A Sassy Little Podcast for Getting Over It with Sandra Ann Miller

Elena Rossini calls social media a "honey pot" for data mining and targeted advertising. In her upcoming documentary, THE REALISTS, the followup to her first feature length doc, THE ILLUSIONISTS, Elena shines a light on the dark side of social media. We talk about how our devises are listening, why we should act like a spy, getting a signal-blocking pouch, bluetooth and grocery shopping, how Zuckerberg covers his cam and mic on his phone, have we given up on privacy, how social media has changed over the years, that Ashton Kutcher ruined Twitter, social media isn't terrible, but it's being used against us in a terrible way...and we aren't pissed off about that enough, the creation of Facebook "reactions" and them giving "angry" the highest score, being 'punished' by the algorithm for not being a regular user, old milk, the importance of 'new', using Tweetdeck and Lists for Twitter, taking control over how we use social media because it has used us for so long, deleting Facebook products (FB, Insta and Whatsapp), going off social media and getting into meditation, staying off devices in front of babies/children, addiction to social media/attention/validation, going viral and TikTok fame, living life through a screen, no one is explaining the algorithm or where this data is going, Face ID, AI, deep fakes, revenge porn, voter apathy, BOOK RECS: AMUSING OURSELVES TO DEATH and TECHNOPOLY by Neil Postman, the intentional harm of the algorithm, how quickly Facebook can radicalize, cite your source, the amount of time young people are on social media, hacking your home internet to block ads, websites and tracking in your home and on specific devices (NextDNS.io), NO is a complete sentence, being impacted my the internet/social media and how women get the brunt of that, child predators, and that social media is an option and we can opt out.You can find Elena on Twitter @_elena and on her websites elenarossini.com and therealists.orgEpisode recorded on 11/04/21Episode released on 03/09/22For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

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Sayra Player created Guided By Glow during the pandemic as a guided meditation to connect with our bodies. The app and website launched in May 2021 and has over 80 sessions to get you going and is GOOP approved. While we might be comfortable  talking about sex or our sexuality, we aren't so comfy talking about "alone time" (AKA masturbation). Erotica has always been around (hello, Anaïs Nin) and 50 Shades may have made it more common, it can be helpful to those who may not be comfortable with the porn their partners enjoy. Guided By Glow sessions are about you (not other people). We talk about the importance of getting connected and staying connected with our sexual selves, giving yourself permission, not thinking it's "dirty", "wrong" or "bad", mindfulness, getting to know the voice, creating a playground, not being uptight about sex, moving past shame, allowing yourself to explore, learning to relax and be, maintaining our health (mental, spiritual, physical), slowing down, being in your body, how sex (just the word) is being censored on Facebook and Instagram. Sayra was kind enough to give listeners $20 off the annual subscription. Use the code SASSY to get the discount (good through December 2021). You can try out Guided By Glow for free with trial sessions available on the free app and on their website.You can find Sayra at https://guidedbyglow.com and on Instagram @guidedbyglowEpisode recorded on 11/09/21Episode released on 11/24/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Nathaniel Hodder-Shipp found breathwork while in treatment, then went on to study with a mentor for 11 years. He's the founder of Breathwork for Recovery and we talk about the transformative nature of breathwork, the explosion of it, how we are all recovering from something, trauma is something we all share, exploitation in the wellness community, ethics, breathwork training, Nathaniel's certification requires 800 hours of training while others will certify with 30 hours, breathing properly, the autonomic nervous system, Amy Dresner and My Fair Junkie, how certain conditions like epilepsy may not be right for breathwork, disclosures, access and resources, The Recovery Circle.You can find Nathaniel on his websites at https://breathworkforrecovery.com and nathanielhoddershipp.com and on Instagram @breathworkforrecovery and @spiritandceremonyEpisode recorded on 10/12/21Episode released on 11/17/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Super Lawyer Sandy Roxas is back to talk about divorce and her advice on getting out quickly (or quick-er) so you can get on with moving forward. Preplanning is key. Think about all the issues that need to be addressed. The spouse who makes more likely pays more (support). A lazy spouse. What the courts will consider. Minimizing consequences. Dealing with a litigious attorney. (Sandy Pro-Tip: If the fees are running up, terminate the attorneys and try mediation.) Making sure you have an attorney with your best interest at heart. Attorney fees as sanctions. Spending more money to ask for more money. Custody games. The effect on the kids. Manipulations. Document everything (record audio/video--but disclose it per the law, keep texts, emails, put verbal agreements in writing). Needing evidence. False allegations. It's all about credibility in family court. Emotions and fueling fire. Aiming for amicable. Focusing on the finish line. Getting therapy to get you through it. The expense of divorce and the options if you can't afford it. Court self-help and workshops. Rules of separation. Date of separation matters. Keeping things separate. Lawyer-up early. Sandy's work in the AAPI community to Stop Asian Hate and pro bono work for hate crime victims. Final Tip: Have our cell phone at the ready to record (let them know you're recording per the law) and back away.You can find Sandy on her website https://roxaslaw.com on Instagram @roxaslaw and Facebook @Roxas-LawEpisode recorded on 09/18/21Episode released on 11/10/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Meghan Breen, LCSW, talks with us about the courage and character it takes to admit when you're wrong, the core belief that being wrong is the most human thing we can experience, normalize owning it, the value on being right, shame, competition/winning, room for redemption, the human experience of fucking up, gratitude for growing up before the internet, practicing repair, dialectics, discernment, being right and wrong at the same time, agreeing to disagree, not being neutral, making space and letting it go, forgiving what feels unforgivable, not demonizing, finding common ground, validate what's valid, wanting to understand, starting over, emotional Olympics, only being able to move through it if both sides are willing, not making it about winning/losing or right/wrong, no scores are being kept, meeting vulnerability with grace, reinforcing people doing the right thing, acknowledgement doesn't automatically make it better, character building, cultivating resilience, admission over apology, deserving a second chance, giving people an opportunity to F up, no one is perfect, we are not always our best selves, personal assessment, the difference between shame and guilt, reaching out to people when they need it, the strength it takes to hold the olive branch, owning your wrongness, smugness, hurt, emotional intelligence, the machine behind wrongness, being in a vulnerable time.You can find Dr. Breen on her website meghanbreen.com and Instagram @meghanbreentherapyEpisode recorded on 09/06/21Episode released on 11/03/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

What is microdosing and why do people do it? Studies have shown that shrooms (psilocybin), MDMA and ketamine help relieve or treat depression and PTSD, quieting the mind or reframing traumatic events. Noel Teubner has gone on her own microdosing journey and helps others on their path. The co-host of The Bliss Project podcast talks with us about how microdosing delivers a "mini" effect, it's not a "one and done" process, integration, Human Design, shared trauma and the tsunami of grief from the pandemic, respecting the plant, doing the work, creating new habits and patterns, being honest, being responsible, treating yourself well with food, movements and thoughts, being kind to and accepting of ourselves, The Bliss Project podcast.You can find Noel on Instagram @noelteubner and her podcast website at theblissproject777.comEpisode recorded on 09/16/21Episode released on 10/27/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

We all can find ourselves in a dead-end relationship. An unhappy coupling. One-way friendships. A thankless job or jerk of a boss. It's said that people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty, keeping us stuck. While there is no crystal ball as to how things will work out, Dr. Cynthia Pizzulli has over 30 years' experience and she can tell you that, if you leave a dead-end relationship, you'll be glad you did. We talk about relationships being a two-way street, blame, being brave, repeat and repair, awareness to break the cycle, inconvenient feelings, relationships are no 50-50, dealbreakers, people change and that changes the relationship, resentment and unrealistic expectations, avoidance and denial, sharing values, connection, being ripe for the picking, job loyalty that is not reciprocated by the employer, being held hostage in a negative situation, self-efficacy, being indecisive, no one wants to be the bad guy, the pain of being stuck, judgment, being in a job or relationship that seems "good enough" is never tolerable, communicating expectations, how staying in a dead-end relationship affects your mental health, not always getting support if people have a stake in your relationship, getting unbiased advice, the effect of staying for the kids, what we are teaching our children, expressing appreciation, more communicating.You can find Dr. Pizzulli on her website https://cynthiapizzulli.comEpisode recorded on 09/03/21Episode released on 10/20/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Dr. Janja Lalich (NXIVM documentaries, "Heaven's Gate: The Cult of Cults" on HBOMax, and author of TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE) joins us to talk about coercion and how it's a type of social control. Manipulation and gaslighting are a part of it as is "Us vs. Them" thinking that's happening politically, the effect of the pandemic and spending too much time on the internet, rabbit holes and algorithms, not wanting to admit that you were duped, cognitive dissonance, the concept of charisma, an imbalance of power, high-arousal technique, being able to communicate, having critical compassion, breaking through the barrier, a nation divided, being the adults in the room, keeping the door open, remembering that people are human and make mistakes (even you, even big ones), idealism, having doubts, being a safe haven, planting seeds, seeing the flags, love bombing, re-socialization, social influences, critical thinking, knowing how to fact check, being a good consumer, being able to disagree and dissent, the path out, educating ourselves about trauma and narcissism, new resourced needed, complex PTSD and specialized therapy.You can find Dr. Lalich at https://janjalalich.com, and on Twitter and Instagram @Janja_Lalich.Her book TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE: Recovering from Cults and Abusive Relationships can be found here.Episode recorded on 09/10/21Episode released on 10/13/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Norman Korpi is someone you just want to hug. He's smart and genuine, generous and open. We get to talk about: what a small world it was in the 90s, finding RuPaul, making $100 per ep, being gay on TV during the AIDS crisis, being a connector, "public" television, seeing the change, using fame and recognition positively, opening doors and putting up walls, equating being on TV with being rich and privileged, creating work for yourself, going to Hollywood, losing work because of being gay, Rush Limbaugh, not looking defeated, waiting on Arnold, the wound of the AIDS crisis, extending olive branches, Rachel Campos, a learning experience, not turning your back, putting in the emotional labor, filters, false perception of who people on TV really are, Puck, missed opportunity, going over the waterfall together, snap judgments, how we need each other, going back, George Floyd, COVID, sharing more of your story, out-thinking production, learning from going back, Becky, the miracle of editing, learning from each other, reality tropes, go change the world, sharing hardship, making art, the A-Stand, The Wedding Video, a key to your own cage, being gay meant an R-rating, EXCLUSIVE TO PATREON: The story behind the reunion photo, doing a challenge, evolving and creating, getting it together.You can find Norman, more info about The Wedding Video, the A-Stand and his art at https://www.normankorpi.com/and on Twitter @NormanKorpi, Instagram @normankorpi and Facebook @MTVNormanKorpiEpisode recorded on 09/21/21Episode released on 10/06/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

This ep marks the end of the first year of A Sassy Little Podcast for Getting Over It. Thanks so much for being a part of it! Much gratitude to all of the wonderful, smart, generous, kind and insightful guests we've had. This week, it's a solo ep with Sandra, talking about going it alone. That means more than walking away from a relationship, blazing your own trail or even standing up for yourself. It's about being comfortable in your own skin and being connected to the core of who you are. That requires giving yourself time alone. Is that something you do? How do you respond when you see someone dining alone? Would you/do you go out on your own? Creative/sensitive people likely need more time alone to recharge. The joy of being alone in public. The fear of being alone. Craving connection. Long distance relationships. The difference between being lonely and alone. Being in the moment. Being comfortable with who you are. Tending your garden. Self-love and self-care. Creating time for yourself. Making yourself a priority. Let yourself have what you desire and deserve. Standing up for yourself and what you believe in. Keep apathy and inaction at bay. How going it alone actually leads to connection. You can find me on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and more about my writing at https://SandraAnnMiller.comEpisode recorded on 08/27/21Episode released on 09/29/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

We are swimming in a swamp of mis- and disinformation. Dr. Caroline Orr Bueno (one of my favorite people on Smart Twitter) breaks it down for us. Misinformation vs. disinformation, coordinated efforts and bots, inauthentic activity, information disorder, holding social media companies responsible, Twitter's misinformation button, global reach of disinformation through the internet, social media companies lack of willingness to share data with researchers/lack of transparency, the need to study the extent of the problem, Facebook revoking access to researchers at NYU who were studying ads, Facebook's built-in/automated tools creating groups of extremist propaganda, Facebook's business model is to promote inflammatory information and keep people engaged, this leads to violence, the anti-vaccine industry makes social media companies over $1billion per year, Fox News and culture wars, what is profitable, erasing history/facts from websites when it no longer suits your agenda (45 and Afghanistan), politicizing vaccines, triaging at hospitals, the people being deceived and the people deceiving them, information as a weapon, using information to identify who is in your group and who's an outsider, corrections and fact-checks don't fix disinformation because people aren't necessarily looking for correct information but what conforms to a certain narrative, how do we reach those people, the demand side of of mis/disinformation, QAnon, infanticide, rabbit holes and algorithms, failed Q predictions, the insidious nature of conspiracy theories, regressive logic, violence and aggression, being fed by the algorithm, difficulty in predicting behavior, asking what is the purpose of this propaganda (who is behind it, where are they from), social media companies could immediately provide more access to researchers and support research to identify activity that may be a warning sign for violence (but they aren't), provide support and intervention by changing the algorithm or giving a "time-out" if too much is being viewed, users need to demand that social media companies participate in this research and prevention efforts, regulation of content and the danger of that, regulating the algorithm as an alternative, the problem with profits, think before you share (don't give disinformation a bigger voice/platform), sharing feeds the algorithm, check the source, the algorithm can't tell why you are sharing (that you like it or hate it) it only knows you are sharing it, train the algorithm for what you want to see.You can find Dr. Caroline Orr Bueno on Twitter, Instagram and Medium @RVAwonkEpisode recorded on 08/20/21Episode released on 09/22/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

People are angry these days. And, with everything going on in the world, it's not a wonder folks are losing it. We talk with Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite about how we can feed anger, making that emotion more accessible, recognizing your anger and the anger of others, removing our rose-colored glasses, the definition of anger, anger is an energy but it's also exhausting, rampant injustices, anger as a proactive mechanism, creating a safe space around you and in you, not going to toxic positivity to avoid anger, looking at the function of anger, early life experiences sets the foundation for how you deal with emotions like anger, being selective with social media, having a variety of ways to collect information, we are wired to deal with threat for a particular amount of time and then have a period of recovery after the threat passes (and we have not had that for some time), needing to find that recovery, finding things that bring you joy, Ted Lasso, find your gems, the impact of our collective experiences, BOOK REC: Widen the Window: Training Your Brain and Body to Thrive During Stress and Recover from Trauma by Elizabeth A. Stanley PhD, having a "bottom up" strategy to regulate emotions in stressful times, giving yourself a mental vacation, Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith's TedX on the 7 types of stress (link below), finding your types of rest and giving yourself a daily practice of it, making time for yourself, going to anger and bypassing other emotions (there's usually another emotion under the anger), anger as information to what you are feeling on a deeper level, vulnerability, 2 Americas, moving from intellectual awareness to emotional awareness, BOOK REC: Milagros Phillips' books (link below), BOOK REC: Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson, understanding our history and culture, having an understanding that we are all human and compassion for your fellow man, being exhausted by the BS, wanting to feel in control, having understanding and compassion that people have different experiences in the world, yoga community and QAnon, the desire and need for affiliation, speaking up, coping skills and strategies, perspective and compassion, ask what's really going on, connecting, having hotline number on hand for yourself and others, Dr. Horsham Brathwaite's book BETTER DAILY SELF-CARE: Simple Changes with Lifelong Impact, tending to your soul.You can find Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite on her website https://www.cicelybrathwaite.com/ and Instagram @drcicelybrathwaiteEpisode recorded on 08/13/21Episode released on 09/15/21Widen the Window https://bookshop.org/books/widen-the-window-training-your-brain-and-body-to-thrive-during-stress-and-recover-from-trauma/9780735216594?aid=11990&listref=a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrDr. Saundra Dalton-Smith's TedX:https://www.ted.com/talks/saundra_dalton_smith_the_real_reason_why_we_are_tired_and_what_to_do_about_itMilagros Phillips' books: https://www.milagrosphillips.com/books (also on our Bookshop.org TBR list)Caste: The Origins of our Discontents https://bookshop.org/books/caste-oprah-s-book-club-the-origins-of-our-discontents-9780593230251/9780593230251?aid=11990&listref=a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrDr. Brathwaite's book: https://bookshop.org/books/better-daily-self-care-habits-simple-changes-with-lifelong-impact/9781648769795?aid=11990&listref=a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrFind all recommended books here: https://bookshop.org/lists/a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrFor more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Pelvic floor therapy isn't something we discuss. Maybe because many don't know it's an option for pelvic pain, incontinence, sexual dysfunction and other "down there" matters. Dr. Justine Roper, a pelvic floor physical therapist, joins us to talk about why more providers don't share this therapy with patience (hint: many don't know about it), going to an expert (not just your GP), shared decision-making, how we assume that peeing while laughing/coughing/sneezing is "normal" for women, Kegels aren't the answer for everything (and could be adding to your issues), the mistake of listening to unqualified people (i.e. "influencers"), yoni eggs and kung fu vaginas, worrying about what our vaginas feel and look like, porn culture's influence, Netflix documentary THE SOCIAL DILEMMA, outside influences, the Kardashians, having our own power over our own lives, Louis Vuitton, preventative care for pelvic floor health, what a pelvic floor assessment is like, reasons to seek pelvic floor physical therapy, doctors don't know everything (and we shouldn't expect them to), be proactive, go to reputable sources, be wise, Dr. Justine's book, WHEN COMFORT CAN'T KEEP YOU, [BOOK REC: THE BODY KEEPS THE SCORE by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.], exercise/movement regimen, movement is vitality, freedom to leave the care of a provider you are not comfortable with, don't be put off by pelvic floor physical therapy just because it's an unknown, do your research and find a provider who can help you.You can find Dr. Jus on her website http://www.inherphysique.com/ and on Instagram @doctorjusBook Rec: https://bookshop.org/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-brain-mind-and-body-in-the-healing-of-trauma/9780143127741?aid=11990&listref=a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrEpisode recorded on 08/12/21Episode released on 09/08/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

We recorded this episode shortly after Simone Biles took herself out of Olympic competition and, boy, the reaction she got from some people who were likely far from perfect. But we see her as perfect in what she does, and we project our hopes onto people like her, as if it's their responsibility to deliver for us. We need to shoot down the idea of "perfect" and the idea that you need to be perfect in order to be successful, or even happy. Dr. Menije Boduryan-Turner talks about the pressure of always performing and never taking a break or pause, [BOOK REC: Carol Dweck MINDSET: The New Psychology of Success], believing talent is a gift or innate rather than the reality of hard work, learning from Simone and having the courage to say "I need a break", Dr. Paul Hewitt and Dr. Giorgio Tasca's study, self-oriented perfectionism vs. other-oriented perfectionism, parent can be other-oriented and put pressure on their kids, Britney Spears, not dealing with our own imperfections, having compassion for yourself and knowing you can't be your best all the time, Dr. Menije's journey with perfectionism, accepting that your best might not be good enough, your best may not result in success and that's okay, having expectations of how things "should" be, meeting the moment where it's at, hoarding as a side-effect of perfectionism, procrastination as a side-effect of perfectionism, mental health issues associated with perfectionism, perfectionism is not a compliment, control freaks as perfectionists, being able to pivot, the Kardashians and body image, Demi Moore, embracing imperfection, the effortless lie, not being able to enjoy things while focusing on perfection, living in the past or future but not the present moment, anxiety and fear being decision makers, getting out of perfectionism starting with self-love, getting over fear of not being enough, setting boundaries, being in the moment, living intentionally, not shutting down compliments, toxic vulnerability, failing despite our best efforts, believing that people want to be around you for you.You can find Dr. Menije at https://www.perfectionismuniversity.com/ on Twitter @DrBoduryan and Instagram @dr.menijeBook Rec: https://bookshop.org/books/mindset-the-new-psychology-of-success/9780345472328?aid=11990&listref=a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrEpisode recorded on 08/02/21Episode released on 09/01/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

The term 'codependency' was born out of AA about friends and family who could hurt someone's recovery by "over-helping". Dr. Menije Boduryan-Turner talks with us about how codependence is found both in- and outside abuse, how the roles of family members in addiction play a part in codependency, how it comes out of all forms of abuse, we can find ourselves overly investing in a relationship (that's codependence), how once you are exposed to abuse you are wired differently, codependency doesn't exist in healthy relationships, being able to let go of codependence with compassion (thank you for trying to keep me safe), learning codependence from childhood as a survival mechanism, recognizing subtle abuses (anger, manipulation), a relationship is a relationship and if both/all parties aren't working on it, it won't get better, BOOK REC: FAIR PLAY: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky, inconsistent contributions, sibling dynamics/birth order, feeling responsible, setting boundaries, divorcing family, stigma/judgment/shame, choosing your health and happiness, living an authentic life, making decisions for yourself, BOOK REC: TOP FIVE REGRETS OF THE DYING: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing  by Bronnie Ware, not living your life based on what other people think/want/believe, using social media intentionally, society shame, not knowing when to walk away, toxic optimism, not wanting to fail, grieving the loss of the wish/vision, the failing of the dream, understanding you didn't deserve the abuse, have compassion for yourself, what does an apology change and why wait for one before going forward, self-validate, perfectionism and codependency, pressure of caring for someone in addiction, no one gets healthy in codependency, enabling, the person who is codependent is getting sicker too, the urgency trap, being addicted to being needed, relationship addiction, low self-esteem, how many group chats are you in, codependence as a form of control, Intervention, the dynamic and the damage, culture and religion's roles, difficulty walking away, short-term pain for long-term gain,  leaky buckets, can't pour from an empty cup, connecting with others who understand your journey, figure out what works for you, have conversations to set boundaries, being your healthiest self, feel and own your feelings, redefining relationship dynamics, setting limits with love, CODA or Al-Anon meetings for support if therapy isn't available/affordable, BOOK REC: CODEPENDENT NO MORE by Melody Beattie, BOOK REC: FINDING BALANCE: 12 Priorities for Interdependence and Joyful Living by Terry Kellogg, it's not selfish to want to be healthy or put yourself first, medicine doesn't always taste good, aversion to discomfort, going to the gym and feeling sore...with mental health, we don't look for that soreness, breaking to breakthrough, don't worry about not being able to handle it (you'll have/find support), you are capable of courageous things, being resilient.Episode recorded on 07/23/21Episode released on 08/25/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Naty Rico is a disability advocate and educator, and the coordinator of the Disability Cultural Center at the University of Arizona. She talks with us about what ableism is beyond the dictionary definition and how able-bodied people might not be aware of how they are complicit with it, how it's a system of oppression favoring able-bodied/-minded people, the definitions of ableism by Talila TL Lewis and Dustin P. Gibson, being interconnected with other forms of oppression, how removing labels can lead to discrimination/oppression, those with disability are not aiming to be normal, overcoming barriers simply to exist, the learning process, taking the burden off of those with disabilities, the medical model of disability is that a person with a disability is tragic/wrong and needs to be fixed, the social model of disability and how society was not built for those with disability, and people are more disabled by society than by their own impairment, day-to-day life excludes the disabled, seeing disability as just another way of being, the expense and marriage inequality of being disabled, capitalism, insurance coverage (or lack thereof), eugenics, being a culture that takes care of each other, no one is immune to disability, colonialism, cultural and community care, being an individualistic society, protecting our democracy, interpersonal ableism, lack of exposure to people with disabilities, Sound of Metal, Crip Camp, educating ourselves about what we don't understand, having more disabled represented in media, disability as taboo, "feeling sorry" for the disabled, assuming disabled people are in pain, unsolicited advice, misconceptions, religion's role and the moral model of disability (as God's punishment), schools separating disabled children from able-bodied classmates, feeling like an exhibit, stop being "inspired" by disability, being objectified, serving as a lesson/example, low expectations, feel anger instead of pity (about how the disabled are treated), being excluded by society, able-bodied people taking advantage of disabled rights, becoming more aware and wanting more education to stop ableism.You can find Naty at https://drc.arizona.edu/cultural-center and on LinkedIn @disaboldEpisode recorded on 07/16/21Episode released on 08/18/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Amy Irvine (ep 006 Financial Fears) returns to the pod to talk about how we can avoid some of our financial foolishness by understanding how much our emotions are linked to our finances (whether we have it or not), realizing in the past year how we can scale back if we really need to (hello, lockdown), the psychology around wealth (having fun with it/spending 'til it's gone or hoarding it/worried it will all be lost), the urge to splurge after a period of lack, how diets and budgets are similar (and we don't enjoy being on them), the latte factor, how our upbringing plays into how we feel about money, credit cards in college, that 70% of people who win the lottery end up worse off financially, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: survival, safety and security, love and belonging, self-esteem and self-actualization and how those all play into how we deal with money, being generous in a wise way when you come into money, how finance is a taught skill and we should be embarrassed to ask for guidance and learn about it, understanding options, rich people's toilet paper, avoiding information, facing the dragon (reading the statements), avoiding the "head in the sand" approach to money, even financial planners have financial planners, rationalizing choices rather than making logical decisions, having a financial planner or accountability buddy to help make better financial decisions, having all the channels, finding the fun in saving money/budgeting/cutting back/increasing your credit score, not using a debit card, credit card points, how credit card usage impacts/improves your credit score, importance of paying credit cards each pay period, diversity of debt, celebrating being debt-free, creating a statement of financial purpose (why do I work?), raising parents, deciding to stay home/be a caregiver or earn/stay in the workforce during your high-earning years, employment gaps and earning less, disability insurance, snowball or avalanche methods of paying off debt, motivation, student loans, teaching children about money, making a plan, feeling that you've let people down, the courage to look at where you're at, take responsibility for it and move forward, what brings you joy, the cost of convenience, making thrifty cool again, finding discounts, and packing your own lunch.You can find Amy at https://rootedpg.com on Instagram @rootedpg and Twitter @RootedPlanningEpisode recorded on 07/09/21Episode released on 09/11/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Starting first as an online bookstore throwing great online events in September 2020, and opened their doors to a brick-and-mortar store in the Chicago's historic Fine Arts Building on May 15th of this year,  still doing great online events. Mixing a love of literature and music, Kristin Enola Gilbert and Javier Ramirez followed their hearts and passion to open something truly special store. We talk about the obstacles they faced, including learning tech, Bookshop.org, blood, sweat, tears and cocktails, hosting virtual events during lockdown as an online store, moving to the store ahead of schedule, naysayers on the name, asking for help, hours of paperwork, jumping through arbitrary hoops, running a store while doing other jobs/teaching, loving the Instagrammable space, importance of shopping local and independent, shopping off of Amazon, authors need to link to indie stores and not Amazon, coping skills, give and take, supporting others in your industry, there's enough room for everybody, sharing ideas, broadening the sense of community, diving into your dream, learn as much as you can, do your research, you can't do it all by yourself, and you shouldn't!How to Support Local Bookstores (buy e- and audiobooks online): https://diversebooks.org/how-to-support-independent-bookstores-right-now/You can find Kristin and Javier at https://www.exileinbookville.com/ on Twitter @BookvillExiles, Instagram @exileinbookville and Facebook @exileinbookvilleEpisode recorded on 07/09/21Episode released on 08/04/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Getting a trophy for everything is a nice gesture, but there's actual value in losing. Yes, really! And if you think you're always going to get an accolade for everything, you are going to be faced with a world of disappointment. Lisa Stephen, PhD, talks with us about developing coping skills, how failing is a part of the process of success, it's essential and there's no potential for growth without it, learning to be self-gratified, an intrinsic level of motivation, growth mindset, having fun (and if you aren't having fun, why are you doing it?), the pressure put on kids, the freedom to be ourselves, allowing space for reflection, quitting, losing is honest, being more politically aware because of losing, the opportunity for redemption, being dumped, moving on, the hard work of getting unstuck, taking a moment, pity parties, learning lessons, taking nothing personally, projecting our competitive nature onto others, Lewis Hamilton, being mini-experts, putting pressure on ourselves, sports fans, little league parents, seeing the team over the individual, community, cut-throat culture, cheating, stealing, being stubborn, looking at the bigger picture, being in connection, collaboration, parking, instinct of competition, taking a step back, we can't all be Michael Jordan, winning at all costs, being a good sport win or lose, remember that you are playing (a game or sport), competing with yourself, growth goals, Peloton, the Hurrah Pass, being honest with yourself, understanding the grand scheme of things, getting out of a funk, learning to let go, everything is temporary, choosing what to think about, reacting from previous experience, picking the scab, choosing your glasses, ruminating, learning to be resilient, happiness, enjoying the process, another door will open, it's emotions that make things complex.You can find Lisa at https://ignitepeakperformance.com/ on Twitter and Instagram @Ignite_Coach and Facebook @ignitepeakperformanceEpisode recorded on 06/25/21Episode released on 07/28/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

We more or less met our most authentic selves during lockdown, when we couldn't see our hairdresser without risk. Once the world opened up, did you run back to coloring your hair, or did you decide to let your gray stay? We talk with Anne Kreamer who wrote the book on going gray (aptly titled GOING GRAY: HOW TO EMBRACE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF WITH GRACE AND STYLE), who talks about her experience and the research that went into her book as well as facing our mortality during the pandemic, the problem of too much choice, how less is liberating, living like you're on vacation, decluttering our lives, the beginning is the hardest part, letting go of "letting yourself go", going from 0 to 60 (or 0 to Sex and the City), retaining the grace and essential values we learned during lockdown, area-based style,  iconic women interviewed in the book (Nora Ephron, Emmy Lou Harris, Frances McDormand, Ann Richards), new going-gray icon Claire Saffitz, self-acceptance as a trait to foster, community and Zoom, hair color isn't healthy for us or the environment, clinging to youth, who's having more fun, BOOK REC: Betty Friedan's THE FOUNTAIN OF AGE, those who accept their biological age live longer, headhunters, Depends, external pressures, camouflage, staying competitive in the job market, trade-offs, getting time and money back, empowerment, Oscars, Georgia O'Keefe, who are your role models and why, hair as a provocative thing, identity, chemo, Springsteen, it's not all or nothing, presenting our best selves, being supportive of each other, realizing color isn't age-fooling people, getting time and money back, doing the math.You can find Anne Kreamer at https://www.annekreamer.com/ and on Twitter and Instagram @AnneKreamerBook Rec: https://bookshop.org/a/11990/9780743299879Episode recorded on 06/27/21Episode released on 07/21/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Jackie Jones is a comedian, motivational thinker, roller-skater and hugger. JJ talks about the importance of being able to self-soothe, being OK with awkward silences, and acknowledging them. We also talk about reading in public; pumping yourself up; learning what works for you; shrinking the spectrum; Jedi mind-tricks, asserting (smiley) dominance; look to where your discomfort comes from; how anyone can learn to do anything; don't compare and despair; being yourself; bombing as a comedian; connecting with your audience/people; when the spotlight is on you, you're the host; you're in charge (in a good way); our subconscious; A Glitch in the Matrix; working on yourself; learning the rules so you can either break or follow them; "Hacks"; eye-rolling; Jackie's YouTube channel; having an attention span; internal dialogue; being in the same boat; choosing unhappiness over uncertainty; "Hoarders"; being unwilling to change; working with a professional; we are the ripple effect; the Ah-ha! moment.You can find Jackie on Instagram @thatjackiejones and on YouTube https://www.YouTube.com/ThatJackieJonesEpisode recorded on 06/18/21Episode released on 07/14/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Interior designer, Anna Lobell, gives her insight on how to embrace your personal style by creating a space for yourself and an environment that will support and uplift you. The importance of knowing yourself and the courage to express yourself. Avoiding trends (like an all white room with a single cactus). The importance of being comfortable and happy in your space. Understanding compromise and purpose, and letting the space speak to you to tell you what it needs. Not designing for 5-10 years down the road (you and your taste will likely change); design for right now. BS overthinking. Design should be about what makes you happy—do it for you, not for anyone else (or collecting "likes"). The adage "How you do one thing is how you do everything" is pretty true. Declutter, clean or paint if you need a change but are on a budget. As within, so without—if you don't have time to see to your space, you don't have time to see to your inner-space. Spiritual housecleaning is a thing (and it's ancient). Add in things/colors that you love, even if it starts with a pillow. Acceptance of who you are and what you love. Enjoy your home. Allow what's functional. Create a supportive environment. Don't be paralyzed by indecision. Give yourself permission to love what you love. Ask yourself questions: what's your favorite color/texture/scent/flavor. Develop somatic intelligence. Expose yourself to the arts. BOOK REC: THE ART OF LOOKING by Lance Esplund. Allow yourself to really take things in. ApartmentTherapy.com to see examples of a range of styles. Look at other people's styles/design to see what turns you on. Trial and error. Energy flows where attention goes. Go for it and be honest with yourself. Don't be afraid to make yourself happy. Don't let others block your happiness. Famous last words: ...and then I'll be happy.You can find Anna at https://annalobell.com or on Instagram @theannalogBook Rec: https://bookshop.org/a/11990/9780465094660Episode recorded on 06/15/21Episode released on 07/07/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Writer Locke Hughes talks about her struggle with being on time, her experience with Diana DeLonzor's book, NEVER BE LATE AGAIN: 7 CURES FOR THE PUNCTUALLY CHALLENGED, the irony of being able to be on time for things you are excited about, being late so you don't "waste time" if you're early, the anxiety of waiting, giving up magical thinking and giving yourself more time, confronting the late people in your life, getting enough rest, her book MELATONIN: The Natural Supplement for Better Sleep, and the importance of setting your alarm on Sunday mornings.Episode recorded on 06/11/21Episode released on 06/30/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers! 

Los Angeles has a homelessness crisis that has been going on for years. While politicians talk about solutions (we're looking at you, Eric Garcetti and Mike Bonin), Heidi Roberts and her husband decided to create one with Haaven Shared Housing. Since it opened in April 2018, they have taken 168 people off the streets (that's about 1 person per week) and have an 80% success rate (meaning people are still housed). Listen in as we talk about the full-frontal experience of living in Venice, CA, how housing isn't the solution to the homelessness crisis; there's more to it: Support. Taking care of people shouldn't be hard. We have the resources but seem to lack the political will to make the necessary change. People are suffering from addiction, untreated mental illness and, what they all have in common is trauma. After hearing from public officials that there was no housing, Heidi and her husband decided to create some. With the purchase of a 4-unit building, they were able to move 28 people in...and learned the hard way that housing wasn't the solution. Peer support and the right staff was the secret sauce.  We discuss how the crisis grew out of Mayor Villaraigosa's plan to revitalize DTLA with Staples Center and LA Live, removing from the city much of its affordable housing, which was never replaced. How big developer donors are rewarded with building contracts for the city's unhoused, instead of purchasing existing structures, leaving people on the streets while they wait for construction to be complete. Haaven can house people for $5,000/per person/per year; the city intends to spend nearly $500,000 per person. City and other organizations won't refer to shared housing because they call it "undignified". They also take issue with Haaven's policy of no drugs and alcohol on the premises (you can use elsewhere, just not on the property), saying that is a violation of personal rights. These misdirected ideologies of what they seem to believe is protecting the rights and choices of the unhoused are also what is keeping them on the streets, unsafe and at risk of violence, health crises and police detainment. Elected officials seem to be more interested in appeasing their donor base rather than serving the citizens, both homed and unhoused. There is a significant rise in crime and violence, including violence toward the unhoused. Encampments are run by gangs and Venice Beach is now known as Methlehem. Shared housing offers peer support, creates communities and families, and helps people succeed in sobriety and mental health stability. And it's a common sense solution that can be implemented quickly and at a reasonable cost to the city. You can find Heidi at https://www.haaven.org/Episode recorded on 06/04/21Episode released on 06/23/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon or a subscriber with Apple Podcasts (coming soon!). Cheers!

With a PhD in Nutrition Science and Policy in Biochemical and Molecular Nutrition & Exercise Physiology, Rachele Pojednic knows what she's talking about when it comes to the importance of exercise. With what she describes as "a real marketing problem," exercise is too often associated with weight loss, and physical activity is too important to miss because of bad PR. This episode is not meant to be ableist, sizeist or promoting diet culture. Exercise is really a form of self-love and self-care that has benefits beyond the physical, include those to our mental and emotional health. We talk about: Exercise is not a punishment and needs to be disassociated from weight loss. You change the oil in your car and get it a tune up. Exercise is no different. You need to rev that engine. What counts as exercise? Anything that gets you moving and, yes, dancing and gardening counts. Exercise is something just for you. It can be meditative and spiritual. Find your place on the movement spectrum. Making it routine helps. Be patient; don't give up. BOOK REC: BJ Fogg's TINY HABITS: THE SMALL CHANGES THAT CHANGE EVERYTHING. Body awareness. The best exercise is what you love and will keep doing. Excercise for chronic illness, chronic pain and aging. The patience (and humility) required when going from being sedentary to exercising. Newsflash: The 90s are back! (Rollerblading and scrunchies included.) Without stimulus or stress, things are going to change. The truth to, "Move it or lose it!" Finding things (for free) online. Sitting in front of a screen (another reason to get up and move). The power of push-ups. Powerlifting in your 80s. Jane Fonda. Legwarmers. Options for those with disabilities. Adaptive sports. Physical and occupational therapy. Giving yourself grace. Fighting to get insurance codes for exercise. Getting nutrition, exercise, behavior change and self-care taught in medical school (and how Harvard dropped their summer, 3-class course on this...those bastards). Nutrition and exercise are the beginning of medicine, not the last resort. Changing the system. Life and health in rural America. How this is all more complicated than eating better and getting off our asses. You can find Rachele on Instagram @rachelepojednic on Facebook @StrongProcess and her website https://rachelepojednic.comEpisode recorded on 06/04/21Episode released on 06/16/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Jeff Bezos got even richer during the pandemic because we were so reliant on online shopping, namely shopping with Amazon. It's time to spread that wealth by shopping directly with small online businesses and local stores. Cynthia Nielson is a seller on Amazon, which is necessary for small businesses to compete and find customers. Keep in mind that Amazon isn't like shopping at a retail store where the store buys its merchandise wholesale and basically owns it/can do whatever it wants with it as long as it brings in a profit. Amazon is more of a pass-through where you come to shop at their "store", but end up buying from another merchant. That merchant is likely a small business struggling to survive. No only does Amazon charge fees for merchants to be there, they make the rules, especially when it comes to returns (which costs the merchants dearly). Not only that, just when a merchant is seeing success, Amazon will change the algorithm killing that organic success. Merchants feel forced to buy ads, which Amazon profits from. We take advantage of the lax return policy without realizing how much that costs the merchants, especially if you choose "wrong website description" or "wrong item sent" (instead, choose "no longer need" since "I made a mistake" isn't on offer). Consumers have the power to change this. Think not only about the price you are paying, but the cost of that choice and the value of where you are buying from. Choosing to purchase directly from that merchant helps greatly. Buying locally keeps that money in your community. Use Amazon as your search engine and then buy elsewhere (directly from merchant or a local store...or even another online store). Amazon has a reputation for their allegedly poor treatment of their employees. Think about that when you shop there. Amazon has the power to change that now, and haven't. Because what they are doing is working for them. And we, the consumers, are agreeing to that culture every time we "Buy Now". Amazon continues to buy companies. We are ending up with fewer and fewer choices. We need to stop relying on one corporation for the majority of our shopping. Maybe it's time to choose our conscience over our convenience.Episode recorded on 04/30/21Episode released on 06/09/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon or a subscriber with Apple Podcasts (coming soon!). Cheers!

When you start to list your pet peeves, you learn that they are more or less infinite. Real-life friends Gia DeSantis (ep 005 Ageism) and Jasmine Milligan (ep 015 Clutter) return to share their current pet peeves, admit to what they are guilty of (including car theft?) and how the list that was supposed to be limited to 2 each keeps growing and growing to include: littering, what a dick Stephen Miller is (no relation to Sandra), cigarette butts, confronting offenders, DNA, Quibi, Mad Men memories, glottal stops, master bakers, misplaced dollar signs,  Starburst, root canals (and people who freak out about them), lack of personal responsibility, operating without a sense of logic, the chronically late, stealing a car (on accident), tags, waiting for food, Nuh-VAH-duh, Hilaria Baldwin, unsolicited advice, being humble, book rec: THE LISTENING PATH, asking permission, hearing yourself, talking over people, being a know-it-all, book ref: ANNOYING: THE SCIENCE OF WHAT BUGS US, parking, pronunciations, finishing a story, mansplaining, poor city planning, friend collecting, people who don't want to get vaxxed.You can find Gia on Twitter and Instagram @OMGitsGia and Jasmine on Instagram @upsidetidying and her website https://upsidetidying.comThe books referenced can be found here: https://bookshop.org/lists/a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrEpisode recorded on 04/22/21Episode released on 06/02/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Inspired to open up the "classic" tool of the 5 love languages to be more inclusive, Anne wrote SPEAKING FROM THE HEART: 18 LANGUAGES FOR MODERN LOVE, illustrated to show what those languages may look like and what they don't. We talk about: Opening up to how we see relationships, especially platonic ones; giving and receiving love more easily and openly; asking yourself if you're holding back; shifting back to communal participation; going beyond the basic 5 languages; Anne's faves (this week); score keeping; being in a relationship with yourself; connecting; the awkwardness or re-establishing contact/socializing; managing expectations; getting back to normal and needing to grieve what was lost; the missing love language; practicing the dance; consent; checking in; telepathy; why assume when you can just ask?You can find Anne on Twitter and Instagram @theannehodder, on Facebook @EveryoneDeservesSecksEd, and her book is available at https://www.themodernlovelanguages.com/Episode recorded on 04/16/21Episode released on 05/26/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon or a subscriber with Apple Podcasts (coming soon!). Cheers!

In 2008, in a cloud forest in Madagascar, Ericka Lutz's husband, Bill, suddenly became ill and passed away hours later in front of her and their 16-year-old daughter. With that sudden loss, her world was upended, PTSD set in and then came people's judgments if she wasn't being the perfect widow. We talk about: How American's are terrible at dealing with loss/grief; how sudden loss reshapes you; loss, isn't something you get over—you live with it and survive it; moving forward with full-frontal grief; survivor's guilt, anger, fear and devastation; being diagnosed with Grave's Disease and how that seemed to tie in to shock/sudden loss; importance of sharing experience; mistake of making saints out of the departed and rewriting history; being irrevocably changed; letting a teenager grieve in her own way and trusting the process; grief is not an event to complete; don't judge someone grieving (you aren't in their shoes); trying not to float off the planet; the expectations of others (being the perfect widow); still being yourself; other people wanting to move on and forget the bad stuff or not respecting the loss/grief as time passes; there's no going back to normal; being gentle with yourself, giving yourself time; grief exists outside of time; give yourself what you need.You can find Ericka on Twitter @elutz, on Instagram @ericka_lutz and her website https://erickalutz.comHer novel, THE EDGE OF MAYBE, can be purchased here: https://www.laurelbookstore.com/book/9780982708446Episode recorded on 04/09/21Episode released on 05/19/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episode and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon or a subscriber with Apple Podcasts (coming soon!). Cheers!

Gloria Davis Browning is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist, culinary school graduate, educator and advocate of Health at EVERY Size. We talk about how basic nutrition is pretty basic, how the latest food fads of Keto, Paleo and Intermittent Fasting aren't needed to keep ourselves healthy (the key to that is whole, natural foods prepared in a healthy, tasty way), that we shouldn't vilify vegetables (like potatoes, carrots, etc.), especially while eating heavily processed meats. Healthy is about how you feel, getting back to intuitive eating, avoiding the obsessive aspects of many of these diets, which doom one to failure (the one time you eat something off the diet, boom!). Good foods and bad foods don't exist for Gloria. She believes in gradual change for more lasting results, learning nutritional cooking so that you can have healthy meals at any budget, and learning how to make the best choices for you, whether you are at the grocery store, a fast food drive through or at a gas station on a road trip. Pro-tip: Turn that package around and read the labels, and understand a true portion size (check out the book THE PORTION TELLER for help with that), so you aren't taking in more calories (or fat or sodium) than you intended. Do you research regarding eating plans or food fads, and make sure that is linked to evidence from more than one source. Consider the environmental impact of ordering food in (the packaging, the plastics that really don't get recycled, and all that waste!). Understand how food is manufactured to make it more addictive (check out the book SALT, SUGAR, FAT: How the Food Giants Hooked Us for more in that). We also talk Parks and Rec, "toddler sized" sodas, research being bought, being skeptical by nature, lab rats, the French Paradox, giving your body and palate time to adjust to new (healthy) foods, the importance of moving your body, and getting back to instinctual eating.AN EXTENDED VERSION OF THIS EPISODE IS AVAILABLE TO PATREON AND APPLE PODCAST SUBSCRIBERS. For more information, visit the podcast's Community page.You can find Gloria at: https://www.savorandsoothe.com/ https://www.facebook.com/savorandsoothehttps://www.instagram.com/savorandsoothe/Episode recorded on 04/03/21Episode released on 05/12/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. For early access, ad-free episodes and exclusive content, become a patron on Patreon or a subscriber with Apple Podcasts (coming soon!). Cheers!

Julie Sedivy has a PhD in linguistics and had 5 languages under her belt by the time she was 5. Born in the Czechoslovakia and moving several times through many European countries, her family landed in Canada and slowly, English became the dominant language despite their Czech roots. Keeping a heritage language is difficult, and near impossible in a home where only one parent speaks that second language. We discuss losing language and exposure to heritage roots, the revelation of going back to the heritage country and understanding why you are the way you are, the over-importance of assimilation causing the ceasing of the heritage language, shame of a second language and how those with a second language or speaking English with an accent are perceived as different and sometimes excluded, when parents are told to only speak English to accelerate the child/children's learning, it can cause a language barrier in families, crossover learning, why no one should ever say "why can't they speak English", learning to embrace multilingualism, learning a second language will help you learn more languages, extending your communication repertoire, Canada's multilingual regions, the (false) perception of Spanish taking over the US, English has a pull and seems to become the default language even with those who speak the same heritage language, Dialectal and generational differences with language, honoring language, not always valuing the past, Indigenous languages, consulting with the elders, how things in America are disposable, getting curious about words, playing devil's advocate, Shakespeare and spelling, languages reflect cultures, valuing language, reverence can get in the way of preserving a heritage language, imperfect command of multiple languages, reverence tempered with realism, the French, Montreal and making an effort, swear words, feeling like a tourist, enriching your life with language and culture, commitment to keeping/acquiring a heritage or second language, the internet and podcast can help you learn/maintain a second language, addressing social attitudes, language is loaded for many people, evolutionary bias, under-travelled Americans and who we have different cultures in different states, opening our minds and experiencing other cultures locally.You can find Julie at https://juliesedivy.comHer new book Memory Speaks: On Losing and Reclaiming Language and Self is available for pre-order now (out on 10/12/21): https://www.amazon.com/Memory-Speaks-Losing-Reclaiming-Language/dp/067498028X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1QWJPC7BYBBLH&dchild=1&keywords=memory+speaks+sedivy&qid=1620057095&sprefix=sedivy+mem%2Caps%2C492&sr=8-1or Order it from Bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/a/11990/9780674980280Episode recorded on 02/09/21Episode released on 05/05/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon or subscribe through the new Apple Podcast program (coming in May 2021). Cheers!

In America, home of the Super Big Gulp, living smaller isn't something we think of as a goal. To Laura Fenton, living smaller is a mindset more than the amount of square feet involved. We talk about pairing back to what is essential, how downsizing can be liberating, the cleverness of a studio space, playing an endless game of Tetris, accumulating things just because you have the space, living in a small space keeps you honest, what a smaller life might look like and the rewards of it, taking the pressure off, being in a small space during the pandemic, the joy of making things work, not being beholden to others' expectations, balance of space and comfort, the large size of modern homes, urban density, smaller homes being the more sustainable option (in every way), it's not a sad thing to live in a small space, living well in a small space without deprivations, the homes in her book came sans stylists or props (that's really how they live), the cost of living smaller, a one-time big (expensive) purchase may save money in the long run, the craziness of smaller appliances costing more, seeing the long view, shopping second had for smaller spaces (because older furniture was made at a smaller scale), Apartment Therapy, sharing experiences, looking at life differently, useful/purposeful gifts, the satisfaction of giving items away to someone who'll enjoy them, pretend to move if you need motivation to declutter, changing the energy of your home by decluttering and/or inviting people over, curiosity of small space living, not filling space, living small is a daily practice, ongoing editing, changing one thing can change everything, if your home is feeling small now (after surviving lockdown) give it a purge, it may be the stuff, not the space, looking at the Why, the bunk bed book.You can find Laura at http://www.laura-fenton.com/  https://twitter.com/lauraafenton  https://www.instagram.com/laura.alice.fentonYou can find her book here: https://bookshop.org/books/the-little-book-of-living-small/9781423652533?aid=11990&listref=a-sassy-little-podcast-tbrEpisode recorded on 03/26/21Episode released on 04/28/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Writer, wife and mother, Adele Paul remembers the day her life changed when suddenly, after getting a regular virus, her energy was gone.  Listen in as we talk about: waking up tired, setting two alarms vs not owning one, getting sick, being diagnosed (and excited about that), the difference between being tired, exhausted and fatigue, going to bed at 9:30, not getting over it, doctoring, not being a flake (even when you have to cancel plans), budgeting energy, mourning, accepting limits, limits are wonderful, it's not fun to say no, not having a true diagnosis, post-exertional malaise, figuring it out for yourself, low moment/turning point, taking better care of yourself, healing, alternative medicine, placebo effect, cutting out naps, remission and flares, crazy talk, a fog like no other, alternate plans, supporting your immune system, getting vaccinated, being disbelieved, super store shopping, not needing to know, Epstein-Barr, COVID and chronic fatigue symptoms, nobody stands to profit, nutrition, Starbucks, Teeccino, rituals, exercise, recharging, living to tell the tale, the upsides, Australia.Adele can be reached at https://tuesdaysisters.com/ and https://www.approfessionalwriting.com/Episode recorded on 03/19/21Episode released on 04/21/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Buck Angel is transsexual (his preferred term). Born biologically female, Buck transitioned in the 1990s and was basically a guinea pig, as there wasn't much information for a female to male transition. We discuss the devastating statistics of violence, murder and suicide in the transgender and gender non-conforming community, the importance of opening up the conversation, Buck's past lives, not agreeing with one's community, semantics, missing memos, not being forced, being the first, having a fighting instinct, making mistakes, activism, co-existing, losing the middle ground, finding patience, communication and listening skills, the slow path to equality, TERFs, socialization, fear, bee's and honey, educating, understanding the world you're living in now and the limitations of those around you, building bridges, taking a chill pill, finding a compromise, transitioning without the internet, emotional labor, listening to elders, the value of knowledge, the psychic wounds of the AIDS crisis, what we take for granted came at a cost to someone else, swinging pendulums, merging in traffic, word math, compassion, politicians, legislating people. bathroom laws, safe spaces, being medical experiments, hormones, becoming a monetized community, curiosity is your problem.Human Rights Campaign statisticsList of documentaries and movies about the AIDS crisis:How to Survive a PlagueSliverlake Life: The View from HereCommon Threads: Stories from the QuiltWe Were HereUnited in Anger: A History of Act UpAnd the Band Played OnThe Normal HeartAngels in AmericaDocumentaries about the Transgender CommunityThe Death and Life of Martha P. JohnsonDisclosureThe Trans ListPassingBeautiful DarlingParis is BurningMr. Angel (this one's about Buck)Episode recorded on 03/12/21Episode released on 04/14/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

While the connotation may be that a prenuptial  agreement is negative, a sign of greed or a set-up for failure, they are no different than getting auto insurance for your car. You don't plan on having an accident, but you certainly want to be covered in case you do. Torrance, California-based attorney, Sandy Roxas, gives us her insight on: why pre-nups are important to have even when money and real property aren't involved, how separate property (including your business or intellectual property) becomes community property once married, thinking forward, having the tough conversations, talking finances (debt becomes community property, too, without a pre-nup), separate accounts don't protect you, keeping earnings separate and having a joint account, knowing what your partner's finances are (even if you have to run a credit report), stay-at-home parenting, amending a pre-nup or doing a post-nup, taking out the romance, co-habitation agreements (for those not getting married), having a pre-nup tends to make divorce and co-parenting easier, hiding things from your partner, obligations, a new spouse's income can affect child support and/or alimony without a pre-nup and keeping earnings separate, financial transparency is important, choosing the right spouse, entrepreneurial debt, the give and take, balanced instead of equal, financial abuse, having access, red flags, The Joy Luck Club, not being stuck, bad math, being able to walk away, being in a relationship because you want to be, not because you have to be, independence is a good thing, fertility and embryos, and please do the pre-nup sooner than later (don't force it in right before the wedding).You can reach Sandy Roxas at https://roxaslaw.com/Episode recorded on 02/27/21Episode released on 04/07/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Dr. Shauna Moore Reynolds shares her professional and personal insight into Intimate Partner Violence, discussing how we can be advocates, ask questions to open the door to discussion, there are no predetermining factors that make you more likely to experience IPV, the shame on if, having the courage to leave, understanding it takes an average of 10 attempts to leave, not knowing what goes on behind closed doors, pedestals and perceived notions, heroes, making it look good on the outside, the skills of a manipulator, why women might stay, financial control, being broken, privileged perspective, the shame belongs to the abuser, you can't love somebody better, co-dependence, bad boy attraction, honeymoon stage as the hook, chasing the beginning/that first high, it takes two to make it work, an abuser's past isn't a get-out-of-jail-free card, don't make excuses for other's behavior, recognizing abuse, going back, the cycle of abuse, someone who doesn't socialize well, denoting subtle abuse as personality quirks, more training needed for authorities, patience with the abused (and patience is not the same as co-dependence), not limiting the amount of times you're willing to help, abuse is not addiction (tough love isn't needed), the octopus that has them, stop stigmatizing things that are out of your control, relationships are work not pain, getting help to heal, having the conversation with kids about what's healthy and what's abuse, having a trusted person, being better listeners (and better believers), what to do when you're ready to leave.Resources for those in need:Domestic Violence Support: https://www.thehotline.org/What to do when you're ready to leave: https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/escaping-violence/when-it-s-time-to-go-part-iEscape checklist: https://www.mottchildren.org/health-library/te7754Advice on what to do/take when you're leaving: https://www.boredpanda.com/leaving-abusive-partner-relationship-advice/Episode recorded on 02/26/21Episode released on 03/31/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Dr. Nicole Moshfegh knows insomnia. She talks to us about how insomnia works, "helpful behavior" that causes insomnia to persist, recipes for disaster, creativity and insomnia, exercise and sleep drive, jittery zombies, fight or flight, acknowledging thoughts, catastrophe spirals, good habits, self care, relaxation, yoga, calming down, turning off, alcohol's effect, sleep stages, cultivating good sleep habits, consistent wake-up times, circadian rhythm, winding down before bedtime, getting enough activity for sleep drive, avoiding napping, reduce anxiety, challenge thinking around sleep, journaling, get out of bed if you're not sleeping, don't work/eat/sleep/watch TV/be on a screen in bed, leave your phone in another room, burning the candle at both ends, sleep deprivation, myth of 8 hours, quality over quantity, FOMO, parenting your inner child.You can reach Dr. Nicole Moshfegh at https://drnicolemoshfegh.com/Her book is available here: https://bookshop.org/a/11990/9781641527910Episode recorded on 02/20/21Episode released on 03/24/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su is a board certified OBGYN, a certified menopause practitioner, the Medical Director of Menopause at Swedish Medical Center in Seattle, and the Chief Medical Officer at Gennev. Clearly, she knows her menopause. In this episode, we talk about: Menopause being taboo, women avoiding the subject, how it's normal and natural, it's not doomsday, perimenopause symptoms (sleep problems, mood changes, anxiety and/or depression); how menopause is, for many, a happier, healthier, positive time, managing symptoms, how we all experience it differently, the average age of menopause is 52, and perimenopause happens about 2-3 years before; the fun of flooding, varying hormone levels, hormone replacement therapy, evidence-based wisdom, no need for hormone testing,  choosing FDA regulated hormones, avoiding compounded medication, risks, how "bio-identical" is a marketing term, breast cancer, cardiovascular risk, brain tattoos, ESTROGEN MATTERS (book; see line below), misogyny, Dr. Jen Gunter, the safer window, high-dose longevity clinics, Big Pharma, charlatans, John Oliver, quality control, herbal remedies, placebo effect, Gennev, no one pathway for all women, mindfulness and stress reduction, cortisol, a plant-based diet, colorful plates, choosing white wine over red, exercise (30 mins x 5 days/week), vaginal estrogen, North American Menopause Society, accountability, lifestyle as the pillar of health, community, small balls, doctor shopping.You can find Dr. Rebecca on Twitter and Clubhouse @DrRebeccaDSu and at Gennev.comMentioned in this episode:Gennev https://gennev.com/Estrogen Matters https://estrogenmatters.com/North American Menopause Society https://www.menopause.org/John Oliver on Compounding Pharmacies  Episode recorded on 02/12/21Episode released on 03/17/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

What's all the hubbub about when it comes to Mercury Retrograde? Welp, the 2020 election happened during MR and so did the second impeachment. In this episode, my favorite astrologer talks about: Ancient Egypt; a f*cked up ephemeris; the divorce of astrology and astronomy; as above, so below; the wanderers; Sirius; certain predictable events; being regulated by the Moon; astrology doesn't require faith; solar wind; Founding Fathers, High Masons and Illuminati; going back to move forward; commerce, trade and communication; the Rocky Horoscope; oysters; a disturbance in The Force; red flags; self-respect; chaos; ACOA; anxious thinking; Gandhi; Old Testament; calm the F down; the red tent and Moon lodge; taking care of ourselves; if you can't have fun, start a fight; psychic residue; the voice in your head; being useful; poop thoughts; gremlins; a chance to be mindful; happiness is an inside job; functional archetypes; New Age hogwash; vertical drop; skin cars; reorganizing the interior; curiosity; a series of frustrations; a lesson in being patient; being well-rested; Saturn's Day; Loki and the Trickster; inventing the Devil;  sh*tty perceptions; let's go deep or leave me alone; Doors of Perception; Socrates; Merrill Markoe; did you have a happy childhood or are you funny; Kurt Vonnegut; made to break; leaving a trail; lost control; homework; your own growth process; radical awakening; arms, hands and fingers; stalling; things to avoid; sign of the knees; old wives' tales; junk in the trunk; paying attention; being compassionate.You can find Coral on her website: https://coralcadman.com/Episode recorded on 02/20/21Episode released on 03/10/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Your Joyologist and host of the Claim It! podcast, Tricia Huffman, talks with us about struggling with feeling like we can have joy now, her favorite word, celebrating the small stuff (get a cookie!), knowing it's not permanent, like lessons, it is what it is, making things work, how she became a joyologist, living with pain, the desire to be truly heard and seen, retiring the word "should" and replacing it with "want", seeing that everything is "my" choice, doing the dishes, approaching things from a place of joy, removing the guilt from guilty pleasures, stop stealing joy from ourselves, making yourself feel joy, daily wins and joys, toxic positivity, remembering to keep going, acknowledging yourself, fibromyalgia, F the Shoulds. Do the Wants.You can find Tricia at yourjoyologist.com and Twitter, Instagram and Facebook @yourjoyologsit. Her books F THE SHOULDS. DO THE WANTS. will be out in April 2022. Episode recorded on 02/05/21Episode released on 03/03/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, author of GASLIGHTING: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People—And Break Free, is back (also check out ep 18 on Apologizing) to talk about gaslighting and: breaking down the difference between manipulation, lying and gaslighting, emotional abuse, agreeing to reality, "hoovering", "flying monkeys", isolation, mean girls, controlling the narrative, Gaslight (the movie), a broken nation, normalizing gaslighting, QAnon, failing to learn history, none of us are immune to gaslighting, love bombing, trust, getting educated, punishment, damage control, narcissists and sociopaths, ammunition, Dirty John, cycle of abuse, looking good in public, go to the source, splitting, power and control, toxic positivity, future faking, compinsult, importance of talking to a mental health professional, patterns and norms, healthy boundaries, attachment styles, balanced relationships, healthy discourse, you don't have to reconcile, practice self-compassion, not being responsible for other people's stuff, the trauma of 2020.Mentioned in the episode:Robert CialdiniDr. Sarkis' book recommendationsEpisode recorded on 12/31/20Episode released on 02/24/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Melissa Joy Manning is an ethically- and eco-minded jewelry designer and CFDA member, and a friend of mine. She founded the CFDA Sustainability Committee and uses 100% recycled precious metals in her handmade designs, famous for her signature style and one-of-a-kind creations. We talk about: knowing each other for 20 years, being in business for nearly 25 years, over-achieving parents, art as a career, silversmithing in Mexico, passion, living authentically, getting fired, vocational counseling, Renaissance Entrepreneurship Center, knowing how to run a business, being a hero, positioning, being around for three years, pre-Etsy/direct-to-consumer, building a brand, emulating and partnering, learning your voice, bringing a brand to market, turning, churning and burning, misconceptions, being self-funded, reinvesting, being green-certified, ethics, what you can do with what you love, social component, leading by example, sustainability and success, danger of overnight success, InStyle/Oprah effect, room for everyone, originators, strategy, false promise, vicious cycles, collaboration, generosity, mentoring, feeling lucky, cycle of 3, 5, 7, 10, vision plans, watching the market, racing backwards, finding inspiration, business can be a solution, the best design solves problems, morals and ethics, Bezos could do better, choices, creating community, potty mouths, wage disparity, the other NRA, learning, changing the demand, everything is political, the luxury of choice, cancel culture, embracing failure, being grounded, defining your own success, never take no for an answer.Related links:Melissa Joy Manning JewelryRenaissance Entrepreneurship CenterEpisode recorded on 01/28/21Episode released on 02/17/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Certified sex educator, body acceptance advocate and the author of CURVY GIRL SEX: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life, Elle Chase,  CSE, ACS, joins the pod to talk about how to simplify the complicated relationship we have with our bodies. We talk about the love of David (Bowie), messages we aren't achieving, complicated human beings, conditionally loving our bodies, accepting your body as is, compassion, demands, control, how dissatisfaction is healthy, standards, self-reflections, fear or love, no quick fix, zero patience, bossy messages, critical thinking, Marie Osmond, skinny women in bikinis, ennui, Madison Avenue, being sold to, a certain type of fatness, improvements, baby steps, being judged, self-criticism, embracing the imperfect, knowing what is realistic, being your ideal, plastic surgery, do what makes you happy, not having to be a certain way, the exterior won't fix the interior, labiaplasty, not looking how you feel, fall in love with yourself, there is no body that's normal, attracting shallow, what you bring to the table is important, dating when fat, self-esteem, taking the 350 lbs woman over the supermodel, how we get comfortable with ourselves, what we tell ourselves can be most damaging, stopping at neutral before going from negative to positive thoughts, changing the way we speak to ourselves, remember what you like about yourself, what you believe, romancing yourself, being your biggest fan, learning your love language, the relationship with yourself and its importance, Yukon gold potatoes, little things, comfort and joy, cravings, feeding the soul, separating wheat from chaff, muting, blocking and unfollowing, courage and strength, neutrality, more compassion, messy humans, Japanese sweet potatoes, knowing what lifts you up, being nice to yourself, recognizing the pressure we're under, finding what's supportive to you, friends, joy in Bernie memes, feeling like a human being again, perfections is boring, Michelle Pfeiffer, smokers, good toes, the perfect human, beautiful nailbeds.You can find Elle on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook @TheElleChase and her website is ellechase.com. Episode recorded on 01/22/21Episode released on 02/10/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community. We are on Twitter and Instagram @SassyLittlePod and Facebook @SassyLittlePodcast.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

In this episode, we talk about: Threesomes. Lies. Going over 200 episodes. Friendships. Learning. How their podcast got started. Usable gems. Critical thinking. Hating the premise of self-help. Being of service. Doing good work. Writing on accident. Filter feeding the debris. What sticks. Living with a professor. Questioning authority. Flamingoes. Best sellers. Being our best selves. Screenwriters. Lord God King Boofoo. Self-help is a misnomer. What you would actually have to do each day if you followed all the top self-help advice (spoiler alert: it's impossible). Racism and privilege. Community care. Victim blaming. Manipulation. Caveats. Rachel Hollis' divorce. Problematic advice. Social constructs. The mental load of women. Not having a party. Best advice. Worst advice. Leveling up. Assistance. Experts. Protecting listeners. Responsibility. Fabergé-ing. Ageism. Tea drinking.Books mentioned in the episode:A Sassy Little Guide to Getting Over Him (by yours truly)On Screenwriting by Syd FieldMaking a Good Script Great by Linda SegerFed Up by Gemma HartleyBurnout by Amelia Nagoski and Emily NagoskiHow to be Antiracist by Ibram X. KendiGeneration X by Douglas CouplandEpisode recorded on 01/02/21Episode released on 02/03/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media (Twitter and Insta: @SassyLittlePod) and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Dr. Stephanie Sarkis holds a PhD, NCC, DCMHS and LMHC. She's a bestselling author and psychotherapist specializing in anxiety, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, and ADHD. Her latest book is Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People. She's a Florida Supreme Court Certified Family and Circuit Mediator and a contributor to Forbes, Psychology Today and The Huffington Post, as well as the host of the Talking Brains podcast. We start by getting to the good part, talk about the lack of accountability and narcissism evident in those who refuse to apologize. Toxic personalities. 1980s philosophy (Wall Street, Gordon Gekko). Taking responsibility. Not being a doormat. Apologizing to each other in real time. Empathy, compassion and understanding. Showing you're trustworthy/having integrity. Having an asserting personality AND STILL apologizing. When people are heard, it changes thing (and that's 90% of what therapy is). Epidemic of loneliness. One person can make a huge difference. Binary thinking of apologizing/taking responsibility = admitting guilt. Acknowledgement of injustice. Lack of responsibility has been normalized by last administration. Empathy should be normalized in next administration. People who don't feel guilt. Following Mr. Roger's advice and "look for the helpers". New level of human suffering in 2020. Importance of accountability. You don't have to condone the behavior to accept the apology. Proper apology = "I'm sorry I hurt you; this is how/what I'm going to change." Motives. Apologies are not a contract/guarantee it won't happen again. ADHD. Repeat offenders. Non-apology = "I'm sorry you feel that way"/puts blame on the person harmed/deflects responsibility...and is a gaslighting technique. You're too sensitive/can't take a joke. If someone says you hurt them, you hurt them. It's easy to take responsibility. Don't blame yourself if someone refuses to apologize; that speaks to them. Setting boundaries (and becoming the difficult person because of that). Workplace offenses. We can't expect an apology for everything. Blanket apologies. Increasing our compassion (we don't know what others are going through, especially now). Giving grace to people while keeping our boundaries. If you think apologies are a weakness, talk to a professional to break those patterns (find out how it served you in the past and why it no longer serves you now). Don't underestimate the power of humor (but understand it's not always injectable). Behavior anomalies. If you have a complaint about another, check to see if you aren't guilty of the same. Fluffy McStuffins. Frayed nerves. If you charge up a hill, you might be met with a mirror. Those willing to apologize value human relationships, understand we are inherently flawed human beings, and maybe doesn't take themselves too seriously. Willingness to take responsibility. Separate ego from self. Waiting for a reckoning. What you can do to help heal stuff. Inherent entitlement. Addressing privilege. Shitler. Vocal racists. Not reconnecting. We can all be friends again. (No, we can't.) People can change—listen to what they say, pay attention to what they do. We are coming out of an abusive relationship (with our president). Gaslighting. Irreparable damage. Understanding what you have control over. Strengthening empathic muscles. Reaching out for help is a strength, not a weakness. Emotional intelligence mentors. Taking a refresher course on communication.You can find Dr. Sarkis on Twitter, YouTube and LinkedIn @stephaniesarkis, on Instagram @sarkisphd, on Facebook @StephanieSarkisPhD and her website stephaniesarkis.com. Her latest book is Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People—And Break Free.Episode recorded on 12/18/20Episode released on 01/20/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Elizabeth Jinzo is a mom who decided things needed to be better. When her daughter was born prematurely and diagnosed with Autism, she was forced into the role of advocate and had to become an expert in navigating systems, including public education, where she fought for her daughter's integration into “regular” classrooms. She was so good at this, she started a non-profit to help other parents whose children have intellectual or developmental disabilities. In 2008, she founded D.E.S.I., which stands for Designated Exceptional Services for Independence, and is named after her daughter, Deserai. She's been repeatedly recognized and awarded for her work, and well she should be, because D.E.S.I. not only provides advocation, life skills classes and job training to its clients, it's also a community food bank, runs a thrift store and provides work programs for mothers on assistance. Needless to say, she's rather impressive and quite inspiring. We talk about fighting the good fight. Serving 4,500 people at their food bank in October 2020. Being creative to keep clients engaged during lockdown/with Zoom. Pre-COVID, it was about integrating clients, being inclusive in the community. Getting clients into college. Refusing to lower expectations. She was told her daughter would never talk or go to college. Her daughter now has her own apartment in supported living. Pretend cousins. Taking away humiliating language. Being like family. Not being adversarial; creating compassion and empathy instead. Know the law. Holding pencils. Daughter was born 1.5 lbs; watched her develop in an incubator. Pioneering parents. Ending educational segregation. Letting children make their own choices so they can be their own person. Difficulty in letting go. Innate awareness. Helicopter parents. Learning about the resources available. Having to take action. Expense of special needs. Going back to school. Seeing potential. Becoming a teacher. Independent living skills. Rotaries and chambers. It takes a village. It's not just the child who needs assistance—the entire family does. Creating scholarships. Blossoming into community support. 2 locations: East L.A. (thrift store and food bank) and Bell Gardens (admin). Being uncomfortable rather than compassionate. Meaningful friendships. Structure. Emulating behavior. Try. Realizing true potential. Making a difference in the world. Support system. Yea, Kenny! Believing. Audacity. When you're hungry enough, things will happen. Obstacles as learning tools. Having a strong work ethic. Showing up.You can reach Liz and D.E.S.I. on Twitter and Instagram @desi_serve on Facebook @desiserve and at desiserve.orgEpisode recorded on 11/13/20Episode released on 01/27/20For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Great way to find a husband? Bed shopping. Teaching in the time of COVID (in Arizona). It's okay to be different. In a wheelchair for 20 years (not thinking she'd make it through the first year). Serving as an example to her students in what can be achieved. Going from an independent 15-year-old to feeling like a 15-month-old. Rebuilding brick by brick. Challenges of being a new teacher (it's never a 40-hour workweek). Nothing "is what it is". Taking "I can never" out of her students' vernacular. Growing up instantly after the accident. Evaluate challenges for what they are (hold onto the lesson; let the emotional shit go). Inside Out. Mental noise. Learning patience and perseverance. Brain injury, spinal shock, induced coma and two months in rehab relearning everything. Constantly tired for two years. Patient teachers/cheerleaders. Showing her students that people in wheelchairs are equal. Family patience and trauma. The energy it takes to have a disability. Women are amazing. Technology and vehicle are big help in getting access to the world. Expense of disability ($10k for a manual wheelchair). Clothing—learning what works. Listening to vinyl. Love/hate relationship with disability. Inability to regulate body temperature. Intentional in what one does because of the time and energy involved. Forty-five minutes to get ready/dressed, one hour for makeup. Travelling. Going downhill backwards.  The pain-in-the-ass (and expense) of renting a car (getting stuck with a minivan). Hating the word "handicap".  Not a whole lot of accessible taxis. Shoulders going to shit (eventually).  Having to "prove" your disability in Phoenix. Abusing the system. DON'T PARK IN THE HANDICAP SPOT. People don't think about how long it takes a person with a disability to do something. DON'T USE THE HANDICAP STALL IN THE BATHROOM, do not pee on the seat, flush the toilet and it's not your changing room. DON'T USE THE HANDICAP CHANGING ROOM. Cost of modifying vehicle (a $100k minivan?!?). Mentoring with her mom. Wheelchair rugby/murderball. Empowerment of playing sports. Grief with acquiring and managing a disability. Being non-traditional. Thriving outside of the home. Being a doer.  Finding your fit. Being treated like a person. A wonderful son. Loving her little family.

From being at home during the pandemic and getting things we want/need/happen to be on sale and giving/getting over the holidays, we probably are finding ourselves with too much stuff! Let's purge it. Jasmine Milligan is Reno, Nevada's first KonMari certified organizer. Marie Kondo's method starts with clothing, books, documents and "komono" (misc.) before hitting the hard to part with sentimental items. Start with a vision of what you want to achieve/have it look like and start with pulling out ALL of your clothes and see which ones spark joy (everything else is out). Learning not to buy things numbly. Future tripping. Facing stuff head-on. There are no real rules with the KonMari method (and the "if you haven't worn it in a year" rule has been cancelled due to 2020). If you want to keep it, keep it with confidence (that you will use it/wear it soon...set a date for it). Fantasy yard sales. Perceived value vs. what you will realistically get. Releasing things with gratitude. Learning our patterns. Becoming more self-aware. Shopping to check out. Energy shifting. "Hoarders". Creating a prison of stuff. Minimizing life to what you actually need and like. Disconnecting. Seeing the unhappiness related to clutter. Going through everything is really liberating. (Really.) Magic happens when you clear things out (it's like a portal opens; reconnections occur). Don't have to believe in that; just do it and you'll see. RAFT your documents (Refer, Act, File, Toss/recycle). Reese Witherspoon and stale cereal. Aesthetic organization doesn't always make sense/isn't always practical (so you can skip that trip to the Container Store and labelling everything). Kimono vs. komono. Patience. Bravery. Empowerment. Actively living. Setting goals. Zoomtinis.You can reach Jasmine at upsidetidying.com and on Instagram.Her radio show, Thread, can be heard here.Episode recorded on 12/11/20Episode released on 01/06/21For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Nina Sadowsky is busy. She's had 4 books published in the last 4 years, 2 of those were released in 2020, and that was done while she was teaching, and then while she opened a school, and was also developing TV series, and sending out a cheerfully dark dispatch from her website. Before becoming an author, she was an attorney, a producer, screenwriter and executive. She's the Program Director of NYU Los Angeles and her novels are Just Fall, The Burial Society, The Empty Bed, and Convince Me.  We talk about: needing joy or optimism to be productive, or using anger as a motivator; being ruthlessly time-efficient; finding what drives you; sometimes, it's just the doing; try something new (art, cooking), do something different to discover new motivation; building community; contributing to the conversation; taking advantage of this time to reassess, ask what you'd like your life to look like on the other side of this; look at how productive we've actually been during COVID; the doing of it; being disciplined about it; vertical and lateral thinking; mediation; dancing; finding ways to keep your joy as well as your quieter side; sink into yourself; ask how you measure productivity; managing expectations; accomplish what you can in this day; be present; rather than dread something, just do it; have compassion for ourselves in a big, big, way; the uncertainty of this situation makes it so much harder; look for the positive things that have happened; learning how precious time is; sometimes, too much time makes it hard to know what to do with it; scheduling is an illusion of control; Blursday impedes productivity; supporting local bookstores; hitting a wall; not having enough personal interactions; importance of making your bed; finding a dedicated workspace; giving yourself a short time space to do work you don't want and rewarding yourself for accomplishments; getting started is half the battle; take pride in what you accomplish; things you should plan to accomplish every day: gratitude, exercise, getting outside, connecting with someone, create beauty; let go of "normal"; pivot; being collectively tired; set an alarm and give yourself a pattern.You can find Nina on Twitter @Sadowsy_nina and on Instagram @NinaSadowsyMentioned in the interview:NinaSadowsky.comHollywood Climate SummitSupreme Myths Podcast with Eric SegallBookshop.orgEpisode recorded on 10/23/20Episode released on 12/30/20For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!

Food has changed. How we grow it and process it. Sugar is in everything (processed). The edible equivalent of oxycontin. Sugar is not a normal food product. Viewers can see the similarities between those suffering addiction on "Intervention" and those on "My 600-lb Life"; how does the medical community miss that parallel? Doctors don't want to fat-shame and obesity is prevalent/normalized. When you are sick, doctors don't ask what you are eating. They aren't trained to. Food addiction needs more research but that requires more doctors diagnosing it. Doctors prefer what they know: medication or surgery. The inequity if the food supply; lower income  keeps people reliant on highly processed and addictive foods. If food was viewed as medicine, we could get a Rx for it, use insurance co-pays to get the nutrition we need affordably. Documentaries: FAT FICTION (about how the USDA got it wrong with the American diet, making fat the villain while it's sugar that's the danger) and KISS THE GROUND (about how modern farming is damaging the soil, but changing how and what we farm will make both us and the planet healthier). USDA cherry-picked the data for the American diet. Non-fat, low-fat and "light" means "loaded with sugar!" Refined foods erode mental health, and mimics other mental health issues. Food addiction can be a gateway to other addictions. Dr. Tarman's journey. Restricting leads to bingeing and gaining more weight than was lost. If you eat healthy foods, you never have to "diet", count calories or worry about what you're eating. Best solution for addiction is to quit what you're addicted to (sugar, flour). How can you live like that? (Spoiler alert: You'll feel better.) Leptin resistance (caused by insulin blocking this hormone, keeping us from being sated/keeping us eating more). See an addiction doctor if you are suffering food addiction (regular GPs or bariatric doctors don't fully understand the triggers). Sugar and dopamine. If you're not feeling good, think about what you're eating. "Heart healthy" sugared cereals? Science is important but so is common sense. Grooming children to be addicted to food. If it's in a box or bag (and refined) aren't healthy, even if they are labelled as such. Cigarettes were once labelled as "healthy". Bullet-proofing experiment. Fat doesn't equal fat; sugar equals fat. Try going sugar-free for a month. Educate yourself about food addiction. Understand there is withdrawal (but you'll survive it). When you feel better, you won't miss the garbage. Once you eat healthy foods, you crave healthy foods.You can find Dr. Tarman at AddictionsUnplugged.com  on Twitter and Facebook. Her book is FOOD JUNKIES: The Truth About Food Addiction.Episode recorded on 10/16/20Episode released on 12/23/20For more information on the podcast or its host, please visit sassylittlepodcast.com. There, you will find links to social media and an opportunity to become a member of the podcast community.Thanks for listening! If you like this sassy little podcast, please subscribe to it, rate it and review it, and tell your friends about it. Become a patron on Patreon. Cheers!