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This one is a super quick episode today, as I didn't want to do another replay, but also I don't have the time at present to continue with our series on pain and nutrients, as those episodes take about a day to research and write up. So, today I want to talk about something that I've been discussing with two clients lately, and it occurred to me, that you might benefit as well. Regulating the nervous system and our stress response can have a profound and positive impact on our endometriosis pain levels and our energy levels (and of course, our stress levels and mental health). I won't go into the science of it here, because I have other episodes on this and this is supposed to be a quick episode, but in short, our cortisol levels and our stress response don't just influence our experience of stress, but our entire sleep-wake cycle and energy levels over the day. They also influence our pain signals and can turn up the volume on pain. If you want to learn more about this, I've linked to two previous episodes in the show notes.Show notesNervous system and endo/energyhttps://www.theendobellycoach.com/podcast/christie-uipi-curablehttps://www.theendobellycoach.com/podcast/endo-pain-vagus-nervehttps://www.theendobellycoach.com/podcast/tired-all-the-time-hpa-axis-dysfunction-and-endoADHDhttps://www.theendobellycoach.com/podcast/endo-adhd-linkEDShttps://www.theendobellycoach.com/podcast/hypermobile-eds-endo-linda-bluesteinhttps://www.theendobellycoach.com/podcast/endo-ehlers-danlos-syndrome-connectionTapping studies https://www.thetappingsolution.com/science-research/The Tapping Solution toolshttps://www.thetappingsolution.com/free-tapping-meditations/https://www.thetappingsolution.com/store/Need more help or want to learn how to work with me?Free resources:This podcast! Endometriosis Net ColumnEndometriosis News ColumnNewsletterInstagramWays to work with me:This EndoLife, It Starts with Breakfast digital cookbookMasterclasses in endo nutrition, surgery prep and recovery and pain reliefLive and Thrive with Endo: The Foundations DIY courseOne to one coaching info and applicationThis episode is sponsored by BeYou Cramp Relief Patches. Soothe period cramps the natural way with these 100% natural and discreet menthol and eucalyptus oil stick on patches. Click here to find out more and to shop: https://beyouonline.co.uk/pages/how-it-worksProduced by Chris Robson

Just a little catching-you-up-on-my-life episode, with some things I'm into these days.FREE (OR SUPER AFFORDABLE) RESOURCES:∂ if you'd like to reach out, you can email me at elisabeth@elisabethklein.com or you can visit mywebsite at www.elisabethklein.com in a difficult marriage: ∂ if you're not safe or if you or your children are being physically or sexually hurt, please set up a safety plan (⁠https://www.thehotline.org/plan-for-safety/create-your-personal-safety-plan/⁠) and contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) ∂ confidential marriage assessment: ⁠http://bit.ly/marriage-assessment⁠∂ 7 Days of Prayer for Your Hard Marriage: ⁠https://bit.ly/7-days-of-prayer-for-your-hard-marriage⁠∂ Surviving in a Difficult Christian Marriage e-book: ⁠https://bit.ly/Elisabeth-Klein-books-on-Amazon⁠∂ Better Way to Stay e-course: ⁠https://bit.ly/better-way-to-stay-marriage-ecourse⁠separated or divorced or single mom: ∂ Unraveling: Hanging Onto Faith Through the End of a Christian Marriage book: ⁠https://bit.ly/Elisabeth-Klein-books-on-Amazon⁠∂ Moving On as a Christian Single Mom e-book: ⁠https://bit.ly/Elisabeth-Klein-books-on-Amazon⁠∂ Heartbreak to Hope divorce recovery e-course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/Heartbreak-to-Hope-ecourse⁠∂ all other courses: https://bit.ly/wholeness-courses∂ The Tapping Solution app: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/blog/tapping-solution-app/∂ The Pause app: https://wildatheart.org/apps/one-minute-pause/∂ Suno (AI song creation) app: https://suno.com/home∂ Boundaries for Your Soul: (IFS): https://amzn.to/430VMz5∂ Altogether You (IFS): https://amzn.to/44Yqfzd∂ I forgot to mention this but I'm now wearing a weighted vest on my walk and it's so great (Google the benefits) and here's the one I'm using: https://amzn.to/434MrWV ∂ if my work has been helpful to you in any way, feel free to leave a little tip: ⁠https://www.venmo.com/u/Elisabeth-KleinFisher

In this enlightening episode, we're joined by award-winning educator Cassie Brooks, who shares practical strategies for teaching mental health skills to children. With 25 years of middle school health education experience, Cassie offers invaluable insights on how parents, teachers, and coaches can model and teach mental wellness techniques.Cassie discusses the importance of normalizing mental health conversations, comparing emotional pain to physical pain like headaches to reduce stigma. She shares specific techniques including the Tapping Solution, the value of creating personalized mental health self-management plans, and how to implement calming activities that children can choose based on their preferences.As president of the Indiana Society for Health and Physical Educators and a volunteer ambassador for Erica's Lighthouse, Cassie also highlights resources available to support youth mental health education. This episode provides actionable tools for anyone looking to better equip young people with skills to manage their emotional wellbeing.Listen for practical advice on how to move beyond simple breathing exercises to engage children in meaningful mental health practices they'll actually use when they need them most.Cassie Brooks BioCassie Brooks is in her 25th year of teaching middle school Health and Physical Education in Brownsburg , Indiana. She is currently president of Indiana's Society for Health and Physical Educators. Cassie has her BA in Health Education from Ball State and a Master's in Curriculum and Instruction. She was recognized as the Midwest Health Teacher of the Year in 2018. Her career passions include helping health educators move to skills-based teaching and leaning into challenging topics. Cassie is  volunteer ambassador for Erika's Lighthouse and is very involved in her church and community. She loves to hike, kayak, garden, camp, and travel.ResourcesErika's Lighthouse: https://erikaslighthouse.org/ Erika's Lighthouse Family Resources: https://erikaslighthouse.org/familyengagement/ Tapping Solution: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/eft-tapping/ If you are interested in receiving a copy of the Coping Strategies or Mental Health Self-Management sheets, please email us at contact@smarthwp.comThank you for listening to the Raising Resilient Kids Podcast!  We are siblings on a mission to help kids become their strongest selves by sharing proven strategies with parents, teachers, and coaches to build resilient, confident kids who can tackle life's challenges and thrive. For more information on the podcast, or if you have a question you would like answered by one of our expert guests, please visit us at - https://www.smarthwp.com/raisingresilientkidspodcast. A special thanks to our sponsors: The So Happy You're Here YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/@sohappyyouarehere and The Resilient Youth Teach-the-Teacher Program - https://www.smarthwp.com/RY4teachers

"You can change your life with just a tap," says Brad Yates, the renowned expert in Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) tapping. Yates sits down with Lesley Jane Seymour to share his remarkable journey from aspiring actor to tapping wizard. Discover how EFT tapping can serve as a powerful tool for stress relief and emotional well-being, helping individuals reclaim their lives and navigate the challenges of modern living. Yates delves into the science behind tapping, explaining how it works to calm the nervous system and promote emotional freedom. He also discusses its versatility, making it suitable for everyone—from children coping with anxiety to health practitioners seeking to enhance their practices. Tune in to learn practical techniques, hear inspiring success stories, and find out how you can incorporate tapping into your daily routine for a happier, less stressful life. About Brad: Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative use of EFT/Tapping, and has over 1000 YouTube videos. He is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” and a presenter at numerous events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success. FREE GIFT: 5-Day Program for Cultivating Self-Worth Time Stamps: 02:02 - How EFT tapping replaced hypnotherapy as Yates's main modality 05:01 - How EFT helps people overcome phobias 11:21 - Tapping lowers cortisol levels, studies have shown 14:02 - EFT works for anybody who's got an energy system 19:18 - To learn tapping only takes a few minutes in order to relieve stress 23:37 - Yates's personal reinvention into Tapping 27:00 - EFT/Tapping for children   Connect with Brad Yates: Website Instagram Facebook YouTube     Connect with Lesley Jane Seymour: Website Instagram LinkedIn Substack If you found this episode insightful, please follow the podcast and leave a review on Apple Podcasts. For more resources and community support, join me on Substack. Until next time, keep reinventing!

"Nature has never allowed an injury that she didn't already have a solution to." - Dr. Zach Bush In this transformative episode, I sat down with Dr. Zach Bush, a physician whose journey from ICU medicine to understanding the human ecosystem has revolutionized how we think about health and healing. We explored the profound connection between human health and our relationship with nature, diving deep into why illness isn't a failure of the body but often a reset mechanism for healing. Dr. Bush shared groundbreaking insights about how our disconnection from nature has led to chronic disease, and more importantly, how we can reverse this through simple, powerful reconnections with the natural world. His message of hope – that we can restore our health and the planet's wellbeing through embracing nature's intelligence – couldn't come at a more critical time for women seeking genuine, sustainable wellness solutions. What you'll learn: Why getting sick isn't a failure of your immune system, but often a necessary reset mechanism How our obsession with "killing germs" is actually compromising our health and resilience The surprising truth about human biology - we're not just a body, but a complex ecosystem Why connecting with nature is more powerful than any biohacking technique The revolutionary approach to healing that starts with curiosity and self-discovery How women's intuitive, process-oriented nature holds the key to both personal and planetary healing The power of witnessing and being witnessed in our healing journey   Love the Podcast? Here's what to do: Make My Day & Share Your Thoughts! Subscribe to the podcast & leave me a review Text a screenshot to 813-565-2627 Expect a personal reply because your voice is so important to me. Join 50,000+ followers who make this podcast thrive.   Full show notes: https://www.jjvirgin.com/drzach Learn more about Dr. Zach Bush: https://zachbushmd.com/  Intelligence of Nature - new customers use code VIRGIN for 15% off: https://intelligenceofnature.com/?_ef_transaction_id=&oid=1&affid=425 Journey of Intrinsic Health: http://journeyofintrinsichealth.com Shop Oura Rings: https://ouraring.com/ Oxiline bioimpedance scale: https://oxiline.shop/product/scale-x-pro/?ref=mza2ntv Kooru Cold Plunge: https://www.koorucoldplunges.com/ and use code JJVIP500 for $500 off. Download my FREE Best Rest Sleep Cheat Sheet: https://jjvirgin.com/sleep The Tapping Solution: https://www.thetappingsolutionapp.com/jj   Episode Sponsors:  Try Timeline: https://www.timelinenutrition.com/shop?rfsn=7082975.4b75243 Use code JJ10 for 10% off all products Go to qualialife.com/VIRGINWELLNESS to try Qualia risk free for up to 100 days and code VIRGINWELLNESS for an additional 15% off  

Kelly Notaras is the founder of KN Literary Arts, an editorial book studio helping authors write, edit, publish and market their books. She started her career working in the editorial divisions at HarperCollins, Penguin, and Hyperion Books. She was later V.P., Associate Publisher at Sounds True, a multimedia spirituality publishing company in Boulder, Colorado. She has edited a wide variety of transformational nonfiction books including New York Times bestsellers Two Weeks Notice by Amy Porterfield, The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner and Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer. Along with Hay House CEO Reid Tracy, Kelly teaches the Hay House Writer's Community and Authorpreneur memberships. The author of The Book You Were Born to Write: Everything You Need to (Finally) Get Your Wisdom onto the Page and into the World, Kelly is grateful to live in the beautiful state of Colorado.

Gut health, high cortisol, hormone imbalances, and nervous system regulation—you've seen them all over social media, but (1) why do they happen? and (2) how do you actually address them? This week, we brought on Lisa Vasile NP (Grace's functional medicine doctor!) from 4 Better Health Functional Medicine in Massachusetts. To become a patient at 4 Better Health, visit their website: https://www.4betterhealthmedicine.com/ We covered a LOT of ground, including: The difference between functional medicine and traditional medicine How functional medicine doctors approach treating health issues vs. traditional doctors Why insurance companies often don't cover functional medicine (and why that's often better for the patient!) Why so many people deal with gut health issues and how to start addressing yours Why high cortisol is so common and practical ways to regulate your nervous system *After filming, Lisa wanted to add one note—functional medicine is not anti-medication. It works in tandem with medication. The goal is to get patients to thrive and feel healthy. Lisa/4 Better Health Functional Medicine can work with patients in Massachusetts and Florida. If you're not located in one of those states, use these directories to find a FM practitioner near you: https://afmccertification.com/search-afmc-practitioner-database/ or https://www.ifm.org/find-a-practitioner/ Resources Mentioned: GMO seed video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1H9WZGKQeYg The Body Keeps Score Book: https://shorturl.at/X097M EFT Tapping: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/ Nick Ortner, The Tapping Solution: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/anxiety/success-anxiety-may2018.php Qigong: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCicH-iz1oU If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review the podcast. We appreciate your support!

Tapping? EFT? What are they? In our episode this time Brad Yates will tell us all about these incredible tools and how they can benefit each of us. Brad grew up thinking he wanted to be an actor. He attended the University of California at Irvine, my alma mater. He majored in Drama.   After college he began working to create and grow an acting career. Along the way he met a woman and married her. As he worked at becoming an actor he began to feel that perhaps acting was not going to be what he should do full time.   He finally decided that helping people was his real life's calling. He took a course in hypnotherapy. He became a hypnotherapist and along the way learned about this tool called “tapping”. I get to participate in a tapping demo as you will see. Briefly, tapping utilizes many of the same techniques and areas of acupuncture, but instead of needles you use your finger tips to address certain locations on your body. Tapping is becoming more accepted as Brad proved by working with the Sacramento Drug Court for three years where he helped addicts coming out of jail to overcome life and physical challenges.   This episode is fascinating and invaluable on many levels. I hope you enjoy it and will visit Brad's website, www.tapwithbrad.com. Brad is truly unstoppable.       About the Guest:   Brad Yates has had the privilege and pleasure of working with a diverse group of clients, from CEOs to professional and NCAA athletes, from chiropractors and psychiatrists to corporate and federal attorneys, from award-winning actors to residents at a program for homeless men and women in Santa Monica. For several years he taught a weekly class using EFT and guided imagery at Sacramento Drug Court.   Brad has also been a presenter at a number of events, including several International Energy Psychology Conferences and Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success event. He's done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale and have been a featured expert in every Tapping World Summit.   He is the author of the best-selling children's book “The Wizard's Wish”, the co-author of the best-seller “Freedom at Your Fingertips,” a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution” (along with Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor, Dr. Norman Shealy and Dr. Bruce Lipton), and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.   Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 47 million times. More info is available at www.tapwithbrad.com   Ways to connect with Brad:   Website: https://www.tapwithbrad.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/tapwithbrad Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TapWithBrad Instagram: http://instagram.com/tapwithbrad TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tapwithbrad Twitter: http://twitter.com/tapwithbrad LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tapwithbrad/       About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. 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Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Brad Yates ** 02:04 Oh, thank you so much. Michael, I'm honored to be here. And, yeah, I think it's up to 47 million now.   Michael Hingson ** 02:10 47 I was afraid that I got that wrong. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 02:12 that's all right.   Michael Hingson ** 02:14 It's okay. It's   Brad Yates ** 02:15 a lot of time. I'm honored that that so many people have found it helpful and and then it continues to grow at   Michael Hingson ** 02:24 1000 videos. That's 47,000 views per video, so that's not too bad. Yeah,   02:30 yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 02:31 take the average. Well, I really appreciate you being here. And one other thing that Brad and I just discovered about each other is we are both graduates of UC Irvine, so we're both anteaters, and as we always say, there you go. Well, why don't we start tell us a little bit about the early Brad growing up and stuff. Yeah, why not?   Brad Yates ** 02:56 Well, so I, I went to Irvine as a drama major, because it had a really great drama department. So coming out of high school, I was an actor. What I intended to do, and got my degree in drama. It as I was just telling you, it took some a little bit of time off during college to go study acting in London. And then out of college, got a job with a traveling children's theater, traveled the world, performed in all kinds of exotic locations, like Italy, Australia, Fiji, Waukegan, Illinois, you know, hit all the big places and and then after a little bit of that, I decided it's time to go to Hollywood to go my movie star. And then while I was there, I I met a woman, fell in love and got married, and when our first child was on the way, I thought, you know, I might need a backup career. So I saw an ad for a hypnotherapy school, and I thought, wow, I've always been fascinated by the power of the mind. I'll I'll check that out, and did that, started building a small hypnotherapy practice while still pursuing my acting career. And then after a couple of years, when our second child was on the way, I realized that as much as I loved acting, doing personal development work was really my calling, that's really what I was meant to do. It just just so satisfying. So we left Los Angeles, moved up to northern California to be closer to our families, and had the kids close to their grandparents. And through some other hypnotherapists, I heard about this, this tapping thing, this energy psychology conference going on in Las Vegas. And I thought, Wow, that sounds interesting. And when we did this technique where we were just tapping using acupuncture points and tapping on our face to down regulate stress, it was just really amazing, especially when one of the examples you used was. Was he gave everybody pieces of chocolate, and we tapped on chocolate cravings. And after a couple of minutes, I could not eat the chocolate, and I didn't eat chocolate for two years after that, I eventually recovered. I got better, but so that I just thought, wow, this is an amazing technique. And I started introducing into my hypnotherapy sessions, and little they became tapping sessions and put it on YouTube, and here we are.   Michael Hingson ** 05:25 Wow. So you you use a lot of interesting techniques. Tell me about guided imagery. What is that?   Brad Yates ** 05:36 That's the the name that I give to hypnosis is still a type of hypnosis, just allowing people to go into that, that different state of mind and create images that are designed to enhance one's well being, enhance their success mindset, even enhance their unstoppable mindset, and allowing them to to find those ways of accessing more powerful and more empowering parts of themselves. So while my original sessions used to be all hypnotherapy, now I usually end a session with just what I call a guided imagery, just taking people through to use it to very nurturing process for mind and body. So   Michael Hingson ** 06:23 what is it that you do? Are they actually under hypnosis during guided imagery, or are you helping people to really learn to imagine and and use their minds to to explore images and explore whatever it is that that you're talking about without actually going through the whole hypnotic process.   Brad Yates ** 06:43 Well, I do. I start with a progressive relaxation, which is the hypnotic induction that a lot of people use. It's not the the induction. I as a hypnotherapist, I used a number of different inductions with with this, because I'm often working with large audiences, I do just a progressive relaxation, but it does take many folks into a very deep, hypnotic trance, and some others, not so much, but, but to a very relaxed place where they're more open to suggestion. And then I'll do it. It'll be a guided meditation of looking at what do they want to create, and how do they access that? And it, it's always it's always intuitive. For me, I very rarely know what I'm going to do until I start talking to them and taking them down. And then, generally, because I've done it at the end of a tapping session, and I know what the person is working on and what their challenges are, I'll generally come up with some sort of imagery that is related to what we've been working on, just sort of seal in the work that we've done with the tapping   Michael Hingson ** 07:56 well. And as long as we're doing that, then tell me about tapping. What, what that is logical. Logical thing. Since you brought it up, guided imagery.   Brad Yates ** 08:07 Mainly what I do my website is tap with Brad. So it's all about the the tapping. It based on acupuncture. So for 1000s of years in Chinese medicine, they have said there's a flow of energy through the body along these pathways that are called meridians. And when this energy is flowing naturally, we experience our natural state of health and well being, physically and emotionally. And when this energy gets stuck or disrupted, we don't feel so good, and that keeps us from thinking clearly. We don't make the best decisions, and that has all kinds of unfortunate consequences. So in traditional Chinese medicine, the doctor would stick needles in these key points along around the face and torso and the body to stimulate that healthy flow of energy. And we're just tapping with our fingertips to stimulate those same points. It's kind of a type of acupressure to get that flow of energy going. We have a growing body of scientific research validating it as a very profound tool for down regulating stress. And when you realize that stress either causes or worsens most, if not all, of the issues that trouble us, both physically and emotionally, then having a very simple tool for down regulating stress and balancing the nervous system is can be a profound benefit in in life in general, for our health and well being, but also pretty much any area of our lives.   Michael Hingson ** 09:36 So you talk about Emotional Freedom Techniques is, is essentially guided imagery, and tapping part of what that means. Well, the   Brad Yates ** 09:45 the Emotional Freedom Techniques is the is one version of the tapping modality. It was developed out of a another tapping modality called fought field therapy. The psychologist named Dr Roger Callahan and. Who had been working with this woman with a lifelong water phobia, and after working with him for a year and a half, and she was about 40, had been in therapy all of her life. After a year and a half with him, she could be outdoors near swimming pool and not have be too disturbed, but she had to be looking away from the water. But she was, you know, very, very bothered by bodies of water and any water. So he had been expanding his horizons, learning different things. Was taking a course in acupressure. And one day, he said, Well, what's the physical sensation when you have this water fear? And she said, Well, I get a knot in my stomach. And he said, Okay, well, this this key point for the stomach meridians right here under the eye. Let's see what happens if we tap there. And after just a few moments of tapping, she said, it's gone. And he said, Well, what's gone? She said, the fear. And she runs out of the house towards the swimming pool. And he's running after saying, Wait, stop. She goes, Stop, just It's okay. I know I don't know how to swim, but she got down by the pool and started splashing water in her face. And she said, this doesn't bother me at all. And naturally thought, well, this is very interesting. So he started experimenting with different patients, and found that with different emotional issues, he it was beneficial to use different points in different sequences. And within a year, he put himself out of business because all of his patients who had been coming to him on a weekly basis were now, hey, I'm fine, see ya. So he started teaching this process called that. He called thought field therapy, and one of his first students was a gentleman named Gary Craig, and you'll appreciate this. Gary got his degree in engineering. He he had his degree from from Stanford, and was very interested in personal development, and was taking this learning this process. And he said, Well, it's it. This is very complicated, coming up with these different algorithms of which points to tap in which sequences, and there's eight points that we're using. So what if we just tap these eight points top to bottom in one sequence and simplify it? You know, as an engineer trying to simplify what's there? Yeah, and found that he was getting the same great results. So he called this version of tapping Emotional Freedom Techniques. And a lot of us, the the tapping that many of us do is based on EFT there. There are sometimes some differences, because each person does it a little bit differently. So the general term over that all is, is tapping coming from my background as Hypnotherapist. I then just add on guided imagery as as part of the work that I do   Michael Hingson ** 12:43 still extremely interesting and clearly beneficial. What about how it's accepted in Western culture, Western medicine and so on? Just like acupuncture, it seems to me, there's usually a lot of resistance to some of this stuff in the in the Western world, yet it clearly works. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 13:06 yeah. There is, there is still some resistance. There's a growing number of people who are introducing it. There are MDS and PhDs who use it. I it. One of the most flattering things for me is when I hear from a licensed therapist saying, Oh yeah, I send people to watch your videos as homework in between our sessions. So there is that, as I said, there's a growing body of scientific evidence showing it the APA, the Association of psychology, the American Psychology Association has not fully accepted, at this point as an evidence based process, a dear friend of mine in Australia, Dr Peter Stapleton, who is a clinical psychologist. She's a psychology professor at Bond University, and when she was first introduced to this, she thought, I'm a scientist. This is ridiculous. And then she experimented with and found that it was very beneficial. And she's led a lot of the research, doing research such as with cortisol levels, which is a stress hormone, where we see the dramatic reduction in cortisol after tapping. She's done fMRI studies, where you can see the brain activity and how, after the tapping, the parts of the brain that are lighting up are no longer they're now normalized. So she has, she has been working with the AP sheet. She followed all of their guidelines to to meet the criteria for evidence based practice. And they said, Well, we're changing our guidelines. She'll love it, and she's done studies with up against cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT is the gold standard of therapy, and in the studies that they did, the. EFT group got the results quicker, and the results lasted longer than CBT, but the people running that involved in CBT said, Well, when you publish the findings, you can only say that EFT was non inferior to CBT,   Michael Hingson ** 15:19 and she'll love it.   Brad Yates ** 15:21 Yeah. So little by little, little by little, we're making headway.   Michael Hingson ** 15:25 Well, so how does tapping really affect people's ability to make choices and and improve or or achieve better results in their worlds?   Brad Yates ** 15:36 Yeah? Well, when we look at it, most of the choices that we make are made on an emotional level. Well, most of the choices we make are we do unconsciously. 80 to 90% of the choices are we're doing the same choices make having the same thoughts as yesterday. And we so often make choices and we don't even realize that we're doing it. So we say we want to get healthy, but then we find ourselves halfway through a box of cookies going, ooh, how did that happen? And and it's we want to be compassionate with ourselves. So so often we beat ourselves up for these choices, but we're just trying to take care of ourselves. There's a part of us that says I'm uncomfortable. Cookies tend to make me feel better. I'm just trying to take care of myself. So we're trying to soothe an emotional discomfort, and that's what tapping does. Tapping soothes that emotional discomfort. So rather than eating doing stress eating, we can do the tapping to calm ourselves down. And then what happens when we go into stress? We go into some level of fight or flight, where the sympathetic nervous system kicks in and we're cortisol is pumping we're trying to prepare ourselves to fight or freeze. And the prefrontal cortex, our rational mind, where we make all of our best choices goes Bye, bye. Yeah. So when we're in that stress point, we're not making those good choices. But with the tapping we calm that down, we engage the parasympathetic nervous system, get our get the blood flowing back into the prefrontal cortex, and we make much better choices. So we're able to look at what do I really want in terms of my health, in terms of my well being, in terms of my finances, in terms of my career, all of that stuff, we're now able to make much better choices, and we get better results. I was talking to someone about tapping for money. I have a number of videos on money, and someone said, Now, how can tapping on your face make a difference in your financial life? I said, Well, would you agree that your behavior has something to do with your financial situation? And she's like, Well, yeah. And I said, would you agree that stress has something to do with your behavior? Yeah, okay, so therefore, ergo something that can down regulate stress can benefit how you the behavior that you have which can benefit your finances.   Michael Hingson ** 18:04 So what did she say to that? She was   Brad Yates ** 18:07 like, Well, okay, you got me. And in terms of, you know, I love the title of your show about being unstoppable, it's, it's, I did a program for a group called the unstoppable foundation that builds schools in Africa. Cynthia Kersey and I actually have a just a video that I made years ago called being unstoppable, because it's looking at what stops us. What are those things when, when we look at what we want to create and what, what's the kind of life that we want to have? And we might have some ideas, and then we say, No, I couldn't do that because of this, because of that. And and that's just we have old programming that has an emotional charge on it that creates this stress. It's like put an electric fence around us, and it stops, and we say, Oh, I can't go past this point. This is out of my comfort zone. It doesn't feel safe. And so by clearing out that stress, we expand that comfort zone, and we become more unstoppable.   Michael Hingson ** 19:16 One of the things that I have been working on is starting to help people understand that when a major crisis occurs in our life, like for me, when I was in the World Trade Center and it was attacked on September 11, so I wasn't afraid. I'm not going to say, well, I shouldn't say I wasn't afraid, but I was not and did not allow fear to overwhelm me, or, as I put it, blind me to being able to act. And the reality is that fear is something that we can control, and if we if we work at it, we can teach people that, in fact, you can use fear. Is a very powerful tool to guide you. It keeps you it can keep you more alert. It can keep you more focused, and that you don't have to be blinded or overwhelmed just because you're in the middle of a building and something happened now one, one of the things for me is that I and all the people who I was with and who were around me as we were going down the stairs. Had no idea what happened. We did figure out an airplane must have hit the building because we were smelling the fumes from burning jet fuel, but we had no idea what really happened, other than an airplane hit the building. And as I love to tell people you know, who always say to me, Well, you couldn't possibly have known because you couldn't see it. My immediate response was, you don't know what kind of imagination I have. I've been watching too much science fiction for years. You have no clue. But the reality is, of course, eyesight had nothing to do with it. The plane hit 1840 on the other side of the building, so no one knew. No one saw that. Yeah, Superman and X ray vision just aren't there, you know? But I had learned what to do. I had spent a lot of time studying, talking to the emergency preparedness people, the Port Authority, police and so on, so I knew what to do in an emergency. And the mindset kicked in, and I realized that for 22 years after that, I've not really talked to people about how they can learn to control fear, but rather I've just talked about the fact that I chose not to really be afraid. So it's it's interesting listening to you, because clearly talking about things like Emotional Freedom Techniques and especially tapping, might be a more direct way to help people really get to the point of understanding that we can control fear and it doesn't need to overwhelm us. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 21:56 absolutely, absolutely in the moment. You know, people talk about, oh, the negative emotions like fear and anger. And I say, no, there are no negative emotions. There are uncomfortable emotions, and we don't want to stay stuck in them, but they all serve a purpose, and the so called negative emotions are our warning signals. They're there to tell us, hey, here's something you need to pay attention to, right? Just as you said. So you use fear to go, Okay, I want to pay attention. But so for me, it's like having a smoke detector in your house, and when there's it gets triggered, the alarm goes off, but the alarm is just there to tell you, hey, you need to pay attention to something. Go check if there's a fire someplace, yeah, and, and then you can put it out. But with so many of us with these emotions, especially anger, but, but in many ways, fear, with the trigger goes off and the smoke alarms going off, and we just run around going, Oh, my goodness, oh my goodness, there's an alarm going off. It's like, okay, that doesn't help. You're supposed to actually take action, so you use that as a signal to check, and you go into the kitchen go, oh, there is no fire. It's just a misunderstanding. Or, you know, it often happens when we're cooking, and the fire alarm goes off because it detects the smoke, even though there's no actual fire. So it could be just a mistake and but we are. We sometimes get so triggered that we that we go into this panic mode, and the prefrontal cortex shuts down, as I was saying earlier, and we don't think clearly, so we don't make great choices, so we the the tapping allows us to hear the alarm and calm down that panic and go, Okay, let me. Let me figure this out. And what you were saying about how you were so prepared, I think it's something they talk about in navy seals, is you don't, you don't rise to your potential. You fall to your training and and that habit, and I had, I when we when we first spoke a couple weeks ago, and I had said something about, in some ways, your lack of sight as a superpower, because you have spent, rather than being stopped you. I mean, you truly are a hero of being unstoppable in terms of, you know, what you've achieved, and the things when you talked about riding a bike, I'm like, wow, so, but because of that situation, you don't take as much for granted as as some other people. And so you had done the your your due diligence in learning the safety things and talking to Port Authority that a lot of people take for granted. And so in that moment, as you said, you, you had that training. You, you built that in. It wasn't I have to now figure out, Oh, my goodness, there's emergency let me now go look at the emergency manual that I have taken for granted. Just assume I'll be able to look at that when the time comes. You know, it's like, yeah, I. Know what to do with this, and, you know, benefited all the people that were there in your office. So, but it's, it's a great tool for, it's great tool for clearing stress that has been held in our body. You know, Dr Bessel van der Kolk the one of the premier experts in trauma. His book is called The Body Keeps the Score, so we have this stored trauma in our body, and with the tapping, we can release that. But it's also great for in the moment, having that, I have reached out and talked to some first responders about being able to having this be a tool in their tool kit, so that when they're dealing with someone who is in this elevated state of fight or flight, to be able to use this to quickly calm down the nervous system, so that they can be more present, more more able to do what they need to do and or tell what they Need to tell.   Michael Hingson ** 26:01 I like your an example or analogy of using it in comparing it to a fire alarm, because the the reality is, the fire alarm goes off and you and if you are able to not just run around, but go investigate and you discover that there is a serious fire in the kitchen or in the garage. The point is, though, that again, you can panic, or you can have spent time training and thinking about such things, and so you know what you can do and what your options are. And the reality is, that's what it's really about. You know, there was no way to control the airplanes hitting the buildings, and that happened. And of course, the buildings could have collapsed, and there we all were, and we would have been smushed, but that but until that happened, the bottom line is, that's not what was going on. And so we had the option to then choose which is the operative part of it, what to do. And for me, I made a choice because I had learned what to do. And I think that's that's the issue. And sighted people could do that as well. But as you point out, they realized so much on just Oh, I could go look at the manual. Well, that doesn't work when you have the emergency. You're already in the middle of it. Did you really prepare? And that's what people need to do a lot more of, is taking the time to really prepare. And that's why I've just written a book. It'll be published later this year, called Live like a guide dog, and it talks about controlling fear. And the reason that we titled it that was that in reality, I've used lessons I've learned from observing eight guide dogs on my wife's service dog and things that they showed at challenging times that did teach me a lot more about learning to and helping Control fear or being afraid and being able to use that fear in a in a positive and constructive way to be able to survive and move on. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 28:09 yeah. So listening to the hearing the fire alarm and going, Oh, this is, this is telling me to go do something just like in the in the fire station, if there's a fire an alarm goes off. And because of their training, they go, Oh, time to suit up and sit up and go, yeah, not, not. Oh, my goodness. Oh, my goodness, there's alarm going off, yeah, which is what so many of us do, because we take things for granted and and then it triggers that, that fight or flight, and we have a lot of programming about, well, if I'm not afraid, then I'm not taking it seriously. And and I'll say to folks, well, if you're crossing the street, you know, you look both ways right to make sure that it's safe to cross the street, or you wait for the walk signal. You don't, but you don't stand there and go, Okay, there's a little green man on the walk signal. I can hear the signal chirping, saying it's safe to walk. I can look both ways and see there's no traffic, but first I better get myself worked up into a panic, because otherwise I'm not really going to pay attention. Yeah, no, we just calmly walk across so we can use common sense and recognize all right. I can pay attention to what's going on and not have those elevated levels of cortisol going on, and I don't need to have my prefrontal cortex shut down. I can actually allow myself to think more clearly. So I sometimes say that Emotional Freedom is the freedom to make better choices well, and   Michael Hingson ** 29:39 I know for me, so let's use your example with the traffic light and or when there isn't an audible traffic signal, and there doesn't need to be an audible traffic signal everywhere, like if you're at a straight crossing where you've got two streets that intersect, it's not like it's necessarily magical, but what I always do is listen. To see what the traffic's doing, right? And when I hear that the traffic is going the way I want to go, then I will start across. But even then, I listen again to make sure I'm not hearing a car that seems to be coming up fairly fast from behind me, that might suddenly turn in front of me, but I'll make a decision. And they do that sometimes. Oh,   Brad Yates ** 30:21 every morning, on my morning walk, Michael, I walk five miles every day. And, you know, every couple of weeks there's someone who is in a hurry, and they come whipping around, making a right hand turn without looking Yeah. So, yeah, you never know. So   Michael Hingson ** 30:38 I listen, and when I make the determination that I have enough time or or space to start across, I will and even then, if a car comes up faster than I expected, I I keep myself poised and ready to okay, if that car is coming, is it better to leap back to where I came from, or shoot the rest of the way across the street. And you have to have that awareness, because drivers are crazy. The other part about it is working with a guide dog. So I start, I tell the dog to go forward across the street, and the dog won't go. That tells me there's something else going on, like a hybrid vehicle turning that I don't happen to hear and I will follow the dog, because the dog's job is really to make sure that we stay safe. The dog doesn't know where I want to go, and I don't want the dog to know that, but the dog does have the option to prevent me from going if it thinks there's a problem. So it's a team effort, and that's fine, but the bottom line is that I've learned those skills. And you know, like in the World Trade Center, talking about the fire alarm went off. If I really wish that when we met firefighters coming up the stairs, they had told me what was going on. Because I know me, I love information, and it would have made some differences in some of the decisions that we made later, which, for example, put us like 100 yards from tower two when it collapsed because we didn't know what was going on. Oh, geez, you know. And if I had known that, we would have probably gone a different way. On the other hand, we were there and we ran and all that was fine, but still, I like information, but I know me, and I also know why they didn't say anything to anyone, because we asked, because they were afraid that it could cause a panic, and I'm sure with a lot of people, it would have so I understand that, but I would have liked to have known but they don't know me. They didn't know me. So, you know, we go on Right, right.   Brad Yates ** 32:43 Yeah, they can't take everything and go. Everybody else would panic. This guy looks like he's got a good head on your shoulders. He could probably handle the information and not and and if they had to appeal and panicked, you know, fewer people might have gotten out because of, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 32:58 yeah. Well, we worked really hard to keep people focused going down the stairs, and you know that so they they didn't panic, which was important. Well, so what are the areas for tapping that that work with Emotional Freedom Techniques with EFT? Because I'm sure there are a lot of things you can a lot of places to tap for one thing or another. But what do you mainly work on with EFT and tapping?   Brad Yates ** 33:20 I actually work with folks on all kinds of different things. I, you know, a lot of times it's, it's career success, people trying to up level their career and finding themselves stopping because, you know, fear, fear of success, fear of failure, fear of being seen. There's a lot of people, it's the idea of having more people find out about them, meaning more people that can be critical of them and judgmental of them. It feels very threatening. And so we work on that. I work with folks on self esteem issues, which is underneath a lot of the blocks in terms of relationships, in terms of so many areas of life, this pervasive feeling of not being good enough, of not being worthy, is out there, and it's a misunderstanding. So I I'll help people shift their mindset around that the problems we we we get very stuck on what we believe and how we do things, and when we try to make changes, part of our mind says that's threatening. What is familiar is safe. What is unfamiliar is dangerous, even if I'm looking and going, okay, but my life is not so great, and I can look over at this other possibility and say that would be much better. The part of the brain says, No, it's different. That's dangerous. And so we have a stress response that stops us from taking certain actions and and we become very stoppable. So So, and also, ultimately, in many ways, helping people become unstoppable is, uh. Is what it's all about in all kinds of different areas.   Michael Hingson ** 35:03 Can we teach our brain to think that difference isn't necessarily bad, and get out of that reaction? Because that's something that, of course, we hear all the time. People always talk about how change is all around us, but people hate change. Yes. Can we teach people that that's not necessarily the case?   Brad Yates ** 35:26 Yeah, that's and that's the the that's what, where the tapping really comes in, because it down regulates that, that stress that occurs. Yeah, we want, as a friend of mine says, everybody wants things to be different. They just don't want to change, you know, and, and because when we come up against some kind of change, we we have that, that stress response, like touching the electric fence and says, go back to where you were. And the tapping calms that down. So it's like cutting the wires to the electric fence, and we can see, oh, that's a misunderstanding, that thing that I was afraid of isn't really a threat to me. You know, obviously there are things that are real threats. In 911 there was a real threat, but most of the things that are stopping people on a day to day basis are absolutely imaginary and not, not an actual threat to our well being. It might be, it might bruise our ego, if it goes a certain way, but our ego can handle that. And so as we use this tool to create a feeling of safety, so as I look at, you know, if I, if I have, for instance, with money, people have a lot of old program about, you know, money is the root of all evil. So if I have, I may consciously say, of course, I want to make a lot more money, but if, unconsciously, I have this belief that money is the root of all evil, I don't want to be evil, so I'm going to block the amount of money I have. So if I have a get an interview for a job that's going to pay me a lot better, I might blow the interview. I might not even show up. I might totally forget to show up unconsciously. And I, you know, afterwards thinking, oh my goodness, I totally spaced that. Because I like to say that self sabotage is simply misguided. Self love. We're trying to protect ourselves. So these self sabotaging behaviors are an attempt to protect ourselves based on some old misunderstanding. So as we calm down that that the fear that causes us to to stop ourselves, and we look at and say, oh, you know what? I could handle having more money and in that job, I could be of a lot more service to more people, it would be so rewarding personally as well, and that that just creates that, that great opening for for amazing things to happen. Of   Michael Hingson ** 37:51 course, Steve Jones and Joe Vitale have been trying to teach that for a number of years. And I know you've done I've worked with both of them. You've worked with both of them before. Yes,   Brad Yates ** 37:59 I have a program with with Joe Vitale, a program called money beyond belief. And with Steve, we did a program called Confidence beyond belief. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 38:08 and, you know, the issue is that that we can, we can learn to deal with change, and it makes us a lot more powerful if, if we do that, and we do it consciously and do it the right way. Can anyone learn tapping and how to deal with Emotional Freedom Techniques? Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 38:27 pretty much it's it's a very simple technique of tapping with our fingertips on our face and torso. There are different places you can tap and and you can even gently hold or rub the points. For some folks who may not be physically capable of tapping all of the points, and a lot of people find it very beneficial just to imagine the tapping, they can also get a lot of benefits from that in because, you know, we send we send thought signals. We send electrical biochemical impulses to these different nerves and different muscles. So we're able to do it that way as well.   Michael Hingson ** 39:08 So how can people learn how to tap?   Brad Yates ** 39:12 Well, the easiest way is, from my perspective, is go on YouTube, because there's, there's this guy who's got over 1000 videos. I heard, again, all kinds of different subjects. But that's sort of the the easiest way is to is to be guided in that way. And there's a number of colleagues of mine who also have videos and different resources online to, you know, one of the very simple thing is we just, you know, learning the these different these eight points. And I'll you know, just for the sake of demonstration, if someone takes their index and middle finger, all right, I've done that. Yeah, take the take the the fingertips and gently tap on the opposite the side of your opposite hand. So we gently tap the the opposite hand to begin with, where we. This setup on the hand itself. Yeah, right on the on the edge between your wrist and pinky. Okay, yeah, so, yeah, gently tapping there. And that's where we say, even though I have this stress or even though I'm feeling this fear, or even though I'm angry at Bob, whatever it is that's bothering us, we gently tap there and say, even though I feel this, I choose to love and accept myself. And it's just creating a level of acceptance, because so often we try to run from and say, Oh, I don't feel that. And then what we resist persists, yeah? So we just say, I accept that. Then we gently tap the eyebrow point, so right at the beginning of your eyebrow, right near the center of your face. Yeah. We'll just gently tap there five to 10 times and we say, whatever the issue is, this stress, this anger at Bob. And then we then we follow the eyebrow out to the side of the eye, right the corner of the eye socket, and gently tap in there and say, all this stress. We follow the edge of the eye socket around to right under the middle of your eye, just above your cheek, all this stress, then right under your nose, just above your upper lip, gently tap in there, all this stress, then right below your lower lip, just above your chin, all this stress. The next point is right your where your collarbones just about come together. There's a little bit of a U shape at the base of your throat, and you can gently tap there, and you can actually even make a fist and tap where the collarbones meet all this stress. The next point is four inches below the armpit, so it's right about bra strap level. And even us guys can figure out where that one is all this stress. And then the last point we tap is right at the top of the head. So if you use all of your fingertips and tap around the crown of your head, all this stress when you take a deep breath, and actually be when we first do it, we would rate the stress on a scale of zero to 10. So it's like, okay, the stress that I'm feeling, or the anger at Bob that I'm feeling, is maybe an eight out of 10. And I'll and I'll try to figure out what the physical responses too. So it may be a tension in my shoulders that way we can see what we're working at, because then we can, after doing the tapping, we check again. And sometimes it'll go from an eight down to a zero like that. Sometimes it may just go from a seven, from an eight to a 7.75 but even that is some relief, and it's often like peeling the layers of the onion so that we might recognize as we're tapping like I might be tapping on all this anger at Bob, all this anger at Bob. Wait a minute, it's not even Bob, it's Cindy in the third grade. She did this thing, and I've been mad at her ever since. I never forgave her, and now I'm able to clear up some stress that I've been holding in my body for decades. So it's, that's, that's the very simple way of using it. And then, you know, and so in the very basic version of of EFT like that, we just repeat the whatever it is that's bothering us on each point. The way I do it in my videos is, I It's a more intuitive process, and I like to explore different ideas. And when I when I do that with folks, it they may say, Well, that's how do you come up with those words? It's like, don't worry about that. That's why I made the videos on YouTube, so you don't have to worry about the words. As you get more comfortable with the process, you'll start thinking of what you want to say while you're tapping. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 43:38 Now people have used acupuncture to relieve pain and things like that. Does tapping do the same thing, or is it somewhat different?   Brad Yates ** 43:46 It can I have helped a number of people with physical discomfort. I was working with a guy once, who I was at a health fair, and a guy came up to my booth and was asking what I was doing, and I and he was saying he had a his back was really bother him. I said, scale is zero to 10. He said, Oh, it's an eight. Um, it's like, really difficult to walk. And we did some tapping, and he said, Yeah, I think I feel a little bit better. And he and his girlfriend walked away, and later they came back over and said, So, at another part of this fair, there's a dance floor, and we've been over there dancing for a while, and what the heck did you do to me? And he said, my back isn't bothering me at all. And I'm not a doctor. I'm not going to make any medical claims, but there are plenty of doctors will say that, you know, up to 75% and sometimes more, of the physical pain we experience is is created by the stress that we're feeling. So when we can down regulate that stress, it can relieve a lot of the physical discomfort we have, and it also gives us more room for healing, because our body has remarkable healing capabilities, and as we clear out, as we allow ourselves. To process the emotions that might be involved, then we have more energy to put towards our physical healing   Michael Hingson ** 45:08 well. And we, we all too often, don't accept that the body is really as good as it can be to heal itself and so on. And yes, of course, the point you're making is that the body really is that good, and we need to grow and learn that, that it can do that, and that we need to allow that to happen. And so often we just don't. Yeah, no matter what Cindy did, no matter what Cindy did to us in the third grade,   Brad Yates ** 45:36 exactly a darn Cindy telling you,   Michael Hingson ** 45:41 but we, we just don't, we don't accept that. And we've, we've talked ourselves way too much into some things that aren't necessarily So absolutely,   Brad Yates ** 45:53 absolutely, and we're we have so many misunderstandings about things, so many arguments that we have with people in our heads about something that wasn't that didn't happen the way that we thought it did. Yeah, and, you know, we may finally get up the nerve to talk to the person go, you know, I'm just so mad about this thing you said, and they're like, I didn't say that or, well, I certainly didn't mean that. You know, certainly in this day and age of texting, where there's where you can't even hear the tone of voice, where we misread things   Michael Hingson ** 46:27 way too much, yeah,   Brad Yates ** 46:30 so so we're able to clear up those misunderstandings about ourselves, about other people, about different situations, and then that just creates a whole lot more peace. Tell me   Michael Hingson ** 46:40 if you would a little bit about your time at the Sacramento drug court. That seems like it would be fascinating to dealing with all of that and dealing with addiction and so on.   Brad Yates ** 46:48 Yeah, that was a very interesting time I had been I had presented a workshop at the energy psychology conference where I'd first learned tap, and I'd gone back as a presenter. I had been learning about 12 step programs. I had gone to some debtors anonymous programs. I was not handling my finances well at a time, and I had gone to debtors anonymous and been introduced to the 12 steps. And so I thought, wow, EFT would be a great tool with that. And there was a woman running a drug court program here in Sacramento, which is a mandated recovery program for people coming out of jail for drug offenses. And she said, Would you be willing to be one of our staff teachers, teaching EFT as a recovery tool? And so I did that for three years, and it was very interesting, because a lot of the people that I was working with there was, they were not my normal clientele, I bet. And you know, these people who had had really tough lives, people had really tough lives, and I come along and I say, so you're just coming out of jail, tap on your face. And not everyone was was totally open to but when they were, you know, people say, Oh, my God, this, this really works, and being able to first down regulate the the trigger and emotions that they had, and it then created greater freedom to to do what they needed to do To recover from addiction, because so much of addiction is trying to tranquilize stress and trauma. It's like I'm just, I'm just trying to find a way to feel better because I can't tolerate the discomfort that I have, and tapping provides a healthier alternative, such that we then have that again, the freedom to make better choices.   Michael Hingson ** 48:43 Tell me about your book, The Wizards wish children's book, I guess,   48:47 yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 48:48 I sounds like a great title.   Brad Yates ** 48:50 Thank you. I I had done there. There's a documentary about tapping called The Tapping Solution, and when I was interviewed for this film, we talked a lot about children and how so many of the issues that stop us as as adults, our thing are based on events that happen in childhood. And I'm saying, Wow, if you know, if we taught children how to tap such that, you know, in the third grade, when Cindy did that really mean thing to us, rather than carrying that for years, and all of the ways that it limits our ability to thrive, if we could have, you know, tapped, even though Cindy did this thing and felt free that day, what what is possible for us. What kind of things could we achieve? And after that, I thought, yeah, I would love to find a great way to teach tapping to kids. And I had young children, and story time was always a big part of our lives. So I thought, do it as a children's story. And I'm a Harry Potter fan. I love. Wizards. I have a I have a plaque with all of my replica wands from the Harry Potter movies on my wall here. And I thought, wow, what if we used the wizard and and using the fingertips as a magic wand for tapping these magic points on the body. And so that's where the the inspiration came and, and I'd been a cartoonist and illustrated the book, and had a lot of I had some resistance to that. It was like, Oh, I gotta have a hard time drawing all these pictures. And I didn't realize where I was stopping myself. And I talked to a friend of mine, and she did some tapping with me and rattled off all the drawings within a week. So it's like, oh, there's a this is a good experiment for me in terms of using the tapping where I where I'm not seeing, where I'm stopping myself.   Michael Hingson ** 50:47 So you tap yourself, yeah, perfect.   Brad Yates ** 50:51 Every day. It's because you can. It's not always about clearing stress and fear. It can also be used for just allowing yourself to feel more peace, feel more joy, be more open to what's possible. And most of us are carrying ambient levels of stress that we're not even aware of, especially with most of us are walking around with a cell phone that's constantly saying, Hey, how you doing? Here's something to be upset about. And we're getting stressed out about things that aren't even directly related to our lives, yeah, and that stress has a harmful effect on us. So I like to start my day just trying to be as clear as possible. Well, we live in good things.   Michael Hingson ** 51:30 We live in a world today looking at our elections and everything else, where people are just encouraging us to be fearful and yes and so angry about so many things. And you know, I, I've seen it happen to me, and I always have to say, wait a minute, stop that. Yep, but, but the thing is that we just don't get enough opportunities, or we don't take enough opportunities to back up on and back off on that and say, Wait a minute. We got to really look at this in a sensible way. Because no matter what these people are saying, what's real?   Brad Yates ** 52:09 Yeah, they don't want us to look at a sensible way. No, that is because if they can make us afraid, then that puts us into fight or flight, and our prefrontal cortex goes away and we're not thinking clearly, and then we're more easily manipulated. Well, I have to, oh, go ahead. So that's the thing. Is they want us to be afraid. It's like, don't even think clearly. No, we're going to tell you what, what's going on and what you should be afraid of, and how we're going to help you. So if we have a way of dealing with that stress and that fear, which most people don't have a healthy weight, I always recommend to folks to tap on a daily basis, because it's energy hygiene. We have physical hygiene, like brushing our teeth. We, most of us, do it a couple times a day, at least, whether we think we need it or not. We don't usually wait until someone until we see green stuff growing between our teeth, or until someone's holding their nose around us and say, Oh, that's right, I haven't brushed my teeth in a week. Well, we   Michael Hingson ** 53:05 could do that to Cindy, though it's okay, yeah, yeah, poor Cindy. Well, I noticed that you graduated from Ringling Brothers Barnum and Bailey circus clown college. So what's it like being a clown?   Brad Yates ** 53:20 That was, yeah, and it's so funny. I just actually had coffee with the director of clown college just a few days ago. I hadn't seen him in a number of years, and it's actually and I told him, it's 30 years since we met when I went to clown college, that was during my acting days. I saw an ad for clown college, I thought that would be some really interesting training as an actor and when. And it was a two month program, an intensive program of doing character development and makeup and throwing pies and all kinds of things. And I didn't do a lot of clowning after that, I'd had a few a few things I didn't go on the road with the circus. I have a friend, a few friends, who did that, but, but a lot of that experience still informs my work, and I still very proudly have my my diploma, my Bachelor of fun arts, up on my wall of my office. I think   Michael Hingson ** 54:21 it's interesting that you learned how to throw pies, though. Yes, I need to learn more about that, I guess. Except, pies cost a lot of money, so now, well,   Brad Yates ** 54:32 we in the circus. You use, use soap foam. Oh, I understand. So it's, it's good clean fun, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 54:41 well, absolutely   Brad Yates ** 54:43 rubber pie, rubber pie pans and crusts and and soap foam. Pass soupy   Michael Hingson ** 54:50 sales, exactly. Well, this has been fun. I know you have to go, but I really have enjoyed this, and I need to go spend some time. Any more about tapping, and I don't know whether the videos are descriptive enough, or I'll have to bug you some more, but this is fun, and I hope people will take to heart what you've had to talk about if they want to reach out to you and learn more about it and maybe and see how you can help them. How do we do that? How do they do   Brad Yates ** 55:15 that? Yeah, thanks, Michael. Easiest way is go to my website, tap with brad.com and you can get I have a couple of free five day programs there. One is called tap into your best self, and the other is called success beyond belief, which sounds like a lot of success, but it's also literally the success that's beyond your current beliefs about what you can have. So I encourage folks to to check those out, and there's links to my YouTube channel, and I've just, I've just described to you those tapping points, so you can go on to the video and and listen along. And while on the videos, I don't describe which points I'm saying, you can just move along. And you can even just tap one point, even if you're just tapping one point and repeating back the phrases that could that can be beneficial, so that you don't have to worry about, Are you tapping the same point that I'm tapping right now? Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 56:07 as long as you're tapping the points, yep. Well, this has been absolutely great. I really appreciate you taking the time to be here and discuss all of this. Maybe we'll have to do some more of it, if you want in the future, I   Brad Yates ** 56:22 would enjoy that. It's been a great pleasure meeting you and speaking with you, Michael, I you're awesome and and as as we had agreed, I've had a lot of fun doing Oh, good talking with   Michael Hingson ** 56:35 that's that is important as we know well. I want to thank you, and I want to thank you all for listening. Appreciate you being here. Love to hear your comments about this and all that Brad had to say. Please reach out to Brad, but I'd love to hear from you. Please email me at Michael h i@accessibe.com that's m, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I at A, C, C, E, S, S, I, B, e.com, or go to our podcast page, www dot Michael hingson.com/podcast, and Michael hingson is m, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I N, G, S o, n.com/podcast, wherever you're listening, please give us a five star rating. We really value your ratings, and we love it when you are able to take the time to do that and review the podcast. But I again, would love to hear from you directly with any thoughts that you have, and Brad for you and anyone listening, if you know of anyone else who we ought to have on as a guest. Love to get Joe Vitale or Steve Jones on, Brad, I'll leave that to you. But if you know of anyone, we are always looking for more guests, so please feel free to provide introductions. So once again, thanks very much for being here, Brad, and thank you all for listening. And Brad, this has absolutely been great.   57:48 Thank you, Michael.   Michael Hingson ** 57:55 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. I hope that you'll join us again next week, and in future weeks for upcoming episodes. To subscribe to our podcast and to learn about upcoming episodes, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com slash podcast. Michael Hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n. While you're on the site., please use the form there to recommend people who we ought to interview in upcoming editions of the show. And also, we ask you and urge you to invite your friends to join us in the future. If you know of any one or any organization needing a speaker for an event, please email me at speaker at Michael hingson.com. I appreciate it very much. 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In this week's episode, let's get tapping!I'm excited to introduce my very special guest, Brad Yates. Brad joins me on the mic to talk about Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping. We talked about its history, the benefits of tapping, and how it has helped a lot of people all over the world overcome their limiting beliefs and self-sabotage.In the episode, I also asked Brad to demonstrate tapping with me, and I got to experience it for the first time. Listen to the full episode to find out how tapping affected my day…ABOUT OUR GUESTBrad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping. Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.  Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 49 million times.  Learn more about Ruari and his work here: www.tapwithbrad.comABOUT OUR HOSTKen Eslick is an Entrepreneur, Author, Podcaster, Tony Robbins Trainer, Life Coach, Husband of 35+ Years, and Grandfather. Ken currently spends his time as the President & Founder of The Leaders Lab where he and his team focus on Senior Leadership Acquisition. They get founders the next level C-Suite Leaders they need to go from being an Inc. Magazine 5000 fastest growing company to $100,000,000 + in revenue.  You can learn more about Ken and his team attheleaderslab.coListen to more episodes on Mission Matters:https://missionmatters.com/author/ken-eslick/

Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.  Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 48 million times. Key Topics: - How Brad went from professional acting to tapping - Emotional freedom techniques and how they help release stress - How stress impacts the body - The science behind tapping - What issues tapping is good for and how it rewires beliefs - The basics of EFT and a live demonstration Get Brad's 5 Day Program at tapwithBrad.com and follow him on social media and YouTube at TapWithBrad. Sponsor: head to FactorMeals.com/spark50 and use code spark50 to get 50% off your first box plus 20% off your next month. Use the code spark50 at checkout.

Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.  Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 48 million times. Key Topics: - How Brad went from professional acting to tapping - Emotional freedom techniques and how they help release stress - How stress impacts the body - The science behind tapping - What issues tapping is good for and how it rewires beliefs - The basics of EFT and a live demonstration Get Brad's 5 Day Program at tapwithBrad.com and follow him on social media and YouTube at TapWithBrad. Sponsor: head to FactorMeals.com/spark50 and use code spark50 to get 50% off your first box plus 20% off your next month. Use the code spark50 at checkout.

Another manifestation come true!! In this episode, we're diving deep into the world of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping, with the incredible Brad Yates. Think of EFT as a tool for sculpting away those inner blocks and fears that keep us from embracing our true potential. Brad uses some powerful analogies, including Michelangelo's process of uncovering masterpieces within marble, to illustrate how tapping can help us reveal our own inner brilliance. Tune in as Brad shares his wisdom on overcoming feelings of unworthiness and discovering the self-worth that can lead to incredible breakthroughs. This episode is all about unlocking deeper self-discovery and harnessing the transformative power of EFT.In this episode, Brad and I discuss:Brad's Personal Journey from Clown College to EFTUsing EFT to Reveal Your Inner MagnificenceFacing and Overcoming Feelings of UnworthinessBrad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping. Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows. Brad also has over 1200 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 49 million times. Connect with Brad:WEBSITEON-DEMAND TAPPING PROGRAMSINSTAGRAMFACEBOOKLINKEDINYOUTUBESupport the Podcast & Get Your Questions Answered: If this episode supports you, it would mean the world to me if you are able to take two minutes to rate it on Spotify and give it a follow/subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, so you get notified when weekly episodes drop! Have a question you'd like to get answered on the podcast or a topic you'd like me to speak on? Let me know here!Ways to Work with Nora:1:1 Coaching: Now Accepting applications for Fall 2024 (1 spot available). Apply here.Big Vision Mastermind: Currently SOLD OUT. Join the waitlist here, to receive a $500 coupon code, for when the next cohort opens in early 2025. Elevate: The best (& maybe even the only) membership on the internet that truly blends the spiritual with the strategy. Get instant access to 1) fast ,...

In this episode, Tracy Inscore and I discuss her experience as a young child raised in a high-control doomsday cult where her father was given validation for releasing his rage on her for discipline. Tracy shares how she found that by getting good grades she could get praise and could feel in control at school and excelled where at the age of 15 she tested out and started her college experience at 16 years old.  This was the beginning of her downward spiral to depression and burnout. Tracy Inscore has practiced land use and environmental law in California for the past 15 years. In addition to still practicing law part-time at one of the fastest-growing large law firms in the U.S., she is also a holistic energy practitioner specializing in burnout prevention and recovery for fellow lawyers, as well as providing support for law students and recent law school graduates. Tracy's legal and business background combined with her heart as a highly intuitive healer and teacher allows her to bridge these two worlds in a way that no one else can—she skillfully combines heart-centered energy and somatic work with a grounded, practical and real-world understanding of the issues her clients face.   I am your host, Marci Nettles. I have had a lifetime of opportunities where I had the choice to Breakdown or Breakthrough. It is my hope this Podcast may become your light in the darkness, as you listen to the stories of people I consider “heroes.” Each one had a point where they too had to choose to either Breakdown or Breakthrough! Working from home, with my husband/business partner, helping people around the world find new levels of success in their health and wellness, is part of what makes me tick! If you are open to opportunity, let's connect!    Thank you for listening!   Please connect with Tracy: Website: LinkedIn: Instagram: @tapoutburnout   Find Marci at: Website- marcinettles.com. YouTube-   (@YoureBlankWhatNow) Don't forget to claim your FREEBIE from Tracy by going to Are YOU a READER? You can now read this episode on my BLOG at While you are there, make sure to subscribe to receive the YBWN Podcast Newsletter, ‘Making Mondays,' that will give insight to each episode and give you a heads up on what is coming next! You can also WATCH this episode on YouTube here Please Subscribe and ring the bell for notifications of new content!   If you loved this story, you may also enjoy these YBWN Podcast Episodes: Episode 114: “You're a Cult Survivor, What Now?” with Sally Lotz   Episode 133: “You're on a Fast Track to Burnout, What Now?” with Dr. Hayley Quinn             

Cheryl Esposito welcomes Nicolas Ortner, New York Times bestselling author of The Tapping Solution: A Revolutionary System for Stress-Free Living. Nick's work explores EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) aka “tapping,” a healing modality that combines ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology. EFT suggests we can tap into our body's brilliance for healing. When Nick learned about EFT Tapping, he was startled by the results. He wanted to test it. His breakthrough documentary film, The Tapping Solution, follows ten people who use tapping to overcome significant challenges including chronic back pain, insomnia and more. The documented results are impressive. Nick has supported charities devoted to healing trauma such as ProjectLight: Rwanda, which aids genocide victims; The Veterans Stress Project, for veterans with PTSD; and You Can Thrive! for women with cancer; and countless individuals around the world. One of his opportunities to help, hit very close to home. Nick lives in Newtown, CT, the home of Sandy Hook Elementary School, where a shooting tragedy occurred December 14, 2012. 26 people – 20 of them children – were killed that day. The community continues to work through their shock and grief. Nick will share a story of EFT/tapping providing help to some community members in the aftermath, in support of their healing toward thriving once again. Join Cheryl Esposito and Nick Ortner to explore a powerful way to heal your emotional self.

Check our upcoming events: https://bit.ly/3whDgVo Tweetable quote from Brad Tap away and chip away what doesn't belong. The guilt, the shame, the unworthiness, all these misunderstandings to recognize that underneath that all, you are a magnificent child of the universe, worthy and deserving of the best this world has to offer Summary In this episode, Dr Espen interviews Brad Yates, an expert in EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and tapping. They delve into the basics of EFT, its application in addressing emotional and psychological issues, and its benefits for stress relief. Brad explains how tapping on specific points can release stored traumas and stress, and discusses the connection between emotions and the body. They also explore the use of EFT in overcoming addictions and reprogramming subconscious beliefs.

We have a great show for you today! We are not only learning about a helpful technique but experiencing an exercise in “tapping” with my guest. It's a win-win for you as you learn a different way to engage with clients and help them clear their blocks, reduce their stress, and reach their goals–and a stress-reducing technique for anyone! Come in with an open and curious mind and learn more with us!Brad Yates is the online guru for Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as “tapping.” He wrote the bestselling children's book, The Wizard's Wish, and is the co-author of the bestseller, Freedom at Your Fingertips. He is a featured expert in the film, “The Tapping Solution,” and has appeared at many events, seminars, and media outlets. Brad's core belief is that we all have greatness within us, and he views it as his job to help people reveal that greatness. He has over 1200 instructional videos on YouTube, and he encourages our listeners to take advantage of his online resources. To get the full experience of today's episode, we urge you to watch the video interview on the STaR Coach Show YouTube channel so you'll more fully understand the technique of tapping. Show Highlights:Brad's explanation of EFT and tapping—and the tremendous benefitsResistance, self-sabotage, old programming, and how tapping can help us manifest and reach our goalsThe origins of tapping (1980) as an outgrowth of kinesiology and acupressureBrad's core belief: “The Michelangelo Process”Brad's demonstration of a tapping round on the concept of resistance (Try it with us!)Training and certification in tapping are readily available for coaches who want to work more fully with clients around their emotions.Tapping is a way to help people change habits and patterns of behavior.Brad's explanation of the “freedom to succeed” and how we can achieve goals far beyond our familiar comfort zones“Self-sabotage is simply misguided self-love.” Resources:Connect with Brad Yates: Website, LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, and Freedom at Your Fingertips bookWork with Meg! Check out the STaR Coach Show Mentor Programs!Visit the STaR Coach Show YouTube Channel!Explore past episodes and other resources at www.STaRcoachshow.com. Explore the STaR Coach...

In this week's mini-episode, Gwen and Kate rediscover the power of 'Tapping' (aka Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT) and Gwen shares a handy tip for stopping intrusive thoughts in their tracks. Plus, all your listener emails and shout outs.Want a shout out? Tell us what you do to make yourself feel good: rightupmypodcast@gmail.comThank you to our team:Music - Andrew GrimesArtwork - Erica Frances GeorgeVoiceover - Dave Jones If you enjoy the podcast, please subscribe, share with your friends and leave a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and it really makes a difference in helping to convince hard-to-get guests. Thank you!Join the RUMP Club! Support the team and access exclusive content from as little as £3 p/month at: https://www.patreon.com/rightupmypodcastOr, if you'd like to make a one-off donation, you can buy us a virtual coffee: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/rightupmySupport the showInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/rightupmy/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552599655093TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@rightupmypodcast

Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 44 million times. In this episode, Brad Yates shares the ins and outs of EFT - tapping and why safety perceptions hold people back from achieving their goals. Learn more about Brad Yates here: http://www.tapwithbrad.com/ Instagram: @tapwithbrad CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 2:50 What tapping is 4:53 Why tapping includes talk therapy 8:25 Meridians are associated with body parts 19:20 Checking why things don't feel safe 24:15 Tapping for stress relief 30:53 How to start tapping 32:45 Why tapping is so effective 38:24 Tapping and breathwork  

Today we discuss the importance of quality sleep for maintaining good eye health. We share some advice on establishing a bedtime routine and maintaining consistent sleep schedules. We also discuss the effects of blue light exposure from electronic devices on melatonin production and sleep quality. The focus further extends to the impact of overhead fluorescent lighting on eye strain and the benefits of mindfulness, meditation, and visualization for unwinding and relaxing a body, a brain, and eyes before sleep. Have you heard of the 'Clock Stretch' and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping for mind-body connection? Listen to find out and benefit from multiple tips that will help your eyes feel more rest and improve your overall health. In this episode you'll hear about:(00:00) Intro(00:49) The risks of not getting enough sleep. Yes, your eyes suffer too(01:21) Creating a healthy bed-time routine(03:14) Blue light: is it really that bad? (05:52) Incandescent or warm LED lights for bed-time stories(06:54) Are you getting enough sleep?(08:14) Built to Read Program(09:05) Stimulants before sleep and relaxation techniques(10:54) The Clock Stretch(12:39) Emotional Freedom Technique(13:26) The Tapping Solution(14:17) RecapRead the episode transcript here Additional Resources The influence of blue light on sleep Blue wavelength light exposure on sleep and recovery of brain structureCheck out our Digital Programs4d Built to Read Digital ProgramConcussion RecoveryBuilt to DriveFollow us at 4D Vision Gym on Facebook and Instagram @4dvisiongymvt for the latest news and updates. DM us if you have any Vision Therapy related questions - you may hear the answer in a future episode!If you enjoyed this show, please rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. We really appreciate your support!Send us a screenshot of your review and receive 10% off any one of our 4D Vision Gym products or services. And if your friends or family are experiencing inexplicable challenges, refer them to this podcast and tell them, “It Could Be Your Eyes.”  

With our ever-changing landscape and the highs and lows of emotions that follow, we have all been experiencing heightened levels of emotional stress. One of the most simple and effective tools to help manage and reduce stress and anxiety is TAPPING. Also known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), tapping is a holistic technique that helps to relieve emotional, mental, and physical issues. In this conversation with Alex Ortner, the co-owner of The Tapping Solution, for a special session to learn how to do this life-changing technique. The Tapping Solution has helped over 3 million people over the past 12 years through their programs and The Tapping Solution App.  Alex explains in detail what tapping is, the science behind tapping, and teaches us how tapping can help us “in the moment” during stressful situations and return us back to calm and centered. He shares the importance of tapping as a mechanism for reducing stress by sending calming signals to the brain and contributing to personal health and fulfillment. Alex also discusses how commitment, consistency, and focus are crucial in manifesting life visions and dreams.  It is so inspiring to learn how the planner and Tapping Solution app make tapping easy to incorporate into your life. I hope you'll check out these resources to feel more relaxed and focused. For more resources for your longevity and well-being, visit www.serenaloves.com (00:00) - Intro (00:36) - The power of connection and community (01:54) - The impact of Tony Robbins and personal growth (04:14) - The importance of mind-body connection (08:00) - Practical demonstration of tapping (10:31) - The role of tapping in daily life (16:25) - The importance of planning and focus (21:54) - Introducing the tapping vision planner (30:02) - The importance of good sleep and positive momentum (30:11) - Introducing the planner (30:53) - Unveiling the productivity accelerator program (32:03) - Fun guessing game: most popular planner color (33:49) - Addressing customer concerns (34:34) - Detailed walkthrough of the planner (40:28) - The importance of protecting your dreams (43:09) - The tapping solution app and its benefits (52:41) - The journey to productivity and happiness

YOU CAN CALL ME "BOSSY" PODCAST EP 006: EFT TAPPING - I Got This Welcome to the FIRST for real EFT Tapping Session on the YOU CAN CALL ME "BOSSY" PODCAST!Here, this step-by-step EFT Tapping session focused on boosting confidence in high-stress situations like job interviews, presentations, or business interactions. We want to instill the belief that YOU'VE GOT THIS, and it's the perfect way to get you into the right STATE before a really important call, meeting, action taking moment! Throughout the interactive session, I'll guide you through tapping on different meridian points while addressing common self-doubts and fears, ultimately aiming to instill a sense of empowerment and readiness to tackle challenges. So, sit back, follow along, and let's dive into this transformative EFT tapping experience. If you need a visual while tapping you can CLICK HERE for the Instagram post I shared with a step-by-step guide. Key Takeaways: Explanation of the intensity scale from one to ten Tapping on affirmations and concerns about potential failure, making mistakes, and self-doubt Reinforcing a sense of readiness and inevitability of success If you would like to learn more about what EFT Tapping is, you can CLICK HERE for my introductory episode on EFT Tapping OR, check out one of my favorite books and resources, THE TAPPING SOLUTION . If you enjoyed this episode and are excited for more, please be sure to SUBSCRIBE and write a review to help build momentum and support the show (5-stars would be AWESOME!) LET'S FREAKING GO! CONNECT WITH ME: Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, or join my STAND IN YOUR POWER FACEBOOK GROUP Grab a signed copy of my bestselling book STAND IN YOUR POWER HEREWatch my TEDx Talk “The Wisdom of Your Ancestors Should Be Ignored” HERE

Are stress, anxiety, fear or anger hijacking your ability to enjoy life to the fullest? Looking for a tool that can accelerate your stress management process?  Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping. He's the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale. With over 1000 videos of tapping on Youtube Brad has something for every mental health dilemma that arises. In this episode of The Health Fix Podcast, Dr. Jannine Krause interviews and taps with Brad Yates on releasing resistance, self sabotage and preventing the stressful emotions from hijacking your health and aspirations in life.    What You'll Learn In This Episode: Down regulating the emotions of fear, stress, and anxiety in the body with tapping Why reducing resistance is crucial for dealing with stress & changing your mind How EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping sequence works Subconscious programming of hanging onto fear and it's connection to resistance and safety Why tapping of any type is beneficial & you can't mess it up Incorporating tapping into your morning routine How self sabotage is misguided self love   Resources From The Show: Brad's website - tapwithbrad.com Tap with Brad on Youtube Brad's Free 5-day program “Tapping Into Your Best Self” - www.tapwithbrad.com/bestself

Sign Up for the 16th Annual Tapping World Summit for Free Here Download The Tapping Solution App for free on iOS or Android.  —-------------------------------   In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast we join the Iyanla Vanzant, star of the TV hit show, "Iyanla: Fix My Life" on the OWN network, for an interview conducted by Jessica Ortner.  In this interview Iyanla shares how to purge toxic thoughts and emotions from your life so that you can create a life full of financial abundance, emotional happiness, fulfilling relationships and more...   Years before Iyanla became the star of her hit show "Iyanla: Fix My Life" she was stuck in patterns of toxic thoughts and emotions herself.   Coping with trauma from childhood abuse, punishing herself emotionally, struggling financially with a poverty consciousness, and so much more.   But she learned how to overcome those toxic thoughts and emotions, and create a life full of abundance, joy, and love.   Some of the things Iyanla will share with you in this interview include:   - How she started using Tapping to change her life nearly 16 years ago, and why she still loves this technique for creating personal change. (And why she always uses this technique with people on her show, even though it's not always shown!)   - Why it's important to increase your emotional library to be able to express and release stuck emotions.   - The power of love - Why she believes that there is no wound deep enough that love cannot heal, and how you can make the oftentimes difficult shift to finally loving and accepting yourself.   - How to overcome lack consciousness. Iyanla struggled with finances even when she was earning over a million dollars a year! She'll share why you need to shift your energy and beliefs around money in order to be able to create abundance, regardless of how much you're earning.   - And much more!   This is a heartfelt, laugh-out-loud video that I know you'll love.    This audio, pulled from the video interview conducted with Iyanla, is part of the pre-event video series for the upcoming 16th Annual Tapping World Summit.  To access the other videos in the pre-event video series and to get free access to the full 10 days of the online event for free, go here.    —------------------------------- To go deeper with Tapping, download The Tapping Solution App for FREE on iOS and Android.   Download on iOS or Android: https://thetappingsolution.onelink.me/LtOO/tspodcast   Featuring over 600+ EFT Tapping Meditations, numerous Active Transformational Meditations, soothing Sleep Journeys, engaging Tapping Challenges, and more, The Tapping Solution app is your ultimate companion for eliminating stress & embracing a more vibrant life with Tapping. FOLLOW ALEX ORTNER: https://www.instagram.com/thetappingsolution/  https://www.instagram.com/alexortner.ts/  https://www.facebook.com/AlexOrtner10

Courtenay Turner and Brad Yates discuss the healing power of Tapping otherwise known as Emotional Freedom Techniques. Brad explains the ways tapping can be used to alleviate stress, work through trauma, improve relationships with people, money and self sabotaging habits. Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as Tapping. Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.  Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 45 million times.   ▶ Follow & Connect with Brad: https://www.tapwithbrad.com ✩Twitter: https://twitter.com/tapwithbrad ------------------------------------- ▶ Follow & Connect with Courtenay: 
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EFT tapping is a combination of ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology, now known as energy psychology. It's an easy-to-learn technique that involves “tapping” on the meridian points of the body while repeating statements that help us focus on an issue from which we're seeking relief.  @tapwithbrad  is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr Joe Vitale and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows. Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 37 million times. More info is available at www.tapwithbrad.com Thank you for tuning in to this episode and supporting my work as a creator. Would love to hear what you think as always. Please like, rate and follow! You can contact Natasha via: Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@natasha.andreo⁠⁠⁠ Astrology page: ⁠⁠⁠@navigating.magick⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠or via her Website⁠⁠.  

Sign Up for the 16th Annual Tapping World Summit for Free Here Download The Tapping Solution App for free on iOS or Android.  —-------------------------------   In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast we join the late Wayne Dyer for an interview conducted by Nick Ortner shortly before his passing.  Wayne was an internationally renowned author and speaker in the fields of self-development and spiritual growth. Over the four decades of his career, he wrote more than 40 books, including 21 New York Times bestsellers.   In this interview, you'll hear some of Wayne's story and how at the age of 34 he drove to Biloxi, Mississippi to visit the grave of his father, an alcoholic and an abusive man who had abandoned him, his mother and two brothers when he was just an infant. Although his father had died 10 years earlier, Wayne had only just found out about his death.    He drove to the grave that day with a level of anger so great, so deep from years of built up hurt, that he had two tasks in mind:  To find out if it was even acknowledged on his death certificate that Wayne was his son, and to literally "pee" on the grave of the father that he held all this hatred, anger and resentment towards for 34 years. What came out of that visit, however, completely and forever changed his life. It is one of the most beautiful stories you'll ever hear.  It shares a message of forgiveness, and it's power to transform, that is truly life-changing.   This audio, pulled from the video interview conducted with him, is part of the pre-event video series for the upcoming 16th Annual Tapping World Summit.  To access the other videos in the pre-event video series and to get free access to the full 10 days of the online event for free, go here.    —------------------------------- To go deeper with Tapping, download The Tapping Solution App for FREE on iOS and Android.   Download on iOS or Android: https://thetappingsolution.onelink.me/LtOO/tspodcast   Featuring over 600+ EFT Tapping Meditations, numerous Active Transformational Meditations, soothing Sleep Journeys, engaging Tapping Challenges, and more, The Tapping Solution app is your ultimate companion for eliminating stress & embracing a more vibrant life with Tapping. FOLLOW ALEX ORTNER: https://www.instagram.com/thetappingsolution/  https://www.instagram.com/alexortner.ts/  https://www.facebook.com/AlexOrtner10

Access all 8 Videos in the Productivity Accelerator Program for Free for a Limited Time Sponsor => Annmarie Organic Skincare - 3 Targeted Serums for 75% Off! Download The Tapping Solution App for free on iOS or Android.  —-------------------------------   All too often we feel pressure from the outside world, whether that be our family, friends, society, social media, or others about what we “should” be doing with our lives. But success looks different to each of us.    When YOU think about it, what does “success” mean to you? What does “being productive” look like to you?   If you're not clear on what those look like for you, you'll easily feel lost and susceptible to pressure from others about what you “should” be doing.     So in this episode we'll be talking about how to define your productivity so that you can get more done in less time, with less stress in a way that allows you to be truly happy and fulfilled in your everyday life! And all while moving you towards a future that YOU choose!   —-------------------------------   To go deeper with Tapping, download The Tapping Solution App for FREE on iOS and Android.   Download on iOS or Android: https://thetappingsolution.onelink.me/LtOO/tspodcast   Featuring over 600+ EFT Tapping Meditations, numerous Active Transformational Meditations, soothing Sleep Journeys, engaging Tapping Challenges, and more, The Tapping Solution app is your ultimate companion for eliminating stress & embracing a more vibrant life with Tapping.   Episode Sponsor: Annmarie Organic Skincare Get 3 Targeted Serums for 75% Off! FOLLOW ALEX ORTNER:  https://www.instagram.com/alexortner.ts/  https://www.facebook.com/AlexOrtner10

Connie shares two powerful strategies based on her personal journey of loss. PQ (positive intelligence emotional processing) heightens awareness of emotions in the body, while EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) involves gentle tapping to process pain. As the founder of Own Your Life, Connie is dedicated to helping others live with purpose and passion. Connie shared a tremendous amount of information about how and where grief is held in the body. She talked about her grief and how it shows up in her body to help the listeners. Two most important takeaways: Pay attention to physical sensations in your body. Give yourself deep compassion and love. "Pay exquisite attention to where the grief is expressing itself in your body" -- Connie Rose Connect with Connie: Email: connieroseup@gmail.com Phone: 314-488-5039 Website: www.ConnieRoseUp.com Resources: Book: Positive Intelligence by Shirzad Chamine Heather Ambler EFT: https://www.heatherambler.com/ The Tapping Solution:  https://www.thetappingsolutionapp.com/ The EFT Universe: https://eftuniverse.com/ The Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology: https://www.energypsych.org/ Connect with Teresa: EMAIL: teresa@livingaftergrief.com Facebook https://www.facebook.com/.livingaftergrief/. Instagram: @livingaftergrief Website: www.livingaftergrief.com click and schedule a free complimentary coaching call: https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/grief-discovery-call Podcast Guest:  https://livingaftergrief.coachesconsole.com/calendar/podcast-interview-call

In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast Alex Ortner asks the important question of “What Are You Doing When Nobody Is Watching” and explains why this question is so important… He shares how constant comparison has led to a culture of “not enoughness,” where we constantly feel not enough compared to others and stuck moving forward, and shares 3 things you can do right now to bring your attention away from comparison to being on your path of peace, fulfillment, joy and yes, success! Through this process, which includes a powerful guided Tapping session, you'll learn the importance of paying attention to what you're doing when nobody is watching, and why this is one of the unseen secrets of many of the world's happiest, healthiest and wealthiest.   After you listen, if you'd like to go deeper with Tapping, download The Tapping Solution App for FREE on iOS and Android. Download on iOS or Android: https://thetappingsolution.onelink.me/LtOO/tspodcast   Featuring over 600+ EFT Tapping Meditations, numerous Active Transformational Meditations, soothing Sleep Journeys, engaging Tapping Challenges, and more, The Tapping Solution app is your ultimate companion for eliminating stress & embracing a more vibrant life with Tapping.   Episode Sponsors: Annmarie Skincare:  https://thetappingsolution.com/annmarie  Use coupon code “tapping” for 20% off your first order FOLLOW ALEX ORTNER:  https://www.instagram.com/alexortner.ts/  https://www.facebook.com/AlexOrtner10

In this Episode of The Tapping Solution Podcast Alex Ortner shares why goals suck, and how to make them not suck!   He shares the science and research around what is going on in our brain that makes setting and achieving goals so difficult (and unsafe!) and shares a powerful 6 step process to finally get past the brain mechanisms holding you back so you can achieve.    He also shares the 3 critical mindset shifts that need to happen around goals (so that they don't suck!) and takes you through a Tapping process to begin creating these shifts.    Don't let another year go by feeling frustrated that you're still not creating the change you want.  Listen to this episode, follow the actions, and see the change!   To go deeper with Tapping, download The Tapping Solution App for FREE on iOS and Android: https://thetappingsolution.onelink.me/LtOO/tspodcast   The Tapping Solution App features over 600+ EFT Tapping Meditations, numerous Active Transformational Meditations, soothing Sleep Journeys, engaging Tapping Challenges, and more, The Tapping Solution app is your ultimate companion for eliminating stress & embracing a more vibrant life with Tapping.   Episode Sponsors: Annmarie Skincare:  https://thetappingsolution.com/annmarie  Use coupon code “tapping” for 20% off your first order FOLLOW ALEX ORTNER:  https://www.instagram.com/alexortner.ts/  https://www.facebook.com/AlexOrtner10

Welcome to another episode of The Keto Vegan, the podcast where I delve into the world of Keto Veganism and navigate the challenges of festive celebrations. I'm your host Rachel, and today I'm tackling a timely topic: surviving the Christmas holidays with our keto and vegan principles intact. In this episode, I'll be your guide through the seasonal maze, exploring the importance of planning ahead to maintain your dietary goals, strategies for coping with social pressure and resisting temptations, and the powerful tool of mindfulness to keep you centred amidst the holiday hustle. So, grab your favourite keto-friendly snack and join us on this journey to not just survive but thrive through the Christmas festivities. Let's dive into the heart of the season and discover how to make it a joyous and fulfilling experience while staying true to your Keto Vegan lifestyle.   So many personal health benefits of following this diet, as well as the environmental benefits of course.  Health benefits include: For example, studies have observed that vegans have a 75% lower risk of developing high blood pressure and up to a 78% risk reduction of type 2 diabetes. What's more, vegans tend to weigh less than non-vegans, and those who adopt vegan diets are more successful at losing weight than people who eat animal products. The keto diet is well known for its effectiveness in weight loss, blood sugar control and reduced heart disease risk factors. A study in 58 obese children and teens showed that participants following a ketogenic diet lost significantly more weight and fat mass than those on a low-calorie diet. Ketogenic diets have also been shown to reduce heart disease risk factors, including high triglycerides, blood pressure and “bad” LDL cholesterol   Planning ahead is absolutely vital. Highly likely you'll get cravings especially when confronted with so much non keto food. Visualisation can be essential – when wake up, visualise self being in control, powerful, happy, proud of yourself.  How I'm planning ahead – I find vegan is easy, the keto bit is the more challenging especially as I'm entertaining and have opened up the food list to all who are coming! What I'm planning to give me a fighting chance! Seed crackers, I've bought some vegan cheese from I Am NUT OK – some carb counts are high but others OK. I have a food list with carbs, fat, protein listed that I'm always editing – send me a screenshot that you follow my podcast and you can have access to it for free. keto desserts such as raspberry cream pie (episode #23), roast celeriac, roast Jerusalem artichokes, Jerusalem artichoke is a rich source of complex carbs and, although high in natural sugars, has minimal effect on blood sugar levels. Jerusalem artichokes also offer a bit of protein, along with numerous vitamins and minerals. if I was bothered for stuffing – there's a link below, but I'd replace the sausage meat (this is an American recipe) with good old Beyond burgers defrosted and broken up. I'll be making cocktails but this is hard to make winter cocktails keto. Low carb and vegan snacks: cream cheese on seed crackers, or with low carb veg/crudites Coping with the social pressure and temptation This can be the hardest and most challenging part of it. You may well be judged.  How to cope with this? Be confident in your choices.  You're the one that's on this journey.  You have come to the decision to eat this way because of things that have happened in your past. You don't need to explain it to them either!  But, if you do – BE KIND. Be respectful of where they are at.  Don't get into a debate.  Don't do guilt trips (about the animals and environment). Most of us were also meat eaters in our pasts, I know my head was in the proverbial sand for such a long time and at the right moment I saw the right documentary that changed my life (more on this in Episode 1).  Who are we to judge?  If we are quick to judge others it tells us a lot about ourselves. Talking of judging – set yourself realistic goals, track your progress – you can use urinalysis strips for this, find a healthy way to reward yourself for the effort you put in.   Mindfulness What are your triggers? Breathe. Set a random alarm through the day – to check in with yourself..  I use a free app called RemindMe Play Store - image of a blue alarm clock with a red dice in front of it just in case you want to find this yourself. Afformations – Noah St. John book and idea. Uses questions instead of “I am” statements. 4 steps to creating a new you using afformations. Identify what you want and write it down Form this into a ‘why' question that assumes what you want is already true. Give yourself to the question. Don't answer it, focus on what you have, let your brain look for the answer. Read the Q, write it, say it, listen to it. Take new actions (action is vital) based on your new assumptions about life. Guided meditations – can be found on my YouTube channel @RachelGhinn – I'm a hypnotherapist, therapist and life coach so use this channel to post free visualisations and meditations. I'm also a secondary school teacher and have put on a few visualisations for my students. “I am enough” Could try Tapping – I found Jessica Ortner's book “The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss and Body Confidence” helpful – I listened to it rather than read it which meant I could go through the tapping processes with her.   Finally – When you're hungry, eat. Eat what you keto vegan want, Eat consciously. When you think you're full - STOP. Valuable Resources For an extensive list of foods with their carb, fat and protein count, go here: https://www.rachelgtherapy.co.uk/1-what-why-and-how For a keto-vegan start-up menu and shopping list go here: https://www.rachelgtherapy.co.uk/1-what-why-and-how Free visualisations from my other YouTube channel: http://www.youtube.com/@rachelghinn Celeriac – how to cook it: https://www.greatbritishchefs.com/how-to-cook/how-to-cook-celeriac Vegan Sausage Stuffing: https://ketovegetarianrecipes.com/vegan-sausage-stuffing-fennel-keto/#recipe Host Bio Rachel, a once morbidly obese individual, experienced a remarkable body transformation through the keto diet. Later, she embraced veganism and now shares her extensive knowledge and obsession with carbs in vegan proteins on The Keto Vegan podcast. Her goal is to demonstrate the simplicity of combining the keto diet with a vegan lifestyle. Resources: https://www.rachelgtherapy.co.uk/the-keto-vegan Watch here: https://www.youtube.com/@TheKetoVegan/podcasts Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/821471059206067 Email: contact@rachelgtherapy.co.uk https://theketovegan.podbean.com/

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Get ready for an enlightening conversation as we sit down with Brad Yates, an internationally renowned expert in Emotional Freedom Techniques, better known as Tapping. Brad's unique and often humorous approach to EFT has captivated audiences worldwide. He's the author of the best-selling children's book, "The Wizard's Wish," co-author of "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the acclaimed film, "The Tapping Solution." Brad has shared his insights at prestigious events like Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success and engaged in enlightening teleseminars with "The Secret" stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale.Brad promises our listeners a valuable takeaway – a simple yet powerful tool to clear stress, a tool that can catalyze positive transformations in various aspects of life… AND that has been instrumental in Brad's personal growth journey.Learn a bit more about:Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT)Benefits of TappingClear stress and catalyze transformationsSuccess stories to inspireBrad has a very thought-provoking statement when he says, "The extent to which you don't have what you say you want tends to be the extent to which you are resisting it."Learn more and connect with Brad here:Website: www.tapwithbrad.com.YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/tapwithbradFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/TapWithBradInstagram: http://instagram.com/tapwithbradTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tapwithbradTwitter: http://twitter.com/tapwithbradLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tapwithbrad/I offer a free 5-day course called Tap into Your Best Self: www.tapwithbrad.com/bestself Top three videos to launch your practice:·        Have an Amazing Day - https://youtu.be/xbUholyLlas?si=FdXRFNe_7A_Zyf3P·        Amazing Day Quickie https://youtu.be/0JI8flfGSKo?si=VgESMeQE67S7cIKe·        The ONLY Tapping Video You'll Ever Need - https://youtu.be/H6wqlJVhQK4?si=2Xc391yliy0bSX_l Get bonus content on Patreon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chapter 1 What's the The Tapping SolutionThe Tapping Solution is a self-help book written by Nick Ortner. It introduces and explains the practice of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or tapping. EFT is a form of psychological acupressure that involves tapping on specific meridian points on the body to relieve stress, anxiety, and emotional pain. Ortner explores how tapping can help individuals overcome a variety of challenges, including phobias, traumas, physical pain, and limiting beliefs. The book provides step-by-step instructions and examples of how to use tapping to alleviate various issues and improve overall well-being. Ortner also shares stories of individuals who have used tapping to overcome their own struggles. Overall, The Tapping Solution aims to empower readers with a simple yet effective tool for emotional healing and personal growth.Chapter 2 Is the The Tapping Solution recommended for reading?The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner is generally well-received and has been praised for its practical approach to the technique known as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or tapping. Many readers have found it helpful in dealing with various issues such as stress, anxiety, phobias, and trauma. However, as with any self-help book, its effectiveness may vary from person to person. It is recommended to read reviews and consider personal preferences and needs before determining if it is a good book for you.Chapter 3 the The Tapping Solution SummaryThe Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner is a self-help book that explores a powerful technique called Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) or tapping. This technique involves tapping on specific points on the body to release negative emotions, reduce stress, and improve overall well-being.The book begins with an introduction to the author's personal journey with tapping and how it has transformed his life. Ortner also shares stories of individuals who have used tapping to overcome various challenges such as anxiety, phobias, chronic pain, and trauma.The main part of the book provides step-by-step instructions on how to practice tapping. Ortner explains the different tapping points on the body and guides readers through specific tapping exercises for different emotions and issues. These exercises involve focusing on a specific problem or emotion while tapping on the corresponding points. Ortner emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and accepting negative emotions before using tapping to release them.The book also explores the science behind tapping, discussing how it affects the brain, nervous system, and energy meridians. Ortner provides evidence from studies and research to support the effectiveness of tapping.In addition, The Tapping Solution includes practical tips and strategies for integrating tapping into daily life. Ortner suggests using tapping for stress relief, improving relationships, achieving goals, and enhancing overall health and happiness. He also provides guidance for using tapping in combination with other healing modalities such as therapy and medication.Overall, The Tapping Solution is a comprehensive guide to using tapping as a tool for emotional and physical healing. It offers practical techniques, testimonies, and scientific evidence to support the effectiveness of this powerful technique. Whether readers are new to tapping or experienced practitioners, this book provides valuable insights and resources for harnessing the power of tapping to improve their lives.Chapter 4 Meet the Writer of the The Tapping Solution The book "The Tapping Solution" was written

Have you heard of tapping? It's a practice that combines psychology with physically tapping on acupressure points, relaxing the body so you can upgrade your thoughts. While it sounds complicated, it's actually really easy to do—and you can feel a shift in as little as 60 seconds!In today's Hormone Happy Hour, Jessica Ortner of The Tapping Solution guides us through a quick practice to release stress. We all tried it and we're never going back!* How tapping can help reprogram the mind* The nine meridian points you need to know* How to reduce stress and anxiety by 42%* The research behind this life changing tool* Powerful stories supporting the benefits of tapping* And more…Founded in 2007 by siblings Nick, Jessica, and Alex Ortner, The Tapping Solution was created to provide people with the opportunity to release stress and find balance in their lives, all at their own fingertips.During the next 15 years, The Tapping Solution became a worldwide favorite for everything EFT Tapping related, namely because of the New York Times Best-Selling books, programs, masterclasses, and annual Tapping World Summits that have reached millions of people worldwide.In 2018, The Tapping Solution App made its debut and now has more than 19 Million sessions played in over 130 countries. The Ortners have guided millions of people across the globe to lower stress and anxiety in the body, and build a happier and healthier life.This episode is brought to you by beeya: * Learn more about beeya's seed cycling bundle at https://beeyawellness.com/free to find out how to tackle hormonal imbalances. * Get $10 off your order by using promo code BEHINDHEREMPIREFollow Yasmin:* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yasminknouri/* Website: https://www.behindherempire.com/Follow Jessica:* The Tapping Solution Website: https://www.thetappingsolution.com/* The Tapping Solution Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetappingsolution/* Jessica's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicaortner/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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This week Dean Graziosi sits down with Alex Ortner, Chief Marketing Officer and co-owner, along with his brother Nick and sister Jessica, of The Tapping Solution, LLC, a company with a mission to bring into the mainstream a simple, effective, natural healing method known as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or “Tapping.” Especially in today's hectic world, having tools that can help reduce overwhelm, anxiety, and stress are key to your overall wellbeing, health, and happiness. Alex even gives a demonstration on tapping and how it can serve you around 17 minutes in! You're not going to want to miss a single minute of this episode. It's time for you to release overwhelm, anxiety, worry, and stress and become your best self! Enjoy the episode of the Own Your Future Podcast with Dean Graziosi and Alex Ortner. If this episode was helpful or you know someone who could use these tools, go ahead and hit that share button so we can reach more people. We appreciate your continued support of the Own Your Future Podcast! More resources for support: Join Dean every month LIVE inside the Mastermind.com membership. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check it out here. ⁠ Learn the habits that will set you up for success with Dean's book "Millionaire Success Habits." ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to grab yours. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Achieve your goals and live a Better Life with the Better Life Journal. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to grab your journal. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Dean on social media:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Subscribe to Dean's YouTube Channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠- DM me and let me know what you thought about this episode!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Twitter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join Dean's newsletter for weekly wisdom, updates and news direct to your inbox ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Best-selling author of The Tapping Solution, Nick Ortner is here! He describes the technique known as Tapping, which is a natural healing method that combines ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology. . Nick tells us the science behind Tapping (also known as Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT) and describes how it effects the brain and the body. Tapping, he says, can turn off the flight-or-flight mode, to help the body relax and heal. He has been developing and practicing this technique for a long time, and has helped people from all walks of life--including high functioning athletes, people with chronic pain, those suffering from grief, and others. In this episode Nick also does a live Tapping demo with me to help me with a specific issue I'm dealing with. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this conversation with Alex Ortner, we discussed his work with Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as EFT tapping. As we're all dealing with so much stress and uncertainty right now, I think tapping is such a powerful tool to help manage emotions and boost well-being. Alex dives deep into his own background with tapping and how he co-founded The Tapping Solution. He does a great job explaining exactly what tapping is and how it works on a scientific level. We even experienced a live tapping demonstration together, which was so calming. Alex also shares some amazing resources such as their app and online programs. If you're looking for simple practices to incorporate into your self-care routine, I really think you'll find value in tapping. It was so interesting to learn about the research behind it and how it can positively impact both the mind and body. I hope you all enjoy listening and exploring more of what The Tapping Solution has to offer. Don't forget to download their free app too! Thanks so much for joining us today. (0:00) Introduction  (2:53) Alex shares his background story (7:46) What tapping is (10:47) The science behind how tapping works (13:02) Demonstration of the tapping points (17:20) Why tapping works so effectively (20:34) Studies on the effects of tapping (24:55) How tapping impacts the brain and body (28:35) Alex and Serena discuss the role of food and emotions (37:51) Mini tapping session with Alex (46:38) Alex and Serena discuss feelings after tapping   (54:25) The Tapping Solution app

Did you know that feeling good about aging actually extends the number of years you'll feel good while you age?  In our culture, we dread getting older, but if I knew how great life would be in my 60s, I would have been a lot more excited for it! I've decided this is going to be my best decade yet. I want your next decade to be your best, too, and today's episode of the podcast is all about how to make that happen.  Today, I'm sharing the strategies that I've been deploying for aging powerfully—not just gracefully. And yes, that's absolutely possible. With the right nutrition and habits, you really can outsmart your biology and become stronger and more full of life than ever before.  I'm covering it all: stress and how to do a better job of managing it, why weight isn't a great measure of your metabolic health, exercises that are going to change your body inside and out, hormones, supplements… it's all in here.  As always, I'm diving deep. You're not just getting a list of to-dos, you're going to learn why it matters, so you can find the energy and motivation to implement the strategies and continue to build and have the amazing, powerful life you deserve. Full show notes: https://jjvirgin.com/after60 Watch the FULL VIDEO on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/jjvirginvideos Subscribe to my podcast: http://subscribetojj.com Join my 7-Day Eat Protein First Challenge: http://jjvirgin.com/proteinfirst Read my book, The Sugar Impact Diet: https://store.jjvirgin.com/collections/books/products/sugar-impact-diet-paperback-book Study: American Psychological Association: Longevity Increased by Positive Self-Perceptions of Aging: https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/psp-832261.pdf Oura Ring: https://ouraring.com/ Theia Health Continuous Glucose Monitor: https://join.theiahealth.ai/c/jj Phillips Hue app: https://www.philips-hue.com/en-in/explore-hue/apps/philips-hue-app Phillips Hue light bulbs: https://amzn.to/3DwXri9 True Dark blue light blocking glasses: https://truedark.com/?ref=ntrhmgv2  Get 10% OFF with code JJ10 Reignite Wellness­™ Sleep Candy: https://store.jjvirgin.com/products/sleep-candy Reignite Wellness­™ Magnesium Body Calm: https://store.jjvirgin.com/collections/supplements/products/magnesium-body-calm Bioimpedance scale: https://amzn.to/3Dwlz4q DEXA scan: https://dexascan.com/ British Medical Journal waist-to-height ratio chart https://bmjopen.bmj.com/content/6/3/e010159 Meditations by Dr. Joe Dispenza: https://drjoedispenza.com/?rfsn=6914154.37386a&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=6914154.37386a The Tapping Solution: https://www.thetappingsolutionapp.com/jj Apple Watch: https://amzn.to/43J8KOW Reignite WellnessTM Sparkling C Powder: https://store.jjvirgin.com/products/sparkling-c-fizz Designs for Health DHEA: https://amzn.to/3OjexoS YourLabwork adrenal salivary test (4 sample cortisol saliva) : https://yourlabwork.com/jj-virgin/ Great study just showed that protein first = eating less & healthier choices: https://www.rutgers.edu/news/higher-protein-intake-while-dieting-leads-healthier-eating Buy Bragg's Apple Cider Vinegar: https://amzn.to/3JIXpHp Designs for Health Berberine Synergy: https://amzn.to/43NiSGu Reignite WellnessTM Omega Plus: https://store.jjvirgin.com/products/omega-plus Reignite Wellness™ Protein First Enzymes: https://store.jjvirgin.com/products/protein-first-enzymes Reignite Wellness™ Collagen Peptides Powder: https://store.jjvirgin.com/collections/supplements/products/all-systems-glow-collagen Designs for Health TRI-K with GeranylGeraniol: https://amzn.to/47bsD4f Designs for Health Creatine: https://amzn.to/3pPLGjE  Timeline Nutrition Mitopure (Urolithin A): https://www.timelinenutrition.com/partners/jj-virgin Dry Farm Wines: dryfarmwines.com/jjvirgin YourLabwork thyroid panels: https://yourlabwork.com/jj-virgin/ Rethinking Breast Cancer Prevention with Dr. Felice Gersh: https://jjvirgin.com/main-podcast/rethinking-breast-cancer-prevention-with-dr-felice-gersh-ep-573/ Beating Breast Cancer Statistics with Dr. Jenn Simmons: https://jjvirgin.com/main-podcast/beating-breast-cancer-statistics-with-dr-jenn-simmons-ep-575/ Redefining Menopause: Why We Need a New Narrative with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz:https://jjvirgin.com/main-podcast/redefining-menopause-why-we-need-a-new-narrative-with-dr-suzanne-gilberg-lenz-ep-529/ Designs for Health DIM-Evail: https://amzn.to/3q611g2 Annatto GG: https://www.designsforhealth.com/products/annatto-gg-150/ Designs for Health CoQnol: https://amzn.to/3Qh28En Watch 9 Anti-Aging Foods You Should Be Eating Every Day: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Dnw5Fj9bSs  

In this episode, Madi sits down with Brad Yates and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) legend about his journey with tapping, and how you can use tapping to feel better, do better, and live better. Stay tuned for a tapping practice at the end of the episode!   Brad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.  Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 43 million times.   We hope you absolutely love this one!  ♡  BRAD'S INSTAGRAM BRAD'S WEBSITE ♡ Madi's Offerings (retreats + programs)  ♡  BREAKING BUTTERFLY HOTLINE ANONYMOUS SUBMISSION DISCORD ♡  Breaking Butterfly Instagram  Madi's Instagram  Madi's Website 

Welcome to this week's episode of Fast. Feast. Repeat. Intermittent Fasting for Life, with Gin Stephens and Sheri Bullock.To make a submission for the podcast, go to fastfeastrepeat.com/submit. We are a community-driven podcast, and we look forward to sharing your questions, success stories, non-scale victories, IF tweaks, motivational quotes (and more!) on each episode of the podcast. Resources used in today's episode:The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss: https://amzn.to/3Xf531Q https://www.thetappingsolution.com/science-research/ https://www.Beautycounter.com/sheribullock Contact Sheri at sheri@fastfeastrepeat.com Hungryroot: https://www.hungryroot.com/r/MQ9J6XIQ Go to fastfeastrepeat.com to see Gin's and Sheri's favorite things, and to shop with us. Every purchase you make through links on our website help to support this podcast so we can keep bringing you episodes each week. Are you ready to take your intermittent fasting lifestyle to the next level? There's nothing better than community to help with that. In the Delay, Don't Deny community we all embrace the clean fast, and there's just the right support for you as you live your intermittent fasting lifestyle. Connect with both Gin and Sheri in the community, as well as thousands of other intermittent fasters who are there to support you along your journey. If you're new to intermittent fasting or recommitting to the IF lifestyle, join the 28-Day FAST Start group. After your fast start, join us for support in The 1st Year group. Need tips for long term maintenance? We have a place for that! There are many more useful spaces beyond these, and you can interact in as many as you like.Visit ginstephens.com/community to join us. An annual membership costs just over a dollar a week when you do the math. If you aren't ready to fully commit for a year, join for a month and you can cancel at any time. If you know you'll want to stay forever, we also have a lifetime membership option available. IF is free. You don't need to join our community to fast. But if you're looking for support from a community of like-minded IFers, we are here for you at ginstephens.com/community.What is intermittent fasting? To hear Gin and Sheri discuss the basics, listen to a past episode of the Life Lessons podcast. https://www.lifelessonscommunity.com/episodes-and-shownotes/episode-57-intermittent-fasting-for-life Note: the promo code mentioned in the episode is no longer active and we no longer offer promo codes, because we believe the community is such a great value already. After listening, you're going to want to get a copy of Fast. Feast. Repeat. to read and to have on hand as a resource.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5913143/advertisement

In this candid episode, Lesley and Brad unpack the power of empathy for those dealing with grief. Drawing on Krista St-Germain's wisdom, they share insights and advice for support in challenging times. It's a deep dive into understanding and navigating the healing journey.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:In this candid episode, Lesley and Brad unpack the power of empathy for those dealing with grief. Drawing on Krista St-Germain's wisdom, they share insights and advice for support in challenging times. It's a deep dive into understanding and navigating the healing journey.Episode References/Links:OPC Workshops and WorkoutsProfitable Pilates Workshops UKWest Coast Summer TourContrology Pilates Conference (Poland)Cambodia Pilates RetreatJake Kelfer Website  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your 15% discount for Toe Sox – use coupon code LESLEY15Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Brad Crowell 0:00  I think the natural inclination is to commiserate. But we might not actually be able to understand what they're going through, because we may not have experienced something like that. And then we come up with something that like, I don't know, maybe we heard it at church or whatever. And that's, you know, it sounds like it could be helpful, but actually, it's minimizing what they're going through.Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 2:20  Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It interview recap where my co host in life Brad and I are going to dig into the life altering convo I had with Krista St. Germain in our last episode. If you haven't yet listened to that interview, feel free to pause this now. Go back and listen to that one. And then come back and join us, going to be honest, grab your Kleenex called your tissue. It was a shout out to Bel. I did not actually give the team any forewarning on the episode. Brad Crowell 2:46  I know, Bel and Kevin produce our show.Lesley Logan 2:50  I know. It's, I don't want to give too much away. But this is an episode on grief. And yeah. And so, you know, what I'm so grateful of as soon as we did this, as soon as we, I did this interview with Krista. I really made a point to be more conscious of how I handled people who were grieving. And in a way, not that I wasn't making conscious choices before, but I would always be aware of like, how I didn't know what to say, and I didn't want to fuck it up. Brad Crowell 3:20  Well, I mean, the thing you can't see right up to the interviewer and you were like, don't ask, you know, don't say like, anything I can do to help, just tell me, don't just do stuff. And I was like, I don't really understand what we're talking about here.Lesley Logan 3:36  Don't say that anymore. Don't just say I'll do whatever you need. Just let me know if you need anything.Brad Crowell 3:43  Let me know if you need anything. And I was like, Okay.Lesley Logan 3:46  Well what happened was literally the day after I did this interview, one of our Agency members lost their father. And then that set the week before one of our agency members niece had a shocking, like a very not expected passing. And I was like okay, everyone suggested resources Krista St. Germain's entire podcast and catalog. This is not a place where we do grief, this is a business coaching group but clearly when people grieving we're not going to apologize. We're not going to say we're here if you need anything, they need a lot of shit, they don't have time to tell you. All right before we get started today is international rock day? Yeah, it's not about rock music. It's about rocks, like the actual rocks.Brad Crowell 5:06  Actual rocks, so go kiss a rock today.Lesley Logan 5:09  I just want to say like shout out to all my millennial friends who have had a pet rock. And any of you who enjoy like seeing a rock. Brad has a friend who like literally collects rocks from like very famous places...(Brad: He does he collects rocks from around the world) In our living room we have many, many of these random rocks now because of him. I think it was intention to give it to him, there is a rock from Alcatraz in our livingroom.Brad Crowell 5:38  Sorry Michael, never passed that one along. Actually, I think that as funny as the pet rock concept is, I bet y'all out there have your own pet rocks, crystals.Lesley Logan 5:55  That's what I was wondering, are my crystals rocks? And so I'm unsure. It's unclear, Brad's googling as we speak.Brad Crowell 6:02  Okay, so technically, a crystal is just a mineral that is not part of an aggregated solid like a rock, but instead it stands on itself. Okay, so maybe a crystal isn't a rock.Lesley Logan 6:13  It's not international crystal day, we'll figure out when that day is. At any rate. There are some beautiful rocks out there. Some are very smooth, there are very jagged, some of you can climb.Brad Crowell 6:23  And if you like cactuses. There are cactuses that look like rocks...(Lesley: Which ones?) Stone cactus. Lesley Logan 6:30   Oh, well, yes. I think I recall that. Brad Crowell 6:32  It looks so cool. Y'all. Right now. Google stone cactus. Trust me. They're cool looking.Lesley Logan 6:39  I really think he thinks you're all googling...(Brad: they're so colorful) let us know if you do. All right. Okay. Well, wonderful. That's amazing. Thanks, babe. We also just wrapped up our first virtual summer camp. So an OPC. In the past, we've done like, one every other month, or what a quarter where we do a workshop or a workout. And it's just one. And the reality is, is there's actually only 52 weekends a year. And then you add all the holidays from around the world, and you're down to like 10. And the reality is, is like, it's just too complicated track 42 Yeah, so we decided to take all of our amazing teachers, and our contributors, and just like, zoom it up with some amazing workshops and workouts, each of our teachers had their own individual one. And then we did a team one on the teaser, and it was freaking phenomenal. And those who bought it, whether you came or not, your replays are in your dashboard. So happy Pilates in and if you liked it, and there's other topics you want, let us know we will add it to next. The next camp we do. But this was really fun, because everybody got to do one at one big shebang. And now people have access to them all the time.Brad Crowell 7:45  Yeah. And if you want to get on the waitlist for when the next one may be go to opc.me/event.Lesley Logan 7:51  Thanks, babe. And now we are about to leave for the UK. We're headed out there. We can't wait. In fact, I don't even know if there's spots left. But you're welcome to check at opc.me/uk but we are going to be in Leeds. We're leaving my dad in Dundee, Scotland. Fingers crossed. Fingers crossed that he is there when we get there.Brad Crowell 8:11  When we get back. Lesley Logan 8:12  Yeah, I'm sure he will be...(Brad: he's gonna be just fine) He's so excited about it.Brad Crowell 8:16  And he's been talking about it for weeks. He's already busted out his Scottish accent. Lesley Logan 8:23  Oh, yes. And I think he's getting his kilt lined. Oh, yep. So he might be in that. It's unclear. Anyways, he's ready to go. And we're gonna do Scotland with him and leave him there while we go to Leeds and teach some workshops and then pick him back up. And then we'll do some more touristy stuff. We're not going to see Stonehenge speaking of rocks. This is true. It seems to be a little out of the way. Brad Crowell 8:48  Yeah, it's in the middle of nowhere.Lesley Logan 8:49  Yeah. Unclear if it's like necessary to like make the adventure. So we'll do it another time. If it is. You let us know. Next month. We are on the first ever West Coast tour. You guys. At the time of recording this. We literally had announced it 48 hours ago. And holy frickin moly. Yeah, you West Coast, way to like, say, hey, West Coast best Coast like no offense to our winter tour people.Brad Crowell 9:13  But we're making it a contest, y'all.Lesley Logan 9:15  Shit the amount of tickets that already (...) It's okay, we're coming. It's gonna be good. We're coming. It's happening. We're so excited to see you bringing the flashlights and also on this tour. We're doing workshops. So we have lots of workshops. So those of you who do want CCS, or you want to understand the fast or some other things, we're doing some lots of workshops, lots of workshops. Yeah, and we can see my mom shout out to my mom and and a bunch of our favorite people on this planet with eLevate, and Agency, and OPC.Brad Crowell 9:44  So if you're interested in figuring out where we're going to be. We are leaving on August 6, we're gonna be back on the 21st roughly and somewhere in the middle of there. We're going south towards Southern California then central, Northern, and then up through Oregon, Washington.Lesley Logan 10:00  We made sure to pick all of the hot cities we're talking all of them Long Beach, Redlands, Bakersfeld, Hanford...(Brad: Bakers feld?) Yeah, Bakersfeld...(Brad: field, Bakersfield). Yeah. ModestoBrad Crowell 10:19  Fairfeld. Just go to opc.me/tourLesley Logan 10:25  Seattle is probably the one that I think (...)Brad Crowell 10:30  Portland still not sureLesley Logan 10:31  But like but I mean like I just want to shout out to all these other cities because you know what? You guys always travel to the big cities to get someone to see you and we're coming to youBrad Crowell 10:41  Heck yeah. It's gonna be awsome. Looking forward to it. It's gonna be a crazy whirlwind for us. I can't wait. Yeah. All right next we've got September, Poland. Go to pilatescontrology. Forgot to look it up, actually, yeah, we'll get you the link. There'll be a link to that in the show notes...(Lesley: I think it is pilatescontrologyconference.com) I think that's what it is pilatescontrologyconference.com Let's see what happens there. Nope, that's not it.Lesley Logan 11:10  Conference Contrology, that's gonna be in the show notes. Guys do notBrad Crowell 11:16  contrologypilatesconference.com we just flip the, you know?Lesley Logan 11:16  I mean, sometimes I'm word dyslexic. Is that a thing? Anyway!Brad Crowell 11:23  October, Cambodia. Y'all have heard us talk about this 1000 times go to Lesley logan.co/retreat. Join us, there are still tickets. there's still roomLesley Logan 11:32  Just a few. And also we got to talk to a couple of our retreaters last week and I'm like, Oh my God. Yeah, I saw Ainsley like, I've seen you in July and October. Brad Crowell 11:41  Ans there's Jenny, coming from Australia. Yes. We have people coming from all over the world. It's gonna be amazing. Lesley Logan 11:48  Really the best time to buy the flights now anyways, so you haven't, You haven't crossed (...) enough. You can still come.Brad Crowell 11:54  Yeah, it's true. All right, it is true. Lesley Logan 11:56  (...) Audience question, in case you didn't understand what was happening on your Friday downloads of the podcast, the FYF situation is we share wins and I thought it would be fun for you, those of you who may be skipping the FYFs to feel what it's like to be like to be inspired by wins.Brad Crowell 12:15  Because you know who you are...(Lesley: Yeah, you're the people) we know who you are.Lesley Logan 12:18  You know who you are? You're the person on like, oh, what's what's great going on right now. It's just been a really hard day. (...) What's the great thing happening right now? Well, actually, to be honest, like negative assay. So here's the thing. I am sharing a few of our wins. So the first one is from Sonia, this is from eLevate, she's an eLevate round two. And she said even if LL has said it a gazillion times, Pinkie side of the hand on the handle. I'm really seeing it everywhere now. And how it immediately connects people's arms and my own to their backs. Bloody brilliant. I didn't say it with the accent. And it's in so many of the exercises too, but took me a lot of time and exploration to find it, feel it and experienced it myself before I've been able to pass it on really loving this journey. Sonia. I'm loving you on the journey. Olivia, also, in round two said, I pitched the idea of Joe's gym class to some of my clients this week. They really love the idea and we're actually so excited. I finally realized that I didn't need to be so scared to teach it with my in person clients. Just because they're not teacher doesn't mean that they don't have the same client instructor trust that we all have started up in a few weeks (...) Everybody should be doing those gyms. It makes your clients even get more out of a group class. I love that. UK Claire, you guys.Brad Crowell 13:34  We're gonna be seeing her in a couple days. Lesley Logan 13:36  We also gonna see Sonia in Leeds. Oh, perfect. So you clicked Claire said my editor came back a day early with her initial evaluation. My tummy flipped and I thought that that meant it needed a huge overhaul. Okay, what she's talking about, and she's writing a book. Yeah, well, while she's written a book, I was wrong and actually meant that she was really impressed with it. And thanks. I made my point clear. Wow. Now it feels more real. I actually wrote a book and someone read it and liked it. Cool. Sidenote, Jake Kelfer is who (...) the book with so if you listen to his podcast, and you're like, I don't know if I should write a book. She did it and and thanks she did it (...) Two other agency members have signed up to write a book with JakeBrad Crowell 14:18  Yeah, so it's only been like two months, three months or whatever. And now we got books happening. So kicking ass Lesley Logan 14:26  And by the way, Claire started writing this at the beginning of this year and her books gonna be out this year. Like wow, it happens so fast. Her second win is when we are on our way to our dream cottage in Scotland for two weeks and last night I found a one five and 10 year plan I wrote on May 25 2021...(Brad: Okay, two years ago, yep.) First, on the firt on one year list was we have our dream cottage in Scotland. And we had a bump in the road last year we lost a house but that's not the house that was meant for us, this cottage 100% is, I'd written a vision for a traditional cottage in a village with hills and a river and the sea. The house last year had one of those, this cottage has all of them. Y'all fucking write your wins down, write your wants down, and then go for it. So this is, so, every Friday I share several wins from people in the community, I share one of mine. And as you can see, some of these are like really big. Some of these have taken a long time. And some of these are just as simple as like a Ha, ha. And I love sharing these because it's so important to me that we start to see evidence for things that we are actually doing in this planet, in this world, because that is how confidence is built. So thanks for letting me take over the audience question to share some wins. I'll be back tomorrow with a bunch moreBrad Crowell 14:36  Okay, now let's talk about Krista St. Germain. Krista St. Germain is a widow and grief expert who has turned her own devastating loss into a strategy for growth. Krista now helps others navigate through their own grief and trauma as a coach and a podcast host. Yeah, we already kind of mentioned at the top of the show here, y'all. But I was like listening as I was listening, like I'm working and I'm listening and, and like Leslie's like, Hey, cool. So we're gonna dig into grief today. And she's like, Yeah, you know, I'm a grief expert. It's like, okay, great. That's so good. And then, like two sentences into the pod. I was like, I'm sorry, what? I can't even work. I have to listen to the entire thing now. So it definitely it's, uh, you know, grabs your attention. It's a really sad story.Lesley Logan 17:04  It's a really sad story. It does look like it's such a hard story, because I feel like it is so unique to her. But also, every single one of you who have listened know someone who has gone through something, if not yourself. And as she was talking, I was thinking about all the different people I know, in my life at that moment, who were really struggling with grief, and I could see why some of them are struggling more than others, just based on what we tell people. Oh, time heals all wounds. Right. You're never given more than God thinks you can handle. All these things? Like who? Who had that? Like, do you hear that? Do you want to be told that? Anyways, like I said, a really top of the show. I have literally sent her whole podcast out and I'm like, Oh, she's got a quiz. She has a quiz, y'all. If you are unsure what you need, you can take a grief quiz with her. And she'll be like, here's all the episodes that are related to the grief you're in right now, which I think is phenomenal. Because you might not even know what you need, you know. So anyways, one of our friends, little, little one went through a really shocking loss. And I didn't want to pry. And they were just like, hey, does anyone have anything for children going through grief? And I followed up with her today, like this weekend, and I just was like, hey, I want to check on you. And your daughter, like, how are you guys doing? You know, you're like working and everything. And she told me what happened. And it was so great to not have to say I'm so sorry. I could just say that's really hard. Yeah. And I could inquire about bringing her some things, and not overwhelming her on the summer vacation. So it just felt really good to not feel like okay, I'll just say I'm so sorry. That sucks. You know, like it felt good. Now that it's about me, but you don't know what to do about people you love when they're going through this and you're like, I don't, I don't know what to do.Brad Crowell 18:57  Yeah, I mean, you know, she basically, you know, you will fail if you try to make it better with words. And that's kind of what Krista was talking about. Yeah, one of one of the things Lesley Logan 19:11  Well speaking of what I loved, stop try to make it better with words.Brad Crowell 19:15  I felt we were already there. I was like wow, yeah, we transition without realizing.Lesley Logan 19:19  I also just, I'm so good at transitions. I also really, like, she said we need to cut ourselves a break. We won't always say the right thing. And I think that that is really hard for a lot of people listening, hello my perfectionists and overachievers who just want to like, be amazing with the casseroles. Speaking of, there's another episode, don't bring fucking casseroles coming up but like it's, you know, you're gonna you're gonna step on the words you're not going to, you're going to regret some things you said and it's and words don't actually make it better. So she so I don't know that we need to like put these in your head but they're in a better place is not something you say, at least they are no longer suffering, like all that stuff. I understand why we say it and I even have like, heard it in my head when people have gone through it without saying the words. And it's like, why are these like the ear worms that are going on?Brad Crowell 20:16  Well, I think, I think the natural inclination is to commiserate. But we might not actually be able to understand what they're going through, because we may not have experienced something like that. And then we come up with something that like, I don't know, maybe we heard it at church or whatever. And that's, you know, it sounds like it could be helpful, but actually, it's minimizing what they're going through. And we're not trying to minimize but you know, like (...)Lesley Logan 20:43  Well, and speaking of, like she said, it's been, but what also says that what people grieving need is for another person to not feel discomfort with their emotions, like, like, we need to, we need to not commiserate with them, because they actually are going to feel like they have to take care of your emotions. There was this woman that I went to, and she was a therapist, and she was bringing people up on the stage and they were sharing, you know, they're asking a question to get some support from her. And she said, before she brought anyone up, she said, Okay, here's the deal. I'm gonna bring people up, and they're gonna share some things that you're gonna want to like, apologize for, commiserate with them, you're gonna see him in the bathroom and you want to go I'm sorry for what happened to you. And she says, You're not allowed to say that. Because the answer, the response that we are trained when we are children growing up to I'm sorry, is it's okay. Brad Crowell 21:37  Right! And it's not okay. Lesley Logan 21:40  And so she was like, you can say, thank you for sharing your story. But you are not allowed to say I'm so sorry.Brad Crowell 21:47  Well, I love, I mean, she wrapped that whole section up with saying, like, like, the reality is, they just want to be seen. And, but what does that actually mean? Like, I just want to be seen, right? They don't want you to go to (...)Lesley Logan 22:01  I think what happens is we avoid, if we don't know what to say we just stop reaching out. And like, that makes them feel isolated. And, and so being seen is like, I think just showing up and dropping things off. And if it wasn't helpful, okay, like, you know, you don't have to actually like knock on the door and to get answered, you could leave things or, you know, you can try and think of someone else I was talking to, you know, somebody just picked our kids up from school. Just did it, didn't ask, Can I pick your kids up from school? was like, Hey, I'm picking up the kids this week. I'm taking care of yours. Like, No, you're not, you know, like, didn't kidnap them. But like, the scene is like, anticipating people's needs. If you're a mom, and the person who lost someone's a mom, well put yourself in those shoes. What would you go fuck, who's going to do that? Brad Crowell 22:57  I mean, the casserole can be that. But I also think that that's like, I think that the bigger picture here is that dropping off a casserole isn't the end of this, it shouldn't be...(Lesley: you also walk the dog.) You know, there's a million different things that you can do. But I think when you're actually in the moment, and you're speaking with them, the you know, like, sitting there and just being there is really, really powerful. You know, and you don't have to say anything. You just say I love you.Lesley Logan 23:29  I actually think not saying anything and being in that space and saying that and like holding, like just being there holding their hand. All of the things, so, being seen is what they want. And you can see people in different ways and it's not with words. Anyways, what did what did you love? So what did you love about the death?Brad Crowell 23:51  What did you love about grief journey and listening to her story? I felt like the permission that she gave that feelings are okay, is really important. And I know you all have heard me talk about my divorce before, but that was like the biggest sadness, like grief moment in my world, and that I've ever had in my life. And so I always relate back to like, I think back to that moment for me, and it was really interesting to listen to the second half of the interview, where she was talking about the overwhelming feelings. I mean, I was just talking about this with my dad. Not even a month ago, their dog, you know, they had to put their dog down, he was too old and his legs weren't working and he couldn't walk. And so you know, it was that time and you know how much we all get attached to our pets. We love them like they're family. They are family. And for the very first time in my life, I actually had a moment with my dad, where it was like truly emotional. And he said, I asked them, I said, you know, how are you feeling about, you know, the dog not being there? And he said, Well, it's really weird. And I look around the house and I see things that I expect there to be the dog. And he's not there. I mean, they had him for 13 years, you know? And he said, it's caused a lot of like, emotions to well up, that I don't even expect them. And they just happen.Lesley Logan 25:51  I think like, Krista even brought that up...(Lesley: Yeah, she did.) Like, even though she knew it was gone, there was just like, certain places, she expected him to be.Brad Crowell 26:02  Yeah, like in bed, or she mentioned the garage door going up and expecting it to be pulling in. Yeah, you know, but what I thought was unbelievably helpful with that, specifically that, is that she said, our brain has expectations, which I find so funny, because it makes so much sense. I believe that all life is managed based on expectations, and the way we communicate our expectations will allow life to be amazing or shitty. But your brain has expectations too, which I thought was like, Oh, I didn't even realize that, when she heard the garage door up open for a long time. I don't know how long they were married. It was almost always probably her husband coming home. Right? So she said, You need to effectively be reprogrammed or be intentionally reprogramming your brain to or, you know, until that reprogramming happens. Yes, you will naturally associate that with the expectation of this thing, whether it's rolling over and your spouse is on the other side of the bed. Or and when you realize that that's not reality. What happens you become emotional, that's just natural. She said your brain, you need to, it will reprogram over time. She said it just simply takes time. I mean, how many times did the garage door open? You know how long will it take for it to open and not be associated with that her husband come home?Lesley Logan 27:30  Yeah, I love this. I know it's in your notes. But she says broken heart syndrome is real. Where the heart actually aches. Brad Crowell 27:37  Yeah. I didn't look that up. Lesley Logan 27:43  So, it's, the broken heart is not reflective of what is wrong with you. It's just grief impacts people differently. So like, I think it's so interesting. Some people feel grief so intensely in the beginning, some people don't even feel at the beginning. But then all of a sudden they felt later, right? And I think that like it's important to know that you are allowed to process the grief however you want and people, don't let people tell you that you aren't or are you are grieving too much. You're grieving too little. You should be taking a break like you do need to.Brad Crowell 28:16  I do want to amend that statement. You're allowed to process the grief anywhere that you want that isn't self destructive. Oh, yeah. If you finding yourself in a self destructive mode, then it's absolutely time to seek help. Right. And I think, you know, it was, for me, this self destruction was drinking. I would come home and drink until I would go to sleep. And you know, fortunately, unfortunately, there came a point where I was having a hard time at work, it was affecting my, you know, me functioning in the rest of my life, and I could no longer hide it. And I also felt like absolute shit. And I realized like, Okay, I have a choice to make here. You know, but it's also you might not realize that you're in self destructive.Lesley Logan 29:05  Well, she said, this is where compassion for ourselves is important. Focusing on the basics of self care, which we should be celebrated. Hi, thanks by celebrations. Did we eat today? Did I shower today? Again, overdo it and perfectionist. Like we have got to understand that like, what I mean, like my girlfriend just had a baby. And that was like, I was like, did you eat today? Did you shower today? Like, I think it's, I think we put these high expectations on ourselves, even in a grief process. Like I should be over this now. Right? Oh, I see. I see different posts like evenShe mentioned the one year mark. People have this expectation that I'll be better.I know. And like I saw this in my mom. She was like putting this pressure like it's been two years. I thought it'd be easier and it's like, what? It's not a race. It's not like a like turn on the time clock and like it's ding timers over. Dinner's ready and you're grief free, like, right? It doesn't work like that. And so I thought, like, I love that she's like focus on the basis of self care because like, we should always be doing that. And especially in that time, and if you can, if you can be compassionate to yourself in grief, what a muscle you can have afterwards.Brad Crowell 30:18  Well, that's what I loved the permission that she gave of feelings are okay, because that, the two year mark where, you know, your mom's dad passed away, and you know, they lived next door to each other. So like, it was like part of her entire life. He's literally there and also mom a couple years before that, right? And so, the two year mark, there's no magic like, thing, right? And so, but if you know that the feelings are okay, it's okay to have feelings. And they're actually normal, and they're natural. And they're part of you, you know, moving through this experience. You know, I thought it was a really, really amazing permission. So, like you said, don't be bummed. Don't beat yourself up if you're like, like, how come I'm not over this already? Or whatever. You know?Lesley Logan 31:14  I think so. Krista, shout out to you and the work that you're doing for so many because my goodness, we weren't taught this in school.Brad Crowell 31:21  No. Although we did learn about the five stages of grief which I promptly forgot. So anyway.Lesley Logan 31:31  People can listen to her tell them and that's fine, because that's why we have the interview. And the recap. Brad Crowell 31:36  No, no, I meant in school when I was growing up. That's all I learned about grief. Like, I just knew there were stages, but I didn't really know what they were, you know?Lesley Logan 31:44  Did she even bring up if those were good or not?Brad Crowell 31:46  She said they don't matter. She did bring them up, or you brought that up.Lesley Logan 31:50  Are you talking about like anger?Brad Crowell 31:51  Yeah, I just know that, you know, time is the natural healer.Lesley Logan 32:00  Except for you don't say that. You don't say that. Brad Crowell 32:05  No, don't say that to someone who's grieving. Lesley Logan 32:08  But you don't say it to someone who's grieving.Brad Crowell 32:10  Yeah, I just, I just know, for me, it was that's my, my personal experience is, you know, with my, I remember thinking about my ex, every single day, whether I wanted to or not, something would happen, where I would think of her. And I was, at first it was really, like, emotional, and it would send me down this path. And then I got frustrated with myself, actually, that I was still thinking about her why I'm, like, ready to move past this, you know, and then, and then I can't even pinpoint the day that just stopped happening. And I was living my life. And then one day, I was like, Oh, shit, I just realized that I haven't had that recurring thought cycle, you know, a month or three months or something like that.Lesley Logan 33:03  It was because of me. I stepped up your life. (...)Brad Crowell 33:08  (...) Just marry Lesley. Lesley Logan 33:14  Just kidding. I just handled grief with humor.Brad Crowell 33:22  My wife, I love you.Lesley Logan 33:25  I love you.Brad Crowell 33:27  And we'll be right back. //Amazing.Lesley Logan 33:32  And on a high note, Jesus sewed down.Brad Crowell 33:35  All right. So we're gonna move on to those Be It action items. One second. All right. Get a drink. Well, I can talk. Yeah, hold on. I gotta clap a second.All right. Now let's talk about those Be It action items, what bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted action items can we take away from your convo with Krista St. Germain?... Actually, I love this because I was so intrigued by this, that I looked it up and I started reading all about it...(Lesley: Did you do it?) I did it. I in fact, I've been doing it and we'll talk about it. So tapping, right? so it's called EFT Emotional Freedom Tapping. And I didn't realize it but I've just was naturally doing it to my own body. In fact, I've probably done it my whole life like if I feel like like you know, sometimes I just tap on my legLesley Logan 35:07  You actually do in EAT everyone can listen to a human talk about it for 17 hours, but it's this like thing at least (..)Brad Crowell 35:12  No but I don't know I don't know the differences between the two but the EFT part I didn't I so I looked it up there are a handful of pressure points that are acupressure points. One is the hand, the bottom of the hands like a karate chop. Right? One is on the side of your head, your eyebrows, underneath your eyes, and then also your chin. And then also I think like right up at the crown of your head or whatever. So what what I wasn't necessarily tapping, but what I have done my whole life is I've pushed, I've just pressed in on my eyebrows for like five seconds until a release happens. Right? And I didn't realize I do this naturally. I do it all the time on my chin. Yeah, I still do all the time. Lesley Logan 35:59  There's reasons why we don't have the same office. But anyways, tapping.Brad Crowell 36:05  Yeah, so she said she's a big proponent of it EFT Emotional Freedom tapping. And it's, what she said about it, which I thought was really cool, was it's twofold for you know, you mentioned first off that grief is released through emotion movement...(Lesley: trauma leaves the body through movement) Sorry, trauma leaves the body through movement. And then she said and while we were doing it with because she's got a daughter and she said she would sit there and she would, you know, like together they would tap and she would say it's okay, it's gonna be okay. It's gonna be okay. And she said when you tapped, when you tap on these, these acupressure points, it actually like literally sends like a release through your system. You're and I've totally experienced that. It's kind of amazing. So if you're struggling with grief, definitely look into EFTLesley Logan 36:59  And she said there's a Tapping Solution app. Yeah, that's my takeaway. So she's not familiar with it, but she loves their work and super great for beginners. You know, I'm already thinking up to send this my friend and you can download it and pay for it. So she actually used to do with nightmares for children when they were young. So they were already like ready to go. So parents you can just start them tapping now in case they need to use as a tool. And like you said, you can fill your whole body relax.Brad Crowell 37:24  Yeah, she said it makes you feel safe. It reduces your cortisol level. You can literally feel your body relax. Lesley Logan 37:30  Yeah, you guys, tap away...(Brad: tap away.) Tap, tap tap. I think there's a sweetie song tap tap tap in, anyways, that's where my brain went. You guys, I'm Lesley Logan.Brad Crowell 37:42  And I'm Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 37:43  This is not the last time we're talking about grief. If you really enjoyed this conversation, please let us know so we can bring Krista back or bring in more experts on this because, my goodness, how does like how can grief like really truly make it feel like you're not able to Be It Till You See It? That's why I really wanted to bring her on. So let me know. Let us know how this helped you. Let us know what this allowed you to do, what permission it gave you. And if you try this tapping technique, tag the Be It pod, tag Krista and until next time. 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Join Lesley Logan in this powerful episode with Krista St-Germain as they delve into a poignant journey of grief transformation. Discover Krista's profound insights on supporting individuals in mourning and embracing self-care amidst the isolating nature of grief. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:Krista's profound journey through grief after losing her husband.How to find solace in cognitive coaching tools.The isolating nature of grief.Discover steps for moving forward and toward healing. How to navigate well-intentioned but unhelpful responses to grief. Episode References/Links:Krista St-Germain WebsiteThe Widowed Mom PodcastBroglieBoxGuest Bio:Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista's life was completely flipped upside down. And while it would have been easy to believe her best days were behind her, thankfully Krista discovered Life Coaching and Post Traumatic Growth and was able to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too.  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your 15% discount for Toe Sox – use coupon code LESLEY15Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates MentorshipResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Krista St-Germain 3:02  So I'm standing there on the side of the road texting my daughter who was 12 at the time to tell her that we would be late. And a car that we later found out the driver had meth and alcohol in his system. It's five 5.30 on a Sunday. It's well lit, hazard lights are on, right? but he did not see us, he did not break. And he just crashed right into the back of Hugo's car and trapped him in between his car and my car. And so it felt like this perfect future and amazing life that I had was just, like, ripped.Lesley Logan 3:17  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started. All right, Be It babes. Okay, so I have been really thinking about different types of guests, I wanted to bring on this show to talk about different topics. We talk a lot about your goals and your health and all about like helping you like, Be It Till You See It. And then there are moments in our life that are unplanned. And some of those moments that are unplanned are not just like, oh, you know, like, my internet went down today, and I couldn't do the work I wanted to do or my kid got sick, and I couldn't do the wreck one issue, some of those things actually involve loss, and grief. And as a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, I can see perfectionists, overachievers struggling with going towards their goals and working with grief. And so when I was, when I found today's guest, her name is Krista St-Germain, I was so excited, which is a weird way to feel about this topic. But I was so excited to bring her on to the podcast because she is the only person that can talk to you about grief in the way that she does. And I am, I really can't wait for you to listen to this episode because those of you who are in some acute kind of grief right now, I really hope this validates you and gives you a lot of permission. Those of you who are around people who are grieving right now, I hope that this helps you see things from a different perspective. We also talked about how you could say. She also mentioned after we were done, that she has a quiz on her website. That way, if you are going through grief, and you're unsure which episodes to listen to on our podcast, you can take a quiz, and it will tell you so our team will have all of those links below. I hope this is an episode that you save, that you keep that you can share the link to other people who are working with this and also her podcast specifically. Because there is, we have a lot of work to do around this topic. I believe in our world, we too often think okay, just give them a couple of weeks, and then they'll be fine and, you know, the people that they lost are in a better place and all these things and it's like we can do better, we can do better and not in a perfectionist way but just in an honest human way. And a lot of the things she talks about are really important in all areas of your life. And you know how we do one thing is how we do everything and so whether you're not going through any part of a grief process right now. I hope you do listen to this because I hope you hear those things that we keep saying when it comes to other parts of your life that will help you here because if you can actually practice those when you're not in a grief, you're not in a grieving stage, or grieving place I should say rather than stage, I think you're gonna have a better muscle for it. So anyways, I'm just gonna let Krista to take it away because she is just wonderful. And here is Krista St-Germain.All right, Be it Babes, I have. I guess I've been really excited to bring on not because the topic is very exciting, but because it's actually like something that we can all guarantee we're going to have to go through. That will go through, and we have to learn. We need to learn how to work with it so that we can continue to be the amazing people we are in this world. Krista St Germain Can you tell everyone who you are and what you're up to these days?  Krista St-Germain 6:03  Absolutely. And I'm always excited when somebody is willing to talk about grief because it's never an exciting topic, but it is so valuable. So yeah, I'm Krista St. Germain. I am a master certified coach. I'm a widow. I'm a mom, I host a podcast called The Widowed Mom Podcast. And when I was 40, my husband died. I didn't come by this work, because it was something I really wanted to do. I just kind of got hurled into it. But it was my second marriage. First one kind of went down in flames. Second one was like the redemption story, write proof that you know you can be treated like you want to be treated and happiness is possible. And so I felt like I was really on a big high at that point in my life. And my husband and I had gone on a trip we driven separately wasn't too far away from where we lived. And we were almost home and I had a flat tire pulled over on the side of the interstate, he pulled up behind me. And even though we had triple A, but he was like that stubborn. I'll just do it. We can get home faster, you know, and so I just I let him but cars really whizzing by. So I'm standing there on the side of the road texting my daughter who was 12 at the time to tell her that we would be late. And a car that we later found out the driver had meth and alcohol in his system. It's five 5.30 on a Sunday. It's well lit, hazard lights are on, right? but he did not see us, he did not break. And he just crashed right into the back of Hugo's car and trapped him in between his car and my car. And so it felt like this perfect future and amazing life that I had was just, like, ripped. ...(Lesley: Oh my god). Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And what I found really quickly was that I didn't know anything about grief. Right? And what I did know wasn't actually that helpful was kind of inaccurate. And so when I got myself back to a place where I was like functioning again, I kind of ran out of resources. You know? Therapy was great in the beginning, but you kind of reach a point where you're back to functioning and people are telling you, Oh, you're so strong. And you you're doing so great. And you're like, I don't really think this is what great feels like like this is not what I want, right? So fast forward, long story, right? I did a bunch of my own research, I found cognitive coaching tools. I learned about post traumatic growth, I learned how to support my nervous system. I just did a whole bunch of work. And when I kind of got to a place where I was feeling good, I decided, all right, I don't want people to go through what I went through and not be able to find what they need because we live in a culture that is just so grief illiterate. So that's why I do what I do.Lesley Logan 8:31  Yeah, oh my goodness. I cannot not imagine losing your loved one, actually in the same place that you are and having no ability to help that. So I'm so sorry you went through that. But also like, I agree, like when we lose someone, everyone's like, Oh, time, time is really good. And time and it's like, is it? And so how interesting. I mean, like, I imagine this took a lot of time to go through all those trainings. Are you going back to school? Were you like reading books? What kind of prompted this?Krista St-Germain 9:12  I read so many grief books. Yeah, I mean, I just started looking for resources, right? for me early in grief, you know? a lot of us have this kind of grief fog experience where your grief affects your whole body. So your hormones are out of whack. You're not sleeping well. Your processing ability is just so limited, right? And so it was really frustrating to me as someone who has always read self help, always. I couldn't read and retain anything like I would just read it and it would just not stay in my brain. So it took me a while for that to subside enough where I actually could start reading and learning but yeah, I just started reading about grief and reading different grief theories. The only grief theory I had heard about was the five stages. I didn't know there were other grief theories, right? Lesley Logan 9:55  I know, I've only heard the five stages and yeah, and I can't repeat them. So I think there's anger in there.Krista St-Germain 10:02  Somewhere I think we deny and then some said, Yeah, we're angry. And some Yeah, we bargain. Yeah. And that's, that's that's been my experience is that most people are exactly where I was, which is, that is the only grief theory they ever heard. And unfortunately, you know, even that work has just been really misused and misunderstood. And so we walk around trying to, you know, put square pegs in round holes and compare ourselves to what we think grief is supposed to be like, when that's actually not what it usually is like, and yeah, so...Lesley Logan 10:33  And also, like, and also you are a mom, you know? So like, there's, like, handling the grief, and also your child is also grieving, because you also, were not the same mother anymore. So I'm sure that that's another compounding layer. I want to know, like, how are you able to start to, first of all integrate into your life and then take on the role of like teaching this to others? Because that is a whole, I mean, I know that once we like learn things, you can learn it more if you teach it, but like, how did you come around, saying, I'm going to share this with others, because it means like, telling your story over and over again. And, and then being there for others.Krista St-Germain 11:14  Yeah, it actually took me a while, I kind of went through, I realized pretty quickly after he died, that what I was doing for a living was not feeding my soul. Like, it was making me a good living. And, but it wasn't a wasn't something I felt passionate about. And so I kind of already decided that I wanted to do something else. And I didn't exactly know what that would be. But my therapist was, she was like, You should become a therapist. You can come and you can work for me. And when I retire, you can buy my practice, and I will help you get into MFT school and all the things, right? She had it like totally planned out.Lesley Logan 11:25  Like, I got your I gotta for you like, oh, look at this. Krista St-Germain 11:53  Yeah, you should just be a therapist. And you know how I mean, I'm sure you're the same way where people who end up in these kinds of professions, we naturally are people that other people come to anyway, right? So it made sense to me. So actually enrolled in a marriage and family therapy program. And simultaneously, I decided to enroll in a life coaching program. And the conclusion that I came to eventually was, I don't want to be a therapist. Coaching feels scarier to me, and it's much less known to me, right? and I don't see the path and people are probably going to think I'm crazy, but it's what's actually helping me. And so I'm not going to be there. So I didn't I enrolled, I was ready, I was waiting, it almost started. And then I pulled the plug on that. And I decided to become a coach. But at that point in time, I still was not planning to do grief work, because I just hadn't done enough of my own. I imagined I would be sad all the time I imagined it would, you know, be just too much too heavy. But as I went through more of my own work, and then certification, and then all the practicum and more coaching at a certain point I went, you know, it just really doesn't make any sense to do anything else. Like, this is where I'm uniquely qualified. To help someone and so... (Yeah, like, Yeah, okay. So yeah)Lesley Logan 13:13  That's such a, like, that's such a, I love that you're like, it was the scariest thing. You're like, oh, my gosh, because we always talk about, like, you know, on this podcast, we're always like, you know, if, like fear, like action is the antidote to fear. And like, really, the things that scare us are really the place that's like, kind of a flashlight of like, where we're supposed to be, where the work is that we've got to do. It's like that thing over there that you're like, ooh, close the door. I don't want to see that.Krista St-Germain 13:38  Yeah, and listen, I live in Kansas. Okay, so we're not super progressive around here in terms of, you know, life coaching, what even is that? And also I was in an engineering job. I mean, I was in a job surrounded by I was a project manager for an engineering department. So everyone in my orbit was logical. Right? And, by the way, my late husband was an engineer who worked at that same company, and I could hear his voice, which was logical, which was, don't do it. Don't walk away from this money. You know, that's too big of a risk. Like, that's not a smart idea. So yeah, there was nobody understood what I wanted to do, or why I wanted to do it. It didn't make sense to anyone. Nobody really, honestly, could imagine me being successful doing that, because they just didn't know what it was. So there was a ton of fear.Lesley Logan 14:25  Yeah, yeah, that's, it's a lot when like our family or people like in our life, who cannot see it the way we are seeing it, and it's not that we need to see it. I don't know that I needed anyone in my family to see what I was doing. It's like, yeah, go get it. I just needed them to like not tell me what they're afraid of (...)Krista St-Germain 14:46  Yeah, yeah. You have to be really careful with who you surround yourself with. I think.Lesley Logan 14:51  Well, is that the same when in the grief process? I mean, I know I know some of the listeners right now. Just because our coaching program I know some of them are in in grief, like recent loss of family members, is even who you surround yourself with a thing you should consider when you're going through a grief process.Krista St-Germain 15:13  Yeah, I mean, there's, you know, there's still probably people you're going to be interacting with that maybe aren't as supportive as you'd like them to be. So I think we need to kind of figure out, how do we still work with those people and maintain them in our lives, assuming that we want them. But also grief can be really, really isolating. And because it's something our culture doesn't talk about a lot. And because we just kind of, I think, all walk around with this assumption that feelings are problems and like, we should deal with them on our own. And, you know, we have a lot of misinformation about grief and time healing and all that stuff, right? So so that it just tends to make us want to isolate more and more and more. So even if you don't have anybody in your immediate environment, who can relate, I guarantee you, you can find somebody on the internet, right? You can find someone who's gone through something that's similar to what you've gone through. So that at least you don't feel like you're the only one at least you have some place you can go to talk or maybe just express what has happened without feeling the need to explain yourself. I love technology for that reason, right? There's grief groups for everything. And you just want to be careful that, you know, at a certain point, something like that can be it's exactly what you need. And then sometimes it can turn into something that holds you back. And you kind of have to know where that line is for you.Lesley Logan 16:29  Yeah, I am sure that like it's different for everybody. Do you think that there's like any signs that like, maybe you might be leaning on to that as a crutch too much is like, Are there any things to pay attention to?Krista St-Germain 16:41  I think what it is, for most of the people that I see, it's not so much that they are leaning on to it, it's that they start to realize that it's no longer serving them, and I hate to make rules about this, you know, over generalizations I don't like but for many of us in the early days, it's just so good to be able to talk about what happened and express it without feeling like we're dumping it on someone. Right? And so people who understand we can just tell the story and make peace with the story. And there it is, and they can, can be there in that way. But then at a certain point, most of us reach a place where we're kind of tired of telling the story. Right? Telling the story becomes limiting. And so then that's at the point where a group, if really, it's just a bunch of telling the story might start to not be in service to where we want to go next. Because maybe now we want to start focusing on telling a different story. Right? whenever we want to start focusing on creating the next story, the next chapter. Yeah, you know, not every group is ready for that.Lesley Logan 17:48  Yeah, you know, actually, as you're saying that there's like, kind of, I think that happens in different areas of life, not just in grief. But like, when people know you as a certain person and as a certain job and you're like, you've moved on, I like like, maybe you were vegan, and I'm like, Oh, you're the vegan and not you're not, you're a vegetarian now or something like that. And it's like, you kind of I know that I'm like making a very general, like, what does it mean to food and grief. But I think in life, we can end up with people who can hold us back and try to keep us at an old story that we're trying to move on from and so anytime that's happening, it's a good time to go, Is this is this situation serving me? And like, Where's the group of people that I can be, I can tell the new story with?Krista St-Germain 18:31  Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's great when you can go somewhere and go, Oh, I'm not crazy. It's not me. This is grief, this is normal. Other people are experiencing this too. And then when it becomes Oh, my god, is this all there is like, are we going to be depressed for the rest of our lives? Are we going to be crying every day? Because a lot of these people are still, that's where they are. That's happened to me, right? And I was like, Okay, I'm not going to be one of those, you know, stories were 10 years later, I'm still just pining my time and waiting, you know, to die so that we can be together like, that's not going to be my life.Lesley Logan 19:05  Yeah. So what happens? So okay, what is a, since we have, we all know what the five are, but we don't really know the order anymore. And people just know that it exists. And we will look at it when it's time for us to go through it. But like, what, what have you, what have you found like, if someone's going through some grief right now, aside from finding a group, what is some something that they can do for themselves to keep moving forward?Krista St-Germain 19:29  Yeah. And just a note on what you've just said, typically, I think it's important, like you don't ever have to pay attention to the five stages of grief, honestly, that work was initially about hospice patients. It was about people who are coming to terms with their own mortality, not people who were grieving the loss of someone else. And then that work was applied to grief and grieving but it was originally about death and dying. So, it went from being an anecdotal, useful conversation starter in a time where no nobody was talking about death, right, at that time, to being something that people have tried to force themselves to fit into. So, I just want to say like, you know, you ever have to learn that.Lesley Logan 20:11  You guys can skip ahead on that chapter.Krista St-Germain 20:14  All the feelings are okay, there is no end to grief, right? Grief is a natural human response to a perceived loss. We don't get over it, we don't get to the end of it. Right? We adjust to it, we incorporate it into our lives, we integrate. Right? That's the idea. But I could go, I could go on a soapbox there. So like, what do you do in the beginning? I think you let yourself be a hot mess, and honestly, just have so much compassion, right? Because it really is a full body experience, there really is no part of, if the loss was significant to you, there really is no part of your life that probably isn't being touched. And it's okay, if things feel completely off, right? Your hormones will be off, you might not be sleeping well, you might be totally numb. You might be foggy brained, your heart might actually hurt, right? A broken heart syndrome is a real symptom that people have of grief, where their heart actually aches. And so none of that is reflective of anything that you have done wrong, it doesn't mean anything about the future for you, right? It's just grief impacts people differently. And so the more compassion we can have for ourselves in that experience, and the more we can kind of focus on the basics of self care, like basics, right? Did we eat today? Like, there were days where I could eat nothing more than a smoothie, and I only ate it if my family brought it to me. Right? Did I shower recently? Like some of those basic things are to be celebrated? It is it really truly get back to basics, how much water, can I drink some water, can I get more rest? And I know that's not easy to do, especially when you have kids or you have a job or you have, you know, things that you feel like are demanding and pulling on your time. Also, to, as much as I don't like that the idea of time heals. I used it, I used to be vehemently against it. And every time someone said it to me, I'd be like, no time sits there, time does nothing, right? But what I have learned is that it really is a lot more nuanced than that. We don't want to depend only on time healing, because if we think that time is what heals, then sometimes what we do is we swing way over in the opposite direction, and we just kind of grip tightly to the steering wheel, right, and like, hold on for dear life and wait for time to pass. And we don't acknowledge how we're actually feeling and we don't let ourselves think about the loss. And then for women or women in particular, it seems to be we have this idea of you know, the one year mark, somehow miracles will happen, like the clouds will part and the angels will sing and all the sudden we won't be in grief anymore. And if you've gripped your way through the whole first year, then usually It's so disappointing to get past that first year and realize, oh, actually, just because I got through those first milestones doesn't mean I still don't have some feelings to, you know, be with and some thoughts to look at. But also, time does need to pass in terms of what our brain is doing, as we're grieving, right? And if it was a significant relationship, especially a partner at one, we have to understand that our brain is like a prediction machine. Right? So, it's constantly like when you think about your husband, you you know, when you're going to see him next, you kind of know where he is, right? If you were to wake up in the middle of the night, assuming you sleep in the same bed and you reach over and he's not there. That would be weird. Because your brain has had him there so many times that it expects him to be there. And so when he, when your brain expects and that and reality doesn't match the expectation, that's when we have the longing or the yearning, or that weirdness of like, I know they died, but also it feels like they should be here. You know, I know they died, but also, the garage door just went up and I thought that it would be them. And you kind of feel like you're a little crazy. So the brain has to have enough exposures to their absence to stop predicting that they will be there. And now that part does take time. Yeah, right time does have to pass.Lesley Logan 24:29  It is interesting. It's a combination of like you have to be taking care of yourself. And time has to pass, right? So that and I you said it earlier and I don't want to use it so eloquently, but like, like we don't get over grief. I think people are expecting like it somehow someday I'm just over it. It's just gonna happen. It's just gonna be gone and I just don't. I think that's a terrible expectation to put on.Krista St-Germain 25:00  We use language like grief journey, you know? And of course, when you think there are stages to something, don't you think that then there's an end resolution? Yeah, of course. So of course, we think it's going to be over. But we can't go back and undo the loss, which means we're always going to have thoughts and feelings about it. So really, what we want to do is move from kind of unintentional thoughts and feelings, to integrating it into our lives intentionally. So that we're thinking about that loss in a way that doesn't hold us back from the life that we want. But we might still always choose to be sad about it. Like, we don't have to be grateful that it happened. But we want to go from unintentional to intentional.Lesley Logan 25:39  Yeah, I think. I think all of that just makes me feel like you just take the pressure off. And I feel like the perfectionists and overachievers, what's hard is that they want to be able to handle grief, some perfect way, there must be a way I must do this. And then also, I should be able to show up for my job and for my family and keep everything going, while grieving and I imagined that there is a space where it is possible to show up for life and move the needle forward. At some point, but not in the beginning.Krista St-Germain 26:13  I mean, yeah, it's different for everyone. Some people I am blown away by how they can just like go straight back to work and kind of jump right back in. So I don't ever want to put rules around it. But yeah, it's gonna take what it takes for you. And judging yourself doesn't make it take less time. It doesn't make it any easier, right? Cuz compassion and kindness and self care are really important.Lesley Logan 26:40  Yeah, y'all keep hearing about that self care stuff. We can you talk about it around here. Just so you know.Krista St-Germain 26:46  Almost like it's important.Lesley Logan 26:49  Yeah, so, Krista, you've been doing this for I don't know how long you've been doing this, now. What are you hoping to do next? Like, where are you hoping you take your message and your mission?Krista St-Germain 27:02  If I could just wave a magic wand, then as soon as someone's spouse died or partner died, they would just be given The Widowed Mom podcast, they would like be given the resources that I have. So I realize, you know, there's 11 million widows. So that's probably a big stretch. But honestly, that's what I would like is to be able to reach people earlier in more acute grief. So that they have an easier time and so that they suffer less. And, you know, yeah, that's why that's why I love coming on podcasts like this and talking about it. Oh, it's because now somebody's gonna know. Yeah, somebody's gonna be like, Oh, I know, someone who just, you know, had that experience, or somebody's gonna take something from today. And then later, it's something they're gonna go through grief, and then they're going to be more prepared for it.Lesley Logan 27:45  Yeah. So okay, on the other side of it, not the other side of grief. But the other person, people around someone going in grief are the people who maybe are not like that, that loss of that person is terrible for them. But it's not their partner. It's not their mom. It's not their, but so they but they love their best friend or they love who their coworker. And wow, we don't know what to say to these people. Like, we have no idea. Like, I'll see someone post their dog died. And I'm like, I like tear face. Like, what do I say right now?Krista St-Germain 28:18  I don't think it's the party emoji. I don't think that's the one. Lesley Logan 28:23  You know, and so like, you see, like, sometimes I see people write something like, I guess that's nice, too. But like, what? And obviously everyone is different. But is there like some things we should avoid? Or some things we can consider? Or like, like, maybe like, say that's like, opens the door? Because I feel like you know, I remember as a kid, I heard people say, Oh, bring someone who lost somebody toilet paper, because they need essentials. Like don't bring them food. Everyone's bringing them food. Bring them paper towels. Like, really? I'm gonna show up at the house with like, six rolls of paper towels.Krista St-Germain 29:01  I had somebody, bless her, she just went and bought all my kids school supplies. Because it was the first of August and school was about to start and our kids went to the same school and she just handled it. Oh, she didn't even ask. She just showed up with school supplies. So yeah, I think I think it first of all, we just need to cut ourselves a break. We're not going to say exactly the quote unquote, right thing, we probably will stick our foots in our mouths. Sometimes, you know, we will say something this round. And then I look back at all the cringy things that I said before I had had my own grief experience. And I'm like, oh god, why did I say those things? But you know, we're doing the best we can, we just need to be the kind to ourselves about it. I think what are the things that most people usually end up not receiving well, when they are in grief, are the things that are indicative of the other person's discomfort with emotion. So you know, when somebody's again, we're all socialized to kind of think that feelings are problems, and we don't really have the capacity to allow negative emotion. So of course, it makes sense that then when we're around someone else who has a lot of quote unquote negative emotion, I don't even believe, you know, air quotes, right? Then, of course, we want them to feel better, because we don't know how to feel. We don't know how to feel good unless they feel better. And that's the root of a lot of the minimizing things that we say, Oh, they're in a better place. Oh, at least they're no longer suffering. Oh, I know, I heard you're young, you'll find someone else. Right? Just focus on your blessings. Just be grateful for what you had. It's those kinds of things that people say not because they don't love you, and they don't care. But because they don't know how to deal with your negative emotion. They think it's a problem, and they're trying to make it go away from the best place. So to me, it's like, this sucks. And I love you. I am so sorry. This sucks, right? We don't even try to make it better with words because words don't make it better. We just like, let someone feel how they feel and and witness it. That's what people want is to be seen.Lesley Logan 31:03  Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And that's an all things, isn't it? Like I have a girlfriend who she's about to go back to work by the time this is out she's been back at work after having a baby. And she got to be home for almost six months with them and all the stuff and, and I checked in. I said, Hey, how is like the first day with the nanny, and she's like, this is so hard. And I was like, I'm so sorry this sucks. Sucks. Krista St-Germain 31:28  And somebody else in her life is probably like, don't be sad. It's okay. Yeah, you're gonna be fine.Lesley Logan 31:33  Yeah, yeah. And I was just like, I mean, it's, she's allowed for it to be hard. It's fine. And I think that, like, I thank you for highlighting that. And thank you for sharing, like, you know, we're all gonna put our friend mad, we are going to say the wrong thing because of wherever we are in our life when it's going on. Like, I think we all need to cut ourselves some slack. But I do love that you share that story about someone just buying school supplies, I think like, you know, we can just be thoughtful about something like it can be, oh, they have school supplies. It can be if they have a dog, get the dog food, hire a dog walker, like just for a day like just think about like, what could be helpful and then just do it. If it if it gets, the door gets shut and the dog walkers face like, oh, well, that sucked $25 out the door, but probably not. Yeah, they'll be like, Oh, that's so nice. Oh, guys, I'm gonna walk my dog.Krista St-Germain 32:29  Yeah, I mean, acts of service. And in, you know, it's easy to say, let me know if I can help. Let me know if there's something I can do. But when your whole world just feels like it exploded. You honestly, you don't know what you need. It's very difficult to articulate it sometimes. Because it's like, you're just grappling with this weird nightmare that you're living. You know, so yeah, it's totally okay to make an offer. And maybe it'll land and maybe it won't, but you know, sometimes better to not ask what they need. They might not know.Lesley Logan 32:59  Yeah, yeah. Oh my god, this is so helpful. There is, there's like, I can't I can't think of the name right now. And I don't want to say the wrong one. But I'll put it in the show notes if I remember it. But it was a company that I heard where she creates these boxes, and they're like, they're there when something goes wrong in someone's life. And you can just send this box and it's got like, Beth bubbles and it's got like, a checklist of like, drink three glasses of water and she put it together because her brother had died by suicide. And she had to go through this whole thing and she was like, Well what about other people who are going through this? How can we help them and so she's got these different boxes and you can go on when someone is going through something they didn't go Oh, like they even have on for kids were going to college like that's its own transition. (So it's like here's like to find out what timer.) Yeah, I want to say it's Brody box, or Broglie box. We'll put it up, we'll put in the show notes and I'll send it to because it'd be so cool by the way just for you. There should be there could be a kit for you. Yeah, for people going through grief and you could be your podcasts can be in there. I'm just coming up with ideas to help people because I love what you're saying and I did not, you know, my parents listen to this, so, guys, I love you. But it's not like I grew up in, none of them none of us did, grew up in a life and a household where like when grief happened you just like you talked about it. No, it was like the funeral happen It was super fast everyone like brought all this food and then everyone cleaned up and everyone went home. Yeah, I'm like okay, we are not there anymore. And we don't really like especially in the states we do not really handle it well which is why y'all I'm working on trying to find a death doula to come in here because I think that that work is really interesting. And how they're, how when people know someone's passing, how they're able to allow for people to visit and be with the body before it goes away. So anyways, all this stuff has been very fascinating. Krista, your work is so wonderful. We're gonna take a brief break and find out where people can find you, follow you, listen to your podcast. All right, where do you like to hang out? Where can people get to work with you, connect with you? Listen to your pod?Krista St-Germain 35:15  Yeah, The Widowed Mom podcast probably the best place. You know, if you want to learn more about grief, if post traumatic growth is interesting to you, even if you're not a widowed mom, for sure, take a listen. Also send other people my way. It reminded me too earlier, you were asking about what we say I did record an episode called For Those Who Love Us, which is a great one to listen to if somebody wants to learn more about how to support someone that's going through grief, that's a good episode. And then everything else can be found at coachingwithkrista.com K R I S T A all my social contacts and everything are there.Lesley Logan 35:47  Wonderful. Thank you so much. Okay, before I let you go, you've given us some excellent stuff, though. However, bold, executable, intrinsic, targets steps people can take to be it till they see it. What do you have for us?Krista St-Germain 35:58  This was hard for me because I have lots of ideas. And so I'm just gonna go with one. And so I'm a big fan of tapping, Emotional Freedom Technique. So thankfully, I had tapping in my pocket before my husband died, I already knew how to do it. And I knew how and I had used it with my children when they were very little. And they were 12 and nine when he died. So they had to use it for a number of years. But I love tapping because it creates calm in the nervous system. And it allows us to let feelings flow through. It's great for grief grenades, right, any sort of triggering situation where our nervous system is responding as though we are unsafe. So, for me, the sound of metal crashing, CPR scenes, sirens, right? things like that tapping helped me in the moment when my nervous system was just tripping out. And then it also helped me to work with someone who could help me go back and neutralize those triggers. So that when I remembered them or encountered them in my environment, my nervous system stopped thinking I was in danger, right? So I am a big proponent of that. You can just go to YouTube and learn all about tapping, right? You don't have to pay anyone to teach it to you. Do you? Are you familiar with it?Lesley Logan 37:08  I am. I've heard about it. Like I read a book once but like it is, I don't have like as like I don't have it memorized justKrista St-Germain 37:15  You're tapping on acupressure points, right? So you're just tapping on acupressure points, and you're acknowledging the truth, you always start on the side of the hand. And it's like, even though I feel so sad, it's okay for me to acknowledge the truth of how I feel, right? Even though I feel so sad. It's okay for me to acknowledge the truth of how I feel. And so you start it three times, and then you just tap on the points. Like so sad. I feel so sad. Whatever it is that you're trying to process. The Tapping Solution app is brilliant. I'm not affiliated with them, but I love their work. It's great for beginners, anybody can download that, I pay for it, I pay for my daughter to have it. And I mean, even before grief, it saved many a bedtime nightmare with my children when they were young, right? And they just couldn't calm themselves down. We would just tap with like, let it go. Let it go. Right and then amygdala, well, okay, I'm safe. Cortisol levels drop, you can just you can literally feel your body relax. Lesley Logan 38:13  There's so much I love about tapping because one, like trauma, and emotionally, the body through movement. So you're moving, you're just tapping. So you don't have to actually do a workout at all, you can just tap. But also, you're acknowledging something. And you're saying like and that if you have a hard time, like feeling your feelings or like honoring what those feelings are, I think it's a really good practice. I love that your kids are doing it. And so thank you for that. That's I would love to know if anyone's listening to this. If you use tapping already, or if you end up using it and needing this. Krista, I am so grateful for you and for you sharing your story. I hate that you went through what you went through. But I also am so grateful and I'm sure many people are because the work you're doing is helping all of us get better at understanding our grief and allowing us to live with it instead of trying to like remove it and finish it and shove it in a box. So thank you for being you. Y'all, how are you going to use these tips what she told you in your life? Please tag Krista, tag the Be It pod, go listen to her podcast or share it with a friend especially one who's going through something that might just be the thing that might be the best thing you can say is here's the link and until next time, Be It Till You See It!That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram.   I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network.  Brad Crowell 39:31  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Leslie Logan and me, Brad Crowell. Lesley Logan 39:31  It is produced, edited by the Epic team at Disenyo.  Brad Crowell 39:31  Theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music, and our branding by designer and artist Gianfranco Cioffi.  Lesley Logan 39:31  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals and Ximena Velazquez for our transcriptions. Brad Crowell 39:31   Also to Angelina Herico for adding all the content to our website. And finally to Meridith Crowell for keeping us all on point and on time.Transcribed by https://otter.aiSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Tapping, also known as Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), is one of the most life-changing healing modalities that I've used in my life and taught to my children. Nick Ortner, CEO of The Tapping Solution, joins me on this episode to expand on how tapping can help anyone experiencing the effects of unhealed trauma, including anxiety, depression, and physical pain.Tapping speeds up the process of letting go and creates peace within the body. In our conversation, Nick walks us through a tapping exercise and explains how to upgrade your affirmation practice using this technique. He also opens up about why this work is so important to him and how he plans to spread awareness about the power of tapping. IN THIS EPISODE, WE TALK ABOUT:What tapping is and how it worksHow to calm your fight or flight response Clearing the resistance that's getting in the way of your growth Honoring the push and pull of repeating affirmations Examples of how I've used tapping in my life RESOURCESThe Tapping Solution AppThe Tapping Solution Documentary You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay Want to be text friends and receive weekly inspiration? Click here! CONNECT WITH NICKFollow Nick: @nickortner Follow The Tapping Solution: @thetappingsolution Learn more about The Tapping Solution: thetappingsolution.com CONNECT WITH DANETTEFollow Danette: @thedanettemayFacebook: Danette MayTikTok: @thedanettemayListen to ManifestivalBuy my bookWork With Danette

Be honest. How often do you start your morning pounding the snooze button or scrolling your phone under the covers? I'm going to be real with you: You're sabotaging your entire day when you start your morning that way. This week, I'm breaking down the science behind why starting your morning off on the right foot doesn't just give you a natural energy boost. It also dictates your mood, performance, and energy levels from morning to night. And not only that—you sleep better when you start your day off right, too!  Here's the good news: There are three super easy steps you can take to kick off a great morning—including one I was very skeptical about, but is now something I'll never give up. And the best part is, these daily habits are free and accessible to all. Plus, towards the end of the show, I'm revealing my personal morning routine (hint: it involves some shivering).  Tune in today so you can start doing these three things tomorrow!  Full show notes: jjvirgin.com/peakenergy Andrew Huberman recommends 2-10 minutes of morning sunlight exposure to improve mood, energy, and focus. Learn more at: Andrew Huberman's Light & Sun Exposure Guide https://medium.com/@podclips/andrew-hubermans-light-sun-exposure-guide-dd62a43314df Read the study on how sun exposure can improve sleep and mood: https://www.sleephealthjournal.org/article/S2352-7218(17)30041-4/fulltext Use light-therapy lamps with 10,000 LUX output to mimic natural sunlight. To try, visit: https://amzn.to/3BYHgt3 I just learned about using a Philips sunrise alarm clock to wake peacefully to natural light and the sounds of chirping birds. Get yours at: https://amzn.to/43vDIKv Make sure you have a full-spectrum light bulb with sun-mimicking technology to boost energy and mood. To try, visit: https://amzn.to/3ON692N  At night, switch your bulbs over to red to remind your brain it's time to wind down. To try, visit: https://amzn.to/3MZAwSf Use blue-blocker glasses to minimize blue-light exposure before bed. Use my code JJ10 to get 10% off stylish TrueDark Premium blue-light glasses: https://truedark.com/?ref=ntrhmgv2   Dr. Joe Dispenza's meditation retreats helped me improve my life. Try one of his guided morning meditations here: https://drjoedispenza.com/?rfsn=6914154.37386a&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=6914154.37386a  Or if you like relaxing music, I love the meditations he does with Barry Goldstein's music. Find one here: https://drjoedispenza.com/products/ambiology-1-the-heart-by-barry-goldstein-music-compilation-download?rfsn=6914154.37386a&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=6914154.37386a Try different methods of meditation to see what works for you. A favorite of mine is The Tapping Solution by Nick Ortner. Try it here: https://thetappingsolutionapp.com/jj  Read the study on how meditation can change the structure of your brain associated with memory, learning, emotional regulation, and perspective taking: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3004979/: Finding your personal mantra with Ziva Meditation might be another way you release stress and learn to love meditation. Try it now: https://cd371.isrefer.com/go/3secrets/JJ110/ Read the study on why working out in the morning is better for fat loss: https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2218510120  Starting my day with a cold plunge refreshes my mind and body. Use my code JJVIP1000 for $1,000 off of yours: https://www.koorucoldplunges.com

For the moments when you're stuck and struggling to take action doing the thing you know you want to do in order to get what you want, keep this episode handy!  Joining us today, is international Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), or Tapping expert, Brad Yates to introduce this powerful tool to that will help you regulate stress and get unstuck. Brad teaches us what Tapping is and how it can easily become a go-to simple tool to add to your personal development routine to step into your highest potential.  At the end of the episode, he guides us through a specific Tapping session to help you take action when you're experiencing resistance.  Enjoy this episode and listen to it whenever you're stuck in resistance!  Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book "The Wizard's Wish," the co-author of the best-seller "Freedom at Your Fingertips," and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.  Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 42 million times.  More info is available at www.tapwithbrad.com   

In this encore episode, Erica Ross-Krieger interviews EFT Expert, author, and master teacher Brad Yates.  Brad's signature approach to EFT is known internationally and combines his rich experience as an EFT expert, his background as a hypnotherapist, his sense of humor, and his deep commitment to helping others. Entrepreneurs world-wide seek Brad's expertise to help them reach new levels of success. Erica talks with Brad about all of this and more. Listen in as Brad shares:• His own journey from actor to hypnotherapist to successful EFT “Tapping” expert.• An overview of EFT, including its history, uses, and proven success.• The top ways entrepreneurs can sabotage their success and how EFT can help.• What's really underneath “self-sabotage” and how to recognize it. • Why he believes that entrepreneurs “have a duty” to be successful.• An actual round of EFT “Tapping” with Erica (that you can participate in also), to help clear block to entrepreneurial success.• How listeners can get Brad's free gift of a recorded Tapping class,  “Tapping into Abundance.”  Gift from Brad:• Brad's “Tapping Into Abundance” free tapping class:https://ericarosscoach.com/BYAbundance   Connect with Brad Yates: • Website:https://ericarosscoach.com/BradYates • Facebook group:https://www.facebook.com/TapWithBrad • LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/tapwithbrad   Brad Yates BioBrad Yates is known internationally for his creative and often humorous use of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT). He has been a presenter at many events world-wide, including several International Energy Psychology Conferences and the Walk On Water (WOW) Fest in Los Angeles. Brad has presented at Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success event and has done tele-seminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale. He has also been a featured expert in every Tapping World Summit.Brad is the author of the best-selling children's book “The Wizard's Wish” the co-author of the best-seller, “Freedom at Your Fingertips, the creator of the “Tapping Into Riches” program, and a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution.” He has also been a presenter at a number of events, including Jack Canfield'sBreakthrough to Success, has done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows and podcasts.  Brad also has over 1,000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 31 milliontimes.  More info is available at his website.

Stressed and anxious? Hit play to experience an EFT Tapping session designed to ease your nervous system. Led by Nick Ortner of The Tapping Solution, you'll feel more relaxed, grounded, and ready to face the rest of your day. This is part 1 of a special 5-day Brighten Your Day series, so be sure to tune in tomorrow for part 2!