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Right now, outrage seems as rampant as complacency, and both are lost opportunities from the vantage point of of life force. Being a "constructive badass" is a path to growth, change, and leadership amidst high pressure situations. The more we develop the skill of constructive dissent and engage in the art of insubordination—how to speak up with courage and clarity—we create degrees of freedom for courage in the everyday.For this Sisu Lab episode, I had the joy of interviewing Professor Todd Kashdan, one of the world's most cited psychologists and a curious thought leader on courage, character, and all things psychological flexibility. This conversation rocked such a unique flow of exploring life, ideas, and the co-creative space possible between curious humans anywhere that it felt like a real highlight. The experience itself, to me, speaks of how can help each other rise to our best just by being genuinely excited about each other (like kids!) and viewing moments of interaction as opportunities to unearth something valuable together.Todd and I jammed about:How to dissent effectively without breaking connectionWhy good people may struggle to be brave when it matters mostThe difference between being a principled rebel vs. a reactive troublemakerWhy true change-makers often face delayed rewards—and how sisu can help us stay the courseBalancing activism with mental health, and what keeps us going through long fights for changeThe gift of witnessing each other fail—and grow and heal togetherWhat it means to be an “upstander” (with a nod to educator Jackson Katz)How everyday acts of courage and kindness shape the bigger environment we call our lifeTodd's insights come from decades of research—and deep skin in the game. He's the author of several brilliant books, including Curious, The Upside of Your Dark Side, and most relevantly: The Art of Insubordination.

Redefining Friendship and True Curiosity (Mixed With A Lot of Laughter) with Dr. Todd Kashdan In this most laugh-filled episode of all time, Traci sits down with Dr. Todd Kashdan, author of The Art of Insubordination and one of the world's leading voices in well-being, curiosity, and psychological resilience. As a self-proclaimed fan of Todd's work, Traci and Todd talk about his groundbreaking insights, including the profound narratives from his wellness lab, where meaning and purpose are untethered from wealth or social status. And Todd performed free therapy for Traci about her trauma raising curious kids in a not-so-curious small town. Todd shares a sneak peek into his upcoming book on life purpose and meaning, challenges conventional ideas about anger management and relationships, and emphasizes the transformative power of curiosity and social connection. Whether it's building resilience in the face of stigmatization or embracing diverse perspectives, this conversation is packed with practical wisdom and thought-provoking ideas to inspire impactful change in your life and relationships. About Dr. Todd Kashdan Dr. Todd B. Kashdan is a Professor of Psychology at George Mason University and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, and resilience. With over 225 peer-reviewed articles and recognition as one of the top 1% most-cited scientists globally, Todd has received the American Psychological Association Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions. His bestselling books include Curious?, The Upside of Your Dark Side, and The Art of Insubordination. His work has been featured in The Atlantic, The New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and Time Magazine. Beyond academia, Todd is a sought-after keynote speaker and consultant, working with organizations like Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, and the U.S. Department of Defense. A twin dad to twin 17-year-olds (plus one more!), Todd is on a mission to populate the world with great conversationalists.   Episode Timeline 00:00 Exciting Announcement: Sidewalk Talk Listening Bus Tour 00:34 Tour Schedule and Community Involvement 01:53 The Mission of Sidewalk Talk 03:02 Introducing Today's Guest: Dr. Todd Cashton 04:26 Diving into Purpose and Meaning with Dr. Todd Cashton 04:45 Exploring Curiosity and Connection 24:06 Debunking Pop Psychology Myths 30:49 The Four Stages of Handling Emotions 33:12 Exploring Relationship Science and Psychological Strengths 34:48 Navigating Social Interactions and Self-Perception 38:32 Motherhood and Social Anxiety 50:09 The Importance of Redemption and Second Chances 57:52 The Essence of Friendship 01:00:26 Podcast Conclusion and Final Thoughts   Resources Mentioned Todd's Substack (Substack) Todd's Personal Website (Website) The Art of Insubordination (Book) Curious? (Book) The Upside of Your Dark Side (Book)   Standout Quotes  One of many messages that I'd love people to know is that being idiosyncratic and having strange, bizarre, passionate hobbies, that is the unique elixir that makes you so socially attractive to other people.  (Todd)  Curiosity speeds up intimacy between two people.  (Traci paraphrasing Todd)  So you move from competitiveness to companionship and that's really what you want to be doing when you're experiencing really great pain is you don't even have to talk to somebody.  You really just have to be near somebody that is willing to have some semblance of care and desire for you to be around. (Todd) If you went to the bathroom and had a glowing orange bowel movement, would you share that detail with your partner? And if you answer the same way, you're probably going to get along well. So now there's a second question that supercharges even more likely that the two of you will get together.  It's that you have your body, you, you have your ability to observe your body from a distance. You have your mind, you're able to observe your mind from a distance. And that allows you to actually have space so that trauma and negative life events don't have a big enough impact on you because you could see there's a part of you that comes out unharmed because you could look at what happened to you with your mind's eye. (Todd) Connect: Find | Todd Kashdan At www.toddkashdan.com On LinkedIn: @ToddKashdan   Find | Sidewalk Talk  At sidewalk-talk.org On Instagram: @sidewalktalkorg On Twitter: @sidewalktalkorg On Facebook: @Sidewalktalksf On LinkedIn: @SidewalkTalkOrg   Find | Traci Ruble At Traciruble.com On Instagram: @TraciRubleMFT On Twitter: @TraciRubleMFT On Facebook: @TraciRubleMFT   SUBSCRIBE TO THIS PODCAST On Apple Podcasts On Google Podcasts On Spotify On YouTube  

On this episode of GHY, Lisa shares the concept of The New Happy as outlined in an article from Fast Company. Get ready to consciously uncoumple all you thought you knew about happiness!If you'd like to learn more about the book New Happy, or its author Stephanie Harrison, visit thenewhappy.com.We also reference our review of The Upside of Your Dark Side and the necessity of dissatisfaction in our episode: Pivotal Updates From Everyone's Favorite “Old Person” Magazine. If you're enjoying GHY, please leave us a rating and review, as it helps other people find our show.Want more GHY?Sign up for our newsletter at gohelpyourself.coFollow us on instagram at gohelpyourselfpodcastHave a question, a story you'd like to share, or a topic request? Get in touch with us: gohelpyourselfpodcast@gmail.comxoAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

When you hear the word provoke what do you think of? What about the word provocative? For many (including myself)This idea, of provocation, often holds a negative connotation.Look it up in the dictionary and you'll even see one definition that reads:Purposefully stirring up a fight.But as you can imagine there's a very different form of provocation. One that when harnessed can:stimulate curiosity, open us to new perspectives and outside-the-box ideas, and one that ultimately invites  us to see our work, relationships, and the world we live in with fresh eyes. It's a thrill to have Dr. Robert Biswas-Deiner on the show today as we explore this alternative form of provocation and fresh thought-provoking ideas inspired by his latest book: Positive Provocation: 25 Questions to Elevate Your Coaching Practice.In today's episode:Robert's story about how he came to be doing the work he is engaged in today as a coach, trainer, researcher, and author. Including making a very tough decision to drop out of graduate school. The details surrounding an invitation Robert received to be The Provocateur for an international coaching conference.How he defines Positive Provocation and what key elements support doing it well, both at work and in life.What he calls the 90 degree view - a sweet spot for inviting people into curiosity, and rethinking conventional ideas.Intriguing stories from coaching sessions, that offer insight into what he's learned about the art of challenging people effectively.How to stay open to being positively provoked, including the importance of cultivating intellectual humility.How research on the psychology of hospitality ties into being a positive provocateur.If you found today's conversation interesting, I would encourage you to check out Robert's new book, Positive Provocation where you can learn more about this approach, and see how he puts it into practice.Did you find today's conversation inspiring? Here are other episodes we think you'll love:Practicing the Art of Principled Rebellion | Dr. Todd KashdanGentle Power: Shifting the Way We Define True Strength | Dr. Elisabet LahtiMore about Robert:Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener is widely known as the “Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology” because his research has taken him to such far-flung places as Greenland, India, Kenya, and Israel. He is a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, and happiness and known for his pioneering work in the application of positive psychology to coaching. Robert has authored more than 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and chapters, two of which are “citation classics” (cited more than 1,000 times each). Dr. Biswas-Diener has authored eight books, including the New York Times Best Seller, The Upside of Your Dark Side. For more about Robert please visit robertdiener.com, and if you're a coach looking for more details on Robert's coach trainings and classes check out positiveacorn.comEnjoying the show? Please rate it wherever you listen to your podcasts!Thanks for listening!Support the Show.

Who do you think of when I say the words rebel or insubordination? Perhaps someone who's disagreeable, maybe even aggressive, someone who sits outside society or the popular norm? What if I told you that insubordination, when done well, isn't just useful – but should be encouraged?In this episode we're learning how to dissent and defy effectively with Dr. Todd B. Kashdan, Professor of Psychology at George Mason University and author of The Art of Insubordination: How to dissent and defy effectively.This conversation is one we wish we'd had at the beginning of our careers. Todd's wisdom has given us the language and the tools to not only understand how to challenge norms in our workplaces, societies and even political structures ourselves, but support and amplify the voices of others doing the same.Todd is a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, psychological flexibility, and resilience. He has published over 225 peer-reviewed articles and is in the top 1% of cited scientists in the world (over 48,000 times). Todd has received the American Psychological Association Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books including Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life, The Upside of Your Dark Side, and his latest The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively which we unpack today. To us Todd is a shining example of divergent thinking, both through his research and the incredible way he articles these important concepts. This conversation is an absolute must listen for anyone who is ready and feeling the urge to drive change in the world around them.Find out more about Dr Todd Kashdan including here to get his books here https://www.wearehumanleaders.com/podcast/dissent-and-defy-todd-kashdan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To donate to my PayPal (thank you): https://paypal.me/danieru22?country.x=US&locale.x=en_US VIDEO NOTES After receiving a Ph.D. in clinical psychology (2004), Todd founded the Well-Being Lab at George Mason University which has produced over 225 peer-reviewed journal articles on well-being and resilience, psychological flexibility, meaning and purpose in life, curiosity, and managing social anxiety. He is among the top 1% most cited scientists in the world. Awarded the 2013 Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association, Todd Kashdan is among the world's top experts on the psychology of well-being, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. Todd authored five books, including Curious?, The Upside of Your Darkside, and Designing Positive Psychology. In his latest, The Art of Insubordination, he details research on how we can change minds and design groups and society to be smarter and wiser. He teaches us how to be courageous enough to question the status quo with the intelligence to know when and how. LINKS Website: https://toddkashdan.com/Note: Information contained in this video is for educational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a mental health professional or business consultant.

With Todd Kashdan Ph.D.| Best Selling Author | Professor | Clinical Psychologist BIO: Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D. is a Professor of Psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published over 200 scientific articles, his work has been cited over 32,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. His books Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side has been translated into over 15 languages. His writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications, and his research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, Fast Company, and Time Magazine. He's a twin with twin daughters (plus one more), with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists. Highlights: Curiosity can help us unlock creativity and become a principled rebel How curiosity and the art of insubordination can help us re-write our money stories The power contained within asking questions to “seek to understand” before judging How money can increase your well-being……..when used in the proper ways How the three temporal dimensions (parts of time) of buying experiences provide towards our well-being (anticipation, being on the trip, post mortem) How cultivating psychological flexibility can help us gain clarity over our money stories Why acceptance and honouring our dark emotions is beneficial to our well-being Links: The Art of Insubordination Book CLICK HERE Todd's website CLICK HERE

Have you ever been interested in the field of positive psychology and coaching? Tune into this engaging episode for a captivating journey on the subject with Robert Biswas-Diener, a globally recognized thought leader and researcher. Listen in as Robert shares his extraordinary path, one paved by a childhood shaped by his parents who were top psychologists, to becoming a pioneer in coaching research and practice. His insights challenge us to reconsider our assumptions and approach leadership and life with a renewed perspective. This episode explores the transformative power of coaching and the intricate dance between empathy, questioning, and personal growth. As we unravel the elements of effective coaching, Robert and I dissect the nuanced art of asking great questions. Learn how to cultivate patience and reflection in decision-making, harness the power of a coaching mindset, and empower the people you care about most at work and at home to find their own solutions. Discover why embracing uncertainty and fostering intellectual humility are the hallmarks of exceptional coaching and leadership. If you're grappling with imposter syndrome, this discussion offers unconventional insights, including strategies to forge a positive self-view while also recognizing the value and necessity of self-doubt.  Wrapping up this enlightening episode, we delve into the ethical landscape of coaching within organizations, highlighting the vital role of confidentiality. The conversation also presents strengths-based and resilience-building strategies, providing a roadmap for fostering well-being and performance.  Whether you're a seasoned coach, a burgeoning or experienced leader, or simply passionate about personal development, this episode promises to leave you with profound insights and actionable knowledge to elevate your coaching skills and enrich your leadership journey.  What You'll Learn - Provocative reflections on the ‘conventional wisdom' of coaching - The role of intellectual humility in coaching and leadership - The art of asking the right questions - The balance of empathy in coaching - Strategies to combat imposter syndrome - Navigating the ethical landscape of coaching within organizations - Why you hold the key to building personal resilience Podcast Timestamps (00:00) - Positive Psychology and Coaching Insights (09:10) - Elevating our Coaching Practices (16:36) – Effective Coaching and Asking the Right Questions (30:08) - Navigating Misconceptions About Empathy and Happiness (41:24) - Strengths-Based Interventions (45:12) - Ethical Considerations in Coaching (51:16) – The Future of Positive Psychology Topics Mentioned: Coaching, Leadership, Personal Growth, Positive Psychology, Intellectual Humility, Empathy, Resilience, Effective Coaching, Coaching Practice, Coaching Mindset, Ethical Coaching, Strengths-Based Interventions, Reflection, Professional Development More of Robert: Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener is a well-being researcher and is highly sought-after as a keynote speaker and trainer. He has published over 70 academic articles and chapters on happiness and other positive topics. His research interests include wellbeing, hospitality, leadership, social support, culture, and education. He is also the author of 8 books including the New York Times Bestseller, The Upside of Your Dark Side (2014), and, most recently, Positive Provocation: 25 Questions to Elevate Your Coaching Practice. Dr. Biswas-Diener is widely acknowledged as one of the world's foremost authorities on positive psychology coaching. He is an ICF-certified coach and has trained professionals in his techniques in 24 countries. LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robert-biswas-diener-a860289/ More of Do Good to Lead Well: Website: https://craigdowden.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craigdowden/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/craig-dowden/message

Sales and Your Dark Side, Your Shadow!How does Carl Jung's concept of the shadow show up in sales? What is the shadow? How can we use it to our advantage, and what do we need to be avoiding?Listen to a fascinating interview between leading speaker Steven D'Souza and Michael Hanson, where Steven asks Michael a whole host of insightful questions on where the concept of the shadow fits in with sales.As Carl Jung puts it, “The shadow is that hidden, repressed, for the most part inferior and guilt-laden personality whose ultimate ramifications reach back into the realm of our animal ancestors…It can now be ascertained on closer investigation that the unconscious man, that is his shadow, does not consist only of morally reprehensible tendencies, but also displays a number of good qualities, such as normal instincts, appropriate reactions, realistic insights, creative impulses."Enjoy the show, subscribe and let us know what you think!To find out more about Michael, Steven or the TedX Talks we mention:- Michael's LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-hanson-/- More about Steven: https://www.speakersassociates.com/speaker/steven-dsouza/- Steven's First TedX Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nshc-ay1p7A- Steven's Second TedX Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WZOPKbBKh4oPodcast Chapters:0.00 - Intro to The Shadow4.28 - The Shadow and Sales10.04 - What Archetype Does a Salesperson Have?17.08 - Why Is Sales So Relevant to Everyone?22.47 - The COSMIC Bridge and Writing to People on Death Row31.09 - Debating People with Different Opinions36.00 - Outro(Michael Hanson is the host of the COSMIC Bridge podcast that inspires its listeners to find their higher purpose and connect their material and spiritual life through stories of breathwork teachers, shamans and stroke survivors. He is also the CEO of Growth Genie, an international B2B sales consultancy)

In this compilation episode I want to share three helpful practices from previous episodes to help you overcome negative thinking, silence the chatter in your mind, deal with ruminations, catastrophizing, and intrusive thoughts.  FEATURED EPISODES Ep. 386 Mindwandering with Moshe Bar Ep. 148 The Upside of Your Dark Side with Todd Kashdan, PhD Ep. 324 Developing Psychological Flexibility with Diana Hill, PhD Ep. 294 The Voice in Your Head and How to Harness It with Ethan Kross     SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com Make a one-time donation in any amount to say “Thank you!” Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes  USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening!  With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com    

I'm sure you've gotten a song stuck in your head. It happens to all of us. And once it gets in your head, it is hard to get rid of. It turns out there are some ways that have researched that do seem to work to get that song out of your head the next time it seeps in and just won't leave. https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2017/03/21/heres-how-get-song-out-your-head/99264896/ You have probably done something to someone out of spite. Most people have. Interestingly, humans are just about the only creature on earth that acts out of spite. According to psychologist Simon McCarthy-Jones. Simon says spite comes from a feeling of being wronged – of not being treated fairly. Often people will go to great lengths to get revenge. That's spite. Still, spite may not be all bad. It can actually be useful. Listen as Simon reveals why we do things out of spite and why spite may be an important tool we use to keep each other honest. Simon is author of the book Spite: The Upside of Your Dark Side (https://amzn.to/2OO8FJu)  Human memory is full of flaws. For example, most things we simply don't remember at all. Other things we don't remember very well and a lot of what we do remember gets distorted over time. So how do we make sense of our memory? Here to help explain it is Lisa Genova. She is a neuroscientist, writer and speaker who has appeared on The Today Show and PBS NewsHour, and she is author of the book Remember: The Science of Memory and the Art of Forgetting (https://amzn.to/3ccv2B7). Ever have a bad day? Sure, you have. And it seems that the worse the day gets – the worse it gets. Well, you can actually turn that spiral off. Listen as I reveal this simple technique that will stop you from focusing on the bad things happening so your day can get back on track. Source: Dr. Judith Orloff author of Positive Energy (https://amzn.to/3dZ323w). PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS! Indeed is offering SYSK listeners a $75 Sponsored Job Credit to get your jobs more visibility at https://Indeed.com/SOMETHING TurboTax Experts make all your moves count — filing with 100% accuracy and getting your max refund, guaranteed! See guarantee details at https://TurboTax.com/Guarantees Dell Technologies and Intel are pushing what technology can do, so great ideas can happen! Find out how to bring your ideas to life at https://Dell.com/WelcomeToNow Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We interview Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener, a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, and happiness, about his extensive research in these areas and his pioneering work in the application of positive psychology to coaching. We explore the concept of psychological richness and its practical implications for improving our quality of life, the distinction between happiness and optimal happiness, and why self-reflection and engaging in difficult things is so important for improving our well-being. Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener is widely known as the “Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology” because his research has taken him to such far-flung places as Greenland, India, Kenya, and Israel. He has authored seven books, including the 2007 PROSE Award winner "The Courage Quotient," "Happiness," and the New York Times bestseller "The Upside of Your Dark Side," with Dr. Todd Kashdan, one of our first guests on Flourish FM. His most recent book is "Positive Provocation: 25 Questions to Elevate Your Coaching Practice," published in 2023. He has authored more than 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and chapters, two of which are “citation classics” (each cited more than 1,000 times).   Learn more and subscribe at flourishfmpodcast.com/robertbiswasdiener Robert's website: robertdiener.com   Follow us: YouTube @flourishfmcast Instagram @flourishfmpodcast TikTok @flourishfmpodcast Twitter @flourishfmcast Facebook @flourishfmcast LinkedIn @flourishfmpodcast   Time stamps: 01:49 - Optimal Happiness and Psychological Richness 03:09 - Defining Well-being and Happiness 04:42 - The Importance of Hedonic and Eudaimonic Aspects of Well-being 06:33 - Key Ingredients for Quality of Life 09:39 - Global Studies on Happiness 12:19 - Cultural Differences in Well-being 14:09 - Psychological Richness Across Cultures 16:17 - The Role of Distress Tolerance in Psychological Richness 18:18 - Clarifying Psychological Richness 20:44 - Emotional Agility and Psychological Richness 23:15 - The Balance of Positive and Negative Emotions 24:06 - The Role of Negative Emotions in a Full Life 25:25 - The Concept of Optimal Happiness 27:25 - Seeking Psychological Richness 28:54 - The Role of Negative Emotions in Psychological Richness 30:30 - Emotional Agility in Coaching 35:56 - Connecting Emotional Agility to Psychological Richness 36:59 - Transition to Discussing Positive Provocation 37:14 - Reflective Practice in Coaching 39:59 - Overview of Positive Provocation 40:40 - The Method of Reflective Practice in Coaching 45:01 - The Goal of Positive Provocation 00:45:26 - Psychological Richness as a Process 00:46:25 - The Importance of Reflective Practice 00:50:26 - Optimal Happiness in Achievement-Oriented Domains 00:53:14 - The Balance Between Satisfaction and Striving for More 00:53:54 - The Flourishing Question

IN EPISODE 156: Dissent doesn't have to make us weaker. When it's rooted in our values, it can make us smarter and stronger. In Episode 156, Todd Kashdan shows us how "principled insubordination" can surface the issues and actions that lead to breakthrough ideas, bolder initiatives, and better teamwork. We discuss why the "wisdom of crowds" isn't always smart; how to win people to your side even when you lack power and position; and how leaders can promote a culture of healthy dissent. We don't have to make waves to make progress - and after listening to Todd, you'll turn dissent into a force for good. ABOUT TODD KASHDAN: Todd Kashdan is an award-winning Professor of Psychology at George Mason University and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, psychological flexibility, and resilience. Todd is the author of several books, including Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life, The Upside of Your Dark Side, and The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively. His research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The Atlantic, Harvard Business Review, TheNew York Times, NPR, Fast Company, and Time Magazine, and he's consulted for organizations like Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. 

This week's show is with David Richo, Ph.D. David Richo, Ph.D. is a psychotherapist, a writer, and a popular workshop leader on personal and spiritual growth. He shares his time between Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California. He combines psychological and spiritual perspectives in his work. His recent books are “Ready: How to Know when to Go and when to Stay” (Shambhala, 2022) and “To Thine Own Self Be True: Shakespeare as Therapist and Spiritual Guide” (Paulist Press, 2023). He received his BA in psychology from Saint John's Seminary in Brighton, Massachusetts in 1962, his MA in counseling psychology from Fairfield University in 1969, and his PhD in clinical psychology from Sierra University in 1984. Since 1976, Richo has been a licensed marriage, family, and child counselor in California. He teaches courses at Santa Barbara City College and the University of California Berkeley at Berkeley and has taught at the Esalen Institute, Pacifica Graduate Institute, and Santa Barbara Graduate Institute. He is a clinical supervisor for the Community Counseling Center in Santa Barbara, California. Richo is known for incorporating Buddhism, poetry, and Jungian perspectives in his work. He authored the books "How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving," "The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find in Embracing Them," "When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships," "Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side," "The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know," and "Being True to Life: Poetic Paths to Personal Growth." In this conversation, David and I explored knowing when we or our clients are ready to choose to make big changes, the mysterious nature of the right timing, and the role of grace. We'd love to know what YOU think about this week's show. Let's carry on the conversation… please leave a comment below or share in our fb group. What you'll learn from this episode: There's a point at which we know when we're ready to make a change, this isn't something that is logical or external - learning to honour that as both individuals and change workers is vital When we attempt to apply broad brush strokes, cultural norms or formulas to ourselves or our clients, we miss the unique nature of each person and the timing that is right I love how David spoke about the role of grace providing synchronicities and insights… there's something greater at play than our ego when it comes to change, and actually life as a whole - we are not in control The presence of Grace David Richo and Lian with their respective statues of Our Lady of Guadlupe, mentioned in the show   Resources and stuff that we spoke about: For David's books, talks, and events visit his website: https://davericho.com/ Thank you for listening! There's a fresh episode each week, if you subscribe then you'll get each new episode delivered to your phone every week automagically (that way you'll never miss an episode): Subscribe on Apple Podcasts/iTunes Subscribe on Android Thank you! Lian and Jonathan

www.CPOPLAYBOOK.comEpisode TranscriptTodd Kashdan explores diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging (DEIB) with expert Todd Kashdan. We discuss the disparities between these terms and how to measure them within organizations. Kashdan emphasizes the importance of understanding existing problems and designing an ideal group or organization before implementing DEIB strategies.*Todd KashdanAwarded the 2013 Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association, Todd Kashdan is among the world's top experts on the psychology of well-being, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. His research has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including multiple articles in Harvard Business Review, The New York Times, Fast Company, Forbes, and an interview on the #1 science podcast: Hidden Brain.As a Professor of Psychology, Todd translates state-of-the-art science into practical applications to improve our everyday lives. He is well-known for his energetic and disarming communication style. He received the 2010 Distinguished Faculty Member of the Year Award at George Mason University for his teaching and mentoring. He gave a TEDx talk on psychological flexibility and more than 5 million readers enjoy his Psychology Today blog and Provoked Newsletter.Todd authored five books, including Curious?, The Upside of Your Darkside, and Designing Positive Psychology. In his latest, The Art of Insubordination, he details research on how we can change minds and design groups and society to be smarter, wiser, and mentally liberating. He teaches us how to be courageous enough to question the status quo with the intelligence to know when and how.*Be a guest on the showAll media inquiries: media@cpoplaybook.com

Dr. Biswas-Diener is among the pioneers of positive psychology coaching. He conducts research on wellbeing, friendship, hospitality, emotion, leadership and other positive topics. His studies have resulted in more than 70 academic publications and he leverages this knowledge to inform his coaching. Robert consults and conducts trainings with organizations as diverse as Kaiser Permanente, Deloitte, Standard Chartered Bank, and Australia Department of Defense. He trains coaches at Positive Acorn, where he is known for challenging common assumptions about coaching philosophy and practice. Robert is the author of Practicing Positive Psychology Coaching, The Upside of Your Dark Side, and Positive Provocation, among other books.

Do you ever feel like there's a part of you that you don't fully understand or accept? Perhaps you've been told that certain emotions or thoughts are "bad" or "negative," and that you should strive to be happy and positive all the time. But what if I told you that there's a hidden power within you that you've been ignoring? Welcome to "The Power of Your Dark Side: Embracing the Strength Within." In this program, we'll explore the idea of the "shadow self" - the parts of us that we hide away, ignore, or reject. We'll learn how to embrace these darker aspects of ourselves and use them as a source of strength and power. But why focus on the dark side? Isn't it better to be happy and positive all the time? Well, here's the thing: ignoring or suppressing our darker emotions and thoughts doesn't make them go away. In fact, it can make them even stronger. Have you ever tried to resist a craving or a negative thought, only to find that it becomes even more persistent? That's because by trying to push it away, we're giving it more power. On the other hand, by acknowledging and accepting our shadow selves, we can learn to use them as a source of strength and power. Our "negative" emotions can be powerful motivators, and our "flaws" can actually be unique strengths in disguise. Think about it: some of the world's most successful and influential people have acknowledged their flaws and used them to their advantage. Oprah Winfrey has spoken openly about her struggles with weight and self-esteem, and has used her experiences to inspire and empower others. Stephen Hawking, who was diagnosed with a debilitating disease at a young age, used his disability as a source of motivation to become one of the world's most renowned physicists. In "The Power of Your Dark Side," we'll help you uncover your own hidden strengths and potential. We'll show you how to: Identify and understand your shadow self: We'll guide you through a series of exercises and reflections to help you understand the parts of yourself that you've been hiding or rejecting. You'll learn to see these aspects of yourself in a new light, and discover how they can be sources of strength and power. Embrace your darker emotions: We'll show you how to stop resisting and start embracing your "negative" emotions, such as anger, fear, and sadness. You'll learn how to use these emotions as sources of motivation and energy, rather than letting them control you. Use your flaws to your advantage: We'll help you identify your unique strengths and talents, even in the areas where you feel you fall short. You'll learn how to leverage your "flaws" to achieve your goals and create the life you want. Cultivate resilience and self-compassion: We'll teach you strategies for building resilience and self-compassion, so that you can face challenges and setbacks with grace and strength. You'll learn to see yourself as a whole and imperfect person, rather than trying to hide or deny certain parts of yourself. Create a life that aligns with your true self: Finally, we'll help you create a vision for your life that aligns with your true self - including your shadow self. You'll learn how to create goals and take action that honor all parts of yourself, and create a life that feels authentic and fulfilling. By the end of this program, you'll have a newfound appreciation for your shadow self, and a set of tools and strategies for using it as a source of strength and power. You'll feel more confident, resilient, and authentic able to navigate life's challenges with greater ease and grace. Don't forget to subscribe and share the episode --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/limitlesstribe/message

Dr. David Disabato on recovering from negative life events, strategies for optimal wellbeing and the importance of cultivating hope and psychological flexibility. Dr. David Disabato is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Baldwin Wallace University, Ohio and a licensed therapist. David has published dozens of papers on mental wellbeing and lectures on the topic at Baldwin Wallace. Further reading on resources and studies mentioned in this episode: “The Happiness Trap” by Dr. Russ Harris, “The Upside of Your Dark Side” by Todd Kashdan, “Book of Woe” by Gary Greenberg, “Self-care behaviours and affect during the early stages of the COVID-19 pandemic” by Disabato et. al. (2022), “Understanding psychological flexibility: A multimethod exploration of pursuing valued goals despite the presence of distress” by Kashdan et. al. (2020), “Personality strengths as resilience: A one-year multiwave study” by Goodman et. al. (2017). 0.00 - 0.45: Show intro 0.46 - 4.30: The components of mental wellbeing 4.31 - 10.32 : Mental wellbeing vs. mental illness 10.33 - 11.50: Problems in measuring mental wellbeing 11.51- 15.49: Taking care of our mental wellbeing 15.50- 21.45: The cost of avoiding negative emotions 21.46- 26.49: The value of hope when facing distress 26.50- 32.01: Steps to take today to improve your wellbeing

For too long, the term insubordination has evoked negative feelings and mental images. But for ideas to evolve and societies to progress, it's vital to cultivate rebels who are committed to challenging conventional wisdom and improving on it. Change never comes easily. And most would-be rebels lack the skills to overcome hostile audiences who cling desperately to the way things are. Shermer and Kashdan discuss: how he became an insubordinate rebel in his unusual young life • the effects of a fatherless home on children • the influence of role models • how civil rights movements make progress • the adversarial court system • how juries should think • racialization in America • viewpoint diversity • resisting complacency • the value of non-conformity • influencing the majority (when in the minority) • how to build alliances • how to champion ideas that run counter to traditional thinking • how to unlock the benefits of being in a group of diverse people holding divergent views • how to cultivate curiosity, courage, and independent, critical thinking in youth. Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. His books Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side have been translated into more than fifteen languages. His writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications, and his research is featured regularly in media outlets such as the New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time. He's a twin with twin daughters (plus one more), with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists.

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "We're really talking about principled rebels. And when we talk about insubordination, we're talking about most of us live in these social hierarchies, and there's the idea, this started in the military and still goes on, where if someone at a lower rank questions or challenges a command or a norm that someone of a higher rank, that's considered an act of insubordination. And one of the main problems of that, I think anyone who's listening can acknowledge, is it depends on the quality of the idea of the person who's raising the question.I just realized there was this whole body of literature on minority influence that no one had put together into a book for the general public, and considering the racial reckoning that occurred during COVID-19, the extra attention to diversity, to disadvantaged groups, every moment of society, it just feels like it's more and more relevant of what I've been working on. If you don't have the numbers, if you lack status or you lack power, the way to be persuasive towards a group is much different than if you do have the title or are socially attractive in that group."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "There's a couple of psychological elements that are embedded in your thought about climate change. One is we have to expand the timeline. And we often think about things in months and years as opposed to decades. And that's a big challenge of how human brains operate. And so if you think in the context of quarters, if you work in an organization, of in terms of building cars or building houses or building factories, then you're not thinking about that 20 years from now, you'll no longer be in the red, you'll be in the black in terms of income. But as you said, there has to be a collective willingness where we're willing to sacrifice the short-term, cheaper things for the expensive things, for clean air now, knowing that the only way it gets cheaper over the course of time is the commons. Is that the commons decide is that we are going to spend money to make money later, by spending money, we can actually continue to improve the technology. So it becomes cheaper and cheaper to have solar-powered households, electric cars, and infrastructure that supports electric cars that happen there.”https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "We're really talking about principled rebels. And when we talk about insubordination, we're talking about most of us live in these social hierarchies, and there's the idea, this started in the military and still goes on, where if someone at a lower rank questions or challenges a command or a norm that someone of a higher rank, that's considered an act of insubordination. And one of the main problems of that, I think anyone who's listening can acknowledge, is it depends on the quality of the idea of the person who's raising the question.I just realized there was this whole body of literature on minority influence that no one had put together into a book for the general public, and considering the racial reckoning that occurred during COVID-19, the extra attention to diversity, to disadvantaged groups, every moment of society, it just feels like it's more and more relevant of what I've been working on. If you don't have the numbers, if you lack status or you lack power, the way to be persuasive towards a group is much different than if you do have the title or are socially attractive in that group."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "Better than mindfulness, curiosity and the willingness to be open to other perspectives and reveal diversion of perspectives, it's linked with more innovation, it leads to willingness for greater social support for your ideas. So you're talking about finding allies more work, family integration, less burnout, more engagement, and then a greater tendency to experience flow where you lose yourself in your work in the workplace. And there's these wide-ranging benefits that occur.And what you find is the two dimensions of curiosity that are the most beneficial in the workplace, one is called joyous exploration. And that's really just this pure pleasurable sense of wonder that there's a lot of interesting things in the world, and I just know less than I think I do, and I want to be exposed to that novelty. The second one gets less attention. It's what we call stress tolerance. It's that when you have the lure of the novel, the divergent, and you know, the mysterious and complex, there's always a level of anxiety. You are moving away from the knowns and the own unknowns, and you are going into the face of acknowledging there's uncertainty, and you don't know how things are going to turn out. The people that can better tolerate that without trying to close and reach an answer quickly, they're the ones that are more likely to be creative, more likely to be innovative."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "This is the cause that's most near and dear to me, the criminal justice system. And I think there are so many current issues right now to be considering, but one of them is people normally, they're going to reenter society. And so when you have these questions of should people who are incarcerated receive education, particularly be able to get high school degrees and college degrees, and there's actually so much friction and so much disagreement with that. The question is, in terms of the endgame, do you want people to come out who are educated and reenter society and can contribute something? Or do you want people who actually are the same person as when they came in and perhaps actually have a sense of vengeance because they feel that they were unduly and unfairly punished or punished for too long? Or don't know how to reengage with the non-criminal members of society.And I would say, geez, how could you not root for increasing the EQ, the emotional intelligence, increasing the IQ, the analytical intelligence problem-solving ability, of people? So when they come out, and they're faced with the ambiguity of: I have no money, should I go back to the criminal life or go back to the non-criminal life? They would be able to make a good decision. What's the best way of increasing people's problem solving abilities? Reading books, talking about them, and having conversations is the best strategy for adults to increase their intelligence quotient."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. “That's the challenging part. And I think part of what I'm trying to do to educate the public about this: Part of being persuasive is acknowledging the two-sided message of trying to talk about climate change. So everyone talks about the benefits, and no one talks about the costs. You have to acknowledge short-term sacrifices, financially, socially, and then value-wise. If you've identified with a group where the origin of the Fords, you know, Ford Model T cars, and if you're really a big car aficionado, and you like Mustangs and BMWs and Lamborghinis...is that this requires a deviation from an affinity that you identify with. People who are social activists about climate change, they do not acknowledge that there are psychological costs and social costs for individuals that haven't had the buy-in yet. And because of that, their critics can pounce on them immediately and say, 'I have too many pleasures and I have an intact family that is functioning well, and my company is doing well. So why would I risk any of that for this 10, 20-year message that you're giving me?' So the two-sided message is effective if you have the confidence that you can talk about the logistics and the economics that are involved with these issues."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "Better than mindfulness, curiosity and the willingness to be open to other perspectives and reveal diversion of perspectives, it's linked with more innovation, it leads to willingness for greater social support for your ideas. So you're talking about finding allies more work, family integration, less burnout, more engagement, and then a greater tendency to experience flow where you lose yourself in your work in the workplace. And there's these wide-ranging benefits that occur.And what you find is the two dimensions of curiosity that are the most beneficial in the workplace, one is called joyous exploration. And that's really just this pure pleasurable sense of wonder that there's a lot of interesting things in the world, and I just know less than I think I do, and I want to be exposed to that novelty. The second one gets less attention. It's what we call stress tolerance. It's that when you have the lure of the novel, the divergent, and you know, the mysterious and complex, there's always a level of anxiety. You are moving away from the knowns and the own unknowns, and you are going into the face of acknowledging there's uncertainty, and you don't know how things are going to turn out. The people that can better tolerate that without trying to close and reach an answer quickly, they're the ones that are more likely to be creative, more likely to be innovative."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "So thinking about how do you innovate such an archaic status quo system, such as the educational system? Let's just play with America for right now. How are you going to be persuasive? So again, it's not only do you want to focus on like, what's the endgame in terms of the skills and the knowledge base that we want for our children when they walk out of a high school or they walk out of an elementary school? Like what, what do we want them to look like? How do we want them to act? How do we want them to behave? It's hard to imagine too many people not thinking about: I want them to have social skills. I want them to have some level of character and virtue, and I want them to be able to be somewhat independent and autonomous after being given instructions or guidance on an issue.And so from there, if you start with the question of what do we want them to look like, then you can go backwards and say to what degree are we providing the blocks and the training to match up with those skills? And what you find very quickly is the answer is we're not even close because –we're focusing on important things, math, reading, analytical skills, history - but when you get down to the metrics of what you want, how you want someone to walk through the world, you realize the fallibility of the current education system. And I really think that we really want to teach people critical thinking."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"We're really talking about principled rebels. And when we talk about insubordination, we're talking about most of us live in these social hierarchies, and there's the idea, this started in the military and still goes on, where if someone at a lower rank questions or challenges a command or a norm that someone of a higher rank, that's considered an act of insubordination. And one of the main problems of that, I think anyone who's listening can acknowledge, is it depends on the quality of the idea of the person who's raising the question.I just realized there was this whole body of literature on minority influence that no one had put together into a book for the general public, and considering the racial reckoning that occurred during COVID-19, the extra attention to diversity, to disadvantaged groups, every moment of society, it just feels like it's more and more relevant of what I've been working on. If you don't have the numbers, if you lack status or you lack power, the way to be persuasive towards a group is much different than if you do have the title or are socially attractive in that group."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"There's a couple of psychological elements that are embedded in your thought about climate change. One is we have to expand the timeline. And we often think about things in months and years as opposed to decades. And that's a big challenge of how human brains operate. And so if you think in the context of quarters, if you work in an organization, of in terms of building cars or building houses or building factories, then you're not thinking about that 20 years from now, you'll no longer be in the red, you'll be in the black in terms of income. But as you said, there has to be a collective willingness where we're willing to sacrifice the short-term, cheaper things for the expensive things, for clean air now, knowing that the only way it gets cheaper over the course of time is the commons. Is that the commons decide is that we are going to spend money to make money later, by spending money, we can actually continue to improve the technology. So it becomes cheaper and cheaper to have solar-powered households, electric cars, and infrastructure that supports electric cars that happen there.”Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"We're really talking about principled rebels. And when we talk about insubordination, we're talking about most of us live in these social hierarchies, and there's the idea, this started in the military and still goes on, where if someone at a lower rank questions or challenges a command or a norm that someone of a higher rank, that's considered an act of insubordination. And one of the main problems of that, I think anyone who's listening can acknowledge, is it depends on the quality of the idea of the person who's raising the question.I just realized there was this whole body of literature on minority influence that no one had put together into a book for the general public, and considering the racial reckoning that occurred during COVID-19, the extra attention to diversity, to disadvantaged groups, every moment of society, it just feels like it's more and more relevant of what I've been working on. If you don't have the numbers, if you lack status or you lack power, the way to be persuasive towards a group is much different than if you do have the title or are socially attractive in that group."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"Better than mindfulness, curiosity and the willingness to be open to other perspectives and reveal diversion of perspectives, it's linked with more innovation, it leads to willingness for greater social support for your ideas. So you're talking about finding allies more work, family integration, less burnout, more engagement, and then a greater tendency to experience flow where you lose yourself in your work in the workplace. And there's these wide-ranging benefits that occur. And what you find is the two dimensions of curiosity that are the most beneficial in the workplace, one is called joyous exploration. And that's really just this pure pleasurable sense of wonder that there's a lot of interesting things in the world, and I just know less than I think I do, and I want to be exposed to that novelty. The second one gets less attention. It's what we call stress tolerance. It's that when you have the lure of the novel, the divergent, and you know, the mysterious and complex, there's always a level of anxiety. You are moving away from the knowns and the own unknowns, and you are going into the face of acknowledging there's uncertainty, and you don't know how things are going to turn out. The people that can better tolerate that without trying to close and reach an answer quickly, they're the ones that are more likely to be creative, more likely to be innovative."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

“That's the challenging part. And I think part of what I'm trying to do to educate the public about this: Part of being persuasive is acknowledging the two-sided message of trying to talk about climate change. So everyone talks about the benefits, and no one talks about the costs. You have to acknowledge short-term sacrifices, financially, socially, and then value-wise. If you've identified with a group where the origin of the Fords, you know, Ford Model T cars, and if you're really a big car aficionado, and you like Mustangs and BMWs and Lamborghinis...is that this requires a deviation from an affinity that you identify with. People who are social activists about climate change, they do not acknowledge that there are psychological costs and social costs for individuals that haven't had the buy-in yet. And because of that, their critics can pounce on them immediately and say, 'I have too many pleasures and I have an intact family that is functioning well, and my company is doing well. So why would I risk any of that for this 10, 20-year message that you're giving me?' So the two-sided message is effective if you have the confidence that you can talk about the logistics and the economics that are involved with these issues."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"This is the cause that's most near and dear to me, the criminal justice system. And I think there are so many current issues right now to be considering, but one of them is people normally, they're going to reenter society. And so when you have these questions of should people who are incarcerated receive education, particularly be able to get high school degrees and college degrees, and there's actually so much friction and so much disagreement with that. The question is, in terms of the endgame, do you want people to come out who are educated and reenter society and can contribute something? Or do you want people who actually are the same person as when they came in and perhaps actually have a sense of vengeance because they feel that they were unduly and unfairly punished or punished for too long? Or don't know how to reengage with the non-criminal members of society.And I would say, geez, how could you not root for increasing the EQ, the emotional intelligence, increasing the IQ, the analytical intelligence problem-solving ability, of people? So when they come out, and they're faced with the ambiguity of: I have no money, should I go back to the criminal life or go back to the non-criminal life? They would be able to make a good decision. What's the best way of increasing people's problem solving abilities? Reading books, talking about them, and having conversations is the best strategy for adults to increase their intelligence quotient."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"We're really talking about principled rebels. And when we talk about insubordination, we're talking about most of us live in these social hierarchies, and there's the idea, this started in the military and still goes on, where if someone at a lower rank questions or challenges a command or a norm that someone of a higher rank, that's considered an act of insubordination. And one of the main problems of that, I think anyone who's listening can acknowledge, is it depends on the quality of the idea of the person who's raising the question.I just realized there was this whole body of literature on minority influence that no one had put together into a book for the general public, and considering the racial reckoning that occurred during COVID-19, the extra attention to diversity, to disadvantaged groups, every moment of society, it just feels like it's more and more relevant of what I've been working on. If you don't have the numbers, if you lack status or you lack power, the way to be persuasive towards a group is much different than if you do have the title or are socially attractive in that group."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"Better than mindfulness, curiosity and the willingness to be open to other perspectives and reveal diversion of perspectives, it's linked with more innovation, it leads to willingness for greater social support for your ideas. So you're talking about finding allies more work, family integration, less burnout, more engagement, and then a greater tendency to experience flow where you lose yourself in your work in the workplace. And there's these wide-ranging benefits that occur. And what you find is the two dimensions of curiosity that are the most beneficial in the workplace, one is called joyous exploration. And that's really just this pure pleasurable sense of wonder that there's a lot of interesting things in the world, and I just know less than I think I do, and I want to be exposed to that novelty. The second one gets less attention. It's what we call stress tolerance. It's that when you have the lure of the novel, the divergent, and you know, the mysterious and complex, there's always a level of anxiety. You are moving away from the knowns and the own unknowns, and you are going into the face of acknowledging there's uncertainty, and you don't know how things are going to turn out. The people that can better tolerate that without trying to close and reach an answer quickly, they're the ones that are more likely to be creative, more likely to be innovative."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

"So thinking about how do you innovate such an archaic status quo system, such as the educational system? Let's just play with America for right now. How are you going to be persuasive? So again, it's not only do you want to focus on like, what's the endgame in terms of the skills and the knowledge base that we want for our children when they walk out of a high school or they walk out of an elementary school?Like what, what do we want them to look like? How do we want them to act? How do we want them to behave? It's hard to imagine too many people not thinking about: I want them to have social skills. I want them to have some level of character and virtue, and I want them to be able to be somewhat independent and autonomous after being given instructions or guidance on an issue.And so from there, if you start with the question of what do we want them to look like, then you can go backwards and say to what degree are we providing the blocks and the training to match up with those skills? And what you find very quickly is the answer is we're not even close because –we're focusing on important things, math, reading, analytical skills, history - but when you get down to the metrics of what you want, how you want someone to walk through the world, you realize the fallibility of the current education system. And I really think that we really want to teach people critical thinking."Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

Clinical psychologists like Todd Kashdan are in many ways the philosophers of our time, digging into what it is that makes for a fulfilling and happy and comfortable life.Awarded the 2013 Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association, Todd Kashdan is among the world's top experts on the psychology of well-being, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. As a Professor of Psychology at George Mason University, and a leading educator to the public, Todd translates state-of-the-art science for practical application to improve our everyday lives. He is well-known for his energetic and disarming communication style. Todd is the author of five books, including “Curious?”, “The Upside of Your Darkside,” and “Designing Positive Psychology.” In his latest book, “The Art of Insubordination,” Todd synthesizes decades of psychological research to show how we can improve the health of organizations and our society. He sits down with Greg in this episode to discuss the positive psychology movement, how people are getting happiness wrong, the benefits of boredom, and fostering a spirit of insubordination.Episode Quotes:Training yourself to be comfortable with discomfort28: 15: There's something really powerful about training yourself so that each moment during your day when you feel discomfort, you can sit with it, take another perspective, and do something with it as opposed to trying to escape it. Because this will make you a better human being to deal with other humans, with setbacks and difficulties in your life.Anxiety doesn't kill curiosity14:47: The only way you get curious is if you believe that you can handle the uncertainty that you don't know what the answer is going to be. And that doesn't mean you don't feel a sting if that person looks at you for a second, shakes their head, and walks away. So you still can experience rejection, but you're willing to take a step forward despite the presence of anxiety as part and parcel of what it means to be curious in the moment.Why people are defensive to new ideas19:18: If there is more power and potential for you as an individual to benefit from being receptive to someone, you have a leaning toward that person's ideas. And if someone's a dissenter and they can be pigeonholed as disagreeable or disgruntled, it's harder for them to make sure that they actually get a receptive audience for their message.Show Links:Recommended Resources:Daniel Berlin Paul SylviaNathan DeWall at University of KentuckyTwo Narcissists is Better Than One studyGuest Profile:Faculty Profile at George Mason UniversityProfessional Profile at Psychology TodayTodd Kashdan's WebsiteTodd Kashdan LinkedInTodd Kashdan TwitterTodd Kashdan at TEDxUtrechtHis Work:Todd Kashdana on Google ScholarThe Well-Being LabThe Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy EffectivelyThe Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self--Not Just Your "Good" Self--Drives Success and FulfillmentMindfulness, Acceptance, and Positive Psychology: The Seven Foundations of Well-Being (The Context Press Mindfulness and Acceptance Practica Series) Curious?: Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling LifeDesigning Positive Psychology: Taking Stock and Moving Forward (Series in Positive Psychology) 

Saya membahas buku The Upside of Your Dark Side karya Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener. Buku ini membahas kalau positif itu tidak selalu baik. Masyarakat saat ini fokus mengejar kebahagiaan. Kita terlalu mengagung-agungkan kebahagiaan di atas segalanya. Padahal, emosi negatif juga punya banyak manfaat. Rasa cemas misalnya membuat kita menjadi lebih awas dan peka terhadap bahaya. Rasa marah ternyata bisa membuat kita menjadi orang yang kreatif. Uniknya lagi, semakin kita mengejar kebahagiaan maka kebahagiaan itu semakin sulit digapai.

Your Dark Side is not evil, it's just hidden. It's actually a remaining part of you that you have been ashamed of most of your life. This week we dive into this whole concept from Carl Jung, and use his works to guide us towards the fully integrated life that we all so deeply desire.

Psychologist, professor and author, Dr. Todd B. Kashdan joins us on Wednesday, June 29 @ 6pm EST to discuss his new book, The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively. Dr. Kashdan is the leading expert on the psychology of well-being, curiosity, mental flexibility, and social relationships and a professor of Psychology at George Mason University, a leading authority on well-being, psychological flexibility, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published over 220 peer-reviewed articles and his work has been cited over 38,000 times. He received the Distinguished Faculty Member of the Year Award from George Mason University and Distinguished Scientific Award for Early Career Contributions from the American Psychological Association. He is the author of Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and his latest book is The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively. His writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, Fast Company, among other publications, and his research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The Atlantic, The New York Times, NPR, and Time Magazine.  He's a twin with twin daughters (plus one more), with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists!    

We're living in a society more polarized and intolerant than ever before; A society in which it's hard to tell a joke, let alone disagree with someone. But to evolve and for this to change, we need principled insubordination, systematic rule-breaking, and people not afraid to engage with those who share different views.  On today's episode we have the pleasure of talking to Dr. Todd Kashdan, (Ph.D & Professor of Psychology at George Mason University), a leading authority on well-being, psychological flexibility, curiosity, courage, and resilience.  Dr. Kashdan is the author of Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and his latest book is The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively. His writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, Fast Company, among other publications, and his research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The Atlantic, The New York Times, NPR, and Time Magazine. We discuss: How to dissent / disagree effectively Why we should seek & welcome alternative opinions  The importance of comedy in combatting echo chambers The right and WRONG way to change minds and behavior Dr. Kashdan has published over 220 peer-reviewed articles and his work has been cited over 36,000 times. He received the Distinguished Faculty Member of the Year Award from George Mason University and Distinguished Scientific Award for Early Career Contributions from the American Psychological Association.  Connect with Dr. Kashdan: Via his book: The Art of Insubordination  Via his FREE newsletter: https://toddkashdan.substack.com/ Via his website: https://toddkashdan.com/ Via Twitter: @toddkashdan Today's episode is brought to you by Lumen, a first of it's kind portable device and app that measures your metabolism in real time with just a breath! Lumen is like having a dietician in your pocket, something that gives you unprecedented insight into how efficiently your body is optimizing fats and carbs so you can have better control over your health and wellness. Research backed and simple to use, Lumen's technology will give you a personalized meal plans and customized workout data. Get $35 off by using code: AOC at Lumen.me. It's almost half way through 2022 which means it's time to make plans for one of our remaining live events (if you haven't already). Check out artofcoaching.com/events for all of our latest locations and dates! No matter your profession, age or experience, if you're a leader or want to be a leader we have something for you.

Todd Kashdan is leading expert on the psychology of well-being, curiosity, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. His research has been featured in the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and Forbes amongst many other publications. In 2010, he received the Distinguished Faculty Member of the Year Award at George Mason University and in 2013, he received the Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association. His latest book, The Art of Insubordination, is for anyone who wants to see more justice, creativity & innovation in the world. He is also the author of Curious?, The Upside of Your Darkside, and Designing Positive Psychology. Todd's work is right at the front of my first book Defining You opening with how to keep your mind as open and flexible as possible in order to explore your own story. I approached Todd for permission to include his curiosity inventory and he very generously said yes. Todd has done some fantastic work from research to writing and his website https://toddkashdan.com/ is really worth exploring. We discuss ageism and how Todd says that he obsesses over social norms that are dysfunctional. Take for example Silicon Valley rebuffing the idea of giving anyone over the age of 25 a second look for job opportunities. How we don't have a cultural respect for our elders like in Asian cultures and if we did we that maybe we'd gain wisdom from the people right there in our families rather than having to refer to books. But Todd also raises how ageism is directed both ways – the older generations can dismiss the younger or refuse to learn and be inflexible to changes that are coming through. We need more cross-pollination of intergenerational thinking. We discuss false information and Todd explains how “the information that we're first exposed to is rarely right wherever that's from” yet we tend to take the view of people we perceive as socially attractive, and dismiss those who are not. When coming to a ‘point of view' Todd encourages us all to stop and ask ourselves these questions: What is the evidence for the position that I'm emotionally tied to right now?What is the best evidence for the alternative viewpoint?Why do I believe the evidence I hold near and dear?Why am I dismissing evidence to a counter point?What evidence would be required to change my mind?”By doing this we show intellectual humility, curiosity and perspective taking helping to play our part in making the world a better place to be.  Todd recently published a piece on ‘The 10 principles for having constructive conflict in organisations'. Something we need to do if we're to ensure diversity. We discuss how important this is in boardrooms to classrooms and Todd emphasizes how important it is to “allow people to disagree even as minorities of one, not because they might be right but just because it allows everyone to see like ‘oh maybe we are prematurely closing on one viewpoint too quickly.'”When it comes to the learning Todd comments on the strange societal attitude we have to learning. “The notion of living until you're in your 80s and 90s and yet you're done with formal education after college at the age of around 22. So for the next 40 years you just you wing it and you go into your silo in terms of your own individual searches for books and for information online.” And poses the question to you the listener of “What is the fundamental list of life skills that everyone should learn?” I'd love to know your thoughts.   

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D., is professor of psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published more than 220 scientific articles, his work has been cited more than 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He is the author of several books, including The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and has been translated into more than fifteen languages. His research is featured regularly in The New York Times, The Atlantic, and Time, and his writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. "We're really talking about principled rebels. And when we talk about insubordination, we're talking about most of us live in these social hierarchies, and there's the idea, this started in the military and still goes on, where if someone at a lower rank questions or challenges a command or a norm that someone of a higher rank, that's considered an act of insubordination. And one of the main problems of that, I think anyone who's listening can acknowledge, is it depends on the quality of the idea of the person who's raising the question.I just realized there was this whole body of literature on minority influence that no one had put together into a book for the general public, and considering the racial reckoning that occurred during COVID-19, the extra attention to diversity, to disadvantaged groups, every moment of society, it just feels like it's more and more relevant of what I've been working on. If you don't have the numbers, if you lack status or you lack power, the way to be persuasive towards a group is much different than if you do have the title or are socially attractive in that group."https://toddkashdan.comwww.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/690674/the-art-of-insubordination-by-todd-b-kashdan-phd/www.creativeprocess.infowww.oneplanetpodcast.orgInstagram @creativeprocesspodcast

With Todd Kashdan Ph.D.| Best Selling Author | Professor | Clinical Psychologist BIO: Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D. is a Professor of Psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published over 200 scientific articles, his work has been cited over 32,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. His books Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side have been translated into over 15 languages. His writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications, and his research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, Fast Company, and Time Magazine. He's a twin with twin daughters (plus one more), with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists. Highlights: Curiosity can help us unlock creativity and become a principled rebelHow curiosity and the art of insubordination can help us re-write our money storiesThe power contained within asking questions to "seek to understand" before judgingHow money can increase your wellbeing……..when used in the proper waysHow the three temporal dimensions (parts of time) buying experiences provide towards our wellbeing (anticipation, being on the trip, post mortem)How cultivating psychological flexibility can help us gain clarity over our money storiesWhy acceptance and honouring our dark emotions is beneficial to our wellbeing Quotes: “Let yourself be seen” Todd Kashdan“Do you allow creative freedom? Or do you constrain the content/possibility of a conversation” Todd Kashdan Links: The Art of Insubordination Book CLICK HERETodd's website CLICK HERE

There's a tension we've all felt at some point between the benefits of conformity and the desire to be true to ourselves and stand up for what we think is right. On today's episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson are joined by Dr. Todd Kashdan to explore how we can combine prosocial values with principled insubordination, so we can speak up for others (and ourselves) and maximize our chances of creating meaningful change even in the face of social pressure.About Our Guest: Dr. Todd Kashdan is Professor of Psychology at George Mason University. He is a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, psychological flexibility, and resilience. He has published over 210 peer-reviewed articles, and is the author of several books including Curious? , The Upside of Your Dark Side, and most recently The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction1:45: Combining skillful positivity and dissent7:55: Distinguishing principled insubordination and generic misanthropy10:05: Four elements of principled insubordination19:05: Yin and Yang applied to insubordination21:35: Safe havens and a secure base26:20: How capable are we of cultivating self-awareness?32:05: Positive intent, courage, and sitting with discomfort38:45: Strategies for being a moral and effective dissident46:40: Navigating societal hierarchies51:50: Process comments as insubordination53:00: What Todd does when his kids are insubordinate58:05: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Have a question for us? Email: contact@beingwellpodcast.com to submit questions or potential topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes. Sponsors:From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Todd B. Kashdan, PhD is Professor of Psychology at George Mason University, and a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published over 200 scientific articles, his work has been cited over 35,000 times, and he received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. His books Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side have been translated into over 15 languages. His writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, and other publications, and his research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The New York Times, The Atlantic, Fast Company, and Time Magazine. He's a twin with twin daughters (plus one more), with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists. We chat about: What is insubordination? Diversity What do people really want? Societal Norms Power Dynamics --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/responsible-leadership/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/responsible-leadership/support

In this episode, I talk to esteemed psychologist Todd Kashdan about the art of insubordination. As creatures of habit, humans seek familiarity in thoughts, behaviors, and interactions. But Todd argues that deviating from norms isn't always a bad thing—especially if it's in pursuit of positive change. To enact principled dissent effectively, Todd teaches us how to persuade the majority and how to embrace unconventional solutions. We also touch on the topics of conformity, intimacy, influence, victimhood, and curiosity.BioTodd Kashdan is among the world's top experts on the psychology of well-being, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships. His research has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including multiple articles in the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, and Forbes. In 2010, he received the Distinguished Faculty Member of the Year Award at George Mason University and in 2013, he received the Distinguished Early Career Researcher Award by the American Psychological Association. Todd is the author of Curious?, The Upside of Your Darkside, and Designing Positive Psychology. His latest book is The Art of Insubordination. Website: toddkashdan.comTwitter: @toddkashdan Topics01:34 The elements of principled insubordination05:07 Why do people conform?08:57 Social change by principled rebels 14:21 Win responsibly19:02 Extract wisdom from weirdos24:22 Do cartwheels in the library29:06 Self-care for rebels31:25 How to win over the majority36:13 Spark curiosity not fear42:03 Build stronger alliances during conflict48:23 Boredom, polarization, and insight

Todd B. Kashdan, Ph.D. is Professor of Psychology at George Mason University, a leading authority on well-being, psychological flexibility, curiosity, courage, and resilience. He has published over 200 peer-reviewed articles and his work has been cited over 35,000 times. He received the Faculty Member of the Year Award from George Mason University and Distinguished Scientific Award for Early Career Contributions from the American Psychological Association. He is the author of Curious? and The Upside of Your Dark Side, and his latest book is The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively. His writing has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, National Geographic, Fast Company, among other publications, and his research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The Atlantic, The New York Times, NPR, and Time Magazine. He's a twin with twin daughters (plus one more), with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists.   Todd had a number of amazing insights during our conversation. Some of them include: “If the goal is to keep someone on task for your teachings and your precepts of a religion, a doctrine, whether it's an anti-racism unit, whether it's a well-being unit in an organization, as soon as you make something taboo, you've just raised the stakes in terms of people exploring, discovering, and finding out that there are lots of holes in the argument” (8:45). “How can we use all of these tools for positive, healthy causes to move society forwards, to move our personal development forward” (12:20). “The stronger ideological convictions are, the less space there is to be curious” (12:30). “Curiosity makes you find flaws in people's arguments” (14:30). “The reason we have a 3-pound brain in our head is that we are trying to make a more predictable, less uncertain environment as we walk through the world” (17:20). “There's something really valuable about having precise language to describe ourselves to other people” (19:30) “The best way to effectively communicate if you are in the minority position is to be incredibly consistent with your message” (23:00). “I really like the term consistency over conviction. The message is the same, but I'm listening to what you have to say” (28:30). “Fail quick. Fail often. Let's innovate” (41:40). “The best way to move away from being called the pejorative term of being called a flip-flopper and to move towards the virtuous act of constantly growing and evolving is to be as objective as possible in doing a problem audit of where you made mistakes before” (48:15). “That's what people want. They want predictability. They want to reduce uncertainty” (50:15). “One of the emotions that I use in my own life that I harness extremely well is envy” (54:05). “I'm harnessing the negative, uncomfortable experience of envy to actually improve my own strengths and my own skills as a public speaker” (55:25). “That is psychological flexibility. Harnessing your negative emotions in pursuit of a valued aim” (55:45). “That's psychological flexibility as well. Transitions between our different life roles as opposed to letting those life roles merge so tightly together that we feel as if we're not on top of being a parent, a worker, a lover, a son, or a daughter” (57:30). “You have to think less about the job and more about what about you made you want to do that job in the first place” (1:03:15). “Assume that everyone is incredibly intelligent, and that includes young kids” (1:18:15). “Mental simulations of alternative possibilities are an incredible way to increase curiosity” (1:21:00). “Just by posing these mental simulations of alternative realities allows us to think with a level of curiosity of there's not one way to do something. There's not one answer” (1:22:00). “Try to create groups where people are able to speak because you are open-minded and curious. They're willing to speak what they actually think because you're willing to work with the material” (1:23:30).   Make sure to follow Todd on Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok @toddkashdan. Additionally, I would encourage you to follow Todd on Facebook and LinkedIn. Also, feel free to email Todd if you'd like to reach out: todd@toddkashdan.com. You can order Todd's latest book, The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively, here as well! Lastly, you can find Todd's publications of over 200 articles here! Thank you so much to Todd for coming on the podcast! I wrote a book called “Shift Your Mind” that was released in October of 2020, and you can order it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Additionally, I have launched a company called Strong Skills, and I encourage you to check out our new website https://www.strongskills.co/. If you liked this episode and/or any others, please follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers. Thanks for listening. -Brian

Blaming and judging seem almost required to play the game of life, but the truth is that if I’m angry with you, the problem is me. Host Johnny G looks at a powerful spiritual axiom: whenever we are upset by the wrongs of another, there is a wrong in us also. Contact host Johnny G at johnny@refractivepodcast.com, or visit www.refractivecoaching.com for more information. For similarly-themed episodes, try Making Peace with Your Dark Side, How the 12 Steps Can Help Anyone Heal, or From Addiction to Self-Acceptance. Find an episode transcript below: Hello. Hello, everyone, and welcome to another episode of Refractive. I’m Johnny G. I was talking with a friend a few weeks ago about the space race we have today between billionaires, how Richard Branson and Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk went into this competition to see who can conquer space and how crazy it seemed that only a few decades ago, it was the world’s superpowers that were behind a space race and that today it feels like individual wealthy people can now accomplish the same things that it took countries to accomplish before. And you know, it’s easy for me to be upset about that. In fact, I was pretty disturbed by the thought of so much wealth being concentrated in the hands of a person when there are so many people who struggle. Now, as I thought, this thought and as I’m talking with my friend and complaining about these other people, you know, I realize that when I consider my spiritual values and the path that I’m on, these feelings of alarm and frustration and resentment towards these men. This doesn’t really jive with my spiritual state right now. I don’t agree with being upset about that kind of thing. It no longer serves me to wind up my anger over the behaviors of another person. Yet here I am, falling into that behavioral pattern. And as I was having this conversation, I decided to take a look within, you know, what’s really going on here? Why am I really upset about this? What is being triggered inside of me? What’s causing me to point the finger out at someone else? And, you know, in the moment of the conversation, I couldn’t come up with exactly what it might be, but I spent some time thinking about it after the fact, and I realized that there are a couple of characteristics in myself that rise to the surface when I think of this situation. There’s the idea that I have worked very hard and have wanted to be rewarded financially, and I have not achieved the wealth in my life that I one time had wanted. “And there is a disappointment around there that I worked, worked, worked and I still didn’t quite make it financially. And then there’s another part of me that wants to point my finger at these guys and say, “What are you doing to solve these issues in the world?”” When in reality, I know that I’m not doing a whole lot to resolve these issues in the world. So if I want them to do their part, what is my part and what am I doing to work towards income equality and accessibility of opportunities in all of this type of stuff that I am claiming that they contribute to as well? So there are quite a few areas of my own behavior that need some healing and nee

Todd Kashdan - Personality/Clinical Psychologist, Best-Selling Author, Keynote Speaker. His latest book is The Art of Insubordination: How To Dissent & Defy Effectively. Preorder at: toddkashdan.com. Kashdan is Professor of Psychology at George Mason University. He is a leading authority on well-being, curiosity, psychological flexibility, and resilience. He has published over 210 peer-reviewed articles and his work has been cited over 34,000 times. He is the author of several books including Curious? Discover the Missing Ingredient to a Fulfilling Life (William Morrow), and The Upside of Your Dark Side (Penguin). His latest book is The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively (Avery/Penguin). His research is featured regularly in media outlets such as The Atlantic, Harvard Business Review, The New York Times, NPR, Fast Company, and Time Magazine. He is a keynote speaker and consultant for organizations as diverse as Microsoft, Mercedes-Benz, Prudential, General Mills, The United States Department of Defense, and World Bank Group. He received the American Psychological Association Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology. He's a twin with twin 14-year old daughters (and one more), with plans to rapidly populate the world with great conversationalists. Todd is the author of five books, including Curious?, The Upside of Your Darkside, and Designing Positive Psychology. In his latest book, The Art of Insubordination, Todd synthesizes decades of psychological research to show how we can improve the health of organizations and our society. He teaches us how to be courageous enough to question the status quo and instills in us the intelligence to know when and how. After receiving a Ph.D. in clinical psychology (2004), Todd founded the Well-Being Lab at George Mason University which has produced over 210 peer-reviewed journal articles on well-being and resilience, psychological flexibility, meaning and purpose in life, curiosity, and managing social anxiety. Todd works out relentlessly for the freedom to consume copious amounts of steak, whiskey, and Italian rainbow square cookies. Links: Website: https://toddkashdan.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/toddkashdan/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/toddkashdan --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shobhana-viswanathan/support

**find the video podcast of this episode here: https://youtu.be/JllFlgpItLE!**Alisia Young interviews Dave Richo, PhD, MFT, the author of How To Be An Adult: A Handbook On Psychological And Spiritual Integration (see bio below).Resources Recommended by Dave Richo:1. Affirmations for "Letting Go of Fear" [audio/video] -  https://davericho.com/free-book/2. Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side [book] - https://davericho.com/books/ 3. Dave Richo's talk on the "Shadow" [video] - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FCD_6TEBQWI4. How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration [book] - https://davericho.com/books/5. When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage Our Relationships [book] - https://davericho.com/books/Connect & Contact Dave Richo:Website - https://davericho.com/Connect & Contact Alisia:Congrats Superwoman: When You've Climbed the Mountain and Still Don't Feel Good Enough - https://amzn.to/3nJcATHEat 'N' Live Free Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQfB...Eat 'N' Live Free Website - www.eatnlivefree.comTeach Me Freedom Contact - teachmefreedom2020@gmail.comInstagram: @teachmefreedom2020Dave Richo's Bio:David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco California. He combines Jungian, poetic, and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices.Connect & Contact Alisia: hello@teachmefreedom.ca Teach Me Freedom Website - www.teachmefreedom.ca Eat 'N' Live Free Website - www.eatnlivefree.com

**find the video podcast of this episode here: https://youtu.be/rd_TNN8Wbek!**Alisia Young interviews Dave Richo, PhD, MFT, the author of How To Be An Adult: A Handbook On Psychological And Spiritual Integration (see bio below).Resources Recommended by Dave Richo:1. Affirmations for "Letting Go of Fear" [audio/video] -  https://davericho.com/free-book/2. Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Dark Side [book] - https://davericho.com/books/ 3. Dave Richo's talk on the "Shadow" [video] - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FCD_6TEBQWI4. How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration [book] - https://davericho.com/books/5. When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds That Sabotage Our Relationships [book] - https://davericho.com/books/6. How To Be An Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving [book] - https://davericho.com/books/Connect & Contact Dave Richo:Website - https://davericho.com/Connect & Contact Alisia:Congrats Superwoman: When You've Climbed the Mountain and Still Don't Feel Good Enough - https://amzn.to/3nJcATHEat 'N' Live Free Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQfB...Eat 'N' Live Free Website - www.eatnlivefree.comTeach Me Freedom Contact - teachmefreedom2020@gmail.comInstagram: @teachmefreedom2020Dave Richo's Bio:David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco California. He combines Jungian, poetic, and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices.Connect & Contact Alisia: hello@teachmefreedom.ca Teach Me Freedom Website - www.teachmefreedom.ca Eat 'N' Live Free Website - www.eatnlivefree.com

With Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener | Positive Psychologist | Author | Instructor | BIO: Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener is widely known as the “Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology” because his research has taken him to such far-flung places as Greenland, India, Kenya, and Israel. He is a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, and happiness and known for his pioneering work in the application of positive psychology to coaching. Robert has authored more than 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and chapters, two of which are “citation classics” (cited more than 1,000 times each). Dr. Biswas-Diener has authored seven books, including The Courage Quotient, the 2007 PROSE Award winner, Happiness, and the New York Times Best Seller, The Upside of Your Dark Side. Highlights: Does money buy happiness?What is happiness?Is it possible to be happy all the time?What role (if any) do negative emotions play in happiness?What did Dr. Diener learn from studying the poor in India?What is the relationship between income and happiness?Will more money make me happy? LINKS: Robert's website: CLICK HERE Robert's Positive Psychology Coaching Training: "Training Professionals in the Science of Positive Psychology" CLICK HERE Robert's book "Happiness: Unlocking Mysteries Psychological Wealth: CLICK HERE

Lucy Orton joins me in conversation this week to put content, positivity and building a positive mindset into perspective for business owners.  Lucy explains what is a self-sabotage coach and how they help business owners. Plus, her journey to becoming a certified coach through her career and how that plays into the work she does. Why Lucy wants to work with a strong sense of purpose and drive to help them be better about themselves and create a better outcome for them. In this long podcast episode Lucy shares: >> Why it's important to have research to back up the work you do and the content you create >> How the language women use can impact their successes >> How we can change our internal monologue to create better outcomes in our lives and business. >> Ways in which your sense of identity can impact your learning experiences >> Why it's important to see the positives in every situation >> Lucy shares why she started a podcast and how it supports the marketing strategy in her business >> Not letting the idea of there being too much out there from holding you back >> Understand what suits you better when it comes to content and do that rather than what you think you should be doing >> Focus on what feels at ease and without effort >> Finding topics, themes and angles when you feel like you won't have enough to say >> Why you need to celebrate the small achievements in your content and what you should do if you find this challenging >> The importance of creating a bank of self-esteem and to recognise your own awesome. >> Why it helps to be pragmatic about content >> Batching or not - we get Lucy's insights into this and what works for her. >> Making allowances for adjusting your content plan when you need to >> We chat about toxic positivity and the danger that can pose when you're creating content >> Balancing positivity and presenting a polished view of your world - and how to avoid building a belief around yourself >> Importance of switching off >> Lucy shares her inspiration for her podcast episodes and how she gets her content ideas. >> Why it's okay to repeat content - even podcast episodes >> Lucy's ingenious way of supporting her clients with her podcast and her plans for a second podcast >> Why Lucy doesn't blog and why this is a good thing >> How to make your content feel like it's not work >> Giving yourself permission to say no Lucy also shares her favourite platform for creating content and where you can find her. Plus where you can better focus your energies instead of using social media platforms that do not fill you with joy.   About Lucy Orton: Lucy Orton is a certified positive psychology coach, podcaster and expert on self-sabotage. Her popular weekly podcast 'Self-Sabotage To Success' is in the top 5% of podcasts globally and has reached no.7 in the UK Apple Entrepreneurship charts. Lucy empowers her listeners and clients to step away from mindset gremlins and a critical inner voice and into their rightful space in the world. Lucy also works with creative teams and organisations to help them retain, support and empower their female talent and is particularly passionate about championing women so they are able to completely shift how they see themselves, creating huge and lasting impact for themselves and others. Links you'll need:  Flow: The Psychology of Happiness- https://uk.bookshop.org/books/flow-the-psychology-of-happiness/9780712657594 The Upside of Your Darkside - https://www.scri

Refractive digs into 5 game-changing teachings from the 12 Steps of Recovery: (1)Design Your God, (2)Shame Lives in Darkness, (3)Life on Life’s Terms, (4)Keep Your Side of the Street Clean, and (5)Compare Means Despair. Guest Phil Reese of the Whole Phil Podcast and host Johnny G discuss how these essential, life-changing truths unlock the power of healing and growth for everyone- not just those in recovery. Find Phil Reese online at PhillipJReese.com, on Twitter @ReallyPhilReese or on Facebook at PhilReeseTheDJ, and find him here on Twitch where he DJs a 45 min set each Tues and Thurs at 7:10pm Eastern For similar content, check out these episodes: Making Peace with Your Dark Side, The Ancient Truths of Acceptance & PLINKO, and From Addiction to Self-Acceptance. If you’d like to book Johnny G for speaking, facilitation, or for personal coaching, visit www.refractivecoaching.com or email him at johnny@refractivecoaching.com. Good afternoon, everybody. And welcome to another episode of refractive podcast. Today. I have a good friend of mine joining us to talk about a topic that’s near and dear to both of our hearts. I am pleased to introduce you to Phil Reese. He’s the host of the whole field podcast. He is also a DJ and a web developer based out of Washington, DC. How are you doing today?Speaker 2 00:01:10 I’m wonderful. How are you? Good.Speaker 1 00:01:13 So happy that you’re on refractive. It just, it, uh, it’s going to be some really nice quality content today.Speaker 2 00:01:21 Awesome. I’m excited too.Speaker 1 00:01:24 Yes. And when you and I were planning the episode, we decided to talk about something that’s near and dear to both of our hearts. Uh, it is the process of being in recovery and the wisdom that people in recovery are given by, uh, the literature and the traditions. Um, and by working the 12 steps and so many times, because my listeners know I’m in recovery and now they know you’re in recovery. So many, uh, so many times I’ve said to other people in recovery, boy, I just wish everyone had access to some of the tools and wisdom that we have access to because it’s truly life changing.Speaker 2 00:02:14 Absolutely. I completely agree. Um, you know, uh, for, for most of my life, I kind of felt like everybody else in the world had like this owner’s manual for life and I, I didn’t get one. And, uh, and I kind of got that owner’s manual for life once I, uh, started doing 12 step recovery. Yeah,Speaker 1 00:02:37 Absolutely. So what, what do you say? We’ll just jump right in. Let’s do it. So you and I kind of brainstorm a list of some of the nuggets of wisdom that have been most useful to us. And, um, on the top of the list, it’s about surrendering and people who are listeners of a refractive podcast and also people who’ve enjoyed the aspects of your podcast. I’m sure that they’re not, uh, they’re not going to be surpris

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Season 3 Book 10: The Upside of Your Dark Side by Todd Kashdan Book Review - Whole Self Drives Success and Fulfillment Happiness experts have long told us to tune out our negative emotions and focus instead on mindfulness, positivity, and optimism. Researchers Todd Kashdan, Ph.D., and Robert Biswas-Diener, Dr. Philos, disagree. Positive emotions alone are not enough. Anger makes us creative, selfishness makes us brave, and guilt is a powerful motivator. The real key to success lies in emotional agility. Drawing upon extensive scientific research and a wide array of real-life examples, The Upside of Your Dark Side will be embraced by business leaders, parents, and everyone else who's ready to put their entire psychological tool kit to work. Whole Self Drives Success and Fulfillment "The Upside of Your Dark Side" by Todd Kashdan - Book Review Book of the Week - BOTW - Season 3 Book 10 Buy the book on Amazon https://amzn.to/38XAuml GET IT. READ :) #shadow #darkside FIND OUT which HUMAN NEED is driving all of your behavior http://6-human-needs.sfwalker.com/ Human Needs Psychology + Emotional Intelligence + Universal Laws of Nature = MASTER OF LIFE AWARENESS https://www.sfwalker.com/master-life-awareness --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/sfwalker/message

Today's guest is Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener, widely known as the “Indiana Jones of Positive Psychology” because his research has taken him to such far-flung places as Greenland, India, Kenya, and Israel.He is a leading authority on strengths, culture, courage, and happiness and known for his pioneering work in the application of positive psychology to coaching. Robert has authored more than 60 peer-reviewed academic articles and chapters, two of which are “citation classics” (cited more than 1,000 times each). Dr. Biswas-Diener has authored seven books, including The Courage Quotient, the 2007 PROSE Award winner, Happiness, and the New York Times Best Seller, The Upside of Your Dark Side.Listen as we discuss:The importance of dealing with sadness without trying to soften the realityAccepting that guilt is functional without exaggerating it into something maliciousHow writing his book taught him to allow his kids to feel frustrated sometimesBuying safety for our kids often costs them opportunity as wellWe are allergic to discomfort.His experiences living in a remote village in India and hunting in GreenlandThe common threads of what make people happy regardless of cultureDigging into your happy memories to generate happiness on demand (so cool)Ramadan fasting, simulating poverty, and its effect on gratitudeThe joy of the anticipation often outweighs the anticipated experienceLiking vs. WantingRelationships pay off more than money toward happinessThe man who calculated exactly how much money he needs to be happy, and did itInstagram: @mo_gawdatFacebook: @mo.gawdat.officialTwitter: @mgawdatLinkedIn: /in/mogawdatConnect with Robert Biswas-Diener on Twitter @biswasdiener and his website, robertdiener.com.Don't forget to subscribe to Slo Mo for new episodes every Monday and Thursday. Only with your help can we reach One Billion Happy #onebillionhappy.

''Abandon the notion of labeling emotions as exclusively positive or negative and instead, target what is healthy or unhealthy in a situation.''  Excerpt from Todd's latest book 'The Upside of Your Dark Side'   Psychologist & Researcher Todd Kashdan is saying is boldly how you can raise children to learn to embrace the spectrum of emotions the 'good' and the 'darker' ones and as adults. He's got a lot of stories to share that illustrates many examples of how we can better teach and guide our kids not to fear or avoid when necessary these negative emotions.  From parenting to adulting, if you don't enjoy negative emotions or dealing with people using negative emotions then listen to this conversation!  

Spite. We have all encountered it in some shape or another in our lives. It’s a bitter and lonely path to go down and one that serves to help no one. So, why would any half-decent person do harm to themselves in order to harm others? Such behaviour couldn't possibly be of any benefit, right? Well, maybe not. Simon McCarthy Jones, Associate Professor in Clinical Psychology and Neuropsychology at Trinity College Dublin and author of ‘Spite: The Upside of Your Darkside’ joins Jonathan to discuss. Listen and subscribe to Futureproof with Jonathan McCrea on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.    Download, listen and subscribe on the Newstalk App.    You can also listen to Newstalk live on newstalk.com or on Alexa, by adding the Newstalk skill and asking: 'Alexa, play Newstalk'.

Welcome back witches to The Macabre Academy, a podcast designed to teach you all about the bizarre and unusual. In this episode, Stephie, Dexter and Brandi delve into the dark world of Shadow People. What are they? Where do they come from? Are they really that dangerous? Listen to find out answers to these questions and more.Rated Not Safe For Work (NSFW)Strands of Sollus by Cheryl Suchacekhttps://www.amazon.com/Strands-Sollus-Rewoven-Cheryl-Suchacek/dp/1089727585/SFX:Sound Maiden CuesSoughtaftersoundsCopyright © 2011 Varazuvi™ www.varazuvi.comResources:1. "Paranormal Researcher's Guide to Shadow People." by Charis Branson2. "The Hat Man Encounters; Shadowy Superstition or Real Phenomenon?" (written by the staff at Gaia, https://www.gaia.com/article/the-shadow-hat-man-story-superstition-or-a-real-phenomenon)  3. "Can Children Sense Ghosts more Accurately than Adults?" https://witchesbrewtours.com/2019/02/25/children-sense-ghosts-more-than-adults/4. "Lemures: The Roman Parasitic Larve Spirits." By Moe https://gnosticwarrior.com/lemures.html  5. "Erebus"  https://greekgodsandgoddesses.net/gods/erebus/6. "Wraith" by Prof. Geller https://mythology.net/mythical-creatures/wraith/7. "The Raven Mocker; A Cherokee Legend" https://www.firstpeople.us/FP-Html-Legends/The-Raven-Mocker-Cherokee.html8. "The World of the Jinn" https://www.islamreligion.com/articles/669/viewall/world-of-jinn/9.  "Why do we see faces in every day objects?" by David Robson https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20140730-why-do-we-see-faces-in-objects10. "Sleep Paralysis"https://www.webmd.com/sleep-disorders/sleep-paralysis#111. "The Effects of Sleep Deprivation on Your Body" Medically reviewed by Alana Biggers, MD Written by Stephanie Watson and Kirsteen Cherneyhttps://www.healthline.com/health/sleep-deprivation/effects-on-body#112. "A brief history of shadow people," https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Er0APDX3_7413. "Carl Jung and The Shadow; The Mechanics of Your Darkside" By Adrian Illiopouloshttps://thequintessentialmind.com/jung-shadow/14. "11 Benefits of Burning Sage, How to Get Started and More" Medically Reviewed by Debra Rose Wilson, PhD, MSN, RN Written by Adraian Whitehttps://www.healthline.com/health/benefits-of-burning-sageSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/themacabreacademy)

Robert Biswas-Diener, is a leading researcher on culture, wellbeing, positive psychology coaching and author of several wonderful books including the The Upside of Your Dark Side.  With recent political changes in the United States and the UK leaving many feeling fearful and apprehensive about the future, Robert shares his insights on how to become comfortable with these uncomfortable feelings.  He suggests rather than trying to whitewash them, by accepting them, and seeing them as signals that something isn’t right, you can then decide on a constructive response to what’s unfolding.  You can also apply this in workplaces when looming mergers or restructures stir up similar feelings of uncertainty and fear. Connect with Robert Biswas-Diener Robert’s Website - RobertDiener.com PositiveAcorn.com IntentionalHappiness.com You’ll Learn: [01:37] - Robert talks about how emotions are like signals giving us a mental thumbs-up or thumbs-down about the quality of our life.   [05:35] - If you are fearful, it’s telling you that something you care about may be under threat, and you may need to protect it.    [07:54] - Robert explains when you can be comfortably uncomfortable with your negative emotions, instead of feeling overwhelmed, you can act constructively. [11:05] - Robert explains one important step in tolerating these emotions, is to specifically label the emotion to help understand what message it may be telling you. [13:54] – When people are experiencing incredible change in workplaces and feeling very negative, Robert talks about how leaders can build capacity in their employees. [16:20] - Robert says sometimes leaders need to challenge apprehension and other times it’s ok to validate concerns. [17:49] - Robert believes happiness and wellbeing doesn’t have to be a mandate at work.   [20:30] –To be a whole person you need to experience and draw on the full range of positive and negative emotions. [21:35] - Robert explains why “you never want cheerful optimists in the control tower, directing flight traffic.” [22:18] - The Lightning Round with Robert Biswas-Diener Your Resources: The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self--Not Just Your “Good” Self--Drives Success and Fulfillment - Robert Biswas-Diener & Todd Kashdan View all of Robert Biswas-Diener’s books on Amazon Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success - Adam Grant Love at Goon Park: Harry Harlow and the Science of Affection - Deborah Blum Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for joining me again this week.  If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see at the bottom of this post.   Also, please leave an honest review for the Making Positive Psychology Work Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. And finally, don’t forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to get automatic updates. It’s free! Special thanks to Robert for joining me this week. Until next time, take care!

This week, Lisa and Misty finish reviewing the 2017 Audible bestseller The Upside Of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self – Not Just Your “Good” Self – Drives Success and Fulfillment, by Todd Kashdan, Ph. D., and Robert Biswas-Diener, Dr. Philos. This book was listed in New York Magazine’s Best Psychology Books from 2014.It’s also been referenced on CNN, The Washington Post, The New York Times, Forbes, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Oprah Magazine. Lisa walks us through each chapter during this two-part Upside of Your Dark Side book review: Chapter 1: The False Nose of Happiness Chapter 2: The Rise of the Comfortable Class Chapter 3: What’s So Good About Feeling Bad? Chapter 4: How Positive Emotion Can Lead to Your Downfall Chapter 5: Beyond the Obsession with Mindfulness Chapter 6: The Teddy Effect Chapter 7: The Whole Enchilada If you like what you're hearing, you can purchase the book here! You can also learn more about Todd Kashdan and Rob Biswas-Diener.  And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Go Help Yourself! 

This week, Lisa and Misty review the 2017 Audible bestseller The Upside Of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self – Not Just Your “Good” Self – Drives Success and Fulfillment, by Todd Kashdan, Ph. D., and Robert Biswas-Diener, Dr. Philos. This book was listed in New York Magazine’s Best Psychology Books from 2014.It’s also been referenced on CNN, The Washington Post, The New York Times, Forbes, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Oprah Magazine. Lisa walks us through each chapter during this two-part Upside of Your Dark Side book review: Chapter 1: The False Nose of Happiness Chapter 2: The Rise of the Comfortable Class Chapter 3: What’s So Good About Feeling Bad? Chapter 4: How Positive Emotion Can Lead to Your Downfall Chapter 5: Beyond the Obsession with Mindfulness Chapter 6: The Teddy Effect Chapter 7: The Whole Enchilada If you like what you're hearing, you can purchase the book here! You can also learn more about Todd Kashdan and Rob Biswas-Diener.  And don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Go Help Yourself! 

LIVE LIFE HAPPY- UNCONVENTIONAL BOOK CLUB with Andrea Seydel Sign up to my Weekly Book Club Highlight Newsletter: https://www.andreaseydel.com Get any FREE full audiobook of your choice here: https://amzn.to/2UXzDfx Written Book Club Show Notes: https://www.andreaseydel.com LIVE LIFE HAPPY AUDIO: https://apple.co/2LItU8b LIVE LIFE HAPPY TV: http://tiny.cc/LLHTV TODAY’S BOOK HIGHLIGHT: THE UPSIDE OF YOUR DARK SIDE: Be Your Whole Self- Not Just Your "Good" Self In the Book The upside of Your Dark Side, Todd Kashdan, Ph. D and Robert Biswas-Diener, offer a BOLD stance Saying the modern quest for happiness through mindfulness, positivity, and optimism is FLAWED.Positive emotions can take us far, but it turns out that we need the emotions that make us uncomfortable. ALL EMOTIONS IMPORTANT!! For example Anger can make us creative. Selfishness can make us brave. And Guild is a highly effective motivator.The KEY lies in emotional, social and mental AGILITY-the ability to access our full range of emotions and behaviours- NOT JUST THE GOOD ONES- In order to respond more effectively to situations. ARE YOU READY TO MOVE FROM FALSE HAPPINESS TO MAXIMIZE YOUR POTENTIAL WITH THIS REALITY CHECK? For a full book highlight and worksheet go to Book Club at: https://www.andreaseydel.com Buy this book here: https://amzn.to/2UKYgMi SUBSCRIBE, COMMENT, REVIEW & SHARE: (Spread Happiness) If you like my channel and my book highlights, like and share us on social media: https://www.instagram.com/livelifehappy_as https://www.facebook.com/LiveLifeHappyCommunity If you love books and knowledge, subscribe to the channel for more upcoming book summaries. Look into our channel for previous book summaries. Comment on what you think about the book and the video. Any feedback and honest reviews can really help grow the show!! EXCITING BOOK SUGGESTIONS: What book are you dying to read and simply don’t have the time to read it but really would love the content coached to you. Let me know and I will do my very best to highlight your suggestion!!

As technology continues to change how we live, are we any better off? Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener researches happiness across the globe and finds that people in industrialized nations are happier now than ever before. In this episode, he and host Bill Coppel – Managing Director and Chief Client Growth Officer at First Clearing – discuss the opportunity financial advisors have to help clients discover what's truly important to them. As a leading expert in the field of positive psychology, Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener knows the importance of measuring psychological wealth. When it comes to the old adage about money buying happiness, Robert offers money can buy only a “little bit of happiness.” The true currency of happiness resides in experiences and strong relationships. By working with clients to understand all the factors of their overall psychological wealth, advisors can help clients make financial decisions that benefit their individual happiness. In this episode, you'll hear: What it means to have psychological wealth Why experiences enrich our lives over time The effect of material wealth on happiness   Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener is known as the Indiana Jones of positive psychology, having traveled the world to research happiness across a diverse socioeconomic and geographic spectrum. He trains professionals from a variety of industries in positive psychology techniques and is a leading expert in measuring happiness. Robert has written numerous books, including Upside of Your Dark Side, and Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth. For more from Robert: Books: Upside of Your Dark Side, Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth   Disclosure: This content is provided for general informational purposes only. The views expressed by non-affiliated guest speakers are their own, and do not necessarily reflect the opinion of First Clearing or its affiliates. First Clearing and its affiliates do not endorse any guest speakers or their companies, and therefore give no assurances as to the quality of their products and services. This channel is not monitored by First Clearing. For more information on our podcasts visit firstclearing.com. First Clearing is a trade name used by Wells Fargo Clearing Services, LLC, Member SIPC, a registered broker-dealer and non-bank affiliate of Wells Fargo and Company. Copyright 2018 Wells Fargo Clearing Services, LLC. All rights reserved. First Clearing provides correspondent services to broker-dealers and does not provide services to the general public. 1018-01453.  

JOIN The 5 Day Free Challenge Starting December 3. #radicalselfcare 5 SIMPLE SHIFTS TO FEEL LESS OVERWHELMED, AVOID BURNOUT AND CREATE DEEP SELF-CARE (even if you're crazy busy) www.authenticparenting.com/challenge  See you at the training!:)    Dennis Tirch, PhD is the Founder of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy, President of The Compassionate Mind Foundation USA, and President-Elect of The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. Dr. Tirch is a lay-teacher of Buddhist psychology, with over thirty years of practice in Zen.    Resources and links Mindfulcompassion.com  Find Dr Tirch on Twitter  Follow him on Facebook  Follow him on Instagram Other episodes you may like: Anger with Russell Kolts, PhD Fear Boredom The Upside of Your Dark Side with Todd Kashdan, PhD Resilient with Rick Hanson, PhD How You Can Be Kind and Loving Toward Yourself with Kristin Neff, PhD  

Sounds crazy, but our negative emotions are actually good for our mental health and our creativity when utilized properly in situations.  Looking at this week's book called "The Upside of Your Dark Side" by Todd Kashdan, Ph.D and Robert Biswas-Diener, Dr. Philos., we find that there is actually such thing as being too positive and happy. This week's book:  https://www.amazon.com/Upside-Your-Dark-Side-Fulfillment/dp/B00N9HTGWE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1532219649&sr=8-1&keywords=dark+side+upside Intro/outro music:  https://soundcloud.com/danjfowler/dj-fowler-neo Next week's book:  https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Yourself-Critic-Anxiety/dp/1250161703 Subscribe and read next week's book with Alex!  We look at how social anxiety affects many artists, whether it's performing or meeting other artists to collaborate with.  Check out "How to Be Yourself:  Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety."  Learn how to prevent social awkwardness that many of us creatives experience, and just be yourself.  And get fyred up!  

Alex explores how creatives can treat their anxiety on their own.  From reading this week's book, "When Panic Attacks: The New, Drug-Free Anxiety Therapy That Can Change Your Life," we learn that contrary to taking pills and seeing therapists, there is a proven way to treat anxiety that we can use now via the exercises and techniques that David D. Burns offers. This week's book:  https://www.amazon.com/When-Panic-Attacks-Drug-Free-Anxiety/dp/B06XCNYQ8V/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1531178409&sr=8-2&keywords=when+panic+attacks Viceland special on Xanax: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9geVlf9OY30 Next week's book:  https://www.amazon.com/Upside-Your-Dark-Side-Self_Drives/dp/1491528222 Subscribe and read next week's book with Alex!  We question how exploring one's dark side can lead to greater success and fulfillment by looking at "The Upside of Your Dark Side:  Why Being Your Whole Self--Not Just Your 'Good' Self--Drives Success."  Does anger enhance creativity?  Is a small amount of anxiety actually useful for artists?  Get fyred up!

This week Cut The Crap Podcast features the book, "The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self - Not Just Your "Good" Self - Drives Success and Fulfillment" by Todd Kashdan. Happiness experts have long told us to tune out our negative emotions and focus instead on mindfulness, positivity, and optimism. Researchers Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener disagree. Positive emotions alone are not enough. Anger makes us creative, selfishness makes us brave, and guilt is a powerful motivator. The real key to success lies in emotional agility. The Upside of Your Dark Side will be embraced by business leaders, parents, and everyone else who's ready to put their entire psychological tool kit to work. I took 5 Golden Nuggets away from this book! ---------- Go to CutTheCrapPodcast.com and signup to receive a summary from each episode that will highlight all of the golden nuggets shared in the podcast. ----------- Follow Ryan on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, and SnapChat.    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, Tani Thole and Leslie Rogers, founders of the Light Dark Institute, join me for a powerful Valentine’s Day conversation! We dive into the hot, and sometimes taboo, topics of BDSM, Shame, and Humiliation. Sounds kinky, but there’s way more to it than sex and sexuality. Tani and Leslie teach us about how exploring the both the light and deep dark aspects of our psyche in a safe, consensual environment can be the key to powerful awakening and emotional growth. Say YES to all facets of yourself and discover your hidden potential, in Ignite Intimacy Episode 24, Submitting to Your Dark Side!   About Tani and Leslie: Tani and Leslie share a passion for liberating individuals from things that hold them back. Together, they founded The Light Dark Institute as a safe place for people to tap into the beautiful and magical parts we hide out of shame. With honesty, and without sensationalizing it, they use BDSM as an incredible tool to help others. Please visit them at lightdarkinsitute.com    

Robert Biswas-Diener, is a leading researcher on culture, wellbeing, positive psychology coaching and author of several wonderful books including the The Upside of Your Dark Side.  With recent political changes in the United States and the UK leaving many feeling fearful and apprehensive about the future, Robert shares his insights on how to become comfortable with these uncomfortable feelings.  He suggests rather than trying to whitewash them, by accepting them, and seeing them as signals that something isn’t right, you can then decide on a constructive response to what’s unfolding.  You can also apply this in workplaces when looming mergers or restructures stir up similar feelings of uncertainty and fear. Connect with Robert Biswas-Diener Robert’s Website - RobertDiener.com PositiveAcorn.com IntentionalHappiness.com You’ll Learn: [01:37] - Robert talks about how emotions are like signals giving us a mental thumbs-up or thumbs-down about the quality of our life.   [05:35] - If you are fearful, it’s telling you that something you care about may be under threat, and you may need to protect it.    [07:54] - Robert explains when you can be comfortably uncomfortable with your negative emotions, instead of feeling overwhelmed, you can act constructively. [11:05] - Robert explains one important step in tolerating these emotions, is to specifically label the emotion to help understand what message it may be telling you. [13:54] – When people are experiencing incredible change in workplaces and feeling very negative, Robert talks about how leaders can build capacity in their employees. [16:20] - Robert says sometimes leaders need to challenge apprehension and other times it’s ok to validate concerns. [17:49] - Robert believes happiness and wellbeing doesn’t have to be a mandate at work.   [20:30] –To be a whole person you need to experience and draw on the full range of positive and negative emotions. [21:35] - Robert explains why “you never want cheerful optimists in the control tower, directing flight traffic.” [22:18] - The Lightning Round with Robert Biswas-Diener Your Resources: The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self--Not Just Your “Good” Self--Drives Success and Fulfillment - Robert Biswas-Diener & Todd Kashdan View all of Robert Biswas-Diener’s books on Amazon Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success - Adam Grant Love at Goon Park: Harry Harlow and the Science of Affection - Deborah Blum Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for joining me again this week.  If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see at the bottom of this post.   Also, please leave an honest review for the Making Positive Psychology Work Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. And finally, don’t forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to get automatic updates. It’s free! Special thanks to Robert for joining me this week. Until next time, take care!

James Pawelski is the director of education and senior scholar in the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania, as well as the author of the book The Dynamic Individualism of William James.  He serves as the founding director of the Masters of Applied Positive Psychology program for more than 10 years, where he teaches courses on positive interventions, the humanities, and human flourishing.  James is an international keynote speaker who regularly makes presentations in English and Spanish.  He has spoken in more then twenty countries and on six continents.  In addition, he also holds paid leadership positions as the founding executive director of the International Positive Psychology Association, member of the steering committee of the International Positive Education Network, and president of the William James Society. James Pawelski's website: (https://jamespawelski.com/) In this discussion, James and I talk about the relationship between positive psychology and philosophy, the roots of positive psychology and why we should understand them, the role of the humanities in understanding, and what the positive in positive psychology is.  James tells us about some of his favorite books for gaining insight into human flourishing as well as why he thinks literature and story telling are so important for a happy life.  You'll Learn: 1:43 – You will learn about James’ recent talk at the European Conference on Positive Psychology about the importance of theory for research and practice.  He talks about the interesting things that happen when you ask careful questions deeply. 3:50 – James talks about what positive psychology means by positive. 5:30 – We hear of how positive psychology, with its focus on what is going well with a person, is complementary to mainstream psychology, which focuses on the negative psychological aspects such as depression or anxiety. 6:58 – James goes into more detail about the relationship between the positive and negative. 8:20 – James answers the question, “Is positive psychology fundamentally about the best things in life, or is it fundamentally about living the best life we can?” 10:40 – We talk more about the importance of a comprehensive approach to positive psychology. 12:00 – The question is raised, “What happens if various positives are in conflict?” 14:28 – James discusses the connection between positive psychology and the humanities. 17:04 – We go into the intersection of positive psychology and the humanities in the workplace. 20:06 – The importance of stories and story telling to a happy life is discussed. 20:36 – James tells us how using the Values in Action Classification of Strengths and Virtues has helped in his own life. 21:27 – He talks about two of his favorite books to help people bring out the best in themselves and others. 22:58 – James talks about a few of the books he is currently reading and why he recommends people studying mindfulness meditation. 24:08 – We hear why James is not a fan of the term optimism and why he prefers the term meliorism. Your Resources: James Pawelski’s website (https://jamespawelski.com/) European Conference on Positive Psychology (www.enpp.eu) Positive Psychology program (www.PositivePsychologyProgram.com) International Positive Psychology Association-Learning Library (Learning Library) James’ Book List: Authentic Happiness by Martin Seligman The Upside to Your Dark Side by Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener Positive Emotion: Integrating the Light Sides and Dark Sides by June Gruber and Judith Tedlie Moskowitz The Death of Ivan Ilyich by Leo Tolstoy “Neighbour Rosicky” by Willa Cather Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth Thanks for listening! Thanks so much for joining me again this week. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it using the social media buttons you see at the bottom of this post. Also, please leave an honest review for the Making Positive Psychology Work Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and greatly appreciated. They do matter in the rankings of the show, and I read each and every one of them. And finally, don’t forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to get automatic updates. It’s free! Special thanks to Sue for joining me this week. Until next time, take care! Until next time, take care!

Megan Roop joins Charlie today to talk about how quiet adventures helped her find herself battling the pursuit of being perfect. Along the way, she’s woven her experience with the Peace Corps, selling outdoor equipment, teaching yoga, and helping people overcome eating disorders, into a unique body of work. Listen in as we discuss the nourishing nature of being in nature, and how honoring the seasons helps you honor your changing nature.   Key Takeaways: 00:58 SaneBox advertisement. 02:00 Who is Megan Roop and what is Quiet Adventures? 02:55 Megan shares her path to starting the company, and how she came to reconcile seemingly disparate ideas of finance and personal growth into a culmination of activities  that work for a greater good. 09:29 For many years, Megan devoted her energy to achieving “perfection” as a woman, that led to struggling with an eating disorder and eventual burnout. She shares how that weaves into her current endeavors. 11:11 When did Megan recognize the socialization of women was truly impacting her personally? 13:56 Just because society tells us there’s a way to be living life doesn’t mean that it’s going to work for you. Charlie and Megan elaborate. 16:05 What are some of the ways Megan has worked with women getting clear on what they’re willing to accept, and what they need to build a boundary around? 20:00 When women strip away the nonessentials, and get to the core of who the are, they start to see they do have gifts and they have a lot to give. 21:00 What tends to happen when out in nature that helps women connect with themselves? How does connecting to the seasons help one seeing the changing nature in life? 24:15 Women and creatives have internal seasonal changes frequently, and embracing that can make life easier to navigate. 27:36 What are some of the small ways people can be more intentional about their connection to nature? 30:04 Charlie opens a dialogue on the intersection of community and nature. 31:30 The Upside of Your Darkside suggests we have a comfort addiction. Do humans deeply bond over comfort as they do in times of struggle? 34:28 Megan shares a story of a moment when she realized she was in the right place, doing the right thing. 37:30 Contrastly, Charlie asks for a negative, pivotal moment on Megan’s journey. 39:20 What is Megan’s most unanticipated challenge currently? 41:00 What is the big takeaway Megan wants people to remember? 42:00 For more great info on connecting with nature, check out Episode #80 Reclaiming Wild Men with Jonathan Mead and #15 with Cultivating Creativity During Motherhood with Lucy Pearce   Mentioned in This Episode: SaneBox.com/Giant Quiet Adventures From Wood to Water The Upside of Your Darkside Episode 80: Reclaiming Wild Men with Jonathan Mead Episode 15: Cultivating Creativity During Motherhood with Lucy Pearce  

In this Episode 102: Let the Dark Side Come Out, I discuss: *the concept of the Dark Side, and how we are told to suppress this side or ourselves *that the Human Experience is a combination of both the Light and Dark Side of us-it's WHO WE ARE *the experience I had today of how I had to have my Dark Side come out and Go to War, and why this was a good thing *the POWER you have in your Darkness that you have within you, and how you can utilize this and bring it out when you need to  Listen to the latest Women Wanting More podcast episode in iTunes here. MORE TIP Let your Darkness Out.  Your Dark Side is a part of you, Sister.  Don't suppress it anymore.  Journal for 20 minutes about the Dark part of you, and see what comes up for you. You gotta let it out, Sister.   Then send me a private message on my personal Facebook page, post on my wall, or on the Women Wanting More FB page to let me know what has come up for you with this. RESOURCES Episode 10: Why You Will Have High Highs and Low Lows Episode 16: Give People the Real You (ALL of You) Episode 73: Own it or Be Owned Request to be added to my private FB Community: Women Who Want MORE Warrior on Fire podcast (the inspiration for THIS podcast)  Your Daily Revolution (a NEW podcast by my incredible coach, Setema Gali) Subscribe to the Women Wanting More Newsletter to get the Show Notes for Each Episode conveniently delivered to you inbox 3 times a week, get your More Tip to start putting what I teach into ACTION to get MORE out of your Life, daily email inspiration on how to Have it All, AND the MORE Four Action Guide, too!

Throughout his life, Doug Hensch has helped people to be more resilient, happier, and to achieve greater levels of success. His journey began with coaching football at University of Chicago, progressed to organizational development for telecom companies like Sprint Nextel, and evolved to creating online resources for increasing happiness. He was co-founder of Happier.com, a web site that launched in 2008 that helped thousands increase their happiness and resilience. And now, he’s an executive coach and writing a book on resilience, due to be published in early 2017.   We discuss:   Career stepping stones including coaching youth baseball Achieving success by following what interests you rather than pursuing the expected career path. In Doug's case this meant pursuing a job applying positive psychology rather than website product development.   Being in the right place, at the right time, with the right attitude Benefits of talking to people wherever you are - at Starbucks, a taxi cab, an airplane... Making a role your own Meditating  The evolution of Doug's book deal Resilience practices  Perceptions of luck Three addictions in life (as defined by Peter Worrell):     1) Carbohydrates   2) Heroin   3) A Paycheck   Doug's Recommended Resources   Books Love 2.0, by Barbara Frederickson, Ph.D. Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life, by Martin Seligman Made to Stick, Why Some Ideas Survive and Others Die, by Chip Heath and Dan Heath The Upside of Your Dark Side, by Todd Kashdan and Robert Biswas-Diener Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age, by Sherry Turkle Free Range Kids, How to Raise Safe, Self-Reliant Children, by Lenore Skenazy   Connect With Doug DRH Group LinkedIn   Thanks for listening! Learn more about Ever Better at http://www.EverBetterU.com.    Join the Ever Better Facebook Community or follow us on Twitter @EverBetterU.  

Fractional CMO, Digital Marketing Strategist, and Leadership Keynote Speaker Michele Price brings you weekly access to the top minds to Master the Inner and Outer Game of business.  Breakthrough Radio is a global business radio show that delivers high impact & pioneering knowledge for leaders in business. Entrepreneurs, startups, sales/marketing/IT professionals join us every Monday. Todd Kashdan, co-author of The Upside of Your Dark Side.  Michele Price, your virtual CMO delivers the Breakthrough Tips segment on "Mastering the Inner Game of Business." She shares "How to Pitch" #PitchDifferent tips every 3rd Monday. Follow us & ask your questions via twitter using #BBSradio.  You are invited to visit radio show blog at www.WhoIsMichelePrice.com 

Episode 6 of the Barbells and Bone Broth Podcast with Kelsey Albers Send questions and topic suggestions to barbellsandbonebrothpodcast@gmail.com Calling a zucchini recipes! Share them on the Barbells and Bone Broth Facebook page! “Be cautious when you're talking to people, because everyone has something going on that you don't know anything about.” Featuring Laura Althardt http://www.lsalawpractice.com/ We discuss conflict resolution and mediation! How do we relate to others, how do we carry what we learned as children into adulthood, over compensating as parents, pushing our boundaries, addiction and stress, being heard, conflict resolution through life changes, and why it might not be the best idea to cut people out. Mentioned in this episode: The Up Side of Your Dark Side by Robert Biwas-Diener and Todd Kashdan The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz Power Struggles by Allen N Mendler Non-Violent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg Momastery http://momastery.com/ The Barbells and Bone Broth Podcast is a division of Ignite. Nourish. Thrive. LLC. Music for this episode provided by bensound.com

We all have issues that we are dealing with. Romans 7 brings this to light. As you listen to this devotional, be ready to Deal with Your Darkside and be made free by Jesus Christ and walk in true liberty.

We all have issues that we are dealing with. Romans 7 brings this to light. As you listen to this devotional, be ready to Deal with Your Darkside and be made free by Jesus Christ and walk in true liberty.

We all have issues that we are dealing with. Romans 7 brings this to light. As you listen to this devotional, be ready to Deal with Your Darkside and be made free by Jesus Christ and walk in true liberty.

We all have issues that we are dealing with. Romans 7 brings this to light. As you listen to this devotional, be ready to Deal with Your Darkside and be made free by Jesus Christ and walk in true liberty.

How to handle negative emotions, fear, anxiety, guilt, shame. Become comfortable with what makes you uncomfortable with Todd Kashdan author of The Upside of Your Dark Side.

You can't go anywhere these days without running into an article or a book on how to be more positive and upbeat. Pessimism and anger are seen as traits we should do all we can to avoid. But my guest today says that view might be a little too short-sighted. His name is Dr. Todd Kashdan and he's the co-author fo the book, The Upside of Your Darkside. Today on the podcast we talk about the benefits of getting in touch with your pessimism and anger and the potential downsides of too much positivity. And we also discuss what Teddy Roosevelt can teach about the benefits of narcisssim and pychopathy. A fascinating discussion.

Todd Kashdan is a public speaker, psychologist, professor, and author. He has published over 150 peer reviewed journal articles about the meaning of life, strength and development, stress, and more. He is the author of Curious? and, his most recent book, The Upside of Your Dark Side; which he talks a little bit about on Productive Flourishing. Todd shares his wide range of insights with Charlie in this episode as well as talks about some of the challenges he faces, creating stronger bonds, and more.    Key Takeaways: 2:45 – Todd explains how he has two core values and how challenging it is to manage both of them.  7:24 – If you're doing things that aren't pleasurable, but are meaningful, then it's important to have discipline.  11:00 – Everybody has their own set of tools, but it takes time for people to figure out what those tools are and how to use them.  16:20 – Don't always be nice. It sometimes pays to call people out and be a little more narcissistic. 21:50 – Experiencing challenges or discomfort with others creates strong bonds. If you are always nice with certain people, then those bonds aren't tested and you may seek comfort else where.  27:15 – Remember, experiencing anxiety, guilt, and embarrassment, although uncomfortable, these emotions have a purpose. They serve to remind you to be considerate of others.  35:30 – If you are impulsive and say what's on your mind without being a jerk about it, people tend to view you as more open, more kind, and will want to be in relationship with you.  43:50 – We become what we're doing, so what are you doing?  47:30 – Charlie loves Todd's latest book, The Upside of Your Dark Side.  48:20 – Todd talks about what's next for him in this segment.    Mentioned In This Episode: http://toddkashdan.com/ Body of Work by Pam Slim