Podcasts about Codependency

This is our 200th episode of Reimagining Love! And to celebrate, Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, to answer your questions. They cover topics such as emotional interdependency versus codependency, infidelity and avoidant attachment, resentment in a marriage, identifying needs in a situationship, and navigating grief and identity formation after divorce.Thank you so much for submitting your listener questions! Even when they are not selected for these Mailbag-type episodes, they continually inform our content.We love to hear from you! Submit a Listener Question here:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Thriving Through the Holiday Chaos on MasterClass: http://masterclass.com/holidaysFor Question 2 (infidelity + avoidant attachment) -Dr. Alexandra's E-Course  - Can I Trust You Again? (rebuilding after betrayal or deceit) https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceitReimagining Love episode, When You're the Affair Partner https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-youre-the-affair-partner/Reimagining Love Episodes on Attachment:Jessica Baum (releasing in February 2026)From the Inside Out: Attachment Theory & Mindful Parenting with Dr. Dan Siegel: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/from-the-inside-out-attachment-theory-mindful-parenting-with-dr-dan-siegel/Exploring Attachment: Transform Your Relationship Patterns with Thais Gibson: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/exploring-attachment-transform-your-relationship-patterns/Secure Attachments: The Felt Sense of Love with Julie Menanno: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/secure-attachments-the-felt-sense-of-love-with-julie-menanno/For Question 3 (resentment in marriage) -Reimagining Love episode, My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/my-9-favorite-resentment-busting-strategies/Reimagining Love episode, When Shame Blocks Repair https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/when-shame-blocks-repair/For Question 4 (identifying needs in situationship) -Reimagining Love episode, Is Your “Situationship” Working? https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/is-your-situationship-working/Dr. Alexandra's E-Course - Intimate Relationships 101: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/offers/Q7LEbtEX/checkoutFor Question 5 (navigating grief and identity formation after divorce) -Reimagining Love episode, Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/guidance-for-the-newly-single/Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn from Dr. Alexandra (E-courses: Intimate Relationships 101 or Can I Trust You Again?): https://dralexandrasolomon.com/learn-from-alexandra/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

This episode is a switch-up: Samantha is the one in the hot seat, interviewed by her dear friend Dr. Onalee Makam, for a grounded, honest conversation about relationships—and what it actually takes to call in a true life partner.If you've ever said, “Love has been hard,” or “There aren't any good men,” or “No one can handle me,” this is your gentle (but firm) reality check. Samantha pulls back the curtain on the real process behind meeting her husband, Kurt: the mindset rewiring, the nervous system work, the identity shift, and the practical action that gets skipped when people reduce love to “just make a list.”You'll hear why healthy relationship examples matter, how Samantha's “ask hot guys out” era helped her expose anxious attachment patterns, and why your relationship won't thrive if your partner is your only source of emotional oxygen. This is a conversation about safety, self-respect, magnetism, and building a life so full you're not begging love to complete it.If you want a relationship that feels like two best friends on the same team—this one will expand what you believe is possible.RESOURCES + LINKSWork with Sam @ Voice and Visibility: www.voiceandvisibility.comJoin My Newsletter: https://voiceandvisibility.myflodesk.com/optinFollow Samantha on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thesamanthawarrenFollow Samantha on Tiktok: www.tiktok.com/voiceandvisibilitySubscribe on Youtube healthy relationship dynamics, how to find a life partner, calling in your soulmate, manifestation and relationships, anxious attachment healing, codependency in relationships, feminine energy and magnetism, how to be more feminine in relationship, dating to marry, how to know you're in the right relationship, relationship green flags, hyper independence healing, healing relationship with the masculine, self worth and love, relationship advice for high achieving women, surrender and trust in relationships, building a secure relationship, how to keep spark alive in marriage

The salient point of this podcast episode revolves around the exploration of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) and its profound implications for emotional health and well-being. I am joined by Sophia Torini, an expert in the field, as we delve into the intricacies of EFT, which combines cognitive psychotherapy with the practice of tapping on specific acupuncture points on the body. We elucidate how unprocessed emotions can manifest physically, potentially leading to illness, and how EFT serves as a mechanism to release these emotional blockages. Throughout our dialogue, we emphasize the necessity of acknowledging and processing our emotions, which are often stored within the body and can hinder personal growth and healing. Our conversation aims to enlighten listeners on the efficacy of EFT as a self-healing modality, empowering individuals to reclaim their emotional well-being and navigate their journeys toward holistic living.

For those of us who are (or have been):  emotional eaters,  in emotionally abusive or neglectful relationships,  or struggled with your self-worth,  Food, your weight, and people were never the real issues.  *The key problem was the identity you were forced to develop in order to survive.* You learned to abandon your own needs to stay safe, loved, accepted, or chosen. One of the most profound questions we can ask is:  “Who was I before the world told me who to be?”   This is how we get to the deeper layers driving your emotional eating, attracting emotionally abusive or neglectful people, and ultimately keeping you stuck in the same patterns year after year.  Ready to break free?  Keep listening and I'll show you how.  When you're ready to come work with me and reclaim your life, your vision, your voice, and your power, schedule your free consultation at www.bodyyoucrave.com/schedule.  This is your one precious life.  Let's make it count. Chapters (00:00:02) - Hungry for Love(00:00:26) - Why Relationships and Diets feel so hard(00:05:43) - Weight Loss and Codependency(00:08:59) - How To Get Out Of A Toxic Relationship(00:13:02) - How codependency affects our nervous system(00:14:26) - How to Get Out of Toxic Relationships(00:18:48) - How To Cultivate a Perfect Body With Restriction(00:21:50) - Why Weight Loss Feels So Hard(00:25:54) - How to Love Yourself Now(00:32:08) - Don't Let Your Child Struggle(00:34:41) - How to Heal Your Self-Worth(00:41:24) - How To Become The Girl Of Your Dreams(00:44:02) - How to Reclaim Your Identity(00:49:53) - How to Heal Your Relationships With Food, Alcohol(00:51:15) - Break the Cycle

What if the reason you can’t say no isn’t weakness, but conditioning? From childhood, so many of us were taught that love had to be earned, that being good meant staying quiet, agreeable, and available. But somewhere along the way, that survival strategy became self-betrayal. In this powerful episode, bestselling author and trauma recovery coach Lisa A. Romano reveals the truth about codependency: it’s not about needing others too much, but about forgetting who you are. She explains why guilt floods your body when you set a boundary and how healing begins the moment you realise your inner critic isn’t actually your voice—it’s an echo from your past. This is a conversation for anyone who’s tired of people-pleasing, over-giving, or shrinking themselves to keep the peace. Because real love doesn’t require you to abandon yourself. It begins the moment you come home to you. The Woman Who Broke the Cycle Lisa A. Romano didn’t just study codependency—she lived it. Growing up with parents who were adult children of alcoholics, one highly narcissistic and the other deeply codependent, Lisa carried shame throughout her entire childhood. She believed something about her made it impossible for her parents to love her. This pattern followed her into adulthood. She married a man similar to her mother, repeating the cycle of seeking approval and subjugating herself. After a severe breakdown and six therapists, she finally received the diagnosis that changed everything: codependency. The tragedy that catalysed her mission came when her brother-in-law, also an adult child of alcoholics, took his own life. In that devastating moment, Lisa realised that if he had understood codependency and childhood trauma the way she now did, he might still be alive. She pushed past her fears of what her family would think and published her first book, “The Road Back to Me,” which became an Amazon bestseller overnight. Today, as a certified life coach and leading expert in codependency and childhood trauma recovery, Lisa has helped over 5,000 students heal through her signature 12-week Breakthrough Method, blending neuroscience, trauma-informed coaching, mindfulness, and spiritual wisdom. What Codependency Actually Means “When you’re codependent, you don’t know that you’re codependent until your life becomes unmanageable,” Lisa explains. It operates completely below conscious awareness, a loop of childhood trauma disguised as personality. Codependency isn’t just people-pleasing. It’s people-pleasing from a loss of selfhood. It’s cleaning the house but needing your husband to walk in and pat you on the back. Making his favorite meal but requiring him to make a big deal about it. Watching your sister’s kids but expecting her to watch yours in return without having to ask. “With codependency, it’s an emotional enmeshment,” Lisa reveals. “I lose my sense of self and I’m emotionally reliant on someone in a very unhealthy way, and I don’t even realize it.” The dangerous part? Codependents often think they’re “the good one.” They’re the fixers, the caretakers, the ones always willing to listen. But beneath that giving is resentment, unmet expectations, and the victim mentality that comes from abandoning yourself while trying to avoid being abandoned by others. Why You Can’t Say No: The Childhood Programming The guilt you feel when setting boundaries isn’t random. It’s precisely programmed survival wiring from your first three years of life. “Your needs aren’t being served, your ego-based needs from zero to three,” Lisa explains. “You’re in a theta brainwave state, which is a hypnotic brainwave state.” During this critical period, if your narcissistic needs—the healthy developmental need to matter, to be seen, to have your feelings validated—go unmet, you don’t develop a solid ego boundary. Between ages three and five, children are supposed to be “little narcissists.” The adults around them should be managing what shows up inside them, helping them emotionally regulate, and teaching them that their feelings matter. When this doesn’t happen, children learn that they don’t have the right to feel, and therefore don’t have the right to set boundaries. “If I say no, I might get abandoned or criticised or judged or shamed or banished from the kingdom,” Lisa describes. “That’s all stored.” The brain creates a predictive model: saying no produces guilt as a way to prevent abandonment. You’re abandoning yourself to avoid outer abandonment. Operating Below the Veil “Below the veil of consciousness, we’re just operating on a loop,” Lisa says. “We’re operating on childhood trauma. These are belief systems. They’ve become habitual thoughts. It becomes part of our persona.” The subconscious mind is 500,000 to a million times stronger than the conscious mind. Most of your daily interactions are products of subconscious beliefs you’ve never questioned. You’re not living authentically—you’re recycling thoughts and patterns downloaded in childhood. “It’s hard to be yourself when you were taught that yourself was not worthy of love,” Lisa reflects. “How do you love a self that your childhood conditioned you to believe was not worthy of love?” The terror of being authentic becomes greater than the pain of being inauthentic. So you stay small, you people-please, you anticipate everyone else’s needs, and you resent them for not reading your mind. The Deep Questions That Activate Healing Lisa believes the gateway to transformation is uncomfortable self-inquiry: “How happy am I? How excited am I to get up in the morning? Do I really like my partner or do I resent them?” These are the questions we avoid by going to yoga and drinking Starbucks, she says with a laugh. We go through the motions in our relationships without examining how we’re showing up. “Do I say yes when I mean no? Do I race to solve other people’s problems with the intention for them to see me and find worthiness in me? Am I taking care of everybody else at the expense of myself? Am I secretly resentful?” These self-inquiring questions activate metacognition—the ability to observe your own thoughts and patterns from a higher state of consciousness. “There is no healing without metacognition,” Lisa emphasises. Without engaging your prefrontal lobe and neocortex, you’re stuck operating from the amygdala, hippocampus, and brainstem—pure thinking, feeling, and reacting with no space between stimulus and response. Stepping Out of Ego to Find Your True Self Lisa’s breakthrough came when she stopped identifying with her ego and recognised it as a product of her five senses and childhood downloads. “That’s my ego’s language, but that’s not my true identity,” she explains. She uses a powerful metaphor: “If I was in the middle of the ocean hanging onto a log, and the ego was that log, I’m not letting go until I see a raft. And I’m not jumping off the raft until I see a cruise ship.” Her life raft was this realisation: “These are all false beliefs. I am enough. If I had been born to a healthy mother, I wouldn’t think these thoughts.” The “I’m not enough” narrative was contingent on what happened to her, not who she actually was. “My divine essence is I’m an extension of source,” Lisa says. “Whoever and whatever created this entire cosmos created me. My inner child was always worthy, always worthy. I was just born to unhealthy dynamics.” Every flower leans toward the sun. Why should you stay in the shade? The Power of Meditation: Slowing Down the Loop When Lisa realised her negative self-talk was just reverberations of her mother’s constant criticism—not her actual thoughts—it terrified her. “Who the hell’s steering the ship?” she wondered. Her solution was meditation, sometimes for four to five hours a day. “I knew I had to empty my mind of this crazy self-talk that was so self-sabotaging and focused on what’s going to happen next.” The results were almost immediate. After 40 minutes to an hour, she could sit up and observe. If the monkey mind returned, she’d lie back down and do another session. Each time, the chatter slowed further. “Once I emptied the mind, it was like the observer within me was born. That’s metacognition. Now suddenly I’m outside of my mind observing. Now I can catch a negative thought. Now I can catch a codependent thought.” Healing Relationships Without Cutting Everyone Out One of the most common questions Lisa receives: “How do I heal without cutting people out of my life?” Her answer: surrender. “Surrender to this idea that I’m doing this deep healing work. Surrender that just because I’m doing this work doesn’t mean my partner is going to be doing this work. I surrender to their confusion about who I’m becoming.” The reality is nuanced. Some people shouldn’t stay in your life—those who are aggressive, manipulative, or actively exploiting your abandonment fears. When you try to assert yourself and they bash you for daring, that’s a sign. But other relationships can evolve. Lisa’s been with her second husband for 15 years. “He doesn’t believe in everything that I believe, and I freaking love that as a recovering codependent because I can tolerate that. I don’t need his approval. I don’t need him to agree with me.” He supports her completely even though he doesn’t fully understand her work. “That’s unconditional love,” Lisa says. “Why does that person have to change to make me happy if that person has goodwill towards me?” Expecting your partner to think exactly like you? That’s still codependency. Breaking Generational Trauma “Nature has no other recourse but to create by default unless the human being awakens,” Lisa explains. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree. You’re 75% more likely to become an alcoholic if your father was an alcoholic. It’s biology, environment, emotion, vibration—everything you were around. “Nature will create through default patterns until you awaken, until there’s a cycle breaker in a generation.” Lisa sees her clients as unsung superheroes. “What you have done is you’ve halted this trauma into future generations. You have changed the collective matrix in which we all bathe in. The natural thing is to remain unconscious and do what was done to you. Not the healthiest, not the most fulfilling, but the most natural and innocent.” Her 12-week program moves through three phases: understanding what happened to you (the inner child’s wounds), moving into gentle accountability (it’s still your subconscious mind now), and ascension (how do we manage and emotionally regulate from a higher state). “You can’t fix a hole in the wall that you don’t see,” she says. Once you develop compassion for yourself, that trumps shame. Only then can you offer your parents compassion—but not before you develop self-empathy. Three Golden Nuggets for Your Healing Journey Golden Nugget #1: Find the Space Between Your Thoughts “One of the most powerful things you can do on your journey is to find the space between your thoughts,” Lisa emphasises. The mind runs on a loop, a consistent stream of what we assume is consciousness, but it’s mostly from the subconscious mind. “If you could practice finding the space between your thoughts, you could activate metacognition. It slows everything down.” Golden Nugget #2: Feelings Aren’t Facts “A big reality check, narcissism check, self-righteous check, arrogance check is: wait a minute, my feelings aren’t facts. They’re just opinions.” Your beliefs have probably changed over the past 25 years. But when you believed something 25 years ago, you thought it was a fact. This awareness creates humility and openness to growth. Golden Nugget #3: Emotional Neglect IS Trauma “Brain scans prove that children who grow up feeling ignored and invisible, their brain on a brain scan is similar to a child that has experienced domestic violence and physical abuse. It’s the same.” The hippocampal volume is smaller. The amygdala is lit up. Because feeling ignored is akin to death for a child. The same trauma responses, cortisol responses, and nervous system wiring are activated. Understanding what happened in your first three years of life is crucial. If you struggle with codependency, low self-worth, or boundaries, your nervous system was wired for survival during that period. You developed an aversion to abandonment and became sensitised to it, which fuels codependency and unhealthy emotional dependence. “Being emotionally neglected is trauma. Understand why. If you relate to anything we’ve shared today, you might be able to trace it back to those early developmental years.” About Lisa A. Romano Lisa A. Romano is a bestselling author, certified life coach, and leading expert in codependency and childhood trauma recovery. With over 5,000 students healed through her signature 12-week Breakthrough Method, she blends neuroscience, trauma-informed coaching, mindfulness, and spiritual wisdom to help adult children restructure their subconscious programs, build emotional resilience, and manifest intentional lives. She is the author of multiple books including “The Road Back to Me” and has built a global community through her online programs, YouTube channel, podcast, and social media presence. Key Takeaway You are not destined to repeat the patterns programmed into you as a child. The guilt, resentment, and self-abandonment you experience aren’t character flaws—they’re survival strategies from a nervous system that learned love was conditional. When you activate metacognition through meditation and self-inquiry, you can observe these patterns from outside the loop. When you step out of ego and claim your inherent worthiness, you become the cycle breaker your lineage has been waiting for. Coming home to yourself means releasing the belief that you must earn love by abandoning who you are. Watch the full conversation on YouTube Find Out More About Lisa A. Romano Website: https://www.lisaaromano.com Follow on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CodependencyandNarcissisticAbuseLifeCoach/ Follow on Instagram: @lisaaromano YouTube Channel: @lisaaromano1

Codependents, people-pleasers, those who fawn, seek approval, and external validation, do not consciously understand why they are so frustrated and unhappy. Codependency and fawning are trauma responses that all lead to anger, and resentment. Oftentimes, those who are struggling with emotional and mental health issues, who seek help, are misunderstood when they are codependent. Their symptoms are vague, yet incredibly disruptive and tormenting. When a codependent seeks help, they complain about others, because they have been programmed to believe that someone or something outside of them is the cure for their ills.  In this episode, Lisa A. Romano reveals how knowledge helps us organize the mind. Taking an objective look at our family of origin history helps unlock the secrets to why we do what we do, think what we think, and feel what we feel. When Lisa was finally diagnosed with codependency, and her therapist helped her investigate her family history, feeling stuck, angry, and resentful all began making sense.  Today you will learn about:

It has been said that if the enemy can't get to us, then he will attack our relationships. What are some of the crafty ways that he might try to create division and pull us away from unity and connection from our marriages, families, or just relationships as a whole? In this episode with Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, we walk through a conversation on specific ways the enemy will try to divide us from the most important resource in our recovery, relationships. What are some ways that we can combat? The enemies lies and sabotage to prevent falling back when the enemy attacks are most important relationships?

When breaking free from orbiting your life around others in codependency, discovering your own identity can be challenging. In this video, discover how a personal mission statement can help you discover your God given identity and purpose. Join us Monday at 7:30 PM EST when we will share practical steps you can take to write out your own mission statement for 2026 and get ready to soar God's way in the new year! God has timeless truths to help you navigate life and live in freedom as He intended. Join us LIVE on Mondays at 7:30 PM ET where we answer your questions on how to Conquer Codependency God's Way. Do you have a question you would like Aliene to address? We've got you! Just leave your question in the comments below or email questions@treasuredministries.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment if this episode resonates with you! For more information/resources check out the links below: ⇨ Visit the Treasured Ministries Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ ⇨ Join the Treasured Tribe https://treasuredtribe.com/ ⇨ Sign up for our FREE newsletter and get inspiration for your faith journey https://treasuredministries.activehos... ⇨ Donate: https://treasuredministries.com/donate/ ⇨Sign up for retreat https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ _____________________ Treasured Ministries provides discipleship, biblical resources, and community for women so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. For more information visit https://treasuredministries.com ______________________ Aliene Thompson is the president of Treasured Ministries International, the creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method, and the founder of the Treasured Tribe, an online Christian community for women. Her popular series on YouTube, "Conquering Codependency God's Way", helps women worldwide move from codependency to God dependency so they can live in freedom as God intended. #codependence #conqueringcodependency

I'm one of millions of women specifically trying to parent themselves while parenting children… and it can be seriously exhausting. And when childhood trauma still comes back to haunt us in midlife and beyond, life can feel impossible.  That's why I've invited trauma expert Anna Runkle on for this powerful episode to help unpack why so many midlife women are still impacted by old trauma, and how that buried stress shows up in our bodies.  We dive into the hidden ways trauma can lead us to isolate, dysregulate our nervous system, and disrupt key hormones like cortisol, dopamine, and serotonin.  Anna and I break down how this cascade of stress and deregulation can spark inflammation, oxidative stress, blood-sugar swings, and even contribute to autoimmune issues that so many women face.  But most importantly, Anna shares simple, compassionate tools to help regulate your nervous system and finally begin healing the deeper patterns driving overwhelm in midlife.  Ready to feel more grounded in this season of life? Hit play and listen now! Anna Runkle Anna Runkle is the creator of the popular YouTube channel, blog, courses, and coaching programs that provide tools for adults to heal dysregulation and other common trauma symptoms, helping them feel better and change their lives. Anna's methods were developed through research, her mentoring of hundreds of individuals over the years, and her direct experience healing her own symptoms of early trauma. She's the author of Re-Regulated: Set Your Life Free from Childhood PTSD and the Trauma-Driven Behaviors That Keep You Stuck and Connectability: Heal the Hidden Ways You Isolate, Find Your People, and Feel (At Last) Like You Belong.  IN THIS EPISODE Understanding nervous system deregulation  How Anna learned to adapt after childhood trauma  Symptoms that can manifest from over-functioning  How to manage stressors and stay regulated day to day  Top ways we can start to regulate, especially when deregulated  How connection can be a huge tool for healing  Free resources and where you can find more from Anna!  QUOTES“All these weird symptoms that I had… It's neurological dysregulation. It's really normal. Everybody gets dysregulated sometimes, but those of us who are traumatized as kids are often more prone to it. It happens more easily. It's more intense. It's harder to get out of.” “Early trauma is very strongly correlated later in life with high rates of cancer, diabetes, heart disease, autoimmune disorders, reproductive disorders, just about everything bad.” “Those three things– dysregulation, disconnection, and self-defeating behavior– those are the things that can just take you out and keep you stuck in trauma forever. So the good news is you can learn to reregulate.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order Anna's Book: CONNECTABILITY: Heal the Hidden Ways You Isolate, Find Your People, And Feel (At Last) Like You Belong HERE Order Anna's other book: Re-Regulated: Set Your Life Free from Childhood PTSD and the Trauma-Driven Behaviors That Keep You Stuck HERE Anna's Website Anna Runkle on YouTube Anna Runkle on Instagram RELATED EPISODES  681: The Biology of Trauma: How Stress Gets Stored in Your Body (and Passed On to Your Kids) and How You Can Start To Heal with Dr. Aimie Apigian #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #308: What Is Trauma and How Does It Make Us Sick? with Dr. Elena Villanueva

In this episode of the Food Junkies Podcast, Clarissa and Molly sit down with psychologist Dr. Carrie Wilkens to unpack what it really means to help people change without shame, stigma, or power struggles. Drawing from decades of work in substance use, eating disorders, trauma, and family systems, Carrie invites us to rethink "denial," "relapse," "codependency," and even the disease model itself, while still honoring the seriousness of addiction and the depth of people's pain. Together, we explore how self-compassion, curiosity, and values-based behavior change can transform not only individual recovery but also how families, helpers, and communities show up for the people they love. In this episode, we explore: Lived experience & professional work How Carrie's own long-term healing around food and her body continues to shape the compassion and curiosity she brings to her work. The idea that our relationship with food and our bodies changes across the lifespan—and why "lifelong relationship management" matters more than perfection. Do you have to be "in recovery" to help? The pressures clinicians face when they're asked, "Are you in recovery?" and how that question can be loaded with judgment and assumptions. Why personal experience with a specific substance or behavior is not a prerequisite to being deeply effective as a helper. How Carrie talks with clients and families about her own history in a way that's honest, boundaried, and clinically useful. Rethinking 'denial' and harmful language Why words like "denial," "addict," "codependent," "chronic relapser," and "it's a slippery slope" can shut people down rather than open them up. A more curious approach: asking "What do you mean by that?" and unpacking the real story underneath labels. How language can either invite people into self-understanding—or reinforce shame, fear, and disconnection. Softening the disease model without minimizing the problem Nuanced ways to honor addiction as a serious, complex disorder without collapsing everything into a rigid disease frame. How fear (of overdose, loss, chaos, or death) drives a lot of rigid thinking in systems and professionals. Why behavior change is slow, non-linear, and rarely a straight line—and how accepting that can actually make care more effective. Relapse as an "old solution that once worked" Carrie's reframe of relapse as returning to an old behavior that, at one time, made sense and worked on some level. How naming the function of a behavior (soothing, numbing, regulating, connecting) opens the door to new, less harmful solutions. The difference between "You didn't want it enough" and "Your brain reached for an old strategy that once helped you survive." The Invitation to Change Approach (ITC) The core elements of ITC: Motivational interviewing–informed curiosity and ambivalence exploration. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and values-based living. A deep commitment to self-compassion as a foundation for behavior change. Why ITC was originally developed for family members and then adapted for people with substance use concerns themselves. How the "wheel" of ITC lets people step in wherever they are—self-awareness, values, behavior strategies, or compassion—and build over time. Families, shame, and staying engaged without "tough love" Inviting family members to ask: "How does my loved one's behavior make sense?" instead of "What's wrong with them?" How this shift helps parents and partners move from fear and control into strategy, support, and skillful engagement. Concrete examples of how families can respond to return to use with curiosity, concern, and clearer communication instead of lectures or ultimatums. Codependency and other overused labels Why Carrie has never formally diagnosed anyone with "codependency." What often lives underneath that label: trauma histories, cultural norms, attachment dynamics, fear of loss, and learned survival strategies. How flattening all of that into "codependent" erases nuance and blocks meaningful change. Neurodivergence, trauma, and substance use/eating behaviors The high rates of PTSD and ADHD among people seeking help for substance use—and why that matters for treatment design. Carrie's reflection on her own undiagnosed ADHD and how it likely drove much of her earlier eating disorder behavior. How binges, purging, and substance use can function as powerful nervous system regulators, especially for neurodivergent and trauma-impacted brains. Why we need more ground-up, neurodivergent- and trauma-informed approaches that focus on emotion regulation, executive functioning, and skill-building. Self-compassion as a behavior change superpower Carrie's journey from skepticism ("this sounds too woo") to seeing self-compassion as essential, research-backed behavior-change work. How self-compassion reduces shame, helps people tolerate slow progress, and makes it safer to look honestly at their own behavior. Using both "tender" and "fierce" self-compassion to choose boundaries, seek support, and keep moving through discomfort. Reimagining 'expert' roles and community care Why Carrie is skeptical of rigid expert hierarchies in addiction treatment. Inviting families, community leaders, and lay helpers into the work through accessible tools like ITC groups and trainings. The power of giving non-clinicians simple, evidence-based language and frameworks so they can respond with compassion instead of panic or shame. About Dr. Carrie Wilkens Carrie Wilkens, PhD, is a psychologist with more than 25 years of experience in the practice and dissemination of evidence-based treatments for substance use and post-traumatic stress. She is the Co-President and CEO of CMC: Foundation for Change, a nonprofit dedicated to bringing evidence-based ideas and strategies to families, communities, and professionals supporting people struggling with substances. Carrie is a co-developer of the Invitation to Change (ITC) Approach, an accessible, skills-based framework that helps families stay engaged, reduce shame, and effectively support a loved one's behavior change. ITC is now used across the U.S. and internationally in groups, trainings, and community programs. She is co-author of the award-winning book Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change, which adapts the Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) model for families, and co-author of The Beyond Addiction Workbook for Family and Friends, a practical, evidence-based guide for loved ones who want concrete tools to support change without sacrificing their own wellbeing. Carrie is also Co-Founder and Clinical Director of the Center for Motivation and Change (CMC), a group of clinicians providing evidence-based care in New York City, Long Island, Washington, DC, San Diego, and at CMC: Berkshires, a private residential program for adults. She has served as Project Director on a large SAMHSA-funded grant addressing college binge drinking and is frequently sought out by media outlets including CBS This Morning, the Katie Couric Show, NPR, and HBO's Risky Drinking to speak on substance use and behavior change. Resources Mentioned CMC: Foundation for Change – Family-focused trainings, groups, and resources: cmcffc.org The Invitation to Change Approach – Overview of the ITC model and its core topics. Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change (Book) The Beyond Addiction Workbook for Family and Friends (Workbook) The content of our show is educational only. It does not supplement or supersede your healthcare provider's professional relationship and direction. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified mental health providers with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition, substance use disorder, or mental health concern.  

Are you exhausted from bending over backwards for your partner (like it's your unpaid side job), and still not getting the love or change you were promised?If you've ever felt yourself shrinking, second-guessing, or living in reaction to someone else (especially a narcissistic partner), this conversation will help you name what's happening and come back to your own center.In this episode you will:Learn a clear, compassionate definition of codependency that you can spot in real lifeUnderstand how to break the rescue–victim–perpetrator loop and anchor in self-trustRecognize the language for differentiating empathetic care from codependent over-functioningPress play now to learn how to spot codependency and start taking your time, energy, and power back.QUICK LINKS FROM EPISODE:Cheryl's PDF of The 3 Codes to Clear Codependency: www.cherylfidelman.comEp. 107 Why He Says He'll Change, But Never Does (The Narcissistic Lie): https://pod.fo/e/35f34b RESOURCES FOR YOUR HEALING:

Amy reunites with her dear friend Dr. Sarah Michaud for a rich, emotional Boozeless Book Club conversation about Charlotte Kasl's “Many Roads, One Journey.” Together they unpack fear-based systems, patriarchal conditioning, codependency, and the long-term work of building identity outside dogma. It's honest, layered, and exactly the kind of dialogue that reminds you you're not alone on your own recovery path.Key Takeaways• Kasl's work invites women to question rigid systems—religion, recovery, and culture—that shape identity through fear and shame. • Amy reflects on trading one dogma for another and how belonging once overrode her self-trust. • They examine how AA slogans, spiritual axioms, and “my way or the highway” thinking can unintentionally reinforce fear. • Codependency runs deep, especially for women socialized to prioritize harmony over needs. • Recovery is never one-size-fits-all—every person deserves a path that supports autonomy, dignity, and choice.Timestamped Key Moments[00:00:00] Amy reflects on dogmatic rules, belonging, and fear-based conditioning. [00:01:00] Amy welcomes listeners back and introduces Dr. Sarah. [00:02:00] Amy discusses how she pushed Sarah into reading the book. [00:03:00] Amy reacts to the density of Kasl's work. [00:04:00] Sarah connects the author's religious background to her rebellious spirit.Resource Links• Many Roads, One Journey by Charlotte Davis Kasl • Women, Sex, and Addiction by Charlotte Davis Kasl • Leaving CrazyTown Podcast

The Alcoholic and Their Enablers (Part Two) THE ENABLERS. In this episode of the Take 12 Recovery Radio Show, we feature insights from Jonathan Harrison, author of 'Alcoholics and Their Enablers,' who shares valuable information about the science behind enabling and the importance of seeking help for both alcoholics and their supporters.The Montyman and his cohosts discuss the complex dynamics of alcoholism, focusing on the role of enablers. They explore the genetic factors that contribute to enabling behaviors, the psychological implications of codependency, and the importance of awareness and acceptance in recovery. The conversation emphasizes that enablers often struggle with their own issues and need to recognize their role in the cycle of addiction. Closing Song: Where Is My Child Tonight by Steve Dan Mills. #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

During messy and hard times, including the holidays, the enemy may try to break the momentum of our recovery journey. What are some ways that we can maintain the incredible life-giving momentum that He has begun in our recovery journey? What are some things that we can be aware of as we continue step-by-step? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack some practical reminders and how to maintain momentum and prevent relapse in our recovery journey.

In codependency, navigating tough family dynamics and establishing healthy boundaries can be especially difficult during the holiday season. Join our live Q&A at 7:30 PM EST to discover God's solution for setting boundaries and learn Biblical truths to navigate difficult family relationships this holiday season. Get ready to set boundaries God's way! Video mentioned in the LIVE: What is the DARVO Abuse Tactic and how can you Respond Biblically? https://www.youtube.com/live/Jqsg8_9F2BY?si=H61lO4jtazDisZXz God has timeless truths to help you navigate life and live in freedom as He intended. Join us LIVE on Mondays at 7:30 PM ET where we answer your questions on how to Conquer Codependency God's Way. Do you have a question you would like Aliene to address? We've got you! Just leave your question in the comments below or email questions@treasuredministries.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment if this episode resonates with you! For more information/resources check out the links below: ⇨ Visit the Treasured Ministries Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ ⇨ Join the Treasured Tribe https://treasuredtribe.com/ ⇨ Sign up for our FREE newsletter and get inspiration for your faith journey https://treasuredministries.activehos... ⇨ Donate: https://treasuredministries.com/donate/ ⇨Sign up for retreat https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ _____________________ Treasured Ministries provides discipleship, biblical resources, and community for women so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. For more information visit https://treasuredministries.com ______________________ Aliene Thompson is the president of Treasured Ministries International, the creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method, and the founder of the Treasured Tribe, an online Christian community for women. Her popular series on YouTube, "Conquering Codependency God's Way", helps women worldwide move from codependency to God dependency so they can live in freedom as God intended. #codependence #conqueringcodependency

If you lean anxious in relationships, this one's for you.I see it all the time—guys who crave closeness so much that they choke the relationship. You text too much, talk too much, try too hard to keep things “good.” But that desperate energy ends up pushing her away.I'll show you what's really happening under the surface—why your attachment system freaks out when she pulls away, and how to stop feeding that panic. You'll learn how to regulate yourself, stop chasing reassurance, and build the kind of calm confidence that actually creates attraction.If you want more depth, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix or check out The Brotherhood, our private men's community with live meetings, courses, and 1,000+ hours of member-only content:

Codependency is an umbrella term used to describe a broad spectrum of emotional, mental and behavioral, subconscious, and automatic trauma responses developed in early childhood as an adaptation to chronic, inescapable stress. While over-functioning as a small child, to avoid rejection, the child's nervous system learns to scan their environment for potential threats. This scanning is called hypervigilance, and it also exiles the inner child into an abyss. Children of toxic, dysfunctional parents, families, and circumstances are denied the compassionate adult, whose role is to mentor, teach, and guide a child in a way that nurtures a positive sense of self. The very basics of healthy human interraction are not modeled. A child who has learned they must scan their environment must: Use their conscious waking hours scanning their parents' facial expressions, moods, and tones--while this is occurring, a child is learning how to morph and adapt, rather than explore the inner self, their inner child, their inner landscape Abandoning the self, including their innate needs, wants, emotions, and right to be authentic, to avoid further emotional neglect, abuse, bullying, or rejection—while this survival response was useful during childhood, the adult child eventually learns that they often don't know what they want or need. This can be a frustrating experience in therapy and relationships. If you are codependent, you may have felt frustrated in therapy when asked, "What do you need" What do you want?"  Codependents do not know what they need.  They Struggle to Trust Their Inner World Codependency is built on self-abandonment. Many codependents grew up in environments where their emotions were dismissed, mocked, punished, or ignored. Carl Jung would say their inner child—what he called the "Divine Child"—was exiled. So when asked: "What do you feel?" "What do you want?" "What do you need?" …they genuinely do not know. This creates enormous frustration in therapy, because the inner world feels foreign, inaccessible, or even dangerous. The codependent has learned to trust external authority over inner intuition. Reconnecting with the inner self requires time, patience, and the slow dismantling of shame. Therapy asks them to return to a Self they have never been allowed to meet. The journey back home must be slow, steady, and compassionate; otherwise, therapy can sometimes cause more harm than good and lead to a codependent person trying to please the therapist, thereby reenacting a facet of their adaptation survival response. Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers.   Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth.

Subscribe in a reader If you're divorcing a narcissist, you may be tempted to use your therapy records to prove PTSD or emotional abuse in court. But handing over those records can backfire in devastating ways. In this powerful conversation with Bree Bonchay—psychotherapist and founder of World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day—we break down the hidden […] The post Why You Should Never Use Therapy Records in a Narcissist Divorce | w/ Bree Bonchay appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

So many survivors walk into healing believing they were “codependent,” when the truth is far more compassionate and far more accurate:What you were doing wasn't codependency — it was fawning, a trauma response your nervous system used to keep you safe in an emotionally dangerous environment. In this episode, we break down the difference between fawning and codependency in a way that finally makes sense for survivors of covert narcissistic abuse. We explore why these two patterns get confused, how fawning operates as a survival mechanism, and why labeling yourself “codependent” often adds unnecessary shame to an already painful experience. You'll hear real, relatable examples that show what these behaviors look like in everyday life: saying “it's okay” when it isn't, prioritizing someone else's needs over your own, and walking on eggshells. We'll explore each scenario from both angles — the trauma-driven fawn response and the learned relational pattern of codependency — so you can see exactly where the difference lies. If you've ever blamed yourself for being “too accommodating,” “too forgiving,” or “too passive,” this episode will help you shift that lens. You were not weak. You were surviving.And now, you get to learn a new way of being where safety no longer depends on self-abandonment. DISCLAIMER: THE INFORMATION PROVIDED BY RENEE SWANSON, COVERT NARCISSISM PODCAST, AND CNG LIFE COACHING IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY AND IS NOT TO BE USED FOR DIAGNOSIS PURPOSES AND NOT INTENDED TO BE A SUBSTITUTE FOR CLINICAL CARE. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTH CARE PROVIDER FOR GUIDANCE SPECIFIC TO YOUR CASE. THIS MATERIAL DISCUSSES NARCISSISM IN GENERAL. RENEE SHARES STORIES FROM HER PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AS WELL AS FROM THOSE SHE HAS TALKED WITH FOR SEVERAL YEARS. HER MATERIAL DOES NOT CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON HAS NARCISSISM AND SHOULD NOT BE USED TO REFER TO ANY SPECIFIC PERSON AS HAVING NARCISSISM. PERMISSION IS NOT GRANTED TO LINK TO OR REPOST THIS MATERIAL TO SUPPORT AN ALLEGATION OR SUPPORT A CLAIM THAT ANY SPECIFIC PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. THAT WOULD BE AN UNAUTHORIZED MISUSE OF THE MATERIAL AND INFORMATION PROVIDED. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Sometimes in recovery, we can confuse struggling in an area of recovery with the reality of defining freedom. What does freedom look like and does that mean we won't struggle if we are to say we are walking in freedom? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery will provide some language around helping us reframe what it means to walk in freedom with codependency as we struggle to live life on life's terms.

Codependency is when our emotional well-being depends on someone else's behavior, reactions, approval, or chaos. It's the habit of trying to fix, manage, or control other people while ignoring our own needs. In recovery, codependency is just as destructive as the addiction itself — because it keeps us living through others instead of living our own lives. Today we're talking about how codependency forms, how it affects relationships, and how we break free by setting boundaries, building self-worth, and letting people carry their own weight.

In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend Joy Shaw for a powerful and heart-opening conversation about calling, courage, and trusting the path God lays in front of you. Joy shares her incredible journey of walking away from what was familiar, stepping into the unknown, and learning to follow divine direction even when it didn't make logical sense. This episode is an invitation to trust that you are being guided, supported, and prepared for exactly what you're meant to do. Liked this episode? Make sure to subscribe to our podcast and leave a review with your takeaways, this helps us create the exact content you want!  KEY POINTS:  00:49 A Deep Friendship and Shared Journey 01:27 Defining a Woman of Influence 03:14 Embracing the Shadow 04:07 The Medicine is in the Stay 07:44 Introducing the Growth Collective 09:27 Facing Fear and Staying Present 20:11 Patterns of Codependency and Narcissism 25:57 The Struggle with Receiving Help 26:33 The Stroke and Its Impact 26:46 Learning to Ask for Help 28:49 Challenges in the Healing Space 30:13 Ethics and Integrity in Plant Medicine 32:30 Personal Identity and Healing 34:09 The Importance of Self-Love 36:31 Collective Healing and Evolution 43:06 Embracing an Untethered Life 45:10 Conclusion and Final Thoughts QUOTABLES: “  I used to have this victim narrative around being around feeling taken advantage of. But there was a victimhood to that because if I believed that I was being taken advantage of, I could then be resentful to be taken advantage of, which would then just perpetuate the narrative of, well, Julie just has to do it herself. No one's gonna show up for her. She's just gotta do it. Which would then keep me in the driver's seat and in control, which would continue to perpetuate that narrative.” - Julie Solomon  “  Our minds are wired for survival, and if you have trauma, they're doubly wired for survival, right? Because you had to make it through a really unsafe environment that you were growing up in, or some event that happened that you had to survive. And so your mind is almost more programmed to keep you alive and to be hypervigilant. I work with a lot of people with PTSD and so we're deprogramming a lot of that and, and we're having to build safety and trust with it. And the other thing that we have to do is we have to befriend this part of us.” - Joy Shaw GUEST RESOURCES: Website: https://www.joyshaw.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/alchemizewithjoy RESOURCES: ✨ Unscripted: My First In-Person Retreat in 2+ Years — Now Accepting Applications If you've felt your voice no longer matches the woman you've become, this intimate 2-day retreat in Nashville (Feb 5–6, 2026) is for you. Unscripted is where your message, identity, and leadership come back into alignment—without pressure, performance, or shrinking. Spots are limited and application-only. Apply now at juliesolomon.net/unscripted.

This episode features guest hosts Dr. Scott Waltman and Kasey Pierce, authors of the forthcoming book The Rescuer Trap. Kasey breaks the silence with a six-word confession. She and Scott then explore the painful truth of codependency: when you jump into the quicksand of a partner's depression to save them, the inevitable result is sinking yourself.Are you the fixer, the over-giver, the emotional first responder for everyone but yourself? Welcome to The Rescuer Trap. We playfully own the labels “Parentified and Codependent” to make a point: these are not identities, but learned behaviors.And what can be learned can be unlearned. Hosts Dr. Scott Waltman and Kasey Pierce use Stoic philosophy and CBT to give you the tools to break the cycle and reclaim your autonomy. Your escape from the trap starts here. Based on the forthcoming book, The Rescuer Trap (New Harbinger).Thanks for reading Stoicism: Philosophy as a Way of Life! This post is public so feel free to share it. Get full access to Stoicism: Philosophy as a Way of Life at donaldrobertson.substack.com/subscribe

Feeling a bit lost in midlife? This is a MASSIVE transition physically and emotionally, so it's easy to feel like you're just not who you once were.  In this episode, I sit down with the wonderful Elena Brower to discuss navigating midlife with more grace, spaciousness, and self-trust.  As a seasoned meditation and yoga instructor, Elena reminds us that this season of life is truly about letting go—releasing what no longer serves you and creating room for what deeply matters now.  Through the stories and practices in her new book, Hold Nothing, she offers a grounded pathway for prioritizing yourself, your energy, and your evolving needs without apology.  We explore how midlife asks us to choose what gets to take center stage today… and you can bet it's different from what mattered most to you five, ten, or twenty years ago.  So if you're craving care, patience, and encouragement as you move through hormonal shifts and midlife transitions, this conversation is just for you!  Elena Brower  Elena Brower is an international yoga and meditation teacher on Glo, guiding transformative practices for over 25 years. She's the author of Art of Attention: A Yoga Practice Workbook for Movement as Meditation, and just published her newest book, Hold Nothing. Elena is a mother, mentor, poet, artist, volunteer, bestselling author, and host of the Practice You Podcast, where she supports women through life's transitions, encouraging presence, care, and openness.  IN THIS EPISODE Exploring the concept and benefits of “holding nothing”  Emphasizing the importance of relationships  Healthy parenting techniques for fostering trust  Remaining steady and patient in unexpected circumstances  How your body physiologically responds to stress  Practicing Zen Meditation  Lifestyle recommendations for midlife transitions   QUOTES “This ritual of sitting in the morning became the steadfast rule. And this is where it almost feels like I'm taking a shower for my mind– getting rid of all the doubt, the fear, the frustration, the angst, the anxiety, the anger… And when I finally took it on, it actually made a huge difference in who I am and how I show up, particularly in my parenting, but also in every other realm.” “Those situations are really important to keep close. Those are the ones that are going to help us really practice and learn how to die,  and that's kind of the next step, the next practice, living as fully with as much love and fun as we can, as much care and consideration as we can, and dying well.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Use code DRMARIZA and get 15% off on your Silverbiotics order https://silverbiotics.com/discount/drmariza Order my new book: The Perimenopause Revolution https://peri-revolution.com/ Order Elena's Book: Hold Nothing https://elenabrower.com/holdnothing Dr. Mariza's Ultimate Morning Self-Care Guide & Sign up for her FREE Virtual Workshop: The Altar of Your Heart  Elena Brower's Website  Elena on Substack  Elena on Instagram Elena's Podcast: PRACTICE YOU  RELATED EPISODES  692: Why Emotional Healing is Hormone Healing-The New Path to Midlife Empowerment with Ashley Turner 690: The Perimenopause Revolution: Why midlife isn't the end — it's the beginning of your most energized, powerful, and vibrant self 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey

In Celebrate Recovery, we no doubt learned that boundaries and guidelines are essential to keeping us on the right track. Whether it's the small group guidelines, following the DNA or other leadership components, practicing keeping our ministry safe is important. However, how can legalism and becoming the security guard, hinder the healing process and break connection from us and others that God has called us to lead? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will unpack this important topic to help us lean into Grace versus rigidity and rules that separates us from the important connections in our life.

Let's talk about neediness — what it really is, where it comes from, and how to stop letting it ruin your relationships.Neediness isn't about “having needs.” It's about trying to make one specific person fix your emotional state on demand. That's not love — that's panic.I'll walk you through what's actually happening inside your nervous system when you feel desperate for someone's attention or affection… and how to train yourself to stay calm, confident, and grounded instead.We'll cover:The difference between connection and controlHow “emotional hunger” tricks you into chasing validationThe 90-second anti-neediness drill you can do anytimeWhy secure men build multiple emotional pillarsHow to stop confusing gratitude with entitlementAnd why self-respect kills desperationIf this one hits home, grab a copy of my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man at https://readrebuild.com, and join our Brotherhood of men doing this work together at https://helpformen.com/join.

Mental Wealth, Leave a New LegacyIn this powerful episode of Mental Wealth, Laura Wood sits down with MOMnation to unpack what codependency really looks like for moms today. If you have ever felt responsible for everyone's emotions, struggled to say no, or lost pieces of yourself in parenting or relationships, this conversation is going to hit home.​​​Laura explains the difference between healthy support and codependent behavior in a way that finally makes sense. You will hear how childhood experiences and family dynamics can quietly wire us for people pleasing, over functioning, and self sacrifice, and how that plays out in parenting, friendships, and romantic relationships.​​​Together we explore the emotional toll of codependency including anxiety, resentment, and feeling like you do not even know who you are anymore. Laura walks you through practical steps to start breaking the cycle with awareness, simple boundary setting scripts, and realistic self care that does not require a spa day. ​​​If you are ready to stop carrying everyone and start living as your whole self again, this episode is your permission slip. Do not wait for burnout to force a change. Press play and start untangling codependency today.​​​Connect with Laura: https://www.facebook.com/Benavieri​Connect with Katie: https://www.facebook.com/KatieHalleLambert​​​#mentalhealthformoms #codependencyrecovery #momselfcare​​​Brought to you by Team EvoAZ at eXp Realty and Benavieri Counseling. ​ ​​​*The information shared in this podcast is not intended to treat or diagnose a mental health or medical condition. Please consult your physician or other qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment. If you or anyone else is experiencing a mental health emergency, please immediately contact the CRISIS LINE at 988. This podcast is prerecorded.*

In Christian codependency, we believe we are doing the right thing to stay in toxic relationships, whether with our spouse, partner, friend, or family. We believe we are supposed to sacrifice, give, tolerate, overlook, and forgive. Two become one in marriage. The church is our family. We honor our parents. We respect our elders. These along with the dynamics in toxic relationships, often result in us losing ourselves. If you have trouble setting boundaries and separating yourself from toxic people, it may be because you are enmeshed. Watch this video to find out if you are enmeshed. The answer is important. Watch this video to find out. #christiancodependency #enmeshment #toxicrelationships   Website: https://www.changemyrelationship.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChangeMyRelationship YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@changemyrelationship Watch this video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/nHveAQiNy3o  

The Hard Truth About Being "The Helper" (And Why It's Keeping You Stuck) In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood patterns in relationships: codependency. If you've ever felt exhausted from being "the strong one," guilty when you prioritize yourself, or frustrated when someone doesn't take your advice, this conversation is for you. I break down how codependency masquerades as love but is actually a hidden form of control—and how the need to be needed keeps both you and the people you care about stuck. You'll learn to recognize the subtle daily patterns that signal codependency, from checking your phone for someone else's emotional weather to canceling your own plans when someone seems "off." Then, I walk you through the practice of detachment with love—caring deeply while releasing your grip on outcomes. This isn't about being cold or distant. It's about trusting that others have their own path, their own lessons, and their own capacity to grow. I share practical steps like setting real boundaries (yes, you can not respond to every text), tolerating discomfort, and offering support without attachment. Finally, we dive into personal responsibility and emotional independence. You'll discover how to build your own sense of meaning that doesn't depend on being needed, practice self-compassion with the same kindness you give others, and reclaim the energy you've been pouring into everyone else's lives.

Do you feel like you're carrying everyone else's needs on your shoulders? Or maybe you struggle to set boundaries without feeling guilty? You are not alone. In this episode of the Love Your Life Show, Susie Pettit sits down with Dr. Zoe Shaw, a licensed psychotherapist, life coach, podcast host, and author of Stronger in the Difficult Places. Dr. Zoe specializes in helping women heal from complex shame™ and codependency so they can experience healthy love, freedom, and stronger relationships…including the one with themselves. Together, Susie and Dr. Zoe unpack: ✨ What complex shame really is and how it sneaks into our daily lives ✨ The difference between healthy guilt and toxic shame ✨ Why so many women struggle with codependency in midlife ✨ How to set boundaries without the guilt ✨ The first steps to breaking unhealthy patterns and creating a lighter, freer life If you've ever thought, “It's too late for me to change,” or felt exhausted from always taking care of others before yourself—this conversation will give you the hope and tools you need. Press play and discover how you can become stronger in your own difficult places. If you liked this show, you'll like this one: How to STOP Over-Functioning and FEEL BETTER on Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/188-how-to-stop-overfunctioning-and-feel-better/id1434429161?i=1000554161604 How to STOP Over-Functioning and FEEL BETTER on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/2JPETjXq221KsocVrQkXrR?si=ec41e2c71af74168 Find Dr. Zoe Shaw's book, podcast and all other great things mentioned here

Subscribe in a reader If you're divorcing a narcissist, you may be tempted to use your therapy records to prove PTSD or emotional abuse in court. But handing over those records can backfire in devastating ways. In this powerful conversation with Bree Bonchay—psychotherapist and founder of World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day—we break down the hidden […] The post Beyond Interaction: The Loneliness Epidemic & the Courage to Connect | Christina Wenman appeared first on Narcissist Abuse Support.

Are you trying to support someone you love without slipping into rescuing, fixing, or doing everything for them? We're diving deep into codependency, emotional boundaries, and what healthy support really looks like when someone you care about is going through a hard season. Join us Monday at 7:30 PM EST for our Live Q and A and get ready to experience healthy relationships God's way! God has timeless truths to help you navigate life and live in freedom as He intended. Join us LIVE on Mondays at 7:30 PM ET where we answer your questions on how to Conquer Codependency God's Way. Do you have a question you would like Aliene to address? We've got you! Just leave your question in the comments below or email questions@treasuredministries.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a comment if this episode resonates with you! For more information/resources check out the links below: ⇨ Visit the Treasured Ministries Website: https://treasuredministries.com/ ⇨ Join the Treasured Tribe https://treasuredtribe.com/ ⇨ Sign up for our FREE newsletter and get inspiration for your faith journey https://treasuredministries.activehos... ⇨ Donate: https://treasuredministries.com/donate/ ⇨Sign up for retreat https://treasuredministries.com/retreat/ _____________________ Treasured Ministries provides discipleship, biblical resources, and community for women so they can exchange codependency for God dependency and thrive. For more information visit https://treasuredministries.com ______________________ Aliene Thompson is the president of Treasured Ministries International, the creator of the Nourish Bible Study Method, and the founder of the Treasured Tribe, an online Christian community for women. Her popular series on YouTube, "Conquering Codependency God's Way", helps women worldwide move from codependency to God dependency so they can live in freedom as God intended. #codependence #conqueringcodependency

Do you constantly set yourself on fire to keep other people warm? If you find it hard to put your needs before the needs of everyone else in your life, then you may be struggling with codependency.  According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, codependency is “a psychological condition or a relationship in which a [...]

Send one way text to Rev Rachel Many of us arrive here because someone we love is struggling - addiction, depression, or the weight of life - and we've carried it all, believing we had to fix it. But what if the moments that feel like collapse, yours or theirs, are actually the opening your soul has been waiting for?In this episode, we explore how “wall-hitting moments” can shift us from fear and managing to witnessing and allowing. I share from my own recovery from alcoholism and years of codependency, and how everything changed when I turned inward and began to recover my soul.In this episode I talk about: seeing someone else's rock bottom as an invitation for your own awakeningmoving from control to compassionthe difference between accepting and allowingtrusting each person's unique soul pathfinding your center even when others are not okayMy hope is that this conversation helps you soften, breathe, and come back to yourself remembering that your healing does not depend on someone else changing. You are guided, held, and never alone on this journey.Join me and the Recover Your Soul community as we waJoin us December 1st from 6-7PM Mountain Time for the next FREE Recover Your Soul Community Support Group. Register on the website, or look in your promotions folder the day of the meeting for the link if you have registered in the past.  Start your journey with the FREE Recover Your Soul™ 9-Step Mini-Workbook- A gentle spiritual path to healing, letting go, and awakening. This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts

One of the most challenging parts of the recovery journey is found in Principle 6 and Step 8. This is where we pause to honestly survey the damage caused by our past hurts, habits, and hang-ups—acknowledging how our actions have affected both ourselves and others. It's a step that can feel difficult, but it's also one of the most life-changing as we begin to move toward making amends and finding true freedom.In today's episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, is joined by his dear friend and brother in Christ, Mac Owen, Global Director of Celebrate Recovery. Together, they unpack the value and purpose of making amends and how this powerful step brings healing and restoration to our journey.

What happens when you wake up one day and realize… you've lost yourself?In this powerful episode, therapist and author Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT joins Kevin to explore the deep emotional patterns that cause us to disconnect from who we truly are. From codependency and shame to narcissistic relationships and early childhood dynamics, Darlene shares decades of wisdom to help you understand why you may have given your identity away—and how to begin reclaiming it.Whether you're healing from a toxic relationship, navigating major life transitions, or simply feel stuck, this conversation offers truth, hope, and tools for your personal growth journey.Topics we cover:- The hidden ways we “give away” our identity- What it means to lose yourself in relationships- How trauma and shame distort self-worth- Why intuition matters—and how to trust it- Practical steps to reconnect with your real self

You might know Elizabeth Gilbert as the author of Eat Pray Love; now, she's written All The Way To The River, charting her electric, heart-breaking relationship with her partner Rayya, who died in 2018.In this Book Club chat, Fearne explains that she chose this to be part of the Happy Place Book Club because she recognised so many of her own behaviour traits in it – see: chaotic relationships and people pleasing!Elizabeth talks through how to tell if you're co-dependent, what a love and sex addict really is, and how to block someone's number for your own emotional safety.Fearne and Elizabeth also get into those moments where you want to react with defensiveness and rage, and how to extend compassion to yourself and others instead.If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Book Club Meets: Aisha Muharrar Book Club Meets: Emily Henry Book Club Meets: Lorna Tucker Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this deeply insightful episode of The Life Lived Better Podcast, Joseph and Paula unpack two powerful — and often misunderstood — relationship dynamics: codependency and counterdependency. Though they seem like opposites, both are rooted in the same place — fear, unmet attachment needs, and a longing for safety and connection.In this episode, the hosts explore:Where codependent and counterdependent patterns come from.How they show up in everyday relationships — from family to friendships to romance.What happens when these two dynamics collide (spoiler: it's common and messy).How to begin healing and move toward healthy interdependence.You'll learn how awareness, boundaries, self-compassion, and vulnerability pave the way for genuine connection — without losing yourself in the process.Whether you recognize yourself as someone who clings or someone who pulls away, this episode isn't about judgment — it's about understanding. It's about learning new ways to relate that feel secure, balanced, and authentic.Do you have any questions? If you have a question for Joseph and Paula to answer during a future episode of Questions for Counselors, reach out through the website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession.  We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.Resources for this episode and topic: Mental Health AmericaCo‑Dependents Anonymous (CoDA)“What Is Codependency? 20 Signs & Symptoms”  PositivePsychology.comFree worksheets and tools Universal Coach Institute Codependency Library Live Well with Sharon Martin

Do you ever feel like you have to be "right" in order to feel safe? Or that if you could just figure out the answer, the relationship, or the next step, then the anxiety and shame would finally go away? If so, you're not alone. Many women stuck in co-dependency and complex shame cling to certainty as a way to feel secure—but often it only leaves us more exhausted, more disconnected, and further from ourselves. In this episode of Stronger in the Difficult Places, I sit down with Stefani Ruper - Oxford-trained philosopher, former Harvard researcher, and author of the forthcoming book The Certainty Cure. Stefani shares why releasing certainty and embracing curiosity can transform the way we see ourselves, our relationships, and our healing journey. We talk about: • Why certainty addiction keeps women stuck in cycles of co-dependency and shame • How uncertainty fuels personal growth and builds resilience • What curiosity looks like in daily life (even in arguments or moments of shame) • How to stay grounded when everything feels uncertain • Practical ways to release the need to be right and rediscover who you are If you're ready to stop chasing control and start healing by embracing the unknown, this conversation will give you hope and practical steps forward.   Connect with Stefani Ruper: • Instagram: @stefani.ruper • Facebook: facebook.com/stefani.ruper • X: @stefaniruper • Substack: stefaniruper.substack.com   Resources & Next Steps: Join the Stronger Woman Collective waitlist: here Connect with me on Instagram @drzoeshaw for daily encouragement. Subscribe to my newsletter for more conversations on healing, boundaries, and healthy love.   Buy my book Stronger In The Difficult Places: here   Free Downloads: Download the Steps to Healing from Complex Shame™ PDF: here Get the First Chapter of Stronger in the Difficult Places: here   If this episode spoke to you, please share it with a friend and leave a review. Your reviews help more women untangle shame, break free from co-dependency, and discover the strength to live with curiosity.

Licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert Terri Cole is back in KICK-ASS Stepmom to dive into how to break the cycle of high-functioning codependency. Stepmoms, you're going to see yourself in this one!   Get The Disengaging Without Disconnecting Masterclass www.jamiescrimgeour.com/disengaging  Work With Me. www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching  Get My Ebook -  120 Ways To Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom www.jamiescrimgeour.com/ebook  Episode Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Go to www.cozyearth.com and use the code COZYJAMIE for 20% off of your order OSEA | Clean skincare that actually works.  Shop OSEA:https://bit.ly/47jvKIj OSEA Ocean Body Glow Set: https://bit.ly/4h16E59 Use code KICKASSSTEPMOM10 for 10% off your first order Metabolic Reset Program | Get $350 off with the code JAMIE350 at https://www.jentherhn.com

In this conversation, I sit down with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a family nurse practitioner, somatic experiencing practitioner, and author of the newly released book End Emotional Outsourcing to unpack why so many of us struggle with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout.Beatriz introduces the concept of "emotional outsourcing" (a term even Oprah is talking about) which describes how we've learned to source our sense of worth, safety, and belonging from everyone and everything outside ourselves. But here's the revolutionary part: she explains that these aren't personality flaws. They're survival skills we developed as kids, and we can unlearn them.We get real about the invisible labor women carry, the pressure to be productive over everything else, and why setting boundaries feels so physically uncomfortable. Beatrice then walks us through practical, body-based techniques you can start today. This conversation is for anyone who's exhausted from putting themselves last, who feels guilty for saying no, or who's ready to stop apologizing for taking up space in their own life.Connect with Beatriz: https://beatrizalbina.com/Link to Beatriz's book: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Free Meditations: https://beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/Beatriz on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/Connect with Sabrina:https://www.instagram.com/Sabrina_Soto/www.SabrinaSoto.com

One of the most challenging disciplines in recovery is the act of stopping and pausing to examine our ways and test them, write them down in a journal and then act of them so that we can stay on the road to recovery. What is the purpose of the crossroads and daily inventory part of this recovery journey? How can this process help us be proactive during life's greatest challenges?In this podcast, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, will give us some practical benefits of the daily inventory process to keep us on the road to recovery toward health and restoration.

In this conversation, a caller recounts her challenging journey through personal relationships influenced by her conservative upbringing. She discusses the emotional turmoil of becoming pregnant and her husband's subsequent infidelity and disconnection. Host Stefan encourages her to explore her childhood trauma and its impact on her adult relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and breaking the cycle of codependency. The conversation culminates in a focus on healing and reclaiming agency as she navigates life as a single mother.SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxFollow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2025

Ever feel like you're losing yourself in midlife?  In this powerful episode, I'm sitting down with expert Ashley Turner to explore the deeper meaning behind midlife hormonal changes in perimenopause and menopause.  Ashley helps you discover how perimenopause can be a profound reckoning, discussing how this stage of life invites us to shift from ego-driven goals toward greater purpose and compassion for others… and more importantly, for yourself.  Ashley beautifully reframes midlife as not an ending, but a spiritual awakening — a chance to realign with who we are and what we value.  We also dive into how embracing this change can spark healing, empowerment, and advocacy for ourselves and others.  Tune in for an inspiring conversation that will leave you ready to step into your next chapter with grace and intention. Ashley Turner Ashley Turner is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Psychedelic Therapist, renowned yoga–meditation teacher, writer, facilitator, speaker, and 7-figure entrepreneur. Her mission is to serve women – especially those in midlife and menopause. She helps visionary leaders tap into their confidence and amplify their wisdom, vision, and voice by embodying their full feminine power. Her own personal midlife struggles led her to found her Metamorphosis: Midlife & Menopause Mentorship and The Haven Membership. Ashley has been featured in media outlets such as The Washington Post, Shape, Self, Women's Health, Yoga Journal, Health, MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, Sounds True, and many more. IN THIS EPISODE Recognizing the symptoms of perimenopause  Ashley's work supporting women mentally and emotionally  How hormones can help some but not ALL symptoms  Why being intentional about your choices matters more in midlife  Lifestyle habits for optimal physical and mental health  How we can shift the culture around perimenopause awareness  How to cultivate your sense of community in midlife  How Perimenoapuse can be one of your greatest teachers  QUOTES “Once I got on the hormones, that was extremely helpful and it totally saved my life, and I love them… [but] it didn't solve all my problems. There's still a huge developmental phase that we're going through as women. People going through menopause, huge transitions in our sense of self, our ambition, our drive, who we are, our identity, of course sexuality, and that's a lot to manage on top of everything else that's happening in life.” “For a lot of women, it's taking 4 to 6 appointments for doctors to connect the dots between what they're going through and it being perimenopause and menopause. And what that does is it delays care, it delays treatment, and it delays a woman's quality of life.”  “I think telling the stories and sharing really authentically and vulnerably and transparently is such an important piece of this because we heal together. We are changing culture. We are weaving a new sisterhood, a new ethos. We also have to educate our partners, our children, our work environments, and really shape shift the culture.” RESOURCES MENTIONED Order my new book The Perimenopause Revolution https://drmariza.com/book Use code ENERGIZED and get 20% off on your Timeline order  http://timeline.com/ENERGIZED Ashley Turner The Haven Community  Metamorphosis: Master Menopause and Midlife  Ashley Turner on Instagram RELATED EPISODES  690: The Perimenopause Revolution: Why midlife isn't the end — it's the beginning of your most energized, powerful, and vibrant self 689: The Hidden Brain Shift: Why Perimenopause Symptoms Start Earlier Than You Think 685: End Emotional Outsourcing: Break Free from Codependency, Perfectionism & People-Pleasing with Beatriz Albina #629: Unlocking Emotional Resilience with Awareness, Lifestyle and Tools to Regulate Your Stress Triggers with Dr. Drew Ramsey

How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner? In today's episode I share an email from a listener who opens up on her relationship attachment. I appreciate her vulnerability and courage in this one because it gives us all a chance to heal and grow. STRUGGLING WITH CONSISTENCY?  Download the free "trust account" app from the YourDay Balance Game, and start building trust with YOURSELF today!  Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.balancegame.ydbg iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ydbg-watch-play-discover/id1489276659 WANT TO FEEL MORE CLARITY, CONFIDENCE AND PURPOSE? Get the "Having It A.L.L. Blueprint", my self-paced online program for designing and living your greatest life! https://hia.ck.page/products/blueprint GET IN TOUCH WITH MATTHEW matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Breaking Free from Shame, Codependency, and Toxic Family Systems Growing up in a toxic family system wires you to live in shame and codependency—and often leads you to attract narcissists or relationships that repeat the cycle. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano explains how childhood trauma programs your brain and nervous system for survival, and how you can begin breaking free from people-pleasing, guilt, and self-abandonment. If you're ready to reclaim your self-worth and step out of survival mode, this is your wake-up call. ✨ This episode is a must-listen if you: Grew up with alcoholism, narcissism, or neglect in your family system Feel stuck in codependent patterns and toxic relationships Struggle with guilt, shame, or saying "no" Long to reclaim your self-worth and live authentically

Claude Silver is the Chief Heart Officer at VaynerX and partners with CEO Gary Vaynerchuk to drive their success. Claude has earned Campaign US's Female Frontier Award and AdWeek's Changing the Game Award and is a sought after speaker at companies including Meta, Google, US Government agencies, and the US Armed Forces. She has been featured in The New York Times, Forbes, and The Wall Street Journal, and she is the author of the book, “Be Yourself at Work.” I hope you enjoy learning from Claude Silver today. In this episode we discuss the following: Claude repeatedly found herself in unhealthy, codependent relationships, and it wasn't until  her brother told her that she was living in a pretty prison, followed by a therapist insisting she attend Codependents Anonymous, that Claude began to understand the pattern: she was losing herself by centering her identity around others. Through six years in Codependence Anonymous, Claude learned some powerful lessons: Empathy needs boundaries. You can't change others—only yourself. We each have the agency to steer our own life. It's okay to take up space and be big in the room. We don't have to shrink so someone else can feel better.

Send one way text to Rev Rachel What does it really mean to Recover Your Soul?In this episode, I walk you through the updated 9-Step Recover Your Soul Process to Healing and Awakening™ -a spiritual path to a happy and healthy life. These nine steps were born from my own recovery from alcoholism, codependency, people-pleasing, and control addiction, and from the awakening that came when I finally stopped trying to fix everyone else and turned the attention to myself and my own healing journey.This process is for anyone who's ready to release control, let go of old patterns and stories, and discover a new sense of peace and purpose. Each step offers a way to move from fear to faith, from confusion to clarity, and from pain to the freedom of living as your authentic, awakened self.Recover Your Soul™: The 9-Step Micro Teachings (Visit the website for the full description for each step)1. Ready for Awakening - Recognize the Call 2. Release Control - Surrender the Struggle 3. Discover Unhealthy Patterns - See the Stories 4. Open to Co-Creating - Trust in the Divine Partnership 5. Release Old Patterns - Let Go and Heal 6. Embrace New Beliefs - Reclaim Your Truth 7. Align with a New Perception - See Through the Eyes of Love 8. Deepen Your Spiritual Practice - Live in Sacred Presence 9. Shine Your Light - Be the Light You AreThis is your invitation to join me and the Recover Your Soul Community—to walk this path of healing and awakening together. Because when we heal ourselves, we help heal the world.Take a deep breath, open your heart, and let's begin t This podcast is for educational purposes only and is not allied or representative of any organizations or religions, but is based on the opinions and experience of Rev. Rachel Harrison or guests. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein. Take what you need and leave the rest.Support the showRev Rachel & Recover Your Soul www.recoveryoursoul.net FREE Support Group on Zoom 6-7PM MT on the 1st Monday of the Month Work the Process with Rev Rachel TRYASESSION for 40% off 1st session Working the Steps Program WORKSTEPS%50 Instagram, Insight Timer, TikTok, YouTube and Facebook private Facebook group RYS Bonus Podcast Patreon Member or subscribing on Apple Podcasts. Transcripts

The holidays are upon us and that can bring some opportunities to grow or triggers that can set us back if we're not careful. What are some practical ways that we can face those relationships in our family of origin, hometown, or others that might bring up triggers from our past? In this podcast, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of celebrate recovery, will unpack some practical tools and ways that we can proactively face those triggers to help build strength and maintain momentum that would in turn keep us on the road recovery instead of taking us backward. 

In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, dives deep into the often-overlooked role that anger plays in the healing journey from parental narcissism and complex trauma. Growing up in a dysfunctional family can leave emotional scars that are not easily seen, but they shape how we experience relationships and view ourselves as adults. In This Episode, You'll Learn: How denial serves as a survival strategy in dysfunctional family systems and how it can keep us stuck in toxic patterns The hidden anger that emerges from growing up with one narcissistic parent and another who was passive or emotionally absent Why it's common to feel guilt or confusion when recognizing anger toward a passive parent, even when they weren't overtly harmful How anger toward both parents can fuel the codependent behaviors and emotional dysregulation that often follow complex trauma The critical step of recognizing your anger as a valid emotion in the recovery process, and how it leads to clarity and healing Why This Matters When we grow up in a home where one parent's instability wreaks havoc, and the other's passivity leaves us emotionally unprotected, we internalize survival mechanisms like hyper-independence or helplessness. These patterns affect our ability to set healthy boundaries, build trust, and create meaningful connections later in life. Recognizing anger as part of the healing process is key. It isn't about blaming anyone, but rather about understanding how these dynamics shaped your sense of worth, your self-protection mechanisms, and your relationships today. Take the Next Step in Your Healing Journey Lisa's 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program helps you break free from codependency, complex trauma, and the long-lasting effects of narcissistic abuse. Through transformational lessons, journaling exercises, and neuroscience-based tools, this program will guide you toward emotional autonomy and inner peace.  12 Week Breakthrough Method: Start Today for 50% Off Learn More and Sign Up Here   #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticAbuse #ComplexTrauma #ParentingTrauma #EmotionalNeglect #InnerChildHealing #TraumaRecovery #LisaRomano #BreakthroughHealing #HealingFromNarcissisticParents