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Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2026 57:09

What if the problem isn't that you need better boundaries…but that you keep pretending you don't have limits?In this coaching conversation, I'm talking with Claire, a children's book illustrator who has spent years saying yes to too much, working nights and weekends, relying on hyperfocus to get everything done, and eventually burning herself out.We unpack why ADHD hyperfocus isn't always the “superpower” people make it out to be—and how constantly overriding your own capacity can cost you your health, relationships, creativity, and trust in yourself.We also talk about the beliefs we inherit from our families about work, success, money, and rest—and what it looks like to consciously break the agreements that no longer serve us.If you're constantly overcommitting now and assuming Future You will somehow figure it out, this conversation is for you.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

ADHD & Fear of Failure: If You've Been Told You're Not Good Enough, Listen to This | Rosalie Boonstra

ADHD Untangled

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 29, 2026 71:27

Do you have a dream you keep talking yourself out of?Maybe you've been told it's not realistic. Maybe one bad piece of feedback shut you down for years. Maybe you had one brilliant idea and quietly decided it was the only one you'd ever get.Because that's what fear of failure does. It doesn't stop you dreaming. It stops you starting.This week's guest is Rosalie Boonstra, a Dutch couture designer and artist who makes the big, bold, fabulous gowns you see on red carpets and stages. One of her dresses landed on the cover of Vogue NL (on her 25th birthday, no less). She's won an award, she's won a TV show, and she's worked with brands, museums and filmmakers.She was also bullied at school, doubted by her friends, knocked down at art school and diagnosed with ADHD in her late twenties.And when that Vogue cover happened? Her first thought wasn't celebration. It was "why am I here?"As Rosalie puts it: it sometimes takes a lot of time and the right people to find out you're not a failure.So let's untangle ADHD and bringing your dreams to life:

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Why Forced Transitions Dysregulate the Autistic Brain with Pete Wharmby

Mind Matters

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2026 44:13

When autistic kids struggle, their difficulties are often treated as behavioral non-compliance or a lack of social desire, when it's often a direct mismatch with the learning environment. Adults routinely push these students into sensory-heavy spaces or force sudden task shifts, misunderstanding the neurological toll this takes on a differently wired nervous system. Pete Wharmby, an autistic author, former teacher, and late-diagnosed ADHDer, joins Emily Kircher-Morris to talk about what happens when schools and families learn to support rather than correct autistic ways of being. TAKEAWAYS Autistic behavior in schools is often pathologized and targeted for correction when it's likely a natural, necessary drive to decompress from sensory overload. Monotropic focus operates like driving on a high-speed freeway, where abrupt task transitions resemble crashes and require gradual advance warning signs to exit safely. Thin-slice judgments cause adults to mistake natural autistic communication, such as flat tone or lack of eye contact, for intentional rudeness or disrespect. High academic performance can mask emotional distress, with deep exhaustion and low frustration tolerance serving as the real markers of masking. Receiving late diagnoses of autism and ADHD often creates complex grief over missed accommodations and unmedicated years that could have prevented chronic burnout. The doors to the Neurodiversity University Educator Hub are now open! Click here to join our collective of educators, administrators, and advocates, and let's build an education system that works for all students. Pete Wharmby is an autistic and ADHD advocate, bestselling author, and international speaker dedicated to increasing understanding and acceptance of neurodivergence. Since his autism diagnosis in 2017 and ADHD diagnosis in 2024, Pete has worked with businesses, governments, schools, and organizations across the UK, Europe, Australia, and North America, sharing practical insights drawn from both lived experience and research. Pete is the author of the bestselling books What I Want to Talk About, Untypical, and the forthcoming Different Minds. A former secondary English teacher, he is also a prolific writer whose work has appeared in articles, interviews, and book chapters, and he has been featured on BBC Radio 2. Through his speaking, writing, and social media platforms, where he reaches more than 150,000 followers, Pete continues to champion a more neurodiversity-affirming world. BACKGROUND READING Peter's website, Facebook, Instagram The Neurodiversity Podcast is on Facebook, Instagram, BlueSky, and you're invited to join our Facebook Group. For more information go to www.NeurodiversityPodcast.com If you'd like members of your organization, school district, or company to know more about the subjects discussed on our podcast, Emily Kircher-Morris provides keynote addresses, workshops, and training sessions worldwide, in-person or virtually. You can choose from a list of established presentations, or work with Emily to develop a custom talk to fit your unique situation. To learn more, visit our website. Thank you for supporting neurodivergent people.

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BONUS: ADHD in Parliament

You're Wrong About ADHD

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 23, 2026 27:58

The Labour MP Josh Dean has been vocal about his own ADHD. He speaks to Katie and Sam about his experience and why he feels it's so important to speak up for ADHDers in Westminster. They look at what the government response has been to Josh's campaigning and ahead of a report into ADHD services, they discuss what needs to be done to tackle waiting lists, offer better support for ADHDers and how to combat misinformation. Questions, comments or ideas - find us on Instagram, Tiktok or Youtube.For advertising opportunities on this show email dax@global.comMusic composed by Bella Saer and Yoad Nevobellasaer.com | yoadnevo.com

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Your Brand Needs Repetition, But Your ADHD Brain Needs Novelty: What's the Solution?

The Driven Woman

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2026 19:12 Transcription Available

Entrepreneurial ADHD brains crave novelty, often leading to constant rewrites of core messaging. Yet your audience has barely encountered your message, and reinvention blocks true recognition and authority.Diann Wingert reveals how to keep claims consistent while channeling creativity into fresh angles. By building new doors into the same room, you achieve sustainable repetition that connects with your audience and grows your business. EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Why Your Brand Needs Repetition but Your ADHD Brain Craves Novelty05:00 - Why You Get Bored With Your Own Messaging Too Soon12:00 - What to Keep Fixed in Your Brand and Messaging20:00 - How to Use Novelty Without Changing Your Core Brand28:00 - The Core Claim, SEO, and Building New Doors Into the Same RoomKey takeaways:Repetition is non-negotiable: Your audience hasn't heard your core message nearly as many times as you have. Even the most engaged followers need 8+ exposures before it really sticks.Novelty needs better boundaries: Put your creative energy into new stories, formats, and examples—but keep your core claim, signature frameworks, and offer language consistent for years, not weeks.Build new doors, not new rooms: Use fresh angles to invite people in, but always lead them to the same core message. Changing your positioning too often kills your chance of becoming known, referred, and hired.If you're tempted to reinvent your message this month, pause and write your core claim in one sentence. Then, brainstorm three fresh “doors” (stories, formats, hooks) that point right back to it. Don't let novelty wreck your focus—make it work FOR you.Your ADHD-ish ™ host Diann Wingert, MSW is the host of the ADHD-ish Podcast, the creator of The ADHD-ish Method business strategy and coaching program and Di AI, her ADHD-informed business strategy and coaching digital clone.Drawing from her own experiences as a serial business owner, former psychotherapist and fellow ADHDer, Diann challenges conventional business thinking, like the typical marketing advice "just be consistent,"Through her podcast, email newsletter, webinars and blog, Diann supports entrepreneurs with ADHD to create an ADHD-friendly business and avoid both boredom and burnout.Need Help to Implement?My digital coaching clone, Di AI, can walk you your core marketing message and whether it's the Room you need to stick with. Di AI is still free in beta until October 31st, so don't wait. Sign up now and start chatting! Want deeper support for implementing your core message and building your doors to that room in your business? Schedule a free consultation to explore 1:1 coaching with ADHD business strategist and coach, serial business owner, and former licensed psychotherapist, Diann Wingert, MSW.© 2026 ADHD-ish™ Podcast. Intro music by Ishan Dincer / Melody Loops / Outro music by Vladimir / Bobi Music / All rights reserved.

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Your Brand Needs Repetition, But Your ADHD Brain Needs Novelty: What's the Solution?

The Driven Woman Entrepreneur

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 22, 2026 19:12 Transcription Available

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Mend or Move On? Navigating Toxic Relationships with Kate King (567)

ADHD reWired

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 17, 2026 54:15

Episode Summary What makes a relationship truly toxic, and how do you know whether it can be repaired or whether it's time to walk away? In this episode, Eric is joined by licensed professional counselor, board-certified art therapist, and Radiant Life Project founder Kate King, author of Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships. Together, they explore toxic dynamics in romantic relationships, families, friendships, and workplaces, including why ADHDers and other neurodivergent people may be especially vulnerable to people-pleasing, fawning, conflict avoidance, and staying too long in painful situations. Kate shares her framework for the seven traps that can keep us stuck, along with practical ways to recognize patterns, communicate needs, build tolerance for difficult conversations, and decide whether a relationship has the mutual willingness needed to mend. Show Notes In this episode, you'll learn: How to distinguish a truly toxic relationship from a relationship that is simply struggling Why your body may recognize a toxic dynamic before your brain fully accepts it How familiar dysfunction can feel safer than unfamiliar change The difference between healthy interdependence and codependency Why people-pleasing, fawning, and conflict avoidance are often rooted in nervous-system safety patterns How to begin practicing "easier hard things" to build tolerance for difficult conversations How to assess whether a relationship, family dynamic, or workplace can be repaired Why mutual willingness is essential if a relationship is going to mend Kate's seven traps of toxic relationships: Buy-in Comfort Powerlessness False ownership Unhealed trauma Avoidance Codependency Guest Kate King is a former licensed professional counselor, board-certified art therapist, award-winning author, radiant life coach, and founder of The Radiant Life Project. She is the author of The Radiant Life Project and Mend or Move On: A Guide to Healing or Leaving Toxic Relationships. Learn more about Kate, her books, and her work at theradiantlifeproject.com. Resources Mentioned The Radiant Life Project: theradiantlifeproject.com ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com One-on-one ADHD coaching worldwide and therapy in Illinois: adhdrewired.com Adult Study Hall: adhdrewired.com Support ADHD reWired on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired Patreon Update The monthly Patreon Coaching Call, available to Patreon supporters at the $25/month level and above, is held on the last Tuesday of each month. The call has moved from 4:00 p.m. Eastern to 2:00 p.m. Eastern. Chapters 6:01 — Introduction and Guest Bio 7:10 — Kate's ADHD Connection: Growing Up with an ADHD Parent 11:31 — Identifying a Toxic Workplace 15:44 — Mend or Move On: Where to Start 20:54 — Personal and Family Relationships 21:59 — Three Signs of a Truly Toxic Relationship 23:24 — The One Requirement to Mend a Relationship 30:46 — Building the Courage to Leave 33:26 — The Seven Traps of Toxic Relationships: Introduction and False Ownership 36:33 — Buy-in, Comfort, and Powerlessness 37:42 — Unhealed Trauma and Shadow Work 38:53 — Avoidance and Codependency 43:17 — Kate's Relationship and Healing Journey 45:48 — Spotting Gaslighting in a Partnership 48:53 — You Don't Owe Anyone Anything 51:42 — Where to Find Kate's Work

Not a Deal Breaker: Hope for Neurodiverse Couples

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Play Episode Listen Later Sep 15, 2026 22:08

What happens when two people in a neurodiverse relationship remember the same conversation completely differently? This week, Mona and I explore the memory and communication disconnects that can put neurodiverse couples in what I call “the boxing ring”—where partners become opponents, each trying to prove who's right and who's wrong. From the partner who remembers every word but misses the meaning to the one who remembers the feeling but not the details, we break down why this happens—and why it doesn't have to be a deal breaker. We also talk about executive functioning in daily life, the cereal box story, and important questions every couple should ask before moving in together.

Is Eating Disorder Recovery a Form of Neurodivergence? Diet Culture, Hunger, & Body Trust With Shira Collings, LPC

Dr. Marianne-Land: An Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 14, 2026 27:18

Eating disorder recovery often requires developing a relationship with food, hunger, movement, and body size that differs sharply from what society considers “normal.” In this conversation, Dr. Marianne welcomes back psychotherapist Shira Collings, LPC, to discuss a powerful question: Can eating disorder recovery become its own form of neurodivergence? Shira describes neurodivergence as a way of thinking, processing information, or living that diverges from dominant social expectations. From this perspective, rejecting diet culture, anti-fat bias, intentional weight loss, and rigid rules about “healthy eating” can place someone outside the cultural norm. Recovery may change how a person understands nourishment, pleasure, rest, exercise, body acceptance, and the right to eat without trying to control their body size. Eating Disorder Recovery in the Ozempic and GLP-1 Era Dr. Marianne and Shira discuss why eating disorder recovery can feel especially isolating in the Ozempic and GLP-1 era. As weight loss becomes culturally celebrated again, people in recovery may experience grief, loneliness, body-image distress, or renewed pressure to shrink themselves. They also examine the growing tendency to call hunger, cravings, and thoughts about food “food noise.” For many people recovering from anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, chronic dieting, or other eating disorders, noticing hunger and responding to food cravings represent meaningful signs of healing. Treating these experiences as problems that should disappear can undermine body trust and reinforce disordered eating beliefs. Hunger Cues, Neurodivergence, and Body Trust Hunger does not feel the same for everyone. Autistic people, ADHDers, highly sensitive people, and others with neurodivergent eating experiences may not notice traditional hunger cues such as a growling stomach. Hunger might appear as lightheadedness, difficulty concentrating, irritability, thoughts about food, emotional changes, or a desire for sensory regulation through eating. Dr. Marianne shares how ADHD hyperfocus can interfere with recognizing when she needs food and why mechanical eating helps her nourish herself consistently. Shira explains that eating without experiencing a specific type of physical hunger does not mean someone is eating incorrectly. Rebuilding body trust can include recognizing your individual hunger signals and releasing the fear of eating “too much.” Diet Culture, Anti-Fat Bias, and the Fear of Eating Too Much The conversation also addresses how anti-fat bias, purity culture, healthmaxxing, and moral judgments about food teach people to distrust hunger and reject pleasure. Larger-bodied people often face added pressure to become the “good fatty” by pursuing weight loss, exercising frequently, or proving that they eat according to society's definition of health. Sustainable eating disorder recovery may mean letting go of the belief that you must control your weight to deserve nourishment, rest, pleasure, care, or belonging. Dr. Marianne and Shira acknowledge how difficult this work can feel when friends, family members, healthcare providers, therapists, treatment programs, and social media continue to reinforce diet culture. About Shira Collings, LPC Shira Collings is a feminist, neurodiversity-affirming, LGBTQIA+-affirming, fat-affirming, and disability justice-aligned psychotherapist. Their specialties include eating disorders, body image, reproductive mental health, trauma, grief, and loss. Shira supports clients in healing from external and internalized oppression and creating lives aligned with their values. Learn more about Shira at threadandthreshold.com or follow them on Instagram at @threadandthreshold.therapy. In This Eating Disorder Recovery Episode Dr. Marianne and Shira discuss eating disorder recovery as neurodivergence, hunger cues in autism and ADHD, mechanical eating, body trust, food noise, Ozempic and GLP-1 medications, anti-fat bias, diet culture, body acceptance, fear of eating too much, weight-neutral recovery, and the loneliness of rejecting cultural expectations around food and body size. Related Episodes What If You're Not Broken? Neurodivergence, Sanism, Eating Disorders, & Radical Acceptance With Shira Collings, LPC on Apple & Spotify. About Dr. Marianne Miller Dr. Marianne Miller is an eating disorder therapist with nearly 30 years of mental health experience. She specializes in ARFID, binge eating, anorexia, and bulimia through a neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, trauma-informed, and weight-neutral approach. Dr. Marianne provides therapy in California and Washington, D.C., as well as coaching for clients worldwide. Learn more about working with her, her self-paced ARFID course, and her Binge Eating Recovery Membership at drmariannemiller.com.

436 ADHD, AI, Money & the Things We Avoid

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Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2026 62:12

What happens when two ADHDers sit down with almost no agenda and start talking? You get a little bit of everything—and somehow, it all comes back to ADHD.Kristen is joined by longtime FOCUSED member Matt Ciciarelli for a candid conversation about the very real (and sometimes hilarious) ways ADHD shows up in everyday life.They get into using AI as an ADHD support tool, the difference between asking for help and outsourcing your thinking, finding a career that actually works with your ADHD brain, and why hyperfocus seems readily available for the things we WANT to do…but disappears when something feels heavy, boring, or shame-filled.Matt also shares what he's learned about work, finances, gluten-free living, and finally finding a job that fits his brain.Plus, Kristen and Matt react to the controversial documentary The Great ADHD Myth.It's honest, funny, a little chaotic—and very ADHD.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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ADHD-Friendly Marketing: Staying Visible Even When You Can't Show Up

The Driven Woman

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2026 24:00 Transcription Available

“Just be consistent” is frustrating advice for entrepreneurs with ADHD because capacity is anything but consistent. This episode examines why traditional marketing expectations can lead to overwork, burnout, or abandoning visibility altogether.The Balanced Marketing Strategy introduces three complementary forms of marketing: algorithm-based, content-based, and relationship-based. Together, they create a more resilient visibility system that continues generating awareness, credibility, and opportunities during low-capacity weeks.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - Introduction: ADHD Business Strategy & Visibility Realities 04:30 - Breaking the Cycle: ADHD Burnout Prevention in Marketing 10:15 - Building Sustainable Business Systems for ADHD Entrepreneurs 15:45 - Executive Function in Business: Streamlining Content Creation 20:10 - Stepping Up as an ADHD CEO: Long-Term Growth & Self-TrustHere's the ADHD-friendly reframe: Stop chasing consistency through effort—and start building consistency through structure.‍It's all about setting up a system that keeps your business visible even when you're having a low-capacity week with the Balanced Marketing Strategy which utilizes three types of marketing efforts:‍ ‍1. Algorithm-Based Marketing: SEO, social media, and anything that's discoverable through a machine. The beauty? Content you create once can keep working for you for months or even years.2. Content-Based Marketing: Your podcast, newsletter, blog—this is where your voice and expertise shine. It's the main way you build connection and trust, but it does require creativity and energy. ‍3. Relationship-Based Marketing: Networking, referral partnerships, collaborations, guest appearances—the power of other people's momentum carrying your visibility when you can't.‍How does it work? These categories almost never all fail at once. If you're running low on capacity for content, your relationships or algorithmic assets can keep generating leads and visibility, and vice versa. Far too many business owners with ADHD find out the hard way that putting all their promotion eggs in one basket makes them vulnerable to complete visibility collapse during low-energy periods.‍Your Redundant (Not Balanced) Safety NetDespite the name, the "Balanced" Marketing Strategy isn't about splitting your effort evenly. It's about building in redundancy, so your visibility never hinges on you always being ‘on'. It's like having a backup generator for your business.‍Try This Mini Audit‍ ‍● Look back at your last 90 days of marketing activities.● Sort them into: algorithm-based, content-based, or relationship-based.● Find your weak spot (the thinnest category) ‍● Start building out the thin one - just to a functional minimum.‍What's a “functional minimum?” One evergreen asset, three referral relationships, one quarterly guest appearance‍Your ADHD-ish ™ host ‍Diann Wingert, MSW is the host of the ADHD-ish Podcast which ranks in the top 1% of podcasts globally (Listen Notes.)‍Drawing from her own experiences as a serial business owner, former psychotherapist and fellow ADHDer, Diann challenges conventional business thinking, like the typical marketing advice "just be consistent,"‍Through her podcast, email newsletter, webinars and blog, Diann supports entrepreneurs with ADHD to create an ADHD-friendly business and avoid both boredom and burnout using the framework she created -The ADHD-ish Method.‍Need Help to Implement?‍My digital coaching clone, Di AI, can walk you through this audit and help you create a plan to fill your gaps. It's still free (in beta) but don't wait. Sign up now and start chatting! ‍Want deeper support for implementing a balanced marketing strategy in your business? Schedule a free consultation to explore 1:1 coaching with ADHD business strategist and coach, serial business owner, and former licensed psychotherapist, Diann Wingert, MSW.‍ ‍© 2026 ADHD-ish™ Podcast. Intro music by Ishan Dincer / Melody Loops / Outro music by Vladimir / Bobi Music / All rights reserved.

ADHD-Friendly Marketing: Staying Visible Even When You Can't Show Up

The Driven Woman Entrepreneur

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 8, 2026 24:00 Transcription Available

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EPISODE 3: The One Thing That Makes Sober October Actually Work - Especially If You Have ADHD - Sober October, No Drama

Midlife AF Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 7, 2026 17:10

Sober October, No Drama: Daily Tips for a Take It or Leave It Relationship With Alcohol Episode 3: The One Thing That Makes Sober October Actually Work - Especially If You Have ADHD Just don't drink for 30 days. That's it. Just one thing. Don't try - as we ADHDers are prone to do - to also get fit, go FODMAP or vegan, and declutter the house. It's too much restriction and you will come undone. For those of us who are demand avoidant or prone to black-and-white perfectionist thinking, piling on extra rules will push us straight into a nervous system safety response - and we'll be pouring a glass of Chardonnay before our conscious brain has time to remind us we are taking a break. Your permission list for the next 30 days: The comfort food The rest The social media and the Netflix binge The care you would give a sick child Nothing else matters but your firm no for 30 days. And if you have a slip-up? A data point is just a sign that your body hasn't learnt how to manage something yet. Treat it with curiosity, not judgement - there is so much to learn from that. A maybe is always a yes. One thing. That's all. This episode is part of Sober October, No Drama - a daily MidlifeAF podcast mini series with tips for cutting back on alcohol without willpower, labels or forever. My free resources below will help you prepare for and get the most out of your break. See links below: Episode links & Resources•⁠ ⁠Learn more about Emma Gilmour at: www.hoperisingcoaching.com•⁠ ⁠Follow Emma Gilmour on insta @hoperisingcoachingFREE TOOLS - four beautiful resources to help you drink less and feel fabulous:1.⁠ ⁠7 Steps to Take Back Control of Alcohol - the exact steps I took when I started out on this journey nearly five years ago.https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/7-steps2.⁠ ⁠Awareness Worksheets - if you do nothing else, working through the answers to these questions will change your relationship with alcohol for the better.https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/awareness-worksheets-opt-in3.⁠ ⁠Your North Star Visualisation - stops your brain freaking out about doing something unfamiliar.https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/northstarvisualisation4.⁠ ⁠Grounding Meditation - you know that feeling when you have a drink and the body goes "aaaaaaaahhhhhhh" and everything seems to relax? What the body really needs is to ground - to come back home to self, and for self to feel lovely. That is what we work on in my live programs. We start every session with a grounding and connect with ourselves to find out what our body really needs when it thinks it wants to drink.https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/groundingREADY TO GO DEEPER? Are you tired of the mental back-and-forth about drinking?I am running a FREE 3-Day Alcohol Reset on 22, 23 and 24 Sept, 7:30pm Melb/Syd (replays available). No willpower talk. No abstinence pressure. You can even drink while you do it. A judgement-free space to learn the tools to step into a take it or leave it relationship with alcohol. REGISTER FREE: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/3-day-reset Want a take it or leave it relationship with alcohol? Want to stop all the "will I, won't I" internal conflict around wine? I am running the Great Aussie Alcohol Experiment LIVE from Thursday 1 October 30 days. Small group coaching. Only 25 spots. Small, intimate and private. Rewire your brain and nervous system so you no longer have to reach for a glass to quieten your busy brain, calm your overwhelmed soul or socialise when your social battery is spent. Early bird pricing open now (ends 15th Spetember) - $500 off the full price, plus two 1:1 counselling sessions with me and 3 webinars included (worth +$1,000). We won't run this live again until January.YOUR NEXT RIGHT MOVE STARTS HERE: https://www.hoperisingcoaching.com/the_great_aussie_alcohol_experiment Change happens in a moment, my friends - the preparation for change takes a little bit of time. Take the time. You will be amazed at the difference it makes.

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What Recovery Actually Looks Like (Beyond Sleep)

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Play Episode Listen Later Sep 3, 2026 34:29

---Register today for our upcoming webinar: Webinar: The Friction Framework! Why Your ADHD System Keeps Falling Apart — September 9. Register today at https://takecontroladhd.com/gps---Rest, relaxation, recuperation. Three words we reach for when we're empty, and all three have collapsed into the same meaning: stop doing something. The older meanings point somewhere far more interesting, toward getting strength back rather than simply halting some energetic drain.This week, Pete walks Nikki through research from occupational psychology that helps explain a frustrating experience most ADHDers likely know well: taking the time off and still coming back exhausted. There are four distinct kinds of recovery, they don't substitute for each other, and picking the wrong one is why a whole weekend of rest can leave you no better than you started.Along the way: why sitting still can make mental noise louder, why your hobby might be the most restorative thing on your calendar, why the scroll fails every test, and how to match the kind of rest you choose to the kind of tired you are.Links & NotesThe Recovery Experience QuestionnaireSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:32) - Support the Show on Patreon! (02:54) - On Rest and Recuperation (13:56) - The Big Four (26:42) - Fake Rest (29:20) - Match the Drain to the Recovery ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Why Your ADHD Brain Forgets Everything (Except What It Loves): S6E8

Dr. Marianne-Land: An Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Sep 2, 2026 24:32

This week we're getting really personal. We're opening up about our own ADHD brains — the things we've struggled with, the stuff that drove our partners crazy, and the moments that only made sense once we finally understood neurodivergence. If you've ever felt like your brain works differently from everyone else's, or like your partner's special interests leave you feeling invisible, you're not alone. We've been there too.

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Why Food Feels So Regulating: Autism, ADHD, Eating Disorders, & the Nervous System

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 21, 2026 23:37

Why Food Feels So Regulating: Autism, ADHD, Eating Disorders, & the Nervous System Why can eating feel so calming, stimulating, or grounding? For many autistic people, ADHDers, and people with eating disorders, food does more than satisfy hunger. Eating can provide sensory input, emotional regulation, predictability, stimulation, and nervous system support. In this solo episode, Dr. Marianne explores food as self-regulation, co-regulation, and stimming, including why chewing, crunching, sipping, familiar foods, and repetitive eating experiences may help a neurodivergent nervous system feel more organized. She also discusses how these needs can intersect with autism, ADHD, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, and ARFID. What You'll Learn You'll learn why autistic and ADHD people may use food for sensory regulation, how eating can function as a form of stimming, and why "emotional eating" doesn't always capture what's actually happening. Dr. Marianne also explains why restriction can feel regulating for some people with anorexia, how food may help an overwhelmed or understimulated ADHD nervous system, why predictable safe foods can provide sensory security with ARFID, and how binge eating or bulimia can become intertwined with attempts to regulate distress. Rather than asking only, "How do I stop this eating behavior?" Dr. Marianne encourages a different question: "What is my nervous system getting from this?" Food, Stimming, & Neurodivergent Eating Food can provide powerful sensory experiences through taste, temperature, texture, chewing, swallowing, crunching, and repetition. For some neurodivergent people, these sensations can help increase stimulation, reduce overwhelm, support focus, or create predictability. Recovery doesn't have to mean eliminating food as a source of comfort or regulation. Instead, it can involve understanding what food provides and gradually expanding the ways your nervous system accesses safety, sensory input, connection, and support. Eating Disorder & Neurodivergent-Affirming Support If you're navigating ARFID, anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, autism, ADHD, sensory eating challenges, or neurodivergent eating disorder recovery, Dr. Marianne offers a neurodivergent-affirming, sensory-attuned, trauma-informed approach. Dr. Marianne provides eating disorder therapy in California and Washington, D.C., including telehealth and in-person services in San Diego, as well as coaching and consultation worldwide. Learn more about working with Dr. Marianne and find additional eating disorder and neurodivergence resources at drmariannemiller.com.

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430 This One Is for the Nerds: ADHD, Academia & the Research That Blew Our Minds

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Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2026 61:57

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Jacoba Lilius, Associate Professor at Queen's University, researcher, FOCUSED Certified Coach, and the research consultant for my upcoming book, You're Not in Trouble: The ADHD Guide to Building Healthy, Connected Relationships.Jacoba was diagnosed with ADHD in 2019 at age 42, after building a successful career in academia while quietly struggling with chronic procrastination, time blindness, and executive function challenges. We talk about what it was like to navigate such a demanding profession with undiagnosed ADHD—and how her diagnosis changed the way she understood herself and her work.We also go behind the scenes of You're Not in Trouble. Jacoba shares what it was like to serve as the book's research consultant, how she helped me ground the book in solid evidence, and what we learned along the way.And of course, we get into the survey findings from the book research that absolutely blew our minds.If you're a late-diagnosed ADHDer, an academic, or someone who has spent years wondering why everything seems to require so much effort, you'll want to hear this conversation.To reach out to Jacoba, click here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

"There Might Be Zero Sex" — The Truth About Intimacy in Neurodiverse Relationships S6E7

Dr. Marianne-Land: An Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 18, 2026 16:25

If you're in a neurodiverse relationship — whether you're ADHD, autistic, or both — intimacy can be one of the most complicated things to navigate. In this episode, Mona Kay & I get real about love vs. sex, masking in the bedroom, asexuality, ethical non-monogamy, separate bedrooms, and the hidden pattern that quietly undermines intimacy for neurodiverse couples: fawning. In this episode, we talk about why so many neurodiverse marriages end up with "zero sex," but also creative solutions that actually work for both partners — this conversation goes places most podcasts won't.

My Eating Disorder Recovery Story Continued: Internalized Weight Bias in the Age of Ozempic

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 12, 2026 20:00

What happens to eating disorder recovery when the culture around you starts celebrating weight loss again? In this deeply personal solo episode, Dr. Marianne continues sharing her eating disorder recovery story and talks about something that has surprised her: the return of body insecurities during the Age of Ozempic. After recovering from a decades-long history of anorexia, binge eating disorder, orthorexia, and bulimia, she rarely spends much time thinking about her body size. But the rise of Ozempic and other GLP-1 medications like Zepbound and Wegovy has changed the cultural conversation around weight, thinness, and fat bodies. During the height of the body diversity movement, living in a larger body felt different. Plus-size clothing became more visible. Larger bodies appeared in advertising. Conversations about weight stigma, fatphobia, body neutrality, and fat liberation entered the mainstream. Now, many of those gains seem to be disappearing as celebrities become smaller, plus-size departments vanish from stores, and thinness once again becomes something we're expected to pursue. When Eating Disorder Recovery Meets the Age of Ozempic Dr. Marianne shares what it's like to encounter old eating disorder and body image thoughts after years of recovery. Sometimes those thoughts arrive unexpectedly: Look at that celebrity. They did it. Why can't I? Having that thought doesn't mean eating disorder recovery has failed. Recovery doesn't necessarily erase decades of conditioning around weight and body size. Instead, it can help us recognize internalized weight bias when it resurfaces and decide whether we want to listen to it. Dr. Marianne also discusses an important distinction: wanting a smaller body isn't necessarily the same thing as wanting relief from anti-fat bias. Sometimes the thought, Life would be easier if I were thinner, reflects a painful reality about how fat people are treated rather than a genuine desire to change one's body. The World Is Getting Smaller for Fat People Anti-fat bias doesn't exist only in our thoughts. It shows up in the physical world. Plus-size clothing departments have disappeared from many stores, forcing people in larger bodies to shop online. Airplane seats continue to create accessibility barriers for larger passengers. Cars, restaurant booths, waiting-room chairs, theaters, and other public spaces frequently fail to accommodate body diversity. The message can become impossible to ignore: if the world won't make more space for you, you're expected to make yourself smaller. Dr. Marianne explores the mental health toll of repeatedly navigating environments that weren't designed for your body. Constantly wondering whether a seat will fit, whether a store carries your size, or whether a healthcare provider will blame your symptoms on weight creates an enormous cognitive and emotional burden. Defending the Right to Be Fat Dr. Marianne shares a recent dream in which she found herself defending her fatness to another person. When she woke up, she realized how closely the dream reflected the experience of living in a larger body today. Fat people often have to defend their right to exist without pursuing intentional weight loss. They may have to advocate for appropriate healthcare, accessible seating, clothing, travel accommodations, and the basic right to occupy space without apology. That emotional labor takes energy. For neurodivergent people, the burden can become even greater. Autistic people and ADHDers may already expend significant energy navigating sensory needs, executive functioning, uncertainty, masking, and environments that weren't designed for neurodivergent nervous systems. When neurodivergence intersects with anti-fat bias and other forms of marginalization, the cumulative mental health toll can become significant. Internalized Weight Bias Doesn't Mean You've Failed at Recovery Eating disorder recovery happens in the real world, not in a protected bubble. You can appreciate your body and still feel hurt by weight stigma. You can reject diet culture and feel grief when plus-size clothing disappears. You can practice fat acceptance and still have moments when you wonder whether life would be easier in a smaller body. Those experiences don't erase recovery. Sometimes what looks like body dissatisfaction is actually grief, anger, exhaustion, or a desire to move through the world without constantly having to advocate for your right to belong. Dr. Marianne shares the question that helps her separate internalized weight bias from her own values: Do I actually want a different body, or do I want a different world? Related Episodes How a Part of Me Wanted to Take a Weight-Loss Drug on Apple & Spotify. My Eating Disorder Recovery Story on Apple & Spotify. Finding Liberation-Focused Eating Disorder Support If the Age of Ozempic has stirred up old body image struggles, eating disorder thoughts, or internalized weight bias, you don't have to navigate those experiences alone. Finding an eating disorder therapist or provider who understands weight stigma can make a profound difference. Liberation-focused, trauma-informed, neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder treatment can create space to examine these experiences without making weight loss the goal. If you'd like to work with Dr. Marianne, she provides eating disorder therapy in California for adolescents and adults navigating anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder, ARFID, body image concerns, and neurodivergence. If you live elsewhere, Dr. Marianne also offers consultations and coaching for individuals, families, and professionals. Learn more about working with Dr. Marianne at drmariannemiller.com.

Why Lived Experience Matters in Anorexia & Bulimia Recovery for Neurodivergent People: 5 Things I've Learned as Both a Therapist & Someone in Recovery

Dr. Marianne-Land: An Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 7, 2026 14:59

Does it matter whether your eating disorder therapist has personally recovered from anorexia or bulimia? In this solo episode of Dr. Marianne-Land, I explore that question from two perspectives: as an eating disorder therapist and as someone who spent about 25 years navigating anorexia, binge eating, orthorexia, bulimia, compulsive exercise, and the long road to recovery. Lived experience does not replace professional training, and professional training does not require lived experience. Both forms of knowledge have value. In this episode, I share how my personal recovery has shaped my clinical work and why that perspective can be especially meaningful for autistic people, ADHDers, AuDHDers, and other neurodivergent adults recovering from anorexia and bulimia. What You'll Learn You'll hear five lessons that have transformed the way I understand eating disorder recovery. We discuss why what appears to be resistance is often nervous system overwhelm, how to tell the difference between neurodivergent traits and eating disorder symptoms, why shame rarely creates lasting recovery, how safety supports sustainable healing, and why recovery ultimately becomes about building a meaningful life instead of simply eliminating symptoms. Why Neurodivergent People Often Need a Different Recovery Conversation Traditional eating disorder treatment does not always account for sensory processing differences, executive functioning challenges, autistic burnout, ADHD, interoceptive differences, or the ways trauma and neurodivergence can intersect with anorexia and bulimia. In this episode, I explain why understanding your nervous system can make recovery feel more compassionate, more realistic, and more sustainable. Rather than forcing yourself to fit a rigid recovery model, you can begin building an approach that respects both your neurodivergence and your recovery goals. Who This Episode Is For This episode is for adults recovering from anorexia nervosa, atypical anorexia, bulimia nervosa, chronic eating disorders, or long-term restrictive eating. It's also for autistic adults, ADHDers, AuDHD adults, highly sensitive people, therapists, dietitians, parents, caregivers, and anyone who wants a deeper understanding of neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder treatment. Mentioned in This Episode If you want to learn more about sensory processing, autonomy, nervous system regulation, and neurodivergent-affirming approaches to eating, check out my ARFID and Selective Eating Course. Although the course focuses on ARFID, many of the concepts also apply to neurodivergent people recovering from anorexia, bulimia, and other eating disorders. Related Episodes Harm Reduction for Eating Disorders: How Lived Experience Shapes Recovery, Support, & Long-Term Healing on Apple & Spotify. Lived Experience of ARFID in Autistics & ADHDers: Sensory Survival & Misunderstandings With Dr. Panicha McGuire, LMFT, RPT on Apple & Spotify. Unmasking in Eating Disorder Recovery: What Neurodivergent People Need to Know About Safety & Healing via Apple & Spotify. Connect With Dr. Marianne Miller If you're looking for eating disorder therapy in California or Washington, D.C., or eating disorder coaching from anywhere in the world, I'd love to help. I specialize in anorexia, bulimia, ARFID, binge eating disorder, autism, ADHD, AuDHD, and neurodivergent-affirming eating disorder treatment. Visit www.drmariannemiller.com to learn more about working with me, explore my ARFID course, and listen to more episodes of Dr. Marianne-Land. If you found this episode helpful, please follow the podcast, leave a rating or review on Apple Podcasts or on Spotify, and share it with someone who could benefit from hearing that recovery does not have to look the same for everyone.

Is this Sabotaging Intimacy in Your Neurodiverse Relationship? S6E6 with Jodi Carlton & Mona Kay

Today’s Autistic Moment: A Podcast for Autistic Adults by An Autistic Adult

Play Episode Listen Later Aug 4, 2026 19:03

If you're in a neurodiverse relationship — whether you're ADHD, autistic, or both — intimacy can be one of the most complicated things to navigate. In this episode, Mona Kay & I get real about routines, spontaneity, physical intimacy, and the hidden pattern that quietly undermines intimacy for neurodiverse couples: fawning. From date night strategies that actually work, to what happens when one partner has learned to tolerate instead of communicate — this conversation goes places most podcasts won't.

Understanding the Impact of Restraint and Seclusion: A Professional Panel Discussion

End Seclusion Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 31, 2026 80:25

Please join us for “Understanding the Impact of Restraint and Seclusion: A Professional Panel Discussion.”Dr. Arielle Silverman, PhD, is a researcher by trade and an advocate for all disabled people. Blind since birth, she holds a Ph.D. in social psychology and works as the director of research at the American Foundation for the Blind. Her memoir, Just Human: The Quest for Disability Wisdom, Respect, and Inclusion, calls for a world where all bodies and minds are celebrated. Arielle works both personally and professionally to advocate for disability justice and to support and mentor other disabled people. She lives in Albany, NY, with her husband Jason.Courtney Hart, LCSW-C, is the founder of Healing Hart Wellness, where she specializes in supporting ADHDers and Autistic people through evaluations, parent consultation, and therapy. Courtney also writes two newsletters on Substack: one focused on supporting parents and helping professionals understand the impacts of advancing technology and the other on high-masking neurodivergence. When Courtney isn't working, you can find her starting random projects at home, playing fetch with her dogs, scouring the internet to research topics of interest, and actively working on local political change as a Board Member of Maryland Forward Party.Dr. Karyn Harvey, PhD, has worked as a clinician in the field of intellectual disabilities for over 35 years. She has her Ph.D. in Applied Developmental Psychology from the University of Maryland. She has written three books: Positive Identity Development, Trauma–Informed Behavioral Interventions, and Trauma and Healing. She has a private practice and does therapy with people with intellectual disabilities. In addition, she regularly conducts training on trauma-informed support for people with IDD, trauma-informed leadership, and trauma-informed behavioral interventions for both state and individual organizations throughout the US and Canada. She sees restraints and seclusion as both traumatizing and re-traumatizing to the recipients and is passionate about the elimination of these procedures.Sarah Hyatt's experience in education has given her an unshakeable confidence that kids do well if they can. She is fiercely committed to practices that center students' humanity and dignity, and has seen firsthand the harm done by punitive approaches and deficit-based systems. She has also witnessed the healing and growth that result from prioritizing felt safety. Sarah has a Master's of Education and is currently loving being a mom of neurodivergent twins and creating a life built around disability pride, celebration of neurodiversity, and joy.�Shenika Carroll is a nurse educator and professor dedicated to educating and mentoring future nurses. With a strong background in patient care and community health, she integrates her clinical experience into the classroom to prepare students for success in practice. Shenika is passionate about supporting and providing educational resources for families and districts. Through her volunteer work with the Alliance, she is excited to extend her impact beyond teaching and contribute to meaningful initiatives that strengthen the community.Support the show

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Self-Care: Practicing the Pause

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 25, 2026 61:52

Go to todaysautisticmoment.com for the transcripts. Last episode Dr. Megan Anna Neff talked with us about the fundamentals for managing our nervous system. We talked about the window of tolerance, managing pain, andbecoming aware of what is hijacking our nervous system. In this episode Carole Jean Whittington and Philip will talk about one important element to the Autistic's nervous system called Practicing the Pause. The power of the pause improvesself-awareness. When we pause before reacting to stimuli we also take time to reclaim our autonomy and protect the power of our choices. Later in this episode Carole Jean and I will talk about how practicing the pause is important for late identified Autistics and ADHDers as they meet the challenges ofsocietal negativity on many of our intersectional identities.

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Episode #121 You are NeuroMagnificent with Chris Fraser

Welcome to SelfÂ® with Dr Hayley D Quinn

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 22, 2026 47:14

In this episode I sit down with the wonderful Chris Fraser, a therapist with 29 years of experience, a fellow ADHDer, and the person who coined a term Neuromagnificent.Chris and I talk about what it actually means to embrace your neurodivergent brain, not just manage it or accommodate it, but truly see it for the magnificent thing it is. We go deep into the inner critic, shame, self-compassion, and what it feels like to finally stop hiding the parts of yourself that the world has told you are too much or not enough.I hope there is something in here that helps you see yourself a little differently.A gentle note, this episode touches on themes of shame, self criticism and the emotional experience of growing up neurodivergent, so please take care of yourself as you listen.Links to Dr Hayley D Quinn ResourcesWebsite: https://drhayleydquinn.comFREE resource https://drhayleydquinn.com/resources/Book - From Self-Neglect to Self-Compassion: https://drhayleydquinn.com/product/book/Join the Welcome to Self®: Compassion Community https://drhayleydquinn.myflodesk.com/communityWelcome to Self®: Co-working sessionshttps://tidycal.com/3oze991/welcome-to-self-co-working-sessionLink to podcast mailing list: https://drhayleydquinn.com/podcast/Group Coaching Waitlist: https://drhayleydquinn.myflodesk.com/timetothrivewaitlistContact me for personalised training / speaking for your organisation or event https://drhayleydquinn.com/contact-me/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drhayleydquinnLinkedIn: https://www.linkedIn.com/in/dr-hayley-d-quinn-43386533Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drhayleydquinnLinks to Chris Fraser's ResourcesWebsite: https://www.cmcollab.com/chris-fraserBook: https://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Mindful-Compassion-Chaotic-Purpose-driven/dp/0578526956

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422 You're Not In Trouble | Book Launch Party!!

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Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2026 45:37

Preorder wherever you buy your books!USA preorder here.International preorder here. In this special episode, I'm officially introducing my book, You're Not In Trouble: The ADHD Guide to Building Healthy, Connected Relationships.You'll get the very first look at the cover, title, table of contents, and everything you need to know about preordering the book. I also share why I wrote it, who it's for, and what I hope it offers every ADHDer who has ever wondered, "Why do relationships feel so hard?"Whether you joined us live or you're listening later, I'm so grateful you're here to celebrate this milestone with me.Preorder the book now!! Thank you for being part of this community and for celebrating with me.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Neurodivergent Dating After Divorce: Sensory Differences, Sex & Red Flags S6|E5

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 21, 2026 32:42

Are you neurodivergent and trying to navigate dating? Especially after a divorce? We can relate! In this episode, my co-host, Mona Kay, and I get real about our personal dating experiences after divorce, the patterns we've learned to recognize in neurodiverse partners, and how to spot toxic, narcissistic behavior. From info dumping on first dates to sensory quirks in the bedroom, we share candid, sometimes funny, always insightful stories that will help you navigate neurodiverse dating with more clarity, compassion — and better boundaries. Be sure to tune in for Episode 7 to catch the second half of our conversation. Topics covered: - Spotting neurodivergence (and narcissism) on dating apps - Info dumping on dates — and what to do about it - When autism and narcissism overlap - Alcohol, self-medication & neurodivergence - Sensory sensitivities in romantic and physical intimacy - How to adapt without losing yourself Timestamps: 0:00 – Teaser: When autism masks toxic behavior 1:24 – Welcome & intro: Meet Jodi & Mona 1:46 – Today's topic: dating, sex & neurodiverse relationships 2:16 – Dating in your 50s and 60s as a neurodivergent person 9:01 – Mona becomes a dating coach for her friends 9:18 – The guy with a strict 2-hour bandwidth for dates 10:35 – Real talk: there was one man who info dumped for 3 hours 11:42 – Tips for autistic daters: giving your partner space to talk 13:57 – Jodi's story: dating someone autistic AND narcissistic 17:24 – Love bombing, triangulation & the "harem" 19:13 – Don't assume it's just autism — key warning signs 20:16 – When you're constantly dysregulated in a relationship 20:49 – Mona's experience: dating an autistic man for almost a year 21:18 – Alcohol & neurodivergence: self-medicating to socialize 21:55 – Needing 6 beers just to go to a restaurant 24:10 – Sensory & intimacy differences: holding hands, kissing 28:10 – Eye contact during intimacy — an honest conversation 29:38 – The cold water toothbrush moment 30:52 – When sensory reactions feel like rejection 32:07 – Where to find Jodi & Mona Find Jodi: jodicarlton.com Find Mona: neurodiverselove.com Don't forget to like, subscribe, and send us your questions!

Getting Focused with Shane Thrapp (Rebroadcast)

Hacking Your ADHD

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2026 28:13

Hey team, As we look at ways to refresh our systems, we're rebroadcasting a fan-favorite episode featuring ADHD coach Shane Thrapp. We're diving deep into the world of Focus101, a free digital body-doubling platform designed to help you reclaim your focus. If you struggle with task initiation or follow-through, this episode covers the essential mechanics of body-doubling. Shane and I discuss how working in the presence of others—even virtually—can dramatically reduce distractions. We also touch on the "productivity stack": using Pomodoros, alarms, and task-splitting to make your work sessions even more effective. This Episode's Top Tips (A Refresher): The Power of Presence: Body doubling is a technique where working in the presence of another person provides the external accountability many ADHDers need to stay on track and motivated. Stack Your Tools: Body doubling is even more effective when paired with "micro-productivity" tools like Pomodoro timers, scheduled alarms, and breaking large projects into tiny, actionable steps. Focus101: As discussed with Shane, Focus101 is a free, specialized tool that combines body doubling with accountability groups and timing features specifically for the ADHD community.

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#175 ADHD, Authenticity & Oversharing: Can you be yourself without sharing everything

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 20, 2026 26:25

Where's the line between being authentically yourself and oversharing because… Hi we have ADHD!In this episode, I'm unpacking why so many ADHDers share deeply, quickly & sometimes before we've checked whether we actually want to. We'll explore:Why ADHD can make us crave fast connectionHow impulsivity, dysregulation, shame & masking can fuel oversharingThe difference between authenticity & urgencyWhy privacy & boundaries do not mean you're being fake or inauthenticQuestions to help reflect on what you choose to shareYou can be open, honest and completely yourself without giving everyone immediate access to every part of you.LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM NAVIGATING ADULT ADHD:*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community *Come hang out with me on Instagram!

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#174 ADHD in the Bedroom: Sex & Intimacy

MissUnderstood: The ADHD in Women Channel

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 13, 2026 35:57

ADHD can show up in the bedroom in ways we don't always talk about.For some ADHDers, it might look like a high sex drive, chasing novelty, impulsive decisions, risky behaviour, or seeking dopamine through sex and attention.For others, it might look like low libido, getting bored, feeling disconnected, sensory overwhelm, distraction, or struggling to stay present.In this episode, we're unpacking:Hypersexuality and hyposexualityWhy novelty, dopamine and “the chase” can feel so powerfulHow impulsivity can show up around all things sexDistraction, sensory needs & struggling to stay presentLow libido, pressure, resentment & emotional disconnectionWhy intimacy is about so much more than sexHow awareness, communication & support can help us create more choiceThis is a shame-free, vulnerable conversation about understanding the ADHD patterns that can show up in the bedroom. LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T FROM US:*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community *Come hang out with me on Instagram!

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ADHD and impulse control: The science behind why willpower fails | Sorry, I Missed This

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2026 24:45

Does ADHD really mean poor self-control? Or is that the myth that's been making everything harder? Dr. Polaris Koi is a philosopher who studies ADHD and self-regulation (and is an ADHDer themselves). In this episode, Cate and Polaris get into why “just try harder” is not only unhelpful advice — it's based on science that most researchers don't even believe anymore. They talk about why impulsivity in ADHD adults rarely looks like the textbook version (hi, compulsive shopping and 3 a.m. tattoo urges). How shame and anxiety make executive function worse. And why learning to work with your brain's patterns beats white-knuckling your way through every temptation. Plus why some ADHDers end up over-controlled — which comes with its own set of problems. If you've ever told yourself you're just lazy, bad at relationships, or fundamentally broken because you can't seem to get it together, this one's for you. For more on this topic Listen: ADHD and impulsive spending Watch: ADHD break-ups: Impulsive texts and overthinking regrets For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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ADHD and impulse control: The science behind why willpower fails

Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 30, 2026 24:45

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Retraining the ADHD Dysregulated Nervous System with Jenna Free

SuccessFULL With ADHD

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 24, 2026 50:06 Transcription Available

What if the reason productivity strategies haven't worked isn't because you're lazy, unmotivated, or “bad at ADHD”—but because your nervous system is stuck in survival mode?In this conversation, I'm joined by ADHD counselor and author Jenna Free, whose approach to ADHD starts with regulation before productivity. Jenna shares why so many ADHDers find themselves trapped in cycles of overwhelm, paralysis, burnout, and all-or-nothing thinking—and how learning to regulate your nervous system can create lasting change. We explore the connection between ADHD, anxiety, fight-or-flight responses, and executive functioning, while challenging some of the common assumptions about what ADHD really is. If you've ever felt exhausted from trying harder and getting nowhere, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it takes to move forward.Episode Highlights[0:40] - Meet Jenna Free and why regulation comes before productivity[1:32] - The difference between avoidance and a nervous system stuck in fight-or-flight[4:25] - Why awareness is the first step toward meaningful change[5:59] - The “spinning wheels” analogy and why slowing down helps you move forward[7:18] - Escaping the frantic-crash cycle that keeps ADHDers stuck[12:13] - ADHD, anxiety, OCD, and the role of nervous system dysregulation[13:57] - Jenna's three-layer framework for ADHD regulation[19:37] - How thoughts, beliefs, and self-talk fuel dysregulation[27:59] - All-or-nothing thinking, perfectionism, and finding flexibility[36:16] - Can regulation improve ADHD symptoms and task initiation?[44:27] - What a regulated ADHD life actually looks like[48:47] - Jenna's new book and where to connect with herLinks & ResourcesJenna Free (CCC) is an ADHD counselor who also has ADHD. She specializes in helping ADHD brains move out of fight-or-flight and into a more regulated, sustainable state while honoring neurodivergence and individual strengths. Through her ADHD Regulation Groups and professional certification program, Jenna teaches practical strategies that help ADHDers become more productive while enjoying life more. Jenna lives in Calgary, Alberta, with her husband and two sons, and loves exploring new hobbies, including acting, tennis, and yoga.Website: ADHD with Jenna Free WebsiteInstagram: @adhdwithjennafreeTikTok: @adhdwithjennafreePodcast: ADHD with Jenna FreeBook: The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation: The Secret to Finding Balance, Getting Things Done, and Enjoying LifeThank you for tuning into "SuccessFULL with ADHD." If this episode has impacted you, remember to rate, follow, share, and review our podcast. Your support helps us reach and help more individuals navigating their journeys with ADHD.

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#171 ADHD & Friendships: Why It's So Hard & What Actually Helps

Dr. Marianne-Land: An Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 22, 2026 46:57

In this episode, we're unpacking why friendships can feel so hard for ADHDers, from forgetting to reply & losing track of time, to rejection sensitivity, masking, emotional dysregulation & the dreaded doom spiral.We'll explore:• Why caring about someone & initiating contact are not the same skill• How ADHD can make small friendship wobbles feel like full-blown rejection• Why your brain might turn one painful moment into “they don't care about me”• The role of RSD, emotional dysregulation & masking in friendship struggles• Why not every friendship needs to be saved, but some may be worth repairing• Simple scripts for reconnecting, repairing & being honest without over-explainingThis episode is not about becoming a perfect friend. It's about understanding your brain, checking the story before you act from it & remembering that one tiny honest message can reopen a door you thought was closed.Also check out episode #23 ADHD & friendships FOR MORE GOOD SH*T...*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community *Come hang out with me on Instagram!

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ADHD & Binge Eating: Why You Feel Like a Bottomless Pit (And Why Traditional CBT Often Fails)

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2026 15:07

Why do some people with ADHD feel like no amount of food is ever enough? Why can you finish a satisfying meal and still find yourself searching the pantry, thinking about dessert, or feeling like something is missing? In this solo episode of Dr. Marianne-Land, I explore the often-overlooked connection between ADHD and binge eating disorder (BED). I explain why many ADHDers describe feeling like a "bottomless pit" around food, why satisfaction can remain elusive even when physical hunger has passed, and why traditional cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) doesn't always address the executive functioning and nervous system challenges that drive binge eating. Using the fictional case example of Zoe, we look beyond willpower and self-control to better understand how ADHD can shape reward processing, food thoughts, understimulation, sensory needs, and the search for regulation. If you've ever wondered why your relationship with food feels different from what most recovery advice describes, this episode offers a compassionate, neurodivergent-affirming perspective. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN You'll learn why ADHD and binge eating frequently occur together, how executive functioning differences can influence eating behavior, and why the feeling of "never being satisfied" isn't always about physical hunger. I also discuss why food often becomes a source of stimulation after mentally demanding days, how shame keeps many people stuck, and why ADHD-informed eating disorder treatment may look very different from traditional CBT. WHO THIS EPISODE IS FOR This episode is for adults with ADHD, binge eating disorder, compulsive overeating, chronic food thoughts, or food noise. It's also for anyone who has worked on emotional eating, stopped dieting, or completed eating disorder treatment but still feels confused by persistent urges to eat. Therapists, dietitians, and other eating disorder professionals who work with neurodivergent clients will also find this discussion helpful. IN THIS EPISODE We explore why binge eating isn't always driven by restriction, how ADHD changes the way many people experience reward and satisfaction, why executive functioning matters in eating disorder recovery, and what clinicians often miss when they focus only on changing thoughts or behaviors. I also explain how approaching binge eating with curiosity instead of self-criticism can open the door to more effective, sustainable healing. RELATED EPISODES ADHD & Bulimia: Dopamine, Impulsivity, & the Hidden Link to Binge Eating With Kirsten Book, PMHNP-BC on Apple and Spotify. Why Eating Feels So Chaotic With ADHD: Binge Eating, Bulimia, & Executive Function Challenges on Apple and Spotify. Eating Disorders & ADHD: Neurodivergent-Affirming Recovery With Taylor Ashley, RP @taylorashleytherapy on Apple and Spotify. RESOURCES If you're looking for additional support, check out my Binge Eating Recovery Membership, where you'll find practical tools, education, and guidance through a neurodivergent-affirming, weight-neutral lens. You can also explore my ARFID & Selective Eating course, blog, podcast archive, and additional recovery resources at www.drmariannemiller.com. WORK WITH DR. MARIANNE MILLER I'm Dr. Marianne Miller, PhD, LMFT, an eating disorder therapist specializing in ADHD, binge eating disorder, ARFID, anorexia, bulimia, and neurodivergent-affirming care. I provide virtual therapy throughout California, TWashington, DC, as well as coaching worldwide. If this episode helped you better understand your relationship with food, please follow Dr. Marianne-Land, leave a rating or review on Apple and Spotify Podcasts, and share this episode with someone who has spent years wondering why food never seems like enough.

Bridging the Gap on ADHD and Community with Questian Telka

The Unique CPA

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 5, 2026 14:14

Recorded live at Bridging the Gap 2025, Terrell sits down with Questian Telka, co-host of the She Counts Podcast and a late-diagnosed ADHDer, for a conversation that goes well beyond the typical conference interview. On Episode 270 of The Unique CPA, Questian talks candidly about what it meant to finally receive her diagnosis as an adult, the moment she describes as "my whole life makes sense to me now," and how understanding her own brain became less about labeling herself and more about having a user manual. She moderated a panel at BTG where three highly successful CPAs reframed ADHD not as something they succeeded in spite of, but often because of, like a "superpower." It's a perfect example of what Bridging the Gap does differently from other accounting conferences, and why the profession needs these conversations happening at all times, not just once a year in a hotel ballroom. Get the full show notes and more resources at TheUniqueCPA.com

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Permission Slips You Keep Waiting For

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Play Episode Listen Later Jun 4, 2026 32:27

---Register today for our upcoming webinar: Webinar: Stop Starting Over! Why Your Planning Keeps Falling Apart — June 15, 2026, 4 pm PT/7 pm EThttps://takecontroladhd.com/gps---There's a kind of waiting most ADHDers know well — waiting for someone, somewhere, to say it's okay. Okay to rest. Okay to stop masking. Okay to take the accommodation. Okay to want what you want without justifying it.In this conversation, we get into the permission slips we keep waiting for, often from authority figures who may not even exist anymore. We talk about why ADHDers wait — the research-backed link between years of childhood correction and adult reliance on external validation — and what that has to do with decision paralysis, rejection sensitivity, masking, and the exhaustion of performing a version of yourself that you didn't sign up for.Plus the swan, self-determination theory, and a small concrete first step you can try this week.Links & NotesDownload The ADHD Permission Slip!Support the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:13) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast (03:23) - Your Permission Slips ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Under-Supported, Under-Stimulated, or Overextended? with Alyece Smith

ADHD reWired

Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2026 51:42

In this episode, Eric sits down with Alyece Smith, business coach, TEDx speaker, autism advocate, and founder of Socially Ausome, for a candid conversation about ADHD, masking, burnout, boundaries, and what it really takes to build systems that fit your brain. Alyece shares how her son's autism diagnosis changed the way she understood neurodivergence, her own ADHD, and the cost of trying to operate like everyone else. After leaving corporate to prioritize her son's care, she built a successful business quickly, but found herself overdelivering, people-pleasing, working late into the night, and burning out despite outward success. Together, Eric and Alyece explore why "inconsistency" is often misunderstood, especially for ADHDers. They talk about under-stimulation, energy management, spark times, decision fatigue, boundaries, and why sustainable follow-through usually requires better support, not more shame. Alyece also introduces her F.L.O.W. First Thinking framework: Find your spark times, Link boring tasks with stimulation, Organize your overflow, and Work your week around your peaks. This conversation is practical, validating, and useful for anyone who has ever felt scattered, overextended, or exhausted from trying to work against their own brain. Summary In this episode, Eric sits down with Alyece Smith — business coach, TEDx speaker, autism mom, and founder of Socially Ausome — for a candid conversation about what it really looks like to build a business with an ADHD brain. Alyece shares how her son's autism diagnosis cracked open her own understanding of neurodivergency, eventually leading her to leave corporate, launch a six-figure business, burn out spectacularly, and rebuild everything on her own terms. She introduces her F.L.O.W. First Thinking framework, breaks down why consistency advice fails ADHDers, and explains why energy management — not time management — is the real key to sustainable success. This one is raw, practical, and deeply validating for any entrepreneur who has ever felt scattered, burnt out, or like they're just not built for the traditional business model. Key Takeaways You're not scattered — you're bored. ADHD brains are chronically under-stimulated. What looks like inconsistency is really a dopamine regulation issue. Energy management beats time management. Work during your brain's natural peak times (your chronotype) — not just whenever the calendar says to. Boundaries are a business strategy. Burnout wasn't from working hard — it was from having no limits with clients or herself. "That's not in our contract, but I'm happy to invoice you" was a turning point. Masking is exhausting and expensive. Pretending to be neurotypical burns energy that could fuel your actual work. Coming out publicly as ADHD was terrifying — and completely freeing. The 48-hour rule for pivots. Before burning something down, sit with it 48 hours. Still fired up? Probably a real signal. Not? Likely boredom or fear. Systems aren't one-size-fits-all. The right system is one built around how your specific brain works — not how productivity gurus say it should. Brain dump daily. A five-minute voice memo clears mental clutter and can be run through AI tools to generate action lists. Passion is your compass. Hyperfocus kicks in hardest around genuine passion. Can't stop thinking about it? That's your signal. Women with ADHD are chronically misdiagnosed. Internalizing symptoms leads to anxiety and depression, and many women aren't diagnosed until perimenopause amplifies everything. Timestamps 0:00 — Introduction & Alyece's background 0:47 — Her son's autism diagnosis and the research rabbit hole that changed everything 3:17 — Leaving corporate in 2022 to prioritize her son's healthcare 3:56 — Going straight into entrepreneurship — and immediately masking all over again 4:16 — Hitting six figures in six months, then hitting a wall 4:35 — Working until 2–3am and the unrealistic client expectations that drove it 5:15 — People-pleasing, poor boundaries, and faking having an assistant 7:14 — What it means to deliver excellence when you're miserable doing it 8:27 — The breaking point: her husband calls her out 9:20 — Becoming a "brick wall of boundaries" and what that sounds like in practice 26:27 — Coming out publicly as ADHD on Facebook — and the flood of "me too" responses 27:47 — Why she now loves being an ADHD keynote speaker 28:20 — Reframing ADHD inconsistency: dopamine, boredom, and under-stimulation 29:37 — The fMRI study: boredom registers as pain in the ADHD brain 30:25 — Why ADHDers start strong and struggle to finish 31:56 — Decision fatigue and the power of a personal uniform 33:04 — Introducing the F.L.O.W. First Thinking framework 36:31 — Applying Flow First in a corporate setting — $300K saved in one quarter 36:54 — The book and what's inside beyond the TEDx talk 37:15 — Where people get the F (Find Your Spark Times) wrong 38:00 — Why changing your schedule feels uncomfortable — and how to push through 39:00 — Harmful advice in the ADHD space: "just be more consistent" 40:29 — How women internalize ADHD symptoms differently — and the misdiagnosis epidemic 41:17 — One small, actionable shift for overwhelmed entrepreneurs 43:14 — The Voice Pen app recommendation 46:21 — Where to find Alyece and get the book The F.L.O.W. Framework: F — Find your spark times (when your brain is most alert and focused) L — Link boring tasks with stimulating ones (temptation bundling) O — Organize your overflow (a "parking lot" system for ideas and distractions) W — Work your week around your peaks (theme your days, not your hours) Resources Mentioned Book: Flow First Thinking by Alyece Smith - Get it on Amazon Website: sociallyausome.com Nonprofit: Caden's Corner / The Awesome Family's Foundation App: Voice Pen — voice memo to AI-generated action list Tool: ManyCam — virtual camera with timer overlay for Zoom calls Connect with Alyece Website: sociallyausome.com Facebook & Instagram: @sociallyausome (Skip the TikTok DMs — she's not in there) ADHD reWired Services Coaching Groups Adult Study Hall 1:1 Therapy & Coaching Additional Resource Mentioned: Neurodivergent + LGBTQ+ Pride Month Panel

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How Casey Neistat Nails Productivity Advice For ADHDers

The ADHD Skills Lab

Play Episode Listen Later May 27, 2026 36:59 Transcription Available

You know what your most important work is. You still spend the first four hours of the day doing everything else.Casey Neistat recently posted a video called *Navigating the Matrix* showing how he organizes his workday as a creator with ADHD. He tracks his tasks in real time, explains the system he uses to manage everything, and ends by accepting the chaos as part of the deal.Skye and Robert disagree with that conclusion.In this standalone episode, they break down the hidden problem underneath Casey's system — why ADHD business owners keep ending up trapped in urgent work, why prioritization systems collapse under pressure, and why the issue is usually structural, not motivational.What We Cover:- Why ADHD urgency bias overrides even well-designed prioritization systems- How Casey's four-color framework mirrors the Eisenhower Matrix — and where both break down- Why task capture and task prioritization are two completely different cognitive jobs- The real reason everything keeps ending up in the “urgent” category- Why delegation is usually delayed far too long by ADHD business owners- What changes when low-value operational tasks are consistently removed from your plate- Why “being good under pressure” quietly creates long-term business chaosThis episode is less about productivity tactics and more about the hidden operating system underneath ADHD work patterns. P.S. Losing work because the admin layer around your business can't keep up with you? Invisible Systems is a 90-day done-for-you sprint where I (Skye) extract the processes from your head, build the operating layer, and find the right person to run it. Six spots left at the founding price, book a call at invisiblesystem.co

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#167 When Your Body Joins the Chaos - ADHD, Chronic Pain, Headaches & Fibromyalgia

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Play Episode Listen Later May 25, 2026 25:26

In this episode, we're unpacking the very real (and often overlooked) connection between ADHD, your nervous system, and chronic pain - including why so many ADHDers feel things more intensely… In this episode, you'll learn:Why ADHDers are more likely to experience chronic pain, headaches & fibromyalgiaWhat's actually happening in your nervous system (and why it feels so intense)The link between ADHD, anxiety, depression & pain amplificationWhy headaches and migraines are so common with ADHD (it's a perfect storm)The overlap between ADHD brain fog & “fibro fog”Simple, ADHD-friendly ways to better understand & support your bodyThis episode is part education, part validation, and part “ohhhh… that explains a lot.LINKS TO MORE GOOD SH*T:*Join Adulting with ADHD your ADHD toolbox & everything you need to work with your brain*Get our ADHD Coach in your pocket! + the ADHD Goal Setting Workbook (life planner tool)*12 Things I wished my Doctor had told me about Adult ADHD*Find out if you might be living with ADHD - Download Symptoms List*Check out Courses & Coaching with Xena*Learn, Inspire, Share & Connect inside our Facebook Community *Come hang out with me on Instagram!

Waiting for Sleep: Chronobiology and Neurodivergence

Mind Matters

Play Episode Listen Later May 21, 2026 36:03

When a neurodivergent child or teen struggles with daytime focus, emotional volatility, or low frustration tolerance, caregivers naturally look for behavioral or psychological explanations. However, chronic sleep deprivation frequently hides behind these daytime struggles, acting as an unseen amplifier for executive dysfunction and sensory overload. Dr. Melisa Moore, a clinical psychologist and board-certified behavioral sleep medicine specialist at Rady Children's Health San Diego, joins Emily Kircher-Morris to reframe sleep not as an isolated nighttime issue, but as a continuous 24-hour biological reality deeply intertwined with neurodivergence. They talk about specific genetic, chronobiological, and comorbid factors that cause sleep disorders, the structural differences in adolescent circadian rhythms, and methods to address bedtime sensory traps. TAKEAWAYS Neurodivergent individuals experience higher rates of sleep disorders due to shared genetic roots, co-occurring medical conditions, and baseline variations in biological clocks. ADHDers often experience a natural circadian rhythm delay of up to two hours, while autistic people often possess highly inconsistent circadian patterns from night to night. Daytime sleepiness in younger children rarely presents as lethargy and instead as hyperactivity, increased irritability, dysregulation, and an increased use of negative emotion words. Shifting the bedtime linguistic framework from "trying to sleep" to "waiting for sleep to arrive" reduces cognitive pressure and lowers physiological alertness. Underlying physiological issues like obstructive sleep apnea or periodic limb movement disorder directly mimic or exacerbate the core diagnostic criteria of ADHD, including severe inattention and social friction. Perfectionism can be difficult to identify in therapy, and once identified, still very difficult to overcome. If you're a mental health professional, join us for Overcoming Perfectionism in Therapy: Supporting Neurodivergent Clients Who Keep Moving the Finish Line. Matt Zakreski will present this 1.5 hour continuing education course on June 5th at 1:00 pm Central, and if you can't join us live, that's okay. The video will be available afterward for anyone who registers, and either version is APA and NBCC approved for 1.5 hours of continuing education credit. Register now or learn more at this link, or just go to neurodiversity.university. Dr. Melisa Moore, PhD is a clinical psychologist and board-certified behavioral sleep medicine specialist who focuses on sleep and mood challenges in children, teens, and young adults. She works at the sleep center at Rady Children's Health San Diego and also provides care through her private practice, supporting clients across the country with a specialization in neurodiversity. Dr. Moore is the author of The Good Sleep Guide for Neurodivergent Kids, offering practical, research-informed strategies to help families improve sleep in ways that are both effective and affirming. BACKGROUND READING Melisa's website, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn The Neurodiversity Podcast is on Facebook, Instagram, BlueSky, and you're invited to join our Facebook Group. For more information go to www.NeurodiversityPodcast.com If you'd like members of your organization, school district, or company to know more about the subjects discussed on our podcast, Emily Kircher-Morris provides keynote addresses, workshops, and training sessions worldwide, in-person or virtually. You can choose from a list of established presentations, or work with Emily to develop a custom talk to fit your unique situation. To learn more, visit our website.

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404 There's No Rush: Getting Out of Fight-or-Flight with Jenna Free

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Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2026 52:58

This week on the podcast, I'm joined by ADHD counselor Jenna Free to talk all about emotional regulation, nervous system regulation, and why ADHDers need to stop rushing.Jenna is a Certified Canadian Counsellor (CCC) who specializes in helping ADHD brains move out of fight-or-flight and into a state where they can function at their best—while honoring neurodivergence and individual needs.Together, we explore the four stress responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and how chronic rushing keeps so many ADHDers stuck in survival mode. We also discuss why slowing down can feel so uncomfortable, what regulation actually looks like in real life, and how nervous system support can improve productivity, relationships, emotional resilience, and overall quality of life.If you're constantly overwhelmed, reactive, exhausted, or feeling like you can never fully relax, this episode will help you understand why.Jenna also shares insights from her book, The Simple Guide to ADHD Regulation.Watch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The Schedule That Bends Without Breaking

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2026 26:34

---Join the Declutter Challenge! Registration is now open through May 15!https://takecontroladhd.com/declutter---You've heard it before, probably said it yourself: time blocking doesn't work for me. Every block that slips becomes one more piece of evidence that you've failed the system — or that the system has failed you. So this week, Nikki and Pete try something different. They change the word.Nikki walks through three terms that get thrown around in planning circles — intentional planning, time blocking, and the one she's been reaching for more and more lately: flexible scheduling. Pete pushes back (gently, mostly) on why we need a new word for something that was never supposed to be rigid in the first place. And together they unpack the real reason so many ADHDers bounce off scheduling: it's not the strategy, it's the story we tell ourselves when the strategy bends.Along the way: the dangerous allure of hyperscheduling and why it only really works if your livelihood is measured in billable minutes; why time blindness isn't a reason to skip time blocking (and why estimation was never the point); the spoon theory and scheduling around energy instead of just hours; and Pete's brand-new metaphor — age of time — for thinking about margin, buffer, and what it feels like to live three weeks ahead of yourself instead of one day behind.Plus, Nikki drops another download: Your ADHD Schedule Starter, a short, practical guide for building a flexible schedule step by step, with a reflection section built in so you can keep adjusting as you go. Link in the show notes.Links & NotesYour ADHD Schedule Starter (free download)Unapologetically ADHD by Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer — the book behind the frameworkFour Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanGPS Planning Membership — Nikki's coaching community for planning, capture, and workflowSupport the show on Patreon — early ad-free episodes, livestream recordings, members-only DiscordDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:29) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast (02:42) - Talking Schedules ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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What to Look For in a Planning Tool

Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2026 36:27

---Join the Declutter Challenge! Registration is now open through May 15!https://takecontroladhd.com/declutter---There's a moment every ADHDer knows: you open the task manager, see the sea of red, and close it again. This week, Nikki and Pete sit with that moment — and with what it's actually telling you.The instinct is to blame the tool. Something's wrong with the app, the planner, the notebook. Time for something new. But what if the tool is doing exactly what it's supposed to do, and the thing you're really avoiding is something else entirely?Nikki walks through the two non-negotiables of any planning toolkit, why hybrid systems quietly fall apart in the in-between stages, and the one thing she asks every new one-on-one client to do within a week. Pete confesses to running four systems at once, lays out his tool-finding intestines on the table (his words, not ours), and makes the case for why your app isn't just an app — it's a lifeline. Plus: FOBO, task rot, the moral weight of a few simple minutes, and why the best tools are the ones that ask you to pay for them.Stick around for Nikki's brand-new download, Your Planning Tool Finder — a short guide to the questions worth answering before you pick your next tool. Link below.Links & NotesYour Planning Tool Finder (free download)Unapologetically ADHD by Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer — the book behind the frameworkGPS Planning Membership — Nikki's coaching community for planning, capture, and workflowSupport the show on Patreon — early ad-free episodes, livestream recordings, members-only Discord: (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:27) - Patreon.com/TheADHDPodcast (03:17) - Talking Tools ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

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The Desire Gap: ADHD, Sex, and Mismatched Libido with Laura Jurgens EP 563

ADHD reWired

Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2026 60:27

Episode topic: ADHD, sex, desire discrepancy, intimacy, communication, kink, queerness, polyamory, and what happens when libido doesn't match in relationships. Content note: This episode includes candid adult conversation about sex, desire, libido, kink, dating apps, polyamory, and sexual communication. Episode Summary What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? What if ADHD affects libido in both directions? And what if "just do it" is actually some of the worst advice out there? In this episode, Eric is joined by Laura Jurgens, a dual-certified master relationship and intimacy coach, desire and arousal specialist, and host of The Desire Gap podcast. Laura helps individuals and couples create more authentic sexual connection, including when one or both partners are neurodivergent. Eric and Laura get into a candid, shame-free conversation about ADHD, sex, mismatched libido, desire discrepancies, rejection sensitivity, sensory needs, communication, and why so many people struggle to talk openly about what they actually want. Laura explains why desire differences are incredibly common in long-term relationships, why obligation sex can create resentment and shut down libido, and how ADHD can shape both high and low desire. She also shares how people can begin reconnecting with their bodies, practicing self-attunement, and communicating more clearly with partners. The conversation also explores sex positivity, kink positivity, queer dating, bisexuality, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and the importance of honest, embodied consent. This episode is frank, playful, personal, and deeply human. In This Episode, You'll Hear About Why desire discrepancy is common in long-term relationships How ADHD can contribute to both high libido and low libido Why "just do it" is terrible advice for mismatched desire The difference between sex for connection and sex for nervous system regulation How obligation sex can lead to resentment, shutdown, pain, or sexual dysfunction Why a partner can start to feel like a "tool" or "medication" when sex becomes self-regulation The role of dopamine, novelty, and hyperfocus in ADHD sexuality Why some ADHDers struggle to get out of their heads and into their bodies How stress, burnout, and nervous system activation can shut down libido Why self-attunement is a key starting point for intimacy How alexithymia can complicate emotional and sexual communication What "sex positive" and "kink positive" can actually mean Why embodied consent matters more than intellectual "I guess this is fine" consent How kink communities can model explicit communication and negotiation The risks of opening a relationship when the relationship is already disconnected Why polyamory requires a high level of trust, communication, and self-awareness Dating while bisexual, queer, neurodivergent, or exploring new relational identities How to disclose needs and patterns without using ADHD as a "get out of jail free" card Why communicating about withdrawal, burnout, and alone time matters in relationships Notable Moments / Quote Pulls "Obligation sex is the worst possible advice." "If you are trying to manage your partner's feelings with your body, that is a one-way ticket to resentment town." "Sex can become the way an ADHDer gets into their body and out of their head." "Your partner starts feeling like a tool or a medication rather than a person you authentically want to connect with." "Compatibility doesn't mean there are no differences. It means there are differences you can navigate." "Do I love the sex I'm having? That's a question a lot of people aren't even asking themselves." "Practice with the kitten to play with the tiger." "Don't yuck on someone else's yum." "You don't have to be evangelically polyamorous." Guest Bio Laura Jurgens is a dual-certified master relationship and intimacy coach and host of The Desire Gap podcast. She is a desire and arousal specialist who helps individuals and couples discover authentic sexual connection, including when one or both partners are neurodivergent. Her approach helps people release shame, shed relationship anxiety, and build confidence through more effective communication. Her work is play-based, practical, inclusive, trauma-informed, and grounded in current research. Laura is a former university professor with a PhD in biological sciences, with certifications from the Somatica Institute, The Life Coach School, and the NeuroAffective Touch Institute. Learn more about Laura at laurajurgens.com and listen to The Desire Gap podcast. Resources & Links Learn more about Laura Jurgens: laurajurgens.com Listen to Laura's podcast: The Desire Gap Learn more about ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: coachingrewired.com Learn more about ADHD reWired: adhdrewired.com Join Adult Study Hall, our virtual coworking community: adultstudyhall.com Support the show on Patreon: patreon.com/adhdrewired Sponsor / Program Mention Registration is open for the next season of ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups. This is our intensive coaching and accountability program for ADHD adults who want more structure, support, follow-through, and connection. Learn more and start pre-registration at: coachingrewired.com

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When Productivity Advice Ignores Capacity with Brooke Schnittman