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As we embark on a new year, it's the perfect time to reflect on our faith journey and set intentional goals for spiritual growth. In this second installment of our three-part "Growth Goals Series," we explore how to align our aspirations with God's plan for our lives.The Importance of Spiritual GoalsSetting spiritual goals goes beyond personal improvement—it's about drawing closer to God and living out His purpose for us. By creating spiritual goals, we make a conscious commitment to prioritize God in all aspects of our lives. This intentional focus helps us:Strengthen our relationship with GodDevelop a more consistent prayer lifeIncrease our understanding of ScriptureApply biblical principles to our daily livesCultivate spiritual disciplinesUltimately, it's about transforming our entire way of living to align with God's will.Steps to Set Effective Spiritual GoalsPray and Reflect: Before setting any goals, dedicate time to prayer and seek God's guidance. Ask Him to reveal areas where He wants you to grow, ensuring that your goals align with His will.Be Specific and Measurable: Instead of vague goals like "read the Bible more," opt for specific objectives.Make Goals Achievable: Set goals that challenge you but remain within reach. Remember, growth is a process, not a race. Start with small, attainable goals and gradually increase their complexity as you progress.Align with Biblical Values: Ensure your goals are grounded in Scripture and align with God's teachings. Review and Adjust Regularly: Set aside time periodically to review your progress and adjust your goals as needed. This flexibility allows you to respond to God's leading and changes in your life circumstances.Send us a textSupport the show

Live work with Joshua-- The Secret of Self-Esteem I was recently a guest on the “Philosophical Weightlifting” podcast with host Joshua Gibson (link). At the end of the interview, he asked if I could give an example of some of the techniques in TEAM-CBT, so I decided to jump right into a live demonstration, in real time, which we are publishing on today's podcast. I am very grateful to Joshua and hope you enjoy the session as much as we did! The session covers a number of topics that just about everyone can relate to, including a couple extremely common Self-Defeating Beliefs: The Achievement Addiction The Love Addiction The Inadequacy Schema (“I'm not good enough.”) It also covers some familiar territory, including the question, “Am I good enough?” It also provides an answer to the questions: “What is the secret of self-esteem,” and “what is the secret of sex appeal?” To kick things off, Joshua shares an upsetting event along with some of his negative thoughts and feelings. The upsetting event was feeling attracted to a young woman who waited on him in a restaurant, and then going to his car and wishing he'd asked for her personal information for a date. Then he courageously went back and did just that, but got shot down. Paired with this experience, his overwhelming thoughts and how strongly he believes each one are: I won't be successful. 85% I won't get to live the life I want to live. 70% I won't find love. 90% I'm not attractive. 100% This is a list of Joshua's negative feelings, and how strong each one was at the start of the session: Feeling % Now % Goal % End Anxious 95%     Sad 90%     Guilty 85%     Inadequate 90%     Lonely 90%     Embarrassed 90%     Hopeless 85%     Frustrated 70%     Angry (with self) 75%     Two things stand out when you examine this list. First, Joshua is an attractive, friendly, and personable young man hosting a popular podcast. If we didn't have these estimates of his feelings, you would have NO WAY of knowing how he felt inside. These feelings are all very severe. So many people we greet in our daily lives are similar—looking terrific on the outside, but dying of loneliness and unhappiness within. Second, he is experiencing nine different types of similarly elevated negative feelings, and not just one negative feeling. This confirms statistical modeling I've done with data from the Feeling Great App. There appears to be an unknown “Common Cause” in the human psyche that activates numerous feelings simultaneously. This is like the “dark matter” of the human psyche. We can prove its existence, but don't yet know precisely what it is! However, our goal today will be to see if we can help Joshua change the way he's feeling, regardless of what's causing his pain. Positive Reframing Tool Feeling Positives Frustration It has motivated me to work hard   It shows I have not given up Anxiety Keeps me from putting myself at risk   It has inspired me to face my fears and grow Sadness Shows how much I care about others   Helps me understand others who are suffering, like my mom   Shows I have high standards and high expectations Guilt Shows that I want to live up to my expectations   Shows that I have a strong moral compass Inadequacy Shows I'm honest about my flaws and eager to improve   Show I'm humble   Makes me approachable Loneliness Has helped my develop independence and autonomy   Has motivated me to reach out to close community and to create my own Embarrassment Makes me behave in socially desirable ways Hopelessness This serves as a driving force   Shows that I'm a critical and realistic thinker   Protects me from disappointment Anger (at self) Shows that I have high expectations for myself and hold myself to a nigh standard You can see Joshua's goals for each negative feeling after we used the Magic Dial. The whole idea was to lower his negative feelings, not all the way to zero, since that would also wipe out all these positives, but lower them enough so that he would suffer less and still preserve all the many positives we listed, and more. Feelings Table with Goal column filled in Feeling % Now % Goal % End Anxious 95% 20%   Sad 90% 10-15%   Guilty 85-90% 15%   Inadequate 90% 10%   Lonely 90% 20%   Embarrassed 90% 10-15%   Hopeless 85% 20%   Frustrated 70% 20%   Angry (with self) 75% 5%   As you can see, he decided to lower all of his negative feelings if possible. Now, we're ready for the M = Methods of TEAM-CBT. Joshua said he wanted to work on, “I'm not attractive” first. I asked Joshua how and why he came to this conclusion, since he is clearly a large and attractive guy. He confessed he had severe acne when he was an adolescent, and now has scarring that makes him look “disfigured”. Although he probably does have some scars, I asked Joshua if he thought this thought might contain some cognitive distortions. He immediately mentioned All-or-Nothing Thinking (AON). I asked Joshua to “Explain this Distortion.” Specifically, I wanted him to imagine that I was a fourth grade student, and to explain to me in simple terms WHY this thought is an example of AON, why the AON in this case is unrealistic and misleading, and why it is also unfair. He did a great job, and this reduced his belief in the thought to 50%. As an exercise, can you think of some additional distortions in this thought? Briefly stop this recording so you can write them down on a piece of paper, and then you can look at the answers at the end of the show notes. “Explain the Distortions” was an excellent first step, but it was not enough, so we went on to the Paradoxical Double Standard Technique. I played the role of a long lost identical twin or best friend who was just like Joshua. I explained that I thought I was not attractive, and asked him what he thought. He did a tremendous job, and argued that this was not really valid, and I asked if he was being honest or just trying to cheer me up. He said he was being completely honest. Then we switched into high gear, using a much more aggressive technique, the Externalization of Voices, including Self-Defense, the Acceptance Paradox, and the Counter-Attack Technique, with perhaps a couple additional techniques thrown in. He got some strong momentum and blew all four negative thoughts out of the water. We were out of time, but did take the time to rate how he felt at the end, which you can see below. Feelings Table at the End of Session Feeling % Now % Goal % End Anxious 95% 20% 0% Sad 90% 10-15% 0% Guilty 85-90% 15% 0% Inadequate 90% 10% 0% Lonely 90% 20% 0% Embarrassed 90% 10-15% 0% Hopeless 85% 20% 0% Frustrated 70% 20% 0% Angry (with self) 75% 5% 0% Answer to the quiz question above: The thought, “I'm not attractive contained many distortions in addition to AON, including: OG = Overgeneralization MF = Mental Filtering DP = Discounting the Positive MR = Mind-Reading Mag/Min = Magnification and Minimization ER = Emotional Reasoning LAB = Labeling SH = Hidden Should Statement SB = Self-Blame I was extremely grateful and honored to be a guest on Joshua's wonderful podcast, Philosophical Weightlifting, and invited him to join our Tuesday psychotherapy training class at Stanford because of his work in coaching. If you are a mental health professional, including a therapist or coach, contact me and let me know! The classes are two hours weekly and free of charge, although some course materials are required. Thank you so much, Joshua, for sharing your “inner self” with me and all of your and our podcast fans! And thank you, all of you, for listening or watching today! Rhonda, Joshua and David The following is an awesome email I received from Jason Meno right after he listened to the Joshua session. Hey there! I just finished listening to the last hour segment of David's "Philosophical Weightlifting" podcast episode with Joshua Gibson (it starts at about 1:13:52). It was fun to see a 45-minute TEAM session in action. I thought the Externalization of Voices (EoV) that was done here that seemed to work really well, really fast. It also highlighted a lot of complex dynamics that I see David use a lot. Here's my analysis of what went down and what I think we can learn from it: Joshua's attack: Joshua's negative thought was "I'm not attractive", but when it came time for him to attack, he said, "You know Joshua, you are disfigured and because of that you're unlovable and that's an unavoidable thing you're going to have to deal with." This attack is a lot more powerful than just the thought "You're not attractive." It digs into hurtful labels, hopelessness, and frustration. When you are in the position of roleplaying as the negative voice, there's often new and subtle dimensions that come out of it. Right now we are making it easy for the user to attack the AI by just printing out their negative thoughts, but I think letting the attack be more dynamic would be a lot better. David uses Be Specific: "Can you tell me in what way I'm disfigured?" I REALLY like Be Specific. It sets things up very well. I'd love to do this as part of the EoV formula. Joshua answers: "Yes, so you had acne growing up and now you have scars as a result and that makes you look different from everyone else." David uses Paradoxical Acceptance / Humorous Magnification: "Well, thank you, wise guru. I'm enlightened now and see that I'm some kind of ugly monster who's going to scare all the women in the United States. But what you're saying is a lot of horseshit, and you know it." David's sarcastic tone belittles the negative voice's criticism, which also lightens up the absurd magnification that follows. He then quickly rejects the absurd and flows into healthy acceptance following this. David uses Straightforward Acceptance: "But it's true I'm not perfect, and I did have acne, and I do have scars, and there there's plenty of Hollywood movie stars who have some kind of fantastic looks." There's something very powerful about going from the absurd magnification into this healthy acceptance. It's kind of like framing the horrifying absurd with the moderately painful truth makes the truth a lot easier to accept. David uses Defense: "I have a lot about me that's attractive that I can be proud of, including my love, my humility. I've built a tremendous body that 99% of men would be the envy of, and 100% of women would love to touch and fondle." The self-compassion and focusing on specific strengths and pride in accomplishments seems to a very effective defense. There's also a little magnification and humor going on here too that works well. This is a lot stronger than a lot of defenses I see where people just say the thought is being distorted or unfair. David sets up the Counter-Attack Technique: "But there is one thing that's very, very unattractive about me that you didn't mention." Joshua asks: "What's that?" David uses the CAT: "That's that effing crappy voice in my head belittling me and constantly putting me down. And when I'm not listening to you, I'm feeling pretty damn happy. So, to quote the Buddha and Jesus alike, shut the f up." One of the things that seems to make the CAT really effective is when you can take the negative voice's criticism and throw it right back at the negative voice itself. In this case, the negative voice is the real unattractive quality. Awesome work David, and I'd love try out this EoV framework in the app. Best, Jason Roughly one week after the session with Joshua, Rhonda and David interviewed him for his reflections on the session and an update on how he's doing now. He said: I've reflected a lot on this, and what has changed for me. There were many things that impacted me, but positive reframing was a game-changer. For example, if I get anxious, I welcome the feeling, and tell myself, "This anxiety will help me with this project." I was getting a tattoo, and it hurt, so I told myself, "I'm glad it hurts. This pain protects my body." And, of course, people with leprosy lose the ability to feel pain, and the consequences are disastrous and tragic. He continued, I have become more accepting, and talk openly about my appearance. I've had the courage to face that fear. The theme of my life has been, "I'm not good enough." But now I remind myself that I've done all kinds of cool stuff. For example, I coached several people into the top five in the United States in power lifting. I'm way less self-critical now. I visited, and loved, the Tuesday group at Stanford. I didn't judge myself but just jumped in and did what I could do! We concluded the session with some Relapse Prevention Training, using Externalization of Voices to challenging his previous negative thoughts, including the thoughts he will have when he relapses. such as I'm not good enough. I'm a hopeless case. The therapy didn't work on me because I'm different. I'm a hopeless case. We used Externalization of Voices with role-reversals, and Joshua won "huge!" His final response was, "There's pain and joy in life. I'll feel joy and love!" Thank you for listening today. We hope you enjoy the intensely personal work with Joshua. Let us know what you think, and if it touched you if you've ever felt like you weren't "good enough!" Warmly, Joshua, Rhonda, and David  

The Feared Fantasy Festival! Featuring Jill Levitt, PhD Rhonda asked about the differences between the four Feared Fantasy Techniques and what each one is used for. So we're dedicating today's podcast to answering that question and bringing them all to life. We are honored to be joined by our beloved and brilliant Dr. Jill Levitt, the Director of Clinician Training at the Feeling Good Institute in Mountain View, California. Below I have listed the four Feared Fantasy Techniques. As you can see, each one targets a different Self-Defeating Belief. Approval Addiction: I need everyone's approval to feel happy and worthwhile. Perceived Perfectionism: I must impress others to be love and respected. People will not love or accept me if they see my flaws and shortcomings. Achievement Addiction: My capacity for happiness and my worthwhileness as a human being depend on my achievements, intelligence, success, and productivity. Love Addiction: I need to be loved to feel happy and worthwhile. Submissiveness: I must make others happy, even at the expense of my own needs and feelings. Here are the Feared Fantasy Techniques used for each SDB: Approval Addiction / Perceived Perfectionism: “I judge you.” Achievement Addiction: “High School Reunion.” Love Addiction: Rejection Feared Fantasy Submissiveness: No Practice During the live podcast, we did a deep dive on each of the four Feared Fantasy techniques, and emphasized that the goal is actually enlightenment, and it's based on the teachings Tibetan Book of the Dead that when you finally challenge and confront the monster you've feared and run away from in all of your previous reincarnations, you will discover the the monster has no teeth, and that your fears throughout all of those reincarnations were based on a cosmic joke. This can create something called "laughing enlightenment," so you no longer have to go through the life death cycle, but can go instead to Nirvana--or something along those lines! You really must listen to the podcast to "get" the impact of these Feared Fantasy role plays, and role-reversals, to see how simple, easy, and obvious self-acceptance, and enlightenment really are, and you will see and hear how we fight to protect and defend ourselves from attack, and end up feeling trapped yet again in our needs to be "special" or "worthwhile." David pointed out that when you let go of the idea that you have a "self," your suffering can disappear because you will no longer have to wonder whether your "self" is good enough, or worthwhile enough. Jill complemented this line of thinking by pointing out that the technique, Be Specific, is one important key in most of these techniques. We can be flawed in all kinds of specifics, but that will never hurt unless you generalize to your "self." No self, no problem, as some mystics have said. And that is SO TRUE! David also discussed throwing away the idea that you are worthwhile, or that you need to be more worthwhile, and described how he and his wife saved a mouse that had somehow gotten into their house, but the poor thing was terrified and heroically tried to survive, hiding out in their kitchen. Instead of trying to kill it, they fed it nuts and grapes. Eventually, they caught it in a safe trap, and set it free, and left a last meal for it outside, which it found and happily ate. It was a deep dive on Feared Fantasy and lots of spiritual and philosophical topics, and we hope you enjoyed it! Although we did not cover this topic in the podcast, there are quite a number of additional role play techniques in TEAM-CBT, too, as you know, including: to help with Self-Critical Thoughts: Paradoxical and Straightforward Double Standard Externalization of Voices to help with Uncovering Techniques, like the Individual Downward Arrow Man from Mars To help with Tempting Thoughts Devil's Advocate Technique Tic-Tok Technique to help with Resistance Externalization of Resistance How Many Minutes? to help with the Five Secrets / Relationship Conflict Intimacy Exercise One Minute-Drill Perhaps you can think of more, too! The generous use of role-playing techniques is one of the unique features of TEAM, but for whatever reason it seems like few therapists use them. This is perhaps unfortunate because they tend to be more potent, emotional, and fast acting than many if not most other techniques. Warmly, david

We all know how good it is to feel valued at work… but, as a manager, is it worth the time and expense? And how can we ensure that our recognition resonates? In today's episode, we dive into the powerful world of appreciation and recognition! We chat about how everyone loves to be recognized, but not everyone enjoys the spotlight in the same way. You'll hear us share our personal experiences with recognition. We emphasize the importance of understanding individual preferences when it comes to appreciation, because what resonates with one person might not connect with another. We also discuss some practical tips for recognizing your team or peers without breaking the bank. You'll learn that simple, genuine compliments can go a long way, and how being specific about what you appreciate can amplify someone's performance. Plus, we touch on the idea of the "platinum rule"—treating others the way they want to be treated. So, whether you're a manager or just someone looking to spread a little positivity, this episode is packed with insights and actionable ideas to help you create a culture of recognition in your workplace and beyond!  

In this episode, Kari Anderson, a seasoned nonprofit executive and principal at Incite! Consulting, shares essential tips for building a successful year-end fundraising campaign. With 25 years of experience in nonprofit leadership, Kari highlights the importance of setting realistic goals, customizing donor asks, and making it easy for donors to give. As year-end approaches, Kari addresses common challenges nonprofits face during this critical fundraising period and provides practical strategies to maximize impact, especially for small to medium-sized organizations. Key Episode Takeaways: Set a Challenging Yet Attainable Goal: Use data from previous campaigns to set a realistic monetary goal and track other key metrics like total donors, average gift size, and donor retention. Be Specific with Your Ask: Create a clear and tangible call to action that helps donors understand the impact of their contribution. Customizing your asks based on donor history can further enhance engagement. Make It Easy to Give: Ensure your donation process is simple, whether through direct mail or online platforms. Provide multiple giving options, including stock donations or wire transfers, to accommodate all types of donors. Kari also emphasizes the importance of maintaining consistent communication throughout the year and leveraging storytelling to demonstrate your organization's impact. She shares tips on engaging your board and staff in the fundraising process, using peer-to-peer fundraising, and securing challenge matches to boost campaign momentum. Follow Kari on your favorite streaming platforms, including YouTube, Apple, and Spotify. For additional resources on organizational storytelling and tools, follow Kari on LinkedIn. Visit her website at Incite Consulting Group.  

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Feeling Down? Try the Feeling Great App for Free! The Feeling Great App is now available in both app stores (IOS and Android) and is for therapists and the general public, and you can take a ride for free! Check it  out at FeelingGreat.com! What's a Give-Get Imbalance? What's the Best Treatment for Anxiety and Dysthymia? Can you do Externalization of Voices on Your Own? The show notes for today's podcast were largely written prior to the show. Tune in to the podcast to hear the discussion of these questions by Rhonda, Matt, and David. And keep the questions coming. We enjoy the exchange of ideas with all of you. Thanks! Suzanna asks: What's a “Give-Get” imbalance? And how can you get over it? Martin asks: What's the best treatment for anxiety and dysthymia? Eoghan (pronounced Owen) asks: Can you do Externalization of Voices on your own?  1. Suzanna asks: What's a “Give-Get” imbalance? And how can you get over it? Description of Suzanna's problem. Suzanna is a woman with a grown daughter with severe brain damage due to a severe brain infection (viral encephalitis) when she was an infant. Suzanna was constantly giving of herself and catering to her daughter. She explains that her daughter can be very demanding and throws tantrums to get her way, and kind of controls the entire home in this way. She can only talk a little and has the vocabulary of about a two-and-a-half-year-old. She can mostly express the things she wants or doesn`t want on a very basic level. She mostly understands what I want from her, but mostly does not want to do what I ask her to do. She can be very stubborn. And I cannot reason with her because she has her own logic and, in her eyes, only her logic is valid. Maybe all a little bit like a two-and-a-half-year-old. Suzanna struggles with negative feelings including guilt, anxiety and depression, because she is constantly giving, giving, giving and feeling exhausted and resentful. And she tells herself, “I should be a better mum.” Can you spot any distortions in this thought? Put your ideas in the text box, or jot them down on a piece of paper, and then I'll share my thinking with you! What are the distortions in the thought, “I should be a better mum”?   There are many distortions in this thought, including All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralization, Mental Filtering, Discounting the Positive, Magnification and Minimization, Emotional Reasoning, Self-Directed Should Statements, and Self-Blame. There may be one or two more, too! The first step in change nearly always includes dealing with motivation and resistance. Suzanna decided to do a Cost-Benefit Analysis, as you can see below, and a revision of her Self-Defeating Belief, as you can see below. Another helpful step might include “No Practice,” which simply means saying “no” so you don't constantly get trapped by “giving,” as well as “giving in.” A third critically important strategy involves the mom and dad making the decision to work together as a loving team in the management of a troubled child, rather than fighting and arguing with each other, as we've discussed on previous podcasts. However, in many, or possibly most cases, the parents are not willing to do this. They are more concerned about being "right" and so they continue to do battle with each other, as well as the child who needs a more loving structure. David Cost-Benefit Analysis Self-Defeating Belief: I should be a better mum to my daughter Advantages of this belief(How does believing this help me?) Disadvantages of this belief(How does believing this hurt me?) This thought motivates me to: Put myself out. Push myself to give what I have.  Find ways to advance her development.  Find ways to involve her in everyday life. Invest myself into her and her life as much as I can, physically, emotionally and time wise. Try to find ways that my daughter can have a fulfilling life. Try hard to connect to her, her pain, her needs, her sadness and her frustration. Try to make her life as easy as possible. Try my hardest to see her world through her eyes and gain deeper understanding of how she feels. Try to understand what is upsetting her when she throws a tantrum. Stay healthy and fit to have energy for her. Try to make her life rewarding and meaningful. Fulfill my duty as a mum to my daughter who needs my support. I can feel good about myself. I satisfy other people's expectations of me.  Protects me from criticisms from my husband               I am a prisoner to my daughter. No matter how hard I try I don`t seem to make a meaningful difference to her life and to her development. I am a “Siamese Twin” to her. I cannot move or do anything if she doesn`t want to. I reason with my emotions instead of thinking rational at times. I let my daughter get away with “murder”. I find excuses for her behaviour.  I find excuses for her why she cannot behave differently. I beat up on myself when I feel I failed her. I take all responsibilities away from My daughter and make them my own. I blame myself when I cannot motivate her to do something. I blame myself when she is bored and unhappy. I feel guilty doing my own things. I feel guilty when I do not involve her in my activities. I feel guilty when I expect her to do entertain herself for a while.  I cannot live my own life. I cannot be myself at times. She rules my life, and she lives my life. I feel trapped and frustrated.  I feel I need to constantly entertain her. I feel responsible for her happiness. I feel responsible when My daughter is sad and frustrated. I feel exhausted and overwhelmed at times.  I feel unhappy and unfulfilled.           Advantages: 20 Disadvantages: 80  Semantic Method: Re write your personal value I want to be a mum to My daughter and help her along and invest myself into her. But I also want to treat myself the way I treat her. She has a “right” to live a happy and fulfilling life, but so do I. Our needs and desires are equally important and deserve the same attention and care. I can only continue to look after My daughter well if I look after myself too and take myself and my needs and desires as seriously as I do hers. There needs to be a give-get balance so that both of us can be healthy and happy and stay healthy and happy. I want to help her to slowly take new steps into independence and support her lovingly along the way.   2. What's the best treatment for anxiety and dysthymia? Hello Dr. Burns, What method of treatment would you suggest for GAD and dysthymia? 3rd wave CBT, ACT? What is best based on science? Can you recommend some books please? thank you Martin David's Reply My books are listed on my website, FeelingGood.com. They all describe my approach, which is a bit like CBT on steroids. But every patient is treated individually and uniquely, following a structured and systematic approach that facilitates rapid and dramatic change. I don't recommend “methods of treatment” or “schools of therapy” based on so-called “diagnoses,” but treat the individual with TEAM. Every session with every patient is an experiment, with precise measures at the start and end of every session. The new Feeling Great App, now available, gets a mean of 50% or more reductions in seven negative feelings, such as depression, anxiety, and more, in 72 minutes of starting to use the bot. You can check it out for free! Anxiety and depression often co-exist, and the app targets both. My book, When Panic Attacks, describes my approach to anxiety, based on four models of treatment: the Motivational, Cognitive, Exposure, and Hidden Emotion Models. If you use the search function, you can find podcasts describing those models. Also, there's a free anxiety class on this website. Thanks, Martín, for your excellent question! Best, david 3. Can you do Externalization of Voices on your own? Hi David, Long time listener of your great podcast and huge fan of your book Feeling Great. I've often heard you mention that “externalization of voices” is one of, if not the most powerful CBT techniques. I am just wondering if it is still almost as effective when done solo without a therapist i.e. the person takes on both the roles of positive and negative by recording themselves talking or similar? Also, have you any data comparing the efficacy of TEAM CBT work carried out solo using Feeling Great/your podcast as a guide vs. TEAM CBT performed with a trained TEAM therapist? I am very much looking forward to the Feeling Great app launch in the UK as hopefully that will be a much more effective way to do personal work without a therapist. Many thanks, Eoghan (pronounced Owen) David's reply Thank you, Eoghan! Appreciate your support and thoughtful question. I don't have any data on the use of EOV on your own. One could use a recording device, like your cell phone, and record  your negative thoughts in second person, “you,” and try to defeat them when you play them back, one at a time. But in my experience, people nearly always need an experienced role player to do role reversals to show them how to get to a “huge” win. People almost never get a huge win when doing it for the first time, because the therapist (in the role of positive self) can model unfamiliar strategies for the patient. Generally, a hugely successful response involves a combination of self-defense, self-acceptance, and the CAT, or counter-attack technique. And sometimes other methods as well, like Be Specific, for example Radical new learning is definitely the key to success with EOV. Now, thanks to the app, everyone can practice, since we've trained our Obie Bot to role-play with users, do role reversals, give feedback, and so forth. Great question that I will include in the next Ask David if that's okay! We are also exploring the combination of the Feeling Great App plus a trained TEAM therapist from the Feeling Good Institute in Mountain View, California. We are hoping that 1  + 1 may equal 3. Wouldn't that be awesome? What I've found when doing research is that the results are virtually always wildly unexpected! Somethings come out great, and some things come out dismally. I always tell myself that “the Lord giveth, and the Lord taketh away!” Seems to be the rule in research! Especially when you're wanting to be guided by the truth, and not so much by your hopes and expectations. Best, David

I have a love-hate relationship with tracking habits and activities. I wish I could get results and make great choices without tracking, but if I'm honest with myself, I'm WAY more consistent and focused when I do. Tracking makes me more aware of my habits, and when you measure something, you naturally try to improve it. As James Clear says, "You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems." It's those small, daily actions that lead to the big changes we want to see. Here are a few things I've learned about habit tracking: Don't Overtrack. I used to track EVERYTHING—from dates with my husband to calories and the number of times I went live on Facebook. I spent more time curating the perfect life than living it. Now, I focus on the most important habits. Remember, just because you're not tracking something doesn't mean you're not doing it Performing the Habit Might Not Be Enough.This is especially true for activities like dates with your spouse. You can go through the motions just to tick the box, or you can be more intentional and present. Assess Progress Toward Your Goal. If you're tracking calories and workouts, make sure to check your progress occasionally—whether through a weigh-in or a body composition check—to ensure your habits are moving you toward your goals. Be Specific with Your Goals. If your goal is mindful eating, for example, make it specific: aim to eat mindfully for at least one meal a day. Take Out the Drama! Tracking habits is all about DATA. Ditch the shame and guilt when you're not perfect. You'll find you're WAY more consistent when you approach tracking this way. It's OK to Take Breaks. I don't always track if I'm away or if it would be super inconvenient. Sometimes, I take weeks or even months off, and that's perfectly fine. To make habit tracking easier, I've created a Google spreadsheet that helps me track my daily habits. Send me a dm or email me: tanja@tanjashaw.com to download it! Take a listen to today's episode and I'd love to hear how it's working for you and what habits you're focusing on! Tanja x

Special Announcement #1 Attend the Legendary Summer Intensive Featuring Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt August 8 - 11. 2024 Learn Advanced TEAM-CBT skills Heal yourself, heal your patients First Intensive in 5 years! It will knock your socks off! Limited Seating--Act Fast Click for registration / more information! Sadly, this workshop is a training program which will be limited to therapists and mental health professionals and graduate students in a mental health field  Apologies, but therapists have complained when non-therapists have attended our continuing education training programs. This is partly because of the intimate nature of the small group exercises and the personal work the therapists may do during the workshop. Certified coaches and counselors are welcome to attend. Special Announcement #2 Here's some GREAT news! The Feeling Great App is now available in both app stores (IOS and Android) and is for therapists and the general public, and you can take a ride for free! Check it Today's Podcast Practical Philosophy Month Part 2, Do Humans have “Selves”? This is our second podcast in our Practical Philosophy Month. Last week, in our first episode, we focused on the “free will” question. As humans, we all feel like we have “free will,” but is it just an illusion, especially if all our actions are the result of the physical processes in our brains and the laws of the universe? The Bible certainly dealt with this in the book of Genesis, where we learn that the first humans, Adam and Eve, were given a wonderful Garden of Eden to live in, but they had to choose whether or not to obey God's rule NOT to eat the forbidden fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and evil. They chose to eat the fruit, implying that humans have free choice. But the philosophical arguments rage on. In today's podcast, we are joined by two beloved and brilliant colleagues, Drs. Matthew May and Fabrice Nye, as we explore the question of whether or not the “self” exists. We all feel like we have a “self,” but is this real or just an illusion? When you try to define your “self,” you may run into problems. For example, you might think that the “self” has to be the part of us that does not change from moment to moment, and is always ‘the same.” For example, I might think back on my childhood and feel convinced that I was the “same David Burns” then that I am now. And, if you are religious, you might also be comforted by the idea that your “self” is the same as your “soul,” and that you will therefore live on after you die. This concept of a “soul” is a core belief in many religions. But are we fooling ourselves? And what was the Buddha thinking about 2,500 years ago when we talked about enlightenment as resulting from the “Great Death” of the “self.” He seemed to be hinting that something wonderful can happen when you give up the idea that you have a “self.” In the original draft of my book, Feeling Great, I had a chapter on entitled, “Do you need a “self?” Join the Grateful Dead.” I tried to persuade readers that the existence of a “self” is nonsense, based on the philosophy of Ludwig Wittgenstein in his famous book, Philosophical Investigations. But readers found the chapter so upsetting that I decided, on their urging, to delete it from the manuscript, which I did. My goal is not to disturb people, but to provide a path to joy and to loving connections with others. But to this day, I still get emails from people asking me to offer that chapter, or to deal more deeply with this concept of the “self” vs “no self” in a podcast. So, here is my attempt today. I will start with my own take, and then summarize some of the views about the self that were expressed by Fabrice, Matt, and Rhonda during the show. Here's my thinking. There are many key questions you could ask about the concept of the “self?” including: Do we have a “self?” And if so, what is it? Does the first question even make sense? I'm sure you would agree that if a question doesn't make sense, then it isn't a “real” question, and there really isn't anything to talk about. Then we can just stop feeling frustrated and perplexed, and move on with our lives. That is the precise position that the late Wittgenstein would probably have taken. He stated that words have no ultimate or “true” meaning outside of the various contexts in which we use them in daily life. Most words have many meanings, because they are used in different ways, and you can find most of the meanings in any dictionary. So, if you think of the word, “game,” you will quickly realize that it does not have one “true” or essential meaning. It can mean a sports competition, with two teams competing against each, like soccer. But you can have two teams competing in some way other than a sport. And you don't even need two teams to have a “game.” For example, some games are played by one individual, like solitaire with a deck of cards. Or you can think about the “dating game,” or refer to “game birds,” or a “game boxer.” In short, there is not some single “correct” meaning to the word, “game.” Some uses have overlapping meanings, and some uses do not overlap at all with other uses. So, there is no point in trying to figure out if “games exist,” or what the ultimate or essential meaning is of the word, “game.” Now, how do we use the word, “self,” and what does it mean in each context? You might tell your child to behave themself. This simply means that they are misbehaving and will be punished if they don't behave more politely. You do not have to tell the child that their “self” also has to behave better, because that would be meaningless. We already told the child to change their behavior. You could ask friends, as I did this morning, if they are planning to join me on the Sunday hike. Two of them confirmed and said that “they” would join me today on our hike. I did have to ask them if they would be bringing their “selves,” because I just do not know what that would mean! They already told me they're coming to the hike. (They did come and we had a lot of fun.) In my extremely challenging freshman English class at Amherst College, we had to write two or three papers per week on odd topics. The teachers were relentlessly critical in their feedback, and would nearly always point out that we sounded incredibly phony and need to find our true voices, which came from our real selves, as opposed to the false fronts we often used to try to impress people. Almost every student got dumped on constantly! The professors weren't referring to some metaphysical “true selves.” They were just referring to the fact that our writing didn't sound natural, compelling, or vulnerable, and so forth. Our writing was, for the most part, an enormous turn-off. Most of us never could figure out quite what that class was all about, but it was useful as I became more sensitive to the “tone” or “voice” in any writing. I would have to concede that it was a sobering but helpful class. But they were not referring to some mystical “true self” we had to find. They just wanted us to stop writing in such a sucky way! So here is my point, which you might “not get.” When you keep the word, “self,” in the context of everyday life, it is obvious what it means, and it never refers to some metaphysical “thing” that we could “have” or “not have.” It is just a vague, abstract concept that is devoid of meaning when it's all by itself. A “self,” just like “free will,” is not some “thing” that we might, or might not, have. The question, “Does the self exist,” according to Wittgenstein (or his big fan David) has no meaning and so we can just ignore it. It's not a real question. It is, as Wittgenstein was fond of saying, “language that's out of gear.” Now, does this discussion have anything to do with emotional problems, or TEAM therapy? It absolutely does. That's because nearly all depression results from some version of “I'm not good enough,” including: I'm inferior. I'm a loser. I'm a “hopeless case.” I'm a failure. I'm unlovable. I'm a bad parent. I'm defective. And so forth. If you buy into these “self” condemning proclamations, thinking that they mean something, you'll probably feel depressed, ashamed, inadequate, hopeless, and more. As you can probably see, all these self-critical thoughts contain tons of cognitive distortions, like All-or-Nothing Thinking, Overgeneralization, Labeling, Mental Filtering, Emotional Reasoning, Self-Blame, Hidden Shoulds, and more And to put it in a nutshell, they ALL involve the belief that you have a “self” that's broken, or simply not “good enough.” And all of those statements are meaningless. My goal in therapy is NOT to persuade you that you ARE worthwhile, or “a winner,” or a “good” parent, but rather to show you how to let go of these meaningless but painful ways of belittling yourself. I might use techniques like Empathy, Positive Reframing, Explain the Distortions, Let's Define Terms, Be Specific, the Double Standard Technique, the Externalization of Voices, the Downward Arrow, and many more. That's because the VERY moment you suddenly “see” that these kinds of statements are both untrue and unfair, and you stop believing them, your feelings will instantly change. So, you could say that TEAM really IS a “Wittgensteinian” therapy. And when people ask me how to develop better self-esteem, I would not try to get them to discover how to have some magical and wonderful “thing” called self-esteem, because that concept is just as nonsensical as the concept of a “self.” You might say that “self-esteem,” if you want to use the term, is more about what you DO. And there are two things you can do if you want to change the way you feel. First, you can stop beating up on yourself with hostile criticisms like the bulleted statements listed above, and talk to yourself in the same encouraging way you might talk to a dear friend or loved one who was hurting. And second, you can treat yourself in a loving way, in just the same way you might treat your best friend who was coming for a visit. In other words, you can do nice things for yourself. The day my first book, “Feeling Good,” was finally published, my editor called me with some bad news. She told me that the publisher, William Morrow and Company, loses money on 9 out of 10 of the books they publish, so they decide which ones are most likely to sell, and those are the only ones they'll promote. The rest of the books go on a “loser list,” and the company does little or nothing to promote them. She said my book was #1 on their “loser list,” since the president of the company felt it had no commercial potential, and that very few people would be interest in a long book on depression. She added that the one thing they did do was to send my book to ten popular magazines for first serial rights. That means they get to publish an excerpt from your book as an article, so that stirs up some media interest in your book. Sadly, she said that all ten had turned them down. She said that I'd have to be in charge of any further marketing of my book, so I asked what I should do. She said to call all ten magazines right away and persuade them to change their minds. In a panic, I called them all, including Ladies' Home Journal, Reader's Digest, and on and on. Every magazine said the same thing—they did not want my book, had turned it down, had zero interest in it, and to please top calling since authors shouldn't call them and they considered it a form of phone harassment since they'd already made a decision. Yikes! No fun! When I jogged home from the train station that night, I shouted, “You're a loser, you're a failure.” That didn't sound so good so then I shouted, “No, you're not! You'll figure out how to make it happen! Just keep plugging away.” That sounded a lot more loving, so when I got home, I told my wife that the book at just been published and that I'd been turned down by all ten magazines for serial rights, and the publisher decided not to spend any money on marketing or advertising, so we needed to go out and celebrate. She why we would celebrate? I said, “You don't need to celebrate when you win, because you already feel great. But when you lose, that's when you need to celebrate, because you're feeling down. So, tonight we'll celebrate!” We went out for a fancy dinner and celebrated and had fun. And the rest, they say, is history. I just kept trying and getting turned down by newspapers, radio stations, television programs, and more. But eventually, the tide started to turn. To date, Feeling Good has sold more than 5 million copies and it achieved best-seller status. And the reason was that researchers discovered that the book actually had antidepressant properties, so excitement about it spread by word of mouth. I am hopeful that the new Feeling Great App will help even more people. Fabrice made some interesting and wise comments on the notion of the “self.” He said that the idea that we have a “self” is a sense that we nearly all have. Some people feel like the “self” that is located somewhere behind the eyes or in the middle of the head. But, he emphasizes, there is no such “thing” as a “self.” He has quoted someone who has “said it all,” but the statement only makes sense IF you “get it!” Here's the quote: “No Self? No Problem!” This is actually the title of a book by Chris Niebauer, PhD, and the subtitle is How Neuropsychology Is Catching Up to Buddhism. If you want to check it out, here's a link to it on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/No-Self-Problem-Neuropsychology-Catching/dp/1938289978 Fabrice emphasized that the concept of “self” is “nebulous.” He asked, “Is there a ‘David'?” He explained: You wouldn't be able to prove this in court. Well, you could show ID, but that would not be proof. Where does the information on the ID come from? Birth certificate? Who wrote the information on the birth certificate? Probably some doctor back in 1942. And where did he get that information from? Probably some caregiver said “Write ‘David' here.” Was that from a credible source? Not at all. That info was made up on the spot! Now, you can say that there's a “sense” of a David going around, and that there are some patterns that show signs of “David-ness,” but there is no “David.” Matt added that your body is not your “self.” When you break your arm, you don't say that you have broken a part of your “self.” You just say, “I broke my arm.” Rhonda raised the question of whether the “self” is just the same as “consciousness” or “awareness.” Someone in our group added that the “self” is what we DO, and not what we ARE. And, of course, what we are doing is constantly changing from moment to moment. My understanding of all of this is that once you let go of the notion that you have a “self,” you will no longer worry about whether or not you are “good enough” or “special,” or whoever. You can focus instead on living your life and solving the problems of daily living and appreciating the world around you. If you screw up, you can focus on what specific error you made, rather than obsessing about your inferior or defective “self.” You can actually welcome failure as just another teacher, so you can grow and learn, and simply accept your screw ups, or both. In fact, two of the most popular TEAM techniques for challenging the distorted thoughts in bullets above are called “Let's Define Terms” and “Be Specific.” These techniques are right out of Wittgenstein's playbook, and they are prominently featured in the “Learn” section of the new Feeling Great App. If you're feeling depressed, and thinking of yourself as a “loser” or as being “inferior” or even “worthless,” the goal is NOT to “become a ‘winner,” or more ‘worthwhile,' but rather to give up these notions as nonsensical. But once again, many people cannot “get it,” or “see it,” and that's where a caring and skillful therapist can help. Some people wrongly think that letting go of the notion that you could be “worthwhile” would mean a huge loss of something precious. Many people who don't yet “see” what we're trying to say are terrified of the “Great Death” because they think that giving up the notion that you have a “self” means giving up all hope for improvement, for joy, for intimacy, and so forth. But to my way of thinking, the truth is just the opposite. When your “self” dies, you and your world suddenly wake up and come to life. When you accept yourself and your world, exactly as they are right now, everything suddenly changes. Of course, that's a paradox. I believe that leading our patients to the “Great Death” of the “self” is like giving them the understanding and courage they need to throw some garbage in the trash instead of carrying the garbage around with them all the time! I hope some of this makes a little sense, but if not, don't worry about. Sometimes, it takes a little time before you suddenly “see it!” Thanks for listening today. We love all of you! Rhonda, Fabrice, Matt, and David

Scripture: Romans 13:8-10 Key Takeaways:  + Love is our greatest and ongoing debt + Love is the measure of our maturity John 13:34–35 (ESV) Maturity is not marked by how much of the bible you know, your church attendance, your impeccable morality, your spiritual experiences, your giftedness, even your service, or commitment to God. All those things are good, but they are nothing without love.  1 Corinthians 13:1–3 (ESV) 1 Thessalonians 3:11–13 (ESV)  “The rule of love is that one should wish his friend to have all the good things he wants to have himself and should not wish the evils to befall his friend which he wishes to avoid himself. He shows this benevolence to all men. No evil must be done to any. Love of one's neighbor works no evil. Let us then love even our enemies as we are commanded, if we wish to be truly unconquered.” St. Augustine, “Of True Religion.” Luke 6:27–36 (ESV) + Start in your home + Make this house a house of love  + Care more about being righteous than being right + Be Specific

Ask David Unfairness Worthwhileness Erasing Depression with Lasers TEAM in the UK What's the Most Powerful Technique? We have lots of great questions today. The answers in the show notes were written prior to the podcast, and the answers in the live podcast as we discussed these questions may differ somewhat or amplify the written materials in these show notes. We love your questions. Remember to send them to David@feelinggood.com. Special Announcement Attend the Legendary Summer Intensive Featuring Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt August 8 - 11. 2024 Learn Advanced TEAM-CBT skills Heal yourself, heal your patients First Intensive in 5 years! It will knock your socks off! Limited Seating--Act Fast Click for registration / more information! Sadly, this workshop is a training program which will be limited to therapists and mental health professionals and graduate students in a mental health field  Apologies, but therapists have complained when non-therapists have attended our continuing education training programs. This is partly because of the intimate nature of the small group exercises and the personal work the therapists may do during the workshop. Certified coaches and counselors are welcome to attend. But there's some good news, too! The Feeling Great App is now available in both app stores (IOS and Android) and is for therapists and the general public, and you can take a ride for free! Check it out! Today's Questions Kiernan asks about “unfairness” and the connection between worthwhileness and achievement. Brittany asks: Can you “erase” feelings of sadness and depression by shining lasers in the patient's eyes? James asks about the use of TEAM methods in the NHS in the UK Brian asks: Is positive reframing the most successful technique you have used with your patients? 1. Kieran asks (slightly edited for clarity): How would you talk back to negative thoughts like this one: “It's not fair that I can't afford quality food when there are millionaires that will have access to better food and a healthier lifestyle which has an effect on overall health and longevity'”? Or what if you feel like it's unfair that you should have to pay a lot of money for an expensive dental treatment that you can't afford? Kieran also asks (slightly edited by david): What if worthwhileness is not based on achievement but there are still things you would like to have and enjoy? They would buy and own things that they happen to like and not to impress others. Hi David and Ronda, and if Matt is on I have been listening to your wonderful podcast for about the last 3 years as I drive to work. It has really opened my eyes about how your thoughts create your interpersonal reality. Loved the podcasts on jealousy addiction, perfectionism, achievement addiction and many more. My questions would be: What about if someone wants to achieve more but it isn't based on worthwhileness? They would buy and own things that they happen to like and not to impress others. Let's say they wanted to be able to afford a nice house, healthier higher quality food and water. As the quality does have an effect on health especially in the US as the regulations are not the greatest. However, the fact that they couldn't afford to buy these upsets them? Thoughts: 'It's not fair that I can't afford quality food but there are millionaires that will have access to better food, lifestyle which has an effect on overall health and longevity' Or if someone has to pay for unexpected expensive dental treatment. Thoughts: 'It's not fair that I have to pay £14,000 for this treatment'. 'It should be more affordable to lower income households, as it is essential to have functional teeth' I hope I have explained this well, I would love to hear your thoughts. Keep doing what you are doing and all the best. Kieran   David's response Sure Kieran, if you like I will make this an Ask David question for a podcast. LMK if that's okay, and if it is okay to use your first name. Great question, and has to do with the theme of acceptance: should I or shouldn't I? Here are the quick versions, but we can discuss in more detail on the live podcast. First, I do not find it useful to base my worthwhileness on my achievements or on my failures. I do work hard and like creating things that are helpful to people, and I enjoy earning money to support my family. I can be motivated to work hard to get things we want or need, but I don't base anyone's worthwhileness on how much money they have, or anything, to be honest. In fact, I could also easily accept wanting to buy something really cool, not just because I like it, but because it might impress others, or because they might find it fascinating, too! I don't try to regulate my life with a lot of shoulds and shouldn'ts, and find that I am happier and more peaceful without lots of shoulds. In the Feeling Great App I have created a class called “Your PhD in Shoulds.” You might enjoy it! Second, you can say that it is unfair that some people have more money and resources than other people if you like. And you have every right to feel angry if that's what you want, as well. Acceptance is more of a decision than a technique. Take the fact that lions kill deer when they are hungry. You can say, “they should not do that. It's unfair!” But that won't stop a hungry lion. You don't have to LIKE seeing a lion kill an innocent deer, but you can accept it. Again, that's a choice. The behavior of a lion is dominated by millions of years of evolution. Humans are no different. One thing that sometimes helps is to make a list all the REALLY GOOD reasons NOT to accept the “unfairness” in the world. I'll bet you could come up with at least ten to fifteen strong reasons. Then you can ask yourself, “Given all those good reason NOT to accept the fact that some people have more and some people have fewer resources, maybe I should just stay good and angry! Why in the world would I want to change?” Also, when you find an injustice, you can use your energy being good and angry, and complain about it, or you can use your energy to do something about it. Or, you can also work to change yourself, instead of complaining about the world. I also have a new class on acceptance. It's called, “Accept this shit? Hell NO!” You might like it as well. I am babbling so will stop. Warmly, david   2. Brittany asks: Can you “erase” feelings of sadness and depression by shining lasers in the patient's eyes? Hi David, My husband's boss was telling him she's going to be doing some laser therapy to “cure” her depression. She had to undergo 9 hours of testing to see if she'd be a candidate. Apparently, they plan to shine lasers in her eyes to “erase” her sadness. Obviously, I assume this is a load of garbage. But have you ever heard of such a thing? Is this just hypnosis? Best, Brittany David's Reply Hi Brittany, Probably. As they say, follow the money! There is a placebo effect if you believe something will help, so tons of garbage gets served up as costly gourmet food. You can read up on this on the internet I suspect. Let me know what you learn! Best, david Brittany responds to David Love your answer! I was looking into it and read they use a cold laser in the eyes which allegedly releases endorphins. I already know from you that just like with exercise and that study about the endorphin blockers, it made no difference. People just feel better because they think they are doing something good for their body by exercising. They also allege that the lasers aid damaged neurological tissue. They claim it has helped many patients but there is no data backing it up that I see. They really lost me when I read that lack of activity, stress, and maternal deprivation cause depression in the first place. Thanks! Brittany David adds As it turns out, I know two laser experts who are regulars on my Sunday hikes. Dr. Alexander Makowski is a brilliant scientist who is involved in the research and development of lasers and their marketing. Here is his email, along with some terrific links to articles about the hype of “low light lasers.” Hope you enjoy the email and links from Alex: Hi David, I'll chime in too! From a different angle. Zak knows some great doctors who are doing real work, but the general field of low-level laser/ light therapy (LLLT) for medical issues has been fraught with charlatans for some years. (David note: Zak is a laser expert at the Stanford Medical School and is currently preparing a blog on the topic of LLLT. I will include a link to her blog when it is published, likely in a couple weeks. She is awesome and also often joins our Sunday hikes!) Dr, Alex Makowsy continues Good work by Tiina Kaaru (https://www.spiedigitallibrary.org/profile/Tiina.Karu-8010) and Juanita Anders (https://www.usuhs.edu/profile/juanita-anders-ms-phd) on mechanisms behind using light to stimulate our mitochondria or deactivate infectious bacteria are well documents However, the good work done by the few was overshadowed and worse, was perverted for many years into crackpot devices using bad stats and poorly designed studies. Or sometimes just straight preying on vulnerable people. It is the great shame of the laser industry. Worse yet, some of these devices were actual lasers that led to people getting hurt. I can't recommend in good conscience that lasers be shone into eyes at any time other than diagnostic devices meant to diagnose the eye itself. It may be that some day soon a good scientific body of evidence changes my stance but not yet... The story starts in the origin of my journey into light and lasers. I got involved in this field in 2005 while taking an elective class on optics and lasers when I got a call from my mom that she was seeking a laser therapy for her fibromyalgia. My mother's desire to get her fibromyalgia treated with a "cold laser" pulled me into this field since I was taking a class with a professor who later became my doctoral mentor. A full semester of my free time disappeared as I tried to source out of print articles and do a deep dive on whether this was real or garbage. A research term paper and a conference visit later I could finally see the same trends you saw with medication. I talked her out of the potentially dangerous unproven device usage. [As you may have suspected, In fact my mom was having significant issues in her marriage and life and a very good doctor set her straight. My mom divorced and is now happily remarried, about 95 pounds lighter, no fibromyalgia or serious insomnia. If only we had known you back then she would have recovered in a session or two rather than 3 years] However, in the process, I dug into some of the real research that small doses of light can affect our bodies in ways we don't understand fully due to lack of research. Fast forward several decades and some of the best researchers survived the public scandal of LLLT and found a scientific mechanism (cytochrome c oxidase activation) to explain observed changes in mitochondrial activity. However, the scientists don't claim to cure everything or anything. Then they published this mitochondrial activation and suddenly: This, of course, proves that blogablum does in fact exist and now the truth about the panacea is available for all!! David note: “blogablum” is a fake nonsense word I made up that refers to nothing meaningful. Now continuing with the Alex email: This is a good review of the history and current evidence about it : https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/medical-critical-thinking/hype-around-photobiomodulation But if you want the real goods, the hard truth about cold lasers has been out there for over 15 years: Introducing the New Low Level Laser Treatment! youtu.be The following search on YouTube will reveal the secrets of the universe: "cold laser before:2009" Warmly, Alexander J Makowski, Ph.D. Dr. Matt May's reply Hi David, Thank you for forwarding this question to me.  I am very concerned and wonder if this may fall under the category of 'malpractice'. For one, I am unaware of any FDA approved treatment for depression that involves shining lasers into people's eyes to erase their sad memories.  For a list of FDA approved treatments for depression, you could refer to: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK559078/ It's possible that there is new evidence I'm not aware of, but I searched online for studies of light in treatment of depression and was unable to find any placebo-controlled trials.  This is a problem because placebo responses can be so high in the case of depression and anxiety.  There were some studies on light therapy, but nothing fitting the description of 'shining lasers into eyes to erase sad memories'. Other concerns I have relate to the high cost of such an extensive “evaluation”, as well as possible risk of shining lasers into someone's eyes.  In the absence of evidence supporting the treatment, it seems like a high cost, and potential risk, to the patient, hence my concern for malpractice. It's pretty common for people with depression to feel a sense of desperation, especially after many failed efforts to address their symptoms.  This group of individuals are likely to be extremely susceptible to scams and purveyors of 'snake oil' (sham treatments). It's also concerning to me because the theory behind the idea of shining light into people's eyes to erase sadness doesn't make logical sense to me.  It's a potentially-testable hypothesis, but it's such an absurd hypothesis that I don't see it as worth testing or entertaining. If we are defining depression as some combination of worthless, hopeless, ashamed and guilty feelings, then the hypothesis that such feelings could be meaningfully addressed by such a crude instrument as a laser or a pill or an electrical impulse is absurd. This is because our feelings arise from our thoughts/perceptions.  I've never met a single person or patient who was suffering from depression but had healthy positive thoughts about themselves.  I've also never met someone who had patterns of negative thinking, but felt fine, up-beat and positive. The idea that a pill, a laser, a magnetic pulsation or electrical current could selectively alter the specific thoughts that cause depression doesn't make sense with what we know about the brain and thoughts and feelings.  How could a pill, for example, which crosses the blood-brain barrier and impacts every neuron in the brain, selectively target only the neurons that give rise to depressed thinking?  It's like imagining that we could carpet-bomb a city but only kill the murderers and rapists. I'd encourage all potential clients who are receiving treatment for depression or other conditions to ask their providers for literature that documents the effectiveness of the treatment and to get a second opinion if they are unsure. These are my 2-cents on the topic and I could be completely wrong about it all.  Hoping to hear from others what they think. Also, David, I saw several other people included in the invitation to respond to this question but I didn't see them cc'd.  Perhaps they were bcc'd? Wishing you the best, fondly, Matt David's reply to Matt Thanks, yes, I have a fantastic response already in the show notes from Dr. Alex Makowski who does research and development of lasers with valid medical applications. His thrust is similar to yours. Our field is littered with junk “scientism” intended to fool and exploit people, similar to the snake oil salespeople who use to go from town to town in America selling magical “elixirs” that “cured” just about everything! But people are endlessly gullible, and con artists are still in endless abundance these days, it seems! Best, david Will add your kind and thoughtful comment to the show notes!   3. James asks about the use of TEAM methods in the NHS in the UK. Hi Rhonda, I hope you are well. I had a couple of questions for an 'ask David' on the podcast if that's okay. A bit of background.... I am Level 1 Team and have attended David's training in Atlanta. I live in the UK and have recently changed career to work in the NHS delivering CBT interventions for patients because David's work inspired me so much. The NHS uses specific interventions for particular diagnoses and because I am in training I have to try and stick to this. I do use the TEAM materials and approach when I can and have already seen some great results. The NHS uses 'Behavioural Activation' for certain patients with Depression and I just wondered what David thought about the effectiveness of this (perhaps compared to Cognitive Restructuring). I believe Beck introduced this into the CBT model as he thought it was useful. Another question was regarding treatment of GAD and whether dividing worries between hypothetical and practical, and then using a certain time to actually worry rather than letting the worries dominate throughout the day was something he thought was useful or had heard about. Thanks so much for all the great work you are all doing and inspiring people all over the world! Kind Regards James Bibby. David's response Hi James, Thanks for the great questions. In today's recording of an upcoming Ask David podcast, we can address: The history of “Behavioral Activation,” including the pros and cons of this approach. The history and pros and cons of “Worry Breaks.” The idea of matching a “technique” to a “diagnosis,” as opposed to learning to treat the whole patient with TEAM. The results of our latest research with the Feeling Great App, and whether it might have some value for patients struggling with depression and anxiety disorders in the UK. Best, David Matt's Thots: Great question! I'm looking forward to discussing. There are certainly some techniques that are more effective, than others, for addressing specific negative thoughts. Meanwhile there are a number of problems that come up when we are, as clinicians, throwing solutions at diagnoses, rather than treating the human being who is suffering. Studies on the treatment of PTSD at the VA, for example, showed veterans often got worse after this approach, in which their diagnosis was matched with a method, ‘prolonged exposure', without any agenda-setting. This just retraumatized lots of veteran! Similarly, if someone is secretly blaming, and haven't experienced the ‘death of the blaming self', they might be assigned ‘communication skills training', only to see this backfire, because their intent is still to try to change someone, rather than accept them. You might tell a patient with depression that they should go exercise, only to cause them to resist you, ‘you don't understand, I can't even get out of bed!'. In short, most therapy fails or even makes patients worse because it doesn't consider the good reasons to continue to blame, give up, criticize ourselves, etc. 4. Brian asks: Is positive reframing the most successful technique you have used with your patients? I can see how it would cure someone in 2 hours! Feel free to use my question and do and use my name if you wish. I'd be honored. Best, Brian David's reply Hi Brian, Thanks. Great question! It's one of the latest powerful techniques, but Ext of Voices might still be the “champion.” Using them in the T, E, A, M sequence is especially powerful. Positive Reframing often gets them closer, but not quite all the way to enlightenment. Externalization of voices (EOV) often gets them over the finish line, especially if you know how to use it skillfully, incorporating Self-Defense with the Acceptance Paradox and Counter-Attack Technique! In fact, you can incorporate many of my > 100 techniques when using EOV, such as Be Specific, Semantic Technique, Examine the Evidence, and a host of other. Best, david Matt's comments I agree, Positive Reframing and Externalization of Voices are incredibly powerful and it's often what we're doing when we see recoveries. What works for a given individual, however, is quite hard to predict, in advance and there's a ‘process' to therapy, such that we can't really skip steps, except in some unusual circumstances. Some other super-powerful methods include Externalization of Resistance, Double Standard, Flooding, Feared Fantasy, and the Hidden Emotion Technique. I'm probably forgetting some. Thanks for listening today! Matt, Rhonda and David

Episode 351: Patrick Jones (https://twitter.com/pjonesbaseball) explains 6 different ways to help hitters hit slow pitching.Timestamps:[00:51] Managing Expectations[04:17] Shrinking the Zone[08:15] Overcoming the Challenge of Slow Pitching[09:48] Balancing Aggression, Exaggerating Approach, and Staying Relaxed[12:57] Be Specific[14:11] Sacrificing an At-Bat[18:47] Practice Being LateHit with us in Cincinnati, Ohio: https://www.patrickjonesbaseball.com/contactThe Hitting Chronicle Newsletter: https://www.patrickjonesbaseball.com/...Website: https://patrickjonesbaseball.comListen to the Patrick Jones Baseball PodcastiTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/patrick-jones-baseball/id1282221540Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7lHQfrNNuqleXaMzgqr1kS?si=34f7ef6c4147456bFollow us on Social MediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/pjonesbaseballTwitter: https://twitter.com/pjonesbaseballFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/pjonesbaseballLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrick-jones-b388a484/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is up, Fashion Besties! Holly Katz, your favorite personal stylist for women over 40—and we mean, way over 40—is back with another fabulous episode of the Fashion Crimes Podcast.   This week, we're charging into the chaotic world of office dress codes as many of us have returned to "Back to Work in the Office."   Based on an insightful article in the Wall Street Journal recently, we're breaking down the do's and don'ts of workplace attire in 2024.   In this episode, Holly addresses the great debate about 'crop tops' in the office. Are they appropriate? Who can wear them, and how should they be styled to keep them professional yet fashionable?   Holly shares her expert advice, drawing from personal experience and the latest fashion trends.    Spoiler alert: Holly has been rocking crop tops since she was 12 and continues to do so fabulously at 50. I mean, the crop top has gotten longer, but still a crop nonetheless! MUST DO: Find Holly's specially curated Pinterest board just for you, for this episode.     Key Highlights in This Episode     The Article that Sparked It All:   While researching the topic of dress codes, Holly came across a great article written by Jessica Roy of the Wall Street Journal titled: "Your Intern Is Wearing a Corporate Crop Top. Should You Say Something—or Join Her?"   How's that for an eyeball-stopping headline? It certainly got our attention!   Office Dress Code Apocalypse: What to do. What to wear?   So, Holly started wondering: What is the current state of office dress codes post-pandemic and how are different industries adapting (or not) to the changes?     Well, it depends on where you work:   Tech Industry: Casual wear like jeans, rec sneakers, and t-shirts can be the norm, but adding a stylish blazer can elevate the look for meetings. And accessorize!   Finance and Law: Stick to traditional dress codes with modern twists, like a sleek suit in a bold color or a dress with a fabulous printed shoe. Texture and pattern can go a long way for a stricter dress code.   Creative Fields: More flexibility allows for expressive attire, such as distressed fabrics, body art, logo tees and non-traditional work attire. Bold colors and clothing with more 'personality' is usually widely accepted.    Holly shares her views on why it's essential to redefine workplace attire standards to match the modern, flexible work environment.   Pushing past your comfort zone and expressing yourself through fashion, even if just a little, can be appropriate in a business or work environment if done tastefully.     Crop Tops in the Workplace – Yay or Nay? We know what we think, what do you think?   Are women now wearing crop tops to the office? What are people saying about that?   Well, if the comments at the end of the WSJ article are any indication, this subject seems to have caused a bit of a debate.   Holly shares her take on how, yes, you actually can style a cropped top that will accentuate your waist - AND – look professional without having half of your stomach showing. In fact, if you are worried about your midsection, wearing a shorter top or jacket will actually help you look thinner. It's fashion law. That is a fashion fact, and you can quote Holly on that all day long. Here's how to pull it together:   1.) Pair a cropped blouse with high-waisted tailored trousers and a structured blazer for a chic, office-appropriate look.  #yyaasssss   2.) Opt for a crop top that just grazes the waistband of a high-waisted pencil skirt, adding a fitted cardigan for extra coverage and sophistication. #sllllaayyyy   3.) For a more conservative approach, wear a slightly longer crop top that overlaps with high-waisted wide-leg pants, finished with a statement belt to define your waist. #ffieerrce     Pinterest Alert! Don't miss out on Holly's specially curated Pinterest board for this episode. It's packed with style inspirations and wardrobe ideas to help you nail the crop top trend at work.     Side Bar: Party Invitation Dress Codes Decoded   With the swarm of spring and summer celebrations in full swing, are you getting party invitations with dress codes mentioned?     Do you know what words like “Chic,” “Cocktail” and “Day Party” mean?   Yeah, we don't either.   Party hosts must BE SPECIFIC if they have a theme or dress code style in mind for their parties.   Most humans (not our Fashion Besties) are unclear on what proper party attire is on a good day...and can commit a fashion crime if not explained and broken down.  Party Hosts: Please tell guests in plain English what you want them to wear.   And then add a 1-800 helpline if they need clarification, because it's brave of them to ask for help in order to ensure you have the perfect party. They want to get it right. Help them.   In this part of the episode, Holly offers her insights on interpreting and adhering to dress codes on party invitations, with examples like "Aloha Chic" and "Fabulous." Here are some fashion clues for your guests:   1.) "Aloha Chic" Hawaiian shirts for men and tropical print sundresses for women. Add floral accessories or leis to complete the look. 2.) "Fabulous" Sequined dresses, statement jewelry, and sky-high heels for women; tailored suits with bold ties or pocket squares for men. Think glamorous, bougie, and over-the-top. 3.) "Cocktail Attire" Chic black dresses or elegant jumpsuits for women...(and evening jumpsuit!) paired with evening, beaded shoes and a coordinating bag. Men can opt for dark suits with crisp dress shirts and stylish shoes. Final Thoughts At the Fashion Crimes Podcast, we are here to help our Fashion Besties stop making common fashion mistakes.   Whether it's navigating office dress codes or dressing for a party, we've got you covered with tips and tricks to elevate your style game.   Remember, we are the best fashion friend you never knew you needed.   For more style tips and to join the fashion conversation, visit Holly's Pinterest Board and follow us on social media.   Catch you next time on the Fashion Crimes Podcast! Find us (subscription-free) wherever you get your podcasts, and find us on YouTube.   Stay fabulous, Fashion Besties!   - Holly Katz Your favorite personal stylist, and the hostess with the mostest.   www.fashioncrimespodcast.com

Featured Photo is Dr. Amy Huberman The Amy Story, Part 2: The Joys of Doing the Laundry! Amy and her exuberant son, Sasha, and wife, Alena Last week you heard Part 1 of the Amy session, which included T = Testing, E = Empathy, and A = Assessment of Resistance. Today, you will hear Part 2 of Amy's exciting journey from perfectionism to JOY. M = Methods We used a variety of Methods to help Amy challenge her negative thoughts, starting with the first, “I'm failing my patients.” We started with Identify and Explain the Distortions, then went to the Double Standard Technique, and ended up with the Externalization of Voices. As a reminder, you can see Amy's  Daily Mood Log at the start of her session here.. As an exercise, see how many distortions, or thinking errors, you can find in her first Negative Thought, “I'm failing my patients,“ using the list of cognitive distortions on the bottom of her Daily Mood Log. You'll find the list of the ten cognitive distortions if you click here.  After you've identified each distortion, see if you can explain two things about it: Why is this distortion in Amy's thought unrealistic and misleading? Why might it be incredibly unfair and hurtful? You'll find my list of the distortions in this thought at the end of the show notes. But don't look until you've made your list! These techniques we used were effective , as you'll hear on the podcast, especially the Externalization of Voices. You'll hear us doing role-reversals with Amy, and the method that “won the day” was the CAT, or Counter-Attack Technique, combined with the Acceptance Paradox. The Acceptance Paradox involves finding truth in a negative thought with a sense of peace or even humor. The CAT involves confronting the hostile voice in your head and tell it to go fly a kite, or other gentle but firm message You'll enjoy seeing some striking changes in Amy, as her tears and feelings of intense self-doubt are suddenly transformed into joy and laughter. Those changes created strong feelings of joy for Jill and me as well. We both have incredibly fondness and admiration for Amy, and feel great joy as well when she feels joy. Here are Amy's final scores at the end of the session. Emotions % Now % Goal % After Sad, blue, depressed, down, unhappy 80 25 0 Anxious, worried, panicky, nervous, frightened 80 20 0 Guilty, remorseful, bad, ashamed 90 5 0 Worthless, inadequate, defective, incompetent 100 15 5 Lonely, unloved, unwanted, rejected, alone       Embarrassed, foolish, humiliated, self-conscious       Hopeless, discouraged, pessimistic, despairing 90 5 0 Frustrated, stuck, thwarted, defeated 80 5 5 Angry, mad, resentful, annoyed, irritated, upset, furious       Other         The Joyous Dr. Amy! Sudden and dramatic change is pretty trippy, but it isn't much good if it doesn't last. And it won't! Negative thoughts and feelings will always return, because no one can be happy all the time. That's why some relapse prevention training and ongoing practice and refinement of what you've learned can be vitally important. In our follow-up session with Amy one week later she said she'd felt way better during the week, but did, in fact, have some relapses and had to challenge her negative thoughts again. She'd been helped a lot by the idea that it was okay to fail, to seek consultation, and learn, and that failing with patients gave us endless opportunities to learn and grow as therapists. And it was also okay not to have to listen so intently to the attempts of the negative self to put her down. In fact, our misery almost never results from our failures, but from telling ourselves that we “shouldn't” ever fail, and from punishing ourselves mercilessly when we do. One of her most exciting statements in our follow-up session was that she discovered that even something as humble as putting the dirty clothes into the washing machine could be a joyous experience without that negative voice in her brain constantly hollering at her that she wasn't good enough! Teaching points It was hard, at first, for Amy to “see” how distorted and unfair her negative thoughts were. She is an extremely intelligent, accomplished, and beloved colleague, and yet most of us cannot “see” or really “grasp” that we can be pretty mean to when we're feeling down and anxious. I have often said that feeling anxious and depressed is a lot like being in a deep hypnotic trance, telling yourself and believing things that just aren't true. For example, Amy is doing beautiful work with the great majority of her patients, and is doing the exact same thing with the patients who are responding beautifully as she is with the two who are stuck. So, when she tells herself she's a failure, she's clearly involved in All-or-Nothing Thinking. In other words, she's thinking that if she's not perfect, she's a complete failure and a fraud. She also seems to have many Hidden Shoulds (e.g. I SHOULD be able to help every single patient quickly) and Mental Filtering (focusing only on the negatives) and Discounting the Positive (ignoring the positives, as if they didn't count.) The techniques that were the most helpful for Amy were Positive Reframing: that's where we pointed out the positive aspects of Amy's Negative Thoughts and feelings. The Externalization of Voices with Self-Defense, the Acceptance Paradox, and the CAT. Be Specific: Amy was Labeling herself as a “fraud” and a “failure,” and she was Overgeneralizing from two patients to her entire self and career. Jill emphasized Be Specific. In other words, focus on and accept what's real. What's real is that Amy has been valiantly struggling to help two patients who are stuck. She can just accept that, and get some consultation and guidance from a colleague, which would probably help her get unstuck. So, instead of labelling yourself as “a failure” and “a fraud,” which are just mean, vague words, you can tell yourself that you have a specific problem—in Amy's case, getting stuck with two very anxious patients. Then you can focus on getting some help in solving that specific problem—for example, by seeking consultation from a colleague. Jill said that's what she does when she gets stuck. I used to do that every week, especially when I was first learning cognitive therapy. Getting stuck, then, can simply be an opportunity for growth and learning cool new tools. If we never got stuck, we'd never learn anything new! The very moment Amy stopped believing her negative thoughts, her feelings instantly and dramatically changed. That change happened suddenly, over the course of about 30 seconds, and you can SEE it in her face and hear it in her voice. But it won't last forever! Jill pointed out that the belief at the root of Amy's problem was Perfectionism, and the idea that “I should know exactly what to do with all of my patients.” That may be a pleasant fantasy, and it might even motivate us to work hard and achieve, but it's also a recipe for misery! Follow-up Rapid recovery is great, but will it stick? You will hear excerpts from our brief follow-up session one week later for Relapse Prevention Training. The idea is that none of us can feel happy forever, and negative thoughts will creep back into our minds sooner or later. However, you can anticipate this and prepare for it by challenging your negative thoughts with the same techniques that helped you the first time you improved. That's because the details will usually be different every time you're upset, but the pattern of self-critical negative thoughts will usually be the same. And this DID happen to Amy, just as it will happen to you. But this was an opportunity for her to deepen her understanding of perfectionism and to refine and enhance her ability to respond to her negative thoughts. During the weeks following the recording of this podcast, Amy found that she experienced some resistance to using the counterattack technique. She began to feel like she was relating to her perfectionism as an enemy and attacking it—and in doing so, was discounting all the good in it, including the values that came shining through during the Positive Reframing. She found that a better fit for her, instead of the counterattack, was to disarm her perfectionistic thoughts by seeing the truth in them. In fact, you could view this as yet another form of acceptance. When she did this, the perfectionistic voice in her head naturally backed down and gave her the space to do what matters to her unencumbered by self-criticism. I thought it was cool when she described experiencing waves of joy while doing the laundry—an activity that had always felt like a chore to her before, when it was accompanied by thoughts like “I should have finished this laundry days ago.”   She discovered that without beating up on herself, something as humble as doing the laundry could be incredibly rewarding! After our follow-up meeting, I got a lovely email from Amy about the joys of giving up the need for perfection, and sent this follow-up reply to Amy: Thank you, Amy, you are the BEST! I did a four-day intensive in San Antonio years ago with a small group of about 25 therapists. As you know, I always BS and say “As the Buddha so often said . . . “ followed by something goofy or quasi-mystical or whatever, and most people seem to kind of like that and see it as fun or humorous or whatever. Well, I was doing that at the workshop, and at one of the breaks a woman approached me and said she was interested in my Buddhist remarks because she had been raised as a Buddhist in an Asian country where Buddhism is prominent. I panicked and thought I'd been found out and exposed as a fraud. She went on to say that their family gave up Buddhism, however, and she was sad. I asked why they gave up Buddhism, and she explained that her mother suffered from severe depression, and the Buddhists taught that's because you think you “need” things, and if you're a good Buddhist you won't think that way and you won't ever suffer. Since she suffered, she felt like a failure as a Buddhist, so the family gave up Buddhism. I told her that she might not be aware that there are actually two schools of Buddhism. There's low-level Buddhism and high-level Buddhism. In low-level Buddhism, you're not allowed to want or need anything, and you're not allowed to suffer. That's sounds like that was the school of Buddhism your family was raised in. But there's another type of high-level Buddhism. In high level Buddhism you're allowed to suffer and struggle, and screw up, and fail, and all sorts of stuff. She got animated and said, “I didn't know that. Thank you so much. You've restored my faith in Buddhism, and I can't wait to tell my mother!” Aside from my being elderly and half-demented, I hope that makes some sense in light of our work together with Jill! So, if you need any translation or explanation, Amy, I'm inviting you to join the high-level Buddhist therapist group where you're allowed to screw up with some of your patients, or even many! Warmly, david Subsequent Follow-Up I forgot to tell you what happened to Amy's two “stuck patients.” Well, she got some consultation about why these patients might be stuck, which is nearly always an Agenda Setting problem—the therapist is working harder than the patient due to the need to “help,” and this plays into the patient's ambivalence. This struck a chord, and Amy was very excited to see her patients again, and both suddenly got “unstuck,” although in somewhat different ways. And that is why I call it the Acceptance Paradox. The moment YOU change, and accept yourself, your world will also change! Or, to put it differently. We often see the world as “different” or as “other,” thinking we are separated. The Buddhists see the world as “one,” and that is certainly true in therapy as well. Answers to the Quiz Question David's list of Distortions in Amy's Negative Thought: “I'm failing my patients.” 1.     All-or-Nothing Thinking. This is not realistic because Amy is not stuck with all of her patients. And even though she's still far short of her hopes for these two patients, they may feel they are getting lots of TLC and support from Amy. 2.     Overgeneralization. This is misleading because she's overgeneralizing from her two failures to her “self,” and labeling herself as “a fraud and a failure.” She also overgeneralizing to the future, thinking things will never change or improve so she should get a new career. 3.     Mental Filtering. She only focusing on the two patients who are stuck. 4.     Discounting the Positive. She's overlooking the fact that she's going excellent work with a great many people, and has tremendous integrity, skill, and commitment to her patients. 5.     Magnification and Minimization. She's kind of blowing things out of proportion, although it's always good to focus on patients who aren't yes improving. 6.     Emotional Reasoning, She FEELS like a failure so thinks she IS a failure. 7.     Hidden Should Statement. She thinks she SHOULD be perfect! 8.     Labeling. Same as Overgeneralization. See above. 9.     Self-Blame. She's blaming herself instead of loving herself and focusing on getting she help she needs and deserves! Thanks for listening today! Rhonda, Amy, and David  

EPISODE ELEVEN Leadership Essentials: Delegation SUMMARY Delegation is something that so many leaders struggle with. They have a mindset that they can do a task better than their colleagues so they retain it. Invariably they recognise they should train staff to enhance their skills and subsequent ability to execute the task, but do not feel they have the time. James shares six steps to help every leader master this critical leadership essential.KEY TAKEAWAYS PREPAREReview your To Do List and ask yourself what can I delegate, delete and do?Without taking the time to ask and reflect on this simple question you are left with one huge and ever expanding To Do List.ASSIGNYou have colleagues with a range of competencies. Reflect and decide who is best placed to help you with the task in hand.BE SPECIFIC A lack of clarity dooms delegation to failure. Be very clear and specific about what result you desire. Ensure your colleague is clear on the outcome. Encourage them to ask as many questions as they need to establish that clarity. Finally ensure they have the resources they need to execute effectively. DO NOT MICROMANAGE You must have trust in your people. To micromanage implies that you do not. It is a sure fire way to frustrate and erode creativity. You have set the destination (result) you expect and get out of the way and let them show you how they intend to get there. FEEDBACK It is essential to spend time reviewing the delegated work and providing feedback to the individual who delivered it. This often neglected step is invaluable. It allows you to educate and train your colleague so they can improve future execution. It also highlights any gaps in your delivery in the ‘Be Specific' step. These learnings, when implemented, significantly increase the success of delegation which naturally improves leaders' willingness and ability to delegate.GRATITUDEUnderstanding the complex needs and demands of your boss is not always straightforward. People usually have a lengthy ´To Do List´ prior to the arrival of this newly delegated task! You can create a sense of overwhelm and frustration when you delegate.A leader needs to recognise that and be genuine in expressing their gratitude for the support they receive form their colleague.CONNECT & CONTACT Website www.thelonelyleader.co.ukThe Lonely Leader's LinkedIn James' LinkedInInstagramEmail: hello@thelonelyleader.co.uk THIS SHOW WAS BROUGHT TO YOU BY LONELY LEADER MEDIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You tried Chat GPT once to create content for your real estate business, but the copy didn't turn out how you wanted. AI technology is worthless, and you're better off doing everything yourself. Before you do, listen to this Real Estate AI Flash Podcast episode first. Co-hosts Jimmy Burgess and Rajeev Sajja discuss the practical strategies for real estate professionals to leverage AI, particularly Chat GPT, to enhance their business operations.  They provide valuable insights into eight key ways agents can maximize the potential of Chat GPT. Discover Chat GPT prompts in this episode to help you utilize this AI technology effectively. 1. Be Specific and Clear Jimmy emphasizes the importance of being specific and clear when interacting with Chat GPT.  He advises real estate professionals to articulate their prompts with precise details, ensuring that they provide specific instructions and questions tailored to the desired outcomes.  By doing so, agents can enhance the quality of the responses they receive from Chat GPT, thus optimizing its efficiency. 2. Setting Context and Scope Rajeev emphasizes the significance of providing adequate background information and context when engaging with Chat GPT.  Real estate professionals can guide Chat GPT to deliver relevant and accurate responses aligned with their objectives by outlining the task at hand and the intended scope of the conversation. 3. Utilizing Relevant Jargon and Keywords Jimmy and Rajeev highlight the importance of using industry-specific jargon and keywords when communicating with Chat GPT.  With language and terms that resonate with the real estate industry, agents can ensure that AI technology understands their queries and delivers tailored, industry-relevant analysis. 4. Leveraging Brainstorming Rajeev encourages the use of Chat GPT for brainstorming purposes.  Real estate professionals can harness the AI's capabilities by posing open-ended questions and seeking innovative ideas and suggestions.  Engaging in dialogue with Chat GPT can help agents generate fresh and valuable business ideas by tapping into their creativity and problem-solving abilities. 5. Step-by-Step Instructions Jimmy emphasizes the value of seeking step-by-step instructions from Chat GPT, particularly when learning new processes or outlining strategic plans.  Agents can benefit from the AI's ability to provide structured and actionable recommendations tailored to their specific objectives by requesting detailed, sequential guidance for tasks. This is great for making content such as marketing campaigns or property listings. 6. Leveraging Examples and Scenarios The discussion underscores the significance of requesting examples and scenarios from Chat GPT.  Real estate professionals can gain practical insight into complex concepts by provoking AI to elucidate abstract concepts and provide examples. 7. Seeking Clarifications and Follow-Ups Jimmy highlights the value of seeking clarifications and follow-ups in interactions with Chat GPT.  Through iterative dialogues and refined responses, agents can better use AI's ability to adapt and respond, ultimately improving the quality of the information provided. 8. Feedback and Iteration Rajeev discusses how to provide feedback and iterate the conversation with Chat GPT.  Real estate professionals can effectively guide the AI's learning process by offering feedback on its responses, refining their prompts, and engaging in an iterative exchange. This will foster continuous improvement and alignment with their specific preferences and objectives. Using these eight strategies above, real estate agents can harness the power of Chat GPT to enhance their decision-making, creative imagination, and strategic planning process. As a result, you'll increase your business performance and productivity.  Subscribe to Real Estate AI Flash for more practical insights and strategies to leverage AI technologies for your real estate business. Leave a review and share this episode with fellow agents to empower the real estate community with actionable AI-driven solutions. "The world in the future is not as much for intelligent people, but people that can ask the right questions." - Rajeev Sajja.  Resources http://www.realestateaiflash.com  Jimmy Burgess YouTube Channel Jimmy Burgess on Instagram  Jimmy Burgess on LinkedIn Rajeev Sajja on LinkedIn  Rajeev Sajja on Instagram Rajeev Sajja on Facebook

In this episode of Nicky and Moose, they discuss how to identify & be successful in your niche.  What You Will Learn Importance of marketing and branding.  How to find your niche & make your brand successful.   How to sustain your niche. Creator Of The Week Willie Moore Jr.  A talented radio host personality who has intense & transparent conversations on his podcast platform. He is also a speaker who inspires people to achieve success on all levels.  How To Identify Your Niche 1) Get started!  Your niche will emerge afterwards. Identify your target audience and begin completing the necessary work.  2) Five Questions To Consider For Your Niche Digital friendly? Does it have competition? What's the size of audience? What's the popularity of search? Does it have long term potential? Do the necessary research to determine the longevity.  3) Be Specific! Narrow down your demographic you'd like to target.  Develop a solution to fix a problem.  4) Know Your Competition Complete a competitor research analysis.  Identify & understand the strengths of others to find an edge in your lane.  Niche Questions Is it worth your time? Can you monetize your niche? Question Of The Week Is it better to partner with friends on a business, or outsource someone? Listener Perks 1) Sponsored By Ecamm Live: An all-in-one live streaming & video production studio. With Ecamm Live, video creation is easy, professional, and fully customizable. If you can think it, you can create it in Ecamm Live. Try it for free www.nickyandmoose.com/ecamm 2) Deeper Than The Brand is a content creator community that prepares you for success in a building and sustaining a successful brand. Head over to deeperthanthebrand.com to learn more and get started today! 3) Striving to be the best we can is an on going journey. Having the blueprint of ourselves makes that goal more sustainable. Head over to flightassessment.com to learn your personality superpower and how to use it for successfully.

We have to be so real with ourselves in love before aligning with the person of our dreams. All that we desire from love exists only when we can Be Specific about what those desires are.

We have to be so real with ourselves in love before aligning with the person of our dreams. All that we desire from love exists only when we can Be Specific about what those desires are.

It's the first day of Spring! Happy Magpie season! I really enjoyed today's chinwag with Adam Forbes from Blake Oliver Consulting.It is always fun to chat to Recruiters who are fairly early into their career (1.5 years in Adam's case)As always, Adam has had an interesting Career journey. A plumbing apprentice, that moved into a Sales role due to a football injury, and now has become a successful consultant in the Insurance Industry.We have a great chat about the experience of becoming a Recruitment consultant and Adam's key learnings so far. "Be Personal, Be Relevant and Be Specific" is his motto.A really lovely episode. Enjoy!Join RUBBERBAND today!

Now that we know the importance and power that feedback can have we must learn to deliver it in the most effective manner possible. In this second episode of our three part series on feedback, host Emily Sander breaks down eight specific guidelines to follow when giving feedback for it to be received and used most effectively. – – – – – Address Issues in Private, Praise in Public (00:25) Give Feedback in Real Time (01:00) Speak For Yourself (01:55) Emphasize How Actions Affect the Team (02:15) Be Sincere (03:10) Be Specific (04:00) Repeating Positive Feedback (07:55) Saying Something is Better Than Nothing (09:15) – – – – – Emily Sander is a C-suite executive turned leadership coach. Her corporate career spanned Fortune 500 companies and scrappy startups. She is an ICF-certified leadership coach and the author of two books, An Insider’s Perspective on the Chief of Staff and Hacking Executive Leadership. Emily works with early to senior executives to step into effective leadership with one-on-one coaching. Go here to read her story from seasoned executive to knowledgeable coach. To learn more about Emily and Next Level Coaching, click here. Follow Emily on: Twitter | LinkedIn | YouTube

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What do all successful businesses in 2022 have in common? They all do content marketing. They create content that's helpful to their audience, content that solves problems and adds value to people's lives.With all the content being shared on the internet, you may think it's hard to build your online presence and be noticed by the people you want to reach. So before you start creating content, you have to keep this in mind: BE SPECIFIC. Be specific with what the content is about, who it's meant to help, and what words to use so that people can find you when they search for you on different platforms.This week's Limitless episode features Kelsey Raymond, the CEO of Influence & Co., and she has super valuable tips for everyone who wants to build their audience and boost their online presence by creating quality content.Connect with Kelsey on Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelseymeyer1Follow Kelsey on Twitter - https://twitter.com/kelsey_m_meyer?lang=enInfluence & Co. Website - https://www.influenceandco.com/

Are you terrified of public speaking? Do you break out in a cold sweat at the thought of having to stand in front of a group and talk? If so, don't worry - you're not alone. Here are some tips, tricks and strategies you can use to become a powerful presenter. Speak from the Heart The best way to give a good speech is to be authentic and genuine. If you believe in what you are saying, it will show in your voice and body language. People will be able to feel it.   Be Specific with Your Intent What do you want your audience to remember after hearing your presentation? What do you want them to think or do differently as a result of hearing you speak? Write it Out One of the best ways to ensure that your presentation is well-organized and flows smoothly is to write it out. This doesn't mean that you need to memorize every word but having a general outline will help to keep you on track. Don't read your speech, if necessary, just read the lead sentences that you write on a three-by-five card. You should understand your speech so well that you could explain it to an eight-year-old.   Be Present & Connect with your Audience When you're giving a presentation, it's important to be present and to connect with your audience.  Connect with your audience in the first 60 seconds and then engage them throughout your presentation. Make eye contact with individuals throughout the room and try to establish a rapport. This will help to keep people engaged and interested in what you're saying.   Room Set Up The way you set up the room can have a big impact on how well your presentation is received. Arrive early and take a look at the room so that you can determine the best way to set up. The worse thing that can happen to you is when they put the bright lights in your eyes and black out the audience. As a speaker, it is important that you see the faces of your audience. It makes a difference.   Learn & Apply Strategies Public speaking can be improved with experience. However, there are strategies you can use to make sure your presentation a success even if you are just starting out. Try to be your authentic self and speak like you normally would to your audience. Look at them in the eye and address them directly. If you are speaking to a large audience, look at one person then another before moving on. Increase Confidence with Practice   You can increase your professionalism and confidence when giving a presentation by eliminating the Uhms, Ahs and pauses in your presentation.  In order to this... Try to pause when emphasizing points. This will help to make your presentation smoother and more polished. The key is to know your subject and what you want to say. Practice, practice, practice. Impact Your Audience Through Personal Stories Personal Stories will help you to engage your audience, deliver a more entertaining presentation, and help people to retain your message better.  By delivering key points through a story, you can help people to relate and apply the message you are communicating. Closing your Presentation When you're closing your presentation... Be sure to review the main points that you want your audience to remember. Remind your audience what they can do now that they've heard your presentation? Ask them for one idea that they can use NOW. In two weeks. In one month. Give them a Call to Action End on a positive note.   Giving a presentation can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn't have to be. By following these tips, you can give a powerful presentation that connects with your audience and leaves them wanting more.   Make sure you like and subscribe to our podcast & don't forget to go hit us up on our Facebook & Instagram Page or more importantly share this episode with someone you know.

Are you terrified of public speaking? Do you break out in a cold sweat at the thought of having to stand in front of a group and talk? If so, don't worry - you're not alone. Here are some tips, tricks and strategies you can use to become a powerful presenter. Speak from the Heart The best way to give a good speech is to be authentic and genuine. If you believe in what you are saying, it will show in your voice and body language. People will be able to feel it.   Be Specific with Your Intent What do you want your audience to remember after hearing your presentation? What do you want them to think or do differently as a result of hearing you speak? Write it Out One of the best ways to ensure that your presentation is well-organized and flows smoothly is to write it out. This doesn't mean that you need to memorize every word but having a general outline will help to keep you on track. Don't read your speech, if necessary, just read the lead sentences that you write on a three-by-five card. You should understand your speech so well that you could explain it to an eight-year-old.   Be Present & Connect with your Audience When you're giving a presentation, it's important to be present and to connect with your audience.  Connect with your audience in the first 60 seconds and then engage them throughout your presentation. Make eye contact with individuals throughout the room and try to establish a rapport. This will help to keep people engaged and interested in what you're saying.   Room Set Up The way you set up the room can have a big impact on how well your presentation is received. Arrive early and take a look at the room so that you can determine the best way to set up. The worse thing that can happen to you is when they put the bright lights in your eyes and black out the audience. As a speaker, it is important that you see the faces of your audience. It makes a difference.   Learn & Apply Strategies Public speaking can be improved with experience. However, there are strategies you can use to make sure your presentation a success even if you are just starting out. Try to be your authentic self and speak like you normally would to your audience. Look at them in the eye and address them directly. If you are speaking to a large audience, look at one person then another before moving on. Increase Confidence with Practice   You can increase your professionalism and confidence when giving a presentation by eliminating the Uhms, Ahs and pauses in your presentation.  In order to this... Try to pause when emphasizing points. This will help to make your presentation smoother and more polished. The key is to know your subject and what you want to say. Practice, practice, practice. Impact Your Audience Through Personal Stories Personal Stories will help you to engage your audience, deliver a more entertaining presentation, and help people to retain your message better.  By delivering key points through a story, you can help people to relate and apply the message you are communicating. Closing your Presentation When you're closing your presentation... Be sure to review the main points that you want your audience to remember. Remind your audience what they can do now that they've heard your presentation? Ask them for one idea that they can use NOW. In two weeks. In one month. Give them a Call to Action End on a positive note.   Giving a presentation can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn't have to be. By following these tips, you can give a powerful presentation that connects with your audience and leaves them wanting more.   Make sure you like and subscribe to our podcast & don't forget to go hit us up on our Facebook & Instagram Page or more importantly share this episode with someone you know.

Have you checked your mental health lately? Leslie brought some GREAT questions you should be asking yourself if you aren't feeling things lately. Maybe you don't feel enough joy as you feel you should. If that is the case, take a few minutes to ask yourself these questions and dive in with us as we discuss this today. It's the end of June, which means we are halfway thru 2022. Mentally, are you okay? How are you talking to yourself? Who are you around and following on social media? What and how is your confidence level? Because how your portray yourself, is how other perceive you. What are your standards/boundaries and how are you setting them? Did you set any goals for 2022, what have you achieved from your list? How did you set your goals for the year? Here are a few tips on setting goals and NO its not too late to set some goals, boundaries and standards for 2022, at least for the rest of it. Tips for setting goals: 1. Choose a goal(s) that are worthwhile and make YOU HAPPY. 2. Make them achievable- Be realistic. 3. Be Specific. So Specific. If you are the praying the type, Pray about them and PRAY SPECIFIC! 4. Commit to them. 5. Tell people about them. Accountability is a beautiful thing. 6. Prioritize the goals. Don't be afraid to put them in order by what's more important or more achievable first. 7. Make the REAL to you—again, be realistic. 8. Set deadlines to push you to reach them. 9. Take time to step back and evaluate your goals. Are they working for YOU? 10. Last, but most important (we think) Reward yourself when you reach a goal! Did you reach the first one? CELEBRATE you and the fact that you did it! That will help you be more encouraged to keep going. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today's episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life) Please join us and help us build it. https://www.facebook.com/groups/107794994826764/ Leslie's Social Media: IG: https://instagram.com/_herostartswithher_?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= FB: https://www.facebook.com/herostartswithherblog/ (Hero starts with Hero with Leslie) Stephanie's Social Media: IG: https://instagram.com/mrs_smz_?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= FB: https://www.facebook.com/momma.FGF/ (Live a faithful balanced Life with Stephanie) Encouraging verses for daily life and maybe some we mentioned in today's episode: Psalm 139:14 You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Proverbs 21:5 The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance. 2 Chronicles 15:7 But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded. Philippians 3:14 I press on toward the goal for the price of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. We want to hear from YOU!! Please email us with topics, that you might want us to talk about. Things we can dive into WITH YOU. Email us feedback on how we can improve and what you want to hear. We are here because of YOU and for YOU. We love being transparent with you all and we hope you will consider writing us because we love hearing from you and hearing your stories. EMAIL BELOW: chatwithlesandsteph@hotmail.com Until next time guys.

Host Julie Hood shares 5 tips for creating online course titles that work to find your prospective students and get them intrigued in your course.   LINKS MENTIONED Be sure to come join us for the Topic and Title Challenge starting May 23, 2022! Mark your calendar for a week of FREE training with Julie and sign up here:    https://coursecreatorshq.com/PodcastTTC  The next round of the 24 Hour Course Creator starts June 6, 2022. Get the scoop here:http://24HourCourseCreator.comSearch the Trademark Databases:  United States and United Kingdom KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR ONLINE COURSE CREATORS  Your goal is to create curiosity and intrigue!1 - Include WHO your course is for:   "24 Hour Course Creator" 2 - Use Alliteration & Rhyming:  "Topic and Title Challenge" 3 - Be Specific. 4 - Use Active, Dynamic Words with Numbers:  “The Organized Writer: 30 Days to More Time, More Money & Less Frustration”5 - Have a Promise:  “How to Have an Incredible Memory: Learn Everything and Anything - Faster & Easier!”Bonus Tip - Add a Subtitle.COME VISIT!  Sign up for my email list and get this free course  Is My Course Idea Any Good? here: https://www.coursecreatorshq.com/idea      GoodPods Let's talk about this episode on GoodPods – https://CourseCreatorsHQ.com/goodpods (mobile only, download the app first) Clubhouse Connect with me on Clubhouse for FREE masterclasses at @JulieHood. Website https://www.CourseCreatorsHQ.com Facebook https://www.facebook.com/CourseCreatorsHQ Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/CourseCreatorsHQ Twitter https://www.Twitter.com/CourseHQ 

Effective feedback is one of the most valuable things a laboratory leader can give. According to a study, 96% of employees say they want to hear feedback regularly. The use of effective feedback comes with significant benefits such as reducing staff turnover, providing better business outcomes, and increasing productivity.  By providing feedback, laboratory leaders can improve their own skills while also helping their team members grow. By giving and receiving feedback in a safe and positive environment, medical laboratory professionals can improve their work, learn new techniques, and build productive relationships. In today's episode, Tywauna Wilson gives three easy steps of how you can give feedback that gets results and keeps your team engaged.  Step #1 - Be PositiveStep #2 - Be Specific and ObjectiveStep #3 - Give Actionable AdviceDiscover the leader in you! Reflection Questions Do I have a continuous turnover of members leaving my team? How often do I give feedback? What type of feedback do I give most often? Is it helpful for the receiver? Call to ActionWE would love to feature YOU!!! Share your favorite takeaway from today's episode or anyone from this season: Video ReviewBe an eLABorate Supporter!  Listen on directimpactbroadcasting.com, Spotify, Apple Podcast, or your favorite podcast platform Don't forget to subscribe to the show on your phone, tablet, or notebook so you never miss an episode!  Be sure to leave a comment, and share it with fellow medical laboratory professionals! Join our eLABorate Topics Group on LinkedIn Leave us a Video Review and we will feature you on our Social Media: Video Review Be a Guest on our show!If you have a leadership or laboratory message to share and would like to be a guest on the show, please reach out to us by completing the guest interest form or send us an e-mail us at elaboratetopics@directimpactbroadcasting.com.Please tune in next week to hear another amazing episode of eLABorate Topics!

We are back at the top of the year which means the Daniel Fast! You can do the Daniel Fast to really support your holistic health goals. It can be a spiritual, health, social, or economic cleanse. What are you going to fast from? Who are you going to fast from? Join Sinclair Theee Health Nerd and De'Von Truvel creator of Black Wall Street the Board Game as they talk about their fasting journey, new habits they are forming for the year, things and people they are staying away from, and more. Join Live to ask your questions or share your goals for the year. Like and Subscribe to support What is your #1 goal for the year? Be Specific. Free 30 Min Health Coaching sessions https://www.truehealth4ever.com/ Business Coaching available email for more information coaching@playblackwallstreet.com Get Black Wall Street the Board Game https://www.playblackwallstreet.com/ Subscribe to receive notifications. Connect with us on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/truehealth4ever/ True Health 4ever is a lifestyle promise to live our best lives and pass on healthy habits to our children. Join this promise and live your best life with us. De'Von and Sinclair are Black YouTubers promoting Black Health. You can find our journey and thoughts on this channel or on our blog. We hope to hear your stories and learn from you as well. Let's do it together. Blessings. https://www.truehealth4ever.com/ https://www.playblackwallstreet.com/ #goalsetting #danielfast #2022goals Blessings. Stay Healthy, Stay Mentally Wealthy, Stay True. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/truehealth4ever/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/truehealth4ever/support

In this Part 2 episode Frankie goes more in depth about language, tone and the best way to communicate to get your needs met from your spouse or partner. Frankie explains men say they don't like direction but they need specific direction. Men truly do want to please us so BE SPECIFIC. Frankie goes on to explain her Tuesday nights with her husband John and why they are so important. Frankie also suggests when you are angry and upset with your spouse to take a minute away and call a friend to help talk you through it instead of yelling at your spouse in anger. Language is important and you need to decide together as a couple the best words to use when you need a time out to discuss something.Please direct all comments and questions to iamperfectlyfrank.com. Special thanks to Veterans Van Lines Moving Service Call (248) 889-8888 or go to veteransvanlines.com To book Services with Frankie such as Life Coaching, an Intuitive Session, or FNMAT go to her website iamperfectlyfrank.com 

This week, we're ditching our normal format for a late-night episode with our girl, Adrianne Michelle. The drinks were flowing, so the language was loose…but isn't what when the best girl talk happens?01:11 – Ashley + Ashley are hanging with Adrianne Michelle - celebrity hairstylist, entrepreneur extraordinaire, and all-around Boss. The ladies discuss sharing your space, overstaying your welcome, and all those habits it's hard for a single girl to break.20:35 – You would not believe how many men are out here hiding kids. Adrianne shares her theory on why it takes at least three years to fully evaluate a man and how much you can actually trust him with the mother of his children.27:41 – Be careful what you wish for. Most importantly, BE SPECIFIC. The ladies discuss the dos and don'tsof manifesting your heart's desire.36:46 – Question Time! Ashley, Ashley, and Adrianne are discussing women who have their s**t together and how that may or may not threaten men.Follow the show:www.askashleypodcast.com @askashleypodcast on InstagramAsk Ashley on YouTubeAsk Ashley on FacebookPick up the merch:Shop Ask AshleyFollow Ashley W:www.dearyoungqueen.com@dearyoungqueen on InstagramFollow Ashley N:@ashleynorthstyle on InstagramFollow Adrianne:@haute_headz on Instagramwww.adriannemichelle.comThis episode is presented by Dear Young Queenwith production by Due South Media©2022 Dear Young Queen

Writing down your goals alone will increase the chances of you accomplishing your goals. Do it, it's free! Are you ready to take your goals to the next level? Under Construction is about helping you be intentional around setting and achieving your goals. Under Construction Worksheet available on our website. Join Sinclair Theee Health Nerd and De'Von Truvel creator of Black Wall Street the Board Game as they talk about their goals for the year and how they plan to achieve them. This episode will go through identifying your goals, creating a routine, building habits, and finding accountability partners. Like and Subscribe to support What is your #1 goal for the year? Be Specific. Free 30 Min Health Coaching sessions https://www.truehealth4ever.com/ Business Coaching available email for more information coaching@playblackwallstreet.com Get Black Wall Street the Board Game https://www.playblackwallstreet.com/ Subscribe to receive notifications. Connect with us on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/truehealth4ever/ True Health 4ever is a lifestyle promise to live our best lives and pass on healthy habits to our children. Join this promise and live your best life with us. De'Von and Sinclair are Black YouTubers promoting Black Health. You can find our journey and thoughts on this channel or on our blog. We hope to hear your stories and learn from you as well. Let's do it together. Blessings. https://www.truehealth4ever.com/ https://www.playblackwallstreet.com/ #goalsetting #entrepreneurship #2022goals Blessings. Stay Healthy, Stay Mentally Wealthy, Stay True. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/truehealth4ever/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/truehealth4ever/support

Goals are so much fun! That said, goals can turn into guilt bombs if we don't take them seriously. In this series, "More Joy & Abundance for Busy Moms," MomsTown365 hosts, Mary Goulet & Heather Reider share the 3 goal-setting strategies they use for turning their dreams into reality.

You can watch this episode on YouTube.com: https://youtu.be/BqTCvNIqdMo View a house on Tuesday, offer on Friday, it's accepted on Monday — Fridge is included, but they replace the fridge with a cheap one on Saturday. Which fridge is included? The Utah state REPC stipulates which fridge you get!  0:49 - Announcement! We're doing the HOT WINGS challenge, where we eat progressively hotter wings while we talk real estate. Stay tuned for date and episode! 1:37 - Aric's story: buyers went walk through a house on a Tuesday, they thought about it for a few days, wrote an offer on Friday, Monday the offer is accepted. When as that contract BINDING?  2:52 - Contract is binding at acceptance, which is important if something changes between when the buyers walked through and the time an offer is accepted. Are the sellers wrong? Are they misleading? Legally no, ethically...maybe. The contract is binding from the time of acceptance until the time of settlement (not before acceptance).  5:05 - Aric's section 11 story: buyers get property under contract with a fast close in a couple weeks.  They walk through the home the night before settlement and find the "nice" fridge is missing. There's a hole in the wall that wasn't visible until the sellers moved furniture. The expensive window coverings were missing. That's what the due diligence period is for! 7:43 - The buyers lost the nice fridge, per the terms of the contract. You can be completely legal, but be unethical. What do you think on the hole in the wall? The buyers that lost the curtains received over $2,000.  10:01 - AVOID CONFUSION, BE SPECIFIC. We don't want the sellers offended, and we don't want the buyers confused about what's included. 11:09 - When do you do the final walkthrough? You have 7 days before closing. Have communication with the sellers. Make sure the sellers haven't changed anything. Don't kick out the long term renters. Short-term renters can be accepted during the contract, until the due diligence deadline.  13:11 - What'd we learn today? 14:59 - Bloopers *No fridges were harmed in the filming of this real estate discussion. Please contact us to tell us you love us, you want to hire us! Call or text:  Realtors with Hive Collective at Presidio Real Estate: Tyler Cazier: 801-210-0230 Aric Wiszt: 801-228-7687‬ Lender with Elite Team at Security Home Mortgage:  NMLS: 178787 Jason Christiansen: 801-669-7271 NMLS: 240472 A Production with Security Home Mortgage's Jason Christiansen, and Hive Collective at Presidio's Tyler Cazier and "Mr. Suit" Aric Wiszt.

In this episode, I unpack three ways to unravel overwhelm and take your power back so you don't burn yourself out...1. CHECK-IN | PAUSE | WHAT IS HAPPENING? Notice the emotional feelings and the bodily cues that happen when you are feeling. See if you can write down any thoughts - getting them out of your head and onto paper (or in the notes section of your phone). If you can, from there, plan out what you have written down. When are you going to do it? Decide and follow through. 2. CHANNEL IT | CAPTURE ITInstead of wallowing in your energy of overwhelm, how might you use it to serve you or your audience? Be honest about how you are feeling? If you are a writer or blogger, take down your thoughts about how your are feeling. If you are an entrepreneur, can you share your vulnerable self in a way that empowers others in a behind-the-scenes3. IDENTIFY YOUR HEADLINE BELIEFWhat are you believing about yourself? Your business? Your work? Your life? What are you thinking about what is going on...those thoughts are influencing the way you feel right now. *Research Boss Tip: When doing "research" on social media BE SPECIFIC. Are you looking for caption ideas, grid layout, filter inspo, reels music? BE SPECIFIC - FIND IT - GET OFF.Ready to take our relationship the next level? ASKING FOR WHAT YOU WANT Mini-Course is LIVE!! Click the link to learn more:https://nandicamille.thinkific.com/courses/asking-for-what-you-wantQuestions about 1:1 Life Coaching? Send me an email at: hello@NandiCamille.comLet's be Social! Find me on Instagram @nandi.camille

Hi Friends! It's week 3 of our Clutter Clinic Series! So far this month we've talked about decluttering and organizing garages, closets, and today we are talking about toys and kid spaces (the bane of every parent's existence!) . Whether you live in a house with a dedicated playroom, an apartment where space is limited, or fall somewhere in between-all parents have struggled at some point on how to keep toys and kid spaces organized. In this episode we get right down to it:  When & how do you get the kids involved? What to do with toys you want to save for the next kid? How to make clean up easy and how often should we be purging old toys? I've also included a link to my popular 30 Day Kids Organizing Checklist which you can download here! Purging Tips Lead with service Make purging a tradition (birthdays, Christmas/Hanukkah) Teach them young (avoid dark of night purging) Space to Inventory ratio (don't have more than you can store) Use ESP (our EMPTY, SORT, PURGE method) Organizing Tips Clean up every day (avoid the pile up) Use cubbies (simple, cheap and easy!) Think multipurpose furniture  (ie:tables with storage) Easy to reach bookcases  Use underbed storage Use pictures/colors (kids can understand pictures before they can read words) Build in margin for kids (make clean up part of playtime) Be Specific (ie: put the legos back in the bin, rather than clean up the basement) There's also an entire chapter in my book, HOT MESS: A Practical Guide to Getting Organized that is dedicated to kids' spaces that includes a chart with age appropriate responsibilities. The good news is that you don't have to be a minimalist to have an organized kid space, and it's never too early or too late to start putting these strategies into place. For more organizing tips and inspiration, follow us on social media @simplyborganized! Are you a Professional Organizer, or thinking about becoming one?  We would love to talk to you about our SBO Partner Program!   Click here to Learn More! Free Downloads 30 DAY KIDS ORGANIZING CHECKLIST A Purpose Driven Mom Free On-Demand Workshop: www.apurposedrivenmom.com/laurie Enneagram & Clutter Learn More: https://simplyborganized.com/enneagram-clutter-course/ *USE CODE TOL30 TO RECEIVE 30% OFF Please support us! FOLLOW TOL to have new episodes downloaded each week! REVIEW. Social influence is the most impactful way to help others find our show! Did you know that we're on YouTube? There's lots of bonus content on our page, including interviews, workshops and lots more! CLICK HERE TO SUBSCRIBE Struggling with Clutter? Click HERE to take our FREE clutter quiz! Stop feeling like a Hot Mess! Now is the time to reclaim time, find freedom, and feel empowered from the “stuff” that is holding you back. Available on amazon, barnes & noble or wherever books are sold. Connect with Me WEBSITE | FB | IG | PINTEREST

In this week's episode we came across a "Happiness Practice" from the Great Good Science Center! https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/best_possible_self It's a quick 15 minute practice they suggest you do once a day for 2 weeks. BE SPECIFIC! It really helps you find gratitude, perspective, and motivation! Let us know how it went! positivelymidwest@gmail.com www.positivelymidwest.com #staypositive --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/steve-jurrens/support

The Podcast Guest 10 Commandments:1. Know Thy Audience: know who that #podcast serves. Make it a goal to be one of that show's best guests of all-time (listen to at least one episode, read reviews, website)2. Thou are the Expert: remember why you were brought on the show (likely you have superpower strength worth sharing)3. Thou Shall Break Things Down: share things step-by-step (actionable - 1, 2, 3) so they can be easily applied4. Thou Shall Not Be Vague: don't hide information because it's “sacred” - share freely and BE SPECIFIC!5. Thou Shall Not Record Bad Sound: record in a small carpeted room, with soft surfaces, USE AN EXTERNAL MIC!6. Thou Shall Listen: pay close attention throughout the interview, especially to the question, and answer it directly/succinctly7. Thou Shall Not Bore: stories about your life may be interesting, but people want to know WIFM (What's in it for me) - be sure your story has a payoff that provides value8. Thou Shall Have a POV: what is your unique perspective or “point of view” that people will remember you by?9. Thou Shall Not Over Plug: be subtle about plugging your products/services. Don't let it dominate the conversation10. Thou Shall Help Promote: share the episode with your network, reply to comments on postsWhat is 11?

It is worth unpacking the reasons why students are disengaged. Ask the question given an observation you have made. Be specific. “Hey I noticed you have not turned in your history work this week, what's up?” In this way, we allow the kids to present their perspective to us. Mary cautions against being vague in this line of questioning. Be SPECIFIC! Mary segues into talking about how adults can tend to make assumptions as to what is happening with a student and that by asking questions we can better understand and solve problems. She shares a personal experience with the Collaborative and Proactive Solutions program and discusses how it can help parents to unpack their own children's disengagement or lack of motivation. For more information about Collaborative and Proactive Solutions, email Becky Reback at becky@evolveded.com. I'd really appreciate it if you would click the like button above and leave a review if your favorite podcast app has that ability. Thank you! For more information, visit the Evolved Education website at: https://evolveded.com/ © 2021 Mary Miele

If you’re doing any level of renovation of a house you MUST understand how to create a scope of work. And if you’re thinking your “investor-friendly” contractor will do that you’re sorely mistaken! ***You can now TEXT "SOW" to 210-794-9898 to the Scope of Work Cheat Sheet

Podcast SummaryLyrics & Lattes is a self-development podcast that uses hip-hop lyrics to inspire and encourage you to show up as your best self and live a more fulfilled life. We release a full episode every Monday and a mini-episode every Thursday. Episode SummaryToday’s episode is about letting the past go. Whether it's pain from a bad relationship, a bad decision, or even a missed opportunity - stop dwelling on the past and expecting it to not have an effect on your future. Doubts about the decisions of yesterday can make you question your judgment on the decisions of tomorrow… learn from the past, grow, and MOVE ON. Your past does not define you. How you take hold of today DOES.Step 1: Grieve for a period but understand when its time to move on (Big Krit)Step 2: Heal before you hurt those around you (Russ)Step 3: Fan Pick: Stop making excuses (City High) brought to you by @freddiewalkerjrStep 4. Fan Pick: Don’t harbor bitterness (Z-Ro) by Darrell Wallace Stay ConnectedIs there a song that encouraged you or changed your perspective? Explain it via voice note at LyricsAndLattes.com and we'll play it on the show! IG: @LyricsAndLattesHosts: @JasonWallaceDC and @LostinDesauss

Look at you! Using those 2 little words to spread positivity, encouragement, and build community! I encourage you to do 2 things with your Thank You's:1) Be Intentional - don't throw those words away or utter them under your breath; be intentional about thanking people in your daily and weekly interactions - genuine, sincere thanks directed to another person creates connection and builds community.2) Be Specific - say thank you for something specific, use a person's name, share a specific reason for your 'thank you.' You will make someone's day! And that can spread...and build community.Thank you, for listening to Sounds of Encouragement. Thank you for sharing these episodes with friends. Thank you for leaving positive reviews and comments. Thank you for recommending guests for interviews. Thank you for suggesting topics. Thank you for encouraging me!Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Encouragement)

Podcast SummaryLyrics & Lattes is a self-development podcast that uses hip-hop lyrics to inspire and encourage you to show up as your best self and live a more fulfilled life. We release a full episode every Monday and a mini-episode every Thursday. Episode SummaryToday’s solo episode is about the Law of Attraction. What you put out into the world is exactly what you receive. What goes around, comes around. If you're constantly spewing negative energy into the universe through your actions then negative things are bound to happen to you. On the flip side, if you focus on spreading good will and positive energy out into the universe. Good things are bound to happen to you.Key Points: Step 1: Think Big - I Want it All by Warren GStep 2: Be Specific - I Want it All by Warren GStep 3: Take Yourself Seriously - Dumb it Down by Lupe FiascoStep 4. Fan Pick: Learn How to Bounce Back by Big SeanBrought to you by Duke McLarty @DmclartyStay ConnectedIs there a song that encouraged you or changed your perspective? Explain it via voice note at LyricsAndLattes.com and we'll play it on the show! IG: @LyricsAndLattesHosts: @JasonWallaceDC and @LostinDesauss

On this week's episode of Sell Without Selling, Stacey shares with you her view on the top 5 pitfalls you want to avoid on your way to success. Key Takeaways: -Be Reasonable. -Be Specific with goals. -Be aware of burnout. Tweetable Quotes: "Success is about navigating the field of the unknown." -Stacey O'Byrne "Focus more on the journey than the destination." -Stacey O'Byrne Resources: Instagram: @pivotpointadvantage Schedule a 15 minute call with Stacey:http://pivotpointadvantage.com/talktostacey ( http://pivotpointadvantage.com/talktostacey) If you’re ready to take yourself and your business to the next level and are interested in a coaching program that will get you there check out:http://pivotpointadvantage.com/iwantsuccess ( http://pivotpointadvantage.com/iwantsuccess)  Join an interactive environment to help you build the success you’ve always wanted with other like-minded, success-driven entrepreneurs, business owners, and sales professionals:https://facebook.com/groups/sellwithoutselling ( https://facebook.com/groups/sellwithoutselling)  

On this week's episode of Style Masterclass, I give you my four step process for setting style goals. 1. Focus on One Thing. BE SPECIFIC 2. Create Environmental Cues 3. Teeny Tiny Baby Steps 4. Ask: Why this goal? To RSVP for the upcoming free style class visit www.judithgaton.com/webinar

HAPPY NEW YEAR! This week we are talking about (drum roll please) goals. Goals are a pain in the tush, but hopefully this episode will help you make realistic goals!  Lets do this thang. Song credit: Happy by MBB https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficialCreative Commons — Attribution-ShareAlike 3.0 Unported  — CC BY-SA 3.0 Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/Happy-MBBMusic promoted by Audio Libraryhttps://youtu.be/g6swHZbWtRcMusic by MBBhttps://www.youtube.com/c/mbbmusic​https://www.instagram.com/mbb_music​https://soundcloud.com/mbbofficial​https://spoti.fi/2wqzjwKReferences: https://mint.intuit.com/blog/goals/how-to-set-goals-and-achieve-them/ 

This week, Brad and Nigel discuss the importance of loving the process. Listen as they delve into how to shape your identity and persevere though distractions. Time Stamps - Goals shape Identity (3:10), Be Specific (4:44), What's the Difference? (7:01), Trend Habit Lifestyle (8:24), Modern Warfare (10:06), Perseverance (13:01), Your Future Self (14:10), Stamina (16:18), Look at What You Value (20:31), Minimize (21:16), Distractions (22:26), Maslow (25:07), Failing Forward (26:26), It's Within You (28:48)

For many of us working in creative industries (and even those that aren’t), we assume that competition simply comes with the territory of becoming successful. We have been taught the only way to get ahead is to push others out of the way as we climb the proverbial ladder to the top. But it doesn’t take long to realize this only perpetuates the stressful and high pressured environments that lead to burnout, exhaustion, and downright depression. With so many of us working from home now, it’s more important than ever to foster mentorship and create learning environments with our co-workers and colleagues. These are the types of environments that allow people to learn the skills they need to transition to new roles and advance their careers. Today’s episode is the second in a series of three where I talk to editors who’ve made the challenging transition to director (here’s part 1 with David Rogers). Andi Armaganian is a seasoned editor, who’s edited such shows like Smallville, Supergirl, and Arrow (here’s her IMDb page). In the past two years Andi has successfully transitioned to director and has added shows such as MacGyver, Hawaii Five-0, Legends of Tomorrow, Flash, Blind Spot, and Stargirl to her list of directing credits. She has done all of this by building genuine friendships with the people she works with. She believes in working hard while also teaching and sharing her knowledge and experience with anyone who wants to learn. Preparation and a willingness to ask stupid questions have earned her the respect of her colleagues and built a reputation for being easy and fun to work with. By her own admission, Andi simply doesn’t know how to work in an environment where the cast and crew are not like family. If you want to learn what it takes to make a major transition in your career and how to do so by building lasting friendships and being nice (rather than stepping on others to climb to the top), then Andi has a multitude of knowledge bombs to inspire you to forge ahead and take the next major steps in your career. Want to Hear More Episodes Like This One? » Click here to subscribe and never miss another episode Here’s What You’ll Learn: Why Andi hung out with the cast of Caddyshack as a kid and what it had to do with her getting into the film business. Andi’s unusual trajectory going from producing to editing. Lessons Andi learned from raising $40 million to edit an animated feature only to get the plug pulled before it was completed. The one thing Andi attributes to her ability to learn and get new opportunities. HINT: I talk about this all the time. How Andi made an impression as an Assistant Editor on Smallville and set a new standard of work for everyone. How Andi fosters a team environment in every show she works on so that by week 2 everyone feels like family. The importance of making friends even in competitive situations such as re-cutting a fellow editor’s work. The secret to keeping good connections and maintaining a network of colleagues and friendships. It’s more valuable to be the most recent person rather than the most qualified person when it comes to networking. How Andi deals with imposter syndrome as an editor turned director. Her best advice for being a well liked and successful director. HINT: It involves getting in the trenches. What the catalyst was for making the transition to directing. The secret to building strong relationships with creative people from actors to producers. How Andi feels about being the “token female hire”. Andi’s thoughts on ageism and how it affects the work environment. Her best advice for young editors and directors starting out – BE SPECIFIC. Useful Resources Mentioned: Caddyshack trailer The Antiquity of Film Film Bin Andi’s website Continue To Listen & Learn Ep125: From Scraping Up Cigarette Butts to Editing, Directing, and Producing Emmy-Winning TV Shows | with David Rogers Ep106: On the Vital Importance of “Being Nice” | with Jesse Averna, ACE Ep113: The Importance of Setting Boundaries, Advocating For Yourself, and Asking For Help | with Janace Tashjian Our Generous Sponsors: Struggling With Real-Time Remote Collaboration? Meet Evercast As work begins to slowly trickle in again, perhaps the most pressing challenge we as creative professionals face in our post-pandemic reality is real-time collaboration. Zoom is great for meetings, but it sure doesn’t work for streaming video. Luckily this problem has now been solved for all of us. If you haven’t heard of Evercast, it’s time to become acquainted. Because Evercast’s real-time remote collaboration technology is CHANGING. THE. GAME. » Click here to be the first to gain early access to the new Evercast P.S. It’s (finally) priced for freelancers and indie creatives like us! This episode is made possible for you by Ergodriven, the makers of the Topo Mat, my #1 recommendation for anyone who stands at their workstation. The Topo is super comfortable, an awesome conversation starter, and it’s also scientifically proven to help you move more throughout the day which helps reduce discomfort and also increase your focus and productivity. Click here to learn more and get your Topo Mat. Guest Bio: Andi Armaganian is a Los Angeles based director whose credits include Stargirl, DC’s Legends of Tomorrow, Hawaii Five-0, Supergirl, Arrow, Blindspot, The Flash and MacGyver. After watching her mother on set as an actress (Caddyshack, A Night in Heaven) Andi grew up with a desire to work behind the scenes. She started as an independent film producer and moved over into editing shortly after moving to Los Angeles. Since, she has edited more than 100 episodes of television, as well as features, documentaries and animation. Andi became a director in 2017 after completing the Warner Brother’s directing program. She enjoys being a mentor and role model to up and coming women in the industry. Show Credits: This episode was edited by Curtis Fritsch, and the show notes were prepared by Debby Germino and published by Glen McNiel. The original music in the opening and closing of the show is courtesy of Joe Trapanese (who is quite possibly one of the most talented composers on the face of the planet).

James 5:13-18  Are any of you suffering hardships? You should pray. Are any of you happy? You should sing praises.  Are any of you sick? You should call for the elders of the church to come and pray over you, anointing you with oil in the name of the Lord.  Such a prayer offered in faith will heal the sick, and the Lord will make you well. And if you have committed any sins, you will be forgiven.  Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.  Elijah was as human as we are, and yet when he prayed earnestly that no rain would fall, none fell for three and a half years!  Then, when he prayed again, the sky sent down rain and the earth began to yield its crops.  When everything else is weak you can have The STRENGTH Of PRAYER. ----more---- Through The Strength Of Prayer you can…. Save a marriage Face your faults Change directions Open a wounded heart Launch on a mission The STRENGTH Of PRAYER is where we connect with GOD and Find…. The Grace to change The Courage to act The Ability to Understand The Tenderness to Love Elijah — The Strength to Convince Jacob — The Strength to Transform Jesus — The Strength to face the unbearable   The STRENGTH Of PRAYER is the most powerful force on earth. There is no facet of the Christian life under attack more than PRAYER.  Satan lays a perpetual siege against prayer, because he knows that of all that’s said and done concerning the KOG, the actual impact depends upon The STRENGTH Of PRAYER.  I think that if the influence of the Church is weak, then anemic prayer is the cause.  Therefore I want to give you 3 things you must BE in order to have The STRENGTH Of PRAYER.  Here they are: Be READY, be SPECIFIC, and be THOROUGH   #1 Be READY to Pray Rom. 12:12 (Be)…instant in prayer;  In our fast-paced world full of unexpected challenges, being caught off guard, UNREADY to pray, is a serious problem.  It’s an indication of how deeply distracted we allow ourselves to become.  It’s the exact position Satan wants to get you into.  When the need for Prayer arises, and we’re caught w/o Oil in our Lamps, it’s because we’ve let ourselves drift so far from the Spirit.  Our hearts and minds have trouble connecting with GOD because we haven’t kept the lens of His Word up to our eyes as we view the world and its troubles.  Make your READINESS to Pray the most important barometer of your soul.  Don’t silence the alarm that signals when your Heart and Mind start to drift across the lane into oncoming traffic.   #2  Be SPECIFIC in Prayer.   Jesus said, “Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” — Mark 14:38 Sleep Walking through life rather than Watching and staying Vigilant causes the inability to focus prayer on a specific need and answer. 1Pet. 5:8 Keep your mind clear, and be alert. Your opponent the devil is prowling around like a roaring lion as he looks for someone to devour. The STRENGTH Of PRAYER relies on your ability to be SPECIFIC.  If you need an operation you go to a Surgeon who KNOWS what he’s cutting into, and has the right instruments.  Not someone with an anatomy book and a butter knife.   That kind of SPECIFICITY requires an ability to Matchup the Circumstances you’re praying for with the right Promise of GOD’s WORD.  That kind of insight comes from WATCHING.  Which means, seeking the Holy Spirit’s explanation of Life through the Word of GOD.  Don’t let the world tell you how to think about things!  GOD says, “The spiritual person judges all things, but is himself to be judged by no one.” — 1Cor. 2:15 Prayers that get answers don’t have to be eloquent.  But they do come from a Process of distilling the request down to its essential need, and then matching it with GOD’s Appropriate Promise.  You have to Care Enough about the Answer to seek and receive the Spirit’s wisdom about how to pray.  This kind of Specificity comes from DESIRE.     Mark 11:24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever you DESIRE, when you pray, believe you receive them, and you shall have them.   #3  Be THOROUGH in Prayer. The old-timers use to call it, “Praying Through”.  And it simply means that you pray until you receive your Answer or the Assurance of an Answer.   Acts 12:5 Peter therefore was kept in prison: but prayer was made WITHOUT CEASING by the church unto God for him.  When the Angel of GOD released Peter from jail and he went to the house where the church met, they were too busy praying to let him in! In Gen. 32:26  Jacob wrestled with the angel of GOD for a blessing.  When the angel said, Let me go, Jacob said, I won’t let you go UNLESS you bless me.  The STRENGTH Of PRAYER won’t relent until GOD answers.   But you can’t Pray Through on Prayer-Fumes.  Praying Through takes a tank of mental vision full of the Word of GOD.  Without a Filled-Up-Mind it’s hard to have a Made-Up-Mind.  Because it’s Powerful Word-Inspired Thoughts that produce the faith to Pray Through. IN CONCLUSION, Your Prayer Life IS your actual relationship with GOD.  So… Pray without ceasing.   Never stray too far from prayer.   Keep your conscience tender and your thoughts always standing in the Doorway of Prayer.

New attention on anti-Black racism is being diluted by conversations around racial prejudice experienced by BIPOC. Anti-Black racism is presented in specific ways and those systemic barriers and prejudices are not experienced by other people of colour.    This episode explores our first point in our Code Black Anti-Black Racism Manifesto - how we must "Be Specific" and acknowledge that anti-Black racism is real and systemic racism is experienced by Black people in a specific way.      

This week, Pastor Cheno Echevarria shares a message entitled Be Specific. We pray this message is a blessing to you. If you have any questions or need prayer, please email us at Hello@Greater.Church. If you would like to sow in to this ministry, please visit www.greater.church/give

This week, Pastor Cheno Echevarria shares a message entitled Be Specific. We pray this message is a blessing to you. If you have any questions or need prayer, please email us at Hello@Greater.Church. If you would like to sow in to this ministry, please visit www.greater.church/give

Be Specific

Text ‘bulletproof’ to 33777 to stay in the know about all things Bulletproof, and buy the book HERE! Bulletproof Dental Practice Podcast Episode 166 Hosts: Dr. Craig Spodak & Dr. Peter Boulden Key Takeaways: Introduction Right or Wrong Way to Ask for Help or Advice “Pick Your Brain”  Be Specific with Your How Proximity Symbiosis Crabpot Friends Reciprocity Welcome New Relationships References The Tyranny of How Proximity is Power - Tony Robbins TweetablesThere is no hack for hustle.  -Dr. Peter Boulden The best formulas cannot substitute for iconic relationships. -Dr. Peter Boulden Your network is your net worth. -Dr. Peter Boulden Put it on benefitted verbiage. -Dr. Peter Boulden In the absence of understanding, we make an excuse. -Dr. Craig Spodak Reciprocity + Proximity = Relationship -Dr. Craig Spodak Be discerning with your friends. -Dr. Craig Spodak         Get close and be kind. -Dr. Craig Spodak If you want value, be valuable. -Dr. Craig Spodak

Today, the Cognitive Distortion Starter Kit Continues with Labeling Rhonda begins by reading two beautiful, inspiring emails from listeners, and I give a brief shout out for my new book, Feeling Great, which can be pre-ordered on Amazon now (see below for the link). Rhonda and David begin with a brief overview of Labeling. There are two types of Labeling: Self-Labeling and Other-Labeling: Self-Labeling is where you attach a negative label to yourself, such as "I'm a loser," or "I'm a failure." Self-Labeling can be further divided into Labeling your role or Labeling your "self." Here are some examples of Labeling your role: "I'm a bad father," or "I'm a bad mother," or "I'm a lousy teacher," and so forth. Here are some examples of Labeling your "self:" "I'm a loser," or "a failure," or "worthless," or "defective." Other-labeling is exactly the same, except that it's directed at some other person, as in "he's a jerk," or "she's a loser." Labeling can be extremely hurtful, causing intense depression and anxiety, as well as anger, hatred and rage. However, labeling is a distortion, because a human being cannot be captured by a label. Humans are more like rivers that flow--in this direction and that direction, without a specific "shape." We have many, many dimensions, perhaps an infinite number! Many techniques can be helpful for Labeling, but it is always necessary to use any technique in the context of working systematically with the TEAM model, and doing great T = Testing, E = Empathy and A = Assessment of Resistance before trying any M = Methods. It's almost never a good idea to throw techniques at patients without these other vitally important steps first. And if you're working on yourself, it will be vitally important to do the A step before the M step too! David and Rhonda illustrate two techniques that can be especially helpful for Labeling: Let's Define Terms and Be Specific. They do a role play to bring the first technique to life, and play an actual recording of a portion of a TEAM session to bring the second technique to life. We are nearing the end of the distortion series, but still have three hugely important distortions to discuss: Emotional Reasoning Should Statements Blame Thank so much for listening. If you like our podcasts, tell your friends, colleagues, and patients about them! This is all volunteer work, so our only marketing budget is your good will. Each month our downloads are increasing, thanks to you, and we will hit three million downloads early next year or late this year. Rhonda and David

Are you like the rest of us right now who have moments of fear or anxiety in our daily lives? Is it possible to actually feel empowered in a world of uncertainty? We believe the answer is "yes!" In the words of Jesus...... "In this world you will have trouble. But take heart (have courage)! I have overcome the world." Today, we will talk about what it means to "take heart" in the midst of difficult life circumstances. The 6 Ways To Live The Empowered Life episode will give you very specific and powerful steps to navigate every area of your life. You will feel inspired, confident, and empowered. It's Your Story; Write It Well!So let's get started! Here’s a recap of what we talk about in this episode: What does Resiliency really mean? Surprisingly, it isn't about "bouncing back!"6 Areas to Write Your StoryPhysicalEmotionalSocial FamilySpiritual CareerOutside Resources We Wholeheartedly Recommend:*We are not affiliated with these resourcesPhysical: Planet Fitness- Free Home Workout Videos on FacebookFree Yoga Videos- Yoga With AdrieneEmotional: Listen to our Red Truck Marriage EP #2 & #3 Social: How to Take Care of Yourself and Stay Socially Connected During Quarantine Family: Coronavirus Guide for Parents: 100's of Activities for KidsSpiritual: Song: The Blessing (Kari Jobe Carnes & Cody Carnes) The Bible AppMy Utmost For His Highest Daily DevotionCareer: Dave Ramsey- 7 Things to Do When You Miss a PaycheckCall To ActionAny real change requires a call to action. So here are a few things we want you to do:Pick two areas of the Balance Wheel and write your Goals & Actions on paper.Be Specific & Measurable!The Empowered Life will begin!Have a conversation with your spouse and children about their Balanced Wheel.This will teach empowerment to those you love!Don't forget the "Flip It" concept!Join the Red Truck Marriage Facebook Group!You will get exclusive "goodies" from us by being a member!We will join you weekly for coaching on becoming the HEROES of your Marriage Story!Join the RTM Facebook Group!

It's time for a bonus episode! You may know Ray Harkins as the host of 100 Words or Less. Back in 2018, Ray had Finn on his Be Specific series to discuss a marketing deal with Alt Press. Finn dives into how that negotiation went down. If you have an interest in marketing and learning how big deals get done, be sure to listen to this episode. 100 Words or Less Follow The Punk Rock MBA on Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube. Follow Finn McKenty on Instagram. PRMBA Merch Produced and edited by Deanna Chapman. Support The Punk Rock MBA on Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today let's talk about finding a way to Make Your Goals and Desires a MUST in your life.  Join me for a Morning Motivation episode with Brandon Boyd, Live to thousands around the Globe.  We will discuss why you need to become obsessed and how to do it. Also, we will walk through these specific steps to bullet proof your goals... We cover these steps: 1-BE SPECIFIC about WHAT YOU WANT 2-MAEK COMMITMENT to GET IT 3-MAKE TIME to Review & Recommit DAILY 4-VISUALIZE DAILY….reminders, pictures, etc 5-DAILY RITUALS…WHAT IS #1 THING 5-Be RELENTLESS...  6-DON'T SETTLE... 7-Don't GIVE UP...   Thanks for listening and have an amazing day. George Wright III @thedailymastermind

Today let's talk about finding a way to Make Your Goals and Desires a MUST in your life.  Join me for a Morning Motivation episode with Brandon Boyd, Live to thousands around the Globe.  We will discuss why you need to become obsessed and how to do it. Also, we will walk through these specific steps to bullet proof your goals... We cover these steps: 1-BE SPECIFIC about WHAT YOU WANT 2-MAEK COMMITMENT to GET IT 3-MAKE TIME to Review & Recommit DAILY 4-VISUALIZE DAILY….reminders, pictures, etc 5-DAILY RITUALS…WHAT IS #1 THING 5-Be RELENTLESS...  6-DON'T SETTLE... 7-Don't GIVE UP...   Thanks for listening and have an amazing day. George Wright III @thedailymastermind

A Christian Podcast - John 5:1 - 8.We take a journey into the life of the man who had been lame 38 years at the pool of Bethesda. We look at his experience through his eyes and learn six lessons:Position Yourself;Keep the Determination Alive;Wait, Patiently;Hold no Grudges;Be Specific in Your Requests;Anticipate Your Miracle.

We mean to write them, but we don’t always get around to it even though we know we should. It’s the "always love to receive one, but dread writing one" thank you note. Listen to this episode for tips on how to write an unforgettable thank you note. I've timed this episode around the holidays to offer a gentle push for completing a task that many people tend to overlook. Best tip: If you’re ever asking yourself if you should write a thank you note, you already know the answer. Psst...it's yes. A handwritten note is always better than an email because it offers that extra touch of personalization. Anyone you visit or anyone who has given you a gift gets a thank you note. So the sooner you start getting into this habit to thank people for more opportunities of graciousness you see in your life, the better. [4:19] Personalize Your Greeting. Know who you’re sending all of them to and address the recipient by name. [4:37] Be Thankful. Express thanks, gratitude, having your day made, etc. in your message. Say things like “I so appreciate…”, “thank you so much for…”, “I’m ever grateful for…”. [4:54] Be Specific. What exactly are you thanking them for in this note? Did they give you a gift? Did they spend time with you? Did they prepare a meal for you? Call it out specifically in your message. [5:33] Add in the Details. Demonstrate how much that gift means to you or how much you appreciate them taking the time to spend with you within your message. [6:58] Look Ahead to the Future. When’s the next time you’ll see them? Or what will help remind you of them? Mention something like, “I’m looking forward to our next visit,” or “I’ll let you know what I thought about the book after I read it.”  About Molly Public Relations expert Molly McPherson, APR, reveals the best practices help leaders become indestructible in today's digital age and crisis-proof their organizations. A mix of discussing current news events along with interviews with newsmakers, communications professionals and business owners while providing insight from 20+ years of public relations and crisis communications expertise working for FEMA and heading communications for the cruise line industry to help take the fear out of communicating in the age of scrutiny. This podcast helps leaders communicate confidently--in writing, speaking, body language, social media -- to be heard, seen and relevant. Listen + Subscribe Stitcher or Apple Podcasts © Molly McPherson 2019  

When it comes to marketing your antique business you need to identify your niche and communicate what makes you different from all the other antique dealers out there. Why should someone shop with you versus someone else? You've got to Communicate Your Thing. In marketing terms this is your USP - Unique Selling Point or Unique Selling Perspective.  When you're running an antiques business - you need to be SAVVY about communicating your message.  You need to BE SPECIFIC. Every single antique dealer I knows has a USP - find yours and COMMUNICATE IT! There are a lot antique dealers. That's a lot of people doing the exact same thing. When you sell antiques you're selling a story.  ​Your Unique Selling Purple What's your purple - your story that is uniquely you? The first thing you need to look at as an antique dealer is your personal story. People buy antiques for the story. And not just the story of the antique but also the story of the people who they buy antiques from.  What I want you think about is WHAT EXPERIENCE CAN YOU - or do you already - OFFER YOUR clients that you're not communicating? What's your Unique Selling Point?  What part of your story is so remarkable and unique that people will continue talking about you when they walk away from meeting you or following you on social media. The next part is communicating your USP skills.  Then get personal - Everyone has a thing. Very few businesses are one-of-a-kind.  Unless you can pinpoint what makes your antique business unique in a world of homogeneous competitors, you cannot target your sales efforts successfully. One way to figure out your USP is start is to analyze how other companies use their USPs to their advantage. Listen to the USP podcast for more ideas, stories and inspiration on how to identify and communicate YOUR USP: Unique Selling Point!  Talk to you soon, Ciao Ciao Toma Clark Haines, The Antiques Diva Also check out The Antiques Diva here: https://antiquesdiva.com/ (The Antiques Diva & Co): Antique buying tours and sourcing services in 16 countries on 3 continents https://www.antiquedealertrainingprogram.com/ (Antique Dealer Training Program): Antique dealer training and mentorship & services for new and experienced dealers http://www.aidangrayhome.com/diva (The Antiques Diva Furniture Collection by Aidan Gray): Reproductions using classic design mixed with modern materials https://republicoftoma.com/ (Republic of Toma): Custom jewelry designed by Toma, inspired by her love of antiques and travel https://antiquesdiva.com/business-of-antiques-podcast (The Business of Antiques): Podcast on making your antiques business sexy, modern and fun...and PROFITABLE!

This is probably the most overlooked area. We tend to think about interviews in terms of getting a job. How about gathering information that really provides great insights.   I used informational interviews everywhere, not just in podcast recordings. I use this approach everywhere. I use it to build new relationships, to ask for advice & guidance, build networks and it truly helps one see different dimensions and aspects about a particular topic.  It’s an approach that Management consultants have perfected. How many times have you heard “We hired consultants and they just validated everything that we knew.” The difference is that the management consultants go in to chat with people with the intent of gaining information & valuable insights to a particular area and they compare it with other companies/individuals that have faced similar situations/obstacles and/or challenges.  Management consultants often refer to this as discovery questions. There are no shortage of reasons to use this approach.     Here are a few typical use cases: When you start a new department or company, you want to meet some of the key players (also known as stakeholders) to understand the current challenges in the environment. It provides us insights of what these individuals expect of us. Another ‘AHA’ moment  When you have a new business idea or potential concept, many of the innovators on the CanInnovate podcast told us that one of the greatest sources of information. They were able to test whether their idea was a problem or opportunity that others would pay for. Providing insights into their potential go to market, their target market, their key messaging and so on. It provides them with such valuable feedback that allows them to fine tune their business idea and potentially gain a few early adopters. When you’re looking into jobs and want to know about company culture. What a great tool to use to dive in to understand more about the company. People really enjoy talking about the pros and cons of their company, as its an extension of their values. Inspiration & Curiosity. You meet someone that is brilliant and would like to know more about them. They have gotten your attention and you’re curious to know more about them and their journey. Maybe it’s just because you are looking for a little bit of ‘juice’ for inspiration.  All of these different uses, give you an additional benefit. You will get collaboration and actually develop relationships.  People that you’ve engaged, will want to be part of your journey. They are a little bit invested in your success. In my book, Connect The Dots: Turn Strangers into Meaningful Network Relationships, I talk about the study that confirms a positive link between asking for a small favor. It’s called the Ben Franklin effect!  The reason why I wanted to talk about the informational interview, was because this is also part of the overall design thinking principles. Asking “What If’, experimenting and testing early, hearing and understanding (Human Empathy) gathering feedback early in the process, focusing on the user experience mindset and most of all, collaboration. Information Interviews really enables you to humanize the problem/situation and possibly identify additional opportunities by TALKING! There is no shortage of benefits of using information interviews. But, you know me - I like to get tactical. Plan: What do you want to learn about or discover? What is the context the purpose - put together 3-4 questions. Don’t forget that you may need to break down questions into smaller questions to re-frame questions. Think like a journalist. You’re just getting information and looking for little clues. Don’t forget to prepare a little mini-intro about you & what is the objective for the meeting.  Engage: Who are potentially some folks that could give you some of these answers. Who in your network should you engage. FREEBIE ALERT! Connect the Dots Companion Workbook. To help put your networking and objectives into perspective.  This workbook will help you identify who in your network to engage and more importantly, how to engage and what are some topics that you want to talk about. This will help provide you the basis, for your informational interviews. Warm Up: Meet the person and make sure that you take a few minutes to do some warm up questions. Getting to know them. People love talking about themselves. You can ask about how did they get into this field, or what does a day typically look like for them or talk about a hot industry topics. Just make sure you take the time to warm up the conversation.  Conduct:  Conducting the informational interview. Be open to go off script. This is a big challenge for people. The idea is to pick up clues, not to be perspective. You’re trying to discover what you don’t know.  Reflections:  Every time, you do an informational interview - think about did you get the information that you were looking for. You may need to refine and re-frame the question. We need to remember that we just need to get better at asking BETTER questions. By the way, you know I absolutely think Michael Bungay-Stainer’s Book - the Coaching Habit:Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way Your Lead Forever is an essential must read. This book provides such valuable ways to PHRASE questions to get information out. Thank you: I cannot express this enough. We need to take a few minutes to say thank you and be grateful for the time. I did an entire blog post about the value of gratitude. I’ll add it to the show notes. Send a handwritten note or email. Just to thank them for their time and the value that they provided. Do NOT ask for favors.  You’re just starting to build relationships. You can touch base with them, throughout your journey and give them a little bit of an update.   One thing that I’ve learned, is that people want to genuinely help. However, they also want to know specifically what it is that you want. We get so many requests for our time, so we need to prioritize. Don’t ask for 4 hours of their time, ask for 25-30 minutes over coffee and BE SPECIFIC. “I’d like to learn from you, about what it’s like working as a Business Analyst at Company XYZ” or “I’d like to get your advice and perspective, of how to get more hands on experience with Blockchain technology”.  Information Interviews is another essential business life skill. I’ve got some freebies for you. I hope you found this helpful and useful. I look forward to hearing from you. Feel free to share the content with others and leave comments. I love feedback.   Best Always,Sapna    FREEBIE ALERT!  Connect the Dots Companion Workbook.  To help put your networking and objectives into perspective. This workbook will help you identify who in your network to engage and more importantly, how to engage and what are some topics that you want to talk about.  This will help provide you the basis, for your informational interviews. Other links:  Importance of Gratitude 3 steps to a perfect informational interview How to get the most out of an informational interview

I should have listened to an online entrepreneur back in 2010. follow my guts and take action towards starting out and Learn from my mistake... I was on a John Lee business accelerator program this week and I got some powerful insights and aha moment for me and would love to share 3. which are very powerful mind shifts but all the same they are the fundamentals for all achievements for any successful person on this planet from Tyler Perry to Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos to Aliko Dangote and to you listening to me right now.   There are Must Do's, Should Do's, Could Do and WOULD DO.   NO.1. You Must Decide on what is it you want. According to Napoleon Hill from his book THINK AND GROW RICH, which is one of the most read entrepreneurial books of all time. (Desire is the starting point of all achievement.) this is the biggest driving force and none else. if you decide on just anything that you want, BE SPECIFIC, the universe will shift and make it happen, It’s like placing an order on Amazon or eBay and expect your order delivered. Be Clear on what you want, clarity is not easy to achieve from the start of blocks but as we become consistent by DOING it gets clearer.   NO. 2 To grow we need to go outside our comfort zone After deciding we need to go outside our comfort zone, most times going outside your comfort zone Looks dramatic or scary but going out your comfort zone might be delayed gratification, adding extra 30 mins a day to learn a new skill, 5 extra sales calls, say Hello to a stranger or that person that has been to where you want to go or achieved the success you want. one of the biggest silent killers right now is your comfort zone. I once lived a life of quiet desperation and crying in the showers wishing my circumstances could change and not realising that everything I ever wanted was on the other side of my comfort zone. Now, I know what I want and decided to go after it as A Chief, as a student, pushing myself, going into new and unfamiliar territories, seeking teachers and mentors to guide me like a sat nav, while I do the work   Remember that... And while you DO need to keep expanding your knowledge in specific areas of your choosing - you can start implementing the things you learn as you go. And you will be surprised because along the way you can start earning while learning, see yourself becoming successful while building momentum.  This is something I was late to realize... NO 3. Everything is energy, the more you give the more you get. What belief system do you have, “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality, the goal, the outcome, you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” It’s certainly true that your reality tends to reflect the type of energy you put into it. Let’s face it, when you put happiness and kindness into the world, you also tend to interpret things out there in a certain way… you notice the good things in life. Your subjectivity shapes your world. It’s a wonderful idea and one to take with you. Simple practice Smile at someone they will 95% reciprocate. This is a universal law. “Do Not Lie to Yourself We have to be honest about what we want and take risks rather than lie to ourselves and make excuses to stay in our comfort zone.” ― Roy T. Bennett --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/victor-osioh/message

I should have listened to an online entrepreneur back in 2010. follow my guts and take action towards starting out and Learn from my mistake... I was on a John Lee business accelerator program this week and I got some powerful insights and aha moment for me and would love to share 3. which are very powerful mind shifts but all the same they are the fundamentals for all achievements for any successful person on this planet from Tyler Perry to Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos to Aliko Dangote and to you listening to me right now.   There are Must Do's, Should Do's, Could Do and WOULD DO.   NO.1. You Must Decide on what is it you want. According to Napoleon Hill from his book THINK AND GROW RICH, which is one of the most read entrepreneurial books of all time. (Desire is the starting point of all achievement.) this is the biggest driving force and none else. if you decide on just anything that you want, BE SPECIFIC, the universe will shift and make it happen, It’s like placing an order on Amazon or eBay and expect your order delivered. Be Clear on what you want, clarity is not easy to achieve from the start of blocks but as we become consistent by DOING it gets clearer.   NO. 2 To grow we need to go outside our comfort zone After deciding we need to go outside our comfort zone, most times going outside your comfort zone Looks dramatic or scary but going out your comfort zone might be delayed gratification, adding extra 30 mins a day to learn a new skill, 5 extra sales calls, say Hello to a stranger or that person that has been to where you want to go or achieved the success you want. one of the biggest silent killers right now is your comfort zone. I once lived a life of quiet desperation and crying in the showers wishing my circumstances could change and not realising that everything I ever wanted was on the other side of my comfort zone. Now, I know what I want and decided to go after it as A Chief, as a student, pushing myself, going into new and unfamiliar territories, seeking teachers and mentors to guide me like a sat nav, while I do the work   Remember that... And while you DO need to keep expanding your knowledge in specific areas of your choosing - you can start implementing the things you learn as you go. And you will be surprised because along the way you can start earning while learning, see yourself becoming successful while building momentum.  This is something I was late to realize... NO 3. Everything is energy, the more you give the more you get. What belief system do you have, “Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality, the goal, the outcome, you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” It’s certainly true that your reality tends to reflect the type of energy you put into it. Let’s face it, when you put happiness and kindness into the world, you also tend to interpret things out there in a certain way… you notice the good things in life. Your subjectivity shapes your world. It’s a wonderful idea and one to take with you. Simple practice Smile at someone they will 95% reciprocate. This is a universal law. “Do Not Lie to Yourself We have to be honest about what we want and take risks rather than lie to ourselves and make excuses to stay in our comfort zone.” ― Roy T. Bennett

Episode Notes:  Welcome to Season 2 of the Vantage Point podcast. Listen as Pastors Sean Clemons and Stephen Law talk about the art of apology and why it is important. Listen and access the show notes below, search for Vantage Point on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify or  gracecov.org/vantagepoint . Follow us on Instagram @gracecovya. 3 Main Takeaways The power of apologizing doesn’t always remove the consequences, but it can bring restoration and reconciliation in our obedience to Christ.  Our relationship with others also affects our relationship with God. God does not want us to hold on to unforgiveness.  How to apologize?   I’m sorry for… Will you forgive me?  I’m not going to do it again. Vantage Point Challenge:  Give a sincere apology to someone you've offended.  Be Specific  Ask for forgiveness Assure the person you won’t do it again  Recommended Resources:  Ted Talk: Why Won’t he Apologize - Harriet Lerner Ted Talk: A Perfect Apology in 3 Steps - Jahan Kalantar Biblical Resources: Matthew 5:24  1 John 4:20  Psalm 51  1 Corinthians 13:6 Ephesians 4:31 & 32 2 Corinthians 7:10 Did this episode help you see your faith, life, and culture more clearly? If so, please leave us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcast app.

  And it’s good to be back with the 1st episode of season 2 and today the subject is DRIVE. How to find it, how to maintain it and how to harness it. I always start new episodes by recapping on the last but today I need to recap on the last two. Episode 15 was all about setting and achieving your goals and was placed at the end of season 1 as it’s an absolutely vital one –If you KNOW your goals then you can focus on what is IMPORTANT and PRIORITIZE those things over others. I also released a NEW YEAR SPECIAL which details Jinny Ditzler’s incredible book Your Best Year Yet. If you missed that one then I urge you to go back and check it out. I finally completed my plan for my best year yet on the 4th January and have been using it to drive me towards my own goals for this year and I guarantee you if you take it seriously that it will do the same for you. I’m going to flag it as essential listening for you if you are serious about productivity. Before I go to DRIVE I’d like to talk about a few changes that I have made this season as a result of what I have learned from the last. You may have noticed over the course of season 1 that the episodes got a little longer than the 10 minutes I’d started with originally. I realised as the season went on that points which require the listener to think about and absorb new information, needed longer pauses placed after them before I moved on to the next topic and started lengthening the gaps in recording after I’d made a point to allow for better comprehension by the listener. So as I move into season 2 you can expect shows to run at nearer the 10-20 minute mark as a result and a couple of them will get up to nearly 30. It really depends on the topic. ANECTDOTE DENIS WAITLEY the American motivational speaker states that “Success is almost totally dependent upon drive and persistence. The extra energy required to make another effort or try another approach is the secret of winning.” And the athlete ROGER BANNISTER who was the first person to run a mile in under 4 minutes said something similar “The man who can drive himself further once the effort gets painful is the man who will win.” Generally speaking, I seem to have what is referred to as DRIVE. I’m not a hundred percent sure when or where I got it, but I have it. At least I have it sometimes… I had the drive to get off my butt and prepare this podcast for example and to be truthful as I finalised my research and wrote up my notes to record this I could happily have sat down and watched some TV show or relaxed instead. But I didn’t. And here is why. Last year I made a decision that this podcast was something worth doing and I created 15 episodes. No one paid me to do it. I just decided to start and here we are. I am recording this podcast because I want to do it. For most of us, however, wanting to do something is just not enough. So what additional SPECIAL POWER did I muster to bring this episode to you right now? You really want to know? It’ll sound like I’m bullshitting so be warned… I er… WROTE IT DOWN. That’s it. That’s THE SPECIAL SAUCE I used to make me move my ass… and you may have caught this from me in an earlier episode but there’s NOTHING QUITE LIKE A DEADLINE to give you a kick up the backside and create a bit of DRIVE. I simply decided that season 2 will launch on the 24th of February, and maybe it might slip a week if I get a lot of work, but I’ll aim for the 24th of February and I’ll research, write and record 12 episodes which will be ready to release by that date. These deadlines are part of my Best Year Yet plan and one of my 10 larger goals for the year, so I took that goal and that release date and I worked back from it. I wrote that this episode, number 17, would be completed by the 12th of January, and I’ve done the same for the next 11 episodes recording every 4 days or so after that. This is no small task, but I’m doing it. I record in batches before the release of a full season, and I have written what Jenny Ditzler refers to as process goals in my Google diary, to ensure that each and every episode, and it’s social networking marketing images etc will be ready by the time I launch. But what else is involved in finding your drive? Putting aside the obvious one that gets us to work (earning money) let’s look at some others. How’s about DETERMINATION for one. That’s part of it. It might be determination to win, or just to beat someone else to the finish line, or maybe it’s just to achieve something for yourself, but with DETERMINATION, you can fuel your drive. Hand in hand with that is probably PERSISTENCE. Relentless persistence. There’s an awesome Napoleon Hill quote that goes “Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.” And that’s one I find hard to argue. PASSION too is a contributing factor. Let me throw an Oprah Winfrey quote at you for that one Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you. FOCUS is part of it too, as without that I’d have been sidetracked along the way. It’s one of the cornerstones of productivity and I’ll Pull out my old Bruce Lee quote book to push that one home. He says something like, the SUCCESSFUL WARRIOR IS THE AVERAGE MAN, WITH LASER LIKE FOCUS. I suppose another reason, off the top of my head, is commitment. I announced in the previous episode that this season will launch and I have to deliver, for want of a better way of putting it, to save face not only with those that listen but for myself. And then there’s DEDICATION. I had a whole host of reasons for doing this show, and I am dedicated to continuing it. As I said earlier, I want it to help people and that makes it all easier. Frank Lloyd Wright was quoted as saying “I know the price of success: dedication, hard work, and an unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen.” So with all that said I also think I know why, on occasion, I LOSE DRIVE ON MY OWN PROJECTS and I think its FEAR that halts me. I’ve experienced this time and time again just after I shoot something, but before I edit. A sense a fear that if I try to pull it together into a finished piece, that I will somehow have messed it up, and that the people I have worked with on it will be disappointed or that it will just be no good. I cover this topic quite specifically on my episode about the inner critic, but here it is again, alive and well and killing my drive. THE LESSON If you feel that you have lost your drive, believe me, you are not alone. We all find ourselves in a slump of sorts now and again, and some people really just never seem to get out of it. We have all sat NOT doing things WE KNOW WE SHOULD and gotten MORE AND MORE FRUSTRATED as we see others in our field advance and move forward while we seem to be stuck in neutral. I would think you may agree with me that, as creatives, we often lose DRIVE not just for work created for others, but also for our own passion projects. What I am focussing down on here is perhaps MOTIVATION. What motivates the drive within us? Well, there are two sides to that. You have: Intrinsic Motivational factors: Deeply personal values and beliefs. These are what I draw on in creating this podcast for example. And Extrinsic Motivational factors: and these would be tangible rewards, such as pay, or even consequences like punishments. The carrots and the sticks. The Daniel Pink book entitled DRIVE, which I’ll link to in the show notes, presents many scientific studies which prove believe it or not that tangible extrinsic rewards actually undermine feelings of autonomy and actually result in decreased motivation. AMAZON AFFILIATE LINKS US: https://amzn.to/2E6Xh1J   UK: https://amzn.to/2Et72Je  Quoting directly from the book, he says… “When it comes to motivation, there’s a gap between what science knows and what business does. Our current operating system–which is built around external, carrot-and-stick motivators–doesn’t work and often does harm. We need an upgrade. And the science and research show the way.” He is specifically talking about BUSINESS in this quote – I’d like to point out though, that the creative industries can only consider themselves INDUSTRIES if those of us within them think, at least on some level, in terms of business. And show business is show BUSINESS after all. Whether you are listening as a film professional, other creative or simply as in interested individual getting into a business mindset can be no bad thing for your productivity. “If you don't drive your business, you will be driven out of business.” said the Scottish-born American founder of Forbes magazine B. C. Forbes I raise this as if we want to learn how to master our own creative drive then we should begin to understand what is behind it. We need to engage our high-level thinking again. Daniel Pink says that DRIVE has three essential elements: Autonomy – the desire to direct our own lives. Mastery — the urge to get better and better at something that matters. Purpose — the yearning to do what we do in the service of something larger than ourselves. So let me expand on that as you must recognise these elements in picking up and dusting down your own drive. I’ll go on to some applicable solutions shortly. So Autonomy – that’s just a fancy name for doing what you want to do. If you have autonomy you are more likely to have DRIVE. It’s also one of what they call the six principles of adult learning that adults are internally motivated and self-directed. When you make choices relevant to your own objectives and you have the freedom to assume responsibility for those choices, then you are more likely to find the drive you need. That’s Autonomy. Mastery is the next one. Quite often you will find that drive comes easily in learning new skills, or in skills for which you are improving, or just want to get better at. It’s NOT about IN-BORN GENIUS or talent for these things. It’s just about getting better at what you do. If you are seeking mastery of something you will find the tenacity of effort required to get there. Seeking mastery of any skill or task, and the feeling that you are improving are strong contributing factors in achieving inner drive. All great masters go through a rigorous apprentice phase as they learn not only about the topic at hand but about themselves. It’s through that process that the focus to improve is better, and with that comes drive. “Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement.” ―W. Clement Stone /Unquote Finally Daniel Pink talks about Purpose: The yearning to do what we do in the service of something larger than ourselves. Perhaps we are talking about destiny here or certainly a deep desire to achieve a worthwhile endeavour. I suppose that’s where I find the drive to do this podcast. A NEED to do what we are here to do. “Effort and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.” Said John F. Kennedy, unquote. So now that we have an idea of the principles behind what creates a strong inner DRIVE a little more fully, let's look at a few solutions and hacks to get things moving. I’ve based this section on an excellent article from THE CUSP which I’ll link to in the show notes. Firstly: GOALS – episode 15 was all about goals, and in terms of drive they help because not knowing how to start is the most daunting part. Whatever you are doing, whether it’s writing an essay, or shooting a film or loading that dishwasher - Figure out one specific goal that’s achievable now. When you see the path, it’s easier to forge ahead. Be specific though and write it down, that is probably not necessary for the dishwasher goal, but I digress. I’ve said it several times before. Scientific studies have proven that if you write something down, even on a post-it note, it doesn’t have to be a novel - Then you are 80% more likely to do it. Next - And a few of the rules that I talk about in episode 9 are based on this, JUST START IT – The problem most of us have is that we’ve got no momentum. Make a commitment not to complete your task but to do just a few minutes of it. When you get started, you may just find that you complete the whole thing. Next, BUILD ON LITTLE WINS and FORGIVE TINY LOSSES - When you keep your stakes small, your achievements encourage you to keep going, and you can easily rebound from misfortunes. If you washed a load of dishes, for example, it’s easier to put them away while you’re there. Conversely, who cares if you didn’t edit your film today? Forgive yourself for not doing the whole thing, and sync up the footage instead so that you are more ready to edit tomorrow. You’re still working towards your goal. Make these larger goals a sum of their smaller parts. RECOGNISE EBB AND FLOW - You physically can’t maintain energy and focus all the time. You’re not a machine. Try attacking a task, in short, intense bursts interspersed with breaks, rather than trying to ‘push through’ or ‘stick at it’. And don’t overcompensate for a bad day by trying to work twice as hard the next. You’re setting yourself up to fail and establishing a vicious cycle. GET SUPPORT - “Motivation comes from working on things we care about. It also comes from working with people we care about.” —Sheryl Sandberg /Unquote - True drive comes from within – but it’s nicer with passengers. Spending time with family, friends, colleagues and mentors – meeting for coffee, or even a quick phone chat – can help you enrich and recharge. Gravitate to energetic people who make you want to be better. But beware social media. Don’t waste hours in a feedback loop of checking notifications and thinking up witty comments. You’re only making procrastination feel productive. I’m guilty of that one… TREAT OTHER PEOPLE AS INSPIRATION, NOT COMPETITION - Because everyone wears their game face on social media, you can get the false impression you’re lagging behind. Everyone struggles sometimes, with something. Remember with social networking too that you’re not seeing reality, you are seeing the edited highlights of someone’s life. The photo which they have chosen to release, not the one in which they look like a fat oaf. BTW I’m particularly good at deleting pics in which I look like a fat brainless oaf from my phone before any would ever be released publicly. And remember that other people’s success doesn’t make you a loser. You need to adopt an “If they can make it, so can I!” attitude. I was the year below Kevin McKidd at drama school and when he left he I think did a tour of The Silver Darlings and then was in TRAINSPOTTING. I bumped into someone that was in his year and I said, isn’t it amazing about Kevin? That guy was so down, so annoyed at Kevin’s success that I think even now, 25 years later he’s still annoyed. Kevin was always brilliant, and I was genuinely happy for him. Try and kill the negativity and adopt the “if they can do it, so can I” attitude. In addition, the novelist Michael Korda points out that “One way to keep momentum going is to have constantly greater goals.” In an article published on LIVEITFORWARD.COM the creator Kent Julian talks about how to Get Your Drive Back if you’ve lost it somewhere along the way. I think this advice is invaluable. He says DO NOT Try Harder, and I absolutely know where he is coming from on that. Figuring out how to get your drive back is not about exerting more energy or pushing harder, it’s about creating space to find your mojo. The first secret to how to get your drive back is to slow down and intentionally look inward. He calls this approach leading your life from quiet and just like you have to stop driving to put gas in your car, LEADING YOUR LIFE FROM QUIET allows you to stop pushing to put fuel in your life. This is exactly why I say in episode 2 that getting back control of your life starts with saying NO often, and meaning it. That gives you the breathing space to start gaining control. Kent says that the key for him is to set up a regular time to lead your life from quiet and to follow through with it consistently. I suggest that you set aside an hour or so at a specific time every week to consider where you are at, and what you need to do to move forward. His second tip is to Live It Forward. He says yes, stop pushing, but that doesn’t mean you should completely stop moving. You should live it forward by taking small, positive steps every day. Don’t look for one, big, magical step to take that will somehow solve everything. Mojo builds as a result of taking consistent, simple actions every day. As you take these positive steps forward, your drive will begin to build again. The American-Italian racing driver Mario Andretti says that Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek. SUMMING UP I’ve largely been talking about drive to do bigger life-level tasks here today, but if you have trouble with getting the drive to do even small tasks then you may want to try one of the anti-procrastination hacks that I talk about in episode 9. That’s available right now on iPlayer or the Android app of your choice. “Motivation will almost always beat mere talent.” Said Norman Ralph Augustine unquote Please remember that external motivators like money and praise can only go so far. You’ll need a strong inner drive to take you to the finish line. By utilising some of the techniques and understanding some of the motivating factors that I have discussed here today you will be able to form and move forward with drive and motivation. CALL TO ACTION One of my most powerful weapons in tackling daunting tasks is to split them into smaller chunks. Your call to action this week is to take something for which you have lost all drive and revisit it. See if, by splitting it down into smaller chunks you can get it started again. If you don’t have a specific task in mind, then assess your day to day tasks and see if, by splitting them up into parts they can be tackled, and become a sum of their parts. These smaller parts will be easier to get into than the whole, daunting thing. Utilise the “Sum of Its Parts Theory” and take from this episode the advice you need to rekindle your drive. That drive and motivation are within you. And never forget the special sauce. WRITE IT DOWN. PUT IT IN YOUR DIARY. BE SPECIFIC. Not every goal can be achieved in 5 minutes, or a day or an hour or a year. There’s no need to rush. In the words of Pablo Picasso - “It took me a lifetime.” ENDING The topic of Drive was requested in a kinda roundabout way by Anna @u_no_me_2 on Twitter but in the interests of true transparency, I was already planning it at the time. I know a lot of people struggle with it and I hope you’ve found the episode worthwhile. Just before I go I’d like to recommend a show called The Filmmakers Podcast which I’ve been listening to for about 6 months now and it’s awesome. Supporting indie film has been something the filmmaker's podcast has taken great pride in and they’ve been promoting other people’s work and campaigns over the year and a half they have been going so why not give back and keep supporting indie film. Giles is also an awesome retweeter of my @filmproprodpod tweets and I owe him one. Please follow them on Twitter @filmmakerspod or look to my own account @filmproprodpod or the show notes here for links. So thanks again for giving me your time. Have a great week ahead and as always - take control of your own destiny, keep on shootin’ and join me next time on Film Pro Productivity. The music you can hear right now is Adventures by A Himitsu You can view the show notes for this episode on the official website filmproproductivity.com Please follow the show on twitter @filmproprodpod or find me on facebook @filmproproductivity. My personal accounts on twitter and instagram are @fight_director Please support the show by subscribing, leaving an AWESOME review on iTunes spreading the word! 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Episode 52 -  We go back in time, to an episode we originally broadcast in 2017 where we summarised the best ideas we'd found on setting GREAT goals. This version of EP29 is edited to be a bit tighter. We've got rid of the out of date stuff, and kept the good stuff. Wanna set better goals for 2019? Give it a listen. If you'd like to listen to the FULL episodes, the links are here: Episode 18 (Why Your Goals Aren't Working) where we cover: The resource out there on setting goals 5 steps which many people agree on when setting successful goals 1) Visualising your goal – invoke all of your senses The brain’s link between sounds, smells and memory 2) Writing your goal down – using the S.M.A.R.T. acronym Be Specific about what the goal is Define how you would Measure whether you’ve achieved the goal Use ‘Action’ language – Do, Become, Develop Realistic – either take this literally and make the goals realistic, or take the ‘Big Hairy Audacious’ approach and set really stretching goals. You decide! Set a Time limit to when you want to achieve the goal by 3) Sharing your goal Two schools of thought on this, make them public, or keep them private. Here are two perspectives: Fast Company say make it public  Derek Sivers says keep them private 4) Break it down Be sure to split bigger goals into smaller steps Be clear on the NEXT step Make it something you can do within 24 hours 5) Plan Set yourself dates in the diary to review your progress AND to celebrate your success The one thing missing from most of the advice – WHY Why WHY? Never underestimate the power of stating the obvious 30 million people have given up smoking this way 5 whys according to iSixSigma 5 whys according to Toyota A version delivered from our kitchen table How you can make reviewing progress more satisfying Use a good planner to manage your progress – this is nice Action Day Academic Diary 17/18 The importance of being flexible – your goals don’t have to be set in stone In fact if you set the wrong ones, and you’ve changed them, then the process works! Episode 19 (10 Great Ways To Track Your Goals) where we cover: Why it’s no good just deciding on your goals Apps and mobile based resource can track and support your goals, because your device is always with you We reviewed loads of different websites, blogs and resource to research what apps are out there We (I) found 95 different apps to consider So then I filtered them based on which ones got recommended the most In the episode, I talked about the top 5 – here they are: Coach.me Goals on track Strides Irunurun Lifetick Next up was ‘paper based’ resource – sometimes it’s just nice to write with a pen Especially if you’re in a field (or the field) The Self Journal – here’s the link While researching The Self Journal, I came across this video by Gillateen. He’s funny and cool My Pro Planner – here’s the link They had a nice video too – here it is Action Day planners – here’s the link Two further bits of resource which are paper based but not journals: Design the Life You Love by Ayshe Birsel – here’s the link Field Notes notebooks, my absolute fave – here they are Fisher Space pen, it can write upside down, underwater, in the snow. So if you find yourself upside down in snowy water it’s a must. Also if you just want to have a handy small pen, it’s also a must. Again – here’s the link As always, we're really grateful for your help in supporting this podcast. To do this you can: Rate or subscribe at i-tunes by going here - i-tunes Contact us on Twitter - we are @sharppodcast here Connect with us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sharppodcast/ Share with at us on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharppodcast/ Post comments on the website.

Proverbs 21:13, 26, 19:17 He who shuts his ear to the cry of the poor Will also cry himself and not be answered. All day long he is craving, While the righteous gives and does not hold back. One who is gracious to a poor man lends to the LORD, And He will repay him for his good deed. -What does this make you think? -Who is this aimed at? -Define generosity in one sentence. -How do we achieve this? Be Specific. Thanks for stopping by! Tell me what you think!!

I might start calling these episodes "Tough Love Tuesdays, " ha!  Listen, no one has it all figured out.  I want to make that exceptionally clear.  The polished, pretty photos on Instagram rarely show the full picture and none of us has our shit together.  This episode topic really spoke to me because it's been an emotional roller coaster of a year (for various reasons, professional and personal) and sometimes I have this very pep talk with myself to get back on track.   And.....it usually works.  So I want to share this with you, because sometimes we all need a little help to rally and get back on track, am I right?  Here's the thing: you need to stop giving up on yourself.   You've probably done it thousands of times.  Set a goal, even the smallest goal, failed, and gave up.  And then tried again only to have the same thing happen and repeat the cycle.     BIG LIFE GOALS If you have a big goal, then you're in this for the long haul.  You’re in this for life.  It’s going to take time, effort, sweat, and tears. Nothing is going to be handed to you.  You’re going to have to work for it.  Whether you're building a business, getting your nutrition on track, building a body and upping your fitness, or aiming to be the best partner/mom/friend out there, this is not going to happen overnight.   So stop expecting it to happen quickly.  Stop giving up when obstacles come up.   Stop giving in to all of the excuses you're telling yourself.   Because this is the long haul, you're going to have to find ways to enjoy the process.  That's where the sustainability factor is.  That's where you can find joy in the journey, because if you don't like how you get to your goal, you're not going to be happy when you get there.     BEHAVIOURS & HABITS All of our behaviours are based on habits that we're used to performing regularly, and whatever you do on a regular basis is what you're practicing.  It's what you're getting better at.  And you can choose what that will look like.   You might be getting better at watching TV for hours every night, sleeping late, and eating foods you're trying to avoid.   You might be getting better at going to the gym, eating eggs & veggies for brekkie and fitting in a walk.   You might be getting better at writing in your journal every morning with a cup of tea.   Whatever it is, if you're doing it regularly, that's what you're practicing and improving upon.   This is incredibly encouraging, because it means you can make different choices to start practicing something new right away!  You don't need to wait for next month, or until the new year to make a change.  You can start making different choices now to become incrementally better than you were yesterday.   Four action steps that are a must to stop giving up on yourself and your big dreams: Start TODAY. Start SMALL. Be SPECIFIC. PRACTICE.  Repeat.  Create a habit out of the things you're trying to achieve.    and if you need a little help figuring out where all of this fits into your own life.... AUDIT YOUR NUTRITION & LIFESTYLE I'm offering a handful of FREE 30 minute callsto audit your nutrition and lifestyle, because the two are so closely connected that we need to examine both to get you the change you want.   I can help you crack open some of those old habits so that you can start practicing new ones ASAP.  Stop waiting for someone to give you permission, or for the "right time," whatever that looks like.  There's no better time than right now, and that way you have new habits you can practice over the holidays and start the new year feeling better than ever, rather than bloated and guilty.   You deserve this.  You deserve to stop giving up on yourself.   Book a free call with Emily here.     DON'T MISS... Want to chat more and do a deeper dive into this topic and get access to live videos, exclusive guest appearances and discussions?  The Room to Grow Podcast Facebook group is a judgement-free safe space to open up, and I’d love to welcome you in with the other amazing women in the group.  It’s the best place to go for a little extra support.  See you over there! And, if you can take a screenshot of this episode and tag me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoachI would absolutely love to connect with you and thank you for listening in real life!  It makes me day to see you listening to the podcast and fills me up with pure joy. Seriously.  See you on the ‘gram!   REFERENCES Find full show notes including all resources mentioned in the episode at emilygoughcoaching.com/034 roomtogrowpodcast.com If you liked this episode, you'll get so much out of this previous episode:  Room to Grow Podcast, episode #14 – It's a Priority Problem: How Are You Spending Your Energy?

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In episode 81 of Financially Simple, Justin talks about setting strategic objectives for your business. As your business grows, it's important to have clear goals to define the development of the business and keep it on track to your ultimate objective. Justin goes over setting goals, what they should be, and how to reach them. Don't forget to subscribe, and let us know how we are doing by leaving a review. Thanks for listening! BLOG TRANSCRIPTION:  7 Steps to Setting Achievable Long-term Objectives in Business   TIME INDEX: 00:35 - Setting Strategic Objectives 02:15 - What Are the Objectives of Your Business? 04:00 - Having a Time Frame 06:22 - Only Set 3 Goals at a Time 08:39 - Make One Financial 09:26 - The SMART Filter 10:19 - Be Specific 12:05 - Make it Measurable 13:06 - Make it Assignable 13:52 - Make it Realistic 14:03 - Is it Time-related? 14:42 - Objectives Must Align with VMOSTA 18:00 - Goals & Objectives Should be Set by Management 19:29 - Write Your Objectives Down   USEFUL LINKS: Financially Simple Financially Simple on YouTube Financially Simple on Facebook Financially Simple on Twitter Ukandoo.com - The Power of 3 in Marketing ________ BIO: Justin A. Goodbread, CFP®, CEPA, CVGA, is a nationally recognized financial planner, business educator, wealth manager, author, speaker, and entrepreneur. He has 20+ years of experience teaching small business owners how to start, buy, grow, and sell businesses. He is a multi-year recipient of the Investopedia Top 100 Advisor and 2018 Exit Planning Institute's Exit Planner Leader of the Year.DISCLOSURES:This podcast is distributed for informational purposes only. Statements made in the podcast are not to be construed as personalized investment or financial planning advice, may not be suitable for everyone, and should not be considered a solicitation to engage in any particular investment or planning strategy. Listeners should conduct their own review and exercise judgment or consult with their own professional financial advisor to see how the information contained in this podcast may apply to their own individual circumstances. All investing involves the risk of loss, including the possible loss of principal. Past performance does not guarantee future results and nothing in this podcast should be construed as a guarantee of any specific outcome or profit. All market indices discussed are unmanaged, do not incur management fees, costs and expenses, and cannot be invested into directly. Investment advisory services offered by WealthSource Partners, LLC. Neither WealthSource Partners, LLC nor its representatives provide legal or accounting advice. The content of this podcast represents the views and opinions of Justin Goodbread and/or the podcast's guests and do not necessarily represent the views and/or opinions of WealthSource Partners, LLC. Statements made in this podcast are subject to change without notice. Neither WealthSource Partners, LLC nor its representatives, the podcast's hosts, or its guests have an obligation to provide revised statements in the event of changed circumstances. Certified Financial Planner Board of Standards, Inc. (CFP Board) owns the CFP® certification mark, the CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ certification mark, and the CFP® certification mark (with plaque design) logo in the United States, which it authorizes the use of by individuals who successfully complete CFP Board's initial and ongoing certification requirements.   Advisors who wished to be ranked in Investopedia's Top 100 Financial Advisors list either self-submitted answers to questions compiled by Investopedia or were nominated by peers.  Rankings were determined based on the number of followers and engagement on social media, primary contribution to professional industry websites, and their focus on financial literacy.  Neither performance nor client experience, however, were considered.  No compensation was paid by WealthSource Partners, LLC or Justin Goodbread to secure placement on Investopedia's Top 100 Financial Advisors List.   The Exit Planning Institute's Leader of the Year is awarded to a nominee who is a CEPA credential holder who has made a significant impact or contribution to the exit planning profession or overall community through innovation and influence and is viewed by the Exit Planning Institute as a thought leader, risk-taker and specialist while showing characteristics of collaboration.   This podcast might recommend products or services that offer Financially Simple compensation when you use them. This compensation is used to help offset the cost of creating the content. We will, however, never suggest products/services solely for the compensation we receive.

Joining us this week is Yves Boudreau from Ericsson for his 2nd Podcast appearance (1st Podcast). Highlights • Edge as an accelerant not having to wait until Edge is built completely • Opportunity Cost using Edge as is; no time to wait • Be Specific when Requesting Services • Internet and Networks are Not Unlimited Pipes • Interesting Use Cases for Edge – Augmented Reality, Drone, Cars, Batteries o Jason Hoffman Podcast for Batteries • Cost savings of where the data processing is done • Open Source software communities at the Edge

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The devil may live in the details—but’s that’s probably because he likes the magic there. In Monster Baby Episode, #48, Ted and Lisa discuss the challenges, joys, and benefits of getting specific. They start with a few leftovers from last episode’s discussion on Emotions (2:20) and a new version of the old-standby warm-up game, Three [more…] The post Monster Baby #48: Be Specific! appeared first on Anima Learning.

Show Notes: http://www.dol-in.org/news/episode-11-how-to-say-thank-you Looking for something specific?1:40 End of the Year Stories7:44 Why should we say thank you? (It’s just polite)9:47 Affirm People for Cooperating with God13:38 Whom should we be thanking in our ministry?15:05 Be SPECIFIC and personal in your thanks20:49 When should you say thank you23:00 Volunteer Survival Kit25:28 Up Front Thanks30:16 Ideas for saying thank you37:43 Long Time Celebrations!

(This article is the introduction to my brand new Design Yourself series intended to help you properly set goals that you will achieve, get important sh*t done in your life, and design the optimized version of you) It’s officially the time of year when life has kicked back into full gear. The holidays are long gone yet summer vacations are months away, every day is “crazy busy!” and unfortunately the chances are roughly 91%1 that whatever New Year’s Resolutions you set for yourself have failed...again. The worst part is you are most likely blaming yourself: “I just don’t have the willpower to eat a healthier diet.” “I don’t have the energy or the motivation to exercise regularly.” “There aren’t enough hours in the day to learn new skills...my job is crazy enough.” “Meditating every morning requires too much discipline.” “I’m just not the kind of person who achieves difficult goals.” But the good news is it’s not your fault. You have not given up on your New Year’s Resolutions because you are a weak or lazy person who lacks motivation, willpower, and discipline. The system is rigged, and it feeds off your failure in order to survive. Luckily all you have to do is stop following the system society has provided and introduce a different system into your life specifically designed to help you achieve your goals. The key is to stop chasing after the next shiny object and start playing the long game. It’s time to stop playing checkers and start playing chess. The Myth of the “Get Healthy Quick” Scheme We’ve all been up late on a Friday night hypnotized by the glistening human specimens pushing themselves “To the extreme!” in infomercials for programs such as P90X, Insanity, or the latest miracle contraption as we mindlessly murder the (third) bag of Doritos draped across our chest. Maybe it was the self-loathing, the upbeat motivational music, or perhaps it was the promise of rock-hard abs in as little as 60 days that got you to drop $100 or more on whatever program or tool was advertised....only to let it remain unopened because opening it will inevitably lead to failure, more self-loathing, and another late night date with the next infomercial (and another bag of Doritos). We’re all guilty of buying a diet book, exercise program, online learning course, or workout app that went unused, or at best that we tried for a few days or a few weeks before going back to our old habits. We wanted to believe that this one single purchase combined with “a little bit more discipline” would finally allow us to achieve our goals. Yet we fail year after year hitting the reset button every January expecting to get different results despite repeating the same behaviors over and over. As much as we’d like to place the blame elsewhere, the problem is not the tools, the apps, the diet books, or the exercise programs. P90X is the most successful home workout program of all time for a reason - because it’s awesome. The problem is we’ve never been taught how to set goals properly. Take a look at the top 5 New Year’s Resolutions of 20171: Lose Weight 21.4% Self improvements 12.3% Make better financial decisions 8.5% Quit smoking 7.1% Do more exciting things 6.3% And here is a list of the most popular resolutions based on over 150 million Google searches from January through October of 20162: Get Healthy Get Organized Live Life to the Fullest Learn New Hobbies Spend Less & Save More It’s no surprise that 91% of people fail to achieve their resolutions - These aren’t goals! They are vague ideas at best, mirages at the end of an invisible finish line with no clear definition. But luckily for the diet & fitness industries, you only need an extremely small percentage of success stories to provide sexy “before & after” photos in order to get the vast majority of people to assume the program will work for them too. You know what generates billions of dollars? Total life transformation in 90 days. You know what doesn’t generate billions of dollars? Gradual lifestyle change. It doesn’t stop at diet & exercise programs. The Internet feeds off your desire to transform your life, lose weight, eat better, and become more productive, happier, healthier, or wealthier. And it no longer takes 60-90 days. Thanks to the blogosphere, you can now literally transform your entire life in one day! Here is a collection of some of my favorite headlines: How To Change Your Life In Just One Day How to Change Your Life Around In a Matter of Hours (Because a day is too long) 45 Ways to be Happier Instantly 50 Small Ways to Increase Your Happiness 60 Small Ways to Improve Your Life In the Next 100 Days The Psychological Trick You Can Learn in 10 Minutes That Will Change Your Life Want to Become a Multi-Millioniare? Do These 15 Things Immediately Let’s be honest...when was the last time you read a 1000 word “listicle” and were truly inspired to change your life by doing all 60 actions on that list? Probably never. These articles are good for nothing more than five minutes of mindless distraction while you sit on the toilet. Luckily for the authors of these posts, they don’t have to post the success rate of the readers who implemented their ideas. All they require is traffic. And like sexy infomercials and rock-hard abs, it’s hard not to click on a link promising that there are “20 different ways to lose weight while you sleep.” If your intention is to make meaningful progress towards the most important goals in your life, it’s time to stop setting vague resolutions hoping that the next all-or-nothing program, shake weight, or 5-minute toilet read will change your life. It’s time to learn how to set goals that you can achieve using a simple-to-follow and repeatable system. Designing Your Roadmap to Success I guarantee one thing: You are not going to completely change your entire life in 90 days. Most people overestimate what they can achieve in a year but drastically underestimate what they can achieve in a decade3. Before setting your first goal, be okay knowing that it may take 90 days just to have clarity about what your goal truly looks like and develop the confidence that you have what it takes to achieve it. And once you have clearly defined what you want to accomplish, it’s going to take time to build the daily habits necessary to consistently take action. The number one fallacy that most people make when making resolutions or setting goals is making them exceedingly vague. If you want to achieve your goals, you must BE SPECIFIC. Don’t vow to yourself that you are going to “get healthy” this year, think about a more specific way you could become a healthier person. Here are a few examples: Lose weight Sleep 8 hours every night Eat a healthier diet Take up a hobby to decrease stress Work less hours every week Once you have narrowed down where you’d like to focus your energy to “get healthy,” the next step is to turn this into a concrete macro goal statement by asking yourself the following questions: Is my goal something I can track and measure on a regular basis? If the way you want to get healthier this year is to “lose weight,” that’s an okay start. But simply wanting to lose weight still isn’t a macro goal. Committing to losing 20 pounds, however, is the beginning of a much more specific goal that is MEASURABLE. If you can’t track your goal on a regular basis you have no way of knowing whether or not your actions and behaviors are leading you closer to success or failure. What you measure, you can improve upon. Is your goal actionable and achievable? Unfortunately “getting healthy” is not an ACTIONABLE goal. If someone told you, “I want you to get healthy right now!” what would you even do, and where would you even start? But if you instead resolve to lose weight and you’ve defined the amount as 20 pounds, now you can begin to brainstorm the possible actions necessary to succeed. Now let’s say instead your goal is to lose 100 pounds instead of 20...is that as achievable? Make sure you have set a goal that is ACHIEVABLE, but also make sure it forces you to step outside your comfort zone because that’s where the magic happens. Is this goal relevant to my life right now? If your goal is to lose 20 pounds but you are about to have your first child and you are working 60 hours a week in a sedentary job, perhaps losing 20 pounds isn’t a realistic goal that is RELEVANT to your life right now. Rather than setting yourself up for failure, perhaps you need to modify your goal based on your current life circumstances. You could instead set a goal of doubling your daily step count from 3500 to 7000 steps per day. That may or may not lead to weight loss anyway, but it’s more relevant to your current circumstances and is much more achievable. Design relevant goals based on your current circumstances and set yourself up for success, never for failure. Does my goal have a deadline? So you’re committed to losing 20 pounds in order to “get healthy” this year...fantastic! But how much time have you given yourself to achieve this goal? If your goal is to lose 20 pounds someday, good luck with that. Or maybe you’re more realistic and the plan is to start...tomorrow? Instead of thinking losing 20 pounds is something you will get to eventually, set a concrete deadline. Saying, “I’m going to lose 20 pounds in the next 6 months” is a TIME-SENSITIVE goal that will motivate you to begin taking immediate action. Don’t think deadlines make a difference? I don’t care how much you procrastinate, how lazy you are, or how little motivation or willpower you think you possess. If your house is a mess, the best productivity strategy to get yourself to clean it is to invite your mother-in-law over for dinner. I guarantee creating that time-sensitive deadline will get your butt in gear. Now apply this mindset to your specific goal. Once you have taken the steps to get from “I want to get healthy” to “I want to lose 20 pounds in the next 6 months,” it’s time to ask yourself the most important question of all that will be the difference between your success or failure. The Importance of Defining Your ‘Why’ Whatever goal you set isn’t going to be easy if it pushes you outside your comfort zone. Losing 20 pounds isn’t an easy goal to achieve for most people. If it were then we wouldn’t be in the midst of the largest obesity epidemic we’ve seen in modern history. Your life will be filled with distractions every single day that pull you away from your goal. Simply wanting to lose weight isn’t enough to stop you from devouring the box of donuts your colleagues bring in every Friday morning (I love you guys at Unsolved, but seriously you’re killing me). Image courtesy of Bethany Newman, Unsplash.com If you intend to become a member of the elite group of the less than 10% of people who follow through with their goals, you better have a very clear understanding of WHY achieving your goal is important to you. This is an incredibly simple (but not easy) process where all you do is continually ask yourself ‘Why is achieving my goal important to me?’ as if you were a five year old. Why is losing weight important to you? Because I’d look better and my clothes would fit me again. Great...so why is that important? Because if I looked better and my clothes fit I’d have more confidence in myself (and my spouse might also find me more attractive). Great...so why is that important? Having more confidence in myself would help me do better creative work and energize me again in a career where I feel stuck and unmotivated. Great...so why is that important? (Sensing a pattern here?) Doing better work and having passion for my career again could lead to a promotion or a new job that pays a lot more. Great...so why is that important? Landing a new job that I’m passionate about that also pays more would allow me to better support my family and be a more energetic and positive role model for my young kids. I don’t know about you, but I could care less about losing 20 pounds for the sake of looking better. I all but guarantee, however, that if losing weight led to landing a new job that I was passionate about and transformed me into a more supportive, attentive, and positive role model for my young children, it would be a helluva lot easier to politely decline the Friday morning donuts. Looking better and having clothes that fit me would just be an added bonus but no longer the destination. The 5-Step Framework That Makes Success Inevitable You have clearly defined your macro goal and you know why achieving it is so important to you. It’s time to get busy! ….Not so fast. Before jumping into the deep end and taking action, if you truly want to succeed where you’ve failed so many times in the past, there are several more equally important steps after defining your macro goal. Remember, you’re no longer setting vague goals and crossing your fingers hoping they magically come true - you are building a system that will make success inevitable. The system that I’ve used for the last decade that ensures I achieve every goal I set is the 5-step GO FAR framework originally conceived by Christopher Rush, the first quadriplegic with muscular dystrophy to become a licensed scuba diver. https://youtu.be/IOoDQvUfKRs Losing 20 pounds doesn’t sound so overwhelming anymore compared to the thought of rendering your limbs useless, weighing yourself down, and then being thrown into the ocean does it? In a future installment of my Design Yourself series I’ll cover the second step of the GO FAR framework where you will learn how to identify and overcome the OBSTACLES that will stop you from achieving your goals. If you’re interested in developing laser-sharp focus and taking real action towards the most important goals in your life, having complete clarity on what needs to get done, having 100% confidence that you are doing what’s necessary, and knowing how to take action consistently, then I invite you to join the waitlist for my ‘Focus Yourself’ program so you are the first to know when beta enrollment opens (and get a steep discount). I’ll even send you my 50 page ‘Ultimate Guide to Optimizing Your Creativity (And Avoiding Burnout)’ as a bonus! ----- Sources: 1 https://www.statisticbrain.com/new-years-resolution-statistics/ 2 https://www.nbcnews.com/business/consumer/2017-new-year-s-resolutions-most-popular-how-stick-them-n701891 3 This quote is most often attributed to Bill Gates but is also widely attributed to Tony Robbins as well.

Summary Brian & Heather Mayer talk about the small ways that we can say I love you to our partner.  For those of us that are remarried, finding small ways to show our love can be hard.  We've been through a lot in our life, a lot in our relationships and often are just older making life feel not as fresh sometimes.  Today's episode will help you learn new ways to show your mate that you do indeed love them and don't take them for granted.  We hope you enjoy today's message.  For more information and additional resources please visit our website at http://www.theremarriedlife.com Today's Goodies Todays's Episode is inspired by the poem called “How Do I Love Thee?” by Elizabeth Barrett Browning.  Here is that poem: How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. I love thee to the depth and breadth and height My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight For the ends of being and ideal grace. I love thee to the level of every day's Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light. I love thee freely, as men strive for right. I love thee purely, as they turn from praise. I love thee with the passion put to use In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith. I love thee with a love I seemed to lose With my lost saints. I love thee with the breath, Smiles, tears, of all my life; and, if God choose, I shall but love thee better after death.  “How Do I Love Thee” was written by Elizabeth Barrett Browning as a dedication to her husband Robert Browning, who was also a poet.  Robert basically rescued Elizabeth at age 40 from a reclusive and oppressive life under her father.  Robert was so smitten with her poetry that he asked to meet and soon thereafter they fell in love through love letters.     Wow what a love story!  So with that as our inspiration let's talk about some things in addition to writing poetry that can really show how much we love our spouse or partner.         Leave a note in a lunchbox, on the steering wheel, or on the bathroom mirror.     Text, “I Love You” or simply use Emoji's. Share an Appreciation and Be Specific.  For example, you are a wonderful teacher because I saw the way one of your students was struggling and how you stooped down on their level to console, comfort and encourage them.  Wow!              Give an out of the blue compliment.  For example, “Thank you so much for cleaning the kitchen last night.  I remember looking at it saying I'm so tired I'll get to it tomorrow night. Thank you so much! Random hugging and kissing.  Maybe you pass each other in the hallway at home and one of you grabs the other.  Maybe you sneak up behind and give a peck on the neck.  Whatever it is just find new and different ways to show affection.  Holding hands when you are out together.  Holding the door or other random gestures of kindess. Spur of the moment massages are always nice.  Connecting through Listening to  a marriage talk or sermon.  When you hear something that affects one of both of you give a little squeeze or rub on the knee just to show you share in what you hear.  Do the other person's normal chore.  Listen to Session 22 called Role Reversal in Remarriage for a more in depth talk on this issue.     Send flowers for no reason.  Send a card through the mail to work or home. Buy your partner their favorite treat.  Pray for your partner Make lunch for your partner Give you partner the first 5 or 10 minutes of your time when you get home.     Dedicate a song.  We hope these ideas gives your relationship a bit of a kickstart and by all means get creative and come up with you own.  In fact we would love to hear your creative ways that you do to show you love your partner or spouse.  Post those in the Remarried Life Facebook group and please join if you have not.   Resources Brian & Heather's love for each other is your resource for this week.    Thanks For Listening! With so many things that take time in our lives, I more grateful than you know that you took time to listen to this podcast episode.  If you liked this episode and believe that it would be beneficial to a friend, family member, or colleague, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. It would be extremely helpful, it you would consider leaving a rating and review on Apple devices at iTunes  or on Android devices at Google Play as it will help the podcast reach others who need help in rebuilding life and relationships. The Remarried Life Facebook Group is a community of people just like you who get and give support.  Please join today!  ​ As always remember that marriage is nothing something you have, it is something you do.  Talk to you next week unless you are binge listening in the future in which case I will talk to you in about a minute!  Take care.

If you want to get better as a speaker, being able to make your audience laugh, will help increase the power of your message, and will set you apart from the crowd. I've been writing and performing comedy for nearly 16 years. I've performed all over the UK, including solo shows in Edinburgh. I'm an international playwright, and my comedy drama ‘Dearly Beloved', published by Lazybee Scripts, has been performed in the UK, Japan, and Canada. With a long background in business, I also know when and how to use humour appropriately in that environment, and as a Speaker, humour is one of the most important tools I have. In this week's episode, I'm sharing the foundations of using humour, so that you can start to experience the power and joy it brings into your public speaking. What you'll learn: What makes something funny The THREES formula and the ingredients every joke should have Where to find ideas for material How to create material Where you should use humour in your talks My top three comedy performance tips My Golden Rules of Comedy   Resources: Seth Meyers Golden Globe Opening Monologue Ken Robinson TED Talk Cracking Speech Mate – How to use humour to make you an amazing speaker Comedy Writing Exercises:  Rant and reverse Rant Pick something that winds you up, (it could be related to your speaking topic, or something completely different). Write or rant for five minutes on that subject, make sure you record yourself if you're talking. If you start to dry up, use these statements to keep going: It's not as if… If I were in charge… I'd be lying if I said… The real challenge here is… It would serve them right if… In another universe… Reverse Now talk about the same subject for five minutes as if you thought it was the best thing since sliced bread and all the reasons why. Here are some ideas for statements that will help you with this part: I get tingly all over thinking about it because… If it didn't exist then… I love it when… If I were in charge… People who don't understand should…   Questions are the Answer Take a specific topic Ask questions to start looking at that thing in new ways. How would you describe the thing to an alien – remember they won't know our language, so you may need to explain a lot. You might find some new things about your topic which are absurd, that could be mined further for a joke. Find an analogy – what are other things this thing could be like in different industries, countries, cultures, professions etc. If you go off at a tangent that's fine, going down rabbit holes when you're writing comedy is just the right thing to do.   My Comedy Golden Rules: Jokes must always go from good to bad, or bad to worse Be Specific – the comedy is in the detail Apply attitude to everything you write Write as you talk Leave a beat before you deliver the punchline Don't talk over the laughter If you are ‘it' you can talk about ‘it' Use the THREES formula   Thanks for listening! To share your thoughts: leave a comment below. Share this show on Twitter, Facebook or LinkedIn. To help the show out: Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and review really help get the word out and I read each one. Subscribe on iTunes.  

Episode 29  In this episode we help you prepare for a sharper new YOU for next year, by revisiting the subject of goals. We've produced a compilation episode on the subject, with all the really useful stuff from episodes 18 and 19. If you'd like to listen to the FULL episodes, the links are here: Episode 18 (Why Your Goals Aren't Working) where we cover: The resource out there on setting goals 5 steps which many people agree on when setting successful goals 1) Visualising your goal – invoke all of your senses The brain’s link between sounds, smells and memory 2) Writing your goal down – using the S.M.A.R.T. acronym Be Specific about what the goal is Define how you would Measure whether you’ve achieved the goal Use ‘Action’ language – Do, Become, Develop Realistic – either take this literally and make the goals realistic, or take the ‘Big Hairy Audacious’ approach and set really stretching goals. You decide! Set a Time limit to when you want to achieve the goal by 3) Sharing your goal Two schools of thought on this, make them public, or keep them private. Here are two perspectives: Fast Company say make it public  Derek Sivers says keep them private 4) Break it down Be sure to split bigger goals into smaller steps Be clear on the NEXT step Make it something you can do within 24 hours 5) Plan Set yourself dates in the diary to review your progress AND to celebrate your success The one thing missing from most of the advice – WHY Why WHY? Never underestimate the power of stating the obvious 30 million people have given up smoking this way 5 whys according to iSixSigma 5 whys according to Toyota A version delivered from our kitchen table How you can make reviewing progress more satisfying Use a good planner to manage your progress – this is nice Action Day Academic Diary 17/18 The importance of being flexible – your goals don’t have to be set in stone In fact if you set the wrong ones, and you’ve changed them, then the process works! Episode 19 (10 Great Ways To Track Your Goals) where we cover: Why it’s no good just deciding on your goals Apps and mobile based resource can track and support your goals, because your device is always with you We reviewed loads of different websites, blogs and resource to research what apps are out there We (I) found 95 different apps to consider So then I filtered them based on which ones got recommended the most In the episode, I talked about the top 5 – here they are: Coach.me Goals on track Strides Irunurun Lifetick Next up was ‘paper based’ resource – sometimes it’s just nice to write with a pen Especially if you’re in a field (or the field) The Self Journal – here’s the link While researching The Self Journal, I came across this video by Gillateen. He’s funny and cool My Pro Planner – here’s the link They had a nice video too – here it is Action Day planners – here’s the link Two further bits of resource which are paper based but not journals: Design the Life You Love by Ayshe Birsel – here’s the link Field Notes notebooks, my absolute fave – here they are Fisher Space pen, it can write upside down, underwater, in the snow. So if you find yourself upside down in snowy water it’s a must. Also if you just want to have a handy small pen, it’s also a must. Again – here’s the link As always, we're really grateful for your help in supporting this podcast. To do this you can: Rate or subscribe at i-tunes by going here - i-tunes Contact us on Twitter - we are @sharppodcast here Connect with us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sharppodcast/ Share with at us on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharppodcast/ Post comments on the website. This link will take you to home page, and then you can go onto the episode you'd like to comment on here...

Melissa spent 10 years in the advertising industry as an account executive who specialized in branding, marketing, sales, etc.  The “9-5” started to grow exhausting so she found her own way to cut out the middle-man and began a social media and marketing business.   Over time she found that she was doing more than just SM management and marketing.  She was showing businesses how to take a systematic and organized approach to their business in order to help them find the holes in their business and increase efficiency in order to maximize profits.    Using a systematic approach to maximize profitability How to identify steps: Take a step back and look at things from a high level Identify everything you do in a day Be Specific, pretend a new employee will be running your business while you’re away, or talk to a friend who will ask questions. Get clear on tasks Assign each task into one of 3 “Business Buckets” 1) Sales and Marketing Bucket 2) Clients/Customers--meetings, paperwork, emails, calls, etc 3) Policies, Procedures & Operations Identify a system: Evaluate one bucket at a time and batch like items together Example: Meetings, note taking and inputting into CRM would be a batch Work outside of meetings would be another batch, etc. Put batches in order sequentially and list amount of time it takes to complete Reevaluate batches and remove unnecessary tasks and tasks you don’t do. Wash, Rinse, Repeat: After working through one bucket Keep practicing, evaluating, and improving, then move onto the next bucket and continue process.  Continue evaluating and tracking to optimize efficiency You can’t improve what you don’t measure Get to know what type of person you are and how you work Are you a pen and paper person? Does trello work for you or a personal planner, etc?  The system of tracking must flow well with your work style and personality or it won’t stick Find what works for you. Be patient. It’s impossible to jump into a complete makeover.  Take baby sets to acclimate to the process so you can stick with the changes and see the improvement. With Melissa, this process of systematizing takes about 8 weeks with some follow up afterwards Final words of advice: Don’t be hard on yourself. Take baby steps.  Be happy with your progress and don’t compare yourself to others. So many people give up just before they become successful so don’t give up! Special offer: Visit com/strategicsocialpartners Special-45 minute free consultation to address single most important challenge/struggle in your business at this point.   Example: Photographer working like a dog, but feels like the product is delivered late, working late hours, clients happy with product but don’t come back. Photographer had not defined the process from start to finish. She did not know how long each step actually took or where her clients were in the process. She guessed from consultation to delivery would take about one month, turns out it was a 6-8 week process. A board for her pipeline was created so she can track and give a realistic timeline before taking on new clients in order to deliver in the time she promises and keep clients happy.

Episode 18-  We've spent some time looking at goals. No, not football goals - life goals! We've gathered together 5 KEY actions for setting effective goals, plus ONE missing thing that most of the resource doesn't tell you. It's not a secret, it's in the title!  Some of the stuff in there is: The resource out there on setting goals 5 steps which many people agree on when setting successful goals 1) Visualising your goal - invoke all of your senses The brain's link between sounds, smells and memory 2) Writing your goal down - using the S.M.A.R.T. acronym Be Specific about what the goal is Define how you would Measure whether you've achieved the goal Use 'Action' language - Do, Become, Develop Realistic - either take this literally and make the goals realistic, or take the 'Big Hairy Audacious' approach and set really stretching goals. You decide! Set a Time limit to when you want to achieve the goal by 3) Sharing your goal Two schools of thought on this, make them public, or keep them private. Here are two perspectives: Fact Company say make it public  Derek Sivers says keep them private 4) Break it down Be sure to split bigger goals into smaller steps Be clear on the NEXT step Make it something you can do within 24 hours 5) Plan Set yourself dates in the diary to review your progress AND to celebrate your success The one thing missing from most of the advice - WHY Why WHY? Never underestimate the power of stating the obvious 30 million people have given up smoking this way 5 whys according to iSixSigma 5 whys according to Toyota A version delivered from our kitchen table How you can make reviewing progress more satisfying Use a good planner to manage your progress - this is nice Action Day Academic Diary 17/18 The importance of being flexible - your goals don't have to be set in stone In fact if you set the wrong ones, and you've changed them, then the process works! As always, we're really grateful for your help in supporting this podcast. To do this you can: Rate or subscribe at i-tunes by going here - i-tunes Contact us on Twitter - we are @sharppodcast here Connect with us on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sharppodcast/ Share with at us on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharppodcast/ Post comments on the website. This link will take you to home page, and then you can go onto the episode you'd like to comment on here Thanks EVER SO MUCH for listening. If we help you to BE BETTER at what you do, then it's all been worth it!

GUEST: Elaine Lin Hering http://triadconsultinggroup.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/elainelinhering/ lin@diffcon.com   Across industries, people say that feedback conversations are their most difficult conversations -- both giving and receiving.   ONe the receiving end, it’s triggering. On the giving end, you may cause a trigger in the receiver, and you don’t know how it’s being received.   Three kinds of feedback: Positive feedback: appreciation Coaching: guidance for improved effectiveness Evaluation: Tracking against expectations   In order to learn and thrive and do good work, we need all three kinds of feedback.Feedback is: solicited and unsolicited Verbal and non-verbal   When receiving feedback, people often feel judged.   When feedback is non-verbal, it’s especially hard to interpret.   Principles of Improvisation: Everything is an offer. We are meaning making machines. Be specific. Yes, And. “Tell me more about that.”   Skills for giving feedback is half the equation. Receiving feedback is an equally important set of skills.   We reject feedback for three reasons: Truth trigger: You’re wrong. You have incomplete data. Relationship trigger: I don’t like or trust you and your motivations. Identity trigger: That’s not me. That’s not who I want to be. I don’t want to face the possibility that this describes me or my behavior.   Build awareness as a feedback giver and receiver of the above triggers.   As a giver of feedback, notice and unpack the labels you’re using in giving feedback -- and Be Specific. Specificity can help get around the truth trigger by helping people to be clear that we’re talking about the same thing.   As a receiver of feedback… take some time away and assess the feedback away from the stress of the confrontation.   Don’t use vague or uncertain terms that require interpretation, and that will inevitably get different interpretations from different people. “Be more man-like.”   Describe behavior and describe impact instead.   When receiving feedback, observe your first reaction, and then you can choose your response.   Human beings think in labels. It’s our job as givers (and even as receivers) to translate those labels into useful information.   How can you frame the feedback to be in the self-interest of the feedback receiver. How will it benefit that person to make the change you’re suggesting?   As a receiver, if 90% of the feedback someone gives you is off and irrelevant, focus on the 10% that can serve you.   Feedback is information exchange and it’s the fuel and driver for getting stuff done. So, ask yourself, how is feedback going on our team? How painful is it? How effective is it?We need a mindset shift: Feedback isn’t the “F” word. It’s an opportunity for improvement and accelerated growth.   Neglecting to give feedback insulates people from the reality of their behavior, of the reality of the impact of that behavior. If you aren’t giving me feedback, you’re cheating me out of the opportunity to learn and grow.   There is no learning without feedback.   If you’re giving people feedback, and it’s not working. 1) Look at how you’re having the conversation. 2) Give meta-feedback. “We’ve had this conversation before. There’s a problem here with your making adjustments based on feedback.”   It’s critical to discuss the impact, the results, the consequences of behavior.   As feedback givers, we will never be free of bias. We can work to filter it out. And as feedback receivers, our job is to try to filter through that bias as well. Your host on Mighty Good Work is Aaron Schmookler. https://www.linkedin.com/in/schmookler/   And, we’re The Yes Works -- Helping to make work good for people, and make people good for work.   www.TheYesWorks.com   Resources mentioned in today’s show: Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, by Roger Fisher and William Ury Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Douglas Stone Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well…, by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen Manager Tools HR West, A Professional Conference for HR folks in Northern California

Turning Hopeless Situations Around – 25 – Be Specific in Prayer, 1 Samuel 30v6–16

If you have ever experienced a time when your significant other is experiencing pain or difficulty for any length of time, then you know – it is extremely challenging to stay balanced, positive, and constructive. As much as you would like to take their pain or difficulty away, you cannot make it better for them or do their work for them. All you can do is take care of your side of things and show-up in the best way possible. Here are some tips to help you be more effective: 1. HOLD SPACE FOR STRENGTH & GROWTH: Be compassionate and empathize. Offer support in ways that might be helpful. If you would like more resources on how to be supportive, then check out this podcast. If your partner is having a negative outlook, don’t buy into the victim story. Hold a mindset that your partner is growing, learning, and is in process. Believe in your partner. Believe in your partner’s strength and capabilities. Don’t participate with the bad behavior. Set limits. See #3 “The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity.”– Ulysses S. Grant 2. BE A SAFE PERSON. In relationship, partners are often very sensitive to each other’s criticism, judgment, and disappointment. Even if you want to see “better behavior” from your partner, judging and criticizing will not help. (If you have issues, try address them constructively.) Try and think positive thoughts about your partner. Catch overly critical thoughts and judgments. Remember your partner is trying. Communicate with tact and kindness. Offer genuine care, regard, and consideration, when possible. 3. TAKE A STAND FOR HEALTH: Set standards for yourself. What you are willing to participate in and what you are not willing to participate in? Set limits based on things you can control. You cannot control your partner’s thoughts and behaviors. You can control what interactions and dynamics you invest your time, attention, and resources into. Listener’s example: Not wanting to open up a join checking account because of partner’s overspending. “I would love to open up a joint checking account, AND I want to feel solid in our ability to work together financially. I want to feel trusting of our ability to be on the same page.” “Would you be willing to talk about steps we can take together to get on the same page, work together, build solid foundation and trust together financially? For more on Making And Keeping Agreements To Strengthen Your Relationship, check out this podcast. My example: “I am not okay, with how things are going. Would you be willing to look for other strategies to deal with this difficultly? Get support?” 4. STRIVE FOR INDIVIDUAL BALANCE & WELLNESS: Allow yourself to be vulnerable in a healthy way. Honor your needs. Example: Need to feel nurtured – take a hot bath. Need for support. – spend time with a good friend. Be clear about your intentions and efforts with your partner. Invite your partner into something that would feel good to you. Be Specific. 5. BE AVAILABLE FOR TRUE COMMUNICATION Ask your partner for time to talk more openly. Decide when and where would be a good time. Have a heart-to-heart conversation. Take the role of the listener and really seek to understand. Take time. Be patient. Be present. Follow your partner’s pace of sharing. Use empathy – understanding your partner’s perspective. Understand your partner’s needs. 6. BE AVAILABLE FOR TRUE COMMUNICATION AGAIN Share your experience. Stay “on your side of the fence.” Know your needs. What are you willing to do to contribute to your needs being met? Invite your partner into a creative discussion about how to deal with this difficult time together as a couple. “The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.”– Nelson Mandela Mentioned: Be sure and check out The Art Of Mindful Wealth Summit. Listen and learn from over 24 world-class inspiring wealth and abundance experts sharing how you can hit the reset button and live with greater meaning, purpose and fulfillment! I would love to hear your thoughts. Do you have points to add to the conversation? Please leave me a comment below. If you have a topic that you would like me to discuss or a situation that you would like me to speak to, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here. Thank you so much for being interested in improving the quality of your relationship. Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review, if you would be willing to click here. Thank you! 

Digging deeper into how to give effective feedback is the topic today.  Last week was the first look at the 3 key elements of giving productive feedback.  We explored in depth how to Be Specific.  Today we’re going to look at how to Be Honest.  (This is not easy!) Remember, when giving feedback, it’s important to… Be Specific Be Honest Be Clear Today is more about how to stay out of judgement or assumption, and instead, Be Honest. Encouraging Word of the Day:  Ephesians 4:25  “So let us put away the lies, and speak the truth to one another, because we are all part of one another.” The post #510: 5 Minute Connection – Be Honest (Podcast) appeared first on Christy Largent.

Clearly Defined Written Goals are key to Goal Setting Success. Write down your goals.  Be Specific. Your subconscious mind wants to know exactly what you want, and when you want it.  It will help to put the things into place if it knows what to do.    

This week's program wrapped up chapter 18 on Personality and Individuality. The main focus is on Individuality and how to be the extraordinary you, how being vague holds us back and being specific moves us forward. This week's Metaphysical Adventure is “Be Specific!” Details for this practice and our blog can be found at bit.ly/metaromp.

SHOW SITE: http://www.courtneyanderson.com/swca-episode-233-joyful-art-of-business-series-to-be-successful-be-specific.html SHOW NOTES: In our JOYFUL ART OF BUSINESS™ series we explore how to combine the positive benefits of our professional endeavors (“business”) with the overall positive emotional return on our efforts (“joy”). The act of engaging in professional endeavors, in any capacity (i.e., as an employee, employer, entrepreneur, contractor, volunteer, paid, full time, part time, intermittently, etc.) is an expression of our ideas and creative talents (“art”).   This episode is, “To Be Successful, Be Specific.” In this show we discuss A Stone* of Solutions™

When we pray, our lives and the world around us,experience the grace peace of God.