Podcasts about Domestic violence

This episode is a deep dive into the transformative journeys of individuals making significant strides in trauma recovery and advocacy. I am finally having the opportunity to shine a spotlight on Victor Lyons, a dedicated trauma incident reduction coach whose work has reshaped the landscape of trauma recovery. Victor Lyons was introduced to me through Derrick Hurley (Episodes 125 through 128), and brings to this show a wealth of experience and expertise in his role as a trauma incident reduction coach. With a background rooted in psychology and extensive training in trauma-informed care, Victor has dedicated his career to empowering survivors of trauma, particularly those affected by sexual assault. His approach integrates evidence-based techniques with compassionate guidance, ensuring that each survivor receives personalized support on their path to healing. Central to Victor's methodology is trauma incident reduction, a nuanced therapeutic approach designed to help survivors navigate and process their traumatic experiences. Through structured sessions and empathetic listening, Victor creates a safe space where survivors can explore their emotions and confront past traumas at their own pace. His holistic approach not only addresses the immediate psychological impacts of trauma but also fosters long-term resilience and emotional well-being. Beyond his clinical practice, Victor Lyons is a passionate advocate for trauma survivors, actively engaging in public speaking and educational initiatives to raise awareness about trauma recovery and the importance of trauma-informed care. His advocacy extends to training professionals across various fields, equipping them with the tools and understanding needed to support survivors effectively. Join us as we explore Victor Lyons' profound insights and impactful contributions to the field of trauma recovery. His dedication to empowering survivors and promoting trauma-informed practices serves as a beacon of hope and healing in the international community. If you'd to learn more about Victor, or even reach out to him with the prospect of becoming a client, a TIR facilitator, or both, here are some ways to do that: WhatsApp Contact: +34 684 30 17 27 An important side note: if you're finding value in these episodes, please take a moment to leave a 5-star rating on your podcast platform. AND, please send me a note of support. I can't tell you how much your emails mean to me—they fuel my passion to keep this podcast going. Here's my email address:   I truly look forward to hearing from you! On another note: I am a strong advocate and supporter of Survivor School (SS), founded and directed by CEO Arci Grey (another former guest on SASS). In fact, Arci has made me a consultant to SS as she maneuvers the intricacies of directing and managing the content and growth of her amazing organization. I encourage you to strongly consider becoming a member of SS, and as an affiliate would appreciate it, if you do decide to become a member, to use this link:   Thanks again for listening! As always, listed below are some additional important and meaningful websites I hope you'll take a look at, and learn more about, including a recent article about the DOJ investigation into the NYPD Special Victims Unit, mentioning Leslie McFadden from Episode 137. Please take the time to read the article…and thank you.     My email address: Thank you for joining us for this important conversation. Remember, believing and supporting survivors is a crucial step in bringing justice and healing.

Listen to the SBS Sinhala radio interview with Iresha Kariyawasam, Registered mindfulness and meditation teacher and Registered counsellor in Melbourne talking on the importance of reaching mental health services for those who suffer from family violence. - පවුල් හිංසනයෙන් සහ ගෘහස්ථ ප්‍රචණ්ඩත්වයෙන් ඇති වන මානසික පීඩනයෙන් මිදීමට ඔස්ට්‍රේලියාවේදී උදව් ලබා ගන්නා ආකාරය ගැන දැනගන්න, මෙල්බර්න් හි ලියාපදිංචි මනෝ වෛද්‍ය උපදේශිකා ඉරේෂා කාරියවසම් මහත්මිය සමග SBS සිංහල ගුවන්විදුලි සේවය සිදු කළ මෙම සාකච්ඡාවට සවන්දෙන්න

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Ash about her abusive relationship. Ash grew up with a narcissistic father and a co-dependent mother, which shaped her into a people pleaser. Ash loved creating art, but her passion was never championed by anyone... until she met her abusive ex. He praised her passion and Ash felt seen. Things were good, but then the control, abuse, and infidelity began. It's a story of isolation, invalidation, being seen, cognitive dissonance, love bombing, infidelity, hoovering, people pleasing, gaslighting, self-worth,  and manipulation. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Something Was Wrong | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

263. Domestic Violence and Abuse: Identifying and Healing from Abusive Relationships with Stacey Womack   Mark 10:27 NKJV "But Jesus looked at them and said, “With men it is impossible, but not with God; for with God all things are possible.”   **Transcription Below**   Questions and Topics We Discuss: Will you teach us about the various types of abuse? How do we respond appropriately and in a Christ-like manner when someone does report abuse? What are your views for having biblical reasons for divorce, specifically as it relates to each type of abuse?   Stacey Womack is an award-winning expert in domestic violence from a faith-based perspective. She founded Abuse Recovery Ministry & Services (ARMS) in 1997 and she is a published author and sought after national speaker. Stacey developed and wrote the curriculum used for ARMS programs, including Her Journey for survivors of abuse and Mankind and Virtue for men and women who have used abusive behaviors. She has assisted tens of thousands of people in recovering from both the receiving and giving of abuse. Her passion has grown ARMS, a small grassroots organization, to now having an international reach.   Abuse Recovery Ministry & Services Website Stacey's Books   Thank You to Our Sponsor: Grace Catering   Other Related Episodes on The Savvy Sauce: 146 Biblical Response to Emotionally Destructive Relationships with Leslie Vernick 148 Overcoming Evil with Good: Recognizing Spiritual Abuse with Dr. Diane Langberg   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   **Transcription**   Music: (0:00 – 0:09)   Laura Dugger: (0:10 - 1:50) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.    Today's episode includes some thematic material. I want you to be aware before you listen in the presence of little ears.    For anyone who feels like they don't have time to cook, but they still desire to have meals that taste just like grandma's, I can't wait to share more about one of my favorite sponsors, Grace Catering Company. Check them out today at gracecateringcompany.com.   Stacey Womack is my guest today. She is the award-winning expert in domestic violence from a faith-based perspective. She is the founder of Abuse Recovery Ministry and Services, which she will refer to as ARMS, and she's also the author of this practical and helpful resource entitled On the Front Lines of Abuse, Strategies for the Faith Community.   Stacey fearlessly answers questions today about what defines abuse, what steps can we take today to discover if we're in an abusive relationship, what does the Bible have to say about abuse and divorce, and so much more. Here's our chat. Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, Stacey.   Stacey Womack: Thank you so much. I'm so glad to be here.    Laura Dugger: Would you mind just starting us off by giving us a current snapshot of your phase of life?   Stacey Womack: (1:52 - 2:48) Sure. You know, I've been doing this work for 27 years, but actually I grew up in a pastor's home and married young and had my children young. I have six children, and I have my 13th grandchild on the way, and my first great-grandchild is due in December. And in the midst of homeschooling my kids back in the day, God began to speak to me about ministry that he had for me.   And so, this was the door he opened, even though I'm not a survivor of abuse. And back then I never had planned on starting a nonprofit or, you know, having it be the way it is, never planned on having an income off of it. None of that was a part of the plan.   I was just being obedient to what God had called me to do. And so here we are today, 27 years later, providing services nationally and internationally to victims and survivors of abuse and also working with those who use abusive and controlling behaviors.   Laura Dugger: (2:50 - 3:12) Wow. And abuse is something that's so difficult to understand, and it's a topic that's easy for us to want to avoid. But I appreciate you bringing awareness to this topic that affects more people than we would ever suspect.   So, will you just teach us the various types of abuse?   Stacey Womack: (3:12 - 12:56) Sure. So, I'll try to go through them fairly briefly for you, but most of the time they only give you a few, but we have eight different areas of abuse that we talk about. So, you know, most people get physical abuse.   That's how most people define domestic violence and abuse is physical, which is all the things from hitting, pushing, slapping, grabbing, strangulation, which is something that's very dangerous. And a person's at risk of dying days and weeks after being strangled, even months after being strangled. So, it's a very serious crime.   Most states it's a felony. But every category has those things that aren't as obvious. So, in physical, it would be like posturing where someone stands up or takes a step towards you, it's right in your space.   The most common form of abuse is psychological, though. This is what is often called emotional abuse by most people. So psychological abuse, I kind of divided into three categories.   The largest one is the crazy making the mind games, the mental coercion, the gaslighting, all those things. And that's very, very hard to explain to people. And it doesn't look like abuse.   It looks like non-memorable conflict oftentimes and gets misdiagnosed that way, I guess you could say. And it's the form of abuse that women say is the hardest to heal from because bruises heal. But the emotional ones that psychological abuse causes can take years and years to heal from.   So also, another big category besides the mind games is the isolation. So, keeping them from friends and family could be outright telling them not to spend time with friends and family, or it could be, you know, allowing them to go spend time with friends and family, but then they pay for it later. So, there's some type of punishment for doing that.   Moving her from place to place, or church to church, to keep her from having any kind of support. So that's very common. And then another category in here, and I'm just keeping them very brief, is stalking behaviors, which stalking should be taken very seriously because 75% of those who commit homicides are stalkers.   So, this is everything from following, showing up uninvited, not leaving when asked, to the use of spyware, which is often free or cheap. So, you know, those air pods, they drop them in people's purses or put them in places in their car or whatever, just so they can follow them where they're going, those types of things. And among our younger generation, a common stalking behavior would be multiple calling and multiple texting.   So, the second closest that comes to emotional abuse would be verbal abuse. And most of us get the types of verbal abuse that are obvious, the yelling, the swearing, the name calling, the, you know, put downs. I mean, things that are really obvious.   And this is a huge category and not well understood because we have all used some verbal abuse in our lives. So, everything down to things that are more subtle, like the silent treatment as a way to control the conversation or sarcasm, which is actually means the tearing of flesh. So, it's not a healthy way to communicate.   There's a little bit of truth to it. That's what makes it funny. But it's always at someone's expense.   And we live in a pretty sarcastic world. And I, myself, can be pretty sarcastic at times after really watch that because it's really not a kind way to communicate. So, again, this is a huge category.   So, we have verbal, psychological, physical, financial, lots of financial control and abusive relationships. Most of our men who are abusive use financial control. So, he's making all the financial decisions.   He's controlling the finances, or he allows her to have some access to finances, but not all by  hiding assets and hidden accounts, things like that. Or maybe making her handle all the finances while he goes out and misspends. So, then it's her fault.   And now he has a reason to abuse her. And even once they separate, financial abuse continues by not paying a spousal or child support. So, I tell our women to not depend on that, do what they need to do legally, but not to depend on it because it's very hard to get that money back.   So, we have verbal, psychological, physical, financial, sexual, which people get that one too. Rape, unwanted touch, attacking body parts, making her dress a certain way or not dress a certain way. It could include extreme jealousy, which is, again, goes right back into those stalking behaviors.   So, it's these pornography affairs, sexual name calling or sexual putdowns or sexual jokes. Again, another really big category. So that a lot of times some more subtle things that people don't recognize as being abusive because a lot of people use it, like the sexual name calling or sexual using sexual cuss words.   So, I always have to go through those verbal, psychological, physical, financial, sexual property. We don't always think about property being abusive. But if an abuser can convince his victim that he's dangerous, he never has to be physical.   And so, he might punch the hole right next to your head. I had a woman tell me this. And then he saw the fear in her face, and he said, “What? I didn't even touch you.” But the message was, this is what could happen to you. So, property is not always it can include, but it is not always the breaking of things or throwing things.   It could be slamming doors, slamming hands on the table. But it could also be moving property to make her think she's going crazy. So, she has a place she keeps her keys. He moves them to make her think she's going crazy, that she can't remember where she's putting things anymore.   So, you always have an overlap in an abusive event. It's never just one form of abuse unless it's just psychological and very subtle. But property abuse also includes the use of weapons.   In the groups that we've been doing with men for the more than two decades that we've been working with them, usually they're not using the weapon there. It's the implied threat of use of weapons. So, we had one woman who went to her boyfriend's house, and he came out of his bedroom with a knife and laid it on the table and said, “I just don't know what I'd do if you left me.”   Or we had many guys in the program for tapping knives while they create and continue arguments with their partners. So, it could be any misuse of any property. It could even be gift giving to get her to comply back into the relationship.   So, it's not always what you think of when you think of like guns and knives. It doesn't have to be that way. It can be very subtle.   So then we have spiritual abuse, spiritual abuse. Since we're a faith-based organization, we talk about the misuse of scripture. So, he's using scripture to get her to comply, to get his way.   And God's word is a balance between judgment and love and mercy. And when you remove that love and they're just going with the judgment side of God's word, you are misusing God's word. It's not what God intended for his word.   He did not ever intend for the word to be weaponized against a person, especially in an intimate relationship. So, we talk about the difference between submission and oppression and how they are different from one another in our groups. It's also for our men who attend church regularly.   I always tell pastors, if you've got a man who's coming to you and he's working his way through the church leadership and he's being very humble and he's telling you that he knows he has his issue, but he's concerned for his wife that he's not really being abusive. That she just thinks he's being abusive to her because she's experienced abuse in the past or she has mental health issues or she's cheating on him, which is usually not true. They're doing this to discredit her while they're doing what we call public image management to make themselves look good to the public.   So, they're involved in all kinds of things. It may be on the church council. So, you know, when they tell their church leadership this, it's hard to believe.   It's hard for them to believe when she comes forward and says this is what's actually going on in my relationship because they've not experienced that from him. He's been a great guy around them. So, questioning her theology, her salvation, keeping her from going to church, making her go to church, moving her from church to church, things like that, too.   And then the last one is animal abuse. And of course, we think about harming animals. And of course, when you harm an animal, that is animal abuse.   But in terms of the work we do, it's about using the animal to control the person in some way. And that might include the threat to get rid of it, the threat to harm or the threat to kill or the doing of those things or neglecting, not like not feeding or watering the pet. But it could also be things like getting a pet she's allergic to or afraid of or withholding affection from her while he's being overly affectionate to the pet.   We have lots of women who tell us about that. So, again, it's not about necessarily harming the pet as much as it is about using the pet to gain control. You have to remember that abuse is about power and control and abuse means the misuse of.   So, anything can be misused, not just physical hitting and punching and misuse of our strength, but anything can be misused. And when it's used to gain power and control in an intimate relationship. It's a pattern; that's when you're looking at someone who has an abusive personality.   Laura Dugger: (12:57 - 13:27) Wow. Thank you for laying that foundation and expanding our definition. It sounds like so many sins, domestic violence can be insidious, and it can usually begin with a very charming spouse who eventually becomes more and more abusive.   So, have you found that people more easily recognize when they're in an abusive relationship or is it surprising and confusing to them?   Stacey Womack: (13:28 - 16:58) It's mostly confusing and surprising, maybe in that order. You know, since I work with these men, too, there are really great things about them. There's really good qualities I see in them.   And that's what these women fall in love with, these really great qualities. And these men can be extremely charming. And even if you haven't been raised in abuse and you find yourself in an abusive relationship, sometimes it's because you were in a really vulnerable place when you got involved.   And it just felt really good to have somebody come in and be so big and strong and great in your life. Or there's other times guys are just so good at this that they're just believe completely. There's no reason not to believe, right?   I mean, you trust somebody because you expect them to be telling you the truth. So, it usually starts off very subtle and it gradually increases. So, he might start questioning.   So, is that what you're going to wear? Or, you know, well, that's a lot of makeup. Or maybe, you know, telling her that he doesn't agree with something that she agrees with and that maybe her friends and family aren't good for her and maybe she needs to distance herself from them.   We've had women tell us that that happens to them. So, we have a checklist on our website under am I in an abusive relationship, basically. And underneath that, there's actually a PDF that they can print out and check off.   And it usually starts off with things like, are you surprised by his anger? Does his anger scare you? You know, and then we work down to more obvious forms of abuse.   But when a woman goes through that list and it's actually degenerate. So, a male or a female could go through the list. And they could go through it and they could determine, am I experiencing a pattern of these behaviors in my life?   Marriage should be the safest place for you. And when it's not, there's something wrong there. And we do work with women who are abusive.   So, I do want to acknowledge that there are male victims out there. And when they call us, since we don't have a group for them, because perpetrators believe they are the victims. So, if I opened a men's victim group, I would get a room full of perpetrators.   Male victims tend to say very similar things to our female victims and behave in very similar ways that our women behave as well. And so, we refer them out to counselors that we trust. And, you know, and women can be what we call primary aggressors in the relationship.   And they act and talk and say the same kinds of things as our male primary aggressors. And most primary aggressors are male because it just works better for them. They're bigger, they're stronger, they're given privilege that women are not given.   So, it just works better for them. But there are women out there who do that. And then there's those relationships where both parties are using abused.   But one is a primary and one is a secondary. It doesn't make the abuse okay. It doesn't even make it okay when you or I say something or act in a way that disregards or disrespects another person.   That's sin. So, I think that we need to be really honest with the fact that this is a human issue. And that it's okay to come out and say, you know what, I have a problem with this.   And I need help. And that's what we're trying to offer for both the men and the women that we serve.   Laura Dugger: (16:59 - 17:21) And I'm just simplifying it. But in my mind, when you talk about primary and secondary, it makes me think for that secondary person, just simply hurt people, hurt people. So, is that what you're talking about?   Where they are not the initiators of the abusive behavior, but when they are abused over time, they respond with abusive patterns as well?   Stacey Womack: (17:21 - 19:17) Yeah, abuse is a learned behavior. So, if they grew up in a home where abuse was present, you know, as much as you don't like some of those negative things that we all get from growing up, we get good things and bad things. We often end up repeating them until we learn something different. And so, some of our women in our secondary aggressors program, you know, have had to fight their entire life to survive.   And sometimes it's just safer to be the aggressor than it is to be the victim. And so, a lot of times when women are using abusive behaviors, it's more about trying to be heard or it's payback. So, they don't really gain power and control from their abuse, not really.   It's usually when they're abusive, the women are just getting payback for what their abuser did. So, one woman, her and her husband had an argument and he's this big guy. And so, to get back at him, we would call this properly anal and psychological.   She took the pillow and rubbed it all over the cat because he's allergic to cats and put the pillow back on the bed so he'd wake up with puffy eyes. It's a very passive form of abuse, but it is a way to get back at him. And then we have those women who just fight back verbally and they can.   I had this little gal, not probably hardly even 100 pounds. She could bring a 200 pound, six foot tall husband to his knees with just her words. And this is a woman who had to fight her entire life.   So, you know, you can see there's times where relationships where there's more. I don't really like the word mutual, but there's they're both using abusive behaviors, but it's the only way they know how to live life. And so, the women come out of this program saying, now I understand that his abuse to me does not excuse my abuse to him.   And I have power to make choices that will bring change to my life. And that's a powerful place to be much more powerful than being a victim.   Laura Dugger: (19:18 - 19:45) Absolutely. And I think the hope that I'm hearing is when you say abuse is a learned behavior. Does that mean we can learn our way out of it as well?   So, anyone who is in an abusive relationship or is finding if they're listening to this, maybe they find out that they are the abuser, you can learn your way out of it then?   Stacey Womack: (19:45 - 21:27) You can. It takes a tremendous amount of work. But both the victim and the perpetrator or the survivor, they have to learn new tools, both of them, because we have women who get out of abusive relationships who find themselves right back into another abusive relationship.   The tools that women use in abusive relationships are amazing. The ways that they do things to survive the abuse is absolutely amazing. But those same tools do not serve them well once they're out of abuse.   Some of them get into healthy relationships, but they're still using those old tools that they picked up during the abusive relationship. And so, they come to group a recovery group so that they can heal from that and learn a new way and let go of that pain and hurt and learn behavior so that they can also be healthy in that relationship with that new partner. So, and he also and for the abuser, someone who's like this is they've been the primary aggressor in the relationship and they have a lifetime of picking up belief systems that have given them permission to behave that way.   And that doesn't change in 12 weeks. Programs for those guys and those gals should be long; thirty-six weeks the absolute minimum. I think a year or even two years is better because you need practice to sustain change. We have lots of guys who change, but getting that sustained change takes lots of accountability and lots of hard work.   And it's difficult to do. But we have those stories of couples that make it. There's a lot more that don't make it.   All the men make some changes, but often not enough to save the relationship. 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So, we have every day of the week covered. If we don't have something right in your own state, in your county.   But we're in-person groups in 21 states right now and looking to lead more or teach more leaders how to lead the program in their community, or in their centers, or in their missions. They're often held in churches. It's all confidential.   The women just call in. They don't have to give us their real name. They don't have to give us any information.   They don't want to. We just ask whatever name they use. They keep using the same name so we don't care if they say their name is Minnie Mouse.   That's fine with us. Just so that we can keep track of it for grant purposes. But in that group, it's not a process group.   It's really about hearing God's heart around this issue. And they do get training around domestic violence. But we also go through other topics like dealing with anger, depression and loneliness and just all the different things that happen throughout this process.   Learning how to appropriately boundary set and what to do and what's going to work with an abuser. What's not going to work with an abuser. Those types of things. And so, we found that we just keep it open so the women can join immediately. Because if we don't help them right when they're asking for the help, we'll lose them because the abuser will very quickly work to move them back into the relationship, which is part of the cycle of abuse. And because we want the relationship to work and we want to believe him, we do.   And so, women, you know, leave on average seven times before they leave for good because we don't get into a relationship to see it in. And so, when I talk and train pastors and I had a pastor say, “Well, she's just looking for a way out.” I'm like, “No, that's not true.”   These women do everything, including couples counseling, which is something that does not work when abuse is the issue and power control is the issue. And most pastors that I haven't heard of any seminary that actually does a whole course on domestic violence, they get a little bit of couples counseling and that's it. And even counselors don't get trained in domestic violence.   So, this is only a very small portion of counselors. So, I would tell these women, if you're listening to this now, that they shouldn't do couples counseling, but they should look for a counselor who has 40 hours of victim advocacy training from an advocacy agency and that he needs to go work on his own issues with an agency that deals with domestic abuse intervention. And a lot of times the things that she thinks, or they both think, they need couples counseling for go completely away once he does the work he needs to do.   So, the communication problems, the anger issues, all those things that they think are the cause are no longer an issue. Most of our couples don't even need couples counseling after this because he has learned to love like Jesus loves. That's what we teach is like, what does that mean to be Christlike?   What does that mean to lay your life down? So, but during our time that we work with women or men, secondary or primary aggressors, female or male, we in our groups talk about focusing on that themselves and their relationship with God and not focusing outward because God will take care of that. Sure, pray about it, but release it.   That's God's responsibility. You only have control of this relationship is between yourself and God. And that's where you're going to seek Him about what He's calling you to do in this situation.   And every person's a little bit different. It's not my place to tell someone whether to leave or stay. And we're not here to promote divorce.   And we know the women want their relationships to work. We know they want men to make it to the other side. We do, too, but we cannot make that happen.   So, all we can do is present the information and allow the Holy Spirit to do the work. And the person has to be willing to receive the help.   Laura Dugger: (28:09 - 28:35) Absolutely. Well, and I even think about how this conversation came about. We had multiple women of different ages, all of them believers, who were reaching out and sharing a little bit of their experience in marriage and sharing some potential abuse.   And I actually reached out to some publicists that I work with and said, “Who would be able to speak to this?” And so that's how we got connected.   Stacey Womack: (28:36 - 28:36) Yeah.   Laura Dugger: (28:36 - 28:54) Very much appreciated your book. And as I was reading it, there was one story that was particularly haunting. And it was about a pastor who ended up begging you for training.   So, can you recall what happened?   Stacey Womack: (28:54 - 34:09) Yeah. You know, a lot of pastors just it's not that they don't care. It's just that they're very uneducated around this.   So even myself, when I first started, I would give people really unhelpful advice before I even began this work because I didn't understand it well. And so, he had encouraged this woman to forgive and go back, which is a typical response. You know, submit more, pray harder.   Those are the kinds of things that a lot of women get from churches. And so, she did. She went home and then he murdered her that night.   And so, this pastor was absolutely heartbroken, as you can imagine, and was calling in and asking, please, please, please train us because we don't want this to ever happen again. You know, and honestly, there are some pastors out there that believe that women should stay in the relationship, even if they are being abused and that God will bless them through their suffering, even if it means death. I don't agree with that.   See, I think that God would never sacrifice a person for the sake of the relationship. But we do as the church sometimes because we're so concerned about the relationship. The relationship is important and God has got a reconciliation and we want reconciliation, too.   But God also tells us the prudent man or woman hides from danger and he cares about us as individuals. And He has called us to live life abundantly, not to just bear it, you know. And so, I think that we need to really look at that.   And being raised as a pastor's daughter that, you know, I was taught that way. So, it was a really it's been really hard, you know, working in the faith communities really struggles with this. And, you know, this idea that, well, a separation might lead to divorce.   But separation is really functional in these relationships because she needs safety so that she can talk, speak the truth from this other person. And she needs time to see whether or not he's willing to actually get the help that he's been promising he'll get. And they need time to see if he can actually work through that.   Or is he just using a program as another controlling behavior to get her to come back into a relationship? If she waits long enough and we usually say six months and he's mad that she's not letting him back home. He goes right back to all the bad behaviors he was doing before.   And he pulls all the money out of the bank and does all these crazy things. And she has her answer, which is heartbreaking. The women are heartbroken over this because they want their relationships to work.   We cannot emphasize that enough to the faith community. These women want their relationships to work and that they did not sign up for this. They did not sign up for these.   They did not say, “Oh, yes, I am agreeing to get married and be abused.” That's how they agreed to. And he made a promise to love and cherish.   And the Bible commands men to love their wives like Christ loves the church and to lay his life down. That means he gives up his way to bless her, that Jesus came to serve, not to be served. So, his role is one of being the lead servant in the relationship.   He should be the first to be serving her. And how do we respond as women? We feel loved and cherished and cared for when that happens.   My husband's so good at this. I have to be careful if I say I'm thirsty, he's up getting me a glass of water. He's so quick to serve.   But this is the kind of behavior that blesses us. And men are surprised that the very thing they want, the respect, honor, all those kinds of things. They get it by doing the very opposite of what they're doing, by giving up their way, by embracing humility.   And humility is hard because it means it's not about being 50-50 or being fair. It's about going 100 percent or more. So, my husband would share because he leads manuscripts with me.   And he says, you know, guys, you know, if Stacy's at 20 percent, then I need to go 180. I need to go in and fill in that gap for her. And there's times I do that for him, too, because unhealthy relationships like that's what we do for women.   But an abusive relationship, that's never what happens. And an abuser has and this is very popular, a narcissistic view of his world. He may not realize that it doesn't mean he has narcissistic personality disorder.   Those guys are very different and they stick out sore thumbs, but they all behave narcissistic, narcissistically, meaning their world revolves around them. So, they want you to manage their emotions. They blame you for when they're unhappy.   And even if you weren't even present, when whatever happened, that he's unhappy that he still blames you for it, which doesn't make sense. It's that crazy making. It's like, “Wow, how am I the cause of this when this happened at work? I don't understand.” You know, so there's all that craziness that goes on.   But, you know, I'm so honored to get to walk alongside men and women in their process of change and their aha moments and their realization that God loves them and that God values them and that they're important and they're regarded. And that because of that, abuse is never OK. It's never OK.   Laura Dugger: (34:10 - 35:21) The few follow ups with that, then to go back to an earlier point, you're making a connection for me where I'm thinking back to a few episodes. It was one was with Leslie Vernick and one was with Dr. Diane Langberg. So, I can't remember who said this.   I can link to both in the show notes, but it's what you're speaking to that as we study the scriptures and we see Christ likeness and how to become more Christ like and what God really says about these topics. They were pointing out he cares about the individual more than the institution. Yeah.   And so, I think there's a lot of re-education for us in the faith community, unfortunately. But then also two follow up questions. One, as you're talking about narcissism or a narcissistic outlook, is there ever from your experience?   I'm familiar with some of my friends who are in relationships like that or acquaintances that I know. Is there ever hope for the husband who has narcissistic tendencies or personality disorder to repent? Have you ever seen that?   Stacey Womack: (35:21 - 37:16) Absolutely. We have men who've done a really great job of working away from being self-focused and selfish. That's really what it is.   They read these journals and we make comments on them and they have to come up with the beliefs that gave them permission to behave this way. So, we had one guy and you could just see a selfishness that I always wrote. The belief is I'm most important.   I've read it every on every single journal. And he finally came to group after a few months because I really realize I'm really selfish. And so, as we help them to see this, it begins to change things and they begin to make different choices and try new things.   As someone who has a narcissistic personality disorder, like any personality disorder, those are not medicated. They can't be medicated and it takes a longer time. So, I've had some training on narcissistic personality disorder and I recognize those guys.   Any of those guys generally with personality disorders because they don't see themselves. So, the group laughs at things I say, but they don't understand why they're laughing. And those guys need like seven years of counseling with someone who specializes in narcissistic personality disorder.   If they're willing to do the work that that they can actually make changes. And there's a gentleman who who's travels the country speaking on this. He says that's his favorite group of population he works with.   I can't say the word narcissistic personality disorder men. And he says, you would like this man today. But he had like multiple failed businesses.   He'd been very successful, but they're failing businesses, failing marriage. And he worked with them and you don't work with them the same as just typical counseling. It's not the same because they don't see themselves.   So, we need more people who specialize in that.   Laura Dugger: (37:16 - 38:12) I agree with you there. And it's just helpful to have that reminder of hope. Even this morning in my quiet time, I was reading in the Gospels and it was Jesus saying and everything he says is true.   That with man, it seems impossible, or it is impossible. But with God, we know that all things are possible. So, appreciate the way you answered that.   And then also a follow up would be we heard that awful story of what happened with the physical safety when you're looking at physical abuse. But then, Stacey, would you recommend wives have the same boundaries? Are they taking time away to physically protect themselves if there's any type of abuse?   If there is financial abuse, let's say, are they given the same recommendations as somebody who is in an emotionally abusive relationship?   Stacey Womack: (38:13 - 40:49) Well, the emotional abuse is always there. You don't have any other forms of abuse without emotional abuse. So, our women, we talk about boundary setting and different boundaries they can begin trying.   But oftentimes the only boundary that actually works to be able to say for us to be able to make it, you need to go get help. And while you're getting help, we need to be separated so they're not focusing on one another. So not all of our women separate.   Some of the women try to work through it while he's still in the home. My experience is that it slows the process down, extremely slows the process down because they're still focusing on one another. And he's coming home and he's sharing with us how great the program is.   But then he's going home and he's angry and he's taking it out on her. So, it creates some unsafety for her. And I just want to say this because I think a lot of people don't understand that there's physical safety and then there's emotional safety.   And we downplay the emotional safety. But emotional safety is as important as physical safety. So, I have some pastors who think that if we share things like this, that we're going to be making victims.   That's not true. I don't relate to the books that are out there. You know, oh, yeah, I've experienced that.   It's not going to make victims. You either relate to it or you don't. But this emotional safety might mean needing to separate from that person.   Not because you fear their physical abuse when you haven't been physical. But a lot of our women say he's never been physical, but I'm fearful of him. And so in order for her to get some healing and some help while she waits to see whether or not he gets help and she's really hoping he will.   She needs that space. And so, yes, I think that in a lot of scenarios, separation is a key. And then we have some couples where the where the husband does is not willing to do the work he needs to do, but he's not controlling the finances.   So, they remain married but separated for the rest of their lives. Not very many couples can do that because most abusers are going to control finances. So, but that's why I was saying it's not our place to tell a woman to leave or to stay.   That's not our job. It's our job to walk alongside them when they seek God for what they should be doing and what boundaries they should be setting. And they can try a lot of different things before it gets to that point.   And it just there's no easy answer for this.   Laura Dugger: (40:50 - 41:05) It's very complex. Yes, it's very complex. But even when you say there's a lot of things they could try.   Could you give a few examples or is there a place on your website where they can go to get some ideas and some help for those earlier stages?   Stacey Womack: (41:06 - 43:43) Well, we talk about this in our journey class again, which is free. You can join at any time in our class on boundaries. And so, it depends on the severity of abuse that's going on.   But most women, when there has been physical abuse, will start off with things like and we talk about a boundary has to have a consequence. Otherwise, it's not really you can't. It doesn't work.   But these men are boundary breakers. So, a boundary would be like saying, if you continue to yell at me and call me names, I'm going to leave and go to my friend's house. So, there's the boundary and there's a consequence for breaking.   But then we also realize when we're talking to them that he may decide at some point he's not going to let you leave. So now he's blocking the door. So, then it might be, you know, if you're going to treat me this way, I'm no longer going to cook meals or do your wash.   And it usually works its way down to I'm no longer going to have sex with you. I'm not going to sleep in the same room with you. And once you get to that point, the only other thing you can do is do a physical separation with the heart to actually reunite.   That's what these women want. And some of our couples have been separated for three years. But the husband is like, let her head home.   And he's doing his work and they're interacting again. But he doesn't move back home for three years because he's committed to giving her whatever space and time she needs to heal. Because he recognizes that he's the one that's caused unsafety.   And so, what is three years if you can have a healthy relationship for the rest of your life? And so that's what we were looking for our men to do. It's like even if you're disappointed, if she's saying, I'm not ready for you to move back.   And you can say, I feel disappointed, but you know what? I get it. And whatever you need, I'm willing to do that.   That's accountability. That's humility. And really, they need to have other men who are mentoring them to hold them accountable.   And again, not a lot of people are taught this. And so having the right mentor even for this is really important. Even a right counselor for them to work with their childhood issues.   But those are some ideas for some boundaries. Boundaries always have to have consequences. But even if a woman gets a protection order or restraining order, most of those are violated.   So, we tell the women be prepared to call the police when he violates it by texting you or by sending you a card with money in it or putting flowers on your car. Or coming to the church service that you put in the restraining order that he wasn't supposed to come to. So, you need to be ready to hold him accountable because the abuser doesn't believe you're going to actually follow through.   Laura Dugger: (43:43 - 44:32) Do you love The Savvy Sauce? Do you gain anything when you listen? Did you know that the two ways we earn money to keep this podcast live is through generous contributions from listeners and from our paying sponsors?   That means we can promote your business and you're still supporting The Savvy Sauce. It's a win-win. Please email us today at info@thesavvysauce.com to inquire about pricing for sponsoring each episode. Thank you for your consideration.    Well, and what if somebody is listening right now and they're automatically assuming, well, this isn't happening to anyone I know and it's certainly not happening in our church. What would you like to directly say to them?   Stacey Womack: (44:33 - 45:40) I'd like to let them know that statistically one in three women experience domestic violence, stalking, or rape by an intimate partner. And the statistics in the church are no less than they are outside of the church. So, every church has families in their church who look like the perfect couple.   When I started leading a group in my own church, I was so shocked. I kept telling myself, stop being shocked when I have another woman privately come up to me and tell me that they were in an abusive relationship because they just, they were involved, and they were just leading Sunday school. And they were, just look like this beautiful family and you would never have known.   There was no way to know that this was actually going on. So, you know, the reality is that it's happening. We're just not aware of it.   It wasn't on my radar before God called me into this work. I didn't think it was affecting my life. I didn't think of much thought.   But the reality is I feel like it's worse now than ever and not necessarily more physical abuse, but just abuse in general, the misuse of things to gain control.   Laura Dugger: (45:42 - 46:18) Well, and I appreciate the way you helped give a paradigm shift. You offered this on page 36 in your book and you quote saying, “At ARMS, we do not believe God considers domestic violence and abuse an adult issue. Instead, we believe he sees it as child abuse. We are his children.”   So, Stacey, with that in mind, how does this clarify how we can respond appropriately, and in a Christlike manner, when someone does report abuse?   Stacey Womack: (46:20 - 47:51) Well, I think a lot of times when women actually have the courage to tell you what's going on, it's a very courageous thing to do. She's risking a lot by telling you.   So, we really need to listen carefully and believe her. And I'm thinking about how, you know, that I'm trying to think now. How did you word your question so I can answer it correctly?   If you think about that example you gave, if your child was being beaten, harassed and abused in school and came home crying, you wouldn't just sit in your chair and say, go back and pray harder and win them over by your quiet and gentle spirit. We would go down and we would ask the school, what are you doing about this? Who's doing this and what are you doing about it?   And if they didn't do anything, we wouldn't think twice to remove our child from that environment. But in these situations where you're working with two adults, she may not be ready to leave. She's just sharing with you that this is going on.   She actually is hoping you'll go talk to him so that you'll fix him. But that is not a safe thing for you to do. And she may not realize that.   I tell pastors that all the time. You don't, but you're not going to go to him to check out her story or go talk to him like she's asked you to. Instead, you're going to go, what can we do for you right now?   Let's get you some help. And there'll be a time where we can address things with him. But right now is not that safe time.   So, let's get you connected with an organization that can help you give you the resources that you need to begin your journey of healing and discovering what God wants you to do.   Laura Dugger: (47:52 - 48:07) That's good. And also, this is a tricky question, but what are your views for having biblical reasons for divorce, specifically as it relates to those types of abuse that you shared with us?   Stacey Womack: (48:08 - 50:27) Sure. You know, I think God understood that divorce would happen. That's why it got written into the law.   And it says, “Because it was the hardness of hearts.” So, it wasn't God's design. It wasn't the way God wanted it to be, but that there was made allowances for this.   And when people and women are often quoted, God hates divorce. They're not really giving the whole scripture and Malachi in the amplified version. It says, “God hates divorce and marital separation and him who covers his wife, his garment with violence. Therefore, keep a watch on your spirit, that it may be controlled by my spirit, that you deal not treacherously and faithfully with your marriage mate.”   So, we actually got some really good articles that go in depth on the original Hebrew, that Malachi verse was written in there. But, you know, I do believe that someone is breaking the marriage covenant to love, cherish, lay his life down for when they bring abuse to the relationship.   Again, God would wish and hope that we would humble our hearts, not be stiff necked and submit to Him and what he's trying to teach us and grow us in. But He does not force us. And so that leaves women in these situations very little choices if their husband is unwilling to get the help that he needs.   So, I am all for divorce. And I know that that marriage is hard. And my husband and I have been married for 44 years and we've gone through our struggles.   And there are times that I thought this isn't going to work. But you know what? We hung in there because we knew that for us, because it wasn't an abusive situation, that we need to stay in there and work on it.   And we did. And we're so glad we did. So, believe me, I'm not promoting divorce.   I just know that there has to be a place and known for it because of sin in the world. And again, it's heartbreaking and it destroys not just individuals, families, but our society is being destroyed by the breakdown of the family. And abuse is one of the most insidious things.   It starts in the home and it's cyclical. So, it's passed on from one generation to the next.   Laura Dugger: (50:29 - 50:38) Well, so, Stacey, how can we become more aware of abuse that is happening all around us? And what can we do that's genuinely helpful?   Stacey Womack: (50:40 - 52:13) Well, I think getting the education, you know, in my book that on the front lines of abuse strategies for the faith community, just a little book. But has a ton of information in it is a good place to start. And I have some do's and don'ts in there.   But, you know, I think that when you might recognize someone's being in an abusive relationship by the way her husband or whatever is speaking to her. But she doesn't see it because most victims would never call themselves a victim of abuse because they don't relate to that at all. That's not how they would define it.   So, I think sometimes just privately sharing with them. No, that behavior was really abusive. And she may not like that.   She might even get upset. But I think just being honest with the fact that this is going on. And I encourage pastors to preach about abuse and really abuse oppression.   And the Bible has a whole lot to say about oppression. There's already sermons out there that they can pull from. I suggest pastors preach on it twice a year.   So, October's domestic violence awareness month. And then maybe run Mother's Day again, not on Mother's Day, but around Mother's Day. Talk about it again, not as a caveat to relationships where it's just mentioned in a sermon, but an actual entire sermon on this issue.   And I can promise you that the church gets the education they need. They don't have to be experts, but they need to know what resources are out there for them and they make it safe. Both men and women will come forward and ask for help.   So, we need just to be a listening ear and care and ask how we can help.   Laura Dugger: (52:14 - 52:29) I think that's a good practical encouragement that you've shared. And I want to add all of these links in our show notes. So, is there anywhere else that we can go to after this conversation to continue learning from you?   Sure.   Stacey Womack: (52:30 - 53:32) We have our website that has a ton of information on it, abuserecovery.org. So, there's just so much on there. We have blogs and we have all kinds of information that the faith community can download for free.   Whether you're just in the community or you're a church leader, there's all kinds of things you can download. We have a pastor's packet. There's just we'll give you other books to read that you can do more education around this again.   I know as my father being a pastor, that pastors are busy enough. We're not asking pastors to do more than what they're doing. We're just asking them to be educated and know where they can send their people that's safe, where they're going to get sound and supportive help.   And to just be open to looking at things from a little bit different perspective. But our website just has so much on it that they can get for free. And again, our women's intervention groups, our recovery groups are free.   Laura Dugger: (53:33 - 53:49) Thank you for sharing that. And you may already be familiar that we're called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge or insight. And so, Stacey is my final question for you today.   What is your savvy sauce?   Stacey Womack: (53:50 - 54:39) What is my savvy sauce? You know, when I think about how God called me into this ministry in the end, no matter what we do, I think it's about obedience to God. And so, this was not on my radar.   I would never have chosen it. And so, for me, it's about being obedient to what God has called me to do, even when it's hard and even when it's unpopular. And walking in that so that when I stand before God, I can say I did what you asked me to, to the best of my ability, even with all my flaws.   So that's really, I think, my heart is to be that way. Be a leader like Moses, who God says he was the most humble man who ever lived. I'd love to be like that with the heart of David and the boldness of Paul and on and on and on.   Laura Dugger: (54:39 - 59:13) So, yeah, I love that. Well, I told you before we pressed record that I have experienced so much fruit of the spirit from you already with your gentleness. And this is not the first time we tried recording.   We prayed together that God would do immeasurably more than all we could ever ask or imagine through this conversation, because we had so many technical difficulties and even had to reschedule the date for this. But Stacey, I'm so grateful you persevered because you are well-spoken and you tackle this extremely difficult topic with wisdom and grace. And so, I'm very grateful I got to learn from you today.   And I believe God's going to continue working through you, even for the saving of many lives. So, thank you for your work and thank you for being my guest. Thank you so much. I appreciate it.    One more thing before you go. Have you heard the term gospel before?   It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you. But it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there is absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior. But God loved us so much, he made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life we could never live and died in our place for our sin. This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus.   We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished if we choose to receive what He has done for us. Romans 10:9 says, “That if you confess with your mouth Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” So, would you pray with me now?   Heavenly Father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you. Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life?   We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen.   If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me, so me for him. You get the opportunity to live your life for him. And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason.   We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you ready to get started? First, tell someone.   Say it out loud. Get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes & Noble and let me choose my own Bible.   I selected the Quest NIV Bible, and I love it. You can start by reading the book of John. Also, get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ.   I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps, such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you. We want to celebrate with you too, so feel free to leave a comment for us here if you did make a decision to follow Christ. We also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “In the same way I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

Have you come across the terms Protection Orders and Restraining Orders? What do they mean, and what legal process does a domestic violence victim undergo after reporting to the authorities? Here's a guide and explanation from family lawyer Atty. Jesil Cajes. - Narinig mo na ba ang terminong Protection Orders at Restraining Orders? Ano ang mga ito ano ang legal na proseso na pinagdaraanan ng isang biktima ng domestic violence matapos magsumbong sa mga awtoridad. Narito ang gabay at paliwanag mula kay family lawyer Atty. Jesil Cajes.

Two Boston City Hall employees, an Afghan national and a Chinese national, are arrested and charged with domestic violence!  Visit the Howie Carr Radio Network website to access columns, podcasts, and other exclusive content.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Amelia & Reya about living in fear of their parent's constant emotional and verbal abuse. They lived in fear of their mom's suicide threats. They lived in fear of their mom leaving. They lived in fear of physical abuse. They lived in fear. It's a story of parentification, fear, obligation, guilt, perfection, appearances, mental health issues, protection, generational trauma, CPTSD, victim playing, autonomy, feelings, no contact, self esteem, depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, shame, hyper vigilance, nightmares, and grief. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses suicidal ideation and graphic description of physical child abuse. Plus, one mention of the words sexual abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠click here⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Something Was Wrong | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TRIGGER WARNING: IN THIS EPISODE I SHARE SOME OF MY THOUGHTS REGARDING THE ABUSE ALLEGATIONS MADE BY CASSIE AGAINST DIDDY. SOME OF WHICH MIGHT BE TRIGGERING TO CERTAIN LISTENERS. THIS EPISODE IS DEDICATED TO THE VICTIMS AND THE SURVIVORS WHO WERE BRAVE ENOUGH TO SHARE THEIR STORY WITH THE WORLD!! AND TO THOSE ARE STILL LIVING IN SILENCE, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! National Sexual Assault Hotline: Confidential 24/7 SupportCall 800-656-4673 or Chat online: online.rainn.orgIf you or someone you know is a victim of Domestic Violence, you can get help by calling 800-799-7233 or text BEGIN to 88788 or visit www.thehotline.org

Send us a textSummaryIn this conversation, Sauce Mackenzie shares his personal journey, emphasizing the importance of community, responsibility, and the influence he has on the youth. He reflects on masculinity, domestic violence, and the need for compassion in relationships. Mackenzie also discusses the significance of understanding women's perspectives and the importance of healing within the community. The conversation concludes with sports commentary and a call to action for community engagement.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Journey02:52 Influence and Responsibility in the Community05:53 Reflections on Masculinity and Domestic Violence12:00 Understanding Women's Perspectives and Relationships18:04 The Importance of Compassion and Community22:05 Sports Commentary and Community EngagementTakeawaysI've been going through some transitions in my life, but God is good.Working with kids is such a blessing.Your trajectory gotta be focused up mentally, not financially.Your footprint is your footprint; people remember you.I don't never respect no nigga that put his hands on a woman.We gotta watch over these shorties; they are wild.We need to heal and let go of the traumas we have.I love women's rights and the divinity of a female.We can't tell every woman got an individual story.The reason I'm popular is because I respect people.Support the show

Unscripted: Conversations about Sexual and Domestic Violence is a podcast featuring employees and subject matter experts from Domestic and Sexual Violence Services and partner organizations discussing all aspects of interpersonal violence, plus solutions. On this episode of Unscripted, host Kendra Lee discusses domestic violence and mental health with Domestic and Sexual Violence Services Crisis Response Services Program Manager Andrea Nunes-Gardner and Counseling Supervisor Kathryn Harlow. If you or someone you know has experienced interpersonal violence, call the Domestic and Sexual Violence 24-Hour Hotline at 703-360-7273, or visit https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov and search for domestic and sexual violence. To listen to other county podcasts, visit https://www.fairfaxcounty.gov/podcasts.

CONTENT WARNING: SUICIDE, MURDER, DRUG USE, OVERDOSE, CHILD MURDER, CULTS, ASSAULT, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.-Email us any personal paranormal and true crime encounters and/or suggestions at: quespookypodcast@gmail.com Follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube: @quespookypodcast

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SiriusXM Celebrity Guest Host (and NBC/MSNBC Legal Analyst) Danny Cevallos breaks down the trial of music star Sean "Diddy" Combs. If you know nothing about this fascinating legal case, this is the explainer you want to listen to. Cevallos notes Combs' defense team argues that he is "not on trial for" domestic violence, assault, or rape. The prosecution argues otherwise, of course. On a day that Combs' ex-girlfriend Cassie Ventura continued testifying on the stand, listen here for the expert legal analysis you need. Original air date 15 May 2025.

Amanda McCoy Flanagan, an award-winning author, writing coach, and grief recovery expert, joins us to unpack the tangled emotions tied to grief and personal empowerment. Amanda shares her wisdom on navigating the emotional labyrinth of high-conflict situations like divorce and toxic relationships, where guilt often shadows the path to healing. With her guidance, we challenge ourselves to view writing as a therapeutic process—transforming our pain into narratives of purpose and self-discovery. Amanda illuminates the journey of turning loss into a significant catalyst for personal growth and celebrates the resilience within the human spirit, encouraging us to embrace healing as a continuous journey rather than a final destination.Together, we explore the transformative potential of facing pain head-on, revealing how the process can unlock emotional maturity and authenticity. Amanda sheds light on the importance of addressing unresolved childhood wounds to break recurring relational patterns, ultimately leading to healthier connections in our lives. As we discuss the adventure of rediscovering one's self-worth post-relationship, Amanda offers practical tools for overcoming fear and stepping into self-awareness. From building supportive communities to crafting a "greater gratitude list," this episode provides listeners with the resources needed to navigate the complexities of grief and emerge more empowered than ever before.

An organization that tracks domestic violence in Minnesota reported one intimate partner killing every week for the last four weeks, from April 12 to May 7. Murder charges have been filed in two of these deaths and law enforcement believe the other two occurred in murder-suicides. In total, Violence Free Minnesota has tracked seven intimate partner killings so far this year. Behind each one is a human life, with friends, family and communities in mourning. Guadalupe Lopez, executive director of Violence Free Minnesota, joins MPR News host Nina Moini to talk about efforts to prevent the loss of more lives to abuse.If you or someone you know is in a dangerous situation with a partner, help is available through a 24-hour statewide domestic and sexual violence hotline. You can call Minnesota Day One at (866) 223-1111 or text (612) 399-9995.

I explore one of the most disorienting realities of surviving an emotionally abusive relationship: the way each incident is treated like it exists in isolation—when in reality, it all added up.I share my personal experience of slowly realizing that what felt like “stress” was actually a sustained pattern of emotional harm. I walk through the subtle signs—like anxiety, insomnia, self-doubt, and emotional shutdown—that build up over time and keep survivors stuck in cycles of self-blame and confusion.This episode offers validation for the exhaustion you feel, clarity on how abusers avoid accountability by isolating incidents, and a powerful reminder: if you're starting to see the pattern, you already have everything you need to begin walking away from it.Support the showWebsite: Emotional Abuse Coach and high-conflictdivorcecoaching.comInstagram: @emotionalabusecoachEmail: jessica@jessicaknightcoaching.com{Substack} Blog About Recovering from Abuse {E-Book} How to Break Up with a Narcissist{Course} Identify Signs of Abuse and Begin to Heal{Free Resource} Canned Responses for Engaging with an Abusive Partner

What happens when your abuser carries a badge and a gun? For victims of officer-involved domestic violence, the journey to safety becomes a dangerous maze with few exits. Bruce Bieber joins us with the heartbreaking story of his daughter Abby – a rising star deputy sheriff who was murdered by her intimate partner, himself a detective in the same sheriff's office. This wasn't a random tragedy but the culmination of systemic failure, as her killer had previously been reported for domestic violence years earlier, only to have the incident swept under the rug. Through tears and determination, Bruce reveals how his quest for answers uncovered layers of institutional protection that prioritized shielding officers over protecting victims. When he discovered that approximately 40% of police families experience domestic abuse – potentially hundreds of thousands of households – he transformed his grief into purpose. The parallels between Abby's case and countless others expose a chilling pattern: documentation disappears, investigations vanish, and perpetrators not only remain employed but often advance in their careers. Questions about the failure of fellow officers to intervene when Abby was killed reveal uncomfortable truths about the "blue wall of silence" that protects abusers in uniform. Bruce is now fighting for legislation requiring Florida's law enforcement agencies to adopt protocols for handling cases when the abuser wears a badge. His urgent message resonates beyond one family's tragedy: if we immediately act when officers commit robbery or deal drugs, why do we still treat domestic violence as a private matter rather than the crime it is? Share this powerful episode with someone who needs to hear it, and join us in breaking the silence around officer-involved domestic violence.

        Slam the Gavel welcomes Marineka Bowman to the podcast. Marineka was last on Season 3, Episodes 104, 131, 159, 160, 174 and 184, Season 4, Episodes 22, 48 and 61, Season 5, Episodes 149, 210, 238, 248, 256 and 258. HELLO DOGE.     Marineka exposed a mountain of evidence that Judge Natalie Haskins of Delaware and Attorney Laura Brooks refuse to acknowledge. On YouTube: @Slam the Gavel, you can see all the evidence Marineka is showing; countless pages that the judge refuses to see and Attorney Laura Brooks as well REFUSE to do the right thing by Marineka and her precious daughter. When will justice be done?To Reach Marineka Bowman:   dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)Maryann Petri: dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.comhttps://www.tiktok.com/@maryannpetriFacebook:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guitarpeace/Pinterest: Slam The Gavel Podcast/@guitarpeaceLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maryann-petri-62a46b1ab/  YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/@slamthegavelpodcasthostmar5536  Twitter https://x.com/PetriMaryannEzlegalsuit.com   https://ko-fi.com/maryannpetri*DISCLAIMER* The use of this information is at the viewer/user's own risk. Not financial, medical nor legal advice as the content on this podcast does not constitute legal, financial, medical or any other professional advice. Viewer/user's should consult with the relevant professionals. Reproduction, distribution, performing, publicly displaying and making a derivative of the work is explicitly prohibited without permission from content creator. Podcast is protected by owner. The content creator maintains the exclusive right and any unauthorized copyright infringement is subject to legal prosecution. Support the showSupportshow(https://www.buymeacoffee.com/maryannpetri)http://www.dismantlingfamilycourtcorruption.com/

We're honored to welcome Nichole Schmidt to Toxic today — a friend of the pod and a fierce advocate for survivors, especially young survivors of dating violence. In 2021, her 22-year-old daughter, Gabby Petito, was murdered by her boyfriend, Brian Laundrie, during what was supposed to be an idyllic cross-country van trip — and instead became a national tragedy. This past February, Netflix released American Murder: Gabby Petito, a docuseries featuring never-before-seen details about how Gabby's story unfolded. Ultimately, she became yet another preventable victim of dating violence, strangulation — and, yes, femicide. Just two weeks before her death, police in Moab, Utah, pulled the couple over after a witness saw Brian hit Gabby. Despite clear signs of abuse — and officers even identifying it as assault — Laundrie wasn't arrested. Instead, they named Gabby the primary aggressor and gave Brian a hotel room usually reserved for domestic violence victims. The incident laid bare just how much law enforcement — and society — still doesn't understand about abuser tactics. A little over a month later, Brian strangled Gabby to death in Wyoming. He later scribbled a confession in a notebook before dying by suicide — because, of course, accountability was never on his itinerary. Today, Nichole shares what life has been like since Gabby's death — and how she's working to keep her daughter's memory alive, one survivor at a time. We want to hear from you. Do you have a story we need to discuss or a guest we should feature? Visit us at ToxicThePodcast.com and share your story. If you're experiencing abuse or domestic violence, please reach out to someone you trust. You can also connect with a trained advocate near you through DomesticShelters.org. Finally, help us keep this conversation going. Share an episode of Toxic with someone also outraged by the relentless epidemic of violence against women. Follow us on your favorite podcast platform or social media, and please consider leaving us a review. Your support helps us amplify these critical stories. Together, we can create change.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Tammy shares her story about meeting her future husband on Tinder. He quickly pushed Tammy's boundaries, and manipulated her into thinking it was because of life experience and cultural differences. The abuser isolated Tammy from everyone, so when the physical abuse began, she didn't have anyone to turn to because of the shame attached to it. Tammy eventually sought help, obtained an intervention order, and began healing, reflecting on the parallels between her abusive partner and her manipulative mother. It's a story of intimidation, shame, guilt, trauma bonds, gaslighting, manipulation, financial abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual assault, suicidal ideation, isolation, intergenerational trauma, put downs, and depression. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual assault, and suicidal ideation. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Something Was Wrong | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Nebraska Legislature restored proposed cuts in funding for courts and domestic violence programs, amid uncertainty about future budget conditions.

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Uncover essential strategies for navigating the intricate and emotionally charged world of childhood sexual assault allegations within the context of separation and custody disputes. We promise you'll gain invaluable insights from our guest, Brian, a seasoned trial attorney from Greenberg Gross, who shares his extensive expertise in handling these sensitive cases. His guidance is indispensable for those confronting the heartbreaking reality of abuse allegations, particularly when they're intertwined with the complexities of family litigation.With careful attention to the crucial legal steps involved, our discussion guides you through responding to child abuse allegations. We emphasize the importance of believing and supporting the child, and outline how to engage effectively with law enforcement and Child Protective Services. Our conversation highlights the vital role of documentation and specialized police departments in safeguarding the child's well-being. This episode ensures clarity in navigating this challenging legal landscape, equipping families with the knowledge to protect their most vulnerable members.We also explore the unsettling realm of child grooming and manipulation by perpetrators, looking at the tactics used to gain a child's trust and silence them. Recognizing these signs is crucial for parents and guardians, and our discussion offers practical advice for vigilance and action. By focusing on advocacy, trauma recovery, and the role of specialized therapy, we aim to empower families to support and heal survivors. This episode serves as both a guide and a source of hope, directing listeners toward resources that can assist in the healing journey.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Austin shares her story about meeting her abusive partner through a dating app. He was everything on paper – an absolute dream. Things were perfect. But unfortunately, Austin's abusive partner began to nitpick every little thing she did. Austin's life was under a microscope. And things only escalated from there. It's a story of intergenerational trauma, caretaking, being a burden, perfectionism, nitpicking, breadcrumbs, physical abuse, self compassion, death, grief, neglect, fear, gaslighting, blame shifting, minimization, infidelity, jealousy, rage, intimidation, self defense, and much more. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode has graphic descriptions of physical abuse. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠click here⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Something Was Wrong | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Importance of understanding the critical difference between anger and rage. Anger is the way to say NO appropriately, rage is abuse. >Free Workbook included:< Click this link for workbook Understanding the Difference Between Anger and Rage.  This workbook will provide  tools, exercises, and strategies to recognize anger before it turns into rage and to respond in a way that promotes emotional intelligence and personal safety and healthy relationships.   In this podcast as well as in the workbook The key differences between anger and rage How to recognize anger before it escalates Techniques to manage and express anger constructively Strategies to protect yourself and others. Feel the reassurance of a Psychiatric Service Dog—Train your own dog if they recognize and reduce any psychological symptoms, to fly, be in 'no-pet' housing, with no pet fees and access public places under ADA law. Training from Joanne S. Williams, LCSW. A 30-second free guide to see if you qualify at ServiceDogPro.com!   Free 30 minute focus call with Joanne to talk about what would work best for you for your emotional health. Get the Free- >Workbook included:< Click this link for workbook Understanding the Difference Between Anger and Rage.     

Send us a textStacey Moore is a nurse, addict in recovery, suicide attempt survivor, and mother of children with complex needs. She speaks openly about surviving domestic violence, managing substance use while parenting, navigating mental health crises, and working in healthcare while in recovery. Her lived experience now guides her work at Saskatoon's Dubé Centre, where she supports others through psychosis, overdose, and addiction.=============Key Learning Points

Ingrid Rivera, Spokesperson, St Louis County Dept of Human services, joins Megan Lynch with details on the 'Spa Closet Drive'.

Why can't anyone seem to understand narcissistic abuse — no matter how hard you try to explain it? In this validating episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys,  I break down why victims struggle to put their experience into words and why outsiders often dismiss, minimise, or misunderstand what's really happening.I unpack powerful tactics like gaslighting, love bombing, and covert emotional abuse — all designed by the narcissist to stay hidden from others while destroying you behind closed doors. You'll learn why survivors are left feeling isolated, disbelieved, and even blamed, and how this adds to the trauma.If you've ever felt crazy, exhausted, or alone trying to explain your abuse — this episode will give you clarity, validation, and support. Your pain is real, and it matters.Need Support, Extra Resources? Resources and Online Counseling (worldwide) information Here Order my book Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse here You can leave a Rating and a Review here You Can Share this Podcast here Join me on FB here Join the private FB group here Join me on Instagram here Join me on YouTube here Please Buy me a coffee ❤️ Thank you for listening! Please remember the information in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy is general and strictly the opinions of the host. Nova xx

On this week's episode of The 1 Girl Revolution Podcast, we welcome Deb Ellinger, founder of Elli's House—a nonprofit organization based in Detroit that works with women and girls in the city and also supports women and girls across the country who are experiencing homelessness or who have been impacted by addiction, human trafficking, abuse, and more. Deb's story is one of strength, compassion, and relentless action. After spending years working in law enforcement, Deb witnessed firsthand the heartbreaking realities of human trafficking, abuse, and addiction. Driven by a deep desire to make a difference, she began meeting women where they were—offering food, hygiene kits, and hope from the back of her car. That grassroots effort grew into Elli's House, a full-scale nonprofit that now provides 24/7 street outreach, a drop-in center, and one of Detroit's only long-term residential programs for women exiting trafficking or homelessness. In this episode, you'll hear: ➡️ Deb's inspiring personal and professional journey—from law enforcement to nonprofit founder ➡️ The powerful story behind Elli's House and how it's changing lives in Detroit and beyond ➡️ How Elli's House supports women and girls with street outreach, shelter, mentorship, and more ➡️ The realities of trafficking and addiction in our own communities—and what we can do to help ➡️ Why showing up with love, dignity, and consistency makes all the difference ➡️ And so much more!

A family violence support agency said police are undoing decades of hard work by not attending some domestic violence callouts that are considered mental-health related. Last year, police announced a phased approach to pulling back on mental-health related callouts, while still attending high risk incidents, in a bid to save their time and resources. Luka Forman has the story.

In March 2023, Meshay Melendez and her daughter Layla Stewart disappeared from Vancouver, Washington. Despite multiple red flags and an active no-contact order, Meshay's abusive ex-boyfriend, Kirkland Warren, was free — with devastating consequences. In this heart-wrenching episode, we uncover the tragic story of Meshay Melendez and her 7-year-old daughter, Layla Stewart, whose lives were cut short. This case shines a light on the cracks in the system when it comes to domestic violence protections and the urgent need for systemic change and nuanced dialogue that produce real change.Join us as we trace the chilling timeline:Meshay's turbulent history with Warren, including prior domestic violence.Court decisions that left Warren free despite extreme risk assessments.The heartbreaking discovery of Meshay and Layla's bodies.Warren's shocking criminal past, his manipulation of the legal system, and the final sentencing.⚠ If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), text "START" to 88788, or visit thehotline.org.Visit our website! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Patreon, & more! If you have any true crime, paranormal, or witchy stories you'd like to share with us & possibly have them read (out loud) on an episode, email us at pnwhauntsandhomicides@gmail.com or use this link. There are so many ways that you can support the show: BuyMeACoffee, Spreaker, or by leaving a rating & review on Apple Podcasts. Sources

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Let's Hear It is back after a brief break—and we're diving into one of the most powerful conversations we've had yet. In this episode, Eric sits down with Rachael Kagan, Director of Communications and Public Affairs at the Blue Shield of California Foundation. With a background in journalism and public health, Rachael has channeled her experience into creating The Journalist Playbook—a practical, compassionate, and groundbreaking tool for improving how domestic violence is covered in the media. Together, they unpack the why and how of this innovative resource, the effect it's already having across California newsrooms, and what it means to truly shift the narrative around domestic violence. This isn't just a tool for reporters—it's a model for how philanthropy, journalism, and advocacy can work together to drive lasting change. You'll also hear candid reflections on Rachael's journey from the frontlines of health communications to the strategic heights of philanthropy, plus a moving reminder that domestic violence affects far more people than we may realize—58% of Californians, to be exact. Find the playbook at LetsEndDV.org and the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. We're thrilled to be back—thanks for welcoming us into your ears. Don't forget to follow, rate, and review!

In this episode of the Compendium, we explore the Jason Corbett case. The harrowing tale of love, betrayal, and tragedy. Jason was an Irish widower, sought a fresh start in North Carolina with his children and new wife, Molly Martens. Their seemingly idyllic life unraveled in 2015 when Jason was found bludgeoned to death with a baseball bat and a concrete brick. Molly and her father, ex-FBI agent Tom Martens, claimed self-defense but were later convicted of second-degree murder. After appeals, their convictions were overturned, leading to a plea deal for voluntary manslaughter and their release in 2024. We delve into the complexities of this domestic violence case, the contentious custody battle over Jason's children, and the emotional aftermath that continues to haunt his family.​   We give you just the Compendium, but if you want more, here are our resources: A Deadly American Marriage (2025) – by Jessica Burgess and Jenny Popplewell Killing of Jason Corbett – Wikipedia   Host & Show Info Hosts: Kyle Risi & Adam Cox About: Kyle and Adam are more than just your hosts, they're your close friends sharing intriguing stories from tales from the darker corners of true crime, the annals of your forgotten history books, and the who's who of incredible people. Intro Music: Alice in dark Wonderland by Aleksey Chistilin Community & Calls to Action ⭐ Review & follow on: Spotify & Apple Podcasts

Let's Hear It is back after a brief break—and we're diving into one of the most powerful conversations we've had yet. In this episode, Eric sits down with Rachael Kagan, Director of Communications and Public Affairs at the Blue Shield of California Foundation. With a background in journalism and public health, Rachael has channeled her experience into creating The Journalist Playbook—a practical, compassionate, and groundbreaking tool for improving how domestic violence is covered in the media. Together, they unpack the why and how of this innovative resource, the effect it's already having across California newsrooms, and what it means to truly shift the narrative around domestic violence. This isn't just a tool for reporters—it's a model for how philanthropy, journalism, and advocacy can work together to drive lasting change. You'll also hear candid reflections on Rachael's journey from the frontlines of health communications to the strategic heights of philanthropy, plus a moving reminder that domestic violence affects far more people than we may realize—58% of Californians, to be exact. Find the playbook at LetsEndDV.org and the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. We're thrilled to be back—thanks for welcoming us into your ears. Don't forget to follow, rate, and review!

What drives seemingly devoted fathers and husbands to annihilate their entire families in an act of ultimate betrayal and horror?Get the Darkness Syndicate version of #WeirdDarkness: https://weirddarkness.com/syndicateDISCLAIMER: Ads heard during the podcast that are not in my voice are placed by third party agencies outside of my control and should not imply an endorsement by Weird Darkness or myself. *** Stories and content in Weird Darkness can be disturbing for some listeners and intended for mature audiences only. Parental discretion is strongly advised.IN THIS EPISODE: Weirdo family member, Katie Jo, tells us that as a child she saw something similar to glitter – but in a very supernatural form! (Sparkles) *** An old man opens up to something that happened to him over six decades ago that he has never told anyone before – something that he says ruined his life. (Something Happened 63 Years Ago) *** A woman in bed is startled awake in the middle of the night when she feels someone pull her arm out from under her head – but she's the only one in her apartment. (Someone Or Something Moved My Hand) *** Mirrors, mirrors, mirrors everywhere. The more mirrors Lucida had the more she could admire herself.  She even is said to have made a deal with the devil in order to maintain her youthful beauty. (The Creepy Story of Lucida Mansi) *** Village life in Lemont, Illinois was as peaceful as it could be, and the Willmans farm was one of the collection of typical sleepy homesteads in the region. Until the day the demon came. (The Demon of Lemont) *** Chillingly, statistics suggest that a child is more likely to be killed by a parent than by a stranger and in most cases, the killer takes his own life after the act. We'll look into the disturbing psychology of family annihilators. (The Psychology of Familicide)YOUTUBE CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS…00:00:00.000 = Lead-In00:03:27.691 = Show Open00:05:43.393 = Sparkles00:07:29.864 = Someone Or Something Moved My Hand00:10:27.289 = Something Happened 63 Years Ago00:30:17.973 = The Demon of Lemont00:41:50.985 = The Creepy Story of Lucida Mansi00:47:30.025 = The Psychology of Familicide, Part 101:05:06.190 = The Psychology of Familicide, Part 201:15:48.492 = The Psychology of Familicide, Part 301:28:13.325 = Show Close01:30:05.752 = BLOOPERSSOURCES AND RESOURCES FROM THE EPISODE…“Sparkles” by Weirdo family member, Katie Jo“Someone Or Something Moved My Hand” by Mirandra for Your Ghost Stories: http://bit.ly/37muJPH“The Creepy Story of Lucida Mansi” by Ellen Lloyd for Ancient Pages: http://bit.ly/2DgFrcK“The Demon of Lemont” by Ursula Bielski for Chicago Hauntings: http://bit.ly/2rnR9zG“The Psychology of Familicide” by Fiona Guy for Crime Traveller: http://bit.ly/2rmEOM2“The List Family Massacre” from All That's Interesting: http://bit.ly/34itO0I=====(Over time links seen above may become invalid, disappear, or have different content. I always make sure to give authors credit for the material I use whenever possible. If I somehow overlooked doing so for a story, or if a credit is incorrect, please let me know and I will rectify it in these show notes immediately. Some links included above may benefit me financially through qualifying purchases.)= = = = ="I have come into the world as a light, so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness." — John 12:46= = = = =WeirdDarkness® is a registered trademark. Copyright ©2025, Weird Darkness.=====Originally aired: November 2018EPISODE PAGE at WeirdDarkness.com (includes list of sources): https://weirddarkness.com/JohnListTAGS: John List, familicide, family annihilators, family murder, mass murder, murder-suicide, criminology, true crime, family tragedy, domestic violence, family homicide, family annihilation cases, familicide research, murder psychology, family murderers, true crime stories, family annihilation motives, crime analysis, mental health and crime, murder case studies, family violence, family crime patterns, true crime podcast, criminal psychology, family killers, shocking crimes, dark true crime stories

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon talks with Eagle about escaping her abusive relationship. At first, Eagle was smitten by her future husband, but that quickly changed, as Eagle soon found herself walking on eggshells around him. The most confusing part for Eagle was the good times vs. the bad times, as there were good times. It created a cognitive dissonance, making it much more difficult for Eagle to leave. It's a story of rage, grandiosity, stonewalling, putdowns, plausible deniability, grandiosity, isolation, walking on eggshells, ptsd, support, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, relationship dynamics, self-esteem, disordered eating, financial control, physical abuse, mental health, therapy, coping mechanisms, personal growth, escape plans, depression, anxiety, intimidation, and the healing process. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse and suicidal ideation. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠ Something Was Wrong | ⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Last year in North Carolina, there was a domestic-violence–related homicide every four days on average. In fact, such homicides have increased nearly 70% since 2018. We look at the root causes of domestic violence, its rise and what's being done to address it.

What happens when your abuser carries a badge and a gun? For victims of officer-involved domestic violence, the journey to safety becomes a dangerous maze with few exits.Bruce Bieber joins us with the heartbreaking story of his daughter Abby – a rising star deputy sheriff who was murdered by her intimate partner, himself a detective in the same sheriff's office. This wasn't a random tragedy but the culmination of systemic failure, as her killer had previously been reported for domestic violence years earlier, only to have the incident swept under the rug.Through tears and determination, Bruce reveals how his quest for answers uncovered layers of institutional protection that prioritized shielding officers over protecting victims. When he discovered that approximately 40% of police families experience domestic abuse – potentially hundreds of thousands of households – he transformed his grief into purpose.The parallels between Abby's case and countless others expose a chilling pattern: documentation disappears, investigations vanish, and perpetrators not only remain employed but often advance in their careers. Questions about the failure of fellow officers to intervene when Abby was killed reveal uncomfortable truths about the "blue wall of silence" that protects abusers in uniform.Bruce is now fighting for legislation requiring Florida's law enforcement agencies to adopt protocols for handling cases when the abuser wears a badge. His urgent message resonates beyond one family's tragedy: if we immediately act when officers commit robbery or deal drugs, why do we still treat domestic violence as a private matter rather than the crime it is?Share this powerful episode with someone who needs to hear it, and join us in breaking the silence around officer-involved domestic violence.

Between 2003 and 2016, the National Violent Death Reporting System recorded 2,188 homicides of youth aged 11–18, with about 7% involving a current or former boyfriend as the perpetrator. A 2021 CDC survey also revealed that 1 in 12 high school students face physical dating violence and 1 in 10 face sexual dating violence. These alarming statistics highlight the urgent need for safer, healthier relationships for youth. This is the tragic case of Abbriella Faye Elliott.You can listen to our NEW episode on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and all other streaming platforms.—Entre 2003 y 2016, el Sistema Nacional de Reportes de Muertes Violentas registró 2,188 homicidios de jóvenes de entre 11 y 18 años, de los cuales aproximadamente el 7% involucraron a un novio actual o anterior como el agresor. Una encuesta de los CDC realizada en 2021 también reveló que 1 de cada 12 estudiantes de secundaria sufre violencia física en el noviazgo y 1 de cada 10 sufre violencia sexual en el noviazgo. Estas alarmantes estadísticas resaltan la necesidad urgente de relaciones más seguras y saludables para los jóvenes. Este es el trágico caso de Abbriella Faye Elliott.Puede escuchar nuestro NUEVO episodio en Spotify, Apple Podcasts y todas las demás plataformas de transmisión.—If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 911. For confidential support and resources, the hotlines and organizations listed below are available to assist you.Teen-Specific Domestic Violence ResourcesLove Is RespectWebsite: loveisrespect.orgPhone: 1-866-331-9474Text: Text "LOVEIS" to 22522Chat: Available on their website (anonymous and confidential)That's Not CoolWebsite: thatsnotcool.comThis site is for middle school and high school youth, with interactive material that addresses issues like digital abuse, controlling behavior, and online harassment. Domestic Violence ResourcesFlorida Domestic Violence Hotline:Phone: 1-800-500-1119Available 24/7, this hotline connects callers to the nearest certified domestic violence center. Translation services are available when needed.National Domestic Violence Hotline:Website: thehotline.orgPhone: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)TTY: 1-800-787-3224Available 24/7, this hotline offers free, confidential support, crisis intervention, safety planning, and referrals to local service providers in over 200 languages.—Link + Sources:New York Post: https://nypost.com/2025/04/07/us-news/florida-girl-allegedly-killed-by-her-estranged-ex-boyfriend-two-weeks-after-16th-birthday/NBC 8 News:  https://www.wfla.com/news/local-news/hernando-county/teen-found-dead-near-cypress-lake-preserve-believed-to-be-murdered-deputies-say/NBC 8 News:  https://www.wfla.com/news/local-news/hernando-county/teen-found-dead-near-cypress-lake-preserve-believed-to-be-murdered-deputies-say/PEOPLE:  https://people.com/boy-16-stabs-teen-girl-to-death-in-very-violent-attack-police-say-11709984Daily Mail:  https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14637641/Indictment-Cameron-Cubel-Abbriella-Elliott-Adolescence.htmlTampa Bay 10 News:  https://www.wtsp.com/article/news/crime/teen-girl-murder-abbriella-elliott-cameron-cubel-hernando-county/67-855c56d1-3f34-4be7-9faa-d868a5c284c1News Week:  https://www.newsweek.com/90-percent-teens-killed-partners-girls-most-killers-men-1396133— Distributed by Genuina Media — Follow Us:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/SVSM_PodcastThreads: https://www.threads.net/@svsm_podcastTwitter/ X: https://www.twitter.com/SVSM_PodcastBlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/svsmpodcast.bsky.socialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/SoViolentoSoMacabroPodcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@svsm_podcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@svsm_podcast

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Loren shares her story about being in perfect relationship for six years until she got a gut feeling that something was off. When Loren brought this feeling up to her partner, he admitted to having an affair and felt entitled to do so. From this point forth, the partner that Loren knew didn't exist anymore, and an emotionally abusive one took his place. It's a story of isolation, double lives, bullying, betrayal trauma, non-apologies, criticism, humiliation, rage, lies, disrespect, mind games, gifts as weapons, mind reading demands, infidelity, moving goal posts, and much more. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠click here⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠ Something Was Wrong | ⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠ to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, ⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode was originally published on The Murder Sheet's main feed on April 25, 2025.The Cheat Sheet is The Murder Sheet's segment breaking down weekly news and updates in some of the murder cases we cover. In this episode, we'll talk about cases from California, Michigan, and Indiana, including one in Delphi!The Los Angeles on the murder of Laura Sardinha by Craig J. Charron: https://www.latimes.com/california/story/2025-04-29/orange-county-man-guilty-in-murder-of-ex-girlfriend-captured-on-best-friends-voicemailThe blog post from LarryinFishers on the resolution in the murder case against Joshua Farmer for killing Kaylah Farmer: https://www.larryinfishers.com/2025/05/01/man-sentenced-in-fishers-shooting-death/The Detroit News on the ruling from the Michigan Supreme Court on the resentencing of individual who were 19 or 20 when they committed murder: https://www.detroitnews.com/story/news/local/michigan/2025/04/10/michigan-supreme-court-mandatory-life-sentence-19-20-year-olds-unconstitutionally-cruel-punishment/83028141007/The statement from Indiana State Police on the work done by Master Trooper Brian Harshman: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BL4Tqze9a/The statement from Indiana State Police on the work done by Lieutenant Jerry Holeman: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1AkdeEJWVT/The statement from Indiana State Police on the work done by First Sergeant Christopher Cecil: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1EoFwyRegB/The statement from Indiana State Police on the work done by Detective David Vido: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/199QqUtf2W/The statement from Indiana State Police on the work done by Detective Jay Harper: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1KorbuGVCC/Pre-order our book on Delphi here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/shadow-of-the-bridge-the-delphi-murders-and-the-dark-side-of-the-american-heartland-aine-cain/21866881?ean=9781639369232Or here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Shadow-of-the-Bridge/Aine-Cain/9781639369232Or here: https://www.amazon.com/Shadow-Bridge-Murders-American-Heartland/dp/1639369236Join our Patreon here! https://www.patreon.com/c/murdersheetSupport The Murder Sheet by buying a t-shirt here: https://www.murdersheetshop.com/Send tips to murdersheet@gmail.com.The Murder Sheet is a production of Mystery Sheet LLC.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this week's episode of The 1 Girl Revolution Podcast, we welcome Elza Spaedy, founder of Healed and Restored—a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping women and girls who are survivors of abuse, trafficking, domestic violence, and other forms of trauma. Elza's story is one of courage, healing, and hope. As a survivor herself, Elza understands the deep wounds that trauma can cause—and she's made it her life's mission to walk alongside other women and girls on their journey to restoration. Through Healed and Restored, she is building a supportive community and providing vital resources, mentorship, and programming to empower survivors and help them reclaim their lives. In this episode, you'll hear:

If you've ever been in an abusive relationship—or know someone who has—you understand that it's one of the hardest things to escape and recover from...but thank God, it is possible. Join Joyce, Ginger, and Erin for a powerful conversation with Sandee Jo Crocker—a courageous survivor of domestic abuse—who shares real hope for anyone facing the fight of their life. Her story will inspire, uplift, and remind you that healing is possible.

If you've ever been in an abusive relationship—or know someone who has—you understand that it's one of the hardest things to escape and recover from...but thank God, it is possible. Join Joyce, Ginger, and Erin for a powerful conversation with Sandee Jo Crocker—a courageous survivor of domestic abuse—who shares real hope for anyone facing the fight of their life. Her story will inspire, uplift, and remind you that healing is possible.

In this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Kara shares her harrowing journey of abuse and trauma, starting from childhood sexual and religious abuse religious abuse in a fundamentalist home. She detailed her marriage to an abusive partner, his control over her life, and her eventual escape. Kara describes her struggles with PTSD, depersonalization, and dissociation, and her healing process through therapy, exercise, and writing. It's a story of religious beliefs, control, gaslighting, put downs, dehumanization, intimidation, physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual assault, animal abuse, breaking free, CPTSD, mental health, dissociation, chronic guilt, cognitive dissonance, suicidal ideation, and self-advocacy. *** CONTENT WARNING - This episode discusses physical abuse, sexual abuse, sexual assault, animal abuse, and suicidal ideation. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠click here⁠ or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠Click Here⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠Click Here⁠ Something Was Wrong | ⁠Click Here⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠Click Here⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠ to access this free resource.  If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.).  To reach them, ⁠click here. ⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Sarah Fraser Show, I dive into an exclusive and shocking incident involving TLC stars Angela Deem and Michael Ilesami. The episode centers around a domestic incident that occurred on January 18, 2024, in Pasadena, California, where Angela allegedly tased Michael during a heated argument. I discuss the details of the police report, including Michael's statement to the officers, which reveals the tumultuous nature of their relationship. I touch on the ongoing Karen Reed trial, providing a brief recap of the latest developments and the emotional testimonies that have emerged.  Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Introduction to the Podcast and Exclusive Incident 00:00:18 - Angela Deem and Michael Ilesami's Domestic Incident 00:01:32 - Details of the Taser Incident 00:02:57 - Police Response and Initial Statements 00:13:30 - Divorce Update on Michael and Angela 00:20:08 - Karen Reed Trial Overview Get Tickets To Our Virtual Live Podcast show May 1st at 7pm EDT. Here's the link for tickets: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/david-yontef-sarah-fraser-virtual-live-show-ask-us-anything-51-7pm-tickets-1276780297239?aff=erelexpmlt  MY Go Big Podcasting Courses Are Here! Purchase Go Big Podcasting and learn to start, monetize, and grow your own podcast. USE CODE: TIKTOK20 for 20% OFF (code expires April 30th, 2025) **SHOP my Amazon Marketplace - especially if you're looking to get geared-up to start your own Podcast!!!** https://www.amazon.com/shop/thesarahfrasershow Show is sponsored by: Horizonfibroids.com get rid of those nasty fibroids Nutrafol.com use code TSFS for FREE shipping and $10 off your subscription Prolonlife.com/tsfs 15% off sitewide plus a $40 bonus gift when you subscribe to their 5-Day Nutrition Program! ● Try their detox that has REAL FOOD and WORKS! Rula.com/tsfs to get started today. That's R-U-L-A dot com slash tsfs for convenient therapy that's covered by insurance. SkylightCal.com/tsfs for $30 OFF your 15 inch calendar  Quince.com/tsfs for FREE shipping on your order and 365 day returns Warbyparker.com/tsfs make an appointment at one of their 270 store locations and head to the website to try on endless pairs of glasses virtually and buy your perfect pair Follow me on Instagram/Tiktok: @thesarahfrasershow   ***Visit our Sub-Reddit: reddit.com/r/thesarahfrasershow for ALL things The Sarah Fraser Show!!!*** Advertise on The Sarah Fraser Show: thesarahfrasershow@gmail.com Got a juicy gossip TIP from your favorite TLC or Bravo show? Email: thesarahfrasershow@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Phil unravels the devastating case of Gabby Petito, shedding light on the hidden dangers of abusive relationships. He explores the emotional, psychological, and physical aspects of abuse and why victims often struggle to leave. In this episode Dr. Phil details Gabby's disappearance, the discovery of her remains, and Brian Laundrie's fugitive status, ultimately revealing the chilling admissions in his notebook. Through Gabby's story, Dr. Phil talks about the pervasive nature of domestic violence and its societal impact. He also shares how Gabby's family is turning grief into action through the Gabby Petito Foundation, offering hope and resources to others. This gripping analysis urges listeners to recognize warning signs, seek help, and join the fight against domestic abuse. Thank you to our sponsors: Tax Network USA: Call 1-800-958-1000 or visit https://TNUSA.com/DRPHIL/  to speak to a strategist for FREE Preserve Gold: Visit: https://drphilgold.com/  Get a FREE precious metals guide that contains essential information on how to help protect your accounts. Text “DRPHIL” to 50505 to claim this exclusive offer from Preserve Gold today. Jase Medical: Get emergency antibiotics at https://Jase.com/  & use code PHIL for a discount