Podcasts about Codependency

So we've been talking about the things to be aware of in the language around choices that we make, and the identity pieces connected to our choices, but what are some practical ways and things that we can be doing to combat the challenges against our identity as we take ownership, responsibility and accept God's invitation to honesty and ownership to face our choices while sustaining and maintaining our true identity in Christ? In this part 2 episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, will walk us through practical steps to consider and how we change how we talk to ourselves in the midst of mistakes and challenges in life.

Taking responsibility for someone else's happiness feels like love. There's a case that it's actually control.Steph unpacks the hidden dynamics of codependency and people pleasing, and why taking responsibility for someone else's happiness can actually be disempowering. She breaks down how old saboteurs convince us that managing other people's emotions is our job, and why that belief keeps us stuck in shaky, unbalanced relationships. She walks through what it looks like to release that need for control, take radical ownership of your own feelings, and let the people you love do the same.In this episode you'll discover:The argument that "fixing" other people's emotions could be a selfish actHow saboteurs and old childhood coping patterns create people-pleasing and codependent habitsWhy trying to control someone else's happiness is disempowering, not helpfulYour takeaways:Notice the exact moment you step in to manage someone else's mood, and check in with how it feels in your body before you actTell the people in your life you believe they're capable of handling their own emotions, instead of stepping in to fix things for themRelease the need for control in your relationships so they can become more genuine, connected, and honestChapters00:00 Introduction: personal happiness and where our responsibility lies02:10 The coach who called fixing others a selfish act05:30 Why coaching assumes people are capable, resourceful, and whole08:15 Saboteurs, childhood patterns, and the roots of people pleasing11:40 Defining codependency and the illusion of control14:00 Two steps to break the pattern: awareness and new behavior17:20 Taking radical ownership of your own happiness19:00 Closing thoughts and sign-off

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Codependency is a complicated, controversial topic that no one quite agrees upon. Anney and Samantha unpack why this is such a complex issue and how the understanding of it has evolved over time, especially when it comes to gender norms and women.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After seven months away from the mic, Megan is back with a guest who matches the moment. Deborah Santana is the daughter of a pioneering interracial couple, jazz musician Saunders King and Jo Frances King, and she spent thirty four years as the wife of music legend Carlos Santana, raising their three children and helping run Santana Management from the inside. In this conversation, Deborah and Megan talk about what happens when the roles we build our identity around, wife, mother, caretaker, even drinker, start to fall away, and who we find underneath them. They dig into codependency, boundaries, meditation as a daily practice, the slow and sometimes decades long process of walking away from alcohol, and what it looks like to keep growing and reinventing yourself well into your seventies.Deborah also shares the story behind the "How to Walk Through Fire" section of her new memoir, a guide she wrote for anyone standing in the middle of their own flames trying to decide which way to go.Follow SobahSistahs on Instagram

Are you confusing codependency with love? After divorce, it's easy to believe that anxiety, constant togetherness, or always needing reassurance are signs of love. But what if they're actually signs of codependency?In this episode, Erica shares how healing after divorce helped her move from anxious attachment to interdependence, rebuild trust, and reconnect with herself. Learn the signs of codependency, how your nervous system shapes relationships, and practical steps to create healthier, more secure love.Together, we'll unpack what codependency really looks like, why healthy relationships can initially feel unfamiliar, and how learning to trust yourself changes everything. If you've ever lost yourself in a relationship or wondered why secure love feels so different, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface.

Are you confused about what it means to be codependent? Do you ever wonder what codependency looks like in practice? If you're nodding your head yes, that's understandable. In my experience, there is often confusion around the topic of codependency, with a ton of misconceptions and a plethora of myths clouding up what it looks like in real life.  In today's episode, I'm delivering rock-solid clarity about what codependency is by showing you what it's not. Ready for some major myth-busting?! Let's go! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/349

In this episode, I sit down with Michelle Chalfant, holistic therapist, life coach, and creator of The Adult Chair model, whose podcast has surpassed 11 million downloads and whose work has helped thousands of people heal codependency, emotional wounds, and relationship patterns at the root. Michelle shares her five-pillar methodology for living as a healthy adult — covering how to own your reality, build self-compassion, feel your emotions, work your triggers, and set boundaries that actually stick — and we go deep on narcissism, codependency, why we keep attracting the same people, and what it actually takes to change the signal we're putting out. She also shares practical tools, free resources, and one of the funniest and most grounding stories I have heard in a long time.This one is rich, practical, and full of permission to do this work in a way that actually makes sense.Connect with Michelle:https://www.theadultchair.com/https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfantFree Course: https://courses.theadultchair.com/offers/z2vYXUwr/checkout Adult Chair Book: https://courses.theadultchair.com/the-adult-chair-book WORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support: https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinatriner.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/marinatriner/ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Codependency is an identity we form when we're younger. Other people become our oxygen to exist in the world — and we don't even know we're doing it." — Michelle Chalfant"No one can trigger you. You are triggered because you have an unconscious belief inside of you that's being activated by them." — Michelle Chalfant"When you can say I wonder why this is happening for me — not to me, for me — you pivot out of the victim seat and into empowerment." — Michelle Chalfant"Boundary scripts do nothing if you don't feel worthy. You've got to set boundaries chin down — fully embodied, believing what you're saying." — Michelle Chalfant"Self-compassion is the Kryptonite to shame. You have to reach for that voice, cultivate it — it is a conscious choice." — Michelle Chalfantsomatic healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, inner child work, emotional regulation, narcissism, codependency healing, people pleasing, attachment healing, self worth, self compassion, triggers and trauma, relational healing, boundaries, adult chair, embodiment, survival mode, burnout recovery, deep within podcast, Michelle Chalfant 

THE GAMES PEOPLE PLAY (The Qualifications of an Enabler). Are you part of the problem or part of the solution? In this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of enabling behaviors, the qualifications of enablers, and how to recognize and address codependency in recovery. Join us for insights, personal stories, and practical advice to foster healthier relationships and support lasting sobriety. The Montyman answers email from our listeners. Closing song: The Games People Play by Joe South, performed by the Bad Boys of Reggae.Key Topics ·         Qualifications of an enabler·         Signs of enabling behavior·         The impact of enabling on recovery·         Boundaries and consequences in relationships·         The role of self-care and support groups in recovery#recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

Understanding the difference between the things and choices that we've made compared to who we are in Christ is such an essential part to moving from the pit of despair and shame to the mountain top of life and grace. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacked some practical things to remember and how we can get stuck in the identity piece when we think about the choices that we've made.

Connect with me here in text… tell me where you are listening. Your life can look perfectly fine while your soul feels like it is dragging something heavy behind it. We open Matthew 11:28–30 and sit with Jesus' invitation to the weary, the anxious, the ashamed, and the burned out: “Come to me… and I will give you rest.” What hit us hardest is the order Jesus uses. He does not begin with a demand to try harder, prove more, or become more disciplined. He begins with mercy, and he offers rest before anything else.We talk honestly about the invisible burdens people carry every day: anxiety that never quiets down, depression that hangs like fog, addictions, grief, loneliness, resentment, regret, fear of tomorrow, childhood wounds, and the crushing need for approval. We also name how these burdens hide behind respectable labels. Anxiety can feel like “being responsible.” Perfectionism can pose as excellence. Codependency can pretend to be love. Shame can claim you deserve to carry the weight forever. Over time, what started as an unwanted guest can become an identity.Then we get practical. One simple question changes the moment a burden lands on your shoulders: “Did Jesus ask me to carry this?” We explain why rest can feel risky, why we keep picking burdens back up because they are familiar, and how open hands become the start of faith. You will also hear a concrete weekly practice using a card to identify what is weighing you down and choose again and again to lay it down in prayer.If you know the feeling of being overloaded, this is a roadmap toward Christian rest, spiritual freedom, and a lighter way to live. Subscribe, share this with a friend who is tired, and leave a review, then tell us what burden you are ready to lay down.Support the showwww.Turning180.com

Listen without ads on patreon: www.patreon.com/dopeypodcast This week on Dopey! We kick things off catching up with Dopey Nation, talking recovery, life, and the strange little community that's grown around this dumb podcast on drugs, addiction, and dumb shit. We dive into a listener voicemail about loving an addict, codependency, and the painful reality that sometimes helping someone means stepping back. As always, there's plenty of laughter, honesty, and reminders that none of us have to do this alone. Then Ben Croxton sits down and tells one of the wildest stories we've ever featured. Ben grew up homeschooled in rural Alabama before drugs completely hijacked his life. What started with weed turned into pills, OxyContin, cocaine, meth, and eventually heroin. He talks about getting kicked out of homeschool for smoking weed, discovering drug culture while working at Outback Steakhouse, stealing anything that wasn't nailed down, shooting cocaine at eighteen years old, smoking meth out of homemade light bulbs, surviving overdoses, watching friends get murdered over meth deals, and somehow waking up every day to do it all again. Somehow, it doesn't end there. Ben eventually finds recovery, rebuilds his life one day at a time, and becomes one of the people behind the scenes helping Dopey grow into the community it is today. It's funny, heartbreaking, completely unfiltered, and a reminder that no matter how far things go, recovery is still possible. PLUS MORE! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Laura Clery has built a massive digital empire, of over 25 million followers, offering her own blend of silly sketch comedy and unflinchingly vulnerable reality. In this interview, Laura tells Margaret about her new memoir, WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU MAKES YOU HOTTER , and the unraveling of a marriage shaped by sobriety, relapse, codependency, fame, and the pressure of living so much of life online. Laura and Margaret discuss: Her experience raising a child on the autism spectrum What happens when a relationship falls apart in public Why it can be hard to recognize destructive patterns from the inside How motherhood has made Laura brave Here's where you can find Laura: @laura.clery on FB @lauraclery on IG and TikTok @LauraMarieClery on YouTube Listen to Laura's podcast Idiot Buy WHAT DOESN'T KILL YOU MAKES YOU HOTTER: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781668087343 What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables. We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠https://www.whatfreshhellpodcast.com/p/promo-codes/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Jo explains codependency as a pattern where someone becomes overly focused on fixing, rescuing, or carrying another person's problems while losing touch with their own needs and identity. She says its emotional roots often come from insecurity, fear of rejection, and weak boundaries, not just addiction-related relationships. According to Dr. Jo, recovery begins with self-awareness and self-love, including the willingness to say “I can't do this anymore” and let other people take responsibility for their own choices. She also emphasizes that healing grows stronger through clear boundaries, supportive relationships, and identity-building practices like therapy, exercise, yoga, community, and other forms of self-care.(00:00:41) Taking Care of Two People Relationship(00:05:02) Kindness with boundaries versus validation-seeking caretaking(00:15:05) Love or Anxiety? Fear of Abandonment Unmasked(00:21:05) Translucent Bubble Boundaries for Recovering Codependency(00:23:44) Saying no as a huge victory(00:27:22) Doing the Work Separately, But Together(00:34:35) Building Identity Through Community-Based Support Systems(00:37:39) Looking into your left eye with affirmations

Q&A Live from the Wisdom of the Sages annual Tuscany retreat. How does a bhakti practitioner maintain boundaries with a parent whose behavior has been harmful — without abandoning dharma or their own wellbeing? How do you help teenage daughters navigate comparison and self-worth in the age of social media? And how do we balance codependency with the aspect of mercy — in the context of the guru/disciple relationship? ******************************************************************** LOVE THE PODCAST? WE ARE COMMUNITY SUPPORTED AND WOULD LOVE FOR YOU TO JOIN! Go to https://www.wisdomofthesages.com WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtube.com/@WisdomoftheSages LISTEN ON ITUNES: https://podcasts/apple.com/us/podcast/wisdom-of-the-sages/id1493055485 CONNECT ON FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/wisdomofthesages108 *********************************************************************

Text us your questions or topics for the show! We got you!There are people in your life right now who you genuinely like — good people — who still need to go. Cass and Kathryn Morrow break down the hardest social boundary to hold: not cutting off toxic people, but cutting back on people you actually care about who are anchoring you to the version of your life you're trying to leave.

Q&A Live from the Wisdom of the Sages annual Tuscany retreat. How does a bhakti practitioner maintain boundaries with a parent whose behavior has been harmful — without abandoning dharma or their own wellbeing? How do you help teenage daughters navigate comparison and self-worth in the age of social media? And how do we balance codependency with the aspect of mercy — in the context of the guru/disciple relationship? ******************************************************************** LOVE THE PODCAST? WE ARE COMMUNITY SUPPORTED AND WOULD LOVE FOR YOU TO JOIN! Go to https://www.wisdomofthesages.com WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtube.com/@WisdomoftheSages LISTEN ON ITUNES: https://podcasts/apple.com/us/podcast/wisdom-of-the-sages/id1493055485 CONNECT ON FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/wisdomofthesages108 *********************************************************************

"Is she entitled? Or have you just been serving yourself up on a platter?" My therapist asked me that years ago, while I was mid-rant about a friend who kept asking me for favors. It stopped me cold, and it changed how I understood my own patterns. If you're the one who says "I got it" before anyone finishes asking, who anticipates everyone's needs, who lies awake wondering if you came off as selfish, this episode is for you. It's part one of a two-part series on boundaries and high functioning codependency, and I'm breaking down why boundaries are so hard for those of us who over-give, auto-accommodate, and self-sacrifice on autopilot.  You'll learn what boundaries are made of (your preferences, desires, limits, and deal breakers), how HFC traits create disordered boundaries, and why healthy boundaries are the bridge to the relationships you want. Ready for the scripts? Part two, with word-for-word boundary scenarios, is at terricole.com/718. This episode is part of our Best of The Terri Cole Show summer series: the most-requested episodes of the show, back to back, while new episodes are in the works for fall. Get the free assessment guide for this episode: terricole.com/guide Listen to part two: terricole.com/718 Find out where you stand with boundaries: boundaryquiz.com

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What Is Codependency, And Do You Have It? A Live Workshop Episode with Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach Do you find yourself constantly focused on other people's problems, emotions, and behaviors, while feeling empty, overwhelmed, or disconnected from yourself? Do you struggle with boundaries, overgiving, or feeling responsible for how others feel? If so, you are not broken. You may be operating from a pattern you were never taught to see. In this powerful live workshop episode, Lisa A. Romano breaks down what codependency really is, beyond surface-level definitions. With deep psychological insight and lived experience, Lisa explains why codependency is not just about relationships, it is a subconscious pattern rooted in childhood conditioning that shapes how you think, feel, and relate to the world. This is not about fixing others. It is about finding yourself. In This Episode You'll Discover:

Join Say Yes to Desire: https://www.secretowlsociety.org/desireEvery piece of business advice tells you to get in your customer's head and solve their pain points. That can turn into codependency if you're not mindful.In this episode I make the case for solving your own pain points first — and why the business you build from that place is healthier, more cohesive, and a whole lot more fun. We get into niching down (yes, but not the way you think), the childhood roots of self-abandonment, and why you can't shrink a human being into a topic. Press play if you're tired of the same old, outdated advice.In this episode:Why solving your own pain points is a purer, more sustainable source of energy than chasing someone else'sThe codependency hiding inside "just focus on your customer" — and its roots in childhood self-abandonmentThe real distinction: your product can niche down, but you as a person and a business cannotWhy building many doorways beats convincing people they're in a crisis they don't have

Triggers, triggers, triggers. In celebrate recovery our goal is not to eliminate triggers from someone's life, but to help prepare someone to face them with health, courage, and strength. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, wraps up the conversation around triggers with some practical tools to help us face those with courage and strength.  He gives us some tools and ways that will enable us to stay on a healthy road to recovery and not live in a place of condemnation, but of conviction that leads to healing and growth.

⁠⁠⁠LEARN HOW TO JOURNALSPEAK In this episode, I'm joined by Béa Albina, nurse practitioner, somatic practitioner, and the author and creator of Emotional Outsourcing, for a conversation that gets right to the heart of why so many of us abandon ourselves in the name of being good, helpful, agreeable, easy, impressive, or needed. Béa defines emotional outsourcing as the chronic habit of sourcing our safety, belonging, and worth from everyone and everything outside of ourselves, instead of from within, and we unpack how deeply this pattern can become wired into the nervous system. For so many of us, especially women raised inside cultural expectations to be pleasant, useful, low-maintenance, and not “too much,” people pleasing and codependency were not personality flaws. They were survival strategies. This conversation is such an important bridge between the emotional life and the body. We talk about the way chronic self-abandonment, resentment, perfectionism, hypervigilance, and the constant scanning of other people's moods can create a fertile environment for symptoms, anxiety, and nervous system dysregulation. Béa and I explore why awareness is the first doorway into healing, how somatic practices help us come back into relationship with ourselves, and why the smallest “newborn kitten steps” can be the beginning of profound change. We also talk about boundaries, self-compassion, the power of intentional language, and what it really means to stop outsourcing your sense of worth and begin building safety inside your own body. In this episode, we discuss emotional outsourcing as a new way to understand codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing; why women are so often conditioned to disconnect from their needs in order to stay loved and accepted; how the nervous system learns to prioritize everyone else's comfort over internal stability; the connection between self-silencing, resentment, chronic symptoms, and emotional repression; why somatic awareness and JournalSpeak are so aligned; how to begin asking the body what it needs; why boundaries are not about controlling other people but about deciding how we will take care of ourselves; and how self-compassion becomes the foundation for real healing instead of just another thing we try to perform perfectly. Béa's work is compassionate, practical, funny, deeply intelligent, and beautifully aligned with the core message of this podcast: you are not broken, your body is not betraying you, and the patterns that once protected you can be understood, softened, and changed. This is a conversation about coming home to yourself, not in a cheesy way, but in the most biologically necessary way. Because when we stop living as if everyone else gets to decide whether we are safe, lovable, and worthy, the nervous system finally has a chance to exhale. Where to find Béa: Listen to her podcast, Feminist Wellness, read her book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist and People-Pleasing Habits, and find her on social media under her full name, Beatriz Victoria Albina NP. Lisa and I will be teaching at ⁠⁠Miraval Austin from September 25–27 ⁠⁠for a relaxing, immersive retreat experience rooted in this work. You can learn more by visiting ⁠⁠www.NicoleSachs.com⁠⁠ and clicking the Retreats tab. Find me at ⁠⁠www.NicoleSachs.com⁠⁠, on Instagram ⁠⁠@nicolesachslcsw⁠⁠, and inside my ⁠⁠Heal with Nicole community⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SUBSCRIBE TO MY NEW SUBSTACK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! So excited about this one :)) Want your questions answered directly by me?

Today I'm talking about one of my favorite topics and one of the most important parts of becoming a healthy adult: learning how to feel your feelings. So many of us were never taught how to tune into what is happening inside of us. We learned to think, perform, push through, numb out, fix others, or disconnect from our feelings altogether. But when we do not know how to feel, we also lose connection with our intuition, empathy, self-trust, and the inner parts of us that need our attention. In this episode, I break down why feeling your feelings matters, how it helps us become whole, and why it is such an important part of healing codependency, connecting with the inner child, and becoming more emotionally intelligent. I also share practical ways to begin, including body scans, journaling, inner child work, and gently working with the parts of you that may feel blocked or resistant. Key Takeaways Feeling your feelings helps you become a more whole and connected human Many of us learned to numb, suppress, or avoid our feelings because we were never taught what to do with them Emotional intelligence is just as important as intellectual intelligence Feeling your feelings helps strengthen intuition and inner guidance Empathy grows when we are able to feel and understand our own internal experience Codependency begins to heal when we redirect our energy back to ourselves instead of constantly focusing on others Feelings only stay stuck when we attach stories, assumptions, or meaning to them Journaling can help move feelings out of the body and onto the page Inner child work is a powerful way to reconnect with your feelings Resistance to feeling is often a protective part that needs compassion, not judgment Resources from this Episode: Inner Child Meditation   MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Resources5-Step Boundary Setting Process (google doc)ArticlesWhat is Enmeshment, and How Do You Set Boundaries?Enmeshment vs. Codependency: 7 DifferencesWhat is Enmeshment? 12 Signs To Spot It + How to HealUnderstanding the Fawn Response: Coping Mechanism in Trauma Recovery by Mona Kirstein, PhDIs it Codependency or Trauma Bonding? How to Tell the DifferenceBooksSet Boundaries, Find Peace* by Nedra Glover TawwabHow to Do the Work* by Dr. Nicole LePera  Become a member of The Soul Horizon community (or give a one-time donation) to support the podcast. Thank you for your generous support—it breathes life into The Soul Horizon.

"If you can raise your hand and say, I need a little help here — guess what? That expedites the process of getting better so much more." — Ralph Brewer --- ABOUT THIS EPISODE Ralph Brewer is the founder of Help for Men, creator of Dad Starting Over, and author of five books including The Dead Bedroom Fix — a top-rated Amazon guide for men facing sexless marriages and disconnection. His latest, Rebuild: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man, distills a decade-plus of member meetings, live chats, and thousands of conversations into a blueprint for men navigating divorce, job loss, infidelity, or any identity-shaking moment. Ralph's story starts at rock bottom: discovering his ex-wife's affair, a divorce sixty days later, and suddenly learning how to be a single parent, manage finances, run a home, and date again — all at once. A suggestion from one reader led him to write his first book, and a $25 Facebook ad that sold $700 worth of PDFs overnight proved the demand was real. Mike and Ralph talk about why long-term monogamy works against sexiness, the anxious-avoidant trap most couples fall into, why the "nice guy" who avoids conflict at all costs ends up in the most trouble, and how a rock-bottom moment can actually be the gift of starting over. --- KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Rock bottom became a launchpad. Ralph's writing career started when his marriage collapsed. With three kids to raise solo, he returned to a childhood love — creative writing — and started blogging about relationships. The topic of sex and marriage was the only one that consistently drew readers. 2. One suggestion sparked a career. A single reader told Ralph he should write a book. That was enough. He taught himself Amazon KDP, learned Scrivener, and spent a year organizing The Dead Bedroom Fix. Three editions and a few hundred thousand copies later, it remains his top seller. 3. Long-term monogamy works against desire. Ralph frames it as a timeline: the honeymoon stage is hypersexual and hyper-connected, then biology shifts focus — women toward children, men toward novelty. Outside influences (porn, cultural messaging that husbands are disposable) compound the drift. 4. Insecurity is the real bedroom killer. The book could have been titled How to Be a More Secure Man. Most of Ralph's audience are anxiously attached men paired with avoidant partners. The standard advice — "communicate more, be vulnerable" — backfires for a man who's already suffocatingly needy. 5. The "nice guy" trap. Codependency disguised as kindness — "yes, dear, whatever you say, dear, as long as you don't leave me" — erodes attraction. Ralph recommends Dr. Robert Glover's No More Mr. Nice Guy as the definitive guide to breaking that pattern. 6. Low anxiety beats smooth lines. The "jerk at the bar" who gets attention isn't winning because he's rude — he's winning because he's low in social anxiety and neuroticism. He gets rejected 27 times and doesn't care. That resilience is what's actually attractive. 7. Self-improvement can trigger your partner's insecurity. When one partner gets in shape or finds new purpose, the other often sabotages — baking forbidden desserts, starting drama. The answer isn't to shrink back; it's to keep going and invite your partner along. 8. Rebuild is for the "who am I now?" moment. Whether it's divorce, job loss, or the death of a loved one, men often define themselves entirely by a role — husband, VP of engineering — and have no identity without it. Rebuild addresses that void with a step-by-step framework drawn from patterns Ralph observed across thousands of men. 9. You're not a lone wolf — you need a network. The "alpha male lone wolf" who thinks YouTube and supplements are enough gets stuck. Raising your hand and saying "I need help" exponentially speeds recovery. Community isn't weakness; it's infrastructure. 10. Every great man has a rock-bottom story. Ralph's observation from a decade of coaching: every man he admires went through something catastrophic and chose to pivot rather than stay down. It's never a gradual incline — it's always a rebuild. --- GET THE BOOKS Rebuild: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man by Ralph Brewer Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Rebuild+Ralph+Brewer&tag=rettocasgra-20 The Dead Bedroom Fix (3rd Edition) by Ralph Brewer Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=The+Dead+Bedroom+Fix+Ralph+Brewer&tag=rettocasgra-20 --- CONNECT WITH RALPH Website: https://helpformen.com The Brotherhood (private men's community): https://helpformen.com/join Facebook: Dad Starting Over — https://www.facebook.com/dadstartingover YouTube: Dad Starting Over — https://www.youtube.com/@dadstartingover Instagram: @dadstartingover — https://www.instagram.com/dadstartingover TikTok: @dadstartingover — https://www.tiktok.com/@dadstartingover Twitter/X: @dadstartingover — https://twitter.com/dadstartingover --- ALSO MENTIONED No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover John Bowlby's attachment theory (anxious vs. avoidant attachment styles) --- CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST Mike Carlon | Uncorking a Story Website: https://uncorkingastory.com YouTube: @uncorkingastory — https://www.youtube.com/@uncorkingastory Instagram: @uncorkingastory — https://www.instagram.com/uncorkingastory/ Facebook: Uncorking a Story — https://www.facebook.com/uncorkingastory TikTok: @uncorkingastory — https://www.tiktok.com/@uncorkingastory Twitter/X: @uncorkingastory — https://twitter.com/uncorkingastory LinkedIn: Uncorking a Story — https://www.linkedin.com/company/uncorking-a-story/ SUBSCRIBE & LEAVE A REVIEW — It helps more readers and writers find the show! 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Sometimes when we think about triggers, there's some big and obvious triggers that we are well aware of. But sometimes there's those triggers that seem to come out of nowhere, whether it's a dream, memory, old song, Relationship conversation and more. What do we do when these triggers hit us out of left field? In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, unpacks this important topic and gives us some practical tools to help us face these triggers and even help us to maintain a healthy posture and lens toward the triggers to learn and grow through them to stay on the road to recovery.

When a marriage ends, most people think the hard part is letting go of the other person. But for so many, the real work is learning how to let go of who they became inside that relationship. In this powerful episode, Karen McMahon sits down with Dr. Kristin Davin, licensed psychologist and founder of Reflections From Across the Couch, for one of the most honest and illuminating conversations the Journey Beyond Divorce podcast has ever had about codependency. Not as a label, but as a survival strategy that once kept you safe and is now quietly keeping you stuck. If you were the fixer, the peacekeeper, the emotional glue, the responsible one, or the one who carried the relationship, this conversation was made for you. Karen and Kristin trace codependency back to where it actually begins. Not in your marriage, but in the first chapter of your life. In the family where you learned to read the room, make yourself small, and earn your safety by taking care of everyone else. They explore why those patterns feel impossible to break, why the fear of abandonment drives so much of what we do in relationships, and why the person so afraid of being abandoned is often the very person abandoning themselves most deeply. They also get into the truth about boundaries that nobody says out loud. That setting them is simple in theory and terrifying in practice. That the pushback you get when you finally start enforcing them is not a sign that you are doing it wrong. And that the resentment so many people feel toward their ex is often misplaced anger at themselves for saying yes when every part of them wanted to say no. If you have ever wondered why the same thing keeps happening to you, why you keep attracting the same kind of person, or why letting go feels so much harder than it should, Kristin offers something rare in this space. Not just insight, but a genuinely compassionate and practical path forward. You don't need to become someone new. You just need to come home to who you were before you learned to disappear. Connect with Dr. Kristin: Email: hello@kristindavin.com Special gift for JBD listeners: Use code JOURNEY25 for 25% off Dr. Kristin Davin's interactive workbooks on codependency and boundaries at reflectionsfromacrossthecouch.store Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/drkdavin/?next=%2F https://www.pinterest.com/drkdavin/ Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

When you reflect on your personality, why do you think you are the way you are? Is it due to your nature or your experiences? In today's episode, Rachel reflects on this question with her own personality - much of which she thinks is the result of her childhood. She opens up about codependency and a sense of internal stress and urgency that never seems to leave, no matter how little there is on her to-do list. On a journey of healing and upheaval, she talks about the therapy she is doing right now, the parenting style she has, and her dynamic with family that all play a role in her codependency and inner motivations. At the end of the day, this episode will remind you that there is time for you - no matter how long it takes you to put all the puzzle pieces of your life together. Tune in for a vulnerable share and open dialogue. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Let me know what you think of this episode? A lot of people can look “fine” in church while their home life is falling apart. We sit down with Steve Rotermund, author and founder of Work Right Ministries, to talk honestly about addiction, codependency, trauma, and the long road from shame to healing. Steve shares the surprising way he met his future wife, then opens up about childhood abandonment, abuse, and how those early wounds quietly shaped his relationships and view of God. As his first marriage was consumed by prescription drug addiction, Steve describes what many spouses of addicts feel but rarely say out loud: the exhausting need to fix, manage, rescue, and control. A Christian counselor stops him cold with one sentence, “You're part of the problem,” and it becomes the beginning of codependency recovery. We break down what codependency really looks like, why “being the savior” keeps families stuck, and how boundaries and responsibility can become an act of love rather than rejection. The heart of the conversation is identity in Christ, not as a slogan, but as a lived reality that replaces “I'm not good enough” with sonship, security, and transformation. Steve explains how forgiving himself changed everything, why Christianity is more than weekly attendance, and how healing impacts parenting and generational patterns. We also talk about his book, God's Imperfect Plan Is Perfect, and the online Walk Right Community built to support spouses and partners navigating addiction, fear, and hard decisions. If you're looking for Christian counseling insights, faith-based addiction recovery support, and practical help for codependency and trauma healing, this one is for you. Subscribe, share with someone who needs hope, and leave a review so more people can find the path to freedom. Support the showWant to be a financial supporter of the show, click here, https://www.buzzsprout.com/1754677/supporters/newFollow and subscribe to the podcast here, and get weekly updates on when new episodes are released.  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dorsey-ross-show/id1495921329Social Media Links,  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dorsey.ross/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DROCKROSS/ My Book Amazon Book Overcomer https://bit.ly/4h7NGIPWant to be a guest on Dorsey Ross Show? Send Dorsey Ross a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1615423845838x127949785844303500Affiliate Link For Podmatch https://www.joinpodmatch.com/dorseyross

Why You Fear Your Feelings (Codependency & Anxiety Explained) A Live Workshop Episode with Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach Do you find yourself afraid to feel your emotions, constantly overthinking, or trying to control situations so nothing goes wrong? Do you say yes when you want to say no, avoid conflict, or feel anxious without fully understanding why? If so, you are not broken. You are patterned. And patterns can be changed. In this powerful live workshop episode, Lisa A. Romano explains why many codependent individuals are not just afraid of situations, they are afraid of feeling fear itself. With deep psychological insight and nervous system awareness, Lisa reveals how childhood trauma conditions the mind and body to suppress fear, creating anxiety, people-pleasing, and emotional overwhelm in adulthood. This is not about weakness. It is about survival. In This Episode You'll Discover:

We love that this ministry puts us on a path and trajectory with other fellow strugglers in life that we call forever family. Sitting down and having heart-to-heart conversations is such a gift and, in this episode, that gift was so appreciated. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with Noah Whitaker, celebrate recovery representative of North Dakota, to have a conversation around recovery and specifically step 10 and how we can serve in a healthy posture and not out of codependency. They also discuss why and how celebrate recovery is so vital for the entire family and the impact on Noah's life growing up in recovery.

In this episode, I'm getting into the thing that's quietly running your cortisol, tanking your hormones, and keeping your body in a permanent state of survival mode, and it's happening in your own home.Why codependency shows up in your body as stubborn fat, high insulin, and hormones that won't cooperate How the resentment you're carrying in your relationship is literally keeping your nervous system too dysregulated to lose weightThe difference between feeling safe at home and feeling safe in your body Why fixing your relationship patterns does more for your body than any protocol, plan, or hormone therapy aloneThis isn't relationship coaching. This is root cause. And this is the conversation nobody in the health and fitness space is having.Support the showHosted by Casey Shipp — 3000+ transformations, Self-Made Millionaire, High Priestess, Writer, Fitness Cover Model, and Founder of the Hotbody App.$30M client wins | $7.8M sold onlineRich isn't rare. Category of one is.

In this final conversation with Paul Burns, we explore the "Social" dimension of the GPS discipleship framework. Paul explains how a secure relationship with God and growing personal maturity free us to genuinely love and connect with others. We discuss: Why empathy is central to spiritual maturity The connection between security and healthy relationships Moving beyond codependency Loving others for their sake instead of our own needs The social implications of discipleship Sacrificial and unconditional love in the way of Jesus Emotional freedom and relational connection How discipleship transforms communities and relationships Paul unpacks how deepening discipleship ultimately leads to greater compassion, empathy, and the ability to love others more fully and authentically. #Empathy #Discipleship #Relationships #PaulBurns #SpiritualFormation #ChristianCoaching #Faith #Podcast

"I woke up one day and I started to feel. And what I felt, it wasn't pretty. I was like, I'm not happy. And that was the very first time I put myself first." — Mercedes HernandezMercedes Hernandez built The SoCo Markets from scratch — 11 vendors on a closed-off side street, a vision, and no guarantee it would work. Six years later, it's one of Sonoma County's most beloved community events, drawing vendors from across the Bay Area and bringing thousands of people together every year. But this episode isn't really a business story. It's a story about what happens when you finally stop building for everyone else and start building for yourself.In this episode of Her Story Unscripted, Mercedes shares her full journey — from a 15-year-old retail worker discovering a passion, to opening her first brick-and-mortar at 20, to creating experiences like Fork'n Good Food Festival and Roast & Rhythm. Then she gets real about the personal chapter she's been walking through: ending a 15-year relationship, living completely alone for the first time in her life, sitting with the loneliness instead of running from it, and slowly coming back to herself through counseling and a whole lot of self-honesty. This is an authentic storytelling conversation about identity, codependency, personal growth for women, and what freedom actually feels like when you finally choose it.If you've ever lost yourself in a role — a relationship, a business, a version of who you thought you were supposed to be — this conversation will meet you right where you are. New episodes every Thursday on all major podcast platforms.Connect with Heather: WebsiteFacebookInstagramLinkedInYoutubeHighlights0:00 Opening quote — Mercedes on identity0:39 Heather's intro + welcome to Her Story Unscripted1:05 Welcome, Mercedes — how Heather found her3:31 How Mercedes started in retail and discovered her passion4:21 Opening Bow & Arrow Clothing at 20, the JC entrepreneurship program6:07 SoCo Markets is born — from 11 vendors to 908:53 Growing the market calendar: Fork'n Good, Roast & Rhythm, Closet Clean Outs10:50 What it really takes to run a successful community market18:30 The personal pivot — ending her marriage and stepping into the unknown21:40 Codependency, people-pleasing, and going numb27:48 Living alone for the first time — and what she found there32:39 Identity, worth, and what she'd leave listeners withAbout Mercedes HernandezMercedes Hernandez is a serial entrepreneur and community builder based in Sonoma County, California. She opened her first retail store, Bow & Arrow Clothing, at 20 years old, and went on to build SoCo Markets — a thriving platform for small businesses and local vendors that now hosts events across the Bay Area. From the Fork'n Good Food Festival to Roast & Rhythm to monthly Closet Clean Out pop-ups, Mercedes has become one of the most creative event minds in Northern California. She's passionate about giving small businesses a platform, and about building the kinds of experiences that bring communities together in real, meaningful ways.WebsiteFacebookInstagramEmailSupport the show

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#100The Inner Man WorkToday we dived deep into one of the most important aspects of relationship work: The Inner Man.In this session, we explored one of the most important foundations for experiencing a truly mature Life Partner relationship - the inner masculine structure within a woman and how it shapes the way love is met, chosen and sustained.This is essential work whether you are currently in a relationship or not. It is often the missing piece that quietly determines the quality of intimacy we are able to experience.You can return to this transmission as many times as you feel called. It is designed to deepen over time, not only in understanding but in embodiment.If you feel called to go deeper…The Inner Man Cycle inside Sanctuary began Friday, June 12th. The doors will be open for a few more days.During these 2 months, you will meet him, ground him, ignite him and let him mature.As he does, something shifts in the field around you - the men who find you begin to show up differently. And of course, every area in your life that needs clear action or structure also moves to the next level.When you join, you also receive immediate access to Sanctuary Vault - a collection of foundational Masterclasses to support your journey from the very beginning.Step into SanctuaryTimestamps 00:00 – Introduction: Italy, external validation & the “inner man” 04:27 – Defining the inner man as inner stability and grounded sovereignty 06:18 – Sovereignty vs hyper-independence in relationships 08:09 – Codependency, unmet childhood needs & seeking rescue from a partner 11:34 – Inner conflict as the root of relationship battles 16:48 – Breakup, breakdown & removing external “band-aids” 19:55 – Seeing where power is outsourced and life force is leaked 23:21 – Becoming an adult: honesty, responsibility & self-leadership 25:52 – Cultivating unshakable inner stability and self-holding 31:23 – Daily practice, consistency & rewiring old patterns 33:27 – Unavailable partners as mirrors of inner inconsistency 35:36 – Stability, values & emotional maturity as inner masculine qualities 40:45 – Sanctuary: the two-month inner man cycle and membership invitation 

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#1 Mantra to Stop Self-Abandonment (Heal Codependency & Childhood Trauma) A Live Workshop Episode with Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions, pulled back into old patterns, or triggered by people who once had power over you? Do you find yourself aware of your past, but still struggling to break free from it in real time? If so, you are not broken. You are awakening. And awakening requires new tools. In this powerful live workshop episode, Lisa A. Romano shares the #1 mantra that helped her break free from codependency, self-abandonment, and the emotional chaos of childhood trauma. With deep psychological insight and spiritual clarity, Lisa explains how one simple phrase can help you stay grounded, present, and connected to your true self, even in the most triggering moments. This is not about perfection. It is about remembering yourself. In This Episode You'll Discover:

Codependency often starts with good intentions—close friendships, deep trust, and a desire to support one another. But when we begin looking to another person for our identity, security, or fulfillment, relationships can become unhealthy. In this episode, Brody and JB unpack what codependency looks like in friendships, mentoring relationships, and family dynamics, discuss common warning signs, and share practical, biblical steps for building healthy boundaries and Christ-centered relationships.Rebuilding a Life After Abuse | Interview with Denise MorrisSend us Fan MailPlease leave a review on Apple or Spotify to help improve No Sanity Required and help others grow in their faith. Click here to get our Colossians Bible study.

As God's children who are serving in ministry, sometimes the first thing to go in our walk is learning how to rest in Christ. Busyness can be one of the greatest enemies to sustainability and longevity in ministry. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with West Regional Director Jeff Redmond to discuss what it looks like practically to rest in Christ and some things that he's learned in his walk as a believer and recovery.

Today's Scripture: Ephesians 5:21–33**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the often misunderstood language of submission. She explores the heart of Paul's teaching through the lens of Jesus: mutual reverence, self-giving love, and power expressed through care—not control. We explore:*What submission is not *Why Ephesians 5 begins with mutual submission and must be read through the way of Jesus*How religious language can sometimes reinforce fear, control, or self-abandonment*Why real love creates space for both people to become more whole, honest, and free*What mutuality looks like in relationships marked by dignity, accountability, and truthGo Deeper:Episode 56: Am I really Supposed to Die to Myself?Episode 55: Am I Supposed to Distrust Myself?Episode 5: What is Codependency and Why Does it Matter?Read the first 3 chapters of The Best of You here. Connect with Dr. Alison on Instagram: @dralisoncook Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison's free email community for ongoing reflection and support. While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk answers patron emails regarding codependency. November 24, 2021This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk answers patron emails regarding codependency. (Intro) November 17, 2026This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

In recent years, the celebrate recovery global ministry has expanded the way churches can become a celebrate recovery ministry by hosting open share group only within their church. God is doing remarkable things through this function of the ministry and lives are being changed & pointed to Christ. In this episode, Rodney Holmstrom, Global Field, Director of Celebrate Recovery, sits down with Todd Harris, a CR representative in California to hear his heart and how he believes that a revival is spreading through the nation through this new approach to reaching more people through the church and open share group only. Listen to Todd's passion and heart for Jesus and the ministry of celebrate recovery and be inspired.

Join me live for 8 days https://cathyheller.samcart.com/products/born-for-this If you have ever pretzeled yourself to keep the peace, avoided a hard conversation, or woken up wondering how you got so far from yourself, this episode is for you. I sat down with human connection expert and author Mark Groves to talk about codependency, self abandonment, shame, and what it actually looks like to stop leaving yourself to belong to other people. We get into why telling the truth is the most radical act of self reclamation, how to know when you have outgrown an adaptive strategy, and why the boundary that feels like it will break everything is usually the thing that sets both people free.  • Join me live for 8 days https://cathyheller.samcart.com/products/born-for-this  • Follow Mark Groves on Instagram @createthelove  • Visit Mark at https://www.createthelove.com/  • Get your ticket to Cathy Heller Live: Divine Download in LA, August 2-3 https://cathyheller.com/summit/  • Join Cathy's Circle https://www.cathyheller.com/cathys-circle/  • Follow Cathy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/cathy.heller/  • Want to work with Cathy? https://www.cathyheller.com/start-here/ Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:38 - How Mark Groves Became a Human Connection Expert 3:44 - The Hardest Conversation He Ever Had (And Why It Led Him Back to Himself) 5:16 - Cathy's Codependency Wake-Up Call: "I Need to Be in All Seven Places" 7:03 - Why Belonging Wins Over Authenticity Every Time (And What to Do About It) 11:43 - Why Women Especially Struggle to Ask for What They Need 13:10 - "I Leave Me to Be With People Because I'm Afraid They'll Leave Me" 17:52 - The Dinner Party Where Two Strangers Admitted They Were Addicts — And It Was the Best Night Ever 21:21 - How to Get Into Your Shame Instead of Running From It 23:50 - The Meditation That Changed Everything: Welcoming Home Your Younger Self 27:09 - Going Back to Meet Your Seven-Year-Old Self 29:53 - How He Went From Viral Blog to Video — And Why He Was Terrified to Make the Switch 35:44 - The Biggest Way We Self-Sabotage (It's Not What You Think) 37:29 - Why Receiving Love Can Feel More Terrifying Than Losing It 40:11 - What to Do When You Ask Yourself What You Want and the Answer Is "I Don't Know" 45:39 - Stop Trying to Heal Other People — Inspiration Is Born From Self-Transformation 53:17 - Six Takeaways to Carry With You

[Rerun] Deep dive on codependency. What is it? How does it form? How is it treated? (Intro) November 3, 2021This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Have you ever wondered why you can be deeply authentic, doing the inner work, showing up with integrity—and still feel unseen? In this episode, Lacy, Jessica, and Janelle unpack the missing link between authenticity and magnetism: your signal. Your signal is the clarity that comes from knowing who you are without needing external validation to confirm it, and feeling safe enough to express it without collapsing under rejection or misunderstanding. From social media personas to boundaries and nervous system safety, this conversation reveals the deeper layers of manifestation that shape how your authentic self is received by the world.  If you've ever felt caught between wanting to be seen and fearing what visibility might cost you, this one's for you. You'll find tools for strengthening your signal, healing rejection wounds, and stepping into your next level of authentic expression with clarity, integrity, and self-trust.  And if you're ready to shine with full luminosity and step into your power, join the Be Seen Challenge, kicking off June 1. The world—and your next level—awaits.   Find the complete show notes here → https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast   Resources: The Be Seen Challenge Stop playing small in your career, relationships, and life and step into your magnetic, expressed power. Kicking off June 1 inside The Pathway.   Summer Sale: $23/Month Start your manifestation journey at our lowest price of the season: $23/month! Join now and step into the Be Seen Challenge with us before this offer ends.   Free Masterclass: How to Feel Safe Being Seen  Join us live on June 3rd at 9am PST for a free masterclass with Lacy and Jessica. 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Share a voice note of your question, block, or Process to be featured in an episode!   This Episode Is Brought to You By:  Nutrafol - Get $10 your first month's subscription + free shipping with code TBM Nutrafol Women   In this episode we talk about: Why authenticity alone doesn't guarantee visibility The energetic concept of “signal” and manifestation Feeling safe to be seen authentically How personas distort magnetism Social media validation versus true alignment Nervous system safety around visibility Codependency and external validation patterns Healing fear of rejection and misunderstanding Boundaries for creators, entrepreneurs, and highly sensitive people Authentic expression versus performance Protector parts and Internal Family Systems (IFS) The energetics of online criticism and cancel culture Rebuilding self-trust through small acts of visibility Developing resilience around being misunderstood How authenticity evolves through different life phases   Mentioned In the Episode:  Connect with the TBM community via a Magnetic Meetup Ep. 318 - Speeding up Your Manifestations in the New Paradigm with Jenna Zoe Ep. 404 - Why Your Old Ways Aren't Working Anymore: Staying Authentic in the New Paradigm Codependent No More by Melody Beattie Jessica's Youtube Journey Lacy Substack! - By Candlelight Find our Be Seen Challenge plus all our workshops and all workshops mentioned inside our Pathway Membership! 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Mark Duplass and Katie Aselton's lives are completely intertwined. They've been married for almost 20 years while collaborating on films, raising children and spending as much time together as possible. The two see the same therapist, are nearly constantly touching each other and find it hard to function when one of them is away, a dynamic they describe as codependent. Their codependency is the inspiration for their new film “Magic Hour,” which they co-wrote and which Aselton directs and stars in. For the couple, codependency has added real depth and beauty to their relationship to the point they think the entire concept needs a rebranding. In this episode of “Modern Love,” Duplass and Aselton make their case for codependency, explain what it has enabled in their lives and share what they've had to sacrifice to maintain it. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. You can also subscribe via your favorite podcast app here https://www.nytimes.com/activate-access/audio?source=podcatcher. For more podcasts and narrated articles, download The New York Times app at nytimes.com/app. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.