Podcasts about Codependency

When you're a high-functioning codependent, you don't look stuck. You look capable. You're the one who pulls everything together, gets it all done, and rarely asks for help. People see you as someone who has it handled. But there's a cost. And recovering from being a high-functioning codependent is the path to living the happy, healthy, balanced life you deserve. I created the HFC Recovery Code because people kept asking me for a condensed list to help them remember their rights and responsibilities when they're feeling overwhelmed or pulled toward doing too much. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/799

Nervous System Healing to End Codependency is my free, 90-minute workshop where you'll learn my 3-part somatic framework to free yourself from codependency and live a fully embodied life. Join me live on January 27th, 2026, at 3pm ET or January 28th, 2026, at 12pm ET. Click here to register for free: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/nervoussystemwebinar

We've been talking about God's natural design for release of dopamine, and how the enemy can distort that and even hijack His original design as it relates to sex in the confines of a marriage. What are some ways the enemy lies to us around sex? What are the costs to this? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, will dive into part one of this important topic and how we can learn and grow through the counterfeit ways the enemy hijacks God's design and get back to the natural God-given gift design to walk in healthy intimacy with God and others.

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Dr. Keith Humphreys is a professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Stanford School of Medicine and a leading expert on treating addictions, drug laws and policy. We discuss all the major addictive substances and behaviors, including alcohol, opioids, gambling, stimulants, nicotine, cannabis and more, focusing on how genetics and certain use patterns shape addiction susceptibility. We discuss the best evidence-based tools for recovery, from 12-step programs to emerging treatments such as psychedelics and ibogaine. Anyone interested in making better choices for their health and/or seeking to avoid or overcome addictions ought to benefit from this episode. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman David: https://davidprotein.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman Helix Sleep: https://helixsleep.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:58) Keith Humphreys (00:03:22) Addiction; Genetic Risk (00:09:14) Alcohol Use Disorder & Alcoholism; Genetic Predisposition & Addiction Risk (00:18:03) Sponsors: David & BetterHelp (00:20:37) Women & Alcohol Use; Young Adults; Cannabis Use (00:23:36) Health Benefit to Alcohol?, Red Wine, Cancer Risk; Social Pressure (00:31:47) Alcohol in Social Gatherings, Social Anxiety, Vulnerability, Work & Dates (00:37:41) Old vs New Cannabis & THC Levels; Smoked vs Edible Forms (00:44:38) Cannabis & Psychosis Risk; Cardiac Health; Youth Cannabis Use & Transition to Adulthood (00:52:29) Sponsor: AG1 (00:54:13) Industries of Addiction, Regulation; Gambling, Slot Machines, Novelty; Casinos (01:05:28) Decriminalization vs Legalization; Cannabis, Gateway Drug? (01:08:50) Psylocibin or LSD, Addiction Treatment; Microdosing, Clinical Trial Challenges (01:18:58) Sponsor: Helix Sleep (01:20:32) Brain Plasticity & Age; Ketamine, Depression, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) (01:28:10) SSRIs, Mass Shootings, Suicide, Side Effects; Drug Approval; Ibogaine & PTSD (01:36:10) Caffeine Addiction?; Stimulants & Rehab; Prescription Stimulants & ADHD (01:44:04) Nicotine, Mistaking Withdrawal for Benefit (01:47:24) Sponsor: LMNT (01:48:44) Tool: How to Talk to Someone with Addiction (01:55:23) Perception of Addicts, Character Defect, Pain (02:00:58) Overcoming Addiction, Immediate Rewards, AA; Addict & Co-Dependency? (02:09:53) Longterm Drug Use, Dopamine, Cues & Relapse; Social Media (02:16:21) Brain Stimulation, TMS; Homelessness, Substance Use & Rehab (02:26:11) Addiction Treatment Policy, Rehab & Insurance (02:29:08) Tool: 12-Step Programs, AA, Accessibility & Benefits (02:38:08) AA, Higher Power, Cult?; Flexibility, Tool: Open AA Meetings (02:44:38) GLP-1s, Weight Loss, Alcohol Addiction; Pharmaceutical Advertisements (02:52:39) Social Media Addiction, Tool: Avoiding Social Media Strategies (02:58:36) “Failure to Launch”, Youth, Video Games, Social Media; Recovery Pathways (03:04:13) AA as an Action Program, Tool: Try Different AA Meetings (03:08:21) Hospice, Death, Overcoming Fear of Death (03:13:54) Addiction to Escape Death?, Desire for Oblivion (03:18:11) Men vs Women & Addiction; Lying; Relapse; Fentanyl & Addiction Advice (03:24:27) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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If you want to feel happier in your relationships, understanding Enneagram types changes everything. This growth-focused conversation dives into love, happiness, and emotional intimacy through the lens of personality. You'll learn why different Enneagram personality types experience emotions and relationships differently and how couples can grow and heal by improving communication, mindset, and self-awareness through understanding each other's Enneagram type. In this episode, I'm sharing a meaningful and wide-ranging conversation with Ian Morgan Cron, a bestselling author, psychotherapist, Enneagram teacher, and host of the Typology podcast. Together, we explore how Enneagram types shape relationship dynamics, why misunderstandings happen even in loving partnerships, and how learning each other's emotional wiring can lead to deeper connection instead of ongoing frustration. We talk about why love and attachment can feel so powerful, why it's often harder than expected to let go of unhealthy relationships, and how personality patterns influence conflict, empathy, and emotional pacing. We also dig into Enneagram and relationships, including how different Enneagram types process feelings, respond to stress, and experience intimacy in very different ways. I share personal insights about discovering my own Enneagram 7 tendencies and how that awareness changed the way I understand closeness, independence, and emotional connection in my own relationships. As you listen, I invite you to notice where you may be assuming your partner experiences the world the same way you do. Understanding Enneagram personality types isn't about labeling or fixing yourself or your partner. It's about building compassion, improving communication, and creating relationships where both people feel understood and emotionally safe. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Relationship Mistake That Affects All Enneagram Types 03:55 Dr. Lisa's Enneagram Shift: From Type 3 to Enneagram 7 10:15 Enneagram Testing and Why Many People Mistype 15:54 Enneagram 7 in Relationships: Emotional Pacing and Empathy 23:43 Is Love Addictive? Attachment and Codependency in Relationships 34:50 Enneagram Types and Relationships: Using Differences to Grow 39:13 Compatibility vs. Companionability in Enneagram Relationships 52:05 A Relationship Exercise to Understand Your Enneagram Dynamic If this episode helped you see your relationship patterns more clearly, or helped you understand why certain dynamics keep repeating, I'd love to offer you a thoughtful next step. You're invited to schedule a free consultation designed to help you find the right kind of support for where you are right now. By answering three quick questions, we'll thoughtfully match you with a counselor or coach who understands relationships, personality, and the kind of growth you're working toward. This is a private, secure experience and a genuine gift of support, and it only takes a couple of minutes to get started. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

Send one way text to Rev Rachel You Can Be Happy Even When Others Aren't: Acceptance as a Path to Healing from CodependencyOne of the most painful beliefs many of us carry is that we can only be okay when the people around us are okay.This belief sits at the core of codependency, people-pleasing, control, and self-abandonment. It keeps us exhausted, anxious, and disconnected from our own lives as we try to manage, fix, or emotionally carry the experiences of others.In this episode, I introduce the theme for 2026 on the Recover Your Soul Podcast: Acceptance as a Path to Peace. We explore what acceptance really means from a spiritual perspective and what it does not mean. Acceptance is not giving up, denying reality, or tolerating what harms us. It is learning to see what is clearly, without resistance, so we can stop abandoning ourselves and begin healing.This episode invites you to consider a new possibility:That your happiness does not require anyone else to change or heal.In this episode, we explore:How codependency teaches us to tie our well-being to othersWhy accRecover Your SOUL CIRCLE Group coaching with Rev Rachel is now open for enrollment.Join a sacred space to deepen your healing, connect in community, and walk the Recover Your Soul Process together:  1. Parents of Adult Children 2. Partners & Family 3.Alumni IntegrationYour Soul Circle is waiting. Start your journey with the FREE Recover Your Soul™ 9-Step Mini-Workbook- A gentle spiritual path to healing, letting go, and awakening. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts

In this episode of Shoulders Down Podcast, Leah talks with therapist and certified intuitive eating counselor, Libby Supan, about her 15 years in Overeaters Anonymous (OA) — and why she ultimately believes the program worsened her eating disorder rather than healed it.Libby shares how OA's abstinence-based model, the idea of food and sugar addiction, and rigid sponsorship dynamics fueled binge eating, shame, and co-dependency. Together, Leah and Libby unpack the concept of “fat serenity,” the fatphobia embedded in the OA ethos, and why abstinence backfires.Libby also explains how eating disorder treatment and intuitive eating helped her rebuild trust with her body, move away from restriction, and find a more sustainable path to recovery.You'll hear about:What Overeaters Anonymous (OA) is and how it worksThe link between abstinence, restriction, and binge eatingWhy the Food addiction model is inherently flawedSponsorship, power dynamics, and co-dependency in OA“Fat serenity” & fatphobia in the OA communityHow Libby left OA after 15 years and found true healing Mentioned in the episode:https://leahkernrd.com/are-you-addicted-to-sugar/More From Libby:Website: https://www.libbysupan.com/More From Leah:

Have you ever found yourself in a place of fatigue, depression, isolating from others and just feeling like you're tolerance for things that used to bring life joy just aren't there anymore? There could be many things that contribute to this, but one of the things that can be contributing is something called dopamine crash. How does the dopamine crash take us out of God's design for life? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, will unpack what a dopamine crash is and how going outside of God's design for stimulation and natural dopamine release can lead to unhealthy consequences. There is hope and a way out of it if we're willing to acknowledge it and understand it and invite God and others into it.

We're going live with psychotherapist Shavaun Scott to break down the family dynamics at the center of the Nick Reiner case.This isn't about the crime itself. This is about the seventeen years that led up to it. The family system that couldn't say no. The parents who gave everything and got nothing back. The siblings who watched from the sidelines. The pattern that sources say is continuing even now — with estate money reportedly funding Nick's defense.Rob and Michele Reiner did everything for their son Nick. Eighteen rehab programs. Ten thousand dollars a month in allowance. A guest house on their property. A movie made together about his struggles. They absorbed his chaos, paid his bills, cleaned up his messes, and kept him close even when sources say they were afraid of him.Shavaun Scott will help us understand what was happening inside this family from a clinical perspective. Why couldn't they set boundaries? What kept them locked in a pattern of enabling that wasn't working? What happens to the other children when all the family's resources flow toward one sibling's problems? And what's driving the surviving siblings' decision to fund Nick's defense — is it love, guilt, or the same pattern that killed their parents?Join us live. Bring your questions. This is going to be a difficult conversation about what happens when love becomes the problem.#NickReiner #RobReiner #ShavaunScott #LiveStream #HiddenKillers #Codependency #FamilyDynamics #TrueCrime #Enabling #PsychologyJoin Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISDOES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspodInstagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/tonybpodListen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872

Believing in yourself is tough.  Believing in yourself after verbal and emotional abuse is even tougher.  So often we have someone else's negative words in our head, and it can create a lot of self doubt.  (If you missed it, go back and listen to episode 141. Core 4 Wounds of Narcissistic Abuse: Self Doubt.)  Typically someone dysfunctional (and highly dysregulated) had to put YOU down in order to make THEMSELVES feel better.  It was THEIR projection, THEIR insecurity, masked as inadequacy in you.  But you don't have to take that on anymore.  Believing in yourself is a choice, and some days we have to consciously choose it, because it's easier for our brains to NOT believe in ourselves.  Keep listening as I share how to do this.  And if you'd like some help believing in yourself more this year,  Reclaiming your goals, your body, your self worth,  I'd love to help.  Schedule your free Clarity Call – A space to move from confusion to clarity together. www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule  Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:26) - The Magic of Believing in Yourself(00:06:07) - How to Love Yourself When Self-Question is Triggering(00:15:23) - The Power of Codependency(00:18:33) - What Do You Want to Believe About Your Divorce?(00:20:33) - Believing in Yourself: The Weight Loss Journey(00:28:14) - What is it like to lose weight before getting married?(00:29:01) - What's For You?: Surrender to God(00:33:55) - Believing in Yourself(00:41:09) - Break the Cycle

There's something incredibly powerful when we get to hear the hope and life change that happens in one of our brothers and sisters in Christ. When we hear another's story, it gives us hope to keep going ourselves. Listen in as Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, interview Jim, to hear an encouraging word and a portion of a powerful life change story.

In codependency, family systems and love can get tangled up with control and fear. Are you trying to set healthy, God-honoring boundaries — but your family responds with guilt, manipulation, or threats to cut you off? If this speaks to your heart, you're not alone. Join us Monday at 7:30 PM EST as we unpack this powerful question and discover how to walk in the freedom, peace, and confidence God has for you. Emotionally Immature Person YouTube video: https://youtu.be/oTa2S8OSmdY?si=_prxDMEwkueJtPX1 Honoring your parents as an adult: YouTube video https://youtu.be/so-InS3jtAA?si=jWq9Y-ZNHNAApLaJ God has timeless truths to help you navigate life and live in freedom as He intended. Join us LIVE on Mondays at 7:30 PM ET where we answer your questions on how to Conquer Codependency God's Way. Do you have a question you would like Aliene to address? We've got you! Just leave your question in the comments below or email questions@treasuredministries.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment if this episode resonates with you! For more information/resources check out the links below: ⇨ Visit the Treasured Ministries Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ ⇨ Join the Treasured Tribe https://treasuredtribe.com/ ⇨ Sign up for our FREE newsletter and get inspiration for your faith journey https://treasuredministries.activehos... ⇨ Donate: https://treasuredministries.com/donate/ ⇨Sign up for retreat https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ _____________________ Treasured Ministries provides discipleship, biblical resources, and community for women so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. For more information visit https://treasuredministries.com ______________________ Aliene Thompson is the president of Treasured Ministries International, the creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method, and the founder of the Treasured Tribe, an online Christian community for women. Her popular series on YouTube, "Conquering Codependency God's Way", helps women worldwide move from codependency to God dependency so they can live in freedom as God intended. #codependence #conqueringcodependency

In this episode we break down Chapter 5 of Nedra Glover Tawwab's Set Boundaries, Find Peace and show you exactly what boundary violations look like in real life. We walk through micro and macro boundary violations, microaggressions, oversharing, guilt trips, enmeshment, codependency, trauma bonding and counter dependency, using real examples of toxic relationships, emotional manipulation, mixed messages, people pleasing and walking on eggshells in dating, marriage, family, friendships and at work. You will hear scripts and phrases to call out gaslighting and guilt tripping, how to say no without over explaining, how to shut down trauma dumping and microaggressions, and how to stop drowning for people who refuse to stand in three inches of water.If you are a people pleaser, recovering codependent, or stuck in a toxic relationship, this conversation will help you recognize red flags, set clear boundaries and reclaim your time, energy and peace. We close with powerful reflection questions on how your life will change with healthy boundaries and challenge you to pick one relationship where you finally stand your ground instead of being the ground they walk on, then share your biggest boundary struggle and what you're doing to work on it in the comments so your story can help someone else. Keywords: boundaries, boundary violations, healthy boundaries, people pleasing, codependency, enmeshment, trauma bonding, counter dependency, microaggressions, guilt trips, toxic relationships, emotional abuse, gaslighting, Nedra Glover Tawwab, Set Boundaries Find Peace, relationship advice, healing journey, personal growth.Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

Learn to recognize the dysfunctional tendencies of people-pleasing and codependency, why those behaviors cause big problems, and how to break free from people-pleasing and codependency!

Send one way text to Rev Rachel While I am away this month, I'm sharing another listener-favorite replay from the Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast. This episode comes from our reflections on Al-Anon through the lens of the Recover Your Soul Process, exploring one of the most life-changing shifts on this journey: the surrender that frees us from codependency.So many of us have lived in the exhausting cycle of trying to fix, control, or anticipate someone else's behavior. We analyze every interaction. We hold silent resentments. We tense our bodies hoping we can make everything okay. But eventually the strain becomes too much. We feel tired. We feel defeated. And we know something has to change.In today's episode, we reflect on a powerful reading from In All Our Affairs that asks the simple, courageous question:Am I willing to give up the struggle?This invitation isn't resignation. It's remembering your own wholeness and handing back what was never yours to carry. It's letting go of the quiet contempt, the overthinking, the need to understand every detail, and the belief that your safety depends on managing someone else's life.When we choose surrender, we choose peace.When we stop trying to control the uncontrollable, something softens.If this episode speaks to you, you may love listening each week to the Recover Your Soul Bonus Podcast. Apple Podcast subscribers and Patreon members receive an extra episode every Friday, a beautiful w Start your journey with the FREE Recover Your Soul™ 9-Step Mini-Workbook- A gentle spiritual path to healing, letting go, and awakening. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts

One of the misconceptions of the enemy is that he is big, loud, and easy to see coming our way. But the truth is, that he is slow, sneaky, and even strategic in how he tries to get us off course. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will talk about some things to be aware of and the lies the enemy can feed us as he prowls around like a lion seeking to devour us. Listen in and find some practical ways to combat the enemies sabotage attempts so that we can keep moving and growing forward in our recovery with our forever family, and Jesus Christ as our higher power.

Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it's not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you're spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down.This isn't weakness. It isn't you being dramatic.It's rejection sensitivity—and most men who grew up in chaotic, unpredictable, or emotionally unstable homes are living with it without ever knowing what it's called.In this episode, I'll break down:— Why some men live relationships on “hard mode” — How your childhood wired your brain to scan for danger — Why neutral things feel like personal attacks — Why you over-apologize, over-explain, and overreact — How rejection sensitivity contributes to sexless marriages — Why anxious men attract avoidant or narcissistic partners — And, most importantly, what you can do to rewire thisIf you're neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood.You're not broken. You're trained. And you can retrain yourself.If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability.► Get my book REBUILD on Amazon (hardcover, Kindle, or audiobook for members): https://a.co/d/e6KBqYE► Join The Brotherhood – private men's community, daily Zoom groups, 1,300+ hours of audio, coaching, and more: https://helpformen.com/join

In recovery, one of the essential principles that we need to fuel our recovery is Hope. If the enemy can get inside our head and heart and convince us that our situation is hopeless and there's no point in moving forward, he has us right where he wants us. But there is another way and some things to think about that can keep the enemy from winning his sabotage efforts. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will lean into some things and ways the enemy might try to sabotage our recovery with hopelessness as we face our situations. Listen in and being encouraged. 

In this episode of Sharing Without Shame, Donna Marston welcomes Darlene Lancer, licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and internationally recognized expert on codependency, shame, and emotional healing.With over 30 years of clinical experience, Darlene shares how shame often sits at the core of addiction, codependency, anxiety, depression, and unhealthy family dynamics—and why healing symptoms alone isn't enough.Together, Donna and Darlene explore how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, how families unintentionally pass down shame, and why setting boundaries is essential for both recovery and peace.In this episode, we discuss:- The difference between shame and guilt and why it matters- How childhood emotional suppression fuels codependency- Why addiction is often a form of self-soothing, not rebellion- The connection between shame, anxiety, and perfectionism- How families absorb and carry shame around addiction- Why enabling feels like love but often causes harm- Detachment, boundaries, and letting others experience consequences- Gaslighting, loss of self-trust, and emotional survival in addiction- Why healing must address the emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical selfDarlene also shares practical insights on recognizing inner criticism, rebuilding self-esteem, and beginning the process of releasing long-held shame.About the Guest:Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT is the author of Codependency For Dummies, Conquering Shame and Codependency, Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, and several workbooks and healing resources. Connect with Darlene:Darlene Lancer: https://darlenelancer.com/What is Codependency: https://whatiscodependency.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/codependencyrecovery/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/darlenelancerlmft/

This is our 200th episode of Reimagining Love! And to celebrate, Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, to answer your questions. They cover topics such as emotional interdependency versus codependency, infidelity and avoidant attachment, resentment in a marriage, identifying needs in a situationship, and navigating grief and identity formation after divorce.Thank you so much for submitting your listener questions! Even when they are not selected for these Mailbag-type episodes, they continually inform our content.We love to hear from you! Submit a Listener Question here:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Thriving Through the Holiday Chaos on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/holidaysFor Question 2 (infidelity + avoidant attachment) -Dr. Alexandra's E-Course  - Can I Trust You Again? (rebuilding after betrayal or deceit) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitReimagining Love episode, When You're the Affair Partner https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/Reimagining Love Episodes on Attachment:Jessica Baum (releasing in February 2026)From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/from-the-inside-out-attachment-theory-mindful-parenting-with-dr-dan-siegel/Exploring Attachment: Transform Your Relationship Patterns with Thais Gibson: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/exploring-attachment-transform-your-relationship-patterns/Secure Attachments: The Felt Sense of Love with Julie Menanno: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/secure-attachments-the-felt-sense-of-love-with-julie-menanno/For Question 3 (resentment in marriage) -Reimagining Love episode, My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/my-9-favorite-resentment-busting-strategies/Reimagining Love episode, When Shame Blocks Repair https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/For Question 4 (identifying needs in situationship) -Reimagining Love episode, Is Your “Situationship” Working? https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/is-your-situationship-working/Dr. Alexandra's E-Course - Intimate Relationships 101: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/offers/Q7LEbtEX/checkoutFor Question 5 (navigating grief and identity formation after divorce) -Reimagining Love episode, Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/guidance-for-the-newly-single/Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn from Dr. Alexandra (E-courses: Intimate Relationships 101 or Can I Trust You Again?): https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This episode is a switch-up: Samantha is the one in the hot seat, interviewed by her dear friend Dr. Onalee Makam, for a grounded, honest conversation about relationships—and what it actually takes to call in a true life partner.If you've ever said, “Love has been hard,” or “There aren't any good men,” or “No one can handle me,” this is your gentle (but firm) reality check. Samantha pulls back the curtain on the real process behind meeting her husband, Kurt: the mindset rewiring, the nervous system work, the identity shift, and the practical action that gets skipped when people reduce love to “just make a list.”You'll hear why healthy relationship examples matter, how Samantha's “ask hot guys out” era helped her expose anxious attachment patterns, and why your relationship won't thrive if your partner is your only source of emotional oxygen. This is a conversation about safety, self-respect, magnetism, and building a life so full you're not begging love to complete it.If you want a relationship that feels like two best friends on the same team—this one will expand what you believe is possible.RESOURCES + LINKSWork with Sam @ Voice and Visibility: www.voiceandvisibility.comJoin My Newsletter: https://voiceandvisibility.myflodesk.com/optinFollow Samantha on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thesamanthawarrenFollow Samantha on Tiktok: www.tiktok.com/voiceandvisibilitySubscribe on Youtube healthy relationship dynamics, how to find a life partner, calling in your soulmate, manifestation and relationships, anxious attachment healing, codependency in relationships, feminine energy and magnetism, how to be more feminine in relationship, dating to marry, how to know you're in the right relationship, relationship green flags, hyper independence healing, healing relationship with the masculine, self worth and love, relationship advice for high achieving women, surrender and trust in relationships, building a secure relationship, how to keep spark alive in marriage

The salient point of this podcast episode revolves around the exploration of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and its profound implications for emotional health and well-being. I am joined by Sophia Torini, an expert in the field, as we delve into the intricacies of EFT, which combines cognitive psychotherapy with the practice of tapping on specific acupuncture points on the body. We elucidate how unprocessed emotions can manifest physically, potentially leading to illness, and how EFT serves as a mechanism to release these emotional blockages. Throughout our dialogue, we emphasize the necessity of acknowledging and processing our emotions, which are often stored within the body and can hinder personal growth and healing. Our conversation aims to enlighten listeners on the efficacy of EFT as a self-healing modality, empowering individuals to reclaim their emotional well-being and navigate their journeys toward holistic living.

For those of us who are (or have been):  emotional eaters,  in emotionally abusive or neglectful relationships,  or struggled with your self-worth,  Food, your weight, and people were never the real issues.  *The key problem was the identity you were forced to develop in order to survive.* You learned to abandon your own needs to stay safe, loved, accepted, or chosen. One of the most profound questions we can ask is:  “Who was I before the world told me who to be?”   This is how we get to the deeper layers driving your emotional eating, attracting emotionally abusive or neglectful people, and ultimately keeping you stuck in the same patterns year after year.  Ready to break free?  Keep listening and I'll show you how.  When you're ready to come work with me and reclaim your life, your vision, your voice, and your power, schedule your free consultation at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule.  This is your one precious life.  Let's make it count. Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:26) - Why Relationships and Diets feel so hard(00:05:43) - Weight Loss and Codependency(00:08:59) - How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship(00:13:02) - How codependency affects our nervous system(00:14:26) - How to Get Out of Toxic Relationships(00:18:48) - How To Cultivate a Perfect Body With Restriction(00:21:50) - Why Weight Loss Feels So Hard(00:25:54) - How to Love Yourself Now(00:32:08) - Don't Let Your Child Struggle(00:34:41) - How to Heal Your Self-Worth(00:41:24) - How To Become The Girl Of Your Dreams(00:44:02) - How to Reclaim Your Identity(00:49:53) - How to Heal Your Relationships With Food, Alcohol(00:51:15) - Break the Cycle

What if the reason you can’t say no isn’t weakness, but conditioning? From childhood, so many of us were taught that love had to be earned, that being good meant staying quiet, agreeable, and available. But somewhere along the way, that survival strategy became self-betrayal. In this powerful episode, bestselling author and trauma recovery coach Lisa A. Romano reveals the truth about codependency: it’s not about needing others too much, but about forgetting who you are. She explains why guilt floods your body when you set a boundary and how healing begins the moment you realise your inner critic isn’t actually your voice—it’s an echo from your past. This is a conversation for anyone who’s tired of people-pleasing, over-giving, or shrinking themselves to keep the peace. Because real love doesn’t require you to abandon yourself. It begins the moment you come home to you. The Woman Who Broke the Cycle Lisa A. Romano didn’t just study codependency—she lived it. Growing up with parents who were adult children of alcoholics, one highly narcissistic and the other deeply codependent, Lisa carried shame throughout her entire childhood. She believed something about her made it impossible for her parents to love her. This pattern followed her into adulthood. She married a man similar to her mother, repeating the cycle of seeking approval and subjugating herself. After a severe breakdown and six therapists, she finally received the diagnosis that changed everything: codependency. The tragedy that catalysed her mission came when her brother-in-law, also an adult child of alcoholics, took his own life. In that devastating moment, Lisa realised that if he had understood codependency and childhood trauma the way she now did, he might still be alive. She pushed past her fears of what her family would think and published her first book, “The Road Back to Me,” which became an Amazon bestseller overnight. Today, as a certified life coach and leading expert in codependency and childhood trauma recovery, Lisa has helped over 5,000 students heal through her signature 12-week Breakthrough Method, blending neuroscience, trauma-informed coaching, mindfulness, and spiritual wisdom. What Codependency Actually Means “When you’re codependent, you don’t know that you’re codependent until your life becomes unmanageable,” Lisa explains. It operates completely below conscious awareness, a loop of childhood trauma disguised as personality. Codependency isn’t just people-pleasing. It’s people-pleasing from a loss of selfhood. It’s cleaning the house but needing your husband to walk in and pat you on the back. Making his favorite meal but requiring him to make a big deal about it. Watching your sister’s kids but expecting her to watch yours in return without having to ask. “With codependency, it’s an emotional enmeshment,” Lisa reveals. “I lose my sense of self and I’m emotionally reliant on someone in a very unhealthy way, and I don’t even realize it.” The dangerous part? Codependents often think they’re “the good one.” They’re the fixers, the caretakers, the ones always willing to listen. But beneath that giving is resentment, unmet expectations, and the victim mentality that comes from abandoning yourself while trying to avoid being abandoned by others. Why You Can’t Say No: The Childhood Programming The guilt you feel when setting boundaries isn’t random. It’s precisely programmed survival wiring from your first three years of life. “Your needs aren’t being served, your ego-based needs from zero to three,” Lisa explains. “You’re in a theta brainwave state, which is a hypnotic brainwave state.” During this critical period, if your narcissistic needs—the healthy developmental need to matter, to be seen, to have your feelings validated—go unmet, you don’t develop a solid ego boundary. Between ages three and five, children are supposed to be “little narcissists.” The adults around them should be managing what shows up inside them, helping them emotionally regulate, and teaching them that their feelings matter. When this doesn’t happen, children learn that they don’t have the right to feel, and therefore don’t have the right to set boundaries. “If I say no, I might get abandoned or criticised or judged or shamed or banished from the kingdom,” Lisa describes. “That’s all stored.” The brain creates a predictive model: saying no produces guilt as a way to prevent abandonment. You’re abandoning yourself to avoid outer abandonment. Operating Below the Veil “Below the veil of consciousness, we’re just operating on a loop,” Lisa says. “We’re operating on childhood trauma. These are belief systems. They’ve become habitual thoughts. It becomes part of our persona.” The subconscious mind is 500,000 to a million times stronger than the conscious mind. Most of your daily interactions are products of subconscious beliefs you’ve never questioned. You’re not living authentically—you’re recycling thoughts and patterns downloaded in childhood. “It’s hard to be yourself when you were taught that yourself was not worthy of love,” Lisa reflects. “How do you love a self that your childhood conditioned you to believe was not worthy of love?” The terror of being authentic becomes greater than the pain of being inauthentic. So you stay small, you people-please, you anticipate everyone else’s needs, and you resent them for not reading your mind. The Deep Questions That Activate Healing Lisa believes the gateway to transformation is uncomfortable self-inquiry: “How happy am I? How excited am I to get up in the morning? Do I really like my partner or do I resent them?” These are the questions we avoid by going to yoga and drinking Starbucks, she says with a laugh. We go through the motions in our relationships without examining how we’re showing up. “Do I say yes when I mean no? Do I race to solve other people’s problems with the intention for them to see me and find worthiness in me? Am I taking care of everybody else at the expense of myself? Am I secretly resentful?” These self-inquiring questions activate metacognition—the ability to observe your own thoughts and patterns from a higher state of consciousness. “There is no healing without metacognition,” Lisa emphasises. Without engaging your prefrontal lobe and neocortex, you’re stuck operating from the amygdala, hippocampus, and brainstem—pure thinking, feeling, and reacting with no space between stimulus and response. Stepping Out of Ego to Find Your True Self Lisa’s breakthrough came when she stopped identifying with her ego and recognised it as a product of her five senses and childhood downloads. “That’s my ego’s language, but that’s not my true identity,” she explains. She uses a powerful metaphor: “If I was in the middle of the ocean hanging onto a log, and the ego was that log, I’m not letting go until I see a raft. And I’m not jumping off the raft until I see a cruise ship.” Her life raft was this realisation: “These are all false beliefs. I am enough. If I had been born to a healthy mother, I wouldn’t think these thoughts.” The “I’m not enough” narrative was contingent on what happened to her, not who she actually was. “My divine essence is I’m an extension of source,” Lisa says. “Whoever and whatever created this entire cosmos created me. My inner child was always worthy, always worthy. I was just born to unhealthy dynamics.” Every flower leans toward the sun. Why should you stay in the shade? The Power of Meditation: Slowing Down the Loop When Lisa realised her negative self-talk was just reverberations of her mother’s constant criticism—not her actual thoughts—it terrified her. “Who the hell’s steering the ship?” she wondered. Her solution was meditation, sometimes for four to five hours a day. “I knew I had to empty my mind of this crazy self-talk that was so self-sabotaging and focused on what’s going to happen next.” The results were almost immediate. After 40 minutes to an hour, she could sit up and observe. If the monkey mind returned, she’d lie back down and do another session. Each time, the chatter slowed further. “Once I emptied the mind, it was like the observer within me was born. That’s metacognition. Now suddenly I’m outside of my mind observing. Now I can catch a negative thought. Now I can catch a codependent thought.” Healing Relationships Without Cutting Everyone Out One of the most common questions Lisa receives: “How do I heal without cutting people out of my life?” Her answer: surrender. “Surrender to this idea that I’m doing this deep healing work. Surrender that just because I’m doing this work doesn’t mean my partner is going to be doing this work. I surrender to their confusion about who I’m becoming.” The reality is nuanced. Some people shouldn’t stay in your life—those who are aggressive, manipulative, or actively exploiting your abandonment fears. When you try to assert yourself and they bash you for daring, that’s a sign. But other relationships can evolve. Lisa’s been with her second husband for 15 years. “He doesn’t believe in everything that I believe, and I freaking love that as a recovering codependent because I can tolerate that. I don’t need his approval. I don’t need him to agree with me.” He supports her completely even though he doesn’t fully understand her work. “That’s unconditional love,” Lisa says. “Why does that person have to change to make me happy if that person has goodwill towards me?” Expecting your partner to think exactly like you? That’s still codependency. Breaking Generational Trauma “Nature has no other recourse but to create by default unless the human being awakens,” Lisa explains. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. You’re 75% more likely to become an alcoholic if your father was an alcoholic. It’s biology, environment, emotion, vibration—everything you were around. “Nature will create through default patterns until you awaken, until there’s a cycle breaker in a generation.” Lisa sees her clients as unsung superheroes. “What you have done is you’ve halted this trauma into future generations. You have changed the collective matrix in which we all bathe in. The natural thing is to remain unconscious and do what was done to you. Not the healthiest, not the most fulfilling, but the most natural and innocent.” Her 12-week program moves through three phases: understanding what happened to you (the inner child’s wounds), moving into gentle accountability (it’s still your subconscious mind now), and ascension (how do we manage and emotionally regulate from a higher state). “You can’t fix a hole in the wall that you don’t see,” she says. Once you develop compassion for yourself, that trumps shame. Only then can you offer your parents compassion—but not before you develop self-empathy. Three Golden Nuggets for Your Healing Journey Golden Nugget #1: Find the Space Between Your Thoughts “One of the most powerful things you can do on your journey is to find the space between your thoughts,” Lisa emphasises. The mind runs on a loop, a consistent stream of what we assume is consciousness, but it’s mostly from the subconscious mind. “If you could practice finding the space between your thoughts, you could activate metacognition. It slows everything down.” Golden Nugget #2: Feelings Aren’t Facts “A big reality check, narcissism check, self-righteous check, arrogance check is: wait a minute, my feelings aren’t facts. They’re just opinions.” Your beliefs have probably changed over the past 25 years. But when you believed something 25 years ago, you thought it was a fact. This awareness creates humility and openness to growth. Golden Nugget #3: Emotional Neglect IS Trauma “Brain scans prove that children who grow up feeling ignored and invisible, their brain on a brain scan is similar to a child that has experienced domestic violence and physical abuse. It’s the same.” The hippocampal volume is smaller. The amygdala is lit up. Because feeling ignored is akin to death for a child. The same trauma responses, cortisol responses, and nervous system wiring are activated. Understanding what happened in your first three years of life is crucial. If you struggle with codependency, low self-worth, or boundaries, your nervous system was wired for survival during that period. You developed an aversion to abandonment and became sensitised to it, which fuels codependency and unhealthy emotional dependence. “Being emotionally neglected is trauma. Understand why. If you relate to anything we’ve shared today, you might be able to trace it back to those early developmental years.” About Lisa A. Romano Lisa A. Romano is a bestselling author, certified life coach, and leading expert in codependency and childhood trauma recovery. With over 5,000 students healed through her signature 12-week Breakthrough Method, she blends neuroscience, trauma-informed coaching, mindfulness, and spiritual wisdom to help adult children restructure their subconscious programs, build emotional resilience, and manifest intentional lives. She is the author of multiple books including “The Road Back to Me” and has built a global community through her online programs, YouTube channel, podcast, and social media presence. Key Takeaway You are not destined to repeat the patterns programmed into you as a child. The guilt, resentment, and self-abandonment you experience aren’t character flaws—they’re survival strategies from a nervous system that learned love was conditional. When you activate metacognition through meditation and self-inquiry, you can observe these patterns from outside the loop. When you step out of ego and claim your inherent worthiness, you become the cycle breaker your lineage has been waiting for. Coming home to yourself means releasing the belief that you must earn love by abandoning who you are. Watch the full conversation on YouTube Find Out More About Lisa A. Romano Website: https://www.lisaaromano.com Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CodependencyandNarcissisticAbuseLifeCoach/ Follow on Instagram: @lisaaromano YouTube Channel: @lisaaromano1

Codependents, people-pleasers, those who fawn, seek approval, and external validation, do not consciously understand why they are so frustrated and unhappy. Codependency and fawning are trauma responses that all lead to anger, and resentment. Oftentimes, those who are struggling with emotional and mental health issues, who seek help, are misunderstood when they are codependent. Their symptoms are vague, yet incredibly disruptive and tormenting. When a codependent seeks help, they complain about others, because they have been programmed to believe that someone or something outside of them is the cure for their ills.  In this episode, Lisa A. Romano reveals how knowledge helps us organize the mind. Taking an objective look at our family of origin history helps unlock the secrets to why we do what we do, think what we think, and feel what we feel. When Lisa was finally diagnosed with codependency, and her therapist helped her investigate her family history, feeling stuck, angry, and resentful all began making sense.  Today you will learn about:

It has been said that if the enemy can't get to us, then he will attack our relationships. What are some of the crafty ways that he might try to create division and pull us away from unity and connection from our marriages, families, or just relationships as a whole? In this episode with Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, we walk through a conversation on specific ways the enemy will try to divide us from the most important resource in our recovery, relationships. What are some ways that we can combat? The enemies lies and sabotage to prevent falling back when the enemy attacks are most important relationships?

When breaking free from orbiting your life around others in codependency, discovering your own identity can be challenging. In this video, discover how a personal mission statement can help you discover your God given identity and purpose. Join us Monday at 7:30 PM EST when we will share practical steps you can take to write out your own mission statement for 2026 and get ready to soar God's way in the new year! God has timeless truths to help you navigate life and live in freedom as He intended. Join us LIVE on Mondays at 7:30 PM ET where we answer your questions on how to Conquer Codependency God's Way. Do you have a question you would like Aliene to address? We've got you! Just leave your question in the comments below or email questions@treasuredministries.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment if this episode resonates with you! For more information/resources check out the links below: ⇨ Visit the Treasured Ministries Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ ⇨ Join the Treasured Tribe https://treasuredtribe.com/ ⇨ Sign up for our FREE newsletter and get inspiration for your faith journey https://treasuredministries.activehos... ⇨ Donate: https://treasuredministries.com/donate/ ⇨Sign up for retreat https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ _____________________ Treasured Ministries provides discipleship, biblical resources, and community for women so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. For more information visit https://treasuredministries.com ______________________ Aliene Thompson is the president of Treasured Ministries International, the creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method, and the founder of the Treasured Tribe, an online Christian community for women. Her popular series on YouTube, "Conquering Codependency God's Way", helps women worldwide move from codependency to God dependency so they can live in freedom as God intended. #codependence #conqueringcodependency

I'm one of millions of women specifically trying to parent themselves while parenting children… and it can be seriously exhausting. And when childhood trauma still comes back to haunt us in midlife and beyond, life can feel impossible.  That's why I've invited trauma expert Anna Runkle on for this powerful episode to help unpack why so many midlife women are still impacted by old trauma, and how that buried stress shows up in our bodies.  We dive into the hidden ways trauma can lead us to isolate, dysregulate our nervous system, and disrupt key hormones like cortisol, dopamine, and serotonin.  Anna and I break down how this cascade of stress and deregulation can spark inflammation, oxidative stress, blood-sugar swings, and even contribute to autoimmune issues that so many women face.  But most importantly, Anna shares simple, compassionate tools to help regulate your nervous system and finally begin healing the deeper patterns driving overwhelm in midlife.  Ready to feel more grounded in this season of life? Hit play and listen now! Anna Runkle Anna Runkle is the creator of the popular YouTube channel, blog, courses, and coaching programs that provide tools for adults to heal dysregulation and other common trauma symptoms, helping them feel better and change their lives. Anna's methods were developed through research, her mentoring of hundreds of individuals over the years, and her direct experience healing her own symptoms of early trauma. She's the author of Re-Regulated: Set Your Life Free from Childhood PTSD and the Trauma-Driven Behaviors That Keep You Stuck and Connectability: Heal the Hidden Ways You Isolate, Find Your People, and Feel (At Last) Like You Belong.  IN THIS EPISODE Understanding nervous system deregulation  How Anna learned to adapt after childhood trauma  Symptoms that can manifest from over-functioning  How to manage stressors and stay regulated day to day  Top ways we can start to regulate, especially when deregulated  How connection can be a huge tool for healing  Free resources and where you can find more from Anna!  QUOTES“All these weird symptoms that I had… It's neurological dysregulation. It's really normal. Everybody gets dysregulated sometimes, but those of us who are traumatized as kids are often more prone to it. It happens more easily. It's more intense. It's harder to get out of.” “Early trauma is very strongly correlated later in life with high rates of cancer, diabetes, heart disease, autoimmune disorders, reproductive disorders, just about everything bad.” “Those three things– dysregulation, disconnection, and self-defeating behavior– those are the things that can just take you out and keep you stuck in trauma forever. So the good news is you can learn to reregulate.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order Anna's Book: CONNECTABILITY: Heal the Hidden Ways You Isolate, Find Your People, And Feel (At Last) Like You Belong HERE Order Anna's other book: Re-Regulated: Set Your Life Free from Childhood PTSD and the Trauma-Driven Behaviors That Keep You Stuck HERE Anna's Website Anna Runkle on YouTube Anna Runkle on Instagram RELATED EPISODES  681: The Biology of Trauma: How Stress Gets Stored in Your Body (and Passed On to Your Kids) and How You Can Start To Heal with Dr. Aimie Apigian #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #308: What Is Trauma and How Does It Make Us Sick? with Dr. Elena Villanueva

In this episode of the Food Junkies Podcast, Clarissa and Molly sit down with psychologist Dr. Carrie Wilkens to unpack what it really means to help people change without shame, stigma, or power struggles. Drawing from decades of work in substance use, eating disorders, trauma, and family systems, Carrie invites us to rethink "denial," "relapse," "codependency," and even the disease model itself, while still honoring the seriousness of addiction and the depth of people's pain. Together, we explore how self-compassion, curiosity, and values-based behavior change can transform not only individual recovery but also how families, helpers, and communities show up for the people they love. In this episode, we explore: Lived experience & professional work How Carrie's own long-term healing around food and her body continues to shape the compassion and curiosity she brings to her work. The idea that our relationship with food and our bodies changes across the lifespan—and why "lifelong relationship management" matters more than perfection. Do you have to be "in recovery" to help? The pressures clinicians face when they're asked, "Are you in recovery?" and how that question can be loaded with judgment and assumptions. Why personal experience with a specific substance or behavior is not a prerequisite to being deeply effective as a helper. How Carrie talks with clients and families about her own history in a way that's honest, boundaried, and clinically useful. Rethinking 'denial' and harmful language Why words like "denial," "addict," "codependent," "chronic relapser," and "it's a slippery slope" can shut people down rather than open them up. A more curious approach: asking "What do you mean by that?" and unpacking the real story underneath labels. How language can either invite people into self-understanding—or reinforce shame, fear, and disconnection. Softening the disease model without minimizing the problem Nuanced ways to honor addiction as a serious, complex disorder without collapsing everything into a rigid disease frame. How fear (of overdose, loss, chaos, or death) drives a lot of rigid thinking in systems and professionals. Why behavior change is slow, non-linear, and rarely a straight line—and how accepting that can actually make care more effective. Relapse as an "old solution that once worked" Carrie's reframe of relapse as returning to an old behavior that, at one time, made sense and worked on some level. How naming the function of a behavior (soothing, numbing, regulating, connecting) opens the door to new, less harmful solutions. The difference between "You didn't want it enough" and "Your brain reached for an old strategy that once helped you survive." The Invitation to Change Approach (ITC) The core elements of ITC: Motivational interviewing–informed curiosity and ambivalence exploration. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and values-based living. A deep commitment to self-compassion as a foundation for behavior change. Why ITC was originally developed for family members and then adapted for people with substance use concerns themselves. How the "wheel" of ITC lets people step in wherever they are—self-awareness, values, behavior strategies, or compassion—and build over time. Families, shame, and staying engaged without "tough love" Inviting family members to ask: "How does my loved one's behavior make sense?" instead of "What's wrong with them?" How this shift helps parents and partners move from fear and control into strategy, support, and skillful engagement. Concrete examples of how families can respond to return to use with curiosity, concern, and clearer communication instead of lectures or ultimatums. Codependency and other overused labels Why Carrie has never formally diagnosed anyone with "codependency." What often lives underneath that label: trauma histories, cultural norms, attachment dynamics, fear of loss, and learned survival strategies. How flattening all of that into "codependent" erases nuance and blocks meaningful change. Neurodivergence, trauma, and substance use/eating behaviors The high rates of PTSD and ADHD among people seeking help for substance use—and why that matters for treatment design. Carrie's reflection on her own undiagnosed ADHD and how it likely drove much of her earlier eating disorder behavior. How binges, purging, and substance use can function as powerful nervous system regulators, especially for neurodivergent and trauma-impacted brains. Why we need more ground-up, neurodivergent- and trauma-informed approaches that focus on emotion regulation, executive functioning, and skill-building. Self-compassion as a behavior change superpower Carrie's journey from skepticism ("this sounds too woo") to seeing self-compassion as essential, research-backed behavior-change work. How self-compassion reduces shame, helps people tolerate slow progress, and makes it safer to look honestly at their own behavior. Using both "tender" and "fierce" self-compassion to choose boundaries, seek support, and keep moving through discomfort. Reimagining 'expert' roles and community care Why Carrie is skeptical of rigid expert hierarchies in addiction treatment. Inviting families, community leaders, and lay helpers into the work through accessible tools like ITC groups and trainings. The power of giving non-clinicians simple, evidence-based language and frameworks so they can respond with compassion instead of panic or shame. About Dr. Carrie Wilkens Carrie Wilkens, PhD, is a psychologist with more than 25 years of experience in the practice and dissemination of evidence-based treatments for substance use and post-traumatic stress. She is the Co-President and CEO of CMC: Foundation for Change, a nonprofit dedicated to bringing evidence-based ideas and strategies to families, communities, and professionals supporting people struggling with substances. Carrie is a co-developer of the Invitation to Change (ITC) Approach, an accessible, skills-based framework that helps families stay engaged, reduce shame, and effectively support a loved one's behavior change. ITC is now used across the U.S. and internationally in groups, trainings, and community programs. She is co-author of the award-winning book Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change, which adapts the Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) model for families, and co-author of The Beyond Addiction Workbook for Family and Friends, a practical, evidence-based guide for loved ones who want concrete tools to support change without sacrificing their own wellbeing. Carrie is also Co-Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Motivation and Change (CMC), a group of clinicians providing evidence-based care in New York City, Long Island, Washington, DC, San Diego, and at CMC: Berkshires, a private residential program for adults. She has served as Project Director on a large SAMHSA-funded grant addressing college binge drinking and is frequently sought out by media outlets including CBS This Morning, the Katie Couric Show, NPR, and HBO's Risky Drinking to speak on substance use and behavior change. Resources Mentioned CMC: Foundation for Change – Family-focused trainings, groups, and resources: cmcffc.org The Invitation to Change Approach – Overview of the ITC model and its core topics. Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change (Book) The Beyond Addiction Workbook for Family and Friends (Workbook) The content of our show is educational only. It does not supplement or supersede your healthcare provider's professional relationship and direction. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified mental health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, substance use disorder, or mental health concern.  

Are you exhausted from bending over backwards for your partner (like it's your unpaid side job), and still not getting the love or change you were promised?If you've ever felt yourself shrinking, second-guessing, or living in reaction to someone else (especially a narcissistic partner), this conversation will help you name what's happening and come back to your own center.In this episode you will:Learn a clear, compassionate definition of codependency that you can spot in real lifeUnderstand how to break the rescue–victim–perpetrator loop and anchor in self-trustRecognize the language for differentiating empathetic care from codependent over-functioningPress play now to learn how to spot codependency and start taking your time, energy, and power back.QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:Cheryl's PDF of The 3 Codes to Clear Codependency: www.cherylfidelman.comEp. 107 Why He Says He'll Change, But Never Does (The Narcissistic Lie): https://pod.fo/e/35f34b RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

Amy reunites with her dear friend Dr. Sarah Michaud for a rich, emotional Boozeless Book Club conversation about Charlotte Kasl's “Many Roads, One Journey.” Together they unpack fear-based systems, patriarchal conditioning, codependency, and the long-term work of building identity outside dogma. It's honest, layered, and exactly the kind of dialogue that reminds you you're not alone on your own recovery path.Key Takeaways• Kasl's work invites women to question rigid systems—religion, recovery, and culture—that shape identity through fear and shame. • Amy reflects on trading one dogma for another and how belonging once overrode her self-trust. • They examine how AA slogans, spiritual axioms, and “my way or the highway” thinking can unintentionally reinforce fear. • Codependency runs deep, especially for women socialized to prioritize harmony over needs. • Recovery is never one-size-fits-all—every person deserves a path that supports autonomy, dignity, and choice.Timestamped Key Moments[00:00:00] Amy reflects on dogmatic rules, belonging, and fear-based conditioning. [00:01:00] Amy welcomes listeners back and introduces Dr. Sarah. [00:02:00] Amy discusses how she pushed Sarah into reading the book. [00:03:00] Amy reacts to the density of Kasl's work. [00:04:00] Sarah connects the author's religious background to her rebellious spirit.Resource Links• Many Roads, One Journey by Charlotte Davis Kasl • Women, Sex, and Addiction by Charlotte Davis Kasl • Leaving CrazyTown Podcast

The Alcoholic and Their Enablers (Part Two) THE ENABLERS. In this episode of the Take 12 Recovery Radio Show, we feature insights from Jonathan Harrison, author of 'Alcoholics and Their Enablers,' who shares valuable information about the science behind enabling and the importance of seeking help for both alcoholics and their supporters.The Montyman and his cohosts discuss the complex dynamics of alcoholism, focusing on the role of enablers. They explore the genetic factors that contribute to enabling behaviors, the psychological implications of codependency, and the importance of awareness and acceptance in recovery. The conversation emphasizes that enablers often struggle with their own issues and need to recognize their role in the cycle of addiction. Closing Song: Where Is My Child Tonight by Steve Dan Mills. #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

During messy and hard times, including the holidays, the enemy may try to break the momentum of our recovery journey. What are some ways that we can maintain the incredible life-giving momentum that He has begun in our recovery journey? What are some things that we can be aware of as we continue step-by-step? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack some practical reminders and how to maintain momentum and prevent relapse in our recovery journey.

In codependency, navigating tough family dynamics and establishing healthy boundaries can be especially difficult during the holiday season. Join our live Q&A at 7:30 PM EST to discover God's solution for setting boundaries and learn Biblical truths to navigate difficult family relationships this holiday season. Get ready to set boundaries God's way! Video mentioned in the LIVE: What is the DARVO Abuse Tactic and how can you Respond Biblically? https://www.youtube.com/live/Jqsg8_9F2BY?si=H61lO4jtazDisZXz God has timeless truths to help you navigate life and live in freedom as He intended. Join us LIVE on Mondays at 7:30 PM ET where we answer your questions on how to Conquer Codependency God's Way. Do you have a question you would like Aliene to address? We've got you! Just leave your question in the comments below or email questions@treasuredministries.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment if this episode resonates with you! For more information/resources check out the links below: ⇨ Visit the Treasured Ministries Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ ⇨ Join the Treasured Tribe https://treasuredtribe.com/ ⇨ Sign up for our FREE newsletter and get inspiration for your faith journey https://treasuredministries.activehos... ⇨ Donate: https://treasuredministries.com/donate/ ⇨Sign up for retreat https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ _____________________ Treasured Ministries provides discipleship, biblical resources, and community for women so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. For more information visit https://treasuredministries.com ______________________ Aliene Thompson is the president of Treasured Ministries International, the creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method, and the founder of the Treasured Tribe, an online Christian community for women. Her popular series on YouTube, "Conquering Codependency God's Way", helps women worldwide move from codependency to God dependency so they can live in freedom as God intended. #codependence #conqueringcodependency

If you lean anxious in relationships, this one's for you.I see it all the time—guys who crave closeness so much that they choke the relationship. You text too much, talk too much, try too hard to keep things “good.” But that desperate energy ends up pushing her away.I'll show you what's really happening under the surface—why your attachment system freaks out when she pulls away, and how to stop feeding that panic. You'll learn how to regulate yourself, stop chasing reassurance, and build the kind of calm confidence that actually creates attraction.If you want more depth, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix or check out The Brotherhood, our private men's community with live meetings, courses, and 1,000+ hours of member-only content:

Codependency is an umbrella term used to describe a broad spectrum of emotional, mental and behavioral, subconscious, and automatic trauma responses developed in early childhood as an adaptation to chronic, inescapable stress. While over-functioning as a small child, to avoid rejection, the child's nervous system learns to scan their environment for potential threats. This scanning is called hypervigilance, and it also exiles the inner child into an abyss. Children of toxic, dysfunctional parents, families, and circumstances are denied the compassionate adult, whose role is to mentor, teach, and guide a child in a way that nurtures a positive sense of self. The very basics of healthy human interraction are not modeled. A child who has learned they must scan their environment must: Use their conscious waking hours scanning their parents' facial expressions, moods, and tones--while this is occurring, a child is learning how to morph and adapt, rather than explore the inner self, their inner child, their inner landscape Abandoning the self, including their innate needs, wants, emotions, and right to be authentic, to avoid further emotional neglect, abuse, bullying, or rejection—while this survival response was useful during childhood, the adult child eventually learns that they often don't know what they want or need. This can be a frustrating experience in therapy and relationships. If you are codependent, you may have felt frustrated in therapy when asked, "What do you need" What do you want?"  Codependents do not know what they need.  They Struggle to Trust Their Inner World Codependency is built on self-abandonment. Many codependents grew up in environments where their emotions were dismissed, mocked, punished, or ignored. Carl Jung would say their inner child—what he called the "Divine Child"—was exiled. So when asked: "What do you feel?" "What do you want?" "What do you need?" …they genuinely do not know. This creates enormous frustration in therapy, because the inner world feels foreign, inaccessible, or even dangerous. The codependent has learned to trust external authority over inner intuition. Reconnecting with the inner self requires time, patience, and the slow dismantling of shame. Therapy asks them to return to a Self they have never been allowed to meet. The journey back home must be slow, steady, and compassionate; otherwise, therapy can sometimes cause more harm than good and lead to a codependent person trying to please the therapist, thereby reenacting a facet of their adaptation survival response. Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers.   Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.

Subscribe in a reader If you're divorcing a narcissist, you may be tempted to use your therapy records to prove PTSD or emotional abuse in court. But handing over those records can backfire in devastating ways. In this powerful conversation with Bree Bonchay—psychotherapist and founder of World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day—we break down the hidden […] The post Why You Should Never Use Therapy Records in a Narcissist Divorce | w/ Bree Bonchay appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

So many survivors walk into healing believing they were “codependent,” when the truth is far more compassionate and far more accurate:What you were doing wasn't codependency — it was fawning, a trauma response your nervous system used to keep you safe in an emotionally dangerous environment. In this episode, we break down the difference between fawning and codependency in a way that finally makes sense for survivors of covert narcissistic abuse. We explore why these two patterns get confused, how fawning operates as a survival mechanism, and why labeling yourself “codependent” often adds unnecessary shame to an already painful experience. You'll hear real, relatable examples that show what these behaviors look like in everyday life: saying “it's okay” when it isn't, prioritizing someone else's needs over your own, and walking on eggshells. We'll explore each scenario from both angles — the trauma-driven fawn response and the learned relational pattern of codependency — so you can see exactly where the difference lies. If you've ever blamed yourself for being “too accommodating,” “too forgiving,” or “too passive,” this episode will help you shift that lens. You were not weak. You were surviving.And now, you get to learn a new way of being where safety no longer depends on self-abandonment. DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sometimes in recovery, we can confuse struggling in an area of recovery with the reality of defining freedom. What does freedom look like and does that mean we won't struggle if we are to say we are walking in freedom? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery will provide some language around helping us reframe what it means to walk in freedom with codependency as we struggle to live life on life's terms.

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend Joy Shaw for a powerful and heart-opening conversation about calling, courage, and trusting the path God lays in front of you. Joy shares her incredible journey of walking away from what was familiar, stepping into the unknown, and learning to follow divine direction even when it didn't make logical sense. This episode is an invitation to trust that you are being guided, supported, and prepared for exactly what you're meant to do. Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe to our podcast and leave a review with your takeaways, this helps us create the exact content you want!  KEY POINTS:  00:49 A Deep Friendship and Shared Journey 01:27 Defining a Woman of Influence 03:14 Embracing the Shadow 04:07 The Medicine is in the Stay 07:44 Introducing the Growth Collective 09:27 Facing Fear and Staying Present 20:11 Patterns of Codependency and Narcissism 25:57 The Struggle with Receiving Help 26:33 The Stroke and Its Impact 26:46 Learning to Ask for Help 28:49 Challenges in the Healing Space 30:13 Ethics and Integrity in Plant Medicine 32:30 Personal Identity and Healing 34:09 The Importance of Self-Love 36:31 Collective Healing and Evolution 43:06 Embracing an Untethered Life 45:10 Conclusion and Final Thoughts QUOTABLES: “  I used to have this victim narrative around being around feeling taken advantage of. But there was a victimhood to that because if I believed that I was being taken advantage of, I could then be resentful to be taken advantage of, which would then just perpetuate the narrative of, well, Julie just has to do it herself. No one's gonna show up for her. She's just gotta do it. Which would then keep me in the driver's seat and in control, which would continue to perpetuate that narrative.” - Julie Solomon  “  Our minds are wired for survival, and if you have trauma, they're doubly wired for survival, right? Because you had to make it through a really unsafe environment that you were growing up in, or some event that happened that you had to survive. And so your mind is almost more programmed to keep you alive and to be hypervigilant. I work with a lot of people with PTSD and so we're deprogramming a lot of that and, and we're having to build safety and trust with it. And the other thing that we have to do is we have to befriend this part of us.” - Joy Shaw GUEST RESOURCES: Website: https://www.joyshaw.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/alchemizewithjoy RESOURCES: ✨ Unscripted: My First In-Person Retreat in 2+ Years — Now Accepting Applications If you've felt your voice no longer matches the woman you've become, this intimate 2-day retreat in Nashville (Feb 5–6, 2026) is for you. Unscripted is where your message, identity, and leadership come back into alignment—without pressure, performance, or shrinking. Spots are limited and application-only. Apply now at juliesolomon.net/unscripted.

Feeling a bit lost in midlife? This is a MASSIVE transition physically and emotionally, so it's easy to feel like you're just not who you once were.  In this episode, I sit down with the wonderful Elena Brower to discuss navigating midlife with more grace, spaciousness, and self-trust.  As a seasoned meditation and yoga instructor, Elena reminds us that this season of life is truly about letting go—releasing what no longer serves you and creating room for what deeply matters now.  Through the stories and practices in her new book, Hold Nothing, she offers a grounded pathway for prioritizing yourself, your energy, and your evolving needs without apology.  We explore how midlife asks us to choose what gets to take center stage today… and you can bet it's different from what mattered most to you five, ten, or twenty years ago.  So if you're craving care, patience, and encouragement as you move through hormonal shifts and midlife transitions, this conversation is just for you!  Elena Brower  Elena Brower is an international yoga and meditation teacher on Glo, guiding transformative practices for over 25 years. She's the author of Art of Attention: A Yoga Practice Workbook for Movement as Meditation, and just published her newest book, Hold Nothing. Elena is a mother, mentor, poet, artist, volunteer, bestselling author, and host of the Practice You Podcast, where she supports women through life's transitions, encouraging presence, care, and openness.  IN THIS EPISODE Exploring the concept and benefits of “holding nothing”  Emphasizing the importance of relationships  Healthy parenting techniques for fostering trust  Remaining steady and patient in unexpected circumstances  How your body physiologically responds to stress  Practicing Zen Meditation  Lifestyle recommendations for midlife transitions   QUOTES “This ritual of sitting in the morning became the steadfast rule. And this is where it almost feels like I'm taking a shower for my mind– getting rid of all the doubt, the fear, the frustration, the angst, the anxiety, the anger… And when I finally took it on, it actually made a huge difference in who I am and how I show up, particularly in my parenting, but also in every other realm.” “Those situations are really important to keep close. Those are the ones that are going to help us really practice and learn how to die,  and that's kind of the next step, the next practice, living as fully with as much love and fun as we can, as much care and consideration as we can, and dying well.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Use code DRMARIZA and get 15% off on your Silverbiotics order https://silverbiotics.com/discount/drmariza Order my new book: The Perimenopause Revolution https://peri-revolution.com/ Order Elena's Book: Hold Nothing https://elenabrower.com/holdnothing Dr. Mariza's Ultimate Morning Self-Care Guide & Sign up for her FREE Virtual Workshop: The Altar of Your Heart  Elena Brower's Website  Elena on Substack  Elena on Instagram Elena's Podcast: PRACTICE YOU  RELATED EPISODES  692: Why Emotional Healing is Hormone Healing-The New Path to Midlife Empowerment with Ashley Turner 690: The Perimenopause Revolution: Why midlife isn't the end — it's the beginning of your most energized, powerful, and vibrant self 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey

In Celebrate Recovery, we no doubt learned that boundaries and guidelines are essential to keeping us on the right track. Whether it's the small group guidelines, following the DNA or other leadership components, practicing keeping our ministry safe is important. However, how can legalism and becoming the security guard, hinder the healing process and break connection from us and others that God has called us to lead? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will unpack this important topic to help us lean into Grace versus rigidity and rules that separates us from the important connections in our life.

The Hard Truth About Being "The Helper" (And Why It's Keeping You Stuck) In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood patterns in relationships: codependency. If you've ever felt exhausted from being "the strong one," guilty when you prioritize yourself, or frustrated when someone doesn't take your advice, this conversation is for you. I break down how codependency masquerades as love but is actually a hidden form of control—and how the need to be needed keeps both you and the people you care about stuck. You'll learn to recognize the subtle daily patterns that signal codependency, from checking your phone for someone else's emotional weather to canceling your own plans when someone seems "off." Then, I walk you through the practice of detachment with love—caring deeply while releasing your grip on outcomes. This isn't about being cold or distant. It's about trusting that others have their own path, their own lessons, and their own capacity to grow. I share practical steps like setting real boundaries (yes, you can not respond to every text), tolerating discomfort, and offering support without attachment. Finally, we dive into personal responsibility and emotional independence. You'll discover how to build your own sense of meaning that doesn't depend on being needed, practice self-compassion with the same kindness you give others, and reclaim the energy you've been pouring into everyone else's lives.

Do you feel like you're carrying everyone else's needs on your shoulders? Or maybe you struggle to set boundaries without feeling guilty? You are not alone. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, Susie Pettit sits down with Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach, podcast host, and author of Stronger in the Difficult Places. Dr. Zoe specializes in helping women heal from complex shame™ and codependency so they can experience healthy love, freedom, and stronger relationships…including the one with themselves. Together, Susie and Dr. Zoe unpack: ✨ What complex shame really is and how it sneaks into our daily lives ✨ The difference between healthy guilt and toxic shame ✨ Why so many women struggle with codependency in midlife ✨ How to set boundaries without the guilt ✨ The first steps to breaking unhealthy patterns and creating a lighter, freer life If you've ever thought, “It's too late for me to change,” or felt exhausted from always taking care of others before yourself—this conversation will give you the hope and tools you need. Press play and discover how you can become stronger in your own difficult places. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: How to STOP Over-Functioning and FEEL BETTER on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/188-how-to-stop-overfunctioning-and-feel-better/id1434429161?i=1000554161604 How to STOP Over-Functioning and FEEL BETTER on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2JPETjXq221KsocVrQkXrR?si=ec41e2c71af74168 Find Dr. Zoe Shaw's book, podcast and all other great things mentioned here

Do you constantly set yourself on fire to keep other people warm? If you find it hard to put your needs before the needs of everyone else in your life, then you may be struggling with codependency.  According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, codependency is “a psychological condition or a relationship in which a [...]

You might know Elizabeth Gilbert as the author of Eat Pray Love; now, she's written All The Way To The River, charting her electric, heart-breaking relationship with her partner Rayya, who died in 2018.In this Book Club chat, Fearne explains that she chose this to be part of the Happy Place Book Club because she recognised so many of her own behaviour traits in it – see: chaotic relationships and people pleasing!Elizabeth talks through how to tell if you're co-dependent, what a love and sex addict really is, and how to block someone's number for your own emotional safety.Fearne and Elizabeth also get into those moments where you want to react with defensiveness and rage, and how to extend compassion to yourself and others instead.If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Book Club Meets: Aisha Muharrar Book Club Meets: Emily Henry Book Club Meets: Lorna Tucker Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert Terri Cole is back in KICK-ASS Stepmom to dive into how to break the cycle of high-functioning codependency. Stepmoms, you're going to see yourself in this one!   Get The Disengaging Without Disconnecting Masterclass www.jamiescrimgeour.com/disengaging  Work With Me. www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching  Get My Ebook -  120 Ways To Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom www.jamiescrimgeour.com/ebook  Episode Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Go to www.cozyearth.com and use the code COZYJAMIE for 20% off of your order OSEA | Clean skincare that actually works.  Shop OSEA:https://bit.ly/47jvKIj OSEA Ocean Body Glow Set: https://bit.ly/4h16E59 Use code KICKASSSTEPMOM10 for 10% off your first order Metabolic Reset Program | Get $350 off with the code JAMIE350 at https://www.jentherhn.com

In this conversation, a caller recounts her challenging journey through personal relationships influenced by her conservative upbringing. She discusses the emotional turmoil of becoming pregnant and her husband's subsequent infidelity and disconnection. Host Stefan encourages her to explore her childhood trauma and its impact on her adult relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and breaking the cycle of codependency. The conversation culminates in a focus on healing and reclaiming agency as she navigates life as a single mother.SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxFollow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025