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The Hidden 20%
“I'm Scared for Autistic People”: White House Journalist Exposes Dark Agendas Behind Autism ‘Cure' Talk

The Hidden 20%

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 23, 2025 33:27


Autism is back in the political spotlight in the U.S., as Donald Trump and his Health Secretary, Robert F. Kennedy Jr., announce a major study to “find the cause” of autism — reviving the long-debunked claim that vaccines may be to blame. The move has sparked concern among scientists, advocates, and the autistic community.In this episode, Ben is joined by Independent journalist, Washington correspondent, and author Eric Garcia to unpack what's really at stake. They explore the dangers of anti-vax politics, the truth behind the so-called autism “epidemic,” and the billion-dollar autism industry — including who really profits. As one of the few openly autistic reporters in Washington, Eric also explains why he fears for autistic people across the country._________________00:00 Introduction1:54 What is Happening in the USA?2:23 Anti Vaxxers & Autism5:01 Setting the Facts Straight: Business Profits VS Facts7:04 The World of Autism in the 2016 Former Presidency7:45 “Autism Is An Epidemic” VS The Facts Behind The Numbers10:57 Looking For Someone To Blame: Autism is Not a Disease12:35 Why is Autism a Priority in the USA?14:06 The Autism Industry in the USA: How Big Is It and Who Profits?16:00 What's it like to be Autistic in the US? - A personal perspective17:06 Parents of Autistic Children in the USA: The Fear is Real19:08 Autism in America Under Joe Biden: What Was Happening?20:13 Why Eric Love's Politics21:00 Why Don't We Hear About Other Neurotypes?22:05 ‘Aspie supremacy' & Elon Musk: Debunked23:53 Two Narrative Extremes: Eliminate Autism VS Supreme Autistic Beings24:30 How Does This All End?25:41 Victor Perez: The Killing of an Autistic Teen in 12 Seconds27:16 Why Eric Wrote His Book: Creating Autistic Acceptance29:10 Connection: The Invisible Autistic String30:37 Eric's One Wish For the Future30:51 Green Badge Segment__________On "The Hidden 20%," host Ben Branson chats with neurodivergent [ADHD, Autism, Dyscalculia, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Tourette's etc.] creatives, entrepreneurs, and experts to see how great minds.. think differently.Host: Ben BransonHead of Production: Bella NealeAssistant Producer: Phoebe De LeiburnéVideo Editor: James ScrivenSocial Media Manager: Charlie YoungMusic: Jackson GreenbergBrought to you by charity The Hidden 20% #1203348_____________________________________Follow & subscribe…Website: www.hidden20.orgInstagram / TikTok / Youtube / X: @Hidden20podcastBen Branson @seedlip_benSimon Baron Cohen @sbaroncohenIf you'd like to support The Hidden 20%, you can buy a "green dot" badge at https://www.hidden20.org/thegreendot/p/badge. All proceeds go to the charity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Témoignages de femmes autistes

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 19, 2025 19:51


Dans cet épisode deux témoignages de femmes autistes avec HPI qui parlent de leurs diagnostics tardifs. De leurs différences, de leur maternité, leurs enfants, et ce que le fait d'être identifiées autistes leur a apporté. Dans 15 jours on continue la chronique sur les femmes autistes. Collectif et pétition pour changer de regard sur le HPI et prendre en compte la réalité des difficultésTémoignage accouchements femme autiste

Filles et femmes autistes 1

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 5, 2025 39:37


Dans ce 1er épisode sur le thème de l'autisme au féminin, on essaie de repérer les signes de TSA chez une petite fille sans déficiences intellectuelle. On regarde aussi ces signes chez l'adolescente, et chez l'adulte. Et on détaille pourquoi il est très important de détecter cela dans l'enfance. On parle aussi de ce que vivent et traversent des femmes qui ont été diagnostiquées sur le tard. Vous pouvez compléter avec vos témoignages en commentaire ou en m'écrivant en privé sur hello@mayaelle.org si vous le souhaitez.

SPECIAL PODCASTHON 2025 ! Asso Les PBZ - Parents d'autistes avec HPI

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 15, 2025 29:10


Du 15 au 21 mars 2025 c'est Podcasthon.org! Nous sommes plus de 1600 podcasts du monde entier, 47 pays, 650 podcasts français, à un épisode à une association de notre choix. Vous vous en doutez, j'ai choisi une association qui parle d'autisme, avec HPI, et de soutien aux parents. Cette association, les PBZ ( Papillons Bleus Zébrés ) qui nous beaucoup apporté à notre famille, et aujourd'hui je participe activement en tant que présidente bénévole à la vie de l'asso. Alors je vous en dis plus dans cet épisode.Si vous voulez soutenir ce podcast et mon travail, vos étoiles sur spotify, commentaires youtube et avis ApplePodcast sont la plus jolie manière. En plus ça ne fait super plaisir ! Grâce à vous, ce podcast de niche est régulièrement entre le 40ème et la 150ème place en #santementale dans les classements ApplePodcast !Groupe privé FB de parents et proches d'enfants TSA + HPI Instagram des PBZSite web des PBZ

Société traumatisée ! Et traumatisante ?

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 1, 2025 35:16


Ou si notre santé mentale ne dépendait pas que de nous, que notre société contribuait largement aux maux-être ! Pour aller plus loin: Thérapie psychédélique Dr Rougemont Bucking Julie Dachez podcastInjonction au bonheur podcastCe n'est pas toi le problème livre Références: https://www.egora.fr/actus-pro/conditions-dexercice/generaliste-en-arret-apres-une-requisition-une-petition-appelle-la?utm_source=ownpage&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=20250216&_ope=eyJndWlkIjoiNTc4NzhhM2E2M2EzMDZkNWVmNTNlMmU1Nzc1NzdmMzUifQ%3D%3Dhttps://www.harmonie-sante.fr/sante-soins/psychologie/quel-est-limpact-relations-sociales-sante-mentalehttps://www.egora.fr/actus-pro/conditions-dexercice/management-qui-malmene-les-medecins-13-des-14-urgentistes-dune?utm_source=ownpage&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=20250216&_ope=eyJndWlkIjoiNTc4NzhhM2E2M2EzMDZkNWVmNTNlMmU1Nzc1NzdmMzUifQ%3D%3Dhttps://www.asso-sfc.org/asfc-pacinghttps://sedinfrance.org/le-pacing-eviter-les-journees-depuisement/

REDIFFUSION Autisme, lenteur vers l'autonomie ?

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 15, 2025 24:11


Une rediffusion pour cet épisode, car parfois le quotidien va plus vite que nous, avec des douloureux imprévus et la famille à soutenir. A très bientôt pour la suite

Mon chien autiste? Ou pourquoi on se force à faire des trucs qu'on n'aime pas...

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 1, 2025 16:14


Autiste? 9 clés de plus pour communiquer

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 18, 2025 54:05


J'avais listé deux ou trois choses à ajouter à l'épisode précédent, avec les 8 clés pour communiquer. Voici donc... 9 clés de lecture en plus ! La distance physique ordinaire entre gens ordinaires ( et vous ? )Le temps pour répondre aux mails, messages, à la sonnetteLes méthodes pour répondre, est-ce que la lettre recommandée est utile dans toute situation ( non ... ) Les 5 étapes d'apprentissageComment faire changer d'avis à quelqu'un, et est-ce souhaitable ?Et si tout se jouait dans le non-verbal ? Et si ça desservait les autistes ?Les autistes, plus logiques d'émotifs? Et si ça ouvrait la porte aux abusLe coeur ou la tête, faut-il choisir ? Le temps est ton ami, mets-le de ton côté, prends-le !

Autiste? 8 clés pour communiquer

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 4, 2025 49:06


Pensez-vous rapidement ou mettez-vous du temps à trouver la répartie? Vos échanges sont aisés? C'est plus facile entre autistes? Quand est-ce le bon moment pour se parler? Acelles-ci, et à d'autres question, on va tenter de tourver des clésde compréhznsion et des outils pour mieux décoder les choses et faciliter la communication avec nos proches.

Coulisses graphiques et voeux

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 28, 2024 10:10


Insulter avec force et panache !

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2024 14:21


Petit épisode décalé pour savoir quoi répondre si Tonton Jules au repas de Noël dit " mais il est autiste lui ou quoi?". Notamment. Et autres propositions

Couple, autisme et atypie 2/

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 7, 2024 26:45


Deuxième épisode sur ce vaste thème. Pour échanger entre nous, je lance un salon discord. Si vous souhaitez être les premiers à le rejoindre faites-moi signe par mail ou sur les réseaux pour que je vous transmette le lien.

La critique. Sensible ou insensible?

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 30, 2024 60:24


Certains s'en moquent, d'autre en sont très affectés, les derniers tentent d'expliquer pourquoi, une critique, ça peut faire mal, et c'est pas toujours constructif. Et vous, comment vivez-vous et pratiquez vous la critique? Pas la critique zététique qui analyse et étudie un sujet, mais celle qu'ont prend plutôt comme du reproche. Pour aller plus loin CASS questionnaire d'hypersensibilité Lien entre hypersensibilté et narcissismeLa haute sensibilité en questionNathalie Boisselier et son étude sur l'adversitté précoce https://www.psynice.net/about-4https://www.psychologue-psychotherapie-meaux.fr/publications/nathalie clobert hypersensibilitéArreter de se faire boufferCouple atypique

Couple, autisme et atypie 1/

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 16, 2024 46:01


Couple, autisme et atypie, Ou " Les conseils pour couple qui ne marchent pas dans un couple avec une personne TSA"Le visuel du podcast change! Sur les réseaux je vous raconterai pourquoi ! 1er épisode d'une série de ... on verra :) Le thème est vaste. Je tente une approche différente. Les attendus du couple, les normes, et pourquoi c'est parfois si dur dans le couple atypique. Dans ce 1er épisode on fait aussi la distinction entre crise de couple et violence dans le couple, pour définir les choses. et on commence à décortiquer quelques uns des conseils issus les livres de psychologies, de coaching et de développement personnel, qui ne s'appliquent pas nécessairement au couple avec une ou deux personnes autistes.

Aux jeunes TSA, atypiques et compagnie 3/3

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 2, 2024 49:41


Dernier épisode de cette série de 3.On termine en parlant de perfectionnisme, des crushs, de l'Himalaya ( tu vas voir c'est un concept que j'ai inventé pour expliquer pourquoi, quand on est atypique, on a l'impression parfois de devoir s'y reprendre plein de fois pour avancer sur un truc que pourtant on a envie de faire) les émotions, la logique, le droit à l'essai, la solitude, et on finira par quelques pistes pour aller mieux.

The Thoughtful Entrepreneur
1976 – Building a Solid Sales Foundation with BeenThere Consulting Services' Phil Whitebloom

The Thoughtful Entrepreneur

Play Episode Listen Later Jul 27, 2024 22:55 Transcription Available


Sales Coaching Insights: A Comprehensive GuideIn this insightful episode of the podcast, the host welcomes Phil Whitebloom, a seasoned sales coach and the founder of Been There Consulting Services. With over 40 years of experience in sales and consulting, Phil shares his expertise on the importance of effective sales strategies and personalized coaching for business growth. This blog post will break down the key themes and actionable advice from the episode, providing a detailed guide for listeners looking to enhance their sales practices.Phil addresses a common misconception among founders and entrepreneurs: the belief that a great product will naturally attract customers. He references the famous line from the movie "Field of Dreams," stating that this mindset is unrealistic in the business world. Many intelligent and successful individuals often overlook the necessity of a solid sales strategy, assuming that their product's quality alone will drive sales. Phil emphasizes that without a well-structured sales organization and effective sales practices, even the best products can fail to gain traction in the market.Phil distinguishes between sales coaching and traditional sales training. While many sales training programs provide valuable information, they often lack the personalized approach that coaching offers. Effective coaching involves understanding the unique challenges faced by each client and working collaboratively to develop strategies that yield immediate results. Phil shares a success story from his recent coaching experience, where a client transformed a $5,000 opportunity into a $150,000 sale within just six weeks, illustrating the potential impact of personalized coaching on sales performance.About Phil Whitebloom:Phil Whitebloom is a seasoned sales expert with over 40 years in sales, management, and executive roles. His career highlights include a 23-year tenure at Sony, where he advanced from salesperson to Vice President of Sales for Government, Corporate, and Education sectors, earning the prestigious Samurai Award twice.Phil has led sales teams across North and Latin America and held VP roles in businesses across the U.S., France, and Israel. His impressive client base includes the White House, major broadcasters, universities, and Fortune 500 companies, generating over $1.5 billion in career sales.Post-retirement, Phil founded BeenThere Consulting Services, LLC, focusing on sales coaching and motivational speaking. He also co-hosts the BeenThere/SoldThat Podcast and is authoring “Handling Objections – Clues for Closing the Sale.”Phil is actively involved in community service, serving as a guest lecturer, board member of ASPIE, and former president of his religious organization and the Howard Astronomical League. His personal interests include astronomy, nature photography, and family life with his spouse, three children, two grandchildren, and a dog.About BeenThere Consulting Services:BeenThere Consulting Services is founded on the principle of helping others be successful in selling, leadership, managing others, and effective communications. Decades of experience working with thousands of people in a vast number of businesses and organizations have provided us with learning experiences we share with others, so they can benefit from the stories and skill set development provided by us and our subject matter expert partners.Apply to be a Guest on The Thoughtful Entrepreneur: https://go.upmyinfluence.com/podcast-guestLinks Mentioned in this Episode:Want to learn more? Check out BeenThere Consulting Services website athttps://beentherecs.com/Check out BeenThere Consulting Services on LinkedIn at

Tous pareils ou presque !
Ep.30 - Marie, continuer à travailler malgré le handicap de son enfant

Tous pareils ou presque !

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2024 27:45


2/3 des mères d'enfants en situations de handicap cessent leur activité professionnelle ou réduisent leur temps de travail.Et pourtant, Marie maman de Titouan atteint d'une maladie génétique dégénérative, n'a jamais envisagé d'arrêter de travailler.Pour elle, le travail est un espace nécessaire à son équilibreElle raconte, dans cet épisode, comment elle navigue entre le monde professionnelle et le monde du handicap, en essayant de composer avec une culpabilité qui ne la quitte pas.Elle explique ce que lui apporte cette activité professionnelle mais aussi ce que, elle apporte, en tant que maman concernée par le handicap, au monde de l'entreprise.Un témoignage fort et authentique dans lequel Marie parvient à parler avec humour de sujets graves.Comme nous l'évoquons dans l'épisode, Marie intervient aujourd'hui dans les entreprises ou dans d'autres structures, pour proposer notamment des conférences illustrées autours de sujets liés au handicap.Pour en savoir plus sur ses activités :Agence intelligence créative | UnPingouinàLaFerme (unpingouinalaferme.com)Marie Bucelle Kerneis (@un_pingouin_a_la_ferme) • Photos et vidéos InstagramMarie Bucelle | LinkedInMerci à Benjamin Roa qui m'a aidé sur le montage/mixage de cet épisode.*************************Tous pareils ou presque!, c'est le podcast de l'autisme et de la neurodiversité qui aide à faire un pas de côté.Tous pareils ou presque !, c'est aussi une newsletter mensuelle dans laquelle on trouve encore plus de retours d'expérience, des ressources, des partages plus personnels.Pour s'abonner : InscriptHébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Springbrook's Converge Autism Radio
Autism, Video Gaming and Identity

Springbrook's Converge Autism Radio

Play Episode Listen Later May 31, 2024 66:16


Today we talk about a few topics: Autobiographical memory, developing a sense of self, motivation, and neuroplasticity in the autistic brain. Dr. Hull's research on video gaming is part of his strategies with his clients on the spectrum.The blogs I mention today are found on his website.Dr. Kevin Hull owns and operates Hull and Associates, P.A. a private practice in Lakeland, Florida. Dr. Hull is a licensed counselor who has worked with children and adolescents and their families on the Autism spectrum since 2001. He conducts weekly individual and group therapy sessions with children, adolescents, young adults, and families. Dr. Hull has been a professor for 18 years and is currently an Associate Faculty with Liberty University. Dr. Hull has published Play Therapy and Asperger's Syndrome: Helping Children and Adolescents Grow, Connect, and Heal through the Art of Play (2011, Jason Aronson); Bridge Building: Creating Connection and Relationship between Parents and Children and Adolescents on the Autism Spectrum (2012, Liberty Press); Group Therapy Techniques with Children, Adolescents, and Adults on the Autism Spectrum (2014, Jason Aronson); and Where There is Despair, Hope (2015, Liberty Mountain Publishing), a novel about play therapy. He has also published several chapters for textbooks and journal articles. Dr. Hull specializes in using electronic devices in group and individual play therapy and his dissertation work examined the use of video/computer games as a play therapy tool with children with emotional difficulties. Dr. Hull enjoys open water swimming in the Gulf of Mexico, playing golf, long walks, biking, and spending time with his wife, Wendy and their four children.https://drkevinhull.com/

Unapologetically Sensitive
243 Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later May 14, 2024 38:15


Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation   Patricia candidly discusses her experiences with attachment wounds, OCD tendencies, projection and trauma responses with Jen, and how this is showing up in their relationship. Patricia shares what her OCD thoughts tend to look like. Through introspection and vulnerability, Patricia reflects on the impact of past traumas on her emotional well-being. Their dialogue underscores the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and resilience in healing from attachment-related struggles.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. Patricia shares her struggles with attachment wounds, OCD, and trauma triggers, while Jen offers support and understanding. They explore the concept of projection and how it affects their interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating space for emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities of relationships and the need for compassion and empathy. Takeaways: Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Emotional States 09:01 Exploring Attachment Wounds and Trauma Triggers 30:00 Building Stronger Relationships through Compassion and Empathy PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Unapologetically Sensitive
242 Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2024 51:41


Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation   Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation. Takeaways ·         Change and disruption can be challenging. ·         Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward. ·         Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process. ·         Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships. ·         Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships. ·         Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships. ·         Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing. Sound Bites ·         "Change and disruption are difficult for me" ·         "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying" ·         "The power of naming things and how validating it is" ·         "It's the openheartedness really." ·         "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff." Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Frustrations 08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility 25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility 34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs 40:39 Managing Expectations PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Unapologetically Sensitive
241 Attachment Wounds: When You Can't Work it out in the Moment

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2024 28:58


Attachment Wounds: When You Can't Work It Out In The Moment   Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways ·         Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences. ·         Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth. ·         Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries. ·         Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace. ·         Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

One80
Episode 67: Chaim Bentorah, Bus Driver with a Mission

One80

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 30, 2024 37:20


Chaim Bentorah is so much more than a bus driver for Jesus. But in his day job, he serves the least of these through driving people with disabilities. Learn how through his struggles with Aspberger's Syndrome, Chaim had a unique encounter with the Lord that encouraged him to see God in a new way. He now leads others to the heart of God with his other job, an author and teacher of Hebrew and Aramaic. Chaim has written more than 20 books on dissecting the words of the Bible to find the heart of God. Today's Sendoff features Blind Tony in a street music performance of "Give Thanks."Chaim's Hebrew Word StudyChaim's Hebrew Word Study, A Hebrew Teacher's Search for the Heart of God Follow One80 on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or our website.Never miss a One80. Join our email list. Follow us on Instagram.Share One80, here's how!OneWay Ministries

Unapologetically Sensitive
238 Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 9, 2024 28:43


Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm   Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways   Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm. Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone. Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things. Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.   Additional takeaways: Recognize the evolution of coping strategies over the years. Understand the impact of attachment wounds on relationships. Explore ways to manage feelings of fear and insecurity. Discover the importance of staying connected during separations. Learn how to anchor oneself to a support system. Reflect on the challenges of maintaining responsibilities solo. Identify the role of communication in long-distance relationships. Explore personal growth through periods of solitude. Acknowledge the significance of self-care during partner's absence. Reflect on the journey of building trust and resilience. Consider the balance between independence and interdependence. Explore strategies for regulating emotions during separations. Understand the dynamics of individual growth within a relationship. Reflect on personal boundaries and self-compassion. Discover the power of vulnerability in relationships. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Background 00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone 03:04 Trusting the Process 04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD 05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others 06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy 07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) 09:13 Taking Care of Pets 11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships 13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension 16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting 22:30 Processing and Communication 24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance 26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace 28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
237 Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 2, 2024 43:43


Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships   Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways   ·         Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships. ·         Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion. ·         Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships. ·         Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others. More about unmasking Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships. It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity. The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable. Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking. The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships. Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.   Chapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity 12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles 26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking 30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative 35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection 36:06 Closing Remarks PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Tous pareils ou presque !
Ep.28 - Autisme et bonheur(s)

Tous pareils ou presque !

Play Episode Listen Later Apr 1, 2024 24:27


Autisme et bonheur(s)La conception du bonheur chez les personnes autistes est-elle différente de celle des personnes neurotypiques ? Comment faire pour qu'un enfant/un ado/un adulte neuro-atypique soit heureux, avec ses particularités et ses difficultés ? Quel rôle pouvons-nous jouer pour La question peut sembler un peu abstraite et le sujet pour le moins ambitieux...Pourtant c'est LA question pour tous les parents d'un enfant atypique, quel que soit son handicap.Dans cet épisode collectif, on n'entendra ni parents, ni psychologues, juste des personnes autistes qui partagent leurs petits et grand bonheurs.Arthur, Coline, Erwan, Lali, Rokia, Sylvie et Tristan, nous emmènent ainsi chacun dans leur univers et leur intimité.Et l'on ne peut qu'être touchés en les entendant parler du bien-être intense qu'ils ressentent lorsqu'ils s'adonnent à leurs intérêts spécifiques, souvent assez simples, mais aussi grâce aux échanges et aux rencontres authentiques qu'ils font parfois.Au delà de ces instantanés de vie quotidienne, ces témoignages donnent à réfléchir car tous les sept évoquent à quel point le fait d'être accepté dans leur singularité, les rend heureux...Des témoignages qui montrent bien que chacun de nous individuellement, peut jouer un rôle dans la qualité de vie de ces enfants et adultes autistes.******************Merci beaucoup à Julien Rebours pour son aide précieuse à la réalisation de cet épisode************Tous pareils ou presque, c'est aussi une newsletter dans laquelle je partage mes rencontres avec des porteurs de projets, mes échanges avec des familles et professionnels, mes lectures, conseils, etc...Inscrivez-vous pour la recevoir tous les mois : Inscription newsletter (subscribepage.com)  Si cet épisode vous a plu, vous pouvez le relayer sur les réseaux sociaux ou mettre un commentaire sur Apple podcast !  Tous pareils ou presque (@touspareils_oupresque) • Photos et vidéos Instagram Tous pareils ou presque - Le podcast de l'autisme | Facebook *********** « Tous pareils ou presque !» est un podcast réalisé par Stéphanie Gruet-Masson, qui explore les multiples facettes de l'autisme et de la neurodiversité, à travers le regard des parents, des professionnels et des personnes autistes elles-mêmes.Que trouve-t-on dans ce podcast ? - Des épisodes thématiques : regards croisés sur des sujets liés à cette parentalité "atypique", à l'inclusion des enfants et adultes autistes ou ayant un autre type de handicap, à la place des frères et soeurs, au rôle des pères, à l'école, à l'intégration professionnelle, les vacances ou les voyages "extra-ordinaires", etc...- Des interviews de parents, de professionnels ayant une expérience particulière à partager ou de personnes autistes prêtes à nous donner leur vision "de l'intérieur". Vous pouvez nous écrire : touspareilsoupresque@gmail.com Hébergé par Ausha. Visitez ausha.co/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Her Leadership Coach
S4E11 Neurodiversity: Embracing Our Unique Brains in the Workplace

Her Leadership Coach

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 30, 2024 40:25


Observation and questions are your number one ally to helping someone who's neurodivergent know when you're talking to them. ~ Suzanne Plumley If you're feeling frustrated with the challenges of understanding and supporting neurodivergent individuals in the workplace, then you are not alone! The struggle to create an inclusive and productive environment may be leading to misunderstandings, low morale, and decreased efficiency. It's time to find effective strategies that truly work. Let's discover new ways to support neurodivergent individuals and enhance workplace inclusivity together! Suzanne Plumley brings a wealth of experience and a deeply personal understanding of neurodiversity to the table. As someone who has navigated the challenges of late diagnosis and societal misconceptions, Suzanne is committed to empowering individuals with unique cognitive abilities through her mission to support late-diagnosed Aspie and trauma-affected women, guiding them towards self-empowerment. Suzanne's journey of self-discovery and spiritual awakening adds a compelling layer to her expertise in promoting workplace inclusivity. Her dedication to fostering understanding and respect for neurodivergent individuals makes her a valuable ally for HR managers, business leaders, and team supervisors seeking to create more inclusive and productive work environments. In this episode, you will be able to:• Discover strategies for unlocking the potential of neurodivergent individuals in the workplace. • Explore the unique challenges and benefits of late diagnosis of neurodivergence in women. • Learn how hyperfocus can be a valuable asset for neurodivergent employees in the workplace. • Uncover effective strategies for neurodivergent individuals to authentically express themselves at work. • Empower neurodivergent women by examining the intersection of neurodivergence and leadership Connect with Suzanne: Catch the Aspie Bridge podcast show https://www.youtube.com/@TheAspieBridgeShow/streams Connect with me here:• https://www.linkedin.com/in/rochelle-marie-hlw/ • www.herleadershipway.com • https://www.facebook.com/groups/hlwactiongroup

Unapologetically Sensitive
236 Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 26, 2024 37:36


Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their struggles with linear content and their values of focusing on relational topics. They explore the challenges of staying true to their authentic selves while creating content. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of their relationship and the growth they have experienced in building trust and security, and things they sometimes find difficult to discuss.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways   Staying true to your authentic self is important when creating content. Building trust and security in relationships takes time and vulnerability. The value of a podcast is not solely determined by download numbers. Interdependence allows for mutual support and growth in relationships.   Understanding the importance of emotional vulnerability. Exploring newfound perspectives and insights. Recognizing and embracing feelings of exposure. Reflecting on personal trauma and its impact on self-awareness. Acknowledging the significance of maintaining authenticity in self-expression. Navigating the balance between showcasing autism identity and personal growth. Exploring the process of redefining podcast branding and content focus. Embracing the journey of self-discovery and acceptance. Recognizing the value of open-hearted communication. Reflecting on personal growth and aspirations for authenticity in content creation. Discussing the impact of external validation on podcast metrics and audience engagement. Emphasizing the importance of sharing valuable content. Reflecting on personal struggles with content creation and self-expression. Recognizing the significance of relational content in podcast episodes. Embracing the challenges and rewards of discussing personal relationships openly. Exploring the impact of neurodivergence on relational dynamics and communication. Navigating shifts in podcast content focus and listener engagement. Reflecting on the journey of self-acceptance and authenticity. Embracing the diversity of perspectives and experiences in relationships. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 02:44 Struggles with Linear Content and Personal Experience 08:04 Shifting Focus to Relational Content 13:26 Building Trust and Security in the Relationship 21:18 Navigating Attachment Insecurities 25:24 Interdependence and Holding Space for Each Other 28:08 Communication and Vulnerability in the Relationship 31:20 Planning Visits and Considering Context 34:08 Conclusion and Gratitude PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
235 Red & Green Flags in Relationships

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2024 22:11


Red & Green Flags in Relationships   Patricia discusses red flags and ideal qualities in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of honoring rhythms and self-care, as well as effective communication and conflict resolution. Patricia also addresses gaslighting, setting boundaries, and the significance of trust, honesty, and similar values in a relationship. She explores the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. The episode concludes with a reminder to embrace sensitivity and prioritize self-care.   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways   Honor your rhythms and practice self-care in relationships. Pay attention to red flags such as controlling behavior, lack of respect, and constant fighting. Look for qualities like kindness, respect, trust, and effective communication in a partner. Set boundaries and be aware of gaslighting in relationships. Consider the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. Spend quality time together and ensure compatibility with each other's friends.   Red Flags: Lack of respect and kindness towards service providers Moving too quickly in the relationship without respecting boundaries Negative and derogatory descriptions of past relationships and partners Jealousy and controlling behavior Attempting to change or control the other person's appearance and behavior Putting the other person down, even in a teasing manner Inability to provide comfort and support during difficult times Not being responsive or available when the other person asks for support or help Constantly pushing boundaries without respecting the other person's limits Constant fighting or high emotional conflicts Lack of active listening and attunement to the other person's needs Disrespect towards others and themselves Lack of emotional awareness and intelligence Poor communication skills and inability or unwillingness to engage in difficult conversations  Green Flags Good communication skills (or willing to improve them) Mutual trust and respect. Supporting each other's goals even if it brings up feelings for you You can have fun together. Demonstrating empathy and tenderness during difficult times Being willing to pitch in and help when it is needed without needing to be asked (or having a willing spirit). You can be independent and enjoy your own friends and interests. There is interdependence: you need each other and can depend on the other person. You make decisions together and consider both people and how they will be affected. Conflict isn't seen as threatening or dangerous. You value rupture and repair and know it's part of any healthy relationship. You both can compromise and consider the other person's needs/feelings without sacrificing or giving in You can count on the other person to show up or do what they say will do. There is a sense of equality and both people matter. There is reciprocity (financial, emotional, respect, compromise). The other person “gets” you, or tries to understand when they don't. Having similar values and goals, despite political differences. Ability to work through differences and agree to disagree. Being reliable and having a group-minded approach. Showing kindness, generosity, and emotional attunement. Respecting boundaries and moving at a comfortable pace in the relationship. Treating service industry workers with respect and kindness. Providing comfort, support, and responsiveness during challenging times. Demonstrating high emotional awareness, intelligence, and effective communication. Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Update 01:03 The Importance of Honoring Rhythms and Self-Care 04:00 Qualities to Look for in a Relationship 06:05 Communication and Conflict Resolution 09:33 Gaslighting and Boundaries 13:38 Equality, Support, and Independence 16:09 Trust, Honesty, and Similar Values 18:24 Attachment Wounds and Conflict Resolution 21:44 Spending Quality Time and Friend Compatibility 22:28 Conclusion   PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Tous pareils ou presque !
Ep.27 - Florian : mes labyrinthes - vivre avec la différence

Tous pareils ou presque !

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 19, 2024 23:52


Quand on accompagne une personne autiste, on a souvent besoin de comprendre : comprendre ce qui rend une situation compliquée, ce qui bloque, ce qui créée un sentiment de décalage ou, au contraire, ce qui peut rendre les choses plus fluides et la relation plus simple.Beaucoup de ressources existent pour expliquer le fonctionnement des personnes autistes mais la parole des personnes concernées revêt parfois une force particulière comme c'est le cas dans cet entretien.Comme dans son livre, "Mes labyrinthes - Vivre avec la différence" publié aux Éditions du Faubourg , Florian Forestier, diagnostiqué autiste à l'âge de 25 ans, décrit l'autisme comme une expérience sensible, une vibration du corps, mais aussi comme un révélateur des failles de notre société dans laquelle singularité rime souvent avec exclusion. Dans cet épisode, il livre donc une expérience de l'autisme, plus qu'une définition, et ses réflexions donnent des clés précieuses pour mieux comprendre ce que signifie vivre avec l'autisme dans une société majoritairement neurotypique.Florian Forestier se situe bien sûr à l'une des extrémité du spectre autistique mais ce qu'il explique dépasse très largement la situation des autistes Asperger.Dans cet épisode on évoque entre autres choses :sa façon de percevoir tous les stimuli et informations extérieurs, avec les conséquences que cela entraîne;une autre vision de l'empathie qui met en lumière les limites de l'approche très "classique" de ce concept;les mécanismes qui peuvent se mettre en place en cas de déclenchement d'une crise autistique, la façon dont elle est perçue de l'extérieur et vécue de l'intérieur;les évènements qui peuvent aussi influer de manière très positive de type de parcours.Au terme de cet entretien, on comprend mieux cette manière différente d'être, de penser et d'agir. Et on se dit, comme Florian Forestier, qu'il faut aussi voir ce diagnostic "comme un rappel, constant, de ne pas chercher chez les autres un miroir. D'aimer (son) chemin comme il est, sinueux, chaotique."******************Merci beaucoup à Julien Rebours et à Benjamin Roa (Station Woosh) qui ont participé à la réalisation de cet épisode************Tous pareils ou presque, c'est aussi une newsletter dans laquelle je partage mes rencontres avec des porteurs de projets, mes échanges avec des familles et professionnels, mes lectures, conseils, etc...Inscrivez-vous pour la recevoir tous les mois : Inscription newsletter (subscribepage.com)  Si cet épisode vous a plu, vous pouvez le relayer sur les réseaux sociaux ou mettre un commentaire sur Apple podcast !  Tous pareils ou presque (@touspareils_oupresque) • Photos et vidéos Instagram Tous pareils ou presque - Le podcast de l'autisme | Facebook *********** « Tous pareils ou presque !» est un podcast réalisé par Stéphanie Gruet-Masson, qui explore les multiples facettes de l'autisme et de la neurodiversité, à travers le regard des parents, des professionnels et des personnes autistes elles-mêmes.Que trouve-t-on dans ce podcast ? - Des épisodes thématiques : regards croisés sur des sujets liés à cette parentalité "atypique", à l'inclusion des enfants et adultes autistes ou ayant un autre type de handicap, à la place des frères et soeurs, au rôle des pères, à l'école, à l'intégration professionnelle, les vacances ou les voyages "extra-ordinaires", etc...- Des interviews de parents, de professionnels ayant une expérience particulière à partager ou de personnes autistes prêtes à nous donner leur vision "de l'intérieur". Vous pouvez nous écrire : touspareilsoupresque@gmail.com 

Shifting the Narrative on Everything Autism
EP 79: Gendered Autism, HSP, Aspie Supremacy and Other Autism Myths

Shifting the Narrative on Everything Autism

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 16, 2024 41:07


On this week's episode, Stacy and Torrin discuss some of the pseudo-disorders that are often used to avoid diagnosing a child with autism.                                                               *** Help marginalized youth get the education they deserve. Buy VQ Library a coffee: https://ko-fi.com/vqlibrary If you are looking for one-on-one coaching with Stacy to help your child with autism reach their full potential, click the link below. https://autism4home.com/services/ola/services/parent-consult?fbclid=IwAR3V-YBbbOFJM9g6hdVTPCoZh0h36gp_KFDcFE_0d_JUBCrCqA-Fztf6qcg   Follow Stacy: Twitter: https://twitter.com/AutismSage Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/everythingautism/ Follow Torrin: Twitter: https://twitter.com/TK_Aspy Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/autistic_author/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tmkearns Threads: https://www.threads.net/@autistic_author Follow us on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChjxv0ezN3mFTGbxsc5jmbw/videos  

Unapologetically Sensitive
234 Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 12, 2024 38:57


Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding   Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary   In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their experiences with burnout and the importance of leaning into rest. They explore the challenges of pushing boundaries, asking for what you want, and allowing others to say no. They also discuss the impact of neuro-normative standards and the power of dropping expectations and starting from zero. The conversation delves into the dynamics of communication within families and the difficulties of attuning to different perspectives. They emphasize the importance of staying connected and working through bumps in relationships, while also acknowledging the need for space and the reality of being imperfect humans. The conversation concludes with a reminder to have grace and humility in relationships and to express love and appreciation for one another.   Takeaways   Leaning into rest and embracing the new norm during burnout can be a powerful tool for recovery. Recognizing and respecting boundaries, both for oneself and others, is essential for maintaining healthy relationships. Challenging neuro-normative standards and embracing individual differences can lead to greater understanding and acceptance. Taking space and allowing for imperfection in relationships can foster growth, connection, and grace.   Additional points discussed: Challenges in attuning to one's child compared to a spouse. Contextual factors influencing communication breakdowns. Impact of burnout on family dynamics. Struggles of young adults balancing independence and parental support. Importance of preparation in family communication. Patterns of miscommunication and receptivity. Emotional release and support in times of conflict. Feeling disempowered in communication dynamics. Need for open dialogue and understanding in relationships. Misinterpretation of messages leading to conflict. Defensive reactions in communication breakdowns. Family dynamics during conflict resolution. Neurodivergence and emotional dysregulation. Rupture and repair work in relationships. Acceptance of human imperfections in communication. Parenting challenges and self-awareness. Generational differences in perspectives on communication. Emotional availability and its impact on relationships. Perfectionism and its hindrance to authentic communication. Importance of self-care and emotional readiness in conflict resolution.   Chapters (please adjust time for addition of introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Checking In 00:48 Coming Out of Burnout and Leaning Into Rest 02:06 Pushing Boundaries and Asking for What You Want 03:27 Navigating Setbacks and Embracing Patience 04:02 Valuing Autonomy and Allowing Others to Say No 05:22 Challenging Neuro-Normative Standards 06:05 Dropping Expectations and Starting from Zero 07:19 Powering Down and Restoring the Brain 08:26 Communication Challenges with Children 09:17 Recognizing Different Perspectives and Values 11:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Emotional Activation 14:10 Miscommunication and Misunderstandings 15:41 The Impact of Words and Different Perspectives 18:08 Feeling Inadequate and Wounded 19:20 Staying Connected and Working Through Bumps 22:24 Empathic Communication and Paving the Way 25:01 Taking Space and Being Imperfect Humans 26:27 Staying in Relationship Through Messiness 30:20 Having Grace and Humility in Relationships 32:01 Accepting Imperfection and Being Present 35:15 Wrapping Up and Expressing Love PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Inside The Aspergers Studio / Stories
Stories: Being diagnosed late

Inside The Aspergers Studio / Stories

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 8, 2024 39:22


Do you know anyone in your family who was diagnosed late with ASD or were you diagnosed late yourself. Well that was the case with my next guest Alisa. She was diagnosed late, and when she got her diagnoses it explained so many things in her life.So sit back, relax and grab your favorite beverage as we dive in and find all about Alisa and what makes her who she is today.Funny, differnt, and a ASPIE like the rest of us.

Unapologetically Sensitive
233 Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Mar 5, 2024 36:22


Neurodivergence and Friendship: The Struggle is Real   I talk about the challenges and complexities of friendships for neurodivergent folks, and the changing nature of friendships, the importance of reciprocity and communication. I discuss navigating difficult conversations, recognizing and addressing needs, and setting boundaries. I talk about the tendency to feel central in someone's life, and the challenges of accepting neurodivergence in relationships. I explore the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and honoring one's own needs in relationships.   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways   ·         Not all friendships are meant to last forever, and it's important to recognize that friendships come and go. ·         Communication and reciprocity are key in maintaining healthy relationships. ·         Navigating difficult conversations and setting boundaries is essential for personal growth and maintaining healthy relationships. ·         Recognizing and honoring one's own needs is crucial in navigating relationships. ·         Understanding and accepting neurodivergence in relationships can be challenging but necessary for fostering understanding and connection.   Other Insights: Insights on building relationships based on emotional intelligence. Strategies for holding space for feelings in friendships. Importance of rupture and repair in relationships. The significance of taking space in challenging relationships. Communication dynamics in maintaining connections. Evaluation of relationship importance in personal growth. Practices for healing and growth within relationships. Challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in friendships. Strategies for navigating friendship complexities. Understanding the impact of neurodiversity on relationships. Coping mechanisms like rage writing for emotional processing. Recognition that not all friendships are lifelong. Quick connection and oversharing tendencies in relationships. Awareness of assumptions about closeness in friendships. Identifying personal values in seeking friendships. Reflection on reasons for leaving relationships. Difficulties in maintaining friendships for neurodivergent individuals. Exploration of evolving friendships with neurodivergent needs. Insights into the dynamics of neurodivergent friendships. Understanding the complexities of neurodiversity in relationships.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 00:55 Challenges in Making and Keeping Friendships 02:02 The Changing Nature of Friendships 03:35 Reciprocity and Communication in Relationships 04:58 Recognizing the Lack of Reciprocity 05:58 Testing Relationships and Making Assumptions 06:56 Navigating Difficult Conversations 08:05 Recognizing and Addressing Needs in Relationships 09:21 Dealing with Resentment and Setting Boundaries 10:24 Navigating Relationships During Tragedy 11:44 Feeling Central in Someone's Life 12:41 Recognizing Support Systems in Relationships 13:40 Navigating Relationships with Different Perspectives 16:00 Missteps and Room for Growth in Relationships 17:21 Challenges in Accepting Neurodivergence in Relationships 18:52 Understanding the Nuances of Autism and ADHD 20:16 Navigating Relationships with Limited Understanding 21:43 Setting Boundaries and Ending Relationships 23:13 Processing Grief and Emotions in Relationships 24:21 Having Vulnerable Conversations with Loved Ones 25:46 Navigating Emotional Needs and Connection 27:30 Recognizing and Honoring Personal Needs 29:32 Navigating Decision-Making and Overwhelm 31:30 Communicating Needs and Boundaries in Relationships 33:34 Navigating Overwhelm and Self-Judgment 35:19 Summary and Closing Remarks PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
231 Autism Identification Should Come with a Warning Label (Including Autistic Burnout)

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 20, 2024 29:25


Autism Identification Should Come with a Warning Label (Including Autistic Burnout)   There are things that happen to most autistic people once they identify as autistic, and there should be a warning label! If you're late diagnosed, and high masking, there's a good chance you are, or will be in autistic burnout. There's also skill regression, and not being able to push through anymore. This can be confusing and distressing. I bring you up to date on my health journey, and where I'm at with autistic burnout, and I provide a few resources.   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this episode, Patricia provides a personal update on her health and discusses the challenges of identifying as autistic. She shares her experiences with navigating the healthcare system and dealing with health issues such as vestibular neuritis. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and trauma, as well as the need for positive male archetypes in her life. She discusses the lack of reciprocity in relationships and the importance of self-compassion and rest. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to embrace all parts of themselves and share the podcast with others. Autistic Burnout Autistic burnout is a phenomenon experienced by many individuals, characterized by extreme exhaustion, mental fatigue, and sensory overload. It often results from prolonged periods of masking, camouflaging, and trying to fit into neurotypical expectations, leading to a depletion of cognitive and emotional resources. Autistic burnout can manifest as difficulty in functioning, heightened sensory sensitivities, emotional meltdowns, and a sense of overwhelm. Recognizing the signs of autistic burnout is crucial for individuals to prioritize self-care, seek support, and make necessary adjustments to prevent further exhaustion. Strategies to manage autistic burnout may include setting boundaries, practicing sensory regulation techniques, engaging in self-soothing activities, and seeking therapy or counseling. Creating a supportive environment that accommodates sensory needs, communication preferences, and individual differences can help prevent and alleviate autistic burnout. Educating employers, educators, and healthcare providers about autistic burnout can lead to more inclusive and accommodating environments for autistic individuals. Understanding one's neurodivergent traits can help individuals recognize their limits, advocate for their needs, and navigate challenges related to autistic burnout. Building a support network of understanding friends, family members, therapists, and fellow neurodivergent individuals can provide emotional support and validation during periods of autistic burnout. Benefits of having an autism diagnosis (either self-diagnosis or formal diagnosis) for myself Self-identification and diagnosis in the autistic community are helpful in understanding one's unique neurodivergent traits and needs. It helps individuals access appropriate support, accommodations, and resources tailored to their specific differences and strengths. Self-identification empowers individuals to embrace their identity and connect with a supportive community of like-minded individuals. Diagnosis provides validation and a sense of relief for many individuals who have long struggled with feeling different or misunderstood. Understanding one's autism can lead to better self-awareness and self-acceptance, promoting mental well-being and confidence. It allows individuals to advocate for themselves in various settings, such as education, employment, and healthcare, ensuring their needs are met. Diagnosis can help individuals navigate social interactions, sensory sensitivities, and other aspects of daily life more effectively. Early diagnosis in children can lead to early intervention and support, improving long-term outcomes and quality of life. It helps dispel misconceptions and stigma surrounding autism, promoting acceptance and inclusion in society. Self-identification and diagnosis contribute to a more accurate representation of the diverse autistic community, highlighting the spectrum of experiences and challenges individuals may face.   Takeaways   Identifying as autistic can come with challenges and a range of emotions, including anger, grief, and frustration. Navigating the healthcare system can be difficult, especially when seeking a diagnosis or specialized care. Autistic burnout is a real phenomenon that can lead to skill regression and a decreased ability to function. Self-compassion and rest are essential for managing autistic burnout and maintaining overall well-being.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Personal Update 01:15 The Challenges of Identifying as Autistic 02:08 Struggling with Health Issues 03:32 Navigating the Healthcare System 04:36 The Impact of Vestibular Neuritis 05:59 Autistic Burnout and Trauma 07:15 Grief and Anger in the Autism Journey 08:31 Childhood Experiences and Identity 09:50 The Need for Male Archetypes 11:19 Seeking Support and Advocacy 12:42 The Lack of Reciprocity in Relationships 13:54 Navigating Small World and Limited Energy 15:14 Accepting Where You Are 16:33 The Impact of Autism Diagnosis 17:54 The Complexity of Autism Presentation 19:46 The Validity of Self-Diagnosis 20:21 The Illusion of Neurotypical Functioning 21:31 Embracing Autism as a Disability 22:35 Understanding Autistic Burnout 23:46 The Impact of Medical Appointments 25:17 The Harsh Inner Critic and Self-Compassion 26:12 Fear of Not Functioning 27:05 The Lack of Recognition for Autistic Experiences 28:11 Observing Reciprocity in Relationships 29:07 The Importance of Rest and Self-Care 30:00 The Impact of Autistic Burnout on Work 31:06 Embracing All Parts of Yourself 32:20 Conclusion and Call to Share the Podcast Additional Takeaways Seek consent and ask for permission before sharing personal reactions or opinions in conversations. Be authentic and true to yourself in personal relationships, while also considering the needs and perspectives of others. Strive for a balance between routine and self-care, and be patient with yourself when facing setbacks. Set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion when working towards personal goals. Create an affirming household that acknowledges and accommodates the different needs of family members. Recognize and respect personal endurance and self-regulation in social situations. Embrace self-expression and navigate social interactions in a way that aligns with your neurodivergent traits. Take ownership of your own fulfillment and celebrate holidays in a way that aligns with your desires and needs. Seek support and embrace your sensitivity as a valuable aspect of your identity.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introdruction:   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 01:28 Giving Consent in Relationships 04:44 Being Authentic and Reacting in Personal Relationships 07:27 Struggling with Routine and Self-Care 10:05 Setting Expectations and Practicing Self-Compassion 11:32 Navigating Family Dynamics and Accommodating Needs 16:31 Managing Personal Endurance and Self-Regulation 20:53 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Expression 22:17 Celebrating Holidays and Self-Fulfillment 25:36 Seeking Support and Embracing Sensitivity PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
230 Exploring Identity, and Turning Toward Yourself in Affirming Ways

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 13, 2024 37:16


Exploring Identity, and Turning Toward Yourself in Affirming Ways   Jen and I touch on so much in this episode: challenges setting boundaries; structure vs. the need for novelty (ADHD vs. autism), attachment injuries and bids for connection; the challenges and gifts of hard conversations; what neuro-affirming therapy looks like; PDA and focusing on others to reduce demands; masking; what comes up when someone suspects they are autistic or are recently diagnosed.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss various topics related to parenting, boundaries, and self-discovery. They explore the challenges of adjusting to new structures and parenting roles, as well as the importance of partnering with children and acknowledging limitations. They also discuss the significance of modeling imperfection and repairing emotional availability. The conversation delves into navigating personal preferences and resistance, expressing needs and bids for connection, and the importance of setting boundaries and embracing autonomy. They also touch on the process of recognizing and embracing an autistic identity, as well as the roller coaster of emotions that can come with this realization. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-reflection, authenticity, and deepening intimacy in relationships. Takeaways ·         Adjusting to new structures and parenting roles can be challenging but can also provide opportunities for growth and learning. ·         Modeling imperfection and repairing emotional availability can strengthen relationships and create a sense of safety and trust. ·         Setting boundaries and embracing autonomy are essential for self-care and maintaining healthy relationships. ·         Becoming your own heroine in your life and your story ·         Assessing what you want in relationships, and seeing if the people who are disappointing you are people you would choose ·         Communicating when it you're wanting a bid for connection ·         Addressing our attachment wounds in relationship is really an act of service to the relationship ·         The ongoing challenge between ADHD and the need for novelty and with autism wanting routine and structure ·         Conflict and avoidance of conflict can be hard, and having difficult conversations can also be hard. How does it help the relationship? ·         The importance of having autistic or neuro-affirming therapists and coaches since allistic practitioners can cause more trauma and harm ·         If you're recently diagnosed autistic or suspect you are autistic, you may experience skill regression, difficulty doing things you previously did, and your identify may be shaken up (there's grief and anger there as well) ·         Ways your PDA may be showing up and things you have learned to do to minimize having your nervous system activated ·         You may have been socialized to be “other focused,” which makes it hard to know what you are wanting and needing, and it can be a form of masking, and it may reduce PDA and RSD Recognizing and embracing an autistic identity can bring validation and understanding, but it can also be accompanied by a roller coaster of emotions and a need for self-reflection. Chapters (adjust time for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Checking In 01:18 Adjusting to New Structure and Parenting 03:03 Partnering with Children and Acknowledging Limitations 04:23 Modeling Imperfection and Repairing Emotional Availability 05:05 Exploring Personal Challenges and Seeking Support 06:41 Navigating Personal Preferences and Resistance 08:08 Expressing Needs and Bids for Connection 09:35 Navigating Difficult Conversations and Repairing Ruptures 10:51 Taking Risks and Embracing Discomfort 12:40 Honoring Wounds and Attending to Healing 14:51 Setting Boundaries and Embracing Autonomy 16:40 Navigating Conflict and Deepening Intimacy 19:03 Recognizing Autistic Identity and Processing Emotions 23:53 Reevaluating Relationships and Prioritizing Values 27:10 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Reflection 31:57 Navigating the Roller Coaster of Autistic Identity 32:44 Conclusion PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Adulting with Ebonie
The one about being an Aspie Adult with Dan Morgan Jones

Adulting with Ebonie

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 8, 2024 32:42


In this week's episode, I speak to Dan Morgan Jones, award-winning video influencer and the international best-selling author of Autism For Adults. With 260k subscribers on his YouTube channel 'The Aspie World' we chat about being an aspie adult.Listen on for:Our experiences of the intersection of ADHD and AutismThe age that is the most difficult for Autistic peopleAn alternate way of viewing problems that will blow your mind!The one thing that is absolutely required for intimate relationships to be successfulThe missing part of your gratitude practice that will change the game completely!Plus, in this week's behind-the-scenes 'The Patron Part with Aspie World's Dan Morgan Jones' we're talking Strip clubs, being Straight Edge, Dan's favourite dopamine seeking activity that begins with s and ends in x, and how different cultures relate to nakedness...Become a subscriber to 'The Patron Part' of the podcast for just £5. (or by joining The Maven Haven®️)Find out more about the podcast, all the perks of becoming a patron, and leave me a voice note testimonial here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/podcastMeet Dan Morgan Jones:Daniel M. Jones (The Aspie World) is an international best selling author of Autism For Adults / video influencer with an award winning YouTube channel called The Aspie World.The Aspie World is the biggest YouTube channel dedicated to autism from an autistic person in the world. The channel is dedicated to Autism awareness and understanding from an autistic person's point of view.Creating engagement with real people to create real change in a positive and uplifting way. And also helps raise money for charities like The National Autistic Society.Daniel Has a diagnosis of Autism, OCD, ADHD and Dyslexia and uses his influence to help educate people about Autism using his skills of video and social media influence.Daniel has also created the first-ever neurodiverse panel talking about ADHD and Autism at VidCon US which is the largest video convention in the world.You can find Dan here:www.theaspieworld.com or @theaspieworld on all socials (no seriously all of them)What's your favourite bit of being an adult?to be my own boss and guardianWhat do you do for FUN?Skateboard, Surf, play D&D and learn stuffWhat do you see as the most important or valuable shift or change you've made for yourself in your adult life?confidence!!!Complete this sentence: "I am an adult but....."I do miss someone making my food for me daily :(===If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift from Ebonie HERE If you want to take the next step on your journey of empowerment, embodiment and full self-expression, Ebonie's signature tool is called 'The value Filter' (aka YOUR COMPASS)and is a prerequisite for any deeper programs, you can find more information about it here and if you're not ready for that, I highly recommend joining our free monthly community call To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you...

Unapologetically Sensitive
229 Real Talk on Health Challenges: Speaking FOR Your Parts vs. Speaking FROM Your Parts

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Feb 6, 2024 48:29


Real Talk on Health Challenges: Speaking FOR Your Parts vs. Speaking FROM Your Parts   Jen and I talk about the difference between complaining, speaking honestly about what's going on, and the other person's capacity to sit with things that they may feel they need to fix or change. Many of you have been told that you complain too much or that you're too negative. Neurodivergent brains tend to report the truth, and we are very discerning about what we like and what we don't like. This can be perceived as negativity, complaining or being depressing to be around. What if it really wasn't about you?   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary   In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the difference between complaining and sharing honestly about personal struggles. They explore the challenges of navigating conversations around difficult topics and the importance of holding space for each other's experiences. They also delve into the healing process and the acceptance of trauma, emphasizing the need to honor and validate our own emotions. The conversation highlights the significance of checking intentions and capacity in communication, as well as the transformative power of being in relationship with our experiences. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of speaking from a part versus speaking for a part. They explore the concept of unprocessed trauma and how it can affect communication. They also discuss the significance of acknowledging and balancing pain, as well as differentiating between acting from a part and speaking for a part. The conversation highlights the role of chaperoning the part and the importance of validating and witnessing pain. Finally, they find humor in the uncertainty of their podcast episodes.   Takeaways   Differentiate between complaining and sharing honestly about personal struggles. Hold space for each other's experiences and validate emotions. Accept and heal from trauma by being in relationship with our experiences. Check intentions and capacity in communication to ensure effective and compassionate conversations. It is important to speak from a part rather than speaking for a part. Unprocessed trauma can impact communication and lead to a desire for others to intuitively understand and fix our needs. Acknowledging and balancing pain can help in managing distressing emotions. Differentiating between acting from a part and speaking for a part can provide clarity in communication. Chaperoning the part involves bringing in other perspectives and validating the pain experienced. Validating and witnessing pain is crucial in processing unprocessed trauma. Finding humor in uncertainty can help alleviate pressure and create a lighter atmosphere.   Chapters (adjust for addition of introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates 02:34 Differentiating Between Complaining and Sharing 08:15 Healing and Accepting Trauma 13:25 The Healing Process and Holding Space 16:53 The Energy of Holding Space and Acceptance 23:39 Checking Intentions and Capacity in Communication 27:19 Navigating Difficult Conversations and Boundaries 32:24 Processing Trauma and Holding Space for Emotions 36:29 The Complexity of Communication and Trauma Responses 38:55 Being in Relationship with Our Experiences and Healing 39:52 Speaking from a Part vs. Speaking for a Part 40:38 Identifying Unprocessed Trauma 41:33 Acknowledging and Balancing Pain 42:14 Differentiating Acting from Speaking 42:53 Chaperoning the Part 43:22 Validating and Witnessing Pain 43:42 Finding Humor in Uncertainty PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
228 Getting from Here to There When You've Lost Your Routine

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 30, 2024 27:21


Getting from Here to There When You've Lost Your Routine   How do you get back in a groove after you've gotten out of it? We often assume we can jump back in, but sometimes it's harder than that. I also talk about getting consent in relationships before giving feedback and advice. Attuning to the other person is the best gift you can give someone. This means dropping your agenda. I also talk about how to communicate your sensory needs when others are unaware. It can be exhausting it can be for us when we have to compensate and when we are overstimulated.     HIGHLIGHTS 20 takeaways from this episode: 1. Strategies for managing the transition from the holiday season to regular routines. 2. Tips for handling difficult conversations with loved ones. 3. The importance of active listening in communication. 4. How to show empathy and validate others' feelings. 5. The benefits of setting clear boundaries in conversations. 6. The use of "I" statements to express thoughts and feelings. 7. The importance of seeking compromise in challenging discussions. 8. The value of taking breaks during emotionally charged conversations. 9. The benefits of seeking professional help from a therapist or coach. 10. Understanding attachment wounds and their impact on relationships. 11. The concept of PDA (pathological demand avoidance or Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy) and its effects on communication. 12. The importance of attunement in relationships. 13. The role of consent in sharing with someone who is struggling. 14. The value of self-compassion and acceptance of all emotions. 15. Strategies for managing sensitivity and emotional reactions. 16. The benefits of eliminating inflammatory foods from one's diet. 17. The challenges of navigating family dynamics during the holiday season. 18. The importance of managing expectations in relationships. 19. The value of self-reflection and self-awareness in communication. 20. The benefits of practicing mindfulness and self-care in daily life.   Additional Takeaways Seek consent and ask for permission before sharing personal reactions or opinions in conversations. Be authentic and true to yourself in personal relationships, while also considering the needs and perspectives of others. Strive for a balance between routine and self-care, and be patient with yourself when facing setbacks. Set realistic expectations and practice self-compassion when working towards personal goals. Create an affirming household that acknowledges and accommodates the different needs of family members. Recognize and respect personal endurance and self-regulation in social situations. Embrace self-expression and navigate social interactions in a way that aligns with your neurodivergent traits. Take ownership of your own fulfillment and celebrate holidays in a way that aligns with your desires and needs. Seek support and embrace your sensitivity as a valuable aspect of your identity.   Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introdruction:   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 01:28 Giving Consent in Relationships 04:44 Being Authentic and Reacting in Personal Relationships 07:27 Struggling with Routine and Self-Care 10:05 Setting Expectations and Practicing Self-Compassion 11:32 Navigating Family Dynamics and Accommodating Needs 16:31 Managing Personal Endurance and Self-Regulation 20:53 Navigating Social Situations and Self-Expression 22:17 Celebrating Holidays and Self-Fulfillment 25:36 Seeking Support and Embracing Sensitivity PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Unapologetically Sensitive
226 The Power of Showing Up: Embracing Imperfection and Struggles with PDA and RSD

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 16, 2024 42:24


The Power of Showing Up: Embracing Imperfection and Struggles with PDA and RSD   Jen and I discuss our struggles with showing up and doing life even when it's hard. We model grace and vulnerability, reminding you that it's okay to not have it all together. The conversation touches on topics such as PDA, rejection-sensitive dysphoria RSD, and the pressure of gift-giving. We also discuss the importance of communication and staying connected, even when feeling tired or overwhelmed. This episode is helpful for anyone who may be struggling.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their personal struggles with health issues, specifically vertigo and its impact on their daily lives. They explore the challenges of navigating uncertainty, the importance of showing up authentically even when it's hard, and the need for self-compassion and self-care. They also delve into topics such as perception, autonomy, and the role of humor in medical settings. The conversation highlights the significance of connection, vulnerability, and understanding in supporting one another during difficult times. Ultimately, they emphasize the importance of recognizing and honoring one's own needs and limitations. In this conversation, Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of effective communication and provide practical tips for improving communication skills. They explore the role of active listening, empathy, non-verbal communication, cultural sensitivity, and overcoming communication barriers. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clear and respectful communication in personal and professional relationships. ·         We discuss the challenges of being perceived and the pressure to conform to societal expectations. ·         The conversation touches on topics such as autism, PDA, and rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD). ·         We discuss the importance of communication and staying connected, even when feeling tired or overwhelmed. ·         It's okay to not have it all together. ·         We talk about the pressure of gift-giving and the anxiety it can cause for neurodivergent individuals. ·         We discuss the concept of being in charge and the nervous system getting activated when feeling a loss of autonomy (PDA—Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy). ·         We friends share our experiences with PDA and how it affects our daily lives. ·         We talk about the importance of self-care and setting boundaries to avoid burnout. ·         We discuss the challenges of being vulnerable and the fear of rejection that comes with it. ·         The conversation touches on the importance of self-acceptance and embracing one's unique traits. ·         We discuss the impact of childhood experiences on our current struggles and coping mechanisms. ·         We share our experiences with medical care and how we navigate uncomfortable situations. ·         We talk about the importance of humor and how it can humanize otherwise sterile environments. ·         The conversation ends with a reminder to be kind to oneself and to embrace imperfection as a part of the human experience. Takeaways Navigating health issues can be challenging and uncertain, but it's important to show up authentically and seek support. Self-compassion and self-care are crucial during difficult times, even if it means letting go of expectations and prioritizing rest. Communication and understanding are key in maintaining healthy relationships and navigating challenges together. Humor and vulnerability can provide comfort and connection in medical settings, helping to humanize the experience. Effective communication is crucial for building strong relationships and resolving conflicts. Active listening and empathy are essential skills for effective communication. Non-verbal communication, such as body language and facial expressions, can convey important messages. Cultural sensitivity is important for understanding and respecting diverse communication styles. Identifying and overcoming communication barriers can improve the quality of communication.   Chapters (these times need to be adjusted to the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Tone 01:10 Modeling How to Show Up and Do Life Even When It's Hard 02:06 Supporting Each Other and Being Present 02:31 Understanding and Sharing Personal Health Struggles 06:10 The Uncertainty and Challenges of Dealing with Vertigo 09:01 The Impact of Dizziness on Daily Life and Activities 10:15 Navigating the Emotional and Mental Toll of Health Issues 12:30 The Importance of Connection and Honesty in Difficult Times 13:40 Exploring Personal Awareness and Self-Reflection 21:11 The Influence of Perception and Autonomy on Self-Care 23:51 The Role of Humor and Vulnerability in Medical Settings 26:14 Navigating Overwhelm and Setting Boundaries During the Holidays 29:03 Recognizing Soul Fatigue and the Need for Rest 31:37 Reevaluating Expectations and Prioritizing Self-Care 35:20 Communicating Needs and Understanding Each Other 37:30 Reflection and Gratitude 02:30 The Importance of Effective Communication 08:15 Active Listening and Empathy 15:45 Non-Verbal Communication 22:10 Cultural Sensitivity and Communication 29:20 Overcoming Communication Barriers 35:10 Conclusion PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
225 Navigating Autism and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance, or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 9, 2024 34:53


Navigating Autism and PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)  I discuss being diagnosed Autistic with a PDA (pathological demand avoidance) profile. I express frustration with the DSM criteria for ADHD and autism, as I don't see myself in the criteria. I highlight the common misdiagnosis of PDA as oppositional defiant disorder in children, emphasizing the need for a deeper understanding of neurodivergent experiences. I advocate a shift from viewing differences as deficits, and the importance of recognizing the unique perspectives of neurodivergent individuals. HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this episode, Patricia shares her personal reflections on being diagnosed autistic and the challenges she faces with Pathological Demand Avoidance, (PDA). Patricia prefers Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy instead. She discusses the differences between autism and HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) and emphasizes the importance of understanding the lived experience of autism. Patricia also explores how PDA affects parenting and the need for low-demand environments. She reflects on her struggles with holiday traditions and the importance of self-acceptance and embracing stimming. Additionally, Patricia discusses the impact of seasonal changes and offers insights into managing PDA in daily life. She concludes with a book she enjoyed reading that has coded autistic characters in it. Some of the challenges and awarenesses about being autistic and having a PDA profile: ·         Patricia shares her frustration with the DSM criteria for ADHD and autism, as she does not see herself in the criteria. It was written for white boys who externalize their symptoms. Many late-diagnosed, high-masking folks tend to internalize their presentation, and they go undiagnosed and don't see themselves in the criteria, which needs to be updated. ·         Patricia emphasizes the importance of understanding the lived experience of neurodivergent individuals and the need to look at differences rather than deficits. ·         She expresses her passion for wanting researchers and experts in the field of ADHD, autism, and HSP to work collaboratively to find commonalities. ·         Patricia talks about the challenges of being formally diagnosed with autism and how it has led to a year of "Ahas." ·         She shares insights into how PDA shows up in her life, including anticipating things that could go wrong and giving people permission to not respond. Takeaways Understanding the lived experience of autism is crucial for creating a supportive environment. Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) also known as Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can be misdiagnosed as oppositional defiant disorder and is characterized by nervous system dysregulation. Parents with PDA may face challenges in parenting neurodivergent children and may benefit from creating low-demand environments. Embracing self-acceptance and allowing oneself to stim can lead to a greater sense of joy and freedom. Seasonal changes can impact mood and energy levels, and it's important to listen to one's body and practice self-care. Anticipating demands and setting boundaries can help manage PDA and reduce stress. The book 'Lessons in Chemistry' features characters who are coded as autistic and explores themes of feminism and neurodiversity. Chapters (please adjust times with the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Personal Reflections 01:58 Understanding PDA and Autism 06:49 Challenges of Parenting with PDA 08:18 Navigating Holiday Traditions 16:08 Embracing Stimming and Self-Acceptance 17:32 Coping with Winter and Seasonal Changes 24:05 Managing PDA in Daily Life 27:31 Anticipating and Resisting Demands 28:52 Book Recommendation: Lessons in Chemistry 30:17 Closing Remarks and Invitation PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD), with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Unapologetically Sensitive
224 Building Trust in Neurodivergent Settings: Overcoming Group Apprehension

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 2, 2024 46:20


Building Trust in Neurodivergent Settings: Overcoming Group Apprehension Ellie and Patricia highlight the importance of creating inclusive spaces that foster trust, comfort, and collaboration for neurodivergent folks. They discuss the benefits of tailoring curriculum to individual and group needs. This episode also touches on the depth and organic nature of group conversations, and the role of personalized attention within a structured framework. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of creating supportive and inclusive environments for neurodivergent individuals.   GUEST Ellie   HIGHLIGHTS Summary   This conversation explores the experiences and dynamics of the Online HSP Course and how it fits with being autistic or identifying as neurodivergent. The episode covers topics such as trust and comfort in the group, creating a safe and supportive environment, addressing social issues, embracing whole identities, gaining different perspectives, and forming connections and friendships. The conversation highlights the importance of personalized attention, optional participation, and creating a neurodivergent-friendly space. It also emphasizes the value of feeling seen, heard, and honored in the group. The participants discuss the unexpected benefits and the lasting connections that were formed through the course.   Takeaways   Creating a safe and supportive environment is crucial for a group focused on highly sensitive people and neurodivergent individuals. Embracing whole identities and recognizing marginalized parts of ourselves can lead to a sense of belonging and understanding in the group. Optional participation and personalized attention allow individuals to engage in a way that feels comfortable and authentic to them. Forming connections and friendships within the group can provide validation, support, and a sense of community. The dynamics of a smaller group can lead to deeper conversations and a stronger sense of cohesion.   Some topics covered in this episode: 1. Neurodivergence and its representation in the course 2. Personal perspectives and interactions with course material 3. Overcoming apprehensions about joining a group 4. The dynamics of group participation and introversion 5. Creating a supportive and inclusive group environment 6. Addressing potential group members' concerns 7. Establishing core values and expectations for group participation 8. Discussions on social issues and human rights 9. Tailoring the curriculum to individual and group needs 10. Group size and its impact on interactions 11. Depth and organic nature of group conversations 12. Personalized attention within a structured framework 13. Flexibility and guidance in group discussions 14. Trust and comfort in participating in the course 15. Impact of discussions on autism and neurodivergence within the HSP group   Chapters (please add time to account for introduction   00:00 Introduction and Spontaneous Recording 00:46 Initial Thoughts about the Group 01:45 Trust and Comfort in the Group 02:09 Discussion about Autism in the Group 03:08 Creating a Safe and Supportive Environment 04:27 Addressing Social Issues in the Group 05:29 Intersectionality and Embracing Whole Identities 06:15 Recognizing Marginalized Parts of Ourselves 07:02 Expectations and Insight in the Group 08:17 Gaining Different Perspectives in the Group 09:24 Learning and Sharing Experiences in the Group 10:40 Creating a Cohesive Group 11:19 Building Trust and Connection in the Group 12:02 Different Perspectives on Group Cohesion 13:03 Feeling Safe and Comfortable in the Group 14:03 Optional Participation and Individual Needs 15:47 Forming Connections and Friendships in the Group 17:40 Validation and Understanding in the Group 19:37 Feeling Seen, Heard, and Honored in the Group 20:23 Personalized Attention and Tailored Discussions 23:14 Flexibility and Personalized Approach in the Group 24:46 Creating a Safe and Neurodivergent-Friendly Space 26:12 Feeling Safe and Understood in the Group 28:18 Addressing the Lack of Mention of Neurodivergence in the Course 30:17 Recommendations for Joining the Course 32:57 Continuing Connections and Friendships after the Course 36:31 Smaller Group Dynamics and Cohesion 39:25 Acknowledging Different Group Experiences 40:07 Gratitude and Positive Feedback   GUEST BIO Ellie is a corporate professional in a senior manager position. Through experiencing significant burnout, she was identified as autistic earlier this year. Her formal diagnosis followed. Leading up to her diagnosis and through today, she has been searching for information to help her understand her autism and for strategies for managing the seemingly endless effort it takes to be her in a world that expects her not to be autistic.   LINKS   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Unapologetically Sensitive
223 Neurodivergent Insights: Navigating ADHD, Autism, PDA and Communication

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 26, 2023 45:50


Neurodivergent Insights: Navigating ADHD, Autism, PDA, and Communication   Jen and I discuss the challenges of living with ADHD, Autism and PDA, including communication difficulties and perception of reality. We talk about how these show up for us differently, and how we navigate some of the challenges. I also share about disclosing to my MD about being autistic, and how that was received. We also talk about the difficulty of the holidays for some, and some end of year reflections that may (or may not be) helpful.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary This conversation explores the challenges and dynamics of relationships when one or both individuals have Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also known as Pervasive/Persisten Drive for Autonomy, a profile of autism. The speakers discuss how PDA shows up in their lives and the importance of understanding and managing individual differences. They emphasize the need for generosity, repair, and open communication in relationships. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory issues, the role of medication in managing ADHD and autism symptoms, and the significance of end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions. Overall, the speakers highlight the importance of embracing and honoring different experiences and finding gentleness in navigating relationships and the holiday season. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the importance of effective communication and provide practical tips for improving communication skills. They cover topics such as active listening, empathy, non-verbal communication, building trust and rapport, and conflict resolution. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clear and open communication in personal and professional relationships.   Takeaways   Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also called Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can present challenges in relationships, particularly in terms of communication and managing expectations. Generosity, repair, and open communication are essential in maintaining healthy relationships when one or both individuals have a PDA profile. Understanding and embracing individual differences, such as sensory issues and different perspectives, can foster empathy and connection in relationships. Managing ADHD and autism symptoms may involve medication, but it is important to consider individual needs and preferences. Effective communication is crucial for building and maintaining relationships. Active listening and empathy are key components of effective communication. Non-verbal communication, such as body language and tone of voice, can greatly impact the message being conveyed. Building trust and rapport is essential for effective communication. Conflict resolution skills are important for resolving disagreements and maintaining healthy relationships. Finally, end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions can be meaningful to assess growth and change during the year. Some ideas for these reflections are given, but it is essential to prioritize self-care and find what works best for each individual.   Topics covered in order:   Introduction and PDA in Relationships Managing PDA in Relationships Understanding Different Perspectives Generosity and Repair in Relationships Sensory Issues and Individual Differences Communication and Understanding in Relationships Shared Realities and Overlapping Perspectives Embracing Quirks and Repairing Relationships ADHD Medication and Neurodivergent Perspectives Managing ADHD and Autism Symptoms Reflections on the End of the Year Finding What Works for You Disclosing Autism to Healthcare Practitioners Navigating Holiday Cards and Expectations Taking Time for End-of-Year Reflection Honoring Different Experiences during the Holidays Unpacking Expectations and Finding Gentleness The Importance of Effective Communication Active Listening and Empathy Non-Verbal Communication Building Trust and Rapport Conflict Resolution Conclusion PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
222 Redinfining Success for the Neurodivergent

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 19, 2023 42:10


Redefining Success for the Neurodivergent   Jen and I discuss the concept of success and how it is often measured by neurotypical norms. We challenge these measures, and explore alternative ways to define and measure success for the neurodivergent. We emphasize the importance of authenticity, having hard conversations, and embracing imperfection. We also discuss the value of uncertainty and not knowing, and how it can lead to creativity and growth. We invite you to redefine success on your own terms and find joy and fulfillment in your own unique journeys. it.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS The conversation explores the concept of uncertainty and its relationship with creativity. It emphasizes the idea that uncertainty can be a space for endless possibilities and encourages embracing the uncomfortable and the unknown.   Takeaways   ·         Success can be measured in ways that go beyond traditional measures, such as productivity and achievements. ·         Authenticity and the ability to have hard conversations are important aspects of success. ·         Embracing imperfection and being okay with not knowing are key to personal growth and creativity. ·         Success can be defined on an individual level, based on personal values and priorities. Uncertainty can be a creative space where anything can happen. ·         Embracing uncertainty allows for exploration and new opportunities. ·         Being comfortable with uncertainty can lead to personal growth and development.   Chapters These will need to be slightly adjusted since the introduction is not calculated into this   00:00 Introduction and Thanksgiving Dilemma 01:44 Defining Success and Productivity 02:57 Measuring Success by Making Others Feel Safe 03:52 Challenging Traditional Measures of Success 06:10 Authenticity and Success 07:32 Having Hard Conversations 08:15 Process Over Content 09:57 Accepting Imperfection and Procrastination 11:43 Navigating Difficult Conversations 13:54 Unconditional Love and Boundaries 15:41 Measuring Success in Relationships 17:42 Being Messy and Imperfect 19:32 Embracing Uncertainty and Not Knowing 37:11 Embracing Uncertainty PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen's Links   Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com   Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia's Links   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Unapologetically Sensitive
221 Navigating Relationship Bumps: Whose Stuff is This?

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Dec 12, 2023 32:25


Navigating Relationship Bumps: Whose Stuff is This?   Once again, I had a bump in a relationship, and I got to see that I had a part in it. Our fear of rejection, abandonment, or someone getting angry with us, can prevent us from having difficult conversations. We minimize our feelings for fear of being too sensitive. When we do this work enough, eventually, remaining silent, no longer works. I got pretty dysregulated, but I was able to manage. It was more important to share my feelings than worrying about managing the other person's feelings.   HIGHLIGHTS   What you will learn from this podcast: ·         Strategies for managing stress during the holiday season ·         How to navigate relationship bumps and take responsibility for our own feelings ·         The concept of "gremlins" and how they can hold us back in life ·         How to identify and recognize when our gremlins are present ·         The importance of practicing self-compassion and reframing negative thoughts ·         How to manage fear of rejection and being "too much" ·         The difference between our expectations and reality ·         How to find balance and fulfillment in life ·         The benefits of setting boundaries in relationships ·         How to communicate effectively in relationships ·         The importance of self-care and self-love ·         How to deal with feelings of overwhelm and burnout ·         The role of perfectionism in our lives and how to overcome it ·         How to cultivate gratitude and noticing what is going right ·         The power of vulnerability and authenticity in relationships ·         How to set goals and work towards them ·         The benefits of mindfulness and meditation ·         How to develop a growth mindset ·         The importance of self-reflection and self-awareness ·         How to cultivate resilience and bounce back from setbacks   What are Gremlins and how to work with them:   "Gremlins" refer to the negative self-talk and limiting beliefs that can hold us back in life. Acknowledging your gremlins can make them feel more manageable. Identifying them and recognizing them when they are present can also help. Practicing self-compassion and reframing negative thoughts into more neutral thoughts can help. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD (autistic and ADHD), with a PDA profile, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/   Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Unapologetically Sensitive
219 When Your Stuff Bumps Up Against Your Friend's Stuff

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 28, 2023 38:30


When Your Stuff Bumps Up Against Your Friend's Stuff How do you navigate feeling hurt in a relationship, and the other person doesn't understand (or realize) that you have been hurt? What do you do when the other person thinks you want space, but you feel hurt, and that's not what you need, but you think the other person is distancing from you? Is it ok to text or email someone when you feel hurt and a phone call or in-person conversation feels overwhelming? I also talk about my dislike of costumes and what that brings up for me. HIGHLIGHTS ·        The episode discusses what happens when our stuff bumps up against someone else's stuff and how to navigate those situations. • ·        The author shares a personal experience of sharing an experience on the podcast and how the person being talked about felt about this. ·         The importance of communication and being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others in our relationships is emphasized. • ·         The episode is relatable and discusses how our past experiences and trauma can impact our interactions with others. ·         The episode emphasizes the importance of communication skills in navigating difficult situations in relationships. • ·         The author models emotional intelligence by sharing a personal experience and reflecting on how their actions impacted others. • ·         The episode highlights the importance of being mindful of how our words and actions can affect others, and how to approach conversations with empathy and understanding. • ·         The author encourages listeners to reflect on their own past experiences and how they may be impacting their current relationships. • ·         The episode provides practical tips for how to approach difficult conversations, such as asking for permission before sharing personal information about others. • ·         The author also models vulnerability by sharing their own fears and insecurities about their ability to communicate effectively. ·         The importance of consent and clear communication asking for permission to share personal experiences is discussed. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6  Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
217 Navigating Executive Dysfunction: Managing Busy Minds

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Nov 14, 2023 43:54


Navigating Executive Dysfunction: Managing Busy Minds Managing appointments, schedules and life can be challenging when you've got ADHD, AuDHD, or simply challenges with executive functioning. Jen and I talk about our struggles and the things that work for us. We talk about what may be more neuroaffirming. We also talk about the challenges of getting advice, or working with someone who doesn't understand neurodiversity. For example: being told to try silent meditation, but that may not work when you've got a busy brain. Moving meditation may be a better fit. CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC HIGHLIGHTS Main points:  ·        Challenges with executive functioning, including difficulty focusing on one thing and keeping track of appointments. ·         Using timers and reminders on your phone to help manage your schedule. ·         Valuing giving and receiving grace in personal and professional relationships ·         Learning to be more flexible and go with the flow in your work and personal life. ·         Recognizing the importance of understanding one's own needs and working styles. ·         Experimenting with different approaches to managing emotions and challenges, ·         The importance of self-compassion and being patient with oneself. ·         Normalizing challenges and struggles, helping individuals feel less alone. ·         Providing practical tips for managing appointments and reminders. ·         Modeling empathy and understanding, promoting connection and reducing isolation. ·         The conversation offers hope and inspiration to individuals who may be struggling. ·         The conversation raises awareness about executive functioning challenges and neurodivergence. ·         The speaker encourages individuals to prioritize their mental health and find strategies that work for them. ·         The speaker emphasizes the importance of communication and asking for support when needed. ·         The conversation touches on the importance of authenticity and mutual care in friendships. ·         The speaker encourages individuals to be honest about what they can and can't handle. ·         The conversation models self-reflection and encourages individuals to reflect on their own needs and challenges. ·         The speaker recognizes that different strategies work for different people and encourages individuals to find what works best for them. ·         The conversation emphasizes the importance of being realistic and not overcommitting oneself. ·         The speaker encourages individuals to use visual aids and get support when needed.   Here are some strategies that individuals can use to manage their emotions and challenges: ·         Identify and name your needs: Recognize what you need to work best and feel supported. This includes understanding your own learning styles, communication preferences, and executive functioning challenges. ·         Use different tools and approaches: Consider using a combination of tools and approaches to manage your schedule and tasks. For example, you might use a paper calendar in addition to online tools because you need to visually see your schedule. ·         Communicate with others: Talk openly with others about your needs and challenges. Be honest about what you can and can't handle, and ask for support when needed. ·         Practice self-compassion: Show empathy and understanding for yourself. Acknowledge that it's okay to struggle with certain things, and be kind to yourself when facing challenges. ·         Find strategies that work for you: Experiment with different approaches to find what works best for you. Don't rely on a one-size-fits-all approach, and be open to trying new things. ·         Consider your mental health: Recognize that different strategies work for different people, and that some mental health advice may not be applicable to everyone. For example, if you have a very busy mind, a moving meditation might be more helpful than a silent meditation. ·         Be patient with yourself: Remember that managing emotions and challenges is a process, and it's okay to make mistakes or have setbacks. Be patient with yourself and keep working towards your goals.   Here are some ways that this conversation might be helpful for others who experience similar feelings or difficulties: ·         Normalizes challenges: Hearing others talk about their struggles can help individuals feel less alone and more normal in their experiences. ·         Provides validation: When individuals hear others talk about similar challenges, it can help them feel validated and understood. ·         Offers practical tips: The conversation includes specific strategies for managing emotions and challenges, which can be helpful for individuals looking for new approaches to try. ·         Encourages self-reflection: Listening to others talk about their experiences can encourage individuals to reflect on their own needs and challenges, and consider new ways of approaching them. ·         Promotes empathy: The conversation models empathy and understanding, which can help individuals feel more connected to others and less isolated in their experiences. ·         Offers hope: Hearing about others' successes and positive experiences can offer hope and inspiration to individuals who may be struggling. ·         Raises awareness: The conversation touches on topics like executive functioning challenges and neurodivergence, which can help raise awareness and reduce stigma around these issues.   Here are some practical tips for managing appointments and reminders: Use a calendar: ·         Whether it's a paper calendar or an online tool, having a calendar can help you keep track of your appointments and deadlines. ·         Set reminders: Use reminders on your phone or computer to alert you when an appointment is coming up or a deadline is approaching. ·         Set multiple reminders: If you tend to forget things easily, consider setting multiple reminders for each appointment or deadline. ·         Use a timer: Set a timer for yourself to help you stay on track during appointments or when working on a task. ·         Prioritize your schedule: If you have a lot of appointments or tasks to manage, prioritize them based on their importance and urgency. ·         Schedule buffer time: Leave some extra time between appointments or tasks to give yourself a break and avoid feeling overwhelmed. ·         Be realistic: Don't overcommit yourself by scheduling too many appointments or tasks in one day. Be realistic about what you can handle. ·         Use visual aids: If you're a visual learner, consider using color-coding or other visual aids to help you keep track of your schedule. ·         Get support: If you're struggling to manage your appointments and reminders, consider reaching out to a friend, family member, or mental health professional for support. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. LINKS Jen's Links Email: Jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Jen's website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/ Patricia's Links  HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4  To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
212 AFAB Autism Assessment: Common Questions Answered

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Oct 10, 2023 46:07


AFAB Autism Assessment: Common Questions Answered Dr. Jessica Myszak, who provides autism assessments for late-diagnosed, high masking women answers the following questions: How does autism present differently in women? Is self-diagnosis valid? Why haven't the lived experiences of women been included in the diagnostic criteria? What might social differences, repetitive and stimming behaviors look like in someone who is AFAB? We explore thoughts about HSP vs. autism? What is Pathological Demand Avoidance PDA (also known as Pervasive Drive for Autonomy)? GUEST Dr. Jessica Myszak, Licensed Psychologist HIGHLIGHTS Questions asked in this episode ·         Why are so many assigned female at birth AFAB being diagnosed with autism? ·         Is it a fad? People say you watch Tik Tok and think you're autistic ·         Is self-diagnosis valid? ·         Why haven't women and their experience and presentation of autism been included in the DSM criteria? ·         How does autism present differently for women? ·         Why is there a gap between the written criteria for autism and the lived experience for those who are AFAB? ·         If someone is an internalizer, what might stimming and repetitive behaviors look like? ·         What are your thoughts about HSP vs. autisim? ·         Do you think that HSP is a subtype of autism, or is there a profile of autism where deep feeling, deep thinking and empathy are present? ·         What is Pathological Demand Avoidance PDA, also knows as Persistent/Pervasive Drive for Autonomy? Common misconceptions about autism in females The assumption that autistic females are not interested in socializing, when in fact they may be on the fringes of social groups but never feel like they truly belong. – The assumption that autistics do not have feelings, nor do they have empathy is grossly false. Many autistics feel so much, that it is overwhelming The assumption that autistics don't or can't make eye-contact. The assumption that autistics will stim in apparent ways like rocking, hand-flapping etc. vs. thinking/processing, hair twirling, sucking cheeks in, using thumb to gently stroke hand, rubbing feet together, counting things. The assumption that autism only affects males, and as a result, assessment tools and education are often skewed towards recognizing autism in males. – Many psychologists and neurologists still rely on outdated information about autism that was learned many years ago in graduate school, which can lead to misdiagnosis or missed diagnosis in females. – There is a gap between healthcare professionals who are following updated information about autism in females and those who are not. Some characteristics of autistic females Autistic females may be on the fringes of social groups but never feel like they truly belong. – Autistic females may have a strong desire to socialize and make friends, but may struggle with social cues and maintaining friendships. – Autistic females may have a tendency to mask their symptoms in social situations, which can lead to exhaustion and burnout. – Autistic females may have a strong interest in certain topics or activities, but these interests may be more socially acceptable than stereotypical "male" interests like trains or vacuum cleaners. –Interests may include relationships, personal growth, hobbies and crafts, medical information, being an avid reader, parenting, etc. Autistic females may be more likely to experience anxiety or depression than their neurotypical peers. – Autistic females may be more likely to receive a misdiagnosis or missed diagnosis due to the fact that assessment tools and education are often skewed towards recognizing autism in males.   Examples of repetitive or stimming behavior in women ·         Deep thinking and processing.  – ·         Using weighted blankets or heavy blankets for comfort.  – ·         Hair twirling, pursing lips, having tongue against the roof of the mouth, sucking on the inside of cheeks. ·         Rubbing fingers or toes together, using fidget toys, doing cricket feet (rubbing feet together). – ·         Doing a figure eight or pattern with fingers or thumbs on clothes.  – ·         Watching shows on repeat, listening to music on repeat, rereading books. ·         It's worth noting that these are just a few examples, and that repetitive or stimming behavior can take many different forms and vary widely between individuals. Ways healthcare professionals can better recognize and diagnose autism in females: - ·         Healthcare professionals should be aware that autism looks different in autistic females than it does in males, and should not rely solely on assessment tools and education that are skewed towards recognizing autism in males. – ·         Healthcare professionals should be aware of the common misconceptions about autism in autistic females, such as the assumption that they are not interested in socializing or that autism only affects males. – ·         Healthcare professionals should be aware that autistic females may mask their symptoms in social situations, which can make it more difficult to recognize their autism. – ·         Healthcare professionals should ask questions about the individual's social experiences and interests, and should not assume that their interests are stereotypical "male" interests.  ·        Healthcare professionals should be aware that autistic females may be more likely to experience anxiety or depression than their neurotypical peers, and should take this into account when making a diagnosis. – ·         Healthcare professionals should stay up-to-date on the latest research about autism in autistic females, and should seek out training and education on how to recognize and diagnose autism in this population. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is autistic helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren't alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with clients, therapists, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you GUEST BIO Dr. Jessica Myszak is a Chicago-area psychologist who specializes in autism assessment for both children and adults. Doing both in-person and telehealth evaluations in many states across the US, she has developed a niche in less-typical presentations of autism--autism in women, high-masking adults, and pathological demand avoidance (PDA). She also provides educational content on Tiktok about these topics. She is also the founder of the Autistic Support Network, a free private online community for members to share information and connect with other autistic adults.  LINKS  Dr. Myszak's Links Website—https://helpandhealingcenter.com/ LInkedin—www.linkedin.com/in/jessicamyszak Tik Tok-- https://www.tiktok.com/@drjessicamyszak  Facebook—https://www.facebook.com/helpandhealingcenter/  Autistic Support Network-- https://autisticsupportnetwork.com/  Patricia's Links HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unapologetically Sensitive
196 Embracing Neurodiversity: My Journey Continues to Unfold

Unapologetically Sensitive

Play Episode Listen Later Jun 20, 2023 29:57


Embracing Neurodiversity: My Journey Continues to Unfold I may have dropped a bombshell in episode 191. I apologize and I provide more information in this episode. My understanding about neurodivergence has really expanded, and I'm recognizing myself in some new and unexpected ways. I share some insight, education, and how this expands my work with neurodivergent people with new understanding. I also talk about how I see this impacting the podcast and my work with clients. HIGHLIGHTS   Learn to have more conversations about neurodiversity and inclusivity, rejecting finite labels and embracing different ways of showing up in the world. Understand the relief and acceptance upon receiving a diagnosis or deeper understand of how you're wired Acknowledging the diversity within autism and reject stereotypes. Instead learn about the importance of understanding the lived experiences of autistic individuals. Explore the intersection between highly sensitive people and autism, suggesting similarities and possible overlaps. Learn more about masking and support needs, highlighting their own experience as a high masker with low support needs. Acknowlege the controversy and differing opinions within the autistic community and HSP community about the origins and the intersection (if there is one). Understand a personal anecdote about social awkwardness and sensory issues during a breakfast gathering, emphasizing the need for self-advocacy and self-care strategies. Identify the personal challenges, feelings of not being understood, and the importance of compassion and support from others. Appreciate the connections made with other autistic individuals and therapists, highlighting the support and shared experiences within the neurodivergent community. PODCAST HOST Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach.  She knows what it's like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren't alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us LINKS Resources UPDATED AUTISM RESOURCES YouTube Could you be Autistic (and not know) Video Yo Samdy Sam  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ot46-YGUF4Y... 10 Autism Signs you need to know Paige Layle (content starts at 1:45) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfKH7-GM3aM Autistic MASKING: how do we do it and should we stop? Yo Samdy Sam https://youtu.be/t9COmZ2HwXY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6uTEoBHHF4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvZVOlVnQW0 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzske-KMAJYQn84rz6oD_yA https://www.youtube.com/@autismfromtheInside Online Tests and Quizzes https://embraceasd.com/tests/ Pre-diagnostic/Self-assessment quiz for autism https://www.aspietests.org/raads/...  Pre-diagnostic/Self-assessment quiz for autism https://rdos.net/eng/Aspie-quiz.php... Adult autism assessment for people socialized as women https://taniaannmarshall.wordpress.com/.../adult.../... Females & Asperger's: A Checklist - https://the-art-of-autism.com/females-and-aspergers-a.../ Steve Asbell's Autistic Masking Quiz https://misslunarose.home.blog/.../25/steve-asbell-aq-r/... Collection of Tests Related to Autism & Asperger's: https://aspietests.org/... A Neurodiversity Paradigm Breakdown of the DSM-5 Criteria for Autism https://autietraumageek.medium.com/a-neurodiversity... Should you seek an autism diagnosis or not? Trauma Geek Facebook Post from Nov. 4, 2020 (with a couple added links): Let's talk about adult diagnosis of Autism and ADHD. What's the point? 1. Educational accommodations 2. Disability benefits 3. Specialized support 4. Finding your NeuroTribe 5. All of the above If you're looking for 1 or 2, medical diagnosis is necessary. If you're looking for 3 or 4, self-diagnosis is completely valid. Many neurodivergent people do both - There is a self-discovery process first, and then they seek medical diagnosis. Medical diagnosis is a privilege. It is not accessible to all neurodivergent people. It is expensive and emotionally taxing under the best of circumstances. If you pursue medical diagnosis, there is a high chance that your doctor will not be informed about the neurodiversity paradigm or masking. They may not see you as autistic or ADHD because their training involved a very narrow stereotype of these neurotypes. You may need to ask if your doctor is willing to look at the newest research and learn along with you, or you may want to refer them to a neurodiversity advocate who can explain the research to them. (I'm writing from the United States, so this info may not apply to all countries, but I have read that Australia and the UK are very similar with professionals tending to have a biased concept of autism based on outdated research studies of men and boys. This trend is gradually changing for the better, but we have a long way to go to reach full autism and ADHD acceptance in the medical field.) If you don't need government benefits or educational support, self-identification is enough. Like gender identity, neurotype is a social construct. Self-diagnosis matters because it allows us to reframe our story about ourselves, seek supports that actually work for us, understand our own health and neurology, and find belonging in a group that thinks and feels and expresses themselves like we do. The importance of finding belonging after a lifetime of feeling othered cannot be overstated. How to talk about Autism respectfully - https://coda.io/@mykola-bilokonsky/public-neurodiversity-support-center/how-to-talk-about-autism-respectfully-84 @audhdfeelings: This is the best assessment ever https://1drv.ms/x/s!AqQsNLv44oHwc-z-kYxYTbJ9BxQ?e=yENNbJ Sally Cat checklist http://www.sallycatpda.co.uk/?m=1 Casey Ehrlich PDA at Peace Parents https://www.atpeaceparents.com/ Autism is a spectrum doesn't mean what you think  https://neuroclastic.com/its-a-spectrum-doesnt-mean-what-you-think/?fbclid=IwAR3-mYBE9aa6OrZLW6t7cN4kFymr_gXtHuDhimKOSHq7AAa9-NqvXsGXb38&mibextid=Zxz2cZ ND communication styles https://neuroclastic.com/weavers-and-concluders-two-communication-styles-no-one-knows-exist/?amp&fbclid=IwAR0dDqS_0TxJxzDyQOkuMyBBqTf5mqb_bs2R0osDgI_sEC5-3FdGONI91K4&mibextid=Zxz2cZ  Books: «Unmasking Autism» (Devon Price) «Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate» (Cynthia Kim) «Drama Queen: One Autistic Woman and a Life of Unhelpful Labels» (Sara Gibbs) «Odd girl out: An Autistic Woman in a Neurotypical World» (Laura James) «I Overcame My Autism and All I Got Was This Lousy Anxiety Disorder — A Memoir» (Sarah Kurchak) «Invisible Differences: A Story of Aspergers, Adulting, and Living a Life in Full Color» (Julie Dachez) Podcasts: - the Neurodivergent Woman - SquarePeg - the Autistic Culture - Neuroqueering - the neurodiverging podcast - Neurodivergent moments Youtube:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfKH7-GM3aM https://youtu.be/t9COmZ2HwXY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L6uTEoBHHF4 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvZVOlVnQW0 https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzske-KMAJYQn84rz6oD_yA https://www.youtube.com/@autismfromtheInside HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/ Online HSP Course Materials (no group included) https://patriciayounglcsw.com/product-category/hsp-classes/ Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6 Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4 To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review” Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

I Have ADHD Podcast
The Aspie World Meets I Have ADHD

I Have ADHD Podcast

Play Episode Listen Later Jan 24, 2023 51:07


Episode 195 welcomes Daniel Jones from The Aspie World as a special guest! PLEASE NOTE: There is strong language used in this one. Daniel has been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder Level 2), ADHD, OCD, and Dyslexia. He's especially passionate about providing education, support, and diagnosis access to any and everyone. In this special episode, we chat through the differences and similarities between ADHD and Autism. Daniel shares tips for tricking the ADHD side of his brain into staying focused for longer periods of time and expresses why it's so important to love each other and not feed dissension amongst our neurodivergent community.You can find Daniel across all your favorite social media channels @theaspieworld. My group coaching program FOCUSED is a great place for folks with neurodivergent conditions like ADHD, and we believe we're better together!Hang out with me on Instagram HERE. #adhd #adhdawareness #adhdsupport #lifecoach #adhdcoach #adhdproblems #adhdadult #adhdlife #adhdcoaching #adhdexplained #adultadhd #adhdsymptoms #adhdinfo #adhdlife #adhdtips #adhdexplained #adhdtribe #adhdsolutions #adhdhelp #adhdtreatment #adhdstrategies #adhddiagnosis #ocd #dyslexia #autism