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DownloadWelcome to LOTC Presents episode 456. This week the show starts with Black Glove Mysteries with Ian Irza and GregaMortis. The movies reviewed are 1973 High Crime as well as 1976 The Tough Ones. The reason behind this episode is a listener request, dudemcmann6936 from Youtube had commented on an episode requesting we review these two films and we did just that. We hope you will enjoy the discussion. Lastly, Mortis Vision with the Mortis's is back with special guest Tammy Maguire. We are looking at Stranger Things Season 3. We look at the full season in SPOILER fashion. You have been warned. Grab your favorite snacks and beverages as you journey with us through Land Of The Creeps. HELP KEEP HORROR ALIVE!!MOVIE REVIEWS1973 HIGH CRIMEIAN : 8GREG : 91976 THE TOUGH ONESIAN : 9.5GREG : 9LINKS FOR DOUBLE DOUBLEGregaMortisFacebookTwitterLand Of The Creeps Group PageLand Of The Creeps Fan PageJay Of The Dead's New Horror Movie PodcastYoutubeInstagramEmailLetterboxdTwisted Temptress LinkLetterboxdIAN IRZA LINKSBLOG SITEFACEBOOKTWITTERINSTAGRAMLETTERBOXDLOTC Hotline Number1-804-569-56821-804-569-LOTCLOTC Intro is provided by Andy Ussery, Below are links to his social mediaEmail:FacebookTwitterLespecial FacebookLespecial Website
In November 2024, a woman identified as Jane Doe filed a lawsuit against Sean "Diddy" Combs, alleging that he sexually assaulted her on Halloween night in 2001. According to the complaint, the plaintiff, then 18 years old, attended a Halloween party in New York City, where she was escorted by one of Combs' security guards to a black SUV limousine. Inside the vehicle, she alleges that after consuming a drink, she began to feel dizzy, and Combs, along with his security team, forced her to perform oral sex on them. During the assault, Combs allegedly called her derogatory names and sprayed champagne on her. She claims she was not allowed to leave the limo until she complied with their demands.This lawsuit is part of a series of legal challenges Combs has faced in recent times, with multiple individuals accusing him of sexual misconduct spanning over two decades. Combs' representatives have not publicly responded to these specific allegations. The plaintiff is represented by attorney Tony Buzbee, who is also handling several other cases against Combs. The legal proceedings are ongoing, and further developments are anticipated as the case progresses.(commercial at 7:36)to contact me:bobbycapucci@protonmail.comsource:gov.uscourts.nysd.632024.1.0.pdf
In November 2024, a woman identified as Jane Doe filed a lawsuit against Sean "Diddy" Combs, alleging that he sexually assaulted her on Halloween night in 2001. According to the complaint, the plaintiff, then 18 years old, attended a Halloween party in New York City, where she was escorted by one of Combs' security guards to a black SUV limousine. Inside the vehicle, she alleges that after consuming a drink, she began to feel dizzy, and Combs, along with his security team, forced her to perform oral sex on them. During the assault, Combs allegedly called her derogatory names and sprayed champagne on her. She claims she was not allowed to leave the limo until she complied with their demands.This lawsuit is part of a series of legal challenges Combs has faced in recent times, with multiple individuals accusing him of sexual misconduct spanning over two decades. Combs' representatives have not publicly responded to these specific allegations. The plaintiff is represented by attorney Tony Buzbee, who is also handling several other cases against Combs. The legal proceedings are ongoing, and further developments are anticipated as the case progresses.(commercial at 7:36)to contact me:bobbycapucci@protonmail.comsource:gov.uscourts.nysd.632024.1.0.pdf
In November 2024, a woman identified as Jane Doe filed a lawsuit against Sean "Diddy" Combs, alleging that he sexually assaulted her on Halloween night in 2001. According to the complaint, the plaintiff, then 18 years old, attended a Halloween party in New York City, where she was escorted by one of Combs' security guards to a black SUV limousine. Inside the vehicle, she alleges that after consuming a drink, she began to feel dizzy, and Combs, along with his security team, forced her to perform oral sex on them. During the assault, Combs allegedly called her derogatory names and sprayed champagne on her. She claims she was not allowed to leave the limo until she complied with their demands.This lawsuit is part of a series of legal challenges Combs has faced in recent times, with multiple individuals accusing him of sexual misconduct spanning over two decades. Combs' representatives have not publicly responded to these specific allegations. The plaintiff is represented by attorney Tony Buzbee, who is also handling several other cases against Combs. The legal proceedings are ongoing, and further developments are anticipated as the case progresses.(commercial at 7:36)to contact me:bobbycapucci@protonmail.comsource:gov.uscourts.nysd.632024.1.0.pdf
THIS EPISODE Ludlov finally meets his true enemy up close... ----more---- ABOUT THE STORY The Hounds of Hübschdorf (formerly called 'Grauwald's Game') is an epic fantasy audiobook by Audio Epics that has been released on Halloween, since it has serious dark fantasy and grimdark vibes. This brand new Witch Hunter Tale is the direct prequel to Witch Hunter. If you like a dark adventure story you'll probably enjoy this grim journey in the original fantasy setting of Hruda, inspired by everything we love: RPG settings like the Old World from Warhammer fantasy, eighties fantasy movies and J.R.R. Tolkien's Middle-earth (amongst others). PLOT SUMMARY When three Witch Hunters fail to return from a routine investigation, Master Ludlov and Initiate Tolfmann find themselves in a small village near the woods. While investigating the strange disappearance of their Brethren, it becomes obvious the mayor is not so keen on their arrival, and the villagers seem to prefer the distraction of the Graunacht festivities to their nosing around. When their inquest reveals a dark mystery involving evil magic and undead, Ludlov faces the true cause of the threat in a place more disturbing than he could have imagined. WANT TO SUPPORT US? Listen to our other stories on this channel. Like, share, comment and talk about us on social media: @AudioEpics
In S4E36 we'll be talking about Halloween and other Spooky stuff as well as give our opinions on the Happenen's of the week. Pastor Jackson Lahmeyer Book: Chasing After the Wind. https://books.jacksonlahmeyer.com/products/chasing-after-the-windLinks to Barry D. Todd's Book: Stand Your Ground: One Man's Self-Defense Nightmare.https://standyourgroundbook.com/ The Founding Fathers Thought's on 2A Regulations: A Grok3 Extrapolationhttps://youtu.be/aflX6EjPSak?si=BJntRHHusTrQQKTGMerch Shop:https://www.etsy.com/shop/LostArtofCommonSense?ref=seller-platform-mcnavwww.yummytummybbq.com#CommonSense #democrat #republican #politics #moviereview #trump #news #winnersandlosers #happenings #funny #subversion
Send us a textThis week on the podcast, Glenn stops by to discuss the Triptides latest release, Shapeshifter, their cover of Spooky and so much more.****Releasing on the heels of Triptides' June 2025 album Shapeshifter, the six-song EP Night Shift arrives as the band lands in Europe for a two-week tour. Comprised of four songs recorded during the Shapeshifter sessions and two newly recorded covers, the EP is classic Triptides. From the dreamy fuzz ‘n' faze of the opener “Pendulum,” to the bouncy groove of “Lonely Planet” and the interplanetary funk closer “Nuvens,” Triptides seems to be dimming the lights for an intimate late-night party, the Night Shift. The EP comes out on Halloween, which is also the date of the first show on the European tour. Leading up to the October 31 release, two singles will prime fans for the full EP: “Pendulum,” out on September 26, and “Spooky,” (a cover of the Halloween favorite originally recorded by Classics IV) out on October 17. Like Shapeshifter, the EP is on Label 51 records worldwide, also home to Mojave Phone Booth, the Rain Parade and Dream Syndicate. Over the last fourteen years and dozens of albums and singles, Triptides have traversed a hyper color musical landscape of psychedelic rock, Laurel Canyon folk and spaced-out jazz pop. Each track can be traced back to group leader Glenn Brigman's unique ability to craft and explore a seemingly infinite number of dimensional melodies and harmonies. With every line of Brigman's airy vocals that dance across the tape and into the speakers, stoners, trippers and lovers alike are transported to a sweet and familiar place, lifted by chiming guitars, hypnotic drums, glittering pianos and hallucinogenic fuzz. On stage in Europe, Brigman will be joined by long-time collaborator (and current resident of Copenhagen) Stephen Burns on guitar and the rhythm section of Tyler English on bass and Craig Jacobs on drums.******If you would like to contact the show about being a guest, please email us at Dauna@bettertopodcast.comUpcoming guests can be found: https://dmneedom.com/upcoming-guest Follow us on Social MediaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/author_d.m.needom/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bettertopodcastwithdmneedomIntro and Outro music compliments of Fast Suzi©2025 Better To...Podcast with D. M. NeedomSupport the show
¡Directamente desde Las Mamás Presentan y al frente de una carrera impresionante en el entretenimiento en México, nos acompaña nuestro adorado y admirado Pablo Cue para echar chismecito en el foro de Noche de Chicxs!
Join us for a delightfully not-so-frightful episode as Steve and Sheila welcome special guest Thomas Lloyd, who has just returned from a pair of spirited Halloween parties—one at Walt Disney World and the other at Disneyland! Thomas shares his magical mischief from both coasts, including the fan-favorite Hocus Pocus Villain Spelltacular and his enchanting experience on Disneyland's Happy Haunts Tour, where 999 friendly ghosts were eager to say hello. And of course, no Halloween party is complete without a perfect costume! Thomas tells us why his "Knuckles" outfit from the Sonic the Hedgehog series might just be his best creation yet—earning praise, smiles, and more than a few playful shout-outs from fellow partygoers. It's a whimsical journey filled with pumpkins, pixie dust, and just the tiniest hint of happy hauntings! Before you drift off on your next not-so-scary Disney adventure, we would love to hear from you. Visit www.speakpipe.com/MonorailTales to leave us a message and share your own spirited Disney stories. To keep the magic glowing long after the show ends, you can visit www.monorailtales.com, follow along on Facebook, and join our Disney-loving community where the conversation never stops—even when the ghosts do a little friendly tinkling of their chains. For even more stories and connections, follow us on Twitter and Instagram. If you have a show idea or would like to join as a guest, reach out to Sheila at sheila@monorailtales.com—your merry little moment might be just one message away. And if you're dreaming up your own Disney Vacation Club experience, be sure to visit our friends at DVC Shop for the best offers on resale contracts and rentals—no tricks, only treats! From all of us at Monorail Tales—thank you for floating along with us. May your days be filled with Disney wonder, cozy memories, and just a touch of whimsical Halloween pixie dust.
A tween discovers on Halloween that she is a 5th generation monster hunter. The monsters are out to stop her before she begins her calling. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Noah Cyrus is stepping in to co-host with Tish, and she brought her BESTIE… Orville Peck!!!You may know him as the masked gay-cowboy legend, but get to know him even deeper as he gets emotionally unmasked and opens up to the Cyrus gals about his new EP Appaloosa, embracing the parts of yourself that never fit in, and how he and Noah became instant soulmates through late-night texts, panic attacks, and long drives swapping their favorite tunes. They get real about fame, sensitivity, anxiety, and how not normal it is to live your life in the public eye.Then the tea starts pouring. They break down the Nashville after-party they walked out of immediately, the time Noah accidentally posted Orville's face, a hilarious Halloween moment, and of course, their iconic southern-grandma voice notes.This is Orville like you've NEVER seen him before.Check out Orville's new EP, Appaloosa: https://orvillepeck.lnk.to/AppaloosaFollow Orville:https://www.instagram.com/orvillepeckhttps://www.orvillepeck.com/Follow Your Hosts:https://www.instagram.com/sorrywerecyrushttps://www.instagram.com/TishCyrusPurcellhttps://www.instagram.com/BrandiCyrusThank you to our incredible sponsors:Dupe.com: Go to Dupe.com today and make your holiday shopping so much easier. It's 100% free to use. Stop overspending on gifts and start saving big this holiday season with Dupe.com.One Skin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code CYRUS at https://www.oneskin.co/CYRUS #oneskinpodJones Road Beauty: Use code SWC at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a Free Cool Gloss with your first purchase! These sell out fast so get them while they last! #JonesRoadBeauty #adRula: Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/CYRUS #rulapodCBDfx: Get 40% off your first order with code CYRUS at cbdfx.com.1800 Contacts: Order online at 1800contacts.com or download the free 1-800 Contacts app today.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Boone Froggett, John Seeley, Alex Wells, and Dale Myers make Otis. The band has been slowly building a following since 2014. They have built a fans around the country including ZZ Top's Billy Gibbons. Before they played in Jacksonville Boone was nice enough to stop by the show and talk about their career! Boone and Doc talk about Halloween, getting started in music, finding BB King, working with the Kentucky Head Hunters, getting new members in the band, and so many other things! Meanwhile on the rest of the show, Mike and Doc talk meteorites and the best youtube page to view them. Introduction: 0:00:23 Birthday Suit 1: 13:36 Ripped from the Headlines: 17:49 Shoutouts: 33:11 Boone Froggett Interview: 41:06 Mike C Top 3: 1:17:46 Birthday Suit 2: 1:38:02 Birthday Suit 3: 1:43:24
In this listener story episode, Judi sends an update from Creepy People Chronicles: Mediums & Mischievous Spirits! Featuring the Delaney House, the symbolism behind her oracle card reading, and a fateful house fire that led her entire household to become volunteer firefighters. We also hear from Clint in Canada about a possible Halloween-night cryptid sighting! Ending tonight's spooky tales with Kyle's eerie but gentle, 3AM wake-up call.If you have any true crime, paranormal, or witchy stories you'd like to share with us & possibly have them read (out loud) on an episode, email us at pnwhauntsandhomicides@gmail.com or use this link!David's hand-drawn Kickstarter tarot deck! “The Liminal Deck is a traditional 78-card tarot deck with a non-traditional construction. De-gendered and de-saturated, drawing on vaguely unsettling, yet familiar imagery to recreate quiet contradictions of the dreamscape, it's the deck unlike any other.” -Whiskey Terra Foxtrot. Previous Delaney House EpisodesDelaney-Edwards House Salem: Historical Landmark & Dark SecretsGhosts of the Delaney HouseVisit our website! Find us on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Patreon, & more!There are so many ways that you can support the show: BuyMeACoffee, Spreaker, or by leaving a rating & review on Apple Podcasts.
There are some moments when you just have to pinch yourself. The Universe conspired to weave two paths together… I had JUST had lunch with upcoming Podcast Guest Stephanie James who mentioned her line up for her upcoming workshop. Then my Calendar revealed a Podcast interview with a familiar name… Lisa Campion, a brilliant psychic mentor, author, and healer whose heart and wisdom shine so brightly. Turns out Lisa and Stephanie are besties! What a delight to discover my world is getting smaller and smaller! And what an honor to feature Lisa's psychic gifts, evolution of her capacities and her mission to help sensitives embrace their superpowers. In this rich and magical conversation, we explored… -How Lisa discovered her psychic gifts as a child, grew into her calling at 19, and eventually created her own modality, Quantum Healing -What it means to shift from 3D identity into 5D consciousness — releasing ego, competition, and old karmic contracts to live from the heart -The sometimes painful "purges" of body, mind, and emotions that prepare us to embody higher frequencies of light -How her Reiki practice transformed into transmitting pure light energy, and why so many students are now drawn to learn this next-level healing work -Lisa's take on fluidly moving between 3D (practical life), 4D (intuition/psychic), and 5D (unity consciousness) so we can stay grounded while still expanding -Our shared experiences with clients shifting from old teacher–student hierarchies into true co-creation, empowerment and embodiment -The ecstatic states of union with the divine we can access through dance, movement, and embodied practices like Flamenco and Biadanza -How healing and intimacy happen not only in sessions but in community, connection, and the courage to let old stories die so our true soul essence can rise. Lisa's joy, gifts and authenticity are such a gift to the world. Her vision is clear: to train an army of healers and lightworkers who uplift humanity one conscious soul at a time. Her answers to my questions on After the Show on Patreon (www.Patreon.com/allanapratt) reveal even more vulnerabilities of our lives as single moms, our love of dance and our heart's most precious dreams. ➡️ Go check out patreon.com/allanapratt for Exclusive content! About Lisa: Lisa Campion is not your grandma's psychic. She's the mentor you wish you'd met before you started doubting your own gifts. Since childhood, Lisa's been seeing energy, colors, and the kinds of spirits most people only talk about on Halloween—except, for her, it was Tuesday. These days, she's the go-to resource for every emerging psychic, empath, and "I-feel-too-much" healer who secretly suspects the world needs them. (It does. She'll prove it.) As the founder of Quantum Light Wave Healing and author of four books—including the best-selling The Art of Psychic Reiki —Lisa is equal parts quantum science geek and kitchen-table mystic. Forget vague "trust the universe" advice, Lisa translates your intuition and psychic hits into practical tools you can use to transform lives, starting with your own. Her mission? Radical, but simple: train an army of healer to go out there and save the planet one conscious soul at a time. If you've ever felt too sensitive, too "out there," or just plain too psychic, Lisa is here to show you that's really your superpower. Off-duty, you'll find her gardening, dancing her heart out, or watching old sci-fi movies, delighting in every scrap of magic this world can throw at her. (Yes, she's probably barefoot. No, she's not judging your crystals.) Ready to find your own next-level psychic gifts? Drop your story at LisaCampion.com , sign up for her newsletter, or just leave her a comment about your own psychic adventures. Seriously. She reads them all. Website: https://www.lisacampion.com Facebook URL https://www.facebook.com/lisaxcampion Instagram URL https://www.instagram.com/lisaxcampion/ YouTube URL https://www.youtube.com/@LisaCampionPsychic Activate Your Intuitive Wisdom https://community.lisacampion.com/Activate-Your-Intuitive-Wisdom Schedule your Intimacy Breakthrough Experience with me today https://allanapratt.com/connect Scholarship Code: READYNOW Finding the One is Bullsh*t. Becoming the One is brilliant and beautiful, and ironically the key to attracting your ideal partner. Move beyond the fear of getting hurt again. Register for Become the One Introductory Program. http://allanapratt.com/becomeintro Use Code: BTO22 to get over 40% off. We're thrilled to partner with Magic Mind for this episode. Go to https://magicmind.com/INTIMATECONVERSATIONS40 to avail exciting offers! Let's stay connected: Exclusive Video Newsletter: http://allanapratt.com/newsletter Instagram - @allanapratt [ / allanapratt ] Facebook - @coachallanapratt [ / coachallanapratt ]
In this episode of Coastal Idiots… Shane and Katherine got their months mixed up so we're celebrating Halloween in March! They don their sluttiest costumes, a uterus and tampon and invite their goofiest friend, Laura Peek to join them for the classic fall activity, bobbing for apples! But uh oh- all the orchards have burned down so the crew must bob for LA's proudest export, street vendor food. Winner gets to nom on soggy street meat. Back in the studio, things flow about as smoothly as… well… a uterus and tampon. The gang debates the correct posture of the fallopian tubes, speculates on what's really inside a woman's body, and then takes a scenic detour into the reproductive wilderness. We inspect the unique exodus of tampons, bowels and mucus. Spooky and educational, in the worst way possible. Finally, they close out with listener voicemails featuring haunted tales and try their best to roast these ghosts! Oooogy Boogy! ++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Coastal Idiots is a weekly comedy podcast where each week your host Shane and Katherine are joined by a friend or two where they do something very stupid and hilarious. Follow Katherine and Shane so they have a reason to keep going. The show is produced by the marvelous Keida Mascaro. Some of the art on the walls by the great Perry Shall. Music by Gymshorts and Alex Orange Drink. Your favorite idiots are now available wherever you listen to podcasts! Stream video on Spotify or Youtube, to drink in every detail of Katherine Blanford & Shane Torres' shenanigans and insane sketches. Listen to audio on all podcast platforms. Welcome to the ATC family! Let's get weird. Let's get Coastal. More Laura! IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurapeeklive/ More Coastal Idiots! IG: https://www.instagram.com/coastalidiots/ More Katherine! IG: https://www.instagram.com/itskatherineblanford/ More Shane! IG: https://www.instagram.com/shanetorres/ ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Produced by Keida Mascaro https://www.instagram.com/keidamascaro/ The Cave Podcast Studio https://keidamascaro.com/the-cave Presented by: All Things Comedy https://www.youtube.com/@atchttps://www.instagram.com/allthingscomedy/ Theme Song by GYMSHORTS https://www.instagram.com/gymshortsmusic/ Logo & Artwork by Perry Shall https://www.instagram.com/perryshall/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
How do you build a Mari Lwyd? Where do you find a horse skull? How heavy is it really – and how on earth do you dance with one? This Christmas, we go behind the folklore of Wales's most iconic winter visitor – the Mari Lwyd – to uncover the practical secrets rarely talked about: construction, decoration, materials, performance, and the surprisingly tricky art of bringing a skeletal horse to life. Mark Rees is joined by Ronnie Kerswell-O'Hara of the National Trust at Dinefwr, Llandeilo – a maker, performer, dancer and seasoned guide to both Halloween ghost hunts and New Year Mari Lwyd events. Ronnie lifts the veil on what it takes to create a Mari from scratch, the realities of handling the skull, and the magic of a full Mari Lwyd troupe. Along the way, we meet a mysterious Green Man, uncover tips and tricks from years of trial and error, and explore how a centuries-old tradition is kept alive today through craft, community and a little seasonal mischief. Explore the lore this Christmas... if you dare!
In this episode, we're slicing into two of the most debated entries in the Halloween franchise: Halloween H20 and Halloween: Resurrection.We look back at what worked, what didn't, and everything in between as we revisit the late-'90s revival and its infamous early-2000s follow-up. We break down the characters, plot choices, kills, suspense, and behind-the-scenes drama that shaped each film.From unused scripts and abandoned concepts to potential unmade sequels, we explore the alternate paths these movies could have taken. And of course… we dive into the many versions of the iconic Myers mask that appeared across both films.Whether you love these entries, hate them, or fall somewhere in between, join us as we explore their legacy, their flaws, and their place in one of horror's most beloved franchises.If you enjoyed this - Check out my other content here - https://linktr.ee/FirstClassHorrorBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/class-horror-cast--4295531/support.
What's up party people. Check out this week's episode of the Bonk Bros. Find us on the socials: Adam Saban - IG - @adamsaban6 Dylan Johnson - IG - @dylanjawnson Drew Dillman - IG - @raddaddizzle Scott McGill - IG - @scottmcgilljr Tyler Cloutier - IG - @tylerclouti Dylan Johnson YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@DylanJohnsonCycling Drew Dillman YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@DrewDillmanChannel Wanna help the Bros keep the lights on and the mics plugged in? Check out all the ways you can support our bike-banter podcasting below. (See the most recent video upload for most up-to-date codes & deals) PATREON: Drop a hundo in the tip jar. https://www.patreon.com/patreon_bonkbros MERCH: T-SHIRTS ARE HERE! Get your Bonk Bros swag below. https://bb5a73-20.myshopify.com IGNITION: Hire a coach. Get faster. It's that simple. $100.00 Off Your First Month with Code: NOBONK100 https://www.ignitioncoachco.com/ FOR UPDATED DISCOUNT CODES CHECK MY LATEST VIDEO. SILCA: Waxing your chains or melting queso dip. Either way, you need a Crockpotanator 4000. 10% Code: bonkbrosdec Silca (10% discount code: “bonkbrosseptember25”): https://silca.cc/?utm_source=Bonk+Bros&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=stripchip&utm_id=Bonk+Bros+Podcast BIKE TIRES DIRECT: Great prices for bicycle tires, components, and more. 10% Code: BONKBROS https://www.biketiresdirect.com/?utm_source=bonkbros&utm_medium=banner&utm_campaign=bonkbros2025 MATCHBOX PODCAST: Check out our more serious training focused podcast. https://www.ignitioncoachco.com/podcast SCARBOROUGH BICYCLE ACCIDENT LAW Scarborough Bicycle Accident Law is with you on every ride, when you're at your peak, or when you're in recovery, and we fight to get our clients results. We want you back on your bike and back in your prime. https://www.bicycleaccidentlaw.com LISTENER QUESTION FORM: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc2390aqaGwF7CCpFjAnKYn42bEzIi4BYrDI9LrJpgjjVFeew/viewform?usp=sf_link NEW: BONK OR BALLIN WEBSITE www.bonkorballin.com In this engaging conversation, the hosts delve into various topics ranging from Scott's rigorous training regimen and its impact on performance, to nostalgic Halloween costumes and personal grooming styles. They share insights on racing experiences in Mexico, the dynamics of team competition in cycling, and the latest rumors circulating in the cycling community. The discussion also touches on the evolving structure of teams in racing, highlights from the cyclocross season, and lighthearted banter about Secret Santa gifts, all while maintaining a humorous and friendly atmosphere. In this episode, the hosts discuss the upcoming World Cup, the role of AI in coaching, and the accuracy of ChatGPT in providing cycling advice. They also engage in a light-hearted power ranking of cyclocross racers and delve into a comprehensive ranking of various bike brands, considering their history, innovation, and current market presence. The conversation highlights the legacy of brands like Mongoose and Haro, the innovation of 3T and Lauf, and the mixed reputations of giants like Specialized and Cannondale. In this episode, the hosts engage in a detailed discussion about various bike brands, rating them based on their performance, design, and overall reputation in the cycling community. They explore brands like Trek, Santa Cruz, Giant, and many others, providing insights into their strengths and weaknesses. The conversation also touches on the impact of branding and marketing in the cycling industry, as well as the personal preferences of the hosts regarding different bike types and styles. The episode concludes with a light-hearted banter about the cycling community and the brands they love or critique.
Episode: 403 Hosts: Andy Shiles — LinkedIn. & Lalo Solorzano — LinkedIn. (linkedin.com) Guest(s): Hal Berman — LinkedIn. (linkedin.com) Published: November/December 2025 Length: ~44 minutes Presented by: Global Training Center
156 haunted houses nationwide are extending the scare season into December! Nearly half of all events (48%) are concentrated in Southern states, with Texas leading the nation at 14 holiday haunts and Pennsylvania close behind at 13. Also this week: Six Flags Appoints John Reilly as New CEO; Hollow Acres Banned from Christmas Parade; HAA Seeks Board Member Nominations; In Memorial: Remembering Jan Knuth. Read the news here. Our 2025 Holiday Haunt Guide is here.
Ciaran Barry, business partnership executive for Tourism Ireland, talks with Alan Fine of Insider Travel Report at the Railbookers Group Global Summit about how Ireland's rail network connects major cities and offers an easy alternative to self-drive. Barry outlines how Tourism Ireland supports travel advisors with education and itineraries, highlights opportunities beyond Dublin, and points out rising demand, improved hotel stock and major upcoming events like St. Patrick's Day, Halloween 2026 celebrations and the 2027 Ryder Cup. For more information, visit www.ireland.com. All our Insider Travel Report video interviews are archived and available on our Youtube channel (youtube.com/insidertravelreport), and as podcasts with the same title on: Spotify, Pandora, Stitcher, PlayerFM, Listen Notes, Podchaser, TuneIn + Alexa, Podbean, iHeartRadio, Google, Amazon Music/Audible, Deezer, Podcast Addict, and iTunes Apple Podcasts, which supports Overcast, Pocket Cast, Castro and Castbox.
It's Episode 18 of Talking Shit About Nothing and Billy Gridley is BACK! Last time his house was a Halloween wonderland… now it's lit up like a Christmas fever dream bright enough to make Clark Griswold pack it in. This week, the boys dive deep into all things Christmas — from the modern traditions we love to the ancient lore that shaped the holiday, including the Romans' Saturnalia and the terrifying legend of Krampus. And because it wouldn't be Talking Shit About Nothing without a detour, the conversation somehow swerves into polygamy before circling back to the real question of the season: Are Gremlins and Die Hard actually Christmas movies? Holiday vibes, wild tangents, and Billy's electric energy — it's all here. Grab some eggnog and hang out with the guys!
January 31, 1985. West Seneca, New York. 21-year old Leichia Reilly spends the night hanging out at a nightclub called the Pierce Arrow, but she never returns home and vanishes without a trace. Numerous witnesses recall having seen Leichia leaving the club during the early morning hours with an off-duty state trooper named Daniel Rose, but he denies this and stops cooperating with the investigation. Even though Rose is soon fired by the New York State Police and there appear to be some holes in his story, there is no evidence to implicate him in Leichia's disappearance and she is never found. On this week's episode of “The Trail Went Cold”, we explore the controversial disappearance of Leichia Reilly, which has gone unsolved for more than 40 years. In addition, we will also discuss the unsolved 1982 murder of James Adamski, who went missing during the early morning hours of Halloween after leaving a bar in the nearby village of Depew before he was found in a shallow grave in a wooded area just under two months later. Additional Reading: https://charleyproject.org/case/leichia-m-reilly https://www.newspapers.com/image/875577695/ https://www.newspapers.com/image/875582162/ https://www.newspapers.com/image/875637060/ https://www.newspapers.com/image/875577847/ https://www.newspapers.com/image/875673768/ https://www.newspapers.com/image/874757072/ https://www.newspapers.com/image/877043776/ https://www.newspapers.com/image/875897927/ https://www.wgrz.com/article/news/local/cold-case-crime-west-seneca-missing-person-wny/71-ad11d332-e29e-44b4-a933-90d8c33edebe https://buffalonews.com/news/local/article_b226ae35-9eb5-5afa-8c9d-64ed07491fc5.html https://www.wgrz.com/article/news/investigations/2-investigates/cold-case-leichia-reilly-disappeared-1985/71-a0527b9d-fda9-4ae4-817b-9ceb49af06e0 https://www.wivb.com/news/36-year-old-cold-case-still-haunts-lancaster-cheektowaga/ https://www.wkbw.com/news/who-killed-james-adamski https://www.wgrz.com/article/news/unsolved-37-years-later-investigators-still-search-for-clues-in-lancaster-murder/71-ba70ad6f-195d-4bf6-b3bd-e47f3cd94590 “The Trail Went Cold” is on Patreon. Visit www.patreon.com/thetrailwentcold to become a patron and gain access to our exclusive bonus content. The Trail Went Cold is produced and edited by Magill Foote. All music is composed by Vince Nitro.
Not only is Canberra the capital of Australia, according to National Geographic it is one of the most haunted cities IN THE WORLD! This week Dave investigates three of Canberra's most haunted places (Hotel Kurrajong, Blundells Cottage and The National Film and Sound Archive). Recorded on Halloween 2025, live at Smiths Alternative in Canberra.This is a comedy/history podcast, the report begins at approximately 04:53 (though as always, we go off on tangents throughout the report).For all our important links: https://linktr.ee/dogoonpod Check out our other podcasts:Book Cheat: https://play.acast.com/s/book-cheatPrime Mates: https://play.acast.com/s/prime-mates/Listen Now: https://play.acast.com/s/listen-now/Who Knew It with Matt Stewart: https://play.acast.com/s/who-knew-it-with-matt-stewart/Jess Writes A Rom-Com: https://shows.acast.com/jess-writes-a-rom-comOur awesome theme song by Evan Munro-Smith and logo by Peader ThomasDo Go On acknowledges the traditional owners of the land we record on, the Wurundjeri people, in the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders, past and present. REFERENCES AND FURTHER READING:https://www.naa.gov.au/explore-collection/australias-prime-ministers/ben-chifleyhttps://hotelkurrajong.com.au/special-accommodation-package/the-chifley-experience/https://www.abc.net.au/news/2016-04-15/if-walls-could-talk-at-the-hotel-kurrajong-in-canberra/7329466https://www.outincanberra.com.au/5canberrasecrets/https://www.nca.gov.au/attractions/blundells-cottagehttps://www.australiangeographic.com.au/science-environment/2023/12/the-macabre-history-of-canberras-haunted-nfsa-building/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
During Halloween weekend of 1993, a 34-year-old teacher and mother of three, Cherilyn Hawkley, vanished from Granite Bay, California. Two days later, her body was discovered inside her minivan, less than a mile from the school where she taught fifth grade. In this episode of Zone 7, Sheryl McCollum and Laura Ingle revisit the case that shocked the community, retracing the timeline, the missing hours, and the single piece of rope believed to have been used in Cherilyn’s murder. With the newly established cold-case team reopening the files, they explore how advances in forensic science and a new round of DNA testing may hold the key to solving this 32-year-old cold case. If you have information about this case, contact the Placer County Sheriff’s Tip Line at (530) 889-7830. Highlights: • (0:00) Welcome to Zone 7 with Sheryl McCollum and guest Laura Ingle • (1:00) Laura Ingle recounts growing up near Granite Bay and Cherilyn’s final hours after the school’s Halloween party • (3:30) The van’s location and why it suggests a local offender • (9:30) The rope used in the killing and new DNA testing by the Placer County Sheriff’s Office • (11:45) Cleared suspects: ex-husband, boyfriend, and school custodian • (16:00) Sheryl breaks down potential motives and why the crime does not fit the typical pattern (17:30) The detailed witness sketch of a man driving a white VW Bug • (21:00) Laura describes visiting the school and the plaque that bears Cherilyn’s name • (24:15) Why it’s important to re-examine every witness and every clue, and how uniting the original detectives with the new cold-case team could uncover what was never written in the files • (26:30) Tip line information and closing message Guest Bio: Laura Ingle is an Emmy Award-winning journalist and the host of The Ingle Edit, a YouTube series and podcast dedicated to re-examining unsolved cases through on-scene reporting and firsthand interviews. As a longtime network correspondent, she has covered many of America’s most notoroious crime stories and continues to champion cold-case investigations. Learn more about the case and view Laura’s on-scene reporting on The Ingle Edit: www.youtube.com/@TheIngleEdit Enjoying Zone 7? Leave a rating and review where you listen to podcasts. Your feedback helps others find the show and supports the mission to educate, engage, and inspire. Sheryl “Mac” McCollum is an active crime scene investigator for a Metro Atlanta Police Department and the director of the Cold Case Investigative Research Institute, which partners with colleges and universities nationwide. With more than 4 decades of experience, she has worked on thousands of cold cases using her investigative system, The Last 24/361, which integrates evidence, media, and advanced forensic testing. Her work on high-profile cases, including The Boston Strangler, Natalie Holloway, Tupac Shakur and the Moore’s Ford Bridge lynching, led to her Emmy Award for CSI: Atlanta and induction into the National Law Enforcement Hall of Fame in 2023. Social Links: • Email: coldcase2004@gmail.com • Twitter: @ColdCaseTips • Facebook: @sheryl.mccollum • Instagram: @officialzone7podcast Preorder Sheryl’s upcoming book, Swans Don’t Swim in a Sewer: Lessons in Life, Justice, and Joy from a Forensic Scientist, releasing May 2026 from Simon and Schuster. https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Swans-Dont-Swim-in-a-Sewer/Sheryl-Mac-McCollum/9798895652824 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Onboarding a new team member has turned into a very transactional process. In this episode, Tiff and Monica discuss how to add authenticity, connection, and engagement to the mix. Episode resources: Subscribe to The Dental A-Team podcast Schedule a Practice Assessment Leave us a review Transcript: The Dental A Team (00:01) Hello, Dental A Team listeners. Welcome back. I am just so happy to have all of you. know there are so many people out there that support the Dental A Team in so many amazing ways. And you guys being here downloading these podcasts and having that little, I know Apple allows the like auto download. I always love that. Cause when I'm on flights, I can just, you know, podcast. But you guys being here. pushing those through for us, being here to just support who we are, what we do is so truly incredible, whether you're a client, a future client, or someone who's just here to listen and you're like, ⁓ you know, never gonna sign up, we don't really have a preference of how you get to us. We just love that you're here. We wanna deliver all of the most amazing information that we possibly can. You might notice we share a lot of information, a lot of tips and tricks, a lot of like, I don't know, feel like, Monica, I feel like they're like. secrets, trade secrets, right? And people are like, gosh, I'll just listen to your podcast. I'm like, fantastic, do that, do that. When you're ready for someone like Monica, who I have here with us today, you guys, to be like, I'm gonna push you a little bit further. She's here, we're here, and we're ready to help you get to that next level. And as I said, you guys, this is a truly, truly exciting day for us. I have Monica back on the podcast with me today. I am so excited to have you here, Monica. I know. Monica Gomez (00:57) ⁓ yeah. The Dental A Team (01:20) Previously, I've kind of given a good spiel of who you are and how we found you. And we got to record a podcast, if you haven't listened to it yet, about this really hiring tips and strategies. But there's so much to learn about Monica, her coaching style and who she is in that episode. So if you haven't listened to it yet, go do that. And as an introduction today, Monica, welcome. I'm so excited to have you here. And I just I'm excited to pick your brain. love I love watching. I feel like I get to watch the flow of how thoughts come to you and it's just really fun and I love our time together. Thank you for blocking out your morning and being here with me this morning and Monica, how are you? How was your weekend? How's life? How's Monica? Monica Gomez (02:05) ⁓ Life is great and I'm starting off my week with podcasting with you ⁓ and this is so fun. This is my second podcast and I'm so excited to be here. Our first one was really, there was a flow to it, right? It was a ⁓ great little conversation, valuable. We dropped lots of gems, you guys, so go listen to that podcast and I'm excited to be sharing this space again with you, Tish. Thank you for having me. The Dental A Team (02:21) Yeah. Thank you, thank you. I do love this and it actually makes me think this is like a little off topic here, but just for a smidgen of time. love the podcast space with you consultant ladies ⁓ on our team because I love that this is a space where I get to, I think I get to share how much I love you guys. Like how much admiration I have, how much I look up to you guys and get to like extract so much. knowledge and input from you. And I think this is our space of like, truly having some connection time. And we have our one on ones, I mentioned that before, but those are so goal driven and work driven. It makes me think I love relationship and community. And I think that's something that humans are learning again, we're relearning that we need that. I think we lost that for a moment of time here recently and in the years and we're coming back to that. You kind of don't know what you have until you lose it sometimes and we lost that space. And I think this is our space of true community. We do have our weekly meetings, we have our one-on-ones, we have our data-driven, work-driven time together, but the podcasting space is actually really special to me because I do get to, I get to get to like, want, we get to put you guys out there and I get to just spend this time with you. And it makes me think you mentioned something on the last podcast that we had recorded together. You mentioned that intentional team time together and that like just clicked. As you're talking, like it clicked for me. This is our intentional time together and instilling that into, infusing that into the workplace. It's really special. And I want doctors and owners and leaders and anyone who's here, dental assistants, treatment coordinators, I don't care who you are. I want you to... know from the bottom of my heart, this is a really special place and you don't need to go start a podcast unless you want to. But having that intentional time, like coffee time, like go in the break room and have coffee together and talk about your weekend. Like me getting to hear about Monica's family life and Charlie, her puppy, getting to know those pieces of you personally, it changes and it shifts our dynamic. So I wanted to highlight that because as you were speaking, I was like, my gosh, this is Monica Gomez (04:44) Yeah. The Dental A Team (04:57) something we haven't had yet because this is only our second podcast together, but that I know I do have with the other consultants and it just totally clicked for me because we just, think, mentioned that in the last one. So Monica, thank you for being here. Thank you for letting me say all that and for giving me this intentional time today. Monica Gomez (05:15) Yeah, thanks, Tiff. Yeah, I think ⁓ this time together, we get to peek, a little peek behind the veil, right? And yeah, we do have a lot of connection time. It's structured time, right? But the value of unstructured time is just gold. is, ⁓ it builds trust, it builds ⁓ camaraderie, it builds affinity, it builds ⁓ an endearing, right? An endearing kind of sense of The Dental A Team (05:23) Yeah. Yeah. Monica Gomez (05:44) of viewing the other person in a different light. So yeah, I think this is a powerful, like meaningful time. I agree with you. I agree with everything that you said. This is definitely a special magical space. Yeah. The Dental A Team (05:53) Yeah. Yeah, thank you. Awesome. Well, thank you for being here. And again, if you didn't listen to the last podcast, I know this is the third or fourth time we're saying it. You should. This is kind of I think Monica actually helped me choose today's topics that she wanted to speak on. I think they actually naturally flow together. So I would maybe even listen to this one after the last one or listen to this one. And then I don't care which order you do it in, but listen to both of them is my is my point here, because today we really we're going to talk about onboarding. Monica Gomez (06:07) You The Dental A Team (06:28) And you can onboard anyone, but I think maybe when we add in onboarding the right team member, because the last podcast we recorded was really how to hire the right team member and hiring with intentionality and meaning behind it. And the onboarding, Monica, I think has to flow off of that. If we're not continuously showing up as the person we wanted to hire, like we talked about in the last one. If we show up in the interview space and we're like, this is who I want you to be, but then we're onboarding and we're like, meh, meh. We're like, this is boring person and we want somebody who's dynamic and fun and engaging and speaking to the patients, but we're like, not that person. I think it makes a huge difference. So Monica, as you've trained people, as you've onboarded, you've trained practices to do this, what are some key highlights that you like to infuse into the onboarding process? Monica Gomez (07:16) Yeah, great topic. And I agree, this one goes hand in hand with our previous podcast. know, onboarding traditionally has been very much transactional, right? Here's your cubby, here's what you do, here's where you sit, here's how you answer the phones, right? We've got to move. Well, there's a part of it that has to be transactional because you have to learn, you know, what your job is and, you know, the daily to do's. But I think if we lead with that, it's a mistake. ⁓ As I mentioned before, and we talked about how the workforce has changed, ⁓ and we're leading with connection and engagement and authenticity and all those components that make us unique, I think we, I really feel that we need to move. from a transactional place to a transformational or transcendental. ⁓ It's gotta be more about behaviors, right? And how we wrap our arms around like this new person that's joining our little family, right? How would you like to be welcomed into a team that would make you feel welcome and received with open arms and warmth? That's how we have to welcome our new people. The Dental A Team (08:19) Yeah. Monica Gomez (08:37) You know, we've invested so much time and energy in interviewing our job post, our, you know, filtering our candidates, interviewing, that whole hiring process, offer letter, the whole nine yards. And then we just throw them in, sink or swim. We've got to add, we've got to be intentional and we've got to add more value to the onboarding piece because, you know, people sometimes are left thinking like, gosh, The Dental A Team (08:55) Yeah. Monica Gomez (09:06) this is not the place that I thought it was gonna be, right? Like make it the place that you post it on your job ad, right? Like create, you get to be the creator. You're the co-creator, right? This is your platform. Like what do you wanna create for your new people, right? And I think transaction. It's always part of our industry and in the workforce, right? There is a transactional piece to working. ⁓ But again, that humanist, right? And so one great tip, I'll start with one tip and I'll turn it over to you, Tiff. ⁓ One great tip is have a welcome packet for your team, right? A t-shirt, their name tag, little, you know, if you picked up little sprinkles of who they are and what they like in the interview, like, The Dental A Team (09:53) Mm. Monica Gomez (10:04) put together a nice little welcome basket for them, a pen post-it, a nice little saying. I think that's, wow, I mean, that's super impactful on their first day, right? Like, welcome to the team and have everybody go around at Morning Huddle and just give a little shout out as, you know, The Dental A Team (10:12) Yeah. I love that. Yeah. Monica Gomez (10:31) how valuable it is to have a new team member. I think that's super simple and important. The Dental A Team (10:37) Yeah, I love that. think you hit on something really important there. It's really that feeling of being welcomed, coming into a new space is, I mean, we don't even like going to a party unless we know, a dinner party, unless we know everybody who's gonna be there, right? We're like, I only know two people. Like, is that enough? Right? I got a text from a friend the other day that was, know, or not the other day, it's been a bit, but for, you know, Halloween. And then she's like, I gotta go to this thing with my husband. And like, I don't know anybody. And I was like, okay, like this is, we're all coming into this dinner party not knowing. anybody else, even if you've done working interviews, you still don't know them. So I love that really just toning in on the personal piece and the relationship, because if you can have a relationship with them, you can, you know, build that camaraderie just from the get go. I think they actually retain information and onboard quicker as well. So I love that. Yeah. Monica Gomez (11:26) It's hard being an adult, you know? It's hard being an adult. And I think in the practice, you know, just circling back to our topic on our previous podcast, fun is really important. We forget to have fun as adults, you know? And gosh, you know, think of it like you're in the sandbox again. See through young eyes, see through young eyes. Put those lenses on and just remember what it is to just play in the sandbox. with your friends, right? And have like that pureness of intention and that pureness of heart and spirit. I think it's just easier when you can kind of connect to that space to welcome others in. And they'll say, I love that you're here. Welcome to the team. How can I make your week and your integration easier? I think that's a gem right there. That's... The Dental A Team (11:56) Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Monica Gomez (12:23) super valuable for the person receiving and also for the person that's delivering. The Dental A Team (12:28) I agree. I was thinking, as you said, you said it's hard being an adult And I thought, yeah, I remember just being like, do you want to swing? Like, there's two, like, do you want to swing with me? Like, that's, we don't do that anymore. Yeah. It was easy. Now it's like, we go to, we're in the same Pilates class 10 times and I'm still like, do I talk to you? Do I not talk to you? And it's like, goodness gracious. So yeah, like just, do you want to swing? Like just, let's just have fun with it. I love that. ⁓ Monica Gomez (12:34) Yeah. It's easier to fix ones. The Dental A Team (12:53) And so Welcome Packet is beautiful. if you guys like put it together, it could even be like ⁓ a welcome note card. Like, hey, excited to have you. Like everybody, we write thank you cards to our patients or we write condolence cards or happy birthday or happy anniversary. Like, congrats on your wedding. We write these cards and I've seen them in multiple practices. So I know a lot of people do them. You pass them around to all the team members or the happy birthday for the team members, right? Everybody writes on the card and it's like this little message. You could do it as simply as that. Like, hey, Monica's starting on Monday, guys. Like, it's Thursday. Let's wrap this up. Let's get this like welcome card together and a candy bar or a little ⁓ bouquet of flowers, like four carnations. Like, it doesn't have to be difficult. It doesn't have to be robust or like over the top. Just speak to who you are and who they are. I love that. And Monica, something you said was we were kind of prepping for this was you don't have to have it all together. And I loved that because we've saw many podcasts on Monica Gomez (13:33) Yeah. The Dental A Team (13:49) operations manual and it's fantastic. And I agree with an operations manual and practices come to us and they're like, Monica, we need an operations manual, help us build it. It's like, okay, yes. And it's super cool. Also, it's not a requirement. You can onboard, you can train, you can have them help you build the operations manual while you're training. Don't hold yourself back from onboarding someone successfully. Monica Gomez (14:01) Yeah. The Dental A Team (14:17) because you feel like things are missing and I love that you said that. Now, on that same aspect, a job description, super simple, to put together a job description of who they are, how they show up and what their targets are per position and then build off of that to say like, hey, in the first week, two weeks, 30 days and then kind of go from there. Now, implementally, how do you build the action out for... for teams like that, because I'm an aggriance. I love an operations manual. I think it's great, but it's not end all be all. And just because we get through an operations manual and your consulting journey does not mean you're done. You're set for success and nothing's ever going to happen. I think there's a lot of, we could go on a tangent about operations manuals. We won't today. But how do you do that with your practices you're working with? Monica Gomez (15:06) Yeah, I mean, I think people ⁓ absorb information and they learn differently. And I think it's really important that we hit on all three things. It's auditory, visual, and kinesthetic. The operations manual or the training manual is valuable, Because it's a resource that you can go to to reference and get a refresher. ⁓ But that shouldn't be your onboarding technique, right? That's like, OK, here you go. Here's the written. ⁓ The Dental A Team (15:31) Yeah. Monica Gomez (15:35) proof or reference book of what you already learned, right? It is the outcome of your training. ⁓ I think, you know, onboarding can be simple and we make it complicated because everything has to be in writing nowadays and there's value to that. ⁓ But really your team, the biggest piece of ⁓ an employee staying within those 90 days is how we onboarded them. The Dental A Team (15:49) Yeah. Monica Gomez (16:04) Did we just give them manual or written instructions and say, okay, here it is, go do it? Or did we say, okay, this week, part of your onboarding is that you're gonna spend time with every single person in this practice in the various roles, including the doctor. You're gonna sit in and listen to the exams and the x-ray take and the hygienist. And you're really gonna understand all the makings of this practice. it's important that we understand everyone's role and how we contribute to the entire team. So I always recommend that you hire someone and the first three days, break it up. Three, by the way, is a magical number for me. I love everything in series of threes. So three is easy to remember, three things versus five or even four, right? So three days in each role. And have that person that's learning write down the most impact. What did you learn in these three days sitting with a hygienist? Or what do you want to know more about? This will spark their curiosity. Don't give them a script. Allow them to of grasp the topics and let their curiosity ⁓ be the lead. Take the lead on. Here's what I want to know more about, or I don't really understand this, or gosh, I didn't know that, right? ⁓ And that goes for experienced employees or people that are new to the industry, right? That's my recommendation. Allow them to spend three days in every single role, like the journey of onboarding, right? Like, I think it's super valuable. And then... ⁓ The Dental A Team (17:33) Yeah. Fisher. Monica Gomez (17:53) Again, they could be kind of co-creating your manual with you because what they bring back, the knowledge that they bring back, chances are somebody else is going to have that same curiosity or those same questions, right? Yeah, I think that's a really simple tip. And those also that feedback could be part of your 30, 60, 90 day growth plans. And here's what you're really great at, right? I always like to look at The Dental A Team (18:05) Yeah. Monica Gomez (18:23) Think about the growth plan like a sandwich, right? Like there's the beginning, the middle, and the end. And so here's where you are, right? ⁓ Here's where, ⁓ actually, here's your role. Here's where you currently are, and here's where we would like for you to be. And like, what are the steps to get there, right? That should be part of your growth plan, your 30, 60, 90 day growth plan, along with the job description. Yeah, I think, you know, using the job description like you mentioned as a tool, right, to guide people and also for us to understand like, what are they really great at? What are they really proud of, you know, in this job role? And what do they want to know more about? I think ⁓ I ⁓ one great way to kind of get familiar with someone's knowledge, experience and their desire to grow or learn more about is take the The Dental A Team (19:04) Thank Monica Gomez (19:21) the skills and ability portion of the job role and say, tell me three things that you're really great at, that you're really proud of, that you just are an expert in. And then three things that ⁓ you wanna know more about, not weak, right? Things that you don't, let's take that, negative verb out of it, just say three things that you're curious about or three things that you wanna sharpen your skills at. That tells you a lot about their qualifications. ⁓ And I'm really an advocate of ⁓ The Dental A Team (19:24) Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yes. Monica Gomez (19:51) eliminating the over-educating and over-matching. This exercise is a great way to kind of level set who your person is, like what's in their brain, right? Like, are you curious about? So I think that's part of like the co-creation of the onboarding and the collaboration, right? This is a partnership, we're in this together. What can I do to help you help me? The Dental A Team (20:02) Yeah. Yeah. Monica Gomez (20:16) and stay. think it's intentional and it is ⁓ structured in a way that's unstructured. The Dental A Team (20:29) Yeah, for sure. And I think that what you're saying there that co-creation also makes me think of ⁓ like collaborating and co-creating with the people who are going to be doing the training. So if you're not the one who's going to be, if you're an office manager and you're not training this person hands on 100 % of the time, then enlist the team members too. So if this person's job is I don't know, front desk check-in and she or he has this laundry list of 20 different things that they've got to learn in the series of these 90 days or 30 days or however long you parcel that out for who's helping with those things and allow them to co-create too. And I think what you're saying, the three days, it's like, great, you're learning to answer the phones and confirm appointments. That's what you're doing for three days. You're answering the phone. So you're answering the phones and you're delivering that patient to whomever, right? You're transferring that patient to whomever they need and you're doing confirmation calls for three days. And then stack on top of that, anything, something you said there, the co-collaborating and the kind of doing it together, but also then enlisting outside perspectives to see what flows together. Because a lot of times our job doesn't necessarily start to end flow in this perfect, beautiful space. Sometimes it's like, well, I'm doing phones, but I'm doing emails, and I'm doing phones, but I'm checking patients out. And those are very like stark contrasting pieces. And so if we're like jumping them around or trying to do it in what a day might look like, that's very confusing. And it's overwhelming because your brain doesn't operate in that way. You can and you will and you will multitask and they will get it. But when you're learning, you've got to learn succinctly in a flow that makes sense. So you can't start with Monica Gomez (22:03) and overwhelming. The Dental A Team (22:18) checking a patient out if you also want them to be doing confirmation calls. Like you've got to find, like you said, your start, your middle and your end and making sure that those pieces flow together and having that outside perspective I think can definitely help. Something you mentioned was those like check-ins. So you're having those conversations with them. So that in itself right there, you guys, if you're not, I want you to pull these action items out too because that in itself, that's an action item. So make sure you've got job descriptions. make sure you've got some semblance of flow on the pieces that they're responsible for, and then you're checking in with them. And I think frequent check-ins are really smart. We do them in our company with onboarding and we continue them kind of as long as we possibly can forevermore. We do these check-ins because I wanna know where they're at. don't, not necessarily like, did you do this thing? I wanna know like Monica, where are you at today? ⁓ Personally, who are you and where are you at today? Like are we still in alignment because that's the space I think Especially being new to a team. I'm not gonna say I'm not always gonna say hey, I Didn't get this or hey, I need help or hey I'm falling behind or I feel overwhelmed or this is a lot because I don't want to look like I can't do it But if my manager or my lead is like, hey check in how are things going? And I'm like, I think I'm getting it. I think I need more time on this That's way better than being like, I'm overwhelmed. Like that feels better to me to be like, cool, there's space to have a conversation about this. I'm not complaining or feeling weak or looking as though I can't accomplish something. You are giving the space as a check-in to just be like, hey, tell me where you're at. Okay, great, take the space, take the time, go learn it. Or if I need to show you again, I can. Monica Gomez (24:08) Yeah, I love that. I love everything that you said. think, ⁓ you know, words create our story, right? And so if we're asking, like, how's it going? ⁓ Are you struggling with anything? ⁓ Our minds automatically go to that negative place, right? So you get to be the creator of the script. Right. And so if we're saying, Hey, by the way, I heard you answering the phone start, like, listen for the good stuff, right? The good behaviors. Gosh, you were amazing. Greeting that patient. my gosh. I am so proud of you. You are totally getting this and you know, how's everything else going? Right. If you start with that excitement and something positive, that person's already in that positive mindset and it's all about mindset. Right. And if we're concerned that they're not getting it, they're not going to get it. assume that they are, assume that they are getting it. So gosh, you are, I know you're doing amazing. Tell me all the good stuff. Start. The Dental A Team (25:10) Yeah, assume good intent, right? Always. We see that constantly. Assume good intent. I think, Monica, you saying this right here makes me think. Relationships are relationships, I say that all the time. They just look a little bit different. Like my relationship with Erin is a little bit different than my relationship with you, but my communication skills are gonna be super, they're gonna be the same with the right words, right? So I'm not gonna, communication is communication. And so what we do is we say, okay, this is how you sell a treatment plan. This is how you project to your patients to get them to schedule. And you always start with a positive. You don't ask for a review by saying, how did everything go today? You say like, oh my gosh, that seemed, you how amazing was your appointment today? Like you're infusing these words in there to get the mindset, but then we don't copy and paste that always into everything that we do. And I think how you show up for anything is how you show up for everything. So show up for your team the same as you're expecting your team to show up for your patients because that's going to translate. And if you're like, oh, it seemed like a, Gosh, today was a chaotic day, how did you do? It's always chaos, we're in dentistry. Dentistry is chaotic, your days are gonna be crazy. Life is chaotic, you're right, it's always going to be crazy. So saying that, gosh, was, woo, that was a rough day. How are you feeling? Well, I'm feeling really overwhelmed and I'm feeling like I made a really bad decision coming here. I think you're spot on is my point there. So that was beautiful, thank you. Monica Gomez (26:22) Yeah. And life is chaotic. Period, right? Life is chaotic. Yeah. And, you know, I when employees share difficult, like a difficult day, you know, like, ⁓ I had a ⁓ client last week share that their new hire said, ⁓ gosh, maybe we shouldn't, you know, ⁓ schedule two crowns back to back because that was really hard. And, you know, my back was hurting. And so, ⁓ you know, the doctor was like, she's already complaining. I'm like, well, okay. Well, how did you respond? Right. Because The Dental A Team (27:13) Yeah, yeah. Monica Gomez (27:14) Because, I mean, she's delivering something that's important. She's sharing and she feels comfortable enough to say, hey, that was really hard. That's really what she's saying. That was really hard, right? And so, you know, again, one of my favorite sayings is, you know, get curious, not furious, right? Don't look at it with the negative lens. It's a great way for you to validate, like, how important it is to be seen, and valued, right? The Dental A Team (27:43) I agree. Monica Gomez (27:43) And she was opening up because she wanted to be seen, heard, and valued. Like she wanted to be seen. Gosh, I like did those two crowns back to back. My back is hurting me. Are you even valuing that I sat there in fact, right? Even though they could have swapped off with another assistant, but she, you know, she followed him. And so, you know, and my advice was like, you should number one acknowledge that she's sharing, right? The Dental A Team (27:55) Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Monica Gomez (28:12) Thank you so much for sharing that. You're right, that was kind of hard. Let's talk about it as a team tomorrow. Let's find ways to alleviate that when this does happen, right? I mean, the patients wanted to start, like they're ready. Let's do it, right? But where were your other team members? Like, let's talk about this. And so seen, and valued. If you can make anyone new, ⁓ a new employee, an existing employee, your legacy employees, if you can make them feel and create a space where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued, that's huge. That's like you, you will, your team will love you, your patients will love you because again, it's that invisible kind of energy that's flowing through your practice, right? That creates that great space for employees to wanna stay. The Dental A Team (29:03) I agree. I totally agree. Thank you, Monica. I think this was ⁓ a really, this is just full of so many gems and ⁓ I love the actual pieces of job description, kind of the, I love your three days, spend three days on it and really just making sure you go through that job description. Look at the to-dos of that position. Enlist the team to help you. Whoever's gonna be helping to train. I had people specific on my team that were like, these are the things you just, you're stellar at and it's gonna be easy for you to train these things. They trained those. So it doesn't have to be one person. It can be whatever you want it to look like. Just make sure it's built out. You have a plan. Preschedule check-ins. I always make sure we preschedule check-ins and you guys check in with yourself too. think Monica, you gave some really wonderful tips on really making sure that we're showing up the way that we should be. or the way we want people to show up and really just gut checking and making sure that those things are there. And I loved this. Thank you, Monica. Thank you for your words of wisdom. Thank you for flowing off of it. This was perfect. This was divine. Thank you for helping set up this flow of podcasting today and for just bringing your insight and your wisdom and your years of experience of things that you've seen work and ideas. So thank you, Monica. Monica Gomez (30:17) Thanks, thanks, Tiff. This is definitely a gem for me. I have so much to share and so much, I love sharing, I love brainstorming, I love sharing what works ⁓ and all the knowledge that we, all of us have, right? This is a beautiful space for us to, you know, share that. And this was so fun. Thanks for inviting me and everyone. The Dental A Team (30:24) Yeah. Monica Gomez (30:44) Go out and be fabulous and don't forget to have fun. Have fun. The Dental A Team (30:48) Yes, I love that. Thank you. Yes. Go be fabulous. That is like Trish's famous words. I love that she says that. always, I know it always makes it just like, yep, I will. Okay. No, questions. So I love it. Go be fabulous. I agree. Drop us a five star review. Let us know what you thought about this. Let us know what onboarding tips you guys have. is an easy place to find us and. Monica Gomez (30:55) So these are the things. The Dental A Team (31:12) get recommendations or share your tips and tricks. We really do love that. And also we're on Instagram and Facebook, all of those places. So watch us there. Watch out for us there. Thursdays, once a third Thursday, we have webinars. You guys, we're everywhere. So if you're only following the podcast, check us out. Hello@TheDentalATeam.com, TheDentalATeam.com. We've got all of it listed there as well. Go find us, follow us and listen for more amazing tips from Monica and the rest of the consulting team. Thank you guys and go be fabulous. Monica Gomez (31:40) you
You can listen wherever you get your podcasts, OR— BRAND NEW: we've included a fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I speak with Shireen Rizvi, PhD and Jesse Finkelstein, PsyD, about their book Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships. We discuss what Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is, how it can help both ourselves and our kids with big feelings, and get into some of the skills it teaches including distress tolerance, check the facts, and mindfulness.**If you'd like an ad-free version of the podcast, consider becoming a supporter on Substack! > > If you already ARE a supporter, the ad-free version is waiting for you in the Substack app or you can enter the private feed URL in the podcast player of your choice.Know someone who might appreciate this post? 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No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREPodcast transcript:Sarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today we have two guests who co-authored a book called Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships.And you may be wondering why we're talking about that on a parenting podcast. This was a really great conversation with Shireen Rizvi and Jesse Finkelstein, the co-authors of the book, about all of the skills of DBT, which is a modality of therapy. We talked about the skills they teach in DBT and how we can apply them to parenting.They talk about how emotional dysregulation is the cause of so much of the pain and suffering in our lives. And I think as a parent, you will recognize that either your own emotional dysregulation or your child's is often where a lot of issues and conflict come from.So what they've really provided in this book—and given us a window into in this conversation—is how we can apply some of those skills toward helping ourselves and helping our children with big feelings, a.k.a. emotional dysregulation. It was a really wonderful conversation, and their book is wonderful too. We'll put a link to it in the show notes and encourage you to check it out.There are things you can listen to in this podcast today and then walk away and use right away. One note: you'll notice that a lot of what they talk about really overlaps with the things we teach and practice inside of Peaceful Parenting.If this episode is helpful for you, please share it with a friend. Screenshot it and send it to someone who could use some more skill-building around big emotions—whether they're our own big emotions or our child's. Sharing with a friend or word of mouth is a wonderful way for us to reach more people and more families and help them learn about peaceful parenting.It is a slow process, but I really believe it is the way we change the world. Let's meet Shireen and Jesse.Hi, Jesse. Hi, Shireen. Welcome to the podcast.Jesse: Thank you so much for having us.Sarah: Yeah. I'm so excited about your book, which I understand is out now—Real Skills for Real Life: A DBT Guide to Navigating Stress, Emotions, and Relationships. First of all, I love the format of your book. It's super easy to read and easy to use. I already thought about tearing out the pages with the flow charts, which are such great references—really helpful for anyone who has emotions. Basically anyone who has feelings.Jesse: Oh, yes.Sarah: Yeah. I thought they were great, and I think this is going to be a helpful conversation for parents. You've written from a DBT framework. Can you explain what DBT is and maybe how it's different from CBT? A lot of people have heard more about cognitive behavior therapy than dialectical behavior therapy.Shireen: Sure. I would first say that DBT—Dialectical Behavior Therapy—is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy. So they're in the same category. Sometimes we hear therapists say, “I do DBT, but I don't do CBT,” and from my perspective, that's not really possible, because the essence of dialectical behavior therapy is CBT. CBT focuses on how our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions all go together, and how changing any one of those affects the others.That's really the core of DBT—the foundation of CBT. But what happened was the person who developed DBT, Marsha Linehan—she was actually my grad school advisor at the University of Washington—developed this treatment because she was finding that standard CBT was not working as well as she wanted it to for a particular population. The group she was working with were women, primarily, who had significant problems with emotion regulation and were chronically suicidal or self-injuring.With that group, she found they needed a lot more validation—validation that things were really rough, that it was hard to change what was going on, that they needed support and comfort. But if she leaned too much on validation, patients got frustrated that there wasn't enough change happening.So what she added to standard CBT was first a focus on validation and acceptance, and then what she refers to as the dialectical piece: balancing between change and acceptance. The idea is: You're doing the best you can—and you need to do better.Jesse: Mm-hmm.Shireen: And even though DBT was developed for that very severe group that needed a lot of treatment, one of the aspects of DBT is skills training—teaching people skills to manage their emotions, regulate distress, engage interpersonally in a more effective way.Those skills became so popular that people started using them with everyone they were treating, not just people who engaged in chronic suicidal behavior.Sarah: Very cool. And I think the population you're referring to is people who might be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I bring that up only because I work with parents, not kids, and parents report to me what their children are like. I've had many parents worry, “Do you think my child has borderline personality disorder?” because they've heard of it and associate it with extreme sensitivity and big feelings.A lot of that is just typical of someone who's 13 or 14, right? Or of a sensitive child—not diagnosable or something you'd necessarily find in the DSM. I've heard it so many times. I say, “No, I don't think your child has borderline personality disorder. I think they're just really sensitive and haven't learned how to manage their big feelings yet. And that's something you can help them with.”With that similar level of emotional intensity—in a preteen or early teen who's still developing the brain structures that make self-regulation possible—how can we use DBT skills? What are a couple of ideas you might recommend when you have a 13-year-old who feels like life is ruined because the jeans they wanted to wear are soaking wet in the wash? And I'm not making fun—at 13, belonging is tied to how you look, what jeans you're wearing, how your hair is. It feels very real.So how might we use the skills you write about for that kind of situation?Jesse: Well, Sarah, I actually think you just practiced one of the skills: validation. When someone feels like their day is ruined because of their jeans, often a parent will say, “Get over it. It's not a big deal.” And now, in addition to fear or anxiety, there's a layer of shame or resentment. So the emotion amplifies and becomes even harder to get out of.Validation is a skill we talk about where you recognize the kernel of truth—how this experience makes sense. “The jeans you're wearing are clearly important to you. This is about connection. I understand why you feel this way.” That simple act of communicating that someone's thoughts and feelings make sense can be very powerful.Alongside that—back to what Shireen was saying—there are two tracks. One is the skills you help your teen practice. The other is the skills you practice yourself to be effective. In that moment, your teen might be dysregulated. What is the parent's emotion? Their urge? What skills can they practice to be effective?Sarah: I love that you already went to the next question I was going to ask, which is: when that kid is screaming, “You don't understand, I can't go to school because of the jeans,” what can parents do for themselves using the skills you describe?Shireen: I often think of the oxygen-mask analogy: put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. That was certainly true for me when I had fussy infants—how do you manage that stress when you are already heightened?What do you need to do to regulate yourself so you can be effective in the moment? Sometimes that's literally taking a time-out—leaving the room for a minute. The kid comes after you about the jeans, and you say, “Hold on, I need a minute.” You sequester yourself in the bathroom. You do paced breathing—a DBT skill that helps regulate your nervous system. You do that for a minute, get centered, and then return to the situation.If you're not regulated and your child is dysregulated, you'll ping-pong off each other and it becomes messier and messier. But if you can regulate yourself and approach calmly, the whole interaction changes.Sarah: It's so interesting because people who've been listening to my podcast or know my work will think, “Oh yeah, these are the things Sarah talks about all the time.” Our first principle of peaceful parenting is parental self-regulation. It doesn't mean you never get upset, but you recognize it and have strategies to get back to calm.And I always say, if you forget everything else I teach about dealing with upset kids, just remember empathy—which is another way of saying validation. I tell parents: you don't have to agree to empathize. Especially with situations like the jeans.I love the crossover between the skills parents are practicing in my community and what you've written about. And again: those flow charts! I'm going to mark up my book with Post-its for all the exercises.One of the things you talk about in the book is problem solving. As parents, we can find ourselves in these intense situations. I'll give an example: a client's daughter, at 11 p.m., was spiraling about needing a particular pair of boots for her Halloween costume, and they wouldn't arrive in time. No matter what the mom said, the daughter spiraled.This is a two-part question: If you've validated and they're still really upset, how do you support a kid who is deep in those intense feelings? And when is the place for teaching problem solving—especially when there is a real logistical problem to solve?Jesse: I'm going to say the annoying therapist thing: it depends. If we think about how emotions impact our thinking on a scale from 0 to 10, it's very hard to engage in wise-minded problem solving when someone is at an 8, 9, or 10. At that point, the urge is to act on crisis behaviors—yell, fight, ruminate.So engaging your child in problem solving when they're at a 9 isn't effective.Often, I suggest parents model and coach distress-tolerance skills. Shireen mentioned paced breathing. Maybe distraction. Anything to lower the emotional volume.Once we're in the six-ish range? Now we can problem solve. DBT has a very prescribed step-by-step process.But it's really hard if someone is so dysregulated. That's often where parents and kids end up in conflict: parent wants to solve; kid is at a 9 and can't even see straight.Sarah: Right. So walk us through what that might look like using the boots example. Play the parent for a moment.Jesse: Of course. I'd potentially do a couple of things. I might say, “Okay, let's do a little ‘tipping the temperature' together.” I'd bring out two bowls of ice and say, “We'll bend over, hold our breath for 30 seconds…”Shireen: And put your face in the bowl of ice water. You left out that part.Jesse: Crucial part of the step.Sarah: You just look at the ice water?Jesse: No, you submerge your face. And something happens—it's magical. There's actually a profound physiological effect: lowering blood pressure, calming the sympathetic nervous system.I highlight for parents: do this with your child, not didactically. Make it collaborative.And then: validate, validate, validate. Validation is not approval. It's not saying the reaction is right. It's simply communicating that their distress makes sense. Validation is incredibly regulating.Then you check in: “Do you feel like we can access Wise Mind?” If yes: “Great. Let's bring out a problem-solving worksheet—maybe from Real Skills for Real Life or the DBT manual. Let's walk through it step by step.”Sarah: And if you have a kid screaming, “Get that ice water away from me, that has nothing to do with the boots!”—is there anything to add beyond taking a break?Shireen: I'd say this probably comes up a lot for you, Sarah. As parents—especially high-functioning, maybe perfectionistic types (I put myself in that category)—if my kid is upset, I feel so many urges to fix it right away. Sometimes that's helpful, but often it's not. They either don't want to be fixed, or they're too dysregulated, or fixing isn't actually their goal—they just want to tell you how upset they are.I have to practice acceptance: “My kid is upset right now. That's it.” I remind myself: kids being upset is part of life. It's important for them to learn they can be upset and the world doesn't fall apart.If they're willing to do skills alongside you, great. But there will be times where you say, “I accept that you're upset. I'm sorry you feel this way. It sounds terrible. Let's reconnect in an hour.” And wait for the storm to pass.Sarah: Wait for the storm to pass.Jesse: I'll say—I haven't been a therapist that long, and I've been having this conversation with my own parents. Yesterday I called my mom about something stressful, and she said, “Jesse, do you want validation or problem solving right now?”Shireen: Love it.Jesse: I thought, “You taught her well.” I was like: okay, therapy works. And even having that prompt—“What would you like right now? Problem solving? Validation? Do you want me to just sit with you?”—that's so useful.Sarah: Yeah. I have to remind myself of that with my daughter, especially when the solution seems obvious to me but she's too upset to take it in. Just sitting there is the hardest thing in the world.And you've both anticipated my next question. A big part of your book is distress tolerance—one of the four areas. Can you talk about what distress tolerance is specifically? And as you mentioned, Shireen, it is excruciating when your kid is in pain or upset.I learned from my friend Ned Johnson—his wonderful book The Self-Driven Child—that there's something called the “righting instinct.” When your child falls over, you have the instinct to right them—pick them up, dust them off, stand them up. That instinct kicks in whenever they're distressed. And I think it's important for them to learn skills so we don't do that every time.Give us some thoughts about that.Shireen: Well, again, I think distress tolerance is so important for parents and for kids. The way we define it in DBT is: distress tolerance is learning how to tolerate stressful, difficult, complicated situations without doing anything to make it worse. That's the critical part, because distress tolerance is not about solving problems. It's about getting through without making things worse.So in the context of an interaction with your kid, “not making it worse” might mean biting your tongue and not lashing out, not arguing, not rolling your eyes, or whatever it is. And then tolerating the stress of the moment.As parents, we absolutely need this probably a thousand times a day. “How do I tolerate the distress of this moment with my kid?” And then kids, as humans, need to learn distress tolerance too—how to tolerate a difficult situation without doing anything to make it worse.If we swoop in too quickly to solve the problem for them—as you said, if we move in too quickly to right them—they don't learn that they can get through it themselves. They don't learn that they can right themselves.And I think there's been a lot written about generations and how parenting has affected different generations. We want our kids to learn how to problem solve, but also how to manage stress and difficulty in effective ways.Sarah: I think you're probably referring to the “helicopter parents,” how people are always talking about helicopter parents who are trying to remove any obstacles or remove the distress, basically.I think the answer isn't that we just say, “Okay, well, you're distressed, deal with it,” but that we're there with them emotionally while they're learning. We're next to them, right? With that co-regulation piece, while they're learning that they can handle those big feelings.Shireen: Yes. Yeah. Yeah.Sarah: I thought it might be fun, before we close out, to do a deep dive on maybe one or two of the skills you have in the book. I was thinking about maybe “Check the Facts.” It would be a cool one to do a deep dive on. You have so many awesome skills and I encourage anyone to pick up your book. “Check the Facts” is one of the emotion regulation skills.Do you mind going over when you would use Check the Facts, what it is, and how to use it?Jesse: Not at all. Check the Facts is, in many ways, a foundational skill, because it's so easy for us to get lost in our interpretation of a situation. So the classic example is: you're walking down the street and you wave to a friend, and they don't wave back. And I don't know about you, but it's easy for me to go to, “Oh, they must be mad at me.”Sarah: Right, yeah.Jesse: And all of a sudden, I'm spinning out, thinking about all the things I could have done to hurt their feelings, and yada yada yada. Then I'm feeling lots of upset, and I may have the urge to apologize, etc.What we're doing with Check the Facts is returning our attention back to the facts themselves—the things we can take in with our senses. We're observing and describing, which are two foundational mindfulness skills in DBT. And then from that, we ask ourselves: “Does the emotion I'm feeling—the intensity and duration of that emotion—fit the facts as I'm experiencing them?”So in many ways, this is one of those cognitive interventions. DBT rests on all these cognitive-behavioral principles; it's part of that broader umbrella. Here we're asking: “Do the facts as I see them align with my emotional experience?”From there, we ask: if yes, then there are certain options or skills we can practice—for instance, we can change the problem. If no, that begs the question: “Should I act opposite to this emotion urge that I have?”So it's a very grounding, centering type of skill. Shireen, is there anything I'm missing?Shireen: No. I would just give a parenting example that happens for me a lot. My kid has a test the next day. He says he knows everything. He doesn't open the book or want to review the study guide. And I start to think things like, “Oh my gosh, he has no grit. He's going to fail this test. He's not going to do well in high school. He's not going to get into a good college. But most importantly, he doesn't care. And what does that say about him? And what does it say about me as a parent?”I hope people listening can relate to these sorts of thoughts and I'm not alone.Sarah: A hundred percent. I've heard people say those exact things.Shireen: And even though I practice these skills all the time, I'm also human and a mother. So where Check the Facts can be useful there is first just recognizing: “Okay, what thoughts am I having in response to this behavior?” The facts of the situation are: my kid said he doesn't need to study anymore. And then look at all these thoughts that came into my mind.First, just recognizing: here was the event, and here's what my mind did. That, in and of itself, is a useful experience. You can say, “Wow, look at what I'm doing in my mind that's creating so much of a problem.”Then I can also think: “What does this make me feel when I have all these thoughts?” I feel fear. I feel sad. I feel shame about not being a good parent. And those all cause me to have more thoughts and urges to do things that aren't super effective—like trying to bully him into studying, all of these things.Then the skill can be: “Okay, are these thoughts exaggerated? Are they based in fact? Are they useful?” I can analyze each of these thoughts.I might think, “Well, he has a history of not studying and doing fine,” is one thing. Another thought: “Me trying to push him to study is not going to be effective or helpful.” Another: “There are natural consequences. If he doesn't do well because he didn't study, that's an important lesson for him to learn.”So I can start to change my interpretations based on the facts of the actual situation as opposed to my exaggerated interpretations. And then see: what does that do to my emotions? And when I have more realistic, fact-based thoughts, does that lead me to have a better response than I would if I followed through on all my exaggerated thinking?Does that make sense?Sarah: Yeah, totally makes sense. Are there any DBT skills that are helpful in helping you recognize when you need to use a skill—if that makes sense? Because sometimes I think parents might spiral, like in the example you're talking about, but they might not even realize they're spiraling. Sometimes parents will say, “I don't even know until it's too late that I've had this big moment of emotional dysregulation.”Jesse: I think there's a very strong reason why mindfulness is the foundation of DBT—for exactly the reason you've just described. For a lot of us, we end up engaging in behaviors that are ineffective, that are not in line with our values or goals, and it feels like it's just happening to us.So having a mindfulness practice—and I want to highlight that doesn't necessarily mean a formal meditation practice—but developing the skill of noticing, of being increasingly conscious of what you're feeling, your urges, your thoughts, your behaviors. So that when you notice that you are drifting, that you're engaging in an ineffective behavior, you can then apply a skill. We can't change what we're not aware of.Sarah: I love that. It's so hard with all the distractions we have and all of the things that are pulling us this way and that, and the busyness. So just slowing down and starting to notice more what we're feeling and thinking.Shireen: There's a skill that we teach that's in the category of mindfulness called Wise Mind. I don't have to get into all the particulars of that, but Wise Mind is when you're in a place where you feel wise and centered and perhaps a little bit calmer.So one question people can ask themselves is: “Am I in a place of Wise Mind right now?” And if not, that's the cue. Usually, when we answer that we're not, it's because we're in a state of Emotion Mind, where our emotions are in control of us.First, recognizing what state of mind you're in can be really helpful. You can use that as a cue: “I'm not in Wise Mind. I need to do something more skillful here to get there,” or, “I need to give myself some time before I act.”Sarah: I love that. So helpful. Before we wrap up, was there anything you wish I'd asked you that you think would be really helpful for parents and kids?Shireen: I just want to reiterate something you said earlier, which is: yes, this treatment was developed for folks with borderline personality disorder. That is often a diagnosis people run screaming from or are very nervous about. People might hesitate to think that these skills could be useful for them if they don't identify as having borderline personality disorder.But I think what you're highlighting, Sarah—and we so appreciate you having us on and talking about these skills—is that we consider these skills universal. Really anybody can benefit.I've done training and teaching in DBT for 25 years, and I teach clinicians in many different places how to do DBT treatment with patients. But inevitably, what happens is that the clinicians themselves say, “Oh, I really need these skills in my everyday life.”So that's what we want to highlight, and why we wrote this book: to take these skills from a treatment designed for a really severe population and break it down so anybody can see, “Oh, this would be useful for me in my everyday life, and I want to learn more.”Sarah: Totally. Yeah. I love it. And I think it's a continuum, right? From feeling like emotions are overwhelming and challenging, and being really emotionally sensitive. There are lots of people who are on that more emotionally sensitive side of things, and these are really helpful skills for them.Jesse: Yeah. And to add on that, I wouldn't want anyone—and I don't think any of us here are suggesting this—it's such a stigmatized diagnosis. I have yet to meet someone who's choosing suffering. Many of us are trying to find relief from a lot of pain, and we may do so through really ineffective means.So with BPD, in my mind, sometimes it's an unfortunate name for a diagnosis. Many folks may have the opinion that it means they're intrinsically broken, or there's something wrong with their personality. Really, it's a constellation of behaviors that there are treatments for.So I want anyone listening not to feel helpless or hopeless in having this diagnosis or experience.Shireen: Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.Sarah: Thank you so much. The question I ask all my guests—I'll ask Shireen first and then Jesse—is: if you could go back in time, if you had a time machine, if you could go back to your younger parent self, what advice would you give yourself?Shireen: Oof. I think about this a lot, actually, because I feel like I did suffer a lot when my kids were babies. They were super colicky. I didn't sleep at all. I was also trying to work. I was very stressed. I wish that at that time I could have taken in what other people were telling me, which is: “This will pass.” Right? “This too shall pass,” which is something we say to ourselves as DBT therapists a lot. Time changes. Change is inevitable. Everything changes.In those dark parenting moments, you get stuck in thoughts of, “This is never going to change. It's always going to be this way. I can't tolerate this.” Instead, shifting to recognize: “Change is going to happen whether I like it or not. Just hang in there.”Sarah: I love that. My mother-in-law told me when I had my first child: “When things are bad, don't worry, they'll get better. And also, when things are good, don't worry, they'll get worse.”Shireen: Yes, it's true. And we need both the ups and the downs so we can actually understand, “Oh, this is why I like this, and this is why I don't like this.” It's part of life.Sarah: Yeah. Thank you. And Jesse, if you do ever have children, what would you want to remember to tell yourself?Jesse: I think I would want to remember to tell myself—and I don't think I'm going to say anything really new here—that perfection is a myth. I think parents often feel like they need to be some kind of superhuman. But we all feel. And when we do feel, and when we feel strongly, the goal isn't to shame ourselves for having that experience. It's to simply understand it.That's what I would want to communicate to myself, and what I hope to communicate to the parents I work with.Sarah: Love that. Best place to go to find out more about you all and what you do? We'll put a link to your book in the show notes, but any other socials or websites you want to point people to?Shireen: My website is shireenrizvi.com, where you can find a number of resources, including a link to the book and a link to our YouTube channel, which has skills videos—animated skills videos that teach some of these skills in five minutes or less. So that's another resource for people.Sarah: Great. What about you, Jesse?Jesse: I have a website called axiscbt.com. I'm also a co-founder of a psychoeducation skills course called Farrah Hive, and we actually have a parenting course based on DBT skills—that's thefarrahhive.com. And on Instagram, @talk_is_good.Sarah: Great. Thank you so much. Really appreciate your time today.Jesse: Thank you, Sarah.Sarah: Thank you. This is a public episode. 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In November 2024, a woman identified as Jane Doe filed a lawsuit against Sean "Diddy" Combs, alleging that he sexually assaulted her on Halloween night in 2001. According to the complaint, the plaintiff, then 18 years old, attended a Halloween party in New York City, where she was escorted by one of Combs' security guards to a black SUV limousine. Inside the vehicle, she alleges that after consuming a drink, she began to feel dizzy, and Combs, along with his security team, forced her to perform oral sex on them. During the assault, Combs allegedly called her derogatory names and sprayed champagne on her. She claims she was not allowed to leave the limo until she complied with their demands.This lawsuit is part of a series of legal challenges Combs has faced in recent times, with multiple individuals accusing him of sexual misconduct spanning over two decades. Combs' representatives have not publicly responded to these specific allegations. The plaintiff is represented by attorney Tony Buzbee, who is also handling several other cases against Combs. The legal proceedings are ongoing, and further developments are anticipated as the case progresses.(commercial at 7:36)to contact me:bobbycapucci@protonmail.comsource:gov.uscourts.nysd.632024.1.0.pdf
Welcome to our completely timely Halloween episode! We have spooks, goofs, and yes, even spoofs!
Welcome aboard the Traveling Groomers Podcast! In this episode, hosts Chris Anthony and Mary Oquendo dive into the realities of wrapping up the year as professional groomers, pet stylists, and canine cosmetologists. As the holiday rush winds down, they share insight on taking a moment to breathe, assess your business, and make plans for the year ahead. Drawing parallels to the changing seasons and lessons learned from the pandemic, they discuss how to adapt to economic shifts, streamline your operations, and, most importantly, why having a coach is an investment in your success—not just an expense. You'll also hear candid stories about travel mishaps, client cancellations, and the importance of self-care. Plus, join in as they swap tales from the Rocky Mountain show—Halloween costumes, local adventures, and unforgettable moments with their grooming community. Whether you're prepping for the new year or recharging for another busy season, this episode is packed with practical advice, heartfelt anecdotes, and a few fun tangents to keep you smiling. So grab your travel mug and climb aboard—the Traveling Groomers Podcast is ready to roll!
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A little late for Halloween, but here we are to haunt you with dreadful tales of garage sessions gone awry, project cars curses, and mechanical goblins sure to rend your soul from its meaty carapace. Enjoy.
Do the holidays or family/friend gatherings make you anxious? Does your young person exit the room when families gather? Does your spiritual journey make you vulnerable to deep emotionality when family and friends gather on special occasions, holidays and events? Do you notice a shift in your young person during these times?Join this illuminating and practically helpful conversation with Brett Cotter of www.stressisgone.com and www.stressisgone.org on THE SOULFAM PODCAST. Here we navigate intense holiday and special event moments...be it Halloween, a football game, Thanksgiving or any family/friend gathering. Intense emotionality or realizations which are a normal part of your awakening/remembering journey can be surprisingly painful or illuminating. Brett, whose work with individuals, families, first responders and veterans, is transformative for more than two decades shares his methodology for deep connection and understanding of your own memories, emotions, timeline collapse moments that can escalate your sense of anxiousness, anger or sadness. Cotter, who also works closely with families and organizations with regard to suicide and suicide prevention, shares his remedies for quiet yet intensely valuable opportunities to connect with your young person. As we live in a digital age of social media, internet and cell phone relationships, the opportunity for human to human engagement becomes limited and less likely to happen. How easy it is to receive a dopamine hit from texting and scrolling than talking, voicing, experiencing and physically being active whether an adult or young person. Yet the rate of suicide is on the rise for people as young as 12 with October being a typical month of increase. Time and presence is the answer says Cotter. Utilizing open communication through empathic body language...as shared in this conversation....and an interest in your young person's world can close the chasm of distance and isolation. Often parents, caretakers or guardians find themselves experiencing their own stress when young people act out or show dissenting interest in their opinions or values. Instead, Cotter suggests a sense of openness and allowance without sharing your own personal stress, in order to give your young person a sense of safety. Cotter also touches on the sensitive topic of suicide and offers a suicide prevention workshop for caretakers and parents in November. Should you or someone you know be engaged in suicidal thought, fantasy, ideation or plans, please contact LIFELINE at 988 via cell or text. For more information about Brett's upcoming workshops, retreats, sessions and membership services, check out www.stressisgone.com, or if you are a first responder or military veteran, check out Brett's non-profit services at www.stressisgone.org. May the holidays and all gatherings be a blessing, an adventure and an opportunity to propel your journey to greater ascension and connection with your highest self. #spirituality #consciousness #ascension #manifestation #988 #lifeline #teens #social media #relationships #healing Support the show@dianamarcketta
As a Hollywood screenwriter Michael Ashley sold the hit Halloween movie Girl Vs Monster to Disney—which launched a successful kids' toy line. Before this, he worked in development for the head of the literary department at Creative Artists Agency (CAA), the biggest talent agency in the world. Pivoting to literary publishing, he now owns and operates a creative content agency, turning his clients thought leaders by writing their books, articles, and speeches.Michael has co-written 5 books on AI, including Own the AI Revolution, published by McGraw Hill and Neuromined: Triumphing Over Tyranny, named best technology book of the year by Indie Awards. The creator of The AI Philosopher podcast/Substack, Michael serves as a Forbes columnist on AI. His writing has been featured in Fox Sports, Entertainment Weekly, the United Nations' ITU News, and Yahoo! Finance. Michael also helps companies make the leap to AI by providing hands-on integration. If you want to literally touch grass we mention Travis Johnson's company in this episode:https://www.northwestsurvivalschool.com/
I'm always asking questions. The fun begins when you start researching for answers. Such as… Why does it feel like we eat more food and sweet between Halloween and New Years Day? Plus…facing your lifelong goal of seeking out all things delicious. I'm Arroe… I am a daily writer. A silent wolf. I stand on the sidelines and do nothing but watch, listen study then activate. I call it The Daily Mess. A chronological walk through an everyday world. Yes, it's my morning writing. As a receiver of thoughts and ideas, we as people tend to throw it to the side and deal with it later. When a subject arrives, I dig in. It's still keeping a journal! By doing the research the picture becomes clearer. This is the Daily Mess…Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-unplugged-totally-uncut--994165/support.
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I'm always asking questions. The fun begins when you start researching for answers. Such as… Why does it feel like we eat more food and sweet between Halloween and New Years Day? Plus…facing your lifelong goal of seeking out all things delicious. I'm Arroe… I am a daily writer. A silent wolf. I stand on the sidelines and do nothing but watch, listen study then activate. I call it The Daily Mess. A chronological walk through an everyday world. Yes, it's my morning writing. As a receiver of thoughts and ideas, we as people tend to throw it to the side and deal with it later. When a subject arrives, I dig in. It's still keeping a journal! By doing the research the picture becomes clearer. This is the Daily Mess…Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-like-it-s-live--4113802/support.
In this episode of the Step Up Podcast, Pastor Chris Kouba and host Josh Thomas tackle the tension every man feels between the fear of God and the fear of man. Starting with Halloween, haunted houses, spiders, and flying cockroaches, they move into a deeper conversation about why not all fear is bad—and how a healthy fear can actually lead to courage, wisdom, and confidence, while unhealthy fear keeps you paralyzed.Looking at the story of Joshua and Caleb and the ten spies in Numbers 13, Pastor Chris contrasts people-pleasing, image-management, and comfort-seeking with a life anchored in conviction and the fear of the Lord. From work integrity, to pornography, to dads holding the line on phones, budgets, and boundaries at home, this episode invites men to step out of people-pleasing and into the freedom of living before an audience of One.If you've ever felt muted, stuck, or scared of what others will think, this conversation will help you name your fears, take one obedient next step, and model courageous conviction for your kids and the people you lead. To find out more about Pastor Chris, follow him on all the social platforms (@ckouba) and to connect with the ministry of United City visit https://unitedcity.church. Show NotesFollow on Instagram: @stepup.podcastFollow United City: @untdcitychurchConnect with Pastor Chris: http://chriskouba.comMore About United City: https://unitedcity.church/
BOSSes, Anne Ganguzza and her superpower co-host, Lau Lapides, dive into the non-negotiable reality of voiceover demo production. The bosses address why many voice actors—especially those starting out—try to cut corners on their demos, despite the demo being the primary portfolio piece used to land agents and get work. This episode provides essential, current advice on what makes a demo effective, what red flags to avoid, and how to manage the realistic expectations of investing in a long-term voice acting career. 00:03 - Anne (Host) Hey guys, it's Anne Ganguzza here. Are you ready to find your life purpose and live a happier, more fulfilling life? My coaching services can help you discover your true passions and align them with your goals. Let's start that journey today. Visit anneganguzza.com for more information. 00:31 - Speaker 2 (Announcement) It's time to take your business to the next level, the boss level. These are the premier business owner strategies and successes being utilized by the industry's top talent today. Rock your business like a boss a VO boss. Now let's welcome your host, Anne Ganguzza. 00:45 - Anne (Host) Hey, hey, everyone, welcome to the VO Boss podcast and the Boss Superpower Series. I'm your host, Anne Ganguzza, and I'm here with the lovely Miss Lala Pita. Hey, we're back, and better than ever. Annie, I'm so glad to be back with you. We are back. Ah Lala, it's been a week, oh my gosh, it's been a week. 01:06 It's been kind of a crazy year so far, hasn't it? It has, I mean, it's just been a little chaotic. I've dealt with a lot of students recently who come to me that want coaching, but before they want to get coaching, they want me to listen to their demos, and so I'll have a quick listen. I mean, I do an actual, I have an actual like process where, if you want half an hour of my time, I'll actually evaluate your demo spot by spot and give you tips. And I like the fact that I offer it as a service because I don't want people to think I'm just here to sell them demos. 01:42 Yeah, of course, but I listen to a lot of demos that are self-produced and demos that have no production under them, and then demos that have a lot of production under them. And you know, I know it's a topic that you know we tend to talk about quite a bit, all about demos. But demos are just so darn important because it really is the product by which you get hired a lot of times. I mean, in addition to auditions, of course, you know, because the client always wants to hear you know your voice with their brand, but really to get your foot in the door. In a lot of places, that demo that showcases what your voice sounds like in the genre in which you want to work is so important. And it's interesting how many times I'll talk to a student who wants to kind of cut the corners on that and they don't have the money. And yet the demos that I'm hearing are not doing them any favors and not getting them any work. Right. 02:39 - Lau (Host) And there's so many tips you and I could like give about the do's and don'ts of demos, but I think it changed, like what's trending now and the faux pas that are happening are happening, that are a little bit newer these days and it's good to talk about and especially. 02:55 - Anne (Host) I like your angle from—I have my angle from the non-broadcast side and I want to hear your angle from the broadcast side. How much are demos being used to cast people? How much do the demos count when you're listening to that in comparison to the auditions? Talk to me about the casting process and how often are demos being used for that? That's a great question. That's a great question. 03:20 - Lau (Host) You know, the anecdote that I come up with is, or the analogy I come up with is, reminds me of college. College was always a necessity for people who are going into white collar careers. Ok, nowadays it's a little bit different. 03:36 - Anne (Host) Do you? 03:37 - Lau (Host) need a college degree to go into many careers. Maybe not, probably not, but when you earn a college degree, oftentimes it says to an employer that you've gone to the highest level of due diligence in your education and that, to me, oftentimes, is what demos represent. Sometimes you literally don't need demos, like literally, we won't be submitting your demo to a client On the most literal basis, I will not be sending your client 98% of the time to our clients, but it shows us that you are a working, professional, high-level industry talent. So there's a screening. 04:13 - Anne (Host) And that you take your career seriously. I think you take your investment seriously. 04:17 - Lau (Host) There's a screening to that it's a portfolio piece, sure. So I would say, yes, you do need it, but no, you do not need it for every single individual job that comes through, because they're going to be demo reads on the scripts. 04:30 - Anne (Host) Now I'm going to counter that, because you are speaking from the broadcast sense of the word. Typically, because you cast a lot for commercials and broadcast style jobs. For non-broadcast, which is a lot of the industry as well, demos can sit on your website and be available 24-7. When you don't have time to audition, and that is the biggest point that I'd like to make is that if you do not have an audition, they sit on your website as a portfolio, as a demonstration of what it is that your voice sounds like, and it can be a way to get your foot in the door. 05:04 If somebody hears that demo and then they're like, oh, I like that voice, and then maybe they want you to audition or it just it allows people to kind of sample the product, sample the product before they decide if they want to hire you, and I think that it's a very valuable piece to have on a website. So if you're a talent that's going to do not I mean I don't know any talent that just does broadcast I mean maybe some it's a very tiny few that just do broadcast, but that doesn't do non-broadcast as well. So I feel like that demo as a portfolio. I remember when you used to go on job interviews and you had to have things in your portfolio. 05:44 I mean, I did when I went on job interviews. 05:46 - Speaker 2 (Announcement) I had a portfolio. I did too, yes. 05:48 - Anne (Host) And this is really your portfolio and I think just like— Totally agree as anything right. Presentation is everything I'm all about. Presentation, yeah, Do you know what I mean? I do? Presentation in marketing, presentation in the way you dress, presentation where you present yourself to people. I think presentation for your product is important and that is your demo. 06:11 - Lau (Host) And thank you for qualifying that, because I was speaking from a commercial mindset and it is great to have it on your website. You really should have those on your website because you're going to get private clients, you're going to get audiobook clients, you're going to get all sorts of potential clients that need to hear samples of your work. In my world, every day I will ask for submissions, commercial demo submissions for the agency but how much we're actually using them in-house once we've accepted you into the agency? 06:43 - Anne (Host) is getting minimal. But you need one to get into the agency. Is that correct? For the most part, yeah, you do. 06:49 - Lau (Host) You do because otherwise we would just have you do random reads which we want to hear produced reads. So it makes sense to absolutely have that commercial demo. But be careful, like and we'll talk about that some of the tips about like what is in that that is working on your behalf and what is working against you. 07:08 - Anne (Host) Yeah, yeah. 07:09 Right, I mean, there, you know I'm going to say, first of all, anything that is not produced right. First of all, I mean we can talk the DIY. I mean the DIY is not typically produced because, again, you need, like, if you're going to put music under it, sound effects, you need a license for that to be, you know, to legally. You know, put something on your website and I feel like, if it's not produced, then it kind of tells people that you're just there in your home studio with a mic and you didn't want to put any sound effects or music under it, and so therefore, it's kind of like a half-finished product to me. Yes, and yes, it showcases your voice, but it also showcases that maybe you could be a hobbyist or that you are not making the investment to create a produced sample, which I think is important because, again, you know, it's everything. I mean the client needs to hear what your voice will sound like in a fully produced spot, I believe that I agree, and you know what I do. 08:06 - Lau (Host) When we're looking at bringing new talent, I typically make a habit of saying who produced your demo? 08:11 Now, a lot of agents won't ask that, but I do because I know the producers and I know who's who. So I'll ask them who produced your demo? That'll tell me one thing and then, well, they certainly have to send me a commercial demo. I find one of the biggest problems out there is they're sending me the wrong demo. They're sending me, say, you know, an animation demo, character demo, which I love because we're doing more animation jobs, but the bread and butter is still the commercial for most of us. And so you have to really target, like who are you sending your portfolio to and who are their clients, what kind of work do they represent? And send them the right demo, send them the most appropriate demo. Don't assume oh, I have four other demos, is that good enough? 08:52 - Anne (Host) Well, yeah, I mean like a corporate demo. 08:55 You're like you need a commercial demo first and foremost because that's where you as an agent make your money right In the broadcast, but non-broadcast but it's not to say that your agent won't hire you for a corporate job. 09:11 It's nice to have that corporate demo. I'm going to say that the rest of the demos outside of your commercial demo or anything that's broadcast like promo or animation, even to have those non-broadcast demos is also equally as important to have on your website and to also deliver to your agent as a secondary demo, because you know they want to see that you can be versatile and you're not just a one-trick pony, uh, sort of deal, and and those demos should be should be produced properly. Basically, I'll tell you, though produced properly just as important to have a produced, even though e-learning I have people that will say to me yeah, but e-learning, you don't typically have music under e-learning. I'm have people that will say to me yeah, but e-learning, you don't typically have music under e-learning. I'm like, look, it's not about that for your demo, it's about the presentation it's about. I would much rather hear your voice in an e-learning module with a little bit of music underneath it because it helps. 09:55 It's like putting lipstick on it's just saying right, it finishes it off, it creates a nice sound and there are a lot of e-learning believe it finishes it off, it creates a nice sound, and there are a lot of e-learning believe it or not modules that do have music under them, even though a lot of them won't. 10:10 - Lau (Host) But I'll tell you what blows me away. 10:11 - Anne (Host) Medical, the same thing. Medical is the same thing. I'll tell you what blows me away, though. 10:16 - Lau (Host) How many talent we have submit to the agency for acceptance that don't have commercial demos. 10:30 - Anne (Host) And. 10:30 - Lau (Host) I say you know, I appreciate you sending me other demos, but where's your commercial demo? And they say oh, I'm saving up for it and I'm planning it next year. 10:33 And I'm like, well, then come back to me then, yeah, yeah, because that's what I need to hear. That's how specific we get in terms of having you understand what a commercial delivery is. We need to know that you understand and that you're making the investment in it as well. I think that that's really, really important. You know, one of the big sort of mistakes that I've heard recently and we've been talking about this forever, but it's been a real problem recently I was involved with a corporate casting just the other day and within the agency now these are the talent that are accepted within the agency I'm getting demo after demo, commercial demo, because they were asking for commercial demos. 11:11 They weren't even asking for reads on the script yet and, as I remembered them, I had to listen to the first like 10 seconds of the demo. They were so hyped, pitchy, selly, like over the top, wild crazy. You know big car sales and I'm thinking to myself Most of the stuff we do is really not that. Yeah. Yeah, it's much more of an earthy delivery, much more of a real delivery, and a lot of them got ditched in terms of not being submitted, just because of that it amazes me that demo producers, I think that you know. 11:45 - Anne (Host) Then you're shopping around for a demo producer. I think your demo producer needs to be current and relevant. And so when you're shopping for a producer for your demo, that you listen to other demos that are produced by them and hopefully you've done your homework beforehand and listen, like if you're going to get a commercial demo, listen to what commercials are out there lately, and not, I mean, even on the radio, right where I think radio is a little bit more dynamic, a little more, you know, focused on the voice, because there's no media outside of music behind it. I feel like you can be a little bit more dynamic with your acting, but even then it's not so high-pitched. And yeah, the car ads, yes, some of them are. 12:28 - Lau (Host) And the sound effects. Like I don't know if talent realized. We don't want to hear tons of sound effects in your first read or two. You want to hear it. So one more thing, annie, I just want to mention. I forgot to mention it earlier. When they're submitting to the agency, if I like them or their demo, I'll say, hey, can you submit me a couple raw reads? 12:46 - Anne (Host) I want totally raw reads and typically they love that you can gauge their studio that way. Absolutely. 12:54 - Lau (Host) And their voice. Like is that their voice? Was anything overly processed or overly? 12:59 - Anne (Host) Yeah, I think that's so important because you don't want to have the demo and that's, I think, that probably a lot of agents, if they don't ask for that, they'll know in a matter of like a couple of auditions whether or not you have the acting chops to be able to back up what you had on your demo or what might've been directed right for you on the demo. And we've talked about that a lot of times, and Cliff Zellman is famous for saying a demo is a promise, a demo is a promise, and so when you submit, a demo to someone. 13:27 you want to make sure that you can back that up, that you can produce that same sort of delivery. Maybe not You're not an audio engineer and you probably don't have a bank of music and you don't have a bed of music or sound effects but you need to be able to put that delivery to the test. Someone just sent me one of my talents. 13:45 - Lau (Host) He's so great. He just sent me a monster demo in honor of Halloween and it was so great and I said his name is Michael. 13:52 I said Michael, I'm just curious how much of this is processed. He said Lau, none of it. This is my voice. I was so impressed by that. I mean, I was like so impressed because once in a while we'll have an animation that comes through Actually more and more so now than last year and they'll look for those kinds of characters, they'll look for those kinds of sound effects, they'll look for that stuff. And just knowing he can produce that without overly being produced in a studio, just his voice is just really incredible. So I would say, put your natural stuff up front for a commercial agency, like, go as natural and real and authentic as you can up front and then do your high-pitchy stuff later in the demo. 14:34 - Anne (Host) Well, do that in a character demo, or do that in an animation demo, or do that or put it towards the end. In a demo that yeah put it in a demo, like you just told. Now see, I don't want, I don't want the bosses to get confused because you just talked about a monster demo, so monster demo is going to be different than a commercial demo. 14:50 Right, I demo. Right, I mean you're talking about, like I mean, a commercial demo. You would want to hear what it sounds like with the music underneath it. However, I think you have to be careful that you don't have something that's way overproduced and there will be some demo producers that might do that and so I think that you have to really listen with a critical ear. If you're you know. If you're shopping around for a demo producer, what do they do? What have they done recently? And sometimes it's hard when you're first starting out in voiceover because you don't know what a good demo sounds like and hopefully you know. If you've done your research on the Internet, you've heard examples of good demos versus maybe not so good demos. 15:34 And I'm like just because a demo exists doesn't mean it's a good one. 15:37 - Lau (Host) No, of course not, and I'm glad you brought that up too, because I have been really annoyed by overproduced sound effects, like, sometimes I feel like the producers, the audio engineers, the demo producers are showing off. And why do I say that? Number one, I don't need to hear a sound effect in every moment, in between words or sentences. I don't want that at all. The other thing I don't want is oh, I almost lost my train of thought. 16:04 - Anne (Host) Don't detract from the voice with the production of it. 16:07 - Lau (Host) Oh, I know what, it is Too long. So the demo producers are either, as you said, they're archaic and they don't know what they're doing and they're from 1962, or they're showing off because it's 90 seconds, it's two minutes, it's 2.15. And I'm like I'm not listening to that. 16:25 - Speaker 2 (Announcement) Who's going? 16:25 - Anne (Host) to listen to that right, but the producers are showing off. That's too long for a commercial demo. 16:31 - Lau (Host) Absolutely Way too long, way too long. 16:33 - Anne (Host) So I'm thinking today Not too long for a non-broadcast narration, though, like a minute and a half to two minutes that's. That's normal, of course not. 16:39 - Lau (Host) No, of course not, and so I would say the one another thing I see is sounding like one long read, the whole thing lacking variety, lacking change Range, and that's to me in the coaching in the direction. It's like understanding. It just can't be about the sound effects. It has to be authentically about the voice actor being able to internally shift the mood and a variety of styles too. 17:05 - Anne (Host) I hear a lot of demos with a lot of like first person dialogues in them and to me that the first person dialogue to me is kind of a kind of a cheat, because if you're going to produce because if you're going to produce somebody before they're really ready, because not every commercial is a first-person dialogue. 17:23 It's not like hey, I just went to John Camp Ford and it's not all a dialogue. There's a lot of more third-person, second-person, and so if your demo is not demonstrating that and me as a casting person, I think you also love that A lot of times demo producers will throw those first person reads in there. Like the whole demo will be a first person read and I'm like, well, that's not really showcasing the entire range of acting that I would need for a national commercial, which is not all. You're not on camera actor there. Typically it's not always first person, it's like you're talking about a pharmaceutical in the third person. So how do you sound in that? So your demo has to have the styles that are out there now and not just one style and that one style right, that first person dialogue may show a lot of characters that you can do and it can show a range of emotion, but it doesn't show your acting in something that's not written in that style. 18:19 - Lau (Host) Good point, yeah, totally good point. And what about what's, as you're saying, what's trending out there now, like I'm really tired of hearing about, you know, maybelline, mascara or Lexus, if I hear another read with some of the same products over and over again or Dove chocolate it's kind of like guys. 18:38 I know that you didn't do those commercials because I recognize the script from the online library that a million people have. So, being very careful, you don't need to have a real job on your demo. You can have studio reads, that's fine, but it has to be updated, thought out in terms of what are the trends of today, like, maybe we don't eat as much chocolate, maybe we're having, you know, sugar-free chocolate, maybe it's, you know, I don't know whatever it is, but what is trending today and what makes you sound relevant to being a working talent today versus something from five or 10 or 15 years ago? 19:16 - Anne (Host) It's so interesting that you were talking about the L'Oreal makeup read, which is, it's always that one sound, that kind of, you know that sexy kind of L'Oreal Maybelline, and so what's interesting is how has that trend changed, right? Has it changed? Are there now more or maybe different brands that are out there that are not using that particular sound? I just because I know you referenced Dove chocolate and so I was just referencing the makeup commercials as well, right, which really took a long time for them to change, and now they're slowly changing Totally. 19:49 Now they're changing, so I don't need to hear that typical read of that promo-y sound. That's right, it's nice to hear something that's different, that is relevant for today, I mean, and you know how I know a change is occurring. 20:04 - Lau (Host) It's what we said in the last podcast that we just recorded. It's about reading your specs. So, for instance, we just got specs in for a corporate audition. For instance, we just got specs in for a corporate audition and in there, as we're reading it as the agents, it says no vocal fry, please. What does that tell me? They don't care about your voice. They could care less about you. It's about that delivery of like hi, I'm talking about finance. Now I'm on a vocal fry. I can't even do it, but I'm on a vocal fry. They don't want that anymore. They want more real people, and more real people do not speak on a vocal fry, yeah. 20:42 - Anne (Host) And more real people. Right, I will say. I will say, more real young people do talk a little bit with upspeak and so that is a trend that we got. I I've been. You know I'm traditionally against that, but again, I'm doing a lot of non-broadcast narration stuff and I feel like, if you can't use upspeak yet, because even even younger people, when I, when I've I've done a lot of research in the corporate world when they're speaking publicly about their product is there's not upspeak, they're more authoritative and that, yeah, it's very interesting because, you know, I'll let it happen once in a while in a script, because if the voice is young, it's a natural occurrence and a natural tendency. But if you're in your 50s and you do upspeak, I'm not, no, it's generational, it's generational. 21:29 We don't tend to do that and you might hang out and you might have kids, you might have kids, you might have kids. That's up speak. And then that kind of affected you. However, when you're delivering a commercial on I don't know, depends Up speak. It just doesn't belong there, it just doesn't. It just doesn't so, it doesn't belong with the demo. So, understand the styles and the trends, and that's something that anybody can do for free by simply watching commercials, by simply surfing the internet and looking at corporate you know, corporate videos and there's any genre looking at animation. I mean really just study and listen to what the voices are. 22:04 - Lau (Host) I got another tip. Yeah, I got another tip about that. Gone are the days where we used to have completely separate demos for English and then another language. Now you can certainly do that and that's great, but you don't have to. If you're making a commercial demo, I love a bilingual demo or a trilingual demo. So if you speak more than one language, I need to know what it is. If you do authentic accents, I need to know what it is. 22:25 - Anne (Host) I'll even put it on a corporate demo or a medical demo because I'll put and what I'll do is maybe I'll do a dialogue spot that has you'll be talking to the younger son in English, but then you'll turn to the father, who doesn't speak English and only speak Spanish, and then have the rest of the conversation in Spanish, and that spot alone showcases that this talent is bilingual and so that works. So not just for commercial but also for non-broadcast, absolutely. 22:53 - Lau (Host) Yeah, and we're in a global world, so I know you know that ad campaign. Thank you, captain Obvious. You know that was at Travelocity or something, kayak or something. I feel like it's this one. I talk to talent. It's like Not only put your best suit forward, and forward first, but do the things that you would be cast in Like. Don't do stretch pieces, don't do like if I'm 35, don't try to do a 70-year-old piece. 23:22 - Anne (Host) Don't do that. I'm saying if you're like in your 50s, don't do a millennial read on your commercial demo. 23:29 Because, first of all, it doesn't fit. I think we were talking about this on the last podcast. It's like I don't audition for 20-something voices, even though I have a younger voice, because it's not just about the voice and the sound of it, it's about the style and it's about the authenticity of it as well. Right, which is we understand why we want authentic voices. Right, it makes sense that your life experience dictates the style and the tone and the gravitas and the subtext and the acting that goes into delivering a message. 24:01 - Lau (Host) Save it for your character demo if it's appropriate, yeah, and your coach will help you to see. If it's appropriate, put it on your character demo, right, because we're back to having adults doing kids' voices. Now for character work we are. So you know you got to keep your finger on the trends, keep your finger on the pulse of what's happening in the industry and what's going on and reflect the work that you would actually do and be cast in. 24:25 - Anne (Host) Adults doing kids' work is. There's a lot of times that tends to make it easier with the legal aspects of things. Is that not correct? Yeah? 24:34 - Speaker 2 (Announcement) It does. 24:34 - Anne (Host) So, like an adult, can work longer, can work different hours, and that also translates to on-camera as well, right Lau? Yeah, though I'll tell you we don't have as many problems in the voiceover world because the jobs tend to be quicker. 24:46 - Lau (Host) Oh, yeah, unless they're running a recurring character. They tend to be quicker. 24:58 - Anne (Host) It's more the on-camera stuff. Yeah, right, that's much harder, so we'll do 18 to play 12 or 19 to play 14, because of all the laws involved with education. Well, that's the way it's been for such a long time, right, yeah, forever, forever and ever, yeah, forever. And on camera, absolutely. 25:05 - Lau (Host) But, as you said, like you do your due diligence, you do your homework. We have to do our homework too, all the time about our industry, what's cooking, what's happening, what are the jobs in the genre we want to be going out for, and that should be reflected on your demo, not the old read from you know, the old announcer read from 1991. Right and I'm getting. 25:30 - Anne (Host) Yeah, absolutely. I mean, in addition to all that right, what should be on the demo? I just have an increasing number of people who are like, well, I can't afford my demo but or I can't afford, well, I can't afford the training, but I want to get a demo so I can start working. So it's kind of like what came first, the chicken or the egg. It it's tough because you really need the training so that you can execute and deliver the spots on your demo. That will get you the work. And so if I'm a demo producer, that's just going to direct you into those reads. By the time you get into your own studio you're not going to be able to recreate them. 26:08 - Lau (Host) And we've covered this in numerous episodes of VO Boss in that like don't come in with desperation, don't come in with no capital, don't come in at a deficit. Come in where you've got a little bit of abundance and say I want to get the most effective portfolio product that represents me, because I know I'm going to get a return on this over time if it is industry standard and represents me well, if I DIY it, you get what you pay for. 26:35 - Anne (Host) Yeah, exactly, and you know, I do have a number of students as well who say that I'm saving up for a demo, but I want to start working and so I want to get an agent. And what most people don't understand this is slightly off topic but kind of in a parallel path Most people that come into this industry not understanding that an agent primarily deals in broadcast. So you can have an e-learning demo, but you're not going to get an agent with that. You need to have a commercial demo or whatever the agent specializes in for the most part, any type of broadcast. So you can't just you have to have a great demo, a great commercial demo, to land an agent, and then, once you have an agent, that's not going to be 100% of your work, or nor should it be 100% of your work. 27:18 And so most people are like well, I'm going to direct market and I'm like, do you know how hard it is to direct market? And I'm not saying that you should, because most people right now are saying nay to the pay to plays, right, because it's like, oh, I don't like this pay to play. I feel like they're taking my money, it's hard, I can't get a job, but also you need to, you need to present yourself with opportunities and so, yes, direct marketing is great, but that's also, that is also a path that doesn't happen overnight. Direct marketing. It is very much a timing issue with direct marketing and it's going to be. 27:48 It's a marathon, not a sprint, and that can make people kind of put off and you know they're going to be frustrated, they're not going to be able to get work right away, and that's, I think, that cycle that most new people coming into the industry they go through. They have that cycle where they can't afford, like they have that illusion in their head that it's just talking behind a mic and it doesn't require a lot of work and so therefore, they can create their own demo so they can save some money and then they can start getting work right away. And unfortunately, that's just not how typically the industry works. 28:24 - Lau (Host) No, it's not. 28:24 They're going to have to adjust and really manage those unrealistic expectations those unrealistic expectations, because I'm quite certain that many, many students around the world who are going into programs to be an accountant, a doctor, a lawyer, are not coming in with tremendous amounts of money, but they have to be resourceful to figure out how to get their education so that they can train and get an internship and work their way up. And it's the same with us. We're just on a tighter timeline. We don't need to go through four years of school or eight years of college necessarily, and that's a great point. 28:56 It's a great point Most people. 28:58 - Anne (Host) they think there's no time involved. So it's like that's right, but there is some time involved. I mean, there is some training involved. But yeah, I think what a great discussion Again. Yet another discussion on demos. What a great discussion again, yet another discussion on demos. But, guys, hopefully it's one that's current and relevant now for you, those of you out there that are really thinking about getting into this career just reiterating how important your demo is in order to help you to move forward and have a career and get work broadcast, non-broadcast, whatever genre. 29:30 - Lau (Host) Yes, yes. 29:32 - Anne (Host) Fantastic. Thank you, Lau, for having this lovely conversation. I loved it. I'm going to give a great big shout out to our sponsor, ipdtl. You too can network and be like bosses and boss superpowers like Lau and myself. Find out more at IPDTLcom. Guys, have an amazing week and we'll see you next week. Bye, see you next week. 29:54 - Speaker 2 (Announcement) Join us next week for another edition of VO Boss with your host, Anne Ganguzza, and take your business to the next level. 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Hello, hello and welcome back to Greedy Bitch, the podcast for groomers who are done apologizing for wanting more. I'm your host, River Lee, founder of The Savvy Groomer — and if you're listening to this while staring at a pile of towels, brushing out a doodle, or half-living on caffeine and leftover Halloween candy… breathe with me for a second. You did it. You made it through November — the month that feels like a tug-of-war between gratitude and grind. We just survived the “Turkey Month Trifecta” — too many dogs, too many deadlines, and not nearly enough naps. Now we're staring down December — that magical, slightly unhinged season where everyone wants to be on your nice list while simultaneously acting like they belong on your naughty list. And before we dive headfirst into bows, Santa photos, and last-minute “just one more” calls, I want to pause and talk about something groomers rarely do this time of year: gratitude for ourselves. Because gratitude isn't just about your clients, your dogs, or your bookings. It's about appreciating how far you've come… and giving yourself permission to rest before the next round begins. So today, we're slowing down, taking stock, and getting real about what you're not bringing into December. You don't need to earn your rest. You've already earned it. Let's be honest — Thanksgiving gets all the hype for being the “season of gratitude,” but somewhere between the mashed potatoes and the matted doodles, most of us skipped right past it. We confuse gratitude with over-giving. We think, “I should be thankful, so I shouldn't complain. I should just push through. I should take one more client, work one more hour, or skip lunch again because — hey — at least I'm busy.” But that's not gratitude. That's burnout dressed up like Thanksgiving dinner. Gratitude isn't about ignoring your exhaustion — it's about acknowledging your effort. It's looking back at the chaos and saying, “Wow. I really did that.” You kept dogs safe. You kept clients happy. You kept your doors open, your shears sharp, and your sanity mostly intact. And if you're listening to this, that means you cared enough to keep growing — not just grooming. But here's the catch: you can't receive gratitude if you're running on empty. You can't enjoy the fruits of your labor if you're too tired to taste them. If your idea of celebrating a successful month is collapsing on the couch with take-out and scrolling through client messages you haven't answered yet… that's not success. That's survival. So let's change that. Let's talk about what it really looks like to move from grateful but exhausted to grateful and grounded. Here's what I want you to do — and yes, you can do this mentally while you groom. Think back on November. What worked? What made you proud? What left you feeling like, “That was worth it”? Maybe it was the way you handled a difficult client with calm confidence. Maybe it was finally saying “no” to that once-a-year emergency husky. Maybe it was enforcing your matting policy, or remembering to eat something green that wasn't a jolly rancher.. Now, let's look at the other side — the things that drained you. That moment when you felt resentful. That day you skipped lunch and snapped at your bather. That time you squeezed someone in “just this once” and immediately regretted it. We're not judging — we're observing. Reflection isn't about guilt; it's about data. You can't fix what you won't face. So if you noticed that your income didn't match your effort, that's not failure — that's a clue. If you noticed you're crankier with clients or shorter with your own pets at home, that's not shame — that's your body saying, “Hey, I'm done.” The best groomers aren't the busiest ones — they're the ones who listen when their energy talks back. So, what's your energy telling you right now? You know how we tell clients that matting doesn't magically go away — it only gets worse if you ignore it? Yeah, burnout's the same way. So before December starts, let's de-mat your mental space. Let's brush out what doesn't belong anymore. If you're holding onto guilt — let it go. If you're still obsessing about that one bad review or that one client you couldn't please — let it go. If you're still undercharging someone out of pity — please, for the love of your sanity, let. it. go. You are not a machine. You are not a holiday miracle worker. You are a human with limits — and that's a good thing. So here's what I want you to do this week: Pick one thing to release before December hits. Maybe it's dropping a red-flag client. Maybe it's removing one service that doesn't make sense anymore. Maybe it's giving yourself permission to close early one day a week. Whatever it is, write it down. Say it out loud. Because clarity creates calm. You can't be grateful if you're buried under guilt. You can't be present if you're running on panic. You deserve a version of success that doesn't require suffering. Let's talk about the thing groomers struggle with the most: rest. I know — even the word feels wrong in your mouth. We're a community built on hustle. We wear exhaustion like a badge of honor. But rest isn't laziness — it's maintenance. Think about your tools. You wouldn't groom a full day with dull blades or skip cleaning your tub because “there's no time.” So why do you treat your mind and body any different? Gratitude isn't just saying “thank you.” It's showing thank you — to yourself. You thank yourself by scheduling a break. You thank yourself by eating a real lunch instead of protein bars and promises. You thank yourself by closing your books when you said you would. Because when you rest, you come back sharper. Kinder. More creative. More you. And that version of you — calm, confident, and cared for — that's the one your clients, your dogs, and your business truly need. Now, before we wrap up, I want to remind you — gratitude and profit can coexist. In fact, they should. If you've been nodding along all month thinking, “I know I need to raise my prices, but I just feel guilty,” this is your sign. Gratitude for your clients doesn't mean charging less. It means running a business that will still exist next year so you can keep serving them. If you haven't yet, go check out the Price Increase Masterclass at SavvyGroomer.com/PIMC It's the step-by-step guide to figuring out exactly what to charge, how to communicate it without guilt, and how to handle any pushback like the pro you already are. Because you don't need to work harder — you just need to charge like someone who's already earned it. And friend, you have. Before we go, I want to leave you with this thought: You don't have to start December exhausted just because everyone else is. You can choose peace over pressure. Boundaries over burnout. Gratitude over guilt. Take a deep breath. Let it out. And say this with me: “I'm grateful for how far I've come. I honor my limits. My peace is profitable.” You've already done enough. You've already earned your rest. Now it's time to receive it. If today's episode hit home, share it with a fellow groomer who needs to hear that rest isn't failure — it's strategy. I highly suggest you check out our free Holiday Boundaries scripts and you can get that at SavvyGroomer.com/HolidayBoundaries And if you're ready to start the new year with confidence and clarity, grab your spot in the Price Increase Masterclass at SavvyGroomer.com/PIMC Until next time — stay grateful, take a nap, and as always… stay greedy, bitch.
Sarah is suddenly a new woman who hates when it gets dark early, is not really into Halloween, and is crying over Christmas songs. Sounds like someone is happy and in love. So much so that we get an impromptu, spoken word version of Christmas Wrapping by the Waitresses. We hear about an inicident in the 1980s when two boys were supposedly influenced by the music of Judas Priest and persuaded to die by suicide. We hear how it ended, and why heavy metal music is an easy target. Susie reveals the data on IQs over the 20th and 21st centuries, and we learn why there was a sudden decrease in intelligence and what we can do about it. Susie describes an interview with a Holocaust guard who didn't harm any Auschwitz prisoners, but seems disconnected to his own involvement, and why it's more common than you'd think. We find out what it's like to be a pet influencer and why all the nonsense is basically the same as people influencers.Brain Candy Podcast Website - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/Brain Candy Podcast Book Recommendations - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/books/Brain Candy Podcast Merchandise - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/candy-store/Brain Candy Podcast Candy Club - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/product/candy-club/Brain Candy Podcast Sponsor Codes - https://thebraincandypodcast.com/support-us/Brain Candy Podcast Social Media & Platforms:Brain Candy Podcast LIVE Interactive Trivia Nights - https://www.youtube.com/@BrainCandyPodcast/streamsBrain Candy Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/braincandypodcastHost Susie Meister Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susiemeisterHost Sarah Rice Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/imsarahriceBrain Candy Podcast on X: https://www.x.com/braincandypodBrain Candy Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/braincandy (JOIN FREE - TONS OF REALITY TV CONTENT)Brain Candy Podcast Sponsors, partnerships, & Products that we love:Go to https://thrivecausemetics.com/BRAINCANDY for an exclusive offer of 20% off your first order!Save 20% Off Honeylove by going to https://www.honeylove.com/BRAINCANDY #honeylovepodVisit https://www.carawayhome.com/BRAINCANDY10 to take advantage of this limited-time offer for up to 25% off your next purchase.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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In the brand-new special segment "Out of Context," Laura and Shanna share random text messages they have sent or received that shed light on their parenting life, diving into the topics of kids' crushes, classroom behavior, time management and more! Also, Laura reflects on her surprising feelings about staying up late with her kids, and Shanna reports on the situation that put her kids' Halloween party in peril. Finally, they share their BFPs and BFNs for the week. Shanna's kids are 6.5 and 9.5 years old, and Laura's kids are 6.5 years old and 4.5 years old.Topics discussed in this episode:-Should I let my kids stay up late for special occasions?-Throwing a Halloween party for your kids-Being sick as a parent and pushing yourself too hard-Feeling overwhelmed by the amount of communication it requires to be a parent-Receiving a report from your kid's teacher that they have misbehaved at school-Lurking on your kids' social media posts-Trying not to act too excited when your selective eater tries new foods-A fun, family-friendly activity in Los Angeles-Feeling unsure when your kid brings home an intensive project from schoolProducts, links, resources mentioned in this episode:-Minecraft movie-"Steve's Lava Chicken" song-Zankou Chicken-Swan Boat Rides at Echo ParkThis episode's full show notes can be found here.Want to get in touch with Shanna and Laura? Send us an email and follow us on social! Instagram, Facebook or TikTok at @bfppodcastJoin our Facebook community group for support and camaraderie on your parenting journey.Visit our website!Big Fat Positive: A Pregnancy and Parenting Journey is produced by Laura Birek, Shanna Micko and Steve Yager. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Drift into a peaceful slumber with white noise for sleeping, while being captivated by the luminous moon on a chilly fall night. It's the ideal ambiance to match the vibe of the spooky season. Let the calming sleep white noise envelop your mind as you unwind after a long day. You can also use this sound of white noise to set a spooky, yet relaxing, atmosphere for a Halloween themed evening. Whether you're looking to sleep better, reduce stress, or simply enjoy a calm background ambiance, playing relaxing white noise can provide every solution you need. Escape into a world of tranquility and wake up feeling refreshed with white noise to sleep! Here are some great products to help you sleep! Relaxing White Noise receives a small commission (at no additional cost to you) on purchases made through affiliate links. Thanks for supporting the podcast!Baloo Living Weighted Blankets (Use code 'relaxingwhitenoise10' for 10% off)At Relaxing White Noise, our goal is to help you sleep well. This episode is eight hours long with no advertisements in the middle, so you can use it as a sleeping sound throughout the night. Listening to our white noise sounds via the podcast gives you the freedom to lock your phone at night, keeping your bedroom dark as you fall asleep. It also allows you to switch between apps while studying or working with no interruption in the ambient sound.Check out the 10-Hour version on YouTubeContact Us for Partnership InquiriesRelaxing White Noise is the number one destination on YouTube for white noise and nature sounds to help you sleep, study or soothe a baby. With more than a billion views across YouTube and other platforms, we are excited to now share our popular ambient tracks on the Relaxing White Noise podcast. People use white noise for sleeping, focus, sound masking or relaxation. We couldn't be happier to help folks live better lives. This podcast has the sound for you whether you use white noise for studying, to soothe a colicky baby, to fall asleep or for simply enjoying a peaceful moment. No need to buy a white noise machine when you can listen to these sounds for free. Cheers to living your best life!DISCLAIMER: Remember that loud sounds can potentially damage your hearing. When playing one of our ambiences, if you cannot have a conversation over the sound without raising your voice, the sound may be too loud for your ears. Please do not place speakers right next to a baby's ears. If you have difficulty hearing or hear ringing in your ears, please immediately discontinue listening to the white noise sounds and consult an audiologist or your physician. The sounds provided by Relaxing White Noise are for entertainment purposes only and are not a treatment for sleep disorders or tinnitus. If you have significant difficulty sleeping on a regular basis, experience fitful/restless sleep, or feel tired during the day, please consult your physician.Relaxing White Noise Privacy Policy© Relaxing White Noise LLC, 2025. All rights reserved. Any reproduction or republication of all or part of this text/visual/audio is prohibited.
For Ash's second Episode Revisit, we are heading back to the most wonderful time of the year, SPOOKY SEASON back in 2022! Alaina gives us Southern Gothic while Ash confirms that she's a #HannaTruther!Urban legends for Halloween? YOU BETCHA! Alaina brings us an urban legend straight out of the Louisiana Bayou- she really can't get enough of that place, eh? Le Feu Follet is a really pretty set of words, but don't you go following them into the dark. Even if you are listening to Death Cab For Cutie. And while we're on this path of warning you about things you should and shouldn't do, let me tell ya don't mess with Queen Hannah Cranna. She's not noble, but she is a witch and she will fuck with your ability to make a good pie. If that's a little vague press play and Ash will clear it all up for you! Cowritten by Alaina Urquhart, Ash Kelley & Dave White (Since 10/2022)Produced & Edited by Mikie Sirois (Since 2023)Research by Dave White (Since 10/2022), Alaina Urquhart & Ash KelleyListener Correspondence & Collaboration by Debra LallyListener Tale Video Edited by Aidan McElman (Since 6/2025) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.