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It sounded like every dish, every glass, and every pot in the kitchen had crashed to the floor at the exact same time.The whole family ran to see what had happened, expecting to find broken cabinets and shattered dishes scattered everywhere. Instead, everything was exactly where it belonged.A couple of weeks later, the impossible crash happened again. Once again, nothing had fallen, nothing was broken, and there wasn't a single clue explaining what all four family members had heard. Then, just days later, another strange discovery left them with even more questions.The crashes never returned, but decades later the mystery remains. If nothing actually fell... what made a sound that loud? And why did it seem as though something in that kitchen wanted their attention?#RealGhostStories #GhostStories #TrueGhostStories #Paranormal #Unexplained #HauntedHouse #Poltergeist #ParanormalActivity #PoltergeistActivity #ResidualHaunting #UnexplainedMysteriesLove real ghost stories? Don't just listen—join us on YouTube and be part of the largest community of real paranormal encounters anywhere. Subscribe now and never miss a chilling new story:

Sheil, Billy, and Tom get together to analyze and debate some of the biggest and most interesting topics currently swirling around the NFL media landscape.(00:00) Ten preseason stories that have our attention!(04:12) One-of-one Topps patches for rookies(06:57) Have we reached football broadcast saturation?(09:53) NFL scraps the Pro Bowl(16:55) New NFL rules for suspensions and violations(25:33) What are we hearing?(37:26) New NCAA rules for NFL players(54:53) Preseason revenge game for Tua Tagovailoa?(01:01:09) Browns name Deshaun Watson starter for Week 1(01:12:00) No more 'Hard Knocks' in-season series(01:19:15) NFL and Disney pairing teams with characters(01:21:45) Remembering Dolly Parton and Tim CurryUpgrade Your Performance with Orgain Creatine. Available at Amazon, Costco, Walmart & Whole Foods.The Ringer is committed to responsible gaming. Please visit https://fanduel.com/playwithaplan to learn more about the resources and helplines.Host: Sheil KapadiaGuests: Tom Pelissero and Billy GilProducer: Chris SuttonVideo Editor: Stefano SanchezProduction Supervision: Conor Nevins and Arjuna Ramgopowell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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There are passages in St. Isaac that can sound almost impossible to modern ears. His words on vigil are among them. “Do not imagine,” he tells us, “that among all the works of monastics there is any practice greater than night vigil.” We hear such words and immediately think of sleep deprivation, bodily exhaustion, long hours of psalmody, standing in darkness while the rest of the world sleeps. We wonder whether such a practice belongs to another age, another kind of human being, perhaps even another understanding of the spiritual life. But this is precisely where we can misunderstand Isaac. Vigil becomes incomprehensible when it is separated from desire. If we begin with asceticism, vigil appears severe. If we begin with love, it begins to make sense. The lover understands the night. There are moments when we do not want an evening to end because we are with someone we love. There are conversations in which we cease looking at the clock. A mother remains awake beside a sick child without calculating the sacrifice. Someone awaiting the return of the beloved listens for every sound in the night. Love changes our experience of time. And so it is with the saints. They did not remain awake because they despised sleep. They remained awake because they had discovered Someone for whom it was worth losing sleep. This is the secret of vigil. “That I May Be With You” The Fathers understood the spiritual life far less as the fulfillment of religious obligations than as the awakening of desire. Beneath fasting, silence, solitude, tears, prostrations, psalmody, and vigil lies a single movement of the heart: I want God. Not merely His gifts. Not consolation. Not religious experiences. Not even virtue considered as a possession. God Himself. This is why St. Isaac describes the mind of the one who keeps vigil as becoming light and buoyant, taking flight “as it were on wings.” The ascetic is not merely staying awake. Something within him is being released. During the day the mind is scattered among a thousand things. We speak. We answer. We plan. We remember. We anticipate. We defend ourselves. We attend to necessities. Even when these things are good, the heart becomes divided among them. Then comes the night. The voices diminish. The demands cease. The world grows quiet. And the soul discovers again the One whom it has been seeking beneath everything else. This is why vigil was so precious to the Desert Fathers and remains so in the teaching of the great modern elders. It creates a space in which the heart can become undivided. The night says: There is nowhere else I need to go. There is nothing I need to accomplish. There is no one before whom I need to justify myself. There is only God. And I am here. The Recovery of Wonder Yet there is something even deeper in Isaac's teaching. Vigil is not merely about attention. It is about wonder. Isaac tells us that the one who perseveres in vigil begins to “gaze upon” heavenly realities. His language is deliberately extravagant: the soul comes to possess “the eyes of Cherubim.” What does this mean? It means that purification changes how we see. The tragedy of fallen existence is not simply that we commit sins. It is that we gradually cease to be astonished by God. We become accustomed to everything. Accustomed to the Gospel. Accustomed to the Eucharist. Accustomed to the name of Jesus. Accustomed to the Cross. Accustomed even to the astonishing claim that the Creator of heaven and earth desires communion with us. And when wonder disappears, desire soon weakens with it. The Fathers knew that the heart must be awakened again. This is one reason vigil has such power. In the silence of the night, familiar words can suddenly become new. “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God…” We may have spoken those words ten thousand times. Yet in the stillness something can happen. Jesus. The Name becomes luminous. God is here. God sees me. God desires me. God has called me into existence that I might share His life. And suddenly prayer is no longer something we are performing. It is encounter. Wonder gives birth to desire, and desire gives birth to greater attention. Then the soul begins to understand why the saints stayed awake. The Vigil of the Lover This is why we must be careful not to turn Isaac's teaching into another spiritual program. Stay awake longer. Say more psalms. Sleep less. Accumulate hours. Isaac himself warns against precisely this distortion. A person may endure “prolonged psalmody,” weariness of the tongue, and “night-long standing,” and yet receive little fruit because the mind is elsewhere. The body is standing before God while the heart is wandering through the world. Isaac asks, with characteristic directness: Why sow so much seed if we continually prevent it from bearing fruit? Vigil without attention becomes habit. Vigil without desire becomes endurance. Vigil without love becomes religious achievement. And religious achievement can quietly feed the very ego that asceticism is meant to dismantle. The true vigil begins somewhere deeper. Stay with Me. This is the invitation hidden within the night. Christ in Gethsemane asked His disciples, “Could you not watch with me one hour?” Perhaps every vigil is, in some mysterious way, our answer to that question. Yes, Lord. I will stay. Not because I am strong. Not because I am an ascetic. Not because I want to imagine myself among the saints. I stay because You are here. Why Vigil Requires the Day This also explains something that Isaac emphasizes strongly and that can easily be overlooked. The vigil cannot be separated from the way we live during the day. If we spend the day deliberately filling the mind with noise, agitation, curiosity, argument, distraction, and endless encounters, we should not be surprised if those same things accompany us into prayer at night. Isaac therefore insists that the monk who desires the fruit of vigil must guard himself from unnecessary disturbance during the day. This is not contempt for the world. It is custody of the heart. The Fathers understood something about human consciousness that our age desperately needs to rediscover: what we give ourselves to leaves traces within us. Everything enters the heart. Images. Conversations. Arguments. News. Resentments. Fantasies. Fears. The opinions of others. The desire to be seen. The need to respond. The mind carries these things into silence. Thus vigil actually begins long before nightfall. It begins with how we guard the heart throughout the day. The School of Freedom This is one reason the disappearance of vigil from much contemporary Christian life is significant. We have not merely lost an ascetical practice. We have lost one of the great schools of desire, attention, and freedom. The modern world teaches us to flee silence. It places a device in our hand capable of filling every empty moment. It trains the eyes to seek novelty and the mind to expect constant stimulation. The Fathers move in precisely the opposite direction. Be still. Remain. Watch. Wait. Listen. Do not flee the emptiness. Because eventually you may discover that it was never empty. Someone was waiting for you there. The purpose of vigil is not to prove that we can conquer the body. It is to become free enough to recognize the presence of the Beloved. “I Sleep, but My Heart Is Awake” The goal, then, is ultimately something greater than remaining physically awake. The goal is wakefulness of heart. “I sleep, but my heart is awake,” says the Bride in the Song of Songs. There is the mystery. The deepest vigil eventually becomes a state of the soul. A person begins to live before God. The Jesus Prayer continues beneath thought. The remembrance of God becomes increasingly continuous. The heart waits for Him. Looks toward Him. Listens for Him. Desires Him. This is the angelic quality Isaac sees in vigil. The angels do not merely “stay awake.” They exist in ceaseless attention to God. Their life is beholding. And Isaac dares to say that through vigil the human person begins to participate in this same movement. The eyes of the heart open. Wonder returns. Desire intensifies. Prayer deepens. The mind grows light. And gradually the soul discovers that the ascetical life is not fundamentally a life of deprivation. It is a life of fascination. The Night Is Not Empty Perhaps this is what we most need to recover from Isaac. We will never understand the asceticism of the Fathers if we begin with what they gave up. We must begin with what they saw. They saw a Beauty before which the beauties of the world grew pale. They tasted a sweetness that made lesser consolations seem small. They discovered a Love so immense that solitude became communion, silence became fullness, fasting became hunger for God, and vigil became the refusal to leave the presence of the Beloved. This is why the teaching on vigil belongs so naturally beside the language of desire and wonder. The ascetic does not remain awake merely because a rule commands it. He has glimpsed something. And because he has glimpsed it, he wants to see more. Wonder awakens desire. Desire gathers the scattered heart. The gathered heart becomes attentive. Attention becomes prayer. And prayer becomes communion. Then something remarkable happens. What once appeared burdensome becomes precious. The night that once seemed long becomes too short. Silence that once frightened us becomes the place we long to enter. And the prayer that once seemed an obligation becomes something from which we are reluctant to depart. The saints kept vigil because they discovered that the night was not empty. The Beloved was there. And once the heart knows this, the deepest question is no longer: Why would anyone remain awake to pray? It becomes: How could love not want to remain? --- Text of chat during the group: 00:18:08 Bob Čihák, AZ: P 222, Homily 20 00:23:28 David Swiderski: The last time we discussed this and sleeping 8 hours straight and for most of time people at least in Europe slept "2" times I went back to my Grandfather's diary and it appears the wood stoves in Northern Wisconsin only lasted 4hrs and you would need to get up and feed the fire so they naturally did vigils and took advantage of the break in sleep. In Spain and Latina America they have a nap in some areas due to the heat (2 hour lunch) and are up till 1 or 2 am. It seems modern western society is a new adaptation of what was a practice for hundreds of years. 00:25:10 Ryan Ngeve: Father what is one to do if these practices and deprivations make us more agitated/irritated and downcast, especially towards  others, as they tend to do? 00:39:01 Gwen's iPhone: my cat does! 00:39:24 James Hickman: Is it safe to call vigils a means to the end, which is nearness to the Lord, such that a super practical means to find closeness with the Lord is this watching for him when there are fewer distractions (not that we are safe from distractions in the night, but that the many combating us in the day are perhaps different in kind or number than those distractions of the night)? 00:42:15 Rod Castillo: I pray my daily rosary at 2 am.  It's the only time the house is quiet enough to allow me to devote myself completely to it. 00:43:46 James Hickman: Reacted to "I pray my daily rosary at 2 am.  It's the only time the house is quiet enough to allow me to devote myself completely to it." with

We want your feedback and questions. Text us here.Your prospects may not be ignoring you because they aren't interested. They may simply be overwhelmed. Today's buyers are busy, distracted, and constantly competing against demands for their attention. That means the old sales playbook of repeated follow-ups, lengthy presentations, and endless options can actually make it harder for people to buy.In this episode of The Champion Forum Podcast, Jeff Hancher breaks down how to sell effectively to the modern buyer by earning attention, keeping prospects engaged, and simplifying the decision-making process. You'll learn how to make your prospecting more relevant, use questions to create better sales conversations, avoid overwhelming buyers with information, and clearly answer the three questions every prospect needs resolved: Why change? Why now? Why you?If you want to improve your sales conversations without becoming more aggressive or adding more pressure, this episode will help you become someone customers actually want to buy from.

Bryan Murphy, CEO of Smartling, confronts a $40 billion industry stuck in the slow lane—the world of translation. Most companies still handle translations like it's 1999: manual, expensive, and painfully slow. Bryan saw AI as the game changer that could rewrite the rules, but integrating it wasn't a walk in the park. He shares how Smartling harnessed AI to not just cut costs and speed up translation but to finally boost quality close to human-level precision without losing control over brand voice or nuance. Yet, making this leap meant upheaval: reorganizing teams, hiring AI experts, and establishing ruthless R&D discipline to separate winning ideas from distractions. Bryan also shares: - Why a $40 billion translation industry was ripe for disruption - How AI helped Smartling move from faster and cheaper to dramatically better - What it took to bring AI into a traditional business without sacrificing quality or brand voice - Why hiring the right AI talent was critical to making the shift - How ruthless R&D discipline helps separate breakthrough ideas from distractions - Why every AI initiative needs a clear connection to customer outcomes Chapters 00:00 - Introduction to Bryan Murphy and Defining the Translation Challenge 02:30 - The Hidden $40B Translation Market and Its Untapped Potential 06:00 - Early AI in Translation: Faster and Cheaper, But Not Yet Better 09:20 - Human-in-the-Loop AI: Boosting Translator Productivity Tenfold 13:00 - Unlocking Market Expansion Through Improved SEO and Digital Footprint 15:00 - The Moment of Truth: Recognizing GPT's Impact and Rolling Out Rapid Innovation 18:00 - Overcoming Organizational Challenges: From Excitement to Structured Execution 22:00 - The Discipline of "Customer-First" in AI Development and Roadmapping 24:00 - Leadership Lessons: Listening Without Losing Vision Amidst Painful Change 26:00 - Winning Customer Trust: Betting On Proofs of Concept Against Skeptics 28:00 - Personal Insights: Favorite Leadership Books and the Role of Intellectual Curiosity 33:00 - Wrap-up and Invitation to Follow Smartling's AI-Empowered Evolution Try Smartling: smartling.com

https://teachhoops.com/https://coachingyouthhoops.com/https://heysami.com/ Coaching Youth Hoops with Coach Bill Flitter and Coach Steve Collins This one came straight out of the Coaching Youth Hoops Facebook group and it lit the group up: how do you get kids to focus and concentrate during practice? Coach Collins opens with the honest answer, a CYO season he calls the worst coaching experience of his 20 year career. Talented team, could have won everything, and the attention span was next to zero. From there the guys get practical about what actually moves the needle, and what does not. IN THIS EPISODE 01:24 Tryout season is here. What Coaching Youth Hoops has ready for you as August winds down. 01:59 A free resource for structuring your tryouts, sitting under the free resources tab at the top of the menu. 02:17 Hey Sami, the new project built to cut the admin load for youth sports parents and coaches, plus the official launch of the Hey Sami podcast. One parent question answered per episode. Send yours to hey@heysami.com. 03:37 The question from the Facebook group, and the CYO team that pushed Coach Collins to the edge. 04:46 Why playing time is the strongest lever you have, and what happens when equal playing time rules take that lever away. 05:18 The kid who ran the entire practice. When running stops being a solution and starts being a symptom. 05:44 The COVID factor, and why that group came back different. 06:17 Idle minds make idle players. No dead time, ever. If they stand for 30 seconds they will find something to do with their hands. 07:03 The problem with that rule: you still have to stop and teach sometimes. 07:25 Grab your most hyper kid as the demonstrator. Same move as putting the disruptive student in the front row. 07:30 Build in consequences. Dribbling while you talk gets one warning, then it costs them. 08:19 Coach it like a Reel. If you cannot teach it in 30 seconds, break it into smaller pieces. 09:39 The best practice planning advice in the episode: if you have 90 minutes on the floor, have three hours ready on paper. Some of it is going to blow up. 10:13 Teach step one, go do step one, then come back. Why showing the whole scheme loses the room. 11:20 The huddle test. Eyes drifting, no eye contact, so pause, wait, then ask them to repeat what you just said. 11:35 Kids do not automatically read verbal and nonverbal cues. Teaching that is part of the job, not a distraction from it. 11:55 Bring your questions to the Coaching Youth Hoops Facebook group. This episode started there. KEY TAKEAWAYS Structure beats discipline. A practice with no dead time solves most focus problems before they start.Over plan every session. Three hours of material for a 90 minute practice.Teach in 30 second pieces, then go do it, then come back for the next piece.Consequences need to be immediate, consistent, and small. One warning, then it costs something.Use your most restless player as the demonstrator instead of fighting him.Attention is a skill you are teaching, not a trait they show up with. LINKS https://teachhoops.com/ Practice ideas, culture, defense, and how to get kids to play harder. 14 day free trial.https://coachingyouthhoops.com/ The one stop shop for youth basketball coaches, including the free tryout structure resource under free resources.https://heysami.com/ Cutting the admin chaos for youth sports families. Submit a question to the Hey Sami podcast at hey@heysami.com.Coaching Youth Hoops Facebook group. Search Coaching Youth Hoops on Facebook and join.The Hey Sami podcast is live on Spotify, Apple, and everywhere you listen. Subscribe, like, and leave a review. It keeps the lights on around here. Downloaded Masterclass-Interview-Scorecard.pdf Show in Finder Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Brothers Osborne are going home, but first the Grammy-winning duo are stopping by Rolling Stone's Nashville Now podcast. Singer TJ Osborne and guitarist John Osborne join us for a conversation that looks back at their beginnings in Nashville more than a decade ago and where they're headed on new album Watertown, a celebration of their hometown of Deale, Maryland. They also talk about releasing “sellout” editions of their new singles in an attempt to capture today's short-attention spans, and how their unexpected collaborations with Cody Johnson came to be. It's one of Nashville's most important bands, only on Nashville Now. Country is Here… Nashville is Now. Check out our Hear Now playlist on Spotify, updated weekly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In the 2nd hour of the show, Laurence Holmes & Russ Dorsey were joined by National Negro Leagues Baseball Museum President Bob Kendrick.

Self-care podcast exploring Benefits of Meditation Practice, Why We Fear Silence & Ways to Support Our Nervous System Through Change With Elena Brower. TOPICS:: ** Benefits of Meditation Practice (10:17). ** Why We Fear Silence (17:06). ** Ways to Support Our Nervous System Through Change (23:47).   NOTES:: Show notes: amberapproved.ca/podcast/688 Leave me a review at amberapproved.ca/review Email me at info@amberapproved.ca   Health Practitioners sign up for the Body Freedom Certification Waitlist: https://amber-romaniuk.mykajabi.com/body-freedom-certification-waitlist      Take the NEW Free Hormone Imbalance Quiz here: https://amberapproved.ca/hormone-imbalance-quiz    Subscribe to newsletter: https://amber-romaniuk.mykajabi.com/newsletter-sign-up    SHOW LINKS: Click below to schedule a 30 minute Complimentary Body Freedom Consultation https://amberapproved.ca/body-freedom-consultation/  Take my free Emotional Eating Quiz here: http://amberapproved.ca/emotional-eating-quiz Listen to Episode 668 about what it's like to work with me here: https://amberapproved.ca/podcast/668  Follow me on Instagram www.instagram.com/amberromaniuk Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@amberromaniuk/    ABOUT MY GUEST:  Mother, mentor, poet, artist, volunteer, bestselling author, and podcast host, Elena Brower is a celebrated international yoga and meditation teacher on Glo, guiding transformative practices since 1999. Her new book, Hold Nothing, was published by Shambhala Publications in November 2025. Her column on Substack by the same name, Hold Nothing, supports girls and women, through On The Inside, Girls on Fire Leaders, Women for Women, and Free Food Kitchen.   Her debut book, Art of Attention, was published in 2012 and has been translated into seven languages. Her bestselling journals Practice You and Being You, her collection of poetry entitled Softening Time, along with courses, classes, and talks, explore stages of studentship, practice, life, and listening.   She hosts the acclaimed podcast Practice You, a series of deep, compassionate conversations with teachers, artists, and thinkers, intended to support you through life's transitions, encouraging presence, care, and openness. Offering new virtual classes weekly on Glo.com, Elena weaves body, breath, art, and contemplative mindfulness into practice. 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“Demand avoidance”, poor generalization, prompt-dependence, and social skills challenges seem like isolated issues. But often they're not. Many times they're tied to executive functioning challenges. That's why when I describe “executive dysfunction”, I cluster it into five broad areas:Attention, Learning Challenges, Behavioral Issues, Organization, and Social SkillsUsually, this is the point that the lightbulb goes on for a lot of clinicians and educators in the room as they realize executive functioning is the common sticking point behind many of their students' challenges.When I support clinicians in designing executive functioning intervention frameworks, I start with explaining the external signs. Things like:✅ Refusing to do even the simplest of tasks, and putting more effort into avoiding the work than it would take to actually do it✅Behaviors that seem disproportionate to the situation, melt downs over things that barely phase their peers✅ Always appearing to be several steps behind✅ Not “reading the room” during functional tasks, and requiring tons of prompts✅ Lack of awareness of how they're coming across to othersIn episode 266 of De Facto Leaders, I do a deep dive into these five external signs that tie back to executive functioning challenges. In this episode, I mention the Task Execution and Planning Protocol, which gives school clinicians an intervention strategy that takes students from “demand avoidance” and prompt dependence to independence during daily academic and functional tasks. You can learn more about the Task Execution and Planning Protocol here: https://drkarendudekbrannan.com/taskexecutionIn this episode, I mentioned School of Clinical Leadership, my program that helps related service providers design scalable executive functioning interventions to ensure students get the scaffolding they need across the school day. You can learn more about the program here: https://drkarendudekbrannan.com/clinicalleadership

Why Criticism Never Changes Men | FT: Allison ArmstrongCONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars([https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars]On YouTube @chosentraining(https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars))Work with me HERE ([https://charlenebyars.com/](https://charlenebyars.com/))CONNECT WITH ALLISONOn Instagram: instagram.com/TheAlisonArmstrongOn YouTube: youtube.com/user/PAXProgramsCausing Those Loving Feelings webinaralisonarmstrong.com/products/causing-loving-feelings.htmlThe Understanding Women and Understanding Men Free Sample Page:alisonarmstrong.com/samplesThe Queen's Code audiobookalisonarmstrong.com/products/queenscodebook.htmlMaking Sense of Men: A Woman's Guide to a Lifetime of Love, Care & Attention from All MeneBook, available on the Alison Armstrong Mobile AppGo to: alisonarmstrong.com/products/makingsense.htmlClick on "FOR ME"At check out, enter promo code AlisonSense Relationship researcher Allison Armstrong, who has studied men and relationships since 1991 — joins the podcast to unpack one of the most counterintuitive truths in her decades of work: women often bring out the very behaviors in men that frustrate them most, without realizing it.Allison shares the origin story behind her research: witnessing a colleague dubbed a "frog farmer" ask why men start out wonderful and become distant over time, and the trainer's blunt response that reframed her entire understanding of relationships. From there, the conversation dives into how men and women fundamentally misinterpret each other's behavior: why a man asking "where do you want to go?" on a date is an act of generosity (not indecision), why touching an upset man can feel physically painful to him due to adrenaline, and why men "ignoring" their partners is often testosterone-driven focus, not disregard.Timestamps:00:00 — Intro: Meet Allison Armstrong, 35 Years Studying Men02:30 — The Question That Started It All: "What If Men Are Responding to Women?"05:00 — The Frog Farmer Story: Turning Princes Into Frogs08:00 — Why "I'm Not Ready to Get Married" Isn't Personal (But Not Marrying You Is)10:30 — The "I'm Sorry I Hurt Your Feelings" Reframe13:00 — Why Men Calculate "Is This Worth It?" Before Engaging16:00 — The Restaurant Date Story: Why "Where Do You Want to Go?" Is Generous19:00 — Chemistry vs. Care: Why Too Much Chemistry Causes Possession22:00 — "If It Hurts, It Isn't Love" — Attachment vs. Real Love24:00 — Why Men Want to Be Alone When Upset (Not Ignoring You)27:00 — How Men Listen: Problem-Solving vs. Being Heard30:00 — Productive Mindset vs. Open/Connective Mindset Explained33:00 — Why Criticism Doesn't Work on Men (The Layered Process)36:00 — "Consider the Source" — How Men Filter Criticism39:00 — Why Agreement Doesn't Mean Immediate Change42:00 — Furious to Curious: Changing Your Filter Question45:00 — The Massive Heart Attack Story: Allison's Husband49:00 — Why Men Believe So Strongly in Intent 51:00 — How Women Unknowingly Disrespect Men53:00 — Projection: Why Men Assume Women Need to "Finish" Too56:00 — The "I've Got This" Package-Carrying Story58:00 — Practical Reframe: From "What's Wrong With Him?" to "What If There's a Good Reason?"1:01:00 — Allison's Courses: FLUX, Understanding Women, Understanding Men1:08:00 — The Queen's Code & Keys of the Kingdom Explained1:1200 — Free Gift: Making Sense of Men1:15:00 — Closing Thoughts: Men Adore Us More Than We Realize.The episode breaks down why criticism is the most common but least effective way to try to change a man's behavior, including the layered psychological process men go through when criticized (considering the source, weighing the truth of it, calculating whether change is "worth it"), and offers a practical reframe: shifting from "what's wrong with him?" to "what if there's a good reason for that?"Allison also discusses the danger of chemistry-driven attraction versus attraction rooted in genuine care, and shares a deeply personal story about her late husband and the nature of lasting love.

Trust isn't something you manufacture through effort — it's something you receive through relationship. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro concludes the series on OCPD and perfectionism by exploring why control feels so necessary, how our earliest relationships shape our ability to trust God, and why freedom begins not when we become perfect, but when we allow ourselves to be loved. Because holiness isn't built on mastering the perfect spiritual routine — it's built on learning to rest in the love that has always been pursuing you. Key Topics: Why trust can't be built through more effort, more surrender, or the right devotion How "trying harder" to trust God is actually the pattern itself, not the way out of it How the parts of us that need control aren't bad, but are protecting something deeper Why compassion, not correction, is the first step toward healing a controlling part How self-possession exists for the sake of self-gift — and why you can't give what you don't have Why holiness was never meant to end fear of hell, but to end the need to earn love in the first place How real healing only happens in relationship — not in a program, a podcast, or a novena Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Ep. #292: Holy Anxiety: The Understandable Underbelly of Scrupulosity Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Presence Virtual Retreat: Practice the presence of God and trustful surrender  Previous episodes on parts work (IFS): Ep. #34: A New Theory! w/ a Catholic Lens Ep. #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Thoughts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

Laurence & Russ were joined by National Negro League Baseball Museum President Bob Kendrick.

Parenting a kid with ADHD takes way more than standard advice; it requires understanding a complex brain difference that impacts focus, sleep, big emotions, and daily energy.In this episode, child psychologist Dr. Emily King and TILT Parenting founder Debbie Reber join Emily to give their perspective on what neurodivergent parenting looks like by challenging the "disorder" label, unpacking why behaviors shift between home and school, and diving into hidden struggles like RSD, time blindness, and burnout.From navigating evaluations to handling the gap between your child's age and their developmental stage, this conversation offers the honest, evidence-based grounding every parent needs.Tune in now, and reach out to Emily Edlynn to learn more about her 1-on-1 parent coaching!Listen and Learn: Should ADHD be framed as a medical disorder or a brain regulation difference?How pathologizing language impacts stigma, diagnosis, and access to support in both clinical and educational settings Why the name "ADHD" is misleading and how the disorder goes far beyond inattention and hyperactivity to affect emotional regulation, sleep, appetite, and energy management How to navigate the ADHD diagnosis process from choosing between a pediatrician and a full neuropsychological evaluation to gathering cross-environment data and shifting parent strategies for lasting behavioral change Overlooked ADHD traits that rarely get covered in formal evaluations and practical strategies to support your child without damaging their self-esteem How ADHD-related time blindness, task avoidance, and a lack of future-oriented thinking drive daily struggles like running late and better understanding your child's neurodivergent experience How emotional sensitivity, sensory processing, and energy regulation manifest in children with ADHD and autism and why a child's behavior can look so drastically different between home and school Why raising a neurodivergent child feels like "advanced parenting," and the deep isolation, constant judgment, and overwhelming family burnout that comes with itResources:https://www.dremilyking.com/The Neurodivergent Learner https://www.learnwithdremily.com/bookhttps://www.learnwithdremily.com/bookhttps://www.instagram.com/emilywkingphd/https://www.facebook.com/emilywkingphdhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/emilywkingphd/https://www.debbiereber.com/Differently Wired: A Parent's Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781523506316https://www.facebook.com/DeborahReberAuthor/https://twitter.com/debbiereber Tilt Parenting Podcast 359 A Conversation with Dr. Emily Edlynn on Raising Autonomous ChildrenEmily Edlynn's website – contact her directly if you are interested in a parent group! Emily Edlynn's Substack pieces about ADHD:Raising ADHD: Beyond the DiagnosisRaising ADHD: Why Common Parenting Strategies Don't WorkWhat the New York Times Got Wrong About ADHDUnderstanding This One Emotion Will Transform Your ParentingAbout Emily King and Debbie ReberEmily King is a child psychologist who has worked with neurodivergent learners for over 20 years. She received a Ph.D. in School Psychology from the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill and began her career in Houston, Texas specializing in school-based mental health in K-12 public schools. She has since worked in private practice in North Carolina supporting the mental health, executive functioning, and social needs of neurodivergent youth. Dr. Emily hosts the Learn with Dr. Emily Substack, where she provides parent workshops, is the creator of The Neurodiverse Classroom®, a professional development curriculum for educators, and her first book, THE NEURODIVERGENT LEARNER, came out on August 25th. Debbie Reber is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker, and the founder of Tilt Parenting, a top resource for parents raising neurodivergent children. Since launching Tilt in 2016, Debbie has championed a strengths-based approach that reframes how society supports differently wired kids. Her groundbreaking book, Differently Wired, is widely recommended by professionals in education and mental health, and her Full-Tilt Parenting Podcast has 10+ million downloads, featuring leading voices in the intersection of parenting and neurodivergence. A parent coach and Positive Discipline trainer, Debbie has been featured in The Washington Post, The New York Times, and on NewsNation, is a three-time TEDx speaker, and is a founding expert and advisor for HumanUp. She lives in the Netherlands with her husband and two cats, while her neurodivergent young adult attends university in Scotland.Related Episodes:395. Neurodivergence with Jennifer Kemp367. 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The Premier League is back, and so is WATG as we Whip Around The Grounds for the first time this season, taking in the standout results and talking points from the opening weekend. From Manchester United and Spurs stumbling to Aston Villa's heavy defeat and late drama at St James' Park, there is already plenty to get into.Then After Review makes its debut as the successor to VARse, with the focus still firmly on refereeing and VAR — but now under a new name. We look at how the season's new refereeing initiatives were applied across Gameweek 1, whether VAR's higher intervention bar is working as intended, and where the line should sit when player safety becomes part of the discussion.Attention then turns to Julian Álvarez, the increasingly difficult situation at Atlético Madrid and whether Arsenal should still be interested with Barcelona remaining part of the picture.Elsewhere, we get into the remarkable value of football memorabilia, Jean-Philippe Mateta's contract situation and the wider questions around club-held extension options, before finishing with terrace songs, Hull's tiger-claw celebration and some of the stranger moments from the opening weekend.Continue the discussion with us.Follow The NN Pod for more Arsenal and football content.All our links: https://beacons.ai/thennpodChapters:(00:00) - Arteta's Non-Negotiables & Intro(01:11) - WATG: Premier League Opening Weekend(03:14) - After Review: New Rules & VAR's Higher Bar(15:57) - Julian Álvarez: Arsenal & the Barcelona Problem(19:15) - Hand of God: Football Memorabilia Millions(22:45) - Jean-Philippe Mateta: The +1 Contract Challenge(27:22) - Terrace Songs: Brentford's New Anthem(30:08) - Hull City's Tiger Claws(31:22) - Unai Emery & Villa's Opening-Day Misery(33:59) - Outro & Aston Villa Preview

On this installment of "HR's Most Dangerous Podcast," Chad Sowash and Joel Cheeseman grill Raj Ronanki, CEO of Signal Labs, on one of the weirdest M&A moves the HR tech space has seen in years. Guided by a childhood obsession with Star Trek, Raj has raised millions to build "systems of attention"—and then immediately used it to buy Brass Ring, an applicant tracking system older than half the engineers currently building LLMs. In a chaotic blend of 1980s comedy references, sci-fi philosophy, and corporate jargon, the boys attempt to figure out if Raj is an AI visionary or if he just bought a ghost ship because 65% of the Fortune 500 forgot to cancel their subscription. Key Highlights & Hot Takes: Spock, Utopia, and Green Aliens The "Nunya Business" Acquisition HR's Forgotten Invoices Interviewing Bots for Jobs Making Compliance Cool Again Tune in for the full episode as Chad and Joel try to decipher whether Signal Labs is building the future of work or just running a very expensive 1999 nostalgia trip!

Dr. Masud Husain is a Professor of Neurology & Cognitive Neuroscience at the University of Oxford and a leading expert on the science of motivation, apathy, and neurological diseases. We discuss how dopamine and specific brain circuits shape motivation, including how the brain weighs the trade-off between effort vs reward when deciding what goals to pursue. Dr. Husain also explains practical tools to increase motivation, reduce distractions, and make it easier to start and maintain goal pursuit. We also discuss dementia, Parkinson's and Alzheimer's disease, including new insights into cognitive resilience and factors that help protect against age-related cognitive decline. Show notes: https://go.hubermanlab.com/masud-husain-295 Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman David: https://davidprotein.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Masud Husain (00:02:24) Apathy, Motivation (00:08:07) Rewards, Apathy & Motivation; Dopamine (00:13:20) Sponsors: David & BetterHelp (00:15:44) Types of Apathy; Goal Prioritization: Effort vs Rewards (00:23:26) Motivation, Apathy, Tool: Activation Energy & Overthinking (00:29:24) Tools to Increase Motivation: Incentives, Subdivide Tasks, Planning (00:35:13) Subjective Effort, Mental Framing; Learning & Motivation (00:42:24) Sponsors: AG1 & Eight Sleep (00:44:54) Perseverance, Failure; Finding Your Passion, Depression vs Apathy (00:50:58) Self-Concept, Ambition; Life Satisfaction (00:58:25) Psychedelics, Anhedonia & Changing Self (01:03:09) Personal & Social Identity, Tools: Curiosity, Purpose & Dementia Risk (01:11:58) Addiction, Dopamine; Social Media & Dopamine "Hits"? (01:18:36) Sponsor: Function (01:20:13) Dopamine, Parkinson's Disease; Other Roles of Dopamine (01:26:59) Life Purpose, Culture; Reflection, Weighing Decisions (01:34:21) Internal & External Attention (01:39:59) Internal Chatter, Distraction; Working Memory, Stimulants, Nicotine (01:48:54) ADHD, Diagnosis; Attention & Motivation (01:54:34) Goal Planning & Perseverance (01:59:44) Alzheimer's Disease, Dementia, Apathy, Tools: Dementia Risk Factors (02:06:55) Neurodegenerative Disease & Emerging Treatments (02:10:59) Can You Train Attention?, Tool: Reduce Distraction (02:15:14) Enrichment, Art (02:17:45) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey Heal Squad! Maria is back with another What Worked This Week, and she is JAZZED for this one! She's sharing 5 things that worked for her this week and the surprising thread connecting all of them: PAYING ATTENTION! First, Maria reveals the ridiculously simple bedroom change that made a HUGE difference with her hot flashes (seriously, wait until you hear this one!). She also shares the Dermalogica  LumiFusion facial she swears by for glowing skin and the two things she thinks may be behind her suddenly clearer pores. Hint, hint...one is something she removed from her diet and the other is one of her favorite morning routines. Plus, Maria tells us why she's officially an outlet-shopping convert after scoring the bedroom set she wanted for around half the price, and then things get a little deeper. Then, a scary moment this week made her realize that sometimes what feels like a disruption in our lives may actually be the redirection we've been asking for. Maria also shares an inspirational post that came to her at exactly the right time about putting down the phone, creating more silence, listening to those little nudges, praying, and actually giving ourselves enough quiet to hear the answers we keep asking for. Don't worry, we linked the post in the show notes too! Can't wait for you to hear this one, friends. Enjoy! Join us at our Canyon Ranch 2026 Retreat: https://www.canyonranch.com/lenox/retreats/heal-retreat-maria-menounos HEAL SQUAD SOCIALS IG: https://www.instagram.com/healsquad/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@healsquadxmaria HEAL SQUAD RESOURCES: Heal Squad Website: https://www.healsquad.com/ Heal Squad x Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/HealSquad/membership Maria Menounos Website: https://www.mariamenounos.com My Curated Macy's Page: https://stylecrew.macys.com/@mariamenounos EMR-Tek Red Light: https://emr-tek.com/discount/Maria30 for 30% off Airbnb: https://www.airbnb.com/host IG Post: 5 Things You Must Quit to Hear God: https://www.instagram.com/p/DbEtucdjqp8/?igsi=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ%3D%3D Shop Maria's Favorite Dermalogica Products & More here:  https://shopmy.us/shop/mariamenounos   ABOUT MARIA MENOUNOS: Emmy Award-winning journalist, TV personality, actress, 2x NYT best-selling author, former pro-wrestler and brain tumor survivor, Maria Menounos' passion is to see others heal and to get better in all areas of life. ABOUT HEAL SQUAD x MARIA MENOUNOS: A daily digital talk-show that brings you the world's leading healers, experts, and celebrities to share groundbreaking secrets and tips to getting better in all areas of life. DISCLAIMER: This Podcast and all related content (published or distributed by or on behalf of Maria Menounos or http://Mariamenounos.com and http://healsquad.com) is for informational purposes only and may include information that is general in nature and that is not specific to you. Any information or opinions provided by guest experts or hosts featured within website or on Company's Podcast are their own; not those of Maria Menounos or the Company. Accordingly, Maria Menounos and the Company cannot be responsible for any results or consequences or actions you may take based on such information or opinions. This podcast is presented for exploratory purposes only. Published content is not intended to be used for preventing, diagnosing, or treating a specific illness. If you have, or suspect you may have, a health-care emergency, please contact a qualified health care professional for treatment.

Of all the potential effects of using smartphones, the one that seems to inspire the most anxiety is what scrolling could be doing to people's attention. On social media (ironically), many people express a desire to “heal” their attention spans from the damage they feel technology has done. They're picking up on something real. In one 2025 study, researchers found that blocking the internet on people's phones for two weeks led to improvements in sustained attention equivalent to reversing 10 years of cognitive decline. In this final episode of How to Touch Grass, host Julie Beck embarks on an experiment to see if she can heal her own attention span. Beck and co-host Natalie Brennan also hear from Jenny Odell, the author of How to Do Nothing and Saving Time, about how Odell's antagonism for her phone actually helped her make peace with it, and  how nature can teach us to pay deeper attention to the world around us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

THE LAVA TRAP — you're not chasing them. You're chasing what you believe they'llmake you feel.Have you ever said, "I don't even want them back — I just want them to want me"?Or found yourself checking their social media, waiting for a text, needing themto admit what they did? That's the lava trap. LAVA — Love, Attention, Validation,Acceptance — are normal human needs. The trap is believing only one particularperson can give them to you.In Episode 325 of Secret Life Podcast, Brianne Davis breaks down the lava trap —a recovery concept she picked up over 17 years in the rooms — and ties it directlyto The Fantasy Loop™. Because at the end of the fantasy, you're not just imaginingbeing with them. You're imagining what being with them would finally make you feel.In this episode:— The four parts of LAVA: how love becomes "proof" you're worthy, attention becomes a hit you chase, validation keeps you tied to the person who hurt you, and acceptance makes you abandon your own boundaries— The 7 signs you're in the lava trap — listen for patterns, not a diagnosis— Why you're vulnerable: the slot-machine effect of on-and-off reinforcement, and why unpredictable love feels more intense (not more real)— How LAVA becomes the reward that makes The Fantasy Loop™ nearly unbreakable— The 7 questions that separate the need from the person — including the one that changes everything: "If I could give myself love, attention, validation, and acceptance without needing it from this person, what would I choose differently?"You don't have to stop needing people — we're wired to connect. The goal isn't"I don't need lava." The goal is "I don't need one particular person to decidewhether I receive it." You are not broken. Your worth was never supposed to bedetermined by their choice.Resources at secretlifepodcast.comTake the Fantasy Loop Quiz: quiz.thefantasyloop.comShare your secret: secretlifepodcast@icloud.com

Jason shares a curated list of seven influential books with Michael Zuber, focusing on themes of financial psychology, personal development, and economic outlooks. He highlights a contrast between "doomer" literature, which he argues fosters inaction, and "optimistic" works that celebrate modern abundance and technological progress. A significant portion of the discussion centers on shifting one's mindset from extreme scarcity to enjoying life through experiences and "memory dividends," as advocated in the book Die with Zero. Jason and Michael also touch upon the importance of strengthening one's attention span by treating it like a muscle in an era of digital distractions. Ultimately, this serves as a guide for listeners to build wealth through real estate while maintaining the emotional intelligence to value happiness over mere accumulation.   EmpoweredInvestor.com/Wednesday PropertyTracker.com   Key Takeaways: 0:00 Attention span as a muscle 3:48 Typical Doom Porn 5:29 The Rationale Optimist 6:32 We are as Gods and the threat of Islam 8:00 The Psychology of Money 9:13 The Psychology of Winning & The Seeds of Greatness 10:29 Die With Zero 12:21 the untethered soul    _______________________________________________________________ Follow Jason on TWITTER, INSTAGRAM & LINKEDIN Twitter.com/JasonHartmanROI Instagram.com/jasonhartman1/ Linkedin.com/in/jasonhartmaninvestor/ Call our Investment Counselors at: 1-800-HARTMAN (US) or visit: https://empoweredinvestor.com/ Free Class:  Easily get up to $250,000 in funding for real estate, business or anything else: https://empoweredinvestor.com/Fund CYA Protect Your Assets, Save Taxes & Estate Planning: https://empoweredinvestor.com/Protect Get wholesale real estate deals for investment or build a great business – Free Course: https://empoweredinvestor.com/deals Special Offer from Ron LeGrand: https://empoweredinvestor.com/Ron Free Mini-Book on Pandemic Investing: https://www.PandemicInvesting.com  

How to Improve EVERY Aspect of Your Life: An Interview with J.R. Briggs (Episode 297)   Proverbs 11:24 (MSG) The world of the generous gets larger and larger; the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller.   *Transcription Below*   J.R. Briggs (DMin) possesses four passions: following Jesus, equipping and investing in hungry kingdom leaders, growing fruit on other people's trees, and creating good kingdom mischief. In short, his calling is to partner with people who are called to follow Jesus while they lead others.   In 2011 he started Kairos Partnerships, an organization committed to help leaders overcome their unique leadership challenges through leadership coaching, consulting, speaking, and writing.   For more than 15 years, J.R. served in pastoral roles in mega-churches, church plants and house church networks. Since starting Kairos Partnerships, he has served and invested in ministry leaders in over 40 denominations throughout North America. In addition to ministry leaders, he has invested in a wide variety of leaders, including business owners, college presidents, military leaders, Division 1 basketball coaches, and non-profit directors.   He serves as a guest instructor in the Master of Arts in Spiritual Formation program at Friends University and the Master of Arts in Leadership program at Taylor University. He has lectured, taught and spoken at over a dozen colleges, universities, and seminaries around the U.S.   He also serves as the Director of Leadership & Congregational Formation for The Ecclesia Network and as a National Trainer & Strategist for Fresh Expressions U.S.   In addition to writing several books on a wide variety of topics, he has also published articles in Christianity Today, Huffington Post, Preaching Today, American Bible Society, N.T. Wright Online, Missio Alliance, and Relevant Magazine.   He hosts the Resilient Leaders podcast.   J.R. and his wife Megan have two sons and live in the greater Philadelphia area. J.R.'s Website J.R.'s Book   Thank You to Our Sponsor: Leman Property Management   Questions and Topics We Cover: Can you contrast Jesus' teaching with field trips to the way we structure a typical Sunday morning in America?  Will you also share how you arrived at asking yourself two questions that have opened numerous doors for you? Once we put this into practice for ourselves, how can we begin to cultivate it in our children as well?   Other Savvy Sauce Episode Mentioned: 219. Training Our Children in Biblical Financial Stewardship with Matt Bell   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook or Instagram or Our Website   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV) Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcription*   Music: (0:00 – 0:09)   Laura Dugger: (0:12 - 1:44) Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.   Leman Property Management Company has the apartment you will be able to call home, with over 1,700 apartment units available in Central Illinois. Visit them today at lemanproperties.com or connect with them on Facebook.   J.R. Briggs is one of the most intriguing humans I've encountered, and it's hard to sum up his bio, as he's had so many experiences in his past through various pastoral roles, and then he became the founder of Kairos Partnerships, where he invests in leaders. He's also a podcast host, in addition to his work as an author. His most recent book is The Art of Asking Better Questions, and it's summed up in the intro, where he writes, "I have a bone-deep conviction that all of us need to ask more questions and better questions. Doing so can change your life and the lives of those around you." So now we get to actually learn how to make this happen with my guest, Reverend Dr. J.R. Briggs.   Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, J.R.   J.R. Briggs: (1:44 - 1:45) Thanks for having me. I'm looking forward to this, Laura.   Laura Dugger: (1:46 - 2:00) Well, I'd love to go back and first hear a little bit more of your origin story. So, do you attribute your love of questions and your skill for asking great questions more to nature or nurture?   J.R. Briggs: (2:01 - 5:04) That's a fantastic question. No one has ever asked me that, Laura. So, right off the bat, well done. I love good questions like this. I think it's a little bit of both, and I'm not just wimping out on that answer. Here's what I mean.   I grew up in a wonderful home, still great friends with both my parents, and my parents, especially my dad, they were great question askers, and I saw them model this really well in the home. And I think in previous generations, it was, you know, kids are to be seen but not heard. That was not how my parents operated. They very much said, "You know what, we want to know what you think." And so, dinner times were great. Even hearing the way, especially my father would ask questions of people in the lobby at church or our neighbors, or we'd be at some party, and the way he would ask questions, I would just listen and say, "Wow, this is fascinating, the kind of conversations that are happening because of this."   So, modeled really well, but also observed a lot, and more is caught than taught. And I observed my parents doing this really well. And I thought, these are really fun conversations to just eavesdrop in on as a kid. And then also, I began to notice that there were people that were really fun and lived inspiring lives, and they asked great questions. And I noticed the people that had, that lived really small, uninspiring lives, I realized they weren't asking very many questions. And I began to say, "Well, which kind of person do I want to be? I kind of want to be in the first group. Well, what's the difference? These people are asking questions, regular questions, quality questions." And I thought, "Ooh, I need to pay attention to this and actually lean in to do this more."   So, I often learned how to do it too. So, there was the nature piece, the nurture piece, or the nurture, the nature piece there, the nurture piece, I did study. I'm kind of a nerd. And so, I would watch people who ask great questions and say, "Why was that a good question? What did they do? Why did they ask it that way? How did they know to ask that question as opposed to something else?" And so that was really helpful.   But then I began to notice as I read my Bible, I got a red-letter edition of my Bible and began to notice how many red question marks there were. And I began to take a pen and circle all of the red questions, question marks that Jesus asked. And I thought, "Wow, the way the truth and the life, who had all the answers, yet he asked a ton of questions." So that sent me on a deep dive that eventually I studied. And my doctorate, my dissertation for my doctorate was on learning to equip leaders to ask better questions in the way of Jesus. And so, using him as that model. So, there's a very long answer, Laura, to a very short question, is it nature or nurture? I really believe it's both. And I hope I can continue to learn in my own life until my last breath to how to be a better question asker, because it's that powerful.   Laura Dugger: (5:04 - 5:57) Mm-hmm. I agree with that. And I love the humility in that response. Also, as you share it, it reminds me of a scripture from Proverbs 11:24, the Message version, which I believe previous guest Matt Bell had shared this as it relates to finances. But J.R., I hear it through your lifestyle of generosity with questions. And the verse says, "The world of the generous gets larger and larger. The world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller." So, I love how you illustrated that. But you're also the first person that I heard articulate this beauty of asking questions for connection rather than just for information. So, can you explain more of why questions are such a generous gift and an offering of hospitality?   J.R. Briggs: (5:58 - 8:36) Mm-hmm. Yeah. Well, one of the things that really hit me, I touched on this earlier, that Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life, the second member of the Trinity, who knows everything. Why would he ask so many questions? Well, he also said, "I only do what I see my Father doing." What did he see his Father doing? If you look in the Old Testament, God asks a ton of questions too. So, I said, "Wait a second. Okay. The all-knowing, all-powerful God of the universe, why does God ask so many questions when he already knows the answer?" And that drove me to say, maybe it wasn't just for information.   And I began to think about Adam and Eve in the garden and say, when he says, "Where are you?" It wasn't because God didn't know. And it wasn't a geographical question as much as I think it's a relational and theological question that he wants Adam and Eve to answer. And so, as a result of that, I said, "Why then would God do that?" Well, God already knows, but he desires connection with us. And then I thought, "Ooh, yeah, that isn't just God to us. There are times where I ask questions of my kids when they were younger, or of other little kids at church, where I know the answer already, but I'm asking it as a way of building trust and shared story and connection with them."   And I thought, yeah, there's real connection when it comes to questions. And when we do that, when we offer our full selves, the French philosopher, Simone Weil, she said, "Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity." And as a result of that, that's the hospitality piece. And I think, let's not forget that the word hospital is in the word hospitality, that our questions and our attention can actually be a form of healing that we offer to other people. When we think of hospitality, we often think of, I don't know, making a fresh pie or laying out doilies and sweeping the house before someone comes over. That can be part of it. But the real definition of hospitality is making new people feel comfortable in new situations. And so, what do good questions do? They help people who might feel new or an outsider feel like they're an insider. And I believe that's one of the beautiful benefits of questions where people say, "Man, thank you. No one has ever asked me that." Or "I feel seen. Wow, you really want to care. You care enough to know what I'm thinking." That is an unbelievable gift that we can give to others as a form of hospitality.   Laura Dugger: (8:36 - 8:55) And I think that illuminates what you even say up front in your book, that you do believe that these questions can change our life and the lives of those around us, and especially through this powerful book that you've written. So, can you elaborate on that claim?   J.R. Briggs: (8:56 - 10:33) Yeah, the dimensions of your life expand or contract depending upon the questions that you ask. So, when we refrain from asking good questions, our world gets smaller. And when we start to ask better questions, and more frequently, our worlds begin to expand. And so, what I tell people is we don't have a shortage of information. We have a shortage of wisdom and curiosity and wonder. And so, what we need to kindle in that is that desire for and that ability to ask the right questions at the right time for the right reason to the right people.   And if we want more information, we should just Google it. But if what we're after is wisdom and connection and engagement, we need questions. And questions are, I think we all would admit, Laura, questions are important. I don't think that we would realize just how powerful they actually are. And so, the goal of the book was to unleash and wake up the sleeping giants that exist and say, this can be used for good. There's so many, again, we don't have a shortage of information. But asking good questions is a lost art. And the goal is to try to help people realize its power, that it's more accessible. They're free. They can be used at any time. They don't have a shelf life. But we just need to cultivate the desire for it and then have some skills to lean in, because it really can be such an unbelievable gift. The questions that we ask often reveal the values that we hold. And so that's another way that we can press into that as well.   Laura Dugger: (10:34 - 10:49) Okay, so let's say that the desire is there. Maybe for all of us, probably the skill is a little lacking. How can we begin to get a little bit better at this or just get started with asking better questions today?   J.R. Briggs: (10:49 - 14:18) Yeah, well, we got to start, Laura, by admitting that there are a lot of obstacles that exist that our culture puts in front of us to make it hard to do that. One is we're in an attention-seeking age, right? I mean, the joke says enough about me, what do you think about me? And so, because we live in the social media, look at me, look at me reality that we're in, it's really hard because questions are the opposite. I'm putting the spotlight on you rather than on my own life. But we also are in a culture of great efficiency, and so questions feel inefficient. They feel really inefficient, like it slows things down. How many of us have been in a meeting and we're about to get up and someone says, "Any questions?" And someone, "Oh," and we just say, "No, no, no, we were just about to leave, you're slowing us down." And so that in the business world and in sales, that's the number one thing is questions. We got stuff to do and things to sell. But if we can just slow down, it's better.   But those are some of the obstacles that exist. So, if we're assuming we have curiosity, we have wisdom, we have humility, and we have courage, which are the four components. If those are there, then there are some things that we can engage in that can help us and several practices, like the simplest practice we can do when we hear a good question, write it down. A lot of people feel like two things. They have to come up with all the questions themselves. You don't. I love questions. I'm pretty good at questions, but I don't generate all my questions. I've read them on billboards or heard them on a podcast or overheard somebody in line at Starbucks behind me. And you go, "Man, that's a really good question. Write it down." We think we're going to remember later, Laura, and that's the second thing. We won't. We have to write it down. And I just encourage people, open up the notes section of your phone and just have something on there that says great questions. When you hear of one, think of one, read of one in a good novel, write it on the list. You can always return to it later. So, just awareness, number one, that my radar is up, listening for good questions, can be a great start.   And then also just to reflect later to say, "What was the best question I asked today or in that conversation or in that meeting or over dinner with my family? What was the best question I asked?" So, that's a little bit of reflection, but also preparation. Anytime we go into a meeting, anytime we go into any sort of connection, even if it's coffee with a friend, to always see if I can come with two questions ahead of time. Now, sometimes I write them down, sometimes I don't. I may not even get a chance to ask them, but just coming prepared where I say, "Oh, I'm meeting with my friend, Sam. Oh, Sam's dad just had significant surgery. So, here's an important question. Sam, how's your dad doing? And how are you doing as you care for your dad?" It's a little bit of preparation. It's not an hour. I'm just spending five minutes on my drive to the coffee shop to say, "My first question is going to be, Sam, how's your dad? And how are you doing caring for your dad?" So, just a little bit more thought. It doesn't require three times the amount of effort. Sometimes it's just five or 10% more effort and intentionality that can improve our question asking.   Laura Dugger: (14:19 - 16:29) So much thoughtfulness there. 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And in Morton, they offer a variety of apartment homes with garages, a hot downtown location, and now a brand-new high-end complex near Idlewood Park. If you want to become part of their team, contact them about open office positions. They're also hiring in their maintenance department. So, we invite you to find out why so many people have chosen to make a career with them. Check them out on Facebook today or email their friendly staff at leasing@lemanprops.com. You can also stop by their website at lemanproperties.com. Check them out and find your place to call home today.   Clearly J.R., Jesus has been a role model for asking questions. So, can you contrast what you describe as Jesus's field trips that he takes his disciples on versus the way that you view Sunday mornings in a lot of churches in America? Can you kind of contrast those two?   J.R. Briggs: (16:29 - 18:42) Yeah, oftentimes when I'm talking to pastors or leaders, faith leaders, I remind them of this. But yeah, Jesus loved to take his listeners on three field trips, three kinds. First one, he took them on physical field trips. We see that where Jesus says, "You know, look at the birds of the air, look at the lilies of the field," or "Look at the woman putting in two mites in the temple treasury." Life is a classroom. And so, he loved taking people on literal field trips.   Number two, he took them on emotional field trips by telling them stories, not in abstract ways of thinking, but the kingdom of God is like a woman kneading dough. It's like a fisherman who caught fish. It's like a father with two sons. And I think we're wrapped up in that when we watch a good movie, and we cry and laugh and we're scared. Those are all because a beautiful story did something to us. It took us on some sort of emotional field trip.   And then third is a mental field trip, which we're talking about here by asking questions. Jesus asked a ton of questions. And as a result of that, got people thinking in new ways. Now, if the way, the truth and the life, if anyone had the right to just give answers, it would be Jesus. But instead, he chose to ask a lot of questions. And so those three field trips, literal by going on walks, getting outside of a classroom, the mental field trip of asking questions and the emotional field trips of telling stories. Jesus did that all the time. Once you know that and you read the gospels, you'll see it everywhere.   The problem is, as you were referring to, Laura, on Sunday mornings, what do we do? We sit people in a church in pews. Almost all of the teaching or formation happens in the same room. Instead of telling stories, we give abstract information. And instead of asking questions, we just give answers. And then we sit around and wonder, "Why is no one changing?" And my gentle encouragement is, what would it look like if we actually learned to teach others the way Jesus actually taught? Imagine that. So, it's a bit of a stretch because culturally we're kind of drawn in to the way we've always done it in church. And yet oftentimes Jesus did almost the opposite of the way in which we teach today.   Laura Dugger: (18:44 - 18:55) And so, if you see that as an opposite, do you have any practical ideas of just a small tweak that we could make on Sunday mornings to be more like Jesus?   J.R. Briggs: (18:56 - 20:32) Sure. I always try to say, is there any way I can get people's bodies or their hearts up out of the seat? So, "Hey, I want you to stand up and turn to the person next to you." Or, "Hey, we're going to move around the room." Some of you say, "What? We would never do that at our church." And I would say, take a risk. Jesus did all sorts of things that surprise people. So, how can I get their hearts and their bodies up out of their seat? Number one.   Number two, can I tell a few more stories than I have in the past in my teaching or preaching or Sunday morning? And then also, can I engage with questions by asking them questions at the beginning? Can I leave them with some reflection questions in the bulletin or on the website the next week? Or can I actually have them asking questions of each other or of the text itself? And so oftentimes, why do I feel like I'm the one that has to speak the whole time when I'm preaching? What if instead I allow them to ask questions of each other, of God, and even of myself? And sometimes when I preach, I allow the last five or 10 minutes for people to ask questions about the text to myself and everyone else. Now, is that a change? Yeah. Would that freak out some churches? Maybe. But it can be a way that people walk away and say, "Wow, I learned, I was engaged, I was formed, and I encountered God in a new way that I haven't in the past." Which is the whole goal, that we don't just learn more about the Bible, is that we know the God of the Bible. That's the whole point of why we gather together as a church.   Laura Dugger: (20:33 - 20:46) And that would be so memorable. But also, as you're speaking about stories, are you willing to share the story of one of the times that you asked a question, and it turned out better than you could have ever asked or hoped for?   J.R. Briggs: (20:47 - 22:27) Yeah. I could think of several, but sometimes just asking people, "Why is that?" Just as a follow-up. It's amazing what can spill out. And I go, "Oh, that confronted my biases. That confronted my assumptions and what I thought about them." And so sometimes just asking some of that has been incredibly helpful to just ask that follow-up question.   I won't tell the whole story that I recounted in the book, but oftentimes when there are tears, it was Charles Spurgeon that said that tears are like liquid prayers. And so, when people are showing some emotion, I sometimes will say to them, even if they're not a follower of Jesus, even if they're not religious, "I'm curious. It's been said that tears are liquid prayers. Can you put words to the prayers that your face is praying right now?" And I've had some of the most unbelievable conversations where people can identify the prayers that their face is praying. And even in my own life, where I just step back and go, "Why am I, why was I so moved by that novel? Why was I so moved by that movie? Or what just happened in front of me? Or why, where are these tears coming from?" As Frederick Buechner said, we'd be best to pay attention to our tears. And so that question of what are the liquid prayers, can I put words to the prayer that my face is praying has been an unbelievably meaningful and eye-opening thing for me and also with people that I've been with.   Laura Dugger: (22:29 - 22:37) Will you also share about how you arrived at asking two questions that have opened numerous doors for you?   J.R. Briggs: (22:38 - 25:21) Yeah. Yeah. When I was in college, I had the privilege of studying in Israel for the semester. This is fall of my junior year. Absolutely loved it. And our class was on a four-day field trip up around the Sea of Galilee. One night I was down by the lake and happened to notice as the sun was about to set that there was a big fishing vessel that had just come in. And I had always wanted to go fishing on the Sea of Galilee, not just take a boat, not just see fishermen, but like be on the boat and fish with fishermen. I don't even love fishing myself, but I just wanted to experience what Jesus and his disciples experienced on the lake.   And there was a big industrial ship that came in. They brought in their day's catch. And I thought, "Oh, I should ask them if I can go fishing with them." And Laura, and then, you know, the realistic brain in me said, "Why would they ever allow a college, American college student and a study abroad program to go fishing with them tomorrow?" And I had these two questions that hit me, Laura. "Well, what's the worst they could say? No, or heck no, or get out of here. You're crazy." And number two, "Can I handle that? If they were to say that." Those two questions, I thought, "You know, I can handle it now. Let me ask what's the worst he could say. Let me ask."   So, I went up and I said, "Excuse me, can I talk to your captain?" And they said, "Menachem is over here." So, I introduced myself to him and I said, "Menachem, I've always wanted to go fishing on the Sea of Galilee. I'll pay you $50. If I can go fishing for the day, use me as, as I mean, any work me to death. If you want, like I'm here, I just want to." And he looked at me, he said, "I don't want your money." He said, "Join me tomorrow morning at 6 a.m. And you can come fishing with us." And I walked away and went, "Unbelievable. My dream is coming true." And I had an unbelievable day, but I realized I can't say no for someone else. What's the worst they could say? No. Can I just ask and handle it if they said no? Yep, I can handle it. Those two questions, Laura, have shaped me immensely throughout my lifetime. I've really, I've done that in a lot of different ways. And a lot of times people say no, and I can handle that. But a lot of times people said yes. And some doors have opened simply because I asked. And I actually think of that verse often, Laura, where it says you do not have because you do not ask. It's not name it and claim it prosperity gospel. But we just have to realize that sometimes we just need to ask to put ourselves out there and see what people say.   Laura Dugger: (25:23 - 25:55) That is so good. And I have applied those questions since reading that in your book, even as I reach out to ask you if you would do two recordings. So, I'm so grateful that that you said yes, I'm delighted that today's not our only conversation. But I'm curious also, J.R., when you had that experience, a lot of us may not ever get to go fish on the Sea of Galilee. So, did you learn anything that brought the Bible to life or anything about Jesus or anything that you can share with us from that incredible experience?   J.R. Briggs: (25:55 - 27:37) Oh, there's so many, but I'll limit it to one. When we started out that morning, the sea was so calm. I mean, it was like glass. It was beautiful. The sun was rising, not a cloud in the sky. And it was great. But I've always wondered these like storms. You know, the Sea of Galilee is not a sea. It's a lake. It's 10 miles by six miles. It looks like a harp. And that's why it's called Lake Kinneret. In Hebrew, that means harp. So, it's harp lake is the way that we could call it. But I thought it's still a lake. How can there be storms that would have professional fishermen that would be screaming, thinking they were going to die? How is that possible?   Well, wouldn't you know it, Laura? As beautiful as it was, the clouds rolled in. And then later that afternoon, there was a squall of a storm. I have never been in more intense in my life. And it happened right there. Now we're in a maybe two-ton, three-ton fishing vessel. But even that, we had to go below deck because it was so brutal. The waves, the wind, we couldn't see more than 10 feet in front of us. And I thought, "Ah, now I get it. If I'm just in a wooden boat with my fellow, you know, disciples here, I can see why this could get a little panicky." And that was, I think, a little God wink for me to be able to experience both the peace and calm, but also this treacherous storm and go, "Ah, now I won't read my Bible the same again when I hear about the, you know, the disciples freaking out with the storm or seeing Jesus walk on the water approaching them." So, that's one of many, but that sticks out to me a great deal that I got to experience a very intense storm.   Laura Dugger: (27:38 - 28:27) That is so incredible. Even just going back, so those two questions that you were willing to ask led to this incredible experience. And now people from around the world get to benefit from the lessons that you learned at that time. So, I think you're giving us so much encouragement for asking questions.   Guess what? We are no longer an audio only podcast. We now have video included as well. If you want to view the conversation each week, make sure you watch our videos. We're on YouTube and you can access videos or find answers to any of your other questions about the podcast when you visit thesavvysauce.com.   What happens to our brain or within our brain when we're asking or being asked a question?   J.R. Briggs: (28:28 - 30:19) Yeah, this was an incredibly fun part of the research for me was what does this do neurobiologically to us? And so, what neurologists have found is when they put nodes all over your brain to kind of see how the brain activity happens, when you're given information, your brain lights up. But what they found is when someone is asked a question, your brain explodes like fireworks, the synapses that are firing, and it just lights up like crazy, like fireworks in the night. And one of the things they said, as much as we think we can multitask, we can't. We do a lot of switching, task switching, but not multitasking. But they said what happens is they use the word hijack. You can hijack someone's brain when you actually are asking a question of someone, even if it's for two seconds.   And so, if I were to ask your listeners, Laura, "What are the color of the shoes you're wearing right now?" Whether your listeners liked it or not, I just hijacked their brain for a split second there, and they went, "What are the color of my shoes?" And so that's immense amount of power to, quote unquote, hijack someone's brain. So, we need to use that power wisely. But it's an immense amount of power that we can have when we ask someone a question, not just give them an answer, which I love when current neurobiological research matches up with scripture and with the way Jesus taught. How did Jesus teach? A ton of questions. What happened? He engaged with people. They participated with him. They were forced to learn and be participants, not just talking theoretically about faith. And I thought, isn't that just like Jesus? He knew how our brains are wired. And so, he uses questions as a way of maximum connection, challenge, engagement, and formation.   Laura Dugger: (30:20 - 30:43) Wow. And you've cultivated, like you say, this holy curiosity. So, I am curious for you, J.R., when you're in a conversation and you find yourself asking question after question, have you been in a situation like this where they don't reciprocate, they don't ask any questions back? And how do you handle that internally and externally?   J.R. Briggs: (30:44 - 32:41) Yeah, it's hard because we live in a culture that hasn't modeled that well to ask good questions. And sometimes it's been hard. And I admit that sometimes there's a sense of loneliness. When I have a lunch meeting and my wife will say, "How was your lunch meeting today?" We have a code word where I say either waiter or waitress. And it means the waiter or waitress came and took my plate away because I was done with my meal before they had taken one or two bites of their food. And oftentimes that happens where we leave a meal and we realize, "I don't think I was asked a single question this whole lunch." Or we go to a dinner party, no one asked me a single question. And that can be really hard.   And I love asking people questions. And it's not like I'm just ramming it down their throats to ask question after question like Elf with his brother walking through Central Park where he's just rattling off question after question. I was giving pause, I was taking a bite of my food, allowing them to ask a question or two, and they never did. And sometimes people say, "Well, I don't really know, I'm not good at questions." And I say, one of the simplest things you can do is what I call the way question, W-A-Y. It's just to say, "What about you?" I've been talking. What about you? To just hit the ball back over the net and to allow us to engage in some conversational pickleball. It's been on my side, let me hit it. Now it's on your side and you hit it back. That's how all healthy relationships exist. And so, it's been a little disappointing at times to realize you can go, and I'm sure you and others have experienced that. That's really hard. And to have people that can just say, "What about you? What do you think? Have you ever experienced that?" Or "I have another question for you." That's how healthy relationships are cultivated when there's that back and forth in conversation.   Laura Dugger: (32:42 - 32:51) Okay. And so, if we want to cultivate that back-and-forth conversation, can you just share a few more tips for ways that we can level up our questions?   J.R. Briggs: (32:52 - 34:24) Sure. Yeah. There's a unique, almost universal principle when it comes to question asking. If you ask a generic unthoughtful question, you will almost always get a generic unthoughtful answer. "How are you?" "Fine." "How's your weekend?" "Good." But if you ask a thoughtful, specific, engaging question, you almost always get a thoughtful, specific, engaging answer. It's as predictable as a communist election. It's amazing how that works, where we can just, if we can just level up.   So, if a lazy question would be, "How was your weekend?" I encourage people to say, what would 10 or 15 percent of a more thoughtful, specific, or focused question be? So, you could say, "Of your whole weekend, how would you describe your weekend in two or three adjectives?" That's a little bit different than just, "How was your weekend?" Or, "Hey, how are you doing?" That's good. You might say, "What has been the most interesting thing about your day so far?" It just takes a little bit more intentionality. When you ask it that way, you won't get the fine, good. You'll get the, you know, "I had a really interesting sales meeting today at 10 a.m. You know, I bumped into my neighbor, and we had the best conversation at the mailbox." Those are the kinds of answers you get because we ask the more specific, thoughtful question. We'll get more specific and thoughtful answers. So, that's what I encourage people to do. Just level up to be just a little bit more pointed by 10 or 15 percent and see what happens.   Laura Dugger: (34:26 - 34:40) Okay. So, hopefully we're all going to put this into practice. But then also, if we have children in our home, what can we do to be teaching them this same goal of reciprocity and asking great questions?   J.R. Briggs: (34:40 - 37:02) Yes. I'm so glad you brought this up, Laura. There's so much that we can do. I try to do this. We try to do this with our kids when they were younger. Our kids are 19 and 16 now and we still engage in good questions with them. But when they were little, we would do things. I would crawl into bed with each of them at bedtime and we would do question of the night. And so, I would say, "You get to ask dad any question you want and then I get to ask you any question that you want." And so, age appropriate, you know, what's your favorite ice cream color or ice cream flavor or your favorite color? But sometimes they would pull out some really fascinating ones. Like one time, my youngest son said, "Dad, what does God smell like?" And it just made me laugh. I just thought, what a great question from a five- or six-year-old about that. And so just being intentional there at bedtime has been really good.   Car time is really important. And I really try to see if I can ask some questions that I can't ask in other places because now I've got their full attention. We're in the car together. And even as my sons are now older, when they're in the car together, something about staring out the windshield together to be able to talk through some things has been really good. It could be about school, could be about life, could be something trivial, but to know that this is a place where we can talk. And so, car time, bedtime, and the last one I'll give is dinner time. We have a big chalk wall next to our dining room table. And we'll just randomly put up questions, thoughtful questions. And then we'll sometimes say after prayer, "Okay, boys, when they were little, you know, you each get to pick one question off the wall that we talk about tonight." And it just became a real easy way. And you can make up one if you want, or there are questions here. We also found a deck of cards that actually had questions on each one. It was like a questions deck. And so, we'll say, "Great, like you can pick off the wall, you can make up your own, or just pick a question that's in the deck." And just doing that where everybody got a chance to share around the table became such a way, such a rich conversation but a way to remind them questions are okay, encouraged, and a wonderful part of being a part of a family.   Laura Dugger: (37:03 - 37:32) Those are such great ideas. I love that and that we can implement some of that right away. But as we're starting to wind our time down together, I would love to hear one more story about a time that a question dramatically changed the outcome of a friendly gathering that you write about on the back patio of a Capitol Hill home in Washington, D.C. Yeah, I remember reading this story, Laura, and I was so moved.   J.R. Briggs: (37:32 - 39:52) I was moved to tears that I ran over to my wife and I said, "Listen to this story." And we both just sat there crying. Yeah, these families were on the back porch on a wonderful summer evening enjoying some stuff on the grill. And all of a sudden a gunman came up behind one of the teenage girls and held a gun to her head and said, "Nobody move, give me your money or I'm going to shoot." Everyone froze, rightfully so, the terror that they experienced. And one woman just blurted out the first thing that came to her mind. She said, "Why don't you sit down and have some wine with us?" Which is not something that has ever come to my mind if someone were to walk in and rob me. And sure enough, he put his gun in his belt and sat down and had some wine. And he said, "Boy, this is really good wine." And I said, "Why don't you enjoy some more to eat?" And then afterwards, she said, "Can I give you a hug?" And the guy was totally startled. Yeah. And then afterwards, everyone else decided to give him a hug. And as they enjoyed food, you know, they're all tense and not sure what to do or what's going on. At the end, he said, "Can I have a group hug together?" And then he slipped out the back and even the glass, the wine glass that he had, it wasn't even broken. He just set it up right behind the back gate.   And I just was so moved by that. Like, "Do you want a glass of wine? Do you want a hug?" Not things that would come to my mind, but it was so jolting and surprising. I think it humanized him. And before he left, the robber said, "I think I've come to rob the wrong house tonight." It's amazing what a question can do. That was a question of immense hospitality. You're welcome here. That's the last thing that this robber ever expected. So, I just love that story. I love that story because it reminds us once again how powerful questions actually are.   Laura Dugger: (39:53 - 40:09) And I think it illustrates at the heart of questions is love. And that motivates so much of the work that you get to do, J.R. So, can you just share a little bit more about the work you do get to do and share how we can be connected after this conversation?   J.R. Briggs: (40:10 - 41:07) Sure. Yeah. I've been a pastor for 15 years, but in 2011, I started what's called Kairos Partnerships. And it was passionate about leaders because leadership can be lonely, overwhelming, and sometimes leaders feel ill-equipped. And so actually our organization was started based on three questions. Who pastors the pastor? Who leads the leader? Who shepherds the shepherd? So, we work with some pastors, but we work with all sorts of entrepreneurs and businesspeople and Chick-fil-A operators and college presidents and division one men's basketball coaches, anyone who's following Jesus, but leading others. And so, we do that through coaching, through consulting, through writing, speaking, spiritual direction. And so, our team, I have a wonderful team, and the team really walks alongside of leaders who are wanting to be equipped so they can lead with clarity and confidence moving forward.   Laura Dugger: (41:08 - 41:27) I love that. Well, we will put a link to your website and the show notes for today's episode, but J.R., you may be familiar. We are called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge. And so, as my final question for you today, what is your savvy sauce?   J.R. Briggs: (41:28 - 42:03) One of the prayers that I pray regularly is, "Lord, would you grant me wisdom, courage, and compassion?" And all three of those are important because if I have wisdom and courage, but no compassion, I'm careless. If I have wisdom and compassion, but no courage, I'm riskless. And if I have compassion and courage, but no wisdom, that can be reckless. But if I have wisdom, courage, and compassion together, that's priceless. And so, I just try to pray that regularly because I say, "Lord, I want to be a wise, compassionate, courageous person for you." And I would encourage your listeners to pray that prayer for wisdom, courage, and compassion as well.   Laura Dugger: (42:05 - 42:20) Those are great words that I would use to describe you, J.R. And you are humble and warm and engaging. And I have greatly appreciated your book. I've already told people it's my favorite book that I've read in recent history.   J.R. Briggs: (42:20 - 42:22) So, thank you.   Laura Dugger: (42:22 - 42:31) Well, thank you. That's very kind of you. Yes, very easy to compliment it. But thank you for being my guest, and I look forward to hosting you again next time.   J.R. Briggs: (42:31 - 42:33) Sounds great. Looking forward to that as well.   Laura Dugger: (42:35 - 45:49) One more thing before you go, have you heard the term gospel before? It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you, but it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there's absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior, but God loved us so much. He made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life. We could never live and died in our place for our sin.   This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus. We can be covered and justified through the work Jesus finished. If we choose to receive what he has done for us, Romans 10:9 says, “that if you confess with your mouth, Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”   So, you pray with me now. Heavenly father, thank you for sending Jesus to take our place. I pray someone today right now is touched and chooses to turn their life over to you.   Will you clearly guide them and help them take their next step in faith to declare you as Lord of their life? We trust you to work and change lives now for eternity. In Jesus name we pray.   Amen. If you prayed that prayer, you are declaring him for me. So, me for him, you get the opportunity to live your life for him.   And at this podcast, we're called The Savvy Sauce for a reason. We want to give you practical tools to implement the knowledge you have learned. So, you're ready to get started.   First, tell someone, say it out loud, get a Bible. The first day I made this decision, my parents took me to Barnes and Noble and let me choose my own Bible. I selected the Quest NIV Bible and I love it.   You can start by reading the book of John. Also get connected locally, which just means tell someone who's a part of a church in your community that you made a decision to follow Christ. I'm assuming they will be thrilled to talk with you about further steps such as going to church and getting connected to other believers to encourage you.   We want to celebrate with you too. So, feel free to leave a comment for us here. If you did make a decision to follow Christ, we also have show notes included where you can read scripture that describes this process.   And finally, be encouraged. Luke 15:10 says, “in the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.” The heavens are praising with you for your decision today.   And if you've already received this good news, I pray you have someone to share it with. You are loved and I look forward to meeting you here next time.

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Welcome to episode #1050 of Thinking With Mitch Joel (formerly Six Pixels of Separation). Fredric Marshall has spent decades helping people navigate change. An entrepreneur, investor in AI startups, CEO of Quantum Learning, and advisor on leadership and transformation, he has watched multiple waves of technological disruption unfold from the inside. His latest book, Thrive - The Antidote to Future Shock, revisits Alvin Toffler's famous concept of "future shock" and argues that today's anxiety isn't a personal failing... it's the predictable result of living through an era where change, information, and technological progress are arriving faster than most people can absorb. In this episode, Fred explores why the conversation about AI has become so emotionally charged, why younger generations feel a profound sense of uncertainty about their future, and why the real challenge isn't learning new tools... it's learning to direct our attention with intention. He explains why thriving requires more than technical skills, discussing the importance of agency, relationships, health, systems, and managing the growing tension between our digital and physical lives. The conversation also examines evidence-based optimism, the cultural backlash against AI, leadership in an era of disruption, and whether the pursuit of endless growth has reached its limits. Fred makes the case that while artificial intelligence will radically reshape work, the future belongs to people who can simplify complexity, think clearly, and consciously choose where to invest their attention. It's a thoughtful discussion about resilience, technology, and building a life that doesn't just survive change... but flourishes because of it. Enjoy the conversation... Running time: 59:29. Hello from beautiful Montreal. Listen and subscribe over at Apple Podcasts. Listen and subscribe over at Spotify. Please visit and leave comments on the blog - Thinking With Mitch Joel. Feel free to connect to me directly on LinkedIn. Check out ThinkersOne. Here is my conversation with Fredric Marshall. Thrive - The Antidote to Future Shock. Quantum Learnin. Follow Fred on Instagram. Follow Fred on LinkedIn. Chapters: (00:00) - Introduction to Future Shock. (05:57) - The Impact of Technology on Work and Life. (08:48) - The Concept of Thriving vs. Surviving. (12:04) - The Role of AI and Economic Disruption. (15:14) - Navigating the Digital Layer and Social Media. (18:09) - The Future of Work and Community. (20:56) - Addressing Youth Concerns and Uncertainty. (24:03) - The Balance of Digital and Analog Life. (26:51) - The Quest for Enough in a Technological World. (29:52) - The Madness of Constant Growth. (30:41) - Evidence-Based Optimism and Humanity's Response. (31:34) - Historical Progress and Modern Stressors. (33:10) - Dialing in Life: Eight Key Areas for Thriving. (36:09) - Understanding Agency in a Complex World. (39:51) - The Role of Environment in Personal Growth. (40:48) - Leadership in a Changing Landscape. (43:22) - Future Readiness and Cultural Shifts. (46:52) - Youth Perspectives on Agency and Change. (50:42) - Balancing Humanity and Efficiency in the Future. (57:41) - The Importance of Attention and Time Management.

Attention, ce podcast te rend moins manipulable. Voici Ludovic Torbey de la chaîne Youtube "Osons Causer" sur les médias, l'actu et la politique.SOMMAIRE1:07 Anecdotes de Ludovic Torbey 2:58 La coloc Osons Causer 6:02 Contrepouvoir ou éducation populaire ? 8:17 3 dangers des médias 18:46 S'informer mieux que 99% des gens 26:09 Osons Comprendre 31:07 La politique : chiant ou sexy ? 36:30 Les gilets jaunes 38:43 Peut-on vraiment débattre ? 41:17 Sa quête de sens__Le site officiel de Soif de SensSoutenir Soif de Sens via Tipeee Hébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

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Hour 3 (8.21) L.A. County's own report puts the Paramount-Warner Bros. deal at 4,500 film and TV jobs lost over three years — on top of the 52,000 the region has already shed since 2022. And that's if the studios stay. 8:05 PM — Attention, Angelenos. A report to the Board of Supervisors this week from the county's Department of Economic Opportunity and CVL Economics says the Paramount Skydance–Warner Bros. Discovery merger would cost roughly 4,500 direct film and TV jobs in the county, with more than 10,000 total job-years and billions in economic activity at risk. That's the version where the merged company stays here. David Ellison is threatening to move operations to Texas or Tennessee if Rob Bonta won't come to the table by October 1. Bonta and eleven other attorneys general are suing to block the deal, and trial isn't until March. Then a burglary suspect in a Honda Accord led LAPD for over an hour through the Valley — through a CSUN parking structure, through a gas station, T-boned by an innocent driver in Granada Hills — before pulling a U-turn on the 405 and going head-on into a CHP SUV in North Hills. He ran. He didn't get far. 8:20 PM — Leveling Out: come meet Stu Mundel at Dave & Buster's in Orange. Plus the Los Feliz water main that let go at 11 o'clock last night at Commonwealth and Avocado — a six-inch cast iron line that buckled the sidewalk and flooded a restaurant patio. Crews had it back in service by 8 a.m. LADWP says the city averages two to four of these a day, which is either reassuring or the opposite. 8:35 PM — End of week WHIP. Then the tipping point, and we mean it literally: one survey has the average American leaving about $38 a month in tips they didn't want to leave in the first place, and Toast's data across 171,000 restaurants puts the overall average tip at 18.8%, dropping to 13.7% on takeout. Nearly three-quarters of Americans say they're being asked to tip in more places than five years ago. Skip the tip? We take your calls. Plus another chase, this one out of Woodland Hills. 8:50 PM — SeaWorld San Diego turned its Bayside Amphitheater into a Y2K block party. Ying Yang Twins opened the run, Ginuwine, Bow Wow, E-40, Ashanti and Jordin Sparks followed, and Too $hort and Warren G closed it out — all included with park admission, all going viral on TikTok, all with the bay behind the stage. Grandmothers, parents and kids at the same show. How a marine park accidentally built the best throwback series in Southern California. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Amazing Race Canada: Season 12 Ep 6 Recap Watch the podcast on YouTube! The Amazing Race Canada, Season 12, Episode 6 sends teams down Sugar Shack Lane, and Jessica Liese and Dan Heaton break down every detail. With food-focused challenges, a face-off, and plenty of memorization hurdles, this leg stands out for its unique mix of fun and difficulty. A non-elimination shake-up means nobody goes home this time, but not everyone walks away happy after facing diving boards, ping pong paddles, and a script full of challenging coffee orders. Teams begin the leg with a choice between synchronized diving and decoding a complex café order, putting both their physical and memory skills to the test. Jessica Liese takes a look back at diving challenges in the US Amazing Race, sharing why these tasks rarely work out as planned, while Dan Heaton highlights how some teams use unconventional thinking to speed through memorization obstacles. The face-off brings new tension, with less experienced teams meeting surprising hurdles at the ping pong table. Throughout, the episode touches on non-elimination leg placement, the fairness of task design for non-native English speakers, and that ever-present role of luck in shaping results. Key moments and insights include: Teams use creative tactics during the café order task, emphasizing contents over sequence to master the challenge. Jessica Liese explains the legacy of complicated diving detours and why teams should be wary of them. The face-off disrupts expectations as early arrivals falter at table tennis, turning success upside down. Non-elimination twists invite discussion on pacing and fairness as vulnerable teams narrowly stay alive. Attention is drawn to challenges faced by contestants for whom English isn't a first language, especially in memory-heavy roadblocks. Did skipping eliminations change strategy this week, or only delay the inevitable heartbreak? With four legs left, will skill, luck, or unconventional tactics carry teams to the finale? Hit play for a smart, scene-by-scene analysis as teams struggle, adapt, and try to outdo one another on the latest leg of The Amazing Race Canada. Chapters: 0:00 Welcome and Coffee Order Banter 6:06 Face-Off Format Shakes Up Race 13:35 Diving Challenge Sparks Debate 18:49 Ping Pong Face-Off Drama 24:16 Memorization Roadblock Stumps Clara 35:50 Non-Elimination Leg Relief 43:58 Team Rankings Shift Unexpectedly 50:16 Face-Off and Elimination Tactics 56:29 John Montgomery's Hosting Evolution 58:50 Final Thoughts and Next Week Race on over to Twitter to follow these hosts and share all of your thoughts with us on Twitter by tagging @RobHasAPodcast and using the hashtag #RHAP! Join our Facebook group at robhasawebsite.com/targroup  LISTEN! Never miss an episode of Amazing Race coverage by subscribing to RHAP's Amazing Race Feed.  WATCH! Watch and subscribe to all RHAP podcasts on YouTube SUPPORT! Become a RHAP Patron for bonus content, access to Facebook and Discord groups plus more great perks!

Virgo Season begins while we're still deep in the eclipse corridor, making this a season of discernment, adjustment and paying close attention to what's shifting. In this episode, I explore the move from Leo into Virgo, the final Pisces Lunar Eclipse of the Pisces-Virgo cycle, Mercury Cazimi, the Virgo New Moon, and how to work with Virgo energy without slipping into perfectionism.The Ultimate Manifestation Visualisation MeditationSubscribe to the Lunar Lover newsletterOrder a copy of All Signs Point To YouInternational readers order here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, my guest Rick Rubin, world-renowned music producer and author of The Creative Act: A Way of Being, and I discuss how to access creativity by noticing ideas, trusting your taste and staying fully present with the work. Rick explains the phases of the creative process and how focus, disengagement, self-doubt, deadlines and meditation can support original work. We also explore perception, pro wrestling and why remaining open to uncertainty can help anyone create more authentically. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Rick Rubin & Creativity (00:00:23) Creativity as a Dream or Cloud (00:01:53) Childhood, Openness & Originality (00:03:29) Trust Your Taste; Experiment, Don't Over-Explain (00:05:28) Announcement: Protocols Live Events (00:07:07) Creative Aperture & New Perspectives (00:07:48) External Feedback & Staying True to the Work (00:09:14) Finishing Creative Projects (00:10:35) Focus, Disengagement & the Subconscious (00:13:15) Sponsor: LMNT (00:15:04) Perception, Storytelling & Uncertainty (00:17:38) Pro Wrestling, Playfulness & Reality (00:18:59) Morning Routine & Receptivity (00:19:50) Four Phases of Creative Work; Deadlines (00:24:47) Sponsor: AG1 (00:26:08) Self-Doubt as a Creative Tool (00:27:05) Capturing Real Moments; Authenticity (00:28:10) Routines, Advice & Staying Open (00:29:45) Look for Clues; Belief & Attention (00:32:01) Staying Present in the Work (00:32:44) Meditation: Mantra, Breath & Awareness (00:34:42) Monroe Institute Surgical Support Series Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Amazon gets over half of all e-commerce activity, but there's a smaller platform that's actually growing faster than Amazon right now. It's Walmart.com - and they are welcoming resellers!   Today's guest is a Walmart.com expert who works for CrazyVendor.io (a great sponsor of our TheProvenConference.com event).   She's also helped 100s of brands get successful traction on Walmart.com.   Today we interview her to discuss: >Walmart reselling opportunities >Getting paid to help brands get onto Walmart >How to refer her brand clients that want to get on Walmart and get paid >How to rank very well on Walmart when setting up new listings/brands >How to get coaching from us on Walmart (SilentJim.com/bookacall)   Come meet Michal at TheProvenConference.com   Special guest at the conclusion of today's show, Jeff Schick of JeffSchick.com answers the question: "Are Walmart policies changing and maturing?" Use coupon code "MISTAKE" to get your first month of services for only $1 with Jeff and his team!   Watch this episode on our YouTube channel here: https://youtu.be/rubS__hf3ps   Show note LINKS:   ProvenAmazonCourse.com - There's a "Walmart Selling" basic training course included in your pac membership! Get all our great training modules for $39/month   TheProvenConference.com - Come meet Michal at TheProvenConference in Vegas Aug 25-27!   SilentJim.com/kickstart  - If you want a shortcut to learning all you need to get started, then get the Proven Amazon Course and go through Kickstart.   SilentSalesMachine.com - Text the word "free" to 507-800-0090 to get a free copy of Jim's latest book in audio about building multiple income streams online (US only) or visit SilentJim.com/free11   SilentJim.com/bookacall - Schedule a FREE, customized and insightful consultation with my team or me (Jim) to discuss your e-commerce goals and options.   My Silent Team Facebook group. 100% FREE! Facebook.com/groups/mysilentteam - Join 83,000 + Facebook members from around the world who are using the internet creatively every day to launch and grow multiple income streams through our exciting PROVEN strategies! There's no support community like this one anywhere else   CrazyVendor.io - The multichannel software Michal talks about today   Today's guest: Michal Chapnick

“The tools of communication have changed, the human brain has not.” In a world of endless content and shrinking attention spans, getting your message heard means giving people a reason to care. For Carmine Gallo, a communication coach, author of Viral Voices, and CEO of Gallo Communications, that starts with understanding what captures the brain's attention: emotion, relevance, and a compelling story. In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Gallo joins Matt Abrahams to explore the timeless principles behind persuasive communication. From crafting attention-grabbing hooks to using analogies and storytelling, he shares practical techniques for making your ideas more emotional, clear, and memorable.Key Takeaways:Attention starts with making people care. Emotion and relevance help your message cut through the noise, giving your audience a reason to listen before you ask them to absorb your ideas.Great communication follows timeless patterns. Hooks, analogies, and structured storytelling make ideas easier to understand and remember, regardless of the platform or technology used to deliver them.Activity:Build the hook. Take a presentation, pitch, or message you're already working on and write a one-sentence opening that answers your audience's unspoken question: “Why should I care?” Make it relevant, specific, and compelling enough to earn their attention.Episode Reference Links:Carmine GalloCarmine's Book: Viral VoicesEp.103 Simple Is a Superpower: How to Communicate Any Idea to Any Audience Connect:Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart PremiumEmail Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn Chapters:(00:00) - Introduction (00:56) - Capturing Attention (03:30) - Timeless Communication Patterns (06:46) - The Persuasion Toolkit (10:49) - The Three-Act Structure (15:30) - The Final Three Questions (19:54) - Conclusion ********Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost.Strawberry.me. Get 50% off your first coaching session today at Strawberry.me/smartJoin our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be. 

What if the most powerful thing a father can do isn't simply being home—but truly being present?In this episode, Addison and Arden open up about the tension every father feels: phones buzzing, work bleeding into family time, and children quietly craving undivided attention. Drawing on the lesson found in Proverbs 22:6, they share honest wisdom about discipline, adventure, and speaking life over your kids even in hard seasons.If you're a parent hungry to show up more fully, don't miss this conversation!Additional ResourcesGet Your FREE Resource, Ways to Win at Home, here: https://messengerinternational.org/win-at-homeClick here to start your free trial with LOGOS today: https://logos.com/bevereSpecial thanks to Phil Liberatore, CPA! If you're looking for experienced tax relief and financial guidance, visit https://StopIRSpain.comSupport this podcast by becoming a partner here (tax-deductible): https://messengerinternational.org/messenger-network-at-home-podcastSign up for weekly Prayer Guides here: https://rediscoverprayer.com/resourcesGet Addison's Words with God Prayer Journal here: https://a.co/d/3H74mTuTo explore the other podcast shows that are part of the Messenger Network, click here: https://messengerinternational.org/podcastsTo help you grow as a follower of Christ, we invite you to download our everyday discipleship app, MessengerX. You can get it here: https://messengerx.comFREE Show Notes Here: https://page.church.tech/7700004a

How to Become Time Affluent PodcastFive Primary Points of the PodcastShort-form video can contribute to “brain rot.”Constant consumption of TikTok, Instagram Reels, YouTube Shorts, and similar content can create cognitive overload—contributing to mental exhaustion, reduced focus, diminished motivation, stress, anxiety, burnout, and potentially depression.Protect your attention—it is a finite resource.Attention is like a mental spotlight: focusing it on one person or task improves connection and performance. When attention is constantly fragmented by digital distractions, we become scattered and drained. Alexander Fleming's discovery of penicillin illustrates what can happen when we slow down, pay attention, and recognize something others might miss.Practice “digital hygiene.”Reduce short-form video consumption, turn off unnecessary notifications, limit distracting apps, and periodically unplug. Work in focused 30–45-minute intervals followed by short breaks, and support your brain with adequate sleep and exercise. These practices can improve focus, energy, decision-making, and awareness.Stop searching for shortcuts to vitality and longevity.The podcast strongly cautions against unproven anti-aging interventions, particularly peptides and other treatments promoted by longevity influencers without adequate human clinical evidence. Commercial enthusiasm has moved faster than rigorous research demonstrating meaningful benefits and long-term safety.A vital life requires doing hard things.There are no shortcuts to becoming physically, mentally, socially, and spiritually better. Losing weight, exercising when tired, overcoming adversity, repairing relationships, forgiving others, and finding purpose all require sacrifice and sometimes suffering. The larger goal is to lead a long and meaningful life with minimal regret.Vitality Action Suggestion: Stop scrolling short-form videos. Unplug, reclaim your attention, and intentionally redirect that time toward activities that improve your life.Copyright, VyVerse, LLC. All Rights Reserved. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit vitalityexplorers.substack.com/subscribe

The Full Circle Leader offers a daily dose of leadership focused on helping you, the leader. During challenging times we need all of the encouragement we can get. Sometimes there's simply no playbook and we just need to do the best we can. Sometimes the best we can is being reminded of the gifts and insight you already have within.Be sure to subscribe and get your daily dose.Subscribe in Apple Podcastshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-full-circle-leader/id1468460670Subscribe in Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/4xU1c5ncX5Vuukohwhps34About Andrea ButcherAndrea Butcher is a visionary business leader, executive coach, and keynote speaker—she empowers leaders to gain clarity through the chaos by being MORE of who they already are. Her experiences—serving as CEO, leading at an executive level, and working in and leading global teams—make her uniquely qualified to support leadership and business success. She hosts the popular leadership podcast, Being [at Work] with a global audience of over 600,000 listeners and is the author of The Power in the Pivot (Red Thread Publishing 2022) and HR Kit for Dummies (Wiley 2023).Connect with Andreahttps://www.abundantempowerment.com/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/leaderdevelopmentcoach/Abundant Empowerment Upcoming Eventshttps://www.abundantempowerment.com/events

My guest today is Ben Thompson, the founder and author of Stratechery. Ben is one of my favorite business thinkers and I love talking to him about everything happening in markets and technology.  We go through every important company, including OpenAI, Nvidia, Intel, Apple, Microsoft, Google, and Amazon. We also discuss why he thinks it would be dangerous for the United States to win the AI race outright, what container shipping and the railroads of the 1870s tell us about the buildout, and why the binding constraint on all of this may be capital rather than compute.  Please enjoy my conversation with Ben Thompson. For the full show notes, transcript, and links to mentioned content, check out the episode page ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  ----- Become a Colossus member to get our quarterly print magazine and private audio experience, including exclusive profiles and early access to select episodes. Subscribe at ⁠colossus.com/subscribe⁠. ----- ⁠Ramp's⁠ mission is to help companies manage their spend in a way that reduces expenses and frees up time for teams to work on more valuable projects. Go to⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ramp.com/invest⁠⁠ to sign up for free and get a $250 welcome bonus. ----- Trusted by thousands of businesses, ⁠Vanta⁠ continuously monitors your security posture and streamlines audits so you can win enterprise deals and build customer trust without the traditional overhead. Invest Like the Best listeners get a special offer of $1,000 off Vanta when you go to ⁠vanta.com/invest⁠.  ----- WorkOS⁠ is the infrastructure B2B and AI-native companies use to sell to enterprise. It covers everything enterprise security requires: SSO, SCIM, RBAC, Audit Logs, AI governance, and more. Trusted by 2,000+ fast-growing companies, including OpenAI, Anthropic, Cursor, and Vercel. ----- Rogo is the AI platform for finance. They're building agents for Wall Street that are trained to understand how bankers and investors actually do work: from diligence and modeling, to turning analysis into deliverables. To learn more, visit rogo.ai/invest. ----- ⁠Ridgeline⁠ has built a complete, real-time, modern operating system for investment managers. It handles trading, portfolio management, compliance, customer reporting, and much more through an all-in-one real-time cloud platform. Visit⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ridgeline.ai⁠. ----- Editing and post-production work for this episode was provided by The Podcast Consultant. Timestamps: (00:00:00) Welcome to Invest Like The Best (00:02:16) Winning the AI Race With China (00:08:28) Timing, Capital, and the Railroads (00:11:34) Berkshire, Google, and Absolute Profits (00:14:23) Verifiable and Unverifiable Domains (00:20:20) Aggregation Theory in the AI Era (00:22:06) The Real Cost of Inference (00:25:40) Why Consumer AI Needs Advertising (00:30:08) Compute Shortages and Commodity Markets (00:35:46) Memory Cycles and Boom Bust Dynamics (00:42:08) TSMC, Intel, and Where Risk Goes (00:44:51) The Best Setups in Big Tech (00:52:14) The Frontier Model Contenders (00:54:27) Microsoft's IBM Playbook (01:00:45) Meta, Attention, and Advertising (01:07:29) NVIDIA, Commodities, and Power

Scrupulosity often looks like devotion — but when fear takes over, even our spiritual life can become consumed by doubt, checking, and the search for certainty. In this episode, Dr. Greg Bottaro continues the series on OCPD and perfectionism, exploring the difference between a healthy conscience and a scrupulous one, why mercy can be hard to trust, and how our experiences shape the way we see God. Holiness was never meant to be an endless audit — it was meant to lead us into relationship with the One who loves us. Key Topics: How reciting the truth about mercy in your head does nothing to change what your body still believes Why certainty about being forgiven is the one thing this pattern can never actually get Why confession, meant to bring peace, can quietly become just another form of checking How the voice you call your conscience might actually be a punishing voice in disguise Why the face you're afraid God is making at you was never really His How the saints wrestled with scrupulosity — and what finally brought them peace wasn't more proof Why doing this work alone almost always makes the pattern worse How the way out can feel too easy to trust Learn More: Previous episodes in this series on Obsessive Compulsive Personality Patterns: Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder Ep. #291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty Episode referenced on spiritual bypassing: Why "Everything Happens for a Reason" Isn't Working: The Holy Words We Use to Avoid Healing Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn

The preseason has started and training camp at Missouri Western is winding down. Did the Chiefs maximize their time in St. Joseph?On SportsBeat KC, the sports podcast of The Star and KCUR (89.3 FM), beat writer Pete Sweeney and columnist Vahe Gregorian share their thoughts from KC's preseason-opening loss to the L.A. Rams — and what must be accomplished in the second exhibition game.The Chiefs visit the Tampa Bay Buccaneers on Saturday.After a break in this week's episode, I'll share what's on my radar in Kansas City sports, including the impact of returning Royals and where Missouri football is getting some preseason love.SportsBeat KC is the sports podcast of The Kansas City Star and KCUR, hosted by Blair Kerkhoff. It's produced by Hannah Wise, Suzanne Hogan, and Gabriella Lacey, and edited by Jeff Rosen and Scott Chasen.   

Do you ever find yourself wondering, deep down, "Do I really matter—to anyone?" In our fast-paced, achievement-driven world, the quiet ache of wanting to be truly seen and valued can ripple beneath even our closest relationships. So often, beneath arguments or emotional distance, lies an even deeper longing: the human need to know that we are significant to those who matter most to us. In this episode, listeners will dive into the heart of what it means to matter in intimate relationships. Through stories, philosophical insight, and practical examples, the conversation uncovers why our drive to feel significant shapes the way we connect and sometimes divides us. Listeners will discover ways to recognize their own "mattering map," address imbalances, and create daily rituals that affirm each partner's worth—moving beyond surface tension to cultivate true belonging and meaning with the people they love. Rebecca Newberger Goldstein is a professor of philosophy and a novelist, and the author of eleven books, the most recent of which is The Mattering Instinct: How Our Deepest Longing Drives Us and Divides Us. She has received numerous awards for both her fiction and scholarly work, including a MacArthur Fellowship ("Genius Grant") and the National Humanities Medal, which was presented to her by President Barack Obama.   Episode Highlights 03:11 What is the mattering instinct and how does it shape our lives? 06:44 Different paths to mattering: Individual strategies and social dynamics. 12:03 The role of mattering in attachment and intimate relationships. 15:26 Self-mattering and internal validation: The foundation for flourishing. 17:14 Childhood roots: How early experiences influence our sense of mattering. 20:54 Societal reflections: The impact of community and acts of kindness. 25:49 Mattering in the intimate space: Attention, presence, and relational dynamics. 27:10 Balancing mattering: Navigating imbalances within couples. 31:17 Honest conversations and rituals to restore relationship equality. 34:43 Valuing the invisible: Acknowledging domestic roles and everyday struggles. 40:47 Diversifying mattering: The need for meaning beyond partnership. 45:25 Negotiating differences: Working through mattering expectations in relationships. 47:57 Moving forward: Communication, understanding, and resources for deeper mattering.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Acknowledge the Mattering Instinct: Have an open, honest conversation with your partner about how both of you experience the desire to matter in your relationship. Map Your Mattering Profiles: Reflect together on the ways each of you seeks meaning and validation, recognizing how your "mattering maps" might differ. Be Explicit About Needs: Communicate directly if you're feeling unseen, underappreciated, or if there's an imbalance in attention or validation within the relationship. Ritualize Daily Check-ins: Set aside time each day to ask each other about meaningful events, feelings of accomplishment, or struggles—aim for sharing three significant moments per day. Appreciation Exercises: Practice exchanging specific appreciations with your partner about each other's actions and character, as well as sharing appreciations about yourselves. Attend to the 'Hidden' Work: Explicitly recognize and affirm the effort and value in less visible roles or tasks your partner undertakes, such as parenting or domestic duties. Diversify Sources of Mattering: Encourage each other to cultivate interests, friendships, or projects outside the relationship to avoid making your partner your sole source of significance. Address Imbalances with Compassion: If you sense an ongoing disparity in felt importance, approach your partner with empathy and explore together ways to rebalance and affirm each other's worth.   Mentioned The Mattering Instinct: How Our Deepest Longing Drives Us and Divides Us (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Mind-Body Problem (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) US Suicide Hotline 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide)   Connect with Rebecca Newberger Goldstein Website: rebeccagoldstein.com  Substack: rebeccanewbergergoldstein.substack.com Instagram: instagram.com/rebeccanewbergergoldstein  X: x.com/platobooktour  

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It sounded like every dish, every glass, and every pot in the kitchen had crashed to the floor at the exact same time.The whole family ran to see what had happened, expecting to find broken cabinets and shattered dishes scattered everywhere. Instead, everything was exactly where it belonged.A couple of weeks later, the impossible crash happened again. Once again, nothing had fallen, nothing was broken, and there wasn't a single clue explaining what all four family members had heard. Then, just days later, another strange discovery left them with even more questions.The crashes never returned, but decades later the mystery remains. If nothing actually fell... what made a sound that loud? And why did it seem as though something in that kitchen wanted their attention?#RealGhostStories #GhostStories #TrueGhostStories #Paranormal #Unexplained #HauntedHouse #Poltergeist #ParanormalActivity #PoltergeistActivity #ResidualHaunting #UnexplainedMysteriesLove real ghost stories? Don't just listen—join us on YouTube and be part of the largest community of real paranormal encounters anywhere. Subscribe now and never miss a chilling new story: