Podcasts about Desire

How do you know when it's okay to quit a goal? In this episode, Kevin and Alan get real about the hard choices we face when our goals start pulling us in different directions. Whether it's fitness, business, or relationships, sometimes quitting one goal is what allows us to succeed in another. You'll hear honest stories, a little humor, and thoughtful tips on how to figure out what truly matters most to you. This quick chat could help you rethink how you set and reset your priorities.Learn more about:Ready to Take Your Podcast and Your Life to the Next Level? Join our “Next Level Group Coaching.” Use code NLULISTENER to get all this for less than $25/session! - https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/group-coaching/Free 30-minute Business Breakthrough Session with Alan -https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-free-breakthrough-session?month=2025-04Free 30-Minute Podcast Breakthrough Session with Kevin -https://calendly.com/kevinpalmieri/free-30-minute-podcast-breakthrough-session-with-kevin_____________________NLU is not just a podcast; it's a gateway to a wealth of resources designed to help you achieve your goals and dreams. From our Next Level Dreamliner to our Group Coaching, we offer a variety of tools and communities to support your personal development journey.For more information, please check out our website at the link below.

Welcome to The Food Court of Familiarity — a hypnotic journey designed to gently increase your desire to try new foods by making the unfamiliar… feel familiar. Using the metaphor of a virtual reality experience, this session guides you through a vivid mental rehearsal where you explore, sample, and enjoy a variety of new tastes in a safe, imaginative space. By encoding these sensory experiences into your memory as if they've already happened, your mind begins to respond to new foods with curiosity, comfort, and confidence — turning hesitation into anticipation, and unfamiliarity into appetite.  

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That quiet dissatisfaction you've been feeling isn't a failure—it's your soul's sacred invitation to step into who you're becoming. In this episode, Karen explores why that restless whisper in your heart isn't something to ignore, but rather your authentic self calling you forward into your next chapter. She reframes midlife as a sacred ✨ between who you were and who you're becoming, and explains why wanting more doesn't make you selfish—it makes you human.This kicks off July's deep dive into midlife reinvention, focusing on the four pillars of midlife magnetism: Clarity, Expression, Boundaries, and Desire. Karen shares why true transformation requires honoring both your inner wisdom and outer well-being, and how the "more" you're craving doesn't have to be dramatic—it can be quiet but profound changes that light you up from the inside out.✨ Grab your FREE Companion Workbook: "Becoming Her: A Midlife Reinvention Starter Kit" HERE. Send a Text Message :)

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On Today's show, Alan continues his sexual encounters with Nicky and her daughter Ellie. This time, they all engage in a threesome, with the narrator having sex with both mother and daughter, who are now aware of each other's involvement with him.A married neighbor, a chubby woman, flirts with him and asks for his help to fix her toilet. When he arrives, she seduces him, and they have sex on her couch.A man recalls a sexual encounter with Alice, his lover since the 60s, while her husband is playing piano in the same room.A girlfriend teases her boyfriend by wearing a see-through blue covering that reveals her naked body. He becomes aroused, and they have vigorous sex that night, with the narrator describing it as "monkey loving.A married woman, frustrated by her husband's accusations of infidelity, decides to cheat on him with a co-worker. That and so so much more. ASN Magazine Awards: Purchase Show Tickets and Hotel TicketsASN Magazine Awards Voting Link. You can vote once every 24hrs.I want to hear from you too! If you have a secret story or experience you've been dying to share, now's your chance. You can write to me directly at Nikky@dearnikky.com or submit your confession anonymously at DearNikky.com/confessions.Perhaps you have an erotic fantasy that's been burning inside you, or maybe you just want to say hello - whatever it is, I want to hear from you!By submitting a confession and/or question you certify the following stipulations to be true:You are the sole creator of the submission;You are 18 years of age or older and legally able to write, submit erotic or pornographic materialStories including Bestiality, Incest and Incest Fantasies, Underage Role-Play, Rape Sex, Rape Fantasies or other non-consensual content or Racial slurs will not be aired.We reserve the right to change names or other identifiable information.You are releasing all rights to this creationIf you've enjoyed tuning in to my show each week (and getting an inside look at some very private lives), please take a moment leave review wherever listen: whether that Apple Podcasts Spotify Google other platform helps new listeners discover helps spread word keeps conversation going Thank loving support⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dear Nikky: Sex Confessions From People Just Like You⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is out now!You can email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nikky@dearnikky.com. You can find me also a ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠,⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/dear-nikky-hidden-desires--6316414/support.

Initiating sex can feel vulnerable, awkward, or even downright scary—especially if you were socialized to anticipate everyone else's needs before your own. This week, DB is joined by the one and only Whitni Miller (aka BDE Moves), queer couples intimacy coach, to break down what gets in the way, how to build confidence, and why getting turned down doesn't have to be a bad thing. We're talking perfectionism, eroticism, pleasure, and how to get out of your head and into your body. Let's get into it! GUEST DETAILSWhitni Miller is a queer couples intimacy coach helping people build deeper connection, playful pleasure, and authentic desire. Follow @bde.moves on Instagram for tips, real talk, and tools to transform your intimate life. ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We're here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! GET IN TOUCH Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.comSubscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories. FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand" ABOUT THE SHOW Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it's the sex ed you've always wanted. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. SEASON 12 TEAM Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her) Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her) Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her) Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them) MUSIC Intro theme music: Hook Sounds Background music: Bright State by Ketsa Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

What if your porn preferences could teach you more about your deepest desires? In this episode, I welcome back Kels and Tess, the brilliant and bold duo behind Porn Nerds and Get Squirmy, for a juicy, candid continuation of our conversation around porn, pleasure, and those 'squirmy' moments that make us human. We dive headfirst into the complexities of fantasy, the power of fetishes, and how exploring our curiosities — even the ones we might never act on — can help us better understand ourselves and our relationships. Here's what we get into: How porn can be a healthy tool for exploring curiosity and desire The difference between fantasy and real-life sexual experiences What your porn preferences might reveal about your needs in bed Tips for turning vulnerable sex talks into empowering connections Breaking down the shame and stigma around watching and talking about porn How to use fantasy as a bridge to better communication and deeper intimacy Vote for Eve Hall as Best Educator and Best Educator Website at the ASN Awards: If you're enjoying the show and feel it's been helpful, I'd be honored if you could take a moment to vote for me as Best Educator and Best Educator Website in this year's ASN Awards. Your support means so much to me! Vote here:  ⁠2025 TOP 8 FINALIST | 2025 ASN Awards⁠ Connect with Eve: Support the Podcast: Become a ⁠Patreon⁠ member for ad-free episodes, exclusive content, and early access Website: Please Me Online - Reach Eve and stay connected. Interested in a free 15-minute consultation to talk about coaching for health or intimacy, or to explore physical therapy services for sexual health concerns? First, book your appointment here: calendly.com/pleasemebyevecreations/10-min-call-me-on-owwll. Then, download the OWWLL app and use my free call code EH576472 so we can connect directly on the platform. I look forward to supporting you on your personal intimacy journey! SDC.com: Join the premiere "modern lifestyle" ENM website with a free trial membership using code 37340. Sign up on SDC.com  Where to Find Kels & Tess:Website: https://getsquirmy.comInstagram: @squirm Plus, we share laughs, real talk, and actionable advice on navigating the sometimes awkward, often empowering conversations that can bring partners closer — including how to handle dirty talk in a new relationship (throuple vibes included ).   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The Dreaming may be in need of a new master! Hayley and Brian chat about "Season of Mists", from The Sandman comic run, as a primer for season two of the Netflix series, since it will be the basis for the first arc of the show. Some comments made by Dream's siblings in the Endless, mainly Desire, have him determined to right a wrong he did... but he needs to venture back to Hell to accomplish it. What the Hell could possibly go wrong, seeing as how Lucifer still wants revenge on Dream?Content covered: The Sandman (1988-1996)Issues 21 - 28: Season of MistsThe Sandman, Act II: An Audible Original Audio Drama: Episodes 1 - 8EMAIL: SPARCPODCAST@GMAIL.COMTWITTER: https://twitter.com/SourcePagesCastINSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thesourcepagespodcast/FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SPARCPODCASTSPaRC's Podcast Buddies:Across the Bifrost: The Mighty Thor - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/across-the-bifrost-the-mighty-thor-podcast/id1572200841Dan and Ian Have Questions - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dan-and-ian-have-questions-podcast/id1587402809Commute: The Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/commute-the-podcast/id1552657624Segabits - https://segabits.com/Machtails From the Cantina - https://www.facebook.com/machtailsfromthecantina/Rebel Force Radio Presents "The Babu Freaks" - https://www.rebelforceradio.com/shows/category/BaJacked Kirby - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/jacked-kirby/id1248146026So Weird So Fun - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/so-weird-so-fun-swsf-friends-through-fandom/id1793135012Star Wars YOU-niverse - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/star-wars-you-niverse-podcast/id1704904756

You can enjoy exclusive and intense erotic audio by grabbing your copy of the Wylde Erotic App on the Apple Store,or downloading the very unofficial and unapproved Android version from WyldeInBed.com In the hauntingly beautiful countryside, Kate stands at the crossroads of her life. Having inherited a small holding from her late husband, and accepted that she will end her days alone, she finds herself overwhelmed by the relentless demands of managing the land and livestock.The once manageable farm now feels like a sprawling wilderness, echoing her loneliness and the relentless passage of time. Kate, now in her early forties, grapples with the physical and emotional toll of keeping her late husband's dream alive. Her once vibrant spirit has dulled under the weight of her responsibilities, and the farm's isolation only amplifies her solitude.When a young couple form an agricultural collefe offer to help, offering their youthful energy and expertise in exchange for room and board. Kate, desperate for help and companionship, welcomes them with open arms. Their presence breathes new life into the farm, and Kate finds herself drawn to their vitality and unyielding passion for the work.As the days pass, the three of them form an unlikely bond, each filling a void in the other's life.His strength and determination reignite a spark within Kate, while the young lady's warmth and creativity provide a much-needed respite from her daily struggles. Together, they begin to transform the farm.But the peace they find is fragile, and fate has a way of testing the strongest of bonds. During a particularly stormy night, a freak accident leaves Kate and him stranded in a raging river, clinging to each other for dear life. As they fight against the relentless current, the physical closeness and sheer terror of the situation strip away their defenses, leaving them raw and exposed.In those harrowing moments, a new and dangerous connection is forged between them. A night when everything changes forever. The intense, life-or-death experience has created a bond that neither of them can deny, but also one that threatens to unravel the delicate balance betwen the three of them.As they navigate the emotional aftermath, the lines between friendship, loyalty, and desire blur, and the farm becomes a battleground for their hearts.Twilight of Desire is a dark, romantic tale that delves into the complexities of love, loss, and the relentless march of time. It explores the depths of human connection and the sacrifices we make to preserve it.Kate's journey is one of rediscovery, as she learns to embrace the shadows of her past and the flickering flame of a new love. Will she find the strength to overcome her fears and seize the chance at happiness, or will the shadows of desire consume them all?In this gripping story, the beauty of the countryside serves as both a backdrop and a metaphor for the tumultuous emotions that drive the characters. Twilight of Desire is a poignant reminder that love, like the land, requires both tenderness and tenacity to truly flourish. 

"When you make your partner your entire world, you slowly stop being YOU. And the very things that drew them to you in the first place, your energy, your passions, your independence, your joy, they all begin to dim." Today I'm giving you the tools you need to not just keep the spark alive in your relationship, but to keep the fire thriving - and it's not about the latest polarity trend.    CONNECT WITH EMILY Grown Ass Woman Era: Group details HERE Book a Connection Call With Emily To Work Together COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

The prevailing scientific view of the fundamental nature of homosexuality has undergone a significant evolution in the last several decades. Where once the scientific and medical establishment maintained an unqualified belief that homosexuality was a form of psychological deviance, today a solid majority of psychiatrists and psychologists themselves believe that biological factors (genes, brain, prenatal chemistry) also play an important role.  Dr. Dean Hamer's research for the first time examined at a molecular level how our sexual identities are rooted in our biology. He has gone on to study the role that biology plays in our faith. In his works and books, Dr. Hamer reveals that inclination toward religious faith is in part due to our genes and may even offer an evolutionary advantage by reducing stress, preventing disease, and extending life. We will discuss these and other works that bring in the role of culture, such as transgender identities in Polynesia. Dean Hamer is an American geneticist, author, and filmmaker and the among the first scientists to demonstrate a linkage between genes and sexual orientation. He is known for his research on the role of genetics in sexual orientation and for a series of popular books and films that have changed scientific and public understandings of human sexuality and gender. He was the chief of the Gene Structure and Regulation Section at the U.S. National Cancer Institute; upon retirement in 2011 he was designated scientist emeritus. Hamer has won numerous awards, including the Trinity College Thompson History Prize, Maryland Distinguished Young Scientist Award, Ariens Kappers Award for Neurobiology, New York Times book-of-the year author, and an Emmy Award. An Asia-Pacific Affairs Member-led Forum program. Forums and chapters at the Club are organized and run by volunteer programmers who are members of The Commonwealth Club, and they cover a diverse range of topics. Learn more about our Forums. OrganizerKalidip Choudhury  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo episode of 'Don't Cut Your Own Bangs,' Danielle Ireland dives into key lessons from her recent therapy sessions, emphasizing the importance of relationships. She explores how the drive to 'win' an argument often results in everyone losing, the power of genuine apologies over hollow ones, and the significance of understanding rather than feigned confusion. Danielle also shares personal insights and practical steps to navigate relationship conflicts with compassion and kindness, while promoting her journaling tool, 'Treasured,' aimed at deepening personal growth and self-awareness.   00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Solo Cast 01:47 Lessons from Therapy Sessions: Relationship Edition 03:03 Winning or Losing in Arguments 08:30 The Power of Pausing and Reflecting 14:23 Hollow Apologies and True Acknowledgment 18:02 Understanding and the Desire to Change 23:07 Final Thoughts and Encouragement RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE TO “DON'T CUT YOUR OWN BANGS”  Like your favorite recipe or song, the best things in life are shared. When you rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast, your engagement helps me connect  with other listeners just like you. Plus, subscriptions just make life easier for everybody. It's one less thing for you to think about and you can easily keep up to date on everything that's new. So, please rate, review, and subscribe today.    DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW I greatly appreciate your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below.   Website: https://danielleireland.com/   The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal   Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com/   Blog: https://danielleireland.com/blog/   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW   Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured Transcript Winning Isn't Everything: Lessons from Therapy Sessions [00:00:00] Hello. Hello, this is Danielle Ireland and you are listening to Don't Cut Your Own Bangs Today. I am coming at you with a solo cast. These are so fun for me for many reasons. it's like a living, breathing journal where I can process things that are happening in my life or things that I've learned with clients and therapy sessions or just new aha things or whatever's really exciting for me. [00:00:28] I get an opportunity to put those in a place. I have been having some really juicy, juicy therapy sessions with clients over the last couple weeks, and what I've started to do, There are moments when I'm in a session with a client and I'm taking notes or I'm listening to something they're processing or something will fly outta my mouth, just improvised in the moment and I will think to myself, damn. [00:00:52] That was a tasty dish that was really interesting or that was super poignant, or I get like full body chills and I don't really know exactly what to do with the information, but I wanna put it somewhere. And so what has ended up happening over the years is I'll scribble something on a post-it note or I'll scratch something at the top of the client note to try to revisit later. [00:01:15] Sometimes in previous lives I've written them into blog forms or just brought them up with my husband over dinner thinking this. And actually little sneak peek behind the curtain. That is one of the ways, one of the first ways that the title for wrestling a walrus came to me. [00:01:34] It happened in a therapy session. I'm pretty sure I used it just as a way to iterate whatever the client was processing or experiencing in the moment. I wrote it down and it just stuck with me. And there's lots of moments like that. And so what we're gonna talk about today in this solo cast is lessons from sessions, but the ones that are really focused in on relationships. [00:01:58] So this is the lessons from Sessions, relationship edition, solocast, and. The only thing that's ever shared, in this podcast space is the. [00:02:12] Lessons that are gleaned, the takeaways that we can all find value from in the human experience, not personal anecdotes, addresses, names, identifiable characteristics, nothing like that. The point is not to out anybody at all. One that would be terribly unethical and I would lose my license for it. [00:02:32] But also just on a human level that feels ick. That feels really icky. I think that anybody who's curious about therapy or anyone who is in therapy, but wondered what it would be like in someone else's session. There is this innate curiosity of, is anyone else dealing with this too? [00:02:48] Has anyone else ever thought this also, or what do you do when you face this? That is, I think, a healthy, normal, reasonable curiosity I love that there's a place to share that. So yeah, we're gonna talk about relationships. So winning or losing in the context of relationships, particularly in an argument, if the goal is to win or if, if the goal is to not lose. [00:03:15] Depends on what side you're on. Are you righteous or are you just digging your heels in and being stubborn? if you are fighting to win or doggedly. Preventing the feeling of loss. Somebody always loses, win or lose. Somebody always loses in that type of dynamic. [00:03:33] So what happens when we do a fake apology? A hollow apology. And the last is the phrase I hear a lot. I just don't understand. I just don't understand. So we're gonna talk about each of these, how they play out in relationships, what you might be able to find value from within them, where you may be able to see yourself in them. [00:03:55] And I'll also share where I see myself in these too. though I sit in a therapist chair when I'm actually working with clients. I do my own work. I'm human too, and we're figuring this out together. So let's start with. When it's about winning or losing, you always lose. I think what gets lost in most heated exchanges, if we even peel back before the disagreement itself, there is a momentum. [00:04:26] That leads to disagreements, whether a repeated pattern, a repeated behavior or a fight that we keep having over and over and over again. It's never just isolated in that moment in time, there is a momentum that leads to it. [00:04:43] The issue in the kitchen or the fight in the bedroom, or the feverishly upset text exchange, Thing that we are fighting for is to be heard or to feel validated or for the other person to give us something. Usually something in the context of, you are right, I was wrong. [00:05:03] I see it your way. I will change and I will never do that thing that has led us to this moment that makes you uncomfortable ever, ever again. We're looking for some kind of either validation or a guarantee, and some of that makes sense and some of that is. Just not. and it's hard to know in that moment in time when we are flooded with feelings we're escalating and two people have dug their heels in. [00:05:30] It's sometimes hard to see the woods through the trees, but. What I know to be absolutely true, having worked with couples who are actively fighting in front of me, which is not fun. It's probably my least favorite experience working as a therapist. it really activates my nervous system, but also in my own fights and my own disagreements with my husband. [00:05:52] For example, when I am fighting to prove myself right at his expense, the expense of his experience or his point of view. I will lose because I'm either going to say something hurtful to win or I'm not listening, so I'm not receiving any of the information he's sharing. And also, once I'm that flooded and fighting to get my point of view across, I'm no longer in the environment, and I'm no longer sitting in front of my husband. [00:06:21] I'm sitting across an enemy and I'm a battle. And once that happens, once that mode is activated. That's when our worst qualities, our most destructive behaviors, can rise to the surface, and that erodes trust. it creates the opposite of really looking for, we're looking to be heard, one of the things that can be helpful is to even just catch that you're in it. am I trying to win or am I trying to understand something new? Am I trying to win or am I seeking to be heard? Am I trying to win? Meaning I need to be right. [00:07:04] And because in order for me to be right, they have to be wrong. Now, there are of course times where there maybe is a clear cut right and wrong, but what I'm speaking about in this context is not physical altercations or the extremes that are a little more clearly discerned. It's those. Muddy, messy, icky moments with someone that you actually care about or somebody who has a relationship that's important to you. [00:07:33] 'cause maybe it's not always a spouse or a romantic partner. it could be a friend or could be a family member. It could even be a coworker, but they're not a villain. They're not evil. But that is also sometimes a trick that our mind will play on us when we are fighting so hard to win, is we'll make the other person an enemy and we'll convince ourselves a story about them [00:07:53] Whatever our mode of operating makes sense to us, but what you can do is if you catch yourself in that place, you're like, oh, the warrior, the Warrior's armors on, and I am trying to win. This is, by the way, the hardest thing for me to do. Anytime because whenever there is unease, unrest, discomfort in a relationship, my need to fix or my need to get to a resolution quickly is so strong. [00:08:26] One of the best things you can do is pause the conversation, pause and walk away for a little bit. if like me, you have that hypervigilance that that need for resolution, that need to care take. Or if you are a justice seeking person, you're like, I will fight the good fight. [00:08:46] This is going to be really freaking hard. but I absolutely know. Based on the science, based on what is happening in our brains, what's happening in our nervous system, when we are engaged in an interaction like that, win or lose, you're gonna lose. So the best thing you can do when you catch it, even if it's mid-sentence, is to, and I'll actually do this, I'll do something, I'll do a gesture with my hands. [00:09:13] Like I'll throw up my hands like this, like, woo, I need, I need to stop. Or I'll do a timeout, hand signal. But I'll take a breath. I'll pump the brakes. Literally and metaphorically, I'll pump the brakes on the conversation and I need to pause and take a beat. There's actually a really common thread that I've, clients have told me about and I've actually experienced in my own life. [00:09:38] many times. I'll get off of a heated phone call and I'll hang up, and then a few minutes will go by. something will soften or a new thought will come to me, or I'll have a moment of clarity, or I'll start to feel contrite and maybe a little guilty at something at how I said something or what I said, and I'll actually have a better opportunity to reconnect through sending a text. [00:10:05] Now, I'm not a fan of text fighting or avoiding actual connection through text, but there is this phenomenon of. I have to stop the chain of events. That's un that's gaining momentum that I have. I'm losing control and I'm fighting hard to win. And I press pause and I stop and I breathe and I reflect [00:10:28] And then I'm seeing things in a different way. And then the act of texting. Is not to avoid the deeper connection, but I think there is something to, similar to why I love journaling. I'm thinking about what I'm writing and I'm thinking about what I'm sending. And generally that is either an apology or a more well-formed thought or a clarifying statement or a question that helps reframe. [00:10:56] There is something about step out of the game. If you catch yourself in this like pickleball match of like point, counterpoint, point, counterpoint, point, counterpoint, you're just trying so hard to win. [00:11:08] Step outta the game. So the pause is not abandoning the other person or abandoning the topic altogether, or it's not avoiding it. But I need to get out of this. The rules and the context of this game win or lose. I'm gonna step out. I'm gonna breathe and, you know, you're in a better place to reapproach the conversation when I come back online. [00:11:31] That's the language I use. it's hard to articulate into words 'cause it's a full body experience, The more I am caught in winning or losing or making somebody wrong, my focus becomes really narrow and I only see the examples. I only see the points that prove my perspective. Right? When I step out of the game and I breathe, [00:11:57] I come back to the present moment. from that perspective, I'm able to actually see the context of a broader frame of reference, and that opens up the conversation to better possibilities that are less corrosive and less draining. [00:12:15] So the takeaway from there, if you are fighting to win or lose, you will always lose. There is a better way to do it and my recommendation is to pause, step outta the game, breathe, reframe, and only reenter back into that interaction. When you feel yourself come back online. if you are in a relationship with a partner where you were the one choosing to step away and they. [00:12:40] Have an anxious attachment style or they are maybe more like me in this example where they're like, but they need, they need, they need to resolve. [00:12:47] So letting them know that I'm not walking away from you and I'm not avoiding us coming to. A resolution together, but now is not the time for me and I can't be my best me and do this. So depending on who you are and where you fall in each dynamic, it can be helpful to sometimes tend to that. If you have a partner that is a little bit more anxious attachedIf you've ever wanted to start a journaling practice but didn't know where to start, or if you've been journaling off and on your whole life, but you're like, I wanna take this work deeper, I've got you covered. I've written a journal called Treasured, a Journal for unearthing you. It's broken down into seven key areas of your life, filled with stories, sentence stems, prompts, questions, and exercises. [00:13:28] All rooted in the work that I do with actual clients in my therapy sessions. I have given these examples to clients in sessions as homework, and they come back with insights that allow us to do such incredible work. This is something you can do in the privacy of your own home, whether you're in therapy or not. [00:13:47] It has context, it has guides. And hopefully some safety bumpers to help digging a little deeper feel possible, accessible and safe. You don't have to do this alone. And there's also a guided treasured meditation series that accompanies each section in the journal to help ease you into the processing state. [00:14:06] So my hope is to help guide you into feeling more secure with the most important relationship in your life, the one between you and you. Hop on over to the show notes and grab your copy today. And now back to the episode. [00:14:19] When I am, sorry. Falls flat. Ooh, there is nothing. Well, okay, maybe there are other things. It really bothers me when there is a hollow, like a chocolate Easter bunny empty on the inside. I'm sorry. There are so many ways that repair is done wrong, and I think a lot of what though, these fake or hollow apologies feel rooted in. [00:14:49] It's an apology in sheep's clothing. we want a guarantee. If I just knew the right words, if I just knew the script, if I just said the right thing, then I could hijack all of the awkward, uncomfortable, vulnerable conversations that I don't wanna have. I don't actually have to feel any of the sticky, icky, uncomfortable feelings that. [00:15:10] Are involved in making amends, taking responsibility, because once I know something, I can't unknow it. And if I know something and I can't unknow it, then I might need to change. And change is uncomfortable and change is hard. if I just repeat the script, then I can just skip all that crap and get right to the fun part, which is, you know, avoiding discomfort altogether. [00:15:33] I'm sorry, but, or there's a good rule of thumb that whatever comes after, but is what you really mean. So if you find yourself either hearing or saying, I'm sorry, but blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm gonna tell you the, I'm sorry you just said was total bullshit and what you actually think and feel and what you mean is what comes after. [00:15:56] But there are so many ways that we say the words, but we don't mean the words. And so sometimes what I recommend to couples is to just swipe it from your vocabulary altogether. Because a lot of the time what we're looking for in place of an apology of atonement is acknowledgement. I see the impact my behavior had on you. [00:16:24] I see the effect that the way that I said what I just said, I can hear it now through your ears because you just shared. Your history, that experience you had when you were young, or you told me about the type of day you just had. I can now hear how that joke I thought was a joke or that comment that kind of came out sideways, or the fact that I'm frustrated and impatient I can now hear in a new way. [00:16:52] I have a new frame of reference. I have a new context because of what you shared, and I really appreciate you telling me that's not an apology, Fuck is that more powerful than so many times where we say, oh, I'm sorry, because I am sorry. Just, I'm sorry. I thought I was just making a joke. [00:17:11] Be discerning about your apologies. And also I think a really important question to ask that I will share with clients all the time. [00:17:24] Does the situation really call for an apology or is what the other person, or what you asking for is. Clarity and confirmation that your feelings matter. That your experience is real. And most of the time that is what we really are looking for. And that is enough Hollow chocolate bunny Apologies. Can Well, they can, they can get out 'cause I'm over 'em. [00:17:54] and I just don't understand. Oh. I just don't understand the faux helplessness, the performed confusion that a lot of us do. This one I find fun because when we are confused. Then we can't really make a choice. [00:18:19] And if we can't really make a choice because we don't really understand something, then guess what else we don't have to do. We don't have to change. And so a lot of times I will be working with a client who is either in a relationship with someone who is conveniently confused or they themselves. Are maybe not ready to know what they're on the cusp of knowing, or they're not ready to acknowledge what they already know. [00:18:46] There's all these different stages of readiness when it comes to making change, because change is hard and it's scary and it's uncomfortable, but this helpless confusion, I just don't understand. This is my favorite follow up question to that, and I empower you to use it. Just be ready for it though, because you can also use it on yourself. [00:19:10] I just don't understand. Do you want to, do you want to? Oof. I love that so much. Do you wanna understand, so just imagine you're having a conversation with you don't understand. Would you like to, because I'm happy to explain why it matters to me, because this is , the beauty and the really challenging part about emotional awareness . once we become aware. We can't unsee. If I don't know, then I'm gonna just keep doing what I've always done. But if I know I'm now presented with a choice that maybe I didn't have before, but now I have a choice and my choice is to either do the same thing pretending I don't know, or I'm gonna do the same thing, knowing full well and still choosing to do the same thing. [00:20:12] But it's a choice. It's not this helpless foe. I'm just lost and confused. I can't possibly be held accountable. Oh, record scratch. You do know now, and it's a real clarifying moment for an individual or for a relationship or for a job. Once I know what I know, I can't unknow it. [00:20:36] Now I'm being called to do something with this knowing, and sometimes that's a scary leap. The example that's actually coming to mind as I'm sharing this is I knew but wasn't ready to know for six months that I was ready to go out on my own and leave the practice. That helped me develop as a therapist and launch out on my own. [00:20:59] I knew for about six months that. I could afford it, that I was capable, that I had all of the resources I needed to make this happen. But I was scared to take the leap because change is hard. The unknown is uncertain and scary, and it's a new environment and new and scary, and it is just all, all the reasons why we may be avoid doing anything that's new. [00:21:24] But I knew and needed to be confused and then reminded and confused, and reminded and confused and reminded until I couldn't ignore what I knew anymore. And then I acted on it. And I think sometimes too , to wash this all with a, a big dose of compassion. I also think that a lot of times that that. [00:21:47] Knowing, not being ready to know, knowing not being ready to know is its own form of preparation. Like maybe what we see on the outside is procrastination is its own form of preparing. Getting ready to be ready, to be ready to change, [00:22:04] wherever you see yourself or your relationship or someone in your life in this process, I hope. That this has been clarifying. I hope you found some value in it or maybe sparked a fun conversation that we can continue to have. I welcome questions. I want your questions and I would love to be able to answer them for you here. [00:22:23] You can always email me at danielle@danielleireland.com. I am the only person who has access to that email, so I'll be the person that receives it. So hit me up with a follow up question. If you want me to expand on a topic or if you have a new one that you're curious about, let me know. [00:22:38] The thing I wanna leave, whether it's about winning or losing, or whether it's about when Hollow chocolate bunny bullshit apologies or being fake confused about something. If there was a way that we could simplify, well, okay, what do you actually do with this? [00:22:55] The first is breathe. The first will always be breathing. Because the breath is what allows all of the important problem solving parts of our brain that kick offline when we're absolutely flooded with emotion or in terror or thrown back to our 8-year-old emotional selves. Breath brings us back. So breathe. [00:23:19] I love doing this next step. I will think of myself or imagine myself as somewhere between like five and eight years old, but I think of little Danielle. [00:23:29] And then whenever I'm in conflict or mentally struggling with or taking issue with anyone, truly any other person, I will then imagine them as little them. So there's little Danielle and there's little them, and it softens me because one, the reality is we go back to an emotional age wherever, whenever we are flooded with emotion, the experience is exceeding our capacity to meet the moment. [00:24:01] And this is not a judgment, it's just a truth that when we get overwhelmed or flooded or have an adult tantrum or lose our temper emotions are seeping out our eyes, right? Whatever the expression is, the emotion of the moment is exceeding our capacity to meet it. Breath helps us kick back online and then remembering, oh, this is little me not knowing how to meet this moment. [00:24:25] And she's doing the best she can do. And then there's also a little version of this other person. Who is likely having the exact same experience in their own way, and it doesn't excuse behavior and it doesn't excuse mine, especially if I step outside the bounds of what's respectful. But to meet the moment with kindness and truth, doing that with compassion, with respect to what's likely happening inside me and likely happening inside the other, just really adds a nice, soft, cozy touch to the whole context. [00:25:00] Don't worry about a goddamn script. I've spent way too much time with clients, particularly in my early years, trying to craft the right thing to say. And I gotta say that those scripts will fail you when you're actually in the moment. Sentence stems can help. And maybe if you need a point of reference to launch into a well-worded email or text, but when you're speaking from the heart, it's gonna be the right thing. [00:25:25] But you won't be able to access that if you're not breathing. Disarm yourself, disarm the other. You're not enemies. You're not fighting. No one is trying to win or lose. And then say what you really feel and mean what you're saying. you'll know that it's the truth when it's also delivered with kindness. [00:25:48] Because what I absolutely believe to be true. A belief being just something you think a lot, and I think this a lot, that the truth can always be delivered with kindness. It doesn't mean it's gonna be comfy, cozy, it doesn't mean it's gonna be easy, and it doesn't mean the other person's going to like it, but it can absolutely is kind. [00:26:07] The truth is kind. So breathe, trust yourself, disarm yourself in the other. And try to do it with as much kindness as you can access. [00:26:20] I wanna hear from you. I wanna know what you think. I want to answer your questions, and I want to grow and get better with you. So before you leave, make sure to check out the show notes, all of the important links for my children's book, wrestling, a Walrus, my journal, treasure, a Journal for unearthing you, my website, all the fun ways you can connect with me. [00:26:40] They are there for you in the show notes. Make sure to check those out and write, review, subscribe to the podcast. Those three things are like the 1, 2, 3 power punch that help this podcast meet other people who can get value from it. The best things in life are shared, so please share and I hope you continue to have a wonderful day. [00:26:59]

“The subject of affairs, I think it's of interest to everybody. We have all had an Oedipal experience - we've all been babies who have at some point realized that we are not the only person. We're not perfectly fused with our mother, and she has other things to do, and there may be a father. We've all known what rejection feels like, and probably betrayal, and I think that affairs are in our unconscious. I think that's sort of evident in the way that most great novels, most great films, or at least many, have an affair at their heart. From Anna Karenina to Madame Bovary to Fatal Attraction, I think this is something that is just interesting. I wanted to write about affairs because I think they are a way of showing what psychoanalysis can do in a field in which everyone has an opinion on, and probably most people, in some way, have been indirectly or directly affected by. That was really the sort of the genesis for wanting to write about affairs.” Episode Description: We consider the challenge of writing about dynamic treatments in a manner that is accessible to the non-clinical reader. Juliet's book about affairs opens up this widely recognized experience and adds intrapsychic insights without using emotionally - distancing jargon. She introduces us to individuals who have been involved in affairs, with carefully protected confidentiality, who generally reveal the power of past experiences to influence adult choices. Some end happily, and some end in agony. Juliet demonstrates the usefulness of bringing a dynamic listening to both accepting and deepening each individual's lifelong search for love.   Our Guest: Juliet Rosenfeld is a psychoanalyst and a member of the British Psychoanalytical Society, London. She studied at Oxford before a 15-year career in advertising and marketing, ending up in Government Communications. During this time, she began a Master's at the Tavistock and Portman Trust in Organizational Consultancy and started training as a psychotherapist a year later. She qualified as an integrative psychotherapist in 2012. Juliet was an elected trustee of the UK Council of Psychotherapy for four years, and is presently one of two clinician Trustees at the Freud Museum London, Sigmund Freud's final home. Juliet is the author of two books, The State of Disbelief ( 2020) and Affairs, True Stories of Love, Lies, Hope and Desire. Juliet's broader interest is in how psychoanalysis might be more accessible, and its ideas put into non-clinical language for audiences who may never be able to access psychotherapy themselves but are curious about what the unconscious means and what goes on in the consulting room. Recommended Readings: Creativity and Perversion by Janine Chasseguet-Smirgel (W. W. Norton & Co., Inc., 1984)   Dreams of Love and Fateful Encounters by Ethel S. Person (American Psychiatric Association Publishing, 2006)   Home Is Where We Start From by D. W. Winnicott (Penguin, 1990)   Love in the Time of the Internet by Martina Burdet (underbau, 2020)   Sex, Death and the Super Ego by Ronald Britton (Routledge, 2020)   Sexual Attraction in Therapy edited by Maria Luca (Wiley-Blackwell, 2014)   Sexuality and Attachment in Clinical Practice edited by Joseph Schwartz and Kate White (Routledge, 2019)   The Bonds of Love by Jessica Benjamin (Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group, 1988)   The New Sexual Landscape and Contemporary Psychoanalysis by Danielle Knafo and Rocco Lo Bosco (Confer Books, 2020)   Novels about Affairs Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy (Penguin Classics, 2003)   A Very English Scandal by John Preston (Penguin, 2017)   Deception by Philip Roth (Vintage, 1991)   Getting Lost by Annie Ernaux (Fitzcarraldo Editions, 2022)   Madame Bovary by Gustave Flaubert (Wordsworth Editions, 1993)   Middlemarch by George Eliot (Wordsworth Editions, 1993)   The End of the Affair by Graeme Green (Vintage Classics, 2004)     

Jamie Leahey preaches from Song of Songs 2:8-17, continuing in our sermon series “Communion with Christ”.

Speaker: Daniel Goodin Original Broadcast Date: June 28, 2025 Bulletin | Sermon Transcript YouTube video: https://youtu.be/3931AXgB1l8

Are you pretending to be happy in your marriage? It's a common experience for the men we coach, they stay passive and trying to make her happy while all the while inside they are miserable. In this episode I talk about why this is a doomed approach if you want to ever feel confident and alive again, let alone feeling masculine and sexy and leading the attraction in your marriage.In our coaching, we help men get a powerful new mindset that empowers you to give, love and connect more deeply because you're finally doing that within yourself first. This mindset allows empathy, trust and connection to happen because you're confident in who you're being. We teach skills and knowledge that nobody ever teaches men when we're younger. Skills and knowledge that make you feel confident and in control even when chaos is going on around you. It's amazing what you can achieve when you make yourself a priority. Most men don't.   They are too busy taking care of everyone else.  Too busy minding the store and making the money.   They are focused on the "outside game" of winning life. But their "inside game" of confidence and clarity is suffering badly. You can only improve your inside game with other men. We would love to help you become more calm, more strong emotionally and more confident and happy in who you are as a man. Come and join us, either through 1-on-1 coaching with my colleague Dan Dore or me, or in our group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now in our Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group with us, supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self realization. https://goodguys2greatmen.com/goodguys2greatmen-live-coaching-roundtable/ If you're facing possible divorce, we have an online course which is specifically for you - Defuse the Divorce Bomb: https://mojopolis.thinkific.com/courses/HDDB-preview?ref=a53950 What if this next year everything changed for you? That's what we want for you brother, We love teaching men these tools - how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs. Dan and I are here to guide you on this mission.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ Steve's book Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband will help you to lead yourself and your relationship back to good health. Understand why your partner acts the way she does toward you and learn how to lead your life in the direction you want it to go. You CAN have the relationship you want, fulfilling all your desires while maintaining love and respect.https://goodguys2greatmen.com/straight-talk-tools-for-the-desperate-husband/ We also have a free e-book to help men learn how to lose their fear and be more bold in their marriage to create the love and connection they want. Get The Hard to Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/ If you want to learn more about how to take a bigger step toward being a clear-headed, confident man of action, then find out more here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/mens-relationship-coaching/ We would be thrilled to help you get there - our first discovery call is always free and always gives you a BIG boost of confidence. You WILL become a clearer, stronger, more confident man only through other men. Your woman cannot take you there - and she doesn't WANT to...trust us on that. Sign up to receive our email newsletters for lots more free tips and advice here: https://archive.aweber.com/stevemain Subscribe to be notified whenever we upload a new video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC13h36xaBvyTPVAES4-4rXw?sub_confirmation=1 You can watch all our videos here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/video-library/ Or read our blog articles here: https://goodguys2greatmen.com/blog/Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/goodguys2greatmen-podcast--4650431/support.

A new MP3 sermon from Grace Audio Treasures is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: What more could I desire? Subtitle: Puritan Devotional Speaker: C. H. Spurgeon Broadcaster: Grace Audio Treasures Event: Devotional Date: 6/28/2025 Bible: 1 John 4:19; Song of Solomon 2:16 Length: 3 min.

It's a good idea to question everything. Yes, everything. I grew up believing Christopher Columbus discovered America. He didn't. 

"May the LORD give you increase more and more, you and your children." — Psalm 115:14 Spiritual maturity doesn't come from checking boxes — it begins with a genuine desire for more of God. In Part 1 of our Spiritual Maturity series, we explore how knowing God's grace stirs up a hunger that transforms us from the inside out. Desire is more than emotion — it's the spark that leads to healing, growth, and faith. When our hearts crave God's purpose more than our own comfort, that's when real spiritual maturity begins.

A new MP3 sermon from Grace Audio Treasures is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: What more could I desire? Subtitle: Puritan Devotional Speaker: C. H. Spurgeon Broadcaster: Grace Audio Treasures Event: Devotional Date: 6/28/2025 Bible: 1 John 4:19; Song of Solomon 2:16 Length: 3 min.

Song of Songs 2:16, "My Beloved is mine, and I am His!" What a sweet and wondrous relationship exists between the believer and the Lord Jesus! What a privilege to call Him my Beloved! He is not only my Savior, but my daily Bread, my hourly Companion, my constant Joy. The more I know Him, the more I love Him. This short verse is a wellspring of soul-satisfying truth. It is the language of holy intimacy, breathed from the heart of a redeemed sinner who has been saved from eternal perdition by Jesus. Here the sincere Christian speaks with the warmth of experiential knowledge: "My Beloved is mine, and I am His!" "My Beloved is mine!" Who is this Beloved? He is the altogether lovely One, the fairest of ten thousand, the eternal Son of God. The believer dares to say that this glorious Person--this Prince of Heaven--is his! The One who reigns over angels, who upholds all creation by the word of His power--has freely given Himself to His redeemed people. All that He is, and all that He has, becomes theirs. His righteousness covers them. His intercession sustains them. His Spirit indwells them. His love surrounds them. His promises anchor them. Oh what infinite condescension, that such a Savior would belong to such unworthy and Hell-deserving sinners. "And I am His!" The believer belongs to Jesus--not merely by profession, but by redemption. He is bought with a price, sealed with His Spirit, and set apart for His glory. The Christian is not his own. His heart, his will, his time, his affections, his very life--are bound up in the One who gave Himself for him. What a glorious blessing it is to wholly belong to the tender, faithful, wise, and holy One, who loves us perfectly.

A new MP3 sermon from Grace Audio Treasures is now available on SermonAudio with the following details: Title: What more could I desire? Subtitle: Puritan Devotional Speaker: C. H. Spurgeon Broadcaster: Grace Audio Treasures Event: Devotional Date: 6/28/2025 Bible: 1 John 4:19; Song of Solomon 2:16 Length: 3 min.

Wednesday Night Service | James 4:1-10 | June 25th, 2025

Topics:  God's Design, Showing On Your Phone, First Year Marriage Cringe, Most Livable, Powerball vs. Contentment, YouTube, It's About Today, Breaking Animal news, Harvard: Human Flourishing BONUS CONTENT: Showing On The Phone Follow-Up     Quotes: “Lord please help me to line up my desires with that which is actually life giving.” “It's just a chair.” “Today is not coming back.” “We can trust God to give us strength.” “Scripture is a way to flourish.” “Have some grace, Iron Bob.” . . . Holy Ghost Mama Pre-Order! Want more of the Oddcast? Check out our website! Watch our YouTube videos here. Connect with us on Facebook! For Christian banking you can trust, click here!

Jan - June 2025 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Do men enjoy cunnilingus after ejaculation?Should I feel bad for refusing oral after anal?My spouse says I should accept substitutes for sexFeeling unloved due to lack of physical affectionGuilt over sexual desires shaped by past porn useWhen one spouse wants BDSM and the other doesn'tSex is loving but not exciting—can it be fixed?Why not have kids in your 40s?Survey requests on mutual masturbation and handjobsHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Have a Question (submit form)Sexploration ListTalking Dirty (ebook)Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire (post)Desire vs Willingness (post)Sexual Frequency (post)SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty SexBDSM ForumBDSM Survey ResultsMutual Masturbation Survey ResultsCunnilingus (glossary)Your Definition of Gross Changes (post)SWM 147 - Sexual CompatibilitySWM 150 - Control, Sex, and MarriageBecoming More Sexually Engaged (course)MarriedDance.com (store)CouplesMassageCourses.com (course)Marriage Coaching (service)Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd like to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference!Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

Your best days are ahead of you. It's not too late to make your mark in this world. 

Send us a textI have heard more than one Christian express reservations about what we can look forward to in the age to come. What is it about Heaven that makes some of us nervous? John Koessler's latest book, On Things Above: The Earthly Importance of Heavenly Reality, is now available. You can get it from Amazon. Dr. John Koessler is an award-winning writer and retired faculty emeritus of Moody Bible Institute. John writes the Practical Theology column for Today in the Word and a monthly column on prayer for Mature Living. He is the author of 16 books. His latest book , When God is Silent, is published by Lexham Press. You can learn more about John at https://www.johnkoessler.com.

Desire or desperation, revenge or retribution—how far would you go to realize a dream? The twenty-two authors in this collection explore the possibilities, with predictably unpredictable results.Featuring stories by Pam Barnsley, Linda Bennett, Clark Boyd, C.W. Blackwell, Amanda Capper, Susan Daly, James Patrick Focarile, Rand Gaynor, Gina X. Grant, Julie Hastrup, Beth Irish, Charlie Kondek, Edward Lodi, Bethany Maines, Jim McDonald, donalee Moulton, Michael Penncavage, Judy Penz Sheluk, KM Rockwood, Peggy Rothschild, Debra Bliss Saenger, and Joseph S. Walker.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/houseofmysteryradio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we contemplated "NTI" Romans, Chapter 10, "When you find resistance in your heart and your mind, put not your trust there.  When you find resistance, remember what you truly want.Rest, so that resistance will pass over you. When you find willingness, clasp hands with your Holy Spirit in joy!Walk forward in trust and willingness. This is your desire awakened and it is leading you Home.". A quote from Nisargadatta Maharaj, "There is nothing wrong with any state you find yourself in. You are the light in which the states appear and disappear." "Do not undervalue attention. It means interest and also love. To give attention to something is to give it life." and "Thought of Awakening" #176 & 177.

Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

Woe unto those that desire the day of the Lord's judgments !! by Shawn Ozbun

One of the most common questions we get from our listeners is ‘where has my desire gone and how do I get it back?’ It seems to be something every one of us experiences at different stages of our lives and we still don’t seem to be talking about it all that much. Speaking of things we don’t talk about, when was the last time you self pleasured? How about your partner? Do you ask them when they masturbate? Don’t worry, we don’t either. But maybe we should! Joining us is the incredible Dr. Jennifer Gunsaullus, aka ‘Dr. Jenn,’ a sociologist, sexologist, TEDx speaker, and ‘Vagina Warrior’. With over 20 years of experience in the field of sexual health, Dr Jenn is here to break down how we all feel about desire and pleasure for ourselves and within our relationships! We spoke about: How our attitudes have changed when it comes to talking about sex How girls and boys are socialised differently when it comes to our bodies When to talk to kids about their ‘urges’ How our desire levels change over our lifetime and so does ‘what feels good’ Is porn a common problem in relationships? Are you the higher desire person or lower desire person in your relationship? How important is it to masturbate? Practical ways that you can bring your desire back You can find Dr Jenn’s new book From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Maybe you received an allowance from your parents when you were a child. Guess what? You are still receiving an allowance! Also, new music today. I believe you will like it! 

Is it possible to talk about the Holocaust from a queer perspective? This is the question posed at the beginning of the first book to explore the desires of queer people during the Holocaust, originally published in German under the title Menschen ohne Geschichte sind Staub (People Without History are Dust: Queer Desire in the Holocaust) by historian and pioneer in the study of queer desire during the Holocaust, Anna Hájková.

Jimmy addresses the latest news, like Zohran Mamdani beating Andrew Cuomo in the Democratic mayoral primary, before speaking with Jonathan Bailey, Abby Elliott, Brandy and Monica.

Listen To Full Sermon: " Sunday of the Samaritan Woman | 2025" @ Archangel Michael Coptic Orthodox Church - La Vergne, TN ~ March 23, 2025 | Paremhotep 14, 1741https://on.soundcloud.com/5BviRjPvNX7zXSFmdT

In this episode of the K-Pop Cast, the hosts review Enhypen's "Bad Desire". They discuss the evolving trends in K-Pop, the impact of military enlistment on artists, and the significance of music videos in conveying concepts. The conversation also touches on the nostalgia of early 2000s sounds and the challenges of creating memorable choreography in a fast-paced industry. Join the Kpopcast Slack: https://join.slack.com/t/kpopcast/shared_invite/zt-93kzxcv6-YNej2QkyY6vaPnhEQJxk0AChip in for editing: https://ko-fi.com/thekpopcast [REVIEW] ENHYPEN Explores Their Darkest Fantasy Yet with ‘DESIRE: UNLEASH' Containing Moments of Excellence | Genius https://genius.com/discussions/499192-Review-enhypen-explores-their-darkest-fantasy-yet-with-desire-unleash-containing-moments-of-excellence HIT REPLAYS:MEOVV(미야오) - ‘HANDS UP' M/V https://youtu.be/sL0pCS6K9bc?si=WkbTrnSvGsRYJDaY USPEER (유스피어) 'ZOOM' MV https://youtu.be/7WSmAo7kSoo?si=xlQp-pHbq4801WZO JAEHYUN 재현 'Can't Get You' (Official Audio) https://youtu.be/yzAA-8CrWCY?si=Pbt6r6pTW_CorCf2Chapters00:00 Introduction02:14 Hit Replays: Meovv Jaehyun Uspeer16:11 'Bad Desire' Reaction21:14 Visuals and Themes in Music Videos29:03 Choreography and Performance Analysis31:23 Nostalgia and Global Reach in K-Pop39:16 Standout Tracks and Production Insights41:05 Final Thoughts and Ratings Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Social media has created an entire generation of "experts." Opinions are not facts. When in doubt or looking for answers, consult the one source that will never steer you wrong: God. 

We've all heard the idea that doing housework is the ultimate foreplay in long-term relationships. But is “choreplay” the secret sauce—or just a well-marketed myth? In this week's Love & Life Elevated podcast, we dive into the real research behind attraction and libido in long-term love. From the psychology of desire to the neurochemistry of lust, we unpack what keeps intimacy alive beyond the honeymoon phase. You'll learn: Why “doing more chores” doesn't always mean “getting more sex” The deeper drivers of sexual connection (novelty, growth, space, and purpose) What top experts like Esther Perel and Emily Nagoski want every couple to know The real numbers on how often happily married couples have sex This is about more than sex. It's about presence, evolution, and honoring what it means to love someone deeply—while still wanting them wildly. Listen in. Share it with your partner. Let's elevate love—together.

Our adventurers return to the main chamber and discuss what to do next, while Harshnag ponders the orb.Come join us on social media, and leave a 5 star review on PodchaserTwitterInstagramDweezil VanzaphirPodchaserKo-FiThe Dice and Desire podcast is unofficial Fan Content permitted under the Fan Content Policy. Not approved/endorsed by Wizards. Portions of the materials used are property of Wizards of the Coast. ©Wizards of the Coast LLC.

reference: Sri Aurobindo and the Mother, Looking from Within, Chapter 5, Attitudes on the Path, pg. 114This episode is also available as a blog post at https://sriaurobindostudies.wordpress.com/2025/06/23/aspiration-desire-and-the-action-of-the-divine-force/Video presentations, interviews and podcast episodes are allavailable on the YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@santoshkrinsky871More information about Sri Aurobindo can be found at www.aurobindo.net  The US editions and links to e-book editions of SriAurobindo's writings can be found at Lotus Press www.lotuspress.com

Part 1 Anti-Oedipus by Gilles Deleuze Summary"Anti-Oedipus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia" is a foundational text in post-structuralist thought, co-authored by French philosophers Gilles Deleuze and Félix Guattari, published in 1972. The work critiques traditional Freudian psychoanalysis and incorporates concepts from Marxism, anthropology, and philosophy. Here's a summary of its main ideas:Rejection of Oedipus ComplexDeleuze and Guattari challenge the centrality of the Oedipus complex in understanding human psychology and social dynamics. They argue that this Freudian concept narrows the complexity of desire and reduces it to familial and sexual determinants.Desire as ProductiveThe authors propose that desire should be seen as a productive force rather than simply a lack or deficit. They coined the term "desiring-production" to describe the way desires create social and economic realities. Instead of repressing desires, societies channel and structure them through various institutions (family, state, capital).Capitalism and SchizophreniaThe title itself suggests a link between capitalism and schizophrenia as systems that disrupt conventional forms of organization. They argue that capitalism liberates desire by breaking down traditional social bonds but simultaneously re-imposes new forms of control. This paradox creates a schizophrenic state where individuals oscillate between freedom and constraint.Assemblages and MultiplicityDeleuze and Guattari introduce the concept of "assemblages"—a collection of heterogeneous elements that come together to form a whole. They emphasize a multiplicity of identities and desires that exist outside rigid categorizations, arguing against essentialist views of human nature.Anti-AuthoritarianismThroughout the text, there's an anti-authoritarian sentiment. They encourage a radical rethinking of societal structures and promote the idea of reforming anything that confines desire—ranging from family units to the state and capitalist economies.SchizoanalysisInstead of psychoanalysis, they propose "schizoanalysis" as a method for understanding desire and social relationships. Schizoanalysis aims to liberate desire from societal constraints and explore how it interacts with broader social and economic forces. Conclusion"Anti-Oedipus" serves as a manifesto for rethinking desire, identity, and power in contemporary societies. It challenges readers to consider how psychoanalysis can be expanded beyond family dynamics to encompass a broader understanding of desire's role in shaping both individual subjectivity and societal structure. This work laid the foundation for further exploration of these themes in their subsequent collaboration, "A Thousand Plateaus." Overall, "Anti-Oedipus" invites a radical rethinking of how desire functions within capitalism and opens the door to new ways of conceptualizing human interaction and social organization.Part 2 Anti-Oedipus AuthorGilles Deleuze was a French philosopher born on January 18, 1925, and he passed away on November 4, 1995. He is widely known for his work in philosophy, particularly his contribution to postmodernism and post-structuralism. Deleuze's collaborative work with psychoanalyst Félix Guattari significantly influenced various fields, including philosophy, literature, film, and cultural studies. Anti-OedipusRelease Date: "Anti-Oedipus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia," co-authored with Félix Guattari, was first published in French in 1972.This book is a foundational text of their two-volume series titled "Capitalism and Schizophrenia" and is often regarded as a seminal work in the fields of philosophy, psychoanalysis, and social theory. Other Notable WorksGilles Deleuze wrote several influential books, some of which include:Difference and Repetition (1968) This book offers a...

Prosperity Gospel has been around for over a half century. Not everyone will become wealthy on this side of eternity. But wealth isn't always measured in money. 

Iran launched a barrage of ballistic missiles at a U.S. military base in Qatar, though also indicated a desire to de-escalate. President Trump is echoing that call and announced a ceasefire between Iran and Israel, which began this recent conflict when it attacked Iran and its nuclear program 12 days ago. Nick Schifrin reports. PBS News is supported by - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/about/funders

Iran launched a barrage of ballistic missiles at a U.S. military base in Qatar, though also indicated a desire to de-escalate. President Trump is echoing that call, but Israel is continuing airstrikes on Iran and again called for evacuations in a district of Tehran. Nick Schifrin reports. PBS News is supported by - https://www.pbs.org/newshour/about/funders

You must make room for the good you desire. In this episode, I explore why letting go isn't just helpful—it's required for receiving anything greater. You can't receive more if you're still clinging to what doesn't serve you. Why You Must Make Room for the Good You Desire Letting go isn't about loss—it's about making […] The post Make Room for the Good You Desire: Let Go to Let It In appeared first on The Successful Mind Podcast.

Daily Prayer DevotionIn this empowering episode of "Daily Warfare Prayers," Pastor Derrick Crosby inspires listeners to guard their hearts against the dangerous traps of the "lust of the flesh," "lust of the eyes," and "pride of life," as revealed in 1 John 2:15-17. Through spiritual insight and heartfelt prayer, Pastor Crosby encourages surrender to the Holy Spirit, emphasizing that true strength and fulfillment come from yielding to God's guidance. Listeners are uplifted to pursue a deeper relationship with God, overcome the dangerous traps of worldly temptations, and embrace a life of purpose, devotion, and spiritual victory.Takeaways & Scripture ReferencesIntroduction to the Three Traps (00:00:00)**  Overview of the episode's purpose and introduction to the three spiritual traps: lust of the flesh, eyes, and pride of life.  *Scripture Reference: 1 John 2:16*Explanation of the Lust of the Flesh (00:01:51)**  Defines "lust of the flesh," contrasts fleshly and spiritual natures, and explains their ongoing conflict.  *Scripture References: Galatians 5:16-17; Romans 8:5-8*How to Overcome the Flesh (00:03:39)**  Describes yielding to the Holy Spirit as the only way to overcome the flesh, using the escalator analogy.  *Scripture References: Galatians 5:16; Romans 8:13*Prayer for Empowerment (00:05:28)**  Leads a prayer asking for grace, wisdom, and empowerment to overcome the flesh and yield to the Holy Spirit.  *Scripture References: 2 Corinthians 12:9; James 1:5; Ephesians 3:16*Surrender and Seeking God (00:07:02)**  Concludes with surrendering desires to God, seeking His will, and affirming delight in the Lord through prayer.  Scripture References: Psalm 37:4; Romans 12:1-2; Matthew 6:33*Call To Action Subscribe To Warfare Prayer Podcast for daily inspiration, devotion and prayer. Share this episode with someone going through trails and challenges Leave a review for Warfare Prayers Podcast. Support Warfare Prayers Here Other Prayer ResourcesClick here for prayer booksClick Here to follow on YouTubeTranscriptThank you for listening to Daily Warfare Prayers, a podcast created to empower your mind, soul and spirit through daily scripture, devotion and prayer so that you can walk in victory today. Today I want to warn you to avoid three dangerous traps. These traps will kill your love for God and your desire for his will. They are traps that Satan uses every single day.The traps are found in first John 215 through 17. The Bible says this do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life is not of the father, but is of the world, and the world is passing away and the lust of it.But he who does the will of God abides forever. So the dangerous devices, according to the word of God, that you must be aware of as you go about your day and as you go about your journey, are the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life.