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We're taking a short break so we wanted to share this Best Of In the Demo podcast episode with you.This episode first aired on May 16, 2024.Millennials are reframing their generational identity as they enter homeownership and parenthood, but broken systems remain. Nostalgia for a pre-internet era offers an escape, and reflects a yearning for IRL experiences and human connection in an automated and mediated world.Anne Helen Petersen, author and cultural critic, joins host Farrah Bostic to discuss the evolving narratives surrounding millennials and Gen Z. They explore how the optimism of the 90s and early 2000s has given way to disillusionment, the impact of political polarization on younger generations, and the collective burnout experienced by a society that glorifies productivity over rest.ResourcesThe Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt"How the Stanley Cup Went Viral" by Kyle Chayka in The New Yorker"It's Just a Water Bottle" by Amanda Mull in The AtlanticVox's "Today, Explained" episode, "The kids are all home"Our GuestA former senior culture writer for BuzzFeed, Anne Helen Petersen now writes her newsletter, Culture Study, as a full-time venture on Substack. Petersen received her PhD at the University of Texas at Austin, where she focused on the history of celebrity gossip. Her previous books, Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud and Scandals of Classic Hollywood, were featured in NPR, Elle, and the Atlantic. She lives in Missoula, Montana.Your HostsFarrah Bostic is the founder and Head of Research & Strategy at The Difference Engine, a strategic insights consultancy. With over 20 years of experience turning audience insights into effective strategies for B2B and B2C companies, Farrah helps business leaders make big decisions.Adam Pierno is an author, strategist, and managing director of brand strategy at Arizona State University, and founder of Specific Branding and Research, where he helps brands understand customer habits and create effective growth strategies.Stay ConnectedWebsiteLinkedInNewsletter Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Millennials are reframing their generational identity as they enter homeownership and parenthood, but broken systems remain. Nostalgia for a pre-internet era offers an escape, and reflects a yearning for IRL experiences and human connection in an automated and mediated world.Anne Helen Petersen, author and cultural critic, joins host Farrah Bostic to discuss the evolving narratives surrounding millennials and Gen Z. They explore how the optimism of the 90s and early 2000s has given way to disillusionment, the impact of political polarization on younger generations, and the collective burnout experienced by a society that glorifies productivity over rest.ResourcesThe Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt"How the Stanley Cup Went Viral" by Kyle Chayka in The New Yorker"It's Just a Water Bottle" by Amanda Mull in The AtlanticVox's "Today, Explained" episode, "The kids are all home"Our GuestA former senior culture writer for BuzzFeed, Anne Helen Petersen now writes her newsletter, Culture Study, as a full-time venture on Substack. Petersen received her PhD at the University of Texas at Austin, where she focused on the history of celebrity gossip. Her previous books, Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud and Scandals of Classic Hollywood, were featured in NPR, Elle, and the Atlantic. She lives in Missoula, Montana.Your HostsFarrah Bostic is the founder and Head of Research & Strategy at The Difference Engine, a strategic insights consultancy. With over 20 years of experience turning audience insights into effective strategies for B2B and B2C companies, Farrah helps business leaders make big decisions.Adam Pierno is an author, strategist, and managing director of brand strategy at Arizona State University, and founder of Specific Branding and Research, where he helps brands understand customer habits and create effective growth strategies. Stay ConnectedWebsiteLinkedInNewsletterSign up for our newsletter to receive exclusive content, episode highlights, and behind-the-scenes insights delivered to your inbox. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week Devo teaches us all about hurricane preparedness. And it's a good thing, because the storm of FuMPFest is on the horizon! Meanwhile, Toby Danger considers a diet, Worm Quartet waxes nostalgic about coding in the good ol' days, and The Arrogant Worms highlight a very effective method of problem solving. 1. "Too Fat for Rock and Roll" by Toby Danger 2. "When I was a Boy" by Worm Quartet 3. News of the Stupid! 4. "Malcolm" by The Arrogant Worms Toby Danger is at TobyDanger.com Worm Quartet is at WormQuartet.com The Arrogant Worms are at ArrogantWorms.com For more information about FuMPFest and to register visit FuMPFest.com Thank you to our Patreon backers for making this show possible!!!

Welcome back to our An Introduction To ... series which provides a playlist that we think is representative of the genre/sub-genre in question. This episode we're delving into the world of southern rock ... specifically of the heavier variety given that we here at The Mighty Decibel prefer our music to singe our ear hair! Take the journey with us from the 70s to current day and hear some of the rowdiest down-home southern cookin' that you'll ever imbibe. Hopefully, this will cause some of you out there to dip your toes further into the joys of the south. Gimme some of that chomp, chomp!!!! Side 1 (0:00) "I Ain't the One": LYNYRD SKYNYRD - Pronounced ley-nerd-skin-nerd ('73) (3:52) "Waitin' For the Bus/Jesus Just Left Chicago": ZZ TOP - Tres Hombres ('73) (10:13) "Glitter Queen": HYDRA - Hydra ('74) (14:17) "Gator Country": MOLLY HATCHET - Molly Hatchet ('78) Side 2 (20:28) "Train, Train": BLACKFOOT - Strikes ('79) (24:02) "Edge of Sundown": DANNY JOE BROWN &THE DANNY JOE BROWN BAND - S/T ('81) (30:31) "Pearly": RAGING SLAB - Dynamite Monster Boogie Concert ('93) (34:04) "The South's Too Fat to Rise Again": NASHVILLE PUSSY - Up the Dosage ('14) (36:23) "Dark Horse": HOGJAW - Way Down Yonder ('17)

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Did you know that in some countries (like Ireland), people with a BMI that is deemed “too high” are unable to buy a property? Fat people are turned away from IVF clinics and their ability to parent an adoptive child can be deemed insufficient due solely to body size. We talk about these outrageous denials of basic opportunities and eugenics that fat people experience in this episode. TW: mention of BMI and weight plus anti-fat bias. Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/162 Support me on Ko-Fi and get the Size Diversity Resource Guide: https://ko-fi.com/fiercefatty/tiers The Misguided Logic of Deporting Fat People: https://archive.is/1e2Hd#selection-427.0-432.0 Too fat to live here?: http://www.stuff.co.nz/the-press/8970683/Too-fat-to-live-here Too fat for NZ: Mum can't lose weight fast enough for immigration officials: https://www.stuff.co.nz/national/health/300341891/too-fat-for-nz-mum-cant-lose-weight-fast-enough-for-immigration-officials Bank refuses to release mortgage for woman deemed at higher Covid risk: https://www.irishtimes.com/news/ireland/irish-news/bank-refuses-to-release-mortgage-for-woman-deemed-at-higher-covid-risk-1.4517854 Flare: Fat Legal Advocacy, Rights, & Education : https://www.flareproject.org/ Intuitive Eating Counsellor: https://www.instagram.com/intuitive.eating.ireland/ Too fat to adopt - the married, teetotal couple rejected by council because of man's weight: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2009/jan/13/adoption-rejected-couple BMI Criteria for Adoption: https://www.lincolnshire.gov.uk/directory-record/66750/bmi-criteria-for-adoption Guidance on Overweight Adopters: https://www.proceduresonline.com/adoptnortheast/raa/files/overweight_adopters.pdf We were turned down for adoption for being obese: https://metro.co.uk/2021/10/23/we-were-turned-down-for-adoption-for-being-overweight-2-15462005/ Obese Face Obstacles in Adoption Process: https://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=3429655&page=1 Should there be a weight cutoff for IVF? Firestorm of debate over denying fertility treatments to obese women: https://nationalpost.com/health/should-there-be-a-weight-cutoff-for-ivf-firestorm-of-debate-over-denying-fertility-treatments-to-obese-women#:~:text=In%20B.C.%2C%20private%20IVF%20clinics,with%20a%20BMI%20over%2038 When You're Told You're Too Fat to Get Pregnant: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/18/magazine/fertility-weight-obesity-ivf.html?fbclid=IwAR22Z_wKX0-LyGPhMhnWPaHWjXZn6vw3e-TejXQS3nLic-xsaI21NdwoGyI Infertility: https://archive.is/8eGnm#selection-1355.0-1355.11 How is weight and height (BMI) used in life insurance?: https://protectyourwealth.ca/height-and-weight-impact-on-life-insurance-canada/#one Yes, You Can Still Be Fired for Being Fat: https://www.bloomberg.com/news/features/2022-03-15/weight-discrimination-remains-legal-in-most-of-the-u-s At Victoria Hospital, Obese Job Candidates Need Not Apply: https://www.texastribune.org/2012/03/26/victoria-hospital-wont-hire-very-obese-workers/ Most Americans Are Too Fat to Donate their Bodies to Science: https://www.vice.com/en/article/vvjz3d/most-americans-are-too-fat-to-donate-their-bodies-to-science Overweight and Obesity Statistics: https://archive.is/pRI5D#selection-1345.1-1345.34

What's the lede today in STL Sports? Duh, it's the Dogs. Woof Woof. Apple TV. Iggy listened to the game on the radio. Audio issues. Joey Zanaboni's call of the penalty. The atmosphere in and around City Park. Standing during the game. People sending in stories of their experiences at the game. TMA Walrus #1 joins the presentation to share his experience. Too Fat to Kayak does the same. Maggie O's had a record setting day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What's the lede today in STL Sports? Duh, it's the Dogs. Woof Woof. Apple TV. Iggy listened to the game on the radio. Audio issues. Joey Zanaboni's call of the penalty. The atmosphere in and around City Park. Standing during the game. People sending in stories of their experiences at the game. TMA Walrus #1 joins the presentation to share his experience. Too Fat to Kayak does the same. Maggie O's had a record setting day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Top Hat returns! This week Ben, Travis, and Fernando break down the water crisis in Mississippi, Ted Cruz and student loan forgiveness, prisoners in debt for going to state prisons, conservative publishers and their bad takes on children's books, Gavin McIness stages his own arrest, Youtube algorithms pushing the election fraud narrative, American's are "Too Fat to Fight" and much more!

I don't pop off regularly, but when I do, there are usually fireworks LOL.This week's episode is focused on the nonsensical and damaging way that we as women pick apart each other's bodies so naturally as if it were second nature. I have spent the majority of my life just like so many women out there, having my body critiqued from top to bottom. Literally as a teenager, I had other young girls tell me either "well done, your ass looks great" , to "wow, you're too skinny". In my early adulthood, having been attuned to being body obsessed, I started to see my worth through the number on the weighing scale. Nowadays, I don't really know what a scale is in fact I weighed myself for the first time in over a year just out of curiosity.  When I saw the number I said to myself, "imagine if I had been checking daily like a maniac like I used to? Would I be as happy within my own body as I am now"? Tune in for more as I dive in to why we need to leave each other completely alone and why talking about another women's body is not only not the kind of commentary that is welcomed but van also more damaging than we intend it to be in the long term.NOTE TO BODYSHAMERS: Focus on yourselves. I'm sure you have plenty to get on with.READY TO ACTIVATE GODDESS MODE?:FREE #LevelUpInYourSleep AFFIRMATIONS: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/60f469a4d2b5fdc86c4c2931 JOIN MY MAILING LIST AND KICK START YOUR DIVINE FEMININE LEADERSHIP JOURNEY:https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6001c602d46c01e89abef94eFOLLOW ME EVERYWHERE:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealingroseholistics/?hl=enFacebook: www.facebook.com/thehealingroseholisticsWebsite: www.thehealingroseholistics.comPodcast: https://www.thehealingroseholistics.com/whatwildwomenwantpodcast

Denise Lee is an award winning actress and singer whose powerful voice, warm and friendly demeanor and her brassy performance style has charmed theater, nightclub and television audiences for more than three decades. She is the founder and Executive Producer of the Denise Lee Onstage Cabaret Series and the Dallas Cabaret Festival featuring the best in Dallas based and National Cabaret Artists. She just recently brought her show ‘Pressure Makes Diamonds' home to Circle Theater after premiering it to rave reviews at Lyric Theatre of Oklahoma. For her one woman shows ‘Divas of American Music' and ‘Too Old, Too Fat, Too Black – Songs I'll Never Sing On Broadway” she was awarded Broadway World Awards for Best Cabaret Performer. She is also the recipient of the Sammons Center for the Arts Cabaret Artist of the Year and multiple Dallas Theater Critic Forum and Dallas Readers Voice Awards. Lee has recently added ‘playwright' to her list of accomplishments. Her first play ‘Funny, You Don't Act Like A Negro' had it's World Premiere at Historic Theatre Three in February 2020. In addition to her career as an Artist, Denise Lee is a fierce Social Justice activist. She established 'Community Conversation' through her non-profit organization Visions For Change. Since 2016, these monthly gatherings have brought people together for respectful, open, honest dialogue in order to heal racial and community tension. For these efforts, she has received several awards including the 2019 Cathedral of Hope's Hero of Hope Award. She also serves as the Social Justice Strategist for the Dallas Children's Theater and is Board President for the Dallas Street Choir. She has 2 talented, beautiful daughters, Janelle & Traci- independent artists in their own right, of whom she is incredibly proud! You can keep up with her at www.deniseleeonstage.com and www.visionsforchange.org@fallingoutlgbtqpod@deniseonstage

On this week's very late episode Devo celebrates Memorial Day a few days late and finds ways to deal with the heat. 1. Burned on the BBQ by Bob Rivers 2. Too Fat for Rock and Roll by Toby Danger 3. News of the Stupid 4. Is It Hot Enough for You? by Carla Ulbrich Bob Rivers is at BobRivers.com Toby Danger is at TobyDanger.com And Carla Ulbrich is at CarlaU.com

Today on Boston Public Radio: We begin the show by asking listeners their thoughts on the news of Elon Musk buying Twitter. Trenni Kusnierek talks about the Celtics playoffs run and mental health struggles among youth athletes. Kusnierek is a reporter and anchor for NBC Sports Boston, as well as a weekly Boston Public Radio contributor. Elle Simone Scott shares tips on how to make the perfect food board for hosting. Scott is Executive Editor and Inclusion Leader at America's Test Kitchen. She is also founder of the mentoring organization SheChef. Her recently released book is “Boards: Stylish Spreads for Casual Gatherings.” Corby Kummer discusses oversight issues with the Food and Drug Administration, Boston chef Tiffani Faison winning “Tournament of Champions” and MIT students creating an “Oreometer.” Kummer is the executive director of the Food and Society policy program at the Aspen Institute, a senior editor at The Atlantic and a senior lecturer at the Tufts Friedman School of Nutrition Science and Policy. Jared Bowen previews the latest in local arts, including Huntington Theatre Company's Elliot Norton Award Nomination for its production of Toni Morrison's “The Bluest Eye” and “Too Fat for China,” a show about motherhood and adoption playing at the Mosesian Center for the Arts in Watertown. Bowen is GBH's executive arts editor and the host of Open Studio. John King updates listeners on the latest political headlines, including recent news from the Jan. 6 Committee and Russia's invasion of Ukraine. King is CNN's Chief National Correspondent and anchor of "Inside Politics,” which airs weekdays and Sunday mornings at 8 a.m. We end the show by asking listeners how they eat their Oreos.

Sue Bethanis hosts culture critic and author, Anne Helen Petersen. A former senior culture writer for BuzzFeed News, Anne now writes about the future of work, celebrity, burnout, and more at her newsletter, Culture Study, as a full-time venture on Substack. She is the author of four books, most recently Out of Office: The Big Problem and Bigger Promise of Working From Home (co-written with Charlie Warzel) and Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation. Her previous books, Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud and Scandals of Classic Hollywood, were featured in NPR, Elle, and The Atlantic. She received her Ph.D. in media studies from the University of Texas and lives in Lummi Island, Washington.  Sue and Anne discuss these four key aspects of tapping into the promise of remote work: Flexibility – the future of work has to be guided by a new form of flexibility in which the work, not the workers themselves, becomes more malleable.  Culture – a company culture can be shifted, but it has to start with a dramatic rethinking of what management actually looks like, in and outside of the traditional office.  Technologies of the Office – so much of office culture flows from our technology, tools, and design. Here we can see the most profound changes the quickest.  Community – if work were not the primary organizing factor of our lives, we could restructure our relationships with our community outside of work.

Ween Wednesday, so sick. Iggy not present in studio at the beginning of the seggy. Bots in the YouTube chat. Too Fat to Kayak. Iggy gave his shirt to Lern. Iggy's menu tonight for ‘Cookin' with Ken'. Iggy and fake accounts. Dillion. Will Iggy be in for the Lern interview later today? The Flad Avenue Boys. Grossmuter. We are taking a rare mid-hour break to meet with Hubbard Executives. Throwing rolls. Hog talk. Randy stops by the show. Blocking v. Muting on twitter.

Welcome to the WWSD Podcast; weekly we share discussions. This week Josh and Seamus are joined by writer and director Zak Knutson. Zak portrayed the iconic character of the Sexy Stud in Clerks II, but he has also written and directed the feature film Supercon. He too has directed the documentaries Milius and The Rainbow, and specials for Kevin Smith such as Too Fat for 40! and Burn in Hell. We discuss how he got into the industry, how he moved from acting to behind the scenes, working with Kevin Smith and Scott Mosier, getting his iconic role in Clerks II, making his documentaries, and writing/directing Supercon. As always enjoy!Check out more of Zak at Instagram | IMDb | CameoCheck out more of Josh and Seamus of the WWSD Podcast at linktr.ee/wwsdIf you would like to support the WWSD Podcast check out our patreon and get access to exclusive monthly content not released anywhere else, like the Load Boost After Math, The Roast of Seamus, and much more content released every month. https://www.patreon.com/wwsd_podcastThanks so much for listening! If you like this episode, please subscribe to “WWSD Podcast” and rate and review wherever you get your podcasts.Would you like to be a guest on the WWSD Podcast? Email us.

Julie Creffield is founder of a global plus size fitness coaching business which just turned 10 years old, and now works also as a community engagement strategist and business coach. Julie's talk explores the highs and lows of running a high impact socially driven coaching business, and the myths that you can't do good in the world and also make a profit too. Sharing the story of how her company Too Fat to Run was formed, some of the challenges of monetising, the high points, and also my thoughts on how small business owners can build profitable mission led communities around their work. Julie has been working in community engagement for more than 2 decades, having worked on high profile mega events like the London 2012 Olympics, with a specialism of engaging hard to reach groups. She loves the idea of bringing people together around a shared purpose and my motto across all of my businesses is “nobody left behind”.

This podcast answers listeners questions: My husband tells me I'm Too Fat, 2. How Do You Get Past the Talking Phase in Dating, 3. This Guy On Dating App Said He Doesn't Know What He Wants. Listen for relationship and dating tips. Get 20% OFF @manscaped + Free Shipping with promo code “THEGAME” at MANSCAPED.com. Free Audible Book trial: tinyurl.com/askyaznow. To ask a question and get a personalized video back: https://www.wisio.com/The_GameEXPOSED Read my books free with amazon kindle free trial: “Regain Your Power” on Amazon

Such a pleasure to have culture writer and author, Anne Helen Petersen, on the show. A former senior writer at Buzzfeed News, she now pens her own newsletter all about the culture that surrounds us, 'Culture Study' on Substack. She's also written several books; Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman; Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation; and coming out on Dec. 7th, Out of Office: The Big Problem and Bigger Promise of Working from Home.A prolific writer of pop culture, Anne Helen is a true storyteller that has a very special talent for putting into words things you may be thinking or feeling, but not totally recognizing until you read it in an article she's published. Case in point: Millennials everywhere were nodding  as they read along to her viral article covering Millennial Burnout, which people had so many feelings about, it later became a book!We cover tons of ground in 60 minutes. Her career and what led to writing her dissertation on celebrity gossip--yes, she is a legit doctor of celebrity (how cool is that!?)  Making the leap from Buzzfeed to Substack and the perks that come with that for readers, her new book coming out on the future of work in a post-covid world, plus we get into some of her noteworthy articles including the Peloton series, What got left out of the LulaRich Documentary, The Subtle Ways Misogyny Surrounds us, and lots more.As usual we cover Obsessions-- Anne Helen is super into twin influencers the Baylor Twins, and I'm knee deep into Yellowstone. And do I try to pitch a VC Andrews article to Anne Helen? You bet. Special thanks to Anne Helen Petersen for being a guest and her time.We love engaging with listeners, so follow along and let us know what you think on Instagram @haveyouheardpodcast. If you like the podcast, be sure to subscribe and leave 5 stars, it goes a long way for independent podcasts like this one.Helpful links we reference during the show / pop culture homework:Culture Study on SubstackPeloton Series What Got Left Out of LulaRichThe Subtle Look and Overwhelming Feel of Today's MisogynyHow Millennials Became the Burnout GenerationPreorder 'Out of Office: The Big Problem and Bigger Promise of Working from Home'The Baylor Twins IG incase you're curious (I was!)

Episode 27: Julie Creffield is an award-winning entrepreneur, community engagement strategist, business mentor, author and transformational coach as well as a Run England Run Leader. In 2010 Julie founded the plus-size fitness movement Too Fat to Run? which has helped millions of women around the world to get active and changed the face of sport for plus-size women. It positioned her as an expert in building online tribes, following her 15 year career in community engagement offline. Julie has dismantled the belief system associated with sport of needing to be the fastest, strongest, toughest etc and the stigma/barrier around fitness and being plus-sized. She has completed many challenges including several triathalons and 5 marathons to date. We talk about the intrinsic fear many women face when pursuing their dreams and goals - the fear of judgement (from people we don't even know!) What will people think/say? And if that's not bad enough, then comes the fear of failure and fear of success!!! Julie is a born leader and in her book 'Leading from the back' she goes into what archetype you are and how best to leverage those unique qualities. She is known for creating successful tribes and her movement 'too fat to run?' is still going strong. Click here to find out more about Julie. If you enjoyed this episode then please do rate and review on iTunes (as helps with the algorhythm). Let's get more women talking about this fear of judgement, to show that we are all in the same boat, providing support, understanding and acceptance. Want to regain your Sassy? Then click here to find out more.

1. Good Morning! We had a date last night! 2. Orlando Bloom/Jim Gaffigan/Pink news 3. Yes or BS, Round 1 4. Spoiler-free Black Widow review 5. Brown Lawns During A Drought Are OK 6. Yes or BS, Round 2 7. Zeke is Too Fat for the Fair 8. Yes or BS, Round 3

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This week on the The KORE Women podcast, Dr. Summer Watson talks with Devina Kaur, who is a creative entrepreneur, researcher, inspirational speaker, radio host and producer of the Brilliantly Sexy Show and founder of the Sexy Brilliant™ Global Revolution. She is a published author as well as the creator of The Sexy Brilliant™ Academy. Devina was named a Top 25 Canadian Immigrant of the Year in 2019 and is the winner of a REX  Karamveer Award as a “Champion of Change.” Her 1st book is titled, “Too Fat, Too Loud, Too Ambitious.” To learn more about Devina Kaur, you can find her on LinkedIn, FB, Twitter, and Instagram at: The Devina Kaur and at www.sexybrilliant.org. Thank you for taking the time to listen to the KORE Women podcast and being a part of the KORE Women experience. You can listen to The KORE Women podcast on your favorite podcast directory - Pandora, iHeartRadio, Apple Podcast, Google Podcast, YouTube, Spotify, Stitcher, Podbean, and at: www.KOREWomen.com/podcast. Please leave your comments and reviews about the podcast and check out KORE Women on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. You can also learn more about Dr. Summer Watson and KORE Women at: www.korewomen.com

#SexyBrilliant #Addiction #Spirituality She is sexy. She is spiritual. She is brilliant. She is bold. Too Fat. Too Loud. Too Ambitious . She takes us through her incredible journey as she defines what life offered her and how she redefined her destiny. Let us get into conversation to decode Ms. Devina Kaur. CHENNAI LIVE has been the voice of Chennai and now it is also a vision for the city. Always known for its engaging conversations, impactful content and thought provoking infotainment , the city's only talk station now has a brand new avatar.CHENNAI LIVE goes DIGITAL CHENNAI LIVE fully recognises the love from the people and the responsibility towards the city. Hence , we continue to be the grounds for various discussions , opinions of our people and take up every issue that matters .. with all heart , spreading smiles. However , now we break all barriers and cross geographical boundaries as the reach is now global. SUBSCRIBE NOW FOR EXCLUSIVE CONTENT & UPDATES : http://bit.ly/chennailivedigital Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/chennailive... Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/chennailive1048 Mail id : chennailivedigital@gmail.com We will continue to tune in to your life , everyday in many ways.

Jenn and guest Kim Ukura discuss lots of nonfiction, including kid-friendly science audiobooks and body-positive memoirs, in this week’s episode of Get Booked. Subscribe to the podcast via RSS, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher. This post contains affiliate links. When you buy through these links, Book Riot may earn a commission. Questions 1. I have been listening to science audio books with my son (7yo) who has really been enjoying them. So far we have listened to the Future of Humanity by Michio Kaku, Astrophysics For Young People in a Hurry by Neil deGrasse Tyson, and we are currently listening to The Rise and Fall of the Dinosaurs. Anything else you can recommend? All the bonus points if it deals with robots, space, or is any way speculative. Thanks! -Riad 2. Hello. I promise this isn’t just a word problem in disguise, although it sort of feels that way! I used to have a very long commute to work (over an hour each way), which I made more bearable by listening to non-fiction audiobooks. I now have a much, much shorter commute but miss listening to audiobooks. I use my local library’s app, which allows audiobooks to be checked out for two weeks. Since I’m listening for less than an hour a day, I often can’t finish the books that I borrow in time. Can you recommend some great non-fiction that is around 10 hours long? I really enjoy Oliver Sachs, Mary Roach, Michael Pollan, Bee Wilson, Bill Bryson, and Brene Brown and have already listened to everything by these authors that is available. My favorite topics are social science, psychology, the natural world, and food/cooking. I generally don’t enjoy celebrity memoirs, self-help, and am firmly disinterested in sports. Thank you so much for all of your awesome weekly recommendations-I’ve discovered so many new favorites because of your podcast!  -Brenna 3. Hello! I am writing to you in the hopes that you can point me in the right direction. I was recently surprised when I noticed two books on different topics I was reading started to converge. One book is Bregman’s “Humankind: A Hopeful History” and the other is McGonigal’s “The Joy of Movement”. Despite their apparently dissimilar topics (social psychology and exercise), somehow, these two books converged on the ideas that humans are built for connection and cooperation. And suddenly I know I need more of that. I want more of humans building relationships and working towards common goals. I’ve already read Smith’s “The Power of Meaning” and have Ter Kuile’s “The Power of Ritual” on hold at the library. What else can you recommend? Fiction and non-fiction are both OK. TIA. -Lisa 4. I am 35 years old and single and have recently decided to explore the world of on-line dating…bad idea. No need for details of bad experience but it has created a need in me for a good female powered memoir preferably with focus on body image. I have read a lot of the popular ones already such as the beauty myth, body positive power, the body is not an apology, Men Explain Things to Me, and books by Lindy West, Roxane Gay, Samantha Irby, and Jes Baker. I also just purchased Body Talk and have been reading an essay every morning. Any help with finding a good female strong and feel good book would be greatly appreciated. I love your podcast and thank you!! -Noelle 5. Hi, I always thought I was straight but recently I’ve been feeling more attraction towards women/enbys. I am in a long term relationship with a man whom I love and adore and don’t see that ending anytime soon. Basically, I’m struggling with my sexuality and have no good outlet to explore that now. Books have always been the thing I turn to when I’m trying to process important things. Please recommend adult books (preferably one fiction and one non-fiction) that center on wlw relationships and coming to terms with your sexuality. Bonus points for bi/pan rep or enby rep and bonus points for an older character (not a teen). I love contemporary and literary fiction but would be open to an sff. I have not been loving historical recently.  -JJ 6. I’m a Computer Science teacher in Mexico City. I have been teaching high school students about the science behind the magic of technology for about fifteen years. Also, I’m an avid reader and I believe in the power of books in my students’ academic lives. I’m always looking for books about Computer Science or the history of computers to assign them as extra activities for my class (some students prefer reading books instead of coding, and that’s fine with me as long as they learn). Books in English are not a problem since, although we are a Spanish-speaking country, I work at a bilingual school and they understand English perfectly. We have read books like “The Code Book” by Simon Singh, “The Thrilling Adventures of Lovelace and Babbage” a beautiful graphic novel by Sydney Padua, “Broad Band” by Claire L. Evans, “The Inevitable” by Kevin Kelly, “The Second Machine Age” by Erik Brynjolfsson, “Code Girls” by Liza Mundy, “Zero Day” by Mark Russinovich, and “Life 3.0” by Max Tegmark. I would love to know if you have any recommendations my students and for me. Of course, there are extra points for books about women in tech and the power of diversity and inclusion, since we all need those messages every single day in our current world.  -Rodrigo 7. My mom has begun seeking therapy for chronic depression that I suspect has been with her for a while now. I’m glad she’s seeking professional help, but I also wanted to get her a book to help lift her up a bit. From what she’s confided in me, some of what is contributing to her depression is that a lot of her identity is tied up in feeling needed/useful as a mom. Now that both her daughters are grown, she thinks we don’t need her anymore (entirely untrue, of course) and that she’s not useful as a person. I’m wondering if there are any books out there about older women finding renewed sense of self or dealing with similar issues that she can see herself in. I’m hoping for something uplifting. She also has triggers around harm to children and sexual violence, so if those topics could be avoided, that would be great. Thanks! -Worried Daughter Books Discussed Packing for Mars by Mary Roach (Gulp, Spook, or Grunt) Scatter, Adapt, and Remember by Annalee Newitz Make it Scream, Make it Burn by Leslie Jamison (9 hours 3 minutes) Once Upon a Time I Lived on Mars by Kate Greene (6 hrs 7 min) How We Show Up by Mia Birdsong Northern Light by Kazim Ali (cw: discussion of suicide) Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud by Anne Helen Petersen #VeryFat #VeryBrave by Nicole Byer The Fixed Stars by Molly Wizenberg The Care and Feeding of Waspish Widows by Olivia Waite Reset: My Fight for Inclusion and Lasting Change by Ellen Pao Algorithms of Oppression by Safiya Umoja Noble Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb Book Club When Women Were Birds by Terry Tempest Williams, (cw: attempted assault) 10 Mystery and Thriller Books Starring Older Women Books With Female Protagonists Over 60 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We keep it long and tart on this episode as we joke our way through talking about these fine entertainment options: Kevin Smith’s Too Fat for 40, Locked Down (HBO Max), Fake Famous (HBO Max), Ocean's 11, 3 Men & Dat Baby, The Night Of (HBO), Behind Her Eyes (Netflix), Love & Monsters (2020), The Conjuring (2013), and the newly revealed title Spider-Man: No Way Home! We also give some shoutouts to our pod friends: Mind Grenade Ep. 246 (guest starring Brent), the brand new Listen Impossible podcast, and The Terror Table hits episode 200 or 202 but either way it’s exciting! Find them all on your favorite podcast apps! Email: LetsTalkAboutStuffPodcast@gmail.com Follow us on Twitter & Instagram: @LTASpod Follow Steven on Twitter & Letterboxd: @stevenfisher22 Follow Brent on Twitter & Instagram: @BrentHibbard Please rate & review us! (5-stars is appreciated!) FREE RANGE DEPRESSION.

We have such an amazing conversation on labels adopted from society and the dark internal world of what we strive to free ourselves from. Sometimes the choices we make are toxic and send us in a downward spiral of addictions, sucide in efforts to avoid or kill the pain. The good news is our words create our reality! At her lowest point she spoke these words into her life,”Always sexy, always brilliant!” And the words of inspiration to recreate herself whole and complete is a global movement. Listen for the meaning of #sexybrilliant at 21:00 The spiritual side of sexuality Owning the vocabulary of sexuality as a woman Devina Kaur is a fun-loving, flamboyant, straight-talking author, entrepreneur, filmmaker, researcher, and inspirational speaker. Born and raised in rural India, she fought to reconcile her traditional upbringing with her ambitions. After a lifetime of being told that she was too fat, too loud, and too ambitious, her world fell apart when she was in her 30s after her arranged marriage ended. Thirty years of desperately trying to be the person everyone else wanted had resulted in loneliness, depression, and confusion. While looking for purpose and meaning, Devina embarked on a journey of self-discovery that led her to start the Sexy Brilliant Global Revolution. Seeking a genuine connection to real people, she would meet potential dates, friends, and business partners in unconventional places. Fearlessly jumping into new educational and business ventures, she built on every success and failure as an opportunity to learn more about herself and her many talents. She has multiple university degrees including teaching, environmental science, and business with a keen eye for discernment in all things. Daring to step out of her comfort zone, Devina quickly learned that the dating scene was just another superficial construct where potential dates portrayed themselves in a way that they knew others would find attractive, not as their true selves. Too Fat, Too Loud, Too Ambitious is Devina's first book, and possibly the world's first ever X-rated, self-help workbook now available at all major bookstores across the globe. In TFTLTA, she shares her self-discovery, spiritual and sexual awakenings along with life empowerment from the inside out in a candid, soul-searching way. Devina, although gifted with expression, is diagnosed with ADD and writing a book did not come naturally to her. She is best described as an accidental author. Devina communicates well across cultures, speaking several languages including English, Hindi, French, and Spanish. In addition to her business, Devina is a humanitarian and philanthropist, most recently traveling to volunteer at orphanages in Rwanda and Guatemala. In addition to her role as a businesswoman, Devina is a martial artist, full-time single mother and lives with her family in Montreal, Canada. Please find Devina and her message of empowerment on www.sexybrilliant.com foundation. Social Media profile: @TheDevinaKaur on ALL social media! Read a chapter from my newest book for FREE on www.toofattooloudtooambitious.com LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/thedevinakaur Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheDevinaKaur Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheDevinaKaur/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/thedevinakaur YouTube: http://YouTube.com/c/SexyBrilliant --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/cordelia-gaffar0/support

For people who wear plus-size apparel, it’s often downright impossible to find the gear necessary to get out and stay warm, safe, and dry on the mountain. That’s what this two-part series is about. In part two, we hear from Mon Balon, the founder of Plus Snow - an online retail shop that sells plus size snow gear to fulfill the need for quality gear that fits a variety of plus size bodies. Mon shares the origin story of Plus Snow, talks about how misleading supply & demand can be within the industry, and shares why she's so passionate about this work.In part one, we talk with Marielle Elizabeth. Marielle is a photographer, model, fat advocate, and the writer of a viral essay in The Cut titled “Apparently, I’m Too Fat to Ski.” Marielle speaks first hand about the need for plus size winter apparel, as well as the changes she’d like to see across the outdoor industry. Part 1 is also available now in your feed.Featured in this episode:  Marielle ElizabethHosted & Produced by Gale StraubA production of Ravel MediaSponsored by Danner &  IKON PassJoin the She Explores Podcast community on FacebookVisit She-Explores.com & Follow Us on InstagramResourcesFeatured in this episode: Mon BalonPlus Snow websiteInstagram: @plussnowMarielle's Essay in The Cut: "Apparently, I'm Too Fat to Ski."Unlikely HIkersPlus SnowRavel MediaSponsors and Discount CodesIKON Pass: Learn more about 20/21 winter season at IkonPass.com.Danner: Learn more about the Danner Trail 2650's.Episodes air weekly on Wednesdays-- subscribe wherever you listen so you never miss an episode.Music is by James Childs and Kazi Jay via MusicBed

For people who wear plus-size apparel, it’s often downright impossible to find the gear necessary to get out and stay warm, safe, and dry on the mountain. That’s what this two-part series is about. In part one, we talk with Marielle Elizabeth. Marielle is a photographer, model, fat advocate, and the writer of a viral essay in The Cut titled “Apparently, I’m Too Fat to Ski.” Marielle speaks first hand about the need for plus size winter apparel, as well as the changes she’d like to see across the outdoor industry.In part 2, we hear from Mon Balon, the founder of Plus Snow - an online retail shop that sells plus size snow gear to fulfill the need that Marielle speaks of. Part 2 is available now in your feed.Featured in this episode:  Marielle ElizabethHosted & Produced by Gale StraubA production of Ravel MediaSponsored by Danner &  IKON PassJoin the She Explores Podcast community on FacebookVisit She-Explores.com & Follow Us on InstagramResourcesFeatured in this episode: Marielle ElizabethWebsiteInstagram: @marielle.elizabethMarielle's Essay in The Cut: "Apparently, I'm Too Fat to Ski."Unlikely HIkersPlus SnowRavel MediaSponsors and Discount CodesIKON Pass: Learn more about 20/21 winter season at IkonPass.com.Danner: Learn more about the Danner Trail 2650's.Episodes air weekly on Wednesdays-- subscribe wherever you listen so you never miss an episode.Music is by James Childs and Kazi Jay via MusicBed

In this episode, Animas Centre Director Robert Stephenson is joined by transformational coach, community builder, engagement strategist and founder of global fitness brand ‘Too Fat to Run', Julie Creffield. Julie shares her background from rebellious student with a passion for drama to her time spent working as a project manager at the olympics before becoming a coach and turning her plus-size running blog into a global fitness brand which has now seen her help more than 15,000 women from all around the world. Touching on her passion for building communities and tribes Julie shares how she came to create the global fitness brand ‘Too Fat to Run', the impact it has had, what she loves about this work, and her vision to help a million people through her coaching. Julie also shares a little around how she came to study with Animas, her take on the topic of whether to niche as a coach as well as the importance of identity and how we show up in various spaces, not just as coaches, but as people.  We hope you enjoy this episode! Find out more about Julie and her work here: https://juliecreffield.com/ Don't forget to subscribe for a new episode every Tuesday!

How did we get to a place where life's become an endless treadmill of work? In her latest book, Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation, Anne Helen Petersen tackles this question. Her book is for anyone who feels their life has become an endless to-do list. In particular, Petersen describes the plight of today's millennials, a generation she believes is under constant pressure to perform. She explains how, for many millennials, it begins in childhood, when activities originally intended for fun get repurposed for resume building. She argues, "You're taking things that are meant to be leisure, that are meant to be those joyful corners of your life that are not work, and you're turning them into work." Petersen discusses the social and economic forces that have led to this cultural shift, including the demise of labor unions, increasing reliance on contract workers, and the rise of the gig economy. In each case, she points out how companies benefit, while workers struggle to make ends meet. At the same time, she wonders if millennials are the generation that can break the cycle. She muses, "I'm curious if we can refigure our relationship to work. I am curious if millennials are broken, if we are just too far down this road, or if we can take a different road." Anne Helen Petersen is a senior culture writer for BuzzFeed. A former academic, she received a Ph.D. at the University of Texas at Austin, where she focused on the history of celebrity gossip. Her previous books, Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud and Scandals of Classic Hollywood, were featured on NPR, Elle, and The Atlantic. Curious Minds Team Learn more about creator and host, Gayle Allen, and producer and editor, Rob Mancabelli, here. Episode Links The Remix: How to Lead and Succeed in the Multigenerational Workplace by Lindsey Pollak How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation by Anne Helen Petersen Annette Lareau Temp: How American Work, American Business, and the American Dream Became Temporary by Louis Hyman The Fissured Workplace: Why Work Became So Bad for So Many and What Can be Done to Improve It by David Weil The Effects of 'Clopening' on Employees: What Employers Can Do by Tom Starner Are You Just LARPing Your Job by John Herrman How Does Your Ugly Garden Grow? by Anne Helen Petersen Ways to Support the Podcast If you're a fan of the show, there are three simple things you can do to support our work: Rate and review the podcast on iTunes or wherever you subscribe. In the next week, tell one person about the show. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. Where to Find Curious Minds Spotify iTunes Tunein Stitcher Google Podcasts Overcast

First Draft Episode #272: Anne Helen Peterson Anne Helen Petersen, freelance journalist and cultural critic with her biweekly newsletter, and author of nonfiction books Scandals of Classic Hollywood: Sex, Deviance, and Drama from the Golden Age of American Cinema and Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman, talks about her newest book, Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation.   Links and Topics Mentioned In This Episode Anne’s Facebook group, Celebrity Gossip, Academic Style Anne’s series on The Hairpin, Classic Scandals of Hollywood “Confidentially Yours: The Banality of the Celebrity Profile, and How It Got That Way,” for The Believer “The Rules of the Game: A Century of Hollywood Publicity,” for Virginia Quarterly “Jennifer Lawrence And The History Of Cool Girls,” for Buzzfeed “How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation,” for Buzzfeed “How Do You Rebuild Your Life After Leaving A Polygamous Sect?,” for Buzzfeed Temp: The Real Story of What Happened to Your Salary, Benefits, and Job Security by Louis Hyman   I want to hear from you! Have a question about writing or creativity for Sarah Enni or her guests to answer? To leave a voicemail, call (818) 533-1998 or send an email to mailbag @ firstdraftpod dot com! Subscribe To First Draft with Sarah Enni Every Tuesday, I speak to storytellers like Veronica Roth, author of Divergent; National Ambassador for Young People’s Literature Jason Reynolds; Leigh Bardugo, author of Ninth House and the Grishaverse series; Creator of Sex and the City Candace Bushnell; YouTube empresario and author Hank Green; Actors, comedians and screenwriters Jessica St. Clair and Lennon Parham; author and host of NPR’s Pop Culture Happy Hour podcast Linda Holmes; Bestselling authors and co-hosts of the Call Your Girlfriend podcast, Ann Friedman and Aminatou Sow; Michael Dante  DiMartino, co-creator of Avatar: The Last Airbender; John August, screenwriter of Big Fish and co-host of the Sciptnotes podcast; or Rhett Miller, musician and frontman for The Old 97s. Together, we take deep dives on their careers and creative works. Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you get your podcasts. Track Changes If you’re looking for more information on how to get published, or the traditional publishing industry, check out the Track Changes podcast series, and sign up for the Track Changes weekly newsletter. Support the Show Love the show? Make a monthly or one-time donation at Paypal.me/FirstDraft. Rate, Review, and Recommend Take a moment to rate and review First Draft with Sarah Enni in Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts. Your honest and positive review helps others discover the show -- so thank you! Is there someone you think would love this podcast as much as you do? Just click the Share button at the bottom of this post! Thanks again!

On this week's episode of the Nutrition's My Life Podcast, guest, Amanda King joined us to talk about confidence and how she stripped down into her underwear in the middle of NEW YORK to show girls that beauty and confidence LOOKS GOOD ON EVERYONE!! She shares how her parent's actions and words led to many years of yo-yo dieting and not being her authentic self.  Today we share with you that YOU ARE ENOUGH and that the voices you hear saying you're "TOO FAT" or "TOO THIN" are just other people's insecurities about themselves and has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! Confidence is something that comes from doing SCARY AF SH*T!! Listen to this week's episode and let us know WHY you've been stuck and what you're going to do to RE-CLAIM CONFIDENCE, No Matter What Body Shape! Learn more about Amanda King by visiting the following: Website: https://www.fierceasfucktribe.com/ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/fierceasfucktribe/ Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fierceasfcktribe/

Walking and Chewing Gum! New Time Slot! A Weird Saturday Morning! Kayleigh McEneny is Classy! Earthworm Jim’s Evolution! Canine Bathrooms! Questioning Sign Language! The News Worth Knowing! Ted Wheeler Heckled In Portland! Mitch McConnell Quotes The Satanic Verses! Marine Vet Faces Portland Rioters! The 2020 MLB Season! Teacher Fired For Pro-Trump Tweets! Too Fat for a Gondola!

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  In today's episode, we'll explore fat fertility & pregnancy with Nicola Salmon & Ashley Dorough It was a Tuesday night in early December and I was scrolling through my Instagram feed and started watching stories from my friend and client Ashley Dorough. What I saw was highly disturbing... it sent a chill down my spine. Testimonial after testimonial of women's fertility journey: “I had to get a lap band surgery to be accepted in a fertility treatment” “The fertility clinic is refusing to treat me because of my weight” “I don't want to go on a diet nor don't I believe in intentional weight loss but I have no choice... no weight loss no baby according to the specialist” “At every appointment, both the nurse and doctor shamed me because of my weight... they say I put my baby at risk because I'm not trying hard enough to lose weight... and this, while being pregnant.” “I have PCOS and my specialist is refusing to do any treatment before I lose weight. No choice but to diet.” Yes, all of these testimonials are 100% true... all of these are from real women. ... and yes, before you ask, these were from the year 2020. Daily, women in “overweight” BMI body are refused medical fertility treatment because of their body weight and if they do get pregnant then they are fat-shamed once more because of their body weight. When You're Told You're Too Fat to Get Pregnant As a good professional, I started doing my research... I googled fat fertility. I found this June 2019 article from Virginia Sole-Smith, "When you're told you're too fat to get pregnant."  ‘Patients are told to lose weight to have a healthy baby. But it's possible that by doing so, you may be at higher risk for complications than you were before.'- Dr. Legro Dr. Richard S. Legro, a professor of public health services and chair of obstetrics and gynecology at Penn State University is quoted “I think we've been overexaggerating the benefits of preconception weight loss, in fact, a fixation on weight may be leading health care astray.” The article was filled with research on fertility and pregnancy in higher BMI. Must read for every woman. After much reading and research, I realized that I didn't know much about this topic and I needed to educate myself. Most importantly, I needed to raise this issue and use my platform to bring awareness and resources to women struggling with this topic. This is how this podcast episode was born. In today's episode, we have two experts on fat fertility and pregnancy. Being able to say “this is not my area of expertise” is essential in any health professional. Being able to refer to the expert is a sign of wisdom.  So, I sought two experts for today's episode. One health expert and one lived experience expert. Nicola Salmon is a fat-positive and feminist fertility coach and author of “Fat and Fertile”. Nicola is an acupuncturist & naturopath practicing in the UK and she supports fat people who want to get pregnant using her unique FAT fertility framework to find their own version of health without diets, advocate for their bodies, relearn how to trust their body and believe in their ability to get pregnant in their current body. Ashley Dorough is a stylist and fashion blogger at the House of Dorough, the website on her recovery journey from chronic dieting and lived experience in fat fertility and pregnancy. She's a mama of two. What you'll learn listening to this episode: Is it true that people in bigger bodies have difficulty getting pregnant? How do you stay positive while trying to get pregnant in a fat body? How do I stop focusing on my weight and what to do instead? Proactive things to do when you want to get pregnant in a bigger body How to Advocate for your body with doctors who won't treat you. Can they legally decline you? The risks of being pregnant in a bigger body? Any? PCOS. Do you have to lose weight to ovulate? Treatments for fertility in bigger bodies - Does IVF work for people in bigger bodies? Fertility Diets. Should I cut out carbs? Mentioned on the show: Going Beyond the Food Academy New-York Time Article Fat & Fertile Book Nicola Free Resources:  Freebie - Fat Person's Guide to Getting Pregnant  Free Resource - IVF and BMI Research Summary  Connect with Nicola Instagram Free Facebook Group Website Connect with Ashley Instagram Website

  In today's episode, we'll explore fat fertility & pregnancy with Nicola Salmon & Ashley Dorough It was a Tuesday night in early December and I was scrolling through my Instagram feed and started watching stories from my friend and client Ashley Dorough. What I saw was highly disturbing... it sent a chill down my spine. Testimonial after testimonial of women’s fertility journey: “I had to get a lap band surgery to be accepted in a fertility treatment” “The fertility clinic is refusing to treat me because of my weight” “I don’t want to go on a diet nor don’t I believe in intentional weight loss but I have no choice... no weight loss no baby according to the specialist” “At every appointment, both the nurse and doctor shamed me because of my weight... they say I put my baby at risk because I’m not trying hard enough to lose weight... and this, while being pregnant.” “I have PCOS and my specialist is refusing to do any treatment before I lose weight. No choice but to diet.” Yes, all of these testimonials are 100% true... all of these are from real women. ... and yes, before you ask, these were from the year 2020. Daily, women in “overweight” BMI body are refused medical fertility treatment because of their body weight and if they do get pregnant then they are fat-shamed once more because of their body weight. When You’re Told You’re Too Fat to Get Pregnant As a good professional, I started doing my research... I googled fat fertility. I found this June 2019 article from Virginia Sole-Smith, "When you’re told you’re too fat to get pregnant."  ‘Patients are told to lose weight to have a healthy baby. But it’s possible that by doing so, you may be at higher risk for complications than you were before.’- Dr. Legro Dr. Richard S. Legro, a professor of public health services and chair of obstetrics and gynecology at Penn State University is quoted “I think we’ve been overexaggerating the benefits of preconception weight loss, in fact, a fixation on weight may be leading health care astray.” The article was filled with research on fertility and pregnancy in higher BMI. Must read for every woman. After much reading and research, I realized that I didn’t know much about this topic and I needed to educate myself. Most importantly, I needed to raise this issue and use my platform to bring awareness and resources to women struggling with this topic. This is how this podcast episode was born. In today’s episode, we have two experts on fat fertility and pregnancy. Being able to say “this is not my area of expertise” is essential in any health professional. Being able to refer to the expert is a sign of wisdom.  So, I sought two experts for today’s episode. One health expert and one lived experience expert. Nicola Salmon is a fat-positive and feminist fertility coach and author of “Fat and Fertile”. Nicola is an acupuncturist & naturopath practicing in the UK and she supports fat people who want to get pregnant using her unique FAT fertility framework to find their own version of health without diets, advocate for their bodies, relearn how to trust their body and believe in their ability to get pregnant in their current body. Ashley Dorough is a stylist and fashion blogger at the House of Dorough, the website on her recovery journey from chronic dieting and lived experience in fat fertility and pregnancy. She’s a mama of two. What you'll learn listening to this episode: Is it true that people in bigger bodies have difficulty getting pregnant? How do you stay positive while trying to get pregnant in a fat body? How do I stop focusing on my weight and what to do instead? Proactive things to do when you want to get pregnant in a bigger body How to Advocate for your body with doctors who won’t treat you. Can they legally decline you? The risks of being pregnant in a bigger body? Any? PCOS. Do you have to lose weight to ovulate? Treatments for fertility in bigger bodies - Does IVF work for people in bigger bodies? Fertility Diets. Should I cut out carbs? Mentioned on the show: Going Beyond the Food Academy New-York Time Article Fat & Fertile Book Nicola Free Resources:  Freebie - Fat Person's Guide to Getting Pregnant  Free Resource - IVF and BMI Research Summary  Connect with Nicola Instagram Free Facebook Group Website Connect with Ashley Instagram Website

In this two-part episode, fellow anti-diet mom Virginia Sole-Smith and I discuss the ways in which culture sabotages parents, especially moms, by upholding unhelpful beliefs about food and weight. Tune in where we discuss how to handle unwelcome comments about our kids’ bodies or food choices, what to do when they say “fat,” and how to model body positivity. Plus I share some of my best tips for parents in setting boundaries with love and kindness. You’ll also hear me talk about the “back off” Lunch Box card by The Feeding Doctor, Katja Rowell, MD and I share my experiences with my kids eating at school. Links mentioned The Feeding Doctor’s Lunch Box “Back Off” note Leslie Schilling’s completed “back off” card on Facebook and available in Born to Eat book. Here’s a few of Virginia’s recent articles on higher weight fertility, higher weight eating disorders, and the Kurbo weight loss app for kids: New York Times Magazine: When You’re Told You’re Too Fat to Get Pregnant Elemental: Who’s Considered Thin Enough for Eating Disorder Treatment? New York Times: A New Weight Watchers App for Kids Raises Concerns Did you miss Part 1 of “Please don’t screw up our kids?” Virginia shares her rock bottom moment of what it took to finally give her daughter chocolate milk and why she had to unlearn much of what she learned from culture, her childhood, and her work as a writer and editor within the health and beauty industry. Listen to the episode and check out the show notes here. --- Get the Body Kindness book It's available wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Read reviews on Amazon and pick up your copy today! Order signed copies and bulk discounts here! --- Donate to support the show Thanks to our generous supporters! We're working toward our goal to fund the full season. Can you donate? Please visit our Go Fund Me page. --- Get started with Body Kindness Sign up to get started for free and stay up to date on the latest offerings --- Become a client Check out BodyKindnessBook.com/breakthrough for the latest groups and individual support sessions --- Subscribe to the podcastWe're on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify and iHeartRadio. Enjoy the show? Please rate it on iTunes! Have a show idea or guest recommendation? E-mail podcast@bodykindnessbook.com to get in touch. --- Join the Facebook groupContinue the episode conversations with the hosts, guests, and fellow listeners on the Body Kindness Facebook group. See you there! Nothing in this podcast is meant to provide medical diagnosis, treatment, cure, or prevent any disease or condition. Individuals should consult a qualified healthcare provider for medical advice and answers to personal health questions.

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Welcome to Everything Trying to Kill You, the comedy podcast that talks about horror movies! In episode , “Too Fat for our Armor” about Drew Goddard’s Bad Times at the El Royale, your hosts Mary Kay McBrayer and Mary Beyer welcome on Kelli McAdams, co-founder of the podcast #Book Squad Goals. They answer important questions like these: Which celebrities would you draft into your cult? What genre is this movie? What elements of horror did you see in this movie? Who did Rose kill before? Are we supposed to believe that she killed her dad, too? Which Chris plays the devil in this movie? Which Chris is the hottest? Was there any one scene in particular that was “scary?” What’s the point of the Manson family reference? Is the El Royale a real place? Who was on the tape? Did you like the structure of this movie? Could this movie have been a play? What was your favorite line from this movie? Who would you steal from each host’s cults? Bad Times at the El Royale (2019)—Directed by Drew Goddard, Performances by Jeff Bridges, Chris Hemsworth, Dakota Johnson, Cynthia ErivoGenre: Horror, Thriller, Suspense, Mystery, Drama, Cults, 1960s, Conspiracy TheoriesWhere to watch: HBOSummary: The El Royale is run-down hotel that sits on the border between California and Nevada. It soon becomes a seedy battleground when seven strangers -- a cleric, a soul singer, a traveling salesman, two sisters, the manager and the mysterious Billy Lee -- converge on a fateful night for one last shot at redemption before everything goes wrong.Links: #Book Squad Goals--Kelli's podcast!

Anne Helen Petersen is a Senior Culture Writer at Buzzfeed News, based in Missoula, MT. She earned her Ph.D. in Media Studies from the University of Texas and is the author of two books – “Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Women” and “Scandals of Classic Hollywood: Sex, Deviance, and Drama from the Golden Age of American Cinema.” Anne's reporting covers an incredibly wide range of topics, but her recent focus on millennial burnout is the focal point of this conversation. We also discuss how burnout affects men and women differently, as well as her experience in academia, and her observations of the goings-on here at the University of Montana.

Elisabeth Lechner ist Doktorandin an der Universität Wien. Sie forscht und lehrt zum Thema Schönheits-und Körpernormen, Body Positivity Bewegung, Body Neutrality und Lookism. Was das alles bedeutet, erklärt sie uns in dieser Folge. Inklusive Tipps wie man am schnellsten zum Beach Body kommt - also tune in. Video über Elisabeths Forschung Elisabeths Playlist "Every Body is a Beach Body" Elisabeth auf Twitter und auf Instagram   Empfohlene Instagram - Accounts: @bodyposipanda  @baddiewinkle  @harnaamkaur  @bodyimagemovement @periodmovement @bloodygoodperiod @femproject @beautyinbloodus  @einhorn.period und @einhorn.berlin @inaholub  @minusgold  @alexandra_stanic @csiriano @ashleynelltipton @theashleygraham @tessholliday @effyourbeautystandards @marquitapring @nadiaaboulhosn @preciousleexoxo @notoriouslydapper  @rupikaur_  @sarahandersencomics @planetprudence  @celestebarber  @lenadunham @roxanegay74   Empfohlene Bücher: Megan Jayne Crabbe: „Body Positivity - Liebe deinen Körper. Vergiss Diäten und begrüße dein Leben“ Lena Dunham: "Not That Kind of Girl" Roxane Gay: "Bad Feminist" Viva la Vagina! Alles über das weibliche Geschlecht  Margarete Stokowski: "Untenrum Frei" und "Die letzten Tage des Patriarchats" Anne Helen Petersen: "Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman"  Laurie Penny : „Fleischmarkt“ und „Bitch Doctrine“und  „Unsagbare Dinge“ Andi Zeisler: „Wir waren doch mal Feministinnen: Vom Riot Grrrl zum Covergirl - Der Ausverkauf einer politischen Bewegung“  Sara Ahmed: "The Cultural Politics of Emotion" Tressie McMillan-Cottom: "Thick" Zum Thema Intensivierung und Extensivierung von Schönheitsdruck: https://www.palgrave.com/gp/book/9781137477644 Zum Thema Verletzlichkeit:https://www.manchesteruniversitypress.co.uk/9781526133090  Zum Thema politics vs. economies of visibility: https://www.dukeupress.edu/empowered         Serien/Filme:   Embrace von Taryn Brumfitt   "Girls" (2012-2017, 6 Staffeln, HBO) von Lena Dunham   "Shrill"     Sonst: Casey Jenkins: Vaginal Knitting     __________________________________________   Große Töchter unterstützen: https://steadyhq.com/de/grossetoechterpodcast https://www.grossetoechter-podcast.at/   Facebook Instagram        

Hello Mommies, her name is Battarina but don't you dare call her that! Christina starts this ep with showing us what TikTok's algorithm thinks she likes. And these are some of the COOLEST group of people you have ever seen! There's also a new show on TLC called "Too Fat to Transition" that Tom and Christina absolutely LOVE. The Charo Fart has touched so many lives and there is new merch to commemorate it available in the merch store! Tom and Christina give Charo a call to see how she feels about this great moment being commemorated. The impact of Charo's fart has been felt around the word and we want her to see it! Also, Tom and Christina have upped their coffee station game and remind everyone which coffee is supreme, plus one elderly woman goes for an extreme helicopter ride. Next, Josh Potter joins to discuss his pending trip to the Big Apple to see Robert Paul Champagne. Plus we get to see some entries in the "Make Josh Come" contest. You wouldn't believe how genuinely great these submissions are. We're all really excited for him. Finally, we have a Theo update you might not like.

Devina Kaur is a fun-loving, flamboyant, straight-talking author, entrepreneur, filmmaker and inspirational speaker. Born and raised in rural India, she fought to reconcile her traditional upbringing with her ambitions. After a lifetime of being told she was too fat, too loud and too ambitious, her world fell apart in her 30s when her arranged marriage ended. Thirty years of desperately trying to be the person everyone else wanted had resulted in loneliness, depression and confusion. While looking for purpose and meaning, Devina embarked on a journey of self-discovery that led her to start the Sexy Brilliant Global Revolution. ​Too Fat, Too Loud, Too Ambitious is Devina’s first book, and possibly the world’s first ever X-rated self-help book with an expected date of release early 2019. In TFTLTA, she shares her self-discovery, spiritual and sexual awakenings along with life empowerment in a candid, soul-searching way. Devina, although gifted with expression, is also ADD and writing a book did not come naturally to her. She is best described as an accidental author. Devina is a full time single mother and lives with her family in Canada. 

What do you share with the world—and what do you hold back? How do you talk about family secrets or childhood trauma with strangers? And what happens when you bring more of your most personal experiences to your work? This week, we go deep on the power of getting personal—and the choices we have to make along the way. Before we start, Sara and Katel break some bad news: Jenn’s not here today, and it’s looking like she won’t be able to join us for the rest of the season. We’re sending some big hugs her way, but we have so much to talk about right now, we’re gonna keep on going. Our guest today is the incredibly kind, talented, and just plain fucking rad writer and editor Nicole Chung. She’s the author of the new memoir, All You Can Ever Know—which is on sale T O D A Y (ugh just buy it already). It chronicles her story of transracial adoption, growing up in a white family in small-town Oregon, and finding her birth family while starting to raise her own children. Reading it made us laugh and cry and fall even more in love with Nicole. In addition to being an author, Nicole is also the editor-in-chief of Catapult, a literary magazine, and the former managing editor of The Toast, everyone’s favorite weird-funny-feminist site. We had so much to talk with her about. Follow Nicole : Twitter | Insta > It was difficult to start sharing such personal stories about my family and about adoption and about racism that I’d experienced. And it’s not necessarily that I needed someone externally to validate them or to say, “this is legitimate, this really happened, this is important,” but I think just a little human kindness and, like, honestly went a very, very long way. The Toast was a fantastic community… Every time I wrote something there—I mean, both the goofy stuff like “If John Cho Were Your Boyfriend” and the more serious pieces on race or adoption or family—the response was overwhelmingly positive and supportive, and it was just really a privilege and a honor to get to edit and publish and write for that community at The Toast. I think it did make me braver. > —Nicole Chung, author, All You Can Ever Know Links from the interview Nicole’s longread about writing while grieving The long history of Oregon’s racist exclusion laws Love for Nicole’s editor, Julie Buntin at Catapult Nicole’s writing at The Toast, including If John Cho Were Your Boyfriend All You Can Ever Know, on sale now Also in this episode Chatting with Nicole got us thinking a lot about what it means to share your story with the world—in your writing, in a talk, or, say…on a podcast. So we dive into some of our own stories, and the choices we’ve made to tell—or not tell—them in our work. > You spend a long time purposefully not talking about it and reminding yourself to push it down, push it down, push it down that when it all comes back up and you’re purposefully sharing it, that feels weird. > —Sara We touch on: Our most recent newsletter, where Katel talks about being sexually harassed by a boss. The conflict between wanting to speak your truth, but finding it exhausting. As Emma Gray writes, “I am so tired of women having to mine their pain to convince men of their humanity.” Sara telling hundreds of strangers that she was sexually abused—in the middle of a design conference. Lisa Maria Martin’s great post on keeping politics out of your talk. Plus, did you know you can listen to books? Katel discovers the joy of audiobooks with Anne Helen Petersen’s Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman. Meanwhile, Sara shares what she’s planning to read in her slippers this fall: Rebecca Traister’s new book, Good and Mad: The Revolutionary Power of Women’s Anger, also out today! Dope Queen Phoebe Robinson’s new essay collection, Everything’s Trash But It’s OK, coming out later this month. Michelle Obama’s memoir, Becoming, due out in November. Sponsors This episode of NYG is brought to you by: Shopify, a leading global commerce platform that’s building a world-class team to define the future of entrepreneurship. Visit shopify.com/careers for more. Harvest, makers of awesome software to help you track your time, manage your projects, and get paid. Try it free, then use code NOYOUGO to get 50% off your first paid month. Transcript [Ad spot] Sara Wachter-Boettcher NYG is sponsored by Harvest, the tool I use to track time, manage projects and send invoices. You can even integrate your Harvest account with accounting software like Xero or QuickBooks. I’ve got to get that set up! Try Harvest for free at getharvest.com and if you like it half as much as I do, then use code NOYOUGO when you upgrade. That will get you 50% off your first paid month. That’s getharvest.com, code NOYOUGO. [intro music plays for twelve seconds] Katel LeDû Welcome to NYG, I’m Katel LeDû. SWB I’m Sara Wachter-Boettcher, and you probably noticed that Jenn’s not here today. And unfortunately it looks like she’s probably not going to join us for the rest of the season. She’s taking some time off from the podcast—as you know, she’s got a lot going on. But there’s just so much we still want to be talking about this fall. There’s political stuff—there’s the midterm elections, all the bullshit happening in the Supreme Court—and there’s also work stuff. Like me and Katel, we have started research for a little side hustle that we are hyped to start talking about with all of you. KL Plus I feel like we’re kind of getting good at this whole podcast thing. And we have so many rad people we still want to interview, so we’re going to keep going. Starting with today’s guest, Nicole Chung. She’s the author of the new memoir out now: _All You Can Ever Know_—about being adopted into a white family, raised in rural Oregon, and then deciding to find her birth family as an adult. We tried to keep cool, but we were total fan girls. SWB Talking to Nicole about writing a memoir just got me thinking a lot about my own writing. Especially—how I write about, and when I write about, personal stories. And I’ve done a little bit of that and I know Katel, you have too. In our last newsletter, you wrote about being sexually harassed by your boss and you told this story that really stuck with me where you just talked about him coming into your office and telling you how sexy it was that you spoke French and trying to get you to say something in French to him, which is all super gross and creepy. But I’m really curious—it was powerful for me to hear the specifics of what had happened and to sort of be able to see myself in that place with you and really feel for you there. And I’m wondering what it was like for you to write about it in that specific of a way? KL Gosh, I—it was definitely hard and also great I think, in a way. I remember writing the first draft and it was like three pages long because I—all of a sudden I just was remembering it and I hadn’t thought about that whole experience in a while. And all of a sudden I just was word vomiting out every, single detail and every aspect. And then—you know—I had to go through and kind of—I did a few second and third drafts thinking about what exactly I wanted to share and how I wanted to tell that story and—you know—make sure I was still kind of protecting myself. [2:44] SWB That’s something that’s hard to sort out—right? KL Yeah. SWB Like how much do you want to talk about your history and when and why you’re doing it. I think about this when it comes to bringing up my history with sexual abuse, which is something I’ve done a lot. I’ve mentioned it in one of my books and I’ve mentioned it in a lot of my talks on stage at conferences and I’ve talked about it on Twitter. But it’s interesting—you know—for a long time, I never really talked about the details. In fact, I remember the first time I brought it up, I was giving a talk and it was relevant to the topic I was talking about. I was talking about sort of being asked about that later in a form, but I acknowledged being sexually abused in this sort of very evasive way or sort of blink and you miss it sort of way, it was very easy to not have heard that that’s what I was doing if you weren’t paying attention so much to the talk. And that felt really hard for me at first, but it was almost like once I’d done it, I wanted to keep doing it. And sort of like half step at a time, talk about it in more specific detail or talk about it with a little bit more sort of ownership of it and not sort of making it be something that I am vaguely alluding to, but just saying it as it is. And so I feel like half step at a time, half step at a time, up to now—you know—recently I posted this Twitter thread about sort of like how we want to let men who’ve harassed ourselves or abused people sort of like come back into the fold. And I sort of talked about my experience and I talked about it more specifically than I had before. And still not that specifically, honestly, where—you know—it was a teenage neighbor boy who had sexually abused me for a long time when I was a really little kid and I’m thinking more and more that I want to tell that story in a deeper way and with that kind of detail that allows you to kind of—you know—understand what it was like, and also understand sort of the aftermath of that and kind of let go of some of the sort of long-standing shame that built up around it that I know I don’t deserve to have, but—you spend a long time purposefully not talking about it and reminding yourself to push it down, push it down, push it down that when it all comes back up and you’re purposefully sharing it, that feels weird. [4:59] KL Yeah, it totally does. And I think just talking about that whole idea of shame—you know—I think with your experience and as I wrote in the newsletter with mine—you know—this isn’t—this isn’t a new story, but it’s also when you think about the fact that as part of those stories and experiences, we weren’t believed or we were doubted that the thing that happened to us even happened to us. That makes it so much fucking harder and it’s like—I don’t know—I think that perpetuates the feeling of shame, it makes us feel like we can’t go into detail and that feels—that feels really terrible. I was sharing with you earlier that someone wrote to me after the newsletter went out and the first thing they said was just “I am so sorry that happened to you.” And that made me so relieved and feel very emotional because I think that that should be the absolute first thing that we start saying in this situation. Not—you know—surprise at like “oh my gosh, really?” It’s like “yeah, no, I’m so sorry, now let’s talk about it.” SWB You know, I don’t know that I’ve talked about this on the show before, but for about three years when I was in college I worked at a rape crisis center and I specifically worked in their education program, which meant I primarily talked to kids—middle schoolers was the number one audience we were able to get the okay from schools to go in and talk—to talk to them about sexual abuse and to talk to them about both child sexual abuse and things like consent. That’s a whole other show topic that we’ll get into at some point— KL [laughing] Yes. SWB —because actually I can’t believe we’ve never talked about this before. KL Yeah. SWB But one of the things that we learned very early on in the process of being trained to do this kind of work was to say literally that—right? “I’m sorry that happened to you.” There’s something powerful about it because it’s like there’s no question about whether it happened to you—right? And there’s no surprise, it’s more like there’s a tacit acknowledge that just exists that it happened. KL Yes. SWB And that is something that people need to hear because they’ve often heard so many messages from the people who have abused them or from culture at large that it doesn’t happen or it’s something to be shameful about. And to just be like “no, this happened and we can take that as a foundation that it happened and then talk about how we feel about it and what we’re going to do about it.” The other kinds of things we learned very early were conversations about saying very explicitly like “I believe you.” People are so afraid they’re not going to be believed, they’ve been told they’re not going to be believed, and then also “it’s not your fault.” Because that’s another one that often times abusers will tell people that it’s their fault—something they did—or other people will tell them that or that’s where the shame kicks in. And just you have to do a lot of work to counteract those messages. KL Yeah, to me when I hear that, it just boils my blood because it’s never a person’s fault when they’re harassed. Nothing you do ever warrants being harassed or abused, like that’s just—you can say that without having gender or anything in the mix. It’s like—we can all agree on that. [laughs] SWB Yeah—as we’re talking about all of this, it’s interesting. We started out this podcast saying this is really about work and about—you know—ambition and careers and sort of what drives us and it’s interesting because people have questioned me before about why I would bring up things like sexual abuse in a professional setting or why I want to talk about this stuff when I’m also wanting to talk about my career. But for me, the more we talk about this, the more clear it is that I cannot actually separate those. I can’t separate out the professional I am now from the little kid who experienced abuse, or from the college student whose first experience with public speaking was going into those middle schools to talk to kids. Those are all me and all of that experience directly informs the work that I do and what happened to you that you talked about on the newsletter—being sexually harassed by your boss happened to you at work. It’s directly tied to your career. And so I think it’s so valuable for us to kind of dig deeper on this stuff and think about the way that that does shape and drive the people that we are at work. KL Yes. I can’t separate the things that impact me at work from the work I do and I don’t want to. You know, I—when people talk about the idea of quote, unquote keeping politics out of work or anything we do, it’s like that question doesn’t even make sense to me. And it shouldn’t—you know—everything is political. SWB Yeah—our friend, Lisa Maria Martin—shoutout to Lisa Maria—she wrote this post a while back after a conference organizer had told speakers not to be political in their talks where she was basically like “look, that’s impossible.” Because you’re asking for this sort of false neutrality like, as you said, there is no neutral—because by defining what is and is not acceptable to discuss on stage, what’s political, what’s not political, what’s too political, you are making choices. So, she’s basically saying the conference organizer is making choices and those choices come down to politics themselves. “You are always excluding something,” she says, “or more likely, someone.” And—this is one of my favorite quotes—“for too many people in the world, their entire existence has been coded by society as too political.” And we are too political because we exist. Because we were harassed or abused, because we have periods, as we talked about a couple of episodes ago—right? We’re too political just being here and so if somebody tells us to not be political, then what they’re really saying to me is “don’t be.” [10:40] KL Yeah, completely. I am not interested in that. You know, the other thing that I think about when we’re talking about this, is I was just on a podcast where I talked about work and our podcast and [laughs] my therapist being on our show and we just—you know—dug into a lot of stuff. Plus I’m writing more in our newsletters, which I love, and that is really cathartic to talk and write about that stuff, but it’s also resurfacing trauma. And I mean I’ve talked about this with my therapist—you know—after writing some of the letters I’ve written for the newsletter, I’ve [laughs] gone into therapy and just been like [sighs] “oh my gosh, that was big” and she kind of looks at me and is like “yeah, that is big. You’re reliving it—you’re reprocessing it.” SWB Yeah and I think it’s really crucial to acknowledge that. That it is work to—to reprocess all this stuff and that that can be exhausting. So, for example, after—you know—[coughs] that guy that we have to call our president tweeted basically that if—if Kavanaugh had actually—had actually really assaulted Christine Blasey Ford, then why didn’t she report it at the time? So, women started posting all over Twitter—you know—all of the reasons that they hadn’t reported things that had happened to them. And there was this huge movement and then I saw a bunch of tweets talking about how tiring this was. So, there’s this one, for example, from this woman Emma Grey where she said—you know—“I’m so tired of women having to mine their pain to convince men of their humanity.” [KL sighs loudly] And that one really stuck with me like yeah, we shouldn’t have to mine our pain to convince other people that we exist and that we deserve to be treated better than this. KL Ugh, gosh yeah that—[laughs] that is so fucking true. And there’s no perfect recipe for this. I think that’s definitely true from what we’re talking about here and deciding how much time and emotional work you want to spend on, it is definitely part of the equation, but I’m choosing to share because I hope someone hears it and at the very least just is—knows that someone else has been through something that they’re going through. But we shouldn’t have to feel like we have to expose every little thing just to be believed. And I think we’re seeing way more women sharing things about themselves and it’s so inspiring, but we have to remember that that comes at a cost. SWB Absolutely. Like for—for me, I generally do want to share. Like I said, as I’ve shared more details about the things that have happened to me, it’s made me feel good and wanting to share even more. So, it’s something that I want to do, but I just—I guess I just want it to be acknowledged as work—right? It is labor. I’m choosing to employ a tool—that tool is my personal experience—and I’m doing it because I have a goal to help others and I have a goal of affecting change, but it is work and I want people to value that work and to understand that there is—you know—exhaustion that can come out of that work. And—you know—that’s actually something I really loved about talking with Nicole because it really feels like she shares so much of herself in her work and brings so much of her authenticity in. But I also noticed in our interview that she was really thoughtful about it. She’d really thought a lot about what she wanted to put on the table and what she wanted to keep to herself and so I loved her book, but I also loved the way that it got me thinking more about my own choices and thinking about how and if and when I share my personal history with the world. KL Yeah, she really got me thinking about how I process things and how writing can help you do that, but it can also distract you from it—you know—it can distract you from processing things. Plus Nicole’s just so open and giving, it was so amazing talking with her. [music fades in, plays alone for five seconds, and fades out] [Ad spot] SWB Time to take a quick break to talk about one of our favorite topics—careers! This week we’re bringing you a job search tip from Julia Hurrelmann, a recruiting researcher at Shopify. She’s here to give us her advice for writing a cover letter that gets noticed. What have you got, Julia? Julia Hurrelmann Thanks. Since I see so many applications, I wanted to give you my top tip for creating an awesome cover letter. Have a friend or even a neighbor review the letter, obviously to check for spelling and grammar. But also ask them to make sure your motivations are evident and most importantly that you haven’t minimized your experience or skills. We can be our own worst critics. Remember to tell your story and make it crystal clear why you felt compelled to apply. [15:17] SWB Thanks, Julia! Those are some great tips wherever you’re applying, especially if it’s one of the dozens of open roles at Shopify. See what’s new there, from marketing to mobile development in offices around the world. Visit shopify.com/careers to learn more. [music fades in, plays alone for five seconds, and fades out] SWB Today’s guest is Nicole Chung, author of the new memoir All You Can Ever Know, which is on sale right now. It chronicles her story of transracial adoption, growing up in a white family in small town Oregon and finding her birth family while starting to raise her own children. Nicole is also the editor in chief of Catapult, a literary magazine, and the former managing editor of The Toast. We have a lot to talk about. Nicole, welcome to No, You Go. Nicole Chung Thank you so much, Sara. Thank you, Katel. SWB It’s so great to have you here and first up, we’d definitely like to have you tell our listeners a little bit about your book and also really about your story. So, you were born in Seattle severely prematurely and you were then adopted into this family in Oregon. Can you tell us a little bit about that and about what you learned about your birth family while you were growing up? NC So, I actually didn’t know hardly anything about my birth family growing up, which was extremely common for adoptions of the time actually. Nowadays, a lot of domestic sort of infant adoptions are more open, but back when I was adopted, sort of the default was that it would be closed and there’d be no contact between the birth and the adoptive family. So everything I knew about them was sort of guesswork or it came secondhand through the adoption lawyer or through maybe the judge who finalized the adoption to my adoptive parents and then to me. My adoptive parents never met my birth parents, growing up—you know—I didn’t know their names, so what I was told about them was basically this sort of skeleton story, like a hard working immigrant story about how they came here from Korea, didn’t have much money. When I was born very prematurely they felt they didn’t have the resources to take care of me. One of the many effects of my early birth was that doctors thought I’d have a lot of health problems that I wound up not actually having. So—you know—they were letting my birth parents know kind of these different kind of worst case scenarios, I guess, because they were trying to really prepare them for what it could be like to raise me if I had all of these various problems and health challenges. And they really felt it was beyond them. So, this is the story that I heard growing up. It was not necessarily untrue for what it was, but [laughing] there were a lot of holes—right? Because nothing is really that straightforward or simple. So, when I set out to find them when I was an adult, one of the biggest reasons for searching was I was pregnant myself. I was pregnant with my first child and I just remember sitting there at my first prenatal appointment being asked all of these questions about my medical history and my birth and my birth mother’s pregnancy and why she gave birth so early and I had no answers to these questions—you know—I had no idea if this was going to happen to me, if I—you know—was maybe going to have a higher risk pregnancy or birth too. So, certainly one of the more pressing reasons to look when I did—apart from a lifetime of curiosity—was this really practical matter of “I’m in this exact position, I’m in the position she was in and I don’t feel prepared for what’s about to happen.” SWB One of the things that I really loved in the book was your experience—after you found them—getting quite close to your biological sister, Cindy. And something that—that really struck me was the way you wrote about that relationship. It was really moving to hear about both the connection that you have, but also, honestly, the anxiety that you felt as you were getting to know her. Sort of wondering if you were being too much, like too ready to be this super close sister to her and not being sure that she had the same sort of expectations or desires around the relationship. And I’m curious—how did it feel for you to lay out that relationship, to really lay it bare for your readers? NC It was honestly a gift. One of the best things I think that’s come out of this book is the chance to talk even more with my sister about it. Of course, the story of how we reconnected and how we grew close, we’ve kind of gone over and over again. It’s like our origin story, [laughs] we really like to sort of talk about it still, but—you know—as many times as we had been over it in the years since it happened, there were definitely some things that I wanted to follow up on, some things I wanted to check with her. Just more questions I had about her life and about her feelings, especially when she first started to learn about me and when we started to talk to one another long distance, especially because I was going to be writing it down for posterity and for—for wider audience, I wanted to make sure I had my facts straight. So it was just a great opportunity to go over all of that again and I did kind of just learn more about her—her life and how she thinks and what she was feeling about our reunion as it was happening. You know, just the other day we were talking and it was clear—you know—she said she felt really honored by the book, which is dedicated to her and to our kids, and I mean that just meant so much to me. I used to joke that if Cindy liked the book, I didn’t care if anybody else liked it [laughs] because her—how she felt about it was so important—you know—and I just feel really lucky both to have her in my life, and the fact that she really let me—not just let me, but encouraged me to write our story and has been so supportive of it and feels honored by it. That just means everything to me and it was a real privilege to tell not just my story, but her story too. [20:50] SWB Yeah, that’s so powerful to hear about because I think how—you know—how often do people get to have those kinds of almost incredibly vulnerable and honest and reflective conversations with their siblings. I mean, I guess all of us could, but we probably don’t [laughs] make the time for that that often and to really hear if the way that we remember things happening or what we understand to be true is also true for them and to kind of—you know—actually get on the same page. I love that and it makes me want to ask my brother some deep questions, but I don’t really have a reason to. [KL and NC laugh] NC Well, good luck with that! Yeah, it was—it was interesting too because I think both Cindy and when we—when we met face to face for the first time—you know—there was all this pressure. I remember our husbands would look at me and then look at her and then look back at me and I could just see them trying to catalogue the ways they thought we were similar and the ways they thought we were different. And I remember thinking, “oh what if she doesn’t like me? And what does that mean if your own sister doesn’t like you?” [laughs] And I’m an adult. It’s kind of late to change, I can’t make myself into this version of myself who would be less—just like not too much for her. [laughs] It’s—it was sort of very much a “well, this is who I am at this point” and she had been getting along okay without me is the thing. She really had. She had a full, happy life and I wasn’t sure if she would really need me in her life the way I felt I really wanted and needed her in my life. But as it turned out, she was feeling exactly the same way about me so everything [laughs]—everything worked out great. But I do remember thinking, “am I asking too much of this person?” Yes, we’re sisters, but we’re also kind of strangers and—you know—there’s no particular reason for her to feel this connection or want to let me in. So the fact that she did was just a real unexpected gift. SWB Yeah, so and I think what I’m also really interested in that you touched on a little bit there is that the process of writing a memoir that is so—you know—entangled with other people’s lives means getting—you know—getting into conversations with them about what happened then and how you write about it and also kind of dealing with potential fall out with them if the way the memoir comes out isn’t exactly how they would have liked it to come out. And I’d love to talk about that a little bit more because I was thinking about that a lot as I was reading about your childhood and—you know—writing about the parents who raised you. So—you know—you wrote in an essay a while back that you pictured your mom telling you that you had no right to do this, no right to turn them into characters. And then you said that she didn’t end up saying that, that she basically accepted that this was your story to tell and that your—your father did as well. And you wrote that you felt seen in that whole exchange with her and—and I’m wondering how important was that to you? And what was it like to hear that from her? NC Oh it was very important to me to be able to share the book with my adoptive parents and have them understand why I wrote it and not hate it. [laughs] I don’t know, sometimes I have—I feel like I set my expectations low so I won’t be disappointed, so—I mean—I wasn’t necessarily expecting them to love it or give it to all their friends, but I wanted them to feel generally okay with what I had shared and how I had shared it. Which isn’t to say—you know—I asked for permission to share certain things, it was more like—you know—the very first draft I had that I felt was okay and good enough to show to people, I showed to everyone. You know, I sent it to my sister and my birth father and I sent it to my adoptive parents. I didn’t really want them to be surprised later on and I wanted to have time—on the chance I did get something very wrong—I wanted them to have time to correct me if I really needed to make some changes to facts. So, my adoptive parents [laughs] took a while to read it. I think after like four or six weeks or something, I hadn’t heard anything and finally I was like “so, you know, I know that you’re really busy, but”—this is what I actually said—I said “it’s not like War and Peace, so like” [KL & SWB laugh] “like—like how’s it going with the book—you know? I’m here to talk about anything you want. I would love to know what you think.” There was no reason why—of course I had talked myself into thinking like in my anxiety silence meant that they hated it—but in fact, they were just extremely busy. [laughs] And they were—they were going slowly because they were reading it together, chapter by chapter. You know, my mom would read a chapter one evening and my dad would read the next chapter the next evening, so that’s why it was going slowly. And they were both so positive about it and really supportive and—you know—I think one thing I wanted to get really clear in the book—and this was not about placating anybody or pretty up my story in some ways—like I think I’m pretty honest about places where I wish things had been different, but—you know—one thing I think it was—it was always going to be important to get through was just how loved I felt growing up. I could not have had parents who loved me more and I kind of just wanted that to be clear because I think—I mean, not just because it’s the truth and not just because I love them—but because I think you have to understand our bond and how much they cared about me and saw me as theirs to understand why it was so hard for me to search. Like why—why it took me so long to get to that point, despite being really curious for so long. It was just so difficult for me to imagine having other parents or other family besides the one I had and I was really worried about what they would think and how they would feel if I searched. So—you know—I think my parents were really happy that that came through. They both really liked this chapter where I spent a lot of time sort of telling their story, like how they—I did write them as characters, but I wrote their story—how they met and got married really young and moved out west and wanted so badly to have a family—you know—it just kept not happening for them. And I think you have to understand that too—have to understand the stakes for them to see why my adoption felt like—not just like wish fulfillment for them, but like destiny or divine intervention almost. They—they really built it up in their minds because it was the culmination of what they had wanted for so many years. And again, without understanding that—you know—there’s no understanding kind of the pressure I felt and the decision to search and how—how long it took me to get there. But I loved—I loved writing that chapter about them. That is still one of my favorites in the whole book and I—my father passed away in January and I think that chapter is the hardest for me to read now, but I still really love to revisit it, I just—it was actually really, really fun to get to write that about my parents and to get to write about my childhood and how much they loved me. I think we were all doing the best we could—you know—and I think that does come through in the story. [27:35] SWB Yeah, I think I hear that as well and I’m—I’m so sorry for the loss of your father. I’m glad that he got to at least read that chapter. I know that he didn’t get to finish the whole draft, right? NC That’s right, I think he passed away pretty suddenly when they were about halfway through it. So, my mother’s read the entire book a couple of times, but my dad didn’t get to finish it unfortunately. He did—you know, because of how the book is laid out—he had read most of the parts that he was in. The second half of the book is—is much more focused on search and reunion. SWB I’m glad that they could feel the love coming from what you were writing. I think as a reader, I could definitely feel that and see the nuance that you were writing these people with. I think that that’s—you know—that’s something that I found really powerful because, of course, the story isn’t simple. And like you said—right—it sounds a little bit simpler on paper, but in reality it’s complicated and one of the things that certainly complicated it and that you—you wrote about pretty extensively was, of course, race. So, you were a child of Korean parents and then raised by a white family in a small Oregon town. I am also from Oregon… it’s not a super diverse place [laughs nervously] for a number of reasons, one of them is a history of racist exclusion laws that if folks haven’t heard about, they might want to look up. I didn’t learn about them until I was an adult. NC Yeah same, I learned in college. SWB Yeah I mean it’s—you know—I do remember when I—when I moved to Oregon, I was actually eight years old from San Jose and I remember thinking, as I looked around my new school, “where are all the Mexican kids?” [NC laughs] I just didn’t quite get it at first like, “this seems weird, this seems so different” and then over time it just became really normalized because, of course, I’m white and so once I was there for a while, I stopped thinking about it and that was fairly easy to do. Now, that wasn’t quite as easy for you to do because you weren’t white and because you were always the one who was different and I’d love to talk about that a little bit. You—you wrote in the book that you would go ages without seeing anyone who looked like you and that you would hear racist comments at school starting at a really young age. I’m really curious—as you were reflecting on your childhood and the place that you were from, did that make you sort of change the way you—you think about where you’re from or sort of process that history differently? [30:01] NC Well, I think I had already started—maybe in my early twenties, maybe even in college—to think harder about what it was like for me growing up in a—in a very white pocket of Oregon. And it wasn’t even just that—you know—my town was predominantly white. It was that I went to a parochial school when I was in elementary school, so it was much smaller even than the public schools would have been. And I think less diverse. It wasn’t—not to say that I would have gone to school with tons of kids of color—you know—in a public school, but—I mean—at this little Catholic school I went to, often it was just me—you know—for years. And that was definitely I think extremely isolating. I had already started to kind of think about that as a young adult and in college because my college experience, thankfully, was very different. You know, I went to school on the East Coast, I went as far from home as possible. It was diverse as far as college campuses go and I think 25% Asian and Asian American, so for the first time in my life, I was far from the only one. I could actually blend in in a crowd if I wanted to. It was amazing, [laughs] I loved it—I just loved it. It never got old. And so honestly the word I kept coming back to, especially in my early twenties, was sort of the harm that might have been done—inadvertently, it wasn’t like anybody—well, I guess except for people who said racist things, actually racist things. But for the most part it was not something that anyone or any group did to me in particular, it was just the overall atmosphere. The default was whiteness, it was what I was surrounded with all the time. I didn’t have the experience of having been anywhere else where it was different and so I was just always used to being the only one or one of very few. And I really didn’t start to kind of unpack what that meant and—and the direct harm I think it caused until I was older. That said, I was pretty aware in the moment as racist things were being said—you know—as kids would give me the chink eye in school or call me slurs or—you know—tell me to go back where I came from or say things about my adoption. I knew in the moment that that felt very bad, obviously, and I knew—I knew even then it wasn’t teasing. I never thought of it as teasing. I didn’t know to call it bullying or something else or racist for that matter, but to me it felt very different than say, being made fun of for wearing hand-me-down clothes, which had also happened to me. Or being made fun of for wearing glasses—you know—it really felt like what they were attacking and targeting was the essence of who I was. It was something unchangeable and fundamentally part of me. And I don’t know, having—having that happen, having that happen before I had the words to describe it to anybody was certainly harmful. It was isolating. I didn’t really know what to do with it and for years, I kind of just put up with it in silence I guess. I don’t remember really trying to tell many people about it. And—you know—my adoptive parents confirmed this. They said, “you never told us that specifically was happening. We knew you were unhappy at—at school, but we didn’t know that was why.” And so—I don’t know—it was this thing I felt like I think I had to protect them from it too—you know—because they did raise me to think that my race shouldn’t matter and that it wouldn’t matter to—I don’t know—it didn’t matter to them, it wouldn’t matter to other people, but I was being confronted with this daily proof that it did really matter to other people and I remember feeling like if I told them, they wouldn’t understand and it would make them feel bad. So—you know—even at a very young age, I was kind of trying to protect them from the reality of what was happening. SWB Yeah, the way you wrote about it in the book, it felt very much to me like they were trying to do their best and for them, what they perceived as doing their best was to pretend that your race didn’t exist and that that—you know—that that created all of these new problems for you. And I think—you know—when you talk about it as a harm, I think that that’s really powerful and it feels like part of that harm is also—you know—if the harm that’s being done doesn’t go acknowledged or understand, right? Like you don’t have anyone to talk about it who understands that it is harm. NC I think too my parents were sort of following—I mean I know they were following—the advice they were given at the time they adopted me. I felt like that was really important to put in the book. Not as a defense, just as a fact—you know—they asked several people—like experts—before I was adopted “does it matter that she’s Korean and we’re not? Is there something special we should be doing? I don’t know, are there books we should read or classes we should take?” And everyone told them no—the social worker, the judge. You know, they did try at several points to at least ask the question and—you know—all of these people told them “no, it doesn’t matter, just assimilate her into your family and it will all be fine.” And “assimilate” was really the word the judge used and that’s the word that my adoptive parents would remember and tell me later. So—again this is not like an excuse—but I think it was just very much the prevailing attitude of the day when it came to transracial adoptions like mine. You know, I think people were thinking it was important not to try and like—not to other the child. They were already going to be in the minority in a white family, so—you know—don’t call lots of attention to it because how would that make them feel? And yeah—I mean—that was really—that sort of colorblind line was the line most people in my adoptive family took, so it was a cue that I really tried to follow. It just—it was a lot harder for me for obvious reasons. [35:39] SWB Thinking about that—you know—obviously people have been writing about some of the problems with the colorblind approach in general. How has your sort of perception of—of transracial adoption shifted at this point? Or sort of what kinds of things do you want people to be thinking about and asking about and questioning? NC You know, I do try when I write about my personal experience or my life, I try hard not to be prescriptive or offer a lot of advice. I don’t feel like I have the training or the background—right—necessarily to do that. But there are a number of things I think are really important and to some degree I think are changing in adoption. I hear more these days about the importance of not just acknowledging, but celebrating a child’s culture and country of origin. That can look a variety of different ways, but I think it’s something that a lot of adoptive families feel comfortable with honestly because it’s the fun part. It is obviously way less fun and it’s much harder to really look hard and interrogate your communities, your schools, your churches and where you live and how you live and your social circle and think about if you were a non-white child—a child of color—entering these different circles and communities, what would your experience be? How would you feel? Would you feel comfortable? Would you find people who looked like you? You know, and that is a lot harder to do, it can be really uncomfortable. Also, I think it’s—it’s just hard as kids get older to talk about racism. I’ve been talking to my kids about it since they were verbal, but it is not always easy—you know—it can feel very difficult. It can sometimes feel heartbreaking and I understand this parental urge—right—to protect our children, but at the same time—you know—I think these are conversations that are so important that we can’t shy away from and—I mean—almost every parent of color I know talks to their kids about racism. It is unavoidable, it’s about survival and it’s about who they are as a person and what their experiences will be. It’s about being honest with them and we just—we do know from studies that a lot of white parents aren’t having these conversations or—you know—just find them really challenging. They are challenging, but if you’re the white parent of a child of color—you know—who is going to have the experience that a person of color has in this country, it’s absolutely something that you have to be able to talk about really honestly from a young age and not just wait for the child to bring up, but make it clear these topics are safe and they are always on the table and—you know—sometimes you’ll bring them up and sometimes your child might bring them up, but they have to know that they can come to you with these things. It is absolutely going to be relevant in their lives. Of course, even if it’s not relevant to how you love them, which it shouldn’t be. But yeah, I think there’s a tendency in adoption still to think that the differences are unimportant compared to the love. And I guess I would just say I think both of those things are really important. [laughs] And I think if you’re going to look at it realistically—you know—look at the child for the whole person that they are and think about what their experience is going to be. You know, these are conversations that you have to have before you adopt and then, obviously, after as they age in age appropriate ways. SWB I really appreciate you bringing up sort of the—the need for white people to have conversations about race. I mean, obviously, in this particular subject when it comes to transracial adoption, yes, but I think in general. And that’s something we’ve talked about on the show a few times where—you know—white people are the only people who get to choose [laughing] not to have conversations about race and then because of that, we’re really bad at it, right? Because we’re just incapable of having intelligent conversations about things that we are nervous about and have no practice in, no vocabulary for, etc. So I think it really underscores something that is true in so many different areas that if we learn to talk about race, that that is incredibly helpful and important. Something that you mentioned in sort of this conversation around how do you help adoptive kids stay in touch with the cultures of their birth families or at what level that happens. [39:52-41:20: Transcript unavailable] KL Yeah, I love hearing all of this. This is like—it’s just so cool to hear your story. I have a question about sort of the writing and publishing process because you recently talked about how this book was passed on by many publishers and for a while, you thought you might not even get to write it. What do you think changed for you or sort of in the market that you were working in? NC I mean, the first person in my acknowledgements is my editor, Julie Buntin at Catapult, and she deserves that place. She really fought for this book. I think even within Catapult—you know—I don’t know if everybody was immediately on board. I have no idea and I have not asked, but I know Julie always really wanted it. And she actually reached out to me even before I had a proposal and asked “hey, I really love your work, what are you working on? Are you working on a book?” [laughs and SWB laughs] And as it happened, I was, but I think honestly it took somebody with the kind of faith and commitment that Julie had to this book to get it to happen. All this to say, it is really wonderful to have a publisher that believes in your book even more than you do. I think—I’m not trying to sound self deprecating or falsely modest, but it’s such a deeply personal story—I am so close to it that it is difficult for me to evaluate it as a piece of literature. It just is. So, having really smart, really talented people in my corner the whole time sort of cheerleading for it made such a difference. I can’t imagine getting this kind of support—you know—from another publisher to be honest. I feel like all the things that other publishers thought were risks—like there aren’t very many Asian American memoirs out there, what if this only appeals to people who are actually adopted? I think that Catapult saw the things that made this book different in the marketplace as strengths and not risks. And I mean personally I very much hope that it’s well received, but also, I felt all along that I do not want to let them down because their faith in this book has just been extraordinary. And the way they continue to hustle for it—I mean, the fact that people are talking about it, that’s really because of their work, you know? So, I feel very lucky to have landed where I did. KL I think that makes so much sense and, you know, it’s funny Sara and I have recently been talking about how something that we’ve noticed with authors and just in general folks who are wanting to write more—whether it’s in book form or not—getting some external validation of, you know, the fact that [laughs] what you’re saying is—makes sense and is important is critical. And I think having a really good relationship with the publisher you trust is huge. NC It’s true. I really give them a lot of credit, honestly. This is a very different book. You know, there aren’t a lot of adoption stories out there by adoptees. For the most part, our stories are told by other people. And so I really do appreciate and give them so much credit for—I guess—taking a chance on this. SWB So, in talking about how the book came to be and sort of the people who helped make it happen, I also want to ask a little bit about The Toast, where you were the managing editor. NC Oh sure! SWB So, for our listeners who aren’t familiar, The Toast was a site that Nicole Cliffe and Daniel Ortberg started that featured really funny, weird, feminist writing is maybe the simplest way to put it. It’s not publishing anymore so if you haven’t read it, go check out the archives because you have a whole lot of delight in store for you. [NC laughs] Anyway, so Nicole you wrote for The Toast a little bit and then you ended up being the managing editor and you once wrote that without The Toast, you probably wouldn’t be writing this book. And I’m curious what it was about your experience there that made it feel so crucial in sort of your—your development as a writer and your ability to be where you are now. [45:05] NC Well, I think that one thing writers talk about a lot is the importance of community. And that can take so many different forms. You know, I don’t get to hang out with a lot of writers in real life. My first writing communities were really online. I mean, it was LiveJournal, to be honest, and it was Hyphen Magazine, and it was The Toast. So, I think I am really a product of these different communities I found. You know maybe I just kind of lacked some crucial shot of courage or something, but it was difficult to start sharing such personal stories about my family and about adoption and about racism that I’d experienced. And it’s not necessarily that I needed someone externally to validate them or to say, “this is legitimate, this really happened, this is important,” but I think just a little human kindness and, like, honestly went a very, very long way. The Toast was a fantastic community, the commentariat—much has been written about how it was one of the only good comment sections on the entire internet. It’s true that every time I wrote something there—I mean, both the goofy stuff like “If John Cho Were Your Boyfriend” and the more serious pieces on race or adoption or family—the response was overwhelmingly positive and supportive, and it was just really a privilege and a honor to get to edit and publish and write for that community at The Toast. I think it did make me braver, I think it made me appreciate the work of other writers so much more, and it made me think—I mean it was one of the things, maybe not the only thing, but one of the things that made me think, there is interest in this beyond people who were adopted or beyond people who have adopted. And people who are curious or have their own complicated families or have their own family secrets, they will be interested, they will be able to connect, they might get something from this. It could be a story that people need. So, yeah. It was not any one particular experience at The Toast, just the overall privilege—you know—of getting to work for that particular community. SWB Yeah, that concept of generosity rings so true to me because I do think that there is this peace that’s like really great editors and really great community make you feel like you are sort of receiving—even if you’re receiving something that objectively sucks like feedback on your work [laughs]—but you feel like you’re getting something that—that is—is good and enriching in some way and it feels like a gift. I think that that’s so powerful and to make that process come from this place of sort of genuine love and care and that—that I think is so much more powerful and so it completely shows. So, now fast forward to where we are right now. By the time our listeners hear this, the book will be out and there has been a lot of buzz for it. I saw that Publisher’s Weekly gave it a starred review and called it “stunning, vibrant and provocative,” which are some pretty good terms. And I saw it’s also on a lot of highly anticipated lists for the fall, so um… how are you feeling? NC I’m feeling really overwhelmed! [SWB & KL laugh] Although, sometimes I feel oddly nothing. Like I was sort of a blank slate of expectations. I didn’t know—this is my first book—you know—and I didn’t know how it would feel. The fact that it’s a memoir and so personal—I mean—just kind of made it more—I think—anxiety producing and mysterious for me. But yeah, I kind of—I see all the lists and it’s all really lovely and I feel people are being very charitable and I try not to give into imposter syndrome, but sometimes I do wonder [laughing] “what is the source of all this?” I don’t know, it’s so strange to see something that just lived in your head and in your heart out in the world having a life of its own. Like people reacting to it, even positively, in ways beyond your control. I love every kind thing, every thoughtful thing that people say about it, but at the same time, it’s just—it’s just so strange too to know that it’s out there being reacted to—you know—not only can I not control other people’s reactions to it—you know—I don’t want to. I think that’s the experience of reading—that something that nobody—not even the author—can take away from you is how you read a book and what you take away from it. But it’s just really interesting to hear the parts that I maybe think of as slightly less what the book is about, sometimes those are the parts that really resonate for people. I keep taking screenshots of the lists or saving them because [laughs] I feel like I’ll read them later and maybe feel more. Right now it’s just like there’s a limit. It’s like by 11am every day, I’ve hit my limit of what I can feel about the book that day and I’ll have to [laughs] wait for another day to feel and process more. [SWB & KL laugh] It’s definitely a lot. KL That makes total sense. I mean, we love it and we—we hope that you enjoy all the moments [laughing] no matter how overwhelming they might feel. But—so when you think about looking forward to once some of this frenzy of the release has passed, what are you most looking forward to? [50:08] NC I want to go on vacation for like a month! It’s not going to happen—it’s just not with work—but I want to take a little break. I’d like to take a nap for like three straight days. [laughs] And—I mean—I’ll be really honest. This has been—it’s been coming up in some other interviews too, but—I mean—my father passed away in January and I feel like I have not really even begun to like —I don’t know—not move past it because you don’t move past it, but there has not been a lot of time to think or to grieve. There hasn’t been as much time as I would like for my family this year and it’s just because of the nature of publishing a book, working a lot, not having a ton of vacation and—and having—you know—my father pass in the same year that my book comes out is—it’s been really hard. It’s been… really challenging and—and I’m honestly really looking forward to having some downtime for myself to process and maybe go to grief counseling finally. Just sort of spend a lot of time with my mom and my kids and—you know—certainly I’ll be thinking about what’s next, but I think probably some self care will be in order. [KL laughs] KL Yeah that’s— SWB Yeah, I hope you get both. I think you should have both a vacation and the time to properly process your feelings— KL Yeah. SWB —and deal with grief. NC Thank you. I mean that said, I am so looking forward to the book being out there. I’m really looking forward to tour. I think it will be, again, overwhelming, but mostly wonderful. I feel very honored that anybody is spending time with the book and I really want to get out there and meet and talk with people about it because it’s a special thing and I know—you know—I’ll never have this exact experience again. This is it for this—for this book, this is my chance. But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t also looking forward to taking a really deep long breath [laughs] when it’s over. [SWB & KL laugh] KL We’re sadly almost out of time, so I just want to make sure that everyone knows that “All You Can Ever Know” is on sale literally everywhere right now, so we hope everyone will pick up a copy. Nicole, where else can folks keep up with you? NC My Twitter handle is @nicole_soojung—Soojung is my Korean name. And I’m on Instagram—Nicole Soojung—and those are my only public social media accounts so [laughs] but I would love to connect with people. My email is also not super difficult to find either. And if there are writers out there who have stories they would like to share, I do edit and publish fiction and non-fiction for Catapult so I would love to hear from you. KL Amazing. SWB Nicole, thank you so much for being here. NC Thank you for having me! I had such a good time. [music fades in, plays alone for five seconds, and fades out] SWB Listening to Nicole talk about her book is so great. I could give a fuck yeah for that. Buuuut I think we need more fuck yeahs than that. Katel, what have you got? KL Oh, I’ve got a good one and it is on theme! I just started listening to audiobooks. Hi, welcome me to [laughs] the present day. [SWB laughs] I’ve started to read so many books in the last few months and I just—I don’t know—I never seem to be able to finish them in paperback so I got a Kindle a little while ago, which I love because I can keep a bunch of books on it. But all of a sudden, I took a chance, I got an audiobook and now I feel like I have this whole new option. SWB So, what are you quote, unquote reading right now? [KL laughs] KL So, I’m reading slash listening to Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman. It is fucking great, unsurprisingly, but it’s really amazing because I get to just kind of lose myself in it for the first time. I haven’t felt that way in a while, so it’s great. SWB That’s awesome. This is also really great because I actually wanted to do a fuck yeah to fall books because there are so many great books that are coming out. So, Nicole’s book obviously, which we got to read early, which was such a treat. But I’m also really excited for Rebecca Traister’s new book, it’s called Good and Mad. It is about women’s anger and hello, I have some of that [laughs]—in a healthy way. And then there’s Michelle Obama’s memoir and Phoebe Robinson from 2 Dope Queens has a new book that’s called Everything’s Trash, But It’s Okay. [KL laughs] Great title. And there are so many more books that I’m hyped about, so I can not wait to get some of these new titles, curl up with them, get myself a warm beverage while it’s cooling down outside. I’m just very, very, very much looking forward to reading books all fall and winter. KL I love it. I think we need to take a little trip somewhere to a fireplace-having location and just have a whole weekend where we read. Just—you know—putting that out there. SWB That sounds so great. So fuck yeah to fall reading! KL Fuck yeah! SWB Fuck yeah. That reminds me, I’ve got to order some new slippers. [pause] Well, that is it for this week’s episode of No, You Go. Our show is recorded in our home city of Philadelphia and produced by Steph Colbourn. Our theme music is by The Diaphone. Thanks to Nicole Chung for being our guest today. KL If you love NYG, make sure to subscribe and rate us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. Your support helps us do what we do and we love that. See you next week! SWB Bye! KL Bye! [music fades in, plays alone for 32 seconds, and fades out to end]

Julie Creffield the founder of the Too Fat to Run blog, author, motivational speaker and coach joined me for a conversation in episode 4 of Conscious Life Space's Conversations Podcast. We discussed her work, being judged, identity, big fat stupid goals, setting big scary goals and active lifestyle and so much more. Have a listen.

Julie Creffield the founder of the Too Fat to Run blog, author, motivational speaker and coach joined me for a conversation in episode 4 of Conscious Life Space's Conversations Podcast. We discussed her work, being judged, identity, big fat stupid goals, setting big scary goals and active lifestyle and so much more. Have a listen.

In this installment, JNP sits down with Anne Helen Petersen - senior culture writer for Buzzfeed and the author of the recent book, Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman – to talk about balancing academic and journalistic writing, managing the role of the public intellectual in the age of social media, and why cultural criticism matters. You can access Anne Helen Petersen’s work for Buzzfeed here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/annehelenpetersen. To find out more about her books here: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/228194/anne-helen-petersen

This week, we discuss a recently published article by Harper's Bazaar regarding the concept of emotional labor, and what that mean's for women and what it means for the future. We also discuss one of our favorite bold ladies, Jameela Jamil, and her campaign to change the way women (and the world) determine our value. Check out the links below for other things that you should check out regarding our discussion!   Emotional Labor: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/ Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: https://www.amazon.com/Too-Fat-Slutty-Loud-Unruly/dp/0399576851 Jameela Jamil's Blog: http://jameelajamil.co.uk/tagged/blog Chimamanda Adichie's TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/chimamanda_ngozi_adichie_we_should_all_be_feminists Tiny Shoulders: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4mnC4LVGkr4

On this episode of the podcast I recount my previous "TOO FAT" to ride Universal Studios and how awesome it was to fit on the ride .. and somewhere in there I share a Keto Mousse Recipe that Ive been enjoying.

On this week’s edition of the SweatCast we have on author and founder of Too Fat to Run, Julie Creffield. On this episode you will learn what a “Big Fat Goal” is and how you can create and stick to one. Additionally, Julie, discusses the obesity epidemic, body image and social media, mental health and how to take the first step in creating a sustainable fitness program that fits your body and needs.

HI FRANDS. We’re all BFFs now, right?…Right? In this episode, we talk about how we make new friends as busy adults, how we sustain relationships beyond grabbing lunch or drinks, and how we build the kinds of communities that give us LIFE. We’re also joined by Girls’ Night In founder Alisha Ramos, who tells us how she built a company around a simple concept: connecting and celebrating women who’d rather stay in. > Book clubs are just magical, first of all, because books are amazing. But, second of all, it creates a really interesting common ground for everyone… You’re all showing up because you read the same thing, and you are starting off with that common thing and you end up picking up little pieces of the other person’s life as she’s describing how she read the book and interpreted it, and then it kind of like takes the pressure off. > > —Alisha Ramos, founder of Girls’ Night In Here’s what we covered (and as always, you can find the full transcript below). Show notes Did you know that Sara and Katel first bonded over crab fries? That a full 50 percent of the city of Philadelphia knows each other through Jenn? Well, now you will. We also talk about: How great friends are also generous with their friends Why you have to get over the fear of rejection when trying to keep adult friendships alive Why loneliness is bad for your health Then, we catch up with Alisha Ramos, who tells us how she quit her job last year to start Girls’ Night in, a newsletter for ladies who’d rather skip the party, thanks. Now GNI boasts more than 30,000 members. We bond over: The magic of book clubs—especially when your new book BFFs also invite you to a potluck Celeste Ng’s excellent second novel, Little Fires Everywhere Relaxing, relaxing, and more relaxing—Alisha recommends watching The Crown and re-watching I, Tonya (and if you hate Tonya Harding, read this first). Also in this episode: Thanks to a reader recommendation, Katel’s back in the fiction game with Manhattan Beach by Jennifer Egan. Did you know that Tinder for moms is a thing? (It’s called Peanut.) It’s reboot time in Hollywood! Still! Apparently! First up: get your blazers pressed: Murphy Brown is back, baby! Let’s hope Dan Quayle doesn’t show up to shame her again. An Overboard reboot is also coming, which we’re not feeling great about, given that the plot centers around tricking a woman with amnesia into being your wife—as a comedy! What the world really needs is some of that patented Sugarbaker Sass. Sponsors This episode of NYG is brought to you by: Shopify, a leading global commerce platform that’s building a diverse, intelligent, and motivated team—and they  want to apply to you. Visit shopify.com/careers to see what they’re talking about. _WordPress—the place to build your personal blog, business site, or anything else you want on the web. WordPress helps others find you, remember you, and connect with you. _ Transcript Sara Wachter-Boettcher Like you, Shopify isn’t a fan of long, boring ads. So they’ll keep it simple. They’re hiring great people. Their mission: to make commerce better for everyone. Shopify is the leading global commerce platform for entrepreneurs and they want to apply to you. Join a diverse, intelligent, and motivated team where you’ll get shit done. Visit shopify.com/careers to see what they’re talking about. [Music fades in] Jenn Lukas Hi! Welcome to No, You Go, [music fades out] the show about being ambitious—and sticking together. I’m Jenn Lukas. Katel LeDû I’m Katel LeDû. SWB And I’m Sara Wachter-Boettcher. JL On today’s show we’re talking about developing relationships and going beyond the quick work lunch or happy hour type of friendship. How do we create deeper connections with people we know and that we want in our lives now that we’re adults, professionals, mothers, activists, multi-taskers—you get the idea. How do we seek out these deeper types of friendships? We’ll also talk with Girls’ Night In founder, Alisha Ramos, about building a community of women, and how she makes space for meaningful relationships in her life. But first on the agenda: hey, Katel, will you be my friend? KL I would love to be your friend. You know, I remember the first time we really hung out and met. We were both at Converge. We started sort of following each other around to the different things people were doing and I had seen you speak and I was like—I really wanted to hang out with you and it was cool that I met you at a conference because it’s always good to have a conference buddy. And I also remember the first time Sara and I really hung out, it involved crab fries, which is very important to the Philadelphia region. She missed a pottery class, I think? Just to keep talking with me, which I felt super special for, and then I think that just was a natural progression into taking over the world. SWB Totally! I remember meeting Jenn through conferences and stuff like that but then, one day right after I moved to Philadelphia, I thought, “You know? I’m going to email Jenn Lukas. I don’t know her very well but she seems very cool, maybe she’ll hang out with me.” [Laughter] And I emailed her and, lo and behold, Jenn lived two blocks from where we had just moved in. Like literally two blocks away. And so immediately, you know, we made plans to get together, and I will say that being new to a place, Jenn and Sutter, her husband, were like—you guys were, honestly, so welcoming, and it was so wonderful because I feel like through you we met so many other people. You were very generous with sharing those friendships that you had with us— KL Aw. SWB —at a time when I think we really needed that. We’d spent a couple of years, you know, moving around and not sure where we were going to land long-term after my husband finished graduate school. And so it was not just that we really connected, but it was also that generosity that I think was so valuable to me. And I really hope that I paid that forward by the time Katel moved to Philly [laughter] and we were sharing crab fries, because I remember sitting there and just being like, OK, we’re not just having professional drinks. We’re hanging out now. It’s on. This is—you know—we’re going to be here for a while.” JL It’s so nice. Wow. I’m having all the feels, ladies [background “aws”]. It’s so nice and I think the other thing is, you know, we make friends through conferences, we make friends through meetups, we make friends through these activities, and lots of times I think we meet people and then we’re like, “Ah man, I really dug hanging out with them,” but then it doesn’t happen again. Maybe you live someplace else. But I think one of the things that was really awesome with both of you is that we maintained a level of correspondence that when you both happened to move to Philadelphia I was like, “Yes!” SWB No, but I think it’s important to put that kind of, I don’t know, a little bit more work in, I guess you would say, because we’re not in college anymore. We’re, um, a couple of years outside of college, and one of the things that happens is everybody gets busy with their own lives. You have a partner, maybe, or you have children, and your career gets demanding, and I travel for work a lot. And so it gets harder to match up schedules, it’s harder to find time to consistently see people, and you have to prioritize that, and I’m really glad that I have friends who do prioritize that also because I feel like we always make the time. And we always—you know, we don’t make a big deal out of hanging out, right? Like we make it a consistent thing that we do without having to make it super formal and it doesn’t have to be like, “Oh I’m throwing a dinner party.” KL Because of our proximity we can kind of do things on the fly which is really cool. And, I mean, it wass so important for me moving from DC to Philly. I knew I knew some people sort of and I had no idea whether I’d be able to be rebuild a network and it happened, I think, so much faster because of exactly what you said, Jenn. [5:00] And also I feel like as you get older you sort of know you’re going to be friends with people. The people you know you’re like, “OK, these are just going to be acquaintances or not as close relationships.” You’re a little quicker to be like, “All right [chuckles], I know the camps now.” You know? JL I think it also helps to never take a scheduling mishap as something that means that we can’t hang out. So I think lots of times with schedules, you’ll ask someone to hang out and they’ll be like, “I can’t,” and then you don’t follow-up. And I think that we all have very busy schedules but we’re never like, “Oh, that must mean that Katel doesn’t want to hang out with me because she’s not available.” And getting over this like — you get these flashbacks from high school of like trying to be friends with people, right? [Laughter] And you’re just like, “No! It’s not that.” And I think that I’m so much more quick to get over that now because I can imagine myself being in the space where I’ve wanted to hang out with people but I couldn’t make it work and it wasn’t that I was avoiding them or doing these things that I feel like we still get self conscious about, sometimes, with building friendships. You know you have to put in that time. SWB Right. It’s not like, “Oh, I invited Jenn to do something twice and she turned me down both times, so now I won’t say anything again. I have to sit here on my hands and wait for her to call me.” You know? I definitely don’t feel that way. I’m like, “Ok, Jenn’s got a lot going on and—” KL I’m just going to ask her a third time. SWB Yeah [laughter]! Third time’s a charm. You know but I’m really glad that we’re all kind of on the same page about this and also able to talk about it because I’ve read all of those studies about how people report that their loneliness levels are really high and particularly as people move into middle-age and that there’s a lot of studies that show that things like the more socially isolated you are, the more likely you are to have health problems, and the more likely you are to actually die prematurely. It’s kind of morbid, but it’s true that loneliness is this really big factor in people’s health that is not that well understood. And the other thing that happens with loneliness is apparently it’s something that’s really common with men. Like men are much less likely to sustain the kinds of relationships that we’re talking about into their middle-age and later and as a result you’ve got these generations of lonely middle-aged who are super isolated. And it’s causing them all kinds of issues and I think that even though that’s more prevalent in men, I mean that’s not something we can ignore for ourselves either because we’re all, like I said, ambitious and busy and have a lot going on in our professional lives that it would be easy to not make time to do that deep friendship stuff. It’d be easy to have that happen and not realize it’s happened until you have been doing it for years and you’re really fucking lonely. JL Yeah. KL Right. This is why it’s important that we make some early plans for the friend compound that we’ve talking about. JL Oh my god! Yes! KL And we can invite our husbands, obviously, if, you know— SWB Meh. JL It’s going to be some kind of farm, right? KL Uh, absolutely. Yes. With a vineyard of some kind. SWB So the friendship compound is like—it’s pretty much what it sounds like — it’s a large facility, homestead, not sure, where we can all bring all of our besties down and form a new, totally not cult-like [laughter] society. KL I think we found a new direction for the show. I don’t know [laughter]. JL Oh no, we’ve tricked people into something they were not expecting here. SWB I said it wasn’t cult-like! It’s fine. KL OK. All right [laughs]. SWB This whole conversation about friendships and sort of like the way that we form connections and keep those connections strong, I think, is a really good way to introduce our guest for today, because I think she’s going to have a lot to say about that, too, and I am so excited to hear it [music fades in]. Thanks to our sponsors JL [Music fades out] No, You Go is proud to be sponsored by wordpress.com. Whether you’d like to build a personal blog, a business site, or both, creating a website on wordpress.com helps others find you, remember you, and connect with you. In fact, we use WordPress here for NYG. You don’t even need experience setting up a website. WordPress guides you through the process from start to finish, and takes care of the technical side. They also have great customer support available 24 hours a day. Plans start at just four dollars a month, and you can always get a custom domain for the life of the plan. Go to wordpress.com/noyougo to get 15 percent off your website today. That’s wordpress.com/noyougo [music fades in]. Interview: Alisha Ramos KL [Music fades out] our guest today is Alisha Ramos, the founder of Girls’ Night In, which started as a newsletter for women who’d rather stay in tonight, something I think we’re all drawn to in many ways, and has turned into so much more. Alisha, we can’t wait to hear about. Welcome to No, You Go! Alisha Ramos Thanks so much for having me! KL We’re so excited to talk all about this. Can we kick off by having you tell us a little bit more about Girls’ Night In and just how it came to be. [10:00] AR So Girls’ Night In, as you mentioned, started off as a newsletter for women who’d rather stay in tonight, and now it’s become more of a community of women now. What we do is we send a Friday morning newsletter every week to over, I think we’re now at 30,000 subscribers, mostly millennial women across the US and across the globe, and we kind of share smart reads for you to read during your night in or things like recommendations for you to do, whether it’s watching a TV show that we love or a podcast that we’re loving. So that’s kind of how it started and now we’ve gotten this amazing community of women around it from all corners of the globe. We have readers in Charleston, South Carolina, to Barcelona to London and, you know, our mission at Girls’ Night In is to help women relax, recharge, and cultivate more meaningful community in a world that’s increasingly stressful and lonely [KL laughs]. So one really cool thing that kind of sprung up very organically is our book club. So we do a monthly book club meetup in seven cities now. And that’s been a really amazing way for our community to gather and really live out the mission of Girls’ Night In. This kind of community of women that want to create better connections with one another. KL That’s amazing! I feel like that’s seems like such a beautiful and natural progression of things. What was it about fostering deeper connections than, say, going to drinks or having a quick coffee that you made you decide to kick this into gear? AR I was looking at how we live our lives today. Like I’m in my later twenties and the idea of going out no longer really appeals to me [laughing][KL laughs] for various reasons. I have a hard bedtime now of like 9:30pm I need to be in bed. But I think our relationships are changing so quickly; society is changing; mental health issues are on the rise; rates of loneliness are increasing in our society that’s always on. Like we are so entangled with technology now that we’re kind of burnt out from all of that. And looking at my habits of how I want to spend my time with my friends, I found myself hosting more gatherings that are intimate and cozy in my home versus wanting to go out. So I think Girls’ Night In encapsulates this whole movement of women who would rather spend the time taking care of themselves and developing better relationships, not just with themselves, but with other women, like their friends. And it’s very timely. When Girls’ Night In started the presidential inauguration had just occurred. There was this kind of overwhelming sense of stress and anxiety among my friends, and I’m sure just like the world in general. So, especially with the news cycle being completely unrelenting, people were searching for a break from all of that and I think Girls’ Night In became the answer for a lot of people. Like they’ll write in and say, “I didn’t know that I needed this, but I definitely needed Girls’ Night In in my life because it helps me remind myself that it’s OK to take care of myself and take a break from everything else that’s going on in the world.” KL That’s—yeah. That’s amazing. It sounds like you’ve had some questions that were kind of cycling around in your head that made you, you know, look into that a little bit more— AR Yeah. KL —and one of them was about disconnecting from tech. I personally find that so challenging. In what ways would you like to explore that with this community? AR Our February theme is going to be techno self-care. So, you know, technology—we never want to pit technology as the enemy because it can be used for good, it can be used for bad. I think overall we’re all very overwhelmed with technology and media and the news right now and it can be unhealthy. KL Yeah. AR In terms of how to disconnect from technology, the one thing that we are doing as a community is encouraging people to get offline and meet each other [laughing] in real life, especially, you know, for women in their twenties. It’s such an awkward time where—especially where I’m from, in DC, it’s a very transient city. There’s people coming in and out and I feel like we’ve forgotten how to meet new friends and make new connections. KL [Exhales sharply] right. AR Yeah, I really don’t know what I would do to make new friends besides go to a [laughing] networking event. It feels kind of awkward. [15:00] So one way we encourage our community members to disconnect is to join us at our monthly book club meetings and that’s— KL Sure. AR You’re getting away from your screen, it kind of feels like you’re doing something for yourself, and it’s a way to, not escape reality—but sometimes! It depends on what you read. It can be an escapist type of ritual. So that in and of itself is a really great self-care tool. But then when you add on top of that the act of gathering around a common book that you’ve read and really enjoyed, you get to create these really cool conversations and connections with each other and that’s the kind of feature that I would hope to build with Girls’ Night In where, you know right now we’re always on Instagram, we’re liking each other photos, but what does being social even mean anymore in this age of social media? I don’t like the future that I see in five to 10 years. We’re really just trying to recreate a more intimate sense of community. JL Hey Alisha, what kind of books do read at the book club? AR Our general guidelines are that we read books that are authored by women from diverse backgrounds and we read both fiction and non-fiction. So most recently we read Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng which was my favorite book. SWB I’m in the middle of it right now! AR Oh my god! It’s such a treat! SWB It’s so good! AR It’s so good, yeah. I just savored every word. It was so good. So, yeah, we try to focus on stories that are authored by women who can bring something interesting, something unique that we can discuss as a community. We’ve also read a couple of non-fiction. Like Too Loud, Too Fat, Too Slutty— KL Wow. AR —by Anne Helen Petersen. That one was a little polarizing actually [laughs] in our community. Some people loved it, some people hated it, but that’s kind of what the beauty of the book club is: we want books that spark conversation. KL Yeah. I feel like now—I just joined a book club. So maybe I just need to join Girls’ Night In and find one [laughing]—find one to meet up [laughs]. JL Have you found that people that have come to the book club will make plans together afterwards? Like are you seeing that a lot of people are forging friendships from the book club? AR Yes, definitely. We, at every book club, we basically have to force people out the door [laughing] because they want to continue having conversations and that’s really, really the coolest thing that I’ve seen. So we have private Facebook groups for everyone who has attended a book club for each city. And our New York community—there’s one woman who was like, “Hey, I’m relatively new to the city. I really enjoyed meeting all of you at book club. Would you want to start a potluck dinner thing?” And I think she was—she asked this and I think she was expecting maybe like five people to respond but, I kid you not, like 40 people signed up for this thing [chuckles], and she was like, “OK, woah. I think we’re going to have to now split up into five different friend groups—” JL That’s amazing. AR “—to do like a potluck rotation.” So it’s been really cool to see friendships like that and conversations like that start. KL Yeah. SWB Something I really love about that story is that it speaks to the way that like once you kind of tear off the bandaid of making friends, like once you go, “Ok! I’m going to go the book club,” once you’ve done that, then the doors open a little bit and then suddenly it’s a little easier to invite— AR Yeah! SWB —a bunch of women you’ve never met before out to do something. I think sometimes that’s hard when we’re, you know, we’re all busy, everybody has a lot going on, scheduling is the worst. And to try to forge that deeper connection with somebody while juggling all the other things that we seem to do because we’re ambitious and whatnot. It can feel like too much of a barrier. So I love the idea of sort of lowering that barrier for people. AR Absolutely! Definitely! And like book clubs are just magical, first of all, because books are amazing. But, second of all, it creates a really interesting common ground for everyone. Like you’re going in and it’s not like a scary networking event where like, “Oh my gosh! What am I going to say? What am I going to ask people?” You’re all showing up because you read the same thing and you are starting off with that common thing and you end up picking up little pieces of the other person’s life as she’s describing how she read the book and interpreted it and then it kind of like takes the pressure off a little bit—of trying to make small talk, which I personally really dislike. [20:00] I’m a very highly introverted person and I think as a result I would rather have those deeper conversations with people and skip the like, “Oh yeah, where are you from?” “How’s the weather?” “The weather’s really cold.” So I think having that commonality and as a discussion starter has been really, really cool. KL Yeah I really want to know how have you kept Girls’ Night In on even keel as it’s grown so quickly? How are you leaning on your friends and other Girls’ Night In-ers to help with that? AR I mean Girls’ Night In is very new in my mind. I quit seven months ago, in June. So it still feels like it’s in its very early, early stages. So as a result like I basically don’t sleep or I—well there was a good period of time where I was not getting a [laughing] lot of sleep, essentially. But now I’m getting definitely better at delegating, finding people who are way better at doing things than I am — which has been probably the key part of keeping this thing going. I do work with a lot of really talented individuals who help me with editorial, the community side of things, we have amazing book club hosts in all of our cities, partnerships, like technology, everything. So it’s been really cool to grow Girls’ Night In from just me to this team of really awesome people who help out. KL Yeah, absolutely. So speaking of making that move from what you were doing before Girls’ Night In, it’s funny: I’ve read you describe yourself as a Type A person needing to have a plan for everything and [AR laughs] to me that’s like, I raise my hand and I’m like, “Hey, hello! That’s me.” Do you remember the moment you decided to jump into that and start something new even if it meant you might not know exactly what that was going to look like? AR I didn’t have that one day or like a-ha moment where I knew that I wanted to do this. So Girls’ Night In—I had the luxury of the fact that I started it as a side project while I had a full-time job. So that kind of gave me a cushion of like, “OK, I can do this and see if it becomes a thing and then I might make the decision, but if it doesn’t, then I’m OK. Like I can keep my job.” So I launched it in January and then kept it a side project for six months or so and it kept growing and growing and eventually—I don’t know if you’ve ever done like a full-time job with like a side hustle or something, but eventually you get to a point where you’re just like [laughing], I’m really tired of doing my full-time job. I get off at 6, and then you go into like your second shift of doing the other thing from 6pm to god knows when, like midnight or 1am. And that’s really unsustainable, like physically or it was for me at least. KL Yeah for sure. AR The second thing that helped me understand that like, “Oh, maybe I should take the leap,” is that I started to get really amazing feedback from people and I would hear from my friends who live in California or New York that they were having a conversation with a random stranger, somebody that they just met, and they would say, “Oh, have you heard about this newsletter called Girls’ Night In? I just signed up,” and I think that really helped me understand, “Oh, this could become a really big thing if somebody I’ve never met in California is talking about it— 23:40 KL That is so cool. AR “—and actively sharing it with their friends.” KL That’s yeah — that’s amazing. Cool. Can you give us a little sneak peek at what’s next for Girls’ Night In? AR Our newsletter is our main product right now. So I’m focusing on building out the right team for that, more solidifying our editorial strategy around that, and just growing our audience and growing our brand I think will be a key focus for the next couple of months. You know everything we do ladders back—or should ladder back to our broader mission of helping women relax, recharge, and cultivate community. So we did do a little experiment with launching our own products and, you know, my background is as a web designer. So designing physical products was actually really, really fun for me. So I think you can expect to see some more things along those lines and then the third piece is I personally have gotten so much out of our community in real life through the book clubs and that has been just so fun to grow and watching the reaction to the book club has been amazing. [25:00] We’re now at the point where people get frustrated if they can’t get a ticket to one of our book clubs because they sell out pretty quickly [chuckles]. So we definitely want to make sure that we can expand the book clubs in cities where maybe the demand is really high and look at how else we grow that side of things. KL Well I have one final question for you, and it’s how are you going to relax and recharge this week? AR I recently watched the movie I, Tonya and I loved it so much that I might go back and watch it again [laughs]. I also have been binge watching The Crown on Netflix— KL Yes. AR —and I really love historical dramas so that’s been—it’s just such a good show to binge watch and just chill out. And I’m also kind of revamping my skincare routine right now. I’m a huge beauty junky. So I’m doing a lot of research in trying to find the perfect moisturizer for the winter. So yeah lots of skincare and lots of The Crown. KL That sounds excellent. SWB I can’t wait to hear about that best skincare for the winter because I tell you what [AR laughs]: it has been dry and cold and— KL Yeah. We’re all struggling here. AR Yeah. [KL laughs] we’ll write something up. KL We will definitely read that. Thank you so much for talking with us today. AR Thank you. KL It was really great to hear a little bit more about what you’re up to and, yeah, thank you so much! [Music fades in.] AR Yeah, of course! Thanks so much for having me. JL [Music fades out] I kept thinking when Alisha was talking about the book club that would help what we were talking about in the bonus episode where you were finding a lack of books to read, right Katel? KL Yeah. That was so fun. I was thinking about it the other day because thanks, listeners, for listening to that because I got some really nice recommendations for books to read and it has actually really inspired me to really do this. So I am buying those books, I even found the crumby charger to my Kindle. I’m going to really do it for real. So I’m very excited and it was really nice to hear these recommendations from different friends who have very different, I think, interests and likes. SWB Yeah, if you didn’t listen to our bonus episode: one of the things that came up is that Katel admitted she hadn’t read a book except for the ones that she’s physically publishing for a little while and she was feeling a little bit bummed about that. So I’m excited to see what you read. Do you have a book that you want to pick up first? KL I think I’m going to pick up Manhattan Beach by Jennifer Egan because I’ve just liked her work, and I didn’t really realize that there was something new from her. So that was really cool. SWB Yeah, yeah, I mean oftentimes I’ll read a book by an author and I’ll be like, “Ooh! That was pretty good,” and then their next book is the one that really gets me. That’s something I really found with Celeste Ng, the author of the book Little Fires Everywhere that we talked about in Alisha’s interview. I read her first book and I thought it was pretty good, but the second book has been just amazing. And so hopefully you’ll find the same with Jennifer Egan. JL I love the conversations that people have around books. I mean just looking at the two of you right now: you’re getting really excited when you’re talking about it and so that’s what I think is so neat about things like book clubs is it gives you — it’s an instant conversation starter. And I think it’s interesting to think about is the way that we could build friendships. It’s weird I’ve heard this but I never realized it before: becoming a mom is like an instant conversation starter, which is weird and it doesn’t like—I thought it would’ve felt forced, because people have told me that before, but it’s not. Whenever you have a passion about a book or like a complaint about a diaper, there’s just something to talk about with someone. And I love these ideas of not being scared of that. That you’re like—happen to just be in the same sort of population, but being like, “This is a way for me to start talking to someone.” You know, trying to find those groups. Someone just was telling me—my friend Beth was just saying that there’s now a Tinder for moms [yup mm hmm]. But you know it’s hard if you’re in areas where you’re finding it hard to meet other moms, or finding it hard to just meet other women, or finding it hard to meet people that also love the same books that you do. How do you do it? Right? So as much as like, I’m like, “Wow, that’s crazy they made that.” I mean if it’s a way for you to connect with people, then I think it’s really cool. SWB Yeah I think that that’s something that Alisha was definitely talking a lot about was this difficulty of making and sustaining friendships as an adult. I think something like a book club is a great way to do that, but other ways that I’ve definitely found is getting involved in something local or something political. I know that that can be a great way to get to know people. But it’s also, you know, it takes a little bit to get comfortable with getting out there and getting beyond that initial spark of conversation where it’s like, “OK, we support the same candidate.” Or “We both have a kid.” [30:00] Or “We both like the same book.” But going from that to being like, “OK, we need to get into that substantive conversation where we really connect,” is not always easy. But the more that I try to open up a little bit and allow it to happen, I feel like I get better at it. It’s a habit you can learn or a skill you can learn. JL Yeah, when my son was born I was feeling very much like I had a lot of friends with kids, luckily, who I can ask their advice but no one was exactly at the same age as my son. I’m on a message board, it’s a Google mailing list for local moms or local parents in the area and sometimes people will start mom groups or parent that you can meet up and they’ll be like, you know, “Winter Moms,” “Spring Moms,” stuff like that. And there hadn’t been one when Cooper was born. But, so, a few other people expressed interest and I was like, “Well I guess I’m starting this.” And I remember thinking like, “Oh good, I won’t have to start something,” but then when it wasn’t there, I was like, “Ok, I’m going to start it.” And I mean it was just a meetup at a coffee shop nearby, once a week. But you know you just put it on the board, you say, “Here’s where we’re meeting.” And you start a mailing list and you know once you get over the fact that you have to just make that initial effort, you can do it pretty fast, and then show up, and meet people, and from there I’ve kept in touch with a few people but stayed like really close with two moms. And like that of course didn’t happen magically but one of the things I loved leaving there one day Rachel, my friend, was like, “Do you want to just meet up and take a walk someday?” And I was like, “Yes, I would love to walk with you someday.” [Laughter] And I just thought it was so cool that she asked. And that’s the whole thing is just getting over that fear — SWB It’s weird, right? To feel like you risk rejection in the same way that you wouldn’t want to tell somebody you were interested in dating that you like them. It kind of feels the same. Where’s it’s like, “Do they actually want to be my friend?” KL Right, yeah. JL Go for it! KL Yeah, go for it. SWB What the hell else are we doing with our lives? Well I think it’s about time to move into what is, I don’t know, maybe my favorite segment? Which is of course The Fuck Yeah of the Week. Fuck Yeah of the Week So I have a Fuck Yeah for the week that I hope you all are excited about. My Fuck Yeah is the upcoming reboot of Murphy Brown [yes!][oh my gosh!] starring Candice Bergen. I don’t know how many of you listening were Murphy Brown fans back in the day. I, as a child, in the nineties, was definitely a Murphy Brown fan. I liked her kind of tough-as-nails persona. She was a news anchor, and she wasn’t taking shit from anybody. But there was a huge hubbub over Murphy Brown when the character on the show was going to have a baby out of wedlock. And Dan Quayle got real upset about that, and there was a whole discussion about sort of the morality of single motherhood and choosing single motherhood as being something that was somehow inherently evil. And it was quite something. I’m super hyped to see what this reboot does with that entire concept because one hopes we are a lot further along now in terms of how we conceive of parents and what makes a family and what’s OK for a family to be than we were in the nineties. Although, at the same time, I think about all of the kind of sexist shit that that show was really tattling and I’m like, “Man, we’re still kind of right in it, though!” KL Yeah, we totally are. I remember watching that show and thinking that was one of the first times I had seen a character like that—that I could actually have seen myself becoming. And I know that I mean it was sort of in like a dreamscape kind of thing [laughs]. SWB No, no, no! Whenever we say Murphy Brown I do picture you [laughter]. KL It’s just—you kind of were like, “She’s smart. She has her shit together. And she’s also going to have a family. And why not? Why couldn’t I do that?” I hope that that was a lot of people who felt that way. It’s so fucking awesome that it’s coming back. SWB I mean I’m not always necessarily a fan of these reboot series, you know? I tried to watch the Will & Grace reboot on the plane the other day. I mean I was curious. I didn’t really expect it to be great. So I turned it on on the plane and then about 30 seconds I was like, I don’t think I can handle this because the [sighs]—the representations of gay people did not feel like they had evolved at all in the intervening years, and I think that that’s what really hit me. That this way of talking about, you know, queerness 10 years ago or whatever—or 15 years ago—that maybe seemed progressive then, or seemed new to be able to talk about it at all, felt very dated and felt very out of sync with the realities of all of the queer people’s lives that I know. [35:00] And so I was like, “This is just uncomfortable and also just not funny.” So I’m not necessarily somebody who thinks everything needs to be rebooted and I hope that the Murphy Brown reboot goes well. But I’m just excited for a new generation of people to learn about Murphy Brown and to look up to somebody who is so badass. JL What other shows would you want to see rebooted? SWB OK, so I want to see a Designing Women reboot, and that’s another one where—you know we watched an old episode of Designing Women recently and it had some amazing stuff in it, the premise of that particular episode is that the ladies were considering taking on a client to redecorate their— JL Brothel. SWB Brothel, yeah. So, um, there was a lot going on. There were some differing opinions about whether or not prostitution was good or bad, or OK for women or not Ok for women. And I think at the time that show was seen as being pretty progressive and really pushing the envelope on a lot of women’s issues, and similarly to Will & Grace you would find if you listened to a lot of those episodes that there would be some attitudes that feel pretty out of sync now. But the idea of there being this sassy group of women who come from really different backgrounds and have some pretty different perspectives and who are also pursuing their professional lives together—the idea of that being an ensemble cast, I think, makes a lot of sense. JL It’s interesting to think about these shows that have reboots. It’s like they almost want a reboot as a chance to redeem themselves. If they look back and cringe at some of the stuff now and I find myself thinking about this a lot. Like, what am I saying now that in 20 years I’m going to be like, “I can’t believe I said that.” SWB Shit! I think about that all the time: about stuff I’m saying I’m going to regret in like 20 minutes [laughter]. JL That’s also true. But like thinking about things that they’re redoing now. Like they’re remaking the movie Overboard. And I don’t know if you remember the movie Overboard— KL [Gasps] what?!? JL Right? Because at first when I thought about this I was like, “Oh I loved the movie Overboard,” but then when you get back into it, it’s essentially like a two-hour movie about like roofie-ing someone. It’s awful. Basically Goldie Hawn gets a concussion, loses her memory, and Kurt Russell convinces her that she’s his wife to take care of the children! SWB There’s a lot of like real normalization of very rapey ideology that goes on in a lot of these movies and that’s—it’s both reflecting what was accepted in the culture at the time and also kind of driving that. That reinforces such outdated, but also just plain abusive, attitudes. And I hope that we get more and more honest about some of those problems. Like it’s not to say that you can never watch some eighties movie again, but I think that that when we do we need to be like, “Wait a second.“ You know one thing I’m really thankful for is the continued education I get to have from people with different backgrounds, different perspectives than I have who are allowing me to see how much I didn’t used to see, right? How much media I would just kind of passively consume without realizing what was at play. And so the more that we have these kinds of conversations and we talk about what’s going wrong, the more effectively we can both critically analyze the media of the past, and then also push for better representation in the future. KL Amen. JL Fuck yeah Murphy Brown! KL Fuck yeah. SWB Fuck yeah Murphy Brown! I’m going to get myself like a blazer with some shoulder pads to celebrate [yes!][fade out]. Outro SWB That’s it for this week’s episode of No, You Go, the show about being ambitious and sticking together. If you like what you’ve been hearing, please go ahead and give us a rating or even a review on iTunes. No, You Go is recorded in our home city of Philadelphia, and our theme music is by The Diaphone. Our producer is Steph Colbourn and you can find us online at noyougoshow.com or on Twitter @noyougoshow. Thanks to Alisha Ramos for being our guest today. We’ll be back [music fades in] next week with another new episode [music ramps up to end].

American journalist Anne Helen Petersen has been writing about celebrities since she was at uni and over that time she's noticed one thing - the rise of unruly women. Unruly is described as disorderly, disruptive and not amenable to discipline or control. And, if you look around Hollywood you'll see this kind of behaviour everywhere. So Anne decided to collect her thoughts and research into a book and that’s how Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud was born. Show Notes Your host is Mia Freedman. With thanks to special guest Anne Helen Petersen Buy Anne's book Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud by going to apple.co/mamamia This podcast was produced by Elissa Ratliff  CONTACT US Suggest a guest via: podcast@mamamia.com.au Tweet us @mamamiapodcasts Or join the conversation on facebook This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

American journalist Anne Helen Petersen has been writing about celebrities since she was at uni and over that time she's noticed one thing - the rise of unruly women. Unruly is described as disorderly, disruptive and not amenable to discipline or control. And, if you look around Hollywood you'll see this kind of behaviour everywhere. So Anne decided to collect her thoughts and research into a book and that’s how Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud was born. Show Notes Your host is Mia Freedman. With thanks to special guest Anne Helen Petersen Buy Anne's book Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud by going to apple.co/mamamia This podcast was produced by Elissa Ratliff  CONTACT US Suggest a guest via: podcast@mamamia.com.au Tweet us @mamamiapodcasts Or join the conversation on facebook This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

American journalist Anne Helen Petersen has been writing about celebrities since she was at uni and over that time she's noticed one thing - the rise of unruly women. Unruly is described as disorderly, disruptive and not amenable to discipline or control. And, if you look around Hollywood you'll see this kind of behaviour everywhere. So Anne decided to collect her thoughts and research into a book and that’s how Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud was born. Show Notes Your host is Mia Freedman. With thanks to special guest Anne Helen Petersen Buy Anne's book Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud by going to apple.co/mamamia This podcast was produced by Elissa Ratliff  CONTACT US Suggest a guest via: podcast@mamamia.com.au Tweet us @mamamiapodcasts Or join the conversation on facebook This show is part of the Mamamia Women’s Network   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This month we’re staying chronologically close to home, hopping back just a few decades to the roaring '90s. We chose two happy memories of the period --grunge fashion and the McPizza--and set about to see what they have in common. Torey tried to connect with her inner Kurt Cobain and ended up with only a mild existential crisis in a Value Village. Steph met with much more certain success, finding a veritable double for the McPizza crust recipe (that cornmeal mouthfeel!) and tracing its dubious roots through fast food history. Steph is obsessed with: Beckoned By the Sea: Women at work on theCascadia Coast by Sylvia Taylor Torey is obsessed with: Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise andReign of the Unruly Woman by Anne Helen Peterson. Thanks for listening! Find us online: Instagram @fashionablyateshow Facebook and Pinterest @fashionablyate Email us at fashionablyateshow@gmail.com And if you haven't already found us on iTunes, now's your chance! Download and subscribe -- and if you would be so kind, please leave us a star rating or review. We'd love the feedback. Check our facts: FASHION  “Grunge: A Success Story” by Rick Marin in the New York Times, 1992: Why Kurt Cobain Was One of the Most Influential Style Icons of Our Times” by Chioma Nnadi in Vogue Champagne Supernovas: Kate, Marc, McQueen,and the ‘90s renegades who remade fashion by Callahan, Maureen. 2014 Style Tribes: The Fashion of Subcultures by Young, Caroline. 2016.  Riot grrrl: Revolution girl style now! 2007 (Note: This is the book that enthralled 18-year-old Torey many years ago.) We were feminists once: From riot grrrl toCoverGirl, the buying and selling of a political movement. Zeisler, Andi, 2016 FOOD   To recreate Steph’s Reddit journey: "TIL that in the late 80s and early 90s McDonalds brought in the McPizza..." "A personal eulogy for the McDonalds McPizzas..." The magical crust we used for our McPizzas A general overview of Fast Food in North America A Globe and Mail article on Canadian eating habits (look out for this one to reoccur!): Some other interesting McDonalds’ foods A different podcast, whose hosts actually went to the Pomeroy, OH location to eat some McPizza last year The wonderful and stereotypical Canadian McPizza ad

Never fear! We've got a new episode of The Misfit Book Club to help you get through your Thanksgiving holiday. (But, like...don't listen to this one without headphones. Things get a little saucy right off the bat and stay that way. You know you like it.) This is the discussion episode for Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman by Anne Helen Petersen. We start off with two hilarious stories about Stranger Things and a Maria's really weird massage, then we get into book news [9:50]. We have an awesome Harry Potter tidbit for you gamers out there. Then we get into the meat and potatoes. Be forewarned: there are spoilers past this point! (Can you spoil a non-fiction book? Unclear.) We offer some general thoughts [12:20] before jumping into our very favorite chapters [14:00]. We also tackle a really hard question: how do you talk to people who are antagonistic toward feminism about feminism? We offer our suggestions [45:40], but we'd love to hear yours, too. And of course, we share your answers to our book club Instagram questions [38:50]! Keep listening to the end so you don't miss the announcement of December's book pick! We think you're going to be really, really excited about this one. So plug in those headphones, turn up the volume, and enjoy! EPISODE SHOUT-OUTS TO THESE AWESOME MISFITS. @georginakaneauthor @799Books @lowelowexxoo @wethreereaders @bookcish @littlered_reader @hiltonjenkin @katnundrum @theunreadshelf @paperstreetbooks @VirginiaFoote Go give 'em a follow on Instagram! You won't be sorry. You got feedback for us? We wanna hear it! Here's where you can find us: Instagram: @misfitbookclub Twitter: @misfitbookclub Goodreads: Misfit Book Club Podcast Facebook: Misfit Book Club Podcast Email: misfitbookclubpodcast AT gmail DOT com Find out more on the Misfit Book Club website.

Steph Jagger is a Guinness World Record holder, published author, & avid skier; and from July 2010 to May 2011, she circumnavigated the globe in search of one thing: snow. What she didn't plan on finding atop the world's whitest peaks, was herself.  For a year, Steph traveled and skied full-time and in the end, she skied over 4.1 Million vertical feet, breaking the world record for most vertical feet ever skied in a single year. Her original goal was 4,000,000 feet—but when she found out about the record she couldn't help but beat it! In our interview Steph shares candidly what went into planning and executing on such a bold trip, and how she was able to translate that experience into her new book, Unbound: A Story of Snow & Self-Discovery.  THE BOLD LIFE MOVEMENT SUBSCRIBE: iTunes | Stitcher Radio | YouTube   FOLLOW STEPH: Website | Facebook | Instagram  SOME QUESTIONS I ASK: Was it a quick decision or something you hemmed and hawed over? How did you afford it?  What were some of the most trying situations from the trip?  What is the first step someone should take if they're feeling stuck?  What was coming home like?  How can people avoid post-adventure blues? Why did she pick traditional publisher over self-publishing? IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL LEARN:  How to differentiate between something you're being called to and something that your ego is telling you to do.  Why she felt comfortable taking a year-long solo trip.  How to sustain the new you after you've experienced shifts in perspective.  How her book, Unbound, came to fruition. How to put together your book proposal and get picked up by a traditional publisher.  MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Big Magic - https://www.amazon.com/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1594634726 Your Big Beautiful Book Plan - http://yourbigbeautifulbookplan.com/ Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too loud - https://www.amazon.com/Too-Fat-Slutty-Loud-Unruly/dp/0399576851 Marie Howe Poems - http://www.mariehowe.com/ Becoming an Alchemist - Guide for the Modern Magician - https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Alchemist-Guide-Modern-Magician/dp/1590306872 On Being Podcast - https://onbeing.org/ Cheryl Strade - http://www.cherylstrayed.com/ Anne Lamott - https://www.facebook.com/AnneLamott/ Claire Bidwell Smith - https://clairebidwellsmith.com/

Guys, grab your "Nasty Woman" shirts and dig out that pussy hat...because this month's read is Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud by Anne Helen Petersen! We kick off this episode with some hot book news and a Jurassic Park wrap-up. Then we move on and give you the skinny on Anne Helen Petersen, the book, and what you can expect from a manifesto on unruly celebrity women. (We love Anne Helen, so we are super excited about this read. Prepare for some serious fangirling.) We think this is going to be great read for everyone (including you, our fearless male Misfits)! And even if you haven't picked the book up yet, you're still gonna love this episode. It has a little of everything: ice cream metaphors, wandering uteri, Gwyneth Paltrow confusion, and some serious grad school truth. And, as always, the first episode on any book we read is spoiler-free! EPISODE SHOUT-OUTS TO THESE AWESOME MISFITS. @georgieandherbooks (Instagram) @799Books (Twitter) @ARHForester (Twitter) Go give 'em a follow! You won't be sorry. You got feedback for us? We wanna hear it! Here's where you can find us: Instagram: @misfitbookclub Twitter: @misfitbookclub Goodreads: Misfit Book Club Podcast Facebook: Misfit Book Club Podcast Email: misfitbookclubpodcast AT gmail DOT com P.S: Because of the book title, we decided to go ahead and put an "Explicit" tag on this episode. We got your back. Find out more on the Misfit Book Club website.

Can you sell female friendship after you've put women down? Who did Taylor Swift vote for? Did she vote? Why does she represent our general distrust in well-intentioned white women? Elisa talks to "Stuff Mom Never Told You" podcast host Bridget Todd and BuzzFeed's senior culture writer Anne Helen Petersen to track the evolution of Taylor Swift from putting women down to embracing them. Petersen's book,"Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman" can be found wherever you get your books.What are your Strong Opinions? Let me know! Instagram: @popculturepirateTwitter: @popcultpirateHashtag: #SOLHpod #StrongOpinionsLooselyHeld See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sam talks to writer Anne Helen Petersen about her new book, "Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman." They cover pop culture and the news, President Trump, the nature of celebrity, Kim Kardashian, Nicki Minaj, Serena Williams, Lena Dunham, Amy Schumer, how white women can learn to be woke, Anne Hathaway, Melissa McCarthy, Abbi Jacobson and Ilana Glazer, Hillary Clinton, Ivanka Trump, Bernie Sanders and 'charismatic' politicians, and why Petersen's mother was an unruly woman. Email the show at samsanders@npr.org and follow Sam on Twitter @samsanders.

LA Times columnist Patt Morrison speaks with author and senior culture writer for BuzzFeed Anne Helen Petersen about her new book "Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud: The Rise and Reign of the Unruly Woman" 

Generals understand it. America’s health is related the country’s military readiness. That’s why they’ve produced reports like, “Too Fat to Fight” points out Georgetown’s Rosa Brooks on this episode. She and Kori Schake of Stanford and Julia Ioffe of the Atlantic then go on to argue that whether it's an epidemic like obesity or proposed health care reforms that will make millions suffer and thousands die, the biggest risks we face to our national security are not the one’s that produce the scare headlines we are used to. In addition, the gang discusses just what kind of crazy is America’s president—Yertle the Turtle crazy? Or something more menacing?Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/deepstateradio. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Generals understand it. America’s health is related the country’s military readiness. That’s why they’ve produced reports like, “Too Fat to Fight” points out Georgetown’s Rosa Brooks on this episode. She and Kori Schake of Stanford and Julia Ioffe of the Atlantic then go on to argue that whether it's an epidemic like obesity or proposed health care reforms that will make millions suffer and thousands die, the biggest risks we face to our national security are not the one’s that produce the scare headlines we are used to. In addition, the gang discusses just what kind of crazy is America’s president—Yertle the Turtle crazy? Or something more menacing? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Anne Helen Petersen has made a career on the rigorous, deep, academic study of celebrity culture. In her new book Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud, Petersen explores the rise of norm-breaking women such as Lena Dunham and Serena Williams and what their ascendency can tell us about the political moment we’re living in. Petersen’s day job is senior culture writer at BuzzFeed. Also, the Supreme Court makes a surprise ruling, and the Congressional Budget Office makes an unsurprising report. Join Slate Plus! Members get bonus segments, exclusive member-only podcasts, and more. Sign up for a free trial today at slate.com/gistplus.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anne Helen Petersen has made a career on the rigorous, deep, academic study of celebrity culture. In her new book Too Fat, Too Slutty, Too Loud, Petersen explores the rise of norm-breaking women such as Lena Dunham and Serena Williams and what their ascendency can tell us about the political moment we’re living in. Petersen’s day job is senior culture writer at BuzzFeed. Also, the Supreme Court makes a surprise ruling, and the Congressional Budget Office makes an unsurprising report. Join Slate Plus! Members get bonus segments, exclusive member-only podcasts, and more. Sign up for a free trial today at slate.com/gistplus.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Too short, but just right? Older than you wanted but the perfect fit? Too thin, too full, too dark, too light… what happens when we find our perfect match in an unexpected package? Here's how to get past preconceived ideas as to your “perfect” physical package and embrace the love you've found. For more information please visit my website at http://www.susanwinter.net/

Album Review Roundtable (October-December 2016)All releases are available on Bandcamp. Thanks to Kyle Bak of Double Feature and Ian Tomele of Voice of Addiction/Wrecking Ball Productions for being our guest panelists this episode. Track listing of featured artists (Format=Band Name 'Name of Album' track featured on episode) 1. Davey Dynamite "Holy Shit" (Rock N Roll) 2. Rash "Skinner Box" (Gas & Matches) 3. Blood People "Blood People" (Burn The Ship) 4. Sleeping Under 47 "Indecisive" (I Don’t Know) 5. Burdened "Crippled By Fear: Part 1" (Detriment) 6. Butchered "Whatever, I Guess..." (Comparing Slingshots to Shotguns) 7. Brickfight "To What End" (Rubes) 8. Old Irving "Old Irving" (Uptown) 9. Stellar West "Unfiltered" (Repeat) 10. Two Houses "I Feel So Good I Can't Stand Myself" (Brain Wilson) 11. Bad Timing "Busy Doin Nuthin" (Take it all) 12. Shitizen "Shitizen" (Piss Bomb) 13. The Audio Dead "From The Beginning" (The Last laugh) 14. Oscar Bait "Become Good"(Tebow) Honorable Mentions (Bands we didn't have time to talk about but still put out awesome music!) 1. Snort "Josh" 2. Mama "Eye in the Sky" 3. Bombflower "Sweeteaster" 4. Bad Jokes "Too Fat to Sk8" 5. Martha's Got A Limp Wrist "Who Gives a Shit?" 6. The Cell Phones "No" 7. Brain Vacation "Nuclear Retort" 8. Double Feature/EZ Kebage Split 9. Winter Classic/Boss Fight Split 10. Blue Shoes "Emotions & Stuff" 11. Infamy of Three "Demo 2016" 12. Silent Age "Demo 2016" 13. Black Hole Youth "Now That's What I Call Punk!" 14. New Dougs "Stoked" 15. Pastel Hand Grenade "Pastel Hand Grenade" 16. Terrible Lizards "Origin of the Species" 17. Brandon Harrod "I Must Be Trippin..." 18. King Tuts Tomb "Knightmare" 19. Fast Decay "Untitled" 20. Crime Spree "Crime Spree" 21. Mishandled "Save Yourself" 22. Action Boy "Aging Like Milk" 23. Fear City "Our Way Of Life"

Nancy talks with her daughter, Kate, about her upcoming one woman show "I"m Too Fat for This Show."

B-Sides from the 2003, "Too Fat to Run, Too Hot for Underwear" Tour. Check the $5 Shakes 6/11/16 in SF at the Milk Bar

This episode we talk to Julie Creffield of The Fat Girl’s Guide to Running Julie is a blogger and a jogger. She is plus size athlete, running coach and author of From Slouch to 5K, Getting past the first 30 seconds, and 99 ways to run with a baby. She is the founder of The Fat Girls Guide to Running, which is the worlds only resource specifically designed for plus size runners. Julie’s mission is to get 1 million plus size women running, as part of her global Too Fat to Run? Campaign. If you ever though you were too fat to run you need to listen to this!  

In this episode Andrea Mensink of the Columbia Convention and Visitors Bureau shares the secrets of these great destination.  Come and chow down on stuffed chicken wings with Too Fat to Fly.  Wonder at a 100 year old tortoise at the zoo who just had her first two batches of little turtles.  Andrea also takes time to explain South Carolina's fascination with bow ties and why you gotta look good when you step out in Columbia.

Like Oil and Caskets, Bullet Sized Death, And I Love Sex But I'm Too Fat were also contenders for the title of todays PGP with special guest Ashley Mendel!!!