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Rationalizations that lead to sin: 5. I'll just do it one time 4. Nobody will know 3. That's not sin, that's not wrong, everyone is doing it. 2. This can't possibly be wrong 1. God will forgive me 1. Trust God to make things right Lesson: Watch out for temptation 2. Trust God to Protect you 3. Trust God for your salvation Ways we can be misled into thinking we have assurance of salvation: 1. I said the sinner's prayer (Acts 20:21) 2. I'm convicted when I sin (2 Cor. 7:10) 3. I feel close to God 4. I pray, read the Bible, and go to church (Mat. 7:22-23) 5. God is blessing my life (Mat. 5:45) 6. I know Jesus died and rose again (James 2:19)
The Slow Erosion of Self – How Addiction Rewires You Addiction doesn't announce itself with a bang—it creeps in, reshaping your thoughts, choices, and identity so gradually that you don't even realize what's happening. One day, you're justifying small things, bending your values just a little, and before you know it, you're in the wreckage of a life you no longer recognize. It's not about making one bad decision—it's a slow shift, a survival mode that traps you in its cycle. In this episode, we dive deep into the subtle ways addiction rewires your mind and behavior, how it distorts your sense of self, and—most importantly—how to take back what was lost. The truth is, no matter how far down the path you've gone, recovery is always possible. We'll talk about peeling back the layers, rebuilding your integrity, and stepping into a future that isn't controlled by addiction.
The N-WORDS Meat Eaters Use What are the N-Words meat-eaters use when defending their diet? A team of researchers produced the first empirical study of meat-consumption rationalizations and justifications. Nothing brings out our deep-seated defenses like dietary debate. Written by Emily Moran Barwick at BiteSizeVegan.org. #vegan #plantbased #plantbasedbriefing #veganism #n-words #excuses #rationalizations ========================== Original Post: https://bitesizevegan.org/the-n-words-meat-eaters-use/ Related Episodes/Resources: 765: How To End Injustice Everywhere: Melanie Joy's Latest Book https://plantbasedbriefing.libsyn.com/765-how-to-end-injustice-everywhere-melanie-joys-latest-book-by-jordi-casamitjana-at-unchainedtvcom 372: Dis-ease of the Heart: The Psychology of Eating Animals. https://plantbasedbriefing.libsyn.com/372-dis-ease-of-the-heart-the-psychology-of-eating-animals-by-melanie-joy-phd-edm-at-forksoverknivescom ========================= Bite Size Vegan was founded on the belief that everyone deserves access to solid, factual information on issues impacting their health, our planet, society, and the lives of other sentient beings. The website, videos, resources and speeches serve to provide this access in formats tailored to modern methods of information consumption—digestible and approachable, yet backed by rigorous research. Believing in the power of an informed public, Emily provides free, open-access to right-to-know information in a digestible format. Bite Size Vegan fills a unique space in vegan activism & advocacy by bringing together the accessibility of engaging social-media content with the integrity and depth of research-backed, transparently-cited educational information. By helping people make the connection that veganism—far from an extreme way of life—is simply aligning our actions with the values we already have, Bite Size Vegan strives to end the pervasive exploitation of non-human animals. ========================== FOLLOW THE SHOW ON: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@plantbasedbriefing Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2GONW0q2EDJMzqhuwuxdCF?si=2a20c247461d4ad7 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/plant-based-briefing/id1562925866 Your podcast app of choice: https://pod.link/1562925866 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PlantBasedBriefing LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/plant-based-briefing/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/plantbasedbriefing/
[SEGMENT 2-] Leftist rationalizations 1 - CEO shooter manifesto Luigi Mangione's Manifesto “To the Feds, I'll keep this short, because I do respect what you do for our country. To save you a lengthy investigation, I state plainly that I wasn't working with anyone. This was fairly trivial: some elementary social engineering, basic CAD, a lot of patience. The spiral notebook, if present, has some straggling notes and To Do lists that illuminate the gist of it. My tech is pretty locked down because I work in engineering so probably not much info there. I do apologize for any strife of traumas but it had to be done. Frankly, these parasites simply had it coming. A reminder: the US has the #1 most expensive healthcare system in the world, yet we rank roughly #42 in life expectancy. United is the [indecipherable] largest company in the US by market cap, behind only Apple, Google, Walmart. It has grown and grown, but as our life expectancy? No the reality is, these [indecipherable] have simply gotten too powerful, and they continue to abuse our country for immense profit because the American public has allwed them to get away with it. Obviously the problem is more complex, but I do not have space, and frankly I do not pretend to be the most qualified person to lay out the full argument. But many have illuminated the corruption and greed (e.g.: Rosenthal, Moore), decades ago and the problems simply remain. It is not an issue of awareness at this point, but clearly power games at play. Evidently I am the first to face it with such brutal honesty.” [SEGMENT 2-2] Leftist rationalizations 2 Nancy Mace was attacked. And you know the trans male community celebrated.The suspect was identified as 33-year-old James McIntyre of Illinois. He faces a charge of assaulting a government official. This is how Leftists have been taught to handle their problems. That's why the Chicago mayor has more security than Bloomberg. Dude has more security than MC Hammer had as his entourage back in the day. And MC Hammer paid enough people to buy a small African country. https://www.cnn.com/2023/12/07/politics/threats-us-public-officials-democracy-invs/index.html CNN reviewed more than 500 federally prosecuted threats. Here's what we found:At least 41% of all the cases across the decade were politically motivated.Nearly 95% of people prosecuted for making threats to public officials are male; the median age is 37.Politically motivated threats to public officials increased 178% during Trump's presidency.Threats related to hot political topics like abortion or police brutality also skyrocketed during the Trump years, increasing by more than 300% from Obama's second term.As the party in power, 16 Democrats received threats during Obama's second term. This increased 169% with 43 GOP lawmakers threatened under Trump.[SEGMENT 2-3] Leftist rationalizations 3 - Biden "So, Joe Biden crawled out from under his rock—or, more likely, the Democrats let him out of his cage. But don't worry, folks, he's only out long enough to give Ukraine another few billion and maybe accidentally provoke a nuclear war. You know, classic Biden. Just another day at the office, or in his case, another day wandering around trying to find the office. And can we talk about how Biden still has a stack of pardons to hand out? Oh yeah, the Christmas list is growing. The Bidens, the DOJ, the J6 Committee—all getting stocking stuffers. Straight white dudes? Sorry, you're getting coal. Unless Hunter Biden needs a new business partner—then you might get a laptop and a lifetime of blackmail. Now, Biden's also out here yelling at Americans about his accomplishments. Yelling. Like he's that one drunk uncle at Thanksgiving who's like, ‘You don't know how hard I worked to ruin everything! Respect my chaos!' Meanwhile, we're all just trying to pass the mashed potatoes without making eye contact. But my favorite part? Biden challenged us to name a better country. Like, the dude is actively ruining this one, but somehow that's OUR problem? ‘Name a better country.' Bro, the fact that America still functions at all is a miracle. We're like a car running on fumes, duct tape, and the sheer willpower of people who haven't fled to Costa Rica yet. Oh, and Biden had the nerve to ask the next administration to carry on his economic work. Translation? He wants Trump to continue wrecking the economy. I mean, Joe's like the guy who burns down your house and then hands you a marshmallow stick like, ‘Carry on the tradition, pal!' And these moments of clarity he has? They're terrifying. Instead of acting presidential, he just starts screaming about how great he is—like he's auditioning for WWE. ‘Listen here, Jack, I've got the best policies! The greatest inflation! Nobody destroys a border like me!' So how long until they send him back into hibernation? Who knows? But one thing's for sure: when he does go back, his handlers will be busy making sure he doesn't accidentally pardon the family dog or try to order Chinese food from Taiwan. Because with Joe, you never know—it's always an adventure!" [X] SB – Comer predicts Biden will pardon his family [SEGMENT 2-4] Leftist rationalizations 4 - Biden You ever watch someone try to pass off a cheap knockoff as the real thing? Like the guy hawking "Rolexes" with ticking second hands? That's Joe Biden in politics. He was supposed to be the Left's ultimate weapon—the 81-million-vote man who would crush Trump like a Coke can. But fast-forward, and Biden is now the flat club soda Democrats found in the back of their fridge. Lloyd Austin isn't the only one who's gone AWOL… The Daily Beast wrote: Disaffected Democrats , including some from within his own administration, are furious with President Joe Biden for shrinking into a political non-entity since his party was walloped in last month's election , according to multiple reports. “He's been so cavalier and selfish about how he approaches the final weeks of the job,” a former White House official told Politico. The outlet—which spoke to nearly two dozen officials, including current and former White House staffers—reported that, since the Nov. 5 vote, Biden has mostly avoided unscripted events and press questions while neglecting to address policy matters on Capitol Hill and Democratic Party. Many party officials, Politico reported, no longer even bother to monitor Biden's daily activities. His interactions with media have been similarly muted: In two weeks of foreign traveling since the election, Biden uttered a mere seven words to the press pack traveling with him, the outlet said. The president is yet to hold—or schedule—a post-election press conference, something his predecessors George W. Bush and Barack Obama did before leaving office. “This is one of the lamest of lame ducks we've seen with a Democratic administration,” Usamah Andrabi, a spokesman for the progressive Justice Democrats PAC, told the Wall Street Journal . “A massive missed opportunity.” But let's not act like this was unpredictable, okay? Democrats handpicked the guy who needed a GPS to find his way off stage. Biden mistook reporters for lawn ornaments and fell asleep in NATO meetings. Now they want him to lead? That's like handing a drowning man a bowling ball. And Democrats act surprised? Come on! They spent four years hiding Biden's mental fumbles behind teleprompters and careful choreography. Now the jig's up, and they're mad the Wizard of Delaware turned out to be all curtain, no wizard. Captain Demento Goes AWOL Now, the question on everyone's mind: “Where's Joe?” Democrats wanted Biden to disappear during the campaign, and now they've got their wish. In a recent interview, Victor Davis Hanson nailed it. Hansen declared that Donald Trump is stepping in as the de facto president. Trump visited Paris for the reopening of Notre Dame. While there, Trump arm-wrestled Macron into submission, and Prince Harry proved to be a Trump fanboy. Trump's out here shaking hands with foreign leaders, fixing global crises, and looking more presidential than the guy who Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-kevin-jackson-show--2896352/support.
[SEGMENT 2-1] Leftist rationalizations 1 - CEO shooter manifesto Luigi Mangione's Manifesto “To the Feds, I'll keep this short, because I do respect what you do for our country. To save you a lengthy investigation, I state plainly that I wasn't working with anyone. This was fairly trivial: some elementary social engineering, basic CAD, a lot of patience. The spiral notebook, if present, has some straggling notes and To Do lists that illuminate the gist of it. My tech is pretty locked down because I work in engineering so probably not much info there. I do apologize for any strife of traumas but it had to be done. Frankly, these parasites simply had it coming. A reminder: the US has the #1 most expensive healthcare system in the world, yet we rank roughly #42 in life expectancy. United is the [indecipherable] largest company in the US by market cap, behind only Apple, Google, Walmart. It has grown and grown, but as our life expectancy? No the reality is, these [indecipherable] have simply gotten too powerful, and they continue to abuse our country for immense profit because the American public has allwed them to get away with it. Obviously the problem is more complex, but I do not have space, and frankly I do not pretend to be the most qualified person to lay out the full argument. But many have illuminated the corruption and greed (e.g.: Rosenthal, Moore), decades ago and the problems simply remain. It is not an issue of awareness at this point, but clearly power games at play. Evidently I am the first to face it with such brutal honesty.”[SEGMENT 2-2] Leftist rationalizations 2 Nancy Mace was attacked. And you know the trans male community celebrated.The suspect was identified as 33-year-old James McIntyre of Illinois. He faces a charge of assaulting a government official. This is how Leftists have been taught to handle their problems. That's why the Chicago mayor has more security than Bloomberg. Dude has more security than MC Hammer had as his entourage back in the day. And MC Hammer paid enough people to buy a small African country. https://www.cnn.com/2023/12/07/politics/threats-us-public-officials-democracy-invs/index.html CNN reviewed more than 500 federally prosecuted threats. Here's what we found:At least 41% of all the cases across the decade were politically motivated.Nearly 95% of people prosecuted for making threats to public officials are male; the median age is 37.Politically motivated threats to public officials increased 178% during Trump's presidency.Threats related to hot political topics like abortion or police brutality also skyrocketed during the Trump years, increasing by more than 300% from Obama's second term.As the party in power, 16 Democrats received threats during Obama's second term. This increased 169% with 43 GOP lawmakers threatened under Trump.[SEGMENT 2-3] Leftist rationalizations 3 - Biden "So, Joe Biden crawled out from under his rock—or, more likely, the Democrats let him out of his cage. But don't worry, folks, he's only out long enough to give Ukraine another few billion and maybe accidentally provoke a nuclear war. You know, classic Biden. Just another day at the office, or in his case, another day wandering around trying to find the office. And can we talk about how Biden still has a stack of pardons to hand out? Oh yeah, the Christmas list is growing. The Bidens, the DOJ, the J6 Committee—all getting stocking stuffers. Straight white dudes? Sorry, you're getting coal. Unless Hunter Biden needs a new business partner—then you might get a laptop and a lifetime of blackmail. Now, Biden's also out here yelling at Americans about his accomplishments. Yelling. Like he's that one drunk uncle at Thanksgiving who's like, ‘You don't know how hard I worked to ruin everything! Respect my chaos!' Meanwhile, we're all just trying to pass the mashed potatoes without making eye contact. But my favorite part? Biden challenged us to name a better country. Like, the dude is actively ruining this one, but somehow that's OUR problem? ‘Name a better country.' Bro, the fact that America still functions at all is a miracle. We're like a car running on fumes, duct tape, and the sheer willpower of people who haven't fled to Costa Rica yet. Oh, and Biden had the nerve to ask the next administration to carry on his economic work. Translation? He wants Trump to continue wrecking the economy. I mean, Joe's like the guy who burns down your house and then hands you a marshmallow stick like, ‘Carry on the tradition, pal!' And these moments of clarity he has? They're terrifying. Instead of acting presidential, he just starts screaming about how great he is—like he's auditioning for WWE. ‘Listen here, Jack, I've got the best policies! The greatest inflation! Nobody destroys a border like me!' So how long until they send him back into hibernation? Who knows? But one thing's for sure: when he does go back, his handlers will be busy making sure he doesn't accidentally pardon the family dog or try to order Chinese food from Taiwan. Because with Joe, you never know—it's always an adventure!" [X] SB – Comer predicts Biden will pardon his family [SEGMENT 2-4] Leftist rationalizations 4 - Biden You ever watch someone try to pass off a cheap knockoff as the real thing? Like the guy hawking "Rolexes" with ticking second hands? That's Joe Biden in politics. He was supposed to be the Left's ultimate weapon—the 81-million-vote man who would crush Trump like a Coke can. But fast-forward, and Biden is now the flat club soda Democrats found in the back of their fridge. Lloyd Austin isn't the only one who's gone AWOL… The Daily Beast wrote: Disaffected Democrats , including some from within his own administration, are furious with President Joe Biden for shrinking into a political non-entity since his party was walloped in last month's election , according to multiple reports. “He's been so cavalier and selfish about how he approaches the final weeks of the job,” a former White House official told Politico. The outlet—which spoke to nearly two dozen officials, including current and former White House staffers—reported that, since the Nov. 5 vote, Biden has mostly avoided unscripted events and press questions while neglecting to address policy matters on Capitol Hill and Democratic Party. Many party officials, Politico reported, no longer even bother to monitor Biden's daily activities. His interactions with media have been similarly muted: In two weeks of foreign traveling since the election, Biden uttered a mere seven words to the press pack traveling with him, the outlet said. The president is yet to hold—or schedule—a post-election press conference, something his predecessors George W. Bush and Barack Obama did before leaving office. “This is one of the lamest of lame ducks we've seen with a Democratic administration,” Usamah Andrabi, a spokesman for the progressive Justice Democrats PAC, told the Wall Street Journal . “A massive missed opportunity.” But let's not act like this was unpredictable, okay? Democrats handpicked the guy who needed a GPS to find his way off stage. Biden mistook reporters for lawn ornaments and fell asleep in NATO meetings. Now they want him to lead? That's like handing a drowning man a bowling ball. And Democrats act surprised? Come on! They spent four years hiding Biden's mental fumbles behind teleprompters and careful choreography. Now the jig's up, and they're mad the Wizard of Delaware turned out to be all curtain, no wizard. Captain Demento Goes AWOL Now, the question on everyone's mind: “Where's Joe?” Democrats wanted Biden to disappear during the campaign, and now they've got their wish. In a recent interview, Victor Davis Hanson nailed it. Hansen declared that Donald Trump is stepping in as the de facto president. Trump visited Paris for the reopening of Notre Dame. While there, Trump arm-wrestled Macron into submission, and Prince Harry proved to be a Trump fanboy. Trump's out here shaking hands with foreign leaders, fixing global crises, and looking more presidential than the guy who Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-kevin-jackson-show--2896352/support.
This morning we question part of a passage in this week's Torah portion, Ki Teitzei, and provide an answer based on a parable from the Dubno Magid (Rabbi Yaakov Krantz). Using a quote from the marvelous novel, The Winners, by Frederik Backman, we highlight the importance of being more honest with ourselves and others. Michael Whitman is the senior rabbi of ADATH Congregation in Hampstead, Quebec, and an adjunct professor at McGill University Faculty of Law. ADATH is a modern orthodox synagogue community in suburban Montreal, providing Judaism for the next generation. We take great pleasure in welcoming everyone with a warm smile, while sharing inspiration through prayer, study, and friendship. Rabbi Whitman shares his thoughts and inspirations through online lectures and shiurim, which are available on: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5FLcsC6xz5TmkirT1qObkA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adathmichael/ Podcast - Mining the Riches of the Parsha: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/mining-the-riches-of-the-parsha/id1479615142?fbclid=IwAR1c6YygRR6pvAKFvEmMGCcs0Y6hpmK8tXzPinbum8drqw2zLIo7c9SR-jc Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3hWYhCG5GR8zygw4ZNsSmO Please contact Rabbi Whitman (rabbi@adath.ca) with any questions or feedback, or to receive a daily email, "Study with Rabbi Whitman Today," with current and past insights for that day, video, and audio, all in one short email sent directly to your inbox.
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3184: Leo Babauta guides us through the psychological labyrinth of self-sabotage in his article on ZenHabits.net, revealing how intelligent individuals often master the art of convincing themselves to avoid necessary actions due to fear. Babauta provides a robust strategy for dismantling these persuasive rationalizations, offering practical tools to uphold commitments to personal growth and meaningful work. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://zenhabits.net/persuasive/ Quotes to ponder: "Smart people are very good at creating super persuasive arguments for why they shouldn't do the thing they're fearing doing." "Everybody has a plan until they're punched in the face." "You need to intentionally practice in this, every day, so that you get better and better at overcoming the resistance and not collapsing when hit with fear." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3184: Leo Babauta guides us through the psychological labyrinth of self-sabotage in his article on ZenHabits.net, revealing how intelligent individuals often master the art of convincing themselves to avoid necessary actions due to fear. Babauta provides a robust strategy for dismantling these persuasive rationalizations, offering practical tools to uphold commitments to personal growth and meaningful work. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://zenhabits.net/persuasive/ Quotes to ponder: "Smart people are very good at creating super persuasive arguments for why they shouldn't do the thing they're fearing doing." "Everybody has a plan until they're punched in the face." "You need to intentionally practice in this, every day, so that you get better and better at overcoming the resistance and not collapsing when hit with fear." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3184: Leo Babauta guides us through the psychological labyrinth of self-sabotage in his article on ZenHabits.net, revealing how intelligent individuals often master the art of convincing themselves to avoid necessary actions due to fear. Babauta provides a robust strategy for dismantling these persuasive rationalizations, offering practical tools to uphold commitments to personal growth and meaningful work. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://zenhabits.net/persuasive/ Quotes to ponder: "Smart people are very good at creating super persuasive arguments for why they shouldn't do the thing they're fearing doing." "Everybody has a plan until they're punched in the face." "You need to intentionally practice in this, every day, so that you get better and better at overcoming the resistance and not collapsing when hit with fear." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this eye-opening video, we delve into the controversial topic of marriage and relationships, challenging societal norms and exploring the allure of the single life. Discover why more and more people are opting out of traditional commitments and embracing a lifestyle of freedom and adventure. From debunking myths about marriage to dissecting the pressures of settling down, we uncover the truth behind societal expectations and personal fulfillment. Join us as we navigate through the complexities of love, commitment, and autonomy in a world obsessed with conformity. If you're seeking insights into modern relationships, this video is a must-watch! This episode is based on this article by Roissy: https://theredarchive.com/blog/Heartiste/the-lie-of-locking-her-in.11437 // BOOK // Get my Amazon #1 Best Selling Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CNH88C47 Autographed copies: https://comeonmanpod.gumroad.com/l/books // COURSES // No Cold Approach in The Cow Pasture (Online Dating Course): http://dates.comeonmanpod.com Practical Law of Attraction course: http://loa.comeonmanpod.com // COACHING AND OTHER RESOURCES // Beer Club: http://beer.comeonmanpod.com Coaching: http://coaching.comeonmanpod.com FREE PDF with 20 Dating App Openers! Join my email list: http://list.comeonmanpod.com MERCH: http://merch.comeonmanpod.com Recommended Reading: https://is.gd/COMPBooks // SOCIAL MEDIA // Follow on TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bestmenspod Follow on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/comeonmanpodcast/ Follow on Twitter - https://twitter.com/ComeOnManPOD Follow on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/comeonmanpodcast // OTHER MEDIA // Listen on audio - http://comeonmanpod.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/comeonman/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/comeonman/support
Episode 274 of RevolutionZ offers and comments on a searing critique of the champions of democracy and human rights from Arundhati Roy, plus a disturbing but compelling view of pro-war sentiments of various prior supporters of Palestine within Israel. Why do some progressives rally behind Israel's war machine? Support the show
Look, we all have flaws, and we all do things on a regular basis that is not always in our own best interests. Hopefully, only occasionally, we do things that are going to be detrimental to our mental health, our physical health, our relationships, our financial wellbeing, and many other things that mean a lot to us. I'm not saying that it's even possible to get rid of every vice for every person, or that we should even want to. However, we should be able to understand when we are being logical, and when we are falling prey to drifting towards instant gratification. If this goes completely unchecked, then it can impact us negatively, and ultimately lead to the progression of things like depression, anxiety, ptsd, and more. If you liked the show, help it grow! Leave a review and rate 5 stars on Apple Podcast, and Spotify!
In this lesson you'll learn to recognize and challenge the unhelpful thoughts that hold you back.Key ideas:1️⃣ Rationalizations are justifications we create to avoid tasks and give ourselves permission to procrastinate.2️⃣ Rationalizations follow a pattern of identifying a truth about the situation and drawing an unhelpful conclusion. Unhelpful conclusions harm us in the long run by deluding us into waiting for a "perfect time" to start a task.3️⃣ Recognizing and challenging rationalizations is a crucial skill, often used in cognitive-behavioral therapy.4️⃣ Overcoming rationalizations and making progress on tasks involves three steps: noticing the rationalization, checking the evidence supporting the conclusion, and generating a more helpful alternative conclusion.Download Doer: overcome procrastination
@taylorawelch introduces 15 principles that can significantly impact one's life and business. This episode emphasizes holistic success, covering various aspects like finances, family, spirituality, and more. These principles are inspired by Kekic Credo, a successful businessman who funded spinal damage research.IF you enjoyed the show please leave us a review to help push this message to more listeners around the world!Please visit Taylorawelch.com to access all of Taylor's socials and content Text Taylor: 615-326-5037Chapters: (00:58) The importance of holistic success in all areas of life.(02:03) Studying rich and good-hearted people.(04:12) Life operates in reverse action to entropy.(06:48) Rationalizations are generally convenient evasions of reality.(09:10) The value of any service you have to offer diminishes rapidly once it's provided.(12:13) The benefits of owning your own business.(13:22) The importance of nourishing your body and mind.
I cover examples of what I call "backsliding into the Matrix." Rationalizations on participation with bread and circus, false emotional placement etc. I also discuss the DHS's and FDA's attack on all free citizens and the money given toward their nefarious education programming; and I cover current jab-related news as well.
In this second-wave of warfare taking place right now, I examine past and present rationalizations from the enemy and the damage they've caused; past and current observations that we've made and how our strategies going forward must be more blunt that ever before, while maintaining a level head.
This episode lifts the hood of the psychological process that sustains procrastination.Key Takeaways:1️⃣ The science of overcoming procrastination is well understood from over 1,000 studies on interventions for procrastination.2️⃣ The basis of procrastination is the avoidance of brief moments of discomfort that arise when thinking about certain tasks.3️⃣ Rationalizations are the seemingly logical reasons we give for not starting tasks. In reality, they are an unconscious mechanism for dealing with moments of discomfort.4️⃣ The process of rationalization happens quickly, making it hard to modify. Practicing 'procrastination reflections' help you slow down and observe each step of the procrastination loop.Download Doer: overcome procrastination
Message: Have your ever felt there was something you knew was not wrong to do, but you should not do it? Christian liberty is often referred to as freedom with guidelines to serve on another with love. It is freedom from sin as well, but with accountability to Christ as God's standard is revealed to us through the Holy Spirit and His Word. There are areas of freedom less defined, leaving it to our conscience to sort out the evidence of deep convictions and the Holy Spirit to speak to our heart. To go against there convictions is an act of sin. In the early church it was things they ate, daily observances and behavior during the observances which were targeted. Paul is telling us to let Christ convict us on these things that are doubtful. There are many convictions, but it doesn't mean God holds everyone to the same things. We are to ask ourselves, "can I do this with a clear conscience or am I convicted?", according do God's standard to love our neighbor. We are to operate out of faith to allow God's conviction to dictate our hearts, steering us away from rationalizations of the conscience. Rationalizations may develop from scar tissue of past experiences, a lens which blocks us from having the compassion of Christ. [Personal testimony of projecting our conscience on others] This projection leads to subjective legalism, a personal interpretation over the standard law or code onto others. We can share experiences with others to help them avoid pitfalls, but we are to use discernment. Judgement and contempt could cause them to stumble. Don't let spiritual maturity be a requirement for fellowship, use it discern whether it's weakness or rebelliousness. Make room for others to grow in faith, i.e. new believers, legalists, those lacking sound doctrine or just haven't walked it out yet. God is the judge; He makes us stand and transforms us day by day. Flaunting your convictions differing from your brethren and destroying other's convictions is not Christ's love. Be sensitive, because convictions can go both ways, show love by laying down your life. Conscience matters, each of us will give account for ourselves, Christ is the judge for reward. God wants a personal relationship and speak to your heart on the matters He has presented to you. Scripture: Romans 14:12-13 "each of us shall give account of himself to God. Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather resolve this, not to put a stumbling block or a cause to fall in our brother's way." - NKJV
Psyched by Mg with cohost Matthew Buryta will explore how rationalizations affect weight loss.
How am I the rock in my road? Taylor and Cathy discuss the third dimension of a healthy life, “get over yourself.” Cathy shares her experience coaching young basketball players and why there may be something missing when we remove the competition aspect of sports for an “everyone's a winner” approach. Taylor explains the importance of humility and self-esteem which allow for growth and explains why being the best does not equate to happiness. Exercise:- List at least 10 things you value about yourself. If you can't, ask others to help.- How are you the rock in your road? What are you doing that prevents you for living the life you want? Take the Personality and Character Profiles at TaylorHartman.com. Send questions and comments to Taylor@TaylorHartman.com Or Cathy@TaylorHartman.com with “Podcast” in the subject line.
People often develop patterns of how they experience themselves and the world around them. While these patterns can be helpful, they can also become unknowingly narrow and constricting. Attached is about expanding the range of ways that we engage our lives. Opening our minds, emotions, bodies, and souls to experience the fullness of our multidimensional selves and endlessly varied world. Attached is rooted and focused on Jewish tradition and wisdom along with psychology, philosophy, and relevant wisdom wherever it may be found. Rabbi Yakov Danishefsky LCSW CSAT is the founder of Mind Body Therapy, a private group practice in Chicago. He is a popular speaker and teacher for congregations, organizations, and schools. He is the author of a new book, Attached: Connecting to Our Creator, a Jewish Psychological Approach. Please contact us with questions and comments, or to be added to our WhatsApp lists here or by email at Yakov.attached@gmail.com
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Are Some Of The Rationalizations For Eating Animals Considered Prejudice? Charles Horn • Contact: linkedin.com/in/charles-horn-762a911 • Book - Meat Logic: Why Do We Eat Animals #CharlesHorn #Veganism #AwardWinningWriter Charles Horn is an award-winning and Emmy-nominated writer.Horn has authored Meat Logic: Why Do We Eat Animals, a book examining justifications for eating meat and other animal products. The book argues for veganism. Why do we eat animals? Most of us think this question is absurd, but if pressed to answer we tend to provide one of a number of rationalizations. For example: "Humans are omnivores."“Every living thing eats other living things.”"Animals don't possess human cognition."“Humans need to eat animals to live.” We've all heard these arguments before, and many others too. Maybe we've even used these arguments ourselves. But are they logically sound? Or is eating animals in fact a prejudice, involving a thought process similar to the thought process behind racism and sexism? How exactly could the subject of eating animals teach us anything about prejudice and human rights? And supposing humans actually did need to eat animals to stay healthy, what can logic tell us about how we should act in such a situation? In Meat Logic: Why Do We Eat Animals, it examines 31 categories of rationalizations for eating animals and puts them all to the test. Do our thoughts and actions stand up to rational scrutiny or not? And if our thought process is ever failing us, can this be illuminated? Reading this book, You may never think of food the same way again. Charles Horn was born and raised in Toronto, Ontario, He has a Ph.D. from Princeton University and holds five degrees in engineering and mathematics. He has written for the wildly popular Robot Chicken, Star Wars, and The Tonight Show with Jay Leno.He also has a hit animated sitcom called Fugget About It. He is also the author of • The Laugh Out Loud Guide: • That's Just Wrong! Versions 1, 2 and 3 (a collection of sketch comedy books)• Meat Logic: Why Do We Eat Animals?, 2014. To Contact Charles Horn:linkedin.com/in/charles-horn-762a911 Disclaimer:Medical and Health information changes constantly. Therefore, the information provided in this podcast should not be considered current, complete, or exhaustive. Reliance on any information provided in this podcast is solely at your own risk. The Real Truth About Health does not recommend or endorse any specific tests, products, procedures, or opinions referenced in the following podcasts, nor does it exercise any authority or editorial control over that material. The Real Truth About Health provides a forum for discussion of public health issues. The views and opinions of our panelists do not necessarily reflect those of The Real Truth About Health and are provided by those panelists in their individual capacities. The Real Truth About Health has not reviewed or evaluated those statements or claims.
In todays episode we talk about how you can rationalize anything, we are the best story tellers and we can convince ourselves of anything basically. A big part of resistance comes from our ability to rationalize what we're doing - i.e. you commit to doing something and then find yourself doing something else... meanwhile your brain will come up with a ton of reasons why you should just chill and do the comfortable thing like watching a show rather than getting to bed on time so you can get up and do the things you've said you're going to do for weeks.So we challenge you today to just commit to executing - no matter how you feel, no matter how 'hard' it feels, no matter how 'crazy' things are in life right now - just START executing on something. Join our private FitMom Lifestyle community HERETo connect with Liz Roman click HERETo connect with Becca Chilczenkowski click HERECheck out Liz's COOKBOOK, FitCookery HERECheck out our PLANNER, Win The Day HEREThis episode is brought to you by FitMom LifestyleMarketing and Production by brandhardWant to check out some of our favorite supplements like the Daily Greens, Digestive Enzymes, and some of the best tasting protein to help you recover from your workout (Fruit D Loop is one of our favorites) visit 1stPhorm now.We LOVE THRIVE MARKET! We get a lot of great items there for our kids, and ourselves, without all the junk! Try THRIVE + get 40% off your first order with this link!I'm serious about my skin and want to stay looking young as long as possible. A lot of skin care products don't take in to account an active lifestyle and block the pores. That's why I use FRE Skincare. Their breakthrough dual action formula that fights breakouts and the signs of aging with high impact natural ingredients. - Use code LIZROMAN at checkout for 45% off.Grab a pack of PaleoValley GrassFed Beef Sticks for $4.99 - 80% off!Get a FREE Sample pack of LMNT! LMNT is a electrolyte drink mix that is formulated to help anyone with their electrolyte needs and is perfectly suited to folks following a keto, low-carb, or paleo diet AND it is soo tasty - great for flavoring water and helping you drink more! Our favorite flavors include Watermelon, Raspberry, Mango Chili, Grapefruit and Citrus!
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Mishlei 22:13 - The Rationalizations of the Lazy Person (after Mishlei 22:12)אָמַר עָצֵל אֲרִי בַחוּץ בְּתוֹךְ רְחֹבוֹת אֵרָצֵחַ:This morning (6/15/22), in our Morning Mishlei shiur, we began by revisiting the pasuk we had been working on for the past two sessions - and we came up with an idea! Next, we tackled one of my favorite pesukim about laziness and arrived at some really nice insights. Tomorrow (בג"ה) will be our last Morning Mishlei shiur of the season. Not sure what we're going to do, but I hope we go out with a bang! ----------מקורות:משלי כב:יב-יג; כו:טזראב"ע כת"י - משלי כב:יבתרגום רס"ג - משלי כב:יגאבן כספי - משלי י:א, פירוש שניתרגום כתוביםפירוש רס"ג - הקדמהרבינו יונה - משלי כב:יגמאירי - משלי כב:יג----------This week's Torah content has been sponsored by Rachayl, who says: "in honor of the end of school, I want to say thank you for making my commutes a time for learning and thinking," to which I say: "Thank YOU, Rachayl, for listening!"----------If you have questions, comments, or feedback, I would love to hear from you! Please feel free to contact me at rabbischneeweiss at gmail.----------If you've gained from what you've learned here, please consider contributing to my Patreon at www.patreon.com/rabbischneeweiss. Alternatively, if you would like to make a direct contribution to the "Rabbi Schneeweiss Torah Content Fund," my Venmo is @Matt-Schneeweiss, and my Zelle and PayPal are mattschneeweiss at gmail.com. Even a small contribution goes a long way to covering the costs of my podcasts, and will provide me with the financial freedom to produce even more Torah content for you.If you would like to sponsor a day's or a week's worth of content, or if you are interested in enlisting my services as a teacher or tutor, you can reach me at rabbischneeweiss at gmail.com. Thank you to my listeners for listening, thank you to my readers for reading, and thank you to my supporters for supporting my efforts to make Torah ideas available and accessible to everyone.----------Patreon: patreon.com/rabbischneeweissYouTube Channel: youtube.com/rabbischneeweissBlog: kolhaseridim.blogspot.com/"The Mishlei Podcast": mishlei.buzzsprout.com"The Stoic Jew" Podcast: thestoicjew.buzzsprout.com"Rambam Bekius" Podcast: rambambekius.buzzsprout.com"Machshavah Lab" Podcast: machshavahlab.buzzsprout.com"The Tefilah Podcast": tefilah.buzzsprout.comGuide to the Torah Content of Rabbi Matt Schneeweiss: kolhaseridim.blogspot.com/2021/04/links-to-torah-content-of-rabbi-matt.htmlAmazon Wishlist: amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/Y72CSP86S24W?ref_=wl_sharel
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How do you know if you're making excuses and pursuing a relationship with guy who only exists in your imagination?In this episode we tackle the reasons someone can make just to remain in a relationship even if it's toxic. We revisit the 2015 blog post by Jason & Crystalina Evert in spotting the red-flags that can lead us into dead-end relationships.❤️ Support Our Mission by simply sending us a virtual coffee at ☕ https://www.buymeacoffee.com/langga
This week, we tackle two stories about facing a tough reality and figuring out how to move forward. In one, it's all about doing things for love. In the other, it's all about doing things for fun. In both instances, however, one has to confront extremely hard truths, accept the complexity of the situation, and devise a strategy in order to make a course correction for a healthy, happy future. Follow the Podcast on Insta: @UnsolicitedAdvicePod Follow Ashley: @AshNichole_xo Follow Taryne: @TaryneRenee To watch our podcast on YouTube: http://bit.ly/UAPodcastYouTube Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for free wherever you're listening or by using this link: http://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdvicePodcast If you want to support the show, and get all our episodes ad-free go to: https://unsolicitedadvice.supercast.tech If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be amazing! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: http://bit.ly/UnsolicitedAdvicePodcast To send us your questions/stories, email us at: AdviceUnsolicitedPod@gmail.com To check out our UA MERCH: https://bit.ly/unsolicitedadvicemerchandise To check out Parallel Apparel: https://www.parallelapparel.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
“Now is the time to get serious about living your ideals. How long can you afford to put off who you really want to be? Your nobler self cannot wait any longer. Put your principles into practice–now. Stop the excuses and the procrastination. This is your life! […] Decide to be extraordinary and do what you need to do–now.” — Epictetus We all have events and challenges that happen in our lives. That what life is all about. When the stoics use the term Amor Fati, what they mean is to love your fate, to love and accept what life sends your way. How you feel about the events that happen to you in your life will not change if they are going to happen or not. They will happen. What thoughts you have around these events, how you feel about them, and how you respond to them are the only things that you have control over. If this is the case, why do we make excuses? Why do we come up with rationalizations about these how we do or don't, especially when the rationalizations just make us feel worse about the actions we want to take anyway?
Join us as we explore the contemporary nature of Judaism and its' timeless teachings which can shape our lives today. Rabbi of Beth Jacob of Columbus for almost a decade and a powerful voice in Jewish leadership, Rabbi Avi Goldstein offers daily doses of digital Torah and inspiration on weekdays, along with weekly specials where he interviews meaningful members of the Columbus Jewish community.
Syamananda Prabhu, bhakti yoga scholar, will speak on the significance of Bhagavad-gita's first chapter.
To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/172/29 Some people will tell a falsehood, saying to themselves, it’s only a little white lie. But to God, it’s a sin, and sin is never a good idea, no matter what good we think may come from it. In this message we continue our journey through Romans chapter three, where we lose the hypocrisy and become real people, truly clean from the inside out.
Some people will tell a falsehood, saying to themselves, “it’s only a little white lie.” But to God, it’s a sin, and sin is never a good idea, no matter what good we think may come from it. In this message we continue our journey through Romans chapter three, where we lose the hypocrisy and become real people, truly clean from the inside out Click here to listen (Duration 25:02)
To some degree, everyone projects an outward appearance that may not square with inner reality. Regarding salvation, it’s easy to make yourself and others believe that all is well when it’s far from well. Even though you might have all the advantages of religion, you’re not necessarily approved by God. So how does God deliver us from our temptations of hypocrisy? Click here to listen (Duration 25:02)
To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/172/29 To some degree, everyone projects an outward appearance that may not square with inner reality. Regarding salvation, it’s easy to make yourself and others believe that all is well when it’s far from well. Even though you might have all the advantages of religion, you’re not necessarily approved by God. So how does God deliver us from our temptations of hypocrisy?
יַסֵּר בִּנְךָ כִּי יֵשׁ תִּקְוָה וְאֶל הֲמִיתוֹ אַל תִּשָּׂא נַפְשֶׁךָ:This morning (3/2/21 at YBT) we continued the pasuk we began yesterday. We started with Rabbeinu Yonah, whose explanation was the closest to the approach we took yesterday. We then contrasted this with Rashi's explanation of the second half, which was almost the opposite. This led to a discussion about corporal punishment in general. We ended by comparing and contrasting Rabbeinu Yonah's and Rashi's explanations of the pasuk.----------מקורות:משלי יט:יחרבינו יונה - משלי יט:יחרש"י - משלי יט:יחרי"ד - משלי יט:יחמיוחס לאבן עזרא - משלי יט:יח ----------If you have questions, comments, or feedback, I would love to hear from you! Please feel free to contact me at rabbischneeweiss at gmail.----------Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rabbischneeweissYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/rabbischneeweissBlog: https://kolhaseridim.blogspot.com/Twitter: https://twitter.com/rmschneeweiss"The Mishlei Podcast": https://mishlei.buzzsprout.com"The Stoic Jew" Podcast: https://thestoicjew.buzzsprout.com"Rambam Bekius" Podcast: https://rambambekius.buzzsprout.com"Machshavah Lab" Podcast: https://machshavahlab.buzzsprout.com "The Tefilah Podcast": https://tefilah.buzzsprout.comOur Yeshiva: https://www.yeshivabneitorah.org/Our Women's Program: https://www.lomdeha.org/
יַסֵּר בִּנְךָ כִּי יֵשׁ תִּקְוָה וְאֶל הֲמִיתוֹ אַל תִּשָּׂא נַפְשֶׁךָ:Sometimes it's the straightforward-sounding pesukim that are the most difficult to understand. This morning (3/1/21 at YBT) we read a fairly straightforward pasuk addressing a father's rationalizations for not disciplining his son. Perhaps it's because this pasuk can be taken in different directions, and perhaps it's because the topic of rebuke is very broad, but either way, we ended the day feeling like we were at a bit of a crossroads. Tomorrow we'll turn to the meforshim for guidance.Please feel free to leave your questions, insights, and feedback in the comments!----------מקורות:משלי יט:יח ----------If you have questions, comments, or feedback, I would love to hear from you! Please feel free to contact me at rabbischneeweiss at gmail.----------Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/rabbischneeweissYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/rabbischneeweissBlog: https://kolhaseridim.blogspot.com/Twitter: https://twitter.com/rmschneeweiss"The Mishlei Podcast": https://mishlei.buzzsprout.com"The Stoic Jew" Podcast: https://thestoicjew.buzzsprout.com"Rambam Bekius" Podcast: https://rambambekius.buzzsprout.com"Machshavah Lab" Podcast: https://machshavahlab.buzzsprout.com "The Tefilah Podcast": https://tefilah.buzzsprout.comOur Yeshiva: https://www.yeshivabneitorah.org/Our Women's Program: https://www.lomdeha.org/
Is it cooler to think there is a grand secret conspiracy based on human trafficking or that human trafficking happens far more often and far more normally than we are comfortable with? And how did we create a culture that produced Marilyn Manson and is simultaneously shocked and offended by him? Oh yeah, we are really all idiots incapable of running our own lives let alone the world! Have a listen to your mom's favorite preachers and intern with guest Raleigh Sadler of LMPG and author of “vulnerable”. Topics: The sensationalism of human trafficking Rationalizations of the perpetrator Marilyn Manson and abuse, are you surprised? Dehumanization behind the screen: friends and porn Guest: Raleigh Sadler Let My People Go lmpg.org Thank you: 1517.org proud member of the 1517 Podcast Network and Concordia Seminary St. Louis Music: Willing Virginia , on Spotify, iTunes, SoundCloud Dead Horse One - I love my man Other stuff: Vulnerable, Raleigh Sadler
Is it cooler to think there is a grand secret conspiracy based on human trafficking or that human trafficking happens far more often and far more normally than we are comfortable with? And how did we create a culture that produced Marilyn Manson and is simultaneously shocked and offended by him? Oh yeah, we are really all idiots incapable of running our own lives let alone the world! Have a listen to your mom’s favorite preachers and intern with guest Raleigh Sadler of LMPG and author of “vulnerable”. Topics: - The sensationalism of human trafficking - Rationalizations of the perpetrator - Marilyn Manson and abuse, are you surprised? - Dehumanization behind the screen: friends and porn Guest: Raleigh Sadler Let My People Go lmpg.org Thank you: 1517.org proud member of the 1517 Podcast Network and Concordia Seminary St. Louis Music: Willing Virginia , on Spotify, iTunes, SoundCloud Dead Horse One - I love my man Other stuff: Vulnerable, Raleigh Sadler
Walt Pavlo, a contributor at New York University School of Law's program on Corporate Compliance and Enforcement Program. In addition, Walt is the founder and President of Prisonology, an expert testimony, consulting and training firms for issues on the Federal Bureau of Prison. Join Cindy Moehring as she discusses the future of business ethics with an expert on the topic.
Our common enemy as the world’s oldest democracy is not Trump, antifa, Nancy Pelosi, AOC, QAnon, or Bernie. The enemy is rationalization.
Welcome…You are here at The Beacon…So glad you found us…I am David Darab, your host for this episode.Prepare to have your Blind Spots Illuminated “To begin, begin.” said William Wordsworth.Let’s do that and get started.It’s the New Year, 2021…Happy New Year to You! We are all excited to see 2020 end, and our hopes are that the countless challenges we faced last year will soon come to an end too!The New Year is a time of reNEWal, time for a fresh start, and a time to reset, recalibrate, and recharge. It is also a time we are constantly reminded about our New Years Resolutions. Seems that we can’t say New Year’s without adding the Resolution part too. Every year we pass this same threshold with the same hopes and desires for the year ahead.What will you do??…do you have a plan??Will you offer up some recurring laundry list of New Year’s Resolutions like you may have done many times in the past;I’ll go first…- lose weight- workout more- eat better- work less- spend more time with your family- save more- spend less- read more books- watch less Netflix- etc, etc, etc…. I can’t help asking you, “How’s has your plan been working for you?” You getting things done?You Moving your needle?You Accelerating?Are you Reaching your Goals?If your response was not a resounding YES, You are not alone. The experts tell us that half of all adults make New Year’s Resolutions, but less than 10% follow through on their goals each year. In reality, by Valentine’s Day, you may find yourself in the same “rut” as before.Fighting these poor odds and without a better strategy I gave up on New Year’s Resolutions years ago.The Truth is … Resolutions don’t work. Action does.I anticipate if you are like me, you know deep down, in your heart of hearts, that you could do better, achieve more, and become a better version of yourself.During these first weeks of the New Year Social Media and the Internet, heck…even my PodCast here… will have expert after expert share their guidelines, rules, hacks, shortcuts, and strategies for achieving more.How about, for a change, instead of getting burdened with lists, journals, apps, processes, and other people’s ideas, we just Resolve to do One and only One Thing.Act…Let’s make a New Year’s Resolution to Decide to Act this year! Let’s put aside all of our thinking, prioritizing, researching, and list-making and exchange it for one simple task… to Act!Of course, Simple does Not mean Easy!We are all very intelligent, with lots of knowledge of the things we know we should do. Just look at the list you create each year.I hate to break it to you, but Knowledge is the Easy Part…We all know that to lose weight we should eat better and become more active…We all know that to grow our Wealth we should spend less and invest more…But knowing is the easy part…taking Action is the hard part, that’s why it is so challenging to achieve and so easy to come up short year after year.This point is key and worth repeating…Knowledge is the Easy Part, Action is the Hard Part.It is your Action that leads to the Change you wish to make.The Words “Resolution” and “Goal” are Nouns, not Verbs.While the Words “Decide” and “Act” are Verbs defining Action.I like to use the acronym D.A.T.E…D…A…T…E forD.ecide toA.ctT.oday andE.verydaySo…why is taking Action so very Hard?Why is it so hard to 1. Decide and 2. Act?Let’s dig deeper here and go down a rabbit hole, deconstructing this process so you can understand better the challenges and roadblocks to Action.Once this is understood, it easier for you to conquer.I’ll take it for granted that those listening here are all high achievers, driven, competitive, and highly successful. We want and demand the very best from ourselves. We are, at most times, our staunchest critic. Failure is not an option, nor something we tolerate or enjoy, after all, we are “Perfectionists”. But alas, there is no such thing as Perfection. A belief in Perfection is in fact a defense mechanism. Waiting for Perfection gives you a way out, it gives you an excuse. It lets you stall, it requires you to do more research, to think some more, and avoid doing anything that might possibly fail. Because as we just said, failure is not an option…especially for a perfectionist.But, and here is the kicker…with the risk of failure, comes an even greater reward…the reward of success, of accomplishing something important, of creating the change we so desperately need, want, and desire.There is an irony here…we want one thing, yet do another…Does any of this sound familiar…does it sound like Resolutions, Rationalizations or Goals not achieved…??!!The contradictions never end.Why is it so difficult to do what we say we’re going to do?The answer is …as Seth Godin says, our “Lizard Brain”, or as Steven Pressfield calls it, “The Resistance”, our Inner Barrier.The Resistance is that little voice in the back of our head telling us over and over to back off, be careful, go slow, watch out, this is risky, compromise. The Resistance grows stronger and stronger the closer we get to achieving what we really want, the closer we get to Action. That’s because the Lizard Brain, or amygdala, that pre-historic area of our brain stem, hates change, hates achievement and risk. After all, it is the amygdala that is responsible for our fight or flight response. It is there to protect us, and it acts even without us knowing.So, we have decided to Act in order to achieve our goals, but for many, just as we are on the verge of action our primitive Lizard Brain, this Resistance, beckons us louder and louder to hold back. It is much like the effect Krypotite has on Superman…the closer he gets… the weaker he becomes.So…How do we Slay and conquer this Resistance, this Lizard Brain, this Inner Barrier, the Amygdala you ask??We slay it by Turning Pro, as in Professional, and leaving our Amateur ways behind us.Let’s consider the differences…as described by Steven Pressfield in The War of Art (a great read see the show notes for a link).An amateur plays for fun, a Pro Plays for keeps.To the amateur the game is his avocation, to the Pro, it’s his vocation.The amateur plays part-time, the Pro full-time.The amateur is a weekend warrior, the Pro is there seven days a week.The amateur attempts perfection, the Pro achieves something remarkable.The amateur delays and procrastinates, the Pro Decides and Acts.The Resistance hates it when we turn Pro.So…for this New Year’s Resolution let’s try something different. Let’s show up every day, no matter what, and decide to do act. Because we now know that no matter how small each act might appear, it is facing your Lizard Brain head-on and completing what you started that is most important. Each small act taken together builds on the one before allowing us to achieve our goals and move our needle. With each achievement, we grow stronger and more confident and The Resistance, your Lizard Brain, that Inner Barrier gets weaker and weaker.Now that you understand better what may have been holding you back, what are you going to do about it?What new decisions and actions will promote your progress? Are you starting them today?Too often, we schedule a time to adopt, embrace, and initiate better habits in the future. “I’ll start tomorrow, or next week, or next month, or whenever. We now know those are simply excuses.Yes, I know, Biology, evolution, and past failures are all conspiring against you. It doesn’t matter. The solution to launching a better way of being is easy. Simply Decide to begin. Decide to Act.In the final analysis, it comes down to your willingness to decide that today is the day, and now is the time to begin. The time to take your first small step into your potential.Every day you can decide to do things better, or do things worse. It’s your choice.So…Let’s review…New Year’s Resolutions don’t work…Decisions and Actions do!You now know that biology and evolution, create an Inner Barrier, a Resistance called your Lizard Brain, powered by your amygdala, which has thwarted your efforts in the past…You are now armed with a strategy to conquer this force…Action!The more you Act the easier the next Action becomes…And finally,I’ll end with a quote from Walt Disney…”The best way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.”So that wraps things up for this Podcast. We hope that this information has created a few “Ah-Ha” moments to help you make great things happen this year. Please share this podcast if you found it helpful, and leave a review on iTunes too. We welcome your feedback and suggestions for future podcast sessions. You can always find me, your host, David Darab, at my Twitter handle, @ddarab.Thank you so very much for tuning in and listening. We are very grateful for your time and attention and so very pleased to have you in our audience.We wish you a happy and healthy New Year._______________________________________________________________________REFERENCESThe Practice; Seth Godinhttps://www.amazon.com/Practice-Shipping-Creative-Work/dp/0593328973/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=the+practice&qid=1610296940&sr=8-1 The Art of War; Steven Pressfieldhttps://www.amazon.com/War-Art-Through-Creative-Battles/dp/1936891026/ref=sr_1_2?crid=26SF519HT8RPB&dchild=1&keywords=the+war+of+art+by+steven+pressfield&qid=1610297028&sprefix=the+war+of+%2Caps%2C189&sr=8-2
Do you ever feel stuck in your life? Do you think it's because you keep rationalizing things to yourself which could be why its hard for you to move forward? Well that's the KEY reason why you're stuck… Rationalizations are nothing more than the stories we tell ourselves about why we don't have something, why we don't have someone, why this and why that… Whether you rationalize about not having enough time, resources, connections, or capital, it's about the story you tell yourself. Change your STORY, Change your LIFE. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Football players call it “putting on your game face.” It means we project an air of invincibility whether we feel that way or not. To some degree, everyone projects an outward appearance that may not square with inner reality. Regarding salvation, it’s easy to make yourself and others believe that all is well when it’s far from well. In this message we learn how God delivers believers from this deceptive mindset. Click here to listen (Duration 54:30)
0:00 Pastor Word Gardener and how does that relate to the protests12:00 I listen to people as part of conversion. Am I ever direct? 18:30 Increase in recognition of symbolism has increased the need of traditional Christianity, denominations. Movement towards older churches. 24:45 Sacrament is something material that connects us to something immaterial. The experience of meaning functions sacramentally in Jordan Peterson's system27:30 What's the future of the IDW? 31:45 Church Discipline and Divorce35:45 Roman Catholic churches aren't often strong on preaching. They are getting it from the Internet. Is this good? 38:45 Where will the LGBTQ series end up? If I had one question to ask the other side. 48:50 What do I do when I'm depressed, upset and feeling down about the things of the world? 54:45 Uptick in people dealing with mental illness57:30 Orthodox christian whose favorite preacher is a Calvinist. Is this an example of an example of growing ecumenical openness? 1:02:45 Rationalizations for evil things by turning towards religion. How do we know when we're doing that? 1:08:15 Christianity is a great path to freedom, but I'm not a Christian. 1:12:30 How do you become such a good listener? 1:14:30 Ecumenical conversations Are we being forced into more ecumenical dialogue by atheism and secularization? 1:18:30 Pastors have taken on a lot of the anti-racist religiosity since George Floyd. Bringing him to dive into Glenn Loury and John McWhorter for a broader perspective. 1:27:45 Jordan Peterson. What is the immaterial thing that Jordan Peterson is using as the sacrament of meaning? 1:32:00 Love your talk of spirits, principalities. Seems very Girardian, for whom the demon/unclean spirit is the particular mutual psychic possession one-of-another, and the Satan is the distributed, pervasive individual psychology. This moves Jesus's ministry from relevant to fringe demonic phenomena to an engagement with the psychological, sociological world on a most compelling manner. Do you have thoughts on the ontology of the spirits and powers? To me the psyche is existing, and the spirit is real, and has real life, even if it is psyche and dies if exercised from the possessed. Also, can you talk about both whiteness and whiteness studies as a principalities, and relate them to our perceptual lenses by which the world stands out to us and which organisms the objects if perception?1:43:50 What is my opinion on the Gnostic and Apocraphal books? 1:46:50 What is my thought on authorship of Paul's letters and books of Peter as well. 1:50:50 Jonathan Pageau, Systems theorists, Game B people. What's my take? 1:54:00 What secular media has provide unexpected religious and spiritual insights? Click here to meetup with other channel viewers for conversation https://discord.gg/jdVk8XU If you want to schedule a one-on-one conversation check here. https://paulvanderklay.me/2019/08/06/converzations-with-pvk/ There is a video version of this podcast on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/paulvanderklay To listen to this on ITunes https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/paul-vanderklays-podcast/id1394314333 If you need the RSS feed for your podcast player https://paulvanderklay.podbean.com/feed/ All Amazon links here are part of the Amazon Affiliate Program. Amazon pays me a small commission at no additional cost to you if you buy through one of the product links here. This is is one (free to you) way to support my videos. To support this channel/podcast on Paypal: https://paypal.me/paulvanderklay To support this channel/podcast with Bitcoin (BTC): 37TSN79RXewX8Js7CDMDRzvgMrFftutbPo To support this channel/podcast with Bitcoin Cash (BCH) qr3amdmj3n2u83eqefsdft9vatnj9na0dqlzhnx80h To support this channel/podcast with Ethereum (ETH): 0xd3F649C3403a4789466c246F32430036DADf6c62 Blockchain backup on Lbry https://lbry.tv/@paulvanderklay https://www.patreon.com/paulvanderklay Join the Sacramento JBP Meetup https://www.meetup.com/Sacramento-Jordan-Peterson-Meetup/ Paul's Church Content at Living Stones Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh7bdktIALZ9Nq41oVCvW-A
The discussion of idle thoughts over a glass of red. Completely unprofessional, unedited, raw. The thoughts of a girl in the middle of nowhere reaching out to say," Hello". #anchorpodcast #love #spotify #iTunes #podcast --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/SlowlyLosingMyMind/support
Research on happiness from social psychologist Daniel Gilbert can help us in surprising ways.Here’s a non-affiliate link to Gilbert's book on happiness. I also encourage you to support your local booksellers and borrow from your library. And here’s a link to one of Gilbert's TED Talks.
The conclusion of Ellul's "Psychological Crystallization" featuring the makeup of its slogans & how they're used to replace thought. Also, collective belief and obsessions, self-justification/rationalizations and how they spawn the self-righteous Puritan, the closing of the crystallized mind, propaganda's religious personality, and the bizarre media phenomenon: monetizing your mind rape. ALSO: - Marianne Williamson: The New Trump? - Introducing the father of American propaganda: Edward Bernays - They know you better than you know yourself - Propaganda's side-effects and how they mirror the '60's definition of "neurosis" Jacques Ellul's "Propaganda": https://www.amazon.com/Propaganda-Formation-Attitudes-Jacques-Ellul/dp/0394718747*Like the pod? SPREAD IT! F**k The Zuckerbeast & Twitter. You are my marketing team.*Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, YouTube, and your favorite podcatcher.*Also check out www.christophermedia.net & www.escapingthecave.com
Imagine 24 hours locked in isolation in a completely dark shipping container competing to see who can run the furthest on a TrueForm treadmill. Retired United States Marine, Major Brian Chontosh (aka “Tosh”) and three others (John Witzing, Josh Chessman, and Isaiah Vidal ) accepted this challenge to raise awareness around mental health with the Whiteboard Project’s LL24h ( https://www.thewhiteboardproject.com/24-hours-of-isolation ). The recipient of one of the highest military honors: the Naval Cross- Tosh, has shown unmatched fortitude in combat and combating the stigmas around post traumatic stress. Jump in the shipping container with us as we learn how to “suck a little less each day.” In this episode, Joe Desena interviews Tosh before he enters the shipping container, and then all 4 athletes the moment the box is unsealed. Lessons: You are what you advertise Do a lot with very little Surround yourself with great people Want “in” on the hardest things Do things you don’t want to do Identify your limits and expand your horizons Prove things to yourself, know your limits & strive beyond them Measure your effort, but against the right things Always do the BEST that you can in EVERY moment PTS vs PTSD: traumatic stress as a normal reaction vs a disorder Don’t believe your own bullsh*t Walk humbly, absorb, think, question.. it's not about having the right answers - it's about having the right questions Take ownership - kill the excuses ! Rationalizations are just excuses in a fancy package Break down big problems to small problems & utilize small solutions Stay process oriented Focus on the task at hand and that will lead you to the target JUST BE HAPPY WITH YOU Suck less today then you did yesterday :) LINKS: LL24h ( https://www.thewhiteboardproject.com/24-hours-of-isolation On Instagram The Whiteboard Project https://www.instagram.com/the_whiteboard_project/ John Witzing https://www.instagram.com/johnwitzing/ Josh Chessman https://www.instagram.com/joshchessman/ Isaiah Vidal https://www.instagram.com/isaiahvidal/ Brian Chontosh https://www.instagram.com/tosh.crookedbutterfly/ The Reveille Project https://www.instagram.com/thereveilleproject/ Wound Warriors Canada https://www.instagram.com/woundedwarriorscanada/ This episode of “Spartan Up!” is sponsored by Athletic Greens. Get 20 travel packs free when you order at https://athleticgreens.com/spartan Time Stamps: 0:00 intro to episode 1:18 Athletic Greens 1:48 Interview begins 2:00 Marine background 3:00 The Navy Cross 3:40 shipping container challenge | Whiteboard Project 4:45 What is a strong mind 5:40 The need to do things you don’t want to 6:00 Dr. L’s advice 7:10 The burden of command 8:30 Truth of looking yourself in the mirror 9:15 Competitions in life 11:00 Mental Health Awareness 12:00 PTS as normal & natural - not a disorder 12:40 Athletic Greens break 16:27 Interview continues 16:45 barriers of knowing & bullsh*t 17:30 Not about answers- It’s about questions 20:00 Rationalizations are just excuses in a fancy package 24:00 Reductionism: breaking big problems down to have small solutions 26:00 How to suck a little less 28:00 Keep your eye on the task at hand 29:18 The panel gets ready to break them out of the shipping containers 29:35 Shipping containers opens 29:50 Tosh’s reaction to 24 hrs in darkness 32:00 The four Whiteboard Challenge participants men’s reaction 41:00 Sefra, Angle, Johnny & Joe discuss the interview 47:30 AthleticGreens.com/Spartan SUBSCRIBE: Apple Podcasts: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpShow YouTube: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpYT Google Play: http://bit.ly/SpartanUpPlay FOLLOW SPARTAN UP: Spartan Up on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spartanuppodcast/ Spartan Up on Twitter https://twitter.com/SpartanUpPod CREDITS: Producer – Marion Abrams, Madmotion, llc. Hosts: Joe De Sena with Johnny Waite, Sefra Alexandra, and Col. Tim Nye. Synopsis – Sefra Alexandra Production Assistant - Andrea Hagarty © 2018 Spartan
News and commentary from Phil Elmore (on the road) for 20 September, 2018, focusing exclusively on the 2016 endorsement by Glenn Beck of Hillary Clinton as the "moral choice" for the 2016 presidential election. Yes, Glenn Beck endorsed Hillary Clinton. No, he'd rather you not tell him so. Rationalizations aside, this podcast analyzes Beck's disastrous choices in depth and examines their moral implications.
Change the R.E.D. That color doesn't look good on you.
The way that you think creates the way you feel. If you have great thoughts then no problem, but if your thoughts are a little distorted, then...look out! Wouldn’t it be great if there were an easy way to look at your thoughts...and change them? As it turns out - there is! In today’s conversation we are going to show you how to identify the kinds of thoughts that lead to depression, anxiety, shame, anger, and self-doubt - and talk about the process that you can go through to eliminate those thoughts for good. Our guest is Dr. David Burns, author of the acclaimed bestseller Feeling Good and one of the leading popularizers of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). He is also the creator of TEAM therapy, which takes CBT to the next level. Today, David Burns and I are tackling the topic of “cognitive distortions” - the messed-up thinking that can get you stuck in negative emotions. By the end of today’s episode you’ll not only be able to spot the times when your thinking gets distorted, but you’ll know what to do about it so that you can “feel good”. If you want to listen to our first episode together, where David Burns and I spoke about how to apply his work in relationships (based on his book Feeling Good Together), here is a link to Episode 98: How to Stop Being a Victim - Feeling Good Together - with David Burns And, as always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Join us in the Relationship Alive Community on Facebook to chat about it! Resources: Check out Dr. David Burns's website Read David’s classic books, Feeling Good or When Panic Attacks FREE Relationship Communication Secrets Guide www.neilsattin.com/feelinggood2 Visit to download the transcript, or text “PASSION” to 33444 and follow the instructions to download the transcript to this episode with David Burns Amazing intro/outro music graciously provided courtesy of: The Railsplitters - Check them Out Transcript Neil Sattin: Hello and welcome to another episode of Relationship Alive. This is your host Neil Sattin. On today's show, we're going to cover ways that your thinking can be distorted. And, by being distorted can impact the way you feel, the way you behave, the way you interact with other people, and basically get in the way of you being an effectively functioning human being. Neil Sattin: I'm talking about cognitive distortions and they've been mentioned a little bit on the show before, but I wanted to take this opportunity to dive deeply into the ways that our thinking can just be messed up. From that messed upness - and no that is not a technical term - comes all sorts of problems. Neil Sattin: From today's show, what my hope is for you is that you understand these things well enough so that you can spot them happening in your own thinking and perhaps in the thinking and reasoning of those around you. We're going to talk about effective strategies for changing the pattern. Neil Sattin: In order to do that, we have with us today a fortunate return visit from Dr. David Burns who was on the show back in episode 98 where we talked about how to stop being a victim in your relationship. This was an episode that was all based on David's work in a book called Feeling Good Together. Neil Sattin: If you're interested in hearing that, you can go to neilsattin.com/feelinggood. What I wanted to talk about today relates to some of the pioneering work that David did in popularizing cognitive behavioral therapy primarily through his book Feeling Good which has sold millions of copies all over the world and has been prescribed and shown to actually help people with depression simply by reading the book and going through the exercises. Neil Sattin: I'm very excited to have David with us today, we're going to talk about cognitive distortions, we're probably going to touch on TEAM therapy which is his latest evolution that's attacking some of the problems with cognitive behavioral therapy. And hear about some of the amazing results that that's getting and get some insight into how that even works. Neil Sattin: Without any further ado, let us dive right in. David Burns, thank you so much for joining us again here on Relationship Alive. David Burns: Thanks Neil, I'm absolutely delighted to be on your podcast for two reasons. First, I think you're a tremendous host. You know your stuff both technically and you know my background, you do your homework, that's very flattering to me being interviewed, but also you seem to exude a lot of warmth and integrity, just a pleasure to hang out with you a little bit today and your many, many listeners. Neil Sattin: Thank you. Thank you so much. I appreciate your saying that. This stuff is important to me. I'm hoping that this podcast makes a big difference in the world and the way that we do that is through being able to feature amazing work like what you do. I don't want to forget to mention that you also have your own podcast, the Feeling Good Podcast that has amazing insight into the work that you're doing. Neil Sattin: In fact, you record sessions with people so people can actually hear you working with clients and then explaining how you did what you did and also getting direct feedback from the people that you're working with. That's a fascinating show and how many episodes have you put out at this point? David Burns: I think Fabrice and I are up to roughly 60, in the range of 60. One really neat bit of feedback we're getting is that a lot of therapists now are requiring their patients to listen to the Feeling Good podcasts. There's been a lot of research on my book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy and studies have shown that if you just hand the book to someone with moderate to severe depression, 60% of them ... 65% of them will improve dramatically within four weeks. David Burns: That's really, really good news. It's called bibliotherapy or reading therapy, but now we're getting this ... I'm getting the same kind of feedback from people who are listening to the podcasts and saying that just listening to the Feeling Good Podcast had a dramatic effect on their depression or their obsessive compulsive disorder or whatever is bothering them. I'm hoping that that trend will continue. Neil Sattin: Yeah, someone's going to have to study podcastio-therapy. David Burns: Yeah, right. You may be having the same thing Neil on your relationship broadcast from people with troubled relationships following the information and the techniques you're providing and perhaps experiencing genuine improvement in their relationships, greater intimacy and love. Neil Sattin: Absolutely. I'm getting that kind of feedback all the time from listeners and I also hear that therapists, particularly couples therapists are having their clients listen to the show and even sometimes prescribing specific episodes for them to listen to. It feels really good to be able to be an adjunct part of people's progress and therapy. David Burns: Congrats. That's great. That's a real credit to the quality of what you're offering. Neil Sattin: Thank you. Thank you. Well, let's dive in. Enough kudos although it does feel really good, though I guess that doesn't surprise me considering you're the author of Feeling Good. Quick point of clarification. Is it the just handing of the Feeling Good book that has a 60 to 65% improvement rate or did the people actually have to read some of it to get that? David Burns: All they have to do is touch it. The improvement comes through osmosis and many of those who have read it have gotten worse. They don't have good data on that in the studies. It's people coming to a medical center for the treatment of depression and in the original studies, they said that they had to be on a waiting list for four weeks and during the four weeks, read this book. David Burns: Then they continued to test them every week with various depression tests and half the patients went to some kind of control group who were on a waiting list control for four weeks or they gave them some other book to read like Viktor Frankl's book Man's Search for Meaning and in all of the studies, the patients who were given a copy of Feeling Good, two thirds of them had improved so much within four weeks that they didn't need to have treatment anymore at the medical center. David Burns: They never got antidepressants or psychotherapy. Then they've done follow up, up to two year follow up studies on these patients as well. For the most part, they've continued to do well or even improve more and have not had significant relapses. The alternative groups who got Victor Frankl's book did not show significant improvement or people on waiting list control. David Burns: They were pretty well done studies sponsored by research from ... sponsored by National Institute of Mental Health and other research groups. Forrest Scogin is a clinical psychologist at University of Alabama and he pioneered a lot of these studies, but there have been probably at least a dozen replications of that finding that have been published now with teenagers, with elderly people and with people in between. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I want to just say, your book despite having been published a little while ago now is eminently readable and I did read it a while ago. In fact, I think it was one of the first "self-help books" that I stumbled across probably around when I was graduating from college. In sitting down and revisiting it in preparation for our conversation today, I was just struck by how personable, for a book that's about cognitive behavioral therapy which is something that I think just calling it that probably turns a lot of people off. David Burns: You bet. Neil Sattin: The truth is that reading it through, it just makes so much sense and I love how you bring humor into the subject and in many ways talk about yourself as an author in some of the quizzes around the kind of thoughts that undermine our self-esteem. Anyway, I definitely recommend it. Neil Sattin: If you're not one of the millions of people who have already read it, you should pick it up and if you are, I would suggest picking it up again to just glean again what more is there. We're going to talk about one of the central topics in the book which is how our thinking affects the way we feel. Neil Sattin: Maybe we just start there because that was one place where I even in upon revisiting, I got a little confused and in the past, that's made total sense to me. Yeah of course, I make something mean something and that gives me an emotional response to it which ironically makes me think of Victor Frankl's work. Neil Sattin: At the same time, I know that we have feelings that just our bodies kick in with emotional responses in a split second when something happens. That seems to precede thought. How do you parse that apart in a way that makes sense? David Burns: Well, the basis of cognitive therapy and we've moved on to something new called TEAM therapy or TEAM CBT, but I think the basis of cognitive therapy which as far as it goes it's still pure gold goes back to the Buddha 2,500 years ago and to the Greek philosophers like Epictetus 2,000 years ago that humans are disturbed not by things, but by the views we take of them that you have to interpret an event in a particular way before you can have an emotional reaction to it. David Burns: This thought is so basic that our thoughts create all of our moods. We create our emotional reality at every moment of every day by the way, we interpret things, but that's such a basic idea that many people can't get it or they don't believe it. I had an example of this at my workshop in the east coast recently - I was in a hotel. David Burns: I've had many afflictions myself in my life. I love to treat people with depression or anxiety because whatever they have I could say, "Oh, I've been there myself." I can show you the way out of the woods, but when I was little, I had the fear of heights and then I got over it completely as a teenager through a high school teacher who had me stand on the top of a tall ladder until my fear disappeared and took about 15 minutes and it was dramatically effective. David Burns: Suddenly, my anxiety went from 100 to zero and I was free, but it crept back in because I stopped going up on heights not out avoidance, just I had no reason to and then suddenly I realized it had returned. I was on a hotel on one of these glass elevators and I was going up to the 14th floor and I was looking down into the elevator and I had no emotional reaction whatsoever and it was because I was telling myself and this was automatic I guess, but you're safe. David Burns: However, if there hadn't been that glass there and it would have been the same elevator going up and looking out, I would have been paralyzed with fear and terror and it would have been a total body experience that I can feel in my whole body this extreme terror. That's the first idea that you can't have an emotional reaction without having some kind of thought or interpretation. David Burns: You feel the way you think - your thoughts create all of your moods. After Feeling Good came out, I got a letter from a therapist in Philadelphia. He was a student therapist at the Philadelphia Marriage Counsel I believe and he said he had read my book Feeling Good: How Your Thoughts Create All of Your Moods. David Burns: He said, "Well, that's a great idea, but how can it be true? If you're on a railroad track with a train coming and you're about to get killed, you're going to feel terrified. You don't have to put a thought in your mind, it's just an automatic reaction." He said, "I don't believe your claim that only your thoughts can create your moods." David Burns: I got that letter and I started thinking, I said, "Gosh, what he's saying is so obvious, how could I have missed that when I wrote that book?" I felt embarrassed and ashamed. A couple days after I got that letter, I was in a taxi coming home from the airport and at a certain place on River Road, you go over this railroad track. David Burns: I looked down the railroad track, I saw there was a car driving on the railroad track at about two miles an hour. Bumpety-bumpety-bump. I looked then in the other direction and this is ... Freight trains come through here, they never stop, they come at 65 miles an hour. I saw one about a mile and a half in the other direction. David Burns: I said, "Man, that guy is going to get smashed by the train." I told the taxi driver, "Stop, I got to try to get that guy off the railroad tracks." I ran up and knocked on the window and he rolled down the window and there's this older man there and he said, "Can you please direct me to City Line Avenue?" David Burns: I said, "City Line Avenue is 10 miles in the other direction, but you're on the railroad tracks and there's a train coming. You've got to back up. Back up to get to the road." Because he was beyond the road, where you know how they have a pile of rocks at the railroad tracks, that's where he was and I said, "Back up, I'm going to get you off the railroad tracks." David Burns: He backed up and he kept ... When he got to the road, I said, "Now turn, turn your car." Finally I had them positioned to where just the nose of the car, the front part of the car was over the tracks and I was standing in front of it. Now the train was about maybe 20 seconds from impact and they had their whistle on. David Burns: I was waving my hands like, "Back up, back up. Just back up five feet and it will save you." Instead, the guy started creeping forward very slowly. Neil Sattin: Oh no. David Burns: The train smashed into him at the side of his car at about 60 miles an hour. Neil Sattin: Oh my goodness. David Burns: Actually ripped the car in half. The front compartment was thrown about 30 feet from the tracks. They had their brakes on, the train was skidding to a stop and I ran over again to the driver's compartment and looked in, it was all smashed windows and I thought I'd see a decapitated corpse, but it hit probably an inch behind his head and it hit so fast it had just cut the car in half and he didn't seem to be that injured or anything. David Burns: He looked at me and smiled and said, "Which way exactly did you say now to City Line Avenue?" I said, "You got to be kidding me." I said, "You were just hit by a train." He said, "I was not." He says, "That's ridiculous." I said, "Oh yeah, what happened to the windows of your car?" David Burns: Then he looked and he noticed all the windows were smashed and there was glass all over. Then he says, "Gosh, it looks like somebody broke my windows." I said, "Look, where's the back seat? Where's the back half of your car?" He turned around and he saw the back half of his car was missing. David Burns: He looked at me and he says, "I think you're right. Half of my car seems to have disappeared." He says, "Where is this train?" I said, "Look, it's right there, it's 20 feet from here." Now the conductors were rushing up and the engineers and he looked at me and he says, "This is great." David Burns: I said, "Why is that? Why is this great?" He says, "Well, maybe I can sue." I said, "You'll be lucky if they don't sue you. You were driving down the railroad tracks." I couldn't understand it and at this point, the police cars came, the ambulance, they put him in an ambulance, I gave my story to the police, he looked just fine and they took him to the Bryn Mawr Hospital. David Burns: I was just scratching my head and I got in the taxi, it was just a mile from home, the taxi driver took me the rest of the way home. I was saying, "What in the heck happened?" The next day I was jogging around that same corner, of course, there was all this litter from the car or broken pieces of metal and glass all over the place and there was a younger guy maybe 50 years old or something like that going through the rubble. David Burns: I stopped there and asked him who he was and he says, "My father was almost killed by a train here yesterday and somebody saved his life and I was just checking out the scene." I said, "Well, that was me actually." I said, "I didn't understand it - he was driving down the railroad track and if I hadn't gotten there, I think he would have been killed." David Burns: I said, "Why was he driving down the railroad track?" He says, "Well, my father has had Alzheimer's disease and he lost his driver's license 10 years ago, but he forgot and after dinner, he snuck out. He grabbed the keys and snuck out, decided to take the car for a drive." Here is the same situation, a train about to kill somebody on a railroad track about to smash into you and I had the thought this guy is in danger he could be killed. David Burns: I was experiencing 100% terror and anxiety and fear, but his thought was different. His thought was, "This is great. I might be able to sue and get a great deal of money." Therefore he was feeling joy and euphoria. Same situation, different thoughts and radically different emotions. David Burns: That's what I mean and that's what the Buddha meant 2,500 years ago when we say that only your thoughts can create your emotions. It's not what happens to you, but the way you think about it that creates every positive and negative emotion. Neil Sattin: Did you ever write back to that person who wrote you? About that train - to tell him what had happened? David Burns: I don't remember it because this was way back in 1980 shortly after the book came out. I probably did because in those days, I was so excited to get a fan letter. I never had any idea that the book would become popular, it didn't hit the best-seller list until eight years after it was published because the publishers wouldn't support it with any marketing or advertising because they thought no one would ever want to read a book on depression. David Burns: When I got a letter in the days before email, I would get so excited and I would try to contact the person and sometimes talk to them for an hour or two on the telephone thinking this might be the only fan I'll ever have. I'm sure I did write back. Neil Sattin: Speaking of that, this might be a good chance to start talking about the cognitive distortions and like the idea that this might be the only fan that you ever have, what are we talking about in terms of now we've established pretty well. The way I think about things is going to determine how I feel. Neil Sattin: Yet, there are these distorted ways of thinking about the world that really have an enormously negative impact on our ability to function and interact. David Burns: This is one of the amazing ideas of cognitive therapy that at first I didn't quite grasp, but the early cognitive therapists like Albert Ellis from New York and then Aaron Beck at University of Pennsylvania who I learned it from were claiming not only do your thoughts create all of your moods, but when you're upset, when you're depressed, when you're anxious, when you feel ashamed or excessively angry or hopeless, not only are those feelings created by your thoughts and not by the circumstances of your life, but those negative thoughts will generally be distorted and illogical so that when you're depressed, you're fooling yourself, you're telling yourself things that simply aren't true and that depression and anxiety are really the world's oldest cons. David Burns: Beck - when I first began learning about cognitive therapy from him when I was a psychiatric resident and postdoctoral fellow, he had about four distortions as I recall and he had big names for them and then I added some to those and I used to talk to my patients about all-or-nothing thinking and overgeneralization and self-blame and the different ones. David Burns: Once, I was having a session with a patient and he said, "Why don't you list your 10 distortions and hand it out to patients?" He said, "It would make it so much easier for us." I thought, "Wow, that is a cool idea." I ran home that night after work and I made the list of the 10 cognitive distortions and that's what led to my book Feeling Good. David Burns: My list of 10 cognitive distortions, it's probably been reproduced in magazines and by therapists all over the world, I would imagine easily millions of times and probably tens of millions of times, but there are 10 distortions. Number one is all-or-nothing thinking, black or white thinking. David Burns: It's where you think about yourself in black or white term, shades of gray don't exist. If you're not a total success, you think that you're a complete failure or you tell yourself you're defective. I gave a workshop with Dr. Beck at one of the professional conferences like the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, cognitive therapy had just come out and Beck is not a very good public speaker. David Burns: I was a novice also at the time and we had a half day workshop and there were a few hundred therapists there and it was okay, but it wasn't great and they started challenging us because nobody liked the idea of cognitive therapy initially, it was scorned and looked down on. We got defensive and then afterwards Dr. Beck looked at me and said, "David, you look like you're feeling down. What's the problem?" David Burns: I said, "Well, to tell you the truth Dr. Beck, I thought we were below average in this presentation and I'm feeling upset about that." He said, "Oh, well you should, if we were below average, you should thank your lucky stars." I said, "Why should I thank my lucky stars if we were below average?" David Burns: He said, "Because average is the halfway point. By definition, we have to be below average half the time. We can thank our lucky stars we got the below average one out of the way and we look forward to an above average one the next time we present." Suddenly, my discouragement disappeared. David Burns: He was just modeling thinking in shades of gray whereas I had been thinking in black and white terms. All-or-nothing thinking is very common in depression and it's also the cause of all perfectionism - thinking if you're not the greatest, second best or average just is not good enough, it's either the world or nothing, perfection or failure and it creates tremendous problems. Neil Sattin: Yeah, I could see that also coming up in terms of comparisons like if so and so is already doing this thing, I can't possibly do that because it's so and so's domain. As if one person could own the domain for the entire world in any particular area. David Burns: Well yeah, that's another mental trick that we play in ourselves with the distortions I call mental filtering and discounting the positive. You see this all the time when you're feeling inferior and comparing yourself to other people. Mental filter is where you focus on all of your flaws thinking about all of your errors. David Burns: You don't think about what's good about you or what's beautiful about you. I did a TV show finally when the book gained popularity in Cincinnati and it was a morning show and they had a live audience and a band and he was interviewing me. It was exciting for me because it was still the first time I had any media exposure. David Burns: Then after the show, the host said, "Dr. Burns, could I talk to you for a minute?" This often happens to me when I'm on a radio or TV show because the people in the media have tremendous pressures on them and they often also feel that they're not good enough. I said, "Sure. I'd love to. What's the issue?" David Burns: He says, "Well, after every morning show, I get about 350 fan mails, fan letters or calls or whatever." He said, "They are 99.9% positive, but everyday I'll get one critical letter. One critical feedback and I dwell on that one constantly and make myself miserable and ignore all the other positive feedback." That's called mental filter because you filter out the good stuff and you've just focused on your flaws. David Burns: A lot of the people listening to the show right now do that. Then an even bigger mental error is called discounting the positive - when you say that the good things about you don't even count. You may have done this to yourself when someone gives you a compliment, you might tell yourself, "Oh, they're just saying that to be nice to me. They don't really mean it." You discount that positive experience. David Burns: I had a colleague who got upset when he recently won the Nobel prize, one of my college roommates, and the reason he got upset is he said they haven't recognized my best work yet. So those are three of the 10 distortions. Neil Sattin: Yes. One of my favorites I think comes next on your list, at least the list I'm looking at after discounting the positive which is the ways that we jump to conclusions. David Burns: Right. There's two common patterns here, jumping to conclusions that aren't warranted by the facts and mind-reading and fortune-telling are two of the commonest ones. Now, fortune-telling is when you make a prediction about the future, an arbitrary prediction about the future and all anxiety results from fortune-telling, telling yourself that something terrible is about to happen - like when I get on that plane, I just know it will run into turbulence and crash. You feel panic and anxiety. David Burns: Depressed people do fortune-telling as well. Hopelessness results from predicting that things will never change, my problems will never get solved, I'm going to be miserable forever. Almost every depressed patient thinks that way and that's actually why many people with depression commit suicide because they have the illogical belief that their mood will never improve, that they're the one untreatable person. David Burns: Mind-reading is the other common form of jumping to conclusions and this is real common in social anxiety, but Neil, I'm sure you see it in a lot of people with relationship problems. Neil Sattin: Absolutely. David Burns: But mind-reading is where you assume you know how other people are thinking and feeling without any evidence, without any data. I used to struggle with intense social anxiety among my many other fears and phobias that I've had and overcome over the years, but the anxious person - say you're at a social gathering and you think, "Oh, these people won't be interested in what I have to say and they never feel anxious. I'm the only one who feels insecure." David Burns: Then you also may have the thought, "Oh, they can see how anxious I am and they're going to be real turned off by me." Then what happens is that when you start talking to someone, you get really busy worrying about how they're not going to be interested in you. You try to think of something clever or interesting to say while they're talking. David Burns: Then when they're done, instead of repeating what they said and expressing an interest in what they said, you make the little speech you had prepared. That turns the other person off because I think, "Wow, David doesn't seem interested in me. I was just telling him about my son, he was just accepted to Harvard and now he's talking about something else." David Burns: That person pretty quickly loses interest in you and says, "Oh, I have to talk to so and so on the other side of the room." Then you, the shy person get rejected again which is what you thought was going to happen. Although these are distortions, you're thinking in an unrealistic way, they sometimes feel like self-fulfilling prophecies so you don't realize that you're fooling yourself. Neil Sattin: Right, because when you're in it, then you seem to be getting plenty of evidence that it's true. David Burns: Yes, and another form of evidence comes to another distortion. One name I made up called emotional reasoning where you reason from your feelings. You see this in angry interactions, you see that in anxiety and in depression. The depressed patient is giving themselves all these messages like I'm a loser, I'm no good and beating up on yourself and then you feel ashamed and guilty and worthless and inferior and inadequate. David Burns: Then you say, "Well, I feel like a loser, I must really be one." Reasoning from your emotions, thinking your emotions somehow reflect reality. That thought by the way is one we skipped over - overgeneralization. That's number two on the list actually, right after all-or-nothing thinking. David Burns: Overgeneralization, this is a Buddhist thing, really overgeneralization. It's where you generalize to yourself from some specific event. For example, I have a free training for Bay Area psychotherapists every Tuesday evening at Stanford and you don't have to be a Stanford student to come, I give unlimited free psychotherapy training to therapists who can come to my Tuesday group and any of the listeners or therapists near in the Bay Area on a Tuesday email me and you're welcome to attend my Tuesday training group. David Burns: Then I also have free hikes every Sunday morning and we go out hiking for maybe three and a half hours on the trails around my home and I treat people for free on the hikes. We do training and one of the women on the Sunday hike, I'll keep it vague to protect her identity, but she just had a problem with her boyfriend and they broke up and then she was telling herself, "I'm inadequate ... I'm unlovable" kind of thing. David Burns: "This was my fault and I must have been doing something wrong." You see, when you think like that and most of us do when we're upset, she's generalizing from this event, that it didn't work out with her boyfriend to then this global idea that "I'm inadequate. There's something wrong with me" - as if you had a self that wasn't good enough. David Burns: Then people also say, "I'll be alone forever. I'm unlovable. This is always happening to me." That's all over generalization where you generalize from a negative event and you see it as a never-ending pattern of defeat. You also see it as evidence that you're somehow defective or not good enough than when you're thinking these things, they seem so true - just as believable as the fact that there's skin on your hand. David Burns: You don't realize that you're fooling yourself, the pain that you feel is just incredible. I know that of the many people listening to this show right now, I'm sure you can identify this with this that you've had thoughts like that and you know how real and painful these feelings are. David Burns: It's one of the worst forms of human suffering, but the good news is and we haven't gone around to that, but not only are there fantastic techniques, cognitive therapy techniques that we've been talking about from my book feeling good described in there or my feeling good handbook so that you can overcome these distorted thoughts and get back to joy and self-esteem quickly, but also my group at Stanford over the 10 years, the past 10 years, we've created even more powerful techniques and to help bring about really high speed recovery for people struggling with depression and anxiety. David Burns: The new techniques are way more powerful than the original cognitive therapy although those methods are still fabulous, but maybe we'll have time to talk about some of these. David Burns: But there's more distortions to cover. Neil Sattin: Yeah. Maybe what we could do because I'd love to balance this out and I want to ensure that we cover the other distortions. We have maybe four more. At the same time, maybe let's break from the distortions just to change things up a bit and start entertaining that question of, "Alright, yeah. I relate to some or all that we've even listed so far." Neil Sattin: What are some of the initial steps that someone could talk because where I tend to go with this is like, "Well, these belief patterns like you talked about, "I'm unlovable" as one, those seem to emerge from a place that's immutable. It's something that's really deep in someone's psyche and yet, you're suggesting that there's ways to transform that that are really quick and direct and give someone a felt experience of the truth that's not that thing. David Burns: Yeah, that's right. You can group the techniques into cognitive techniques to crush these distorted thoughts and motivational techniques to get rid of your ... To bring your resistance to change to conscious awareness and melt away the resistance. The patients become incredibly motivated to crush their thoughts. David Burns: An example of the way the cognitive techniques work, what is crucial and this is one of the first things when we first created cognitive therapy in the mid 1970s was to write the negative thoughts on a piece of paper. It's a very humble thing to do, but it can be dramatically effective because then you can look at the list of 10 distortions and immediately, pinpoint the distortions and that makes it much easier to talk back to these disruptive thoughts and poke holes in them. David Burns: I'll give you an example of my own personal life because I've used these techniques myself and if they hadn't worked for me, I never would have become a cognitive therapist and now a TEAM CBT therapist, but when I was a postdoctoral fellow, I used to go to Dr. Beck's weekly seminars and I would present all my most difficult cases and get tips from him on how to treat these people with what was then the rapidly emerging brand new cognitive therapy and it was an exciting time, but one day, I talked to him about a patient that wasn't paying the bill, that I've had a bad session with this patient and asked him for some guidance. David Burns: He actually was pretty critical of the way I had dealt with this patient. I became awfully upset, I got depressed and anxious and I was riding home on the train and my head was filled with negative thoughts and negative feelings. Then when I got home, I told myself, "Well David, you probably better run, go on a long six mile run and get your brain endorphins up so get over your depression" because those were the days when everyone was believing the phony baloney that somehow exercise boosts brain endorphins and will reduce depression. David Burns: I went out on this long run and the longer I ran, the more believable my negative thoughts became. I said, "David, what are you telling yourself?" I said, "Oh, I'm a worthless human being. I have no therapeutic skills, I'm going to be banned from the state of Pennsylvania and they'll take away my medical license, I have no future in psychiatry. I'm a worthless human being, I'm a bad person." Stuff like that. David Burns: It seemed overwhelmingly true. I said, "Are there some distortions in your thoughts David? Look for the distortions like what you tell your patients." I said, "No, there are no distortions in my thoughts. This is just real." I was telling myself it's so weird to hear, you're something like 30 years old or however old I was, 31, it took you all of this time in your life to realize what a horrible loser you are. David Burns: It's as if I had seen the truth for the first time and it was devastating. Then when I got home, I said, "David, why don't you write your thoughts on a piece of paper? That's what you make all of your patients do." I said, "Oh no, no, my thoughts are real, that won't do any good." Then I told myself, "But isn't that the same way you're whining just like your patients whine and resist? And you force them to write their thoughts down on a piece of paper. You tell them they have to do that. Why don't you try that David?" David Burns: I said, "No, no, it wouldn't do any good. I really am a worthless human being. This is true." Then I said, "No David, you're still resisting. Take out a piece of paper and do what you tell your patients to do." I said, "Oh okay, I'll do it just to prove that it won't work." I wrote my thoughts down. Number one, I'm a worthless human being, number two, I have no therapy skill. David Burns: Number three, I screwed up with this patient. Number four, they'll take away my medical license, stuff like that. I wrote down four or five thoughts. Then I said, "Now, are there any distortions?" I looked at my own list of 10 distortions. I said, "Wow, those thoughts are pretty distorted. It's all-or-nothing thinking, black and white thinking like I'm not allowed to make a mistake with a patient. It's overgeneralization, I'm generalizing from the fact that I screwed up with this patient in a session to, "I am a worthless human being," it's fortune-telling, "I have no future in psychiatry." David Burns: Jumping to conclusions, self-blame, hidden "should" statements, that's another distortion. I shouldn't have screwed up, I should always be perfect. It was emotional reasoning, I feel worthless, I must be worthless. I suddenly saw those distortions and then I said, "Now, can I write a positive thought to challenge these negative thoughts?" That's the other part of the exercise. First you write the negative thought, then you identify the distortions, then you write a positive thought. David Burns: The positive thought has to be 100% true. Rationalizations and half truth will never help a human being. I came up with this positive thought. I said, "David, you're just a beginner. You have the right to make mistakes. In fact, even when you're 75 years old years from now, you might be a great therapist, but you'll still make mistakes and learn from them. That's part of the territory." David Burns: "You're absolutely permitted to do that. Instead of beating up on yourself, why don't you talk it over with your patient tomorrow and tell him that you made a mistake and see if you can repair that rupture in your relationship with the patient." All of a sudden, I said, "Is that true?" "Yeah, that thought is 100% true." How much do I believe this rubbish that I'm a worthless human being and all of that and my belief in those negative thoughts went to zero and my negative feelings just disappeared in a flash entirely. I said, "Wow, this shit is pretty good. This really works." Hope you don't have to edit out that word. Neil Sattin: No, that's fine. That's fine. David Burns: Then the next day I saw the patient, I said, "You know Mark, I've been feeling terrible since last session and ashamed because I don't think I treated you right." I was putting pressure on you because of the unpaid balance and I didn't put any emphasis on your suffering and what's going on with you as a human being I just imagine you felt so hurt and angry with me and discouraged and I'm just overjoyed that you came back today rather than dropping out of therapy so we can talk it over and see if we can deepen our relationship. David Burns: He just loved that and we had the best session ever, he gave me perfect empathy scores at the end of the session, but that's just an example from my personal life and I'm sure the people here can relate to that, but I've developed probably 50 or 100 techniques for crushing negative thoughts and I've made it sound easy, but it isn't always easy because you might be very, very trapped in your negative thoughts. David Burns: You might have to try several of the different techniques before you find the one that works for you. I want to be encouraging to the listeners and to therapists who may be listening, but I also don't want to make it sound like something overly simple or overly simplistic because it's really a pretty high-powered, sophisticated type of therapy. David Burns: Fortunately, many people can make it work on their own, but anyway, that's the half of the treatment breakthroughs and that was called the cognitive revolution and my book Feeling Good really helped usher that in when feeling good came out in 1980, cognitive therapy was virtually unknown and they were just a handful of cognitive therapists in the world. David Burns: Now, it's become the most popular form of psychotherapy in the world and the most researched form of psychotherapy in all of the history of psychology and psychiatry. Neil Sattin: I wonder if we could emphasize because I'm thinking about how we talked about the technique for identifying a negative thought, identifying the cognitive distortion or distortions that are happening and just to talk about the importance of actually going through that exercise and writing it down. Neil Sattin: Maybe you could just talk for one more minute about why that part is so important. Why is it important to actually write that stuff down versus to do it in your head? David Burns: I think that the negative, the power of the human mind to be negative is very profound. The negative thoughts are like a snake eating its tail, they go round and round and one leads to the next. David Burns: In the early days, I used to try to do cognitive therapy without the written exercise and to this day, new therapists still try to do that. They think they're too fancy that writing things down is too simplistic or something like that and they're going to be deep and just do verbal, deep stuff with people, but the problem is, the human mind is so clever. David Burns: Each distortion reinforces another one and each negative thought reinforces another one and you go round and round and round. That's why doing it verbally or in your head when you're alone is rarely going to be effective, but when you write the negative thoughts down one at a time and number them with short sentences, that makes it much easier to identify the distortions in them and turn them around. David Burns: There are three rules of thumb. There's an art form to writing them down. Everything is more sophisticated than I make it sound in a brief interview. There's a lot of rules of the game. For example, when you're writing down negative thoughts, you should never put an emotion or an event. David Burns: People have a negative thought like Trisha rejected me and I feel terrible. Well, that's not a negative thought. That's an event. Trisha rejected me and I use a form called the Daily Mood Log and at the top you put the event and then you circle all of your emotions and put how strong they are between zero and a hundred. David Burns: These emotions might be feel guilty, ashamed, lonely, depressed, worthless and then the negative thought would be the interpretation of that event like I must be unlovable, I'll be alone forever. Then those are things that have distortions. A second rule is don't ever put rhetorical questions in the negative thought column. David Burns: If you say something like, "Oh, why am I like this? Why am I so anxious in social situations?" Or "What's wrong with me?" You can't disprove questions so instead you can substitute the hidden claim behind the question which is generally a hidden should statement like I shouldn't be like this or I must be defective because I'm so anxious in social situations or some such thing. David Burns: There are probably one or two other rules of the game and my book When Panic Attacks which is one of my newer books on all the anxiety disorders, Feeling Good is on depression. When Panic Attacks is on all of the different kinds of anxiety. I think the third chapter shows how to fill out the Daily Mood Log and what the rules are to follow to enhance the effectiveness of it so you'll be more likely to have a successful experience. Neil Sattin: Great. The idea is that it's simply by doing this process that the things shift. It's not like there's ... You go through the process and then maybe you would track your mood afterwards and see, "Wow, I'm actually feeling better than I was before" just by simply doing that? David Burns: Well, a lot of people can feel better just by doing it, but the research has shown that two thirds of people just by reading Feeling Good, they can improve a lot in depression, but some people need the help of a therapist and it isn't true that everyone has to do it on your own, sometimes you need another person to get that leverage to pop out of it. David Burns: Another thing that's helpful when you're writing down your negative thoughts is Beck's theory of cognitive specificity. You see, Buddha said our thoughts create our emotions, but Beck took it to the next level and said different patterns of thoughts create different types of emotions. David Burns: If you're feeling guilty, you're probably telling yourself that you're a bad person or that you violated your value system. If you're feeling hopeless, you're definitely telling yourself that things will never change, something like that. I'll be miserable forever. If you're feeling anxious, you're definitely telling yourself something awful is about to happen. David Burns: "When I get on that show with Neil, I'll screw up, my brain will go blank." That type of thing. When you're feeling sad, you're telling yourself... or depressed, that you've lost something central to your self-esteem. When you're feeling angry, you're telling yourself that someone else is a loser that they're treating you unfairly, that they shouldn't be that way. David Burns: These rules can also help individuals pinpoint your negative thoughts. Once you see what the emotions are, then you know the kind of thoughts to look for. One last thing is sometimes people say, "Oh, I don't know what my negative thoughts are." I just say, "We'll just make some up and write them down and number them." David Burns: Then I say, "Are your thoughts like this?" They say, "Oh, that's exactly what I'm thinking." Those are a few tips on refining the part with the negative thoughts. But now we have even more powerful techniques that have evolved in my work with my training and development group at Stanford. Neil Sattin: Yeah, before we talk about those, which I hope we will have time to do - there are a couple of things that jumped out at me. One was as you were describing the distortions that we've already talked about, it popped into my head that this is often at the source of most conflict that happens in couples - that either one person is having distorted thinking or one person is protecting themselves from their own distorted thinking. Neil Sattin: For example, your partner says something and you have this feeling like, "Well, that's not true. I got to defend myself from that accusation." David Burns: That's right yeah. Neil Sattin: You jump into this place of conflict that's all about proving that this negative concept you suddenly are perceiving about yourself isn't true. When that negative concept in and of itself might be an example of you just having a distortion - like for instance, "my partner is mad at me, that must mean they think I'm a horrible human being." David Burns: Yeah, what's huge what you just said, when we're in conflict with people, there's a lot of inner chatter going on in addition to the verbal altercations, the arguing, the escalation, the defensiveness - and some of the distortions will be focused on the other person and some of the distortions will be focused on yourself. David Burns: You see all of the 10 cognitive distortions in relationship conflict, but they have a little bit of a different function I would say. Now, let's say you're angry, Mary is angry at her husband Sam, she's ticked off and then if you look at her thoughts, they have all 10 distortions. David Burns: She'll tell herself things like, she might be thinking, "Oh, he's a loser. All he cares about is himself. The relationship problems are all his fault, he'll never change." That type of thing. You sell all-or-nothing thinking, mind-reading, imagining how he's thinking, you see blame, you see hidden should statements, he shouldn't be like that, he shouldn't feel like that. David Burns: You see discounting the positive, mental filtering, overgeneralization, magnification, minimization. You see all the same 10 distortions. The only difference is that when you're depressed and I can show you that your thoughts about yourself are distorted and that's not true that you're a loser, you're going to love me, the therapist, you're going to appreciate that and you're going to feel better and you're going to feel better and recover from your depression. David Burns: When people are in conflict and we're having distorted thoughts about the other person, we're generally not motivated to challenge those distortions because they make us feel good. We feel morally superior to the other person. I don't generally work with people too much on changing their distortions about others because they don't want to hear it. David Burns: If the therapist finds out that this woman, that her thoughts about her husband are causing her to be upset, not her husband's behavior, and in addition that her thoughts about her husband are all wrong, wrong, wrong, they are all distorted, she'll just fire the therapist and drop out of therapy and she'll have two enemies, her loser of a husband and her loser of a therapist. David Burns: That's why I developed some of the techniques we talked about in the last podcast we did on relationships. I used slightly different strategies, but you're right, those distortions are incredibly positive and the other kind of distortion you have when you're in conflict if someone's criticizing you, again you may start thinking, "This shows that I'm a loser, I'm no good. I should be better than I am. If you're criticizing me, that's a very dangerous and terrible situation." David Burns: By attending to those kind of thoughts that make you feel anxious and ashamed and inferior and guilty and inadequate, then you can modify those and then do much better in the way you communicate with the other person because your ego isn't on the line. An example with me is in my teaching, I always get feedback from every class I do, every student I mentor or supervise from every workshop and I get it right away, I don't get it six months from now, I get it the very day that I'm teaching. David Burns: I get all kinds of criticisms on the feedback forms I've developed even if I have a tremendous teaching seminar, I'll get a lot of criticisms especially if they feel safe to criticize the teacher. I find that if I don't beat myself up with inner dialogue, then I can find the truth in what the student is saying and treat that person with warmth and with respect and with enthusiasm even. David Burns: Then they suddenly really love the way that I've handled their criticism and it leads to a better relationship and that's true between partners or in families as well. That inner dialogue that's where we're targeting ourselves and making ourselves needlessly anxious and defensive and hurt and angry and worthless when we're in conflict with someone - that can be adjusted and modified to really enhance relationships. Neil Sattin: The two distortions that we hadn't really covered yet, you just mentioned them and I thought ... We've mentioned them all at this point, but some of them like blaming, whether it's blaming yourself for a situation or blaming others for a situation, that seems a little self-evident. Neil Sattin: I'm curious if you could talk for a moment about labeling and then also magnification and minimization just because I think those are the two that we listed, but didn't really cover. David Burns: Did we mention shoulds? Neil Sattin: Let's mention them and I think again, that might be something that's a little more understandable for people, but yeah, let's do this. David Burns: Oh yeah, okay. Yup. Well, labeling is just an extreme form of overgeneralization where you say I am a loser or with someone else, "He is a jerk." Where you see yourself or another person as this bad glob so to speak. Instead of focusing on specific behaviors, you're focusing on the self. When you think of yourself as a loser or a hopeless case, it creates tremendous pain. David Burns: When you label someone else as a jerk or a loser, it creates rage and then you'll often treat them in a hostile way and then they treat you in a hostile way and you say, "Oh, I know he was a loser." You don't realize you're involved in a self-fulfilling prophecy and you're creating the other person's, you're contributing to or creating the other person's hostile behavior. David Burns: Magnification or minimization is pretty self-evident - where you're blowing things out of proportion - like procrastinators do that. You think about, "All you have to do, all the filing that you're behind on." It feels like you have to climb Mount Everest and you got overwhelmed and then minimization, you're telling yoruself, "Oh, just working on that for five or 10 minutes would be a drop in the bucket. It wouldn't make a difference." You don't get started on the project. David Burns: We've done those two. The should statement say I think is very subtle and not obvious to people at all that we beat up on ourselves the shoulds and shouldn'ts and oughts and musts and we're saying, "I shouldn't have screwed up, I shouldn't have made that mistake. I should be better than I am." David Burns: That creates a tremendous amount of suffering and shoulds go back - if you look at the origin in the English dictionary, maybe we did this in our last podcast, I don't recall that if you have one of these thick dictionaries, you'll find the origin of the word should is the Anglo's accent word scolde, S-C-O-L-D-E where you're scolding yourself or another person, where you're saying to your partner, "You shouldn't feel that way." Or, "You shouldn't believe that." David Burns: We see that politically, two people are always blaming someone they're not in agreement with and throwing should statements at them. Albert Ellis has called that the "shouldy" approach to life which is a cheap joke I guess, but it contains a lot of truth. The feminist psychiatrist Karen Horney who actually I think was born in 1890s did beautiful work on shoulds - when my mother, when we moved to Phoenix from Denver, I think my mother got depressed and she read a book by Karen Horney on the Tyranny of the Shoulds, how we give ourselves all these should statements and make us feel like we're not good enough and we're not measuring up to our own expectations and create so much suffering. David Burns: I think that book was very helpful to her and then Albert Ellis in New York saw that, he argued and I think rightly so that most human suffering is the result of the shoulds that we impose on ourselves or the should statements that we impose on others. Neil Sattin: Well, if that's true, then maybe that should be what we take a moment to attack and I'm wondering if you have a powerful crushing technique that works with shoulds whether it's and maybe it would be a little bit different, the ones that we wield against ourselves versus so and so should know or should have done this differently. David Burns: Right. Well, a lot of the overcoming has to do with the mystical, spiritual concept of acceptance, accepting yourself as a flawed human being is really the source of enlightenment, but we fight against acceptance because we think it's like giving in and settling for second best. We continue to beat up on ourselves thinking if we hit ourselves with enough should statements, we'll somehow achieve perfection or greatness or some such thing. David Burns: One thing that I learned from Ellis that has been really helpful to my patients is that there's only three correct uses of the word should in the English language. There's the moral shoulds like the 10 commandments, thou shalt not commit adultery, though shalt not steal or thou shalt not kill. David Burns: There's the laws of the universe should where if I drop a pen right now, it should fall to the earth because of the force of gravity and then there's the legal should. You should not drive down the highway at 90 miles an hour because that's against the law and you'll get a ticket. Now, I had a colleague who came on one of the hikes who has a developmentally challenged child, say a son just to disguise things a little bit and she's from a very high achieving family, Silicon Valley family just to say the least. David Burns: She and her husband are giants, geniuses and then she went to the grammar school for the parent's day and they had all the kids and they have their daughter in some very expensive private school. The kid's pictures were up on the wall and then she saw her son's picture and it was just very primitive compared with the other children who are real high-powered children from high powered families. David Burns: Her son struggles severely and then she saw that and she felt the feeling of shame. Then she told herself, "I should not feel ashamed of my son." That's hitting herself with a should statement which it's like she doesn't have permission to have this emotion and that's what we do to ourselves. David Burns: That's not a legal should, it's not illegal to feel ashamed of yourself or your son. She then was also of course feeling ashamed of herself. It's not immoral and it doesn't violate the laws of the universe. A simple technique that Ellis suggested and it's so simple it goes in one ear and out the other instead of saying, "I shouldn't, you can just say it would be preferabe if or I would prefer it if or it would be better if." David Burns: You could say it it would be better, it would be preferable if I didn't feel ashamed of my son, but that's the human feeling and probably other parents feel upset with their children, they feel ashamed sometimes of their kids or angry with their kids. It's giving yourself permission to be human and that's called the acceptance paradox. David Burns: The paradox is sometimes when you accept your broken nature, accept your flaws and shortcomings, you transcend them. I've often written that acceptance is the greatest change a human being can make, but it's elusive and Buddha tried to teach this 2,500 years ago when I saw on TV and I don't know if was just a goofy program, but it was on PBS that he had over 100,000 followers in his lifetime and only three achieved enlightenment. David Burns: I think it was frustrating to him and disappointing, but I can see it clearly because what he was teaching was so simple and basic and yet it's hard for us to grasp it and that's why I love doing therapy because we've got powerful new techniques now where I can bring my patients to enlightenment often in a single therapy session if I have more than an hour. David Burns: If I have a two hour session, I can usually complete treatment in about a session and see the patient going from all the self-criticism and self-hatred and misery to actually joy and euphoria. It's one of the greatest experiences a human being can have because when my patient has a transforming experience, then it transforms me at the same time. Neil Sattin: Can you give us a taste of what some of the more powerful new techniques are and how they might work in these circumstances? David Burns: Yeah, they're pretty anti-intuitive and it took me many years of clinical practice before I figured it out and before it dawned on me. I would say very few therapists know how to do this and it's absolutely against the grain of the way therapists have been trained and the general public have been trained to think about depression and anxiety as brain disorders. David Burns: The DSM calls them mental disorders. We've gone in the opposite direction and I'll just make it real quick because we're getting long on people's time here I'm afraid, but when I am working with a person, like last night at my Tuesday group, we were working with a therapist and someone who's in training to become a therapist and she was being very self-critical and telling herself she wasn't smart enough and just beating up on herself and saying that she was defective and she should be better at this and she should this, she shouldn't that. David Burns: She was feeling like 90% depressed and 80% ashamed and intensely anxious. One thing I do before I ... She had all these negative thoughts, "I'm defective" and I don't have the list in my hand, but she had about 17 very self-critical thoughts. After I empathized and my co-therapist was Jill Levitt, a clinical psychologist who I teach with at Stanford and Jill is just a gem, she's fantastically brilliant and kind and compassionate and humble. David Burns: After we empathized with this individual and I'll just keep it vague because most therapists feel exactly the same way so I won't give any identifying details, but we asked this young woman, "Would you like some help today?" With her depression and anxiety. If we had a magic button on the table and she pressed it, all our negative thoughts and feelings would instantly disappear. David Burns: Would she press the magic button? She said, "Oh yeah, that would be wonderful." I guess she's felt this way on and off throughout her life since she was a little girl that she is somehow not good enough. Then we said, "Well, we have no magic button, but we have amazing techniques." But before we use these techniques, maybe we should ask, "What are your negative thoughts and feelings show about you that's beautiful and awesome?" David Burns: Also, "what are some benefits to you in having all of these negative thoughts and feelings?" She was very puzzled by that at first as most therapists are like, "How could there be benefits from having depression? We learn that's some kind of mental disorder or major depressive disorder, dysthymic disorder, all these fancy names pretending that these are mental illnesses of some kind. David Burns: But then she got in the flow, we primed the pump a little bit and she was able to come up with a list of 20 overwhelming benefits to her and beautiful things about her that were revealed by her negative thoughts and feelings. For example, when she says, "I'm defective." She will say, "Well, it shows that I'm honest and accountable. Because I do have many flaws." David Burns: Then a second benefit was "it shows that I have high standards." I was able to say, "Do you have high standards?" She said, "Absolutely." I said, "Have your high standards motivated you to work hard and accomplish a lot?" She says, "Oh yeah, absolutely." That was the third benefit. Then the fourth benefit is her self-criticism showed that she's a humble person. That was the fourth benefit, the fourth beautiful thing it showed about her. David Burns: Then we pointed out that humility is the same as spirituality. Her self-criticism shows that she's a humble and spiritual person and then her sadness showed her passion for what she hopes to achieve which is a role as a therapist and a good therapist and her self-doubt keeps her on her toes and motivates her to work really hard. David Burns: Her suffering shows enhances her compassion for others and her shame shows that she has a good value system, a good moral compass and on and on and on, then we came up with a list of when we got to 20 benefits of her negative thoughts and feelings, then we simply said to her, "Well, maybe we don't want to press that magic button because when your negative thoughts and feelings disappears, then these other good things will disappear as well. Why in the world would you want to do that?" David Burns: We have become the role of her subconscious mind and the therapist is paradoxically arguing for the status quo and not arguing for change. The therapist's attempt to help or change the patient is actually the cause of nearly all therapeutic failur
* Cow vigilantes in India, Hindus murdering Muslims for eating cow meat * War on Christmas? Shut up and do what you want. * Okay for Atheists to participate in religious pageants/plays? * Spotlight (movie). Cardinal Bernard Law died this week. * Flat-Earthers: Show us your map! * Banned words at the CDC? Actually just a suggested list of words to avoid when communicating with republicans on climate change * "[Jeff's] arguments are dumb!" * Uploading consciousness to a computer. The perils and philosophical implications of the Star Trek transporter * Shit Internet Apologist Say - (Roy Moore apologist) Something about liberal Christians? - Rationalizations by religious people to support immoral political candidates(according to the morality of their own religion). - "What-ifs" are not proof * Revisit "praying to win" as cheating.
David and Jill begin using M = Methods to challenge the Negative Thought Mark wants to work on first: “There must be something defective in my brain that prevents me from forming a loving relationship with my oldest son.” You may recall that Mark believed this thought 90%. Do you know what the necessary and sufficient conditions are for feeling emotionally upset? The necessary condition is that you have a negative thought in your mind, such as “I’m a failure as a father,” or “There’s something defective in my brain,” but the mere presence of a negative thought will not generally trigger shame, depression, or anxiety. The sufficient condition for emotional upset is that you believe the negative thought. And if you review his Daily Mood Log from the last session, you’ll see that Mark does have a high degree of belief in all his negative thoughts. When you’re feeling depressed, anxious, inadequate, or hopeless, I suspect that your mind is also flooded with negative thoughts that seem entirely true to you. Do you know the necessary and sufficient conditions for emotional change? The necessary condition is that you can challenge the negative thought with a positive thought that is 100% true. Rationalizations and half-truths will never help anyone, at least not in my experience. But having a valid positive thought is not sufficient for emotional change. For example, Mark could tell himself that he’s a very high powered physician in a world-famous medical center, and that thought would be 100% true. But that thought won't help Mark because he’ll still believe there’s something defective in his brain that prevents him from having a loving relationship with his son. The sufficient condition for emotional change is that you can generate a positive thought that is 100% true, and in addition it has to crush the negative thought. In other words, the very moment you stop believing the negative thought that triggers your angst, in that very instant you will experience emotional relief, and the change will usually be dramatic. But how can we challenge Mark’s belief in the NT. Remember, he is incredibly intelligent, and he’s been hooked on this NT for decades. So we can’t just tell him to cheer up, or encourage him to think more positively, or reassure him that his brain is A-Okay. Not only will those simplistic approaches fail, they would likely annoy him because they sound patronizing and might convey the message that’s he’s an idiot for believing something so ridiculous. Instead, as a TEAM-CBT therapist, I think of 15, 20 or even more powerful and innovative techniques that I can use to gently guide the patient to his or her own discovery that the negative thought is simply not true. That's what we do during the M = Methods portion of a TEAM-CBT session. You will listen as David and Jill generate Next, Jill and David generate a Recovery Circle, selecting 16 techniques they could use to help Mark challenge the Negative Thought in the middle of the Recovery Circle. To see the Recovery Circle, CLICK HERE. David and Fabrice discuss the rationale for the Recovery Circle--you never know what technique is going to work, since people are quite different. One of the many unique and arguably powerful aspects of TEAM-CBT is the use of more than 75 techniques drawn from more than a dozen schools of therapy. One of the first methods we use is so basic that it is programmed right into the Recovery Circle, and it’s called Identify the Distortions. Fairly early in today's recording, Jill and David will ask Mark to identify the distortions in his Negative Thought (NT), “There must be something defective in my brain that prevents me from forming a loving relationship with my oldest son.” At that point, Fabrice will ask you to pause the recording and see how many distortions you can identify in the thought. You can write them down on a piece of paper, or simply print the linked PDF and identify them with check marks on the list of 10 cognitive distortions from my book, Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. CLICK HERE FOR TEN COGNITIVE DISTORTIONS After Mark identifies the distortions in his Negative Thought, Jill and David encourage him to challenge it, using a variety of techniques on the Recovery Circle, starting with the Paradoxical Double Standard Technique. This is a gentle technique that is often effective for people who are compassionate. Because this technique seems to be helping, they ask Mark to record his positive thought in the Daily Mood Log, and to indicate how strongly he believes it. Then you will see that Mark's belief in the Negative Thought is reduced to zero if you CLICK HERE. In the next podcast, David and Jill will continue with the Methods portion of the session using additional techniques on the Recovery Circle. This will be a unique opportunity to hear many of these techniques in real time with a real person, as opposed to simply reading about them in a book. So--stay tuned to our Feeling Good Podcasts--and thank you so much for your enthusiastic support!
Yesterday we learned about how we rationalize - how we talk ourselves into - committing the sin of looking at pornography. This podcast is part two of two. This teaching is from the series called “The Sex Spiral: Forgiven and Free from Pornography. This podcast series is a sample of the upcoming book with the same name. In this podcast you'll learn the lies that are in these rationalizations and more: #1: Once I’m married I’ll stop. #2: It’s safer than real sex #3: It’s unhealthy not to masturbate.
We begin our new lesson on the Rationalizations we give ourselves to look at pornography. This is part one of two. This teaching is from the series called “The Sex Spiral: Forgiven and Free from pornography. This podcast series is a sample of the upcoming book with the same name. In today’s lesson we’ll see how easy it is to rationalize our behavior before we commit the sin. We also discuss some of the most popular rationalizations so you can start becoming aware of the things you may be telling yourself. In this podcast you'll learn: #1: The difference between rationalization and justification #2: Why we only rationalize sin to ourselves #3: How to recognize the lie in rationalization and replace it with truth
Rationalizations. Excuses. Denials.
Our brains do an amazing job of helping us feel good about not getting the important stuff done.
Those with ADHD are good at the art of self-sabotage. They have mastered the ability to tell themselves stories and to rationalize, which gets in the way of self-regulation. In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, guest host Caroline Maguire (www.necoaching.com) interviews expert Dr. Ari Tuckman (www.adultadhdbook.com) to gain insight on his perspective on this phenomena and how it inhibits forward progress. He gives ideas on what those with ADHD can do to reverse this trend and learn to self-regulate. If you find you are self-sabotaging, you won’t want to miss this show. Attention Talk Radio is the leading site for self-help Internet radio shows focusing on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD), including managing symptoms of attention deficit disorder, adults with ADD, or adults who have children with ADHD. Attention Talk Radio, hosted by attention coach Jeff Copper, is designed to help adults and children (particularly those diagnosed with or impacted by attention deficit disorder or its symptoms) in life or business who are stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated. It will help adults and children get unstuck and moving forward by helping to open their minds and pay attention to what works. Attention Talk Radio host Jeff Copper is an ADHD coach. To learn more about Jeff, go to http://www.digcoaching.com.
The concluding episode in a short series about the roots of, forms of and remedies for procrastination. INTRODUCTION: -A brief review of the series -Four Simple Reasons for Procrastination (Difficulty, Time-consuming, Lack of knowledge or skills, Fears) -Four More Complex Reasons for Procrastination (Perfectionism, Anger/Hostility, Low Frustration Tolerance, Self-Downing) 11 PRACTICAL STEPS TO PRODUCTIVITY: 1. Know What you Want/Identify 2. Belief/Attitude 3. Make a Plan 4. Decision 5. Determination 6. Do the Work/Commit 7. Practice Resilience 8. Have Reminders 9. Start Small 10. Practice Patience 11. Recharge COMMON IMPEDIMENTS & RATIONALIZATIONS (from Cal Poly Academic Skills Center (ASC): Procrastination) Mañana - "I'll do it tomorrow." Contingent mañana - "I'll do it tomorrow, if ..." Grasshopperism - "I need to have some well-earned fun first." (In aesop's fable, the grasshopper fiddled and played all summer while the ants stored up winter supplies. When winter came, the grasshopper suffered.) Escapism - "I've got to get out for a while to clear my mind." Impulsiveness - "My problem will be solved if I change my major, or attend a different college, or... " Music and reading - "I'll relax a while and then get started." Cavalry to the Rescue - "The professor will get sick and cancel finals!" "I'm more productive when I work under pressure, so I'm postponing all my work until the pressure builds up and then I'll get it done easily." "I don't know how to do this problem, so I'm waiting until I know how before I do it." "This job is easier to do when I'm in the mood, and I'm simply not in the mood right now." "I waited until the last moment before and it worked out okay, so why not this time?" "If I wait until the last minute, I won't spend so much time on it." "Circumstances beyond my control prevented me from doing so." "I've worked on this for so long that I have no interest or energy for it." Shop: Look Closer: Cal Poly Academic Skills Center (ASC): Procrastination - http://sas.calpoly.edu/asc/ssl/procrastination.html 10 Ways to Push Yourself to Excel at Work in the New Year - http://www.lifehack.org/articles/work/10-ways-push-yourself-excel-work-the-new-year.html HOW WE PROCRASTINATE - http://www.unstuck.com/how-we-procrastinate.html David Allen, Getting Things Done - http://www.davidco.com/ The Trivium method - http://www.triviumeducation.com/ tragedyandhope.com - http://www.tragedyandhope.com/ Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_therapy ABC Worksheet - http://www.stressgroup.com/ABCworksheet.html It's About Time:The 6 Styles of Procrastination and How to Overcome Them - http://www.orgcoach.net/overcomeprocrastination.html
Matt Dillahunty and Don Baker. Lame Rationalizations. Don explains what you get when you get an apologist off his script.
By anticipating the typical reasons & rationalizations given for ethically questionable behavior, you are able to identify and prepare well-reasoned responses. Written by Mary Gentile. This video is accompanied by teaching notes to help aid classroom discussion and can be downloaded within this iTunes collection. For more on Ethics Unwrapped please visit our website: ethicsunwrapped.utexas.edu
Abramoff’s version of rationalizations, which are the excuses we make for not living up to our own, or society’s, ethical standards. With Robert Prentice and Minette Drumwright. This video is accompanied by teaching notes to help aid classroom discussion and can be downloaded within this iTunes collection. For more on Ethics Unwrapped please visit our website: ethicsunwrapped.utexas.edu
The fourth podcast episode explores how the very survival mechanisms that we cling to, the ones that we feel are keeping us alive are actually doing the exact opposite. In spite of what we believe, our defenses often harm us by preventing us from moving forward rather than from being harmed. Our rationalizations cause us to convince ourselves that our own falsehoods and self-delusions are true, while the pop culture phrase of "It's complicated" serves to give us the across-the-board excuse that the issues we struggle with are outside of our own control. Jim1537 and his wife, Meremystic, tackle these issues head on by sorting through the many layers we all need to work through in order to transform our lives for the better. Ultimately, this episode provides us with the tools we need to navigate our journeys on earth from the core of our spiritual being in order to achieve our divine purpose on earth. Jim1537 is an experienced psychic, spiritual medium, teacher and life coach who has provided personal consultations for over thirty years. He is also a spiritual/metaphysical teacher and author. His book, Why the Law of Attraction Isn't Working for You, is now available as an e-book. To learn more about Jim and his gifts, visit www.jim1537.com.
Practical steps for killing Excuses, Justifications and Rationalizations, and replacing them with adaptations, improvisations and overcoming. We can categorize our lives, and look for them – to root them out. Then, connect with a Godwor disciple for accountability & help. Finally, choose one or two and work on them one bit at a time.
Satan’s Sirens … Excuses, Justifications and Rationalizations. These three are alluring, enticing, just like the beautiful singing sirens of mythology that lured sailors to their death – Satan’s sirens kill us. The solution is for us to recognize things that tempt us to these things, then treat them as challenges and opportunities. We should adapt, improvise, overcome … we should put on the full armor of God (Ephesians 6).
The purpose of talking about the negativity of politics is to create a better world for everyone The moral double standard of government must be challenged People comply all the time for all kinds of reasons "Agents of the State" do not work for us; they work for those "in charge" Cops: America's one and only--by force! A legalized monopoly on police force will always use that force against you Public property leads to making victims out of all of us, by "agents of the State" Impounding equals theft equals extortion racket Many "businesses" collude with those in government and use the force of the State to make money The goal of government is to maintain obedience (in order to "make" money and keep control) In traditional education, kids are managed, watched, and told what to do by those who presume to be "authorities" over them, which leads directly to statism Arbitrary enforcement of unjust laws makes perfect sense, doesn't it? Typical "news" stories don't have truth and freedom in mind Government as Jabba the Hut... Episode 3: A Young Person's Guide to the American Political System http://schoolsucks.podOmatic.com/entry/eg/2009-08-24T09_20_02-07_00 The illusion of freedom is fostered on multiple fronts in multiple ways The "authority" of the family--i.e., the head of household--has always held sway and generated the fear mechanism By what right, standard, and code do you presume to rule over me? It's incumbent on parents to see their kids as equally deserving of respect Unschooling principles are based on a mutually respectful code of morality And kids who are unschooled according to rational moral principles won't tolerate tyranny as adults Each generation is within reach of complete liberty; it's just a matter of how much of your life you want to take back that has been stolen from you "Public property" is a contradiction in terms, and a sure-fire way for authoritarian sociopaths to treat others unjustly Our distinct lack of freedom is the issue and idea of our age... The common denominator of socio-economic problems is government, and the irrational/unjust memes fostering it Hernando de Soto's misguided ideas about property rights http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/commandingheights/shared/minitextlo/int_hernandodesoto.html The illusion of property rights serves the interests of those in power to essentially harvest the products of the free-range slaves Lack of understanding in economics and human motivation leads to fears about exploitation by property owners Re-educate thyself in the nature of freedom: http://tolfa.us Feel free to rate and review CLP... http://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=254220370 The fundamental difference between Marxism and Objectivism (property understood and applied) is logic http://wiki.objectivismonline.net/wiki/Introduction_to_Objectivist_Epistemology http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/epistemology.html http://aynrandlexicon.com/lexicon/objectivism.html Most philosophers throughout history have denied the validity of the senses and thus forward illogical epistemology Do you think that freedom should be the highest value for human beings? Reason, purpose, and self-esteem all require freedom Both personal and political freedom are necessary to live a life proper to a human being Rationalizations for statist memes serve as sick substitutes for genuine choices in a free marketplace The founders of Sudbury Valley School unfortunately incorporated "democratic" statism into an unschooling school (free school) environment - http://tinyurl.com/leukmc Being told that you have "a voice" in a democracy is basically saying that you don't exist as a respectable person The obedience meme is widespread, even among the liberty movement Some have decided NOT to obey - Lauren Canario Eminent Domain Arrest (in 2005) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-ElrlwnMrA Is the lack of freedom in your life preferable to experiencing the consequences of living freely? With the moral code of altruism, there is no end to the sacrifices and thus rationalizations Only a tireless disobedient minority (of agorist intellectuals) can accelerate the process of achieving complete liberty If you're not doing anything to protest the injustices of those in government, and if you're not demanding better behavior, nothing is going to change Lots of wealthy businesspersons "legally" try to pay as little taxes as possible, which concedes the immoral premise of statism and emboldens statist oppressors Civil disobedience--based on the principle of self-ownership and property rights--is the moral thing to do, because individuals should be respected "Under a government which imprisons unjustly, the true place for a just man is also a prison." H.D.T. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Civil_Disobedience_(Thoreau) Reacting violently to political oppressors not only plays into the hands (fists and guns) of the authoritarian sociopaths, but it also leaves the authoritarian/obedience memes intact Nothing trumps your mind, volition, and life The greatest motivation and benefit of defying unjust demands is internal Those who believe that they are moral must come to terms with enslaving and incarcerating rights-respecting individuals Supporters, video cameras and the Internet are the primary methods of showing the immoral and unjust behavior of governmental "officials" (and shaming them) Complying--remaining libertarian talkers--makes it seem as if injustice isn't happening Stefan Molyneux's contrary messages: http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1448_working_for_the_state.mp3 http://www.freedomainradio.com/Traffic_Jams/FDR_1369_Tricky_Trollz.mp3 If we believe that it's moral and practical to obey, then neither those in government (nor bullies) will change their behavior as a consequence You're never going to get a significant fraction of people on board the liberty movement unless you do disobey, and incur the consequences of the code of immorality that's being foisted on people Violent resistance to governmental "officials" unjust demands basically would lead to your death and their death, and perhaps death of the liberty movement The authoritarian/obedience meme has existed for centuries--but it's time to evolve, and it would be a shame if we didn't Check out the activism in Keene, NH - http://freekeene.com Freedom Roundtable - 2009 Liberty Forum - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUAoeQ-6Q2o In America, we have the rhetoric and pretense of freedom The next-step challenge is to get rid of the behavioral contradictions, to walk the talk All those in governmental schools need to listen to Brett's School Sucks Podcast - http://edu-lu-tion.com The horrible injustice perpetrated on Irwin Schiff: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irwin_Schiff#Convictions_for_1997_through_2002_tax_years Peter Schiff on his father, Irwin Schiff - http://motorhomediaries.com/schiff/ The immoral man whose job Schiff wants - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electoral_history_of_Christopher_Dodd The IRS is an institution that is evil to the core--they aggress against rights-respecting persons and their property Even if you're fully educated about complete liberty, as long as you comply with tyrannical attitudes, nothing really changes for the better For the convenience of the government, and on account of his heroic efforts, Daniel is no longer part of the Navy: http://immoralityofwar.blogspot.com/2009/09/day-131-end-of-my-military-enslavement.html War is the health of the State, and the State promotes war, first and foremost on "it's citizens" via taxation and regulation http://warisimmoral.com bumper music "Rise Above" by Black Flag (and Intro: "Richard Feynman: Disrepect for Authority" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yhD0MxacnIE ) http://www.myspace.com/blackflag80shardcore http://www.sstsuperstore.com/product.asp?showproduct=SST007-CD to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697
The invalid legal fictions of statism: counties, states, nations, etc. Report #TL07A: THE ANATOMY OF SLAVESPEAK by Frederick Mann http://www.buildfreedom.com/tl/tl07a.shtml "It is hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in your head." Sally Kempton It's the nature of slavespeak to keep you in your place, i.e., oppressed Terrocrat--coercive political agent "...it's absolutely vital that you understand that the primary means terrocrats use to subjugate, control, and dominate their victims is words." F.M. Beware the cattle guards for your mind, which are typically devised for you at an early age The fundamentally irrational nature of spanking, or "tough love," rests on rationalizations for evil actions Authoritarian sociopaths demand "respect" (in the form of fear and obedience), but turn-about is not fair play Rationalizations support pseudo self-esteem and vice versa; if you don't honor yourself, you won't honor others People in government commit crimes (such as extortion and kidnapping) with impunity, crimes which are forbidden to individuals "[The State] will give you everything if you worship it, this new idol: thus it buys for itself the luster of your virtues and the glance of your proud eyes." Nietzsche People have to maintain the language of seeming truth in order to maintain their power People falsely believe that they would suffer if the State fell The language of liberty (and euphemisms) are used to cover up the tyranny of statism In general, slave-mentality can consist of many elements... Each of us is responsible for our own happiness Life is neither fair nor unfair; fairness is a concept that concerns human relationships "It's the law" is slavespeak that denies taking personal responsibility for injustice and immorality There are psychological payoffs for feeling down and out "A belief that you have to sacrifice part of your earnings, property, etc. 'for the good of society'" spells complete enslavement Absolute truth is absolutely true :) http://www.ozarkia.net/bill/anarchism/Fallacies.html#Self%20Exclusion Thanks for all the letters! by Sam Dodson (aka SamIAm) http://freekeene.com/2009/04/23/thanks-for-all-the-letters/#more-1887 http://www.youtube.com/ObscuredTruth How many civil disobedients and libertarian voices will it take to instill freedom memes in the general populace? In a free market you get what you pay for, and you only get what you want--unlike imposed governmental "services" Book TV on C-SPAN2 - Top Nonfiction Authors Every Weekend - Robert Higgs http://www.booktv.org/watch.aspx?ProgramId=ID-10300 who's your nanny? by Trevor Bothwell http://bothwell.typepad.com/whos_your_nanny/2009/04/american-the-idol.html Conflation of State and society disarms the masses and perpetuates the Stockholm syndrome Mass cognitive dissonance circulating in the culture on account of the State Orthodox Objectivist claptrap: http://capitalism.org/faq/anarchism.htm "Legitimacy" of government is fostered by virtue of being a coercive "legalized" monopoly Individual rights exist prior to any government; you are free to make choices by virtue of being a rational animal The magnitude of the problem of government is reflected in slavespeak and failure to reason from first principles (and defining terms) as well as rewards for obedience The choice for budding Objectivists: become a Randroid, or become an independent thinker (and thus anarcho-capitalist) Once you abandon your search for truth, you succumb to your fears Government equals completely communized justice; a monopoly of "justice" will always provide the worst quality at the highest price Galt's Gulch was anarchy! Fear of "competing gangs" stems from fear of others, not trusting them to be responsible individuals "I swear--by my life and my love of it--that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine." John Galt bumper music "drum-1a" by friend and Free Stater Roger Grant (better song title might be "Black Robe Incantation...") http://www.politicalgraffiti.com; couldn't find exact link to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697
Without responsibility there is chaos, i.e., government A thread on the truther message board http://9-11.meetup.com/279/messages/boards/thread/4766129/0 Anarchy is personal responsibility Rationalizations for State-run stuff, e.g., "education" Free riders and unfree "services" Turning the tables on the craziness Learner-driven education http://www.logicallearning.net/learnerdrivened.html Ending thuggery in education and coerced payment for it The Comprachicos by Ayn Rand Government school "socialization" leads to gang warfare The rapist in one's living room Everyday Anarchy Part 3 of 7 by Stefan Molyneux http://www.strike-the-root.com/81/molyneux/molyneux4.html Why people CAN handle complete liberty Why we must battle moral premises (or rather, immoral ones) bumper music "One" from Inquisition Symphony by Apocalypticahttp://www.apocalyptica.com/ to comment, please go to http://completeliberty.com/magazine/category/91697
What do you do when your baby throws up on a plane or screams in public? Adam Wasson, author of "Eats, Poops & Leaves : The Essential Apologies, Rationalizations, and Downright Denials Every New Parent Needs to Know and Other Fundamentals of Baby Etiquette" shares some tips on parenting etiquette. We'll also talk with Christine Louise Hohlbaum, author of "Diary of a Mother & SAHM I Am: Tales of a Stay-at-Home Mom in Europe." Marci Shimoff will share inspirational stories from "Chicken Soup Every Mom's Soul"
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