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Winner of the Obie Award for Excellence in Playwriting and the Outer Circle Critics Award for Outstanding New Off-Broadway Play Twenty years ago, Pastor Paul's church was nothing more than a modest storefront. Now he presides over a congregation of thousands. But Paul is about to preach a sermon that will shake the foundations of his church's belief. A big-little play about faith in America This award-winning play masterfully examines the price of conviction and the complexities of changing one's mind. Lucas Hnath's works include A DOLL'S HOUSE, PART 2 and HILLARY AND CLINTON which were produced on Broadway at the John Golden Theatre. "A smart, stimulating play…Mr. Hnath grants his characters the dignity of sincere belief, even as his play raises probing questions. Mr. Hnath is quickly emerging as one of the brightest new voices of his generation.” — New York Times This is the company's second production of a Lucas Hnath play. In 2017 NHTC mounted a critically acclaimed production of Hnath's A PUBLIC READING OF AN UNPRODUCED SCREENPLAY ABOUT THE DEATH OF WALT DISNEY. THE CHRISTIANS is directed by Deena Nicol-Blifford, who appeared in the NHTC hit production of CRY IT OUT last season and whose prior directing credits with the company include Conor McPherson's THE SEAFARER. The cast includes company members Susan Kulp, Margaret Mann, Marty Tucker, and J. Kevin Smith, and visiting artist Gavin Whelan. Performances for THE CHRISTIANS will take place on the NHTC Stage in the back of EBM Vintage, 839 Chapel Street, New Haven. Performance dates are February 27 and March 6 at 7:30 p.m., and February 28, and March 1, 7, and 8 at 8 p.m. Tickets are $25. https://www.newhaventheatercompany.com/
In this episode, sleep specialist Eileen Henry and I discuss a common challenge: how to get your child to make it all the way through the night in their own bed. Eileen helps us unravel this complex issue by addressing: Assessing the Situation: When to let it be and when to make a change. Understanding Motivations: Identifying whether the desire to reclaim your bed is for personal space, relationship reasons, or concerns about your child's development. Balancing Needs: The importance of ensuring everyone gets quality sleep and how this impacts overall family wellbeing. Setting and Holding Boundaries: Strategies to help your child transition to their own bed while maintaining emotional security. Attunement and Emotional Health: Teaching kids to recognize and respond to negative emotions in a healthy way. Practical Tips and Tools: Using physical boundaries like gates, incorporating dress rehearsals for bedtime, and the power of storytelling and play in easing transitions. Whether you're struggling with co-sleeping, managing separation anxiety, or just seeking better sleep for your family, this episode is packed with practical advice and compassionate support! LEARN MORE ABOUT EILEEN HENRY: https://compassionatesleepsolutions.com/ BOOK A CONSULTATION WITH EILEEN HENRY: https://compassionatesleepsolutions.com/free-consultation-process/ DOWNLOAD MY FREE TODDLER SLEEP GUIDE: 7 ways to help create a more peaceful and effective nighttime routine LISTEN TO MORE EPISODES WITH EILEEN HENRY: Navigating sleep with a baby The basics of toddler sleep CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL EPISODES WE REFERENCED: RIE (Resources for Infant Educarers) from birth with Deborah Carlisle Solomon Evolving the principles of RIE to grow into respectful parenting with Janet Lansbury Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions (SPACE) with Eli Lebowitz
Brittany from Clarksville, Tennessee asks, "Is 22 months too old to use the Cry-It-Out method? We sleep-trained with Ferber before when he was 6 months, but this method does not work now. We are regressing, pregnant with another baby, and desperate for sleep again."____Little Z's® Sleep Consulting has helped over 25,000 families Make Sleep A Thing through Newborn, Baby, Toddler, and Preschool online programs. ____Have a question to submit for an upcoming episode? Send Becca a DM on Instagram with the first two words "Podcast question" and then share your Q! Make Sleep A Thing for your family, starting at $49! >> Newborn Sleep Course (0-3 months)>> Baby Sleep Training Plans (4-16 months)>> Toddler Sleep Training Plans (17 months - 3 years)>> Preschool Sleep Training Plans (3 years+)SUBSCRIBE TO THE YOUTUBE CHANNEL: https://www.youtube.com/@littlezsleepFOLLOW ON INSTAGRAM: @littlezsleep
The “Cry-It-Out” method is also known as the extinction method. Here's what it looks like: at bedtime, parents put the baby in the crib drowsy, but still awake. Then they leave the room and get the baby at a set time the next morning. They don't respond to crying or protest unless there's a concern for health or safety. Is this the best way to help a new baby sleep through the night? Or are there better alternatives? The GuestsSarah Moore is a conscious parenting trainer and founder of Dandelion Seeds Positive Parenting. Sarah is Board Chair for the American Society for the Positive Care of Children, and the author of Peaceful Discipline: Story Teaching, Brain Science & Better Behavior. Megan Tucker is a registered nurse, certified lactation consultant and certified childbirth instructor. Megan is the founder of Baby Basics Atlanta, where she works with families of newborn children. Today we ask a wide range of important questions about sleep training:What is the best way to help parents get their newborns to sleep through the night?What are the ethics of the “cry-it-out” method?How should the parents balance the needs of their children with their own needs? Show NotesDefining the cry-it-out method [04:31]Longterm effects of parental responsiveness [08:43]Challenges in sleep research [11:54]What is the average duration of crying in the cry-it-out method? [14:50]Co-sleeping [17:23]Sleep training trade-offs [28:31]Critiques of sleep training [32:28]Impact of less sleep on parents [39:55]Reasons why newborns cry [46:19]Needs of the baby vs. needs of the family unit [48:23]
Everyone loves (or hates!) a good cry it out story. I am asked pretty regularly whether or not Center for Pediatric Sleep Management teaches the Cry It Out method. The answer to this question is that at CPSM we teach all sleep training methods. We believe that parents are best set up for success when they are coached through a method that most closely aligns with their parenting style. Sometimes this means we coach our clients through a gradual and parent present approach, and other times we are coaching parents through more traditional sleep training methods. When you meet a family where they are, and coach them through methods that feel safest and comfortable for them, that's when you have the most success. In this episode, I tell a cry it out story that all the anti-sleep training folks will love to hate. Sometimes all a baby needs is just a little bit of space. ENJOY!If you'd like to learn more about becoming a Sleep Consultant, please join our Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomeasleepconsultantCPSM website: https://thecpsm.com/Book a free discovery call to learn how you can become a Certified Sleep Consultant here: https://jaynehavens.as.me/CPSM-Inquiry
Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about... 2:10 - You can build your child's resilience by helping them establish healthy and secure relationships. 5:22 - Understanding the importance of "good enough" parenting for your child's development. 6:19 - What is the goal of parenting in our child's first year? Is there such a thing as a child being too young for you to build up their resilience? 9:22 - The difference between survival and resilience. 12:45 - What emotion regulation looks like developmentally in the first year and how to become attuned to your baby's different cries. 18:10 - Can we turn sadness and pain into ambition - and is that something you can teach a child? 23:01 - If we frame resilience as the ability to trust yourself and believe your feelings are important, the best way to teach that to a young child is to mirror what they are feeling as real and important. ✨We want to hear from you! Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions! ✨
Hey Queens & Kings,Episode 48 is about Crying It Out. The focus of this discussion is to share why it's so important to allow the emotions that surface to flow through you. Often times due to the way we were raised or the way we were taught to believe what it meant to cry, we have a challenge allowing ourselves the freedom to cry it out. Let's talk about it.Before you get comfortable to tune into this episode grab your favorite drink or, blast us on your speakers while you clean. Either way, we welcome you to join us in this conversation. Pull-up and share this episode with a friend.If you love the free content we are sharing and you'd like to support the show, consider buying us coffee or in this case wine at Two Queens and Crystal Things Podcast (buymeacoffee.com). Also be sure to provide us a review on our podcast platform and YouTube.Discussion topics:There is strength in tearsWhy crying it out can help youWhat happens when you don't allow yourself the freedom to cryThe chemical make-up of tearsTears are a barometer...and moreSupport the showIf you like the content we are putting out, please consider supporting the show through Two Queens and Crystal Things Podcast (buymeacoffee.com).Be sure to follow our social media pages: @wingsunleashed444, and @christieredwards on Instagram. Please like, share and follow our @twoqueensandcrystalthings Instagram page.Visit our webpage at www.twoqueensandcrystalthings.comNEW Two Queens and Crystal Things Merch. Check it out on our website at our shop.Thank you all for your love and support we appreciate you all so much!
In this podcast episode, Jennifer sits down with Marissa Ghavami as they shares their personal healing journey, which led to the creation of Healing TREE, a 501c3 organization dedicated to healing trauma through resources, education, and entertainment. The discussion dives into the nature of trauma, distinguishing between "big T" and "small t" traumas, and the impact of cumulative life stressors. They also explore the significance of body-based work and the importance of different therapeutic modalities beyond talk therapy that are available for those seeking help. They share the significance of accessing care and resources - especially through the work of Healing TREE - and how artists can engage in this healing to deepen their own growth, personal wellness, and hopefully create meaningful change. About Marissa: Marissa Ghavami (they/she) is an Iranian-American, queer artist, advocate and creator based in NYC. Most recently, they played Khalilah, opposite Tony Winner KO (Karen Olivo), in a workshop of Siluetas, part of 4xLatiné Off-Broadway. Up next on stage, they can be seen as Irene in the NYC premiere reading of the international hit play The Little Pony on October 13th at the Prelude Festival and Jessie in Divine Riot's Cry It Out this November. Film/TV highlights include starring in the feature film The Gift of Christmas, alongside Academy Award Nominee Bruce Davison, and roles in Paramount's Not Fade Away, with James Gandolfini, and on CBS's Without A Trace; as well as singing on NBC's It's Showtime at the Apollo. Marissa has also sung at Joe's Pub (alongside Tony Nominee L Morgan Lee), Birdland (alongside Academy Award Winner and Tony Nominee Ariana DeBose) and 54 Below. Voiceover/Commercial/Print highlights include Audible, McDonald's, Ford, JCPenney, Belvedere, PepsiCo, Girl Scout Cookies and KFC. Marissa co-produced the feature film Mass, starring Ann Dowd, Martha Plimpton, Jason Isaacs and Reed Birney. Mass premiered at Sundance, was acquired by Bleecker Street, had a theatrical release, won the Robert Altman Award, was a Gotham, Critics Choice and BAFTA nominee and is now streaming. They produced and co-wrote the short film Silk, directed by John Magaro (Carol, The Big Short), an Official Selection at the Academy Award Qualifying Reel Sisters of the Diaspora Film Festival, among others. Marissa is the Founding Executive + Artistic Director of the nonprofit Healing TREE (Trauma Resources, Education & Entertainment). They are a national public speaker, a healing trauma-focused coach for artists and a trauma consultant for productions. They are a Queer Writer Fellow at Martha's Vineyard Institute of Creative Writing and an Artists Striving To End Poverty (now Arts Ignite) Fellow and participant in the Artist As Citizen Conference at Juilliard. They are a Founding Company Member of Divine Riot, a new theatre and film company that defies convention. They are also an avid meditator, vegan and cat parent. AEA, SAG-AFTRA. Marissa's IG: @marissaghavami Healing Tree's IG: @healingtreeorg Divine Riot's IG: @adivineriot Marissa's Website: www.marissaghavami.com Healing Tree's Website: www.healingtreenonprofit.org Divine Riot's Website: www.divineriot.org Want to coach with Jennifer? Schedule a session here! https://appt.link/jenniferapple Monologue Sourcing Promo Link! https://empoweredartistcollective.com/podcastpromo Learn more: https://www.empoweredartistcollective.com/podcast EAC IG: @EmpoweredArtistCollective EAC TikTok: @EmpowerArtistCollective EAC Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empoweredartistcollective/ Nominate a Podcast Guest! https://form.jotform.com/220608577638162 Sign up for our newsletter! https://mailchi.mp/8e72e8dcb662/stay-in-touch Check Out Our Merch! https://www.empoweredartistcollective.threadless.com/ Any thoughts you'd like to share? Email us at EmpoweredArtistCollective@gmail.com
Using the end of the night to help a child unwind, make sense of the day, and prepare for what's to come tomorrow can be a valuable tool for shifting their brain and body into a state of rest. Joining me to talk about how parents can use the last 20 minutes of the day to promote social and emotional learning is the author of the children's book series, Conscious Stories, Andrew Newman. Helping our child to feel safe and connected to us just before it's time for them to drift off into sleep can have a huge impact on their ability to successfully fall asleep and stay asleep and on their overall mental wellbeing. I want to hear from you! Send me a topic you want me to cover or a question you want answered on the show! ✨ DM me on Instagram at @securelyattachedpodcast or @drsarahbren ✨ Send an email to sarah@drsarahbren.com ✨ And check out drsarahbren.com for more parenting resources
Tracy Gillett, founder of Raised Good is here!!! Join us as shares her personal journey through motherhood, from fertility struggles to the profound realization that the joy of motherhood can be restored when we follow our instincts and trust our babies' needs. Tracy's story unfolds as she delves into the world of natural parenting, exploring topics such as bedsharing, cosleeping, elimination communication, and unschooling. Discover the transformative power of co-sleeping and bedsharing as Tracy challenges the modern-day pressure on parents to deny their babies' innate desires for closeness and comfort. Learn how sleep deprivation can lead us to question our parenting choices and vulnerability to external opinions. Tracy also discusses the primal instinct to keep our babies close, revealing that breastfeeding moms often get more sleep when they bedshare. Explore the concept of attachment and how it unfolds in the first six years of life, beginning with proximity, aligning with what our bodies and instincts expect.Intriguingly, Tracy emphasizes how most of the world practices co-sleeping, allowing parents to surrender to their innate parenting design. Challenge the "Cry It Out" method and consider the profound message behind a baby's cry - a plea for connection. Listen in as Tracy touches on topics such as breastfeeding to sleep, the role of melatonin in nighttime breastmilk, and the importance of aligning with nature in our parenting journey. Dive into the world of extended breastfeeding and explore the idea that infancy extends beyond the first year of life. As Tracy delves into the challenges mothers face, she highlights the need for community support and discusses the importance of nursing in public. Uncover the courage it takes to embrace natural parenting practices and how it can make life more intriguing. Join Tracy Gillett as she encourages us to accept the present moment and make a real difference in the world of parenting. Tune in to this inspiring conversation that challenges conventional wisdom and celebrates the beauty of embracing our natural instincts as parents. Don't miss out on an exciting summit featuring 25 speakers discussing natural parenting. Register here >> https://ginny1--raisedgood.thrivecart.com/rgs-2023-dv1/
One question that I get asked all the time is whether or not Center for Pediatric Sleep Management teaches the Cry It Out method. Oh, do I have thoughts on this! In order to hear my views on this topic, you will have to tune in and listen to this episode. This recording was originally filmed as a live video and shared inside our Becoming a Sleep Consultant Facebook group. The live generated so much conversation that I thought it would be beneficial to air it on the podcast. I hope you enjoy the show! If you'd like to learn more about becoming a Sleep Consultant, please join our Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/becomeasleepconsultantCPSM website: https://thecpsm.com/Book a free discovery call to learn how you can become a Certified Sleep Consultant here: https://jaynehavens.as.me/CPSM-Inquiry
You can't Google the words “baby sleep” without being inundated with a barrage of sleep training ads and methods, all claiming to do it gentlest, fastest, and best. But, what does the science and the research actually show about how effective and healthy sleep training is for our infants and young children? I'm am thrilled to have neuroscientist, doula and the author of the book The Nurture Revolution: Grow Your Baby's Brain and Transform Their Mental Health through the Art of Nurtured Parenting Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum back on the podcast to talk about the science of sleep! We're not going to tell you what you should or shouldn't do, but instead our goal is to arm you with all the information you need so that you are able to make informed decisions about what is best for you and your unique family - with no shame, judgment, pressure, or fear! I want to hear from you! Send me a topic you want me to cover or a question you want answered on the show! ✨ DM me on Instagram at @securelyattachedpodcast or @drsarahbren ✨ Send an email to sarah@drsarahbren.com ✨ And check out drsarahbren.com for more parenting resources
In this episode, we will be talking about what sleep training means, and how it's possible to teach babies how to sleep independently, without hindering your attachment with your child, or leaving them to cry on their own. I feel like most people cringe when they hear the term “sleep training” because the first thought that comes to mind is the Cry It Out Method. The truth is, Cry It Out is it's own approach, and does not represent what "sleep training" really means. So have a listen to this quick and informative podcast, and come away feeling proud of yourself for putting your families well being first! Dont forget to follow us @countingsheepwithjane, and check out the website for free resources, and to book a free call with us! www.countingsheepconsulting.com
Today I'm sharing an encore of the most downloaded episode of The Snooze Button EVER - which debuted almost exactly a year ago today!Gentle Sleep Training? Cry It Out? Holy triggering Mom Facebook Group comment section, amiright?Today I'm myth busting what these words actually mean (spoiler...not much) and giving you a new framework for looking at what the different sleep guidance methods are really focused on, and the REAL way you can set your baby up for the least crying possible in this process, that has nothing to do with the method you select.
"I'm afraid I'm causing bad habits!" - Every mom filled with guilt + concern over their child's sleep.With over 20 years in the research field studying sleep and infant mental health (and a mom to 2 twenty-somethings), Macall Gordon, M.A. is here to make you feel a whole lot better about how you've handled things - no matter how you've handled them!Macall has conducted and presented research on temperament, sleep, and parenting advice at conferences around the world. She is also a certified Gentle Sleep Coach in private practice as well as a Featured Provider with the women's telehealth platform, Maven Clinic. Together we shed light on common myths + misconceptions about sleep habits and sleep training, including Cry It Out.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVERED...The temperament of Livewires + why nothing you've done has worked for themIndividualism, Self-reliance, and Consumerism: How American culture affects the sleep industryFlaws in the way sleep research is established + shared, helping you become an informed, educated consumer + parentDON'T MISS-A breakdown of behaviorism as an approach (and why it's incomplete)When it could be something else: Night terrors, Sleep Apnea, and Restless Leg Syndrome (Kids can have it too!)// MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE //Book: Constructing the Self, Constructing America: A Cultural History of Psychotherapy by Philip CushmanArticle: Low Ferritin: The little-known reason for chronic sleep issues // CONNECT WITH MACALL GORDON //Website: littlelivewires.comFacebook, Instagram, Tiktok: @littlelivewiresUpcoming book (targeted for publication in late 2024) for parents about working on sleep with temperament in mind.I believe in you & I'm cheering you on.Come say hi! I'm @parent_wholeheartedly on Insta.Schedule your FREE Consultation: wholeheartedly.as.me/callSupport the show*FREE* MASTERCLASS: Learn how to CONFIDENTLY parent your strong-willed child WITHOUT threats, bribes or giving in altogether so you can BREAK FREE of power struggles + guilt www.parentingwholeheartedly.com/unapologeticwww.parentingwholeheartedly.com
Episode Highlights With KimHow she became “The Sleep Lady”Her gentle approach to sleep with babiesWhy she's concerned about some of the common advice given to parents about getting babies to sleep through the nightA different approach than “cry it out” that helps babies sleep and enhances bonding and connectionHer guidelines for building the foundation for a good night of sleep for babyA few tips that go against the common advice but help a baby learn to sleepThe developmental stages that can disrupt sleep and how to navigate theseResources We MentionedThe Sleep LadyThe Sleep Lady's Good Night, Sleep Tight: Gentle Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Without Leaving Them to Cry it Out by Kim WestThe Sleep Lady®'s Gentle Newborn Sleep Guide: Trusted Solutions for Getting You and Your Baby FAST to Sleep Without Leaving Them to Cry It Out by Kim WestGood Night Sleep Tight: The Sleep Lady's Gentle Guide to Helping Your Child Go to Sleep, Stay Asleep, and Wake Up Happy by Kim WestBoncharge lightbulbsThanks to Our Sponsors:Hiya Children's Vitamins - A clean line of children's vitamins that provides growing kids with all the essential nutrients that might be missing from their diet.Wellnesse - My line of clean and non-toxic personal care products such as toothpaste, deodorant, shampoo and much more!
In this episode, I sit down with my husband to talk about sleep approaches; no cry, cry it out, and everything in between. We share the ups and downs of this journey and why we ultimately made the decision that we did.
This week we are talking about "Gentle Alternatives To Cry It Out Sleep Training."In our last episode "say no to cry it out" we spoke about why you should say no but did not touch on what we can do to help calm our babies cries when it comes to getting some sleep!We hope you enjoy and please share this podcast with any other mothers or fathers!Referenced Ep. 7 Kids Cupboards & Book Baskets! Please share and tag us on our platforms below if you enjoyed this episode!Instagram : TheVillageParentingPodFacebook : The Village Parenting PageSupport us : Buy Me A CoffeeOriginal music ©Lisa K Sigurgeirson 1986
Gentle Sleep Training? Cry It Out? Holy triggering Mom Facebook Group comment section, amiright? Today I'm myth busting what these words actually mean (spoiler...not much) and giving you a new framework for looking at what the different sleep guidance methods are really focused on, and the REAL way you can set your baby up for the least crying possible in this process, that has nothing to do with the method you select.
Sometimes toughen-ing up to get through shit can work against you. It's easy to get trapped in a strong mindset to the point where it feels like a punishment. How do you know when you’re being too strong? And how can we soften into challenging situations? LINKS Follow @thespace_podcast on Instagram Watch @thespace_podcast on TikTok Follow @novapodcastsofficial on Instagram CREDITSHost: Casey Donovan @caseydonovan88Writer: Amy Molloy @amymolloyExecutive Producer: Elise CooperEditor: Adrian Walton Listen to more great podcasts at novapodcasts.com.au See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Hannah is a mum of two and certified Sleep Specialist living in lutruwita/Tasmania. She started Kin Postpartum because after a challenging first run in motherhood. Her first-born spent the first twelve months of his life pretty much waking hourly. Yes, hourly. Nearly. Every. Single. Night.Looking down the barrel of returning to work and feeling like she was at breaking point, she booked a consult with a sleep consultant who she knew was an advocate for sleep training but who had beautiful words like ‘gentle', ‘soothing', and ‘respectful of co-sleeping' on her website and socials. Turns out spaced soothing is controlled crying, and it was not gentle or responsive. It was just distressing. She knew that there was a reason why he wasn't sleeping. Leaving him to sit with his distress and limiting how & when she could respond went against every instinct she had as a mother, and it went against everything she knew wanted to be as a mother - an intentional, responsive parent who treated her beautiful baby as the wonderfully unique little human that he is.So, she threw ‘conventional wisdom' out the window and went to work on the research. She trained as a Baby Led Sleep & Wellbeing Specialist with Isla Grace, and has made it her mission to empower parents to trust their instincts and parent like the (responsive) boss that they are.Learn more about Dr Renee White and Fill Your Cup Postpartum Doulas:Want to be nurtured and nourished after the birth of your baby, have a peek at our doula offerings.If you want to gobble up of famous Chocolate + Goji lactation cookies, look no further. Oh and our Creamy Coconut dahl mix is to die for, just sayin'.Hannah Clark: @kin.postpartumw: kinpostpartumservices.com
Welcome Back To The Docs2dads Podcast. We have many ways for you to follow the show and interact with Dr. Scott. All our Social Media can be found here. This Week I Am Honored To Welcome Another Special Guest To The Show. Dr. Phil Boucher Is A Husband And Father Of Six Who Serves As A General Pediatrician Based In Lincoln, Nebraska. He Is Also A Fellow Podcaster With Two Podcasts, One For Parents Called “Raising Good Parents” And One For Pediatric Providers Called “Pediatrics 2.0.” I Have Found A Kindred Spirit In Dr. Boucher As He Describes His Mission As Focusing His Time And Professional Efforts On Educating Parents To Feel Confident And Reassured In Their Parenting Abilities, And I Couldn't Have Said It Better Myself. Today, Dr. Boucher Is Going To Talk To Us About Sleep. We Will Be Talking About A Variety Of Topics Including How To Adjust To The Newborn Sleep Cycles, How To Think About ‘so-Called' Sleep Training, And Some Of The More Challenging Ages To Navigate Sleep Issues. Let's Welcome Dr. Boucher To The Show.In this episode, Dr. Boucher and I will discussAS A NEW DAD WHOIS JUST BRINGING A NEW BABY HOME FOR THE FIRST TIME, WHAT SHOULD YOU EXPECT IN THOSE FIRST FEW WEEKS? WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN BABIES HAVE THEIR DAYS AND NIGHTS MIXED UP.INFANT SLEEP HAS BECOME A MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY, WHAT ADVICE DO WE GIVE PARENTS RELATED TO FANCY CRIBS OR SLEEPERS? (HINT: IT INVOLVES A DATE NIGHT!!) WE DISCUSS A COUPLE OF BUZZWORDS THAT GET THROWN AROUND FOR SO-CALLED SLEEP TRAINING: "DROWSY BUT AWAKE" AND "CRY IT OUT."WHAT IS NECESSARY FOR A FOOL-PROOF BEDTIME ROUTINETIPS FOR DADS WHO HAVE OLDER KIDS, (TODDLER AND PRE-SCHOOL AGED CHILDREN) AND DADS WITH TEENAGERS? HERE ARE MY THREE KEY TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE WITH DR. BOUCHER:1) While Babies Sleep For 16-20 Hours Each Day, These Are Usually In Short 2-3 Hour Stretches, So It Isn't Quite As Glamorous As It Seems. The More You Can Work Together With Your Partner During Those Long Nights, The More Smoothly It Will Go. Check In With Each Other And Take Shifts As Much As Possible. If Mom Is Breastfeeding, Then Do All Of The Other Things That You Can To Make Her Job As Easy As Possible Overnight. And Learn To Swaddle. This Will Help You Get Your Baby To Sleep Very Easily In Those Early Days And Doesn't Require A Second Mortgage On Your Home Like Some Of These Other Expensive Sleep Solutions. 2) Your Bedtime Routine Should Be As Little As Possible To Achieve The Desired Outcome, Which Is A Sleeping Baby. It Doesn't Have To Be Elaborate To Be Effective. Try Out Different Approaches To See What Works For Your Kids Until You Find A Sweet Spot.3) For Older Kids, It Takes Consistency, Persistence, And Patience To Get Them To Stay In Bed. You Have To Consistently Put The Kid Back In Bed, And You Have To Be On The Same Page With Your Partner So That You Are Both Giving The Same Response. Patience To Not Give Any “Negative” Attention In Addition To Avoiding “Giving Into The 12th Request For Water. If You Would Like To Engage More With Dr. Boucher, You Can Follow Him @Philbouchermd On Social Media Or Check Out His Might Sleepers Or Brand New Baby Courses At The Links In The Show Notes And Use The Promo Code ‘podcast' For A Discount On Either Of Those Courses.Thanks as always to Phil Rabon, the Producer of the Docs2Dads Podcast.
In this episode Kaitlin, Founder of Be Her Village talks with Jayne Havens, a sleep consultant and founder of Snooze Fest. Her mission is to meet parents where they are and help them meet their goals around sleep, no matter what they are.She's not the bed-sharing police.She's not the nursing-to-sleep police.She wants to help parents get sleep, help babies learn to sleep, and help establish routines that work for the whole family.Sleep training is not “Cry It Out”— it's teaching a baby or toddler to fall asleep independently. If you're okay with your situation around sleep— then that's great! But if your sleep or mental health is lacking, it might be time to do something different, and Jayne is here to help!Jayne encourages a slow, gentle, responsive process that will take a lot of patience and TLC. Her approach is client led and done with a lot of encouragement, resources, and support.Jayne not only supports parents with sleep, but also owns a business where she is training and mentoring sleep consultants with her program. Jayne is offering a discount for those who are interested in becoming a sleep consultant. Use this code at check-out: BEHERVILLAGE200 If you're looking to set yourself up with some sleep support after your baby arrives, you can add Jayne's services to your gift registry when you register at BeHerVillage.comAre you in the business of supporting new parents? Join us! Create your business profile at BeHerVillage.com/partners
Microbiome…and poopDo you know how your milk affects your baby's microbiome? And their poop?Dianne lets her nerd out and brings some cool research to the game today. Listen for more!If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:How baby poop becomes everything [6:11]Is there an APP for that? [8:17]Definitions [11:03]Vaginal birth vs cesarean [12:25]Does it start in utero? [15:04]Skin to skin [16:29]How breastmilk helps the microbiome [21:03]Parent antibiotic use [22:43]Breastfed babies may not poop daily [25:30]Antibiotics in hospital [27:26]Probiotics [29:06]Open gut [31:45] *This Episode is sponsored by Zomee and Simple Wishes Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/pdf/10.1098/rsob.190128 https://www.thealphaparent.com/virgin-gut-note-for-parents/ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fped.2019.00047/full https://www.dnainthenews.com/health-disease/gut-microbiome-and-the-risk-of-celiac-disease/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Don't Forget!! Dianne and Abby have started the new parenting podcast! Check out Revolution Parenting! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1755123/8400508Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Feeding cues…do you know what your baby's feeding cues look like?If you aren't completely sure, you aren't alone.Let's talk hunger and feeding cues and what it's really all about.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:What a feeding cue IS NOT [3:00]Rooting reflex [4:34]Babies are weird [7:30]Crying is the last cue [10:19]The example of mixed cues [12:37]Additional cues to watch for [19:09]When in doubt…[22:51]Breastsleeping [24:15]Exclusive pumping [25:00]The cries!! Do we ever really know what they mean? [26:57]When you feel like you're just a big boob [29:55] *This Episode is sponsored by Fairhaven Health and Simple Wishes Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/how-much-milk-does-a-baby-need/ https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/breastsleeping/ https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/the-science-of-comfort-nursing/ https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/clingy-breastfed-babies/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Don't Forget!! Dianne and Abby have started the new parenting podcast! Check out Revolution Parenting! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1755123/8400508Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Let's talk about Dianne's biggest annoyance when it comes to feeding…OVERFEEDINGTune in this week as we talk about overfeeding and how/why it happens.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:Overfeeding is common! [4:35]Do we understand how to bottle feed? [6:45]Suck reflux is involuntary [7:30]Weight gain [11:48]Daycares/overfeeding [19:40]Crying = more food? [25:40]Overfeeding doesn't feel good [25:52]Teaching child development [27:50]Finishing bottles = less waste [28:30]Volume of milk [32:40]We aren't taught babies [33:00]Breakdown of the family unit [35:57] *This Episode is sponsored by Fairhaven Health and Simple Wishes Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/071-overfeeding-paced-bottle-feeding/ https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/introducing-baby-to-bottles/ https://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com/2014/04/19/is-bottle-feeding-really-easier-for-babies-than-breastfeeding/ https://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com/2021/01/31/how-to-prevent-a-breastfeed-baby-from-overeating/https://www.instagram.com/thebadassbreastfeeder/tv/CPWgxaKp3UQ/?utm_medium=copy_linkSet up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Don't Forget!! Dianne and Abby have started the new parenting podcast! Check out Revolution Parenting! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1755123/8400508Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Let's talk about combo feeding…What is it? And what are the reasons behind combo feeding?Tune in this week as we talk about combo feeding (including donor milk!) and how to manage it.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:The convo about donor milk [3:00]Stigma around combo feeding [9:25]Triple feeding (WTF is that anyway?) [11:30]Return to work issues [14:26]Why you should continue to breastfeed when you are combo feeding [17:55]Benefits that are not milk related [19:14]Can you mix breastmilk with formula? [21:20]The google trap [24:35]The takeaway message to remember [27:55]The guilty feels [29:08]Combo feeding doesn't have to be forever [31:20] *This Episode is sponsored by Fairhaven Health and Simple Wishes Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/5-ways-we-are-set-up-to-fail/ https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/the-science-of-comfort-nursing/Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Don't Forget!! Dianne and Abby have started the new parenting podcast! Check out Revolution Parenting! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1755123/8400508Follow our Podcast~• https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~• Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.com• Dianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Most parents have heard about Cry It Out (CIO)But have you heard the science behind why CIO isn't the best choice for babies?Listen this for the science behind the infant brain and what can happen if left to cry.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:The book – The Science of Mother Infant Sleep [5:15]Where CIO originated [7:36]What is CIO, and what isn't CIO [10:50]What does CIO do to the brain? [19:20]Babies figure things out through us [21:50]Sleep training and breastfeeding [25:28]Link between CIO, community and extended family [27:50]Human babies are the most immature mammal [33:00]Final thoughts – you want to hear this! [34:05] *This Episode is sponsored by Zomee and Simple Wishes Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/busting-milk-storage-myths/ https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/normal-sleep-behavior-with-rebecca-michi/ https://stores.praeclaruspress.com/the-science-of-mother-infant-sleep/ Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Don't Forget!! Dianne and Abby have started the new parenting podcast! Check out Revolution Parenting! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1755123/8400508Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
It's the episode so many have asked about…Marijuana and breastfeeding. What do we know so far?Tune in this week to find out more.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you. Please consider leaving us a review on itunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and comments to badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to our list and have episodes sent right to your inbox! Things we talked about:What you will get from this episode [5:28]Research – not a lot of answers [8:09]Dose dependent [9:00]Everything passes through the milk [10:50]Oil and edibles [15:20]Info from Dr. Hale [18:25]Safety [ 23:35]We don't know how much is too much [24:35]Smoking vs formula [27:15]Be safe! [29:36] *This Episode is sponsored by LaVie Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://journals.lww.com/mcnjournal/Fulltext/2022/01000/Marijuana_and_Breastfeeding.11.aspx?context=LatestArticles&casa_token=BDlDE4LjseMAAAAA:DsW1AWNnTkttr6lhYPAr-2X40s8s8t_ZX0TTV7e_NvM9gsBHhv7ylMAhXXcF2KC9TZfHvaCpfsbT8Kh2FNM https://www.scarymommy.com/marijuana-and-breastfeeding/?amp=1 https://www.parents.com/news/cannabis-while-breastfeeding-study/ https://europepmc.org/article/NBK/nbk570616 Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/ Check out Dianne's blog here~https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Don't Forget!! Dianne and Abby have started the new parenting podcast! Check out Revolution Parenting! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1755123/8400508Follow our Podcast~https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby~Abby Theuring https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.com Music we use~Music: "Levels of Greatness" from "We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)" courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes
Intro: Gina is co-hostless and doing her best. PLEASE SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW you beautiful Survivors!Interview: SUNY Geneseo, Boston University, Tisch, Juilliard, Playwriting MFAs, competition in writing programs, Marsha Norman, Cry It Out, MAID on Netflix, Hollywood sea changes, female-centered shows, domestic violence, emotional abuse, Hulu, theatre is behind, denial, making mistakes, bad reviews.COMPLETE TRANSCRIPT (unedited):1 (10s):And I'm Gina Polizzi. We went to theater school2 (12s):Together. We survived it.1 (14s):We didn't quite understand it. 20 years later, we're digging deep talking to our guests about their experiences and trying to make sense of it all2 (21s):Survived theater school. And you will too. Are we famous yet?1 (34s):Hello? Hello. Hello survivors. This is Gina. This week. We are sons' cohost, just one host today. I'm missing my better half BAAs. His boss is actually attending to a friend who got terrible health news this week. And she is in her very boss like way being there for her friend and being the amazing person and friend that she is, which is why everybody loves buzz. Anyway, she'll be back next week if you're not. But today we have, honestly, you guys, this is the interview I have been waiting for.1 (1m 19s):Molly Smith. Metzler is a writer extraordinaire. You may have heard of her latest project made number three on Netflix entering its 28th day online, which has some very special meaning for Netflix that I hope to know more about one day and previous to me being the showrunner for maid, she also worked on shameless and several other successful television shows. And before that she was a playwright. And actually I got to know her work because I directed a play of hers called cry it out.1 (1m 59s):And it was a fantastic experience. And I started communicating with her over email when I was directing. And I was so impressed with the way that she responded to me. I mean, a that she responded to me at all that she was available to me at all. And not something you always get with a playwright and B that she really took her time with her responses and see that her responses ended up being pretty impactful for me, just not necessarily related to the play, but as a person. And I'm a little embarrassed that when I talked to her and I told her the way that she had impacted me, I just started seriously just crying, crying, crying.1 (2m 45s):And I was having this thought like, I, this is not a moment I want to be crying. And I'm generally in life. I, I welcomed here as, as a person who struggles to access their emotions. I do. I welcome a good cry, but it not want to be crying to Molly Smith Metzler in this great interview. But you know, it is what it is. If I'm going to be honest, I have to be honest. I can't be choicy about when I'm being myself. That's my, that's my mantra. Recently you have to be yourself in all the ways. Some of those ways are ugly and disgusting and you know, unsavory, and some of them are fine and some of them are be even beautiful.1 (3m 31s):So I'm working on embracing the, a mess that I am, but I really think you're going to enjoy this interview with Molly. She's fantastic. Even without the always wonderful presidents, presidents presence, maybe she should be president even without the always wonderful presence of BAAs. We still managed to have a great conversation and actually that whole experience of her at the last minute, not being able to do this and this being the first time we're doing this with one host, turns out to have been a good thing for us to go through, to learn that.1 (4m 14s):Yeah, sometimes we're not both going to be available and sometimes when I'm not available, she'll be doing an episode on her own. So, you know, whatever we're growing, changing learning, Hey, we're in 22 countries. Now, if you have a, not a subscribed to this podcast, please do. If you have not rated this podcast or given it a review, please, please, please, please, please, please do it seriously. Please do it, please. I'm begging you. Please do it, but okay. Anyway, here's Molly Smith message.0 (4m 53s):Well,1 (5m 0s):No problem whatsoever. Fortunately, my partner is Jen. Her very good friend just got diagnosed with cancer yesterday and she's with her right now helping. So she's not going to be able to join us. This is actually the first time we're doing an interview with just me. So we'll see how it goes.3 (5m 23s):Yeah,1 (5m 24s):It is. And she just, she has a lot of experience with, with cancer. So she's sort of like the first people, first person people call, which is like,3 (5m 38s):Yeah,1 (5m 38s):Exactly, exactly. But anyway, congratulations, Molly Smith. Metso you survived theater school and you're going to have to clarify for me because it looks like you went to four schools, but you didn't go to four theater schools. Did you?3 (5m 52s):I went to four schools. I did. They're not all theater schools, but I went to undergrad, SUNY Geneseo in Western New York and I was an English major. And then I went to Boston university and got a master's in creative writing with a concentration in playwriting. And then I went to Tisch and got an MFA in playwriting dramatic writing. And then I went to Juilliard, which is, you don't really get a degree there. It's called an artist diploma, but it's just finishing school basically.1 (6m 20s):Oh, okay. So the decision to, to do the MFA, were you thinking at that time that you, maybe you were going to be a teacher, I'm always curious about MFA's and writing because you know, if you learned what you needed to know and you know, why not just put yourself out there and be a writer?3 (6m 40s):I think it's very scary to take that jump. The thing about school that I got addicted to is that I'm actually way too social to be a writer. I like being around other writers and every, and every time you get a graduate program, you're with a bunch of writers and you have deadlines and you kind of, you know, it's a really public way to study writing versus alone in your apartment while way to say, you know, and I kept getting academic support to attend the programs. And so that was part of it. I'm not sure I would have gone deep into debt to get all those degrees, but I think giving me aid, I kept going. Yeah.1 (7m 16s):Okay, fantastic. And did you always know from day one that you, I mean, since you were in high school anyway, that you wanted to be a writer that you wanted to write dramatically?3 (7m 26s):I always loved writing. I had journals and I'm from a very young age. I love to write, but I had a sort of more academic feeling about it. I thought I was going to get a PhD in English and join the academy and be a professor. And I didn't know, I was creative in the sense of dramatic writing until my senior year of college. When I took a playwriting class, I didn't know I was a playwright. And I also didn't know. I was funny. Those two things emerged at the same time. Wow.1 (7m 54s):Oh, so you didn't have experience with theater before then?3 (7m 58s):Well, I grew up a ballerina, so I had a great sense of the stage and the relationship between an audience and someone onstage. I really like, I understood light and the power of an audience, but I, no, I didn't grow up a theater nerd at all. I grew up a nerd nerd, like an actual,1 (8m 18s):So that must've been like just a whole new, exciting world. Did you decide pretty much right away that you were going to be getting your MFA when you discovered that you liked to play with?3 (8m 27s):Yeah, I did. I took this introduction to play right in class and it was one of those things. People talk about this, like in a romantic relationship where you're just like, it changes your whole life. And I didn't have that in a romantic relationship, but I had that with playwriting. One-on-one where, you know, I just, I, it came, I don't want to say easily to me cause it was really easy to play it, but it came, it was like a big release in my life that I arrived at playwriting and loved doing it. And it's like a big jigsaw and you can stay up all night doing it. And I knew from the very first, basically from the first act of a play that I wrote that it's what I wanted to do. I'm very lucky. It was very clear.1 (9m 5s):Yeah. Yeah. That is really lucky. So we have talked to almost 60 people now, the majority of them have been actors. So we've really delved deep into like everything about being an actor, especially at the age of undergrad and what that's like to be growing up, you know, just growing up and then trying to figure out yourself well enough to be an actor and all the stuff that comes along with that, including, you know, the competitive best with your cohort. But I imagine that's what it, well, I don't want to imagine what it's like, what is it like with your cohort when you're all writers and you're presumably reading each other's work critiquing each other's work, does it get really competitive?3 (9m 55s):I suspect that it can, you know, I feel very lucky cause I have never experienced that directly in a graduate program situation. Part of it is I think I went to really great places where everyone had gotten in was incredibly talented and brought such a unique point of view and voice that none of us were trying to raise the same place. So it was really easy to just support each other. And also it's fun, you know, you're reading it aloud. So if something's in the south, you're trying an accent and it's super bad cause you're a playwright. So I found it, you know, I became close with the other writers and I mean, I'm married. One of them, I call him my husband, he and I were in the same graduate program at Tisch. And there is something beautiful about meeting someone in a writing workshop because you're just sort of naked.3 (10m 41s):It's all, you know, I imagine it's like, I understand my actors fall in love too. It's like, you're just so vulnerable and you know, each other in a deep way. But my experience has been that writers are pretty, pretty darn supportive of each other. And if you're not, you kind of don't fit in, like if you're a jerk, if you're competitive jerk, like you're not meant to be a playwright, playwrights need to love people. Cause that's what we do, you know? Yeah.1 (11m 1s):Yeah. That's a very good point. Actually, we talked to CISA Hutchinson yesterday and basically said, yeah, isn't she awesome?3 (11m 8s):She's in a beautiful inside and out like just, but yeah.1 (11m 12s):Yeah. She, and she echoed the same thing in what you're saying. So I guess we're going to stop asking this question about competition. It's just that it's so much of a part of like the act. And I think it's part of just how the program is structured. I mean, you're literally up for the same parts against each other and they PO posted on a wall and everybody shows up to3 (11m 35s):Absolutely. And you know, I was at Juilliard where they still cut people. You know, that system has changed a little bit, but I was at the, the version of Juilliard that was structured to drop 10% of the class out. And I feel like you don't get, I don't know. I learned a lot about that cause they cut playwrights as well. And I feel like that doesn't, that doesn't bring forth good creative work from anybody that pressure of, you know, is Sally going to get cut instead of me that's that's, that's not good skills. I don't think1 (12m 5s):It's true. And at the same time, like a lot of the people who were cut from our program went on to have better careers than the majority of us. So it's just like not a lot of rhyme or reason to it.3 (12m 15s):It's like SNL. Yeah. I mean, yes. It's not a predictor. You got it. Right.1 (12m 20s):Exactly. Okay. So you graduated or you've finally finished school with Julliard after doing it for, for a number of years then what happened next? You were, you were married or you're in a relationship and w how did, how do two writers figure out what their next steps are going to be when school's over?3 (12m 40s):Well, I don't know how to writers in general would do, but I can tell you how Colin and I did it, which is that we we've never been competitive because we write really different plays. Like I am talking to, you know, especially as a playwright, my, my work tends to, I mean, I've written Boulevard, comedy. It's like, I really like to laugh. My husband's play is everyone's on meth and they're an Appalachian. It's like, we are, we are really young and yang. And, but I think being, I really recommend being married to, or spending your life with another writer, if you are a writer because they get it and they get you in like a deep, deep way. So if you have to stay up to four o'clock in the morning, cause you're inspired and you have to finish the scene, you know, there's, there's just a, there's no jealousy about that.3 (13m 25s):There's an acceptance. And our, it really, I think I often say, I don't think I'd be a playwright. Certainly won't be any of the things that I am a mother, you know, like everything is because it's all. And I, I had someone who believed in me more than I believed in myself and at points that is everything because, you know, your play opens in New York, you get just the worst reviews in the world and you take, you know, you'd take to the bed and you don't think you're ever going to write again. And it's so important who you decided to spend your life with because, you know, con only saw me as a writer first and foremost. And you know, it's like at the same goes for him. So we, yeah, but just technically do we have money? You know, we lived in a apartment in Brooklyn that we got to kind of like a hookup.3 (14m 9s):My husband was, he managed the bar downstairs, so he knew the guy. And so we got this apartment that we could actually afford, but we both worked full time waiting tables and bartending. And then if I get into the O'Neil, for instance, he would do extra bartending support me being at the O'Neil. And you know, he went up to LA for a few months and did a bunch of meetings and screenwriting stuff. And I supported him with the Juilliard money. Like we just have always worked it out. And for the last handful of years, when we finally don't have to, we can both be working in. It's great.1 (14m 39s):Yeah. That's nice that, by the way, that makes so much sense about the difference in your writing because in watching made, you know, I remember getting to the end of the first episode that he wrote and not, not having known throughout the episode that he wrote it and being like, wow, this is really, really different than Molly's writing. And of course it, it was his, and I kind of tend towards that darker stuff too. So yeah. And by the way, the series is fantastic. It is so good. And how you were having such a moment, you're getting great reviews. People are loving. I saw even today, it's number three on Netflix. How are you doing with success? Because people assume that it's all great, but I'm guessing it's not.1 (15m 23s):And I'm guessing it's kind of scary too.3 (15m 27s):Oh, well this is all pretty, just great. You know, like I think there's probably two things that are tricky about it, which I'll tell you in a second, but the fact is, it's just, it's great. Especially because it's made, you know, made is the closest to play writing. I've done for the screen. I see the show as 10 individual plays and it's really just about cleaning and feelings. It's the most character driven thing I've seen on TV in a long time. There's no murder. There's no cool accents. We're not in Hawaii. It's just about one woman's cleaning and feelings. And every time we turned in an episode, I thought Netflix would call and be like, you know, this is too weird.3 (16m 9s):Like the couch can't eat her. That's just too weird, you know, but they let me make this like, you know, artistic, I think like they're beautiful thing. And I didn't really believe that they were going to air it. And then I didn't really believe that people were going, gonna watch it. And so the fact that the fact that it is exactly what I wanted it to be and people love it. It's very, I don't really, I think it's really exciting just as a writer, it's exciting. It's like, oh, maybe we can return to doing harder things on the screen and on the stage again, you know, I think audiences weren't deterred by the fact that it was difficult, you know, they leaned in. And so I feel like it's really, it's mostly just fantastic.3 (16m 49s):I am surprised that people love it this much, but no, I'm just, I'm so proud of it. So it feels great. That's all there is. Do it.1 (16m 57s):What were the, you said there you'll tell me about the two things that have been challenging.3 (17m 1s):Yes, it is challenging. I, and I know you'll relate to this, but coming up in the theater, there are so many of us that, that are just working hard and waiting tables and waiting for a break. And that was me as well. And you want to help every single one of those people and you want to help every single one of those people whose cousin is also in LA. So like, that's the part that's really hard for me is that I can't, I can't do for everyone. And I want to, and especially theater people, like if you, if someone sends me a cold email that the subject is like a MF playwright, like I read it and then I, you know, I, I can't help it.3 (17m 42s):So that's a little hard cause I want to be good to everyone. And, and can't so that's, that's hard for me. And the other thing that's just hard is, you know, I spend my life in sweatpants and now suddenly have to do a bunch of stuff where I look, I have to look very, you know, Like, you know, writers or writers were writers for a reason. And so, so suddenly I have to like I to buy lipstick. And so that part of it is a little being articulate. Like next to Margot, Robbie is very difficult for me, but1 (18m 14s):I didn't realize until just today that she was the producer. So she's, she's the person who optioned the book.3 (18m 20s):So she and John Wells got the book together. John Wells is a very famous producer. He did west wing ER, and shameless, which is how I know him. I worked in my last four seasons of shameless is a writer on the show. So when he and Margo got the book, LA had just done cry it out, it was cried out, was up like, like had just closed when they got the book and it's a play about moms. And I think they were like, oh, we know a person who writes about moms and they handed me the book. It was so kismet.1 (18m 49s):Wow. That's fantastic. And, but you had to, I mean, I read the book too. You had to create a whole narrative. That's not in the book. So how does that, I'm curious about that process and how it works. Is it that you kind of sit down as the show runner and hatch a basic idea that you, that you then have some writers help you with or do you have to outline all of the stories and everybody else just writes them? Or how does it work?3 (19m 20s):Well, it's a, it's a little bit different with every project. Oh, I'm with a story like made, you know, whenever the memoir I learned so much, like it was, it's really an educational tool and I didn't want to sacrifice any of that. On the other hand, when you go and sit down with your husband or wife and Saturday night to watch Netflix, you don't want to lecture and you don't want to like TV, shouldn't taste like TV, shouldn't taste like broccoli, right. It should taste like it should be a sneak attack. Kind of like my plate is like, I like to sneak people into learning something. So I knew kind of off the bat that that made was an incredible engine, the memoir, and that I wanted all the takeaway to be the same. But I also knew that we were going to have to create a lot of story to do that.3 (20m 1s):So to answer your question, when I first said I would do the book and when we were taking out and pitching it to Netflix, pitching it to HBO, you know, all the places I would have to say, this is what I'm going to do. You know, we're gonna, we're going to do 10 episodes. Her mom's going to be a huge character. Her dad's got a huge character. We're going to really build up. Sean. We're going to get to know some of the people in the houses we're going to get to know Regina, she's an invented character, but this is how she'll structure in the plot. And you really have to know the nuts and bolts of what you're going to do. And the tone of it, like it's kinda like giving a 45 minute presentation on what the show will be. And then hopefully someone like Netflix is like, okay, great. Here's, here's a green light and get your writer's room. So then you hire a handful.3 (20m 42s):If you're lucky, you know, I could, I didn't have any, no one told me what to do. I got to hire whoever I wanted. And I hired only four writers, three of whom are playwrights, three of whom. I'm sure. You know, cause it's Colin, Becca bronzer, Marcus Garley so really accomplished playwrights. And then Michelle, Denise Jackson, who is not a playwright, but should be like, she's an honorary playwright, you know? And so w and then the five of us sit down and we take what I've said, you know, about the show, the 45 minute presentation, and we flush it out. What are we doing in every episode? What does this look like? And that, that process in the writer's room is the closest, you'll get to a table read in the theater, you know, where you're just at the table, you're reading that play.3 (21m 24s):And then you talk about it for, you know, nine days. That's a writer's room is that every day. So it's very, very, very cool experience and everyone's sharing secrets and, and we disagree sometimes and we do puzzles and there's a lot of talk about lunch.1 (21m 43s):That's what everybody says.3 (21m 47s):But also what was cool that mean is that these five, these four writers and me, the five of us, we all really connected to different things in the memoir. And we also, all of us come from all of us can relate to the memoir in different ways. And so you get five different perspectives on something. And I think, you know, Becca brown center did so much of the writing of Regina, and I think she could really connect to Regina. And, you know, that character would not feel quite as beautifully drawn if Becca weren't in the writers room. Like, so, so much of it is it's a dinner party. And the result of that dinner party is character. You know? So it's really, it's the most important thing you do is those writers.1 (22m 26s):That is okay. So I also just learned that today that you didn't write that Regina monologue, because, and this is about my own projection that when I'm watching it, I'm going, oh my God, this is so similar to Claire, Claire. Is that the name of the character and cry it out. That lives up high, up on the hill.3 (22m 45s):Oh, Adrian. Adrian.1 (22m 47s):Yeah. Thank you. Sorry. I was thinking, I was thinking, it sounded like an Adrian, my likes. So that's fascinating that, that,3 (22m 53s):Well, let me explain one further thing, which is, so that's how the show gets written. And yes, Becca brown said, I wrote that monologue, but the other thing that the show runner does is it is my job to then go through all 10 episodes and make sure it sounds like one person wrote them. And, and so the showroom, so you kind of divide the writing in the room and then all funnels back to me and I rewrite it or fix things. Or sometimes, you know, sometimes you're doing a major rewrite sometimes you're just like with Regina monologue, it was so beautiful. You know, we, we had to cut a couple of things for production, but like, it's, it's back as work. And, but it's, that's what TV writing is. It's like, there'll be stuff that Becca wrote in episode seven that she didn't write, or, you know, like TV is very collaborative and then it all funnels through the showrunner who does a pass to make sure it's, it's up to the standard that I want.3 (23m 44s):It's totally what I want. You know, it is, it is a writing job as a group, and then it is ultimately one person's writing job it's book. Does that make sense?1 (23m 51s):Yeah, it does. And thank you so much for answering that question because I have always wondered. And also even on television shows that have, have a different director, every episode, I'm always thinking, how are they keeping true to the tone, but not now, now I understand it. Well, I have so many things to ask you. I want to talk to you about just one thing is that you have said that you love writing about class, which is a big part of made and your, and your place. But, so I want to talk a little bit about that, but I also kind of want to talk maybe first about the thing that you said you were surprised that people like to made, and I've heard a lot of female writers express, something like that.1 (24m 36s):I'm surprised. And maybe people just say it in a way as, as you know, not, not trying to try to be humble. Right. Okay. But I believe that you are surprised by it because it does seem like a kind of recent thing that the universe is allowing us to tell women's stories and having them at the forefront. I mean, it seems really pretty recent. And so are you, do you feel like this is you're part of a big sea change in terms of what's being represented on screen?3 (25m 7s):You know, absolutely. I was talking to Netflix yesterday and they said last year it was Bridgford, you know, these are a lot of things, but they were saying last year, people, the surprise was everyone loved Britain and love Queens gambit. And this year one loves squid game and loves made, which cracks me up. But, but they think to be in the same sentence as Queens gambit as the limited series. I mean, I think that's so exciting as a female writer, because she was an alcoholic kind of like piece of crap who was amazing at chess and went on this like beautiful arc that was not traditionally feminine. It was usually that's a man, like that's usually a male going through that and were riveted by his addiction and his dysfunction and made his, you know, I think we're continuing what Queens gambit did as well.3 (25m 50s):Like it's, you know, Alex has a lot of things, but she's not a woman. She is a character going through an arc and she makes a ton of mistakes and she, you know, is a product of where she comes from. And that is enough to carry a show. And I feel like that is it you're right. It's so recent. And I therefore assumed it would be treated like a, you know, like a niche, you know, maybe 500,000 people will watch it kind of like, cause we don't show up for those shows, but all of a sudden we really show up for those shows and we want to see a multidimensional and rich and layered woman at the story of her own dance story. It's really like exciting.3 (26m 31s):It's exciting.1 (26m 33s):That's what I think about stuff like this. I just imagine, you know, the people who are traditionally in charge of these things, I just mentioned it, but I imagine a bunch of guys sitting around being like, can you imagine people really want to hear about these dang? I mean, I feel like it must be a surprise to, to sort of the old guard that, you know, because of course everything does have to be motivated about what's going to be a return on your investment. And that, that that's understandable. It's I'm not saying anybody's bad for that, but it is curious to me that there was just this, there was an assumption that if you made a female centered show, nobody would want to watch it.1 (27m 16s):Except for every time they make a female centered, anything people want to watch it. Why is this keep being a surprise?3 (27m 24s):I think it's going to stopping a surprise pretty soon because this cracked me up. But my friend was doing a pitch yesterday at Hulu. And I guess like the conversation kind of organically came up with like, well, what's our main, you know, like what's the, you know, the producer was in it, but like, you know, people are starting to look for the, the queen scam, but you know, trying to look for the female, you know, the unconventional sort of what's the would be a surprising female story. We're starting to like, not only are we starting to have it at the table, that the market is the, market's starting to recognize that we're going to get eyes on the screen and it's, you know, I shouldn't be so surprised by made.1 (28m 5s):Right. Right. And it helps that we have people like Margot, Robbie and Reese Witherspoon and females who are having more of a say about what gets produced, you know, with what, what books get optioned and then what gets produced.3 (28m 17s):Absolutely. And, and more and more women are taking those jobs and taking those positions. And it's a good, it's a sea change. I also dare say, I think TV and film has ahead of it than theater. I have to say, I think1 (28m 29s):Girl, that's another thing I was going to say. Cause you had a quote in something I read theater is behind theater is so behind and this is, unfortunately it came as a surprise to me. Like when I woke up to the fact that theater is so behind, it was sad and it also doesn't make sense. It also, you know, it should be it's, it was 40 years ago. It was the most progressive part of art, I think.3 (28m 55s):Yeah. Well the theater doesn't treat women as, as minority voices and they have, and like that's, what's so crazy is we've, you know, I think we've carved out space for there's so much equality and, and like, it's exciting to see the programming in theaters change. And like it's not just white men anymore. That's all, that's very, very exciting. But heterosexual women stories that mother's stories about our struggles stories about, you know, me and my friends, there's no space for us on the New York stage. There's no space for my friends and I on the New York stage. And I feel like, and then, you know, you don't go up in New York, then you don't go all across the regions.3 (29m 36s):And I think a great example is actually cried out because that had a huge regional presence because I think people are starved for players like that, that are about women and just, you know, and not women on Mars and not, not necessarily, you know, like it just normal women, women having, you know, the Wendy Wasserstein plays of today are not produced in New York. And it's, it's a, it's a huge issue I think.1 (30m 0s):Yeah, yeah, it is. So, okay. So the other thing is that you love to write about class, which I find fascinating. I love to read about it in any case, what is your personal connection to your fascination with that issue?3 (30m 17s):Well, I think I grew a group of the Hudson valley, the daughter of two teachers. So, you know, I, I, I can't relate to made, for instance, in the sense of, I always had food and I always had a certain amount of like structure and S and security, but I, my parents were incredibly well educated and they kind of like my dad went to Cornell and it was sort of something we heard a lot about, even though we didn't kind of grow up in a moneyed area or money to house, there was a sense of, there was a sense of you could scholarship your way into the next strata. And I think that I find that fascinating because it's just not true. I, it's almost impossible.3 (30m 59s):It's almost impossible to change your class in America. And it's, it's, I feel like those walls are getting higher, not lower. And I watch people through everything they have at, at, at those chances to change, you know, change their stripes. And I just think the way we, we work in this country is we it's, we've made that harder and harder. There is no bootstrap narrative there. It does. There's no bootstraps it doesn't, it's not a thing in this country. So I find that fascinating because I felt very jipped. You know, I felt like I worked very, very hard and like I was always getting A's and being sophisticated and like, I couldn't graduate and get a, you know, a little studio in New York and intern at a publishing house.3 (31m 42s):You know, like a lot of my friends who came from money could, and there's just, it's so ingrained in our culture and it makes me mad and it's not, you know, it's not fair. Especially when I had a child and started thinking about cried out and just the way we treat that money directly affects maternity leave in this country too. And like, I can't compete with somebody who has a trust fund, you know, I had to put queer where I could afford her. And it's just bullshit that you can claw your way out of the class that you're born into. It's it's extremely rare. So I love that1 (32m 16s):It's bullshit and it's really dangerous cause it makes people feel so inadequate when they can't, you know, and that, that's also a great scene. I think it's in the first episode. Yeah. It's in the first episode when she goes and she's talking to the social worker and she's saying, so I can't get a job because I don't have a daycare and I can't get daycare cause I don't have a job. So I have to get a dog to prove that I didn't deserve daycare. I mean, it's, it's also3 (32m 40s):Backwards. Yeah. You're at a humongous disadvantage. If you are born into, you know, if you're born into poverty, you're at a humongous disadvantage in this country and it's like getting worse. That's the other thing is it's not, I mean, I have to leave. That's part of why made is, is touching so many people's sense of justice too. It's like, oh yeah, it's getting worse. Like, why aren't we talking about this? It's you know, Alex and I are, are not facing the same problems. And it's just by where I was born and where she was born and you know, you what family, your brand and who dictates so much of your struggle.1 (33m 17s):Yeah. And, and that, that the sort of historical narratives would have you believe that it's, it's the opposite of that and that, and that everybody left England to get away from that. But then yeah, just creative things I think here. So another thing that I heard or read that you said that really took my breath away is you said that when you became a mother, your, you didn't say your resolve for your career. You, the phrase that I that's sticking out to me, as you said, I went from being the secretary of my own company to the CEO. And it just, that just really like hit me in the center of my chest.1 (33m 58s):Can you just say a little bit more about it? What, what you meant by that?3 (34m 3s):Sure. I think that we'll probably like probably like many women when they become moms. I, I was frustrated that I had, I had this thing that I was good at, that I had studied for so many years that I've given so much time and love to my playwriting career and that it did not love me back in the sense that I could not afford to take core to a music class, you know? And it made me very, it made me very frustrated that, you know, I, I had devoted my, my self to this, this field that I had a passive relationship with. Like I was waiting for someone to call and tell me they were going to do a reading or, you know, or I was waiting for my career to start.3 (34m 50s):And I think what happened when I had, when I had Cora was I, I wanted to provide for her. And I also wanted to, I wanted to show her that you could be tough and you could be an active participant in your career like that. I didn't have to wait for it to happen. And so part of it was, I was, I just kind of said the things we all want to say out loud as a women, but I actually said them, which was like, Hey agents, what the F I am funny and talented. I want to work in TV. I want to take a music class with my daughter. What do I have to do to do that? And I you'd be shocked. I think how freeing and wonderful it is to just stand up for yourself and to make demands. And, you know, and I wanted to, I wanted to take an expensive music class with my daughter and I wanted to have a career.3 (35m 32s):And I was like, I'm not going to wait for it to happen because I know if someone gives me a chance I'm going to do, I'm going to go far in this field. Like, cause I don't know. Does that make sense? So I kind of like, wait, I said, waiting for the phone to ring and started making the calls.1 (35m 45s):Yeah. And also what I'm hearing is you stopped just blindly participating in the myth that everything can only work a certain way, which I feel like is something that we can all relate. I mean, it's something that boss and I talk a lot on this podcast about like just making so many assumptions about what, what we're definitely not entitled to have and what we're, you know, let's definitely for other people and not for us without ever once actually saying that out loud or asking for what we want. And actually yesterday chiefs have said the exact same thing. She said she, she was trying to be humble and say it's because she doesn't know how the system works. So she didn't know, she couldn't ask which you know. Okay. Maybe, but it's very inspiring to hear that.1 (36m 29s):Now you could just decide what you want to do with your life and your career. You could decide that you want to have a work-life balance and then have it.3 (36m 37s):Yeah. And you know, I think actors have this too. We are always waiting for the phone to ring. And at a certain point, I think that's a really tough way to be a mom because you can't count on anything and you're spread so thin. And I'm just kinda like, no, I'm going to generate, I'm going to generate this. And I can't really define the moment, but I will say for me it was emotional. I, I stopped, I stopped letting theater. Tell me how to feel about myself a little bit theater. I mean, it's a little bit like the terrible boyfriend that you just can't leave. Right. Like I would be like, I would be like, here's my new play. Do you love it? And they'd be like, maybe, you know, maybe we'll do a reading of it.3 (37m 19s):And I'd be like, let's my full heart. And I love you. And then, you know, and I finally like kind of broke up with that boyfriend in the sense that like, no, I'm really good at this. And like, I'm going to go where the love is. And I'm going to figure out how to pay my bills doing this and maybe you'll miss me and come back. You know, you know, it's hard as an artist, you can't let someone else tell you what your worth is. And theater is very conducive to that.1 (37m 40s):Yeah. Oh my God. That's so true. And that's, by the way, like a big part of the character of Alex, she does that too. I mean, she, with not that much to leverage did still find a way to just be very active about asking for what she wants. And I can see what you're saying about how, how having a kid makes that very clear. Whereas maybe you don't feel so I'm entitled to ask for what you want when it's just you, but when you know that it's somebody else who's depending on you, then it's that it doesn't feel like you're asking for yourself. It feels like you're asking for your family.3 (38m 15s):Yeah. And you see injustice with fresh eyes when you have a child, you know, because I don't know. I feel, I feel like certainly in my case, I w I would, I was so focused on being a good collaborator, being polite, being like, you know, you know, being grateful for the breadcrumbs that I got, you know, in my life. And I mean, honestly, it was a professional change, but it was primarily an emotional change. I was like, yeah, I don't want breadcrumbs anymore because my daughter deserves better than breadcrumbs. And so it just sort of filtered across all the fields, but yeah, another had does that.1 (38m 50s):Yeah, it does. It does well. So I don't know if I ever told you this, the reason I was looking through our emails earlier, as I wanted to see if I, I was sure I had said this thing to you, that I can not find in my email. So I'm going to say it to you now, which is that when I was directing your play, I wrote to you just about some things that I wondered if we could change. And you gave me the most thoughtful responses, which was, is to say you didn't invalidate that I was asking you, but you still stood up for what you, for the integrity of the play. I feel like I'm going to cry. I never saw anybody do that before.1 (39m 36s):And it was a really great, I wish I wasn't crying as I started to say this to you, but it was a great thing to, it was a, you were a great role model for me in that moment. And I always appreciate that. So thank you.3 (39m 52s):Oh, Tina, thank you. Well, you know what, thank you for wanting to have a conversation with me about it. Cause like I also think that's the sign of a fantastic director that you let me into your process and your thoughts about it. And I know you did a fantastic job with the play cause I had Scouts in that area who saw it and you know, so whatever you were, whatever you were working with, you artistically, you certainly landed that ship for you. You know, landed that plan beautifully.1 (40m 15s):Thank you. I had, and I had so much fun doing it. So tell me about some of your mentors. We had a nice discussion the other day about the power of mentors and some people go kind of through their whole training and never really feel like they connect with a mentor. Did you have mentors along the way?3 (40m 35s):Yes. I'm very lucky. Actually. I'm very lucky. I'm sure most people who go to Julliard and say this, but I, in my case, it's, it's really, really true that Marsha Norman was a wonderful mentor to me. I met her at Tisch and Tisha's a funny place because it's a larger program. You know, you don't have that. One-on-one with your professors that you do with Juilliard where there's just a handful of you, but, and I didn't stand out at Tisch. I sort of, my husband was, you know, my husband's sort of the star over player at, in class and I hadn't found my voice and I was sort of, I just wasn't like the star student and she was, she saw something in me and I don't think she saw like a Polish playwright yet, but she saw, I think there's just, she saw a way to help me find my voice.3 (41m 18s):And she hired me as her assistant coming out of that MFA program. And I always think like it was sort of charity work because she didn't need an assistant. She was so on top of her life. But I think she wanted to let me hang out with her and see how she conducted her business. So she was working on law and criminal intent. Yeah. Yeah. And so I was on set with her. I get to do research with her, for the scripts. She was doing the color purple and I got to go to rehearsal usually just to bring a coffee that I could watch. And it was, you know, she's also a mother and I don't know it was really, it, it was so generous of her because I got, I just got to see that you, what a woman in power looks like and, and a woman on her voice.3 (41m 59s):And she also says no a lot. And I grew to really respect that. Especially later when I became a mom, but you don't F with Marsha. I mean, she'll shut stuff down. She's really, I mean, she's such a generous person here. She did this thing for me, I'm a total stranger, but she's also like she knows her worth. So I was very grateful. It's been those years with her. And then, and then she invited me to Julliard. And then when I was ready really gave me, I mean, Juilliard is so much pressure. And the thing about Julia is you have to know what your voice is to go there. And so it's almost like she was helping me find my voice. And then when I found it gave me this incredible opportunity to go to Julliard. So sh honestly like very, very good to me in such a mentor in a very lucky.3 (42m 41s):And then on the west coast, I've had a wonderful mentor in John Wells because he, he's just one of the most terrific showrunners and producers, but it's funny cause I, everybody knows that that's not a secret in LA, but to work for him as a writer and to be in his writer's room. I learned so much from him about how to empower the people around you. How did it become like, you know, there's so many toxic writing rooms and toxic jobs with my friends, tell me, and it sounds terrible, but everyone at a John Wells show is thrilled to be there and very lucky to have that job. And they know it and like just that there's a way to do things gracefully. So he, and, and then he got this book and handed it to me and gave me my first chance to be a show runner.3 (43m 23s):So I had a, I've been very lucky to have him as a mentor on this coast1 (43m 28s):And the toxic. I've heard a lot of stories too, about toxic writers' rooms. And maybe that's also something that's going to get phased out because like so many of these things, you just, you just need more samples. You need, you know, you need more samples in your dataset so that, you know, I mean, if 99% of everything is run in one certain way, then there's little, there's little chance that it's going to change. But when, when the tide starts to shift, maybe there's a little, few more samples in your dataset that show, well, you can just be a regular nice person and still get the same, you know, get the same job done. That's that's nice to hear.3 (44m 9s):Yeah. Yeah.1 (44m 12s):So dah, dah, dah, oh, one, another favorite line from made is when Alex is talking to her dad about, I think this is, might be at the last episode or near then. And she says, she's trying to tell him that her or her, whatever boyfriend abused her and her, father's not taking it in. And she says, do you hear the words that are coming out of my mouth right now? That was another thing that really hit me because, you know, denial is really not a passive thing. Like you have to work pretty hard at defending your denial on something.1 (44m 56s):And I'm really familiar with saying something that feels, you know, that's a truth for me to people who, I mean, act as if you're, you know, like you're invisible and that turns out to be a really shaping force in a lot of people's lives. And you know, so anyway, I'm just curious about your own relationship and experience with denial.3 (45m 22s):Well, I love that you love that moment because I remember with that scene feeling like something was missing. And I remember, you know, I know a lot of it denial, but what I really know a lot about is gaslighting and denial is a form of gaslighting where you're just like, I'm, I'm not going to acknowledge a reality. And you know, I learned this tool a few years ago from a fantastic therapist that like, it's okay to just pause and be like, but you actually are hearing me, right? Like this is English. And you understand these words like, and I've, I've actually tried that tool in my life and steal at someone, not, not like, not be able to confirm that they're hearing the words.3 (46m 3s):And so it was when I, and then when I put it in the scene that it felt like, oh, that's what was missing is just this, like, how far are you going to take this denial? And he still can't write. I mean, I think Billy might nod, but he doesn't say anything. Like, I think gaslighting in denial and emotional abuse, I mean, I could write 40 Marsha was about this. I am fascinated by it. And the thing we don't talk about it as a form of abuse. And we should, it's like weirdly I think as well as violent, if not more violent than physical abuse, because you don't realize it's happening like Alex in the pilot, she doesn't know she's a victim of abuse and she is such an, a victim of abuse, which I hope we demonstrate in the show that you have to go on that ride with her, but you know, it's so corrosive and there's nothing worse than having someone tell you what what's real is not real day after day, year after year.3 (46m 56s):Like this is an area that I know a lot about I sent you do to1 (47m 1s):Yes. And actually my kind of where I put my energy in terms of recovery is with codependency and denial and codependency, or just, I mean, that's, that's the it's denial is the perfume of codependency. It's just, it's everywhere. And what I think really gets triggered for people who want to keep pretending, like they hear the words you're saying is because I find this in my family, like the way that denial really shows up in my family is if I acknowledge a truth, that's too true. I think what happens to other people is they feel that if they even just validate that that's my truth, that that somehow means that they have to acknowledge it for their own selves and their own lives.1 (47m 51s):And that's really like the forbidden thing that, you know, that people who don't want to go there can't do, they can't, it's like the Pandora's box. If I start to look at, you know, if I acknowledge that, what you're saying about this is true, then I can't help, but start to acknowledge all of the other things as well.3 (48m 9s):I think what you just said is, is brilliant because I think people think denial is just inactive, but it's aggressive. It's so aggressive. It's really violent, you know, intense denial that gaslighting of like, I will not even acknowledge. I hear the words you're saying it's, it's, it's so active. It's I mean, it's so aggressive. What you said was really, really smart really. Right. Yeah. And I love the people. I love the people are flipping out about Hank with me. Like how does he just sit there and let Sean treat her like that? And like, you know, and that's what I mean, I think she's mistreated throughout the show, but I think what Hank does to her in that moment with the denial is, is I think a lot of us recognize that.1 (48m 49s):Yeah. And I really appreciate the w the way you rolled out this whole concept of emotional abuse, because even I who feel like I've spent so much time working on this stuff, and I was a therapist, even I was found myself being like, oh, he didn't hit her. You know, she left, he didn't hit her. Hmm. I really had to check that in myself. And I was because one of the things that denial, I mean, in the absence of act, you know, saying you're wrong or whatever, and it's just, I don't hear you. You just assume that what you're saying, isn't valid, it's it becomes this thing that you do to yourself where you, you know, if somebody invalidates you enough, you start to invalidate yourself.1 (49m 38s):So I loved how you rolled that out in the series that are people talking to you a lot about that.3 (49m 45s):Yes they are. And how about in episode eight, where you are like, oh, Sean's changed and he's turned around and he's going to be a carpenter, you know? And like you it's in you, you find yourself. Or at least I did. And I assume it seems like audiences to just kind of like, oh, maybe this is a happy, love story. Like maybe he like, you know, and, and that, you know, that is all by calculated manipulative writing that I like my secret agenda with me. It was, you know, and I claimed 10 hours cause I wanted, I wanted the audience to go on the actual experience of that cycle and to get thrown off by it and caught up in it like, oh my gosh, I'm back, I'm back. And I'm in the pit, how did this happen?3 (50m 26s):And I wanted to show you how it happened. I also was like, I dare you to wash made and tell me that that's not domestic violence because it is emotional abuse is violent. It, what happens to her is violent. So that was like my secret mustache totally goal with the show.1 (50m 43s):Yeah, no, it, it hit, it totally played. And, and I think the other thing that's great about that is that when we have seen depictions of violence against women in film, I mean the best we could entail television, the best we could have hoped for is some woman who's abused who isn't a total idiot, because mostly what it is, how it's portrayed is some dumb person who doesn't, who's too dumb to know she's being abused. So therefore she goes back and also the various, the subtle, wow. I don't know if it's settled, but the, the subplot with the first roommate that she has when she goes to the, not roommate, but you know, the woman who lives in the shelter with her who introduces her to, you know, how, how to do life there.1 (51m 31s):I love I, that was heartbreaking her story of, because it is that you, you, you, yes, in the audience were saying, yeah, maybe sh maybe Sean is a good guy. Maybe, maybe all he really needed was to sober up and become the good person he was meant to team.3 (51m 50s):Yep. I mean, it's funny. I did an interview yesterday where this gentleman was like, is Sean okay? Like, does he end up okay. In life? And, and I, and I found myself sort of being like, I've never really thought of that cause he, you know, he's fictional, but I, I don't know. I'm not sure that that guy is ever going to make it out of that trailer, you know? And I'm not sure that he's going to get sober and be a great dad. I'm not. But I do feel like when he says at the end, I'm going to get sober and come see her all the time. I don't believe him. And, and I think that's his TV show, right? That's his cycle that he has to break. But my goal was to show that he's caught in his own cycle too.3 (52m 29s):Like, we are all kind of caught in our own cycles and it's so hard to break, you know, an Alex barely makes it out. And most women and men in her situation, the show ends in episode eight under the, in the pit. Most people don't get out of the pit and she is so smart and driven that she can, but she's the exception and not, she's a great exception. Yeah.1 (52m 53s):Yeah. Yeah. So we're, I want to be honoring your time. I told you we're only going to talk for an hour, but, but before we begin to wrap up, I just want to ask you, so since we've spent a lot of time talking about your success, let's hear about some of your failures. What have been some mistakes that you've made, maybe, maybe you maybe even like when you, when you made first, the transition from playwriting to writing and Hollywood, what were some of the mistakes that you made along the way?3 (53m 23s):Well, I, I think the, one of the great learning opportunities I've had as a human being, not just as a writer, was my first big production as a playwright in New York. And it was, you know, I was barely out of school and I felt I'm just so grateful for the opportunity. You know, it was a big production with stars in it and fancy director and everyone there was fancy except me and the process I have to say kind of went that way, like, like, huh, there's this element of it's actually, it's when I play close up space is about a dad and a daughter. It's about grief and pain and there's a lot of magical realism and I'm sure it's far from the perfect play, but it got obliterated by the press and squarely blamed on me the most inexperienced person in the production.3 (54m 11s):But what I learned from it is that I knew things about it were wrong. I knew immediately things about the production were wrong and I didn't use my voice. I didn't, you know, what happened with the play is my fault. I didn't, I didn't ring the bell. I didn't say, well, I didn't refuse the rewrites. Like I, you know, and everybody there had good intentions. Everybody wants to have a hit play, but people saw it a different way than I did. And, and it was wonderful people. There was no reason why I couldn't have said, Hey, yo, this isn't what I wrote. And I really, it was a crushing blow to have that play go so badly and to, to get such her, I mean, if you went for that and just Google it, it's the worst reviews. It's like, one of the, one of the reviews was like, is she sleeping with the director?3 (54m 53s):Like, why did she even get this product? You know, it's just straight on misogyny. I mean, it was, it was so mean, but what it taught me was I, since that moment I've really listened to my gut. And if my gut says this isn't right, I say it, and I don't worry about how it's going to come across. It sounds like I did that with you, but I have my sense of like, no, and, and it, and I learned the hard way in that moment that nothing is more important than your own gut. And so, and, you know, kind of re I had like a, kind of, a lot of momentum as a playwright really stop that momentum. It sent me into a deep depression. I mean, the, I lost so much because I didn't listen to my voice.3 (55m 36s):So that was my big theater lesson, which is applied to everything. But the big mistake I've made in TV to film, I've actually been really, really, really lucky and worked with fantastic people. But I think that stuff can go sideways here. It's a, it's a funny town, you know, and I've worked with wonderful people, but once in a while, you know, something's happening and then it just disappears. And so, you know, like that, you're gonna, you know, I, right before me and I came so close to having another job that I really wanted and was passionate about, it would have been my first time kosher running something, show running something, and, you know, we were all but celebrating.3 (56m 21s):And then the whole thing fell apart because the actress wanted her friend to write it and like bull, bull, crap. Like that happens all the time in LA. And so it's a hard time. It's a hard lesson the first time, you know, where I was like, oh, people don't, you know, like my agent sent me champagne. Like it was, it was happening. And then it very suddenly wasn't. And so I think it made me realize that don't pop the champagne until the contract is signed1 (56m 51s):And put that on a t-shirt.3 (56m 57s):That was a tough lesson to learn though, because I was like, wait, oh my God. Like, I went from like sky high to, and you know, nobody really, nobody apart, it was just very sobering. So,1 (57m 7s):And writing is so personal that it's really hard not to take both the criticisms to heart and then the, the opposite of the criticisms. And, you know, it's, it's hard not to make it. It's hard to stop making it about personal validation. You know, when, when somebody likes or doesn't like your stuff. Yeah. That's the journey I'm on right now. Not making it about, you know, like if somebody didn't like my play doesn't mean they don't, it doesn't have anything to do with whether or not they like me.3 (57m 40s):Yeah. You know, that's, I'm glad you're learning that because I also can tell you, I just staffed a writing room for the first time. And so that experience was really opening because I read unbelievably fantastic things and I didn't meet with them because, you know, you're designing a dinner party with five people and you kind of have to, and like you, the truth is, like I said, I passed on a lot of wonderful writers whose work I freaking loved. And like, can't wait to read for the next thing and have mentioned and recommended to other people. And that's part of it is like, you don't know how people are experiencing your work and the fans that you're building along the way. And I think we quickly assume the worst. Right? I know I do. But like, but the fact is like, you don't, you don't know how close you got it.3 (58m 24s):My guess is you're getting close to stuff and you don't know. And aren't able to know that1 (58m 29s):At the end of the day, the only thing you have control over is whether or not you go back to your computer later that day and just keep writing.3 (58m 36s):Yeah. You got to run, run your own race, which is so hard to do. I mean, listen, it really, really is. But yeah. The only thing you, the only thing you can control is your output true. Which is horrible. I mean, I, I, for the first time, in two years that don't have anyone calling me today to be like, where are the pages? You know? Like, I mean, part of it too is it's, it's helpful when you have deadlines and pressure. That's why I love to grad school because I'm the second Monday of October, I was reading my play out loud. And so I had to go right. You know, make sure I write it. So I also feel like that's, without that, it's also, that's a hard thing about feeling like you're not moving forward too, is that lack of deadlines.3 (59m 19s):But again, you don't, you don't, you don't know how far your work is going and how who's reading it and what it will lead to the next time. And I mean, I've gotten, I've gotten rejected on so many things that have led to a meeting later, you know, like so many things that, so many jobs I wanted that I didn't get, but then later someone's like, oh, we read her for that. We should meet her for this. And I didn't get that job either, but, but it's like, it's just funny. So yeah,1 (59m 48s):Like leaving a whole blanket of your career and you never know, you know, w where this, where the threads are going to end up.3 (59m 55s):Absolutely. And every time I get bummed out, which is a lot, because I'm a writer, all writers gets on debt. I, I try to think about and visualize the stack of things. I'm going to write in my life. And when I get terrible notes or when I get clobbered with notes and I feel depressed, I also think about the stack of work that I'm going to do in my life and how this piece that I'm writing right now is just one of them, you know? And that, that's my, that's my real tombstone like that pile, you know?1 (1h 0m 22s):Oh, I love that. What a great image and what a great note to end on.4 (1h 0m 37s):If you liked what you heard today, please give us a positive five star review and subscribe and tell your friends. I survived. Theater school is an undeniable Inc production. Jen Bosworth, Ramirez, and Gina plegia are the co-hosts. This episode was produced, edited, and sound mixed by Gina for more information about this podcast or other goings on of undeniable, Inc. Please visit our website@undeniablewriters.com. You can also follow us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Thank you.
On today's episode I will be sitting down with Kim West, best-selling author and family therapist who has been lovingly titled “The Sleep Lady,” In her work as a family therapist and busy mom, Kim dreamed of a deep, restful sleep. While conventional wisdom promoted a cry-it-out approach to sleep training, Kim knew that was not her style. Over time, she gently helped her first daughter get to sleep, fine-tuning a process over the years which later became a world-renowned sleep method that has helped over 1 million families finally get some rest. Kim has gained international recognition as an expert on baby and child sleep, and her step-by-step method, known as the Sleep Lady Shuffle, has empowered hundreds of thousands of families to find gentle, customized sleep solutions—and get some rest.Kim has authored multiple books including the groundbreaking The Sleep Lady's Good Night, Sleep Tight: Gentle, Proven Solutions to Help Your Child Sleep Well Without Leaving Them to Cry It Out. She has offered her expertise on national television programs including Dr. Phil, The Today Show, Good Morning America, and more.During this conversation we will be discussing the reasons students aren't getting enough sleep and how it affects their growth and development. Link to Kim's website.
In this episode, Matt and Rachel respond to some mail, discuss sleep training (and reflecting back on decisions you already made) and they premier a new segment: Instagram Unposted.Have opinions about sleep training and the article we discussed? Read it (see link below) and reach out to us at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Emily Oster, "Sleep Training: Is It Bad?"ParentData (Emily Oster's newsletter)You can find links to Emily's books at emilyoster.netPrecious Little Sleep by Alexis DubiefThe Modern Family episode featuring Cry It Out: "Up All Night" Rachel mentions that Matt is an Enneagram 1. Here's a summary of what that means for those unfamiliar with the Enneagram. Goat House Brewery
When it comes to helping our children with sleeping, the goal is to make them feel confident and capable of independently falling asleep and then falling back asleep if they wake up in the middle of the night. Sounds simple enough, but how do we as parents help our children build that skillset? In this episode, my guest Eileen Henry and I will review many of these factors. We'll discuss regulation techniques, how to create an ideal sleep environment - both physically and emotionally - and how to identify when your child is suffering and needs you to step in versus when they are struggling and you can help guide them without fixing the problem for them. I want to hear from you! Send me a topic you want me to cover or a question you want answered on the show! ✨ DM me on Instagram at @securelyattachedpodcast or @drsarahbren ✨ Send an email to info@drsarahbren.com ✨ And check out drsarahbren.com for more parenting resources
When did it become mainstream for parents to go down the Cry It Out route?Why do all the parenting 'experts' insist on telling mothers and fathers to ignore their instincts and focus on self-settling instead?And why do so many of us feel like failures if our babies don't yet sleep through the night?To find out how we got here, I spoke to anthropologist Alice-Amber Keegan from the The Durham Infancy & Sleep Centre about the history of baby sleep and night-time parenting.For more information about biologically normal infant sleep please see www.basisonline.org.uk
Balance is so much more than the food we eat and the way we move- it's also about balance in motherhood, making sure we're meeting our basic needs like sleep and self care, so we can show up as the best mamas we can be. So what if our babies won't sleep!? I know personally, I had two very different sleepers and I can't say either one was easy-- I could have used a gentle sleep coach, like today's guest, Lydia McNair, certified gentle sleep coach and founder of Gentle Loving Sleep, helping moms stuck between crying it out and waiting it out get their babies to sleep- and get that much needed sleep for themselves, so they can show up as the best moms they can be.Connect with Lydia:InstagramFacebook GroupGet the first module of Lydia's sleep course for free: https://gentlelovingsleep.lpages.co/healthybalancedmama/Connect with Kris:WebsiteInstagramHealthy Balanced Mamas Facebook CommunityGet $20 off Balanced Eating Essentials for a limited time: http://bit.ly/bal-20
Amy and Jen take a deep, deep dive into the muddy murky world of "Cry It Out" or "Extinction" sleep techniques. Put on your wellies and join us! We talk about the research groups and individual studies which have looked at these techniques with our usual critical eye. Attempting to keep our personal feelings out of the objective assessment of the research; nevertheless we still concluded that there is a substantial body of evidence which suggests CIO sleep techniques should not be recommended by health visitors. In the episode we take a closer look at the studies suggesting it is harmless and discuss why these are flawed and why we have come to a different conclusion. We will also talk about possible alternatives for health visitors who are reaching for some sort of intervention to support parents who feel they are at their 'wits end' in terms of sleep and those suffering with mental illness which may be exacerbated by a lack of sleep. Hopefully, we leave you with some possible avenues to explore with families as well as getting into the sleep debate in a meaningful way. As always, we love to hear from you so drop us an email on iamahealthvisitor@gmail.com to chat with us. Thanks Amy and Jen Resources and Further Reading: Honakar et al 2018 https://scholarworks.iupui.edu/bitstream/handle/1805/18975/Honaker_2018_real.pdf?sequence=1&isAllowed=n Accessed 30.11.2020 The news furore recently caused by Bilgin & Wolke 2020 https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/mar/11/leaving-babies-to-cry-does-no-harm-study-finds?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other Accessed 30.11.2020 Bilgin & Wolke 2020 https://sovendeboern.dk/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Bilgin-og-Wolke-2020.pdf Accessed 30.11.2020Accessed 30.11.2020 Lindsey Hookway 2020 statement - an IBCLC critique and response to the Bilgin & Wolke study. https://feedsleepbond.com/response-to-bilgin-and-wolke-cry-it-out-study/ Accessed 30.11.2020 Tronnick Still Face Phenomenon Video example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=apzXGEbZht0&list=PLpCQJ8MCxYM7yJXB2vcib0ai-4PZ4TlBL&index=12 Accessed 30.11.2020 Middlemiss et al 2012 - Cortisol and Asynchrony http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.671.2134&rep=rep1&type=pdf Accessed 30.11.2020 Hiscock et al 2007 - Cluster Randomised Trial of CIO intervention https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2083609/ Price et al 2012 - five year follow up https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Anna_Price5/publication/230830539_Five-Year_Follow-up_of_Harms_and_Benefits_of_Behavioral_Infant_Sleep_Intervention_Randomized_Trial/links/54d9d57c0cf24647581f8c21/Five-Year-Follow-up-of-Harms-and-Benefits-of-Behavioral-Infant-Sleep-Intervention-Randomized-Trial.pdf Middlemiss and colleagues - commentaries on Hiscock et al 2007 follow up Price at al 2012 https://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/130/4/643/tab-e-letters#unethical-and-unscientific-conclusions-ignore-how-infants-are-harmed Rudzik, Smith & Ball 2018 - Parent's reported infant sleep against actigraphy data: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30097331/ Douglas & Hill 2013 Review CIO (0-6m) found no improved sleep outcomes. https://www.pameladouglas.com.au/sites/default/files/pdfs/Douglas_Hill%20JDBP%20%2023_9_13.pdf Ball et al 2020 - "Sleep, Baby and you" https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0237240 A proposed possible alternative to CIO - new, awaiting full validation. Proposes balance between meeting parents sleep needs and infant needs. Durham Infant Sleep Lab: https://www.dur.ac.uk/disc/projects/current/slb/ Middlemiss et al 2017 Second proposed alternative - increased total sleep time but no crying. Teaching responsive soothing and cues based methods. https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5666b428dc5cb462d9f1e05a/t/5905be69725e256add1604d2/1493548654959/Early+Human+development+2017.pdf
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I've got 99 problems...and pooping, sleeping and bra wearing are some! This week Beth tells Ilana all about the issues going on in her house in the last 10 months. Spoiler alert, the potty is not our friend and another bed change is needed! Ilana gives some much needed support and advice to help Beth, and all of you, feel less alone through these trying times!
We welcome back Sleep Expert, Christine Stevens, who shares insight on topics including how to get your baby out of poor sleeping cycles and when to know if you need to seek outside help. Plus, we’ll debunk some sleep myths.
Kyla is a self proclaimed sleep expert! Amy... not so much. Come chat this week as they discuss all the sleep methods. Ferber, Cry It Out, BabyWise, cosleeping, white noise and more. This week they discuss which sleep methods have worked for their family, and which ones haven't.Where to find us!Kyla's Instagram and BlogAmy's Instagram and BlogRemember, you can tune in and chat along with us by joining the LIVE recording of each week's episode every Monday night at 8:30 pm CST! Give us a follow on Instagram to make sure you don't miss it.
This episode we discuss our different parenting styles with a lot of humor; just not too much dad humor. We touch on cultural differences and the differences in raising babies as compared to preteens and teens. Such as how much ice cream is too much and how long is acceptable to let a baby cry? It is a lighter, shorter topic, but certainly one in which we have some open ended questions and unfinished ideas. Fun background noises this episode (as we do things in a crowded quarantine house) include a spoon and a bowl, a baby crying and a pet bird.
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In honour of Infant Mental Health Awareness Week 2020, we interview Crystal Miles. Crystal originally trained as a Nutritional Therapist specialising in preconception and fertility health. After giving birth to her first child in 2010, she followed a further interest in all things birth and baby. A self-confessed course junkie, Crystal went on to train in Hypnobirthing, Lactation, Baby Massage and Baby Yoga, 3 Step Rewind, as a Doula and she is currently studying child psychology. Crystal now trains student Instructors on behalf of the International Association of Infant Massage and holds a special interest in attachment theory and Infant Mental Health. In this episode we talk all things infant mental health, from attachment theory, slings and breastfeeding, to whether Cry It Out really is as detrimental to infant health as some say. We talk about how to manage challenging moments with our children and ways to heal birth trauma. It really was an episode that encompassed anything and everything babies and children and will be particularly of interest to parents or those wanting to become parents. Grandparents may also find listening to this insightful. Products or ideas mentioned in the show: Crystals blog about infant loss Nils Bergham – Kangaroo Care Sarah Ockwell-Smith Lacy Phillips – To Be Magnetic PANDAS charity https://www.pandasfoundation.org.uk/ If you enjoyed this episode, please consider sharing it with friends, and please also make sure to subscribe / follow and review! It really helps us to reach more people. And if you would like to help me keep it going for as long as possible, please consider offering a small contribution to my Go Fund Me page. You can get my FREE 6-Step Guide to Complete Wellbeing by subscribing over at www.laurenvaknine.co.uk and if you'd like to connect with me, get in touch on Instagram. You can also see me over on my YouTube channel. Reconditioned with Lauren Vaknine supports Solace Women's Aid Charity, who support survivors of domestic abuse and sexual violence, working with over 27,000 people each year to build safe lives and strong futures. Season 2 of Healthy Happy Home is sponsored by Megahome Water Distillers. Use the code HHH5 at checkout for a 5% discount www.megahome-distillers.co.uk @megahomedistillers1
In honour of Infant Mental Health Awareness Week 2020, we interview Crystal Miles. Crystal originally trained as a Nutritional Therapist specialising in preconception and fertility health. After giving birth to her first child in 2010, she followed a further interest in all things birth and baby. A self-confessed course junkie, Crystal went on to train in Hypnobirthing, Lactation, Baby Massage and Baby Yoga, 3 Step Rewind, as a Doula and she is currently studying child psychology. Crystal now trains student Instructors on behalf of the International Association of Infant Massage and holds a special interest in attachment theory and Infant Mental Health.In this episode we talk all things infant mental health, from attachment theory, slings and breastfeeding, to whether Cry It Out really is as detrimental to infant health as some say. We talk about how to manage challenging moments with our children and ways to heal birth trauma. It really was an episode that encompassed anything and everything babies and children and will be particularly of interest to parents or those wanting to become parents. Grandparents may also find listening to this insightful.Products or ideas mentioned in the show:Crystals blog about infant lossNils Bergham – Kangaroo CareSarah Ockwell-SmithLacy Phillips – To Be MagneticPANDAS charity https://www.pandasfoundation.org.uk/ Please head to the website www.healthyhappyhome.uk to read more about us, and to sign up for our free 6-step guide to living your healthiest, happiest life. You can also find us on Instagram @healthyhappyhomepodcast @laurenvaknine @tilly.wood. Use the Hashtag #elevationnation to connect with us.Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe / follow!Season 2 of Healthy Happy Home is sponsored by Megahome Water Distillers www.megahome-distillers.co.uk @megahomedistillers1
Today, I’m talking about baby sleep. My first sleep episode was focused on newborns, in this episode I am shifting my focus to talk about babies ages 3-9 months. My goal in this episode is to help you and your baby get more sleep!What I'll cover:Discuss sleep regression and sleep trainingIntroduce what a sleep consultant is and talk about my experience with oneHow to hire a sleep consultantReview my rules for sleep Recap resources Sleep regression Definition: From the Baby Sleep Site As baby’s brain matures, sleeping patterns change Cycling more often, like an adultBaby's new sleep patterns produce more night waking and short naps Once she’s up, she will need help falling back asleepIf your child has established a sleeping crutch like nursing or rocking, you are going to have to break them of the habit and sleep train themSleep trainingWhat it is: training your baby to fall asleep on their own and/or go back to sleep on their ownSleep Training Methods: this article has a great breakdown of the various sleep training methodologies, categorized by “gentleness” Choosing An ApproachMy ExperienceWasn't interested in Cry It Out at allRead several books, but it seemed confusingSo, I hired sleep consultant Thankfully with my son, I didnt have to worry about sleep training...because with him I did it right from the start! What is a Sleep Consultant? Person to "hold your hand" while you sleep train your childWork with you virtually (usually) to figure out sleep plan that is right for your familyThey walk you through as you execute the planDaily text messages/emailsPhone callsCost$200-$300 for custom sleep play + virtual support for 2 weeksSame price as one night at a hotel!It is worth it! Budget friendly options: Less "hand holding"Taking Cara Babies ClassesMy recommendation for dealing with an infant who is having sleep issues (short naps, waking up frequently at night) is: Follow my Rules for Sleep for a couple weeksIf things are not improving, consider hiring a sleep consultant(Or just go ahead and hire a sleep consultant right away!)Rules for sleepKnow the appropriate awake interval for your baby’s age. Don't let them take a nap longer than 3 hours during the dayCreate a comfortable sleep environmentCreate a consistent bedtime/naptime routine and do it every timeAvoid creating sleep crutches. Don’t nurse or rock your baby to sleep (try not to, its hard when they are so little)Join my new Facebook Group for Parents!Stay healthy and have a great week!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/findingyourvillagepod?fan_landing=true)
The episode opens with reflections on some successes in the week, and the silver lining of quarantine. The letter board has shown some early success, and Alex and Shane discuss which direction they should take next. Shane is offended that Alex used the same bath time routine with Lucy as he does. Are you allowed to steal your partner’s baby comedy routine? Information on a new “Cry It Out” study is shared, and comments are made on Doctor Oz suggesting that schools reopen amidst the covid crisis.
This week on City Speaks, in spirit of our new show "Cry It Out," we’re speaking with 3 City Theatre staff members who have recently had babies of their own. We talk parenting with Education Director Katie Trupiano, General Manager Natalie Hatcher, and Scene Shop Foreman John Brucker.
In this episode you'll learn:Batya's very balanced outlook on the "cry it out method" (such a controversial topic!)Sleep as a holistic issue and why some deeper issues might come up when Batya starts to work with moms on sleep habits.The #1 thing you can do right now to get your baby on track with sleep!We highly recommend you connect with Batya's little corner of the internet:Join Batya's FREE Facebook Sleep Group: http://www.ultimatebabysleepgroup.com/The Baby Sleep Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCD8GDHBmJTVBV4ZiRomdr1gBatya's Website: http://batyathebabycoach.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BatyatheBabyCoach/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/batyathebabycoach/
Sleep teaching, sleep training, or whatever you want to call it, can be so challenging, especially if you have kids like ours who didn't sleep through the night after a few months. Add to the mix, different parenting ideas (Cry It Out, Ferber Method) on how best to get your child to sleep, combined with your own lack of sleep, pumping in the middle of the night, and the transition from 3 naps to 2, equals a fun time. Good news, we have been there, and we got through the sleep hurdle, so will you.Referenced products and links:https://grabease.com/collections/baby-toothbrush/products/grabease-baby-toothbrush-teal
Getting a child to sleep through the night is one of the biggest challenges that parents face. In recent years, online wars have erupted between parents who advocate for behavioural sleep training methods and those who choose 'baby-led' parenting styles. Much of the antagonism stems from the misunderstanding that sleep training is synonymous with so-called 'Cry It Out' techniques (aka extinction), most famously popularised by Dr Richard Ferber. But as our guest Dr Craig Canapari explains in this episode, sleep training encompasses much more than extinction methods, and includes a wide array of strategies and techniques for tackling sleep problems in babies, toddlers and even school-age kids. Join us as we bust the myths, the stigmas and the misconceptions of what sleep training really is, and explore some of the techniques that Dr Canapari uses in his practice at Yale and in his book, It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train. This episode's guest: Dr. Canapari is an Associate Professor and the director of the Pediatric Sleep Program at the Yale University School of Medicine. He is Board Certified in Pediatrics, Pediatric Pulmonology, and Sleep Medicine. His interests include general pulmonary issues, pediatric sleep problems, and the respiratory issues of children with neuromuscular disease, as well as the use of emerging technology to disseminate useful information about sleep disorders to families. Dr Canapari's website: https://drcraigcanapari.com/ The book: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Never-Late-Sleep-Train-ebook/dp/B07GD4NN48 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-canapari-b7247350/ Yale: https://medicine.yale.edu/profile/craig_canapari/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drcanapari More Resources: Ferber vs Sears: http://sleepjunkies.com/sleep-training-cry-it-out/ Baby Sleep Training Basics: https://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-training-the-basics_1505715.bc Episode Homepage: http://sleepjunkies.com/redefining-sleep-training/ More Episodes:
Getting a child to sleep through the night is one of the biggest challenges that parents face. In recent years, online wars have erupted between parents who advocate for behavioural sleep training methods and those who choose 'baby-led' parenting styles. Much of the antagonism stems from the misunderstanding that sleep training is synonymous with so-called 'Cry It Out' techniques (aka extinction), most famously popularised by Dr Richard Ferber. But as our guest Dr Craig Canapari explains in this episode, sleep training encompasses much more than extinction methods, and includes a wide array of strategies and techniques for tackling sleep problems in babies, toddlers and even school-age kids. Join us as we bust the myths, the stigmas and the misconceptions of what sleep training really is, and explore some of the techniques that Dr Canapari uses in his practice at Yale and in his book, It's Never Too Late to Sleep Train. This episode's guest: Dr. Canapari is an Associate Professor and the director of the Pediatric Sleep Program at the Yale University School of Medicine. He is Board Certified in Pediatrics, Pediatric Pulmonology, and Sleep Medicine. His interests include general pulmonary issues, pediatric sleep problems, and the respiratory issues of children with neuromuscular disease, as well as the use of emerging technology to disseminate useful information about sleep disorders to families. Dr Canapari's website: https://drcraigcanapari.com/ The book: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Never-Late-Sleep-Train-ebook/dp/B07GD4NN48 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/craig-canapari-b7247350/ Yale: https://medicine.yale.edu/profile/craig_canapari/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/drcanapari More Resources: Ferber vs Sears: https://sleepjunkies.com/sleep-training-cry-it-out/ Baby Sleep Training Basics: https://www.babycenter.com/0_baby-sleep-training-the-basics_1505715.bc Episode Homepage: https://sleepjunkies.com/redefining-sleep-training/ More Episodes:
In this interview, Dionna speaks with Noelle Diane Johnson, a Philadelphia based stage manager, creative facilitator, and wellness seeker! Noelle talks about her personal story which includes taking a step away from theater to work on herself and how when she finally started working on herself, the theater world found her yet again. She also talks about how important it is to listen to yourself and connect with your intuition. This episode is epic and packed with amazing nuggets of wisdom. Don't miss out on this awesome discussion about all things mind, body, and career!Check out Noelle's next project in Philadelphia with Simpatico Theatre Company, Cry It Out, from June 5th-23rd, 2019. For more about Noelle, follow her on Instagram @belle_noellee or on Facebook at Noelle Diane Johnson.For more about Dionna, follow her on Instagram @thenourishedactor or on www.dionnaeshleman.comFrom the show:Jen Sincero's You are a Badass and You are a Badass at Making MoneyChrist Returns, Speaks His Truths: The Christ LettersMy life coach The School of Betty is taking new students for her amazing coaching program, Fierce Finances! Check it out and follow her on Instagram @theschoolofbettyFor full show notes, visit thenourishedactor.buzzsprout.comThis show is sponsored by my Beautycounter business! To support the podcast AND upgrade to safer, healthier skincare and makeup, shop with me through Beautycounter. Swapping out toxic personal care products is a simple, easy way to start creating a healthier, sustainable lifestyle. Click here to support the podcast.This episode description contains affiliate links so if you click and shop through the link, I may get a small financial kickback. That said, shopping through these links is another great way to support The Nourished Actor Podcast!As always, thanks for listening! Rate/Review/Subscribe and Share with a friend!
Sarah & Irma talk to Brittney McCarthy a Pediatric Sleep Consultant founder of 'But First Sleep'. In this episode, we talk about sleep 'props', pacifiers, letting your baby cry it out, consistency, and how important it is to teach your baby to fall asleep on their own. If you are struggling with your little peanut when it comes to bedtime - you don't want to miss this episode! Plus Brittney is giving a lot of love to mamas this month! First, you receive 15-percent off all Sleep Packages in the month of May. And if you follow her on Instagram be sure to enter a win her Mothers Day Giveaway! You have until May 12th to enter. See her IG for details. @butfirstsleep on Instagram and Facebook https://www.butfirstsleep.com/
Sarah & Irma talk to Brittney McCarthy a Pediatric Sleep Consultant founder of 'But First Sleep'. In this episode, we talk about sleep 'props', pacifiers, letting your baby cry it out, consistency, and how important it is to teach your baby to fall asleep on their own. If you are struggling with your little peanut when it comes to bedtime - you don't want to miss this episode! Plus Brittney is giving a lot of love to mamas this month! First, you receive 15-percent off all Sleep Packages in the month of May. And if you follow her on Instagram be sure to enter a win her Mothers Day Giveaway! You have until May 12th to enter. See her IG for details. @butfirstsleep on Instagram and Facebook https://www.butfirstsleep.com/
Returning to the show is Carrie Wintersteen, Executive Director of Theatre B, and Director of the company's latest production Cry It Out by Molly Smith Metzler. Topics include producing a show about parenthood, relating to the mothers in the play, stay-at-home dads, balancing careers with parenting, and the long, dark tunnel that is child rearing. Help us keep the lights on by donating to our Patreon! www.patreon.com/jjmeetsworld
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Sleep beyond the baby stage. Where is it? Does it exist? Will you live to tell the tale? Thanks to Wendy Child (http://wendychildmusic.com/) for the music! Follow us on social media. Twitter: https://twitter.com/mymomologue Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MyMomologue/ Instagram: @MyMomologue Email us: mymomologue@gmail.com
Today Toks and El Hubbo are tardy. Toks blames “The Bachelorette”. Today the two chat about Dog Days, being charitable and what to watch this summer! To follow Toks and/ or the podcast on social media head to @ToksOlagundoye on Twitter and/ or @tolykay on Instagram and find her on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ToksOlagundoye or check out her website at www.ToksOlagundoye.com To get tickets for “Dog Days” at theatre near you go to https://www.dogdaysthefilm.com/ To purchase the Adopt Love tee, which benefits the Petco Foundation please go to www.omaze.com/dogdays If you are in LA and want to see great theatre please go and see The Echo Theater’s production of Molly Smith Metzler’s “Cry It Out” at the Atwater Village Theater. It plays until August 19th. To get tickets go to www.echotheatercompany.com To check out Deity Jewels and Deity Animal Rescue go to https://deityjewels.squarespace.com/ Thanks for listening!
Five principles of DIFY are:You are importantBe kind to yourself firstYou know what is best for youYou don’t owe anyone shit You know you best.THE PROJECTSThe Self Portrait - Get a picture of yourself, one that you think looks bad, frame it, dress it up, and look at it once a day for a week. This project is a way of getting you to look at yourself with love and compassion.Flower pot - Buy yourself a fresh bunch of flower twice this month. You can also craft it up and paint your own flower pot and buy a plant to put in it. And put the words Self care is sexy on it!Daily checklist for self love/note cards - Make a daily checklist or note cards of top three things you can every day to get self care. Get as crafty as you want with this, you can even use your phone and set reminders, but the key here is, I want you to check in daily on this list. Daily self care ideas for note cards/checklist:Say something nice about yourself!Congratulations you did stuff!Drink water - it's free and good for you. Check out my video about a bottle that keeps track...Take a walk - stand up. DO IT.Cry it out - sometimes you just gotta get it outJournalReadGO TO Nature (my number one)
The hotly debated movie Tully was released Friday and The Top Knot Squad weighs in with their own review. From accusations of falsely labeling the movie genre to the difference between a night nanny and doula, the conversation gets intimate between Naya, Alexis, and Adriana. For tickets to "Cry It Out" go to theatreenbloc.org and use code CRYBABY at checkout for discount. If you or someone you know needs help here are some resources: National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255) National Perinatal Hotline: 1-800-PPD-MOMS (773-6667) PSI Warmline (English and Spanish) 800-994-4PPD (4773) Visit TheTopKnotSquad.com to listen to every episode of the podcast. Subscribe to the podcast via: Apple Podcasts Spotify Stitcher Google Play Android
This episode is all about answering a few of those “Sticky Questions” I am always asked. But let me ask you one first… Why are parents so quick to comfort their child when crying, yet they themselves are willing to go so long with uncomfortable, sleepless nights? How long is too long for a child to cry? How long is too long for a parent to finally cry out for help? Join me as I share with you my sleep philosophy that has helped hundreds of families resolve those exhausting sleep habits. Two of the most common questions parents are either embarrassed or nervous to ask are: #1 - Will you be telling me to do Cry It Out? Let me explain to you what this really means, what some pediatricians have said about it, and my philosophy on crying when working with families. #2 - How long should my baby be crying? Have your pen and paper ready… I’m about to give you the magic number! Just kidding. I explain how you should sleep train with a plan and purpose, not a magic number. There is also power in accountability, and I will share with you a personal experience on this. In this episode I talk about one of my newest and most popular ways to work with families: Virtual Group Coaching. Join the next group and Get Sleep Now! My Motto: A baby who is well rested is happier, healthier, and eager to explore the world around them. _________________________________________ Connect with me on instagram @littlezsleep, my favorite place to talk with families, and let me know you listened to this episode by sending me a message stating your ultimate goal for your child's sleep! I will personally message you back! Let’s get some accountability! _________________________________________ Little Z's Sleep Consulting: Facebook | Instagram | Website Music by: Chad Campbell
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“HOW DO I GET MY CHILD TO SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT?!” is the thinly-veiled message under the surface of many of the emails that I get about sleep. And I don’t blame you. I don’t claim to be a magician in this regard, although I did get incredibly, amazingly lucky – my daughter put in her first eight-hour night at six weeks old, and has regularly slept through the night for longer than I can remember. I’m really genuinely not sure I could parent if things weren’t like this. But today’s episode is about the data, not about anecdata. Zoe in Sydney wrote to me: A hotly debated topic with my friends has been “sleeping through the night.” My daughter never was great at napping and still wakes up once a night, coming into our bed. We have never been able to do controlled crying etc – I would love to know what science says about sleeping through the night! And what is best for your child (vs the parent). My close friend is a breastfeeding counselor and said they are taught that lots of children don’t sleep through until 4 years old! Other mothers I knew were horrified if their child wasn’t sleeping through by 6 months – and the French talk about their children ‘having their nights’ much earlier… As I started researching this topic it became clear that sleep is driven to an incredible extent by cultural preferences. Some (Western) psychologists advocate for letting children Cry It Out, while people in many cultures around the world see putting a child to sleep in their own room (never mind allowing them to cry) as tantamount to child abuse. So: can we get our children to sleep more? Is bed-sharing inherently bad? Does Cry It Out harm the child in some way? Let’s find out! References Amoabeng, A.O. (2010). The changes and effect of stress hormone cortisol during extreme diet and exercise. Unpublished Master’s thesis. Boston, MA: Boston University. American Academy of Pediatrics (2016). SIDS and other sleep-related infant deaths: Updated 2016 recommendations for a safe infant sleeping environment. Author. Retrieved from http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2016/10/20/peds.2016-2938 (http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2016/10/20/peds.2016-2938) Bernier, A., Carlson, S. M., Bordeleau, S., & Carrier, J. (2010). Relations between physiological and cognitive regulatory systems: Infant sleep regulation and subsequent executive functioning. Child Development, 81, 1739–1752. Blampied, N.M. (2013). Functional behavioral analysis of sleep in infants and children. In A. Wolfson & H. Montgomery-Downs (Eds.), The Oxford handbook of infant, child, and adolescent sleep and behavior. Oxford, U.K.: Oxford University Press. Burnham, M.M. (2013). Co-sleeping and self-soothing during infancy. In A. Wolfson & H. Montgomery-Downs (Eds.), The Oxford handbook of infant, child, and adolescent sleep and behavior. Oxford, U.K.: Oxford University Press. Chess, S., & Thomas, A. (1984). Origins and evolution of behavior disorders. New York, NY: Brunner/Mazel. Crncec, R., Matthey, S., & Nemeth, D. (2010). Infant sleep problems and emotional health: A review of two behavioral approaches. Journal of Reproductive and Infant Psychology 28(1), 44-54. Ferber, R. (1985). Solve your child’s sleep problems. New York, NY: Simon & Schuster. France, K.G. (1991). Behavior characteristics and security in sleep-disturbed infants treated with extinction. Journal of Pediatric Psychology 17(4), 467-475. Gaddini, R. (1970. Transitional objects and the process of individuation: A study in three different social groups. Journal of the American Academy of Child Psychiatry 9(2), 347-365. Germo, G.G., Goldberg, W.A., & Keller, M.A. (2009). Learning to sleep through the night: Solution or strain for mothers and young children? Infant Mental Health...
A baby sleep coach, Tracy Newberry talks about - Why she only works with babies between 6-11 months old and reasoning behind it What most of her clients just not know, or even what they don't always consider very much when it comes to sleep and helping their babies sleep well How she knows she is going to get the results a family are looking for And how her 1:1 consultations work and the kind support she offers Why she is so specific about the importance of parents knowing what 'typical' baby sleep is Tracy ends by sharing her 3 top tips which, if applied might make a difference to their baby's sleep starting today and tonight Working with babies 6-11 months, Tracy specialises in helping parents whose little ones frequently wake during the night, don’t nap well or don’t nap at all. Parents who are exhausted, feel overwhelmed and would like a gentle easy to follow structure to their day will benefit from the Nurture Method™. Importantly she helps parents solve their little one’s sleep issues without using any of the ‘Cry It Out’ methods which significantly reduces stress and protects the bond you’ve worked so hard to build. Tracy Newberry is a qualified baby sleep coach and a mother herself, who over the last 13 years of working with young children has founded her own method called the Nurture method. She strongly believes sleep should be taught with love, kindness and the utmost respect. After working for ten years as a nanny and briefly as a nursery school teacher both in London and in South Africa (where she originates from); Tracy became aware that helping babies sleep without using any form of crying was a gift and that not everyone could do what she did. Once she made this realisation, Tracy decided to pursue her passion of teaching sleep gently and opened Happy Baby And Me in 2014; her business is mainly based on word of mouth and continues to moves from strength to strength. Linkedin Facebook, Website Instagram TracyNewberry Twitter @tracynewberry If you have enjoyed this show then please leave a review. How to leave an iTunes rating or review for a podcast from your iPhone or iPad Launch Apple's Podcast app. Tap the Search tab. Enter the name of the podcast you want to rate or review. Tap the blue Search key at the bottom right. Tap the album art for the podcast. Tap the Reviews tab. Tap Write a Review at the bottom. Connect with Wendy Here...... Facebook - CLICK HERE Linked in - CLICK HERE Twitter Account - CLICK HERE Website – www.yourrelationshipspecialist.co.uk Email – wendy@yourrelationshipspecialist.co.uk From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship book - Link to Amazon Itunes link - http://apple.co/2xj5yud
Episode 44: What's the deal with CIO?Megan and I have always let our girls Cry It Out. What are your thoughts?Hit us up on Facebook or InstagramJust "Google" The Twinning Podcast.This podcast is powered by Pinecast.
I’ve been using the term CIO or Cry It Out for years. I’ve never liked it. It’s pejorative. “Oh…you’re one of those CIO parents. Whelp I’m not, because, y’know, I’m a good parent.” It’s largely meaningless. And in some parenting circles even the faintest mention risks getting you banned from the group. It also doesn’t... Read More The post Why I Won’t Be Using the Term CIO Anymore – EP 15 appeared first on Precious Little Sleep.
You might not know what foley is, but you know what it sounds like. Craig and George take on an assignment from a former sound designer and foley artist, Scotty Iseri, and give you a glimpse into what it takes to be a foley artist. Music featured: Language of Kings – “Uprooting the Flora” from Bent, “Riley Ann Helms” from Heavy Hands and “Cry It Out, Hun” from Heavy Hands.
My guest tonight is, Lyssa Armenta she has been the happy proud mother to her son, Sterling, who was born in 1999, daughter, Samantha, who joined in 200wife of Chris since 1997 and the proud mother to her son, Sterling, who was born in 1999, daughter, Samantha, who joined in 2002 and son, Spencer, who completed the family in 2007. Lyssa loves to problem solve and her career as an author began as she felt the deep need to share her Dancing Method that she perfected after a decade to get her kids to sleep. Her passion is to keep improving the quality of life of her family and others and truly believes Gentle Goodnight can do that for babies and their moms!Her book Gentle Goodnight will guide you through a step-by-step sleep method that will have your baby or toddler to sleep in less than 25 minutes.