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Passend zu den ersten Blumenknospen, Sonnenstrahlen und Frühlingsgefühlen, beschäftigen sich Sinja und Boris in dieser Folge mit der Liebe. Dabei fragen sie sich nicht nur, wie wir romantische Liebe ausleben können, sondern auch, welche weiteren Formen der Liebe es gibt und wie sich diese im Alltag fördern lassen. Umfrage: Wie gefällt dir Verstehen, fühlen, glücklich sein? Erzähle es uns hier. Hintergründe und Studien:Lenz, K.: Soziologie der Zweierbeziehung. Eine Einführung, Opladen: Westdeutscher Verlag 1998.Reddy, W. M. (2019). The making of romantic love: Longing and sexuality in Europe, South Asia, and Japan, 900-1200 CE. University of Chicago Press. Link zum Buch Bogaert, A. F. (2004). Asexuality: Prevalence and associated factors in a national probability sample. The Journal of Sex Research, 41(3). Link zur Studie Prause, N., & Graham, C. A. (2007). Asexuality: Classification and characterization. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 36(3). Link zur Studie Hudson NW, Lucas RE, Donnellan MB. The Highs and Lows of Love: Romantic Relationship Quality Moderates Whether Spending Time With One's Partner Predicts Gains or Losses in Well-Being. Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2020 Apr;46(4):572-589. doi: 10.1177/0146167219867960. Epub 2019 Aug 13. PMID: 31409247. Link zur Studie Jacobson, E., Wilson, K., Kurz, A., & Kellum, K. (2018). Examining self-compassion in romantic relationships. Journal of contextual behavioral science, 8, 69-73. Link zur Studie Barraza, J. A., Alexander, V., Beavin, L. E., Terris, E. T., & Zak, P. J. (2015). The heart of the story: Peripheral physiology during narrative exposure predicts charitable giving. Biological psychology, 105, 138-143. Link zur Studie Dainton, M., Stafford, L., & Canary, D. J. (1994). Maintenance strategies and physical affection as predictors of love, liking, and satisfaction in marriage. Communication Reports, 7(2), 88-98. Link zur Studie Ogolsky, B. G., & Bowers, J. R. (2013). A meta-analytic review of relationship maintenance and its correlates. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 30(3), 343-367. Link zur Studie Jacobs Bao, K., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2013). Making it last: Combating hedonic adaptation in romantic relationships. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 8(3), 196-20 Link zur Studie
+++ Alle Rabattcodes und Infos zu unseren Werbepartnern findet ihr hier: https://linktr.ee/wunschkind +++Die Wissenschaftlerin Dr. Anne Wiesbeck ist heute zu Gast und spricht darüber, was positive Psychologie ist und wie sie dir und deiner Familie weiterhelfen kann.Shownotes:Annes Webseite: https://annewiesbeck.de/ , Glück in Deine Mailbox – 1 Mal monatlich spannende Forschungsergebnisse, sowie Tipps und spielerische Übungen zur Integration in den Familienalltag: https://annewiesbeck.de/glueck-in-deine-mailbox/, Buchtipps von Anne: Fredrickson, Barbara L. "Die Macht der guten Gefühle: Wie eine positive Haltung ihr Leben dauerhaft verändert": https://amzn.to/48TZ1K0, Lyubomirsky/ , Sonja "The how of happines: A scientific approach to getting the life you want": https://amzn.to/3Obvj9M (dieses Buch enthält auch den Test, mit dem Erwachsene ermitteln können, welche Strategien aus der Positiven Psychologie besonders gut zu ihnen passen: „Person-Activity Fit Diagnostic“) und Seligman, Martin E.P. "Flourish - Wie Menschen aufblühen: Die Positive Psychologie des gelingenden Lebens": https://amzn.to/4hMhHzf+++Unsere allgemeinen Datenschutzrichtlinien finden Sie unter https://datenschutz.ad-alliance.de/podcast.html+++Unsere allgemeinen Datenschutzrichtlinien finden Sie unter https://art19.com/privacy. Die Datenschutzrichtlinien für Kalifornien sind unter https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info abrufbar.
La felicità è un argomento che ha sempre affascinato l'umanità. Molti di noi si interrogano su cosa significhi essere felici e, soprattutto, come possiamo coltivare la felicità nelle nostre vite quotidiane. Nel corso degli anni, la psicologia positiva ha fatto passi da gigante nella comprensione della felicità e delle sue componenti. Tra i vari studiosi, la dott.ssa Sonja Lyubomirsky ha dedicato gran parte della sua carriera alla ricerca sulla felicità, offrendo preziose intuizioni sulle abitudini delle persone felici. In questa puntata, esploreremo le principali scoperte della Lyubomirsky e le abitudini che possono aiutarci a diventare più felici.
Est-ce que c'est vraiment possible d'être heureux ?
FAN MAIL--We would love YOUR feedback--Send us a Text MessageHow would your life change if you knew you could cultivate intelligence and abilities through effort and learning? Join us in this eye-opening episode of the Theory to Action podcast as we unpack the transformative insights from Carol Dweck's influential book, "Mindset." Drawing from Dweck's extensive research, we reveal how your approach to life's obstacles and achievements is fundamentally shaped by your mindset.But that's not all; we also connect these mindset concepts to Sonia Lyubomirsky's 40% rule from "The How of Happiness," emphasizing the critical role mindset plays in personal happiness. And to make your experience even more enriching, don't miss our new listener feedback feature. Your thoughts and insights will help us keep delivering valuable content tailored to your journey of personal growth.Tune in, transform your mindset, and set the stage for a flourishing life!Key Points from the Episode:We dissect the stark contrasts between fixed and growth mindsets, delving into how adopting a growth mindset can lead to resilience, a passion for challenges, and overall personal and professional growth. Picture your mindset as a garden that needs continuous nurturing to flourish—by tending to it, you lay the groundwork for a thriving life. Both Dweck and Lyubomirsky help us to understand how important mindset is to improving our lives and cultivating happiness. Other resources: Want to leave a review? Click here, and if we earned a five-star review from you **high five and knuckle bumps**, we appreciate it greatly, thank you so much!Because we care what you think about what we think and our website, please email David@teammojoacademy.com, or if you want to leave us a quick FREE, painless voicemail, we would appreciate it.
====================================================SUSCRIBETEhttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNpffyr-7_zP1x1lS89ByaQ?sub_confirmation=1=======================================================================VIRTUOSADevoción Matutina Para Mujeres 2024Narrado por: Sirley DelgadilloDesde: Bucaramanga, Colombia===================|| www.drministries.org ||===================19 DE JULIOFLORECER«Sigo adelante, hacia la meta, para llevarme el premio que Dios nos llama a recibir por medio de Jesucristo» (Fil. 3: 14, TLA).Mucha gente cree que la plenitud y la felicidad tienen que ver con circunstancias externas, pero investigaciones indican que lo que nos rodea, bueno o malo, apenas contribuye a nuestro nivel de satisfacción duradera en un 10%.* No mucho, ¿verdad? ¿Qué es, entonces, lo que aporta el 90% restante a nuestro bienestar en esta tierra? Uno de esos factores es la esperanza; y de todas las esperanzas, la que más impacta positivamente nuestra vida presente es la esperanza en la vida venidera. ¿En qué o en quién pones tu esperanza? ¿Qué te mantiene mirando hacia adelante con ilusión, protegiéndote de la tristeza y ayudándote a superar las dificultades? La esperanza trae vida; por lo tanto, asegúrate de no perderla nunca y de ponerla en quien es digno de ella.Otros factores que nos ayudan a alcanzar la plenitud, es decir, a florecer, son los siguientes:**Comprometernos con una causa. Dado que un elevado nivel de compromiso con una causa o una actividad contribuye grandemente a nuestra capacidad de prosperar en la vida, te invito a preguntarte hoy: ¿Estoy comprometida con Dios, con mi familia, con mi iglesia, con los principios que creo? Nunca es tarde para comprometerse.Realizarnos cada día un poquito en aquello que nos hemos propuesto, como autoeducarnos, mejorar como personas, hacer ejercicio para tener salud, ser más solidarias con el sufrimiento ajeno... Se trata de ponernos metas personales que tengan que ver con nuestros valores y creencias, y de trabajar en la consecución de esas metas, siempre teniendo un concepto equilibrado sobre los logros. No se trata de una competición ni de un listón para medir el éxito; se trata de florecer: espiritualmente, familiarmente, físicamente... De brillar en el sitio donde estés.Encontrarle sentido a la vida. Este un ingrediente crucial de la receta de la plenitud y va mucho más allá de las circunstancias (de hecho, se trata de encontrarle sentido a las circunstancias, buenas o malas, para usarlas con propósito). ¿Estás viviendo una vida significativa de pertenencia a una fe, de servicio a la humanidad, de convicción de que existe algo más grande que tú?Tu vida tiene sentido, nunca lo olvides. Con esto en mente, comprométete con el Dador de la vida, la esperanza y la plenitud. Tendrás más y mejor vida; una esperanza; y te sentirás plena, pero plena de verdad.«Para mí, el vivir es Cristo». Pablo.* J. L. Kurtz, S. Lyubomirsky, «Towards a durable happiness», The Positive Psychology Perspective Series (Westport: Greenwood, 2008), pp. 21-36.** Martin Seligman, Flourish (Nueva York: Simon and Schuster, 2011).
We all have a personality trait or two that can be a bit… well… toxic. Now, no one wants to be told or believe that they're toxic, but we've got you covered! Let's take a look at your most toxic trait based on your MBTI personality type (16 personalities) AND what you can do to change it. Let's go! Side note: This video isn't meant to attack anyone who may show these traits or to say they're a bad person. This video is meant to help spread awareness of our WHOLE personality and how some qualities can come off to others. Which is the sexiest personality type? Are you one of them? Watch this to find out: • 7 Sexiest Myers Briggs Personality Ty... Writer: Brie Cerniglia Script Editor: Michal Mitchell Script Manager: Kelly Soong Voice: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera ) Animator: Rose Lam ( / rosielam ) YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong References: 16Personalities. (2011). 16Personalities Website. 16Personalities. Retrieved July 13, 2022, from https://www.16personalities.com/ Baumeister, R. F., & Hutton, D. G. (1987). Self-presentation theory: Self-construction and audience pleasing. Theories of Group Behavior, 71–87. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-1-4612-46... Layous, K., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2019). Benefits, mechanisms, and New Directions for teaching gratitude to children. School Psychology Review, 43(2), 153–159. https://doi.org/10.1080/02796015.2014...
Wie lange musst du Selbstverteidigung trainieren, um dich wehren zu können? Ach, das geht nie? Oder in deinem System schon nach einem Vierteljahr? Aber bei zweimal Training pro Woche und musst du dafür Steroide nehmen? Wie ist das für Konfrontationen, wo du nicht mal kämpfen musst? Ich hab für dich Weinerts Kompetenzbegriff auf die Selbstverteidigung projiziert und dann noch Trainingswissenschaften entartet, um zumindest mit ein paar Mythen aufzuräumen. In dieser Episode gibt es also alles vom Cliché bis zur Gestaltung deiner Trainingswoche. Viel Spaß und hier die Literatur dazu: De Becker, G. (1997). The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence. Little, Brown and Company. Korn, R. E. (2013). The Psychology of Martial Arts. Rutledge. Lyubomirsky, S. (2008). The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want. Penguin Books. McKechnie, K. (2018). Defusing violence: Effective strategies for dealing with aggressive and potentially violent individuals. Routledge. Weinert, F. E. (2001). Concept of Competence: A Conceptual Clarification. In D. S. Rychen & L. H. Salganik (Eds.), Defining and Selecting Key Competencies (pp. 45-65). Seattle: Hogrefe & Huber. __________ Musik im Intro: Home Base Groove von Kevin MacLeod unterliegt der Creative-Commons-Lizenz "Namensnennung 4.0". https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Quelle: http://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1100563 Künstler: http://incompetech.com/ Musik im Outro: Eyes Gone Wrong von Kevin MacLeod unterliegt der Creative-Commons-Lizenz "Namensnennung 4.0". https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/Quelle:http://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1100362 Künstler: http://incompetech.com/
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Eudaimonia, virtues, and the work of Sonja Lyubomirsky all point to the idea that true well-being and happiness are achieved through living a life characterized by meaningful action, personal growth, and the development of positive character traits. Lyubomirsky's research provides empirical support for the idea that living virtuously—by engaging in practices that cultivate gratitude, kindness, and meaningful social connections—can lead to a form of happiness that is deep and lasting. This aligns with the philosophical understanding of eudaimonia as a state of flourishing that results from living a life of virtue.
In de laatste aflevering van dit 1e seizoen van Normale Mensen Bestaan Niet gaan Thijs en Lennard in op wat het is om gelukkig te zijn. Kun je wel de hele tijd gelukkig zijn of niet? Waar word je nou écht gelukkig van? En wat zegt de langstlopende studie ter wereld naar gelukkig en gezond leven van Harvard ons hierover? Adverteren in de podcast? Podcasts@astrolads.com Bronnen en ander lees- en luister- en kijkvoer: - Het boek The Second Mountain van David Brooks is een aanrader: https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/f/the-second-mountain/9200000095353169/ - Natuurlijk ook Flourish van Martin Seligman: https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/p/flourish/1001004011746039/ - Boek van Viktor Frankl is een klassieker over gelukkig worden - Man's search for meaning - Laurie Santos - Science of Wellbeing cursus (gratis en goed): https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-science-of-well-being - Met vreemden praten maakt je gelukkiger: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=odAAw3NpV4s - Liz Dunn onderzoek iets voor een ander doen: https://www.ted.com/talks/elizabeth_dunn_helping_others_makes_us_happier_but_it_matters_how_we_do_it?language=nl - Ted talk over langste studie: https://ted.com/talks/robert_waldinger_what_makes_a_good_life_lessons_from_the_longest_study_on_happiness Nerd-literatuur: - Seligman, M. E. (2011). Flourish: A visionary new understanding of happiness and well-being. Simon and Schuster. - Van Zyl, L. E. (2013). Seligman's flourishing: An appraisal of what lies beyond happiness Flourish: A visionary new understanding of happiness and well-being, Martin EP Seligman: book review. SA journal of industrial psychology, 39(2), 1-3. - Seligman, M. E., & Csikszentmihalyi, M. (2000). Positive psychology: An introduction (Vol. 55, No. 1, p. 5). American Psychological Association. - Lyubomirsky, S., King, L., & Diener, E. (2005). The benefits of frequent positive affect: Does happiness lead to success?. Psychological bulletin, 131(6), 803. - Sheldon, K. M., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2006). How to increase and sustain positive emotion: The effects of expressing gratitude and visualizing best possible selves. The journal of positive psychology, 1(2), 73-82. - Layous, K. T. I. N., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2014). The how, why, what, when, and who of happiness. Positive emotion: Integrating the light sides and dark sides, 473-495. - Lyubomirsky, S., King, L., & Diener, E. (2005). The benefits of frequent positive affect: Does happiness lead to success?. Psychological bulletin, 131(6), 803. - Vaillant, G. E. (2008). Aging well: Surprising guideposts to a happier life from the landmark study of adult development. Hachette UK. - Fuchsman, K. (2023). Harvard Grant Study of Adult Development: 1938–2022. Journal of Psychohistory, 51(1). - Atherton, O. E., Graham, E. K., Dorame, A. N., Horgan, D., Luo, J., Nevarez, M. D., ... & Lee, L. O. (2023). Is there intergenerational continuity in early life experiences? Findings from the Harvard Study of Adult Development. Journal of Family Psychology. - Hart, J. (2023). Harvard Study of Adult Development: Human Connection is Key to Health and Well-Being. Integrative and Complementary Therapies, 29(3), 122-124. - Atir, S., Wald, K. A., & Epley, N. (2022). Talking with strangers is surprisingly informative. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 119(34), e2206992119. - Schroeder, J., Lyons, D., & Epley, N. (2022). Hello, stranger? Pleasant conversations are preceded by concerns about starting one. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 151(5), 1141. - Epley, N., & Schroeder, J. (2014). Mistakenly seeking solitude. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 143(5), 1980.
**Podcast Show Notes: "Gratitude and Joy"** - Hosts: Amanda Dinsmore, Laura, Kendra Morrison- Introduction (00:01-01:33) - Amanda welcomes listeners back to the podcast, introduces herself, Laura, and Kendra. - Mention of receiving a one-star podcast review and the hosts' humorous reaction to it. - A shoutout to a listener named Renee who gave a five-star review and their appreciation for her. - Discussion on Gratitude and Joy (01:33-11:09) - Introduction to the topic of gratitude and joy, especially relevant as the episode is released on Thanksgiving. - Gratitude's role in experiencing joy, vulnerability, and spiritual practices. - Mention of Brene Brown's book "The Gifts of Imperfection" and how it explores the connection between gratitude and joy. - The three patterns of people regarding joy, gratitude, and a joyful life. - The impact of fear and scarcity on experiencing joy and gratitude. - Differentiating between happiness and joy as emotions and experiences. - Kendra's personal gratitude practice and how it helps her stay present in joyful moments. - Kendra's story about going hunting with her son and finding joy and gratitude in the experience. - Sonya Lyubomirsky's Research (11:09-19:11) - Discussion of research by Sonya Lyubomirsky, a psychology professor at UC Riverside. - Gratitude as a meta-strategy for achieving happiness. - Lyubomirsky's definition of gratitude, including wonder, appreciation, counting blessings, and savoring. - Gratitude as an antidote to negative emotions, envy, and avarice. - Research findings on the effects of gratitude practice on physical and emotional well-being. - The practice of gratitude and its impact on optimism and satisfaction in life. - Gratitude Practices (19:11-26:53) - Amanda shares various gratitude practices, including writing down what you're grateful for, replacing ungrateful thoughts, and expressing gratitude directly to others. - The concept of a "gratitude visit," where you write a letter thanking someone for their role in your success and read it to them. - Personal anecdotes about expressing gratitude in emails and phone calls in a professional setting. - The power of starting conversations with gratitude to foster better interactions. - Mental Filtering and Changing Perspectives (26:53-31:19) - Discussion of cognitive distortions, specifically mental filtering, and how it relates to gratitude practice. - Gratitude as a way to intentionally shift one's focus from negativity to positivity. - Acknowledging the benefits of moving from a left-brained, analytical mindset to a right-brained, creative mindset. - Conclusion and Invitation (31:19-32:11) - The hosts express their hope to inspire listeners to practice gratitude during the holiday season and beyond. - Announcement of an upcoming free class on "Overcoming Over Whatevering" December 27 at noon CST. - Closing remarks emphasizing the value of physicians and their work. **Note:** Timestamps are approximate and based on the content of the transcript provided. The Gifts of Imperfection The How of Happiness Hidden Figures trailer Nate Bargatze on "Is it a good sign when eagles land on your head?"
Unlock the Truth: Why 10% of the World's Population Will Remain Unhappy,Unlock the Truth: Why 10% of the World's Population Will Remain Unhappy, No Matter Your Efforts - Expert Insights to Free Yourself from the People-Pleasing TrapAre you a natural-born people-pleaser? Do you often find yourself bending over backward to make everyone around you happy, only to be met with dissatisfaction and frustration? If so, you're not alone. However, the hard truth is that no matter how hard we try, some people will never be content or satisfied. According to experts, a staggering 10% of the world's population fall into this category. In this blog post, we'll delve into the reasons behind this phenomenon and offer valuable insights on how to free yourself from the people-pleasing trap.First and foremost, it's essential to understand that happiness is a complex and multifaceted concept. In their study, researchers Diener and Seligman (2002) found that happiness is influenced by a combination of genetic, circumstantial, and intentional factors. Thus, it's crucial to recognize that your efforts to please others may only have a limited impact on their overall happiness.Another significant factor contributing to the 10% unhappy population is the phenomenon of hedonic adaptation. According to a study by Lyubomirsky (2011), people have a natural tendency to return to their baseline level of happiness, regardless of positive or negative life events. This means that even if you successfully please someone, they may revert to their initial state of dissatisfaction shortly thereafter.Furthermore, the concept of the "happiness set point" sheds light on why some individuals seem perpetually unhappy. Research by Lykken and Tellegen (1996) suggests that each person has a genetically determined set point for happiness, around which their mood fluctuates based on life events. This means that even if you do everything in your power to satisfy someone, their happiness may still be limited by their genetic predisposition.As you can see, the quest to please others can be a futile effort in many cases. So, how can you free yourself from this people-pleasing trap? Here are three expert tips to help you regain control of your life:Set Boundaries: Establishing clear boundaries is essential for maintaining your mental health and well-being. By setting limits on your availability and the amount of energy you're willing to expend on others, you'll prevent yourself from becoming overwhelmed by the needs and expectations of others.Prioritize Self-Care: Make a conscious effort to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment, and don't be afraid to say "no" when necessary to preserve your energy and mental health.Accept Imperfection: Understand that it's impossible to please everyone, and that's okay. Accepting that some individuals may never be happy, regardless of your efforts, can be a liberating realization. Focus on nurturing healthy relationships with those who appreciate your efforts and bring positivity into your life. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Good news! We have some control over our happiness, and we know how to boost it. Listen in today as we discuss the definition of happiness and what scientists think about how much DNA matters. This is one of my biggest takeaways from writing 668 daily happiness podcast episodes. Tune in to learn more. Transcript: Welcome to Everyday Happiness, I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and as we close out this podcast, we invite you to join our happy mail email community, where you'll continue to get happiness and kindness content delivered straight to your inbox. We think it's the happiest email in your inbox. You can join at www.katiejefcoat.com Today, I share one of my biggest takeaways from writing 668 daily happiness podcasts. It's the definition of happiness and where we can get the biggest impact for our effort to boost our happiness. So many of us think we'll be happy when we work hard and achieve success. But the fact is, that will never work. Our brains are designed to move the goalpost to the next thing. If fulfilled happiness is on the other side of achievement, we've already lost because we will never get there. Now, you get the job promotion, and you feel happy - for a moment. But soon, your big job promotion is just your job. That fancy new car, the new car smell has worn off, and it's just your car. Scientists call this the hedonic treadmill, always trying to achieve the next best thing. Most scientists agree that happiness is really a two-pronged definition. The first prong is happiness in emotions. The second prong is satisfaction and purpose. You need both prongs to be fulfilled to achieve well-rounded happiness. Emotions, such as joy, contentment, love, and other positive feelings like peace, gratitude, satisfaction, pleasure, inspiration, hope, curiosity, and love, fall into this first prong. In her 2007 book The How of Happiness, Sonja Lyubomirsky describes happiness as "the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one's life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile." These emotions stem from the positive experiences we have in life. The second prong has two parts. Purpose and satisfaction. Purpose is how you feel when you are doing the thing you love. This can be academic research, your work, building a business, being involved in the community, being a parent, and more. Arthur Brooks says that long-lasting happiness comes from human connection and productive work. He found in his scientific research that it was overwhelmingly clear that a “productive human endeavor creates a sense of purpose in life.” Satisfaction is appreciating what you have more than pining for what you want. Many of us think we will be more satisfied, happier even, if we get more of what we want. However, the scientific theory of hedonic adaptation tells us that we get comfortable with what we have, and we always want more. Satisfaction is elusive and doesn't last with that mentality; it's like running on a treadmill and never getting to the destination. So, it's basically impossible to "get more" and be happier long term. This is why the gurus tell you that gratitude is so important to achieve happiness. It is bringing you back to the here and now. Satisfaction is not a function of what you have; it's actually an equation of what you HAVE and what you WANT. Think of it like a fraction: the top is what you have, and the bottom is what you want. So you want to appreciate what you have more than pine for what you want. This all seems easy enough, but I was curious, how much is actually in our control? Arthur Brooks says that happiness is 50% genetic, 25% circumstantial, and 25% in your control. Sojyna Lyubomirsky has similar findings. Although it's never a neat and tidy pie chart, experts agree that we humans have some control over our happiness and it's not all left up to DNA or chance. The researchers from the 2005 Lyubomirsky paper later said that “Happiness can be successfully pursued, but it is not ‘easy,'” In other words, happiness for many people will simply be something that is hard won. For others, happiness may feel like a natural state. The insight is simple, and it's good news. This means that happiness is deeper than our emotions and we have some control over our happiness. The bonus is that we know how to enhance our happiness through simple tiny habits like savoring, gratitude, kindness and so much more. Remember, kindness is contagious, go out there and spread some kindness today. Life is heavy enough; we shouldn't have to search for happiness. Get the exclusive happiness email, delivered with a smile twice a month to your inbox. https://www.katiejefcoat.com/email And, let's connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram Links: https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/ Inspiration from: https://arthurbrooks.com/art-of-happiness/ 2005 paper https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_much_of_your_happiness_is_under_your_control
Dr. Llewellyn van Zyl on how happiness differs from culture to culture, Positive Psychology in universities and organisations, the most effective Positive Psychology Interventions for you, work-life balance, following your passion and much more… Dr. van Zyl's Bio Dr. Llewellyn van Zyl is an Assistant Professor in Organisational Psychology at Eindhoven University of Technology. Dr. van Zyl has published prolifically in areas of organisational psychology and positive psychology. Dr. van Zyl is currently the Speciality Chief Editor (Ass) of Frontiers in Psychology (Positive Psychology) journal. Dr. van Zyl has also consulted with many organisations to improve employee performance and wellbeing outcomes. Chapters 00:00:00 Show Intro 00:01:50 What is happiness? 00:05:55 Cultural differences in happiness 00:13:10 Is happiness genetically determined? 00:16:20 Positive psychology as a discipline 00:33:20 How to critique self-help, pop psychology 00:46:15 Positive Psychology Interventions (PPIs) 00:52:25 Personalising PPIs 01:06:00 Flourishing for Uni Students 01:27:00 Positive Organisational Psychology 01:40:50 Real reason companies hire psychologists 01:46:10 Ethical challenges in organisational psychology 01:50:25 Work-life balance/integration 01:54:10 On ‘following your passion' 01:57:45 The 4 choices you always have Further resources mentioned in this episode “The Mental Health Continuum: From Languishing to Flourishing in Life” by Keyes (2002) “Pursuing Happiness: The Architecture of Sustainable Change” by Lyubomirsky et. al. (2005) “Positive psychology: An introduction” by Seligman (2000) “The Critiques and Criticisms of Positive Psychology: A Systematic Review” by van Zyl et. al. (2023) “The Complex Dynamics of Wishful Thinking: The Critical Positivity Ratio” by Brown et. al. (2013) “Psychological Capital: An Evidence-Based Positive Approach” by Luthans and Youssef-Morgan (2017) “How to Lie with Statistics” by Huff (1954) “How do Simple Positive Activities Increase Well-Being?” by Lyubomirsky and Layous (2013) “PERMA+4: A Framework for Work-Related Wellbeing, Performance and Positive Organisational Psychology 2.0” by Donaldson et. al. (2022) “Exploring Meaning in LIfe Through a Brief Photo-Ethnographic Intervention Using Instagram: A Bayesian Growth Modelling Approach” by van Zyl et. al. (2020) “Flourishing Interventions: A practical guide to student development” by van Zyl and Stander (2013) “Ethical guidelines for positive psychology practice” by Jarden (2021) Presentations by Dr. van Zyl “Designing Effective Strengths-Based People Development Interventions” • Designing Effecti... “Strengths Based Development Interventions” • Strengths Based P... “Strengths-Based Development: How to Identify and Use Your Strengths” • Strengths-Based D... To view other episodes of TMWBS on Youtube, see / @ucst6c0odrlqo4-b... To view daily short clips of TMWBS, see https://www.youtube.com/@thementalwel... To listen to TMWBS on Spotify, see https://open.spotify.com/show/4yAzyeo... To view TMWBS on Tik Tok, see https://www.tiktok.com/@tmwbspodcast To view TMWBS on Instagram, see https://www.instagram.com/tmwbshow/?n...
We vergeten het nog weleens, maar het is voor ons hoofd behoorlijk belastend om een keuze te maken! En bovendien gaan we als mensen ook allemaal anders om met het maken van keuzes. Daarom hebben we het in deze aflevering over manieren en beweegredenen bij het 'kiezen' en lichten we: de 'maximizers' en de 'satisficers' uit.Voor meer persoonlijkheidsfeitjes volg ons op Instagram of TikTok!Lees, kijk en luistertips
El episodio de hoy tiene tres objetivos: 1.- Dar a conocer y poner en valor, una actividad que nuestro invitado Daniel Anido desempeña en su tiempo libre: reconstrucción-reproducción de una chalupa ballenera vinculada a la historia de dos pueblos gallegos Malpica de Bergantiños y Caión. 2.- Escuchar la trayectoria y el testimonio de una persona que fue andando y descubriendo su perfil personal a través de una actividad que realiza. 3.- Vincular nuestra historia de hoy a la bibliografía de: Lyubomirsky, S (2008), Diagnóstico de “adecuación entre la persona y su actividad” en La ciencia de la felicidad. (Alejandra Devoto, Trad.) Ed. Urano, pp. 91-96 Cada cara es una historia, una identidad con un sello muy personal. En ocasiones las oportunidades se presentan y no las percibimos porque nuestro foco de atención no se deja acompañar de una apertura mental que nos lleva a conocernos mejor. No somos conscientes de nuestro talento dormido porque no nos hemos parado a pensar en que en la práctica de nuestras actividades podemos encontrar la clave del autoconocimiento y de nuestro bienestar. Hablamos también de una realidad: en numerosas ocasiones dar a conocer ese talento y el resultado del mismo, dependerá de estar en el lugar adecuado y en el momento oportuno.
Drawing on her own research with thousands of people, psychologist Lyubomirsky has pioneered a detailed yet easy-to-follow plan to increase happiness in our day-to-day lives--in the short and long term. This book that offers a guide to understanding what happiness is, and isn't, and what can be done to bring us all closer to the happy life we envision. Using more than a dozen happiness-increasing strategies, it offers a new way to understand our innate potential for joy and happiness as well as our ability to sustain it in our lives. Lyubomirsky's "happiness strategies" introduce readers to the concept of intentional activities that they can use to achieve a happier life, including exercises in optimism and how best to savor life's pleasures in the here and now. She also helps readers understand the obstacles to happiness as well as how to harness individual strengths to overcome them.
Have you ever been really excited to buy something, only to feel extremely underwhelmed by the satisfaction this thing gives you shortly after purchasing it? Have you ever experienced a negative change in your life that you thought would impact you more negatively than it did? Our body's natural tendency to "get used" to things involves something called hedonic adaptation. We've discussed this on the show before, but we thought it deserved its own episode. So, today we discuss what the research says about how to maximize our well-being by not "getting used" to the good things in our life. Note: We recorded this episode the day before the World Cup match between the US and The Netherlands. Spoiler alert: The US lost. References: Wu, S. (2001). Adapting to heart conditions: A test of the hedonic treadmill. Journal of Health Economics, 20(4), 495-507. Sheldon, K. M., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2012). The challenge of staying happier: Testing the hedonic adaptation prevention model. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 38(5), 670-680. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/noggin-psychologypodcast/message
Today we welcome Sonja Lyubomirsky who is a distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside. Originally from Russia, she received her A.B., summa cum laude, from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Social/Personality Psychology from Stanford University. Her research has been featured in hundreds of magazines, newspapers, shows and documentaries in North America, South America, Asia, Australia, and Europe. Dr. Lyubomirsky's best-selling books The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness have been published and translated in over 16 countries.In this episode, I talk to Sonja Lyubomirsky about happiness. Across all of her research, Dr. Lyubomirsky has found that connection is what makes people happy. So then, how do we form high-quality connections? Dr. Lyubomirsky gives us insight on how to use kindness, reciprocity, and gratitude to maintain and strengthen our relationships. We also touch on the topics of psychedelics, interpersonal chemistry, and social media.Website: drsonja.netTwitter: @slyubomirsky Topics01:38 Sonja's interest in happiness research03:56 The Happiness Pie Chart07:55 The Set-point Theory of Happiness10:42 Connection is the key to happiness15:19 Are extroverts happier? 20:12 Psychedelic social psychology25:25 The Happiness Boomerang Effect29:58 What makes for great conversation?34:16 High-quality connections36:47 How to create interpersonal chemistry42:44 Can you count too many blessings?45:27 Apps that make us happy and unhappy 51:39 Kindness boosts immunity
Do you like pie? How about happiness pie? In this mini-series, I am sharing with you how our happiness pie chart is broken down into three unique sections. Today, we talk about the second slice, circumstances. Transcript: Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life. I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and we are continuing our chat from yesterday. Today, we are expanding to discuss the happiness pie chart, which I learned from Sonja Lyubomirsky's How to Happiness book. Now, keep in mind that this book was published in 2007, and since then they have revised some of their ideas due to more research. I talked about that news briefly in episode 350, but all the information here is based on that update. Moving on. Let's take a quick moment to review. Your happiness pie is cut into three slices. The first slice is your pre-determined happiness range, which we talked about in the last episode. The second slice is your circumstances. This slice takes into account your current circumstances, whether you are rich or poor, healthy or ill, beautiful or ugly, successful or jobless, married or divorced, the list goes on and on. What I find astonishing is how little your current circumstances affect your overall happiness. Having all of the luck and riches in the world won't make you much happier. On the plus side, that also means that negative situations like becoming ill, losing a job, getting divorced, or crashing your car have little impact on your long-term happiness. Let's say you do have a happy circumstance change. The happiness it does give you is short-lived because hedonic adaptation will send you right back to that happiness range we discussed earlier. That is…unless you take active action to prevent hedonic adaptation. As a part of their update, Lyubomirsky notes that the Hedonic Adaptation Prevention (HAP) model demonstrates that you can continue to interact with a new life changes past its normal influence. To do this, you must actively act in one of two ways. First, you can continue having positive experiences with the change to feed that happiness fire, such as hosting dinner parties at a new home. Second, you can appreciate what you have instead of quickly moving on to dream of the next big thing. For example, you could actively think about all the awesome features of your new car, rather than wishing for the newest model. What's so incredible about this is that you can influence how big this slice of your happiness pie is simply with the HAP model. So, what about the last slice of the pie? That last slice of the pie is your choice for intentional activities. This is the part of the pie that we have the most control over as our daily choices in what we do and how we think to determine our happiness levels. Want to learn more? Check out our next episode of Everyday Happiness! Get Everyday Happiness delivered to your inbox by subscribing at: https://www.katiejefcoat.com/happiness And, let's connect on social at @everydayhappinesswithkatie and join the community on the hashtags #IntentionalMargins and #everydayhappinesswithkatie on Instagram Links: https://onamission.bio/everydayhappiness/ Inspired by this article in http://sonjalyubomirsky.com/files/2019/11/Sheldon-Lyubomirsky-2019.pdf
Are you the kind of person who tries to optimize your decisions, but then often ends up regretting your choice because you might have missed something better? This means you are probably a maximizer. Or are you the kind of person who decides quickly and confidently, and then seldom looks back on decisions with regret? You are probably a satisficer. In this episode of Management Muse, we're joined by Spencer Fraseur, Cindi and Geoff's nephew, and a doctoral candidate in management at the University of Texas at Arlington. In this episode, the Muse dives into the difference between maximizers and satisficers, and explores the work implications of each decision-making style. Episode Highlights: In organizations, maximizers may be most beneficial in the early stages of decision-making because they are thorough researchers. In organizations, satisficers may be most beneficial in the later stages of decision-making because they are excellent at putting the research down and selecting an option. While maximizers and satisficers can drive each other nuts, understanding the styles can help coworkers work more effectively together and better appreciate what each brings to the table. When selecting decision-makers on a particular topic, weigh the importance of the decision because the time spent researcher may be overkill for most decisions, where good enough would have, in fact, been good enough. Timestamps: [5:13] The three main factors that distinguish Maximizers and Satisficers. [8:36] An example of how a Satisficer and how a Maximizer view opportunities. [12:46] How a Maximizer's extensive research and negotiation ability helps them optimize their decisions. [14:42] A Satisficer's ability to speed up the decision-making process and stick with a choice. [22:44] How to speed up your decision-making process as a Maximizer. [23:26] How to make better decisions as a Satisficer. [26:19] How Maximizers and Satisficers can collectively make better decisions at work. [36:25] How a Maximizer might accidentally send a Satisficer the message that they don't trust them. About Spencer Fraseur: Spencer James Fraseur is a doctoral candidate in management at the University of Texas at Arlington. His first book, The Irrational Mind, won the Royal Dragonfly Book Award in 2020. Episode Resources: Maximizing Versus Satisficing: Happiness Is a Matter of Choice The Irrational Mind – Book by Spencer Fraseur available on Goodreads and Amazon https://culsure.com/product/organizational-benchmark/ https://ondemandleadership.com/executive-team-building/ https://spencerfraseur.com/ Watch this podcast on YouTube https://managementmuse.com/ Reference: Schwartz, B., Ward, A., Monterosso, J., Lyubomirsky, S., White, K., & Lehman, D. R. (2002). Maximizing versus satisficing: happiness is a matter of choice. Journal of personality and social psychology, 83(5), 1178.
What do those goosebumps (frisson) mean when you hear a great song? Can music benefit our well-being? Can music be spiritual? These questions and more are answered in this week's episode of Psych & Spirit. FRISSON MUSIC (MY OWN EXPERIENCE): Weyes Blood - Movies: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RFtRq6t3jOo Danny Elfman – Ice Dance / The Grand Finale: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3VlFMtlZAs4 Philip Glass - The Hours: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYuTEcArOr8 Enya - Cursum Perficio: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hd_DuEU6Mvg Marnie - Submariner (3:45-7:29): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=87ePr9pFR8k Moby - My Weakness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ioDcGjwu988 Banco de Gaia - Not In My Name (4:52-10:22): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ABtKieS99sw Wendy & Lisa (ft. Seal) - The Closing of the Year: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j-MAqVsOLFI References Blood, A. J., & Zatorre, R. J. (2001). Intensely pleasurable responses to music correlate with activity in brain regions implicated in reward and emotion. Proceedings of the national academy of sciences, 98(20), 11818-11823. Colver, M. (2016, May 25). Why does great music give you the chills? Slate. https://slate.com/technology/2016/05/getting-chills-when-listening-to-music-might-mean-youre-a-more-emotional-person.html Colver, M. C., & El-Alayli, A. (2016). Getting aesthetic chills from music: The connection between openness to experience and frisson. Psychology of Music, 44(3), 413-427. Costa, P., & McCrae, R. (1992). Revised NEO personality inventory (NEO-PI-R) and NEO five-factor inventory (NEO-FFI) professional manual. Psychological Assessment Resources. Daykin, N., Mansfield, L., Meads, C., Julier, G., Tomlinson, A., Payne, A., ... & Victor, C. (2018). What works for wellbeing? A systematic review of wellbeing outcomes for music and singing in adults. Perspectives in public health, 138(1), 39-46. Garrido, S., & Schubert, E. (2015). Music and people with tendencies to depression. Music Perception: An Interdisciplinary Journal, 32(4), 313-321. Guhn, M., Hamm, A., & Zentner, M. (2007). Physiological and musico-acoustic correlates of the chill response. Music Perception, 24(5), 473-484. Harrison, L., & Loui, P. (2014). Thrills, chills, frissons, and skin orgasms: toward an integrative model of transcendent psychophysiological experiences in music. Frontiers in Psychology, 5, 790. Koelsch, S., & Jäncke, L. (2015). Music and the heart. European heart journal, 36(44), 3043-3049. Nolen-Hoeksema, S., Wisco, B. E., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2008). Rethinking rumination. Perspectives on psychological science, 3(5), 400-424. Sachs, M., Ellis, R., Schlaug, G., and Loui P. (2016). Brain connectivity reflects human aesthetic responses to music. Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience, 11(6), 884–891. Weinberg, M. K., & Joseph, D. (2017). If you're happy and you know it: Music engagement and subjective well-being.
CELINE-MARIE PASCALE, professor of sociology at American University, is a leader in examining how deep inequalities can be normalized through the language we use to describe them. Her book LIVING ON THE EDGE: When Hard Times Become a Way of Life offers the voices of people who struggle to make ends meet, reveals a system that profits from their struggles, and presents a vision for change from the working people who know that the economy we have is unsustainable for most of the U.S. population.
The pursuit of happiness is an age-old endeavor, but this positive emotion has eluded much of humankind. Happiness is one of the strongest motivators in our personal and professional lives as it drives many decisions. Are successful people happier or are happy people more successful? Should our goal be to be happy with our life or in our life? Can we control the moments that lead us to experiencing joy and happiness? If yes, to what degree can we exercise control over our own happiness?We explore the answers to these questions and many others in this interview with Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, (AB Harvard, summa cum laude; Ph.D. Stanford) Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside, and author of The How of Happiness and The Myths of Happiness which has been published in 36 countries. Lyubomirsky and her research on the science of happiness have been the recipients of many grants and honors, including the Diener Award for Outstanding Mid-career Contributions in Personality Psychology, the Christopher J. Peterson Gold Medal, and a Positive Psychology Prize.karuna is a social enterprise with one mission - to make happiness accessible to all. If you believe that happiness should not be a privilege of the few, but instead a birthright of all, come join us. Become a founding member of our completely free community called the reimagine happiness™ community. As soon as you join, 10 dollars will be donated to our nonprofit arm, the karuna happiness foundation. For the entirety of 2022, we will be donating $10 to the karuna happiness foundation for every new member for up to a total of $100,000. Our mission at the karuna happiness foundation is to empower marginalized women, youth, and children to break the vicious cycles of poverty and abuse. Plus, when our paid membership options launch, we will be donating 10% of all revenue to the karuna happiness foundation. Your membership to the reimagine happiness ™ community, however, will always remain completely free as long as karuna exists.If you're ready to make a real difference in this world, we need you to join us. Once you become a member of the reimagine happiness™ community, you will also receive access to the tools of wellbeing we all need to thrive - because stress, anxiety and burnout do not define your story...happiness does. Come start your happiness journey while spreading compassion where it's needed most. Now is the time to start a movement where happiness is no longer the privilege of a few, but a right of all. Join us.happiness lives here™ welcome homelearn more about karuna or the karuna happiness foundation
(NOTAS Y ENLACES COMPLETOS AQUÍ: https://www.jaimerodriguezdesantiago.com/kaizen/101-en-busca-de-la-felicidad-ii-el-malquerer-supermodelos-y-corazones-rotos/)“La publicidad se basa en una cosa, la felicidad. Y, ¿sabes que es la felicidad? La felicidad es el olor de un coche nuevo. Es ser libre de las ataduras del miedo. Es una valla en un lado de la carretera que te dice que lo que estás haciendo lo estás haciendo bien. Que tú estás bien”Así explicaba ese encantador de serpientes llamado Don Draper la felicidad. Pero eso no es más que la definición de un publicista. Y por más fan que yo sea del personaje, me temo que nos ayuda muy poco en este camino de buscar la felicidad.Si escuchaste el primer capítulo de este especial, recordarás que los psicólogos tienden a diferenciar dos componentes en eso que llamamos felicidad: 1) el bienestar emocional, es decir, experimentar emociones positivas y 2) la satisfacción con la vida, es decir, estar satisfechos con la evaluación que hacemos de nuestra vida. Normalmente hay cierta tensión entre ambas, porque la mayor parte de las cosas que nos dan una de ellas, no nos dan necesariamente la otra, o incluso a veces son contraproducentes para la otra. Y viceversa. Pero lo queremos todo. Así somos los humanos. Para complicar más el asunto, resulta que incluso cuando alcanzamos algo que nos hace felices, nuestra naturaleza nos empuja a que dejemos de apreciarlo. Igual que nos adaptamos a circunstancias negativas y redefinimos nuestras expectativas, lo hacemos también con las positivas. Es lo que los psicólogos llaman la adaptación hedónica.Así que, como decíamos al final de aquel capítulo, seguramente el mayor problema de la felicidad es que no es un estado que se alcanza y en el que nos quedamos a vivir. No es un destino. No basta con seguir una lista de tareas o un mapa y llegar a ella. Es, o al menos eso parece decir la ciencia, una especie de proceso de búsqueda continuo, en el que, una vez que la alcanzamos se diluye y tenemos que reencontrarla, una y otra vez. Con la trampa de que reencontrarla no tiene tanto que ver con buscar, como con favorecer que aparezca. Ese proceso depende mucho de nuestros hábitos, de nuestra mentalidad respecto a lo que nos pasa y cómo vivimos y también de cómo tomamos algunas decisiones en la vida. Tras dedicarle unos cuantos meses de investigación al tema, mi conclusión es que aunque nada nos garantiza ser felices, sí hay estrategias para intentar que sea un poco más fácil conseguirlo. De ellas hablaremos en éste y en algún capítulo más. Y vamos a empezar por todas esas cosas que queremos, porque creemos que nos harán felices, y que, sin embargo, no lo hacen.
Wie werde ich glücklich? Diese Frage haben wir uns sicher alle schon einmal gestellt. Sinja und Boris benennen in dieser Folge was wir tun können, um glücklicher zu werden – und orientieren sich dabei wie immer an wissenschaftlichen Forschungsergebnissen. Sie klären außerdem, was Glück eigentlich ist, wie wir es messen können, und was sich im Körper tut, wenn wir glücklich sind. Studien: World Happiness Report der UN:https://worldhappiness.report/ed/2021/Zusammenfassung der Einflussfaktoren aufs Glück (Gene, Umwelt, Verhalten):Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K. M., & Schkade, D. (2005). Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change. Review of general psychology, 9(2), 111-131.https://escholarship.org/content/qt4v03h9gv/qt4v03h9gv.pdfBuch von Sonya Lyubomirsky über empirisch validierte Wege, glücklicher zu leben:Lyubomirsky, S. (2013). The how of happiness: A practical guide to getting the life you want. Piatkus.Hier gibt es eine tolle, gerappte Zusammenfassung des Buchs:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IyryRRYty4YStudie zu Glück und Selbstbezogenheit/SelbstlosigkeitDambrun, M. (2017). Self-centeredness and selflessness: happiness correlates and mediating psychological processes. PeerJ, 5, e3306.https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5429736/Studie, die einen engen Bezug von Sinn und Glück verdeutlicht:Jebb, A. T., Morrison, M., Tay, L., & Diener, E., 2020. Subjective Well-Being Around the World: Trends and Predictors Across the Life Span. Psychological Science, 31(3), 293-305. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0956797619898826Zu Beziehungen:Siehe hier für ein gute Übersicht der größten Studie zu Lebenszufriedenheithttps://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/ Zur Wirksamkeit bei Sport gegen Depressionen:https://www.hohenegg.ch/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/150528_Fast-gleich-wirksam-wie-Psychotherapie-und-Medikamente.pdf Geben macht glücklich:Dunn, E. W., Aknin, L. B., & Norton, M. I. (2008). Spending money on others promotes happiness. Science, 319(5870), 1687-1688.https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Lara-Aknin-2/publication/5494996_Spending_Money_on_Others_Promotes_Happiness/links/0c960536bc4c368a69000000/Spending-Money-on-Others-Promotes-Happiness.pdfFür weitere einzelne Themen, hört mal in unsere früheren Folgen rein:Gegenwärtigkeit https://open.spotify.com/episode/5LNcrYMtLw4HK9lPLRmLppNatur https://open.spotify.com/episode/1XGABi36gHr4lmnuRmqMGyOptimismus https://open.spotify.com/episode/0oQGHYeEKIP2LxHZMGRlHvFlowhttps://open.spotify.com/episode/426iN9NATevem1qzcgrbkeSinn https://open.spotify.com/episode/3eSRmvYqcznDqyaRudc2i4 Selbstfürsorgehttps://open.spotify.com/episode/5ThIopedfeRx3tY8PUHc2nDu hast Interesse an dem Achtsamkeitsangebot für Unternehmen von Balloon? Dann schau am besten hier: https://www.balloonapp.de/unternehmenUnsere allgemeinen Datenschutzrichtlinien finden Sie unter https://art19.com/privacy. Die Datenschutzrichtlinien für Kalifornien sind unter https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info abrufbar.
Do love, kindness, and altruism make us happier? How do we end the current loneliness epidemic? What is perceived partner responsiveness? Find out in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the psychologist and author Sonja Lyubomirsky on Kindness, Happiness, and Connection. For more on this episode click here: https://www.the-heart-center.com/ep-67-kindness-happiness-and-connection-with-sonja-lyubomirsky/ Learn more about your guest below: Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is Distinguished Professor and Vice Chair of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside. Originally from Russia, she received her bachelor's at Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Social/Personality Psychology from Stanford Unive rsity. Lyubomirsky currently teaches courses in social psychology and positive psychology and serves as the Department of Psychology's Vice Chair. Her research has been written up in hundreds of magazines and newspapers and she has appeared in multiple TV shows, radio shows, and feature documentaries in North America, South America, Asia, Australia, and Europe. She is the best selling author of The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want, as well as is now translated and published in 23 countries, and The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But Does, which have been translated and published in dozens of countries. Learn more at - http://drsonja.net/ - http://sonjalyubomirsky.com/ - http://thehowofhappiness.com/ - https://twitter.com/slyubomirsky Learn more about your host and the show at: www.zachbeach.com www.the-heart-center.com Support The Show: If you like the show there are many ways you can support it, such as, - Register for Relationship Mastery, a 6-week self-guided course to take your relationship to the next level. https://www.the-heart-center.com/relationship-mastery-landing-page/ - Check out one of our sponsors, Listenable and use the discount code “zachbeach” for the first seven days on the platform for free. There you can find Zach's How To Be a Better Partner Course. https://frstre.com/go/?a=76205-87a7d9&s=1256514-e13191&p_affiliate.referral_code=zachbeach - Purchase The Seven Lessons of Love: Heart Wisdom for Troubling Times on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Lessons-Love-Heart-Wisdom-Troubling/dp/1983940704/ - Purchase a love shirt and show the world your love of love https://www.bonfire.com/store/the-heart-center/ - Review, Like, and Subscribe to the show on iTunes. - Like us on Facebook facebook.com/learntolovenow - Join the Facebook Community Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1428012130828678/
What's the connection between purpose and happiness?” https://youtu.be/Sz2lVK1uAZk My guest on this week's episode of The Lifestyle First Podcast is Kristina Mand-Lakhiani Kristina is the co-founder of MindValley, the learning platform where the experience of learning is a lifelong adventure. Kristina is an advocate of happiness from within. We discuss Aristotle's expression that that purpose of life is to be happy. We highlight the difficulty of defining happiness. We discuss the idea of happiness as an emotion, a state and a skill. We talk about how happiness leads to success and purpose rather than success leading to happiness. “You are not happy because everything is perfect, everything is perfect because you are happy.” We cover so much in this powerful conversation which I know will inspire you to deeply reflect and ponder. 1. The one question we discuss is “What is the connection between purpose and happiness?” 2. The two references we look at are (i) Success and Happiness S. Lyubomirsky et al. The Benefits of frequent positive affect: does happiness lead to success. Psychological Bulletin. 2005. 131 (6): 803-855 https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/16351326/ (ii) Happiness and Relationships Harvard Study of Adult Development https://www.adultdevelopmentstudy.org/ 3. The three actions to take are · Allow yourself to feel pain – pain is the price of a meaningful life · Learn to forgive · Create meaningful social connections Which of these 3 actionable lifestyle tips will you implement? Leave your comments below. -x- DISCLAIMER: This content does not constitute or substitute personal one-to-one professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or health care professional with questions about your health. -x- Find Out More/Contact/Follow: Guest: Website https://kristinamand.com/ Social https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ Host Newsletter: https://dralkapatel.com/mailinglist Website: https://dralkapatel.com/ Social: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dralkapateluk/ https://www.facebook.com/dralkapateluk https://www.instagram.com/dralkapateluk https://twitter.com/dralkapateluk YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaQrM4ryE0a38zqsednEppQ Podcast: https://anchor.fm/dr-alka-patel --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/dr-alka-patel/message
Word je levenstevredenheid bepaald door je omstandigheden of kan je er écht zelf iets aan veranderen? Is de ene mens van nature vrolijker en optimistischer dan de ander? En wat als je leven ingrijpend veranderd: je wint de lotto bijvoorbeeld, of je belandt in een rolwagen? Een aflevering over optimisme en humor, invloed en betrokkenheid, taart en concentratiekampen. Hier kan je meer informatie vinden over ons thema: Sonja Lyubomirsky bespreekt haar ‘gelukstaart' in het boek “De maakbaarheid van het geluk” en in dit onderzoek: Lyubomirsky, S., Sheldon, K. M., & Schkade, D. (2005). Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change. Review of General Psychology, Vol.9(2), 111–131. De lotto-winnaars en paraplegie-patiënten die laten zien hoe je geluks-basisinstelling hetzelfde blijft, worden in dit web-artikel uitgebreid besproken: en over het oorspronkelijke onderzoek kan je lezen in dit wetenschappelijk tijdschrift: Field, J. (2009). Well-being and Happiness IFLL Thematic Paper 4. National Institute of Adult Continuing Education (England and Wales). Viktor Frankl schreef het prachtige boek “De zin van het bestaan” over zijn ervaringen als Holocaust-overlevende en over zijn logotherapie Daniel Gilbert laat met zijn onderzoeken zien hoe slecht we zijn in het voorspellen van ons toekomstig geluk, een concept dat hij ‘affective forecasting' noemt. Hij schrijft daarover in zijn boek “Stuiten op geluk“. Hier kan je een TED-talk met hem bekijken. Over post-traumatische groei kan je lezen in het werk van Stephen Joseph of in het boek “Post-traumatische groei: sterker door ellende” van Anja Jongkind De oefening met de cirkels van invloed en betrokkenheid komt uit het boek “De zeven eigenschappen van effectief leiderschap” van Stephen Covey Je kan je mailadres achterlaten op onze website, dan sturen we je een freebie (afdrukbare versie van die oefening) met de cirkels - ons experiment van deze week.
With so much challenging stuff going on in the world around us these days, it's natural to ask a simple question: how much control do we have over how happy we are?On this episode of "10 Good Minutes," Forrest explores the research behind happiness, reveals the most important factors, and gives some practical advice for maximizing sustainable well-being.If you'd like to watch this episode rather than listen to it, Forrest has a new YouTube channel! Subscribe to the channel, and watch the video over there. Research:Pursuing Happiness: The Architecture of Sustainable ChangeOur podcast episode with Dr. Lyubomirsky.Twin studies find that identical twins raised in different households are more similar in their level of happiness than fraternal twins raised in the same household. Emotional well-being decouples from income at ~$75,000/year.BRAND NEW research suggests that "experienced well-being" continues to rise as income increases above $75,000/year.Circumstantial factors that most consistently predict high subjective well being.Connect with the show:Follow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookSubscribe on iTunes
https://www.holstee.com/pages/manifesto The blue sweater : bridging the gap between rich and poor in an interconnected world, New York Rodale 2010. ISBN 9781586489564https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/20/business/mackenzie-scott-philanthropy.html Lyubomirsky, Sonja, Kennon M. Sheldon, and David Schkade. "Pursuing happiness: The architecture of sustainable change." Review of general psychology 9, no. 2 (2005): 111-131.
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Danner, D. D.; Snowdon, D. A.; Friesen, W. V. (2001): Positive emotions in early life and longevity: findings from the nun study. In: Journal of personality and social psychology 80 (5), S. 804–813. · Havas, David A.; Glenberg, Arthur M.; Gutowski, Karol A.; Lucarelli, Mark J.; Davidson, Richard J. (2010): Cosmetic use of botulinum toxin-a affects processing of emotional language. In: Psychological science 21 (7), S. 895–900. DOI: 10.1177/0956797610374742. · Strack, F.; Martin, L. L.; Stepper, S. (1988): Inhibiting and facilitating conditions of the human smile: a nonobtrusive test of the facial feedback hypothesis. In: Journal of personality and social psychology 54 (5), S. 768–777. DOI: 10.1037//0022-3514.54.5.768. · Lyubomirsky, Sonja (2007): The how of happiness. A new approach to getting the life you want. New York NY: Penguin Books.
Our guest today is the queen of happiness research. If you have a book on happiness, she probably wrote it. Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is Distinguished Professor and Vice Chair of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside. Lyubomirsky currently teaches courses in social psychology and positive psychology and serves as the Department of Psychology’s Vice Chair. Lyubomirsky’s best-selling The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want (Penguin Press) is now translated and published in 23 countries, and The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn’t, What Shouldn’t Make You Happy, But Does. POSTHOC is a petri dish for ideas & thought-leaders. We host invite-only salons that connect people and spread ideas. We create unique and intimate experiences that stir the senses—a forum for the cross-pollination of ideas and conversations. Instagram: @posthocpictura Twitter: @PosthocSalons LinkedIn: Posthoc Facebook: @Posthocpictura
This episodes discussing practicing gratitude. If we want to have a more positive mindset or increase our happiness we need to put into practice habits that will encourage this expansion and one of them is establishing and practicing gratitude. References: The Science of Well-Being Course offered by Yale and taught by Laurie Santos. Lyubomirsky, S. (2013). The myths of happiness: What should make you happy, but doesn't, what shouldn't make you happy, but does. New York: Penguin Press. Visit the book's website. Download the book's full set of references. Lyubomirsky, S. (2008). The how of happiness: A scientific approach to getting the life you want. New York: Penguin Press. Visit the book's website. Download the book's references. Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M.E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: an experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of personality and social psychology. Feb; 84(2): 377-89. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/xan0/message
Summary We would all hope that going good for others helps to create more positive work places. Recent research highlights the contagious nature of kind acts at work. Transcript Hello and welcome to episode 80 of the Leadership Today podcast where each week we tackle one of today’s biggest leadership challenges. This week we look at the surprising benefits of doing good. We would all hope that doing good for others helps to create more positive workplaces. But doing good can become scarce when people are under pressure. Let’s start with the flip side to doing good. In episode 62 I shared Christine Porath’s work on incivility in the workplace highlighting the negative impact on work effort, quality and performance which also tends to flow on to treatment of customers. Whether it’s losing your temper, being rude, withholding information, running down someone’s reputation, or sabotaging a piece of work, it’s easy to see how incivility is so damaging in the workplace. So organisations have made a real effort to reduce these sorts of negative behaviours. All those efforts, at best, take us back to a neutral position where people aren’t being actively negative towards others. But it’s really difficult to be neutral towards other people. We tend to be either positive or negative in our impact during our interactions with those around us. Each of the world’s major religions have a variation of the golden rule - treat others as you would like them to treat you. In Judaism it’s expressed as loving your neighbour as yourself, words that Jesus restates during the early foundations of Christianity. From that perspective, the golden rule is not just a minimum standard, but a call to be kind and good to others. I know you’re already thanking me for the first year philosophy and ethics lecture so let’s take a deeper look at the research around doing good at work, or what researchers typically call pro-social behaviour. A just released research review from The University of Texas demonstrates that cooperative behaviour is contagious. When people see someone perform an act of kindness, they in turn are more likely to be kind. And the effect wasn’t just about being on the receiving end of the positive act. In fact, the motivation to be kind was strongest when the kind act was witnessed, rather than when it was personally received. That’s right - you’re more likely to be kind to others when you see someone being kind, rather than being on the receiving end of kindness. Another study undertaken in the workplace included participants who were asked to perform acts of kindness for their colleagues. The impact of these kind actions were noticed by others, leading to greater perceived levels of autonomy and higher ratings of happiness. The study even found the old adage to be true - that it’s better to give than receive. Those undertaking acts of kindness rated their life satisfaction and job satisfaction higher a full month after the intervention finished. Those on the receiving end of kind acts also tended to pay that kindness forward to others. So the research is pretty clear - if you want to increase the amount of good in your workplace, share examples of people being good towards others. This role-modelling is particularly powerful when it comes from leaders. In a large organisation where I used to work, there was an executive elevator that ran express from the executive car park up to the executive floor. The most senior people could make their way through an entire day without ever seeing anyone that wasn’t an executive. The CEO at the time made a conscious effort to take the elevator from the car park to the ground floor, get out, and then catch the regular elevator with everyone else. He would ask for people’s names and engage in conversation. That simple act probably cost him 10 minutes a day, but it role-modelled that under his leadership anyone could talk to anyone. The message was clear - if the CEO makes an effort to engage with frontline staff, then maybe I should do the same. So what can you do as a leader to boost the amount of good in your workplace? Here are some ideas: Be kind to others - it will benefit them and you, and it is also likely to be contagious Recruit others to also be kind to others - find some peers who are willing to join you in doing good Share examples of kind acts - this will motivate others to be kind themselves As always, I hope you found this episode helpful. Can you believe it, we’re up to episode 80 so remember we’ve got a whole back catalogue of research and advice in episodes like this. Just go to the leadership.today website to track those down. I look forward to speaking with you again next week. References Haesung Jung, Eunjin Seo, Eunjoo Han, Marlone D. Henderson, Erika A. Patall. Prosocial modeling: A meta-analytic review and synthesis.. Psychological Bulletin, 2020; DOI: 10.1037/bul0000235 Chancellor, J., Margolis, S., Jacobs Bao, K., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2018). Everyday prosociality in the workplace: The reinforcing benefits of giving, getting, and glimpsing. Emotion, 18(4), 507–517. https://doi.org/10.1037/emo0000321
Welcome to episode 28. A few weeks ago, I published an episode about healthy coping mechanisms in which I talked openly about some difficult times I went through and how I’d got through these with the strengths (and emotions) of hope, love and gratitude. Today, I’m going to share some of the emotions running through my head right now, and how I’m using positive psychology to help me. I hope that, in doing this, I can help you, too - whether you are going through a difficult time yourself or are supporting one of your students through some challenges. Because, really, it might be an over-used cliché, but it IS ok not to be ok. That doesn’t mean there’s nothing we can do to help us feel a bit less rubbish than we would if we didn’t have positive psychology tools at our disposal, however. Last week, I had one of my regular coaching sessions with my executive coach. We do talk about emotions in those sessions, of course, as I don’t live and work in a vacuum, but this session was something else! I spent almost the entire hour and a half of my Skype coaching session crying (with some beautiful and uplifting moments of laughter thrown in!). Once I gave myself permission to talk about the anxieties I am dealing with and to let the emotions out, I couldn’t turn the tap off and my eyes just kept on leaking. I don’t want you to worry about me. Even though I’m not ok, I accept it’s ok to feel this way, under my present circumstances. And I know I will be ok again. I am dealing with a lot of stuff…financial stuff, family stuff…stuff that comes at all of us at some point or other in life. Lots of change, lots of uncertainty, lots of worry. It’s just all coming at me in one go - which I know also happens to lots of us from time to time. And like many of us in various parts of the world, this is all underscored by a political climate that I find extremely concerning and that sends me into moments of despair on an almost daily basis. I’m permanently exhausted and, through talking with my coach, I realised that of course I’m exhausted - I’m dealing with all this anxiety, with various circumstances that I cannot directly control or even influence, and working hard to keep myself mentally well…it’s bound to be tiring! And I released that, although on an intellectual level I understood and accepted that it’s ok to feel this way, to not be at my very best all the time with all this stuff going on, that it’s ok to give in to the exhaustion when I can and just ‘be’, I was compounding how I was feeling by adding a layer of guilt - that I should be doing more, that I shouldn’t be so self-indulgent, that I should just get my act together. Does that ound familiar?! I talked through some of the well-practised positive psychology tools and strategies I am currently using, with my coach, and these are serving me well: Gratitude is so ingrained in everything I do that I experience it, deliberately and by chance, multiple times a day over the smallest of things sometimes. The same goes for savouring (which I also covered in a recent episode). Then there are the things I do more deliberately - what Layous and Lyubomirsky refer to as “Positive Activity Interventions”. At the moment, what is working well for me is taking every opportunity to go for an energising walk outside. Practising self-kindness is something I thought I was doing quite well, but now I realise I was undoing the impact of this by feeling guilty, so now I’m working on that, too. And as Layous and Lyubomirsky say in their paper, working on our happiness takes effort, like most other worthwhile things in life. They also mention another couple of points worth noting: That we need a variety of activities to draw upon as we otherwise experience fatigue or boredom from the endless repetition of one activity, and that not all activities work for everyone; even though everything I share with you on this podcast is evidence-informed - there needs to be a fit. Throughout this podcast’s many episodes, I have and will continue to share with you various activities that may help you or your students flourish. Not all activities will work for everyone, but whether you’re working on yourself or supporting one of your students, it’s about building up a toolkit of activities you can try out to find the ones that work for each individual. And as my wonderful coach reminded me last week, it’s ok if you still feel rubbish despite doing all this stuff…just think how much worse you might feel if you weren’t putting in the effort to support your mental health! Thanks to my knowledge of positive psychology and putting the work in, I am able to keep bringing the energy and professionalism I pride myself on to my public-facing work, I am able to keep things ticking along - even if sometimes I just do the bare minimum - in my behind the scenes work, and I am able to say “I feel pretty rubbish at the moment, but it’s ok…it’s normal under the circumstances and I know it will get better again.” Sometimes that is all we can do. So keep adding to your toolkit, keep trying out the different techniques, ideas and interventions I and my wonderful podcast guests share with you, and put the work into your wellbeing (or support your students into putting the work into theirs). And start by being kind to yourself - it’s one essential item in the toolkit and possibly the most difficult one for many of us to put into practice. Let me know how you get on and what works for you! And, as always, I look forward to catching up with you next week. Until we speak again, For Flourishing’s Sake, have a great week! Everyday Hero - 60 second version (Corporate, motivational, you tube, podcast) Music by Pond5
Experiences are something we remember for a long time. Much longer than we remember things. How to design for them? With Anna Pohlmeyer, the assistant professor at the Institute for Positive Design at Delft University of Technology, we talk about the challenges behind hedonistic adaptation, designing for values and virtues. And we also consider designing for inefficiency as a way to engage people on a new, deeper level than it usually happens.IMPORTANT LINKSCheck out the Delft Institute of Positive Design for a selection of inspiring projects, tools & methods, as well as scientific publicationsBooks recommended by Anna:“Funology: From Usability to Enjoyment” (Human–Computer Interaction Series)“Designing pleasurable products” by Patrick Jordan“Sketching User Experiences” by Bill Buxton“Design of everyday things” by Don Norman“Design for the real world” by Victor Papanek“Thinking fast and slow” by Daniel Kahneman“How of happiness” by Sonja Lyubomirsky"Speculative everything: design, fiction, and social dreaming" by Anthony Dunne and Fiona Raby Other links:PERMA model for well-beingHedonic adaptation And if you would like to dig even deeper you can check out the following articles on: Positive Design:- Desmet, P.M.A. & Pohlmeyer, A.E. (2013). Positive design: An introduction to design for subjective well-being. International Journal of Design, 7(3), 5-19.- Pohlmeyer, A.E. & Desmet, P.M.A. (2017). From good to the greater good. In J. Chapman (ed.), The Routledge handbook of sustainable product design (pp. 469-486). London: Routledge. Hedonic Adaptation:- Frederick, S., & Loewenstein, G. (1999). Hedonic adaptation. In D. Kahneman, E. Diener, & N. Schwarz (Eds.), Well-being: The foundations of hedonic psychology (pp. 302-329). New York: Russell Sage Foundation.- Sheldon, K.M., Boehm, J., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2013). Variety is the spice of happiness: The hedonic adaptation prevention model. Oxford handbook of happiness, 901-914. Experiential and material purchases- Carter, T.J. & Gilovich, T. (2010). The relative relativity of material and experiential purchases. Journal of personality and social psychology, 98(1), 146.- The study on experience enablers was conducted in collaboration with J. Claus. Mental Subtraction / Taking Notice and Savoring- Koo, M., Algoe, S. B., Wilson, T. D., & Gilbert, D. T. (2008). It’s a wonderful life: Mentally subtracting positive events improves people’s affective states, contrary to their affective forecasts. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95, 1217–1224.- The coffee machine that occasionally declines to serve coffee was developed in collaboration with J. Nanne.- Pohlmeyer, A.E. (2017). How design can (not) support human flourishing. In C. Proctor (ed.), Positive Psychology Interventions in Practice (pp. 235-255). Cham: Springer.
Regardless of your genetic set point, you can control up to 40% of your happiness. Based on Sonja Lyubomirsky's research reported in her best seller, The How of Happiness (2008), I share how to do this through gratitude and acts of kindness. For more information on Dr. Lyubomirsky, go to: http://thehowofhappiness.com/
Happiness is something many of us strive for using all the wrong approaches. We distract ourselves looking for the next big excitement, numb ourselves so we won’t feel emotional pain, seek pleasure in purchases, chase status in position or gaining influence or power and treat ourselves with food that we are not hungry for. Anyone who has achieved fame, fortune, status eventually recognizes that more things and more fame do not create any sense of lasting happiness. So what is happiness and does it make any sense to chase it down? I have certainly had many moments of happiness in life but I notice that “happy” is an elusive state that comes and goes sometimes in unexpected ways. I can never pin down the state of happy but I do notice that I often find calm, content or neutral states frequently present when I let go of expectation or insistence in certain outcomes of achievement. What about you? What do you think happiness is? Can you pin it down? When are you most at peace, content, calm? Is this a more realistic state? Positive psychology researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky elaborates, describing happiness as “the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile.” https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/topic/happiness/definition Radio show was aired on Realityradio101.com on Thursday, October 31, 2019 at 1 pm EDT
SUMMARY This week we’re looking at research that demonstrates faking extraversion as a way to boost well-being. Seriously - what’s all that about? And what might it mean for leaders? TRANSCRIPT Welcome to episode 52 of the Leadership Today podcast where each week we tackle one of today’s biggest leadership challenges. This week we’re looking at research that demonstrates faking extraversion as a way to boost well-being. There is a well established link between the personality trait of extraversion and positive affect. That is, the more extraverted someone is, the greater their positive feelings and broader well-being. Now, I’ll just pause there to allow time for our introverted half of the audience click on unsubscribe. But as the cigarette company funded Hans Eysenck demonstrated, extraverts are more likely to smoke and over eat, so it’s not all smooth sailing on the other side of the fence. I’ll pause there to allow time for the remainder of my audience to also click on unsubscribe. Okay - so our personality preferences all come with benefits and draw backs. But exploring the potential benefits of acting more extraverted on well-being is a legitimate area of study. Well, as of August 2019, the initial results are in. The researchers from the University of California proposed that behaving in an extraverted way should provide a short-term boost in well-being. How did they get people to act more introverted and extraverted? Well, they actually had each person do both. Participants were split into two groups, with half instructed to behave like an extravert for a week, then as an introvert for a week, with the other half doing the opposite. The participants completed various assessments along the way. In the extraverted week participants were asked to act as talkative, assertive and spontaneous as they could. In the introverted week they were asked to act as deliberate, quiet and reserved as they could. During the extraverted week, people saw a significant increase in well-being. This included higher ratings of positive affect, connectedness and flow. The researchers also found that asking people to behave in an introverted way decreased well-being. These findings are similar to other research quoted in the study where people commuting to work on trains and buses were asked to either speak with a stranger or remain silent. Those who spoke with strangers saw a boost to their positive feelings, while those who remained silent didn’t. But what makes the difference? Was it being talkative, being assertive, or being spontaneous? And do I really need to act outside my personality preference to get the well-being benefits linked to extraversion? After reading the study, I think these behavioural changes are all possible without working outside of our personality preference. You can be more assertive while still being introverted. It’s a behaviour. You can make a greater effort to connect with other people while still being introverted. Again, it’s a behaviour. And you can choose to be more spontaneous and adventurous while still being introverted. I believe it’s better to think of these as generally beneficial activities and ways of interacting, rather than attempts to change our personalities. I think one of the key takeaways from this research for leaders is the importance of building connections with others. That, independent of our personality preference for introversion or extraversion, we all need other people and we all want to belong. One of the leadership styles I explore with groups is what I call Connecting. This isn’t just about connecting directly with individuals you lead, it’s also about helping those you lead to make connections with others across the organisation. This helps to provide support while also boosting a sense of belonging, just like those people on the bus or train taking the time to talk with a stranger. As leaders, we can boost well-being and performance by using a Connecting leadership style. The other key takeaway is helping people to boost their assertiveness - being able to explore other’s perspectives while also presenting my own views and opinions clearly and confidently. If you want to learn more about that, you can check out episode 6 on Assertiveness, and you can also keep an eye out for my online Boost Your Assertiveness course which I’m currently trialing prior to a September launch. But as a leader, I can encourage people to share their views, and also take the time to listen to alternative views. We can boost the assertiveness in our organisations, not just in our people. If you’re interested in exploring the benefits of introversion, I recommend Susan Cain’s excellent book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. She also has a great TED talk which I’ve linked to in the show notes. There are benefits from talking less and listening more. I think it’s entirely possible to work on our listening at the same time as we work on building connections and assertiveness. Unlike extraversion and introversion, they’re not opposite ends of a scale. Now, I came across the research on extraversion and well-being via the excellent British Psychological Society Research Digest. I highly recommend checking that out and I’ve provided a link in the show notes. REFERENCES Susan Cain TED talk - The Power of Introverts. https://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts?language=en Susan Cain - Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153 British Psychological Society Research Digest - https://digest.bps.org.uk/ Margolis, S., & Lyubomirsky, S. (2019, August 1). Experimental Manipulation of Extraverted and Introverted Behavior and Its Effects on Well-Being. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General. Advance online publication. http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/xge0000668
HumanLab -- The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science.Psychologist Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, who researchest happiness, explains that we are actually very poor predictors of what makes us happy or unhappy. Of course, it doesn’t help that we’ve been stuck with a lot of cultural myths about what things and situations should and shouldn’t.On this show, which focuses mainly on relationships, Dr. Lyubomirsky lays out the realities shown in the research and also give us simple, practical ways to be happier -- as well as practical thinking on how to assess when that’s just not possible and it’s time to get out. Dr. Lyubomirsky's book: The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't; What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does.Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sun from 7-7:30 pm PT and 10-10:30 pm ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support the show by buying my "science-help" book, "Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence."
Richard and Eric examine the prevalent human adaptive process called "hedonic adaptation" and its relevance to not only our daily life, but more specifically: choral conducting. What is the hedonic treadmill, and once we understand what it is, is there a way to get off? There must be something more and deeper than just this "pursuit of happiness" thing.Frederick, S. and Loewenstein, G. (1999). Hedonic Adaptation. Wellbeing, The Foundations of Hedonic Psychology. New York: Russel Sage Foundation.Lyubomirsky, S. (2010). Hedonic Adaptation to Positive and Negative Experiences. THe Oxford Handbook of Stress, Health, and Coping. Oxford University Press.
We are so busy these days that it’s great to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Dr. Lyubomirsky shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own happiness. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being.
To summarize and simplify a little bit, one of the major focuses of this podcast is the “how” of happiness – what we can actually do in our lives, practically speaking, to increase our natural foundation of happiness and well-being. There’s endless advice out there about how to become happier, but most of it is anecdotal in nature. That’s why we're so happy to be being joined today by one of the leading researchers on the scientific study of human happiness: Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky. If you would like to learn more about Dr. Hanson's new online program Neurodharma, follow this link! Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price. Timestamps: 01:06: The “pie chart” of happiness. 04:52: What push-back have you received on your work? 06:49: What has a big role in the 40% of our happiness we control? 12:34: What can we do to handle “back-fre” effects? 14:26: Building the trait of happiness. 21:35: A message to your younger self.
HumanLab -- The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science.Psychologist Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, who researchest happiness, explains that we are actually very poor predictors of what makes us happy or unhappy. Of course, it doesn’t help that we’ve been stuck with a lot of cultural myths about what things and situations should and shouldn’t.On this show, which focuses mainly on relationships, Dr. Lyubomirsky lays out the realities shown in the research and also give us simple, practical ways to be happier -- as well as practical thinking on how to assess when that’s just not possible and it’s time to get out. Dr. Lyubomirsky's book: The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't; What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does.Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sun from 7-7:30 pm PT and 10-10:30 pm ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support the show by buying my "science-help" book, "Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence."
Ludzi pociągają aktywności i styl życia, które pozwolą im zmaksymalizować poczucie szczęścia Dążą do tego na różne sposoby: * szukają chwilowej ulgi lub zaspokojenia aktualnych potrzeb (przez rozrywkę) * dążą do długotrwałej satysfakcji (jak np. małżeństwo) Czy jedne są lepsze od innych? Dziś to omówimy. Powszechnie mówi się, że to pozytywne i długofalowe skutki dają prawdziwe szczęście. Ale czy tak jest zawsze? Jak podejmowane przez nas decyzje mogą wpływać na nasze poczucie szczęścia? Pięknie przedstawiły to Nancy Sin, Katherine Jacobs i Sonja Lyubomirsky w jednym z rozdziałów książki “House i psychologia” Rozważają m. in.: * definicje szczęścia * co nie prowadzi do szczęścia * co faktycznie i trwale wpływa na szczęście Ważne: tu poruszają tylko kontrolowane czynniki, a pomijają te zależne od genetyki i innych uwarunkowań. O książce więcej na końcu, a teraz zajmijmy się tak ważnym dla każdego z nas tematem, jakim jest szczęście. Listen to “KKU#26 – Psychologia szczęścia na podstawie książki “House i psychologia”” on Spreaker. Czy ten temat Cię zainteresował? Kup książkę i dowiedz się więcej klikając w poniższy link: >> Kupuję książkę “House i psychologia”
HumanLab -- The Science Between Us, a weekly show with the luminaries of behavioral science.Psychologist Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, who researchest happiness, explains that we are actually very poor predictors of what makes us happy or unhappy. Of course, it doesn’t help that we’ve been stuck with a lot of cultural myths about what things and situations should and shouldn’t.On this show, which focuses mainly on relationships, Dr. Lyubomirsky lays out the realities shown in the research and also give us simple, practical ways to be happier -- as well as practical thinking on how to assess when that’s just not possible and it’s time to get out. Dr. Lyubomirsky's book: The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't; What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does.Join me and all my fascinating guests every Sun from 7-7:30 pm PT and 10-10:30 pm ET, at blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon or subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher.Please support the show by buying my science-based, funny book, "Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence."
http://enequilibriomental.net/ Quinto programa EN EQUILIBRIO MENTAL EL ARTÏCULO DEL BLOG A todos nos han dicho alguna vez que para evitar estados tristes y depresivos es importante dormir bien, salir al exterior cuando haya luz, no aislarse y hacer ejercicio a diario. Y todo esto es cierto y muy beneficioso. Una de las vitaminas más importantes es la vitamina D. La deficiencia de esta vitamina se ha relacionado con la aparición de depresión y también con presión arterial alta, diabetes, ciertos cánceres, enfermedades coronarias, fibromialgia, pérdida de masa ósea y enfermedades autoinmunes. La mejor fuente de vitamina D es la exposición de nuestra piel al sol un mínimo de 30 minutos diarios, algo que no solemos hacer a menudo en otoño y en invierno, así que si tus niveles son bajos no dudes en informarte sobre qué suplementos son los más adecuados para ti. Es importante seguir una alimentación equilibrada, saludable, rica en verduras, frutas y omega3 y baja engrasas saturadas y azúcar para conseguir todos los nutrientes que se comportarán como el mejor batallón anti tristeza. Pipas de calabaza Lentejas Nueces de Brasil Semillas de lino molidas Espinacas Cacao CURIOSIDADES CIENTÍFICAS El afrontamiento se revela como un proceso complejo y multidimensional que es sensible tanto al ambiente (demandas y recursos) como a las disposiciones de personalidad. Las formas de afrontamiento que resultan adaptativas serían aquellas que consiguen disminuir el distress fisiológico y mejorar la respuesta corporal (por ejemplo, mejorar la respuesta inmunitaria o disminuir el gasto cardiaco), minimizar las reacciones emocionales subjetivas negativas y amplificar las positivas, así como reforzar la auto-estima, aumentar recompensas y disminuir castigos o resolver los problemas y mejorar el rendimiento y ajuste social. diferentes formas de coping pueden desempeñar las mismas funciones psicológicas, o la misma forma cumplir diferentes objetivos, entre los que se plantean: a) Regulación emocional o función emocional: disminuir la afectividad negativa y aumentar la positiva; b) Resolver el problema o función instrumental; c) Proteger la auto-estima y mantener un auto-concepto como persona digna o función motivacional defensiva y d) Manejar las relaciones sociales o función de integración social (Laux y Weber, 1991). e) Conocer exactamente la realidad y aceptarla o evaluarla fiablemente o función de conocimiento/aprendizaje; f) darle un sentido, comprender y percibir el mundo como controlable, justo, y previsible o función de construcción de sentido g) construir un significado positivo, conocimiento y crecimiento personal o función de desarrollo personal o construcción del significado del mundo y de sí mismo benevolente. METODO Muestra Para realizar el análisis se incluyeron un total de 13 estudios (N = 1313) que mostraban medidas de afrontamiento presentes en los metaanálisis referenciados (Folkman y Lazarus, 1986; Carver, Scheier, y Weintraub, 1989) Procedimiento Incluimos entre 8 y 13 estudios para cada Estilo de Afrontamiento y sus efectos en Balanza de Afectos. Discusión Los resultados del meta-análisis confirman que el afrontamiento directo tiene efectos positivos pero ligeros, en particular en condiciones de control de la situación, mientras que en situaciones estables, negativas e incontrolables tiene efectos negativos. No se puede decir lo mismo de la planificación –que solo parece ser efectiva para la regulación emocional en el momento de inicio del afrontamiento de un hecho grave–, ni de la concentración de los esfuerzos, que parece solo aumentar el impacto del estrés, probablemente por una absorción exagerada en la situación estresante, que impide la gratificación y distracción. adolescentes y niños. En este sentido, el afrontamiento directo en situaciones poco controlables se parece al pensamiento mágico o desiderativo, así como a la rumiación, ambas formas de afrontamiento no adaptativas ya que implica generar planes o intentar soluciones sin posibilidad real de llevarse a cabo. afrontamiento por apoyo social, los resultados muestran que la búsqueda de apoyo instrumental, informativo y de recibir apoyo afectivo no tiene una relación positiva con la balanza de afectos. Recordemos que en nuestro caso comunicar sobre sus emociones tenía un ligero efecto positivo general. Podemos concluir, la dimensión de apoyo social, en particular si se asocia con la comunicación emocional y con la resolución de problemas, tendrá un efecto positivo moderado en la regulación emocional. afrontamiento de evitación, nuestros resultados confirman que el pensamiento desiderativo, la negación, el afrontamiento evitativo-paliativo mediante alcohol y medicamentos, son un factor de riesgo para la regulación emocional, La reevaluación o redefinición positiva se asoció en general a una balanza de afectos satisfactoria. Aunque enfatizar los aspectos positivos ante hechos que hay que aceptar y no se pueden modificar es positivo, lo es de forma más marcada en personas que están en una etapa media del ciclo vital –o que enfrentan perdidas relacionales– En relación con la rumiación y auto-responsabilización, los resultados confirman que la alta auto-observación y atribución interna de hechos estresantes es disfuncional para la regulación afectiva, al igual que el metaanálisis de Penley et al, (2002), con valores similares (aunque estos autores utilicen un indicador más fiable de tres ítem) encontraron que el auto-criticarse, se asociaba a un peor ajuste psicosocial en niños y adolescentes. Con respecto a la aceptación desesperanzada, nuestros resultados sugieren que no es tanto la aceptación de la realidad, sino que el componente de sentirse desbordado y desesperanzado, incapaz, lo que es negativo para la regulación emocional. Por otra parte, el aislamiento social se asoció negativamente a la regulación emocional, si bien destacaba como menos adaptativo su componente conductual evitativo, Con respecto a la regulación afectiva, encontramos que la inhibición emocional tenía efectos negativos. el auto-control se asociaba positivamente a la salud física, mientras que se asociaba negativamente al bienestar psicológico. El auto-control o supresión emocional puede ayudar a concentrarse en buscar soluciones y no quema la red social, facilitando en parte la búsqueda de apoyo instrumental e informativo. Sin embargo, al impedir la comunicación verbal sobre las emociones, limita la búsqueda de apoyo afectivo, la formación de lazos de intimidad, así como puede asociarse a sensaciones de aceptación desesperanzada, por lo que tiene efectos psicológicos o emocionales negativos Ante hechos negativos de pérdidas o enfermedades graves, la descarga afectiva redunda en un empeoramiento de la afectividad, probablemente porque quema las redes de apoyo y produce un contagio emocional . La búsqueda de información se asocia positiva y ligeramente a la balanza de afectos, en particular a menor edad . La búsqueda de información se asocia positiva y ligeramente a la balanza de afectos, en particular a menor edad CONCLUSIONES Podemos concluir con bastante seguridad, sobre la base de los tres meta-análisis, que la evitación cognitiva y conductual, el aislamiento social, la aceptación resignada, la confrontación y descarga emocional y el autocriticismo, se asocian de forma moderada a una peor regulación afectiva, es decir, a más afectividad negativa y menos positiva, a más depresión, ansiedad y en niños y adolescentes a más problemas de conducta y a peor rendimiento. El afrontamiento directo y la redefinición y reevaluación positiva, el crecimiento personal, tienen efectos positivos ligeros en la regulación afectiva en nuestro contexto y en niños y adolescentes norteamericanos, en particular en condiciones de control de la situación, mientras que en situaciones estables, negativas e incontrolables tiene efectos negativos la planificación para resolución de problemas no tiene efectos positivos en la regulación afectiva ni en el meta-análisis anglosajón ni en el nuestro. En cambio, en nuestro contexto, el refrenar el afrontamiento refuerza la regulación emocional, mientras que concentrarse en el problema y absorberse en él la debilita. Finalmente, la búsqueda de apoyo social no se asocia claramente a la regulación afectiva en general, aunque sí lo hace en nuestro contexto el expresar y verbalizar las emociones –diferente del descargar y confrontar la afectividad negativa. Lo mismo sucede en niños y adolescentes, con el apoyo social incorporado a la expresión emocional y a la solución del problema. Nuestro meta-análisis ha servido para ampliar la validez externa de los resultados de los meta-análisis anglosajones. CONCEPTO DE LA SEMANA Las emociones son reacciones psicofisiológicas que representan modos de adaptación a ciertos estímulos del individuo cuando percibe un objeto, persona, lugar, suceso, o recuerdo importante. Tres sistemas de respuestas Cognitivo Fisiológico Conductual Emociones básicas Alegría Tristeza Miedo/ansiedad Asco Ira. Las conductas impulsadas por la emoción pueden tener efectos a corto y a largo plazo. Cuando suponen una reducción de una emoción desagradable o un incremento de una emoción agradable, nuestro cerebro refuerza la aparición del impulso. El problema es cuando los efectos a largo plazo de estas conductas son negativos. LA PREGUNTA DE LA SEMANA ¿Cómo ser feliz? 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 1 septiembre, 2015 por Jesús Matos 1 comentario 0Share 19Share Tweet 0Pin 0Share 0Share Sonja Lyubomirsky es una de las referentes de la psicología positiva a nivel mundial. Ha dedicado su carrera a la investigación de las causas que determinan el bienestar de las personas. Según el modelo de bienestar que propone, un 50% de nuestro bienestar total viene impuesto por la genética, un 10% por nuestras circunstancias y un 40% por la actividad diaria que realizamos. Nuestra genética es inmodificable y nuestras circunstancias vitales son difíciles de cambiar a corto plazo pero tenemos gran influencia en nuestra actividad diaria. Lyubomirsky propone 12 actividades que nos pueden ayudar a mejorar nuestro bienestar: 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 1: Expresar gratitud: Aprender a dar las gracias por lo que tenemos a nuestros iguales. Hacer un esfuerzo por agradecer a los demás o a nosotros mismos las cosas positivas que disfrutamos 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 2: Cultivar el optimismo: Aprender a imaginar un futuro mejor. Aprender a ver la vida con las gafas de la positividad. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 3: Evitar pensar demasiado y evitar la comparación social: Dejar de perder tiempo con preocupaciones y comparaciones injustas. Dejar de gastar energía en estos menesteres. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 4: Practicar la amabilidad: Empezar a hacer cosas buenas por los demás sin esperar nada a cambio. Notarás como el medio social te devuelve aquello que das. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 5: Cuidar las relaciones: Las relaciones sociales son como un jardín. Para que florezcan debemos dedicarle tiempo y cariño. Pongámonos a ello. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 6: Desarrollar estrategias para afrontar: La mejor manera de solucionar los problemas es afrontándolos. Cuando damos la espalda a las dificultades estas rara vez nos dejan en paz, así que lo mejor es plantarles cara y superarlas. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 7: Aprender a perdonar: Para desprendernos de la ira o la culpabilidad escribiremos una carta de perdón dirigida a los demás o a nosotros mismos. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 8: Hacer más actividades que realmente te atraigan: Muchas veces por pereza o por falta de tiempo nos vemos apocados a una rutina ausente de actividad reforzante. Rompamos con eso. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 9: Saborear las alegrías de la vida: Aprender a apagar el piloto automático y disfrutar cada minuto de nuestro día a día. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 10: Comprometerte con tus objetivos: Dedicar tiempo al día o a la semana a tus objetivos a largo plazo. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 11: Practicar la religión o la espiritualidad: dedicar tiempo a leer o a meditar sobre esta temática ha demostrado ser muy eficaz para incrementar el bienestar. 12 actividades científicamente probadas para ser más feliz 12: Ocuparte de tu cuerpo: Hacer ejercicio físico frecuentemente. Puede que algunas de estas actividades te parezcan absurdas o cursis, pero otras a lo mejor te parecen atractivas. No es necesario hacer las 12, con elegir las que mejor se adapten a ti es suficiente. Dediquémonos un rato al día a mejorar nuestro bienestar. Recuerda que la felicidad no es una meta, es un camino, una actitud, que requiere trabajo diario.
Gone are the days when optimism was considered a soft skill. Happiness, hopefulness and optimism are powerful accelerants to resilience and better outcomes. In this show I quote Lopez and Lyubomirsky's evidence based research to support this claim. For more great resources on our work at pLink Coaching Center, visit our website at www.plinkcoachingcenter.com.
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Sonja Lyubomirsky is a professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of The How of Happiness, a book of strategies backed by scientific research that can be used to increase happiness.
Sonja Lyubomirsky is a professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside and author of The How of Happiness, a book of strategies backed by scientific research that can be used to increase happiness.
People often ask me what *one* book I would recommend they read. I never had an answer I felt good about until I read this book. It's amazing. The most comprehensive and readable look at what we *scientifically know* works to boost our happiness—from gratitude and exercise to optimism and kindness. (btw: The other #1 book I'd recommend? The PhilosophersNotes workbook. How can you beat 1,000 Big Ideas from 100 great books packed into 600 pages? ;)
People often ask me what *one* book I would recommend they read. I never had an answer I felt good about until I read this book. It's amazing. The most comprehensive and readable look at what we *scientifically know* works to boost our happiness—from gratitude and exercise to optimism and kindness. (btw: The other #1 book I'd recommend? The PhilosophersNotes workbook. How can you beat 1,000 Big Ideas from 100 great books packed into 600 pages? ;)
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Die vorliegende Studie befasst sich mit der Rolle irrationaler Kognitionen (Ellis, 1994) und emotionaler Intelligenz (Wong & Law, 2002) für die Vorhersage individueller Lebenszufriedenheit und Glücklichkeit. Erste empirische Untersuchungen hierzu (Spörrle & Welpe, 2006) bestätigen den prädiktiven Wert beider Konstrukte. Nicht in diese Untersuchungen miteinbezogen wurden allerdings globalere Persönlichkeitsfaktoren, die sich ebenfalls als relevante Determinanten der Lebenszufriedenheit erwiesen haben (Diener, Oishi & Lucas, 2003) und möglicherweise in hoher Weise Varianz der beiden Prädiktoren enthalten. Zur Prüfung dieser Überlegungen wurden an einer überwiegend studentischen Stichprobe (N =199) Irrationalität, emotionale Intelligenz sowie die Big Five erfasst. Die Messgenauigkeit der verwendeten Instrumente kann hierbei mit Ausnahme der Irrationalitätsskala als zufriedenstellend angesehen werden. In einer schrittweisen Regression zeigt sich, dass emotionale Intelligenz (Emotionsregulation) und Irrationalität individuelle Lebenszufriedenheit vorhersagen, dass allerdings emotionale Intelligenz ihren Vorhersagewert verliert, wenn die Persönlichkeitsfaktoren miteinbezogen werden. Dies spricht dafür, dass insbesondere emotionale Intelligenz in der hier gewählten Operationalisierung eine hohe Überlappung mit den Big Five aufweist, wohingegen Irrationalität noch Eigenvarianz aufweist. Auch bei Vorhersage individueller Glücklichkeit (Lyubomirsky & Lepper, 1999) zeigt sich, dass emotionale Intelligenz ihren Vorhersagewert bei Einschluss der Persönlichkeitsvariablen verliert.