Podcast appearances and mentions of Roy Baumeister

Pop star Chappell Roan recently claimed that all her friends with kids are “in hell” and have “no light in their eyes.” But is parenthood really as bleak as she makes it out to be? In this thought-provoking episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack this viral comment with equal parts data, personal reflection, and heartfelt perspective. Together, they explore the complex relationship between parenting and happiness—and why the hard parts often make family life more meaningful, not less. KEY POINTS: Chapel Roan’s viral claim about the misery of parenthood sparked a deeper conversation about happiness and raising kids. Research shows that while parenting is hard, it can also lead to greater meaning and long-term satisfaction. Married parents report higher happiness than unmarried or childless individuals, despite the challenges. Our culture often values ease and independence—but meaning and deep connection are built through effort. Parenthood brings emotional richness, not just “happiness” in the moment. Blanket statements about parenting overlook the light, joy, and depth it brings to many lives. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:“I’m so rich—life is so rich—because every time I look at one of my kids, I think: this is what it’s all about.” — Kylie Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happiness research from the U.S. on parents vs. non-parents Paul Bloom & Roy Baumeister’s work on meaning and parenthood Instagram post from @tessapitter: “Dear Chapel Roan, I’ve never had more light in my eyes.” happyfamilies.com.au – Parenting resources for a happier family life ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Reframe your expectations – Hard doesn’t mean bad. Meaning often grows through challenge. Celebrate small joys – Whether it’s tying a shoelace or a shared laugh, these moments matter. Resist comparison culture – Social media snapshots don’t reflect the richness of your lived experience. Share your light – Let your kids see your joy, even in the chaos. They’re watching—and it shapes them. Choose presence over perfection – Fulfilment in parenthood isn’t about getting it “right,” but being there with love and intention. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Text "Morning" + your income level + platform name (e.g., "Morning, $, YouTube") to +1 310-508-0816 If you want to make more money and be more productive, you need to structure your day the right way. Science shows that willpower and mental energy peak in the morning. That means the smartest thing you can do is tackle your hardest tasks early—before your glucose levels dip and decision fatigue kicks in.One of my mentors, Professor Roy Baumeister, wrote the book Willpower, and I’ve paid him for years to learn the science behind success. The truth is, it’s not about waking up at 4 AM or following some crazy 74-step checklist—it’s about stacking your tasks in the right order. Do the tough stuff first. That’s how high performers like Arnold Schwarzenegger and Warren Buffett structure their routines to stay ahead.

In this episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick and Steffany dive deep into the psychology of meaning and how our present influences both our past and future. Drawing on insights from renowned psychologists Dr. Roy Baumeister and Dr. Kathleen Vohs, they explore the idea that present events derive meaning from their connection to future outcomes. The conversation touches on the growing disconnection in society and how an uncertain future impacts our sense of purpose. With rising rates of depression, suicide, and social isolation, many people are struggling to find meaning in a world that feels increasingly divided. Patrick and Steffany examine the shift from community-based happiness to individual pleasure-seeking and its effect on overall well-being. They also discuss the impact of global and personal tragedies, including the recent loss in the figure skating community, and how grief is deeply tied to meaning. Steffany shares her perspective on grief as "stuck love" and emphasizes the importance of processing emotions, reconnecting with purpose, and moving forward with intention. In a time of rapid change, the couple highlights the necessity of cultivating hope, building community, and embracing conversations that inspire growth. Patrick also shares his excitement about his new role with McKay CEO Forums, a platform dedicated to fostering meaningful connections among business leaders. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to navigate uncertainty, reclaim their sense of purpose, and build a meaningful future despite life's challenges.

Ever wonder why success feels so elusive? In this episode, Kevin and Alan uncover the science behind willpower, why it fades throughout the day, and how you can strengthen it like a muscle. From late-night bad decisions to long-term success, they explore how self-control shapes your health, relationships, and career.Learn more about:Next Level Live 2025 - Saturday, April 5th, 2025 (10:00 am to 5:00 pm) - https://bit.ly/4aTwC7QFree 30-minute Coaching Call with Alan - https://bit.ly/4f3MSUz _____________________NLU is not just a podcast; it's a gateway to a wealth of resources designed to help you achieve your goals and dreams. From our Next Level Dreamliner to our Group Coaching, we offer a variety of tools and communities to support your personal development journey.For more information, please check out our website at the link below.

En el centro de cada logro humano, de cada historia de éxito personal o profesional, hay una fuerza que, aunque invisible, define quiénes somos y hasta dónde podemos llegar: la fuerza de voluntad. Esa capacidad de resistir la tentación, de elegir el camino difícil pero correcto, de perseverar cuando todo parece en contra. … y sin embargo, vivimos en una época en la que esta habilidad parece más frágil que nunca. Distracciones constantes, impulsos incontrolados y hábitos poco saludables minan nuestra capacidad de mantenernos firmes y alcanzar nuestras metas. En este episodio analizo el libro Fuerza de Voluntad (Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength, 2011), de Roy Baumeister y John Tierney, que explora la ciencia detrás de la fuerza de voluntad, desmitifica cómo funciona y nos ofrece herramientas prácticas para cultivarla y utilizarla como motor de nuestras vidas. Aquí puedes conseguir este libro: AQUÍ TIENES EL LIBRO "Willpower": https://geni.us/willpowerlibro   En esta página encuentras las notas del episodio y todos los enlaces mencionados: https://librosparaemprendedores.net/325 Ah! ¿Quieres recibir cada semana por email, gratis, estrategias y tácticas para ser mejor empleado, emprendedor y empresario? Suscríbete a mi email semanal aquí: https://librosparaemprendedores.net/newsletter   ¿Quieres saber cómo aumentar tu velocidad de lectura? Mírate este vídeo y quizás hasta la dupliques en sólo 20 minutos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0VqCZlLuEc   En Youtube y en Instagram estamos publicando también contenido exclusivo. Suscríbete ahora: Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/c/LibrosparaemprendedoresNetInstagram: https://instagram.com/librosparaemprendedores   Además, recuerda que puedes suscribirte al podcast en: - Nuestra página: http://librosparaemprendedores.net/feed/podcast - iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/mx/podcast/libros-para-emprendedores/id1076142249?l=es - Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0qXuVDCYF8HvkEynJwHULb   y seguirnos en Twitter ( https://twitter.com/EmprendeLibros ) y en Facebook ( https://www.facebook.com/EmprendeLibros/ ).   This content is under Fair Use: Copyright Disclaimer Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act in 1976; Allowance is made for "Fair Use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair Use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use. I do not own the original content. All rights and credit go to its rightful owners. No copyright infringement intended.

En el centro de cada logro humano, de cada historia de éxito personal o profesional, hay una fuerza que, aunque invisible, define quiénes somos y hasta dónde podemos llegar: la fuerza de voluntad. Esa capacidad de resistir la tentación, de elegir el camino difícil pero correcto, de perseverar cuando todo parece en contra. … y sin embargo, vivimos en una época en la que esta habilidad parece más frágil que nunca. Distracciones constantes, impulsos incontrolados y hábitos poco saludables minan nuestra capacidad de mantenernos firmes y alcanzar nuestras metas. En este episodio analizo el libro Fuerza de Voluntad (Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength, 2011), de Roy Baumeister y John Tierney, que explora la ciencia detrás de la fuerza de voluntad, desmitifica cómo funciona y nos ofrece herramientas prácticas para cultivarla y utilizarla como motor de nuestras vidas. Aquí puedes conseguir este libro: AQUÍ TIENES EL LIBRO "Willpower": https://geni.us/willpowerlibro   En esta página encuentras las notas del episodio y todos los enlaces mencionados: https://librosparaemprendedores.net/325 Ah! ¿Quieres recibir cada semana por email, gratis, estrategias y tácticas para ser mejor empleado, emprendedor y empresario? Suscríbete a mi email semanal aquí: https://librosparaemprendedores.net/newsletter   ¿Quieres saber cómo aumentar tu velocidad de lectura? Mírate este vídeo y quizás hasta la dupliques en sólo 20 minutos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0VqCZlLuEc   En Youtube y en Instagram estamos publicando también contenido exclusivo. Suscríbete ahora: Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/c/LibrosparaemprendedoresNetInstagram: https://instagram.com/librosparaemprendedores   Además, recuerda que puedes suscribirte al podcast en: - Nuestra página: http://librosparaemprendedores.net/feed/podcast - iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/mx/podcast/libros-para-emprendedores/id1076142249?l=es - Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0qXuVDCYF8HvkEynJwHULb   y seguirnos en Twitter ( https://twitter.com/EmprendeLibros ) y en Facebook ( https://www.facebook.com/EmprendeLibros/ ).   This content is under Fair Use: Copyright Disclaimer Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act in 1976; Allowance is made for "Fair Use" for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research. Fair Use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing. Non-profit, educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use. I do not own the original content. All rights and credit go to its rightful owners. No copyright infringement intended.

====================================================SUSCRIBETEhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNpffyr-7_zP1x1lS89ByaQ?sub_confirmation=1=====================================================================VIRTUOSADevoción Matutina Para Mujeres 2024Narrado por: Sirley DelgadilloDesde: Bucaramanga, Colombia===================|| www.drministries.org ||===================30 DE DICIEMBRERESOLUCIONES DE AÑO NUEVO«No nos ha dado Dios espíritu de cobardía, sino de poder, de amor y de dominio propio» (2 Tim. 1: 7, LBLA).Ha llegado el día de hacer resoluciones de año nuevo. Y aquí estoy con la intención de ayudarte para que, esta vez, seas realista. Porque, seamos sinceras, ¿cuántas de las resoluciones que tomaste al final del año pasado lograste cumplir en este? Tal vez la reflexión de hoy te ayude a entender un poco mejor por qué no lo lograste y a ser más práctica en el futuro.Roy Baumeister llevó a cabo un estudio con dos grupos de personas elegidas al azar. Cada participante debía entrar a un cuarto y esperar que lo llamaran. En el cuarto del primer grupo había galletas recién horneadas, pero todos recibieron la instrucción de no tocarlas. En el cuarto del segundo grupo había remolachas, que tampoco debían comer. Tras la espera, todos iban pasando a una sala donde se les haría un examen escrito, que no era duro en cuanto al nivel de dificultad de las preguntas, pero sí en cuanto a su profundidad y extensión. El objetivo era ver qué grupo tenía más autodisciplina y perseverancia en la prueba, es decir, cuál contestaría mayor número de preguntas antes de rendirse (porque todos se rindieron sin terminarlo). El resultado fue apabullante en favor del grupo dos, el de las remolachas. ¿Por qué? Porque los otros habían ejercido mucha autodisciplina mientras esperaban para no comer las galletas, y llegaron al examen con muy poca capacidad restante de disciplina y perseverancia. Los otros, en cambio, no habían tenido ese desgaste.Sabiendo que nuestra perseverancia y autodisciplina tienen un límite, no hemos de emplearlas en cualquier cosa, pues agotaríamos en cuestiones tal vez superficiales un poder que mejor hemos de emplear en algo más esencial. Nuestras resoluciones no han de estar basadas en hacer o dejar de hacer cosas (lo superficial), sino en buscar cada día la Fuente de poder (lo esencial) que nos permita hacer lo difícil con la convicción de que es para nuestra salvación y la certeza de que él suple lo que nos falta. Unida a esa Fuente de poder, todo lo demás es automático; se convierte en rituales diarios llenos de sentido motivados por valores profundos.«De todos los sonidos de campana, el más solemne es el que suena en año viejo».* Porque al hacernos conscientes del paso del tiempo, nos recuerda nuestra necesidad de unirnos más a Dios."Todos debemos nacer de nuevo el primer día de enero". Henry Ward Beecher.* Frase de Charles Lamb. 

Disziplin – ein Wort, das für viele nach harter Arbeit und Verzicht klingt. Aber was wäre, wenn Disziplin tatsächlich der Schlüssel zu einem erfüllteren und freieren Leben ist? Ich habe diese Erfahrung selbst gemacht und teile in dieser Folge nicht nur, wie ich Disziplin über die letzten Jahre zu einer meiner größten Stärken gemacht habe, sondern auch, warum sie früher ein riesiges Hindernis für mich war.

Talking points: men, psychology, cultureRoy Baumeister is a mighty pillar in the world of psychology, with groundbreaking work on willpower, self-control, negativity bias, and much more. I had the honor of chatting with him about all of these things in the context of men. How do we develop robust self-esteem? Is it work breaking free of isolation? Are there unique social pressures? This is chock full, team.(00:00:00) - On how men need to prove themselves, and the different social pressures between men and women(00:07:59) - Roy on risk-taking in men and women(00:14:01) - Roy's most cited work, why we fixate more on the bad things, and men's self-destructive behavior(00:27:48) - Strategies you can use to replace unhealthy coping mechanisms(00:34:09) - How important is it for men to have robust and diverse social circles?(00:45:10) - What is “ego depletion”?(00:52:21) - The effect of porn on self-control, and wisdom for men struggling with self-esteem***Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

How can you learn to love uncertainty? Is it better to cultivate acceptance or strive for change? And, after 223 episodes, what is the meaning of life?  SOURCES:Jessica Alquist, professor of psychology at Texas Tech University.Roy Baumeister, professor of psychology at The University of Queensland.Raymond Carver, 20th-century American short story writer and poet.Stephen Colbert, comedian and late-night TV host.Matt Damon, actor and film producer.Viktor Frankl, 20th-century Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist, philosopher.Steve Heine, professor of psychology at University of British Columbia.Charles Krauthammer, journalist.Reinhold Niebuhr, 20th-century American theologian.Keanu Reeves, actor.Elisabeth Sifton, author, editor, and book publisher. RESOURCES:Start Making Sense: How Existential Psychology Can Help Us Build Meaningful Lives in Absurd Times, by Steve Heine (2025)."Learning to Love Uncertainty," by Jessica L. Alquist and Roy F. Baumeister (Current Directions in Psychological Science, 2024)."Confused or Curious? Openness/Intellect Predicts More Positive Interest-Confusion Relations," by Kirill Fayn, Paul J. Silvia, Egon Dejonckheere, Stijn Verdonck, and Peter Kuppens (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2019)."A Note to Readers," by Charles Krauthammer (The Washington Post, 2018)."Interest — The Curious Emotion," by Paul J. Silvia (Current Directions in Psychological Science, 2008).The Serenity Prayer: Faith and Politics in Times of Peace and War, by Elisabeth Sifton (2003)."Late Fragment," by Raymond Carver (A New Path to the Waterfall, 1989).Man's Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl (1946). EXTRAS:"What Makes an Idea Interesting?" by No Stupid Questions (2024)."Should You Get Out of Your Comfort Zone?" by No Stupid Questions (2024)."Do You Need Closure?" by No Stupid Questions (2024)."Secret o' Life," by James Taylor (JT, 1977).

Willenskraft funktioniert nach Prof. Roy Baumeister ein wenig wie ein Muskel: Sie ermüdet bei Gebrauch, lässt sich aber auch trainieren. Wie du deine Hassaufgaben genau dazu nutzen kannst, erfährst du in diesem Beitrag. Du findest übrigens alle Podcasts als Video auf unserem YouTube-Kanal: https://www.youtube.com/@mitkindernlernen Das Buch "Vom Aufschieber zum Lernprofi" gibt es in jeder Buchhandlung und natürlich auch online: https://amzn.to/3Boqk2t  

Today, Jason introduces the concept of developing willpower and understanding the concept of free will. He also discusses the topic of "refi till you die," a strategy for property investment. He emphasized the potential benefits of investing in real estate, particularly in Birmingham, Alabama, and encouraged listeners to consult with a tax advisor and visit his website for more information. The conversation ended with Jason expressing his excitement to explore these topics further with Roy in their upcoming 10th episode show. Jason and New York Times Best selling author Roy Baumeister discuss the concept of free will, the unique aspects of human behavior, and the importance of self-control and reputation over self-esteem. They also explored the differences between men and women, the development and maturation of boys and girls, and the idea that nature experiments more on males than females. Lastly, they emphasized the significance of human connection and relationships in achieving happiness and well-being, and the role of willpower in improving life. #FreeWill #Psychology #Evolution #HumanBehavior #SelfControl #Willpower #SelfEsteem #GenderDifferences #Loneliness #Relationships #SocialMedia #HumanNature #CulturalEvolution #Cooperation #Intelligence #PersonalDevelopment Key Takeaways: Jason's editorial 1:27 Introducing Roy  2:35 Refi Til Ya die https://youtu.be/Ylzg1N9hVv0 8:26 A duplex in Birmingham AL   Roy Baumeister interview 11:51 Overview of Roy's work 13:20 Do we really have "free will" 15:45 Human will vs. animals 18:53 To share or not to share 22:15 Book: The Self Explained: Why and How We Become Who We Are 25:38 Self esteem vs. self control  27:50 Narcissism and a thousand reputations 29:25 Book: Is There Anything Good About Men? 39:42 An indicator of happiness 44:30 Will power and self-control is worth cultivating     Follow Jason on TWITTER, INSTAGRAM & LINKEDIN Twitter.com/JasonHartmanROI Instagram.com/jasonhartman1/ Linkedin.com/in/jasonhartmaninvestor/ Call our Investment Counselors at: 1-800-HARTMAN (US) or visit: https://www.jasonhartman.com/ Free Class:  Easily get up to $250,000 in funding for real estate, business or anything else: http://JasonHartman.com/Fund CYA Protect Your Assets, Save Taxes & Estate Planning: http://JasonHartman.com/Protect Get wholesale real estate deals for investment or build a great business – Free Course: https://www.jasonhartman.com/deals Special Offer from Ron LeGrand: https://JasonHartman.com/Ron Free Mini-Book on Pandemic Investing: https://www.PandemicInvesting.com  

This Week's Guests: Author - John Tierney Comedian - Boris Khaykin Episode 339 "Rethink Production presents "Live From America Podcast" - a weekly show that combines political commentary with humor. Hosted by the comedy cellar owner Noam Dworman and producer Hatem Gabr, the show features expert guests discussing news, culture, and politics with a blend of knowledge and laughter. John Tierney is a journalist and bestselling author. He is a contributing editor to City Journal, a former columnist at the New York Times, and has written for dozens of magazines and newspapers. His reporting has taken him to all seven continents, and his books have been translated into more than 20 languages. During more than two decades at the New York Times, he was a science columnist, an Op-Ed columnist and a staff writer for the Times Magazine. He wrote about New York in a column, “The Big City,” which ran in the Times Magazine and in the Metro section. Together with the social psychologist Roy Baumeister, he wrote a New York Times best-seller titled, Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength. The psychologist Steven Pinker, writing in the New York Times Book Review, called it “an immensely rewarding book, filled with ingenious research, wise advice and insightful reflections on the human condition.” His latest book, also co-authored with Roy Baumeister, is The Power of Bad: How the Negativity Effect Rules Us and How We Can Rule It. It has been praised by P.J. O'Rourke as “the best bad news ever,” and described by Martin Seligman, the eminent psychologist, as “the most important book at the borderland of psychology and politics that I have ever read.” Tierney is the author of a humor book, The Best-Case Scenario Handbook, which explains, among other things, how to deal with a broken ATM spewing cash and how to accept the Nobel Peace Prize. He is also the co-author, with Christopher Buckley, of a novel parodying self-help books, which is titled God Is My Broker: A Monk Tycoon Reveals the 7 ½ Laws of Spiritual and Financial Growth. Follow Live From America YouTube @livefromamericapodcast twitter.com/AmericasPodcast www.LiveFromAmericaPodcast.com LiveFromAmericapodcast@gmail.com Follow Hatem Twitter.com/HatemNYC Instagram.com/hatemnyc/ Follow Noam Twitter.com/noam_dworman #ThepowerofBad #John Tierney #Willpower

Support the show:https://www.paypal.me/Truelifepodcast?locale.x=en_USBuy Grow kit: https://modernmushroomcultivation.com/Prepare for an unparalleled conversation with Dr. Roy Baumeister, a giant in the field of psychology whose influence spans continents and disciplines. With over 700 published works, including more than 40 books, Dr. Baumeister's exploration of human behavior, free will, and self-control has shifted paradigms in how we understand ourselves and society. His groundbreaking book Willpower became a New York Times bestseller and transformed how we view personal discipline and resilience.Currently affiliated with Harvard, Constructor University, and several global institutions, he's received the prestigious William James Fellow Award from the Association for Psychological Science, a testament to his profound lifetime contributions. Dr. Baumeister is also the president-elect of the International Positive Psychology Association, continuing his mission to unravel the complexities of human motivation and well-being.In his latest work, The Science of Free Will, he ventures beyond academia, examining how we make choices, navigate social structures, and create meaningful lives by weaving together the past, present, and future. Today, we'll delve into his deep insights into the human psyche, the essence of decision-making, and the hidden forces that shape our potential.https://roybaumeister.com/ Support the show:https://www.paypal.me/Truelifepodcast?locale.x=en_USCheck out our YouTube:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPzfOaFtA1hF8UhnuvOQnTgKcIYPI9Ni9&si=Jgg9ATGwzhzdmjkgGrow your own:https://modernmushroomcultivation.com/

Prof. Joel Pearson (Neuroscientist; AI and cognition scientist) returns to Wild, this time to discuss whether free will is an illusion. In our last chat (about intuition) the subject was raised and Joel promised to come back to discuss it further, particularly in the context of AI, algorithms, the rise of totalitarianism and our agency in systems collapse. Joel is the founder and Director of Future Minds Lab which applies neuroscience findings to art, AI, media, advertising and various philosophical quandaries. He's also a National Health and Medical Research Council fellow and Professor of Cognitive Neuroscience at the University of New South Wales, Australia. He developed the first scientific test to measure intuition and wrote The Intuition Toolkit. In this conversation, we also cover the science of manifesting!SHOW NOTESI mention the chapter on Blame and the very robust discussion the Substack community had around it. You can join this hereHere's the previous episode where Joel talks about the scientific proof of intuitionGet Joel's book The Intuition Toolkit: The New Science of Knowing What without Knowing WhyFollow Joel on his Future Minds Lab Substack I previously had willpower expert Roy Baumeister on Wild to talk about how the female orgasm shapes the world! --If you need to know a bit more about me… head to my "about" pageFor more such conversations subscribe to my Substack newsletter, it's where I interact the most!Get your copy of my book, This One Wild and Precious LifeLet's connect on Instagram and WeAre8 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Professor Roy F. Baumeister is one of the world's most prolific and influential psychologists. He has published over 700 scientific works, including over 40 books. In 2013, he received the highest award given by the Association for Psychological Science, the William James Fellow award, in recognition of his lifetime achievements. As of 2023, He holds affiliations with Harvard University (USA), Constructor University Bremen (Germany), Florida State University (USA), BetterUp, Inc. (USA), and the University of Bamberg (Germany). Additionally, Baumeister serves as the president-elect of the International Positive Psychology Association. In this interview, Roy & I discuss the following: 00:00 - Why We Need To Connect With Others 11:07 - Why does rejection make us numb? 16:55 - Social media's effect on relationships 29:50 - The myth of self-esteem 42:55 - Differences between the male and female sex drive 53:27 - What stifles the female sex drive 01:01:10 - How men can become more attractive 01:06:55 - What makes a life worth living for Roy Connect with us: https://freedompact.co.uk/newsletter​ (Healthy, Wealthy & Wise Newsletter) twitter.com/freedompactpod Email: freedompact@gmail.com https://Tiktok.com/personaldevelopment

Roy Baumeister is a professor and a prolific author of many books, including "Willpower" and "Is There Anything Good About Men?" During our conversation, Roy talks about men as nature's "play things," his thinking on how homosexuality persevered through evolution, the truth about men in society, lessons from the book "Self-Made Man" by Norah Vincent, the importance of male cooperation in creating civilization, free will, how he's changed his mind, and more.------------Book a meeting with Dan------------Keep Talking SubstackRate on SpotifyRate on Apple PodcastsSocial media and all episodes------------Support via VenmoSupport on SubstackSupport on Patreon------------00:00 Intro00:37 Men are nature's "play-things"05:09 There are more men at the extremes07:28 How do gay people exist?11:34 Lessons from "Self-Made Man" by Norah Vincent15:53 Men and women were "designed" with different skills21:06 What is good about men?31:07 Why are men wired for cooperation?37:17 Quotes from "Is There Anything Good About Men?"38:42 The tragedy of the male sex drive46:29 What is interesting to Roy right now?54:31 In what ways has Roy changed his mind?01.01:57 Who does Roy go to for information and truth?

In this episode of the Performance Initiative Podcast, hosts Dr. Grant Cooper and Dr. Zinovy Meyler engage in an enlightening discussion with social psychologist Roy Baumeister. They explore critical concepts such as self-control, self-regulation, and self-esteem and their impact on personal success and well-being. Key highlights include the predictive power of children's self-control on future achievements, the limited resource model of willpower, and the role of glucose in ego depletion. The episode provides practical advice on overcoming decision fatigue, developing effective habits, and recognizing ego depletion. It also examines real-world scenarios, such as the best times to ask for a raise and the factors influencing parole decisions. Additional topics include strategies for long-term self-improvement, the religious support for self-control, structured planning for task management, dieting tips, and the health halo effect—offering a comprehensive guide to effectively harnessing willpower.(00:00) Introduction  (02:25) Exploring Self-Esteem and Its Impacts  (28:20) The Marshmallow Study and Delayed Gratification  (44:14) The Impact of Self-Control on Performance  (45:02) Decision Fatigue in Car Dealerships  (46:45) Obama's Strategy for Decision Making  (49:28) The Role of Habits in Self-Control  (52:57) Glucose and Self-Control  (01:17:04) Procrastination and Health  (01:21:51) Religion and Self-Control  (01:25:40) Muscular Exertion and Willpower  (01:26:26) Evolutionary Perspective on Energy Conservation  (01:28:18) Ego Depletion and Task Prioritization  (01:30:16) Self-Control Exercises and Their Benefits  (01:31:15) Significance Testing in Research  (01:33:04) Strategies to Prevent Ego Depletion  (01:34:28) The Zeigarnik Effect  (01:41:38) The Hemingway Technique and Self-Control  (01:58:08) Willpower and Weight Loss Strategies  (02:02:40) ConclusionDr. Roy Baumeister is a renowned social psychologist, acclaimed for his pioneering research on self-control, self-esteem, social rejection, belongingness, and the need to belong. His extensive body of work has significantly influenced our understanding of human behavior, earning him a place among the most cited psychologists in the world. With over 700 publications, including the highly influential books "Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength" and "The Power of Bad: How the Negativity Effect Rules Us and How We Can Rule It," Dr. Baumeister's insights offer profound implications for personal development and social dynamics. He has been a distinguished professor at several prestigious institutions, sharing his expertise and contributing to the advancement of psychological science.Roy Baumeister's website: https://roybaumeister.com/Roy Baumeister's book "Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength": https://a.co/d/0He6XDq#selfcontrol #selfimprovement #selfregulation #willpower #podcast #roybaumeister #selfesteem #marshmallowstudy #selfcontrolwillpower #psychology #socialpsychology #productivity #motivation #motivational #mentalstrength #personaldevelopment #lifehacks #lifehack Thanks For WatchingSocials:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKPNCI1-HBSZmiHNAlAjiIwWebsite: https://www.performanceinitiativepodcast.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/performanceinitiative

Professor Roy F. Baumeister is one of the world's most prolific and influential Psychologists. He has published over 700 scientific works, including over 40 books, and is one of the most highly cited scientists alive today. In 2013, he received the highest award given by the Association for Psychological Science, the William James Fellow award, in recognition of his lifetime achievements. As of 2024, He holds affiliations with Harvard University, Constructor University Bremen, Florida State University, BetterUp, Inc., and the University of Bamberg. Additionally, Baumeister serves as the president-elect of the International Positive Psychology Association. He is a Fellow of both the Society for Personality and Social Psychology and the Association for Psychological Science. His 2011 book "Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength" (with John Tierney) was a New York Times bestseller. Some of his other works include: "The Self Explained: Why and How We Become Who We Are" (2022), and his upcoming book "The Science Of Free Will: Bridging Theory & Positive Psychology" (2024). TIMESTAMPS: (0:00) - Introduction (0:13) - The Self Explained: Why And How We Become Who We Are (6:45) - Addressing Free Will Skeptics (11:38) - The Science Of Free Will: 1) The Moral Agent; 2) The Economic Agent; 3) The Information Agent (17:26) - Free Will Books: Robert Sapolsky (Determined), Kevin Mitchell (Free Agents), Daniel Dennett & Gregg Caruso (Just Desserts) (21:49) - Morality & Determinism (30:05) - Ego Depletion Theory (42:31) - Positive Psychology & Negativity Bias (52:43) - Willpower (59:11) - Language, Meaning, & Uncertainty (1:08:00) - Roy's Willpower! (1:15:10) - Roy's Recommendations: Immanual Kant, Sigmund Freud, David Buss, Michael Tomasello, Francis Fukuyama (1:19:55) - Conclusion EPISODE LINKS: - Roy's Website: https://roybaumeister.com - Roy's Publications: https://tinyurl.com/k94wzzwd - Roy's Books: https://tinyurl.com/2evz225h - The Science of Free Will: https://tinyurl.com/t9sjykzs - Roy Baumeister v Robert Sapolsky Debate: https://youtu.be/xeb98U9d1hg?feature=shared - Noam Chomsky: https://youtu.be/ZYiv790TfzI?feature=shared - Kevin Mitchell: https://youtu.be/UdlkYGbuD7Q?feature=shared - Gregg Caruso: https://youtu.be/YztCgd-CqtA?feature=shared - Randolph Nesse: https://youtu.be/wOuX0JYtxhc?feature=shared CONNECT: - Website: https://tevinnaidu.com - Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drtevinnaidu - Twitter: https://twitter.com/drtevinnaidu - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drtevinnaidu - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtevinnaidu - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drtevinnaidu ============================= Disclaimer: The information provided on this channel is for educational purposes only. The content is shared in the spirit of open discourse and does not constitute, nor does it substitute, professional or medical advice. We do not accept any liability for any loss or damage incurred from you acting or not acting as a result of listening/watching any of our contents. You acknowledge that you use the information provided at your own risk. Listeners/viewers are advised to conduct their own research and consult with their own experts in the respective fields.

Is it really that important to make your bed? What's the benefit of hiring a lazy person? And how many cups of spinach can Mike fit in a red Solo cup?  Take the Big Five inventory: freakonomics.com/bigfive SOURCES:David Barack, philosopher and neuroscientist at the University of Pennsylvania.Randall Bell, socio-economist and C.E.O. of Landmark Research Group.Julia Cameron, author, poet, songwriter, filmmaker, and playwright.Charles Duhigg, journalist and author.Guy Kawasaki, author and Silicon Valley venture capitalist.William McRaven, professor of national security at the University of Texas at Austin and retired Admiral in the United States Navy. RESOURCES:"Large Studies Reveal How Reference Bias Limits Policy Applications of Self-Report Measures," by Benjamin Lira, Joseph M. O'Brien, Pablo A. Peña, Brian M. Galla, Sidney D'Mello, David S. Yeager, Amy Defnet, Tim Kautz, Kate Munkacsy, and Angela Duckworth (Nature: Scientific Reports, 2022)."Too Much of a Good Thing? Exploring the Inverted-U Relationship Between Self-Control and Happiness," by Christopher Wiese, Louis Tay, Angela Duckworth, Sidney D'Mello, Lauren Kuykendall, Wilhelm Hofmann, Roy Baumeister, and Kathleen Vohs (Journal of Personality, 2018)."7 ‘Rich Habits' of Highly Successful People, From a Man Who Studied Them for 25 Years," by Kathleen Elkins (CNBC, 2017).Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life...And Maybe the World, by William McRaven (2017).The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business, by Charles Duhigg (2012)."Who Does Well in Life? Conscientious Adults Excel in Both Objective and Subjective Success," by Angela Duckworth, David Weir, Eli Tsukayama, and David Kwok (Frontiers in Psychology, 2012).The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity, by Julia Cameron (1992). EXTRAS:Big Five Personality Inventory, by No Stupid Questions (2024)."Personality: The Big Five," series by No Stupid Questions (2024)."Angela Duckworth: The Gritty Road to Growth," by Guy Kawasaki's Remarkable People (2024)."How to Have Great Conversations," by People I (Mostly) Admire (2024).

Roy Baumeister joins Theories of Everything to discuss the complexities of free will, the interplay between self-control and societal behaviors, and the psychological impacts of rejection and belongingness. Consider signing up for TOEmail at https://www.curtjaimungal.orgLINKS MENTIONED:Debate Between Roy Baumeister & Robert Sapolsky - https://youtu.be/xeb98U9d1hgWillpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength - https://a.co/d/4PMNQyXIntersectional Implicit Bias - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35587425/TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Intro02:16 - The Human Mind09:45 - Language15:34 - Do Animates Have Free Will?20:02 - Robert Sapolsky28:20 - Different Free Will Outlooks40:54 - Ego Depletion & Decision Fatigue50:26 - Self Regulation55:44 - Left vs. Right Brain59:15 - Willpower01:12:49 - How To Increase Willpower01:19:15 - Opposing Mainstream Views01:20:08 - What Needs More Attention?01:21:59 - Prejudices In America01:26:25 - Q&A01:38:38 - Support TOE Support TOE: - Patreon: https://patreon.com/curtjaimungal (early access to ad-free audio episodes!) - Crypto: https://tinyurl.com/cryptoTOE - PayPal: https://tinyurl.com/paypalTOE - TOE Merch: https://tinyurl.com/TOEmerch  Follow TOE: - *NEW* Get my 'Top 10 TOEs' PDF + Weekly Personal Updates: https://www.curtjaimungal.org - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theoriesofeverythingpod - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theoriesofeverything_ - Twitter: https://twitter.com/TOEwithCurt - Discord Invite: https://discord.com/invite/kBcnfNVwqs - iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/better-left-unsaid-with-curt-jaimungal/id1521758802 - Pandora: https://pdora.co/33b9lfP - Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4gL14b92xAErofYQA7bU4e - Subreddit r/TheoriesOfEverything: https://reddit.com/r/theoriesofeverything  

Today's podcast is titled, “Parenthood Paradox.” Recorded in 1992, Case Western Reserve University's professors Roy Baumeister, Ph.D., Psychology, and Jetse Sprey, Ph.D., Sociology, contemplate the paradoxical question of parenthood – if having children reduces happiness and stresses marriages, why do people do it?  Listen now, and don't forget to subscribe to get updates each week for the Free To Choose Media Podcast.

Cuốn sách hôm nay mình muốn chia sẻ tới các bạn mang tên “Willpower” của một trong những nhà tâm lý học xuất sắc nhất thế giới, Roy Baumeister và đồng tác giả là John Tierney, người phụ trách chuyên mục khoa học của tờ New York Times. Nói đến sức mạnh của ý chí có lẽ nhiều người sẽ nghĩ ngay đến một nội dung truyền động lực làm thế nào để vực dậy nghị lực quyết tâm. Nhưng cuốn sách này không phải như vậy, nó là nghiên cứu khoa học rất nghiêm túc và có hệ thống về sức mạnh ý chí con người. ------------------------- Nếu bạn muốn mua sách giấy để đọc, có thể ủng hộ Better Version bằng cách mua qua đường link này nhé, cám ơn các bạn! LINK BẢN GỐC: https://shorten.asia/pyjrArgT ❤️ Link tổng hợp các cuốn sách trong tất cả video: https://beacons.ai/betterversion.vn/b... ❤️ ỦNG HỘ KÊNH TẠI: https://beacons.ai/betterversion.donate

Bo Winegard obtained a PhD in social psychology from Florida State University, under the tutelage of Roy Baumeister. He was a professor at a small college in the midwest. Now, he am an independent scholar. He is interested in human evolution, human variation, the rise of political order, and political conservatism. He also loves literature, […]

Join me in a thought-provoking conversation with Prof. Roy Baumeister as we delve into the pages of his book "Is There Anything Good About Men: How Cultures Flourish by Exploiting Men". In this episode, we explore the roots of male motivation, uncovering the profound impact of sexual competition on both men and women. Prof. Baumeister offers insights into the intricate relationship between men's sex drive and their drive for success, and how these drives have influenced the building and shaping of culture. Our discussion challenges prevailing misconceptions, shedding light on the complex reasons behind the underrepresentation of women in leadership roles and the anti-male narrative that prompted Roy to write this book. We navigate potential pathways for the future of monogamy, acknowledging the innate differences between men and women (even if our proposed solutions slightly differ!). Prof. Roy Baumeister is an esteemed figure in social psychology and professor at the University of Queensland. His influential research has focused on self-esteem, the need of belongingness, sexuality, sex differences, and willpower. Tune in to unravel the layers of male psychology, guided by the expertise of Prof. Roy Baumeister. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit thebiggerpicturepod.substack.com

Vous êtes devant une plateforme de streaming, seul, avec des amis ou un partenaire. Vous essayez de choisir un film à voir. Peut-être réfléchissez vous aussi à quelle nourriture vous avez envie de vous faire livrer. Vous y passez une heure. Ça en devient une blague. Mais parfois, ça peut virer à l'angoisse. Ce phénomène n'est pas simplement un petit coup de stress, ça a un nom et c'est étudié cliniquement : la fatigue décisionnelle. Cette fatigue développée par le cerveau à cause des prises de décision a été théorisée dès 1990, par le psychologue américain Roy Baumeister. Selon lui, le cerveau, tout comme n'importe quel muscle, peut s'épuiser et générer de la fatigue mentale. Qu'est-ce que c'est ? Et qui est touché ? Ecoutez la suite de cet épisode de "Maintenant vous savez". Un podcast Bababam Originals, écrit et réalisé par Antonella Francini. A écouter aussi : Pourquoi dit-on qu'on a plus chaud quand on s'habille en noir ? Le venin d'araignée peut-il régler les problèmes d'érection ? Faire du sport en entreprise nous rendrait-il plus productif ? Retrouvez tous les épisodes de "Maintenant vous savez". Suivez Bababam sur Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The name Edmund Burke is used quite liberally on the Saving Elephants podcast as host Josh Lewis makes no bones about being a “Burkean” conservative.  But who was this Irish statesman, economist, and philosopher?  What were his contributions to conservative thought?  Why does Josh hold him in such high regard?  And why do some conservatives argue there's no place for Burke in conservatism?   Rather than inviting one guest to tackle these pressing questions, Josh explores the various conversations had on the podcast with past guests about Burke to help us navigate this rather complex and often misunderstood political thinker.  The lineup includes:   Wes Siler Podcast appearance: 71 – Exploring Burke with Wes Siler   Wes is the founder and Director of The Burkean Conservative, a website, social media presence, and video platform that produces content focused on educating and expanding the conservative movement on the basis of Edmund Burke's principles.  You can follow The Burkean Conservative on Twitter @TheBurkeanCon.   Yuval Levin Podcast appearance: 73 – Formative Institutions with Yuval Levin   Yuval Levin is a political analyst, public intellectual, academic, and journalist.  He is the founding editor of National Affairs, director of Social, Cultural, and Constitutional Studies at the American Enterprise Institute, a contributing editor of National Review, and co-founder and a senior editor of The New Atlantis.  He also holds the Beth and Ravenel Curry Chair in Public Policy.   Yuval served as a member of the White House domestic policy staff under President George W. Bush.  He was also executive director of the President's Council on Bioethics and a congressional staffer at the member, committee, and leadership levels.   Yuval's essays and articles have appeared in numerous publications, among them, The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary.  He is the author of five books, two of which are discussed in detail in the episode: A Time to Build and The Great Debate.   Jonah Goldberg Podcast appearance: 82 – Ruminating Remnants with Jonah Goldberg   Jonah Goldberg hosts The Remnant, a podcast featuring a “Cannonball Run”-style cast of stars, has-beens, and never-weres to address the most pressing issues of the day and of all-time, mixing history, pop culture, rank-punditry, political philosophy, and, at times, shameless book-plugging, and the nudity is (almost) always tasteful.  In October of 2019 Goldberg co-launched and became founding editor of the online opinion and news publication The Dispatch.  He was the founding editor of National Review Online, and from 1998 until 2019 he was an editor at National Review.   A prolific writer, Goldberg writes a weekly column about politics and culture for the Los Angeles Times as well as a frequent “newsletter” The G-File.  He has authored three books, the No. 1 New York Times bestseller Liberal Fascism; The Tyranny of Cliches: How Liberals Cheat in the War of Ideas; and Suicide of the West, which also became a New York Times bestseller.   Goldberg is also a regular contributor on news networks such as CNN, Fox News, and MSNBC, appearing on various television programs including Good Morning America, Nightline, Hardball with Chris Matthews, Real Time with Bill Maher, and The Daily Show.  Goldberg is an occasional guest on a number of Fox News shows and a frequent panelist on Special Report with Bret Baier.   Bo Winegard Podcast appearance: 104 – Armchair Burkeans with Bo Winegard   Bo Winegard obtained his PhD in social psychology from Florida State University, under the tutelage of Roy Baumeister.  Formerly a professor at a small college in the Midwest, Bo is now an independent scholar interested in human evolution, human variation, the rise of political order, and political conservatism.  He also enjoys literature, film, sports, and mediocre detective fiction.   Bo has many peer-reviewed publications on motley topics and often writes for the online media publication Quillette.  He is currently working on the first of several books on human nature and political ideology.   Visit Bo's website: https://www.bmwinegard.com/   And his YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8mHb9VLBbrlvzRRwwGgL5w   You can also find Bo on Twitter @EPoe187   David Bahnsen Podcast appearance: 119 – Inflating the Apocalypse with David Bahnsen   David L. Bahnsen is the founder, Managing Partner, and Chief Investment Officer of The Bahnsen Group, a bi-coastal private wealth management firm with offices in Newport Beach, CA, New York City, Minneapolis, and Nashville managing over $3.5 billion in client assets.  David is consistently named as one of the top financial advisors in America by Barron's, Forbes, and the Financial Times.  He is a frequent guest on CNBC, Bloomberg, and Fox Business and is a regular contributor to National Review and Forbes.  He has written his own political viewpoint blog for over a decade.   David serves on the Board of Directors for the National Review Institute and was the Vice-President of the Lincoln Club of Orange County for eight years.  He is a committed donor and activist across all spectrums of national, state, and local politics, and views the cause of Buckley and Reagan as the need of the hour.   David is passionate about opposition to crony capitalism, and has lectured and written for years about the need for pro-growth economic policy.  Every part of his political worldview stems from a desire to see greater freedom as a catalyst to greater human flourishing.   He is the author of the book, Crisis of Responsibility: Our Cultural Addiction to Blame and How You Can Cure It and his most recent book, There's No Free Lunch: 250 Economic Truths.   His ultimate passions are his lovely wife of 18+ years, Joleen, their gorgeous and brilliant children, sons Mitchell and Graham, and daughter Sadie, and the life they've created together in Newport Beach, California.   Jeff Nelson Podcast appearance: 130 – Cultivating Kirk with Jeff Nelson   Jeff Nelson co-founded the Kirk Center with Annette Kirk and is currently Vice Chairman of the Center's Board of Trustees.  He served in 1986 and again in 1989 as Dr. Kirk's personal assistant.   Dr. Nelson is Executive Vice President of the Intercollegiate Studies Institute (Wilmington, Delaware).  He also served as president of the Thomas More College of Liberal Arts (Merrimack, NH).  He received his B.A. at the University of Detroit, an M.A. at Yale University Divinity School, and was awarded his Ph.D. in American History at the University of Edinburgh in Scotland.   Dr. Nelson founded ISI Books, the Intercollegiate Studies Institute's now nationally recognized publishing imprint, in 1993.  Under his direction, more than 110 books were published.  During that time he also edited two respected journals of thought and opinion: The Intercollegiate Review and The University Bookman, and is publisher of Studies in Burke and His Time.  He also is senior fellow of both the International G. K. Chesterton Institute (Toronto, ON) and the Centre for the Study of Faith and Culture in Oxford, England; and he is secretary of the Edmund Burke Society of America.   Dr. Nelson has edited two book collections: Redeeming the Time by Russell Kirk, and Perfect Sowing: Reflections of a Bookman by Henry Regnery; he co-edited an award-winning treasury of the historian John Lukacs' writings entitled Remembered Past; and was project director of the popular national college guide, Choosing the Right College: The Whole Truth About America's Top Schools.  Dr. Nelson was featured in a New York Times front-page news article about a major reference work he co-edited, American Conservatism: An Encyclopedia; and he is series editor of The Library of Modern Thinkers.  Jeff Nelson is a frequent and popular guest on radio and television talk shows across the country.   You can follow Jeff on Twitter @JeffOttoNelson  

Today's podcast is titled, “Dilemma of Forgiveness.” Julie Juola-Exline, Ph.D, Psychology, Case Western Reserve University, and Roy Baumeister, Ph.D, Psychology, Case Western Reserve University, attempt to define forgiveness and discuss the drawbacks and benefits of forgiving. Recorded in 1998. Listen now, and don't forget to subscribe to get updates each week for the Free To Choose Media Podcast.

Why do we have a negativity bias that predisposes us to focus on bad things in the world? How can we channel that natural tendency to learn and improve, rather that be afraid and depressed by it? What are the implications of negativity bias for the functioning of our society ongoing? In this episode we've got the important topic of the inherent Negativity Bias in human psychology to assess. This is the tendency for bad events, experiences and emotions to have more impact than good ones. We see this in relationships, social patterns, traumatic events, the media and learning processes. Research shows that bad impressions and stereotypes form quicker than good ones, that the self is more motivated to avoid bad self-definitions than to pursue good ones, and even that bad impressions are more thoroughly processed than good ones. This all plays out in out in the media, in the consumer markets and in politics and thus defines our culture ongoing. Is this natural? Is there anything we can do to mitigate it or use it for good? And do we even want to? Fortunately for us our guest today is a specialist in these matters, one of the most prolific and cited psychologists in the world, with over 650 publications, Professor Roy Baumeister. His 40 books include the New York Times bestseller Willpower. His research covers self and identity, self-regulation, interpersonal rejection and the need to belong, sexuality and gender, aggression, self-esteem, meaning, consciousness, free will, and self-presentation, some of which we cover today in connection with negativity bias. In 2013 he received the William James award for lifetime achievement in psychological science (the Association for Psychological Science's highest honor). In 2001 He co-wrote a seminal paper on the very topic of today's episode in, called ‘Bad is Stronger than Good'; and one of his latest books, co-authored with John Tierney, is called “The Power of Bad: How the Negativity Effect Rules Us and How We Can Rule It”. What we discuss: 00:00 Intro 10:00 Negativity Bias Explained 12:00 Evolutionary reasons to focus on the negative 15:45 “Life has to win every day, death only has to win once” 17:45 We process the negative more thoroughly than the positive 18:45 “We learn a lot more from bad events than from good ones” 20:10 The Pollyanna principle VS Bad memories being good for learning  27:30 Negativity bias in the media, fiction and entertainment 31:50 Ai algorithms tracking our engagement with negativity, making us feel the world is worse than we it is 33:10 “The world is getting better on every index except hope”, John Tierney  35:30 Older people are happier than younger people, Laura Carstensen 37:00 Polarisation as a consequence of algorithmic driven negativity bias 41:50 Using fear for profit VS using fear for control  33:15 Tendency to see the outsiders as threats 47:30 Belonging: our need not to be thought of negatively, hence not to be thrown out of the group 49:50 Theory of mind: Primates understand how other people think of them competitively but humans also collaboratively 50:40 We act ethically because we need people to cooperate 53:50 Negativity bias leading to a sense of belonging in the camp against the ‘other' 55:30 Self control and regulation: taking control of negativity bias, we're good at getting better 56:30 Not doing the bad things is what makes the difference 58:50 4:1 Ratio of good things to bad things required to swing the balance 01:03:40 Ego depletion confirmed: self control fatigue over time  References: Baumeister and Tierney “The Power of Bad: How the negativity effect rules us and how we can rule it” ‘Bad is stronger than Good' Paper, 2001 Baumeister and Tierney, “Will Power: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength” Full Show Note References on CC.net

Part of becoming a great leader is not only overcoming the challenges of leadership itself but our personal limitations as well. The first step is identifying them and knowing and understanding their origin. Then, we must equip ourselves with the tools and resources to obliterate them: an antidote to eliminate their effects. This week, I share the best advice from the noblest of companions, the one who holds long life in the right hand and wealth and honor in the left, one that is worth more than silver and gold and is more valuable than jewels: wisdom. We discuss Roy Baumeister's "Negativity Effect" and John Gottman's relationships' "4-Horsemen of Apocalypse." Throughout this episode, you'll hear Roy Baumeister's brilliant responses to Jennifer Graham's interview about the "Negativity Effect," and you'll learn why most of us spend more time on negative thoughts, ideas, and feelings. We'll also discuss John Gottman's "4-Horsemen of Apocalypse" in professional and personal relationships, origin, meaning, and antidote. Tune in to Episode 395 of Becoming Your Best and discover these fantastic tools that'll help you keep improving and get close to your best version. In This Episode, You Will Learn: A bit about the inspiration for today's episode (2:30) Why wisdom is such a valuable attribute (5:00) The Negativity Effect (11:40) Roy Baumeister's tips on parenting (15:00) What are the "4-Horsemen of Apocalypse" for relationships (20:30) The antidotes for each horseman (22:20) Becoming Your Best Resources: Becoming Your Best Website Becoming Your Best University Website Becoming Your Best Library Email: support@becomingyourbest.com Book: Becoming Your Best: The 12 Principles of Highly Successful Leaders Book: Conquer Anxiety: How to Overcome Anxiety and Optimize Your Performance Facebook Group – Conquer Anxiety Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Humans have limited information processing abilities and cannot possibly evaluate all possible options when making a decision. However, describing people merely as irrational paints an inaccurate picture. There can be benefits to the biases we hold.  Author of Optimally Irrational: The Good Reasons We Behave the Way We Do Lionel Page PhD, joins Kurt Nelson and Tim Houlihan on Behavioral Grooves Podcast to talk about his book. Lionel is a French-born economist who is currently working as the Director of the Behavioural and Economic Science Cluster at the University of Queensland in Australia.  Among the topics Lionel discusses is the hedonic treadmill and how happiness is always just ahead of us. Our subjective satisfaction system is designed to keep us motivated by focusing on future goals. However, once we achieve those goals, we move on to the next. Anticipated utility and loss aversion become a powerful motivational combination. Our motivations for decisions are complex. But intentionality can help make up for some of the inconsistencies in our decision making. Topics  (1:51) Speed round questions. (3:13) Is overconfidence beneficial or not beneficial? (6:06) What is rational and irrational behavior? (11:34) Why it is so important to define a field of work. (14:09) Why is it so difficult for us to ask for what we want? (17:31) Completeness helps us to find missing points. (22:38) Happiness is actually connected to loss aversion. (32:37) The benefits of anticipated utility.   © 2023 Behavioral Grooves   Links  Lionel Page PhD: https://economics.uq.edu.au/profile/9755/lionel-page  Lionel's book, “Optimally Irrational: The Good Reasons We Behave the Way We Do”: https://amzn.to/46RoYIH Episode 333, How Game Theory Can Be Used To Explain Human Behavior | Erez Yoeli: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/game-theory-to-explain-behavior/   Episode 171, Self Control, Belonging, and Why Your Most Dedicated Employees Are the Ones To Watch Out For with Roy Baumeister: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/self-control-belonging-and-why-your-most-dedicated-employees-are-the-ones-to-watch-out-for-with-roy-baumeister/  Prospect theory: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prospect_theory  Episode 276, How To Stay Motivated So You Exceed Your Goals | Ayelet Fishbach PhD: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/motivation-to-exceed-your-goals/  Behavioral Grooves Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/behavioralgrooves   

Shawn T. Smith is a clinical psychologist and an author of many books, including his best-seller, The "Tactical Guide to Women." During our conversation, Shawn talks about modern dating, the relationship issues with which his male and female clients are struggling, dating apps, how evolutionary psychology has influenced him, and the "red pill" community. More expansively, he talks about how "The Tactical Guide" came to be, what men can do to properly vet women for long-term relationships, and the importance of time in making life-changing decisions.This episode is primarily for men. I have found Shawn to be a candid, sane, and even-handed thinker in the online world of mating and dating. Sean is a fair-minded and strong voice for men, and I would encourage any young man - either looking to make wise life choices or suffering due to indifference - to consult his work.------------Support via VenmoSupport on SubstackSupport on Patreon------------Show notesRate on SpotifyRate on Apple PodcastsSocial media and all episodes------------(00:00) Intro(02:00) How "The Tactical Guide to Women" came to be(03:42) A void in the culture(04:50) The default male approach(06:17) The major themes of "The Tactical Guide"(07:72) The importance of time in vetting(11:50) Red and green flags to look for(16:42) Borderline personality disorder(21:06) Evolutionary psychology(24:52) Roy Baumeister(25:41) Relationship issues he sees in his clinical practice(28:50) Date-onomics and city sex ratios(30:37) Advice for men who are struggling(32:39) Common dating complaints of women(34:08) Dating apps and the Pareto principle(41:20) The tragic aspect of female professional success(45:15) What is the proper message for young women?(46:07) The "Barbie" phenomenon(47:14) What makes for a successful long-term relationship?(50:43) The red pill community(59:40) Who does Shawn recommend for further knowledge?(01:01:22) Why does this information matter?

Roy Baumeister is a social psychologist, a professor at Florida State University, and the author of many books, including "Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength." During our conversation, Roy speaks at length on a variety of fascinating topics: how and why male homosexuality may have survived through evolution, differences in male and female sexuality, hunter-gatherer parenting styles, marriage and sex, how women have shaped men, the "tragedy of the male sex drive," whether free will exists, and how we might approach our nature with a degree of self-awareness and wisdom.Roy is a brilliant writer, a prolific polymath, and someone who is admired and respected by many who have been on this show.------------Support via VenmoSupport on SubstackSupport on Patreon------------Show notesRate on SpotifyRate on Apple PodcastsSocial media and all episodes------------(00:00) Intro (02:31) How are there gay people? (07:06) Ideal lifetime sex partners for men vs. women (08:38) The tragedy of the male sex drive (14:49) Lessons from "Too Many Women" (19:41) Quotes from Roy about men and women (23:45) Lesson from Helen Fisher (27:51) The effect of human babies being born prematurely (36:56) Sex, marriage, and "The Sex Diaries"(41:47) Is the expectation of lifelong monogamy unwise? (47:21) Quotes from Roy about willpower (49:06) Does free will exist? (1:00:21) How has evolutionary psychology effected Roy?

Today's Heroic +1 features wisdom from Kevin Kruse's "15 Secrets Successful People Know About Time Management", Brian Tracy's "Eat That Frog", and Roy Baumeister's "Willpower". See the full +1 here: https://www.heroic.us/optimize/plus-one/touch-it-once Get more wisdom in less time with a Heroic membership. Get started for FREE today: http://heroic.us Ready to actualize your Heroic potential? Join 12,500+ Heroes from 110+ Countries by becoming a certified Heroic Coach: https://heroic.us/coach About Heroic: Heroic integrates ancient wisdom, modern science, and practical tools into a beautifully-designed app to help activate your best. Premium Heroic members have access to 600+ of the absolute greatest personal development books distilled into 25-min PhilosophersNotes and 50+ hour-long masterclasses on all areas of a flourishing life. #timemanagement #productivity #willpower #touchitonce #wisdom #morewisdominlesstime #personaldevelopment #heroic

Roy Baumeister (infamous willpower psychologist + NYT bestseller) ​is one of the world's most prolific and influential psychologists. He has published 700-plus scientific works, including more than 40 books, and has received the highest award given by the Association for Psychological Science for his lifetime achievements. He is the guy who coined the term “negativity bias” and “decision fatigue”, and writes about why we do stupid things, the psychology of heartbreak and S&M.​ ​Roy also, somewhat notoriously, wrote the book Willpower, which saw life-hackers worldwide take up morning routines and inspired Barack Obama to wear the same two suits for the entirety of his presidency. In this episode Roy, who'd been based out of Queensland until the pandemic took him back to the States, talks ​about ​all of the above and how it feeds into chocolate, radishes and the economic power of the female orgasm…and the tragedy of ​​male sex drive.If you want to catch up on the episode with Joseph Henrich talking about the WEIRD phenomenon of psychological studies, here it is.Read the Pew Research​ ​about young people having less sex​.​Buy Willpower: Rediscovering Our Greatest Strength​You can follow Roy Baumeister's work​ here.If you need to know a bit more about me… head to my "about" pageSubscribe to my Substack newsletter for more such conversationGet your copy of my book, This One Wild and Precious LifeLet's connect on Instagram! It's where I interact the most Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On today's episode, Charlie clarifies why making resolutions practically guarantees failure. Listen as Charlie quotes a study by Roy Baumeister, a researcher at Florida State University. Roy tested student's discipline muscle by tempting them with fresh baked chocolate chip cookies and radishes- the results were fascinating. Charlie discusses how: -If your brain would have known how to reach the goal, it would have done so already -Creating a resolution forces you to rely heavily on your discipline muscle, but what happens when the discipline is used up? -Setting a resolution forces you to shut down who you really are -Adopting the behaviors of who you want to be is like a ticking time bomb So what are we supposed to do? Join us in the next episode to find out! ______ Thanks for listening, sharing, tagging, and reviewing! Share your comments with us on our social platforms- we love hearing your feedback. To join our Insider's Community, go to charlieharary.com/insiders To get this full series all in one place, go to YouTube This podcast has been graciously sponsored by JewishPodcasts.fm. There is much overhead to maintain this service so please help us continue our goal of helping Jewish lecturers become podcasters and support us with a donation: https://thechesedfund.com/jewishpodcasts/donate

This is one of my occasional Patreon/Substack exclusive episodes. You can find our entire conversation there: https://open.substack.com/pub/alexkaschuta/p/roy-baumeister-no-escape-from-human https://www.patreon.com/posts/roy-baumeister-78301174 We speak about the replication crisis, particularly in psychology, men and women and their tensions in the workplace and beyond, the problem of evil, low infant mortality, low war casualties, his sexual economics theory, the self and how we perceive it, and much more. Roy F. Baumeister is a social psychologist, the author and co-author of many books, among them “Willpower,” “The Power of Bad,” “Is There Anything Good About Men?” and his latest, “The Self Explained.” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/aksubversive/message

In this MOJO Minute, we capture our last nugget of wisdom from  Roy Baumeister and John Tierney and their spectacular  2011 book, Willpower:   Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength but it is in fact, our most important nugget of wisdom!Key Points from the Episode:Eric Clapton shares his story on losing his sonWe are ALL pilgrims along our progress toward the Celestial CityShiny Bright Lines can act as a sword to slay your dragons of vice Other resources:More goodnessGet our top book recommendations listWant to leave a review? Click here, and if we earned a five-star review from you **high five and knuckle bumps**, we appreciate it greatly, thank you so much!Because we care what you think about what we think and our website, please email David@teammojoacademy.com, or if you want to leave us a quick FREE, painless voicemail, we would appreciate that as well.Be sure to check out our very affordable Academy Review membership program at http:www.teammojoacademy.com/support

Roy Baumeister wrote a book called Willpower: Rediscovering Our Greatest Strength and he is one of the world's leading experts on the study and science of willpower. He tells us that people who use their willpower the most intelligently are the people who have figured out how temptation plays into their willpower.   Roy explains that the wise among us play offense with their willpower and not defense.   And example of this that is given in the book is to ‘buy your willpower at the store.' Essentially, it is easier to choose not to toss those cookies and candies in your cart than it is to refuse eating them at home. I mean, who wants to waste food, right?   In today's episode, Coach Ashlie Walton and Detective Walton break down ways that we can induce healthy temptations and what we should all be thinking about when it comes to our own willpower and discipline practice.   ⩥ PLEASE SUBSCRIBE TO OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL ⩤ https://bi3xbvVont.ly/   CLICK HERE for our best-selling products: https://amzn.to/3xaG3xw and https://rdbl.co/3DIQVUC   CLICK HERE to join our free Police, Fire, Military and Families Facebook Group: https://bit.ly/38w2e7r   Check out our website and learn more about how you can work with LEO Warriors by going to: https://www.leowarriors.com/   Like what you hear? We are honored. Drop a review and subscribe to our show.    The Tactical Living Podcast is owned by LEO Warriors, LLC. None of the content presented may be copied, repurposed or used without the owner's prior consent.   For PR, speaking requests and other networking opportunities, contact LEO Warriors:   EMAIL: ashliewalton555@gmail.com.   ADDRESS: P.O. Box 400115 Hesperia, Ca. 92340   ASHLIE'S FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement   ➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤➤ This episode is NOT sponsored. Some product links are affiliate links which means if you buy something by clicking on one of our links, we'll receive a small commission.

MM#205 we continue with Roy Baumeister and John Tierney and their spectacular  2011 book, Willpower:   Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength Key Points from the Episode:The mystery science experimentHuman nature, college exams and unhealthy habitsStress diminishes your ability to control your emotions which results in depleting willpowerOther resources:More goodnessGet our top book recommendations listWant to leave a review? Click here, and if we earned a five-star review from you **high five and knuckle bumps**, we appreciate it greatly, thank you so much!Because we care what you think about what we think and our website, please email David@teammojoacademy.com, or if you want to leave us a quick FREE, painless voicemail, we would appreciate that as well.Be sure to check out our very affordable Academy Review membership program at http:www.teammojoacademy.com/support

MM#204 brings us to the center of things and how we understand Willpower.Our guide will be Roy Baumeister and John Tierney and their vaunted 2011 book, Willpower:   Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength Key Points from the Episode:Why is Willpower at the center of things?How to gain Willpower?How to fuel Willpower and get more of it?Other resources:More goodnessGet our top book recommendations listWant to leave a review? Click here, and if we earned a five-star review from you **high five and knuckle bumps**, we appreciate it greatly, thank you so much!Because we care what you think about what we think and our website, please email David@teammojoacademy.com, or if you want to leave us a quick FREE, painless voicemail, we would appreciate that as well.Be sure to check out our very affordable Academy Review membership program at http:www.teammojoacademy.com/support

Male coalitions tend to denigrate and exclude effeminate men, because they perceive them as physically weak liabilities - argue Bo Winegard, Tania Reynolds, Roy Baumeister, and E. Ashby Plant. Homophobia does not stem from sexual disgust, but low value in combat! In this podcast, I briefly discuss a new paper, which you can read here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1NsirLukIjimuuNc4-S0sir3N6a4wVlbN/view

Today's podcast is titled, “Cultural and Personal Meanings of the Holidays.” Atwood Gaines, Professor of Anthropology, Don Freedheim, Professor of Psychology, Roy Baumeister, Professor of the Liberal Arts, and Jetse Sprey, Professor of Sociology, Case Western Reserve University discuss the cultural and personal meaning of the holidays. Listen now, and don't forget to subscribe to get updates each week for the Free To Choose Media Podcast.

We all know that self-control is important, but few of us know how to actually develop it. Joe De Sena, founder & CEO of Spartan, asks Professor Roy Baumeister, an expert in the field of self-control, how to build this essential muscle. Self-control or willpower - is about habit-forming and setting yourself up for success. Professor Baumeister's advice is simple but effective: start small, set goals, and be consistent. By following his advice, you can develop the self-control you need to achieve your goals. Professor Roy Baumeister is a world-renowned psychologist who has spent his career researching self-control. In his work, he has found that self-control functions like a muscle - the more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes. This research has profound implications for our understanding of human behavior, and can help us all to live better, more productive lives. Here are the steps you need to follow to also get self-control and discipline.: Do something hard every day to exercise your self-control muscle Keep track of your progress and reward yourself for meeting goals Make your goals public to add social pressure and accountability "Self-control works like a muscle. So if you exercise it, it gradually gets stronger, and it's sort of one basic muscle that you use for everything."   LINKS: “Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength” https://amzn.to/3EWHfrO Prof. Baumeister's work https://roybaumeister.com/   Joe De Sena & Spartan “10 Rules for Resilience” by Joe De Sena https://amzn.to/3TlpeaR Spartan Up podcast https://podfollow.com/spartan Spartan Up podcast on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/SpartanUpPodcast Joe De Sena on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/realjoedesena/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SpartanUpPodcast Twitter: https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod Website: https://www.spartan.com/   SPONSORS: Spartan Up podcast is brought to you by Wild Health www.wildhealth.com Wondering which diet is right for you? What your optimal recovery routine is? How your sleep impacts performance? Wild Health will help you uncover all the answers to your health questions with a fully personalized, precision health plan, based on your DNA & bloodwork. Discover your truth - sign up at wildhealth.com with code SPARTAN10 for 10% off.  HEROIC Activate the best most energized productive and connected version of yourself with heroic the official wellness app of Spartan learn more to get started with your free Spartan starter pack at heroic.us/spartan This episode of Spartan Up is brought to you by the EXOGEN ultrasound bone healing system. EXOGEN is a non-invasive treatment option that can help heal your broken bone in just 20 minutes a day in the comfort of your own home. If you or a loved one has broken a bone, talk to your doctor about EXOGEN. EXOGEN is indicated for the healing of nonunion fractures and for accelerating the healing of certain acute fractures, with no known contraindications. To learn more visit https://www.exogen.com/us/SPARTAN/ CREDITS: Host: Joe De Sena Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion.com © 2022 Spartan  

Walking away is never easy. Whether it's quitting a job, a relationship or an expedition to the peak of Mount Everest, we have a real problem with knowing when to stop. And ironically, when we do quit, we often wish we'd done it earlier. So why do we find it so difficult to quit? Annie Duke addresses the psychological reasons that prevent us from quitting, and how we can overcome them.    Annie needs little introduction to the Behavioral Grooves Podcast as she is now the only guest to have been on the show 4 times! Most people know of her as a poker champion and bestselling author but we are lucky enough to call her a friend. One of the reasons we are so fond of Annie is her ability to use relatable stories to explain the complex concepts around decision making. She has emerged as one of the leading thinkers in the field, and is truly an intellectual powerhouse. So we are thrilled to be talking to Annie about her excellent new book, “Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away”.   We don't like ambiguity. We don't like uncertainty. We keep chugging along, trying to accrue more certainty. So that we know that it's the right decision....As Richard Thaler, Nobel laureate said to me; “the only time that we were really willing to quit is when it's not a decision anymore.” ~ Annie Duke, Episode 323   In this episode, Annie touches on key themes around quitting. We talk about the reasons we find quitting so difficult, why mantras like “quit while you're ahead” are complete bunkum, and what techniques we can use to ensure we quit at the right time. Annie also sets the record straight on the myth that grit and quitting are opposite sides of the same coin. The concepts actually overlap.   We hope you enjoy this episode (and didn't quit!). To help others find our podcast content, we would be grateful if you would write us a quick review on your podcast player. It helps us get noticed by other folk who are interested in podcasts about behavioral science. Thank you, and we appreciate your help.   Topics (5:36) Annie's story of quitting and her personal frustration. (12:39) Grit and quit are NOT polar opposites. (22:53) What are some of the psychological aspects that make quitting hard? (36:31) What is the difference between loss aversion and sure loss aversion? (42:29) Why we shouldn't quit while we're ahead. (49:10) Gut feel vs rational decisions. (53:29) What Mount Everest can teach us about when to quit. (1:03:36) The second way to help you quit – a quitting coach. (1:10:44) The backstory of Barry Staw. (1:20:40) Grooving Session with Tim and Kurt about quitting.   © 2022 Behavioral Grooves   Links Annie Duke's Books: “Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away”: https://amzn.to/3z47JEP  “Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don't Have All the Facts”: https://amzn.to/3Vvaick    Angela Duckworth book, “Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance”: https://amzn.to/3ECSLsS  Episode 107, Rory Sutherland: The Opposite of a Good Idea is a Good Idea: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/rory-sutherland-the-opposite-of-a-good-idea-is-a-good-idea/  Maya Shankar: A Slight Change Of Plans Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-slight-change-of-plans/id1561860622  Episode 310, Why You Can't Find a Cab When It's Raining – Groove Track: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/why-you-cant-find-cabs-in-the-rain/  Barry Staw: https://haas.berkeley.edu/faculty/staw-barry/  Episode 277, No Regrets? Really? Why Regrets Actually Bring Us Hope | Daniel H. Pink: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/why-regrets-bring-us-hope/  Episode 171, Self Control, Belonging, and Why Your Most Dedicated Employees Are the Ones To Watch Out For with Roy Baumeister: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/self-control-belonging-and-why-your-most-dedicated-employees-are-the-ones-to-watch-out-for-with-roy-baumeister/   

Carmine Gallo uncovers the communication secrets of masters like Jeff Bezos that help you write more clearly and concisely. — YOU'LL LEARN — 1) The basic grammar lesson that makes all the difference 2) The easiest way to simplify complexity 3) How a single sentence makes your data more impactful Subscribe or visit AwesomeAtYourJob.com/ep803 for clickable versions of the links below. — ABOUT CARMINE — Carmine Gallo is a Harvard instructor and program leader in executive education at the prestigious Harvard Graduate School of Design. A “communications guru,” according to Publishers Weekly, Carmine coaches CEOs and leaders for the world's most admired brands.Carmine's bestselling books, including Talk Like TED, The Presentation Secrets of Steve Jobs, and The Bezos Blueprint, have been translated into more than 40 languages. His latest, The Bezos Blueprint reveals the communication strategies that fueled Amazon's success and that help people build their careers.Carmine is one of the most influential voices in communication, business, and leadership and has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, and Success Magazine and on MSNBC, CNBC, CNN, and ABC's 20/20. He has built a global reputation for transforming leaders into powerful storytellers and communicators.• Book: The Bezos Blueprint: Communication Secrets of the World's Greatest Salesman• Book: Talk Like TED: The 9 Public-Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds• Book: The Presentation Secrets of Steve Jobs: How to Be Insanely Great in Front of Any Audience• Article: “How The First 15 Minutes Of Amazon's Leadership Meetings Spark Great Ideas And Better Conversations”• Website: CarmineGallo.com• LinkedIn: Carmine Gallo— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — • Study: “Bad is Stronger than Good” by Roy Baumeister, Ellen Bratslavsky, Catrin Finkenauer, Kathleen D. Vohs• Book: Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman• Book: Leadership: In Turbulent Times by Doris Kearns Goodwin• Past episode: 771: How to Own Your Career and Build Your Dream Job with Ann HiattSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shit Grows Flowers - Our Road of Trials “When people put you down enough you start to believe it.  The bad stuff is always easier to believe, you ever notice that?” Line from Pretty Woman Theresa & Sherry talk a good deal about finding balance, not negating one experience or energy for another, rather finding ways for synthesis, cooperation and resolution.  This is true even when things feel shitty.  The practices they offer are intended to be used as tools to meet adversity, not avoid it (this is a toxic-positivity-free zone).  While the practices are not prescriptive, (if you use them, you will heal XYZ), with consistency, they may help develop new neural pathways, allowing for a sense of calm to replace agitation.  This is not typically an immediate gratification proposition, changes may be subtle and crescendo over time. Theresa refers to a study using reward & punishment and how those who began with abundance & were faced with things being taken away, learned better than the group who had to earn each item from the start. How to Overcome Your Brain's Fixation on Bad Things - The Power of Bad: How the Negativity Effect Rules Us and How We Can Rule It, co-authored by social psychologist Roy Baumeister and New York Times writer John Tierney,:  https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_overcome_your_brains_fixation_on_bad_things (https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_overcome_your_brains_fixation_on_bad_things) In the discussion about Love Languages, it may be useful to understand the ways in which you express & receive love when learning to communicate with friends & partners.  Sherry points out that we can be more than one thing at any given time. People do reflect our nature back to us (for better, worse and everything in between), revealing possible landmarks for inspiration, healing & growth. Takeaways: Negativity Bias - Why is it easier to believe the bad stuff? Gifts of trials – timing of recognition and action (what & when to say and do) – importance of practices to help us move through trials as they arise, without avoiding them. What is our language of helping?  Is it helpful?  How can we use language that will actually help (sometimes it's not what, but when).  Value of deep & active listening – reading the room Getting beyond the bad stuff!  Permission to heal your own wounds. 5 Love Languages: Words of affirmation Quality time Receiving gifts Acts of service Physical touch Buffy Barfoot – Podcast, Things that will Help (ITunes):  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/things-that-will-help/id1509015381 (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/things-that-will-help/id1509015381) The surprising benefit of going through difficult times:  https://www.uwhealth.org/news/surprising-benefit-going-through-difficult-times (https://www.uwhealth.org/news/surprising-benefit-going-through-difficult-times) The Bad Stuff is easier to believe – Maybe – but does it help us grow?  https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/bad-stuff-easier-believe-maybe-does-help-us-grow-patrice-thornton/ (https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/bad-stuff-easier-believe-maybe-does-help-us-grow-patrice-thornton/) *** Anecdotal Anatomy's Amazing Team: http://www.tobereel.com/ (Judith George) - Editor (video & audio) https://www.keithkenny.com/ (Keith Kenny) - Music http://cindyfatsis.com/ (Cindy Fatsis) - Photography

Shankar Vedantam is the host of the wildly popular podcast, Hidden Brain and esteemed author of the book Useful Delusions: The Power and Paradox of the Self-Deceiving Brain. We initially interviewed Shankar in mid 2021 but want to highlight this discussion for you again as it is one we still discuss in more recent episodes. Before reading Shankar's book and interviewing him for this podcast we were, as Shankar describes himself, card-carrying rationalists. We were firmly in the camp of believing rational, scientific findings and believing that lies and deception are harmful to ourselves and to our communities. However, Shankar walks us through a compelling argument, that paradoxically, self-deception actually plays a pivotal role in our happiness and well-being. In our discussion with Shankar we cover: (6:38) Speed round questions. (11:04) The difference between self delusions being useful and being harmful. (16:23) How nations are a delusional construct. (23:00) Awareness of self-delusions and how daily gratitudes can shift our perspective of the world.  (25:56) Shankar's personal story of delusional thinking.  (29:58) The role emotions play in our mood and delusions. (35:23) How avoidance of delusional thinking is a sign of privilege. (37:30) Why our perceptions play an important role in understanding delusions. (44:36) Shankar's unique approach to conspiracy theories. (52:28) What music Shankar has been listening to during COVID. (52:15) Grooving Session and Bonus Track with Kurt and Tim. We really hope you find Shankar's unique insight on how delusions are useful as compelling as we did. If you're a regular Behavioral Grooves listener, please consider supporting us through Patreon. Thank you!  © 2022 Behavioral Grooves   Books  Useful Delusions: The Power and Paradox of the Self-Deceiving Brain https://amzn.to/2PUkzlv  The Hidden Brain: How Our Unconscious Minds Elect Presidents, Control Markets, Wage Wars and Save Our Lives https://amzn.to/3e1qgWY Links Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment by Kahneman, Sibony and Sunstein, 2021 https://amzn.to/3heyr5r  Richard Dawkins https://richarddawkins.net/  Mahabharata https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mahabharata  Lake Wobegon Effect https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lake_Wobegon    Other Episodes We Talk About The Myth of the “Relationship Spark” with Logan Ury (featuring a guest appearance by Christina Gravert, PhD): https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/the-myth-of-the-relationship-spark-with-logan-ury-featuring-a-guest-appearance-by-christina-gravert-phd/ Robert Cialdini, PhD: Littering, Egoism and Aretha Franklin: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/robert-cialdini-phd-littering-egoism-and-aretha-franklin/  Self Control, Belonging, and Why Your Most Dedicated Employees Are the Ones To Watch Out For with Roy Baumeister: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/self-control-belonging-and-why-your-most-dedicated-employees-are-the-ones-to-watch-out-for-with-roy-baumeister/ George Loewenstein: On a Functional Theory of Boredom: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/george-loewenstein-on-a-functional-theory-of-boredom/ Gary Latham, PhD: Goal Setting, Prompts, Priming, and Skepticism: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/gary-latham-phd-goal-setting-prompts-priming-and-skepticism/ John Bargh: Dante, Coffee and the Unconscious Mind: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/john-bargh-dante-coffee-and-the-unconscious-mind/ Linda Thunstrom: Are Thoughts and Prayers Empty Gestures to Suffering Disaster Victims? https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/linda-thunstrom-are-thoughts-and-prayers-empty-gestures-to-suffering-disaster-victims/ 

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