Podcast appearances and mentions of brene brown

We've mistaken platforms for purpose. We've idolized influence and sacrificed intimacy. And we've called it success when in reality, it's just burnout in disguise. This week, Grammy-nominated singer/songwriter Tauren Wells joins Win Today for a brutally honest conversation about the danger of exposure growing faster than character. Together, we explore how influence without intimacy leads to insecurity, how image management becomes spiritual performance, and why pathologizing our struggles has kept us from doing the real work of healing. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

This week, Jen and Pete noodle on the idea of industry standards, and if / when they should be followed.Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:What is an example of an industry standard that should be followed? And what is one that should not?How might we think about the context of an industry standard?Why might following an industry standard actually be a form of hiding?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Welcome back to the Elite Expert Insider podcast! In today's episode, our host Jenn Foster has the pleasure of introducing Tonya Herb, a transformative coach who's passionate about empowering women to conquer obstacles like overthinking, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. Tonya shares her journey from aspiring teacher to life-changing coach, where her philosophy is encapsulated in the insightful "BIKE" concept: Be unapologetically you, seek Insight, practice Kindness, and Engage fully. Learn More: https://tonyakay.co/

We've called it emotional intelligence. We've called it self-awareness. But what if the story you're telling yourself—the one you rehearse in your head day after day—isn't making you healthier? It's keeping you sick. This week, Rita Springer joins Win Today for an unfiltered, emotionally disruptive conversation about the link between obedience and mental health. Because here's the truth: peace doesn't come from managing your anxiety better. Peace comes from surrender. And when we treat obedience like a suggestion instead of a lifeline, we stay stuck in cycles of emotional chaos, calling it healing when it's really avoidance. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Ever had someone hectically overshare in dating? Maybe about their ex, or their mental health, or their trauma? They might be floodlighting.Dee chats to couples therapist Liz Neal about why people do it, when it can be manipulative, how to handle someone who overshares, and what to do if you're the floodlighter. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

This week, Jen and Pete noodle (with some uncertainty) on the relationship between leadership and uncertainty.Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:Why is context important, when thinking about the balance between leadership and uncertainty?How might leadership exist in the context of innovation?How might we think about the things that we can control within leadership, like how we show up?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Ever been on a date where someone trauma dumps their breakups, difficult childhood or mental health struggles all before your entrée arrives? You might've been floodlighted. We hear your experiences of oversharing to test the waters, speed up intimacy, or filter out people who can't ‘handle' your shit - and whether this kind of radical honesty is actually just manipulative.DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

In today's powerful episode, we'll unpack survival codes passed down through generations, how emotional suppression shows up in our bodies, and the difference between your survival self vs. your aligned self.Tune in now to learn:2:14 – The Big Question "Did you learn that being strong meant being silent?" — unpacking generational conditioning.3:00 – Survival Codes & Cultural Programming Exploring how love was tied to shrinking and being told not to feel.4:07 – Where Did You Go? The survival self didn't lose herself—she silenced herself to survive.5:07 – The Guilt of Softness Understanding why peace, softness, and slowness can feel unsafe.6:03 – Meet the Survival Self Traits of the survival self: people pleasing, hyper-independence, outsourcing worth.7:14 – Meet the Aligned Self Traits of the aligned self: softness, courage, medicine in truth.8:22 – The Outdated Codes How the body is like a phone running survival apps—ready for an upgrade.9:12 – Integration & Healing Returning to the core essence and remembering your wholeness.10:12 – Suppressed Emotions Lodge in the Body Wisdom from The Emotion Code and how stored emotions show up physically.10:53 – You Are the Turning Point You are the one in your lineage breaking the silence and feeling again.11:08 – About the Core Essence Program A soulful return to your real self—not a surface-level fix.12:21 – Vulnerability is Strength With reflections from Brene Brown and the courage to own your story.13:22 – How Podcasting Became My Voice Craig shares a personal turning point in expressing her truth.14:05 – Heart-Centered Reflection Prompts for emotional integration and self-inquiry.15:13 – The Bravery of Feeling What healing really looks like: showing up fully and imperfectly.15:59 – Emotions as Maps Even the painful ones are leading us back to wholeness.16:20 – The Aligned Self Speaks Truth Softly, shakily, and courageously.16:39 – Khrey's Daily Nervous System Ritual Introducing the Magic Mind Elixir—support for both survival and aligned selves.This episode also introduces the Core Essence Program, a transformative space for emotional unfreezing, nervous system healing, and deep embodiment of truth. Key Themes:​Generational trauma & survival codes​Reclaiming softness and emotional expression​Integration of the survival self and aligned self​Journaling + reflection prompts​The power of vulnerability and nervous system awareness Learn about Magic Mind Elixir, a blend that supports brain clarity and emotional grounding, ideal for those navigating high-sensitivity and overwhelm.Shop now: ⁠https://www.magicmind.com/KHREYLT20⁠TRY MAGIC MIND and USE MY CODE : KHREYLT20 Step into the Core Essence Program. Click the link in the show notes to enter a portal of remembrance, realignment, and receive access to a FREE Core Embodiment Workshop. When you're ready to work with Khrey:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beacons.ai/holikhrey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠If you feel called to join us inside the Core Essence Program:⁠https://courses.holikhrey.com/ ⁠Follow her on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/holikhrey/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Download FREE Core Essence workbooks⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://coreessenceacademy.podia.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our Holistic Group on Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/CRy79fwxfVFjuZRZ/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Or join our Soulfull Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/g/rZLq83rwdg8KuwoU/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MAGIC MIND ELIXER⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.magicmind.com/KHREYLT20⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Use code KHREYLT20 for 20% off your first purchase, or KHREYLT20 for a BIG discount for subscribing!FREE MEDITATION: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://youtu.be/OO_2yK1TI1w?si=eG_fvJqIgGbmDhUg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Have you or do you feel stress? What is stress and how can we deal with it? Our guest this time is Rachelle Stone who discusses those very questions with us. Rachelle grew up in a very small town in Massachusetts. After attending community college, she had an opportunity to study and work at Disney World in Florida and has never looked back.   Rachelle loved her Disney work and entered the hospitality industry spending much of 27 years working for or running her own destination management company. She will describe how one day after a successful career, at the age of 48, she suffered what today we know as burnout. She didn't know how to describe her feelings at the time, but she will tell us how she eventually discovered what was going on with her.   She began to explore and then study the profession of coaching. Rachelle will tell us about coaches and clients and how what coaches do can help change lives in so many ways.   This episode is full of the kind of thoughts and ideas we all experience as well as insights on how we can move forward when our mindsets are keeping us from moving forward. Rachelle has a down-to-Earth way of explaining what she wants to say that we all can appreciate.       About the Guest:   “As your leadership consultant, I will help you hone your leadership, so you are ready for your next career move. As your executive coach, I will partner with you to overcome challenges and obstacles so you can execute your goals.”     Hi, I'm Rachelle. I spent over 25 years as an entrepreneur and leader in the Special Event industry in Miami, building, flipping, and selling Destination Management Companies (DMCs).  While I loved and thrived in the excitement and chaos of the industry, I still managed to hit a level of burnout that was wholly unexpected and unacceptable to me, resulting in early retirement at 48.   Now, as a trained Leadership Consultant and Executive Coach, I've made it my mission to combine this hard-won wisdom and experience to crack the code on burnout and balance for others so they can continue to thrive in careers they love. I am Brené Brown Dare to Lead ™ trained, a Certified Positive Intelligence ® Mental Fitness coach, and an accredited Professional Certified Coach by the ICF (International Coaching Federation, the most recognized global accreditation body in the coaching industry).   I continue to grow my expertise and show my commitment to the next generation of coaches by serving on the ICF-Central Florida chapter board of directors. I am serving as President-Elect and Chapter Liaison to the global organization. I also support those new to the coaching industry by mentoring other coaches to obtain advanced coaching credentials.   I maintain my well-being by practicing Pilates & Pvolve ® a few days a week, taking daily walks, loving on my Pug, Max, and making time for beach walks when possible.   Ways to connect Rachel:   www.rstoneconsulting.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/rstoneconsulting/ Instagram: @even_wonderwoman_gets_tired   About the Host:   Michael Hingson is a New York Times best-selling author, international lecturer, and Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe. Michael, blind since birth, survived the 9/11 attacks with the help of his guide dog Roselle. This story is the subject of his best-selling book, Thunder Dog.   Michael gives over 100 presentations around the world each year speaking to influential groups such as Exxon Mobile, AT&T, Federal Express, Scripps College, Rutgers University, Children's Hospital, and the American Red Cross just to name a few. He is Ambassador for the National Braille Literacy Campaign for the National Federation of the Blind and also serves as Ambassador for the American Humane Association's 2012 Hero Dog Awards.   https://michaelhingson.com https://www.facebook.com/michael.hingson.author.speaker/ https://twitter.com/mhingson https://www.youtube.com/user/mhingson https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelhingson/   accessiBe Links https://accessibe.com/ https://www.youtube.com/c/accessiBe https://www.linkedin.com/company/accessibe/mycompany/   https://www.facebook.com/accessibe/       Thanks for listening!   Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page. Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? 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Hi, I'm Michael Hingson, Chief Vision Officer for accessiBe and the author of the number one New York Times bestselling book, Thunder dog, the story of a blind man, his guide dog and the triumph of trust. Thanks for joining me on my podcast as we explore our own blinding fears of inclusion unacceptance and our resistance to change. We will discover the idea that no matter the situation, or the people we encounter, our own fears, and prejudices often are our strongest barriers to moving forward. The unstoppable mindset podcast is sponsored by accessiBe, that's a c c e s s i capital B e. Visit www.accessibe.com to learn how you can make your website accessible for persons with disabilities. And to help make the internet fully inclusive by the year 2025. Glad you dropped by we're happy to meet you and to have you here with us. Well, hi and welcome to unstoppable mindset where inclusion diversity and the unexpected meet. But you know, the more fun thing about it is the unexpected. Unexpected is always a good thing, and unexpected is really anything that doesn't have anything directly to do with inclusion or diversity, which is most of what we get to deal with in the course of the podcast, including with our guest today, Rachelle Stone, who worked in the hospitality industry in a variety of ways during a lot of her life, and then switched to being a coach and a leadership expert. And I am fascinated to learn about that and what what brought her to that? And we'll get to that at some point in the course of the day. But Rachelle, welcome to unstoppable mindset. We're glad you're here. Thank   Rachelle Stone ** 02:08 you, Michael. I'm honored to be here. Excited to be talking to you today.   Michael Hingson ** 02:12 Well, it's a lot of fun now. You're in Florida. I am. I'm in the Clearwater   Rachelle Stone ** 02:16 Dunedin area. I like to say I live in Dunedin, Florida without the zip code.   Michael Hingson ** 02:22 Yeah. Well, I hear you, you know, then makes it harder to find you that way, right?   Rachelle Stone ** 02:28 Physically. Yeah, right, exactly. Danita, without the zip code, we'll stick with that. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 02:33 yeah, that works. Well, I'm really glad you're here. Why don't we start by maybe you talking to us a little bit about the early Rachelle growing up and some of that stuff.   Rachelle Stone ** 02:43 Yeah, I was lucky. I grew up in rural Western Massachusetts, little po doc town called Greenfield, Massachusetts. We were 18 miles from the Vermont border, which was literally a mile and a half from the New Hampshire border. So I grew up in this very interesting area where it was like a tri state area, and our idea of fun growing up, well, it was, we were always outdoors, playing very much outdoors. I had three siblings, and I was the youngest, and it was one of those childhoods where you came home from school, and mom would say, go outside, don't come back in the house until you hear the whistle. And every house on the street, every mother had a whistle. There were only seven houses because there was a Boy Scout camp at the end of the road. So as the sun was setting and the street lights would come on, you would hear different whistles, and different family kids would be going home the stone kids up, that's your mom. Go home, see you next time that was it was great. And you know, as I got older and more adventurous, it was cow tipping and keg parties and behind and all sorts of things that we probably shouldn't have been doing in our later teen years, but it was fun. Behind   Michael Hingson ** 04:04 is it's four wheeling,   Rachelle Stone ** 04:08 going up rough terrain. We had these. It was very, very hilly, where I was lot of lot of small mountains that you could conquer.   Michael Hingson ** 04:17 So in the winter, does that mean you got to do some fun things, like sledding in the snow. Yeah, yeah.   Rachelle Stone ** 04:24 We had a great hill in the back of our yard, so I learned to ski in my own backyard, and we had three acres of woods, so we would go snowshoeing. We were also close to a private school called Northfield Mount Hermon, which had beautiful, beautiful grounds, and in the winter, we would go cross country skiing there. So again, year round, we were, we were outdoors a lot.   Michael Hingson ** 04:52 Well, my time in Massachusetts was three years living in Winthrop so I was basically East Boston. Yeah. Yes and and very much enjoyed it. Loved the environment. I've been all over Massachusetts in one way or another, so I'm familiar with where you were. I am, and I will admit, although the winters were were cold, that wasn't as much a bother as it was when the snow turned to ice or started to melt, and then that night it froze. That got to be pretty slippery,   05:25 very dangerous, very dangerous.   Michael Hingson ** 05:29 I then experienced it again later, when we lived in New Jersey and and I actually our house to take the dogs out. We had no fenced yards, so I had to take them out on leash, and I would go down to our basement and go out and walk out basement onto a small deck or patio, actually, and then I had to go down a hill to take the dogs where they could go do their business. And I remember the last year we were in New Jersey, it snowed in May, and the snow started to melt the next day, and then that night, it froze, and it and it stayed that way for like about a day and a half. And so it was as slick as glass is. Glass could be. So eventually I couldn't I could go down a hill, it was very dangerous, but going back up a hill to come back in the house was not safe. So eventually, I just used a very long flex leash that was like 20 feet long, and I sent the dogs down the hill. I stayed at the top.   Rachelle Stone ** 06:33 Was smart, wow. And they didn't mind. They just wanted to go do their business, and they wanted to get back in the house too. It's cold, yeah?   Michael Hingson ** 06:41 They didn't seem to be always in an incredible hurry to come back into the house. But they had no problem coming up the hill. That's the the advantage of having claws,   Rachelle Stone ** 06:51 yes. Pause, yeah, four of them to boot, right? Yeah, which   Michael Hingson ** 06:54 really helped a great deal. But, you know, I remember it. I love it. I loved it. Then now I live in in a place in California where we're on what's called the high desert, so it doesn't get as cold, and we get hardly any of the precipitation that even some of the surrounding areas do, from Los Angeles and Long Beach and so on to on the one side, up in the mountains where the Snow is for the ski resorts on the other so Los Angeles can have, or parts of La can have three or four inches of rain, and we might get a half inch.   Rachelle Stone ** 07:28 Wow. So it stays relatively dry. Do you? Do you ever have to deal like down here, we have something called black ice, which we get on the road when it rains after it hasn't rained in a long time? Do you get that there in California,   Michael Hingson ** 07:41 there are places, yeah, not here where I live, because it generally doesn't get cold enough. It can. It's already this well, in 2023 late 2023 we got down to 24 degrees one night, and it can get a little bit colder, but generally we're above freezing. So, no, we don't get the black ice here that other places around us can and do. Got it. Got it. So you had I obviously a fun, what you regard as a fun childhood.   Rachelle Stone ** 08:14 Yeah, I remember the first day I walked into I went to a community college, and I it was a very last minute, impulsive, spontaneous decision. Wow, that kind of plays into the rest of my life too. I make very quick decisions, and I decided I wanted to go to college, and it was open enrollment. I went down to the school, and they asked me, What do you want to study? I'm like, I don't know. I just know I want to have fun. So they said, you might want to explore Recreation and Leisure Services. So that's what I wound up going to school for. And I like to say I have a degree in fun and games.   Michael Hingson ** 08:47 There you go. Yeah. Did you go beyond community college or community college enough?   Rachelle Stone ** 08:53 Yeah, that was so I transferred. It took me four years to get a two year degree. And the reason was, I was working full time, I moved out. I just at 17, I wanted to be on my own, and just moved into an apartment with three other people and went to college and worked. It was a fabulous way to live. It was wonderful. But then when I transferred to the University, I felt like I was a bit bored, because I think the other students were, I was dealing with a lot of students coming in for the first time, where I had already been in school for four years, in college for four years, so the experience wasn't what I was looking for. I wanted the education. And I saw a poster, and it was Mickey Mouse on the poster, and it was Walt Disney World College program now accepting applications. So I wrote down the phone number, email, whatever it was, and and I applied. I got an interview again. Remember Michael? I was really bored. I was going to school. It was my first semester in my four year program, and I just anyway. I got a call back and. And I was accepted into the Disney College Program. So, um, they at that time, they only took about 800 students a year. So it was back in 1989 long time ago. And I was thrilled. I left Massachusetts on january 31 1989 in the blizzard of 89 Yeah, and I drove down to Orlando, Florida, and I never left. I'm still here in Florida. That was the beginning of my entire career. Was applying for the Disney College Program.   Michael Hingson ** 10:36 So what was that like, being there at the Disney College, pro nominal, phenomenal. I have to ask one thing, did you have to go through some sort of operation to get rid of your Massachusetts accent? Does   Rachelle Stone ** 10:50 it sound like it worked? No, I didn't have well, it was funny, because I was hoping I would be cast as Minnie Mouse. I'm four foot 10. I have learned that to be Mini or Mickey Mouse, you have to be four, eight or shorter. So I missed many by two inches. My second choice was being a lifeguard, and I wound up what I they offered me was Epcot parking lot, and I loved it, believe it or not, helping to park cars at Epcot Center. I still remember my spiel to the letter that I used to give because there was a live person on the back of the tram speaking and then another one at the front of the tram driving it to get you from the parking lot to the front entrance of the gate. But the whole experience was amazing. It was I attended classes, I earned my Master's degree. I picked up a second and third job because I wanted to get into hotels, and so I worked one day a week at the Disney Inn, which is now their military resorts. And then I took that third job, was as a contractor for a recreation management company. So I was working in the field that I had my associates in. I was working at a hotel one day a week, just because I wanted to learn about hotels. I thought that was the industry I wanted to go into. And I was I was driving the tram and spieling on the back of the tram five days a week. I loved it was phenomenal.   Michael Hingson ** 12:20 I have a friend who is blind who just retired from, I don't know, 20 or 25 years at Disneyland, working a lot in the reservation centers and and so on. And speaks very highly of, of course, all the experiences of being involved with Disney.   Rachelle Stone ** 12:38 Yeah, it's really, I'm It was a wonderful experience. I think it gave me a great foundation for the work in hospitality that I did following. It was a great i i think it made me a better leader, better hospitality person for it well,   Michael Hingson ** 12:57 and there is an art to doing it. It isn't just something where you can arbitrarily decide, I'm going to be a successful and great hospitality person, and then do it if you don't learn how to relate to people, if you don't learn how to talk to people, and if you're not having fun doing it   Rachelle Stone ** 13:14 exactly. Yes, Fun. Fun is everything. It's   Michael Hingson ** 13:18 sort of like this podcast I love to tell people now that the only hard and fast rule about the podcast is we both have to have fun, or it's not worth doing.   Rachelle Stone ** 13:25 That's right. I'm right there with you. Gotta Have fun,   Michael Hingson ** 13:30 yeah? Well, so you So, how long were you with Disney? What made you switched? Oh, so   Rachelle Stone ** 13:36 Disney College Program. It was, at that time, it was called the Magic Kingdom college program, MK, CP, and it's grown quite significantly. I think they have five or 7000 students from around the world now, but at that time it was just a one semester program. I think for international students, it's a one year program. So when my three and a half months were up. My semester, I could either go back. I was supposed to go back to school back in Massachusetts, but the recreation management company I was working for offered me a full time position, so I wound up staying. I stayed in Orlando for almost three and a half years, and ultimately I wound up moving to South Florida and getting a role, a new role, with a different sort of company called a destination management company. And that was that was really the onset destination management was my career for 27 years. 26   Michael Hingson ** 14:38 years. So what is a destination management company. So   Rachelle Stone ** 14:41 a destination management company is, they are the company that receives a group into a destination, meetings, conventions, events. So for instance, let's say, let's say Fathom note taker. Wants to have an in person meeting, and they're going to hold it at the Lowe's Miami Beach, and they're bringing in 400 of their top clients, and and and sales people and operations people. They need someone on the receiving end to pick everybody up at the airport, to put together the theme parties, provide the private tours and excursions. Do the exciting restaurant, Dine Around the entertainment, the amenities. So I did all the fun. And again, sticking with the fun theme here, yeah, I did all of the auxiliary meeting fun add ons in the destination that what you would do. And I would say I did about 175 to 225, meetings a year.   Michael Hingson ** 15:44 So you didn't actually book the meetings, or go out and solicit to book the meetings. You were the person who took over. Once a meeting was arranged,   Rachelle Stone ** 15:53 once a meeting was booked in the destination, right? If they needed a company like mine, then it would be then I would work with them. If I would be the company. There were several companies I did what I do, especially in Miami, because Miami was a top tier destination, so a client may book the lows Miami Beach and then reach out to two to three different DMCs to learn how can they partner with them to make the meeting the most successful. So it was always a competitive situation. And it was always, you know, needing to do our best and give our best and be creative and out of the box. And, yeah, it was, it was an exciting industry. So what makes   Michael Hingson ** 16:41 the best destination management company, or what makes you very successful? Why would people view you as successful at at what you do, and why they would want to choose you to be the company to work with? Because obviously, as you said, it's competitive.   Rachelle Stone ** 16:59 Everybody well, and there's choice. Everybody has choice. I always believed there was enough business to go around for everybody. Very good friends with some of my my hardiest competitors. Interestingly, you know, although we're competing, it's a very friendly industry. We all network together. We all dance in the same network. You know, if we're going to an industry network, we're all together. What? Why would somebody choose me over somebody else? Was really always a decision. It was sometimes it was creativity. Sometimes it was just a feeling for them. They felt the relationship just felt more authentic. Other times it was they they just really needed a cut and dry service. It just every client was always different. There were never two programs the same. I might have somebody just wanting to book a flamenco guitarist for three hours, and that's all they need. And another group may need. The transportation, the tours, the entertainment, the theme parties, the amenities, the whole ball of Fox, every group was different, which is, I think, what made it so exciting, it's that relationship building, I think, more than anything. Because these companies are doing meetings all over the country, sometimes some of them all over the world. So relationships were really, really important to them to be able to go into a destination and say to their partner in that destination, hey, I'm going to be there next May. This is what I need. Are you available? Can you help? So I think on the initial front end, it is, when it's a competitive bid, you're starting from scratch to build a relationship. Once that's relationship is established, it is easier to build on that relationship when things go wrong. Let's talk about what worked, what didn't, and how we can do better next time, instead of throwing the entire relationship out with the bathwater and starting from scratch again. So it was a great industry. I loved it, and   Michael Hingson ** 19:00 obviously you must have been pretty successful at it.   Rachelle Stone ** 19:04 I was, I was lucky. Well, luck and skill, I have to give myself credit there too. I worked for other DMCs. I worked for event companies that wanted to expand into the DMC industry. And I helped, I helped them build that corporate division, or that DMC division. I owned my own agency for, I think, 14 years, still alive and thriving. And then I worked for angel investors, helping them flip and underperforming. It was actually a franchise. It was an office franchise of a global DMC at the time. So I've had success in different areas of Destination Management, and I was lucky in that I believe in accreditation and certification. That's important to me. Credibility matters. And so I. Involved in the association called the association of Destination Management executives international admei I know it's a mouthful, but I wound up serving on their board of directors and their certification and accreditation board for 14 years, throughout my career, and on the cab their certification accreditation board, my company was one of the first companies in the country to become a certified company, admc certified. I was so proud of that, and I had all of my staff. I paid for all of them to earn their certification, which was a destination management Certified Professional. That's the designation. I loved, that we could be a part of it. And I helped write a course, a university level course, and it was only nine weeks, so half a semester in teaching students what destination management is that took me three years. It was a passion project with a couple of other board members on the cab that we put together, and really glad to be a part of that and contributing to writing the book best practices in destination management, first and second edition. So I feel lucky that I was in this field at a time where it was really growing deeper roots. It had been transport the industry. When I went into it was maybe 20 years young, and when I left it, it been around for 40 plus years. So it's kind of exciting. So you so you   Michael Hingson ** 21:41 said that you started a company and you were with it for 4014 years, or you ran it for 14 years, and you said, it's still around. Are you involved with it at all? Now, I   Rachelle Stone ** 21:51 am not. I did a buyout with the I had two partners at the time. And without going into too much detail, there were some things going on that I felt were I could not align with. I felt it was unethical. I felt it was immoral, and I struggled for a year to make the decision. I spoke to a therapist, and I ultimately consulted an attorney, and I did a buyout, and I walked away from my this was my legacy. This was my baby. I built it from scratch. I was the face of the company. So to give that up my legacy, it was a really tough decision, but it really did come full circle, because late last year, something happened which brought me back to that decision, and I can, with 100% certainty, say it was a values driven decision for me, and I'm so happy I made that decision. So I am today. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 22:57 and, and let's, let's get to that a little bit so you at some point, you said that you had burnout and you left the industry. Why did you do that?   Rachelle Stone ** 23:08 So after I did, sold my my business, I worked for angel investors for about three and a half years. They brought me in. This was an underperforming office that the franchisee, because they had owned it for 10 years, had done a buyout themselves and sold it back to the angel investors or the private equity so they brought me in to run the office and bring it from surviving to thriving again. And it took me about 18 months, and I brought it from under a million to over 5.3 million in 18 months. So it's quite successful. And I had said to the owners, as they're thanking me and rewarding me, and it was a great first two years, I had said to them, please don't expect this again. This was a fluke. People were following me. There was a lot of curiosity in the industry, because this was a really big move for me to sell my company and then go work for this one. It was big news. So it was a great time. But the expectation for me to repeat, rinse and repeat, that kind of productivity was not realistic. It just wasn't realistic. And about a year and a half later, I just, I was driving from the Lowe's Miami Beach. It's funny, because I used that as an example before, to the breakers in Palm Beach. And if you know South Florida at all, it's, it's, you're taking your life in your hands every time you get on 95 it's a nightmare. Anyway, so I'm driving from the lows to the breakers, and I just left a kind of a rough meeting. I don't even remember what it was anymore, because that was back in 2014 and I'm driving to another meeting at the breakers, and I hang up the phone with somebody my. Son calls about something, Mom, this is going on for graduation. Can you be there? And I'm realizing I'm going to be out of town yet again for work, and I'm driving to the breakers, and I'm having this I just had this vision of myself in the middle of 95 slamming the brakes on in my car, coming to a full stop in the middle of the highway. I did not do this this, and I don't recommend you do this. And I opened up my car door, and I literally just walked away from my car. That was the image in my mind. And in that moment, I knew it was time for me to leave. I had gone as high as I could go. I'd done as much as I could do. I'd served on boards, contributed to books, spoken on panels. I wanted to go back to being an entrepreneur. I didn't want to work for angel investors anymore. I wanted to work for myself. I wanted to build something new, and I didn't want to do it in the DMC world. So I went home that night thinking I was going to just resign. Instead, I wrote a letter of retirement, and I retired from the industry, I walked away two and a half weeks later, and I said I was never going to return.   Michael Hingson ** 26:09 And so I burnt out, though at the time, what? What eventually made you realize that it was all burnt out, or a lot of it was burnt out. So I   Rachelle Stone ** 26:17 didn't know anything about burnout at that time. I just knew I was incredibly frustrated. I was bored. I was over in competence, and I just wanted out. Was just done. I had done well enough in my industry that I could take a little time. I had a lot of people asking me to take on consulting projects. So I did. I started doing some consulting in hospitality. And while I was doing that, I was kind of peeling away the layers of the onion, saying, What do I want to do next? I did not want to do DMC. That's all I knew. So I started this exploration, and what came out of it was an interest in exploring the field of coaching. So I did some research. I went to the coachingfederation.org which is the ICF International coaching Federation, is the leading accreditation body for coaches in the world. And through them, I researched Who were some of the accredited schools. I narrowed it down. I finally settled on one, and I said, I'm going to sign up for one course. I just want to see what this coaching is all about. So I signed up for a foundations course with the with the school out of Pennsylvania, and probably about three weeks into the course, the professor said something which was like a light bulb moment for me, and that I realized like, oh my   Speaker 1 ** 27:40 god, I burnt out. And I was literally, at this   Rachelle Stone ** 27:46 time, we're in school, we're on the phone. It was not zoom. We didn't have all this yet. It was you were on the phone, and then you were pulling up documents on your computer so the teacher couldn't see me crying. I was just sobbing, knowing that this is i i was so I was I was stunned. I didn't say anything. I sat on this for a while. In fact, I sat on it. I started researching it, but I didn't tell anybody for two years. It took me two years before I finally admitted to somebody that I had burnt out. I was so ashamed, embarrassed, humiliated, I was this successful, high over achiever. How could I have possibly burnt out?   Michael Hingson ** 28:34 What? What did the teacher say   Rachelle Stone ** 28:37 it was? I don't even remember what it was, but I remember that shock of realization of wellness, of it was, you know what it was that question, is this all? There is a lot of times when we were they were talking about, I believe, what they were talking about, midlife crisis and what really brings them on. And it is that pivotal question, is this really all there is, is this what I'm meant to be doing? And then in their conversation, I don't even remember the full conversation, it was that recognition of that's what's happened to me. And as I started researching it, this isn't now. This is in 2015 as I'm researching it and learning there's not a lot on it. I mean, there's some, mostly people's experiences that are being shared. Then in 2019 the World Health Organization officially, officially recognizes burnout as a phenomenon, an occupational phenomenon.   Michael Hingson ** 29:38 And how would you define burnout? Burnout is,   Rachelle Stone ** 29:43 is generally defined in three areas. It is. It's the the, oh, I always struggle with it. It's that disconnect, the disconnect, or disassociation from. Um, wanting to succeed, from your commitment to the work. It is the knowing, the belief that no one can do it well or right. It is there. There's that. It's an emotional disconnect from from from caring about what you're doing and how you're showing up, and it shows up in your personal life too, which is the horrible thing, because it your it impacts your family so negatively, it's horrible.   Michael Hingson ** 30:39 And it it, it does take a toll. And it takes, did it take any kind of a physical toll on you?   Rachelle Stone ** 30:45 Well, what I didn't realize when I when I took this time, I was about 25 pounds overweight. I was on about 18 different medications, including all my vitamins. I was taking a lot of vitamins at that time too. Um, I chronic sciatica, insomnia. I was self medicating. I was also going out, eating rich dinners and drinking, um, because you're because of the work I was doing. I had to entertain. That was part of that was part of of my job. So as I was looking at myself, Yes, physically, it turns out that this weight gain, the insomnia, the self medication, are also taught signs of of risk of burnout. It's how we manage our stress, and that's really what it comes down to, that we didn't even know. We don't even know. People don't no one teaches us how to process our stress, and that that's really probably one of the biggest things that I've through, everything that I've studied, and then the pandemic hitting it. No one teaches us how to manage our stress. No one tells us that if we process stress, then the tough stuff isn't as hard anymore. It's more manageable. No one teaches us about how to shift our mindsets so we can look at changing our perspective at things, or only seeing things through our lizard brain instead of our curious brain. These are all things that I had no idea were keeping me I didn't know how to do, and that were part of contributing to my burnout. Right?   Michael Hingson ** 32:43 Is stress more self created, or is it? Is it an actual thing? In other words, when, when there is stress in the world? Is it something that, really, you create out of a fear or cause to happen in some way, and in reality, there are ways to not necessarily be stressful, and maybe that's what you're talking about, as far as learning to control it and process it, well,   Rachelle Stone ** 33:09 there's actually there's stresses. Stressors are external. Stress is internal. So a stressor could be the nagging boss. It could be your kid has a fever and you're going to be late for work, or you're going to miss a meeting because you have to take them to the doctor. That's an external stressor, right? So that external stressor goes away, you know, the traffic breaks up, or your your husband takes the kid to the doctor so you can get to your meeting. Whatever that external stress, or is gone, you still have to deal with the stress that's in your body. Your that stress, that stress builds up. It's it's cortisol, and that's what starts with the physical impact. So those physical symptoms that I was telling you about, that I had, that I didn't know, were part of my burnout. It was unprocessed stress. Now at that time, I couldn't even touch my toes. I wasn't doing any sort of exercise for my body. I wasn't and that is one of the best ways you can process stress. Stress actually has to cycle out of your body. No one tells us that. No one teaches us that. So how do you learn how to do that?   Michael Hingson ** 34:21 Well, of course, that's Go ahead. Go ahead. Well, I was gonna   Rachelle Stone ** 34:24 say it's learning. It's being willing to look internally, what's going on in your body. How are you really getting in touch with your emotions and feelings and and processing them well?   Michael Hingson ** 34:37 And you talk about stressors being external, but you have control. You may not have control directly over the stressor happening, but don't you have control over how you decide to deal with the external stress? Creator,   Rachelle Stone ** 34:55 yes, and that external stress will always. Go away. The deadline will come and go. The sun will still rise tomorrow in set tomorrow night. Stressors always go away, but they're also constantly there. So you've got, for instance, the nagging boss is always going to bring you stress. It's how you process the stress inside. You can choose to ignore the stressor, but then you're setting yourself up for maybe not following through on your job, or doing   Michael Hingson ** 35:29 right. And I wouldn't suggest ignoring the stressor, but you it's processing that   Rachelle Stone ** 35:34 stress in your body. It's not so let's say, at the end of the rough day, the stressors gone. You still, whether you choose to go for a walk or you choose to go home and say, Honey, I just need a really like I need a 62nd full on contact, bear hug from you, because I'm holding a lot of stress in my body right now, and I've got to let it out So that physical contact will move stress through your body. This isn't this is they that? You can see this in MRI studies. You see the decrease in the stress. Neuroscience now shows this to be true. You've got to move it through your body. Now before I wanted to kind of give you the formal definition of burnout, it is, it is they call it a occupational phenomenal, okay, it by that they're not calling it a disease. It is not classified as a disease, but it is noted in the International Classification of Diseases, and it has a code now it is they do tie it directly to chronic workplace stress, and this is where I have a problem with the World Health Organization, because when they added this to the International Classification of diseases in 2019 they didn't have COVID. 19 hybrid or work from home environments in mind, and it is totally changed. Stress and burnout are following people around. It's very difficult for them to escape. So besides that, that disconnect that I was talking about, it's really complete exhaustion, depletion of your energy just drained from all of the stressors. And again, it's that reduced efficiency in your work that you're producing because you don't care as much. It's that disconnect so and then the physical symptoms do build up. And burnout isn't like this. It's not an overnight thing. It's a build up, just like gaining 25 pounds, just like getting sick enough that I need a little bit more medication for different issues, that stuff builds up on you and when you when you're recovering from burnout, you didn't get there overnight. You're not going to get out of it overnight either. It's I worked with a personal trainer until I could touch my toes, and then she's pushed me out to go join a gym. But again, it's step by step, and learning to eat healthy, and then ultimately, the third piece that really changed the game for me was learning about the muscles in my brain and getting mentally fit. That was really the third leg of getting my health back.   Michael Hingson ** 38:33 So how does all of that help you deal with stress and the potential of burnout today? Yeah,   Rachelle Stone ** 38:43 more than anything, I know how to prevent it. That is my, my the number one thing I know when I'm sensing a stressor that is impacting me, I can quickly get rid of it. Now, for instance, I'll give you a good example. I was on my the board of directors for my Homeowners Association, and that's always   Michael Hingson ** 39:03 stressful. I've been there, right? Well, I   Rachelle Stone ** 39:06 was up for an hour and a half one night ruminating, and I I realized, because I coach a lot of people around burnout and symptoms, so when I was ruminating, I recognized, oh my gosh, that HOA does not deserve that much oxygen in my brain. And what did I do the next day? I resigned. Resigned, yeah, so removing the stressors so I can process the stress. I process my stress. I always make sure I schedule a beach walk for low tide. I will block my calendar for that so I can make sure I'm there, because that fills my tank. That's self care for me. I make sure I'm exercising, I'm eating good food. I actually worked with a health coach last year because I felt like my eating was getting a little off kilter again. So I just hired a coach for a few months to help me get back on track. Of getting support where I need it. That support circle is really important to maintain and process your stress and prevent burnout.   Michael Hingson ** 40:10 So we've talked a lot about stress and dealing with it and so on. And like to get back to the idea of you went, you explored working with the international coaching Federation, and you went to a school. So what did you then do? What really made you attracted to the idea of coaching, and what do you get out of it?   Rachelle Stone ** 40:35 Oh, great question. Thanks for that. So for me, once I I was in this foundations course, I recognized or realized what had happened to me. I i again, kept my mouth shut, and I just continued with the course. By the end of the course, I really, really enjoyed it, and I saw I decided I wanted to continue on to become a coach. So I just continued in my training. By the end of 2015 early 2016 I was a coach. I went and joined the international coaching Federation, and they offer accreditation. So I wanted to get accredited, because, as I said, from my first industry, a big proponent for credit accreditation. I think it's very important, especially in an unregulated industry like coaching. So we're not bound by HIPAA laws. We are not doctors, we are coaches. It's very different lane, and we do self regulate. So getting accredited is important to me. And I thought my ACC, which my associate a certified coach in 2016 when I moved to the area I'm living in now, in 2017 and I joined the local chapter here, I just continued on. I continued with education. I knew my lane is, is, is burnout. I started to own it. I started to bring it forward a little bit and talk about my experiences with with other coaches and clients to help them through the years and and it felt natural. So with the ICF, I wanted to make sure I stayed in a path that would allow me to hang my shingle proudly, and everything I did in the destination management world I'm now doing in the coaching world. I wound up on the board of directors for our local chapter as a programming director, which was so perfect for me because I'm coming from meetings and events, so as a perfect person to do their programming, and now I am their chapter liaison, and I am President Elect, so I'm taking the same sort of leadership I had in destination management and wrapping my arms around it in the coaching industry,   Michael Hingson ** 42:56 you talk about People honing their leadership skills to help prepare them for a career move or their next career. It isn't always that way, though, right? It isn't always necessarily that they're going to be going to a different career. Yep,   Rachelle Stone ** 43:11 correct. Yeah. I mean, not everybody's looking for trans transition. Some people are looking for that to break through the glass ceiling. I have other clients that are just wanting to maybe move laterally. Others are just trying to figure it out every client is different. While I specialize in hospitality and burnout, I probably have more clients in the leadership lane, Senior VP level, that are trying to figure out their next step, if they want to go higher, or if they're content where they are, and a lot of that comes from that ability to find the right balance for you in between your career and your personal life. I think there comes a point when we're in our younger careers, we are fully identified by what we do. I don't think that's true for upcoming generations, but for our generation, and maybe Jen, maybe some millennials, very identified by what they do, there comes a point in your career, and I'm going to say somewhere between 35 and 50, where you recognize that those two Things need to be separate,   Michael Hingson ** 44:20 and the two things being   Rachelle Stone ** 44:23 your identity, who you are from what you do, got it two different things. And a lot of leaders on their journey get so wrapped up in what they do, they lose who they are.   Michael Hingson ** 44:39 What really makes a good leader,   Rachelle Stone ** 44:42 authenticity. I'm a big proponent of heart based leadership. Brene Brown, I'm Brene Brown trained. I am not a facilitator, but I love her work, and I introduce all my clients to it, especially my newer leaders. I think it's that. Authenticity that you know the command and control leadership no longer works. And I can tell you, I do work with some leaders that are trying to improve their human skills, and by that I mean their emotional intelligence, their social skills, their ability to interact on a human level with others, because when they have that high command and control directive type of leadership, they're not connecting with their people. And we now have five generations in the workforce that all need to be interacted with differently. So command and control is a tough kind of leadership style that I actually unless they're willing to unless they're open to exploring other ways of leading, I won't work with them. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 45:44 and the reality is, I'm not sure command and control as such ever really worked. Yeah, maybe you control people. But did it really get you and the other person and the company? What what you needed.   Rachelle Stone ** 46:01 Generally, that's what we now call a toxic environment. Yes, yes. But that, you know, this has been, we've been on a path of, you know, this work ethic was supposed to, was supposed to become a leisure ethic in the 70s, you know, we went to 40 hour work weeks. Where are we now? We're back up to 6070, hour work week. Yeah, we're trying to lower the age that so kids can start working this is not a leisure ethic that we were headed towards. And now with AI, okay, let's change this conversation. Yeah, toxic environments are not going to work. Moving forward that command and control leadership. There's not a lot of it left, but there's, it's lingering, and some of the old guard, you know, there it's, it's slowly changing.   Michael Hingson ** 46:49 It is, I think, high time that we learn a lot more about the whole concept of teamwork and true, real team building. And there's a lot to be said for there's no I in team, that's right, and it's an extremely important thing to learn. And I think there are way to, still, way too many people who don't recognize that, but it is something that I agree with you. Over time, it's it's starting to evolve to a different world, and the pandemic actually was one, and is one of the things that helps it, because we introduced the hybrid environment, for example, and people are starting to realize that they can still get things done, and they don't necessarily have to do it the way they did before, and they're better off for it.   Rachelle Stone ** 47:38 That's right. Innovation is beautiful. I actually, I mean, as horrible as the pandemic was it, there was a lot of good that came out of it, to your point. And it's interesting, because I've watched this in coaching people. I remember early in the pandemic, I had a new client, and they came to the they came to their first call on Zoom, really slumped down in the chair like I could barely see their nose and up and, you know, as we're kind of talking, getting to know each other. One of the things they said to me, because they were working from home, they were working like 1011, hours a day. Had two kids, a husband, and they also had yet they're, they're, they're like, I one of the things they said to me, which blew my mind, was, I don't have time to put on a load of laundry. They're working from home. Yeah? It's that mindset that you own my time because you're paying me, yeah, versus I'm productive and I'm doing good work for you. Is why you're paying for paying me? Yeah? So it's that perception and trying to shift one person at a time, shifting that perspective   Michael Hingson ** 48:54 you talked before about you're a coach, you're not a doctor, which I absolutely appreciate and understand and in studying coaching and so on, one of the things that I read a great deal about is the whole concept of coaches are not therapists. A therapist provides a decision or a position or a decision, and they are more the one that provides a lot of the answers, because they have the expertise. And a coach is a guide who, if they're doing their job right, leads you to you figuring out the answer. That's   Rachelle Stone ** 49:34 a great way to put it, and it's pretty clear. That's, that's, that's pretty, pretty close the I like to say therapy is a doctor patient relationship. It's hierarchy so and the doctor is diagnosing, it's about repair and recovery, and it's rooted in the past, diagnosing, prescribing, and then the patient following orders and recovering. Hmm, in coaching, it's a peer to peer relationship. So it's, we're co creators, and we're equal. And it's, it's based on future goals only. It's only based on behavior change and future goals. So when I have clients and they dabble backwards, I will that's crossing the line. I can't support you there. I will refer clients to therapy. And actually, what I'm doing right now, I'm taking a mental health literacy course through Harvard Medical Center and McLean University. And the reason I'm doing this is because so many of my clients, I would say 80% of my clients are also in therapy, and it's very common. We have a lot of mental health issues in the world right now as a result of the pandemic, and we have a lot of awareness coming forward. So I want to make sure I'm doing the best for my clients in recognizing when they're at need or at risk and being able to properly refer them.   Michael Hingson ** 51:04 Do you think, though, that even in a doctor patient relationship, that more doctors are recognizing that they accomplish more when they create more of a teaming environment? Yes,   51:18 oh, I'm so glad you   Rachelle Stone ** 51:20 brought that up, okay, go ahead. Go ahead. Love that. I have clients who are in therapy, and I ask them to ask their therapist so that if they're comfortable with this trio. And it works beautifully. Yes,   Michael Hingson ** 51:36 it is. It just seems to me that, again, there's so much more to be said for the whole concept of teaming and teamwork, and patients do better when doctors or therapists and so on explain and bring them into the process, which almost makes them not a coach as you are, but an adjunct to what you do, which is what I think it's all about. Or are we the adjunct to what they do? Or use the adjunct to what they do? Yeah, it's a team, which is what it should be.   52:11 Yeah, it's, I always it's like the Oreo cookie, right?   Michael Hingson ** 52:16 Yeah, and the frosting is in the middle, yeah, crying   Rachelle Stone ** 52:19 in the middle. But it's true, like a therapist can work both in the past and in the future, but that partnership and that team mentality and supporting a client, it helps them move faster and further in their in their desired goals. Yeah,   Michael Hingson ** 52:37 it's beautiful, yeah, yeah. And I think it's extremely important, tell me about this whole idea of mental fitness. I know you're studying that. Tell me more about that. Is it real? Is it okay? Or what? You know, a lot of people talk about it and they say it's who cares. They all roll   Rachelle Stone ** 52:56 their eyes mental fitness. What are you talking about? Yeah, um, I like to say mental fitness is the third leg of our is what keeps us healthy. I like to look at humans as a three legged stool, and that mental fitness, that mental wellness, is that third piece. So you have your spiritual and community wellness, you have your physical wellness, and then you have your mental wellness. And that mental wellness encompasses your mental health, your mental fitness. Now, mental fitness, by definition, is your ability to respond to life's challenges from a positive rather than a negative mindset. And there's a new science out there called positive it was actually not a new science. It's based on four sciences, Positive Intelligence, it's a cognitive behavioral science, or psychology, positive psychology, performance psychology, and drawing a bank anyway, four sciences and this body of work determined that there's actually a tipping point we live in our amygdala, mostly, and there's a reason, when we were cavemen, we needed to know what was coming that outside stressor was going to eat us, or if we could eat it. Yeah, but we have language now. We don't need that, not as much as we did, not in the same way, not in the same way, exactly. We do need to be aware of threats, but not every piece of information that comes into the brain. When that information comes in our brains, amplify it by a factor of three to one. So with that amplification, it makes that little, little tiny Ember into a burning, raging fire in our brain. And then we get stuck in stress. So it's recognizing, and there's actually you are building. If you do yoga, meditation, tai chi, gratitude journaling, any sort of those practices, you're flexing that muscle. You talk to somebody who does gratitude journaling who just started a month in, they're going to tell. You, they're happier. They're going to tell you they're not having as many ruminating thoughts, and they're going to say, I'm I'm smiling more. I started a new journal this year, and I said, I'm singing more. I'm singing songs that I haven't thought of in years. Yeah, out of the blue, popping into my head. Yeah. And I'm happier. So the the concept of mental fitness is really practicing flexing this muscle every day. We take care of our bodies by eating good food, we exercise or walk. We do that to take care of our physical body. We do nothing to take care of our brain other than scroll social media and get anxiety because everybody's life looks so perfect,   Michael Hingson ** 55:38 yeah, and all we're doing is using social media as a stressor.   Rachelle Stone ** 55:42 That's right, I'm actually not on social media on LinkedIn. That's it.   Michael Hingson ** 55:48 I have accounts, but I don't go to it exactly. My excuse is it takes way too long with a screen reader, and I don't have the time to do it. I don't mind posting occasionally, but I just don't see the need to be on social media for hours every day.   Rachelle Stone ** 56:05 No, no, I do, like, like a lot of businesses, especially local small businesses, are they advertise. They only have they don't have websites. They're only on Facebook. So I do need to go to social media for things like that. But the most part, no, I'm not there. Not at all. It's   Michael Hingson ** 56:20 it's way too much work. I am amazed sometimes when I'll post something, and I'm amazed at how quickly sometimes people respond. And I'm wondering to myself, how do you have the time to just be there to see this? It can't all be coincidence. You've got to be constantly on active social media to see it. Yeah,   Rachelle Stone ** 56:39 yeah, yeah. Which is and this, this whole concept of mental fitness is really about building a practice, a habit. It's a new habit, just like going to the gym, and it's so important for all of us. We are our behaviors are based on how we interpret these messages as they come in, yeah, so learning to reframe or recognize the message and give a different answer is imperative in order to have better communication, to be more productive and and less chaos. How   Michael Hingson ** 57:12 do we teach people to recognize that they have a whole lot more control over fear than they think they do, and that that really fear can be a very positive guide in our lives. And I say that because I talked about not being afraid of escaping from the World Trade Center over a 22 year period, what I realized I never did was to teach people how to do that. And so now I wrote a book that will be out later in the year. It's called Live like a guide dog, stories of from a blind man and his dogs, about being brave, overcoming adversity and walking in faith. And the point of it is to say that you can control your fear. I'm not saying don't be afraid, but you have control over how you let that fear affect you and what you deal with and how you deal it's all choice. It is all choice. But how do we teach people to to deal with that better, rather than just letting fear build up   Rachelle Stone ** 58:12 it? Michael, I think these conversations are so important. Number one is that learner's mind, that willingness, that openness to be interested in finding a better way to live. I always say that's a really hard way to live when you're living in fear. Yeah, so step number one is an openness, or a willingness or a curiosity about wanting to live life better,   Michael Hingson ** 58:40 and we have to instill that in people and get them to realize that they all that we all have the ability to be more curious if we choose to do it.   Rachelle Stone ** 58:49 But again, choice and that, that's the big thing so many and then there's also, you know, Michael, I can't wait to read your book. I'm looking forward to this. I'm also know that you speak. I can't wait to see you speak. The thing is, when we speak or write and share this information, we give them insight. It's what they do with it that matters, which is why, when I with the whole with the mental fitness training that I do, it's seven weeks, yeah, I want them to start to build that habit, and I give them three extra months so they can continue to work on that habit, because it's that important for them to start. It's foundational your spirit. When you talk about your experience in the World Trade Center, and you say you weren't fearful, your spiritual practice is such a big part of that, and that's part of mental fitness too. That's on that layers on top of your ability to flex those mental muscles and lean into your spirituality and not be afraid.   Michael Hingson ** 59:55 Well, I'd love to come down and speak. If you know anybody that needs a speaker down there. I. I'm always looking for speaking opportunities, so love your help, and   1:00:03 my ears open for sure and live like   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:06 a guide dog. Will be out later this year. It's, it's, I've already gotten a couple of Google Alerts. The the publisher has been putting out some things, which is great. So we're really excited about it.   Rachelle Stone ** 1:00:16 Wonderful. I can't wait to see it. So what's   Michael Hingson ** 1:00:19 up for you in 2024   Rachelle Stone ** 1:00:22 so I actually have a couple of things coming up this year that are pretty big. I have a partner. Her name's vimari Roman. She's down in Miami, and I'm up here in the Dunedin Clearwater area. But we're both hospitality professionals that went into coaching, and we're both professional certified coaches, and we're both certified mental fitness coaches. When the pandemic hit, she's also a Career Strategist. She went she started coaching at conferences because the hospitality industry was hit so hard, she reached out to me and brought me in too. So in 2024 we've been coaching at so many conferences, we can't do it. We can't do it. It's just too much, but we also know that we can provide a great service. So we've started a new company. It's called coaches for conferences, and it's going to be like a I'll call it a clearing house for securing pro bono coaches for your conferences. So that means, let's say you're having a conference in in LA and they'd like to offer coaching, pro bono coaching to their attendees as an added value. I'll we'll make the arrangements for the coaches, local in your area to to come coach. You just have to provide them with a room and food and beverage and a place to coach on your conference floor and a breakout. So we're excited for that that's getting ready to launch. And I think 2024 is going to be the year for me to dip my toe in start writing my own story. I think it's time   Michael Hingson ** 1:02:02 writing a book. You can say it. I'm gonna do it.   Rachelle Stone ** 1:02:05 I'm gonna write a book Good. I've said it out loud. I've started to pull together some thoughts around I mean, I've been thinking about it for years. But yeah, if the timing feels right,   Michael Hingson ** 1:02:21 then it probably is, yep, which makes sense. Well, this has been fun. It's been wonderful. Can you believe we've already been at this for more than an hour? So clearly we   1:02:33 this went so fast. Clearly we   Michael Hingson ** 1:02:35 did have fun. We followed the rule, this was fun. Yeah, absolutely. Well, I want to thank you for being here, and I want to thank you all for listening and for watching, if you're on YouTube watching, and all I can ask is that, wherever you are, please give us a five star rating for the podcast. We appreciate it. And anything that you want to say, we would love it. And I would appreciate you feeling free to email me and let me know your thoughts. You can reach me at Michael H, I m, I C, H, A, E, L, H i at accessibe, A, C, C, E, S, S, I, B, e.com, would love to hear from you. You can also go to our podcast page, www, dot Michael hingson.com/podcast, and it's m, I C, H, A, E, L, H, I N, G, s, O, N, and as I said to Rochelle just a minute ago, if any of you need a speaker, we'd love to talk with you about that. You can also email me at speaker@michaelhingson.com love to hear from you and love to talk about speaking. So however you you reach out and for whatever reason, love to hear from you, and for all of you and Rochelle, you, if you know anyone else who ought to be a guest on unstoppable mindset, let us know we're always looking for people who want to come on the podcast. Doesn't cost anything other than your time and putting up with me for a while, but we appreciate it, and hope that you'll decide to to introduce us to other people. So with that, I again want to say, Rochelle, thank you to you. We really appreciate you being here and taking the time to chat with us today.   Rachelle Stone ** 1:04:13 It's been the fastest hour of my life. I'm gonna have to watch the replay. Thank you so much for having me. It's been my pleasure to join you.   **Michael Hingson ** 1:04:24 You have been listening to the Unstoppable Mindset podcast. Thanks for dropping by. I hope that you'll join us again next week, and in future weeks for upcoming episodes. To subscribe to our podcast and to learn about upcoming episodes, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com slash podcast. Michael Hingson is spelled m i c h a e l h i n g s o n. While you're on the site., please use the form there to recommend people who we ought to interview in upcoming editions of the show. And also, we ask you and urge you to invite your friends to join us in the future. If you know of any one or any organization needing a speaker for an event, please email me at speaker at Michael hingson.com. I appreciate it very much. To learn more about the concept of blinded by fear, please visit www dot Michael hingson.com forward slash blinded by fear and while you're there, feel free to pick up a copy of my free eBook entitled blinded by fear. The unstoppable mindset podcast is provided by access cast an initiative of accessiBe and is sponsored by accessiBe. Please visit www.accessibe.com . AccessiBe is spelled a c c e s s i b e. There you can learn all about how you can make your website inclusive for all persons with disabilities and how you can help make the internet fully inclusive by 2025. Thanks again for Listening. Please come back and visit us again next week.

We live in a culture of extremes—where the loudest voice wins, emotional manipulation masquerades as influence, and overcorrection has become the new dysfunction. We see it in our families. We feel it in our churches. And when it finally shows up in our relationships, we wonder why everything feels so chaotic. This week on Win Today, Manny Arango is here to pull the curtain back on the deeper issues no one wants to admit. Together, we're talking about the generational cycles of chaos we've inherited, how manipulation uses fear to gain control, and why overcorrecting for past pain only produces more dysfunction. And at the center of it all? The worship of self, disguised as confidence, but rooted in pride. In this conversation, Manny exposes: The hidden tactics of emotional manipulation that we normalize How to recognize and break generational cycles of chaos Why overcorrection is not healing—it's reactionary bondage What it really means to dethrone the god of self and let Christ take His rightful place   If you're tired of pretending, if you're sick of spiritual language being used to control, and if you're ready to break the cycles that have defined your family and your faith, this episode will confront you, challenge you, and call you higher. Listen now. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

This week's episode is NOT to listen to around children! The episode starts with a story about my children and Santa/the Easter Bunny/Tooth Fairy etc., which led my child to say, "well I guess there is sort of still magic in the world?" To which I said, of course there is! In this episode, I give some of my own examples of magic in the world, a definition of magic and also of awe and wonder (from Brene Brown's book Atlas of the Heart), and talk about how we can find magic/awe/wonder or whatever we want to call it in our everyday lives, in nature, art, music, spiritual experiences or ideas (or for me, watching my kiddo make insane K'nex creations) :). Action item: note all the magic you can find in the world this week. Last week until fall, have a great summer everyone and thank you for listening!

This week, Jen and Pete dive in to the topic of readiness, and how the definition of being ready may change depending on context.Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:What may get in the way of feeling ready to jump into a project?Who else, besides ourselves, might we be relying on in order to feel ready?What are some tools and strategies we can use to feel more prepared and less like an imposter?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

This week I dive into some of the work Freud wrote later in his life, particularly a book called Civilization and its Discontents published in 1930. Freud believed that the evolutionary process we can use to trace the changes humans have gone through over the centuries can also explain why culture itself has evolved as it has. He basically thinks we are all self-deceiving, chronically unfulfilled and unsatisfied bots programmed to lie to ourselves above all else, and to avoid feeling guilt or shame based on unavoidable urges we all have by lying to ourselves and everyone else about those urges existing. Instead we redirect them. Killing someone in revenge becomes laser tag this weekend. Driving 100mph like an asshole to work everyday becomes gokarts and beers on Friday night. Cheating with the neighbor becomes an Only Fans subscription or a weekend at a swinger's convention. In this episode I cover morality, guilt, shame, intoxication, sublimation, civilization, and Freud's views on why all of these things exist in the human species. Support the show

Confessions of a Bad Mom and The Shame of Motherhood is a real thing. Listen to this intimate account of motherhood and the grief we all experience. Welcome back to OBSESSED! In this heartfelt solo episode, your host Julie Loken opens up about the messy, magical, and meaningful journey of motherhood—specifically, what it's like raising four boys. Julie takes us beyond “how-to” guides or stories of perfection, sharing an honest love story marked by exhaustion, growth, guilt, and ultimately, grace. She candidly explores the realities of parenting—grieving your old self, accepting imperfection, laughing at fart jokes, and loosening your grip as your kids grow independent. Whether you're in the newborn trenches, navigating teenage chaos, or cheering your grown kids from afar, this episode is a raw, compassionate reminder that you're never alone, self-care is essential, and you're doing better than you think. Stay wild, stay true, stay obsessed—this one's for every parent out there doing their best.Time Stamps00:00 Pregnancy Experiences and Expectations06:38 "Embracing Change in Parenthood"07:22 Embracing Imperfection in Parenthood10:53 "Self-Compassion and Resilience Tribute"

There's a moment, often quietly, when you realize life didn't turn out the way you thought it would. The dreams you chased, the milestones you reached—they didn't deliver the satisfaction you imagined. And somewhere along the way, loneliness crept in, success started to feel hollow, and the constant pressure to optimize every part of your life became a crushing weight. This week on Win Today, Ian Simkins joins us to talk about the uncomfortable truths no one tells you about midlife. In this conversation, we'll unpack: Why midlife often exposes the false gods we've been serving The unique, often hidden loneliness of your 40s—and how to navigate it How spiritual abuse leaves scars that don't just go away with time Why efficiency, while celebrated, makes a terrible master The freedom that comes when you stop demanding success from God   Midlife isn't a crisis. It's an invitation. An invitation to reevaluate what you've been chasing, to heal what's still wounded, and to walk with God in a deeper, quieter way. If you're feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated by the gap between your expectations and your reality, this episode will speak directly to where you are. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. • • Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Send us a textA quote I loved from the book Rising Strong by Brene Brown, PhD."Show me a woman who can hold space for a man in real fear and vulnerability, and I'll show you a woman who has learned to embrace her own vulnerability and doesn't derive her power or status from a man. "Show me a man that can sit with a woman in real fear and vulnerability and just hear her struggle without trying to fix it or give advice and I'll show you a man who is comfortable with his own vulnerability and doesn't derive his power from being ozs the all knowing and all powerful. "P.S. EXCUSE ME IF I GOT SOME OF THE QUOTE WRONG Rising Strong by Brene Brown, PhD is a amazing book. Check it out  FOLLOW US ON LINKS BELOW:NEW Links:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpl_PlNkmUgUIp_DRlcXssAhttps://www.jdwilliamscoachingandconsulting.comVISIT OUR WEBSITE AND GET YOUR FREE PHONE OR VIDEO CONSULTATION TODAY!!Support the showhttps://addingperspectivewithjosh.buzzsprout.com

This week, Pete brings a raw noodle to the table, in order to talk to Jen about the similarities between coaching people and creating inputs for AI.Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:How do both leadership and interacting with AI require curiosity?Why is it important to understand that AI platforms can be flawed?How does empathy inform our interactions with both humans and AI technology?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

As business owners we often get bamboozled by the latest technology, marketing idea or bright shiny object. But often we are distracted by those things because we are avoiding doing fundamental work in our business we know is vital to our success. Now I'm not saying we aren't all working hard as business owners, in fact some of the time we are very busy being busy, but this busy-ness often distracts us from doing the things in our business we know are essential for growth. Sound familiar? In today's episode Stacey shares the things she tends to put off and the things she wants you to stop avoiding in your businessSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Marriage has a way of exposing the wounds we thought we had buried. The unresolved pain, the unspoken insecurities, the habits we hoped would disappear—they all surface in the crucible of intimacy. In this final installment of our LOVE LIKE THIS series, Dave & Ann Wilson—hosts of FamilyLife Today® and authors of Vertical Marriage—join us to discuss: Why your unhealed wounds inevitably show up in your marriage The devastating impact of words and how they can either crush or cultivate your spouse How intimacy, when misused, turns into manipulation Practical steps to break free from destructive cycles and foster genuine connection   With over four decades of marriage and ministry experience, Dave & Ann offer raw, relatable insights that challenge and inspire. Whether you're newly married or decades in, this conversation will equip you to confront the hidden dynamics that hinder true intimacy. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

In Episode 231 of The Business Development Podcast, Kelly Kennedy dives deep into the universal yet often misunderstood experience of fear. Through a raw and insightful exploration, Kelly reveals how fear—whether it shows up as self-doubt, rejection anxiety, or imposter syndrome—can become your greatest ally in business and life. Sharing personal stories, neuroscience-backed insights, and 10 actionable strategies, he teaches listeners how to reframe fear as a signal, not a stop sign, and use it to drive bold action, deeper leadership, and business growth.This episode challenges you to stop avoiding fear and start embracing it as fuel. From naming your fear and acting fast, to visualizing the win and channeling your future self, Episode 231: From Fear to Fire is a roadmap for anyone ready to step into their next level. With references from leaders like Brene Brown, Mel Robbins, and Tim Ferriss, this is your call to stop playing small and start turning discomfort into unstoppable momentum.Key Takeaways: 1. Fear is your compass—it shows you exactly where your next level of growth lives. 2. You can't defeat what you won't name—call out the fear and it starts to lose its grip. 3. Fear is not a stop sign—it's a signal that you're on the edge of something meaningful. 4. Action is the antidote to fear—move before doubt catches up. 5. Repetition rewires confidence—do the scary thing enough times and it becomes your strength. 6. Imposter syndrome fades when you stack proof—track your wins and remind yourself who you are. 7. Self-limiting beliefs aren't truth—they're old programming that no longer serves you. 8. Your future self already has the courage—borrow it and lead like them today. 9. Speaking fear out loud weakens its power—fear hates oxygen and thrives in silence. 10. Growth doesn't ask for perfection—it demands courage. Feel the fear, do it anyway.Business Development isn't luck. It's a skill.Master it with me.⚡ Real strategy ⚡ Real results ⚡ Free discovery call

Send us a textEver wondered how a shy ranch kid transforms into a sought-after leadership consultant? On the Mindset Cafe podcast, we welcome James Robbins, who shares his incredible journey from introversion to standing confidently on stage alongside figures like John Maxwell, Brene Brown, and even Bill Clinton. Discover how a single college speaking gig at a church ignited his passion for public speaking, and learn why focusing on the message rather than the fear of failure can be a game-changer for personal growth. James Robbins offers listeners a treasure trove of leadership insights, drawn from years of experience and his popular book, "Nine Minutes on Monday." He reveals the power of simple weekly reflections to boost engagement and fulfillment in leadership roles. We discuss common pitfalls leaders face, like the lack of positive reinforcement, and explore how genuine appreciation can transform professional relationships. Hear James's firsthand account of the unique energy and insights gained from speaking alongside world leaders and how his ministry background provided a launchpad for his career.In our conversation, we delve into the transformative power of harnessing emotions and changing beliefs for personal growth. James introduces his upcoming book, "The Call to Climb," where he emphasizes the importance of aligning desires with actions and the role of resilience in achieving success. We explore the significance of vulnerability in leadership, the lessons learned from high-risk adventures, and the impact of sharing stories to inspire others. With a focus on building supportive communities, James encourages us to help others rise, highlighting how mutual support leads to personal and collective success. Join us for an episode brimming with heartfelt stories and leadership wisdom.https://www.jamesrobbins.com/Support the showThanks for listening & being part of the Mindset Cafe Community.----------------------------------------------Connect With Devan:https://www.devangonzalez.com/connect----------------------------------------------Follow On Instagram https://www.instagram.com/devan.gonzalez/https://www.instagram.com/mindsetcafepodcastLet me know what topics or questions you want covered so we can help you achieve your goals faster.----------------------------------------------P.S. If you're not already a part of the The Mindset Cafe Community Page I would love to have you be a part of the community, and spread your amazing knowledge. The page is to connect and network with other like minded people networking and furthering each other on our journeys!https://www.facebook.com/groups/themindsetcafe/

This week, Jen and Pete noodle on the notion of an ever-changing "who's it for", and the many different elements that go into thinking about your audience. (Hello, listeners!)Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:Why might the audience and/or intended purpose of a project change over time?How can being in an audience encourage a beginner's mindset, in addition to a growth mindset?How might you think about the psychographics of your audience, as opposed to demographics?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

On this episode of Currently Reading, Meredith and Kaytee are discussing: Bookish Moments: dumb phones and live shows Current Reads: all the great, interesting, and/or terrible stuff we've been reading lately Deep Dive: how you can use AI to know yourself better as a reader The Fountain: we visit our perfect fountain to make wishes about our reading lives Show notes are time-stamped below for your convenience. Read the transcript of the episode (this link only works on the main site) .  .  .  .  1:59 - Our Bookish Moments Of The Week 2:10 - @fictionmatters on Instagram 3:34 - Brick LLC 4:04 - Block It App 7:31 - Airpod Max Headphones 8:51 - Fabled Bookshop 9:12 - Currently Reading Patreon 13:34 - Our Current Reads 13:53 - Alebrijes by Donna Barba Higuera (Kaytee) 14:03 - The Last Cuentista by Donna Barba Higuera 18:27 - The Other Side of the Wall by Andrea Mara (Meredith, Blackwell's link) 19:45 - All Her Fault by Andrea Mara 19:46 - Someone in the Attic by Andrea Mara 21:58 - Kindred by Octavia Butler (Kaytee) 25:01 - CR Season 2: Episode 7 25:05 - CR Season 2: Episode 46 26:01 - Song of Spider-Man by Glen Berger (Meredith) 31:27 - Death of the Author by Nnedi Okorafor(Katee) 37:45 - One Dark Window by Rachel Gillig (Meredith) 41:57 - A Curse So Dark and Lonely by Brigid Kemmerer  42:06 - Using AI To Enhance Our Reading 42:35 - ChatGPT 42:36 - Claude.ai 44:30 - Currently Reading Patreon to access the reading tracker 45:46 - Question 1: What patterns do you see in my reading across formats and what might that reveal about my reading habits or preferences? 46:25 - The Field Guide to Dumb Birds of the Whole Stupid World by Matt Kracht 46:32 - The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown 49:45 - Question 2: What does my star rating distribution reveal about me as a reader and reviewer? 53:04 - Question 3: What types of books appear to be expanding my reading horizons versus providing comfort and what might that suggest about my reading values? 58:15 - Meet Us At The Fountain 58:26 - I wish for an app that would get rid of other apps. (Kaytee) 1:01:24 - One Dark Window by Rachel Gillig 1:02:12 - readyourcolor.com 1:03:55 - I wish for you to take your reading color quiz if that sounds like fun to you and let us know what color you are. (Meredith)   Support Us: Become a Bookish Friend | Grab Some Merch Shop Bookshop dot org | Shop Amazon Bookish Friends Receive: The Indie Press List with a curated list of five books hand sold by the indie of the month. April's IPL is brought to you by Warwick's in La Jolla, California! Love and Chili Peppers with Kaytee and Rebekah - romance lovers get their due with this special episode focused entirely on the best selling genre fiction in the business.  All Things Murderful with Meredith and Elizabeth - special content for the scary-lovers, brought to you with the behind-the-scenes insights of an independent bookseller From the Editor's Desk with Kaytee and Bunmi Ishola - a quarterly peek behind the curtain at the publishing industry The Bookish Friends Facebook Group - where you can build community with bookish friends from around the globe as well as our hosts Connect With Us: The Show: Instagram | Website | Email | Threads The Hosts and Regulars: Meredith | Kaytee | Mary | Roxanna Production and Editing: Megan Phouthavong Evans Affiliate Disclosure: All affiliate links go to Bookshop unless otherwise noted. Shopping here helps keep the lights on and benefits indie bookstores. Thanks for your support!

Last chance to enter the Roar Awards for 2025. We cannot wait to celebrate with you. In today's last chance podcast episode we breakdown the metrics you need to include in your awards submission in order to WOW the judges. If you're listening to this after entries close, don't worry, these numbers are vital for the success of your business, so it's important to listen no matter what the date!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this conversation, Teri Anderson explores the profound connection between trauma and tattoos, discussing how individuals use body art as a means of self-expression and healing. She highlights the common experiences of trauma survivors and the various ways they cope, including the use of tattoos to tell their stories. The discussion delves into the symbolism behind popular tattoo designs, the significance of memorial tattoos, and the transformative power of art in the healing process. Teri emphasizes the importance of understanding the narratives behind tattoos, encouraging listeners to see them as expressions of resilience and recovery. In this conversation, Teri Anderson explores the profound connection between tattoos and personal healing. She shares various stories behind tattoos that symbolize resilience, trauma, and recovery. The discussion emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, community, and self-expression in the healing journey. Teri highlights how tattoos serve as reminders of strength and transformation, while also addressing the emotional weight of personal experiences and the significance of shared narratives among trauma survivors. Takeaways Tattoos can represent deep, unspoken trauma. Not all tattoos are linked to pain; some celebrate joy. Art on the body can be a powerful storytelling tool. Coping mechanisms for trauma have evolved over time. There is one thing that the tattoos of trauma survivors have in common. And that is a deep.That is a deep, soul crushing pain that's either known or unknown, spoken or unspoken. Maya Angelou said, up from a past that's rooted in pain, I rise. And I think that's very true with what we see in today's culture of trauma survivors telling their stories and letting others see exactly. how they're feeling. We're reclaiming our bodies. We're reclaiming our thoughts. We are reclaiming our identities. Before I go any further, I want to say that not all tattoos are rooted in pain. Not all tattoos are rooted in trauma. but for those of us that have chosen to wear our stories. That's the case. In past decades, the survivors of trauma dealt with their trauma. through a lot of different coping mechanisms, including avoidance, substance abuse, seeking social support, religious practices, rituals, creative outlets, sometimes therapy, but therapy wasn't always. Therapy was pretty much a stigma in past decades. In today's culture, with tattoos being more prevalent, and the stigma of self-harm. being so heavy. Many of us have chosen to tell our stories. through the art on our bodies.   Teri Anderson (05:10.688) And I wanted in the past, the past episode, we talked a lot about the correlation between trauma. We spoke a lot about the core. I spoke a lot. I spoke a lot about the correlations there are between trauma and tattoos. Here we are in 2025. My traumas started in 1962, the year I was born. A lot of them were seared into my soul and I didn't know what they were. I had no idea what they were. But I wanted to go through in this episode here and kind of show you some of these. So you'll be aware if you see someone with some of these tattoos, you're be able to put it together and you're gonna be able to say, oh my gosh, I know what that means instead of, oh my gosh, that's trash. That was totally stupid. It might give you a little better understanding at some of the pain and some of the situations that we've gone through that have really been bigger and heavier than we have been able to carry alone. I think in some instances we do tell our story. in some instances, in some instances, in some situations. We are using tattooing. so we don't harm. so we don't do anything that will harm our bodies and leave a scar filled with stigma. So I'm gonna go through several resources here. I've got some pages pulled up here on the web that I'm gonna try and screen share with you guys. Some of the stories that people have that have survived their traumas. how they chose to represent themselves. and the meaning of the symbols that we see inked into the skin of people all around us. I guess first I wanted to read something to you from this incredible book that I found and I'll link it in the show notes below. It is called Tattoo Monologues Indelible Marks on the Body and Soul. I'll put the author's names in the show notes as well as the photographer's name. I'm not sure if I'll use any of these filters or not to make a point, but there are a lot of things that I would like to. touch on in this book. Teri Anderson (09:02.08) And one of the reasons I think if you're contemplating If you're trying to put your trauma together with your ink. I think this book might be very helpful, especially for women. Teri Anderson (09:23.509) One of the things in here. for praise for tattoo monologues is tattoo monologue sends a powerful message to tattoo trauma survivors like me, like you. We don't have to cover or we don't have to cower in the shame of our trauma. We don't have to hide our ink. They are a part of our stories. I find that very, very true. And as I said in the last episode, I don't see trauma or I don't see people with tattoos and think, my God. I see trauma. Sometimes I see beautiful art and I have some that are just beautiful art. But the ones that you see mainly on me that are the black and gray, those are trauma. I didn't know it at the time. I was trying to survive a horrible, horrible situation, horrible memories. But I wanted to go through some of the different, as I said, some of the different tattoos that we see. Teri Anderson (10:40.192) in Trauma survivors. Let me see if I can share this screen. Teri Anderson (11:08.928) Okay, this screen is from themighty.com. 23 tattoos that represent healing from childhood trauma. Now, of course, here we have the beautiful Phoenix. Teri Anderson (11:31.766) And I think that that pretty much relates with what my Angela was speaking about rising. from a pain, from a. rising up from a pain that's rising up from a past that's rooted in pain Teri Anderson (11:56.718) From Maya Angelou's quote that I read earlier, up from a past that's rooted in pain, I rise. You're gonna see a lot of phoenixes. I know many people that have a phoenix. I considered one myself. And this tattoo right here that we have, this young woman, is a beautiful colorful phoenix. We can only see it in part there on her back. Teri Anderson (12:28.183) in what she has. All right, let's go into this next one, this black and white. Teri Anderson (12:39.5) or black and gray, my phoenix still in progress is a symbol of my strength, of how many times I've risen from the absolutely horrible medical circumstances that have both altered the course of my life and nearly taken my life. But I survived because of the fire inside. The fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me. I think a lot of you might be able to identify with that. Now she says that this tattoo is still in progress. I will put this link in the show notes and it, like I said, it's the mighty.com, mental health, childhood trauma and tattoos. So she went full out back piece. I don't know, it's not saying if this was her first tattoo. But generally, I have found, it's not always the case, when someone goes in, go big or go home, there's trauma, there's a story there. And sometimes, you know, a little tiny space the size of a quarter can't really fill, in my case, 62 years. of dealing with trauma and this discovery of trauma. Teri Anderson (14:10.062) All right, the next one that we come to is a semicolon. Teri Anderson (14:31.264) is a semicolon. And the semicolon I think is pretty unique. I had considered one. Teri Anderson (14:43.084) And I still might do that. I'm going to have to find a unique way to deal to do that. But the semi-colon basically says, my story is not over. This woman is saying, it seems odd, but I distinctly remember reading a book about. What the hell? That's a totally different one. Teri Anderson (15:06.082) the semicolon, a lot of times is saying to remember every time I wanted to give up. Teri Anderson (15:16.852) every time I almost gave up and even when I tried to that I got through everything that had happened. Not only was it difficult but I experienced it as a child. It's a constant reminder to keep fighting and never forget what's brought me where I am now. Teri Anderson (15:45.55) And that is the semicolon. Teri Anderson (16:00.696) The semicolon. And you're going to see that on a lot, mainly women. I've seen it on women more than I have seen it on men. There are a lot of different tattoos that symbolize trauma or what people have gone through in their lives and trying to be the better person, trying to understand, trying to... Teri Anderson (16:32.916) Almost we have felt invisible for so long. We're not going to be invisible anymore. We felt forgotten. Teri Anderson (16:45.056) in ways that think few people can understand. Teri Anderson (16:53.262) So this person was talking about, they remembered reading a book about forests and forest fires when they were a child and learning how the ecosystem recovered after a fire. I read that some trees' would only successfully plant and germinate after a large fire hot enough to open whatever structure the tree used to contain its seeds. Teri Anderson (17:34.4) And as a little bit of a, you know, that just reminded me of something. I was on a motorcycle one day with, we do this run. My friend Brian holds it every year. It's the St. Helens Memorial Motorcycle Run. And one thing that really struck me on the first time, one of the first times I went up was the devastation. that was caused in 1980 by this volcanic eruption that took many lives and left miles and miles of damage. In between the burnt trees, they're still out there charred 40 something years later. There's new growth. There are flowers. There's beauty. And I think that really speaks to why some people choose to get forests, trees. Teri Anderson (18:41.516) because there is that regrowth after a fire that has burned us to the ground. Teri Anderson (19:22.796) And I think we see that here in this person's tattoo. I'm trying to move this to see and it's not quite doing it right. It's a bear tree, but the roots are deep and there are new branches on it, which is such a symbol of hope and recovery. I think it's really beautiful. I had never really thought of that before with forests and trees. I think I'll be looking at them in much different way now. Now this one is very unique and I like the way this woman put this and I just lost my screen. Okay. Teri Anderson (20:18.498) She has a birdcage. The birdcage directly over my heart represents the trauma I suffered as a child. It's all in gray tone, representing a lack of joy. The bird holding her own key in her beak and the colors of purple and blue has escaped the cage. She flies freely away from her prison. The lettering says, love gives her wings, which means that only love can heal the pain of childhood trauma. Self-love. I wear this tattoo proudly because it reminds me of what I have endured. Teri Anderson (21:13.098) and how I not only survived and how I not only survived, but I learned to thrive. Teri Anderson (21:31.768) So here we have her tattoo. And I think it's interesting, the cage that she has is on gray, gray and black. And the bird does indeed have the key in its beak. This is very unique. and it reminds me of things that I too. I've written about. Teri Anderson (22:04.152) That's, that's, well, that's really putting yourself out there and telling that story, isn't it? Teri Anderson (22:19.916) And there's, there, a lot of people use script, a passage. From a favorite book, from a movie, something that you've written, something someone else has written, a friend of mine. Teri Anderson (22:38.85) had a tattoo that I think was one of the most meaningful tattoos I've ever seen. She was on her way. I may not remember the story correctly, but she and her sister who had cancer were on the way to the doctor. And the sister took a pen, the sister that had the cancer, and wrote a little smiley face, drew a smiley face on my friend's hand. I think it's like right in here. Immediately, she knew she was, she already knew she was losing her sister. They went to a tattoo salon, a tattoo shop, tattoo parlor. I don't know what they're called now. Studio, tattoo studio. And she had that smiley face that her sister had drawn, tattooed. So she's carrying a piece of her sister wherever she goes. And that's a reminder of their relationship and how strong it was. Teri Anderson (23:44.364) Now this tattoo is a reminder for all of their... Attempts not to live, their father's death for the same reason, and many years of sexual abuse. She says, I'm still here because I have purpose. I'm still living despite all that was done to me. Teri Anderson (24:21.646) and this is a bit hard to read, and there you are living despite it all. Teri Anderson (24:33.016) So if you see people, if you see a passage, if you see script, they are really trying to invade this message. They are very aware of what they're saying. When I first started with My Ink, I was not aware of what I was saying. I was not aware that what I was doing was speaking to something that was buried deep inside of me. Teri Anderson (24:59.416) So if you see script, you'll know exactly. what that is. Teri Anderson (25:09.984) This is another one I think is really unique and Teri Anderson (25:19.502) I think this is just really such a cool idea. Teri Anderson (25:32.096) of the balloons, the girl, the little girl holding a bunch of balloons with some drifting away. My tattoo symbolizes the hold my past has on me every so often, though I managed to let go a little, is the balloons that are floating off. At the same time, I wouldn't want to let go of everything because my past is my life lessons, my life story, my personality, which keeps me floating. Wow, you know, this is crazy because... I am pretty much feeling, I'm looking at these incredible realizations that these people have made. And I'm sort of feeling like. Whoa, I didn't put that much thought into a lot of my trauma tattoos that these people have. I'm assuming they had gone through some type of therapy before and really had a vision of what they were wanting to convey and what they wanted to tell the world. Memorial tattoos, I think, are very common. My son, my eldest son, when... My second grandson died, went and got an absolutely beautiful tattoo that had the date of his birth, the date of his death and his name. Teri Anderson (27:11.104) So this one, this girl is speaking of, no, it's not a girl. Teri Anderson (27:18.36) This person is speaking. Teri Anderson (27:38.072) See? This person is saying, telling the story when their dad was killed when they were a child. And a few years ago, I had initially had a rose tattoo in loving memory of my father on my shoulder. Then I had a full sleeve and added roses with the quote, death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal. And it's a great reminder, he says about his father, but also to others that have. that he is lost that have been close to him. So I think, you know, out of all of the trauma surviving tattoos. Teri Anderson (28:29.332) The memorial ones are the ones that are most easily understood by, you know, I don't know how to say it, like maybe the unsuspecting or the unknowledgeable public at large. They don't have tattoos that haven't gone through trauma or have dealt with trauma in different manners. And what I'm seeing with this tattoo is he first, he's saying this was done in pieces. He had first had a rose and in loving memory. And then he went on. which is telling me he was still in the grieving process. The first part of it was probably that initial shock. My dad is gone. I know many of you, as well as myself, know that feeling. My dad is gone and it is overwhelming. And then it seems like he continued the tattoo because his grieving when he got this wasn't yet complete. I don't know if we ever really complete. Teri Anderson (29:36.428) Was I even sharing that? Teri Anderson (29:47.414) and loving memory of my father. 1958 to 1993. Yeah, I don't know if the healing from the trauma that we've gone through has ever really complete the grief of losing people we love. I just, you know, that's a hard topic. Teri Anderson (30:14.638) We'll go on to the next one. this woman is saying, growing up in a toxic environment, I've been having to adapt to all of my surroundings. The lotus flower represents someone who is able to thrive in every environment they're put in. Even if it's deep in the mud, I will still thrive. Teri Anderson (30:44.694) It's really a beautiful tattoo. It's a very beautiful tattoo. Teri Anderson (31:00.574) Let me share the screen with you for this one as I read it. This woman, Amanda, says it's almost done. I still have to add color. This tattoo represents the three main characters I created to survive abuse and oppression. The female night. Teri Anderson (31:28.864) Leonie and the horse's bay and the dragon. I'm currently working on writing the novels of their adventures. So she really has gone into this. Teri Anderson (31:44.522) and has a lot invested in telling her story. And I don't know if you can see, there's another one right here. I wish I could see what it was, but whoa, that's some pain to get through. that's a conversation starter, which is also very healing for us when people ask us, what does that mean? Teri Anderson (32:09.526) Now this girl got Celine Dion's autograph on her arm. She met her and this was her actual autograph, sort of like my friend, I think. Teri Anderson (32:31.79) Celine has been my safe place since I was bullied, a bullied teen in high school. Now on my healing journey from trauma and PTSD, she's what I end every session of EMDR with. She's the only thing that calms me and brings me joy. So that is, she's saying is Celine Dion's actual autograph. Teri Anderson (33:13.614) Then we have, this one's very unusual. I really like the concept of this. This person has a tattered open door on each wrist. when the thunderstorms of life come rolling in your front and back doors open so your troubles cannot find a home. Teri Anderson (33:41.782) I have a tattered open door on each of my wrists. When the thunderstorms of life come rolling in, keep your front and back doors open so that your troubles cannot find a home. Christopher says, Teri Anderson (34:03.2) It's a daily reminder to him that he doesn't have to take on everyone's problems as his own and that this as well as everything and that this as with everything too shall pass. Teri Anderson (34:22.88) I really like the meaning of a lot of these. They're, like I said, these people put a lot of thought into, no, do have some, I'm feeling, got to be a little defensive here. I do have some tattoos that are very thought out and very, very meaningful. And we're going to go into that in the next episode. but I just wanted to give you guys some symbols in this one of things that people, things that you'll be able to, I guess understand if you see them on someone, obviously these are very unique. So when you look at tattoos, some of us, mean, I don't have a lot of real estate left. And. But there are stories and all of the tattoos that I have seen that are just so incredible. This person's tattoo represents their childhood sexual, their, okay, let's share the screen because I can't see that. Teri Anderson (35:33.646) Theresa says, my tattoo represents my childhood essay and healing from that. I was always mocked for being an emotional kid, hence the crybaby. Also the Melanie Martinez song resonates with me. And the semicolon for many years of self-harm. Teri Anderson (36:03.963) guys this is real stuff I tell you this is legit trauma is legit Teri Anderson (36:16.174) Then you're see a lot of people that have a compass. And this person is saying that this compass, let's get back to screen share. Teri Anderson (36:32.162) This compass from the album art for the song invincible by Headley. I got this tattoo on my 18th birthday. I struggled a lot at first. I struggled a lot with at first physical abuse. Then as I got older, it turned into mental and verbal abuse. I had a lot of pressure placed on me through my school years. Or I had to be the highest academic. I had to excel in sports and get the student of the year every year. On top of that, I had to be strong because I have four younger siblings. I've made a lot of mistakes by letting them take away my power. I've lost parts of myself, but as I get older, I regained all my missing pieces and mended my broken pieces. So heartless, so selfish, so in darkness. When all your nights are starless, you're running out of hope. But I found the strength inside to see. Found the better part of me, and I'll never let it go. Teri Anderson (37:58.126) You know, I see compasses on a lot of people and I had never really put that together with being that, with that meaning. Teri Anderson (38:11.596) I know we're gonna get back to the Phoenix, the girl, she says her tattoo is impossible to take a photo of a hole, but it's a phoenix hugging me with its wings. Teri Anderson (38:30.86) I went through a lot from early childhood. The phoenix stands for always getting up and being reborn more strongly after every failure or every bad experience and learning from it. I made it pink to symbolize the girl power and women being strong with getting out of toxic or violent situations. Teri Anderson (39:02.508) Now there's a woman that is in the trauma. There's an author in the trauma world, Brene Brown. in one of her books is called Daring Greatly. Daring Greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen, to ask for what you need, to talk about how you're feeling, to have the hard conversations. Teri Anderson (39:41.024) It's a quote from Brene Brown. My tattoo also has a semicolon as a reminder that I survived. I'm here and I need to keep going. It's not over. So I will dare greatly. That's really sweet. Teri Anderson (40:08.376) This next one is Text as Well script set free because I am set free. Teri Anderson (40:26.082) because I am set free from the struggles I had in the past. I am in no way fully recovered, but I'm set free from what held me back. Teri Anderson (40:46.914) Here's a very, there one, this one I find very interesting. It's it's, this person got a molecule of serotonin. I got a serotonin molecule because it's released in the act of. Teri Anderson (41:10.572) this right there, which I can't say. I got this as a reminder that I don't have to hurt myself to be happy. There has been a major lack of stability in my life growing up. So I turned to some pretty unfortunate coping mechanisms. That word always gets me, but I'm trying so hard to move forward and focus on being a victor and not a victim. I think that's really cool. Man, you know, these people put some thought into their stuff and I'm just like giving my arm to my tattoo artist saying, here, help. I got to hand it to these people. This is pretty cool. All right, this tattoo that this girl named Brittany got is what keeps her grounded when times get tough. I've gone through what I've gone through and I've come out on the other side with a badge of resilience. Teri Anderson (42:19.84) I am a survivor, a witness, a warrior. My experiences have changed me, but that doesn't mean they have to define me. I like that. My experiences change me, but that doesn't mean they have to define me. Wow. I'm learning every single day. Good for her. That is pretty awesome. This next one is, I got this to remind me that I have the power to be free by doing the thing I love most. I'm a screenwriter because I've always felt trapped because of the essay right there. I never told anyone, but now I can face it. Good for them, I wrote my own deliverance. I like that. Teri Anderson (43:13.602) This one is absolutely beautiful. Teri Anderson (43:19.138) This person, Allison, was physically and mentally abused by sisters growing up. That is hard for me to read. because of my son Joshua. He was physically and mentally abused by his siblings. I found out and that just crushes me. But she says because of what she went through, she grew up with no self-esteem, no confidence, depression, general anxiety, social anxiety disorder, body dysmorphia, and panic disorder. It's been a long road to recovery. I do what I have to for my peace of mind. Okay, she got that on her foot. I have to tell you from experience, you get tattoo on your foot, you're going to feel it. That hurts. That was probably one of my most, that was probably my second most painful tattoo. Teri Anderson (44:25.1) This person has script on her arms. It's really, it's actually very beautiful. My tattoo says now I am a warrior. This reminds me how far I've come. Teri Anderson (44:40.384) in my mental health journey. It also gives me strength. It reminds me that I'll continue to get through this journey. I've been through a lot, but I've always come out a warrior in the end. nice Teri Anderson (45:08.598) I hope this is screen sharing. My thing says it's... Teri Anderson (45:22.606) You know, computers. Teri Anderson (45:29.422) Let's see if there's some more on here I wanted to share with you. Teri Anderson (45:39.214) All right, and I'm glad that that's the end of this article and I'm glad that they put this at the end. Teri Anderson (45:53.07) If you or a loved one is affected by sexual abuse or assault and need help, call the hotline at 1-800-656-4673 to be connected with a trained staff member. service provider in your area. You know, it's, it's, it's for each of these stories I hurt for these people. Teri Anderson (46:22.638) I can identify with them, we're like a group, we're a community. But each story is so painful on its own. I think being in the situation that I am in and knowing the pain that I went through, the things that I went through and how I coped and did not cope with them well, these have all the more. significance to me. So here's one I've seen a couple of times and it is Teri Anderson (46:59.775) This is self-love basically. The heart with self-love. Teri Anderson (47:22.284) All right, before we get back into this, I'm going to share a few things from the tattoo monologues, but tattoos are a creative way of expressing yourself. They allow you, as I said earlier, to reclaim your body, to make it truly yours again. Every time you look at your tattoo, you're reminded of your strength, your resilience, and your victory over trauma. It's like a motivational speech. without the cheesy lines and the overly enthusiastic speaker. Teri Anderson (48:02.382) It's really funny. Teri Anderson (48:11.774) know, anchor tattoos show that they're anchored, that they're safe from the storm. Then you have the butterfly tattoos. that I can identify with and I do have a butterfly or two on me. They're pretty, they're graceful. and they're the ultimate symbol of transformation. A butterfly tattoo is like a tribute to your personal metamorphosis, your journey from caterpillar pre-trauma to a butterfly post-trauma. It's like saying, yeah, I went through some tough times, but look at me now, I'm flying high. It's really kind of cool. I don't think I shared that. Teri Anderson (49:11.256) There are those beautiful, very delicate little butterflies. A heartbeat tattoo because you're a survivor. Yes. Teri Anderson (49:28.3) The dragon tattoo unleashed your inner fire. The feather tattoo, fly high, free spirit. I don't have any feathers. I'm not really sure why. The rose, this was really hard for me to look at. I do have roses on me. Teri Anderson (49:50.954) Some of you know, probably a lot of you don't know the story of my son that I lost to the city of Portland and his mental illnesses. Joshua always had a fascination with long-stemmed roses. Generally, in his drawings, in his writings, he was speaking of one rose. I couldn't really figure out what that meaning was to him, why he was so fascinated with roses. Teri Anderson (50:24.589) And I think this sort of says it. Roses are beautiful, but they come with thorns. Sounds a lot like life, doesn't it? A rose tattoo can represent love, hope and new beginnings. It's a reminder that you bloom despite the thorns and that you found beauty in adversity. So I think with Joshua, with his interest his fascination with roses his was more along the terms of I know I'm a beautiful delicate creation. But don't get too close because I have thorns and he did. It was really, it was difficult. Teri Anderson (51:36.886) Okay. I wanted to tell you a little bit about this, what things that I found in this book that I found really interesting. And I, I really suggest you getting this book. Teri Anderson (51:58.754) Ladylike tattoo monologues. it again. You can see I have places marked in here and I don't want to Teri Anderson (52:13.41) do anything but really sort of let you know some of the quotes that I found in here. Teri Anderson (52:22.966) And I like, I like this, the way it's stated because, you know, sometimes I can say things in a way that makes sense. Sometimes they don't quite make sense, but this, how do tattoos relate to trauma? Trauma leaves a sudden irrevocable. Teri Anderson (52:44.212) It leaves sudden, irrevocable marks on the brain, body, mind, and spirit. These permanent traumatic imprints create a profound sense of loneliness. They cause the trauma survivor to feel detached and alienated from themselves and from others. They shatter the individual fundamental understanding of safety. If you're a trauma survivor, I think you could probably identify with that because we do, we feel alone. Nothing around us is safe. It's almost, you know, I I don't want to say it's like walking on eggshells because it's not, it's to me, it's sort of like walking blindfolded through a field of glass and you don't know where to step because things come at you from every way and you really can't. It's really, it's a hard walk. It's a hard walk. And this person was talking about, and again, this is from Tattoo Monologues. And I feel this a lot. The artist poured into a small plastic cup, removed a clean needle from a sealed package, and turned on the tattoo machine. The incessant buzzing instantly provoked fear, excitement, and anticipation. He pressed the needle into my skin. It hurt. But I knew after the pain had subsided, a symbolic piece of my narrative would be left behind and the symbol would forever be a part of me. Teri Anderson (54:39.202) This book's just amazing. There's one. A quote about motherless daughters. To all the motherless daughters out there, may your heartache serve you in the best of ways. May your grief give you a better understanding of yourself. May your sentiment allow you to express and create, and may your love expand beyond what you ever thought was possible. And that's a quote by Keiko. to Maki. This book is so cool because it goes to a lot of, it goes to a lot of feelings that I think most of us as trauma survivors have felt. Betrayal. my gosh, betrayal is just, it's so ingrained and it's so, it's so real. It's so real. Teri Anderson (55:44.972) dejection. Teri Anderson (55:53.602) This is a quote by Judith Lewis Herman, the conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them out loud. is a central dialect of psychological trauma. Teri Anderson (56:14.796) Well. Yeah. I think a lot of the things that we feel and a of things that happened to us, we're ashamed of. People either talked us into being ashamed or it was just this natural shame that comes with a lot of things that happened to you. And you're like, why wasn't I strong enough? But what we have to remember is we're speaking as that five or six year old child. Would you expect a five or six year old child, seven, eight, nine year old child to be able to stand up to authority or anyone for that matter and take care of themselves? I... I think that is what. Teri Anderson (57:06.72) is so profound about this quote. The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is essential dialect of psychological trauma. Teri Anderson (57:29.869) You Teri Anderson (57:38.368) I'm not gonna do this book justice. I'm going to read to you some of the feelings here, the chapters. Maybe you can get a little bit of an idea of some of the things that trauma survivors deal with and some of the ways we're trying to either say, this is my body, I'll do what I want. Some of it is a very stubbornness to say, stay away from me. Stay away from me. Some of it is to reclaim control over our own lives when we feel we have no control at all. some of it's to commemorate, some of it's to inspire. I have, I don't know if you're gonna be able to see it here or not. This script here, I tried to it the other day and it didn't show, but I went in and I remember it was at the time where my life was just falling to pieces. It was completely falling apart. Teri Anderson (58:52.384) I had been put on some really horrible medication for a very wrong diagnosis that really spun me out of control. And all I wanted to do is what this says, live, laugh, love, and dream. But this book, it hurts to look at this as a trauma survivor and know that there are other people. That's kind of hard to say. It hurts to know that there are other people out there, but it also is sort of comforting to know that I am not alone in a lot of the struggles that I had. But the contents here, against all odds, betrayal, dejection. Reclaimed the gift guardian angel recovering rescues rescued. She's got my back. The slide hope in a dragonfly. love dragonfly tattoos. I would love to have one forgiveness pink dress tic tac motherless. That stings. That stings. Protection abandoned. Teri Anderson (01:00:11.116) and teardrops. Teri Anderson (01:00:16.408) So guess really the purpose of this episode... Teri Anderson (01:00:35.298) I guess the purpose of this episode was for those of you. Teri Anderson (01:00:43.96) to see people and immediately judge. to give you a little understanding that a lot of us are crying out. And for those of you that are tattooed to realize you're not alone, you're not alone. I now know that the sleeves, they did several things for me, but I think... one of the things, look, they're black and gray. One of the things I think now that I'm coming to understand is to stay away, to keep your distance. Because in my life to be close to anyone means devastation is going to occur. Teri Anderson (01:01:40.396) And I'm not really sure how. Teri Anderson (01:01:47.054) Other people see me. I've only had one derogatory comment Teri Anderson (01:01:53.902) Oh, you know what I wanted to do? Teri Anderson (01:01:59.596) I want to do an unofficial, this is not sponsored, but I wanted to tell you about this girl. She's in Portland, her name is Haley, and the name of her company is Nightwork Candle. I don't think you can see the candle that I have back there burning, but she has the most beautiful candles. This one I just ordered. It's a new fragrance that she has, a new aroma. It's called Gigi Moved to Paris, Texas. I love that because as a Texan, I know where Paris, Texas is. The smell is delightful. I I met her a couple of years ago and I have bought probably close to to 100 candles of hers. They're unique, they're beautiful. And they're just like Hailey. So I'm gonna leave her link in the show notes below as well because I just wanna give her a shout out. This girl, she's just, she's awesome. She's absolutely awesome. Teri Anderson (01:03:29.41) The saying beauty is only skin deep. Teri Anderson (01:03:38.232) comes to mind here. Teri Anderson (01:03:42.732) I think there's a lot of beauty within us that has had to be closed off for one reason or another. And it seems like with every discovery that we make along the way, every box that's opened, sometimes we can deal with it and sometimes we can't. Sometimes we cope. I am really thankful that I no longer use anything sharp. that I am, that part of me is gone. I have been through so much therapy and my tattoos were a big part of my therapy. So I just want to encourage you when you see someone that's tattooed. Teri Anderson (01:04:28.098) Look at their tattoo and think, what have they been through? What have they been through? And maybe give them a little grace. Teri Anderson (01:04:44.632) So let me say goodbye. on that note and I am going to hopefully get you guys leave some comments. I, I was so, I was so blown away by the comments you all left and the messages I received from the last episode of the tattoos and trauma. I was blown away. it Teri Anderson (01:05:23.118) people were so encouraging. I think they were coming together as they had found a group. Teri Anderson (01:05:32.746) And there's, it's just, to me, it was very meaningful that I was able to touch upon a topic that people really could resonate with and say, my gosh. my gosh. That makes sense. All right guys, so with that thought, I'll see you real soon. Esoteric Tattoo: https://g.co/kgs/nE2RkWk https://themighty.com/topic/mental-health/childhood-trauma-tattoos/ Tattoo Monologues: https://www.amazon.com/Tattoo-Monologues-Indelible-Marks-Body-Soul/dp/1647423112/ref=sr_1_1?crid=NOPE2BQP1ZQ9&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-GUKXnebwUZFCcDMI3Qbsw.IsCsmLyQ5H3bN9J6-Lb1jXE5ge5vtyKyKrIBzl7nVxM&dib_tag=se&keywords=tattoo+monologues&qid=1745033350&sprefix=tattoo+mono%2Caps%2C215&sr=8-1 Teri Anderson The Tattooed Biker Chick Digging Through Dominoes Tattoos as Expressions of Trauma: Many trauma survivors use tattoos to reclaim their bodies, identities, and narratives, turning pain into visible, meaningful art. Not All Tattoos Stem from Trauma: While not every tattoo is rooted in pain, those discussed in this episode specifically represent survival, healing, and emotional resilience. Symbolic Tattoo Themes: Common motifs among trauma tattoos include the phoenix (rebirth), semicolon (survival and continuation), forests/trees (regrowth), birdcages (freedom from abuse), and balloons (letting go). Script and Personal Messages: Words, quotes, and phrases are often tattooed to serve as affirmations or reminders of a survivor's strength and journey. Memorial Tattoos: Many people honor lost loved ones with tattoos that symbolize grief, love, and remembrance—these are some of the most universally understood trauma tattoos. Creative Representations: Survivors sometimes invent characters or stories—like fantasy figures or symbolic animals—to express their inner struggles and healing journeys. Celebrities and Healing Anchors: Tattoos can also commemorate people or influences, like a celebrity or song, that brought comfort during hard times (e.g., Celine Dion's autograph as a source of peace). Awareness Through Design: Designs like serotonin molecules, anchors, butterflies, roses, hearts, and compasses are often chosen for their deeper psychological and emotional meanings. Tattoos and Therapeutic Growth: Many trauma tattoos reflect a personal evolution, often tied to therapy, self-love, empowerment, and the desire to be seen and validated. The Book “Tattoo Monologues”: The host references and recommends this book, emphasizing how trauma leaves lasting mental and emotional marks, and tattoos can serve as a powerful tool in processing and expressing those wounds.                  

Many enter marriage believing it will be effortless—a seamless fusion of two souls destined for harmony. But what if this belief is the very thing setting couples up for disappointment? What if the key to a thriving marriage lies not in ease, but in intentional effort and understanding? This week on Win Today, Gabe and Rebekah Lyons join us to dismantle pervasive myths about marriage and intimacy. Drawing from their 28 years together, they offer candid insights into: The biggest lie about intimacy that's sabotaging relationships. Why viewing your spouse as a 'problem to solve' undermines connection. Understanding the anatomy of an affair and how to safeguard your marriage. The concept of marrying your emotional equivalent and its impact on relational dynamics.   In a culture that often glamorizes the idea of effortless romance, Gabe and Rebekah present a refreshing narrative—one that champions resilience, mutual growth, and the beauty of navigating challenges together. Whether you're single, engaged, or have been married for years, this conversation offers invaluable perspectives to cultivate a relationship that not only endures but flourishes. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

This week, Pete brings a dilemma to Jen, that he is feeling oversaturated in terms of leadership content, and together, they work to find solutions. (And some of them may surprise you!)Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:What does it mean to feel oversaturated, and what might cause that feeling?Why is it important to learn empathy through many different pathways?Why might we need to shift our learning to a more broad scope, as opposed to a narrow concentration?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

The Enneagram Decoded: Unlock Your Personality, Deepen Relationships & Transform Your LifeReady to understand yourself and others on a whole new level? In this powerful episode, we dive deep into The Enneagram, the ancient personality system that's revolutionizing modern self-awareness, communication, and connection.Whether you're brand new to the Enneagram or looking to explore it more deeply, this episode is your go-to guide for how it can transform your relationships, boost your confidence, and help you make aligned decisions in life and love.We're joined by the EnneaSisters—Kelly White (Type 6) and Jenny Wigglesworth (Type 1)—two dynamic coaches who use the Enneagram to help people grow, heal, and connect on a soul level. With years of experience leading retreats and creating powerful Enneagram resources, they break down this timeless tool in an accessible, actionable way.✨ In this episode, you'll learn:What the Enneagram is really about—and why it's so much more than just a personality quizHow to discover your Enneagram type (and what that unlocks for your personal growth)The biggest breakthroughs you can have in your romantic relationships using the EnneagramHow understanding your type leads to better boundaries, clearer communication, and deeper fulfillmentWhat makes the EnneaSisters' approach to the Enneagram so unique and impactful

Leslie Juvin-Acker the 6x Author, Celebrity-Life Coach, Psychic Medium and Legal Communicator is back at Bollotta-FIDE for a MINI EPISODE. Anthony and Alex throw some quotes from such luminaries as Brene Brown, Mel Robbins, Don Miguel and Raymond M.Kethledge to get Leslie's hot takes and further insight. Enjoy! Ask Anthony: www.bollotta.com/podcastFollow @bollottaentertainment on IGFollow @Lesliejuvinacker on her new IG account.CONNECT with LESLIE at https://www.lesliejuvinacker.com/Read Her Articles Work with Leslie

Stacey is excited to share with you a fabulous conversation she had with Lauren Clemett on the That's Audacious podcast. In this discussion Stacey shares her passion for business awards and how they have transformed her own entrepreneurial journey. Stacey discusses the unique aspects of the ROAR Awards, highlighting their focus on celebration, community, and providing valuable feedback to entrants. She also delves into the common barriers that hold people back from participating in awards and offers practical advice on how to overcome them. This episode is a must-listen for any business owner seeking recognition, growth, and connection. Enjoy!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What makes someone a leader people actually want to follow?In today's conversation, I sit down with Tash Pieterse - founder, leadership coach and host of the Lead with Less podcast, to unpack the uncomfortable truths about modern leadership. After over a decade inside the HR world, Tash saw the cracks in how we define leadership and decided to build something better. Her mission? To develop Legendary Leaders. This conversation challenged my own assumptions and made me reflect on the kind of leader I want to be, not just at work, but in life.What we discuss:The six key traits of a “Legendary Leader”Why vulnerability isn't a weakness, but a superpower in leadershipWhat it really means to be people-first without sacrificing resultsCommon traps even the best leaders fall into and how to avoid themA surprising take on who's getting leadership right (and wrong) todayA practical, no-BS first step for anyone new to leadership and career developmentEpisode Tash mentioned on transparency and authenticity in leadership is here.Keen to learn more about personal growth, career and money?   Find me on Instagram or Tik Tok  Thank you for listening, it means so much to me. Please leave a comment, rating or review if you're enjoying and we will chat in the next episode. Need help creating a CV? Here's one of the best FREE CV creators.  Want to get in touch directly?   sarah@theoneupproject.nz  Disclaimer: All opinions are my own, please seek professional financial advice.

Comment on this episode by going to KDramaChat.comToday, we'll be discussing Episode 5 of When Life Gives You Tangerines, the hit K Drama on Netflix the hit K Drama on Netflix starring IU as Oh Ae-sun and Park Bo-gum Yang Gwan-sik. We discuss:The song featured during the recap: Spring in a Heartbeat by Park Sung-il, a beautiful instrumental piece that plays during the heartwarming scene of Ae Sun and Gwan Sik on their boat with their growing family.The complex and emotional back-and-forth between two timelines—Ae Sun and Gwan Sik's love story and their daughter Geum Myeong's journey—and how it adds depth to the drama.A powerful conversation about shame, gender roles, and vulnerability inspired by Gwan Sik's struggle to provide for his family and Brene Brown's research on shame.Ae Sun's desperate visit to her grandmother, who gives them money to buy a boat—a game-changing gift that symbolizes hope and a fresh start.The emotional weight and cultural significance of the language used between Ae Sun's grandmother and Gwang Rye, especially words like 어머니, 애미야, and 아가.Gwan Sik and Ae Sun's christening of their new boat and the ceremonial offerings to the Dragon King, an important sea deity in Korean mythology.Ae Sun's rising confidence and new role as Deputy Chief of the village, and how her wardrobe changes reflect her rising status and better life.The scandal at the social dance club and how Ae Sun saves Bu Sang Gil's wife and daughter from humiliation, revealing unexpected layers of solidarity and empathy.The symbolic act of Ae Sun boarding the boat and painting the name “Geum Eun Dong” after their three children—gold, silver, and bronze—and what it reveals about their dreams and values.Ae Sun's hilarious and sarcastic comments about Gwan Sik's jeon-making skills and ancestral rites, poking fun at traditional gender norms while asserting her power.How the couple buys Ae Sun's mother's former house, making it a warm and beautiful home, and how the mother-of-pearl wardrobe becomes a lasting symbol of their pride and love.A sweet kiss between Ae Sun and Gwan Sik as they celebrate their love and achievements, with Ae Sun taunting the Dragon King and embracing her role as the family's lucky charm.The ominous foreshadowing from grown-up Geum Myeong, warning us that this happy chapter may soon come to a tragic end.The real-life couple who inspired the story of When Life Gives You Tangerines, especially Hong Kyung Ja and her devoted husband, who was honored for his love and support.Next week, we will discuss episode 6 of When Life Gives You Tangerines. We'll also talk about Jeju Island, the popular tourist destination and setting for many hit K Dramas!ReferencesPark Sung-il list of songs on K Drama OSTsBrene Brown's TED Talk: Listening to Shame

Shangri-la is where our hearth and hearth reach life's perfection in form of earth and space. In this Day 6, the hearth or the home that stores the systems that expressed 361 points for acupuncture and 87 emotional states of the human heart. Almost all diseases expressed itself as hot or cold; yin or yang; excess or deficient of energy. Here I shared the 87 emotional terrains of the topography within the human experiences and expressions. Brene Brown's book of atlas of the heart, she broke down the 87 emotions in 13 categories when we feel uncertain or when the matrix has a surprising glitch in our daily life. How do we feel? What do we sense? What experiences do our hearts expressed? To brief you the terrain of going inward we have to study how our emotional landscape factor how we sail through the sea of change as the tides get more and more unpredictable. Listen, feel, marinate how your soul sing or spirit lights up or shut down as you experience the energies.

 In this episode of The Observatory, Scott and LaRae share the transformative power of creativity, a fundamental aspect of human nature that enables self-discovery, emotional fulfillment, and the pursuit of meaning in life. Creativity is a universal capacity that allows us to express our authentic selves, connect with others, and find joy. Hear Brené Brown's perspective on creativity, how you can start to be creative, and how a bigger imagination prompts beautiful experiences.Timestamps[05:40] Brene Brown's perspective of creativity[07:00] Why are many humans not creative?[16:19] Having a bigger imagination that prompts beautiful experiences[18:34] The book: Mary Jane Wild by Brooke[22:43] Creating the internal landscape of you[23:21] Starting the journey to being creative[29:02] Where is your creativity showing up?[33:00] Allowing things to unfold naturally[39:34] The real meaning of abracadabra[44:51] Keep dreamingNotable quotes:“There is no such thing as creative people and non-creative people. There are only people who use their creativity and people who don't.” - Brene Brown [05:40]“The unused creativity stays inside of us because we are creating a life.” - LaRae Wright [21:48]“If you don't feel creative, this is a good place to start. Go into nature and observe.” - Scott Wright [22:54]“Open yourself up to the possibility that you don't have to know what you will do when you begin to do it. You are opening a space to allow yourself to create.” - Scott Wright [31:26]Relevant links:The book: The Gifts of ImperfectionThe book: Mary Jane WildSubscribe to the podcast: Apple Podcast

In today's swipe-right culture, many believe love is something you stumble upon—a serendipitous event. But what if that mindset is sabotaging your relationships? What if true love is less about finding and more about forging? This week on Win Today, Kait and JJ Tomlin, renowned dating coaches and hosts of the Heart of Dating podcast, join us to dismantle dating myths and offer raw insights into building intentional relationships. They delve into: The myth of "the one" and why love is intentionally built, not passively found. Differentiating between red flags and deal-breakers—and why knowing the difference can save you heartache. The art of sliding into DMs with authenticity and respect in the digital age. Empowering women to "drop the hanky"—taking initiative without compromising femininity.   In an era where ghosting is rampant and commitment is fleeting, Kait and JJ provide a refreshing perspective rooted in authenticity, intentionality, and faith. Whether you're single, dating, or reevaluating your relationship approach, this conversation offers actionable insights to navigate modern romance with clarity and purpose. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Borrowing a framework from Claire Hughes Johnson, Pete and Jen toss around the differences between being a victim and a player (and noodle on the words within the phrase itself, of course).Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:How might we take more ownership of our work and our responsibilities?Why is it important to think about your team, when working towards a collective goal?How might we keep ourselves accountable, and find self-empowerment?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Find the full transcript for this episode and those POWERFUL 6 Questions at ProsperousCoach.com/329Are you worried your mistakes in life hurt your credibility as a coach?I get that — it's certainly a concern I had that held me back.Most of my VIP clients share early on in our work together the fear that their failures in life will turn away potential coaching clients.There's a feeling you need to be perfect, right?And, 15 years or more ago, that might have been somewhat true in business.But, thank you Brene Brown, vulnerability and truth telling is attractive and also makes life easier.In Episode 328, where I interviewed Leslie K. Wang about her successes with attracting coaching clients, she mentioned how important it is to be a 3-dimensional person when posting online or in content, such as a podcast.I agree. Being real helps you attract your most ideal clients.So, why not actually leverage your personal story into your coaching niche? Reveal the many pitfalls that lead you to where you are now.Let's dig into how your personal story works in your favor.I'd love to hear from you. Stay inspired and make things happen! - Rhonda Hess, Prosperous Coach Rhonda Hess helps new coaches leverage their zone of genius into a profitable coaching niche and launch with confidence. For VIP step-by-step support apply for Rhonda's VIP Coaching Business Breakthrough Program here and she'll be in touch to invite you a discovery call. Or if you're stuck on your coaching niche, grab a Nail Your Niche Strategy Session with Rhonda here.

Are you busy being busy? Or is your to-do list working for you? In today's episode we talk about the ways in which business owners allow their to-do list to run their day and the way in which with a strategic plan instead you could get your to-do list actually working for you, not against you!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Communication after betrayal can feel like walking through a minefield—full of triggers, misunderstandings, and deep emotional wounds. In this episode, we explore essential healthy communication strategies that help couples reconnect, rebuild trust, and create emotional safety in their relationship. Whether you're struggling to express your feelings, feeling unheard, or unsure how to move forward, this episode offers practical tools and real-life examples to guide you.Mentioned in this episode: Brene Brown on Empathy VideoThank you for tuning in!We're here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.Your Hosts:Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-CStephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CWe look forward to journeying with you!

We're in a relationship crisis. Everyone's talking about chemistry and compatibility, but no one's talking about maturity. And when emotional immaturity meets unaddressed shame, sexual frustration, and spiritual avoidance? It's a recipe for dysfunction. This week, Stephen Chandler joins Win Today to kick off a hard-hitting four-week series on relationships. In this conversation, we're getting real about the deeper issues driving relational pain—and why surface-level fixes don't work. Stephen unpacks: Why emotional immaturity is sabotaging modern relationships How sexual frustration creates silent fractures in marriages The role shame plays in both intimacy and avoidance The subtle ways we use spiritual language to hide dysfunction This isn't another “five tips for better communication” episode. It's a wake-up call. Whether you're dating, married, engaged, or trying to get back into the relationship game, this conversation will expose the patterns keeping you stuck—and invite you into a maturity that transforms everything. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.  

This week, Jen and Pete thrash about the mystery of their empty can of episodes, and noodle on habits, rules, and constraints.Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:Why are streaks important, when sustaining a habit or practice?How might we reduce the scope of our habits, when necessary, in order to maintain them?Why is recording this podcast an important habit for both Jen and Pete?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Let's be honest, when it comes to relationships, most of us are winging it. We chase chemistry, avoid conflict, and wonder why we keep repeating the same cycles. But what if the problem isn't compatibility... it's maturity?   This month on Win Today, we're tearing the lid off what no one wants to talk about—with a four-week series called LOVE LIKE THIS. These aren't fluffy conversations. They're real, raw, and disruptive—in the best way.   WEEK ONE (04/02): Stephen Chandler kicks us off with a hard-hitting conversation about emotional immaturity, sexual frustration, and how shame is sabotaging intimacy from the inside out. WEEK TWO (04/09): Kait and JJ Tomlin are coming for your dating life—talking about red flags, deal-breakers, why love is forged, not found, and yes… why women should absolutely drop the hanky. WEEK THREE (04/16): Gabe and Rebekah Lyons show up with the truth every married couple needs to hear—why your spouse isn't a formula to solve, how emotional pain sets the stage for infidelity, and why the marriage you want is built, not wished for. WEEK FOUR (04/23): Dave and Ann Wilson close out the series with a raw look at how your wounds are showing up in your marriage, the power of your words to either crush or restore, and how intimacy becomes manipulation when pain goes unhealed.   This is the series your relationship needs—even if it's not the one you want. Whether you're single, dating, married, or just trying to heal—LOVE LIKE THIS will call you up, not just call you out.   Subscribe now on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or YouTube, and don't miss a single week.

This episode explores why having a clear and distinct signature offer is crucial for your coaching practice.   Whether you're an internal coach or running your own independent gig, clarity is key! Having a clear and distinct offering can make all the difference in attracting the right clients and maximizing your impact.   That's why we discuss the importance of aligning your signature offer with both your strengths and your clients' needs. We also share tips on how to choose the right modality and service, and even how to frame your offering around the problems you solve. Plus, we sprinkle in some fun anecdotes and examples from our own experiences, to make it clear – while you can have multiple offerings, a standout signature offer makes you memorable and repeatable.   So, grab a notepad and pen, settle in, and let's get you on the path to creating a signature offer that truly reflects your unique coaching style!

This week's entertainment lineup is stacked! A24's Death of a Unicorn with Jenn Ortega and Paul Rudd, Jason Statham stars in A Working Man, and the creators of Will & Grace bring us Mid-Century Modern. Plus, Mikey Madison from Anora is set to host SNL! The Hunger Games is bigger than ever with Sunrise on the Reaping. A surprising partnership between MrBeast and James Patterson. Our thoughts on an emotional episode of Survivor. Why are generations so competitive? Gen Z is listening. Brene Brown introduces us to "floodlighting" - but whatever you do, don't listen to Vinnie.

Some love stories are written in the stars—Heather Krueger's was written in the operating room. In this extraordinary episode of Get Obsessed, we sit down with the star of real-life romance and resilience, Heather Krueger, whose journey inspired Once Upon A Christmas Miracle, Hallmark's highest-rated movie.Heather was given a life-threatening diagnosis of liver failure, with little time to find a donor. Enter Chris— a stranger who made the selfless decision to donate part of his liver. What started as an act of kindness turned into an incredible love story, one that defied the odds and became the ultimate fairytale—one so powerful it could only be told on the big screen.From a Hallmark beginning to a Lifetime love story, Heather opens up about her journey, the meaning of true love, and how she and Chris continue to inspire others through their incredible bond. This is a story of hope, fate, and the power of second chances—one that will leave you believing in miracles.

We live in a culture that demands constant performance, even in our spiritual lives. We're pressured to present a curated faith—one that hides our doubts, fears, and grief. But what if this relentless pursuit of a flawless facade is keeping us from experiencing the depth of God's presence? This week, Aubrey Sampson joins Win Today to explore the transformative power of lament—a practice often overlooked but deeply rooted in biblical tradition. She reveals: Why our obsession with performing for God leaves us spiritually empty The lost art of lament and how it draws us closer to the Lord The danger of avoiding grief and the mystery it holds for our formation Practical steps to embrace lament as a pathway to genuine faith For centuries, lament has been a sacred practice, allowing believers to express raw emotions and find solace in God's presence. Yet, today's fast-paced world encourages us to suppress these feelings, leading to a shallow faith experience. If you've ever felt the weight of unexpressed sorrow, struggled with the need to appear 'okay,' or wondered how to connect deeply with God amidst pain, this conversation is for you. Aubrey guides us back—not to a performative faith—but to an authentic journey where every emotion has a place before God. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

Breaking Free: The Journey from Shame to Freedom Shame thrives in silence, convincing us that our worst moments define us. But what if we could name it, face it, and walk into freedom? In this episode of the Exploring More Podcast, Michael Thompson and SJ Jennings continue their deep dive into the journey of healing from shame. Through personal stories—like the sting of a high school basketball defeat—they explore how shame takes root, how it shapes identity, and how we can begin to break its grip. They discuss the importance of choosing the right support system, practicing grounding techniques, and embracing vulnerability with God's perspective as the ultimate guide to healing. They also touch on the power of grace, the role of confession, and breaking shame contracts that keep us stuck in cycles of guilt. With insights from counseling and spiritual practices, this episode offers practical tools to help listeners find relief and transformation. Shame may whisper that you're alone, but freedom comes when you step into the light. Join the conversation and discover how to break shame's hold and reclaim the identity God sees in you. We hope you enjoy this episode and invite you to connect with us!

In this week's episode, Jen and Pete ask the question: What if you treated yourself the way you treat others?Specifically, in this episode Jen and Pete talk about:What is the golden rule?Why might we be more generous or empathetic towards others, and not ourselves?How might we take ourselves a little less seriously?To hear all episodes and read full transcripts, visit The Long and The Short Of It website: https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/.You can subscribe to our Box O' Goodies here (https://thelongandtheshortpodcast.com/) and receive a weekly email full of book and podcast recommendations, quotes, videos, and other interesting things that Jen and Pete are noodling on. To get in touch, send an email to: hello@thelongandtheshortpodcast.com.Learn more about Pete's work here (https://humanperiscope.com/) and Jen's work here (https://jenwaldman.com/).

Listen to Tia's Podcast- BEGIN AGAIN MAMA HERE: Begin Again Mama Podcast - Apple PodcastsFeaturing Tia Walden on Get ObsessedIn this heartfelt episode of Get Obsessed, we welcome Tia Walden, the inspiring voice behind Begin Again Mama. As she prepares to welcome her third baby any day now, Tia opens up about her profound journey of grief, resilience, and transformation—navigating the loss of her sister and baby girl while embracing the beauty of new beginnings.Tia is a Holistic Nutritionist, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, and bestselling author of Obsessed with Mindful Eating. With a deep passion for prenatal and postpartum nutrition, she helps mothers reconnect with their well-being—mind, body, and spirit. Through her podcast, Begin Again Mama, she creates a space for authentic conversations, holistic health insights, and the raw, real experiences of motherhood.Join us as we explore the power of starting over, healing through nourishment, and embracing every chapter of the motherhood journey. Because every day is a chance to Begin Again.Stay connected with Tia:

What if the way you pay attention is shaping who you're becoming? What if your deepest fears of being abandoned—whether real or anticipated—are keeping you locked in patterns of anxiety, shame, and self-protection? Today, Dr. Curt Thompson joins us to unpack the profound ways our minds and relationships shape our formation. We're talking about anticipated abandonment, the neuroscience of attachment, and how to cultivate rugged flexibility in the face of life's uncertainties. Dr. Thompson, a psychiatrist and expert in interpersonal neurobiology, reveals how the way we focus our attention—consciously or not—rewires our brains and forms our identity. If you've ever felt stuck in relational wounds or struggled to trust God and others, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we discuss: Why anticipated abandonment keeps us stuck in fear and self-protection The neuroscience behind shame and relational wounds How rugged flexibility helps us navigate pain without losing hope Why we become what we pay attention to—and how to shift our focus for transformation This is a deep, thought-provoking conversation that will challenge how you see yourself, your relationships, and your faith. Episode Links Show Notes Buy my NEW BOOK "Healing What You Can't Erase" here! Invite me to speak at your church or event. • • Connect with me @WINTODAYChris on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.