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Have you ever thought to yourself, “I wish there was a movie that did nothing but stroke it's own ego”. If the answer is “What? No” Then boy do I have a movie for you. Join the boys as they delve into another passion project everyone forgot.

In the 56th episode of The Main Street Electrical Podcast, Jenn & Dave open up the show discussing a few Disney books, then decide to bring in the author of said books, Aaron H Goldberg! Dave, Jenn, and Aaron talk a little news, including NSync & BSB, open playgrounds and dining, a Skyliner fender bender, and two great rants from Dave and Jenn concerning the debacle that is the Boo Bash release. Plus, will Free Dining return? (hint: No) Then, they talk to Aaron about his Disney themed books, including the crazy stories featuring Magnum PI, Figment, Mickey & Minnie getting married, and more Amish talk. 

what up yall?!?unless you've been hiding under a rock , you've probably seen the 3 legends in the entertainment industry who passed away?.. NO?? Then check out this episode of HWR !we'll talk new music on our underground spotlight tooSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com/fdux704)

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[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV as he discusses: The Life of Combat - What comes out of you, what reactions come out of you, what you do, what you've done, the whole gamut.    *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.* To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TVhttps://sgtwardawgtv.com/https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160 **LINKS TO CHECK OUT**GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW!http://bit.ly/DVR-Store---------- DV Radio On Patreonhttp://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk----------The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to:https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out!----------Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At:http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee---------- WE'RE HIRINGhttp://bit.ly/2HaXNhU ----------DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATEShttps://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors----------ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONALhttps://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV as he discusses War Anger Management and Domestic Violence.   *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.* To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TVhttps://sgtwardawgtv.com/https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160 **LINKS TO CHECK OUT**GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW!http://bit.ly/DVR-Store---------- DV Radio On Patreonhttp://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk----------The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to:https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out!----------Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At:http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee---------- WE'RE HIRINGhttp://bit.ly/2HaXNhU ----------DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATEShttps://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors----------ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONALhttps://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV as he discusses War Anger Management.     *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV as he bares his soul about his downhill struggle with PTSD after 3 tours in Iraq.    *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV as he completes his tale of the 3rd tour in Iraq, and opens up about his initial problems with PTSD.    *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV and listen to his completion tale of his 2nd tour in Iraq, plus a night boat op with Marine Snipers.  *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

We continue to offer solutions to the challenges MedTech professionals face in the Covid era.  One of the biggest is the changes in how we communicate.  Those that can communicate their value proposition most effectively have the best chance of surviving and winning in the long term. Virtual presentations are key and you must know how to best use the tools at hand.  Today, we talk to David Paradi of ThinkOutsidetheslide.com.  He has been a guest on the podcast before.  However, this is also a video cast so you can go to the Medical Device Success YouTube channel to see exactly how to implement today’s techniques. Are you using PowerPoint’s Sections,  Zoom and Morph features?  Do you know how to turn your cell phone into a webcam? No? Then you need to tune in.  Want to be the first to experience these subject matter experts and ask them questions?  Join over 50 members of the MedTech Leaders Community (from 15 countries).  Take advantage of the 30-day free trial.  You can cancel your membership in about 3 clicks. The theme of the community for the next several weeks is Going Virtual.  I have at least 3 more subject matter experts scheduled.  After Going Virtual, the next theme will be The Future of MedTech.  Now Go Win Your Week! Link to the MedTech Leaders Community - medtechleaders.mn.co Link to the Video Cast - https://youtu.be/08RoD8oHNtU Dave Paradi’s LinkedIn Profile link Dave Paradi’s Think Outside the Slide Website link Ted Newill’s LinkedIn Profile link Medical Device Success website link Link to Ted’s contact page   The PowerPoint Zoom menu feature: https://support.office.com/en-us/article/use-zoom-for-powerpoint-to-bring-your-presentation-to-life-9d6c58cd-2125-4d29-86b1-0097c7dc47d7) A decent YouTube on using the Zoom feature is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dGqHSvs9qpE The PowerPoint Morph feature: https://support.office.com/en-us/article/use-the-morph-transition-in-powerpoint-8dd1c7b2-b935-44f5-a74c-741d8d9244ea

[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV and listen to his exclusive interview with former U.S. Marine Rifleman 0311, Cpl Antonio Styles of Macon, GA. Cpl Styles served 3 tours in Iraq and 1-tour in Afghanistan as a USMC Infantry Grunt.   *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

Want to know how to take your image to the next level in business or your personal style?  How-to create your personal style: https://www.fashiontranslated.com/how-to-create-your-personal-style How-to style your body shape: https://www.fashiontranslated.com/how-to-find-and-dress-your-body-type Fabrics Fabrics play a bit role in up levelling your image. Ideally, you want to select fabrics that are not only a higher quality, but also compliment your body-shape. For example, draping, flowing fabrics works really well on women with curve. Why? The fabric cascades down the body really nicely. They follow the lines of the body and don’t compete. I show examples of this in my body-type course. But, choosing a higher grade fabric also elevates your energy. There’s a metaphysical aspect to it. This is why I love elevated or designer brands – the quality is better. This is a massive one. When you get something that fits your body well, you look more expensive. Period. End of story. Why? Cuz it looks like you’re wearing something custom for your body. When something fits you just right – you really stand out. I tell women, if you aren’t willing to alter a piece to make it fit you just right – WHY are you buying it? You’re wasting your money. I don’t care if it’s a thrift find or was $2. Is something a score at $2 because the quality is amazing? No? Then why are you buying it? Sometimes, a $2 shirt looks like a $2 shirt…and if the fit is off on-top of that….yikes. Celebs on the red carpet look SO good, including the guys because things are custom done for them. Not that something needs to be expensive, but when the fit is really nailed, you look like a million dollars. Fit is also important cuz it makes your body-image and self talk flip to the positive. Ever wear something that fits you exactly the way you want? You strut. Smile. Feel confident. It’s worth it. You need wardrobe basics in timeless cuts to elevate your look. Rather than the basic white tee you hear, I think it’s good to focus on business casual basics. Here me out; These hero's integrated into your closet, when mixed with dressy or casual items, really take things to the next level: trousers, wide-leg pants, blouses, blazer, heels, good bag, etc. Do it in a shot of colour to make it pop? Even better. Don't have grubby footwear. One way I’ve made myself more mindful of this is to invest in my shoes. Not only does it make me feel a little special to wear an investment shoe, but because I”ve spend more money on it, I take better care of it.  Welcome to Rise Through Style; a podcast for women stepping into their next-level selves by styling their lives, businesses, bodies, and closets. I’m Christie Ressel, image consultant, CEO, and media style expert. I help women embrace their bodies, take ownership of their desires, and create an authentic style that represents who they are.  I’m here to provide you with guidance and inspiration to help you rise to your highest and best through style. Join me on Instagram @ChristieRessel, YouTube, or Facebook. 

[NOTE: Check links under description!]   Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV and hear about his Second Tour of Iraq.  *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!]   Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV and hear the conclusion to his first tour of Iraq.  *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/therapy-for-veterans and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!]   Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV and hear the summary of SgtWarDawgTV's first push into Baghdad, Iraq right now   Hike down the WarDawg Trail right now on DV Radio with the Sarge himself. *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/longterm-rehab-for-homeless-vets-needs-your-help and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

Expertise pays; polymathy pays exponentially. Build a world-class skillset that will make you unique and irreplaceable.  Polymath: a person of wide knowledge and learning. The art of becoming a polymath is really about maximizing your opportunities in life. Don’t be the person with the hammer - be the person with an entire woodshop at their disposal.  Learn to think outside the box and adopt a flexible mindset. Become multi-faceted.   Get the audiobook on Audible (https://adbl.co/3heOmgz) Visit or subscribe to the Voice over Work podcast on Captivate.fm at https://bit.ly/VoiceOverWork-home (https://bit.ly/VoiceOverWork-home) Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/VoiceOverWork-shownotes (https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotes) For narration information, contact Russell Newton at https://bit.ly/VoW-home For production information, visit Newton Media Group LLC at https://bit.ly/newtonmg (https://bit.ly/newtonmg) Polymath shows you how to be a singular entity, like Benjamin Franklin, Leonardo da Vinci, and Thomas Young. No, you won’t achieve what they achieved, but you will understand the skills, habits, and techniques to master multiple realms of knowledge and skills.  Almost every famous genius you know is a polymath. This book will trace their journeys and change the way you look at learning. Jack of all trades, master of none? No such thing.  A complete learning framework, from novice to expert, in any skill or discipline.  Peter Hollins has studied psychology and peak human performance for over a dozen years and is a best-selling author. He has worked with a multitude of individuals to unlock their potential and path towards success. His writing draws on his academic, coaching, and research experience.  Become a modern day Renaissance man/woman; broaden your horizons.   Learn why you should become a pi-shaped polymath.  The primary traits you need to foster genius  A 10-step process of learning a new topic or skill from A to Z  How to choose and select your unique set of skills How to create your “second brain” on paper Examples from every era of mankind Learn new perspectives, understand people better, and gain confidence to break your comfort zone.  Polymathy is the most important skill for your career, hands down. It makes you one-of-a-kind. Become the most unique person you know. Create new routines and habits. Upgrade your life circumstances and see how mentally tough flexible thinking makes you.  It boils down to this one question: are you content with your life circumstances? No? Then embrace the polymath mindset.  Start your journey to polymathy and being irreplaceable by scrolling up and clicking the "Buy Now" button!  ©2020 Peter Hollins (P)2020 Peter Hollins

It's chaos at The Carriage House! Ronna's driveway is being repaved, (Bryan) can't stand the noise, Jürgen and the Lobsterman might come to full on fisticuffs, and Ronna is livid about not having a blue checkmark on Instagram...and where's a Googler when you need one? Luckily, with the help of Kris Kristofferson fantasies and the oil rig sex appeal of Stellan Skarsgård, we're able to pull ourselves together before we welcome a pair of absolutely delightful guests, from the podcast COUPLE'S THERAPY, Andy Beckerman and Naomi Ekperigin! They help us give advice on a range of prickly problems, including whether or not to stay in a relationship that needs some va-va-va voom, what happens when you find out your son is in an open marriage, and dealing with a needy dog during family mealtime. It's been a long year, we know, and we think it's time for a little midsummer celebration. Do you have any plans next Tuesday August 4th? No? Then let's have a kiki...a COVID Kiki in The Carriage House! Ronna (& Bryan) want to share the details and finer points of their social distancing, and they want to hear from you! How are you getting through quarantine? Food? Drinks? Recipes? Music? Activities? Online buys? Let us know what's giving you that extra boost. Send us mail at askronna@gmail.com or post and tag us on social media, and we'll share all our ideas at the kiki. Will there be special guests? Probably! Will there be gifts and giveaways? Of course! Don't miss it! Please help Ronna get the blue checkmark she deserves. Be sure to follow @askronna on Instagram, if you haven't already, and tell your friends!

Expertise pays; polymathy pays exponentially. Build a world-class skillset that will make you unique and irreplaceable.  Polymath: a person of wide knowledge and learning. The art of becoming a polymath is really about maximizing your opportunities in life. Don’t be the person with the hammer - be the person with an entire woodshop at their disposal.  Learn to think outside the box and adopt a flexible mindset. Become multi-faceted.   Get the audiobook on Audible (https://adbl.co/3heOmgz) Visit or subscribe to the Voice over Work podcast on Captivate.fm at https://bit.ly/VoiceOverWork-home (https://bit.ly/VoiceOverWork-home) Show notes and/or episode transcripts are available at https://bit.ly/VoiceOverWork-shownotes (https://bit.ly/social-skills-shownotes) For narration information, contact Russell Newton at https://bit.ly/VoW-home For production information, visit Newton Media Group LLC at https://bit.ly/newtonmg (https://bit.ly/newtonmg) Polymath shows you how to be a singular entity, like Benjamin Franklin, Leonardo da Vinci, and Thomas Young. No, you won’t achieve what they achieved, but you will understand the skills, habits, and techniques to master multiple realms of knowledge and skills.  Almost every famous genius you know is a polymath. This book will trace their journeys and change the way you look at learning. Jack of all trades, master of none? No such thing.  A complete learning framework, from novice to expert, in any skill or discipline.  Peter Hollins has studied psychology and peak human performance for over a dozen years and is a best-selling author. He has worked with a multitude of individuals to unlock their potential and path towards success. His writing draws on his academic, coaching, and research experience.  Become a modern day Renaissance man/woman; broaden your horizons.   Learn why you should become a pi-shaped polymath.  The primary traits you need to foster genius  A 10-step process of learning a new topic or skill from A to Z  How to choose and select your unique set of skills How to create your “second brain” on paper Examples from every era of mankind Learn new perspectives, understand people better, and gain confidence to break your comfort zone.  Polymathy is the most important skill for your career, hands down. It makes you one-of-a-kind. Become the most unique person you know. Create new routines and habits. Upgrade your life circumstances and see how mentally tough flexible thinking makes you.  It boils down to this one question: are you content with your life circumstances? No? Then embrace the polymath mindset.  Start your journey to polymathy and being irreplaceable by scrolling up and clicking the "Buy Now" button!  ©2020 Peter Hollins (P)2020 Peter Hollins

[NOTE: Check links under description!]   Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV as Sarge discusses Post-War Depression. There are some hard, hitting topics but it needs to heard by those that do not fully understand!   Hike down the WarDawg Trail right now on DV Radio with the Sarge himself. *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160   **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/longterm-rehab-for-homeless-vets-needs-your-help and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

[NOTE: Check links under description!] Have you been on a hike lately? No? Then hike down The WarDawg Trail with SgtWarDawgTV as he has a fairly laid back episode and has a few songs, from the Sergeant's Playlist, for you to listen to! These young, upcoming artists have a bit more than talent and you get to hear them, here, while going down The WarDawg Trail on DV Radio!   Hike down the WarDawg Trail right now on DV Radio with the Sarge himself. *Got an idea for DV Radio or want to be a guest? Then please feel free to contact us at any of their social media or info@sgtwardawgtv.com.*   To help support and find out more about SGT WarDawg TV https://sgtwardawgtv.com/ https://www.facebook.com/545456839191160 **LINKS TO CHECK OUT** GRAB YOUR DV RADIO MERCH NOW! http://bit.ly/DVR-Store ----------  DV Radio On Patreon http://bit.ly/2Ji9uFk ---------- The GoFundMe to help the DV Farm raise funds for very important maintenance and other various things, go to: https://www.gofundme.com/f/longterm-rehab-for-homeless-vets-needs-your-help and help us out! ---------- Grab DV Radio's Battlegrounds From Ubora Coffee At: http://bit.ly/DVR-BattlegroundCoffee ----------  WE'RE HIRING http://bit.ly/2HaXNhU  ---------- Grab the Official Sponsor WTForecast App! Google App Store http://bit.ly/2N41YjB Apple App Store https://apple.co/2LNOGTI  ---------- DV RADIO PARTNERS, SPONSORS, and AFFILIATES https://hypel.ink/DVR-Family-Sponsors ---------- ALL THINGS DYSFUNCTIONAL https://hypel.ink/WhereIsDV

Are you staying inside for the next 18 months? No? Then listen to this podcast. Carl is the creator of the 7 Stage Growth method, which has propelled over 75,000 companies worldwide. In this micro-podcast Gould shares actionable, practical tips to grow your business. You're too busy to be reading this, start listening! Read full transcript: Hi Everyone, Carl Gould here your #70secondCEO, just over a minute of investment per day for a lifetime of results. I'm not suggesting for a second that you disregard risk. I'm saying the opposite I'm saying you look at the risk for what it is, balance it and say how can we operate within this risk environment? Because the risk environment is not going away. If you think you're going to wait till the risk is over your out of business. Plain and simple. All right. So what if there's any little software that still has that either or part in it from your leadership software from years back where I was always told, you know, he who hesitates is lost or whatever. We need to debug that last little bit. There is no way around the fact that we are walking outside into a risk environment. You can't avoid it. If you can stay inside for the next year and a half. God bless you well done, go for it. All right, but if you can't last 18 months, we've got to go outside and we have to go outside as soon as possible. Like and follow this podcast so you can learn more. My name is Carl Gould and this has been your #70secondCEO.

Join us for Easter Sunday. Let's celebrate the risen Lord together!The Seven Next Words of Jesus after he rose from the tomb:1. “Who are you looking for?” (John 20:15)If you take seriously that Jesus has conquered death for all who follow him, how might that make a difference in who or what you are looking for in life?2. “Greetings… Don’t be afraid” (Matthew 28:9-10)How is Jesus’ word of reassurance helping us where we might be afraid today? 3. “What are you discussing with each other while you walk along?” (Luke 24:17)Is there sadness you too could describe to Jesus as he invites you to share your heart… as he invites us to know that he listens? 4. “Peace be with you” (Luke 24:36; John 20:19)Jesus talked about peace a lot. Peace on earth as in “the things that make for peace”… Peace of heart and mind as in “Peace be with you”… After seeing Jesus die on the cross, perhaps as much as anything, what was not filling the hearts and minds of the disciples was in fact, PEACE. Remember John 14:27… not long before Jesus’ arrest…Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid.The message that Jesus is risen from the grave is meant to change everything. And if we embrace that good news, it truly does.Where are you in need of the peace of God through Jesus Christ? 5. “Go into the world” “As the Father has sent me, so I send you” (Matthew 28:18-20; Mark 16:15-18; Luke 24:45-49; John 20:21)“Preach the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words.” attributed to St. Francis of Assisi.How might God be calling you right now to go into the world at your place of work or your neighborhood… to be sent by Jesus to share the good news by word and action? 6. “Have you caught any fish? (John 21:5) ...No? Then cast your nets on the other side of your boat.Where are our lives RIGHT NOW teaching us or showing us that there are things which haven’t been working for a long time and that we can do something different?7. “Wait for the gift” (Acts 1:4)This word refers to the gift of God’s presence through the Holy Spirit to comfort and guide and teach and empower us. Jesus’ seventh word after he arose tells us to: “Wait for what God will do… wait for the gift that is to come.”What are you waiting for God to do in you? Are you open to living a life more focused on God as you wait for God’s gift?

Have you ever thrown your hands up in the air and just shouted “YOU’RE TEARING ME APART LISA!” No? Then fear not, because Tommy Wiseau has you covered, and also has a whole host of other bizarre and hilarious things covered in his directorial debut (really his only film) The Room. Made in 2003 for a staggering 6 million dollars, The Room has cultivated such a cult following, that it still plays in cinemas to this very day. It makes you wonder, how many other films can claim that? Only a handful of classics. But it also makes you wonder, how many other films can claim to ask about your sex life? Well…there’s only one. The Room holds the award for the best/worst film of all time, intended to be a dramatic story, that ended up being a full on accidental comedy. Crew members have even tried it come forward and claim they directed it. But once you watch The Room, you understand there really is only one person who could have made such a film… We also have our SOTW, Don’t Sell The Tiger, directed by Ben Wylson and written and produced by Joanne Oatts and Mark Winter. This ones a good one, so get your Vimeo fingertips going. We also hope everyone is doing well during this troubling time, and that you’re all safe. Hopefully this episode (and all other quarantined eps) will distract you from the everyday quarantine life. Luckily, we’ve found a way of still being able to podcast, because films still need to be talked about! (And are probably being watched now more than ever, at home, not in the cinema, but thats another thing,,,) Enjoy!

On this special episode we hear from Tricia and Andrew from Chick with a Stick as they are stuck at home during he coronavirus crisis. We talk our experiences. We also discuss the dumbest stuff people are doing during tis time. Did you ever think of spraying cow poop and pee around your house for corona protection? NO? Then are you really protected???

This Q and A topic is all about communication in marriage. Which we mention often in almost every episode because it is such a vital component of marriage. You have to talk to each other! We answer several questions that were submitted by our listeners. Please enjoy. Read Transcript[Aaron] Hey, we're Aaron and Jennifer Smith with Marriage After God. [Jennifer] Helping you cultivate an extraordinary marriage. [Aaron] And today we're gonna answer your questions about communication in marriage. Welcome to the Marriage After God podcast, where we believe that marriage was meant for more than just happily ever after. [Jennifer] I'm Jennifer, also known as Unveiled Wife. [Aaron] And I'm Aaron, also known as Husband Revolution. [Jennifer] We have been married for over a decade. [Aaron] And so far we have four young children. [Jennifer] We have been doing marriage ministry online for over seven years through blogging and social media. [Aaron] With the desire to inspire couples to keep God at the center of their marriage, encouraging them to walk in faith every day. [Jennifer] We believe the Christian marriage should be an extraordinary one, full of life. [Aaron] Love. [Jennifer] And power. [Aaron] That can only be found by chasing after God. [Jennifer] Together. [Aaron] Thank you for joining us in this journey as we chase boldly after God's will for our life together. [Jennifer] This is Marriage After God. [Aaron] Hey everyone, welcome back to another episode of Marriage After God. It's actually the last episode of season three. So if you've been following along, we're gonna be taking a break, we're about to have a baby. If you've been listening to the last few episodes, you know that. And so, we're gonna have a little break. And then we're gonna come back in another season, in season four. We don't have a date for that yet, which is fine. [Jennifer] We'll let you guys know on social media. [Aaron] Yeah. And then, we'll do some new episodes. And so, just as a side note, if you have topic ideas for the new season, go ahead and shoot those in a message to us on Instagram at @marriageaftergod. But, today we're gonna be answering some questions from the audience, but before we get to the questions we like to talk about some things in life, but really, this first thing I wanna talk about is, I wanna encourage everyone listening today, because I know that there's a lot of fears, there's a lot of anxiety going around with the coronavirus, with things that are happening in the world, and I think some of them are legitimate things to be thinking about and considering. We wanna be wise people, that's what the Bible talks about. We don't wanna just pretend that none of this stuff's gonna affect us. But, my encouragement is to remind everyone listening that our trust is not in this world. Our trust is not in the vaccine that they might come out with. Our trust is not in the government. Our trust is not in the healthcare system. Our trust is not even our bodies. [Jennifer] Or money. [Aaron] Or money. The Bible is very clear where are trust lies, and that when we trust in anything other than God, other than His son Jesus, that trust is faulty, that hope is false, and we're actually insecure in those hopes. So I just wanted to point our hearts and our minds back to the Giver of Life. To the One that we look forward to, the One where our hope should lie, which is in Jesus Christ. Guys, one day we're gonna be with Him forever, and we're gonna have new bodies, we're gonna be healthy, He's gonna make the world right. All these things that are in the world, the destruction, the death, the injustices, the sickness, the pestilence, all those things are going to be made right. And so, once this thing passes, and whatever the damage is going to be, we don't know. But there's always gonna be something else. That's why our eyes need to be on Christ. And so I just hope that if you're having anxieties about this, the Bible tells us how to deal with our anxieties, it's to lift up our request to the Lord with thanksgiving, and to pray to Him. And He says He'll give us a peace that surpasses all understanding. And what I love about that is that our peace in God is completely standalone from everything in our life. That it doesn't matter what's going on in the world, it doesn't matter what's going on in our life, it doesn't matter about our circumstances. You could be like Paul, in prison and be praising God. You can be like Peter in prison, writing letters to the church. You could be in the midst of whatever it is that this world and that the enemy, or whatever it is, wants to throw at you, and you can have complete and perfect peace in Jesus. And so, I just wanted to quickly encourage everyone with that. [Jennifer] No, it was really good. I think that there is just a lot of attention specifically on the coronavirus. What I would say is, it is important to pay attention to what's going on in the world, current events and things like that, but-- [Aaron] Wisdom is good. [Jennifer] When we get those thoughts of fear, or anxiety, or frustration even, we need to remember that even in those times we need to submit those feelings to the Lord, and ask Him to guide us, to lead us, to give us wisdom on how to approach the situation and deal with it. And then remember that our bodies are gonna fail us. Our bodies are gonna get sick. There's gonna be, if it's not this thing, it's another thing, and so we just need to be able to trust the Lord that He knows what's gonna happen to us. He knows everything. [Aaron] He's knows all, He's omniscient. [Jennifer] So we can trust that. [Aaron] We can totally trust Him. And again, this isn't to say do not be wise, like we be wise, if we can make that take measures we do, but we have to remember that we could take every perfect measure, we could take every precaution, we can totally stock up what on whatever, just imagine it, whatever you think you could do to prepare, and your trust in that would still be faulty. Because none of that is actually secure. So, our trust is only good when it's in Christ. So, be prepared to the level that you can, and let the Lord have your fears and rest in Him. That's our encouragement. [Jennifer] Another thing that we wanted to share with you guys is just how incredibly blessed we feel for our relationship with Hobby Lobby. And, I don't know if you guys all know but they carry our books. [Aaron] Which was a total God thing, because there was no way that we were connected with them. I wasn't reaching out. We didn't reach out to them. They actually reached out to us and asked if they could carry our books, and I think it's so awesome. It's one of the cheapest places you can get our books. [Aaron] The cheapest place. [Jennifer] And, who doesn't love Hobby Lobby? I mean, just to be able to go there and peruse, and look at everything. [Aaron] People who've never been to one. [Jennifer] Well, if you haven't been to one, you should go check one out. I'm sure there's one near you. If you're near one, yeah. [Jennifer] But I just wanted to first give a shout out to Hobby Lobby and say thank you. Thank you for being someone who advocates for books like ours, and resources that point people back to God. And I also just wanna thank everyone who has been picking them up and buying them from Hobby Lobby, 'cause that keeps our relationship with them good. [Aaron] That reminds me, I love when people go into Hobby Lobby and they take a picture. And they #hobbylobbyfinds. So if you ever do that, we love to re-share those. So if you are in a Hobby Lobby and you pick up a copy of our books, please take a picture of it, and we'll probably re-share it on our Instagram. [Jennifer] Just make sure you tag us @marriageaftergod so that we see it. [Aaron] Exactly, 'cause if you don't tag us, we don't know. But yeah, so that's just a couple of things, just encouragement on the chaos in the world that had our peace. And then just, we're incredibly blessed and honored by Hobby Lobby and their partnership with us. That, to be honest, I don't think we deserve. I don't think we've, it's a God thing, that He set this up and we just wanna give Him the glory for that. [Jennifer] And if you're like me and you have been wanting to order our books, and you want it today, you can go pick one up today. You don't have to order it online and then wait for it. They have them in stock. And they're in every Hobby Lobby, which is amazing. So, it doesn't matter which one, unless they're out of stock. But they carry them everywhere. [Jennifer] Once I know what I want, it's so hard to wait when I do online shopping and stuff. I just wanna go get everything. [Aaron] But now Amazon has one day shipping, which is crazy. [Jennifer] I don't know how they do it. [Aaron] I don't either. But it gets here. Okay, so, one last thing, we have a another prayer challenge. I don't know if you've taken the marriage prayer challenge yet. Over 50,000 people have taken the marriage prayer challenge, which is incredible. So, we have this new challenge called the parenting prayer challenge, and it's a prayer challenge for you to pray for your son or your daughter, or both. Or all of them. Or all of them. Depending on how many kids you have. Yeah, all your kids. And it's completely free. Just got to parentingprayerchallenge.com and fill out the form and choose who you wanna pray for, and we'll start sending emails every day. [Jennifer] You guys might be wondering how it's set up because, obviously, they're not individualized prayers for you and your child, but they're prompts. So, it'll suggest pray for this specific thing, and then, as you're praying, you're making it personal because you know your family best. [Aaron] And it's a scheduled daily reminder. So you get this email, it says hey, you're gonna pray for your son right now, and here's what you should pray for. And it's not to replace your prayer life, it's to encourage it, inspire it, and give you a new outlook on your prayer life, and maybe expand upon it. One more time, it's parentingprayerchallenge.com to go sign up for the parenting prayer challenge. [Jennifer] All right so, this last episode of the season is a Q&A. We polled the community, the Marriage After God community, and Unveiled Wife and Husband Revolution, and we asked you guys to submit your questions, specifically about communication in marriage. And so, first of all, we just wanna thank everyone who sent us your questions. It's been cool to be able to poll the questions from the audience from Instagram, from you guys, and to answer them here. It makes me feel more connected and I love it. [Aaron] They often ask things that I'm not even thinking about. I'm like oh, that's a good question. So, it's really fun that we ask you guys. It also makes us feel like we're connected with you on another level. So, if you follow us on Instagram, that's usually where we poll our audience. You could follow @marriageaftergod, or @unveiledwife, or @husbandrevolution. We're gonna be doing Q&A's often, so if you see us pop a question and ask you to give us your questions, just submit them there, and we store them and we pick from them, and we try and answer them on here. [Jennifer] Yeah, and just let you guys know because of timing, we don't always get through every question, and so if you're listening and you're like, "I know I submitted a question "for communication in marriage," and we didn't answer it, please reach back out to us and just let us know, and maybe we can just answer it on Instagram for you. [Aaron] Or on the next time. [Jennifer] Or on the next Q&A. [Aaron] Cool. So, before we jump into the questions, why don't we just talk about some of the scriptures that, when I think about communication, these scriptures aren't just, they're not necessarily communication between a spouse. But it's-- [Jennifer] With each other. [Aaron] Yeah, it's with [Both] people. With one anothers in the church. [Jennifer] Very applicable to marriage. [Aaron] So I'm just gonna read through a handful of scriptures. [Jennifer] I'll read the first one 'cause it's shorter. You read the second one. [Aaron] All right. [Jennifer] Psalm 141:3 says, "Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; "keep watch over the door of my lips." [Aaron] Yeah, and I pulled some of these scriptures to just show what a biblical perspective over our mouth is. And the things that we say. In Matthew 12:33 Jesus is talking to the Pharisees, and He says this, "Either make a tree good and its fruit good, "or make a tree bad and its fruit bad. For the tree is known by its fruit." [Jennifer] Like we know a peach tree is a peach tree because it has peaches. [Aaron] Or it's one of those fruit salad trees. [Jennifer] Well, that would be confusing. [Aaron] Which totally ruins the analogy. But anyways, "You brood of Vipers, "how can you speak good when you are evil? "For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. "The good person out of his good treasure "brings forth good, and the evil person of the evil treasure "brings forth evil. "I tell you, on the day of judgment, "people will give account "for every careless word they speak. "For by your words you will be justified, "and by your words you will be condemned." [Jennifer] So what you're saying is words are powerful? [Aaron] They matter, yeah. We need to know that, we can't, like this specifically, and we just talked about this, actually, the other day, we say something and then we say I'm just venting, or I'm just kidding. But in reality if, it's coming from somewhere, those words that we just conjured up out of our mouth. They came from somewhere, and so we need to be careful and aware, like wait, so I said this thing and I wanted to make it sound like it wasn't that bog of a deal, but why did I say that? Why did I say that about so and so? [Jennifer] If someone has self control of their tongue, and they think, they're about to say something, but they decide not to, which is good, I would say they still need to evaluate their heart and question why was that even on the tip of my tongue? [Aaron] Why did it come out so quickly? And often, I would imagine this is about people in our life, and then if we say something so quickly, even if it's to someone in confidence, and we think, wait, am I actually angry at this person, or am I actually annoyed by this person, or bothered, or judgmental or whatever? And we have to think about that 'cause sometimes that comes out of our mouth and it's not from a pure heart. [Jennifer] And I'll say this, words cut deep, and when, especially in marriage, you see that person, you just see their face and you're reminded of what they've said, either recently or years ago. And you can hear them saying it in your mind, over and over again. And so, I think we just need to be reminded that we have a huge responsibility with our words. [Aaron] The next verse is from James, but there's another verse in James that we didn't write down here, that talks about having control of your tongue, and how the tongue is a, it's a small member of a body, but it's actually like a flame that can start a fire. And you're in the members of your body. It's also talked about as a rudder, something that, you have a large ship that is controlled by such a little thing. The things we say actually matter to a point of it directing our lives. But it starts off with saying, if someone has complete control over their tongue, they're a perfect man. So, we all know that we don't have complete control over our tongue 'cause we're not Jesus. Jesus was perfect. And everything He said was controlled. [Jennifer] So, when we're not perfect, and we're not controlled, what's our response should be? [Aaron] Repentance. At least recognizing it and saying, whoa, what I said was off. [Jennifer] Apology, reconciliation. [Aaron] I know I can't put those words back. It's like toothpaste, it comes out, you can't put the toothpaste back in the tube. So James 1:19-20 says, "Know this my beloved brothers, "let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, "slow to anger, for the anger of man does not produce "the righteousness of God." So this is more a practical tip of, hey, to save yourself from saying something you don't mean, [Jennifer] Be slow. [Aaron] Be slower to say it, probably stop yourself. [Jennifer] I just wanna say, it also says be quick to hear. And I think, sometimes we wanna justify the things that we say. [Aaron] What? [Jennifer] We're not actually listening to how our words are affecting the other person, and so I think, I know you said this is practical, a really practical tip is just questioning, evaluating, making sure that you're being a good listener in your marriage. [Aaron] Listening to yourself, and listening to the person talking to you. [Jennifer] And to the Holy Spirit. [Aaron] Yeah, and to the Holy Spirit. [Jennifer] Okay, next one Proverbs 12:18, "There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, "but the tongue of the wise brings healing." [Aaron] Again, showing the power of our words towards others. [Jennifer] Such vivid imagery there. [Aaron] Here's one, Proverbs 18:2, "A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, "but only expresses his own opinion." So, we have to be careful about this, this is something I've struggled with in the past, my foolishness of just only interested in sharing my opinion. Like, oh, well let me tell you what I think, let me tell you what I think, rather than listening, rather than being thoughtful, rather than actually considering the other person. I've dealt with that for sure. [Jennifer] Another one is Proverbs 18:13, "If one gives an answer before He hears," again, going back to be a good listener. [Aaron] This ever happens to me, I don't do this. I do all the time. [Jennifer] "If one gives an answer before he hears, "it is his folly and shame." [Aaron] So, the next one, and the last one, which is by far not the last verse, 'cause there's tons of scripture that talks about how we communicate and the way we communicate. Proverbs 18:21, "Death and life "are in the power of the tongue, "and those who love it will eat its fruits." So, understanding that our tongues are powerful. If we love the power of our tongue, we're going to eat the fruits of it. Meaning, if we want to share our thoughts, and we're totally fine with just speaking things, we need to be able to be aware that those words are ours, and we have to own them. [Jennifer] All right, so that was just a little foundational prep for communication in marriage, just looking at a biblical way to communicate with your spouse. [Aaron] And get a perspective on how we use our words. [Jennifer] 'Cause honestly, no matter what question we answer, that was probably the most important that you hear today. [Aaron] Yeah, the scripture. Not our words, the Bible's words. Always. So, question one from the community says, how do you two come together and talk about your dreams as a couple and as a family? [Jennifer] Oh cool, I like that it's as a couple and as a family. Which we do talk about, dreaming together, in "Marriage After God", and I just love that chapter. Just because it's something that Aaron and I have found a lot of joy in. [Aaron] It's fun. [Jennifer] It's fun. And what we do is, we look at our life and we say, okay God, what do you wanna do with us? And we get to talk about it. [Aaron] How would you say, how have we been doing it over the last few years? [Jennifer] So, our biggest, probably dreaming session, as a couple happens at the end of the year, and we take time to go over what did that last year look like? What's still on our plate? And what things do we wanna try and accomplish in that next year? And it takes a good three hours or more to get through. [Aaron] But they're fun. [Jennifer] Just because it's a lot, but it's so fun, and we do it over dinner. And then we have checkups throughout the year, when things change, circumstances change, or goals change, or we accomplish things sooner than later. So, we just check in with each other throughout the year. [Aaron] Or we're in the middle of a goal, accomplishing a goal, and we evaluate, is this what we really want? Now that we're in the middle of this thing, which we've done. [Jennifer] I will say this, our dreams don't come from nowhere. Well, for one thing, there's seeds planted by God that we feel really strongly about that God gives us these desires that we have. But we also, what we call the tool belt, our marriage tool belt, we look at what we have, and we go from there. [Aaron] Yeah, and it's not like, we talk about this in the book a lot more, the practical side of it. We're not just throwing out, and casting a line out as far as possibly, and trying to see what we can grab. We look at what God is doing in our life, what we've already accomplished, in Christ, of course. [Jennifer] It's like we take that next step. [Aaron] And we say okay, if we have any money, we say okay, how do You want us to use this money? Our home, our cars, our business? And then we even talk about things that we would love to explore and pursue. And we hold all of it loosely, pretty much usually, right? [Jennifer] Yeah. 'Cause there's nothing we can guarantee. [Jennifer] Another fun way to do this is, on those smaller check ins or smaller dreaming sessions, when we like to talk about it, we like to go on a drive, let's say like a 40 minute drive. It's super fun. We're both buckled in. Can't leave the conversation. And we just talk about it there. But, I love doing this and I think that, over the years, Aaron, wouldn't you agree, that it's something that's been cultivated in our marriage because of our intentionality? It's not really something that is just gonna happen on its own, but it's also something that, I don't know, we put the time in to do it. [Aaron] Well, I'll say this, and this would be my one tip in this section, is yes, it needs to be scheduled. So, you and your spouse need to say, we are going to do this, and we're gonna do it on this date. So it's on the calendar. And then the other part is, setting actual goals, writing them down. So, for us, you may not be us, you're goals are gonna look different. Maybe they'll be the same, but, we'll say we want to have this book self published, or traditionally published next year or this year. Or, usually, the traditionally published is a little bit more out of our control. But, self publishing, we wanna have this book published by this date. And then that one goal gives us a whole list of tasks that need to be accomplished before, for that goal to happen. And so, setting that goal and giving it a realistic time frame, and writing it down on paper, and verbalizing it out loud. [Jennifer] The success rate is so much higher. [Aaron] Oh yeah. [Jennifer] Let's use finances. If we had a goal for finances and we just talked about it-- [Aaron] We wanna save $1000. [Jennifer] By next week, we would have forgotten what the plan was. So it's like, oh yeah, we talked about that, I think. So, when you go to write something down, I feel like it's super helpful. [Aaron] The finances is actually a good one. I would imagine almost everyone has some sort of financial goals. Maybe getting out of debt, or saving for a vacation, or pay for college, or who knows what it is? And so, setting the goal, a realistic goal, the thing that you know you can attain, and you can come up with those strategies of, we're going to save $10 a month, or $100 a month, or we're not going to buy this thing every week. When you do that, and you say it out loud, there's now accountability as well. So, something comes up and you could spend the money on it, and you both look at each other and be like, are we willing to cast out that goal we set four months ago? No? Then we have to say no to this. Even though it's difficult. And so now you both are on the same page. And man, that actually feels like victorious. You're like wow, we just said no to something that we really wanted, because there's this better thing down the road that we're saving for. So, I would say set those goals, put them on paper, say them out loud, put them on the refrigerator, put them on a chalkboard, make them visible. And it's true, your success rate exponentially grows. [Jennifer] Again, I really like the second part of this question 'cause they also wanna know how do you do it as a family? So, you have kids involved. I'd say, as our family, Aaron, you are really good about leading our kids through these things, and prompting their hearts, and preparing their hearts. [Aaron] Well, thank you. [Jennifer] And just asking them really good questions. Our children are still pretty young, so we don't download every dream or goal to them. We don't feel the need to explain everything, but as we talk about dreaming together, and as we set goals we do keep the impact it will have on our family in mind. [Aaron] Well, always, yeah. [Jennifer] And so, we share it with our kids, and we'll talk about it, and we'll invite them to participate in the ways that they can. [Aaron] And I would say, because we have this pattern of setting goals and dreaming together, we teach our kids how to do it. So, I'll tell my son, and he's drawing, and he might get to a point of not wanting to complete the thing he's creating. And then I'll tell him, I'll be like, hey, do you wanna be a really good artist one day? And he'll be like, "Yeah." I'll be like well, the way people become really good artists is a lot of practice. I said, so I know that it's difficult to finish this, or you wanna move on to the next thing, and I totally get that because you're excited but, there's a lot of value in you sitting and finishing this and coloring it, and you'll see a completed work. So, that's a little way of teaching my son on how to set a goal. [Jennifer] And that's really good, what I would call that is casting vision, 'cause you're showing him what the future would look like, but what it requires, and I think the same exact thing is important for marriage that both the husband and wife are reminding each other constantly. Because this whole episode is about communication, our words matter. We need to be encouraging each other. We need to be reminding each other, hey, remember we set this goal, hey, remember, this was our strategy, hey, this is what's gonna happen once we meet it, and encourage each other and stimulate each others hearts toward those those goals in that way. [Aaron] I totally agree. That's good. Let's move on to the second question, how do you gracefully bring up subjects that have been touchy in the past? You don't, you just skip over them, you just ignore it. I'm just kidding. No, this is a hard one 'cause sometimes you can't avoid the sensitivity of it, in some scenarios. [Jennifer] I think it's good to be sensitive to it. [Aaron] What I'm saying is not that we be just harsh, or cold about it. I'm just saying you could come, I would imagine that there's some conversations that you can come perfectly gentle, with the best intentions, with the best words, and it will still be a hard conversation. That your spouse still may take it very personally. So I would say you come cautiously, you come patiently. And I would say the number one thing is make sure your heart's right. Is your intention because you're just bothered and you want this thing to change and there they go again? Is that your heart, or is your heart that you actually care that they're growing, they're changing, they're following through with their own words, because of their integrity, 'cause you love them, and you wanna see the mature? So, if your heart is a selfish one, like, I'm gonna go deal with this because I'm offended, which doesn't mean you're not allowed to have offenses. We have to deal with our offenses. But, if it's a conversation from the past, we have a lot of these, about specific things in our life, and some things are little, and some things are big things. I would say, don't avoid them, but make sure that our hearts are right, and make sure that the intention is for actual growth and maturity in your spouse, or for healing. Do you have any tips on that? [Jennifer] Yeah, I was just gonna say that, when I go into conversations like this, I genuinely desire a good conversation about it. And, I think the most important thing that we could do, knowing that it's been touchy in the past, is pray for each other before we even get to the conversation. So, praying that I have the right heart, bringing it to the table, if I'm the one bringing it, and praying that I share in a respectful way, with the right words, words that will bring you understanding, but I also pray for your heart that, if there is sensitivity or anything like that, that you would be able to respond in an understanding way as well. That we're able to come together and have a good conversation about it. And I think that doing it with God at the center is the most important thing that we could do. [Aaron] The tip for the person having the topic brought up to is humbleness. And also, being aware of defensiveness. I do this. I get defensive, we just had a conversation and I was defensive. And you called me, and you're like, "Why are you being defensive about this?" Often, defensiveness is self preservation. It's selfish, often. And so, if we're defending ourselves, then we're not in unity, and we're also not being humble. [Jennifer] You're also not being quick to hear. [Aaron] And I'm also not being quick to hear. Thank you for reminding me of that. [Jennifer] I don't know if this helps practically but, when we go into conversations like this, I'll usually say something to Aaron like, hey, I really wanna share something with you, but, just so you know, my intention's not to upset you, or point the finger at you. It's just something that I've realized or recognized recently that I wanna talk about. Is that okay? Making sure that there's a place and a space for that conversation. You don't wanna just bring it up when you're at the dinner table, or you're walking into-- [Aaron] Right here on the podcast. Actually, I've been wanting to bring up to-- [Jennifer] No. [Aaron] Not on the podcast. [Jennifer] No. [Aaron] And then, one last note on this. I think we can get in a pattern sometimes. Some relationships are special in this way, but I think a lot of us can, in some way, have this pattern of bringing up everything. And not overlooking certain things. There's this one thing that we actually, it's not that big of a deal, but I just have to bring it up every single time 'cause I don't wanna have to deal with it ever again. And so I think, truly internally evaluating, is the thing I wanna bring up, is it a thing that needs to be brought up? Or is it something that I can actually just let go? The Bible tells us that love covers a multitude of sins. So not that we overlook sin and pretend sin doesn't exist, but if I said something one time, we're talking and I said something and you're like, "Well that was rude." But you know I didn't mean it, it doesn't need to be brought up, in that one scenario. Now, if it's a pattern, like I'm always rude, that's one thing, but if I said something, and you think, "He must've not meant that." Or, the way they are with something. Sometimes it just needs to be let go. [Jennifer] And I wanna speak to the other side, if your spouse is coming to you with something, I was gonna say something of importance, but, no matter when your spouse comes to you, how would you answer this question, does your spouse feel like they're walking on eggshells around you? Does it feel like you're here, there's a layer of eggshell around you, and they can't come that close to you? Does that make sense? [Aaron] Yeah. So I think it's important for both sides that people listening can evaluate, okay, am I being aware of what I'm bringing up, and is it necessary? And then, how are my responses towards my spouse? Am I someone who gets defensive? Am I being selfish? [Aaron] Am I being critical? Like I'm just over-critiquing my spouse. [Jennifer] Yeah, and so I think that's it's important to think about are we setting ourselves up for putting eggshells down to where no one wants to come close to us and ask us those hard things. [Aaron] And I think a good remedy for this, specifically, 'cause we're not tryna say, don't have conversations that need to happen. What we're talking about is evaluation and discernment. Is the thing that I want to bring up something that should be brought up? So my solution to that is, when you wanna bring something up, first evaluate in yourself if the thing that you're seeing or wanting to talk about in your spouse, is something that you deal with, but maybe in a different way. Because often, we're very keen to sin or issues in other people's lives that we ourselves deal with. Someone's always late to something for you and it bothers you. And then you realize that you're always late for something else. But you don't think about it. So, ask yourself, is this something that I deal with? And truly ask yourself, because if you care about it in them, you should care about it in yourself 'cause want to. So, just a little tip. [Jennifer] It's good. All right, question number three is, how do you talk to your spouse when they are distracted by their phone? Can we just skip this one? Just kidding. [Aaron] Again, I never do this. [Jennifer] Okay, repeat that for everyone to just take a minute and hear. [Aaron] How do you talk to your spouse when they are distracted by their phone? You can't. [Jennifer] We have struggled with this so much you guys. [Aaron] Before there was phones, there was TV. If you're ever sitting next to me and I'm looking at a TV, I'm not even watching what's on the TV, everything's shut off in my brain. Which is why we don't have a TV 'cause I would just sit there and I'd be gone for hours. [Jennifer] This is true, but, what I was gonna say is, before phones there was an iPod. And I remember when the first iPod came out and we were dating. [Aaron] And it only did one thing. [Jennifer] I know, one thing. And I'm sitting at a restaurant, next to you, and you've got the wire from the cord in your ear, both ears, and you're scrolling through music on your iPod. [Aaron] Now, to my defense, I had just got it. [Jennifer] You were so excited about it. [Aaron] Yeah, I was excited about it. [Jennifer] But here's the point, we do get distracted, and it's a real thing, and I think it's important to talk about. [Aaron] Yeah, I would say, and Jennifer, you've gotten good at this, Aaron, I'm tryna talk to you, can you put your phone down please? Because I didn't even know you were talking to me, and you've been talking to me. And I'm on my phone. Which we have whole episode on phones and boundaries, which is something we're constantly working on. But being free to say that, say hey, can you put your phone away? I wanna chat with you. And you've also gotten good at voicing to me how it makes you feel. You're talking to me and I-- [Jennifer] Mid-sentence you'll pull it out. [Aaron] And then I'm on my phone. Maybe it buzzed or something, and I'm on it. Or, we're talking about something, and it's something that I need to do, and so I go to do it while you're talking to me. [Jennifer] Yeah, oh gosh. [Aaron] You're like, can you-- [Jennifer] Can you wait 'til I'm done? [Aaron] Do that after we're done? I know that you're excited to do that. Yes, it's mostly on my side, sorry. I would say yeah, just get really good at voicing it, hey, can you put your phone away so we can have a chat? I know that's distracting. You're gonna get on it afterwards, but, so we're not distracted, let's put our phones away. But, be willing to receive it on both sides. 'Cause we're cellphone generation. [Jennifer] I was gonna say, I think it's important to have patience with each other because, yes, we are a part of a generation that uses technology on a daily basis. This is such a hard one because it's not just you, Aaron, it happens to both of us. But being aware and allowing your spouse to help you be aware, so not getting defensive when they say something about you being distracted on your phone. I don't know. [Aaron] A little side note about cellphones, something fun that we've done in our community for a long time, I don't know if I started it or someone else did, someone must've started it, but if see someone on their phone and they're spending time with you, just lean over and be like, hey, who you hanging out with? [Jennifer] It's kinda mean and sarcastic but. [Aaron] What's powerful about it is, oh, I'm hanging out with people on my phone, not the people that I'm actually hanging out with. But that's has nothing to do with someone distracted by their phone. If you're distracted, you just gotta ask, hey, this is an important conversation, or I wanna tell you something, can you put your phone away for just a second so we can chat? [Jennifer] I will say this, Aaron, you have been making it a point this last year to leave your phone in the car, especially-- [Aaron] On Sundays. [Jennifer] On Sundays, so that we are not distracted during fellowship time. You leave it out in the living room at bedtime, so you're not constantly scrolling in the bed. On date nights, you tend to leave it in the car. [Aaron] What I'm tryna to do is just, because I know how prone I am to just pick it up when it's near me, I'm tryna find ways of getting it away from me. Which I wish that I could do more. [Jennifer] We've also had some pretty deep encounters with our kids, where they recognize that we're on our phones in front of them, and I think we've shared this on the podcast before, but just realizing how it impacts our relationship with them as well. [Aaron] I think that's an adequate answer for now. [Jennifer] Which is, what is the solution here? [Aaron] Tell them. [Jennifer] Tell them. [Aaron] Can you please put it down so we can chat? [Jennifer] Hey, just so you know, it hurts my feelings when I'm talking to you and you're looking at your phone. Oh also, I gotta mention this, if you're in the middle of a really heavy conversation, and there's no resolve yet, but there's been silence for a while, don't just jump on the phone, that hurts so bad. Just-- [Aaron] Remain in the situation. [Jennifer] Remain in the situation, remain in the silence until it gets figured out. And if it doesn't get figured out, communicate that with each other say, hey, we're just gonna put this on pause until we can figure it out, and then move on. But don't do it without that communication. [Aaron] That's a very good point. [Jennifer] Okay, number four. [Aaron] As a wife, how do you teach yourself to respond, ask, speak respectfully to your husband? [Jennifer] So I guess I have to answer that? [Aaron] Well, it's not for me. [Jennifer] Okay, so first you have to know what respect is. I remember back when we were first going to a marriage ministry, probably in third, fourth year of our marriage, and there was a group of young wives that I was friends with, and we're hanging out one night, and I remember asking them how would you define respect? I don't remember really growing up understanding. I kinda knew it what respect was, and I could get by with a makeshift definition, but I didn't actually know what it looked like in marriage. And they didn't either. It was like they looked at me like why would you even ask that question? [Aaron] Why're you even bringing that word up in our midst? [Jennifer] And I'm just sharing that because I do think it's important to know what respect is. So Google says respect is a feeling of deep admiration for someone. So, if you want to teach yourself to respond respectfully, you should know why you respect your spouse, right? [Aaron] Right. [Jennifer] You should know why you deeply admire them. 'Cause that's what's gonna fuel you or propel you to respond that way. [Aaron] Do you think a wife can respond respectfully to husband who is not respectable. [Jennifer] That's a really hard question, and I don't feel comfortable answering it for every single person, 'cause I don't know every single situation, but I would say this as an encouragement, that there are some things that you can find to admire about a person. [Aaron] The thought I had, and I was thinking about, not a spouse, how should we respond to a stranger that we know nothing about? With honor, with respect, with kindness, right? So my point was, I think, that in pretty much most situations, on the individual level of a person who loves the Lord, we can find, even if it's not for the husband's sake, or the spouse's sake, out of my respect and love for the Lord, I'm going to speak to this person the way Christ speaks to me. [Jennifer] That's a better answer than I gave. [Aaron] I think you were being careful. I don't think your answer was bad. That's what I was thinking about is, regardless if they find something respectable, 'cause a lot of people might struggle with that, I don't respect my husband, therefore I'm gonna talk-- [Jennifer] I'm not gonna, and then that becomes a justification. [Aaron] And on both sides, I don't respect my wife because of this, this and this, therefore I'm going to, rather than treating them the way Christ wants you to treat them. [Jennifer] That's good. Well, I think that we can, just as you're talking about we can be respectful, and it's not contingent on other people. We can be respectful in our communication towards others, towards our spouse, and like you said, out of that love and admiration for the Lord. I love that. And that that will influence our relationship. My admiration for you has grown over the years. [Aaron] Totally, and vice versa. And I would say also, none of this subtracts from the kinds of things we get to say. If you need to tell someone, which you told me before about my sin in my life, what it was doing to God, what the reality of it was, but you said it so respectfully, so honoringly. And the Bible says to speak the truth in love. It doesn't say don't speak the truth because you want them to not feel bad. You can still say really difficult things to someone in a loving, respectful way. So that's just a thought I had. [Jennifer] Just to clarify too, the question was how do you teach yourself to respond, and ask, and speak respectfully? I would say the one word that comes to mind is practice. That's probably what I should have just started with. But practice. As you practice this, and as you walk in it, it will become more natural for you to respond respectfully. [Aaron] That's good. And remember who you're doing it for. It's not necessarily your spouse, it's for God, because you love the Lord. Yeah, that's good. And it goes for the husbands too. The answer is the same. Okay, so number five says, what do you do when one spouse gets tired of talking and stops listening, and refuses to respond, or to keep the conversation going? This is like that situation, we're having, it's a difficult conversation, maybe it's a frustrating conversation, maybe it's just another one of those conversations that we've had 20 times. Well, first of all, you can't control your spouse, just, I think, the quick answer is that you can't control me-- [Jennifer] You can't force them to give you an answer or or to-- [Aaron] You can lovingly say hey, it's really hurting me that you're refusing to finish this. Is there a better way we can finish it later maybe? Or can we finish it now? I would say also, being understanding in the situation of how the conversation's going. Often, these kinds of conversations are the ones that are, both spouses are at each other, both spouses are annoyed, both spouses are selfish. [Jennifer] Both probably need some humility. [Aaron] Yeah. I would say just, sometimes maybe you just need to step back and pray for your spouse and say hey, I get that you probably aren't interested right now, but we need to have this conversation. Can we do it another time? [Jennifer] I know some things that I like to do with you is, hey, I get that were not in agreement on this, can we just pray about it and close with prayer, and ask God to reveal things to you over the course of however many days, or until you talk about it again. [Aaron] And I would also say, for the one who's wanting to continue in the conversation, so one's checking out, and the one's like hey, we're not done. Maybe ask yourself, are you elongating because you haven't gotten retribution yet, or are you wanting this to keep going because you haven't convinced them yet of your side? Are you wanting to, discern and spiritually evaluate if you're wanting the right thing? Are you wanting reconciliation or you wanting to be right? Are you wanting unity or you waiting for them to yield? And this goes for the husband or the wife. And so, ask yourself, are they checking out because they're not getting to where I want them to be? And that's why I keep going. Rather than hey, are we gonna find a solution, a unifying solution? Are we gonna find reconciliation, are we gonna find a place that we're back in the right relationship with each other? Rather than I'm getting my way and they've come to my side? [Jennifer] That's good. I know I keep going back to prayer, but if your spouse is getting tired of the conversation and refusing to continue it, pray for their heart. Pray that the Lord would minister to them, and transform them, and bring resolve through them, because ultimately, it's the Holy Spirit, right, that does it. Mm hmm, amen. [Jennifer] Okay, moving on to number six. How do you overcome the fear of vulnerability? That's a really big question, but it can be simplified. [Aaron] I think it has to be. Well, first of all, most people are afraid of being vulnerable. [Jennifer] I would say everybody is. Vulnerability isn't something that's like, yeah, let's be vulnerable. It's hard. [Aaron] It's spiritual nakedness. It's showing what's on the inside, and often we don't like what's on the inside. And so I would say, you said earlier, practice. But really, asking the Spirit of God. Say God, transform me in this because, it was other people's vulnerability with us that freed us to be more vulnerable. [Jennifer] It gave us the courage. [Aaron] So yeah, if you're struggling with this, just pray and say Lord-First of all, regardless if you never reveal anything about yourself, we all know who we are. We are wretched. We are sinners who need a Savior, who need His righteousness, who need His power to transform us. And so, just recognizing that and say, okay Lord, humble me, and help me be open so that you can A, change me, the things that I'm afraid of, the things that I don't like, the ickiness, the grossness inside me, but also use that vulnerableness, use that transparency to free others, to heal others. Not because of me, but because of You, Lord. I don't know, that's my idea. [Jennifer] I think a big thing that I learned through being vulnerable in marriage, is having this resolve to understand that love requires risk in making yourself known. So, what I mean by that is, in order for me to know that my husband loves me, like actual me, not someone who's pretending over here is-- [Aaron] Not what you show me. [Jennifer] You have to know me, so I have to reveal it to you, and that requires risk. Because that means I'm gonna share something with you, and then you get to respond. So there's a risk involved, and that's what makes it hard. But I'd say, like you said, practice is really good, and then I was just gonna plug the Unveiled Wife here, because if you wanna get to know someone who wasn't vulnerable, and then was extremely vulnerable, not just with you, Aaron, but with the whole world by writing a book about it. [Aaron] It was a big deal for us. [Jennifer] The Unveiled Wife is my journey of learning vulnerability in marriage and with God. [Aaron] That was good. So, question number seven, we have been married over a decade and feel like we lost things to talk about. [Jennifer] Aah. So, I would say, Find things to talk about. [Jennifer] I would say start learning again. So, Aaron has this really great quality about him where, when he gets excited about something, he just starts learning about it, I don't know. [Aaron] I research. [Jennifer] Yeah, you have this research brain where you just, you get hooked on something. Even with the kids, like when it comes to Legos, it's like, oh Elliot, I figured out this new thing. You're even learning the Rubik's Cube, okay. You been researching. I have been. [Jennifer] Watching YouTube videos, and you been sharing it with me. So you'll sit down on the couch with me and be like, "Babe, look at this," what do you call it? Algorithm. Algorithm. And you do this twist thing and I'm not following, but I'm just smiling 'cause my husband loves to share this with me. [Aaron] And then you see it working and you're like, "How'd you do that?" [Jennifer] Yeah, it's pretty awesome. So start learning something again that you can share with them. It could be anything. And then talk about it with them. [Aaron] And to be honest, if you've lost things to talk about, I don't know this person. I don't know their life. But if you guys are in a place, if you're in a place that you have nothing to talk about, first of all, that's not true. There's never nothing to talk about. There's never nothing to explore with each other, and to walk with in each other. There's, at minimum, there's tons of challenges in life to have to navigate. [Jennifer] So you're saying they're choosing not to share things? [Aaron] Yeah, I would say, I don't think it's possible to have nothing to talk about. [Jennifer] Especially if you have children. If you have children, you have a lot to talk about. [Aaron] Well, and the other thing is, is if we're pursuing God together, if we're looking to what He's doing, He's going to reveal to you sin in your life, He's gonna give you jobs to do, like this idea of He's got work for us to do, good works that He's prepared for us since the foundations of the world, those things are remarkable, meaning that they are able to be remarked about. There's something to be talked about. And so, I think that if there's nothing to talk about, there's potentially, maybe your minds aren't on heavenly things. Maybe your minds are an earthly things, and worry, and things that you're not looking up. [Jennifer] Or maybe there's sin your guys's life that you've been avoiding confronting because-- [Aaron] Mm hmm, sin keeps us in darkness. So I would just challenge you, if you think there's nothing to talk about, I would start praying and say Lord, what's in my life, what's in our life that is keeping us from each other? Keeping us silent, keeping us in the darkness, keeping us from moving forward and being excited about life? Guys, if you're believers, we have the greatest hope, everyone in the world, the greatest hope is for the believer. That's remarkable. That's something to talk about, forever. We're going to do it in Heaven. We're gonna be worshiping the Lord, forever in Heaven. So, if we've lost that excitement now, we gotta ask ourselves why? What's taking it away? Where have we misplaced that? [Jennifer] Now simply, if you're just bored, and you've forgotten how to communicate with each other, and ask each other good questions, I have to let that we have a freebie for you called Date Night Conversation Starters, and you can take these out on your next date, or just hanging out in the house, and use one of those to prompt a question and get started talking. [Aaron] Start asking questions to each other. You can go to datenightconversations.com. Was that prompted, was that planned? [Jennifer] I just thought about it. [Aaron] These are some good things to think about. [Jennifer] Okay, we're gonna get through these next ones fairly quickly, just for times sake, but, how do you get an introvert to communicate? Here, let me change it, Aaron, how did you get me to communicate in marriage? 'Cause I'm an introvert. Keep asking you questions. Never give up. Do it gently with love. The goal is not to ever change someone, the goal's to engage, and the goal is to encourage, and exhort, and to lift up, and to love, and to strengthen. Remember, you're one, and God's given you unique characteristics for a reason. So, they're not things to be bothered by or hated, they might be things that need to be grown in. Just because, quote unquote, I'm an introvert, doesn't mean that quote unquote, you need to stay an introvert. [Jennifer] Don't label yourself that way. [Aaron] You can grow. You never know, what God wants to grow you into, and transform you into. So don't just say well, this is what I am, and therefore that's what I am. [Jennifer] I'll say this, over the years, Aaron, your affirmation and encouragement has really gone a long way in that, you ask me a question, and maybe I'll answer it very quickly or short, or maybe not at all. And you say, just so you know, I want to hear from you. That affirmation, hearing that over and over again, reminds my heart, my mind, he really does just wanna know. [Aaron] And then, one last little thing I would say, recognizing and cultivating the differences in your spouse will make them feel loved and makes your spouse more able to communicate in those times that they can't-So, if they're introverted, recognize that in your spouse in saying, hey, why don't you get some time alone, when you go be with the Lord, I'll take care of the family, I'll take care of the kids, or whatever. And that let's them know that you appreciate them, and their differences, their uniqueness, and you're excited about it. You're like, how can you use that in a good way, so that in those times that it's necessary, you're not allowed to just retreat into your title, into your whatever. They they know that you love them, and that you're saying hey, I know this is hard for you, but we do need to deal with this. [Jennifer] Yeah, that's really good. Okay, so the next one says, how do you stay in touch with your spouse when your husband works two jobs and you're a stay at home mom? I'm just gonna answer this one really quickly for what comes to my mind is get creative, text them, send love letters, make a journal where you guys can pass it back and forth, putting things on the schedule and protecting that time, even if you're super tired or there's other circumstances going on. I would say that those are some practical ways that I would answer that. And I'm sorry, that's such a hard question to try and answer, but the communication is still a priority. [Aaron] I would say if it's a priority, we'll do it. And we have a brother in our church that leaves real early in the morning, comes back real late, and he just he works a long job, and he records videos of him reading the Bible, and asking questions and sends them to his kids. So even though he can't be home, when he has the break, when he has the time, he make sure to, everyday, send them something to lead them and disciple them. So, father's who have these jobs, if you're listening to this, and maybe you're on the road right now, don't use your absence as an excuse to not disciple and lead your children and family. There's ways to do it, especially in this day and age, man, we have technology. You could FaceTime every day, there's ways to do it. So I just wanna encourage you that, get creative like my wife said, find ways of connecting with your spouse and your children regularly, to show them that you're there. Because even though you can't physically be there, you can spiritually. [Jennifer] Cool. Okay, we got two questions left. The next one is, how do you handle conflict when you are very irritated? Which happens to all of us, right? No one's immune to irritability or irritation. But the verse that I thought of was Psalm 4:4, it says, "Be angry and do not sin. "Ponder in your own hearts, on your beds and be silent." [Aaron] And that's a good point is, when you're frustrated, make sure that, again, you're coming with the right heart. So, you've dealt with your frustrations with the Lord first. Doesn't mean you don't say something about it, and you don't address it. [Jennifer] It's that being slow to speak. [Aaron] And then also, maybe wait. Wait for when you've cooled down. That's always a good posture to take. Right, so the last question we got for you guys is, what are important questions you need to ask your spouse every week? Aah. [Jennifer] Okay, so we don't ask each other the same questions every week, but, we do have a standard of questions that we lean on when we want to know each other more, Aaron. And it's stuff like hey, how's your heart? Or hey, what are you thinking about? Or hey, what's God been teaching you? What are you gonna be working on today? Or what do you need help? [Aaron] Or what are you reading in the Bible? These are interesting questions that help, if the other person maybe hasn't been, they say oh, well nothing. I'm gonna get into the Word, right? So they're encouraging. And if they are, you can start a conversation with them about what they're learning for the purpose of growth. And we have some friends, really good friends, Jeremy and Audrey Roloff, they actually have a resource called the Marriage Journal. And it's an awesome resource. They actually have, it's a weekly check up for your marriage. [Jennifer] There're actually specific questions that you ask every week. [Aaron] And they draw you closer to your spouse, they help you get to know each other. It also helps you stay on track with each other. So, if you're asking this question, if you're out there thinking yeah, what should we be asking ourselves? It's called the Marriage Journal by Jeremy and Audrey Roloff. You should go check that out, it's an awesome resource, we totally support them, we totally love them. And it can totally help you in growing in your marriage. So, we love you all, and we thank you for joining us on this last episode of the season. If you haven't checked out the other episodes from this season, please go do that while we're on this little break. And also, check out last episode because we have a giveaway going right now. And it goes only until April 10th, so go check out our last episode and find out how that giveaway is gonna work. But, as usual, we pray before we sign out. [Jennifer] Dear Lord, thank you for the gift of marriage. We pray we would be husbands and wives who are willing to communicate with each other in a respectful way. We pray we would have the courage to say the hard things in love. We pray we would be good listeners, and truly hear what our spouse is sharing with us. We pray to share our heart with one another, always. We pray that your Holy Spirit would infuse our speech and open our ears, so that we can hear. Help our minds to understand each other, and to extend grace to each other. We pray the posture of our hearts would be humble. We pray we would strive to make marriage a safe place to communicate, and not a scary one. Help us to work through our marriage issues, and the things that we're experiencing to gain knowledge of each other and of You. Help us to grow in how we walk, and may it be in a worthy manner as we navigate life together. In Jesus Name. [Aaron] Amen. We love you all. And we'll see you next season. Did you enjoy today's show? If you did, it would mean the world to us if you could leave us a review on iTunes. Also, if you're interested, you can find many more encouraging stories and resources at marriageaftergod.com, and let us help you cultivate an extraordinary marriage. 

Are you ready to take action, get over the hump, and get on your way to feeling better, achieving a goal, making a deeper impact, and just being happier? Well, my friend, you are going to have to stop pushing opportunities aside, refusing help, trying to do it all on your own, and most importantly, saying NO. What are you afraid of? Are you so closed off and shut down to believe that you have experienced everything there is to experience, that you couldn’t possibly learn something new about yourself, and be happier than you are today? Hogwash. There is ALWAYS more! Let’s dig into the knee jerk “I’m just looking” response and start saying YES! Let’s talk about what’s preventing you from saying yes, when no works for you and when it can work against you, and how being open to more can give you the momentum to propel you forward. Sound like a plan? Are you that person who walks into a store and no matter what your mission, when you’re approached for help you say, “no thank you, I’m just looking”? It’s a knee jerk reaction. I’ve said it and then thought about it for half a second, retracted and said: “why yes, I do need some help, where is this or that?” Why spend time searching for something I’m unfamiliar with when an expert just said, how can I help you today.  We’ve become conditioned to figuring things out on our own, to avoid making contact, and possibly being talked into something we don’t need or aren’t ready for. Has this been your experience when you’ve let your guard down and accepted help? No? Then where did that preconceived notion come from? Why are we so quick to push help aside to go it alone? How many automatic no’s do you deliver every day? If not verbally, in your mind? Sometimes no is so deeply rooted that even though it comes out of your mouth it doesn’t come from your heart. It’s an opinion or thought given to us when we needed help to understand the world. Somewhere, someone told us no and we believed the why and it became our thought and opinion too. Left unchallenged, we carry it around and use it like caution cones for road construction. Slow down, use caution, or worse….detour here! We reroute everything in our life based on something we heard vs something we’ve tested.  We talk a lot about self-limiting beliefs and that’s because it’s important. It’s important to look at it from all angles and continue to bring new ideas around the subject to the surface. If you heard it the first time and were able to break through all your false beliefs and adopt your own perspective, then CONGRATS! How freeing that must feel. However, I’m going to lay money on the fact that most of us need to hear it again and again and then even after that, be continually reminded.  Deeply rooted beliefs don’t pluck easily from our garden of knowledge.  It takes persistence. Just like the weeds that come back again and again, when given any opportunity, these thoughts and judgments will replay over and over. We’ve all had these beliefs at one time or many times in our lives. We may still be having them now. The first step is to recognize that there could be an alternative perspective. As with anything, if you aren’t aware, you can’t alter your thoughts.  For me, it happens as a revelation. I may have heard it and believed it one way for so long and then all of a sudden I hear a new idea that challenges my old one and BAM! I may have heard it over and over but for some reason, that one time took hold and opened my eyes. So don’t stop searching for new ideas and listening to others. Knowledge comes from hearing so be open to what’s being said around you. Once your mind is open and this new idea is swirling around, it’s time to challenge your old way of thinking.  Now you might be a skeptic, so this may not happen in one attempt. But that’s the beauty of self-discovery, it’s a journey. Keep poking away at it and whittle it down until it no longer has a hold over you.  Sometimes is the sheer fear of saying yes. As we’ve already established, no keeps us closed off and protected. New ideas and opportunities might push you out of your comfort zone and then what? You will be exposed and vulnerable and people might see the true you. Ouch!  Sounds funny but generally, we are afraid of the unknown. Routine is comfortable and predictable. But what if….you really like it and it propels you to new heights. There are times when no is HARD to say but healthy to do so. I’m not suggesting replacing all your no’s with yes but just to be mindful so you get a healthy balance. Sometimes saying no is the source of your anxiety. You don’t want to let people down, you want to please, fix, or control. No might create that uncomfortable confrontation or worse, show that you aren’t needed when validation is what you need most. ALWAYS being there for everyone but yourself is not valiant it’s risky. Just like limiting beliefs, our perception of people-pleasing can be skewed. Helpful can easily morph into controlling. Not allowing others to live their lives unaided by you can create a false sense of dependency that enables them from learning and evolving. People-pleasing is another deeply rooted behavior in our garden but with pruning and self-care you can keep it at bay. Feeling powerful? Perception really does control so much of what we think and do. We can get so rooted in one frame of mind that we miss much of what passes us by. Being open to differing opinions and new perspectives give us a chance to grow in a direction that nurtures and feeds our minds.  Adam Sicinski, Lifetime Achiever gives us a list of things that we should be saying YES to that will help us live a more optimal life and propel us forward: Say YES to opportunities to attempt something new that you hadn’t tried before. Say YES to possibilities for new adventures, challenges, and experiences. Say YES to things that somewhat scare you or that you don’t quite understand. Say YES to things that break your monotonous rituals, habits, and routines. Say YES to things that help you learn something new about yourself, about others and about life. Say YES to building friendships and connections with strangers. Say YES to experiencing changes that feel uncomfortable and yet somewhat exciting at the same time. Say YES to unexpected invites that create interest and pull you out of your comfort zone. Say YES to random encounters and coincidences that you don’t quite understand but would like to make the most of. This is by no means an exhaustive list of things that we should be saying YES to more often, however it does cover quite an array of scenarios that can help you experience more of what life has to offer. CHALLENGE: Take a moment before you respond. This could be an opportunity for something new and exciting to develop. Embrace yes and challenge no when you’ve considered all your options. You deserve the best life has to offer.   I Know YOU Can Do It!   RESOURCES:Peter Shankman, article, saying yes vs saying noHabits for Wellbeing shares some insight on where they come from and why they are so easy to believe.Ed & Deb Shapiro The Way AheadClaire Hodgson gives us 5 Tips to Help You Stop Being a People PleaserAdam Sicinski, Lifetime Achiever gives us, The Value of Saying Yes More Often to Life’s Opportunities  

Ever wondered which popular movie characters would make great basketball players? No? Then you are like most people. Wes and Perry, however, are not like most people. It's finally March, the best month of the year for basketball fans, and in this episode, they attempt to build the best basketball team using characters from Marvel, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, and more! It's one of the weirdest episodes yet and you aren't going to want to miss all the fun.   Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BanterPodcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/banter_pod/

Have you finished watching The Witcher on Netflix yet? No? Then what the heck are you doing listening to this episode?!? Go watch it and then come back and listen to me and my friend Asha discuss our thoughts and opinions on the Netflix original show, based on the game, based on a book. :P

Are you getting enough Zzz's at night? No? Then this episode is for you! What is this something-something that could possibly help you fight your fatigue, depression, stress, and insomnia? Listen to me together with Dmitry and find out! If you wanna know more about this podcast, you can follow me on Instagram at @breatheinpodcast or search for my Facebook page called Breathe In! Enjoy, and don't forget to share it with your friends! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/breathein/message

By Marco Ciappelli & Sean Martin Guests: Elizabeth Wharton & Steve Luczynski Maybe I am no longer the person I used to be this morning or that I will be tonight, and the whole concept of identity in our cyber society is not what it was before we fell in a digital rabbit hole. Nothing is what is it is anymore, because everything is what it isn't. You see? No? Then you should have a listen to this In The News episode. For Real. ______________ Learn more about this column's sponsors: BlackCloak: www.itspmagazine.com/company-directory/blackcloak Katzcy: www.itspmagazine.com/company-directory/katzcy Find more In The News stories on ITSPmagazine: https://www.itspmagazine.com/in-the-news

Have you finished the Mandalorian on Dinsey+ yet? No? Then what are you doing listening to this!? Go binge season 1 of and then come back and listen! In this episode, my friend and I review and give our personal opinions on what we felt were the best, and worst elements of the break-out show!

WARNING - V's story is not for the faint of heart, it contains content that may make some listeners uncomfortable. Ready for an emotional rollercoaster ride? No? Then buckle up! Join your hosts Kate and V as they discuss the 'Paul is Dead' conspiracy theory and the gruesome Hello Kitty Murder! Come along for the ride as Kate confesses her deep dark secret as V tries to uncover if John Lennon was the OG Taylor Swift!

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Do you know exactly what you'll be selling next year and exactly how you'll reach all your financial goals? No? Then you don't want to miss this episode! Every entrepreneur needs a signature offer and, if you don't have one yet, now is the time to finally change that. Nailing your signature offer can help you create a 2020 business plan that will finally allow you to have your dream freedom lifestyle. So, take a listen to learn about the three steps of planning your signature offer. Episode Highlights: The importance of figuring out your zone of genius. Why you need to determine exactly how much money you want to make off your signature offer in 2020. What you need to keep in mind when outlining and creating your signature offer.   To learn more, visit the show notes   Get Connected! SweetLife Company: Business Consulting for EntrepreneursSweetLife Podcast on InstagramSweetLife Podcast & Co. on Facebook SweetLife Insiders Community

How does everyone have VHS player? Also we are really skating over Alice moving in with FP? HOW ARE PEOPLE DRESSING UP AT THE BLACK HOOD AND THE GARGOYLE KING?! People died like 6 months ago because of them. Like even as small children. Betty is triggered as fuck, what’s a girl got to do to get some therapy.  Betty gets another prank call, and is so triggered she almost hits Charles who arrives with pizza. Is it weird that he is here now? He offers to trace the calls but when it comes out to be Polly she seems genuinely confused. Did  Charles lie? Also what is the technology of this trace machine. He doesn't pull anything up on the phone? Is it reading him the address over the receiver? File this under Alarming Brother Behavior: Unbeknownst to Betty, whom he’s advised to sign up for the truly adorable-sounding Junior FBI Training Program, Charles has continued to tap her phone calls, listening in as she chats with Jughead. Gross because of this line ““Are you warming up to OUR half-brother?” The flashforward: BETTY AND FP IDENTIFY JUGHEAD’S CORPSE Meanwhile across town Toni wants Jason out of the house. And the fact that she has not left is a testament to the power of Cheryl’s pussy. Meanwhile at Stonewall Prep Jughead is looking for information about the Stonewall Four, like they were going to be called that in the paper?? Donna brings him a cup of coffee. WE HAVE TALKED ABOUT THIS, NEVER ACCEPT FOOD OR DRINK FROM PEOPLE WE DON’T TRUST.  The Nice Teacher pulls him out of the coffin. Are they going to get in trouble? No? Then the teacher was in on it. When he gets back to his room Moose is gone. Meanwhile back in Riverdale Reggie wants to TP Principal Honey’s office and Kevin is feeling a little rebellious and I am hoping he feels up Reggie in the supply closet #GetKevinLaidbyXmas. Principal Honey catches them and Kevin immediately flips. Which sucks but is better than the time he lead Betty to a lobotomy so I will allow it. Plus Honey can really fuck up his life. I do not like how much he knows about everyone. He uses some pop psychology on Reggie who takes it hard.  Reggie’s car is destroyed by Principal Honey, guy's got major creep vibes.  Meanwhile across town Archie and Monroe are worried about keeping the kids off the streets. Veronica suggests a party and says not to worry about costumes, because that is what they were worried about.  Archie takes a knife off a kid and also confronts Dodger, who recognizes him, and I just am so lost following this timeline. Why is Dodger here now? Did he take over the Ghoulies turf? Have the Serpents disappeared.   Meanwhile across town A man wonders in to Pop's to get a home cooked meal - impossible because they are at a diner not a home. Also does this mean Veronica can also cook? It takes forever to heat back up the grill and everything. Don’t give him the whole menu, offer to make him a sandwich. But she makes him a burger He shows off his photo of his family. Why oh Why is Pop’s closed? Halloween is a great night for late night hang outs?? A TV news bulletin warns that a serial killer with the remarkably specific M.O. of forcing his victims to cook him meals before he murders them has escaped Shady Grove. Ruah Ro. The man chases Veronica down into the speakeasy, but she’s not some horror movie victim.  Unclear what happens to him afterwards or if Pop’s burns down in the middle of the night  

I've got a question for you this Monday morning: do you brush your teeth every day? Is it hard? No? Then you already understand how Last 90 Days can change your life (mic drop). Also coming up on the morning show, Rach and Dave answer the question of, "can my 7 year old go on a camping trip without me?" (spoiler alert: no.) Come hang out with us weekdays LIVE at 8AM CST on Facebook and Instagram, and catch up on episodes you missed here! -- Listen, I get it! I spent years struggling to grow and scale my small business, desperate for the knowledge that would help me grow my profit and be a better leader for my team and my family. After attending countless business conferences over the years and speaking at even more I became aware of something that was missing. I wanted to create a business conference that was TACTICAL and INSPIRING. I wanted attendees to leave feeling UNSTOPPABLE and EMPOWERED by all of the new tools in their tool kit. That's why I created the RISE Business Conference. I am positive this conference will be the most impactful event I’ve ever done because when someone learns to successfully grow their business, it changes their lives --and their families lives-- for generations. Over 4,500 men and women have already booked their seats at our last event of 2019, get yours today ---> https://thehollisco.com/pages/rise-business If you loved this episode, you'll also love my two live monthly classes. Life coaching, for those looking to improve in their relationships, health, and personal life, and business coaching, for growing a revenue base, finding new clients, and marketing effectively. Find out more about the coaching community and how you can be a part of it ---> thehollisco.com/coaching

Have you heard of hygge? Yes? Good! No? Then this episode is for you. Even if you know what it is it’s still for you. In this episode I explain: What is Hygge? My simplified definition of Hygge Practical tips for incorporating Hygge into your life   Shownotes: Facebook group Free Say “No” to Say “Yes” Challenge Free coaching discovery call The Little Book of Hygge by Meik Wiking AFF 42: Be You: Helena Woods AFF 32: 10 life lessons from a year of yin yoga AFF 33: All about yin yoga with Alisa Stevens   Connect with me Instagram: @airyfairyfeminist Facebook group Airyfairyfeminist.com

Struggling to win new agency business in order to supercharge growth? Stuck working in the business and unable to step back in order to work on the business? Your role as an agency leader is always evolving as the agency grows. But your #1 job is being an amazing leader and giving your team the guidance and support they need. In this episode, we'll cover: How to win new agency business by building relationships. #1 way to supercharge digital agency growth. 3 tips for being an amazing digital agency leader. Today, I talked with Steve Weiss, Co-founder of MuteSix — a Facebook ad agency. Steve moved to Los Angeles, CA to do standup comedy and instead ended up creating a digital agency. Four years later and he is now running an 8-figure agency with over 130 employees! So, how does a comedian transition to a massively successful agency owner....?  "Did you ever hear the one about the wildly successful agency owner?" No? Then stick around as Steve shares his story of growth, including his top 3 tips for being a better agency leader :) How to Win New Agency Business By Building Relationships As agency owners, we always want to win the pitch and land new business. You get in the room with the prospect and you want to tell them you can handle anything. You're willing to do anything and be anything in order to win a pitch. But that never ends well, does it? In Steve's case, he uses humor (remember, he's a former standup comedian!) to his benefit... It's ok to tell a prospect you don't know how to do something. Be the authority in a specific niche - horizontal and/or vertical.  When they ask for something outside of your skillset, be honest or use humor like Steve. For example, he tells prospects that SEO is like "black magic" to him, but what he's really good at it Facebook ads. And, he tells them his agency crushes Facebook ads; there's no one better at Facebook ads. His honesty and a bit of humor builds trust and creates the foundation for a relationship. In fact, it can be the secret to winning the pitch. If you're candid with them, they're going to respect you more for it. We can all smell a sales pitch from a mile away. So can your prospects. When you start bragging, they know you're desperate for the sale. Be truthful, honest, and win business with ideal clients who appreciate who you are. They'll believe you when you tell them what you're actually good at. So, instead of trying to convince clients you're "full service" even though you aren't, think about flipping the script. Be honest with them. And, use that honesty to form a great relationship. #1 Way to Supercharge Digital Agency Growth Want to know the secret to accelerate digital agency growth? You can't do it alone ~ you need a team :) Empowering your team is one of the easiest ways to achieve fast growth. If you hired right, your team is filled with skill and talent. You want is to be the smartest person in the room. Hire people who are smarter and better than you are and reap the benefits of supercharging your agency's growth. Believe me, if I would have been the smartest person at my digital agency, we would have never gotten anywhere! Steve says to give your team some room to grow and dominate projects on their own. And, always put your team ahead of revenue. Clients come-and-go. Good team members don't. It's hard to find people who fit into your culture, understand your vision, and have the passion to create results on their own. Your team is your biggest asset so treat them as such. Being a leader isn't all about you, your agency, and your vision... It's about providing opportunity and a pathway for growth and fulfillment. When you're a great leader that alone can be fulfilling for you. It's a win-win. 3 Tips for Being an Amazing Digital Agency Leader 1. Lead by example. Don't tell your team how to win, show them how. As a digital agency owner, all eyes are on you. Yes, it can be stressful, but leading by example is a good way to empower your team. Recognize your team's strengths and make sure you're continually developing those, rather than focusing on their weaknesses. Let your team shine by showing them how to become even better. 2. Don't try to please everyone. Don't be the people pleaser. You have to know when to say no. And you should always be willing to bring up issues with your team. Try to be friendly and have fun with your team, for sure. But, at the end of the day, you still have to be respected as the leader and not just another guy or gal on the team. 3. Learn how to fire. You should never have to motivate an employee. It's ok to inspire them, but motivation needs to come from within. Share the vision with them to inspire. Show them how they're part of something bigger and how their role creates a residual effect on clients and your clients' clients.  That's inspiring! But if you've got someone who needs constant motivation, then it's probably time to fire them. It's not as hard as it sounds and eliminating dead weight will actually benefit the rest of the team and the overall culture.

Here comes the brides. Hope and Emily try their hands at wedding songs. Would you walk down the aisle to this nonsense?  No? Then write your own wedding song! And send it to us!

Tokyo is a weird place. And the dating culture is even weirder. What about Japanese men and dating? Well, let's say it like this: I would be happy to find a Japanese man who is actually dating. Most of the guys I met never had a date, look to the gound when they see a beautiful woman walking by and play video games. Oh, and they visit huge sex shops. Do you want to be a 32-year-old virgin who never had a date? No? Then do something about your situation: https://www.globalseducer.com/rise-of-the-phoenix/ 

You think your job is awesome? Ever handled a red-tail hawk? Or given a bird of prey a pedicure in your bathtub? No? Then you probably suck...or not. Why are you getting validation from a podcast description anyway? What definitely doesn't suck is North Sky Raptor Sanctuary and the good folks that operate it. Check them out and support them at https://www.northskyraptor.org/ and https://www.facebook.com/NorthSkyRaptor/

Think of the biggest mistake you've made on the job. Did anyone leave in an ambulance? No? Then it's likely my next guest, Matthew Harrison, has your story beat! Akin has a different guest join him on each episode, and together they put to rest the foul memory of a past incident the guest didn't handle well. Join us every Tuesday for a celebration of idiocy, calamity and naivety!

On our pilot episode of our podcast where we trash on pilot episodes, Alex and Spencer decided to go big instead of going home. Right out of the gate the dorky duo put Buffy the Vampire Slayer (1997) in their sights. Alex, having only recently completed her first watch through, twisted Spencer to catch up with modern times. For the record, it's pronounced Hells-mouth not Hell-smith.Spencer contributed Reaper (2007) as his monster of the week pick. Despite him being a wee babe he had seen this cult gem before Alex. In case you didn't know, Reaper is a show about grim reapers. That clears things up right? No? Then go on and hit play!Theme Song: "Astronaut" by The Spin WiresThe Infamous Food Fight!First is a No Show Radio production. Mind your ears as we unpack the unusual. This podcast is powered by Pinecast.

Wanna see the full rotational range of my hips? No? Then knock please.

What is it you're focused on right now? What is it? It's also your outcome... Is that the outcome you seek? No? Then change the focus that will result in that very same outcome.

Rise to Thrive Podcast Episode 8: Why Things Don't Have to Be Hard Go hard or go home. No pain, no gain. No mud, no lotus.  As humans, we have a certain attachment - perhaps even addiction - to the thrill of resistance.  Have you ever noticed yourself saying, "I know it's going to be really hard, but..." or "It won't be easy, but..." or even simply relishing in your moment of wallowing or complaining? No? Then this is not the episode for you. But for the rest of us humans, we move through life often expecting things to be challenging, frustrating, or just plain hard. And often, we get exactly what we expect.  Here's the catch: What if we expected things to be fun and easy? Is that, then, what the universe would serve us on a silver platter? In episode 8, we explore this idea and share our own experiences in reframing situations through a lens of positive expectations - and some pretty badass results from doing it! If there's any area of your life right now that feels stuck, something that just feels so dang hard, this episode is for you. Prepare to have your mind blown and circumstances shifted with the magic of a few simple words.  Changing your life is fun and easy.  Book Club Selection of the Week: Feminine Genius by Liyana Silver  This book is a life changer and game changer for women. If you feel like dealing with life's challenges, your emotions, and limiting beliefs has kept you in the place of "things are hard," then you NEED to read this book. It will teach you how to grow through pain, ground in presence, and tune into the magic of desire and pleasure. We are OBSESSED! Highly recommend that you grab a copy right now, so you can find more ease and flow in your life in exactly 2 days (thanks Amazon prime). >> Shop on Amazon

What is the white knight syndrome? Well, let me ask you something: Have you ever been in the situation where a guy comes up to you and tries to rescue the helpless girl you try to pick up by unsuccessfully convincing her that you are bad for her? No? Then you are not yet a Global Seducer. Every successful seducer faces white knights...constantly...they are like cockroaches. And rising like a Phoenix above them is the only antidote: https://www.globalseducer.com/rise-of-the-phoenix/ 

Happy New Year!  I'm starting a new segment of this show called Dumb AF Quotes...  Calling BS on all of it LOLOLOL..  Anyway, have a great day and listen to this episode while sharing it with your friends. Also, come see me do stand-up comedy. And follow me on all my socials. IS there anything more I can ask you to do? NO? Then enjoy this episode.  It's fun.. So, listen, subscribe, rate and review.. --- If you enjoyed this, SHARE IT! Tell your friends. Come see me at Wiseguys Comedy Club in downtown Salt Lake City, UT on Wednesday nights OR at Funk’n’Dive Bar in Ogden, UT on Monday nights. Check this link below to leave a rating and review, follow on all socials and engage online. linktr.ee/grabthemicpod

Have you ever seen Nicolas Cage make a phonecall while wearing plastic vampire teeth? Have you seen him shout and gesticulate his way through the entire alphabet? Have you seen him literally say "boo hoo" while crying? No? Then you certainly haven't seen Vampire's Kiss, which is in the running for "Cage-iest" movie of all time.

Have you ever seen Nicolas Cage make a phonecall while wearing plastic vampire teeth? Have you seen him shout and gesticulate his way through the entire alphabet? Have you seen him literally say "boo hoo" while crying? No? Then you certainly haven't seen Vampire's Kiss, which is in the running for "Cage-iest" movie of all time.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's another new episode! The 26th one, which of course means it is 13 times better than Episode 2. Which of course, was a pretty good episode. But only one thirteenth as good as this one. It's simple math, folks. Or maybe you think the Earth is flat and the Zapruder film was directed by Stanley Kubrick on a soundstage on the actual Moon. No? Then clearly you have now been persuaded to listen to this episode. Or one of the other ones.

Did you vote? No? Then what the hell is wrong with you! Go now! Then, once you’re done voting you can settle back and listen in to the glorious sounds of our Election 2018 special! Harmon did an excellent job of piloting the Presidential Time Portal (tm) to take us back to December of 1983 when two great titans of statesmanship met for the first time - President Ronald Reagan and Rocky III/The A Team star, Mr. T! Yes, this really happened! Mr. T was at the White House playing - believe it or not - Santa and helping out First Lady Nancy Reagan with her Just Say No to Drugs campaign (of course, this was at the same time when the US Government was importing cocaine from South America but we’ll leave that for another podcast). So step into the voting booth and back out again into the world of 1983 with today’s edition of This is the President. Harmon and I will also be discussing some of our predictions for the election and what the outcome could mean for the future of the United States - and the world, the inner workings of the Mr. T doll by Galoob, Rocky III vs. Rocky IV, and, in keeping with the spirit of election day, reading reviews of Trump products on Amazon. This episode is brought to you in part by Blinkist.  Blinkist is the only app that takes thousands of the best-selling nonfiction books anddistils them down to their most impactful elements, so you can read or listen to them inunder 15 minutes, all on your phone. Get started with a FREE seven day trial. along with a 25% discount, for Blinkist today, by clicking here!  This episode also brought to you in part by Plowdypod - the think tank that answers the questions that nobody asked, like “Would you rather be Trump’s wife or Putin’s mistress?” Check it out and subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts. And last, but not least, this episode is also sponsored by Words Over Chair Productions and Comedy History 101. Like This is the President? Why not  subscribe to the podcast over at iTunes! Hey - and while you’re there, leave us a comment or rate us! Don’t cost nothing!

If you meet someone at beer bust, they might bust your Pilates machine! Plaintiff is a pilates instructor and spiritual advisor. Defendant is a doll collector. Clearly, this wasn't going to go anywhere for the long term but thanks to Defendant's abuse of Plaintiff's pilates machine, they are spending more time together in Judge Jackie's courtroom! Is achieving long, lean muscles worth it? Listen and find out! This podcast is brought to you by our patrons. Are you a patron of the podcast? No? Then get on that ish! www.patreon.com/judgejackie

Have you seen this movie? No? Then stop and go watch it. You DESERVE to see it before you have us spoil everything for you. I'm not even gonna write a funny bit here. Just go check it out! Do it! You will NOT regret it! Much love, AJ.You can find us on:Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/evacstation/postsYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/EVacStation Pippa: https://shows.pippa.io/after-credits-castiTunes: https://goo.gl/YMAA3JGoogle Play: https://goo.gl/8JvLqUStitcher: https://www.stitcher.com/s?fid=212602&refid=stprInTune: https://goo.gl/Wq8m5QAnd on Podcast Addict!Review Score Guidelines:https://www.patreon.com/posts/review-score-20058130You can reach out to us on:evacstation@gmail.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/E-Vac-Station-502248993120726/Tumblr: http://e-vacstation.tumblr.com/Twitter: https://twitter.com/E_VacStationTab for a cause: https://tab.gladly.io/?u=AJWaseskukAny comments, complaints, questions or feedback should be directed to evacstation@gmail.com. Thank you for watching/listening and we'll see you after the credits. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Do you chronically say yes to everything? Are you afraid you’ll hurt someone’s feelings if you say NO? Then this episode is for you!

Build a website in just 5 days (even if you're not techie) at www.free5daywebsitechallenge.com Already have a website? Take the Free "Jumpstart Your Website Traffic" marketing mini-course at www.jumpstartyourwebsitetraffic.com Leave a Review! In Episode 83, I shared with you that I got out of my comfort zone of introverted aloneness to attend a conference, and in this episode I want to dive a little deeper into what it can look like to get out of your comfort zone not only in your business but also personally and how those things can blend together to work to your advantage. 5. CONNECT WITH YOUR PEOPLE THROUGH STORIES It’s not enough to just give away information, you have to share who YOU are. That’s the only thing that’s going to set you apart from the other blogger that blogs about the same things you blog about. Your experiences will connect you with others who have had similar experiences. Jenna Kutcher does this by sharing body-positive photos of herself and talking about mac and cheese and her dogs. Amy Porterfield has started sharing deeper, personal things like how she’s ashamed of her weight and that’s why she doesn’t like to be on video. Guess what? I listened to enough marketing podcasts that I loved, and I had no intention of adding Amy Porterfield or Jenna Kutcher’s podcasts to my library. I mean, who has time for more podcasts. Until… They both talked about something on social media that I struggle with. Something that I know holds me back – how I’m ashamed of my body and how it looks. And that humanized both of these majorly successful women for me. It showed me that I don’t have to be that perfect version of myself that I have in my mind to be successful, I can just be me. And that made me subscribe to their podcasts and ultimately turned me into a paying customer of both them. What this means for you: It’s easier than ever to stand out in a crowded online world when you share your story.The reason why you started your business is very different than the reason someone else started the same business. Where does your passion come from? Tell people about it! You don’t have to pretend to be an expert or have it all together. People respect you more if you’re real. So be real. 6. VIDEO IS STILL THE FASTEST WAY TO BUILD TRUST ONLINE There’s nothing quite like seeing someone’s face, looking into their eyes and hearing their voice for you to decide if you like them. Right now, only 35% of people are using video to connect with their audiences – and just like the blogging fundamentals, most people just won’t do it. What this means for you: You have an opportunity to stand out and actually make this thing into a profitable business if you just start doing what most people won’t do – which is put themselves out there on video – whether it’s live or not. Like Jenna Kutcher said, “Be real, not retouched.” Think about this: Do you expect your ideal clients to look a certain way? Do you expect them to always have makeup on with the perfect outfit and hair? Do you expect that they should look 20 years younger than they are? Do you expect them to never stumble over their words or be nervous? No? Then you don’t have to be perfect for them either. They just want to see you for who you are and get to know you. Start making videos. Listen, I know. It’s way easier for guys to just pick up their phone and go live. I look like a totally different person when I wake up without makeup on (okay, let’s be honest, yesterday’s makeup on), and that’s just not how I want to be seen online. 7. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE If you don’t know who Jenna Kutcher is, check out her Instagram. I was scrolling through my feed one day and I see a photo of her in a bathing suit, and my first thought was, “Why am I hiding?” I don’t have the body I think I’m supposed to have, so I don’t wear bathing suits, or shorts or skirts. But it goes deeper than that. I’m not X, so I can’t Y. I’m not good at public speaking, so I can’t give that talk on SEO to bloggers in Austin. I’m not an expert, I can’t blog about that. I’m not outgoing, so I can’t go talk to that person. Here’s what I’ve decided to do instead. When an opportunity presents itself that makes me super uncomfortable, like physically uncomfortable, I have to do it. I was invited to speak at Thrive Creative Conference in front of real live human beings, no hiding behind a laptop. I said yes, and then I stressed out about it for two whole weeks beforehand (ask my husband Floyd how fun I was to be around two days before I left). And my heart was pounding, my voice was shaking and I kept hitting the wrong button on my slides, but it was amazing and I will definitely continue to speak to in-person groups. I saw Jenna Kutcher’s talk at Social Media Marketing World, and I felt super nervous about going up to her to thank her for being an inspiration. I almost walked away, but then I didn’t. I got in that line, I hugged her, thanked her and got a photo with her. Instead of leaving the conference and going straight to my hotel for yoga pants and room service, I asked the girl next to me if she wanted to grab dinner. Instead of skipping the networking party because I was tired, I went with two people I had just met that evening – and it was actually fun! Instead of skipping the huge line of people waiting to get a photo with Amy Porterfield, I waited. And I was nervous to share with her how grateful I was to her for sharing her insecurities – but I did it. Instead of not asking a question in Steve Chou’s session because I had to go up to a mic and ask it in front of 300 people, I did it. And I’m glad I asked because I would have implemented his strategy a little wrong! What this means for you: When you start to do the things that make you uncomfortable, opportunities open up. It can’t all be done alone in a vacuum, this online business thing requires other people and relationships to make it work. All of those actions I took to get out of my comfort zone – those were little seeds that I’ve planted and who knows what they will look like when they sprout? And conferences are a great way to meet people that have similar interests but a totally different perspective than you – and that opens up a whole world of possibility. Yes, it’s an investment to attend a conference, but you can start locally. Find something within driving distance so you don’t need to pay for a flight and hotel. Then make it a goal in 2019 to travel to a conference and meet some people in real life, and really stretch outside of your comfort zone. 8. DON’T QUIT The final takeaway I want to leave you with is this: Don’t quit before you’ve really gotten started. Mark Manson told a story about how Pat Flynn almost shut down Smart Passive Income because he wasn’t getting any readers. Green Smoothie Girl shared how the first couple of years she made no money because she didn’t know how, but she kept going. No one at this conference is an overnight success, and everyone has made mistakes and had a windy road to success. What this means for you: If you’re 3 months into building your website and you’re still trying to make it perfect, please stop. Make sure you have a freebie set up and please just start blogging and connecting with people online. Perfection is a myth, a lie designed to keep you in your comfort zone and stop you from doing great things. Just start, master the fundamentals and please, don’t quit. Because everyone else will quit, and when you do what others aren’t willing to do, that’s when you’ll finally find success. So if you’re ready to get over your fears and get started building your dream business online, click here to take the Free 5 Day Website Challenge with 5000 other people overcoming their fear of tech to make their dreams come true!

In this short epsiode magican & speaker Victoria Mavis tells you a littl magical story to inspire you for the weekend to think a bit differently about what you will do tomoror and the next days. Did you even know that you have a magic bank account? No? Then you should find out about it. Introducing in this episode that you as a listener are invited to become a patron - a crowdfounding member to the PURE MIND MAGIC podcast. With your help the show ill get better and of course magic bonuses are waiting for you as well as special live events you as a Patron will be invited to. Just hit the green button. Even every small amout will help to get a better quality and improve the show with new guests. Thank you so much!   Get your free Audio book and support PURE MIND MAGIC:  http://affiliates.audiobooks.com/tracking/scripts/click.php?a_aid=5b3f47b733d4a

Are you using the energy mirror technique to make sure your podcasts are consistent, engaging and on-brand? No? Then you better take a good look at yourself and your podcast. The energy mirror technique is not a random word jumble as you may have guessed if you heard my last episode. (There really was a brilliant idea scribbled on that dried up sticky note!) This technique is used by some of the best broadcasters in the biz. It’s primarily for podcasters who interview guests on their show. It’s particularly powerful for podcasters because often we can’t see our guests as we interview them - and more importantly, they can’t see us. And, when we only have audio to go off of, we can sometimes miss important cues. This is when the energy of the show suffers. ‘Energy’ is a critical part of your show - it can inspire listeners to sit up and pay attention or it can make them tune out (or turn it off). You want to make sure your show’s energy is doing the former and not the latter. That’s why it’s important to be consistent with your energy from episode to episode (and even from beginning to end). This can be a challenge with guests because you can’t control what they bring to the table. Or, can you? You guessed it -- energy mirror. Find out more about what this is and how to use it. We’re talking about a technique that will take some practice to master but when you do, your podcast will sound better, your audience will love you more, and you’ll be a kickass podcast ninja! Stop reflecting on this - click play now! Want some first hand advice on how to use the energy mirror and so much more? Grab my 30-Days to a Better Podcast coaching package. I guarantee you’ll love how things look (and sound) when we’re done.

Remember that episode of The Office where Jim and Pam hid in the woods from noise cancelling monster demons? No? Then you must have watched A Quiet Place like we did. On this episode, we ask the burning questions, “What about noisy poops?” and “At what point do you leave it all behind and live next to a waterfall?”

You like knock-knocks? No? Then skip over this podcast. But if you do like 'em, then this is the place for you. Not only does Harry have like a million knock-knocks, but Steve plays with Jay Ungar and Molly Mason from his Scholastic album, "The Riddle Kings Riddle Songs." There's also a live segment from Steve's first CD where Harry wrecks havoc with one particular knock-knock joke. In other words, a good time is had by all. 

Remember the days of typing tests and when your words per minute score was kind of a big deal? No? Then listen up. Yes? Take a trip down memory lane. PLUS find out why Mark Zuckerberg is indeed a reptilian overlord. http://techgirl.co.za/2018/04/13/zucks-repitilian/

Katrina Ruth: Oh, nobody's there anyway, it doesn't matter. We can just pretend, nobody's there. Marlene Leslie: You say that to all the girls Katrina Ruth: Huh? Marlene Leslie: You say that to all the girls Katrina Ruth: Hang on, we have a problem, we have a lighting issue. Oh! Look how much more fabulous we look. So, we'll give people a moment to jump on. We'll share this stream over and tag you in properly. Katrina Ruth: Hello people who are not there yet but who are going to be watching this as a replay. Look at this fabulous, mysterious guest who I have here with me. She has some important things to share with you. I'm not sure you're going to like them though, 'cause she's been referred to as, what was it? Kind of aggressive? Marlene Leslie: Aggressive and intimidating. Katrina Ruth: I mean, who would want an aggressive woman on a livestream, I don't know what that would be about. Is that better lighting? Katrina Ruth: It's not really making a difference Katrina Ruth: Um, okay. Hi Tamara, hi Katherine. What's been happening? I'm glad you asked, Marlene and I, this is Marlene Leslie, I'll tag her in. Marlene and I have been at dinner and we were kind of rudely having a conversation all to ourselves and now we, 'cause we are kind, nice people, decided to share it with you. That's roughly what happened, isn't it? I suppose you could also say that I somewhat bullied her into leaving the dinner table and coming home to have a livestream conversation. Marlene Leslie: This is true. Katrina Ruth: Like literally ten minutes ago we were sitting at a beautiful restaurant with wine and food and I was like, let's do a livestream. Marlene Leslie: And you refused to answer my questions. Katrina Ruth: That's true. I refused to answer any more questions until I was on camera. It's roughly how I operate, in a general sense. Okay, who's that? That's not you. Okay, I'm just going to share this over to my page and then we are going to start to tell you some very important things, which you are going to need to pay attention to. So get your wine or whatever you need. If you go to my personal page you can see that I've tagged Marlene in, so you should do that. But not now, because you should be listening to us now. I don't know, do you want to say what we were talking about at dinner? Marlene Leslie: Yeah. We were talking about what it takes to make it in the online space as a coach. Katrina Ruth: As a high level authentic as fuck mentor. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, and being yourself and unapologetically being yourself and coaching people outside of the industry but leveraging the online space. Katrina Ruth: Right, so let's give people some backstory, because everybody loves a great story. Where did we meet? Bali, right? Marlene Leslie: Yes, oh gosh. Katrina Ruth: Oh my god, have you guys seen my happy pants? So, check out these pants. Like, what happened is we went to dinner and I was wearing the tightest skinny jeans in the world and then by halfway through dinner I was like, sitting like this, because they were digging in and I couldn't eat. So I was half wanting to get out of the restaurant so that we could livestream and half so I could get the fucking jeans off. And I'm not sure what's up with these pants but I'm going to wear them anyway. Okay, we got that out of the way. Katrina Ruth: So, we met in Bali. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, 4 years ago? Katrina Ruth: 3 or 4 years ago. And we did many things that we probably shouldn't publicly talk about, so we can't tell you about that but it was fabulous. Marlene Leslie: So the livestream is over. Katrina Ruth: Well, we actually were kind of living or staying together at a mutual friend's villa and lots of different cool people were always coming through and staying at this villa people who want to create their own lives and do lives on their terms. Lives on their terms? At least their own life on their terms. And, I don't know, like we just...there were so many people that came through that villa. Marlene Leslie: Cause we were there for like 3 weeks, or maybe it was 2. Katrina Ruth: I was there for like 8 months but you were there for a few weeks. But there was a lot of people that came and stayed there and I didn't continue to stay friends with, I think just you and one other person. And we just clicked because this solidarity about being somebody who insists on creating life on their terms basically. And then I think we just have reconnected, basically, I mean once or twice a year since then, here in the US. Like, we've been up in Utah together and every time I come here we end up catching up. But we haven't seen each other now since... Marlene Leslie: This time last year. Katrina Ruth: You know, I think the last time we saw each other was in Utah, when we went up the mountain. Marlene Leslie: Oh, that's right. Katrina Ruth: Cause I got the Facebook memories a month ago, it was like February of last year. Marlene Leslie: Oh my gosh, it seems like it was just yesterday. Katrina Ruth: It was so long ago. So we are literally catching up tonight for the first time in over a year. But, like this was such an interesting conversation because obviously, as you guys know, I've built a very successful online business and brand and that's my area and Marlene has so much incredible fucking success in the offline world, specifically around, I mean, why don't you tell like a little bit of your background. Because I was super intimidated by you when I met you. Like, I was like, this women is seriously high level. She frickin' builds hotels, not with her own physical hands but.. Marlene Leslie: I have people for that. Katrina Ruth: She has people to do the building. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, so my background is in hospitality and I started working in hospitality when I was in high school and college and then in New York, my first job was as the general manager of a $20 million restaurant. I actually started out as a manager but finagled my way up really quickly because I was very aggressive and intimidating. Katrina Ruth: The path was just delayed. It's considered an unbecoming personality trait. Marlene Leslie: So they say. Katrina Ruth: But that's exactly what we're here to talk about. Marlene Leslie: So, from there I studied hospitality, worked a lot of notable restaurants in New York and transitioned into the hotel industry and opened a very popular hotel that basically had one of the most notable food and beverage programmes in the city. Then I went on to launch another hotel brand and concepted and came up with restaurants and bars within that brand until about 3 years ago, right before Cat and I met, parted ways with that company, my position was eliminated and I was at a point in my career where I kind of, and you'll appreciate this, I totally manifested that because I wanted out so badly but it was such a great job and it was like having an open chequebook to do whatever I wanted to do and to design and to create what I wanted to within hotels, that I felt that the best possible thing that would happen to me was to be able to have my job eliminated or to be let go in some way so that I could travel and take a year off. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, which is how we met because you were on that travel year. But honestly, like when we did meet I was like, I felt intimidated until I got to know you, which I know a lot people feel about me because I think, and we were just talking about this right before we got the [inaudible 00:07:30], like I think that anytime it's an area that you've got no understanding of and it just feels super vast and mysterious and daunting. Marlene Leslie: Yes, yes, totally. Katrina Ruth: And then you meet somebody who has conquered that, like, I'm like hello, she's opened like multi cagillion dollar hotels and done it all. I'm like, that's, like I have no clue to this day about that world. Why would I? I've never been part of it. To me that sounds insanely high level and like just impressive and daunting and vast. And if you try to turn me into getting a hotel opened I would have everybody livestreaming in no time but I'm not quite sure what else I would do. But there would definitely be wine and I'd get some martinis made and then I'm not quite sure what I would do, I'd probably get sick of everybody and leave 'cause I hate people sometimes. So, you know, like we were talking about this because Marlene mentors and coaches insanely high level executives and leaders in the physical world, not so much the online world. Like the real world, like people on the streets of New York you guys. And I'm like whoa, that's crazy. How do you connect with like an executive of a multi multi multi hundred million dollar firm or whatever it is. Katrina Ruth: But we were talking about like what I do and then Marlene's wanting to come online and basically conquer the online world. Marlene Leslie: I didn't want to come onto this, let's be clear. Katrina Ruth: I have my ways of getting people onto livestreams, it's just what I do, it's a gift, I can't teach it to you. Well, I can, you should join my high ticket sales workshop, it's going live tomorrow. Yeah but, like this is what I was trying to explain, right? Cause you were kind of like, it feels like I don't know how to start and like kind of the conversation we're having is the one that I have with all of my clients and friends also, from time to time, around how do I know if I'm good enough and how do I know if I can do that and how do I do it and what's the strategy. Katrina Ruth: And I was trying to explain, it's just about your perception, right? Because if you go to the top of that mountain and plant the flag and say I'm here and I'm the leader and everybody should listen to me, well you've got to be able to back it up. But it's about realising that you've that inside of you to back it up. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, yeah. That's a good point because there are two very different worlds and that analogy is so perfect in describing like my world versus your world and finally realising what I wanted to do and having those aha moments and having people say wow, you changed my life. That takes your breath away, where you are like, I did that? Actually, like you did it but I was there to support you on that. And I've personally been struggling with how to scale that and how to do that in a really meaningful way with executives and with the people that I really want to work with. It's a super scary world to venture into. Katrina Ruth: Right, and it's about, and this relates to everyone. Like I do not think that there is anybody else who is on this livestream or replay who is going to say that they've opened multi-million dollar hotels. But every single person here has their own experiences, stories, skills, things you've learned, things you've overcome. What makes you credible enough to be a leader alone is that you fucking decide that you are and that you believe that you are. So I said to you, in the Uber I think, what you've got to understand is that just being around you is a value. And then you said, how is that a value? Marlene Leslie: Yeah, I did. I was like, what? Katrina Ruth: Like, how? And I'm like, okay, you can choose to play smaller and think that it's egotistical to imagine that just being around you is a value. Typically, that is what people would say to me, right? They'd be like, it sounds egotistical if I think that I'm good enough that people should listen to me and people should, you know, that I should be able to teach people something or position myself as somebody to pay attention to. Katrina Ruth: It's actually egotistical not to and the reason is that it's not about you, the person who has their own insecurities and doubts, as we all do. It's about the talent and the gift that you have inside of you and if you separate your own self, your own self away from that, will that talent and gift inside of you help people, yes or no? Marlene Leslie: Yeah. Katrina Ruth: Right, so get out of your own way, get the fuck over yourself. It's not about you, it's about what's inside of you. So if you would prevent yourself from putting your work out into the world because you think it's egotistical to imagine that people should listen to you, then what you are actually doing is stopping people from being helped and served and you are making your own human self more important than the message and the gift that's inside of you. So look at it as, what if it was a responsibility to get that message out and to impact people with what you have. And that's what I do and I feel like people will never fully understand how real this is for me, and even people who do know me super well. We were just saying that you know me really well, you know that I'm a natural introvert. We've stayed together, travelled together, known each other for some years now, you know that I'm not the person that people online think I am. Marlene Leslie: Totally. Katrina Ruth: Right? But, it's still a real part of me, it's not fake, it's not made up. It's that I allow it to come out, I access that part of me and I let it out. But when I come online, not always, but a significant part of the time I'm still that same scared little girl whose like, am I good enough, do people really want to listen to this, am I just repeating myself all the time? Am I too rambling, I'm wishy-washy, I'm vague, I'm all over the place or some people who don't like me or what do people think about how I look. Like, all the normal things, right? Marlene Leslie: Absolutely. We talked about this earlier too, about how some of the people that we coach are mirrors to us and this comes up for everyone. It's funny to hear. Katrina Ruth: Like you coach your clients and you're like oh, I should probably do that too. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, that's really good advice, I should listen to that. Katrina Ruth: I watch my own livestream replays, I'm not even kidding. I watch my own livestream replays because I don't know what I'm talking about right now, it's all just whatever comes out. Then later on I'll watch it and think that's good, I'll write that down. Marlene Leslie: But it's true, it's true. You hear the stuff that comes up and then you look in the mirror and you are like oh, how can I possibly coach people on this and help them get out of their own way but yet... Katrina Ruth: Because you understand it. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, I understand it but I think that we are also really sneaky when it comes to ourselves. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, the internal critic, the internal dialogue. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, absolutely. It takes somebody like you or another coach to say hey, by the way... Katrina Ruth: Get out of your own way. Marlene Leslie: Exactly. Katrina Ruth: It's not about you it's about what you can help people with, get over yourself, stop making it all about I feel this and I feel that and what do people think about this and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Instead, make it what if I was committed to my work, my art, my message, my business, my clients, whatever it is. And also, I guess in the end it's just like when you put all your own drama aside, like what we just said, do you know that what you have inside of you can help people. Katrina Ruth: And you had asked me the question, because I said just being around you is a value and you were like, how? And I'm like, because of the way you've lived your life. Like, I never prepared for anything, right? I ran my event here yesterday and it was so fucking amazing, I'm doing San Diego next Tuesday, message me if you want to come. I was saying to Marlene, and the ladies yesterday knew this as well obviously, I don't prepare anything for that. The event started at 11:00 am, from about 10:15 to 10:40 I was taking selfies in the mirror in the bedroom because I had those rose-gold thigh high boots on. I mean, I'm just going to say, it's essential to get a really good selfie in the boots, that was my preparation for the event. Katrina Ruth: But prior to that my preparation earlier that morning was journaling, did some inspiring reading of my books in there that you saw. Marlene Leslie: Shared on livestream. Katrina Ruth: Not in the morning, that's an afternoon activity, thank you. Wrote something online, went to the gym, went to Equinox, went to the dry bar, did a little bit writing or whatever there. So I did nothing to prepare for the event, in fact I literally didn't even prepare for the event until the afternoon before when I got here and I was like, hey I want to run an event tomorrow and they are like that is plenty short notice and I'm like I'm sure you can figure it out. I didn't plan a single note or concept or anything that I would speak about because I knew and trusted that the message for these women would come through me and would be powerful. However, and this was my point around the value of being around you. My fucking preparation was the fact that since I was 11 years old, so for 27 years now, I've been doing personal development and growth work. Katrina Ruth: That was my preparation and my preparation is the way I live my life every single day and your preparation and what makes you credible and what makes you credible, if you know that this is for you as well, is the way you live your life and how when other people are doing whatever the fuck it is that they are all doing out there, which we really don't want to know most of the time, you're growing and you're putting yourself into uncomfortable situations and you're walking away from situations that are not aligned and you are actively, day by day, moment by moment, designing your life purposefully. I think we take that, we forget sometimes that that's not normal. And not that we want to necessarily be like oh, that's not normal, but mostly to make the point that that is of immense value. The way you live your life is of immense value. So therefore, when you open your mouth, literally value comes out. So somebody should pay just to be around you or they can pay, but it depends on what you want to do. Marlene Leslie: Right, yeah. And I think the question that I asked you to that was, how do you monetize that? Like that's the question, there are so many coaches out there that are selling stuff that doesn't seem to be inline with, sometimes I sense a misalignment in what they are saying and what they are actually doing. So you pick up on that. Katrina Ruth: You can feel it. Like give love heart shower if you see on your Facebook feed people who are selling shit where, like actually I wanted to put a post up, I think I've forgotten and you've just reminded me, which was something like hey, stop fucking selling shit that you yourself have no clue about. Like you're scarcely verbal, your desperate vibe shows. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, exactly, exactly. So the question is how do you, like how do you monetize that in a way that is true to you? Katrina Ruth: Is not that. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, is not that, exactly. Katrina Ruth: Well, firstly you know that you wouldn't because you decide to, like you say that and you are like, ick. It doesn't feel good, it feels yuck inside of you. So you consciously chose out of that already. But secondly, it is about you've got to be, I think it's a courage thing, you've got to be courageous enough. KELLY!!!! That's Kelly. Marlene Leslie: Oh hey! Katrina Ruth: What's up! All right, shout out for Kelly. Everybody send Kelly the love heart shower, I think she's at LAX about to get on a plane. Send her good vibes for her flight home. We're sending you wine and happy flight vibes. Miss you. Katrina Ruth: Jenna, hey! I'm reading the comments. Energy doesn't like, exactly Kristine, energy doesn't like, people can feel. Kelly, look at all those love hearts coming in for you. People can feel when you are being real and when you are not being real in the land. Katrina Ruth: So, how you are going to monetize it? I'm like very committed to this cushion. You don't understand how bloated my stomach is right now you guys, it's death. Well, not really, I'm abundantly alive but anyway, I'm very distracted by it. So you've got to get into giving yourself permission to own your greatness. That's the long and the short of it, right? Like, we all do this, I did this for years, one of my key jobs or roles that I choose into and that I love as a mentor is to kind of kick your ass, to not spend years doing it, like I did. Like the whole point of mentoring with somebody like me, for people that mentor with me. Katrina Ruth: Like I'm constantly preaching at my friends because it just kind of happens as well, like the whole point is not just to learn maybe how somebody does something that if you align to their way of doing things but you should be able to save time and effort and money or whatever by saying, okay, this person is like me and they are saying they wasted all this time doing this that means I don't have to waste all that time, I can learn my lesson. I didn't have a mentor like myself telling me to be true to myself and stay the course and follow my soul and I literally took years before I finally gave in to being me and I think everybody takes years in some way or another before they finally give into being them. Katrina Ruth: And what people do and what you don't want to do is people kind of dip their toe in the water, where they try to do the real passion purpose work that's inside of them and they do like some kind of half fake, not fake, but half assed attempt basically, a cautious attempt is a better way to say it. Katrina Ruth: They are like, well you know I don't want to be inappropriate. Marlene Leslie: Or I don't want to offend anybody. Katrina Ruth: Right, I don't want to offend anybody. Marlene Leslie: Or intimidate anyone. Katrina Ruth: That, be too aggressive, be too much, like women like us, this is what they say about women like you, women like me. She's too much, she's too aggressive, she's too loud, she's over the top, don't you think she's a bit whatever. So we learn to tone it down but also it's the not good enough thing comes up again and like I always wanted to talk about the stuff I talk about now and then for years I was like, why would I get to talk about that, what makes me good enough to talk about that and who would want to listen to me. Marlene Leslie: It doesn't matter. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, it doesn't matter. Is it even a thing? Like everybody here has felt this, is my message good enough, does that really matter? And everyday people say to me, I'm not clear on what my message is and I say bullshit. You are clear, it's just that one, you've got given yourself permission and two, you think it needs to be more fancy in order to be good enough. You're like bad cop, that's too vague, that's like not even a thing. Marlene Leslie: I totally believe that. Yeah, it needs to be packaged really nicely and it needs to be perfect and it needs to use all the right words. Katrina Ruth: And have like modules. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, like the right cadence and the right tone inflexion, like all of that stuff. Yeah, absolutely. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, exactly, when actually your true message is the simple truth of, like I have this megaphone exercise that I give all my clients, which is if you are on the balcony, like on whatever floor, but if you are on a balcony super high up and there was like tens of thousands of people below you and you had a megaphone and get one minute and you get to say, hey, don't you understand, this is what you've got to understand about life, this is what it's about, what would you say? Marlene Leslie: I'd say, be you and I've said that for the longest time. Katrina Ruth: Right, and it is very fucking simple and we would all say some version of that, but that's actually the whole message, that's it. And then you kind of like, but how do you monetize that? And everybody says, but that's like come on, everybody says that. How am I going to stand out from the other coaches and how do you turn that into something you would sell. Well, you start to build on it but you don't imagine to yourself that it's got to be something different from that simple core message. My core message is be you, be unapologetically you. But then when I express it I say a few more words than that and it comes out through the filter of my life experience and what I've chosen and what I've done. So there are lessons, there are stories, there are details or elements but the message is just, be unapologetically you, life does not press play, you've can't have it all, do what it takes. Katrina Ruth: Whatever it is it just comes out differently each day. But it's always the simple stuff and in any era of life it's the simple stuff, right? Whether it's health and fitness, whether it's business, whether it's love, anything just comes down to simple core truths. And there is nothing you need to add to that. Marlene Leslie: So do you find that using, how do you relate that message to executives that are very lonely when they get to that point and they want a little bit more substance. They are used to pain, they are used dealing with it being really hard and I'm wondering how you attract those people in on a regular basis? Katrina Ruth: It's about realising that no matter how high level somebody is, they are a person who has their own insecurities, doubts, uncertainties. And actually, what I've found, is that the higher level somebody is the more they really appreciate, and we were talking about this, like real and raw, and typically the higher level somebody is the more that people, in general, are scared to speak to them at all. Marlene Leslie: I see that all the time. Katrina Ruth: Or they are scared to speak in a real way or speak the truth and it's kind of like cow towing or whatever the expression is. And just faking it, essentially. So when you come in and you be that, you just honestly just be your real self, like you said, and say what you know to say. It doesn't matter how impressive or high up the person in front of you is, if you just pause for a moment and check in with your own self and be like, what do I need to say to this person, you'll know what to say. And people, like I've mentored and consulted with people who have even up to multi hundred million dollar businesses and if they don't have significance and meaning connected to their core desires, and often it is something to do with auto-creativity or whatever it is, then they are not happy. Katrina Ruth: And it doesn't mean that they are going to walk away from their whole business and life, necessarily, but when you can start to connect somebody back to what matters to you, what makes you come alive, and just speak to them as yourself, like take away what their title is or their position. Like, for me, in the online world, I have many clients now who are very well known leaders online and some of those clients, when they first started working with me, I was kind of like, are you sure? Do you know who you are? Like, I know I'm doing okay but I was like, really? Such and such person wants to me to be their mentor? And now that's just kind of my client base. Katrina Ruth: But I still feel that way, I'm still like this is kind of crazy. Like, how did I pull this off? How am I getting away with this? Because all I'm doing is speaking my truth. All I'm doing is, I became the person who stopped worrying about whether it was allowed or whether it was okay. And relevant to your question of how do you know how to coach those people? Well you know because you know and if you put aside the idea that you don't know, well then it's going to be a complicated thing. Then you do know exactly what to say. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, so I don't have a problem coaching those people, I want to know how to cull them in. Katrina Ruth: Okay, cool, perfect. So this is exactly what we were talking about at the end of dinner around fuck niching, or however the word is said here in America. I get confused about it. Like screw niching and nitching, both of them. And like demographics and all that bullshit. It's not about that, that's not how you find your ideal clients, right? It's about personality type and characteristics. So you write down, who is the person who I am speaking to. Like, my ideal client is, well most of my clients are women, but that's because I've typically marketed to women, so a woman or a man now, it's a person who is a born entrepreneur, firstly. So I don't believe in entrepreneurs being made. Yes, I'll agree that somebody can become an entrepreneur and build a business, that's not the same as being a born entrepreneur, that's a different kettle of fish. Katrina Ruth: So my clients are born for it, they've always known it, they've always known that they were born for more. They've grown up feeling like they are kind of smarter than everybody and know more than everybody but they probably felt bad about that, because it sounds egotistical. But they just knew inside of them that they were born for more, that they are going to do something extraordinary, they are not going to live the normal life, they are going to create something amazing. They've always had that yearning and that pull and that are typically like the fuck the status quo, black sheep type person who breaks all the rules. Either who was a bad girl or a bad girl growing up or alternatively more like me, who was like a teacher's pet good girl who somehow hacked the entire fucking system and nobody knew that I was always just doing whatever the fuck I want. Katrina Ruth: But I was still like the A grade, good girl student but I never did anything. I just like hacked it and I always just got the result and I was like, it's so easy. Like I'd always get the top mark and I didn't do anything, right? Which is still now, I'm like I don't really do anything, somebody should report me, I don't know what I'm doing here, like I'm just making shit up every day and now people are agreeing to pay me so that I can talk at them when I just wanted them to listen to me the whole time anyway. Katrina Ruth: So that's who my client set has been, they've either been like kind of a rabble rouser and got into trouble growing up or they were like the good girl or good boy who hacked the system and kind of got away with shit and nobody really knew. And then as time went on, they pretty much walked out on every job, they continually started new business ventures or new endeavours or always never finished them and then feel bad about it, like I never finish things, there is something wrong with me, I'm not being organised, I'm not responsible, I'm not reliable. Because that whole time when you are walking away from everything and supposedly failing at everything and quitting on everything in your life, what you were really doing was going more and more connected to your soul and you were like the one person whose smart enough to not stick with something that's not soul aligned. Katrina Ruth: And now that person is like that woman or man whose said that she's too much, too aggressive, over the top, doesn't do it properly, I could go on and on but my point is that's how you cull your clients. You speak to who they are at their core and you don't worry about what their demographics are. My clients spend, as we were saying, I just from early 20s into 60s and even beyond actually, and all walks of life and all types of businesses, as well. Roughly 40%, maybe a little bit more of my clients are coaches, there are many different kinds of people. It's not about what they do, it's not about how they look, what their age is, what their background is, it's about who they are at their core. Katrina Ruth: And then the way to get those clients wanting to work with you is you do have to be doing this, right? Which you are. But messaging and communication of some kind. Marlene Leslie: So like blogging? Katrina Ruth: Blogging, telling stories, writing massive 3,000 word blog posts every single day 365 days a year. No, not really. You don't have to do anything that I do but you've certainly got to communicate, right? Because you want to be that voice where your core clients are like, if Marlene doesn't write another fucking blog post at 3 I'm going to go over to her house and personally sit her down and make her write it. Like, I used to have bloggers that I would follow, which I still do, but I get so shitty, like I'd be curious to know, like on the odd occasion where I take a day off, does anybody get kind of shitty at me? That I didn't post anything? And I know you do because I gets messages about it. People will message me and be like, did you die? Um excuse me Kat, why have you not posted a blog in two days? Katrina Ruth: And I used to be like that. Like you find that person that you are inspired by and you just want them to produce content for you all the time and the way to become that person for your people is to just become that person and do it and be it and then continue to show up for it. So then your ideal clients wake up in the morning and they are like I'm going to go check Marlene's page and see what she's posted or has she done another livestream, because that's food for their soul. Katrina Ruth: So the question would be, not how do I find my clients the question is, how do I just be food for the soul of my clients right now. And the way to do that is so easy, it's literally turn on the camera or start writing and say what's inside of you, zero filter. Like, whatever it is. Whether it's about obvious relevant things. Kristine says, haha, I feel like where's Kat, why hasn't she gone online. I got so much shit last month when I did hardly any livestreams because I was in the hospital and then I was travelling. I was going my branding in LA with Chris and it was quite full on. We were doing these fancy things. And I did like two livestreams in a month, which was so rare for me. Gosh, people were giving me such a hard time about it. Not in a mean way, obviously. But that's what happens when you build up your position as a leader. And you've just got to let it be easy. Marlene Leslie: It's true. I was going to ask you a question but I know what you'll probably say, to the idea of creating content. Like that's a lot of pressure to create content on a regular basis and to first, like find your voice and then secondly, to like own it and do it on a consistent daily basis because you don't want to be that person that's dipping their toe in the water. Katrina Ruth: Right, but you have a voice already. That's the thing to realise. Right? Like, we go to dinner or we go out with a group of people, you're an aggressive, over-the-top, and we did establish earlier this evening, a hilarious person. We agreed that we are both very funny, we established that earlier in the evening. Marlene Leslie: Cheers. Katrina Ruth: But that's who you are, you're like the life of the party person, same as me, that's why we're friends. We would have never stayed in touch after Bali if we weren't that same sort of person, right? So you already have that voice, you have that crazy irreverent personality and also ability to go super deep super fast and experience and knowledge and wisdom. And its literally just let that same part of you come out here, don't separate it. Katrina Ruth: This kind of doesn't make sense because we're all online and we don't go to boardrooms, but it's a good analogy that I came up with a few years ago, which is it should be the same conversation in the boardroom as what's in the bar. Right? Like separate nothing, at all. The irreverent stuff, the crazy stuff, the random shit that's got nothing to do with anything, like even me carrying on about my pants and my stomach at the start of the livestream. That's just me being me but its also me kind of, that was somewhat deliberate of me to do that because I'm conscious of who wants to just sit down and watch a, like what are we going to do, sit here like this, hello Marlene, this evening on the Katrina Ruth show we're going to have a conversation about what it takes to be a leader online but hang on a second, you shouldn't really do that with a top that has holes in it. Marlene Leslie: Let's start this again. Cut! Cut! Katrina Ruth: And you definitely shouldn't do it in like MC Hammer copper pants. Marlene Leslie: Cut! We're going to delete all this, right? Katrina Ruth: Yes. Marlene Leslie: These people on here are all friends. Katrina Ruth: And besides, switch spots with these weirdo [inaudible 00:36:48], like it should be a proper set. Like, do you know what I mean? Like so many entrepreneurs are like, I'm going to make it look like perfect and now I'm going to present my topic, like they are presenting like a grade school paper or something. Marlene Leslie: Did you hear what I said? Like Marie? Katrina Ruth: Ooh. Marlene Leslie: I'm just kidding, I don't want to be mean. Katrina Ruth: Marlene, you're the one who said it. You guys didn't hear that. But you know what I mean? Like, you don't have to find your voice to message online. There is a voice already there, just use the one that you've got. Marlene Leslie: That's a good point, yeah. Katrina Ruth: But all of it, like all of it. That's the missing link. Don't make it like I've got to make sure that I've got a relevant topic that's of value and it's useful and is this a good enough topic and then what are my fucking three key points or something like that. Don't do that. Make it the same as if you would go to dinner and you already go to dinner with high level people and we all actively call people who are thinkers and action takers and success minded and growth minded. And you'd be able to have an amazing, inspiring, entertaining and motivating conversation with them. So just put it here, same thing. Marlene Leslie: What if nobody watches it? Katrina Ruth: Then you keep on going because you've got to trust in the process. That's a good question because that is hard. Like, I can remember my first livestream, it was actually on Periscope. Do you remember Periscope? So, it wasn't that long ago. It was that same year in Bali, it wasn't that long ago. I was Periscoping from Rob's villa but I did the first one like not that long before we met. It went for about ten minutes and after the ten minutes I found out that I had done the whole thing sideways and I hadn't known because I didn't know how to read the comments at the time. And people were like, it's sideways and that was all that the comments were about. And if you would watch it, and I think it's gone now, or maybe it's somewhere on YouTube, who knows, but team probably like downloaded it on YouTube, but I was so nervous and I was so [inaudible 00:38:53]. Katrina Ruth: I was nothing like the savvy, livestreaming entertainer that I am now. Because I've been online for nearly 12 years now, but Facebook Live is fairly new and livestreams in general, but I think when I first started doing them, for ages it was like three or four people getting on, stuff like. Now it's so widely varied, there's 19 people on right now, but this will totally get like several thousand views over the next day or so, and sometimes there are a few hundred people on, it goes quite varied. But either way, make it not about the numbers, make it about the message. And play the long game, right? Like, for real, you feel self-conscious if you do something and nobody seems to be engaging. Or let's say that you try to sell something and only one person buys it. But you've got to look at it like, well imagine somebody said, well I went to the gym today and I don't have abs yet, so what should I do? Marlene Leslie: Totally. Katrina Ruth: I'd be like, um, hello, idiot. Marlene Leslie: Keep going. Katrina Ruth: It's going to take more than a day or maybe even more than 100 days in a row, who knows. Depending on what your goal is, but play the long game. And I think it is about that, it's about being that very rare person that's going to be brave enough to put themselves out there when they do feel self-conscious and when they do feel like, is this good enough. And you put that video out, like you did something terrifying and scary. Tell people about it. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, I mentioned to Kat earlier that I, my coach had me put a video on Facebook to coach a hundred people in a hundred days, which the coaching part didn't scare me but the moment that she said video on social media, my heart dropped and I started trembling, I was like ugh. Like, can I just talk to people? She's like nope, social media, tomorrow. And I was like, holy shit! What? I was like fine, I'll do it. This also came after I had struggled putting my website together and writing my copy and going through this entire process. Katrina Ruth: And letting people know you. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, letting people get to know me and putting my message out there. So I actually asked for this challenge, I was like you know, I really want to be challenged in a way that I can overcome something because I felt really good. Long story short, I did the Facebook video and it was horrifying, it was so scary. The moment that I pressed post I was like, ugh, nobody is going to watch this and I'm going to have to like go into witness protection programme. Like this is going to bomb. Katrina Ruth: I watched it. Marlene Leslie: But the crazy thing about that was that I had a lot of people reach out to my privately that were impressed by my bravery, my courage. Like all of these words that were used and all the support that I got, that I didn't even anticipate, it was amazing and I reconnected with a lot of great people and actually coached a lot of great people too. It was pretty powerful and I got like 1.8k views or something, which is crazy. Katrina Ruth: And that's the thing, like so few people are going to choose to be brave enough to do something like that and every time you are brave and vulnerable and authentic. Marlene Leslie: That word came up a lot. Katrina Ruth: Vulnerable, right. It pays off, for sure. And there is no way to get around the terrifying part though, that's the thing. You've got to go through it but at the end of the day we are all here to create a life that other people don't even dare to dream of. So it's kind of like, at some point you've got to remind yourself that it's not going to fall into your lap just because you were born for it. Nobody is going to knock on your door with a silver platter and be like, hi you were born for it, here's your leader status, here's your dream life, here's your soulmate. I used to think that. Like I honestly thought that. And then when I was like 27 I was like fuck, I don't think it's going to happen, I think I have to do it. Marlene Leslie: You have to work for it, yeah. Katrina Ruth: Yeah! Legitimately, I was like, holy shit. Because when you are 27 you think that 30 is clearly the beginning of the end, right? Like, when you are 27 you are like I'm going to be 30! Life is nearly over! Like, I had a lot of friends and clients who are not yet 30 and I'm like, shut the fuck up. They are like, I'm going to be 30, I'm not a billionaire yet. Marlene Leslie: You'll be just fine. Katrina Ruth: I'm like, just shut up or I'm going to punch you. But I got to 27, I did, and I was like, fuck, I haven't done any of the stuff, I had a whole life planned. Married at 24, kids at 26, millionaire by 30, just your typical normal life plan. I was like 25, I got married and I'm like, I'm on track, I'm sweet. Then 26, I'm divorced, not part of the plan. 27, no clue, bulimia, debt, looking great from the outside, fitness modelling, whatever, like showing the world success, mess. And I was literally like fuck, what am I going to do? Katrina Ruth: Because I was a personal trainer and I was good at it and I loved fitness but I was not in a good place, but I knew that fitness wasn't my life. And it was, it was that thing of going, holy shit, my whole life I've known I'm born for more and I just suddenly realised that it's not going to magically happen. And that's the year that I started my first blog. Marlene Leslie: Oh wow. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, that's why I started. Because I was like, I better start doing something then. And I built my own little homemade website, it was like, website in a box I think it was called, and you pay for it like $100 and you build it yourself. It was a black background with white writing and neon colours everywhere. Marlene Leslie: Shocker. Katrina Ruth: And it was called kickasslifetraining.com. Anyway. But we all went through that period. So you do have to go through that period of putting yourself out there and what if nobody is watching and nobody responds and I fall on my face. I've had way more offers failed than what have succeeded over the years, but nobody knows or remembers about that. And I barely even remember about it at this point. But it is true and it is real. I just think, when I look back at my business journey I know that very few people would put themselves through what I put myself through because they don't have the inner strength and the tenacity and I think that's really what this conversation is about. Marlene Leslie: Yeah. Katrina Ruth: It's not about do you know you've got what it takes, because you know that, you know that, we all know that. It's about do you have the tenacity, do you have the resilience, do you have the inner strength, will you choose it, because it's all a choice anyway, right? Marlene Leslie: Yeah, but I think that its normal to have those doubts in everything that you do. So, do you feel that that inner strength can be built up? Katrina Ruth: Definitely! It's a muscle, the same as we build our muscles in fitness and we build our mindset in fitness as well. I mean, for me personally and you are probably the same, like I take a lot of stuff to this day in my business from fitness. Marlene Leslie: Oh, totally. Katrina Ruth: Like, you know how to push through, you know how to overcome, you know how to go beyond your limits, you know when you feel like you are at your limit so you want to stop but you know that you are actually not at your limit. So I feel really grateful that I had fitness in my life for such a long time because it has taught me so much and I think that it's critical. But, regardless, anyhow, yes it can be built up, of course it's a practise and a discipline and it's basically that moment when you feel like you can't keep going. Katrina Ruth: Or actually, like back in the day, years ago I used to train with professional rugby players and I was always the only female in the gym, because it was part of our management training when I worked in Australia's largest health club chain. And it would literally be like, you think you are going to die, and I still train so extreme and I learned it from these guys, but back then it was beyond. And it was literally like you would be on the floor nearly crying and dying and it would be like hey Kat, are you dead? No. Then get up and keep going. They don't care. Throwing up? Are you dead? No? Then get up and keep going. Katrina Ruth: And I really just applied that philosophy to business. I don't mean, and we talked about this, I don't mean that you've got to work all the hours to make money or burn yourself out and do shit that you don't want to do, but maybe you do maybe you don't, we all have, but obviously what I teach and preach is fall on your knees and that's what I believe. But it's a kind of interesting thing to talk about because I felt, I was like, I didn't do anything, I felt pretty sure that I did nothing, I'd just sit around all day, all I did was yoga and gym, facial, massage, or whatever. Katrina Ruth: But I still actually wrote about 5,000 words of content, including a sales pitch for an entire new programme, and a long blog posts and a bunch of promotional stuff and communicated with 100% of my clients privately. I said to you, I did nothing today, I slept in, I went to yoga, had a smoothie, had a facial, then went to the gym, had another smoothie, then went to the dry bar and then went to dinner. I was legitimately like I had a total bliss day. Katrina Ruth: Now I'm like, hang on, I wrote a sales pitch for a whole new programme, I wrote a 2,500 word blog post, which was really good, I communicated with all of my private clients [inaudible 00:48:57], I responded to my all my team staff, I laid out a bunch of new project stuff and like probably ten other things I can't even remember right now. To me, I'm like I did nothing. So it's about becoming that person whose disciplined and where it's just kind of who you are, you don't think about it. I'm way off on a tangent there. Marlene Leslie: So how do you differentiate between the stuff that you have to do or that you need to do for your business, like a Facebook Live, like obviously that's something that I'm not comfortable with and everyone has their thing. So the Facebook Live versus like being in flow and ease. Katrina Ruth: Okay. This is where you've got to go, is it true that you don't want to do a Facebook Live or is it that you can't for your mindset, because I know who you are as a person, that actually you're the exact kind of perfect person to do Facebook Live and that if it wasn't a new uncomfortable area you'd be having the best time ever. So the way to differentiate is kind of like a gut check. Like, okay is this an aligned action for me, personally, to be taking my business. Do I, at my core, feel that this is right for me to be doing, yes or no? And if yes, do I feel grumpy or scared or annoyed or fearful around it? Marlene Leslie: Yes. Katrina Ruth: Well, too bad because you just said it's aligned, right? Marlene Leslie: Right. Katrina Ruth: But then there are other things where somebody might go, well for me, anything where somebody says really classic internet marketing strategy type stuff, where I always felt, like even before I knew what I know now, that it's all so fucking unnecessary. But back before I really believed in myself, I intuitively felt like I just don't want to do that and what I felt was, I felt a feeling of I just don't really think that I have to. But then I was listening to people who were saying that you do have to, you should. So I was like, okay. Katrina Ruth: It was exactly like I had a coach helping me in the love and romance area and I stopped working with her and I was so grateful for the work that we did and things that I did learn but I had to stop working with her because she kept telling me this is how to communicate with men and like teaching me rules, right? Marlene Leslie: And you immediately want to break them. Katrina Ruth: Right. Well, at my core I was kind of like, oh well, I haven't had results or success in this area and I feel like I don't know what I'm doing yet and I was still learning or something, like I was in a long-term relationship for 15 years straight and all of a sudden you are single again, I was literally like, I don't know what dating even means. Like, I'm not really sure what you do on a date, how do you do that, how do you get a date and then what do you do on a date, right? So then I went and got a coach, or actually had several. Marlene Leslie: As one does. Katrina Ruth: Yeah. And some were amazing for me personally and one or two, it was like what would be said to me, I was like, I guess you're right because you're the expert but at my core what I felt was, really? Like, really? Am I really going to learn like a fucking script to send a message, for example. Like an appropriate way of how you would word things. So, yeah, that's how you know because something inside of you says well maybe you are right because you are the expert but actually, at my core, I just don't believe you. I kind of at my core don't think I have to do it that way and to be honest, if I would have to do it that way that would be bullshit. Because then what is any connection that I form going to be based on? Katrina Ruth: And that's how I felt with a lot of strategy stuff for business. Like I would hear stuff or see stuff on Facebook or people would tell me things, you've got to do this, you've got to do that. And I was like, I don't want to, personally. I just don't want to do that. And the history of my entire life says that if I don't want to do it it's pretty fucking unlikely that I'm going to do it, no matter what I try and pretend. Like, you might say to yourself, you are going to do something and then it's not going to happen. But there is also that part of you that's like, I kind of think I'm smarter than you. So that's how you differentiate. So go to something like Facebook Live, well is that how you feel about it? If so then don't do it. But if you are like, well I think I'm just kind of scared of it and I'm not used to it yet, then that's a whole different scenario, right? Marlene Leslie: Yeah, that's a good point. Katrina Ruth: So then daily, repeatedly, it's a matter of identify those things which you know you would be doing already if you'd gotten over yourself and if you had the confidence and if you were like kind of that next version of yourself and then you just do it, you just choose that you are going to do it. And nobody knows, it's kind of like, I remember changing schools when I was 8 years old and I was like the shy, introverted person that I am, but I remember when I changed schools I was like, well nobody knows that, I can be the cool girl. But I didn't, I didn't like choose to or know how to, I guess. But we're grown-ups now, we know how to show off and allow that confident side of ourselves out, it's actually a choice. Nobody knows. Katrina Ruth: Like I said, when I first met you I viewed you as this slightly scary, intimidating woman and you still are that to many people with what you do and what you achieve. And so am I to many people as well. And then you get to know each other and it's like, oh, she's like me. Marlene Leslie: Normal. Katrina Ruth: We can be friends. Lets do a livestream. Marlene Leslie: Oh god. Katrina Ruth: I don't know, what else are you thinking? Marlene Leslie: I'm speechless. Katrina Ruth: We have run out of speech. Marlene Leslie: I mean, not really. Katrina Ruth: Never. Marlene Leslie: Not really. Katrina Ruth: Well, how you know you should be doing Facebook Live is you are a talking, you have stories and things to say. Marlene Leslie: Oh god, I do. I don't know if I can go public. Katrina Ruth: Oh please. Marlene Leslie: Maybe we can refer to them as "clients". Katrina Ruth: Well, really if we had recorded our whole conversation from the bar and dinner, that's some fucking high value entertainment. Like, you're a storyteller. Like, this is the quietest I've ever seen you in 3 or 4 years. But like this woman is like a pretty fucking out there crazy person. Marlene Leslie: Chatterbox. Katrina Ruth: Over the top storytelling entertainer, life of the party, dominant. All the things that we all are and then you're just on a platform where it's uncomfortable. But you are going to get into it. Tell stories says Kristine. So Marlene told me she's dating two men and then she finished telling all the stories and I'm like, didn't you say two? What are we up to, what's happening, I don't remember anything. Marlene Leslie: We're up to four. Katrina Ruth: The point is, you definitely have things to say and to share with the world and that's who you are in your normal everyday life. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, I just have to get over that fear. I've never had trouble exercising or doing a workout plan or any of that stuff, to me it's very similar, I equate this to someone I work with in particular who has never exercised. It's like, how could you not? Katrina Ruth: Right. Marlene Leslie: Like, how could you not want to go for a run? Katrina Ruth: How is that even a thing? I'm like, how can you get on a plane or go to an event or go do anything. Marlene Leslie: Or people that don't travel. I have friends that won't get on a flight. I'm like, I don't even understand how you live, like how you live your life. Katrina Ruth: Right. So anything that you do that to you is just really natural and automatic and people try to make it out like it's a big deal and you're like, that's crazy. It's all just a choice. Right, like at some point along your journey, even if it was way back when, you decided to be a fit person, same as me. So at some point along my journey I decided I was sick of the fact that nobody knew who I was and I felt like people should know who I am and people should frickin' listen to me, just listen and then pay me for it. So then I decided to be that person. Katrina Ruth: And it really is that you guys. You've got to understand, people are like how did you become so well known online or whatever and I'm like, because I decided to. I just became that person, I let the inner side of me out. I appointed myself. I keep saying this over and over again and so few people follow it though, like one in a thousand, which makes sense anyway because I always say it's the one percent within the one percent, but the ones that do go to the top fast. Marlene Leslie: But it's scary. Katrina Ruth: It is scary, it is scary. Like, I think about my visions and dreams that I've not yet created, like things beyond my own businesses, like other businesses that I want to bring to life and my empire and other things that I desire in my life and it's terrifying. You know that. Like what we talked about earlier, like putting yourself out there and pursuing something where you feel like, am I crazy? Am I just like a crazy person and nobody wants to tell me? Well, people do tell me that. Right? But it's that thing that we all have of like is what I feel inside of me real, am I crazy, am I just like losing my mind? Who do I think I am that it could be like that? Katrina Ruth: The rule is that if you feel it inside of you then it is available for you or it wouldn't come through you. I believe that, I believe that you don't get given a dream that's not your dream to dream. So if it comes through you then it's available and it's available specifically for you, not just in the general sense. And, if you are feeling and dreaming it it's available now, already. Marlene Leslie: I totally believe that. Katrina Ruth: It's not like for ten years away. Even investing in ourselves can be scary as fuck. Of course it can, investing in any sense, not just financially, but energetically, emotionally, with our time. It is. We feel the fear and do it anyway. You know there is that cliché expression, but I feel like it's so true, which is you know you do what others won't so you can live like they can't. Well I'm at the stage now where if somebody comes along and just meets me, they see the product of my decade, two decades, whatever it is if you really go back through all the years of growth work. So people have a sort of perception of me, if they don't know my story or get to know me. And what's actually happened is, I did it, I did what others wouldn't do for many, many years. As every single person here has in different areas of their life and now I do get to live like they can't. Katrina Ruth: Like somebody said, you're living the dream. And I'm like, yeah, I am and I did the fucking work. Marlene Leslie: Yeah, you have. Yeah, that's exactly right because a lot of people expect it to just happen naturally and you read a book on manifestation and you're like, well how come I can't think it and it's appearing in my life. Like there is actually some action that needs to happen. Katrina Ruth: You can, it comes from thought but yeah there's like a lot more steps than that. Marlene Leslie: But you can't just think it. Katrina Ruth: It's the daily commitment and process. I think it all comes from thought, you do think it and that's how it happens but because you think it you become the person. And that kind of speaks to what I was saying where I legitimately feel like I don't do anything. I'm like, all I do is whatever I want all day. I only do whatever the fuck I want all day but then when you reverse engineer it, you're like, I do a fuckload of stuff. For my business, for my clients, for my children, for my health and fitness, for my relationships. I do a lot, but why do I feel like I do nothing? Because I became that person, so I kind of thought it into being part of my being. I did it through journaling as well. Katrina Ruth: Like fitness, right? To you, same as me, it's part of who you are, it's got nothing to do with what projects you're working on or how busy you are or whether you are travelling or whether you are tired, whether you feel like it. So therefore, you can say that it's easy to stay in great shape and to be fit but then of course you do the work. Marlene Leslie: And anytime somebody asks me how I stay in shape, I tell them that I work my fucking ass off. Katrina Ruth: Yeah, you work your ass off but it's easy because it's part of who you are. Like, it's not easy in the physical sense, the easy part is that there's no internal battle of will I or won't I. Marlene Leslie: The decision has already been made. Katrina Ruth: There is no negotiation being made. And that's actually the hard thing, that's why people lose their energy and their power, is not in the actual doing of the work, like whatever you do at the gym or the studio or whatever, the hard part is that conversation in your head, will I or won't I, do I feel like it, what about this, what about that, oh my god. Who has time for that. Marlene Leslie: It's exhausting. Katrina Ruth: It is exhausting. Marlene Leslie: You feel like you've done the work and haven't actually done anything. Katrina Ruth: Right, exactly. So just make it easy by making it part of who you are. You are still going to sweat and push and hustle and grind and do whatever you do. Like exercising isn't like a production, I just do it, it's easy. Right, it's easy because you just do it. Like, I say all the time, things are easier that doesn't mean you don't put the effort in. Marlene Leslie: Right. Katrina Ruth: Cool, we could talk all night. This is how easy it is to do a Facebook Live. You just start having a chat. Marlene Leslie: I just popped a cherry. Katrina Ruth: You popped your livestream cherry. I've taken another livestream virginity. It's not the first, it's kind of a thing. You brought it up though. Like, I might have hustled to get out of the restaurant because I got excited about taking my pants off. Two activities that are not always connected but occasionally. But it was your idea, you said it first. Marlene Leslie: I did nothing about this. Katrina Ruth: You did, you brought it up somehow. And I was like, done, I'm in. And then what you do next is sell something. Do you have anything to sell? Marlene Leslie: Just my teaching. I coach high level executives. Katrina Ruth: Are you a high level executive who needs somebody whose actually not afraid to tell you the truth? Marlene Leslie: Tell it like it is? That's exactly right, yeah. Katrina Ruth: Well that's the thing, right? That's why you do what you do so damn well. Because you are actually willing to say to people's faces what other people won't say. Marlene Leslie: That's true. Katrina Ruth: Connect with Marlene and if you want to come hang with me in San Diego next week I have one or two places left. Message me on my personal Katrina Ruth page if you want to come to my one day soul shifts and money making day in San Diego on Tuesday and stay tuned because I'm going to launch my high ticket sales with ease workshop probably tomorrow. Have an amazing rest of the day, keep pressing play. Marlene Leslie: Bye.

SPOILERS!! SPOILERS!! WE SPOIL ALL THE THINGS!!!Have you ever wanted to have your heart ripped from your chest and trampled before your eyes? No? Then, uh, this movie is not really for you.Mary and Tim are possibly the most adorable each and every time they meet. And it takes a couple times to stick, but luckily, Tim can go back in time. This straight forward love story relies on strong family ties and genuine connection and chemistry to gently, but effectively TRAMPLE ALL OF YOUR FEELINGS!Reach us here, dramamamaspodcast@gmail.com, or @dramamamaspod on Twitter. Share and rate us here, iTunes, Google Play, your own personal blog. We’re not picky, we just want to get the word out.WE’VE EXPANDED OUR EMPIRE!!! You can now find us on Sound Cloud, Spreaker, and Stitcher! Watch out, world!And if you're thinking of taking a road trip to follow Maroon 5 around on their tour because this love has taken it's toll on you, and it's getting harder and harder to breathe, Don't. Adam Levine is ours. Leave that Drama for us, the Drama Mamas. 

Special Episode Coming Up! I always like to do something different for the last episode of the year, and this year I'm going to do an AMA (ask me anything). Here's the thing: for the last podcast of 2017, I'll answer any questions you have, that ARE NOT related to shooting. Go to http://triangletactical.net/AMA Enter your question in that form. Please don't ask your questions in the comments of this post, or on Facebook or anywhere else, as I will not be able to answer them (I can't track down a bunch of different questions in a bunch of different places...) That's it. Should be a lot of fun! Things that Matter I talk a lot on the podcast about things that don't matter. It doesn't matter if you have the coolest newest thing, or if you have a fancy shooting blouse, or even if you wear brightly colored shoes or have a sponsor, but, of course there are a lot of things in competitive shooting that do matter, let's talk about that. Accurate gun I don’t think you need to be able to shoot single hole groups at 50y with your pistol (but it helps), but I do think having a gun that is accurate, maybe even slightly above average accuracy is a good thing. I think one of the reasons the Tango Stock2 has become such a thing in Production division is that on top of being heavy, and reliable, it’s also got a thick bull barrel that’s very accurate. Most guns on the market are quite accurate. When I used to do gun reviews as a part time job, I really only found a couple guns that were inherently inaccurate from the factory. The one in particular that comes to mind was the Ruger SR9E, which was the value version of the SR9. Everything else that I reviewed was very accurate. Traction You don’t need the bright colored fancy shooting shoes, but you do need shoes with good traction. I used to kind of think that you didn’t really need anything special on the shoe front for practical shooting, but the better shooter I’ve become, the more I find the traction thing necessary. If you’re someone who is pushing to get better at shooting, and you’re pushing yourself, get some shoes that have some gnarly knobs on them for practical shooting. Accurate, consistent, reliable ammo For a lot of us who reload, we tend to obsess over the price per round when loading our ammo. Getting things as cheap as possible is definitely a thing, and there are certainly ways that you can save money and not impact accuracy and reliability, but don’t take it too far. You want laser accurate ammo. If you’re switching to a bullet that’s cheaper than what you’ve been loading, don’t sacrifice accuracy. If you’re not reloading yet, and you have not shot your first match, ignore everything I’m saying about ammo right now. You want to shoot whatever ammo you have that is 100% reliable in your gun. If you’re clearing malfunctions all through your first match, you’re gonna have a bad time. Also, if you’re a more experienced shooter who’s not reloading your ammo… yet, you need to worry less about the cheapest thing, and more about the most accurate, most reliable stuff. If that happens to be the cheapest stuff, awesome, but if not, you should get better ammo. Sights that don't suck I see a fair number of guys who are experienced shooters who still show up to matches with the stock sights on their gun. They might have two or three guns that are all set up for competition, but their gun still has the stock garbage sights on it. I’ll tell you, I’ve got the Dawson Precision adjustable sights on my G34 for competition, and I think at this point, they’re a requirement for me. If a new gun were to come out that didn’t have Dawson adjustable sights available (cough M&P cough) I wouldn’t buy one. Q&A: John: What similarities and differences have you noticed between tactical and competition training? If I generalize both communities down do what my observations are both online and in real life, here’s what I see: The tactical community tends to focus more on doing things right, while the competitive community tends to focus more on doing things fast. For instance, if you go over to Instagram right now and look at the hashtag #tacticaltraining you’ll see a lot of stuff that’s staged just for Instagram, but if you sort through it and find the guy that probably aren’t competition shooters, who are actually training to get better, you’ll dudes who could be a lot faster in the way they manipulate their guns, draw, move, etc, because they’re trying to do things a certain way, because someone told them to do it that specific way. Now, there may be a good reason for doing things that way, so don’t take this as me saying that in a tactical or defensive scenario everything is about the speed, because it’s probably not. BUUUUT, this sort of focus on “doing things right” in the tactical community has allowed for some folks who are total goobers to rise to in that community because they don’t ever have to back up what they’re telling people to do, they can just explain it away as #becausetacticool. In competition shooting, it’s different. Our shooting is dictated by the timer. Was your run on a stage/drill/whatever faster and more accurate? Yes? Then it’s better. No? Then it’s dumb. The trouble with the tactical community, when comparing it with the competition community is that there aren’t any rules in the tactical world. People can define things however they want things to be, because realistically almost nobody is going to end up in a gunfight, and those that do, almost none of them get it on film, and there’s no way to replay it to try different things, etc, etc.

Lori Kennedy is the Founder of The Wellness Business Hub, a website that offers health and wellness professionals resources on what they need to know to launch a successful practice. For so many students who recently graduated, they are not equipped with the knowledge of going out there and making their own business succeed. When Lori started her own practice, she made so many mistakes and wished she had a place like The Wellness Business Hub to go to. On the show, Lori discusses why single sessions don’t work for your patients or your business, how owning a business isn’t always for everyone, and so much more!   Key Insights & Aha Moments: *Before we get started with today’s interview, don’t forget I have a new freebie for you! *It’s hard to find other local practitioners who want to collaborate. It’s the scarcity mindset! *How did Lori become a wellness practitioner? *Lori has never worked in a 9-5 office setting. She always knew she wanted to go into this field. *It’s painful to change, so that means the pain you experience has to be so great that it’ll motivate you to find alternative solutions. *Do you want to work evenings and weekends? Is that’s what's best for your lifestyle? No? Then why are you doing it?! *After you get out of school, it’s so hard to make the mental shift that you’re now, also, starting your own business. So many wellness practitioners invested in their craft, but don’t even invest in the business side of things! *If you want to stay at your full-time job and help people for free, that’s okay too. *Starting your own business isn’t for everyone. It takes a lot of self-work. *Unfortunately, it’s not profitable nor is it helpful to only see a client one time. So, why are we selling only single sessions? *What’s your ‘why’ to being a health practitioner? Like, the real why behind why you do what you do? *The only reason why someone doesn’t take action is because of what’s going on inside their head. *Lori has a course on how to create your own signature program without overwhelming yourself!   Mentioned in This Episode: Michellemcglade.com 5 Steps to a Waitlist Wellness Practice — Freebie!! Wellness Marketing Master Class Thewellnessbusinesshub.com Thewellnessbusinesshub.com/maven Thewellnessbusinessacademy.com    

I’LL TAKE IT WHERE I CAN GET IT I See A Victory In This House Series Ezekiel 37 - 11.19.17 Vision of the Valley of Dry Bones 1The hand of the LORD was upon me, and He brought me out by the Spirit of the LORD and set me down in the middle of the valley; and it was full of bones. 2And He caused me to pass among them round about, and behold, there were very many on the surface of the valley; and lo, they were very dry. 3And He said to me, “Son of man, can these bones live?” And I answered, “O Lord GOD, Thou knowest.” 4Again He said to me, “Prophesy over these bones, and say to them, ‘O dry bones, hear the word of the LORD.’ 5“Thus says the Lord GOD to these bones, ‘Behold, I will cause breath to enter you that you may come to life. 6‘And I will put sinews on you, make flesh grow back on you, cover you with skin, and put breath in you that you may come alive; and you will know that I am the LORD.’” 7So I prophesied as I was commanded; and as I prophesied, there was a noise, and behold, a rattling; and the bones came together, bone to its bone. 8And I looked, and behold, sinews were on them, and flesh grew, and skin covered them; but there was no breath in them. 9Then He said to me, “Prophesy to the breath, prophesy, son of man, and say to the breath, ‘Thus says the Lord GOD, “Come from the four winds, O breath, and breathe on these slain, that they come to life.”’” 10So I prophesied as He commanded me, and the breath came into them, and they came to life, and stood on their feet, an exceedingly great army. The Vision Explained 11Then He said to me, “Son of man, these bones are the whole house of Israel; behold, they say, ‘Our bones are dried up, and our hope has perished. We are completely cut off.’ 12“Therefore prophesy, and say to them, ‘Thus says the Lord GOD, “Behold, I will open your graves and cause you to come up out of your graves, My people; and I will bring you into the land of Israel. 13“Then you will know that I am the LORD, when I have opened your graves and caused you to come up out of your graves, My people. 14“And I will put My Spirit within you, and you will come to life, and I will place you on your own land. Then you will know that I, the LORD, have spoken and done it,” declares the LORD.’” (NASB 1977) I'll Take It Where I Can Get It. You either walk inside your own story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness. - Brene Brown Those that find love and belonging are those that believe they are worthy of it. - Brene Brown I'll Take It When I Can Get It. (Worry Diagram Pictures) Do you have a problem in life? No? Then why worry? Do you have a problem in life? Yes? Can you do something about it? Yes? Then why worry? Do you have a problem in life? Yes? Can you do something about it? No? Then why worry? Learn Keith Slay Confidence. When do you get it? Get It From The Future. “ARE YOU GOING TO PASS MY DAUGHTER? There is no joy without gratitude. - Brene Brown It is not joy that makes us grateful. It is gratitude that makes us joyful. - Brene Brown Joy Is Strength. Nehemiah said, "Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength." - Nehemiah 8:10 My Lack Is Not God's Limitation. “Dad…. I can see farther than I can look!!!” A Green Eggs And Ham Attitude.

Garrett and Trask are going along pretty smoothly talking about TNA and Hardcore title matches - you know, the essentials in life - before Trask shockingly reveals that he has never seen one of the most famous matches on Garrett's all time list. Garrett was flabbergasted. It also led to the reveal that Trask has never seen another historically important match. Feel free to judge Trask accordingly. What were those matches? Listen to this episose of Your Taste Is My Taste to find out! (You know you want to, that was an amazing tease - you basically have to listen, don't be a guy who's too cool for cool wonderful meandering podcasts, don't be a jerk like that - do you wanna be a jerk like that? No? Then listen!) https://yourtasteismytaste.com/ https://twitter.com/YourTasteisMine https://twitter.com/garrettkidney https://twitter.com/traskbryant We're available on the Wrestling With Words Audio Network, our feeds -- essentially anywhere podcasts can be found! (At least soon).

First, Housekeeping. We’re actually, really leaving for California in a week! And we’re taking two weeks off from podcasting to get there and attend Podcast Movement. We’ll be back with lots of new stuff and hopefully some good travel stories soon. In the meantime, would you be kind enough to leave us a rating and review on iTunes or Stitcher? We had some great feedback on the Web.Search.Social podcast but those reviews didn’t come with us when we switched to the new feed. We’d love and appreciate your reviews! So You’ve Quit Your Job And Started A Business! Now What? The subject came up during lunch with our business partner Michael last week. Until recently he had a “day job”. A 9-5 work-at-a-desk job. But he had enough freelance clients that he decided to strike out on his own. When he asked us what he should be thinking about in terms of starting a business, first, we poured the cocktails. Then we came up with this list. It’s not an exhaustive list, but put it in the “what we wished we knew” category of stuff we learned. Feel free to add yours to the comments below! 1. Give Yourself A Day To Work On The Business When you’re an employee, someone else makes the decisions. Someone else sets the strategy, for everything from hiring to marketing. But when you’re the boss, it’s up to you to do that. And you can’t do it if you’re constantly in a whirlwind of client work. Set aside a day – not five minutes, not an hour, but a solid day – each week to think about your own business. Plan. Strategize. Put systems in place. Brainstorm ideas. Learn a new skill. Go to the bank with your checks! Make that day about your business, period. 2. Don’t Negotiate With Yourself We’ve talked about this before. And it manifests in a couple of ways. It can mean that you’ve pre-decided the outcome of a conversation. For example, Michael was working with a client and completely stressing out because he was worried whether the client would like the color he chose for the design. And whether the client would like the font. And whether the client was going to ask for changes and what he’d say about that. In the end, the client loved everything. In other words, Michael spent a lot of time worried about something that never happened. On the other hand, you might pre-negotiate your pricing before presenting it to a prospect. You’ll wonder if it’s too high. You’ll tell yourself they can’t afford it. You’ll second guess everything and that’s all before you even talk to the client. Stop! Act and react when you need to. Don’t worry about what hasn’t happened. Have the courage of your own convictions. 3. Follow An Organizational Paradigm That Works For You We’re big fans of GTD. That’s Getting Things Done, an organizational system created by David Allen. It’s based on the premise that your brain is not a storage unit. You need it for thinking and creating and planning. So if you’re constantly trying to remember things, likes dates and deadlines and what color the client wanted, then you’re going to drive yourself nuts, be less productive and probably be miserable. Ralph has notebooks by Field Notes that he loves. And he uses them to capture every thought, idea and note. Then he organizes them into an app called OmniFocus. This works well for him. You have to find your own system. Just remember that your brain needs space to think, so get organized by getting stuff out of it. 4. Don't Get Lost In Apps While you’re searching for that perfect organizational paradigm, just remember that there are a LOT of apps out there. And you don’t need to use or try every one. There will always be something new to try. From CRMs to proposal writing software to project management. Skip the new shiny. As your business grows you’ll probably outgrow apps and need to find something else, but if you’re constantly trying new things then you’re wasting time you could be spending growing your actual business. Pick something. Stick to it. You’ll live. 5. Automate What You Can, Despite Your Feelings About Customer Service Solopreneurs often do everything with the good intention of "customer service." Talking, phone calls, emails, meetings. But more service is not better service. When you talk and write less and save your customer valuable time, that's when they respect you more. Here's an example. When a client needs to have a conversation, what happens? They reach out to you and ask you when you can talk. You respond with options. They tell you those options aren't good. You go back and forth, sometimes forever. A better approach is to automate the process. Use a service that lets you give clients a link where they can see your availability and schedule themselves accordingly. It saves both of you a lot of time. 6. Have Controls In Place When you’re an employee you have a boss. When you work for yourself you have two or ten or fifty bosses, and they’re called clients. But that’s not how it should be. You control how your business runs. You control your time and services. You need to control your clients, too. Set expectations for how you work, when you deliver, when you can be reached, what you charge. In our contracts, for example, we say that we don’t do in-person meetings. If you want us to drive 45 minutes to your office, that’s an extra charge. Don’t set the precedent that you’ll go anywhere, do anything. Don’t answer emails in ten seconds. Set controls and stick to them. 7. Find A Good Attorney Maybe two. That last thing you want to do is be on the hunt for an attorney in a crisis. Instead, find a couple of attorneys that look like a good fit. Ask people you trust and respect to suggest attorneys for you and then look them up online. Interview them. Most will give you an initial meeting for free. Use it! Go to their office because you can see what kind of shop they run and how attentive they are to you. Don't be afraid if an attorney looks too expensive because appearances aren’t everything. But conversely, if you show up and the attorney is late and looks like he or she hasn't showered in a week, then that could be a bad sign. Consider having multiple attorneys. First, some attorneys specialize in specific areas and second, there’s always the possibility that your attorney is also the attorney of an opposing party. 8. Have A Contract And don't hire a lawyer to write one. We started out with a legal contract. It cost thousands of dollars and nobody understood it. We didn’t even understand it. It took forever to close a job because our prospect would want their attorney to review it, then they’d have questions, then our attorney would have to review it again. Instead, use your contract to set expectations in plain English. How you work. What you bill. What you do and don’t do. Add to it as you learn and grow. Besides, if you’re ever in a situation where you want to sue someone because they haven’t paid you and you think the contract is going to help… it isn’t. It’s a lot more complicated and expensive than that. 9. Consider Taxes, Fees And Dues When you were an employee, someone else was thinking about this stuff. Now that’s your job. Taxes, fees, licenses, software, hardware, staplers. All of that comes out of your pocket now. Be sure you understand what your fixed expenses are and get comfortable with the idea that expenses can sometime be out of your control. 10. Get Insurance Period. At a minimum you need E&O (errors and omissions). It’s not that expensive. And it will protect you in the event that something goes wrong. In our business, let’s say we post something to Facebook and a client loses business because we said something stupid and they sue us. Insurance. Depending on what you have or where you work, you may want property insurance as well. If your computers or desks or equipment go up in flames or get stolen, how will you compensate? Insurance. 11. If You Are Too Busy, Raise Your Rates Don't fall into the trap of thinking that the best way to get clients fast is to lower your rates. You may close more business, but at what cost? You’ll have less time to service those clients (and make less money doing it), and you may not have time to work on your business. When you get swamped, you need to do one of two things: stop bringing in new business or make the new business worth your time. Don’t worry about losing clients. You may lose one or two or even more. But that will give you more time to work on servicing the ones you have, the ones that are paying you better. And it will give you more time to work on getting new – and better clients. You don’t want more clients. You want fewer clients paying you more money. 12. Set Pricing If you have to think about what you’re going to charge a customer, you’re doing it wrong. Don't customize your pricing every time. That costs you brain cells and lengthens your sales cycle. It leaves room for negotiating with yourself, and means that you’re probably not valuing your time and talent appropriately. You need a rate sheet or formula. You don’t have to make it available to the client but you need it so that you can determine pricing without thinking about it. If you have materials costs, know what they are so if you have to put together a proposal you can just add them in. Whatever you do, don’t line-item your invoices to the customer! The more line items you show someone the more likely they are to Chinese menu it. They’ll want to know what everything is and then talk about removing things. And you’ll burn time and brain cells explaining and over-explaining. YOU need to know your pricing methods. The client only needs to bottom line. It also saves them the hassle of trying to understand and process a whole bunch of costs. Here’s an example: we wanted to print t-shirts for Podcast Movement. I got a quote for $3 per shirt. It sounded great until the line items started getting added, then my three-dollar shirt turned into twenty. I get it. There are costs. But don’t make me (or your customer) figure them out. Nobody really wants a billion options or line items. They just want the bottom line. 13. Create An Onboarding Process And Stick To It A few weeks ago, we talked about a client that we brought on. That client did not want to follow our onboarding process and we decided to be flexible with him. In the end we both lost. You are the expert in what you do, and your most important priority is to make sure that projects get into and out of your pipeline as fast as possible so that you can churn out happy clients and get paid. If you have to invent a new onboarding process for each client, then you'll never have time to grow your business. That doesn’t mean you can’t modify your process or come up with a new one if the job is worth it. If it’s a great opportunity, and you want the job and the money is there, then go ahead and make an exception. But having a foundation will go a long way to setting expectations and keeping you sane. 14. Have Systems Onboarding is a system. So is invoicing, project management, task collection. If you have to do something more than once then know how you're going to do it. Don't burn brain cells figuring it out every time. While you’re at it, have a system for what will happen to your clients and their stuff if you get hit by a bus. Do you have backups, copies, contingency plans? Can you leave for a day without your business falling apart? Most solos can’t just drop everything and run off to Tahiti for a month, but if you have systems you can plan and work around things that pop up. We’re driving to California so there will be days when we don’t work. We don’t have staff, but we have systems. That means we’ve planned for this trip and our business will continue to run even if we spend 15 hours driving one day or take a week off to attend the conference. 15. Control What You Give Away For Free Would you hand a client a bunch of money? No? Then you shouldn't provide your service for free either. If you want to do something for free – to build a relationship or extend a courtesy – then go ahead. But doing free work for a client that bitches and moans at you all the time ends up looking like an apology. Your time is valuable. Be selfish with it. But if you do want to be generous with your time, do so for the mutual benefit or your relationship and not because you feel guilty or pressured. And by the way, one of the most valuable things you can get is a referral from a happy client. Unless you’re doing free stuff for that client and he refers you to a friend as “that cheap guy who does free stuff.” Those are not the kinds of referrals you want, nor can they sustain your business. 16. Don't Over Deliver It’s sort of a cliché at this point. “Under promise and over deliver.” Well, I say no. The more you do and the more available you are, the more it becomes expected. Then simply doing your job isn't good enough anymore. Follow the schedule you set. Follow the expectations you set. Deliver exactly, precisely what you promised. You CAN over-deliver but do it with intention. Maybe you particularly like someone or you feel compelled to help them out. Maybe they’re a potential source of good referrals. But be selfish with your time. Do what you say you’ll do. There’s no rule that says you have to do more. You can still do a great job and be ethical without going overboard. You’re not in business to be a martyr. You’re in business to make money. 17. Participate In A Mastermind Or Get A Mentor There’s a business adage that says, "Always be the dumbest person in the room." Or maybe just not the smartest. You want to be around people who can help you grow, who can teach you from their mistakes, who have value to bring that elevates you and your business. But you must give value in return. Getting in a good mastermind is not easy. You can’t expect to be the only one learning so you need to bring your A-game. If you're just getting started and you can't find a mastermind, find a mentor who will be willing to advise you. There are plenty of organizations that provide free services for new business owners, online and offline. Learn from the mistakes of others. You have a lot to gain. 18. Take Care Of Yourself At work you'd quit at 5. At home you'll work all night. You need breaking points or you won't be productive. Your mental health will suffer. Your physical health will suffer. You’ll be less productive. The more you do, the less you get done. Your brain needs time off. So spend at least as much time taking care of yourself as you do taking care of your business. Or, as Ralph says, exercise, eat right and drink a lot of mojitos. 19. Read More Books Consuming fresh ideas is a great way to stimulate your own ideas. The trick is finding the right books to read. We'll put a few recommendations in the show notes, but in general, stick to books that you love, books that you can relate to, books that speak to you and help you. Don’t get caught in the trap that once you’ve started a book you have to finish it. Your time is valuable. Be selfish with it! 20. Treat Your Business As A Job If your new office is at home and you’ve got kids or a family, someone is bound to ask you to do something during the workday. Take the kids to soccer, pick up the laundry. Even something as small as, “What do you think of these blue curtains?” can seem like a harmless conversation but it sucks your time up and takes you away from your job. People who have a job leave their work at work. Solos don’t always have that luxury. It’s important to set boundaries around your time and space. Your family may not get it. So it’s your job to help them. Let them know that you’re working, that you’re not “home”. Let them know what to expect from you and your time. Make compromises. Work out days and times and responsibilities with your family so everyone is on board. Then, when it’s work time, they’ll know what that means. Conversely, when it’s not work time then you need to detach and be present with your friends or family. 21. Control Your Business. Don’t Let The Business Control You. A lot of people walk around reacting from thing to thing to thing. You can't ask them to lunch because they are always tied up. They can't take your call because they’re always behind on something. This usually happens when the business, and more specifically your clients, are making demands of you. If you don't process those requests effectively, you'll always be chasing time you never seem to have. Schedule your time. Know what you’re doing and when. We used to take Tuesday afternoons off to see a movie. It was just part of the schedule. If you’re constantly running and jumping at demands, then the business will control you. 22. You Don't Need A Social Presence. Grow your business, not your “presence”. It’s a myth that you need to be online. Plenty of businesses do very well without a Facebook page. Retweets don’t pay the mortgage. Likes don’t get your book published. Comments on your blog don’t help you finish that project. If you do engage in social networking, choose your channels wisely. If you get an influx of business from LinkedIn, designate some time to network there. Just forget this idea that you need a “presence”. You need to be present to your clients. Not to random person on Twitter. Start with the premise that you don’t need to be online. Then if you choose to be, do it with intention. Have a system. Have a schedule. Have a reason. 23. Learn To Say "No" New business owners are so afraid of losing new work that they instinctively say "yes" to everything. But you have to take on the work that is in the best interest of your business. Recently, we gave a client some prudent advice. They chose not to follow it and the project exploded in their face. They came back to us and said, "Hey we're in a pickle now, please help fix this…" And we said, "No." Not because we didn't want to help, but because the “fixing” part wasn't in our area of expertise. It wasn’t going to be personally rewarding. It wasn’t going to be profitable. Not to mention the fact that we had advised them to do it right tin the first place and they chose not to. Sometime opportunities are just distractions in disguise. And That’s A Wrap! If you’ve got other ideas, or questions about anything we’ve talked about here, let us know. We’re happy to continue to conversation. We’ve been in business for nearly 20 years and have a learned a lot, and a lot of it the hard way. Maybe we can make it a little easier for you! Links Learn more about the GTD system Read one of our faves, Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown Or this one… Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success In A Distracted World by Cal Newport Leave us a rating and review on iTunes …Or Stitcher Check out OmniFocus, one of our favorite productivity apps See if you love Field Notes notebooks, too

Welcome back to the best podcast in the world - Just The Tips. In this episode Dean and I chat with our friend Bryan Bowman who’s possibly the most cheerful and sarcasm-killing guy on the planet. He kept Dean and I so focused on his amazing insights that we lost all track of our natural bent toward sarcasm. Bummer. That could have been fun! Bryan shared about the difference between business principles, business strategy, and business tactics and showed us why getting this wrong can limit business profits. Confused yet? You won’t be after you listen, so cue it up and get started. Business tactics are the fun, cool stuff everyone sees. But tactics are not what create profits. James here - when Dean and I were chatting with Bryan Bowman on this episode he told us about an experience he had recently in one of his mastermind groups. One of the members was telling how he made tons of money doing a Facebook LIVE broadcast. You know what happened, right? Bryan and everyone else in his mastermind were tempted to go right out and do a Facebook LIVE session too. Why? Because it’s the flashy, fun thing that puts you on stage (so to speak), but it’s not going to have the same impact as the other guy if you don’t have other vital stuff underneath it to support what it’s created to accomplish. What are those other things? Sorry, you have to listen to find out. :) Do you have the right systems in place behind your flashy business tactics? You can get a lot of traction from something like a Facebook Ad or Facebook LIVE session, but what then? Say you get lots of people responding to your call to action. Do you have a good way of processing all those leads and converting them into sales? No? Then you missed one of the vital parts of business that isn’t so cool but is definitely vital. On this episode, Bryan Bowman tells us how he discovered the importance of business principles to support his strategy and tactics, so be sure you listen. Why are you selling the things you’re selling. Do you even know? Bryan Bowman says that if you are selling stuff online simply as a commodity, you’re missing the opportunity of generating ongoing revenue and customer loyalty. Why? Because you’re missing the chance to create a community that goes much deeper than a simple product. It’s in a community that people connect and find a greater experience than any product and provide - even yours - no matter how cool and specially designed it is. Bryan has built that kind of community in a very effective way that you need to hear about, so don’t miss this episode of Just The Tips. It happens all the time. People make lots of money online and are even MORE unhappy. Huh? When you first start seeing the cash roll in because of your efforts to build a business, you'll think that the more income you receive, the easier it will be to make space for the things you want in life - family time, space for personal time, trips and stuff - but sadly, it seldom works that way. I asked Bryan Bowman to speak to that issue and he eloquently revealed how important it is to get your life into a place of prioritized balance first before the money comes. That’s the only way you are able to handle the money well. Honest, it’s true. Find out how to get there on this episode. Outline of This Episode [1:40] Bryan Bowman’s amazing ecommerce approach: Evidence and Education. [7:40] Too many people are making money yet very unhappy. Why is that? [18:18] You need to understand business principles before you apply business tactics. [22:03] Principles, Strategy, Tactics: What’s the difference and why do they matter? Resources & People Mentioned Ecom Underground on Facebook - Bryan’s community Dan Kennedy Eugene Schwartz David Ogilvy Music for “Just The Tips” is titled, “Happy Happy Game Show” by Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License Connect With James and Dean James P. Friel: AutoPilot Entrepreneur Program: www.jamespfriel.com/autopilot Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/autopilotentrepreneur Site: www.jamespfriel.com Dean Holland: Blog: www.DeanHolland.com FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/DeanHollandHQ Digital Business Entrepreneurs: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DigitalBusinessEntrepreneurs/

Are you fired up and ready to go for the weekend? No? Then make sure to catch this episode of The Amazing Seller and another installment of Ask Scott. On this episode, you’ll get important updates on TAS events and projects, Scott’s weekly message, and of course answers to questions from listeners like you! As always you’ll get the best insights and links to resources you need to see success and results in your business. Make sure you take the time to listen and even grab a friend who needs to hear about this great business opportunity! Movement + Patience = Results Everyone wants to see exponential growth and RESULTS. But seeing the results you’ve been dreaming about can be a long journey. You will need to learn some vital truths to get you where you want to be with your business. One of the most important lessons you can learn is to exercise lots of patience. This is especially vital when you are trying to build a business selling on Amazon. If you’d like to hear Scott go deeper with this truth, make sure to listen to this episode of The Amazing Seller. Is it the right time to start Split Testing? If you’ve seen your product listing gain steady and sizable traffic and you are ready to start branching out with options like listing different variations it might be time to start split testing. What does that process look like? What results should you expect to see? There are so many tools and processes, it’s easy to get overwhelmed. On this episode of The Amazing Seller, Scott walks through this process and how you get the most out of it. Make sure you grab pen and paper, this is an episode you don’t want to miss! Gaining access to a gated product category Getting into gated categories on Amazon can be a very frustrating process. Have you done your research? Are you certain that the product you want to be listed in that category is going to bring you enough value to make the effort worth it? If so, there are a few options you have at your disposal to gain access to a gated category. Don’t give up hope! On this episode of The Amazing Seller, Scott goes over his suggestions on how you can get access to a gated category. Don’t miss it! Enhanced Brand Content What benefits can using enhanced brand content on your product listing bring you? This is a complicated issue because it's going to be different for each seller. The best way to figure out the effectiveness of this method is to do a test on your product listing. Because there are multiple factors in place, giving it a good test is the best approach. If you decide to do down this route, make sure you record your data before and after the test to note any changes to your conversion rate or additional numbers. If you’d like to hear Scott go into more detail about this topic, make sure to catch this episode! OUTLINE OF THIS EPISODE OF THE AMAZING SELLER [0:03] Scott’s introduction to this episode of the podcast! [1:30] Some great TAS updates to be excited about. [8:00] Scott’s message of the week. Movement + Patience = Results! [9:30] Question #1: Regarding split testing, what volume would you look for before you'd consider running a split test? [16:50] Question #2: What are your suggestions for getting into a gated product category? [23:25] Question #3: A question about enhanced brand content. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Ask Scott a question - HERE Get all the latest info on live meetups - HERE Check out TAS ep. 312 - HERE Check out TAS ep. 212 - HERE Check out TAS ep. 294 - HERE 1kfasttrack.com Check out a great tool called Splity - HERE Connect with the TAS Facebook community - HERE

Stephen is the CEO of Predictive ROI and the host of the Onward Nation podcast. He is the author of two bestselling books, speaker, trainer, and his digital marketing insights have been featured in SUCCESS, Entrepreneur, The Washington Post, Forbes, Inc. Magazine, and other media. Good Morning Onward Nation…I’m Stephen Woessner and welcome to this week’s solocast…Episode 440. If you have been listening to Onward Nation for a while — you know that I like sharing strategies along with all of their tactical step-by-step processes that help business owners create predictable, measurable, and repeatable success for themselves and their teams. Today’s solocast will be no different. We are going to dig into how hosting a podcast can be a perfect strategy for owners of business-to-business professional services firms. I am going to take you deep into a sneak peek of the pages of my latest book, entitled Profitable Podcasting. The book will not be released by my publisher until September but I want to begin sharing some of the insights now so you can begin to apply. This book is comprehensive — and it is a research-based book that shares our full blueprint or “recipe” for podcast success with you. Each and every step is presented in complete transparency. Not a single step has been be hidden from you. It’s all here, in plain sight. Within the book, I will walk you behind the green curtains of Onward Nation and Predictive ROI so you can learn our proven system. You will also have access to in-depth insights from 10 business owners just like you. Each of them decided to create a podcast to change the game – and then did it. Their impressive stories are shared in full transparency too. But why write such a comprehensive book? Because you deserve a resource that eliminates the guesswork, demystifies the process and gives you a clear and concise strategy for going from zero to launch in about 30 days. Only limited resources were available when my Predictive ROI team and I decided to create Onward Nation. Sure, there were plenty of hyperbole packed eBooks and webinars that led me into the sales funnels of information marketers, but those resources lacked depth, and candidly, they lacked business acumen. We quickly consumed the resources and were left with more questions than answers. Plus, the resources lacked full transparency. They typically provided just enough to get you interested in learning more, and then pitched a $997 online training or mastermind program. All of which drove me crazy and didn’t solve our problem. Not awesome! But there are much more important reasons I decided to go as deep as possible with the book. In my opinion, podcasting – as a medium – deserves a long-form guide, an encyclopedia of how to do it right. When I interviewed Gary Vaynerchuk before the release of his social media book Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook (by the way — still the best book on the market regarding social media and the business strategy behind it all), we discussed how it wasn’t just a social media book, but a business book that would elevate social media to a new level of legitimacy. My hope is that this book will raise the bar for podcasting just as Gary did for social media marketing. So on the surface, Profitable Podcasting looks like a podcasting book. But it’s actually a business book about how business owners just like you are using podcasting to grow their companies, expand their platforms, and build nations of true fans. I promise you — each chapter includes step-by-step instructions so you can create, launch, market, and monetize your own podcast. The book includes checklists, production schedules, weekly goal tracking, social media strategies with visual examples, promotional emails, guest invitations, exclusive access to private online video tutorials, and other resources including time-saving third-party tools. I am excited to share this resource because small business has been my focus for 23 years. This is my third book devoted to helping small business owners succeed. Helping small business owners is deeply rewarding for several reasons. First, having owned five small businesses, I know that in today’s economy, if one wants to have an impact (as I strive to do), then small business represents a tremendous opportunity. Small business owners are the lifeblood of our economy. Second, the 28 million small businesses operating in the United States today, according to the Small Business Administration, account for 55 percent of all jobs and 54 percent of total revenue generated. I want to help as many business owners as possible grow so they can create more jobs and improve the lives of their families, employees, and communities. Third, this book tackles the top challenge facing most business owners: According to a recent survey of 1,100 small business owners, 43 percent of respondents identified growing revenue as a top challenge facing U.S. businesses in 2016. That’s more than 12 million businesses expected to face the same challenge. Driving this number down is a worthy goal of this book. And if you know my family history — and our story — you will understand why I am so passionate about the success of small business owners. But…there are significant challenges to small business owners who want to have a podcast. It is not as simple as just turning on the microphone, recording a conversation, and distributing it out to iTunes. Sure you can do that…but it is highly unlikely that your time and effort will pay off for your business. So for today’s solocast…I am going to address the challenges that typically paralyze business owners from either getting started — or — keep them from achieving the success they aspire to achieve from their podcast. So here we go, Onward Nation. Ready for the deep dive? Rock solid awesome! First…a podcast is just a tool. It’s just a platform, Onward Nation. A platform is simply a conduit for distributing or sharing content. No platform in and of itself will help your business grow revenue. This is a very important point. Just because you have a podcast — does not mean — that prospective customers or even an audience will begin to flock to you. Not at all. In order for your podcast to be of value to your business, there needs to be purpose behind the guests you invite to be on your show. There needs to be purpose behind the questions you ask your guests. There needs to be purpose behind how you nurture and take care of your guests before their interviews and after their episodes have aired. And ultimately, you need a strategy for how your podcast will grow your business, expand your platform, and build your nation of true fans. Having interviewed nearly 500 of today’s top business owners – and having talked with, consulted with, or worked with many of them in producing and launching their own podcasts – I can say with certainty that there are typically three primary challenges or questions that well up in the mind of a business owner who is considering a podcast. Some business owners need to confront all three; others may just need to confront two. But I assure you, Onward Nation — every business owner will need to confront at least one. Question #1: How will my podcast make money and help grow my business? Question #2: How much time with this take me? Question #3: How will I get guests? (Or, the variation: What if no one accepts my invitation to be a guest on the show?) I will devote a future solocast to the revenue topic. But for this week — we will dive deep into Questions 2 and 3 because they are critically important to getting your mindset right before heading down the podcasting path. If you don’t get your mindset right, I assure you, there will be setbacks and challenges along the way. Without the correct preparation you will be tempted to quit – and you likely will…quit. Most podcasters quit after just 7 episodes. It is called “Podfading” — because a business owner launches his or her weekly show — then expects the show to set the world on fire just because it is available — and when it doesn’t — they quit after not even two months. Really sad. However, if I help you properly set expectations, when the challenges come your way, instead of being tempted to quit, you can confidently say to yourself, “Ah, Stephen said this would happen and that I’d feel this way” – and you will push forward. Don’t ever quit, Onward Nation. Let me help you AVOID THE TIME TRAP. One of the questions I am asked most often by business owners who have considered a podcast for their business is, “How much time will having a podcast take out of my schedule?” It’s a great question because we should all protect our schedules. Most business owners assume the answer is 10 hours a week – and that the solution will require them to add staff and make other investments. But here’s the reality: You can have an awesome, top-rated podcast in iTunes by investing less than four hours per month. Yes. Four hours. Would you grow revenues faster if you invested more time? Likely yes, but four hours a month is an excellent place to start. So why would business owners assume that my answer would be something like 10 hours a week? Because then it would be easy for them to justify why they hadn’t pursued it more seriously. But in fact, it isn’t the perceived time commitment that stops a small business owner from having a podcast. It is fear. Fear often rears its ugly head in an attempt to derail the entrepreneurial journey you’re on. Fear will beat you to your knees if you let it. Fear will cheat you out of success in all aspects of your business, including developing a great platform like a podcast so you can grow revenue and build a nation of true fans. Once business owners are assured that their time investment will only be about four hours per month, a second challenge typically comes to mind – this one with the subconscious goal of thwarting the podcast from gaining any additional momentum; to snuff out the fire that was building. But what will be YOUR BIGGEST MOST PAINFUL CHALLENGE on your path to use podcasting to grow your business? Well, you may be asking yourself the question right now, “Stephen, how will I get guests?” Or maybe the variation: “What if no one accepts the invitation to be on my show?” These two fear-laden questions should serve as warning signs that something sinister is lurking. If you let them, they will keep you in check and prevent you from moving forward. The truth is, we all face such challenges. It’s just that some people are better than others at pushing themselves past them. In my opinion, this challenge may be blocking your success not just with podcasting, but in other areas of your business as well. The challenge is known as the “Imposter Syndrome.” Clinical psychologists Dr. Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne Imes coined the term in 1978 to describe high-achieving individuals who are unable to internalize their accomplishments and who consequently fear being exposed as a “fraud.” Actual, objective evidence of their competence doesn’t matter to those who exhibit the syndrome. They remain convinced that they’re frauds. They feel that they don’t deserve the success they have achieved. Calling it “luck” or “good timing,” they never take credit for their accomplishments. Perhaps they believe that they’ve tricked others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they actually are. Now let’s take that definition and break it down into its two core ingredients. Ingredient #1: the inability to internalize accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud.” Have you ever walked into a meeting and felt that you weren’t worthy — or that you didn’t belong there? Perhaps someone on the selection committee, the award committee, or board of directors had made a mistake in selecting you. Heck, maybe even some of your colleagues, family members, or friends even validated your own suspicions and asked you the seemingly innocent question: “So why did they pick you?” I began to learn about the imposter syndrome back in 2009, around the time my first book was published. I was an academic staff member at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse. After my book became popular with small business owners, several of the UW campuses around the state asked me to teach a class at their respective campuses. Awesome. One day I mentioned this opportunity to a family friend: I told him I headed to the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay the next day to teach a class based on my SEO book. My friend looked at me and said, “Well, why are they having you teach the class? Couldn’t they find someone in Green Bay to teach it?” My friend was not trying to be hurtful — not in the least. But those comments hit me hard. Never mind that my SEO book was #3 in the United States, or that I had just been interviewed for Inc. Magazine, or any of the other credibility indicators. When he asked me that question, I actually paused and thought about it. “Yeah, why are they hiring me to teach? Am I good enough? Do I have what it takes? Am I the best they could bring in? Do I deserve to be there? Am I a fraud? Do I even know what I’m talking about?” There is nothing unique about my story. We have all had these experiences where we begin to hear the voice in our heads whispering — or in some cases shouting — “Who do you think you are?” The imposter syndrome will work hard to hold you back. High-performers with imposter syndrome may work obsessively hard to prevent people from discovering that they’re “impostors.” And talk about a vicious cycle: The hard work leads to more praise and success, which only perpetuates the impostor feelings, leading the “imposter” to work even harder, which can lead to sleep deprivation, burnout and worse. Ingredient #2: the “Imposter” takes the proof of success and passes it off as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe. Has your business ever gone through a growth spurt that you couldn’t explain? Have you ever looked around your office and suddenly realized you have some amazing people working for you and looking to you for leadership – and yet, you cannot figure out what they see in you? Have you ever felt uncomfortable before a presentation with a new client? Did you wonder why they invited you to the table? Why do we ask ourselves such lousy and unfair questions? Here’s the important point that I really want you to get. When you ask yourself, “How on earth were we able to hire such amazing employees? Don’t they know that we don’t know what in the world we’re doing?” — your brain does a funny thing…it gives you an answer. It’s a crummy answer but it’s an answer. Your brain doesn’t want to make you out to be a liar — so it gives you the answer to fit your story. You start hearing things like, “Yeah, you really pulled the wool over their eyes on that one. Hope Becky doesn’t figure it out — because if she leaves — then Tom is sure to leave the company, too.” Or, “Why did client X invite us here? We don’t really have a shot at winning this pitch, do we?” The answer you get back might be something like, “Nope, we have no chance of winning — especially if they knew about all the mistakes we made just last week on Client Z’s account. We are lucky to have kept Client Z — hope X doesn’t ask for references. Maybe we ought to back out of the process now.” What nonsense, Onward Nation! You were invited into the evaluation process because you have a stellar network — perhaps stellar credentials — and you deserve to be at the table. The voice on your shoulder — the voice whispering in your ear — is the imposter syndrome. And we all deal with it. It doesn’t matter who you are thinking of right now. Tim Ferriss, the bestselling author of The 4-Hour Workweek, has dealt with it. Joel Osteen has dealt with it. All of the incredible business leaders that grace the cover of Entrepreneur magazine deal with it. Every business owner — every political leader — every leader throughout history has dealt with this. George Washington did not feel he was worthy to be this country’s first president. No one is immune from imposter syndrome. But what is unique — and what is special — is when someone faces the fear of potential rejection. To quote the beautiful words of educator and behavior expert Dr. Marcie Beigel — a two-time Onward Nation guest: “Stephen…be scared, and then do it anyway!” I loved that. Because it is oftentimes fear — which is another way of describing imposter syndrome — gets in your way more than anything else. You may be your own biggest constraint. Not your ability to schedule guests on your show, not your ability to sell, not the market, not your lack of customers, not your pricing, not your product quality. No, it is you. You, as the owner, set the pace and tempo of your company — either fast or slow. I asked Dr. Marcie to share how business owners can reach that elusive next level. She was kind enough to map it out into three simple steps: Get clear on what the next level is — how will you know when you’re there? Walkthrough your fear; make a plan — and just do it Find a mentor — we learn best from the people who have been there So let’s look at all three of these. First, get clear on what the next level is for you and your business. Well, if imposter syndrome (aka FEAR) is making you believe you are not even worthy of your current level of success, then how could you possibly believe you’re worthy of being the host of a top-ranked podcast? Great question, right? Instead, perhaps you need to spend some time being thankful for what you have already accomplished — consciously acknowledging that what you have achieved has been well deserved because you worked hard and you applied your God-given gifts and talents to get there. Now, to realize your full potential, it’s time to leap off your current plateau and move onward to that next level. You deserve to be at the next level. You’re an expert. The first step is to give yourself permission to define that next level so you know when you, your podcast and your business have arrived. Second…be scared about the next level…and do it anyway. Kick fear to the curb. What’s the worst that could happen? Prospective customers could say no. You might make a bad decision and lose some money. An employee or a group of employees may disagree with how you’re redirecting the company and could decide to leave. Okay. Are any of these life-threatening situations? Did anyone die? No? Then move on! Stop making each decision more than it has to be. Just make a decision. Then move on. It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that. As Dr. Marcie said, “Be scared and then do it anyway.” Finally, find a mentor to learn from as Don Yaeger recommended in the Foreword of this book. More specifically, find a mentor or group of mentors who are all moving at a pace and tempo that is faster than you. It matters who you spend your time with — and if you spend your time with people who are moving at your current pace — or slower — those people may make you feel comfortable to be around — they may not challenge you — they may not push you or ask you tough questions — and it is easy to relax and unwind. Why? Because as Coach John Wooden once said, “You will never outperform your circle.” That’s just human nature. So you need to make sure the mentors you select are operating at a completely different level than you — a level to which you can reach and stretch. You want to get into a group of people where you don’t currently belong and then work like crazy not to get left behind. In the process you’ll expand and grow. You will then be able to leap from your current plateau onto the next rung. As Onward Nation guest Scott McKain taught me, “Stephen, you cannot reach that next rung, unless you are willing to let go of the current one you are hanging on to.” Wise words. You were meant for greatness, Onward Nation. You are instilled with an infinite abundance of talent and gifts. Don’t let something so small as fear limit all you were meant to be. Don’t give up — keep pushing — and don’t ever, ever quit. If you are going to be successful at using podcasting to drive your business onward to that next level — you need to get your mindset right first. Because when you do — you will no longer be at risk of podfading — and then the next step — will be for you to bolt on a monetization strategy to your podcast so you have an opportunity to drive significant revenue into your business. I will cover monetization in a future solocast. So with that said… I want to say thank you for taking the time to be here with me today. It is an honor to have you here — thank you for tuning in — your time is sacred and I am delighted you chose this episode to be what you listen to, study, and take with you on your morning run, or maybe Onward Nation has become part of your daily commute, or in some other way has become part of your morning routine. However, our daily podcast fits into your daily routine — I want you to know how much I appreciate you sharing some of your invaluable 86,400 seconds you have in your day with me and the strategies we learn and share each day from today’s top business owners. And please continue to let me know what you think of Onward Nation…good or bad…I always want your feedback. My direct email address is stephen@predictiveroi.com — and yes — that is my actual Inbox. No fancy filters or filing system and I read and reply to every single email. So please let me know how you think we are doing. I look forward to hearing from you. We will be back tomorrow with an exceptional interview with Nick Creswell from Thomson Reuters in London — who will take us inside why he believes that today’s leaders lead with culture. Nick is off-the-charts amazing. You will not want to miss it. Until then, onward with gusto!

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Have you ever heard of a chameleon with an identity crisis? Do you think other animals accuse them of being flakes because they change their colours to suit the world around them? No? Then why are you beating yourself up for faking it once in a while? Ever consider the possibility that in certain circumstances, blending in might actually be a contribution? Or a way to manipulate someone into choosing greater for themselves? It may be a capacity you have. It certainly would create more … *gasp* … EASE… for you, but you wouldn’t want that, would you? If you’re convinced that you must, at all times, be your most true self in every moment, you might just be missing opportunities to blend in and change the world ever so quietly. www.petrinafava.com  www.petrinafava.accessconsciousness.com

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Stephen is the CEO of Predictive ROI and host of the Onward Nation podcast. He is the author of two bestselling books, speaker, trainer, and his digital marketing insights have been featured in SUCCESS, Entrepreneur, The Washington Post, Forbes, Inc. Magazine, and other media. Good Morning Onward Nation...I’m Stephen Woessner. And before we jump into today’s solocast topic -- I want to wish you a very belated Happy 2016. My hope for you is that your New Year has started off with the momentum you envisioned, with the progress you wanted and desired, and that you and your team are executing on all the plans and strategies you crafted toward the end of 2015. My additional hope is that during all the Christmas and New Year celebrations, you also made time to practice Habit #7 that we learned from the wisdom of the late Dr. Stephen Covey is his groundbreaking book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. We all must take time to “Sharpen the Saw” as Dr. Covey so masterfully described it. If you don’t maintain your health, maintain your sanity, take time to relax, rejuvenate, unwind, de-clutter, spend time with family and friends, and nurture relationships, your “Saw” -- or your production capability -- becomes dull and ineffective. Just like a dull blade on a saw that has been overused and becomes dull then needs to be sharpened before it can be put back into useful service. The holidays are an excellent time for sharpening -- but -- not the only time. Today is Wednesday, January 27th...and Habit #7 is partly the reason behind today’s episode being my first solocast of 2016. I have been spending time with family, friends, traveling for a couple Predictive ROI engagements, and for the last 2-weeks, I have been in Disney World to teach a workshop, attend another, as well as some family down time. It has been the perfect start to 2016 -- a fine balance in which to sharpen the saw. And it is a wonderful honor and privilege to be back here with you, Onward Nation, this morning for today’s solocast. Thank you so much for being here with me. So for our time together...I am going to focus our attention toward an obstacle we all experience -- this obstacle is something we all face. In fact everyone on Earth faces it no matter who they are -- it is just that some people are better than others at pushing themselves past it. The obstacle is known as the “Imposter syndrome.” If you are hearing the term for the first time -- I will start us off with some context and background. The term Imposter Syndrome was first coined in 1978 by clinical psychologists Dr. Pauline R. Clance and Suzanne Imes and was used when referring to high-achieving individuals marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud.” Despite external evidence of their competence, those exhibiting the syndrome remain convinced they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. In fact, they take their proof of success and pass it off as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be. Some studies suggest the impostor syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women while other studies indicate that men and women are equally affected. Now let’s take that definition and break it down into its two core ingredients. Ingredient #1: the inability to internalize accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud.” Have you ever walked into a meeting and felt that you weren’t worthy -- or that you didn’t belong there? Perhaps someone on the selection committee, the award committee, or board of directors had somehow made a mistake in selecting you. Heck, maybe even some of your colleagues, family members, or friends looked at you and even validated your own suspicions and asked you the seemingly innocent question of “So why did they pick you?” I began to learn about the imposter syndrome back in 2009. My first book had been published while I was an academic staff member at the University of Wisconsin-La Crosse. My book had become popular with small business owners and several of the UW campuses around the state started asking me to teach a class at their respective campuses. Awesome. So one day I mentioned the opportunities to a family friend -- that I was headed to UW-Green Bay the next day to teach a class based on my SEO book...and my friend looked at me and said, “Well, why are they having you teach the class? Couldn’t they find someone else locally to teach the class?” My friend was not trying to be hurtful -- not in the least. But those comments hit me hard. Never mind that my SEO book was #3 in the United States, I had just been interviewed for Inc. Magazine, and other credibility indicators. When he asked me that question -- I actually paused and thought about it. “Yeah, why are they hiring me to teach...am I good enough...do I have what it takes...am I the best they could bring in...did I deserve to be there...was I a fraud...did I know what I was talking about?” There is nothing unique or different about my story. We have all had these experiences of the little voice in our heads whispering -- or in some cases shouting -- “Who do you think you are to do something so amazing?” That is the imposter syndrome, Onward Nation, and it is holding you back -- it is rearing its ugly head in the form of fear -- and you need to push it aside so it doesn’t block your progress in moving forward. Here’s the reality...high-performers work hard to prevent people from discovering that they are "impostors." This hard work often leads to more praise and success, which perpetuates the impostor feelings and fears of being "found out." The "impostor" may feel they need to work two or three times as hard. They over-prepare, tinker and obsess over details. This can lead to burnout and sleep deprivation. I have felt that way before. With each new interview, success quote, media feature -- I would think -- goodness -- did I deserve to be there? YES -- but it took me a long time to believe it -- and I still wrestle with it today. Ingredient #2: the “imposter” takes the proof of success and passes it off as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be Has your business ever gone through a growth spurt and you wondered why? Have you ever looked around your office and suddenly realized you have some amazing people working for you, looking to you for leadership, and you cannot figure out what they see in you? Have you ever felt uncomfortable heading into a presentation with a new client and you wonder why they invited you to the table? Or in a personal situation -- have you ever felt like you married up -- that your husband or wife -- was not only your better half -- but completely out of your league? Why do we ask ourselves such lousy and unfair questions? And here’s the important point that I really want you to get, Onward Nation. When you ask yourself, “How on earth were we able to hire such amazing employees? Don’t they know that we don’t know what in the world we’re doing?” -- your brain does a funny thing...it gives you an answer. Your brain doesn’t want to make you out to be a liar -- so it gives you the answer to fit your story. You start hearing things like…”Yeah, boy, you really pulled the wool over their eyes on that one. Hope Becky doesn’t figure it out -- because if she leaves -- then Tom is sure to leave, too.” Or, “Why did client X invite us here? We don’t really have a shot at winning this pitch, do we?” And then answer you get back might be something like, “Nope, we have no chance of winning -- especially if they knew all about the mistakes we made just last week on Client Z’s account. We are lucky to have kept Client Z -- hope X doesn’t ask for references. Maybe we ought to back out of the process now.” What nonsense. The reality is that you were invited into the evaluation process because you have a stellar network -- perhaps stellar credentials -- and you deserve to be at the table. The voice on your shoulder -- the voice whispering in your ear -- is the imposter syndrome. And we all deal with it. It doesn’t matter who you are thinking of right now...Tim Ferriss has dealt with it...Joel Osteen has dealt with...all of the incredible business leaders that grace the cover of SUCCESS Magazine, Inc, and Fast Company deal with it...heck, I struggle with it… “I think to myself all the time -- I can’t invite that person to be a guest on Onward Nation -- they’ll for sure say no!” Good grief! Every business owner -- every political leader -- every leader throughout history has dealt with this. George Washington did not feel he was worthy to be this country’s first president. No one is immune from the imposter syndrome. But what is unique -- and what is special -- is when someone stares into the face of potential rejection -- faces their fear and they do it anyway. And to quote the beautiful words of Dr. Marcie Beigel -- a two-time guest of Onward Nation...she said to me in her recent encore interview for episode 144 said to me, “Stephen...be scared, and then do it anyway!” Wow...I loved that. Because it is oftentimes fear -- which is another way of describing the imposter syndrome -- it is fear that gets in your way more than anything else. You -- you, Onward Nation...are your business’s biggest constraint. Not the market, not your lack of customers, not your pricing, not your product quality...no...it is you. You set the pace and tempo of your company -- either fast or slow -- you do. So I asked Dr. Marcie during that special encore interview to share how business owners can reach that elusive next level? She was kind enough to map it out into three simple steps. Get clear on what the next level is — how will you know when you’re there? Walk through your fear -- make a plan -- and just do it Find a mentor -- we learn best from the people who have been there And let’s look at all three of these. First...get clear on what the next level is. Well, if the imposter syndrome (aka FEAR) is making you believe that you are not even worthy of your current level of success -- how could you possibly believe that you are worthy of more? So how could you define what the next level looks like? Great question, right? Instead, perhaps you need to spend some time in gratitude being thankful for what you have already accomplished -- consciously acknowledging that what you have achieved was deserved because you worked hard to get there and you applied your God given gifts and talents to get there -- and now -- to realize your full potential -- it is time to leap off your current plateau and move onward to that next level -- and your deserve to be at the next level -- because you’re an expert. But the first step is to give yourself permission to define that next level so you know when you and your business have arrived. Second...be scared about the next level...and do it anyway. Set your fear aside -- what is the worst that could happen? Prospective customers could say no. You might make a bad decision and lose some money. An employee or a group of employees may disagree in how you’re redirecting the company and could decide to leave. Okay? Are any of these life threatening situations? Did anyone die? No. And like Mike Stromsoe taught us in episode 24 of Onward Nation -- did anyone die? No? Then move on! Stop making each decision more than it has to be. Just make a decision...then move on. It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that. So, Onward Nation, Be Scared -- and then do it anyway. And lastly...find a mentor to learn from. More specifically -- find a mentor or group of mentors who are all moving at a pace and tempo that is faster than you. It matters who you spend your time with -- and if you spend your time with people who are moving at your current pace -- or slower -- those people may make you feel comfortable to be around -- they may not challenge you -- they may not push you or ask you tough questions -- and it is easy to relax and unwind. But guard yourself -- if you don’t protect your time -- you will slow down as a result. Why? Because as Coach John Wooden once said, you will never outperform your circle. You won’t -- it is just human nature. So you need to make sure the mentors you select are operating at a completely different level than you are currently at -- that you reach -- that you stretch -- that you get yourself into a group of people where you don’t currently belong. And then you work like crazy to not get left behind -- and in the process -- you will expand and grow -- and leap off your current plateau onto that next rung. And as Scott McKain recently taught me, “Stephen, you cannot reach that next rung, unless you are willing to let go of the current one you are hanging on to.” Very wise words, Onward Nation. Please recognize the imposter syndrome for what it is...it is nothing more than fear. Please also know that we all deal with it...you are not different because you feel it...you are not uniquely burdened or yoked. But what can make you unique and distinctive is your ability to refuse the status quo and to push past your fear -- to shove the imposter syndrome aside and to not let yourself be your own limitation. You were meant for greatness. You are a child of the most high God. You are instilled with an infinite abundance of talent and gifts. Please don’t let something so small as fear limit all you were meant to be. So with that said... I want to say thank you for taking the time to be here with me today. It is an honor to have you here -- thank you for tuning in -- your time is sacred and I am delighted you chose this episode to be what you listen to, study, and take with you on your morning run, or maybe Onward Nation has become part of your daily commute, or in some other way has become part of your morning routine. However our daily podcast fits into your daily routine -- I want you to know how much I appreciate you sharing some of your invaluable 86,400 seconds you have in your day with me and the strategies we learn and share each day from today’s top business owners. And please continue to let me know what you think of Onward Nation...good or bad...I always want your feedback. My direct email address is stephen@onwardnation.com -- and yes -- that is my actual Inbox. No fancy filters or filing system and I read and reply to every single email. So please let me know how you think we are doing. I look forward to hearing from you. We will be back tomorrow with an incredible interview with Rob Berger -- he is off the charts amazing. Don’t miss it. Until then, onward with gusto! You can also find us here: ----- OnwardNation.com -----

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Who do you look up to? Do you have a sexual hero? A favourite dead journalist? No? Then listen to Very Loose Women discuss their thoughts on role models. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Have you binge-watched Marvel's Jessica Jones yet? No? Then listen to our mostly-spoiler-free review of Marvel/Netflix's latest trip to Hell's Kitchen in this episode of The Square Peg Show! Wait, yes, you have watched it? Oh, sorry. It's hard to communicate with you lately. It always feels like a one-way conversation. It's not you, it's us. In that case, listen to our takes on it anyway, plus news of King Kong vs. Godzilla, Predator 4, Gilmore Girls, Black Mirror, and a little bit on Breaking Bad and Better Call Saul! We're all over the place! PRESS PLAY or DOWNLOAD

How can you make top dollars as a fitness professional? You’ll need to stop tying your future to two popular, but limited factors, and get on board with the only one you can control.  GET FREE TRAINING AND WORKSHEET ON HOW TO MAKE TOP DOLLARS AS A FITNESS PROFESSIONAL HERE!   Time Did I miss something? Did someone add more hours to the day? No? Then why are so many trainers still doing one on one sessions and then wondering why they don’t get anywhere. Forget that there’s only twenty-four hours in a day. You’re not even working all twenty-four. But what happens if you get sick? Or maybe your client goes on vacation. There’s a million things that will stop your income cold when you rely on hours for a paycheck.  That’s not smart.   Price Your fees have ceilings. I don’t care how good you are, you are only going to make so much money. More training, more specialties, doesn’t matter. You’ll top off at $200 or $300. Then what? Forget what you think other people make per hour. That is no way to build wealth.   Value Your best hope is to develop what I call a value ladder. This is a sequential series of programs that your clients can hop on and off they go.  I learned this principle from a mentor of mine. He was charging $100,000 for a sales letter. One letter! But people paid this because of the life-long benefits that the letter provided. They spent $100K but had the potential to reap millions from it. You’re no different. Instead of seeing your client as someone who comes in for sessions, think of them as a bunch of problems that need solving. Link the solutions that you provide to larger benefits for them. You’re basically there to help bring about a better version of themselves. You can’t put a value or price on that! So get programs ready that will address the most common problems and have more programs to follow-up with. That first step onto the value ladder is the most important one you and your customers will ever take.

Ever have Mom guilt? No? Then you are probably not a Mom! Elaine talks with Michele, Linda and Petra, a group with 11 kids between them, about their experiences with Mom guilt, and how we can help each other to get over it, because guess what? Life is imperfect!

In the present moment, this is our waking life. Isn't it? Take a moment to test that belief. Pinch yourself. Count to ten on your fingers. Did anything strange occur? No? Then we can safely assume that we are awake in this present moment. This episode: Dreamscapes and Nightmares. Sleep disorders. How to lucid dream. Songs to put you to sleep and things to keep you awake.

Is your Spider-Sense tingling? No? Then recalibrate it, because a Spider-Man villain is dropping into Daredevil's world. Doctor Octopus crashes into New York in search of Adamantium, and Heather Glenn is right in his path. Can Daredevil match-up to Doc's arms? Will hornhead blow it in the romance department? Take a listen, as Dave covers Daredevil 165.The show is available through iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/two-true-freaks-presents-daves/id1023227055?mt=2) Or, listen through Stitcher (https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/daves-daredevil-podcast)

Is your Spider-Sense tingling? No? Then recalibrate it, because a Spider-Man villain is dropping into Daredevil's world. Doctor Octopus crashes into New York in search of Adamantium, and Heather Glenn is right in his path. Can Daredevil match-up to Doc's arms? Will hornhead blow it in the romance department? Take a listen, as Dave covers Daredevil 165.The show is available through iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/two-true-freaks-presents-daves/id1023227055?mt=2) Or, listen through Stitcher (https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/daves-daredevil-podcast)

Chris just saw James Cameron's Avatar and this is his quick and dirty review. Does it live up to the hype? Will it cure the blind and banish demons? Is it worth it to pay extra for the 3D glasses? Can you stand the suspense? NO? Then listen to the podcast already and Chris will clear it all up for you! NOTE -- The Two True Freaks! now have a phone line where you can call and leave a completely inappropriate message - We just might use it on the show! It's 585-COP-LURE!! ( 1-585-267-5873 )Feedback for this show can be sent to: twotruefreaks@gmail.comTwo True Freaks! is a proud member of BOTH the Comics Podcast Network (http://www.comicspodcasts.com/) and the League of Comic Book Podcasts (http://www.comicbooknoise.com/league/)!! Follow the fun on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/113051642052970/ THANK YOU for listening to Two True Freaks!!

Chris just saw James Cameron's Avatar and this is his quick and dirty review. Does it live up to the hype? Will it cure the blind and banish demons? Is it worth it to pay extra for the 3D glasses? Can you stand the suspense? NO? Then listen to the podcast already and Chris will clear it all up for you! NOTE -- The Two True Freaks! now have a phone line where you can call and leave a completely inappropriate message - We just might use it on the show! It's 585-COP-LURE!! ( 1-585-267-5873 )Feedback for this show can be sent to: twotruefreaks@gmail.comTwo True Freaks! is a proud member of BOTH the Comics Podcast Network (http://www.comicspodcasts.com/) and the League of Comic Book Podcasts (http://www.comicbooknoise.com/league/)!! Follow the fun on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/113051642052970/ THANK YOU for listening to Two True Freaks!!

Does your dog listen as well outside as in? No? Then you're not alone and this episode with Sarah Wilson and her dog, Pip is for you! Sarah will teach you games to play to build your dog's connection to you one lead or off, you'll hear things go well and not so well and what Sarah does in response to both. Find out what you have in common with the fifty dog professionals at the recent What Every Pro Should Know conference. If you want fun and effective games to help you over this training hump, you'll find them here! More details on this episode MP3 Podcast -Listening Outside -with Sarah Wilson on PetLifeRadio.com

This week on the show all about the music and community of OverClocked ReMix:Care for a spot of tea? No? Then perhaps OCR's 1500th remix will strike your fancy. That's right: #1500 has finally been released, which means that not only is VGDJ back in action, but the community has picked up steam as well. We've got the inside scoop on this latest wave of site changes, along with a full compliment of reports, reviews, voicemails, and all that good stuff. Listen as your beloved hosts brave Baltimore's fiercest tropical storm, turning rain into fair English skies. Plus a stinger we think will truly move you... to tears! >:) What a lovely day for a stroll in Episode 055, wouldn't you agree, my deah?Shownotes- zircon, pixietricks, & Brushfire -