Podcast appearances and mentions of Kate Bornstein

About 20 years ago, Kate Bornstein wrote Hello, Cruel World to give people permission to stay alive in a world that makes that feel impossible.Today, that world is trying even harder to crush anyone who lives outside the binary—trans, queer, disabled, neurodivergent, or just too free for a system built on control.Attacks on trans rights aren't just about gender—they're a strategy to dismantle all core freedoms: privacy, bodily autonomy, parental rights, healthcare, education, and safety.Trans people are being scapegoated to erase rights for everyone, starting with the most vulnerable.So what do we do?Today, Kate Bornstein, performance artist, author, and trans tech pioneer, returns with a revised edition of Hello, Cruel World: 101+ Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws. With 20 new alternatives full of sass, warmth, and joy, Kate reminds us: survival is a radical act—and staying alive, in all your glorious weirdness, is the first step toward building a future where we all belong.Plus: why love is the ultimate anti-aging drug—and a reflection on the people who helped us make it this far.FEATURED BOOK: Hello, Cruel World: 101+ Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other OutlawsBuy it on Amazon: amzn.to/4jB1tsSSAVE THE FEAST OF FUN PODCAST, donate $1: gofundme.com/feastoffun20 FOLLOW US ON INSTAGRAM:★ instagram.com/dankkass★ instagram.com/faustofernos★ instagram.com/marcfelionQuick heads-up: this episode contains discussions around suicide, self-harm, and mental health. While we approach these topics with care, honesty, and even humor, we understand they may be difficult or triggering for some listeners.Please take care of yourself in whatever way you need—and know that you're not alone. If you need support, you can always call or text the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing the number 988, they're there 24/7 ready to help. 

Description: In this special episode, we welcome Barnard College professor and accomplished author, Jennifer Finney Boylan, back to the show to discuss her latest labor of love, her book Cleavage, which examines the divisions – as well as the common ground – between the genders, and reflects on her experiences, both difficult and joyful, as a transgender American. Jenny discusses the importance that things like nuance,imagination, patience, empathy and understanding hold in our divided world, reflecting on her experiences as a transgender woman and noting that for many, “living your best life is not necessarily a political decision, but a matter of life and death.” The ultimate thing she wants, Jenny says, is just to be left alone, to live her life and to be free. Segments Bless & Release: Gender stereotypes *** Thought-provoking Quotes: Conversations about trans-women in sports are complicated and demand nuance, patience, and imagination. For us to be defined by the most difficult and controversial aspects of our existence is really unfair. – Jennifer Finney Boylan I'm not a woman with an asterisk. At 66 ½ years old, my life has a lot more in common with other women my age than you would think. My life does not revolve around me trying to sneak into your daughter's soccer game. My life revolves around my family, and reading, and teaching my students, and working in the garden, and things that I hope would seem very familiar to people. – Jennifer Finney Boylan These are hard times. But we do know that hard times come and hard times go. And, whatever this moment is, is not forever. Although I can't underestimate exactly how hard it is to be singled out by the President of the United States as a person who specifically is not deserving of love or respect or basic human kindness. – Jennifer Finney Boylan Nobody goes from male to female in hopes of getting a better deal. – Jennifer Finney Boylan I hope people will pick up and read Cleavage not because they want to understand more about the trans business but because they want to know what sorts of choices people can make when they feel that the world is against them and there is no room for them. I have found, against all odds, that there is room for me, that I have been loved, and, on a good day, the world is full of joy and humor. – Jennifer Finney Boylan Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Cleavage: Men, Women, and the Space Between Us by Jennifer Finney Boylan  Mad Honey: A GMA Book Club Pick: A Novel by Jennifer Finney Boylan Roxane Gay She's Not There: A Life in Two Genders by Jennifer Finney Boylan Jennifer Finney Boylan's New York Times articles - https://www.nytimes.com/column/jennifer-finney-boylan I Am Cait (Caitlin Jenner Show) - https://tv.apple.com/us/show/i-am-cait/umc.cmc.38b55qpveo4xdxypnk03xfvmp Torrey Peters - https://www.torreypeters.com/ Kate Bornstein - http://katebornstein.com/ Trans Bodies Trans Selves: a Resource Guide for the Transgender Community - http://transbodies.com/ John Barth - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Barth Ben Hatmaker's marathon post - https://www.instagram.com/p/DGI6wt2OyBL/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Cleavage Tour Schedule - https://us.macmillan.com/tours/jennifer-finney-boylan-cleavage/ Guest's Links: Jenny's website - https://jenniferboylan.net/  Jenny's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jenniferfinneyboylan Jenny's Twitter - https://x.com/JennyBoylan Jenny's Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/JenniferFinneyBoylan/ Jenny's Medium - https://medium.com/@jennyboylan_97964  Connect with Jen! Jen's website - https://jenhatmaker.com/ Jen's Instagram - https://instagram.com/jenhatmaker Jen's Twitter - https://twitter.com/jenHatmaker/ Jen's Facebook - https://facebook.com/jenhatmaker Jen's YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/user/JenHatmaker The For the Love Podcast is presented by Audacy. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Please join us for episode fifty-five of Open Deeply as our guest, sex ed icon, Barbara Carrellas joins us to proclaim that ecstasy is everywhere, it has profound gifts to give you, and it's necessary. The episode is filled with her personal journey with ecstasy along with how and why it became her personal calling, a passion that has spanned decades and has brought ecstatic gifts to all who have attended her trainings or read her books. Sadly, most people don't even understand what ecstasy is or their view is incredibly limited. The reality is that ecstasy is expansive and accessible to you. Furthermore, ecstasy is found in unexpected places, such as on the other side of great suffering or soul wrenching emotion. We explore this phenomenon and why it occurs. By the end of this episode, you will have a better understanding of how to access ecstasy in your life along with the plethora of ways that it might manifest. We hope you join us again as we dare to Open Deeply. Barbara's Bio: Barbara Carrellas is an author, artist, innovator, instigator and thought leader in the fields of sex, gender and spirit. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra® an approach to sacred sexuality that adapts and blends a wide variety of conscious sexuality practices from Tantra to BDSM—and the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program. Barbara's pioneering workshops were named best in New York City by TimeOut/New York magazine. In 2016 she was awarded a Sexual Freedom Award for Lifetime Achievement. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure. She is also a university lecturer, motivational speaker and theater artist. Barbara has lectured at many educational institutions, including Harvard, the Chicago Art Institute and Yale. She frequently collaborates with her partner, Kate Bornstein, with whom she performs and tours their sex positive, gender-bending lecture/performance piece There And Back Again: An Epic Tale of Sex, Death, and Gender. Finally, she is no stranger to tv and film. Here are just a few examples. Barbara taught Caitlyn Jenner and friends how to have gender-free orgasms on the E! reality series I Am Cait. She has also appeared in the HBO television series Real Sex, and on Britain's Sky Channel as part of the documentary, Sex in America. Whew! And this is the abbreviated bio. Truly, Barbara is a force of nature. How to find Barbara: barbaracarrellas.com/ Facebook: BarbaraCarrellasUrbanTantra Threads & Twitter/X: Urbantantrika Instagram: Urbantantrika How to find Sunny Megatron: Website: http://sunnymegatron.com Facebook http://facebook.com/sunnymegatron Twitter http://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Instagram http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron YouTube https://www.youtube.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2HroMhWJnyZbMSsOBKwBnk How to find Kate Loree: Website http://kateloree.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kateloreelmft Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft YouTube https://youtube.com/channel/UCSTFAqGYKW3sIUa0tKivbqQ Open Deeply podcast is not therapy or a replacement for therapy.

Seth Michael Donsky is one of the International Screenwriters' Association's top 25 writers to watch in 2024. He is a 2023 recipient of the ISA's Diversity Initiative award and on the ISA's distinguished development slate. His feature screenplay Stardusk, about the life of transgender Andy Warhol Superstar Candy Darling is in pre-production with the Oscar-award winning producer Bruce Cohen. He is also adapting Kate Bornstein's A Queer and Pleasant Danger (Beacon Press) and Lauren Roedy Vaughn's OCD, The Dude and Me (Penguin Group) (Dial Press) for the screen. A Queer and Pleasant Danger advanced in consideration for the Nicholl Fellowships in Screenwriting and The Sundance Lab. His feature screenplay Grit N' Glitter, the story of Allan Carr producing La Cage aux Folles (musical) on Broadway during the HIV/AIDS in the United States was one of five finalists for the Enderby Entertainment Award in the 2018 Austin Film Festival for screenplays with a unique voice and distinct vision. The finalists were selected by Rick Dugdale, Donald Petrie and Daniel Petrie, Jr. of Enderby Entertainment. It also placed in the Nicholl Fellowships in Screenwriting. He holds an MFA in Film from Columbia University School of the Arts where he twice received the Dean's Fellowship, Columbia School of the Arts highest merit-based recognition. He wrote and directed the short film Loopy as his thesis film for graduation from Columbia. His feature film debut Twisted (1996 film), which he wrote and directed, was produced towards the tail end of the New Queer Cinema. https://www.instagram.com/seth_michael_donsky/ https://x.com/donsquixote Connect with your host Kaia all Alexander: https://entertainmentbusinessleague.com/ https://twitter.com/thisiskaia  Produced by Stuart W. Volkow P.G.A. Get career training and a free ebook “How to Pitch Anything in 1 Min.” at www.EntertainmentBusinessLeague.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Finding Your Bliss, Celebrity Interviewer and Bliss Coach Judy Librach is joined by acclaimed TV and radio hosts Cynthia Loyst and Josie Dye to talk about their podcast "Cynthia and Josie

The world is in crisis: climate change, pandemics, inflation and on top of all that, we're about to face our greatest threat, the rise of the machines through Artificial Intelligence.There's little doubt that AI will wreck a lot of industries, but is our collective anxiety overblown from watching too many sci-fi movies?Today Kate Bornstein: author, actor, performance artist, and advocate for teens, freaks & other outlaws joins us to look at the terrifying, hilarious and exciting new frontier of artificial intelligence and how it stands to change our world forever.KATE BORNSTEIN:https://twitter.com/katebornsteinPlus-➤ Justine Bateman says the Hollywood writers' strike is a battle not just over the future of creatives but humanity's soul.➤ What do AI's and LGBTQ+ people share in common?➤ Kate Bornstein shares with us a magical story about three chickens who discover gender in four dimensions.Episode #3078

This interview is way over due. I had the glorious pleasure of sitting down on zoom with my friend Kate Bornstien last summer and then I couldn't find the interview. My deep apology to Kate for taking so long to get this interview out. So much has changed and happened since we talked. Kate Bornstien is the pioneer of pioneers. She has been on the leading edge of the gender conversation since the early 90's when her book "Gender Outlaw" came out. While this book may be a little dated, it is still a leading edge conversation and challenge to gender roles and the concept of gender itself. Her contribution to the gender queer community cannot be overstated. Kate is a personal hero to me and to many of my friends who were inspired and gifted her work as we were struggling to come out. She is a gift to our community and I am so blessed to know her. Please welcome to the show Kate Bornstein.  Check out what Kate is up to here: http://katebornstein.com

In the first in our Queer Voices series we talk with queer legend, writer and performer Kate Bornstein. We set off talking about Hope, flow through ideas of gender expression and authenticity, the nature of being authentic. If Hope and Fear are a binary, or can co-exist in a moment. We enter the realms of superheroes and secret identities, why Batman is an Elon Musk wank fantasy, and why Neil Gaiman's Endless are perfection as a theology to lean into. We land on queer joy as the connected reflections of our authentic selves, making our hearts sing! Queer joy may also have a Freddie Mercury moustache and a purple leopard print corset and heels! We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 53 Transcript Your Get out of Hell free card GetOutofHellFree.jpeg Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicatedGive us feedback - we're on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we'd love to connect with you about queer hope and authenticity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Neither trans-exclusionary nor a radical feminist, philosopher and author Kathleen Stock has been branded a TERF and harassed out of her university, while simultaneously gaining recognition as one of world's top thinkers. That's because she thinks deeply and critically, and tells the truth. Whether it's Corinna's comparison of transgenderism with transracialism, or Nina's assertion that right-on lefty dudes are misogynists, Stock has heard, and thought about, it all — and has eloquent responses. We discuss immersion in legal and cultural fictions, “bullshit theories of womanhood,” DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim & Offender), child transition, online disembodiment, pronouns, “massive edifice(s) of bullshit,” women being terrible to women, and cowardice, especially in academia. Links: Kathleen Stock's Substack: https://kathleenstock.substack.com/ Kathleen Stock's website: https://kathleenstock.com/ Kathleen Stock on Twitter: https://twitter.com/Docstockk Material Girls: https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/kathleen-stock/material-girls/9780349726595/ Kate Bornstein episode: https://www.heterodorx.com/podcast/episode-72-auntie-kate-uncle-nina-and-mx-cohn-with-kate-bornstein/ Lyell Asher episode: https://www.heterodorx.com/podcast/episode-67-an-education-on-education-with-dr-lyell-asher/ University of Austin: https://www.uaustin.org/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/heterodorx/support

Author and gender theorist Kate Bornstein identifies as a “tranny” and “dyke,” and is male according to Nina, whom he identifies as a “sex fundamentalist” and “butch lesbian.” We disagree in better-than-good, possibly-excellent faith, about pronouns, respect, sex, gender, and atheism, while agreeing about keeping males out of female prisons, the trap of identity, and how to behave in church. A fun conversation with plenty for listeners to disagree with, too! Kate Bornstein: http://katebornstein.com/ Anne Fausto-Sterling, Sexologist: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anne_Fausto-Sterling A response to Anne-Fausto-Sterling (among many): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12476264/ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/heterodorx/support

This week on Finding Your Bliss, we have a special Encore Presentation of a show devoted to love, romance, and lighting a fire in your relationship. Life Coach and Bliss Expert Judy Librach is joined by our Celebrity Guest Cynthia Loyst, co-host of the daytime TV talk show "The Social" on CTV. A sex educator and author, Cynthia Loyst shows women how to get to the heart of what they need and want in her book "Find Your Pleasure." Since 2013, Cynthia has been a co-host on the popular national television show "The Social" and has had the pleasure to interview a wide variety of fascinating people, such as Ryan Reynolds, Emma Thompson, Hugh Jackman, Lena Dunham, Kate Bornstein, Sapphire, Vivica A.Fox, Jenna Lyons, and Rod Stewart, just to name a few. Prior to that she was a producer and writer on a variety of productions and was nominated for several awards for her work on the documentary series SexTV. Her book,

Well 2022 has been a right nightmare already!! This time we talk (in Dr J's case very excitedly) about the words we need to hear and what it means to hear them. Dr J has four things they always wanted to hear - and by saying them to another person - they get to also hear them for themselves:- I am proud of you- I love you- I think you are an amazing person- I can't wait to see your brilliant future Josephine reflects what it means to hear these things - especially when you are struggling with recovery from post-covid fatigue and trying to work full time, teaching, write a PhD, have a life with her partner and child, and editing this podcast. Spending all their spare energy worrying about what they have not been able to do they needed to hear that they are worth spending energy on. We are resilient and powerful and have coping mechanisms that protect us. Our hypercritical voice overwhelms the outside voices and the negative voice grinds you down, and you get exhausted and they gain more power.Coping mechanisms include shedding the skins of old selves, old ways of coping, and putting these aside and looking at what behaviours we do now. In the past help was not there, and we needed to get through, so we found ways. High standards and hypervigilance got us here, and might not be what gets us through now. We feel stressed and worried, our brain isolates us further and we forget we are not alone. We loose our connection with external voices and our ability to hear and engage with them. When we reach out, connect and are heard it is powerful. We start to connect to reality, we heal, and we get into better spaces.We want to tell you lovely young queers - hey, it sucks, and I'm sorry you have to cope the way you are right now. I really do hope you find yourself in a position where you don't have to cope with everything. It's not about you, it's about the culture and structures you are in, and your response to that is normal and natural. I am very proud of you, I am very excited to see what you do, and you are loved. And you are an amazing person.Dr J then raves about the wonderful “Hello cruel world” by Kate Bornstein https://g.co/kgs/m2fsSp - and will send you a copy if you need it if you DM them on Twitter. Earnestly expressing this, our want to make the world better for everyone is a good thing. Being there for you and for each other makes us feel really lovely things!Note: There are some sound issues with Josephine's recording - we decided the emotional content of the episode was worth putting out even if the sound wasn't up to our standards. We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 51 Transcript Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicatedGive us feedback - we're on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we'd love to connect with you about being present. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Okay, class. It's time for some (queer) sex ed. Today we're joined by sunshine in human form, AKA Eva Bloom (MSc)! Eva is a queer sex educator, content creator, and self-proclaimed research nerd. We dive into all our queer sex Qs, from toys to LDRs to self-pleasure. Eva gives some expert guidance for navigating sex as a baby gay, releasing sexual shame, and healing from compulsory heterosexuality. As a non-binary lesbian, Eva explains their relationship with labels and gender identity. Plus, a peek inside their super successful YouTube channel, What's My Body Doing!Resources we talked about on this episode:Eva's InstagramLinks to Eva's Live Event @ Glad Day, Comphet Support Group & MoreEva's YouTube ChannelEva's Program Wait ListBex Talks Sex (Trans Sex Educator)Tuck Malloy (Queer Non-Binary Sex Educator)Sexplanations: 120 Sex Acts (Video)The Best Lesbian Erotica AnthologyQueer Sex Ed Podcast Archive (Speaks to Trans Femme Experience)Honey Play Box Sex Toys (Use Code EVABLOOM For Discount)Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein

Listener Emma is early in her journey, and she writes in to ask for tips or reassurance.   Your first step on your trans* journey is always LEARNING as much as you can!  Emma is already right on track but there are great resources that can help. Check out My New Gender Workbook by the always amazing Kate Bornstein. Also, You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery by Dara Hoffman Fox.    Our episode Bringing Others In The Closet With You. Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards! Check out our website for our latest episodes!   Follow us on twitter for all our shower thoughts and other musings @TheGenderRebels  Like us on  FaceBook so we can haunt your feed.  

This week on Finding Your Bliss: a show devoted to love, romance, and lighting a fire in your relationship. Life Coach and Bliss Expert Judy Librach is joined by our Celebrity Guest Cynthia Loyst, co-host of the daytime TV talk show "The Social" on CTV. A sex educator and author, Cynthia Loyst shows women how to get to the heart of what they need and want in her book "Find Your Pleasure." Since 2013, Cynthia has been a co-host on the popular national television show "The Social" and has had the pleasure to interview a wide variety of fascinating people, such as Ryan Reynolds, Emma Thompson, Hugh Jackman, Lena Dunham, Kate Bornstein, Sapphire, Vivica A.Fox, Jenna Lyons, and Rod Stewart, just to name a few. Prior to that she was a producer and writer on a variety of productions and was nominated for several awards for her work on the documentary series SexTV. Her book,

This is a time machine!!!!!!! We're launching a new series on the podcast dedicated exclusively to the stories of LGBTQ+ elders. Over the last five years, it's the interviews with the oldest members of our community that have connected the most with our listeners. And that goes for me too. Speaking to people like Miss Major Griffin Gracy, Magora Kennedy, Cleve Jones, Charles Silverstein, and Tracey "Africa" Norman is where I've found the most inspiration. This Tuesday (3/1), we're kicking things off with Barbara Satin, a faith leader and 87-year-old trans woman from Minneapolis. If you have any suggestions for LGBTQ+ elders who have amazing stories that you think we should know about, shoot me a message. I'd love to hear about them. Here are links to the different voices heard in this episode: Mark Segal, Charles Silverstein, Ben Daniels (from The National Theatre in London's production of A Normal Heart), Miss Major Griffin-Gracy, and Kate Bornstein. LGBTQ&A is hosted by Jeffrey Masters and produced by The Advocate magazine, in partnership with GLAAD. Follow us on Twitter: @lgbtqpod

This month's special guest Micheal J. Morris joins Vanessa Montgomery to chat about all things Pisces, classic Pisces folks Kate Bornstein, Amanda Gorman, and Simone Biles, PLUS the new and full Moon, the Venus/Mars marathon conjunction, Venus enclosed by Mars and Saturn, Jupiter in Pisces, and this month's cosmic movements so you can plan your month ahead in alignment with the energies unfolding.Our featured nonprofit this month is TGIJP, the Transgender, Gender-Variant & Intersex Justice Project, is an advocacy and support organization for incarcerated and formerly incarcerated transgender, gender-variant, and intersex peopleTGIJP's work is so important because according to Lambda Legal, nearly 1 in 6 transgender people in the United States have already been to prison, and for Black transgender people, it is 1 in 2—which is the highest rate of incarceration for any demographic group in the country. Learn more and donate to their work today at http://www.tgijp.org/about-us.html

Working with Trans Clients: Trans Resilience and Gender Euphoria An interview with Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II, about how therapists can be better clinicians for trans people. Curt and Katie talk to Beck about gender identity (and why every therapist should do their own work around gender), historical perspectives on masculinity and femininity, the concepts of trans resilience and gender euphoria, the real problems with the DSM diagnosis of gender dysphoria and considerations for providing therapy to trans clients.  Interview with Beck Gee-Cohen MA CADC-II Director of LGBTQ+ Programming Beck is a master's level clinician with an undergraduate degree in Sociology with an emphasis on Gender & Sexuality and a master's degree in Addiction Counseling. Beck has worked in the mental health & substance use field for over 10 years in various capacities. The main focus of his work has been invested in the LGBTQ+ community, adolescents, and families. Over this decade, Beck has trained numerous facilities on LGBTQ+ best practices, has been a keynote and presenter at many conferences, and has facilitated workshops about LGBTQ+, trauma, adolescents, gender and sexuality. Beck is the Director of LGBTQ+ Programming at Visions Adolescent Treatment Center. This program is for young people at Visions who identify in the community, those who are questioning, and their families. It includes process groups, psychoeducation, and family programming with professionals specifically trained and experienced in the LGBTQ+ population and best practices. Alongside the already dynamic team at Visions Adolescent Treatment Center in Los Angeles, young LGBTQ+ people and their families will find a space that serves their specific needs in regards to healing and thriving. In this podcast episode we talk about trans mental health We invited Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II to come talk with us about providing therapy for trans individuals. Modern therapists need to keep learning when working with trans clients Getting pronouns correct is a basic expectation at this point Finding the balance between focusing on a client's trans identity and other elements of their identity and experience Understanding trans identity 101 is a basic level of knowledge that all therapists should have What you do need to learn from your trans clients Therapists need to do their own work around gender   The work that therapists must do around gender “Sexuality and gender should be discussed across the board for everyone” – Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II The role that society plays in defining gender and the binary The privilege cis folks have in not being asked to assess/address their gender “Women's” and “men's” issues Societal expectations related to gender The history of gender expression and how what is acceptable has shifted Cultural and generational differences related to gender   The Concept of Trans Resilience “I came out as an act of survival” – Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II The tendency to focus on the pain of being trans The bias and hate that trans folks face, and how they continue to show up The importance of celebrating who you are as a trans person “You're so brave” doesn't see the full picture How hard it is to show up – and what it means that trans folks continue to do so Moving away from just focusing on gender dysphoria versus looking at gender euphoria   Gender Dysphoria versus Gender Euphoria and the problems with the DSM “You don't have to hate yourself to be trans. That's actually a false narrative given to us by the DSM... I'm not dysphoric about my gender. Everyone else is dysphoric about my gender... so the gender dysphoria is actually internalized.” – Beck Gee-Cohen, MA CADC-II How the DSM is used for the medical needs of trans folks The problem with assigning the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria to an individual Internalized gender dysphoria (it is not my dysphoria, it is the dysphoria of the people around me about my gender) Playing around with gender shouldn't be a diagnosis, it is so culturally bound Trans individuals have to know what to report so they can get hormones (i.e., they may have to lie about being dysphoric in order to “check the boxes”) The problem with gatekeeping and the hope that trans folks being in work groups to help shift these guidelines   Better Therapy for Trans Clients Therapeutic alliance is the most important How therapists can appropriately use vulnerability when a client comes out as trans The likelihood of someone coming out initially versus after trust is built and how to handle it Sharing the therapeutic process and how you will learn and educate yourself The problem of signaling that you are capable of working with LGBTQ+ people when you are not trained Awareness of how being trans impacts the client in front of you When the client is coming into therapy due to their gender identity Understanding the back story and how someone identified that “something is different” Looking at what they want to do next (which may be very little or a full plan on how they handle being trans).   Our Generous Sponsor for this episode of the Modern Therapist's Survival Guide: Buying Time LLC Buying Time is a full team of Virtual Assistants, with a wide variety of skill sets to support your business. 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Book a consultation to see where and how you can get started getting the support you need - https://buyingtimellc.com/book-consultation/   Resources for Modern Therapists mentioned in this Podcast Episode: We've pulled together resources mentioned in this episode and put together some handy-dandy links. Please note that some of the links below may be affiliate links, so if you purchase after clicking below, we may get a little bit of cash in our pockets. We thank you in advance! Bgcbridge.com beck@bgcbridge.com Tiktok: transandtrying Tiktok: visionsteen WPATH – Standards of Care guidelines Alex Iantaffi: Gender Trauma and Life Isn't Binary My New Gender Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide to Achieving World Peace Through Gender Anarchy and Sex Positivity by Kate Bornstein Dara Hoffman-Fox: You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide Book Two Spirits, One Heart: A Mother, Her Transgender Son, and Their Journey to Love and Acceptance by Marsha Aizumi and Aiden Aizumi   Relevant Episodes of MTSG Podcast: Interview with Dr. Abigail Weissman: Vulnerability, The News, and You When is it Discrimination? Work Harder Than Your Clients   Who we are: Curt Widhalm, LMFT Curt Widhalm is in private practice in the Los Angeles area. He is the cofounder of the Therapy Reimagined conference, an Adjunct Professor at Pepperdine University and CSUN, a former Subject Matter Expert for the California Board of Behavioral Sciences, former CFO of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and a loving husband and father. He is 1/2 great person, 1/2 provocateur, and 1/2 geek, in that order. He dabbles in the dark art of making "dad jokes" and usually has a half-empty cup of coffee somewhere nearby. Learn more at: www.curtwidhalm.com Katie Vernoy, LMFT Katie Vernoy is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, coach, and consultant supporting leaders, visionaries, executives, and helping professionals to create sustainable careers. Katie, with Curt, has developed workshops and a conference, Therapy Reimagined, to support therapists navigating through the modern challenges of this profession. Katie is also a former President of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. In her spare time, Katie is secretly siphoning off Curt's youthful energy, so that she can take over the world. Learn more at: www.katievernoy.com A Quick Note: Our opinions are our own. We are only speaking for ourselves – except when we speak for each other, or over each other. We're working on it. Our guests are also only speaking for themselves and have their own opinions. We aren't trying to take their voice, and no one speaks for us either. Mostly because they don't want to, but hey. Stay in Touch with Curt, Katie, and the whole Therapy Reimagined #TherapyMovement: www.mtsgpodcast.com www.therapyreimagined.com https://www.facebook.com/therapyreimagined/ https://twitter.com/therapymovement https://www.instagram.com/therapyreimagined/ Consultation services with Curt Widhalm or Katie Vernoy: The Fifty-Minute Hour Connect with the Modern Therapist Community: Our Facebook Group – The Modern Therapists Group   Modern Therapist's Survival Guide Creative Credits: Voice Over by DW McCann https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/ Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano http://www.crystalmangano.com/   Transcript for this episode of the Modern Therapist's Survival Guide podcast (Autogenerated): Curt Widhalm  00:00 This episode of the modern therapist Survival Guide is sponsored by Buying Time.   Katie Vernoy  00:04 Buying time has a full team of virtual assistants with a wide variety of skill sets to support your business. From basic admin support customer service and email management to marketing and bookkeeping, they've got you covered. Don't know where to start, check out the system's inventory checklist, which helps business owners figure out what they don't want to do anymore and get those delegated ASAP. You can find that checklist at buying time llc.com forward slash systems stash checklist.   Curt Widhalm  00:31 Listen at the end of the episode for more information.   Announcer  00:34 You're listening to the modern therapist survival guide where therapists live, breathe and practice as human beings to support you as a whole person and a therapist. Here are your hosts, Curt Widhalm and Katie Vernoy.   Curt Widhalm  00:49 Welcome back monitor therapists. This is the button therapist Survival Guide. I'm Curt Widhalm with Katie Vernoy. And this is the podcast that talks about things that therapists do things that come into our offices, things that we should be aware about. And we are coming to a topic that we haven't visited here for a couple of years. And we are joined by one of our former therapy reimagined speakers, Beck Gee Cohen, Director of LGBT programming at visions, and we're just so glad to have you good people. Thanks for joining us.   Beck Gee Cohen  01:27 Awesome. Thanks for having me. I'm super grateful to be here.   Katie Vernoy  01:30 We're so excited to have you. It's so good to see you again. And I had a wonderful  consultation with you recently. So I just am excited to share this conversation with our audience. Such a good resource, everyone. So anyway, I'll stop gushing. The first question we ask everyone is who are you? And what are you putting out to the world?   Beck Gee Cohen  01:53 Which is like the deepest question you could ask. Right from the start? Who am I? What am I putting out to the world. Hope for my community, the trans community to get the things that they need, you know, from therapists to to be heard, to be seen, to be valued. And it started by trying to give a voice to myself, and now you know, to help teenagers to help families.   Curt Widhalm  02:22 We normally start a lot of our episodes asking for learning purposes, what therapists get wrong in working with trans clients. And we say this in a way of helping us catch up to where the world is today and responding to the clients in our offices. And a lot of things end up being out-dated, and especially for those of us who were educated A while ago, things have changed since maybe we have had some basic learning steps. So what a therapist normally get wrong, or what are some old habits that you see,   Beck Gee Cohen  02:57 The worst thing that we could do is this is the way we've always done it. Right. This is how it's always been. And that's what I love about the modern therapist, Psych podcast and the you know, that the, you know, the, the essence of the modern therapist is we're tired of this, right? We're tired of doing the way it's always been done, you know, the foundations of therapy were built, you know, on white cisgender men, you know, and and we're not, that's not who we are, that's not who we serve. And so I think what we what therapists get wrong is is just stopping learning, not being open to new ideas, I think, and I mean, I can go, you know, I could go down the line of like, okay, great, like use the right pronouns. Okay, so like, everyone should be doing that by now. Right? Like, that's, that's like 10 years ago, I don't mean to sound snarky in that way. Because that is, that is something that is like a huge, like thing to do, right. But don't always look at like a person by their pronouns, either. Right? Like, don't, it's, it's like, we're missing out on like, the people in front of us and more, either overly looking at the trans piece, or we're like, minimizing it. So it's like, it's finding that balance. So sometimes I run into therapists who, like, everything that has to do with them is about them being trans, right? And it's like, no, like, we also have depression and anxiety and have relationship issues. And we have, you know, all the struggles that, that all of humanity goes through. And, and then also, there's the other side of the kind of pendulum that says, Well, I work with all people and then being trans doesn't matter, you know, and it's like, okay, but you're not understanding that some of these things that are struggles that they're having, absolutely has to do with their gender identity and absolutely have to do with their transition or you know who they are in the world. So, I run into therapists that are like kind of one or the other Right, and so like my job and what I like to do, and the conversations that I like to have is like, let's bring us into the kind of the center, and talk about how we can Yeah, invest our time into their gender and understand it and understand, but not have to learn about gender and sexuality from them, but learn about their gender and sexuality, their personal gender and sexuality from them understanding trans identity, a 101, that is a therapist job, right to learn outside of their client, the nuances of gender, the nuances of, of what's happening in their lives, we do learn from our clients, going in with curiosity, and conversation and humility is really important. I see a lot of therapists run away from working with trans people, because they just don't know, while I believe in referring out, there's not enough like clinicians out there that are working with trans people, I always like to say, part of my story is saying that the woman that saved my life, when I came out to her was a therapist who was really versed in trauma, and really versed in understanding the LGBT community, but she was not part of that community. And she saved my life. And so, you know, so I think that what therapists are getting wrong, just not not doing their own work. And I also like, like to challenge therapists to do their own work around their gender and sexuality. Because if we're not doing that work, then how are we supposed to even understand some of the things that we struggle with, with masculinity with femininity, and many trans people struggle with that stuff as well, non binary people struggle with that as well. I hate to say that you're getting it wrong, but what can you do better, right? Curt? No, I'm just kidding. I told you, I was gonna come from a place of positivity today, I'm going going into 2022, with a little positive skepticism.   Katie Vernoy  07:09 So you started talking about this, and I want to get a little bit more specific with one of the things that you had talked about, you know, kind of all clinicians need to be better for trans clients, because trans clients are going to show up on our practice at some point, most likely. And so I think, to me, when you're talking about therapists not doing their own work on gender, let's let's start with that one. I think that society doesn't necessarily ask that of us. You know, there's, there's a binary, you know, there's pink and blue, there's these things that I think society really puts on us. And I think this idea of really exploring our own gender identity and sexuality and all those things, especially I'm, I'm old, you know, so, you know, when I grew up, it was pink and blue, you know, and all of that. And so I think it's something where, to me? What do you mean, when you're talking about that therapists need to work on their own gender and those issues?   Beck Gee Cohen  08:15 I love that question. Because I think you're right, like, right, it's a privilege to not have to think about gender.   Katie Vernoy  08:21 Absolutely.   Beck Gee Cohen  08:22 Right. So when you're walking in the world, and you don't have to think about it, it's, you know, that's a privilege that you have. And I think we actually think about it more than we think we do. And I see, it's in our face, constantly. And I but I also do think like, once you're aware of it, right? I think there's an old parable about the goldfish, right in the water. They go, you know, the goldfish swims out and says, Hey, how's the water? And they're like, what's water? You know, like, they don't know that they're, you don't know you're in it until you know that you're in it, right. So I don't know how that parable goes. But something like that. Y'all can look it up. But I'm not aware until I'm aware is basically what it is. And so, so that's why I also, like give a lot of leeway to a lot of therapists and people that I work with, where I'm not like, you should know this, because sometimes you just have no awareness. But once you know, then it's your job to kind of start working on it. So like, I had a therapist come up to me a year after I did a talk. And he was like, you know, you really messed me up. And I was like, Oh, great, you know, what did I do? And he said, Now everywhere I go, I see male and female sides. You know, I see male female girls, boys, you know, pink and blue. Like it was just, I was unaware. And I was like, great. Now you know how I live and many other people live every single day. But we talk about like women's issues and men's issues a lot. Right? And, and sometimes even then we're not even actually aware of that. that actually affects us, right? So when I'm working with like a cisgender, man, so for those, you know, when I say cisgender, it's someone who is assigned, let's say, male at birth, and identifies their gender identity as male sis means to be on the same side of so most people are cisgender. But when I talked to cisgender men, I asked them about masculinity, and being a man, and what is that like for you? And if we actually start having the conversation and dialogue about what it is to be a man in the world, you're going to get a whole lot of different conversations, right? You're gonna have a different opinions, different, you know, boxes, you know, men are put in a specific box to attain, you know, like, I have to be this way or that way, right. Same thing with women. And so that's the work that I ask of therapists to do is like, let's, let's, what is what does femininity mean to you? What does being a woman mean to you in the world? What is how has that affected you growing up? What did you learn about? You know, you just said, like, you know, I'm old and I grew up with pink and blue, right?   Katie Vernoy  11:09 Sure. Yeah.   Beck Gee Cohen  11:10 You know, but if you were older, even older, and grew up in the, you know, 1700s, you know, 1800s, you know, Pink and Blue were different. Pink was more masculine, Blue was more feminine.   Katie Vernoy  11:22 Oh, interesting   Beck Gee Cohen  11:23 Men wore wigs and heels and makeup. And that was a sign of class, right. And so, and the ideas of like, boys clothes and girls clothes for children really came from a marketing ploy where people were having less children. Because if you actually look at like pictures of like, Franklin, Franklin Roosevelt, they were wearing all white, all kids were white, and dresses until they were a certain age, right? So it was a money saver for families who had giant families of 16 kids. Now, you know, in the early 1900s, you know, the history of it, is that people are having less kids. And so then they started being like, Oh, girls, clothes, boys clothes, you know. So if we start to learn the history of that, and we start to learn that, like, clothing doesn't have a gender makeup doesn't have a gender. And we start to learn how I was raised to see what femininity looks like, and what masculinity looks like. Because in a lot of different cultures, too, it looks differently. So that's the work if I look internally, and then if I can look internally and at myself, it's just like, you know, every therapist should have a therapist, right?   Katie Vernoy  12:33 Yeah!   Beck Gee Cohen  12:33 .. is that if I start with, note that everyone, you can start to empathize with how difficult these things might be, for a client that is in is it was questioning their gender or transitioning. And you may not know, someone is trans when they come in your office, and you build a rapport with them, and you build a therapeutic alliance, and then they come out to you. Right, and they feel that they trust you. You know, that is your job to continue to work with that. And you can work with them. As long as you you know, maybe you need to seek supervision or whatever. But I think therapists can really do a lot of work on themselves around gender, even if they they're not trans. Right. I think it's funny because we only talk about like sexuality and gender when it comes to the LGBT community. We're actually like, sexuality and gender should be talked about across the board for everyone. I think we would we'd serve us as as therapists and as the world as a whole,   Curt Widhalm  13:34 when we sent over the what should we talk about questionnaire to you, you dropped in this term trans resilience? Can you tell us what that is? And how that plays out? With our clients.   Beck Gee Cohen  13:47 Sometimes we focus in on the pain of transition a lot. Right? As therapists we concentrate on anxiety and depression, all the hard things, right?   Katie Vernoy  14:02 Yeah.   Beck Gee Cohen  14:03 Why do people go to therapy? Do people go therapy when they're super happy, you know, but, but at the same time, I think when I when I talk about trans resilience, and they talk about how we can celebrate identity in the therapeutic space, I think this is a really important piece to helping our clients celebrate themselves and empowering themselves and trans resilience to me means that, you know, we walk through the world, and we walk through all of this stuff that we do, and we we, you know, we get misgendered and we walk through all the messages that say we shouldn't be here, but we still show up every day. And we still are present in our lives or we try to be and we still show up to therapy, we still show up. And we and I keep saying show up because it's sometimes it's so hard to show up. And so To foster that, and to like, empower my clients who are trans is like really like celebrating them and celebrating who they are, and, and walking in their truth and walking in their authenticity. A lot of times people will say, Oh, you're so brave for doing this. I don't Thank you. Right? Like, I think, no, thank you. Right. And I know where that comes from. And I also know that like, I came out, because it was like an act of survival. Like, I run out of a burning building, like I was running out of a burning building. Is that brave? No, that's like, I'm trying to survive.   Katie Vernoy  15:41 Yeah,   Beck Gee Cohen  15:41 you know, I think bravery is really like going back in and getting people and pulling them out. Right? Bravery is like, you know, showing up again, every day and helping others and all those things. So that mean, I think therapists are brave, right? But for me, it was an act of survival. And so when I talk about resilience is really talking to my clients about, like, you know, you show up every day, you know, as hard as it is you keep showing up and with suicidality, and suicide rates so high in the trans community, you know, for those who are able to survive, I think it's, I think it's really important. And I think it's also really important to like, celebrate, and, like, enjoy being trans, you know, I mean, I'm constantly like, asking them, you know, we're talking about dysphoria all the time. And I'm like, where's your euphoria? You know, when you feel good this week? When did someone like make you feel like, you know, when did you like, go put that dress on? Or, or, or get gendered correctly? Or like, like, hold on to those moments, too, because that feels good. When did you look in the mirror? And we're like, damn, I look good today. You know, like, I feel good in my body. I think therapists you know, sometimes will so hyper focus on like, oh, you you have to hate yourself to be trans. Like you actually don't. Yeah, actually don't like that's that's a that's a false narrative that has been given to you by the DSM.   Katie Vernoy  17:09 Yeah, I think I want to actually like there's so many things I want to go into here. But I think one of the the pieces that feels really compelling to me is this idea of this notion, and you're calling it gender dysphoria, then gender, euphoria, we've heard that as well before, but I think there's this notion of hating yourself feels like it is already coming from a cis place, a cisgender place, that the self is defined by whatever gender you were assigned at birth. And so talk a little bit more about your feelings about the DSM, because you started to go there.   Beck Gee Cohen  17:52 I went there,   Katie Vernoy  17:53 I just am curious about how you look at it, because I think most of what we do is based on what society deems normal, and it's so culturally bound, I loved when you were talking earlier about how gender has been perceived through the years, because I think we feel like well, this is just what it is. And it's like, well, no, actually, it's completely culturally defined if we really look at it. But anyway, it's early, where I'm going all over the place. So let me get to the question. How do you think the DSM harms our efforts toward treatment? Because it seems like it's framed improperly.   Beck Gee Cohen  18:28 Yeah. Well, so if I look at like, so again, this is just my opinion, not the opinion of all trans therapists, we're looking at two things here, right? That the, the DSM in and of itself helps people like having dysphoria as like a, as a diagnosis can help us get hormones and all those things, which is like, you know, if you're not in an informed state, right, like, you can at least go to the doctor and get your medical needs met. So dysphoria, and you actually actually said it, in what you what you were just talking about is that dysphoria is actually not mine. If I actually look at the myself, like, I am not dysphoric around my gender, everyone else is dysphoric around my gender, right, like, so it the gender dysphoria is actually internalized. And if I look at like, you know, gender dysphoria from the DSM, it actually says the stressors from the outside in, right? And so it's like, So, am I really dysphoric um, I'm in my internalizing the gender dysphoria that people have placed on my gender, you know, and so, it can be a hard concept to talk to teens about to talk to even adults about because they, like it gets so set on like, No, I'm dysphoric and I have dysphoria, and I chew you know, I struggle with that. But the more I I have this conversation, the more I even dive internally, it's like, actually, I'm Just internalizing that dysphoria. And so then I feel depressed and anxious because I can't get a job because I'm seeing in the world is a freak. And you know all the things, right? I'm told that I shouldn't, you know, play sports, or legislation against me says I can't play sports, things like that, right? So I'm internalizing everyone else's stuff. Like when I talk about dysphoria, it's like, well, what, what are you actually dysphoric about? Right? Yeah, what's, what do you actually dysphoric about? Well, I want to change my body. Well, a lot of people want to change their body, and they're not diagnosed with gender dysphoria. Like, you can go to a plastic surgeon and get whatever you want done. But you're not diagnosed with dysphoria, or any diagnosis, really, I'm not depressed, because I'm trans I'm, I can also just be depressed. I can have depression, if you actually look at the DSM dysphoria in children and adolescents, right? We're already talking about boys and girls toys, there's already like this, like, thing around like, you know, gendered toys in they're already like, these societal cultural stereotypes that are put into the DSM. And so it's like, children should be allowed to play with gender, and play, everyone should be allowed to play with gender and, and be who they are. It shouldn't be like a diagnosis. What we see here is that we also see, I talked to a lot of parents, and they say, Well, my kid wasn't playing with dolls when they were younger. So there's no way that they could be a girl. Right? Right. And so it attaches, again, like, this gender roles is, you know, stereotypes on to a child, and then it's like, you know, do I have to like dresses and all these things in order to be a girl? Or do I have to play with trucks to be a boy? It's like, well, no, not necessarily. Right? So it just, I think we get so honed in on, like, the diagnosis, that we forget the person. And I think that happens a lot in the DSM, we're just so hyper focused, and in order to get insurance to cover it, or whatever. So yeah, we're like, Okay, do you do check all the boxes? And if you don't, right, then maybe you're not. And so what I've run into with a lot of like, even young people, I mean, it's amazing what you can find out there on the internet, young people know exactly what they need to come in with to share what they need, you know, and, and people know, like, so if I'm not depressed around my gender, so then I have to go into a therapist, and I have to lie, to get hormones, right. And I have to say, Well, I'm depressed, but I'm not depressed. I'm not. I'm not too depressed. Because if I'm too depressed, then you're not going to give me my hormones. If you're too if I'm too anxious, or if I'm feeling you know, I'm having suicidal ideations, then, you know, maybe I need medication, I don't need hormones, right? So I'm gonna lie to you about actually, like, how bad I'm feeling or how good I'm feeling because I need to hit that middle ground. And so you're already starting off the therapeutic relationship in a lie?   Katie Vernoy  23:18 Yeah.   Beck Gee Cohen  23:18 How do you build something from there? So if I take myself out of a gatekeeping role, right, if I tell a client, like, I'm not here to tell you who you are, you know who you are, right? I'm not here to tell you who you are. I'm here to like walk you walk through, you know, because I believe in therapy. Don't get me wrong. Like, I believe in the power of therapy. I don't believe in it to to gate keep for certain things for telling someone who they are. Right. But I definitely believe in walking through with someone through the changes and shifts that they're gonna happen through their transition. That's a big deal. But if you're starting off, like, with a client just having to lie to you, because they just want a letter from you. It's like, well, that's, that's not okay. You know, that's,   Katie Vernoy  24:07 it's not therapy   Beck Gee Cohen  24:08 person. It's not therapy. It's it's not at all, and it's actually super harmful. And I've seen it harm a lot of people in that way.   Curt Widhalm  24:17 Speaking of letters and organizations, that gate keep, I know that one of the resources out there that people point to in working with trans clients and especially maybe the first times that they're working on transplants, is Wpath. And there's some guidelines there that I understand that you're part of some some groups working on some making some changes over there, too.   Beck Gee Cohen  24:43 Yeah, so there's some work groups that are changing some of the Wpath guidelines for teens and so there's like working groups of actual trans identified providers, which you know, Wpath has, over the years been primarily cisgender people kind of, again, implementing certain guidelines, which, in effect have been helpful, you know, over the years, but I think as we just as, like, we get to understand gender, and as it works in the world, right, we have to shift and move things. And, and, and just as it's been over the years, you have these really great, amazing people who are allies and who are trying their best. And like, you also have to now have people at the table who are actually, you know, part of this community, and now that there are more providers, more doctors, that are trans identified nurses, therapists, you know, they're actually bringing more of us on into the conversation. And so, you know, I told Curt before this, I don't want to, you know, I had some, like, really strong, you know, like opinions, but now like, it's like, okay, well, yes, of course, right? Like, no, I mean, all this any kind of legislation, any kind of like licensure stuff, like trans people were never at the table. So now that we are kind of stepping up into these spaces, I think we're going to start to see some great changes happening, hopefully, you know, fingers crossed some changes in how care is given to trans clients, across the board medically, because, you know, Wpath is like mental health, medical, you know, treatment, all of these things. And, and people do go to it, and it's almost like, you know, well, this is, and it's taken, I think people who are like, well, this is not, this isn't still isn't right, right, this still isn't right, there still needs to be some changes happening. And so bringing in trans people with experience, I think, is really, really important and valuable. So still go to WPATH still go to, you know, get those guidelines, that should be like, kind of foundational, and if it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't, you know, like, if it does, it's like, this feels a little gatekeeping, right, this sounds a little bit like, you know, like, these kind of hard lines, like, Oh, you have to, you know, you know, it used to be like you have to live as, you know, the opposite gender for a year, you know, in order to get hormones, and you're just like, what, what is that? You know, what is that about? Like, those kind of guidelines, now, we've kind of stepped away from it, but I will still hear that I will still hear therapists using those old antiquated kind of markers of like, being trans, like, you know, because there's not one way to be trans, there's not one way to like, walk in the world, right? Not all trans people want surgery, not all trans people want hormones, you know, that's not all people want to live, like, like as like the opposite. Right? Like, you know, we all lie somewhere somewhere in the middle, some of us so.   Katie Vernoy  27:52 So stepping out a little bit, because I think there's some nuance to what you're talking about. But I do know that there are some folks that this may be one of the first stepping stones for them learning about how to work with trans clients. And so maybe just to a very brief because I think people need full on training, and will definitely give you a chance to talk about the trainings that you do, because I think that would be a really good start. And there's, you know, lots of great resources for letters and all the things but if someone is a general therapist, and they they don't spend specialized and trans clients, and they have a trans client walk into their office, first off, get supervision, get training, all that stuff. But is there anything because you know, you're not going to necessarily know tell? You know? And so, what are some advice that you have for for, for clinicians, whose clients who they've been working with for quite some time, come out,   Beck Gee Cohen  28:47 I still believe in that therapeutic alliance is the number one thing for any relationship, if you do that, so there's there's two different there's two different like, I think, scenarios here, there's the one where the transplant just comes in, right from first time to like, one that you've been working with for a long time. So we'll start a long time one, and that you start, like having this conversation and I think that there's a really valuable tool called vulnerability that therapists can use in the space where they say, I haven't had a whole lot of experience working with trans clients before or around gender and, you know, I, you know, and thanking them for, like, coming out, you know, to you, right, because ultimately, you have built that trust because people don't just, like, come in and be like, I'm trans, you know, like, first I mean, maybe that's a like, I did that, but I knew that she had worked with transplants before so, but I just needed to say it out loud, but I think like, it's pretty rare. Um, I think people like wanna, like feel it out a little bit, right and kind of see how they're, how you're gonna respond. And and so obviously you'd become that trusted person, so even thanking them, you know, in some way, and then, and then doing the work around it and kind of saying, like, you know, I, I don't have a whole lot of experience, but I'm, I'm so willing to learn, and I'll learn outside of here. And I will ask questions. And if you don't want to answer them, like, I will find out other ways, you know, and just sharing like your process, I think it's a big, I think, if I were a client, and someone said that, to me, as a trans person, I would feel more connected to my therapist, than someone just assuming that they knew everything, and then being like, you actually don't know, right, or walking into a therapy room for the first time, and someone has like a rainbow flag up, and has no idea how to work in the LGBT space, right, because they got a rainbow sticker that they said that they should have on their wall to show that they work with diverse clients, you know, like, I mean, like, you know, we see that a lot. And I think that that is that can be dangerous, because like I let my walls down, because I'm looking for safety. So I may let my walls down, and then then find out like, oh, you actually have never worked with a transplant before. And you actually have no training. And so, so if you, like were a therapist, and you had a client just walk in the door and say that they were trans, you know, that's a conversation that either you're gonna have to have with a supervisors, and also, again, being honest from the start and saying, I've never worked with transplants before, but I have some training. And I Oh, you know, and I'll, you know, seek that out. And I think a lot of us, for those of us who are trans seek out therapists, like, I'm going to, I don't automatically seek out trans therapists, like trans identified therapist, probably because I know all of them personally, in some way, shape, or form. So it makes it tough. And I'm in that space right now. Um, but I'm looking for, you know, like, I will, you know, I will ask questions of like, Have you worked with trans clients before? Are you part of the LGBT community if they do choose to disclose or not, they don't necessarily have to be part of that. But I want to know what kind of, you know, if they've ever worked with, with a trans client before, but that's me, but I also ask if they've ever worked with clinicians, as well, because that's a whole nother   Katie Vernoy  32:27 Yeah, that's a whole other dynamic. We are getting short on time. So I want to, I want to just comment on something and get a couple more thoughts from you, I think there's this element of, you may have a client come in either in the process with you either come out for the first time, or kind of identify that for themselves for the first time, I feel like there's so much to talk about there. And then there are also clients who are trans and that's not what their issue is. And I think there's so there's different elements of what we would need to know, when someone comes in and they are trans and the issue isn't about their gender identity, it sounds like this awareness is important and being able to understand the impact that it may have on what's going on. And I think that's, that's fairly well in the wheelhouse of the therapists, especially as they are able to get consultation and make sure that they're, they're kind of there with them and understanding the person in front of them and that the issues they're facing when someone comes out or is in the process of identifying for themselves, their gender identity. And that process, I think that can be very confusing for folks, especially with a hard bias against, you know, kind of what we went back going back to life, the gender dysphoria, and even just the angst that can be coming through as the identification or the understanding, I am trans. And so can you talk a little bit about that process of the kind of understanding kind of the introspection, the kind of identifying for the individual, as well as how therapist can support trans clients as they identify and come out and potentially even transition because that seems like that's very specific to the gender identity whereas other things are informed you know, it's it's gender identity informed it's other issues, but it's gender identity and form. This is it's about gender identity,   Beck Gee Cohen  34:25 when a specific client is is coming in specifically around their gender identity like this is this is the the pressing struggle at this point in time that that I'm you know, is is obviously getting the whole story around because, you know, some people are in relationships, right, some people are in, you know, I mean, I come from obviously a wider lens of like the sociological piece of a person like all of these things and, and really diving into their fears, right diving into, like you said, they kind of they're there, because they've already been thinking about it. Like, this has been something that has been brewing for a while someone just doesn't usually just wake up one day and be like, Yeah, I'm trans, right. Like, I mean, this is something. And I like to get that backstory, I like to ask people when they first kind of knew something was different, right? Like, you know, it could be a year ago, it could be six months ago, it could be 10 years ago, right. And when they first maybe even talked about it to someone, you could be the first person they are talking to about it, right? And so let's say, you know, they knew when they were five, and now they're 30, that's 25 years of kind of unraveling of like, you know, what, you know, what has been going on? For them? I think the first question my therapist asked me when I told her that I was trans, which I, which I, you know, so appreciate. And I go back to, even as a clinician is like, okay, cool. So what do you want to do about that? Sounds like, which sounds it's so her right? It was like, I was like, what, you know, like, like, what do you know, because you've obviously been thinking about this. So like, we'll deal with all that, that unraveling of the history and all that stuff later. But like, How can I be present for you now? Like, what is it that you are looking for right now? Like, are you looking to get on hormones? Are you looking to get top surgery, you know, like or whatever. Like, for me, it was like, I knew I wanted to get top surgery, I did not know I wanted to go on hormones. That was like, so far, like, it was like a lot for me to think about, but I knew exactly what I wanted one thing. It's just like, cool. Let's start there. Right? We don't have to make it like, I think we also get overwhelmed with like, what if I say the wrong thing, right? Like, what if I, what if I, what if I screw this up? And but it's just like, it's almost like goal setting. Like, okay, great. Like, what do you see for yourself, because a lot of trans people don't even aren't even, they're so focused on like, the history and like, the present, like, the fear and the anxiety that, that I couldn't even see myself in the future. So to be able to, like, be present, and then look forward, was really empowering. Like, oh, I can do this, right? Like, right, yeah, it scares the shit out of me. But excuse my language, but like, I'm also like, but, but I can see that I can see that there might be a future for me here. And so I you know, kind of kind of, in that, in that in that respect, that's like a celebratory way of thinking and, and then we can get dive into the introspection, we can dive into the struggles of, of what it is to be trans in the world and all those things. But like, if we give it a moment and ask, really just kind of asked, like, what do we want to do here? Like what to do with this information? Do we want to move forward? Or do we want to focus on like, the hows and whys and then giving like, you know, sometimes we give readings, sometimes we give, but most people that come in who are who are talking about their gender, they've already been researching, they have already been, like watching YouTube videos, they've already been having this conversation internally, they just need to, like, get it out, and like have a place to like, get it out, and they may not have any movement, maybe they just want to talk about it in the room. Maybe they have no idea what they want to do. And it's like, that's great, too. But this is a space where you can, we can acknowledge that sometimes it's the only space where I'm using the name and pronouns that they want to use for the first time. Right? Like, I've used that space for helping people come out to their loved ones. Right, I came out to my best friend in my therapy, and with my therapist, actually came into town and I'm like, you're going to come to therapy with me. And she allowed that space for me to come out, you know, to the person that I love the most, you know? And so, like those are the things that we can do as therapists.   Katie Vernoy  39:12 I love that.   Curt Widhalm  39:14 If people are looking forward to a future with you and your training where can they find out more about you and follow you?   Beck Gee Cohen  39:26 Oh, I was thought this was a proposal Curt. Um... Oh was like okay. So you can find me at my website BGC bridge calm. I offer consultation and trainings and things like that on that website. You can always email me it's Beck at BGCbridge comm I'm always open to offering you know, help, consultation, you know, networking. You know, if you have a trans client and you just have a couple questions, I'm always glad to you know, Email. But if you want more of like a sit down, you know, we can talk about that as well.   Katie Vernoy  40:06 And just one quick question around resources. Are there any ideal resources for clinicians who'd like to do some reading or some get some basic information that that would help them? At least have a foundation?   Beck Gee Cohen  40:19 Yeah, for sure. There's a lot. But I think the MY GO Tos are Alex II and TAFI has a couple of books on gender trauma. Life isn't binary for non binary, folks. They're also a therapist and amazing therapists doing somatic and trauma work in the LGBTQ plus community so you can go to their website. And then my gender workbook by the fabulous Kate Bornstein is always a good tongue in cheek kind of gender workbook. And again, I suggest therapists get it for themselves and you know, start filling it out like workbook style. You know, Dara Hoffmann Fox also has a gender identity workbook. I love workbooks, again, more introspection, I never give out a book that I wouldn't do myself. So, you know, just get those for yourself and see if they work. And there's a great book for I know, there'll be another conversation around families and trans teens and things like that. But it's called Two Spirits one heart and it's written by a trans son and his mom and the coming out process and that way, so I gave it to my mom when I came out. So a lot of you might be working with parents of trans teens, a really great resource for them.   Curt Widhalm  41:39 And will include links to all of those in our show notes. You can find those over at MTS g podcast.com. And follow us on our social media, join our Facebook group, the modern therapist group. And until next time, I'm Curt Widhalm with Katie Vernoy and Beck Gee Cohen   Katie Vernoy  41:55 Thanks again to our sponsor, buying time,   Curt Widhalm  41:58 buying times VAs support businesses by managing email communications, CRM or automation systems, website admin and hosting email marketing, social media, bookkeeping and much more. 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In yet another thought-provoking episode of The Discomfort Practice Podcast, I'm speaking to Matisse DuPont, an artist, educator, and consultant in gender, sexuality, and identity. Matisse has a Master's degree in Gender and Cultural Studies and has been showcasing their talents/creativity on their informative, delightful, and binge-watchable videos on social media. They offer individual and institutional gender consultation services and inclusivity consulting and cultural competency training concerning transgender, non-binary gender, non-conforming individuals, and the LGBTQIA plus community. I found my chat with them truly enlightening to my understanding of gender.  Matisse takes me on a fascinating journey of better understanding how our sexuality gets intertwined with gender, pronouns, culture, and a whooole lot of other aspects of gender. Their distinction between physical sexuality and internal sexuality is a fascinating way to look at it, understanding that humans have varied sex hormonal ratios which cannot be used as a criterion to distinguish gender. Our cultural/societal taboo has made conversations about gender needlessly uncomfortable - like an itch - which can be resolved by educating and developing self-awareness. This is core to Matisse's work as an educator.  Matisse is on a mission to spark creativity and curiosity, which they believe is possible only when people shed the societal norms and express themselves - which is where gender education plays such a crucial role. We wade into a fascinating rumination on what would happen if children's minds were left to their natural, infinite creativity rather than constricted by current binary models.  We both believe that it is important to feel true to their body and not merely because of our physical characteristics or the norms of the culture we belong to. The arbitrary lines of gender categorization are getting diffused with time. Tune in as we tackle the discomfort of gender preconceptions in this podcast. Let us know your thoughts on Instagram or Twitter @thebetsyreed and feel free to tag us. Follow my own journey through my discomfort practice and catch up on past episodes on the podcast microsite https://thediscomfortpractice.libsyn.com or find The Discomfort Practice on your favorite podcast platform. Key Points: The Moment of Discomfort (04:41) Pronouns, do we need them (09:47) My evolutionary journey from a little boy (10:10) The concept of Non-binary and queer (17:50) Assigned sex, biological sex doesn't translate to sexuality (23:00) People are uncomfortable with themselves (25:21) The pseudoscience of a male and a female body (31:41) The reality of sex is complicated, physical characteristics or hormonal ratios is not a parameter for sex determination (37:14) Have empathy for other people who are also having a different complicated relationship to gender (43:35) The world if all children are raised in a non-binary way (50:00) Why are we still CIS-gender (56:00) Support the movement (59:09) Connect with Matisse DuPont: Matisse's Website Matisse on Instagram Matisse on TikTok Send Matisse an Email Connect with Betsy Reed: Betsy on Instagram Betsy on Twitter Betsy on Linkedin Betsy's Website Resources Mentioned: In the Life: Interview with Kate Bornstein, Leslie Feinberg Matisse's Newsletter Matisse's Art Book or Gift a gender consultation Rate, Review, Learn and Share Thanks for tuning into The Discomfort Practice! If you enjoyed this episode, please drop us a five star and written review, follow and share how it has benefited you. Don't forget to tune into our other episodes and share your favorite ones on social media!

Kate Bornstein discusses her life as a writer and actor. Moving between growing up in a Jewish family on the New Jersey shore, studying acting in school, joining the Church of Scientology, finding community in a dyke BDSM community in San Francisco and last twenty years living in NYC, Bornstein consistently emphasizes her grappling with gender, eventual revelation she is neither a man nor a woman, and understanding of the oppressive nature of gender dualisms. Bornstein is among the best-known trans authors since the mid-1990s, influencing a generation in her fusion of personal memoir and postmodern gender theory. (Photo is self-portrait by Bornstein.)

This week, Tre'Vell takes advantage of Cis-Jarrett's absence to have an in-depth conversation with author Da'Shaun Harrison, whom they interviewed for their article What Does It Really Mean to Be Non-Binary? earlier in the year. FANTI listeners already know that Gender Is a Scam, so why is it that trans and non-binary people still buy into the construct? This is one of many issues Tre'Vell and Da'Shaun grapple with this week. If you enjoy their Da'Shaun's insight, show your support by pre-ordering their book: Belly of the Beast: The Politics of Anti-Fatness as Anti-BlacknessPass the PopcornIndustry BabyJeffrey Masters on LGBTQ&A interviewing Kate Bornstein BHIHEDSylvester Dance Disco HeatDIS/Honorable Mentions Da'ShaunHM – Megan THEE StallionHM – Queer niggas living with HIV Tre'VellDM – DaBabyDM – Ed Buck  Go ahead and @ us Email: FANTI@maximumfun.org @FANTIpodcast@Jarrett Hill@rayzon (Tre'Vell) @FANTIpodcast@TreVellAnderson@JarrettHill@Swish (Producer Laura Swisher) FANTI is produced and distributed by MaximumFun.orgLaura Swisher is the senior producer.

What is the future of gender? Writer and gender theorist, Kate Bornstein talks about the past, present, and future of gender. LGBTQ&A is hosted by Jeffrey Masters and produced by The Advocate magazine, in partnership with GLAAD. Come find us on Twitter @lgbtqpod. (We've just released a brand new conversation with Kate Bornstein. It's available right above this one in your podcast feed.)

The legendary Kate Bornstein talks about why gender is always changing, what is missing from public discussions of gender, and how now in her 70s, gender has become "inconsequential" to her.  LGBTQ&A is hosted by Jeffrey Masters and produced by The Advocate magazine, in partnership with GLAAD. Come find us on Twitter @lgbtqpod. (We've rereleased an earlier conversation with Kate from 2018 as a companion to this new one. It's right under this one in your podcast feed.)

In dieser Folge reden wir über die Menschen, die uns geprägt haben, von denen wir gelernt haben, wie wir uns als Queerlinge in der Welt bewegen und was wir von dieser zu erwarten haben. Also die Altvorderen, auf deren Schultern wir zu stehen versuchen. Zu Beginn der Folge jedoch sprechen wir erstmal über die Vorbilder, die wir schon getroffen haben und erzählen, in welchen Fällen das völlig in die Hose ging. Dann steigen wir ein mit dem "Altvater der amerikanischen Schwulenbewegung" Armistead Maupin, dem Schöpfer der "Stadtgeschichten". Anschließend sprechen wir über John Waters, Quentin Crisp, Kate Bornstein, RuPaul und Leigh Bowery. Eine lange, super interessante Folge mit vielen schönen Gesprächen. You're welcome.

Today JD & Col take a tender look at Shame, in our longest episode yet. Oh Shame, our old, uninvited friend, let's get into it. They talk about shame and social media, obsessive self-shame, the paradox of escaping the shame of addictions by burrowing deeper into those exact same addictions, and how nasty it gets when shame is inflicted on others, and a lot more. They share the hope they find in Mia Mangus' Transformative Justice accountability framework. They also mention Dr Gabor Mate's “Universal Experience of Addiction”. JD recommends the Kate Bornstein's amazing Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws Col mentions, semi-accurately The New Leaf Project, a one-time cash payment of $7,500 to folks experiencing recent homelessness in Vancouver. As always they refer to this beautiful list of 300 emotions by Prakhar Verma - Expand Your Emotional Vocabulary With This Dictionary Of Emotions As we keep on keeping on with this podcast we need your help connecting with more listeners, show us your support by listening, sharing, rating and subscribing. You can even support us on Patreon, if you like, here

Most recently, SHAKINA NAYFACK made television history starring in NBC's Connecting… as  the first transgender person to have a starring role in a network comedy. She can also be seen in Amazon's GLAAD Award Winning Transparent Musicale Finale, which she helped write and produce, and Hulu's Difficult People, for which she was a writing consultant. Her play Chonburi International Hotel and Butterfly Club premiered on Audible in 2020 in collaboration with Williamstown Theatre Festival and was recognized with a 2021 Drama League Award for Best Audio Theatre Production. She is the Founding Artistic Director of Musical Theatre Factory, where she helped to develop hundreds of new musicals including Michael R. Jackson's Pulitzer Prize winning musical, A Strange Loop and her own autobiographical glam rock odyssey, Manifest Pussy.Weekly Round-Up:Watch the documentary Disclosure on Netflix.Listen to the On the Rookie podcast episode “The Roadmap For Liberation, feat. Janet Mock” and then read Janet's book, Redefining Realness.Read My Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein.Visit Shakina's website to learn more about her work and download her award-winning Audible play, Chonburi International Hotel and Butterfly Club.Support the Juneteenth Jubilee, organized by Intersectional Voices Collective.

This week, Patricia talks about a couple great backlist graphic novels that shouldn't be missed! Follow All the Books! using RSS, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher and never miss a beat book. Sign up for the weekly New Books! newsletter for even more new book news. This content contains affiliate links. When you buy through these links, we may earn an affiliate commission. Books discussed on the show: Superman Smashes the Clan by Gene Luen Yang, art by Gurihiru, lettering by Janice Chiang You Brought Me the Ocean by Alex Sanchez, illustrated by Julie Maroh Books mentioned on the show: The Stonewall Generation: LGBTQ Elders on Sex, Activism, and Aging by Jane Fleishman with a forward by Kate Bornstein and Barbara Carrellas A Queer History of the United States for Young People by Michael Bronski, adapted by Richie Chevat American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang, color by Lark Pien See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this week's #realparents episode we chat with Jasmine about their process of self discovery through pregnancy and postpartum. Maternal Identity is becoming a more commonly discussed topic but no two birthing people go through the same journey. We know we learn more about ourselves than we ever knew we would, but what happens when gender identity gets added to the mix? Jasmine's story gives us some great insight into a parenting journey that winds up answering so many questions they never knew they needed answers to! Connect with Jasmine here: www.jasminejoshua.com Jasmine's references: https://sbearbergman.com/ Stone Butch Blues (free PDF) My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein

This week, hosts chat with filmmaker, theatremaker, and writer Drew Gregory! Drew shares about the short she made in quarantine, “The First Time”, reminisces about directing immersive theatre immediately after coming out, and giving young people the trans representation in media she did not have. As a writer for Autostraddle, Drew discusses the freedom of writing for queer indie media, finding the one second of queerness in the In The Heights trailer, and assigns us the best kind of homework, to watch her queer media recommendations. Hosts Holly and Meghan discuss more thoughts on the return of in-person theatre and Chonburi International Hotel and Butterfly Club written by and featuring Shakina Nayfack and directed by Laura Savia on Audible. Show Discussion: Chonburi International Hotel and Butterfly Club written by and featuring Shakina Nayfack, directed by Laura Savia, produced in collaboration with Williamstown Theatre Festival Narrated by: Shakina Nayfack, Kate Bornstein, Annie Golden, Telly Leung, Jason Tam, Bianca Leigh, Ivory Aquino, Pooya Mohseni, Samy Figaredo, Angelica Ross, Liz Lark Brown, Ita Segev, Dana Aliya Levinson Action of the Ep:  Upcoming NYC voting dates Saturday, June 12, 2021 - early Voting begins  Tuesday, June 15, 2021 - absentee ballots must be requested  Tuesday, June 22, 2021 - primary election  Tuesday, November 2, 2021 - general election NYC Registered Voter Search Find Your Pollsite and View a Sample Ballot for Democratic Primary elections! Research candidates for Mayor, City Council, District Attorney, Cit Comptroller, Borough President, and more! Learn about the new Ranked Choice Voting Gothamist 2021 Voter Guide Theater in Asylum’s 2021 Voter Guide Drew Gregory: Instagram | Twitter | Autostraddle “The First Time” - short from Drew Gregory “This Is an Essay About Penises” “The Poet’s Choice” - essay about Portrait of a Lady on Fire  “From “Calamity Jane” to “The Prom”: A History of Queer Women in Movie Musicals” Holy Camp! The 200 Best Lesbian, Bisexual & Queer Movies Of All Time House of Hummingbird Alice Junior The Watermelon Woman Mommy is Coming Eva & Candela Second Star on the Right “Sundance 2021: “4 Feet High” Is a Monumental Work of Queer Disabled Media” Queer Gives: Trans Justice Funding Project - Donate! Thesis on Joan: Follow Thesis on Joan on Instagram & Twitter  Leave us a voicemail at (845) 445-9251‬ Email us at thesisonjoan at gmail dot com You can find a full transcript of this episode here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

this episode is a lil mini introduction to the Foucauldian concept of biopower -- lots of chats about institutionalized power (how it operates, how it's maintained, + how it appears), the interconnectedness of medicine and politics, and how the state regulates identity. a bit of a heavier one!! but we're still havin fun https://isna.org/articles/ambivalent_medicine/)"Who's on Top?" by Kate Bornstein"The Five Sexes" by Anne Fausto-Sterling

En este episodio la escritora Vanessa Rosales dialoga con Simón Uribe, máster en Estudios Culturales, quien ha dedicado sus estudios al género, la sexualidad, la interseccionalidad y el activismo trans. Es una conversación que oscila entre iluminadores conceptos y nociones teóricas y las texturas de la vida, el sentido de la humanidad. Conversan sobre el género y la sexualidad como preguntas del sentido vital, sobre el concepto de Kate Bornstein de , sobre el uso de ciertas categorías para reivindicaciones políticas y al tiempo sobre las tensiones que hay en la categorización, reflexionan sobre cómo el pensamiento crítico implica observar la tensión entre lo que permiten las categorías y las formas en que pueden resultar sujetantes. También sobre la crisis de la representación dentro del feminismo, sobre la interseccionalidad, sus matices; sobre la subalternidad, la ampliación del sujeto político de los feminismos, la fluidez identataria, conceptos alrededor de lo queer. Gaytari Spivak, Judith Butler, Jacques Derrida, son referentes para iluminar un tema que siempre vale la pena recordar se trata de personas y no sólo de teorías. Este es uno de los diálogos más iluminadores en Mujer Vestida, en él se cuestionan, además, pensamientos jerárquicos, las lógicas que buscan normalizar la exclusión. Es un espacio desde donde observar y pensar cómo ciertas facciones reproducen nociones esencialistas, coloniales, problemáticas, que necesitan constante problematización. Que nuestras políticas sean un sitio de hospitalidad hacia el otro, humanidad y de amor.

Shon speaks with a 73 year-old who travelled across America living with the Amish, the Baha'i and Church of Scientology in a quest to better understand their gender identity.

Content Warnings: mentions of enslavement, racism, transphobia, violence, death.This Week, we are talking about The Deep by Rivers Solomon, as well as other Science Fiction Fantasy books with queer themes by Black authors! This episode was supposed to come out last week at the tail end of Black History Month, but life happens, sometimes!Books Mentioned:If it was easy, they'd call the whole damn thing a honeymoon: Living with and loving the TV addicted, sex-obsessed, not so handy man you married (2011) by Jenna McCarthyOn a Sunbeam by Tillie WaldenPersepolis by Marjane SatrapiThe Deep by Rivers SolomonBabel-17 by Samuel R. DelanyBread and Wine: An Erotic Tale of New York by Samuel R. DelanyDread Nation by Justina IrelandThe Gilda Stories by Jewelle GómezThe Wicker King by K. AncrumThe Weight of Stars by K. AncrumDarling by K. AncrumFalling in Love with Hominids by Nalo HopkinsonSkin Folk by Nalo HopkinsonPrey of Gods by Nick DraydenTemper by Nick DraydenEscaping Exodus by Nick DraydenStone Butch Blues by Leslie FeinbergGender Outlaws by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear BergmanParrotfish by Ellen WittlingerYou can reach us at:River Instagram: @huckleberry.comicsWake Instagram: @notaclevernamerShow email: littlequeerlibrarypod@gmail.com

Leah and Mike talk with author, actor, activist and icon Kate Bornstein about homophobia and transphobia in scientology, how she lost her family to disconnection, Fair Game and how scientology thinks gender identity is "solved" with auditing.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com

Leah and Mike talk with author, actor, activist and icon Kate Bornstein about homophobia and transphobia in scientology, how she lost her family to disconnection, Fair Game and how scientology thinks gender identity is "solved" with auditing.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://news.iheart.com/podcast-advertisers

Sam Feder is an award-winning director and producer whose films explore the intersection of visibility and politics along the lines of race, class, and gender in trans lives, while working towards higher ethical standards in filmmaking. His current film, Disclosure (streaming now on Netflix), which world-premiered at the Sundance Film Festival 2020 to high acclaim, thoroughly examines the history of transgender representation in film and television, revealing how Hollywood simultaneously reflects and manufactures our deepest anxieties about gender.His previous film, Kate Bornstein is a Queer and Pleasant Danger—portrait of trans icon Kate Bornstein—was named one of the best documentaries of 2014 by The Advocate, and won the James Aronson Award for Social Justice Journalism, among many other best feature film awards. His films were most notably programmed by the Sundance Film Festival, Tribeca Film Festival, CPH:DOX, MOMA PS-1, The British Film Institute, The Hammer Museum, and were featured in hundreds of film festivals globally.In this episode, Sam reflects on the mechanisms of coming out as he navigates his family, friends, and queer community, and discusses the paradox of trans visibility today, which led to the creation of Disclosure. Support the show (https://www.paypal.com/donate/?token=gwDpOtSRwr2aN0exTy_FAa_lOm9kam0ka6yS_nYth-cILmRaxBLCsx2hKMRqebud8Qy7gG&country.x=US&locale.x=US)

It's part two of the OutCast's season finale and we're highlighting three more films from the 2020 Outfest LA Festival! First, host David Kittredge chats with writer/director Travis Fine & star Kate Bornstein about their beautiful triptych TWO EYES, which tells three interweaving stories spanning centuries across the American West. Then, writer/directors Michael Seligman & Jennifer Tiexiera and producer Craig Olsen talk about how finding a trove of letters lead to P.S. BURN THIS LETTER PLEASE, their wonderful documentary about the lives of fabulous queens in pre-Stonewall New York. And then, writer/director Jonathan Wysocki and star Nick Pugliese take us to 1994 in the hilarious and heartwarming DRAMARAMA, a crowd-pleasing love letter to drama nerds and the intense friendships of youth… complete with Sondheim references. Support this podcast

It's almost serendipity that Scientology is all over the news with the very public divorce of Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise. Many speculate that Holmes left Cruise to escape the oppressive, bizarre religion that she’s afraid would hurt her child.In recent years, many high ranking church officials have left Scientology due to their the homophobia, transphobia and all around general abuse.Now, writer and performance artist Kate Bornstein, well known for her work as an advocate for trans folks, queer youth and all misfits is coming forward with her amazing story of being the right hand man of founder L. Ron Hubbard in her new book "A Queer and Pleasant Danger: A Memoir."Kate served in the upper echelon of the church aboard L. Ron Hubbard’s gigantic yacht before being forced out, leaving behind her daughter who she hasn’t been able to see in 30 years.Listen as we talk about the Church of Scientology’s genderless theology, how high ranking members believe they have the power of telekinesis, and why they are losing their grip on Hollywood.{Originally posted as: FOF #1629 - Kate Bornstein Inside the Belly of Scientology - 08.03.12}Featured Book:Kate Bornstein - A Queer and Pleasant Danger: A Memoir: Amazon

Merriam-Webster's Word of the Day for September 5, 2020 is: heyday • HAY-day • noun : the period of one's greatest popularity, vigor, or prosperity Examples: "The theater engaged Mr. Leslie ‘Les' Jones to build and paint the sets. He was in his early sixties when I arrived—he'd been a legendary scene painter during the heyday of vaudeville." — Kate Bornstein, A Queer and Present Danger, 2012 "But there are few drive-in theaters left. They've dwindled to just a handful in the Twin Cities since their heyday in the 1950s and '60s. There are only six left in Minnesota." — Kathy Berdan, TwinCities.com (St. Paul, Minnesota), 26 July 2020 Did you know? In its earliest appearances in English, in the 16th century, heyday was used as an interjection that expressed elation or wonder (similar to our word hey, from which it derives). Within a few decades, heyday was seeing use as a noun meaning "high spirits." This sense can be seen in Act III, scene 4 of Hamlet, when the Prince of Denmark tells his mother, "You cannot call it love; for at your age / The heyday in the blood is tame…." The word's second syllable is not thought to be borne of the modern word day (or any of its ancestors), but in the 18th century the syllable's resemblance to that word likely influenced the development of the now-familiar use referring to the period when one's achievement or popularity has reached its zenith.

"It has not been easy. We are still hustling hard every day. It's definitely been a little engine that could kind of situation for five years.""When we were first raising money, we were literally laughed out of boardrooms because our budget exceeded what they expected a documentary budget to be. And that was largely because we paid everyone their day rates and that's part of the standards I am fighting for in the documentary world."On Netflix: "How that deal came to be ... we were paid half as much as it cost to make the film.""The response has far exceeded anything I could have hope for or possibly dreamed. It's so meaningful and makes everything worth it 10x over.""We prioritized hiring trans people. And when we couldn't hire a trans person, the non trans person we hired mentored a trans fellow. Part of hiring that non trans person was to see how they felt about that and I only wanted to hire people that would be thrilled and excited and see it as an honor to be able to be in that position to pay it forward.""Allyship is all in action right, so we're already seeing the action of allies come to fruition.""I was just really moved by the power of how representation creates these mythologies, legacies and historical documentations and I wanted to see what that representation would look like for trans people.""I gathered all this material and some of it was already digitized but a lot of it wasn't and it took me a while to find a VCR that worked.""I didn't think the film was going to be only about Hollywood. I thought it was going to be a much larger look at all trans representation. But as I was doing those interviews over those eight months, everyone kept referencing Hollywood. And so it very quickly became clear that there was where the collective memory was and that would be the most influential place to look at the history."On Laverne Cox being executive producer: "It was not in name only. As you can see now, she's hustling, doing all the media for us, but from the beginning she was deeply collaborative and involved in the research, involved in the production, involved in editing. She was involved every step of the way. She's incredibly passionate about this film and she has been an ideal executive producer to work with.""There are so many people not in the film.""We need to see more documentation of our histories. Whether it's scripted or non-scripted.""Trans people are the experts of their own history. No one can or should talk about or for us. I think that really comes through in the interviews because people are genuinely speaking from topics and issues that they have been struggling with and dealing with and thinking about for so long.""So often marginalized communities are told they are being too sensitive, that their feelings aren't real, that what they are experiencing is not true. And here, I just kept collecting these images that reinforced so much of the shame and the pain and the violence that I had internalized, through our culture. And this was one place that it was being fed in our culture and I was able to finally point to something and say here, here's the proof and it's really horrible that people need proof to their feelings so often but here was somewhere I could point to that proof. So there was a lot of validation in collecting the material.""Being mentioned in the same sentence as an Oscar is ... I don't even have the words for it, that's unbelievable and it's a testament to I think where we're at in the cultural conversation now.""It's been a privilege, has been such an honor. It's been so meaningful to be able to contribute to the culture of conversations that are happening right now. Particularly around Black Trans lives and to be able to be part of that is such a gift.""I feel like our culture is hungry right now. People want to know what they need to learn, they want to know what they need to unlearn. It's great to have this two hour document to give it to you and tell you one place and one area where you need to learn and unlearn. And so people are really receptive to the film so particularly because of where we are in our cultural conversations at the moment.""Anyone who finished a film should get a huge prize. Making a film is so so hard. To know that it's being held in that capacity, kind of just gives us the boost we need right now.""One of my dreams was how could lawyers who are representing trans people - how could they use this film to their benefit? And I imagine, my hope, was that they would see this film and then have these cultural short cuts to talk to their jury and be like you might have these stereotypes about my client because of xyz that you saw in this movie and this is why it's not true. And this is a real person here that we're talking about, real experiences. That was a dream of mine.""This is such a community film and part of my understanding of how people would take in this imagery was to be in community, to laugh together, to feel the emotion together, to hear people sigh at the same time. And then have the conversations afterwards. Like that's so meaningful to hear people talk about it and then go out for dinner and talk about it some more and make connections. So yeah, it's been tricky to readjust to experience the viewer experience virtually."Sam Feder bio:Sam Feder has created several award-winning documentaries that center the intersections of race, class, sexuality, and conflict within the queer and trans community. Sam seeks to connect transgender struggles and liberation to the context of the present and legacy of the past by showing that our communal history makes our present lives possible. Sam’s second feature Kate Bornstein is a Queer & Pleasant Danger was named one of the best LGBT documentaries of 2014 by The Advocate, and cited by IndieWire as one of the must-see films of the 2014. http://www.disclosurethemovie.com/https://www.samfederfilms.com/https://www.instagram.com/disclosuredoc/https://www.facebook.com/DisclosureDoc/https://twitter.com/Disclosure_Dochttps://www.instagram.com/samfeder_1/https://www.instagram.com/lavernecox/https://www.instagram.com/amyjscholder/https://www.iatse.net/https://www.instagram.com/lawyer_stories/ 

You may only know of cam girls because of internet pop-ups (we won’t tell) or bad jokes. Maybe you’ve always been curious but have held back because of money, exploitation or religious moralizing. Well it’s 2020, working from home has become the usual and our sex worker friends are way ahead of us. Enter Saint Eve, our friendly neighborhood atheist cam girl. While she walks Christy and Vi through cam customer etiquette we’ll be getting ready to take your calls. This is the Atheist Experience Network’s Secular Sexuality on July 2nd. ► Find our beloved Saint at https://saint_eve.cammodels.com/► Learn more by diving deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/sainteveRecommended reading from tonight’s episode-Transgender History (Seal Studies) by Susan Stryke (https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker/dp/158005224X) Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock(https://www.amazon.com/Redefining-Realness-Path-Womanhood-Identity/dp/1476709130)Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein (https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Outlaw-Men-Women-Rest/dp/1101973242) Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by David J. Ley(https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Porn-Dicks-Responsible-Pleasure/dp/0996485236)

You may only know of cam girls because of internet pop-ups (we won’t tell) or bad jokes. Maybe you’ve always been curious but have held back because of money, exploitation or religious moralizing. Well it’s 2020, working from home has become the usual and our sex worker friends are way ahead of us. Enter Saint Eve, our friendly neighborhood atheist cam girl. While she walks Christy and Vi through cam customer etiquette we’ll be getting ready to take your calls. This is the Atheist Experience Network’s Secular Sexuality on July 2nd. ► Find our beloved Saint at https://saint_eve.cammodels.com/► Learn more by diving deeper into the episode at https://www.vcatx.com/media/sainteveRecommended reading from tonight’s episode-Transgender History (Seal Studies) by Susan Stryke (https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker/dp/158005224X) Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More by Janet Mock(https://www.amazon.com/Redefining-Realness-Path-Womanhood-Identity/dp/1476709130)Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein (https://www.amazon.com/Gender-Outlaw-Men-Women-Rest/dp/1101973242) Ethical Porn for Dicks: A Man's Guide to Responsible Viewing Pleasure by David J. Ley(https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Porn-Dicks-Responsible-Pleasure/dp/0996485236)

Guest host Denis O’Hare helps us mark the landmark event that helped give birth to the modern movement for LGBTQIA+ rights in America.  We first hear eyewitness accounts of the riots, drawn from The Stonewall Reader.  Additional works include Perry Brass’s “We Did It”; poems by  Kay Ulanday Barrett; and Gary Eldon Peter’s story “Wedding.”  Readers include Ivory Aquino, Kate Bornstein, Michael Early, Beth Malone, Kay Ulanday Barrett, and John Benjamin Hickey.

Produced by ContemporaryPerformance.com and the Sarah Lawrence College MFA Theatre Program, the SLC Performance Lab interviews visiting artists to the MFA Theatre Program’s Grad Lab, one of the core classes of the program where grads work with guest artists and develop group generated performance pieces monthly. Kate Bornstein was interviewed by Dan Hurlin and SLC Students on Zoom. Since 1989, trans trailblazer Kate Bornstein has—with humor and spunk—ushered us into a world of limitless possibility through a daring re-envisionment of the gender system as we know it. Today, Kate identifies as nonbinary: not a man, and not a woman—and she’s been writing about nonbinary gender identity for nearly thirty years. Currently, you can see Kate onscreen as Joan, the church lady, in the film, Saturday Church. In 2016, she was a regular cast member of the second season of E! TV’s “I Am Cait,” with Caitlyn Jenner. Kate is the subject of Sam Feder’s award-winning documentary, “Kate Bornstein Is a Queer and Pleasant Danger.” Kate’s work on suicide prevention, and her advocacy for marginalized and at-risk youth has earned her two citations of outstanding citizenship from the New York City Council.

Liam shares the story of five sisters who appear in Numbers 27. Without any attachment to a male heir, they will end up desperately destitute that is of course until they lobby for their cause and end up changing Mosaic law.  Peterson follows up with the "Other Text." A reading from Gender Outlaws--The Next Generation. Peterson reads an excerpt from Kate Bornstein's introduction.  In each episode of Bible Bash Podcast, Peterson, cisgender gay Bible scholar and co-host, Liam Michael Hooper, a trans Bible scholar, take turns presenting the text. They then discuss. In addition, each episode they present another text, a non-Biblical text of note--religious or secular--that may or may not correspond to the Bible text.  Bible Bash Podcast is a project of Ministries Beyond Welcome.  Our theme song is Playbill by The Jellyrox. It is available on iTunes, Spotify, or through Rock Candy Recordings To share your questions, comments, requests for passages to be discussed, or suggestions for guests who can talk about texts, email Liam & Peterson:  ministriesbeyondwelcome@gmail.com Bible Bash Podcast is part of the Rock Candy Network  Bible Bash logo was designed by Diana Coe at Crone Communications Check out other Rock Candy podcasts Sacred Tension by Stephen Long Bubble&Squeak by Peterson Toscano Eleventylife by EleventySeven

Is the political climate right now conducive to coming out trans? In this week's episode we answer a listener question: "Someone close to me has come out to me as trans and I'm so proud of her but so many things in the news scare me. I know she finds them scary too. I just wonder, if you were facing starting a transition in today's world, would you? Would any of the threats to trans rights going on today give you pause if you were still at the beginning of this process?"  Be sure and check out Queer and Pleasant Danger by Kate Bornstein.  Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards—like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes!  And watch the brand new Gender Rebels TV Youtube Channel!  Like us on  FaceBook so we can haunt your feed.  Faith's book, American Transgirl, available now! Music by one of our favorite bands, the super cool, all-female punk band Jasper the Colossal. Download their new album "Take Your Time" and all their tracks on iTunes.     

Click here to enter the Pride Month Giveaway, running until July 4th!This month we end up talking a lot about names, and how we're treated as a result of the weight those decisions we make, and those made for us. Gender Outlaws: by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman Join our discussions in the Orange Groves Discord Server!Our theme music is Big Trucks by I Believe in Julio.

Welcome to Episode 9: Gender 101 with Dreya St. Clair. This conversation with the Brown and CalArts Alum breaks down the components of Gender, Sex and Sexuality in a fun, judgement-free, and intimate way. Articles Featuring our Guest, Dreya St. Clair: Brown Alumni Mag Interview with Kate Bornstein: https://news.brown.edu/articles/2018/08/nonbinary Bustle Article: https://www.bustle.com/articles/191224-a-body-project-andre-st-clair-on-her-penis How Old Is English https://public.oed.com/blog/old-english-an-overview/# Buck Angel IG: @buckangel https://buckangel.com https://bust.com/sex/195055-trans-man-gyneologist-advice-buck-angel.html https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/evq43w/buck-angel-how-learning-to-love-my-vagina-affirmed-my-manhood Trans and Cis in Chemistry https://www2.chemistry.msu.edu/faculty/reusch/virttxtjml/sterisom.htm NYC Bathroom Law: https://www1.nyc.gov/nyc-resources/service/7147/single-occupancy-bathroom-complaint Name Change and Gender Marker Change Requirements State by State: https://namechange.uslegal.com/name-changes-laws-by-state/ https://transgenderlawcenter.org/resources/id/state-by-state-overview-changing-gender-markers-on-birth-certificates https://transequality.org/documents Percentage of Trans People in the Population https://thinkprogress.org/the-american-transgender-population-is-larger-than-we-thought-it-was-ab83126f33a/ History of the Word 'Tranny' https://www.transadvocate.com/tranny-an-evidence-based-review-2_n_13593.htm Where to find more FYTMI: IG: @foryourtmi Email: foryourtmi@gmail.com Music (in order) Psychadelik Pedestrian - Another Boring Lunch A A Alto - Ultraviolet A A Alto - Stamp A A Alto - Trot Tune

This is a conversation with Houston,Texas based educator and LGBTQ advocate Jacqueline Taylor. We discuss the ways in which discrimination, stereotypes and poverty affects the LGTBQ community. (Note: This was recorded before the current revelations on the Jussie Smollett case) Show Notes Gamma Rho Lambda Sorority (http://gammarholambda.org/) Gaycation show (https://www.viceland.com/en_us/show/gaycation) Houston's HERO ordinance (https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2015/11/03/why-houstons-gay-rights-ordinance-failed-bathrooms/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.3a397f5c662f) (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015_Houston,_Texas_Proposition_1) Transgender Day of Remembrance (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transgender_Day_of_Remembrance) Yves (https://www.instagram.com/the_yvesdropper/) Houston shooting (https://abc13.com/5105101/) Paris Is Burning documentary (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paris_Is_Burning_(film)) Jussie Smollett controversy (https://www.vox.com/2019/2/17/18228444/jussie-smollett-attack-hate-crime-arrest-hoax-empire) Houston's Drag Queen Storytime (https://www.houstonchronicle.com/news/houston-texas/houston/article/Judge-rejects-conservative-Christian-group-s-13334135.php?fbclid=IwAR1XSda1gHmhUnmZmLKWSkZ0HoWnA7u_d0JVSjDLM6ktcSQ3apS_ZRLgzyA) Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie controversy (https://www.vox.com/identities/2017/3/15/14910900/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-transgender-women-comments-apology) We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22738563-we-should-all-be-feminists) Womanism (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Womanism) Montrose Grace Place (https://www.montrosegraceplace.org/) The Trevor Project (https://www.thetrevorproject.org/) TransGriot (https://transgriot.blogspot.com/) TransHouston (https://www.transhouston.com/) Latina Trans Texas (https://www.latinatranstexas.org/) Montrose Center (https://montrosecenter.org/) Human Rights Campaign Transgender Information (https://www.hrc.org/resources/understanding-the-transgender-community) Transgender Population Size (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5227946/) The Gender Book (http://www.thegenderbook.com/the-book/4553374748) Kate Bornstein (https://www.amazon.com/Kate-Bornstein/e/B000APD3H2%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share)

Recorded live in Birmingham during Grand Union’s ‘Ways of Learning’ exhibition, this episode of Suite (212) Extra discusses queer consciousness-raising. Juliet talks to writer/artist Huw Lemmey about LGBTQI+ activism before and after the Stonewall riots of June 1969 in the US and western Europe; the use of direct action and think-ins by the Gay Liberation Front and others; how AIDS and Section 28 changed queer art and activism; the development of trans theory in the 1990s; and the state of queer politics and creativity today. SELECTED REFERENCES Travis Alabanza - http://travisalabanza.co.uk Kenneth Anger Penny Arcade (performance artist) - https://www.newstatesman.com/blogs/juliet-jacques/2012/06/penny-arcade-someone-always-queer Army of Lovers (dir. Rosa von Praunheim, 1979) - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0078794 HARRY BENJAMIN, The Transsexual Phenomenon (1967) Jay Bernard - https://www.theguardian.com/books/2018/apr/05/speaking-out-jay-bernard-surge-side-a-poet Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore - https://www.mattildabernsteinsycamore.com/ Imogen Binnie - https://www.lambdaliterary.org/reviews/04/02/nevada-a-novel-by-imogen-binnie/ KATE BORNSTEIN, Gender Outlaw (1994) - https://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/kate-bornstein/gender-outlaw/ Lee Brewer & Bunny Eisenhower City of Lost Souls (dir. Rosa von Praunheim, 1983) - https://www.3ammagazine.com/3am/returning-to-the-city-of-lost-souls Come Out (Gay Liberation Front magazine) Contrapoints - https://www.theverge.com/tech/2018/8/24/17689090/contrapoints-youtube-natalie-wynn Kenny Everett Rainer Werner Fassbinder LESLIE FEINBERG, Stone Butch Blues (1993) - http://www.lesliefeinberg.net FHAR (Front for Homosexual Revolutionary Action) Fierce Pussy - https://fiercepussy.org/ Ray Filar - https://twitter.com/rayfilar Diamanda Galás Gender Trash from Hell (zine) - https://www.digitaltransgenderarchive.net/files/xg94hp65x Gender Troublemakers (dir. Xanthra Philippa & Mirha-Soleil Ross, 1993) Henry Gerber - http://chicagolgbthalloffame.org/gerber-henry Allen Ginsberg Gran Fury - https://hyperallergic.com/46881/gran-fury-read-my-lips-80-wse-nyu Sunil Gupta – ‘‘Pretended’ Family Relationships’ (1988-89) Keith Haring Harry Hay - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Hay Magnus Hirschfeld Homocult (1990s UK queer group) - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/11936213-queer-with-class David Hoyle - https://i-d.vice.com/en_uk/article/vb349b/the-parallel-universe-of-david-hoyle It is Not the Homosexual Who is Perverse, But the Society in Which He Lives (dir. Rosa von Praunheim, 1971) - https://www.slantmagazine.com/house/tags/73387-it-is-not-the-homosexual-who-is-perverse-but-the-society-in-which-he-lives JULIET JACQUES, Trans: A Memoir (2015) LaJohn Joseph - http://www.lajohnjoseph.com/ Larry Kramer - https://www.poz.com/article/course-larry-kramer-believes-aids-worse-now-ever LSD - http://archivo-t.net/portfolio/1995-%C2%B7-menstruosidades/ Robert Mapplethorpe MARIO MIELI, Elements of a Homosexual Critique (1977) Zanele Muholi My Beautiful Launderette (dir. Stephen Frears, 1985) Pier Paolo Pasolini The Passage (band) - https://thepassage.co.uk/texts/andertons_hall.html Lazlo Pearlman Casey Plett Positiv and Silence = Death (dir. Rosa von Praunheim, 1990) PAUL B. PRECIADO, Testo Junkie (2008) Pride (dir. Matthew Warchus, 2014) Nat Raha Ron Rice Ignacio Rivera Sylvia Rivera - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9QiigzZCEtQ Round the Horne (BBC radio series) Vito Russo Richard Scott JULIA SERANO, Excluded (2013) SANDY STONE, ‘The “Empire” Strikes Back: A Post-Transsexual Manifesto’ (1987) Screaming Queens (dir. Susan Stryker & Victor Silverman, 2008) Jack Smith Tim Peaks: Farron Walk With Me (radio play, 2018) ISABEL WAIDNER (ed.), Liberating the Canon (2018) We Have Rather Been Invaded (dir. Ed Webb-Ingall, 2016) Oscar Wilde Eley Williams Kenneth Williams David Wojnarowicz Zaj (Spanish Fluxus group) - https://www.museoreinasofia.es/en/exhibitions/zaj

After a brief discussion about how Harry Potter teaches us to speak truth to power, Seth and Justin are joined by incredible author, artist, gender theorist, and Harry Potter fan Kate Bornstein! .

Kate Bornstein steps up; Mardi Gras left right and centre, Intersex Awareness Day

Kate is currently making her Broadway debut in STRAIGHT WHITE MEN and is a celebrated performance artist who’s toured nationally and internationally for over thirty years. Most recently, she performed On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us at La Mama in New York City. She is the subject of the documentary film, “Kate Bornstein Is A Queer and Pleasant Danger,” and appeared with Caitlyn Jenner on E! TV’s “I Am Cait.” Kate has also written six groundbreaking books, including “Gender Outlaw,” and “Hello, Cruel World.” Be sure to follow Kate on social media at @KateBornstein.(Hosts: Paul Wontorek, Ryan Lee Gilbert, Caitlin Moynihan)

The third dimension of gender is imagination. Legendary writer, actor, and gender theorist, Kate Bornstein talks about the future of gender: where we're at and where we're (hopefully) going. Kate has been writing about being nonbinary for over 30 years and talks about she's evolved to be more forgiving of people that don't agree with her stance on gender. She also talks about her desire for sex diminishing after undergoing chemo and what a shift it is to now embrace an asexual identity in life. LGBTQ&A is hosted by Jeffrey Masters and is part of The Advocate Magazine. You can recommend a guest or let us know what you think about the show on Twitter or by emailing lgbtqashow@gmail.com Stay up-to-date on all episodes and live shows at: www.LGBTQpodcast.com

“Chivalry is the kind of ritualized flirting that goes on and on and on." In this episode, iconic writer S. Bear Bergman makes a case for chivalry; a modern, bespoke, very queer kind. He compares it to high protocol BDSM, cruising, and good ole fashioned courtesy. Very much the kind of convo you’ll only find on YAPIT.S. Bear Bergman is a writer, storyteller, educator, activist and the founder and publisher of children’s book publisher Flamingo Rampant, which makes feminist, culturally-diverse children’s picture books about LGBT2Q+ kids and families. He writes creative non-fiction for grown ups, fiction for children, resolutely factual features for various news outlets, the advice column Asking Bear and was the co-editor along with Kate Bornstein of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. These days he spends most of his time making transgender cultural competency interventions any way he can and trying to avoid stepping on Lego. Learn more about his projects at sbearbergman.com. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Kate is BACK for part II of Kill Me Now with Judy Gold and Henny. Judy isn't the only lesbian, Jewish mother from NJ to also be a very talented solo show artist. Ms. Bornstein opens up about her body image issues, battle with anorexia, finding love and helping others with her experience. Kate talks about joining Scientology because of her attraction to the idea of "Thetans." Caitlyn Jenner accompanied her buddy Kate to Scientology's HQ to try and make contact with Kate's estranged daughter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Author, performer, world-renown gender theorist, activist and another Jewish lesbian mother from NJ joins Judy and Hennessy to discuss her captivating life! Series regular on "I Am Cait." Author of several great books and a novel, Hello Cruel World, written to derail "teens, freaks, and other outlaws" from committing suicide. Autobiographical written in 2012: Queer and Pleasant Danger: A Memoir: "The true story of a nice Jewish boy who joins the Church of Scientology and leaves twelve years later to become the lovely lady she is today." Kate's books are used in classes and universities around the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

E94 – Trans icon and author human Kate Bornstein is also a playwright, performance artist and gender theorist. Assigned male at birth, Kate received gender reassignment surgery in 1986. Joining the Church of Scientology (becoming a high ranking lieutenant in the Sea Org), Kate formally left the movement in 1981. Currently writing two new books; […]

ABOUT MELANIE BROOKS I am a writer, teacher, and mother living in Nashua, New Hampshire, with my husband, two children, and yellow Lab. I grew up in the Canadian Maritimes, and the deep ties to water and rugged spaces that live in me are rooted in that background. I graduated with a degree in English from Gordon College and then earned a Bachelor of Education from Dalhousie University. I later earned a Master of Science for Teachers of English from the University of New Hampshire. I began my career teaching high school social studies and then went on to teach middle school English. After my children were born, I began teaching college writing. I currently teach professional writing at Northeastern University in Boston, Massachusetts, and Merrimack College in Andover, Massachusetts, and creative writing at Nashua Community College in Nashua, New Hampshire. I completed my MFA in creative nonfiction through the Stonecoast Creative Writing Program at the University of Southern Maine. I love words. And I love to play with words on the page. My head is a busy place. An endless film reel plays in there, its frames alive with images and moments, actual and imagined, that I’ve tucked into the folds of my memory. I watch them over and over again, shaping and reshaping, ordering and reordering, trying to make sense of them, searching for the story they want to tell and the language with which to tell it. Unpacking experiences of life and loss is at the core of my writing. When I was thirteen, my father was infected with HIV after receiving tainted blood during open-heart surgery. He died of an AIDS-related illness ten years later. The complicated nature of his disease and the grief of his death have had a lasting impact on me. My writing is the vehicle through which I'm learning to understand that impact. The stories filling the pages are helping me to better understand myself. https://www.melaniebrooks.com/ I first read about Melanie Brooks in Poets & Writers Magazine. Her book, Writing Hard Stories, grabbed my attention and I just had to invite her on my show! Writing Hard Stories: Celebrated Memoirists Who Shaped Art from Trauma "An inspiring guide to ennobling personal stories that travel to the dark sides of life." - Kirkus Reviews ​ “Writers of all genres will glean golden nuggets of advice about writing and living from this book, while all readers, because they, too, have unique personal stories, will be comforted and inspired by the everyday and creative struggles of some of their favorite authors.” - Booklist ​ "[I]t unearths gems of insight, especially about the natures of truth, memory, subjectivity, and fact, and about what memoirs can mean to readers. And it leaves no doubt about the strength required to confront old ghosts." - Publishers Weekly ​ PUBLISHED WITH BEACON PRESS (February 2017) Order Your Copy Here In Melanie's own words Two years ago, I began writing a painful family story that has now become a memoir, A Complicated Grief. Writing into the memories of this part of my life left me with some difficult questions: What does it take to write an honest memoir? And what happens to us when we embark on that journey? Would I survive the process? I decided to approach the writers whose memoirs moved me and ask these questions. Their replies – honest and soul-searing – comprise Writing Hard Stories. This book profiles my conversations with some of our country’s most prolific writers including: Alysia Abbott, Richard Blanco, Kate Bornstein, Edwidge Danticat, Mark Doty, Andre Dubus III, Jessica Handler, Richard Hoffman, Marianne Leone, Michael Patrick McDonald, Kyoko Mori, Suzanne Strempek Shea, Sue William Silverman, Kim Stafford, Abigail Thomas, Jerald Walker, Joan Wickersham, and Monica Wood. These writers invited me into their homes, into their lives, to share the intimacies of finding the courage to put words to their stories. Their candid descriptions of their own treks through the darkest of memories and the details of the breakthrough moments that opened up their stories gave me the mooring I needed to keep writing my own.

If you ever have the opportunity to speak with one of your heroes: breathe, savor it, and don’t waste a minute! And that’s our message for you this week. read more

How do you know you're transgender or ready for transition? In this episode we answer a question a lot of listeners have asked. Do the thoughts and feelings I have make me transgender? What if I'm not ready for that? Am I really transgender enough to transition? Other trans people I've seen seem so much more advanced than me. On this episode we'll discuss how to deal with dysphoria and questions about whether transition is right for you.  Check out New Gender Workbook by the always amazing Kate Bornstein. Also, You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery by Dara Hoffman Fox.  Here's a link to the DSM V. This one's big and expensive.  Don't buy it, but if you see it in the reference section of your library and have an hour to kill, it's fun to flip through.  "Gender Dysphoria" is what we usually talk about on TGR, but the whole book is pretty cool, according  to Kath. Support us on Patreon to help us keep making great content, and to get some cool rewards-- like drinks with us at Stonewall Inn! Check out our website for our latest episodes!     Follow us on twitter for all our shower thoughts and other musings @TheGenderRebels    Like us on  FaceBook so we can haunt your feed.    Music by one of our favorite bands, the super cool, all-female punk band Jasper the Colossal. Download their new album "Take Your Time" and all their tracks on iTunes. 

Amber Martin joins Justin to discuss her debut album "A.M. Gold" - which features collaborations with transgender pioneer Kate Bornstein and Jake Shears of the Scissor Sisters - her love of vintage K-Tel records, and Mattachine, the acclaimed New York queer party she hosts with John Cameron Mitchell. Plus, Justin introduces some new Gay Slang including the soon-to-be-legendary "Girl Wha?"

ABOUT MELANIE BROOKS I am a writer, teacher, and mother living in Nashua, New Hampshire, with my husband, two children, and yellow Lab. I grew up in the Canadian Maritimes, and the deep ties to water and rugged spaces that live in me are rooted in that background. I graduated with a degree in English from Gordon College and then earned a Bachelor of Education from Dalhousie University. I later earned a Master of Science for Teachers of English from the University of New Hampshire. I began my career teaching high school social studies and then went on to teach middle school English. After my children were born, I began teaching college writing. I currently teach professional writing at Northeastern University in Boston, Massachusetts, and Merrimack College in Andover, Massachusetts, and creative writing at Nashua Community College in Nashua, New Hampshire. I completed my MFA in creative nonfiction through the Stonecoast Creative Writing Program at the University of Southern Maine. I love words. And I love to play with words on the page. My head is a busy place. An endless film reel plays in there, its frames alive with images and moments, actual and imagined, that I’ve tucked into the folds of my memory. I watch them over and over again, shaping and reshaping, ordering and reordering, trying to make sense of them, searching for the story they want to tell and the language with which to tell it. Unpacking experiences of life and loss is at the core of my writing. When I was thirteen, my father was infected with HIV after receiving tainted blood during open-heart surgery. He died of an AIDS-related illness ten years later. The complicated nature of his disease and the grief of his death have had a lasting impact on me. My writing is the vehicle through which I'm learning to understand that impact. The stories filling the pages are helping me to better understand myself. https://www.melaniebrooks.com/ I first read about Melanie Brooks in Poets & Writers Magazine. Her book, Writing Hard Stories, grabbed my attention and I just had to invite her on my show! Writing Hard Stories: Celebrated Memoirists Who Shaped Art from Trauma "An inspiring guide to ennobling personal stories that travel to the dark sides of life." - Kirkus Reviews ​ “Writers of all genres will glean golden nuggets of advice about writing and living from this book, while all readers, because they, too, have unique personal stories, will be comforted and inspired by the everyday and creative struggles of some of their favorite authors.” - Booklist ​ "[I]t unearths gems of insight, especially about the natures of truth, memory, subjectivity, and fact, and about what memoirs can mean to readers. And it leaves no doubt about the strength required to confront old ghosts." - Publishers Weekly ​ PUBLISHED WITH BEACON PRESS (February 2017) Order Your Copy Here In Melanie's own words Two years ago, I began writing a painful family story that has now become a memoir, A Complicated Grief. Writing into the memories of this part of my life left me with some difficult questions: What does it take to write an honest memoir? And what happens to us when we embark on that journey? Would I survive the process? I decided to approach the writers whose memoirs moved me and ask these questions. Their replies – honest and soul-searing – comprise Writing Hard Stories. This book profiles my conversations with some of our country’s most prolific writers including: Alysia Abbott, Richard Blanco, Kate Bornstein, Edwidge Danticat, Mark Doty, Andre Dubus III, Jessica Handler, Richard Hoffman, Marianne Leone, Michael Patrick McDonald, Kyoko Mori, Suzanne Strempek Shea, Sue William Silverman, Kim Stafford, Abigail Thomas, Jerald Walker, Joan Wickersham, and Monica Wood. These writers invited me into their homes, into their lives, to share the intimacies of finding the courage to put words to their stories. Their candid descriptions of their own treks through the darkest of memories and the details of the breakthrough moments that opened up their stories gave me the mooring I needed to keep writing my own.

After Corinne describes a visit from a ghost of dating past, the girls sit down with 68-year-old author, performer, advocate, and gender outlaw KATE BORNSTEIN to talk about what it was like to get gender confirmation surgery in the 80s, how you turn a penis into a vagina, sex for a trans person, advice for young people going through similar struggles, 101 alternatives to suicide, and a whole bunch of other stuff just for the fun of it. Really, anything that's not mean. PLUS: Orange Is The New Black isn't even as close to as bad as it gets. SPECIAL THANKS TO THOMAS WHITFIELD FOR RECOMMENDING KATE

Whimsey and reflection are afoot this week on the podcast, as Lee is joined by the author of “A Little Queermas,” Sassafras Lowrey. They discuss stigma and myths around age play, queer identity, and building holiday traditions that serve the people observing them. Exploring the notion of the “other,” they also reflect on the experiences of LGBTQ people having been kicked out in youth, and how being seen in literature can help people not feel alone. ** Passion And Soul Podcast:
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Conversation between Sandy Stone and Kate Bornstein about transgender issues. Lots of stories and they field questions from the audience.   http://ia601505.us.archive.org/19/items/SandyStoneAndKateBornstein/Sandy%20Stone%20and%20Kate%20Bornstein.mp3

On today's episode we talk with Sister Simon Campbell, a nun who leads by example when it comes to social justice. She stopped by the statehouse with a bus load of other nuns last week for their ' Mend the Gaps' tour. Also, Kate Bornstein visited Springfield a few years ago and stopped by the NPR Illinois station to discuss her memoir, a Queer & Pleasant Danger . She's on an epic spiritual journey, weaving her way through Judaism, Scientology, Buddhism and Taoism. She talks to us about that, and much, much more. Tune in!

Justin Vivian Bond is a Tony nominated, Obie, GLAAD and Essie winning cabaret star and trans-genre artist. Vocal about being transgender, Justin uses V as a preferred prefix. The first time Bond took the stage was as a wee babe in a Christmas show at V.'s family’s local Church of the Brethren in sleepy Hagerstown, Maryland, but the rest of the word would have to wait decades before hearing from the sumptuous voice and acerbic wit which made Bond a legend. After high school and a stint as a counselor at church camp, Bond knocked around New York and studied theater, but didn’t find a niche until moving to San Francisco in 1989. Out West, Bond took a day job at A Different Light bookstore and performed in plays, most notably in Hidden A: Gender by Kate Bornstein, the renowned performance artist and gender theorist. Like Bornstein, Bond spoke shattered simplistic theories, like the idea that everyone who transgender feels trapped in the wrong body. Justin also met the musician Kenny Mellman, and the duo...

A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man's girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.”  He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlin Jenner effect and Kate's deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week's menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

A woman who identified as lesbian of 15 years (with a wife even,) has taken a younger, male lover. So, how is this gonna work? A man's girlfriend insists that if and when they have kids, he will have to go through “labor simulation.”  He thinks this is batty. But what does Dan Savage think? On the Magnum, Dan chats with trans luminary Kate Bornstein about words vs slurs, the Caitlin Jenner effect and Kate's deep, dark past with Scientology. 206-302-2064 Today's episode is brought to you by Blue Apron, the delivery service that sends you fresh ingredients and incredible recipes so you can make fabulous meals at home. Check out this week's menu and get your first 2 meals free by going to BlueApron.com/Savage. This episode is also brought to you by AdamandEve.com. Get 10 free gifts, plus free shipping when you enter offer code "Savage".

At the end of July 2015, I spoke to Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman, two legends in the international queer community about the book they co-edited together, Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. The pieces in […] http://joy.org.au/asiwassaying/wp-content/uploads/sites/299/2015/08/Episode-7-Kate-and-Bear_mixdown.mp3 Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 40:42 — 55.9MB) The post Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation appeared first on As I Was Saying.

Contents:   1. Skirts   2. Androgynous Guy blog - androgynousguy.blogspot.com   Luis Conk - http://androgynousguy.blogspot.com.au/2014/11/luis-conk.html   Luis in a gorgeous dress - http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-2K-manQogyw/VHVmanei9gI/AAAAAAAAKuk/9-6DEIguFxo/s1600/Luis%2BConk%2B%2B(9).jpg   David Ferran - http://androgynousguy.blogspot.com.au/2013/03/david-ferran.html   3. Review - The new gender workbook by Kate Bornstein   http://www.amazon.com/New-Gender-Workbook-Step-Step/dp/0415538653   Email: genderqueeruniverse@gmail.com

The Untragic Trans* Panel from WisCon 37! Moderated by Rhea Ewing, with Autumn Nicole Bradley, Rose Hayes, Brit Mandelo, and Elliott Mason. The panel runs an hour and fifteen minutes, and then I give a little Readercon report after it's over. Things the panelists recommended: *We Happy Trans* is a website specifically for sharing positive trans* experiences. *What Makes a Baby is a book that talks about how babies are made in very inclusive terms for all kinds of families. *Choir Boy by Charlie Anders is a novel about a trans* teen. *Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman is a book about exploring gender in multiple ways. *Being Emily by Rachel Gold is another trans* teen novel, and one which Autumn recommends as really speaking to her experience. *FINE is Rhea's comic about gender. Readercon was great! Big thanks to he concom for working hard to make the space as safe and inclusive as possible. I loved getting to catch up with so many OA members, though I utterly failed to get a lot pictures. I do have two, though! Both from the From Page to Stage workshop run by C.S.E. Cooney and Caitlyn Paxson. At the end, all the participants read from their work, and I caught Kyell Gold and Brad Parks in the act! Here's Kyell: And Brad: Thanks to everyone who made Readercon weekend great!

Why gender? While sex is determined by biology, gender is constructed by culture and differs, as such, from place to place. Why then do we have it in the first place?

In this week's episode you can listen to Bailey panic and vamp for her life while she does the show with no guests and no tech engineer while also playing some awesomely talented transgender musicians such as: Mina Caputo, Namoli Brennet, and Eli Conley. Bailey also reads sections of the fabulous book by Kate Bornstein, "Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives To Suicide For Teens, Freaks, And Other Outlaws."

Right click here to download the mp3. Art by Randi JohnsIn the recent past, there was only one sexual identity: Heterosexual. It was the norm in such a way that there wasn't really any space in the collective understanding for alternate sexual identities. Today, sexual identity has become a place of discovery, controversy, and question, bringing in terms like gay, lesbian, homosexual, bi-sexual, and transsexual. Julia identifies herself as queer, which is not so much a sexual identity as an approach to sexuality that leaves the "box" wide open. She talks about the freedom that comes from being in a safe place to exist as she is. Julia will be watching the comments to respond to the ideas brought up in her interview.As you leave comments, remember that Daughters of Mormonism seeks to provide a safe place for women to share their stories. This is a real story from a real person. Please see the Comment Policy for further details. Resources and ReferencesQueer and Questioning BlogPDF download of Trans/gender 101: Terms and ExplanationsGay, Lesbian, and Straight Education NetworkPDF download for Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network "Guide to Being an Ally" TransChristiansAffirmationGender Trouble by Judith ButlerGender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the Rest of Us by Kate BornsteinGender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein"Cleansing the Inner Vessel" by Boyd K. Packer RECORDED VIDEO"Cleansing the Inner Vessel" by Boyd K. Packer EDITED TRANSCRIPTABC News article on the edit  Quote from The Miracle of Forgiveness by Spencer W. Kimball about masturbation leading to homosexuality: "Thus prophets anciently and today condemn masturbation [...] it too often leads to grievous sin, even to that sin against nature, homosexuality. For, done in private, it evolves often into mutual masturbation--practiced with another person of the same sex and thence into total homosexuality."

In this episode I've been into the archives to retrieve two presentations by myself and the well-known US trans personality Kate Bornstein in June 2007, as we shared the stage opening the UK's first "Transfabulous" conference. You can read a report about that whole conference here Kate and I were the 'bookends' to an introductory session, in which the facilitators of each of the day's four workstreams described what they aimed to cover. We both set out in our different ways to set the mood...

“Cat Lady” on PRX About Cat Lady I had struggled for a year, trying to write a piece about my mother, about myself, about what I observed to be an awkward, even incompatible relationship between the roles of artist and mother, about a child’s inheritance of his parents’ pain and desire. I had a long and unfocused essay, which I put aside. A few months later Holly Hughes invited me to participate in a night of readings that would all be pet-themed. Did I have anything that would fit? I, barely legal, was excited and intimidated by others she told me were on the bill– Eileen Myles, Kate Bornstein– artists who were much older and more accomplished than I. Yes, I said, I have something. I read over and threw out that previous manuscript and sat down to write a short poem about my mother… and cats! Three days later I had overstayed my welcome in various diners across New York City and had a twenty-minute short story. The piece went over quite well and Holly encouraged me to stage it, which I eventually did. As a theater piece it’s been performed, under Elizabeth Gimbel’s direction, in cities across the country and in Europe as well. While I began in the autobiographical, the characters and events in “Cat Lady” are decidedly abstracted and fictionalized. My actual mother speaks in more dulcet tones and, as she herself points out, would never feed the cats Whiskas. Tech Info This was recorded in a studio at The University of Michigan’s Duderstadt Center with Katherine Weider and Stephanie Rowden. I edited it with Garageband. Additional Support for this work provided by

“Cat Lady” on PRX About Cat Lady I had struggled for a year, trying to write a piece about my mother, about myself, about what I observed to be an awkward, even incompatible relationship between the roles of artist and mother, about a child’s inheritance of his parents’ pain and desire. I had a long and unfocused essay, which I put aside. A few months later Holly Hughes invited me to participate in a night of readings that would all be pet-themed. Did I have anything that would fit? I, barely legal, was excited and intimidated by others she told me were on the bill– Eileen Myles, Kate Bornstein– artists who were much older and more accomplished than I. Yes, I said, I have something. I read over and threw out that previous manuscript and sat down to write a short poem about my mother… and cats! Three days later I had overstayed my welcome in various diners across New York City and had a twenty-minute short story. The piece went over quite well and Holly encouraged me to stage it, which I eventually did. As a theater piece it’s been performed, under Elizabeth Gimbel’s direction, in cities across the country and in Europe as well. While I began in the autobiographical, the characters and events in “Cat Lady” are decidedly abstracted and fictionalized. My actual mother speaks in more dulcet tones and, as she herself points out, would never feed the cats Whiskas. Tech Info This was recorded in a studio at The University of Michigan’s Duderstadt Center with Katherine Weider and Stephanie Rowden. I edited it with Garageband. Additional Support for this work provided by

FREE SAMPLE Susie Bright Interviews Transgender Outlaw Kate Bornstein When it comes to turning boys and girls upside down, and shaking up every orgasmic assumption you ever had, no one does it better than transgender author, playwright, and performance artist Kate Bornstein. Susie and Kate discuss Bornstein's latest book, Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws, as well as gender hierarchy and depression. If you've ever wanted to hear the un-cutesy truth about how people stay alive when all seems lost, this is it. Subscribe now!

Editor Sabrina Chapadjiev discusses the new Seven Stories Press anthology Live Through This: On Creativity and Self Destruction, a rich collection of women artists sharing intimate accounts of cutting, alcoholism, suicide, abuse, madness and other self harm and how it relates to their creativity. Authors include bell hooks, Bonfire Madigan Shive, Patricia Smith, Annie Sprinkle, Inga Muscio, Kate Bornstein, and Nicole Blackman.   [Read more...]

Transsexual writer and activist Kate Bornstein on her book Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks and Other Outlaws. Kate overturns the orthodox either-or labels of male / female and straight/gay/bi with her postmodern sexuality of self-definition and fluid identity. Kate is the author of the highly successful books My Gender Workbook and Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and The Rest of Us, and her new book takes a transgressive and honest approach to what it takes to stay alive in a crazy world.   [Read more...]