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In this episode of Support is Sexy, Founder of BroglieBox Julia Broglie opens up about her struggles with mental health and losing a brother to suicide, and how her journey led to starting the BroglieBox company. Mental health has never been so important. Listen for support strategies for your mental health and practical tips for your business in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Julia Broglie is the Founder of the social impact company BroglieBox. At BroglieBox, boxes - or "care packages" are curated with tools and resources for mental health in a way that feels warm, lighthearted, and fun.   Insight from this episode: How Julia is fighting the stigma of mental health in an approachable way.  Strategies for grieving in healthy ways and helping others who are.  Details on the Six Pillar of Mental Wellness and how to best support them in your life.  Tips for being a responsive company and how BroglieBox was impacted by 2020.     Quotes from the show: On her brother Justin: “He kept telling me, I just want to make a difference in this world. And he is making a difference now. I feel him guiding me, and I feel like he's touched so many people after his death because every single person that receives one of our boxes, it was inspired by him.” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “We need to be open about this [how Justin died] because we don't want any other family to go through what we're going through right now… and if us talking about it saves a life or brings awareness or fights the stigma, then we're going to shout it from the rooftops.” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “If you're going to a therapist once or twice a week, what are you doing in the in-between? What are you doing every single day to support your mental health or even just remind yourself, hey I should check in with myself, what is one thing I can do for myself?” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “2020 was that year that a lot of us realized that even if you're not directly involved in a situation that you might think would cause grief, just even being on the outside or witnessing it on television or just knowing what's going on in the world or seeing people who are losing a family, for example, can cause grief.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #784 “You are your company's greatest asset. And when you're not treating yourself as your company's greatest asset, then your company's going to suffer.” –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784 Resources Mentioned National Suicide Prevention Hotline Text HOME to 741741 for Crisis Text Counsel The Broglie Blog Mental Wellness Care Package Giveaway CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Julia Broglie Website: https://brogliebox.com/  Instagram: @juls.b_ Instagram: @thebrogliebox LinkedIn: Julia Broglie   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, the Creator of The Great Girlfriends Podcast and expert brand builder Sybil Amuti gives noteworthy strategies for building your brand and creating brand longevity. Become “pandemic proof” with content, culture, and community. Find out how to get to work in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Sybil Amuti is the Founder and Creator of The Great Girlfriends Podcast and Community, a personal & professional development community created to connect women with daily tips and solutions to live a passionate life and build a thriving business.   Insight from this episode: The benefits of sharing your vision in a way that allows others to opt into your energy.  Strategies for building a community around your brand and details on your responsibilities as a brand builder.  Questions to ask yourself as you communicate your message to the market.  Tips for monetizing or leveraging your own podcast.     Quotes from the show: “In my mind, ‘Let's make a podcast' meant ‘Let's build a brand'... I did always have in my mind what the story could be. Whenever I have an idea… I sit down and I jot it out and I imagine what the tentacles can be and how far it can go.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “Do this right now, start this right now, before the people get here… Build it so that when they show up, they can see how you operate on social media, they can see all the other things that you have.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “When you're building a brand, you have to know that your vision is good enough. You have to be fully satisfied with the idea that you may be the only customer for a long time. You have to have that internal esteem.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “That's the gift of having a vision and stepping into it. We don't get to decide how far and wide it goes, and thank God we don't because we would restrict it.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “Yes, you are a brand. And yes, you have a brand. It's your unique way of being. It's your unique way of doing. It's your unique way of feeling. It's the way that you make other people's senses come alive.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “You'd be remiss if you did not understand: Customer is community.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783 “I look at the podcast as more of a platform. I see all of the facets of real estate. These are all the things that are properties that another brand would see the value of if they were given the opportunity.” –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783   Resources Mentioned CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! The Great Girlfriends Podcast Force of Beauty by Mikki Taylor  Canva  Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Sybil Amuti Website: https://sybilamuti.com/about-sybil/  Twitter: @sybil_amuti Facebook: Sybil Amuti Instagram: @sybil_amuti LinkedIn: Sybil Clark-Amuti   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Founder and Chief Kindness Advisor of Cool Audrey, Cole Baker, shares why she believes kindness can change the way we do business and how we can make more soul moves instead of power moves. Cole moved out of the corporate world in order to make the corporate world a more kind place, and she shares exactly how she did it in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Cole Baker-Bagwell is the Founder and Chief Kindness Advisor of Cool Audrey. She spent over two decades in sales and strategy roles with companies both good and toxic where she learned that business is about people and kindness makes business better. Now she shares a big human approach for business through Cool Audrey and two feel-good podcasts: Kindness Think Tank and Little Shots of Kindness.    Insight from this episode: How to remember to pay attention to your “sizzle” and trust your instincts.  What kindness means to Cole and strategies for practicing kindness to self.  Tips for making more choices that “do no harm” and create more connections and possibilities.  Practical steps to take when looking to leave the comfort of “golden handcuffs.”     Quotes from the show: “The first time we're told [as children], well that's silly or you can't be that we begin to develop this little shell, and when we do that we not only close ourselves from the possibilities around us but we actually become quite disconnected from the instincts that we have. We stop trusting that inner voice, that instinct, that actually knows best all the time.” –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782 “We are mirrors. However, we are treating, referring to self, we're going to reflect that out into the world. Being kind means accepting and loving the way we are right now, free of judgment.” –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782 “There are these beautiful plaques that hang on the wall: We are transparent. We are kind. We are inclusive… my favorite question is, well, show me your evidence, how are you living into those things?” –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782 “Everybody's done research around kindness. They're saying, this is the bridge to human connection, and by the way, companies are communities of human beings. And the people they work with are also human beings. If we don't get that human part right, we're kind of toasted aren't we?” –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782 “Am I more afraid to leave and try? Or am I more afraid to stay?” –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782 “I had very dear friends and family members say, ‘You are insane. Are you going through like a midlife crisis?” No, no I'm actually living into myself.” –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782 Resources Mentioned CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Cole Baker Website: https://coolaudrey.com/about  Instagram: @kindnessthinktank LinkedIn: Cole Baker-Bagwell   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Ama Gordon, Co-Founder of Global Fertility Connections, shares about all things fertility, the support that's out there for you, and how you can advocate for yourself. If you've ever wished you had someone to ask your questions about freezing your eggs or surrogacy, then you won't want to miss this conversation on this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Ama Gordon is Co-Founder of Global Fertility Connections, a fertility concierge service that helps Intended Parents navigate their fertility journey on the path to parenthood with egg freezing, in vitro fertilization, and third-party reproductive services including surrogacy and egg donation. Their mission is to empower Intended Parents as they build their families with trust, transparency, and personalize patient care. Resources Mentioned CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! Global Fertility Connections   Insight from this episode: Details on what working with Global Fertility Connections looks like and current trends in fertility.  Elayne's and Ama's stories with fertility and getting support in this area.  What you need to ask yourself if you're thinking of freezing your eggs and tips for going about it the right way.  Ways to make sure you're getting the care that you deserve.    Quotes from the show: On why she started her business: “There were some gaps in the information [from doctors], or it wasn't holistic enough, or it wasn't nuanced or personalized for them enough, or the doctor just might have not had enough time to give them the in-depth answer they were really looking for, so then they go down the Google hole.” –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781 “Egg freezing shows that you're proactive. It shows that you're doing what it takes to empower yourself and to take control, and there's not necessarily a negative connotation to it.” –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781 “You don't really know what you need until you need it, and you don't know what you don't know until you get there.” –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781 “Fibroids are very common for women of color, and I wish it was talked about more often. But oftentimes, somewhere in the family-- whether it's a mother, grandmother, aunt, sister-- someone may be struggling or has struggled with something, and we're not talking about it amongst friends and family.” –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781 “We're [Black people] are often ignored. Or just kind of treated blanketly, like okay, try this or try that. I think it's time that we get the care and attention that we need, which is what we're trying to do one client at a time.” –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Ama Gordon Website: https://www.globalfertilityconnections.com/  Facebook: Global Fertility Connections Instagram: @globalfertilityconnections LinkedIn: Global Fertility Connections   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

The loss of a baby or a child is undoubtedly the most devastating, heartbreaking experience anyone could possibly endure. It's common for many parents to experience intense and profound feelings of despair, loss, and heartache and is left living their lives like a piece of it is missing It's the deep feelings of maternal and paternal love for a child you never had the chance to know If you're a parent who has lived an experience such as this, and or a friend or family member who is supporting a grieving family or someone who would love to have greater knowledge and perspective on what parents live through, then this chat is for you To help talk to us about this today we welcome our special guest special guests Amelia Walker and Chris Barnes from the Gidget Foundation We ask Amelia and Chris questions including: What has been your exposure to parents who have experienced the trauma of baby or child loss? Is there a difference in which a mother mourns to how a father emotionally lives through life events? If so, how? How long can the acute mourning stage of grief last? In some cases, this process can last for years? What types of perinatal loss does Gidget Foundation assist with? How important do you think it is to commemorate and pause to remember the lives of babies who have died during pregnancy, or soon after birth and in infancy? What are some of the most common feelings and experiences parents face? Why is it important to allow yourself to grieve in your own way and in your own time? How can rituals be an important part of dealing with grief? What are some of the common triggers for parents? How do they differ from male to female, mother to father? What is the impact of grief and loss on families? For Gidget Foundation's full article, please go to: https://kiddipedia.com.au/a-guide-to-coping-with-reminders-of-your-pregnancy-and-child-loss/ For further details: Get Support: https://gidgetfoundation.org.au/get-support/where-do-i-start/ Website: www.gidgetfoundation.org.au Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GidgetFoundation Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gidgetfoundation/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/GidgetFndation LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/gidgetfoundationaustralia   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Katherine and Nick North, who are featured in Elayne's new book “Get Over ‘I Got It,” rejoin the podcast to talk about pride, support, creating safe spaces, and letting people show up for you. Hear more about asking courageously and answering with radical honesty in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Katherine North is a writer and executive coach, helping high achieving, secretly sensitive women declare dominion over their demanding lives. She is author of Holy Heathen: A Spiritual Memoir. Nick North is brand strategist, speaker, and influencer who helps solopreneurs and corporations create more money, more impact, and more meaning in their businesses. Together, they made an award winning documentary, Just Another Beautiful Family, and recently appeared on Discovery Plus show Life Under Renovation.   Insight from this episode: Why we don't need to be the martyr ever and how to create safe spaces for ourselves.  The benefits of focusing on the possible as opposed to what's probable.  Tips for getting comfortable with the “uncomfortable asking.” How to tell when you're happily giving, tolerating, or enduring, and why you must protect your own emotional wellness and negotiate when necessary.  Quotes from the show: “I had a feeling of, like, I need to stick it out here because there needs to be a beacon of light. But then I got to the spot where I was like, actually no, that doesn't have to be my job, and I've done it enough and my kids need to be in a spot now where they don't feel different all the time.”  –Nick North Support is Sexy Ep. #779 On being straight passing: “There is a cost to it. There's a cost to everytime someone says something terrible to you, even if they didn't mean it to be terrible. Even if their intention wasn't to hurt you. It still hurts.”  –Nick North Support is Sexy Ep. #779 On the uncomfortable asking: “That can feel really scary. That could be a huge fight. That could potentially open up big cracks in the foundation that you were just really hoping you wouldn't have to look at.” –Katherine North Support is Sexy Ep. #779 “If my “why” has good intentions… then I can change it from it being about me to it being about giving back… If I can go back to the why I need that support, it usually has a really good intention behind it that will put good things into the world… If I have to trick myself to take care of myself that way, I'm for it.”  –Nick North Support is Sexy Ep. #779   Resources Mentioned CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! Support is Sexy Episode 620 Red Met Yellow website design Holy Heathen: A Spiritual Memoir Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Katherine North Website: https://declaredominion.com/  Instagram: @declaredominion Facebook: Declare Dominion Nick North Website: https://wethenorths.com/  Instagram: @wethenorths   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, intenSati Founder Patricia Moreno, who is featured in Elayne’s new book “Get Over ‘I Got It’” (HarperCollins Leadership), discusses how to “live the question” and hunger for the answer. The more you immerse yourself in living the question, the easier it is to take action when the answer comes. Learn how to be a spiritual badass on Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Patricia Moreno is a pioneer of spiritual fitness and Creator of intenSati, a signature movement method pairing mindfulness with physicality. She created a digital community to inspire the lifestyle habits of inner strength, radiant health, and embodied positivity. Patricia is an international speaker, inspiring people worldwide.   Insight from this episode: Strategies to think from the person we want to be, not about the person we want to be. The power of pairing movement with thoughts and affirmations.  How to live the question-- and how to make sure you’re living the right question! How to harness willpower to build habits that will change your life and live in line with your values.   Quotes from the show: “If my identity is: I am fat, there is just no way, how can I be thin? How can I be fit? If I am fat, and I lose 20 pounds, 30 pounds, I am, for a moment, thin. I’m a thin fat person… I still identify myself as fat.” –Patricia Moreno Support is Sexy Ep. #778 “Sometimes the affirmation is not even strong enough yet to get you to actually feel the courage or confidence or the emotion, but it’s enough to put a gate up so that you’re no longer saying what you used to say.” –Patricia Moreno Support is Sexy Ep. #778 “Decide. Decide what you want more of. Decide what’s important to you. What do you want more of today? Is it energy? Is it compassion? Is it to be kind? What is it? Pull it in and activate it in yourself.” –Patricia Moreno Support is Sexy Ep. #778 “You can’t get the idea until you’ve set the intention or you’ve asked the question.” –Patricia Moreno Support is Sexy Ep. #778 “Sometimes we get the inspired moment, but we don’t take the inspired action.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #778 On willpower: “I’m not going to force myself. I’m going to allow myself. I’m going to become this person. I accept that I am willing to change... Yes, I have to put effort. Yes, I have to be conscious because I like to grab those things. But it’s an internal willingness to change versus a short-term holding my breath and forcing myself.” –Patricia Moreno Support is Sexy Ep. #778 Resources Mentioned Wayne Dyer’s Manifest Your Destiny Patricia Moreno’s The IntenSati Method: The Seven Secret Principles to Thinner Peace CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)! Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Patricia Moreno Website: https://patriciamoreno.com  Facebook: Patricia Moreno Instagram: @patriciamoreno33 Youtube: Patricia Moreno   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Dawn Shedrick, Founder of JenTex Training & Consulting, is featured in Elayne’s new book GET OVER "I Got It" (HarperCollins Leadership) in Chapter 6: Stop Being the Strong. Dawn joins the podcast to speak on the dangers of being the strong one, why you need to unlearn certain unhealthy behaviors and mindsets, and how to avoid burnout and embrace support because as you know, Support is Sexy!    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Dawn E. Shedrick, LCSW-R, is Founder & Chief Executive Officer at JenTex Training & Consulting, a professional development company for social workers and human service organizations. Dawn is also a certified life and business coach, ordained interfaith minister, Reiki Master Teacher, and Clinical Aromatherapist.    Insight from this episode: Strategies for overcoming being “the strong one.”  Details on the three defining features of burnout and how to recognize it in ourselves and others.  How to set boundaries in your work to avoid and heal from burnout. Tips for taking control of your environment to lessen stress and empower yourself.    Quotes from the show: “If you look at the more specific signs and symptoms of burnout, many of them mimic the literal, clinical criteria for major depression.” –Dawn Shedrick Support is Sexy Ep. #777 “I don’t mean that your supervisors or the people who own the company are intentionally malicious people who intend to burn you out. Sometimes it’s just the conditions that are not working for you and are harming you.” –Dawn Shedrick Support is Sexy Ep. #777 “I’m not telling anyone to quit their job… Give yourself permission to explore and make the choice.” –Dawn Shedrick Support is Sexy Ep. #777 “We can’t always control what is going to stress us, but we can be empowered to take responsibility and to take ownership of our environment and how we care for ourselves and each other. We have to be mindful of stress and its impact on us in terms of burnout.” –Dawn Shedrick Support is Sexy Ep. #777 “Unlearning for me has been a process of digging into, reflecting on, deconstructing the ways in which I was conditioned to not seek support. How was I conditioned around what it meant to be independent and to be self-actualized and self-directed?” –Dawn Shedrick Support is Sexy Ep. #777 “When I let go of the Superwoman Complex and hired [a team], I can focus on the aspects of my business that are going to allow it to grow and to expand, yes, to bring in more revenue, but to actually have more impact, which is more important to me.” –Dawn Shedrick Support is Sexy Ep. #777 “There’s as much value in the unlearning as there is in the learning.” –Dawn Shedrick Support is Sexy Ep. #777 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Dawn Shedrick Website: https://www.jentextraining.com/   LinkedIn: Dawn Shedrick and JenTex Training & Consulting    Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Many families across the country are dealing with extra tension and stress as they self-isolated during the COVID-19 pandemic. Know that you’re not alone. It’s important to address any issues that are causing tension so that you can promote healthy relationships with one another and thrive in these strange times. Here is a summary of 5 practical ways: (1) Encourage more exercise; (2) Get Support; (3) Prioritize communication; (4) Head outdoors; (5) Structure your workday Content was developed through Derek Goodman - https://www.inbizability.com/ Link to blog post: https://brigittecutshall.com/2021/05/...

Health is a direct reflection of self-love and self-esteem. –Tess Masters   On this episode of the Plan Simple Podcast, I’m really excited to talk to my friend Tess Masters about using food to feel really good.    If you’ve been around for a while, you know that changing food changed my life. It’s really how I started on my journey years ago. I had things really dialed in … and then I hit 45 and I found myself moody and hormonal. I thought maybe this was just how I was supposed to be, but I didn’t like it. Tess convinced me there was a new level, a new food place for me where I could feel good again. And she was right.    Tess’s program the Skinny 60 helped me right away. It wasn’t a lot of “new” stuff. It was nuances of what I knew. It was putting together different strategies in different ways. As Tess said, it’s “finding the perfect blend of those strategies and of those foods for you and your needs at this time.” Our bodies change, and understanding what you need, now, makes a difference!    We talk about:  The importance of gathering information as a our needs, our hormones, our stress levels, and other things change Better markers than weight, like digestion, energy throughout the day, sleep patterns, how your skin looks The importance of a digestive tune up Making truly sustainable changes focused on balance and feeling better and loving the food you are eating Four principles: priming your digestion, nourishing yourself with balanced nutrition, pacing what you eat throughout the day and your exercise, and restoring Cooking as a gift to yourself and your family BIO Tess Masters is an actor, lifestyle personality, and author of The Blender Girl, The Blender Girl Smoothies, and The Perfect Blend. She is also the creator of The Decadent Detox™ cleanses and Skinny60™ weight loss program. You can find hundreds of easy recipes at theblendergirl.com. Tess and her delicious healthy food have been featured in the L.A Times, Washington Post, InStyle, Real Simple, Prevention, Cosmopolitan, Shape, Glamour, Clean Eating, Yoga Journal, Vegetarian Times, Yahoo Living, the Today show, Fox, Home & Family, WGN, and many others. Away from the blender, Tess enjoys a diverse performance career. She has toured internationally with acclaimed theater productions, worked in film and TV, and lent her voice to commercial campaigns, audiobooks, and popular video game characters. She lives in Los Angeles.   LINKS Tess’s program: Skinny60™  (If you sign up through this link, you also get to plan with Mia) Theblendergirl.com Books The Blender Girl The Blender Girl Smoothies The Perfect Blend The Decadent Detox™  Other PlanSimple Podcasts with Tess The Skinny with Tess Masters Blend It with Tess Masters Doable Changes from this episode: GET SUPPORT. While a lot of healthy changes may be common sense or things you know, getting support to put the right pieces together for you now, can save you a lot of time. Find an accountability friend and see if the two of you can support eachother to drink more water or make smoothies or ditch something that’s not serving you. You can check out Tess’s Skinny60 with the link above. ADD VEGETABLES. We all know we should eat more vegetables. Start where you are and pick one thing. Add a salad to lunch. Try green smoothies. If you are getting more veggies already, revision one meal to center around vegetables with other quality foods supplementing. Search my site or Tess’s for recipes and ideas for delicious and easy ways to make vegetables more central.   NOTICE HOW YOU FEEL. Pay attention to how you feel after eating different foods. Write down what you ate and how you felt—gassy, bloated, foggy, energetic… Look for patterns to help you think about what foods you may want to cut back on or eliminate and what you might want more of.

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Dr. Zoe Shaw, who is featured in “Get Over ‘I Got it,’” joins Elayne to discuss the “Superwoman Complex” and how to retire your cape. Dr. Zoe shares how she got over her ‘I Got It’ Syndrome, how to avoid overwhelm, and why we need to learn how to accept support. Don’t miss the expert advice on overcoming the shame and guilt of “should” and making real change in our lives in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist, life coach, and relationship expert. She is a mother of 5, a wife of 25 years, and the host of The Dr. Zoe Show Redefining Your Superwoman Podcast. Dr. Zoe Shaw’s new book A Year of Self-Care: Daily Practices and Inspiration for Caring for Yourself is available now.      Insight from this episode: What is “Superwoman Complex” and why do we need to get over it?  Signs you are taking on too much and symptoms of burnout.  How to reframe your “failure” and reshape your identity.  Strategies to make lasting, positive changes in your life and family.  Tips for moms to create balance and practice self-care in 2021.    Quotes from the show: “That whole idea of superwoman started from such a wonderful place. It started from I think the Women's Movement and this idea that we can do it all, and then over the years, it morphed into ‘We are freaking exhausted.’” –Dr. Zoe Shaw Support is Sexy Ep. #773   “This idea that we can do it all doesn’t mean we have to do it all in one season. It doesn’t mean that we have to do it all by ourselves.” –Dr. Zoe Shaw Support is Sexy Ep. #773  “Our cape has to be healthy, it has to be light, and it has to look like us, not somebody else.” –Dr. Zoe Shaw Support is Sexy Ep. #773  “If when you look at your priorities and you figure out I don’t want to be this way anymore, it’s okay to completely shift… It’s okay to change.” –Dr. Zoe Shaw Support is Sexy Ep. #773  "It’s easier to make very small changes. You’ll have better reactions from the system, and on top of that you’ll be more likely to follow through… as you make small changes, you will actually be more motivated to make slightly bigger changes.” –Dr. Zoe Shaw Support is Sexy Ep. #773  “Showing up authenticity as yourself is the easiest way to mother, and it’s the healthiest way to mother. Hopefully, that takes a little bit of that guilt off of your shoulders, takes some of that burden of having to be perfect off of your shoulders.” –Dr. Zoe Shaw Support is Sexy Ep. #773    Resources Mentioned A Year of Self Care by Dr. Zoe Shaw  GetOverIGotIt.com  Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Dr. Zoe Shaw Website: https://drzoeshaw.com/  Twitter: @drzoeshaw Facebook: Dr. Zoe Shaw Instagram: @drzoeshaw LinkedIn: Dr. Zoe Shaw   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, CEO of Nonprofit HR Lisa Brown Alexander, who is featured in Elayne’s upcoming book Get Over ‘I Got It,’ speaks about her experience in removing her mask, getting the support she needs, and prioritizing her mental health. Lisa also discusses why successful Black women are more likely to wear masks and why you need to get honest about whether or not you’re wearing a mask in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Lisa Brown Alexander is the Founder and CEO of Nonprofit HR, the leading human resources firm in the country that works exclusively with the nonprofit sector in consulting, talent acquisition, executive search, and education. Lisa is the author of Strong on the Outside, Dying on the Inside. Lisa is also the Owner of luxury retreat destination Wellspring Manor & Spa in Maryland.   Insight from this episode: Why we wear masks and what it takes to free yourself of that burden. What to do when you’re tired of being tired and how to get over “I got it!” How to take a “Yes, and…” approach to mental health and wellness.  Strategies for coping when your “drug of choice” is work and success.   Quotes from the show: “[T]hey don’t understand when you’re living with depression and you got your career and your spouse and you’re doing fine and your kids are great. It doesn’t make sense. Because it doesn’t make sense and that story is harder to tell, we hold that mask on tighter, so we look like we have it all together when in fact we’re falling apart.” –Lisa Brown Alexander Support is Sexy Ep. #770 “I had a great good corporate job, corner office, the whole nine yards, and the second I would get in my car, I would start crying.” –Lisa Brown Alexander Support is Sexy Ep. #770 “We are whole persons. We have our spiritual component, a mental component, an emotional, a financial. Tend to each of those aspects of yourself by seeing the people who can support those aspects of yourself.” –Lisa Brown Alexander Support is Sexy Ep. #770 “Talking is a key part of mental health, healing and wellness, and unpacking and unloading those things that are causing crisis in your mental health.” –Lisa Brown Alexander Support is Sexy Ep. #770 “So many of us do not take the time to retreat, and relax, and restore.” –Lisa Brown Alexander Support is Sexy Ep. #770 “Be honest with yourself and be okay saying no, I can’t do that.” –Lisa Brown Alexander Support is Sexy Ep. #770 Resources Mentioned NAMI Support Groups TalkSpace  BetterHelp Get Cerebral Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Lisa Brown Alexander  Website: https://www.nonprofithr.com/  Twitter: @NonprofitHRCEO Facebook: @nonprofithr LinkedIn: Lisa Brown Alexander   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Founder and CEO of CoveyClub and former Editor-in-Chief of More Magazine Lesley Jane Seymour gives her best tips for successful reinvention. Lesley discusses how to plan for different types of reinvention, the liberation of becoming who you are when you no longer care what others think, and her work in creating supportive communities of growth in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Lesley Jane Seymour is Founder of CoveyClub, a meeting place for lifelong learners who support each other in business and personal growth. Former award-winning Editor-in-Chief of More Magazine, she is also current host of the Reinvent Yourself podcast. Lesley is featured in Elayne’s upcoming book “Get Over ‘I Got it.’”   Insight from this episode: Strategies to develop your reinvention mindset and get unstuck.  How to let go of your former identity, cultivate your interests, and shift your paradigm. The dangers of routine and getting too comfortable.  Reflections on what the world after COVID and rethinking work-life balance.     Quotes from the show: “You have to have a reinvention mindset because you can’t stop and get stuck in anything you do… it’s just a constant movement, a constant learning.” –Lesley Jane Seymour Support is Sexy Ep. #771 “We use learning as the can-opener to any problem that we find out there.” –Lesley Jane Seymour Support is Sexy Ep. #771 “Reinvention is coming your way… You have to keep your eyes open for all the reinvention opportunities that throw themselves in your path every day.” –Lesley Jane Seymour Support is Sexy Ep. #771 “You have to have a reinvention plan in your back pocket… You need to take that side hustle and really start developing it.” –Lesley Jane Seymour Support is Sexy Ep. #771 “We tend to fit ourselves into the box, but the box was very big before.” –Lesley Jane Seymour Support is Sexy Ep. #771 Resources Mentioned  CoveyClub  Reinvent Yourself with Lesley Jane Seymour Podcast  Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Lesley Jane Seymour Website: https://www.coveyclub.com/  Twitter: @LesleyJSeymour Facebook: Lesley Jane Seymour Instagram: @lesleyjseymour LinkedIn: Lesley Jane Seymour   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, author of Black Girl in Love (with Herself), Trey Anthony, reminds us that loving ourselves is not a job we can give to someone else! Trey gives tips from her book on how to create healthy relationships with ourselves, people in our lives, and even our money. Hear about why “you might want to cry about this” in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Trey Anthony is a visionary creator who uses her unique blend of comedy, theater, motivational talk, and her own life experiences to inspire and uplift others. Trey is a professional speaker, lifestyle coach, producer, award-winning playwright, and author of the new Black Girl in Love (with Herself): A Guide to Self-Love, Healing, and Creating the Life You Truly Deserve.   Insight from this episode: Sneak peek into Trey’s book including her exercises around money. Trey’s inspiration behind her book Black Girl in Love with Herself. How to get over the imposter syndrome and realize your worth. Why telling our friends “Girl, you got this!” can be dangerous and how to be intentional about creating safe spaces.   Quotes from the show: “We end up on the bathroom floor because we’re holding so much in, putting up this facade as a “strong Black woman.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #769 “I needed to really trace why I chose to give up the job of loving myself to someone else. When they stopped loving me, all of a sudden I didn’t know what to do with myself.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769 “At lot of times we find ourselves in things that are unhealthy for us because it reminds us of our childhood.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769 “Right at that moment, I didn’t need a pep talk. What I needed was permission to fall apart. And maybe not once, not twice, maybe three times, but continue to fall apart and have a safe space.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769 “I was thinking about negotiations, and I said, “Please pay me whatever you’ve paid a white male who has come in and done similar.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769 “Make people catch you loving yourself. So when they join you, you’re already loving yourself.” –Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Ep. #769 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Trey Anthony Website: Trey Anthony Twitter: @treyanthony Instagram: @blackgirlinlove LinkedIn: Trey Anthony Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne and Polina Hanin, managing partner at Aequitas Partners, have a conversation about equity, diversity, and inclusion, and what it means to be an ally in America today. Polina talks about her personal racial “wake up call” and how that has impacted her business practices. Whether in friendships or in the workplace, listen for tips on being a champion for others and going from gatekeeper to “gate-opener” in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Polina Hanin is Principal at Aequitas Partners, a boutique firm that builds leadership teams for high-growth health companies focusing on health equity. Polina is also an Advisor at StartUp Health, an investment platform founded in 2011 to invest in a global army of entrepreneurs, called Health Transformers, to achieve health moonshots.    Insight from this episode: How to “step off the sidelines” and move towards authentic and intentional allyship in and out of the workplace.  Tips for shifting from exclusion to inclusion in your hiring practices.  Strategies for investing into diversity, equity, and inclusion.  Details on the turning point in Polina’s personal journey of racial reckoning.    Quotes from the show: On the hiring process: “The more criteria that you pull together, the more that you weigh them and understand what actually is priority and what’s a non-negotiable, the more you can actually start to think not in exclusionary terms but rather inclusionary terms.” –Polina Hanin Support is Sexy Ep. #768 “There’s an opportunity for us to give back, so that five years later [students at HBCUs] are [ready], and they have the resources necessary and all the experience that immediately makes them a fantastic candidate for a search that we’re doing down the road.” –Polina Hanin Support is Sexy Ep. #768 “How can I actually be a champion for the people that I care about? How can I be their cheerleader? How can I promote the amazing things they’re doing?” –Polina Hanin Support is Sexy Ep. #768 “Sit with the discomfort and analyze your life. Analyze what you’ve done, what you haven’t done. Just come to terms with it and figure out how you’re going to move from that and change that. What are you doing differently tomorrow?” –Polina Hanin Support is Sexy Ep. #768 “If you’re a business leader, put someone in charge of that [diversity, equity, and inclusion] plan.” –Polina Hanin Support is Sexy Ep. #768 “How is somebody going to know an opportunity exists if it’s not presented to them?” –Polina Hanin Support is Sexy Ep. #768 Resources Mentioned Health Talent Exchange Authentic Diversity: How to Change the Workplace for Good by Michelle Silverthorn www.qualifiedBlackpeople.com   Mark Dawson’s LinkedIn Polina's SIS Episode Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Polina Hanin Website: Aequitas Partners Twitter: @PolinaHanin LinkedIn: Polina Hanin   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Co-Founders of Topicals, Olamide Olowe and Claudia Teng speak about their business partnership, branding, and raising $2.7 million in investments by selling a vision, not just a product. Be inspired by their success as young women of color and learn about what it takes to create a truly disruptive brand on Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening!   About our Guest: Olamide Olowe is the 24-year-old Co-Founder & CEO of Topicals, a skincare company transforming the way people feel about skin with products for eczema and hyperpigmentation. A UCLA graduate, Olamide is the former Co-Founder of SheaGIRL, a Sundial Brands subsidiary.  Claudia Teng, also 24, is Co-Founder & CPO at Topicals, the brand creating “funner flare-ups.” Growing up with eczema and working in clinical research helped her see what patients really need and what’s lacking in the skin-care space. Topicals have sold out multiple times on nordstorm.com.      Insight from this episode: Questions to ask potential business partners and investors.  Strategies for creating a brand that you believe in, even if others don’t.  A look into networking and finding investors, including Olamide’s experience cold contacting on LinkedIn. How you can “do well by doing good.”   Quotes from the show: “For anyone at any age, fundraising is really hard… It was really important for us, one, to find people who wanted to be allies with us.” –Olamide Olowe Support is Sexy Ep. #767 “We’re not just selling a cute cream on Instagram. We really are trying to change that category [of skin care].” –Olamide Olowe Support is Sexy Ep. #767 “Make sure that the people you have onboard with whatever facet, whether that’s a retailer partner, a retail partner, a co-founder, an investor, that this person really is on the same page with you about what the end goal is. Because when you’re not on the same page, that’s when dissension and a bunch of trouble happens because someone’s trying to pull forward while someone’s trying to pull back.” –Olamide Olowe Support is Sexy Ep. #767 “We wanted retail to help us tell our story. That was the purpose of being in retail.” –Claudia Teng Support is Sexy Ep. #767 “[Listening] is a simple but underrated tool. If you are a company, person, or brand that touts community and touts your brand having community, then it’s important to first and foremost be a listener to them and understand and be receptive to their needs.” –Claudia Teng Support is Sexy Ep. #767 “Inclusivity goes all the way back to product development.” –Olamide Olowe Support is Sexy Ep. #767 Resources Mentioned Join Elayne live on your favorite social media platform: www.LiveWithElayne.com   Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Olamide Olowe Twitter: @OlamideAOlowe Instagram: @olamideaolowe  LinkedIn: Olamide Olowe   Claudia Teng LinkedIn: Claudia Teng   Topicals Website: mytopicals.com Twitter: @topicals  Instagram: @mytopicals  TikTok: @topicals_   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In 2009, I ran the Marine Corps Marathon.  I couldn’t run a mile when I declared it publicly, but I was determined, it was a “10.”  What got me through the time challenges, the exhaustion, the whining, the pain?... The fact that I said it to the world, documented my progress and took people’s money for charity.  I couldn’t back out. "Now that people were giving me money for every mile I ran, I couldn’t back out?”  – Mark J. Silverman Today on Mastering Midlife: Decide what you want to do. Make a public declaration, no matter the feedback. Practice, talk about it, struggle with it….in public Put money on it. Get Support. Do things you never thought possible. Are you a busy, overwhelmed business leader? Through my work as an author and executive coach, I’ve discovered the 10 lies we all tell ourselves that keep us away from true productivity and creativity.  If constant firefighting is part of your daily grind, I have a free gift for you.  My “10 Uncomfortable Truths” about overwhelm, from “Only 10s, Confront Your To-Do List – Transform Your Life.” Go to www.markjsilverman.com, click on the red banner and receive your 10 videos (one minute, one per day) as well as the first chapter of the book.  While you are there, check out some of the other ways I may be able to help you on the journey. Mastering Midlife...Together! Thanks for tuning into today’s episode of the Mastering Midlife Podcast: How to Thrive When the World Asks the Most of You with Mark Silverman. If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe to the show on Apple Podcasts and leave us a review. Be sure to visit our website and connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, and YouTube and don’t forget to share your favorite episodes on social media.

In this episode of Support is Sexy, mental performance coach Ayanna Sealey speaks about how to step into your “zone of genius” when it comes to performance at all levels of your life. Ayanna addresses how to deal with performance anxiety, uncertainty, and unprocessed trauma that might be holding us back, with techniques rooted in daily practice and building confidence in our comfort zones. Learn how to build your mental toughness in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Ayanna Sealey, a former Broadway performer, is a mental performance coach and Founder of Magic Makers, where she helps artists, high-level executives, and athletes realize their potential and achieve peak performance. Through her acclaimed neuro-emotional technique, Ayanna helps clients identify and release subconscious blocks within minutes. Check out her 12-week program: Dream to Real.    Insight from this episode: How performance anxiety can affect us and tips to handle it with less stress. Ayanna’s personal pre-performance routine from her years on Broadway. Strategies for having self-compassion and grace and assessing why you might be in a funk.  Methods for positively moving forward from anxiety and self-doubt and stepping into the “zone of genius.” Benefits of working with a mental performance coach.    Quotes from the show: “Are you focusing on all the things that can go wrong? Or are you pouring your energy into what can go right? ...Things are going to go wrong, but it’s up to us to choose what we can have control over, what we focus on.” –Ayanna Sealey Support is Sexy Ep. #765 “You’ve got to pay attention to: I want to do something, but it’s not happening. I want to do something, but I’m not able to actualize it. Why is that?” –Ayanna Sealey Support is Sexy Ep. #765 “Not moving through [the hurt] in the long long will hurt more.... When we block the pain, we’re also blocking the joy.” –Ayanna Sealey Support is Sexy Ep. #765 “It’s not as if you’ll disappear off the face of the earth if you take care of yourself. If you pause to reset, if you pause to really hone into your self-care, if you just take a moment, it doesn’t mean that everything comes to a screeching halt.” –Ayanna Sealey Support is Sexy Ep. #765 “High performing individuals are constantly aiming to improve and step into the most phenomenal versions of themselves… That means you’ve got to prepare to step into that zone of genius, where all your gifts are in use.” –Ayanna Sealey Support is Sexy Ep. #765 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Ayanna Sealey Website: https://www.ayannasealey.com/  Twitter: @Ayanna_Sealey Facebook: Ayanna Sealey Instagram: @ayanna_sealey LinkedIn: Ayanna Sealey   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, BROWN GIRL Jane Co-Founder and Chief Brand Officer Tai Beauchamp applies life principles to business and gives us invaluable advice about how to form healthy partnerships that help us grow and reach our goals. Business partnerships can be rewarding and humbling, but Tai reminds us that we need to prioritize ourselves and our wellness so that we can fully show up for ourselves and others in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Tai Beauchamp is an internationally recognized media personality, public speaker, style and lifestyle authority, and creative director who inspires women around the world to celebrate their inner and outer beauty. Named one of the 50 most influential people in the multicultural market by WWD, Tai is also Co-Founder of BROWN GIRL Jane, a disruptive luxury, plant-based wellness, and beauty collection centering the needs of dynamic women of color.   Insight from this episode: Essentials you must keep in mind when looking to partner with and work alongside others.  The benefits of working with business partners and how to know when to move on from a partnership. Strategies for thinking creatively when it comes to imagining what’s possible in our lives. How to check in with yourself, prioritize your peace of mind, and have some fun.      Quotes from the show: “You want to work with people who are helping you to grow… that you can learn from.” –Tai Beauchamp Support is Sexy Ep. #764 “My practical MBA studies are the people who are in rooms in Zoom with me at this point.” –Tai Beauchamp Support is Sexy Ep. #764 “When you enter any union, any partnership, any relationship, you have to be very clear about what your intentions are, what are the motivating factors, what are the desired outcomes?” –Tai Beauchamp Support is Sexy Ep. #764 “It’s important for us to give ourselves the time and the space to think freely without terms and conditions, without pre-established notion and/or previous convictions. Oftentimes, you have to step outside of yourself to do that and you also have to step away from the things that keep you and hold you.” –Tai Beauchamp Support is Sexy Ep. #764 “Be intentional about those wellness checks daily. That’s not something that is negotiable. That’s not something is to be penciled in when possible. It’s something that needs to be prioritized.” –Tai Beauchamp Support is Sexy Ep. #764 Resources Mentioned Use code: SISTAS at https://www.browngirljane.com/ for 20% off. Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Tai Beauchamp Website: http://www.taibeauchamp.com/  Website: https://www.browngirljane.com/  Instagram: @taibeau  Instagram: @itsbrowngirljane LinkedIn: BROWN GIRL Jane   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Dr. Anna Cebeca, OB-GYN and author of The Hormone Fix, teaches how practical knowledge of hormones can drastically improve your overall health and well-being. From progesterone, cortisol, and oxytocin, Dr. Cebeca makes the connection between hormone balance and healing our bodies. Learn about simple steps you can take today to empower your body for healing in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Dr. Anna Cabeca is a Triple-Board Certified OB-GYN and Founder of The Girlfriend Doctor Club who has worked with thousands of women one-on-one to help them understand and improve their health and manage their hormones. Dr. Cabeca is committed to supporting women so that they can thrive physically, emotionally, sexually, and even spiritually as they go through menopause. She is also the author of two best-selling books: The Hormone Fix and Keto-Green 16. Check out Dr. Cabeca's latest Master Class, Breeze Through Menopause Master Class. Registration is free and taking place virtually on February 18th, 2021.   Insight from this episode: Details on the power of hormones and their effect on our bodies.  Self-medicating behaviors resulting from high cortisol levels that you might be doing. How to increase your oxytocin levels to reduce stress and inflammation. Why you might want to break up with sugar and the alternatives you can use. Strategies to improve your gut health and help your body detox.     Quotes from the show: “All diseases come down to two simple things: inflammation is number one, and number two is hormone imbalance.” –Dr. Anna Cabeca Support is Sexy Ep. #763 “Hormones are such amazing molecules. They are more than chemical messages... They are also energetic communicators. They are energetic molecules.” –Dr. Anna Cabeca Support is Sexy Ep. #763 “When cortisol goes up, oxytocin goes down, the hormones of love, bonding, and connection… Your body is in this state of disconnect. You become more isolated, have more anxiety and depression.” –Dr. Anna Cabeca Support is Sexy Ep. #763 “[Self-care] is one of the best things I can write on a prescription pad for anyone. It is the best thing for survival. And it is listening innately to our body for what we need.” –Dr. Anna Cabeca Support is Sexy Ep. #763 “It takes more than hormones to fix our hormones.” –Dr. Anna Cabeca Support is Sexy Ep. #763 Resources Mentioned The Hormone Fix Keto-Green 16 Sign up for Dr. Cabeca's Keto-Green Masterclass Hint Water Topo Chico Water Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Dr. Anna Cabeca Website: https://drannacabeca.com/  Twitter: @AnnaCabeca Facebook: @thegirlfrienddoctor Instagram: @thegirlfrienddoctor Youtube: Dr. Anna Cabeca The Girlfriend Doctor Pinterest: Dr. Anna Cabeca   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Isabella Lengopito from The BOMA Project, an organization empowering women entrepreneurs in Kenya to end extreme poverty in Africa, joins Elayne to share how diversification, setting goals, and community helped BOMA women grow their businesses. Tune in to this episode of Support is Sexy to hear how you can apply these fundamentals to strengthen your own business.   Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Isabella Lengopito is a BOMA Project field officer out of the Samburu Office in Kenya. The BOMA Project is a non-profit focused on ending extreme poverty in Africa by investing in women entrepreneurs. The organization is systematically changing the lives of African women and their families through empowerment and teaching life and business skills with dignity in their two-year poverty graduation program to create sustainable futures.   Insight from this episode: The inspiration and impetus behind The BOMA Project and how Isabella got involved with their programs.  How to walk with others and support them in empowering and dignified ways. Tips to weather any economic “storm” in your business and the stories of BOMA women entrepreneurs who have done it! Reasons why no one, especially women, should be their own worst enemy.   Quotes from the show: “There was something shocking about how [a woman in the market is] now doing business, how she can now calculate her profits, how she can go by herself and buy stock. These things were thrilling for me because before women didn’t have this knowledge... Now this woman could confidently speak about business.” –Isabella Lengopito Support is Sexy Ep. #762 “During COVID-19… BOMA’s women entrepreneurs showed a 3% jump in profits and a 7% increase in sales from April to June 2020.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #762 “Staying focused regardless of the challenges you go through keeps you going in a business and will make you realize your goal.” –Isabella Lengopito Support is Sexy Ep. #762 “Everyone needs support. Everyone needs someone to talk to. All of us, even if we live in different parts of the world, we go through the same challenges-- in different ways, but we go through the same challenges… when we come together, when we help each other, it helps us get through these challenges stronger.” –Isabella Lengopito Support is Sexy Ep. #762 “Wherever you go, ensure that you change the life of another woman.” –Isabella Lengopito quoting her mother Support is Sexy Ep. #762 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   The BOMA Project Website: https://bomaproject.org/  Twitter: @BOMAProject Facebook: @thebomaproject Instagram: @thebomaproject LinkedIn: The BOMA Project Youtube: The BOMA Project Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m diving into the idea of “publications as currency” to both debunk the idea and show you how you can make it work for you and your academic mission. If you’re in academia, you’ve probably heard the idea that publications are currency. And that’s true...but what does it really mean for us as womxn academics operating in systems that are not built for us? Publications add value to the world, represent our work, and give us something tangible to take forward with us. But it’s time to reframe the “currency” idea.   I want to show you how you can use your writing as the currency to get you where you want to go in your career, rather than as a proscribed idea of what you have to publish where to “pay” your way forward. Some of the ideas I’m going to put forward might seem scary, but I think they are vital to our individual satisfaction in our careers, and to the collective work we’re doing to change norms in academia. Publications Are Part of Your Creation What is currency? Something that has value no matter where you take it, that gets picked up and passed around and used by others. This is just what our publications do. They add value, and they are mobile. You might not be able to transfer curriculum creation or coursework from one institution to another, but your publications always come with you, and always add value.    “If publications are currency, that means writing needs to take a more central role in our careers.”  -Cathy Mazak   Currently in academia, the “currency” idea is often used to mean certain kinds of publications, in certain kinds of journals, that pay your way to certain opportunities. I want to challenge that.    Our careers as academics are a continuous process of creation. Publications are a kind of “receipt” for that creation; they are a tangible thing to point to. But what else could be a “receipt” of the creation you do? Always bring it back to your academic mission statement. What has helped you move toward that mission? Maybe it’s engaging with your audience through newspaper articles, social media, or community involvement. These can all be used as currency to build the career you want. But you have to be strategic. Getting Strategic With Your Writing Maybe being published in a prestigious journal doesn’t move your career forward like smaller journals that are more targeted to your audience would. Don’t let the norms of a patriarchal, racist, ableist system distract you; always bring things back to your mission statement. Use your writing strategically to help you get the working conditions you want, the things you need to support your mission and the career you are building. Here’s how:   Craft your career narrative to tell the story of your career in a way that highlights all of your writing and work. Always measure goals and opportunities against your mission statement. Reflect on what you want your career and working conditions to look like going forward. Think about what you want your publications to do for you. What doors do you want to open? What audience do you want to reach? Where will you make the most impact?   It might seem scary at first, but reflecting on what you actually want and then going for it is important, and powerful. It isn’t selfish; it’s making your important, creative contribution to the world the best it can be.   “The more you are happy and joyful in your career, the better your contribution to the world is going to be.”  -Cathy Mazak   So, are publications currency in academia? You bet they are. But they don’t have to be in the journals that are most prestigious, or in the order someone else thinks they should be in.. or only in journals at all. They are the currency for getting what you want in your career.   “You are more in charge of your career than you think.” -Cathy Mazak   Get Support and Get Writing! My Momentum co-writing group is only $27/month and is a great way to get motivated, and get support to create the space and time you need to write. Get in the right headspace on our Monday Mindset calls, then get writing. Sign up today, and write with us tomorrow! Pulled in a thousand directions and can’t seem to carve out time to write? Download my   10 Ways to Make Time to Write cheat sheet for ideas to implement today! Connect with me: Website Facebook Group Facebook Page This episode was first published at cathymazak.com/episode66.

In this episode of Support is Sexy, if you’ve been thinking about getting extra support in your business, Tasha Booth, CEO of The Launch Guild, a virtual assistant agency, has just the advice you need. Tasha answers what is a virtual assistant, who should have one, and what you should consider before hiring one or even becoming one yourself. As a successful business owner herself, Tasha gives great advice and practical tips for all entrepreneurs who are trying to start or grow their business in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Tasha Booth is the Founder and CEO of The Launch Guild, an online business management and digital marketing implementation agency that supports high level coach and course creators. Their priority is making sure the leader feels supported and that nothing slips through the cracks. Tasha also coaches and mentors virtual assistants who are looking to start and grow their businesses.   Insight from this episode: Benefits of bringing on support for your business and what options are available to you. Strategies to leverage your past experiences into your current endeavors. Tips for building authentic relationships and business networks, especially in the virtual space. Details on becoming and thriving as a virtual assistant even during difficult times.     Quotes from the show: “You really want to tap into what have I done in the past that I’ve enjoyed, and how can I translate that to whatever this new thing I want to create is.” –Tasha Booth Support is Sexy Ep. #761 “Once I leaned into what I enjoyed doing, that’s when my business exploded.” –Tasha Booth Support is Sexy Ep. #761 “I’m never going to fully take a vacation if it’s just me… I realized pretty quickly that I was going to have to build some sort of a team in order to be able to have stability in my business and also freedom in my business.” –Tasha Booth Support is Sexy Ep. #761 “Relationship is the reason that people want to hire you or the reason that people remember you.” –Tasha Booth Support is Sexy Ep. #761  “You are a strategic partner, partnering with another business owner to support them in their business. They’re not your employer employing you. So when we step into the relationship as strategic partners, we’re stepping in on even footing.” –Tasha Booth Support is Sexy Ep. #761 “If you don’t take the time to focus on one thing at a time and give it its full capacity to grow and to be excellent, you’ll never know what its capacity was.” –Tasha Booth Support is Sexy Ep. #761 Resources Mentioned Acuity Toggl  Launch Guild’s Built to Profit course Launch Guild’s Booked and Balanced course Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Tasha Booth Website: https://www.tashabooth.com/  Launch Guild Website: https://thelaunchguild.com/  Facebook: @thetashabooth Instagram: @thetashabooth LinkedIn: Tasha Booth Pinterest: The Launch Guild   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, self-care and healthy relationship coach Fila Antwine reminds us that self-care is sexy! Fila shares all kinds of ways you can support yourself, including raising awareness of negative self-talk and creating healthy boundaries. You can be successful, you can be ambitious, and you can also take care of yourself. Find out how Fila’s expert’s advice in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Fila Antwine is Elayne’s very own cousin and award-winning self-love and healthy relationship coach. Fila has helped over 500 women have healthy relationships and practice radical self-love individually and in groups. She has been honored by members of Congress, featured in major media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, The New York Post, and HuffPost, and hired by national organizations, colleges, and universities to share her coaching principles with their members, students, and staff.   Insight from this episode: Fila’s simple, but sacred, self-care trifecta that can change your life.  How to not abandon your self-care practices and overcome your fears of “slowing down.” The benefits of small, intentional acts of self-care to have a large impact on your overall well-being, relationships, and legacy.  Strategies to create healthy boundaries that reflect your core values and will improve your relationships.     Quotes from the show: “It’s about sacred self-care. It’s about doing those things that impact you internally in a way that you get to reflect the joy, happiness, goodness externally.” –Fila Antwine Support is Sexy Ep. #760 “The way you speak to yourself internally is the seed that you’re planting every single day about what you get to be in the world and what you get to have in the world.” –Fila Antwine Support is Sexy Ep. #760 “The simplicity of self-care is what will allow us to make it a lifestyle and a practice.” –Fila Antwine Support is Sexy Ep. #760 “When you slow down, time slows down with you. When you pour into yourself, life opens up to give you more.” –Fila Antwine Support is Sexy Ep. #760 “As an individual, you are always creating your life. And it’s simply a matter of recognizing whether you have consciously or unconsciously created the state of your life right now… You can actively and consciously opt into self-care.” –Fila Antwine Support is Sexy Ep. #760 “When you start saying I’m taking back some of my time, I’m taking back some of my energy, and I’m not going to deplete myself for you anymore, sometimes you will lose relationships. You have to be willing to do that so that you can move on and feel better.” –Fila Antwine Support is Sexy Ep. #760 Resources Mentioned Sacred Self Care Planner Fila’s Affirmation Deck Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Fila Antwine Website: https://www.filaantwine.com/  Instagram: @sheisfila Twitter: @sheisfila Facebook: @sheisfila LinkedIn: Fila Antwine   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this Where Is She Now episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne catches up with YorYoga founder and Reebok marketing executive Kremena Yordanova. Kremena has been getting the support she needs, expanding her brand, and practicing being unapologetic with her priorities. She even shares her own meditation practice with us and how she listens to her body to evaluate opportunities. Find out how Kremena has embraced change over the last two years and stop playing small in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Kremena Yordanova, born and raised in Bulgaria, is a self-taught entrepreneur who went from a junior purser on a cruise ship to the corporate world and blended in yoga along the way. Kremena sees yoga as a way of thriving amidst the demands of modern life. She founded YorYoga based in Amsterdam in 2012 and has since organized seven international Yoga, Food, and Wine Retreats and multiple workshops and has taught countless Strala Yoga classes. Insight from this episode: The benefits of working with a life coach and how one can help you clarify your priorities. Reasons why yoga can help busy women to not only take a break but also make connections with ourselves and others.  Details on how Kremena incorporates the values of both yoga and entrepreneurship into her corporate job.  How tea unexpectedly helped Kremena feel better, build community, and expand her brand.     Quotes from the show: “Any project on my plate right now, I’m really excited to do because it’s always with friends.” –Kremena Yordanova Support is Sexy Ep. #759  “Anything that doesn’t align with the bigger mission of who I want to become, it simply needs to be ‘Thank you, no.’” –Kremena Yordanova Support is Sexy Ep. #759 “There is nothing wrong with maintaining [a busy lifestyle] as long as it’s not at the price of something else. We take big pride in being busy, busy for the sake of it, but if you give yourself permission to stop, evaluate, breathe, connect, is this still worth it?” –Kremena Yordanova Support is Sexy Ep. #759 “If people are being seen, they tend to do so much more.” –Kremena Yordanova Support is Sexy Ep. #759 “People really resonate with the energy when you are actually doing it because you want to do it… what you do is special because it’s special to you.” –Kremena Yordanova Support is Sexy Ep. #759 “I have nothing to prove in that field [of yoga]. I just want to get the best of my potential and the best of my work to be experienced by more people and get the joy out of it.” –Kremena Yordanova Support is Sexy Ep. #759  Resources Mentioned Support is Sexy Ep. 558: Embracing Both-And Instead of Either-Or with Yoga Instructor and Reebok Marketing Exec Kremena Yordanova YorYoga Tea  Try code supportissexy for 10% off any YorYoga Retreat Try code yoryoga20 for a discount on YorYoga Tea (Europe only) Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Kremena Yordanova Website: https://yoryoga.eu Facebook: @yoryoga Instagram: @yoryoga   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Support is Sexy, The Honey Pot Company CEO Bea Dixon speaks about how in her success she has stayed authentic and committed to excellence, despite some bumps in the road along the way. If you are an entrepreneur just starting out or trying to get your product into retail, Bea gives invaluable and practical advice that you have to hear! Get a glimpse of Bea Dixon’s “unlimited thinking” in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Bea Dixon is Co-Founder and CEO of The Honey Pot Company, a plant-based feminine care product line that she launched in 2014. The Honey Pot Company’s products are sold at Target, Walmart, Whole Foods, and more. Bea is in Entrepreneur’s 2019 top 100 groundbreaking women entrepreneurs.      Insight from this episode: How to take the good and the bad that life has to offer you and learn from all of it.  Strategies for handling criticism, backlash, and the negative opinions of others.  Bea’s take on what it means to be a Black business owner and how to set the bar of excellence high. Insight into how to set your ultimate vision and achieve your goals along the way. Super practical tips for any entrepreneur trying to get a product off the ground.   Quotes from the show: “When you can solve for your own problems, that’s a beautiful space to be in.” –Bea Dixon Support is Sexy Ep. #758 “Everything can’t always be good, and everything can’t always be bad… it’s just a matter of how you react to each energy.” –Bea Dixon Support is Sexy Ep. #758 “If you know yourself, anybody can say anything about you.” –Bea Dixon Support is Sexy Ep. #758 “Decide what matters, and decide what doesn’t. And that’s it.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #758 “I would like Honey Pot to be one of those brands that somebody can point to [when seeking investors] and say, look, this is what this company was able to do...” –Bea Dixon Support is Sexy Ep. #758  “It is hard to do all of this shit, no matter what color you are. Honestly.” –Bea Dixon Support is Sexy Ep. #758 “When it comes to branding and packaging and what you call things, keep it simple. Simple font, simple color--white, black, grey-- keep it super super ultra simple.” –Bea Dixon Support is Sexy Ep. #758 “Don’t do things that you don’t do well.” –Bea Dixon Support is Sexy Ep. #758 Resources Mentioned Squarespace Shopify Four Blend 99designs Seven Lemons UpWork GS1 barcodes INCI format Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Beatrice Dixon Website: https://thehoneypot.co/  Twitter: @QueenBea_101 Instagram: @iambeadixon LinkedIn: Beatrice Dixon   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, expert social media strategist Andrea Jones gives her favorite social media tips on how businesses can best utilize various platforms, including Instagram, LinkedIn, and Tiktok. Find out the top three marketing questions any entrepreneur should ask herself and how you can build up your social media presence without feeling overwhelmed-- it’s possible!-- in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Andrea Jones is Creator and Lead Social Media Strategist at OnlineDrea.com, helping businesses create an impact beyond their brand through authentic social media marketing strategies that focus on building a community of real and engaged followers. Drea is Host of the Savvy Social Podcast and Founder of the Savvy Social School.   Insight from this episode: How to find your social media voice and clarify your business’s message.  Strategies for effectively communicating your message during COVID or any crisis. Reflections on the changing face of content creation and running your business online The biggest social media mistakes that business owners make-- and how to avoid them!  Tips to reduce any anxiety you might have around social media and to enjoy the fun parts.   Quotes from the show: “If you can really break down “why does it matter?”, that’s where your marketing messaging comes in. And when we’re focused on the “why does it matter?”, we’re really focused on the transformation that what your offer brings.” –Andrea Jones Support is Sexy Ep. #756 “Show up with a sense of care and a sense of authenticity.” –Andrea Jones Support is Sexy Ep. #756 “We undervalue the amount of updates that we need to do. Keep talking about what’s happening and what’s going on in your world.” –Andrea Jones Support is Sexy Ep. #756 “Business owners who are starting out, if they focus on one platform, they actually see more results faster because of that focus.” –Andrea Jones Support is Sexy Ep. #756 “[Consistency is] where the power of social media comes in-- a repetitive and consistent process to approaching social media and creating content and connecting with your audience.” –Andrea Jones Support is Sexy Ep. #756 “Don’t question your gut too much.. you know what you’re supposed to be doing and what you’re supposed to be saying… the best leaders lead from their hearts.” –Andrea Jones Support is Sexy Ep. #756 Resources Mentioned Social Media Unwind Podcast The Savvy Social School Social Media Success Framework- Free Course Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Andrea Jones Website: https://onlinedrea.com/  Twitter: @OnlineDrea Facebook: @OnlineDrea Instagram: @OnlineDrea LinkedIn: Andrea Jones Youtube: OnlineDrea Pinterest: OnlineDrea   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Olivia Ansell speaks about her evolution into a serial entrepreneur and the mindset it took to get there. Along with practical tips about the importance of multiple sources of income and reducing risk, Olivia's story will inspire the survivor spirit of resilience within you! Listen to hear how Olivia came back from rock bottom and created her current life of success in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Olivia Ansell is a successful serial entrepreneur and Founder of AMA Support Services, a multi-million dollar healthcare-based company. Olivia grew up in Uganda, where she started selling popcorn at the age of 10, and lived in London and Cairo before coming to the United States when she was only 22. Olivia is passionate about helping women entrepreneurs achieve their goals as well as supporting other Africans adapt to a new country.    Insight from this episode: Details on Olivia’s life growing up in Uganda and the hardships she faced after her father died.  A look into the mind of a true serial entrepreneur and how she makes opportunities for herself. The benefits of hitting rock bottom and how to make your comeback.  Tips to building a mindset of resilience and manifesting all your business and life goals.   Quotes from the show: “The few jobs I’ve had, I’ve always used them to get me to where I was self-employed.” –Olivia Ansell Support is Sexy Ep. #755 “Life can change in the blink of an eye. So I’ve always-- even to this day-- looked to make sure I have different sources of income because I know any of it can end any day. You always need a plan from A all the way to Z.” –Olivia Ansell Support is Sexy Ep. #755 “If you’re an entrepreneur and you’re just starting out, you need to follow the money first, and then you can, after, start something that you’re passionate about.” –Olivia Ansell Support is Sexy Ep. #755 “We tend to create businesses that do fulfill us in some kind of way, whether it’s a personal mission, or a mission of something we want to accomplish in the world, or it’s through the people we serve… and also the people you employ. It can look a lot of different ways to fulfill whatever your own mission is and how you want to create your business.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #755 “I am where I am because of all the different rock bottom moments I’ve gone through.” –Olivia Ansell Support is Sexy Ep. #755 “All I need is me to make whatever I want happen.” –Olivia Ansell Support is Sexy Ep. #755 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Olivia Ansell Website: oliviaansell.com Instagram: @Oliviansell Facebook: @Oliviaansell Youtube: Olivia Ansell   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

The conversation gets real on this episode of Support is Sexy as Shani Godwin, CEO of Communiqué USA, shares her successes and struggles from selling pompoms as a seven year old to how she felt when her business passed the million dollar mark. You can prioritize your joy and well-being as a part of your business and open yourself up to pivot into new possibilities for growth even during the current moment. Found out how in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Shani Godwin is President and CEO of Communiqué USA, Inc., a marketing solutions company she launched in 2002 that works with Fortune 500 companies as well as small businesses. Shani wrote her book The Love Project: 365 Ways to Love Yourself and Get the Love You Deserve and is Founder of Audible Voices. Shani’s a long-time listener of Support is Sexy and hosts her own podcast, Joy Economics.   Insight from this episode: The basics of Joy Economics and how you can apply it for happier employees, clients, and bottom line! What to do when the world doesn’t meet you with enthusiasm and support you thought it would. Tips on realigning your business to your values and motivations for greater well-being and pivoting during times of crisis.  The key to longevity, especially when working with clients, including how to determine if a client relationship is a good fit and how to walk away when it isn’t.    Quotes from the show: “When we make the change, sometimes it shifts the ground around us.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #754 “People are always projecting onto us because they are filtering your dream and your vision through their own experience and their own lens.” –Shani Godwin Support is Sexy Ep. #754 “The vision was good. I just needed to act in faith, trust, and walk toward it. I didn’t need to convince people. I didn’t need to get them to accept it. I didn’t need them to understand it. Now I’m much more of a I-can-show-you-better-than-I-can-tell-you person.” –Shani Godwin Support is Sexy Ep. #754 “It’s okay to fire a client, if they’re not the right fit. And it doesn’t have to be hard, and it doesn’t have to be unhappy, doesn’t have to be ugly. But it is okay to acknowledge when a fit is there or when it isn’t there. I tell people to recognize that not all money is good money, and all relationships aren’t good relationships.” –Shani Godwin Support is Sexy Ep. #754 “Happiness for me was the better way to measure my success.” –Shani Godwin Support is Sexy Ep. #754 “So many of us are showing up tone deaf because we’re still trying to sell the same thing the same way but just do it on Zoom… If you’re not pivoting, your business is actually already dying.” –Shani Godwin Support is Sexy Ep. #754 Resources Mentioned Free 30 Minute Coaching Session with Communiqué  Shani’s Joy Economics Podcast Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Shani Godwin Website: www.audiblevoices.com  Instagram: @audiblevoices  Linkedin: Shani Godwin Facebook: @audiblevoices   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, super stylish TV Style and Entertainment Correspondent Sydney Sadick joins Elayne to talk about how to style your own life, aim high, and be confident in any situation! Sydney reveals her experience of trusting her gut and making huge career moves in the fashion industry, including how an encounter with Rihanna helped to kick start her journalism career, in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Sydney Sadick is a TV correspondent, writer, style savant and fashion expert from New York City. She has interviewed world-class designers, stylists, celebrities, and politicians. Sydney has covered top events including the Met Ball, New York Fashion Week, and the CFDA awards. Her newly released book Aim High: How to Style Your Life and Achieve Your Goals is out now!   Insight from this episode: Details on how the way you dress can impact your mood and the way you think, and even help you become the woman you want to be.  Tips on how to gain the confidence to have no shame in asking for opportunities and support. Benefits of staying curious and open and not staying comfortable in your career. Strategies to motivate yourself, feel better, and reset your personal style.   Quotes from the show: “Know what’s going on because if you are informed and you stay educated, it can really present yourself an opportunity.” –Sydney Sadick Support is Sexy Ep. #753 “I’ve never been offered anything really in my career. It’s always been me in pursuit of what I want.” –Sydney Sadick Support is Sexy Ep. #753 “Dress for what you want.” –Sydney Sadick Support is Sexy Ep. #753 “Knowing what you don’t like is just as critical as what you do like.” –Sydney Sadick Support is Sexy Ep. #753 “There’s always this preconceived notion that women are supposed to follow what other people are doing. And that’s not, to me, how it works. You’re strong because you’re doing your own thing.” –Sydney Sadick Support is Sexy Ep. #753 “In the moment, your gut might be all you have-- your gut and your experience.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #753 “Life is not a straight line. It’s a bumpy one… Your style is going to change based on what you are looking to achieve at that moment in time.” –Sydney Sadick Support is Sexy Ep. #753 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Sydney Sadick Website: sydneysadick.com Twitter: @SydneySadick Facebook: Sydney Sadick Instagram: @SydneySadick LinkedIn: Sydney Sadick Youtube: Sydney Sadick   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Ettitude Co-Founders Phoebe Yu and Kat Dey give loads of practical business advice and share the story of how they became business partners from across the globe and scaled their amazing brand. They share what is necessary for a successful business partnership and how that can apply to all areas of your life. Learn how Phoebe, Kat, and Ettitude are handling and making the most of the COVID-19 pandemic in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guests: Phoebe Yu is Co-Founder and CEO of Ettitude, who was joined by Kat Dey who is also Co-Founder and President of the lifestyle brand offering luxury modern bedding, sleepwear, and bath essentials, made from the world’s first clean bamboo. Amazing business women in their own rights, Phoebe and Kat joined forces in 2018 to grow this global venture.    Insight from this episode: Tips on finding innovative spaces and opportunities to shake up an industry.  Behind-the-scenes look at sustainable industries and the parts you never even knew to think about. Benefits of a direct-to-consumer business model and how to leverage it for the best product and customer experience possible. How to overcome challenges unique to female entrepreneurs.   Quotes from the show: “I’m sure if we can develop a fabric, like our fabric CleanBamboo, that’s silky smooth, more feasible, and also very sustainable fabric at the price of conventional products, then why [wouldn’t] people want it?” –Phoebe Yu Support is Sexy Ep. #752 “We’re really very deeply integrated in the whole supply chain… to make sure we have a very clean supply chain… I think our customer also appreciates this kind of transparency.” –Phoebe Yu Support is Sexy Ep. #752 “Life changes and circumstances change, so it’s important to share how that’s impacting each other [in a business partnership].” –Kat Dey Support is Sexy Ep. #752 “Giving back is also a way to make the society more sustainable. So what we care about is the balance of the people, the society, and the environment.” –Phoebe Yu Support is Sexy Ep. #752 “Having a strong commitment and vision to your purpose is a guiding light through any kind of difficulty… everything is temporary, whatever challenges you might be going through, you’ll come out of it on the other side stronger and more prepared for future challenges.” –Kat Dey Support is Sexy Ep. #752 “Learn how to lead, not to manage… find partners or hire people who are smarter than you, then you don’t need to manage them.” –Phoebe Yu Support is Sexy Ep. #752 Resources Mentioned Assembled Brands TA Ventures Shopify  Clear.Bank  SBA Loans Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Attitude Website: www.ettitude.com (Use discount code “supportissexy” for 20% discount) Twitter: @ettitude Facebook: @ettitude Instagram: @ettitudestore LinkedIn: ettitude Pinterest: ettitude Phoebe Yu LinkedIn: Phoebe Yu  Twitter: @PhoebeeYu Kat Dey LinkedIn: Kat (Vorotova) Dey Twitter: @KaterinaDey   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, hear about Stephanie Morimoto’s journey to becoming the CEO of Asutra and entering into a business partnership with tennis superstar Venus William. Whether you’re starting, growing, selling, or buying a business, there are amazing lessons for any entrepreneur, like how to raise your own self-awareness and build your brand’s story, in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Stephanie Morimoto is Owner and CEO of Asutra, a brand of clean, accessibly priced wellness products for active self care. Before Asutra, Stephanie worked for two national education organizations, generating $500 million in revenue and growing them 3-4 times their size. She’s passionate about working with smaller businesses and women entrepreneurs. Asutra has been featured on Good Morning America, People Magazine, and Oprah Magazine.   Insight from this episode: How Stephanie went from loving a brand to owning that brand, and knowing if this the route for you.  Tips for networking in order to achieve your business goals.  What you must look for when you’re in the market to buy a business.  An inside look at what it’s like working in business with elite athlete Venus Williams.   Quotes from the show: “Frankly, a lot of the structures and systems that exist keep black and brown people out of the economy. A lot of folks don’t have access to banking or other financial services they need to build the enterprise they want or even just build the life they want… we existed to be an alternative to folks.” –Stephanie Morimoto Support is Sexy Ep. #751 “I just knew myself… I knew that I was the type of person who loved taking something that had proof of concept and growing it to scale, but I’m not a start-up person.” –Stephanie Morimoto Support is Sexy Ep. #751 “Know your strengths and make them even stronger.” –Stephanie Morimoto Support is Sexy Ep. #751 “Especially today, people really want to connect with something they feel has purpose, that they feel proud to support” –Stephanie Morimoto Support is Sexy Ep. #751 “We as women are constantly taking care of other people-- often at our own detriment, we put ourselves last. But actually if we’re going to be our best, we have to put ourselves first.” –Stephanie Morimoto Support is Sexy Ep. #751 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Stephanie Morimoto Twitter: @Togetherinfood Instagram: @Stephanie_Morimoto   LinkedIn: Stephanie Morimoto Asutra Website: Asutra | Empowering Active Self Care Twitter: @Asutra_Life Facebook: @Asutra.Life Instagram: @Asutra.Life LinkedIn: Asutra Pinterest: Asutra Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

Today’s guest on Support is Sexy, Kara Goldin, is Founder and CEO of $150 million beverage company hint. Kara joins Elayne to explain how she built her business and the hint brand, including hint’s recent product expansion. Kara shares practical tips on getting your products into stores, knowing when to say no, and finding a perfect business partner. Hear all this along with stories from Kara’s newly released book Undaunted: Overcoming Doubts + Doubters in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Kara Goldin is Founder and CEO of hint, a $150 million beverage company she launched in 2005. After finding herself addicted to diet soda, she kicked the habit and lost 40 pounds! Knowing she needed some more flavor to sustain her new habit, she handcrafted what would become the hint product, a delicious sugarless fruit infused water. She is a keynote speaker and author of Undaunted: Overcoming Doubts + Doubters. Kara also hosts the podcast The Kara Goldin Show.   Insight from this episode: Reasons why “no means maybe, and maybe means yes” and how to leverage that in your business and personal life. Tips on “considering the source” of advice and criticism to persevere through the challenges of entrepreneurship.  The benefits of moving slowly with your business for long-term success and Kara’s thought process behind initially not bringing her product to a huge box store. Strategies for getting your product into stores in today’s market and using your time with buyers and investors wisely.  Quotes from the show: “If [buyers] are like, No, we can’t put your product on our shelf, I was always used to asking, Why? and really believing that if they didn’t actually come up with an answer that made sense to me what I realized is that they often are on autopilot, saying it versus actually knowing why they’re saying no.” –Kara Goldin Support is Sexy Ep. #750 “There were so many points along the way where there were these people who said, You can’t do that, you can’t do this… what I kept saying is, What can we do?” –Kara Goldin Support is Sexy Ep. #750 “You need to start somewhere, and you need to get that consumer feedback… the consumer is very open to you upgrading things along the way as you learn.” –Kara Goldin Support is Sexy Ep. #750 “People will not invest in something that they don’t know… and should you not actually go into the room and have that meeting [with someone who doesn’t know your product]? It depends on how much time you have. Time is my most valuable thing.” –Kara Goldin Support is Sexy Ep. #750 “You can’t rely on stores or distributors to actually watch your product.” –Kara Goldin Support is Sexy Ep. #750 Resources Mentioned Link to order Kara’s Undaunted: drinkhint.com/ElayneFluker Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Kara Goldin Website: KaraGoldin.com Twitter: @KaraGoldin Facebook: @KaraGoldin Instagram: @KaraGoldin LinkedIn: Kara Goldin Youtube: Kara Goldin   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Chantal Pierrat and Elayne explore the intersection where your passion can be upheld by your financial success. Chantal, CEO of Emerging Women, shares what she has learned in building her global platform including how conscious leadership is a sustainable business model, new ways for entrepreneurs to approach changes, and the benefits of creating some disruption in your life. Hear about what happens when you get the support you need on this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember That Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Chantal Pierrat is Founder and CEO of Emerging Women, a global network of over 70,000 brilliant women. With a focus on authenticity, consciousness, and real connection, Chantal and Emerging Women are supporting women by providing the tools, knowledge, and network to lead in a way that integrates core feminine values like collaboration, intuition, empathy, and heart.    Insight from this episode: How to “press pause” on ventures that seem successful to make space for self-reflection.  Tips for grounding yourself, living in connection, and building deep roots for your business.  How frustration and discontent can be a healthy driver for entrepreneurs and how to know when it’s just not working. Insights into what conscious leadership looks like and what we can do to create more leadership equity.   Quotes from the show: “Yes, I can create, and I can sustain, and I can expand, and I can scale. That’s when I would say I fell in love with [entrepreneurship].” –Chantal Pierrat Support is Sexy Ep. #749 “There’s a little bit of a hamster wheel… I lost myself a little bit in the service of my purpose. By not really paying attention to myself, I kind of lost myself.” –Chantal Pierrat Support is Sexy Ep. #749 “A certain amount of frustration or discontent is really important for an entrepreneur because it’s a signal that the present day just can’t catch up with your vision.” –Chantal Pierrat Support is Sexy Ep. #749 “It required so much more courage to say no than it did to say yes to something. It took way more trust to yearn for roots than to chase after the shiny objects.” –Chantal Pierrat Support is Sexy Ep. #749 “Any time I tried to do something by myself or take on too much, it made things ten times worse. Any time I invited people who wanted to help… that’s when it became doable and juicy.” –Chantal Pierrat Support is Sexy Ep. #749 “When we live in connection like that, who we are becomes reflected in those around us.” –Chantal Pierrat Support is Sexy Ep. #749 “The overanalyzing has never brought as much success as my intuition.” –Chantal Pierrat Support is Sexy Ep. #749 Resources Mentioned Support is Sexy Episode 650 with Kelly Notaras  Rha Goddess and Move the Crowd  Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Chantal Pierrat Website: emergingwomen.com Twitter: @emergingW Facebook: @EmergingWomen  LinkedIn: Emerging Women Youtube: Emerging Women   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, learn about what it’s like to sell your company to a huge company, like Amazon, from Founder of Partpic Jewel Burks Solomon. Now Head of Google for Startups in the US and Manager Partner at Collab Capital, Jewel shares her story from counting dollar bills from her family’s business to developing her own product and business to now providing capital and support to other entrepreneurs in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Jewel Burks Solomon is Head of Google for Startups in the US, where she works with underrepresented startup founders, and Manager Partner at Collab Capital, an alternative investment fund focused on closing the funding gap for Black entrepreneurs and innovators. Jewel was Founder of Partpic, a startup that was acquired by Amazon in 2016, the same year she was named one of Forbes 30 Under 30.    Insight from this episode: Insights into the emotional journey of selling your company and questions you must ask yourself before you do it.  Insider look into the first steps in launching a tech company.   How to tell if you are the answer to the problem you’re trying to solve.  How to find the people with the right skill sets to help you in your business.      Quotes from the show: On how she knew to take action: “It would not go away. I kept thinking about it, kept thinking about it. I had so much energy around it. I was really excited about it.” – Jewel Burks Solomon Support is Sexy Ep. #748 “There is a risk of [people “stealing your ideas”], but it’s a very low risk as compared to the risk involved if you just keep it to yourself, and no one ever helps you, and you never get it off the ground.” – Jewel Burks Solomon Support is Sexy Ep. #748 “Ideas are a dime a dozen, everybody has ideas… but the execution is what matters.” – Jewel Burks Solomon Support is Sexy Ep. #748 “When things don’t feel right, they’re not right, and you should always go with your gut.” – Jewel Burks Solomon Support is Sexy Ep. #748 “We can’t wait on other people to wake up to the fact that there’s all this opportunity in our communities. It’s really on us to make the investments that we think are the right investments to make.” – Jewel Burks Solomon Support is Sexy Ep. #748 “The best way to grow your company is through customers.” – Jewel Burks Solomon Support is Sexy Ep. #748     Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Jewel Burks Solomon Website: JewelBruks.com Twitter: @JewelMelanie Instagram: @JewelMelanie Collab Capital Website: collab.capital Twitter: @Collab_capital Instagram: @Collab.capital Google First Startups Website: startup.google.com Twitter: @GoogleStartups Facebook: @GoogleForStartups Instagram: @GoogleForStartups Youtube: Google For Startups Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Liz Bohannon founder of Sseko goes deep into how to set up a mission-driven business with global impact. Liz encourages us to choose proximity, empathy, and listening to do better in our businesses and our communities as she shares the impact that Sseko has had on women worldwide in providing opportunities, empowerment, and access. Listen for great reminders of why it’s important to be laser focused on your purpose in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Liz Bohannon is Founder and CEO of Sseko, a socially conscious fashion brand that exists to create community and opportunity for academically gifted female scholars across the world. Seeko has been recognized by Bloomberg Businessweek as a top social enterprise. Liz is author of Beginner’s Pluck: Build your life of purpose, passion and impact now and host of podcast Plucking Up.  Insight from this episode: Strategies for connecting your mission and purpose to your business. Details on what Liz’s company has done to promote equity and become more anti-racist. Benefits of “breaking open your world” and advice on how to take the leap.  An insider look at the ins and outs of how Liz’s community-based, ambassador-model business works and what she is doing to democratize social entrepreneurship.   Quotes from the show: “I didn’t find that passion [for my business] thinking about it. I actually built that passion in the processing of doing that thing.” –Liz Bohannon Support is Sexy Ep. #747  “Running out of money and going broke was an incredible thing to happen because it forced me to get the product out into people's hands before I was ready because I was desperate.” –Liz Bohannon Support is Sexy Ep. #747  “When you become a part of something that’s bigger than yourself, and when you get a vision for something that you actually think is going to make the world a little bit better and brighter, you’re willing to be pretty shameless about it.” –Liz Bohannon Support is Sexy Ep. #747  “We’ve got women in Uganda who are able to leave abusive relationships because they are not financially dependent. And then guess what, we have women in the United States who get to leave abusive, unhealthy relationships because the first time in their life, they have a community of people who are saying, you don’t deserve that-- here’s a pathway toward building a life that could look a lot different.” –Liz Bohannon Support is Sexy Ep. #747  “Purpose is something that needs to be baked into your business.” –Liz Bohannon Support is Sexy Ep. #747    Resources Mentioned Interview with Tina Lifford on Support is Sexy Ram Daas  Liz Bohannon’s Podcast Plucking Up Liz Bohannon’s Book Beginner’s Pluck Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Liz Bohannon Website: SsekoDesigns.com Podcast: Plucking Up  Twitter: @SsekoDesigns Facebook: @SsekoDesigns Instagram: @SsekoDesigns Pinterest: Sseko Designs   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

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In this episode of Support is Sexy hear about Founder of EPIC at Sales Laura Wright’s journey to building her “unshakeable” business and learn how you can too! "Sales ninja" Laura gives her Five Steps of Sales along with other advice for how women can step into their sales mastery. Laura explains why sales aren’t sleazy and how both income and impact can be non-negotiable in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Laura Wright is Master Coach and Founder of EPIC at Sales, where her mission is to support entrepreneurs to master the art of selling in a way that is custom to you, so you can build the business that fuels your life. She rebuilt her life from more than $500,000 of debt and has closed over $43 million over the last 20 years in business. She is the go-to sales coach for high 6 and 7 figure women business owners.     Insight from this episode: Reflections on trusting your gut and bouncing back from huge setbacks-- and how to use those setbacks to propel you forward. Behind-the-scenes look into what it’s like working with a business coach and how to build an “unshakeable” business. Insider tips from Laura’s “Five Steps of Sales” and how it creates authentic connection. Strategies on attracting your ideal client and how to reach out to them. How to set the right price points.   Quotes from the show: “Things were not going well, and I wasn’t acknowledging it. So I pushed forward on a hope… When I went for the money, versus what was right, that was one of my big things that took me off course.” –Laura Wright Support is Sexy Ep. #746 “You can’t be frozen in fear and in motion and in action at the same time… Action and motion can cure a lot.” –Laura Wright Support is Sexy Ep. #746 “Sales is actually a loving experience.” –Laura Wright Support is Sexy Ep. #746 “When you can tap into someone’s core internal urgency, they’re actually going to get what they need and you’re going to get what you need… Sales and service are not separate.” –Laura Wright Support is Sexy Ep. #746 “You’re helping someone transform. So if your value matches getting them out of their pain, getting them into their vision, and you are the bridge getting them there-- the price point is irrelevant.” –Laura Wright Support is Sexy Ep. #746 “My call to action to everyone listening to this is ‘Charge more.’” –Laura Wright Support is Sexy Ep. #746   Resources Mentioned No Woman Down Book Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Laura Wright Website: EpicAtSales.com  Facebook: @Epicatsales Instagram: @Epicatsales   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Kirsty Verity -- CEO of REAL Coaching who has sold $17 million of product on Amazon and coached 1000+ Amazon sellers on how to set up their businesses -- gives tons of in-depth details and how-to’s. Listen to see if you have what it takes to be an Amazon seller-- it might not be as high of a hurdle as you’d think! Kirsty has been able to fuel the lifestyle she wanted. Figure out if you can, too, on Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Kirsty Verity is Co-Founder and CEO of REAL Coaching, providing real coaching for real people who want real businesses for real freedom. Kirsty has sold $17 million of product on Amazon since 2013 and coached 1000+ Amazon sellers. She is a Strategic Branding Expert with 20 years of branding expertise, and she has hosted and spoken at many eCommerce events, including SellerCon 2019.    Insight from this episode: Kirsty’s first moves and the journey to building her Amazon business model, with helpful step-by-step guides and tools to use along the way. Specific “tricks of the trade” of Amazon selling that were crucial to Kirsty’s success.  An inside look into Kirsty’s coaching business REAL Coaching.    Quotes from the show: “Let go of the how. You don’t know exactly how you’re going to do it, otherwise you probably would’ve done it already. You have to take some time to experiment and find what feels good.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #745 “Don’t try to invent something or re-invent something yourself. Follow a model that someone’s already had success with.” –Kirsty Verity Support is Sexy Ep. #745 “There’s going to be times when it doesn’t go well… but as long as you know why you’re doing it, and it’s a strong enough burning desire why, then you’re going to make it work.” –Kirsty Verity Support is Sexy Ep. #745 “As entrepreneurs, we’ve got ADD... But we have to get good at, “Okay is that right for me right now? Have I maxed out the current strategy that I’m doing right now?” And If you haven’t, just continue doing what you’re doing.” –Kirsty Verity Support is Sexy Ep. #745 “You set up as you’re the authority. Even if you’ve not been in business and you’ve never ordered a product before, just write an email as if you have.” –Kirsty Verity Support is Sexy Ep. #745 On time management: “It’s a bit like when you want to go on a diet-- what am I eating right now that is really not helping me on my journey? And so, what am I wasting my time on that’s really not helping me on that journey to do something different with my life?” –Kirsty Verity Support is Sexy Ep. #745 “Don’t build a brand around the product; you’re finding products to fit the brand.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #745 Resources Mentioned Jungle Scout Alibaba.com T-mall Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Kirsty Verity Email: kirsty@goteamreal.com Website: www.goteamreal.com    Podcast: Sprint to Profit LinkedIn: Kirsty Verity Instagram: @real_amazon_coaching Youtube: REAL Coaching Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Tiffany Dufu gives incredible advice from her experience in starting and building her company, The Cru. Tiffany, an inspiration for any woman looking to make a difference in the world, discusses aspects of her business from inception to present, the importance of intentionality, accountability, and commitment, and what prompted her to raise a million dollars for The Cru. Tune in for real advice on raising capital from someone who’s been there in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Tiffany Dufu is founder and CEO of The Cru, a peer coaching platform for women looking to accelerate their professional and personal growth. Author of Drop the Ball, a memoir and manifesto that shows women how to cultivate the skill of letting go, Tiffany serves on the board of Girls Who Code and Simmons College and has been featured in The New York Times, ESSENCE, O, The Oprah Magazine, and on NPR. Tiffany’s life work is advancing women and girls.   Insight from this episode: Strategies on leveraging technology to connect in new ways and increase productivity during COVID pandemic.  Behind-the-scene details on how The Cru works and what it took to get it off the ground.  Strategies on testing your entrepreneurial “hypotheses” and root those ideas in your customers’ pain points. Insights into Tiffany’s decision to raise venture capital and strategies on how to be successful in that process   Quotes from the show: “I’ve been very much catapulted by a group of women that I call my Cru, who I can share my ambitions with, who help me create a plan, who hold me accountable to that plan-- sometimes in ways that I donʻt like because they really hold my feet to the fire. And I feel like every woman needs a Cru.” –Tiffany Dufu Support is Sexy Ep. #744 “If we have a problem, the first question we’re likely to ask ourselves is “How am I going to solve this problem?” When the more important question to be asking yourself is “Who’s going to help me solve this problem?” –Tiffany Dufu Support is Sexy Ep. #744 “I had no business plan. I just needed to know, can I put someone out in the world that consumers will respond to? I’m not going to spend time on a business plan unless I have some semblance that people want this first.” –Tiffany Dufu Support is Sexy Ep. #744 “People will say “yes.” 98% of it is not that people don’t want to support us, or we don’t have the bandwidth, help, or resources that we need-- we haven’t asked.” –Tiffany Dufu Support is Sexy Ep. #744 "Sometimes when you don’t know what you’re up against, it’s probably better.” –Tiffany Dufu Support is Sexy Ep. #744 “When you have someone who is ushering you through the process, you can save a lot of time.” –Tiffany Dufu Support is Sexy Ep. #744 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Tiffany Dufu Website: TiffanyDufu.com Twitter: @tdufu Facebook: @TiffanyDufu Instagram: @tdufu LinkedIn: Tiffany Dufu Youtube: Tiffany Dufu Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne reconnects with Angela Mader, creator of Fitbook® and Fitlosophy and founder of Type A: Branding and Consulting, to talk about not only what it takes to build a company and brand from the ground up but also the process of selling that company. Our host and Angela discuss both the interesting nitty gritty details of exiting your business as well as the larger impact it can have on your life and identity. Angela has invaluable advice for entrepreneurs at all the journey’s stages on this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Angela Mader is a brand builder helping other entrepreneurs achieve ambitious goals with her branding and consulting company, Type A. She is also founder of Fitlosophy and creator of the company’s flagship product Fitbook®. In 2018, that company was strategically acquired by a larger consumer products company. Angela is also working on a book proposal.    Insight from this episode: How to balance your commitment to your vision with the flexibility needed to make good business decisions.  Strategies on “playing smart” in business relationships with vendors and retailers. Questions to ask yourself if you are considering selling your business.  Strategies on dealing with loss and changing your identity when you sell your business.  Advice on why outside funding might not be right for your company.    Quotes from the show:  “The more I shared more of my struggle behind why I created [Fitbook], the more I really found that the product was reaching the people I intended to.” –Angela Mader Support is Sexy Ep. #743 “You won’t be successful if you tell your competitors how to compete with you.” –Angela Mader Support is Sexy Ep. #743 “If you have a small mindset, you’re limiting the success of the business” –Angela Mader Support is Sexy Ep. #743 “You have to take your business seriously before anyone else does too.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #743 “There is a fine line between something being your passion and being your identity. Because having your identity based in anything that can go away overnight [...] can be dangerous territory.” –Angela Mader Support is Sexy Ep. #743 “Girl, if you did it once, you can do it again.” –Angela Mader Support is Sexy Ep. #743     Resources Mentioned Support is Sexy Episode 463: Fitlosophy Founder Angela Mader on Starting Small, Looking Big, Launching Your Products and Building Your Brand  Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Angela Mader Website: AngelaMader.com Linkedin: Angela Mader Instagram: @TheAngelaMader Twitter: @TheAngelaMader Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne is joined by Jumoke Dada, Founder of Tech Women Network and the HUE Tech Summit for women of color in the technology industry. Dada shares the inspiration behind the systems of support she has created for women in tech fields along with strategies to finding your path to fulfillment by leveraging your knowledge and desires. Hear how Dada is opening up doors and bringing women along with her in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Jumoke Dada has spent 15+ years working in corporate information technology and is Founder of Signature RED, a technology and strategy consulting service, and of Tech Women Network, an online hub to connect women in tech to resources and each other. She hosts HUE, an annual tech summit for women of color. A contributing blogger to Forbes.com, Dada has been widely recognized for her work from outlets including Business Insider, The Network Journal, Rad Girls, and Black Enterprise Magazine.    Insight from this episode: Strategies to shine and thrive in technology spaces whether it has been a long-time passion or not. How to pivot, adjust, and tweak in both your big and small goals. Benefits of beta-testing and getting feedback from your audience.  Reflections on the challenges that women of color face in technology.    Quotes from the show: “There's sometimes this feeling that in order to work in the technology space or be into technology in any way, or become a coder, or whatever it is, people think you have to be that child that was taking apart computers in your parents’ garage like Bill Gates or whoever when you were three years old… you don’t have to start there.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #742 “If you’re sitting and waiting to figure out if it works, you have to take action.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #742 “What you initially had in mind to build or create, at the time, it could have been a really great idea and needed for that time. However, if you’re still working on it a year later, so much might have changed. It’s important to be adaptable.” –Jumoke Dada Support is Sexy Ep. #742 “We can’t be encouraging girls to come on in if we’re exiting left and right… I can’t encourage women to come forth and stay and speak and do all these things, if I’m not doing it myself. I have to live by example.” –Jumoke Dada Support is Sexy Ep. #742 “Do what you do, do it well, and help other women along the way.” –Jumoke Dada Support is Sexy Ep. #742 Resources Mentioned HUE Tech Summit  Tech Women Network Tech Women Speakers - The List Tech Women Network Virtual Career Fair Elayne Fluker Speaking at LinkedIn TransformHer Conference Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Jumoke Dada Website: Dadaverse.org  Twitter: @JumokeDada Facebook: @JumokeDada Instagram: @JumokeDada LinkedIn: Jumoke K. Dada  Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Carol Cox of Speaking Your Brand teaches about having clarity, conviction, and confidence in our voices and stories. You have what it takes to be a thought leader! Learn how to develop your thought leadership platform, evolve your brand during turbulent times, and tap into your storytelling power on this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Carol Cox is Founder and Podcaster of Speaking Your Brand, where she coaches women entrepreneurs to help them gain more visibility, leadership, and influence through public speaking. Her mission is to get more women into positions of influence in order to challenge the status quo and change existing systems. Carol has 15+ years experience as a democratic political analyst.     Insight from this episode: Strategies for those who are just starting their entrepreneurial journey Secrets to creating an efficient framework for your business Differences between thought leaders and content creators, and how you can bring a new perspective to the table Insights into the “IDEAL” ingredients to storytelling and universalizing your story Finding your “VOICE” in thought leadership   Quotes from the show: “If you are values-based and you’re purpose-driven, and you have something that’s really meaningful to you, how are you conveying that to your audience in everything that you do? It’s not just about your words, it’s about your actions that back it up.” –Carol Cox Support is Sexy Ep. #741 On storytelling: “We realize we’re not alone in our experiences… For millennia, women haven’t been validated. We haven’t been validated for our experiences, our emotions, our dreams, our goals, our desires… stories create community for us as women.” –Carol Cox Support is Sexy Ep. #741 “Sometimes, too, we might dismiss the things that might come easy to us or we enjoy because we might think, doesn’t that come easy to everyone?” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #741 “The story you think you shouldn’t share is probably the one you should.” –Carol Cox Support is Sexy Ep. #741 “Your silence and your perfectionism maintain the status quo… and we know that the status was built by white men for white men and the rest of us don’t benefit from it.” –Carol Cox Support is Sexy Ep. #741 Resources Mentioned: How to Repurpose Your In-Person Presentation into an Engaging Webinar   Tammy Lally's TEDx talk Speaking Your Brand Podcast Episode 186 with Elayne Fluker: From Hashtag to Podcast to Book: Developing Your Thought Leadership Platform Speaking Your Brand Podcast Episode 185 with Carol’s very personal story  Speaking Your Brand podcast episodes on storytelling Speaking Your Brand podcast episodes on frameworks Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Carol Cox Website: SpeakingYourBrand.com Twitter: @CarolMorganCox Instagram: @CarolMorganCox  LinkedIn: Carol Cox Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, hear the ups and downs of Nadia Lopez’s journey. An inspiring educator of Brooklyn who “opened a school to close a prison,” Nadia speaks about her experiences with both the limelight and the day-to-day reality of running her school. She emphasizes the absolute necessity of self-care in the face of intense pressure and stress in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Nadia Lopez, a passionate educational leader of over 10 years, is Founder of Mott Hall Bridges Academy, a STEM focused public middle school in Brownsville, Brooklyn. After being honored in Humans of New York, Nadia was recognized by President Obama and has given a TED Talk. She’s been on The Ellen Show, Good Morning America, The Today Show, and she’s now the Chief Visionary Officer of The Lopez Effect. Check out her book The Bridge to Brilliance and her weekly Instagram show On The Low.   Insight from this episode: How to prioritize mental health and heal yourself, especially during the pandemic. Strategies for building a supportive team and the importance of having mentors and advocates. Why we can’t dismiss all the work that goes into being an “overnight success.” Strategies on listening to yourself and your body even when those around you say “you’re fine.”     Quotes from the show: “The individuals who had the most significant influence, outside of my parents, were educators.” –Nadia Lopez Support is Sexy Ep. #740 “Rather than be part of the complaining committee, I wanted to know what was happening in the school system.” –Nadia Lopez Support is Sexy Ep. #740 “This door might have closed or doesn’t want to open, but what are your other ways of getting in? Or maybe you just need to go into a whole other building, and that building is the one you need to be opening doors in.” –Nadia Lopez Support is Sexy Ep. #740 “You cannot be defeated by one event in your life.” –Nadia Lopez Support is Sexy Ep. #740 “When you’re in a particular industry, especially like education, it’s so good to have people outside of it because if not, you get sucked up into this negative space.” –Nadia Lopez Support is Sexy Ep. #740 “It’s one post, one scholar, but actually it’s 10 years of work, all those years before, that you have poured into yourself and wanting to do this and getting denied and going through all the changes and then getting to the point where you are in this position…” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #740 “People tied my identity and work into this one moment in time, and I fell into that. Now I started to feel like, if I do leave, what’s my credibility out in the world?” –Nadia Lopez Support is Sexy Ep. #740 Resources Mentioned Roadmap to Freedom  Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Nadia Lopez Website: TheLopezEffect.com LinkedIn: @TheLopezEffect Facebook: @TheLopezEffect Instagram: @TheLopezEffect Twitter: @TheLopezEffect   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Peachy Lyfe CEO Sherwin Clemons shares her substantial knowledge in running a successful business in the service industry. She opens up about the turning point that brought clarity to her journey to fully embracing entrepreneurship, her rich family history and how those values translate to her business, as well as her methods of coping with the difficulties of our current moment. Tune in for Sherwin’s relevant and immediately applicable advice in this episode of Support is Sexy.    Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Sherwin Nelson Clemons is CEO of Peachy Clean Laundry and lifestyle brand Peachy Lyfe. A University of Alabama alumna, Sherwin spent 20+ years in corporate as a financial advisor, often serving business owners, before she decided to put herself out there and start a laundromat and laundry delivery service with her husband. Her business’s motto is “Leave the Laundry. Live.”   Insight from this episode: Strategies on the right way to leave the comfort of a steady paycheck. Strategies on pivoting and maximizing your business, even during the COVID pandemic. Insights into educating the market on your service. Benefits to being in full control of your product. Insider tips on effective business negotiations that include maintaining positive relationships.   Quotes from the show: “You are an entrepreneur. You’re figuring out how to make this work under circumstances that you didn’t foresee.” –Sherwin Clemons Support is Sexy Ep. #739 “Ultimately, it became more painful for me to be there than the fear of leaving.” –Sherwin Clemons Support is Sexy Ep. #739 “Some people think, I want to be an entrepreneur, I should just jump ship. Or, it should be easy to make this choice, but, no, it’s a lot of things to consider.” –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #739 “We have people who drive 30-40 minutes, past other laundromats, to come to us.” –Sherwin Clemons Support is Sexy Ep. #739 On the Proverbs 31 woman: “She did not do everything. She managed it.” –Sherwin Clemons Support is Sexy Ep. #739 “For customers, it needs to be simple and easy for them to be able to access your business.” –Sherwin Clemons Support is Sexy Ep. #739 “There’s this tendency to nickel and dime your customers… we decided not to go that route and focus on volume, quality, a good reputation, and good customer service.” –Sherwin Clemons Support is Sexy Ep. #739 “We don’t have to be men to operate in this game.” –Sherwin Clemons Support is Sexy Ep. #739 Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker   Sherwin Clemons & Peachy Lyfe Sherwin’s LinkedIn: Sherwin Clemons Website: PeachyLyfe.com Phone: 470-777-9747 Address: 6548 Highway 92 Acworth, Georgia  Email: hello@peachylyfe.com Instagram: @ThePeachyLyfe Facebook: The Peachy Lyfe Youtube: Peachy Lyfe Peachy Lyfe App: Apple & Google Play   Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist    Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

Welcome to Season 3! This bonus episode is on Recovery on a Budget and Shout to Dean and Nora for supporting the Podcast! Are you a young adult bothered by someone's drinking? Here are 12 step Recovery Resources for the Friends and Family affected by alcoholism/addiction/family dysfunction. There is hope #werecovertoo Al-Anon/Alateen - Help and Hope for the family and friends of alcoholics Nar-Anon - Program for the family and friends of addicts CODA - Co-Dependents Anonymous ACA - Adult Children of Alcoholics Young at Heart In Al-Anon - Southern CA Al-Anon Area conference featuring Al-Anon Programming that speaks to a younger perspective of recovery. All are welcome. Connect with other young people in recovery. Ask Questions. Get Support. Directory list of other Young Adult Al-Anon focus meetings. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/porasspodcast/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/porasspodcast/support

Dr. Lakeysha Hallmon of The Village Market ATL shares it all, from the inspiration of her entrepreneurial grandmother and Mississippian roots to the current “amazingness” of her work in amplifying Black businesses and making an economic impact. Dr. Hallmon emphasizes the power of non-competitive spaces for Black entrepreneurs and the “camaraderie of excellence.” Do not miss these gems of business know-how in this episode of Support is Sexy. Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Dr. Lakeysha Hallmon is a transformational speaker as well as CEO of The Village Market ATL, which she founded in 2016. She meshes her 15+ years experience in education with her entrepreneurial skills at The Village Market, which has been a catalyst in bringing national exposure to Black-owned businesses. Since its inception, their quarterly markets have hosted 70+ vendors, 3,000+ patrons, and circulated $150,000. Dr. Hallmon has been featured in Forbes, Essence, Black Enterprise, CNN, the Source, Atlanta Business Chronicle, and now Support is Sexy! Insight from this episode: 4 things Black women business owners must do to be successful. How to exist meaningfully in the online space during the COVID-19 pandemic. 3 reasons why using our economic power more intentionally is important for our communities today. Strategies to resist convenience in order to think about impact and value. Quotes from the show: “[Entrepreneurship] is an ongoing love story, even the ups and downs of it. But it’s a present love.” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep. #738 “I walk in and it is my job to make sure that space shifts because I’m there.” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep. #738 “I don’t think we know time management until all the time is yours.” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep. #738 “My goal was to create a model of how I believe ancestrally our village functions… If they buy from you, they bought from me symbolically. We’re one working vessel.” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep. #738 “The skeleton of our country is built on small businesses, so why aren’t they celebrated as they should be?” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep. #738 “What have people worked so deeply to take from us? That’s what we now should be running to.” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep.#738 “It almost depletes your spirit to continue to work in spaces that are not fully able to uplift all of your magic.” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep. #738 On intellectual property: “As you build, protect. As you scale, protect. As you bring people on to help you grow, protect yourself.” –Lakeysha Hallmon Support is Sexy Ep. #738 Resources Mentioned Dr. Hallmon’s Blog Support is a Verb Website Hairbrella Website Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker Lakeysha Hallmon Website: drkeyhallmon.com Instagram: @DrKeyHallmon LinkedIn: Dr. Lakeysha Hallmon Twitter: @DrKeyHallmon The Village Market ATL Website: thevillagemarketatl.com Instagram: @TheVillageMarketATL Twitter: @market_atl Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

This week I am joined by Elayne Fluker, host podcast Support Is Sexy. We are going to talk about her new book and also Getting Over I Got It Syndrome.    Connect with Elayne:  Website: www.elaynefluker.com Instagram: @Elayne Fluker Her book: Get Over 'I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support, and Remember That Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone    Connect with me: Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram Dr. Zoe Shaw on Facebook    

In this episode of Support is Sexy, learn about Mary Hyatt’s Five Stages for Intuitive Living: Acknowledge, Aware, Anchor, Align, Alive. In these times of pandemic and social crises, it is now more important than ever to listen to and apply Mary’s insights on self-examination, compassion, and courage in order to move beyond stress, exhaustion, and coping through life. Move towards radical healing through intuitive living in this episode of Support is Sexy. Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Mary Hyatt, host of the Living Fully Alive Podcast, is a life coach and business consultant who helps women wake up, find their voice, and feel fully alive. Her work focuses on identity, community, and showing up authentically. Mary coaches some of the most successful women entrepreneurs in the country, and she also teaches Babe, Redefined, a six-week online course to help women make peace with the mirror and love their bodies. Insight from this episode: Strategies on listening to your inner wisdom--and trusting it-- in your everyday life. Reflections on the moment that changed Mary’s life and inspired her to fight for her “flicker” and for her life. Reasons why exhaustion and stress are not badges of honor for an entrepreneur. How to move out of survival mode and details on each stage of Mary’s Five Stages of Intuitive Living. Quotes from the show: On dropping out of college: “I want to be firsthand experiencing what it looks like to create impact in people’s lives, to learn from people who maybe aren’t in a textbook” –Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Episode #737 “When we don’t address what we’re experiencing, what we’re feeling, what we’re going through, and we stuff that, it comes out sideways. It ends up morphing into something else, and oftentimes through physical ailments through our bodies.” –Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Episode #737 “For entrepreneurs, our word for fear is stress… Our drug of choice is achievement.” –Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Episode #737 “In order for us to move beyond this state of burnout and hustle, and lack of fulfillment and joy, we have to meet ourselves with that sacred pause.” –Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Episode #737 “If we want to get to intuitive living, we got to get past all those implicit biases first, so that we can truly connect to the most pure version of our gut.” –Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Episode #737 “It’s about re-aligning to our truth, learning how to make those choices and create the practice around embodying this new sense of ourselves, this truest version of ourselves, over and over again. –Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Episode #737 “I am lovable just because I breathe.” –Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Episode #737 Resources Mentioned Mary’s Membership Website Mary’s Podcast “Living Fully Alive” Robert Holden’s Loveabilty Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker Mary Hyatt Website: maryhyatt.com Shorby: Mary Hyatt Links Twitter: @marygracehyatt Facebook: Mary Hyatt Instagram: @maryghyatt Youtube: Mary Hyatt Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Dr. Traci Baxley teaches her philosophy of social justice parenting. Whether you have children or not, you can practice these pillars, or ROCKS: Reflecting, Open dialogue, Compassion, Kindness, and Social engagement. Dr. Baxley gives strategies to engage in difficult conversations with your children, have compassion for yourself, and live an everyday life of activism. Find out how to apply concepts of belonging into your life on this episode of Support is Sexy.  Elayne Fluker Elayne Fluker is author of the new book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.” As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening! About our Guest: Dr. Traci Baxley is a cultural and race identity coach and the founder of Social Justice Parenting, which supports families in intentional parenting, creating safe spaces of belonging. Driven by compassion and radical love in the mothering of her own biracial children, she specializes in coaching mothers in transracial families, specifically white moms of Black children. Insight from this episode: Strategies on creating authentic spaces of belonging in our homes, businesses, and communities.   How to exist, navigate, and parent in a world of colorism and raise anti-racist children with high self-esteem. Strategies for mothers of transracial or biracial families to help their children navigate between two worlds.  Quotes from the show: “Belonging in its rawest form is really about people who want to be a part of something bigger than they are…we want to feel like who we are is enough and what we bring to the table will land somewhere.” –Dr. Traci Baxley Support is Sexy Episode #736  “There are times when, because of that little girl in me, I still have to push myself to advocate for myself, to say I belong here, or to just have a sense of belonging. –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Episode #736  “If you can’t come to work or be in your home... and feel like your whole authentic self...it impacts the way that you interact with others, it impacts your creativity, it impacts your productivity…So when you don’t belong, there’s rippling effects that I think impact everything around you…It impacts your bottom line.” –Dr. Traci Baxley Support is Sexy Episode #736  “Our children need to know that we don’t have those answers, so that they can see us model how to get through those things when you don’t know the answers.” –Dr. Traci Baxley Support is Sexy Episode #736  “People get a little freaked out when they hear the word “social justice.” They think it’s this big huge thing that only powerful people can do or large groups of people, but social justice is in your own house.” –Dr. Traci Baxley Support is Sexy Episode #736  “The world for your kid can’t be a better place if my child is still hurting.” –Dr. Traci Baxley Support is Sexy Episode #736  Resources Mentioned Traci Baxley’s TEDx Talk: Social Justice Parenting Stay Connected: Elayne Fluker Website: elaynefluker.com Twitter: @elaynefluker  Facebook: Elayne Fluker Instagram: @elaynefluker LinkedIn: Elayne Fluker Youtube: Elayne Fluker Dr. Traci Baxley Website: socialjusticeparenting.com Facebook: Traci Baxley Instagram: @socialjusticeparenting LinkedIn: Traci Baxley Support is Sexy Website: Support is Sexy Podcast Facebook: Support is Sexy Instagram: @supportissexy Youtube: Support is Sexy Podcast Playlist  Post-production for this episode was provided by Podcast Laundry. [Music: “Stomp and Clap” by Scott Holmes from Free Music Archive]

Part 2 of the our supplement series - CREATINECreatine is one of my favorite supplements for a number of reasons.It’s amazingly well-studied, safe and effective for most people, and is a crucial part of every metabolic pathway in the body!In this episode of Defining Dad Bod we’ll look at the studied effects from increased muscle growth to reduced depression while also discussing dosages, schedules, and potential problems with using the supplement for better results! Get excited! Mentioned In The Show!Creatinehttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GL2HMES/ref=as_sl_pc_qf_sp_asin_til?tag=definingdadbo-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=27fcdb482d300dc24f2ff0b75cc6f409&creativeASIN=B00GL2HMES/Ask YOUR Questions! Definingdadbod.com/suppsDo Some Of Your Own Research!https://examine.com/supplements/creatineCreatine Phosphagen Pathwayhttps://www.google.com/search?q=creatine+phosphagen+pathway&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjXnPDF3NbqAhUKSq0KHZpEBiwQ_AUoAXoECA0QAw&biw=2133&bih=1052/Belgian Blue Cows (Myostatin Gene Deletion)https://www.google.com/search?q=belgian+blue+cow&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjZ-bG0xtTqAhUPRKwKHS6nAjIQ_AUoAXoECB0QAw&biw=2133&bih=1052/Get Support!Get More Information About The Upcoming Mastermind!Definingdadbod.com/trufitSave $25 On YOUR JUMPSTARTdefiningdadbod.com/shop/jumpstart(Save $25 with Checkout code: INSTAJULY2020)Support Defining Dad Bod!Join The Inner Circledefiningdadbod.com/innercircleMake A DonationDefiningdadbod.com/donate

Part 2 of the our supplement series - CREATINECreatine is one of my favorite supplements for a number of reasons.It’s amazingly well-studied, safe and effective for most people, and is a crucial part of every metabolic pathway in the body!In this episode of Defining Dad Bod we’ll look at the studied effects from increased muscle growth to reduced depression while also discussing dosages, schedules, and potential problems with using the supplement for better results! Get excited! Mentioned In The Show!Creatinehttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B00GL2HMES/ref=as_sl_pc_qf_sp_asin_til?tag=definingdadbo-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=27fcdb482d300dc24f2ff0b75cc6f409&creativeASIN=B00GL2HMES/Ask YOUR Questions! Definingdadbod.com/suppsDo Some Of Your Own Research!https://examine.com/supplements/creatineCreatine Phosphagen Pathwayhttps://www.google.com/search?q=creatine+phosphagen+pathway&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjXnPDF3NbqAhUKSq0KHZpEBiwQ_AUoAXoECA0QAw&biw=2133&bih=1052/Belgian Blue Cows (Myostatin Gene Deletion)https://www.google.com/search?q=belgian+blue+cow&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjZ-bG0xtTqAhUPRKwKHS6nAjIQ_AUoAXoECB0QAw&biw=2133&bih=1052/Get Support!Get More Information About The Upcoming Mastermind!Definingdadbod.com/trufitSave $25 On YOUR JUMPSTARTdefiningdadbod.com/shop/jumpstart(Save $25 with Checkout code: INSTAJULY2020)Support Defining Dad Bod!Join The Inner Circledefiningdadbod.com/innercircleMake A DonationDefiningdadbod.com/donate

Resilience is a critical life skill that everyone needs to develop in order to thrive in life. Resilience describes one’s ability to recover from the challenges faced in life. Someone who is resilient does not let difficulties defeat them but rather pushes through hardships until they overcome them, no matter how hard and no matter how long. Resilience is an absolute necessity because adversity is completely unavoidable in life. Thus, the earlier one is taught resilience the better of they will be in life.  Resiliency requires a commitment to improving yourself.  Specific actions and skills are needed to become and stay resilient. During this show you will learn the five things you can learn and/or develop and the five ways you can build and grow resiliency in your life during tough and uncertain times.  Five things you can learn or develop: Coping Skills, Patience, Awareness, Support Systems, and Confidence Five ways you can build and grow yourself:  Take Responsibility, See Change as an Opportunity, Have Goals, Learn from Success and Failure,  Get Support, Take Action, Be Optimistic, and Have Patience.  

While Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies come in all shapes, ages, sizes, races and backgrounds. The reality is that many Sugar Daddies are white. With all that is happening around us. When he asks, “How is your day?”.......Part of you wants to tell him. To share your thoughts. Should you? Do you? But when he shares his thoughts and his takes on the protests, looting, and riots and what happened. It rubs you the wrong way. How are you supposed to navigate that? This episode is for you. Are you Sugaring alone. Don't. Network. Get Support. And Grow. Join Us: https://thesugardaddyformula.com/sube-society

On this episode, we have our SugarSister Anita from the SUBE (Sugars United through Beneficial Encounters) Society joining in. She explains how she Sugars when having a girlfriend and a boyfriend and how she brought her girlfriend into the world of Sugar Daddy dating. We are also breaking down the timeless lessons we can all learn from Madame CJ Walker and how we can apply it to our Sugar Life. Are you Sugaring alone? Don’t. Get Support. Network. And Grow. See if the SUBE Society is right for you: https://thesugardaddyformula.com/sube-society-join-us  

“Spirit, tell me what I need to know.”   These are the words that Regina Louise has used throughout her life to guide her to know when it was time for her to make a move — including moments when she had to fight for her life in order to make that move.   By sixteen-years-old Regina, lived in — and failed to adjust to — thirty foster homes, group homes and psychiatric facilities and survived harsh abuse. Emancipated from the system at age 18, she had to find her own way, and was committed to one day graduate from college despite all of the school she missed and to one day share her story. At 48 years-old, Regina Louise walked across the stage Magna Cum Laude from California Institute of Integral Studies, and two weeks later, she was chosen as a Dean’s Distinguished Fellow at University of California, Riverside as a graduate student. And today, she is author of the celebrated memoir Somebody’s Someone, which has been adaptedLifetime Television Network and is scheduled to air in late 2019.     On this throwback episode of the Support is Sexy podcast -- which originally aired January 2, 2019, Regina shares why it’s important to take your dreams to bed with you, to trust where spirit guides you and to pay attention to your intuition. It's a powerful episode about courage and resilience that needs to be heard again and again. IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING ABUSE, GET SUPPORT, CALL THE DOMESTIC ABUSE HOTLINE AT 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). For more interviews and insights from more than 400 women entrepreneurs around the world, go to supportissexy.com. HAVE A QUESTION FOR SUPPORT IS SEXY PODCAST HOST ELAYNE FLUKER? TEXT HER NOW AT +1 (908) 955-9422 AND SHE'LL TEXT YOU RIGHT BACK! SERIOUSLY! :) ASK YOUR QUESTION, OR JUST REACH OUT TO SAY HELLO.

SummaryBrian Mayer discusses the concept of boundaries in relationships or how to set limits without feeling guilty.  Boundaries are easy to talk about but more difficult to implement.  It takes practice and lots of encouraging support.  You will learn how to set appropriate boundaries so you can live a life of freedom.  We hope you enjoy today's message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies Today's episode is all the concept of Boundaries in Relationships in regard to a subsequent marriage that affects more people like biological and step children.          What is a Boundary?  A boundary is simply a property line to keep what is yours in and what is not yours out.  Think of houses and the property lines that are drawn around each home.  The history around Boundaries started several decades ago when research around how to help people with addictions took off.  This research began to take a look at the family system and found enabling behaviors by other family members.  This can also be called Co-Dependency.  Out of this co-dependency movement specifically related to addictions, came the term Boundaries and began to be applied to all relationship issues not just addiction issue.       A very helpful book about this topic is simply called Boundaries:  How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.  They have also written one specific to marriages called Boundaries in Marriage.  When healthy boundaries are not in place it can cause issues like depression, anxiety, resentment, and anger.   By not implementing an appropriate boundary, you are replacing a temporary discomfort with a more permanent pain.  Boundaries sound easy in theory, but are hard to implement.  When we first try to install a boundary on someone that is encroaching we can feel guilty or like we are a bad person.   Sometimes we also have this mentality that we must be all things to all people and that is how the Golden Rule works – Do Unto Others as You Would have done to You.  However, if you are not healthy first then you are no good to someone else.  You will ultimately burn-out if you do not install good boundaries.  Myths of Boundaries According to Cloud and Townsend: I am selfish if I install a boundary. I am being disobedient if I say No. If I set limits, I will be hurt I will hurt others I'm angry I should feel guilty or bad Boundaries are Permanent Learning to not feel responsible for others thoughts, feelings, and actions.  For example, the kids being bored is not your responsibility.  Now of course day after day, if you never do anything with them then yes that is a problem.  But the fact is that they are responsible for how they feel.  If we do not allow them to learn to pull themselves out a funk, then they will be stunted in their growth as adults.      Can Love and Boundaries Exist Together:  Yes they can.  In fact, boundaries actually signal that love exists.  Implementing Boundaries shows the other person under what parameters that love can flourish.  Inside the boundaries amazing things will happen, outside the boundaries is where individuals can work on themselves.  How Do Implement a Boundary Successfully? You are One Step Closer because you are listening to this podcast Get Support.  Either find a group or ask a close friend.  Role play setting boundaries by being both the boundary setter and the one for whom the boundary is being set.  Do not beat yourself up when you try to set boundaries initially.  You may fail and you probably will fail.  Boundary setting is a process.  You will receive much resistance at first because people will not be used to this.  Final Thoughts: Practice, practice, practice Know that boundaries will help keep you healthy and in turn will help others recognize how to keep themselves healthy.  Think about the Expect failure and grow from it. Resources Mentioned Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Codependent No More by Melody Beattie The above resources are affiliate links, which means that The Remarried Life Podcast receives a percentage of the sale.  Your cost does not change.  By purchasing these items you are helping cover the cost of expenses to produce this podcast.  Thanks in advance for your continued support of the podcast! Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. 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Cue music… It’s beginning to look a lot like burnout…With the holiday season comes holiday events, family get togethers, work commitments, and general life stuff which can lead us away from our routines and into burnout. STOP TRYING TO FIND BALANCE. It doesn’t exist.GET SUPPORT. A babysitter, a house cleaner, a personal assistant, amazon groceries delivered to your house, a coach to hold you accountable to your goals.CREATE NON-NEGOTIABLE ‘YOU’ TIME. If you’re busy doing for others, you MUST give yourself the time and space to take care of you. That could be 5 minutes of meditation, that could be a 30 min workout, that could be a manicure and a good book. You have to honor the queen you are in order for other people to honor you!LISTEN for more tips!  Connect with Sam on Instagram: @samanthajoharvey  Curious about nutrition coaching, one-on-one life coaching, or joining Sam's team? Visit her website www.samanthajoharvey.com  

My wife and I brought a beautiful baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad, into the world two weeks ago! -- I’m going to give you three things you can do to end your addiction. Whether you’re addicted to drugs, alcohol, or nicotine, consistently following these three steps can get you out of your addiction and onto your road of recovery. These three steps are so easy to do, normies do this every day: Get Busy - the saying “idle hands make the devil’s workshop” applies to #1. Don’t sit around and let time pass you by. Doing the same thing day in and day out, without purpose, is not healthy. You want to fill your time with productive, purposeful activities to be in the right frame of mind. You can volunteer at a local pet shelter, go back to school, or pick up a new trade or hobby. Find activities you like to do and do them every day.  Get out of Toxic Relationships - when you are inactive addiction, you will surround yourself with others who approve of your negative behavior. You can easily cosign your addiction when you stay in toxic relationships. Remember to look around, the toxic person doesn’t have to be an addict, they can be a normie but is emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive. Find positive friends, moving forward in life, and lead meaningful lives. Get Support - find others outside of your immediate family to positively support you in your journey and will hold you accountable. Find a support group or support system of others outside your family who you can talk to when you need support. Your family may love you; however, family situations can be stressful and create the opposite effect. Family members who don’t understand how you feel usually can’t support you in the way you need to be supported. They want to help you but do not have the tools to assist you in the road to recovery. A good support group or person can walk you through a tough journey.  When we are stuck in our heads and have no way to get out of our heads, the negative self-talk will walk back into our minds. From this point, the negativity snowballs, and we are back on the path to addiction. Whether your addiction is shopping, gambling, or drugs, this applies to all addictions. Remember, toxic relationships include any person who is not serving a positive purpose in your life. Breakaway from these people and move from your “comfortable” place. You have to get rid of toxic people and relationships, or you’ll be fighting an uphill battle. These people will not support you wanting to get clean or get out of your addiction. Find a MeetUp group that doesn’t drink. Make sure to be with positive people who can build your sobriety and help lift you back up. Positive support will assist you in being and stay sober. There’s no guarantee, however, if you are consistent and follow-through with these three steps, you can be on your way to sobriety. Listen in to hear more detail about my three steps to put you on the path of sobriety, no matter what your addiction. Share this podcast with a friend and leave us a review!  Show Notes: [02:15] I introduce my new baby girl, Winnie Margaret Conrad, [03:55] Three things you can do to end your addiction.  [04:51] The first thing you can do to put an end to your addiction - be productive and engage yourself in mindful and meaningful activities.  [08:56] Number two: Get out of toxic relationships - surround yourself with healthy, good people. [13:22] Number three: get support! Links and Resources: Real Recovery Talk on YouTube Leave Real Recovery Talk a review on iTunes

I don’t care if you’re a “solopreneur” or running a team of 50, if you’re not able to fully own your role as the CEO of your business, you’ll stay stuck in overwhelm and the never-ending to-do list.   Why?   Because if you’re still stuck in the daily grind of the daily operations of your business, how will you see your big-picture vision?   And if you can’t see your big-picture vision, how will you know where you’re heading?   And if you don’t know where you’re heading, how can you possibly be strategic?   Without big-picture goals and strategic thinking, you’ll just keep spinning your wheels, feeling stuck, isolated, overwhelmed, exhausted, and ultimately burnt out.   So, you do need to make time in your week - EVERY week - to dedicate yourself to CEO thinking. To put on the big picture goggles, and find ways to get strategic. Step away from the daily operations, even if only for an hour initially. Make sure you’re uninterrupted.   It requires you to fully adopt a CEO mindset.   Own you RIGHT to take time away from operations to do some strategic planning. Own your RIGHT to delegate the tasks that don’t afford you the time to be the CEO of your own business. Own your RIGHT to call the shots and make the tough choices.   Own the FACT that all the responsibility and risk of your business sits on YOUR shoulders.  Be grateful to yourself for all the training, experience, risks and MONEY you’ve put into this business adventure of yours.   Own the FACT that, like it or not, you ARE the CEO of your business, goddammit!  If all this seems too hard, too “icky”, or you just don’t feel you’ve earned the right - GET SUPPORT. Find a coach or a mentor who can help you see the landscape that lies before you. Someone who can help you lift your head high enough to see the horizon. Someone who can help you navigate your way forward.  Of course, if you can do this for yourself, awesome! But never feel you MUST do this on your own.   There are no prizes for staying silent, staying isolated, staying hidden. There are no awards for taking the hard road.   Practice using the term CEO Time. Block it out in your diary. Own it. And above all DO IT!   Much love, Tess x

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How To Focus and Follow Through on Your Goals | Yes To You Podcast #008 Are you struggling to stay motivated, focused, and consistent with your goals? Consistency is key when it comes to reaching your goals, and that's why I will be sharing some tried-and-true success tips to help you refocus, reconnect, and recommit to your BIG vision in a way that is both fulfilling and sustainable! Subscribe on iTunes | Subscribe on Spotify | Subscribe on Google Play | Subscribe on Google Podcasts | Subscribe on Stitcher Radio   On episode 8 of the Yes To You Podcast entitled, "Focus & Follow Through On Your Goals," here's what we'll discuss: ► Different types of distractions and how to prevent them from interfering with your momentum ► Tips for time-management and organizing your efforts ► Strategies to increase your mental clarity and productivity PLUS, a special wellness mini-segment on how to heal after a divorce. Episode Outline ►   [1:15] Quick recap of our journey through episodes 1-7 and what to expect in episode 8 ►   [2:00] The #1 issue facing new entrepreneurs and why ►   [6:50] Weekly Wellness Tip: How To Heal After A Divorce ►   [8:07] Wellness Tip #1: Create Structure ►   [10:11] Wellness Tip #2: Set Boundaries ►   [10:30] Wellness Tip #3: Get Support ►   [13:40] OverviewHow To Focus and Follow Through in 3 Parts ►   [14:10] Shoutouts: Who this episode is for and what you’ll get out of it ►   [15:50] Part 1: 4 Types of Distractions and How To Deal With Them ►   [16:05] Physical Distractions ►   [18:26] Mental Distractions ►   [21:37] Emotional Distraction ►   [24:56] Social Distractions ►   [25:36] Part 2:Strategies for Time Management and Increased Productivity ►   [25:49] Assess how you’re currently spending your time ►   [27:49] Prioritize your daily to-do list ►   [28:40] Dominique’s Hierarchy of Priorities (4 part exercise) ►   [33:01] Declutter your time ►   [33:16] 4 Tools To Increase Mental Clarity ►   [33:23] Mindfulness ►   [34:40] Journaling ►   [35:45] Change your environment ►   [36:31] Declutter Your Space ►   [38:10] Episode 9 sneak peek Resources Mentioned In This Episode Download Dominique’s FREE PDF guide Create Your Vision Workbook Blog: How To Heal After a Divorce (3-Part Mini-Series Download my FREE 15-minute Inner Guidance Meditation Here. Smartphone Meditation Apps: Insight Timer | Headspace Yoga For Beginners (FREE & donation-based online videos) Click Here to learn more about Dr. Sebi and acid vs. alkaline foods Download Dominique's FREE PDF Guide: Create Your Vision Workbook Work With Dominique (click here to view all private mentorship options) - rohiniwellness.com/services Have questions or an idea for a new episode? Email feedback@yestoyoupodcast.com

Brian Mayer talks about how common it is for anger to play a role in making decision regarding how to share kids time with your ex-spouse.  We will take some time to talk through this issue on today's episode.  We hope you are inspired by what you hear today.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies What are the basic human emotions?  Most people would say Fear, Anger, Happiness, Sadness are among the most common.  All of these emotions can certainly drive us to do different things for sure.  Today we are going to focus Anger and the impact it can have on making decisions about the kids especially in regarding to how to share the parenting.     The interesting about anger is that it is generally considered a secondary emotion.  What does this mean exactly?  It means that another emotion is most likely at the root of what is really going on.  Often anger boils to the surface, but what really might be going on below is embarrassment, feeling disrespected, depression, anxiousness, worry, insecurity, grief, or frustration.  I have to tell you that no doubt in my own experience anger came out when it was really hurt, sadness, loneliness, and anxiety among probably many other emotions.  The main issue with these primary emotions is that we must be able to vocalize them appropriately and in addition be heard and understood by another human being namely our ex-spouse.  The problem that happens most often is that we generally either are not heard and understood or perceive that we are not.  As a result emotions boil out in anger.  Most often nothing productive comes from anger.  Now to be fair, feeling angry and behaving angrily are two separate things.  You are more than correct to feel angry sometimes, but angry behaviors such as screaming, slamming doors, and throwing things is of course never productive.  So again while the emotion of anger is acceptable it is still good to get at the root of what may be going on for you underneath that root.  Have you ever made a decision to withhold a child's time with the other parent, change the agreed upon time, or have an unhealthy exchange because of anger?  You might be saying no but my ex-spouse always does.  I definitely wanted to start with you because there are certainly cases where this might be you and that is of course much easier to deal with than the ex-spouse's anger.  Let's turn our focus toward the children.  Is anger and the show of anger good for kids?  I think we can all agree that when children see their parents spewing venom it is never a good thing.  Here are some ways that anger is shown toward children inappropriately: Arguing in front of the children Talking bad or down about the other child's parent to the child Telling the children that the other spouse has abandoned you and the kids.  This one could be true in some instances, but sometimes it is a perception.  How Does it Affect Children? They can resent one or both parents which is not healthy.  Sometimes this causes artificial emotions walls to be built by children as a form of protection Sometimes children will show anger toward other children as a way of releasing what they are absorbing at home Anger can cause depression and anxiety in children because they will often believe that they are the cause of the anger issues How Can you Deal with your own Anger or the Anger of Your Ex-Spouse Remain Calm.  This one is easier said than done.  Remember you will often go into fight, flight or freeze mode when you get upset.  Start recognizing this more and learn to breathe.  Get Support.  Make sure your current spouse and you are united and on the same team.  This can help make you feel like you are not alone.  If you are not married, then friends and family are important.  Think about your children as Adults.  Imagine asking them this question, “How did the way in which I interacted with your mom/dad affect you?”  Hopefully you would be able to connect unhealthy interactions with unhealthy outcomes for the children for sure.       Resources: None Mentioned. Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. The Remarried Life Facebook Group is a community of people just like you who get and give support.  Please join today!

Get Support to Grow Why You Want a Support System A support group can be your personal mirror.  Connecting with the right group can help you grow and achieve goals faster.  On Designing Your Life Today, Pat Council explains why you want to get support to grow.  Find out four compelling reasons to connect with others.  Use those reasons to jump start goal achievement or to get the encouragement needed to go forward.  Also, find out how making the right connections can help you subdue any fears you may have. Mentioned on Show: The Magnificent You Course - Free

 In this Episode Brooke Talks About: -Daily activities for massive success -Making the decision -Committing to a goal -How to create a new habit -Why you should start your day with a powerful routine  -Noticing your good and bad habits  -Overnight success and how to get there -Why you see similar results time after time  -Celebrating along the way   GRAB YOUR CHECKLIST FREEBIE! --> HERE!  Join the FREE fb group, Fiercely Unstoppable Entrepreneurs and vote on the freebie poll --> HERE!    ----------------------------------------------------------- What you choose to do daily is going to completely change your life!  Failure and success dont just happen one day…its the daily activities that get you there! Your daily habits!    All that we are and all that we do..are our habits!    Our habits are created from repetitious behavior over time. The mind etches them into patterns called neural pathways. These neural pathways help to govern our lives and make everyday tasks simpler. But, we don’t all have habits that serve us. In fact, most of our habits aren’t success habits; most of our habits are bad habits.   The goal is to overpower our bad habits with good, healthy habits!  You are only one decision away from a completely different life! This is a great place to start!!  ----------------------------------------------------- Here are my top 10 Activities/Habits to do Daily for Massive Success!  1. MINDSET — the success you desire is 80% mindset and 20% strategy! Knock out your negative thoughts, write new beliefs and affirmations, brain dumb, write out 10 reasons why you are amazing at what you do! Just spend time working on your mindset and clearing those negative thoughts holding you back!   2. READ — Read for a certain time or a certain amount of pages! Not all readers are leaders BUT all leaders ARE readers!    3. DREAM— Spend some time Visualizing and or Meditating with your dreams in mind! You always want to keep your dreams close so even if you start your day with a Pinterest dream board, I want you to know what your dream is going to look like and then visualize it actually coming into reality!    4. BE ACTIVE — work out. Go for a walk/ dance around your house start somewhere even if its just a quick 15 min walk around the neighborhood!   5. PLAN—Set daily goals the night before or in the morning! Focus on the 6 most important things that need to get done—make 3 non negotiable!! Always set yourself up for a win, even if its accomplishing 3 small things!   6. CREATE — Set a goal to create one new post a day or if you don’t do that work on creating something…a new freebie, program, etc! Never stop creating BUT create from a place of inspiration!!   7. GET VISIBLE (livestream, post, stories,) — People have to know who you are to want to work with you or buy your services or products!! Go live, talk about life or a specific topic, post your content, promote your offers, book calls, focus on putting yourself out there to reach your goals!!   8. GROW — How do you want to grow your business today? Focus on growth in one area each day (fb group, email list, programs, sales, etc.)   9. ENGAGE & CONNECT —Follow up with people you have previously talked to, comment on peoples posts, add new friends on social media, private message people and BE GENUINE…everyone just wants to feel important!    10. GET SUPPORT — reach upwards for help not side to side! Get support from someone who has done what you want to do in your life! If something didn’t work as well as you would have liked one day, get some feedback! Ask for help in your journey! You are your biggest asset! You deserve to invest in yourself!    MAKE SURE YOU CLAIM YOUR FREEBIE!--> Daily Checklist for Massive Success   -------------------------------------------------------------   Book a free call here—->http://brookeallisoncoaching.com/apply-here/ Join my FREE FB community——>bit.ly/fiercelyunstoppable Follow me on IG: @brookeallisonn Go to brookeallisoncoaching.com to check out the brand new website!

Hello & welcome to the Grief Unplugged podcast. I am your host, Heather D. Horton.  Grief Unplugged is a podcast that frees professional women from the blockages of unresolved grief so they are able to find purpose in their pain and embrace their new “normal” while sustaining productivity at work and in life. In episodes 1 & 2, I told my story about the event that changed the trajectory of my life and gave specific details of how I have navigated my 13-year grief journey.  In episodes 3 through 7, I provided you with a vast toolkit of resources to begin shifting you from grief to a place of gratitude when you are ready. Episode 3 explored giving yourself permission to grieve as one of the most fundamental ways to begin moving forward instead of remaining stuck in your grief. In episode 4, I showed how you can stand firm in your faith and face your fears because there is nothing wrong with you.  You are not inadequate as Marianne Williamson, Our Deepest Fear, describes in her poem but you are greater than you could ever imagine because of where you are right now and what you have gone through. I also talked about what therapeutic support means and how you have to be intentional about it to support you on this journey.  In episode 5, I showed you how to leverage your emotions, invite them to tea or your favorite non-alcoholic beverage and then escort them out the door and take back your power.  In episode 6, I showed you how to start to transition from focusing on the death/loss you experienced to remembering and honoring the life of the person you loved or the thing or situation that no longer exists.  In episode 7, we talked about the importance of Incorporating new traditions into old traditions as you navigate your grief journey.  The focus today is taking all the tools in the toolkit and beginning to embrace the gift of now. If you knew you could handle anything that could/would happen to you, what would you be afraid of?  Nothing.  That’s what Susan Jeffers says in her book Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.  Remember that whatever happens, you can handle it.  If you need to, feel free to listen to episodes 3-7 again as many times as necessary.  You can handle it.  One way to maintain your momentum on your grief journey is to create a gratitude journal.  Every day for the next 30 days, I want you to write down 3-5 things for which you are grateful.  At the end of the 30 days, you could create an ebook to help others be able to find that same gratitude in their lives or even choose to live another day after experiencing loss.  I believe small gestures like this will help to empower individuals, impact communities and ultimately change the world.  I encourage you to be the change you want to see in the world.  You have an obligation to live your life for the rest of your life.  When you get to a state of being powerful, you begin to openly affirm what your legacy will be, what your life will look like in six months, one year from now.  What deferred or unfulfilled dream(s) are you ready to pursue now that you’ve begun to shift your grief to gratitude?  If you find it challenging to determine what your legacy will be, I want you to think about some causes/activities you were passionate about in the past.  What excited you about that cause/activity?  What have you done in your past that you think you could stick to now?  What will you celebrate in three months?  I encourage you to journal your answers to these questions to help you map out the future you.  I hope you realize that you are developing the blueprint for a successful journey to a place of peace, love, and gratitude.  Give yourself permission to move beyond grief.  Embrace the journey, embrace who you are, embrace all there is……  Melodie Beattie who wrote the book, The Grief Club, says “Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into enough and more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity.  It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events.  Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” Remember everything in life is temporary, including life itself.   Decide to Say Yes to the Gift of Now.  As renowned Certified Professional Coach Dora Carpenter says, when you decide to say yes to the gift of now, no one and nothing can shake your tree.  When you are ready, I want you to yield to the present, embrace the possibilities of your potential, and surrender to the outcome.  In August 2017, I decided to say yes to the gift of now.  I realized that my personal story of overcoming adversity had the ability to redirect the trajectory of individual lives, empower communities and change the world.   I accepted the call to action and decided to no longer keep my story to myself.  I resigned from my Federal government career after 18+ years to help professional women navigate through the wilderness of grief by leveraging their emotions to find purpose in their pain, to embrace their new normal and sustain productivity in their personal lives and their careers.  How did you wake up this morning?  If you didn’t wake up happy, why not?  When you wake up each morning, I want you to ask God four things before your feet hit the floor - What would you have me do, where would you have me go, what would you have me say and to whom would you have me say this.  Then take a moment to listen for the answers before starting your day.  I want you to stop existing and start living.  Friends, the best is yet to come when you are able to move from grief to gratitude and embrace the gift of now.  To further maintain that momentum, you need to create a personal power plan.  You need you to set powerful intentions for your life starting now.  At the beginning of each month, I want you to set powerful intentions as if it was the last day of the month and your intentions had already come true. Write your intentions in the present tense; I have, I am, not I will.  For example, I am 5 lbs lighter.  I have completed a 5K.  Use positive, inspiring, and concise language.  Be direct, strip away any doubt, worry or hesitation. Your words have power, they speak to your mind.  When you set powerful intentions, you create your own life and circumstances instead of settling for what someone hands to you or waiting for a handout.  If you are bold enough, I challenge you to also set three powerful intentions for your life.  Think about it as if it were the last day of your life and your intentions had already come true.  What would you family say about your legacy when making your final arrangements?  As part of your personal power plan, I need you to eliminate all excuses.  Know the obstacles that lie ahead for you and plan for them.  Also celebrate your wins, whether you make baby steps or huge leaps.  Always find something for which you are grateful.  And constantly evaluate your support system – your circle of influence.  Make sure your support system is always supporting you even when they don’t agree with you.  You see, you need the following people in your circle of influence:  Peers – those who are where you are and supporting you, your network of likeminded friends & associates; Mentors - those who are where you want to be, you look up to them; Those who you can mentor - you only want those that really want to give back and help – if you give 100% and they give you 100% - who appreciate your help.  The people that are the closest to you (your family) may not be as excited with you about this new journey you are on – it’s called innocent envy.  Instead of helping you, they may retreat or distance themselves from you.  I need you to be ready for that! Don’t be disappointed, don’t let anyone or anything steal your dream, let nothing or no one shake your tree.  Embrace the gift and possibilities of now!  Go in peace and prosper!  I want to thank you for listening to this episode. I hope you will join us for our next episode of the Grief Unplugged podcast.  I truly believe that community = strength.  So, if you are interested in engaging further with our community, you can join our private FB group, Professional Women Transcending Grief by searching for my FB business page -  @hortonheatherd, and click Visit Group right under my picture!  If you are interested in one-on-one grief support, access my website at www.heatherdhorton.com and click on GET SUPPORT to schedule your breakthrough session and learn more about my 90-day intensive grief coaching program, Reclaiming Your Power.   To stay engaged with the podcast, search for Grief Unplugged on iTunes, GooglePlay, SoundCloud or Libsyn.  Please subscribe to the podcast, so you know when the next episode is available and feel free to post a review, let me know what topics you want to hear discussed and share the podcast with your tribe.  Until next time, keep moving forward.

Hello & welcome to the Grief Unplugged podcast. I am your host, Heather D. Horton.  Grief Unplugged is a podcast that frees professional women from the blockages of unresolved grief so they can find purpose in their pain and embrace their new “normal” while sustaining productivity at work and in life. In episodes 1 & 2, I told my story about the event that changed the trajectory of my life and gave specific details of how I have navigated my 13-year grief journey.  In episodes 3 through 6, I provided you with a vast toolkit of resources to begin shifting you from grief to a place of gratitude when you are ready. Episode 3 explored giving yourself permission to grieve as one of the most fundamental ways to begin moving forward instead of remaining stuck in your grief. In episode 4, I showed how you could stand firm in your faith and face your fears because there is nothing wrong with you.  You are not inadequate as Marianne Williamson, Our Deepest Fear, describes in her poem but you are greater than you could ever imagine because of where you are right now and what you have gone through. I also talked about what therapeutic support means and how you have to be intentional about it to support you on this journey.  In episode 5, I showed you how to leverage your emotions, invite them to tea or your favorite non-alcoholic beverage and then escort them out the door and take back your power.  In episode 6, I showed you how to start to transition from focusing on the death/loss you experienced to remembering and honoring the life of the person you loved or the thing or situation that no longer exists. Today I will show you the importance of Incorporating new traditions into old traditions as you navigate your grief journey. It is an opportunity for you to create renewed attitudes, behaviors and perspectives resulting in transformational awareness and actions.  At this point, we have come to realize that we can’t change the past.  Noted author Corinne Edwards says it best; we have to give up the hope for a different or better yesterday.  Stop hoping things would have happened differently or that things could be like they were in the past.  Create new traditions to remember your loved one or that loss.  The only point of power you have is right now.  You can still include something old in the new tradition.  Brides are even able to include something old on their wedding day.  Maybe just tweak the old way by including something that puts your signature on the occasion.  You may be hesitant about changing an old tradition.  You may be concerned that you are moving on from the person or situation or letting go of that memory.  Without beating yourself up, I want you to allow space for you to open your heart to consider other possibilities.  One of the new traditions I created after losing my mother was how I celebrated the holidays.  From childhood to adulthood, my extended family all lived within a 5-10 mile radius of each other.  We did everything together, sporting events, church, family dinners on Sunday, birthdays, anniversaries, holidays.  You name it; we were together.  After my mother passed, I didn’t want to see or be around anyone related to me.  Not that I blamed anyone for what happened, but as an introvert, I just wanted to be alone with my thoughts for a long time.  But I had little say over that because I wore a C-collar to mend my neck fracture for three months after the accident.  Someone had to drive me everywhere, or I was always with someone which is hard after living alone.  The moment that I was able to drive again and eventually move from Louisiana to Arizona, I began to create my traditions.  I decided for my sanity that I would spend one holiday by myself each year.  No family. No friends. No one but me and whatever I decided to cook.  My mother loved to cook, and I was very fond of her cooking.  I had managed to learn how to make a few dishes just like she did.  I would set the table for myself and enjoy the dish by myself in peace and quiet and focus on memorable times with my mother.  My extended family and even the families that adopted me while I lived in AZ thought it was a bit extreme, but I had to create boundaries for my sanity.  As the years passed after my mother’s death, I begin to tweak the traditions again and starting coming home for the holidays more after my nephews were born.   I had to make a new tradition to get back to the place of gratitude for appreciating being with my extended family during the holidays.   If you need a little inspiration to get to the place where you can think of something new, I encourage you to try this exercise.  It’s called the 50 Smiles Project.  Take just two minutes to write down everything that makes you smile.  You can this once a week or daily.  One of your ideas may help you to create that new tradition.  One of the biggest roadblocks you will encounter when trying to incorporate new traditions into old traditions is forgiveness.  The antidote to forgiveness, however, is love.  It frees us from emotional suffering, being held hostage to bondage emotionally, physically, and psychologically.  Letting go of the hurts and even perceived wrongs opens one up to receive the abundance of life.  Don’t let unforgiveness rob you of your joy.  Grief is usually heightened during the first year after trauma/loss.  You begin to ask yourself, am I supposed to celebrate this? Is this honoring that person or experience? Am I reopening wounds by doing this?  Planning helps to eliminate the challenges that come up during these times.  It may seem silly, but it is so important that you plan for the all the special days that will occur especially in the first year.  Things go much more smoothly when you have a plan.  A tool that I use when coaching clients is called the Firsties project.  It gives you the opportunity to show gratitude to a life well lived and the opportunity to honor that person’s life and legacy.  It also gives you an opportunity to cherish the memories of your experiences that occurred before your loss by adding your unique touch to the new tradition.  This exercise is not only good for firsties but just in general when special days occur whether it be birthdays, father’s day, mother’s day, the anniversary of the death or experience, etc.  July 30, 2017, would have been my mother’s 70th birthday.  A flood of emotions came to my mind just thinking of that milestone and what we would have done if she were still alive.  I don’t officially celebrate Mother’s Day regarding my mother anymore; however, my mother’s birthday has become my mother’s day celebration of her.  I would take a sewing class as my mother was a supreme seamstress in her memory or spend the day at the spa with one of my adopted mother figures in the area to honor my mother.  I knew it was her 70th, July 30, 2017, but it didn’t hit me until the actual day came.  I didn’t have a plan.  It was on a beautiful Sunday, not a day to be inside.  I normally volunteer for several hours at church on Sundays that year.  I just thought that I would find some way to celebrate after my volunteerism ended. Surely someone would be available to help me reminisce and celebrate.  However, everyone I called was unavailable.  I called my sister in NC to make sure she was ok.  Then afterward I was so distraught that all I could do was take a nap.  My energy was zapped.  I slept for 3 hours.  It didn’t seem like taking a nap was the thing to do to remember my mother.  I honestly felt like I let her down.  But in the end, I remembered that she loved to rest on Sunday.  So once I quieted my spirit, I was able to enjoy that same rest and honor her in the process.  It was nothing big, but I still celebrated her with the new tradition I created. When thinking of incorporating new traditions into old traditions, I want you to ask yourself this question and truthfully answer it, in what areas of my life do I need to prune?  It is only when you make the choice to let go that you can fully allow and receive all the beauty and joy that is available to you.  If you don’t prune negative people, unhealthy lifestyles, non-supportive people from your life, you tend to remain stuck in your grief.  My challenge to you is for you to think about the areas of your life where you need to prune as you incorporate new traditions into old traditions and continue to shift your grief to gratitude.  I want to thank you for listening to this episode. I hope you will join us for our next episode of the Grief Unplugged podcast.  I truly believe that community = strength.  So, if you are interested in engaging further with our community, you can join our private FB group, Professional Women Transcending Grief by accessing my business page on FB by searching for @hortonheatherd and click Visit Group right under my picture!  Or if you are interested in one-on-one grief support, access my website at www.heatherdhorton.com and click on GET SUPPORT to schedule your breakthrough session and learn more about my 90-day intensive grief coaching program, Reclaiming Your Power.   To stay engaged with the podcast, search for Grief Unplugged on iTunes, GooglePlay, SoundCloud or Libsyn.  Also, please subscribe to the podcast, so you know when the next episode is available and feel free to post a review, let me know what topics you want to hear discussed and share the podcast with your tribe.  Until next time, keep moving forward.

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Joey from Seeking Balance International talks with Hari Jeyarajan, ENT surgeon who has particular expertise in managing SCD. This is one of few vestibular conditions that can be assisted by surgical intervention. We discuss the anatomy of the inner ear, the challenges and the potential solutions for patients with this rare condition. GET SUPPORT with Joey: https://www.seekingbalance.com.au/our-programs/ Meet Hari here: entonthebay.com.au

Summary Brian Mayer discusses the concept of boundaries in relationships or how to set limits without feeling guilty.  Boundaries are easy to talk about but more difficult to implement.  It takes practice and lots of encouraging support.  You will learn how to set appropriate boundaries so you can live a life of freedom.  We hope you enjoy today's message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies Today's episode is all the concept of Boundaries in Relationships in regard to a subsequent marriage that affects more people like biological and step children.          What is a Boundary?  A boundary is simply a property line to keep what is yours in and what is not yours out.  Think of houses and the property lines that are drawn around each home.  The history around Boundaries started several decades ago when research around how to help people with addictions took off.  This research began to take a look at the family system and found enabling behaviors by other family members.  This can also be called Co-Dependency.  Out of this co-dependency movement specifically related to addictions, came the term Boundaries and began to be applied to all relationship issues not just addiction issue.       A very helpful book about this topic is simply called Boundaries:  How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Henry Cloud and John Townsend.  They have also written one specific to marriages called Boundaries in Marriage.  When healthy boundaries are not in place it can cause issues like depression, anxiety, resentment, and anger.   By not implementing an appropriate boundary, you are replacing a temporary discomfort with a more permanent pain.  Boundaries sound easy in theory, but are hard to implement.  When we first try to install a boundary on someone that is encroaching we can feel guilty or like we are a bad person.   Sometimes we also have this mentality that we must be all things to all people and that is how the Golden Rule works – Do Unto Others as You Would have done to You.  However, if you are not healthy first then you are no good to someone else.  You will ultimately burn-out if you do not install good boundaries.  Myths of Boundaries According to Cloud and Townsend: I am selfish if I install a boundary. I am being disobedient if I say No. If I set limits, I will be hurt I will hurt others I'm angry I should feel guilty or bad Boundaries are Permanent Learning to not feel responsible for others thoughts, feelings, and actions.  For example, the kids being bored is not your responsibility.  Now of course day after day, if you never do anything with them then yes that is a problem.  But the fact is that they are responsible for how they feel.  If we do not allow them to learn to pull themselves out a funk, then they will be stunted in their growth as adults.      Can Love and Boundaries Exist Together:  Yes they can.  In fact, boundaries actually signal that love exists.  Implementing Boundaries shows the other person under what parameters that love can flourish.  Inside the boundaries amazing things will happen, outside the boundaries is where individuals can work on themselves.  How Do Implement a Boundary Successfully? You are One Step Closer because you are listening to this podcast Get Support.  Either find a group or ask a close friend.  Role play setting boundaries by being both the boundary setter and the one for whom the boundary is being set.  Do not beat yourself up when you try to set boundaries initially.  You may fail and you probably will fail.  Boundary setting is a process.  You will receive much resistance at first because people will not be used to this.  Final Thoughts Practice, practice, practice Know that boundaries will help keep you healthy and in turn will help others recognize how to keep themselves healthy.  Think about the Expect failure and grow from it.                  Resources Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Codependent No More by Melody Beattie The above resources are affiliate links, which means that The Remarried Life Podcast receives a percentage of the sale.  Your cost does not change.  By purchasing these items you are helping cover the cost of expenses to produce this podcast.  Thanks in advance for your continued support of the podcast! Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. It would be extremely helpful, it you would consider leaving a rating and review on Apple devices at iTunes  or on Android devices at Google Play as it will help the podcast reach others who need help in rebuilding life and relationships. The Remarried Life Facebook Group is a community of people just like you who get and give support.  Please join today!

We asked in my Facebook Group, The Fashion Truck Tribe, what you wanted to hear about on the podcast, and this topic resonated with many women (and probably some who didn't even speak up!). What to do when no one supports your boutique dreams. This is a big one guys... And my number one thing is to GET SUPPORT. We're opening the doors to my top rated Six Figure Blueprint course very soon... and if you aren't on the waitlist yet, join here so you get the word first: bit.ly/SFBA17 But really... it all starts with trusting yourself. If you have this dream, you are meant to do it. Stay inside your entrepreneurial bubble, read books, listen to podcasts and write down your goals everyday. Consistent self determination is where this whole journey has to start. Next, look for support, whether it's paid or unpaid support groups. Facebook groups, mastermind partners or even paid courses like Six Figure Blueprint are going to help get you closer to your goal. And let's talk about paying for help. Whether it's a coach, consultant, assistant, group coaching program... at a certain point, it's 100% worth your time and money to invest in help. I've seen too many women self-destruct and go out of business because they spiral off alone... battling mindset issues or marketing roadblocks. We aren't taught to invest in learning... we're taught to invest in houses and cars. But what if you could learn so much that you MAKE money from your investments?! Here's to making lots of friends and making lots of money! 

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The silent treatment is a form of verbally and emotionally abusive behavior. It's designed to punish and groom a person to behave in a certain way (generally the silent treatment is given after a narcissistic person is challenged or questioned about something problematic that they are doing). Disclaimer: I am not a therapist, doctor, attorney, or expert in Narcissism...or anything at all really. If anything, I am a student of life, love, behavior and behavior change. Professionally, I worked as an advocate for victims of domestic violence at a domestic violence shelter, and currently I am a psychiatric nurse. Personally, I have been through two relationships with Narcissists, and have been able to not only survive those, but have been able to move forward and thrive. My goal with these videos is to share all of my lessons learned, as well as to start many important conversations about abuse, and recovery with the hopes that together we can provide the clarity, closure, and healing that we all deserve. Remember: You are not crazy. You are not alone. And yes, you really can heal from this. Get Support: www.ThriveAfterAbuse.com/forum * This is an "open" group, meaning that anyone can see what you are posting, however, you can choose your own screen name and have total privacy that way. Support Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/HealingAfterNarcissisticAbuse *This is a "closed" group, meaning that your Facebook friends can see that you are in the group, but they CAN'T see what you are posting (although it looks like they can, as you can see the chat on your timeline--but they really can't so don't panic.) Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThriveAfterAbuse/

There are three main reasons people don't listen to their instincts: 1. They are vulnerable which leads them to being "starved out" in some area, and it's really hard to think clearly when a person is vulnerable. 2. Narcissists and other types of emotional manipulators exploit people's vulnerabilities in order to use or abuse them. 3. Cognitive Dissonance. The mental distress a person feels when they have two conflicting thoughts about the same topic at the same time, as all people need their actions to be in alignment with their thoughts. So if a person is getting their needs met (in particular whatever it is that they were vulnerable about) then they are going to have a hard time walking away--and often times what happens is that the pain of staying will have to become greater than the pain of leaving. ...Keep in mind that most all of this is happening on a subconscious level for the target. Most people don't know what their vulnerabilities are, and they aren't aware of what cognitive dissonance is or how it happens (or feels--which it feels like perpetual confusion). Once people begin to become aware that they are being manipulated and that it's not their fault, then it can be easier for them to cut through that fog of cognitive dissonance and see things more clearly. We all experience cognitive dissonance in a wide variety of situations when we come across two conflicting thoughts of any kind. If a person is dating a person with problematic behavior, but enjoys being with that person to some extent and doesn't want to leave, then they will justify what they are experiencing. And of course, it makes it that much harder to see what's going on when their abusive partner is denying there is a problem or blaming them for the abuse or their hurtful actions. Disclaimer: I am not a therapist, doctor, attorney, or expert in narcissism...or anything at all really. If anything, I am a student of life, love, behavior and behavior change. Professionally, I worked as an advocate for victims of domestic violence at a domestic violence shelter, and currently I am a psychiatric nurse. Personally, I have been through two relationships with Narcissists, and have been able to not only survive those, but have been able to move forward and thrive. My goal with these videos is to share all of my lessons learned, as well as to start many important conversations about abuse, and recovery with the hopes that together we can provide the clarity, closure, and healing that we all deserve. Remember: You are not crazy. You are not alone. And yes, you really can heal from this. Get Support: www.ThriveAfterAbuse.com/forum * This is an "open" group, meaning that anyone can see what you are posting, however, you can choose your own screen name and have total privacy that way. Support Group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/HealingAfterNarcissisticAbuse *This is a "closed" group, meaning that your Facebook friends can see that you are in the group, but they CAN'T see what you are posting (although it looks like they can, as you can see the chat on your timeline--but they really can't so don't panic.) Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThriveAfterAbuse/

Twitter reportedly planning to cut hundreds of jobs. Twitter is planning to cut hundreds of jobs, with an announcement possibly coming as soon as this week ahead of its third-quarter financial results, Bloomberg reported Monday. Apple Replaces Support Profiles. Apple recently removed Support Profiles from its website, redirecting the page to a new "Get Support" tool that similarly enables customers to check their technical support and service coverage status for iPhones, iPads, Macs, and other Apple products they own. There is, however, one notable difference. iOS 10.1 is now available with Portrait mode for iPhone 7 Plus. Apple just released iOS 10.1, the first major update to the iPhone and iPad's mobile operating system since iOS 10 launched in September.

Wes Bertrand and I discuss facets of healing trauma and activating 7th pillar true-self motivation. This is the fourth part in our rebooted series based on Nathaniel Branden's book, Six Pillars of Self-Esteem. This extension to the original series focuses on Branden's concluding chapter and what he calls the "seventh pillar." We will be reviewing each of the six pillars; the previous discussions focused on the what and the why of those practices, and this time we turn our attention to the how. INTRO MONTAGE: The 1989 film Parenthood is a humorous but touching look across three generations of a family system. The film's protagonist (Gil, played by Steven Martin), despite not having the reparenting/self-integration vocabulary, is determined to learn from his father's mistakes and apply them to his relationship with his own children. Throughout the film, he expresses great stress over the prospect of failing as a father. Clips from Parenthood are interspersed with some of the advice of Dr. Daniel Siegel. DISCUSSION: - today's theme: reparenting - started with severe abuse cases, but we could all use it - Re-parenting is a process of giving yourself what you never got: love, nurturing, and protection. - self-teaching is an important parallel to this process - this practice aids with self-integration HOW TO DO IT: 1. Take Time In / Mindfulness Thanks to Dr. Dan Siegel we have two models for approaching this: http://www.drdansiegel.com/resources/wheel_of_awareness/ http://www.drdansiegel.com/resources/healthy_mind_platter/ BALANCE: somatosensory work, breathing, meditation, and mindfulness practices Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past - BOOK 2. Communication with/acknowledgment of and listening to ...inner child/disowned parts of self -Living Consciously -Self-acceptance -The Damaging Effects of Repressing Unwanted Emotions -The Integrative Process -repression of negative emotions stunts the integrative process. -sentence stems - The Art of Self-Discovery -gratitude, 3. Journaling Daily journaling practice helps to strengthen your awareness of yourself 4. Get Support -Having a trusted advisor -finding a therapist -psychodrama and psychomotor therapy -finding pro-recovery, pro-growth environments THE SIX PILLARS OF SELF-ESTEEM 1. The Practice of Living Consciously 2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance 3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility 4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness 5. The Practice of Living Purposefully 6. The Practice of Personal Integrity Bumper Music: Warren Zevon - "Detox Mansion" Foster the People - "Pumped Up Kicks" The Verve - "Lucky Man" Look Closer: Complete Liberty Podcast NathanielBranden.com Happiness Counseling Resource Page The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem (pdf) Get the books: Please Support School Sucks Our Amazon Wish List Donate With Bitcoin Or Join the A/V Club Your continued support keeps the show going and growing, which keeps us at the top of the options for education podcasts and leads to new people discovering this message. This subscription also grants you access to the A/V Club, a bonus content section with 200+ hours of exclusive audio and video. If you are a regular consumer of our media, please consider making a monthly commitment by selecting the best option for you... A/V Club - Basic Access - $8.00/Month AP Club - "Advanced" Access - $12.00/Month Sigma Sigma Pi - Full Access - $16.00/Month