life at that time to encourage her, to take the action and overcome the fear that she had about taking this action. So the second thing is that she took action and she prayed. She not only prayed, but she joined together with others to fast and pray for three days and three nights. She instructed Mordecai to fast and pray along with some of her, her friends for three days and three nights. So not only did she walk in faith and courage, but she did it after she fasted and prayed. So she went to God about it. Okay. So at the end of those three days, she would approach the King with the request to save her people. So she did that. And of course we know that the King agreed and he actually had Haman killed the kind of ironic thing about this. This thing is that not only did she save her people, but also queen Esther and Mordecai were then given Haman's estate. And they were honored for their action for their bold creative courageous action. And the King actually wrote into law or decree to protect all of the Jewish people. So they got what they, they got saved. There are people were saved and then they inherited the estate of the person that was out to destroy them. If that doesn't kind of let you up, I don't know what will. So another thing that I want to encourage you with is that when things, when you're afraid, when you don't know have courage, be strong and courageous, Joshua one nine says, have I not commanded you be strong and be courageous, do not be afraid, do not be discouraged for the Lord. Your God will be with you wherever you go. And Jeremiah 29 11 for, I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord plans for welfare and not for evil to give you a future and hope. So you have been created for a time such as this. And if you're in a place where you just don't know how to get yourself rebalanced, how to get more out of every area of your life, if you're overwhelmed at work and you're working too much, or you just feel like you don't really have the energy and time left, that is what I'm here for. I can help you rediscover that joy and that balance and each area of your life. Let's grab a power session today. I will do one hour for the 30 minute price, and I will be able to, we'll be able to go through the whole lifestyle. Okay. We'll be able to go through the whole wheel and we will create that action plan for you to get you feeling more balanced and being able to walk boldly and courageously fulfilling the purpose that God has intended for your life. I believe that you were created to do big things and do exactly what God's calling you to do. And sometimes we all just need a little encouragement and a little restructuring so that we can spend some time becoming who it is that God has intended us to be and living the life that he intends for us in all areas of our life. Okay, SIS. So thank you so much for listening. Listen, make sure you hop over in our Facebook group, a wholly made life so that we can walk this thing out together. I will see you on the inside! Before you go. I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us. You're five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see you in the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.

BONUS EPISODE! What Are 3 Activities I Can Do to Re-Balance My Physical Health Wellness for Balanced Life for Busy Working Moms? Green Smoothie Recipe, Water Fat Soluble Detox Daily Maintenance, Rebounding on a Mini Trampoline- BONUS EPISODE I've got a quick bonus session because I wanted to share something that I was talking to with one of my clients about their action goals in my IIDEAA framework that I use with coaching. Let me remind you what the idea is. It is identity, identify, define, embrace, activate, and assess. But we were talking about her goals for her physical health and coming up with those small action steps. She was stuck because she felt like her goal was way too big and she was having trouble coming up with the daily action steps. So I gave her a quick example of what her physical action items could be for a daily basis that as she took these small actions, it could lead to big results. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website:  www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAJournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com Green Smoothie recipe:  2 cups filtered water 2 heaping handfuls of spinach, chopped 2-3 leaves of de-stemmed kale 2 ribs of celery 1/2 cucumber 1 green apple 1 pear OR mango OR strawberries (or all if you prefer tropical) 1 frozen banana 1/2 lemon squeezed Cinnamon (I put a lot to taste, but you do you!)   By the way, I add whatever I feel like it to the smoothie & I make a whole blender & keep in the fridge so it's cold.  Daily Maintenance Detox for Water & Fat Soluble Toxins Mini Trampoline Rebounding Waterless Lotions & Soaps Hey, what's up successful mama, listen, I know you are a success driven woman, so I know you're successful in your job or your career, your business. But I also know that there's something going on in your heart or your mind where you're feeling a little unbalanced or a little off as a mom or as a wife, or maybe in another area of your life. Are you unsure of what this thing is? You've been feeling, but you know, there's something missing. You're wanting something more. Do you wish there was a way for you to feel balanced in all areas of your life? Says, what if you could go from feeling restless or burnt out overwhelmed or stressed out all the time to actually restoring the joy and feeling balanced in all areas of your life? Well, let me tell you, I have felt this way. We've all felt this way sometimes where we've just been off or felt unbalanced, but it's when you're stuck and you can't really get past it when you might need to reach out for some help. And that's where I'm here for you. Listen, I believe you're not created to do just one thing. Well, in your life, you're not just your job or your title or your salary. You're not just a mom, a wife or a sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and you're made to lead in all areas of your whole life. God has a specific intention for you in all areas of your life. You deserve to have joy and feel completely balanced in all parts of your life. You can't actually feel successful as a mom and a wife and a friend and at work. So are you ready to reclaim your whole life? And it's happened to God-sized fulfillment in all areas of your life. Well, friend, I have something for you. I can help you find that balance again and help you rediscover. God's big idea for you and your life. We're going to go through an hour session where we are going to get you balanced. We're going to fix the foundation of your Holy made life. And we're going to go through my framework of idea, which is identity, identify, define, embrace, and activate. We're going to go through that entire framework to get you back to where you feel equipped to lead a balanced life in all areas of your life. Okay? We are going to do this thing together. So I encourage you today to get over to my email angietoninirogers@gmail.com so that we can talk about scheduling a coaching session for you, where I can help you find that balance again. Okay? All right, guys, I will see you on the inside of the episode. Let's go, How are you today? Listen, I've got a quick bonus session because I wanted to share something that I was talking to with one of my clients about their action goals in my IIDEAA framework that I use with coaching. Let me remind you what the idea is. It is identity, identify, define, embrace, activate, and assess. But we were talking about her goals for her physical health and coming up with those small action steps. She was stuck because she felt like her goal was way too big and she was having trouble coming up with the daily action steps. So I gave her a quick example of what her physical action items could be for a daily basis that as she took these small actions, it could lead to big results. So number one, every single day, she could have a green smoothie. And actually I will post a recipe in the show notes so that you can grab that that's something that you can do that gives you a full serving of your vegetables. And there are so many health benefits to having a green smoothie. And so I will put a good recipe below because they're not as bad as some people think, okay, but you can have a green smoothie every day. You started off your day with a green smoothie and it will get your metabolism going and you will fill your body up with all of these healthy things. Okay. Number two, I always take two detox supplements and they are, it's a supplement that is natural. It's a daily maintenance supplement. It comes all the ingredients come straight from the earth and it attaches to water and fat soluble toxins. And some people think about toxins in the way that you are maybe eating bad stuff for your body. But this daily maintenance supplement that I use actually grabs toxins that you might not even realize that you're being exposed to number one, like chemicals that are in the stuff you're putting on your skin. Your skin is your largest organ on your body and it absorbs everything. So everything that touches your skin absorbs it pretty much right into your bloodstream. And so there are a lot of toxins that we're exposed to in our bodies that we don't even realize. Another toxin is the air that we breathe. We are breathing in whatever's in our air. And so there are toxins sometimes that we're breathing in. Okay. And then of course, other types of toxins, it could be cleansers. It could be you know, sprays. It could be your deodorant or anything like that, that, that gets absorbed through your skin somehow or through your breath because you breathe in and then it gets into your bloodstream and your lungs and your tissues and all that kind of stuff. So there are water soluble toxins that a lot of detox supplements focus on, and then there are fat soluble. The difference with this one that I use at least is number one. I know that it's natural. It's not manufactured. It is from the earth. So it's, you know, how God puts stuff on earth. And then it is put into a capsule that you can take and it absorbs right into your bloodstream. But the other great thing about it is that it grabs up the fat soluble toxins, which most detox supplements, like I said, focus on water. This one does water and fat soluble toxins that you could have in your body. So that's number two. So a green smoothie, detox. And then the last one is body movement, some kind of body movement. Now I L will be the first to confess that exercise in a gym is just not my thing, weightlifting running. I mean, I have broken my ankle like six times. I just have always had weak ankles. I roll my ankles all the time. So I just don't run. I've also always been heavy chested. And so it's just uncomfortable for me. I don't know if any women out there can relate, but running is just never been my thing. So, but body movement is so important. I remember my granny who has passed now, but she used to get up every morning. And then every night before she went to bed, she would move her body. She would walk through her apartment briskly. She would maybe hold a can of soup. As she's walking, she would do stretching and movement to keep her joints loose and moving. And she was mobile and doing all the things in her nineties. So it definitely just goes to show you that it doesn't have to be this major bodybuilding weightlifting, running marathons, just move your body. One thing that I actually like to do, it's called rebounding. And it is a mini trampoline for lack of a better, I don't know what else it's called, but I call it a mini trampoline where you just, you know, stand on it and you can rebound, which means your feet really don't leave the trampoline, but it keeps all the muscles and joints and everything moving as you are rebounding on a trampoline. So those are examples of the three action steps that you can take. So you can imagine if you do this every single day the other big thing I do for my body, and I didn't add this when I was talking with her was if, for an example, but I use waterless lotion so that it, the lotion is pulled in by the water inside my body. That's kind of a topic for another discussion, but I do that because I understand that, you know, what I put on my skin is absorbed directly into my body. And so I try to use products on my skin. It's like, I also use natural deodorant. So I try to eliminate some of the bad stuff that might get into my body by using products that are natural and pure and that kind of thing. I'm not the most green person in the world, but certainly with my skincare. And I try to use like natural shampoos and I definitely use waterless and natural soaps, things like that. So, and then a natural. So okay. So it's just not, that's hard, but you can see how drinking a green smoothie every day detoxing your body, keeping your body detox on a maintenance basis and then moving your body every day. How those things, those little small things can add up to big results if you do those small things every day over time. So this is not something that has to be earth shattering and big. Your action steps can look like something small. Okay.   So I'll give one other example in the finances, for example, you might say that every single month you're going to put $20 into an IRA or an educational fund for your child that may not seem like something big, but over time, things can start to compound. And the biggest thing is that you will be further along in a year or two years, 20, 30 years from now, if you do that every single month, then you are today. If you don't do that. Okay. So it's those kinds of things coming up with small little action steps that you can take and make a difference, make a big difference over time. Okay. All right. So I just wanted to hop on here and give you guys an example of what I helped a girl that I was talking with the other day with getting kind of unstuck with her. She was just having trouble coming up with stuff for her activate part of the IIDEAA framework. So, and ladies, if you get stuck, then you need to and you need to just get some of that advice. Then just hop over to Angietoninirogers@gmail.com and grab a coaching session. I'm actually doing an hour long session right now, instead of 30 minutes, I am doing for the price of a 30 minute session. I'm giving you an hour so that we can actually work through the entire IIDEA framework together so that we can start to work on balancing out all those parts of your life that you feel like need a little bit of a change or need some action items in there. Okay. So make sure you hop over to my email at angietoninirogers@gmail.com.  

EP 37 What in the World Did I Do to Deserve That Feedback? Using Coaching Feedback to Build Stronger Relationship Foundations Hey guys, welcome back. And today on this episode, I have a question for you. I would like you to think about a time that you received some feedback that was really hard to hear, but it was something that you were able to use to make some changes, to start, to get better results in your relationship, on your job as a parent, et cetera. What's some hard feedback that you have gotten in your life who gave it to you. What was your relationship with them? And how did you use that feedback? That's what we're going to talk today about in this episode. Wholly Made Life Big IIDEAA framework: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAJournal Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com Ladies. Welcome back. And today we're going to talk about coaching and feedback. And this is something that obviously I do right now. You are welcome to grab a session with me. It's a power 30 minute session or a deep dive. One hour session, email me at Andreessen, minnieRogers@gmail.com. But coaching and feedback is something that you do every single day of your life. And you don't, or might not even realize that you're doing this with people in your family, people on your job, you're receiving and giving feedback throughout your day. And I just want to call your attention to it. Okay? So in when you are receiving and giving feedback, the number one and most important thing in coaching someone else or giving feedback and receiving feedback is your relationship. It is the type of relationship that you have with someone. And it is the level of trust that you have with that person. It is who that person is and how you view that relationship and that person in your life. And so that is number one most important. So when you are giving and receiving feedback from someone, just understand that your relationship maturity, your level of trust you have with that person, has everything to do with how that feedback is going to be received or given how it's received by you, from what someone else tells you and how others are receiving the feedback that you are giving them. Okay. So when you have a trusted relationship with someone, you tend to give more permission to that person to give you harder feedback. It's someone that you care about it, someone that, you know, it's someone that you trust. It's someone that you regard higher than maybe someone else that you don't have much of a relationship with. It's someone that maybe you look up to, or that leads a life of an example, that when they give you feedback, you want to listen to it and you want to take it into account. Okay? This is easier received by someone that you know, and trust versus someone that you don't know very well. Someone that really doesn't know all of your situation. Now, having said that there could be a lot more emotion attached to the feedback you get. I'll give you a great example. When I am giving or receiving feedback from my husband, he knows me better than anybody else, but his feedback sometimes is much harder to receive than it is. From someone that, you know, might be just a good friend of mine that doesn't know all of my ins and outs. Okay. And so that's important to understand that the feedback that we get from our closest people are, is feedback. That we need to be very mindful of how we give that message and then how we interpret the messages that we're giving. So then there's another category of people. Maybe they're just your close friends or a group of people that, you know, and trust such as maybe it's somebody in your church that you regard you have high regards for, or maybe it's your pastor or something like that. Maybe it's your group of girlfriends that kind of have a like-mindedness, maybe it's a business group that you work with. Maybe it's a community of women that you're doing something with socially. So those kinds of relationships tend to be received differently than like from your husband or from you know, your pastor might have a different kind of feedback than your girlfriends might have. So it's just important to take note of who is giving you that feedback, what they know about what's going on and what kind of heart they're giving that feedback from. So just know that relationship is the number one most important thing in being able to effectively give and receive feedback. Number two, when you are giving feedback or coaching someone on something, ask for permission, it's a simple conversation. It doesn't have to be awkward, but it can be something like, Hey, do you mind if I give you a little feedback on something I have observed, or, Hey, I care enough about you to give you some feedback that might be a little hard to hear, but, you know, I love you. And I think it might be helpful. So preface the feedback, especially when it's hard to hear feedback, preface that with how you care about them and ask them for permission. One of the things I talked about recently, I think it was episode 35 was the mood elevator. And if you are in a place of low or you're angry, or you are distracted or frustrated about something, feeling stressed out, if someone asks you permission to give them feedback, and you're really low on that mood elevator, then you probably should tell them, you know what? I really want to hear what you have to say. I value your opinion, but I am really low on the mood elevator, or I feel really frustrated about this other stuff going on right now. And I'm not sure that all receive the feedback you have for me the right way. So we can move forward with this conversation just with that knowledge. And we can work through that together. Or why don't we schedule a time where you can give me some feedback that's hard to hear later. Okay. So now this is obviously talking about you receiving the feedback. It's more important for you to own how you give feedback to other people. So you should be asking for permission, you should be trying to gauge the right timing and right mood of that other person that you need to give feedback to. If it's hard to hear feedback, okay. Number three is to always understand that this is a two way conversation. This is never a situation where you are preaching, or you are telling someone what they should do. Instead, you are having a conversation about what you've observed, that you care enough about them to give them the feedback that you think might be helpful. And you're just asking them to consider the information that you're sharing with them. And then the other person is allowed to have their responses, their thoughts, their feelings. Maybe they're going to give you more information that you weren't privy to so that you can see the different situation from their eyes. You're working together to come up with an action plan or just an understanding of where each other is in this. Okay. So the two way conversation, and then finally, number four is that you want to make sure that you have a clear understanding of what the person receiving your, your communication understands. You want to make sure that that person took away from that conversation, what you intended for them to take away. So you are looking at kind of what I call closed loop communication. I think that's probably a term that I learned throughout my error prevention, cultural training at work, in, in the nursing field, but I call that closed loop. So when you communicate something to someone, especially when it's hard to hear, it's hard information, you want to ask them what it is that they understood from that communication, what are their takeaways from that communication? And that's why the two-way conversation is helpful, but it is a conversation that closes the loop so that you understand that the receiver of that communication understood what you intended. So you ask them to repeat back to you or tell them what they understood or, Hey, what is your biggest takeaway from this? What will you do with this information? What do you think you might do with this information? And then the person might come back with something that's totally different than what you intended and you have then the opportunity to correct that and say, Oh my gosh, no, I didn't intend it that way. Here's actually what I meant. And maybe you can explain it a different way. Same thing on receiving that information. If you have gotten some feedback or information or had a conversation, and you felt a certain kind of way about what you received, or maybe you feel like you're receiving it in a way that you're unsure. If that's what they're intending, then you can close that communication loop by saying, so this is what I'm hearing. This is what I'm feeling about this. What did you intend for me for this conversation? Is that what you intended? And it gives the other person the opportunity then to be prompted, to give you more information so that you guys walk away from the conversation with a clearer understanding of what each other intended to communicate. Hopefully that makes sense. Okay. The other thing too, with this is that you, if, if the person did intend for you to receive something that feels not so good, then you can choose at that point to use another technique. We talked about a long time ago in the episodes, in the accountability series series called assuming positive intent, where you can just choose to assume that that person had the best intentions for that conversation. That person had the best intentions for an outcome for you. Otherwise they wouldn't have been sharing it with you. They care about you enough to share the information, even if you received it in a way that doesn't make sense for you. It maybe it's feedback you choose after you reflect on it, re pray on it, that you don't need that feedback or that feedback isn't accurate. Then you can choose to assume that that person was just doing that out of love for you. And I love care for you. Okay. All right. That's the techniques that I have learned throughout kind of coaching people on my team and coaching individuals is it's such a hard thing. Coaching and receiving feedback is such a hard thing. The challenge I have for you is think about a time where you received really hard feedback. It was just really hard to feel. Maybe it elicited a lot of emotions. Maybe it made you feel offended. Maybe it made you feel defensive. Think about who gave you that re that feedback, what kind of relationship you had with them, what role that person had in your life and what you did with that feedback, and why did you use or not use the feedback in that way? Okay. That is what I want you to think about. And then going forward, as you are having conversations with people, just think about these three things. Think about your relationship and the rapport that you have with this person, ask permission to give feedback, especially when it could elicit emotional responses or put some money on the defensive, or it's hard feedback to give make sure that the conversation is a two way conversation close the loop on the communication to make sure that what you intended for that person to hear that they actually heard that what you intended. And then remember that feedback is just that it's just feedback. You always have the choice to use the feedback or not use the feedback in a way that's beneficial to you and others around you. Okay. All right, guys, I will see you on the next episode. I'd love to see you guys over in the Facebook group and see what you think about this. Come on over and tell us what the hardest feedback that you've ever had to hear was and what you did with it. That'd be awesome to share that with each other. All right, ladies, we'll see you on the next one.

*WARNING!! DONT LISTEN TO THISS ONE WITH YOUR KIDS!* EP 36 How Do I Deal with Mom Guilt- Redefining Success as a Busy Working Mom- Time to Slay that Monster Like David Slayed Goliath We're going to talk about this big monster, and we're going to take this thing down. And this big monster that we're going to talk about today is called mom guilt. I know all of you guys have had this monster in your house. We're about to take this mom guilt monster down like David took down Goliath. Are you ready? Let's go. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Hey, what's up ladies. Welcome back to episode 36. And today we are going to talk about it. We're going to talk about this big monster, and we're going to take this thing down. And this big monster that we're going to talk about today is called mom guilt. I know all of you guys have had this monster in your house. We're about to take this mom guilt monster down like David took down Goliath. Are you ready? Let's go. Hey, welcome back ladies. And we're going to talk about this big monster that I know a hundred percent of you guys who have kids deal with probably on a daily basis, if not multiple times. And it is the monster giant called mom guilt. I said it we're going to take them down. Like David took down Goliath because it is time to stop the madness and slay that giant. Okay. Number one, mom, guilt. What is it? It is basically when you feel guilty for doing things other than being a mom when you go to work, when you start your business, when you try to do self care, when you try to go to the bathroom for the love of God, with the door closed this mom guilt. And not only that, that you kind of put this on yourself, but it comes from expectations from society. Maybe it comes from your mother-in-law. Maybe it comes from your mom. Maybe it comes from your sister. Maybe it comes from your best friend. Maybe it comes from your church. You know, everybody's got an opinion on what kind of mom you should be and what you should and should not be doing. Maybe it's all their opinions about whether you should breastfeed or not breastfeed, or whether you're teaching your kids sign language, or whether you are putting your kid in an extra tutoring class or allowing your kid to be in gymnastics and cheerleading and soccer and baseball and all of these things. You know, whether you are going to every sports event that your kid has, there are so many things that cause this monster mom guilt in for me, a lot of it is related to my work for a very, very long time. Most of my kids' lives. Actually all of my kids' lives until June, until I just dropped Clayton off to college. My career essentially came first. I spent double the amount of time on my career and businesses that I then I did at home with my kids. It didn't mean I wasn't a mom. It just meant that a lot of my time was away from my kids. So yes, my kids were in daycare for for most of their lives. So it is so real, this guilt that we feel is so real, it's overwhelming, it's stressful. It's a lie that we believe. And we're going to talk about how to slay that thing today. Okay. So, you know, there are some things that you might feel a twinge of guilt for that is valid, and that should make you stop and think about the ramifications of what it is. For example, if you are using extremely harsh words or yelling a lot, like I, you know, I am very passionate as you can probably tell three people that know me, especially people that I've worked with, just know that I get very passionate. My voice gets really loud and Ammonite it animated. And I use my hands a lot and I move a lot. And so they're like, you know, calm down, you know, and sometimes it can be misperceived as that I'm angry or something like that. But sometimes it's just that I'm just passionate about something and it's just the way I express myself. But I also, on the other hand am a yeller. I did a lot of yelling, especially once my second one came around, I had Clayton. And then of course, you know, he, that was easy for the first four years. I was by myself where he was by himself. And so it was, it was quite frankly easy, easier. And then when the second one came and then certainly when the third one came you know, I have all boys and the two little ones just fought and wrestled and listen, I'm all about that boy life. But what people, you know, sometimes don't tell you about kids or, you know, all of the things that, you know, we pray and we're thankful for our kids and stuff, but we all have those things that like, you know, the blowout diarrhea all the way up the back while you're trying to get out of the house. And then you got two kids that just knocked the lamp off the table and the dog that threw up on the floor all at once when you're trying to get out and get them to school on time so that you can get to work on time. You know, people don't really talk about that part of motherhood, but the way that I responded to that is sometimes I yelled a lot and it was, it's not, it was something I felt guilty about. And so that guilt is not necessarily to condemn myself and not forgive myself, but it is purposeful. It is, I guess there is a, a worthiness to that guilt because that isn't the best way to be yelling all the time at my kids. That's not the best way they think I'm critical. They think, you know, it, they just grow up thinking that I, they can never do anything. Right. And then I'm always going to yell and I'm never going to be happy and I'm never going to laugh and they're going to have fun, all those things. And so sometimes that guilt is there in it, but it gives you an opportunity to step back and do some self-awareness and some self-assessment to say, okay, what can I do differently? Okay. But most of the other guilt that we're talking about, the things that are related to expectations from everyone else, and then the own expectations you are putting on yourself, because you have some grand idea of what a great mother looks like, and you're not meeting up to that. But if you're thinking about the Brady bunch, you know, and I don't know some other Suzy homemaker person that does all of these perfect little things and puts notes in the, in the lunch boxes with the cute little, you know, Mickey mouse shaped sandwiches and, and heart cantaloupes. And, you know, come on, give me, give me a break at that. Number one is not me. And quite frankly, I feel no guilt for not doing that. Now I, I have in done the little notes in the lunchbox, but you all want to know the straight truth is that when my kids were going to school and they were taking their lunch, Dwayne, my husband made their lunches. I, I can't remember the last time I made my kids' lunch. Okay. It just is what it is. And you know what, I'm okay with that. I don't feel guilty about that anymore. But the point is is that there are so many things that we feel guilty about, and especially when it comes to work. So let's just talk about a few things that might be making you feel a little guilty. Number one, how many of you guys sometimes get a little annoyed with her kids? I, how many of you guys sometimes get annoyed with the nonstop talking or the look at me, look at me. Look at me. Look at me, look at me, look at me and then look at me again. And that's awesome. You've done the same thing a million times over now. I love the stuff out of my kids. Okay. But let's just be honest. If you've ever been annoyed by one of your kids, I want you to, you know, raise your finger, raise your hand. Or if you're in the car with your kids right now, maybe this is an episode you should listen to later, but I probably should have given that Kathy in the beginning, but it's just life. It is what it is sometimes, you know, on episode 35, I think I just talked about the mood elevator. Sometimes you're in the red, on your mood elevator. You're way, way low. And you're on that impatient and frustrated, or maybe you're a little angry and hostile and you just aren't in the mood for that right then. And sometimes we give ourselves a lot of guilt for that. Well, I want you to know that it's okay to sometimes not feel like answering that question that they've asked a million times already. Okay. It's okay. Something else. Let's talk about being a little bored here. Here's the truth. I love working in my career. I love running a business. I love feeling that sense of accomplishment. I also love when my kids you know, get a blue ribbon at the swim meet or when my kids get honor roll. I love those things because it makes me feel like I've done something to help that my kid earned that. So I feel a sense of accomplishment for both things. And it's okay. If you focus on your career and being a mom at the same time, it's okay. It's okay. If you actually enjoy your career more than reading goodnight moon. Okay. It's okay. There's no reason to beat yourself up about these things. Big thing I want to talk about is it's okay to redefine what you feel like successes in being a mom. It's okay to redefine those. If you have not sat down to really think about what is it to be successful as a mom? What, what would I feel good at the end of the day or at the end in 20 years when my kids are all grown up, what would make me feel good as if I have succeeded as a mom? What are those things? And then it doesn't seem like such a big deal that you didn't do that extra game of Play-Doh today. We talk, it's a balance, right? You have 15 minutes of dedicated time with your kiddo and you play a game with them, or you read a book or you go to a soccer game or you go watch them on the trampoline, whatever it is you're doing, that's dedicated time that you're spending time, but it's not going to break, make or break. If you don't spend the extra hour making a Play-Doh castle, it's just not, it's not going to in the end of 20 years, it's not going to make or break whether or not you were successful as a mom. So I just want you to stop beating yourself up. It's it's our kids are going to be okay. The number one thing is that if we have given our kids to God and we've given our faith and trust in God that he is going to cover us and stand in the gaps where we have not done everything we could have, or we failed in certain things, or we yelled one too many times. I think about my childhood growing up and my mom and dad best that they could, but they were perfect and they may mistakes. I ended up okay. And my kids are going to end up. Okay, too. So it's okay. My mom worked, my dad worked we, we were home alone a lot and we turned out fine. It's just a lie to think that your focus on your career or your focus on instead of doing a Play-Doh castle, you are going to finish this report, or you're going to make this one phone call. It's just in the grand scheme of things in 20 years, when your kid is out, all grown up, think about what it is that you would want to know about your kid to feel successful. And then just backtrack from there, just focus on small things. We've talked about this in the whole relationship, part of our pie, where we're talking about parenting, we've talked about, you know, time blocking, where we just schedule in 15 minutes, a day or an hour, a day, or whatever it is that you feel comfortable with, you makes you feel good that you have spent with your kid. You've taken that intentional time to let your kid know that you're there from the, for them. And that they're important to you and that kind of thing. So just be intentional about those things. Okay? The other thing is to reach out for help. Listen, we need that village. It takes a village to raise a child. We've talked about this. You need your village. You need your village. People reach out for help. I, a hundred percent promise you that somebody, you know, is feeling the same way you are about that next diarrhea. Blow out that went up through the baby's or that last ER trip, because your kid jumped off the couch yet, again, thinking he was Superman or that time you went to the ER, and then the guys at the ER, actually had a social worker come in and talk to you because this is the third ER trip, because your kid continues to jump off the top of the playground at the school. Yeah, that's true. My little Clayton who now he'll be 19 in July. He jumped off the top of the playground at daycare three times, he had to deuce eggs in two weeks on his head, same, same place. And he ended up with a stretcher fracture in his leg because he was jumping off the playground. So I had to have a conversation because stress fractures in legs are not normal. Now of course there were lots of witnesses and they all, you know, settle that. And it wasn't a big deal. Other than you know, that there are no nurses and doctors are doing their job in, in the ER, but for the love of God, you end up in the ER, three times because your kid keeps jumping off the playground at school. You're not there. What are you going to do? I, you know, I felt guilty yeah. About it. And I felt like horrible about it because I was at work, but what am I going to do? Lord have mercy. So things like that, that just make you feel so helpless and guilty. You've got to reach out for help is I is where I was going with that. You've got to reach out for help. You've got to take your own time for self care. You've got to protect your physical and mental health. You deserve to have help. You deserve to have a break. And it is time that you take that stone out of your pocket and shove it in the face of this monster called mom guilt and put it down for good slate. It, cut off its head and hold it up for everybody to see and say, no, no more. I am not going to, to succumb to these expectations that are unrealistic. That don't matter. At the end of the day, it just doesn't matter that it didn't take the five extra minutes and do the extra Plato castle today. It just in a long scheme of things, the grand scheme of things, it's just not going to matter again. We talk about balance. This is not an every, you know, you don't skip it every year, but it's okay. Oh, here's another good one. Oh my gosh. This is. And especially as they get older, well, it happens a lot when they're little, you know how your kids like repeat stuff that you and your husband were talking about in your home. And then they go and repeat stuff that you said about someone. Well, so first, first lesson don't talk about people in front of you at all, but especially in front of your kids, if you, you know, you don't want your kids to repeat it. But secondly, think about the time where your throwing a tantrum in the middle of the floor. Look, I promise you, another mom has experienced that. I have, you know what I did, I walked around the corner and I said, when you're ready, when you're ready to get up I'm ready to go. And I went and I stood by the door and I kind of watched from afar, monitoring him for safety. And I waited. He was throwing a tantrum about a Snickers bar. I kid you not the looks, the looks that I got in this door. Oh my gosh. I swear somebody was probably going to call security if I didn't go over and get them in a few minutes. But it is what it is. Listen, every single toddler in their life throws a tantrum. And sometimes yes, it's in front of a big, a big audience. And it is what it is. It's just inevitable. Your kids are going to do something that is going to be embarrassing to you. But let me tell you something. It doesn't mean anything related to your parenting. You know, when my kid posts something on social media, he's 18 years old. Yeah. There's things that I might be embarrassed of because I am attaching what the choices are that he's making to everything that I did to raise him. The reality is he is his own person. He's going to make his own choices. And sometimes those choices are not going to be ones that approve of so I can make that clear. I don't approve of that choice. I would like for you to take that down off social media, that is embarrassing to me. You are not representing me as your mother in a way that I want you to, but that is life. It doesn't, it doesn't define all the things that I, that one act that my child does. Doesn't define who I am as a mom. It doesn't mean that I don't have to talk myself down when things like that happen, but you just have to put in perspective, okay. I've rambled on quite a bit. I just wanted to speak to mom guilt because I know that thing is real. I know it, it, it, you know, it doesn't feel like a lie, but it is sometimes when you're in the middle of it, it just doesn't feel like a lie. But let me tell you something, mom, guilt is a lie for the most part. It's a lie. It here's the thing. Pray about the guilt that you're feeling, pray about it because God and the Holy spirit will guide you and let you know, is this something that I need to look at like that? But like that one example I was giving of me yelling too much. That was real. And the Holy spirit you know, I, I prayed about it and it was very clear. It was revealed to me that I was yelling too much. I was stressed and taking out the fact that I was irritated and tired and spinning everything that I had at work. And I didn't have anything left for my kids. So I was just yelling. I had no patience left. So I had to figure out how to rebalance that so that I would not spend all the time that I had with him yelling. So sometimes it's, it's good. So define what success looks like to you, define what those expectations you are. You have of yourself and make sure that those expectations are realistic and pray about it. Pray about those times that you're feeling is especially guilty about something, pray about it and let the Holy spirit kind of lead you on what you need to do about that. If you have set realistic expectations and you are still feeling guilty about something, then pray about it because he will show you what it is that you need to look to do differently. Guys, if you are feeling stuck, if you are in a place where you cannot, sometimes all it takes is somebody else outside of your situation, to look at what's going on and help you see something differently. Sometimes we're so deep in a situation that we just cannot see, see beyond it. If you're in that place and you just need another set of eyes, reach out to me, email me at Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com. And I will help you by being that other set of eyes, I will make sure with you that the expectations you've set for yourself are fair and they're reachable. They're attainable. And if you know, you're in so deep that you cannot see above the water, I will help you get to a place where you can see above the water again. All right, ladies, we will see you on the next episode. Get ready, slay that giant. No more mom, guilt taking over it's time for you to slay that giant once. And for all I know you can do it. You have been called specifically for your children. You were given your children on purpose for a purpose. You were exactly who God called you to be for your children. For the world changers that you are raising. They are yours to raise, and God has given you them, and he's trusted you with them. So do not feel any more guilt about you being the mom. God chose you specifically to be the mom for your child. Okay? No more mom guilt. That giant is slain. Hallelujah!  

EP 35 How do I Control My Moods with My Husband, Kids, Boss, Friends? Why Am I So Moody and What Can I Do About It? How to Always Look Through Rose Colored Glasses. Mood Elevator by Larry Senn This technique you can use to help regulate yourself and know yourself. Get some personal awareness in where you might be on what we call the mood elevator so that you can improve your relationships with everybody else around you. Okay? It's everything about you and your mood elevator. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Hey, welcome back to this episode, episode 35 of Wholly Made Life™. And today I'm going to give you a little bit of a technique that you can use to help regulate yourself and know yourself. Get some personal awareness in where you might be on what we call the mood elevator so that you can improve your relationships with everybody else around you. Okay? It's everything about you and your mood elevator. All right, let's get ready for this episode. What we call the mood elevator. Now I did not make this up. This is something I learned years and years ago as I was in leadership nursing positions. And it's something that we use to help create a culture in which everyone was accountable for, where they were in their elevator. And the idea is, is the more aware you are of where you are in your elevator, the better your relationships and interactions will be with other people. So it's called a mood elevator and it is by, it used to be send to Laney S E N N D E L a N E Y. But I think that that company is been absorbed into another company or something like that. So I actually will put a link in the show notes to the mood elevator the site, so that you can see this for yourself. And there's actually a quiz that you can take. That's called the mood elevator quiz, and it will help you get a better understanding of the mood elevator. So what it is is if you've listened to any of my accountability series in the first few episodes that I did for the podcast, then you will understand why I think it's so important that each individual be accountable for themselves first, and then collectively as a group, we can all be accountable. And that makes for much better interactions and much better relationships, but essentially what the mood elevator is, is that you imagine yourself in an elevator and at the at the very bottom of the building, the very, you know, the elevators at the very bottom of the building, then you have feelings such as depressed being angry or hostile or stress or burnt out. And if you're at the very top of the building and the elevator, then you are going to be in a grateful nude, or you're going to be wise insightful. You're going to be creative and innovative. Okay. So that is how the mood elevator works. Now I'm going to go through each of these and I want you to visualize what it looks like. And like I said, you can actually download a copy. It's complimentary and it's a PDF and it will be on the mood elevator.com so that you can take a better look. And I just think this is really helpful. It's been very, very pivotal in my ability to number one repair relationships when I've done or said something that was perceived in a way that I didn't intend it. And number two, to keep from damaging relationships, because we all know that every person around us is not always actively looking and being intentional about being personally accountable and responsible. When we talk about the spirit of fence, for example, that is a spirit in which people take offense to something, instead of understanding that they actually have the control in that situation to perceive that situation differently, which gives them an opportunity to respond differently to that person or in that interaction. Okay. So this is about your personal awareness of where you are in your mood and how that can impact someone else. So let's just go through the feelings, let's go from the bottom of the building. So this is in the bottom. Think of these as red, meaning that you really want to be very careful about having an interaction with someone, if you are anywhere in this red or bottom of the building, bottom of the elevator if you're any of these moods, okay. So depressed and I'm going from bottom up. Okay. So depressed is at the very bottom angry, hostile stress, burnt out self-righteous judgemental or blaming defensive insecure, worried, or anxious, irritated, bothered, impatient, or frustrated. So if you are feeling any of these things, then think about it in the red area. Those are not times that would be a good idea for you to have serious conversations with people. The in addition, or let me see, let me back up. So serious conversations with people or hard conversations with people. Like if there's a conversation that needs to be had with somebody that you're in relationship with that is going to be a harder conversation. If you are in any of these mood or any of these levels, this depressed all the way up to impatient or frustrated, that is probably not the best time to have conversations that could be emotional or her something that could possibly hurt someone's feelings for that other person. It would not be good. Now it also would not be good for you because when you are impatient or frustrated or you are in a judgemental or blaming mood, or you are feeling defensive or insecure, you can see how things that are said in a conversation will be perceived differently by you. When you're in that lower part of that elevator, you will perceive those and receive those conversations and interactions differently. If you are in an impatient or frustrated mood versus a grateful mood, do you see how that would change the way that you receive and perceive information from others? So just be mindful that if you are feeling defensive or worried or anxious about something or irritated or bothered, it might be a time where you would say, you know what, and in as culture where we all have this language where we can say, Hey, I'm real low on the mood elevator right now. I don't think it's a good idea to have this conversation right now, because I don't want to be in a place where I am receiving or perceiving something that you're not intending. And I certainly don't want to say or do anything that might hurt or your feelings. Okay. So when you are in a place of, it's kind of like when you think about beer goggles or a Rose colored glasses it, that's a saying that means that it changes the way you see things. It changes the way that you see the world. Think about this when you are a young child and w you know, they, when we talk about little girls or boys, when they are little, and they see things in such a, like a rainbow and unicorns way, they don't all of the extra experiences that we have as adults. They're not as tainted. So they see the world so much differently than we do. So this is a technique that you can use to identify where you are, so that you can put back on the right kind of glasses so that you are seeing the world and perceiving the world from a place that you intend to be receiving and perceiving the world, instead of from just flowing, without having any personal awareness. And, you know, you might, if you're burnt out like in nursing, and I'm sure a lot of professions you get burnt out, right? That's, we've talked a lot about this. You get burnt out on stuff. You get burnt out on Parenthood, you get burnt out on you know, being away. If you get burnt out on a servant at your church, you get burnt out. And it, a lot of times it's because you are in this low end of the mood elevator, and you don't even realize that the reason you're feeling and receiving you're irritated, you're bothered. You're worried about something anxious. You are impatient and frustrated. The reason you are continuing to kind of be in this sick lik response to all of these things is because you are responding out of the bottom of this mood elevator, and you don't recognize it. So everything that's happening around you, everything that's happening between you and the people you're interacting with, they are being, it's being tainted by these glasses. These burnt out colored glasses, or these worried and anxious glasses, or these impatient and frustrated glasses you're seeing and receiving the world through these glasses. So everything is being colored or tainted by that feeling. Now, the point is, is that you become aware that, wait a minute, I am bothered. I'm irritated right now. So I, when I recently, when I receive something that my husband just said, if I'm in an irritated mood and I don't catch that, I don't realize that. Then my response to him is out of irritation. And then that irritates him. It bothers him. It, maybe it makes him mad. And if I was responsible enough or accountable and that to say, hold on, Hey, listen, I am irritated right now. This has nothing to do with you. Can we talk about this later? Or I am sorry. I didn't mean to say it like that. I didn't mean to it, take it like that, but I'm just irritated right now. And you know, it's not about you and just give me yeah. A few minutes. So it's, it's an intentional catch. You're catching yourself where you are on the mood elevator, when it is changing the outcomes of the conversations and relationships you're having. Hopefully that's making sense. Okay. So let's go on up the mood elevator. Let's move into kind of the middle. All right. Where the is, where you are curious, and you are interested. So if you're curious and interested, well, you're going to perceive what's going on around you and you are going to treat people differently. Then if you're impatient or frustrated, that's just, it's just reality. If you're coming from a curious and interested place versus an impatient and frustrated place, your outcome with that person, your relationship with that person, your interaction with that person is going to be different. It has to be because you're coming from a different place. Okay. let's move on up. And we're going to go from middle, which is curious and interested all the way up to the top. So flexible, adaptive sense of humor, patient and understanding appreciative, hopeful, optimistic, resourceful, creative, innovative wise, and insightful and grateful. So what did you say that, that perceiving the world around you, perceiving an interaction from a grateful standpoint versus a just depressed or angry or hostile standpoint. What did you say that you would perceive that differently? Absolutely. You would. You absolutely would. This is where I wish I could see you and hear you, because I know that if you are purposefully coming from a place of gratefulness, you are going to perceive relationships are going to perceive interactions differently than you would if you're coming from an angry or hostile place. Okay. So how do we use this? Number one? We've talked about it. B where, of where you are on your mood elevator, because your mood elevator is yours. It's nobody else's, it has nothing to do with anybody else. It is yours and you own it. Nobody else has anything to do with where you are on the mood elevator. It is all yours to own a hundred percent. So you own it. So that's number one own where you are on the mood elevator. Number two, communicate to those. You are interacting with where you are on the mood elevator. Communicate that to them. So like in the workplace, what I used to do is say, listen, I have had a hard meeting, you know, I know we were supposed to meet and talk about some things, but I've just come out of hard meeting. I don't feel like it would be fair to you to have this meeting right now, because I am not in a good place. And I want to be in a patient and understanding appreciative, hopeful place when I talk to you. So it's okay to use this language and share this language with people that you are interacting with, especially in the workplace. It's a great cultural tool to use. It's a great leadership and supervisory tool to use and teaching others to use the same language, because we all then have that same and same understanding of where everybody is. Because if you're in a culture where everybody knows the mood elevator, and you say to somebody, Hey, listen, I am real low on the mood elevator. I am feeling really stressed right now. Then if that other person understands what that means, then they understand that. Okay, right now it's probably not the greatest time to tell you about this major thing that just happened, or you know, it's not the time to come to you to complain about something that just happened. It's something that can wait. Okay. When you're feeling a little bit more with a sense of humor, which is higher on the mood elevator. Okay. All right. So number one, be aware and own where you are on the mood elevator. Number two, communicate to the other person, whoever you're dealing with, where you are on the mood elevator and do it, do it in a loving way. So that they understand this is about you and your mood. Not them. It has nothing to do with them. Let them know that it is, you are owning this and you want to love them enough to wait to have this hard conversation until you're higher on the mood elevator. Okay. And then finally, number three is to use this, to ask for grace and forgiveness. When you have done something, when you are low on the mood elevator in these red areas, this angry, hostile, self-righteous blaming defensive, irritated, frustrated, impatient. When you have done or interacted or responded to someone, when you were in that low area, then ask for forgiveness and grace from that person, once you're able to do that there've been so many times where I have responded in a way that had nothing to do with the person, but they completely took whether it's offense or they thought I was upset with them. It really had nothing to do with them. So there's been so many times that I've done that. I mean, I, you know, I don't, maybe I'm the only one, but that acts out of, you know, when, when I shouldn't be having conversations or when I should, when I should be communicating to my husband that look, I am tired. I am frustrated. I am hungry. I am really stressed out about this situation. And this is just not a conversation I can have right now and give you the responses that you're looking for. You know, I haven't taken the time to do that. So then we just end up in an argument and it's totally my fault because I did not own my part. Now, again, I am not saying that the other person doesn't have a responsibility, but you don't get to control that you only get, can get to control you and your mood elevator. The only buttons you get to push are the ones on your mood elevator. Kay. You don't get to push the buttons on the other. Person's a mood elevator. All right. All right. So once again, number one, be aware and own your own mood, elevator buttons. Number two, communicate to others where you are on your mood elevator, and number three, make sure that if you have not gone to the right floor before you have a relationship or B before you have a conversation with somebody that you apologize and ask for forgiveness and grace and let them know, Hey, listen, I was feeling really frustrated earlier. I know that I responded with you. I was very short with you. I, you know, I know that you got upset when I said that it was not my intent. It's not what at all, what I intended the other way that I use this finally. So, you know, those are the three things, but this is just another way. Sometimes if there's a situation that I can't get out of, I have to have this meeting, or I have to have this phone call. You know, I might just say, Hey, I just want to let you know, I've had a hard conversation just a little bit ago, and I'm a little bit frustrated about it. So I am just letting you know that. Not because I don't want you to take anything that I say as I'm intending to be frustrated or upset with you. You know, I do that sometimes when I'm talking to somebody about, let's say like, somebody messed up a bill or something, and you're calling, you're frustrated. Why? Because you're on hold with a telemarketer and you're trying to get to the representative and, you know, they won't get you to where you need to speak to. You know, I do that all the time. I say, Hey, listen, I understand you're just doing your job. I don't mean to be frustrated at you. This situation is frustrating me, but I'm not frustrated with you. So you just take a few minutes and you take a little extra time to communicate what's going on with you so that they don't then take the Liberty to take offense or think that whatever's going on with you is actually about them. Okay. Hopefully that made sense. I love the mood elevator. I love being aware of where I am and if nothing else, what you can do is reflect on conversations. You've had, you know, I'm, I don't know. I feel like I'm a little bit crazy because I will have conversations. If I'm about to go have a conversation that's maybe hard or just I don't know maybe uncomfortable or something. I will practice the conversation first and then I'll go have it. And then after I have that conversation, I'll go back and I'll have the conversation again. And I'll practice, man, when this person said this, this is probably what I should have said. That would have been a better response. She would have received that better. So I practice it. So the people that I worked with prior kept saying, you know, you should have been a lawyer. You're always so quick to, you know, come up with something. And it's literally because I practice conversations before, and then I review conversations that I've had afterwards. Yeah. you know, that's what a 45 minute commute will do. It'll allows me to have conversations before and after. But it, it also helps you get better at having conversations and get better at realizing how people might be perceiving what you do or say, and that's not what at all, what you intended, you never meant to hurt someone or make somebody feel bad. But because you weren't really monitoring where you were on the mood elevator, you you know, hurt someone and you just didn't intend to. So, all right, guys, hopefully that makes sense. Listen, if you are stuck at all about trying to figure out how can you be more accountable? How can you get yourself to a place where you can kind of break through some of these things that you've heard on this podcast or some of the things you're being challenged to do at work, or you know, in your parenting or your marriage? Don't forget that I am doing individual and individual coaching sessions. And they are either 30 minutes, which is called the power session or an hour, which is called the deep dive. And we will go through what I call my big idea framework, and we will help you create an actual plan and get unstuck. Okay. So it's, you'll get unstuck. You don't have to stay stuck. If you need some extra help, just reach out to me, email me at Angietoninirogers@gmail.com. Okay. All right. Don't forget themoodelevator.com is where you can go and read more about this. You can download a copy of your own mood elevator, and you could also take a little quiz about where you are.

EP 34 How do I Become Who God Has Called Me to Be? Reflecting on Your 2021 Word- If You Stop Growing, You Die (Tony Robbins said that)  How are your New Years Resolutions Going so far this year? Hey ladies. Okay. Now be honest. How many of you guys have kind of forgotten what your 2021 word was? How many of you guys have been kind of, oops, I totally forgot what my word was and I haven't really been focusing on it. Well, how many of you guys did not choose a 20,21 word? Well, it's not too late today. We're going to talk about what my word was for 2021 and a revelation that I got today, listening to something else. And we're going to go all in on how to become whatever it is in 2021. All right, let's go.   Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninnirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Hey ladies. Okay. Now be honest. How many of you guys have kind of forgotten what your 2021 word was? How many of you guys have been kind of, oops, I totally forgot what my word was and I haven't really been focusing on it. Well, how many of you guys did not choose a 20,21 word? Well, it's not too late today. We're going to talk about what my word was for 2021 and a revelation that I got today, listening to something else. And we're going to go all in on how to become whatever it is in 2021. All right, let's go. What's up Wholly Made Life™ ladies. How are you guys? Welcome back to this episode. Happy Resurrection. The King has risen and he is our saving grace. So I'm thankful for that. I'm thankful for this Easter season, new beginnings and another opportunity today to become who it is you are intended to be. So actually today, that's what I wanted to talk about was I chose. If you go back to one of the very first episodes, I talked about my word for 2021, and I challenged you to pick your word for 2021. Now the first thing is I want to ask you, did you actually choose a word for 2021? And if it is, have you been reflecting on that every day of the year, every day of your week, every day of your month to become or will become as my word, right? Have you reflected on what that word is and try to strive to meet the expectations of whatever that word was. Are you doing that every day? If not, I challenge you to go back. Think about what that word was and try to journal it out on why you chose that word to begin with and then put it up on your refrigerator, put it in your car, put it on your mirror, put it as a screen scraper on your phone so that you are reminded every day to follow what it is that word is helping you become, helping you strive for expectations that you're placing for your daily action steps. Just make sure that you are using that word to its fullest. So my word for 2021 was to become, and I was reflecting on that today because I want to think about every day am I actually becoming the parent? I want to be, am I becoming the woman I want to be? Am I becoming the wife that I want to be? Am I becoming the business woman? I want to be, am I becoming the coach that I want to be? Am I becoming the leader that I want to be? And I think what's important about that. Number one is that I'm always actively becoming. I'm never going to get to the place where I stopped becoming something. Because if you stop growing, if you stop becoming, then you die. Think about it. If a seed is not growing, then it's dead. There's no life in it. So you have to continue to push forward every day. And no matter what goal you get to, as soon as you reach that goal, there's another goal that you should be striving for. There should never be a point in your life, as long as you're breathing. As long as you're alive, that you are stopping your growth growth should be happening every single day. And it should be happening at a rate that is making an impact in your life and everyone else around you in their lives. Okay? So becoming, and I just thought this was interesting. So I thought about this become is actually a verb. I cannot become without taking action without doing something of a verb. If you guys go back to your English classes in grade school, a verb is an action word. It's an action. So it is impossible to become if you are not taking action or not doing or not being. And I just, for whatever reason today, as I was listening, actually to my pastors podcast called culture keys to leadership podcast, he was talking about growing. And I love that saying from Tony Robbins, if you stop growing, you die. And I think about that because I am a constant avid learner. I am always growing. I'm always learning. I can never know enough. I can never learn enough. I am always reading. I am always listening to books on audio or I am listening to podcasts. I am always seeking to grow. I'm actively and intention of intentionally growing. So it just hit me when I, and I didn't think about this in this way before. Yes, I thought of, okay, I'm going to choose become because I have so much to become. I have so much to do. I have so much growth to do as a wife, as a mom, as a leader, as a coach as a business woman, I have so much to become. And so I chose that word because I'm always working to become something, become the woman that God has intended me to be, but it just hit me today as I was listening to that, thinking about growth that, wow, the word I chose is a verb. It's an action word. And it's impossible to become if you are not being and if you are not doing so, the definition of become is to begin to be okay, to begin to be. Another way that become is defined is to come into existence, okay. To come into existence. So I am always striving to come into existence to be existing, who it is. God's called me to be another way to say it, to undergo change or development to undergo change or development. So I am always growing. So I'm always changing and I'm always developing. Okay. And so it is an action verb, an active word, which means that as soon as I hit that development, if I, as soon as I get there, there's still going to be underground undergoing of change. Another word, another way to describe this is to be transformed into, to be transformed, to be changed. That's active, to develop into, to evolve into, to turn out, to be okay. Convert emerge as pass into alter to. So all of these words, when you think about this, when you, if you are an avid seeker of growth or an avid seeker of becoming something, becoming more, becoming, working towards a goal, then you're always being transformed. You're always being developed. You're always evolving into a new creature. And that's exactly what God's called us to do is to continue to grow. You know, the Bible talks about your mind being transformed. Well, that's an ongoing thing. It's not that God, please transform my mind one time and it's done. That's a constant transformation. I'm continuing to undergo change. I'm continuing to be developed into. I am continue continuing to evolve into the knowledge as I learn and grow in to what it is God's called me to be. I continue to emerge as a coach emerge as a parent emerge as a, as a wife, right? So I just wanted to encourage you today to number one, always understand that every single day, we have an opportunity to act, to take a step, to grow, to learn, but to do this, you have to be intentional about it. You know, you could go through your day and not quote, unquote, learn anything new. If you're not learning anything new, then how is it that you are changing? Or how is it that your mind is transforming and becoming what it is God's called you to be until we are no longer breathing until we no longer have breath or life in us, we are called to be transformed. We are called to become, to become the woman God's called us to be, that's an ongoing process. So I don't know why that hit me the way it did today. But I just thought, you know, I want to encourage you to understand that this is not something to be accomplished and checked off our list. This is an ongoing thing. And so it's okay where you are today. It's okay where you were yesterday. As long as you are learning and growing and becoming you're in the process of becoming so no matter where you are today, sister, you know, where no matter where you are today, wife and mom, friend, you are in an opportunity where you can continue to become, it's an active thing. So don't get discouraged. Don't, don't lose hope. Don't feel like you've missed it because you haven't, you're being called to be who it is you are called to be. And it's an active thing you never, ever, ever get lost and, and get so behind that, you're not able to move forward. You're not able to continue to undergo that change and development. And so I am encouraging you today to become who it is you're called to be and understand that that takes work. It takes time it's in, under you are undergoing that change and development. And as you learn and grow, you will have setbacks. You will have jumped forwards and you will have periods of rest or peace or a stillness, and you are still transforming and learning and growing in that time of stillness and rest, you are still in a place where you can find opportunity to rest and find peace in him find that safety in him. So I just wanted to encourage you today. So don't ever stop. Don't ever worry that you're too far gone. You're not, you're not too far gone. You are exactly where you are supposed to be to continue to be transformed into the wonderful wonder woman of God that he's calling you to be, be encouraged today. You are exactly where you need to be no matter where that is, because as long as you're still here, as long as you still have the breath of life in you, you have the ability and the responsibility to become, to become who it is that he's calling you to be. So just do just be, and that's all that he asks just to do and just to be, and grow and learn love while you're at it. Love hard. And that's it. Okay. So who's ready to become with me, even if that's not your word, you're still becoming all right. I would love to hear what it is your word is reflect back on what that word is. And just if you, if you need to restart or get a jumpstart again, then just write down what your word is. Write down three things that you can do to really go after what it is that word for 2021 was that you chose and just recall and reflect on why you chose that. There was a reason why you chose that word. Okay. All right, sisters, I will see you over in the Facebook group of Holy made life. And don't forget guys, make sure if you haven't already, I would love it so much. If you would hop on over to the written review on Apple podcasts and leave me five stars and and put a written review in there, that is the best way that we can share this, this podcast with our friends out there. So thank you so much. Have an awesome day, and I'll see you on the next one.  

EP 33 What You Permit You Promote How to Be Accountable for What Happens Around You at Home and Work- What you Condone You Own- What You Tolerate You Deserve This is a tool that I use almost every day, and I really try to keep this at the forefront of my mind so that I can be holding myself accountable. And people around me are also held accountable in a way that produces the best possible outcomes for everybody in your family, in your work place, wherever you want. And what this tool is called is what you permit you promote. IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com Hey guys, what's up. It's Angie again. And I am here. Your host of Wholly Made Life. And I just wanted to drop a bonus episode for you. This is a tool that I use almost every day, and I really try to keep this at the forefront of my mind so that I can be holding myself accountable. And people around me are also held accountable in a way that produces the best possible outcomes for everybody in your family, in your work place, wherever you want. And what this tool is called is what you permit you promote. Okay. And I want to make sure that I'm saying that correctly so that you understand exactly what I'm saying. It's what you permit. P E R M I T is what you promote. P R O M O T E. Did I just spell that? Right. Okay. What you permit, you promote. And I wanted to talk about this because as you know, if you've gone through my accountability series, that was back towards the beginning of the episodes. I don't remember their numbers, but there were four of them. I believe it talks about how we can't really hold other people accountable until we hold ourselves accountable. And the whole premise behind what you permit you promote is that if you are allowing things to be said, or to be done, that are, may seem small, or maybe they're big, but it is not right. Really an appropriate thing to be happening. If you don't stop and address that thing, then you are essentially promoting that. And whether this is in your family or at your workplace, this is a really important technique for you to remember, to hold yourself accountable and then hold others accountable. So just remember what you permit you promote. So this is an example. If one of my three boys does or says something that is inappropriate or not acceptable, if I don't address it, then it allows the other boys to think that I am permitting that. And also then promoting that if I don't correct it, or if I don't point out that that was inappropriate or unkind or whatever it is hurtful, then I am in fact promoting that behavior to continue. So it's really important to address things that come up in real time so that it doesn't appear that you are promoting this it's really important in parenting. I feel like even when they're small things, because when we don't address the small things, those small things add up to be big things. And it's kind of like if you don't address a small thing, but then when you want to address a big thing, it's like, well, you know, if you don't even address this little thing over here, then why would I think that you're going to address a big thing over here? An example, Apple is this. And I can think of an example at work where you've got a bunch of adolescents in the room together, and one kid says something unkind or mean, or making fun of another person. If you don't address that behavior, at least to say that that's not appropriate. That's not the way that we talk to someone. That's not the way that we encourage someone. If you don't address it in some way, then everyone else around that person who engaged in that behavior will start to feel like that that's an appropriate way to interact. And not only will they that give that person who engaged in that behavior permission to continue that behavior and then probably escalate that behavior. The rest of the people in that room will also feel like they now have permission to engage in that. So then you think about a group of adolescents or, you know, three boys in your home or, or your kids in your home. If one person starts to pop off and say something unkind to somebody else and then another person, and then another person you've just got all that feeding and that escalates like that. So it's important to at the very least address it somehow some way so that you are not by way of not intervening permitting and then promoting that behavior to occur. I hope that makes sense. So in it doesn't have to be that big of a deal. It could be something of, you know, I don't like the way that made me feel when you said that to your brother, that kind of hurt my feelings a little bit. Oh mom, I'm just kidding. And so maybe they make that a joke, but they still know that I did not approve of, and I am not permitting them to be unkind and, and make fun of their brother that way. Does that make sense? It's kind of like when you don't address those things, it just sends the wrong message to everybody else in the room. It communicates your values. So whether you do or don't address these things that happen, it communicates your values. I can think of another example. You're sitting in a group and let's say one of your girlfriends starts to talk about someone that's not in the room. If you sit there and don't engage and don't interact and don't say anything, but you're sitting there listening, you are in fact engaging in that conversation. And you are in fact then permitting that in, in sitting almost in agreement with whatever's going on, which can quickly turn into gossip. And we know as I've talked about back in another episode, that gossip is very hurtful and it's something that can damage relationships very, very quickly. So the right thing to do in that situation would to be, to say, you know, I'm not comfortable talking about this that person's not here to defend themselves or to give us their side. So why don't we, you know, not have this conversation or why don't we switch on switch to something else now, does this take a little bit of courage? Yeah, it does. It takes some courage and you can do this in a kind way, but it's about kind of standing up for things that means something and not allowing small things to build up to where, you know, you've got one kid, one of my boys making fun of another kid and I'm sitting right here and then the other one pops off to him and then the other one then kind of kicks them in the shin and then the other one starts throwing stuff. And then all of a sudden, all you they're all on the floor and in a big old gang pile of, of punches and somebody ends up crying and stomps off to the room. I mean that to me, yo boy moms, if you all experienced this Lord have mercy. Or is it just me just as my wild and crazy boys? I don't know, but the constant fighting and wrestling and, you know, those mean word jabs that end up in punches and then somebody getting upset and running off with their ball to the room. It just doesn't have to get there. Or the very least, they, they at least know that I disapprove of the way they're talking to each other. You know, I'm reminding them, you know, that's, that's not okay. There's power in your, in your words. I don't want to hear you say those things about your brother, whether you're joking or not. That's not an inappropriate joke. I don't like that. I don't approve of that. Okay. So it's just, you know, this is, this is good for any circumstance that you're ever in, whether you're on a team at work, whether you are parenting your kids, whether you are serving at your church, whether you are in the grocery line and you know, someone's talking bad about the checkout girl, you know, it's just, it's not okay. And I just don't ever want to be a position where I have some sort of accountability or I guess, responsibility or ownership in causing situations to escalate to where they would be hurtful or you know, lack, integrity. Okay. So again, what you permit you promote, you know, when you tolerate a certain dysfunction, it actually signals that you're condoning that dysfunction to occur when you don't speak out against it, when you don't act out against it, it basically gives license to that person to continue that. And then while that person continues that behavior, other people will start to fall in line with that and say, well, she gets away with it. I can get away with it. And then it just festers. So I really feel like us as you know, powerful wonder women, as I talked about in a couple episodes ago, it's our responsibility and it's our, and I think we should be accountable to raise the standards of conversations and interactions that are happening in our circles. It's I think it's, we are in a place where we can help to transform the conversations and the interactions that are happening. And it, it, it almost forces other people to step up their game and to just be a better person to be around. So I will leave you with this, what you permit, you promote what you allow, you encourage, what you can don't you own and what you tolerate, you deserve. And a lady by the name of Michelle Malkin said that. All right, lady. So my challenge to you today is to only permit and promote what you want to get and see more of. Okay. All right, ladies, I will see you in the next episode, make sure you hop over to our Facebook group so that we can continue the conversation over there. And if you have any comments, I would love for you to hop into my email at Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com. And let me know, Know what you're thinking. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us. You're five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.   

EP 32 How to Level Up in Every Area of Your Life- Wisdom of an 11 Year Old Boy- Gain More Balance in Your Relationships, Parenting, Marriage, Finances, Career, Physical Health, Mental & Emotional Wellness, Personal & Self-Care Oh my goodness. The wisdom of an 11 year old. So what he talked about was leveling up and making the best of every situation, making the best when it's raining or when you don't get what you expected. So in turning that around to something good. So today's episode, we're going to talk about how you can level up in your life. IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment (This assessment format has some bugs in it- I'm currently working on it- Feel free to email me if you want your true scores!) Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me atangietoninirogers@gmail.com Hey guys, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. And today I'm going to give you a little treat. It is a conversation that I actually caught on recording. When we were sitting, waiting for my grandmother to come out of the beauty shop. And I had my 11 year old Bryson with me in the car, and it was a conversation that we were having. So I have this app on my phone that I just press record. And I've been trying to do that more often where, you know, we're having a really good conversation and it's something that I want to remember. So anyway, here is his conversation Are tying the bad things into the good days. Like if it starts raining, we're all sad and tired, but go outside and go catch yourself somewhere. What's good about cash and worms, you know, you can catch early Elisa. It's going to just see how big of the ones you can get. And if you, if he fish like me and my dad and the males, that was the con we catch also, cause we don't gotta pay for no more go catch them. And it's like, it's like hunting. I set up traps in the yard. I just put bricks down and I flip them over and then there's worms there. Wait a minute. So that's why all my concrete payors are out of order. Yeah. Okay. I was wondering who was moving those. Okay. Proceed. And yeah, if it's raining, you'll get yourself somewhere. So what you're saying is be happy about the rain. Yeah. Be happy about the storms. Yeah. Okay. What else were you saying? Well, I didn't make a sub. I got this from a YouTuber that I watch a lot. He fidget fishes and he says level up in real life eat. Like he says level up level up in real life and said just playing game, he level ups, characters, but level of, and try new things a lot. Like I'm trying fishing and camping yourself, which is a leveling up of her life leveling up and like cook and stuff. Yeah. Learn how to cook stuff, which is leveling up in her life. So, so basically instead of lovely, like what is it earning levels in the video game he's talking about and they'll go earn your levels in real life. Yeah. Okay. I love it. What else? If it's hot weather go play with the water holes or go to your pool or I don't carry and water. If it's, if it's warm outside in springtime and you there's all the trees and flowers, booming, blooming, go pink, go take pictures of wills. Yeah. What's your favorite in the spring? You said that the other day, you think spring's your favorite season? Why? And what's your favorite about it? Well, it just came one of my favorites now because as I got into things in spring times of this time to go fishing and I like seeing all the flowers and the trees and stuff. Oh yeah. It's a sign of new life. New beginnings. Yeah. It was just like yesterday. There's snow storms, which is, can turn into good too. You can go sledding. Yeah. even that I was doing workouts or guilt side, I was collecting wood and I storm your, yeah, it wasn't collecting worms yet though. Cause it was one one's here. You know, you can't find worms in the winter I guess, but you could find good tart, but and yeah. Oh my goodness. The wisdom of an 11 year old. So what he talked about was leveling up and making the best of every situation, making the best when it's raining or when you don't get what you expected. So in turning that around to something good. So today's episode, we're going to talk about how you can level up in your life. Let's go, Hey mama, welcome to Wholly Made Life™ where I believe that you are not created to do just one thing in your life. Well, you are not just your job, your title or your salary. You're not just a mom or a white versus sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made to lead in all areas of your whole life. Your life is like a pie that's made up of different pieces that create a complete circle and girl, you deserve to enjoy the whole pie. Hi, I'm Angie Tonini-Rogers and mama. I know you are really good at what you do in your profession or business, but if you're ready to stop ignoring different pieces of your pie and reclaim your whole life, then you are in the right place. Girl, let's tap into the whole life. God has for you and experienced that God size fulfilled life together. We're going to walk through some boundaries, leadership mindset and restoration in different areas of your life that may need to change. It's going to be some tough work up in here, girl, but we're going to walk this thing out together, uncovering some bull courageous actions that we can take to experience, not just a good life, but your whole life. Are you ready to live your whole life? Holy made. Let's do it. All right, guys, let's jump into the Wholly Made Life™ short assessment. We are going to level up today after we've really thought about each area of our life and where we think we fall in those areas and figure out how to start leveling up in each of those areas. Okay. All right. So this Holy made life assessment you can take online and what it will do is you'll take the assessment. It'll give you points for each of your answers. And then at the end, you'll have a total points. And then what you can do is plot that on the pie chart that I have available for you just to get a visual of where you are in each of those areas. And it will kind of give you a visual of the areas that are either much closer to being a hundred percent satisfied or a hundred percent comfortable in that area versus other areas that you feel like might need a change or might need some work. So let's talk a little bit about this. This just gets your mind going and thinking about how you feel in each of these sections what's going on in each of these sections and then what you can do to start to balance out some of those sections and ultimately level up. All right. So let's talk first about the section of physical health, physical health, mental health, your overall wellness. Okay. So here are some options that I want you to think about and if it's you, you can jot down a which one it is. And I'll go through option one through five. Okay. Or actually let's do a through B. So it's not confusing once you get the numbers, because these are in no particular order and the assignments of numbers to each of these. I don't want you to get confused if you write down number one and think that that's a one. Okay. So in your physical health, mental health, your wellness, your overall wellness this is the area that you're going to be thinking about. So option a, you feel pretty good about it. You feel pretty good about your physical and mental health. You feel content, you feel satisfied. You feel like your health is overall pretty good, but you know that there's some places that you could improve, either your physical or your mental or emotional health wellness often be it's not your priority. Or maybe you have some health issues going on that you are kind of ignoring or pushing to the side because you're too busy to deal with it. Option C sometimes you take care of your health. Sometimes you don't, you feel like your health is pretty fair, but you definitely know that there's a place that you could do. Some things to improve. Option D would be that you're in great health. You really focus on your physical body and your wellness regularly. It's totally your jam. And then option E would be that, you know, that you should focus on your physical or mental health or your emotional wellness, but you really just don't make the time for it. So that is the physical section. Let's move to spiritual. So again, you're going to choose what's most like you, it's not going to be exactly in your words, but just the feeling behind it, the content behind it, just figuring out what, which one you kind of fall into. All right. Option a is going to be that you believe in something, but it's not really something that you focus on. As far as spirituality option B is you are kind of in a place where you're asking, what does spirituality even mean? What is the spiritual area of my life even supposed to look like? And you feel kind of lost in this area. Option C is that you would definitely describe yourself as spiritual. You always feel like you're listening and you're looking for confirmation spiritually of what you is going on in your life. You feel inspired by the word and you feel like you take daily steps of faith, whether that's prayer or listening to a worship song or I'm meditating on the word or just, you know, throwing up thanks and praise. When you feel like something has given you some confirmations option D is that you feel very connected and you pray, you meditate on the word, you meditate on positive thoughts. You repeat those things to yourself. You read scripture, you read positive ideas or you listen to audio. You listen to podcasts that are spiritually focused and you feel very encouraged by that. And then option E is that you think, you know what you believe. But, or maybe you have heard stories from others that you know, that that has worked for them, but you feel like you personally need to see more growth and you need to see more of that manifesting in your own life. All right, Next section is going to be financial section. So think about your finances in this next section and figure out where you feel like you might fall option a would be that you're a hundred percent satisfied with what you make at work or what you're making in your business. You feel like you have enough and you don't really have to worry about those a hundred buck target runs or going out to dinner or, you know, spending money on vacation. You just feel like you are in a place where you have enough and you just don't have to worry about it. Option B is that you're feeling pretty comfortable, but you feel like you could be more knowledgeable about what's going on in your finances. But you feel like you're doing okay. All the bills are paid. You have extra, but you're not really thinking about futuristically when it comes to your finances, option C is that you don't really have time to think about this. You are kind of very neutral bills are paid, but there's not any extra option. D is that you are living Paycheck to paycheck. Okay? Sometimes you are having to Rob Peter to pay Paul. Okay. And then option E is that you have lots of debt. Maybe you run out of money at the end of the month, all the bills aren't always getting paid. You are constantly having to move stuff around. You lose sleep at night about how you're going to pay for this or that. Or if an emergency came up, you wouldn't know what or what or where you're going to get the money to pay for that. Okay. That would be optional. All right, let's move to professional. Option a is going to be that you have no idea, really what you want to do. You want to be you're in a place where you just don't really enjoy what you're doing and you feel like, or, and or you feel like you work way too much, or you don't work enough. You don't get enough out of your professional option. B is going to be that you enjoy what you do, and you do find some meaning in it. You have a feeling of being connected. You have a good time at work. You enjoy your coworkers. You feel like you're on a great team. And you just feel like you make a difference when you're there. Option C is that you feel busy, but you don't really feel productive. And you don't really feel like you're making an impact. It definitely pays the bills, but you don't really love it. It's just, it's a way to get your bills paid. And you don't really feel like you're accomplishing anything now or maybe a future option D is that you're very, you're pretty content in what you do. You like it enough, but basically you could take it or leave it. And then the last option in this section of professional is that you really love what you do. It really lights you up. You feel alive, you feel very sick. You feel super accomplished at work. You feel really successful at work. All right. And then the next session is going to be, let's talk about relational, this, this section. So we're going to talk about you think about your marriage. Think about your relationship with your kids. Think about relationship with your friends, for this section. All right. Option a, is that you're completely satisfied with all your relationships. You have plenty of quality time with your husband in your marriage. You spend time on your marriage. Maybe you go to retreats with your husband. Maybe you go to marriage. What do they call conferences? You, you spend a lot of time on your marriage with, with your husband. You second thing is that you feel pretty satisfied with your kids. You feel like you have enough time with your kids and you get good quality time with them every day. Or, you know, at least throughout the week, you're doing maybe dates with their kids and things. And then thinking about your girlfriends that you, you regularly are able to go out with your girlfriends, or maybe it's a church group or whatever the social is outside of your kids and your marriage. Whatever that is, you feel very satisfied with that. You never miss a date night. You always go to sports games with, you know, that your kids are a part of you never miss a chips and salsa or game night with the girls, a Bunco, whatever it is you're doing. Okay. Those are examples. All right. Option B is that you feel pretty comfortable in your relationships, but you feel like you could be more engaged with, you know, either your kids or your husband or your girlfriends. Maybe you feel like you are going through the day to day with your kids, but you're not really getting good quality one-on-one time with them. Your relationships could feel a little bit better, but you still feel okay about things. And if one of those, whether it's your husband or your kids if one of those is true for either one of the kids or the husband, then you could pick this one. It doesn't have to be for all of your relationships, just, you know, whatever was most important to you. Alright, option C is that you don't really see your friends much. You definitely keep up on social though. And you would say that you don't really have time for a date night with your husband because you're too busy for your schedules. You don't really work out schedules together. It's maybe it's feels pretty much. Get up, go get dinner and get a bath in bed and that's it. And then the day starts over again tomorrow. Okay. Maybe that's where you are. You would be in C option D you don't have time for get togethers with friends. You definitely don't have time for date nights. You don't really have alone time for intimacy. Things always feel pretty rushed with the kids. And basically when you think about your relationships, you really have kind of a hard time remembering when the last time is that you guys really laughed and had a great time together. And then the final option in this category, it would be that you have some gay nights. You have some other fun activity together as a family, at least a couple of times per month. You miss some nights with the girls, but you always are able to catch up on the phone when you do, maybe you feel pretty close with your husband most of the time, but, but there could be some more time to be just with each other. Okay? You feel pretty good about having those one-on-one moments with your kids, but you feel like meth, there could be a little bit more time that you could devote to that. That would be relationships. All right? And then let's go to personal and self care. So this is anything to do with taking care of yourself, which might cross over into some of these other sections that we've already talked about. But let's think about specifically what you do for yourself. All right. Option a is that you're totally into self care. You definitely make time for yourself regularly, and you feel pretty refreshed after you're able to spend that time on yourself. You deserve it. So you go do it. And this could be going to the salon. It could be a massage. It could be a walk. It could be you know, grooming your dog. If you'd like to do that, it could be washing your car. It could be a meditation. It could be exercise, whatever those things are that you feel like you take for you and only you, or option B is that you don't really feel like you have enough time for you. You don't have time for self care, however that's defined for you, but you do know what you would do if you had the time. So even though you don't have enough time, you do have things that you feel like go into that category of what self care is for you. And so you have options. You just don't have the time for it. All right. Option C is going to be what is self-care. So you don't really know either what self-care is, or you really just don't have a long list or even a very short list of what your self care items are. You just can't really think of things that you like to do to take care of yourself. Some people like to go get a pedicure. Some people like to go do their nails. Like I said, some people like to go sit in the garden. Maybe you like working in the garden, but if you can't really think of what those things are, that really kind of lights you up, then this might be your option for this category. You've maybe you feel like you've kind of let yourself go and you definitely put your needs last after everybody else's. So sometimes that means that there's really not time for you at all. All right. Option D is that you spend a lot more time taking care of others and you are on the regular last. And in fact, you don't do anything for yourself because you spend so much time taking care of others. And then the final option for this category is going to be that you try to do something on your self care, at least a couple of times per month, but it just doesn't always work out. So you make an attempt or intent. You are intentful, or you are intentionally making an attempt to do some self-care to rejuvenate or refresh yourself, but it just doesn't always work out with your schedule. Okay? So those are the questions like you will find on the Holy made life, short assessment. And so if you want to see what your score Is, then make sure That you go into the show notes and click the link to get your free assessment so that it pops up. You take the assessment, you get your score. And then what you can do is plot that on the pie chart that I also have available for you. So you can kind of shade that in. So you, where you are, if you're anything like me, you just need something visual to look at because a visual is what kind of helps you keep everything in mind. I just like to look at stuff. It just makes it easier than no one kind of comparing numbers in my head. I'm just, that's not me. Okay. So that is it guys. Now, if as we've gone through this, you felt like man, there's a lot of areas. I feel like I need to change in. And you just are feeling a little bit overwhelmed or stuck, or don't really know where to go. Make sure that you email me at Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com and grab a session. I am here to help you with that. That's what I'm coaching women with is helping them identify the places they feel that overwhelmed so that we can break it down and make it manageable. Sister. This is not, it's not something that has to be overwhelming. This is something that we can work on together so that you can start to feel like you can level up in your life, in every area of your life so that you can feel more balanced. You can feel more joy and just restore that hope and, and just feel that healing in every area of your life. Okay? You definitely deserve to feel whole in all areas of your life. And that's what we're here to do. We're walking this thing out together and I can't wait to hear from you. So one other thing, make sure you hop over to that Facebook group so that we can engage over there. Okay? All right, ladies, have a great night and I will see you on the next day. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.

EP 31 What is Your Super Power? You are Wonder Woman! Fully Equipped with Who God Has Called You to Be! Walking in Your Purpose for your Family Super Mom Listen, SIS, you are stronger than you. Believe you have greater powers than, you know, because no matter how small, an act of kindness or generosity or simple positivity you put out into the world, it will make a difference. Do you guys know what that's from? We're going to find out in this episode! Welcome back friends to this episode of Wholly Made Life. So I want to start today and talk about your super powers and yes, you have super powers and they are given to you by God Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angie@whollymadelife.com  So when I'm talking throughout this episode, I want you to know that. Obviously I want to acknowledge that your superpowers are given to you directly by God. So I wanted to talk today about wonder woman, have you guys seen this movie? I tell you what, it's one of the best movies I cry and cry and cry every time I watch it. It's just amazing. But let's talk a little bit about who wonder woman is. So according to vocabulary.com wonder woman is a noun. It's a woman who can be successful at being a wife and also have a professional career at the same time. Hmm. How many of us does that sound like? I just defined every single person listening to this podcast. Sister, you are a wonder woman. You are the wonder woman. So I want you to think the episode where, not the episode, the part of the movie, if you guys have seen it think about the part of the movie where they are in this bunker. And these guys have been stuck in this bunker for so long. They've not been able to progress forward to take over the area that they have been trying to take over. So she decides that because the choice was to go on and continue on their journey, her and her group, and let these men die in this bunker because they'd been there forever and they couldn't progress forward and they were going to die. They couldn't retreat and they couldn't go forward. They were just going to die. She decides instead to sacrifice herself and put others first. So she jumps out of the bunker. She starts taking these bullets so that others can go ahead and take over the enemies bunker as you watch her in her strength, put her shield in front of her and step out alone and take bullets after bullets, after bullets, also that all of the others can run forward. And go ahead while she is the one under aim, she is the one under fire. I cried and cried during this part. And this is because of her strength, her compassion for these people, her empathy and her need to serve and save that's her power because she is a woman and women have these empathetic, strong feelings. This need to care for others. It's just an innate, nurturing quality that we have. That's us. That's women. We are wonder women. We are her. We embody everything that wonder woman is because that's who God has called us to be. That's how we've been created. We sacrifice so others can go. We sacrifice so others can do. We sacrifice so others can eat and sleep. We go without so that others can have, we don't sleep because there's too much work to do sometimes. So when you think of wonder woman or the strongest woman of God in your life, who do you think of and what qualities do they have? Do you think of you and the qualities that you have when you think of a wonder woman? Why not SIS? You are that wonder woman. You are her don't you understand that there's somebody in your life thinking of you as their wonder woman. When someone asks them, who's a strong woman in their life, the wonder woman of their life, the wonder woman of God, you are the one that comes to that. Person's mind. There's somebody in your life that calls you, you their wonder woman. Why is that so hard to believe? Friend? Why is that so hard to believe you are her. You are the strong woman of God. You are the wonder woman. I'm going to tell you why it's because the enemy constantly asks us. Who do you do? You think you are well, who do you think you are thinking? You're wonder woman thinking you're strong. Yes. The enemy can cause that doubt and disbelief in who you are, then it keeps you from working on an, in your purpose. If he, the enemy can keep you from doubting who it is that God has called you to be and the strength and all of the equipping that God's putting it within you so that you can walk out into that battlefield. You can walk out into your purpose and with your shield of God and take that fire from the enemy and keep on moving forward. If he puts doubt in your mind, then he keeps you from walking in your purpose. He keeps you from walking out into that battlefield with your shield and doing the dang thing. He keeps you from protecting yourself with your shield when you need it. Because if you can get beat down enough, if you can get in disbelief and doubt enough, then you'll stop taking action. You'll stop taking those steps. You'll stop acting. You'll stop working. You'll forget who you are or you'll doubt what your calling was in the first place. That's what the enemy wants to do. He wants to strip you of your identity and your identity is that you are strong in Christ. You are the woman of God that he's created to be. So I'm here today to remind you that you are are wonder woman. You're the wonder woman of God. You are here at her. You're victorious. You're royalty. You're strong. You're courageous. You're bold. You're blessed. You're called. You're chosen. You're restored. You're renewed and redeemed. You are strong in Christ. You're strong. He's equipped you with everything you need and everything. You are to be the wonder woman for those around you. You are her. And I don't want you for a second to forget that you are wonder woman. I may give you a couple quotes from wonder woman. If a loss makes you doubt your belief in justice, then you never truly believed in justice at all. And she also says, I will fight for those who cannot fight for themselves. You have been equipped to fight for others. Now I know that only love can truly save the world. So I stay, I fight and I give for the world. I know can be, that's a wonder woman. And that's who you are. You are stronger than belief than you believe you are stronger than you. Believe you have greater powers than you know, you know why? Because all the powers and the strength that God has given you is already within you. It's already there. It's always been there. It always will be there. And you just have to recognize it and walk in it. Walk in your equipping. You've been equipped. Walk in your strength, walk in your power. That is made that power by Jesus by God take no, we're not that without him. But he's given all of this to us. Wonder woman was trained to be an unconquerable warrior. She fights. And as she fights, she discovers her true destiny and purpose. So I challenge you today, sister, to walk as an unconquerable warrior because he said, we are an overcomer. He said, we are the head and not the tail we are above and not beneath. He said, we are overcomers and we are conquerors in Christ. Jesus, you have been trained. You have been equipped. You are an unconquerable warrior and you will fight. And as you fight, you'll discover your true destiny and your purpose lean into it. Okay? All right, sister. That was what I wanted to encourage you with today because you are strong and mighty in God. He is equipped you. You are somebody wonder woman don't ever forget it. Okay. Says, I'll see you on the next episode. Hey, wonder woman, before you go. I just wanted to remind you that if you feel stuck or if you can't quite identify what your superpowers are, grab a coaching session with me. I have 30 minute power sessions and an hour deep dive. Go ahead and hit me up on AngieToniniRogers@gmail.com to get my coaching menu. And we can talk further about what it is you need. All right. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.

EP 30 How to Bless & Release Your Adult Child. Moving from Rule Regulating Parenting to Relationship-Based Parenting. When it's Time to Let Go & Let God! For Biblical Scriptural Mamas Ladies! We are going to let go and let God sometimes that is one of the hardest things to do. I want to acknowledge it right now that this is hard, hard work, but sister, you can do it. Let's go friends. We're going to let go and let God! Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Podcast Episode Updates: https://angie.gr8.com/ Angie's Coaching Menu: Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com Hey guys, today, we are going to let go and let God sometimes that is one of the hardest things to do. I want to acknowledge it right now that this is hard, hard work, but sister, you can do it. Let's go friends. We're going to let go and let God okay.  Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life today. I want to expand a little bit on what I talked about on the last episode, which was going seven levels deep on your why. And I brought up this conversation about our children and letting our children go. And I'm currently in this season where my oldest is now 18, he'll be 19 in July. And he went off to college all the way to Arizona, 26 hours away. And that was one of the hardest things ever is letting him go that far and learning how to continue to parent from a place where he's a teen and he's into adulthood changing over that style of kind of a rule based parenting to a relationship based parenting because what's so important throughout. And we've talked about this in lots of other episodes for different things, but relationship and honesty and integrity in that relationship is number one. And so I've always tried to create this relationship with my kids, where they feel comfortable enough to share with me and talk to me about the truth about what's going on in their lives, what they're doing, how they're feeling, even if the actions that they're taking are not desired, ones are not ones that I would necessarily approve of, but creating that relationship where it's safe enough for them to come to me and talk to me about what's going on. It's that fine line of condoning versus loving conditionally despite their behaviors or despite what they're doing. You know, interestingly, as they transition into teens and especially adulthood, it's really important to kind of, as a parent, try to transition out of that rule based regulation based parenting, where they need those rules and confinement such as you know, when they're little and they're going to touch a hot stove, well, you're going to jump in and you're going to take over and you're going to do the things you need to do to keep them safe. There becomes a point though, when they get into this teen and adulthood where they're starting to create their own independence. And at some point we're going to have to let go and let God, right? Because despite our want to create this safe place for our kids, they still have to grow and learn and do on their own, whether they're making mistakes or not. And of course they're going to make mistakes. We all did. And I mean, when I think about myself in college and other, and even, you know, yesterday there are mistakes that I make on a daily basis, but if I didn't make those mistakes, I wouldn't have learned to do things differently to get a different result. So as a parent, we have to allow that ability for our child to make those decisions. And I think for me, when I was talking about that seven levels of why, of why I get so worried, anxious, upset, why it bothers me if one of my kids makes decisions that I don't approve of or that kind of thing. It also comes back down to that same thing that I've talked about before related to how people perceive me as a parent, as a person in society, as a leader who, whatever that is, if my kid's not acting right, then it reflects something upon me was how I used to take that on. And what's important to realize is that just because your kiddo is doing something that they should or shouldn't do it doesn't reflect on me as a person or as a parent necessarily. Now it's really hard to not take that on. And I can give an example. If I see something posted by one of my kids on social media site that I don't approve of, I am going to pick up that phone and let it, especially for my oldest, I'm going to pick up my phone and be like, dude, what are you thinking? Think about how you're representing yourself, how you're representing your family, your school, your job, because that's important and that's parenting. But at the same time, I have to choose to allow my child to at the end of that, make his own decision. And I shouldn't say child, I should say young adult. Okay. And obviously I'm going to be a little bit more careful about how I approach that because I don't want to create guilt and shame for behaviors that are not appropriate, but redeemable. Okay. So I am saying to you kind of how I'm thinking, like, dude, what are you doing? But as I approach that with him, I'm going to have that conversation a little differently, obviously to try to remove some of the judgment and maybe the critical nature of that conversation to ensure that he knows, listen, I love you. And I want the best for you. And I want you to portray yourself in the best light. I want you to be you, but I also want you to be true to who it is you're called to be that kind of thing. And it's just a really hard transition because when they're 14 or 12 or 11, if they post something or get involved in something, I have that ability where I'm still in that rule-based parenting stage where I can just give consequences and take away the social media, take away the phone, you delete his account, that kind of thing. But once you get into young adulthood, especially when they're paying for their own phone, their own bills, there's a limited amount of regulating that I can do at that point. And while I wish and hope and pray that my child or my young adult will present himself in a way to society that is respectful and loving and displaying who it is that I know God's calling him to be. That's not always going to be the case. And I can't always assign whatever that perception is to the job I did as a parent. Now, have I made mistakes? Yes. A hundred percent. And I continue to make daily mistakes because none of us are the best parent we can possibly be all the time because we are fallible. We make mistakes, but that's what God's there for. He's there to stand in the gap from when we make our mistakes. You know, as long as you know that you've done the best you could do with the resources you have, and you are attempting to use biblical principles to raise your children such as like in Proverbs 26, it says, train up a child in the way he should go. Even when he's old, he will not depart from it. That speaks to our foundation that we're building with our children so that when they do grow up to be adult children of ours, that they won't depart from it. And that their spirit will be drawn back if they do sway or do fall away a little bit, but they've got that foundation and they've got that relationship with Holy spirit to come back to what matters. And the other is that Proverbs 13, 24, whoever spares, the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. So when I talk about not owning the outcomes of our children, that's not a hundred percent, you know, because we do have a responsibility to parent biblically and take the responsibility to discipline our children in a way that's going to be able to create the most productive children we can. But to also know that it's our job to put that foundation in. But at some point they're going to have to make choices and that God will cover and God will stand and go after his children always no matter what. And so even if we haven't and been raised by biblical parenting, gods stands in that gap because overall God is our father. And he always has been, always will be. So we have that responsibility, but at the same time, you know, they're still individuals and they still are going to make their own choices. Especially when you get into that late teen adult, a young adult to take on the full responsibility of every choice that your adult child is making is just not a fair thing to put on yourself. It's just not, it's not a fair thing to do to yourself, to beat yourself up because your adult child is making choices that you may or may not agree with. Does that make sense? But it's an inner work as a parent to not define our success or failure as a parent based on decisions that our young adult children are making. And I just thought for whatever reason that came up and I thought, let me talk about this a little bit more, if not for you guys for myself, because I still, when these things happen, I still have to stop that circling thought that starts to happen in my head of, Oh my gosh, people are going to think like, what in the world are you doing? How did you raise him? I mean, are you raising, you know, barbarians over there? Or what, because number one, I don't know that people are actually thinking that because when it's not your own kid, it's not, there's not a responsibility or that ownership to feel a certain way about what that other kids that other moms kid is doing or saying. However, there is that, that it takes a village to raise. So like a lot of people in my church helped me raise my, my kids. And I mean, two of my kids don't remember life before we were part of this church atmosphere that, you know, they've grown up there and everybody knows them and everybody's looking out for them. And, you know, I'll have people come to me and say, Hey, are, are, did you see that or this? And I appreciate that because I think it does take all of us to love each other enough to help each other raise our kids. But at the same time, they don't own how my child, my adult child presents himself in the community. I own that. So I'm going to see that differently than somebody else might. Okay. And my challenge to you would be, if you are in a place where, when people's children do things that you think, wow, they should not have done that, or whatever the case may be to just challenge yourself and think about, are you defining the quality of that? Child's parents parenting because of the way that children are acting. And again, when they're small children, toddler, age, you know, all toddlers have these stages where they cry and scream and kick and throw tantrums. And certainly all of us have different parenting styles. And there are some styles that are more effective in squashing, certain kinds of behaviors than other styles. So I'm not necessarily talking about that. I'm just challenging you to really think about and reflect upon feelings and thoughts that you get about people's parenting styles before you make judgment, reflect on that and understand that every parent is most likely doing the very best that they can with the resources, experience, knowledge, support, health, status, money, status, et cetera, that they have at that given time. Everyone's most likely doing the very best that they can with the resources they have at that time. And it could be an opportunity where maybe the Holy Spirit's nudging you to provide some sort of assistance, whatever that assistance might be, or maybe it's just prayer for that parent in that child. Okay. So again, it's just a small nudge and challenge because I had the same thing when I think these things about myself and there have been times in my life, especially in behavioral health, where I dealt with adolescents, and there were horrific stories about things that parents did or didn't do. But I also, the way that I could be most effective with that child as I was helping that child stabilize some behaviors or working with the parents, as we were trying to get the kids back into the homes, what was most effective was for me to remember that there are a lot of circumstances that I'm not privy to. There's a lot of history and experience or lack thereof that I'm not privy to. Or if I am that I can start to see that they were doing the best they can with the resources they had. So it's just a small challenge as we're talking about making those judgements about parents based on children's behaviors. The other big thing is that somebody in my church in a leadership meeting said this last night it's about getting on your knees and praying because sometimes at the end of the day, you have to just pray because that's what we have control over. That's what we have the power over. We have to trust that God's going to do what he said, he's going to do. We, we know what he says about us, and I know what he says about my child, my adult child, and I have to just trust. And if there are things happening as I continue to walk out this, being an adult, being a mom of an adult child, when things happen, if they happen, I have to continue to remember that the best thing I can do is yes, continue to speak life over him and continue to pray that those are the most powerful things is reminding him of who he is, who he's been called to be, and then trusting God to move him and draw him near. And this is about just in general, how we can empower ourselves to continue to parent in the best way that we know how once our kids hit adulthood. I'm not saying that my child was out there doing all kinds of crazy things or any air. He doesn't know, you know, kind of who he's been called to be, but all of us, as we transition into that college life, we it, at least this is my first time transitioning into this place where, okay, I can't just give him the rules and say, this is what you're going to do. And my 14 year olds coming up on that age to where I've got to kind of drop some of that rule, regulated parenting and build more into the relationship. So one of the best things I think, besides the prayer and speaking life over your children and continuing to do that, no matter what I mean, you know, until my kid until the day that I'm no longer walking this earth, I will pray and speak life over all the people in my life, because I believe that God hears those prayers. And I know that God will do what God does, which is work everything out for our good, I think that the best thing we can do in addition to giving it to God and continuing to pray is to just love, love our kids, love the people in our lives because we can't control our kids' choices or lifestyles. It's just our job to love them. And we love them regardless. We love them unconditionally. We don't make our love conditional on whether or not our kids doing what he, I think that he should do. It's not a conditional love. It's a unconditional love. And letting our kid know that we are so grateful for who he or she is. We're so grateful for what God's put into their life and put into their spirit and just calling out all of those things that God has said about our kids and loving them unconditionally, because it's not just because we love them unconditionally doesn't mean that we have to approve of choices or lifestyle. And this is with anybody in your life. I love all because that's what God tells me to do is to love all I love big and I love hard and I love all, but it doesn't always mean that loving someone means you have to accept behaviors or choices that they have. You can love people close to you or far from you without having to condone what it is they are doing or saying you don't have to always agree with everything, but just because you disagree with something doesn't mean you can't love. So it's not about judgment. It's about loving someone enough to be beyond what choices and lifestyle. And thank God that people have loved me beyond my choices sometimes and my lifestyle sometimes. Okay. You know, I am grateful for those that continue to love me, regardless of the choices that I made. I mean, I had let's see, I met my husband 24 years ago and we, we were married 11 years later in two kids. So despite that choice that I made and the lifestyle that we lived for 11 years, where we cohabitated and we got pregnant, I was, we were together five years before I got pregnant with Clayton. And, you know, I beat myself up about those choices. Cause I wish that I could have done it differently. I wish I could have done it. The way that I know is right, which is to get married first and then have kids. But it's just not the way that it happened. It's not the, the lifestyle that I chose for that time. Now it's hard at this day and age to say, do, as I say, not as I do, because the reality is, is that as we lead our life, we leave an example for others. Now I hope that my kids make a different choice than I did all of us as parents. Do. We all want our kids not to go through the same mistakes that we did or they make the same mistakes that we did. But the reality is, is that I also learned through that mistake, my relationship with God, my relationship with my husband now is tighter than it has ever been because I learned through those choices that I made. I learned how, how grace, how much grace and how much mercy and forgiveness I learned how to forgive and love harder and bigger than I would have otherwise. You know, the timing of Clayton's birth was such divine timing. So God blesses things, even though we may not be always doing the things that we're supposed to do, not blessing our choices in our lifestyle necessarily, but he loves us enough to be faithful to us and to have that grace and mercy. So I just felt like I wanted to expand a little bit on that topic because I still, you know, as a parent, I want what's best for my kids. And I know that you do too, but sometimes as parents it's that balance of that rule, regulated parenting versus that relationship related parenting. And then also how to deal with disappointments or things that happen when our kids or our husband or people close to us are making choices that we just don't agree with, or that we, it breaks our heart because we know that choice is not going to result in the blessing that we want for them. So being able to balance those things with also understanding conditional love, regardless of those things, and also understanding that our God is a big God, and God will set us free. God will watch over us. God will send those angels before us to protect our paths. He's, he's saved us for so many things that we don't even know that we were saved from. He is working all things out for our good, so it's that faith and that trust, knowing that that's also happening, it's about handing over our trust to God and knowing that he will stand in the gap, he will continue to cover and protect. And we know that he will continue to pull the people that we love closer to him, despite our own choices. And it's about not taking on the ownership of every choice that the people in our lives make. If it's different than what we would have chosen, their choices, other people in our lives, including our adult children or, or our small children, their choices don't define who we are or define how we did as a parent or how I am as a wife. Yes, it's connected, but it doesn't define who I am as a parent or who I am in God or who I am as a wife. You understand what I'm saying? It's it's important that they have a foundation, but an individual's choice is that individual's choice. The reality is, is that the only thing that defines is something for that person. There's not a direct 100% connection or definition that that gets attached to another person based on another person's actions. So I don't know how clearly I'm saying that, but it's just important to remember that it doesn't define who you are as a parent. The only thing that defines who you are is what is in the Bible. It's got to align with that truth. So just remember that when you're struggling with that, if you struggle with that, like I do and have just remembering to align it up with the truth of what God says, who you are. So I just want to pray over you and your children today. God, I thank you for your consistency. I thank you for you having the last say in who we are. And I just thank you for the grace and the mercy. I thank you for being there to stand in the gap when we have to let go and let God I thank you for being the, the person we can lean on. I thank you for giving us a safe place to hide under your strength under your will, under your wings of protection. I just thank you that you have given us a stable place to be in love in grace and mercy and forgiveness. I thank you God for saving us. I thank you God for protecting us. God, give us the strength, the wisdom, and the discernment on when and how to intervene in our young adult children's lives and our young child's life and our husband's lives and our coworkers life. God give us the strength, the wisdom and discernment. That's what I pray for right now, for all the parents, listening, all the coworkers, listening, all the sisters and the wives, listening. God give us that wisdom and discernment to know when and how to intervene in a way that is going to be in alignment of love. Unconditional love for our sister or brother, son, or daughter in Christ. I thank you God for that discernment. And I just thank you for loving us. The overwhelming love that you have for us, let us have even a small, tiny portion of that for others in our lives. Give us the ability to love so big and so hard that regardless of the choices that the people in our lives are making, that they know that we love them. That's what we're called to do. Loving others. 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EP 29 How to Go 7 Levels Deep on your Why- Why It's So Important to Find Start Define your Why-Your Reason for What You Do and Love For Moms Today, we're going deep... 7 levels deep. Let's talk about the seven whys, have you guys heard of this? It's, it's called lots of different things. Seven whys, 7 levels deep the 7 Why exercise... This is something that a lot of people use in coaching and in supervision leadership, as well as you know, a lot of sales teams use it to help motivate their, their workers. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Angie's Coaching Menu: Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! Ppu.atrogers.com Welcome back ladies to this episode of Wholly Made Life. And I am actually in my car recording because I could not catch a break at home this week to get these episodes recorded. I mean, it's a never ending coming to and from and boys wrestling and dogs barking and a new corn team to have to start over. I mean, for the love of all mighty God, Jesus pray for me. So yeah my youngest had to go onto quarantine again because someone on the soccer team had been exposed or had gotten it and whatever the, whatever the specifics were and all of the kids had to quarantine again. So he's home again with me this week and I love him to life. But he is just a talker, not but, but, and he is just a talker and so it's not a possibility for me to record. So anyway, I had to run over to the school and pick up his, they call it the Wednesday folder. So I was like, well, you know what, I'm just going to hit record in the car and I'm going to talk about my episode. So then I was going to do for you guys and I don't have my notes or anything like that. So you guys just love on me and support me and just hang with me And we will get this thing done Then. Okay. All right. So actually today I wanted to talk about the seven whys, have you guys heard of this? It's, it's called lots of different things. Seven whys, 7 levels deep the 7 Why exercise? And yes, I'm saying the number seven and then why, W H Y and I think this is important. This is something that a lot of people use in coaching and in supervision leadership, as well as you know, a lot of sales teams use it to help motivate their, their workers. A lot of people use it within culture to create this missional culture where each person is connecting with their WHY by the way, a really good book. If you are wanting to connect with your why, or wanting to look deeper is Start with Why by Simon Sinek. , my gosh, Simon Sinek, S I N E K. I'll put a link to the show notes to what his, where his book is. I don't get anything for sharing that you guys, I just when I find good stuff, I like to share it. So, and by the way, regarding that there are some things that I talk about and share on the show and I might have an affiliate link. And what basics, basically, what that means is that I get a small commission for sharing it. It's a way that if you click that link and you happen to buy a course, or you happen to buy a product that I am an affiliate of that it's just a good it's a nice way to be supported. And it helps me fund the efforts for the bucket. So there are some things that I am an affiliate of. One of which is I, I don't, I had lots, I don't know. I don't like 12 people or something recently asked me, how did I start the podcast and all that stuff? Well, I took a course by Stephanie Gass. And so I am an affiliate of her course, because she gives you everything. You need to start a podcast. So when you go to ppu.atrogers.com, you can get her course. And so when you do that, I would get a small commission for that, just for sharing it. So that's how that works. So anyway, I just wanted to be upfront and open about that, but also I'm just, I don't, I am certainly for the, most of the stuff I talk about and I share on this podcast, I'm not an affiliate of, I just love this stuff. Like here's something else that I was going to mention later on, but I'll mention it now. I go to a church called The Kingdom Center Church in Louisville, Kentucky, and my has written hundreds of songs. And she and her worship team called violent worship just released their EP of five songs. I'm in love with all of those songs, because number one, they're amazing life-changing songs. If you really pay attention and let the words move in you and let the Holy spirit move over you during that worship and praise, then you will be forever changed. And each of those songs have a different time and season in my life, but also I know and love and hang out with, and Just Life with all of the people that are on that album. So I, they're my friends and they're my family. And so when they do something great, I want to share it because I love them and I love what they do. And I also know that what they do impacts the world. So, you know, I just have that philosophy in life when somebody that is in my close circle or in my life is doing something great that I know is impacting people positively. I want to share them. I want to, I want to share that I want to share them. I want others to him be impacted in such a way that I have been and my wife. And so I just believe in sharing that and, you know, I don't get anything for sharing, you know, that related to violent worship, other than just knowing that you will be blessed and I'm blessed when you're blessed. So anyway, if you have not gone out, you can go on iTunes and Spotify, wherever it's a violent worship, and it's a five song EP, and it'll change your life. If you let it all, I'm a big worship and praise person and music moves me like nothing else. So I'm always changed when a certain song hits me a certain way. Get the Violent worship Album- Round 1 right here So okay. So let's go back to the seven whys. And so what this is, it's seven questions deep. So basically when you think about something and you're, you're trying to look deeper, maybe you're trying to grow a little bit, you're trying to find out why it is that you do what you do, or why do you like what you like, or why does your heart's desire point in a certain direction, sometimes focusing and reflecting on Asking why Seven levels deep will help you get to what's under it. And I'll use a quick example and it might be a little messy again, cause I don't have any notes or anything with me, but so I thought about the doctorate degree that I'm getting the nursing I'm getting a doctorate of nursing and I only have the project left to complete and then I'll be done and graduated. Thank God. But I also still had the project under me and that's the biggest part other than the classes, that's the biggest part of the program. So I still have a little bit of weight, plenty of hours to get, but anyway, somebody asked me, well, why, why did you want To do that? And so The first level of my, why is just, you know, it could be something as shallow as I don't know, or because I thought I had, I should. Or it, it seemed like the next step, It's not really emotionally attached. It's it could be just kind of, it's just surface level. It's superficial. Okay. It's kind of a neat, The jerk answer as to why you, I might have done that. It might be a canned response or, or a politically correct response. Okay. So Then if my answer is I don't know, then you might ask why, why don't, you know, and then I might say something like, well, I just Felt like it was probably the next step and then someone would ask me, well, why would that be okay, Next step? And then I might Say in response, something like, Well you know, for me, See, I've talked about this before, especially in my episodes about recovering from perfectionism. For me it's about, It was kind of, it's another title to add to my name. You know, It seems like then it's a terminal degree. It's the last highest degree that I can get as a nurse. So it's about accomplishment. It's about You know, about That's the highest title quote unquote that I could get. So yeah. Then the next question would be, well, why is that important to you? Why, why do you need the highest title in your field? And then you start so about number three, about the third or fourth, why for sure you start to have to reflect a little bit deeper. And the idea DIA is that you continue to ask why until there's really nothing left to dig to you, get to the bottom, you get all the way to the bottom. If you stop at three, then you're still kind of in that BS phase a little bit, or that The world answers The canned answers, the politically correct answers are still kind of there. You're not really getting deeper into What derives that. Why, So right when we got to that question about, well, You know, why, why do you need the highest title in your field snap? That's right there where it starts to trigger me. And it triggers me pretty earlier me because I've done a lot of work. And I know So what drives and has driven And a lot of my decisions in my professional life, my educational academic life and my parent life being a wife, I know That the worldly death Of who I am and what that looks like, the worldly definition of what accomplishment is. I know that I have strive for that same reason why I don't. I cringe when I think about somebody showing up to my house unannounced because I haven't had time to make sure that all the rooms are tidy and everything is swept and the counters clean and the dishes are put away. You know, now I try to keep those little things, but we all live life. Right. And so I would not say that I just wasn't. I wish I was a lot, like some of my friends are and my sister. But I just don't feel like I'm a, the best Home maker. Naturally It's something I have to work at. So I feel a little, I feel less confident in that area. Like my decoration style, my housekeeping style. It's just not something that was a real focus. I was more action taker and a Dewar. I'm making sure people get fed. I'm making sure people get their stuff done. I'm making sure people get up. I'm making sure that we get home in time for this, that or the other, you know, I was a doer. I wasn't really a It's not, I don't want to say I wasn't organized cause I am, I am, I do keep things organized. However, I always have a lot of things in the air. So I, I am much more organized when I'm able to outsource or delegate some certain things. And like, for me, me personally, when I think of housekeeping, I would love to delegate that housekeeping. Like I love to hire someone to come in and keep my house clean, just because I know that someone else has a better skill set. I keeping that organized and doing the actions that deal with that versus, Hey, quite frankly, the actions that are seen more outwardly, like I can hide a mess in my home, but I can't hide, Hide myself in The public eye or in My field, my nursing field, for example, you know, when I have those letters behind my name you know, doctorate in nursing, that's a public recognition of some sort of accomplishment. So back to the seven why's, that is an example of how that starts to hit just a little bit deeper. And it helps, you know, I know I gone all the way down to the bottom, so this I'm not in a discovery process of why and How I choose To place value on different actions and different things. Like I placed a lot of value on titles, on recognition, on accomplishments. I go all the way to the bottom and I know where that comes from and why I do it. And and on the surface level, just because I don't know that I'm ready to Share it all out in the public because you know, family and things are still there and feelings can be hurt. And that is never my intention because my mom and dad did the best they could with the resources they had. And I'm grateful and I'm blessed and there's grace for all of that. I am not the perfect parent either. And so I think God, every day, there's grace for all the mistakes that I've made as a parent. But, you know, I Was trying to meet What I defined in my own head, the story I told myself of what my dad wanted from me and yes, my mom, but my, I always felt like my mom was proud of me regardless, but I always strive to make sure that my dad was proud of me. And one of the ways that I felt like defined accomplishment and success was letter grades in school. That was very, I, I felt like, and I am focusing on me. I felt like because you know, you know, that we all make up our own stories about certain things. We all make up our own narratives about what we believe others want from us. And this is what I was doing related to my dad specifically. But, and then that bled over to everything else. My teachers my bosses at work, like I placed expectations on myself that I had made up in my head that I thought that my dad and the teachers and, and bosses wanted for me. And the only way that I was successful or worth anything in their eyes would be through these accomplishments. I hope that's making sense. So I know that now, because I've done this work. Okay. But some of it, and I've done this work specifically on this topic. Now there's other topics that I could go deep on and you know, that I haven't dug in the bar all the way to the bottom yet. So that's why the seven whys is so important. It's such an important exercise because it starts to hit you. And then, you know, as you grow and learn, You discover more about yourself. You know, so Even though I've discovered this about myself, and I know that my, you know, I'm 44 years old for much of my life, my actions were to get those accomplishments and be seen in the light of she's driven, she's successful. She meets the, you know, expectations. She's got all of these degrees, you know, all of these things because I thought that's what other people want Wanted from me now. You know, That doesn't mean that I don't still struggle with the fact that I don't want somebody to come into house and announce because I don't want them to walk in and think that I keep a dirty home. And again, my house is not dirty, but like we have three dogs. And so I have to sweep several times a day so that there's no dog hair on the floor. And sometimes I only do it twice a day or once a day, or maybe I go a whole day where I don't. And so there's dog hair on the floor, for example. Okay. it doesn't make me a bad person or a bad homemaker, but in my eyes, I want it to look like something that you've seen, you know, something that I've seen in one particular person's home. I can show up to the, I guarantee you, I can show up to that person's home. And you know, all the stuff would be in order because that is her gift. She is a homemaker and she keeps her home, but that's her gift. It's just not mine. So, and, and the other thing too, is that I'm also, even in that, telling myself a story about what her, you know, she is and who she is and what her home is. So I just said, I could guarantee you, I could show up. I also, in reality, if I tell myself what the real story probably is, is that I could show up in her home and there would be something out of order because she's also not perfect. You know? So anyway, it's always about what we tell ourselves. Okay. So just be mindful. What is the story you're telling yourself about whatever this is? Okay. So back to the seven why's I told you guys, it might be a little bit over the, all over the place. Cause I'm in my car. And I don't have my notes to keep me on drag. So, but so once you get to that three or four and you start to get that little twinge of, Ugh, this doesn't feel good, or I don't really you know, I don't know, or you're sick or you start to get frustrated. Like, I don't know, because just because, well, you don't get to answer because, because, because it's not an answer, it doesn't get you any further. Okay. It doesn't it doesn't force any growth when you just say because, and leave it. Okay. So you don't get to say, because I want you to pick a topic, pick something, maybe it's, why do you do what you do for work? Why do you let's see something that I get like in, in parenting, if I am nervous about my kid going to college, why, and then all the way down and you know, really it for me when I did this for about that, it came down to God asking me, well, Angie, do you trust me with your child or not? I mean, he's mine anyways. I gave him to you to steward him and steward his growth, but he's mine. So do you trust me or not to take care of my child with God? You know? So when I got all the way to the bottom, that's what came up for me. It related to my anxiety, fear, worry about letting my child go all the way to Arizona. Okay. also what came up with that seven white exercise with that was, have I done enough as a parent? You know, I've failed in so many things. Have I done enough? Is he prepared enough? Does he have a good enough foundation Of who he is as God I called him to be of what his purpose spiritually is in this world to be able to use strength and make choices that are going to keep him safe, keep him progressing forward. You know, no parent wants their child to make mistakes in a way that impact their lives forever. Like, you know I mean you could think of anything dry getting in a car, drunk that one time and something happening, you know? I pray for grace and covering and protection for that. And I'm not saying my son said that. I'm just saying, that's an example of what we think about when you think about your kids going off to college and they're going to live that college life, but do they have that foundation? So it came up to my own thoughts about my own failures and being the mom, you know, or not being the mom that I should have been or not doing enough. But again, when you go through the why's of that thought, I still ended up with energy. You trust me or not. Do you trust that I will stand in the gap for when you've made errors? Do you trust that I'm a forgiving father and I've forgiven you for the errors or mistakes you've made, do you trust that I will keep him safe and covered? And do you trust that he understands how to wear the armor armor of God, to be an overcomer in as the world pounds against them? Do you trust me or not? And so that's what it came down to. So you can see that this can get pretty deep. And so you want to take time, journal it out, just, just go through all of these steps about why, and when you start to feel frustrated or stuck then you know, just go another level deeper. And if you're truly stuck and you truly need a little bit more help with this, then just reach out to me. I mean, I do sessions with people coaching sessions that we could do a short 30 minute power session and go through one of these topics that you feel like you're struggling with, or you're trying to find some clarity on or we can do a more intensive session. That's more, it's an hour long. So anyway, I help people that get stuck with this, but these are things that you can also do on your own, you know, journal through these steps, you know, another big one that comes up and the guys, I also want to let you know, I am hoping to have a guest on here soon about finances, because a lot of you guys are taking the short term assessment or the not short term. The Holy life made short assessment. Finances are a huge deficit area, a huge area where we, we are identifying that. We need some changes in me too. So I'm hoping to have someone on that will help with that. So be looking forward to, And, but that's a good one, Another great Y to Y exercise to go through about financial freedom. I want financial freedom. Okay. Y and then, you know, And the next answer might be so I can pay my bills. Okay. But why do you need to pay your bills? And then you're going to go deeper and deeper and deeper. And then you're going to end up realizing that it's about, because I want to spend quality time with my family. And I don't want to have to, you know, I don't want my children's children to have to worry about their finances or worry about not having a place to live, you know, so, Okay. So this is something that you can do around whatever you want, financial freedom. You're the way that you love yourself or care for yourself joy or happiness. So you start with a very general question. Well, why, you know, I want, I just want to be happy. Well, why? And take it all the way seven levels deep and seven is just a quote quoted number. It's just a guy. If you need to go to 10 debt level seat, then go to 10. If you need to go to 15, go to 15. If you get to the very bottom in five or six, then that's good. Now I would challenge you if you're doing less than seven to really see for real, is there any deeper that you can possibly go? Okay. So I would love to Hear more from you guys about whether or not what you've learned in doing this, because what I want you to do, I would love for you to do is just go through and journal, just pick something and journal seven levels deep on the, why do the, why exercise and then hop over to the Facebook community group and share it. I can put a post in there when I post about this episode to put under there, what did you do? Your seven, why exercise on and what did you learn? And again, these are just exercises that we can do to grow, because remember we're all growing or should be growing. We cannot get to our destination without feedback, without growth. We can't, you know, a C can't bus through the ground, unless it grows a train, can't get to the state, to its destination and less, the track is giving it to feedback on the way. Okay. We all have to grow. If you stop growing, you die. I mean, there's no, there's no, that's a black and white. You're either growing or you're Your dad. And that can be in physical or the spiritual. Okay. The you've got to keep growing. You've got to want to continue to grow and learn and challenge yourself. So I highly, highly recommend that you try this exercise about something that is either frustrating or bothersome or just something you've wanted. You want to explore a little deeper. Okay. All right, guys. Well, I will see you guys on the next episode. Thank you for being patient with me as I rambled through not having my outline together so that I keep me on track and also being in the car. So you guys make it an amazing day.

EP 28 Fixing the Foundation of Your Marriage with Prayer- How to Fight your Spiritual Battles with your Husband We're just going to talk about how to pray with your husband. This is something that can be a little bit awkward, a little bit out of the ordinary, I guess if you're not used to doing it. So let's just talk about a few little tips that we can do, and it will do wonders to strengthen your marriage. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Angie's Coaching Menu: Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! Ppu.atrogers.com Hey ladies, welcome back to Wholly Made Life. And listen, if you've been feeling stuck or overwhelmed, or like you can't really fix the foundation of your Holy made life, then jump over to my email@angietoninirogers@gmail.com and ask for a session of coaching with me. I have one-to-one coaching sessions available, and we can walk through how to fix that foundation for your Wholly Made Life™. Let's get into today's episode today. We're just going to talk about how to pray with your husband. This is something that can be a little bit awkward, a little bit out of the ordinary, I guess if you're not used to doing it. So let's just talk about a few little tips that we can do, and it will do wonders to strengthen your marriage. Let's go, Need to grab a coaching session with me? Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com Find me on IG: @angietoninirogers Join our FB Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Ladies. Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. And today I want to talk about something that can be somewhat awkward and uncomfortable, but that is praying with your husband. Now, some of you guys may have already made this a habit, and if you have kudos to you, because it is one thing that for sure will strengthen your marriage. It has to, as soon as God is in the middle of it, it is his idea to begin with marriage itself is his idea to begin with. So when you keep him in the middle of it, then your marriage just has to get stronger. But sometimes this can be harder than it seems. Sometimes it just feels awkward. And especially you've had some sort of argument or a conflict, or just feeling kind of mad in your relationship. Sometimes it just feels hard to break that barrier and pray for your husband and or with your husband, not necessarily for your husband, hopefully you're praying for your husband and your family every day. And so I just wanted to talk about a few things that you could do to make it easier and more comfortable to pray with your husband. So obviously a great time to do that is right before you go to bed. Now, my husband and I typically go to bed at different times. I am a late, I stay up late and he goes to bed early because he has to get up at like four 30 in the morning or something craziness like that. My goodness, but I like to stay up late. So I'll give you an example of what we did tonight. What I've talked to him about is that, you know, we're praying separately, but it's really important that we come together in agreement because the Bible says for two or three are gathered, God is in the midst of it. And so it's really important that you come together with your spouse to pray in agreement for what you're both praying for and believing for, because it's just stronger. It's just, you're in agreement with someone else. And you've got someone else doing that with you. Not to mention that it is obviously a great thing for your children to see the both of you guys praying. Okay. So back to my example for tonight. So he was getting ready to go up to bed. So I just said, Hey, why don't we do our prayer real quick since I'm going to stay up and I'm going to do a little bit more work. And so I just grabbed his hand and I went first and prayed out loud for some different things. And then he prayed out loud for some of the things that he was believing for. And then we affirm each other in those prayers. So it doesn't have to be this major thing. It doesn't have to be this beautiful Psalmist like Breyer that doesn't have to be beautiful and eloquent. It can just be, you know, talking to God with your husband in the room and just hold hands, make that connection physically and spiritually together. Even if it's just a few minutes last night before we were going to bed, I actually was in the bed at the time before he was asleep. And so I just put my hand on his shoulder. I said, Hey, I'm going to pray for you. And I went ahead and prayed out loud. Now, other times you could just touch a shoulder and pray to yourself. If you want, you don't always have to pray out loud, but it's just one of those things. There's power in your tongue and there's powers in the words that you release into the atmosphere. And it's certainly more powerful when you have your husband on board covering that and listening to that. And if your husband is not as vocal, like mine is not as vocal. He still will do it. If I grab his hand and say, come on, let's pray. Even if it's uncomfortable and you laugh a little bit and it takes a little bit of time, that's fine. Nobody says that that's not okay. Okay. It doesn't have to look like it does in the movies or what was that movie? Prayer warriors. Oh my gosh. I can't believe why I'm going blank on that. It's prayer warrior room, prayer room, something like that. You guys know what I'm talking about anyways. It doesn't have to be a beautiful prayer like that. Okay. It can just be prayer. Okay. So some other things you can do or some prayers that you might have memorized, just take time when you say those prayers though, and really think about what those words are. Something I do in my kids do actually on the way to school every morning, or we all take turns, praying out loud for different people, for different things. We end it with the, our father and the glory be because those are words that we can say in unison together. And we say it slowly enough to where we're paying attention to what those words are, but each of them will take turns and they will talk about praying for their friend who hurt their arm. And they're praying for healing for their arm or praying for someone who, you know, there was a kid that said that he wasn't sure if he believed in God. And so one of my kids are praying hard for the Holy spirit to pull his heart back to him and show him his love for him. And so we all just pray in agreement and it's the same kind of thing that you can do with your husband. Okay. Something else that we can do to put it out in front of us is we can put a little, either a white board or a notepad or something. I know Pat on the counter or a whiteboard on the frigerator and we can write down, I need prayer for, and then when people go by just my back, my head, my wrist, financial provision a new job, whatever those things are. And then that way, when we're walking by, you know, someone can tap that thing and just make a mental note of saying, yep, I'm an agreement praying for financial provision or praying for a new job or whatever those things are. Okay. That's another idea that you can do. The other thing that I would suggest is as you walk by your kids' bedrooms on the way to bed, or before you wake them up or whatever, just, you know, tapping the door and thanking God for the covering, the covering and the protection that he is. And, you know, rebuking the devil and saying that, you know, the enemy is not welcome in this house is not welcome in this room. You know we pray against all the strongholds, all those kinds of things. So just as you're walking through your house, you can just be talking out loud God, to confirm what it is that you're praying for, what it is that you are believing for. Okay. That's another example. Okay. You guys, I've had to pause this recording so many times because there is this horrible itch in my throat and it's causing me to continue to cough. I don't think the enemy wants me to do this episode, even though this is just a quick little episode on prayer. Obviously this is very powerful for you and your family, because I am having like these coughing fits and I have no idea where these came from. So anyway, the other thing I was going to say about that is, you know, the enemy does not want us to pray because there's truth. And that there's power in prayer and there's power when two or three are gathered together in agreement about that prayer. And so the more that you and your husband can pray together, the more intimate your spirituality grows. And after your spirituality grows together, your spiritual maturity in and as a couple grows, your physical intimacy grows. Your emotional intimacy grows because you're spending that time. And there's just something powerful about prayer with your spouse and prayer with your children. Okay? This episode is really more about praying with your spouse and just doing it, getting over the awkwardness and just doing it. If you're not able to pray with your spouse, then pray for your spouse all the time. By the way, when you are praying for your spouse, pray as if he is already the strong man of God that he is called to be okay. Don't pray for things that you hope for. Pray as if he is already the strong man of God that you want. Okay? Pray as if your children are already the men or women of God that they're called to be okay. Pray as if that is the reality. Yeah, because again, there's power in life, in our power of life and death in our time. So my challenge for you today is to pray with your husband out loud. Before you go to bed tonight, just hold his hand and say, Hey, I want to start praying together before we go to bed. And if it's way awkward, then just push through it. Guys. You've done harder things than grabbing your husband's hand and saying a prayer out loud. It doesn't have to be long. It can be just as much as God. Thank you for raising up my husband to be a strong man of God. I am thankful for this union. I thank you, God, that you've brought us together to be husband and wife. I thank you for our family. I thank you for our household. Thank you for your provision and all things. Thank you for healing in our mind, our body, our emotions, and our spirit in Jesus' Holy name, thank you for covering and protecting us. Amen. Okay. Just do it. I promise you the more you do it, the less awkward it will be. And even if it doesn't get awkward, how much stronger will your union or your relationship be? If you do this and what if this is the thing that is going to soften your husbands? Okay. Remember, we're all about what our actions can be, right? You're only responsible for your actions. So if praying with your husband will strengthen your marriage and it's something that you can do, even if he doesn't want to participate, that's fine. Hold his hand and put your hand on his shoulder and just say, Hey, give me a couple minutes of quiet so I can pray for you. And even if he doesn't hear you because he's too uncomfortable or because you know, you can't pray out loud, at least he knows, Hey, we are in physical union right now and praying for me. And I, I guarantee you that will soften his heart. God will work through that. Okay? So let's do the hard things. Let's do the awkward things, because those are the powerful things. When we do awkward and hard things, and we take responsibility, those are the things that are going to impact our marriage and our life. And the more that we can impact our marriage and our union positively, the more our children are impacted. The more our friends and families are impacted. It's just all good. Okay. All right, guys. So I'm going to pray for you tonight. God, I come today in praise and thanks for you covering and protecting my sisters that I ask that you give them strength and courage and you give them a boldness to pray out loud for their husbands, for their families, to fight back against what the enemy wants to do to destroy, kill, and steal. The enemy has no place in their homes. And we rebuke the devour of the devil. We, we enlighten the strength and wisdom and discernment of the, of the one and only almighty God. We thank you God for covering and protecting us. We thank you God, for the strong mighty men, you're raising up in the spirit to cover and protect their homes. We thank you God, for the strong women of God that are walking with the dominion and authority that you have given them to be the, that he needs and the mother that the children need and all the things, because you have strengthened her with your spirit. And we thank you in Jesus Before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. 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EP 27 Is Your Work an Idol? Special Guest: Stefanie Gass! Feeling Restless Even though You're Successful at your Professional Job? For Burnt Out Overwhelmed Working Moms. Find Clarity in Your Calling Hey ladies, welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. I am so excited to share this episode with you. I was able to interview a friend of mine. She's actually my coach and my mentor. She's the one that's helped me get everything started with this podcast and help me gain some clarity over what it is I am being called to do and how I can put those things into action for the biggest impact. So she is been, she's been instrumental in getting everything Holy made life up off the ground with me. She is a wife, she's a mom. She has the Stephanie Gass Show, which is ranked top 25 in the podcast world for Christian entrepreneurs. She actually helps women uncover and tap into their God-sized calling. She helps them create kingdom businesses. She helps them launch podcasts and monetize using courses and coaching. Have you taken the assessment yet? Take it here!  http://bit.ly/shortassessment Find me on IG: @angietoninirogers Join our FB Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Get the Podcast Episode Updates 1st: https://angie.gr8.com/ SPECIAL GUEST: STEFANIE GASS Click Here to go to the Stefanie Gass Show: http://bit.ly/thestefaniegassshow Website: stefaniegass.com Get her HOW TO Podcast Course here: http://ppu.atrogers.com/ http://bit.ly/newpodcastcourse Need CLARITY in your CALLING? Click here! http://bit.ly/getclarityonmycalling So she loves to do this. She loves podcasting. She loves working with women, and I tell you, she has been instrumental in helping me create some of that clarity. And if you want to get some clarity in your life, get clarity on your calling, whether it is in a business or just whatever it is God's calling you to do. I highly recommend that you reach out to her. I will put a link in my show notes so that you all are able to access her course, her information and clarify your calling. It's a course, it's online. It's something that I highly, highly recommend. She also has a free group. I'll put that in the show notes as well, so that you can link to her. She's a great friend. She really just truly wants women to create a true change for themselves. And she uses her gifts that God's given her to help women create that clarity so that you guys can create that clarity for your calling and you can serve and use your gifts for God's glory. So I'm really excited for this episode guys, tune in. You will not regret taking a few minutes and listening to her. So I am so excited guys. Let's get into this episode and meet Stephanie. Hey mama, welcome to Holy may life where I believe that you are not created to do just one thing in your life. Well, you are not just your job, your title or your salary. You're not just a mom or a white versus sister. You are fearfully and wonderfully made to lead in all areas of your whole life. Your life is like a pie that's made up of different pieces that create a complete circle and girl, you deserve to enjoy the whole pie. Hi, I'm Angie Tinetti Rogers and mama. I know you are really good at what you do in your profession or business, but if you're ready to stop ignoring different pieces of your pie and reclaim your whole life, then you are in the right place. Girl, let's tap into the whole life. God has for you and experienced that God sized fulfilled life together. We're going to walk through some boundaries, leadership mindset and restoration in different areas of your life that may need to change. It's going to be some tough workup in here, girl, but we're going to block this thing out together, uncovering some bold courageous actions that we can take to experience, not just a good life, but your whole life. Are you ready to live your whole life? Holy made. Let's do it. [inaudible] Okay, guys. Welcome back to this episode of Holy made life. And I am so excited. I have such a special treat today to introduce you to what my friend, my mentor and my coach she's been instrumental in helping me with this podcast. So I can't wait to introduce you to her name is Stephanie Gass. Welcome to the show. Yay. Hello. Thanks for having me, Angie. No problem. I am so privileged and honored. So today guys, I wanted staff to share her story. She's got an amazing story all the way from corporate to what she's doing now. So I just wanted to her to give you her journey and tell you a little bit about her journey and how she got to where she is today. Yeah. So this is a doozy hope y'all are ready. And I think the main thing is I want you to hear from this story, as I share with you, is that I think we all start out seeking after things that we think the world, the, what, the world's definition of things, right? Validation or success or worthiness, and it still leaves us broken, right? It still leaves us searching and seeking and looking for what is this missing, this worthiness that I can't seem to find. And ultimately through our own searching process, trying to figure out the answers and be our own beacon of light. And we're left in this constant state of, I guess, pain and turmoil at the end of the day, right? Cause we're like, this is not ultimately what is feeling like I'm in this calling work or I'm feeling unhappy or I'm feeling lack, or I'm not feeling that worthiness. And then we turn to God's way and we feel a very different outcome. We feel a very different way of life. So that's what I want you to pull from this story as I share. So like Andrew mentioned, I'm Stephanie gas. What I do now is I am a coach for the faith led entrepreneur who wants to figure out their calling and get clarity on that calling. So they can create a kingdom business and use their gifts for God's glory. And then ultimately have a business that lights them up using their giftings, using the, that God has for them. And I run a top 25 podcasts, the Stephanie gas show and a coach and have courses and all the things I work less than 30 hours a week. I've got two little boys. It's pretty Epic now cause I'm partnered with God in what I do. So that's what I do today, but let's rewind back about a decade and look at how I got here and how I got to this space of doing business God's way instead of the world's way, started out in corporate America. I've always been a high achiever that comes all the way back from childhood, having a dad who has super high expectations and you know, his growing up in his generation, it was all about go to school, get the job, get stability. And that is what will equal your happiness later in life. Your, you know your stability and having that financial success. So, okay, cool. And when you achieve that's when you get attention. Got it. So grow up, do that always a high achiever got good grades, went to college, went got my master's degree, went into corporate and you know, it was just me. So I easily became a workaholic easily slid into that. I've always been good at work. And when you're good at something, that's where you tend to operate because it feels good for you. Oh, I'm good at this thing. I'll live there, literally live there. I will live in this thing. I'm good at which here's, here's the kicker, right? That can be your gifting and tip. And often it is it's your God directed giftings. But at the same time, the enemy knows it too. Not to give him any credit, but he's like, Ooh, she loves work. How can I twist that to my benefit? Well, let's just make her a workaholic by the age of 23. Perfect. So there, I went climb that corporate ladder. I was the youngest financial controller in this global company. I was going to Germany and Spain and jet setting. And I had the Blackberry phone 24 seven, right. Like, and it was fine. So it was just me, her. So I thought, but it was playing out in all these different areas of my life drinking way too much partying way too much because you had to learn to have that release from working 24 seven. So I would do that. I'd punish my body that way. And then I would go back to work. And so it was like this just cycle of really just unworthiness, I guess, even though I'm working so hard, even though I, Oh, I'm I, you know, I'm not skinny enough, I'm not fit enough and I need to work more. So like just searching, searching, searching, searching. And I was a Christian quote unquote, but I had definitely not found my true relationship with Christ. And so I was looking in all the wrong places. Well that went on for four or five years. And then I met my now husband. He was our auditor at the company. So funny, he walks in and I'm like, I'm gonna marry that guy. I am to my friend in the cubicle next to me, it was so divine and anyway, true story. So we're now married, which is so fun. God's got jokes. But at the time when we started like secretly flirting and, and that going on and then the company shut down. So at this time I was late twenties. I was engaged to my now husband, Brad and the company was shutting down and I had a choice, go move to Germany, keep working for this company. Great. Try to find something else here where we live, but there's not so many manufacturing jobs like that and big plants, so, or figure something else out. And I was like, well, I guess I'm at a crossroads. We want to have kids. We want to have a family. What if I try to be an entrepreneur? And right about the same time my mom got into a network marketing company, I knew nothing about network marketing at all. Except that some girls on the promo videos were making millions of dollars floating in their pools, sell some skincare stuff. And I was like, well, that sounds fine if they can do it. So can I totally just jumped in? And that's what I did. I left corporate everything I knew to just become an entrepreneur. Wow. Okay. So you just packed so much in that so far. And quite frankly, some of that sounded so familiar to myself, finding that worthiness in the world and having a highly high expectations or highly critical dad who that's, how you achieved and that's how you showed people that you were achieving. So one of the things, when you talked about coming to a floor roads, what would you say the role God had at that point in your life when you were going from corporate into making a decision to move into the network marketing, what role did God have in that? What role did prayer have in that, that a point in your life? None. Okay. None. I did not. At that point, have that relationship with God at all. Didn't pray over those choices did not turn to him for guidance. That was all me. Okay. Now the good news is he uses everything for good. And so it's fine. Now I see how like parts of that phase in my life were still preparing me. Cause he goes before me and I was saved at nine. So I've always been his daughter. I just fell away for a while. And so who knows what, what handiwork he had behind the scenes, but I didn't knowingly as I should have bring those choices to him first. Okay. That's so good. I just wanted to point that out because I think some of us, when we are in that journey, we don't always intentionally know that we should be taking things to God, but that's how he's working on us the whole time. And he used all that. He uses all of it for good. It's all redemptive. So I just wanted to point that out because I know I kind of know where you are now. And I think that's important to this story as we learn and grow in our maturity in Christ and and being able to bring things to him. So, okay. So you were, you joined the network marketing company Yes. And climb that ladder as well. Two years in, so had one son miles, my older son and still a workaholic at this phase and went all the way up to the top. 1% of the company, again at the expense of everything else in my life, right? This time I had gained 60 pounds. So I was going the other direction and, and just very unhealthy anxiety and working 24 seven, my son probably never saw me without an ear piece in my, my thing, my ear on my face, the whole first two years of his life. And it was awful the way that I would take calls at the expense of anything didn't matter. It would be, you know, six in the morning, it would be 10 at night, all of it. And it's just, it's, it's heartbreaking to look back and go with the things you thought were important in your life were really just an idol. And me chasing that success was such a facade from the world that when you get it, when you make it, it'll be worth it. And I believed it. Like I truly believed when I make it, this will make sense. But looking at it now from this lens of 20, 21, 2020 is perfect vision going, wow. I missed out. I'm so much with him from a selfish place of, for me, you know, I want to grow this for me. I want to make more money more. And anyways, again, God is so good and he's redeemed that with me and, and it's all good. And I forgiven myself and he has forgiven me for that phase. But what happened was from the outside perspective, Oh, she's made it, she's doing so great. Right. Everybody can see, which is exactly what I thought I wanted. Well, at that point in time you know, everything else was starting to crumble away. And here's where I believe that God started to step in. So we were, we were getting back into church pretty consistently. I hadn't had like that breakthrough moment yet, but it was coming. And the company went through a rebrand, my team, all the new shiny companies that came out back in 2016. And so my multi-sector your business was like gone within six months and there was just no more money. And I was pregnant with my second son at this time. And it was like full on identity crisis, Angie, because at this point in time, all I knew what was, I equal my work. I am only as good as my bank account as my work, as what people see me as. And so that's where I believe God was like, Hey, it's time for my daughter to come home. I need her to get back on this path. I have big plans for her and this is not it. And so when that company crumbled beneath me, that's where we had to borrow money from my son's savings account to pay the bills. My husband sold his Harley Davidson to pay the bills and that, and I'm here really humongous, pregnant. Like everything is like, I don't have any money. The company is like all of it, right? It's like nothing's left and, and full identity crisis. And I'm like, okay, this is it. Like, this is my I'm in the ashes moment. There's nothing left here of what I thought I was. I have a choice. I can turn back to the world to rebuild myself or I can turn to God to rebuild me. And I knew where I got myself and it was right there in that pile of just ashes and brokenness and anxiety and unworthiness and ignoring my son and like putting everyone second to this business that crumbled and left me broken. And that was the moment where I was like, I'm done, I'm done with my I'm done leading myself. I am not big enough to do this. I don't want to be my work anymore. I need to be who he created me to be. So I got out a sheet of paper and I started writing down who God wants me to be. And I wrote down, he wants me to spend time with him to surrender to him, to get back into my health, to put my family first again, to to still do. I knew business was in there somewhere, but I put it at the very bottom of the list. Cause honestly I was really over it at that point in time. And I was like, here you go. I live here. I'm surrendering my entire life to you right here on this piece of paper in this moment, take it. I'm done. And a couple of weeks later, we were in church in worship. And I had like the true baptism in the Holy spirit moment. Like the tears, the chills, the Holy spirit, goosebumps, everything like couldn't breathe. I was like, he's got me. Like, he's here. Like Holy spirit is with me in this walkout. And I'm, I'm made new, I'm totally made new in him, but easier said than done. Okay. So I'm looking at the paper going, must be nice to be her, got her life together. She's fit healthy kids. Or she's got this business that she works part time, like whatever. Yeah. Right. So I just started with one thing a day and the first thing was I needed to get my health back. So I joined a gym. I couldn't afford that. Had daycare that I could do two hours. So I'd work out for an hour. And then I would try to figure out what I was doing with my business. And I started with just like lives, helping moms. I'm like, let me just start with like helping these moms who have online businesses. I know how to grow big businesses online. I'll start there. They were messy. They were awkward. They were really busted. I did it anyway. Didn't know the outcome, but because I was doing it his way and this time praying over every choice, Angie. So back to your other question, it was like, Oh, do you want me to do this? Do you want me to take this, this opportunity? Do you want, do you want me to work on this, this thing this week? Like Holy spirit put things in order for me. And the order was me time with me time with your husband, your kids, your health, right? And then all the way down at the end of the list was figuring out this business all the while he's bringing in favor, he's got somebody like, Hey Steph, can you do some social media consulting? I'll pay, we'll pay you two grand a month. I'm like, okay. Wow. Like, so he was making sure I was taken care of this whole time that like the business was gone and the income was gone. And so praise him for that. He always makes a bridge right? When he calls us to cross the ocean. He's like, but here's a bridge, but you got to take the step. So I was just taking the steps every day, didn't know, didn't know, take the step, take the step. So this was 2016. It was a hard year. I didn't just, it wasn't just easy and yes, I trust you, but it was like, I trust you. Wait, do I trust you way? Do I? But I kept going. I kept renewing my mind. I kept getting familiar with God. Focusing on the Bible is trying to strengthen who I was. Do you have any questions about this hard period, because then I'm going to move to climbing out of the Valley in a second. Yeah. So I just wanted to point out a couple of things you said, first of all, we're going to have to go back to that 20, 20 vision at the end. So let me don't let me forget that at the end. But the, you said a lot of things. One is breaking it down to one thing at a time, one step at a time, just doing the thing and then also doing the thing scared or fearful or with anxiety or in doing the thing anyway, doing the thing, even though you didn't know how or what even sometimes to do, but doing it under prayer. So if you can just expand a little bit on how did you, you know, how did you break that down? What, what were some of those steps that you did to break it down and get through that? Just push through that fear, doing it messy. Yeah. So one, once I had that sheet of paper and it was truly like a little loose leaf piece of paper, Angie and I was like, scribbling it out. But it was something that I've never forgotten about because that was this defining moment where you draw your line in the sand. So I think if any of you were in that, just break down moment, like nothing is working. This isn't making sense or it's not working. Or my life feels like the pressure is too much to bear or I'm not operating what God wants for me. Just start with the sheet of paper. Right? Put your hand on that sheet of paper. Holy spirit. Be here with me, father, God lead me, use my pen, use my mouth. He's my heart. Give me my gifts. Help me to speak to me through the sheet of paper right now. Who do you want me to be? Who are you calling me to be? What needs to change? What do I need to let go of? And just let it flow because it's here inside of you, right? The answers are there. But when you get them out of here, your mind and your heart, and you put them on a piece of paper, that's when you get to see it and inventory it and put it in order. And then from that sheet of paper, if I did nothing with it, it would never have helped me to get to this point. So from the paper I made a plan from the paper, you make a plan. Okay. And then I like what Angie said. She said taking action through the pressure under prayer. So why out of the pressure, but because there's a lot of pressure to do something with the paper. So you prayerfully take action and you move through that pressure. And that's also how you step out of faith and you crush the fear, lots of, a lot of alliteration for you guys in that one. But basically I went to the planner. I've always been a good planner, got up the planner. And I was like, what do I do this week? And I wrote in John and Jim find one, a daycare. It's like, yes. And I planned it in. And then I planned in when I was, and then I planned in waking up a little bit earlier and I just inched it. I started waking up 15 minutes early to pray. Then I was like, Ooh, this feels so amazing. I love this. Let's bump it to 30. Now I do an hour because that's so important for me to get right with God every day. And to spend that time with him. And it's a non-negotiable for me now. But I started with something that seemed doable with my life. I didn't freak myself out and be like, you're going to the gym seven days a week. And you're doing an hour with God every morning. Cause that would have been too much. I wasn't ready. So I just three days a week, let's hop to the gym. We can start there. Then I went to the next thing on the list, husband, okay. You know, got some work to do there. I've been ignoring this man to run this business. Like I need to have some hard conversations. I need to repent for these things. Apologize to him. I need to make him a priority. I need to be sure that we're spending quality time that he feels seen and heard and work on that. And so what does that look like in a planner? Everything you need to do has action steps behind it, but you have to make it intentional, prioritize it, plug it in just like Andy talks about with her wheels and with her buckets that she teaches you guys, same stuff. Okay. So I planned it in and I would go to that day in the planner and I was in such a raw broken state too. It really helped for me to be like, I'm not going to sit here and my thoughts and my misery, I'm gonna go to this thing and see what I said I was going to do today and just check it off. Right? Like let's just move my feet. Let's just move my feet. And each day got easier. Each week I got more powerful each month, God strengthened me each year. He clarified my steps more and more and more and more and to think, I mean, that was the end of 16. So 17, 18, 19 2020. That was five short years ago that I was in the biggest breakdown of my entire life. And now I'm sitting at the peak of a mountain top in my life where I've never been here and I'm like five years, man. Like he, God can work in your life when you allow him when you partner with him. So that's what I did Angie to do that work. Yeah. That's so good. And I think too, the other thing that you mentioned, and you just, you know, on a big scheme in little schemes, is that throughout those steps throughout that process, he gave you confirmations. He, he, he showed up with a $2,000 contract for social media console conference consulting. And I think he does that for all of us, as long as we're looking for that. And we give that credit to him when that happens. So that's so good. That's such a part of the process is being intentional and looking for what he's doing for us. Yeah. And seeing those confirmations come through at the time, I didn't really know as much as I see now, like now I'm super hyper aware of like, God wink. That was amazing. Thank you. You know, but at that time I'm like, Oh, well that's kind of random. Sounds good. But like, look for the miracles, seek for the miracles and then write them down. One of my favorite things is every month doing writing down the praise report and the miracles that have happened that month. And it's like, I mean, there are handfuls of things that he's done to just keep you on the right path and their confirmation, like Angie, like, Oh wow. That Jim, just out of nowhere, right next door to my mom's just enough to pay for it. Like all the little things that would perfectly work as I started moving into what his walk for me instead of my walk for me, when you're on your walk, it's resistance, things are hard. You feel like you're forcing stuff when you're on his walk, his path, things feel easy, seamless, more green, more fruitful, like it's just flowy. Yeah. And then you, so you wrote down the plan for each of these things, but then also at the end of the month, you're writing down a reflection of all of those things and that's super important. Write it down and make it plain. That's what the Bible says. And you're writing down not only where you want to be and who you are and the steps you need to take it. But then you're writing down almost like a gratitude or a reflection of everything that he's done just in that short part time period. There's so many things that I've forgotten because I didn't take the time to write it down. So I'm doing more of that now as well. That's great advice. Yeah. Yeah. So, okay. So we go here in 20, the end of 2016, beginning of 17, it was like, really this Valley was really rough and I stay at like, Oh, I just trusted that. Well, okay. I was also like looking for jobs. I was like, I'll just go back to corporate. I was looking at teaching kids, English at 2:00 AM because that's what I thought would make sense seriously. And I started making t-shirts on Amazon for $3, a certain prominence in case any of you were like panicking, trying to figure out your life. That is totally normal. You're not alone. However, I had a friend sit me down and she was like, we did some work together and I helped her get clarity on her life. I said, why aren't you using this 20 years of trauma you went through now, you've been healed. You've been in 15 years of therapy. Why don't you do this self-love movement for women who need this? The stuff that you're gifted in. I gave her a name. I gave her a tagline and gave her a title and we're just sitting there. And like, we had taken a girl strip and this was like two hours of our time. And she just turned it in and she's like, can you sit down please? I was like, okay. And she's like, can you stop doing all the ridiculous things that you are doing? And you're panicking trying to figure out a way to make money. Can you stop doing that? And just be a clarity coach, because do you hear what you just did for my business? You have a gift. She said, I want to lick your brain. So that was, that was coined. We laugh about that still today on the lick your brain. I was like, okay, things just got awkward, but I stared at her and it was like this massive breakthrough for me. Oh my goodness. This is what this is. I've had this my whole life. I didn't know. This was a thing. I'm a clarity coach. And so I right there in that moment, I'm like, let's go God. So I started doing lives. I started taking some clients. I was still trying to figure out my way, but I knew the direction I was going, going at the same time. Crazy boundaries. If I'm going to do business again, this is your way, God, this is your business. Not mine. I will be your mouthpiece. Speak through me, move me. Tell me when to turn it off. Tell me. And I've all. Yes, I've fallen. This has not been perfect, but I always readjust. I reset the boundaries. I reset the sales and I go, so that was roughly mid 2017. And it was hard because the business wasn't growing well, I was still like struggling. Like, how do I grow? This? Is it the YouTube? Is it the blog? Is it the, what am I doing? Like I was everywhere. And it felt very exhausting. And I could feel myself creeping back into like workaholism in a way of like, or being afraid of that. Like, Oh, if I keep pushing this hard in all these places, I'm going to become old Stephanie again. And that did not feel good. And so at that moment, I'm like, I know what it is. God, it's the clarity coaching. I get it. It's helping these women rise out of their fear. Take massive action. Have the business that, that you have for them based on their books and heaven. But how do I grow it? How do I do it? I was praying, praying, praying for months. Well, in 2018, an answer came in a dream and it was a very clear vivid, prophetic dream start a podcast. And I was like, huh. Okay, well, that sounds good. So I didn't really listen to podcasts at the time. I think I listened to one, had no idea how to start one, but I had a $20 microphone in the drawer in my office. And I made some Busta channel art on CAMBA. I hope that no one ever sees it. And I sat down on a microphone and I pressed record and I was like, what's up? Welcome to the show. And the rest is history. What happened was I was able to stop showing up everywhere else, show up on one platform, share my voice, share my heart consistently to being consistent, posit. When my kids came in, it was like freeing. I could be myself. I didn't have to worry about being on video or doing makeup, which is not me. Anyway. It was like, I could just be raw me and I didn't know who was listening. And so it was kind of like, I just ripped the bandaid off. And I was like, this is what I am. This is what I stand for. It's online business and marketing paired with, with God and paired with ministry and doing business God's way. And I grew into it more and more and more over the past, over the years. But what happened was then my clients were like, well, how did you grow this business to be so incredible? And I'm like, well, the podcast is really the catalyst. So ended up creating a couple courses, teaching my students how to get clarity, start a show. I was doing the coaching nonstop and then ultimately taking my clients how to, how to then create a course to monetize the podcast and all the while crazy boundaries, like partner with God and all of it. And he knew then I was ready. Right? Because you can't be ready for the flood Gates and the flood Gates open and you'll drown. You have to be prepared. And so he had been doing a lot of work in me behind the scenes from 2016 to 2019 when he was, when I was ready to steward that favor and provision and the business of that size when I was ready. And he knew it, flood Gates, Burstows open. And here I sit and it, it really feels like a dream because I'm the woman on the paper. Angie, that's so good. I think you, you Made such a good point was that he was preparing you along the way. So it's not that you're just going to snap and things are going to happen and you're going to become that person on the paper immediately. But it's about your intentional actions and you're embracing where you are and where you want to go and figuring out how to get there and then listening and allowing God to change you and mold you and help you become more and more mature. It's the same thing that I say when I left my corporate job was, you know, it had, he asked me to do that 10 years ago, five years ago. There's no way I would have been mature enough or had enough identity in him to know that I can do that and steward that well, because he told me to and he's going to cover it. So I think that's such, such a good point that you make. Yeah. Thank you. And that's all, I think a couple of big takeaways I want to share is that clarity is not overnight. So me ultimately finding my way to being a full-time entrepreneur that has an incredible audience. I have a team, I have boundaries. I work my business 30 hours or less per week. I know what I do without a shadow of a doubt. I know I'm walking in my purpose. Well, that only took nine years. Okay. So it's to tell you that you can't give up on seeking after your clarity, but you have to get out of your way. You are not the one that gets to decide what steps you make, what the opportunities are, what what's next, how to go bigger, how to it's God's going to open those doors for you. He's going to bring you the divine connections. He's going to give you that specific direction, do this, right? Like you told Angie, you're going to leave the job. Don't worry. I got you. And here she is sitting in her purpose work. And her evolution of clarity is going to take a while. This is not overnight, but we all start somewhere. We start with that direction. And then we step out in faith and we know that when we wear the armor of God, that he will continue to do her to us. And he goes before us, he already knows the end of your story. We have to trust and have faith, big audacious faith. So we can achieve the God-sized dreams because they are bigger and better than our dreams will ever be. Yeah. Amen. And the other thing that I was thinking about when you were saying that is that, you know, his dream for you is so above and beyond what you could ever even imagine. And it also is for other people. So, you know, for example, you and I are sitting here connected because he had a plan for us to be divinely connected so that you could help me create some clarity in walking through what I'm doing now at, in this, he knew that I was going to need Stephanie gas to be saying yes, and being obedient and stepping into her calling during, when I said, okay, I'll leave my corporate job and have no idea what I'm going to do. He knew that that connection would need to be there. And had you not taken those action steps and said your yes to him, then I wouldn't be sitting here. And, and Holy made life, wouldn't be sitting here. So it's so our gifts and our callings are so much bigger than us. And, and they're meant to impact so many people. And we just have no idea who it is and when it's going to be. Yeah. I heard something once where someone said, if you don't say yes and amen to the calling, the purpose work and step out in that big, scary, really awkward faith, which is going to be, it's never comfortable to say yes to that. It's not, it's actually selfish because it's not about you, which is what you just said, but it's, it's not about us. It's about us operating in the perfect unity with the rest of God's kingdom. And so for, for me to do my work allows Angie to do her work allows one, some of you who are listening to Andrew and we'll work with Angie to do your work, it's all perfectly intertwined. They're having strings, right? We're on heaven's timeline. And it's like, I just have my daughter's perfectly orchestrated. But if one of us doesn't rise up into our authority, which we've all been given, but the Holy spirit, somehow that chain-link is broken. And I don't know about, y'all like, I'm not going to be the one breaking the chains over here, I'm break the chains of the world and that kind of stuff. But like, I'm not going to break heaven's chains where he is trying to beautifully orchestrate all of us rising together to do work for his good and his glory. So just remember that next time. You're like, should I, should I try that thing? Should I pivot? Should I leave that job? Should I start that blog or that podcast? Or should I pivot what I'm good at for what I'm called to be? Whether that be more in your business or more with your kids or more with your spouse? Well, I think that you have to, because it's your responsibility to be the woman on the paper for your life. Amen. Yeah. And I think it's praying over what it is, how it is. Cause you may or may not be wanting to leave your job, but you have a calling and maybe it's worked out within your job and that's where you're called to be. And so use it there. And maybe it's doing some other things in addition to your job. So it's, it's going to be specific to you and what God's calling you to do, but just be open to it and willing to become that person on paper that God's calling you to be. So we're getting towards the end of what I want to go back to real quickly, cause you brought up 2020, and we all know what a basket case the whole nation went to the whole world went to in 2020. Now obviously we knew that God is in control and we know that God has control, but you brought up a perfect vision being 2020. So in the natural 2020 is perfect vision. So can you give your revelation or a little bit of advice to women coming out of 2020 and how to use what we've learned or have a look for what we can learn from the season we just came out of related to 2020? Yeah. So what's interesting is that you can't have the peaks without the valleys. And so you can't have the breakthrough without the breakdown. There's nobody that gets to just, you know, make it, have the incredible story without first the hard stuff without walking through the valleys, because that is where our soil is tilled, right? That is where we are prepared. That is where our heart is strengthened and our faith is grown. And so those are the tests we go through tests so they can become a testimony. So as you look back on 2020, and yes, some of it was hard, but some of it was beautiful. Some it was incredible. I want you to dig in and find the miracles, find the things that stretched you pushed, you, broke you down. Did you experience a loss, a job loss, a family member loss. Did your kids, were they home with you for a whole year? Like mine while that was hard? It was extraordinarily beautiful. I told my husband, I'm like man soaking in the babies for a whole year. You know, one seven, one four. I'm like, this has been incredible. I've loved it, but I'm done soaking now. It's like, she's done. She's done soaking great. And praise God, my child, they're both back in school, at least half-time for now. But the point of that is I wouldn't have known them at this deep capacity that I know and see them. I wouldn't have understood their learning in this deep way. I wouldn't have been stretched to get to know my husband at this level, if he wasn't working from home for a whole year, that has been a beautiful growth experience for us. So there's fruit, there's fruit. Now that came through a seeming trial in the moment. So write down what are those trials you face in 2020? And then I want you with fresh eyes, a prayer, fresh eyes, and a pen to look at that list and go, what fruit am I already seeing? And every month as you're doing that miracle and that praise report, look back at that list. You wrote about 2020 trials. And all of a sudden you're going to start to see correlation between the trial and the fruit, because the seeds are born in the trials. You're going to water them. You're going to grow through them. That you're going to trust. You're going to pray. You're going to continue to steward that. And then you're going to see the blossoms start to come through. So then so good. Well, I want to thank you for being here. I want to let the community know how they can get in contact with you. So you've got the brand new branding of the Stephanie gas show but tell us how they can find you to listen more to you because I know I know the love you, and I know that want to do that For sure. So you guys come hang out on my show. The podcast is the Stephanie gash show at the top 25 podcasts for Christian entrepreneurs who need help with their clarity work, want to grow an evergreen audience and do business God's life and business God's way. And then secondly, Stephanie gas.com. I have freebies over there, all the things. Then the last one is we have a Facebook community and you can just search for Bitly slash or just type in Bitly slash success support group. And those are the three places to come learn about me, get to know me and get some more support just like this. Yeah. Awesome. Thank you so much stuff. You're welcome. Thanks Angie. All right. See, I told you guys she's inspirational. She's so awesome. So I hope you enjoyed that. I know you enjoyed that and if you want to get any further clarification on your calling and how you can integrate your calling into your world, then I highly recommend that course called clarify your calling. And like I said, I'll put the link in the show notes. If for some reason you can't find it, just email me at Angie, Tony Rogers at Gmail, and I'll get you connected. If you've ever thought about starting a podcast. I took her podcast pro university course, and that's where I learned how to do all the logistics about starting a podcast. So I know at least a handful of you guys have asked me questions about how did you start your podcast? How do you do this? How to do that. And this particular course is exactly what I did. I took it and it walked me through every step to starting my podcast. So I highly recommend that as well. And that can be found ppu.atrogers.com. And that link will be in the show notes too. Okay. All right guys. Well, if you have any other questions or feedback, get into my email box, AngietoniniRogers@gmail.com, and I'm happy to connect with you there. Don't forget to get over in our community Facebook group at Holy made life and I'll see you over there. All right guys, have a fantastic day. 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EP 26 Is Balance for Busy Working Moms Really Even Possible? The ONE GREAT IDEA That Could Change Your Life! Intentional Life Coach Private Coaching Session What is balance? What does that even mean? Because as you know, you know, as we work full time, as we are moms, wives, we are working in our church. We are serving and volunteering. We are the sports soccer mom. We are classroom mom. We are homeschooling kids, all of these different hats that we wear, how in the world do we create this balance? Every woman deserves to live her life, feeling fulfilled in every area of her life. Girl, Let's walk this thing out together, you deserve your Wholly Made Life™! Have you taken the assessment yet? Take it here!  http://bit.ly/shortassessment Find me on IG: @angietoninirogers Join our FB Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Get the Podcast Episode Updates 1st: https://angie.gr8.com/ Tune in to the Nurses on Fire Podcast, with host Naseema McElroy on March 18th!  https://www.financiallyintentional.com/podcast Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. How are you today? I am good. Thank you. Sometimes I wish there was a feedback where we could actually be talking so, but did you know that we can do that? We can talk. We can connect in real life. If you go over to my Facebook group, Holy made life and we can comment. We can play. We can hang out over there. So make sure if you haven't already go ahead and request to get into the Holy made life, private Facebook group, and it's free. There's nothing you need to do other than just go request it on Facebook. So Holy made life W H O L L Y made life™ just like the podcast. Okay. So today I want to talk about an interview that I just did with the host of nurses on fire Naseema. And I was really excited to do this with her. She is fantastic. Is a matter of fact, I'm going to have her as a guest on this podcast because she has an incredible story about how she has paid off. I think up to a million dollars in debt, don't quote me on that, but I'm pretty sure her story includes that, but I know she paid off a ton of debt. She is a labor and delivery nurse working full time. She's got two kiddos. She's amazing. So she just wrote a book called smart money, the step-by-step personal finance plan to crush debt. And I binge read this, I got it on Kindle and I've been dreaded so you can get it on Amazon for your Kendall. And she has a hard copy too. I think it might still be on pre-order it's so new, but anyway, she goes through a nine step plan on how to get your finances back in order. And I know some of you guys who have taken that Wholly Made Life short assessment. If you haven't already, you can click the link to take your short assessment in the show notes on the episode page. So go ahead and do that if you haven't. But some of those scores that I am seeing are related to feeling a little bit unbalanced for your finances. So this book is really helpful with that. It tells her story about how she paid off a ton of debt while working full time. And so it's really valuable. But what I was going to say is I'm going to have her on the podcast so she can tell you her story and walk through some of these things, these easy steps that you can start to take. And I know in the one episode that I did about finances and what does God say about money? I talked about doing a savings account and making sure that you guys get to a place where you have a thousand dollars in savings. She recommends that as well. So, and if you haven't heard that episode, go back to the one that says, what does God say about money? Find it at Episode 18==> What does God say about My Finances? And it'll tell you a little bit about how you can go ahead and get a thousand dollars saved up in your savings account and how that will kind of free you to deal with any emergencies, things that come up like that. So anyway, I was on her podcast and that episode is going to release on nurses on fire next week on Thursday. And that date is what is that day going to be? That's going to be the 18th of March. So that will, if you want to listen to that, that will be up on her podcast and nurses on fire. She's got a lot of great tips over there. So they feature all nurses. And of course you guys know I'm a nurse, she's a nurse. And so that's her specialty is she, she just showcases nurses with different stories and in different areas of your life. So it's a great podcast, whether you're a nurse or not. What I wanted to talk about today though, was she asked me a lot of questions about my coaching and my coaching program and what I'm providing and what I'm helping ladies with. And so the number one question she was asking was, okay, you talk about balance in your life. What is balance? What does that even mean? Because as you know, you know, as we work full time, as we are moms, wives, we are working in our church. We are serving and volunteering. We are the sports soccer mom. We are classroom mom. We are homeschooling kids, all of these different hats that we wear, how in the world do we create this balance? And so what I explained was it's such an individualized thing because the real reality is, is that balance is going to look different for each person. And it's not what the society says. That balance is. It's not this perfect little pie where you have a full piece of pie and in every area of your life, it's not this perfect thing. It's going to ebb and flow depending upon the seasons of your life. And thankfully we're graced for the times where it's ebbing and flowing a little higher or lower in some of those areas of our life, where we're having to spend more time in our marriage or more time at work or more time because we're getting a business off the ground or more time because one of our kids is going through something. So it's always going to ebb and flow. There's never, you're never going to have a perfect wheel. That's perfectly circular and full in every area of your life. All the time. The goal is, is to define what balance looks like for you based on your desires, based on what fills you up, based on the impact that has on your family and your job and your coworkers and your friends, and figuring out what that is, and then work within that definition of what balance is for you. So it's very individualized. So that's the first thing we do is I talk about the reality and get us out of this hole. We have to be perfectly balanced in every area of our life, all the time to be successful, because that's just a lie. You are successful already. You are already equipped with everything that you need to wear. All the hats that you're being asked to wear. Sometimes it's related to your boundaries. And you've said yes, to too many things. And some of that gets identified when we talk about the reality and the definition of what balance is for you and what, where you need to be. Okay. So the second thing that I do once we have some of that defined for that person is we come up with an idea and that is an acronym for some of the steps that I use with my clients, an idea I D E a idea. So let me tell you quickly about what this acronym idea means. So the I in idea means to identify, we are going to identify what it is that is going on in your life, in all areas of your life, because the reality is until we even identify what that thing is, that's making you feel either uncomfortable or burnt out or stressed out or overwhelmed, or just in a place of restlessness or a place where you're not finding joy in either one or many areas of your life. We have to identify that in the first place. A lot of you guys come to me and talk about where you are and not really understanding or knowing why you're feeling the way you're feeling, you're just feeling met, or you're just feeling blocked. You know, you're wearing that emoji that, that met emoji, and you're just walking through life every day. And it's kind of on repeat, but you're not really intentionally going after the things that make you feel filled up or spark that joy for you. So sometimes it's just a, not even realizing what it is that's causing these feelings in you, or not even realizing that, you know what, I don't remember the last time that I laughed or the last time that I found some joy in something and really thinking about, did I find any joy in anything that I did today? And so it's just that honing in on that identification of that, there is something going on, we just need to figure out what it is. So we're going to identify the issue, the feeling, the emotion, the circumstance, the thoughts around those circumstances. We're going to identify that there's something that needs to change in the first place. So the second step is to define this is the D we're going to define what it would look like to spark that joy again, to put laughter back into your life, to feel balanced. What is it that balance is we're going to define the balance and we're going to identify what it is going on in each of those pieces of the pie and what, what it looks like to feel that joy again, to feel fulfilled in those areas. What does that look like? You don't know if you're winning in something you don't know. If you are meeting a goal in something, unless it's defined. Sometimes we have this big, huge, audacious thought of what each area of your life should look like in your spiritual, your physical, your relational, et cetera. But we don't really know what that means for you. You know, you're, we're just going by what society says that we should look like, feel like be doing in each of these areas of our life, but you haven't really defined those areas. Well, what would make you happy in those areas? What would make you feel joyful and fulfilled? What would make your kids and your husband and your friends and your coworkers feel fulfilled in these areas? What is, what is it? You have to define it. You got to know what you're going after in order to get there. You can't just get in your car and say, I'm going to go to Hawaii and not have a plan and just start driving. Because at that point, if you don't ever reference a goal, a direction, a plan, you won't get there. You've got to have a definition of where it's going. And you know, actually in the define stage, you don't even know that you're going Hawaii. You just know you're getting in your car and driving, but where are you going? I mean, none of us do that, right? We don't get in our car and just start driving around, not knowing where we're going. Unless that's something that fills you up to just go take a drive and be by yourself. Now that's a different situation. Okay. But in as far as destination and getting to a goal, you got to know when you get into your car where you're going to go so that you know how to get there. Okay. So that's the second step define the third step is going to be embrace E M B R a C E embrace. Cause we got to do two things here. We've got to embrace what it is that we individually are defining as what would feel successful for us and be okay with that. Despite what other people are saying, despite what other people are defining for us, we have to define that ourselves and embrace that we have to be ready and fully ready to accept what it is that we define as success. Okay. You know what, in the mornings, if I get my kids to school on time, that's a success to me. It doesn't really matter. Everything in between the end goal is did they get to school on time? Were they dressed? You know, where are they fed? Do they have what they need? Did they get their backpacks? I mean, this morning I got not halfway, maybe a third way to school. And my youngest is like, Oh my gosh, we only have one shoe. And I was like, you've got to be kidding me. Okay. So I was in a frenzy like, Oh my gosh, we got to turn around. And I'm like, how in the world you get in the car with no shoe on. And my other one, my middle one, Elijah was like, Oh yeah, I saw that ball at the car. And I was like, Oh, what in the world? How do you see this shoe fall out of the car? And you don't say anything and tell him, Hey, get your shoe. It just fell out of the car. He was like, I don't know. I was on the, on my phone with my dad. I'm just like, and then I forgot. And I was like, Oh my gosh. So, you know, had I defined success in, you know, did I make sure my kid, my 11 year old, my fifth grader had his boat issue on. Then I'd be like, okay, I totally bonded today as a parent, I bombed, but I got them to school on time still. So despite the fact we had to turn around, come back and get the shoe, which was on the garage floor. And get turned back around and get them to school. They both made it on time and nobody was harmed. Okay. So that was a success. Okay. So it's important how you define those things and you know what? I have to embrace it. It just is what it is. Stuff happens. Life happens and it doesn't make me a bad parent. It doesn't make him a bad kid. We got to school on time. Everybody had their shoes on. Everybody had what they needed. They had their backpacks, they have their masks and it's all good. Okay. So we're going to embrace our definition of what success is. Okay. And we're going to work on that because that may be, especially for a recovering perfectionist, like myself, that would have been something I would have beat myself up about, but you're like, Oh my gosh, I can't do anything. Right. I can't even make sure my kid has two shoes before we get in the car. Like, I'm horrible. I'm a failure as a mom. That's where that would have gone to in the past. But at this point, no, I'm not going to define it that way. I'm going to embrace that. Life's going to happen. Things aren't going to be perfect. They're not going to go exactly. As we thought, I didn't plan on turning around this morning and getting back, but we did it and we made it and everybody's living and we're all good. Okay. So we're going to embrace what it is that we define it. And we're going to continually work on our mindset and our thoughts and our feelings that come around that what our definitions have been so that we don't end up beating ourselves up when things don't happen exactly as they are. And when they don't measure up to that whole perfectionist expectation. Okay. Cause that's not real. All right, we're going to break that. And there, we're going to embrace that action plan, that, that goal that we build for ourselves to get us to where we are and we're going to embrace that life happens. And sometimes we're going to meet it and sometimes we're not. Okay. So we're going to do a lot of mindset work during this embrace stage. The final letter in this acronym is a, and this is going to be to activate. This means that we're going to take action. We're going to move into action. So we're going to come up with a plan of action, small steps that are attainable and manageable. When you look at them, you say, yes, I can do that today. We're going to look at one step at a time, one small action at a time because we know that all the small things that we do on a daily basis build up to bigger things. Your small action steps you take every day, we'll come to bigger things, bigger accomplishments. They, everything adds up. It's like compounded interest. Okay. You take little steps today. And it gets the same little step tomorrow will compound on the little steps we took yesterday. That's where we get results. And by the way, it's opposite to, in a negative way, the little steps we don't take today can add up to bigger things tomorrow. So it's kinda like, I think about when you are trying to eat healthier and you choose to eat a piece of cake, which by the way I do. Okay. I am not the epitome of an example of physical health at this point or not health, but physical small steps. So, you know, there's some times I choose not to do the workout. There's sometimes I choose not to order the baked fish instead of the fish and chips, like right now on Fridays, those kinds of things. So there are some things that happen, but if I make those choices every single day, then my bigger outcome down the road will show that my body will not be as strong, not be as spit, not be as toned. I will gain weight. So it's not about one small step you didn't take and you beat yourself up. So then you say, okay, well, I chose that. So now I'm going to choose the ice cream and the chips and everything else. Okay. It's about the consistent small actions we're taking and not letting one small decision we make or small action we do, or don't take ruin the rest of our little decisions. All right. So I don't want you to beat yourself up on that, but so it's about consistency. It's about taking small actions and understanding that these small actions will result in bigger things and you have to just be accountable to whatever that bigger thing is. If I don't like the way I look in the mirror, I don't like the way my pants are fitting. Then I have to start taking smaller actions. It's not about anything else other than me and my action plan. Okay. All right. So in the activate stage, again, small action plans, or I'm sorry, a plan to take small action steps every single day that are attainable, you can feel good about and an understanding that your big results are going to come in the future. They're not going to come today, but today you can embrace what your plan is. You can embrace the, the mindset that you can decide, how you feel about the action steps you've taken today. And if you don't feel good about it, then you take different action steps tomorrow or later today. Okay. Just cause you take, don't do what you wanted to do an hour ago doesn't mean that you can't make good choices and good on your action plan to right now. Okay. So identify, define, embrace, and activate. That is how we work in the coaching program individually to come up with a way that you can feel good about getting yourself to where you feel more balanced. Okay. All right. Any questions about that? Please email me at Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com. I will be accepting private clients. And if you have questions about the coaching menu, a half-hour session, our session, and I will email you back and we'll discuss what you're looking for and whether or not it's a good fit for us to work together. Okay. All right, guys, thank you so much. And again, don't forget to tune in to the Thursday episode next week on the 18th on nurses on fire to hear the interview that I did with miss Nisima and I we'll have her on our podcast here in the near future to talk specifically about how she was able to pay off a ton of debt. Okay. She's got a great action plan that I think it's simple for any of us to follow, especially when we're talking and breaking it down into little action steps. The other big announcement that I have is that I am so, so excited to announce that I am going to be interviewing Ms. Stephanie gas. She has this Stephanie gas show. It was mompreneur mastermind show, but now it is the Stephanie gas show. She just rebranded. This is my personal friend and mentor and coach. She has actually helped me with all things podcasting. The whole reason why I even have the title that I do was that I had personal coaching sessions with her. She helped me with all of my jumbled ideas that I had and she helped me hone it in. And we prayed about it. She is a Christian coach and she prays with her clients. It's amazing. Really? So anyway, I am going to have her on a podcast episode because she is going to talk with us about how to balance our professional piece of the pie. She's amazing. She's done amazing work. And if you haven't already looked at or listened to her show, it's the Stephanie gas show. G a S S take a listen, but she is going to be a special guest. I'm interviewing her next week. So it should drop an episode with her interview in the next couple of weeks. Okay. So I'm really excited about that. I also have some other exciting guests that I am booking to interview. So I'm going to have some great things for you guys coming up. I'm really excited about it and I hope you guys are too. All right, guys, don't forget. Hit me up on the Facebook group. Get in that Facebook group so that we can live this thing out together. Okay. All right, girls, I love you guys. 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EP 25 Why Boundaries are Crucial to Your Success Visiting the Grand Canyon Revelation about What God Has for Busy Moms Daughters Family Chat Hey, welcome back to this special episode. And this is an episode where I'm going to do a little chat with my sister and my mom. And I just reflect on the fact that those boundaries are meant for our good, and you know, if you want to bring that into your inner life and what kind of got asks of us or the rules and regulations that we can sometime feel constricted by, we can think to ourselves, these are for our good, so good. These boundaries are for our good. So when we stray outside of that, we're really going outside of that safety net, that protection that God wants for us. And I mean, I had a visceral reaction to seeing people creeping along that edge, even when I was holding tightly onto a fence post kind of peering over my legs were jelly. And I didn't even want my nephew kind of like leaning against the thing. It was terrifying and I think to myself, why would I then, you know, if, if that's what I feel in the temporal world with my temporal life, why would I put my eternity on at, to put it at risk by stepping outside of the boundaries that God has, has put for me? Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Angie's Coaching Menu: Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Podcast Episode Updates: https://angie.gr8.com/ Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! Ppu.atrogers.com   We took a trip to Arizona this week and we've been here to visit my oldest Clayton. It was about time for mama bear to lay eyes on her Cub. So that's what we did. And it was awesome. We surprised him. He was really, really surprised, but I just wanted to take a little time to have a little chat about some of our experiences and go from there. So Chrissy is my sister. So Chrissy, why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself? Well, hello. I am Chrissy and I am 41. I'm a stay at home, mom of five kiddos. My oldest is 18 and my youngest is eight. I have four girls and one young man, boy. So you're a girl mom with one boy. I'm A girl with one boy and I am a formal homeschooling mom. I stopped homeschooling about four years ago, but I had homeschooled for probably about 10 years. All including maybe a little longer with some stragglers that I kept home for a little while after my oldest went to school, I, like I said, stayed home with my kids and support my husband, who is, who runs a tech company. So he's extremely busy all the time and outside of COVID doesn't or is not home super often because he is all over the world. So it's important for me to stay home and kind of keep things grounded. Yeah. All right, cool. Yeah, that's my SIF. Y'all okay, mom, This is mom. Hi, my name's Debbie and I am retired. I've been retired about, I guess since 19 or 20 and since 2014. Oh yeah, it's been that long. Yeah, it's been that long and I retired to actually take care of my mom and for about four years. So she was about 90 when I retired which was a great experience and maybe another podcast, but let's see. Before I retired, I was an office manager for an assisted on national, well actually international assisted living company. So I've got the two girls. Do, you know, Andrea and Chrissy and are their younger brother is a Molly son. So that's about it. That's about me. Yeah. And you're right now, you're living the boating life. My husband and I have had boats and we've taken some really good trip. We bought a boat up in the Chesapeake Bay and traveled down the intercoastal all the way down to Florida and stayed there for a winter. And then we took it on around to a little place called Demopolis, Alabama. And we've stayed there for several years now. We finally sold the boat and bought another one because my husband couldn't stand it. He had to, he had to have another boat. So now we're going to have a new adventure up in Lake Michigan for awhile. That's really cool. Yeah. Yeah. So My, my children think I'm a little bit crazy, but other than that, yeah, That's not true. It's just a different lifestyle living the boating lifestyle or sail building and that kind of thing. It's just a whole nother lifestyle, so right. But it's been an interesting winter for you because before now you guys have been gone to warmer climates and instead of having to live through ice storms and snow and all that. So this was your first winter. So coming out to Arizona during this week was awesome. I don't know if you guys have ever visited or if you live in Arizona, I want to come visit you. So email me and we can split the visit, but I love Arizona. This is my second time here. I love it. What did you guys think about Arizona? We're in Phoenix, by the way. It's wonderful. It's it's just glorious is Andrea said, yeah. Chrissy said that a million times is glorious. It has been glorious. Yeah. It's great to get out of the great white North was my home for her is my home. And this winter has not been super kind as far as snow and weather is concerned. So the warm, glorious sunshine was very welcome. Yeah. And I think it too especially after the season that we've had, where we've been so isolated and separated, that's a whole nother issue, but being able to spend this time with just us, the, you know, my sister and my mom and spending time together and beautiful, just beautiful, trained to look at beauty or beautiful landscaping such a different thing that we can get to see. And then I think that just goes into, you've got to do things to take care of yourself and spend that time with family. I mean, for me, I'm in that season where family time has been so important and I'm trying to really maximize the opportunities I have since I'm not working full time right now. It's been the first time in really in my life since I'm able to take this time. So I, you know, had I been working full time, I wouldn't have been able to take this opportunity. So it's been really cool. It's also been cool being here with our, with my oldest grand child and just loving on him for three days just by itself. It's you, that's a whole nother thing because he's learned so much about being around three women. Oh yeah. Oh my gosh. The whole time he was like, you guys have deep talks about everything. Like there's nothing that came up that you guys didn't turn into a deep talk. I'm like, yeah, welcome to, you know, womanhood. Okay. It's nice for me because I live far away from my family of origin. And so yeah, it was nice to spend time with my sister-in-law, who I do not get to spend time with very often. Maybe the last time I saw them as June. So Yeah. Very good. Yeah. All right. So we went to the grand Canyon which was just breathtaking. Amazing. Okay. Yeah. So let's talk a little bit about, because for me every time, like this is my second time going. Cause I went when we dropped Clayton off the first time for college, but the first time I went, I was just taken aback by how vast and majestic and just breathtaking it was. And I just also in relation to how small I am in this world and how big God is. And even though God is so big and the world is so big and I feel so small that it's, you're still meant in purpose to make a big, huge world changing impact, even as small as we are. So that was one of my revelations that I had when I first went. So you guys talk about what you guys thought about that grand Canyon Chrissy. Wow. So aside from walking up and just, you, you kind of walk up sort of an incline and you don't really know exactly what to expect, except what you've seen, you know, in pictures or whatever, and you walk up and all of a sudden it's there and it almost makes you weak in the knees, just the vast majesty of it. But one thing that I just kind of came to my mind was the value of boundaries. So when you're walking along the rim of the grand Canyon, there are many places that are fenced along the walkway, and there are many places that are not, and you saw people creeping out along the edges to get a better view or, you know, scrambling down essentially the face of a cliff to try to get, you know, that cool picture or whatever. And we came to know that there have been many, many deaths of people doing that just slipping. And I just reflect on the fact that those boundaries are meant for our good, and you know, if you want to bring that into your inner life and what kind of got asks of us or the rules and regulations that we can sometime feel constricted by, we can think to ourselves, these are for our good, so good. These boundaries are for our good. So when we stray outside of that, we're really going outside of that safety net, that protection that God wants for us. And I mean, I had a visceral reaction to seeing people creeping along that edge, even when I was holding tightly onto a fence post kind of peering over my legs were jelly. And I didn't even want my nephew kind of like leaning against the thing. It was terrifying and I think to myself, why would I then, you know, if, if that's what I feel in the temporal world with my temporal life, why would I put my eternity on at, to put it at risk by stepping outside of the boundaries that God has, has put for me? I'm going to tell you right now, I had a lot more joy in my life, stepping away from that fence. I could still see the absolute gorgeous beauty, and it was still extremely moving. There's a verse in Psalms that says, leave me to a rock that is higher than I, and that is the verse that kept going into my mind. And that kept grounding my spirit. And I just was so grateful Lord that you lead me there, that you set my feet firmly on a rock that is higher than I, it gives you vision. It gives you visibility. It lets you see clearer, you know, see things from afar. It's just great. So all of that was a little muddled, but that's my thoughts. That's that was beautiful. That was amazing. So good. I mean that to think about boundaries being something that keeps us safe and you know, I've talked about building those boundaries and keeping those boundaries, even when it feels uncomfortable or even when it feels a little constricting or even when it feels like you might hurt somebody else's feelings, but those boundaries are there for us to thrive and to succeed and wow. What a good, what a good revelation. That was awesome. Well, you all pretty much said it all. I mean, and what I would like to say is that my daughters are amazing. [inaudible] We get it from our mama? Oh, well they just teach me, they teach me things all the time. Each, each one of them in their own way. And my son is teaching me as well. So it's, It's just from my standpoint of being a, you know, an older parent of older children, you can relax in the older part [inaudible] retiree. Yes, yes. What I'm trying to say is I learn from them every day and that was beauty. Yeah, it was. Yeah. Well I think it's just, it's a good thing to just, first of all, always reflect on everything going on in your life, but when you have an opportunity to reflect on something as vast, and if you haven't been to the grand Canyon, I know that you've seen pictures. It does nothing to the justice of what it is that you will experience in person. I mean, I've been now twice and I would go again and again and again, it just is such a great reminder of how big our God is. And I love that what you said, Chrissy. That was really good. So it's cool All to, to think of the grand Canyon and think, you know, you've seen it and sometimes we have a tendency to be like, okay, check. You know, for me, this is a bucket list item for me, this is something that I have just dreamed about doing. Now. I will say, I did not want to do this, or I do want to do this with my children and my family. I do. And I always have, you know, for a long time, I will say, I'm very hesitant to do that at the moment because it's somewhat terrifying seeing the absolute sheer drop-offs right. So, so we'll see how it went and where that happens or when that happens. But I will say like when I was thinking about the grand Canyon, like since I've been there, it's like, there was so many things I wanted to explore. There were so, so much that was untapped. You know, I wanted to go down in there to kind of see what it was like from all the different perspectives I wanted to, you know, take a Jeep tour down and like, just get like the guides experience and understand, you know, more about it. I wanted to see the river and the bottom of the Canyon. I went to hike in there. I'm wanting to do all those things. And I just, there were so many avenues you could take to explore the same thing. Right. And it was very different. You know, my sister-in-law before I left, asked me, are you going to get on, you're going to take him donkey ride down into the Canyon at two, which I answered a hard pass. No, I'm not doing that. So that's not necessarily one of the things I wanted to try, but I don't know. I think there's kind of an interesting thing to reflect on there. Like, you know, you can do something, but there's always more depths. You can plumb, I guess there's always more avenues you can take to explore it from a different angle to, to see new beauty, to see, you know, with fresh eyes. So I'm excited to come back and to do those things and spend some time there if I can. Yeah. Well, and you brought up fear kind of. Well, that was what, just what I was thinking about when you're thinking about cause it's, I mean, your brain tries to protect you. And so when you're on that edge, even if there's a fence there, your brain can't, it's like it can't take in everything that you're seeing and it can't figure out what to tell your body to do. So your stomach is in the pit and your legs are jelly. You know, and you're, you're being a lot more careful in you're walking a lot more carefully, obviously, hopefully, I mean, we were, but it's at the same time, it's understanding what those boundaries are and living fully within those boundaries and not allowing fear to stop you from taking those steps and taking those actions and enjoying and taking in all of the wonder of what's happening around you. So making sure that you are keeping the fear in perspective to the opportunity you have to experience what it is that you're experiencing and for the grand Canyon, it's, you know, yes, you're going to have jelly legs. Yes. You have a little bit of that pit in your stomach of all those what ifs, but you are still enjoying that, that experience within the boundaries that are safe for you to do so. So you know, God is a very good God and he gives a lot of grace in mercy. And we know that fear is not of him. Now that doesn't mean that he wants us to make stupid choices or do things that are Risky. There's a type of fear that God put in us. And it's that sort of it's like that fear where you snatch your child back from a road that he's going to cross without looking that rear, when you say you need to come away from that edge right now, because that's like an innate thing that is a healthy thing that God gives us that like response so that we can remain, you know, in that safe environment. Right. Wisdom and discernment are the words that I think of when you're talking about that. So yeah, There's something else just popped into my head is it gives, I found myself covering other people, strangers with some prayers like gods, you know, it's like, they're walking to the edge and you can just tell they're not respecting their boundaries basically. And you know, it gives you a chance to send out some prayers For people that may need them for whatever purpose. Yeah, that's right. I definitely found myself doing that as well. Yes. That and turning away and hiding my eyes when I thought people were being ex or especially risky. Yeah. It was hard. Yeah. Well, and I think sometimes we forget that we need God and we need his direction. We need the Holy spirit to guide us and lead us. And you know, when we are, it's kinda, it reminds me of ego a little bit. Like we are thinking that we are more in strength or more powerful than we are. We're bigger than we are and we still need to be reverent. And we still need to succumb to the fact that we still are choosing to walk this path for God, for his glory. And you know, just the need to still walk within those boundaries. And within the structure of everything is for his glory, not our own gratification, not our own pushing the boundaries to see how far we can go to the edge or how low, you know I'm having trouble putting that into words I think. But I think it gives you a pause to ask yourself, you know, if you find yourself wanting that next thrill, that next thing that may or may, may be outside of what God is asking of you or those boundaries. I think it gives you pause to think, you know, let me explore that. Why am I thinking that, what am I after two to really explore the purity of your heart and the purity of your intentions, and then ask, you know, invite God into that and just say, you know, I'm feeling this way, or I don't understand why you ask this of me. You know, if you're in a particular season in life where something that you know is one of his statutes or what he asks of you is harder. You have to sometimes invite him there to say, okay, Lord kind of lead me here, ask me, or, you know, speak to me here. But ultimately if you want to live in the Lord, I have found personally that sometimes you just have to acquiesce and say, you know, I don't understand this, but your thoughts are above my thoughts and your ways are above my way. So I'm going to surrender my knowledge. And I think that's kind of what you were pointing to, which is like your own yeah. Thought processes, your own knowledge, your own knowledge. You have to surrender that sometimes. And so that's kind of when you were saying that, that's what I was thinking like yeah. Sometimes we have to just say, okay, I don't know this, so Lord, I invite you here to help me, but for now I'm going to surrender that so I can continue to walk in your ways and walk with you. Right. Yeah. That's good. So what else, anything else that you guys can think of that would be important to share about this experience with the grand Canyon? Well, I don't know if this has any value to this particular podcast, but there has my sister-in-law, I have a Bible study at my house and my sister-in-law encouraged everyone last year during 2020 to make a list of 10 things that you wanted to be bold and sort of ask God for you wanted not like to test him, but just to say, you know, Lord, I'm really praying into these dreams maybe, or these 10 things. One of mine was kind of funny, but one of mine, so two times in my life, I have seen the sky at night in such brilliance that my mom used the word. It was just an absolute blanket of stars. Right. so that's happened two times in my life and you have to be in a very, very dark and pretty rural place for it and a clear sky for it to really just be as brilliant as it is. Right. Do we get that? It can be kind of encourage you if you've never seen it to actually pray for this because it is mind blowing. So one of the things on my list last year was I wanted to see the sky like that. Again, stars have always spoken to me. It's just been something that kind of feeds my soul nature in general. Always does. I always meet God, very intently in nature. He speaks to me loudly there. So this was one of my things. So as we're driving back from the grand Canyon, it's really, really dark during some of those roads. There are no streetlights. It is dark, dark. So I saw the star and the skies were clear. I saw the star starting to peak out and I started getting excited and I'm like real, like just every time, minute, I'm like pressing my face to the windshield with my hands, like cupped around my eyeballs so that I can block out the light of the dashboard and everything else. And as it comes, it's just magnificent the whole star, the whole sky breaks out in these in these brilliant, brilliant, like blanket of stars. And so my soul is just kind of soaring at this point. And I'm like praying to Lord. I'm like, you know, I, I just, I kept saying, I gotta pull over. Like, but there just was no safe place to pull over. You can't do that. It's like 75 miles an hour on that road, you know, I'm minimum. And so I'm, I'm, I'm praying. I'm like, Lord, thank you. This is just, it's beautiful. Like even though I can't stop and like just lay there and just soak it in. I know. And so in my heart, I heard like this isn't the last time you're going to see this. Like I just wanted you to know that I heard your prayer. And I was like, it was like, he was just smiling watching me look at this because he could see my heart storing. And I just, the word that kept coming is abundance. Like, Lord, you love me and abundance. Like this was for me, like I wanted this so much. And it was something I asked you specifically for a silly little thing, you know, in reality, but you gave it and you're like, that's not all it's not over. You'll you'll, you know, this will happen again. Basically. I don't know. That was my, that was my little extra. That's all Awesome. I mean, I love that. And that's so important for this conversation because it is about, you know, making your dreams plain, by writing them down, you write the vision, make it plain. And you did that. You, you, you talked about asking boldly for what it is that you want and dream. I mean, God's put those desires and those dreams in our heart and whatever he's put into our heart is going to be something that he's going to give us an abundance and he's going to give us opportunities, but we have to stop to look for them. We have to trust that he's going to give those to us, but we also have to do our part. It's not just about sitting around and waiting for God. You know, you could have driven in that car the whole way home and not ever even asked about we've got something happening outside of our window here, but so sorry for the extra noise, but you could have just driven and not even sought out an opportunity to make that dream become a reality. Now he made it become a reality and he was speaking to you through that, but you had to be open and intentional about looking for it. Yeah. So that's, that's so good. We have to do our part in that. So, And I will say I had to look a little foolish doing it, like my whole face with like plus pressed the windshield. It was doing the same thing. Yeah. But that's a good point because sometimes we, you know, that reminds me of the huge thing I've done recently where I'm, I'm, you know, leaving a six figure salary to follow what the Holy spirit told me to do, which was to give it up to him as an offering. And he would show me what's next. And I had no idea what's next, but, so that looks foolish to a lot of people. I mean, it looked foolish to me, but as God's speaking to me and telling me to do that, then you have to be bold and courageous and, and take that step. And whether it's something like wanting to see a blanket of stars and the pitch black again which that speaks to, you know, you're in a dark rule, rural cold place, but there's still light for, to be seen. That was, that's so good to that preaches, you know, on its own as well, but we still have to do our part. We have to take those steps and that's, you know, you would not have had that experience. Had you not been intentional about taking that step? And that's the other thing too about writing things down is that it, it, it does something to us to be more intentional about taking those steps, to make those things on paper or make those things that we've prayed for a reality in partnership with God. That's important. It's funny because I'm not a dreamer by nature. I don't. In fact, a lot of the times we'll be doing a Bible study or you'll be talking with friends or you'll be kind of listening maybe to a podcast, you know, someone will say, you know, what are your dreams? What are your dreams? And I'm always like, none. I don't know. I don't have dreams. I'm just not that type of person. I know people that they could tell me, you know, take off 10 things that they big, old, big ideas that they have, that they have dreams about. You know, I'm just not one of them. And my friend and I were having this conversation last Friday and she said, you know, what are your dreams? And I was like, and I told her what I just said, like, I don't dream, but I've been intentionally like, thinking about that over the last week because of that conversation. And, you know, I guess I just wanted to encourage for those of you that are like me, that don't, you know, quote unquote dream, you know, maybe it starts little like that, that blanket of stars, like that is something that was just a deep desire on my part. So anyway, yeah, if you're not, if you're not a dream or that you're not alone. And I think too, that it's just speaks to each of us are so different that it, he speaks to us and puts those desires and dreams in our heart and in our thoughts and our mind in our experiences in different ways, just like he speaks to us in different ways. You know, you might hear for him as a small whisper or you feel it in your heart, you might hear it in a worship song. You might have it have a dream. I am not, I don't have, he doesn't really speak to me in dreams, but I feel a small whisper sometimes. I, I think most of the time it happens in my mind, I think about something. And then I feel it in my heart, I get kind of this reaction. So he just speaks to us in different ways and all of us have been designed and perfectly made in the way he needs us to be made so that you walk out those dreams and those desires offered his worry. So, yeah. That's important to talk about that. Yeah. You know, one thing I noticed was when we were talking about with Clayton, you know, he said he never went on hikes. He never, you know, I don't think that he would have naturally just sat there and looked up at the stars, but when you and I were doing it, he leaned over and he started looking and I could tell that he was in all of it himself, you know? And then when we took that height to that park that he had been to, but it never explored, it was like he hit his, all of seeing what he was seeing and now he wants to go hike it. He wants to explore nature more and, and, you know, so the effect that this trip had on him, just to see, I guess God's beauty. I, you know, well, and that's something new. Yeah. Yeah. And I think that's good. Yeah. I think that's good because too, the other thing is that sometimes our dreams aren't for us, they're for other people. So just like, you know, we came to visit him and to kind of lay eyes on him and, and you prepare him for the next couple of months before he gets to come home. And that was a satisfying my own mama bear needs. And but it, some of the things that we talked about, some of the things that we did to experience, he then benefited from that. So it's just important to remember that those desires and dreams that he has given us are not always for us. They're not, it impacts others. Yeah. Yeah. It, you know, we might benefit from it, but it's the, it's those that those dreams and desires and actions and bold, those bold courageous actions that we take based on our desires and dreams are meant for others, sometimes they're meant to impact others. So I'm voicing them too. Yeah. So that's good. Anything else? This was an awesome little chat. I loved it. I hope that you guys also loved it and, you know, I think it's just to close out. I there's so many things that I reflected upon these last three days, it was packed with a lot of action in a lot of schedules, but it also was just so refreshing to spend time with family and to think about all the things that God has for us. And I just think it's such a good thing to take time and be intentional about the time. So yeah, this noise that we've got going on is distracting. So sorry about that guys. I know, right. They had to start right here on this corner where we're staying, we're staying in this little apartment, so Yeah. But yeah. Thank you for inviting us to have a conversation and reflect more deeply about our week. It was fantastic. And thanks for inviting me. Yeah. Thank you guys. Thanks to my husband for a whole number four. I know mine too. All right, guys. So tune in for the next episode and you know, we want to say a quick hello since I've got Chrissy and Mimi on We want to say a quick hello to Mary grace because Mary grace is Christie's youngest, Man. She's a big fan of this show. It's the cutest. Yeah. Ever Mary grace. I love you, baby. So shout out to you now you're on the podcast. Okay. It's so cute. Yes. But anyways, thank you guys for listening and don't forget to hop on over. If you haven't already leave a review, I'd love to hear what you guys thought about this episode of me talking to my sister and my mom about our experiences. So if you liked it, go ahead and put a review in and give us some, give us those five stars and maybe we'll do some more episodes like this. Okay. Thank you guys. Have an awesome day.  

EP 24 Secret to Multi-Tasking for Busy Moms- Focusing on One Thing at a Time Can Make You Most Effective. Productivity for Homeschooling or working Moms every day planning In order to be successful at being a busy, working mom, you have to be the best at multi-tasking, right? The biggest myth in the world is that multitasking is able to occur. The reality is you cannot be efficient. You can not be safe and you can not get things done. If you think that you can multitask. My email ==> angietoninirogers@gmail.com Connect with me==> https://angie.gr8.com/ Join My Community==>  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whollymadelife Ever wanted to start your own podcast? Get the same course I took to help me get started!  http://ppu.atrogers.com Hey ladies, welcome back to Wholly Made Life. And today we're going to talk about something that I think almost every woman that I know really struggles with and really feels like they have to do to be successful. So if we have to do it, then I want to give us a tip or two to think about so that we can feel more successful in doing it. And that thing is multitasking and learning how to focus. Now I will apologize ahead of time for the audio on this. Some of this is a portion of a YouTube video audio, and some of it is through a microphone. So the audio was a little bit off and there was a little bit of background noise. So I'll go ahead and apologize for that upfront. Okay. So give me grace and forgive me. Okay, ladies. All right. Let's get into today's episode today. I want to talk to you about focus. Once you're able to learn how to focus, you can be so much more productive and get so many more things done. And then success starts to come a little bit easier. First off, I want to let you know that the average number of minutes that a person can devote to a project before being interrupted or distracted is only 11 minutes. So you have 11 good minutes before you get distracted. And once you're distracted, it takes about 23 minutes to get yourself back on track. So minor distractions, such as a click on your phone, when a text message comes through or a Facebook or email comes through on your, as you're working on something else, it can cause huge consequences for you because if you are interrupted every 11 minutes and then it, after that interruption is, is completed, then it takes 23 minutes to get back on task. You are wasting a lot of your day. So we have to learn some techniques in order to get yourself back on focus. The biggest myth in the world is that multitasking is able to occur. The reality is you cannot be efficient. You can not be safe and you can not get things done. If you think that you can multitask. Now, nothing I talk about is black and white, but to demonstrate this point, I watched a video and it was a team of basketball players wearing all white. And there was a man on the video giving me a specific task. And the task was to count how many times the basketball players passed the ball after the video it stopped. And it said, how many passes the basketball team did? Now? The hard part was not how many passes and counting to get that correct number. The hard part was that there was actually a black Moonwalking bear. So it was a black bear like that you would see in the Tennessee mountains. And it was Moonwalking in the video, in between, on all around the players. But because the man had asked me to complete a task of counting, how many passes the basketball players made. I completely missed the black bear. That was Moonwalking through the video. So in this video he then says, so there were 33 passes, but did you see the Moonwalking bear? So this video just demonstrates that it is really very difficult for us to be really good at two things at once. We might be good at a lot of things, but to do all of them at once is quite a challenge. And so when we think of multitasking, this is what we're talking about. It's, we're putting ourselves out there in all of these different ways at the same time. And it's really difficult for us to be successful at completing all the tasks all at once. Now, if we separate those tasks, we might be rockstars, but if we are putting all those tasks in together and trying to complete them all at once, that's when we stopped dropping those balls. Okay. So this video, and if you look for Moonwalking bear counting or basketball passes, then you might be able to find it on YouTube. It's just a YouTube video. Okay. So basically it's easy to miss something you're not looking for is what that says. And that is so true. The Bayer was there the entire time, but what happened was you were focused on the guys and the white making passes, and you were trying to complete that task, complete that direction. And because you were focused on that, didn't see the bear. And so then when he drew your focus or your attention to the fact that there is a Moonwalking bear, you were looking for the bear and when the bear came, it was easily seen. I was actually so shocked that I rewound it to the beginning and watched it again. And even worse is that I knew that this video had a Moonwalking bear in it, because we had heard about this video in a training that I was in and they couldn't get the video to work. So they told us there's a Moonwalking bear and most people miss it. So I thought that I could knowing that there was a Moonwalking bear going to cross the video. I could complete the task while also watching for the bear. But what I found was, even though I was trying to multitask and do both things at once, and I knew the bear was coming, I totally missed the bear because I was trying to, to also complete the task that he asked me to complete. So it just goes to show you that it is not effective to do two things at once. I mean, it's impossible for your brain to effectively focus on two things at once you think about doing an email and then maybe your husband or your child has said something to you and you're nodding your head. Yes. And then they look at you, like, do you even hear what I was saying? And then you look up and say no, I, no, I don't. I was only half paying attention. So either you're doing both tasks, doing a mediocre or average job with either tasks, or you're doing a great job on one task and you're totally messing up the other one. So it is literally impossible to focus on two things at once. Kind of like the same thing with kind of a mindset or perspective. If you're focused on something negative, it's impossible to focus on something positive. So if you're focused on the flip side, if you're focused on something positive, then it's impossible to focus on something that's negative. So keep that in mind that if you can try to keep your one thing that you want to focus on in the forefront of your mind, that is what will get most of your attention and hopefully have the best outcomes. So I want to give you a technique, and this is a quick technique. It's easy to use. Okay. It's called star and star means to stop think, act and review. You have the S T a R star. And so what you want to do in order to maintain your focus or refocus yourself after you've been distracted is to first stop. And then you're going to think about whatever it is that you're trying to accomplish, what the task at hand is and what you're trying to accomplish. And then during the thinking stage, you're also going to think about the plan or the strategy that you need to use to do your next action. Okay? So you're going to stop and think, and then you're going to act. And then after you take your action steps, you want to review to see if you were able to get the desired outcomes. And if you were not able to reach the desired outcomes, then you want to go back and think about your strategy again, and make sure that the strategies that you had in place were effective in order to the outcomes that you, that you want as. So you're going to tweak this area here, as far as the actions, if you're ending up not getting the results that you want. So star, you're going to stop. You're going to pause. You're going to focus attention on the task at hand. You're going to think about what it is to be done. You're going to plan your actions and decide what to do. If the unexpected occurs, that's a good point because we all know that things are going to come up to distract us. And so when you have something unexpected, if you've already thought about it ahead of time, then you, you kind of know how to either avoid those distractions in the first place, such as turn off your email, turn off your Facebook, turn off your phone while you're completing a specific task and you won't be interrupted. But then also you may, if you know that you have children, then you might wait until after your children are in bed. So that, that distraction is not a possibility. Okay? So if you, if you think about the unexpected or the things that could happen as well, then you're able to have a plan that might eliminate some of those distractions from happening acting is that you're going to carry out the plan task. And then the review is when you're going to verify whether or not you've got the results that you wanted. Okay? So remember guys, couple things, you can only focus on one thing at a time, if you want to be the best at what you're doing, or if you want to get the best outcomes, then focus on that one thing at a time. Stop, think about what you have to do, devise inappropriate plan, and then act on that plan and then review that plan and make sure that you got the outcomes that you desired. I hope that tool or resource of star was helpful and don't beat yourself up. We're women. We're always wearing lots of different hats and we're having to multitask a lot of the times. So I think again, the point here is, is to just focus on what you can do to be intentional, to try to focus on important tasks in a single way, important tasks, such as when you are spending time with your kids, or when you're spending time with your husband, trying to eliminate the other distractions so that they really feel like they're important when you're having to complete important tasks. Maybe you sit down and you pay the bills, or maybe you are working from home and you have certain things that you have to do for your business. Maybe you are on the job and you have tons of things on your to-do list, organizing that to do lists so that you're able to focus on certain tasks for a certain amount of time. Maybe you close your door to your office, turn off your ringer on your phone, turn on your voicemail, turn off your email, those kinds of things. So that you're just more intentional so that when you are able to start to work on important or crucial tasks, that you can really focus on that one thing so that you can get it done quickly. You can get done much more quickly if you're focused on it for a certain amount of time versus having lots of distractions coming in. So it's about being intentional and setting yourself up to be more successful. So hope this was helpful if it was I'd love for you to share this episode with some of your sisters so that they can have a quick tool, that they might be able to put in their tool belt to use any time that they need to. Okay. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us, your five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.  My email ==> angietoninirogers@gmail.com Connect with me==> https://angie.gr8.com/ Join My Community==>  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whollymadelife Ever wanted to start your own podcast? Get the same course I took to help me get started!  http://ppu.atrogers.com

BONUS EPISODE! EP 23 Live Clarity Coaching Call with Stef Gass: How to Gain Clarity on your Calling When You Don't Know What Steps to Take Next- Sneak Peak How to Create Pillars for Podcast And today I am jamming with my client and my friend, Angie Tonini-Rogers from the Wholly Made Life™ podcast. And we are doing a full on podcast strategy session in today's call. So this, this is for you. If you just are searching for some clarity or you have clarity, but you don't understand how that clarity translate into a podcast. This episode is for you. Have you ever wanted to start your own podcast?  Take a look at Stefanie Gass' HOW TO PODCAST COURSE right HERE! ==> http://ppu.atrogers.com Connect with our FB Group Community ==> https://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Need Coaching to create the Intentional Life your deserve? Email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com   Hey, what's up sisters. I am so excited for today's episode because I have a special recording for you. This is an audio of an actual coaching call that I did with my friend, Stephanie Gass. She owns the Mompreneur Mastermind Show. She is amazing at what she does. And she is the one that helped me create the logistics to get the Wholly Made Life™ podcast up and running. So if you've ever wondered, how did I come up with this idea? I had a whole bunch of jumbled ideas and she helped me get this thing up and running and all the things. So I am so excited to let you get a sneak peek and how I created, how Wholly Made Life™ came to be. I'm so excited. Stef Gass: What's up sister. And today I am jamming with my client and my friend, Angie Tonini-Rogers from the Wholly Made Life™ podcast. And we are doing a full on podcast strategy session in today's call. So this, this is for you. If you just are searching for some clarity or you have clarity, but you don't understand how that clarity translate into a podcast. This episode is for you. Cause we really take her direction, which she totally has. And we plug all the pieces together for her so that she has a TA, a tagline, a title pillars episodes for the show, a vision for how this podcast is going to touch other women's lives, how it's going to help them inspire them be, be a gift of service that Angie's going to show up for. And when she does that and shows up for them with this podcast, then she's able to figure out what the solutions are that her person needs and create a course or coaching program from it, which is exactly why she is now inside of podcast to profit as well. So I hope you guys enjoy this episode, so let's get it. Welcome back to the mompreneur mastermind show, where we choose to run insanely successful, passive income businesses that light us up while consuming iced coffee, braless and flawless, and maybe breaking it down to some gangster rap while our kids aren't looking. Did we just become best friends? Yes. Yes we did. Hey, I'm Stephanie gas. Six-Figure corporate exec turned top 1% network marketer turn podcaster. I believe when we let God light our path, we experience true miracles. Welcome sister. Let's get pumped up for today's show. All right. All right. So before we get into this strategy session with Angie, you might be wondering how Steph do I snag myself one of these 30 minute coaching calls. Like I need me a boom shakalaka strategy call. You know what I mean? So this is something that you have access to as a Stephanie gas student. So awesome. Here's your great news. If you are registered in clarify your calling or podcast pro university, you get access to 30 minute strategy calls with me where we can jam out basically any of this stuff, your strategy for your show, I'm putting together any missing pieces in your clarity work. Like I'm here to support you and to bring all the pieces full circle. And you guys have heard me do enough of these coaching episodes at this point to know that I don't mess around like 30 minutes, we are getting it done. So if you are a Stephanie gas student inside of clarify your calling or podcast pro university, you can email us support@stephaniegas.com and you can grab a 30 minute call. Yeah, I'm so here for it. Now, if you are not a Stephanie gas student in one of my two main courses, or you don't really want to do the course option, you want coaching. That is still an option for you guys while I am taking fewer clients, I am still taking clients, but so if you want to grab a breakthrough call with me, this is your year girl. Cause I'm not sure how long I will be offering one-on-one coaching. So if that's something that's on your heart, head over to support@stephaniegass.com and email Nina me mail. Nina will email you our coaching menu and you can see what might work best for you. I'm here to support you. I can't wait to work with you. Hey, where there's a will. There's a way I believe that if you've been called to say yes to any of this, that the doors will open for you and that you will figure out a way to make that happen. Also that when God opens doors for you, he provides a way for you to walk in what he's calling you to do. So it's basically raising your hand. Yes, I'm doing that, praying for it. Getting resourceful and making it happen. So I'm here for you. Let us know what you need and enjoy today's episode. HI Angie, I'm so excited. It's so fun. I'm so excited to work out the podcast kinks girl. So start me off with like, where are you at with it? I read your notes. Just curious if you already have like the vision for what's inside of it and what really you want to get done because 30 minutes goes fast. Angie Tonini-Rogers: okay, well I haven't started it yet. I think I'm just looking for clarity on what am I taught? You know, what order, the things that I talk about it, there's a lot of things I'm good at, but what, you know, what do I talk about? How do I organize the episodes and that kind of thing. So I just think, I just need some of that clarity and maybe the clarity with who I'm talking to and what I'm talking about. That'll help me. Stefanie Gass: Good. So yeah, let's start with the podcast pillars, cause that's really what you're going to stand on. What are those things you're going to talk about on your show? And then that then allows us to back into the little other stuff cause we have to have, what is it first? Yeah. Talk to me a little bit about your vision for that. Like, yes, you're good at a lot of things, but when you think about what do you really want to talk about and how do you really want to serve? What do you think those topics are? Like, what are those giftings that you have when it comes to others? Angie Tonini-Rogers: I think leadership and the way that I lead with love that's huge. That's a lot of what I focus on. That's how I think everything else comes from love. So that's how I teach people how to lead. So leadership is something I'm good at. And so that's definitely, their faith is huge. Part of that becoming who it is that you're called to be. How do you, you know, how do you listen for that? How do you get confirmation for that, that kind of thing? I am, I've been in corporate or healthcare for years and so I have like perfectionism and people pleasing and not feeling like you're enough and you're trying to do all the things you're given all of your stuff to the career. So just getting women to understand that it's okay to focus on your family and your career or it it's okay to leave your career. I mean, I've just recently taken a huge step of faith Crazy and awesome. So but you know, so, so really stepping into who it is you're called to be and, and trying to figure that out and understand that that's a journey and being bold and courageous and, and doing some of those things. I'm a boy mom, so I love all things, boy, mom themes. Yeah. And those are my major things that I know. Stefanie Gass: So when we look at those four things that you just said to me, the first one was leadership. Okay. And then we, we've got to uncover like, okay, well then who is this for? And what kind of leadership? Cause there's lots of different types. Second one was faith and really partnering with God on what God wants for your life and leaning into all of that trust and those types of things. The third one was being bold, having courage and taking action. And then the fourth one was motherhood. So if those are your four pillars, who is this person we're talking to? And obviously I think it's a mom based on our mother had tiller. Right. Is she though when it comes to that leadership part, what are we doing in that bucket? Is that leading in her life? And like, are we going to leave the corporate and the, and the business stuff out of this podcast? Angie Tonini-Rogers: Yeah. I think it's being able to find fulfillment outside of your career. Because for me, I'm on the journey where my identity was in. I'm a chief nursing officer and that's what I do, you know? And so when you strip that away, okay, what are you, who are you? And what do you do and how do you serve? So I'd like to help people. And of course I'm walking that path right now too, but I think it's finding that balance outside of the career. Yes. You're great at that. But then you've got all that guilt of using all that you got at work and not having thing left with your husband, for your husband and your kids. Stefanie Gass: Yeah. So when you think of the woman though, so she's, I think she's a working mom or a corporate woman who maybe has a lot of success or has the titles, or has the money, the salary. Right. But she's seeking to plug in some boundaries like she's ready. So maybe it's not even the leadership part. Maybe it's the, Hey, let's take what we're good at at work of our boundaries of our listening to our employees. Like we joke in my family sometimes I'm like, don't treat me worse than you treat your employees. Right. Cause they go good. Do we treat our family that way? Exactly. Yes. Maybe teaching Her how to pull in boundaries and leadership and listening, respect all those things that she does in her job, into her motherhood and relationship with Christ. So when I, when I looked at this, I'm like, okay, maybe it's working moms who are seeking for more fulfillment outside of her career or work she wants to, she wants to grow in her motherhood and in her purposes outside of work. Angie Tonini-Rogers: Yeah. I definitely, because I don't know if it's necessarily someone who needs to leave their career. Certainly I can talk through that, but it is about, for me about why, what am I doing, spending all these hours and all of these on-call and I'm never available, you know, in all of my good stuff, goes to the people that I love at work, you know? And then my husband and my kids get the, you know, the crappy end of the deal and myself too. That's the other huge thing is that I come way less. Like I completely let myself go. So I think getting back to loving yourself and not feeling guilty about that. And that's a journey that I am on every day. Stefanie Gass: Exactly. So if we were to think of like a tagline here, so if your, if your pillars are this like boundaries and leadership bucket one, that means you get to talk about all of those things. Pillar two is faith. Pillar three is the taking action and doing hard things because when you decide to have every area of your life be great, instead of one, that's really hard, right? We've gotten communication that has to happen. We've got to lay things down. We have to even sometimes go part time or even leave the career or go, go start a job. Maybe that's the thing. So like you're just helping this mom figure out how to make all areas of her life. Great. Instead of one and the other one is motherhood. So when we think of the tagline, if those are the four things you're going to talk about and we go up one rung in the ladder, it's now what's the promise? Like, what is this thing that we're giving her? What is this podcast? Like? Something like finding meaning, purpose time and boundaries. If I say like in all areas of her life, it sounds too like, where like, well, what does that mean? So it's almost like define it, like finding meaning, purpose times and boundaries in motherhood, faith and marriage in life with purpose. We could say finding meaning time and boundaries in a faith, fueled life with purpose. Angie: Yeah. I like the motherhood, faith, marriage. I like those words. Okay. I love purpose because I think that's what we're all striving for is what, what are we doing? What's our purpose. Yeah. Stef: So maybe it's even like claiming a faith, fueled life with purpose. Angie: I like claiming cause that's good action word. And it's like, you're taking it back almost. Stef: Yeah. Yeah. Like, so here's where I'm at. I've got cutting it down, trying to get it clean and short. So far I'm at claiming faith, courageous action and fulfillment in motherhood, marriage and mindset. Angie: Yeah. I like it. Okay. Stef: So that's the tagline of like, well, what is this thing? Right. Like, okay, I'm going to land on this podcast. And our next question is what's the name of it? And Then that looks and cleans it up for her. She's Like, Oh yeah, I want to have faith and take action. And fulfillment in my mother had married in mindset and why this is so good is we didn't say business. We didn't even say the word purpose because then we get all into the business. Like I think this is like this woman who wants, you know what, no, I want the courageous action and fulfillment in these three buckets over here. Angie: Sometimes talk about what, what she's doing in her work or in her purpose or in her job, get back to why it matters in her mother had marriage in mind. Okay. Right. Does that make sense? Okay. Yeah. Cause I think that this woman feels confident in their career already and that's yeah. Stef: Okay. So what's our, what are we calling this thing? Huh? Did you have any ideas? Angie: I don't have any ideas. I, I like let's see. This is where my my creativeness just kind of goes out. I don't know if there's a rediscover or becoming Stef: It's really, you know, for this mom, so we could have mom in the title or we can really focus on the fact that she's kind of finding this fulfillment and joy. Like maybe it's the claiming that you love so much, right? Like, like claiming courage, like claiming courage to not be everything in your job, claiming courage to set up the boundaries, claiming courage to get into that intimacy with God. So claiming courage could be a fun theme and a great name. I have no idea if that's available, we have to go look, I'm claiming. Cause what else is she claiming? She's claiming courage. She's claiming. And I love alliteration. So I mean, I think she's going to, she needs to find her joy again. She needs to find her confidence and competence outside of work. And I think that that's, you know, you don't feel like you're enough with mom with being a mom and with your husband and all of that. Because you don't have enough and you feel guilty about not having enough after work. So, well, What about, I don't know what this was like, pretty clear just now I just had this vision of like, what if it's like this whole life project, like whole life, like whole living, like you have this whole you're, you're only experiencing a pie, a piece of the pie. What if you could experience your whole life? What if your whole life there are eight different buckets or something and podcast is going to teach you how to step into claiming faith boundaries, fulfillment so that you can have the whole life. Angie: I like it. I like it. Yeah. I like, because nursing is such a holistic view to where you're touching all areas of the person's life to make them whole in their mind, body, spirit, emotions. Yeah. And finances. Yeah. I like it. Stef: Okay. So there's whole life, whole living. There's like whole her whole her. Is that a weird, they whole, her whole, her whole, If you don't have the L then Yeah, I liked, I liked like the whole life project and like, you know, the whole life project. Holy Holy made. Woo. That's kind of fun. So it's a play on words, but like, obviously you're Holy made like you are living with the Holy spirit within you. That's kind of a thing. Yeah. That's kind of fun. Holy made even spell wholly wrong. W H w H I have wholly be like caps or something. That's pretty fun. Yeah. That's kind of neat. Whole, whole circle of your life. And then also like you are Holy made. Like, are you living in potential as a mom, as a, as a wife and not just your title or not just your income or what, what are you idolizing that needs to be put down so that you can live your whole life? Angie: Yeah, I like that. I like it. Okay. So we have Holy made H O L Y made, or we can spell it. Holy Holy. Like with the w I spell it and tell you H O L L Y, but it doesn't look right, but that's not what, Who knows. Let me Google it wholly. W H O L L Y. Is that right? It looks super weird. It does paper So weird. Now what's really though, let's see, is wholly made with an age it's only four grand, four grand wholly made with a w w H O L Y. But they're going to think you just spelled it wrong. So we can't do that. Holy made regular spelling taken. How about Holy made podcast.com because we know it's not trademark because, well, we don't know that for sure. But the.com is not it's available. They just know it's so good that they are selling it at a premium. So wholly made podcast.com is available and you could just use fully made as your brand. And just know that when you start rolling in the dough, you grabbed that 4k domain, like literally spelling it wholly H O L Y O H O L Y. Yep. Wholly made. And then we can plug wholly with the H into the tagline, like claiming faith, courageous action, and fulfillment to be Holy made. W H O w H O L L Y in motherhood, marriage and mindset. Yeah. I definitely liked the Holy made. That's so good. You got to use it. I'm telling you that. It's so good. And I love the play on words there. I love the connection too, with the nursing, since obviously that's I know that holistic approach You got literally holistic, which plays off of your Holy you've got Holy made with the pie that she's living in this bucket with different pieces that make her whole spirit, Holy, like God and faith and spirit being like it's so good because it hits all of your three buckets. Yeah, It does. It's good. Stef: All right. Are we good with that part? Yeah. Okay, perfect. So let's keep digging in. Okay. All right. We've got Holy made is your show. We've got a tagline claiming faith, courageous action, and fulfillment in motherhood, marriage and mindset. If you want to add that to be Holy made in, you can. But I just think that makes it too long. I think we should just say, okay, we got our pillars. So what you're going to talk about in here are your boundaries, leadership, listening, respect, bucket, your faith bucket, you're taking action and courage bucket, and then your pies. I think this motherhood family thing is actually the pies that cause you can talk about, like you said, what makes up the whole circle of her life? Well, we've got motherhood. We got family. We have financial, you can paint this picture of the whole life project that could even be your program. The whole life comes full circle. Okay. So then Angie: Yes. Okay. I like the whole life project too. Stef: Yes, me too. So, cause your next question for me was like, how do I monetize this ASAP? Right. Well, Yeah, of course. You know, cause I'm taking that step of faith, you know? So obviously I know it takes time and all that stuff, but you know, ideas on, I know there's content. I just don't know how to put it together. And then obviously I know there's affiliate and all that kind of stuff too initially. Yeah. That's what you teach. So when we look at this woman, what do we think her pain point is? Angie: I think it's being burnt out on doing everything for work and not, and feeling so guilty and shame, you know, all that guilt and shame and, and worry and anxiety over. Not fulfilling her role as a mom, as a wife, as a, maybe a servant vendor, church, maybe her health. I think she's, you know, lets herself go. I mean, I'm talking to me. Okay. So… Stef: Stressing about that. When we say those are our biggest pain points, what does she really want? She wants the whole life again. The whole thing. Yeah. I'm really tired of living one piece of this pie. Yes. I'm done with It. That piece of the pie is getting back in its place and I'm getting the full pie back out and I'm going to pour into here and here and here and here, like right. Angie: Givin me chills. Yes. That's exactly right. Like I'm done with that being my life. That is, that's been my life leadership and healthcare or corporate world or whatever that becomes your life. And then everything else falls. Stef: I wonder if we should rework your tagline, I'm going back to that for a second. Cause it's like maybe what it is is what is it? What is it? So we go, Holy made it is like spirit restoration and it's something like spirit restoration and reclaiming your whole life. And it's spelled, you know, whole life for the burnt out working mama or something like, because really when we're talking about like, well what is this? This is like, let's reclaim your whole life. Yeah. Tired with living a one piece of your life. Well living the other nine pieces of your life. Well too. Angie: Yes. That's so good. And that's exactly it like because yes, it's wellness. It's emotional stability is all of it. Yeah. I mean it's the whole, it's the whole pie and you're living the career one. Great and finances. Great. But for what you're giving for, what? Because the rest of your life has not been benefiting from that great salary that you have. Stef: Yeah. Okay. Something like reclaim your whole life and tap into God's size fulfillment. This is the whole podcast. Can I get an amen? Angie: Hmmmm. Wow. So good. Yes. Reclaim your whole life and tap into your God-sized fulfillment. And what did you say? That's it? What did you say after that? Stef: Reclaim your whole life and tap into God's size fulfillment. Now we can say who it's for, but I don't think we should say it in the tagline. Let's pull that into the description. Okay. Okay. So let me try and give you a description. Okay. Hey mama, welcome to wholly made where I believe you are not created in this life to do one thing. Well, you are not your job, your title, your salary, just a mother or just a wife. You are actually made up of a bucket of things that create your whole life different pieces of the pie that create a complete circle that God is trying to show you. If you're ready to stop ignoring different pieces of your pie and reclaim your whole life and tap into the life that God has for you to experience God's size fulfillment, then sister, you are in the right place together. We are going to walk through some boundaries, leadership, different areas of your life that need to change. It's going to be some tough work up in here, girl, but then we're going to uncover some bold courageous actions that we can take to experience. Not just the good life, but the whole life. Yeah. Angie: Yes. Oh my goodness. That's so good. I would listen because that's me. I think my gosh, Stef: Like this so much as you've niched in now to the woman who is so unbalanced and really good at the one thing, which I really think of myself, you know, eight years ago and I'm like, wow, it was really great at work. I was really great at network marketing and my life was grumbling. Right? And now I'm going, I'm now living the whole life. The Holy Holy made I'm living the whole life. Holy made. That's how you ask, are you ready to live your whole life? Holy made. Let's go. Angie: Yes. That's yeah. It's great. It's so good. Stef: The question, which I'll try to at least give you a direction would be what happens on this. And I think if I was to, I think, I think where you can go with this is you can create the course, right? Which is the whole life project and what it is is it's walking her through boundaries, fulfillment maybe time-blocking uncovering purpose and just some basics in each area of the pie. So you're going to have to identify what are these areas of the pie. There's obviously inner work. So their self, their spiritual with God, there's her marriage. There is her motherhood. There is her home. There is her health. There are also relationships like maybe you can come up with each module is a bucket, a piece of the pie. And you're just going through how to be your best you in that one pie and not perfect and not amazing, but like how do you get 1% better in each area of your pie? And how do you identify which, which areas of the pie are really like lacking and which ones are overflowing. Cause you want to balance it out. How to balance her pie to live her whole life. I think that in course I do, they might want to do it group coaching style so that you have like 10 women together, instead of it being fully passive, you can play with it. Like, what I like to do is I launch something live the first time a to see does it light me up to do this live? And if not, well, now I've recorded everything and I have a course. Okay. Angie: Right. Yeah. I like it. That's good. And you know, it's funny as I use a training and I talk about the P hat, making sure you have all the pieces of the pie and all of that stuff. Stef: So yeah. I'm serious. It's kind of crazy. Actually. I'm thinking about it. I'm like, okay, he's got jokes, you know, he's like, Oh my God. Bringing it back to the pie today. Oh my gosh. All right. Well, and it's good after the dreamer summit too. Cause that they talked about that pie, that pie as well. And that's just kind of a, that visualization that I get of like, and it can be whatever can be the buckets. It could be the, the, the box that has the like what, but the point is you're, you're this one thing that God created you to be. And there's pieces of that. And you're ignoring half of it, which doesn't light up your soul because you only focusing on the one or two and this woman is specifically and you're going to help her break free from that. Yeah. Yeah. I love it. And you believe it in 30 minutes, look at us. Go. Yeah, it is. It's very mean you have such a gift. So I just love, I just love listening to you. He has such a gift. Stef: How incredible was that conversation and how excited are you guys to go check out Angie's new podcast. Holly made life. It is so awesome. I know y'all are going to love it. So I just pray over you now, sister, friends, that wherever you sit, you will find yourself encouraged. You find yourself growing in confidence that you too can step out in faith to pursue the purpose that God has for you. I pray that you walk into clarity that God gives you new eyes to see new ears, to hear and pours into you. The belief that you can, that you can impact others, that you can use your voice to help inspire people. And that all you need to do it are your experiences are the tests that become the testimonies are the mess. That becomes the message. And that God will reveal that to you in a big, incredible way. And just pour into you that belief that you are here to do big things for the kingdom in Jesus name. I pray, amen sisters. I told you guys, she is amazing. She's a good friend and she is my coach. And I just wanted to give you guys the opportunity to see how it is that I had this idea. I had this calling and she helped me gain some clarity. So I highly recommend if you need clarity in your calling, she has a free Facebook group that you can get on over just search mompreneur mastermind show. And she has some free content in there that is about clarity on your calling, finding that clarity on your calling. So I highly recommend her for that. She has a God-given gift, as you can see, she took all my jumbled up ideas and she helped me make a reality out of that and, and helped me clarify enough to where I could focus. Angie: And wallah here is Wholly Made Life™. In a few of you guys have asked questions about how do you start a podcast? How do you record? What do you use to edit and all of these things? Well, I am not the expert in that I have learned, and I am learning as I go, but I am telling you, I learned everything that I needed to know from Stephanie gas. And that is who you just heard coaching me. So not only is she an amazing God gifted clarity coach, but she helps people start podcasts and from step a, all the way to Z plus a lot of God and Holy spirit in the middle of it. So if you want to take a look at what her course is, how it teaches you, how to start your own podcast, then go to http://ppu.atrogers And that will lead you right to her course. And she will help you get started. I promise you will not have any questions left once you take her course. It's amazing. I was able to get this podcast up and running in less than two weeks of taking her course. So, and it was an idea that I'd had for a little bit of time, but the logistics were bam. Bam. Thank you. Ma'am okay. She's got everything you need to know in that course. http://ppu.atrogers. If you have any inkling that you might want to start a podcast. Okay. And I just threw that in there. Cause I know some of you guys have emailed me or, or messaged me and asked me, how do you start a podcast? Or what platform do you use, etc. And everything that I've done is exactly how she taught me. So I want to give her the credit for that. All right, guys, I will see you guys on the next tech next episode. And I love you guys. Stay warm, stay healthy. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to the podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. 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EP 22 Feeling Stuck and Unsure How to Move Forward- 7 Simple Step System to Get Unstuck for Overwhelmed Moms Are you feeling so stuck that you're unsure of how to move forward? Well, today we're going to talk about the system for overwhelmed moms and how we can work on getting stuck. So let's get ready and let's get unstuck. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup   Angie's Coaching Menu: Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com   Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Podcast Episode Updates: https://angie.gr8.com/ Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! Ppu.atrogers.com Welcome back to episode 22. And today we're going to talk about something really fun or maybe not, but I think it's, it's fun if we can just get it, but it's about feeling stuck. And are you feeling so stuck that you're unsure of how to move forward? Well, today we're going to talk about the system for overwhelmed moms and how we can work on getting stuck. So let's get ready and let's get unstuck. Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. And before we get started, I have some openings for some coaching sessions, a half hour sessions and a couple of one hour sessions. But at any point, if you are interested in finding out more about doing an individual coaching session with me, you can email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com. Or you can find me on Facebook or Instagram at Angie Tonini Rogers. All right, well, let's get into it today. So we're going to talk about feeling stuck. I know if you are anything like me at one point or another, you have felt stuck or maybe it is showing up as overwhelm or, being burnt out. And this happens a lot in the mental health, behavioral health world, with the nurses that I work with or in nursing in general. And I know it happens in the corporate world. I know it happens with mamas who have full-time jobs or own businesses, and it can pretty much happen with anyone anywhere time, but it is a place where we just feel like things are not going well. And it feels like things are piling up and we do not know what to do, where to go. And the thing about being burned out or in this place of overwhelm or feeling stuck is that no matter what you do, you feel like you get deeper and deeper. And the other thing it does is I feel like it puts these glasses on that are shaded with overwhelm or shaded with being burnt out or shaded with feeling stuck. So it's like we're looking through the lenses that change the world that we see because we're coming from a place of overwhelm being burnt out or feeling stuck. And I always talked to the nurses or the staff that I have about when they are feeling this way and reminding them that, you know, sometimes we're in a place of burnout or overwhelm or feeling stuck and we can do some things to come back from that. There's a point where we can make some changes. We can do some things and start to look through a lens that lets us see the world from a better perspective. Because when you are seeing the world through burnout, you tend to respond differently. You receive information differently, you perceive information differently. You perceive conversations differently. You attach meaning to things sometimes that if you weren't burnt out, or if you weren't overwhelmed, you would not normally attach that definition or attach those emotions to that instant that just happened. Or that moment that just happened. But because you've got these glasses on that you're seeing the world through burnout. You don't even realize sometimes that your emotions of being burnt out or tired or overwhelmed or just stuck are tainting the circumstances in which you're in. So other people around you may not be seeing it that way because they're not coming from this burnt out place. It's like this concept called the mood elevator. And it's a concept where the lower you are on the elevator, the worse you perceive and receive and the worse it is to handle situations. Whereas if you're at the top of the elevator where you are, um, very happy and you are in a great mood, you've gotten enough sleep. You are seeing things through rosy glasses. Um, you are able to handle things differently. So I, for an example of this is like, if I am super tired, let's say I could not sleep at all last night. And my kids are bickering back and forth and I snap and I just say, stop it that's enough. Um, that might be a different response. Yeah. If I had gotten a really good night's sleep and I wasn't so impatient or short, okay. I might just be like, boys, please that's enough. And instead of snapping and yelling or screaming or arguing, or sending them to your rent, their rooms or whatever it may be. Okay. So it's just important to realize that sometimes we're in a place and we don't realize we are seeing the world through glasses, you know, uh, there are times that I forget I have my glasses on. And so when I lay down and I feel my glasses on my face, I'm like, Oh my gosh, I have my glasses on and just take them off. It's kinda like the mask right now where sometimes I forget, I get out of my car and I forget that I don't have my mask on. So I'll walk all the way up to the door. And then I see someone else with their mask and I'm like, Oh man, I got to go back to my car and get my mask because I don't even feel it anymore. So it's this thing that we become used to because it's how we're receiving information all of the time. So if we get into a place where we are burnt out or stuck in something, sometimes we don't even realize we're stuck and we need the people around us to love us enough to say, you know, why don't we think about how you're perceiving, what just happened? Because I have a different perception of what just happened. Uh, and it's might be because I'm in a different place. Okay. So we're going to talk about the system for getting ourselves unstuck. So back to the being burnt out. So there, sometimes there's a point where you can come back from that. You can change some things and come back other times, there's a point where you have to actually do something to change your circumstance or change your environment because you're at a place where, you know, you're not going to come back from that burnout, or you're not going to come back from that overwhelm as long as nothing changes, you know, if nothing changes, nothing changes. So let's talk about this system for getting unstuck and then we'll move from there. All right. So the unstuck, we're going to look at this as spelling out unstuck. So U N S T U C K. U=Understanding N=  Nurture & No S= Sufficient T= Time U= Upbeat C= Courage K= Kindness So the first letter U is for understanding:  the number one thing you need to do is understand what it is you're facing. Understand, become aware, that there could be a problem. If you are getting repetitive, negative responses and emotions to situations happening, then you might have an issue going on that you need to take a careful look at. You need to get a better understanding of what's going on and why it is that you're receiving or perceiving information this way. Okay? So the first step is to understand and gain awareness of what's going on. The second thing is in, and that is going to be nurture. And you're going to get a double whammy for this, this letter. It's going to be nurture and it's going to be no. So the second letter in nurture, what this means is that once you gain an understanding, you want to nurture this situation. That means that maybe it is that you need to nurture yourself. Maybe it is that you are so stressed out so overwhelmed that you are running yourself at all ends of the candle, and you cannot get any time to take care of yourself. So maybe it is that you need to nurture yourself. Maybe you need to get some more sleep. Maybe you need to get some more nourishment for your body, for your mind, for your emotions, for your spirit. Maybe you need to add some things into your daily routine in order to nurture yourself so that you can receive and perceive things in a different way. Okay? Once you've got that acknowledgement and understanding of what's happening, then you need to see what you can do differently about that situation. The second N in this is no, maybe it is that you are taking on too much and you are saying yes, too much. There is a place for no. So sometimes part of that, nurturing yourself or nurturing the situation is going to be, to say no more often. And it is okay to say no, especially when you're at a place where you are feeling so overwhelmed, so burnt out. So stress out and just stuck in a situation. Sometimes there is a place for you to say no. Okay. The next letter is S as in stuck. Okay. So the S stands for sufficient. So we've understood what the problem is. Now we have decided on how we can nurture ourselves or the situation. And we have deciphered what we need to say no to, and what we need to say yes to. And now you need to know that you have, you are sufficient. You have been equipped with everything that you need, and you are surrounded by the people that you need to help you make this happen to help you get yourself unstuck, okay? You have everything that you need. You are sufficient, you are enough, and your God is sufficient. He has equipped you with everything that you need to make this happen. The next letter is T and this stands for time. You are going to pay attention to the time that you are spending in all the areas of your life, because sometimes we get so burnt out. So overwhelmed, so stressed out because we are spending way too much time doing one thing and not enough time doing things that light us up, things that bring us joy, three things that spark joy in our lives. So for me, for my example, uh, it, there are, I am so prone to letting my career, my business, my, uh, daily methods of operation take over. So there are times that I could sit on the computer, working on different things from the moment I get up until two or three in the morning. And I, if I am not purposeful and intentional about my time, then I end up spending two, three, four days, you know, either working 80, I ended up working 80 hours a week, or I, uh, don't, I realize a whole week goes by and I haven't spent any intentional time with my kids or with my husband, or I'm always thinking that I'm running out of time. I don't have enough time. So you've got to be very intentional with the time that you have and make sure that you are blocking the time that you want to get the results that you want. Okay? The less intentional you are with your time, the more stuck you're going to feel. All right, the next letter is you again. And this one is going to be up beat. And because there is no P for positivity, uh, I used up beat here. It is so important. I think that we recognize then when we are feeling stuck, when we are feeling burnt out and overwhelmed, our emotions start to lie to us about, uh, everything that's happening around us, the emotions that tell us and give us information that we create thoughts around and then actions and behaviors and words around sometimes are not the truth. So we need to make sure that we are surrounding ourselves with people that are not corroborating our story, that everything is negative and our circumstances suck. And we can't, uh, get enough time to do what we want to do. We want to surround ourselves with who are more positive or upbeat about the outcomes, more upbeat about our lives, ways that we can, uh, look at the glass half full instead of half empty. You've got to have some of those people in your life. You know, it is very true about who you hang around is who you become. So you've got to be real careful that the people that you're talking to are not only people that are corroborating this story that helps you feel stuck and burnt out and overwhelmed and stressed type. This is a very cultural, collaborative, communicative thing that happens. So if you are upbeat, if you are looking at, you know, we talked about these affirmations of who God says you are. And we've talked about waking up in the morning and repeating, you know, five to seven affirmations that we know that God says about us. If we do that every single morning, before our feet hit the floor, if we do that throughout the day, as soon as that emotion comes up, Oh my gosh, here she goes again, this situation is horrible. Here, there it goes. My boss again, uh, you know, thinking that I can do everything. Um, as soon as we get that, that starting to happen, we can see, start to repeat some of those affirmations in our head and say, you know what, no, I am the head and not the tail. I am victorious. I am an overcomer. I am a conqueror. I am equipped. I am sufficient. His grace is sufficient. Uh, you know, whatever those words are that help you get the emotions flipped from this is devastating. This is horrible to you. No, no, I can do this. I can, uh, walk with my head up and I can walk in ready to be victorious, whatever you need to do to flip that switch, to get those emotions and those thoughts to be congruent with that instead of the feeling stuck. That's what I'm talking about here with the upbeat, the next one is C and this one is courage. And the reason I chose courage is because it takes courage. I think when your circumstances seem to be, um, keeping you stuck or bound, you need courage to make. So some of these decisions, it takes courage to take the time, to understand and acknowledge what is going on. It takes time. I'm sorry. It takes courage to say, no, I'm not going to do that because I've got enough on my plate right now. And I am already way overworked in this area. And I am missing out on this other area. It takes courage for that. It takes courage to remind that you are equipped for what's coming to you. Okay? It takes courage to set the time and be intentional so that you are in control of your time and not allowing everyone else to be in control of your time. Okay? It takes courage to speak words over yourself that are upbeat and positive when you don't really feel like your situation is showing up that way. And then finally, the last one is K, and this is kindness. This is being kind, being loving and just remembering to serve other people, be kind, pay it forward because the reality is is that we are called to pay it forward. We are called to serve others. We are called to love. We are called to show kindness to others, no matter what the circumstance is, you know that saying, kill them with kindness. This is what we're talking about here. We want to be kind to others and to ourselves. I think when you get in a place where you've made some mistakes, maybe you are feeling burnt out. You're feeling stuck. And so you've responded in some ways that have damaged relationships, uh, that have messed up some circumstances. It's time that you acknowledge it. You nurture yourself. You start standing up with courage and saying, no, you understand that you're well equipped. You start blocking off your time so that you can take that time back and being control of your own time. And you do that by being kind to yourself first, give yourself some grace, give yourself some, um, some forgiveness, because we all get into these ruts. We all get stuck, but I promise you that you can get unstuck no matter what is going on in your life, you can get unstuck. So that's my system for getting unstuck. And yes, it takes a little work. Yes, it takes some attention, but so does everything that's worth, worth getting. So does everything so being unstuck, you understand and nurture and know S sufficient T time you up beat C courage and K kindness. Okay. Are we ready to get unstuck? All right, let's do it. And I hope that you are over in the Facebook group. If you're not go ahead and get over in our Facebook group: Wholly Made Life™  

EP 21 3 Ways to Leave a Legacy of Love, Service, Value- Something My Kids Are Proud to Share (And They will Call me Blessed) What Will They Say about Me in My Obituary? Servant leadership at home Are you Leaving a Legacy? Attending 2 funerals this week and reflecting on a traumatic loss in my family over the last few months, it has me reflecting on what kind of legacy they left, and what kind of legacy I am leaving for my kids, husband, friends, co-workers, in my life. What would they say about me in my obituary? Would I be blessed enough to have the nice words read out loud about me as the things I heard today in a beautiful homegoing celebration, or in the thousands of posts on a fb page of a family member we tragically lost? Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Angie's Coaching Menu: Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! Ppu.atrogers.com Are you Leaving a Legacy? 3 Ways to Leave a Legacy- Love hard, Serve Others with a Servant Heart, and Give Value- Let others know they matter. Let them know they are loved. Attending 2 funerals this week and reflecting on a traumatic loss in my family over the last few months, it has me reflecting on what kind of legacy they left, and what kind of legacy I am leaving for my kids, husband, friends, co-workers, in my life. What would they say about me in my obituary? Would I be blessed enough to have the nice words read out loud about me as the things I heard today in a beautiful homegoing celebration, or in the thousands of posts on a fb page of a family member we tragically lost? As long as we have breath, we have an opportunity to make a difference; show others how important they are to us and to the world. Serve others, pay it forward. Show kindness.  What a beautiful tribute reflection on the lives of close loved ones we have lost. There is redemption, salvation, grace, mercy, and love. I was honored to have shared these moments with a friend.  Share your story of your loved one's legacy: https://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: atoninirogers@gmail.com    

EP 20: Change your Life by Doing this Daily for the Busy Working Mom. Morning Routine for the Professional Working Woman- Pray-Dry Brush-Happiness Essential Oil-Green Smoothie Get a daily routine that hits several pieces of your pie. Here's mine. Pray (Prepares me for the spiritual warfare I may face for that day) Biblical Affirmations: Repeat words that I know God said about me Dry Brush with Happiness Essential Oil (awakens, activates, detoxifies, smooths skin) Green Smoothie Links for this episode: Need a dry brush? Here's a great one here: DRY BRUSH Happiness Essential Oil Facebook Community (Wholly Made Life FB group) Welcome back sister today is episode 20! So we're going to talk today about personal and self care, but before we get started, I wanted to you give a thank you and a challenge. So I wanted to, I read a couple of reviews because I am having a small giveaway content to get to a hundred ratings, a hundred reviews. And just as a reminder, the way Apple podcasts works is that in order for the podcast to be seen by other women, when they are searching for podcasts, resonate to resonate with, in order for it to show up in the search, the ratings and the reviews, the more that you have, the better chance we get to show up in searches. So that's why reviews and ratings are so important. I am so grateful for those of you guys who have taken time to give the ratings and the reviews. And of course, I hope for five stars and a written review, if you're not able to give five stars, if you could email me instead, and let me know what feedback you have, because I want to hear the feedback. If it's not a five stars, I want to be able to correct it so that you can give me five stars. So email me at angietoninirogers@gmail.com. If you have some feedback that in order for you to give me five stars, I would need to do on the podcast, because I'm definitely here for it. I'm here for that feedback. But I also want the podcast to be able to be found so that we can create this community of women that we can help each other with and live life together. And the great way to do that, like I said, is to have five star reviews with written reviews. So I wanted to read a couple of reviews, Ellie C., , the Spanglish  “encouraging, thank you for the beautiful reminder that we are fearfully and wonderfully made and the encouragement to get all that God has for me. I will have the whole pie”. Well, amen sister. I pray that for you as well. Okay. The next one is Tammi L I think, and it says “living my whole life. Angie has a way about her. That is so encouraging. I can't wait to start to live my whole life. Holy made so awesome”. And that was a five star review. So thank you so much what my challenge, but a little giveaway is we're trying to get to a 100 reviews and ratings. I will be giving away one of my favorite things. One of the favorite products that I use, and I will drop that into the mail as soon as we're able to hit that hundred, write a review. So if you do a review or rating, of course, I will have that there. I would encourage you to sign your name at the bottom so that I know how to find you otherwise. It just shows up as the, your Apple login. And sometimes that's not always indicative of who it is, leaving the review, sign, your name. And the second thing you can do is tag an episode or tag your review that you wrote, like screenshot it and then put it up in your Insta or Facebook stories and tag me so that I can keep of the review that you've done so that you can get into the drawing to win the giveaway. Okay. So I thought that might be fun. All right. So today we are going to get into personal care. So I don't know about you, but I used to, when I thought about personal self-care, I used to think about, you know, going to the spa and getting a massage and taking a girls trip or a trip by yourself or things like that. I have now realized that it's really more about the small everyday things you can do to take care of yourself. There are so many things that we can do in personal. Self-care really hits all the pieces of our pie. If you think about it, it hits the physical, the emotional or psychosocial, it hits the spiritual, your personal interests. It hits your space like your environment, where you live your home and financial and work. So there's ways to take care of yourself in all of those areas. And I just want to touch on a few of those areas, because like I said, if you're like me, then you may think of self care is something huge. Like you have to take, you know, a spa vacation or something like that. Now, if you listened to my last episode, episode 19, you'll know that physical touch is absolutely not my love language. I mean, it's there. And speaking of love languages, you can kind of have some in all, like, you're not probably going to score zero in any one of those love languages, but physical touch is just a very low one for me, because I don't need that. I don't receive love that way. It's just not something that lights me up. It just is what it is bummer. Right. But I found ways to make an important, what I was going to say is when I think about a massage or massage or something like that, I cringe. I know there are so many people that love massages and stuff. I've had one in my life. It was actually in Mexico when my husband and I were getting married and I don't really remember too much about it, which means it probably wasn't too traumatic, which is good, but it wasn't a mind blowing experience either. Cause I really don't remember it too much. I just don't. I just, It doesn't light me up. You guys, I don't get it. And I think that has probably to do with years and years of my own body image stuff that I've talked about in some previous episodes, especially I think episode one where I talked and did the intro, you know, I've had a lot of body image issues that continues to creep up every now and then. And I have to deal with that when that does creep up. So I think that massage specifically for me, it just, that's probably in the background. That's probably my subconscious related to the massage, but it's just not something that I enjoy. You're not going to hear me talking about going to the spa and getting a massage for self-care because honey, no, thank you. Okay. Uh, to get a good a hair, like go and get my hair done. I do that. Not enough. I do it probably twice a year. The people that cut my hair could probably attest by the time I get there, it's grown out to all the way past my shoulders and the color is, I mean, the last time I went, my hair was almost all white. I was amazed. I had no idea because of the way I put my hair. When she started moving my hair around, I was literally almost all white. You guys, I almost considered going white, but I just thought I'm not quite ready for that. I mean, I'm 44 and maybe I don't want to go all the way white, although you know, that light gray, white is kind of in now. So anyway, I might try it. Who knows, uh, to get back to that. So getting my hair done would be something, but that's not something that can let you up every day because that's a, one-time bigger thing. And you guys, I apologize. I'm sitting at my kitchen table because my son, my youngest Bryson is out of school yet. Again, I'm sitting out here in case he needs something, but the table is so creaky. I've got like this antique table, that's been whitewashed. And, but it's so creaky. So I'm sure you can hear it in the background. So I just apologize about that upfront, but let's talk about every day daily things. One of the number one things that I have done, uh, not quite a year, but close to it at this point is a daily routine that has really made me feel like at the end of the day that I have done something for myself, these small things that we can do in most of the areas that I just mentioned, that will make you feel like you took care of yourself today because it doesn't have to be this huge spa trip or this huge vacation. It can be just small things you do every day. My daily routine, number one, number one I have about three or four things on my daily routine that I make sure that I do. And most of them happen before I even get out of the shower. And that way I know that they're done and I can feel good about it. So the first thing I do, and I've mentioned this before, I think is I pray before I get out of the bed. So before I get out of the bed in the morning, before my feet hit the floor, I pray. And sometimes it's a devotional that I'll open up my phone and I'll get on the devotional and I'll go through that. If I have enough time, otherwise it's just prayer. It's just talking to God before I get up, before my feet hit the floor. And the good thing is my husband goes to work very, very early. So he's not usually there to hear me talk out loud to God. I just lay in the bed and I talk to God and I do that for a few minutes, whatever is appropriate for you. Okay. I don't, I used to feel very pressured. Like I need to get up at four 30 or 5:00 AM and make sure that I have enough time alone with God, but I have now felt comfortable enough to pray before I get up. But throughout the day I kind compress time. So like I, but like when I'm in the bathroom, washing my hands or when I'm in the, by myself, I'm usually talking to God. And so I compressed time that I already have. And so it's a little bit throughout the day, but I'm talking to God throughout the day. Okay. So, so I pray. I pray before my feet hit the ground. The other thing I do is I repeat out loud several times, at least five things that I know God says about me. Like I am victorious. I am redeemed. I am restored. I am saved. I am healed. I am delivered. Okay. Whatever those words are that resonate with you for that day, or maybe you have a piece of paper that just has a list of all the things that you know that God says about you. Um, I have an episode about this and I don't know what the number is right now. There are so many words and so many things that God says about us that I just feel like very empowered. If I say those things out loud and remind myself who I am in God. And I say it out loud for all the, whoever might be listening, okay. We never know what is out there ready for us in our day. And I want to prepare, you know, my armies of angels and also the demons that might exist, uh, that, you know, Hey, I am who God says, I am not who you are trying to tell me. I am today. Okay. Stand back, Satan. Not today. Satan, not today. I'm actually had a sweatshirt on it says not today, Satan. So that's funny. Okay. So the second thing I do before I get in the shower is I derive brush. Have you guys ever heard of what dry brushing is? Do you know what dry brushing is? Dry brushing is what it sounds like. You take a brush on your skin and you brush your skin. And the claims, if there's health claims about it. And I have to say it's claims because I don't want to, I'm not, I'm not your medical professional at this point, but it just helps wake me up. Number one, like I am not a morning person. Anybody that knows me, especially people in my own household will tell you she's not a morning person. I would rather stay up all night long then to get up at the crack of Dawn. It's just me. It's his, how I'm wired. It just is what it is. But when I started dry brushing that literally activated my soul. I also have this daily ritual essential oils that I put on. It's called happiness. Oh my gosh, it's changed my life. Literally it activates my soul and I'm not kidding. There's something that happens within my body that wakes up. I feel like it wakes up myself. So I put that on and then I dry brush. And so dry brush is it's supposed to help with your like winter skin or flaky skin circulation. It's supposed to help detoxification start moving all of those things around to get out of your lymph because your lymph is what helps you. Your lymph system is what helps you remove toxins from your body. So it's supposed to help us circulate and get the toxins that are in your body, to your limp. And it also can help with digestion and there's even some improvement, the appearance of cellulite. And that may or may not be true for you. I feel like it's helped the look of my legs, but I really do it because it literally it's, it's like activating all of your nerves in your whole body. So it just wakes me up. It just really helps me feel activated. But between that happiness essential oil that I use and the dry brushing, I just feel completely awakened. And then what I do is I get in the shower and while I'm in the shower, I listen to either Bible on a tape or it's like the Bible app. I listened to a devotional again. I listened to worship music. Uh, so that's number three is, uh, pray, dry brush. And then I listen while I'm in the shower. And while I'm getting ready to either worse at music or a podcast that I've been in, it's usually about scripture somehow. Um, but worship or the, um, podcasts. And then after that I do a green smoothie. Now this is what has made the difference in my digestion. I feel like. And also my energy, because if you start your day with a green smoothie and it doesn't have to be, it's not nasty. Okay. To me, it tastes really good. And it's something that I actually started to crave. I started this back in, uh, August while I was recovering from COVID actually, and I've drank this green smoothie and it's stuff like kale and spinach. I put banana in there, uh, orange, strawberry, uh, cinnamon, and I'm forgetting, you can put mango in there, mango in there is really good, our peach, and that will sweeten it up a little bit, but the cinnamon is what's good. So I just take it and I down it. Okay. Um, and then I put a couple scoops of collagen that I use powdered collagen that I use for my joints. And I do that. So those are the four things I do. That's like my am morning routine, that it just makes me feel more whole and it makes me feel better about myself. And I do think that it helps with, it helps me spiritually because the prayer and the repeating out who God says, I am, gets me ready. And it helps the, you know, the dry brushing I feel like helps me awaken and awaken my soul. And the green smoothie helps me physically because it's not only good because I mentally and emotionally and psychologically feel like I've done something healthy, but it also helps with digestion. I mean, it does help you keep things moving. Okay. So those are my daily routines that I use. Okay. So that's the first thing that I would recommend is getting a daily routine that you feel good about and try to pack a few small things in there every day that you will feel good about. I mean, those are not mind blowing thing you guys, and they don't take that long. I pray, I do the dry brush. I listen to the Bible app or the devotional while I'm in the shower and getting ready. And then I do the green smoothie. And my tip about the green smoothie is just do a big batch, like do a whole blender full. And I just put it in the fridge and then I just pour it. I usually do one on Sunday night and then I have one for a couple of days and then I'll do another one after that runs out that night and then I'll have it for another couple of days. So I only have to mix it and I keep it in a frozen bag. So I cut up all the spinach, cut up all the kale, cut up all the mango, whatever else I'm putting in there. And I just freeze it all in a bag. And that way, when I'm ready to do a next batch, it's just already there and it's cold. And I like the smoothie. I don't like a warm smoothie at all, especially a green smoothie. So I just, that kind of grosses me out a little bit. Yeah. Especially with texture and stuff. So the cold makes it feel more like a, like a cold slushy type of smoothie. So that's how I like it. Yeah. And so it, doesn't not take that any time, but it makes me feel so much better about my day it gets, it gets me started in a way. So the way you start your day sometimes is just as important as how you end it. So I it's kinda like, um, everything I do, and this is not a morning routine as I, as far as like physically or whatever. Well, I guess it would count in the space area or the home area is I always make my bed. I never leave my bedroom without making my bed. It just does something to me when I walk into my room and I don't see my bed made, I just, it bothers me. So I guess I could add that actually. That's probably true. I always make my bed and I do that before I, as soon as my feet hit the floor, I'm making my bed. Now. That doesn't mean I, I put every single throw pillow that I have on my bed. Um, because I, my husband corrects up, I mean, my throw pillows and all the decorative pillows, it takes up half the bed, but it's really cool. Q it's really pretty when it's all made up. So, but sometimes I don't put all of those pillows on there, but I do make my bed. Okay. That's the other huge thing. And that does help me with my, my space, my home. It makes me feel good about that. Okay. All right. So first thing I want you to do right now, what your morning routine is, and if you don't have one, make one and make it small enough that you know, that you can do everyday. Don't put a big list together that you feel burdened by this morning, your team, okay. That's the key, don't burden yourself by what you're going to put on this list. All right. So morning routine, do that. And then I just want to give you a couple other ideas of what your personal self care could look like in small things throughout your day, that will touch all of your areas of your life. Because for example, at work, uh, boundaries, the way that you can put your personal self care first is to create boundaries. One of the things that used to drive me crazy at a particular place that I worked was that they never transferred anyone to voicemail. Or if someone showed up at the front door, they would just page you and, and make you answer that. Even if that person didn't have a scheduled meeting with you. And so what I always say is that someone else's emergency or lack of planning, doesn't constitute an emergency for me, or doesn't mean that I have to replan my day to accommodate someone else. Now. Sure. There are times where you would do that, but for the most part, creating those boundaries are important. Certain ways for you to take care of yourself that way you are in control of your day. So at work, I would check emails on my time. People knew that if you want to get ahold of me, then you can walk around and you can find me. And then I will let you know whether or not I can do the task you're needing me to do right now. Um, I just made it very clear that I schedule myself in a way that I am prioritizing the tasks that I know I have to get done. I've got a lot of things that are pressing on me from all different areas. And the only way I can stay sane in that and take care of myself is to schedule it. And so when people try to come in, you know, poor things on you in the moment that may or may not be appropriate. So you have to develop that skill set to set that boundary and say, okay, I appreciate how important that is to you. Here's when I can get to that, because I have a deadline on this and I have a priority for this, and I have to do through these two things first. So why don't you email me or send something to me on a calendar, like a meeting. And that way we can block that time together. And I always make my meeting, uh, calendar open so everybody can see it so that they know when I'm open and when I'm not okay, that's just the way that you can set a boundary. That's not always the easiest thing to do, but that's an example of something you can do in your work, the space to create that boundary so that you maintain the ownership of your own time and you don't allow other people to manage your time. Okay. Uh, another intro or another suggestion related to something like your personal interests, make sure that you are scheduling time to do something that you care about and you like to do, and that could be daily, or that could be weekly. Okay. It could be reading a book, it could be listening to a podcast. It could be, um, knitting, whatever it is that you like to do, make sure you have some time for that. Maybe for you. It's being able to go to a church service, just whatever is, um, something we talked about physical, uh, we've talked about, so social, maybe it's scheduling a phone call. Maybe it is, uh, reaching out and saying, uh, sending a text to somebody that you haven't talked to in a while. I did that just the other day to a couple of girls that I hadn't talked to in a while. So just think about small things that you can do in each of these areas that will make you feel like you're taking care of yourself, because after all, if we're not taking care of ourselves, that stuff piles up, the small things become big things, and that can be a negative thing or a positive thing. The small things that you do every day for yourself can become a big, big thing for yourself. And you're feeling really good about those outcomes because every small thing equals a big thing. So, and sometimes taking those small things lead to bigger things. So you add a green smoothie every morning, and then you make a choice for lunch that you're going to have a healthy lunch, and then you eat whatever you want for dinner, whatever. I'm not into this big diet culture that has ruled my life for most of my life. So I have taken a stand and said to myself, and made a commitment to myself that I'm not going to get caught up in this whole diet culture industry. And I'm just going to take daily steps and do small things that I know are healthy for me. And the small things add up to big things. Okay. So just like, um, if you let's say that you don't have any more in routine, or let's say that you don't do any physical movement it today and then tomorrow and the next day and the next day and the next day, well then you could go a month, two months, three months, six months without any physical movement. And that would add up to a big outcome that you may not like the results of. Okay. So small things matter and small things on a daily basis are important to make sure that you're getting the outcomes that you want to get. And overall, that you're feeling like you're having the time to take care of yourself. I mean, that's just what it is. We want to make sure that we take care of ourselves. So emotional, those affirmations, that morning routine that I mentioned hits a lot of this psychological, physical, emotional, spiritual, personal professional. It hits a lot of those self-care, uh, balancing acts. Okay. So if you get a good morning routine, like I mentioned, I said, pray, dry brush, um, listen to devotionals and a green smoothie that pretty much hits the entire balance of my life, all parts of my life, except for the work. Okay. Uh, it, it might prepare me for work. If I'm remembering that I am victorious, I am restored. I am redeemed. I am saved. I am healed. I am royalty. Okay. If I'm remembering those things and at work, when things happen and sometimes my emotional self is more ready to take on what comes at me. So you're kind of preparing your psyche and your emotions and your spirit to be ready for what's going to come at you. So that's how I kind of look at that. All right. I think that I've kind of gone over this and I've probably gone over it a couple different times, a couple of different ways. So I think that I've hit the points, but I think the important thing to remember is that you don't have to think about taking care of yourself in this huge, this huge thing, this huge massage, this huge vacation you can think of. You're taking care of yourself and get closer to feeling a little bit more successful at that. A little bit more balanced at that. If you think about what you can do, small things in dental hit different areas of your life. So at the end of the day, you can feel good about what you did to take care of yourself, okay. Setting those boundaries, doing some, self-reflection saying some of those affirmations that we talked about doing a little bit of body movement. Okay. Another great thing to do is a rebounding. I don't know if you've heard of this, but it's a little mini trampoline. So you just, you know, if you're going to watch something on TV, then maybe for five minutes, 10 minutes, you stand on this little trampoline and you do rebounding. Your feet are not coming off of the trampoline. You're just staying on the trampoline and you're just re bouncing, bouncing up and down. And that, um, uses all of the muscles in your body. That was a, that was a freebie, I think that's enough for today. What do you guys think? Yes. Get into the Facebook group and let me know what you decided to do. Did you create an am or a morning routine that hit a couple parts of our balancing wheel? Did you do that? Are you able to do that? Do you need help with that? Do you have questions about that? Okay. Let's do this thing together. We know that we're a community of women that want to balance our lives and we want to help each other and support each other. And maybe Polly has a suggestion for Molly. Get in that group and post what it is that you're doing to take care of yourself today. And remember, just focus on today. That's all you gotta do. You can do anything for one day, focus on what you can do today to take care of yourself. All right, sisters. All right. I will see you guys in the next episode and until then stay safe, stay warm. I'm praying for Texas and all of these Southern States that are getting snow that they're not used to. My goodness. It's, it's like, um, uh, my pastor said last night on a meeting that 73% of the us is covered in snow. That's insane. Crazy. So praying for all of those that are out of electricity out of, or having blackouts, um, just not being able to deal with the snow that they don't normally get. It's crazy. So say, say, stay warm and stay balanced. All right, sisters. See on the next episode,   *some of the links provided may result in a small affiliate fee that allows me to continue to keep putting out this free content on this podcast*

EP 19: 3 Tips to Getting Breakthrough in your Marriage- How to Make your Relationship Better in One Day I wanted to talk today about our relationship piece of the pie, and I'm going to focus most on your spouse or your partner. And I just wanted to talk a little bit about some daily things that we can do to help us spread the love in our own relationship. So the first thing I want to talk about, I want to ask you if you know, what your spouse's love languages, have you guys heard of this? It's called the Five Love Languages, and it's by Gary Chapman. And I have seen this it at this point, it was just at first with relationships, but it went to, uh, your kids, your teens, your workplace. Resources mentioned in this episode: 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman The Love Dare Test, by Stephen Kendrick Satan, You Can't Have My Marriage, by Iris Delgado POUNCE- Saved our marriage in the physical touch realm

EP 18 Let's Talk about Money! What does God say about finances, becoming rich, and successful working women? Well, we're going to talk about money today. We're going to talk about money. We're going to talk about what God has to say about finances. And We're going to talk about what you can do and your Piece of the pie for your finances. Let's get into it. Connect with me: My email ==> angietoninirogers@gmail.com Connect with me==> https://angie.gr8.com/ Join My Community==>  https://www.facebook.com/groups/whollymadelife Okay girls today, we're going to talk about  “Money, Money, Money, Money” . I don't own the copyrights to that song and I'm sure it sounded nothing like what that song is supposed to sound like anyway. Well, we're going to talk about money today. We're going to talk about money. We're going to talk about what God has to say about finances. And We're going to talk about what you can do and your Piece of the pie for your finances. Let's get into it. Hey ladies, Welcome back to this episode of Wholly Made Life™. This is episode 18, and we're just going to talk about the financial pie today. And we're really just going to talk about what are the beliefs that you have around money, especially related to a equip a Christian view of what it is you've learned throughout your life about money. So I know there's that famous scripture that a lot of people have used to say that money. You shouldn't go after money and you, it's not okay to be rich and that kind of thing. So first Timothy 6: 10 talks about for the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It's through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs. So it's important to note, number one, that this says the love of money is the root of all kinds of evils. It doesn't say that the money itself is evil. Money is just a vehicle. Money is just a tool. It's a resource to use, uh, much like if you have an idol and you are worshiping a golden calf, that statue itself by itself is not evil. The worshiping of that statue is evil. The act of worship for that idol, which is that gold star golden calf is the sin. Okay. So much like money is not sinful or evil in of itself. It's just a tool, but the love of money, which is greed is a sin. Okay. So, I think it was Dave Ramsey that said being rich will just amplify who you are, that means good or bad. So if you are a greedy person and you're not a giving person, then you will be more of that with the more money that you have, because you will use that tool or that vehicle in a way that doesn't line up with what the word of God says. That's a lot easier to say that money is evil, especially if you don't have it, because then there's kind of an excuse of, well, I don't need it because it's evil, but it also takes out our responsibility to work for money or work for what we earn it's takes away that need to be disciplined with that resource. So if you've got the mindset that, well, I don't have money and it's okay because I don't want the trouble that comes with money. Well, then that just means that we're not the responsibility and using the discipline, using what it is that God has blessed us with. There will be poor always, and there will be rich, always. The other thing too, is that when you think about rich and the definition, that's all in perspective, the reality is a lot of people in the United States, regardless of their circumstances, are rich compared to someone in another country. For example, I think I saw a stat, something like, you know, for every one person, uh, with an average salary of 20,000 or something like that per year, it's 160. People are in poverty in Bangladesh, I think is what the it was looking at. But the point is, is that what is rich? What even is that? What does that look like to you? Because there are different ways and the scripture talks about this as well. There are different way, ways to be rich. Rich doesn't have to equal money or, uh, things. There's another scripture in Matthew 19, it talks about it's easier for a camel to get through the eye of a needle than for someone who is rich to enter the kingdom of God. So that's another popular scripture that people bring up, but that was in context to a young, rich ruler who was not able to give up what God asked him to give up. It wasn't about his riches. It was about his inability to give up what God asked him to give up or what Jesus asked him to give up, give up all your belongings and things and come follow me. He wasn't able to choose at that point Jesus, over his materials, which means he held those materials in money, in as an idol. Okay. So that's the difference, understanding that it is not about the tool. It's not about how much money you have. It's about what you do with it and what heart you're doing it with. It is no secret that God asked us to give. There are. So, I mean, there are hundreds of scriptures about money. Deuteronomy 8:18 It says, you shall remember the Lord, your God for it is he who gives you power to get wealth that he may confirm his covenant, that he sort of your fathers as it is this day, Philippians four 19 says, and my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory, in Christ. So the money and the blessing and the favor and all of your things come from God in the first place. So that's the other thing is that remembering that what you already have has been given to you as a gift from God, and he will only give us what we are ready and disciplined enough to steward. There's a lot of scripture about borrowing. It's clear that we are directed to not put ourselves in so much debt that we are in slaved to the lender. Proverbs 22:7 says the rich rules over the poor and the borrower is the slave of the lender, Romans 13: 19, Oh, no one. Anything except to love each other for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law and Psalms 37:21 is the wicked borrows, but does not pay back. But the righteous is generous and gifts. So that's where we're being told to give that speaks to not that we're bad people, if we have to take a loan on something, but it's about the discipline and the stewardship in which we choose to do those things. So it's just about being mindful about what it is we are asking to borrow and what it's for 1 Corinthians 16: 12 says on the first day of every week, each of you is to put something aside and store it up as he may prosper so that there will be no collecting when I come. So that's about saving and being disciplined. Again, being disciplined with the money that we've been blessed with. Finally, the, this whole point about giving. If we have been blessed with a lot of money, a lot of materials, this also includes our gifts that we've been given. Then we are to give to others. It's always better to receive, to give than to receive. That's an acts 20 to 35. It's always blessed. It's more blessed to give than to receive. If we have a mindset of that, it's about, we should always be looking at, are we putting our money as an idol? I'll use my personal example. When I felt that God was asking me to leave my position and my job, my salary, and give it to an offering to him as I processed that and prayed about sought counsel on that from a few of my close people that I trust that will give me the feedback I need. That's also in alignment with God's word. It was about what I was placing as an idol in my job, my career, I was in a sense idolizing that that had become what I trusted in. I trusted my job to provide for me. I trusted myself to provide for me. I depended on my own actions and gifts that I had been given by God, my own actions to ensure that we were provided for that became an idol. It wasn't that the salary was bad. In fact, I believe that I was blessed with that position when it got to the point where that I was trusting that as my provision, in my own actions, it was revealed to me that that was like an idol in my life. So I had to be reminded that he would provide for me and that I needed to put him first when we're out, trying to make money. Yes, that is an end result of what happens for paid for the value that we provide in the workflow, in the workplace. Or if we have a business, we are paid for the value that we provide to others. And so we get compensated for that. There's nothing wrong with that. The problem Proverbs 31 woman, profited from providing value in the marketplace with things that she made with her hands and trading that she did, there's nothing wrong with that. It says, keep your life free from the love of money and be content with what you have for. He has said, I will never leave you nor forsake you. So if you get into a place where you're forgetting, who's providing that blessing in that favor in the first place, then you might be in a place where you need to reassess and make sure if you're stewarding what he's given you in the way that's in alignment with God, I'm not going to get into tithing necessarily in this episode. But I do think that it's worth your time to pray about how much should you be giving back to God, whether that's through ministry that you're paying, paying into or a donation to a charity or to your church. Certainly if you have a church house that you go to, you should be pouring back into that church house, because that's where you're going to get fed spiritually and scripturally. That certainly shouldn't be the only place that you're getting that, but that's the community in which you guys are supporting and supported that you receive the word of God. So, and you should support the ministries that your community plays a part in. I think that's a part of our responsibility. When we are blessed with money, we should be spending that money to give back to God and whatever that means for you. You have to pray about that and understand what percentage that should be, where you should focus that money. There is plenty of evidence in the Bible that we should be giving back to God. And that's another way that we can show that we trust him in providing for us. It says that it'll come back to us many times over when we give, okay, so actionable items about finances. Number one, write down on a piece of paper. What are the top five things that you believe about money? And then once you have those things, assess where those are coming from, and if they're based in truth, then great. If they're based in information that may or may not be in alignment with the truth, then those are the things you got to look at and see what behaviors are coming out of those beliefs. Okay. For example, if you, aren't giving a portion of your money back to supporting something from God church, a non-profit sponsoring a child, whatever it is that you pray about and decide, that's how you're going to give back to God. If you're not doing that, why is that? Is it that you don't trust in the provision that you've been given? Is it that you don't think that you'll have enough? Is it that you love your money and you don't want to give it away? Assess why it is you are holding on to that. Okay. That's just an example. If you think that money is evil or you've realized that money is evil, then get into the Bible and read about that or seek some counsel about why it is you believe that and what you can do differently to steward what it is God's giving you. And to actually go out and increase, because if we are in abundance, then we can give to others abundantly. And I believe that that's what God wants. I believe God wants us to receive from him so that it's overflowing. If it's overflowing and we have a heart of giving and love for God and love for our brothers and sisters, then we would want to give our overflow. And that will only enhance the kingdom here on earth. Here's another tip that I would give you related to money. And it would be to make sure that you have a savings of at least $1,000. Now some of you may be saying, Oh my goodness, I'm living paycheck to paycheck as it is. I can't even fathom having a thousand dollars savings, but just start small. Think about what are you doing every single week that you could go without, for example, a Starbucks, can you do a coffee at home instead and say that six, seven, eight, nine bucks. And if you're getting two or three of those a week, then a month worth of Starbucks, think about how much that could be in a savings account. The key is for savings is that you always want to have a thousand dollars in a savings account in case something crazy happens with health, with a, like a copay you have to pay, um, with health insurance, uh, ER, visit, or let's say you need a new battery on your car, new brakes, whatever. If you have a thousand bucks in a savings account that takes the pressure off and you are so much more able to steward your finances in a way that is not from a lack mentality, I guess, or anxiety driven situation. When you're faced with an emergency, I've had this for the past, probably four years where I've had a thousand dollars in savings that I do not touch, unless there has been some sort of emergency. And let me tell you something, there have been several we've had to buy a new engine. We've had to buy a new set of tires. We had to buy a new water heater, an MRI that we had to get and pay for out of pocket. So when you have a thousand bucks sitting in your savings account that, you know, you can use for emergencies. And what I do is write down what kinds of things constitute an emergency so that I don't touch it. And I also have an account that I don't have a debit card attached to. I don't have any way to get to it without having to go to the bank to get it. That keeps me from dipping into that. That would be a way to be responsible and use discipline in stewarding the money that God's giving us back to that if you have anything in your life that you can look at to say, okay, if I stopped getting a Starbucks and I only got one once a week, then how much money would that be? And let me put it into a savings until I hit a thousand bucks. And then of course you don't touch it until you've got that emergency. And once you have that emergency, then you start sacrificing one Starbucks a week or whatever it is for you. I don't even drink coffee y'all so I just know how much people spend on Starbucks. And it's like, Oh my gosh, that's a way that you can quickly get to a thousand bucks in your savings account. And I am telling you, it will take so much pressure off your back and so much anxiety away from a situation that might come up when you have to pay for that MRI or the brakes go out or whatever it is. Okay. Those are the two things. Write down what your beliefs are about money, figure out where they come from and then figure it, make sure you've got a thousand bucks in a savings account. And then once you get that, then you start working on paying down whatever debts you might have, credit cards, et cetera. And I don't know if you've ever heard of Dave Ramsey's snowball to pay off quickly. So basically the debt snowball real quick. And we did this with all of our credit, except for we've got four things left. We've got the cars, we've got the house and I've got student loans that I'm still working on. Take a look at Dave Ramsey stuff. There's all kinds of stuff out there about the snow, that snowball. So that's the other thing that I would work on. As you know, I'm not working in a full-time job right now, I'm doing coaching. And by the way, you can get coaching. If you would like to get coaching, uh, half hour sessions and one hour sessions, and you are welcome to email me at Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com, but I'm doing coaching. I'm doing some teaching and that kind of thing. So what has come in very handy is that I had worked these past said four, but probably about five years paying off everything saving so that when I was able to give up my job, give up that salary that we have, we are still, okay, God has provided. He has sent me some clients. He has sent me different opportunities that I can take a part in that still allows me to have the flexibility to be working from home. So it's been amazing that God has provided. He does what he says. He's going to do guys, listen, like I said, I still got cars and a house and student loan debt to pay off. So I'm still working on that as well. None of us have it exactly as we want it, but it's about making small steps. So in your financial bucket or in your financial piece of pie, you've talked about what are your beliefs about money? You're working on making small steps so that you can get that thousand bucks in a savings and then you start working on your debt. Okay. And it doesn't have to be that overwhelming look at today. What you can do differently today, maybe you don't buy the Starbucks or today. Maybe you don't take that target run, which I don't know about you, but I can't get out of target under a hundred bucks. So I just don't go as much as possible. I've actually, I think I've been to target one time since I stopped. It's working full time, uh, in a nine to five in a corporate job. I do that on purpose. I do that intentionally because I know that it is hard for me to get out of target under a hundred bucks. So anyway, just making some daily different steps that you can take like that. Okay. All right, ladies, make sure that you join us over in the Facebook group, because that is a community of women that are supporting each other in each area of our lives. None of us have it all together in any parts of our, and every parts of our life, but all of us have strengths and areas for growth that we can either help someone else with. If it's our strength or we can receive from others whose strengths are maybe our areas of growth. Okay. All right, ladies, I'll see. On the inside of the group. *some of the links provided may result in a small affiliate fee that allows me to continue to keep putting out this free content on this podcast*

EP 17 Is your motherhood a mess- how to make sure your kids are seen and heard in less than 15 minutes a day- How to succeed as a mother today! So the first thing I want to start with is talking about motherhood, being a mess. First of all, I want to know what does your motherhood being a mess even mean? Can you even define what your motherhood being a mess is? What does that look like to you? What does it feel like to you? Who says it's messy? Useful links: Take the quick "Wholly Made Life Assessment" Have a question or comment? Email Angie here: atoninirogers@gmail.com Get all the updates & new episodes first! I want to hear the episodes first! Connect with Angie on FB: toninirogers_facebook Connect with Angie in her Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whollymadelife Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! ppu.atrogers.com If you enjoyed this episode of the Wholly Made Life Podcast, then make sure to subscribe to the podcast, and don't forget to give Angie a review. You can also take a screenshot of the episode and tag Angie in your Insta and Facebook stories. What does Motherhood being a Mess even mean?  How do you define Motherhood? What does it mean to be a mother?  How do I know if I'm doing motherhood the right way? Am I failing as a mother? Where did I learn how to be a mother?  Who defines whether I'm a good mom or not? How can I see or hear my kids every day?  How can I spend time with my kids every day? Use the technique of Be Here Now. Be present in the moment. Don't focus on the past or the future. Focus on right now. Avoid multitasking. Focus on the person in front of you for 15 minutes per day. Use time blocking to schedule time with your kids. Be intentional about spending time with your kids.  Don't compare yourself to other mothers. God gave you your children on purpose, for a purpose.  Join a community of other mothers to learn from them, share your stories, give your testimony, empower each other, encourage each other. Sisterhood, Friendships, Motherhood Welcome back to episode 17. And today we're going to talk about, is your motherhood a mess and how to make sure your kids are seen or heard in 15 minutes or less a day. All right. So the first thing I want to start with is talking about motherhood, being a mess. First of all, I want to know what does your motherhood being a mess even mean? Can you even define what your motherhood being a mess is? What does that look like to you? What does it feel like to you? Who says it's messy. Okay. You know, in the garden where God asked Adam and Eve, once they were, uh, covering themselves with the leaves, he asked them who told you, you were naked. Well, who has told you that your motherhood is a mess? Has someone told you that? Or are you telling yourself that? And where did you get the idea that your motherhood is a mess? So I want you to first think about really, I really want you to think about what does your motherhood being a mess mean? Like where do you get that definition from? What does that look like? What are you using to define or judge that your motherhood is a mess. But when I started thinking about this, as far as when you hear people say, Oh, my motherhood's a mess, I'm a mess. Um, I'm like, well, what does that mean? That you're a mess or that your motherhood is a mess. And who, or where do you get those thoughts who are aware? Do you get those definitions? And so my thought was, I couldn't really think of how motherhood was a mess, which also meant that if I can't really define what motherhood being messy is then can I even define what motherhood should look like? Like, what is motherhood look like if it's not a mess, can, I mean, can any of you guys even define it? What I'd love is for you to hop over to the Facebook community, Holy made life. And let's talk about this because I want to hear your ideas of what motherhood being messy is, or your motherhood being a messes. If your motherhood wasn't a mess, what would it look like to you? Is there a picture in your head that you think of that motherhood should be? Is there something that you're thinking of as motherhood being defined as what it should look like, feel like, and what is that? If not, then how do you even know if you're doing it right? Or how do you even know that you're not doing it right? If you don't even know the answer to what motherhood is or what being a good mom looks like, then how in the world do we ever achieve being a good mother or achieve motherhood, not being messy. You know, it's kinda like that. It's kind of like saying, um, you know what? I want you to go. I'm talking to my kid, Hey, go and get that. Watch them a call it, my kids like, okay, what's that? Where's that? How do you get there? What do you do? Where do I go? What am I looking for? Right. So if you're not even realizing what you're looking for or what it's supposed to look like or where to go to find it or what to do to get it, then how are you ever going to achieve? What quote, unquote, motherhood, not being a mess. It's you can't sit there and compare yourself to something or someone or somewhere that you don't even know what it is you're going after. Like how do you even know what motherhood not being a mess is if you don't know how to define it, you know what? And if I say to my kid, Hey, go get that Shema last day. I mean, if he doesn't know what he's looking for, then how in the world are either enough, either of us and I get to this shallow Mosty, look, I don't even know what the word was. Cause I made it up. Cause I don't even know what I'm asking for. Right. I don't even know what it is. My goal is when I talk about motherhood, not being a mess. So the actual definition of motherhood is the States of being a mother. Okay. The state of being a mother, that's it. Everything else we're talking about, everything else you're saying, thinking of is actually outside of the definition of motherhood. So if you're attaching other things to the word, then at least let's have an awareness of where we're pulling that information from. Is it social media? Is it motherhood magazine? Is it cosmopolitan? Is it, um, what to expect when you're expecting? I mean, to mother means to be a mother means to bring up a child with care and affection. So my guess is, is that on a daily basis, you are probably doing exactly what you should be to bring your child up with care and affection. You're looking after someone protectively and kindly. Okay. That's the other definition that you see as far as to mother and then finally to mother is to give birth to, so if you've given birth to your children and you're bringing up a child with Karen affection, well, you are succeeding in motherhood. So I think the, the point is here is that let's be really careful about defining our motherhood and the success of how good of a mother we are by things that are not necessarily meant to define the state of our motherhood, the state of being a mother. Now, what we're probably describing are things that we experienced during motherhood, right? It's hard, it's exhausting. Sometimes it doesn't feel as rewarding as we would like it to. Sometimes we feel like we have failed in a situation because we lost our patients or lost our temper or we yelled. Or we said something that we shouldn't have said in anger. Sometimes I think that when we think about our motherhood being a mess, it's talking about the experiences as we care for our children. So I just want us to be mindful of let's at least first define where it is. We are getting our definition of what makes us a good mother and what makes us, and also let's put it in perspective because if you look at your motherhood, well, all of us are still mothering. If we have children or we have adopted children, or we've taken someone into our home to, um, bring up with care and affection, then we are still in the process of mothering. We are still in the state of being a mother. So you can't mess up the entire motherhood in one day because you're always in process of being a mother. And that will continue until the day you die. Sometimes we make it bigger than what it needs to be. And we make it this big abstract thing out there that defines our entire state of motherhood. Instead of thinking about what can I do today to be a good mother. So that's what I want to talk about is let's make it small enough so that every single day we can practice being a good mother and we can learn to be a better mother tomorrow or later today, even. I mean, when you think about your kids and you think about, I mean, I want my kids to be successful. I want him to contribute to community. I want him to make an impact in the world. Well, that's all great and fine. And absolutely, of course we want our children to contribute to society and be positive members of the community, but that doesn't happen today in, in all end of things, right? It doesn't happen today. And that's the end of it. It's an ongoing process because our children are growing every day and learning every day and becoming who they're supposed to be every day. Just like we are as women, as wives, as mothers, as bosses, as sisters, as friends, right? So our children are always going to continue to grow and learn just like we do. So it doesn't happen in one day. But what can we can do is start to focus today. How can we be successful in being a mother today? So I want to break down a technique that I like to use. And, um, it's called being in the moment or be here now. And what that does is it gives us the opportunity to really focus on our children in the moment. And this is not just a technique for motherhood. This is a technique for any relationship that you may have. So an example of this outside of motherhood would be if you're in a meeting at work or at the church or wherever you are on a zoom meeting, how many of us are doing other things while we're at the meeting, maybe we're looking at our phone. Maybe we're sending emails. Maybe we are checking our Apple watch. Um, I don't have an Apple watch, but a lot of people do. So what that means is that we're multitasking. And if you're multitasking, it's impossible to focus on one thing at a time. It's impossible to give your attention fully to the person or persons that are in front of you. Being here now is an intentional acts that we can take that allows us to be present in the moment. We're not in the past thinking about everything we should have woulda coulda done. And we're not in the future missing. What's happening right now in the present we're here now. And the technique is to really be intentional about being present in the moment at what's happening right now. So we are listening intently to the person that's in front of us. So when you think about your child and I am so guilty of this, so I've had to start being intentional about one particular thing that I'm going to tell you here in just a minute, but I'm so guilty of all of a sudden, I'll hear my kids say, mom, mom, and I'll be, and it'll be very urgent and pressured. And I'll be like, what? He's like, I called you 12 times and you have ignored me. You haven't answered me. And I literally didn't hear it. Him calling me yet. He's been in the background yelling my name 12 different times, several different times until finally I heard him because he's screaming in my face. Mom, mom, that's an example of me being present in physicality with my son in the same room, but not being present to him or for him. And usually what's happening is I'm either on the phone, maybe I'm on social media, maybe I'm checking emails, maybe I'm reading texts or sending texts. Maybe I'm watching TV, which is the least likely out of all of those things. So what you can do part of the title was how to make sure your kids are seen or heard in 15 minutes or less a day. What you can do is let's just start with today and 15 minutes, okay? Let's dedicate 15 minutes where you put everything else away, no phone, no social media, no texting, no TV. And you're looking at your child. And your intention is to listen to understand what it is your child needs, what they want, what they want to do. And also if you're looking at your child, you see their body language, their eye contact, their fidget, And you notice so many of them, More things. If you are being here now, while you are not only listening to the words or listening to the sound, but you're looking at them and you're listening to the entire person, you're watching the way their head moves, their eyes, their hands, their body, you're watching them shift uncomfortably. When they're talking about a certain thing, some of these things you miss, or I miss, you know, I'm guilty of this too. Some of these things that I have missed in the past, or even today present, if I'm not practicing the be here now, and this is something you have to practice, but you're missing all of those extra cues and extra opportunities to connect with the person in front of you because you're preoccupied or you're not fully listening. Or sometimes we listen to respond. Instead of listening to understand, if we're just listening to understand, then we're really trying to put ourselves in their shoes. We're trying to intentionally use empathy and understanding. Versus if you're listening to respond, you're thinking about what it is. You can say next. So as you're listening, you're in your head thinking what you're going to say next. Well, you cannot do two things at once. You can't really listen to what they're saying and pay attention to their body language and everything else. And also come up with your next response. So the technique is a specific, intentional action that you take in order to be present in the moment. And it's called be here. Now, you're not thinking about the past and you're not thinking about the future. You're right here right now. So what if you scheduled 15 minutes a day with each child to either have a conversation or maybe it's to play Legos, maybe you give that choice to the child about what it is he or she wants to do for that timeframe. And you look at them, you interact with them. Maybe it's just to sit with them. Maybe it's just the cuddle. How much more effective can you be at listening and connecting with your child if you're being present in the moment without other distractions? So that's the biggest tip that I have is to be here now. And certainly we can't do it all the time because we are moms and we do wear a lot of hats. But a lot of what we've talked about in a of a lot of these past episodes are ways to be intentional about what it is we're doing. So this is another skill that you can practice and be intentional about practicing it. Something else that I've done for the past two weekends is turn off social media. On Friday nights, I have not checked messages. I have turned off the notifications to my messages on Instagram and Facebook, and I haven't needed to delete the app. But if you're a type of person that will just click it out of boredom or click it when there's nothing else to do, then maybe you need to delete the app altogether. What if you do it just for the 15 minutes that you are going to dedicate to being with your child today. Okay. And this is the thing make it about today. Because again, when you think about motherhood as a whole, yeah, that's really overwhelming to think about all the times we've messed up all the times I've messed up, done the wrong thing, said the wrong thing. Um, yelled too loud, you know, responded in a way that was impatient or an anger. If I think about all those things all the time, that's really overwhelming, but we know about God's grace and we know about his mercy. And so that's what keeps me from just going kind of nuts is because I know that God can fill in the gaps where I wasn't able to, you know, be the best that I could be. Okay. So the focus is, is to be present, be specific, be intentional about, just start with 15 minutes a day, you can do anything for 15 minutes a day, right? When you look at it like that instead of a lifetime of motherhood or even a year or a week, when you think about it in just today. So today, what can I do to let my child know that I love him and that he's important and that I'm hearing him, you can do 15 minutes a day, right? Use that technique be here. Now let me know how it goes. I would love to hear an example of what you did to try to be here now, eliminate distractions, and really listen to understand in the moment, I'd love to hear your testimonies about how you were able to do that. What worked for you, what didn't work for you. And I think in the community, in the Facebook community, there's a lot of sisters in there that can resonate with what it is. You tried, what it is that worked, and then maybe what it is that didn't work because that's the other key to there. So the second thing I want to bring up real quick is you're going to be here now. And you're going to think about it just today to make it more manageable and make it more bite-size. But the, so it's really the third thing. First thing is be here. Now, second thing is to talk about just today, what can you do today to be here now? And third is to get in community with other mothers. I promise you, there are other mothers that you can be in community with that struggle, same places that you and I do when we're in community. And we can talk to each other and support each other, encourage each other, give each other our own testimonies of successes and failures, then better for it. And you know, my pastor said something the other day that I was like, yeah, that's so true. You know, you'd say, you know, that saying of it takes a village to raise a child. Well, it takes a village to raise me as an adult. It takes a village or a community to raise and grow me because we're never stopping in our growth. Right? We are continuing to grow. And if we're continuing to always grow and we're continuing to always be raised up in Christ, then our community is a place that God has called us to, to live that out with walk out that thing together in life. And so community is the, the third thing that I want to encourage you to get into a community, whether it's a Facebook group or any other place, maybe it's your church group. Um, maybe it's a group of friends, but get into community with moms. Talk about it and remember to be here. Now, when you're listening to that, mama share her story because maybe you have some advice for her, uh, that she hasn't thought of. Yeah. Maybe a word of encouragement or maybe a, yeah, me too. I feel that way too. Okay. Okay. All right, girls, let me just pray about this with you guys, because it's just about being strengthened and being realistic about what the expectations of motherhood are, understanding that you were given your children on purpose for a purpose. No other mother can raise her children. Like you can, you were put there on purpose. God knew exactly what he was doing by putting you in the spot to raise that seed, to raise your child. And he also puts you in the communities that you're connected with on purpose as well, because it does take a village to raise a child, but it takes a village to raise each other too. We're always growing. So are our children. So you never failed. As long as you don't quit, you've never failed. You can't fail if you don't quit. Okay. And every day is a new day. Heck every minute is a new is a new minute. So I messed up this past half hour. Well, let's take a 15 minutes and let's not mess up. Let's actually, um, do what we say we were going to do. And let's be here now for the next 15 minutes. And that could impact our child way more than just happened 30 minutes ago. Okay. So give yourself some grace. Okay. None of us are meant to be perfect. None of us are meant to be the perfect mother and none of us are ever going to achieve the perfect motherhood. Quote, unquote, I'm doing air quotes right now. None of us are going to achieve motherhood while we're still alive, because it's an ongoing thing. It's it never ends. We will always be a mother and we always have an opportunity every minute that goes by, we have another opportunity. So I know that each of us can be empowered to do the best that we can do in just 15 minutes. Break it down to however small you need to break it down to, to make it work. Don't make it so big that you feel like it's a goal that you can never reach. And certainly do not compare yourself to other mothers that you see, because the reality is you don't live 24 seven with that mother and you don't know everything that happens in that home. And so you're only comparing yourself to what the story that you're telling yourself about what you see in front of your eyes, whether it's on social media or in a magazine or on TV or whatever it is. You're, um, you're, you're pulling that information from just remember, that's not a reality. That's the reality that you've created and told your story about, okay, that's not, you don't live their life and you don't know what's happening in their home. So don't compare your state of motherhood with other mothers. Certainly let's be in community and talk and encourage and empower with each other, but let's not compare ourselves to each other. Okay? God, I want to thank you today for my sisters, my friends, my fellow mothers. And I just ask that you give us each the clarity and, uh, about what it is you're calling us to do and how it is that you want us to serve our children, let us be attentive to the needs of our children. Let us have the strength that we need to, uh, stay in patients to use wisdom and discernment. When it is we're responding to whatever happens with our children and help us know that you are standing in the gaps when we have not done what we felt like we should have done and let us not be condemned. There's no condemnation in Christ. So there's no guilt or shame. That's not of God. We want to be accountable. God point out to us, let the Holy spirit convict us where we need to be convicted and help us repent, which means turn away from those things that we've done that are damaging to ourselves and to others. But give us the strength to walk in grace and mercy, as you have given us and give us the strength to walk in. Love the love that you have shown us. Let us show that love to our children. Thank you for all that you've done in the name of Jesus. Amen. Okay, sisters, uh, don't forget to join us over on the Facebook group. Holy made life. I can't wait to see you over there until then. I'll see you on the next episode. *some of the links provided may result in a small affiliate fee that allows me to continue to keep putting out this free content on this podcast*

EP 16 Who does God Say that I am- What does God Say About You- Seeing Yourself in Scripture- True Identity in Christ Jesus I think it's important to, if you're not used to using the words in the Bible, the truth in the Bible of who God says that you are, then this could actually change your life. So I'm just going to start off by going through some of the words that I wrote down. And I read to myself every single morning for almost a year so that I could remind myself of the truth so that my mind would be transformed and be perseverating on the truth versus the lies. Take the quick "Wholly Made Life Assessment" here: com Have a question or comment? Email Angie here: atoninirogers@gmail.com Connect with Angie on FB: toninirogers_facebook Connect with Angie in her Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/whollymadelife Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! atrogers.com   If you enjoyed this episode of the Wholly Made Life Podcast, then make sure to subscribe to the podcast, and don't forget to give Angie a review. You can also take a screenshot of the episode and tag Angie in your Insta and Facebook stories.   Welcome back, sisters, to this episode, 16 of Wholly Made Life. So I'm going to go over a continuation of our spiritual piece of our pie. I really wanted to talk through something I talked about in the last episode, episode 15, about our spiritual piece of the pie and where I referenced, focusing on who God says that I am. And I wanted to go through some of these things, because I think it's important to, if you're not used to using the words in the Bible, the truth in the Bible of who God says that you are, then this could actually change your life. So I'm just going to start off by going through some of the words that I wrote down. And I read to myself every single morning for almost a year so that I could remind myself of the truth so that my mind would be transformed and be perseverating on the truth versus the lies. And this made up stories that we tell ourselves. So who does God say that you are? What does God say about you? And how can you see yourself as God sees you in the scriptures? What is your true identity in Christ? Jesus? So here's some of the things. Here's what I want you to say to yourself. I am loved. I am worthy. I am purposed. I am his, I belong. I am called. I am chosen. I am royalty. I am an heir. I am accepted. I am adopted. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I am created in his image. I am redeemed. I am restored and renewed and refined. I am saved. I am forgiven. I am transformed. I am valuable. I am spirit filled. I am powerful. I am mighty. I am strengthened. I am able, I am free. I am sealed and delivered. I am faithful. I am a friend of Jesus. I am full of peace. I am lavished by grace, a child of light. I am Holy and righteous. I'm a Saint, a steward, a servant and a soldier. I'm a witness and a worker. I am victorious. I'm a citizen of heaven. I'm no longer a slave to sin. I'm an ambassador for Jesus. I'm set apart and sanctified. I'm a special possession. I'm made new. I'm anointed. I'm triumphed. I'm joined with the Lord. I'm one with him in spirit. I am blameless before God. I am God's workmanship. I am blessed and favored. I'm covered protected. I am safe on salt of the earth, light of the world. I'm completely forgiven. I'm a temple of the Holy spirit. I am bold, courageous, confident I am above and not beneath the head and not the tail. I am more than a conqueror and an overcomer. I'm justified by grace. I'm a quit. I'm rescued. I'm complete. I am whole, I am healed. I am far from oppression. I will not live in fear. Belonged to him. I'm intricately woven. I am seated in high places. I'm raised up with Christ. I'm made alive in Christ. I've given access to the father. I'm a member of the body. I'm a member of God's household. I am given hope. I am given faith. I am given peace. I am given mercy. Okay. So I don't know about you, but if I read these things to myself every single day, and I'm reminded of all of those things, I don't know how you can't walk with your head up and shoulders back and chest out and walk powerfully. And in the authority and dominion that he has given us. Those are powerful things that God says about that about us. And Ephesians is one of the best places to go to read through what God says about you. Uh, in Ephesians four, he says things like I can mature spiritually. I can be certain of God's truth. I can have a new attitude and a new lifestyle in Ephesians five and six. He says things like, I can honor God through my marriage. I can parent my child with composure. I have God's power. I can stand firm in the face of evil. Okay. So I, again, just wanting to give you some of these things that I wrote down and you don't have to write down all of these things, but certainly I don't know about you, but before your feet hit the floor in the mornings, if you read through all of these things out loud, number one, what you profess with your mouth is real and it's powerful. And also why not just shake up the devil and let the devil know, Hey, I'm getting ready to get up. And my feet hit the floor and I am God's warrior. Okay. I'm God's woman of God. And I am all those things that I just shouted out loud. Here's another couple of things. So there's a lot of places in the new Testament, Ephesians Romans, uh, John, and first John Corinthians, Galatians, Philippians Colassians Timothy Corinthians. I think I said that first and second Corinthians, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Those are all, some great places to find yourself in how God sees you and how it is confirmed by the truth of scripture. Some other places in the old Testament are going to be Proverbs, Proverbs 31. I think all of you guys probably know that Proverbs 31 is related to, you know, you've heard about the Proverbs 31 woman. So I'm just going to read a little bit of the Proverbs 31 women, because this kind of also speaks to eludes to who it is that God says that you are so a good, woman's hard to find and worth far more than diamonds. Her husband trusts her without reserve and never has a reason to regret it. Never spiteful. She treats him generally all her life long. She shops around for the best yarns and cottons and enjoys knitting and sewing. She's like a trading ship that sails to far away places and brings back exotic surprises. She's up before Dawn preparing breakfast for her family and organizing her day. She looks over a field and buys it. Then with the money she's put aside, she plants a garden. First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started. She senses the worth of her work and is in no hurry to call it quits for the day. She's skilled in the craft and of home and heart diligent and homemaking. She's quick to assist anyone in need. She reaches out to help the poor. She doesn't worry about our family. When it snows though, their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear. She makes her own clothing and dresses and clubs, colorful, linens, and selves. Her husband's greatly respected it. And when he deliberates with the city fathers, she designs gallons and sells and bring sweaters. She nits to the dress. Shop. Her clothes are well-made and elegant. She's always faces tomorrow with a smile. When she speaks, she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. She keeps an eye on everyone in our household and keeps them all busy and productive. Her children respect and bless her. Her, her, her husband joins in with words of praise. Many women have done wonderful things, but you have outclassed them. All charm can mislead. And beauty soon fades the woman to be admired. And praise is the woman who lives in the fear of God. So she's, God-fearing give her everything she deserves. And I Dorn her life with praises. So I think that some of us are overwhelmed sometimes when we read this about, Oh my goodness, this was like an amazing woman. And certainly she is, but we are the Proverbs 31 women. We are this woman and it doesn't mean we have to be perfect and do all these things, but we are blessed. We are admired. We are respected. We are treating people with kindness. You know, we are going to work, whether it's in our homestead where we're the CEO of our own home, or we are, have a career that we are bringing home, the bread, the bacon giving part of the finances. Maybe some of us own some of our own businesses. Maybe some of us own some of our side, a side hustle. So we're doing these things and these things point to some of those declarations that I just went through. Uh, another place to look is Psalms one Oh three so quickly. I want to read through this one. And these are all messaged, translations. All my soul. Bless God from head to toe. All bless his Holy name. All my soul. Bless God. So don't forget a single blessing. He forgives your sins. You're forgiven. He heals your diseases. Every one you're healed. He redeemed you from hell. He saves your life. You're redeemed and saved. He crowns you with love and mercy. Aperitifs crown. You are royalty. He wraps you in goodness, beauty, eternal. He renews your youth. You are renewed. You're always young in his presence. God makes everything come out, right? He puts the victims back on their feet. You're victorious. He showed Moses how he went about his work, opened up his plans to all Israel. You have wisdom and discernment. God is sheer mercy and grace not easily angered. He's rich in love. He, you are loved. He doesn't endlessly, nag and schooled or nor hold grudges forever. He doesn't treat us as our sins deserve nor pay us back in full of our wrongs. As high as heaven is over earth. So strong. It's his love to those who fear him. We're God-fearing and we're strengthened by him. And as far as sunrises from sunset, he has separated us from our sin. As parents feel for their children. God feels for those who fear him. He knows us inside and out for. He knows the plans that he has for us. That's in Jeremiah 29 11. He keeps us in mind that we're made of mud. He created us in his image by his own hints. Men and women don't live very long, like wild flowers. They spring up in blossom, but a storm snuff them out just as quickly leaving nothing to show. They were here. We are destined for higher places where we're seated in high places. God's love though is ever an always eternally present to all who fear him, making everything right for them and their children. As they follow his covenant ways and remember to do whatever he said, God has set, had set his throne in heaven. We are seated in high places. He rules over all of us, the Lord, God omnipotent reigns. And we are adopted by him. We are in air to his kingdom. He's the King. So bless God. You angels ready and able to fly at his bid and quick to hear and do what he says. Bless God. All you armies of angels alert to respond to whatever he will bless God, all creatures, wherever you are, everything. And everyone made by God and you. Oh my soul. Bless God. That was Psalms one Oh three with my interjections of some of these declarations that we just read. Okay. And then finally, what I want to point out is Psalms 91. This one has kind of helped me set fast through the whole COVID situation. When I was trying to keep my hospital safe and I'm making decisions that impacted patients and staff. So Psalms 91, you who sit down and the God in high God's presence spend the night and it should eyes shadow. Say this God, you're my refuge. He's our safe place I trust in you. And I'm safe. That's right. He rescues you from hidden traps. We are rescued shields. You from deadly hazards. We are covered in protected his huge outstretched arms protect you under them. You're perfectly safe. His arms bent off all harm, fear, nothing not while Wilson, the night not flying arrows in the day. Not disease that prowess of the darkness, not disaster that erupts at high noon, even though other succumb all around drop like flies, right? And left, no harm will even graze you. You are more than a conqueror. You'll stand untouched. Watch it all from a distance. Watch the wicked turn into corpses. Yes, because God's your refuge. The high God, your very own home evil can not get close to you. Harm can not get through that door. He ordered his angels to guard you wherever you go. If you stumble, they'll catch you. Their job is to keep you from falling. You'll walk unharmed among lions and snakes and kick young lions and serpents from the pack. If you'll hold onto me for dear life says, God, I'll get you out of any trouble. I'll give you the best of care. If you'll only get to know and trust me, call me and I'll answer be at your side at that in bad times, I'll rescue you. Then throw you a party. I'll give you a long life. I'll give you a long drink of salvation. So that Psalms 91 also is another way that it confirms all of these declarations that are in the new Testament about who God says we are. And if we're created in God's image, then everything that you know about God should be a new revelation about yourself. How deep is that? Think about that. If we're made in God's perfect image, then every new revelation we have about God, our father should be a new revelation about who we are. We're made in his image sisters. So if we're made in his image, then every revelation I have about him is about me. It's about you. So I want you to be encouraged today. I want you, if you have not done this exercise, I plead with you. I challenge you to write down the declarations about the I AMS that God says about you. And if you need to start in place, start in Ephesians, write down those declarations that God says about you and read them out loud before your feet hit the floor every single day, just do it for the next 30 days. And then I dare you to come back to me and say that you don't feel more empowered. You don't feel more strengthened. You don't feel more, uh, than a conqueror. So sisters, I always say, encourage you to go read the word in whatever translation it is that you read from, uh, in John, one, one, it says in the beginning was the word and the word was with God. And the word was God. So that's why, when I'm referring to Ephesians, for example, I know that Paul wrote the letter to Ephesians and the words are from Paul, but I read from scripture. And so when I look at the word, the truth, uh, that's from God in the Bible. When I'm saying in general, what God says about me, it's because I find it in scripture. And I believe that in the beginning was the word and the word was with God. And the word was God. So, um, but I always encourage you to just follow up and read and find yourself in the scripture, in whatever translation you want to use. I read several different translations just because different translations say things in different ways. So just wanting to clarify that and encourage you to find yourself in scripture, whatever translation you want to read, do it. And again, I can't wait to hear some of the feedback from you guys. Once you guys have done this, make sure that you guys head over to my Facebook group, a wholly made life. You can find it on Facebook and just join the group and tell us what you found about yourself. Talk about this exercise. And let's walk through this thing together, because I know that if we read these declarations about what we find about ourselves in scripture, and we read these things out loud and we walk with the knowledge of who we are and who God is calling us to be that we will come out stronger for it. Our families will be blessed for it. The people in our circles will be blessed for it. You sister will be blessed for it. All right. So I will see you in the next episode and I hope to see you in the Facebook group as well. All right. See you soon. Okay.   *some of the links provided may result in a small affiliate fee that allows me to continue to keep putting out this free content on this podcast*

EP 15 Are you Hearing from God? Is Holy Spirit Leading your in your Steps in Your Life? So I think a lot of times when people that are in have not been as intentional, uh, or just don't really know how to hear from God or whether they're hearing, hearing from God, sometimes this feels a little bit, um, woo is the only word I can think of, although that's more like a new age word, but, uh, more, you know, all this high-level stuff that, you know, you think that you're going to hear this boisterous voice from the cloud saying, thus, say it the Lord. And you know, that's not exactly what I'm talking about. Now. There could be ways that people hear from God in that way, but I want to start with giving you a few tips on how you can start intentionally listening and hearing from God. Useful links: Take the quick "Wholly Made Life Assessment" here: com Have a question or comment? 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Those are just some examples, but it helps the prompts help you focus on something for the day for the week, and you can use it however you want to use it, but it does help you focus on who it is that you are intentionally trying to become based on who you feel you're called to be. Uh, so this is Easter devotional, like I said, it's just now being launched! Go to https://devotional.atrogers.com. Once again, https://devotional.atrogers.com.. That's how you can get your $10 off. All right. So let's get into today's episode where we're going to talk about, are you hearing from God?  So the very first thing you want to think about is your relationship with God. Just think about if you will, your best friend, think about how you interact with your best friend, how you interact with someone who is, uh, a trusted person in your life. Maybe it's your husband. Maybe it's a really good friend. Maybe it's a pastor. Uh, maybe it's a teacher. So someone that you have a very trusted relationship with, think about how you talk to that person, how it's just real and genuine. Someone, someone that you feel comfortable with, someone that you feel like you can tell some of your secrets to, uh, you can process some of those feelings and thoughts with that. You can't always process with someone else, well, relationship in which you feel comfortable and safe sharing. Well, that's the same thing that God wants with us sisters. That's what he wants with us. He wants us to have a relationship with him in much the same way, where we feel safe with him and comfortable. And we feel trusting enough to share all of our feelings, our fears, our doubts, our questions, our angers, uh, everything that we might talk about with a friend. He wants us to have that same conversation with him. So you think about these relationships that you've had that are trusting and that are really good, safe relationships. They're ongoing. If you're thinking about your best friend or your husband, you wouldn't think twice about picking up the phone and calling that person and letting them know, Oh my gosh, just guess what happened to me today? Here's what it is. And you just wouldn't second thought that at all right? You wouldn't give a second thought to that. So the same thing needs to happen with God. So the same things that you're wanting to talk to your girlfriend about, or your husband about, um, those are the things that you want to talk to God about. And yes, it's different because that person is not right there on the other end of the phone or in physical sense. But God's there all the time and his relationship with you. He wants it to be ongoing. He wants it to be intimate. He wants you to talk to him. And the only way, if you think about it, the only way that you can hear from someone is to talk to them. Okay? Now certainly we can write letters, which you can do when you journal. Uh, you can pray all of those things, but if you want to hear from someone, you gotta be having a conversation. Okay. And you also have to stop talking long enough to listen. So that's the other key. Talk to God on a daily basis, make it an ongoing relationship and talk to him just like you would anybody else. And also, uh, stop talking long enough to listen to what he might be saying to you. So that's one number one. Talk to him. Number two, sit still and listen. And I'll talk a little bit further in a little bit about how you can listen, because it might not just be with your ears. Okay? So the second thing I want you to think about, so you're going to talk and you're going to listen. The second thing I want to talk to you about is, think about what your motive is. Why do you want to hear from God? What is it that you are yearning for? Is it relationship? Is it just to be close to him just to know that he's present with you at all times, or is it only when you need something from him? When you're asking something from him, think about your friendships and your, your spouse soul relationship. Again, if you're only going to those people, when you need something, that relationship is not real reciprocal. Is it? You don't just call your friends when you need something from them. Do you? Because if you're just always going to your friend, when you need something, then that friend doesn't really receive anything from you and God wants to receive from you too. He doesn't want you just to come to him when you need something, he wants to receive your love, your presence, your acknowledgement, your thanks, your praise. Um, just like your friend would, you know, your friend wants you to call just to check on her sometimes. Hey, how are you? How was your week? How's your mother, Those kinds of, uh, reasons To your friends. And of course the relationship with her husband certainly has to be reciprocal. You have to have a two-way relationship. And so God wants the same thing. So think about when you're thinking, man, I want to hear from God. Is it only in those times that you need something for him, from him, or you need an answer or you don't know the answer. So you're wanting him to give you the answer or is it an ongoing relationship? That's two way you talk to him, whether you want something or not, you talk to him and give him praise and thanks every day, whether you want something or not, or whether you need something or not. Okay. So think about it that way. Think about the relationship that you have with him as being this two way reciprocal relationship. The next thing is, are you willing to really hear from him? What if you hear from him, something that makes you uncomfortable or that challenges you in some way, are you really willing to, when you do hear something from him to be obedient and do what it is he's asking you to do, that is something that I think is even more challenging than just having that daily conversation with him. When you finally do hear something that is challenging or outside of your comfort zone, what are you going to do with that? So I would recommend that you pray for strength and wisdom and discernment, and you asked for the ability to be obedient enough and strong, bold enough, courageous enough to when you hear him. And it's not exactly what you thought it would be to be bold and courageous enough to take that step. Recently, one of the very most challenging things that I have ever, ever heard from God was to resign my position as chief nursing officer. Now, this is a longer story than what I had time for here on this episode. And I'll probably do kind of a second part to this so that you can hear the whole thing originally. I was just feeling restless and I really loved leading and building my team in my nursing environment. I really loved that. That's my favorite thing. I love building teams and helping people grow. I just felt restless for some reason, though. It started a while back, but it's something that I just didn't really pay attention to. I actually intentionally kind of pushed it back. They ignored it. And as those feelings got stronger and as I continue to have my relationship with God, I talked to him about, I started to ask him, why am I feeling like this? Why am I feeling so restless? I started to hear from him in different ways when I actually heard the loudest was when I was forced to be the stillest and the quietest that I've ever had to be in my life. So in July, late July, I was diagnosed with COVID. When I was diagnosed with COVID, I of course had to quarantine and I had to be in my room. I could not be a mom. I could not be a wife. I could not serve in my church. I could not work. And I have worked all of my life since I was 14. I have worked, I have had a job. And until I became a director in a nursing position, I had two or three jobs. I just worked. That's what I knew. That's what I did. It's part of my outward explanation of who I am and seeking that worthiness. That's what I did for just so long of my life. My success at work was something that made me feel worthy. And so when these things were stripped away from me where I couldn't be mom, I couldn't be wife. Couldn't serve in my church. I could, there were no sports going on. Um, and then I couldn't work. I couldn't lead. I couldn't fix systems. I couldn't answer questions. I mean, I was completely cut off. I had no computer access. I was no longer on call 24 seven. I was just left with myself. And so I was forced to be the most still and the most quiet that I've ever been in my life. Now, granted, I was sick for about two weeks. And so I just slept and rested. You know, it's funny how sometimes God will use those times. Not that he caused this, but he uses it for our good, he works all things together for our good, so I was resting and finally really focused on taking care of myself so that I could get better. And I wasn't tasked with taking care of anyone else. And so what came from that was me thinking about, and I believe it was God asking me, who are you now? You're not just a mom. You're not just a wife. You don't just serve in your church. And you're not just a chief nursing officer. You're not just your title, your position, your salary. And so when he started asking me those questions, when he said, I know who you're not, but not who you are. I was dumbfounded because I didn't know who I was either. Now I've been on this journey of unbecoming for years, I'm becoming perfectionism. I'm becoming, uh, this little girl who felt so unworthy and who hated her body hated the way she looked and didn't feel like she ever compared or matched up to other people. I have been unbecoming all of those things and doing the work too, to really understand who it is that God says I am. And so I've been diving into that word and repeating that there was a season where I wrote down everything I found in the Bible that God said that I am, and I wrote it down and I would read it. And I would say it out loud every single day. I did that for probably about a year so that I could be reminded of who it is. God says I am. But when he asked me that, I don't know, I know who you're not, but not who you are not because he doesn't know who I am, but because I still was finding myself in the titles and the positions and the tasks of what I do versus who I am. That's an example of what God has said to me that has challenged me to take some steps that were bold and creative courageous, because what that came down to was after now that didn't happen overnight. Okay. That happened over a period of we're talking. I was restless for months, probably over a year. Life happened as things happen. And then as COVID hit and everything was stripped away, that's when it just got so loud, I could no longer ignore it. And there were a lot of other things that happen during this timeframe that really kind of solidified for me what it is I need to do to refocus my life at this time. It doesn't mean that I won't go back to doing what I was doing before. I will do it differently when, and if I go back saying, he said, leave it forever. But for this time and season, he was asking me to trust him and give up everything that I had worked for as an offering to him, my title, my position. I mean, I studied a long time to become a nurse. So I then a lot of time and money, blood and sweat and tears, uh, getting to where I was as a chief nursing officer. I mean, for the long time, I had thought that my path was going to be chief nursing officer to chief operations. Uh, and then to chief executive officer, you know, he said to me, I will bless you and I will favor you as I always have, because you're my daughter. And I love you. And I've given you these gifts, okay? But this is not the path that I have for you right now in this season. And I have more, I will show you, but you have to trust me with the two things you've never trusted me with before. And that is your finances and the control of what's next. As I said, I've been working since I was 14. I have never ever quit a job without knowing what's next, in fact, without a promotion. So I have never quit a job without a promotion. I have always taken a next position based on a promotion that I was giving. And of course those promotions, except for one time always came with a salary raise. And so I was at the highest peak that I had ever been financially. And the other piece to that is that our financial household, my husband works full time, but we're at the point where we need both of our salaries. We've got three kids in private school. Uh, Clayton had just started college. So that's a college tuition. And we have our house that we got. Uh, we were blessed with, that's a whole nother blessing story, cause we should not have qualified for this house that we're in. Um, but we have our house, we have our two cars, you know, so we've got bills that we have to pay. And I have always felt because I was the oldest child because I had to take care of some things. I just have always felt the burden to carry that, um, to carry my part, at least to carry my part, to make sure that we're okay. And with that comes my own trust in myself and my works versus trusting that God knows, and God has plans and God will provide. And so I had never given that to him, the most sacrificial offering I could give would be my title, which meant so much to me because of all the outward achievements that I I strived for throughout my life. So the title and the position itself meant something to me because I made it mean something to me. I made it mean something that was a worldly, something, not a biblical, something like that's pretty cool. When you say you're a chief nurse of something in this world, but that doesn't mean anything in heaven. You know? So it was this sacrificial offering of giving him my title and position, but also the finances then thirdly, was the control, the lack of control, then not knowing, okay, God, if I take this step and I resigned my position without knowing what's next, that makes me crazy. Like I don't, that was the hard, hard, hard thing. I mean, I don't do those kinds of things. Um, so after lots of prayer and after lots of confirmations, I finally decided to take that step and resign. Okay. So let's get back to our goal of wanting to hear from God. One of our, instead of our goal being, you just want to hear from God, you need something. It should be about developing that mature spiritual relationship with God, a daily ongoing conversation that happens as you do this, he will reveal to you in ways that you can hear and notice. So the question becomes, how do you hear from him? How do you hear, how is it when you hear me saying, Oh, I heard God say, was it aloud, audible voice? Was it like thunder and lightning? Well, it wasn't. So there's some different ways that you can hear. Some people do hear a loud audible voice at times. Uh, some people see it in dreams. Some people have visions. Some people say they see angels or have an encounter with an angel. Some people say that they experience a miraculous event. A lot of the times what happens is that they come in your own thoughts. The thoughts that you get are sometimes the way that God speaks to you. I remember we were on a trip with my pastor and she was preaching at a small church. And I remember asking her because she's very prophetic. I remember asking her, how do you know if you're hearing from God? And I explained to her a situation where I was getting ready to pray for someone. And I got a thought in my head that said, pray for this girl. She's sad. She's in some darkness, she needs to know the light of the Lord. Um, and so those were thoughts that were in my head about a girl that I didn't know. I just felt drawn to her. And I felt, and I, and I kept thinking, she's depressed. She's sad. She needs some joy. She needs a, you need to pray that joy is restored for her. So I went ahead and I was obedient to that, to those thoughts. And I went up to her and I talked to her and I prayed using the words that the thoughts were bringing to my head about restoring joy and light and finding small things that she can rejoice in. And, you know, I don't even remember everything. And that's the thing when you, when you're obedient, sometimes when you pray for someone, it's not really your words, it's just whatever the words are that that person needed to hear. So it was just a thought in my head and it was a feeling and a knowing a draw, a pole. And so I talked to my pastor about that. She said, yeah, that's how you're hearing from him. Just lean into that and practice listening and being more intentional and being obedient when you hear those thoughts. So you're, you're not hearing with your ears, you're, you're having a thought. And then you're having a feeling of knowing or a pulling or a drawing that you need to be obedient to this. You need to do this. It's the same thing when I'm like my child, my youngest Bryson, when we're driving. And if there's someone that's on the side of the street and they, maybe they have a sign for something. And he says, mom, I think I want to give him my McDonald's or whatever that is him following what the Holy Spirit's nudging him to do. And does he get that every single time? No, he doesn't. So that's how you know that it's, it's a drawing. It's a, it's a, it's a way to hear from the Lord. It's a way to hear from God from the Holy spirit, nudging you to do something that feels a little bit uncomfortable sometimes. Okay. So there's a knowing, there's a feeling there's a thought, and there's a piece about that. And the more you listen and have conversations with God, the more you start to have these thoughts. And then for me, the thoughts then start to get confirmed. Now, some of those thoughts like this one, when I'm talking about praying for this girl that just happened. And so I was obedient and I did it, but there were other thoughts such as the one that I need to resign my position that took me months to be brave and bold enough to gain the courage to do. But through those months, as I continue to have the daily conversations with him about, are you really asking me to do this? Like this doesn't make any sense. I am scared. I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to take a step without knowing the step I'm taking, but that's the whole point of faith, right? And trust. And that's the whole point of what he's asking us to do. So that's the other thing is that, you know, if the thoughts that are coming to you that are continually, repeatingly coming to you and even being confirmed in other ways, if those are in alignment with what the word of God says, then you can trust that that is God leading you. So, you know, I did a lot of digging and it about faith and trust and, you know, handing things up to him and those all confirming alignment with what it is, was he was asking me to do it, think about this. This goes back to what we've talked about in other episodes, as far as thoughts go, uh, because we've talked about how we need to be intentional and deliberate about our thought life and making sure that what we're feeding our right mind is as much as possible in alignment with the word of God, because the more that we're in alignment, the better we can hear and recognize when he's trying to speak to us, reading the word is another way to, um, not only get closer to him and build more relationship with him, but also to confirm the thoughts that are coming to your mind, study the word, had these thoughts, and they were confirming the thoughts to be in alignment with the word. If you're not clear on something, if you feel like you've had these thoughts and you're in the word and they feel in alignment, and you're not clear yet, you can ask God, just ask him, say, God, make this clear for me. Give me a confirmation, help me feel at peace with what it is that I feel like you're telling me to do. Based on the thoughts that I continue to have another example for me, as far as confirmation was, once I had gotten to the place where I decided, okay, I'm going to resign the day that I went in, I was returning from actually taking my son to Arizona to drop him off for college. I was returning from that time being off, I went to work in the first person that I spoke with came and she gave me a birthday present. And my, my birthday had been about a month prior. She just hadn't gotten it yet. And she says to me, God told me that you needed this. And it was a plaque with some scripture on it that said, and I don't have it in front of me right now, but basically trust me without borders, spirit lead me where there's no borders to the trust. And there's a song for that too. So I'm sure you guys are, some of you are remembering what that song is, but it was about trusting him when there are no borders. And immediately I knew I had made the right decision and I went in and I gave my resignation that day. Uh, now I gave them notice and such, you know, I did the right thing. I had already known in my heart that I needed to do that, but I was still scared and I was still nervous about doing it. But when she came to me and she says to me, God told me you needed this. And so this is what I got for you. It was a plaque talking about trusting him when there are no borders where I don't know where I'm walking now that was straight confirmation. And so immediately I lost it. I started crying. And of course she was like, I don't know why you needed this, but, and I said, well, I do. I know that's an example of a confirmation that might come outside of your thoughts. Maybe it's a song that pops on the radio. Maybe it's something one of your kids says to you. My kids confirm things for me all the time and they don't know what they're doing. God knows, you know, he's leading them. It's just one of those things where once you get to a point where you are hearing those things, you will get those confirmations. And then as you mature in that relationship and you start to lean in and be more obedient, you will hear from him and feel more solid in those things. Feel more at peace without needing all of the additional confirmations. We've talked through this thing about hearing from God, and it's about, uh, building the relationship. Okay? Let's just recap. You want to build that relationship with him. You want to talk to him every day. You want to be in his word every day. You want to have an ongoing conversation with him, just like you would with your friend or your spouse. You want to make sure that that continues whether you need something or not. And you want to assess whether or not you're really ready to hear from him because he'll only give us what we are ready to hear. Like if he had told me that five years ago, honey, that would not happen. I was not mature enough for that. I wasn't ready for that. So I don't want people looking or hearing this from me thinking, Oh my gosh, she's so grateful. But no, listen, I just wasn't mature enough in the past to hear about this. So it comes with maturity. It comes with your walk, your constant walk, your ongoing walk. And I'm still walking this thing out every single day. There's days that I throw my hands up. And I'm like, I have no idea what I'm doing. I have no idea. I don't know what's next. What are you going to show me? What's next? Okay. So it's a relationship. It's an ongoing relationship. Okay. And it's a trust that I am listening and I am doing everything I can to be as obedient as I can. Anytime. I feel like I'm hearing the next step from, from him. Uh, and by the way, this podcast was one of those steps. And it's weird to think about, Oh, God told me to start a podcast, but the podcast just kept popping up and popping up. And there were lots of different confirmations along the way that made me realize, okay, start a podcast. And the same thing was I don't, what do you want me to start a podcast about? I don't know what to talk the talk about. Um, but you know, I just am obedient and whatever, he I'm trying to follow what he leads me to talk about. Relationship, making sure that your motive is good and that you're wanting to him to be present and just be real in your life. Uh, being willing to, when you do here, take those bold and courageous steps that he's asking you to take using wisdom and discernment and the word, okay. You, you have to be responsible and use wisdom and discernment. That was my prayer for months. Let me have the wisdom and discernment to make a decision that impacts my family financially. Um, ultimately for me, it was the right decision and he is providing, you know, that might not be what he's asking you to do. So you just have to know what he's asking you to do and use wisdom and discernment in that. Um, making sure that what it is that the thoughts that are coming into your head or what it is you feel like you're hearing is in alignment with the word. And, uh, then making sure that you're intentional to sit still and listen, and then be obedient when you hear it. The last thing is to write things down. He has been urging me to write it down, write it down, write it down, everything. So when you feel like you're hearing from him, maybe it's a daily journal. Maybe it's using a devotional and you're journaling in that daily devotional, but write things down so that you can keep track of what it is you feel like you're hearing from him. You know, if you've got these thoughts, come into your mind that you feel like, uh, you know, Holy spirit is that you then write it down and you can go back and you can see a pattern. You can see a record of the seasons that he's brought you through. Maybe it's a walk through maturity spiritually. So make sure that you write it down. We will see you on the next episode. *some of the links provided may result in a small affiliate fee that allows me to continue to keep putting out this free content on this podcast*  

EP 14 Fixing the Foundation of Your Wholly Made Life- Strengthening the Areas (Pieces of your pie) of Your Life She said something that just caught me. And it reminded me of you guys because of what we talk about in taking bold and courageous action. So she was actually doing an Instagram live, talking about an encounter with God that she had when she was a child. And the reason she chose to do it online was because she knew that she may lose courage to post it. If she just recorded it for lots of reasons. But sometimes when you're sharing your faith or sharing personal counters, that you've had those things aren't always received as you intended them to be received or meant them, or sometimes they're just not received in a way, because some people that may be hearing it may have not had that kind of encounter don't understand it, whatever it is that causes those fears and doubts to creep up in our minds, when we are getting ready to share something that may feel a little different, a peculiar, a little odd to others, those spheres and doubts. Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast IG: @angietoninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Angie's Coaching Menu: Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! Ppu.atrogers.com Yes. I always love Fridays and it means something so much different to me now than it did a couple of months ago, but I still love Fridays mostly because I know that Dwayne's going to be off work and we're all going to be home together and still navigating this whole COVID quarantine type stuff with no organized sports that any of my boys are in and stuff. It just, and now that it's snowing outside and really bitter cold, I know that we're just going to spend time in the house together. And it's just such, it's just a much more enjoyable time than it used to be because of my situation right now. So anyway, but it's been such a long week. I know I was able to post that bonus episode for you guys, which was like just five minutes long, but I was so excited to get into this series that I talked about on Monday. So we're going to get into the initial part of this series, but I wanted to, um, first just tell you a little bit about my week and something else I just listened to by somebody that's so special to me, I just found it so encouraging. And I wanted to make sure that I shared it with you guys too. But so this week I was actually traveling. I traveled to Chattanooga, which is only about four and a half hours away. Um, and I did that because part of a process that I started several months ago was going through, I've been working with a entrepreneurial coach. And part of that work that we're doing is franchise discoveries and working through just finding out about different opportunities that match my personality and my skill sets, my history, uh, my interests, my passions, what I feel, my mission is all of these things. And so it's just been part of this whole discovery process that I've been in in these past few months, but I was in Chattanooga and it's amazing. And you know, you sign a whole bunch of agreements, not to share a whole bunch as far as what it is and the things about it, but it's a pretty amazing one. Anyway, that was really fun. I met a lot of great people. I saw a lot of kids lives being impacted, so it was pretty cool. So I, while I was gone, I wasn't able to record just because it ended up, I took everything with me. I was, I was so set on getting the recording up for this week and getting a, what I call batching, getting several of the next episodes done while I was there at the hotel by myself. But our day was so packed and I was just exhausted. So I did not get to do what I had planned to do a simple, because I didn't realize how much time in the day that was going to take. And then my other two days, the Tuesday and Thursday were mostly traveling about four and a half to five hours. So, uh, and then I had a meeting at the church last night, which was really good. So anyway, that has been my week and now I come to Friday and I just got off an awesome mastermind call with a group of friends, uh, sisters that I'm getting to know. And they're also amazing. Uh, but I just, before I get into it, I wanted to share my friend, her name's Tammi. She has an Instagram page and I'm going to pull it up for you guys. Uh, it's called chasing time and drinking wine. And she that's her Instagram page, but she said something, it just popped up in my feed as I was going to actually post some stories.  Check it out here: https://www.instagram.com/chasingtimeanddrinkingwine/ Sometimes that creep up sometimes make us not follow through with something that we said to do. So it just hit me. Number one, I love her. So this is my sisters, my bio sisters. Okay. Her husband's brother's wife, her name's Tammi. She's amazing. I love her. She's my sister. I call her SIS because, um, you know, there's so many of the brothers and sisters on Brian's side, my brother-in-law and I love all of them. They're just, they're an amazing family. So anyway, I love Tammi and, uh, she just touched my heart. I mean, she had me crying. It's about 13 minutes, but it's an amazing story. So you got to go check her out and it's chasing time and drinking wine and I'll I'll connect, uh, something to her page in my show notes, in case you want to take a listen, but it was an amazing story of just the way God shows up in our lives so differently. He loves us each so much. And he shows up in such different ways. I mean, it reminded me too of, you know, my son, my oldest son, Clayton is 18. And when he was about four years old, he, we were in our old house and he, Dwayne, my husband was working and he ran up to me. It was a Sunday morning. He ran up to me and he was so elated, like so excited. And he said, mom, mom, mom, we got to go to church. We got to go to church. And this was when we really weren't going to a church. We really weren't involved in anything. And I asked him, I said, okay, well, what makes you say that? Uh, we were, I still had him in public schools at the time. Um, and he said, I just saw the feet of Jesus. And he told me, go tell your mom that it's time to go to church. And he was four. So there's things like that that happened that you just can't explain. But when you really think about all the different things that have happened in your life and the connections with people that he's made, everything is so divinely set up. That's what I believe I can look back and look at every circumstance and see, when you look back how that circumstance pointed you or got you to the next thing. So anyway, I don't know why I felt like I needed to hop on here and talk about that because my intention is to talk about getting us into how we're going to fix the foundation of our Holy made life. W H O L L Y and H O L Y, by the way, there's a little play on words there. And that's purposeful back to what Tammi was saying. The reason she hopped on that life is because she knew that she fear or doubt might stop her from sharing that story. And it was an awesome story. I'm not going to tell you what it is because I want you to go listen to it and go find her. She's such an amazing soul. I love her Tammi, if you're listening, I love you, babe. It just, again, reminded me of you guys, because I think that the way that we step into who it is that we're called to be who it is we're being asked to become on a daily best, uh, basis, is to take the bold courageous steps, one bold courageous step at a time. That's it sisters, that's it one bold courageous step at a time that we can't take back. And we're intentional. And we've talked about this, you know, in my accountability series, if you haven't listened to those episodes, jumped back in the, up in the beginning episodes and listen to the accountability series. But it's about being deliberate and intentional in what it is we're doing and saying, and trying to be intentional about what it is we're thinking about and what feelings and emotions that causes, and then what actions we're taking as a result of those things. So that our outcome, when we look at our life, make sense to us. And we have a say in it, ownership of that. So sisters, we're going to talk about fixing the foundation of your Holy made life. And I know I introduced this on Monday, but I want it to get a little bit deeper in and how we're going to navigate this over the next few weeks and going through the pieces of your, uh, life wheel or your purpose pie, or, uh, so here's the thing, guys. Um, email me, if you have an idea on what you want me to call this thing, uh, I talk about it as I I'm very visual, so I have to see it on paper to see it in my mind. So I think about a wheel and I think about a pie because as we look at this pie, or even like a spokes of a wheel, you split it up into six different areas. We talked about what those areas are, the person, the personal piece, the spiritual, physical, relational, professional, and financial. Those are the pieces of your Wholly made life. Those are the pieces of your Holy made pie, okay. Or the wheel that wheel of life. So if you have a fun way to name that, like purpose pie or Holy life wheel, um, you know, those aren't like super fun, but it kind of gives you an idea of what I'm talking about. I want to talk a little bit about how we are going to walk through my system for strengthening each piece of that pie, each spoke on that wheel so that you are stronger and strengthened and more confident in each area of your life so that you can feel whole, most people may know, but maybe you don't that I'm a nurse and I've been a nurse for over 20 years.  20 years, 2005, 21. So no, not quite. Um, but I've been in mental health for since 98. And I've been a nurse since 2005. So there we go. There's Beth. But for a long time, I feel like, and I've done a lot of different things. I started off in nursing with the neonates. So the NICU babies, my favorite favorite, favorite favorite, because I got to deal with the little babies and some of these babies, you guys were the size of my hand. Like that's not a joke when you see or hear about babies in the NICU, those 21 or 22 weaker those micro preemies, they are literally smaller than the Palm of my hand. And I have small hands impacted. That was so great to be a part of obviously saving and taking care of these babies. And it was one day at a time taking care of these babies as they grew, you strong enough, their lungs grew strong enough. Their bellies grew strong and They grew strong enough to come off of their oxygen and, uh, start to try bottles, uh, and be able to tolerate being held on their mother's chest. The best part of that was working with the mamas and the dads of course, too, but helping be that face for that mama who couldn't do what she was designed to do once that baby was born to be the face that she came into every day and said, how's my baby boy doing? And you being able to tell her the hard stuff and the great stuff and the triumphs, and even being with mamas who, whose babies didn't have the outcomes that they had hoped walking through that with them was such an impact on my life. Like that was literally my favorite bedside nursing, because I got to care for the babies and the families, especially the mamas. That's why my heart, I think too, that I love that so much because my heart is with mamas. You know, I think that we are amazing, amazing creatures and something that we're designed to do, which is to, to walk in through this motherhood is such a gift and we need our sisterhood to help us walk through that. So anyway, I don't even know where I got, Oh, I do. Um, the other thing that I've done, I did some pediatrics and home health. I mean, I've done everything in hospital settings and sense of care. I done, uh, on the floor, nursing med, surge nursing, um, or the Predix, uh, I wasn't even on a HEMOC floor. So blood and cancer disorders, but my favorite was NICU. And then also psych and behavioral health. And the reason I love psych and behavioral health, if you can't tell, I am way, way, way into my own personal self-awareness so that I can create the outcomes with the help of the Holy spirit. Of course, anything I ever say, you got to know that my belief is that it all comes from God, like my strengths, uh, you know, all of that comes from God, but so just that caveat there, but the, I love being more self-aware of what I can do to grow so that I'm a better person for other people. And then behavioral health, you either get that or you don't, if you're gonna get it, behavioral health is a place to do it because you are the skill, you are the tool, um, you, it's not like, okay, you got to get a straight cath on somebody. It's definitely one, two, three, and you just do a skill. You are the skill. So if in, if you get an undesired outcome, when you're dealing with this person, with this behavior, then you have the only thing you can control is going back and looking at yourself to say, okay, did I assess that correct correctly? Did I understand that person correctly is what I did or said, or how I stood? Did that help or hurt the situation? What can I do differently to get a different outcome next time? So it's just a great place to be, to understand yourself and understand that everything you do and say how you stand, how you hold your body, everything you do and say impacts the other person that you're involved with. So that goes back to that whole accountability series, too. The more aware we can be at that, the better outcomes we get, because we start taking responsibility and ownership of what we can do to create a better outcome for ourselves and for others in our life. So being a nurse you're trained to be holistic. You want to look at that whole person. So I'm not just looking at a I'm looking at what's going on with that person physically, how does that person feel what's happening in their finances? Can they afford their medications? Do they have a home to go to, do they have a parent here? Uh, are they getting along with their husband? Um, what school do they go to? What kind of education, educational opportunities or background do they have? You're looking at the entire thing. So it's a holistic approach, which is why I approach the, uh, the Holy made life assessment and the Holy made life wheel or pie holistically. I want us to be whole complete, nothing broken, nothing missing. I want us to be whole, which means that we have to feel that balance. We have to have those boundaries in every single piece of our lives. Every all of those six areas that we're talking about, the personal, the spiritual, the physical, the relational, the professional, and the financial. If all of those things are not in order, then we are not walking through our life feeling Holy made, feeling whole complete. And so that's the work that each of us are called to do. And that's the work I'm here to help you with. That's the work that I help coach women with is how can we look at our lives and see where it is that we can put some attention into or put some actionable goals into so that we can bring that back to a more balanced place where each piece of that pie is fulfilled and you are able to walk every day feeling whole. And it's not to say some of those things don't fluctuate at certain times, because absolutely they do. If you're starting up a new business, then you're going to have more time spent more actionable steps in that professional, but the relational and the physical and the spiritual and the personal and the financial pieces touch that. So you have to then make adjustments in those other areas so that you don't fall completely out of whack. And that's one of those things that I have worked on to come out of, especially related to that professional piece is making some different choices so that I don't get into that situation where I was so unbalanced, where everything I had was being spent in that professional pie, a piece and everything else behind that was suffering. Now, I will say that my last position I had, I was very high on the spiritual and the professional pieces. In fact, that's the first job that I really leaned into being very open with where the love that I have for people, the love that I have for nursing, the love that I have for leadership comes from, and that's from God. And I will say that is the most productive, the fastest growth in my team that I've ever seen. And the only thing that I did differently was be open with where the love that I have for what I do and who I serve comes from. So there's something to be said about that. So here's what I want you to do. So we're going to talk about this, cause I want you to be set up and I talked about the assessment that you can take. And that's just really like a six question, uh, assessment, and it just gets your juices flowing. I talked about that in the last one. So you can do that by looking at my show notes and clicking the link that goes to the Holy made life assessment. Here's what I want you to do. I want you to draw a circle on a page, and this is where we get to your actionable steps. For this episode. I want you to draw a circle on the page, and I want you to split that circle into six pieces. So you're, you're looking at either a wheel with spokes or you are working, looking at a pie. And so you have six different triangles. They're all the same size. They should be all the same length and same size, uh, so that they look pretty, even because if you're talking about a holistic approach to your life, a Holy made Holy life, you're going to have equal parts. And the goal is always going to be to try to keep it balanced and have an awareness if, and when things start to become unbalanced. So here's what I want you to do. I want you to write above each piece of your pie. So you have six pieces spiritual. The next one is physical. The next one is relational. Next one is professional. The next one is financial. And the final one is personal. I want you to write those above each piece. Okay. And then you have the middle where they all kind of join. Okay. Now what I want you to do is I want you to just quickly look at each of those pieces and rate yourself and the way that I want you to do this visually is from the middle of the pie. I want you to start coloring in up to the top. If you feel like you are, let's say the spiritual. If you feel that you are way, way, way good on the spiritual piece, that you are doing everything that you know how to do, you're spending enough time with God. You're, you know, you, maybe you preach the word. Maybe you share the gospel, or maybe you do a daily devotional. You pray every day. You just feel very fulfilled. You would color that went all the way up to the top of the pie piece. So that whole pie piece would be colored colored in. Does that make sense? Now, if you go to, let's say let's pick financial, let's say you've colored it up to the top or near the top. Okay. Now I would, if people that have worked for me know when we do evils every year in, let's say the scale is from one to five, my people know don't be giving yourself fives, because if you give yourself a five, you're telling me that you had zero room to improve. And I don't believe that any of us ever had any, um, a place in our life where we have zero room for improvement. So I would challenge you to, if you think that you're at the top, then, is there anything else that you could do to, to improve or is it over the top? Is your cup flowing so much over that it's taking away from another piece. Okay. So you might look at that and say, yeah, I'm at the top, but is there anything you can do differently or once you color in all of your pie, is it so unbalanced that you need to pull back a little bit on some of that? Okay. So there's my, uh, leadership supervision, supervisory stuff coming out, because I'm always challenging people to grow no matter how great they are. Uh, and it doesn't mean that I never gave any fives because I did give some bias. But it certainly, when you are working on your own, uh, leadership in your life, in your areas of your life, it is helpful for you to always have that. Self-awareness of where, what can I do to grow more? So, okay. So let's go to financial for an example, let's say that when you think of financial, you don't feel satisfied. You don't feel like you're making enough money or you don't, you're not saving anything. Maybe you've got a great salary, but you're not saving anything. Or maybe you're not putting away what you want in retirement, or maybe you don't have a fund for emergencies saved. You don't have a thousand bucks in a checking or savings account where if something happened, you could pull from that thousand bucks and you would have a plan to replace that. So things like that think about you, you know, what is your financial legacy? Are you building that? Do you, do your kids have something to grow on when, if something happened to you? So you would color in from the middle, again, out towards the top of the pie where you think you are with that. So I want you to do that and all of these sections and just real quick, so that you kind of get a feeling for, what are we thinking about in each section in case you need some clarification on what each section is. So we talked about spiritually, this is where are you with your relationship with God? Do you have a relationship with God or are maybe you are going to church every week, but you don't really feel like you're hearing from God, which is one of the things we're going to talk about is are you hearing from God in your life? And how do you know that you're hearing from him? And are you letting the Holy spirit lead you at all? Do you feel those Holy spirit nudges those God winks are your steps in alignment with what you feel you're being called to do. Okay. So those are examples, spiritual, physical. How do you feel is that how you look in the mirror? How do you feel about how you look physically? How do you feel about your body? How do you feel about the movement that you're engaged in every day? I want in this section, because this is a big one for women and we know it. And this is one that, you know, in my, uh, previous episodes, I've talked about it. I've struggled with my body image for a lot of my life. I'm 44 years old, and it's been there for most of my life. And it's 100%. The last thing that I focus on in the past, I want you to be real careful about that. Are these thoughts that you have or about yourself, or is this really factual in what you see? I want you to take it down as factual as you can. So physically, how much do you move in a day and what is the answer? So let's say you take a 10 minute walk every single day, then that's what you think about. And do you feel like that's enough for you? Okay. So are you meeting those goals that you have, have you set goals that you are meeting? And if you don't, then you have some room to grow that you're identifying. Now we will go deeper in this, in each of these sections as we discuss, but I'm just trying to give you some examples of what would be in each section relational. You're going to think about your motherhood. Where are you with that? Your sisterhood or your friendships? Where are you with that? Maybe it's your church relationships, maybe your sir you're serving or volunteering. I like to call it serving, uh, because I don't feel like we're volunteers in the kingdom of God. I think that we're called to serve and love. But where are you with that? Do you feel good about those things or is there work that you feel like you need to do, uh, in your marriage? And if you're single, then you think about the other relationships that you have in your life. You're going to color in again from the middle towards the top of the pie on where you feel like you are relationally. I will tell you that for a long time, for many, many years, my relational was very low because I felt very uncomfortable with my performance and my time and energy that I had for my motherhood. And especially my marriage professional is your career or what you do on a daily basis. If you are a stay at home, mom, and you are managing your household, your CEO of your household, then you can think about that job that you have to maintain your homestead and color in what it is you feel like you are doing in that piece of the pie. So count that in that piece of the pie, because, uh, hun that's, that's a hundred percent your CEO of your homestead. So think about it that way. Okay. And we talked a little bit about financial and then personal is going to be your self care. How are you personally taking care of yourself? That was always a very low one for me as well. This is where your mindset is, how much mindset work do you do? How much self-development work do you do? And that might fall into spiritually because a lot of the self development work I do is related to biblical principles. I don't want you to get too woo here, but just think about, you know, are you taking care of yourself? Because you know, on an airplane, you cannot, if something starts to happen and something goes down, you cannot take care of anybody else. If you don't put that oxygen mask on yourself first. So that should be a balanced piece of your pie. And if it's not, then we got to talk about, you know, how we're going to strengthen that. And there's a solution, a resolution to all of this. I don't want anybody to color in these pieces and be like, man, my life is in shambles. Absolutely not. So this, this is why we do it though. This is putting it in front of us. So now once we've identified this and you've got your pie, you've got your colored in and you see what the, the differences are in each triangle of that pie. Then what I want you to do. And this is something that you can take action on now is thinking about what one thing can you do in each of these sections of this part of these pies? What can you do today to make time? Hi, for each one of those categories? What can you do per week to do something? To help you get a little closer to the top in each one of those categories, this is about small actions, findable steps. And we'll talk about it more as I get into each individual piece of these pies. And some sections might have several episodes like the physical that one's going to have several episodes, for sure, because there's so much that goes into our physical bodies. It's not just about the way we look it's about what we think it's about what we've learned. It's about movement. It's about choices. It's about food. It's about emotions. So that one's going to be several episodes. But what's one thing. If you look at your pie and you say, Oh wow, I am like, I'm super high on the spiritual and the financial. And I feel pretty good about the relational, but I, Whoa, this looks pretty low on the personal and the physical. So what are those, you know, you can do it like that. You can focus on the pieces of the pie that look lower to you. And the other thing I challenge you to do is if you feel like one is way towards the top, while others are down, then look at that piece and ask yourself, what is it about this piece of the pie that is so fun? Why is this so full quickly? The example is like, when I looked at my professional, that was always full, um, so much so for me though. Yeah. And it was overflowing and it was taking up space from the other pieces of my pie. So it started to become damaging. So you have to assess like when I've colored in my PI several months ago, professional was way, way at the top. In fact, I wanted to color past the tippy top of the, of the pie piece, but my other places, most of them, at least four of them, relational, physical and personal three, at least three of them we're pretty low because, cause I didn't have enough time. I wasn't being intentional, intentional. That's not a word ladies. I wasn't being intentional about how to pour into these other pieces and also be successful in that professional career piece of my pie. I wasn't being intentional about it. So if I'm not being intentional about it, there's a reason. And a benefit that comes from that. One of the things about behavior guys is that we behave in certain ways because we get certain benefits and I'll tell you, number one, the benefit I was getting in my professional and career slice of pie was the confidence and competence that I felt from what I did. I I'm an excellent leader. I, and I'm not saying that trying to brag, it's just a gift and it's so much so that I don't know what makes me good at what I do all the time. I mean, I've got people that I supervise back when I was a teenager that I will see or hear from every now and then. And they're like, you were the best boss I ever had. You were the best supervisor ever. And it's like, I just, in fact, can you help me understand what I did differently or said differently than make you say something like that? Because sometimes guys, when we have gifts, we don't even know the gifts that we have. So that's the other thing we'll talk about as we go through this whole process of strengthening our pieces of our pie, we're going to identify with those strengths and those gifts are, and maybe it will help you see on paper, what the passions are that you've been given and what purpose is behind that passion and what you can do with it and why it's a gift and how you can use it. But those things, yes, if you allow them to, they can be overshadowing and take over and take away from other places in your life, which is what I was allowing to happen because I felt so confident and competent in what I was doing. I would just, the truth is I'd rather be at work than have to come home and try to clean up a house where I feel very overwhelmed because it's such a huge mess and I just don't have the time or energy to clean it. And I don't even know where to start and I can't get the help that I need. You see how it goes into this whole big thing. In my mind, these are the thoughts that I'm having that are driving the behaviors and the actions that I'm taking. But that's why I was so comfortable. Just let me work 70 or 80 hours a week because honey, I know I'm good at that. And then I can also escape or avoid the things that I didn't feel like I was great at. Anyway, you see what I'm saying? It's about who we are and what gifts we've been given. This process will help you. And this has gone like way longer than I wanted it to. So these are the way I want you to do, make your circle split into six sections, start coloring it in where you feel fulfilled and you feel like you're doing pretty well at, and then ask yourself questions about where you feel like you're either overflowing or too short. What is the one thing I can do or make time for in that category? And I want you to write it down. And then as we go through this process of strengthening these pieces, we will talk about how we can actually create an action plan to attain some of the goals that we're going to come out of. Just the awareness. Now, the way that you're looking at your life differently so that we can start to make it manageable. Okay. That's the point we want to make it manageable so that we get some results because it's not going to matter if we don't get results. Okay. All right, sisters, hope that made sense. And like I said, if you guys have an idea of what to call this thing, the purpose pie, the whole life wheel series, you know, throw it in there, I'm open for it. You know, I'm not always that creative, but we are going to work on fixing the foundation of your Holy made life. We're going to work on, um, my systems for strengthening and uncovering each of those things piece by piece. We're going to talk about how you're hearing from God. We're going to talk about your motherhood. Uh, we're going to talk about your marriage. We're going to talk about in mind, you know, by the way, because I'm, I'm doing all these things too. We're going to talk about money. We're going to talk about our physical, uh, our bodies. Um, we're going to talk about all of it. All right. So if you have any comments and if you want to take these short assessment, just to get your juices flowing about what questions would you ask yourself about each of these sections? Make sure you hit, hit that and link up in the show notes and we will see you on the next episode. And don't forget, I have a private Facebook group that is just building up a community that we can start to work on. Some of these things together. There's a lot of women in there that we can start to just bounce things off of each other because I promise you there's somebody in that group that if you are short on the financial section of your pie, there is somebody in that group that is amazing at that financial section. And they're going to give you some ideas for action steps. So let's get into community on this. Okay? All right, sisters have an amazing, amazing weekend. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women. Just like us. You're five stars in written review really helps me get the word out. 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EP 13: BONUS  What does a broken arm and a pink cast have to do with great timing? How to take advantage of timing. How to Bend Time for a Busy Mom Hey friends. So what does a pink cast in a plate in my arm with seven screws have to do with great timing. That's what I'm going to let you know about. This was recorded back in 2015, when I had an injury and I wanted to share the information with you. So we'll see you on the inside. Let's dive in. Hey guys, it's Angie Tonini- Rogers. So I have a message to share today because on Saturday Keysha Bass on prosperity mindset call. I was listening to a repeat of that. And on Sunday, pastor Ronnie Harrison preached this and Monday on the way to work, being on my Sirius XM radio channel, preached this yesterday on the way home preach this. So clearly I need to share this with someone else because someone else needs to hear this- because I am getting this message over and over and over…it's timing. And it's timing is everything. And it is stop comparing yourself to other people and where they are because you are in the right place at the right time. And as long as you continue to take action during that time that you're in, you will have your success. You will have your promise. You will, you will attain whatever goal it is that you are working on. It will happen in the timing that it's supposed to happen. Not necessarily in the time and that you want it or you desire it. We don't always know what we ask for. Number one, we ask for it. But number two, sometimes we don't know the ramifications that will happen if we were to get that thing we're asking for right in that moment. So you have to understand that timing is everything and it will happen when it's supposed to happen. Quick story. What of my thing? You know, my, my broken arm here, I injured my cartilage in my wrist and it's called the TFCC. I ripped it a little bit. There was a micro tear in April. Well, it kind of, it healed enough; Or I adapted enough to where I could go back and start doing what I was doing before at work. You can't work where I work with an injury just because it's not safe to do so. So it healed enough. And I adapted enough to where I could go back. Well in September it tour again. And then I was out and I was out from September until, uh, February. We did a lot of PT. We did a lot of OT, just a lot of different appointments to try to see if there's anything else that needs to be done before surgery got scheduled. Well, it ends up, I needed surgery. So in February on the sixth, I think I was scheduled for surgery while I'll get a call the week before saying the surgeon cannot do that, or it wasn't February six might have been the third. Anyway, it, it was. Um, and so then the surgeon called and said, we can't do it that date. So it ended up getting scheduled the day after I returned from my Atlanta trip. And then I had the surgery, they had to actually break my ulnar bone and put a plate and seven screws in it. So I'm not a good experience at all, but nevertheless, an experience. So I had a cat, I had like a soft cast. And then I went on this Monday, not this Monday, but a Monday to get my cast, my hard cast, this cute little thing, but on, and then that, um, it just so happens that on that day there were some leadership changes that happened. And I was able to on Tuesday morning, get called in and asked, can I come and help on an interim basis, cover this position? Okay. New experience, new things that I knew, challenges for me and a new learning experience. And it is being spoken to all around me. So whether or not I need to share my testimony with you so that you know, that things will happen in their own time. And sometimes things will happen that you don't expect to happen, or you think is a bad thing, but ended up being something that helps get you to the right thing. So for example, who wants a broken arm? Not me, but if that's what it took to slow me down. And if that's what it took to get me to this spot, then that's what needed to have happened. So don't worry about what's going on. As long as you are doing the right thing and doing what you know how to do, you're seeking assistance, you are seeking, learning, and growing. Then you're on the right track. So timing is everything. Remember that? Hey friends, I hope you enjoy that episode on God's perfect timing. Even though things don't always work out the way we think it is always going to be perfect timing. Well, listen, how many of you guys have ever thought about starting your own podcast? Well, I just recently finished a course called podcast pro university done by Stephanie gas. She's an amazing podcast star and her class has everything you need to know in order to start your podcast from a to Z, check it out at http://ppu.atrogers.com. See you on the inside. 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EP 12 How Do I Balance My Life? Wholly Made Life Assessment How to Fix the Broken Pieces of Your Life and Come out Stronger. Become more productive in your life Mom Hey, welcome back ladies, and let's get ready because we are going to use this episode to set us up for preparation for our Wholly Made Life assessment. Let's get into it. Useful links: Take the quick "Wholly Made Life Assessment" here Have a question or comment? Email Angie here: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Connect with Angie on FB: angie.toninirogers facebook Connect with Angie in her Facebook Community: Wholly Made Life- Discover Hope, Healing, Purpose Community Group Welcome back to Wholly Made Life. This is Angie, Tonini- Rogers, and I am your host for the podcast. Some of you said you've been listening and we've just gotten through the accountability series, which was, um, I would say a pretty hard series to go through, but I really felt led to talk about some of those things because we're just in a season right now where I think God is calling us to rise up and be who it is. He's calling us to be, be a little bit more bold and courageous in our actions and be more intentional in what it is we're doing in our everyday life, so that he can prepare us to walk in the authority that he's given us to impact the circles that we are meant to impact. The next series that we're going to do is going to be related to your Holy made life. So in the beginning in the trailer, and in the episode one, I talked a lot about the Holy made life assessment, the wheel or the pie of life. And we talked about different sections of your life that are important. The first being physical, and these are not in any particular order, but physical, personal, financial, spiritual, your relationships in your profession. So when I think about a wheel, um, let's talk about it as a wheel of life, or I've talked about it as pieces of your pie, because it looks like a pie. When I think about that, one of the things that I help women with is to really get a good grasp on where they are in their wheel of life, where they are in each piece of their pie, so that they can start to take some easy action steps. Well, simple action steps to become a little bit more balanced in that wheel of life or in those pieces of your pie. The physical just as a reminder, is your health and your wellness. It includes your mental and emotional health. The next one, personal includes your self-care, your self-development and your mindset. The accountability series was a lot working in that personal piece of our pie, that gaining more personal awareness and self-awareness and what we can do differently to start to get some different outcomes in our life and to impact our relationships in our life. More positively and more powerfully. Uh, financial includes basically, are you satisfied with where you Are? Are you creating The legacy that you want to create? Are you able to help the person in the grocery that doesn't have her wallet with her or scans her debit card and it gets declined if you're so moved to do that, would you be able to do that? The other big piece with financial is your money mindset. So what are your beliefs about money? So those are the things that you would think about when you're thinking about whether or not you feel like your financial piece of your pie is balanced. Okay. Spiritual that is related to your relationship with God. Where are you with that? How much time do you spend in a day? And it's not about the number of minutes or number of hours, but it's about the quality of the time that you're spending with God. If you're like me, I talked about this in one of the episodes recently was that I like to bend time. So I have time every morning before my feet hit the floor. I had time that I'm talking to God and praying and thanking him and showing him my gratefulness for who he is in my life and how he has shown up. And quite frankly, if my feet hit the floor before I've done that, I feel a sense of guilt because I feel like I need to do that to start my day off so that I am prepared for whatever it is that happens once my feet hit the ground. So the other things to think about here is okay, back to how you've been time. So I've been time, meaning that I use the time that I already have, or already in doing something else. And I integrate my spiritual relationship with God into that. So for example, while I'm in the bathroom, washing my hands, I'm saying prayers, I'm talking to God while I'm in my car. There's a lot of times I just turn everything off and I pray or I sing worship songs. That's another form of how you can ignite that spiritual part of you. Okay. So relationships, this includes your motherhood, your, or your parenting, your relationship with your husband. So your marriage, it could be your relationship with your, um, friends or coworkers. For me. When I looked at this piece of the pie, when I was working full time as the chief nursing officer, I was working so many hours a week that I was neglecting a lot of my relationships in my life. And I felt very unbalanced. So I felt very confident in my relationships with my coworkers, the time I was spending in that professional piece of my pie, which we'll get to next. But when I looked at my motherhood and my relationship with my husband and relationship with myself, which is back to personal and physical, those things were not balanced. They were not balanced. Now at each time or at, in during seasons, you're going to fluctuate in some of these areas. There are going to be certain times that your profession might need to require more time than your personal or your, you know, you might spend more time spiritually growing than you do with your profession. Okay. There's times that this is going to ebb and flow, but in general, in order for us to really feel the intention of the joy that we've been given, be joyful in all areas of our life and really, truly live our Holy made life. We should be able to take small, simple steps every day to pour into the pieces of these pies, the physical, personal financial, spiritual, relational, and professional. There are small things that we can in each of those areas every day, so that we can feel more fulfilled in all of these areas of our life. And so that's what this next series of your Holy made life assessment is going to be about. We're going to talk about each of these individual pieces of your pie or pieces spokes to the wheel. And we are going to come up with actionable steps that you can take on a daily basis to fill in those areas that you feel like you are a little unbalanced in the last one profession is obviously your career or your business, or if you're a stay at home, mom, it is your duties that you do every day to keep your household okay. Or if you're homeschooling, what I would like to do is make sure that you guys are prepared for, as we go into these next several episodes to discuss each of these pieces. And I have a wholly made life assessment that you can take. It's very simple. It's very short. It's just to get you thinking. And then as we walk through each, each section over the next few weeks, we will elaborate on that assessment. So all that is is it will be in the show notes, you can click the link and fill out the form and give you guys some tips and some action steps that you can take. And by the way, if you need a little bit more assistance in some of these areas, that's what I do. I help coach women creating that Holy made life that they deserve using that assessment. And then we come up with actionable steps and the accountability is the piece that is helpful for most people. I think when you have that accountability partner to help you, not only see things maybe from a different perspective, but have someone that you know is going to follow up with you, and you're going to be accountable to related to the action steps that you have created. That just makes a world of difference. I personally have actually, I have a couple coaches, I'm in a couple of group coaching programs, and I have a personal coach working with over the past several months. And that is because we all need to pour into ourselves and we need someone to check us. We need someone to help us see things that we may not be able to see in our own life. We not, we may not be able to perceive things in a way that someone on the outside could look in and confirm us on affirming us on and also call us out on, in a loving way. That's what I do. And I am happy to help you. If you want to find out more about that, then you can email me at Angie, tonyRogers@gmail.com. And that also is in the show notes. But the next few weeks, we're going to be talking about each of these sections and we will work together to come up with some actionable items that you can focus on in order to get yourself where you're feeling a little bit more fulfilled in whatever areas you feel. You're a little unbalanced. And when you think about a wheel, if you know that a couple of spokes on the wheel are not quite touching the outer wheel, then that wheel is going to not function correctly. So when we're unbalanced in areas of our life, then other places start to fall. For example, when I was working, my energy was spent at work and I remained on call 24 seven. So even when I wasn't at work, my energy and attention and focus was still at work. And so it was impossible for me to really pour into the other areas of my life. Now, all of them had some, some things I was doing in each of those areas, but there were areas that were really low when you look at, um, how much time and how much fruit I was seeing in each of those areas, physicals and example my physical and self-care personal. Now, I always deal with self-awareness and mindset. I'm always doing that. I had a 45 minute commute. And so I consistently listened to books. I listened to the Bible on tape. I did all of those things to continue to fill my mind and to continue to challenge me, to grow professionally personally, spiritually. So I'm pretty good at that for mindset. And that should never stop by the way. I think it's Tony Robbins, who said, if you stop growing, you die. I believe that wholeheartedly. I'm an avid learner. I love learning. And I love learning things about myself because I know that that's the one thing in this world I can control. And if I learn more about myself and then I can work to change in order to impact the people around me, more positively, I love learning about the things that I can do better. I'm just kind of, maybe I'm a little weird like that, but anyway, so that's something I'm good at, but my physical health, that's the last thing I typically do. I typically am the type of person who will put everybody else first at the cost of myself. So like exercise, I, that would be the last thing on my list that I would even think about because I don't have time to do that because I'm doing everything else for everybody else. You know, my health, I recently started making some changes in my health, uh, trying to make better choices, to be a little bit more clean. Um, you know, the things I put on my skin, I want it to be a little more clean and natural and pure, so small things like that. But the big things like exercising and making sure that I am not eating fast food at 10 o'clock at night when I'm driving home from work, those kinds of things fall when you are so unbalanced in another area. So that's just an example. Those are things we're going to talk about in the upcoming series. I'm pretty excited about it because there's, I think that sometimes it feels so overwhelming, but there are small things, simple things that we can do in each of these areas in order to make a huge impact. So we're just going to walk through some of those things together. Okay. Next episode, we will start to go through each of these pieces of your pie, the physical, personal financial, spiritual relationships and profession. In each episode, we'll focus on one of those areas. Okay. So if you want to prepare yourself, make sure you hop over there and take that assessment just so you can have it. And then I'll explain how you can put it into a pie chart so that you can visualize where it is your balance, because I think sometimes visualizing it makes it a little bit more manageable and actually I'll have a bonus episode. That'll get posted this week that was already recorded. I actually refurbished it. It's just about timing in being in the right seasons of timing in using the things that happen to us in a way that reminds us, that it's all in God's perfect timing. And even when things happen to us, that seem to be negative or are hardships. It's all in timing and it's all in preparation. We're always being prepared for something coming. So there's a bonus episode that you'll see this week as well. All right, sisters, are we ready? Let's get ready. Hey, before you go, I'd love for you to hop over to my podcast and give me a review. And you know, I'd love five stars. That's how we can share this thing with other women, just like us. You're five stars and written review really helps me get the word out. You can also take a screenshot of this episode and tag me in your Insta and Facebook stories. And I'll give you a shout out right back, leaving a review and sharing this episode is the best way you can show me some luck. Thanks so much. And I'll see him the next episode. And remember, your smile is like a boomerang, throw one at somebody and it'll come right back.   Useful links: Take the quick "Wholly Made Life Assessment" here Have a question or comment? 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I know you are really good at what you do in your profession or business, but if you're ready to stop ignoring different pieces of your pie and reclaim your whole life, then you are in the right place. Girl, let's tap into the whole life. God has for you and experienced that God sized fulfilled life together. We're going to walk through some boundaries, leadership mindset and restoration in different areas of your life that may need to change. It's going to be some tough workup in here, girl, but we're going to walk this thing out together, uncovering some bold courageous actions that we can take to experience, not just a good life, but your whole life. Are you ready to live your whole life? Holy made. Let's do it. If you enjoyed this episode of the Wholly Made Life Podcast, then make sure to subscribe to the podcast, and don't forget to give Angie a review. 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EP 11 Salty Taste in Your Mouth? Enough with the Gossip, Girl! How to Become the Best Friend, Mom, Wife, Sister, Co-Worker You've always Wanted to Be Accountability Series Part 5 Hey girl, what's up. Welcome back to Wholly Made life. So I want to ask you, do you have a salty taste in your mouth? Have you ever heard that saying, Oh, she's just salty or that let this salty taste in my mouth. So physiologically, that means that your taste buds are becoming more sensitive to salt. So you have a higher salt taste in your mouth, or you have a higher concentration of salt in your saliva that can happen when you get dehydrated. So the first suggestion is to drink more water, water hydrates you okay. It's healthy for your body. It, it, um, flushes out toxins. So we're going to talk about this, not necessarily an actual salt, but I want you to think about this analogy as salt being gossip. Are you ready for today's episode? Let's do it. Take the quick "Wholly Made Life Assessment" here: Wholly Made Life Short Assessment Have a question or comment? Email Angie here: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Connect with Angie on FB: Angie Tonini-Rogers FB page Connect with Angie in her Facebook Community: Wholly Made Life Facebook Community Interested in learning how to start your own podcast? Take a look at this course to learn everything you need to know! ppu.atrogers.com In this episode is going to be short, but sweet. Well, maybe it won't feel that sweet. Maybe it'll feel a little spicy. It might make you even feel a little salty about what we're going to talk about. But I want to challenge you to think about gossip as the salt that makes you feel salty, or like you have too much salt on board. I think it's important to think about this in this analogy, because that's what happens. The more gossip you participate in, the more salty you start to feel about situations and people and the water, the stuff that's going to flush out. Those toxins are the actions we're going to talk about that we can take to take back our lives so that we don't have to feel so salty and so dehydrated. All right. And I apologize ahead of time because I am doing this for my laptop without my microphone and headset, because I'm sitting here watching my youngest Bryson outside, doing an episode of naked and afraid, except that he's closed, uh, he's into this whole camping thing where he's building a Fort and shelter and little places to build fires and all of these things. Uh, I love that kid. He's so creative…anyway. So I'm out here at the kitchen table with my laptop and just getting this episode recorded for you guys short and spicy. Okay. Uh, we're going to talk about the final episode and the accountability series. And that is on gossip. I alluded to this a little bit in the episode related to taking offense, uh, and choosing how that's a choice, uh, to take offense or not to take offense. And even though it's hard, it brings up the feelings and things within us that, you know, when we hear something or a part of an interaction, or maybe we are listening to our pastor preach and we get that feeling of emotion that comes up. Now, some of us have worked a lot on this and we may be a little further along where we don't really get that feeling of offense, but others may not be so far along or haven't practiced that skill of recognizing when those feelings come up for you, that feel convicting. For example, when somebody at work says something to me as a leader, if I've done or said something and somebody at work says something to me that I have, uh, upset them, hurt them. They didn't like the way I did something. And I feel a little bit emotional about that. I started to have some feelings, rise up, maybe I feel a little convicted or defensive. Those are all feelings that come up for us that we just need to stop and identify, what is this feeling? Where's it coming from? Why am I feeling it? And what can I do about it? And being intentional about identifying what those feelings are, so that then we can control our thought around those feelings. So that's what we talked about in the last episode. If you, haven't not in the last one in, um, episode nine, we talked about the taking offense or not taking offense. So if you haven't listened to that, you can go back and listen to that just for some ideas on how you can take back that whole premise of choosing to take offense or not to take offense, being mindful of when you are feeling offended. Okay. So on to gossip. So we talked about when you are offended or you're feeling offended, and you have that conversation with someone else about the way you're feeling or about that interaction, that, that then involves someone else in that trap. Uh, we talked about becoming offended and then acting in that offense because right, as a trap, not only for you and that other person in that relationship, but once you share that information with someone else, you are luring them into the same trap that you are now in. And that other person in the relationship is in. And we talked about how, if I don't like something Susie said to me, and then I go and share that with Emily. Now I've involved Emily in something that arose from an emotion that I had, some stuff that needs to be worked on within me, but because Emily is loyal to me or because we're better friends or because maybe she's had a bad interaction with Susie. Now, she is taking on that spirit of offense about Suzy. That damages not only my relationship was with Susie, but now I've entered information. Given information to Emily that has, has caused her to now hold something, hold a grudge against, or feel offended by something Susie did. And what Susie did her said had nothing to do with Emily. So you see how that creates that circle or that web of, um, this place where we're all trapped within this spirit of offense that leads into what gossip is. The Bible is very good, clear about our actions engagement in gossip in that we should not engage in it. There are so many scriptures that point to the power of our tongue, the words that we say, the accountability and responsibility we'll have about the words that we say. So I just wanted to talk a little bit about how we've got to be intentional about what we're saying and who we're saying it to. It is so often that something is happened between two people. And then you come, you hear from one of those parties, let's call it this one, Jacob and Jesse. So Jesse comes to you and he is upset with something that Jacob has done or said, you're the friend in this situation, you're the person they're coming to. Oftentimes that turns into a, he said, she said, or in this case, Jacob and Jesse, and he said, he said, and so the person that's receiving this information has to make a choice at that point on how they're going to respond. Are they going to play into what Jessie's saying without knowing all of the facts? Because a lot of times what gossip is, is just pieces of information that we, or may not, we may or may not have all the information about. So we're making judgment on something without having all the facts. This goes back into the episode, uh, assuming positive intent that we talked about, where we assume that we know all of the information about the situation and we make judgment against that situation. Or we come to a conclusion about a situation when the reality is, is we're really playing Mad-libs with our life. We are just inserting what we think happened based on what we know about Jesse and Jacob based about our own feelings based about our own past experiences. We're making something up without having all the facts. So that's what gossip turns into is just pieces of information that then we attach definition to emotion too. And it spreads like a cancer. It is something that is damaging on all levels to all parties, to the receiver, to the sidelines, to the, up to the, down, to the all-around it is damaging to anybody that it impacts. So let me talk a little bit about some of the Bible verses that, talk about this, uh, Ephesians four 29 says, let no corrupting talk, come out of your mouths, but only such as good is good for building up as it fits the occasion that it may give grace to those who hear. So what I try to do, and none of us are perfect. You guys. So when we're talking about this being accountable, this is a daily walk. Sometimes it's a minute by minute walk. Okay? Every second we're faced with choices faced with information that we have to make decisions about. So it's an act of being intentional with the information that we have and the information we share. So it's a daily walk, it's a daily practice. So I don't want anybody to feel like so that they can't do something different because every second, every step, every breath, every word is an opportunity to do something different and do something better. We're all striving to be better tomorrow than we are today. I want to be a better parent today than I was yesterday. Heck I want to be a better parent today right now in the moment. Then I was this morning, okay. We all do insane things that we wish we could have done differently. The point is we're being intentional and trying to pause and stop and think about the information that we've received and think about our own reactions and responses to those things. Before we respond and think about if I do or say this thing, what's the intention behind that? What is the outcome going to be? What is, what could the outcome be? Especially when you're thinking about sharing information that you've heard from someone else or participating in a conversation that's about someone that's not there and present to be able to defend themselves or add in their facts about the situation. Proverbs six, 16, 19 says there are six things that the Lord hates seven that are an abomination to him, haughty eyes, aligned, tongue hands, that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run evil, a false witness who breathes out lies. And one who sows discord among brothers. Now let me ask you, in most cases, if you think about the last time you participated in a conversation that had to do with someone or something that wasn't there. Okay. Let's say you were sitting in a group in the person that was being talked about, was not present. Think about that situation. Was that a situation that was sewing a blessing and favor towards the person that wasn't present? Or was it a situation or conversation that could have been sowing discord against that person that wasn't there? Was it a conversation that you would have had in the presence of that person? I tell that to my kids all the time, first of all, lead your life, be a man of character, um, or be, uh, be a man who has a character of integrity is what I meant. Integrity is doing the right thing when nobody's looking, doing the right thing, because it's the right thing, not the easy thing or not, because you're going to get in trouble. If you don't do it doing the right thing when nobody's looking, because it's the right thing with social media. And I just had this conversation with one of my kiddos recently with, okay, that post, when you look at that post, think about if your Mimi sees that, think about if your pastor see that, think about it. I see that. Think about if your teacher saw that, is that posts something you are comfortable with that person seeing when you think about these people that are close to you, people that matter to you, if that's a post that you wouldn't, if that's a conversation that you wouldn't have in front of your Mimi or me or whoever, or if that's a picture that you would feel uncomfortable with your Mimi, seeing Mimi like grandma, then you shouldn't post it. So it's about being intentional about what it is we're putting out into the world. Not because we want to put on a show or present something that's not true, but because we want to try to be obedient with who it is we're called to be, and we're not called to destroy other people or present ourselves in a way which is not in alignment with who it is we are. And we're called to be, when you think about conversations that you're part of or are having, and that the object of that conversation is not there. That the, the person with whom it's about is not there, then think about why are you having it? And number two, would you have that same conversation in the same tone, in the same context, if that person was present? And if you can say yes, then it's probably a conversation that's okay to have. Okay. Unless you're saying to me, Oh yeah, I haven't. Cause I don't care what she thinks about it. Well, that's not really in alignment with who it is we're called to be and how it is we're supposed to, supposed to love our brothers and sisters. Okay. Let's see. I want to just bring up a couple of other scriptures and you guys there's, there's like hundreds of scriptures. I wish I knew how many times gossip was referenced in the Bible. Somebody listening probably knows that if you do send me a message and let me know that is Matthew 12, 26, I'm sorry, Matthew 1236. As I tell you, on the day of judgment, people will give an account for every careless word they speak. So that's it carelessness the lack of deliberate being deliberate, the lack of intention. So that's really it as simple as it gets being intentional about what we're talking about, about what we're reading, about, what we're, um, listening to about what we are watching about or what we're posting on social media, being intentional and trying to think about is this, what's the goal of that conversation? Is it to build somebody up? Because if it's not to build somebody up, then what's it for? Is it to destroy? Is it to get somebody on your side? Is it because you are trying to make somebody look less than or worse than you, which that comes out of jealousy or envy? Is it simply because we don't know what else to talk about with someone maybe we're uncomfortable about making small talks. So we start talking about other people, is it to try to get the attention off of us because we're not comfortable or we don't want anyone to ask questions about us, maybe we're insisting. Sure. So what's the intention of what is you're talking about and you guys right now, I have, I always try to, Hey, very close attention to what I listen to, what I watch, what I see. Like I do not watch the news. I do not the only way I know, and this is, I want to be mindful of what's going on in the world around me. And so I do hear about those things, but I do not watch it and hear it myself. I am intentional about when I hear about something, I am intentional about the sources that I go to, to look up what has happened. Okay. So it's not that I don't know what's going on in the world, but I am very intentional about just sitting and watching the news or reading the newspaper because guys that comes from people and it comes from perspectives of the people, writing it and producing it. So you just have to be mindful of that music. I could not tell you what the most popular song is out right now. I could not tell you because I don't listen to music. Like in my car, I listened to positive podcasts. Mostly of most of them are Christian based, or I listen to worship music. You guys want really good worship music, go check out Lisa. Brunson's a couple of songs she just released. Uh, she's absolutely amazing. And I'm waiting on the violent worship EAP to release, but that's just the plug for some music that I love listening to comes out of my church. I mean, I'm telling y'all we have probably one of the most talented worship teams in the world. I'm just saying, and it's not, because I think there's something wrong with listening to secular music or anything like that. It's just that I try to make the best of the time that I have in the day. And while I'm driving, that's the only time that I'm not preoccupied with anything else other than driving. And it's a great time for me to listen to stuff that I am intentionally listened to, to something from. So it's not that listening and secular music is bad in of itself. And this episode, I'm not going to go into that anyway, but I just wanted to point that out. It's not that I, some getting to choose that never listens to secular music. It's just that I try to use the time that I have. I try to bend time. Honestly, is something else that I do is that every time I'm in the bathroom while I'm by myself, I always pray out loud because I'm trying to bend the time that I have in my day to add stuff into my day. Okay. But anyway, the point is, is that I'm very intentional about what I listen to. I mean, my kids know when they're in my cart, like my kids sometimes choose not to ride with me and they'll ride with my husband and said, or Clayton because they know, um, they're about to hear a podcast. I mean, honestly, is it, am I a bad mom? If I'm okay with them riding with somebody else so that I can have that 15, 20, 30 minutes by myself, you guys, what I, one of the things I miss most about my commute to work is that 45 minute commute is that time I had by myself for 45 minutes just to be by myself. Okay. No, that doesn't make me a bad mom just makes me real. Okay. So the other thing is that I can tell a difference with who they've been riding with. Uh, when I hear Bryson walking around singing, uh, worship music, it's because that's what he's been listening to. So there's something very real about what it is. We fill our time and space and mind with that impacts what it is we do and say, it's, there's something very real about that. This is why reading scripture every day, doing daily devotional, spending time with God being in your church, community, being surrounded with people with like-mindedness though. That's why that's so important. My pastor always says what you touch, touches you back. And that's a hundred percent true. It's not that anything's wrong with listening to music. Like I love the nineties. And if you asked me what my favorite music is, it's going to be something from the nineties. But I am intentional about what I listen to because I, I want to make sure that what feels up my mind in the times where I'm not really being intentional about what it is I'm doing. I want the positive stuff to come up first. Okay. The worship music to come up first in my head versus California love from back in the nineties, uh, with Tupac and Dr. Dre y'all know what I'm talking about. Okay. Um, that's really kinda what I wanted to talk about related to gossip. It's just the best thing that you can do is number one, not participate. Number two, just be intentional. And if you're bold and courageous enough, speak up when you're in a car that doesn't have to do with someone that's not present, or that has to deal with someone that's not present. Okay. Back to my quick, uh, analogy at work. When somebody comes to me with an issue, when Jessica comes to me with an issue with Josh, I equip Jesse to be able to understand, first of all, I point him in, on himself on what he can do differently, how he can go back and address the situation in a way that would hopefully encourage a positive outcome repair in a relationship. If that's been damaged, maybe help him see that there could be other perspectives or pieces of information that he may not have been privy to and help him think about the situation a little bit differently. And then if, if Jesse can't do that or is not comfortable doing that, then I pulled, uh, Jacob in and the three of us have a conversation where I allow them to have the conversation because one hun, well, 99.99% of the time there's been a miscommunication or a misunderstanding between the two of them. And they, they thought one mint, something else. When they said a certain thing, they filled in the gaps. They mad-libbed that conversation between the two of them. They thought, you know, Jacob thought Jesse meant this. And Jesse thought, Jacob meant that. And the reality is, was it was just a miscommunication to begin with because, you know, they didn't fill in the gaps with truth. They didn't give each other enough grace or forgiveness, or they just didn't ask the other person what they meant by that. They didn't, they weren't honest with the way the interaction made them feel with each other. So that three way then helps each of them see, Oh, wow, there's a different perspective. Or, Oh, wow. I didn't mean that at all. That's not at all. What was happening? What was happening was this, this, and this had just happened. I was upset about this. And so I was short with you when you asked me that question, it wasn't about you. So, so much can be resolved when you actually try to fill in the gaps with real factual information. And you actually go to that person and find out how they feel about it, or what happened with them back to your bull courageous action. When you're in a conversation where you hear people talking about someone who's not present, why not just say, Hey, has anybody talked to this person about this? You know, were you present? Did you actually see this interaction happen? Or is this hearsay? Do you have all the facts to the situation? You know, I think it would only be quote unquote fair to have her be present for a conversation or for you to go to her and ask her what she thinks about what happened. Okay. It takes more time to do this, but it, so it's so much more beneficial to your relationships when you can do it. And when you're intentional about the reasons that you are having conversations, it's so much more beneficial to your relationship. And it's freeing to not have to be burdened by gossip because gossip is a burden on the person that speaks it on the person that it's about and on the ears that hear it, it's a burden. So let's be bold enough to not create more burdens for ourselves and for others. All right, sisters, all right, that's it for the accountability series for now, this was a hard series for me to talk about because as I stated, we're all walking this out every day and nobody has it all right, yet. Nobody is perfect with this yet. And nobody will ever be. It's always a day to day decision. It's always with, you know, one step at a time, one day at a time, one word at a time, one thought at a time, one action at a time, just break it down to bite size pieces, break it down to one conversation and practice the skill of stopping and thinking about the outcome that could occur with whatever it is you're going to say next or with however it is, you're going to respond in this situation. 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