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Unstoppable Mindset
Episode 280 – Unstoppable Tapping and EFT Expert with Brad Yates

Unstoppable Mindset

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Tapping? EFT? What are they? In our episode this time Brad Yates will tell us all about these incredible tools and how they can benefit each of us. Brad grew up thinking he wanted to be an actor. He attended the University of California at Irvine, my alma mater. He majored in Drama.   After college he began working to create and grow an acting career. Along the way he met a woman and married her. As he worked at becoming an actor he began to feel that perhaps acting was not going to be what he should do full time.   He finally decided that helping people was his real life's calling. He took a course in hypnotherapy. He became a hypnotherapist and along the way learned about this tool called “tapping”. I get to participate in a tapping demo as you will see. Briefly, tapping utilizes many of the same techniques and areas of acupuncture, but instead of needles you use your finger tips to address certain locations on your body. Tapping is becoming more accepted as Brad proved by working with the Sacramento Drug Court for three years where he helped addicts coming out of jail to overcome life and physical challenges.   This episode is fascinating and invaluable on many levels. I hope you enjoy it and will visit Brad's website, www.tapwithbrad.com. Brad is truly unstoppable.       About the Guest:   Brad Yates has had the privilege and pleasure of working with a diverse group of clients, from CEOs to professional and NCAA athletes, from chiropractors and psychiatrists to corporate and federal attorneys, from award-winning actors to residents at a program for homeless men and women in Santa Monica. For several years he taught a weekly class using EFT and guided imagery at Sacramento Drug Court.   Brad has also been a presenter at a number of events, including several International Energy Psychology Conferences and Jack Canfield's Breakthrough to Success event. He's done teleseminars with “The Secret” stars Bob Doyle and Dr. Joe Vitale and have been a featured expert in every Tapping World Summit.   He is the author of the best-selling children's book “The Wizard's Wish”, the co-author of the best-seller “Freedom at Your Fingertips,” a featured expert in the film “The Tapping Solution” (along with Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor, Dr. Norman Shealy and Dr. Bruce Lipton), and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.   Brad also has over 1000 videos on YouTube, that have been viewed over 47 million times. More info is available at www.tapwithbrad.com   Ways to connect with Brad:   Website: https://www.tapwithbrad.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/tapwithbrad Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TapWithBrad Instagram: http://instagram.com/tapwithbrad TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tapwithbrad Twitter: http://twitter.com/tapwithbrad LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tapwithbrad/       About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/   https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!   Subscribe to the podcast   If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. You can subscribe in your favorite podcast app. You can also support our podcast through our tip jar https://tips.pinecast.com/jar/unstoppable-mindset .   Leave us an Apple Podcasts review   Ratings and reviews from our listeners are extremely valuable to us and greatly appreciated. They help our podcast rank higher on Apple Podcasts, which exposes our show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave an honest review on Apple Podcasts.       Transcription Notes:   Michael Hingson ** 00:16 Access Cast and accessiBe Initiative presents Unstoppable Mindset. The podcast where inclusion, diversity and the unexpected meet. Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us.   Brad Yates ** 02:04 Oh, thank you so much. Michael, I'm honored to be here. And, yeah, I think it's up to 47 million now.   Michael Hingson ** 02:10 47 I was afraid that I got that wrong. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 02:12 that's all right.   Michael Hingson ** 02:14 It's okay. It's   Brad Yates ** 02:15 a lot of time. I'm honored that that so many people have found it helpful and and then it continues to grow at   Michael Hingson ** 02:24 1000 videos. That's 47,000 views per video, so that's not too bad. Yeah,   02:30 yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 02:31 take the average. Well, I really appreciate you being here. And one other thing that Brad and I just discovered about each other is we are both graduates of UC Irvine, so we're both anteaters, and as we always say, there you go. Well, why don't we start tell us a little bit about the early Brad growing up and stuff. Yeah, why not?   Brad Yates ** 02:56 Well, so I, I went to Irvine as a drama major, because it had a really great drama department. So coming out of high school, I was an actor. What I intended to do, and got my degree in drama. It as I was just telling you, it took some a little bit of time off during college to go study acting in London. And then out of college, got a job with a traveling children's theater, traveled the world, performed in all kinds of exotic locations, like Italy, Australia, Fiji, Waukegan, Illinois, you know, hit all the big places and and then after a little bit of that, I decided it's time to go to Hollywood to go my movie star. And then while I was there, I I met a woman, fell in love and got married, and when our first child was on the way, I thought, you know, I might need a backup career. So I saw an ad for a hypnotherapy school, and I thought, wow, I've always been fascinated by the power of the mind. I'll I'll check that out, and did that, started building a small hypnotherapy practice while still pursuing my acting career. And then after a couple of years, when our second child was on the way, I realized that as much as I loved acting, doing personal development work was really my calling, that's really what I was meant to do. It just just so satisfying. So we left Los Angeles, moved up to northern California to be closer to our families, and had the kids close to their grandparents. And through some other hypnotherapists, I heard about this, this tapping thing, this energy psychology conference going on in Las Vegas. And I thought, Wow, that sounds interesting. And when we did this technique where we were just tapping using acupuncture points and tapping on our face to down regulate stress, it was just really amazing, especially when one of the examples you used was. Was he gave everybody pieces of chocolate, and we tapped on chocolate cravings. And after a couple of minutes, I could not eat the chocolate, and I didn't eat chocolate for two years after that, I eventually recovered. I got better, but so that I just thought, wow, this is an amazing technique. And I started introducing into my hypnotherapy sessions, and little they became tapping sessions and put it on YouTube, and here we are.   Michael Hingson ** 05:25 Wow. So you you use a lot of interesting techniques. Tell me about guided imagery. What is that?   Brad Yates ** 05:36 That's the the name that I give to hypnosis is still a type of hypnosis, just allowing people to go into that, that different state of mind and create images that are designed to enhance one's well being, enhance their success mindset, even enhance their unstoppable mindset, and allowing them to to find those ways of accessing more powerful and more empowering parts of themselves. So while my original sessions used to be all hypnotherapy, now I usually end a session with just what I call a guided imagery, just taking people through to use it to very nurturing process for mind and body. So   Michael Hingson ** 06:23 what is it that you do? Are they actually under hypnosis during guided imagery, or are you helping people to really learn to imagine and and use their minds to to explore images and explore whatever it is that that you're talking about without actually going through the whole hypnotic process.   Brad Yates ** 06:43 Well, I do. I start with a progressive relaxation, which is the hypnotic induction that a lot of people use. It's not the the induction. I as a hypnotherapist, I used a number of different inductions with with this, because I'm often working with large audiences, I do just a progressive relaxation, but it does take many folks into a very deep, hypnotic trance, and some others, not so much, but, but to a very relaxed place where they're more open to suggestion. And then I'll do it. It'll be a guided meditation of looking at what do they want to create, and how do they access that? And it, it's always it's always intuitive. For me, I very rarely know what I'm going to do until I start talking to them and taking them down. And then, generally, because I've done it at the end of a tapping session, and I know what the person is working on and what their challenges are, I'll generally come up with some sort of imagery that is related to what we've been working on, just sort of seal in the work that we've done with the tapping   Michael Hingson ** 07:56 well. And as long as we're doing that, then tell me about tapping. What, what that is logical. Logical thing. Since you brought it up, guided imagery.   Brad Yates ** 08:07 Mainly what I do my website is tap with Brad. So it's all about the the tapping. It based on acupuncture. So for 1000s of years in Chinese medicine, they have said there's a flow of energy through the body along these pathways that are called meridians. And when this energy is flowing naturally, we experience our natural state of health and well being, physically and emotionally. And when this energy gets stuck or disrupted, we don't feel so good, and that keeps us from thinking clearly. We don't make the best decisions, and that has all kinds of unfortunate consequences. So in traditional Chinese medicine, the doctor would stick needles in these key points along around the face and torso and the body to stimulate that healthy flow of energy. And we're just tapping with our fingertips to stimulate those same points. It's kind of a type of acupressure to get that flow of energy going. We have a growing body of scientific research validating it as a very profound tool for down regulating stress. And when you realize that stress either causes or worsens most, if not all, of the issues that trouble us, both physically and emotionally, then having a very simple tool for down regulating stress and balancing the nervous system is can be a profound benefit in in life in general, for our health and well being, but also pretty much any area of our lives.   Michael Hingson ** 09:36 So you talk about Emotional Freedom Techniques is, is essentially guided imagery, and tapping part of what that means. Well, the   Brad Yates ** 09:45 the Emotional Freedom Techniques is the is one version of the tapping modality. It was developed out of a another tapping modality called fought field therapy. The psychologist named Dr Roger Callahan and. Who had been working with this woman with a lifelong water phobia, and after working with him for a year and a half, and she was about 40, had been in therapy all of her life. After a year and a half with him, she could be outdoors near swimming pool and not have be too disturbed, but she had to be looking away from the water. But she was, you know, very, very bothered by bodies of water and any water. So he had been expanding his horizons, learning different things. Was taking a course in acupressure. And one day, he said, Well, what's the physical sensation when you have this water fear? And she said, Well, I get a knot in my stomach. And he said, Okay, well, this this key point for the stomach meridians right here under the eye. Let's see what happens if we tap there. And after just a few moments of tapping, she said, it's gone. And he said, Well, what's gone? She said, the fear. And she runs out of the house towards the swimming pool. And he's running after saying, Wait, stop. She goes, Stop, just It's okay. I know I don't know how to swim, but she got down by the pool and started splashing water in her face. And she said, this doesn't bother me at all. And naturally thought, well, this is very interesting. So he started experimenting with different patients, and found that with different emotional issues, he it was beneficial to use different points in different sequences. And within a year, he put himself out of business because all of his patients who had been coming to him on a weekly basis were now, hey, I'm fine, see ya. So he started teaching this process called that. He called thought field therapy, and one of his first students was a gentleman named Gary Craig, and you'll appreciate this. Gary got his degree in engineering. He he had his degree from from Stanford, and was very interested in personal development, and was taking this learning this process. And he said, Well, it's it. This is very complicated, coming up with these different algorithms of which points to tap in which sequences, and there's eight points that we're using. So what if we just tap these eight points top to bottom in one sequence and simplify it? You know, as an engineer trying to simplify what's there? Yeah, and found that he was getting the same great results. So he called this version of tapping Emotional Freedom Techniques. And a lot of us, the the tapping that many of us do is based on EFT there. There are sometimes some differences, because each person does it a little bit differently. So the general term over that all is, is tapping coming from my background as Hypnotherapist. I then just add on guided imagery as as part of the work that I do   Michael Hingson ** 12:43 still extremely interesting and clearly beneficial. What about how it's accepted in Western culture, Western medicine and so on? Just like acupuncture, it seems to me, there's usually a lot of resistance to some of this stuff in the in the Western world, yet it clearly works. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 13:06 yeah. There is, there is still some resistance. There's a growing number of people who are introducing it. There are MDS and PhDs who use it. I it. One of the most flattering things for me is when I hear from a licensed therapist saying, Oh yeah, I send people to watch your videos as homework in between our sessions. So there is that, as I said, there's a growing body of scientific evidence showing it the APA, the Association of psychology, the American Psychology Association has not fully accepted, at this point as an evidence based process, a dear friend of mine in Australia, Dr Peter Stapleton, who is a clinical psychologist. She's a psychology professor at Bond University, and when she was first introduced to this, she thought, I'm a scientist. This is ridiculous. And then she experimented with and found that it was very beneficial. And she's led a lot of the research, doing research such as with cortisol levels, which is a stress hormone, where we see the dramatic reduction in cortisol after tapping. She's done fMRI studies, where you can see the brain activity and how, after the tapping, the parts of the brain that are lighting up are no longer they're now normalized. So she has, she has been working with the AP sheet. She followed all of their guidelines to to meet the criteria for evidence based practice. And they said, Well, we're changing our guidelines. She'll love it, and she's done studies with up against cognitive behavioral therapy. CBT is the gold standard of therapy, and in the studies that they did, the. EFT group got the results quicker, and the results lasted longer than CBT, but the people running that involved in CBT said, Well, when you publish the findings, you can only say that EFT was non inferior to CBT,   Michael Hingson ** 15:19 and she'll love it.   Brad Yates ** 15:21 Yeah. So little by little, little by little, we're making headway.   Michael Hingson ** 15:25 Well, so how does tapping really affect people's ability to make choices and and improve or or achieve better results in their worlds?   Brad Yates ** 15:36 Yeah? Well, when we look at it, most of the choices that we make are made on an emotional level. Well, most of the choices we make are we do unconsciously. 80 to 90% of the choices are we're doing the same choices make having the same thoughts as yesterday. And we so often make choices and we don't even realize that we're doing it. So we say we want to get healthy, but then we find ourselves halfway through a box of cookies going, ooh, how did that happen? And and it's we want to be compassionate with ourselves. So so often we beat ourselves up for these choices, but we're just trying to take care of ourselves. There's a part of us that says I'm uncomfortable. Cookies tend to make me feel better. I'm just trying to take care of myself. So we're trying to soothe an emotional discomfort, and that's what tapping does. Tapping soothes that emotional discomfort. So rather than eating doing stress eating, we can do the tapping to calm ourselves down. And then what happens when we go into stress? We go into some level of fight or flight, where the sympathetic nervous system kicks in and we're cortisol is pumping we're trying to prepare ourselves to fight or freeze. And the prefrontal cortex, our rational mind, where we make all of our best choices goes Bye, bye. Yeah. So when we're in that stress point, we're not making those good choices. But with the tapping we calm that down, we engage the parasympathetic nervous system, get our get the blood flowing back into the prefrontal cortex, and we make much better choices. So we're able to look at what do I really want in terms of my health, in terms of my well being, in terms of my finances, in terms of my career, all of that stuff, we're now able to make much better choices, and we get better results. I was talking to someone about tapping for money. I have a number of videos on money, and someone said, Now, how can tapping on your face make a difference in your financial life? I said, Well, would you agree that your behavior has something to do with your financial situation? And she's like, Well, yeah. And I said, would you agree that stress has something to do with your behavior? Yeah, okay, so therefore, ergo something that can down regulate stress can benefit how you the behavior that you have which can benefit your finances.   Michael Hingson ** 18:04 So what did she say to that? She was   Brad Yates ** 18:07 like, Well, okay, you got me. And in terms of, you know, I love the title of your show about being unstoppable, it's, it's, I did a program for a group called the unstoppable foundation that builds schools in Africa. Cynthia Kersey and I actually have a just a video that I made years ago called being unstoppable, because it's looking at what stops us. What are those things when, when we look at what we want to create and what, what's the kind of life that we want to have? And we might have some ideas, and then we say, No, I couldn't do that because of this, because of that. And and that's just we have old programming that has an emotional charge on it that creates this stress. It's like put an electric fence around us, and it stops, and we say, Oh, I can't go past this point. This is out of my comfort zone. It doesn't feel safe. And so by clearing out that stress, we expand that comfort zone, and we become more unstoppable.   Michael Hingson ** 19:16 One of the things that I have been working on is starting to help people understand that when a major crisis occurs in our life, like for me, when I was in the World Trade Center and it was attacked on September 11, so I wasn't afraid. I'm not going to say, well, I shouldn't say I wasn't afraid, but I was not and did not allow fear to overwhelm me, or, as I put it, blind me to being able to act. And the reality is that fear is something that we can control, and if we if we work at it, we can teach people that, in fact, you can use fear. Is a very powerful tool to guide you. It keeps you it can keep you more alert. It can keep you more focused, and that you don't have to be blinded or overwhelmed just because you're in the middle of a building and something happened now one, one of the things for me is that I and all the people who I was with and who were around me as we were going down the stairs. Had no idea what happened. We did figure out an airplane must have hit the building because we were smelling the fumes from burning jet fuel, but we had no idea what really happened, other than an airplane hit the building. And as I love to tell people you know, who always say to me, Well, you couldn't possibly have known because you couldn't see it. My immediate response was, you don't know what kind of imagination I have. I've been watching too much science fiction for years. You have no clue. But the reality is, of course, eyesight had nothing to do with it. The plane hit 1840 on the other side of the building, so no one knew. No one saw that. Yeah, Superman and X ray vision just aren't there, you know? But I had learned what to do. I had spent a lot of time studying, talking to the emergency preparedness people, the Port Authority, police and so on, so I knew what to do in an emergency. And the mindset kicked in, and I realized that for 22 years after that, I've not really talked to people about how they can learn to control fear, but rather I've just talked about the fact that I chose not to really be afraid. So it's it's interesting listening to you, because clearly talking about things like Emotional Freedom Techniques and especially tapping, might be a more direct way to help people really get to the point of understanding that we can control fear and it doesn't need to overwhelm us. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 21:56 absolutely, absolutely in the moment. You know, people talk about, oh, the negative emotions like fear and anger. And I say, no, there are no negative emotions. There are uncomfortable emotions, and we don't want to stay stuck in them, but they all serve a purpose, and the so called negative emotions are our warning signals. They're there to tell us, hey, here's something you need to pay attention to, right? Just as you said. So you use fear to go, Okay, I want to pay attention. But so for me, it's like having a smoke detector in your house, and when there's it gets triggered, the alarm goes off, but the alarm is just there to tell you, hey, you need to pay attention to something. Go check if there's a fire someplace, yeah, and, and then you can put it out. But with so many of us with these emotions, especially anger, but, but in many ways, fear, with the trigger goes off and the smoke alarms going off, and we just run around going, Oh, my goodness, oh my goodness, there's an alarm going off. It's like, okay, that doesn't help. You're supposed to actually take action, so you use that as a signal to check, and you go into the kitchen go, oh, there is no fire. It's just a misunderstanding. Or, you know, it often happens when we're cooking, and the fire alarm goes off because it detects the smoke, even though there's no actual fire. So it could be just a mistake and but we are. We sometimes get so triggered that we that we go into this panic mode, and the prefrontal cortex shuts down, as I was saying earlier, and we don't think clearly, so we don't make great choices, so we the the tapping allows us to hear the alarm and calm down that panic and go, Okay, let me. Let me figure this out. And what you were saying about how you were so prepared, I think it's something they talk about in navy seals, is you don't, you don't rise to your potential. You fall to your training and and that habit, and I had, I when we when we first spoke a couple weeks ago, and I had said something about, in some ways, your lack of sight as a superpower, because you have spent, rather than being stopped you. I mean, you truly are a hero of being unstoppable in terms of, you know, what you've achieved, and the things when you talked about riding a bike, I'm like, wow, so, but because of that situation, you don't take as much for granted as as some other people. And so you had done the your your due diligence in learning the safety things and talking to Port Authority that a lot of people take for granted. And so in that moment, as you said, you, you had that training. You, you built that in. It wasn't I have to now figure out, Oh, my goodness, there's emergency let me now go look at the emergency manual that I have taken for granted. Just assume I'll be able to look at that when the time comes. You know, it's like, yeah, I. Know what to do with this, and, you know, benefited all the people that were there in your office. So, but it's, it's a great tool for, it's great tool for clearing stress that has been held in our body. You know, Dr Bessel van der Kolk the one of the premier experts in trauma. His book is called The Body Keeps the Score, so we have this stored trauma in our body, and with the tapping, we can release that. But it's also great for in the moment, having that, I have reached out and talked to some first responders about being able to having this be a tool in their tool kit, so that when they're dealing with someone who is in this elevated state of fight or flight, to be able to use this to quickly calm down the nervous system, so that they can be more present, more more able to do what they need to do and or tell what they Need to tell.   Michael Hingson ** 26:01 I like your an example or analogy of using it in comparing it to a fire alarm, because the the reality is, the fire alarm goes off and you and if you are able to not just run around, but go investigate and you discover that there is a serious fire in the kitchen or in the garage. The point is, though, that again, you can panic, or you can have spent time training and thinking about such things, and so you know what you can do and what your options are. And the reality is, that's what it's really about. You know, there was no way to control the airplanes hitting the buildings, and that happened. And of course, the buildings could have collapsed, and there we all were, and we would have been smushed, but that but until that happened, the bottom line is, that's not what was going on. And so we had the option to then choose which is the operative part of it, what to do. And for me, I made a choice because I had learned what to do. And I think that's that's the issue. And sighted people could do that as well. But as you point out, they realized so much on just Oh, I could go look at the manual. Well, that doesn't work when you have the emergency. You're already in the middle of it. Did you really prepare? And that's what people need to do a lot more of, is taking the time to really prepare. And that's why I've just written a book. It'll be published later this year, called Live like a guide dog, and it talks about controlling fear. And the reason that we titled it that was that in reality, I've used lessons I've learned from observing eight guide dogs on my wife's service dog and things that they showed at challenging times that did teach me a lot more about learning to and helping Control fear or being afraid and being able to use that fear in a in a positive and constructive way to be able to survive and move on. Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 28:09 yeah. So listening to the hearing the fire alarm and going, Oh, this is, this is telling me to go do something just like in the in the fire station, if there's a fire an alarm goes off. And because of their training, they go, Oh, time to suit up and sit up and go, yeah, not, not. Oh, my goodness. Oh, my goodness, there's alarm going off, yeah, which is what so many of us do, because we take things for granted and and then it triggers that, that fight or flight, and we have a lot of programming about, well, if I'm not afraid, then I'm not taking it seriously. And and I'll say to folks, well, if you're crossing the street, you know, you look both ways right to make sure that it's safe to cross the street, or you wait for the walk signal. You don't, but you don't stand there and go, Okay, there's a little green man on the walk signal. I can hear the signal chirping, saying it's safe to walk. I can look both ways and see there's no traffic, but first I better get myself worked up into a panic, because otherwise I'm not really going to pay attention. Yeah, no, we just calmly walk across so we can use common sense and recognize all right. I can pay attention to what's going on and not have those elevated levels of cortisol going on, and I don't need to have my prefrontal cortex shut down. I can actually allow myself to think more clearly. So I sometimes say that Emotional Freedom is the freedom to make better choices well, and   Michael Hingson ** 29:39 I know for me, so let's use your example with the traffic light and or when there isn't an audible traffic signal, and there doesn't need to be an audible traffic signal everywhere, like if you're at a straight crossing where you've got two streets that intersect, it's not like it's necessarily magical, but what I always do is listen. To see what the traffic's doing, right? And when I hear that the traffic is going the way I want to go, then I will start across. But even then, I listen again to make sure I'm not hearing a car that seems to be coming up fairly fast from behind me, that might suddenly turn in front of me, but I'll make a decision. And they do that sometimes. Oh,   Brad Yates ** 30:21 every morning, on my morning walk, Michael, I walk five miles every day. And, you know, every couple of weeks there's someone who is in a hurry, and they come whipping around, making a right hand turn without looking Yeah. So, yeah, you never know. So   Michael Hingson ** 30:38 I listen, and when I make the determination that I have enough time or or space to start across, I will and even then, if a car comes up faster than I expected, I I keep myself poised and ready to okay, if that car is coming, is it better to leap back to where I came from, or shoot the rest of the way across the street. And you have to have that awareness, because drivers are crazy. The other part about it is working with a guide dog. So I start, I tell the dog to go forward across the street, and the dog won't go. That tells me there's something else going on, like a hybrid vehicle turning that I don't happen to hear and I will follow the dog, because the dog's job is really to make sure that we stay safe. The dog doesn't know where I want to go, and I don't want the dog to know that, but the dog does have the option to prevent me from going if it thinks there's a problem. So it's a team effort, and that's fine, but the bottom line is that I've learned those skills. And you know, like in the World Trade Center, talking about the fire alarm went off. If I really wish that when we met firefighters coming up the stairs, they had told me what was going on. Because I know me, I love information, and it would have made some differences in some of the decisions that we made later, which, for example, put us like 100 yards from tower two when it collapsed because we didn't know what was going on. Oh, geez, you know. And if I had known that, we would have probably gone a different way. On the other hand, we were there and we ran and all that was fine, but still, I like information, but I know me, and I also know why they didn't say anything to anyone, because we asked, because they were afraid that it could cause a panic, and I'm sure with a lot of people, it would have so I understand that, but I would have liked to have known but they don't know me. They didn't know me. So, you know, we go on Right, right.   Brad Yates ** 32:43 Yeah, they can't take everything and go. Everybody else would panic. This guy looks like he's got a good head on your shoulders. He could probably handle the information and not and and if they had to appeal and panicked, you know, fewer people might have gotten out because of, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 32:58 yeah. Well, we worked really hard to keep people focused going down the stairs, and you know that so they they didn't panic, which was important. Well, so what are the areas for tapping that that work with Emotional Freedom Techniques with EFT? Because I'm sure there are a lot of things you can a lot of places to tap for one thing or another. But what do you mainly work on with EFT and tapping?   Brad Yates ** 33:20 I actually work with folks on all kinds of different things. I, you know, a lot of times it's, it's career success, people trying to up level their career and finding themselves stopping because, you know, fear, fear of success, fear of failure, fear of being seen. There's a lot of people, it's the idea of having more people find out about them, meaning more people that can be critical of them and judgmental of them. It feels very threatening. And so we work on that. I work with folks on self esteem issues, which is underneath a lot of the blocks in terms of relationships, in terms of so many areas of life, this pervasive feeling of not being good enough, of not being worthy, is out there, and it's a misunderstanding. So I I'll help people shift their mindset around that the problems we we we get very stuck on what we believe and how we do things, and when we try to make changes, part of our mind says that's threatening. What is familiar is safe. What is unfamiliar is dangerous, even if I'm looking and going, okay, but my life is not so great, and I can look over at this other possibility and say that would be much better. The part of the brain says, No, it's different. That's dangerous. And so we have a stress response that stops us from taking certain actions and and we become very stoppable. So So, and also, ultimately, in many ways, helping people become unstoppable is, uh. Is what it's all about in all kinds of different areas.   Michael Hingson ** 35:03 Can we teach our brain to think that difference isn't necessarily bad, and get out of that reaction? Because that's something that, of course, we hear all the time. People always talk about how change is all around us, but people hate change. Yes. Can we teach people that that's not necessarily the case?   Brad Yates ** 35:26 Yeah, that's and that's the the that's what, where the tapping really comes in, because it down regulates that, that stress that occurs. Yeah, we want, as a friend of mine says, everybody wants things to be different. They just don't want to change, you know, and, and because when we come up against some kind of change, we we have that, that stress response, like touching the electric fence and says, go back to where you were. And the tapping calms that down. So it's like cutting the wires to the electric fence, and we can see, oh, that's a misunderstanding, that thing that I was afraid of isn't really a threat to me. You know, obviously there are things that are real threats. In 911 there was a real threat, but most of the things that are stopping people on a day to day basis are absolutely imaginary and not, not an actual threat to our well being. It might be, it might bruise our ego, if it goes a certain way, but our ego can handle that. And so as we use this tool to create a feeling of safety, so as I look at, you know, if I, if I have, for instance, with money, people have a lot of old program about, you know, money is the root of all evil. So if I have, I may consciously say, of course, I want to make a lot more money, but if, unconsciously, I have this belief that money is the root of all evil, I don't want to be evil, so I'm going to block the amount of money I have. So if I have a get an interview for a job that's going to pay me a lot better, I might blow the interview. I might not even show up. I might totally forget to show up unconsciously. And I, you know, afterwards thinking, oh my goodness, I totally spaced that. Because I like to say that self sabotage is simply misguided. Self love. We're trying to protect ourselves. So these self sabotaging behaviors are an attempt to protect ourselves based on some old misunderstanding. So as we calm down that that the fear that causes us to to stop ourselves, and we look at and say, oh, you know what? I could handle having more money and in that job, I could be of a lot more service to more people, it would be so rewarding personally as well, and that that just creates that, that great opening for for amazing things to happen. Of   Michael Hingson ** 37:51 course, Steve Jones and Joe Vitale have been trying to teach that for a number of years. And I know you've done I've worked with both of them. You've worked with both of them before. Yes,   Brad Yates ** 37:59 I have a program with with Joe Vitale, a program called money beyond belief. And with Steve, we did a program called Confidence beyond belief. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 38:08 and, you know, the issue is that that we can, we can learn to deal with change, and it makes us a lot more powerful if, if we do that, and we do it consciously and do it the right way. Can anyone learn tapping and how to deal with Emotional Freedom Techniques? Yeah,   Brad Yates ** 38:27 pretty much it's it's a very simple technique of tapping with our fingertips on our face and torso. There are different places you can tap and and you can even gently hold or rub the points. For some folks who may not be physically capable of tapping all of the points, and a lot of people find it very beneficial just to imagine the tapping, they can also get a lot of benefits from that in because, you know, we send we send thought signals. We send electrical biochemical impulses to these different nerves and different muscles. So we're able to do it that way as well.   Michael Hingson ** 39:08 So how can people learn how to tap?   Brad Yates ** 39:12 Well, the easiest way is, from my perspective, is go on YouTube, because there's, there's this guy who's got over 1000 videos. I heard, again, all kinds of different subjects. But that's sort of the the easiest way is to is to be guided in that way. And there's a number of colleagues of mine who also have videos and different resources online to, you know, one of the very simple thing is we just, you know, learning the these different these eight points. And I'll you know, just for the sake of demonstration, if someone takes their index and middle finger, all right, I've done that. Yeah, take the take the the fingertips and gently tap on the opposite the side of your opposite hand. So we gently tap the the opposite hand to begin with, where we. This setup on the hand itself. Yeah, right on the on the edge between your wrist and pinky. Okay, yeah, so, yeah, gently tapping there. And that's where we say, even though I have this stress or even though I'm feeling this fear, or even though I'm angry at Bob, whatever it is that's bothering us, we gently tap there and say, even though I feel this, I choose to love and accept myself. And it's just creating a level of acceptance, because so often we try to run from and say, Oh, I don't feel that. And then what we resist persists, yeah? So we just say, I accept that. Then we gently tap the eyebrow point, so right at the beginning of your eyebrow, right near the center of your face. Yeah. We'll just gently tap there five to 10 times and we say, whatever the issue is, this stress, this anger at Bob. And then we then we follow the eyebrow out to the side of the eye, right the corner of the eye socket, and gently tap in there and say, all this stress. We follow the edge of the eye socket around to right under the middle of your eye, just above your cheek, all this stress, then right under your nose, just above your upper lip, gently tap in there, all this stress, then right below your lower lip, just above your chin, all this stress. The next point is right your where your collarbones just about come together. There's a little bit of a U shape at the base of your throat, and you can gently tap there, and you can actually even make a fist and tap where the collarbones meet all this stress. The next point is four inches below the armpit, so it's right about bra strap level. And even us guys can figure out where that one is all this stress. And then the last point we tap is right at the top of the head. So if you use all of your fingertips and tap around the crown of your head, all this stress when you take a deep breath, and actually be when we first do it, we would rate the stress on a scale of zero to 10. So it's like, okay, the stress that I'm feeling, or the anger at Bob that I'm feeling, is maybe an eight out of 10. And I'll and I'll try to figure out what the physical responses too. So it may be a tension in my shoulders that way we can see what we're working at, because then we can, after doing the tapping, we check again. And sometimes it'll go from an eight down to a zero like that. Sometimes it may just go from a seven, from an eight to a 7.75 but even that is some relief, and it's often like peeling the layers of the onion so that we might recognize as we're tapping like I might be tapping on all this anger at Bob, all this anger at Bob. Wait a minute, it's not even Bob, it's Cindy in the third grade. She did this thing, and I've been mad at her ever since. I never forgave her, and now I'm able to clear up some stress that I've been holding in my body for decades. So it's, that's, that's the very simple way of using it. And then, you know, and so in the very basic version of of EFT like that, we just repeat the whatever it is that's bothering us on each point. The way I do it in my videos is, I It's a more intuitive process, and I like to explore different ideas. And when I when I do that with folks, it they may say, Well, that's how do you come up with those words? It's like, don't worry about that. That's why I made the videos on YouTube, so you don't have to worry about the words. As you get more comfortable with the process, you'll start thinking of what you want to say while you're tapping. Yeah.   Michael Hingson ** 43:38 Now people have used acupuncture to relieve pain and things like that. Does tapping do the same thing, or is it somewhat different?   Brad Yates ** 43:46 It can I have helped a number of people with physical discomfort. I was working with a guy once, who I was at a health fair, and a guy came up to my booth and was asking what I was doing, and I and he was saying he had a his back was really bother him. I said, scale is zero to 10. He said, Oh, it's an eight. Um, it's like, really difficult to walk. And we did some tapping, and he said, Yeah, I think I feel a little bit better. And he and his girlfriend walked away, and later they came back over and said, So, at another part of this fair, there's a dance floor, and we've been over there dancing for a while, and what the heck did you do to me? And he said, my back isn't bothering me at all. And I'm not a doctor. I'm not going to make any medical claims, but there are plenty of doctors will say that, you know, up to 75% and sometimes more, of the physical pain we experience is is created by the stress that we're feeling. So when we can down regulate that stress, it can relieve a lot of the physical discomfort we have, and it also gives us more room for healing, because our body has remarkable healing capabilities, and as we clear out, as we allow ourselves. To process the emotions that might be involved, then we have more energy to put towards our physical healing   Michael Hingson ** 45:08 well. And we, we all too often, don't accept that the body is really as good as it can be to heal itself and so on. And yes, of course, the point you're making is that the body really is that good, and we need to grow and learn that, that it can do that, and that we need to allow that to happen. And so often we just don't. Yeah, no matter what Cindy did, no matter what Cindy did to us in the third grade,   Brad Yates ** 45:36 exactly a darn Cindy telling you,   Michael Hingson ** 45:41 but we, we just don't, we don't accept that. And we've, we've talked ourselves way too much into some things that aren't necessarily So absolutely,   Brad Yates ** 45:53 absolutely, and we're we have so many misunderstandings about things, so many arguments that we have with people in our heads about something that wasn't that didn't happen the way that we thought it did. Yeah, and, you know, we may finally get up the nerve to talk to the person go, you know, I'm just so mad about this thing you said, and they're like, I didn't say that or, well, I certainly didn't mean that. You know, certainly in this day and age of texting, where there's where you can't even hear the tone of voice, where we misread things   Michael Hingson ** 46:27 way too much, yeah,   Brad Yates ** 46:30 so so we're able to clear up those misunderstandings about ourselves, about other people, about different situations, and then that just creates a whole lot more peace. Tell me   Michael Hingson ** 46:40 if you would a little bit about your time at the Sacramento drug court. That seems like it would be fascinating to dealing with all of that and dealing with addiction and so on.   Brad Yates ** 46:48 Yeah, that was a very interesting time I had been I had presented a workshop at the energy psychology conference where I'd first learned tap, and I'd gone back as a presenter. I had been learning about 12 step programs. I had gone to some debtors anonymous programs. I was not handling my finances well at a time, and I had gone to debtors anonymous and been introduced to the 12 steps. And so I thought, wow, EFT would be a great tool with that. And there was a woman running a drug court program here in Sacramento, which is a mandated recovery program for people coming out of jail for drug offenses. And she said, Would you be willing to be one of our staff teachers, teaching EFT as a recovery tool? And so I did that for three years, and it was very interesting, because a lot of the people that I was working with there was, they were not my normal clientele, I bet. And you know, these people who had had really tough lives, people had really tough lives, and I come along and I say, so you're just coming out of jail, tap on your face. And not everyone was was totally open to but when they were, you know, people say, Oh, my God, this, this really works, and being able to first down regulate the the trigger and emotions that they had, and it then created greater freedom to to do what they needed to do To recover from addiction, because so much of addiction is trying to tranquilize stress and trauma. It's like I'm just, I'm just trying to find a way to feel better because I can't tolerate the discomfort that I have, and tapping provides a healthier alternative, such that we then have that again, the freedom to make better choices.   Michael Hingson ** 48:43 Tell me about your book, The Wizards wish children's book, I guess,   48:47 yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 48:48 I sounds like a great title.   Brad Yates ** 48:50 Thank you. I I had done there. There's a documentary about tapping called The Tapping Solution, and when I was interviewed for this film, we talked a lot about children and how so many of the issues that stop us as as adults, our thing are based on events that happen in childhood. And I'm saying, Wow, if you know, if we taught children how to tap such that, you know, in the third grade, when Cindy did that really mean thing to us, rather than carrying that for years, and all of the ways that it limits our ability to thrive, if we could have, you know, tapped, even though Cindy did this thing and felt free that day, what what is possible for us. What kind of things could we achieve? And after that, I thought, yeah, I would love to find a great way to teach tapping to kids. And I had young children, and story time was always a big part of our lives. So I thought, do it as a children's story. And I'm a Harry Potter fan. I love. Wizards. I have a I have a plaque with all of my replica wands from the Harry Potter movies on my wall here. And I thought, wow, what if we used the wizard and and using the fingertips as a magic wand for tapping these magic points on the body. And so that's where the the inspiration came and, and I'd been a cartoonist and illustrated the book, and had a lot of I had some resistance to that. It was like, Oh, I gotta have a hard time drawing all these pictures. And I didn't realize where I was stopping myself. And I talked to a friend of mine, and she did some tapping with me and rattled off all the drawings within a week. So it's like, oh, there's a this is a good experiment for me in terms of using the tapping where I where I'm not seeing, where I'm stopping myself.   Michael Hingson ** 50:47 So you tap yourself, yeah, perfect.   Brad Yates ** 50:51 Every day. It's because you can. It's not always about clearing stress and fear. It can also be used for just allowing yourself to feel more peace, feel more joy, be more open to what's possible. And most of us are carrying ambient levels of stress that we're not even aware of, especially with most of us are walking around with a cell phone that's constantly saying, Hey, how you doing? Here's something to be upset about. And we're getting stressed out about things that aren't even directly related to our lives, yeah, and that stress has a harmful effect on us. So I like to start my day just trying to be as clear as possible. Well, we live in good things.   Michael Hingson ** 51:30 We live in a world today looking at our elections and everything else, where people are just encouraging us to be fearful and yes and so angry about so many things. And you know, I, I've seen it happen to me, and I always have to say, wait a minute, stop that. Yep, but, but the thing is that we just don't get enough opportunities, or we don't take enough opportunities to back up on and back off on that and say, Wait a minute. We got to really look at this in a sensible way. Because no matter what these people are saying, what's real?   Brad Yates ** 52:09 Yeah, they don't want us to look at a sensible way. No, that is because if they can make us afraid, then that puts us into fight or flight, and our prefrontal cortex goes away and we're not thinking clearly, and then we're more easily manipulated. Well, I have to, oh, go ahead. So that's the thing. Is they want us to be afraid. It's like, don't even think clearly. No, we're going to tell you what, what's going on and what you should be afraid of, and how we're going to help you. So if we have a way of dealing with that stress and that fear, which most people don't have a healthy weight, I always recommend to folks to tap on a daily basis, because it's energy hygiene. We have physical hygiene, like brushing our teeth. We, most of us, do it a couple times a day, at least, whether we think we need it or not. We don't usually wait until someone until we see green stuff growing between our teeth, or until someone's holding their nose around us and say, Oh, that's right, I haven't brushed my teeth in a week. Well, we   Michael Hingson ** 53:05 could do that to Cindy, though it's okay, yeah, yeah, poor Cindy. Well, I noticed that you graduated from Ringling Brothers Barnum and Bailey circus clown college. So what's it like being a clown?   Brad Yates ** 53:20 That was, yeah, and it's so funny. I just actually had coffee with the director of clown college just a few days ago. I hadn't seen him in a number of years, and it's actually and I told him, it's 30 years since we met when I went to clown college, that was during my acting days. I saw an ad for clown college, I thought that would be some really interesting training as an actor and when. And it was a two month program, an intensive program of doing character development and makeup and throwing pies and all kinds of things. And I didn't do a lot of clowning after that, I'd had a few a few things I didn't go on the road with the circus. I have a friend, a few friends, who did that, but, but a lot of that experience still informs my work, and I still very proudly have my my diploma, my Bachelor of fun arts, up on my wall of my office. I think   Michael Hingson ** 54:21 it's interesting that you learned how to throw pies, though. Yes, I need to learn more about that, I guess. Except, pies cost a lot of money, so now, well,   Brad Yates ** 54:32 we in the circus. You use, use soap foam. Oh, I understand. So it's, it's good clean fun, yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 54:41 well, absolutely   Brad Yates ** 54:43 rubber pie, rubber pie pans and crusts and and soap foam. Pass soupy   Michael Hingson ** 54:50 sales, exactly. Well, this has been fun. I know you have to go, but I really have enjoyed this, and I need to go spend some time. Any more about tapping, and I don't know whether the videos are descriptive enough, or I'll have to bug you some more, but this is fun, and I hope people will take to heart what you've had to talk about if they want to reach out to you and learn more about it and maybe and see how you can help them. How do we do that? How do they do   Brad Yates ** 55:15 that? Yeah, thanks, Michael. Easiest way is go to my website, tap with brad.com and you can get I have a couple of free five day programs there. One is called tap into your best self, and the other is called success beyond belief, which sounds like a lot of success, but it's also literally the success that's beyond your current beliefs about what you can have. So I encourage folks to to check those out, and there's links to my YouTube channel, and I've just, I've just described to you those tapping points, so you can go on to the video and and listen along. And while on the videos, I don't describe which points I'm saying, you can just move along. And you can even just tap one point, even if you're just tapping one point and repeating back the phrases that could that can be beneficial, so that you don't have to worry about, Are you tapping the same point that I'm tapping right now? Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 56:07 as long as you're tapping the points, yep. Well, this has been absolutely great. I really appreciate you taking the time to be here and discuss all of this. Maybe we'll have to do some more of it, if you want in the future, I   Brad Yates ** 56:22 would enjoy that. It's been a great pleasure meeting you and speaking with you, Michael, I you're awesome and and as as we had agreed, I've had a lot of fun doing Oh, good talking with   Michael Hingson ** 56:35 that's that is important as we know well. I want to thank you, and I want to thank you all for listening. Appreciate you being here. Love to hear your comments about this and all that Brad had to say. Please reach out to Brad, but I'd love to hear from you. Please email me at Michael h i@accessibe.com that's m, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I at A, C, C, E, S, S, I, B, e.com, or go to our podcast page, www dot Michael hingson.com/podcast, and Michael hingson is m, I, C, H, A, E, L, H, I N, G, S o, n.com/podcast, wherever you're listening, please give us a five star rating. We really value your ratings, and we love it when you are able to take the time to do that and review the podcast. But I again, would love to hear from you directly with any thoughts that you have, and Brad for you and anyone listening, if you know of anyone else who we ought to have on as a guest. Love to get Joe Vitale or Steve Jones on, Brad, I'll leave that to you. But if you know of anyone, we are always looking for more guests, so please feel free to provide introductions. So once again, thanks very much for being here, Brad, and thank you all for listening. And Brad, this has absolutely been great.   57:48 Thank you, Michael.   Michael Hingson ** 57:55 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. I hope that you'll join us again next week, and in future weeks for upcoming episodes. To subscribe to our podcast and to learn about upcoming episodes, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com slash podcast. Michael Hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n. While you're on the site., please use the form there to recommend people who we ought to interview in upcoming editions of the show. And also, we ask you and urge you to invite your friends to join us in the future. If you know of any one or any organization needing a speaker for an event, please email me at speaker at Michael hingson.com. I appreciate it very much. To learn more about the concept of blinded by fear, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com forward slash blinded by fear and while you're there, feel free to pick up a copy of my free eBook entitled blinded by fear. The unstoppable mindset podcast is provided by access cast an initiative of accessiBe and is sponsored by accessiBe. Please visit www.accessibe.com . AccessiBe is spelled a c c e s s i b e. There you can learn all about how you can make your website inclusive for all persons with disabilities and how you can help make the internet fully inclusive by 2025. Thanks again for Listening. Please come back and visit us again next week.

Psych2Go On the GO
7 Subtle Things You Didn't Know Cause Trauma

Psych2Go On the GO

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 12, 2024 4:36


Trauma can affect anyone at any point in life, including you. Not only difficult experiences during early childhood, but also events later in life can trigger significant trauma in individuals. The American Psychology Association defines trauma as any experience that results in significant fear, helplessness, confusion, or other disruptive feelings. These feelings are so intense that they can have a long-lasting negative effect on a person's mental health and attitude. Here are a few experiences that can generate trauma. Want to learn more about trauma? Check out our video on the signs of unhealed trauma:    • 7 Signs You're Not Broken, It's Your ...   Script Writer: Sara Del Villar Script Editor: Rida Batool Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera Animator: Lesly Drue YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong REFERENCES Chamberlain, E. (2020, June 15). 14 signs of trauma you may not recognize. Psychology Today. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/eye-the-unseen/202006/14-signs-trauma-you-may-not-recognize Lahousen, T., Unterrainer, H. F., & Kapfhammer, H. P. (2019). Psychobiology of Attachment and Trauma-Some General Remarks From a Clinical Perspective. Frontiers in psychiatry, 10, 914. www.doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2019.00914 Peterson, S. (2021, March 1). Traumatic grief. The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. Retrieved April 27, 2022, from www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/trauma-types/traumatic-grief Phillips, L. (2021, May 4). Untangling trauma and grief after loss. Counseling Today. Retrieved April 27, 2022, from www.ct.counseling.org/2021/05/untangling-trauma-and-grief-after-loss/ Polanco-Roman, L., Danies, A., & Anglin, D. M. (2016). Racial discrimination as race-based trauma, coping strategies, and dissociative symptoms among emerging adults. Psychological trauma : theory, research, practice and policy, 8(5), 609–617. www.doi.org/10.1037/tra0000125 Roberts, N. F. (2020, October 7). 5 ways trauma and poverty affect childhood development. Forbes. Retrieved April 27, 2022, from www.forbes.com/sites/nicolefisher/2020/10/07/5-ways-trauma-and-poverty-affect-childhood-development/?sh=7ea2d9e86cb3 The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. (2021). Understanding the impact of trauma and urban poverty on … The National Child Traumatic Stress Network. Retrieved April 28, 2022, from www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/resources/resource-guide/understanding_impact_trauma_urban_poverty_family_systems.pdf

Integrity Moments
Feeling Like You Belong

Integrity Moments

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 29, 2024 1:00


According to a 2023 American Psychology Association study, 94% of workers state that it's important for them to feel like they belong at work. Unfortunately, 20% of workers do not feel like they belong.  This is a bigger problem for front-line workers than it is for upper management. 10% of upper management feel like they ... The post Feeling Like You Belong appeared first on Unconventional Business Network.

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The Murdaugh Family Murders: Impact of Influence
The Mica Miller Tragedy & A Dr Explains Death By Suicide Research

The Murdaugh Family Murders: Impact of Influence

Play Episode Listen Later May 10, 2024 53:23


In this episode, we want to warn you that we will be talking about suicide and mental health. If you or a loved one are struggling with mental health, please seek help. There is a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. All you have to do is call or text 988 and a trained counselor is there to help. In the last week we've received many messages asking us to cover the tragic death of 30 year old Mica Miller of Myrtle Beach, South Carolina on April 27 of 2024. She was married to John-Paul (JP) Miller who is a pastor of the Solid Rock at the Common Church in Myrtle Beach, SC.Social Media has erupted with commentary, accusations, and rumor as to what was happening in the Miller's relationship.We are covering what we know to be fact. Sourcing police reports and publications like Fits News and the Post and Courier.In the second part of the episode we are joined by Dr. Julie Cerel who shares her extensive research into death by suicide.Dr. Cerel is a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor in the College of Social Work at the University of Kentucky. She is the director of the Suicide Prevention & Exposure Lab at the University of Kentucky and the Wilson Profession of Mental Health. Her research has focused on suicide exposure and bereavement, suicide attempt survivors and suicide prevention. She is a Past-President of the American Association of Suicidology. She completed her PhD from The Ohio State University, an internship and post-doctoral fellowship from West Virginia University in child clinical psychology and a post-doctoral fellowship specifically in suicide prevention from University of Rochester. She received an honorary PhD from her alma mater, Kenyon College. In 2023 she was elected a fellow of the American Psychology Association. She is the author of over 114 academic publications and co-author of Seeking Hope: Stories of the Suicide Bereaved. Her work has been funded by the Military Suicide Research Consortium from the U.S. Department of Defense, the Patient Centered Research Initiative (PCORI), NIHM, the CDC, SAMHSA, SPAN-USA and American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Impact of Influence is part of the Evergreen Podcasting Network Seton Tucker and Matt Harris began the Impact of Influence podcast shortly after the murders of Maggie and Paul Murdaugh. Now they cover true crime past and present from the southeast region of the U.S. Look for Impact of Influence on Facebook and please subscribe to the Impact Youtube Channel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Disruptive CEO Nation
Episode 242: Navigating the Narrative Economy: Building Relationships and Purposeful Brands with Kristian A Alomá, PhD, CEO of Threadline; Chicago, IL, USA

Disruptive CEO Nation

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 27, 2024 32:28


Today, we delve into the world of the narrative economy and its profound implications for businesses. Our guest, Kristian Alomá, CEO of Threadline, offers insights into the power of storytelling, branding, and purposeful marketing. I have known Kristian for many years and I am always impressed by the wisdom and insights he brings to strategic business conversations. Is your team doing all it can to build meaningful connections with target audiences in today's dynamic landscape? See what Kristian thinks you should consider as you expand your brand. - Understanding the Narrative Economy: Kristian introduces the concept of the narrative economy, emphasizing the importance of storytelling in branding and marketing. Drawing from his background in psychology, he highlights the parallels between human relationships and brand-consumer connections, stressing the need for authenticity and emotional resonance. - Building Relationships with Brands: Kristian discusses how consumers form relationships with brands, mirroring the dynamics of interpersonal connections. By focusing on enhancing the customer experience and aligning with their values, businesses can foster loyalty and trust, transcending transactional interactions. - Know the Role of Purpose in Branding: Kristian emphasizes the significance of purpose-driven branding in today's market. He shares case studies, including Tony's Chocolonely, to illustrate how brands can align with social causes and advocate for positive change, resonating with socially conscious consumers. - Consider Narrative Design Principles: Kristian explores the core principles of narrative design, a framework rooted in narrative psychology. By understanding and shaping the stories that resonate with their audience, businesses can craft compelling brand narratives that engage and inspire, driving long-term relationships. - Know Trends in Marketing: Kristian reflects on current marketing trends, cautioning against a sole focus on virality over purpose and authenticity. He highlights the evolving expectations of consumers, particularly younger demographics, who prioritize brands that demonstrate social responsibility and ethical practices. Kristian is a seasoned storyteller and strategist who believes in harnessing the power of narrative psychology and social sciences to forge meaningful connections with audiences. Kristian has spent over 20 years enhancing major brands like Harley-Davidson and Coca-Cola and boosting nonprofit outreach with his marketing acumen.His brand strategy firm leverages his PhD in narrative psychology to develop impactful stories that engage stakeholders. A lecturer at the Kellogg SchoolCenter for Nonprofit Management at Northwestern University and author of "Start with the Story," Kristian champions storytelling's role in brand building, especially for nonprofits. Committed to ethical communication, he contributes to the American Psychology Association and B Lab's Marketer's Network. Connect with Kristian: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristianaloma/ Book on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Start-Story-Brand-Building-Narrative-Economy/dp/1544537379/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.YLBakXksk8A5MMPV7kuXBjmsP-l5rlzSwBEcMM64oxE.YHNJb5BblzS-UpuS7L4fiPpTucb9GCe9SzpGCQhFD9o&qid=1708439935&sr=8-1 Connect with Allison: Feedspot has named Disruptive CEO Nation as one of the Top 25 CEO Podcasts on the web and it is ranked the number 10 CEO podcast to listen to in 2024! https://podcasts.feedspot.com/ceo_podcasts/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allisonsummerschicago/ Website: https://www.disruptiveceonation.com/ Twitter: @DisruptiveCEO #digitalmarketing #branding #socialgood #Bcorp #CEO #startup #startupstory #founder #business #businesspodcast #podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Young & Cerebral
Staying Sane And Happy With Abosede Akinpade

Young & Cerebral

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2023 61:00


Our host had an interview session with Abosede Akinpade, a clinical psychologist at Akoma Health, who is a member of the Nigerian Association of Clinical Psychologists, the Nigerian Psychology Association, and an affiliate member of the American Psychology Association. She has over nine years of experience in accessing, diagnosing, and treating various mental health issues, including anxiety, depression, personality disorder, bipolar disorder, psychotic disorder, sexual trauma and dysfunction, pornography, sex and substance addiction, marital and family therapy, and neurogenerative disorders such as dementia. Akinpade emphasizes the importance of maintaining mental health, as it is the seat of the mind and can control our actions, words, and reactions. She believes that everyone has mental health, but challenges can arise when we open ourselves up to negative thinking. These challenges can be acquired through various life events, such as trauma, abusive relationships, toxic relationships, and setbacks. Listen here...

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City Church Tulsa Podcast
Part 1: Beauty - God & Sexuality

City Church Tulsa Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2023


GOD & SEXUALITY Part I: Beauty 9.17.23 Major shifts in sexuality over the last fifty years: Sex has been disconnected from child-bearing and the family Sex has been disconnected from marriage Sex has been disconnected from male/female relationships Sex has been disconnected from love, emotion, and relational commitment of any kind Secularism – the language of our current culture which disciples a person to learn to live without God Our identity is what gives us meaning, self-worth, and purpose. It drives us and often defines the community we belong to. Our culture has normalized the lie that both identity and sexuality are one and the same. The American Psychology Association defines sexual orientation as “referring to a person's sense of identity, based on those attractions, related behaviors, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions." If you are a follower of Jesus, your primary identity is found in Christ. This is central to the Christian faith. 3 MAIN STORIES ABOUT SEXUALITY IN OUR WORLD: Secular Story Exploration Identity Rights Pleasure Shame Story Repress Legalism/Moralism Hypocrisy Secrecy Fear Sacred Story Formation Grace Transformation Belonging Design How do we live in God's beautiful design for sexuality? We see sex and sexuality as a part of God's good creation Our sexuality is not just about saying “No!” It is saying “Yes” to God's beautiful design for us. 2. We realize how sin disconnected us from God and others and our desire for connection 3. We recognize God's design and framework for our sexuality require surrender 4. We acknowledge that our sexuality and desire for connection are pointing us to something far superior We eventually realize that, here in this life, all symphonies remain unfinished. – Karl Rahner Luke 20:27, 34-36 27 Some of the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to Jesus with a question. 34 Jesus replied, “The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. 35 But those who are considered worthy of taking part in the age to come and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage, 36 and they can no longer die; for they are like the angels. They are God's children, since they are children of the resurrection. Own your pain and the incompleteness of living in this in-between Give up false messianic expectations of love, marriage, and sexuality Go inward and learn the deep soul work of solitude, contentment, and self-control Embrace the restfulness and restlessness of your sexuality

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SouthPoint Church
Stressed Out - Week 1

SouthPoint Church

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2023 33:00


Welcome! Church Online is a community of people all over the experiencing God and connecting with one another like never before in history. Introduce yourself in the chat and let us know where you're from! Get Connected Check us out on Facebook, YouTube and Instagram Find a Small Group www.southpoint4u.com/groups Learn more about SouthPoint at Growth Track www.southpoint4u.com/growthtrack Find out more at www.southpoint4u.com Notes Life's a little ______ right now I'm at the end of my _____ My life is falling ______ I feel like I'm coming ______ My plate is ______ I can't handle ______ more thing Adulting often leaves us exhausted and stressed-out 75% of Americans experience mental or physical health issues due to stress - American Psychology Association - 2023 34% of Americans experience stress so bad it's debilitating - American Psychiatric Association - 2023 Not knowing how to adult differently keeps us stuck in being stressed-out. We don't need more We need different Where does stress start: Unrealistic expectations Unhealthy speed Unquenchable ache Unprepared seasons Unbalanced relationships Unrealistic expectations Right = Easy Right job Right spouse Right money Right stuff Right friends Upgrading is more of the same Different results requires different Then Jesus said, Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. - Matthew 11:28-29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. - Matthew 11:28-29 Jesus invites us into more than a ‘belief system' He calls us live a different lifestyle. What keeps us from different? Resist directions Fear disappointment Avoid delayed-gratification Move from just believing the different Jesus teaches to doing the different Jesus did!

SouthPoint Church
Stressed Out - Week 1

SouthPoint Church

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 10, 2023 33:00


Welcome! Church Online is a community of people all over the experiencing God and connecting with one another like never before in history. Introduce yourself in the chat and let us know where you're from! Get Connected Check us out on Facebook, YouTube and Instagram Find a Small Group www.southpoint4u.com/groups Learn more about SouthPoint at Growth Track www.southpoint4u.com/growthtrack Find out more at www.southpoint4u.com Notes Life's a little ______ right now I'm at the end of my _____ My life is falling ______ I feel like I'm coming ______ My plate is ______ I can't handle ______ more thing Adulting often leaves us exhausted and stressed-out 75% of Americans experience mental or physical health issues due to stress - American Psychology Association - 2023 34% of Americans experience stress so bad it's debilitating - American Psychiatric Association - 2023 Not knowing how to adult differently keeps us stuck in being stressed-out. We don't need more We need different Where does stress start: Unrealistic expectations Unhealthy speed Unquenchable ache Unprepared seasons Unbalanced relationships Unrealistic expectations Right = Easy Right job Right spouse Right money Right stuff Right friends Upgrading is more of the same Different results requires different Then Jesus said, Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. - Matthew 11:28-29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. - Matthew 11:28-29 Jesus invites us into more than a ‘belief system' He calls us live a different lifestyle. What keeps us from different? Resist directions Fear disappointment Avoid delayed-gratification Move from just believing the different Jesus teaches to doing the different Jesus did!

About Progress
AP 517: What is a “ME DAY,” How to Plan One + Why You Need Time to Yourself No Matter Your Season

About Progress

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2023 43:54


Ten years ago I was in the thick of young motherhood, my husband was working constantly, and I just wanted to go for an uninterrupted run. When my carefully laid plans for that run nearly fell apart, I stormed out of my house yelling "I never have time for myself!" Unfortunately, I don't think I'm alone in feeling that way. In this episode I'm sharing research backed reasons why women are feeling more stressed than ever, nearing burnout with their overwhelming list of responsibilities, and something they can realistically do about it. I want to encourage each of you to implement a "Me Day," something I've prioritized yearly for the past several years. In this episode I break down the specifics of how to plan a day for yourself (spoiler: it can also be just a couple hours!) and ways to combat your long list of excuses. American Psychology Association, Psychology Today, Burnout episode with Amelia Nagoski, Hobbies episode Finding Me Academy My FREE DSL Training My FREE habits class Full Show Notes Sticky Habit Method Today's episode is brought to you by Redd Remedies, use code 'PROGRESS' for 20% off your order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Narcissistic Abuse Rehab
How Family Court Enabled The Coercive Control of Catherine Kassenoff featuring Amy Polacko

Narcissistic Abuse Rehab

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2023 42:36


In Episode 20 of the Narcissistic Abuse Rehab Podcast, we explore the topic ‘How Family Court Enabled The Coercive Control of Catherine Kassenoff,'  in an exclusive interview with renowned journalist and divorce coach, Amy Polacko. Catherine alleged that she suffered years of punishing post-separation abuse from her ex-spouse, Allan Kassenoff. We analyze how biases in the family court system allegedly allowed Allan to use a psychological theory that has been discredited and debunked by the American Bar Association, the American Psychology Association, and the UN to gain sole custody and wage an endless campaign of psychological terror that ended in tragedy. #IAmCatherineKassenoff EPISODE OVERVIEW - Catherine Kassenoff's story - Post-separation abuse - Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) - The patholigization of women in the family court system - DARVO: Definition + Mechanics - Vexatious litigation - The Privilege of Rage - Case Studies: Tina Turner, Amber Heard, Angelina Jolie - The commodification of child custody disputes - Meta-patriarchal violence - Jennifer's Law - The link between PTSD and Depression Comorbidity and Female Mortality - Child mortality in child custody disputes - Coercive control + femicide - UN Special Rapporteur Reem Alsalem's Statement LINKS + RESOURCES - Amy Polacko's Official Website - https://www.freedomwarrior.info - Wakefield, M (2023, February 18). ‘PTSD + Depression Comorbidity Increase Risk of Mortality In Women.' https://www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/ptsd-and-depression/ - Statement by Reem Alsalem, Special Rapporteur on Violence Against Women + Girls, Its Causes, and Consequences, 53rd session of the Human Rights Council. June 22, 2023. https://www.ohchr.org/sites/default/files/documents/issues/women/sr/statements/2023-06-22-SR-VAWG-HRC53-statement.pdf -United Nations (2023, June 23) ‘Urgent reform needed to shield women and children from violence during custody battles. UN News. https://news.un.org/en/story/2023/06/1138057' - Polacko, A. (2021, December 14) ‘Empty Home for the Holidays: Mothers Who Can't See Their Children Blame Broken Family Court System.' Ms. https://msmagazine.com/2021/12/14/mothers-children-family-court-divorce-domestic-violence-child-abuse/ - Polacko, A. (2023, June 5) ‘Remembering Catherine Kassenoff and Continuing the Fight for Fair U.S. Child Custody Outcomes.' Ms. https://msmagazine.com/2023/06/05/catherine-kassenoff-death-child-custody-divorce-court/ - Polacko, A. (2023, June 12) ‘Allan Kassenoff Resigns After Public Outcry Over Wife Catherine's Apparent Suicide.' Ms. Magazine. https://msmagazine.com/2023/06/12/allan-kassenoff-resigns/ - Thomas R.M. and Richardson, J.T. (2015, July 1) 'Parental Alienation Syndrome: 30 Years On and Still Junk Science.' The American Bar Association.  https://www.americanbar.org/groups/judicial/publications/judges_journal/2015/summer/parental_alienation_syndrome_30_years_on_and_still_junk_science/ - Wakefield, M. (2023, January 27) ‘Why Is Parental Alienation Syndrome So Controversial?' https://www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/what-is-parental-alienation-syndrome/ - Alltucker, K.(2023, July 17) ‘A child dies every 6 days amid custody fights, family court lapses. Advocates want change.' https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2023/07/17/child-deaths-during-custody-battles/70383774007/ - Syal, Rajeev. (2022, June 2) ‘Why did the Depp-Heard libel outcomes differ in the US and the UK.' The Guardian. https://www.theguardian.com/law/2022/jun/02/johnny-depp-amber-heard-libel-outcomes-differ-us-uk DISCLAIMER Views expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the podcast. Read our full disclaimer: https://www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/the-coercive-control-of-catherine-kassenoff/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/narcissisticabuserehab/message

Town Square with Ernie Manouse
Overcoming the Mental Health Challenges That Face the LGBTQIA+ Community

Town Square with Ernie Manouse

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 28, 2023 49:58


Town Square with Ernie Manouse airs at 3 p.m. CT. Tune in on 88.7FM, listen online or subscribe to the podcast. Join the discussion at 888-486-9677, questions@townsquaretalk.org or @townsquaretalk. The LGBTQIA+ community faces many mental health concerns or conditions, as well as health disparities. According to the American Psychology Association, LGBTQIA+ individuals are more than twice as likely as heterosexual men and women to have a mental health disorder in their lifetime. For the full hour, we speak with psychologist Dr. Jeff Temple and therapist and social worker Margaret Mayer, LMSW, of Eddins Counseling Group about the unique challenges faced by the LGBTQIA+ community. We discuss the common mental disorders prevalent in LGBTQIA+ individuals, the importance of acceptance and the effects it can have on mental health, and why it's important to seek treatment and better advocate for one's health. Resources: If you are in crisis, call or text the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 988. The Trevor Project: you can chat with them online at TheTrevorProject.org. You can also call them at 866-488-7386 or text “START” to 678-678. An organization in Houston that provides services to the LGBTQIA+ community is The Montrose Center, visit their website at MontroseCenter.org or call their 24-hour helpline at 713-529-3211. For the Harris Center for Mental Health & IDD 24/7 crisis line, call 713-970-7000. For Trans Lifeline's 24-hour hotline call 877-565-8860. Guests: Dr. Jeff Temple Psychologist Vice Dean for Research and Scholarship at the School of Nursing, UTMB Health John Sealy Distinguished Chair in Community Health, UTMB Health Director of the Center for Violence Prevention, UTMB Health Margaret Mayer, LMSW Therapist/Social Worker, Eddins Counseling Group Town Square with Ernie Manouse is a gathering space for the community to come together and discuss the day's most important and pressing issues. We also offer a free podcast here, on iTunes, and other apps

The Andy Ramage Podcast
17509 - Better mental health = better performance

The Andy Ramage Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 14, 2022 3:29


Days Left On Earth: 17509Business has fallen into the same trap as psychology.For years psychology was so focused on healing the sick that it forget its origins, to help those in need AND nurture talent and boost well-being. Healing the sick is wonderful and vital.But so is creating thriving individuals.Fortunately, 20 years ago, the head of the American Psychology Association and the biggest role in psychology Martin Seligman, escaped the trap and enhanced traditional psychology by creating Positive Psychology, which is designed to use science as a way to develop well-being and performance.Currently business is doing much better at catering for those who are suffering. Mental health first aiders, better policies.But like psychology of 20 years ago, business is also missing a major point.Mental health is not just about healing those who need help.It is also about creating resilience and nurturing talent. Better mental health leads to better performance in business and life.Think about this.The science of positive psychology, Seligman pioneered has clearly demonstrated that those with higher well-being perform better and therefore improve business and generate more revenue. And they are happier whilst they do it!If life well-being were on a spectrum from -10 to +10.Business is starting to do good work helping those in minus numbers get back to zero.But what about helping a +5 become a +7?And how about providing the skills for a 7 to get to 9?Just imagine the difference this would make to the well-being of your staff and the performance of the business.If you want to know more drop me a direct message.

Silicon Slopes
Elements: Helping You “Do Money Right”

Silicon Slopes

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2022 51:16


According to the American Psychology Association, the #1 stressor for individuals under the age of 35 is finances. Reese Harper, Founder and CEO, works with his team at Elements to create a financial planning system that helps a company take control of its financial health and plan for the future accordingly. Elements helps you “do money right” so you can eliminate stress and spend time focusing on the most important things.

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Meat & Potatoes Podcast
Elements: Helping You “Do Money Right”

Meat & Potatoes Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 7, 2022 51:16


According to the American Psychology Association, the #1 stressor for individuals under the age of 35 is finances. Reese Harper, Founder and CEO, works with his team at Elements to create a financial planning system that helps a company take control of its financial health and plan for the future accordingly. Elements helps you “do money right” so you can eliminate stress and spend time focusing on the most important things.

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Disruptors at Work: An Integrated Care Podcast
Ask a DBH Special Episode: Suicide Prevention and State Policy

Disruptors at Work: An Integrated Care Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2022 45:51


On June 13th, 2022, Oklahoma City police have a large presence at Integris Southwest Medical Center after a suicide at the hospital's campus Monday. “Integris officials said they cannot disclose any details because of privacy laws other than there was a death at the campus. Hospital officials are cooperating with the Oklahoma City Police Department.” This was news from KOCO 5, a local TV station in Oklahoma City which was published on their website Monday, June 13. Just 3 sentences, 51 words. Today is Thursday, June 16 and not another word about it. In today's episode, three Doctors of Behavioral Health will discuss suicidality in the US and what states and healthcare systems can and should be doing to address this crisis proactively. Guest Bios: Jackie Carro, Owner, Marketing Ideals Company, a boutique agency specializing in strategic marketing, public relations, event, video & web production. We opened our doors in 1994. We enjoy working with small to medium size companies, non-profit organizations and municipalities. We're based in the heart of Tempe, Arizona and serve a variety of clients representing diverse industries nationwide. Dr. Larry Ford, Founder & CEO at Hands to Guide You, a behavioral and mental healthcare practice located in Oklahoma City, OK. Dr. Ford is a DBH (Doctor of Behavioral Health) and with a staff of a dozen, has been practicing for well over a decade. He serves as a vital member of his community, also teaching at MidAmerica Christian University and is founder of Let's Play Sports, a program dedicated to providing school tuition and scholarships for young athletes living in under-served communities. Dr. Ford also serves on the Board of Directors for Cummings Graduate Institute. Dr. Cara English, CEO of Cummings Graduate Institute for Behavioral Health Studies. Dr. English has been a counselor for over 16 years, with specialties in women's health, perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, infant and child development, and family wellness. She earned a master's degree in counseling in 2002 from Northern Arizona University and worked as a community and school counselor and behavioral health consultant in a wide variety of settings during her graduate work at NAU and following graduation. She earned a DBH degree from Arizona State University in 2013. Dr. Janet Cummings, Chair for Cummings Graduate Institute for Behavioral Health Studies and daughter of the institute's founders Drs. Nicholas and Dorothy Cummings. Dr. Cummings serves as Chair for Cummings Graduate Institute and is an internationally recognized psychologist and author whose specialties include Pathophysiology, Psychopharmacology, Neuropathophysiology, Biodyne Model and Suicidal Ideation. Founded in 2015, the Cummings Graduate Institute for Behavioral Health Studies is one of a handful of universities worldwide that grant the distinguished Doctor of Behavioral Health (DBH) degree and is the only university that exclusively focuses on the growing field of integrated healthcare. CGI credits its origins to the work of Dr. Nicholas Cummings, an American psychologist, author, and former president of the American Psychology Association (1979). Learn more about degree programs and continuing education at cgi.edu National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Hours: Available 24 hours. Languages: English, Spanish. Learn more 800-273-8255 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/disruptors-at-work/support

Crina and Kirsten Get to Work
When 'Blah' Is As Good As It Gets, You Might Be Languishing.

Crina and Kirsten Get to Work

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2022 46:20


When you describe your mood as “blah,” “meh,” “decent, but not great,” you might be LANGUISHING, which can dampen your mood, impact your work and conflict with your ability to experience ease, meaning and joy! In the last few years, the feeling of languishing has been pervasive and profound, especially for women. But there is hope! Join us as we explore this topic and discover simple actions that can help you move from languishing to flourishing.   SHOWNOTES   We have a new word to describe our experience at work - LANGUISHING.  Crina and Kirsten check in with the smart people and the data to figure out languishing.  According to the American Psychology Association, languishing is the condition of absence of mental health, characterized by ennui, apathy, listlessness, and loss of interest in life.  Crina knows she is languishing when she is doom scrolling on her phone or computer.  Kirsten tends to be a Sunday languisher - when all of the activity and stress of the week catch up with her.   At work, languishing looks like: Feeling disconnected or dissociated from your coworkers Being irritable, confused, or sad Inability to get excited about upcoming projects Difficulty focusing or remembering  Cynicism about your leaders, colleagues, or career Procrastination or lack of motivation to complete assignments   Languishing is not a mental health disorder, but it is the opposite of flourishing. Lynn Soots describes flourishing as “the pursuit and engagement of an authentic life that brings inner joy and happiness through meeting goals, being connected with life passions, and relishing in accomplishments through the peaks and valleys of life.”  Important note here - flourishing is a state of being - a process.   Research suggests those who languish are more likely to experience serious mental illness later. This can include post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety disorders, and major depression. Adam Grant, in his famous New York Times article on languishing says, “[l]anguishing dulls your motivation, disrupts your ability to focus, and triples the odds that you'll cut back on work. It appears to be more common than major depression — and in some ways it may be a bigger risk factor for mental illness.”  New evidence from pandemic health care workers in Italy shows that those who were languishing in the spring of 2020 were three times more likely than their peers to be diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder.   Adam Grant suggests a few antidotes to languishing: Focus on a small goal:  We want to cultivate a sense of progress.  Give yourself some uninterrupted time: set boundaries with your time and normalize turning off your phone, email, etc - minimizing distractions when you are languishing is helpful because we are more vulnerable to distraction when we are languishing. Find ways to see that you're “making a difference to other people” This may be as simple as doing something kind or generous for a coworker or another person in your life.   According to Dr. Martin Seligman's research on flourishing, the best way to move from languishing to flourishing is the PERMA model.. It stands for: Positive emotions - create them Engagement - get into “flow” Relationships - receive and give support and intimacy from others Meaning - ahh - the hard one - create a valuable and worthwhile life Accomplishments - make progress.   And remember - flourishing is a process - not an end-game.   Are You Languishing? Here's How to Regain Your Sense of Purpose Adam Grant: How to stop languishing and start finding flow | TED Talk Feeling Blah During the Pandemic? It's Called Languishing - The New York Times What To Say To Your “Languishing” Employees Post-Covid-19

Gailey Road Audio
Coming Soon: The Love Booth and Other Plays

Gailey Road Audio

Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2022 8:33


Our next project, The Love Booth and Other Plays is a set of seven short plays that share stories of queer lives and queer activism and care in the 1970s and early 1980s.  The title play The Love Booth tells the story of how a group of lesbian and gay activists pushed the American Psychology Association to take homosexuality off its Diagnostic Statistical Manual in 1973 so that homosexuality was no longer considered an illness that needed to be cured.  Gailey Road is planning to perform The Love Booth and Other Plays (either on stage or virtually) during 2023 Toronto Pride Festival to mark the 50th anniversary of this successful moment of queer activism.  A full list of the seven plays is included at the end of this letter.  The performances will feature the work of a diverse group of White, BIPOC, and queer and trans theatre artists, many of whom have worked with Gailey Road in the past.  They will also feature the music of Kate Reid and the visual art of benjamin lee hicks.

Motor City Hypnotist
Motor City Hypnotist - Road Rage, Part 2 - Episode 156

Motor City Hypnotist

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 14, 2022 35:18


Road Rage, Part 2, Show NotesIn this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast, we are going to talk about road rage.  What causes it?  What you can do to stay calm in stressful driving situations. And I'm also going to be giving listeners a FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE!  Stay tuned!INTRODUCTIONWhat is up people?  The Motor City Hypnotist Podcast is here in the Podcast Your Voice, Southfield Studios.   http://podcastyourvoice.com/ Thank you for joining me on this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast. I am David Wright and with me is my producer Matt Fox.FIND ME:My Website: https://motorcityhypnotist.com/podcastMy social media links: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/motorcityhypnotist/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCjjLNcNvSYzfeX0uHqe3gATwitter: https://twitter.com/motorcityhypnoInstagram: motorcityhypnoFREE HYPNOSIS GUIDEhttps://detroithypnotist.convertri.com/podcast-free-hypnosis-guidePlease also subscribe to the show and leave a review.(Stay with me as later in the podcast, I'll be giving away a free gift to all listeners!)TODAYS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY Empower Your Mind For Success, A Hypnotic Guidehttps://www.amazon.com/Empower-Your-Success-Hypnotic-Guide-ebook/dp/B09BZZK8TVWINNER OF THE WEEK:  Video Gamers Doing a World of Good: Fortnite Raised $144 Million for Ukraine Reliefhttps://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/fortnite-raised-144m-for-ukraine-relief/Road RageStatistics•        In 2019, 82% of people admitted to committing an act of road rage in the past year. (The Zebra)•        A total of 12,610 injuries and 218 murders have been attributed to road rage over a seven-year period in the United States (SafeMotorist).•        66% of traffic fatalities are caused by aggressive driving (NHTSA)•        Road rage has been responsible for about 300 deaths since 2013. (NHTSA)•        Over a seven-year time period, more than 200 murders and 12,000 injuries were attributed to road rage. (American Automobile Association)•        30 murders annually are linked to road rage. (American Psychological Association)•        50% of drivers respond to the careless acts of other drivers with aggressive behavior themselves (American Psychology Association)•        94% of traffic accidents are caused by driver error. (NPR)•        37% of aggressive driving incidents involve a firearm. (AutoVantage Club)•        Aggressive driving played a role in 56% of fatal crashes from 2003 through 2007 (Insurance Information Institute)•        500% increase in reported cases of road rage over the last 10 years. (CNN)•         Road Rage QuizDo You Cause Road Rage?Understanding what fuels this dangerous behavior may help psychologists curb it. In studies of anger and aggressive driving, counseling psychologist Jerry Deffenbacher, PhD, of Colorado State University, found that people who identified themselves as high-anger drivers differ from low-anger drivers in five key ways.•        They engage in hostile, aggressive thinking. They're more likely to insult other drivers or express disbelief about the way others drive. Their thoughts also turn more often to revenge, which sometimes means physical harm.•        They take more risks on the road. High-anger drivers are more likely to go 10 to 20 mph over the speed limit, rapidly switch lanes, tailgate, and enter an intersection when the light turns red.•        High anger drivers get angry faster and behave more aggressively. They're more likely to swear or nam

Motor City Hypnotist
Motor City Hypnotist - Road Rage, Part 1 - Episode 155

Motor City Hypnotist

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 12, 2022 32:34


Road Rage, Part 1, Show NotesIn this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast, we are going to talk about road rage.  What causes it?  What you can do to stay calm in stressful driving situations. And I'm also going to be giving listeners a FREE HYPNOSIS GUIDE!  Stay tuned!INTRODUCTIONWhat is up people?  The Motor City Hypnotist Podcast is here in the Podcast Your Voice, Southfield Studios.    Thank you for joining me on this episode of the Motor City Hypnotist Podcast. I am David Wright and with me is my producer Matt Fox.FIND ME:My Website: https://motorcityhypnotist.com/podcastMy social media links: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/motorcityhypnotist/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCjjLNcNvSYzfeX0uHqe3gATwitter: https://twitter.com/motorcityhypnoInstagram: motorcityhypnoFREE HYPNOSIS GUIDEhttps://detroithypnotist.convertri.com/podcast-free-hypnosis-guidePlease also subscribe to the show and leave a review.(Stay with me as later in the podcast, I'll be giving away a free gift to all listeners!)TODAYS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY Empower Your Mind For Success, A Hypnotic Guidehttps://www.amazon.com/Empower-Your-Success-Hypnotic-Guide-ebook/dp/B09BZZK8TVWINNER OF THE WEEK:  Video Gamers Doing a World of Good: Fortnite Raised $144 Million for Ukraine Reliefhttps://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/fortnite-raised-144m-for-ukraine-relief/Road RageStatistics•        In 2019, 82% of people admitted to committing an act of road rage in the past year. (The Zebra)•        A total of 12,610 injuries and 218 murders have been attributed to road rage over a seven-year period in the United States (SafeMotorist).•        66% of traffic fatalities are caused by aggressive driving (NHTSA)•        Road rage has been responsible for about 300 deaths since 2013. (NHTSA)•        Over a seven-year time period, more than 200 murders and 12,000 injuries were attributed to road rage. (American Automobile Association)•        30 murders annually are linked to road rage. (American Psychological Association)•        50% of drivers respond to the careless acts of other drivers with aggressive behavior themselves (American Psychology Association)•        94% of traffic accidents are caused by driver error. (NPR)•        37% of aggressive driving incidents involve a firearm. (AutoVantage Club)•        Aggressive driving played a role in 56% of fatal crashes from 2003 through 2007 (Insurance Information Institute)•        500% increase in reported cases of road rage over the last 10 years. (CNN)•         Road Rage QuizDo You Cause Road Rage?Understanding what fuels this dangerous behavior may help psychologists curb it. In studies of anger and aggressive driving, counseling psychologist Jerry Deffenbacher, PhD, of Colorado State University, found that people who identified themselves as high-anger drivers differ from low-anger drivers in five key ways.•        They engage in hostile, aggressive thinking. They're more likely to insult other drivers or express disbelief about the way others drive. Their thoughts also turn more often to revenge, which sometimes means physical harm.•        They take more risks on the road. High-anger drivers are more likely to go 10 to 20 mph over the speed limit, rapidly switch lanes, tailgate, and enter an intersection when the light turns red.•        High anger drivers get angry faster and behave more aggressively. They're more likely to swear or name-call, to yell at other drivers

Siblinghood of Recovery
Season 1 - Anger

Siblinghood of Recovery

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 14, 2022 15:07


Anger is an emotion that, for the most part, accompanies most of us in the beginning stages of our Recovery process. Once we join a 12 Step program, and work closely with a Licensed Therapist or Licensed Therapy team, it is an emotion we can hopefully look forward to regulating. If we do, it will serve us well as parents, and serve our children even better. 4:10 - Definition of Anger in Psychology Today4:30 - Huberman Lab Podcast, How your Brain works and Changes4:55 - Social Media and Emotions Research article, Social Media Use and Its Impact on Relationships and Emotions5:20 - Cyber Bullying resources 5:45 - Social Media algorithms and anger as captured from an article published in Psychology Today, 5 Ugly Truths About Big Tech6:00 - Anger and Physical Health, American Psychology Association resources6:40 - Anger in children, Yale Medicine, Anger, Irritability and Aggression in Kids6:45 - Definition of ACES: Adverse Childhood Experiences7:30 - Gabor Mate interview on multiple adults helping to support raising children9:30 - The Science of Emotion, Harvard, Anger Management10:50 - The link above to 'Anger Management' addresses how parents can also understand their own anger, and the impact it has on our children.  Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out. If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you. Walk gently, my friend.

The Chou Hallegra Podcast
Kaylin J. Knight Shares How Divorce and Grief Pushed Her into Her Purpose

The Chou Hallegra Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 3, 2022 24:09


Get your copy of the book, Be Resilient: Stories, strategies, and tools to help you rise above your circumstances! Kaylin is a bestselling author, grief support advocate, suicide prevention advocate, peer mentor for widows, and involved in the pro-life (mom and baby) movement. Kaylin is currently a senior at Liberty University pursuing a psychology degree in crisis counseling, a member of the American Association of Suicidology, the American Psychology Association, and the American Association of Christian Counselors. She is also the president of the Policy Council for Stafford County Headstart. She serves at Grace Covenant Church as a KB Leader with the elementary children. Furthermore, Kaylin is a mother, sister, daughter, and a loving friend to so many. She is described as a Shero, an inspiration, an encourager, a supporter, and a prayer partner by those closest to her. Kaylin has a passion for life and a mission to help other young widows move from widowhood to wholeness, living a life of purpose, hope, healing, and joy after loss. Find out more at https://kaylinjknight.com and follow her on https://www.facebook.com/WidowedtoWholeness. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/graceandhopeconsulting/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/graceandhopeconsulting/support

Stronger U Radio with Mike Doehla
Your Happiest Life with Dr. Sarah Pressman

Stronger U Radio with Mike Doehla

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 1, 2021 43:48


We are thrilled to welcome Dr. Pressman to the Stronger U Radio to talk about all things happiness, weight loss, and community, and try to understand how happiness is intertwined in everything that we do.Dr. Sarah Pressman has spent the last 20 years researching what it means to be happy.  Dr. Pressman seeks to understand how positive emotions can help us survive the ill effects of stress and live longer healthier lives. Her work has been featured extensively in the popular media, for example, in the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, CNN, and her favorite, the Colbert Report. She is also under contract with Oxford and the American Psychology Association to write two books in the fields of Positive and Health Psychology.Professor Sarah Pressman is an award-winning researcher and world expert on the topics of Stress, Health & Happiness. She received her MS and Ph.D. from Carnegie Mellon University in Health Psychology, followed by a postdoctoral fellowship in Cardiovascular Behavioral Medicine at the University of Pittsburgh. She is now a faculty member at the University of California, Irvine.For more information about Dr. Pressman, please visit her lab webpage here.

The First-Gen Lounge
Summer 2021: Session 180 (Changing the Game in Mental Health as a Black Man with Darius Washington)

The First-Gen Lounge

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 13, 2021 29:14


According to a 1986 report by the American Psychology Association, the percentage of psychology PhDs awarded to men in 1975 was nearly 70%. As of 2015, the lack of men graduating with doctorates from psychology programs was both alarming and disappointing. But what's even more worrying is the number of Black men pursuing psychology. In essence, 76% of the students in US universities that earned psychology PhDs in 2015 were White, and only 5.8% of psychology PhDs were awarded to black students. Of that 5.8%, 68% were Black females, further demonstrating that black males are woefully under-represented in the world of psychology. Why is that, and how many of them are First-Gens? Although we need to applaud women's gains in psychology, the lack of enough men is increasingly worrying. Check out the full session notes: www.evehudsonphd.com/2021/08/180 Book Dr. Eve: https://www.evehudsonphd.com/passthemic/. Grab your #firstgen goodies: https://www.thefirstgenshop.com/. Join The Evingerlean Worldwide Family: https://www.evehudsonphd.com/family/. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Inside Influence
Cindy Gallop - Taking on Titans: Power, persistence and changing the world through sex

Inside Influence

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 16, 2021 51:43


Is hardcore porn preparing children and young people for a good sex life? According to the American Psychology Association, the largest consumers of internet porn are 12 to 17 year-olds. On today's podcast, we talk to an advertising industry veteran and entrepreneur who is not afraid to talk about sex education and to stand up for good real-world sex, Cindy Gallop.Cindy is the founder of the MakeLoveNotPorn website which she launched with a TED Talk in 2009. Her four minute talk quickly and unexpectedly went viral. It currently has over 2.6m views on YouTube. It elevated Cindy into a needed social discourse that is too often hushed. MakeLoveNotPorn is a social sextech platform designed to promote good sexual behavior and good sexual values by showing good real-world sex. It's mission is to promote honest and open conversations about sex through the dynamic of social media. It's vision is a “social sex revolution”. Content is carefully curated and revenue is shared with contributors.Cindy started the site after she started to see a trend in the young men she dated. Men were behaving badly in bed. They equated good sex with memes from harcore porn. She looked around and realised that hardcore porn had converged with society's unwillingness to talk about sex education. She wanted to create a platform that showed the joy of real-world sex: consentual and communicative. A decade on from LoveNotPorn's launch, we talk to Cindy about why she started the platform, what has changed over that time, what needs to change still, and how we can be that change.Today's Guest: Cindy GallopLucinda “Cindy” Gallop was born in the UK. She earned a Master's in English Language and Literature from Oxford University. She began her career as a theatre publicist but moved into the world of advertising, where she has built a stellar 36 year career.In 1989, she joined the growing advertising firm Bartle Bogle Hegarty. In 1996, she moved to Singapore to start and run BBH's Asia-Pacific office, which included clients like Levi's. In 1998 she started the US branch. By 2002, the branch was named Adweek's Eastern Agency of the Year, and in 2003, she was named Advertising Woman of the Year. Building on this success, she was appointed to the position of Chairman and President for BBH in the US. Today, she works as an expert consultant in advertising and in her spare time is trying to make the world a better place. She has founded two influential online platforms: IfWeRanTheWorld (paying it forward with micro-actions) and MakeLoveNotPorn.Website: cindygallop.comFacebook: cindy.gallopTwitter: @cindygallopLinkedIn:cindygallop“At MakeLoveNotPorn we show you how wonderful, great consentual and communicative sex is in the real world.”“The only way you educate people as to what is great consentual and communicative sex, good sex, and good sexual behaviour is by watching people having that type of sex”You'll learnHer journey with #makelovenotporn – why it began and why she sincerely believes our values and stories around sex should be a National priorityHow she approaches – and handles herself – as a leader in the multitude of moments where all doors are being slammed shutThe impact of the porn industry – and how two dimensional and disconnected a conversation becomes - when you exclude 50% of the participants.The concept of micro-actions – and why they hold the key to any sustainable change or momentum – including her recommendation for the No.1 micro-action we can all take to completely change the trajectory of our lives.And finally – what she's learned about talking about taboos – and how much one moment can change your life.“Everyone of us can change the world in tiny tiny ways, every single day”References and links mentionedMakelovenotporn.tvIfWeRanTheWorldCindy's original 2009 Ted TalkThe Influencer CodeSubscribe to and Review the Inside Influence PodcastThanks for tuning into this week's episode of the Inside Influence Podcast! If the information in my conversations and interviews have helped you in your business journey, please head over to iTunes, subscribe to the show, and leave an honest review. Your reviews and feedback will not only help us continue to deliver great, helpful content, but it will also help us reach even more amazing people just like you!Also, don't forget to hop on my website juliemasters.com and download my new ebook The Influencer Code See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Financial Futures
The Future of Financial Wellness

Financial Futures

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2021 37:45


A recent study done by the American Psychology Association found that nearly 2 in 3 adults say that money is a significant source of stress in their life. This financial stress is an epidemic issue, affecting both individuals and communities alike. But according to Brian Fey, Senior Director, Digital Banking at FIS, better education on managing money might be the solution to widespread stress. He says financial wellness programs are “a tangible way that we're helping the community get better by improving their financial health.” In this season 5 finale of Financial Futures, FIS' Brian Fey joins us to explain what a financial wellness program is, and how it can help relieve anxiety money often brings. We'll look at the history of these initiatives and how banking's digitization transformation has changed financial education efforts. We'll also cover:  How does financial stress affect an individual?  How can banks start their own financial wellness programs?  How did COVID-19 change our approach to financial wellness? 

The Writ Wit: A Podcast About Writing and the Creative Process
Episode 131 - Mental Diagnosis Inclusivity

The Writ Wit: A Podcast About Writing and the Creative Process

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 2, 2021 44:43


In this episode, the two Matts install an AI for their house that's incredibly overzealous and ruins everything as AIs do, compare themselves to giant fantasy books in terms of girth and children's picture books in terms of depth, talk about twists and when they work versus when they don't, and talk about writing characters with different mental diagnoses in the last of our set about inclusivity. How should writers treat these characters? Do these mental diagnoses define the characters, or can they expand beyond it? How can you handle revealing outright if characters have these diagnoses? Is Matt Donald justified in his dislike of Shane Black, or is he being overdramatic as usual? We discuss it all, with actual experience in the matter as a person on the autism spectrum or living with someone on the spectrum, and talk about Jurassic World, Big Bang Theory, The Predator, and a hilarious Donald Glover standup special for some reason. Have any feedback or questions for our hosts? Email us at mattd@matthewdonaldcreator.com. Also you can purchase Matt Donald's book "Megazoic" on Amazon by clicking here, its sequel "Megazoic: The Primeval Power" by clicking here, its third installment "Megazoic: The Hunted Ones" by clicking here, or its final installment "Megazoic: An Era's End" by clicking here. If you'd like, of course. Also, here's our links for guides on writing these characters: There's a literal encyclopedia's worth of information out there.  To get you started though (wind up the car and let ‘er rip!), here's a link: https://medlineplus.gov/mentaldisorders.html or from Mayo Clinic https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/symptoms-causes/syc-20374968  To read about anxiety disorders from National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH.nih.gov):https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/anxiety-disorders/  Mood disorders, accessed at Mental Health America: https://www.mhanational.org/conditions/mood-disorders  From the American Psychology Association, regarding personality disorders: https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/personality-disorders   Stress disorders and dealing with them, from WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/balance/stress-management/stress-symptoms-effects_of-stress-on-the-body  Neurodevelopmental disorders, from Dignity Health: https://www.dignityhealth.org/las-vegas/services/neurological-care/neurodevelopmental-disorders  Somatic symptom disorders from the Cleveland Clinic: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17976-somatic-symptom-disorder-in-adults  Neurocognitive disorders, this from MedlinePlus: https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/001401.htm [by the way, these typically come later in life than the developmental phase, including dementia, Alzheimer's, etc.] Finally, as a source for those dealing WITH said people: https://www.mhanational.org/recognizing-warning-signs 

Whiskey & Lemon
Episode 26: Theory of Mind

Whiskey & Lemon

Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2021 10:30


Lana breaks down Theory of Mind, why it has gained so much popularity in the world, and what purpose it serves for us. According to the American Psychology Association, Theory of Mind is the understanding that others have intentions, desires, beliefs, perceptions, and emotions different from one's own and that such intentions, desires, and so forth affect people's actions and behaviors. This is essentially the theory of understanding why people do what they do. How does this place into nature vs nurture? How are our minds developed in our early years of life? What is the right & wrong way to apply Theory of Mind?Podcast Instagram: instagram.com/whiskeyandlemonpodcastPodcast Website: whiskeyandlemon.comLana's Instagram: instagram.com/heylanamercedezLana's Website: lanamercedez.com

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Rio Bravo qWeek
Episode 40 - Emotional Support Animals

Rio Bravo qWeek

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2021 24:22


Episode 40: Emotional Support Animals.Service Animals vs Emotional Support Animals, meet Ronica and Fred, HTN medications at night, jokes about being 40. Today is February 15, 2021.We hope you had a beautiful Valentine’s Day. Today I’d like to share some information that may be not so new anymore, but for some people it may be new. It’s about hypertension chronotherapy. An article published in AAFP News in November 2019 explains that taking hypertension medication at bedtime improves cardiovascular risk. This was a large prospective study that compared taking meds at bedtime vs taking meds in the morning. It was called The Hygia Chronotherapy Trial. It was originally published in October 2019 in the European Heart Journal. The study was conducted in Spain (ole!), and involved almost 20,000 patients with hypertension who were divided into two groups: One group took all their hypertension medications at bedtime, and another group took all their hypertension medications in the morning. In the next 6 years, 1,752 participants experienced cardiovascular-related death, myocardial infarction, coronary revascularization, heart failure or stroke. And the good news is that the bedtime medication group showed an improved blood pressure control and lower risk than the morning medication group. Taking BP medications at bedtime dropped the death rate by 45%. Incidence of myocardial infarction, stroke and heart failure were all significantly reduced. Taking thiazides at bedtime may be challenging, on the bright side, the study also found that moving only one medication to bedtime is still beneficial. This is Rio Bravo qWeek, your weekly dose of knowledge brought to you by the Rio Bravo Family Medicine Residency Program from Bakersfield, California. Our program is affiliated with UCLA, and it’s sponsored by Clinica Sierra Vista, Let Us Be Your Healthcare Home. Emotional Support AnimalsArreaza: Our guest does not need introduction because you have listened to her voice in several episodes, especially in our recent episode about menopause. Welcome, Valerie Civelli, it’s a pleasure to have you here. Random question, what is the farthest place you have visited? What will be talking about today?Civelli: Emotional Support Animals (ESA). Many people with disabilities use a service animal in order to fully participate in everyday life. Dogs can be trained to perform many important tasks to assist people with disabilities, such as providing stability for a person who has difficulty walking, picking up items for a person who uses a wheelchair, preventing a child with autism from wandering away, or alerting a person who has hearing loss when someone is approaching from behind.Arreaza: So, is it like a service animal? Civelli: Service animals and emotional support animals are not the same, so be sure to note the different. According to the APA, American Psychology Association:  Species: Any animal can be an emotional support animal. Under federal law, only dogs and miniature horses can be service animals[2]. Such is the case of Abrea Hensley who has flown from Nebraska to Chicago with her miniature mare, Flirty in August 2019. Arreaza: There was revival on the topic again. A story went viral in February 2020, one year ago, as Ronica Froese flew from Michigan to Ontario (California) with her service animal who is a miniature horse named Freckle Butt Fred, or Fred for short. They traveled together in first class. The picture went viral online, and it created positive and negative comments among travelers and internauts. Miniature horses were approved as service animals in 2011 by the ADA (Americans with Disability Act).Civelli: Purpose: An emotional support animal assists through its presence alone. A service animal is specially trained to perform tasks for someone with a disability. Training: An emotional support animal requires no training; all that's needed is a letter from a mental health professional explaining its therapeutic value. Service animals must undergo individualized training. Arreaza: Animals for sure generate a reaction in humans whenever they enter a room. Tell us about the legal protections. "An animal's eyes have the power to speak a great language." ― Martin Buber. "An animal's eyes have the power to speak a great language." ― Martin BuberCivelli: While the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) protects service animals, it does not cover emotional support animals. Emotional support animals are covered only under the Air Carrier Access Act and Fair Housing Act. Keep in mind, the criteria of mental or emotional disability is defined in the DSM 5, by the Americans with Disability Act (ADA), the Fair Housing Act, the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 (section 504), as well as the Air Carrier Access Act (49 U.S.C. 41705 and 14 C.F.R. 382).Arreaza: Where can service animals go?Civelli: A service animal can go anywhere its owner goes. While owners of emotional support animals may get away with bringing them into places where pets aren't allowed, the only places legally required to welcome them are aircraft—where they fly for free in the main cabin—and housing units.Arreaza: Or with the owner, and in the case of Fred, the miniature horse. However, Fred probably had his last flight because the US Department of Transportation now allows only service dogs to fly with their human owners in an airplane. Airlines may have different rules, but are required by law to accept service dogs only. So, before you fly with your service animal or emotional support animal, check with your airline. Civelli: Let’s talk about ESA letters. They can be written by any licensed mental health professional, such as a therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist, which should state that pet therapy is an important part of your treatment plan. To get an ESA letter, you must consult professionals who are authorized to prescribe emotional support animal letters in your area. Here is a list of people who can prescribe an ESA Letter:A Primary Care PhysicianA Licensed TherapistAny Licensed Mental Health ProfessionalA Licensed General PhysicianArreaza: Elements that should be included on an ESA Letter: It must clearly state the patient suffers from a mental illness that can be managed by an emotional support animal. It should be on proper letterheadCivelli: And it should contain the following elements:Licensed person’s name and signatureLicense number, date of the license, and state where it’s issuedDate of issuanceState Patient’s name and date of birthPet details-optionalAlthough not required, it’s recommended to keep the letter updated each year. Arreaza: Let’s say you decide to take your service dog to a museum. What questions can employees ask you to determine if your dog is a service animal?Civelli: In situations where it is not obvious that the dog is a service animal, staff may ask only two specific questions: (1) is the dog a service animal required because of a disability? and (2) what work or task has the dog been trained to perform? Staff are not allowed to request any documentation for the dog, require that the dog demonstrate its task, or inquire about the nature of the person's disability.Arreaza: Do service animals have to wear a vest or patch or special harness identifying them as service animals?Civelli: No. The ADA does not require service animals to wear a vest, ID tag, or specific harness.Arreaza: Anxiety is a very prevalent condition, especially during these times of pandemic. If someone has a dog who calms when having an anxiety attack, does this qualify it as a service animal?Civelli: It depends. The ADA makes a distinction between psychiatric service animals and emotional support animals. If the dog has been trained to sense that an anxiety attack is about to happen and take a specific action to help avoid the attack or lessen its impact, that would qualify as a service animal. However, if the dog's mere presence provides comfort, that would not be considered a service animal under the ADA.Arreaza: A sample letter is provided in our website and also as a dot phrase in Epic. Just type .RIOBRAVOESA and a letter will pop up for your patient.Page Break                                             Sample Template for Emotional Support Animal Letter Date:  2/21/20ESA Breed: Dog, Golden RetrieverESA Name: Max To Whom It May Concern: Maria Gonzalez is currently a patient receiving care at our facility.  I am familiar with her/his medical history and with her functional limitations.  This person meets the criteria of mental or emotional disability as defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical manual of Mental Disorders 5 (DSM 5), the Americans with Disability Act (ADA), the Fair Housing Act, the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 (section 504), as well as the Air Carrier Access Act (49 U.S.C. 41705 and 14 C.F.R. 382). This individual has certain limitations associated to social interactions and coping with stressful situations.   To enable his/her ability to live independently and alleviate these difficulties, Maria Gonzalez has an emotional support animal (ESA).  The ESA is necessary to mitigate symptoms experienced. In the setting of airline travel and/or hotel stay, please allow her/him to have the ESA accompanied by her/him at all times as needed.  Sincerely,      Alan Smith Alan P. Smith, MDMedical License #: 12345Date of License Issued: 1/1/1985NPI #: 17283930Medical Board of California  Clinical Sierra Vista|7800 E. Niles St.|Bakersfield, CA 93306| 661-328-4284 ___________________________Questions of the Month: Diabetes management by Ikenna Nwosu, MDHi, I’m Ike, I’m a first-year resident, and today I’m filling in for Dr Carranza, who normally hosts the question of the month. We are happy to inform that we have a winner! Her name is Lubna Nasr. We chose her answer because it’s the most accurate and concise of all the answers. Question: What is the first treatment approach for type 2 diabetes mellitus? For example, for a patient who had polydipsia, polyuria for a few weeks, and at your office had a random BG of 210.  Ok, let’s call our winner. Answer: The first treatment approach for this patient includes diabetes education, intensive lifestyle modification and Hemoglobin A1c measurement.  Diabetes education: Participation in a comprehensive diabetes self-management education program to learn more about the disease, glucose monitoring, management and complications.  Intensive lifestyle modification (nutrition, physical activity and weight reduction): Nutrition should be based on foods who are low in carbs, include proteins and good fats.  Physical activity: focusing on aerobic exercise (150 minutes weekly or more, at least 3days/week, AND resistance training with free weights or weight machines (2–3 sessions/week).  Hemoglobin A1c measurement: To determine if the patient needs to start treatment with metformin and/or other medications for diabetes, including insulin, if indicated. ____________________________For your Sanity: 40by Steven SaitoThis is our 40th episode, so we have some jokes related to being 40 years old. 40 is the perfect age for people. You’re old enough to recognize your mistakes but young enough to make some more. 40 — it’s all fun until it happens to you! You know you’re 40 when your back is hairier than your head. You know you’re 40 when you have a party and the neighbors don’t even realize it. You know you’re 40 when someone offers you a seat on the bus. And you don’t refuse it._____________________________Now we conclude our episode number 40 “Emotional Support Animals”. Dr. Civelli explained that Emotional Support Animals are companions to provide comfort to patients, but they do not have a particular skill and do not need training. We congratulate Lubna for her concise answer about diabetes management. Diabetes is the bread and butter of primary care, you “gotta” learn diabetes if you want to make a positive impact in your community. We’ll bring you another question next week. Remember, even without trying, every night you go to bed being a little wiser.Thanks for listening to Rio Bravo qWeek. If you have any feedback about this podcast, contact us by email RBresidency@clinicasierravista.org, or visit our website riobravofmrp.org/qweek. This podcast was created with educational purposes only. Visit your primary care physician for additional medical advice. This week we thank Hector Arreaza, Ariana Lundquist, Valerie Civelli, Claudia Carranza, and Ikenna Nwosu. Audio edition: Suraj Amrutia. See you next week! _____________________References:Crawford, Chris, “Taking Hypertension Medication at Bedtime Improves CVD Risk”, AAFP News, https://www.aafp.org/news/health-of-the-public/20191106bedtimehbpmeds.html. O’Kane, Caitlin, “A woman took her 115-pound miniature horse on a plane as a service animal. Now, she's worried it could be his last flight”, CBS News, February 20, 2020, https://www.cbsnews.com/news/miniature-horse-on-plane-woman-took-service-animal-flight-could-be-his-last-airlines/ U.S. Department of Justice Civil Rights Division Disability Rights Section, Frequently Asked Questions about Service Animals and the ADA, accessed = February 11, 2021. https://www.ada.gov/regs2010/service_animal_qa.html “Emotional support animal vs. psychiatric service animal”, Monitor on Psychology, American Psychological Association, September 2016, Vol 47, No. 8, https://www.apa.org/monitor/2016/09/pet-aid-sidebar.  

Education On Fire - Sharing creative and inspiring learning in our schools
186: What is happening for me? with Lucia Giovannini

Education On Fire - Sharing creative and inspiring learning in our schools

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 5, 2021 54:59


Lucia Giovannini is world renowned sensation, former international Italian supermodel – turned transformational speaker and author of 13 books. Her 25 years of inspiring work through conferences & workshops globally has been inspired by growing up throughout different parts of Italy and Africa, immersed in the beauty and the pain of those unforgettable lands. Her work crafts a synergy between traditional psychological techniques, motivational practices and ancient eastern rituals that turn her seminars into profound experiences for the audiences in Asia + Europe alike. Lucia has been defined “the Italian Louise Hay” by prestigious media like Marie France Asia, The times of India and La Stampa, transforming audiences through her teachings, workshops, retreats, meditations, & books globally through overcoming limiting beliefs and fears to live a whole new life. Lucia Giovannini’s internationally acclaimed book A Whole New Life, which has been translated into more than 8 languages globally, is available also in the English, in the US and worldwide, by Post Hill Press, a Simon & Schuster imprint. Coherent with her personal philosophy, Lucia has a passionate advocacy for animal rights and veganism as a way of life. She lives with her husband Nicola, and her dog Caligola between Bali, Thailand, and Italy. Lucia is a Doctor in Psychology and Counselling and a Bachelor in Psycho-Anthropology, an international affiliate of the American Psychology Association. Questions asked on the podcast:1. Who are you? 2. What does your life look like now and how is it different from when you were growing up? 3. What was valuable about your school experience? 4. Which teachers do you remember and why? 5. Who did you admire when you were young? 6. What was it about that person that had such an impact? 7. What was the best piece of advice you have ever been given and who gave it to you? 8. What advice would you give your younger self? 9. What does your future look like? 10. What podcast, book, video, film, song or other resource has had the biggest impact on your life and why?   Websitehttp://www.luciagiovannini.com/ (www.luciagiovannini.com)   Social media information https://www.facebook.com/groups/awholenewlife/ (https://www.facebook.com/groups/awholenewlife/) https://www.facebook.com/lucia.giovannini/ (https://www.facebook.com/lucia.giovannini/ ) https://www.instagram.com/lucia_giovannini/?hl=en (https://www.instagram.com/lucia_giovannini/?hl=en)   Resources mentionedhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Beatles (The Beatles) https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autobiography-Yogi-Paramahansa-Yogananda/dp/0876120796 (Autobiography of a Yogi – Paramahansa Yogananda)   Support this podcast

Piotrek Dobra Rada
Piotrek Dobra Rada, Odc. 199 - Wydajność Pracy Zdalnej A Wiek Pracownika

Piotrek Dobra Rada

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 28, 2021 5:04


Czy pracownicy z pokolenia Z (dla niekumatych - młodsi niż 26 lat, wg Wikipedii) są mniej czy bardziej produktywni od osób starszych (takich jak ja)? Jakie są inne różnice pomiędzy Pokoleniem Z a starszymi pracownikami? Kilka cyferek o produktywności zdalnej wg badań Ninetex, American Psychology Association oraz PwC. Dodatkowo pojawia się firma Bonfyre, która dostarcza platformę do zarządzania kulturą w miejscu pracy. Szczegóły w 199 odcinku Piotrka Dobra Rada #wykuwam #piotrekdobrarada #remoteonly #pracazdalna #ninetex #pwc #APA Mój mail piotr.konopka@innothink.com.pl Mój LinkedIn https://linkedin.com/in/konopka Link do odcinka na YouTube https://youtu.be/hPXqeeSZgNE Link do podcastu https://pod.fo/e/b3ca2 SoundCloud https://soundcloud.com/piotr-konopka-286414158/piotrek-dobra-rada-odc-199-wydajnosc-pracy-zdalnej-a-wiek-pracownika Inspiracja https://pl.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pokolenie_Z Inspiracja https://www.benefitnews.com/news/older-employees-are-adapting-to-remote-work-better-than-younger-workers Moja strona internetowa https://piotr-konopka.pl Strona firmowa https://www.innothink.com.pl Moje podcasty https://podfollow.com/piotrek-dobra-rada/view iTunes https://podcasts.apple.com/pl/podcast/piotrek-dobra-rada/id1513135345 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/6bu6ZEMBKJAd2LMLr7ABKP Transkrypcja poniżej Cześć. Nazywam się Piotrek Konopka i witam Was w kolejnym, 199 już odcinku z cyklu Piotrek Dobra Rada mówi o pracy zdalnej. Dzisiaj powiem kilka słów na temat tego, jak sobie radzą pod względem produktywności pracownicy starsi i pracownicy młodsi. Będziemy mówili o badaniach, które zostały przeprowadzone przez firmę Ninetex. Jest to firma, która dostarcza platformę do zarządzania procesami, czyli takiego workflow automatyzującego pracę. I zgodnie z tymi badaniami 70% pracowników powiedziało, że są bardziej produktywni, kiedy pracują zdalnie. Natomiast połowa z tych pracowników powiedziała, że mogliby dalej poprawiać swoją wydajność w pracy zdalnej pod warunkiem, że ta praca zdalna stałaby się pracą na stałe a nie incydentalnie. 83% pracowników powiedziało (i to są wyniki badania opublikowane przez PWC) to 83% pracowników powiedziało, że praca została wdrożona z powodzeniem w ich organizacjach. Natomiast menedżerowie tych pracowników, zgodnie z badaniami PWC, to 20% tych przełożonych mówi że oczekuje tego że po Covidzie, w tej epoce post pandemicznej wrócą do pracy teraz stacjonarnej. Co oznacza, że 80% przełożonych, 80% menedżerów badanych przez PWC rozpatruje to, że po pandemii do pracy stacjonarnej już w ogóle nie wrócą. Ale jeżeli mówimy o takich rzeczach, które rozpraszają nas w trakcie pracy zdalnej, to pracownicy są bardziej wydajni. 41% pracowników mówi, że praca w domu zajmuje im mniej czasu niż praca w biurze. Jednakże jest to olbrzymie wyzwanie dla młodszych pracowników Młodsi pracownicy - tu pozwólcie, że posłużę się oczywiście Wikipedią - młodsi pracownicy to mówimy tutaj o pracownikach z pokolenia Z. Pokolenie Z są to osoby urodzone w drugiej połowie lat dziewięćdziesiątych i po roku 2000, czyli to są osoby, które mają około 25 lat może trochę mniej. Te, które wkraczają na rynek pracy I te osoby - blisko połowa z nich czuje się o wiele bardziej produktywna, pracując z domu. Natomiast 80% pracowników, którzy są starsi (pewnie to tacy jak ja) to 80% pracowników jest bardziej wydajnych. To pokazuje dosyć dużą różnicę, bo ci młodsi pracownicy równocześnie mają problem z izolacją, która pojawia się w trakcie pracy zdalnej. Zostało to zaraportowane w różnego rodzaju badaniach między innymi American Psychology Association, że ta generacja Z ma najwyższy poziom stresu spośród wszystkich grup wiekowych. 7 na 10 ludzi właśnie w wieku do 25 roku życia mówi, że przeżywa depresję i ma trudności w skupieniu się.

The Messy Bun Podcast
023 - Time Management

The Messy Bun Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 22, 2020 34:36


We're not sure there's ever been more pressure on our teens to figure out their own schedules and manage their time wisely than right now. Whatever your daughter is doing for school during a pandemic, chances are she needs to be on her A-game with her school work. ⁠Our teens balance school, work, music lessons, friends, family responsibilities, school responsibilities, sports teams, and who knows what else. It's tough! We've been doing a lot of research into simple ways to teach teens how to manage their time (hopefully without making them defensive). Listen in today to see what we've come up with.⁠   Benefits of good time management Reduced anxiety Increased responsibility Better decision-making skills More time for family and friends Better performance at work and school More time to relax  Important Life Skills to promote good time management Work smarter not harder Take care of yourself to have adequate energy Take brief but regular breaksRecognize the emotions you're feeling and how what impact it has on your efficiency Challenge the stories you tell ourself about events Don't multitask “Multitasking is a myth” Clarify your priorities Steps parents can take to teach good time management Be a good example Give them good tools Encourage them to write down their schedule Help them prioritize Help them figure out what is most important to them based on values and commitments Help them develop routines Avoid nagging  Set limits on electronics (In a perfect world, they'd do this themselves.) Encourage her to set goals Resources: Amy Morin, LCSW, Very Well Family. How to Teach Time Management Skills to Teens. https://www.verywellfamily.com/teaching-time-management-skills-to-teens-2608794  Tim Urban, Inside the Mind of a Master Procrastinator, Ted Talks, https://www.ted.com/talks/tim_urban_inside_the_mind_of_a_master_procrastinator?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare Important Life Skills to Promote Time Management, Instagram, @letstalkmanagement American Psychology Association, Mutlitasking: Switching Costs, https://www.apa.org/research/action/multitask Benjamin Mayo, How to Set a Time Limit for a Specific iphone App, https://9to5mac.com/2018/10/16/time-limit-app-limit-iphone-ipad/ Claire Gagne, 4 Parent-Tested Systems You Can Use to Limit Screen Time, https://www.todaysparent.com/family/parenting/parent-tested-systems-you-can-use-to-limit-screen-time/ Dread list, Instagram, @psych_today Ping Pong Object Lesson, https://youtu.be/Lpau5YXk46Y

Living With Less Podcast
Raising Godly Men in A World That Teaches Otherwise

Living With Less Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2020 26:39


This week I sit down with Shanda Fulbright as we dive into the topic of Raising Godly Men in A World That Teaches Otherwise. Shanda shares about how she and her husband navigate conversations with their sons from a biblical perspective. She points us to why we must teach our boys to be men of God because someone else will teach them otherwise. She reminds us to teach our boys what The Word says about what He calls them to: to lead, protect, and grow in their relationship with Him (to name a few.)*Next week I will be sitting down with Pam Lozano to talk about Raising Godly Women in a World That Teaches Otherwise.*1) Tell us about you!I am happily married to my husband o 19 years and together we have 3 boys: 17, 15, and 10. We live in the Central Valley in Ca. I am an ordained minster with the COG as well as a credentialed teacher. I felt the Lord leading me out of the church and into a new way of ministering and I started blogging 2 years ago. Last year I started a podcast called Her Faith Inspires where I really combat cultural Christianity with the Word of God. I currently teach online Bible studies and am hosting my first “How to study the Bible like a scholar class” which I anticipate being a repeat. 2) As a mom of boys - lets start with this - how have you seen culture attack our young boys, who become young men, who become grown men. What scriptures do you use to combat these lies from culture. This is a great question because I just heard this week that the American Psychology Association came out with an article that says that masculinity is harmful. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing so I went and read the article and sure enough, they are teaching psychologists how to treat men to suppress their masculinity. Feminism is another movement that has demoralized and put down men with the sole purpose of elevating women. We are currently hearing the message that the roles of men and women are interchangeable. We hear the message from Disney that girls are independent and strong and don’t need a man. It’s all about girl power, and while that message in isolation may not be a bad thing, it is always congruent with the message that boys have to suppress their masculinity. Our culture doesn’t celebrate manly traits. It’s clear in God’s word that God made a distinction in the male and female creation and I always go back to Genesis 1-3 with this argument, although it is in the new testament as well. I wrote a study called Reflections of Eve and I explain in depth the male and female roles. God gave the man specific jobs and duties and when the man fell short of this, God came looking for him to give an answer. God will never reverse or the mix the roles of the male and female. Society and culture may try but it won’t work because this is outside of God’s design. 3) I loved the episode you did with your husband about the attack on men (episode 25). How do you and your husband lead your boys in biblical truth?This is one I am big on as a parent. My first job is to teach inside my home. I will not gain the world and lose the opportunity to pour into the souls of my boys. With that said, we have devotionals and talk to them about God all of the time. I am currently teaching them apologetics curriculum because they go to a public school and are BOMBARDED with ideologies that conflict with biblical truth.I have taught them creeds by Voddie Bauchum to defend biblical truth and the scripture that goes with it. It is imperative that our kids know what they believe and why because I tell my boys all the time that faith is often tested … it’s truth and the quest for truth that stands. When one of my boys admits that they are struggling or doubting, I don’t fret. Truth sets us free and I know that’s what they want. Only God can reveal it to them, but I make sure they get it. I also encourage my older two to read their own bibles because they need to develop this disciple and relationship with the Lord on their own. There aren’t too many bible studies that are deep in spiritual truth so I just teach them from my own bible and we talk often about how to contend for the faith. 4) Tell everyone about your #boymom bible study! How has being a mom of boys grown your faith? What things have you learned about the heart of God that you wouldn’t otherwise?I wrote #Boymom because the Bible is full of them. Every man in the Bible has a mother who influenced their relationships with God and the call God plead on their lives. So, I took 8 moms in the Bible, even ones who made hellacious mistakes because we all do and we can learn from them, and I wrote this study for all of the boy moms like me who are running alongside our boys and cheering them on even when the world does not. I wanted girls. I cried when I found out I was having boy #1 and then boy #2. But God showed me several things:  He knows what we need more than we do.  He has called me to be an advocate for good men. I will not allow the world to brand my boys before they have a chance to become men. The call of a son is entangled in his mother. What I mean by that is Sampson’s mom had to commit to the Nazirite vow while he was in her womb. She had to make the commitment follow the Lord before her son ever did. Our call as a mother is so important and it is the highest call we will ever have. The corporate ladder, education or anything else pales in comparison to the impact a mother makes in the lives of her children. What I’ve learned about God:  He loves my boys more than I do.  He teaches me through them. When I see their hurts, their joys, their fears, I realize through glimpse  the relationship the Father has with me. 5) Something I see often is this attack on men to suppress the gifts God has given them.  As you train up your boys are there specific things you talk with them about in regards to what God calls them to be as follower of Christ?From the time my boys were very little I told them they are men of God. They will choose an occupation, become a husband and fathers one day, but first and foremost they are men of God. I tell them the kinds of things I pray of them: that they will grow in wisdom, stature and favor with God and man. I tell them they don’t have to have it all figured out because God knows the path they should take and will guide them. I tell them all the time that they need to have their own relationship with God and they have to come to the knowledge of the truth on their own. I tell them what I see they can be in Christ when they’re defeated. I remind them of God’s truth when they get fearful because this world bogs them down too. I speak truth into them all the time and teach them to call on the Lord with their own heart and mouth. 6) Something my husband and I often talk about is the lack of responsibility the current americanized christian movement has led men into. They don’t have much in the way of accountability to lead their families, share what God’s doing, and speak up on behalf of the gospel. I don’t believe its because they are weak - I believe its because they’ve not been taught. Can you share with those tuning in what God does command of our men and that it is different than what He commands of women women.God gave Adam the responsibility to tend and keep his home. To keep means to guard in Hebrew. Men are the watchmen of their homes. When I wrote #Boymom, I realized that God has asked men to do hard things. Paul wrote the chain of command in the word: God, Christ, husband, wife. The man will answer to God for the way he leads his family and home. As women, we must also remember that the husband is the only one in the relationship commanded by God to love his wife like Christ loves the church and to give himself up for her. That is the highest example of love we have. So, as a mother, I have to teach my boys their responsibility according to God’s word, AND allow him to do this when the time comes. That is also the call of a #Boymom … to let him leave me and cling to her. 7) The podcast was birthed from John 3:30, “He must increase, I must decrease”. If someone asked you what they needed to begin living with less of in regards to this what would you tell them and why? I would say more of Jesus means less of the world. We are bombarded with ideologies and information and it can bog us down and we carry these things around like baggage. The truth of God’s word sets us free and when we fill up on Him, those things fall away. As Christians, we must learn to read, pray and study the word of God. We must cling to it and fill out minds with it. More of Him means less of the world and that is the best way to live. 8) What is one of your fav bible verses and why!1 Cor 9:27 partly because I do crossfit and partly because I teach the word. “I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should, So that after preaching to others, I myself may not be disqualified."

Positively Midwest
EPISODE 40 - RYAN KEEL - WITH COLLEGE SMART - HOW PARENTS CAN POSITIVELY GET READY FOR COLLEGE?!

Positively Midwest

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 7, 2020 68:05


In this fancy #40 episode we talk with Ryan Keel owner-operator of College Smart. Generally he specializes in helping you as a parent and as a student to properly plan for college. Not just monetarily either, which we get into and it's quite interesting! We did have a little technical difficulty, but hey we are raw and organic! Check out more from them online at www.collegequickplans.com www.gocollegesmart.com Not to mention our kids are full of stress and I don't think we realize how much it is. I discuss a survey of 1,018 teenagers ages 13 - 17 by Harris Interactive on behalf of the American Psychology Association in August 3rd - 31st, 2013. These numbers have increased since then of course. So let's keep that in mind and learn how to have positive conversations with our kiddos! I might say this a lot, but this turned out to be a great episode! We hope you enjoy! Thank you all for your support! Follow us on Instagram and Facebook @ "Positively Midwest Podcast" Online @ www.positivelymidwest.com Please like, comment, share, and screenshot with all your cool friends! #staypositive --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/steve-jurrens/support

NCSA Mental Health Devotions
71. What to do with Anger

NCSA Mental Health Devotions

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 13, 2020 28:50


The American Psychology Association defines anger as: an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, or motivate you to find solutions to problems. But excessive anger can cause problems. Increased blood pressure and other physical changes associated with anger make it difficult to think straight and harm your physical and mental health. Ephesians 4:26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath

ephesians increased american psychology association
A Crime Story- International Crimes
Iceland's Reykjavik Confessions

A Crime Story- International Crimes

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 10, 2020 22:39


This week Kailin covers the disappearance of Gudmundur Einarsson and Geirfinnur Einarsson.  Sources for today's episode: Out of Thin Air, A true story of Impossible Murder in Iceland by Anthony Adeane, Buzzfeed's Unsolved Episode, The Suspicious Case of the Reykjavik Confessions, Index Mundi, scandinavianlaw.com, mbl.is, American Psychology Association, Psychology Today

Speak Your Mind
Classic Episode: Kristina Gets Candid About Therapy

Speak Your Mind

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 6, 2020 16:20


Hey friends! We're off this week as we try to get back into the swing of things after the extended holiday break. But we left you with a classic episode that you may have missed! For those of you who may be considering going back to therapy or trying out therapy for the first time, this episode is a must-listen if you're curious about the whole intake process. It's harmless, I promise!  Also, here are the resources that I mentioned in the episode for helping you to find a therapist in your area: 1. Zocdoc.com: On this website, you can enter your insurance information and your zip code to search for therapists in your area that are covered by your plan. 2. Your insurance company's website (Independence Blue Cross, Aetna, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, etc.): You can find this resource by doing a Google search for your insurance company3. APA Psychologist Locator: Run by the American Psychology Association, this website lists esteemed psychologists in your area and lists the insurance plans that they accept. From here you can also read reviews and email the providers directly to setup an appointment.  Intro Music: "I Wanna Get Better" by the BleachersTransition Music: "Better" by Regina Spektor 

Learning on Fire
What is happening for me? with Lucia Giovannini. LF047

Learning on Fire

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2019 54:20


Lucia Giovannini joins me on the Learning on Fire podcast and explores the most important learning and educational moments that shaped her life. Our guest – Lucia Giovannini   (https://www.educationonfire.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/lucia-standing-min.jpg)                   Lucia Giovannini is world renowned sensation, former international Italian supermodel – turned transformational speaker and author of 13 books. Her 25 years of inspiring work through conferences & workshops globally has been inspired by growing up throughout different parts of Italy and Africa, immersed in the beauty and the pain of those unforgettable lands. Her work crafts a synergy between traditional psychological techniques, motivational practices and ancient eastern rituals that turn her seminars into profound experiences for the audiences in Asia + Europe alike. Lucia has been defined “the Italian Louise Hay” by prestigious media like Marie France Asia, The times of India and La Stampa, transforming audiences through her teachings, workshops, retreats, meditations, & books globally through overcoming limiting beliefs and fears to live a whole new life. Lucia Giovannini’s internationally acclaimed book A Whole New Life, which has been translated into more than 8 languages globally, is available also in the English, in the US and worldwide, by Post Hill Press, a Simon & Schuster imprint. Coherent with her personal philosophy, Lucia has a passionate advocacy for animal rights and veganism as a way of life. She lives with her husband Nicola, and her dog Caligola between Bali, Thailand, and Italy. Lucia is a Doctor in Psychology and Counselling and a Bachelor in Psycho-Anthropology, an international affiliate of the American Psychology Association. Questions asked on the Learning on Fire Podcast Interview 1. Who are you? 2. What does your life look like now and how is it different from when you were growing up? 3. What was valuable about your school experience? 4. Which teachers do you remember and why? 5. Who did you admire when you were young? 6. What was it about that person that had such an impact? 7. What was the best piece of advice you have ever been given and who gave it to you? 8. What advice would you give your younger self? 9. What does your future look like? 10. What podcast, book, video, film, song or other resource has had the biggest impact on your life and why?   Website www.luciagiovannini.com (http://www.luciagiovannini.com/)   Social media information  https://www.facebook.com/groups/awholenewlife/ (https://www.facebook.com/groups/awholenewlife/) https://www.facebook.com/lucia.giovannini/  (https://www.facebook.com/lucia.giovannini/) https://www.instagram.com/lucia_giovannini/?hl=en (https://www.instagram.com/lucia_giovannini/?hl=en)   Resources mentioned The Beatles (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Beatles) Autobiography of a Yogi – Paramahansa Yogananda (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autobiography-Yogi-Paramahansa-Yogananda/dp/0876120796)    

The Drug Classroom
14 - Dr. Rick Barnett on Why Psychologists Should Be Able to Prescribe Medications

The Drug Classroom

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 6, 2019 56:15


Dr. Rick Barnett is a psychologist with a doctorate in psychology and a master's degree in clinical psychopharmacology. He owns a private mental health practice in Vermont called BPS Health, LLC and is also President-Elect of the American Psychology Association's Division 55 (American Society for the Advancement of Pharmacotherapy). He is currently advocating in favor of legislation in Vermont that would grant doctorate-level psychologists the ability to prescribe psychiatric medications. In this episode we discuss that proposal and the potential impact of letting psychologists prescribe medications. Additionally, we talk about psychiatric medicine prescribing in general and as it relates to addiction treatment. Dr. Barnett is active on Twitter: @drrickbarnett BPS Health, LLC: https://bpshealth.com/ ---- How you can support TDC: https://thedrugclassroom.com/support/ ---- Music credit: Lee Rosevere (BY)

Speak Your Mind
Mental Health Monday: Kristina Gets Candid About Therapy

Speak Your Mind

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2019 16:21


Hey friends! Last week, our host Kristina went back to therapy for the first time in over 3 years. For those of you who may be considering going back to therapy or trying out therapy for the first time, this episode is a must-listen if you're curious about the whole intake process. It's harmless, I promise!  Also, here are the resources that I mentioned in the episode for helping you to find a therapist in your area: 1. Zocdoc.com: On this website, you can enter your insurance information and your zip code to search for therapists in your area that are covered by your plan. 2. Your insurance company's website (Independence Blue Cross, Aetna, Blue Cross/Blue Shield, etc.): You can find this resource by doing a Google search for your insurance company3. APA Psychologist Locator: Run by the American Psychology Association, this website lists esteemed psychologists in your area and lists the insurance plans that they accept. From here you can also read reviews and email the providers directly to setup an appointment. 

Happiness Patterns: the Male Approach to Love and Life
Origins of Anger and Passion with Prem Sambhavo, PhD

Happiness Patterns: the Male Approach to Love and Life

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 29, 2019 33:30


Today's conversation is with Prem Sambhavo: a therapist, meditator and teacher. He has bachelors, masters and doctoral degrees in clinical psychology, presented with honours in Italy, from University of Padua and Bologna. Moreover he is a member of the American Psychology Association and European Federation of Psychologists.His doctoral dissertation explored the negative effects of beliefs and injunctions given to the child from parents, religion and educational school system.In today's episode we discuss why psychology is often not enough for personal transformation and healing and how All Our Today's Ways are coming from our childhood and also how openness can be your ultimate weapon and how you make your life more passionate.Learn more about Sambhavo and his work.http://sambhavo.com/Contact us: info@happinesspatterns.comFind us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/happinesspatterns/Rate and review us on iTunes:https://apple.co/2IrmXIQ

The Dick Show
Episode 137 - Dick on Thinkery

The Dick Show

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 15, 2019 206:39


The American Psychology Association vs. Men, Bum DNA, Early adopters, MLK the supervillain, Lior Lessor AKA YouTuber Law and The FTC vs. Patreon and PayPal and the entire banking system, Crippled Jesus vs. Digibro's wife, and Ethan Ralph from The Ralph Retort calls in; all that and more this week on The Dick Show!

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iCreateDaily Podcast
Creativity and Consciousness with Mark Gober

iCreateDaily Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 30, 2018 45:18


We loved talking consciousness with Mark Gober! Consciousness is after all, the source of all our creativity. We hope you'll find this interview as interesting and intriguing as we did. Mark Gober is an author whose worldview was turned upside down in late 2016 when he learned of phenomena that threaten the prevailing view in science that consciousness comes from the brain. After researching extensively for nearly a year, Mark became convinced that a paradigm shift was in order: biology does not produce consciousness; rather, consciousness produces biology. Mark is a Partner at Sherpa Technology Group, a firm that advises businesses on mergers & acquisitions and strategy. He previously worked as an investment banking analyst in New York. Mark has been quoted for his opinions on business and technology matters in Bloomberg Businessweek and elsewhere, and has authored internationally published business articles. He graduated magna cum laude from Princeton University, where he was captain of the tennis team. Mark also represents 2-time Nobel Peace Prize nominee Dr. Ervin Laszlo's Institute of New Paradigm Research as Director of Corporate Relations. https://icreatedailypodcast.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Mark-Gober-End-of-Upside-Down-Thinking.jpg () Mark's Journey into Consciousness StudiesMark Gober's journey led him to write the book: “An End to Upside Down Thinking: Dispelling the Myth that the Brain Produces Consciousness” where he explores compelling scientific evidence from a diverse set of disciplines, ranging from psychic phenomena to near-death experiences, to quantum physics and beyond. Mark's book and message connects strongly with us from our personal interests and experience, but also as and for creators. Creativity begins in consciousness, and then precipitates ideas to our brain. In this interview we discuss:How a wall street finance guy got into consciousness studies Mark's year of deep research How quickly Mark wrote his book and found an agent and publisher Creativity and consciousness The number two question that remains in all of science Mark's left brain / right brain process of creativity What's essential for flow state Mark's journey into uncertain territory Thought leaders and researchers in the field of consciousness Epigenetics and consciousness Long hidden CIA documents, recently opened Research the American Psychology Association has published on psychokinesis, telepathy and other consciousness phenomena Since the interview, I've listened to Mark's audiobook and Devani is reading the hardcover version of his book and loving it. “I believe you must be radically open minded.”~Ray Dalio, in his book, https://www.amazon.com/Simon-Schuster-Audio-Principles-Life/dp/B074B2CZJG/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&qid=1540864090&sr=8-3&keywords=principles+ray+dalio&linkCode=ll1&tag=icd-p-20&linkId=583bd1bf92b44be2f4293fbcaa715cdb&language=en_US (Principles)“The universe of that which we do not know—for me personally—has grown as a result of learning more.”~Mark Gober, merger & acquisitions strategist, researcher, author, speaker“For me now, it's that my identity is tied to my consciousness and the body is a vehicle for experience.”~Mark Gober, merger & acquisitions strategist, researcher, author, speaker“We are biased by what we can see and hear, and we're seeing and hearing separation, so that is biasing us on a daily basis.”~Mark Gober, merger & acquisitions strategist, researcher, author, speakerResources:https://www.amazon.com/End-Upside-Down-Thinking-Consciousness/dp/1947637851/ref=as_li_ss_tl?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1540863765&sr=8-1&linkCode=ll1&tag=icd-p-20&linkId=b12467a69ff53f493e8c672becb331be&language=en_US (Mark Gober's Book: An End to Upside Down Thinking) https://markgober.com/ (Mark Gober's Website) https://www.flowconsciousnessinstitute.com/ (Flow Consciousness Institute)...

#WeGotGoals
What We’ve Learned About Success from Talking About Failure

#WeGotGoals

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2018 36:22


Some of the best athletes in the world. Founders and CEOs. Authors of bestselling books, internationally known fitness gurus, even reality television stars. For 62 episodes now, we on the #WeGotGoals team have had the good fortune to interview some pretty impressive individuals. We’ve learned so much about what’s powered them to the top (and we hope you have, too!). But the more goal-getters we talked with, the more something dawned on us. Nearly every single one of them had a failure story, a way they fell short en route to what they viewed as their biggest high. What’s more, they nearly all volunteered to share it with us in a conversation about what was most essential to their achievements. So co-hosts Jeana Anderson Cohen, Maggie Umberger, Kristen Geil and I took a moment to do another guest-less but host-ful episode--we’ll be recording one of these every month or so from now on--to discuss what these failure stories taught us about resilience. Resilience--something Cohen admits she’s “kind of obsessed with” lately--amounts to the ability to recover quickly from difficulties, adapt to shifting circumstances, and thrive despite, or perhaps even because of, setbacks. What enables some people to emerge triumphant from situations that would crush a normal human? Our guests offer us clues. Some leaned on a support network, others took the opportunity to reflect and refocus, and a few stayed laser-focused on a bigger, long-term goal. All, it seems, had incorporated their failures into the narratives that made them the high achievers they are today. We talked through some of the failures that stood out for us over the past year-plus of episodes. For me, it was when Dr. Ari Levy failed his medical boards--then retook them, and now owns a successful practice, SHIFT. Or when Kathrine Switzer nearly got pulled off the course at the 1967 Boston Marathon, but chose to finish instead, and make history. Cohen contrasts these with the story of Lee Kemp. The wrestler made the U.S. Olympic team in 1980; then, the country boycotted the Games. That failure was beyond his control and irreconcilable, and still fuels the way he lives his life today. The setback that stood out for Geil was Jessica Zweig, who’s now the founder and CEO of the SimplyBe agency. Before that, she co-founded Cheeky Chicago--and from all outward appearances, was hugely successful. But inside, she felt so conflicted she eventually became physically sick. For Umberger, Stephanie Johnson’s tale of applying for Survivor for17 years straight--and ultimately getting kicked off before the merge--highlighted the way success and failure aren’t always necessarily black and white. And Maaria Mozaffar, who failed the bar exam five times before moving on to succeed as a civil rights attorney, author, and activist, showed just how powerful persistence can truly be. In the midst of reflecting on what we’d heard from our guests, we shared our own failure stories--career aspirations gone awry, opportunities missed, times we felt like fish out of water. I think we’d all agree those experiences shaped us and led us to where we are today (a spot we all seem pretty pleased with). And, we discussed the ways we’ll continue to build self-care and coping skills into our daily lives so we can nurture our resistance and boost others up along the way. A few things we brought up: The book Grit, by Angela Duckworth The Mind Body Soul challenge on the Sweatworking App Ira Glass on the taste gap Have a failure story of your own? We’d love to hear it. Share it with us in the comments, or--better yet--record a voice memo and send it to cindy@asweatlife.com. You could be featured on #WeGotGoals in the future. Listen to the full episode anywhere you get your podcasts—including, now, on Spotify! If you like what you hear, please help us spread the word by leaving a rating or a review. And stick around until the end of the episode, where you’ll hear a goal from one of you, our listeners. --- [0:00] Jeana: Welcome to We Got Goals, a podcast by ASweatLife.com on which we talk to high achievers about their goals. But this week we are talking about past episodes of Goals and most notably about failure and resilience. I’m Jeana Anderson Cohen, with me I have Cindy Kuzma, Maggie Umberger, and Kristen Gial. Woman 1: Morning Jeana. Woman 2: Hello. Woman 3: Hi. Jeana: So I know that we all have a lot of episodes that were our favorites. And a lot of guests who were highly motivational and have gone through a lot of things. And we wanted to take this time on this week’s episode to talk through those guests. So Cindy, can you tell me about a guest who failed, got back up, that resonated with you. Cindy: Oh my gosh, well I mean the first thing that really struck me when talking about this topic was, I kind of thought back through all the episodes, and pulled out some of the notable failures and there's so many and just that pure volume is really encouraging. Because we have some darn impressive people on the show and almost every single one of them has a failure story and some of them are huge failure stories. It’s just a part of success. And that in and of itself was just something that stuck me when as I was thinking about this. One of the individual failure stories that spoke to me a lot was way back to, I think it was maybe episode 5 or 6. Dr. Ari Levy, now he’s a physician, he owns his own medical practice. Sort of a holistic health practice here in Chicago, Shift.  But he failed his medical boards the first time he took them. And what really struck me about that story was that he realized that it wasn’t. You know it’s one thing to kind of fail when you take a step too far or when you’re really ambitious. And you’re aren’t quite ready for the next challenge. But he realized he failed because he didn’t do the work. He didn’t study enough, he didn’t prepare, he didn’t dedicate the time. And so he had an extra layer of shame and guilt on top of his just plain failing the medical boards. And then with that comes all the questions of what’s going to happen to my career, am I going to lose my job, am I ever going to be a successful physician when I can’t even pass this exam. What he did next, that struck me again was despite that shame and guilt, he really leaned on his support network. And we all need to do that when we fail but sometimes it's extra hard when we kind of realize that we contributed to our own failure. We're so still deserving of that support and we need to reach out to people, kind of get past ourselves, get past that shame and guilt. And connect with the people who care about us regardless of whether we failed because we tried our best and just couldn’t make it or whether we failed because we realized that we maybe could have tried a little bit harder. And then, you know, he harnessed his support system and needed them to take the next step. Which was to retake the exam. And, you know, he had to study when he was like planning his wedding so he really had to rely on the support of people like his fiance, now his wife, to help guide him through that. The end result we know now is he passed, he has a successful practice. Just I took so much from that difference between being disappointed in an outcome and being disappointed in yourself. There are differences between those but you can come back from either one of those. Jeana: And I mean talk about having to get over yourself in order to move forward. Like, what you’re saying in leaning on somebody. It requires you owning up to and really acknowledging those mistakes or failures. And I think that also resonates with me because in general when we mess up we want to quickly get back on our feet and just do the right thing or try to right the wrong without maybe acknowledging, like okay this is was a mistake, what do I have to learn from it. And he probably, you know, took that time to really like learn something from it versus just going forward, powering on, almost like getting up too quickly, I guess without without taking the time to internalize and figure out what there is to learn from the mistake, the stumble, the failure, whatever you want to call it. So yeah I resonate with that as well Cindy. Cindy: Jeana, was there a particular story that stood out to you? [4:21] Jeana: Well I think sort of bouncing off of Ari’s story, Lee Kemp is sort of on the flipside. Ari  knew that his failure he sort of had a part in. He could fix it himself and he caused it in some way, himself. And he took power over that. On the flipside there is Lee Kemp who qualified for the US Olympics and the United States subsequently boycotted the Olympics, the year that he qualified. So to him it was completely out of his hands. He did the work, he tried his hardest and he was totally powerless in that situation. And if you go back and listen to the episode, today he is still not over it. Because of the fact that he couldn’t do anything to rectify it. He’s taken power of his life in a lot of other ways. He’s taken power of his life in speaking to people and he’s really channeled that energy into doing good for the world. But he wasn’t able to go back and undo it. And he wasn’t able to get that original goal. And I think that’s the interesting part of it. Is that sometimes you can go through something hard and still achieve your original goal. And sometimes you go through something hard and you have to change course because there is no other choice. So I think that’s sort of the comparison and the contrast here. Lee Kemp is an amazing athlete, he’s an amazing father, now he’s an amazing coach, speaker and author. But those weren’t probably things that he thought would be his path. At the beginning, at the onset. Cindy: That’s interesting. It’s interesting to think about what resilience means in that context. And what does it mean to kind of let go and accept that past outcome. I mean clearly he has moved on and had incredible success but as you say, there is still a piece of him that still feels that loss. And how do you kind of rectify that? And does it matter ultimately to your future success? Is there some value maybe in hanging onto a little bit of that past regret to fuel you, I wonder. I don’t know, what do you guys think? Maggie: I think this is a really cool example of how success, failure, it’s not black or white. That’s one of the biggest takeaways that I think I’ve gotten from a lot of our guests. Is that there are points of success and points of failure. And sometimes, they’re intermixed and intertwined. And it’s just part of life and it’s almost like the story that you create around it that is what fuels you to go forward. And it isn’t the action or the thing that happens it’s the thing that happens next. And how you handle, how you react to whatever does happen. Kristen: My story that resonated with me is a little bit different than the one that you guys put forward. I was really drawn to Jessica Zweig’s story in episode 40 and her failure wasn't so much a business failure or you know not reaching a certain goal she had set. But it was the fact that she was suffering from a chronic illness so severe that she had to have surgery. And on the inside that's what was happening but on the outside she looks like a highly successful person to everybody else. And I think about that contrast a lot because I'm pretty sure that's something that everyone in this room has experienced it one point or the other. It's that old saying about how like a duck looks so calm floating on water but then underneath its feet are like furiously peddling. And you can't see all the churning and all the work that's happening to try and just keep that duck afloat. And so Jessica, to give a little bit of a background if you haven't heard this episode. She was running Cheeky Chicago. She had a great brand. She had a great team. She was very well known throughout Chicago and was doing amazing. But inside she was really suffering and she was putting herself through the ringer. And ended up really needing to take a step back and take time off. And eventually, she ended up leaving Cheeky Chicago and eventually she started her own personal branding company, SimplyBe. But that’s just something that I think about a lot. It’s just she looked so successful to everybody else, she looked like she was the epitome of one of the goal setting, high achievers we talk about. But inside she felt like she was failing and just that contrast is something that I think affects a lot of us more than we realize or more that we are comfortable talking about. Jeana: I mean that's so true with the the world that is social media now. That we're only showing the highlights or mostly showing the highlights. Or even when we talk about the struggles, we talk about them from you know the lens of a really pretty photo that presents what the struggle is going to be built beneath it. And I think everyone, everywhere can relate to that on some level. Whether it's you're the person who is feeling those feelings of like ahh, I'm really struggling even though I’m going to post this beautiful photo. Or you're the person kind of scrolling through your social channels and you're feeling like why am I the only one that feels left out of this perfect world. Maggie: I think the thing about all of this is it makes it hard to feel like anybody else has failed. Because people don't talk about about their failures as much. So when we’re posting our highlight reels. And we’re guilty of this to at A Sweat Life. When we’re posting our highlight reels. It’s hard to know what else is happening. So I think the world around us and we as well, need to be better about saying what we are going through. And what failures it took or how many failures or the mountain of failures that came before to lead to whatever it you’re showing people. Because we owe it to each other to be honest about the experience that it took to get to whatever mountaintop your shouting from. [9:58] Cindy: And I think equally important too is to kind of give some shout-outs along the way on the mountaintop. There was recently an article on Runner’s World, I didn’t write it. But a runner, an elite runner talked about the fact that she was having a relapse of her eating disorder. And she posted in the middle of it. And she’s like this is unusual. Usually you hear the after I beat this, everything is great now. I went through struggle but here I am on the other side. Which is I think, critical. We need those messages. We need hope and we need to know that even when people are successful, they have gone through struggles along the way. But we also need to be able to stand with each other in those struggles a little bit more, I think. And some openness along the way and showing people what it's actually like in the moment. That if we had a little bit more of that, it would be interesting to see how that affected everyone's viewpoints on all of this. So we can maybe get a glimpse of those legs paddling while the duck was still in the water and not just when it was, you know, flying through the air sitting on the shore. Maggie: Going back to that idea of failure/success not being black and white. One of the stories that we've gotten to share, Kristen was when you interviewed Stephanie from Survivor. She worked so hard, she had this crazy story of trying to get on Survivor. That was a huge goal for her. She applied 17 times and eventually got on the show only to be voted off without getting to the very end. And I think about the stories that we hear. Sometimes these big massive failure stories that turn into success. That's not always a really massive failure or a really massive success on either spectrum. It sometimes just part of life that feels off or feels kind of good. And I think one of my stories of failure is one of those where it was kind of a success but kind of a failure. I don't really know. It's just kind of like how I interpret the way that I left my first job and moved into my second one. Cindy: I'm intrigued Maggie, talk more about your own failure story. Maggie: Well, so when I originally thought I was going to go into advertising. I felt like I had this really cool story of going into my first career where I was not initially asked back for the interview and I kept calling the ad agency saying I would really like this interview. I think that would really do great things at this company. And they eventually called me back as sort of a last minute, someone cancelled. Okay I guess we'll bring her in and then they ended up really liking me and bringing me on board for this program. And I was like oh my god, this is going to be the launching point of being the underdog and then doing great in this career. And then I kind of missed the mark and I was like not doing the things that I thought I was going to be able to do. I had the opportunity to work on a global account where there were not a lot of other planners. And I really wanted to show that I was so good at what I was doing that oh my god she should be promoted to senior planner right away. It was like the opportunity to do really great and then I just was like in over my head. I didn't get to produce the work that I wanted to when I was there. And I battled kind of with myself. Am I not cut out for this because I'm not smart enough for this or is this not really my calling that I thought it was. And so I kind struggled with like, how much do I just keep treading water to do this thing that I set out to do. Or is not that I'm not smart and that it's just I'm kind of pushing my energy in the wrong direction. And so I kind of toyed with that for like a year. Of just feeling like stuck and not sure why and not sure if I quit, if quitting really was quitting and giving up. Or if it was changing course because that's what I felt like I was more called to do and I chose to shift the course. And I still think about that time in those days when I was working really hard but not feeling like I was producing good work and it sort of does feel like a failure. I was like I really wanted to leave a better mark on that time. And it didn't pan out that way but I wouldn't have traded that decision for anything because I am in a much better place now. And so I know that I learned a lot from that. But I haven't really told that story or thought about it until we started thinking about these other failure stories and that black and white. And so I kind of for the first time really acknowledged that kind of feels like a failure but it also feels like a success. So it's like this weird balance for me. [14:26] Kristen: Maggie, our stories are super similar. So I'm going to jump in here too. The job that I was at before this, I was hired as an in house copywriter. So I was working on digital marketing stuff for a company that made travel mugs and water bottles. And it was great, and comfortable and right in my wheel house and I felt like I was doing good things. And then of course something happens and the company gets acquired. And everything changes as soon as your feeling great. And the decision they made was that all copywriters would be located in Hoboken, New Jersey. So I had a few options at this point. I could move to Hoboken which was never really an option. I could take a layoff or my manager really wanted to keep my around. She was like well we have positions opening in this office working on displays. Which like literally that means the things that you see in drug stores and grocery stores that hold our water bottles and travel mugs. And they needed people to be like helping create the displays and work with manufacturers and procurement and supplies. And I was like alright, I'm a reasonably smart person. I should be able to figure this out. How hard can it be if all these other people in the office are doing it too. And I started and it was awful. I had the most anxiety going into work every single day and opening my email would give me anxiety. And I just absolutely hated every single aspect of it. To the point where I would not do anything because I was too afraid to take a step in the wrong direction. And so I would just ignore emails and put off responding to them. Or I would leave a meeting and deliberately not do the action items that I was supposed to. And that went on for a little while and eventually I was like this is not working. I am taking this layoff. Get me out of here. And even though it felt like such a failure at the time, I definitely called my dad crying and upset that I felt like how could I not get this? I'm a smart person, this should not be that hard. It just wasn't even what I wanted to be doing. So eventually I took that layoff and it was the best thing. And that's what led to me doing this podcast. I reached out to you guys about working on the podcast when I was in that period and eventually it set the stage for me to doing some freelance work and building my skills as a writer. And led me here eventually. I feel like it's not really a failure. It was more like a test drive that you could back off from pretty easily. So that god I am not working on displays. Maggie: Kristen, I never knew that part of your story. And working with you now, I just think like oh my god she's so good at her job. I never would assume you would feel like you were bad at your job and I think that's the point of conversation that we don't always have with our coworkers, with our friends. We have a view of someone else and that's just the story you tell yourself and you just don't know the whole story, you don't know the whole picture. So A, thank you for sharing that. And it's just cool because I'm sure everybody has that moment of like ugh, they're perfect or ugh they do everything right to their bosses, to their friends, to their family. And we just don't have the whole story ever. Jeana: I also think it's interesting because Kristen and I. Or mostly I [...] Kristen's sister. So Kristen's sister is entering her career, first time, first job within a similar position to Maggie. Where she was entry level, not really. I mean everyone goes through work before they get to their first job. But I wanted to dole out a piece of advice to Kristen's sister, Rachel, before she figured it out for herself. Because I think everyone deserves to know this before they find it out themselves that you're going to feel bad at your first job, no matter what. You're going to spend months, maybe years feeling like your not as smart as you were before. Feeling like someone else can do it better and just feeling beaten down. Based on what I've seen other people say, based on my own experiences. And I feel like people need to tell college graduates this more. I don't think it's maybe the best graduation speech. But I do think graduate, entry-level employees deserve to know that there not going to feel maybe like their best selves for a little bit. Because they will be surrounded by other people who can teach them and that's the opportunity, is to learn and look at that as the opportunity to find new information. To maybe be humbled a little bit. But it's so hard to do because you come from a world where you're maybe in leadership roles, where you're the best at everything you do, you were the top of your class and suddenly you're surrounded by people with ten years of experience beyond what you have. And that's tough but it's also an opportunity. Cindy: And I think it's interesting in creative fields too because you also get into this, I've heard [...] of this American Life talk about it before. When you're quality standards, you kind of recognize what's good and what isn't. And you realize you're not actually capable of producing something good yet. That you can watch something, you can listen to something, you can read something and recognize this is quality work. And then you can look at what you're doing and you're like this is, this is not there yet. But you don't really know how to bridge that gap and there's going to be quite some time before you get the experience required to get to the level of quality that you know is what is demanded of you or what you really appreciate about other people's works. So I think that's an extra layer of challenge that I think we all face as we continue to go through our careers too. And appreciate the work of our peers and mentors and people we look up to in our fields. [19:57] Jeana: It also takes recognizing your own progress too. And just looking back and saying here's where I was, here's what I was doing and here's the work I'm producing now, wow that's better. If I look back and read a piece I wrote in college, I had no voice at all. And now I read what I write and I enjoy my own voice. Which is a silly thing to say but I like reading my own work back now. Which is fun. Cindy: What I think is interesting about both of your stories Kristen and Maggie is that point where you have to define success for yourself and how do you know when you're letting yourself down versus when you would be better served to move in a different direction. I think that takes some serious self-reflection and I don't know, Jeana have you been in a situation where you had that kind of a struggle and how did you kind of deal with that? Jeana: Have I ever? So I think there are a couple of key points in my career where I felt knocked down. And knocked down is probably the best way to put it. Early on, my first interview I was dead set on working in PR and advertising but I didn't, I don't think I really knew what it was or what I would be doing in particular. I ended up doing social media for large brands for the bulk of my sort of agency life. Which was super fun but over sort of the time I spent in agency world, I always felt like I wasn't a fit. I felt like I was a fish out of water. And what I've learned is that a fish out of water either must change to fit the world or the world must change to fit the fish. There is no other way that that story can end. So I wasn't ready to change to fit the world, so I left it. But I did spend a lot of time in the agency world learning from it. Learning to be better at the work I put out, learning to be more of a perfectionist, learning to take my time on doing good work and really learning what good client-facing work and PowerPoints looked like. Which sounds silly but we actually do produce a lot of PowerPoint decks at A Sweat Life. And I thank I thank you very much agency world for that skill but the cultural thing was never right for me so I sort of had to make a choice to leave that world and focus entirely on A Sweat Life where we can form our own culture. Cindy: That's such a sophisticated view and it's really I think if you can make that shift while you're in the while you're in the middle of a situation, how powerful is that? It makes me think of about Katherine Switzer, which is another kind of failure story that stood out for me. You know, think about this, she was the first woman to ever officially run the Boston Marathon and the way she tells the story, she signed up with her initials K.B. Switzer not because she was trying to fool anyone. Even though there had never been a woman officially running the marathon before she checked the rules it didn't say woman could run it. She didn't think she was really doing anything wrong and then she signs up for the race, she gets there, everyone around is nice. She starts the race and then mile two the race director comes at comes at her at her, leaps at her out of a truck and is like "What are you doing? Give me that number!" I'm sure it wasn't quite so clean even. And if you can imagine, you thought you were following the rules and then suddenly someone came along and was like you did everything wrong and the shame and the guilt that she felt in that moment, really made her almost want to quit. And she almost did. But she really quickly realized the opportunity that okay actually I need to finish this race of people believe that women can do it  and then soon after. That moment changed her whole life. Those photographers went viral as things could in, you know, the 1960s. And you know, she has since then become a true activist. And her entire life, now she's in her seventies. She has been one of the figureheads for the entire women's running movement. So it seems like the more quickly you can distinguish between the parts of if that are true failure or the parts of it that are kind of beyond your control and the parts of it that you can take and apply to something else in your life, the more success you can have in the long run. Jeana: And just building off of that point, Cindy. You know, Maaria Mozaffar who is a political activist failed the bar five times. So she had this vision of this is what I want to do and I think that's something that a lot of our guests have had. It's like this intuition and this gut feeling of this is right and this what I want to be doing. And then any failure along the way is just a little hurdle to get over, a stumble to get over but that is worth it. And the converse side of that we're talking about is when the failure presents itself that shows that like maybe I'm in the wrong place. I've got to shift direction. There's like that intuition, gut telling you to move somewhere else versus whatever those stumbles are along the way. It's just making me stronger to get to that vision. Have you experienced either one of those, like that intuition telling you yes or that intuition telling you maybe no? [24:48] Cindy: That's interesting. That actually leads into my failure story a little bit. Because what I think of as one of my bigger failures in the past few years was the failure to give myself an opportunity that I felt like I should have. I am a freelance writer and I've collaborated on one book before. And I had someone approach me about writing a book of my own that had to do with running which is my favorite topic. And you know I was really excited about it. And I talked about it. And I worked with this person. And you know it got to the point where I had to make a decision and I got advice from other people. And I kind of, you know, wasn't sure because of some things that had to do with the business aspects of it. And I ultimately ended up turning that opportunity down. For reasons that were, some of them were really solid at the time and some of them probably were more related to fear and self-doubt. And, you know, I kind of walked away from it, I felt fine about it. And then they got someone else to write this book. And then when I saw the book come out, I had really severe emotional gut reaction that I was not expecting. It really caught me off guard. I suddenly started to feel like I had walked away from an opportunity that I would never get again. That it was just you know a totally wrong decision and that I had just blown it. I hadn't even given myself the chance to see what I could do with it. So again, you can't go back and fix the past. But what I learned from that was maybe I needed to trust my intuition a little bit more. That even though there are people telling me okay, you have these solid business reasons for not doing this particular thing. But sometimes your gut just has to kind of win out over that. And it also taught me that I really wanted my name on the cover of a book. And so you know, I took that and I pursued that and I collaborated with a new collaborator and now I'm working on a new book that will have my name on the cover and hers. And it's something that I'm really proud of and excited about. And I can't wait to see it come out. So, you know, it took some hard work and some tears to get there but I did feel like I was able to access that. And it did it was like a course correction and it taught me to that it maybe I did need to trust my intuition a little bit more and sometimes it's hard to do. Maggie: That is like the epitome of resilience to me. We talk about resilience in the face of things happening to you and how do you recover, come back from them. And we talk about resilience when you make a mistake and then you have to kind of course correct from that. And then there's the kind of resilience where, you know, you don't act and then you have to kind of navigate the waters around what did or didn't happen after inaction. And I think these are all three different things that happen in our lives all the time but resilience is that thing. It is the ability to grow from it. To notice that time when you're in that churn, when you're in the struggle and not just passively think okay this will soon be over, this too shall pass. But to find the moments that you can learn from, to forgive yourself, immediate forgiveness for whatever has to be, whatever you have to do to feel right for yourself and by yourself. And then to move forward into a more positive place. And that can happen in a short amount of time, it can take years like with Lee Kemp. All of these stories, it's different ways that resilience comes about. But all of our incredible guests have this gut that I think is super strong. And I think that is the essence of resilience to me. Kristen: Yeah, and to really hammer home one of the points that you just made. Jeana and I were talking yesterday about our failure stories and you know, what we were going to talk about on podcast today. And I was telling her, like my memory must just suck because I don't know what I'm going to talk about. Like I can't really think of a failure to choose. And I know I've definitely failed but I'm having a really hard time remembering specific instances. And she looked at me and she was like that's because your resilient. And that's a really interesting interpretation. That I honestly felt like a light bulb had gone off over my head. It was like oh, it's not that I've never failed. It's just that my perspective has shifted. And maybe resilience isn't something that you recognize in the moment or that can even happen right away. It's definitely a time intensive course of action. So Jeana, I know you've been reading about resilience a lot lately. And learning a lot about it. [28:52] Jeana: I'm sort of obsessed with it. So I'm going to read one sentence: "A pair of researchers found that resilience was defined most as the ability to recover from setbacks, adaptable to change and to keep going in the face of adversity." And that was reported in the Harvard Business Review. And what's most important about that is that it's all of the things that Maggie just talked about. It's setbacks, it's actual failure. It's things just not going your way. So I think failure can be defined in a lot of buckets. Choosing to see it as failure is one thing, choosing to see it as a course correction is another thing. I think I've always chosen to see anything going wrong as an opportunity. Which might just be my internal optimism but it also be resilience. Which you can also [...], which is very interesting. So Angela Duckworth wrote the book Grit, and she wrote a lot about gritty parenting, how to be more gritty yourself and how to just define your own grittiness. Her book Grit is worth a read. Resilience in general though is a big, big link to happiness. People who can go through setback and failures and find a way out tend to be happier, science shows that. And resilience is linked to happiness because it also tends to be linked to habits and outlooks that lead you to be happier in general. I know we did a full happiness mantra on the sweat working app linked to resilience. And we created what call the resilience toolkit. If you want to do this exercise at home, you can create your own sort of endorphin building practice that can help you mentally as well as physically pull yourself out of that moment of failure. And there are a couple other things that you can do we'll link to that sort of mantra building in the show notes too. Maggie: And I'll just tack onto the last thing that you said Jeana. When you mentioned how it's resilience is linked to happiness because sort of the habits that you build. And I think there's another link to American Psychology Association that says that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. Because it happens everyday. So it's like creating the habits that you can trust. That you, that you will that work for you. Whether it is you know, just a workout everyday, a workout in the morning or workout at night, whatever routine fits your model best. That you can lean on when you need it. And it's like creating the tools like you're saying to build yourself back up when you're faltering. Because those ebbs and flows of life are constantly happening. And I should practice what I preach because I will let those ebbs and flows kind of affect me on a daily basis or on a weekly basis. That I think that's a place for me where I can start to hone those skills a little bit more is finding whether it's a mediation in the morning, or a walk without my phone. Taking the time, carving it out that would really help me build those habits and kind of insert resilience here. Cindy: Right, because it's really easy when things are going well for you to kind of forget the habits that create your sort of coping reserves, right? And all resilience is, is having coping reserves that are greater than the challenges that you face. And recognizing that when those challenges outstretch your resources and your ability to handle them, that you need to reach out for help. But building those habits in every day and remembering to do that, even when we're feeling good I think is a great way to build up our stores of resilience. So that we can not only help ourselves but that we can help those around us when they're challenges outpace what they can handle at that moment too. I will say that listening to the stories of failure and resilience on We Got Goals and talking about them with you all has been just a treat and a really fantastic way for us to all think about and build our resilience too. So thank you all for sharing your failure stories and for being a part of this podcast today. And this podcast in general. Jeana: Thank you Cindy. Kristen: Thanks guys, it felt good. Maggie: I'm about to go take a walk without my phone. Cindy: Bold move Maggie. Thank you again. Jeana: And stick around listener, after this you'll hear from a real life goal-getter taking about their goals and maybe their resilience. Cindy: Hey goal-getters, Cindy Kuzma here. We have a special treat for you. Just like we have been having these past few weeks. It's a real-life goal from one of you, our listeners. If you'd like to record a goal and have it be featured on this very podcast. You can record an audio memo on your phone, on your computer, however you'd like to do it. And email it to me at Cindy@aSweatLife.com. You could be featured here on We Got Goals in the week ahead. Thank you so much for listening and here is one of your goals. [33:45] Kelly: My name is Kelly and I'm from Chicago. A big goal I've achieved in the past year is a career goal for myself. I left a full time job back in August working in the hospitality industry and I have a big passion for fitness and health. So I wanted to start my own company and I did so back in December. It the ultimate fitness experience and I actually have my very first client event next week. So I think a big part of that was being in a career for the past nine years, I was just ready for a big change. And I have this big passion for fitness and health. And I also want to help other people. So you've seen my kind of my contact list of my career skills from event planning and working the hospitality industry. I decided to combine the two of hospitality and [...] fitness and health in that industry. Because I think everyone deserves to take care of themselves and just make a better life for themselves. So working on that together and now the future is just adding more clients to the list and making a career for myself working on my own and maybe building a team in the future. So really excited about it, really excited about these career goals that I've put into this. You can find me on Instagram at KellySnyder_FitLife or FitLifeExperience is company and FitLifeExperience.com is the website which is actually still being built. But it will be up and running. And definitely find me on social media. Cindy: This podcast is A Sweat Life Production and it's another thing that's better with friends, so please share us with yours. You can find us wherever you get your podcast including it now on Spotify. While you're there, if you could leave us a rating or review we would be so grateful. Special thanks to Jay Mono for our theme music, to all of our hosts for being our guests this week on this hostful episode and to TechNexus for the recording studio.

Therapist Uncensored Podcast
TU56: How We Come to Define Ourselves – Attachment Research Over Decades with Guest Alan Sroufe

Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2018 60:05


Pick the brain of a leading attachment researcher to more deeply understand how attachment styles from infancy are both stable and can change over time. Dr. Sroufe leads us through his 40 years of research to give us his reflections on what is important in parenting and in relationships to grow security. —- If you’ve ever wanted to know how much you can predict a person’s development years in advance, then you’ll enjoy our conversation with Dr. Alan Sroufe. Co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP talks with Dr. Sroufe about his research findings over the years and how insecure and secure attachment tendencies can develop and affect an individual through their lives. Is change possible? Yes, we will tell you how. Also, can reinforcing positive expectations and taking good care of yourself as a parent truly affect your child’s growth? You’ll learn about the legacies of attachment and the importance of being able to turn to someone when in need of support. This is a hopeful journey, please join us! Dr. Alan Sroufe is an internationally recognized expert on early attachment relationships, emotional development, and developmental psychopathology and has published seven books and 140 articles on these and related topics! Dr. Sroufe is Professor Emeritus of Child Psychology in the Institute of Child Development at the University of Minnesota and he has been an Associate Editor of Developmental Psychology and Development and Psychopathology.  His awards include the Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award from the Society for Research in Child Development, the Bowlby Ainsworth Award for Contributions to Attachment Research, the G. Stanley Hall Award for Distinguished Scientific Contribution to Developmental Psychology from Division 7 of the American Psychology Association, an Honorary Doctorate Degree from the University of Leiden, and the Distinguished Teaching Award from the College of Education, University of Minnesota. SIGN UP FOR OUR LIVE CONFERENCE ON ATTACHMENT APRIL 7, 2018 –  Healing Adult Attachment, the 3 Pillars of Integrated Treatment  with Dr. David Elliott (Thank you to our co-sponsor Austin IN Connection.) Online reading group to start mid April, 2018 for Elliott’s book – Attachment Disturbances in Adults Comprehensive Treatment and Repair (Norton 2016) by Daniel Brown and David Elliott. Reserve your slot today! 0:00-15:00 Introduction Guiding question behind Sroufe’s ongoing 1974 study Correlation between stress in parents and anxious/secure attachment in children Importance of healthy relational questions Why is change difficult? Negative expectations can result in off-putting behavior Chronic early stress and early predictors Life stress 15:00-30:00 Intergenerational transmission and the importance of taking care of yourself as a parent for your child Attachment in children, positive expectations through parents, learning to manage yourself at a young age Positive relationships with teachers reported for those with secure attachment backgrounds Anecdote about Vera’s dream 30:00-45:00 The importance of a supportive relationship as a predictor Those with secure history who experience bad times don’t lose their secure history “Earned” secure attachment and its neurological intricacies David Elliot, Healing Trauma Transitional moments in development 45:00-60:00 Adolescents, capacity for vulnerability Importance of being able to turn to someone, giving and receiving support, legacies of attachment The difficulty of self-reporting, necessity of being observed, AAI Impact of culture and class on development Impact of socioeconomic situation Attachment in primates Wrap Up & Outro Resources: The Development of the Person The Minnesota Study of Risk and Adaptation from Birth Through Adulthood by Dr. Alan Sroufe et al. To reach Dr. Sroufe Dr. Sroufe’s CV Lessons from the Minnesota Longitudinal Study

Therapist Uncensored Podcast
TU56: How We Come to Define Ourselves, Attachment Research Over Decades with Guest Alan Sroufe

Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 6, 2018 60:05


Pick the brain of a leading attachment researcher to more deeply understand how attachment styles from infancy are both stable and can change over time. Dr. Sroufe leads us through his 40 years of research to give us his reflections on what is important in parenting and in relationships to grow security. —- If you’ve ever wanted to know how much you can predict a person’s development years in advance, then you’ll enjoy our conversation with Dr. Alan Sroufe. Co-host Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP talks with Dr. Sroufe about his research findings over the years and how insecure and secure attachment tendencies can develop and affect an individual through their lives. Is change possible? Yes, we will tell you how. Also, can reinforcing positive expectations and taking good care of yourself as a parent truly affect your child’s growth? You’ll learn about the legacies of attachment and the importance of being able to turn to someone when in need of support. This is a hopeful journey, please join us! Dr. Alan Sroufe is an internationally recognized expert on early attachment relationships, emotional development, and developmental psychopathology and has published seven books and 140 articles on these and related topics! Dr. Sroufe is Professor Emeritus of Child Psychology in the Institute of Child Development at the University of Minnesota and he has been an Associate Editor of Developmental Psychology and Development and Psychopathology.  His awards include the Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award from the Society for Research in Child Development, the Bowlby Ainsworth Award for Contributions to Attachment Research, the G. Stanley Hall Award for Distinguished Scientific Contribution to Developmental Psychology from Division 7 of the American Psychology Association, an Honorary Doctorate Degree from the University of Leiden, and the Distinguished Teaching Award from the College of Education, University of Minnesota. SIGN UP FOR OUR LIVE CONFERENCE ON ATTACHMENT APRIL 7, 2018 –   (https://www.therapistuncensored.com/conference/)  with Dr. David Elliott (Thank you to our co-sponsor Austin IN Connection.) Reserve your slot today (https://www.therapistuncensored.com/events-2/) ! 0:00-15:00  Introduction  Guiding question behind Sroufe’s ongoing 1974 study  Correlation between stress in parents and anxious/secure attachment in children  Importance of healthy relational questions  Why is change difficult? Negative expectations can result in off-putting behavior  Chronic early stress and early predictors   Life stress  15:00-30:00  Intergenerational transmission and the importance of taking care of yourself as a parent for your child   Attachment in children, positive expectations through parents, learning to manage yourself at a young age  Positive relationships with teachers reported for those with secure attachment backgrounds  Anecdote about Vera’s dream  30:00-45:00  The importance of a supportive relationship as a predictor  Those with secure history who experience bad times don’t lose their secure history  “Earned” secure attachment and its neurological intricacies  David Elliot, Healing Trauma  Transitional moments in development  45:00-60:00  Adolescents, capacity for vulnerability  Importance of being able to turn to someone, giving and receiving support, legacies of attachment  The difficulty of self-reporting, necessity of being observed, AAI  Impact of culture and class on development  Impact of socioeconomic situation  Attachment in primates  Wrap Up & Outro  Resources: The Development of the Person The Minnesota... Support this podcast

The Simple Sophisticate - Intelligent Living Paired with Signature Style
193: 7 Ways to Become Who You Were Truly Meant to Be

The Simple Sophisticate - Intelligent Living Paired with Signature Style

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 29, 2018 22:32


~The Simple Sophisticate, episode #193 ~Subscribe to The Simple Sophisticate: iTunes | Stitcher | iHeartRadio | YouTube "Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be." —Shonda Rhimes In order to feel good in one's skin (or to feel well in one's skin as the French state it, bien dans sa peau), we first must know what skin we are inhabiting. However, it is not about what we see on the surface, but rather what talents, curiosities and passions are within us waiting to be discovered. I clarify this distinction because the other day someone made the common statement about finding ease within oneself, and they described it as "becoming comfortable in one's skin". I immediately responded and shared that at least for me, it doesn't feel so much as a "trying to make something feel better", but rather an exploration of what and who I truly have the potential to become, what I truly value, what I innately am capable of, etc. And so it has instead been a journey of discovering "what my skin was" so to speak. The journey of discovery for each of us will have different lengths, different shedding of exterior skins placed upon us and even skins we placed upon ourselves as we believed we weren't enough just as we are. When I came across Shonda Rhimes' quote, it spoke to me immediately. Here is a woman who has built her own production company inspired by her passion to write, to tell stories. Who, as a self-described introvert, shares in her book Year of Yes how she transformed her life by stepping into it and enabling herself to be her own person. In her commencement address to the graduates of Dartmouth in 2014 she shared a speech titled "Dreams are for Losers", and she nailed it. She shares many anecdotes but her revelation about initially dreaming of being a Nobel Prize winning author ... Toni Morrison ... to be more precise, is a point that caught my attention. As she points out, Toni Morrison already had that job, and Shonda had to be who she was and was meant to be. Funny enough, Rhimes eventually had the opportunity to have dinner with Morrison. And do you know what Morrison wanted to talk to Rhimes about? Grey's Anatomy. Case in point, your journey is unique, so just keep striving forward and stop dreaming. Just do. The bigger question is how. How do we each become who we were meant to be? 1. Step away from your life Often it can be difficult to give a true and helpful life assessment while we're in the middle of living it. Sonif it is possible, step away from the daily routine, step away even from the town you live in for a short duration - a weekend, but better yet a week, and if at all possible a good month (hello, a grand vacation!). I do often find that I am able to assess my life more fairly when I go on vacation. I come back with a clear perspective of what is a priority and what is not, the worries that I can let go of and what changes I need to make, as well as the relationships that matter and the ones that just don't. When we step away, we also step away from the people we hear on a regular basis telling us what they think and perhaps what we should think, and therefore, we begin to think on our own. Better yet, if you are in a foreign country and the language is not your own, you can't be influenced by what anyone is saying because you do not know what they are saying. In all sincerity, in order to clear the outside influences, even your own assumed preferences, step away and outside of your daily life and just be with yourself. Journaling out your thoughts is also something I have found that helps me make sense of what I am feeling. Not that I will find an answer, but I will have to think through what is going through my mind because I have to write it on the page. 2. Allow yourself to feel the fear and do not run from it I can remember vividly when I went to France for the first time as a 20-year-old college junior. I was to be there for a month. It would be the first time in a foreign country in which I didn't know the language well (if at all), and my first time traveling by myself beyond just a day or weekend trip. I was ecstatic. I had been dreaming about this experience for months. Upon my arrival, once the jet lag wore off, I experienced emotions I had never experienced, and it was uncomfortable to say the least. Little did I know was that I was growing, I was stretching. And part of the reason it brought tears to my eyes during my calls home (of which were few as it was a different day and age) was because it was seemingly painful. Well, it seemed painful in the moment, but it was simply new and simply put, full of unknowns. I have shared before that sometime during that trip, even though I was extremely delighted to come home, upon reflection, I realize I was broken open. And I am so thankful I was. 3. Shed the layers As I was watching an interview with Sharon Stone recently on CBS Sunday Morning, she shared an observation that hit home for me: Women of a certain generation (alluding to her own - the Baby Boomer and before her) were raised to be accommodating. And finally I understood why I was so perplexed by my parents' relationship and how their approach never felt right for me. While my mom and dad are the only two people who can say and know whether they are happy or not, for me, a young girl who was raised to do her best in sports and extracurriculars as well as school, there was a reason relationships didn't last long for me because the accommodating (which was the only model I had witnessed in my childhood) limited what I knew I was capable of as an individual, let alone in a relationship. Yes, it took me over 30 years to understand that this layer was one I needed to shed, but it's gone finally, and I can breathe much deeper now as I am aware of what values a partnership needs to embody for me to step into a commitment. Now this is just one example of a layer that needs to be shed, but there are many more. Upon closer examination we can identify them, but they are easy to miss if we just go about our lives as we are expected. As a woman here are a few more that have come to my attention: that I must be covetous, desired and sexually appealing, that I am supposed to have children because women supposedly are innately nurturing (please read this study by the American Psychology Association on the realities of how society conditions both men and women) and that career paths are better suited for certain genders. All of these and so many more are myths and layers that need to be shed so that your true and brightest light can shine, offering the world what only you can innately give. (Much more is shared in the podcast on this point. I would encourage you to listen if this issue caught your attention.) 4. Follow your curiosity In many ways, our curiosity is our Linus blanket. In other words our security, our foundation that we can trust when it comes to knowing where to take our lives. As I shared last year in a post about our unique journeys and knowing how to navigate them successfully, “If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it’s not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That’s why it’s your path.” —Joseph Campbell We cannot know what hasn't been written. We write our journey to become who we are truly capable of becoming by trusting our inner compass, by trusting our curiosity. So follow the simple, yet significant wonders of your heart. Be brave enough to step out and try something grand that no one else you know as attempted. For when you do, you gain information about where to go next, and that is part of the journey toward yourself. 5. Read, experience, observe I recently read an article encouraging more reading as an everyday habit. Speaking about Bill Gates and Warren Buffet, one quote that was shared was stated by Charlie Munger - self-made billionaire & Warren Buffett’s longtime business partner, “In my whole life, I have known no wise people (over a broad subject matter area) who didn’t read all the time — none. Zero” and he has a point. With regards to being wise in life, but also being wise about who we can become, we need to keep learning through the books we read, the theater we enjoy, the travels we take. Information surrounds us offering guideposts as to where to go next and what we are capable of achieving. We just have to be brave enough to say there is so much more to learn in life and each of us is only getting started. 6. Attain the skills necessary Susan Hermann Loomis shared in episode #192 the reason she went to cooking school in France was that she wanted to learn from the best. If she was going to do something, she was going to do it right and well, thus France or Japan came to mind, and France was her choice. 7. Follow Shonda Rhimes' advice: Just keep moving forward With each step forward, as we follow our curiosities, as we do what we have to do, as we let go of what no longer is serving us, we bring ourselves ever closer to where we are meant to be. Let go of the desire to have absolute control of your life and you will unlock the greatest gift of discovery: who you were truly meant to be. The world swirls around us, seemingly at breakneck speeds it can seem, but we are the constant in the whirlwind. When we ground ourselves in our truth and understanding of who we are and what we can offer to the world, we may bend every so slightly, but we will be strong enough to reach our destination even if we don't know where we are heading as we put one foot in front of the other. I too am stepping what feels like somewhat blindly forward. However, I am following what provokes my curiosity, I am following the creative ideas that pop up when I least expect it or can't explain to the outside world as to why they arrived. And with each step, with each book, with each experience, the exterior layers that are not me are being left behind and the journey is all the more enjoyable and my confidence gradually strengthens that I am traveling the right path. ~SIMILAR POSTS FROM THE ARCHIVES YOU MIGHT ENJOY: ~Give Yourself Permission to Be Awkward, episode #185 ~The Importance of Finding Contentment, episode #181 ~How to Let Go of Self-Imposed Limitations, episode #186 Petit Plaisir ~Remodelista, The Organized Home: Simple, Stylish Storage Ideas for All Over the House by Julie Carlson and Margot Guralnick ~Remodelista blog post worth reading . . . The Organized Pantry: 8 Rules for Decanting Dried Goods ~See how I put some of the ideas shared in the book to work in my kitchen: 9 Ways to Organize Your Kitchen, Improve Your Health & Help Out the Planet Sponsor of this week’s episode: Lifesum ~Visit the Top Ranked Health & Fitness app and receive 30% off the Premium Membership. ~Visit lifesum.com/simple Download the Episode

Anxiety Road Podcast
ARP 108 Treatment Quickie

Anxiety Road Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 27, 2017 3:50


Still trying to catch some down time to relax and write. These two goals are not necessarily compatible but I gotta do what I gotta do.  If you are new to the podcast there is a mention of the treatment options and four accessible resources. If the tide is high and you need help to hold on please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, the Trevor Project at 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 741-741. Resources Mentioned:  The Anxiety and Depression Association of America, factual and accessible information about the anxiety spectrum. Anxiety BC resources for anxiety engagement and treatment. American Psychology Association page on stress management techniques. Anger Leads to Anxiety page on TinyBuddah Disclaimer:  Links to other sites are provided for information purposes only and do not constitute endorsements.  Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with questions you may have regarding a medical or mental health disorder. This blog and podcast is intended for informational and educational purposes only. Nothing in this program is intended to be a substitute for professional psychological, psychiatric or medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

The Science of Success
Making Better Decisions, The Sophomore Jinx, & The Illusion of Objectivity with Dr. Richard Nisbett

The Science of Success

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2016 52:00


In this episode we discuss the errors people make in their reasoning and how to correct them, we explain a number of statistical principles to help sharpen your thinking and make you a better decision maker, why every $1 spent on a “scared straight” program creates $400 of cost for the criminal justice system, the illusion of objectivity, why you should NOT rely on your intuition and much more with Dr. Richard Nisbett.      Dr. Richard Nisbett is a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan. He has been awarded the Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award of the American Psychology Association, the William James Fellow Award for Distinguished Scientific Achievements, and the Donald T. Campbell Award for Distinguished Research in Social Psychology, among others. He is the author of the recent book Mindware, as well as The Geography of Thought, Think Differently, and Intelligence and How To Get It.   The errors people make in their reasoning and how to correct themHow to apply the lessons of statistics to making better decisionsIs your intelligence fixed and unchangeable?How the industrial revolution massively transformed the way people thinkWe discuss the skills, not on an IQ test, that you must have to be able to function effectively in today’s ageWhy job interviews are totally useless and have almost no correlation to job performance How misunderstanding the law of large numbers can lead you to make huge mistakesWhy does the rookie of the year almost always have a worse performance the following year?Understanding regression to the mean and how it creates extremely counterintuitive conclusionsWhy Performance = Skill + Luck Why deterministic thinking can drastically mislead you in finding the root cause of a phenomenaWe explain a number of statistical principles to help sharpen your thinking and make you a better decision makerThe concept of "base rates" and how they can transform how you think about realityWe walk through a number of concrete examples of how misunderstanding statistics can cause people to make terrible decisionsIf you’re like most people, then like most people, you think you’re not like most people (but you are)Why every $1 spent on a “scared straight” program creates $400 of cost in criminal and incarceration costs Why the “head start” program is a massive failure and what we could have done about it How you can use the experimental method to make data driven experiments in your lifeThe illusion of objectivity - Why you should NOT rely on your intuition How we massively distort our perception of reality and why our perceptual apparatus can easily mislead usHow many of the structures we use to understand the world are highly error proneWhy we are amazing at pattern detection but horrible at "covariation detection”Why the traditional rorschach test is bogus and doesn't actually produce any results Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices