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196 To celebrate the publication of Dr. Hillary McBride's latest book, Holy Hurt: Understanding and Healing from Spiritual Trauma, we're bringing back this beloved conversation about how to hold ourselves when we are hurting.Why does it hurt so badly when things don't go as we'd hoped? How do we hold ourselves when we're in great pain? How do we talk to others so that we can reestablish loving connections when they've hurt us or we've hurt them? Psychologist and embodiment expert Dr. Hillary McBride answers all these questions and more in this profound conversation that offers deep solace to anyone who's hurting. Covered in this episode: Transitions that Hillary and Nadine are currently navigatingWhat's bringing them delight Why there is a deep grief when our plans don't play outHow to tune into our own bodies to see how we're feeling How to identify what we need and then self-sootheHelpful dialogue for hard conversationsThe 7 words that can lead to great repairHow to cultivate profound self-trust About Hillary:Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered psychologist, a researcher, and podcastor, with expertise that includes working with trauma and trauma therapies, embodiment, at the intersection of spirituality and mental health. Her first book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, was published in 2017; she was the senior editor of the textbook Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention, and Treatment, which was published in 2018. Her bestselling book The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding wholeness, healing and connection through embodied living came out in the fall of 2021, and in January she released Practices for Embodied Living. Her next book Holy Hurt: understanding and healing from spiritual trauma, comes out April 2025. She has been recognized by the American Psychological Association, and the Canadian Psychological Association for her research and clinical work. In addition to being a teaching faculty at the University of British Columbia, she is an ambassador for Sanctuary Mental Health, and the host of CBC's award winning podcast Other People's Problems. Hillary makes her home in the pacific northwest in British Columbia, Canada.www.hillarylmcbride.com IG: @hillaryliannamcbride About Nadine:Nadine Kenney Johnstone is a holistic writing coach who helps women develop and publish their stories. She is the proud founder of WriteWELL, an online community that helps women reclaim their writing time, put pen to page, and get published. The authors in her community have published countless books and hundreds of essays in places like The New York Times, Vogue, The Sun, The Boston Globe, Longreads, and more. Her infertility memoir, Of This Much I'm Sure, was named book of the year by the Chicago Writer's Association. Her latest book, Come Home to Your Heart, is an essay collection and guided journal that helps readers tap into their inner wisdom and fall back...

(Bilingual) このメッセージではモンティー牧師が「どうやったらより良い友だちになれる？」について以下の３つのポイントから話します。ディスカッション用の質問はノートの最後に確認できます。In this message Ps Monty talks about "How Can I Be a Better Friend?" in these 3 points:Check the questions for discussion at the end of the note. マタイ 22:37-39 ERV / Matthew 22:37-39 NIVマタイ 7:12 ERV / Matthew 7:12 NIVマルコ 2:1-12 ERV / Mark 2:1-12 NIV箴言 27:17 JCB / Proverbs 27:17 NIV箴言 17:17 JCB / Proverbs 17:17 NIV1.Love God 神様を愛する2.Love Ourselves 自分自身を愛する3.Love Others 他の人を愛するQUESTIONS(質問) : ・How can we love God more in our friendships? (友だち関係で神様をもっと愛するにはどうしたらいいですか？)・What does “love your neighbor as yourself” mean to you? (「周りの人を自分のように愛する」とはどういう意味ですか？)・How did the paralyzed man's friends show love? (麻痺した男の友だちはどのように愛を示しましたか？)・How can friends help each other grow? (友だち同士はどうやってお互いに成長を助け合えますか？)・What makes a good friend? (良い友だちとはどんな人ですか？)Connect with us:Web: mylifehouse.comInstagram: instagram.com/lifehouseglobal/Facebook: facebook.com/lifehouseglobalVideo Messages: ビデオメッセージ: youtube.com/LifehouseTokyoOther Podcasts:Want to listen to our messages in other languages?Lifehouse Messages (English): https://lifehousemessages.captivate.fm/listenLifehouse Hong Kong (Cantonese & English): https://lifehousehongkong.captivate.fm/listen

174 Why does it hurt so badly when things don't go as we'd hoped? How do we hold ourselves when we're in great pain? How do we talk to others so that we can reestablish loving connections when they've hurt us or we've hurt them? Psychologist and embodiment expert Dr. Hillary McBride answers all these questions and more in this profound conversation that offers deep solace to anyone who's hurting. Covered in this episode: Transitions that Hillary and Nadine are currently navigatingWhat's bringing them delight Why there is a deep grief when our plans don't play outHow to tune into our own bodies to see how we're feeling How to identify what we need and then self-sootheHelpful dialogue for hard conversationsThe 7 words that can lead to great repairHow to cultivate profound self-trust Two opportunities for women* writers: Nov 18 12-1 CST: Try a WriteWELL class for free. The replay will be sent if you miss. Nov 19 10-12:30 CST: Join Nadine and her favorite writing professor of all time, Patty McNair, for a Collaborative Masterclass called (Extra)ordinary Content. The replay will be sent if you can't make it live. *"Women" refers to any women-identifying people. WriteWELL is affirming of all non-binary individuals and gender identities.About Hillary:Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered psychologist, a researcher, and podcastor, with expertise that includes working with trauma and trauma therapies, embodiment, at the intersection of spirituality and mental health. Her first book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, was published in 2017; she was the senior editor of the textbook Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention, and Treatment, which was published in 2018. Her bestselling book The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding wholeness, healing and connection through embodied living came out in the fall of 2021, and in January she released Practices for Embodied Living. Her next book Holy Hurt: understanding and healing from spiritual trauma, comes out April 2025. She has been recognized by the American Psychological Association, and the Canadian Psychological Association for her research and clinical work. In addition to being a teaching faculty at the University of British Columbia, she is an ambassador for Sanctuary Mental Health, and the host of CBC's award winning podcast Other People's Problems. Hillary makes her home in the pacific northwest in British Columbia, Canada.www.hillarylmcbride.com IG: @hillaryliannamcbride About Nadine:Nadine Kenney Johnstone is a holistic writing coach who helps women develop and publish their stories. She is the proud founder of WriteWELL, an online community that helps women reclaim their writing time, put pen to page, and get published. The authors in her community have published countless books and hundreds of essays in places like The New York Times, Vogue, The Sun, The Boston Globe, Longreads, and more. Her infertility memoir,

On this episode of the Story Engine podcast, we talk to Massimo Bacchus, author of the book 'I Am Enough.' Massimo shares his personal journey of transformation from being a 'smart jerk' to becoming a better leader through self-love. He discusses the myths and coping mechanisms we develop as children to navigate the world, and how these patterns can hinder our growth as adults. Massimo emphasizes the importance of learning to love ourselves and finding validation from within, rather than seeking external validation. He believes that our universal purpose in life is to learn to truly love ourselves and accept all aspects of who we are. On This Episode Our childhood experiences shape our beliefs and coping mechanisms, which can hinder our growth as adults. Seeking external validation and constantly striving to be 'enough' can lead to stress, damaged relationships, and a lack of fulfillment. Learning to love ourselves and finding validation from within allows us to be present, experience joy and sadness, and be our best selves in relationships. Self-love is an ongoing practice that requires acceptance of our limitations, mistakes, and strengths. By prioritizing our relationship with ourselves, we can be better leaders and create positive change in the world. We Discuss: 03:48 The Struggle with 'Not Enough' and Defensive Behavior 09:11 The Cost of Seeking External Validation and Control 15:00 The Universal Purpose: Learning to Love Ourselves 28:01 The Transformation: Embracing Self-Acceptance and Authenticity 36:01 The Power of Vulnerability and Human Connection

Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered psychologist, a researcher, and podcaster, with expertise that includes working with trauma, trauma therapies, and embodiment, at the intersection of spirituality and mental health. She has been recognized by the American Psychological Association, and the Canadian Psychological Association for her research and clinical work. In addition to being a teaching faculty at the University of British Columbia, she is an ambassador for Sanctuary Mental Health, and the host of CBC's award winning podcast Other People's Problems. Hillary makes her home in the pacific northwest in British Columbia, Canada.Her first book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, was published in 2017; she was the senior editor of the textbook Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention, and Treatment, which was published in 2018. Her most recent book The Wisdom Of Your Body: Finding Wholeness, Healing And Connection Through Embodied Living came out in the fall of 2021. And, her new book Practices for Embodied Living is coming out in 2024. The book offers a compassionate, healthy, and holistic perspective on embodied living. Weaving together illuminating research, stories from Dr. McBride's work as a therapist, and deeply personal narratives of healing from a life-threatening eating disorder, a near-fatal car accident, and chronic pain.In This EpisodeHillary's websiteHillary's books---What's new with The Trauma Therapist Project!The Trauma 5: gold nuggets from my 700+ interviewsThe Trauma Therapist Newsletter: a monthly resource of information and inspiration dedicated to trauma therapists.

Judson Kauffman, former Navy SEAL and multi-time entrepreneur (Exbellum, Desert Door, Terradepth and more) has turned his business experiences into a way to help others find their greatness.  Judson has spent most of his life trusting his intuition and the times where he hasn't, he has found himself misaligned with what he was put on this planet for.  He says that the heart knows things the spreadsheet doesn't and if we're able to tune into that intuition, we can be far more successful and more importantly, happy.  “Playing it safe” can prevent us from finding out what makes each of us special and as a coach he helps folks push beyond their point of comfort, to find that meaning.  Judson believes that the most important thing you can do before starting any business is pressure test your co-founders and align on values.  The “Anti-Resume” is what determines the character of people and values can be the difference between failure and success.  In the end, we all must enter into the darkness and learn who we are.  Once we know that, we then must find peace with ourselves and as Judson states “Love Ourselves”.  If we can do that, we will not only be authentic but drive an attraction that the world won't be able to resist. Learn more about Judson: www.judsonkauffman.com Check out other ways Joseph and Team are serving other Leaders at www.cabreratoro.com Follow @cabreratoro_explore (Instagram) Follow www.youtube.com/@JosephCabreraExplore LinkedIn:CabreraToro

What does it mean if you let yourself age as nature intended? No more botox. No more hair coloring. No injections. For me, this could send me in a full-blown panic attack. And it's a larger conversation over how beauty and youth take up so much real estate in our minds. And for what? My guest today is world-renowned and celebrity favorite yoga and meditation teacher, best-selling author, and mindfulness coach, Elena Brower. She's the host of the chart-topping Practice You podcast and boy, this conversation took a very unexpected hard-left turn.APPLY for the Effective Collective here (only a few spots left): https://allisonhare.com/collectiveBook a Free Call with Allison - if you're a mother that knows you are made for more, let's talkELENA BROWER'S LINKS and resources mentioned:Elena Brower's WebsiteIGElena's New collection of poems Softening Time (releases 5/16)Healing Heart - Elena Brower's spoken word from Above & BeyondAsia Suler - author of Mirrors in the Earth episode of Late LearnerSTUFF #1 StudySTUFF #2 StudyALLISON HARE'S LINKS:EFFECTIVE COLLECTIVE MASTERMIND: Apply and schedule a no-risk call here.AllisonHare.com - Late Learner Podcast, personal journal and blog, danceInstagram - Steps to heal yourself, move society forward, and slinging memes and dancing (seriously, Allison is also a dance fitness instructor)Late Learner IGYouTube ChannelBlog - quick, way more personal, deeper topics - make sure to subscribeTikTok - documenting my journey one lo-fi video at a timeReb3l Dance Fitness - Try it at home! Free month with code: ahare under Instructor ReferralPersonal Brand - need help building yours? Schedule a call with me here and let's discuss.Feedback and Contact:: allison@allisonhare.com

Today I'm talking to Dr. Hillary McBride. Hillary is a psychologist, a researcher, and podcaster, with expertise that includes working with trauma and trauma therapies, and embodiment. She's the author of two books - ‘Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are', and ‘The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Wholeness, Healing and Connection through Embodied Living'. She is on the teaching faculty at the University of British Columbia and hosts the podcast Other People's Problems. Today, we're speaking about embodiment, healing from trauma and loads of other really cool things!Find out more about Hillary's work here.Follow her work on Instagram here.Order Hillary's books here.Follow Laura on Instagram here.Sign up to the Raising Embodied Eaters workshop here.Subscribe to my newsletter here.Here's the transcript in full:Hillary: We could look at how convenient it is to assume that we are an image and then try to control that image when it causes us to forfeit the information that might say, no, I don't wanna participate in the system, or yes, I am hungry and I wanna eat that food even if it means that my body is not gonna appear the way that so and so expects it to. That the information on the inside is costly to stay connected to in a culture that is asking us to forfeit it, in order to belong in this kind of flattened, disembodied, two-dimensional version of, of being an image.INTROLaura: Hey, and welcome back to Can I Have Another Snack podcast where I'm asking my guests who or what they are nourishing right now, and who or what is nourishing them. I'm Laura Thomas, an anti diet registered nutritionist, and author of the Can I Have Another Snack newsletter. Today I'm talking to Dr. Hillary McBride. Hillary is a psychologist, a researcher, and a podcaster with expertise that includes working with trauma and trauma therapies and embodiment. She's the author of two books: ‘Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are', and that was published in 2017 and her latest book, ‘The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Wholeness, Healing and Connection Through Embodied Living' came out in Fall 2021.Hillary is on the teaching faculty at the University of British Columbia, and she hosts the podcast, Other People's Problems. Today I'm talking to Hillary about embodiment, healing from trauma, and loads of other really cool things. So stay tuned.Before we get to our conversation with Hillary, just a reminder that Can I Have Another Snack? is entirely reader and listener supported. We don't have sponsors or do adverts or anything like that. I don't make money from affiliate links. I'm not trying to sell you anything you don't need. All I ask is that if you value the space and the community that we're building, then please consider becoming a paid subscriber. 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Here's my conversation with Hillary McBride.MAIN EPISODELaura: All right, Hillary, I'd love it if you could start by telling us who or what you are nourishing right now.Hillary: Well, I am nourishing myself and my toddler, and I am so much more attuned to what that means because, I am breastfeeding and I am always ferociously hungry all the time, and there is something about nourishing and kind of the, the literal transmutation of all the food as it comes into my body, out of my body, into her body, that, uh, shows me how deeply connected those two are, both the nourishing and the being nourished.Laura: Yeah, I haven't thought about it in that way that, I like that word that you use transmutation, um, and also breastfeeding a toddler I can relate to that. And yeah, just having to be really in tune with yourself, but also to a toddler and their needs.Hillary: Yes,Laura: It could be a lot.Hillary: You know, it can be a lot. It's wonderful. And I feel so privileged to, through motherhood, see and experience that connection of how much my attunement and my self care to my body actually literally supports her to thrive and be well. And there's something about that, even just the way you pose the question that highlights for me, the, the interdependence between us as bodies that I think we sometimes forget when we're just mulling about our days, thinking of ourselves as individuals. There's actually this inherent connection between all of us as bodies, and I think parenthood really, really brings that right up close to your face.Laura: Mm, yeah. I think a lot about interdependence in parenting. You know, from the perspective that that capitalism keeps us so sort of separate from one another. And prioritizes independence and, you know, trying to parent under late stage capitalism without family and community around is so fucking hard. So really, really hard that, yeah, like it just really for me has hammered home how interdependent we are.Hillary: Uh-huh. Yeah. You said it. That's exactly it.Laura: So Hillary, this is somewhat related, but your area of expertise is in embodiment, and embodiment is a term I've noticed recently, it's kind of buzzy. I'm seeing it show up everywhere, but I'm wondering if you could tell us how you understand and define embodiment.Hillary: Yes, I would be so privileged. So there's a couple different ways of defining it, and I'll give you a couple different definitions and then I'll, I'll tell you what I think is salient about them, but I really like the Merleau-Ponty definition, which is that embodiment is the perceptual experience of engagement of the body in the world. Or another way of describing it is the lived experience of engaging in the world as a body.Laura: Hm.Hillary: What both of those definitions have in common is that there is both a felt sense, experiential kind of body, you know, as it's known and lived and encountered and understood and sensed by me and a sociopolitical, contextual, cultural piece.It is, you know, how is all of that shaped by the landscape that I'm in, by the people that I'm in, by the stories of power and privilege that I encounter? So there's a dialectic between what felt sense is like in and through me, and then the world that I'm in. You know, it's really interesting to look at it through that lens as having both kind of this material, individual quality and a sociocultural and interpersonal quality, because I think it really breaks down the assumptions that we have, that our bodies are in a way, uniquely ours.We can have autonomy and agency over our bodies, but, but we also are in a world that is constantly saying things to us about what bodies are good and how to be, and how to shape movement and how to feed ourselves and what is desirable in terms of our appearance. And those things really get, you know, lodged inside of us in such a way that sometimes we forget that those stories come from culture and they feel like they're our own thoughts or our own identities.So I love thinking about embodiment as including these two pieces and in, in a way actually being the conversation between them.Laura: I love that, that kind of reciprocal relationship between our bodies and the, the context of our bodies. And I love the quote that you use in your book. I think it's, is it Teresa Silo? Is that how you,Hillary: ah-huh.Laura: Is that how you pronounce her name? Where you quote her as saying, or them as saying the body is not a thing we have, but an experience we are. And I always think there's kind of an irony in talking about and trying to define embodiment because as soon as we kind of put words to it, we're sort of, I don't know, what's the word that I'm looking for? Hillary: Like in an abstraction or we're losing something about the felt sense or the quality of it by trying to talk about it or think aboutLaura: Yeah, yeah. No, that's exactly it. We're turning it into this like, academic thing when it's really, like you've said, it's a felt sense, it's an experience, so I just wanted to highlight the sort of, the irony in us talking about embodiment.Hillary: Oh, I'm so glad that you said that because it reminds me of something else that I often say when I'm talking about embodiment, which is to say, you know, instead of me describing it, how about I tell you about, you know, that time 30 minutes ago or two hours ago, when you really knew that you needed a drink of water. And the quality of the sensation and your awareness of that sensation, and then your action to go meet that need to go get yourself a glass of water or not. And all of the stories around you that impacted why you knew what that sensation was like or didn't know and why you did something about it or not.It's like the, you know, sometimes because we get stuck in the academic definitions and we lose the felt sense quality, we actually understand embodiment when we come back to the, the sensory memory, the procedural memory, the qualitative nature of being a body, because that as much, you know, some of us have harder times accessing that, it may actually be a little bit more accessible to us than all of the, you know, the floral or abstracted language that we use to talk about this thing, which is kind of our aliveness and it as it's felt and sensed.Laura: And I love that word that you used, aliveness. And it makes me think of how I think and how I conceptualise embodiment in some of the work that I do around feeding and working with, with children and families is, you know, I think of embodiment a lot about a baby or a toddler who is just so, you know, they're all feeling, they're all in their body. There's no kind of like, they haven't quite internalised messages around shame and, you know, these social scripts that we pick up and, I think of animals as well as, you know, being really, embodied in a very positive way. Obviously, of course, we're all embodied, but you know, as you alluded to our experiences of embodiment can be, can lean more positively or more negatively depending on, again, some of the social scripts that we've been handed, the sociopolitical context that we find ourselves in, but I wondered if it would just, if it was helpful for some of the listeners to, to especially anyone who's parent or been around children or animals to, you know, connect with that idea that, you know, we're born embodied and, and, and we have this really strong sense of, of positive embodiment when, especially when we're little. And then, you know, Niva Piran's research tells us that as we get closer to, um, particularly for girls, as we get closer to puberty, and we start acting on the body instead of being in, you know, acting from the body, that, yeah, that's where the, those ruptures in our embodiment begin.Hillary: Mm-hmm.Laura: I wonder if you could speak to maybe some of the other ways our experiences of embodiment are shaped both at the individual level, but also from that broader sociopolitical context that we've touched on.Hillary: Well, I think that the most obvious things that we could look at have to do with our isms around power, how power is distributed. So, which bodies are considered desirable, which bodies are forgotten socially, and again, that might seem kind of abstract until, until all of a sudden you're in a wheelchair and you realise that city planning didn't necessarily think about all the ways that people who use mobility aids need to get into buildings.That there's something that's communicated there about which bodies and how bodies move through space that's not really considered by those who have the, the most social power. So we think about like ableism and racism and sizeism, sexism and you know, there's just so many isms that are proliferated in our culture that we don't really even think about, especially if we benefit from them in some way.So there's that quality of it. Of course, there's the way that media and parents and peers are vessels for those messages about what is desirable. That's considered the tripartite model. But looking at these three different streams of influence that disseminate messages about ideal bodies, about good bodies, about what is valuable culturally.And whenever I think about the tripartite model, the, you know what's interesting about it if you were to see it visually, is it places you right, the individual at the centre of these streams of information coming at you, there is these arrows of media. You know, parents or caregivers and peers, colleagues, right? Your friends, they're pointing at you, but you are also in one of those categories, likely, if not more, for another person. And so we are handed this information and then we are handing it to each other. Just based on the ways that we use greetings and how we comment on other people's appearance and what we say about their eating and um, their feeding of themselves and their movement, and the kinds of things that we, we praise and the kinds of things that we are silent about or criticise.So there is this really interesting soup that we're in. But if we follow those arrows back from us to where they come from, we see structures around, you know, hierarchies of body that were created many millennia ago based on who was able to leave or control the body the best. Who is seen as actually having the ability to conquer or subdue the body in terms of its animal nature, it's sensory qualities, it's sensuality. In some ways it's mystery. And all of it, it seems, stems back to that, could this one group of people conquer their body better than someone else, and then the assumption or the conferring of power based on that, right? That this is somehow superior.Laura: Yeah, I think a lot about it in terms of, you know, the, the cultures of domination that we live in. But I think the way that you're expanding it, there is almost, you know, the, the genesis of all of this was domination over one group's own bodies before then that ripple effect goes out to dominate other bodies and animals and the natural world.Hillary: Yes, and I would argue that that might even come from before, that the domination of the body of the earth, the sense that the earth is a body in its own way. That is in a way kind of our original mother as a species. And the earth's body needs to be objectified and conquered, which teaches us to objectify and conquer our own bodies, and then consequently punish the people who can't do that as being kind of unruly or somehow lacking status or privilege or power.Laura: Wow. Okay. I wasn't expecting to go there, but we did. Hillary in, your second book, The Wisdom of Your Body, you talk about the ways that we learn to view our bodies as an image. You know, we use the term body image all the time, which when you think about it, is fundamentally objectifying, right?Hillary: Mm-hmm.Laura: I'm wondering if you can share, you know, how this happens. How do we come to view our bodies as objects separate from, from us and, what does this do to our experience of embodiment?Hillary: It is something so funny to think about, hey, when we start actually looking at the language, like body image has been used as shorthand for how we relate to our bodies, but we are not just images. We are not just in relationship with our appearance and we have so much more dimensionality to us than than what is visible to us, visible about us on the outside and how we perceive and relate to that.So my relationship to that term has evolved since, really because of my own journey through eating disorder recovery and feeling like I wanted to leave behind the two-dimensional way of relating to my body as an image and move inside into a kind of interiority of the body. And what's fascinating about the research about that is that it seems that that actually kind of inoculates us against eating disorders.You might think that, you know, not working on eating disorders as an issue would be missing a major construct in a cornerstone of the work. But it seems that there is something about leaving ourselves and seeing ourselves just as an image that is, as a, a kind of pathology in a way, and that there is a, a wholeness that is lacking in our relationship and experience of ourselves unless we include.All of the other qualities, the felt senses, the interoception, really what it's like to live and be us from the inside out. So when I think about body image, I often very closely think about objectification and self-objectification and the way that we learn to see ourselves from the outside.Seeing ourselves through the gaze of the other, but also, I think you could argue, especially if you're familiar with Foucault's work, like looking at the body through the gaze of those who have the power and those who are most interested in subduing and controlling and disciplining the body. But we learn to take the position of those who have the most power, those who could hurt us, those who could approve of us or judge us. And we begin to see ourselves and police our through their eyes, and it is through assuming the position of this external gaze that we lose or leave behind some of that other more subtle, nuanced information that can only be felt and lived through us and consequently actually might serve to disrupt some of those systems of power.We could look at how convenient it is to assume that we are an image and then try to control that image when it causes us to forfeit the information that might say, no, I don't wanna participate in the system, or yes, I am hungry and I wanna eat that food even if it means that my body is not gonna appear the way that so and so expects it to. That the information on the inside is costly to stay connected to in a culture that is asking us to forfeit it, in order to belong in this kind of flattened, disembodied, two-dimensional version of, of being an image.So there is something that I think that's really important here about recognising, again, what you brought up earlier of power and social control, and the way that even receiving ourselves as simply an image is a byproduct of a social context in which we are rewarded for being less of a body because we are often then more compliant. Laura: Yeah, there's a lot to think about there. I think have to like process that a little bit after we finish our call. I suppose what was coming up for me there is, you know, in the age of hyper information and social media and you know, when, when we're so bombarded with our own image, images of other people, that are often presented in these really like one-dimensional ways.Hillary: Mm.Laura: You know, it's so much easier to self objectifyHillary: Yes.Laura: Than it is to be positively embodied or embodied in any sense, really. I'm just curious, you know, how when you're swimming upstream like this, you know, what do you find to be helpful? Because I think, you know, cognitively we can all understand, wow, that's really messed up when you put it in those terms. But again, embodying something different is so much harder. So, you know, where can we even begin with that, do you think?Hillary: Yeah. Well, my discipline will betray me when I say this because, or I should say I will betray my discipline in a way when I say this, but we, you know, we are constantly in development. The idea that development is only something that happens in these critical and sensitive periods of our life is actually just, it's not true scientifically. And I understand why we do it culturally to say, you know, here's where there is so much that is happening. We need to be protective of people who are vulnerable because their systems are, are changing so much and it's setting up so much of the rest of their lives. But we will be in development, we will be experiencing developmental transitions for the rest of our lives, including death.Death is a developmental transition. When we look at Niva Piran's Developmental Theory of Embodiment, there is so much that we can borrow at different phases of the lifespan. And why I think that's hopeful is because it gives us a guide to the places that we can, we can. Intersect with interventions and support and resources and where we can direct our attention to support ourselves, to continue to reclaim some of the aspects of being a body that have been left behind.So that includes looking at the social domain. What are the places where I can experience the freedom to be in my body and to be understood in the challenges of being a body in the social climate? And where do I experience having social power? Right? Who? Who are the people who understand my lived experience and can validate the lived reality of oppression and marginalisation or, you know, can affirm the goodness of my body, even if the larger social narrative and dominant culture is either silent or oppressive to what my experience of my body is like. So there's the social power aspect, there's the mental, mental freedom aspect. You know, negotiating with some of the, the constructs that we carry inside, being critical about the thinking that we have and the places that we learned that thinking, assessing social discourse.Um, you know, the irony with this is, I had an eating disorder therapist for quite some time who said women with eating disorders are philosopher queens. And there are, you know, I am sure lots of places where that does not apply. But in my experience, and I think what she was trying to say to me was not that there was an absence of thought, but that I was really up in my mind.And if we can be curious about what is going on up in our minds, and if we can harness the criticism that is often turned towards our bodies and actually redirect it to the place that it's due, which is these really harmful social constructs and experiences and distributions of power, then the mechanism of being thoughtful and thinking critically does not have to disappear. It can just get redirected to the place that it deserves to be redirected. We can learn to see the social landscape for the problems and the toxicity that it has and build something new instead of directing that energy towards our bodies, thinking our bodies were ever a problem.And then lastly, of course, the physical freedom piece. If we create experiences where we encounter being in a body and can notice that that is pleasurable and is good and we can work on building attunement towards ourselves, I think that that inoculates us against the pervasive image culture. These are all different ways that we bring our attention back into creating experiences both in ourselves and between us and others that make it hospitable to be in our bodies. And help us remember what we knew right from the beginning in our earliest phases of development, which is that our body is full of communication. Our body is us. Our body can be trusted, our body is wise. Our body knows the way. Our body deserves to be safe and is actually ultimately, I think, interested in creating safety for all of us.Laura: I love that. And again, so many threads that we could, we could pull on there, but I loved especially what you, what you were saying about, well, there were two, two pieces that, that really stood out for me. I think one of which was just this idea of where we are so quick to criticise and tear ourselves down. Yeah. How can we externalise that? How can we turn that towards these oppressive systems that exist outside of our bodies that are making us feel a particular way about our bodies? And then the second piece, you said so elegantly, but I kind of was coming back to this idea of community and finding safety in people who can, um, other people who share similar lived experiences to us, who can affirm our experiences, who can show solidarity with us, who can hold us and, and say, you know, there is nothing wrong with your body. There is nothing wrong with the way that you show up in the world. It's everything else outside of of us that's messed up. and yeah, just, just be in community with one, one another. Kind of almost going full circle back to what we talked about at the very beginning, sort of thinking about interdependence and, and how we all kind of fit together in the sort of wider human tapestry,Hillary: Yes. Yes, exactly.Laura: And I mentioned to you off mic, a lot of the people who listen to this podcast are parents or have children in their lives, and I know you're a parent yourself, and I wonder from your perspective, what do you think are the most important things that adults can do to support kids' sense of positive embodiment?You know, we've talked a lot about at the sort of collective level, and there's a lot that needs to change there, but I'm wondering if you have any nuggets for parents, you know, any considerations or anything that they can do to help their kids maintain a sense of being in their bodies, a sense of their bodies as their homes as this place of safety.Hillary: Well, there's a few things that come to mind, and I'm hoping that that means that even if all of them don't feel accessible, then hopefully one, one does for the parents out there. So I think a really important thing to do is to affirm how they are already listen. So when a kid says, “I'm hungry”, you can say, “Wow, you're really listening to your body. Thank you so much for telling me”. You know, that doesn't necessarily mean that we do whatever they want because we live in families and we have limitations, and we have schedules, and we have all sorts of things that we need to fit in and negotiate. But simply saying, “I'm so glad you're listening. Thank you for telling me”. I think what that does is it protects, protects the knowing even if we have to set a boundary and say, you know, “It's gonna be a little while until we can have a snack because we're actually driving, we don't have anything in the car right now. But you know you're hungry and you're doing such a good job. Listening to that and telling me”. What we don't want to have happen is to signal in any way to children that they have to disqualify their bodily knowing to stay in connection with us because that's often what happens in terms of an attachment framework, right? Children are so sensitive to what their caregivers need in order for them to be considered pleasing and when children perceive their caregiver as being disappointed or scared or ashamed or something because of the information they're giving them, they're gonna learn very, very quickly not to give them that information. And it's not a far jump from, I'm not gonna give that information, to I'm suppressing that information, to I don't notice it at all.So simply being able to say to your children, “You do know you're tired. I believe you, that you're hungry. I am so glad you're listening. Ooh. What does it feel like in your tummy when you're hungry? How do you know? What is it like? Is it like a growling?” You know? Right. Even just being in the experience of it with them to thicken their awareness of it is a great way to preserve that and let them know that them paying attention to their bodies will not cut them off from connection to you.Laura: So the other day, so we send Avery, my almost three year old, with a packed lunch to his daycare setting. And the other day he came home and he said to us, “I ate one carrot”. And he was like, so proud of eating this carrot. And of course, I never praise based on, you know, what he has or hasn't eaten and I'm, you know, maintain this very food neutral approach. So I was really surprised by this and I did a little bit of interrogating it and, you know, I've actually had to go and speak to daycare because they are, you know, pressuring him to eat. Which really crosses so many boundaries for me in terms of not respecting his autonomy. Not respecting his voice, you know, he had said no and he was told, well, you just have to eat one carrot. And then obviously this was reinforced with praise before he came home and said, “I ate one carrot”, you know, I had to sit with why this really played on my mind. And it's, you know, for the reasons that you're describing that overriding someone's no, overriding their body autonomy can become a sort of slippery slope to them. You know, not, not being able to recognise their own needs and suppressing their needs and or performing, you know, for adult's praise or adult's validation, and that's so much bigger than respecting their hunger and fullness cues. That's just one tiny part of this work, I think. So yeah, that was just an example that came to mind.Hillary: Thank you so much for sharing that because I think it, you know, where it takes me is into the complexity that parents often bring to the conversation of, you know, there are times I have to override their cues. Like they're saying, no, I don't wanna have my diaper changed and they've got a poopy diaper. You're like, this would actually be negligent if I didn't, like you actually can't make that call right now, but how important it is to say, you know, “I really hear your no, I really hear that you don't want me to change your diaper. I'm so glad you're telling me there's something about that that doesn't feel good for you. You can always, always tell me, and I'm always going to listen to you. And there are some situations where even if something is uncomfortable or hard for you, I have to help you do it because it is for your safety, because it cares for your body, and I want for you to know that even though I'm gonna be caring for your body in this way, I still believe that you don't want me to, and I'm hearing you, and I'm so glad you're telling me”.Because I think what often happens is if we have to, we are in those situations where we do have to override the no that the parenting kind of reaction that we might naturally wanna have is, I'm gonna shut down your, no, then I'm gonna tell you, you shouldn't say no because it's actually kind of uncomfortable for me as a parent to say to you. Yes, you're allowed to disagree with me, but I'm still gonna do what I'm doing. Right? That's a complicated thing to feel and we can feel like it would just be easier for them to not say anything because it's too uncomfortable for us. So being able to say, you can keep telling me no. You can tell me just how much you don't like it. I believe you. I believe you. Tell me what it is as I'm changing your diaper. What is it about it that you really don't like? Like keeping them connected to themselves and keeping them connected to you while you're also prioritising their health and safety? I think it is possible to do it all.Laura: Yeah, no, and thank you for adding that nuance of, you know, there are times where, especially around care tasks, where we can validate what they're expressing about how strongly they don't want to do something and how that feels really uncomfortable or really annoying or, you know, just not what they want to be doing in that moment.And we have to hold a boundary because it's really important for hygiene or, you know, for their safety or, or whatever it is. And so there's definitely that, that piece of it. And you know, something that I've been thinking about with, with Avery, is, you know, in terms of his body boundaries and helping him assert that.Well, there's two things actually. We're practicing saying things like, “I'm the boss of my body”, which I know is gonna backfire at some point when he, you know, when it comes to washing his hair or getting in the bath or something like that. But yeah, just reminding him that, you know, he is in charge of what crosses that body boundary.And another thing that I've come across lately, I don't know if you've discovered this song yet, but it's called The Boundary Song.Hillary: Ooh, I haven't, I'm gonna have to look it up.Laura: Yeah, it's, um, it's called the Boundary Song. I'll link to it. I think it's Hopscotch is like the YouTube video, but it's basically the words, the lyrics are basically, please stop. I don't like that. I'm feeling uncomfortable. I need more space. And then itHillary: Uh, Yeah.Laura: Not around me. Don't take it personally. It's just a boundary. That's a boundary. And my, not even three year old has like memorised this song and, you know, we're trying to practice like different context in which you might say something like that. And again, it could all go horribly wrong and backfire, but, you know, I think what I'm connecting this back to is just, you know, giving them the tools to express their voice to help solidify their body autonomy, to solidify their body boundaries.And, that feels like a really salient piece around maintaining that positive experience of embodiment that connection to their bodies. Not letting their body boundaries be violated, you know, with the caveat that sometimes we have to do that in a caring way, for hygiene and whatever else.So anyway, I went off on a bit of a monologue there. I'm not really sure what my point was, do you wanna bring it back, Hillary?Hillary: I love the place that we're in, in the conversation, which is looking at both how we protect in a few different ways, right? Because there is a way of protecting that is ‘I'm gonna honour your boundary because you said no, I'm gonna stop'. And there's also a kind of protecting, which, you know, like you said, around care practices and just the nuance and complexity of that, and I think it's important that we're making a space where we can talk about how those fit intentionally with each other, what they bring up in us as adults. And also then subsequently what we weren't given as kids.Because many of the times when these things are hard for us as parents, it's because they're new, because we're having to chart a new path and there is something kind of prophetic and transformational in being in the space that's uncomfortable and foreign. So I'm just appreciating, holding the complexity here.I think the last thing that I'll wanna say around embodiment in children is around creating experiences for free play, for being silly, for jumping, for, you know, unrestricted movement, for experiencing sensation and wide ranges of sensation like the, the developmental literature says that the more we encounter in a sensory capacity, the more ways that we learn to have mastery and agency in our bodies, the more autonomy, the more fullness, the more goodness we encounter in our bodies.So a wide range of activities, movement, spaces getting dirty, getting loud, being silly, playing, coordinated movements, right? Even being able to master a task because we practice something over and over and over again and get good at it, but not at the exclusion of free and unrestricted play, like just as many body experiences we can have.I think that that, you know, that's something that serves us well in our lives and so maybe that's a good piece of advice for parents who are really committed to having their kids be in figure skating and they do a lot of figure skating and over and over and over and over again. Like yes, there might be a sense of, um, mastery. But what about the spaces where there is novel movement or what about the spaces where there is unrestricted kind of free unobserved movement? Or maybe for parents who are really good at letting their kids be wild and free and unrestricted, where are the spaces where kids are learning a task and can feel competence in and through their bodies.And so just thinking about the spectrum and trying to create range, I think that that's, that's really important. It takes a little bit of thought on our part, but I think it goes a really long way.Laura: Yeah. I really appreciate that addition. And yeah, I've been thinking about these kids that I see around, they're always with their dad. I think it's their dad, at least I hope it's their dad. And they must be about, I don't know, like 9 and maybe 11, somewhere around there. And I fondly referred to dad as aggressive sports dad,Hillary: Oh, okay. Yes. I know the type. Okay.Laura: He's like, I see them like at the pool. I see them at the tennis court. I see them at the park. And the dad is like super militantly, like focused on like teaching them skills around sports, like, he's clearly really, really passionate about sports, but you can just see the kids like kind of, uh,Hillary: Mm-hmm.Laura: At how restrained and controlled and, um, kind of like meticulous they're being asked to be. And obviously I'm kind of projecting here like, you know, or using conjecture to make assumptions here, but it does feel like they just wanna run around and climb a tree or like jump.Hillary: Yes. Right, right.Laura: But yeah, we all know an aggressive sports dad. But Hillary, I'm really conscious of your time and I just have a couple quick questions I wanna ask you to wrap up. So the first is, I would love it if you could share a practice with us that you personally like or that you found in your work as a therapist that helps people with that sense of embodiment, with that sense of my body as my home.Hillary: Yeah, Yeah. Two really, really quickly. Uh, one, putting my hands on my body and talking to myself, greeting myself in the morning, in the evening, saying I'm so glad to be with you. I wanna care for you. Can you keep talking to me? Right. Whatever it is that we wanna say to build relationship with our bodily selves, like honouring my body as a subject, not just an object. And then the other one is dancing. I just love having music on and moving my body in a way that really helps me discharge excess energy or stress from the day. For anyone who's familiar with trauma work, we know that moving, shaking, activation in our major muscle groups, like that's actually a way to release energy that is lingering from stressful or demanding events.So there's that side of it, but then there's also the freedom and the pleasure and the sense of enjoyment and you know, how it invites me into self-expression and connection and a sense of yeah, just enjoying being a body. So touching my own body and talking to myself and dancing.Laura: Oh, I love both of those things, and they're definitely things that I try and, yeah, check in with as well. My last sort of serious interview question for you is who or what is nourishing you right now?Hillary: Mm. You know, just this week I had some really, really important conversations with my partner and he really listened to me and really tended to me, and there was something about feeling unshakable support and emotional attunement that felt nourishing to me on such a soul level, that I have to think of the relational. Again, that's my new kind of my therapist disposition and my discipline there. But I feel so nourished by deep and rich, attuned connection. It helps me feel seen and known and loved and safe and, um, nourished.Laura: I really love that. That's so special. I'm so glad that you have that.Hillary: Thank you. Me too.Laura: Okay, so just a fun question to wrap up. So, at the end of every episode, my guest and I share something that they're snacking on. So it can be a literal snack, it can be a podcast, a movie, a show, whatever you're into at the moment. Is there something fun you'd like to share with us?Hillary: Ugh. You know what? I'm having a real cake moment in my life right now. I think. I don't know what it is. Yes, I know.Laura: I thought For a second you were using cake as a euphemism, and I was a bit confused, but then I realised you meant actual cake. Okay.Hillary: Cake. Actual cake. I just had so many years where I really missed out and so we've been making up excuses for reasons to get a cake. So, um, you know, we're just having a lot of cake around here and I love it so much.I'm like having breakfast cake and after dinner cake and sometimes cake with lunch and just really, really enjoying all sorts of different kinds and qualities, and no grocery store cheap cake is beneath me, but I'm also, I like some of the fancy ones, so I'm just trying, trying cake.Laura: Oh, I love it. Breakfast cake.Hillary: Yes,Laura: Genius. That's a stroke of genius. Uh, real quick, I'll share mine. So I think yeah, this is really connected to what we have been talking about today, which is that I've recently taken Avery to toddler dance class, like a toddler ballet class, and I am super conscious of how toxic dance spaces can be in general, but this is a very cute, very safe space where they can just move their bodies in whatever way they like. And you know, I've taken him to a few different sort of dance space classes and things like that, and he really hasn't connected to it. But this class in particular, he was just kind of in his element, twirling and jumping and leaping. And he, you know, he asked if he could put on like the tutu skirt and he was just having the best time. So, um, super special to see that.Hillary: Yes, it sounds like it. Wow. Thank you for sharing that. That just brought me so much joy knowing about that and picturing him there.Laura: it's very, very, sweet. Hillary, could you please share with everyone how they can find out more about you and your work and where they can find you?Hillary: Yeah. You can find me online at hillarylmcbride.com,, on social media, Hillary Lianna McBride on Instagram or Hillary L McBride on Twitter, or maybe it's the other way around, I can never remember. Have a look at those names. Some combination of those names will get you somewhere to me and my work.And, then I've got books, wherever books are sold and podcasts, you can always search my name in the search tool in wherever you listen to podcasts. And both the podcasts that I have produced and the ones I've been on will show up.Laura: And we will link to all your social media and where to find your books and your podcast in the show notes so that, yeah, there won't be any confusion over where to find you.Hillary: Thank you.Laura: Hillary, it was so great to talk to you. I love your book, The Wisdom of Your Body. And I really recommend it to all my clients that I'm working with. So thank you so much for spending some time with us today.Hillary: It was my pleasure. I loved every minute of our conversation.OUTROLaura Thomas: Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode of Can I Have Another Snack? If you enjoyed this episode, please take a moment to rate and review in your podcast player and head over to laurathomas.substack.com for the full transcript of this conversation, plus links we discussed in the episode and how you can find out more about this week's guest. 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Dr. Hillary McBride joins Dr. Solomon to discuss her work on embodiment and presence. They talk about why and how to listen to what your body is telling you, and Dr. Hillary guides listeners through a body meditation that can help you come back to the present moment and feel more at ease.Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):estherperel.com/alexandraThe Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living by Dr. Hillary McBride:https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-wisdom-of-your-body-finding-healing-wholeness-and-connection-through-embodied-living-hillary-l-mcbride/16458447?ean=9781587435522Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Dr. Hillary McBride:https://bookshop.org/p/books/mothers-daughters-and-body-image-learning-to-love-ourselves-as-we-are-hillary-l-mcbride/12670127?ean=9781682613542Dr. Hillary's website:https://hillarylmcbride.com/Subscribe to Dr. Solomon's Newsletter:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Submit a Listener Question:https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What gives us identity? Our identity is defined by the love of Jesus and everything else flows from our communion with him.  What defines our worship to God? Is it in our gifts?  Our actions worship God when done in authenticity, coming out of a place of knowing Him and knowing His voice.    We spend too much time not liking ourselves! We put so much effort into improving our flaws when we could be using our gifts effectively and even surrendering our weaknesses to the Lord and trusting Him to use our weaknesses. He is just so opposite of everything we naturally think.    We must LOVE OURSELVES in order to love others well.  We do so many things because we think we should, or because it looks fun on someone else!  And Some things just don't fit! Like me, I don't ever need to be using a sewing machine. It's just bad news every time.    Knowing what is true, that God's love is for you, is what will sustain you when things come and go.    Psalm 1 They will be standing firm like a flourishing tree planted by God's design, deeply rooted by the brooks of bliss, bearing fruit in every season of their lives.   2 Cor 10:12  We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.   Meet Jesus face to face to know His voice is for you. Challenge the things you hate about yourself to be useful to serve others.    BUST A MOVE:  Alright girlies we gotta busta move?  If we are going to grow life giving beliefs and in purpose then we have to take action.  So what's your move this week? What's your take away?  Let's put something in motion in our lives.   Make a list of labels you have on your life.  Wife, mom, therapist.. Who would you be if that label was removed?  Would you still be serving God well? How would you be showing Him love? How would you be loving people?   Then confess those things..they are not your identity. You are on mission to love and obey God and offer your story as your worship.  https://www.facebook.com/groups/ashandivy  https://www.instagram.com/theashandivyshow/+  

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In today's episode, Dylan sits down with Dr. Hillary McBride, who is best known as co-host of the Liturgists podcast and host of the CBC podcast Other People's Problems. However, her day to day work and years of training has focused on research and clinicaly work at the intersection of spirituality and mental health, psychological trauma, body image, eating disorders, sex and sexuality, and feminist approaches to psychology. Her first book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, was published in 2017; her next book, This Is My Body: Embodiment and Why It Matters for Just About Everything, will be out in 2021. Follow and connect with Hillary on twitter @hillarylmcbride, on Instagram @hillaryliannamcbride, or at her website www.hillarylmcbride.com    LINKS: Free Call with Dylan Follow Dylan on IG Follow FMN on IG

Dr. Hillary McBride joins me for a conversation about embodiment or as she defines it, “Our experience of being a body as it's shaped by culture.” She provides tools to help us untangle the cultural scripts we have taken in, along with gentle guidance for how we can reframe and choose a healthier way to be in our body. You'll hear how you can learn to listen to your body, embrace your sensuality and give yourself more permission for pleasure. Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered psychologist, a researcher, and podcaster. She is the author of: Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are  and The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding wholeness, healing and connection through embodied living.  She was the senior editor of the textbook Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention, and Treatment.   www.Hillarylmcbride.com Learn more about these topics:Mothers, Daughters and Body ImageDating Your Body The Body is Not an ApologyMy Letter to Young WomenCALL or TEXT to submit a question 1-714-455-9149JOIN my Newsletter Community.FOLLOW on Instagram.VISIT my Website.

Welcome to the Parenting Well podcast with Parent Engagement Network!  I am Dr. Shelly Mahon, your host. Today's well source is Dr. Missy Gryder and we are going to talk about Three Steps to Help Children Develop a Positive Body Image.  Dr. Gryder serves as the Founder of Meeting Kids' Needs, an online course for parents of kindergarten through fifth grade children that teaches parents how to help their children handle their feelings, especially the tough ones. Meeting Kids' Needs gives parents the latest in research-based social and emotional learning so they can purposefully help build their children's emotional intelligence.  Her professional interests include social and emotional learning in schools and in homes, positive classroom and school climates, brain-based best classroom practices, and holistic health and wellness. Dr. Gryder is also the developer of The Body Safety Box, an evidence-based child abuse prevention educational kit offering children along with their parents, schools, and community groups a series of active, engaging, and age-appropriate learning opportunities to help prevent abuse and its often lifelong consequences. The Body Safety Box has served children in 31 states, Canada, Africa, India, and Papua New Guinea to date. In this episode, we discuss:  Social and emotional learning (SEL) perspectives around body image. Themes in the research Differences between males and females. Three specific strategies for helping your child create a positive body image, including (1) Being aware and intentional about your own body image story and eliminating fat talk, (2) Developing critical thinking about the media's role in body image, and (3) Developing a positive body image that is grounded in secure attachment. The importance of attachment and belonging. Treasuring your child for who they are as a unique human being.  Resources Website: Meeting Kids Needs Meeting Kids Needs: Course Enrollment Instagram for Meeting Kids Needs: @meetingkidsneeds Instagram for the Body Safety Box: @bodysafetybox Book: Mothers, Daughters & Body Image:  Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, by Hillary McBride, Ph.D.   TEDxSanAntonio: Dr. Carolyn Becker, Combating Body Dissatisfaction, The Destructive Impact

Conor Creighton is a meditation teacher, a spiritual guide, & author…but in his own words “hasn't always been so chill” Before he learned to meditate he worked as bartender, & a reporter for the Guardian & for Vice Magazine covering warzones, drug culture & the rise of the far-right. Meditation found HIM in 2012, & he quickly became immersed in the study of meditation, training in India with the Dalai Lama, & at the Redwood Institute in San Francisco. He describes his teaching as “a cross-pollination of ancient techniques and contemporary wisdom, and just a bit of street smarts” and says “I've experienced a good dose of depression, addiction and holy fuck moments in my life” Conor's latest book “The Truth About Love” - is in my opinion a truly beautiful & IMPORTANT piece of work. His down to earth manner & natural story-telling abilities are what drew me to Conor & his work initially, & I am so grateful to have been able to have this conversation with him, We spoke about Love, Shame, Acceptance, Negativity bias, talking to ourselves like mad eejits & how we can truly & honestly learn to LOVE OURSELVES... real-deal holy-feel true and honest LOVE… because Love, as Conor himself will tell you - is an inside job. And I can't wait to share it with you… P.S: PLEASE MAKE SURE TO SHARE & TAG ON YOUR SOCIALS IF YOU LISTEN!! Your support is SO appreciated & literally all I ask in return for this free education, information, & entertainment! ;) Sponsors & Discounts: VITAL ORGANICO - VitalOrganico Code: PbyP1 for 15% off! KNIGHTSLEEP - Sleep Better | Knightsleep The Sleep & Health Company | Dublin Code: PbyP for 10% off! Produced by Prymal Productions - Prymal Productions (@prymalpro) • Instagram photos and videos Music credit: https://freemusicarchive.org/ Artist: Ketsa. Track: What's Manifesting CONTACT ME - for coaching enquires, or anything at all! : poweredbypositivitypt@gmail.com Instagram: L A U R A M U R R A Y (@murraylola) • Instagram photos and videos

Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered psychologist, a researcher, and podcaster, with expertise that includes working with trauma, trauma therapies, and embodiment, at the intersection of spirituality and mental health.Her first book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, was published in 2017; she was the senior editor of the textbook Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention, and Treatment, which was published in 2018.Her most recent book The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding wholeness, healing and connection through embodied living came out in the fall of 2021.The book offers a compassionate, healthy, and holistic perspective on embodied living. Weaving together illuminating research, stories from Dr. McBride's work as a therapist, and deeply personal narratives of healing from a life-threatening eating disorder, a near-fatal car accident, and chronic pain.She has been recognized by the American Psychological Association, and the Canadian Psychological Association for her research and clinical work. In addition to being a teaching faculty at the University of British Columbia, she is an ambassador for Sanctuary Mental Health, and the host of CBC's award winning podcast Other People's Problems. Hillary makes her home in the pacific northwest in British Columbia, Canada.In This EpisodeHillary's websiteThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5739761/advertisement

International Women's Day was this week, so due to that and other life issues, we took a break from recording. Please enjoy this encore episode with Dr. Hillary McBride about her book Mothers, Daughters & Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are.   Join the Sisterds, with guest host Sam Moore, in a discussion about taking up space and loving our bodies without taking our clothes off, a conversation with Hillary McBride. You can find HIllary on Twitter at @hillarylmcbride on Instagram at @hillaryliannamcbride and online at hillarylmcbride.com Her book, Mothers, Daughters & Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are is available wherever you buy books.   By becoming a $5 patron at patreon.com/twistedsisterds you can listen to bonus Twisterds Movie Club episodes and prior guests answering our 10 nerdy and ridiculous questions.   If you have questions or want to chat with us, tweet at us @twistedsisterds or drop a comment on our Facebook page, or better yet, head over to Patreon and become a $1 or more subscriber to join the Twisterds Tavern private FB group. We always enjoy sharing our magick.   Subscribe and drop us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts.   Support us at patreon.com/twistedsisterds to join our private FB group the Twisterds Tavern, get Sisterds swag, and even shape the content of the episodes.   Tweet at us @TwistedSisterds   Follow us on Instagram @twistedsisterds   Follow us on Facebook facebook.com/sisterdspodcast   Twisted Sisterds is part of the Wild Goose GooseCast Network, a network of faith based podcasts discussing issues of inclusion and social justice. To learn more about The Wild Goose Festival, go to wildgoosefestival.org   Theme song by Michael Baysinger.   New logo by Cheyenne Davis at Chey's Designs.   Transition bumpers by Sean Ozee.   Outro music by Andy Moore.

Today on the Everything Belongs Podcast, Madison is in conversation with Dr. Hillary McBride. Hillary L. McBride, PhD, is a Registered Psychologist who completed her doctoral work in Counselling Psychology at the University of British Columbia. She recently won the International Young Investigator Award for her research in Human Sexuality and is the author of Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, and The Wisdom Of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living. She is the senior editor of the textbook: Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention, and Treatment. In this episode, Madison and Hillary speak on Hillary's new book, The Wisdom of the Body, having healthy mirrors for our healing, Hillary's markers for noticing the healing happen, our birthright to speak out our needs, how healing our nervous system helps heal our larger community and much more…Listen in and find the full show notes here: http://madisonmorrigan.com/podcast-rss-feed/77Guest LinksHillary's Book, The Wisdom of the Body: https://hillarylmcbride.com/the-wisdom-of-your-body/Hillary's Website: www.hillarylmcbride.comHillary's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hillaryliannamcbride/

To kick off the second half of Season 6, we talk with Dr. Hillary McBride! Hillary is a therapist, research, podcaster, and the author of The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living. She talks to us about how embodiment is different from body image, how it can change our understanding of healing & theology, and how to understand our ‘stress staircase.'Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- CXMH ep. 34 - Self-Image, Parenting, & Learning to Love Ourselves As We Are (feat. Hillary McBride)- Hillary's other books: Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are and Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention and Treatment- Preorder Holly's book, The Soul of the Helper: Seven Stages to Seeing the Sacred Within Yourself So You Can See It in Others!Connect with Hillary on her website, on Twitter, or on Instagram. Listen to her podcast ‘Other People's Problems.' Buy The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living on Amazon.Quotes:- “If we think about ‘body image,' the construct still keeps us in the territory of image: it is still about how we appear.” (tweet)- “Embodiment is our birthright, it is how we are born. It is something that is the most true about us.” (tweet)- “The way we've constructed our society and our healing methods are very disembodied. The way we understand ourselves is disembodied. But the body has not abandoned us as humanity.” (tweet)Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Buy books from previous guests on Bookshop- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down' by Rivers & Robots.

In this second half of Season 2, I'm bringing you a series on healing our image of God. Because how we see God is how we see everything. In this episode, I'm joined by the delightful Jonathan Puddle, author of You Are Enough and host of the Puddcast (one of my faves). In this very honest (and fun) conversation, we share our journeys of deconstructing and reforming our images of God. Then I get to lead Jonathan and you in a practice to illuminate the differences in how we image Father and Jesus. Turns out, it's a big deal.   Watch the full interview on my YouTube channel. And if you haven't watched Jonathan's first episode with me, check out the Zoomcast with Jonathan Puddle: Learning to Love Ourselves the Way God Loves Us. The practice he shares is beautiful!  Are you looking for a safe space to experience a transformational encounter with God? Join me at www.susancarson.net.

hello? Hello, vitality seekers. This is your host, Caroline Schafer. Please help me welcome Andrew Gelbert. He is a transformational and personal development coach, as well as an energetic practitioner. He is a certified advanced hypnotherapy practitioner who has also studied relationship mastery, tantra, holistic energy and intimacy. Andrew has a crazy backstory, so please help me welcome Andrew. Thanks very much. Yes, you too. I know we talked before, you have such a powerful story. It is mind blowing. Would you mind telling our listeners, just the insane amount of things that you went through to get where you are today? Yeah, like how you turn that interesting. Uh, uh, that's one way to, one way to explain it. I guess people have gone through what you have gone through. So definitely I do understand that it's quite unique, but certainly gives me more, I guess, connection to what I'm currently doing now, obviously living my passion and my purpose. So, coming from the background  of a broken family environment, um, you know, after mum and dad split and at the age of 17, mum went looking for love in all the wrong places and tried to find it, I guess, in, in broken relationships. And one particular relationship was quite abusive, and culminated in me watching my mom's boyfriend, hanging himself and try to commit suicide in our backyard. So. Obviously it had a profound effect on me as a young man. I was about 11 at that time when I watched mum go through that. And, um, here, so that, that for me really, I guess set the tone and the foundation for, I guess, a lot of heartache and a lot of anger, a lot of, a lot of deep seated issues that I went through as a, as a young boy. And I left the army, left for the army as quickly as I could after, after my school, served my country overseas and was a holiday reconnaissance, not the soldier, that experience was good for me. The structure and that environment exposed to that environment. I ended up getting out fairly quickly. After I returned back from overseas duty. Uh, and that really was more broken and more damaged and had the signs of PTSD, after getting out of the army. So, yeah, that, that really took another turn I guess, in my life. And I fell into partying and the arms of enamel motorcycle club. During that time, I was shot twice in a, in a bikey brawl once in the chest and another through my neck.  In that adventure, alternate adventure. So I become in broad, in undercover police operation, and that netted me for my involvement in, an international cocaine, dealing entity uh, to which I was sentenced to seven years. During that time, I was lucky enough to have enough time to get to the bottom of exactly how I'd gotten myself to this position. I took the time to go back through my past and went back to that innerchild, so to speak and to understand that I'd become the product of my broken environment. Hmm. You know, it was a very beautiful journey for me, my prison sentence. And luckily enough for me, I've got onto a prison farm out in the land where I was able to deeply connect to my sense of self and my journey and decode that I found some really beautiful people that were able to walk me through the journey of becoming vulnerable to my journey, and exposing the deep, deeply seated issues that I was carrying and projecting, projecting those emotions outward. And that were really determining. how i was living my life and the choices that I was making. So for me, I worked very, very hard during my time to understand a lot of those components that made me up, to balance myself, spiritually, mentally, and physically.  I studied very hard and focus my time on, um, getting some additional skillsets. I completed three diplomas in it. Uh, bachelor of business university degree whilst I there and really got out at a different man with a different perspective of life, a different understanding of who I was and my place in the universe. And, getting out, I was able to achieve some pretty high success, in the corporate world, owning my own business, being the managing director of my own multi-million dollar construction business. But look, it was just unfulfilling and I knew I started to reflect on where I'd come from and what I've been through and just what I'd survived, how much adversity that I've overcome and what journey might not be different to, to many other little harder, the, you know, on the saying, Andrew. That was quite the uphill journey. I mean, it's impressive, no matter how you slice and dice that it is very impressive. That is a very hard road that you traveled. Just touching on there that, you know, post my prison journey and becoming really, really driven to succeed in the corporate world, just being unfulfilled. So that then led me to, again, reflect on what journey. And I really felt that I had something to give back, and that led me to what I'm doing now, and obviously my coaching and mentoring and, and it energetically, you know, the role that energy plays in your life. No doubt. We'll talk about that, but it's been a really Fantastic place for me to be, and that is connected to my passion, my purpose and now giving that back to other people. Well, you, you've definitely learned a monumental amount on your path. And, it's really beautiful that you could take all of that, those negative happenings and spin them around. You know, I mean, not, I don't think a lot of people can do that.I think most people get swallowed. That's really cool. Kudos to you because, now you're here helping other people, and that's what it's all about. you mentioned that the energy and tantra, I know that you have a background in, can you explain to everybody what tantra is? Sure. So tantra is a beautiful philosophy it's based off Buddhism and Hinduism. So it's a form of,  philosophy and understanding, it teaches self actualization and self awareness, um, and really brings the essence of the life force, you know, our own consciousness back into our internal universe. We're so busy as people, as human beings. We're so dependent on our, on our site, uh, hearing, you know, the feel and the touch of everything. So tantra really brings people back. In and the philosophy brings people back into the internal universe. It's the union union inverse, right? Where inverse the universities is inside of us. We are the universe observing itself. Right. So, um, in understanding through the tantra philosophies, that we are the universe and that we are a divine manifestation of a divine creation. Yeah. An individual gets to connect very, very deeply, very, very spiritually to again, their divinity and, and just to be able to love themselves wholly and completely, and that being able to cultivate that energy, which, which they say lifts the vibration. By doing so internally, we then are able to reflect that in our external environment. So, um, tantra goes into the unification of Kundalini, Shakti and Shiva, which is the masculine and feminine energies that every person has, whether you're male or female, we both have a masculine, feminine. So, again, it unites that within us, it gives us a really whole and complete understanding and love of ourselves. So yeah, it's a, it's a really, really beautiful way that people can understand their energy and again, their, their role and their position in the universe. That that is very intriguing. Um, so what's the difference between tantra and like energy what's compared to energy? Well, it is one and the same it's Tantra. Yeah, absolutely. Tetra encourages that connection to the life force energy that that effectively helps us to live, breathe that understand that you have to understand, to comprehend that is the life force energy, that, that he's keeping us awake. So tantra terms as the Kundalini, which they say is, is, is the energy that gives, gives us birth. You give us life at birth and then. Absolutely. It's a form of energy. So they call it a life force energy. Yes, and it encourages us to awaken that energy, and cultivate and use that energy. And tantric can sometimes be looked upon as some form of sexual practice and in the modern world, it has got this reputation, it does get deepen your sexual experience and relationships. Absolutely. Absolutely. And it does, and it's a very, very beautiful part of tantra and what it can do and enhance your life. but it's so much more, it's so much deeper. It's so much more profound than the actual sexual part of the practice. So it's finding that deep space within, and then relating it to yourself and others around you. You get into different brain states like the Theta, Delta, Alpha is that part of tantra? Yeah, absolutely. So tantra, you've got tantra yoga, you've got mantras, meditation, breath, work, birth control, massage, and different forms of spiritual awareness and the mental, the thought aspect of tantra. So there are practices that, you integrate into your life to enhance cultivate. That Kundalini energy within you. So yes, there are different forms of different ways to go about generating that. So, and it is you're right. It's such a people that we're so busy in our lives, looking for that external gratification, that external validation that we're all seeking. It's not, it's not an external. It's an internal entity and we talk about love and we talk about connection. We talk about energy. It doesn't matter if you're spiritual or not. Right. If we are seeking love externally. We are always going to be disappointed or let down. Why? Because we don't have the love for ourselves right. Yet by going by going within connecting with their own life force energy, we're connecting to the energy of the universe that gives everything life. So by doing that and taking yourselves through the tantric philosophy, that again, we connect deeply to our own divinity. We get that self-love right. And then all of a sudden we start living our life with the self-love practices. And that might be a physical self-love, I want to exercise and get the best out of my body because I love my body. My body is a vessel it's taking me through this universe. It's taken me through his life. It could be, my diet, I show myself self-love through eating, you know, healthy, alive things because that's a form of self-love. We love ourselves because we are a divine creation of a divine source. Uh, and again, that comes to the heart of, of what tantra is all about and that it's coming back into the truth and the understanding of, of our own energy and, and our own divinity. So it's a really, really beautiful journey. It's it is very interesting. I knew nothing about energy,  until I went to unleash the power within, at a Tony Robbins. And I tell you my partner and I, we  had this meditative experience. They asked us to do specific things with our hands, and then we held our hands and we weren't touching, but you could feel that sensation there and it blew my mind. It's been two years. I still like I'm a little like mesmerized by the whole experience. And I didn't, I walked in there with a very open mind. I, I went there to change, and I was determined to walk out a different person and it was mind boggling the things that I witnessed and listened to and heard, and practice. It was, it was very cool and has changed my philosophy.  Thank you for sharing that. I love that idea. I do believe that we limit ourselves very much to what we're capable of and what. What we  allow ourselves to be vulnerable to. Absolutely. This is, you know, people being exposed, this sorts of stuff, it's like, oh, is it wacky user? You know, what is this energy stuff? This is now being backed by science, you know, and really high-tech instruments to, to show the aura, to show that there, you know, that the heart space and the body's actually projecting in energy field. So, this is not, we're starting to understand  the cultures of thousands of thousands of years ago that have now passed on, and we're looking at their scriptures that they were deeply connected to without having the technology to back up. They knew it. Now we, as a modern society, you're just starting to understand that we can cultivate this energy and that we can add the body has an immense, unbelievable capability to heal itself its own mind and its own body. So we're just getting tapped into that. And I think it's a,  really, really powerful journey. And I think the further down the track we get, and the more that we'll understand. Um, you know,  there's some really bright people out there advocating for this at the moment. And, I think it's only going to be a growing practice and, and, uh, as, as we get better at being able to cultivate this energy now and our connection to ourselves and, and the divine universe, that's why I integrate into my coaching. it's a really, really key, fundamental concept in, in people, being able to step out into the best version of themselves. I love when you said about self-love through diet and exercise. I believe, your body's a gift because it is truly capable of so many things we really don't tap into. And I think most of us take it for granted. You take it for granted that you breathe every second, you know, and all your blood's flowing in your heart's going and all of that. It truly is a gifting. And like I said, a vessel and it, you should take care of it. And I think self love does start there. And that's, and the more we love ourselves, the more effectively Quinn love and other rights. So, and I've got so many clients and I'll say, you know, you're in a loving relationship. Um, and you know, there might be different stages in the relationship, whether they're deeply in love, or they're not on saying, have you actually stopped and gazed into your partner's eyes. I mean, I mean, not just looked at their pupils, not looked at the surface. It's a window to your soul. Have you stopped at, and for minutes on end, a courage is practice. Put your partner's hand on your heart. You put yours on, on theirs and you stop and you look and again don't look at the pupils, look into the soul. It's the most amazing quick technique to connect with another person. And I do  it in my workshops too. We do eye gazing. And sometimes it's a man to man and a woman. And especially as men, we get really uncomfortable with that. It is, I did that. So I did that and yeah, and the two of us were bawling at the end of it. I have a question about that because, That if you look into the left eye, you know, about that, that you're supposed to stare to the left inf for different reasonings for that.  They say it's easier to fixate on one eye than it is two some people, say the left eye goes to the right brain. What is your philosophy on that? Both eyes, left them. It certainly is a lot easier for a person to be able to focus on one eye. And look, there is a myriad of different theories behind that, you know, the left side being the feminine side, the right side, being the masculine side. Oh, I haven't heard that one. Um, yeah, so there's all sorts of these links, but, um, look, I don't advocate for one or the other. I certainly advocate for, for looking at one eye because to be able to focus, uh, but you can dance between both eyes, whatever feels comfortable for you. It's the key for me is, is, you know, when we look at something, we're looking at the surface level, the colors we're not looking when I'm trying to look more deeply. So to look into the pupils as, as a window to the soul and go with these is the key component for me. You know, don't look at the colors of the eye and you try and look into the on and seek the soul because we all have a soul. This is, again, goes to the heart of tantra. Is that, that we are, we are in. energetic entity living a physical existence. I encourage everybody to do that eye challenge with their partner.   It is uncomfortable in the beginning And we did it for two minutes. And most of us try to look people in the eye and, we have a hard time with that let alone just full on stare in somebody's eyes for two solid minutes. It's very hard, but it is transformational and it makes you think and come away,  as a better person, a more loving person. So I encourage everybody to try that. So the connection to another soul is through the window of the soul and that is the art. So, yeah, and again, it's just a very, very beautiful, but very, profound and compelling as you found it to actually do that and, and make connection with the partnership and love. And,  again, you get those little components, right and also. Well sudden a tree looks different. All of a sudden a bird looks different and feels different because you you're feeling that energy. You starting to cultivate the AGR, understand just half phenomenal is like you say that we live in that we breathe and, and from a foundational perspective, That then gives a person the ability to build all these other components and a lot of other coaches, you know, they're trying to coach these, these methods and these systems and these strategies that sit on a surface level that might give you instant gratification, no long lasting sustainable change to your life. And that's why, again, why I brings tantra in. And we go right back to the foundations and the truth of, of what it needs to, to understand and live life and love. And then we bolt on the other components of planning and strategy and business and all these other things. And, you know, I've got a coming course. It's an energetic alignment for personal professional and relationships master in success. When you've got the foundations right. Of how you feel all of a sudden, you know, they talk about the law of attraction and manifestation, all these other things. Again, if you think that you want something a thought can, can then manifest it, but only when you've got the foundations, right? And that is when you start loving yourself, yourself, feeling confident and all the fear drops away. And then we can start really. Cause there's two components of manifestation is thought, and then there's action. We can't just sit here and manifest a different life. There's definitely two components. And then when you're feeling love, when you're feeling in alignment, when you're living your passion and your purpose magic can happen. It's walking people through exactly why they are an energetic being and the truths and going into the science of what energy is. And again, bringing that back into ourselves, understanding that everything is energy and then walking people through how to cultivate that and use that. And , the outcome is, and I touch on these components in a personal professional and relationships perspective throughout the course, and then people get to go away integrate that in their lives. And I've got some really, really fantastic stories of how, just how people have absolutely changed their understanding, but also changed their external reality, changed their lives. And Taken that the law of attraction, which so many components are missing, throughout the course outline that out. And it's, it's a beautiful place for people to take that next step in their life and become aligned to what they're passionate, purposeful about and just who they are and what they are. And again, it's a beautiful way for people to be able to generate outcomes in their life. Would you, would you mind sharing one of those stories of your clients. Yeah, absolutely.  There's so many, but, you know, from a personal perspective, you know, guy was really down now in his relationship, and through the practices and through the course, he's gone back in here. He's integrated that into his life and, and rekindled his, marriage. They went through a recommitment ceremony. I've got to be a part of that and see that incredibly inspiring and a credibly, beautiful journey. You know, we've got high level executives. We were talking about high-performing, very high functioning,  people who , you know, stuck at a particular level, you know, they held back by fear, that they come to see me. Like they've gone through the course that they've gone back to. And all of a sudden, you know, received a promotion,the guy was a high-performing CEO, it has become the director of multiple different companies taking the next step because, you know, the, the fear folded away from him  he's his own self worth, his connection with the fulfillment. He was. So he was achieving everything in his life, but was lack that fulfillment. Right. So he's gone away because he's more fulfilled. He's able to achieve more success. Right. So all the blockers, all of the fears drop away.  Again, that's where real success comes in.  It's not just external success, it's the fulfillment of your humanness of your self-love that you can take into everyday life, whether it's sweeping the floor or cooking dinner or relationship or whatever it is, all of these components start to click together holistically. Again, when you, when you start to come together as a, as a complete human being and your understanding of what exactly that is. So,  yeah, the outcomes are a phenomenal. I love the idea of this, self-love. It is become aware to me recently that like with broken relationships, to fix a marriage, to fix a relationship, you have to fix yourself. Cause that's what happens with so many people they get a divorce, they take the same person. And they probably tried to put it in another relationship and it doesn't work and it's not the relationship that's not working. It's you, you need to fix yourself and learn these things about you and then take that person who has been transformed and then put it in a good relationship. Otherwise you just keep going from relationship to relationship. It's a very different philosophy than most of us are attuned to. It's usually couples counseling and that kind of thing. Um, but I kinda like this new concept that's out there about fixing yourself for you and then, and then you can invite others in after that and it just makes really good. So, so important. I mean, you're in a relationship, you know, you've gone through these beautiful connection, this honeymoon period. And then, on the other side of that, we have these, programmed expectations about partner. They don't meet that. These are the expectations that you've met when really the expectations that you should be having, not just for your partner, but for yourself. So I love the term. I love the term, and this is key, if you want more of something, become more of that thing. Right? So you own the responsibility to become more of what you expect of your partner. So that I think is really, really in the context of what you're saying is you become more of what you want. You want more love, become more love. I was just thinking that exact same phrase, if you want, do you want more love, become her love? That's it look inward before outward. I really like Marisa Peer.  She has this big campaign going, especially for women.   And I gotten it from my daughters and we put it on the bathroom mirrors so that when you get up in the morning, you have a positive, reminder of who you are and that you are worthy. . And that's exactly what tantra teaches. It's, all about the fundamental understandings of the components that make you up in the beauty that makes you up. And that, you know, part of tantra is he's exactly that his mantra and the subconscious mind, when we look at that, from that perspective, that's 95% of your your mind is subconscious. I mean, look at all the thousands of processes conducting, pumping your blood, reproducing your cells you, your thought, your site, it tastes. So these things, there's so much going on at the subconscious mind. So, uh, and, and to simplify though, the external world, it has a program. And it's, and it's been running that program for very long time. The only way you beat that subconscious mind and get yourself out of depressed states of mind and anxious states of mind, and the falsities of just how little you are, how much you lack, which is installed into us over,  many, many years growing up and by the world limits us to, to jobs that limits us  to saying that we need to conduct their laws at the certain way. So to break that down, repetition. Mantras are the key, uh,  flooding the mind with positive, reinforcing, loving messages to say that I am, I am all in existence.  I am my own universe. Right, right. I coined that, as transformational vocabulary. And it's like people say, I have to go to the gym and it's like, no, you get to go to the gym. And that little tweak on the words, really changes your Headspace.  It's so much better to think that, instead of saying, I forgot. You know, I say, I just remembered. It's just little, little tweaks on your words, I always say the best conversation you can have is the one between your own ears. And it really influences how you do everything. That is so interesting, thank you for sharing that. So my signature question is a little bit deep, so " if you could eliminate one thing in this world, Andrew, what would it be and why?" What a beautiful question. Uh, if I could eliminate one thing, it would be the falsity around separation. So we get so diluted around the fact that I think so many of our issues as a holistic or collective human race  is around the separateness of us. The differences between us, the color of our skin, the nationality of the cultures. When in essence, we are divine creations. We are all human. We are all living entities. Doesn't matter if it's an animal or a tree or a dog or a cat or a human or an American or Chinese, or, uh, that just the separate , it's an illusion. Uh, there's, there's just such a oneness that I think could bring us all together. Uh, you know, spending, this is a whole, another issue, a whole other podcast here, but I'm going to say it anyway. You know, it's, there's billions of dollars of expenditure in defending ourselves against ourselves. When as a human collective, I think we're getting that so wrong. And it's taking us that it's spiraling us down this,  down this channel, um, when, when really the one that could bring us all together, you know, this COVID, it's just splitting us all apart. This is an American issue. This is it's it's again and here we are defending the south China sea. Spending billions and billions of dollars on how to, how to, how to eliminate each other when that fall, when that folds away. And we come together as a collective and work together against COVID and work together against sharing the season. I just think that if that one issue could fold up. For me, I think we would be as a collective on a whole complete different trajectory to walk currently on. So there is for, for me to get up and talk for another hour on, on that, on that alone though. tell our audience where they can connect with you. So I'm currently just underway redoing my website, but it is,  www.Andrewgeldert.Com that I use.  Reach out to me on, on Facebook messenger or WhatsApp business, you find.  Under Andrew Golden. So, uh, look, I'll welcome. Any questions welcome any of you use to, to reach out, just starting to build a global audience and, I have a vision to impact the lives of a million people in the next two years. So that's my grand vision and continue to build myself and along the journey. Well, I think you're a very compassionate person and I love your journey that you're on to help so many people. And I think it's definitely needed in our society. There's a lot of disconnect out there. And it's getting worse and not better. So hopefully people will take advantage of your services and change their life. So just want to remind everybody with that thought life has no remote, get up and change it yourself. Thank you. And. Love that. Thanks very much for having me on Caroline and all the best all y'all your listeners and for yourself in the future.

As we close out May, Mental Health Awareness Month, we welcome psychologist Dr. Hillary L. McBride to the show to talk about the connection between social media and our mental health. Her expertise, research, and practical ideas create a rich conversation about how we can approach and talk with our kids about social media. Show Notes:Go to www.mops.org for more information about MOPS, International. Opening story read by Mandy from Jennifer Naraki can be found @jennifernaraki on Instagram. Follow Dr. Hillary McBride on social media: Instagram: @hillaryliannamcbride, Facebook: @realhillarymcbride and Twitter: @hillarylmcbride.  Website: www.hillarylmcbride Books by Hillary McBride: Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are Embodiment and Eating Disorders The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living MOPS resources mentioned in Mandy's closing:  Fierce Love Collective 6-week group: Email meetups@mops.org to join a group.  

My guest this week is the multi-talented Rachel Solomon. Rachel is a pianist, vocalist, songwriter, arranger, studio musician, touring artist, and international piano bar entertainer. Penned “The female Billy Joel” by her Berklee College of Music songwriting teacher, she released her debut solo record in January of 2013 entitled “Love Ourselves”, and a 2nd EP entitled “Right On Time” in the spring of 2017, which was re-released digitally as “Right On Time DELUXE” with bonus tracks in 2018. The song “Baltimore” from “Right On Time” was recognized as a Top 5 Winner in the Folk/Americana category of the 17th Annual Great American Song Contest. Rachel has also performed with notable names such as Laura Bell Bundy, Ruby Amanfu, Love and Theft, Krystal Keith, Heidi Newfield (of the country group Trick Pony), and Texas country/Americana artist Adam Hood. She has performed on The Today Show, Toby Keith's “Shut Up and Hold On” tour, and has had a song placed on MTV's “16 & Pregnant”. Rachel's website is https://rachelsolo.com/ Her Instagram is https://www.instagram.com/RachelSoloMusic/ Her You Tube is https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf8hHnWpOuLGSZ1H2zegnFg Her Spotify is HERE Her Apple Music is HERE --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/yoel-hyman/support

Carly Israel, the founder of podcasts In Your Corner divorce and Northstar Big Book and Must Love Self, has written about parenting, divorce, and recovery for the Huffington Post and other venues. Carly joins us today to share on the Daily Reflection for today, Learning to Love Ourselves.Visit Carly's web sites for more information:Carly's Web SiteMust Love Self PodcastNorth Star Big Book PodcastCarly on Twitter: @look4theredLEARNING TO LOVE OURSELVESAlcoholism was a lonely business, even though we were surrounded by people who loved us . . . We were trying to find emotional security either by dominating or by being dependent upon others . . . We still vainly tried to be secure by some unhealthy sort of domination or dependence.AS BILL SEES IT, p. 252When I did my personal inventory I found that I had unhealthy relationships with most people in my life—my friends and family, for example. I always felt isolated and lonely. I drank to dull emotional pain. It was through staying sober, having a good sponsor and working the Twelve Steps that I was able to build up my low self-esteem. First the Twelve Steps taught me to become my own best friend, and then, when I was able to love myself, I could reach out and love others.Need the Daily Reflection Book?Visit our web siteRead about Recovery on our BlogVisit our Facebook GroupFollow us on TwitterSupport the Podcast:- On Patreon: https://patreon.com/dailyreflection- On PayPal: https://paypal.me/dailyreflectionIf you're struggling with alcohol or addiction, or wondering how to stop drinking it's helpful to know that there's a solution that has worked for millions of people. The Daily Reflection Podcast provides hope, and inspiration through the shared experiences of people that have found a way out. 

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What is the Self Care Movement? https://thepapergown.zocdoc.com/when-does-self-care-do-more-harm-than-good https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2019/aug/21/self-care-radical-feminist-idea-mass-market https://ourworldindata.org/mental-health#anxiety-disorders — Is There Any Good in the Self Care Movement? https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/trade-self-help-for-god-help https://medium.com/@sidehustlerising/the-toxic-side-effects-of-the-self-care-movement-41f82468b3a4 Psalm 143:8 (NIV) — A Biblical View of the Physical Body https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/humility-is-not-hating-yourself Psalm 139:14 (ESV) 1 Corinthians 3:16 (ESV) James 2:14-17 (ESV) — Do We have to Love Ourselves to Love Others? https://www.compellingtruth.org/Bible-self-love.html — Conclusion Ephesians 2:10 (ESV) — Production Music: Cutting Edge by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.com Scripting & Music: Drew Willer Audio Editing: Clay Ooms

When was the Last Time you expressed to those Closest to you just how Significant they are in your life? When is the Last time You looked in the Mirror and Told Yourself just how Significant You Are? It's Sad how most of us have bought into the lie that “we Still have Time”. When the Truth is, None of us Know How much Time we truly have!!! This is Why we Must Cease Each and Every Moment to Love On Purpose! Love Ourselves on Purpose! Our Presence is Truly a Present! How many presents within have we Tossed to the Side? Convincing ourselves that the present would still be there once we were “ready” to open it?! If this is you, please take a few minutes to Listen to this Episode. Maybe it's Time to re-evaluate this notion! Your Presence is a Present! Enjoy! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app

In today’s episode, Dylan sits down with Dr. Hillary McBride, who is best known as co-host of the Liturgists podcast and host of the CBC podcast Other People’s Problems. However, her day to day work and years of training has focused on research and clinicaly work at the intersection of spirituality and mental health, psychological trauma, body image, eating disorders, sex and sexuality, and feminist approaches to psychology. Her first book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, was published in 2017; her next book, This Is My Body: Embodiment and Why It Matters for Just About Everything, will be out in 2021. Follow and connect with Hillary on twitter @hillarylmcbride, on Instagram @hillaryliannamcbride, or at her website www.hillarylmcbride.com  Links: Join our New Years Goal Setting Workshop Free Method Nutrition IG Apply to work with our team Download our free food freedom guide

In this episode, DJ Eidson and Harry Wilson get a chance to talk with Dr. Hillary McBride. Hillary gives us a snapshot of why therapy is so important for those who want to break the generational trauma and repair the fabric of society. Her podcast Other People’s Problems was reviewed in the New York Times in Sept 2020. She is a registered clinical counselor in Vancouver, Canada, and holds a Ph.D. in Counselling Psychology from UBC. Her areas of clinical and research specialty focus on trauma, and trauma therapies, eating disorders, body image, sex and sexuality, embodiment, and the intersection of spirituality and mental health. Hillary’s work has been recognized by both the American and Canadian Psychological Associations, and she was recently awarded the International Young Investigator Award for her research contributions so early in her career. Her first book is Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are (Post Hill Press, 2017), and she is the editor of a textbook, Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention and Treatment (Routledge, 2018), she also has a new book coming out end of 2021.

Robyn and Anna welcome therapist, researcher, speaker and writer, Hillary McBride to continue their conversation on mental health. McBride earned her PhD in counseling psychology from the University of British Columbia. As a therapist, she specializes in trauma, eating disorders, body image, and relationship therapy. She is a co-host of the popular podcast “The Liturgists” and "Other People's Problems." She is the the author of the book Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, in which she challenges the notion that it is normal and expected for women to hate their bodies. She has been widely recognized for her research on women’s sexual and postpartum health, healthy body image, and eating disorder prevention. You can follow Hillary at @hillarylmcbride or her website https://hillarylmcbride.com/. To support this podcast, please visit www.kindful.activistheology.com. To follow Activist Theology on Twitter: @activistheology To follow Activist Theology on Instagram: @activistheology To follow Activist Theology on Facebook: @activistheology To be in touch with Dr. Robyn: robyn@activistheology.com or @irobyn To be in touch with Rev. Anna: anna@activistheology.com or @unholyhairetic Join our community by texting (615) 436-5948

Robyn and Anna welcome therapist, researcher, speaker and writer, Hillary McBride to continue their conversation on mental health. McBride earned her PhD in counseling psychology from the University of British Columbia. As a therapist, she specializes in trauma, eating disorders, body image, and relationship therapy. She is a co-host of the popular podcast “The Liturgists” and "Other People's Problems." She is the the author of the book Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, in which she challenges the notion that it is normal and expected for women to hate their bodies. She has been widely recognized for her research on women’s sexual and postpartum health, healthy body image, and eating disorder prevention. You can follow Hillary at @hillarylmcbride or her website https://hillarylmcbride.com/. To support this podcast, please visit www.kindful.activistheology.com. To follow Activist Theology on Twitter: @activistheology To follow Activist Theology on Instagram: @activistheology To follow Activist Theology on Facebook: @activistheology To be in touch with Dr. Robyn: robyn@activistheology.com or @irobyn To be in touch with Rev. Anna: anna@activistheology.com or @unholyhairetic Join our community by texting (615) 436-5948

Hello, Hello, Hello, Sorry for the break, ya girl has been going through some ish!!!!!! My issue along with a post I saw and what happened today has me ready to speak. The whole world is changing hopefully for the better, or at least for those of us who have been doing the inner work. It’s time for us to stop accepting old patterns of thought that hurt us as a whole. Today I’m talking about women, specifically black women. I am so tired of the stereotype of the angry black woman. ALL women get it, when you know what you want and go for it, you can get labeled as a bitch or aggressive, rather than assertive or knowing your vision. I saw a post online of some young men saying their preference in dating, now if you have listened before or if you know me then you know I am down with the swirl. That is not the issue, it’s the reason these men gave for not wanting to date black women. Take listen from their own mouths. Now to keep it real, I have thought a similar thought about black men, they don’t know how to date, or they don’t know how to treat women so I use to date other nationalities. I realized that was ignorant and I stopped years ago just dating white guys. The issue I have is WE ALL have been brainwashed. We now know there is systematic racism but are black and brown people aware of the self-hate that has been fed to us so sneaky and sly, that you don’t always catch it. I’ve been watching Martin lately, and even that classic show is playing into the stereotypes, not intentionally. Light skinned girl Gina has the man, Pam the dark-skinned honey has an attitude and no manz. We have work to do!!! This is a law (the law of species) that should no longer be up for debate. Who is arguing with gravity? I sometimes think I can fly but I still know there is gravity. We are humans all here together, well some of y’all may be robots, or AI, or clones lol. BUT we must and by we, I mean my white sisters and my brotha’s need to come together. White women because you already know how men can be, hello DaVinci Code. Brothers because you all may be a victim of having assumptions and those assumptions make you act a certain way, and then women react a certain way. I AM ALL IN FOR THE SWIRL!!! I love seeing international couples, I just think it is high time this issue is also addressed. We ALL have been brainwashed and it’s time to stop. There will never be full peace on earth, not looking for that. BUT it’s clear that some people have a misunderstanding and that became a disease that filled the earth. We all want the same thing: Place to live, food to eat, clothes to wear and find out what life is stored in us regardless of age, nationality, or $$. There are little things “They” have done that program you without you knowing it. It’s time to implement solutions= Different commercials, shows, networks, opportunities. White women taking up the fight. And Black men date who you want, but know if you have been sipping the kool-aide and stop! That goes for us too. It’s time to LOVE Ourselves. All of us, NOT just the outer trimmings.

Now confronted by the Pharisees (not just the Temple elders and Sadducees), this religious group tries to trap Jesus by asking him what the greatest commandment is. Jesus’ answer has reverberated across centuries and should shape our entire moral lens. All decisions must fit under the framework of Loving God and Loving Others as we Love Ourselves.

As women at this time in our lives, it’s important to learn to love ourselves beyond measure, without any expectations. And just like two long lost soul sisters, in this episode, intuitive healer and spiritual guide Susan Burrell and I talk all about the journey from feeling worthless to worthy. Author of ‘Live an Empowered Life! A 30-Day Journey Book’, Susan is empathetically using her own story of grief and shame to teach others how to live an empowered life.

Dr. Hillary McBride is best known as co-host of the Liturgists podcast and host of the CBC podcast Other People’s Problems. But that work has only been possible with years of clinical practice as a counselor and research as a psychologist, a base of expertise that includes work at the intersection of spirituality and mental health, trauma and trauma therapies, body image, eating disorders, sex and sexuality, and feminist approaches to psychology. Her first book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, was published in 2017; her next book, This Is My Body: Embodiment and Why It Matters for Just About Everything, will be out in 2021. She has been recognized by the American Psychological Association, and the Canadian Psychological Association for her research addressing our relationships with our bodies across the life span, and how to make a home within our bodily selves, in a world that asks us to leave our bodily homes from the moment we're born. Hillary makes her home in Vancouver, British Columbia. @hillaryliannamcbride @laurendeleary @adam.budnick

Show Description: Episode # 2 Don't Worry - the Ultimate Solutions are Within By going inside ourselves and listening to the soul, we can find the answers within. Our inner knowing is the truth we seek. Top Takeaways: · Learning to access the Source within allows you to find the best answer to any question and recognize if it is right for you. But how do you know if it’s right for you? Because your soul only tells the truth. · What Happens when we Seek Outside Ourselves?· The egoic mind likes to tell us that love is rare. That it’s hard to find, but it’s a lie of the ego. The scarcity we face isn’t outside of us but an internal lacking of self-confidence and self-love. · How do we learn to Love Ourselves?1. To love ourselves, we have to put ourselves on the list of things to care for, and this is called self-care. 2. Another way we love ourselves is to set personal boundaries. 3. Being authentic is the best way to show compassion to oneself. · Our Wholeness Arises from Within Ourselves because until we turn inwards, the external world leaves us wanting. · How do You Trust the Inner Self1. Learn to differentiate those voices that speak to us: the programming from others, the egoic mind, and our soul. 2. Become more creative and playful. 3. Create habits that help our soul grow and expand. · As we move forward on this adventure into our inner being, we learn to trust the soul’s voice. When we join with other liked minded soulful people, it enhances our perception. Episode Links: Ø The self-help industry is a billion-dollar businessØ The 5 Love Languages, Dr. Gary ChapmanØ The Course In MiraclesØ https://terrikozlowski.com/the-soul-has-answers-within/ Do you want a strategy to help you overcome the ego’s limiting beliefs and live a successful life? If so, please reach out to me via my website, www.TerriKozlowski.com, and together we can make an action plan for you to create the life you desire. Support the show (https://paypal.me/TerriKozlowski)

Hillary L McBride is a registered Clinical Counsellor, Speaker. Researcher & author of Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are #hillarymcbride #deconstruction #progressiveChristianity hillarylmcbride.com --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/Godisgrey/support

Dr. Hillary McBride is a registered clinical counsellor in private practice in Vancouver who recently completed her PhD in Counselling Psychology at UBC. When she is not doing clinical work she is researching, speaking, and writing. Her areas of clinical and research specialty focus on the intersection of spirituality and mental health, trauma, and trauma therapies, embodiment, eating disorders, body image, sex and sexuality, and feminist approaches to psychology. In 2017, she published her first book with Post Hill Press—Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are, and she is the senior editor of a textbook, Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention and Treatment, which came out in 2018. Her next book This is my Body will be out February 2021. You can hear her work as a co-host on The Liturgists Podcast and as the host of CBC podcast Other People's Problems. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of The CBC Podcast Showcase we're trying something different. Instead of picking three clips from three different shows, we're diving deep into one CBC Podcast. We turn the spotlight on Other People's Problems — CBC's resident therapy podcast. Normally, therapy sessions are totally confidential — but this podcast opens the doors with host Hillary McBride. She's a PhD candidate in counselling psychology at the University of British Columbia and the author of the book, Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are. Unlike other therapy podcasts, that feature one-off sessions between a therapist and a stranger, this one features stories of people who have been seeing McBride for a long time. She knows them, they trust her, and together they want to help demystify mental health.

Until we deal with our toxic superego, our healing process will not move further. How to repattern this inner part of ours? How to be a good, loving parent to yourself? This, and more in this recording from the exciting UCLA Seminar. (00:09) Why Does a Narcissist Want to Destroy You? (02:50) There's No Fixing and It's a Hard Thing to Accept (04:42) Talking About Malignant Optimism (06:55) How Do You Fix a Malignant Inner Parent? (12:00) Answering Questions (17:00) Talking About the Gender Issue (20:01) Spirituality Questions (22:56) You Need to Know That It's Going to Hurt, Pain is a Part of Our Lives (25:48) Talking About Toxic Friends (30:00) Repatterning the Inner Parent (35:20) We Need to Love Ourselves the Way We Would Another Person (39:55) Richard Talks About the Usage of Hypnosis (41:45) Talking About Affirmations to Overcome Fear (45:34) Narcissists Have Massive Abandonment Anxiety

“We did not learn to dislike, hate, or feel shame about our bodies on our own and so we are not going to write a new story on our own, either. We need each other.” - Hillary McBride Connection and community are essential to changing your narrative.  Need a community? Join Diet Freedom Forever Facebook Group today.    Show notes:  Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Hillary McBride Get my FREE powerful journal here!  For more ways to connect to me: Follow me on Instagram Email: sarahalysefitness@gmail.com 

Disciple Up #163 Staying Sane in An Insane World - Thinking Biblically By Louie Marsh, 6-10-2020   How to stay sane?   First Think Biblically   God calls disciples to think Biblically not culturally and not to simply follow my feelings or to go by my instincts. No, God calls all disciples to think clearly, critically (I mean analytically not to be critical of others).   18  “Come now, let us reason together, says the LORD: though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall become like wool. Isaiah 1:18 (ESV)   We need to think like God thinks, to see the world as he does and then follow that truth.   People sometimes say, “The god I believe in …”  Perhaps the god you believe in isn't the real, true and living God. And the only way to know for sure what he thinks is to consult, understand and depend upon the Bible.   C.S.Lewis: “If you do not listen to theology, that will not mean that you have no ideas about God. It will mean that you have a lot of wrong ones!” Jesus shows us his authority in many places including the Sermon on the Mount when he repeatedly says, “You have heard it said but I say…”   To think like Jesus, to think Biblically means that you'll really be different. Not different in a way that is considered cool, but different in a fundamental way that won't be appreciated by many if not most people.   To really think Biblically I must to this:  21  but test everything; hold fast what is good. 1 Thessalonians 5:21 (ESV)   Test everything – especially things that make me feel good while sending me off in a slightly different direction in life.   This kind of testing, comparing everything to Scripture – needs to become a deeply ingrained habit that the disciple does automatically!   1  Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. 1 John 4:1 (ESV)   An Example of Thinking Biblically   34  But when the Pharisees heard that he had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together. 35  And one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. 36  “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37  And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. 38  This is the great and first commandment. 39  And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. 40  On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 22:34-40 (ESV)   1st Question: Who is my neighbor?   29  But he, desiring to justify himself, said to Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?” 30  Jesus replied, “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and he fell among robbers, who stripped him and beat him and departed, leaving him half dead. 31  Now by chance a priest was going down that road, and when he saw him he passed by on the other side. 32  So likewise a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33  But a Samaritan, as he journeyed, came to where he was, and when he saw him, he had compassion. 34  He went to him and bound up his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he set him on his own animal and brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35  And the next day he took out two denarii and gave them to the innkeeper, saying, ‘Take care of him, and whatever more you spend, I will repay you when I come back.' 36  Which of these three, do you think, proved to be a neighbor to the man who fell among the robbers?” 37  He said, “The one who showed him mercy.” And Jesus said to him, “You go, and do likewise.” Luke 10:29-37 (ESV)   Is this a command to love yourself?   2nd Question:  What is the command here?   A: To love my neighbor. This isn't two commands – it's ONE. The command is to love my neighbor.   The second part of this is an explanation of HOW we are to love our neighbor. People have always known there are different kinds of love. Love my dog, spouse, baseball, various unhealthy sweets etc.    “As yourself” explains that this command is for us to love our neighbor the way we normally LOVE OURSELVES. This selflove is assumed – NOT commanded. This type of self-love, or self-preservation as we'd probably call it, is noted throughout Scripture.   28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, Ephesians 5: 28-29 (ESV)   Conclusion: This command is NOT a command to have high self-esteem. To make it say that is to twist the plain meaning of the text to fit into our modern therapeutic, psychologized world view. A view which did not exist prior to the last century and NEVER existed or was taught in the Bible.   Second Connect thinking to peace   4  Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice. 5  Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand; 6  do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7  And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.    8  Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9  What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:4-9 (ESV)    

My name is Zack Harris, and I’m your host. Over the next two podcasts We’re gonna talk about BECOMING CONFIDENT. I believe confidence has internal components and external components. So I want to talk to you about BECOMING INTERNALLY CONFIDENT this time and then we’ll talk about some really practical ways next time to BECOME EXTERNALLY CONFIDENT.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I don’t know about you but...I have battled with confidence in my life.  Not feeling like I’m a good enough husband, dad, leader, a friend. A funny look-awkward comment-Weird comment-Something doesn’t go as well as I planned-Criticism by others.All of us Lack confidence the way we look! You can’t see-BEING BALDMy friend DerekI read a study that said in 2018 Americans spent 16.5 Billion in cosmetic surgeries. Whoa. Self Talk: U can do this: Don’t blow this——Act most confident (Cocky)—most insecure!3 different types of insecure people ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------People Pleasers—Yes boss, Amazing, Do 4 you—$ (Know some1?) Do you like me?? The Fishers—Pic, So blah today. Or if any of us lead something, give a presentation at work, or I’ve done this after a messageOne-Uppers— Read a chapter of the bible (two—In Hebrew.)Weekend getaway. (That ain’t nuthin) 3 month—my island. Had flu—New disease just discovered almost died—named after me.------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Tragedy—how often our insecurities keep us from following dreams.Don’t interview for the job, Don’t go back to school, Don’t start a businessDon’t ask her out. Don’t even try to get in shape.So many people lack confidence. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------So as we think about BECOMING INTERNALLY CONFIDENT I want to lay a foundation for this podcast and then we’ll get more practical. I think all of us would like to BECOME more confident. Here’s what I know, if my car stops running efficiently or has mechanical issues, I can’t go to the car wash, get the car nice and clean looking, vacuum it out, spray some nice air freshener, and then expect the car to now start running well. No, obviously it has mechanical issues. I need to go to the mechanic and pop the hood. I have to look inside. “What we believe about the inside, manifests itself on the outside.”I want to address the transmission, then we can polish the car.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- So how do we BECOME INTERNALLY CONFIDENT? I’m sure there are dozens of examples but I’ll focus on two that I think are incredibly important. And the first is this, to become internally confident you really need to…LOVE YOURSELF. Now listen, this isn’t some feel good, new age, motivational life coach speech. You just need to loooooove yourself. And I want to be very clear I’m not saying BE IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF in a self absorbed kind of way. We have plenty of people in our society doing this. I mean love yourself as a person that’s valuable and incredible worth. Unfortunately for so many people and maybe this is your story, you didn’t grow up with parents that spoke encouraging words to you. Maybe the exact opposite happened. You were told you weren't good enough, would never measure up, you were a failure. Or maybe you were in a relationship where you were emotionally wounded and it scarred your Internal confidence. I know it’s hard but we have to start here. We have to own our stories, our past, and say yeah maybe I struggle with internal confidence because I have a low view of myself. Now this is my inner Pastor coming out, but I want you to know you aren’t who others say you are, you are who God says you are. You are valuable, you are a masterpiece, you are a perfect design made for a purpose and a destiny,  you are fearfully and wonderfully made, hand crafted by God, you are beautiful, brilliant, YOU ARE SPECIAL.This thought actually transformed my inner confidence. Max Lucado is an author and he said “You are valuable because you exist. Not because of what you do or what you have done, but simply because you are.”Wow, think about that, internalize that. (BRING THIS HOME….)Thankfully I had parents who spoke life giving words into my life. Although I had parents who spoke LIFE into me, I’ve also had many people say things about me that wounded me and hurt me, shook me, rattled my confidence.  I’m sure you have as well. Ghandi said I love this quote “I won’t let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” I’ve had to choose to not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet. We have to choose the voices we listen to. If we are going to BECOME INTERNALLY confident, we have to start here. Do you love yourself?  Do you see worth when you look in the mirror?  You may have to write a letter to yourself that reads: Dear Me,Make peace with the mirror and watch the reflection change. When you do this you’ll look in the mirror and genuinely like who you see. BECOMING INTERNALLY CONFIDENT starts with Loving yourself and And the second way to become internally confident, you need toIdentify & Replace Toxic Thoughts. Toxic; anything containing poisonous material capable of causing sickness orEven death.And if I’m honest, there have been so many times my thoughts have been toxic. This has been a battle for me. I’m going to do a presentation: “Don’t mess this up.”Then you mess up, say something wrong: “I’m an idiot.” Recently we have done Zoom meetings and I was talking to a bunch of our leaders. We had like 40 people on this zoom call, everyone is muted, staring at you, and you are talking. And my mind starts saying, “This isn’t helping anyone.” You are wasting their time.” TOXIC. Many of life's battles are either won or lost in the mind. No one talks to you more than you talk to you. Right? I was really battling anxious thoughts, discouraging feelings, and it began to overwhelm me. I knew I needed to find a solution, some actual skills to address these feelings. I’m all about prayer but I also think there are skills you can develop to help. And so my friend recommended this book to me called “Feeling Good” by Dr. David Burns. He’s a therapist and it addresses how you can diagnose your feelings, your moods, anxiety, guilt, low self-esteem, and he gives tools to help you overcome these challenges. He says, “Every bad feeling you have is the result of your distorted negative thinking.” They are described in his book as cognitive distortions. Here’s a few he lists in his book. READ A FEW FROM BOOKWhich do you struggle with? All of them? Haha This was truly transformational for me because if we are going to BECOME internally confident we must identify and reject toxic thoughts. I want to give you one practical example to combat this. He talks about it in the book and it's called the triple column technique. You have an automatic thought: I never do anything rightYou identify the cognitive distortion: OvergeneralizationThen you replace with the rational response: That’s nonsense. I do a lot of things right.Your boss calls or texts and says “I’d like to talk to you…Automatic Thought: They are going to tell me something really bad, I’m going to get fired. Cognitive distortion: Jumping to conclusionsRational response: I’m sure they just want to update me on something importantMany of us are not becoming who you want to become because you are locked in a deception of lies.So what are we going to do? We are going to LOVE OURSELVES and understand we have incredible value simply because we exist. And then we are going to IDENTIFY AND REPLACE TOXIC THOUGHTS.Our lives are moving in the direction of our strongest thoughts. We will identify those cognitive distortions and then we will replace them with truth. This isn’t easy and truly will be a daily process. But I believe if we do this we will BECOME internally confident. Couple Application Questions to consider:How do I truly view myself? Be honest. What cognitive distortions do you struggle with? This week track what you think about. Every time you think something bad, try and use the triple column technique. THOUGHT-DISTORTION-TRUTHWell I hope this was helpful to you. Since we are just getting this podcast started it would mean so much if you gave this podcast a review or if this is really valuable to you, I’d really appreciate you sharing this on your social media that would mean so much to me. In the word of George Elliot, It’s never too late to be what you might have been. So let’s declare “I AM BECOMING. AND REMEMBER, YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES, YOU WERE MEANT TO THRIVE. See ya next time

Ishaan talks to Jeff about what he loves to do - mainly choir, theater, and Virtual Enterprise. We learn some interesting things, such as that choir people have rights, theater can be depressing even if it looks happy, and virtual enterprise is... actually interesting?!?!?!After all that talk, Jeff talks about self love, and why he keeps posting the exact same picture of himself everyday. He tells us to "LOVE OURSELVES" and actually, for the first time in human existence, kinda tells us how to do it?! Wow! Take that subjectivity and vagueness!Join us for a ton of fun, and lots of great insights on this episode of Brarcast!

In today's world of technology, most people spend a lot of time scrolling through social media feeds that just feed us the highlights of people's lives. No matter how hard we try not to compare the highlights from other's lives to our own, we can't help but continuosly compare our life to theirs. When we do this excessively, we get very down on ourselves and start feeling depressed because we haven't figured out how to live a better life, anxious because we want to figure out how, as well as feelings of emptiness, unworthiness, and feeling less-than. But this is so far from the truth. In truth, we are powerful beyond measure! It's important to note that comparison CAN be healthy in MODERATION if we are using others as a reference point to realize what's possible for ourselves, but most people become fixated on the progress of others and the stagnation of themselves, creating a sense of unworthines. So what's the solution? Well, it's easier said than done. But if we limit our time on social media, LOVE OURSELVES, focus on ourselves and our unique gifts, remember that all criticism is just a reflection of those who criticize us, and remember that we are divine, conscious, powerful universal energy, then we can truly live a life where we are proud to be OURSELVES. And from that place, stop being jealous of others and be proud of them for their own unique expressions of life.

How do we Love Ourselves when we feel anxious

In this episode with just Robert & Holly, they (we?) talk about why we take the summer off, what our hopes are for the time away, and what books we’re planning on reading during the next few months.Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- The Stressed Years of Their Lives: Helping Your Kid Survive and Thrive During Their College Years by Dr. B. Janet Hibbs & Dr. Anthony Rostain- Invited: The Power of Hospitality in an Age of Loneliness by Leslie Verner- Of Mess and Moxie: Wrangling Delight Out of This Wild and Glorious Life by Jen Hatmaker- Surrender to Love: Discovering the Heart of Christian Spirituality by David Benner- The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery by David Benner- This: Becoming Free by Michael Gungor- The Most Beautiful Thing I’ve Seen: Opening Your Eyes to Wonder by Lisa Gungor- Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport- Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Hillary McBride- The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe by Richard Rohr- Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela DuckworthJoin the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website or Twitter.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

In this episode with just Robert & Holly, they (we?) talk about why we take the summer off, what our hopes are for the time away, and what books we’re planning on reading during the next few months.Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- The Stressed Years of Their Lives: Helping Your Kid Survive and Thrive During Their College Years by Dr. B. Janet Hibbs & Dr. Anthony Rostain- Invited: The Power of Hospitality in an Age of Loneliness by Leslie Verner- Of Mess and Moxie: Wrangling Delight Out of This Wild and Glorious Life by Jen Hatmaker- Surrender to Love: Discovering the Heart of Christian Spirituality by David Benner- The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery by David Benner- This: Becoming Free by Michael Gungor- The Most Beautiful Thing I’ve Seen: Opening Your Eyes to Wonder by Lisa Gungor- Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport- Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Hillary McBride- The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe by Richard Rohr- Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela DuckworthJoin the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website or Twitter.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

In a new intro, Robert admits that he has no idea how to rest and Holly tells us all about her recent travels. Then, we recast our 2018 interview with Hillary McBride about self-image, passing narratives on to our children, and learning to love ourselves as we are.Other things we mention:- episode 76 - The Narratives We Believe (& Why They Matter)- episode 72 - Mentoring, Leading, & Empowering Others- episode 32 - Trauma, Attachment, & Creating Safety (feat. Aundi Kolber)- The Liturgists episode on Embodiment (we don't actually mention this, but you should check it out.)- the APA task force on the sexualization of girlsConnect with Hillary on her website, Twitter, Instagram or listen to The Liturgists. Buy Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are on Amazon. You can also order Hillary's new textbook Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention and Treatment on Amazon.Quotes:- "We know from the empirical evidence that between 85 and 90 percent of women are totally dissatisfied with their appearance, with their body, with their sense of self." (tweet) - "A person is in the minority if they like themselves, if they like their body." (tweet)- "I've had so much suffering in my experience with being alive and with my body and I want to live my life in such a way that I can shape the story, that I can help people not hurt the way that I've hurt, and that I know that I can turn the pain that I've been through into something beautiful in my own life and into other people's lives." (tweet)- "Pain doesn't get the final word. Suffering doesn't get the final word. Beauty & growth & thriving does." (tweet)- "We come from people and we're going towards people. We're part of a collective that's on a journey that extends way beyond the sense of individuality we have." (tweet) - "Sometimes we think about our lives from such an individualistic perspective that we miss the larger story which is that we belong to each other." (tweet)- "There is something that can move your kids forward, even if you're not perfect." (tweet)- "It's ok to make mistakes. It's how you respond to those mistakes that makes the difference." (tweet)- "There is no version of being a parent that is healthy, that helps your kids thrive, that is perfect." (tweet)- "The overwhelming majority of people, after looking at print media, feel really crappy about their body." (tweet)- “Having a sense of connection to the divine, to a God who is bigger than us and even bigger than our rules and a God who is loving and compassionate…that can help us feel like we have goodness in us, even when the world around us has told us we don’t.” (tweet)- “Surrounding yourself with people who love you and support a vision of humanness that is gracious & loving & accepting is important.” (tweet)- “There is so much more to who you are than your suffering, than your appearance.” (tweet)- “If you’re suffering, if you’re in pain: that doesn’t make you less lovable.” (tweet)Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website or Twitter.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

Romans 13:8–14 NASB95 8 Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law. 9 For this, “You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not covet,” and if there is any other commandment, it is summed up in this saying, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 10 Love does no wrong to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. 11 Do this, knowing the time, that it is already the hour for you to awaken from sleep; for now salvation is nearer to us than when we believed. 12 The night is almost gone, and the day is near. Therefore let us lay aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. 13 Let us behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy. 14 But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh in regard to its lusts. More instructions for transformed living: 1. Continually pay down the LOVE DEBT you owe everyone. John 15:12 NASB95 12 “This is My commandment, that you love one another, just as I have loved you. You’re not doing someone a FAVOR when you show them LOVE. You’re simply giving them what you owe. Don’t say, “I don’t LOVE MYSELF enough to love others.” The biblical witness is that we LOVE OURSELVES too much already! Leviticus 19:18 NASB95 8 ‘You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself; I am the Lord. Romans 5:5 NASB95 5 and hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. 2. Put on Christ HIMSELF as your armor. Colossians 1:12–13 NASB95 12 giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in Light. 13 For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son, 1 Thessalonians 5:8 NASB95 8 But since we are of the day, let us be sober, having put on the breastplate of faith and love, and as a helmet, the hope of salvation. 3. Make no ACCOMODATIONS for the flesh. Don’t WILLINGLY put yourself in SITUATIONS that will tempt you to sin. The motivation for being loving, putting on Christ, and making no provision for the flesh is THE SEASON. 2 Peter 3:10–13 NASB95 10 But the day of the Lord will come like a thief, in which the heavens will pass away with a roar and the elements will be destroyed with intense heat, and the earth and its works will be burned up. 11 Since all these things are to be destroyed in this way, what sort of people ought you to be in holy conduct and godliness, 12 looking for and hastening the coming of the day of God, because of which the heavens will be destroyed by burning, and the elements will melt with intense heat! 13 But according to His promise we are looking for new heavens and a new earth, in which righteousness dwells. Colossians 3:1–2 NASB95 1 Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. Do you know what time it is??

For the next three weeks, Hillary McBride is answering your questions about mental health. Hillary McBride is a therapist and researcher, and one of Science Mike's best friends. Her book Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are has helped women all over the world learn to love their bodies and heal from past hurts. She's also a co-host of The Liturgists Podcast.This episode is sponsored by Kiwi Co. Give your kids the opportunity to explore STEAM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Art, and Math) in a way that's fun and engaging with a subscription--your first box is free if you use this link: http://kiwico.com/science

In this second of three episodes, Hillary McBride is answering your questions about mental health. Hillary McBride is a therapist and researcher, and one of Science Mike's best friends. Her book Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are has helped women all over the world learn to love their bodies and heal from past hurts. She's also a co-host of The Liturgists Podcast.

Sexuality and faith, can they be combined to form a healthy relationship? My guest today thinks they can be and her new book helps professionals and people of faith do that. She is Reverend Beverly Dale and we're going to have a lively discussion about her work and her book. We'll also delve into one of my priorities which is the guilt and shame that so many women face due to their backgrounds and religious upbringings. Join us for an interesting and enlightening conversation.

Do you lead others in some capacity? (Hint: the answer is yes). This week, Holly and Robert talk about mentoring both formal and informal, the way we can lead others through our actions, and why empowering those coming behind us is important. We also touch on some important ideas like being aware of the social conditioning we’re experiencing and how to change those narratives.Things we mention in this episode/other resources:- episode 68 - Faith & Doubt- episode 34 - Self-Image, Parenting, & Learning to Love Ourselves As We Are (feat. Hillary McBride)- Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Hillary McBride- Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts. by Brené Brown- Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls by Lisa Damour PhD- we talk about expectations and how they shape our actions & those around us. This episode of Invisibilia takes a deeper look at those topics.Quotes:- “The truth is that we’re all leading in some capacity, whether we realize it or not.” (tweet)- “We can only lead as far as we’ve gone.” (tweet)- “We live up to the expectations of the people who matter most to us.” (tweet)Join the Cxmhunity on Facebook!Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram.Connect with Holly on her website or Twitter.Connect more with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Pinterest.Ways to support CXMH:- make a pledge on Patreon and get rewards like submitting questions for upcoming interviews, a mug, sticker, t-shirt, or more!- give a one-time gift using PayPal- Do your Amazon shopping through this link- Leave us a rating & review on iTunes or Google Play- Check out our CXMH merchandise to show off your support- Listen to the Cxmhunity Spotify playlist here- Check out other episodes and find your favorites guests on our website.Intro/Outro music for this episode is ‘Fall Down’ by Rivers & Robots.

For the next three weeks, Hillary McBride is answering your questions about mental health. Hillary McBride is a therapist and researcher, and one of Science Mike's best friends. Her book Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are has helped women all over the world learn to love their bodies and heal from past hurts. She's also a co-host of The Liturgists Podcast.This episode is sponsored by Kiwi Co. Give your kids the opportunity to explore STEAM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Art, and Math) in a way that's fun and engaging with a subscription--your first box is free if you use this link: http://kiwico.com/science

Research says that 85%-95% of women in North America hate their bodies. Kristi and I unpack this statistic and talk about how to flip our negative self-talk. Kristi shares how her focus is now on what her body can do! It's such a powerful message. She also shares how her relationship with God is a constant reminder to her that she is His masterpiece. Kristi is a phenomenal human. She is boy mom to two adorable boys. Married to her high school sweetheart, Dan for 14 years. She is a CrossFit beast, and owner of IronFox Clothing. She also proclaims that tacos and sour gummi bears are her fuel. She is inspiring in so many ways, but today she is taking us on a journey of how she grasped this idea of accepting her body. You can find Kristi on facebook and Instagram if you search IronFox Clothing. If you are interested in shopping her clothing line, visit www.ironfoxclothing.com Ephesians 2:10 "We are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago." 1 Peter 3:3-4 "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in god's sight." This is such an important topic. When I did my photo shoot for this podcast, I wore a T-shirt purposefully that says, Strong is the new Pretty. I want this message to be a part of this podcast, not only in this episode, but weaved throughout all of them. I forgot to share this book recommendation during the podcast, but I think it's an excellent book, with so much wisdom centering on our own body image and also how we can teach positive self-talk to our children! Mother's, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Hillary McBride   For more information about Rodan & Fields skincare products, conctact Angie Bries at https://abries.myrandf.com/   Don't forget to comment and SUBSCRIBE! I'd love to hear your feedback!  For more show notes go to https://jesicabries.com/

We are all worthy of love and ALL of us is worthy of love. Love is the direction of attention. In this episode, I open with a brief “tuning into” the energy of love. What revealed was an experiential for sensing in deeper to the energy of love as well as noticing different parts of us that want love and have different ideas, agendas, and needs around love. I share personal experiences of the kind of love my 5-year-old self-desires, codependency, and what a clear and pure love might look like. I talk about the desires that we have and our worthiness in having the love that we desire. I also share a Dream I had about loving and being worthy of my own desires. Listen to Part 1 of this Topic at https://candicewu.com/love.   Links, Article, and Resources All Show Notes for This Episode

We have a hard time expressing love to others in a healthy way because it is so difficult to Love Ourselves. This week the way to win at life's Love Games is to realize God loves you so you should love yourself!

What would our lives be like if we spent less time thinking and talking about the way we look? What If we stopped comparing our bodies and bemoaning our “flaws”? Researchers report 85–95% of women are extremely dissatisfied with their bodies. How can we change this for ourselves? How can we pass down positive messages about female bodies to the next generation of women? Hillary McBride is a therapist and researcher who writes about these questions in her book Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are. According to Hillary, we inherit harmful stories about our bodies, and may even pass them onto our daughters without even knowing it. Hillary points out other ways we come by this language: through systemic misinformation and misogyny that envelop us daily, pushing us toward an unattainable standard of beauty. This conversation has everything to do with dispelling our shame and celebrating our womanhood. It reminds us of the power of legacy and the freedom we gain by owning our stories and our worth. And at the end of those stories, we each get to define what’s beautiful, accepted, and good.

Molly discusses what it really means to be yourself. She delves into what the phrase, "I Am Who I Am, take me or leave me" really means and offers insight into some ways we can continue to grow, and love and honor who we really are. Molly offers two possible meanings to the phrase "I […] The post BK19: I Am Who I Am appeared first on Soul Searching Zone- Intuitive Life Caoch- Kelly T. Smith.

This week I talk with therapist, author, & new co-host of The Liturgists, Hillary McBride. We talk about self-image, creating a new narrative for ourselves and the generations after us, how parenting just needs to be 'good enough', and tons more.Other things we mention:- Episode 32 of CXMH featuring Aundi Kolber.- The Liturgists episode on Embodiment (we don't actually mention this, but you should check it out.)- the APA task force on the sexualization of girlsJoin the exclusive Cxmhunity Facebook group to interact with the hosts, guests, and other listeners by pledging just $1/month on Patreon!Connect with Hillary on her website, Twitter, Instagram or listen to The Liturgists. Buy Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are on Amazon. You can also preorder Hillary's new textbook Embodiment and Eating Disorders: Theory, Research, Prevention and Treatment on Amazon.Quotes:- "We know from the empirical evidence that between 85 and 90 percent of women are totally dissatisfied with their appearance, with their body, with their sense of self." (tweet) - "A person is in the minority if they like themselves, if they like their body." (tweet)- "I've had so much suffering in my experience with being alive and with my body and I want to live my life in such a way that I can shape the story, that I can help people not hurt the way that I've hurt, and that I know that I can turn the pain that I've been through into something beautiful in my own life and into other people's lives." (tweet)- "Pain doesn't get the final word. Suffering doesn't get the final word. Beauty & growth & thriving does." (tweet)- "We come from people and we're going towards people. We're part of a collective that's on a journey that extends way beyond the sense of individuality we have." (tweet) - "Sometimes we think about our lives from such an individualistic perspective that we miss the larger story which is that we belong to each other." (tweet)- "There is something that can move your kids forward, even if you're not perfect." (tweet)- "It's ok to make mistakes. It's how you respond to those mistakes that makes the difference." (tweet)- "There is no version of being a parent that is healthy, that helps your kids thrive, that is perfect." (tweet)- "The overwhelming majority of people, after looking at print media, feel really crappy about their body." (tweet)- “Having a sense of connection to the divine, to a God who is bigger than us and even bigger than our rules and a God who is loving and compassionate…that can help us feel like we have goodness in us, even when the world around us has told us we don’t.” (tweet)- “Surrounding yourself with people who love you and support a vision of humanness that is gracious & loving & accepting is important.” (tweet)- “There is so much more to who you are than your suffering, than your appearance.” (tweet)- “If you’re suffering, if you’re in pain: that doesn’t make you less lovable.” (tweet)Support CXMH on Patreon or leave us a review on iTunes or Google Play! Check out our brand new merchandise to show off your love of CXMH or start conversations! Check out other episodes and find your favorite guest on our website.Connect with CXMH on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.Connect with Robert on his website, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.Intro/Outro music for this episode is Fall Down by Rivers & Robots.

Hillary McBride is a registered clinical counsellor and PhD candidate in Counseling Psychology at the University of British Columbia. Her work and research focus on women’s body/self relationships and body image development, among other areas. Her book, “Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are” was released this year. The book […] The post Episode 13: How Your Body Image Impacts Your Children with Hillary McBride appeared first on Balance365.

Hillary McBride joins the BBB to share a bit of her story, how she was helped through her eating disorder and how she helps people now. Its a great conversation. Check out her fantastic book "Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are" HERE hillarylmcbride.com/ Twitter: @hillarylmcbride Instagram: @hillaryliannamcbride Hillary is a therapist, researcher, speaker and writer. She loves to help see people grow, heal, change, and come into more fullness in themselves and their relationships. She is passionate about the well-being of all people, and wants to make psychology and academic research accessible to a wide variety of people. (Adapted from Hillary's website) Let us know what you think:Subscribe to us on iTunes!-https://www.facebook.com/brosbiblesbeer-https://twitter.com/brosbiblesbeer-https://www.brosbiblesbeer.com-Instagram: @brosbiblesbeer-Email: brosbiblesbeer@gmail.comFind us wherever fine podcasts are distributed. Oh, and tell a friend!Grace. Peace. Cheers!

Join the Sisterds, with guest host Sam Moore, in a discussion about taking up space and loving our bodies without taking our clothes off, a conversation with Hillary McBride. You can find HIllary on Twitter at @hillarylmcbride on Instagram at @hillaryliannamcbride and online at hillarylmcbride.com Her book, Mothers, Daughters & Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are is available wherever you buy books. You can find links to our drinks and fangirling in our show notes at https://twistedsisterds.wordpress.com/ Subscribe and drop us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts: tinyurl.com/sisterds We now have our own Patreon page! Support us at www.patreon.com/twistedsisterds to discuss the episodes in more than 280 characters at a time, get Sisterds swag, and even shape the content of the episodes. Tweet at us @TwistedSisterds @dontsaypolley @beckyseville @moorenamedsam Twisted Sisterds is a production of the Inglorious Pasterds Network of podcasts.

Joy Bounds is joined by Christina Renee Joubert to talk about her book When Soulmates Unite : Learning to Love Ourselves from the People Who Can Hurt Us the Most

In part two of Not Your Pastor’s Feminist Series, the brilliant Hillary McBride joins Alex and Jason to talk about her upcoming book “Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are.” Hillary is a feminist Therapist and enlightens the guys on body shaming, porn, trauma, and gives Alex and our listeners powerful advice for raising their daughters to be equals! This is an absolute must listen! Links: Hillary’s Book: http://a.co/1GSfWYU Website: http://hillarylmcbride.com Twitter: @hillarylmcbride Twitter | @NYPastors #NYPPulpit Facebook | @NotYourPastor Instagram | @NYPP Web | www.notyourpastorspodcast.com If you’d like to contribute a sermon to our Pulpit project, please visit www.notyourpastorspodcast.com/pulpit for details. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/notyourpastors/message

Pianist, vocalist, and songwriter Rachel Solomon has been making a name for herself since her 2005 arrival in Nashville, TN as an in-demand live and session pianist and singer as well as a unique and powerful songwriter. She released her debut solo record in January of 2013 entitled Love Ourselves, a personal exposition of love, loss, longing, and personal and spiritual growth.

Pianist, vocalist, and songwriter Rachel Solomon has been making a name for herself since her 2005 arrival in Nashville, TN as an in-demand live and session pianist and singer as well as a unique and powerful songwriter. She released her debut solo record in January of 2013 entitled Love Ourselves, a personal exposition of love, loss, longing, and personal and spiritual growth. She describes it best as a little bit Beatles, a little bit Billy Joel (Rachel's Berklee songwriting professor penned her "The Female Billy Joel"), a little bit Carole King, a little bit Bonnie Raitt (Raitt's guitarist George Marinelli played on the record), and of course - 100% Rachel Solomon.Born a Yankee, raised a southwesterner, reared in the "Live Music Capital" that is Austin, TX, and schooled at the world-renowned Berklee College of Music, Rachel's background is as diverse as her talents are. She comes from a roving music pedigree as the daughter of Andy Solomon, keyboard player for Ted Nugent's early psychedelic endeavor The Amboy Dukes, and he passed along skills of both keyboard and saxophone to a young Rachel. Rachel spent a large portion of what should have been her rebellious teenage years winning classical piano competitions, sitting 1st chair alto saxophonist in the Texas All-State Band, and playing out with local Austin mainstay band The Alice Rose.Rachel Solomon Tour DatesWe dedicate this show to "Kitty" Solomon, RIPLosing a Family pet is so difficult.

In meditation podcast, we explore ways to grow from self-hate to self-love.  To learn more, visit: http://www.MeditationForHealthPodcast.com The post #108 (a) Meditation – How to Love Ourselves appeared first on The Meditation for Health Podcast.

After attending The I Love Myself Retreat with KEEP L.O.V.E. PRESENT We will enter the conversation of our hearts and hear how  Love Reaches A Verdict In the quietness, the privacy, and the deep spaces and place of your heart and my heart....are the jurors of what makes each of us wonderful, unique, and gifted human beings. These jurors are being facilitated by L.O.V.E. They are Our Mind, Our Body, Our Soul, and Our Spirit Yes, in the Heart of us All...they are discussing the evidence Do You, Do I...Love Ourselves?