Podcasts about Desire

Do you actually have free will?It seems obvious. You decide what to eat. You decide where to go. You decide whether to stay or leave. You decide to stand up, pick up your phone, build a business, enter a relationship, or change the direction of your life.But look closer.Before the decision appeared, did you decide to have the impulse that produced it? Before the thought appeared, did you choose the thought? Before you chose what you wanted, did you choose the desire itself?In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin takes the investigation into free will, control, and manifestation beneath philosophy and into direct experience. Rather than offering another belief about whether human beings possess free will, he asks you to look for the one who supposedly possesses it.The inquiry begins with an extraordinarily simple experiment: sit still, and whenever you decide, stand up.Then investigate.What actually initiated the movement?Did thought command the body? Did an impulse arise first? Did you decide when the decision would occur? And if you decided to decide, what caused that decision?From there, the investigation moves into the neuroscience of voluntary action, the spontaneous appearance of thought, conditioning, desire, fear, responsibility, and our deeply rooted assumption that somewhere inside the body exists an independent controller directing the course of life.But the episode doesn't conclude that free will exists - or that it doesn't.Both conclusions may simply become new beliefs.Instead, Kevin asks a more fundamental question:Can you find the chooser?This changes the investigation of control completely.Perhaps what we call control is actually influence. You can plant a seed, water the soil, and provide sunlight - but can you command the seed to grow? You can build a business, train your body, pursue a relationship, and make decisions - but can you control all the conditions determining the outcome?And if you cannot, what exactly does it mean to say, I am in control?This inquiry eventually reaches manifestation itself. If manifestation means creating the future you desire, where did the desire originate? Desire emerges from what is known and projects it into the future: I want this to happen. Fear performs the opposite movement: I don't want that to happen.Standing between them is the imagined controller attempting to guarantee one future while preventing another.Perhaps manifestation isn't something an individual does to life.Perhaps what we call the individual is itself part of life's manifestation.This episode ultimately leaves free will, determinism, control, and manifestation behind to investigate the assumption beneath all four:Who is the “I”?Not your name.Not your history.Not your body.Not your thoughts.Not your desires, fears, memories, beliefs, or identity.When everything you can observe is put aside, can you actually locate the separate person who claims ownership of it all?Maybe the deepest question isn't whether the prisoner has free will.Maybe it's whether there was ever a prisoner at all.

In this episode of #amwriting, Jennie introduces this series of “Write Big” episodes in which she vulnerably shares her own process of turning the Write Big concepts into a book, thanking listeners and inviting them to become paid subscribers. In this tough installment, recorded after a Zoom call with her agent while sick, she explains they are ending submission after sending the proposal to 30 publishers; feedback was largely positive, but publishers felt the book would be hard to break out without a large platform, and there was nothing actionable to change. Jennie feels sad about losing the chance for bookstore placement via a traditional deal, but emphasizes she does not feel rejected and believes strongly in the finished manuscript and her marketing plans. She plans to move forward independently, explore formats and special editions, and frames the moment as what “writing big” means: taking ownership, not playing small, and writing like it matters.#AmWriting is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.Transcript[00:00:00] Hey everyone, it's Jennie, and I'm here to introduce a series of episodes that I'm going to be doing. But before I do that, I just want to thank you for being a listener. I inherited this podcast from KJ, Jess, and Serena back in December, and didn't really know how it was going to work with just me at the helm or what I was going to do to make it valuable to writers.And I've been finding my way, and I've just been so grateful that you're continuing to listen. I appreciate it so much. I have a lot of really cool things planned coming up, so I hope you'll keep listening, and I also hope that if you're getting something from it, that you consider becoming a paid subscriber.That helps support me and the producer and assistants who help me put this together, and we would appreciate your support so much. Okay. So the reason that I wanted to introduce this upcoming series is that it's a series of Write Big episodes that are about me and the project that I'm working on, and it feels a little vulnerable to be sharing in this way.I've had some mentors and advisors [00:01:00] suggest that maybe I shouldn't do this because I'm here on the #amwriting podcast as an authority. I'm the book coach who coaches the book coaches and who has coached a lot of writers, and I come at you from that place of expertise. But in these next episodes, I'm coming at you as a writer my own self, and I'm coming with some pretty raw material.I debated whether or not I should share it at all, but I decided to go ahead. I think it's the honest way to show that I'm here working on the Write Big issues right alongside you because every writer is. These are not just theoretical ideas. They're ideas that we all have to wrestle with. It doesn't matter that I've published 12 books or that I've coached hundreds of writers and thousands of book coaches.What matters is that I want the book I'm writing to be great, and I want it to make an impact, and I want it to be authentically me, and that's what writing big is all about. So the [00:02:00] project that you're going to hear me talk about is trying to turn the Write Big concepts into a Write Big book. And this episode that you're gonna hear first is a pretty tough one.I want you to know that it all turns out just fine. I'm fine, and I'll be sharing the journey of my bringing the Write Big book into the world with all of you as we go with some special opportunities to be inside the process with me and to help me make the book as good as it could be. This will all just be a small part of what I have planned for the #amwriting podcast, but I wanted to give you this context before you listen today, just so you know what this episode is all about and the next few ones that follow.Okay, now let's get to it.This is a Write Big session where I'm bringing you short episodes about the mindset shifts that help you stop playing small and write like it matters. Today, I have a bad cold, as you can hear, but I just got off the Zoom with my agent, and I wanted to [00:03:00] capture this moment for all of you because I think it's really important to capture it.So even though it was a sad call and I feel bad, I wanted to record this right now. And, um, it was sad because we decided that our submission efforts are over and they didn't work. My agent submitted to 30 publishers, and the overall feedback was amazing, as I shared in some earlier episodes. It was just incredible how many people know me, know my work how well the proposal landed with people, how seriously they considered it.My agent did something that I've actually never seen before, which is that she had a spreadsheet, a Google spreadsheet, and she would share the feedback in the spreadsheet as it came in. So I have all of the feedback in this spreadsheet. I'm looking [00:04:00] at it right now. And so what my agent and I decided is that there was really nothing that we could do.There was nothing that we could control. Nobody was saying, “Go out and get a whole bunch of new followers and come back to us.” Nobody was saying anything about a different content or concept. There was just a general feeling that it would be hard to break this book out. I'm not famous, and I don't have a big following, and I can't get that.I can't snap my fingers and, and make that a thing. There are a lot of books in this category from people that do have that. And so I just am at that disadvantage, and there's, there's nothing that we could do. So we decided that's the end of the road. So what I wanted to capture, the reason I wanted to record this was, this is a book called [00:05:00] Write Big.And writing big in my mind- is not about going for it. That's not what it's about. It might be, and when you write big, you might do that, and what I was doing in trying to get a traditional deal for this book was going for it, and I'm sad I didn't get it. That's the sadness. I'm sad I didn't get it. I really wanted this book to be in bookstores.I feel like it's a book that would do really well in bookstores, and should be in bookstores. That was my primary goal for getting a traditional deal, because I've self-published the Blueprint books, and they sell very well, and they do very well. And the one publisher that we spoke to commented upon that, actually said, “You do so well.What can we... What could we do that's different from what you're already doing?” So that is an [00:06:00] interesting part of the conversation. But I want it to be in bookstores, and it's hard to be in bookstores, really nearly impossible with a book like this from self-publishing. So the sadness is that I won't have that.And but underneath all of that sadness and the disappointment that it didn't work is a belief in what I'm doing. I have a finished manuscript. I have it out with two beta readers, and I'll be talking about why I picked those two and what that process was and how the feedback from them has gone and what I'm doing with that feedback in later episodes.But I know that this material is good. I know that it's useful. I'm excited about this material. My proposal had some killer marketing plan in it that I'm really excited to pursue without a [00:07:00] publishing partner, a traditional publishing partner, and some of the things that I wanna pursue will be easier without a publishing partner because I'll have control over the pricing and special offers and giveaways and things like that.But I... the, this book is not... this, this news is not the end of this book by any stretch of the imagination. It's just the end of this piece of what I wanted, and that's the core belief, is that this, this idea is solid and sound, and I'm excited about it, and I wanna bring it into the world, and actually nothing is gonna stop me from doing that, and I feel a fierce, m- what is it?Desire to do that. So I don't feel like this is a setback. I don't feel like it's a referendum on what I wrote. [00:08:00] I don't feel like it's personal I don't feel rejected. Again, I just feel sad because I had a, a dream or a vision of that, of that bookstore thing. But, you know, what does that represent? It...What it means is that this book would get into writers' hands, and it would get into writers' hands in that way of, you know, someone wanders into a bookstore and they're noodling around, and they are come upon that writer book reference shelf in which actually often several of my clients' books sit. And which is kind of ironic.One of, one of the re- uh, rejection letters actually referenced that they already have a book similar-ish to mine which is somebody that I, that I helped. So, and one of my coaches helped. So, yeah, it's a little bitter- [00:09:00] bittersweet part of that there, for sure. But, you know, the ultimate goal is that writers get this, and writers use this, and writers make something from the content in this book, and that can happen whether they encounter that book in the bookstore or not.So that is what is gonna happen. I will pursue this and move forward with this on my own. And, It, yeah, it feels, I'm just- I'm sort of closing my eyes and sitting here and trying to feel how I feel. I mean, I knew, I knew what was happening on this call. It wasn't a surprise to me. It was, you know, we agreed to add the submission and to have this conversation today.So I wasn't surprised by the news. But, you know, having the call is, is final and the agent that I chose for this project is lovely and loves my work and did it- did all she could do. Um, I have no, I have no, um, [00:10:00] feelings or regrets about her role in this. And yeah, I feel a little, uh... What do I feel?It's, uh, it's hard to know what you feel. Um, I feel a little, I guess vulnerable, uh, sharing, sharing this in what, um, will be a podcast, but I don't know. I just, I'm out here trying to teach and to lead and to coach, and I've coached so many writers through this moment in different ways and different kinds of books over the years, and it's part of the process.I- I've been in the seat of helping someone through it many, many times and it it will be okay. I know it will be okay. And, um, we're so lucky that we live in a time when the publishing decision is not the final decision. I have so much control and agency and choice, and maybe this is w- actually gonna be the best [00:11:00] possible for- thing for this book.And I'm starting to think about, oh, maybe I'll do a, a special kind of cover or a special hardback edition in addition to paper and e-book and audio. There's so many things that I could do and I'm excited to, to do it. So I will take a, a beat and mourn, mourn the thing that I didn't get that I wanted and move on.And that is what I think writing big is all about. Again, it's not going for it and, getting the big prize and that kind of energy. It's, you know what? how can you stop playing small and write like it matters? How can you go big in terms of your ownership of this and taking responsibility of this and doing what you can to bring it to life?And that's always in our control. So that's what I'm [00:12:00] gonna do, and I wanted to share that with you in the moment. So until next time, stop playing small and write like it matters. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amwriting.substack.com/subscribe

There are passages in St. Isaac that can sound almost impossible to modern ears. His words on vigil are among them. “Do not imagine,” he tells us, “that among all the works of monastics there is any practice greater than night vigil.” We hear such words and immediately think of sleep deprivation, bodily exhaustion, long hours of psalmody, standing in darkness while the rest of the world sleeps. We wonder whether such a practice belongs to another age, another kind of human being, perhaps even another understanding of the spiritual life. But this is precisely where we can misunderstand Isaac. Vigil becomes incomprehensible when it is separated from desire. If we begin with asceticism, vigil appears severe. If we begin with love, it begins to make sense. The lover understands the night. There are moments when we do not want an evening to end because we are with someone we love. There are conversations in which we cease looking at the clock. A mother remains awake beside a sick child without calculating the sacrifice. Someone awaiting the return of the beloved listens for every sound in the night. Love changes our experience of time. And so it is with the saints. They did not remain awake because they despised sleep. They remained awake because they had discovered Someone for whom it was worth losing sleep. This is the secret of vigil. “That I May Be With You” The Fathers understood the spiritual life far less as the fulfillment of religious obligations than as the awakening of desire. Beneath fasting, silence, solitude, tears, prostrations, psalmody, and vigil lies a single movement of the heart: I want God. Not merely His gifts. Not consolation. Not religious experiences. Not even virtue considered as a possession. God Himself. This is why St. Isaac describes the mind of the one who keeps vigil as becoming light and buoyant, taking flight “as it were on wings.” The ascetic is not merely staying awake. Something within him is being released. During the day the mind is scattered among a thousand things. We speak. We answer. We plan. We remember. We anticipate. We defend ourselves. We attend to necessities. Even when these things are good, the heart becomes divided among them. Then comes the night. The voices diminish. The demands cease. The world grows quiet. And the soul discovers again the One whom it has been seeking beneath everything else. This is why vigil was so precious to the Desert Fathers and remains so in the teaching of the great modern elders. It creates a space in which the heart can become undivided. The night says: There is nowhere else I need to go. There is nothing I need to accomplish. There is no one before whom I need to justify myself. There is only God. And I am here. The Recovery of Wonder Yet there is something even deeper in Isaac's teaching. Vigil is not merely about attention. It is about wonder. Isaac tells us that the one who perseveres in vigil begins to “gaze upon” heavenly realities. His language is deliberately extravagant: the soul comes to possess “the eyes of Cherubim.” What does this mean? It means that purification changes how we see. The tragedy of fallen existence is not simply that we commit sins. It is that we gradually cease to be astonished by God. We become accustomed to everything. Accustomed to the Gospel. Accustomed to the Eucharist. Accustomed to the name of Jesus. Accustomed to the Cross. Accustomed even to the astonishing claim that the Creator of heaven and earth desires communion with us. And when wonder disappears, desire soon weakens with it. The Fathers knew that the heart must be awakened again. This is one reason vigil has such power. In the silence of the night, familiar words can suddenly become new. “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God…” We may have spoken those words ten thousand times. Yet in the stillness something can happen. Jesus. The Name becomes luminous. God is here. God sees me. God desires me. God has called me into existence that I might share His life. And suddenly prayer is no longer something we are performing. It is encounter. Wonder gives birth to desire, and desire gives birth to greater attention. Then the soul begins to understand why the saints stayed awake. The Vigil of the Lover This is why we must be careful not to turn Isaac's teaching into another spiritual program. Stay awake longer. Say more psalms. Sleep less. Accumulate hours. Isaac himself warns against precisely this distortion. A person may endure “prolonged psalmody,” weariness of the tongue, and “night-long standing,” and yet receive little fruit because the mind is elsewhere. The body is standing before God while the heart is wandering through the world. Isaac asks, with characteristic directness: Why sow so much seed if we continually prevent it from bearing fruit? Vigil without attention becomes habit. Vigil without desire becomes endurance. Vigil without love becomes religious achievement. And religious achievement can quietly feed the very ego that asceticism is meant to dismantle. The true vigil begins somewhere deeper. Stay with Me. This is the invitation hidden within the night. Christ in Gethsemane asked His disciples, “Could you not watch with me one hour?” Perhaps every vigil is, in some mysterious way, our answer to that question. Yes, Lord. I will stay. Not because I am strong. Not because I am an ascetic. Not because I want to imagine myself among the saints. I stay because You are here. Why Vigil Requires the Day This also explains something that Isaac emphasizes strongly and that can easily be overlooked. The vigil cannot be separated from the way we live during the day. If we spend the day deliberately filling the mind with noise, agitation, curiosity, argument, distraction, and endless encounters, we should not be surprised if those same things accompany us into prayer at night. Isaac therefore insists that the monk who desires the fruit of vigil must guard himself from unnecessary disturbance during the day. This is not contempt for the world. It is custody of the heart. The Fathers understood something about human consciousness that our age desperately needs to rediscover: what we give ourselves to leaves traces within us. Everything enters the heart. Images. Conversations. Arguments. News. Resentments. Fantasies. Fears. The opinions of others. The desire to be seen. The need to respond. The mind carries these things into silence. Thus vigil actually begins long before nightfall. It begins with how we guard the heart throughout the day. The School of Freedom This is one reason the disappearance of vigil from much contemporary Christian life is significant. We have not merely lost an ascetical practice. We have lost one of the great schools of desire, attention, and freedom. The modern world teaches us to flee silence. It places a device in our hand capable of filling every empty moment. It trains the eyes to seek novelty and the mind to expect constant stimulation. The Fathers move in precisely the opposite direction. Be still. Remain. Watch. Wait. Listen. Do not flee the emptiness. Because eventually you may discover that it was never empty. Someone was waiting for you there. The purpose of vigil is not to prove that we can conquer the body. It is to become free enough to recognize the presence of the Beloved. “I Sleep, but My Heart Is Awake” The goal, then, is ultimately something greater than remaining physically awake. The goal is wakefulness of heart. “I sleep, but my heart is awake,” says the Bride in the Song of Songs. There is the mystery. The deepest vigil eventually becomes a state of the soul. A person begins to live before God. The Jesus Prayer continues beneath thought. The remembrance of God becomes increasingly continuous. The heart waits for Him. Looks toward Him. Listens for Him. Desires Him. This is the angelic quality Isaac sees in vigil. The angels do not merely “stay awake.” They exist in ceaseless attention to God. Their life is beholding. And Isaac dares to say that through vigil the human person begins to participate in this same movement. The eyes of the heart open. Wonder returns. Desire intensifies. Prayer deepens. The mind grows light. And gradually the soul discovers that the ascetical life is not fundamentally a life of deprivation. It is a life of fascination. The Night Is Not Empty Perhaps this is what we most need to recover from Isaac. We will never understand the asceticism of the Fathers if we begin with what they gave up. We must begin with what they saw. They saw a Beauty before which the beauties of the world grew pale. They tasted a sweetness that made lesser consolations seem small. They discovered a Love so immense that solitude became communion, silence became fullness, fasting became hunger for God, and vigil became the refusal to leave the presence of the Beloved. This is why the teaching on vigil belongs so naturally beside the language of desire and wonder. The ascetic does not remain awake merely because a rule commands it. He has glimpsed something. And because he has glimpsed it, he wants to see more. Wonder awakens desire. Desire gathers the scattered heart. The gathered heart becomes attentive. Attention becomes prayer. And prayer becomes communion. Then something remarkable happens. What once appeared burdensome becomes precious. The night that once seemed long becomes too short. Silence that once frightened us becomes the place we long to enter. And the prayer that once seemed an obligation becomes something from which we are reluctant to depart. The saints kept vigil because they discovered that the night was not empty. The Beloved was there. And once the heart knows this, the deepest question is no longer: Why would anyone remain awake to pray? It becomes: How could love not want to remain? --- Text of chat during the group: 00:18:08 Bob Čihák, AZ: P 222, Homily 20 00:23:28 David Swiderski: The last time we discussed this and sleeping 8 hours straight and for most of time people at least in Europe slept "2" times I went back to my Grandfather's diary and it appears the wood stoves in Northern Wisconsin only lasted 4hrs and you would need to get up and feed the fire so they naturally did vigils and took advantage of the break in sleep. In Spain and Latina America they have a nap in some areas due to the heat (2 hour lunch) and are up till 1 or 2 am. It seems modern western society is a new adaptation of what was a practice for hundreds of years. 00:25:10 Ryan Ngeve: Father what is one to do if these practices and deprivations make us more agitated/irritated and downcast, especially towards  others, as they tend to do? 00:39:01 Gwen's iPhone: my cat does! 00:39:24 James Hickman: Is it safe to call vigils a means to the end, which is nearness to the Lord, such that a super practical means to find closeness with the Lord is this watching for him when there are fewer distractions (not that we are safe from distractions in the night, but that the many combating us in the day are perhaps different in kind or number than those distractions of the night)? 00:42:15 Rod Castillo: I pray my daily rosary at 2 am.  It's the only time the house is quiet enough to allow me to devote myself completely to it. 00:43:46 James Hickman: Reacted to "I pray my daily rosary at 2 am.  It's the only time the house is quiet enough to allow me to devote myself completely to it." with

There is something almost frightening about the stories preserved for us in the Evergetinos. They are frightening not because they portray extraordinary wickedness, but because they reveal how quietly the heart can change. The monk described by Palladios is not a beginner. He is a man of profound silence and prayer, one who has surrendered himself so completely to God that even the necessities of his bodily life have been entrusted to Providence. His life has become contemplation. Prayer is his delight. God provides for him in a miraculous manner. He has tasted something of the life of the age to come. And yet the beginning of his fall is almost imperceptible. He sleeps a little longer. His prayer becomes somewhat shorter. His attention wanders. Earthly concerns begin to occupy a little more space within him. Thoughts once immediately rejected are permitted to remain for a moment. Nothing, at first, seems catastrophic. That is precisely the warning. The Fathers understood that the great falls of the spiritual life rarely begin as great falls. They begin with small permissions. Something formerly guarded carefully is treated casually. Something that once troubled the conscience is dismissed as insignificant. A thought is entertained rather than rejected. Prayer is postponed. Vigilance relaxes. A little comfort is allowed to become necessary. The heart whispers that such things hardly matter. But they matter because the heart matters. There is something extraordinarily precious hidden within the human person: the place of communion with God. The Fathers speak of guarding the heart so insistently because they know what has been entrusted to us. Grace has entered there. The Name has been received there. Desire for God has been awakened there. A fire has been kindled that does not originate in ourselves. The spiritual life, therefore, is not primarily the anxious avoidance of infractions. It is the guarding of a treasure. This changes how we understand vigilance. We do not guard ourselves because God is waiting to punish the smallest mistake. We guard ourselves because love is delicate. Communion can be obscured. Desire can cool. The eye of the heart can become clouded. What has become luminous through prayer can gradually become opaque again. The evil one understands this very well. He does not always attempt to tear a person immediately away from God. With someone who has given himself deeply to prayer, such an assault might be too obvious. Instead, he waits. He works through what appears negligible. A little negligence. A little self-confidence. A little relaxation of watchfulness. A thought that seems harmless enough to entertain. The enemy is patient because he knows that a heart need not renounce God explicitly in order gradually to lose sight of Him. Palladios gives us an extraordinary image of this darkening in the bread. At first the monk receives heavenly bread, pure and provided by God. As his interior life becomes disordered, the bread appears grimy and gnawed. Later it is almost entirely spoiled. What is happening visibly to the bread corresponds to what is happening invisibly within the monk. The gift has not ceased to be gift, but his capacity to receive it has become corrupted. The tragedy is not simply that temptation has appeared. Temptation comes to everyone. The decisive moment comes earlier: he notices the diminishment and does not respond to it. He regards the first symptoms as trivial. This is one of the most penetrating insights in the story. The monk does not suddenly decide to abandon his vocation. He fails to take seriously the cooling of his love. The Fathers would have us become sensitive to precisely this. When prayer becomes burdensome, notice. When mercy toward another begins to disappear, notice. When resentment becomes pleasurable, notice. When the imagination begins feeding upon something we would once have rejected, notice. When silence becomes uncomfortable and distraction increasingly necessary, notice. When we begin excusing in ourselves what once brought us immediately to repentance, notice. Not because every movement of weakness is a catastrophe, but because small movements reveal the direction in which the heart is turning. The story attributed to St. Maximos makes the warning still more sobering. The young monk possesses astonishing spiritual authority. Even wild animals obey him. Those around him naturally interpret such gifts as evidence of sanctity. St. Anthony is less impressed. He sees a ship filled with precious cargo and says, in effect: Yes—but will it reach the harbor? Everything is contained in that image. Grace received is not yet grace preserved. Virtue acquired is not yet virtue safely possessed. Spiritual gifts are not guarantees. Years of asceticism are not guarantees. Miracles are not guarantees. The harbor is reached only through perseverance. This is why Maximos interprets the command to “turn away from evil, and do good” as something more than the avoidance of sin. We must fight to diminish the passions; we must labor to acquire the virtues; and then—we must remain awake in order to preserve what has been given. He connects this with Adam's vocation in Eden: to cultivate and to keep. The heart is a garden. Grace cultivates it with us. Prayer waters it. Tears soften its soil. The remembrance of God makes it fruitful. Virtue slowly becomes something beautiful and living within us. But the garden must also be kept. Perhaps this is why the Fathers can appear severe about things modern people consider insignificant. Their severity is not necessarily born from fear. At its deepest, it arises from wonder. They know what the heart can become. They have seen human beings filled with God. They have seen the mind made luminous through prayer, the passions transfigured, the hardened heart made merciful, and ordinary human beings become bearers of the Holy Spirit. Having seen such things, they cannot regard anything that gradually extinguishes that life as trivial. The treasure is too precious. And yet neither story finally teaches despair. Palladios' monk awakens. Remarkably, his awakening comes while he is teaching others. He hears himself speaking truths that he has ceased to live, and suddenly sees himself. The contradiction becomes unbearable. He runs back into the desert, casts himself upon the ground, and repents. God receives him. The angel's words are filled with mercy: “God has accepted your repentance and has had mercy on you.” Something has nevertheless changed. The miraculous bread does not return. His remaining years are marked by mourning. This is not because God refuses forgiveness. Rather, the story preserves the terrible seriousness of freedom. Forgiveness is complete, yet our choices are real. Grace is not magic, and repentance does not make our history unreal. The Fathers hold together what we so often separate: immense mercy and immense seriousness. Never despair. But never presume. Never imagine that a fall places you beyond the mercy of God. But never imagine that what darkens the heart is therefore insignificant. The Christian life is lived between these truths. Perhaps the most important question, then, is not simply, Have I committed some great sin? It may be much quieter: What is happening to my desire for God? Is the flame growing brighter or dimmer? Is prayer becoming more truthful or merely habitual? Is my heart becoming softer or harder? Am I becoming freer to love, or increasingly absorbed in myself? Have I begun calling “small” those things that slowly make me forget the One whom I love? The evil one is willing to wait. He knows that great falls can grow from tiny seeds of forgetfulness. We too must learn to wait—but differently. We remain before God. We keep the heart. We cultivate the garden. We guard the treasure. And when we discover even the smallest cooling of love, we do not panic and we do not despair. We turn again toward Christ. Immediately. Simply. Humbly. For vigilance, rightly understood, is not living in terror that we might lose God. It is living with the knowledge that nothing is more precious than having found Him. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:08:19 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 61 Section C 00:14:06 Jacqulyn Dudasko: I received my books today! Even had a bit of time to start reading!

In this episode, Regena Thomashauer, bestselling author + founder of The School of Womanly Arts, joins us for a bold conversation about pleasure, the nervous system, self-worth, and feminine power. She shares why reconnecting with your body can change the way you move through your entire life. Regena opens up about her own trauma, the moment she realized success couldn't heal what was happening underneath, and how pleasure became an unexpected path back to herself. She also shares what it means to trust your desire, even when life hasn't unfolded on the timeline you imagined. This episode is a reminder that you are not here just to achieve, caretake, and hold everything together. We explore what becomes possible when you let yourself feel more, receive more, and reconnect with the part of you that knows you're meant to be fully alive. We also talk about: Why women are taught to disconnect from their bodies + pleasure How shame around the female body can disconnect us from confidence + intuition Why Regena believes pleasure can help regulate the nervous system The difference between sexuality + erotic aliveness What happened when Regena realized her identity had become completely wrapped up in helping other people Her “on our knees” moment + the decision to finally turn inward How grief, fear, and desire can coexist during periods of deep uncertainty Using movement to help emotions move through the body The stories of Lilith, Psyche, Demeter, and Persephone + what they can teach us about feminine power Why women don't have to shrink themselves to be loved or accepted Resources: Website: https://mamagenas.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mamagena Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mamagena Sponsors:  Naturium | Give your skin the affordable, luxurious glow up it deserves. Go to https://Naturium.com/ALMOST30 for 10% off your first purchase today.  The Absorption Company | Start taking supplements your body can actually absorb. Go to https://absorbmore.com and enter ALMOST30 at checkout for up to 35% off your first order. Ritual | Don't settle for less than evidence-based support. Save 25% on your first month at  https://Ritual.com/ALMOST30.  Upwork | Visit https://Upwork.com right now and post your job for free.  Square | Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at https://square.com/go/almost30! #squarepod Smileset | Go to https://smileset.com/almost30 to get 35% off.  BetterHelp | This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Sign up and get 10% off at https://BetterHelp.com/almost30. Hero Bread | Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to https://hero.co and use code  A30POD at checkout. To advertise on this podcast please email: partnerships@almost30.com. Learn More: Get your copy of Almost 30, A definitive guide to a life you love for the next decade and beyond. https://almost30.com/book Listen to Morning Microdose! A quick trip into higher consciousness - https://almost30.com/morning-microdose Watch on YouTube - https://youtube.com/Almost30Podcast Join our community - https://www.facebook.com/Almost30podcast/groups Follow: https://instagram.com/almost30podcast https://tiktok.com/@almost30podcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: almost30.com/disclaimer.

As people take greater ownership of their health, the role of brands is changing.Recorded live at the Havas Café during the Cannes Lions International Festival of Creativity, this conversation explores how marketing can help people live healthier, longer, and more fulfilling lives.Jim is joined by:Yvonne Bryant, Hemoglobinopathies Commercialization Head at Novo Nordisk, whose career has spanned clinical research, drug development, commercialization, and consumer marketing. Today, she leads commercialization efforts for rare blood disorders, helping translate breakthrough scientific innovation into meaningful patient impact.Lauren Gellman, Senior Director and Head of Marketing for Health and Home at Google. Lauren oversees marketing across Google's health ecosystem, including Fitbit, Nest, and Google Health, where she's helping shape the future of AI-powered health experiences and personalized wellness.Samantha Avivi, Global Chief Marketing Officer for Consumer Health at Bayer. A longtime marketing leader whose career includes roles at Procter & Gamble, Kimberly-Clark, Walmart, and more, Samantha now leads global marketing and innovation across Bayer's portfolio of trusted consumer health brands.Drawing on Havas' Science of Desire research, the conversation explores how healthcare marketers are building trust in the age of AI, making complex science more accessible, and helping people navigate an increasingly personalized health journey. Ultimately, it arrives at a simple but powerful idea: the future of healthcare marketing isn't simply about helping people live longer. It's about helping people live better.—This week's episode is brought to you by Havas and Infillion.—Meet The CMO Podcast On the RoadThe CMO Podcast will be on the road throughout Q4 2026, capturing conversations with the leaders shaping the future of marketing, leadership, and business. If you'll be attending one of these events, we'd love to connect. Let us know!Advertising Week New York | October 5–7BLINK Cincinnati | October 8ANA Masters of Marketing | October 19–22—Interested in partnering with The CMO Podcast?!Looking ahead to the rest of 2026 and into 2027, we're partnering with brands to create executive content platforms that extend far beyond a single event. From pop-up podcast studios and live recordings to executive roundtables, keynote conversations, and bespoke thought leadership programs, we work with partners to build meaningful experiences that connect with senior marketing leaders.Whether you'd like to partner with us at one of the industry's biggest marketing events or create a custom experience designed specifically for your brand, we'd love to explore what's possible. Reach out to learn how we can build something together.Email us at podcasts@vyve.co—Produced by vYveThe CMO Podcast is proudly produced by vYve Production, a full-service production and content studio specializing in podcasts, executive storytelling, branded content, and live experiences. vYve is a community of ambitious leaders dedicated to unlocking what's next in business and in life. Through executive coaching, transformative experiences, strategic content, and communities like The CMO Podcast, vYve helps entrepreneurs, corporate leaders, and teams grow their businesses, strengthen their leadership, and build meaningful connections that last.Learn more about vYve and The CMO Podcast community at www.vyve.co.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mentioned LinksFree Tender Timer: https://www.secretowlsociety.org/shop/p/tender-timerSacred Systems: https://www.secretowlsociety.org/sacredSay Yes to Desire: https://www.secretowlsociety.org/desireJoin the newsletter: https://www.secretowlsociety.org/newsletterThis episode is about the approach I've built my entire workday around: alternating short bursts of work with active self-care, on a timer, on purpose. It sounds simple because it is — and the downstream effects go way deeper than "wellness."In this episode:• Why I built a free tool called the Tender Timer and how to use it to alternate focused work with active self-care throughout your day• How disconnecting from yourself while working is what actually causes overworking — and why reconnecting is the fix• What reclaiming my posture (including ditching my bed and lowering my desk to the floor) taught me about listening to my body• Why the path to making more money without working more starts with 10x-ing your self-care, not optimizing your strategy• How your capacity — not your to-do list — determines the size of the ideas you'll actually act on

Do you miss feeling emotionally connected, excited about intimacy, and close sexually?Maybe you've been trying harder to create closeness. You've prayed, read the marriage books, worked on your communication, and done everything you know to do. Yet something still feels missing.What if rebuilding emotional connection, intimacy, and desire isn't about trying harder... but about trusting God more?In this episode of Midlife Marriage Makeover, I'm kicking off a brand-new series called "Let Him... and See What Happens." Before you dismiss the title, this isn't about becoming passive or losing your voice. It's about trusting God more deeply, letting go of control, appreciating your husband's strengths, and discovering how those simple shifts can rebuild emotional connection, awaken desire, and breathe new life into your marriage.In this episode you'll discover:3 simple shifts to rebuild emotional connection, intimacy, and desire in midlife marriage.Why trying to carry everything can quietly create distance between you and your husband.How surrendering control helped me experience more peace, romance, attraction, and intimacy.The unexpected lesson God taught me through a simple conversation about cooking that transformed our marriage.How trusting God more can soften your heart, deepen emotional connection, and help you fall in love with your husband all over again.Friend, your marriage isn't broken, and your best years don't have to be behind you. I believe your future can be bigger than your past, and sometimes the breakthrough you've been praying for begins with one simple shift—not trying harder, but trusting God more.If you're ready to rebuild emotional connection, intimacy, romance, and desire in your Christian midlife marriage, you're in the right place.Come join my private Facebook community, Empty Nest Wives: Rebuilding Intimacy & Connection, where Christian wives are learning how to create marriages filled with emotional connection, lasting intimacy, romance, and joy.I'm so glad you're here. Let's build the marriage you've always hoped was possible. ❤️

Get all set for Twenty-second Sunday in Ordinary Time with Father DufresneSummaryIn this episode, we explore the importance of prayer, living authentically in faith, and the humorous side of church life through stories and reflections. Join us for insights on spiritual growth and some lighthearted church anecdotes.Key topicsThe importance of daily prayer and methods to incorporate it into lifeThe call to live authentically and embrace the cross in faithHumorous stories from church life that highlight human momentsThe significance of transformation through spiritual disciplineInsights from scripture on following Christ and living truthfullyChapters03:52 Sunday Readings: Jeremiah and the Call to Speak Truth04:43 Romans 12:1-2: Offering Our Bodies as a Living Sacrifice05:39 Matthew 16:21-27: Jesus Predicts His Passion and Disciples' Response07:45 The High Calling of Transformation and Living the Cross08:36 The Role of Prayer in Spiritual Transformation09:28 Desire for God and Daily Encounters in Prayer10:52 Small Sacrifices and Embracing the Cross in Daily Life12:03 Effective Communication of Spiritual Goals13:16 Methods of Short, Effective Prayer Sessions14:55 Encouragement and Response to Prayer Challenges16:34 The Power of Repetition in Spiritual Formation17:23 Practical Tips for Making Prayer a Habit19:05 Humorous Church Stories: Balloons and Unexpected Moments21:52 Dealing with Distractions and Lighthearted Church Anecdotes23:59 Church House Rules and Maintaining Reverence

Classical Christian education often talks about forming students to love what is true, good, and beautiful. But how does that formation actually happen? In this episode of BaseCamp Live, Davies Owens is joined by author, educator, and podcaster Heidi White to explore the formative power of stories. Heidi shares how literature shaped her own life and explains why great books do far more than communicate ideas or teach moral lessons. They awaken desire, give children models worthy of imitation, and help them wrestle with some of the deepest questions of what it means to be human. Drawing from her book The Divided Soul: Duty and Desire in Literature and Life, Heidi explores the tension between what we want and what we know we ought to do, and how that struggle appears again and again in great literature, Scripture, and our own lives. Davies and Heidi also get practical about reading with children. How much should parents explain? Should we protect children from darker moments in stories? And how can we ask questions that invite genuine thought rather than turning every book into another moral lesson? This conversation is an invitation to see education differently: not simply as the transfer of information, but as the formation of loves, desires, imagination, and ultimately, the human soul. Special Thanks to our partners who make BaseCamp Live possible: Wisdom and EloquenceThe Herzog FoundationLife ArchitectsWisephone by TechlessZipCast Stay tuned for more enlightening discussions on classical Christian education, and join us next time on BaseCamp Live! Remember to subscribe, leave us a review, and reach out to us at info@basecamplive.comDon't forget to visit basecamplive.com for more info and past episodes.

Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!Ever been told you're "too wet" or worried you're "not wet enough?" In this episode of Sex Reimagined, Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown break down the real truth behind vaginal wetness, arousal signals, and why lubrication isn't the only factor  with how turned on you actually are. They dig into why making noise during sex unlocks deeper arousal, the difference between Taoist and Tantric approaches to sounding, why lube should be a staple and never a source of shame, what happens once you experience female ejaculation, how to navigate period sex with confidence, and how to have a compassionate conversation with a partner about hygiene without triggering shame. This one is packed with practical, body-literate tools for anyone who has ever felt self-conscious about wetness, smell, sound, or fluids during sex.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTSWetness and arousal don't always match. Cervical fluid, cycle timing, and hormones can make you wet or dry independent of how turned on you feel.Sounding isn't performance, it's a shortcut to pleasure. Making noise from the top of your inhale to the bottom of your exhale moves energy and gets you out of your head.Female ejaculation strips away viscous fluid. Ejaculators often need more lube afterward, not less.Lube is a tool, not a confession. Reaching for it has nothing to do with how attracted you are to your partner.Period sex has ancient roots as ritual and healing, not just something to tolerate or avoid.Hygiene conversations go better with curiosity and a "we can do better here" frame instead of blame.LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE CAN BE FOUND ON THE WEBSITE: https://www.sexreimagined.com/blog/too-wet-not-wet-enough Sexual Reflexology Online Masterclass - Join us September 2nd at 4pm Pacific / 7pm Eastern for a live masterclass on zoom. Register for $33 HERE (free limited replay window available) Tantra Unlocked: A Map to Sacred Sexuality for Real People | Sep 16 and 17, 2026 > Most people spend their entire lives having the same experience on repeat. This September, twelve of the most trusted voices in conscious sexuality are gathering live to give you the real map. Free to Register: https://www.sexreimagined.com/power-of-pleasure The Sacred Spot Retreat | Santa Barbara, Nov 6-8 We are bringing our most intimate couples workshop to California. Over three days, you will learn Sacred Spot Massage, Erotic Attunement, sensual touch as a somatic practice, and the ritual skills that change the way partners meet each other in the body. Ten couple spots only. Register at sexreimagined.com/events Rooted in Desire: A Women's Weekend Retreat One woman told us she walked out having shed sixty years of shame in a single weekend. That's what happens in a room where women are finally given permission to feel what's true. Rooted in Desire is an intimate retreat blending pelvic floor release, tantric breathwork, and sisterhood. Join Leah & Dr. Willow Brown in Santa Barbara, January 30-31, 2027. sexreimagined.com/rooted-in-desireSupport the showPlease help support the production costs of the show! Donate now: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2032242/supporters/newFREEBIE- Introduction to Tantric Kissing Video and WorkbookSxR WebsiteDr. Willow's WebsiteLeah's Website 

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You can enjoy exclusive and intense erotic audio by grabbing your copy of the Wylde Erotic App on the Apple Store.This erotic story does contain graphic description of BDSM, domination, Bondage, Spanking and of course a damned hot cop! When Helen, a by-the-book young woman, decides to take a walk on the wild side, she never imagines the fiery passion it would ignite. What starts as an impulsive act of rebellion—stealing a lacy pair of underwear from a high-end boutique—turns into a whirlwind of forbidden desire and intense romance in "Bound by Desire," an erotic story that will leave you breathless.Helen's life had always been predictable. She was the good girl, the one who followed the rules. But on a spontaneous shopping trip with her best friend, she decides to indulge in a bit of mischief. With her heart pounding and adrenaline surging, she slips the delicate fabric into her bag. Little does she know, her daring act has caught the eye of a strikingly handsome young cop.Tall, muscular, with a smoldering gaze that could melt ice, he's everything Helen never knew she wanted. When he confronts her about the theft, the air between them crackles with an undeniable attraction. As he handcuffs her and takes her to the back room for questioning, the tension builds, and Helen realizes she's entered a world of dark and passionate desires."Bound by Desire" explores the tantalizing journey of Helen and Jake as they delve into a sensual and erotic romance.His authoritative nature awakens something primal in Helen, and she finds herself yearning for his control. What begins with a stolen pair of underwear soon evolves into a complex dance of power and submission, with him leading Helen into the seductive realms of bondage and spanking.Helen's transformation from a law-abiding citizen to a woman embracing her deepest desires is both thrilling and intoxicating. Under hs guidance, she discovers the pleasure of surrendering control, of being bound and spanked, each act intensifying their connection.Their relationship is a potent mix of discipline and desire, where every encounter pushes the boundaries of their lust. The hot cop with a dark side, finds himself captivated by Helen's willingness to explore the erotic unknown. Her innocence juxtaposed with her growing need for submission fuels his dominant instincts, and he takes pleasure in guiding her through a world of sensual exploration. Their chemistry is electric, each encounter more intense than the last, as they navigate the fine line between pleasure and pain."Bound by Desire" is not just an erotic story; it's a journey of self-discovery and liberation.Helen's experiences challenge her perceptions of right and wrong, ultimately leading her to embrace her true self. Their passionate romance is a testament to the transformative power of love and desire, where two souls find solace and excitement in each other's arms.Immerse yourself in this steamy, erotic story that combines the allure of bondage, the thrill of spanking, and the irresistible charm of a hot cop. "Bound by Desire" promises to take you on a tantalizing ride, where every page is filled with intense emotions and fiery passion. Get ready to be captivated by Helen dark and sensual romance—one that will linger in your fantasies long after you've turned the last page.

We are inundated with negative, objectifying messaging about our bodies in the church and by our culture. As a result, most of us live disconnected from our bodies. When we struggle with pornography, sex addiction, or experience sexual betrayal , many of us experience even more disconnection from our physical bodies and maybe even a load of shame about this vital part of who we are.   Dr. Dave Janvier is a licensed therapist, certified sex therapist, and spiritual director who works at the intersection of faith, neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual formation. What he brings to this episode may reframe almost everything you have been taught about your body, desire, and what God actually intended sexuality to be.   Kristin and Dr. Dave explore: What it means to be embodied — and why most of us, men and women both, are profoundly disconnected from our bodies How the church's legacy of body-shame and flesh-as-sinful thinking has deepened the very wounds it was trying to prevent The healing power of the ancient Hebraic understanding of a unified, integrated self Why sex addiction is, at its root, an intimacy disorder — and why acting out doesn't mean someone is too into their body; it means they're not embodied enough How betrayal trauma fragments the nervous system in specific, predictable ways — and what integration actually requires What scripture reveals about what God's design for sexuality and why sexuality and spirituality cannot be separated A live grounding practice you can use today, in your body, right now Your body is not the enemy. It never was. And the path back to wholeness is more integrated, spiritual, and grounded in hope than you may have been told.   Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org   The Living Truth Podcast: Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

UNHUSTLED starts next week. August 25, 26, and 27 at 11:00 am Central. I'm breaking down my entire mechanism, showing you all five patterns, and giving you the diagnostic so you can see exactly which one is running you and what to do about it. This is free right now. It becomes a paid masterclass going forward. Register here: https://go.shaminataylor.com/unhustled If your success has created more money but less freedom, is it actually working? I could have called this episode "why your work ethic is costing you your wealth," because that's what this really is. This one is for the hustler. The doer. The woman crushing her goals, checking off the list, winning constantly, and multitasking while she listens to this right now. I used to be her. Getting it all done was what ambition looked like to me. So let me be clear before we go further: I am never going to tell you to be less ambitious. We're not retiring your ambition. We're retiring the survival state you think you need in order to have the success. Because survival is not a business strategy. You didn't build your business to become an employee of it. If the only way it makes money is if you personally do the work, that's not a business, that's a job that owns you. And here's the part nobody says out loud: when you're already maxed out, you start subconsciously pushing money away. You can't imagine taking on more clients, because who would serve them? So you chase another strategy, another lead gen play, another sales tweak, and none of it moves, because the cap isn't in the strategy. It's in you. Four signs you're running on hustle: Your revenue grows, but your responsibility grows faster You hired a team, but everything still lands back on you Taking time off creates anxiety instead of freedom You've made more money, but slowing down still doesn't feel safe Then I break down The Power Pattern™, my trademarked process. Your pattern is the lens you see the world through, and it shapes every decision you make. The Controller takes the work back instead of delegating. The Prover works harder to earn the next level. The Pusher adds another offer, another hour, and never stops. The Pleaser overdelivers and undercharges. And the Protector delays the very move that would make her more visible, more known, more powerful. I also go deeper on my client Heather. Thirteen years running her cleaning company, a Cornell graduate, and still cleaning houses herself six years ago. Her months since she started the work: $146,000. Then $167,000. Then $191,000. July closed at $213,000. She restructured her leadership, released team members she'd been carrying, and took eleven days off without worrying about her business, something she says she has never done in her life. UNHUSTLED isn't becoming passive. It isn't lowering your standards, losing your ambition, ignoring strategy, or sitting in a bubble bath waiting for money. It's refusing to use pressure, control, proving, over-functioning, and nervous system overload as your growth strategy.

A talk by Thanissaro Bhikkhu entitled "The Desire to Do Well"

We hope you enjoy today's Scripture reading and devotional aimed at equipping you for moral and spiritual transformation. Today's Bible reading is Mark 10:35– 45. To read along with the podcast, grab a print copy of the devotional. Browse other resources from Scotty Ward Smith. Follow us on social media to stay up to date: Instagram Facebook Twitter

What if almost everything you think you know is simply something you were taught to call true?In this episode of The Alpha Male Coach Podcast, Kevin takes the investigation of Truth into one of the most fundamental structures of the human mind: knowledge itself.From the moment we learn language, we begin attaching sounds and symbols to reality. Someone points toward an object and says tree. Someone points toward your body and repeatedly makes the sound that becomes your name. Eventually, these associations become so automatic that we stop seeing them as learned concepts and begin experiencing them as reality.But the word is not the thing.And the description of you is not you.This episode examines how language, memory, identity, desire, and fear combine to construct the psychological world we ordinarily call my life. Names become identities. Experiences become stories. Temporary events become permanent conclusions: I failed becomes I am a failure. I experienced rejection becomes I am unwanted. A living human being becomes an accumulation of words.Then the investigation goes deeper.Almost everything we claim to know about ourselves comes from memory - and memory belongs to the past. Our names were learned. Our beliefs were learned. Our definitions of success and failure were learned. Even our ideas about who we are were accumulated through experience and conditioning.So what are you right now, without referring to any of it?Kevin explores the relationship between psychological time, desire, and fear. Desire appears to reach toward the future, but it can only desire from what is already known. The past supplies the material, and the mind projects it forward. Fear operates similarly: it takes memories, concepts, images, and previous experiences and projects them into an unknown future.Desire says, I want this to happen.Fear says, I don't want this to happen.Meanwhile, neither is happening now.This leads to the central inquiry of the episode: What remains when you stop referring to thought, memory, language, and identity to explain what you are?This isn't an argument against knowledge. Practical knowledge allows us to build houses, fly airplanes, practice medicine, create technology, and navigate the world. The question is whether knowledge can reveal Truth - or whether Truth begins precisely where conceptual knowledge reaches its limit.There is nothing here to believe.There is nothing new to memorize.There is only an invitation to look.What requires thought to exist?What requires memory?What requires language?What disappears when the story stops?And when everything that can be named, remembered, imagined, conditioned, described, and believed has been seen for what it is…What remains?

Black love now competes inside an economy that can turn recognition into reward and public response into psychological evidence. For Black people, that competition enters through a historical field already charged by misrecognition, exclusion, racial projection, economic restriction, contested beauty, extracted cultural production, and repeated demands for exceptional performance. Digital platforms did not create the human hunger for recognition. They gave that hunger a visible score and a business model. Under those conditions, attention may deliver more immediate emotional voltage than intimacy. Desire can feel more convincing than devotion. Status can quiet doubt for a moment. Public approval can make private love feel strangely insufficient. The governing thesis asks whether unconditional love can retain psychological authority when a person learns to experience visibility as evidence of value. Once another person must continually confirm worth, relationship can shift from encounter toward regulation. A partner no longer carries only a human presence. The partner may also carry an assignment. Keep me significant in my own eyes. Black love therefore confronts a recognition problem that reaches through history, economics, technology, culture, and personal psychology. The decisive question asks whether Black life can cultivate forms of worth powerful enough to let love matter even when nobody watches.

What if the person you call the love of your life entered carrying the key to the place where you still believe you are incomplete? Human beings begin life dependent. That dependence is innocent. A child requires regulation, protection, recognition, touch, presence, and care. When those needs remain unfinished, adulthood can inherit more than pain. It can inherit an assignment. Find somebody who will finally make the old absence stop hurting. Then attraction can feel like destiny because conditioning recognizes a familiar role before consciousness recognizes the script. The divine mirrored intimate play places another free, changing human being close enough to activate what solitude can keep hidden. Their distance can uncover abandonment. Independence can expose control. A boundary can reveal entitlement. Desire can expose the hunger to be chosen. Change can uncover the fear beneath your demand for permanence. The mirror shows something devastating. You have been asking an impermanent person to provide permanent evidence that you are truly whole. Bodies age, feelings move, circumstances turn, identities evolve, and relationships change form. Impermanence keeps its promise. The false self fights that fact because psychological need requires continuity of supply. Here need becomes the original sin when innocent childhood dependence survives as the adult belief that completion exists somewhere outside the self. Perhaps the fine tuning serves one ruthless purpose. Whatever you keep demanding from another person returns as a question about what remains uncultivated, disowned, or unclaimed within you. Can you become internally what you keep hiring romantic love to provide externally? Psychological freedom begins when another person can matter enormously without carrying responsibility for your wholeness. Then love loses its job as rescue. The mirror has done its work for you. You finally meet the person across from you after you stop trying to find yourself inside them.

Learn more about Parkinson's and find support: https://dpf.org  Intimacy, in all its forms, doesn't disappear with a Parkinson's diagnosis, but it does change. In this episode, Dr. Kelly Rees joins Chris Krueger for a candid conversation about staying close when Parkinson's changes your body, your self-image, and your relationship. They talk through what to do when touch becomes unpleasant, how to navigate mismatched desire without pressuring each other, impulse control changes related to dopamine agonists, and how couples stay connected when symptoms mean sleeping in separate beds. Whether you live with Parkinson's or care for someone who does, Dr. Rees's closing advice holds the whole conversation: don't give up on yourself. Kelly Rees, PhD is a board-certified therapist who specializes in intimacy, relationships, and sexual wellbeing in the context of Parkinson's. Dr. Rees has 15 years of clinical experience working with adults and couples, and she co-developed a program offering free intimacy and relationship classes to the Parkinson's community. Her work focuses on how Parkinson's symptoms, medications, body changes, and shifting roles can affect desire, connection, and communication, and on helping individuals and care partners adapt in ways that support quality of life and emotional closeness. This conversation comes from the Davis Phinney Foundation's June 2026 Live Well Today webinar. Watch the full webinar video here: https://youtu.be/G6c7SQnHrLs Sign up for updates on webinars, events, and resources for the Parkinson's community: https://dpf.org/newsletter

Join the conversation by letting us know what you think about the episode!At the young age of 14, guest Linda Gambill decided that she wanted to join the Peace Corps. In her early 20s, Linda took the plunge and became one of the many Peace Corps volunteers in 1978. In her memoir, The Geography of Desire, Linda takes us along as she revisits her time in The Gambia. If you ever wanted to know what it's really like to be a volunteer in a foreign land, this is the episode for you. Linda Gambill has been a therapist at a state psychiatric hospital, a Peace Corps volunteer, a nationally exhibited photographer, and a teacher of English as a Second Language. Her writing has appeared in Persimmon Tree and Parhelion Literary. The Geography of Desire is her first book. A fellow of the Hambidge Center, she lives in Tennessee with her husband and their talkative rescue cat.Where to find Linda Gambill:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lindaVgambill/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindagambillwriter/Support the showBe part of the conversation by sharing your thoughts about this episode, what you may have learned, how the conversation affected you. You can reach Raquel and Jennifer on IG @madnesscafepodcast or by email at madnesscafepodcast@gmail.com.Share the episode with a friend and have your own conversation. And don't forget to rate and review the show wherever you listen!Thanks!

Luke Burgis left Wall Street after two years, founded a few successful companies in his twenties, then walked away to spend three years in a Roman seminary on the path to the priesthood. He now runs the Cluny Institute and teaches at Catholic University. His book Wanting made René Girard legible to a general audience; the new one, The One and the Ninety-Nine, takes mimetic theory into the dynamics of self and crowd in an age of social contagion. He joined Tyler to discuss whether the age of pessimism is ending, why the Anglo world in particular seems so unhappy, whether Dostoevsky or Thomas Mann better diagnoses modernity, the kind of reader his own book would ruin, why he thinks AI will make social contagion weaker, what put him off consulting with Anthropic on Claude's constitution, what effective altruism misses, why men and women are drifting apart, what he'd fund in every American city, the case for reintroducing friction, whether a Gnostic reading of the lost sheep explains our moment, what Rod Dreher gets right about withdrawal, why Genoa is Italy's most underrated city, what confession times reveal about a church, why Italians seem tired of their Catholicism, why he didn't become a priest, where he differs from Ross Douthat, why exorcists appear to be on the rise, the sudden mimetic antisemitism on the right, the book his 23-year-old self would have hated, what he secretly admires about Silicon Valley, why Michigan never left him, what the original Cluny can teach a modern talent network, how he hopes to face his own death, what he'll do next, and more. Read a transcript enhanced with helpful links, or watch the full video on YouTube. Recorded April 30th, 2026. Other ways to connect Follow us on X and Instagram Follow Tyler on X Follow Luke on X Sign up for our newsletter Join our Discord Email us: cowenconvos@mercatus.gmu.edu  Learn more about Conversations with Tyler and other Mercatus Center podcasts here. Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:05:08 - On overapplying mimetic theory 00:06:35 - On AI and social contagion 00:07:53 - On declining Anthropic's invitation 00:09:36 - On the widening gap between men and women 00:12:25 - On anti-mimetic postures, jazz, and porn 00:16:46 - On Genoa, Naples, and societal escape fantasies 00:18:31 - On Italian Catholicism 00:26:59 - On not becoming a priest 00:29:13 - On beauty, enchantment, and the Gnostic sheep 00:40:22 - On what Wall Street taught him 00:43:50 - On Michigan 00:45:12 - On the Cluny Institute 00:48:41 - On dealing with death and what else is next 00:51:21 - Outro Image credit: Kirth Bobb

Alyssa Ljub is an intimacy and relationship expert who coaches dozens of couples a day in her role as a concierge at Arya. She joins Em and Cass to unpack the biggest hurdles couples hit when it comes to sex, why scheduling sex is FAR from unsexy, the difference between responsive and spontaneous desire, and the most common ways rejection shows up in long-term relationships. Find Alyssa at @alyssaljub on Instagram and TikTok and Arya at arya.fyi. Follow us on Instagram and TikTok @honeydewmepodcast and subscribe to our Patreon for exclusive content and ad free episodes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Objections aren't the problem. Desire is. And once you know how to create it, objections start solving themselves.In this episode, Macy breaks down why the salesperson who says "I don't have any questions" is the one who was never buying in the first place, and why the real skill isn't learning ten new comeback lines. It's learning how to make someone want something so much they talk themselves through every excuse on their own.She walks through the exact exercise she uses to build desire in her own life first (yes, including a story about her husband that will make you side-eye your own relationship), then shows how to translate that into a "payoff picture" your audience can't stop thinking about.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS0:00 — Do you feel like you're always handling objections?0:38 — How to handle objections before they ever come1:27 — Welcome to the School of Sales Podcast2:22 — Objections are good: the mall kiosk analogy4:36 — The kitchen renovation that's waited 5 years7:26 — Why creating desire is the real sales skill9:34 — The desire exercise Macy runs on herself first11:46 — Date night exercise: imagining a stranger meeting your husband19:11 — The Bahamas eels story23:01 — What financial freedom actually looks like25:29 — The cookies-in-the-oven metaphor28:27 — The Sell Your Offer ChallengeLinks & Resources

Shabbat Dinner Party, an auditory exploration through a Shabbat dinner, returns to the appetizer table, the kitchen, and the dinner table to go through all things Shabbat dinner. In this episode, Neil Spears talks about how Shabbat could be the perfect antidote to burnout through the act of guarding and remembering. The Gefilteria's Jeffrey Yoskowitz and Liz Alpern talk about their personal approach to Shabbat and religion, and how resting by yourself is different than resting in community.  Finally, writer and comedian H. Alan Scott talks about how working on several different creative projects doesn't mean you can't rest on Shabbat.  Shabbat Dinner Party is a production of Judaism Unbound. Senior Producer is Joey Taylor, and Executive Director is Miriam Terlinchamp. This episode was mixed by Justin Newton. Send us your comments, recipes, and Shabbat thoughts: mishkin@judaismunbound.com Resources: Follow H. Alan Scott's work  Learn more about The Gefilteria  Listen to Liz and Jeffrey's podcast, Meet Me At The Deli  Learn more about Judaism Unbound  For more reading: A good spin on the oft-quoted Isaiah 58:5-6 bible verse "Is this the fast I desire..." https://www.sefaria.org/Isaiah.58.6?lang=bi What Does It Mean that Every Soul Was at Mount Sinai When We Received the Torah? - Jew in the City

Fr. Elias Mary Mills, F.I., served as Rector of the Shrine Church at the Shrine of Our Lady of Guadalupe in Lacrosse, Wisconsin, from 2016 to 2021. He was ordained in May of 2000. In Today's Show: Is it okay if I tune out the priest and choose to pray a rosary during the homily if it's a priest I have difficulty understanding or a priest that doesn't necessarily give a good homily? If everyone has at least one guardian angel, and God created all of them at once, and we know that during the first war a third of them fell, what happened when it came to guardian angels? ​​Does a parent's sincere intent to have a baby baptized constitute baptism by desire for the baby? ​​Will my oppressors who took pleasure in harming me without ever repenting be surely punished? And more. Visit the show page at thestationofthecross.com/askapriest to listen live, check out the weekly lineup, listen to podcasts of past episodes, watch live video, find show resources, sign up for our mailing list of upcoming shows, and submit your question for Father!

Meghan Farner introduces Rob Nielsen, an educator and writer whose book, Jesus the Stoic Sage, explores the overlap between Stoic philosophy and the teachings of Jesus. This episode asks a practical question: how do we tell the difference between inherited assumptions and actual truth, and how can that clarity help us grow spiritually without collapsing our sense of faith or self?We discuss philosophy as a wisdom tradition, the Stoic view of virtue, conscience, desire, and the body, and how Jesus' teachings often emphasize inner transformation over outward performance. The conversation keeps returning to one central idea: embodied wisdom is not just something you believe, but something you practice.Key topics:In this episode, Rob Nielsen shares why he began studying Koine Greek and Latin to get closer to original texts and strip away translation baggage.Philosophy as love of wisdom - not abstract arguing, but a tradition aimed at helping people live well and build better communities.Stoicism and religion - the overlap is less about labels and more about what is ultimately good, true, and worthy of trust.Symbols and teaching tools - both philosophy and scripture use images, stories, and metaphors to teach truths people may not yet be ready to receive directly.The soul, psyche, and will - the conversation reframes the inner life as the part of us that perceives, chooses, and develops beyond the body.Stoic emotional intelligence - Stoicism is not about suppressing feelings, but about understanding impressions, desires, aversions, and responses.Repentance as metanoia - repentance is presented as a change in thinking, not just a behavior adjustment.The importance of virtue - the Stoic virtues of wisdom, justice, courage, and self-control are contrasted with living as a slave to impulses or external approval.Authority versus truth - Rob and Meghan unpack the limits of appealing to authority alone, including the Euthyphro dilemma.Jesus as teacher of transformation - the focus is on actions, motives, and embodiment, not just belief or religious affiliation.The body as ethically indifferent - the body is valuable as an instrument, but not inherently good or bad in Stoic terms.Pure motives and embodied alignment - the widow's mite, the fig tree, and other examples are used to show that what matters is not appearance, but fruit.Timestamps:(00:00) Hidden Wisdom's mission and today's focus on faith renovation(00:58) Introducing Rob Nielsen and his book, Jesus the Stoic Sage(02:14) How Koine Greek, Latin, and curiosity led Rob to comparative philosophy(04:04) What philosophy really means as a love of wisdom(06:53) Philosophy, religion, and the search for ultimate concerns(09:36) Symbols, myth, and universal teaching patterns(13:41) Why this conversation matters for spiritual seekers(14:38) Psyche, soul, will, and the inner self(17:23) What the Stoics actually meant by “stoic”(20:13) Thoughts, feelings, impressions, and emotional response(23:04) Repentance, healing, and subconscious triggers(25:27) Metanoia as a change in the way you think(28:00) Reason, conscience, and the “two or three witnesses” idea(30:24) Desire, aversion, and what blocks perception of truth(33:10) Virtue, excellence, and why the highest good matters(35:06) Socrates, Euthyphro, and the limits of authority(39:06) Why poking assumptions makes people uncomfortable(41:01) The journey inward and the temple as the self(43:09) The Stoic view of the body as ethically indifferent(47:00) Hypocrisy, masks, and the importance of matching words with action(48:54) Fruit, alignment, and what reveals what is truly good(50:10) “Actions outshine words” and the sacramental pattern of embodiment(52:23) Questioning inherited images of God through the lens of fruit(54:16) Whether Jesus may have known Stoic ideas(56:37) Tradition as inherited material that must be tested(58:33) Why Jesus was not teaching passive obedience(61:09) Trial, error, and experimenting upon truth(62:28) The Stoic discipline of assent(64:22) Desire, organization, and misplacing what is actually good(65:17) The widow's mite and pure motives(66:45) What Rob gained from reading Jesus through Stoicism(69:13) Meghan's closing reflection on the book as an initiation to practice(70:48) Closing invitation to the Hidden Wisdom app and community support Continue Your JourneyIf this episode resonated with you, there are several ways to go deeper:

Sometimes, what we think isn't actually true, even though it seems or feels true.  In this episode, Michelle guides you through the gap between desire and outcome to reflect on whether the thought in between is true or not and what you might be able to do about it. THERAPY WITH MICHELLE Have you been looking for a Trauma-Informed Therapist who is also a Christian?  Do you want to honor your faith even in your therapy?  Would you love to incorporate deep healing in a way that aligns with God's Word and evidence-based treatments for trauma healing?   I offer THERAPY INTENSIVES which help you to go deeper and with faster results than weekly therapy can provide.  Learn more at: www.emdrpittsburgh.com. For a Free Consultation Call:   If you would like to see about working with me in an EMDR Intensive, you can schedule a free 15 minute consultation call so that we can get to know each other and see if I am a good match for your therapy needs.  Go to www.calendly.com/michellecroyle to connect with me.   FACEBOOK COMMUNITY: Join our free Facebook Community For Encouragement and Support: CLICK HERE   FREE RESOURCE: If this episode resonated, you might be interested in my free resource.   I created a free, faith-honoring guide that gently explains how healing happens in the body and why you're not failing.  Free Trauma Healing Resource Guide *All content is for informational and educational purposes only and is not to be considered professional counseling.  If you need professional therapy, please seek it out, and if you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services near you.

Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!From Rupture to Rapture: How Do You Actually Find Your Way Back to Your Partner After a Fight? In this episode of Sex Reimagined, Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown map out the full journey from relationship rupture to reconnection, walking through the exact sequence they use in their own partnerships and coaching work. They cover self regulation tools like havening, co-regulation practices like the Tantra Cuddle and chakra spooning, the "bubble practice" for clearing a conversation before it starts, and why slow, non-sexual touch is often the missing bridge between conflict and intimacy. They also get into samskaras, the old wounds that get triggered mid-argument, and why naming them out loud can turn a fight into one of the most bonding conversations a couple can have.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTSWhy a rupture with your partner isn't the problem, and what actually determines whether it pulls you apart or brings you closerThe self soothing touch technique that calms your nervous system before you say another wordA spooning practice that syncs your breath and your energy faster than any conversation canThe "bubble" you need to build before a hard conversation even startsWhat your partner's words might really be touching from your past, and why naming it changes everythingThe non-sexual touch practice that has to happen before you get anywhere near raptureLINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE CAN BE FOUND ON THE WEBSITE: https://www.sexreimagined.com/blog/rupture-to-repair-reconnect-after-a-fight Sexual Reflexology Online Masterclass - Join us September 2nd at 4pm Pacific / 7pm Eastern for a live masterclass on zoom. Register for $33 HERE (free limited replay window available) The Sacred Spot Retreat | Santa Barbara, Nov 6-8 We are bringing our most intimate couples workshop to California. Over three days, you will learn Sacred Spot Massage, Erotic Attunement, sensual touch as a somatic practice, and the ritual skills that change the way partners meet each other in the body. Ten couple spots only. Register at sexreimagined.com/events Rooted in Desire: A Women's Weekend Retreat One woman told us she walked out having shed sixty years of shame in a single weekend. That's what happens in a room where women are finally given permission to feel what's true. Rooted in Desire is an intimate retreat blending pelvic floor release, tantric breathwork, and sisterhood. Join Leah & Dr. Willow Brown in Santa Barbara, January 30-31, 2027. sexreimagined.com/rooted-in-desireSupport the showPlease help support the production costs of the show! Donate now: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2032242/supporters/newFREEBIE- Introduction to Tantric Kissing Video and WorkbookSxR WebsiteDr. Willow's WebsiteLeah's Website 

Listen and subscribe to Money Making Conversations on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, www.moneymakingconversations.com/subscribe/ or wherever you listen to podcasts. New Money Making Conversations episodes drop daily. I want to alert you, so you don’t miss out on expert analysis and insider perspectives from my guests who provide tips that can help you uplift the community, improve your financial planning, motivation, or advice on how to be a successful entrepreneur. Keep winning! Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Angeletha Long. A 24-year Army veteran turned travel entrepreneur:

Listen and subscribe to Money Making Conversations on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, www.moneymakingconversations.com/subscribe/ or wherever you listen to podcasts. New Money Making Conversations episodes drop daily. I want to alert you, so you don’t miss out on expert analysis and insider perspectives from my guests who provide tips that can help you uplift the community, improve your financial planning, motivation, or advice on how to be a successful entrepreneur. Keep winning! Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Angeletha Long. A 24-year Army veteran turned travel entrepreneur:

Listen and subscribe to Money Making Conversations on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, www.moneymakingconversations.com/subscribe/ or wherever you listen to podcasts. New Money Making Conversations episodes drop daily. I want to alert you, so you don’t miss out on expert analysis and insider perspectives from my guests who provide tips that can help you uplift the community, improve your financial planning, motivation, or advice on how to be a successful entrepreneur. Keep winning! Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Angeletha Long. A 24-year Army veteran turned travel entrepreneur:

What if the reason intimacy carries so much weight for men is that it's the only place we've been given permission to be fully human?Dr. Celeste Holbrook is a sexologist with a PhD in health education and thirteen years of practice working with couples. Her book, Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex After Purity Culture, helps people rebuild their relationship with their own bodies after being taught to fear them. In this episode, she joins Jon and Will for one of the most direct conversations we've had about why men struggle to talk about intimacy, what purity culture actually did to boys, why rejection lands as a rejection of self, and what changes when men have more than one place to experience their own emotions.IN THIS EPISODE:1.  How purity culture shaped men differently than women — and what it taught boys about their own bodies2.  Why intimacy becomes the only sanctioned outlet for male emotion — and the cost of that3.  The desire gap: why every couple has one, and how to negotiate it without resentment4.  Why a no can land as a rejection of self, and the work required on both sides5.  Focus on what you want to feel, not what you want to do — the reframe that changes everythingMore about Dr. Celeste Holbrook:1.  Website: https://www.drcelesteholbrook.com2.  Book: Missionary Position: A Slightly Irreverent Guide to Sex after Purity Culture - available on Amazon and her website. Don't forget to check out her book club!  Check out our Awareness-to-action Self Mastery COURSE & COMMUNITY:12 modules on attention, presence & performance. Work at your own pace plus a community built for Inspiration and connection.1.  www.focusnowtraining.com/a2a-CourseJOIN US IN PERSON — Future Events and Retreats.1.  Live in-person event: Warrior Defined. We will be in Charlotte, NC, September 25, 2026 more info HERE: Or mentalkingmindfulness.comGET MORE FROM MTM:Text MTM to 33777 — free weekly newsletter1.  Subscribe: mentalkingmindfulness.com2.  FNT: focusnowtraining.comBRING FNT TO YOUR TEAM:1.  focusnowtraining.com/contactProduced by Robert Lopez | https://www.cratesaudio.com/

There is a danger in reading passages such as this one from St. Isaac and hearing primarily a warning: Do not become negligent. Do not allow yourself to grow lax. Guard your solitude. Avoid unnecessary conversation. Do not permit the mind to become scattered. Certainly Isaac is warning us. His language is deliberately severe because he knows how fragile the beginnings of prayer can be. A heart newly awakened to God is like the tender blossom of a fruit tree. It possesses within itself the promise of fruit, but it can still be injured by a sudden frost. The mind that has begun to discover stillness can quickly become dispersed again. The heart that has tasted the sweetness of prayer can become strangely cold. But if we hear only the warning, we may miss something much more beautiful in Isaac's words. The great concern of Homily 19 is not simply that we avoid negligence. It is that we recognize what has been given to us and take hold of it. Isaac is speaking to men and women who have tasted something. They have tasted God. “If fiery thoughts arise in you,” he writes, “through the consuming flame of divine things,” and you “enjoy a taste of God,” then guard what has been given to you. That changes everything. The ascetical life is not primarily the anxious preservation of spiritual discipline. It is the response of the heart to a gift. We guard prayer because we have discovered Someone in prayer. We seek stillness because within stillness we have begun to hear the voice of the Beloved. We withdraw from unnecessary occupations not because created things are evil, but because something infinitely more precious has begun to draw the heart. This is why Isaac can speak so dramatically about the loss of fervor. “Only the man who drinks deeply of this wine, and afterward is deprived of it, only he knows to what misery he has been abandoned.” One cannot miss the language of desire here. The tragedy is not simply that the monk has broken his rule. The tragedy is that he has allowed himself to become separated from something he has tasted and loved. He knows the wine. He remembers its sweetness. And now he thirsts. This is the deeper meaning of vigilance. Negligence Is Forgetfulness Negligence in the spiritual life is rarely simply laziness. At its deepest level it is forgetfulness. The heart forgets what it desires. Isaac tells us that through excessive conversation, unnecessary occupations, sensory dispersion, and involvement in countless affairs, “the object of her desire is blotted out from her mind.” That sentence may be the key to the entire passage. The object of her desire is blotted out. The danger of distraction is not merely that it wastes time. It obscures desire. We begin to forget why we are alive. We may continue doing many good things. We may remain religious. We may fulfill responsibilities. We may even continue praying. Yet somewhere beneath all this activity, the memory of God can grow faint. And once that memory fades, lesser desires begin to fill the empty space. The Fathers understood this with extraordinary psychological depth. The heart cannot remain without desire. If it ceases to be gathered toward God, it will inevitably become scattered among countless lesser things. This is why Isaac says: “Do not multiply your occupations, and you will not find turmoil in your mind, or in your prayer.” He is not preaching inactivity. He is teaching simplicity of heart. The question becomes: What possesses my attention because it possesses my desire? Take Hold of Grace There is another danger, however, subtler than negligence. We may imagine that because everything depends upon grace, we need only wait passively for God to act. Isaac knows nothing of such passivity. When grace visits the heart, take hold of it. When prayer becomes warm, remain there. When tears come, do not hurry away from them. When desire for God awakens, feed it. When silence begins to gather the mind, protect that silence. When the Name of Jesus descends even slightly from the lips toward the heart, treasure it. Not because grace can be possessed or controlled, but because love asks for a response. There is a holy cooperation between divine grace and human freedom. God awakens the heart, and the heart turns toward Him. God gives the thirst, and we begin to drink. God lights the flame, and we cease throwing cold water upon it through negligence. This is why the Fathers can sound simultaneously so uncompromising about asceticism and so utterly dependent upon grace. There is no contradiction. Asceticism is what love looks like when freedom responds to grace. The Stronger Attraction And here we reach something even deeper. Isaac does not ultimately believe that the Christian life is sustained by fear of distraction. It is sustained by attraction. The lesser things of life pull upon us. Conversation pulls upon us. Curiosity pulls upon us. Responsibilities pull upon us. Memories, anxieties, pleasures, opinions, news, recognition, work—all of these exert a gravitational force upon the heart. But there is another gravity. Divine love. And it is stronger. The spiritual life matures when we discover that holiness is not primarily a heroic attempt to tear ourselves away from the world. It is allowing ourselves to be drawn increasingly by the beauty of God. The Psalmist does not cry: My soul has disciplined itself for Thee. He cries: “My soul thirsted for Thee.” Thirst is attraction. Desire is attraction. Love is attraction. The heart has glimpsed the Face for which it was created, and suddenly everything else begins to reveal its proper measure. This is why the saints sometimes appear almost incomprehensible to us. Their detachment can look severe from the outside. But from within, something very different is happening. They are being drawn. Christ has become more beautiful than everything they have relinquished. The Memory of the Wine Perhaps this is why God sometimes permits us to experience the loss Isaac describes. We have known moments when prayer was alive. Moments when the Name of Jesus seemed to contain everything. Moments when silence was not empty but filled with Presence. Moments when tears came without effort. Moments when we knew—not merely intellectually, but existentially—that God was near. And then the heart became cold. We became distracted. We multiplied our occupations. We returned to noise. The temptation is to despair over this. Isaac gives us another way. Remember the wine. The memory of grace itself can become a summons. Not nostalgia for a spiritual experience, but remembrance of the One who gave Himself within it. The coldness reveals the thirst. The absence reveals the desire. And the heart begins again: Where are You? Why have I wandered so far from what my soul desires? When shall I come and appear before Your face? Even our sorrow over having lost the sweetness of prayer can become prayer. “If You Will” There is something here that echoes the great saying of Abba Joseph: “If you will, you can become all flame.” Not because we manufacture the fire. The fire is God. The desire is awakened by God. The grace is given by God. The attraction originates in God. But the human will must consent to being consumed. This is the dignity and trembling mystery of our freedom. Grace comes and says: Remain. And we must choose whether to remain. Love draws and says: Come. And we must choose whether to follow. The flame rises and says: Give yourself. And we must decide whether we will continue protecting the thousand little things that keep us divided, or allow ourselves finally to belong to the One who desires the whole heart. Isaac's severity therefore conceals extraordinary tenderness. He is not telling us merely: Be careful what you lose. He is telling us: Look at what you have found. You have tasted something more precious than everything that distracts you. You have discovered the hidden wine. You have felt the beginnings of the fire. You have heard within yourself the ancient cry: “My soul thirsted for Thee, the mighty, the living God.” Do not be afraid merely of negligence. Be afraid of forgetting what your heart has discovered. And then turn again. Take hold of the grace that has taken hold of you. For beneath all our seeking is a greater seeking. Beneath our thirst is a deeper thirst. Beneath our desire for God is the immeasurably greater desire of God for us. In the end, it is not our weak attraction toward Him that will carry us home. It is the stronger pull of His love. Our task is to cease resisting it. To remain. To consent. And, if we will, to become all flame. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:03:04 Bob Čihák, AZ: P 219, paragraph 2 00:10:34 Janine: Oh great Miles is back! 00:12:04 James Hickman: I came across this today. It's from April 10, so the group might already be familiar. Professor Matthew Minerd a Ruthenian Catholic scholar offers positive reasons for following the approach of The Evergetinos and the Apophthegmata among others as great models of theology for the dialectics and holy anecdotes. https://www.athomist.com/articles/monastic-stories-casuistry 00:12:16 Alan Henderson: Which work is Myles discussing 00:12:40 James Hickman: “Monastic Stories as a Method of Ascetical Casuistry” 00:13:25 Myles Davidson: Reacted to "Oh great Miles is ba..." with ❤️ 00:13:37 Janine: Oh that looks great! Thx James 00:13:38 Myles Davidson: Replying to "Which work is Myles ..." The Brothers Karamazov 00:14:46 Bob Čihák, AZ: P 219, paragraph 2 00:29:41 James Hickman: Driving is stillness lol 00:29:45 Sr Barbara Jean Mihalchick: Matthew Kelly's new book is THE CONTENT DIET 00:30:04 Sr Barbara Jean Mihalchick: Lots of practical helps... 00:30:18 Anna: No TV in my house for over a decade 00:30:35 Jesssica Imanaka: Reacted to "No TV in my house fo..." with

Welcome to PGX: Raw & Real #207PGX: Raw & Real is simple. I sit with people who've lived through something and/or made it big.This isn't meant to be inspiration or a template for life (for that, you can check out PGX Ideas).This space is different. It's their story, as they experienced it.In this episode, I spoke to Dr. Sankalp Jain — S*xual Health Expert.Timestamps:00:00 - IntroSegment 1: Myths VS Facts01:33 - Masturbation: Myth or Fact?04:00 - Is Nightfall Really Unhealthy?06:01 - Does Penis Size Matter?10:54 - Turtling Syndrome: What Is It?13:16 - Do Women Want Less S*x?16:32 - Can Porn Improve Your S*x Life?18:46 - Do Condoms Reduce Pleasure?19:32 - Why Viagra Could Be The Next Pandemic23:08 - Do Men Really Want More S*x?24:04 - Can You Spot A Virgin?25:19 - Can Tight Underwear Cause Infertility?27:13 - Doctors' #1 S*x Myth35:16 - Why Parents Avoid S*x Talks44:23 - Where Kids Learn About S*x49:32 - Pregnancy Myths People Still Believe51:33 - Circumcision & Phimosis Explained54:47 - Paraphimosis: A Medical Emergency58:41 - The Painful Side Effect Of Circumcision01:01:35 - Premature Ejaculation vs Erectile DysfunctionSegment 2: Google's Most Searched S*x Questions01:06:34 - Google's Biggest S*x Questions01:07:02 - How Often Should Couples Have S*x?01:10:04 - Is Low Libido Normal In Your 20s?01:12:31 - Is Normal To Have No S*xual Desire?01:16:38 - Virgin At 28: Is It Normal?01:17:06 - Losing Your Erection From Nervousness01:17:32 - Not Attracted To Your Partner?01:18:08 - When Your Partner Wants More S*x01:20:00 - Never Had An Orgasm?01:21:46 - Married But S*x Life Is Terrible01:25:13 - Why Young Indians Face Fertility Issues01:28:08 - Ancient Pregnancy Wisdom We Forgot01:30:35 - Building Your Intimacy Health Team01:32:24 - The Real Meaning Of LongevityEnjoy.— Prakhar

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David Crowley wins Wisconsin Democratic governor's primary after a late push. Plus, election deniers succeed in GOP primaries in Wisconsin, Arizona, and Georgia. And ICE's expanding its reach by deputizing state and local law enforcement as immigration agents. Amanda Litman, Ruth Conniff, Rep Joaquin Castro, Julie Roginsky, Tim O'Brien all join Catherine Rampell on the 11th Hour. To listen to this show and other MS podcasts without ads, sign up for MS NOW Premium on Apple Podcasts. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How do you actually initiate sex with your partner? It sounds simple, but for many couples, making the first move can be surprisingly awkward, vulnerable and even scary. In this episode, we get into why sexual initiation can become so difficult and what you can actually do about it. We discuss the loneliness epidemic and changing dating habits, before getting into the bigger question: how do we ask for sex without making it feel like a high-stakes negotiation? Drawing on ideas from Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, we explore spontaneous and responsive desire, the "accelerators and brakes" that influence libido, and why initiating sex can start hours before you ever get into bed. We talk about: Why so many couples struggle to initiate sex How fear of rejection can make making a move feel terrifying Why sex can start with connection, safety and feeling understood Using love languages as a form of everyday intimacy and foreplay Spontaneous vs responsive desire How long-term relationships can change the way we experience sexual desire How having children can completely reshape your sex life Why asking your partner how they like to be initiated with could change everything How to communicate about sex without pressure, expectation or mind-reading And then we hit the watershed. The first half of this episode is available to everyone, but if you want to hear the more personal, intimate and unfiltered conversation - including our own stories about sexual initiation - you'll need to head over to Patreon for the full episode. So whether you've been together for ten years, you're newly dating, you're navigating parenthood, or you're simply wondering how to make the first move without dying of embarrassment… this one's for you. Follow us on Instagram: ⁠⁠@comecurious⁠⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠⁠@florencebark⁠⁠ Follow Reed ⁠⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Len Davis was a New Orleans police officer known in the Desire projects as Robocop and the Desire Terrorist. In 1994 he ordered the murder of Kim Groves, a 32-year-old mother of three who had filed a brutality complaint against him — and he's since been called the most corrupt cop in the city's history. What brought him down was Operation Shattered Shield, and at the center of it was an undercover FBI agent posing as a high-level drug dealer, known only as J.J.His name is Juan Jackson. He was one of roughly 300 Black agents in an FBI of 11,000 when he entered the Academy in 1983, trained under Joe Pistone of Donnie Brasco fame, and spent two decades undercover — as a hitman for hire in Chinatown, an arms dealer, a money launderer, and a drug kingpin in Waterbury, Connecticut. He tells us how he got Len Davis to strip to his underwear in a wired hotel room at the New Orleans Hilton, and why, testifying for two and a half weeks, he couldn't stop smiling.Subscribe to our newsletter: ⁠https://jedlipinski.substack.com/⁠ Connect with Jed Lipinski:⁠https://www.instagram.com/gonesouthpodcast/⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/gonesouthpodcast/⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/jed-lipinski/

"Creativity is all about creating desire." So what makes people truly desire a brand?This week, we're back at the Havas Café for the second of our three-part series exploring Creating Desire. This conversation focuses on one of the most powerful drivers of all: creativity.Jim is joined by:Ryan Dullea, Chief Growth Officer at ReckittJennie Weber, Former Chief Marketing Officer at Best BuyMatthew Bull, Chief Creative Advisor at AB InBevTogether, they discuss how leaders create cultures where creativity can thrive, why teams need permission to take risks, how healthy debate leads to stronger ideas, and why AI should accelerate human creativity rather than replace it. Along the way, they share lessons from building some of the world's most iconic brands and explain why the best marketing doesn't just capture attention. It creates genuine desire.Recorded live during the Cannes Lions Festival, this conversation is packed with practical leadership lessons for anyone looking to build stronger brands, stronger teams, and more creative organizations.—This week's episode is brought to you by Havas and Infillion.—Meet The CMO Podcast On the RoadThe CMO Podcast will be on the road throughout Q4 2026, capturing conversations with the leaders shaping the future of marketing, leadership, and business. If you'll be attending one of these events, we'd love to connect. Let us know!BLINK Cincinnati | October 8-9ANA Masters of Marketing | October 19–22—Interested in partnering with The CMO Podcast?!Looking ahead to the rest of 2026 and into 2027, we're partnering with brands to create executive content platforms that extend far beyond a single event. From pop-up podcast studios and live recordings to executive roundtables, keynote conversations, and bespoke thought leadership programs, we work with partners to build meaningful experiences that connect with senior marketing leaders.Whether you'd like to partner with us at one of the industry's biggest marketing events or create a custom experience designed specifically for your brand, we'd love to explore what's possible. Reach out to learn how we can build something together.Email us at podcasts@vyve.co—Produced by vYveThe CMO Podcast is proudly produced by vYve Production, a full-service production and content studio specializing in podcasts, executive storytelling, branded content, and live experiences. vYve is a community of ambitious leaders dedicated to unlocking what's next in business and in life. Through executive coaching, transformative experiences, strategic content, and communities like The CMO Podcast, vYve helps entrepreneurs, corporate leaders, and teams grow their businesses, strengthen their leadership, and build meaningful connections that last.Learn more about vYve and The CMO Podcast community at www.vyve.co.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sexual wellness isn't just about connection; it's a measurable driver of how long and how well you live. This episode reveals why intimacy and longevity are more linked than most people realize, and why so many couples never get the memo.Host Jenn Trepeck sits down with intimacy expert Susan Bratton to explore orgasmic intimacy, hormone health, and the science of pleasure and desire. Together they unpack why pleasure-based sex education for women is missing from most conversations, and how safe communication rebuilds connection at any age.What You Will Learn in This Episode:✅ Why desire and arousal are different from libido, and how each one affects your sex life differently✅ How oxytocin and skin-to-skin contact lower stress and support the immune system✅ Why bedroom communication is the foundation of a sex life that keeps improving with age✅ How GLP-1 medications are impacting libido, body image, and intimacy for many couplesThe Salad With a Side of Fries podcast, hosted by Jenn Trepeck, explores real-life wellness and weight-loss topics, debunking myths, misinformation, and flawed science surrounding nutrition and the food industry. Let's dive into real-life wellness and weight loss, including drinking, eating out, and skipping the grocery store.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 Jenn introduces the episode's focus on sexual health and its connection to longevity later in life03:58 Susan Bratton shares her personal story and path into sex education08:49 Why intimacy and desire fall off the radar as couples age18:28 The link between orgasmic intimacy and health span23:00 How blood flow drives pleasure and physical sensation26:30 The hormone cascade, including oxytocin, released during intimacy31:10 Why bedroom communication must come before technique38:06 Tools listeners can use for libido, desire and arousal42:09 Susan explains the oxytocin yogurt and its role in hormone health48:00 How GLP-1 medications are changing libido and body imageKEY TAKEAWAYS:

Sheldon Poon, Founder of Drive Marketing, helps established brands go from Wholesale to D2C through performance-driven advertising grounded in data, technology, and human expertise. He is driven to build a company that reflects his values—one where people enjoy their work, have flexibility and autonomy, and continuously learn from and teach one another. In this conversation, Sheldon introduces The A.I.D.A. Framework—Attention, Interest, Desire, and Action. He explains how businesses can eliminate friction across the customer journey, use clean data to improve AI-powered campaigns, and balance automation with human strategy. Sheldon also discusses why genuine relationships are driving B2B growth, how AI is reshaping internships and early-career development, and how Drive Marketing helps successful wholesale brands build direct customer relationships without jeopardizing their valuable retail partnerships — Go from Wholesale to D2C with Sheldon Poon  Good day, listeners. Today, I have Sheldon Poon as our guest. He’s the Founder of Drive Marketing, a Montreal-based paid ad agency specializing in performance-driven marketing with a heavy emphasis on using data to make informed strategic decisions. Founded in 2013, Drive Marketing positions themselves as a technical-first partner that bridges the gap between business goals and technical execution. So they’re not a creative agency. They are a technical agency improving your ads. Sheldon, welcome to the show.  Yeah, thanks for having me, Steve. I’m happy to be here. Yeah. Great to have you here. And my first question is, what is your personal why, and how are you manifesting it in the business? How are you contributing to human flourishing?  That’s a very big question for a small ad agency.  It is.  Yeah. So when I first started the company, I kind of, like a lot of entrepreneurs, right, it came from me kind of looking at my life and where I was in my career and kind of getting frustrated at what I was seeing with my day-to-day job. So I was in a very, very privileged position. I was able to take a bit of a sabbatical from my day job where they held my position, which was great, because if everything went downhill, I could always just jump back to my job.  And I was like, “You know what? Like, I have an opportunity here. I’ve always wanted to start a business.” But because I had been working for somebody else for almost, at that point, I think like a decade and a half, I had a lot of experience, and I saw a lot of things that I was like, “This is what I don’t want.” So when I started my company, my internal mission and vision was to build the company that I would want to work at, to build the company that is kind of true to myself and my values, and something that I would enjoy going into day to day.Share on X And then what does all that mean? So the company that I wanted to work at, as I started working and hiring people, what I found was I wanted to have flexibility in my schedule. We treat everybody on the team as an adult. Everybody’s responsible for their workload. And as long as they meet their deadlines, I don’t care when you’re clocking in, clocking out. I’m a night owl. I like working till like midnight, 1:00 a.m. I don’t like doing mornings, so I’m often coming into the office late.  A lot of my team are doing the same thing. Some of them are early risers, and they like to leave early to have their afternoon free. So as long as everybody’s more or less—everybody’s on top of their tasks and more or less working during the day so that we can have our interactions and meetings, that’s perfectly fine. Another thing I think that's core to what I wanted to build was that I've always been very passionate about learning and teaching. In another life, I was teaching high school.Share on X  And when I started building the company, one of the things that we made very clear when we’re hiring is that everybody on the team learns because they’re passionate about what we’re doing. And everybody on the team teaches. Even if you’re just an intern coming in, we need to know your perspective because you’ll have a different perspective than me, who’s been doing this for like two decades, where I’m kind of blind to maybe some of the newer stuff that’s happening or some of the stuff that’s like on the ground.  And I want to know when I talk to our interns, when I talk to our juniors, like, “Hey, guys, what are you seeing?” Like, you guys are—you guys are like 20 years younger than me in some cases. Like, I want to know what’s going on with the kids. My personal, like, kind of like personal why of this is that it’s not so much about the end goal. I want to make sure that I enjoy my day-to-day, I enjoy what we do, and I’m not going to pull my hair out going into the office. So, like, I think we built something where everybody on the team is excited to work on stuff because they’re doing the work that they would want to be working on.  They’re learning the stuff that they would want to be learning, and then they get to implement it in a way that is impactful for the company, for the client, for what we’re doing. And my challenge as a leader is to figure out, okay, how do we take that exciting stuff and make it so that it generates money for the company so that we can all continue doing this? Yeah, this is very inspirational. I love it. You’re tapping into people’s curiosity, desire. I like the learning organization idea as well. So do you have a framework for this? Because this podcast is all about frameworks.  Yes.  How can someone create something like that? What are the steps to create it?  So it’s not one framework. Like I said, I’m very passionate about a lot of different topics, and one of the things that’s a personal interest of mine is just business. So, like, looking at business case studies, and from that you start seeing what works and what doesn’t. It’s a lot of different frameworks kind of layered on top of each other for various reasons. For the practical ad side, what we do for our clients strategically, there's a framework there that we like to use called AIDA. So attention, interest, desire, action.Share on X  Very standard funnel. The idea is that the reason we like using this is because when you break down the customer journey, this process is just logical. It’s been proven time and time again. If you’re going into Marketing or Business 101, this is one of the first things that you’re going to learn about. Like, what is a funnel? A funnel is, you know, the client’s never heard of you before, and you do something to grab their attention.  Now they’ve heard of you, but that’s not enough. You have to have many touch points, and you have to build interest. So, like, once they’ve heard about you, you got to make sure that it’s a good fit and they’re interested in the pain point or the thing that you’re fixing for them in their lives. And then if you hit them up with that interest message often enough, they’ll start imagining how their life is better with your product or service, and that creates desire. And then once you continue hitting them up at desire, as long as you don’t have any friction between the desire piece and the final call to action, then you’ll get that action at the bottom.  And the thing that people talk about, like, there’s a lot of people that talk about this framework, but I don’t think they’ve studied it properly. Because when you actually look at the history of it, this framework was first introduced in 1898 in a magazine that was talking about ads. This framework arguably predates the term marketing. And when you think about how that framework looks in modern day, it’s changed a lot, right?  When you were running ads in the early 1900s, you could get away with saying whatever the heck you wanted and making whatever wild promises just to get people’s attention. The way that you did it was you maybe had, like, some sort of print or some sort of, like, literally talking to people, getting them to show up to a convention or an expo back in the day, and having those interactions with their audience.  Fast-forward over 100 years, and it looks very different how you grab attention today. Paid ads. People talk about SEO. People talk about viral content. It’s very much changed. What hasn’t changed is the framework. So what that tells us is that human behavior, right? So the framework is based on human psychology: attention, interest, desire. These are all things that are, like, within the human experience. That has not changed. What’s changed is the other end. The technology has changed, so how you implement that.  So the strategy is still the AIDA that we use, right? But our tactics are constantly changing. Now we’re looking at AI. The new thing about ads is that Google just announced that they’ve added an extra option next to PMax, which is the AI option, so that you can actually start showing up in Gemini. So now this has changed our tactics. But our strategy is still based on this human psychology. That's the framework over on kind of the front end.Share on X And then, like I said, we have a bunch of other frameworks. I don’t know how much you want me to get into it, but for hiring, for internal processes, for all sorts of things.  Yeah. No, no, no. I love it. I love the AIDA. It’s been a long time I heard about it, and I love the simplicity of it, and I think it still works. So you mentioned something that really interests me. You said that you grab the attention, interest, building the desire, and as long as there’s no friction in the desire, then you’re going to get—the call to action is going to work. So what do you mean friction, and give me some examples of what it could look like.  So when you’re talking about AIDA and you’re talking about funnels, especially when you’re talking about online, it’s all very, very quick, right? So there’s a couple of terms here. So when you’re at top of funnel, your main thing is—it’s called a funnel because at the top it’s very, very wide in terms of the audience you want to hit up, and you want to try to get out to as many people as possible. So a lot of people, when they’re thinking of marketing, they’re thinking of the top of funnel, whether they realize it or not.  Further down is you’re trying to get a more complex message across. So the practical way to think about it is at the top you’re trying to run ads that’s just very flashy and getting people to stop the scroll. So if they’re on Instagram or something, you literally want them to stop, and you want them to read a quick thing that gets them to click. Once they’ve clicked on it, they’re ending up on a landing page, and that landing page has information that hopefully connects to the audience in a meaningful way, and they’re interested in reading more.  An example of friction would be if you click on an ad that’s purple, and then you end up on a landing page that’s black and white or red. That difference in color, that difference in style creates a friction point that psychologically, it makes the person pause and go, “Wait, did I just end up on the wrong page?” So when you have, like, a very close alignment between each of those levels, it reduces the friction and increases the chances that people will go down.  So the most important friction point that people need to be aware of is, like I just talked about the top of funnel, the opposite end, the bottom of funnel, is where there's the highest intent.Share on X So you can imagine at the top of funnel, because people have never heard of you before, their intention to buy from you is probably very low or very limited because they don’t know you yet. But once you’ve done all that work to get to know them and create a relationship with the brand, you’re at the bottom of funnel, and that point is critical.  You need to make sure that by the time you’ve warmed them up and everything’s ready to go and the target person is very interested in taking that final step, that somebody else doesn’t come and grab them. For example, like, the very real-world example. If you think about some of the biggest marketing companies in the world, so let’s take McDonald’s and Burger King as examples, right? Because everybody knows those brands. If McDonald’s has taken so much effort to be on billboards and be in front of you, and you’ve seen the brand and you know it, and you’re walking down the street and you’re hungry, and then at that moment of intent, as you’re walking around downtown, you’re like, “I could go for a quick burger right now,” and you know that you’re looking for a McDonald’s, but as you’re walking, you come across a Burger King, you’re like, “Yeah, that’s close enough.”  And then you’re going to walk into the Burger King and do the transaction there. Online, what that looks like is when somebody is doing that final search. So let’s say Summit OS is selling T-shirts, and you’ve done a bunch of work and people love the brand and they’re looking for a specific type of T-shirt that you sell, but they can’t remember quite exactly what it is. They’re like, “Oh, I think it was Summit OS something T-shirt.” And then when they type that in, somebody else’s sponsored ad comes up.  Well, now they probably grabbed that traffic that you took all that time to warm up. If you end up on the landing page, when you scroll down to the bottom, okay, I want to buy this T-shirt. I’m happy with everything that I’ve seen, but now you’re asking for an email, you’re asking for, like, a bunch of things. You click on a button, it doesn’t work. Those are extra friction points that prevent a person from taking action. When you’re looking at the entire funnel, you got to make sure that from a technical standpoint, from a user experience standpoint, from a getting-in-front-of-them-in-the-right-moment standpoint, everything hits, especially in this digital economy where everything’s very, very fast.  So anything that goes wrong, anything that creates a question, anything that creates a frustration point or any opportunity for somebody else to come in and grab that traffic at that moment of intent, those are friction points that you want to address and you want to track and you want to find. And you can imagine how there’s a lot of complexity in that. There’s a lot of testing, there’s a lot of work to make sure that that doesn’t happen.  That’s fascinating. Do you have a process for how you do this, how to eliminate frictions?  Yeah. We have a team that does QA and walks through the entire thing and has to do constant testing because what we’ve seen is a lot of other agencies are using AI tools and shortcuts. And lo and behold, a lot of these tools don’t work and they give back false positives, false negatives, and it’s not as good as just taking the time to go through the funnel yourself and make sure everything’s working properly. And it sucks because it’s a lot of work, but that’s how you get the best results, is just by having someone double-check it.  And it’s not to say that we don’t use automation. Like, we use a ton of automation, we use a lot of tools. But the final QA is a lot of the time us and the client going through, like, “Okay, everybody, before we hit go, let’s just all go through this before we spend, like, you know, 10K on this and just make sure that everything’s working properly.”  Yeah. Love it. Love it. So you’re building this ad agency, a technical agency, so you focus on making the flawless experience. What drives growth in your business?  That’s a good question. That’s something that, honestly, we’re struggling with a little bit. So if anybody’s following me on social media, I’ve been doing a short series. I’m probably going to finish it off soon, but it’s called Watch Sheldon Struggle to Grow His Agency. And it’s literally how I’ve been trying to figure out how to crack lead generation for ourselves and our journey through, like, where we were maybe about a year ago to where we are today.  And we’re still trying to answer that question for ourselves in terms of, how do we get more leads and more clients in a very difficult economy, in a very difficult time? And we’re trying to figure that out. And people can look up our case studies. I think we’re quite proud of the work that we’ve been able to do, and having that technical know-how has given us a huge advantage in terms of performance numbers. And that alone, in the past, through my network, was enough to keep us busy because people would just seek me out whenever they had a problem with their technical stack or their ads.  I’d say in the last maybe 18 months or so, like a lot of other agencies, the word-of-mouth stuff has kind of dried up, where people are kind of, like, holding back their spend. We’ve had a bunch of contracts that were put on hold because of the economic situation around the world. Nobody knows what’s going on. Everybody wants to hold back spend. Everybody wants to sit and wait. So even though people are still contacting me, the flow of projects has slowed down because people are more hesitant to pull the trigger and go. It’s also taking longer for us to have these conversations. Because that organic piece kind of slowed down, we’ve been trying to find inorganic pieces.  I’ve been doing more networking. I’ve been trying to figure out building out our own funnel, which we should’ve done years ago. The thing that’s driving growth for us right now is probably the things that are not scalable, right? In the age of AI, when you’re working with a business, you want to be working with a person. Like, nobody wants a partner who’s just a machine. So doing the things that are not scalable means really doing the things that are human, having human interactions, having human conversations, going out for coffee with people, meeting people at conventions and workshops and, you know, like, literally just getting our name out there in a way that is more human and just having real conversations.  And despite all the other testing that we’ve done with the cold emails, with the ads, with this, that, and the other thing, like, that seems to be the thing that’s working the most, is just kind of putting my name out there and saying to people, like, “Hey, if you have a problem, come talk to me. We’re not necessarily going to have a contract together, but hopefully we can have a quick coffee and I can at least get you past a technical hurdle.  I can give you some insight into what you’re struggling with and give you a hand.” And that kind of goodwill has led to more conversations and more contracts and new contracts than anything else that we’ve done. For our clients, because our clients are more direct-to-consumer, so they’re usually bigger brands that are selling a quick product, quick service to the general public. They’re not B2B, they’re B2C. On that front, it’s literally what we just talked about, following the AIDA playbook, making sure the funnel’s good, making sure the ads are firing, making sure the data’s there, and then that’s how we get our crazy numbers, like 12X return on ad spend, you know, 14X return on ad spend.  That’s just following the system and doing the work. So for our clients, we have it under control for their growth. For our own growth, for the B2B side, that’s where I’m realizing that, like, we need to step away from all this AI noise, and people are trying to do these AI BDRs and all these things, and it just doesn’t work because people want to have a real human conversation.  Yeah. No, I totally see the same thing. The easier the automation, the more it just becomes noise.  Exactly. It’s democratized automation, which means that, like, it’s no longer the thing that stands out. You have to do something different.  Yeah. And people are becoming resistant, and they recognize if something is AI-created, and they just tune it out, right?  Yeah, exactly. Exactly.  Yeah. It’s fascinating. How much of your time is actually spent on networking and doing the human things as opposed to running your business?  I’m very fortunate that my team mostly runs the day-to-day at this point, so I’m spending most of my time doing all the other stuff. So, like, trying to do the networking, trying to get our name out there, and then everything else is just admin and paperwork. So in terms of actually running the day-to-day of the company, our head of operations, Brent, does a fantastic job of running the team.  Jack, our head of marketing strategy, does an amazing job of making sure the ads are firing properly. Whenever I get involved in the day-to-day, they get annoyed at me because I’m like, I’m coming in, I don’t know what’s going on, and my hair’s on fire. I’m trying to do X, Y, Z, and then I jump out and I just create chaos. So most of the time they’re telling me, like, “Yeah, listen, go out and talk to people. We don’t want you at the office. We don’t want you doing the work.”  So how fast is your product evolving?  Oh, constantly. I mean, the way that I explain it to people, right? A lot of people right now, especially running ads, right? Because that’s our core product, that’s our core service, is running ads and making sure that we maintain that competitive advantage for our clients. Because of the advent of AI, everything’s constantly changing. Already it was a very technical space because a lot of people seem to think that whether or not your ads do well, they think it’s a creative exercise, and I think it was up until about eight months ago.  But today, I would argue that it’s skewed, and it’s more of a technical exercise. Because these ad platforms are running AI algorithms, the quality of the data that you feed into it now is more important than ever. And like I said, there’s been a lot of changes in the last few months to the point where now it’s no longer about how good your content is. It’s about how good your targeting is, how good the data you’re feeding it is, how good your audience is kind of reacting to it, and then making intelligent tweaks to your content based on the feedback that you’re getting back from the AI.  So these are things that are constantly evolving. Like I said, even though the strategy doesn’t change, the tactics and the technology is a constant change. So the AI thing that I was talking about where Google just released or just opened up the option to do advertising with AI responses, that’s less than, I think, three months old. So that’s the new thing that we’re now testing with our clients to see how is this working, how is this working.  The other thing too is that the way I describe it, a lot of people now—the new thing that we just noticed within the last few months—is that people are saying, like, “Oh, I can just use an AI agent to set up my ads.” But these AI agents are based on large language models, right, the LLMs. And the way that large language models work is that they’re trying to give you a statistically accurate response, which is great for certain things, not so great for other things. So the way I tell people is that if you were to take an LLM, again, which is what most of these agents are based on, you were to graph all the possible responses for accuracy, what you would end up with is a bell curve, right?  And on the bell curve, you have on one end, you have these are all the answers that are definitely wrong. And on the other hand, these are also answers that are, like, they’re novel, but we don’t know how accurate they are. And then in the middle, at the top of the bell curve, right in the middle is the statistical most accurate response that it thinks it can give you. So it’s always going for that statistical middle with these LLMs. So when it’s setting up ads and it’s doing strategy, it’s going for what is most likely the safe result, right?  The least interesting.  It’s the least interesting.  Yeah.  Now, when you’re running ads, right, it’s a race. My background is in software and computer science, so when I’m doing coding and I’m using Claude Code, I want statistical middle. I don’t want it trying new things with my code. I don’t want it to be a bad programmer like a junior, but I don’t want it to be doing stuff that’s so advanced and novel that it’s not tested, it’s going to break. I just want the middle, right?  Engineering middle. But when we’re running ads, it’s a race. And if you’re in the middle of the pack in a race, you’ve lost. So one of our big advantages is that we’re using a lot of AI for automation. We’re using a lot of automation tools to do our day-to-day. But when we’re coming up with a strategy and building out the ads, it’s a human that’s doing that because we want to be at this far end that’s going to be ahead of everybody else. We don’t want to be middle of the pack.  So from that sense, it’s constantly changing to keep on top of these things to figure out what’s new, what’s going on. The ad platforms are changing constantly because, you know, the way that we interact with the internet is changing constantly. So, like, yeah, it’s constant, it’s a constant race.  So, but doesn’t that also bring you back to the creative part?  It does.  How to be creative, maybe not design-wise, but some other way?  It does, but in a way that I think a lot of creative agencies don’t understand. Because a creative agency will focus on the story, and they will focus on, you know, telling a good story, and they are thinking, if I can put it this way, they’re thinking very linearly. So one of the big mistakes that we see, like I talk to a lot of other agency owners, and every once in a while I help consult on the side, just to give them some advice in what they’re doing, what’s working and what’s not.  And one of the things that I see a lot is that a lot of these agencies have not understood how the new PMax campaigns and how the new Advantage+ campaigns work, so they’re working against the AI algorithm. So a lot of these other agencies, they’re more content than they are technical. So what they’re doing is they’re trying to tell a good story from the content, and then what they’re trying to do is they’re trying to find the demographic that they think will match with the content. So they’re content first, right?  So what they’re trying to do is, if they’re putting together a story for a product, they then in their heads think, “Okay. Well, I think I need to go for, you know, women living in suburbs that are between this age and this age and this income range and are interested in XYZ thing, and that’s how I’m going to set up the system, and then they’re going to see my ad, and then there should be a connection there.” That’s not how it works anymore. So in that setup, I can see how it’s super important to understand the story and get all that done.  The modern way that we’re doing things that’s different is that when we’re building out our content, we work with the content agency or we work with the marketing team to say, “What is your interest piece that’s going to get people to stop scrolling? What’s the interest piece that’s going to get people to want to read more? How do we build that desire for them? And then give me those in different assets, different pictures, different videos, different texts, different descriptions, different headers.”  What we then do is we take all of that content, and we put it into an asset library on PMax. So what we do is instead of telling PMax to look for XYZ demographic, we don’t tell it to do any of that. We let it go broad, and it does the opposite. What it does is, and of course, this is after the caveat. We’ve already set up the landing pages. We’re collecting all the data. We’ve tested all that. The data modeling is solid, so the entire funnel, all the micro actions, everything, we know that is being fed cleanly into the system, because that’s important. What the system’s then going to do is it’s going to, like, not just A/B test, but it’s going to take every combination that it can think of with all the different assets, with the videos, the text, the this and that and the other thing, and it’s going to start testing all the different combinations quickly.  And mixed in there is all the interest, attention, desire, everything. The algorithm is then going to figure out, based on all the data points that it has on us, it has, like, 57,000 data points, I think, Meta has on us. When a user has this pattern of data, they seem to resonate with this combination of assets. This pattern resonates with this combination. So bit by bit, what it does is it will start creating audiences for you that resonate with different kind of, like, asset packages. And then lo and behold, what we see is that emergent is the attention content all gets grouped together, and now we have an audience that’s ready for attention.  The interest piece, this is all the content that we had flagged for interest. Here’s our interest audience. And then the AI is basically working to figure out for you, not based on anything other than random data points and patterns, what is the audience for you? And then it’ll be able to then say, “Okay, now that we have a pattern to look for, we have, like, another 100,000 people that match this pattern and we can start advertising to them. And that’s the proper way to do it. But the thing that people are uncomfortable with is that it’s a black box. We don’t know what their demographic is. We don’t know where they live on the internet. We don’t know what their interests are. We don’t know any of that. It’s just random data points and math that has created this audience for us. And if you were to extract those people and put two or three of them next to each other, you’d go, like, “I don’t understand why these people have anything in common.”  But somewhere in the data, the data is signaling that they are going to resonate with your content. So this is what I mean. Like, the content is still important, but I think it’s skewed, like, a little bit. I’d say, like, now it’s, like, 60% data and math and 40% content, whereas before, it was much more heavy on the content side.  Very interesting. And this is how your platforms will find the lookalike audience based on your sample audience?  Exactly. Exactly.  Yeah. That’s fascinating. So other than the lead generation, what’s one thing that you’re actively trying to figure out in your business?  Other than that, we’re just having a lot of fun with all these new AI tools. I’m getting a few members of my team working with Claude. A few of us are working with ChatGPT. We’re trying to see, like, what these platforms can do, what are the things it can automate. I think one of the really cool things is now something that used to take, like, weeks to create code around, it can be done in an afternoon.  So it’s like, as soon as we identify a business problem, something that my team has to do, like, you know, three or four times a week that slows us down, now I can tell my devs, like, “Hey, guys, like, this is a business problem that we have. Can you guys just come up with a quick tool to do?” And we can build it, and we can just have it. So we’re trying to experiment more and more with how we can kind of speed up our development process.  And because we’ve been developing for so long, there’s a few things that are kind of like the—a few of the standard ways to run a development team that are now starting to be questioned because these LLMs are getting better and better at taking over some of these mundane tasks, that we’re starting to revisit what is our QA strategy when we’re actually coding. Like, what’s a more important skill set? One of the things I think that we’re trying to navigate right now is what is our hiring process for interns going forward?  So in the past, when we were looking for juniors and interns, the skills that we were looking for was like, what is your ability to figure out the answer to this question, right? Given a complex question, given a complex task, how are you going to be able to figure out how to solve this? Because of the rise of LLMs, finding the answer is no longer as important as asking the smart question. And the challenge that we’re facing right now is that asking a smart question requires critical thinking. A lot of critical thinking requires experience. The best critical thinkers have decades of experience behind them. How do you get that from an 18-year-old who’s coming from school?  They literally have no experience. That’s why they’re coming to us as interns. So we’re trying to figure out, like, okay, how do we square that? And we’re very proud of the internship work that we do. It’s a way for us to give back to the community. We work with a lot of the colleges and universities in town. Like I said, I myself came from having taught high school, and I’m very passionate about education, so I want to do good by that industry, by those students.  But we’re having a bit of a hard time because we don’t want to necessarily disadvantage them, but we’re also trying to figure out how do you find a good critical thinker among kids with no experience. So that’s probably the thing that we’re trying to figure out right now.  Yeah. That is fascinating. And that is a big issue for young people coming up, how to get those internships. Internships are harder to get, and probably this is the main reason for it, because people use technology to replace the inexperienced people.  The bar has definitely gone much higher. And again, we’ve experienced this as well, where, like, we’ll have a task, and we can ask an intern to do it, and they’ll kind of, you know, grudgingly figure it out and do it. But if it’s a critical task that needs to be done, that same exact task can be handed off to an LLM, and it’ll just get it done. Yeah. It won’t be amazing quality the way that, you know, a senior developer will do it, but it’ll be good enough, and it’ll be probably better than what the intern can do.  So if you’re only looking at the task from a purely productive lens, well, I’ll get a better result from the LLM, so then the intern has no purpose. We’re having to reshape the way we think about this, where if we are truly building an internship program, at that point, it’s not about the productivity, it’s about the learning that the intern gets out of it. So it becomes a teaching thing. So we have to be okay with handing off this task to the intern, knowing that an LLM could probably do a better job.  But they need to learn how to do it first so that they can rise above it. And I think what we’re seeing right now is that companies are not mandated to teach. They don’t care about the learning of the intern. They care about the production of the thing. And in the past, it was cheaper to get the intern to do it because there was no other option. But I think companies are realizing, like, well, we can just have the LLM do it, and it’ll be better and faster. Why do we need the interns? And that’s why these opening early positions are not being handed out anymore. The problem with that is that you don’t get senior-level people without training them up as juniors, and we’re giving all of that learning opportunity to machines.  Yeah.  So what does our future look like with that gap? What does the future look like for these kids coming out of school? Like, these are all obviously much bigger questions than my company can ever answer. This is a bigger societal question, but this is what we’re seeing kind of on the front lines, having a very strong internship program. We’re struggling with this idea, like, where is this next generation coming from?  That’s scary. That’s very scary. So who are the ideal clients that, if they listen to this podcast, you want them to contact you? Yeah. So basically, our biggest successes are with brands that are very strong on the wholesale side and are already in retail stores. So a lot of times what happens is you have a company that does an amazing product. They’re already in Walmart, they’re already in Costco, they’re already at Winners, and they have built up a very successful wholesale B2B business. They then launch a Shopify store, and they want to start getting the brands and start building a relationship directly with their consumers.  And then they’re realizing, like, “Oh, this is a different game, and we’re struggling.” And then at that point, it’s easy for us to come in and help because they have a strong offering already. They have a wholesale side that can drive their growth. And our job is to make sure that we start help building out that direct-to-consumer side by making sure that all of the data is mapped out properly. We like working with companies like that because they already have a very good idea of their marketing, why their product is successful.  They know which products are successful and not, so we can skip a lot of the learning part, and we’re just putting a megaphone on their existing brand and their existing offering in the most efficient way possible to make sure that, you know, right away out of the gate, that their D2C business is going to be just as strong as their wholesale business.  Yeah. Oh, that’s fascinating. So essentially, you pick those companies that have a good product already because it’s tested in wholesale channels and the Costcos and Walmarts and the Amazons of the world, and you help them tap directly the consumers through very targeted advertising.  Exactly, exactly. And then once we have that basic foundation set up, then we start doing interesting things like, how do we get the newsletters out? How do we help them get their marketing team to have more of a direct relationship with their end customer? Because when you go to a Costco or you go to a Walmart and you pick up a product, what happens is that the retailer holds the relationship, right?  It’s a way to help them offset that. And it’s kind of a tightrope that we have to walk because we recognize that the relationship with the wholesaler is still key. So whatever we do, we have to be conscious that we’re not going to upset that balance.  Yeah.  And that everybody’s winning, everybody’s making money, everybody’s growing, nobody’s getting upset with one side or the other. So because we’ve had experience working with national brands, we are positioned to understand what that relationship looks like. We know from our client side what it’s like when they’re talking to the Costco rep, what it’s like when they’re talking to the Walmart rep, what those subtle differences are in culture, and what we need to be aware of because, you know, we want to make sure that nothing that we do on our side jeopardizes that relationship.  Yeah. And then the big companies—what they want is they want to commoditize you, and they want to control the relationship, the brand. They want their white-label brand on top of your product. Yeah.  Which is their right. I mean, they’re the retailers. They’re the big guys.  Yeah. If you don’t build your own brand, then you’re going to slip into the white label because you have no leverage over the big, big stores. But if you have a strong brand, you have leverage, and then the whole relationship works better. So it’s very interesting. Okay.  So if people would like to learn about how they can do that, how they can go from wholesale to D2C, and would like to learn about how you can help them, where should they go and how can they contact you?  Yeah, so there’s a lot of information on our website, so drivemarketing.ca, so the Canadian extension. Yeah. And then I think I’m the only Sheldon Poon that’s really active on LinkedIn. I think there’s one other one that’s maybe in Hong Kong somewhere, but that’s not me. He’s, I think, an older guy. So if people look me up on LinkedIn under Sheldon Poon and just message me, I’m pretty active there and I try to answer everybody.  And what I love is helping people out. Even if people have no intention of hiring us, I’m like, “That’s totally fine.” Send me your questions because I like to be able to help and answer and know what people are struggling with because it helps our work. It just gives me an opportunity to have conversations with people.  Awesome. So if you run a brand that has already cracked the wholesale channels, but you want to build your direct-to-consumer, you know, hit up Sheldon on LinkedIn, Sheldon Poon, and have a chat with him. As you can see, he’s a great person to chat with. And if you enjoyed this show, then stay tuned because every week we have a couple of entrepreneurs who are building great companies who come and share their frameworks with you. So Sheldon, thanks for coming and sharing your wisdom, and thanks for listening.  Yeah. Thank you. This was great. It was my pleasure. Thank you so much for having me on.  Important Links: Sheldon's LinkedIn Sheldon's  website

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Richard is the co-founder of ⁠1of10⁠, a research platform built by YouTube strategists, and his team has quietly been behind the scenes for some of the biggest channels on the platform—helping creators accumulate over 2 billion views through a repeatable, data-backed system. In this episode, Richard walks through his complete four-phase ideation system—audience identification, outlier research (using five distinct methods), idea remixing, and validation—and backs every step with real examples. We talk about what happens when the wrong audience floods your channel, why creators should double and triple down on formats that work, and how a single title change took one creator's video from 10,000 views to 150,000. He also shares data from 300,000+ YouTube outliers on the ideal title length (hint: shorter than you think) and where the sweet spots are for video duration across different niches. ⁠Save 20% on 1of10 using code JAY20⁠ ⁠Schedule a 1of10 Strategy Call⁠ ⁠Full transcript and show notes⁠ *** TIMESTAMPS (01:12) Where 80-85% of YouTube success comes from (01:50) Phase 1: Audience (03:19) When should you start a fresh channel instead of pivoting? (04:09) The danger of going viral with the wrong audience (05:40) Phase 2: Research (07:37) Format vs. Interest Topic (08:00) Method 1: Inside your own channel (10:52) Tripling and quadrupling down (12:33) Method 2: Inside your niche (13:45) Method 3: Adjacent niches (16:00) Method 4: Outside your niche (17:37) The "Japanese Rule" format (20:56) Method 5: External inspiration (22:07) Phase 3: Remixing (23:00) Escalation, inversion, and interest topic replacement (24:10) Viral vectors: concepts that work across all niches (25:28) Phase 4: Validation (27:00) Optimal video duration by niche (30:45) Why long videos are making a comeback (31:39) Total Addressable Viewership (34:36) Titles: Fear, Curiosity, and Desire as the three core drivers (37:17) Data: Title Length (37:51) Three methods for generating title angles (42:11) Thumbnails: Composition and Elements (45:11) It's never too late: title/thumbnail changes (46:10) Live demo: 1of10 thumbnail generator (48:10) The full 1of10 workflow *** RECOMMENDED NEXT EPISODE → ⁠#282: David Altizer — How to Make Great Thumbnails (For Non-Designers)⁠ *** ASK CREATOR SCIENCE ⁠Submit your question here⁠ *** WHEN YOU'RE READY

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Read OnlineDivine LogicThe disciples approached Jesus and said, “Who is the greatest in the Kingdom of heaven?” He called a child over, placed it in their midst, and said, “Amen, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will not enter the Kingdom of heaven. Whoever becomes humble like this child is the greatest in the Kingdom of heaven. And whoever receives one child such as this in my name receives me.” Matthew 18:1–5Divine logic upends worldly assumptions and reveals the gentle majesty of God's ways, as today's Gospel makes clear. Worldly wisdom and ambitions of greatness must give way to the Heavenly greatness that God wants to bestow.The disciples were not immune to ambition. Their question—“Who is the greatest in the Kingdom of heaven?”—reveals that they were still thinking in worldly terms, imagining a hierarchy of honor and status. Though their question was flawed, Jesus does not rebuke them harshly. Instead, He teaches with a gesture: He calls a child and places the child in their midst.This visual lesson would have been startling. In the cultural context of the time, children were not considered important. They had no legal status, no authority, and little societal recognition. Due to high child mortality rates, a child often was not regarded with full dignity until reaching a more mature age—typically around twelve. For that reason, no adults would have desired to “become like children” again.Jesus, of course, was not saying that His disciples needed to return to immaturity. Rather, they needed to “turn and become like children.” The word translated as “turn” in this passage implies a complete change of direction—a conversion of heart and mind. This transformation is one of humility, dependence, trust, and simplicity. A child does not pretend to be self-sufficient. A child receives, learns, trusts, and loves freely. The proud cannot enter the Kingdom because pride isolates the soul from grace, whereas humility opens it to divine life.Jesus then uses the disciples' struggle with a desire for greatness to further invite them to hear and respond to what He said: “Whoever becomes humble like this child is the greatest in the Kingdom of heaven.” Perhaps the disciples did not yet understand what heavenly greatness looked like or what it meant to become humble like the child Jesus embraced, but, nonetheless, they desired greatness. By feeding that desire—albeit a misguided one—Jesus sparks within them the motivation to listen and to follow what He taught. Suddenly, humility would have become compelling to them—something to ponder, inquire about, and desire.Similarly, each of us has many ambitions—some good, some bad, and some neutral. Since Jesus speaks of becoming “the greatest in the Kingdom of heaven,” we should not hesitate to plant that desire in our hearts. Many of the greatest saints and mystics have taught that Heaven is hierarchical, meaning that the saints and angels experience varying degrees of closeness to God. Though every saint and angel beholds the Beatific Vision and enjoys perfect happiness forever, those who achieved the greatest degree of humility in this life are drawn deeper into the mystery of God's essence, experiencing greater clarity of knowledge and greater intensity of love. This is why Jesus taught in His Sermon on the Mount to “store up treasures in heaven” (cf. Matthew 6:19–21). That treasure is attained first and foremost through humility—by turning from pride and sin, and becoming little, dependent, trusting, and simple.Reflect today on the deepest ambitions of your heart. Do you desire greatness in the eyes of God? If so, embrace the paradox of divine logic. The path to the heights of heavenly glory is found in the lowliness of humility. Desire greatness on God's terms, not the world's. Be small, and God will lift you up.Lord of all greatness, Your glory, power, and holiness are beyond anything we could ever fathom, yet You invite us to share in Your divine life. Fill my heart, I pray, with a desire for greatness, not as the world sees it, but as You define it. Make me great in Your eyes by helping me become humble like a child: dependent, trusting, little, and simple. Teach me to love You and others freely and without condition, so that my love may store up an abundance of treasure in Heaven. Jesus, I trust in You.  Image: Jesus among the children in the church, by Virginio MontiSource: Free RSS feed from catholic-daily-reflections.com — Copyright © 2026 My Catholic Life! Inc. All rights reserved. This content is provided solely for personal, non-commercial use. Redistribution, republication, or commercial use — including use within apps with advertising — is strictly prohibited without written permission.

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