Podcast appearances and mentions of Gail Sheehy

Millions of Gen X and Baby Boomer women know something their mothers didn't – or, at least, wouldn't acknowledge.And that is that women over 40 do not lose their sexual appetite. In fact, quite the contrary.In this 2006 interview author and journalist Gail Sheehy talks about her book Sex And The Seasoned Woman.Get your copy of Sex and the Seasoned Woman by Gail SheehyAs an Amazon Associate, Now I've Heard Everything earns from qualifying purchases.You may also enjoy my interviews with Maureen Dowd and Kitty Carlisle Hart For more vintage interviews with celebrities, leaders, and influencers, subscribe to Now I've Heard Everything on Spotify, Apple Podcasts. and now on YouTube#women #middleage #sexuality #relationships

Není krize středního věku jen výmluva, proč se někdo začne chovat bezohledně? Nebo je dokonce mýtem? Některým sociologům se nicméně podařilo ukázat, že v polovině života, tedy kolem čtyřicátého roku se s člověkem něco děje. Dokonce existují studie o tom, kterak je toto období ze všech nejtíživějších.  Důvody by se našly: člověk už stojí na vlastních nohách, ale také si může připadat životem lapen. Ještě mu dramaticky neubývají síly, ale už vidí stárnoucí rodiče. Ještě nevypadá staře, ale první známky úpadku jsou patrné. Ještě není nic hrozné, ale člověk už zažil první ochutnávku toho, co ho čeká. Což je možná horší, než kdyby hrůza již udeřila…  Barbara Bleischová, švýcarská filozofka, novinářka a moderátorka pořadu Sternstunde der Philosophie ve své letošní knize Střed života ukazuje, že za určitých podmínek to tak být nemusí. Tvrdí, že současný pohled na krizi středního věku je příliš určen ideálem mládí. Sama se opírá o antické hledisko, dle kterého je střední věk vrcholem života. Síly ještě neubývají, ale už máme zkušenosti. Ostatně podle Aristotela je střední věk proto nejplodnější fází.  Na pozadí antických teorií autorka navíc ukazuje, že nyní, teprve nyní, můžeme začít žít za sebe sama. V první části života to bývají druzí, kteří určují náš život. Odvedou nás do školky, školy, občas pomůžou s první prací, dlouho žijeme pod dohledem. Nejpozději ve druhé části života nám nezbývá než začít žít život z vlastních sil. Už se po nás nikdo neshání, nikdo nás nekontroluje, zjišťujeme, že na nás nikdo nečeká, že nic nejde samo od sebe. To sice nezní jako povznášející fáze, ale možná je tou vůbec nejfilozofičtější. Kapitoly I. „Kdo říká: ‚Je mi třicet‘ říká: stárne.“ [úvod až 7:30] II. Již jen nějaká krize nás může zachránit. [7:30 až 17:35] III. Topologie středního věku [17:35 až 43:00] IV. Spojenci středního věku: Ironie, generativita, údiv [43:00 až konec] Bibliografie David G. Blanchflower, Andrew Oswald, „Do Humans Suffer a Psychological Low in Midlife? Two Approaches (With and Without Controls) in Seven Data Sets“, in: National Bureau of Economic Research, August 2017, https://www.nber.org/papers/w23724. Barbara Bleisch, Mitte des Lebens. Eine Philosophie der besten Jahre, München: Hanser, 2024. Eliot Jaques, Death and the mid-life crisis, in: The International Journal of Psychoanalysis, 4, 1965, str. 502–514. Gail Sheehy, Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life, New York Bantam Books, 1977. Luigi Zoja, „Podněcujte svou vášnivost!“, in: Echoprime, 5. 12. 2024, https://www.echoprime.cz/a/HtXUy/podnecujte-svou-vasnivost

Um ouvinte que se apaixonou perdidamente por uma cantora pop japonesa, homens obcecados por carros esportivos e mulheres perdidas ao pensar na "segunda vida". A crise de meia-idade já virou clichê na cultura popular, mas sua história acadêmica é recente e sem muitas conclusões. E por que eu, chegando aos 40, quero explicar toda minha vida através desse conceito? Este é mais um episódio do Escuta Essa, podcast semanal em que Denis e Danilo trocam histórias de cair o queixo e de explodir os miolos. Todas as quartas-feiras, no seu agregador de podcasts favorito, é a vez de um contar um causo para o outro. Não deixe de enviar os episódios do Escuta Essa para aquela pessoa com quem você também gosta de compartilhar histórias e aproveite para mandar seus comentários e perguntas no Spotify, nas redes sociais , ou no e-mail escutaessa@aded.studio. A gente sempre lê mensagens no final de cada episódio! ... NESTE EPISÓDIO •⁠ ⁠A o trio japonês Babymetal faz crossover de J-Pop (música pop japonesa) e heavy metal. Eles se apresentaram em um show solo em São Paulo em outubro de 2024. •⁠ ⁠O termo “crise de meia idade” foi cunhado pelo psicanalista canadense Elliott Jaques em 1965 no artigo “Death and the Midlife Crisis” •⁠ ⁠Os trabalhos seguintes que ajudaram a popularizar o termo e a ideia foram “The Seasons of a Man's Life”, do professor de psicologia Daniel Levinson e “Transformations: Growth and Change in Adult Life”, do professor Roger Gould. Ambos foram fonte da jornalista Gail Sheehy no influente livro “Passages”. •⁠ ⁠A história das pesquisas acadêmicas sobre a meia idade pode ser lida no livro “Midlife”, de Keiran Setiya. •⁠ ⁠O jogo de tabuleiro “Mid-Life Crisis”, de 1982, foi criado por Michael Stern. Ele recebeu nota 4,5/10 no Board Game Geek, o maior site sobre jogos de tabuleiros no mundo. A sua versão brasileira, a Ludopédia, não tem tópico sobre este jogo, que aparentemente não foi lançado no Brasil. •⁠ ⁠-O New York Times tem um artigo extenso e crítico sobre como Bill Gates se tornou tão influente dentro da Organização Mundial de Saúde durante a pandemia. ... AD&D STUDIO A AD&D produz podcasts e vídeos que divertem e respeitam sua inteligência! Acompanhe todos os episódios em aded.studio para não perder nenhuma novidade.

It's a BIG week. There is a presidential election going on, we have the Grand Opening for IMPACT-X Performance in Huntington Beach, CA, and it's Parents Weekend at Davidson College this weekend as my son Luke has only 2 football games left in his college career. A lot of CHANGE. On all levels. It seems like everyone talks about change but rarely do people embrace change. In today's episode, I talk about the power of change, its inevitability, the growth it can foster, and how our mindset influences our journey. Through a collection of 62 impactful quotes, we reflect on how to embrace change and transformation in our lives.   Here are my top 62-Quotes on CHANGE that you will want to earmark for future use and reference. These will guide you through the beauty and process of change, growth, & transformation. Enjoy today's IMPACT SHOW!!!   My Top 62-Quotes on CHANGE:  1.  "Change your thinking, change your life." — Ernest Holmes 2.  "Change before you have to." — Jack Welch 3.  "Change is inevitable. Growth is optional." — John C. Maxwell 4.  "Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better." — Sydney J. Harris 5.  "If you do not change direction, you might end up where you are heading." — Lao Tzu 6.  "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude." — Maya Angelou 7.  "Dreams are the seeds of change. Nothing ever grows without a seed, and nothing ever changes without a dream." — Debby Boone 8.  "The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude." — Oprah Winfrey 9.  "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." — James Baldwin 10. "You be the change that you wish to see in the world." — Mahatma Gandhi 11. "All great changes are preceded by chaos." — Deepak Chopra 12. "I cannot say whether things will get better if we change; what I can say is they must change if they are to get better." — Georg C. Lichtenberg 13. "Don't be afraid to give up the good to go for the great." — John D. Rockefeller 14. "The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new." — Socrates 15. "It doesn't matter how strong your opinions are. If you don't use your power for positive change, you are indeed part of the problem." — Coretta Scott King 16. "Yesterday, I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." — Jalaluddin Rumi 17. "By changing nothing, nothing changes." — Tony Robbins 18. "Your life does not get better by chance; it gets better by change." — Jim Rohn 19. "Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." — George Bernard Shaw 20. "There is nothing permanent except change." — Heraclitus 21. "Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." — Leo Tolstoy 22. "Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world." — Harriet Tubman 23. "Life is progress, and not a station." — Ralph Waldo Emerson 24. "Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be." — John Wooden 25 "Change is the law of life, and those who look only to the past and present are certain to miss the future." — John F. Kennedy 26. "The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do." — Steve Jobs 27. "Moving doesn't change who you are. It only changes the view outside your window." — Rachel Hollis 28. "I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples." — Mother Teresa 29. "Change, like healing, takes time." — Veronica Roth 30. "It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change." — Charles Darwin 31. "When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves." — Viktor Frankl 32. Times and conditions change so rapidly that we must keep our aim constantly focused on the future — Walt Disney 33. "Change is painful, but nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong." — Mandy Hale 34. "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable." — Helen Keller 35. "Without change, something sleeps inside us and seldom awakens. The sleeper must awaken." — Frank Herbert 36. "When in doubt, choose change." — Lily Leung 37. "Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts." — Arnold Bennett 38. "Growth and comfort do not coexist." — Ginni Rometty 39. "Just take any step, whether small or large. And then another and repeat day after day. It may take months, maybe years, but the path to success will become clear" — Aaron Ross 40. "Change your life today. Don't gamble on the future; act now, without delay." — Simone de Beauvoir 41. "If you know what you want to achieve in life, then you are more inspired to change for the better." — Philip Vang 42. "There is a certain relief in change, even though it be from bad to worse! As I have found in traveling in a stagecoach, it is often a comfort to shift one's position and be bruised in a new place." — Washington Irving 43. "It's not about standing still and becoming safe. If anybody wants to keep creating they have to be about change" — Miles Davis 44. "You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete." Buckminster Fuller 45. "The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails." — William Arthur Ward 46. "In order to design a future of positive change, we must first become experts at changing our minds." — Jacque Fresco 47. "Change is hardest at the beginning, messiest in the middle, and best at the end." — Robin Sharma 48. "Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone." — Billy Cox 49. "Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won't have a title until much later.” — Bob Goff 50. "In any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safety." — Abraham Maslow 51. "A tiny change today brings a dramatically different tomorrow."– Richard Bach 52. "Become a student of change. It is the only thing that will remain constant." — Anthony D'Angelo 53. "If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living." — Gail Sheehy 54. "You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space." — Johnny Cash 55. "When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too." — Paulo Coelho 56. "Do not waste time on things you cannot change or influence." — Robert Greene 57. "We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change." — Sheryl Sandberg 58. "Change your thoughts, and you change your world." – Norman Vincent Peale 59. "The most beautiful and profound way to change yourself is to accept yourself completely, as imperfect as you are." — Maxime Lagacé 60.  "Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values." — Dalai Lama 61. "The main dangers in this life are the people who want to change everything or nothing." — Nancy Astor 62. "Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge." — Eckhart Tolle   Other Key Takeaways from today's IMPACT SHOW podcast: 10 Forms of Wealth: Reflect on your personal and professional life to identify areas needing change. Rate yourself and set specific goals. “3-in-30”: Focus on actionable steps within each Form of Wealth. What can you achieve this month to move closer to your aspirations? Embrace Uncertainty: Recognize that not all changes will feel comfortable, but they often lead to growth. Don't shy away from the unknown. Man! What an episode, these quotes are fireeee!! Change is not just about adapting to new circumstances; it's about actively choosing to evolve, grow and TRANSFORM. As we head into the final months of the year, consider what changes you want to embrace in your life. Remember, it's about progress, not perfection. In conclusion, think about your dreams, your health, your mindset, your family & relationships, and your legacy. And see how you want to shift, change, growth, and transform your trajectory in those areas of your life. And then take ACTION on it!   Thank you for joining me on today's IMPACT SHOW podcast. Please share today's episode and give it some love. It helps us CHANGE MORE lives and help make this world a better place to live. Thank you! Tag us at: IG & X: @ToddDurkin    #IMPACTShow #Podcast #ToddDurkin #ChangeOrDie    P.S. #1. GRAND OPENING of IMPACT-X Performance in Huntington Beach, CA on Nov 7th, 2024  Join Us this Thursday (Nov 7th) for the Grand Opening of Impact-X Performance in Huntington Beach! We're excited to share updates and our journey toward making a lasting impact. See my Social Media for all information (@ToddDurkin)  P.S #2. Please leave us a 5-star Rating & Write a Review on the Todd Durkin IMPACT SHOW! If you enjoyed this episode, please consider leaving a five-star rating and a review on iTunes. Your support helps us reach more people and spread the message of change and growth!  

Send us a Text Message.Human development has always been a fascinating subject of curiosity and study. In this episode, Jeanie delves into Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development and Gail Sheehy's Passages, offering insights into these influential theories. Discover how these models explain the journey of human growth and development. Tune in for an enlightening discussion on the stages and passages that shape our lives.Support the Show.We're eager to hear from you! Feel free to share your thoughts through our anonymous form or simply write to info@freshouttaplans.com with your topic requests or any burning questions you'd like us to explore on the podcast. https://linktr.ee/freshouttaplans

An extraordinary episode with a man of true brilliance, courage, distinction & genius. Delighted to welcome South African born Los Angeles-based Designer, Philosopher, Creative Mentor, Professor & Coach, Errol Gerson. A wise owl indeed!Errol was 'Passed the Golden Baton' through previous Guest, Iain Thackrah. Part philosopher, part accountant and natural born teacher, Errol has helped shape the creative minds of the world famous Art Centre College of Design in Los Angeles for over 50 years, preparing over 5,350 students to embark on incredible creative businesses and SUCCEED in an ever changing field.You can also Watch/Listen to Errol here:https://vimeo.com/chrisgrimes/errolgersonAnd be sure to stick around after the outro for a wonderful post-script story from Errol too!Errol Gerson is a lifelong learner, who trained as an accountant & has been sharing his business insight with creative people ever since. When Errol was himself at art school, one of his tutors acknowledged that he was a likeable lad but went on to say that, in his opinion, he did not have a creative bone in his body! Errol had left school with a certificate that declared him not suitable for university. At this point, he may have been down but he was definitely not out.  Inspired by people like Joan Baez & Bob Dylan, Errol Gerson learned to play the guitar, wrote anti-apartheid songs and sang them in coffee bars, where the customers applauded but the police took a somewhat different view! When a visiting American suggested he was possibly good enough to get a record deal & that America might appreciate his talents, whatever his South African critics might say, Errol set off for the USA with a very small suitcase and a tiny bundle of US dollars to match. He arrived 3 months early, in some distress. When he was evicted from his rooms for non-payment of rent, he took his last two bucks to a local coffee bar where, fortuitously, he found a job as a dishwasher, a free meal of sorts every day and even a single bed in exchange for cleaning, reminiscent of Roger Miller's ironic 'King of the Road'.Errol Gerson now has half a century's relevant experience in the USA teaching at the Art Center College of Design in Los Angeles. He himself has been inspired by all his teachers in California, as well as by iconic writers like Wayne Dyer, Stephen Covey, Viktor Frankl and Gail Sheehy. To avoid bearing grudges or allowing resentments to take root, Errol recommends a rigorous programme of prayer and meditation, as well as actively cultivating an attitude of gratitude, with the help of a moleskin notebook, on a daily basis. Errol continues to be inspired by people like Plato, Socrates and Descartes. Errol Gerson's own story is well worth listening to & one of his favourite quotes says simply: “I touch the future. I teach.”Tune in next week for more stories of 'Distinction & Genius' from The Good Listening To Show 'Clearing'. If you would like to be my Guest too then you can find out HOW via the different 'series strands' at 'The Good Listening To Show' website. Show Website: https://www.thegoodlisteningtoshow.com You can email me about the Show: chris@secondcurve.uk Twitter thatchrisgrimes LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-grimes-actor-broadcaster-facilitator-coach/ FaceBook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/842056403204860 Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW wherever you get your Podcasts :) Thanks for listening!

In this episode, Kreed discusses the value of changing belief and perspective regarding change and how change can be the catalyst for bringing estranged parents back into relationship with their adult children. Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change. - Wayne Dyer Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future. - John F. Kennedy If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living. - Gail Sheehy -------- http://www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Coaching with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart-scheduler.as.me/ Support group facilitated by Kreed: https://www.facebook.com/groups/estrangedmotherssupportgroup If you wish to become a financial supporter of the podcast and Kreed's work with estranged parents & adult children:   https://www.anchor.fm/theestrangedheart/support https://www.buymeacoffee.com/kreedrevere  (one time donation) www.paypal.me/revkreed (one time donation) --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/theestrangedheart/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/theestrangedheart/support

SHOW SUMMARY: In this episode, I'm talking about midlife shifts. Tune in and learn what the shift is, whether or not it's a midlife crisis, and how to know if you're ready for your shift. Then I'll share 9 tips for starting your midlife shift and 5 tips for overcoming the fear of doing it! SHOW MAP: 15:16: The big moment I decided to shift my entire life! 17:00: The big action I took to start my midlife shift. 18:05: Did I do the right thing and what was my plan? 20:21: Key Lessons from my midlife shift 22:05: How I became more strategic with my midlife shift. 24:28: How to know if it's time to create YOUR midlife shift into a more vibrant YOU. 26:52: How to start your midlife shift + a quote: “It's time to stop resisting the call of your soul, to do the inner and outer work of crafting the life you are meant for instead of settling.” – Suzette Conway 31:34 - tips for hacking the normal fear functions of your brain. WHAT TO DO NEXT: Download the tips and tricks for starting your midlife shift and overcoming the fear that will naturally arise as you do that work. Subscribe to the show & please tell your friends about it! RESOURCES: Flittersphere community Psychology Today blog "Fulfillment At Any Age" SPEAKERS: Suzette Conway founded the Flittersphere™ to support women 40 and older in creating a mid-life shift so they can release the angsty, restless feeling of living disconnected from what they are meant for and finally have the deeply satisfying life their soul craves. She started her company in 2017, bringing the wisdom of a 25-year career in corporate learning & development, a degree in communications, a love of exploring the human experience, and a craving for Sparkable Moments™! She's on a mission to raise the world's energy and consciousness by helping 100,000 women live more vibrantly! Flittersphere WebsiteFlittersphere Community TRANSCRIPT: Hey there. Welcome to the Sparkable Moments podcast, where we have conversations to feed the soul! In this show, we explore the human experience using a mix of science, personal stories, random ponderings, and deep-end-of-the-pool discussions. I'm your hostess Suzette Conway. I'm a happiness coach and the creator of the Flittersphere, which is a community of women intent on crafting our most vibrant lives. This show is part of my mission to raise the world's vibration and consciousness by creating better human experiences to change the world in beautiful and spectacular ways! I'm so glad you're joining me on the journey At the end of today's show, I'll share some tips for how to identify if you are ready for your midlife shift, and if so, what you can do to start it, and how to overcome any fears you have about this pursuit. Be sure to stick around so you don't miss it! In this episode, I'll be talking about midlife shifts and how to know if you are ready for yours. I'm going to share the story of my own midlife shift, including what lead up to it, when and how I knew something big had to change in my life… and what I did about it. And we'll talk about how to find the courage to take action in support of a midlife shift if that is what you want in your life. And I'll share some specific actions that you can start with. So, let's jump into this by first considering the language that we use around this topic, specifically the idea of a midlife crisis. Is what we experience in midlife really a crisis or just the ebb and flow of life that naturally leads to questioning our human experience? Is it a problem or an opportunity, an inevitability or an anomaly? The concept of a Midlife crisis is not new. We hear about it all the time. We hit our 40s and kind of go nuts making radical life changes. We buy fancy cars or have affairs or quit our jobs and move to Paris in response to some internal struggle over how we define ourselves and our lives. I've been fascinated by this concept for years. I've tried to define midlife crisis for myself and I've even explored how researchers and experts in the field would define it. It's not easy because there is no single answer to it. The term “midlife crisis” was coined by Canadian psychoanalyst Elliott Jaques in 1965 and it became popular because of a 1984 book by Gail Sheehy called Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life. Sheehy claimed that we will inevitably experience a crisis between the ages of 37 and 42 and that it's a predictable experience she defines as an anxiety around the truth of our own mortality. It's when we start to ask questions like “is this all there is?" I've also seen it described as a panic over not achieving life goals and questioning our purpose. Susan Krauss Whitbourne is a professor emeritus at the University of Massachusetts, and she's a psychologist, and the author of the Psychology Today blog "Fulfillment At Any Age". She suggests that midlife crisis might more accurately be called an "ego integrity" issue because it is centered on confronting our morality and our sense of meaning and purpose and connection to others and concern for our own welfare. Based on all this and my own experiences, I would sum up a midlife crisis as an angst-filled state of existential uncertainty and worry, a time of questioning our purpose, what we find meaningful, our role in life, and whether we'll achieve our goals before we run out of time and die. The crisis may send us on a desperate quest to attain goals, regain our youth, or to find answers to life's mysteries. And it's all in an effort to make sense of our human existence. I think if it as more like a midlife angst than midlife crisis. Either way, I don't know about you, but that is what I felt like for most of my adult life! It intensified as I got older and it showed up as a ton of fretting over whether or not there was more to life and a deep fear that I would wake up at 85 and regret the life I'd lived. But is that a crisis? And is it inevitable that we all have this kind of crisis? Do we all have it at the same age? How long does it last? Does it look the same for all of us? Professor Whitbourne questions the very premise of a crisis altogether. She says it is pretty much a myth and that only about 10% of adults experience a true crisis, though I've seen reports that put it as high as 40%. But we'll just go wither 10% for right now. She also says the label itself can be destructive and misleading, in part because there is no clear definition of midlife. I agree with her on this. Sheehy's book, for instance, suggests midlife includes ages 37-42. In generations past when we only lived to our 60s, 30 would have been squarely in midlife. But we live longer now than ever before. So, is midlife our 30s? 40s? 50s? Maybe it dips into our 60s when we retire and start a whole new career or life chapter with still another 25-30 years of life left in us, If we can't agree on where the middle is, how can we even use the term ‘midlife' with the word crisis. Whitbourne also suggests that the label is problematic because we might adopt it when we face challenges in midlife as an easy way out. It's simpler to just label it as a midlife crisis than to look inside ourselves and do the work to figure out what is really going on. Whitbourne also suggests that often what we label as a midlife crisis is just an unhappy event that could and does happen at any age in adulthood… whether it's a divorce, an accident, losing a parent, struggling with a serious illness, or losing a job. These are serious moments, but they often don't create a deep existential crisis. I understand her point here, but I can't help but wonder, how many of these events can someone tolerate before it does become a crisis for them? And how much does our ability to process it affect whether or not it is an existential crisis, making us question the quality and purpose of our existence? Here's what I think. The answer to what is a midlife crisis and does everybody have it and when do we have it… is “who knows?”. From a science and research perspective, and as someone who enjoys using words thoughtfully, I agree with Whitbourne that we haven't universally defined what midlife is and it's likely unhelpful and maybe even unhealthy to use of cliché terms like Midlife Crisis. Not just because it isn't scientifically accurate, but because it minimizes the meaning of the words when we throw it around as a casual cliché. But from a more human perspective, with less interest in word precision and more interest in experience, I think the answer is… well it's still “who knows?”. Midlife is different for all of us. The duration of our lives varies. And so does our experience of it. We each have different levels of resilience and fortitude, unique perspectives, and even different internal and external resources for responding to life's circumstances. All of these things contribute to whether something is a crisis or just a life event we must manage. New York psychologist Vivian Diller, Ph.D., suggests that because we live to be older now, this quandary is no longer about thinking “I have so little time left.” It is now about asking “Do I want to live life this way?”. And Psychology professor Margie Lachman says we can see the midlife crisis as more of a midlife checkup. I agree with both of them. Midlife isn't a crisis. It's an opportunity. There is power and purpose in a midlife shift – in intentionally reflecting on our lives, without regret or judgment, and asking if it's what we've wanted. And if not, we get to explore what we do want and then choose to create that. There are legitimate crises in life, and we need to respond to them accordingly. But I think a midlife malaise is not about that. Instead, it's about asking “what's next”. This perspective comes from personal experience. My life is pretty great today. I'm getting healthier, I have a sense of freedom with my time and creativity, I get to do work that I love, and use my gifts to make a difference in the world. I'm being true to myself and living an authentic, holistic, mostly balanced life. I have a sense of purpose, and I have finally, mostly relaxed into myself and I can live the life my curious, adventurous, fun-loving spirit craves! Life isn't perfect, and some days are better than others. But I have master skills now that make all the difference and I use them daily to continually evolve and intentionally shift into my next best self, over and over and over again. That is the gold, the answer to everything else for me. It is a source of my peace, satisfaction, hope, and joy in life. But it wasn't always this way. I've spent most of my life trying to resolve a deep inner angst. I was never quite satisfied where I was or happy in life, I was always looking for more, trying to fill an emptiness in my soul.. trying to feel whole and enough. You know what I mean, right, thin enough, smart enough, pretty, successful, stable, wealthy, and kind enough… on and on with all the ways we measure ourselves. The struggle was visible everywhere in my life. At 31 I had a short and disastrous marriage followed by a quick and painful divorce. It left me broken and unable to create future relationships. I was humiliated, lonely, financially unstable, gaining weight rapidly, and generally unhappy. I pushed through and tried to go on with the rest of my life. I graduated from college at 32 and went back to corporate America and kept building my career. I bought a house and enjoyed my family and friends and went about living a mostly good life that checked nearly all the boxes. But still, I had the angst and emptiness. Then in 2008, it got worse because there was an economic crash, I got laid off from a job that I'd poured myself into for 11 years. I felt betrayed and rejected and I was scared because I was unemployed for 14 months and I almost lost my home. And I felt aimless and lost. I didn't know where I belonged. Eventually, I got a new job that I loved. But after a couple of years, I was back in a rut and unhappy, thinking again that I needed another change to fix my dis-ease…. my disease of unhappiness. Over the next 3 years, I changed jobs 4 times looking for that fix. I took the last job in desperation, in a small company with a toxic environment at half my pay… and it was quickly clear they were insolvent and couldn't afford to pay me. I knew it was a matter of months before I'd get laid off and be looking for work again. All of these struggles were symptoms of something larger, something deeper. But I couldn't see it as that when I was IN it. So, for years I struggled. I felt out of control and full of anxiety about the future, my purpose, my weight and fast declining health, whether I'd have a good life if I'd ever find love… all of it. And I was full of guilt for wanting more than my “good on paper” life, more than a lot of people get in this life. I was so depressed there were days could not manage to do the dishes or get off the couch or call a friend. All I wanted to do was sleep and eat and zone out from the pain I felt. But I couldn't really disconnect because my brain was always on, I was always obsessing, striving, doing, searching, and proving myself. and the whole thing had its own momentum… I was getting worse, fast. I tried lots of things to get on track in life… job changes, online dating, weight loss surgery, vacations, therapy, always walking around with a smile on my face… none of it made me happier or eased the angst I felt. I was chronically stressed out and it was impacting every aspect of my health physically and mentally and it was impacting my life. It was exhausting and overwhelming and it was robbing me of a good life. I was desperate for relief. After nearly 2 decades of floundering, of wondering if there was something MORE and BETTER to this human experience… 2 decades full of divorce, unemployment, nearly losing my home, unable to be in a relationship, poor health continuing to decline, struggling with undiagnosed depression and anxiety… I was fully burned out and at my breaking point. I'd like to say this was me at 28, that I figured this out early in life and did something about it! But I wasn't. I was in my late 30s.. then my mid-40s, and then my late 40s, and I was still in this place. So, in addition to all this struggle, I was judging myself for not having figured out how to live well. And, I thought I was the only one like this and so I was, on top of everything else, embarrassed that I couldn't get it together. And I didn't understand why I felt such pain and unhappiness, because, despite the struggle and everything I just described to you, my life was really good on paper. I had a home, a mostly prosperous career doing work I was good at and that I mostly enjoyed. I had an education, a good reputation, loving family & friends, I got to travel, I made good money. I was mostly a happy person. But really, I was only half-happy. Something was off and had been for a very long time and clearly, these struggles were a SIGN. My spirit screaming for my attention. I was suffering from what I call chronic low-grade unhappiness. It was the worst kind of unhappiness because it was unrelenting and had a significant impact, but it didn't stop me from living my daily life, so I didn't realize exactly how bad it was when I was in it. In that kind of situation, we humans tolerate the intolerable for a really long time. While that helped me to be resilient, to be a functionally depressed person, it stopped me from making the meaningful changes that I needed in order to go from surviving to thriving. After 20+ years of this, I was so “over” feeling unhappy and unfulfilled in life, over tolerating this as if it was normal and all I deserved or all I was capable of creating. I reached the peak of my distress in 2016 when I went through some boxes and found old journal entries that I didn't remember writing, entries that highlighted how unhappy I had been for so many years. Then I found a thick folder full of 15 years of business ideas scrawled on sticky notes, envelopes, notepads, napkins. Then I found new year's resolutions from past decades, decades I tell you, with the same goals showing up every year because I never fully accomplished these changes that I thought would make me happy. It was like evidence of a crime… proof I wasn't creating what I wanted in my life…. that my unhappiness was all my fault... And it left me no room for continued denial or complacency. It was clear my soul had been screaming at me for a long time to do something different, to be someone different. And I was so tired of being restless, lost and empty and disconnected, lonely and hopeless. I couldn't figure out what was wrong yet, or how to fix it. But I knew I could not find the path out of it with my old methods anymore. 25 years of trying had proven that. In this moment, I finally realized that I didn't need more... I was meant for more… and that meant I needed something different… and that felt way bigger than having more money or getting skinny or finding another husband or getting out of debt. This was about whether or not I was living the right life, living in the right way. The answer seemed to be a resounding NO and that terrified me. My worry and fear over a wasted life deepened and my heart and my spirit were broken by seeing how long I'd been suffering in this state. Around this same time, my sister and I were having amazing conversations about life and I mentioned how I was struggling and that I felt like a trapped artist - I didn't feel like my spirit was being fully expressed in the world. I told her I'd been thinking about selling my home and pressing the reset button on my entire life. It would mean I didn't' have to work and I'd have the time, money, and mental space to explore what I truly wanted. She asked me “Why don't you do it?”… and I didn't have a good answer. There was literally no reason NOT to do it. At that exact moment, something shifted in me. I finally knew something big needed to change. Now. And I finally had the courage and the will to do it. Was all this a crisis? Honestly, I don't know. It felt like one. But the label doesn't really matter. Regardless of what I called it, and when it started or how long it lasted… it was definitely a psychologically uncomfortable state. It was painful. And it needed my attention. And so, I gave it my attention. I decided to sell my house! And that last job at the insolvent company didn't even last until I got it on the market. But by then I knew my path. I was NOT going to get another corporate job. I wanted to work for myself. That's not true for everybody, but it was true for me. And even though I didn't know what that looked like yet, I was ready to embrace the discomfort of the unknown! I was finally ready to explore all the possibilities of my life. So, I sold the house, put everything in storage, moved into my other sister's dining room… and started my midlife shift! I was 48. Scared. Excited. Determined. And feeling a sense of relief that I'd never known before. I took a year off to unclench and breathe, and I played with some business ideas. I traveled and reconnected with old friends and I journaled like a madwoman. And I got a coach and found a community of people like me, seekers, creators, people determined to get every drop of goodness out of this life. They understood the angst and the need for answers. Now, not everyone has the option or the need to sell their home to create a better life. The truth is, I probably didn't need to do it either. In many ways, it wasn't the most strategic or healthy choice I could have made. But it was ONE choice, one way that I was willing and able to show myself that I was committed to big, imperfect action toward the next best version of me. One way to acknowledge that I'd seen the truth and was no longer willing to tolerate my current reality. And it was absolutely what my spirit wanted at that moment. I had been wanting to sell my house for years. And for the first time in years, I was listening to my spirit again. I had some big goals in my mid-life shift. I was gonna write a book, and create massive weight loss, and build a thriving business. What I didn't know then was that these things were just more symbols of what I thought a good life looked like. I was still using my left, corporate brain and strategizing and planning and seeking proof of my enoughness by measuring whether or not I hit my goals. But it was a starting point. It was enough to own what I wanted, which at that moment, was just to figure out what I wanted. So I was playing with some ideas. I didn't know what any of it would look like, how long it would take, or if I could even do it. But I knew I had to start. I knew I wasn't too old, it wasn't too late, but it was time… and I jumped in! And today… I run my own business and I have freedom in what I do, and who I work with, and where I work and live. My health is improving and so is how I define health. I'm a learning and development consultant, I've started writing my first book and I've launched this podcast. I'm a happiness coach helping women create a midlife shift into the next expression of themselves. I no longer feel burned out, trapped, or stuck in life. These are the outward signs of my shift. They are fun and they align with my gifts and interests and goals, and it's exactly what I wanted for myself. What might be harder to see are the internal wins that came from doing deep work on myself and learning new tools for functioning optimally in service of my highest good. I'm happier because I live an authentic life, connected to my true nature and my purpose, to my own spirit. It's a joyful life full of meaning and well-being, powerful conversations and Sparkable Moments™, and all the things that light up my soul. I wake up each day eager for this glorious life I get to have, and I go to bed insanely grateful, and most days… pretty satisfied, and fulfilled. This isn't because things are always rosy and perfect. They aren't. It's because I've learned how to dance with my doubts and fears and to love and leverage my inner critic. I've learned how and why our ego and identity are formed, which helps me to see its value and its limitations… and it helps me hack it for my own higher purposes. I've learned that I get to break the rules and conditioning that no longer serve me and create new agreements with myself that are aligned to my values, purpose, and true nature. I've learned to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. I've learned to embrace a deep sense of purpose and feel good about my place in the world. I've also learned some crazy powerful tools to help me intentionally shift into a higher state of being so I can operate from there. And I've learned to stop expecting myself or my life or other people to be perfect, especially as a condition I had to meet before I can have what I want. And I've learned to stop thinking that I have to be done and fully evolved before I can claim my happiness or own this shift in my life. Mostly, I learned that the thing that was missing, that “something more” I needed, was ME. I had disconnected from my spirit, from my personal truth and purpose, and from my own inner power. I had spent my whole life trying to meet other people's expectations, pleasing them and doing what I was supposed to do, following the rules, walking the right way on the right path, thinking that would create a good life. Once I reconnected to my inner spirit, to the divine, pure, authentic part of me, everything changed. As I created this midlife shift, I started to learn how to be more strategic, which for me meant being more aligned to that spirit by identifying my gifts and talents and my essence. I created a mission based on what I believe is my primary purpose. I interviewed people, read books, took courses, and researched what creates human flourishing… what makes us happier, healthier, and more fulfilled. And it turns out that science breaks a flourishing life into the same categories that I've always used for new year goal setting and examination of my own life. The science and my own heart were aligned  And the great news is that science identifies ways of optimizing how we function in each of these areas. And so does our intuition, that inner divine genius that we all have. It also knows how to optimize our human experience. So, as part of my strategic approach, I explored each area using the science and authentic conversations and personal experiences – discussing with others our stories, our hopes, and longings, our dark side as well as our light. I talked to people about how we define ourselves and the world around us. And I learned about creative principles and tapping into my intuition. I spent years experimenting to see what would work or not, and I found a phenomenal personal coach and built that community of like-minded seekers, and I created a collection of techniques and tools and methods. Then, I rebranded flourishing as living vibrantly and I alchemized it all into this powerful system that I used in my own life and with my clients. It helps us confidently, intentionally, and continually rise up into the next level of ourselves and have a thriving life. All of this has evolved into the Flittersphere™, which is a collection of communities and experiential, transformational programs. The building of the Flittersphere™, the doing of this work, it is a spot-on expression of my spirit. It's been and continues to be an amazing journey, to go from floundering to flourishing. I've found my way out of my restless, sad, unfulfilling state and got past the guilt I had for wanting more than what I was already so blessed with. The journey is full of beauty and mess. It's included a lot of work and struggle and pain. And I wouldn't take away any of it because it got me here. And because it is often in the dark, in in the struggle, that we learn and grow the most. So, now that you've heard about my journey, I'm wondering which bits of it resonated with you. Where in it did you see your own story, your own struggles? If you can relate to any of it, the next logical question is… how do you know if it's time to create YOUR midlife shift into a more vibrant YOU? Well, you can look for some signs, for some evidence of your own spirit being stifled. For instance, Are you waking up each day dreading going to work? Do you constantly crave a vacation and then decide there isn't time to make it happen or money to make it happen? Are you feeling a deep exhaustion and burnout, maybe a sense of hopelessness because no matter what you do you can't keep up and do all the things and please all the people and feel any sense of accomplishment because you are always on the hamster wheel? Are you feeling a lack of balance? That's a classic sign that something needs to shift. Do you feel triggered by people and situations more often or more easily these days – jumping to conclusions and assumptions, getting angry and resentful, or hurt at little things? Are you judging and criticizing yourself and others? Losing patience? Feeling wronged? Are you arguing more than usual with the people you care about? This is a sign YOU are unhappy. I know it's counterintuitive, but arguments with others are never about others. It's always a reflection of something going on in ourselves. Here are some other signs you could look for. Are you feeling a low-grade, ongoing unhappiness in one or more aspects of your life, maybe your career, relationships, your finances, or health? Are you feeling stifled, creatively unexpressed, like you have more to give, and skills to use, something to say or do but it's kind of stuck inside of you? Maybe it seems impossible to do in your life right now or ever, but the longing is there. Maybe you're feeling restless, like you're ready for what's next or something more than what you are currently experiencing in your life but you're unsure what to do about it so you just stay put. Any one of these things is a sign that you need some tending to, that you are not thriving. We humans can tolerate the intolerable for a really long time, especially when the pain of the intolerable situation starts to feel normal and change starts to seem impossible or like it is just one more thing to take on. It's ok to feel that. To sit with it a minute. And, it's ok to want something different, to want to stop tolerating what doesn't serve your spirit. So… let's see if I can help you get started with how to start your own midlife shift. While I can't pack in 5 years of intense focus and a lifetime of seeking and learning into one podcast, I can leave you with a few obvious actions toward what's next. I'll put a link to this in the show notes to a document that summarizes this, but here goes. The first step is to acknowledge that you want something different than your current life experience, even if it is only in one area of your life. Give yourself permission to want a life of your choosing. Get still and be quiet. Find moments every day to just sit with yourself and your thoughts. In those quiet spaces, ask good questions about your life, like what makes you happy, what is working for you right now or not. What would you change? Look at the past and the present at where you've compromised and what you've tolerated and resisted. Then, stay still and listen for the answers. Your intuition, your spirit, will speak to you. Curiosity and listening are powerhouse transformational tools. When I'm doing this, I find the answers are clearest when I start with a few simple steps. I breathe deeply for a minute or two, then notice what is going on in my body – pain, movement, sound, tension, etc., etc. It' grounds me in the present moment. And then I imagine being connected to divine, universal energy. There are lots of ways you can do this. If this is new to you, one of the simplest ways to feel connected to something divine is to sit in nature and concentrate on the things you see… a leaf, a blade of grass, the wind on your face, the sound or sight of rushing water. When you can sit in that contemplation, you'll feel more connected to something bigger than yourself. Then, from that space, the questions are obvious, and the answers seem pure and from the core of my own genius spirit. As you do this, write it all down. Practice receiving whatever comes to you in that question-and-answer session, without judging it or censoring or minimizing it. Just capture it. Later, you can reflect on it and notice the themes and patterns and what you are making it all mean about yourself and your life. But for right now, just write it down. Another thing you can do is to define your gifts and strengths and then look for the ways you are or aren't using them in your life. We tend to be happier when we're connected to our gifts and our strengths. So look for ways to add that. Another thing you can do as you're starting your midlife shift is to let yourself dream about what you'd like in life. This is easier said than done for some of us. When I first started my midlife shift, I struggled with this. My dreams were tiny. I didn't think I could really have what I wanted, so I kept it safe and small. And I thought my dreams had to include or benefit other people for me to be allowed to have what I wanted. Over time, I've evolved, and I've grown my dreaming abilities are stronger and I know today that if I can dream it I can create it. But that wasn't the case initially. So, as you imagine what you want in your life, notice if it's easy or challenging or if your dreams are big and bold or tiny and safe. Notice if they include others or if you let yourself dream of things just for you just because you want them, even if they don't benefit anybody else. Don't judge any of it, just notice it and watch how it evolves over time. Another thing you can do as you're just starting out on your midlife shift is to set some goals for yourself and use them to pull you toward something, to have meaning and focus. But don't get attached to the outcomes. Things often work out differently than we expect but that doesn't mean they didn't work out in our favor. So set a goal as a target and then listen to your intuition, let it pull you towards something, and let go of any concern about exact outcomes or perfection. Just enjoy the journey. One other thing you can do is to create a community for yourself. We are not meant to human alone. Talk to other people about your feelings and dreams and about theirs. Look for the seekers and the creators, and people determined to live fully. Connecting to others over this pursuit can be strengthening and admitting out loud what you want can be liberating. The last tip I'll share with you on how to start your midlife shift is to find a supportive coach whose methods and spirit align with you. Look for someone to help you deepen this exploration of your inner world and teach you the tools for using what you find to create what you want. It's ok to get some help to do the inner work and reconnect to yourself. These are just a few of the things you can do to start your midlife shift. But as I share these ideas I can almost HEAR your thoughts racing. You know, like how you can't do it, or how no one will support you, hell, they may laugh at you over this. Maybe there is no time or money for what you want, or you lack the skills or the discipline to do it. Maybe there is no personal space in which to even get still and be quiet! It's normal for our minds to race towards reasons for NOT to do something. We all fear change. It's an evolutionary tool of the mind to keep us safe. That doesn't mean you shouldn't move toward what you want. It just means you need to learn to hack the way your mind works so you can create the courage to act in your own best interest. Let me teach you a few tips for hacking the normal fear functions of the brain. First, breathe until you're calm to center yourself in the moment. Fear is a function of the future, it's rooted in worrying over what might Breathing puts you in the present moment. It helps you focus on exactly what you're experiencing right then. Also, your fight or flight mode gets activated when fear is triggered. When this system is ON you can't access your executive functions, which help you make decisions, plan, see possibilities, and so forth. Breathing deeply deactivates the fight or flight system, which is part of our sympathetic nervous system, and it turns ON your parasympathetic nervous system, which allows you to access those executive functions. The next tip that I'll share for hacking your normal fear functions is to admit what you want for yourself and ask what it costs you to NOT have what you want. Get real and raw with this. Look at the emotional and the tangible costs. When we are in fear our brain throws up immediate thoughts and feelings to get us to act in a way that keeps us safe. And in times of real danger, this serves us. When a tiger is chasing us, we need our brain to tell us to run and make our muscles and nerves work so we are able to run. But when this same function is used to keep us from pursuing a dream or creating something we'd love, we need to notice it and realize that the thoughts and feelings may not be rooted in objective reality. The brain is just trying to convince us of something to keep us safe. Stopping to ask good questions can reorient the brain away from fear and toward exploration. Another tip for hacking into your normal fear functions is to acknowledge your fears as they come up. Don't deny or dismiss them or push them down or try to avoid them. For instance, you may fear that changing to improve your life will mean losing a long-term relationship. Ok, it might. Yes, you may need to let go of people, jobs, habits, or a sense of security or comfort, old stories and definitions about yourself. You may need to let go of all kinds of things in order to have the life you want for yourself. Allow for that possibility. Just owning that takes some power out of the fear. Then allow for the possibility that it may not happen. Then acknowledge that whether it happens or not, or however you end up handling it, doesn't change what you want for yourself. Let yourself feel the truth of what you want, even if you don't think you can have it. And then, from that space of having acknowledged your fears and acknowledging that you still want what you want even though you are scared of it, ask yourself some questions specifically about the fear. Like, what if my fears happen, ok, what if I have to let go of some people or change jobs or whatever… what resources do I have in me to handle it? What are some examples that I have of other times that I've overcome challenges or fears? What if the fear doesn't happen? How could I move forward, what is ONE thing I could do? These kinds of questions are empowering, and they help you take control over your fear and shift your focus. And then after all of that, acknowledge that what you just did was give yourself some options. You are powerful. You can move forward, you can overcome roadblocks, and there is one thing you can do to create what you want. Just that little bit of awareness and acknowledgment puts the power in YOU instead of in the fear. Then, to really use your power, go DO that one thing, take that obvious action. Show your brain that you can act despite fear and respond well to whatever the outcome is. You are a creator. A good friend of mine said something once that I'll never forget… everything you want is on the other side of fear. (QUOTE: See if I can attach Cara's name to this) When we learn to manage our fear, to befriend it, and understand it, we can move past it to what's on the other side, to creating the life we would love. Ok, so let's summarize all of this. Midlife challenges and existential pain certainly existed for me, and they exist for many of us. But that doesn't make it a midlife crisis. I prefer to see it all as a call to a midlife shift, to examine our lives and evaluate our level of happiness and meaning, our sense of purpose, how we use our gifts and strengths, how we define and express ourselves and our place in the world, and so forth and so forth. If we do this, we can re-align our lives to what our spirit craves. This kind of shift can be done at any time, but midlife is a natural inflection point to stop and reassess. It's a grand opportunity to spiral up into the next level of ourselves and be more fully expressed. And it can be a magical experience if you let it. You've got some tools now for identifying when you are ready for your shift, for starting the shift, and for combatting the fear that will naturally arise as you do so. I hope you can see from today's show that there is so much beauty and power in intentionally transforming your life. You are the predominant creative force of your life. Owning that, accepting responsibility for creating the experience you want in this world, is powerful and life-affirming. Scary as shit, but life-affirming! And the beauty and magic that comes from it is stunning, uplifting, and life-changing. Happiness comes from expressing your true spirit in the world – authentically, meaningfully, and fully! I believe this self-expression is our primary purpose in life. If you don't, that's ok. Either way, following your spirit will still lead to an amazing human experience! I want to challenge you to start exploring what you want for your life at this point. Go download the tips I shared using the link in the show notes and practice applying them. Just a little each day. When you are ready for your community, I invite you to join us in the Flittersphere™. There's a link for this in the show notes, too. Come tell us what you think of this topic and how you are applying the techniques in your life. Ok, that's it for this episode. Please share the podcast with your friends and subscribe so you don't miss a thing! Thanks for listening to the Sparkable Moments podcast, produced by Purple Chicken Life LLC and shared through the Flittersphere™. I'm Suzette Conway and you can find me at Flittersphere.com. Remember… you deserve to have your most vibrant life and the world needs the highest version of you. Those two things are related, and they are worthy of your attention because you are the only one who can create the life your soul craves… and when you do it, everyone around you benefits! So go on, be vibrant!

When Pennie and I were preparing to move away from the town of our childhood, I told my friend Phil that I felt I was holding onto the end of a rope in the half-light of limbo, and I had no idea where the other end of the rope was tied. I have never forgotten what he said. “This is your time in the elevator. You are between two worlds. You are leaving behind the way it has been, but you have not yet arrived at the way it will be. You don't know if you are going to a higher place or a lower one. The only thing you know for sure is that when those elevator doors open, you will be surrounded by new faces, new spaces, and new places; everything will be different. A new chapter in your life will begin and you will have to figure everything out. But that part is easy. The hard part is being in the elevator. The hard part is not knowing.” Your going-away party is over; your friends are gone. A new opportunity and a new town await you, but you are not yet there. You are in the elevator. It is awkward and filled with uncertainty. You want those doors to open so you can face what awaits. You remember that feeling, don't you? Phil's counsel about the elevator came from a book he had read. He said the book was called Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life, by Gail Sheehy. It was published in 1976. When Phil Johnson died, he left me his favorite tie. It is blazoned with shelves of beautiful books from top to bottom. He wore it often. Phil also left me his library of more than 3,000 books, a portion of which now fill the shelves in the reading room of the Enchanted Emporium in the Village of La Mancha, just 200 yards south of the Tower at Wizard Academy. The next time you're on campus, wander over to the Enchanted Emporium and plop yourself down in one of the soft, red leather reading chairs with a glass of wine and a book from Phil's library. When you see the titles of the books he read, you will know the man. I think you will enjoy having met him. Roy H. Williams

She is the author of "Understanding Men's Passages". Let's find out what she has to say about men from their 20's through their 50's. Thanks for listening.

Let's explore men's stories from their 20's to their 50's. Quote: While we sleep here, we are awake elsewhere and ... in this way every man is two men." Jorge Luis Borges. Listen to future episodes in a guidebook titled "Understanding Men's Passages" by Gail Sheehy. Subtitle: Discovering the New Map of Men's Lives. The softcover edition was published in 1998 by Ballantine Books.

Vick Mickunas' 1996 interview with Gail Sheehy

NUGGET CONTEXT Bruce speaks about the notion that transitions happen to us all the time and not at a particular stage of life. He specifically talks about the limitations of the transition model espoused by Gail Sheehy who suggests that mid-life transitions often occur around late 30s and early 40s. He goes onto say that voluntary or involuntary transitions could happen at any time in our lives. GUEST Bruce Feiler is an American writer and television personality. He is the author of 15 books, including Council of Dads, a book that describes how he responded to a diagnosis of a rare cancer by asking a group of men to be present in the lives of his young daughters. His latest work explores the power of life stories. Drawing on interviews with Americans in all 50 states, he offers strategies for coping with life's unsettling times in his new book, Life Is In The Transitions, published in May 2020. Informed by the sifting and coding of life story interviews across America, Feiler examines what gives our lives meaning. Adam Grant called the book, one of "The 20 New Leadership Books for 2020”.  In our conversation we speak about the notion of anytime life transition, how resilience might be the wrong attribute to have during transitions, the three phases in a transition, the power of stories in navigating transitions and much more. In a world where the rate of transitions we all will go through is increasing by the day, this conversation is a goldmine of insights that could help us make sense of life and move forward with intention.  Published in Feb 2021. HOST Deepak is a Leadership Advisor and an Executive Coach. He works with leaders to improve their effectiveness and in helping them make better decisions specifically around organizational and career transitions. He currently runs Transition Insight (www.transitioninsight.com) and works with leaders to handle phases of transition thoughtfully. He has worked as an Operations Consultant with KPMG in UK, Strategy Consultant with McKinsey in the US and as a Leadership Consultant with EgonZehnder (a Swiss Leadership Advisory firm) where he helped companies recruit CEOs, CXOs and Board Members and worked on Leadership Development. Deepak is a certified CEO Coach and is an alumnus of IIT Madras, IIM Ahmedabad and London Business School. His detailed profile can be found at https://in.linkedin.com/in/djayaraman OTHER GUESTS 1.Vijay Amritraj 2.Amish Tripathi 3.Raghu Raman 4.Papa CJ 5.Kartik Hosanagar 6.Ravi Venkatesan 7.Abhijit Bhaduri 8.Viren Rasquinha 9.Prakash Iyer 10.Avnish Bajaj 11.Nandan Nilekani 12.Atul Kasbekar 13.Karthik Reddy 14.Pramath Sinha 15.Vedika Bhandarkar 16.Vinita Bali 17.Zia Mody 18.Rama Bijapurkar 19.Dheeraj Pandey 20.Anu Madgavkar 21.Vishy Anand 22. Meher Pudumjee 23.KV Shridhar (Pops) 24.Suresh Naraynan 25.Devdutt Pattanaik 26.Jay Panda 27.Amit Chandra 28.Chandramouli Venkatesan 29.Roopa Kudva 30.Vinay Sitapati 31.Neera Nundy. 32.Deepa Malik 33.Bombay Jayashri. 34.Arun Maira 35.Ambi Parameswaran 36.OP Bhaat 37.Indranil Chakraborty 38.Tarun Khanna 39. Ramachandra Guha 40. Stewart Friedman 41. Rich Fernandez 42. Falguni Nayar 43. Rajat Gupta 44. Kartik Hosanagar 45. Michael Watkins 46. Matt Dixon 47. Herminia Ibarra 48. Paddy Upton 49. Tasha Eurich 50. Alan Eagle 51. Sudhir Sitapati 52. James Clear 53. Lynda Gratton 54. Jennifer Petriglieri. 55. Matthew Walker 56. Raj Raghunathan 57. Jennifer Garvey Berger 58. BJ Fogg 59. R Gopolakrishnan 60. Sir Andrew Likierman. 61. Atul Khatri 62. Whitney Jonson 63. Venkat Krishnan 64. Marshall Goldsmith 65. Ashish Dhawan 66. Vinay Sitapati 67. Ashley Whillans 68. Tenzin Priyadarshi 69. Ramesh Srinivasan DISCLAIMER All content and opinions expressed in the podcast are that of the guests and are not necessarily the opinions of Deepak Jayaraman and Transition Insight Private Limited. Views expressed in comments to blog are the personal opinions of the author of the comment. They do not necessarily reflect the views of The Company or the author of the blog. Participants are responsible for the content of their comments and all comments that are posted are in the public domain. The Company reserves the right to monitor, edit, and/or publish any submitted comments. Not all comments may be published. Any third-party comments published are third party information and The Company takes no responsibility and disclaims all liability. The Company reserves the right, but is not obligated to monitor and delete any comments or postings at any time without notice.

Charles Nenner A Glimpse Into the Future Concerning the Stock Market & the Price of Gold and Silver In 2001, Charles Nenner founded, and is president of, the Charles Nenner Research Center. Mr. Nenner has provided his independent market research to the following entities all over the world: hedge funds, banks, brokerage firms, family offices, and individual clients. Mr. Nenner worked for Goldman, Sachs & Co in NY, from 2001 to 2008. Before that time, Mr. Nenner worked exclusively for Goldman, Sachs & Co. in London, where he served as a technical analyst for Goldman’s fixed income trading group from 1998 to 2001. From 1997 to 1998, he served as the head of trading research at Rabobank International, and from 1992 to 1994, he was head of Market Timing at Ofek Securities in Tel Aviv. Mr. Nenner served as Director of Research at Windsor NY between 1987 and 1989, and was a Financial Consultant with Merrill Lynch out of its Amsterdam Office from 1985 to 1987. Mr. Nenner initiated a system of pattern forecasting and securities analysis, and developed a computer program which takes many indicators into account, including Mr. Nenner’s use of proprietary cycle analysis. Mr. Nenner graduated from Maimonides College Amsterdam in 1972, and from the University of Amsterdam Medical College, where he earned his medical degree in 1984. Visit Website Charles Nenner is the Oracle of Cycles. “I’m in the market, not of the market. Any day anything could happen. Gamble on the momentum,” according to Nenner. The fluctuation of Bitcoin depends on people’s emotions because Bitcoin is not used for anything in the economy. The only emotion Nenner has is that he’s surprised at how well his system works. Bitcoin was up to $44,000 this morning. Do greed and fear run the market? Does herd consciousness influence the market? Patrick and Nenner discuss Passages, a 1976 book by Gail Sheehy. Is free will an illusion? What happens in the market every year that ends in a 7? What happens every 60 years? Why is Carnival Cruise Line significant for watching market cycles? Is it time for global warming or global cooling? Why do the Powers That Be want to destroy history? How does numerology influence personal cycles? Who chooses your name and how does that influence you and your life? Is silver in an up cycle? Is there going to be a new currency shortly? What about 30-year bonds? Is the stock market in danger now? sulfur How do sunspot cycles influence traders? How does water crystallization affect your mood, and what do sunspots have to do with it? Is the COVID vaccine dangerous? “I’m amazed at who Americans vote for,” says Nenner. “It’s not the United States I came to 25 years ago. It’s not the same country.” Shawn from Seattle asks, “Are we going into a 10-year Roaring Twenties stock market cycle?” Are we going into a cycle of social unrest? What will happen to the dollar? Patrick asks about the Great Reset, and Nenner says that he knows nothing about it: “I live a simple life. I only know when something goes up or down.” Why is the Farmers’ Almanac so accurate? Do you think they follow sunspot cycles? When sunspots go up, the market goes up. When sunspots go down, the market goes down. Do single-breasted versus double-breasted suits have anything to do with the market? A listener asks about sunspots affecting internet blackouts. Is there a relationship between tulip mania and Bitcoin? Why is there a 90% overlay? Charles Nenner with a fascinating understanding of his work advising investors from a perspective no man has gone before, February 8, 2021

In 2001, Charles Nenner founded, and is president of, the Charles Nenner Research Center. Mr. Nenner has provided his independent market research to the following entities all over the world: hedge funds, banks, brokerage firms, family offices, and individual clients. Mr. Nenner worked for Goldman, Sachs & Co in NY, from 2001 to 2008. Before that time, Mr. Nenner worked exclusively for Goldman, Sachs & Co. in London, where he served as a technical analyst for Goldman’s fixed income trading group from 1998 to 2001. From 1997 to 1998, he served as the head of trading research at Rabobank International, and from 1992 to 1994, he was head of Market Timing at Ofek Securities in Tel Aviv. Mr. Nenner served as Director of Research at Windsor NY between 1987 and 1989, and was a Financial Consultant with Merrill Lynch out of its Amsterdam Office from 1985 to 1987. Mr. Nenner initiated a system of pattern forecasting and securities analysis, and developed a computer program which takes many indicators into account, including Mr. Nenner’s use of proprietary cycle analysis. Mr. Nenner graduated from Maimonides College Amsterdam in 1972, and from the University of Amsterdam Medical College, where he earned his medical degree in 1984. Visit Website Charles Nenner is the Oracle of Cycles. “I’m in the market, not of the market. Any day anything could happen. Gamble on the momentum,” according to Nenner. The fluctuation of Bitcoin depends on people’s emotions because Bitcoin is not used for anything in the economy. The only emotion Nenner has is that he’s surprised at how well his system works. Bitcoin was up to $44,000 this morning. Do greed and fear run the market? Does herd consciousness influence the market? Patrick and Nenner discuss Passages, a 1976 book by Gail Sheehy. Is free will an illusion? What happens in the market every year that ends in a 7? What happens every 60 years? Why is Carnival Cruise Line significant for watching market cycles? Is it time for global warming or global cooling? Why do the Powers That Be want to destroy history? How does numerology influence personal cycles? Who chooses your name and how does that influence you and your life? Is silver in an up cycle? Is there going to be a new currency shortly? What about 30-year bonds? Is the stock market in danger now? sulfur How do sunspot cycles influence traders? How does water crystallization affect your mood, and what do sunspots have to do with it? Is the COVID vaccine dangerous? “I’m amazed at who Americans vote for,” says Nenner. “It’s not the United States I came to 25 years ago. It’s not the same country.” Shawn from Seattle asks, “Are we going into a 10-year Roaring Twenties stock market cycle?” Are we going into a cycle of social unrest? What will happen to the dollar? Patrick asks about the Great Reset, and Nenner says that he knows nothing about it: “I live a simple life. I only know when something goes up or down.” Why is the Farmers’ Almanac so accurate? Do you think they follow sunspot cycles? When sunspots go up, the market goes up. When sunspots go down, the market goes down. Do single-breasted versus double-breasted suits have anything to do with the market? A listener asks about sunspots affecting internet blackouts. Is there a relationship between tulip mania and Bitcoin? Why is there a 90% overlay?

Episode #094 Original Airdate: Oct 30 2020 Produced by: Doug Krisch Length: 17 minutes References: Passages. Predictable Crises in Adult Life.  1976

Welcome back, Sweethearts + Astronauts! We shine a light on some of the darkest parts of ourselves in this week's episode about "shadow work" -- just in time for Spooky Season. Raven vents about well-meaning friends and family members who sometimes kill your vibe in "Vibe Check" before we discuss shadow work and how doing the work can help you live an enlightened life. If you're afraid of the dark, grab your flashlight as we sift through our hidden (RE: subconscious) thoughts, fears and desires that shape us but don't define who we are. It can be scary stuff, which is why we saved this Astro-topic for Halloween. Later, we read an email from a listener who must decide between love and logic... or does she? We can't wait for you to hear our Spirit Guide's advice!Modern-day mantra: "If we don't change, we don't grow. If we don't grow, we aren't really living." - Gail Sheehy, author.~*What is Astrocandy?*~With their heads in the stars and their feet on the ground, hosts Raven Brinson (radio and digital media host) and Brittany Madrid (executive producer and television host, B-ZenTV) give you a taste of Astrology, manifestation, mysticism and more to satisfy your cosmic sweet tooth in this weekly talk podcast.New episodes available every Tuesday on your favorite podcast platform (audio) and YouTube (visual). Need a sugary, spiritual pick-me-up? You're craving 'Astrocandy.'

Dr. Diana’s return guest, Dr. Ashley Mader, is well versed in differentiation. It is no surprise that differentiation issues are played out in the sexual area. What is differentiation? It involves learning to balance your individuality (separateness) with your emotional connection to someone else (togetherness). Standing on your own two feet—rather than trying to merge with your partner or lose yourself in love—may lead to the best sex you’ve ever had!   Dr. Diana and Dr. Ashley are both experts in aging and sexuality. They spoke about Gail Sheehy’s idea—in her book Passages—that sometime around age 50, the man becomes more romantic and the woman becomes more assertive. We must not mistake genital prime for sexual prime! Dr. David Schnarch’s Passionate Marriage focuses on how you don’t work on your marriage; your marriage works on you. Marriage or being in a committed relationship is the ideal arena in which to become clearer about who you are so that you can contribute to and enjoy a better partnership.   In addition to conducting her private practice in Amherst, MA, Dr. Ashely is in her third year of graduate school at the Bowen Center at Georgetown University. Dr. Bowen’s philosophy is that we may have unresolved emotional attachment issues with our family of origin. We may have to toggle between our emotional and intellectual selves. Back to Schnarch because this is important: You give up the fantasy that the other person is going to complete you. So your goal changes from getting someone to love you to being someone capable of loving. Dr. Diana’s book Love in the Time of Corona: Advice from a Sex Therapist for Couples in Quarantine is especially timely, and can help with this process.

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Bookwaves/Artwaves is produced and hosted by Richard Wolinsky. Links to announced on-line and streaming local theatre & book events   Bookwaves Gail Sheehy, one of America's most distinguished journalists, known for her incisive profiles in the New Yorker and other magazines, died on August 24, 2020 of complications from pneumonia, possibly brought on by Covid-19. She was 83. One of the founders of the New Journalism, Sheehy's book, Passages, a kind of road map of life from our twenties to old age, is considered one of the most influential books of the twentieth century. In this interview with host Richard Wolinsky, conducted at Book Passage bookstore in Corte Madera, California on September 24, 2014, she talks about what would be her final book, Daring: My Passages, which takes us from her days at New York Magazine through her years as a freelance journalist, focusing on the personalities of the people she's interviewed over the years as well as on her personal life. Gail Sheehy Wikipedia page Artwaves Madhuri Shekar‘s play, “In Love and Warcraft” will be seen in live performance as part of ACT's InterAct Home Initiative, September 4-12, 2020, and then streaming September 18-25. She is interviewed by Richard Wolinsky. “In Love and Warcraft” concerns a young woman who spends much of her time in the World of Warcraft game, and on the side writes love letters for her friends. Along the way, she discovers she has feelings for one of her clients. Madhuri Shekar's other plays include “House of Joy,” which played at Cal Shakes last summer, along with “A Nice Indian Boy,” “Queen,” and “Dhaba on Devon Avenue,” which was having its premiere at the New Victory Theatre in Chicago and was shut down due to the novel corona virus. Her web TV series, “Titus and Andronicus” can be found on You Tube. She was part of the writers' room of Joss Whedon's new series, “The Nevers,” which will have its premiere on HBO. Born in California, she spent most of her formative years in Chenmai, India, and currently lives in New Jersey. Headshot: Ganesh Toasty. Horizontal photo: Niyantha Shekar Post-production: Richard Lavin.     Announcement Links Book Passage.Ticketed events are Louise Penny, Saturday September 5 at noon Pacifica time, and Jodi Pico on Sunday September 6 at 4 pm Pacific. Carl Hiaasen in conversation with Dave Barry, Tuesday September 8, 4 pm. Chasten Buttegieg in conversation with Andrew Sean Greer Tuesday September 15, 5:30 pm The Booksmith features Joe William Trotter Jr. and Workers on Arrival: Black Labor in the Making of America, on Monday September 7 at 11 am and Tuesday September 8, at 6 pm, Julian Guthrie with Good Blood at 6 pm. Both are free with RSVP. Books Inc presents a book launch with Carole Bumpus and Searching for Family and Traditions at the French Table, later today at 5 pm, and a talk about children's literature with author Shirin Yim Bridges and editor Amy Novesky on Wednesday, September 9 at 5 pm. Bay Area Book Festival Sunday, October 4, the Bay Area Book Festival presents Berkeley #UNBOUND, an all-day, free, virtual mini-festival — kicked off with a ticketed keynote program on Saturday night, October 3. Kepler's Books presents Refresh the Page, on line interviews and talks. Registration required. San Francisco Playhouse ADDED SEPT 4: Monday September 7, 7 pm. Two Pigeons Talk Politics by Lauren Gunderson. Virtual table read. Free with registration. Thursday September 3 at 7 pm: Fireside chat with Susi Damilano and Stacey Ross. Custom Made Theatre UPDATED SEPT 4: Sarah Ruhl's How to Transcend a Happy Marriage, recorded during its Jan/Feb run, streams September 18-20, On Demand 10 am-11 pm. Theatre Rhino Live Thursday performance conceived and performed by John Fisher on Facebook Live and Zoom at 8 pm Thursday September 3 is Fillmore. Other Letters created by Renaud and Carin Silkaitis, a queer and diverse take on A.J. Gurney's Love Letters, can be seen on Zoom on Tuesday September 8 at 7 pm. American Conservatory Theatre (ACT) begins a series of live then streamed ticketed productions, titled InterAct, starting on September 4 with In Love and Warcraft by Madhuri Shekar. Live productions Sept 4-5, 11-12; On Demand recording Sept 18-25. 42nd Street Moon. 8 pm Tuesdays: Tuesday Talks Over the Moon. Fridays at 8 pm: Full Moon Fridays Cabaret. Sundays at 8 pm: Quiz Me Kate: Musical Theatre Trivia. Shotgun Players.  Check out the website for streamed material. Berkeley Rep Another live performance by Hershey Felder, George Gershwin Alone, airs on Sunday September 13 at 5 pm. TheatreWorks Silicon Valley. Another live performance by Hershey Felder, George Gershwin Alone, airs on Sunday September 13 at 5 pm. Tickets on sale on the website. TheatreWorks' production of the musical Pride and Prejudice is now streaming with an Amazon Prime subscription. California Shakepeare Theatre (Cal Shakes) Direct Address: Allyship and Anti-Racism, Where Are We Now? Panel discussion Friday Sept 4, 5-7 pm. Mission Cultural Center for Latino Arts new on-line programming series featuring classes, concerts, poetry sessions and more. SFBATCO Songs of the Golden Age, Thursday September 3, 6 pm with Rod and Marce on Twitch TV. Aurora Theatre's A new ticketed audio drama, The Flats, written by Lauren Gunderson, Cleaven Smith and Jonathan Spector, with Lauren English, Anthony Fusco and Khary L. Moye, directed by Josh Costello, will stream this fall, date to be announced. Aurora Connects conversations every Friday, 4 pm. Marin Theatre Company Lauren Gunderson's play Natural Shocks streams through Soundcloud on the Marin Theatre website. Central Works The Script Club, where you read the script of a new play and send comments to the playwright. The September script is Strange Ladies by Susan Sobeloff. A podcast will be posted to the Central Works website on September 29. New Conservatory Theatre Center presents In Good Company, a podcast about life when it goes off script. The first three episodes are now available streaming. The Marsh: Class Performances. David Ford's class members perform 20-minute monologues live streamed, next Monday September 7 and Tuesday September 8 at 7:30 pm. Pear Theater. Lysistrata, October 8 – November 9, filmed live outdoors. Contra Costa Civic Theatre Afterschool classes begin September 14. Lincoln Center Live Through September 8, 2020: Carousel, with Kelli O'Hara & Nathan Gunn. If you'd like to add your bookstore or theatre venue to this list, please write bookwaves@hotmail.com.   . The post Bookwaves/Artwaves – September 3, 2020: Gail Sheehy – Madhuri Shekar appeared first on KPFA.

World-renowned journalist Gail Sheehy passed away last week. Here we revisit her appearance at the library. She talked about her new memoir, Daring: My Passages, chronicled her trials and triumphs as a groundbreaking "girl" journalist in the 1960s to one of the premier political profilers of today.

Gail Sheehy, one of America's most distinguished journalists, known for her incisive profiles in the New Yorker and other magazines, died on August 24, 2020 of complications from pneumonia, possibly brought on by Covid-19. She was 83. One of the founders of the New Journalism, Sheehy's book, Passages, a kind of road map of life from our twenties to old age, is considered one of the most influential books of the twentieth century. In this interview with host Richard Wolinsky, conducted at Book Passage bookstore in Corte Madera, California on September 24, 2014, she talks about what would be her final book, Daring: My Passages, which takes us from her days at New York Magazine through her years as a freelance journalist, focusing on the personalities of the people she's interviewed over the years as well as on her personal life. Gail Sheehy Wikipedia page The post Gail Sheehy (1937-2020), 2014 appeared first on KPFA.

I guess it’s just that we are all getting older, but these In Memoriam programs are coming much too frequently lately…...Over the years I had the opportunity to do five interviews with Gail Sheehy. Beginning in May of 1998 we talked about everything from Men's Passages, to older women, Hillary Clinton, and the changes in middle America.  Our last conversation was in the fall of 2014 upon the publication of her memoir Daring: My Passages: A Memoir. My conversation with Gail Sheehy from October of 2014:

Written 44 years ago, "Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life" by Gail Sheehy was a seminal work focused on the common themes of men and women in their late thirties and early forties — or what she called “The Deadline Decade.” In this episode, Rachael + Jennifer consider the sudden time-squeeze of adult life that Sheehy identified — and how the question of “Will I have time to do it all?” manifests today among #breadwinners, especially during the never-ending pandemic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is Exploring the Seasons of Life podcast episode # 14. I’m Cindy MacMillan and today’s guest is Ellen Stewart. Welcome to Exploring the Seasons of Life, a podcast for professional women over 40 who are trying to be everything to everyone and forgetting themselves in the process. Each week, join Cindy MacMillan as she interviews coaches, spiritual explorers and celebrants from all walks of life about beginnings, endings and the messy bits in-between. Self-love, well-being, and mindset are at the heart of our conversations because once you change the inside, the outside will begin to change as well. Welcome back to Exploring the Seasons of Life podcast. I seriously appreciate that you are here because I am so excited to share my conversation with Ellen with you. Ellen Stewart is the Pushy Broad from the Bronx.  She is a Certified Empowerment Coach and a Recovery Coach as well as a proud member of the International Coaching Federation. Her unique Pushy Broad, Bronx born, coaching style is part drill sergeant and part cheerleader, always in your corner, helping to push your success forward. Ellen Stewart has two shows airing on Transformation Talk Radio and podcast stations everywhere.  One is called Recovery Recharged with Ellen Stewart and the other is called Pushy Broad from the Bronx: Everybody Need a Little Push.   Welcome to the podcast. Ellen, thank you so much for being here. Ellen Stewart  1:35  Cindy. It's my pleasure. Thank you so much for having me. Delighted. Cindy MacMillan  1:40  What does exploring the seasons of life mean to you personally or in your business? Ellen Stewart  1:47  I love that term, Exploring the Seasons of Life. It means a couple of things. First of all, it reminds me, and I don't know if I'm dating myself but you said your podcast is 40 and above so I fit into their category. It reminds me of a book that came out in the 70s. Gail Sheehy's book Passages. Cindy MacMillan  2:06  Yes, I remember that. Ellen Stewart  2:08  Because it was really the first intuitive look at how people and especially women, go through different stages in their life, go through different circumstances, and most importantly, different mindsets. We seem to be thinking about different things at different stages of our lives. And we go through that process. And I really do think that certainly has happened to me. So it's a personal thing. I mean, I'm certainly not the same girl I was in high school, or in college, or in, you know, as a young adult, and I'm grateful for that. I think it's an evolving process in our seasons. Cindy MacMillan  2:51  Absolutely. And Ellen when you and I first made contact I was thinking about going down the empowerment road - down that path with you. And then you mentioned something to me about recovery, and how that would be something unusual and different for my podcast. And I really think that's the way that I want to go today because I think that is so important. What led you to become a Certified Empowerment Coach and a Recovery Coach? Can you walk us through your story? Ellen Stewart  3:26  I'd be delighted. I think my first encounter was to decide to be a recovery coach in this way. I am a recovering alcoholic, an addict. I have 34 and a half years clean and sober. And I'm very proud of that. Cindy MacMillan  3:42  Congratulations. Ellen Stewart  3:43  Thank you. It started back in 1985. And I was married to a musician at the time and maybe even way back before then in the 70s. I was married to a musician and that was kind of like sex, drugs and rock and roll okay in the 70s. So, drugs were there all the time, and that's just me, you know, the hippie and all of that stuff. And then when I finally decided to get clean and sober, I found that even though I stopped drinking and drugging, my mindset did not change. I found that I was still thinking like an addict and an alcoholic. I was rushing into things. I was impulsive. I was not listening, not following a program, I had no sense of spirituality. I was still making bad decisions. I was still doing dumb things. That's the truth. So then I'm 20 years in recovery, and then all of a sudden I switched careers because I was in the travel industry and I switched careers to the mental health industry and started working for treatment centers. And after I started working for alcoholic and drug treatment centers, I realized that by helping to bring clients to treatment. That was one thing. But when they came out of treatment, they were like me, they didn't understand what to do. So just not picking up a drink or a drug is not enough. It's understanding that we have to change the way we think, feel and act. And because of that, I decided that this was a way for me to help someone. So when people come out of treatment, I decided that I would be a recovery coach, and that's how it started 16 years ago. Cindy MacMillan  5:29  Addiction is not just drugs and alcohol. Addiction can be sex, it can be shopping, it can be a lot of different things. It can be eating. So when you were talking, I immediately was thinking about the mindset around all those and recovery. Ellen Stewart  5:49  Exactly. And that is exactly what a recovery coach does. My philosophy is very simple. You need to put a new idea into your head when you want to change negative thoughts. It's called changing your cognition, putting a new idea into your brain by putting a new idea into your brain, then you begin to feel something differently. So cognitive change breeds emotional change. So when you begin to feel something differently, then as a consequence, you act on it differently. So cognitive change breeds emotional change breeds behavioral change. You know, I lived a long time you know, thinking I can't change the way I feel I can't change the way I feel. If I feel this way, then there's nothing I can do about it. I'm the Pushy Broad from the Bronx and I can tell you right now, that's a bunch of BS. It is that is so not true. You can change the way you feel about anything at any time. And the way you do that is to get some more information into your brain change the way you think about something. Your thoughts control your feelings, not the other way around. If you let your feelings control your thoughts, then your emotional intelligence is zero. Cindy MacMillan  7:06  What is just one tiny way that we can take that first step to change our thoughts? Ellen Stewart  7:14  There you go. Well, the one thing that we can do to change your thoughts when it comes to changing a negative habit, whether it's thinking that we're drinking too much, or we're eating too much, or we're involved in a habit that we would like to change is to be aware of the fact that something is not the way you want it to be. Awareness is the key. If you're not aware of the fact that you're drinking too much, or you're eating too much or you're doing something negative to you, you will never change. So the first step is awareness. And the second step is to verbalize it. If you don't start talking about it, if you don't start reading up on it, if you don't start getting a coach or a therapist around it, someone like the Pushy Broad you can't get it...you've got to share it, you've got to get it out there. And the third thing is you have to process it and move forward. Which means that it takes work, understanding how it goes. So those are the big things. That's where we start.   Cindy MacMillan  8:11  You know, when you were talking about awareness, this is something that just popped into my mind. How before we went into quarantine was how often when talking to a girlfriend the conversation would lead to let's go out for a glass of wine and when you do that two or three times a week, well something to be aware of. Ellen Stewart  8:32  Yes, it really is and you really have to, to watch it because things can get away from us. Look, one of the things I do on my Recovery Recharge podcast on Transformation Talk Radio is to provide us with some statistics; take-home alcohol sales, alcohol sales now in quarantine. I know Cindy this is staggering; have risen 500%. Cindy MacMillan  8:56  That is staggering. Ellen Stewart  9:00  500% my god, so it doesn't matter where you're when you're doing it, it matters how often and how much about everything, right? We all have to eat to live. But what matters is how often and how much you are. We all have to spend money on something, right? We have to spend money on clothes and on food. That's fine. We all do that. But it matters how often and how much. Cindy MacMillan  9:28  Ellen, you're, you're hitting all my buttons because I've been working at home for eight weeks now (at the time we recorded). And that refrigerator is just a little too close. Ellen Stewart  9:41  Oh, God, I so understand. But we're so human. I get it. Okay, I get it. I mean, I have a thing with food as well. The first two weeks I'm in quarantine I decided for some reason that I had to stock up on everything. Not only the normal stuff, everybody, right like the toilet paper and the paper towels and the tissues for some reason. I mean God Almighty I wish I had stock in like Charmin or Scott or something. I mean, who knew that toilet paper would be the thing. But, but here I am thinking to myself that for some reason I am a single woman I live by myself, but for some reason now when I ordered my food because I'm here in New Jersey now and you know, New York and New Jersey were hit the hardest. And we couldn't go to the supermarket and everything is on order, and I'm still ordering my groceries. All of a sudden, I decided that this one single woman who is a size six should all of a sudden now buy the family pack of everything. Since when do I need a family pack of a box of cereal, right? I mean, I couldn't have enough cereal for the next four months, the way I bought food, but we feel like we must nurture ourselves and when we're feeling this kind of stress and anxiety, this is when our nurturing kicks up, but sometimes in a very destructive way. Cindy MacMillan  11:01  Yeah, when you said that about nurturing Yeah, I'm getting that. I want to ask you, is there a culture of silence around addictions? Ellen Stewart  11:12  Oh my god. Yes. And that's one of the reasons why I'm constantly bringing this to everybody's attention, as the Pushy Broad from the Bronx, it's time to speak out about it and not to live in this in this secretive situation. People that are in the rooms are in recovery. It's not a cult. It's not something that nobody knows about. Everybody knows about it. And the more you get it out there, and the more you talk about it, and the more you tell people like I tell people, I am proud to be in recovery. If I don't have guidelines and rules in front of me to manage my entire life, then I would be a wreck. And I'll tell you something, most of the people that I know that are in long term recovery are telling me like I am that I am going through COVID-19 a little bit more stable because I understand what it's like to live in the moment, I understand what it's like to live just for today, I understand what it's like to let go, let God I understand what it's like to take one day at a time and manage my stuff. So some of the practices and principles that we have learned in recovery are extremely poignant for exactly what's happening today. So I'm grateful for that program. Cindy MacMillan  12:30  I was just going to say because most of us do not have those, did you call them rules or guidelines?   Ellen Stewart  12:39  Guidelines. Yes, we call them steps, but they are guidelines for living and they're not just subject to not picking up a drink or a drug. Because there's so much more to life just because you decide that you are going to go on a diet or you're going to stop eating cake candy and ice cream, doesn't mean that you still don't want it in Your brain that the brain feeling doesn't go away. You have just decided behaviorally to abstain. That's what happens. But the behavior will go back to the habit. If you don't change the habit in your head. Cindy MacMillan  13:17  You know, I'm thinking about my ex-husband, he stopped smoking when our daughter was probably five years old. And we went through a divorce not long ago, and he got remarried and started smoking. And I'm thinking to myself, Oh, wait a minute, I was taking care of you. You quit smoking for almost 30 years, what's going on?   Ellen Stewart  13:45  Well, you know, people do things for so many different reasons, but you know, the fact that you said I was taking care of you is something that I would I would consider strongly and reconsider in your next relationship. The one thing that I found, especially being an empowerment coach is talking to women about taking care of themselves. And that's also something that we learn in guidelines in recovery, the focus of attention is on ourselves. I had two husbands that I was taking care of, until I just said, you know what, I'm tired of this. Alright, I went through one marriage and then had many years being single, and then went through another marriage. And I said You know what, marriage is just not what I want to do. Alright, because I was too busy taking care of everybody else and not, and not learning how to take care of myself. But even in a committed relationship, we have to understand what it's like to take care of ourselves. So and that's what happens when we're in recovery. And when we stay in recovery, and whatever it is, whatever you're going through, you must change the way you think about something in order to change how you feel about it, and then change how you act on it. Cindy MacMillan  15:04  Thank you, Ellen, thank you. Can we talk about what addiction looks like at the various seasons of a woman's life? You know, the 20s is so different from the 30s, which is so different from the 50s. Is there something going on at each decade of our life that makes recovery different? Ellen Stewart  15:30  I think so in a lot of ways. I think that I think sometimes the older we get, the more mature we are and understanding that it's true recovery. Again, just emphasizing the fact that it's not just about not picking up a drink or a drug. And believe it or not, people do have a propensity for addiction, which means there is a brain pattern that is different for somebody that has addiction that doesn't or has the propensity to have an addictive brain and that happens early in life. So my propensity for addiction came at me at 14 years old and I started smoking pot. It's the truth. So people start younger and younger and younger. And parents understand this and they realize it. So at that point in time when the brain is so new and not even developed yet, we're looking at this for different things. We're looking for instant gratification. We're looking for fun for adventure for escape, which is, which is a major component of this and in many, many ways that carry on no matter what decade of life we are in. There's no question that the whole format is the same. But the reasons for doing things sometimes they're slightly different, right? Our stressors, the older we get in our 20s and 30s and 40s. We may be worried about our, our careers, we may be worried about who we are as women, we may be worried about how we're gonna keep our husbands Happy New or whether or not we're going to get married whether or not we're going to have children. So there are different circumstances that lead to that kind of escape. I think that's most of it. How we do it seems to be the same, but the reasons why we do it are different. Cindy MacMillan  17:21  Yeah,  I of course, I've gone out and partied with my friends at 18 and 19 years old. And when I got pregnant with my daughter at 22 or 23, I didn't drink but occasionally until I was about 40. And I had a very stressful job. So I understand what you're saying those the stressors change in those different decades. Ellen Stewart  17:54  They do change and then you know later in life, the 50s and 60s, you maybe become an empty nester, so now you don't have something to focus on anymore, the kids are gone and you're like, what am I going to do with myself? And who am I if I'm not a mother, you know so so we begin to do that sense of introspection, and then maybe we become bored or we become retired and we don't know how to reinvent ourselves. So, now we're drinking just to pass the time and to stave the boredom. So there are many different reasons depending upon where we are in life. But the way addiction hits us, is the same. Cindy MacMillan  18:37  What do you say to someone in the midst of recovery, to help them develop now I'm going to use the term self-compassion and forgiveness? You might choose other words. Ellen Stewart  18:50  I like your words, Cindy, I like your words. And it's a very interesting question. When because people in recovery their first instinct is to try to apologize to the world. Okay, yeah, the first instinct is to say I'm sorry, I was such a screw-up. I'm sorry, I did what I did. I'm sorry that when I drank, I was not a good person, or I wasn't a responsible person. And the whole world is asking for an apology all the time. And part of what we learn is that we do have to make amends for our behavior because actions have consequences. There's no question, but the way we change is to realize that forgiveness is the kind of forgiveness that we give ourselves, self-care, and self-compassion. Addiction is a disease. There is not one addict or alcoholic on the planet that would have chosen to have this. It's something that we that's in our brains, it's something that shows up on a brain scan for whatever reason, because of the environment because of circumstances because of genetics because of its hereditary of a myriad of things. And you can read about all of them on the American Society of Addiction Medicine page or journals, which is a division of the American Medical Association. It's all documented. It's all science but understanding that we did not choose to give ourselves this disease. And because of that, we have to give ourselves a break. It doesn't mean that we should be irresponsible around it. But it means that we need to forgive ourselves. Because it starts with how we forgive ourselves. And I always tell people, especially in early recovery, to treat yourself like you're a little puppy. Just be patient with yourself. Little puppies are all over the place, okay? And they're peeing and pooping everywhere and they're running around and they're just saying hi to everybody, and they're wrestling and they're biting and they're licking and they're doing all these things and that's what you're going to be doing in the beginning because you're like, Oh my god, what's happening here? Just be calm and easy with yourself and telling yourself It's okay. Love yourself today. Cindy MacMillan  21:16  Love yourself today. That's for all of us. Yes. What new belief behavior or habit would most change a woman's life on her road to recovery? Ellen Stewart  21:31  Well, that's a good question.   Cindy MacMillan  21:33   I was gonna say, and you've gone over so many. But is there is there one that just kind of like, this is this belief, this behavior would just help help someone so much? Ellen Stewart  21:47  Yes, I really do believe so. And that's one big mantra that we know we learn, always. One. Day. At. A. Time. There is no way that you could do anything without projecting into the future. Okay? The one mantra I talk to my clients about is we cannot regret our past and we cannot predict a future that has not come yet. One day at a time, live in the present, my constant mantra is, wherever your feet are, that's where your brain has to be. Right here right now I'm having a wonderful conversation with you. If I turn around and think I'll never be able to stop smoking, or I'll never be able to lose those 10 pounds or  it's going to take me so long to do this or, or there's no way that I could think that I'll never have a glass of wine again for the rest of my life that is doomed to failure in every sense of the word. What gets you through is to focus on the next minute. And then after the next minute, focus on the next five minutes. After the next five minutes focus on the next hour. Today, what can I do today? To keep myself healthy, to live the way I want to live? To find myself the most productive and loving and caring human being that I possibly can? Cindy MacMillan  23:20  Ellen, I am just taking notes after notes after notes. Everything you say I'm like, Oh, yeah, that's it. That's it.   Ellen Stewart  23:29  Well, it's all it that's, that's for sure. I wanted to say something, Cindy, because especially through COVID-19 right now, there's so many stressors going on, and people are going through so much stuff and it's something that you know, you and I have talked about too. We're going through a lot of stuff. This is not normal stuff. This is abnormal. So we are learning to struggle with things and we're learning to put things in perspective and we're becoming much more introspective in our lives, and because people are struggling about a myriad of things, including maybe trying to get help for someone that is struggling or if you're struggling yourself if you go to my website Pushy Broad from the Bronx, I'm doing a free 30 minute session with me Pushy Broad from the Bronx, you get a free 30 minutes to talk about what's on your mind. If you're struggling or you're stressed out or you want to find help for someone that's in the throes of addiction, or you need just some good guidelines to stay in recovery. Either one of those things Pushy Broad from the Bronx, take advantage of the stress free, free 30-minute session with Pushy Broad from the Bronx. Cindy MacMillan  24:44  Now is that on your homepage? Ellen Stewart  24:47  It's on my website homepage. All you have to do is find pushy broad from the Bronx, and there's a whole big link right in the middle of that says COVID-19 free 30-minute session. Click on that and make a call or book a call with me, I also have a toll-free number that is available to you at any time. And that is 800-889-1757 leave a message. So if you don't have access to the to the web or you know, you know, you know, do those things, whatever 800-889-1757 and leave a number for me to call you back. And we'll do the 30-minute session over the phone. So that's available to   Cindy MacMillan  25:27  Ellen, thank you for giving us your number and, and telling us what that link was. I have a couple more questions that I'm wanting to dive in a little bit with you. And you're talking about COVID-19. How does isolation and sheltering at home affect someone's mental and emotional health? One I want to talk about that in general and then the other when they're actually going, trying to overcome an addiction. Ellen Stewart  26:00  Well, first of all, I want everybody to look at it positively, there is no better time than the present to do the stuff that you really want to do. There's no excuse. You don't have to be distracted by a whole bunch of things, right? We have to be distracted with ourselves, we have to be a little bit more self-absorbed, and try to do the things that we never thought we had the time to do. I don't care if it's something as small as now I'm going to clean out the shoe closet that I've been thinking about for the last two years, but I found myself too busy to do whenever, whenever it is making an accomplishment that you didn't have time to do before. And when it comes to something that is a compulsion or an addiction, we understand that whatever that is, it's not a positive thing. It is a negative thing. If you're exercising too much if you're eating too much, if you're drinking too much, if you're sleeping too much it whatever it is, if it whatever it is to excess is too much. And whatever that is, you understand that it doesn't fill you with joy. It doesn't fill you with happiness. It provides you with negativity it promotes escape, it doesn't promote moving forward. It promotes stagnation, depression, anxiety, stress, all of those things are never negative emotions. And you have a chance to either heighten and nurture that feeling now and COVID-19 or you have a chance to turn it on its head and dispel it. So decide, most of my clients say to me now there's no better time to get clean and sober than right now. So make that your positive mantra. You have a great chance to work on yourself. And there are so many different tools. The Pushy Broad can give you some tools if you want to work with me one on one. If you want to call me and I can get you started. There are many things to look for online. The web but understand that what everybody's feeling right now is normal and natural. But it doesn't mean that you have to stay in negativity. There are lots of things you can do to affect positive change. Cindy MacMillan  28:13  One of the things I'm doing each evening because I am in the house all day I only go out once a week to the grocery store is that each evening I'm going for a walk just to get that fresh air to get out of the house. Ellen Stewart  28:28  Exactly. Get outside of your comfort zone Do whatever you want to do. I'm not exactly a big I've as a kid I was a big outdoors person and right now, believe it or not, I'm learning to plant things I never liked to planting before but I'm learning to plant things and I'm like I never thought I would be doing this. Cindy MacMillan  28:47  So you're turning into a gardener? Ellen Stewart  28:49  I guess which was you know it was hard in the Bronx living in you know, a tenement building five stories up and I you know, I moved from there to New Jersey which I where I have a house and a backyard Now and still, you know very close to New York because Bronx girls can't be too far away from New York City you know, we start to hyperventilate if we're too far away. So I'm really really close at this moment. In fact, my town can see New York from the river so I could still feel you know, feel my peeps in the Bronx. But now I'm trying to do something that's a little bit different. Something new learn a new skill.   Cindy MacMillan  29:29  That's what I'm doing here with this podcast. Ellen Stewart  29:33  And it's working Cindy, it's really working. Cindy MacMillan  29:36  Is there anything that I should have asked you but I didn't? Around recovery or just in general, anything that you would like our listeners to know.   Ellen Stewart  29:49  I just think in general, I think you've covered everything. I just want to remind you that there is help available there and you should remember Pushy Broad from the Bronx because you can find me on the web or you can, you know, make arrangements to do that and understand that recovery is not only about not picking up a drink or a drug, it's about changing the way you think, feel and act. And one more thing, that if you know somebody that you're trying to get help for, or you don't know how to manage this, if you're a parent that doesn't know how to talk to your child, or if you're a husband that doesn't know how to talk to your wife about this problem, or vice versa, the families of the recovery of the people that are struggling, need a lot of help, and I'm here for you. I understand the other side. So please, please, please turn to me for some help.   Cindy MacMillan  30:41  Ellen, well, but you tell your 18-year-old self about the season of life you're in right now. Ellen Stewart  30:49  Wow. That the season of life I'm in right now. I would say a couple of things. Education is really really, really important. Never stop learning. That's number one. And number two, money is much more important than you think. Doesn't mean that you have to have a whole bunch of it. But you have to know how money works.   Cindy MacMillan  31:12  Hmm. Okay.   Ellen Stewart  31:14  And, and I would also say that, like I said before living one day at a time, stop worrying about what you're going to grow into what you're going to be how it's going to happen. what your plan is, for the next 5 years, 10 years, 20 years. That's, that's not going to get you anywhere. Wake up in the morning and say to yourself, what's my plan for today? And then the rest of your life is going to be wonderful. Cindy MacMillan  31:43  It's beautiful, absolutely beautiful. How can people follow you? Now we've given out your 800 number, but can you just tell us all the other ways that people can follow you? Ellen Stewart  31:56  All the other ways? Yeah, okay.   All you have to remember is Pushy Broad from the Bronx okay you put in the web  Pushy Broad from the Bronx my website will come up you can follow me on Facebook Pushy Broad from the Bronx I'm very lucky then I have about 42,000 Facebook fans so please please be one of them. I also have a wonderful group called the Letting Go Tribe. So we talked about that and that you can find from pushy abroad from the Bronx you can be invited free to join that. And you can also follow me if you don't have if you don't go on the net. You can go on your phone to https://www.transformationtalkradio.com/ I'm listed as Pushy Broad from the Bronx with Ellen Stewart. And you can find my podcasts online as well.   Cindy MacMillan  32:48  Thank you so much for being here with us and I'm going to tell you, I love Pushy Broad from the Bronx. That is great branding all the way around. Ellen Stewart  33:00  It’s something that I own I'm a born and raised Bronx girl and I was always considered the Pushy Broad from the Bronx. Because Bronx girls are Bronx tough. And I was outspoken. I would always say what I meant in a very direct manner, straightforward, no BS. And that's why, you know, my approach to coaching is part cheerleader and parent drill sergeant, because I think you need both and that's what Bronx girls bring. We bring it. So I own that.   Cindy MacMillan  33:27  You know, when you're talking, I was just thinking, Oh my gosh, yes, because I'm a southern woman. And I can sometimes tend to sugarcoat, and I don't think that's healthy in any way for the person you're talking to. or yourself. Ellen Stewart  33:43  Well, it depends. Okay, I worked for a Nashville company for eight years and I love I love the south and I love southern hospitality. I don't think there's any better hospitality in the world. But I have certainly learned the meaning behind bless her heart. Cindy MacMillan  34:05  Ah, all right. Well, thank you so much. Ellen Stewart  34:08  My pleasure, Cindy. Cindy MacMillan  34:12  Thank you for listening to this week's episode of Exploring the Seasons of Life. I enjoyed my conversation with the Pushy Broad from the Bronx, Ellen Stewart, and I especially liked it when she said, "We cannot regret our past and we cannot predict the future that has not come yet." Visit our website, CynthiaMacMillan.com and sign up for our weekly newsletter. Until next time, Live Inspired!  

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LAUREN HANDEL ZANDER is an international life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder & Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City.     Lauren is also the author of http://www.maybeitsyou.com/ (Maybe It’s You): Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. Lauren has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. Lauren has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues.   In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, https://www.handelgroup.com/lauren-handel-zander/ (The Handel Method®), which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country including MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research Institute, and in the New York City Public School System. Elsewhere, internationally, The Handel Method was taught for the first time in October 2015 in the esteemed CEMS Program at Vienna University of Economics and Business, one of the largest business schools in the world.   With her unique, honest and irreverent approach, Lauren is a contributor for several publications and media outlets, including: The New York Times, BBC, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Self, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Vogue, Ebony, Cosmopolitan, Experience Life, Marie Claire, Family Circle, Elle, Prevention Magazine, and The Huffington Post. She has appeared on television and in film, starring in A&E’s Biography Channel TV Special, “Celebrity Life Coach,” as well as the critically acclaimed feature documentary, “My Own Man,” produced by Edward Norton. Lauren has been an expert on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, The Dr. Drew Show, MTV’s True Life and Businessweek’s “Coaches Corner.” Lauren has also worked with Dr. Phil McGraw on his TV special, “The Marriage Test,” which starred two of her senior coaches, using The Handel Method to help fix troubled marriages.   In 2015, Lauren was the spokesperson for Marshall’s national “Go Ahead Campaign,” guiding women to lead a powerful and fulfilling life. Lauren has led seminars and conferences all over the world for organizations, including: the World Bank, the US Department of Justice for Judges, Rodale Publishing, Mayya Movement International, Leading Age, Prevention R3 Conference, Donna Karan’s Urban Zen, Soho House, Empowering Latin American Women’s Conference and and the Journalist Salon series: A conversation about Feminism (with best-selling authors, Gail Sheehy, Esther Perel, and Miki Agrawal). Also, Lauren presented her coaching methodology at the world renowned TEDx Women’s Conference in Amsterdam, and was a moderator running the roundtable for the White House Office of Center for Social Innovation Conference at Stanford University. Lauren is happily married, has three children and lives in Westchester, NY. Last but not least, Lauren is an artist in her spare time, specializing in pointillism.   Be sure to tune in to https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/words-2-success/id1449513067...

LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE 210 WITH LAUREN BELOWLauren Handel Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City. Lauren is also the author of Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues.In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country including: MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research Institute, and in the New York City Public School System. Elsewhere, internationally, The Handel Method was taught for the first time in October 2015 in the esteemed CEMS Program at Vienna University of Economics and Business, one of the largest business schools in the world.With her unique, honest and irreverent approach, Lauren is a contributor for several publications and media outlets, including: The New York Times, BBC, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Self, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Vogue, Ebony, Cosmopolitan, Experience Life, Marie Claire, Family Circle, Elle, Prevention Magazine, and The Huffington Post. She has appeared on television and in film, starring in A&E’s Biography Channel TV Special, “Celebrity Life Coach,” as well as the critically acclaimed feature documentary, “My Own Man,” produced by Edward Norton. She has been an expert on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, The Dr. Drew Show, MTV’s True Life and Businessweek’s “Coaches Corner.” She has also worked with Dr. Phil McGraw on his TV special, “The Marriage Test,” which starred two of her senior coaches, using The Handel Method to help fix troubled marriages.In 2015, Lauren was the spokesperson for Marshall’s national “Go Ahead Campaign,” guiding women to lead a powerful and fulfilling life. She’s led seminars and conferences all over the world for organizations, including: the World Bank, the US Department of Justice for Judges, Rodale Publishing, Mayya Movement International, Leading Age, Prevention R3 Conference, Donna Karan’s Urban Zen, Soho House, Empowering Latin American Women’s Conference and and the Journalist Salon series: A conversation about Feminism (with best-selling authors, Gail Sheehy, Esther Perel, and Miki Agrawal). Also, Lauren presented her coaching methodology at the world renowned TEDx Women’s Conference in Amsterdam, and was a moderator running the roundtable for the White House Office of Center for Social Innovation Conference at Stanford University. Lauren is happily married, has three children and lives in Westchester, NY. She is an artist in her spare time, specializing in pointillism.- https://www.handelgroup.com/Please do NOT hesitate to reach out to me on LinkedIn, Instagram, or via email mark@vudream.comLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/markmetry/Twitter - https://twitter.com/markymetryMedium - https://medium.com/@markymetryFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Humans.2.0.PodcastMark Metry - https://www.markmetry.com/Humans 2.0 Twitter - https://twitter.com/Humans2Podcast

Lauren Handel Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City. Lauren is also the author of Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues.In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country including: MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research Institute, and in the New York City Public School System. Elsewhere, internationally, The Handel Method was taught for the first time in October 2015 in the esteemed CEMS Program at Vienna University of Economics and Business, one of the largest business schools in the world.With her unique, honest and irreverent approach, Lauren is a contributor for several publications and media outlets, including: The New York Times, BBC, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Self, Women's Health, Men's Health, Vogue, Ebony, Cosmopolitan, Experience Life, Marie Claire, Family Circle, Elle, Prevention Magazine, and The Huffington Post. She has appeared on television and in film, starring in A&E's Biography Channel TV Special, “Celebrity Life Coach,” as well as the critically acclaimed feature documentary, “My Own Man,” produced by Edward Norton. She has been an expert on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, The Dr. Drew Show, MTV's True Life and Businessweek's “Coaches Corner.” She has also worked with Dr. Phil McGraw on his TV special, “The Marriage Test,” which starred two of her senior coaches, using The Handel Method to help fix troubled marriages.In 2015, Lauren was the spokesperson for Marshall's national “Go Ahead Campaign,” guiding women to lead a powerful and fulfilling life. She's led seminars and conferences all over the world for organizations, including: the World Bank, the US Department of Justice for Judges, Rodale Publishing, Mayya Movement International, Leading Age, Prevention R3 Conference, Donna Karan's Urban Zen, Soho House, Empowering Latin American Women's Conference and and the Journalist Salon series: A conversation about Feminism (with best-selling authors, Gail Sheehy, Esther Perel, and Miki Agrawal). Also, Lauren presented her coaching methodology at the world renowned TEDx Women's Conference in Amsterdam, and was a moderator running the roundtable for the White House Office of Center for Social Innovation Conference at Stanford University. Lauren is happily married, has three children and lives in Westchester, NY. She is an artist in her spare time, specializing in pointillism.- https://www.handelgroup.com/Please do NOT hesitate to reach out to me on LinkedIn, Instagram, or via email mark@vudream.comLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/markmetry/Twitter - https://twitter.com/markymetryMedium - https://medium.com/@markymetryFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Humans.2.0.PodcastMark Metry - https://www.markmetry.com/Humans 2.0 Twitter - https://twitter.com/Humans2Podcast

Lauren Handel Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City. Lauren is also the author of Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues.In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country including: MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research Institute, and in the New York City Public School System. Elsewhere, internationally, The Handel Method was taught for the first time in October 2015 in the esteemed CEMS Program at Vienna University of Economics and Business, one of the largest business schools in the world.With her unique, honest and irreverent approach, Lauren is a contributor for several publications and media outlets, including: The New York Times, BBC, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Self, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Vogue, Ebony, Cosmopolitan, Experience Life, Marie Claire, Family Circle, Elle, Prevention Magazine, and The Huffington Post. She has appeared on television and in film, starring in A&E’s Biography Channel TV Special, “Celebrity Life Coach,” as well as the critically acclaimed feature documentary, “My Own Man,” produced by Edward Norton. She has been an expert on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, The Dr. Drew Show, MTV’s True Life and Businessweek’s “Coaches Corner.” She has also worked with Dr. Phil McGraw on his TV special, “The Marriage Test,” which starred two of her senior coaches, using The Handel Method to help fix troubled marriages.In 2015, Lauren was the spokesperson for Marshall’s national “Go Ahead Campaign,” guiding women to lead a powerful and fulfilling life. She’s led seminars and conferences all over the world for organizations, including: the World Bank, the US Department of Justice for Judges, Rodale Publishing, Mayya Movement International, Leading Age, Prevention R3 Conference, Donna Karan’s Urban Zen, Soho House, Empowering Latin American Women’s Conference and and the Journalist Salon series: A conversation about Feminism (with best-selling authors, Gail Sheehy, Esther Perel, and Miki Agrawal). Also, Lauren presented her coaching methodology at the world renowned TEDx Women’s Conference in Amsterdam, and was a moderator running the roundtable for the White House Office of Center for Social Innovation Conference at Stanford University. Lauren is happily married, has three children and lives in Westchester, NY. She is an artist in her spare time, specializing in pointillism.- https://www.handelgroup.com/Please do NOT hesitate to reach out to me on LinkedIn, Instagram, or via email mark@vudream.comLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-metry/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/markmetry/Twitter - https://twitter.com/markymetryMedium - https://medium.com/@markymetryFacebook - https://www.facebook.com/Humans.2.0.PodcastMark Metry - https://www.markmetry.com/Humans 2.0 Twitter - https://twitter.com/Humans2Podcast

She's BAAAACK! "We are FAKE! Humans are fake. We are snake-y-nice."  We do things that if anyone knew--we'd all be in trouble and pretty much no one is talking about the lies.   "Humans are not rated PG. They are rated R or X." "Love and management... is abnormal." Lauren first appeared on the Podcast on Episode 16---and she rocked (and scared our world). Maybe YOU'RE the problem? LAUREN ZANDER is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City. Lauren is also the author of Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues. In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country including MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research Institute, and in the New York City Public School System. Elsewhere, internationally, The Handel Method was taught for the first time in October 2015 in the esteemed CEMS Program at Vienna University of Economics and Business, one of the largest business schools in the world. With her unique, honest and irreverent approach, Lauren is a contributor for several publications and media outlets, including: The New York Times, BBC, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Self, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Vogue, Ebony, Cosmopolitan, Experience Life, Marie Claire, Family Circle, Elle, Prevention Magazine, and The Huffington Post. She has appeared on television and in film, starring in A&E’s Biography Channel TV Special, “Celebrity Life Coach,” as well as the critically acclaimed feature documentary, “My Own Man,” produced by Edward Norton. She has been an expert on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, The Dr. Drew Show, MTV’s True Life and Businessweek’s “Coaches Corner.” She has also worked with Dr. Phil McGraw on his TV special, “The Marriage Test,” which starred two of her senior coaches, using The Handel Method to help fix troubled marriages. In 2015, Lauren was the spokesperson for Marshall’s national “Go Ahead Campaign,” guiding women to lead a powerful and fulfilling life. She’s led seminars and conferences all over the world for organizations, including: the World Bank, the US Department of Justice for Judges, Rodale Publishing, Mayya Movement International, Leading Age, Prevention R3 Conference, Donna Karan’s Urban Zen, Soho House, Empowering Latin American Women’s Conference and and the Journalist Salon series: A conversation about Feminism (with best-selling authors, Gail Sheehy, Esther Perel, and Miki Agrawal). Also, Lauren presented her coaching methodology at the world renowned TEDx Women’s Conference in Amsterdam, and was a moderator running the roundtable for the White House Office of Center for Social Innovation Conference at Stanford University. Lauren is happily married, has three children and lives in Westchester, NY. She is an artist in her spare time, specializing in pointillism. Coaching & Programs: Learn to Human Better with Lauren Zander’s online coaching course, Inner.U. Sign up now with your SAME24HOURS75 coupon and get started here: https://www.inneru.coach/earlybird/ On the web: www.HGLife.Coach Facebook: www.Facebook.com/HGLifeCoaching  On Instagram: http://instagram.com/handelgroup The Book: Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. http://www.maybeitsyou.com/ ======================  Request to Join the FREE Meredith Atwood Community & Coaching https://meredith-atwood-coaching.mn.co/ ======================  Buy Meredith’s Books: The Year of No Nonsense https://amzn.to/3su5qWp Triathlon for the Every Woman: https://amzn.to/3nOkjiH =======================   Follow Meredith Atwood & The Podcast on Social: Web: http://www.swimbikemom.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/swimbikemom   =======================  Want to Connect?  Email: same24hourspodcast@gmail.com =======================  Credits: Host & Production: Meredith Atwood Intro: Carl Stover Music Copyright 2017-2020, 2021 All Rights Reserved, Meredith Atwood, LLC

“Too old for snapchat, too young for life alert.” Welcome to Season Two! Recap of the Season One shocker ending, but wait - is Sarah actually in Menopause now?? Let's find out! Preview of the new season - we’re having guests! And we picked a new bible - The Silent Passage by Gail Sheehy. Do some chit chat to catch up - Julia is feeling good, still on HRT, no hot flashes. Since it was recorded in February 2018, we talked about new year goals and goal-setting. Weight loss is always on our lists, and we commiserate about our tall, thin husbands who do not have weight issues and can eat ANYTHING. Sarah mentions that she has had a baby tooth until she was past 50, something Julia didn’t know, which proves that we can often imagine that our physical flaws loom larger to others - and in reality others don’t even notice. More chit chat about food - does everything really taste like chicken? Acknowledge that we have kids at home - which makes our menopause different than our any generation before.

“Good Menopuase to You!” “45 is the old age of youth and 50 is the youth of old age.” We announce that we’re on iHeart Radio & TuneIn ((((Sarah’s audio is low)))) Sarah’s in the midst of a busy time, as is Julia, who’s about to leave the country for several months of work. We introduce the new Bible - Menopause the Silent Passage by Gail Sheehy - author of several other Passages books, she chose to write this books as she herself went through menopause. The book was published about 25 years ago and we acknowledge the difference between now and then and how she talks about things. She’s not a doctor, so it’s more just telling people’s stories. Big thing is how no one talked about menopause. She notes that a couple of generations ago, women’s life expectancy was like 48, and at that point we would have had 8 children, and then we’d have been DONE. But this generation has held off on childbirth, and have taken birth control, and we’re generally living longer - but maybe human biology isn’t ready for us to live this long. Interesting concept! Plus there was a time when women just gave up at menopause age. They faded into invisibility or became shrill witches “Viragos”. But now we have “2nd Adulthood” -- Looking ahead to another 40ish years  of living for us.  The need to know and the fear of knowing. It’s part of normal life. Staggering Statistic: more than 37 women out of 100 have had a hysterectomy. Julia wonders why anyone would have an elective hysterectomy. And we love the Hollywood connection in the book! Quote we loved from an entrepreneur woman in the book who had a 5 year old at home - “Now, at the peak of her productivity, she was feeling violated by this reassertion of her body’s biologic identity. There’s nothing efficient about the menopause thing.” We feel like we live separate from our body, maybe?  Sarah wonders about stress level and how does it contribute to menopause symptoms. And we all want the guarantees - if we do all the things, can we avoid menopause? We acknowledge that we still feel 27 inside, but we’re not - and that’s part of the tough pill to swallow. We are not having the Silent Passage - we’re having the podcast passage. Ah, the age-old question - is there a menopause for men? Yes, but she doesn’t delve into it the book. We agree we’re excited to read the rest of the book. How Hot Was Your Flash??? Neither of us have had any. Yay! Julia mentions frozen cherries! The best treat! Plus we talk about how we’ve been eating well, sleeping better, and taking better care of ourselves. Our fave quotes this week - Julia: “Discipline is choosing between what you want NOW and what you want MOST.” Sarah: “A Goal without a Plan is just a Wish.”

Season 2 wrap up. Grateful to our guests Jenette Goldstein and Betty Goldberg. The book we read: The Silent Passage by Gail Sheehy. This is it. This is where are. We are not shy about being in menopause. Happy to talk about it and reflecting on women who are saying they are not ready and it’s a long way off. Julia mentions her reluctance to be in menopause last year, being angry about it because it meant many things negative things in her mind. "I’m old" being the worst. Sarah is still not in menopause and is 56! She is fully ready to be DONE with her period. We have moved into a new phase - we are working on what’s next in our lives. Season 3 plans - what comes next? Now what do we in our lives now at this new place. Now with #MeToo - so many changes in our place in the world. And we have to go for it. Hot Flashes? Julia’s had warm moments. Suddenly very warm moments. Her new accessory is a hand fan that she keeps in her purse in case of sudden warmth. Sarah has had none - but sugar or wine after noon will give her hot flashes in teh middle of the night. So she’s changed her habits that way. Also noticed that not getting enough sleep makes her feel hungover. Do you need more sleep in menopause? We wonder. Talking about books keeping us awake these days. We wax nostalgic about Sue Grafton and her mystery stories. And the “Keep on Truckin’!” images from the 70’s.  

A special edition of Slow Burn features Leon Neyfakh live on stage in New York City. On April 19th, Leon was joined by Bob Woodward, Virginia Heffernan, Gail Sheehy, Mary DeOreo and Marc Lackritz to discuss Trump, Watergate and Nixon’s legacy.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maybe YOU'RE the problem? LAUREN HANDEL ZANDER is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international corporate consulting and private coaching company based in New York City. Lauren is also the author of Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private clients: entrepreneurs, couples, families, professors, politicians, Emmy, Peabody and Academy Award-winning artists, Grammy-winning musicians and Fortune 500 CEOs. Her corporate clients have included executives from Sony BMG, The New York Times, News Corp, J. Walter Thompson Agency, Citibank, Dropbox, LinkedIn, Uniworld, The Gap Inc., BASF, NYU Langone Medical Center, and Vogue. She has fixed corporate business relationships, mediated contract negotiations, reconciled marriages, and helped resolve complex family issues. In the early 2000s, Lauren created a groundbreaking methodology, The Handel Method®, which is supported by top educators and psychologists, and has been taught in over 35 major universities and institutes of learning across the country including MIT, Stanford Graduate School of Business, Stanford Medical School, NYU, Columbia, Yale School of Drama, Wesleyan, Fordham, Rutgers, Middlebury College, Scripps Research Institute, and in the New York City Public School System. Elsewhere, internationally, The Handel Method was taught for the first time in October 2015 in the esteemed CEMS Program at Vienna University of Economics and Business, one of the largest business schools in the world. With her unique, honest and irreverent approach, Lauren is a contributor for several publications and media outlets, including: The New York Times, BBC, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Self, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Vogue, Ebony, Cosmopolitan, Experience Life, Marie Claire, Family Circle, Elle, Prevention Magazine, and The Huffington Post. She has appeared on television and in film, starring in A&E’s Biography Channel TV Special, “Celebrity Life Coach,” as well as the critically acclaimed feature documentary, “My Own Man,” produced by Edward Norton. She has been an expert on The Dr. Oz Show, The Meredith Vieira Show, The Dr. Drew Show, MTV’s True Life and Businessweek’s “Coaches Corner.” She has also worked with Dr. Phil McGraw on his TV special, “The Marriage Test,” which starred two of her senior coaches, using The Handel Method to help fix troubled marriages. In 2015, Lauren was the spokesperson for Marshall’s national “Go Ahead Campaign,” guiding women to lead a powerful and fulfilling life. She’s led seminars and conferences all over the world for organizations, including: the World Bank, the US Department of Justice for Judges, Rodale Publishing, Mayya Movement International, Leading Age, Prevention R3 Conference, Donna Karan’s Urban Zen, Soho House, Empowering Latin American Women’s Conference and and the Journalist Salon series: A conversation about Feminism (with best-selling authors, Gail Sheehy, Esther Perel, and Miki Agrawal). Also, Lauren presented her coaching methodology at the world renowned TEDx Women’s Conference in Amsterdam, and was a moderator running the roundtable for the White House Office of Center for Social Innovation Conference at Stanford University. Lauren is happily married, has three children and lives in Westchester, NY. She is an artist in her spare time, specializing in pointillism. In This Episode: The Weather Reporter, The Chicken and the Brat. The Dentist, The Accountant and the Lawyer. Two baby birds. Some curse words. And a really long Lie List. Meredith Atwood stole smoothies in college. [That about sums it up.] More About Lauren: http://www.handelgroup.com/  What Lauren does to make her days extraordinary: I get my favorite joke that there is no maybe about it, I am my life’s biggest obstacle AND solution. I remind myself of this often. It puts all the power, all the time, in my own hands and my fingerprints on every crime scene AND success story. Every day I’m in actions to forward my own dreams. There’s the right formula of what makes you deeply happy in your life and truly, we all know what it is. Whether we do it or not is another question.  See the species packaging: we’re excusers, blamers, and feel-bad-ers. So long as we have a good enough excuse to have not gone to the gym, not jumped our mate, pushed snooze four times, cheated on our diet, so be it. And so long as we feel guilty about it, we’re still “good humans.” I’ve figured out my formula. It includes working out 3x weekly, having sex with my husband twice a week (yes, a week), finding gatekeepers to help in my crusade to heal the planet, painting, and hanging with my kids. What I’ve found, and what I teach, is Personal Integrity: keeping promises to yourself that are a match for your dream is the secret sauce to happiness, period. We’d never mess with our friendships, and say we’ll meet a friend at the movies, and then just not show. But we have no problem saying we’ll eat healthily this week, and then blow that promise in a minute. We don’t realize that it directly affects our relationship to ourselves and inevitably, how we talk to ourselves about ourselves. I design my day, everyday, BEFORE it unfolds.  I write out how my day is going to go, from what I feel like to what happens. It gets me in the driver’s seat of my life. Authoring how each day will go versus sitting back and weather reporting how the day went...It has me not only connected to my friends, but causing my own life. I manifest daily. I see and feel whatever wish I want fulfilled as done, and I imagine it, feel it, and see it. I do this during the day, and imprint it before I go to bed. During the day, I search for signs it is so. The Book: Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life (Published by Hachette Book Group, April 2017), a no-nonsense, practical manual that helps readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. http://www.maybeitsyou.com/ ======================  Request to Join the FREE Meredith Atwood Community & Coaching https://meredith-atwood-coaching.mn.co/ ======================  Buy Meredith’s Books: The Year of No Nonsense https://amzn.to/3su5qWp Triathlon for the Every Woman: https://amzn.to/3nOkjiH =======================   Follow Meredith Atwood & The Podcast on Social: Web: http://www.swimbikemom.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/swimbikemom   =======================  Want to Connect?  Email: same24hourspodcast@gmail.com =======================  Credits: Host & Production: Meredith Atwood Intro: Carl Stover Music Copyright 2017-2020, 2021 All Rights Reserved, Meredith Atwood, LLC

Gail Sheehy, iconic author of sixteen books, including the classic New York Times bestseller Passages, has a new book: Daring: My Passages A Memoir, which captures her defining moments and the influential characters with whom she interacted.

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At some point most of us come to the awareness that we don't have to prove anything anymore. We can finally take a deep breath and do what we want to without feeling the pressure of being judged a success or a failure. We can be free to take up that hobby we've talked about for years, travel, play with the grandkids or just watch the beauty of nature. If we're lucky, we're still healthy enough to do the things that we've been putting off until after retirement. Or if we're even luckier, we start asking smart questions of ourselves in our younger years. Most of us, however, need the awareness that life is finite. We need to be up against a deadline to look deeply inside ourselves and wonder who we really are and what we really want during our time on this earth. Our guest this week has a unique way of looking at aging. In fact, Gail Sheehy says The Age of Spirituality is the Best book I have ever read on this most significant passage. Join us Thursday to learn how to age wisely.

Susun Weed answers 90 minutes of herbal health questions followed by a 30 minute interview with Gail Sheehy. Gail Sheehy is the author of sixteen books, including the classic New York Times bestseller Passages, named one of the ten most influential books of our times by the Library of Congress. A multiple award-winning literary journalist, she was one of the original contributors to New York magazine and has been a contributing editor to Vanity Fair since 1984. She returns with her inspiring memoir — a chronicle of her trials and triumphs as a groundbreaking “girl” journalist in the 1960s, to iconic guide for women and men seeking to have it all, to one of the premier political profilers of modern times. A popular lecturer, Sheehy was named AARP's Ambassador of Caregiving in 2009. She lives in New York City. this episode Q&A includes: • chickweed and comfrey for opening up oil glands in eyes.. • removing skin cancer with Mohs and calendula oil around stiched area... • PCOS and wanting to conceive.. • praise for violet infusions and eczema.. • HPV- 90% of cases clear up on their own without any treatment.. • lingering nerve pain and tingling from viral meningitis- hypericum perforatum.. • preparation of seeds and meats.. • marijuana is the specific herb for glaucoma.. • reacurring vaginal yeast infection- check out Down There Sexual and Reproductive Health The Wise Woman Way • and much more...

The Halli Casser-Jayne Show, Talk Radio for Fine Minds brings you a conversation with trailblazing journalist Gail Sheehy, the New York Times bestselling author of PASSSAGES who is out with her new autobiography DARING: MY PASSAGES.Gail Sheehy's 1976 book PASSAGES had an exciting idea at its core: adulthood is dotted with predictable turning points. Now, after more than 45 years interviewing women and men about their lives, the journalist and best-selling author has turned the lens on herself. Her new memoir, DARING: MY PASSAGES reflects on her career as a trailblazing female journalist in the '60s, a mother determined to balance work and family, and a caregiver to an ailing husband. Reflecting on desire, ambition, and wanting it all - career, love, children, friends, social significance - and coming to terms with waiting until midlife to achieve it all, Sheehy's memoir is filled with candor and humor and describes her early failures; the pain of betrayal in a first marriage; her struggles as a single mother; the flings of an ardent, liberated young woman; the vertigo of becoming an internationally bestselling author; her adoption of a second daughter from a refugee camp; the emotional account of her tempestuous relationship with her mentor, her friend, her lover, her husband the founder of New York Magazine Clay Felker, and her ongoing passion for life, work and love. DARING: MY PASSAGES is a testament to guts, resilience, and smarts, and offers a bold perspective on all of life's passages and the daring that's gotten Gail Sheehy through it all.Icon of journalism Gail Sheehy on The Halli Casser-Jayne Show, Talk Radio for Fine Minds. For more information on Halli Casser-Jayne visit Halli Casser-Jayne dot com. 

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Kathryn interviews professor emeritus at Duke University School of Medicine Allen Frances MD, author of “Saving Normal: An Insider Revolts Against Out-of-Control Psychiatric Diagnosis, DSM-5, Big Pharma, and the Medicalization of Ordinary Life”. Frances was the chairperson of the DSM 4 Task Force and part of the leadership group for DSM 3 and DSM 3 (Revised). But with the newly published DSM-5, Frances finds himself the leading critic of the revision and is on a passionate quest to save what is “normal.” Kathryn also interviews award-winning journalist Gail Sheehy, author of “Daring: My Passages”. Sheehy is the author of the New York Times bestseller Passages, one of the ten most influential books of our time. Sheehy blaxed a trail in a man's world, taking on assignments when she had no experience. She invented psychological character portraits of national and world leaders, writing about the Clintons, both Bushes, Margaret Thatcher, Saddam Hussein and more.

Kathryn interviews professor emeritus at Duke University School of Medicine Allen Frances MD, author of “Saving Normal: An Insider Revolts Against Out-of-Control Psychiatric Diagnosis, DSM-5, Big Pharma, and the Medicalization of Ordinary Life”. Frances was the chairperson of the DSM 4 Task Force and part of the leadership group for DSM 3 and DSM 3 (Revised). But with the newly published DSM-5, Frances finds himself the leading critic of the revision and is on a passionate quest to save what is “normal.” Kathryn also interviews award-winning journalist Gail Sheehy, author of “Daring: My Passages”. Sheehy is the author of the New York Times bestseller Passages, one of the ten most influential books of our time. Sheehy blaxed a trail in a man's world, taking on assignments when she had no experience. She invented psychological character portraits of national and world leaders, writing about the Clintons, both Bushes, Margaret Thatcher, Saddam Hussein and more.

World-renowned journalist Gail Sheehy's new memoir, Daring: My Passages, chronicles her trials and triumphs as a groundbreaking "girl" journalist in the 1960s to one of the premier political profilers of today.

World-renowned journalist Gail Sheehy's new memoir, Daring: My Passages, chronicles her trials and triumphs as a groundbreaking "girl" journalist in the 1960s to one of the premier political profilers of today.

Kierkegaard said that “life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forward.”  Such is the powerful value of memoir and reflectionSometimes, though, that reflection takes in more than just the individual life, it becomes a way to reflect on a time, a place, and movement.  Gail Sheehy’s life encompasses all of that.  The mainstreaming of hippie culture, feminism, new journalism, publishing all exist side by side with the touchstones of love, loss and family.  Her story is, in short, the story of the past fifty years. The proverbial grain of sand that captures the history of the time.Gail Sheehy shares her story in her new memoir Daring: My Passages: A MemoirMy conversation with Gail Sheehy:  

Gail Sheehy, author of the classic New York Times bestseller Passages returns with her inspiring memoir—a chronicle of her trials and triumphs as a groundbreaking journalist in the 1960s, to iconic guide for women and men seeking to have it all, to one of the premier political profilers of modern times. Gail Sheehy reveals the obstacles and opportunities encountered when she dared to blaze a trail in a “man’s world.” Daring also celebrates the beguiling love story between Gail and Clay Felker, the charismatic creator of New York magazine. Sheehy also recounts her audacious pursuit and intimate portraits of twentieth-century leaders such as Hillary [...] The post Gail Sheehy | Daring: My Passages | Author Interview appeared first on Book Circle Online.

Gail Sheehy, author of the classic New York Times bestseller Passages returns with her inspiring memoir—a chronicle of her trials and triumphs as a groundbreaking journalist in the 1960s, to iconic guide for women and men seeking to have it all, to one of the premier political profilers of modern times. Gail Sheehy reveals the obstacles and opportunities encountered when she dared to blaze a trail in a “man’s world.” Daring also celebrates the beguiling love story between Gail and Clay Felker, the charismatic creator of New York magazine. Sheehy also recounts her audacious pursuit and intimate portraits of twentieth-century leaders such as Hillary [...]

Patricia's guest is renowned author and cultural observer, Gail Sheehy, who made history with her book “Passages”, on the New York Times bestseller list for more than three years and named one of the ten most influential books of our time by A Library of Congress survey. She discusses her brand new book “Sex and the Seasoned Woman: Pursuing the Passionate Life”.

Patricia's guest is renowned author and cultural observer, Gail Sheehy, who made history with her book “Passages”, on the New York Times bestseller list for more than three years and named one of the ten most influential books of our time by A Library of Congress survey. She discusses her brand new book “Sex and the Seasoned Woman: Pursuing the Passionate Life”.